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parenting,MasterWatercress9,2020/01/01,"Do my[41f] kids[17m,5f] have an eating disorder? My son [17m] hasn't been eating lately, i asked him if he was ok and he said everything was fine. We all eat dinner together around a table and i still serve him he just doesn't eat it, instead my daughter [5f] will eat his food and hers and still ask for something else to eat after. I expressed my concerns to my husband [45m] and he said ""It's just a phase and it's nothing to worry about"" but my friends find my kids behavior concerning. Should I be worried or is it really just a phase?",2.0536363636363646,3.9597834545454593,3.503636363636364,89.53545454545456,78.0909090909091,6.581818181818183,24.63636363636364,7.554174236665415,1.1722909090909093,420,15,88,6,10,138,73,110,0.044000000000000004,0.868,0.08800000000000001,0.5519,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,4,1,11,8,0,0,1,17,15,9,0,2,6,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,4,8,8,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,15,3,7,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,2,4,57,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380535265639773,0.23902764884985914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651655108415412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7848778877013494,0.10679452495102344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489500404568095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684411031483988,0.0,0.15458551700786144,0.0,0.09876943013566164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442099107102477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266662739988947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189804457363478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432116171037584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841803894990828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418754270402087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259656931758814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cryptix08,2020/01/01,"Toddler Simply Will Not Sleep - Thoughts? Hi there,

Is there anyone else out there that’s had problems with their infant/toddler sleeping?

And I don’t mean occasionally, I mean regularly ongoing for many months or years. Our daughter wakes up many, many times throughout the night. 

She’s just over two and is still breastfeeding pretty regularly, but eats a healthy diet as well. Organic, unprocessed, pasture raised, good fats - the whole nine yards. She is very well cared for and my partner is a stay at home mom so she gets all the love and attention in the world. 

Her clothes are all high quality, many organic cotton. She does not drink caffeine - nor does my partner - and had minimal sugar. 

We’ve even gone as far as trying valerian, melatonin, etc. with very disappointing results. We chose not to do the ‘cry it out method’ and opted for co-sleeping. 

It just seems that there are very few people who can relate to this - much less help. Any constructive input is greatly appreciated.",5.358983050847456,7.769104672316388,5.078666666666667,79.66816949152545,70.07344632768361,8.109830508474579,29.87909604519774,8.841846274778883,2.5701068926553674,785,32,136,15,15,241,124,177,0.034,0.797,0.16899999999999998,0.9808,0,0,2,0,0,0,31.0,2,0,1,0,11,8,0,0,7,0,13,9,4,1,2,27,21,13,0,1,7,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,2,6,11,5,0,5,2,0,1,5,2,2,2,4,1,12,6,16,16,7,16,0,1,0,1,16,9,0,2,5,86,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165969405610557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839639375299774,0.12303792280369362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243132658005425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190414160449287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21016866196532652,0.0,0.0,0.11763437963236628,0.0,0.1228735880433738,0.10031287671424076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392287092191218,0.07931285002885989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273774764073374,0.0,0.0,0.10071885773458898,0.0,0.13239053105315826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048825228464085,0.12687294050011394,0.12045176587603396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083784494670032,0.0,0.0,0.4869761058620297,0.0,0.2616084138804217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063827065351414,0.09584809109641973,0.0,0.08827388819919256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126885688773375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324955175789545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216628938887085,0.0,0.11490199804664053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931789687447498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605053542298505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799114660640354,0.09589742455077016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533148021831836,0.07002062233018867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152761217654733,0.0,0.11730240147712595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972400092347451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21593579268976906,0.0,0.0,0.1340669629791048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773286969704217
parenting,Exelmans48,2020/01/01,"Daughters have dumped me and time is slipping away. Almost three years have passed without any meaningful contact with daughters (28, 25, and 22). We got along great for all of the 13 years after their mom and I divorced, but they have cut me off inexplicably the last three. My calls, emails and texts go unanswered. I can't find anyone who can relate so I am asking here, trying to find someone who has been successful in restoring their father/daughter relationship. Sadly my love for them is fading fast, a consequence I never imagined possible. If I've done something to cause this I would like to know, but with no contact I'm in the dark.",6.20525,7.363073691666667,5.796666666666668,80.22000000000001,66.25,8.0,30.833333333333336,8.07648339933343,2.1743333333333346,513,19,91,6,8,158,91,120,0.094,0.757,0.14800000000000002,0.8784,0,0,1,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,4,1,2,7,2,0,4,0,12,1,0,1,2,22,18,8,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,5,0,0,2,4,3,0,2,3,0,14,4,15,14,1,14,0,1,0,1,18,4,0,2,9,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044450778333818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388414570684639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275923468263246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086981608105227,0.0,0.19182285501635896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084786794615784,0.0,0.0,0.209737102731078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089350744357815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37321228658290106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603355984460467,0.0,0.1632920545632146,0.22509629072157744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220556778554318,0.16642442867116078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974632694627726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426987772549133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391194657636968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746719296381445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23016910102594304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920036503812915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299115278993346,0.1571787455034234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905218775966175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861688556079196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681097221947072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503531481258958,0.0,0.0,0.26295540498112635
parenting,pregnantthrowaway756,2020/01/01,"Unplanned parenthood My contraception failed, I am 20 and haven’t graduated. My boyfriend and I are planning to raise it together and talking about getting engaged. 
I am scared of a lot of things. 

I’m scared of future resentment and depression that I will experience for having my life progress this much before I was ready. I’m scared of our relationship stability changing because of the child, we weren’t even thinking about getting engaged before this happened. I’m scared of going back to work a month after having the baby, I always wanted to be able to stay home with my kids when I eventually had them, but I work at a grocery store so that’s not gonna happen. 

I’m scared of being a bad parent. I have depression, have self harmed in the past, and have been suicidal so that driving was actually frightening because of how easily I could jerk the wheel or drive into the median. I’m scared of my mental instability being dangerous to the child, or becoming manipulative or narcissistic (my depression does make me hostile and makes me start fights). I’ve been talking to a therapist for months but it isn’t helping, all she does is tell me to do breathing exercises and meditate. I’m planning on talking with my OB about antidepressants, which ones are safe, because I know this can’t go on with a baby. For a while I kept thinking “just gotta wait til this baby is out and then I can end things.”

Every time I think about raising this baby I feel completely overwhelmed. I’ve tried cracking a parenting book to feel a little more ready but the first couple paragraphs made me feel so unprepared and anxious that I had to put it down. 

I feel like I ruined my life, even though it’s selfish to think about me when there’s another person involved.",6.809954954954957,7.283534162162166,7.203800300300301,73.07038513513513,64.73573573573574,10.263603603603604,34.36771771771772,10.125756701596842,3.495156276276276,1408,59,250,30,20,460,179,333,0.20600000000000002,0.723,0.071,-0.9946,4,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,2,0,1,7,17,24,5,7,16,0,28,4,1,5,1,44,58,25,1,2,8,2,4,1,0,3,3,0,1,5,16,15,0,3,9,2,1,5,5,20,0,2,9,4,35,4,39,42,4,29,0,6,0,0,19,8,0,4,16,170,51,5,0.08949561089563726,0.0,0.08733480633706517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744675176090806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384395129013902,0.0,0.10110456639921436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881660054436718,0.07472509686369265,0.1636670812012568,0.09884087092118396,0.15230834641796004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946744896330623,0.0,0.09383444529882402,0.0,0.0,0.07145496297602917,0.09902519122229818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312473155756273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663642439010256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926654754888537,0.0,0.0,0.11822201388671963,0.0,0.07540391209362167,0.0,0.0,0.08754388031726207,0.0,0.0,0.1810066796442596,0.06393568230591186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612492090897505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351552579570002,0.0,0.10172483619830618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828134630243634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059987021496832875,0.0,0.08977139475441116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049184447235818614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264267933504801,0.04372303488568936,0.08969811345801364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608596799013909,0.0,0.08468291094279551,0.11947803043529125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019052619047334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286908555793054,0.0,0.0657895715052625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06064454210749859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198748569616228,0.0,0.08543368723933849,0.0,0.07814411542743603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996780780370958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608479330451836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5376043148525133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336344043163416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334545402331339,0.09539041344481693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789367259439567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579954601327347,0.07822310860151355,0.0,0.0,0.10391130212344203,0.11891381436849005,0.2293806951501621,0.08792898331092808,0.0,0.052185610417884186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060761645151950275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052786830057570185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030774123921066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,htorres888,2020/01/01,I'm a terrible mom really I'm a terrible person & mom I'm not maternal I'm not patient I always loose my temper I scream and I'm ruining them I'm sure of it. I feel like running away and wish I wasnt a parent honestly. And knowing that I feel think that makes me cry. I'm no good,-2.388993006993008,-0.7259295076923049,1.9637762237762253,91.50804195804196,105.6153846153846,6.055944055944058,18.216783216783217,7.348242739294969,0.8794615384615381,222,8,52,6,11,84,39,65,0.308,0.515,0.177,-0.8449,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,0,9,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,12,14,3,0,1,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,3,8,4,2,13,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,23,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782196482097986,0.2575954094908384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22336821417743266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26115050363141473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042091211445696,0.16984428515961636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940829834923698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306578264351462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161496575517458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869589515340604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568855498281855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639864588560369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20758879776553488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230482608172702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407080622469666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233668740246162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27339374473101663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,numbers_game,2020/01/01,"4yo & napping My 4.5yo still usually naps for 60-90 minutes a day but recently I find that I am having to get him down later and later in the afternoon and I am wondering if I should just stop. Our schedule is 7:30 wake up, 2pm nap, 8pm bed. I find on days he doesn't nap, that he gets extremely hyperactive in the evening so I'm hesitant to drop it all together but I feel that going down at 3 or 3:30 is really late for a nap. Opinions and advice welcome.",1.948979591836736,3.3233620102040824,4.479336734693877,84.76655612244899,76.85714285714286,8.573469387755104,26.535714285714285,9.188382445141503,2.1670775510204088,359,14,79,9,8,127,73,98,0.091,0.866,0.043,-0.5216,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,0,1,16,13,8,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,1,4,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,1,11,12,1,20,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,4,11,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24721665856679464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741120740125036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263122827464495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709599398679026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791818570434482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624523604869026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26435126965444394,0.0,0.14377874355944148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28538115200612496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620704027369737,0.0,0.24979483924644236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203630899978264,0.21150905045517526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786302165880269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27435437568286164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ireallyliketollers,2020/01/01,"Teenager here, I’m finding myself annoyed with practically every little thing my family is saying and doing. What is the best way I can tell them this without them getting mad? I’m a teenager, I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, but I need help with my parents. Recently something has changed and my whole family is just annoying me with practically everything they do. I don’t know what the difference is, but I’ve talked to individual family members and they see what’s happening with other people. Nobody will acknowledge that they are part of the problem too. I’m sure I’m doing things to contribute, but I try my best to stay out of it.

My parents are always on edge and snappy, and my brother (adult child living at home) is causing serious problems. Everybody is mad and it seems like it’s all of the time. It’s just disheartening to feel like my family is falling apart and I don’t know what to do. 

Every time I’ve tried to start talking about the fact that there’s a problem people yell at me. Whenever I talk to an individual person about something they tell me I’m being unfair in attacking them. What can I do?",4.292610294117652,5.840627473214287,5.6684663865546225,77.89123949579833,71.14285714285714,8.842016806722688,28.801470588235286,9.325443323948027,2.6152487394957986,910,35,169,20,17,306,115,224,0.131,0.758,0.111,-0.5999,2,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,7,2,7,15,5,0,9,0,23,0,0,1,3,34,38,11,0,5,7,3,1,2,0,1,0,2,1,3,17,12,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,0,4,26,5,23,36,5,17,0,1,1,0,20,9,0,2,6,119,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187480596334682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561393333959658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23174917815782414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342746072113945,0.11680529503317065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536102920273775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18606017804557468,0.0,0.0992346177388064,0.0,0.4163608265447485,0.0,0.05582955530250604,0.07888108257919896,0.0,0.0,0.10091805747719046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05768770776100516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976403433742256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400939546920772,0.0,0.11075606840310204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204493816728004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788718290138123,0.11066565710562053,0.09749919037597927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187193011635324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452073985444232,0.11956957116007898,0.0,0.15309685137392606,0.0964108335094763,0.11536102920273775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574783207765226,0.0,0.0,0.31695907808618273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090222998020224,0.0,0.0,0.09429450543503648,0.0,0.08780709039350379,0.0,0.0,0.08798711151564377,0.1005184139547898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17000698254754518,0.0,0.0,0.07815288442409889,0.11768857090164775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040656019293638,0.0,0.0,0.26624415656001643,0.1930165837497317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467107266663371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287687030576476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993018533676586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876429370483064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327531783628505,0.0,0.10643690854038597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,incenseandakitten,2020/01/01,"Best apps for 4 year olds? Looking for an educational iPad app for my four year old, but don’t want any subscription service that’s going to cost me $10/mo (looking at YOU, ABC mouse!) because we don’t do tablet time very often. Something to help with tracing letters, reading, maybe some simple math as well. I don’t mind a one time purchase, but free is always preferred! Thanks in advance!",3.148439849624061,5.380288092105262,3.704812030075189,87.83868421052631,75.97368421052632,5.395488721804512,27.962406015037594,6.1826913282559595,1.129524812030076,309,13,59,2,7,97,64,76,0.0,0.758,0.242,0.9608,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,10,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,2,3,0,1,2,0,2,5,5,9,10,2,10,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,2,6,30,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184181142920393,0.0,0.0,0.15052576281121413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493306004163275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232293434834564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579845008898985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483664090654421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717569289269797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22237608114817825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235006561820095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645397118790232,0.0,0.14999266036875342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221410154033366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704062393478471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037895740886269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25814222574789397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263714082058424,0.1305581145082012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990204610033156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850846120161197
parenting,somethingrealpunny,2020/01/01,Toddler won't stop scratching people's faces 14mo won't stop scratching people in the face. I think it's more of a pinch with nails? Blood has been drawn. Daycare starts in a couple months and I need to get this behavior under control asap. What is the best way to discipline this?,3.4238181818181843,5.670285563636366,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727274,75.18181818181819,5.854545454545455,23.72727272727273,6.742157984588678,0.8214727272727278,226,7,42,2,5,70,43,55,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.8093,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,0,5,3,3,1,0,8,9,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,7,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121413745124357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33360045254678145,0.0,0.3291079544749129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539835382483255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374110664432839,0.0,0.0,0.22054547941568864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124101927890265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052716527552576,0.0,0.0,0.4973406528783077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058537137140266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360913385240553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oohlaa,2020/01/01,"How to help my BF feel better about being apart from his kids.. Hi, my bf (32) has two kids that live in another country. He goes to see them as regularly as he can and they come to see him too. Naturally it hits him hard and he struggles with guilt that he’s not always near them and feels incredibly low after he or they have left after a visit. He has just dropped them off after spending Christmas and NY with them and I know that he is suffering now and will be for a few days. Is there anything I can do to make him feel better? I’ve told him I think he’s an incredible dad and that his love for his kids is something I really admire and respect about him. But I don’t want to overstep any boundaries or make him feel worse. He isn’t the most open of people so when he does open up I’m not sure how to go about it. I don’t really know what to say. I know sometimes it’s best to just listen but when he tells me how hard it is and he worries they will think he doesn’t love them when he leaves, I feel like giving advice to him can seem like I am trivialising how he feels wirh a solution that is probably not helpful but what else can I do? We have been together 4 months. Thanks x",2.4854836696484317,3.52118634387352,3.968375286041191,90.32816933638443,74.88932806324111,7.223548991054712,22.406698564593306,7.669130373188453,0.6564988142292489,927,23,216,12,19,308,131,253,0.087,0.7659999999999999,0.147,0.9575,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,8,3,16,15,0,2,5,0,25,2,0,6,1,46,52,24,0,1,10,1,8,2,2,2,0,2,0,3,11,15,0,0,12,0,1,3,7,4,0,1,2,12,32,11,27,45,3,22,0,2,2,2,51,9,0,4,11,134,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885501331322954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097205928110175,0.0,0.0,0.08967137279691816,0.13826986984224016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085120268820286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838210020866254,0.23324424420319856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135883125137682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504073669898654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539421409277968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015462974908627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000434182104455,0.09420296512645014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649502063491316,0.07494079089539027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23624672397278654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767700004222288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21740539557631924,0.0,0.0,0.1396238946477509,0.14326955293593752,0.0,0.0,0.1288432181219815,0.0,0.11643745915408517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380230408071426,0.0,0.1760391745038431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525180149064496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141721233647483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421706340412009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894964945665875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486276308250804,0.0,0.0,0.21015550311098288,0.12004313752719928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151459212099248,0.13041589475827606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785185507088002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427933224131535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152540882634725,0.12140174896934668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898499278167228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600076285213058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288110063895428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777622341240477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391329374232033,0.13437967888855976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Flip_Ant4,2020/01/01,"parenting is annoying!! [https://youtu.be/hqxzLK2O4og](https://youtu.be/hqxzLK2O4og)

I swear, this video is the gods honest truth on parenting. I enjoy having an offspring, but its definitely taken its toll.",13.340769230769231,18.99707884615385,7.821923076923079,50.56057692307695,68.23076923076923,10.292307692307693,29.57692307692308,9.516144504307137,4.913723076923077,174,6,16,5,4,46,22,26,0.095,0.581,0.324,0.7955,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mabeaw,2020/01/01,"My son says he feels like there is too much pressure on him sometimes but thanked us for pushing his so hard. How do you know when to back off vs when to add pressure? My son is 12 and in the 7th grade. My husband and I strongly believe in being involved parents. He is a middle school teacher and a high school coach. He sees what happens when parents aren't involved and don't push their kids to reach their highest potential. 

We do push our kids to achieve a lot. Some would probably call it ""tiger parenting"" and I am okay with that even though I don't agree with that label. I wouldn't say that anything lower than an A on a report card is an F, but anything lower than an A on a report card is addressed. If it is an issue of understanding then we have no problem with hiring a tutor. We also expect involvement in other activities so the 12 year old plays football in the fall, soccer in the winter, and baseball in the spring and summer. We believe that kids who are involved in other things and have little down time are less at risk to run around and get in trouble. He does still have down time. I want to make that clear. He also plays the violin in his school orchestra. Music education is important to us. My husband says his best students are musicians and almost every single valedictorian at the high school for the last 10 years has been involved in either band or orchestra. We want the best for our kids and push them to be their best. We were discussing New Years resolutions last night and decided to make some up for each other. My son said that he wanted us to stop pushing him so hard and to trust him more. He thanked us for pushing him hard up until this point but says we instilled strong values in him and he wants more say in making decisions. The decisions are things like not making him study or practice his instrument. The instrument is important because he will be trying out for the audition orchestra in 8th grade. He also doesn't want my husband coaching his summer baseball team this year and says he wants to work with a new coach. My husband will coach him at the high school level for football and baseball so son said he wants a little break. The problem with that is that this was my husband's first year of not coaching our son in football because he moved up from youth league to the middle school team. We could see that he was putting less effort into football this year than previous years and his performance suffered. This will be his first spring of middle school baseball so my husband won't be coaching that either. He previously coached spring and summer baseball. He was hoping to have summer to correct anything that went wrong during spring ball but our son said he would really prefer if my husband didn't coach summer ball this year. 

This is one of the few times I have felt stuck as a parent. I value our relationship with him over anything and am glad he felt comfortable coming to us but I am trying to balance wanting him to succeed with wanting him to make his own decisions. If he wants to screw off in baseball or football for the next couple years, maybe the only way for him to learn is to spend an extra year or two on JV because he isn't good enough for varsity. Maybe the only way for him to regret not putting his all into grades or music is to be rejected from his top choice school as a senior. Maybe we need to let him make more decisions and deal with the consequences with a small ""I tried to tell you."" 

Thoughts?",6.6131607495069025,6.681387880177512,6.321479289940831,80.61326429980278,65.16863905325444,8.885996055226824,31.830374753451675,8.384062270229773,2.3084291913215,2781,98,525,33,39,868,264,676,0.083,0.8,0.11800000000000001,0.9819,6,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,19,2,4,15,25,29,1,3,38,1,53,1,0,7,3,112,89,50,0,24,19,17,6,2,0,7,0,9,1,4,27,45,0,1,13,19,2,13,12,11,0,4,14,17,67,18,92,60,21,104,0,3,2,1,112,46,1,13,44,358,94,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078392637453304,0.0,0.0,0.12167073192488626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693708572462093,0.0451472619065744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038996842495801834,0.0,0.09274650791909024,0.0,0.0,0.11427728044687675,0.15966735570059087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05178586846226319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043686636422433284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040491944017534656,0.05611538138567217,0.0,0.0,0.05228512306320333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04438119525468469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052402337340047414,0.0,0.03349689768607921,0.0,0.04272972597050116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025643118524230204,0.03623093429524761,0.09738905084835456,0.0,0.0,0.08627661137602244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026496588043577136,0.0,0.0,0.042537486313588134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484726565213056,0.0,0.13629251779234428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075011447140994,0.0,0.050371616332185294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052933471074165565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02787173628057526,0.08267928014826445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051859706992905534,0.0,0.04955374986232853,0.1016598662247938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043116231932135735,0.0,0.0,0.2031166563476104,0.0,0.15285064286589342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053902209647861916,0.037281492220804166,0.03760466291385452,0.0,0.09796207257759802,0.053936168640856284,0.04759276032447885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053217049566684264,0.0,0.03436591807919116,0.07714235849125685,0.0,0.0,0.22525281993820756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047942237125687036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467954107119885,0.09705515489845316,0.0,0.1019655258429068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032489442558696166,0.0,0.0,0.05444912304731215,0.0,0.0,0.14472524779994514,0.24198447729287315,0.0,0.4106117528392325,0.08082686372746503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050158609208324434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040501207778648574,0.042400160852072065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04432730215580102,0.09338344678073283,0.0,0.0,0.06738582337430782,0.0,0.04982740626342837,0.04026218750143932,0.08871728684279281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329683333814532,0.0,0.049541361067984784,0.05279629032010092,0.30502058210180266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29913126793884004,0.08051069761755691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701347939551409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0369212546165588,0.0,0.0,0.07205321670940358,0.05544908726938802,0.0,0.3265891276979085
parenting,i_am_a_goat_baa,2020/01/01,"4 year old says I love you to everyone (Advice needed) My parents took my son for the night and then took him to the park. When they brought him home, I hugged him, and said, ""I love you, DS."" I tell him I love him all the time.

My dad looked at me and said, ""You need to stop that. He was telling everyone at the park, I love you, and parents were giving us weird looks.""

Now, I understand my dad's perspective and that he was a little frustrated/means well. It's also not the first time DS has randomly told a playmate, I love you. 

Should I talk to DS about this if it's making other people uncomfortable? If I do need to talk to him, I'm worried he might get confused and stop telling us (his friends and family) that he loves us.",2.3292163355408384,3.6539589139072888,3.4618708609271533,92.65496964679913,75.75496688741723,7.1525386313465775,23.179359823399558,7.793537801064563,0.8131717439293604,560,16,130,8,12,181,83,151,0.08,0.711,0.209,0.9764,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,5,1,1,5,11,0,1,7,0,7,7,0,1,1,22,29,12,0,6,3,5,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,7,7,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,2,1,1,9,5,31,9,10,18,1,17,0,0,2,7,42,3,0,5,11,79,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871920526298966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078862852537415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930649782489399,0.0,0.0,0.09523616778515796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859307205185788,0.0,0.0,0.07805067174287501,0.0,0.05278072157806883,0.09691115297507803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133502328926336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125230248607847,0.0,0.0,0.16966895454580827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5470670830394954,0.0,0.06743411434030677,0.0,0.0,0.11004444194086503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717019715374032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472341420287986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480391315616923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600739505652394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22434976069900706,0.0,0.0,0.07003712402929231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219337465596376,0.08033811310097881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16892069885511365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239807109226165,0.2648975395863541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781548145771385,0.0,0.0,0.09653248912446996,0.22448212940457796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516925028826966,0.3645572718951994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083245240141838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259448656650656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505596037911808
parenting,Onetireddad33,2020/01/01,"How to get my 8month old to sleep through the night?!? Please help I am dying. My wife and I have a beautiful 8 month old baby boy. He is a super happy baby and rarely cries. The problem is he won’t sleep for anything. 

Some days he will sleep for an hour then wake up the. We have to rub his back on my shoulder until he passes out. Other times it’s three hours at a time. Sometimes he just wakes up and it takes over an hour to put him back down. 

We’ve been trying sleep training for over a month and he’s just not getting better. At this point I’m ready to lock him in a room and let him cry until he passes out. My wife can’t handle listening to him cry though. She’s still got some compassion left and I am just bitter and done with all of it. 

Please someone anyone what’s the secret?!",0.6970693277310929,2.659701375000001,2.101022408963587,97.6008403361345,82.86904761904762,4.667226890756303,16.42997198879552,5.5289334501034215,-0.7918372549019606,613,11,142,3,17,197,102,168,0.064,0.768,0.168,0.9554,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,8,5,1,0,11,0,12,7,7,1,1,21,18,12,1,1,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,6,11,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,3,3,14,3,25,12,3,34,0,0,0,0,20,14,0,2,17,89,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840771793014905,0.0,0.09895030608690247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849199408092077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063457665481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962461203179281,0.07754722833966372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479395943385516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230510359260462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125644723497594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616985815692664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800163699790065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805968064156504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35524742097795736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064511394075315,0.1229573131278941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195472194100294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284055142537355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25235103731722225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639829119443256,0.11366914709181206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505696583628895,0.0,0.12087811343623482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813220881628917,0.0,0.10188208281604227,0.0,0.11892407759518045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602676096065203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040828547384544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813880851893913,0.0,0.14023011763485618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816375680874026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gorl08,2020/01/01,"Lack of privacy is driving me insane My kids suffocate me sometimes. My eldest reads my texts, reads my diary. I rarely get through a shower or trip to the bathroom without someone barging in. 

I always encourage her to invite friends over, she always declines, and wants to spend all her time with me. 

She’s eleven, I know this is a good thing going into the teen years. But it’s so draining. I need some independence, not all my thoughts need to be shared with my children. It’s so draining.",2.334110251450678,5.069429606382983,3.0576208897485517,88.36136363636366,82.72340425531914,5.120309477756287,26.63056092843327,6.574015621080383,1.2529489361702124,389,17,71,4,11,122,66,94,0.052000000000000005,0.81,0.138,0.8074,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,2,18,10,5,0,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,4,0,0,2,2,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,17,4,12,8,4,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,2,51,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164469714004943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933382938984586,0.0,0.13074243222723994,0.0,0.14221972650337888,0.2098932289819692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375278426688578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711062786164734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5006244755705821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203136808210693,0.0,0.2474982271017954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625133830632624,0.0,0.0,0.19866619475949326,0.14591959089666148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760070036648487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24122678541796644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114926504489174
parenting,doXXymoXXy,2020/01/01,"Looking for autism sibling resources I believe my 9YO son, Lefty, has high-functioning autism (is autistic - which is preferred?).  We do not yet have a definitive diagnosis but we are working on it.  His 11YO brother, Pancho, is NT and struggles to get along with Lefty. Lefty is very smart but has poor impulse control (physically and verbally) and so tends to sound or act rude often. 

Pancho doesn't understand why Lefty continues to act this way, and why Lefty ""gets away with"" his rude behavior. We are constantly trying to help teach Lefty about how to improve his behavior but we've got our work cut out for us.
 
Since we do not yet have a formal diagnosis, I won't share my suspicions with either Pancho or Lefty. I will be happy to talk to Pancho about autism and what we know about people with autism in general. He's a smart kid and if he puts the pieces together on his own that's fine. Once we have something official we will talk about it as a family.
 
So my question is, are there resources you might suggest that I could provide to Pancho that are specific to being a sibling of an autist that might help him deal with his situation better? Because we haven't been able to enact any change in behavior between them and it's frustrating as heck.",4.931447245564893,6.617348344537818,5.283473389355746,80.73293183940245,69.75630252100841,8.650233426704013,29.60877684407096,9.150863307647796,2.559074883286648,998,39,184,20,18,317,137,238,0.092,0.782,0.126,0.8696,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,10,1,1,4,11,11,4,1,7,0,27,0,0,2,0,42,34,18,0,3,9,2,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,10,22,0,1,4,0,1,3,5,5,0,0,2,2,25,6,32,24,3,14,0,0,1,0,31,6,1,7,4,126,35,3,0.15436554116767473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049738614139781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503150732991416,0.0,0.0,0.09409980112666197,0.0,0.0,0.17391710380181552,0.0,0.1365237767801639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329827441508082,0.0,0.0,0.1668143106390783,0.1731340803879349,0.12324832378398352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914409477570582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552209403153765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16129924811470936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346022483234292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643249889885642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206935936717472,0.16309566949996498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483526441809222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962817662585374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275148899894211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439426339731264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701762981140768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518000492207365,0.17292473432151545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769277082338815,0.17351333593510504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188381352088748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613763799807433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248146349455605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480406963260648,0.0,0.0,0.16069997234875102,0.18568273949693645,0.0,0.0,0.12736773793061884,0.0,0.12252818145439087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27858178175964315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22475990490957864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,best_damn_milkshake,2020/01/01,"I need a book that teaches parents how to respond to a 15-month old that won’t stop fussing I’m at my wits end here. My 15 month old will not stop crying and throwing temper tantrums. I am currently trying not reacting and it seems to be helping a little bit, but I need some real guidance. I don’t suspect any real problems with him, I just think he is trying to test boundaries through tantrums. A good book specifically on how to get a child under 2 to stop screaming would be immensely helpful",5.8169727891156455,6.2071262755102055,6.192244897959185,79.75870748299323,66.85714285714286,8.165986394557821,36.74149659863946,7.793537801064563,2.8568517006802714,397,20,73,4,6,128,69,98,0.217,0.679,0.10400000000000001,-0.8665,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,0,23,14,5,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,3,3,2,0,1,4,5,0,0,0,1,8,1,11,9,2,13,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,8,45,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169958393474942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878275206332489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18898228726922994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237994430299748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988590428658498,0.0,0.0,0.1443023689347027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23063497218553056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243331462602934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274647805072012,0.0,0.0,0.2551369350532944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610625349874024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103453414407667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164622900680164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39164754042101657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662242246149755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43150953554667176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023886693692657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336132048214297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221514200300887,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PiousDevil,2020/01/01,"3 year old toddler. Hi everyone, 

A little background first. My wife and I are expecting a second child in February. Over the past few months, my three year old son has become very aggressive with us at home, and has become a choosy eater which was never the case before. He also had a period of 6 weeks where he stopped eating. There is no change of routine, he is regular in attending nursery and sleeping on time, our work timings and routines are the same. But off late when we go to collect him from nursery, he becomes emotional and shows displeasure to demonstrate that he was not happy that we left him in the first place. Once he even refused to leave with his uncle to the point that his grandfather had to come to collect him. Even his grandfather had a problem! His teacher had also pointed this out as unusual and also stated that he is playing alone and does not interact much.

Aside from this, he is really testing our patience to the point where unfortunately I'm losing my cool and end up shouting at him :( this really makes me sad and worries me that I'll be spoiling my relationship with him long term. 

I'm really getting frustrated especially as the pregnancy has been quite difficult on my wife physically and mentally (the first one wasn't so bad). 

We spoke to a child psychologist who said that this is normal behaviour as he is realising that his mommy and daddy aren't giving him the same attention that they were before and he's acting out because of it. I show him all the love and care I can and before this year never even shouted at him. It breaks my heart to have to shout  because it makes him angrier and scream/meltdown even harder but I'm only human... 

Has anyone experienced this behaviour before? 
How do you go about your normal routine without blowing up if he throws a tantrum? 
Any tips on how to manage him? (distracting him from the current issue helps but it's not easy especially with a kid screaming and hitting your at the top of his little lungs)",5.961962864721485,7.019888941644568,6.4418631299734725,75.73675755968172,66.74535809018568,9.53332625994695,32.05612732095491,9.692545771848811,3.1132990769230764,1589,64,280,33,25,516,202,377,0.10800000000000001,0.8540000000000001,0.038,-0.9626,1,1,0,0,0,0,34.0,6,3,1,7,15,15,3,1,20,1,26,5,3,4,3,50,41,30,0,5,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,4,20,26,1,2,1,3,0,6,9,10,0,6,11,8,38,5,43,28,6,57,0,2,0,1,55,26,0,1,23,198,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519381009212637,0.0,0.2205075948121528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250376964105568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426747822400525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767432429825639,0.11205822504128347,0.3045309792324227,0.3128436610459661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937110960537135,0.0,0.09723142113035577,0.07917462951476988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043339976405094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404961077562084,0.0,0.10338938631715458,0.08140734738731065,0.0,0.0,0.2428298153737107,0.0,0.0,0.08782649813717942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23454261878051055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048020578226032576,0.0881710113707206,0.10447218069142752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784274980135743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891696036301833,0.061607127454504786,0.0,0.09219590538756232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593295122798136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368149887881607,0.0973222498468316,0.0998633884368572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424128987728566,0.0,0.08133982351766092,0.0,0.1028267710338632,0.0,0.0,0.08295477613332881,0.0,0.12270484623792853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262635656112217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336381890323294,0.0,0.06756639045857535,0.0,0.14177743971932824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801098097855978,0.0,0.0,0.19289377843462224,0.09788399732362736,0.062282406124031416,0.06990372976282153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774104676859333,0.0,0.0,0.09602918094815237,0.0,0.2606615551148053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794801523833623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776044177345758,0.0,0.0,0.1766448361589993,0.0,0.0,0.0986798137304374,0.0,0.0,0.08743000006679312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197905149986696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684311042782896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719003784761898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055962903057744,0.0,0.0,0.0758375813186737,0.0,0.0,0.07372680240736518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860053711746965,0.0,0.06691352081263552,0.09334178124941872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775662443247002
parenting,RebmaPordlaw1,2020/01/01,"18 month old, and the flu Long story short, I’m pretty sure my daughter has the flu. 

She’s been sleepy all day, even though she slept fine last night and had a nap after breakfast. She’s cranky today, and just doesn’t seem comfortable, but she is eating and drinking perfectly fine at the moment. No snotty nose, but a bit of a dry cough here and there. 

I took her temperature, and it was only 99.1°, so not really a fever just yet, though I suspect she’s gearing up for one. I went ahead and have her some Tylenol for comfort, and she’s currently napping again. 

I don’t want to rush to the ER, or pediatrician because other than being tired/cranky here and there she is fine. (Obviously, I will take her in if she seems to get worse, or stops taking fluids)

I guess I’m just wondering what to expect. She’s never had the flu, and I haven’t had it since I was little. If she does have the flu, what should I look out for? Will it get worse before it gets better? 

What can I do to make sure she’s as comfortable as possible?


She’s had her flu shot (a couple of months ago, if I remember correctly), hopefully that’ll lessen how sick she’ll get. 

Thanks everyone!",2.531652542372882,4.239533097457631,3.712,89.46647457627121,76.07627118644069,7.092881355932204,21.122033898305087,7.908726449838941,0.7391464406779655,905,22,196,14,20,294,137,236,0.133,0.7040000000000001,0.163,0.7672,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,0,3,14,12,0,0,11,0,23,14,2,2,7,43,43,23,0,7,11,1,0,0,0,5,9,0,0,0,9,11,3,1,5,3,0,3,6,0,1,1,10,2,29,12,19,27,3,26,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,11,17,126,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080606703451635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307644639459713,0.0,0.11596622928481926,0.0,0.0,0.1205306503039106,0.14878501283544715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079381137452846,0.0,0.08789083161874586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192615896132856,0.0,0.0,0.13350480492132788,0.0,0.13945085146860178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001319685579473,0.0,0.0,0.13022361119552853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.284807580442244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013035643802647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353591087552524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110882922595844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659070216865218,0.0,0.12060557778282564,0.1144428376866764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096951675869408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175585189278866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510933817188982,0.0,0.0,0.12789173923346114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300538526352194,0.0,0.0923484371055028,0.10364885676680943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363785574062522,0.0,0.13864812892111486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730595341031598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438131872591454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481326384726571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273415568655296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139381342494004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568889755124098,0.0,0.20493471051516665,0.0,0.0,0.12547046381611676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26779340408396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917971835788386,0.0,0.15141468849017725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038285204510807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633508975557886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779237872418646,0.0,0.0,0.27776668426524337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,needcorrecting,2020/01/01,"Tigger warning! Instinctively want to hurt infant. I am a first time parent in my mid thirties. Have a overall heathy happy baby.

Until I had my son, I had only ever held a baby twice and it was alway awkward, baby always cried. As a small child, age 5-7 I noticed in myself a frankly disgust towards babies and younger children. I could tolerate my peers but not younger children.

Fast forward, as an adult I have always found babies not cute at all. I find their cry’s instinctively to put me in a fight or flight defense mode that makes me angry. People would tell me when it’s your own, it’s different. It’s not.

When my son screams I want to yell back louder. He gets everything; food, clothing, warmth, cuttles, hugs, a new diaper for ever toot. Yet he just randomly screams and cry’s. I hate it. Sometime I instinctively want hit him. I don’t have any anger issue with my wife, peers, co-workers. 

Lucky I was educated on PURPLE. I know yelling and hitting doesn’t raise discipline children.

Am I alone?",2.158987816307405,4.787660587628867,3.481049671977509,85.81134957825682,82.29896907216495,5.589128397375821,25.313027179006557,6.980632752743323,1.2921319587628872,790,32,145,10,22,257,127,194,0.193,0.7070000000000001,0.1,-0.9631,2,1,0,0,2,0,35.0,0,1,1,1,7,13,5,1,8,0,13,2,0,1,3,28,24,11,0,5,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,6,6,5,1,3,3,0,0,2,5,9,0,2,6,5,26,4,14,14,2,22,0,1,1,1,17,9,0,3,13,87,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205687049800953,0.0,0.0,0.36648746975550384,0.0,0.0,0.09983976475728357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289227223013615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722045362126607,0.0,0.4838107203508194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533912416924141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656065562909204,0.0,0.0,0.13194855610274267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418696289895174,0.12488142725406726,0.17753022364204396,0.16097592455582604,0.0,0.0,0.07670518532128089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562881275716971,0.0,0.1449501871378885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716932873804446,0.0,0.0,0.15323753012142086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068611298599365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800067302601913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179559494911825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715073833326666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166001627192328,0.0,0.0,0.16302154893570894,0.0,0.0,0.1017835758476753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475904094387339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520456024204448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832346266852027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560946183317153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25978725228586985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688363622514932,0.0,0.0,0.10429371758355398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ser-Jorah-Mormont,2020/01/01,"My wife and I are getting a divorce. We have a 3.5 year old daughter. How do we explain this to her? My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5.5 years. We have a 3 year old daughter. Wife and I had been trying for almost a year to have another baby and it never happened. She told me 2 weeks ago she does not want another baby, and she’s not happy, she feels trapped in her own life and that we need to separate. 

My wife’s actions these last 2 weeks have really shown me that I don’t know the person she’s become, and she doesn’t want to be around me anymore. I’m filing for divorce this week. However, like I said, our 3 year old daughter will have no clue how to process this. My friends and family keep telling me “kids are resilient, it’s better thats it’s now while she’s young rather than when she’s older”. 

It takes at least 60 days for divorce to finalize, and we plan on all living together long enough for my wife to save money and be able to afford to make it on her own. I will be sleeping/living in the guest room. Wife and I have agreed to be civil, cordial and not have any friends or sexual encounters in the house. My daughter will obviously know something is up when she notices mommy and daddy don’t hug or kiss, or sleep in the same bed anymore. How should we approach this with our 3 year old?",3.2348913043478262,4.2324543007246405,4.285478260869564,88.91713043478262,73.02173913043478,7.259130434782609,26.118840579710145,7.554174236665415,1.1938092753623186,1041,34,226,12,20,339,137,276,0.040999999999999995,0.872,0.087,0.9204,2,1,1,0,3,0,29.0,8,0,0,2,8,8,0,0,8,0,26,4,1,4,3,47,41,22,0,5,7,10,1,1,3,4,1,1,2,2,13,21,0,1,4,0,1,2,8,0,0,0,5,2,37,8,27,28,6,38,0,0,0,2,42,10,0,4,27,146,50,0,0.10896435639770716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659032741351446,0.0,0.10911206306363283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409949889743604,0.2285172569205013,0.0,0.0,0.21612672390105955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700137897905477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034257074656925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637011833927342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027299548022835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953554425814734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125893081673244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272189763238193,0.0,0.0550956526072615,0.0,0.0,0.11936512629802533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683711829101914,0.0,0.056929378879843874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963568205021792,0.11599458356933336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257302374484197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685252657603467,0.0,0.0,0.11976792122415067,0.08882049374304753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696474738255875,0.05323448053368041,0.0,0.09621752301872774,0.0964300265036424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727345540175637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807956895865533,0.0840400290934055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405664196968108,0.4573590490468585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514347305532272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980535690017979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365005552075927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904304915274694,0.0,0.0,0.08388608507175298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192763522960342,0.0,0.0952396502900164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412011210291666,0.0,0.07397964538583733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285400011449874,0.0,0.262213902220751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4911863108835701
parenting,lotsofpornthrowaway,2020/01/01,"I found porn in my 13 year old son's browsing history And lots of it, much of which was pretty graphic. He spent almost every second of Christmas break so far watching porn. And he looked it up himself; he didn't get led to it by an ad or anything. I am so angry and disappointed right now. You see, I knew he was hiding something, because he'd act all weird whenever I came into his room to see what he was doing on his computer. I hate porn, especially for kids and teens, because it can promote unhealthy ideas about sex and relationships. I know he's a teenage boy going through puberty and all, but I talked to him about porn before, and that he shouldn't look at it and why it's bad. He KNEW better than to look at porn. The part that disappoints me most about all this is that he lied when I asked him what he was doing on his computer. He said that he was playing video games, when really he was watching porn. He also knew better than to lie to me, and that REALLY disappoints me. Of course I'm going to talk to him about this, but what should be included in our talk? Should I also add additional consequences, like loss of non-school computer privileges and parental controls?",5.7026443768996975,5.83085031914894,6.1708966565349535,80.71750000000002,67.08510638297872,9.60790273556231,30.40273556231003,9.424239791934726,2.481486322188449,935,32,188,17,14,303,132,235,0.122,0.7959999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.8447,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,0,5,11,12,1,0,3,0,17,7,0,2,3,34,36,19,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,2,17,14,0,1,6,3,1,5,2,7,0,1,14,8,23,5,30,17,7,22,0,4,7,7,35,11,0,4,6,117,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448938499177194,0.0,0.0,0.23142940466223635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907388208966098,0.0,0.13527282132764087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081653956477653,0.17641275574365306,0.0,0.12312708938081013,0.0,0.0,0.255946722500522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549562649779134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622907799415357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191405713954115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586535648089683,0.0,0.0,0.07559857863300169,0.0,0.1644700805097858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285902673090609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334609616753162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952207444143414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069198965101149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645288872047224,0.0,0.0,0.12301681426754195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636946223320637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183590051921986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606696774731699,0.1566935137188751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472095856477671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853941099115487,0.0,0.0,0.15535118345880805,0.0,0.12357104937023072,0.1376406528014205,0.0,0.0,0.14644180240112076,0.2306106734614405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139536252268656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489076024422175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056717238446658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318057785533873
parenting,InsertNameHere567,2020/01/01,"Mold exposure to baby Hello,

Just wondering, how harmful is mold for a baby?

There has been some mold building up for the past month or so up in the ceiling. It's very little, though. And it's in our room, where baby sleeps as well.

I honestly didn't know that it could be harmful until someone pointed it out and now I'm freaking tf out, tbh.

Had I known it was this bad, from what I've read, I would have gotten rid of it the first time I noticed it, but I let it go for long and it makes me feel like complete shit knowing my baby was sleeping in the room where mold has been building up...

Also, another question, what's the best way to get rid of it?",2.1933311214333098,3.5403969197080296,3.6512143331121454,91.06808891838092,76.15328467153284,6.149701393497015,24.863304578633052,6.574015621080383,0.7323635036496348,506,17,111,4,11,167,90,137,0.067,0.841,0.092,0.557,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,2,10,9,1,0,6,0,14,3,3,2,0,19,23,11,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,14,5,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,5,1,1,7,1,8,4,18,12,2,23,0,0,0,0,3,14,1,4,8,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859832696273415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948460331914076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514999638835686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500418508470124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482629612073,0.0,0.0,0.1483602927659458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939549992966298,0.1327481836115102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580564187910747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708206545335198,0.0,0.1056044664456088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424106843033915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190011161452062,0.0,0.09078112962472086,0.1862381256519328,0.0,0.16444279436903544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240347404589995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831789478141735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211554653723576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738399577863534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565776374533235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20815832153124494,0.0,0.18586795915047688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907391723447214,0.0,0.0,0.3719037391018549,0.0,0.15744271238991175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825649215016385,0.0,0.10835178016066108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331904165643914,0.0,0.14749342071794316,0.0,0.0,0.16707240495527953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015113412715878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319995444168613,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Local-Art,2020/01/01,"My philosophy of parenting is completely at odds with modern culture. I'll give an example. At the playground, a girl was telling he brother to kiss my daughter and my daughter did. They were kind of playing a game. And I choose to just ignore it. I know that culturally I should've stopped it. And here is where people are going to think I really went too far. My daughter chased this boy and kissed him. And I still didn't stop it. Alright. Let me explain. I don't know what is being learned or what is happening in this interaction on some deep psychological level. I didn't want to insert myself because I felt I was more likely to cause unnecessary anxiety over something that was going to resolve itself on it's own. Don't kids figure things out? Isn't that life? Other than real threats of violence I'd rather let children be and defend themselves. I don't even want you to try and  change my mind because I've put a lot of thought into being the kind of person who *appears* to not care. But my appearing to not care is based on research and philosophy. This example was extreme. There are a lot of little examples I could give. My daughter sometimes gets too close to other kids, but not so close that the kids care- but I get the sense that their parents expect me to say something and I don't. And explaining why isn't realistic in most situations. Does anyone else feel like they don't fit in?",2.6810323253388937,5.167187160583943,3.9454066736183537,84.2054197080292,78.85401459854015,6.6880083420229415,26.209071949947862,7.83500028581142,1.7149305526590195,1118,45,211,19,28,365,156,274,0.08800000000000001,0.868,0.044000000000000004,-0.8136,2,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,3,1,10,14,1,0,9,1,28,3,0,1,0,52,51,15,0,5,9,7,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,7,19,15,0,3,12,2,0,6,12,2,0,0,11,3,28,12,30,34,6,29,0,0,0,2,31,19,0,7,6,147,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363354018214523,0.0,0.0,0.08558298383598903,0.12541041866649832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922442154911902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743763770003712,0.12573566335477654,0.1294800320925192,0.0,0.12833115906687234,0.0,0.0,0.09772422259855566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711063421357644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224717371444522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084221109309814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061887713311513,0.08744060019665101,0.11752052802954205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278949939746762,0.23482913751934395,0.13912232436226665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823545961704124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549157444441192,0.13453262502347058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25031890530501305,0.08645277795433609,0.11959420076354688,0.12267417183019222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20811548317474554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358630317995616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271815261661201,0.0,0.0,0.08485482282087559,0.1068725335895816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304301493324166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931483534570815,0.07841079488142398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733518398179583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757960631139807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18845472330648488,0.1210539827227268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774657998037968,0.20465911715812612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698056732447984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131527595422615,0.07842719798268505,0.0,0.0971697227476064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309967970000358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443861060441287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134634514853198,0.11044445561911766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,doodleniki,2020/01/01,C-section to water birth? Has anyone ever? Hey! I was just curious on personal stories if youve ever done this or know someone who has? C-section first child then to switching water birth for any other children? *not seeking medical advice* just want to hear peoples personal stories to know if its even possible :),3.2993233082706794,6.354490561403513,4.768170426065165,75.38052631578952,81.98245614035088,6.76591478696742,32.70426065162907,7.957251820313856,3.3042050125313285,250,14,36,5,7,83,43,57,0.0,0.867,0.133,0.7815,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,11,8,4,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,4,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,6,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,3,6,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387906673925959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661765918578188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086570233912374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500702551124702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140078971237334,0.4420842978428303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20785675945722906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27541713516851785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26859324636558024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24617204710796603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941193503998678,0.426740216198596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754848412503222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20704968673737634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441328188820804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Happyhippo2736,2020/01/01,"5 year old won't leave dog/things alone My 5 year old son won't stop hugging and kissing our dog (dog is a little guy 17lbs). It isn't malicious and the dog isn't being hurt but the dog only tolerates it for so long before getting annoyed. The dog is an absolute saint and sweetheart. Doesn't matter what we say, what we do, my son just won't stop. I separate them right away. 

My son also won't leave the damn Roomba alone. Is this a phase? Any other ideas.",0.8853125000000013,2.9828835729166663,2.5352500000000013,93.98475000000002,83.0625,5.506666666666668,18.975,6.742157984588678,0.0613699999999997,357,9,79,4,10,117,59,96,0.063,0.708,0.22899999999999998,0.9253,0,2,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,1,0,3,6,2,0,7,0,12,2,0,0,0,11,13,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,6,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,1,8,3,2,8,0,10,1,1,0,2,10,3,1,0,7,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39325346123622573,0.0,0.1518225026130606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291041073357033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783697678371466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154786274059765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918847969041528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879807615385352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323771732241214,0.21431687255491624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020462209730257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027898157650844,0.0,0.16801075145383654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39843003419517,0.0,0.0,0.14438902937043524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621303567132393,0.0,0.1509758688671244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174452111818634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445135879872415
parenting,0023AAA,2020/01/01,"Diaper Attachment? 3.25 year old loves them! I’m in uncharted territory and could use some help. My 3 year old goes on the potty and wakes up dry from nap, but LOVES her diaper. I’ve been waiting for her to want to get rid of it but she freaks out. She’s got new undies, a potty chart and treats. She hasn’t had any accidents. Her older sister pretty much trained herself right after turning 2. Kids at daycare were going on the potty and she wanted to as well. I didn’t do much besides remind her to go when we were home. Hence why this is boggling my brain. Any ideas? It breaks my heart when she cries for her diaper. We’ve been going cold turkey so far today and she has gone on the potty twice. She isn’t happy about it though.",0.9739647058823522,3.307001753333335,2.4831764705882367,92.9751176470588,84.8,5.3960784313725485,16.15686274509804,6.794906146795322,-0.20517254901960724,573,11,122,7,17,186,101,150,0.05,0.7909999999999999,0.16,0.9581,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,0,6,6,0,0,4,0,12,5,3,1,0,16,26,12,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,7,0,1,1,1,0,4,3,1,1,1,8,1,19,5,18,17,3,24,0,0,0,2,20,9,0,1,10,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298473677990604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865642569352453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493026943001835,0.0,0.18563515391544871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829390266241262,0.0,0.28813449026416443,0.0,0.13516225526698394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990033744534495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002621345230878,0.11327505656377235,0.0,0.1695176650694608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19077692432970125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050525920292943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484643260362048,0.0,0.0,0.16321825448902086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546676263897758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193059791846466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432242513385632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660385915087689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601892963795161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382009331840365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595905713266516,0.0,0.0,0.19935749471772649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194850451327424,0.0,0.1524934121497888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21765691948062946
parenting,tayter_titz,2020/01/01,"Best baby monitors? Pregnant with #2. With #1 we had these decently expensive wifi monitors , Motorola Hubble, and they would always freeze up. Once I thought my.girl was still asleep, cause on the monitor there was no change, and then I walk near the bedroom and hear her crying!!! Horrible feeling, I never trusted those monitors again. 

Please send all the recommendations for trustworthy baby monitors! ❤️ Price is irrelevant at this point",5.212732732732731,8.728678891891898,5.476126126126128,70.4462012012012,77.64864864864866,9.775375375375377,32.546546546546544,9.725611199111238,4.5388096096096096,354,18,51,12,9,112,62,74,0.132,0.7070000000000001,0.162,0.3847,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,1,2,12,8,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,6,0,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,4,3,6,2,7,3,2,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23724536790746314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992192389295488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929000977736135,0.3016225710968007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131944795378127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416687196201838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213546020666045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21990461208179704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30364693428066536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129796853794149,0.26953361209717114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276997795963981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263559958569831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025433618376176,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AVeryBrightStar,2020/01/01,Mothers Deserve Less Respect Than Fathers Who else agrees with me?,4.870000000000001,8.218945545454549,2.6459090909090897,85.88886363636364,93.54545454545456,2.2,41.86363636363637,3.1291,2.680054545454546,55,4,7,0,2,15,11,11,0.0,0.6609999999999999,0.33899999999999997,0.5584,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Citychic88,2020/01/01,"Happy birthday mummy My son LOVES to sing happy birthday and today is my actual birthday. Does he want to sing to me? Of course not.

When daddy said it's time to sing happy birthday he said ""I don't like it. Happy birthday aunty"". 
Translation: he wanted to sing happy birthday to his aunt instead of me 😂",1.0815000000000021,3.6756318166666695,3.265000000000001,85.0125,89.16666666666666,4.333333333333334,20.833333333333336,5.985473137389443,0.5188333333333341,239,8,41,2,8,81,36,60,0.027999999999999997,0.65,0.322,0.9723,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,6,7,8,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,0,4,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.1596745779894043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318950262356153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8709102636762859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799390006871235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476781184138027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31129004271027594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541116159845067,0.0,0.15509754381687849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930207477717564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamabear1802,2020/01/01,"Caught! What's the punishment? Came home last night to find my daughter kissing her boyfriend in the living room. I told her that he was not allowed to come over while we were out. It wasn't like he was forbidden from seeing her, he was invited over today while we were home. And she was babysitting her 3 year old sister at the time, who witnessed them kissing. 


I sent her to bed and said we'd discuss her punishment today. So what's an appropriate punishment for this? I'd take away her phone, but she needs it for communication with us after work. Help me come up with something.",3.4768141592920334,5.620597433628323,3.8541681415929183,87.55665044247787,74.6637168141593,6.99787610619469,25.45929203539823,7.908726449838941,1.3871918584070797,462,16,92,7,10,144,76,113,0.09,0.8390000000000001,0.071,0.284,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,1,1,1,6,3,0,4,0,8,2,0,1,0,15,18,6,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,7,10,0,0,1,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,12,2,18,3,16,5,0,23,0,0,1,2,26,8,0,0,11,59,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893544995742361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305093294258017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472196272578517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420491592316987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508875230789447,0.0,0.40432431575063743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642828973912848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846280216019997,0.0,0.17796448539295046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944017335013754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891326713762757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21148348359474745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171174036679728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060216460988658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515618665965927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153382653864253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752023727582532,0.0,0.3820747980612209,0.19258115973163506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424291304994497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672432253528642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297858618471074
parenting,Omolly,2020/01/01,"Life as it is We all have all these beautiful family picture printed in our head while growing up. Life as it’s have a way of messing it up and giving us her version.
I am a single mum and I am kinda shying away from friends who are married with kids.I am from Africa but live in UK,and it’s a big deal in Africa. 
I am not going to say it’s inferiority complex, i guess I am just not ready to explain anything to anyone cos I don’t pity nor anyone thinking my daughter was a mistake. We planned conception but my baby daddy family are just hell on Earth and they kinda control him.
The only beautiful part from the whole scenario is my perfect daughter.
I just want to get a job and live the best life with my LO.",1.2702908277404887,3.358841711409397,3.410174496644295,88.30568680089485,81.5503355704698,5.584071588366891,24.69843400447427,6.742157984588678,0.934309709172259,561,22,116,6,15,191,91,149,0.11699999999999999,0.726,0.156,0.7416,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,1,4,3,8,1,0,8,0,13,4,1,2,3,28,20,10,0,2,7,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,7,8,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,1,18,3,19,19,7,12,1,2,0,0,16,8,1,3,1,84,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25561169865074185,0.0,0.15041451218401902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173027692313475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181907016182798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20500623703936188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884408427497362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34462235091610155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121738942336168,0.0,0.09549636853467036,0.17534173279422005,0.10387956827559323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201355649654902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758768845144286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138353448530295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873142843733828,0.0,0.0,0.32280078295190245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901440977983698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793575228090216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535606612962507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711971468060753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198649718306976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078099178518767,0.14508432629183998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040702541361886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,limabeanzzzz,2020/01/01,"Does anyone have advise on fostering a teenager? Hi all, I have a daughter of my own who is two, and I’m 22 years old

I fostered an 8 year old this last year and he was the absolute light of my life. I miss him dearly, but I would like to foster a teenager this year.

I know I’m a little in over my head, and I’m very young, but adoption and foster care are something I’m very passionate about. 

Do I need to go in without expectations? If you have any experience or advice I would appreciate it! Thank you in advance!",2.1016666666666666,3.619701388888892,4.167777777777779,86.555,76.77777777777777,7.022222222222222,24.962962962962962,7.793537801064563,1.2535296296296292,402,14,87,6,9,138,71,108,0.012,0.7829999999999999,0.205,0.9717,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,1,6,0,0,6,0,9,3,1,0,1,15,19,8,0,5,5,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,13,5,11,16,2,16,0,1,0,1,8,6,0,2,9,54,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334016419297255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275880836086049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311883176334464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129116894897835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418759049180998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835284331541837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662881136112867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255232359546348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311108559537432,0.15293540105488673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252160635462598,0.09166169075708668,0.18804460300567014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911790702461474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937514116641465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443909871168775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17273535594030975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832775493485292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096124192677698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18085905542064667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26655983397500865,0.0,0.0,0.4832847033508548
parenting,prettyflyfly,2020/01/01,"Moving across country after separation Is there a world in which I can move across the country for a job without causing major emotional trauma to my 8yo daughter?

It’s a really great job that would fulfill my career ambitions, and as a recent immigrant to the US (and after having been a SAHM for the past 2 years) I’m not certain there will be many other opportunities like this.",10.652916666666664,8.037424013888891,10.650555555555561,61.45000000000003,58.861111111111114,12.933333333333335,40.66666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.6411333333333324,307,12,50,6,3,103,56,72,0.081,0.752,0.166,0.8092,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,1,1,7,8,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,11,4,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,6,40,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23659464060479085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590708486491694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539206240158089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570997403877238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251917790511927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335009832229337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895720169469988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198595838259109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754424750725842,0.0,0.2274060591286781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770378850245344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22201327582487596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360757222380926,0.0,0.0,0.1483138622744459
parenting,CuddlyFizzFizz,2020/01/01,Trapped Just sitting here trapped under a sleepy baby soaking up the love. He's so warm and precious ❤️😍,2.2677272727272744,4.227049409090913,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,77.63636363636364,4.4,33.72727272727273,3.1291,1.3851090909090908,85,5,17,0,2,27,21,22,0.225,0.431,0.34299999999999997,0.5509,0,2,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,8,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KyleRichXV,2020/01/01,"Thankful my mom lets my kids sleep over, but.... My kids (6, 6, 2.5 girls) are, for the lack of a better term, complete jackasses the next day. She lets them stay up well past their bedtimes and gives them junk food and lets them run the show. They love my mom a lot and she’s honestly a lifesaver most days, but listening to them whine the next day or be at each others’ throats always makes me regret my decision to let them go lol. 

/rant",2.9463961038961024,4.429635522727274,3.2583116883116894,94.09318181818183,74.45454545454545,6.846753246753247,22.798701298701296,7.447530270364453,0.6088746753246751,338,9,76,4,7,104,63,88,0.109,0.726,0.165,0.5499,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,7,1,1,7,0,0,7,1,6,4,2,1,0,13,12,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,15,5,7,7,5,13,0,2,0,1,17,3,0,3,7,47,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277080453421244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574100244699264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092135174671174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29694661631078884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18558919244033845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472324512374884,0.08722648753937601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.627776713034274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048360630191386,0.1385221156261223,0.0,0.1024494049091096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595089408407765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264564401381126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465144744179827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359131084348274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358975881759727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413041951814328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379973739700784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Michelincolt,2020/01/01,"When did you stop using a baby monitor? My LO will be 2 next month. We still use a monitor on the lowest volume through the night. My husband doesn't think we need to, because his room is just down the hall, and we could hear him if he started screaming. So just curious when other people stopped using monitors throughout the night.",4.39875,6.1420751250000025,4.889500000000002,82.80550000000002,71.1875,7.620000000000001,29.9875,8.238735603445708,2.2512537500000005,264,11,48,4,5,84,52,64,0.139,0.8220000000000001,0.039,-0.6929,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,3,0,15,13,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,8,0,4,9,0,14,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,10,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374848125802219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007235396235494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25419575989087057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800208933947397,0.0,0.0,0.16723228126380624,0.0,0.0,0.23986037436640914,0.4233010091826591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635844710868496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963572778868793,0.0,0.18011355097847268,0.3771168294468054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445145305829476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.584372752927096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GRAY_WOLF_DONG,2020/01/01,"Teenager didn't come home last night She turns 18 in two weeks. She went out with friends  last night and was supposed to be home by 1am. I fell asleep and when I woke up at 7 this morning her car wasn't here. She showed up around 730. I know she's going to have an excuse, and I'm sure her and her friends were probably out drinking/partying. But how do I handle this? Honestly not that mad, she's never done this before. And she probably didn't want to drink and drive.. But I feel like maybe there should be a talk or consequence but I am stumped on what to say or do?",0.9335674931129458,2.8891657107438,1.9953925619834718,98.71611914600551,81.97520661157023,5.686225895316805,20.00068870523416,6.816661863887847,0.0051482093663914865,445,12,107,5,12,140,80,121,0.01,0.872,0.11800000000000001,0.8386,1,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,2,0,13,2,1,1,2,24,22,13,0,2,6,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,5,11,1,0,2,2,0,6,5,1,0,1,8,2,15,5,14,11,0,21,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,2,8,67,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015410100071634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308639083717282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497272008340995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18410586171976934,0.0,0.17623896949025272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096566260433303,0.1285245763625464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779891968260722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224448231725382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609199140186156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887139726395146,0.29329410520914523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789277494655674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073932771549367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387542677144275,0.0,0.0,0.33765838378781154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879372689981169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306813148922046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955887222333674,0.0,0.0,0.1446012838229106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19568560081389505,0.17574160223966087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611296737570933,0.0,0.14430939787334332,0.0,0.0,0.16677426735391498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
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parenting,depressing-alter-ego,2020/01/01,"Worried about 3 year old’s increasing temper. I have two kids. My son is 6 with some kind of undefined learning difference (super smart but exceptionally spacey and distractible and some communication issues, mostly not hearing/responding to people). My daughter is 3 and has had a vastly different early childhood experience to my son. Most grownups she’s interacted with say she’s a wonderful listener. She is generally helpful and kind and empathic. She’s also a mimic - she tends to reflect what she hears and sees.

As she’s gotten older she’s developed a temper. I can usually redirect her, but lately it’s become very “my way or the highway” and once she gets worked up, it takes her a long time to calm down (my son used to have little outbursts at that age but would recover really quickly). This reached a peak two days ago when we were on an airplane (which is stressful for little kids) and she got upset because it was almost time to land and I put her toy away (a car, she kept dropping it and I was afraid it would roll off during landing). I had another activity ready for her but she immediately got so, so mad - she grabbed the stuff out of the seat pocket, stood and threw it at the people in the row ahead of us before I could stop her, and when I pulled her down she began hitting/kicking/biting me. I restrained her and gently told her I wouldn’t let her hurt me. For maybe 6 minutes she would hit me every time I let her go. She was screaming at me and was really angry. Then she started crying so I let her go and began to stoke her hair. At that moment a flight attendant said she needed her seatbelt on so I put it back on, and she got really mad all over again. You get the idea. Anyway when it was all told it was 35 minutes of this. 

To be fair I think that she was tired and over traveling which could explain some of this specific tantrum. But these are quickly becoming more and more common. I didn’t deal with this with my son and I guess I’m wondering if tantrums this severe can be normal and if not, what do I do, and if so, what do I do? Thanks for reading, I’m on mobile so I need to wrap this up/stop her from beating her big brother with an Elsa doll. 😬",2.094476647206005,4.395580286697253,3.6470225187656387,86.56442869057553,79.84862385321101,6.5324437030859075,23.44120100083403,7.686295010490155,1.2145752293577978,1719,59,342,28,44,568,224,436,0.15,0.7859999999999999,0.064,-0.9924,1,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,2,1,0,4,16,18,6,4,16,0,36,2,1,1,2,70,70,42,0,12,12,6,2,0,0,4,1,5,0,3,25,28,0,3,7,3,0,10,4,12,0,2,23,8,66,6,45,35,10,64,0,1,1,0,57,23,0,13,29,247,91,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830644022052193,0.0,0.09383266973470006,0.0,0.0,0.07493637206445096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825854124303407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803953997359748,0.07205385845155292,0.0,0.05712209267709632,0.206981050102631,0.07973660386431328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230229699259387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963266849010864,0.0,0.10293125316979827,0.06043239025110225,0.09660640747321143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19580491380459164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895104910310588,0.0,0.0,0.09166210348639503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791466601669344,0.0,0.10651015729430877,0.0,0.22483489827939898,0.0,0.10322733465710901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561307450696597,0.0,0.06280891996512389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031383319781892,0.10578226959145873,0.0,0.09780434999417956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516002310915231,0.0,0.0,0.1057040513656909,0.0,0.0,0.2874611184796381,0.0,0.0,0.1878353513352694,0.0,0.08292654886515895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413991732342264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896309984609298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181163848380433,0.0,0.0,0.09832831355769237,0.09979345585145542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992739400037592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884001138505997,0.0,0.0,0.09373100509572542,0.0,0.1800907108476414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913552869026761,0.07451849157706704,0.0,0.0,0.07467126856140582,0.0,0.0,0.10586070887703737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632533925883928,0.0,0.0,0.1566842335344032,0.10733950205945957,0.0,0.1072705469546563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045498474500575,0.0,0.0,0.086271570022386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600427949402008,0.0,0.0,0.16392154900911746,0.10770085658832138,0.0,0.17907952278375047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307360234481232,0.0,0.11271635568925654,0.08093159267123662,0.10320353155495797,0.07731697243814367,0.0,0.07437918096312209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032395539489647,0.06821882705713077,0.09516263312595262,0.0,0.19969740928322632,0.0,0.0,0.060343364418528424
parenting,cooltopics,2020/01/01,"Bowling with Toilet Paper Rolls When I was a young child, my mom didn’t have money to take me to the bowling alley. When I heard that my friends played bowling, I wanted to play too. 

So I decided to get creative and saved up all the toilet tissue paper rolls to use as the bowling pins. I also used the paper towel rolls. I cut them down so I can make at least two pins out of them. Then I just used a regular ball and I was able to play bowling at home.

Thought it might be a creative and fun idea for kids to play too.",3.682870129870128,3.858005027272728,4.69857142857143,89.36500000000002,71.45454545454545,7.012987012987013,25.714285714285715,6.1826913282559595,0.7257922077922072,403,11,90,2,7,132,68,110,0.018000000000000002,0.765,0.21600000000000005,0.9661,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,8,8,1,0,7,0,7,0,0,4,1,17,16,10,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,2,5,0,0,3,5,1,0,1,1,0,1,5,1,14,7,16,9,2,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,4,61,16,3,0.24293788809577105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942773413391466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769320970930528,0.0,0.1269250196384795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436865097047073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742473051587545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216292674754432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577187081134996,0.0,0.2845259183807433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265905785480646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192865546722612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373150164137912,0.0,0.0,0.629461003569301,0.0,0.0,0.1432910607025267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Love182526,2020/01/01,"I think I have too much anxiety to be a mom.. So this is my first time posting.  I’m actually just wondering if there is anyone out there like me. I became a mother to a beautiful baby girl in January 2019.  Everyone is reflecting on their year now and tbh I feel so sad reading all the posts about how they love to be a mom and how they became one last year etc. I’ve AWAYS wanted to be a mom. I’ve also ALWAYS had anxiety, like really bad. Also OCD and depression. I’ve realized that being a mom gives me so much anxiety. I haven’t even enjoyed my baby to the fullest and I know that I feel super guilty. There’s so much I want to say but my mind is in a jumble. Half the time I think she would be better off with a new mommy :(",0.4432692307692321,2.3848346730769268,3.265064102564107,89.01951923076925,83.6794871794872,6.976923076923077,19.365384615384613,8.07648339933343,0.8496230769230766,563,15,126,12,16,199,91,156,0.111,0.77,0.11900000000000001,0.3065,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,3,3,16,9,0,0,11,0,13,1,0,2,1,24,24,14,0,4,3,5,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,8,1,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,3,18,6,14,17,5,16,0,2,0,1,13,6,0,2,10,88,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.12224446638158472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035513604008387,0.10423383682503086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874913090903599,0.0,0.0,0.08759099218437022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769434202889817,0.0,0.10459437622337213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079024396326716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789399965619878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970803996705788,0.08273898808661392,0.0,0.0,0.11969989059008801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667953301010626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065537410015251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016943221176694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884456219449038,0.10211094829298173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240020427951913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306015653243028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648597221938224,0.5868541199005687,0.0,0.0,0.2762613693019905,0.0,0.0,0.12098557352829604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488551128486804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399461344773923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530289203870235,0.0,0.08025052427233703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961893074156324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16053462446946565,0.0,0.0,0.146090713791944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477737947333018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584887871656112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898749810790844,0.0,0.0,0.16133824809122346
parenting,CharPeiMama,2020/01/01,"Anyone Else Opt Out of Staying Up Late on NYE in Favor of Sleep? Or was I the only one going to bed at 9pm because I have a 3 month old that still needs to feed at night?

Motherhood is a glamorous, exciting gig y’all. Maybe I’ll stay awake to ring in the next decade, maybe.",2.712,3.0021842000000016,4.223333333333336,91.50000000000004,73.66666666666666,7.333333333333332,23.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.579333333333333,212,5,51,2,4,71,50,60,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.8611,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,3,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,3,12,4,0,16,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,6,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572910966930093,0.2304890692592082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712815250647198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18791784729224112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127844940621359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537547312589675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4519873952324248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955388715667084,0.0,0.0,0.1667984509617566,0.0,0.0,0.23923813386430795,0.21110144551229346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360484244417364,0.0,0.15243274257288528,0.17108551045058748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22511363885743615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.479536058192348,0.17964630437014015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AutoModerator,2020/01/01,"Weekly- Wallet Wednesday- January 01, 2020 This is a weekly thread where you can share pictures of your children and cute, crazy or awful things they have done. Please upload your pictures through Imgur and post the link as a comment. Feel free to share the context of the picture! If you are not a parent yourself, this is the place to ask us anything. Also, if you ever wonder who we are, [click here to meet the mod team!](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/wiki/meetmodteam)",7.1014285714285705,8.965137714285714,5.603333333333335,79.82500000000002,64.71428571428571,7.504761904761906,31.857142857142854,7.793537801064563,2.328657142857143,384,15,61,4,6,112,65,84,0.061,0.787,0.153,0.8011,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,5,1,0,4,4,0,0,8,1,7,0,0,0,1,11,10,7,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,8,5,7,9,0,7,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,4,4,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076458069304768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21688304359377672,0.0,0.2463880465656147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26970793971642465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384002949462065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326116407579647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926462802092284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275358543646661,0.2893038923444604,0.0,0.0,0.2524125281815962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509401706701835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31702382687624764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228153304687292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858138056874013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,powerpuff_threesome,2020/01/01,"Christmas morning got a tad awkward TL:DR - Kids say the damnedest things. 

Our son was pretty excited to give us the Christmas gifts he bought for us at his schools holiday shop.  He had gotten my wife a collapsible hand fan that says #1 mom. 

She thanks him for the gift, and then he says “I got it for you because you told me that you get all sweaty at night in bed, so you can use this to cool off.”

“...what?!”

“Yeah, you said dad gets you all sweaty and wet in bed at night.”

At this point it dawned on my wife that he was referring to a conversation they had a while ago where my wife mentioned that on occasion, if our bedroom is slightly too warm/humid, I sweat a lot while sleeping and she wakes up wet and sweaty from laying in a puddle next to a soaked husband. Background: I’m a bit of a naturally heavy sweater if the conditions are just right.

I feel like this is one of those stories we’ll end up remembering and joking about well into his adulthood. I love making memories with my kids.",4.566810977966757,5.165275824120606,4.7890452261306535,87.99216466950138,69.6532663316583,8.133127174333206,28.37301894085813,8.139509932561175,1.5907778121376115,775,26,168,10,13,243,129,199,0.015,0.8140000000000001,0.171,0.9834,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,6,1,0,6,8,0,1,13,2,9,5,4,2,2,18,24,11,0,2,3,7,4,1,0,1,0,4,3,2,12,7,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,10,9,26,7,25,13,4,24,0,0,0,1,39,16,0,3,9,103,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414296796147173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972589828105246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418509859092307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413121758313755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067226507111433,0.11398112645615065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671449473758895,0.1530529843058321,0.0,0.0,0.2552102287355448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794709602859172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564200812823382,0.14399830343609255,0.0,0.1064995320658174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18686069483267376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968111305978928,0.29944998871603723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811385713781606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082443493957787,0.0,0.0,0.1623176793504144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073678733093165,0.1362531242813506,0.151766688620807,0.38063693144068816,0.0,0.16147109864514733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966322838788835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689036680213466,0.0,0.0,0.10599660490105392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245495579615986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838332101177371,0.1377982495308031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434528171946283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mildlywittyusername,2020/01/01,"Teen had a temper tantrum Generally speaking my 14 year old daughter is a good kid. She gets good grades, is helpful, kind, funny, intelligent, likes to make art, likes her younger brothers and sister. Yesterday my husband was still at work and he was coming home late so I decided to just serve up dinner just me and the 4 kids. It’s been a fine day otherwise, it was just chill and we relaxed all day. I made spaghetti and gave her a bowl of it and she just throws a massive temper tantrum out of nowhere. I mean screaming, crying, sobbing, throwing her hands up in the air. I have no idea where it came from at all. From my perspective it looked like she was angry about what we were having for dinner. I was like all right we need a calm down. She’s not. I take her phone and scroll through messages thinking she got into a fight with a friend or something. Nope. She’s not hurt. Nothing. It was insane. She’s still throwing a full on temper tantrum and I text my husband telling him I have no idea what to do with her because I don’t. Husband drives home, I had gotten her to sit down in my room, she still wouldn’t talk and is just sobbing with snot running down everywhere. I get her to kind of shake her head no and nod yes, but that’s it. She didn’t have a fight with someone, it wasn’t because of the spaghetti, it wasn’t because someone was having a party that she wanted to go to, no one hurt her, but I can’t get what is wrong with her at all. Husband gets home, she’s been throwing this temper tantrum for about 45 minutes at this point (I’m not exactly sure I just know when I texted husband and when he got home, but it was about 45 minutes). He can’t get her to talk, we had planned on going to go see Star Wars, but she didn’t want to go (she also shook her head no the temper tantrum wasn’t about the movie). My husband just sent her to bed because she needed quiet time (not as a punishment, just obviously nothing was working to get her to calm down). She’s still not talking just sobbing and screeching yesterday evening. It’s the next morning and I have no idea how to address this. I mean I don’t think I should ignore it, but her behavior was crazy and she was not in control at all and I have no idea what to say and/or do. Suggestions?",2.375580260303689,4.1565184859002215,3.1108237527114966,93.28679962039044,76.72234273318874,5.737982646420826,25.624783080260304,6.385866456164764,0.70965895878525,1766,65,383,13,40,555,192,461,0.17800000000000002,0.732,0.09,-0.9927,0,0,1,0,2,0,56.0,4,0,0,4,24,38,14,2,18,1,41,5,3,4,8,79,73,27,1,6,21,9,1,4,1,2,0,4,7,2,21,28,2,2,10,2,0,15,24,24,0,1,29,7,62,14,52,42,6,55,0,5,2,0,65,24,3,1,19,256,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840031068364308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855927653678136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782639579230808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367867662362436,0.0,0.0,0.0959319735994046,0.0,0.0,0.09395343678788633,0.11032277529996654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056493410676953126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608219861787744,0.0,0.2681232113932623,0.0,0.19444036718587007,0.14348120867787065,0.13681631025682486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556204568197528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05733063292180107,0.0,0.34318429227661995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18312862412652045,0.3862231333352275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813787678714715,0.047006426049796206,0.0,0.09648438741756156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671474396101432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182575949198819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093292116974511,0.05709360903564036,0.0,0.0,0.18633993806193114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684253242016774,0.0,0.0,0.09096478587136733,0.0,0.0,0.16414148435382914,0.0,0.08975197238745733,0.0,0.057959036730291284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808558606261285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304428908472915,0.0,0.06801887835140914,0.0,0.0,0.06815832990085294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449428222034577,0.06584709852569677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27322546528273645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061337058861531,0.0,0.06430979660484362,0.20624335478685998,0.07475917645739961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961154683847578,0.0,0.0,0.049874689558070416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008985711116139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453735980621496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351636345934126,0.0,0.055080126782407736
parenting,Acilezz0303,2020/01/01,"Drinking in front of children - to what extent is this okay? I am a student that studies in a foreign country and i do not meet my family too often.

Of course My family like everyone else celebrated new year and my sister is 15 years old. And I am worried about the below things:  
\- My parents gave her 3 alcohol cocktails during the evening.   
\- My mother was extremely drunk when i came home 6a.m. and still drinking. More importantly most people were asleep already.  
\- My mother when drunk is very annoying, causes problems in general.  
\- 3P.M. next day sister comes home from work, mother still drinking, all people who were over were semi-drunk. They all talk non-sense.  
\- ***My sister found this funny. Her response was - ""Crazy people hahaha"", it could indicate that she doesn't understand that drinking 2 days is bad (She wouldn't be laughing???)***  
\- During my christmas vacation my mother drank 2-3 cocktails almost daily(3-4 days per week), and made my sister 1 cocktail everytime.

I may be overthinking. In general parents have their life figured out and financially doing quite well. I would assume my sister gets to see something like this 2-3 times a year.

I am worried my parents may be giving a bad example to my sister and was thinking if its worth to have a talk after they sober up.",2.605109042553192,5.5912626212765995,3.643424202127658,82.02109375000002,86.61702127659575,6.0013297872340425,25.216090425531913,7.413659706084162,1.8570877659574467,1016,42,165,18,32,326,142,235,0.105,0.8009999999999999,0.094,-0.5598,3,0,6,0,0,0,59.0,0,0,3,2,9,9,1,0,7,1,26,10,1,2,2,32,37,10,0,5,2,13,0,2,0,4,2,0,2,1,11,10,11,0,5,9,1,3,3,4,1,0,11,1,27,5,17,18,5,27,0,0,1,0,27,8,0,7,18,109,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684074620539757,0.10947841368149723,0.0,0.12064860659596628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257231905357835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504463557626844,0.0,0.11231224317302907,0.0,0.09417829608792813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729127726805168,0.0,0.0,0.2115268244539307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42840793765382656,0.0,0.0,0.09133136241202698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221157330131876,0.0,0.0,0.10446970193130044,0.0,0.0,0.20613358573539006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198749333395713,0.0,0.0,0.05712052285184545,0.10487950074581333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21933423190984888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722316136507995,0.10682643730394946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345088921889294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559179914183768,0.11627391980900095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472366520860162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641947831423311,0.0,0.0,0.2273874072188708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461424663713144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628613720648748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712202320152708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416773788110679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462249559398835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575096462446954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263413420649098,0.07005438470036114,0.0,0.0,0.06375132529168376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381660547245515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902088741279175,0.0,0.0,0.08769810063262397,0.0,0.09830098979245934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959369578360374,0.2220602727352825,0.0,0.07766504511504686,0.0,0.0,0.2112152142134543
parenting,thimplicity,2020/01/01,"How to encourage and teach free play Hi everyone and happy new year,
Our four year old does not like to play alone. He always likes to be around us and waits for us just sitting in a chair waiting for us to be done with whatever we need to do (e.g. doing the dishes) and then asks us whether we can play with him. When one of us has to leave the room to go to the restroom, he immediately asks the other one whether he or she can play with him now.

At the same time, we play a lot with him, we spent quite some time in our day playing with him when we do not have to do something else and it still does not seem to be enough. We try not to give our soon too much screen time, maybe 1-2h a month on average I would say.

We tried to install “alone-time” into his day, e.g. each evening after we had dinner, we do the dishes and he has to play alone. This situation was so much better some months back where he just left to go to his play room and play on his own for 30-40 minutes.

How do you handle this situation and how do you install free play alone in your kids daily routine?",7.224581497797357,4.498415973568285,7.0903127753304025,84.65969823788545,65.47577092511014,10.313480176211458,31.07004405286344,7.908726449838941,1.7360787665198236,834,19,199,7,10,266,120,227,0.037000000000000005,0.792,0.171,0.9857,0,4,1,0,0,0,24.0,17,3,0,2,16,17,0,0,9,0,19,3,0,3,0,46,29,18,0,2,9,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,1,4,25,3,2,1,10,3,2,4,0,0,3,4,2,29,19,33,21,9,34,0,0,1,0,40,12,0,5,21,137,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196600385175797,0.0,0.0,0.08560495842740792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158560761474456,0.19235907578735045,0.0,0.0,0.079108884220383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909895914563544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326990411415619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006313394952586,0.10528264406395564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594359781211608,0.0,0.0,0.10630323308759017,0.0,0.0679517117591079,0.0,0.0,0.09830688833732974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986925125475489,0.11693891045898118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951838549130886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893577395612923,0.1117801481816521,0.0,0.0,0.10052459659950128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746546596190964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335746037892524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16423673733763702,0.0,0.15125825902321252,0.07628471266408053,0.0,0.09936279146656864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795595600270523,0.0,0.13942920813379053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942625559566647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181483752756237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365869737152588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23128436557079302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920256549525513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216063537174094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997163677927402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396984423334488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6187638888179989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308347565554836,0.0,0.0,0.13250355586338095
parenting,changeisahcomin,2020/01/01,"Going through alot at the moment 
So I'm a single parent I'm honestly having trouble adjusting I want to stop being so dependent on my mom for help I have no extra experience I go to work at 4:45am i work at a factory get home between 3 and 6 in the evening i average 5pm my mom has to get my kids to school and to the baby sitter have a iffy baby sitter and on thin ice at my job due to my change of circumstances at home and all the day cares are full where I live guys I'm honestly on edge here I have 3 kids and I'm honestly just worn out all the time but I try my hardest to be active and give them all the attention I can but honestly feel like getting behind I'm up to my neck in bills so basically guys I'm drowning and could use guidance. I want my kids to be extremely independent and humble and confident and caring💙 I love my kids I want to do right by them in very way",0.6098281974365953,2.4600153005181364,3.4731333515135003,88.25427052086178,82.52331606217616,7.171966184892282,22.074993182437957,8.20500826718156,1.2128818652849738,695,23,157,15,19,247,105,193,0.035,0.7829999999999999,0.182,0.9802,2,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,2,2,7,8,0,0,10,0,12,2,1,3,3,29,32,15,1,4,3,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,11,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,23,7,29,27,7,25,0,0,0,1,14,17,0,2,6,100,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424479914908252,0.0,0.1704147737785669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861945597078173,0.0,0.0,0.10389149957082476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640024482960744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757962485761534,0.0,0.0,0.08145333680577321,0.11508469576935886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25249294559216656,0.1545348487339735,0.18310544916148389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31901430719687296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079770774329354,0.0,0.3231783342725705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985970149739356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870178257982474,0.0,0.1422478532912184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539250012256985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773397734289338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788744394674574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757233186826187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303446755520415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468075574503324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393448043214453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937140567766096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913241707523868,0.0,0.13291839319111434,0.2850500405425057,0.12786793001237534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345548872874113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dwigtschrute32,2020/01/01,"Ringing in the New Year with croup I hadn't had a New Year's party in a few years, so I decided now was the time to try.  My son has been consistently sleeping through the night for awhile, and friends were willing to travel. Son goes to bed and friends start to arrive for a night of catching up, food, and games.

10:30pm: telltale croup cough comes out of my son's room. He's  mad that he's awake, which of course makes the croup worse. Fill the humidifier, snuggling ensues.

Midnight: Rocking my toddler as he starts going back to sleep, I can hear friends celebrating in a different room. While croup is terrible, it isn't all bad: I  was able to ring in the  New Year with all my favorite people, including my son. 

Happy New Year's fellow parents.",4.207665006226652,5.690786130136992,4.376774595267747,87.32345579078456,71.26027397260275,7.226899128268991,29.02615193026152,7.686295010490155,1.6274876712328772,589,23,120,7,11,183,90,146,0.061,0.7759999999999999,0.163,0.9418,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,10,0,11,4,2,1,2,11,17,6,0,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,1,3,3,0,3,7,1,0,1,3,0,5,2,3,0,0,6,3,9,4,21,10,3,30,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,0,17,64,12,0,0.1380056201275672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611780329955192,0.11522892830791485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887962188717953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441865000343611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668769436562271,0.0,0.31986839931844824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784317742592603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690954882987411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555423638267298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921198230663539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5331467515466206,0.0,0.25901785146525474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323890928762626,0.0,0.0,0.0956757204683611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762105722719119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19536217647464127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047218690818297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369675713979464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406395170599636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4443554733508215
parenting,tehcoma,2020/01/01,"How do you people sleep at night? Literally. We had our first kid Dec 1. Awesome dude, but holy hell is his sleep schedule horrible. Now, it is 4:30am here, I have been up all night with him so my equally exhausted wife can get some much needed sleep. We usually try to divide and conquer. She will sleep from 9pm-3am, and then I will sleep from 3am to 8am. That’s the plan at least, it rarely works exactly that way, but at least we are getting blocks of sleep.

Anyways, he isn’t particularly fussy ( I think?), but seems to need something very frequently at night. He sleeps like a champ during the day. Solid 3 hour stretches where we wake him up to feed. I am trying my best to keep diaper/feeding parity. So every two hours, 2-3 oz of milk and a diaper change. Of course he does his best to get off schedule often, but I feel it works ok. BUT on nights like tonight he just needs something all the time and gets wound up about needing more food, another diaper change, or ??. Not sure what to do here. I am up 19-20 hours a day, some days more like today, and my work is really suffering. I am barely getting any work done (I work from home), and starting to worry about my job let alone taking care of this guy. 

I would assume at some point before he turns 18 and moves away to college he will start sleeping during the night? Any tips, suggestions for getting this little man on a normal schedule?

It is nice to read through this sub and see us all suffering together, lol. I am sure it could be worse - maybe we have it pretty good and I should shut up?

Oh, and to hell with the ghost/shadow orb posts! Perfect reading in the middle of the night...",2.3884349593495955,4.402949591463418,3.280097560975612,91.01937398373985,77.47560975609754,6.446504065040653,21.604065040650404,7.42949916751922,0.6481752845528455,1278,35,270,17,30,406,193,328,0.125,0.723,0.153,0.8955,1,1,2,0,0,0,58.0,7,1,0,12,12,18,2,0,11,2,26,14,9,1,7,51,46,20,0,8,8,1,1,3,0,5,2,0,1,3,12,17,3,2,4,2,0,1,2,5,0,2,3,2,28,13,40,35,14,49,2,2,1,0,24,21,2,7,28,161,40,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260832319154151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534850853002677,0.07351189935474944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586657729601048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965475493539829,0.0,0.14714313443188587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714773948255319,0.0,0.1483249896810187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0559736666506194,0.0,0.0,0.1356370571058396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134993735213164,0.07174243251148811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906704396581765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03544752920571125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05963184038305582,0.08477204490826942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197638897091817,0.0,0.0,0.058801303242961275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941562749212869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032169516944879,0.0,0.2071198664244372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956905216980018,0.06231313365001194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071687789318356,0.0,0.10275025600948033,0.07026429085930093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043056043776239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745112240907647,0.051535728116716056,0.20792984061595146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39473648885293466,0.06868866403300633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048602438985718366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627251085292646,0.0,0.0671418453129783,0.07132266181326416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024926740920768,0.0,0.04491148231009602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558651360964173,0.06382156180660542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5612503327004592,0.0,0.0,0.10794152750055032,0.0,0.0,0.09924229695626714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214751375730413,0.0,0.052710733154533264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04492087754187798,0.0,0.0,0.04087917535510652,0.0,0.06645197044681456,0.0,0.0,0.09519428544157056,0.07625482903542642,0.06848304513699137,0.0,0.08432847964400443,0.0,0.07721148236831402,0.05784451330524607,0.0,0.055646611438345116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551887848771814,0.07119570288943118,0.07144365899129212,0.04980105093806445,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Due-Fisherman,2020/01/01,"told my girlfriend to get a abortion because we found out it was a girl. ive been getting bad vibes when I think about it. Im     going to be straight, I am only 19, I would have been okay with a     son,  but I dont want a daughter because I will almost always hate her    no   matter what and I would have a 99% chance of disowning her before    she   turned 16.

I had my gf get the abortion, we found out it was a girl, so it had to die, to save my sons future.

I wouldnt be able to love it if it was a girl, I only want a son.

Im sorry I have to be this way, but the world is different now, and that means some people have to be excluded from it.",-0.18608391608391628,1.163770391608395,2.397902097902101,97.463006993007,82.84615384615384,5.23916083916084,18.69230769230769,5.8734145424116955,-0.44482097902097895,478,11,123,3,13,166,81,143,0.154,0.732,0.115,-0.6807,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,10,1,23,1,0,0,0,23,37,7,1,6,3,4,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,10,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,10,0,19,3,13,19,1,9,0,0,0,1,16,4,0,3,3,84,29,0,0.16910160506234811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933083079369893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070608185901626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119277684829848,0.2061655378033096,0.0,0.14389301098633386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550076835436254,0.17667518584819092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818582173003388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708223634438632,0.0,0.0,0.2650458277011411,0.0,0.09610433910495036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695282578563928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36531750289691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262080073622591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842012217471337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25721878132015524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172337610724928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18929540231498065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835348050040647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158383032715554,0.0,0.0,0.1839339875595512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948101587457095,0.1342249830666677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402498569484413,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,preggersthrowawa,2020/01/01,"Natural consequences for a 2 y.o. We're doing our best to raise our daughter as positively as possible. But Im worried we've become passive and permissive because of info overload (me) and general unease about being strict (the dad). My daughter has a very strong personality. She does listen to me, the mom, most of the time, but she doesnt clean up her own mess yet. I ask her every time she makes a mess to help clean up. Or put her toys in boxes before bed. She still doesnt do it. Are my expectations too high for a 2 year old? She is mostly well behaved at daycare, very happy and lively personality. I worry she will become spoilt as she wont have any siblings.",2.7672727272727258,4.850669969696972,4.701515151515153,80.94727272727275,76.57575757575758,7.127272727272729,24.63636363636364,8.07648339933343,1.5748818181818185,524,18,100,9,12,179,91,132,0.14400000000000002,0.68,0.17600000000000002,0.7057,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,2,5,7,0,1,7,0,11,0,0,1,0,12,14,9,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,1,18,4,15,11,4,12,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,3,6,66,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864452137992855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16310443906998665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635434113060684,0.38537336743989614,0.14845979148417146,0.0,0.18309386301009486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267850679677988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699718472145173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572489767166125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694251710589347,0.1843354849132538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884558531850598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540588281537517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645903788284595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20433532726589307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307527810697985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046782229579553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668695074415327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753889698227561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393307208520363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20346789977885865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28790946817566965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686807958691826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543623376537272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235195462140284
parenting,PsychologicalGarlic5,2020/01/01,"Phone and Tik Tok Through a very disappointing exchange with BM and BM's BF the other day, my husband and I noticed in a screenshot that was shared that it appears SD6 still has a phone at BM's house (the message was from SD and on BM's BF's phone).

We were told that the phone was 'lost'.  Now we're wondering if BM just blocked us to avoid SD calling and texting DH (which she did VERY often while with BM), but now is being pushed to call and text BM's BF instead.

Also, during a phone conversation, SD spoke about having a TikTok account.  She's 6.

Since we JUST had a huge blow out argument with BM and BM's BF, DH and I are unsure how to approach this diplomatically - if we should approach it at all.  We don't want to interrogate SD, and we don't want to come across as accusatory towards BM.",4.662256097560974,4.731356810975613,5.484048780487806,84.95485365853662,69.3048780487805,8.267317073170732,29.81463414634146,7.908726449838941,1.7211653658536592,623,22,136,7,10,204,96,164,0.08900000000000001,0.8809999999999999,0.03,-0.7321,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,0,1,11,4,0,1,9,0,14,0,0,1,1,34,22,16,0,5,5,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,8,19,0,2,1,0,2,5,2,3,0,0,9,1,11,1,19,11,1,18,0,2,0,0,25,8,0,5,5,84,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463245002927264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4715029631111624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988803039631124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889672352418662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664013434471408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25202978694125777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628552745541592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909840435212485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437886670887252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22061310236102266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777168994968059,0.0,0.0,0.3809958143642832,0.2723547627576047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25037652447452263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a800759,2020/01/01,"Gift ideas for new mom? Hello! 
My cousin’s wife is due this month. She is having a little boy! I’m wondering - what are things new moms typically want/need that others seem to overlook or forget? Maybe something she’s too afraid to ask for? Anything and everything helps! I have never had a child (I’m 23) so I’m pretty clueless. Thanks in advance!",-0.09216386554622248,1.7135695735294119,1.4013445378151277,93.66676470588236,110.61764705882356,3.707563025210084,16.621848739495803,5.773587663045528,-0.2320033613445376,273,8,53,3,14,87,56,68,0.065,0.7440000000000001,0.191,0.8727,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,7,13,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,5,12,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,3,5,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618622019506675,0.0,0.2001547834553138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924194524400454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350684948559786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416930628473744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21458464424410295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21509242562076566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5015031278655298,0.1708927351759698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512727133138985,0.4135586101794815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178168714801149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949087789528388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648247921853509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19711469678133864,0.0,0.0,0.14223865791734802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12628184375337767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23218253151199994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PocketSizedMojo,2020/01/01,"Starting the new year with stitches and puke Last night we had to take my two year old to urgent care because she slipped in the tub and needed stitches. Tonight I was up getting an antacid and heard my 4 year old puking. Sounds like a terrible start to the New Year, but instead I’m just grateful to start the New Year with some extra snuggles. I love that the 4 year old asked me to snuggle forever, and that the 2 year old waited patiently for me to finish helping her sister so she could have a turn. I am so blessed to have these kind, loving, insanely active and feisty girls.",6.993333333333332,6.1749158260869565,6.455434782608697,82.91822463768116,64.65217391304347,9.057971014492756,34.81884057971015,7.793537801064563,2.416797101449276,460,18,92,4,6,142,75,115,0.045,0.6759999999999999,0.27899999999999997,0.9884,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,9,0,6,3,0,0,0,14,20,8,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,11,6,12,16,2,23,1,0,0,2,11,2,0,1,22,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698134283271462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627918475111813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758021120676347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999075614148176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537620164891209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387320886720387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030551544152774,0.0,0.10199911932566884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611330775519348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258726726157096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927836452584866,0.0,0.36255922084640935,0.0,0.1174277190287409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5252191048764185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265706799413223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408354186849252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361074675094378,0.12223558768455238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.564065442823211
parenting,Vonnybon,2020/01/01,"New Years sleepy munchkin I'm just happy and excited but have no one here to share my joy with right now. 

Our 10 month old girl is just too amazing and easy. I'm so grateful. Don't know what we did to deserve her. 

She started walking today but I'm actually more excited about the fact that she slept about 14hours! 

We went to a new years party at SIL's house yesterday. As agreed beforehand I got to drink while my husband stayed sober and took responsibility for our munchkin. I have not really let loose or stayed up late since munchkin was born. She usually sleeps from 6pm to 5am (amazing as well). Husband absolutely hates getting up early so I pretty much always go to bed early because I know she'll be up at 5. 

At the party we put munchkin to bed at 6pm as per usual. She went to sleep with zero fuss despite the loud music etc. After midnight we woke up munchkin and drove the 20 mins home. She did not cry or complain once at her sleep being disrupted and fell asleep immediately at home. 

So I was totally dreading having less than 4 hours of sleep until her 5am wake up time. Then munchkin slept until 8:30!! She has never done that before. I woke up at 5 and 7 and checked on her... Fast asleep! 

I'm so happy that I can let loose. Enjoy myself. SLEEP. And have a happy walking munchkin.",2.0141732979664013,4.253060333333334,3.1993295019157086,90.00458222811672,79.76628352490422,5.8544650751547325,23.44842322428529,7.010146845296331,0.7762660182729144,1021,35,212,12,26,329,152,261,0.042,0.721,0.237,0.9959,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,6,0,0,0,12,14,1,1,6,0,18,11,10,0,3,27,37,23,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,4,14,1,0,2,1,1,9,5,3,1,2,14,1,27,11,36,18,5,52,0,0,0,0,22,15,0,2,26,125,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.10404179648469136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871301874652432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499209905637889,0.0,0.09072232850542196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117112624704155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910514236683512,0.0,0.104443050738311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189049769840333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055702438186239434,0.0,0.0605923064873793,0.0,0.0852705219963845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34048401273689216,0.0,0.10526118678044596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388899969934252,0.0,0.10499524350353144,0.12302050219788048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718668567881872,0.0,0.12026744565984905,0.0,0.0,0.21804408313839807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509984132903314,0.0,0.07837499728284836,0.0,0.08222880027596079,0.20594071521115276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187551427629304,0.1135425168076292,0.07224573308726584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846675947141524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717848635927862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830091341778766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910494464792653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819382305565478,0.0,0.5334647790457863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546332455685408,0.2272768532608329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216862309824126,0.0,0.10105946289171948,0.0,0.1184542534017722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348448325835709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586055123764878,0.19766812433674547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373143641586741
parenting,ostarinz,2020/01/01,"Worst parental advice Not really sure where to post this, but as a son (M 22), I shouldn’t have to hear the words “No point in trying as there is someone always better.” Probably the worst statement into the new year. So I told my parents my aspiration to become somebody in society to make an effort to change healthcare by pursuing medicine. I struggled with the initial years of my life in regards to academia. I’m an only child and did not have any guidance at all or supervision growing up. However, I’m doing a lot better now and am feeling like I have no limit. Explaining that I want to see how far I can reach, my parents shut me down saying that there isn’t really a point since someone else will always fill that position. I’ve turned my life around within a year and have changed so much to also make so many sacrifices. I ask them “Would you be happy if you lived your life knowing you didn’t give it your 100%?” My dad just shrugged it off restating the same thing. I just don’t know what to do anymore, nor do I have the support from my own family. I told them, I’m not even sure what makes me happy, but I’m still in search of it. I just want to give it my all and want to take the opportunity given by my parents, and the sacrifices that they have made to reach as high as I can.",5.514043092522179,5.203909174904943,6.1438174904943,82.24322940430926,67.5171102661597,9.29470215462611,30.46108998732573,8.841846274778883,2.1885885424588096,1015,34,213,15,15,332,147,263,0.077,0.7829999999999999,0.14,0.9381,5,0,0,0,0,1,24.0,0,5,3,5,15,12,0,1,14,0,21,3,0,5,4,41,47,19,0,6,10,6,1,1,0,3,3,2,0,1,12,8,0,1,5,0,0,2,10,3,0,0,6,4,31,9,33,37,8,26,2,0,1,0,23,17,0,3,7,148,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911455877890228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111217315124686,0.16879293813719345,0.0,0.0,0.06897472066732928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058961687753327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029268914067592,0.09482176668257827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120195861664611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941017394272424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145953804408164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473032786465194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669924341415208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561757233228332,0.0,0.051285194975880834,0.07246039625540751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459853110224828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21594461824072572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431706326904532,0.0,0.0,0.10716456548594852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114846798461728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21492541910268864,0.04955274299173481,0.0,0.08956304526033315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623071172780691,0.0,0.09597390786598306,0.20311252926966092,0.1028323742261984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456146941445857,0.0,0.0,0.09796008211006624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714079105443297,0.0,0.0,0.4504964861618656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176505199611504,0.0,0.09714027197590208,0.0,0.10935686010179993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299551296544524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065985348970706,0.0,0.0,0.0808252214260752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390253611845983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718797352540194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100076968891239,0.0,0.0,0.10603487936468718,0.0,0.0,0.11509963042846888,0.1911899407513374,0.0,0.07626145708108524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738445417814856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19383817043324655,0.0,0.06886315631660457,0.1103248621995411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179475113978007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205175267761406,0.0,0.0,0.1959494950877027
parenting,Meg_Shark,2020/01/01,"Need to repair my relationships with my kids And I'm not sure the best way to go about it.

My husband and I separated back in September.  Those first few weeks were a daze.   I didn't eat or sleep. All I did was the bare minimum to keep the kids going with a fake smile on my face and go to work. 

The last two months have been productive in that I'm functioning as a human being again but I'm still overcome with guilt and shame that my marriage is ending and it's translating to my kids.

My daughter (7) is highly emotional and is tuned to every muscle movement my face makes and she gets easily upset.  If I'm distracted she'll whine loudly for my attention.  If I try to discipline her for misbehaving she will shut down and walk away. Then I get almost defensive?  Or is it shame bubbling through? I've yelled more times than I can count in the last 3 months.

She's been understanding about the separation but, obviously, she's hurt that mommy and daddy don't sleep in the same bed anymore. And I'm certain that it's affecting her more than she is letting on but I don't know how to give her the right outlet.  

My son (3) doesn't know what's going on but since I was such a mess, we've struggled to find that beautiful bond we used to have. He's also kind of regressed in potty training where he is having more accidents than he used to. 

I'm not even sure my sentences are coherent right now as my eyes are filled with tears, but can anyone relate who has been down this path?

I know I've made mistakes here -- I just want to make it right.",3.022190476190477,4.511758266666668,4.195746031746033,87.42314285714289,74.26984126984127,7.706666666666668,23.711111111111112,8.364918446050245,1.2637834920634918,1214,35,260,21,25,397,171,315,0.16899999999999998,0.7759999999999999,0.055,-0.9887,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,3,13,18,1,6,12,0,29,6,5,7,5,53,54,24,0,5,12,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,4,14,15,1,3,6,0,0,7,6,13,0,2,9,3,32,5,38,41,7,38,0,2,1,0,24,17,0,5,13,166,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855815112733404,0.0,0.0,0.10266873437613816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732254919295322,0.089769161780014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206211068821497,0.09871946359740744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473121326404533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136900588563175,0.0,0.14441485496429984,0.11371022388993705,0.0,0.0,0.08479650043725896,0.0,0.10816915825752296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734075980103738,0.10920346688273322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415080767654505,0.12315774638702473,0.2918546160255777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135644871552082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743785575823048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411370474559375,0.0,0.13369230469418342,0.21166966444344806,0.20930038599240755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128146098519375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148015853747475,0.17139479403145422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494995944819971,0.0,0.0,0.0951951982270535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378364984590368,0.0,0.3289180109905817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620067074479653,0.0,0.25695367494222543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252772406857716,0.0,0.0,0.1342149573997892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24200102746337174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486181280685897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716439012167282,0.0,0.12541263029291272,0.13365239662402034,0.0,0.22176531800750932,0.0,0.0,0.075724280290933,0.10190533866317407,0.10298199704929112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346516840388733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,questioningchoices24,2020/01/01,"Husband Gave 8 Month Old Beer Husband took our baby out by himself to a friends house today. I was really happy and surprised, because he doesn’t really seem to like spending time with our son, but came up with the idea to go out all on his own. 

They stayed out way longer than I thought, about four hours. There should have been a meal in there for baby. 

When they got back the baby wasn’t hungry, so I praised my husband for remembering to pack a meal. He informed me that he actually just fed him chips. 

I wasn’t super stoked on that but I try not to criticize too much, so I didn’t say anything beyond pointing out that chips aren’t an appropriate meal for an eight month old. 

He then told me he tried to give the baby a few sips of beer, but the baby wouldn’t take it.  

I’m really glad that nothing actually ended up happening, but I’m still annoyed. Who gives a baby under a year beer?

I just feel like my husbands instincts with babies is so far off that it’s absurd. This is actually an improvement over how he’s been in the past, and I don’t want to discourage his parenting attempts, so I just calmly explained to him why you can’t do that, and pulled up a few studies on my phone. 

Still, I feel like every time I turn around he’s doing something so boneheaded that I never even thought I would have to tell an adult not to do! It seems like he has no paternal instincts whatsoever. 

And I can’t even get mad when he does something dumb, because I have to be the bigger person and encourage him in his parenting efforts. Which I know long term is better but short term can get frustrating.",4.648432846822941,5.2306487275541835,5.4234321096859786,83.57441692466462,69.46439628482972,8.50532212885154,28.38404835618458,8.563005593585519,1.88923393778564,1261,42,260,19,21,411,171,323,0.066,0.773,0.161,0.985,3,0,5,0,0,0,28.0,2,1,2,5,22,18,4,0,17,0,26,7,0,1,2,43,51,19,0,4,10,7,2,4,1,3,0,1,0,2,13,14,7,1,11,3,1,4,13,5,0,2,14,3,33,13,39,33,7,49,1,1,0,0,43,22,1,2,25,169,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.3203988047470627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006143822246268,0.09742658011460924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841541400117727,0.0,0.13342965077008215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679255237250738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517248854535126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577342882964517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096933124971468,0.0,0.0,0.1445708132979126,0.0,0.09220960241520444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106743237921822,0.15637076862147697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455461516858084,0.0,0.11435785244887454,0.20997347139678446,0.06219840881698134,0.0,0.08753076247845465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677919624494873,0.1165030405538727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777832133905302,0.12628137022920366,0.0,0.1235466929498047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014645923139138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138713258373004,0.0,0.0,0.09685272314159174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471111525836824,0.0,0.08045246013276902,0.0,0.08440841474089472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501254750158197,0.0,0.2296819308245439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24304477149870826,0.0,0.10447476947115457,0.0,0.09556053014471164,0.0,0.0,0.10345806166196683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033403652744215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397644782001163,0.0,0.0,0.08703266845673616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19926376688530867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685075918252416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166506067622528,0.17480103987481616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228676129460959,0.0,0.0956571289679419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376944118186627,0.12763301677115224,0.0,0.10373821615575857,0.10457651788153736,0.12159408522810287,0.1486078635972789,0.11904146535020735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455172519860866,0.08686996287561961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875437940900303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774445441210423,0.0,0.0,0.0704770576786345
parenting,altusvires,2020/01/01,"Tips for visiting the library? I have an almost-two-year-old, and going to the library has officially become impossible. 

She adores books, and we obviously like reading her new ones every night, so the library is the obvious choice for getting a steady supply for free!

Ever since she was a baby, she’s always been frustrated by the way libraries work. She wants to pick them all up to look at them, but she doesn’t know what she’s grabbing. She’ll put them back in the wrong places, or down on a table somewhere else, etc. I’ve tried just checking out & taking home every single book she picks up, but we end up getting some weird ones! Not to mention, it makes the trip pretty short and then it’s right back to the car...

Some of our local branches do have play areas with great toys for her to enjoy while I can go around picking out books. But she’s getting to a hard age where she doesn’t like to share with the other kids, which inevitably causes fights between them. I have to continually stop and distract her with something else before I can get back to getting more books.

Things we have already tried:
-strapping her into a stroller the entire time and keeping her from grabbing at anything. Giving her snacks and toys in the stroller to keep her occupied. But she hates sitting in the stroller when it’s not moving...
-going to the library at slower times of the day, when there aren’t so many other kids. Then she has less trouble needing to share the communal toy bins
-having her wear a leash-backpack to keep her close to me the entire time, but that keeps her away from the toys and play areas that she really wants to enjoy
-letting her choose as many books as she wants, no matter what kind they are, knowing that they’re all free, anyway! The problem with this strategy is that sometimes she doesn’t have any interest in choosing books

I don’t want to just cut out library trips altogether, especially since we read her one book before bed every night. Fresh material is important for all of us! But almost every trip we take ends in a huge tantrum, she’s just so frustrated by what she’s not allowed to do. Help??",5.639943227899432,6.547445240875916,5.4483698296837,83.11291159772912,67.39416058394161,7.840713706407138,29.09083536090835,7.793537801064563,1.7544621248986214,1698,57,322,18,27,526,212,411,0.095,0.75,0.156,0.9818,3,0,1,0,1,0,53.0,7,0,5,1,16,25,6,1,26,0,25,2,1,6,6,66,50,24,0,6,13,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,15,22,1,5,4,15,3,10,9,11,0,3,2,4,47,16,56,46,9,61,0,0,1,0,50,28,0,4,23,216,62,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817813822960456,0.0,0.10016435999388794,0.0,0.07552595690313091,0.0983467119703086,0.0,0.06172511525680136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469404289383799,0.08080245327756189,0.0,0.0,0.0852791960324567,0.20938416267148693,0.0,0.0,0.10024573931212892,0.15447317134883615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324338070954966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05853762589490149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164945077246125,0.0,0.1607863950954926,0.0,0.1012299242450896,0.0,0.08210453690408527,0.30590264308291626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371117568365949,0.08707260170739603,0.1547560434676247,0.0,0.0,0.10007165570018857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813099867406243,0.08961426370877322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083964318644788,0.0,0.09104735472649683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227138350337758,0.0,0.0945205408468476,0.09976705445553297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281607287621772,0.0,0.08868897888568769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622196644939641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060588111885889015,0.18404830319955529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647164839457216,0.0,0.06730306312712879,0.0,0.08766396297525868,0.0,0.17035858344751134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524538099519868,0.0,0.1845195282726544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483287641818502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234333265861644,0.0,0.08685238359811571,0.0,0.09124655948009687,0.0,0.0,0.18158442809389305,0.0,0.05814808148931815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751507803488349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016787780056695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987737227025917,0.08977152779298286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588582056870556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649195480428358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030199412801651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587820417517485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325055381059015,0.0,0.08866680600224246,0.0,0.1091823082647969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414844914850725,0.07204713650241569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660799309884399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099240177458375,0.0,0.05845139132995154
parenting,zorro_usa84,2020/01/01,"What is the best room temperature and humidity for a newborn baby? I just had a newborn baby two weeks ago. The thermostat for the house heating (furnace) is in the living room, and set to 70 degree Fahrenheit. The baby is staying at a room that has a window facing the south, with a lot of sunshine during the day. At night, this baby's room is about 74 degree and 42% humidity, measured by a thermometer. Is this room temperature and humidity OK for the newborn baby? What is the best room temperature and humidity for a newborn baby? Thank you very much.",4.8247857142857145,6.528304085714289,6.610654761904764,71.04455357142858,70.04761904761905,8.678571428571429,31.220238095238088,9.188382445141503,3.0204523809523813,439,19,74,9,8,152,56,105,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.9557,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,2,5,0,0,16,1,8,1,1,0,0,8,9,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,12,8,4,16,0,0,1,0,5,10,0,1,4,54,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358678623010464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5584785514451182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160249545953446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30702579779652395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23495749603550584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262155339854025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19560272993651864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24970228631266125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836106825545577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449748659872572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25992590136349325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954758626346907,0.0,0.0,0.2134369428719516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boomquifaki,2020/01/01,"Has anyone brought their kid with them to the hospital for baby no 2? We’re due with baby no 2 in March. We don’t have much of a support system and we might not have anyone to stay with no 1 while we have the baby. Has anyone been in the same situation? What did you do? He’s 4, so old enough to remember a traumatic event. We might not have a choice and have to bring him with us. 

Advice please.",0.8384999999999998,2.581974423529413,2.852573529411768,93.53533088235297,81.23529411764707,6.132352941176473,17.683823529411768,7.1686216300943375,-0.042264705882352434,306,6,72,4,8,103,54,85,0.125,0.818,0.057999999999999996,-0.7041,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,5,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,16,16,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,3,0,9,1,12,11,3,11,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,5,53,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174851978710176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668619777526568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22996623862869586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722066283204864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360881921828346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23354158117703866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443064522920796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521195772663205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25016922843783485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372216834882712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25256093763638904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677149132303319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kazmcmac,2020/01/01,"I hate fireworks. As a mom of a bad sleeper and currently sick baby, I hate fireworks. Currently, I hate them with a passion.",1.6062499999999993,4.265183791666669,3.7550000000000026,82.39000000000001,86.08333333333334,6.533333333333335,33.0,7.793537801064563,3.0013500000000013,97,6,17,2,3,33,16,24,0.544,0.365,0.091,-0.9423,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25358222027620264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8995418007026468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556973521807988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,artistmichi,2020/01/01,"My husband whines that he doesn't get enough breaks while I've worked without breaks from the day our 2 year old was born. How do I handle this? Hi people. I'm kinda ranting and I need advice and suggestions, please help. Soo my husband is 40 and I'm 30ish now and ever since our daughter is born, as you can expect there has been no rest. My husband is a stay-at-home dad where as I work full time from home. Our agreement was he will take over cooking, washing clothes and prevent our daughter from disturbing me during work hours and once my work hours ends, I make sure she doesn't disturb his break time and do home stuff on holidays / break times etc.

But things are not so easy, he is not creative enough to come up with new games or understanding her well enough (I don't blame hime for this, because I've observed that one of the parents is good in handling the baby and the other is not so good - my parents were the same, dad handled me and my brother well when we were little and my mom was horrible with play time) she gets bored and always calls for me, banging on the door of my work space.

Thing is he's so bad at handling her that she disturbs my work even though I do my best so he gets some rest after my ""work"" hour ends. I even take her to my mom's place on most Sundays (I hate doing this as I end up being more tired by the end of the day - of course he doesn't give me any break once I'm back home in the evening) so he gets either a day or half a day of rest. He refuses to do anything to earn money saying ""I can't concentrate on anything because of her"" fine I said and I took up so many extra freelancing jobs and have been working non-stop for the past freaking 2 years. Some nights I've slept for like 3 - 4 hours and some nights were sleepless because of my work. When I tell him, he says ""don't work so much! Why do you take up so much extra work?!"" I tell him we've been living paycheck to paycheck so we need this money! And he's like ""oh okay I'll do my best so you can get some rest today"" but nope. the same thing repeats.

And he starts making a face and moping around because he didn't get any break for the past 3 days or 2 days or whatever. I'm getting sick of it, I'm short tempered because of this and I've been taking it out on our daughter. I hate it. I hate myself for doing that. I've been controlling as much as possible but past 2 days I was upset at her for the silliest of things (I've never done this unless I'm on periods) I'm actually pissed off at myself for not controlling my temper.

Thing is my husband isn't all so bad, he supports me in many other ways, he helps out a ton when I'm on periods, cooking cleaning and all is his department, he is humorous, when I'm down he lefts my spirits etc, I just wish he'd see how much I'm struggling too and that its not just him. Every conversation I tried to have with him turns into him saying how much less free time he has rather try to understand that I also don't have any free time.

I'm worried that I might just one day get up and leave with our daughter because right now I'm at my lowest of low. I haven't told him but I have been thinking of divorce for a while now because I'm feeling like I'm at my limit. I never expected life/marriage/parenting to be a bed of roses but this is way too much. Only reason I haven't taken any drastic step is because I don't want to put my daughter through that and I push that thought out of my mind once I'm calmer. Its difficult relying on him to be let down majority of the time.

Am I being dramatic guys? Am I wrong? Am I too selfish? I don't know anymore, I don't have anyone to talk to, no friends and family is really not good at discussing these kinds of things. I'm feeling so lost. I'm terribly sorry for the long post. Thank you for taking the time to read this",2.6041370532532326,3.7235834534161536,3.84864677731392,90.97448935953571,74.71428571428572,6.71968231341004,24.625292740046838,7.068036841664632,0.7973675796762043,2980,92,668,29,61,975,318,805,0.12,0.78,0.1,-0.9807,5,0,0,0,1,0,77.0,8,4,0,18,42,44,6,5,23,1,70,8,3,8,6,97,129,61,0,7,22,16,2,3,1,2,3,4,6,1,32,35,2,5,8,6,4,6,26,22,2,3,22,7,90,24,88,99,34,111,1,3,1,0,84,40,1,11,59,423,122,14,0.0,0.0,0.04697161846862839,0.0,0.0,0.04703576529628602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038492560386858776,0.04005115454129194,0.0,0.0,0.13093046319955864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047735768276477485,0.033656252818267764,0.0,0.07921998682100721,0.042849262375926234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03701189984440565,0.08037937878664607,0.2347352070800289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102684900275456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04914996328451951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04146298285508969,0.0,0.0,0.1079722372573571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483384094508405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04925756083973836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705289418938787,0.1492051615295307,0.107363759597074,0.09537570810167016,0.04353975283364345,0.04055477922781425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04537623680951365,0.0,0.04867576315283506,0.0343867766101655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0371880331444653,0.0,0.20118327538808886,0.04617430046954772,0.0,0.12111697375812848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04766000224308842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256640519659722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452610602796534,0.0,0.14484629487331596,0.0,0.18960827996061266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047765341930218634,0.0,0.0,0.05012391691559828,0.026453062496467325,0.0,0.0,0.05096671498873464,0.05229748453494367,0.049220043427574335,0.03399830692102061,0.0705471895711818,0.048242685126530516,0.042503002868458414,0.04259687388015685,0.0,0.0,0.05254369852962156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425933366509211,0.09760018061025542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510623259846062,0.04860138871379915,0.11274738494365402,0.0,0.0,0.21230316627941453,0.07138116464685848,0.07424746523410497,0.04648789731095258,0.0,0.09034056942625786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050508297147107015,0.15378269002421116,0.06523337976119492,0.036607902890432815,0.0,0.0,0.10689371597354827,0.0,0.13784739657702386,0.03336989716532593,0.0,0.050289547392182936,0.052836427779298915,0.0,0.054263596133056174,0.046098848542203266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04838773588510534,0.0,0.0,0.04814679806843426,0.0,0.0308357271261766,0.0494895346813138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04110597861920931,0.045786240062085495,0.11483372324860475,0.0,0.0,0.038356384691150484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039816753918406986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388181741617809,0.034069331838002044,0.051304196961310035,0.0,0.040241989002379436,0.0,0.05031986986032029,0.05510165347786149,0.0,0.0546216344926626,0.04536551083403983,0.0,0.18095303256206668,0.03868810296900208,0.08414207729458277,0.04431511063679006,0.0,0.0,0.19186763743227586,0.030842177788426288,0.047291186980767945,0.038212838679961766,0.22453751807872455,0.055322690593785036,0.04562518808768181,0.04599388224235534,0.05347839219205476,0.06535934373263308,0.05235572239531878,0.0,0.10021790916503584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028390546056323157,0.07641269615469608,0.0,0.0,0.08655608401744137,0.0,0.04343324284902832,0.0,0.05535146276983698,0.04639923892246405,0.0,0.3854615552424493,0.04888218232693084,0.0,0.0,0.05262672393795045,0.0,0.061993142577777084
parenting,JordieRenee,2020/01/01,"I need space from my own kid. Tonight is the first New Years that I have made plans since my oldest son, 5, was born. It was just going to the Moose lodge with my parents and sisters, but I was really excited, especially since my 3rd is due in May. Unfortunately, my oldest has issues with me leaving him for some reason and wouldn't let me go. I can't just leave him with my MIL, who is one of his favorite people, when I know he would have been miserable and made her miserable. My 3 year old went without any issues and was so excited. I am really upset about it because I am a SAHM and NEVER get a break from the boys and was looking forward to it. All week he said he would stay with her. Then all of the sudden he said he didn't want to. The. I asked him why, he said he just loves me and doesn't want me to leave him. My husband got me tix to concert in March and we usually go somewhere in February for our anniversary but it looks like that isn't going to happen if he won't let me leave. I feel guilty for saying it but I need a break really bad. I just don't know what to do. I feel smothered and trapped but guilty for feeling that way. There is just no winning.",2.4607692307692304,3.633470461538465,3.859757085020245,90.54445344129557,75.15384615384616,7.143319838056681,23.121457489878544,7.669130373188453,0.7977497975708499,912,25,208,12,19,301,129,247,0.149,0.743,0.10800000000000001,-0.9209,1,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,3,9,10,1,3,8,0,28,1,0,3,3,45,54,17,0,8,11,4,3,1,0,5,0,5,0,2,10,14,0,0,6,1,0,6,10,5,0,2,14,10,35,5,24,33,4,31,0,2,2,1,30,5,0,3,19,136,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510033989622186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324285243238243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220953657398558,0.06732082590455397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751944206815705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393689634892256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05769830791804459,0.0,0.2510535388403879,0.0,0.08832584344028233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765828485627304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23053320738391844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138559270215075,0.0,0.0,0.4677435671439054,0.0,0.2258568037284753,0.0,0.05395350362371398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547703196965165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967289844124616,0.20899462968954108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377394828265812,0.08517513402538696,0.10665988048303084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588411713004303,0.0,0.07483436433243404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262622778853405,0.0,0.0,0.07656249151424055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21224459440826154,0.1135467112862106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31515008261981514,0.08782322500837188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270777814504327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771019625966113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162976976038273,0.0,0.1302761546283996,0.08765904149988138,0.08858518377454452,0.0,0.0,0.10237537776561234,0.09965140949010774,0.0,0.0,0.10645646639749468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690128394446312,0.0,0.0,0.14223446446469756
parenting,alphachimp57,2020/01/01,"Not creepy at all My daughter (4) tells me. ""I didn't get much sleep last night because I yawned and then something in my room yawned.""  She sleeps alone in her room. She says sone weird stuff like this some times.",1.273571428571426,3.776315404761906,0.3288571428571423,107.66614285714287,85.42857142857143,3.3600000000000003,15.542857142857144,3.1291,-1.5805200000000001,165,3,39,0,5,45,36,42,0.086,0.856,0.057999999999999996,-0.0516,0,1,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,4,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,8,1,3,1,3,9,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,5,20,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30296136053290945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831680591708027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282905158283142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384419448615279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290995847045132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150350486005065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745091711671249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23262276952800365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5854603057900105,0.0,0.0,0.2251953398186781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348641551012733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556744112319333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705701225240417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jetpuffedpanda,2020/01/01,"2 adults, 2 babies, 2 bedrooms. How can we make this work?? We just found out we're expecting number 2 a whole lot sooner than we were hoping. We're happy but a tad underprepared lol. 

Our son will be 20 months old when baby 2 is born. We plan on having baby sleep in our room until he/she is 6 months old then we would like to move baby into our son's room. Is it even possible to have a 6 month old and a 2+a bit year old share a small room? 

Ideally we would've been announcing our second pregnancy a year from now but, hey, life happens and we have to work with what we've got. My husband is handling finding us a new place but we arent in a position yet to buy and finding anouther rental in the area literally may take a year or two. We have too many reasons for not wanting to leave the area for us to realistically consider it so we need to figure out a way to make our current place work for a while. 

Any tips for when you have to pack the kids in one room like sardines?",1.9964961636828635,3.4139916618357478,3.695055413469735,90.25849104859337,76.82608695652175,6.802955385052573,22.321398124467176,7.510576382923642,0.6627899403239557,762,21,174,10,17,255,124,207,0.0,0.877,0.12300000000000001,0.9694,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,17,1,0,5,9,6,0,0,14,1,17,2,1,4,0,39,26,14,0,6,6,3,0,2,0,3,1,0,5,2,4,17,0,0,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,4,0,19,6,25,18,3,39,0,0,0,0,25,17,0,4,22,103,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101708148216866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006648465968346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786887057029174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177776787326819,0.0,0.0,0.13062730694640745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528454950897797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535224251371923,0.1268232952767252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832968325872276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614862577327846,0.0,0.0,0.08414981616242814,0.11640840521817188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012858121167602,0.0,0.0,0.1590494234668584,0.12078597435531105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852814731684031,0.12662352052620862,0.0,0.08833839720970489,0.0,0.1150630242141794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5000559503718672,0.0,0.08073015117062225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489451123418986,0.0,0.0,0.13430879512666766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249243043399324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922279812580358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957601600282672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637930227851265,0.0,0.28661370426928856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026994717532319,0.0945652139212485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301193678588008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601989383553212,0.0,0.0,0.16926267076222576,0.0,0.0,0.23016050019945536
parenting,goosegoose125,2020/01/01,"For the parents out there suffering with PPD, please please talk to someone! When I had my son 3 years ago I suffered with postpartum depression. At first, I thought it must be baby blues, because it got a *bit* better after a couple weeks. 

I was still EXTREMELY anxious over everything. I couldn't sleep when baby slept at all, I was constantly crying, mood swings, no sex drive. I thought maybe because I was a FTM, all parents must go through this.

He grew to be about 4 months old, i had no desire to play or hold him. I only did it because I had to- fuck sometimes I wouldn't even do it.

When he was 1 and 1/2 was my lowest point, and he was a late talker. The combo of my lack of patience and understanding coupled with his inability to tell me what was wrong made me full blown despressed. 

Until he was a little over 2, I couldn't even fathom the thought of having another baby. It was so so so hard to decide. 

In the mix of all of this, my depression almost faded away. It was still there most days, but they were getting better. 

I got pregnant.

I stayed up all night the first night I found out. I was fucking terrified. 

When I had her, those familiar feelings started coming back. The anxiety, sadness, anger. I couldn't go through it again, I went to my doctor and just broke down. He said my best course of action would be therapy and some support groups. (Antidepressants can transfer through breast milk) 

Taking care of a baby when you're not depressed is a whole new ball game. I can't believe motherhood can be like this. Of course it's still hard but every day I don't go to bed feeling guilty or sad. I never wish PPD on anybody, it makes you feel completely helpless and am so thankful that I got help. 

You are not alone, please please talk to somebody (dads too!!!) If anybody wants to send me a pm, I'm all ears. I wish I had somebody to just talk to at my lowest points. Happy New Years and I wish all you moms and dads the best!",2.7360601915184692,4.663398320413439,3.54575847393221,89.91446990424078,76.13178294573643,6.310047119623044,24.819045447636427,7.1686216300943375,0.9845893600851192,1518,52,312,17,34,482,208,387,0.177,0.6759999999999999,0.147,-0.7926,4,1,0,0,0,0,58.0,0,3,1,6,22,24,3,0,15,0,38,9,4,2,9,58,71,23,0,14,9,6,5,1,0,4,1,2,1,0,15,14,1,1,9,3,0,9,11,13,0,2,29,8,44,10,42,31,14,57,0,9,1,4,28,16,2,6,32,208,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055447341632963,0.0,0.0797009841354658,0.08243443897674207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346029649297076,0.060888497291718136,0.08991753834387357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747803296929376,0.061202174526028635,0.0,0.14555762982490014,0.0,0.0,0.08967415840170401,0.16705607846325934,0.14078724308259202,0.08689504170223103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115046158576239,0.0,0.0,0.06856240084229275,0.0834518423215223,0.08601185615973678,0.0,0.0,0.17613648415408467,0.08742927382461446,0.10266191914371567,0.0,0.20566023974710285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146690199912915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514097281002403,0.0,0.06706061257594183,0.0,0.07153313862436195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207339759992514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540368627327,0.0,0.08726971682411146,0.0,0.14716506145428174,0.04158410532754976,0.0,0.13570376470339918,0.0,0.19097359919024715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472832613812735,0.14259955296666055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05334957161359384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978447426436025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03888516420040791,0.07977318773503722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531290784338715,0.05312900675769714,0.0,0.07996195864747398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932184670292984,0.06353044642951558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06138709907456667,0.15374300787226755,0.0,0.14938544954596153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351956073600462,0.0,0.0,0.06053413283703205,0.0,0.0,0.17675741824254615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494772533022873,0.15048239682740588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571125683768315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965057287513215,0.0,0.06743896830484215,0.0,0.07871960287762317,0.0,0.0563363999659626,0.08483564555031739,0.19068943752951134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032129723603398,0.0,0.0,0.059844099473060124,0.1919217365180235,0.0695678703500007,0.07327862516473982,0.09102163696132387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956407251649046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285921545688091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04694606766831443,0.0,0.06384477717740764,0.0,0.0,0.07378359341143738,0.0,0.08886284444563151,0.2745843822353189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654064870361511,0.0870225510369311,0.0,0.10251068298066768
parenting,lucky011,2020/01/01,"Co slept babies. Help Moms! My son had horrible acid reflux the moment he was born and he had to be coslept to be watched to prevent any choking or what not. Still coslept him and my son is now a year and 4 weeks. How do I start to transition him out my bed? And create a more specific bed time? (First time mom here, just looking for some guidance) He has his own room, and crib just waiting for him to be in. Help!",0.8185917312661495,2.912997732558144,1.9948062015503891,97.78029715762275,83.30232558139534,5.217571059431528,22.34625322997416,6.42735559955562,0.24292144702842355,319,11,74,3,9,101,61,86,0.071,0.826,0.10400000000000001,0.2603,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,3,0,9,1,1,1,0,14,13,7,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,3,8,0,9,6,3,13,0,0,2,0,13,3,0,2,10,47,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058304305907328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23838480074046986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756981024291832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235343656361531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6564626503081601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836596550580868,0.0,0.22381204342813912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268379445901117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22480369485716906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18047506244990644
parenting,OSUBeavBane,2020/01/01,"Am I reading too much into this? My sister(47) and I (37).  She has a daughter (4) and I have a daughter(5) and a son(0).  We live in separate states and see each other once or twice a year.

I am not fond of the man she married.  I don’t feel he is respectful of her and, perhaps more important here, he verbally bullies her regularly to which she does nothing.

Mind you, my sister is intelligent, has a master’s in sociology and did college level research papers on domestic violence.  I believe my sister fully understands the abuse and chooses to remain in the relationship because of the money (he is rich), social status (his parents are high society) and career advancement (she sells luxury goods on commission).  

Now to why this is being posted to Parenting, every time they visit they offer to “give us a break,” by taking my daughter to their hotel for a slumber party or to play in the pool.  They have also offered that, when she is old enough, she should come and stay with them for the summer.  Today, they offered to take my daughter to brunch tomorrow morning but only invited her and not my wife and son (I have the flu).

I realize particularly with this most recent offer there is probably no harm and there may be no harm with any of it sometimes an offer to be nice is just that, however, it also sounds a awful lot like grooming.  

I feel like some things, particularly the brunch, would be fine if I knew my sister was going to protect the children first, but the fact that she allows herself to be openly bullied makes me not want to trust any such situation.

Am I being overly concerned?  
Is the bullying concern valid or am I allowing my dislike for my brother-in-law cloud my judgement?  
Does it sound like grooming?  

I am trying to gain clarity from anonymous internet strangers before I say anything to anyone as I worry even implying grooming could damage my relationship with my sister.",6.579393085787451,7.259747811267609,7.422618437900128,70.58673175416135,65.25352112676056,9.834827144686301,34.44622279129321,9.800150414767053,3.5486056338028167,1503,65,248,30,22,503,211,355,0.139,0.768,0.09300000000000001,-0.9725,3,0,0,0,2,0,52.0,2,1,6,4,11,14,0,0,20,1,32,3,0,3,1,50,44,22,0,5,10,11,2,3,0,3,1,3,0,2,12,21,2,1,6,4,3,4,6,3,0,2,3,6,49,11,37,31,7,29,0,1,1,0,48,11,0,8,13,193,61,5,0.0,0.15291482102030465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20641823460437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755302505079141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024164955933868,0.0,0.10620526187806173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867368810683979,0.0,0.1098204286488774,0.1454062582186701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117363506560594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304379041163107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22588229303394386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335332735837852,0.0,0.08524281528961647,0.0,0.10873849191691216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051307833316875,0.09220038431151564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097782444849617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380597044240395,0.07334768828018408,0.10824928095417913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363588198932003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18915637439065586,0.0,0.11396221411770345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097220712502796,0.0,0.0,0.08614845361475264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031366005271158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948738412996378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383640910040693,0.0,0.1354266048451548,0.1374445307027254,0.0,0.09815583337749507,0.0,0.0,0.2866113856782262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360366312011348,0.0,0.13914834929893388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909477778636178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274310343063476,0.2771239642608766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263357467778884,0.0,0.0,0.10284399289344698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450686814455759,0.0,0.13156026658793488,0.0,0.0,0.12764349403336395,0.0,0.0,0.13756063065324087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19407389455194946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857416311932377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525583778144893,0.0,0.12233364946238855,0.0,0.0,0.08762316803948053,0.0,0.0,0.13435585784422266,0.15524311166547694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612284474587691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645644277666788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106654478327126,0.0,0.09168041620664652,0.0,0.0,0.08311031352470408
parenting,heybeautifulpeople0,2020/01/01,"What do you do? What do you do after the kiddos go to bed?
Personally me(mom) and dad cuddle, watch tv, and eat snacks",0.2324999999999981,2.5502272500000025,2.7716666666666683,89.44000000000004,89.0,4.866666666666667,12.166666666666668,6.42735559955562,-0.7794833333333333,90,1,19,1,3,31,18,24,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,5,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5466280801604134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036026788976887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.625657874150089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4664497613465773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dr-prunesquallor,2020/01/01,"What do you do when your toddler won't sleep? There's a lot of literature on how to handle poor sleep habits for toddlers - but they all focus on long term fixes (none of which have really worked all that well for us anyway), things like establishing routines, no screentime, etc.  I'm wondering what people do if their toddler won't sleep - I mean like right now, this instant.  Do you just give up trying and let them stay up until they're tired?  Is it worth persisting in trying to keep them in bed?  The next morning, do you wake them up at the same time, even if they haven't slept enough - or should they sleep in to make up for the lost sleep?",4.300329861111108,5.362626359375003,4.245729166666667,89.95413194444444,70.5625,7.251388888888887,22.815972222222207,7.3871296695380915,0.6143618055555558,506,11,108,5,9,155,89,128,0.09300000000000001,0.823,0.084,-0.2755,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,4,7,3,8,4,0,0,4,0,12,8,7,2,2,16,20,8,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,7,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,5,1,1,0,2,0,13,3,19,14,8,19,0,1,0,0,13,11,0,5,9,76,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973436989426392,0.16161684416224434,0.09571399145596128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901422139637734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880576562365634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818385865298955,0.0,0.14159481977654506,0.0,0.0,0.12824387583900715,0.0,0.0,0.15819018947993746,0.1232002644973516,0.0,0.0,0.096730877848319,0.0,0.0,0.1578532701942182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541171374387795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004647655804628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928352904980908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375532610946967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7250907089672645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445849579565407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627408160520247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450021963671843,0.16655673567853507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19677349061221586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431308214143754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029462822874352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715249506275392,0.1054987444518274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Flewtea,2020/01/01,"Our New Years Eve tradition It’s 9:30pm. Our girls are snoozing, completely convinced that they stayed up till midnight, including fancy drink toast. Starting around 5pm every year, I turn all the clocks forward behind their backs a little at a time. Time for piano practice! Wow, you practiced so much today! Half hour dinner? It’s now 8:30! Well, since you’re staying up all the way till midnight, I guess you can take a nice long bath. Crazy, it’s already 10pm! I make my husband and I drinks and them a mocktail version for our toast. Cue YouTube fireworks celebrations!

And now we’re going to have fondue, our real drinks, and play board games. I’m going to miss this tradition when they wise up. Though I admit I’m looking forward a teeny bit to being caught too.",2.542884770346493,5.320602506849318,2.873110394842868,89.76040692989525,82.15068493150685,4.8051571313456884,23.65672844480257,6.2272716619740125,0.6919118452860591,610,22,111,5,17,187,104,146,0.037000000000000005,0.8220000000000001,0.142,0.9429,0,0,3,0,0,0,25.0,4,2,4,0,9,7,0,0,7,0,4,4,0,1,2,11,17,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,5,4,0,1,6,0,5,0,1,1,1,1,1,16,6,13,15,5,31,0,1,1,0,14,8,0,1,19,61,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087884511878166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459147188930429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603673113701222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894735102109488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185659651836147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817084207738414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810130869651913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630774738163036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056542846926504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614184080201925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428095721055272,0.0,0.14505525960786467,0.13764318231445424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941124873673493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204927658419001,0.0,0.0,0.15830537311343074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865655513526006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558810894494971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116016395670998,0.3494126648886586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323997854381667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104081778299048,0.0,0.1911545672826207,0.0,0.155367586864146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828709509004692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010418920928934,0.0,0.0,0.14737484343468302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111054303145899
parenting,Autumn-Avery96,2020/01/01,"Does anyone else find children incredibly annoying and unbearable? 23 year old female here, no kids yet but do want some one day. I would say about half of my friends at this point do have at least one child, and I’ve noticed that every time I visit them or babysit I can’t help but feel incredibly annoyed at everything they do. From the way they speak, and how incredibly incapable they are of listening or staying out of trouble... it makes me worried that I won’t enjoy my own kids one day and that maybe kids aren’t for me?? Is this normal and does the feeling pass when it’s your own kids?? I guess it also doesn’t help that I’m not great with kids and never know what to say. I’m trying to gain more experience in the area by babysitting and volunteering with kids but I can’t help but find the entire experience miserable. Help.",5.710000000000001,5.936233734939762,6.096048192771086,80.92334939759041,67.07228915662651,9.531566265060242,29.853012048192767,9.3871,2.3391946987951813,664,22,136,12,10,214,101,166,0.121,0.713,0.166,0.8623,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,4,1,6,7,2,1,4,0,12,0,0,2,1,30,21,16,0,3,7,0,2,0,1,2,0,4,0,8,10,10,0,0,5,0,0,2,8,4,0,4,0,6,15,3,16,19,5,19,0,1,0,0,23,7,0,4,8,87,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835129850357187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348132687911198,0.1516380470321589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908886608959684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259022297528802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363057153845702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469190757640805,0.0,0.1330080827982066,0.28953440558486737,0.0,0.0,0.1496611219646765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27052892731628264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143403288117958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631646659581662,0.16303283387170112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967908790185864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133401011489677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878760342004064,0.0,0.14868055590766213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414262694844125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450033719667286,0.0,0.16849293316026198,0.15529552964227195,0.0,0.3008550921108556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399028162457531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353826318970459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577426460601717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629689269922752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047867850769474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729110137704478,0.11747129472783276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029578947041644,0.0,0.10513118016149164,0.0,0.0,0.0953037268586296
parenting,TheChrisCrash,2020/01/01,"Toddler Sleep Regression. Please Help. So our daughter, who is 2.5 years old now has been an amazing sleeper. The girl loves her sleep. Since she was about 6 months, we did sleep training and it only took about 3 days for her to get it. In her crib we would lay her down, kiss and hug her goodnight, cut on the star lights and she'd sleep all night with no fussing. When she was old enough, about 6 months ago after her 2nd birthday, we moved her to a big kid bed. Basically just a real mattress on a box spring on the floor (yeah, we're those parents, just didn't want a fall risk). She took to it right away and we read a book or two to her and sing a few lullabies and she sleeps from 7pm to 6 or 7am.

but.... the past 5 or 6 days, she's been NOT wanting to go to bed, she'll get in bed mostly fine, but after we're reading a book and singing our songs, she'll sit up and start trying to stall. She'll ask to go to the potty, she'll ask for another book, a different color stars, some more water.. etc. etc.. 

When we tell her we love her, it's time to go to bed, she'll get really clingy and start crying.. like.. CRYING CRYING and just sit up in her bed. The past few nights we've been trying to revert back to our sleep training ways and just letting her cry it out.. it works, but it takes her 30 minutes to finally go to sleep. She'll cry for 10 seconds, and be quiet for 20, cry for 10 seconds, and be quiet for 20.. etc. To us, it sounds like yelling and not really crying, almost like she's crying out for attention and wanting us to come back into the room. 

The past 2 nights we've tried to alleviate some of the stalling.. we take her to the potty right before she gets in bed, we give her water and have it next to us while we read her a book in case she wants more, and we even put a night light in her room and none of these have seem to have helped her go to sleep. 

I'm thinking it's just normal toddler sleep regression and partially of her imagination vastly expanding in the past few weeks and she may be a little scared of the dark (hence the night light). We haven't changed our bedtime routine that we've been doing forever.

Anybody else been through something like this? What helped you and your kid?

TL;DR - Great sleeping toddler now tries to stall to go to sleep and  will cry for 30 minutes before finally going to sleep. help.",3.5525252525252533,4.185181345679016,4.1873812196034415,91.2720033670034,71.96296296296295,7.20778151889263,24.192293303404412,7.106945922332613,0.6732230452674894,1818,46,413,16,33,578,215,486,0.078,0.831,0.091,0.7052,2,0,1,0,1,0,72.0,18,2,0,1,16,14,1,2,25,1,30,18,12,0,1,68,60,32,0,6,13,2,0,4,0,9,0,5,9,3,16,38,2,0,4,10,0,13,6,3,0,3,11,9,55,11,64,35,14,75,0,0,1,4,71,25,0,9,38,245,71,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299604058213369,0.0,0.04856994294469997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050860875593724465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068974587372912,0.0,0.045571286050853296,0.0745934609732886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254699160204425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131100484291432,0.041782067476127616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47951620656609,0.06256238375838133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050676558168225874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04051902938892857,0.0,0.0,0.05011779743071169,0.16228499033656846,0.032036562069631416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626794528668992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013657557719783,0.04652964174392032,0.1929623549137788,0.0,0.0,0.05347604409591457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004535276464158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049598823674992784,0.0,0.09478679477277267,0.048613943966138135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875538559539006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743116830497983,0.0515522810875606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051584759599364365,0.2275894971661664,0.04752381079453307,0.0,0.0,0.10179398268958252,0.0,0.0,0.0368896245133467,0.0,0.0,0.053858166321391066,0.0,0.18521096260147565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05324303845643898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048760110984642745,0.0,0.0,0.14555195698429152,0.055208390634361316,0.062146056204599225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284463172090549,0.0,0.0,0.048561158889232736,0.0,0.0,0.04415639568199019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04012316973705221,0.0,0.5824706666330389,0.0,0.0,0.037340897526730685,0.0,0.0,0.06866303501110738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293823353656867,0.0,0.04239480265313629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0310795284065909,0.0,0.0,0.028283185040243287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777988640578302,0.1317246527861453,0.0,0.047381548695720095,0.0,0.1750337163028776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144361190949668,0.038500370775621115,0.03890713795394527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03531163023803297,0.0,0.0,0.034455987104541924,0.0,0.0,0.0312351100654584
parenting,msptech3,2020/01/01,"Here is my weekday to day, now give me yours. We have a 2y LO.

I’m out the door in the am and back by 5pm or earlier.

On the way home I typically stop by to pick up some fresh food like a rotisserie chicken, etc.

I come home I play with the LO, change dipper, maybe bathe the LO. Mom makes dinner and then I feed it dinner. We then get ready for bed time, I brush the teeth, I get it dressed for bed, mom reads stories while I clean up the kitchen and try to eat. Mom puts LO down, I am then summoned for “I’m thirsty” or “I’m hungry” or “cover me...”  etc. LO falls asleep and then I am allowed to go to sleep too.

Rinse and repeat.

Weekends are different and much more relaxing.

Anyone else want to share?",-0.3134352941176459,1.699842480000001,1.539176470588238,99.7431176470588,87.53333333333332,4.862745098039216,18.15686274509804,6.2272716619740125,-0.42177254901960826,532,14,132,5,17,174,95,150,0.015,0.8540000000000001,0.131,0.9348,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,9,0,6,9,3,3,0,20,16,14,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,11,6,1,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,15,4,18,16,5,23,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,4,13,73,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104048841253919,0.16178359435943385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141264019042187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670335304868774,0.13601382905956247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183016164689652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649682061319305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615675092078245,0.13190224107780066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521926074654281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092904005011907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498877880971985,0.15146868311330405,0.08973620346018013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167660699450749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714024029982372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053971207902659,0.0,0.15862822831659806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5547793171164628,0.0,0.0,0.11607207432893575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872956512216027,0.0,0.0,0.15793920049438576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801050241011613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200852028219542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920707022820633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720133952934233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931314298276146,0.1253308695745382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Captain-Jamerica,2020/01/01,"My BM tells my daughter about every issue she has with me. My wife and I have had custody of my daughter (6)for almost 3 full years now. My BM is TOXIC. To set the tone of who she is, she has 4 kids with 4 different men and part of the reason she lost custody of my daughter was because she attacked a previous BF’s daughter and tried to strangle her leaving marks that lasted days on the little girl. She was 6 and has Cerebral Palsy. 
I’ve seen the confession video, I’m friends with the father of that child now, there isn’t no world where she didn’t do it. She was convicted and the courts let her walk away with 30 days house arrest.

She is on her 3rd or 4th bf in the last 3 years now, this guys lasted at least 2 but I mean I can see why. They are 2 psychotic peas in a pod. 

To make a long story short she was supposed to take my daughter to a dentist appointment and an hour before she tells us she has a flat tire. Every time she has an appointment that falls on a day when she is with our daughter she always has an issue with her car. This is something that has been consistent for years now, years! To make a long story short she was supposed to take my daughter to a dentist appointment and an hour before she tells us she has a flat tire. Every time she has an appointment that falls on a day when she is with her daughter she always has an issue with her car. This is something that has been consistent for years now, years!

We did not believe her so we flat out said this is always an issue anytime there’s an appointment, her boyfriend then proceeded to send us pictures showing that the cars tire is flat according to the dashboard indications. The screenshots were displaying the time in the car as 845 and when the screenshots were sent it was only 825. We smelled shit, and we said so. They obviously did not like this and what ensued was at least an hour or two of me and her boyfriend Going back-and-forth talking shit to each other for lack of better words. I would say why we had a doubt, He didn’t like the way it was said and would tell me to grow up and watch my mouth essentially  do so with his own little je ne sais quoi of fuck you And then I would respond back with how laughable it was that he was telling me to grow up as he was acting just as childish. It was a pissing contest very clearly and when I tried to end it he just had to have the last word so I kept going and he kept going. But in the end I said that it’s really unfortunate that this is all happened and that I wasn’t interested in continuing to do this the rest of the day and that I was sorry that they were offended by our accusation but we have our reasons. Even then he still replied back that the messages above all spoke for themselves and he agreed.

Cut forward to today when I’m talking with my daughter on the phone, she mentions with a sassy attitude that I was being mean to her mom or rude or whatever, and I just simply told her “I’m really sorry that your mommy had to involve you in the conversation between the adults, it’s not something you should have to worry about. And I would still tell you don’t even worry about it, it’s kind a like how you have an issue with adults who smoke it’s OK to have an issue with them but it’s not necessarily something that you need to give your input on”

Now I’ve been really battling with this next part, because I wanna say something to them. I feel like I have every right to say something to the effect of, “hey I think it’s really inappropriate that Kennedy has any involvement in the conversations between the adults especially when there’s a disagreement.” I mean if I wanted to I could talk with my daughter all the time about what she saw happened to that little girl and continuously bring it up so she remembers what her mom did, it’s not like she hasn’t talked about it before, but when she does I usually just offer to listen to how she feels. Could sit there and go in and tell her that yes your mother is a monster yes your mother did do this, but I don’t. So if I wanted to say something to the effect of hay grow the fuck up and stop sharing this kind of stuff with our daughter how should I go about that?

TLDR: My BM tells my daughter about our disagreements in length to make her feel some type of way about me, so how can I say something without triggering her psychotic responses from her and her bf?",5.596085055643876,5.370428065315322,5.924011658717543,83.60259936406999,67.33333333333333,8.901642819289878,29.4613142554319,8.374686772538922,1.858938500264971,3454,107,727,43,51,1108,298,888,0.102,0.852,0.045,-0.9935,1,0,9,0,0,0,54.0,14,10,5,4,48,24,10,1,55,3,82,11,4,13,5,121,125,63,0,15,22,18,3,5,4,6,5,11,0,9,54,51,0,3,13,2,0,20,14,12,0,1,43,19,117,12,106,72,13,109,1,1,4,2,153,33,5,9,59,515,171,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04894698518897637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201803662930673,0.0,0.0,0.033240569128714766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05560888123307317,0.045925050105852065,0.11275878068081385,0.0,0.05959447241849505,0.0,0.1247816899828389,0.055071838205432655,0.0,0.043231028930883694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805456275602335,0.0,0.0,0.15762011881994106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051069953796581996,0.0,0.0,0.04277585176811951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658762740081971,0.0,0.0,0.06457051559287796,0.0,0.1647364757724581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414668964434926,0.034920399640890665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0377651268098073,0.09037888504731983,0.0,0.04689084539137939,0.13890021210896378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839960267524426,0.08645012720960996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444130032855951,0.05640179369173212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061126631556693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180350604552156,0.0,0.1593772592928835,0.0,0.05175762985774721,0.0,0.049983852988557766,0.0,0.11940326564558275,0.14697398335411954,0.0,0.08651580671320935,0.0,0.0,0.05335908544339808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978847903228151,0.0,0.0,0.15973631790006798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449702847500445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03624443815364228,0.0,0.0,0.051985205479071234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03717599394212825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586612336633763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252569761534688,0.10051505255670304,0.0,0.0,0.05537233259257916,0.04174387199143139,0.1859870518423784,0.1943595718762067,0.0,0.0,0.03895160914264794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035072336572236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30104616104078263,0.0,0.10943593922055524,0.0,0.0,0.07807242010618935,0.04086647475681068,0.0,0.0,0.05595673540834205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350444369863321,0.1571539004474288,0.3417912645959287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031320794803687865,0.0,0.0,0.11401097512822435,0.16854360790885,0.04633321173935368,0.046707627386752666,0.0,0.0663736071945507,0.0,0.04774936558769928,0.0,0.17639248061713705,0.0,0.053835212669031615,0.04033171725249121,0.05766223601294655,0.07759848844253428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821450263759546,0.0,0.0,0.04711927449828555,0.0,0.0,0.09928149774123836,0.0,0.13889385807167062,0.0,0.0,0.18886550533823976
parenting,mae_p,2020/01/01,"Mom guilt Ever had a situation with your kid where you overthink how BAD it could’ve been? And then you feel guilty about it for a long time.

Basically situations that turned out fine, but if one thing had been different it could’ve been horrible.

Ex: my toddler tonight opening a door to follow me out to the car.... I didn’t know she was following me until I turned around and saw her standing in the garage. It’s winter, it’s dark out and we live on a busy street.

I saw her, scooped her up and brought her back in with me. But I feel such mom guilt if something else had happened since life happens so quickly.",3.1770731707317097,4.835093414634149,3.597243902439025,91.17976829268294,74.20325203252034,6.871219512195122,26.121138211382114,7.554174236665415,1.1266006504065045,482,17,105,6,10,150,84,123,0.113,0.875,0.012,-0.9015,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,3,0,0,9,4,0,2,6,0,8,1,0,1,1,21,20,12,0,2,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,12,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,3,0,1,11,4,17,1,15,9,0,25,0,0,2,0,13,11,0,2,9,70,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585035809107589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691061027329632,0.14866556228309286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843192633962419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860259174151072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873917817826832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105777213983305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180056372863561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149007004955768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785244597586933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576303751992696,0.0,0.0,0.15722273338119022,0.15756997136553128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170635213065706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065230197369667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728603776049431,0.4002746840513601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707274074246326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828950257880805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382325940658273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.387337798631044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,funkydunk-,2020/01/01,"Autistic 18 year old I’m a lone parent and not sure how to handle this situation. 

My 18 year old is on the spectrum, he more like a 12-14 year old but has the legal rights as an adult in my country. 

He keeps going to see a friend who is several miles away, drinks alcohol and walks back late at night via a very dangerous pathway (many miles long) that’s known for muggings and rapes. 

One of my friends was mugged on that path just a couple of months ago. 

I’m terrified for his safety. 

Because I don’t drive I got him a bus pass, but he refuses to use it - he “prefers to walk”.  

I’ve punished him by restricting his access to the services I provide, like internet access, but it doesn’t make any difference. 

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. 

Thank you.",3.323235294117648,4.821573039215687,4.344591503267973,86.62316176470591,73.50980392156862,7.714379084967319,27.12908496732026,8.344100000000001,1.7149045751633991,597,22,125,10,12,194,109,153,0.152,0.693,0.155,-0.1492,1,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,0,3,10,3,0,10,0,8,3,0,3,1,20,18,9,0,2,6,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,6,3,2,3,3,1,0,5,3,4,0,1,3,1,11,6,16,13,1,25,0,1,1,1,15,8,0,1,14,64,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810744703185874,0.13435312161926186,0.16197676337988798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20613863217738004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240019439558885,0.11654403752598474,0.0,0.0923925443492862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770365741023194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15835304113212773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847588149050614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341973013288169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613781437501163,0.0,0.12122028061293227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471782973149068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097178685156442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809388950221294,0.0,0.0,0.1341301497315332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117073462241144,0.15366299972985298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097764156362036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223337301778682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4771255382321936,0.0,0.10270428552433042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829486324782886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294355797697201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077758654916013,0.0,0.0,0.17122517368293538,0.0,0.0,0.1703652759477991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284810612949256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954057853646948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032558511759325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309033933228739,0.0,0.12505689953141352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766734246436303,0.0,0.0,0.29280844128419803
parenting,throwaway1342769593,2020/01/01,Should I take my baby to a funeral My old friend was killed in a fight a few days ago and his family contacted me with funeral details I have my daughter that day she is 4 months (I’m 15 just in case that’s something u should know) I don’t know whether to ask my ex to take her that day ask my parents or bring her any advice is welcomed very thankfully,3.4606578947368405,3.8379069078947374,4.777473684210528,87.8833157894737,72.02631578947368,8.71157894736842,28.35789473684211,8.841846274778883,1.8923610526315784,279,10,64,5,5,93,54,76,0.154,0.736,0.11,-0.5279,1,0,1,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,16,3,3,2,3,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,13,3,6,13,1,9,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,6,37,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147094698211744,0.19477000035984915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941826799211108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108201964020076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42510689387279343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713403271914071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975641471641742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24308946982645074,0.0,0.2415065636961738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753797381623465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305609281301941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24397490866070784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915247372197706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304066974498901,0.0,0.0,0.20229019024047176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129338621368501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,utatheist,2020/01/01,"3, Almost 4 Year Old STILL Won't Poop On the Potty I am so done with this shit. Literally! We have been trying to potty train our 3 year old daughter (she turns 4 in May) since Sept. She is good about going pee on the toilet, but only if she isn't playing and if WE are the ones to take her. Once in a while she will tell us she has to go, but those instances are few and far between. The big issue has been her pooping. She REFUSES to poop in the toilet. It has nothing to do with her needing to be alone or need privacy (she just pooped in her pants for the second time today and she did it while sitting in my husbands lap while we played games). 
If I put her in Pull-Ups will she have a regression and just go back to going in the Pull-Ups like they are a diaper? I know undies aren't all that expensive, but I am getting sick of having to buy a new package every other week. My mother calls me high maintenance because I won't wash the poop out of daughter's underwear and then put them in the washer. I'm sorry, but wiping poop from her butt with a diaper wipe/toilet paper and touching it with my hands are 2 completely different things. That may make me high maintenance, but I am NOT touching poop with my bare hands. 

I am at the end of my rope here. She is extremely smart (tested into a preschool for 4 year olds when she had just turned 3) and knows that she needs to go on the toilet and most of the time has no issues with peeing, but she flat out refuses to poop on the toilet. I have tried everything that I can think of, and everything tons if other people have suggested. Nothing is working!! Help!!

tl;dr 3, almost 4 year old daughter who we've been potty training for 3 months still refuses to poop in the toilet and still has accidents where she pees her pants because she doesn't want to stop playing to go potty.",4.3935400000000016,4.7901603040000005,5.293083333333332,84.94362500000003,69.96,8.276666666666667,26.025,8.212053250817874,1.4507799999999995,1434,39,300,19,24,470,181,375,0.071,0.89,0.04,-0.8525,1,1,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,0,2,1,12,7,1,0,20,0,39,18,16,1,1,55,58,27,0,8,15,5,4,1,0,6,2,0,0,0,13,22,0,4,3,4,2,8,7,1,0,2,6,4,45,6,47,45,4,56,0,0,0,1,43,22,2,10,26,208,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591322491995375,0.1013161691764742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522062314267333,0.0,0.11926521351451976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988924862661132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256661026250556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220526663871796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010792303095736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664303458511285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242094509479289,0.0,0.1758358197023655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110900617164439,0.0,0.3335738255331162,0.08205013592512002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655693699161379,0.2067128688191828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20420569587048246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075230319643867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779186858656302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529828435369818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808218917005988,0.0,0.0,0.21760578521875173,0.0,0.0944790356351029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877295462769517,0.0,0.4105993587200261,0.10417937492902646,0.06628807891472523,0.07439956551652252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781884933048493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668029261085707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100414937517217,0.08092102955676171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950596697665277,0.0,0.0,0.23436713529836206,0.08178525020290531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355147898970918,0.0,0.08550249397119454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498992355269832,0.06268167378803731,0.0,0.0,0.11408393043719856,0.0,0.09272572046786844,0.0,0.0,0.13283215896597508,0.21280885770342095,0.0,0.0,0.11767023578644115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057699133918957236,0.0,0.07846851784077216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121704224555714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519818131399069
parenting,Beagle_Gal,2020/01/01,"Brushing a toddler’s teeth Kiddo loves watching us brush our teeth, he loves holding his tooth brush and saying brush brush brush. But he absolutely hates having his teeth brushed, how do I fix this or at least get the brush in his mouth and get a little cleaning?",11.040399999999998,7.946273040000005,8.791999999999998,76.55600000000003,58.6,10.8,39.0,7.1686216300943375,2.8918000000000004,212,7,40,1,2,62,36,50,0.06,0.802,0.138,0.6378,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,2,7,5,1,0,6,7,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,6,2,2,7,1,3,0,0,1,2,10,3,0,1,0,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603429941090955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34047101386410045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456333747190908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6224867236464993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27424100457837153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148157854841459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Several-Educator,2020/01/01,What to do... Today my husband's ex wife posted a video of my step son who is 4 in the backseat of a car that's visibly driving down the road and he is not in a carseat/booster and isn't even buckled in the regular seat belt correctly. I've saw two other videos of him incorrectly buckled in his carseat in the last couple of times he was with her. We have 50/50 custody but I feel like she has crossed a line by putting his life in danger. We wont have money to repay our lawyer till tax time.. any advice on what we can do?,2.8119642857142857,3.6102734107142855,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142859,73.82142857142857,7.028571428571429,27.392857142857146,7.1686216300943375,1.1786571428571422,410,15,93,4,8,136,82,112,0.043,0.9259999999999999,0.031,-0.3291,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,8,0,11,1,0,0,1,10,13,4,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,2,2,5,3,1,0,1,2,2,12,1,17,10,0,20,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,0,6,59,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032094276819962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21100619157998227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34332730056845834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049420172508315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689072129034642,0.2216695059625236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529257875942613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21916529089606385,0.15159083617688646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971697259571146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31192471541881894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36186236112523584,0.0,0.2941163406358305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031058747522187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LSA-,2020/01/01,"Physically spank your kids so that others don't have to. ie: getting beat up for having a smartass mouth. the loudest mouth in the room(detention/suspension), and god forbid you ever have to deal with anyone with a badge regarding your kids.",6.986434108527135,8.662667023255812,6.465116279069767,74.2401550387597,64.81395348837209,9.454263565891472,30.6124031007752,9.725611199111238,3.0754868217054265,194,7,31,4,3,60,35,43,0.124,0.828,0.048,-0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,4,2,2,0,1,5,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301002538949713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6341529338341076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5564035559570699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.321370364264353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dendrix420,2020/01/01,"Kids & Xmas You have £500 after Xmas , son texts you asking for £300 as he is broke , daughter then texts asking for £150 for a belated Xmas gift , 
Question is how much cash do you have 
Me : £500 and 2 unanswered text messages",19.938125,5.264744895833335,17.142500000000002,57.65250000000002,58.375,20.033333333333328,58.41666666666666,8.841846274778883,6.179766666666668,177,5,40,1,1,57,34,48,0.061,0.875,0.063,0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,7,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,7,1,2,0,1,0,0,11,0,0,1,2,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261267742712512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7353413284146351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28911151883151315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4405719381139853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fingers89,2020/01/01,"Last minute plans with teen She just pulls these plans like out of a hat.  She'll  come downstairs  and say's  she hanging out with xyz today.  I'm a stay at home mom with only her but I have other  responsibilties than  just her.  I am the one  that has to drive  her because  she doesn't  have her license but is working on it.  I don't feel comfortable with other parents  driving her,  I don't appreciate  it when she makes plans  without discussing it ahead of it time.  Anything  I can do so its more easier for me?  Her friends are busy and can't  get around to their schedules until like the day of.",3.5271666666666697,4.81357138333334,4.065000000000001,89.66666666666669,72.66666666666666,6.666666666666668,25.833333333333336,6.937597516519254,0.8955833333333336,466,15,100,4,9,147,81,120,0.054000000000000006,0.8320000000000001,0.114,0.8045,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,5,5,4,0,0,4,0,13,0,0,1,0,17,18,7,0,0,5,2,1,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,9,10,0,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,0,2,18,4,19,17,1,19,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,0,10,72,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21035416314311486,0.2275567338518555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558240856474478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201947112060582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485428864799825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292495724153783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749201950051415,0.0,0.1335513335424782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25640853497657645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836509406367631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24976685168898904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062888924478084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29938002716390033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321529022300206,0.1944111602628894,0.0,0.0,0.2838366815142027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20327994423214413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27245779381180396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490545618759092,0.0,0.24229865829481584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464093586903799,0.0,0.18609500898732012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GreenBlanketF,2020/01/02,"My son is two faced and it's a bit aggravating I'm new here, kind of a new dad I guess. My son is almost 2. His mother and I are married and everything is generally peachy.

Except for our son. He is a little odd. When I'm watching him and my wife is just off in another room relaxing and having a break, he'll act out with me.

Example, he'll run down the hallway to my wife and I ""grown up room"" (room with TV and game console where we separately have alone time and time to de-stress from life) and he'll scream under the door to get his mom's attention. I'll come over and grab him like hey buddy mom wants some alone time. As I grab him he'll go limp and scream as if I'm hurting him which I'm not. Mommy comes out and he stares at me and screams as if I've hurt him and mom is here to rescue him.

Similar situations happen often like I described. I guess his general attitude towards his mom VS me make me feel like maybe I'm not doing well as a dad? It's the toss of a coin when it comes to him. He'll love me one minute then treat me like the devil the next.

Wife is a stay at home mom and I'm the one who goes out and works. I guess I'm asking is this behavior common? Are toddlers just kinda like that? I've been told and heard that toddlers can just be assholes sometimes and to get used to dealing with them acting out or illogical because they're toddlers.",1.559795918367346,3.0427295646258514,3.3651074829932006,91.88227346938775,78.18367346938777,6.608761904761906,21.623945578231293,7.404127859558343,0.5225645170068032,1068,29,249,14,25,358,152,294,0.109,0.804,0.087,-0.6768,0,2,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,1,1,10,16,0,0,13,0,16,3,1,2,0,53,46,28,0,3,10,14,4,5,0,5,1,4,5,0,8,29,0,0,2,3,1,8,2,6,1,3,3,10,31,10,32,37,2,38,1,2,2,1,43,18,0,10,15,138,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997774567857252,0.20639892372413846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044837302447512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315218066168048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607410739747017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087836789267455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25749927913838505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272692521843366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955215202497767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05038218454266054,0.07118454083856289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411806873652713,0.0,0.056629064518365836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293019675975292,0.0,0.08811343332459183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994943802201743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133384712425889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037622121758381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703803643737266,0.2434011846088075,0.0998678482860832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993114413177629,0.0,0.06651206673714992,0.0,0.10010417010522216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.58349979404511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247047562184955,0.10597080848103507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504051974082118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120022172995356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854886811637728,0.0,0.0,0.10620552618771532,0.0,0.0,0.1141400171008704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430683064597804,0.0,0.0,0.0952125703994341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973361330238876,0.0,0.0,0.08605902947433641,0.0,0.0,0.05877166121403753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959047205000559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254084412082497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Xan_the_Mans_Mama,2020/01/02,Socialization for toddlers My son is 13 months. Does he need to be socialized now with babies/toddlers his own age? I have an alternative work schedule and my mother and husband care for him the rest of the time so he doesn't go to daycare.,2.5108510638297865,5.071429872340428,3.641957446808512,85.69400000000002,80.06382978723406,6.313191489361702,26.421276595744683,7.554174236665415,1.5651906382978722,192,8,37,3,5,62,39,47,0.0,0.9309999999999999,0.069,0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,7,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,6,2,6,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,5,24,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530102165637065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029930612847381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19677364092308075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763619111244461,0.0,0.0,0.2567292716986197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7058870774067184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20189273238449335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25206360258095073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_drew_money_,2020/01/02,"4Yr Old Son Doesn't Want Daddy I have a really odd situation. My 4 year old son is always talking about how he doesn't want me (his daddy).  He only wants his mommy. I got really disturbed when he told my wife recently that he wanted daddy to ""die"" .  I don't understand. I take my son everywhere. I'm the one who gets him ready every morning and takes him to school. We go to parks, museums, hiking, etc.  Could someone be poisoning him against me?  My thought is that maybe extended family members are saying bad things behind my back.  Or maybe it's just a phase he's going through. Any feedback would be appreciated.",2.103884615384615,4.61130885,4.038333333333334,82.55076923076925,81.33333333333334,7.358974358974358,23.39743589743589,8.384062270229773,1.799801282051282,482,17,91,11,13,163,86,120,0.127,0.825,0.048,-0.8141,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,1,3,0,11,1,0,1,0,13,25,4,1,6,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,3,1,17,0,7,18,1,8,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,1,6,51,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605982239828854,0.0,0.0,0.11119764070153916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573501506083254,0.13653044621873028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305555748887927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970555257862607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236545525460432,0.0,0.0,0.13777071153964832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414993130946975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543124733953789,0.0,0.18586175007596595,0.0,0.13078003930614726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285510082834702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34316863112599233,0.0,0.11080382284108292,0.12436257637744025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095072466380062,0.0,0.16145399811166875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003583516700778,0.0,0.16548863838448513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380074169271332,0.0,0.0,0.13854801338619305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458899150829057,0.13142933029463982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863389154862124,0.0,0.0,0.12981478570785632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562481661508877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022768854346668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857878953508096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615827985449845,0.0,0.0,0.10530003523803597
parenting,ashleyoestreicher,2020/01/02,My 6 year old son is afraid to loose his teeth. For 3 months now my 6 year old son has had a loose tooth. He refuses to wiggle it and his adult tooth is growing in behind it. He says it hurts and he is scared. I am not to sure what to do anymore. The dentist won't pull it. I've bribed him. Nothing works. How do I convince him to assist in loosing the super wiggly tooth? I didn't have this issue with my oldest.,-0.3403333333333336,1.6218622999999999,1.6866666666666674,99.0,87.11111111111109,4.044444444444443,16.77777777777778,4.935628992294339,-0.9077555555555556,317,7,76,1,10,105,60,90,0.136,0.7809999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.6075,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,2,3,0,11,5,4,1,1,7,11,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,6,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,1,10,3,10,8,0,11,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,0,7,45,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26607057773029397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872089030214696,0.0,0.0,0.28002399247531634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414570499033367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574305130420723,0.0,0.5630483089438942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21335416600478768,0.2686040733499705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528591895019478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19531757345821252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455386150999392
parenting,HogarthHughes23,2020/01/02,Tips on laying down 2 month old without waking him up? I need help/tips/tricks. I can’t seem to lay our son down with out him immediately waking up and wanting to be held back to sleep. He doesn’t like being on his back only his belly so that makes it much harder. He has to sleep on my chest at night in order for us to get any sleep.,1.4286757990867542,2.7092998356164406,3.2180136986301378,93.66117579908678,78.04109589041096,5.414611872146119,16.276255707762562,5.46131890053228,-0.8199114155251142,260,3,62,1,6,87,55,73,0.0,0.963,0.037000000000000005,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,6,6,1,0,9,11,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,9,1,18,8,1,16,0,0,0,0,9,10,0,1,6,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808822525554732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33489694772958395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137736531104724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596383898479742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638937998144132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14536037597397905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17381860008988806,0.0,0.1600829343157162,0.16147059639002212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043584704121811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22850859616358904,0.0,0.0,0.16562071917851098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19824582401309568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6537692642632347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619454689224945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844392288168266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20991847969751865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nceph,2020/01/02,"How I get my toddlers to take their Motrin I use a water ice. You know the ones. Long thin tube that come as liquid and need to be frozen. 
I’ll cut the top and remove some ice. I then run the ice under some cool water to defrost it a bit. This lets the medication run down into the ice and not sit on the top. 

This of course has worked wonders for me. Normally I just hold them tight and put little by little into the cheek area. This is much less aggravating and aggressive. 

It assumes your toddlers eat the entire thing. If they don’t I wouldn’t try and guess how much they ingested. I’d just have to wait until the next dose. 

Happy parenting!",1.3036038961038976,3.556035659090909,2.6583549783549785,92.7968181818182,82.56060606060606,5.58961038961039,17.761904761904766,6.868970318607317,-0.03839134199134176,505,11,109,6,14,163,91,132,0.040999999999999995,0.882,0.077,0.6756,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,4,3,4,4,2,0,11,1,7,7,1,3,0,28,16,12,0,4,4,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,7,9,4,3,3,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,3,13,2,14,13,6,21,0,0,0,0,7,11,0,6,4,71,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219772455770672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514569981191666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080513037735352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062284450248344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239844078682421,0.0,0.0,0.2164422743813937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174160236625157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079126574425223,0.0,0.0,0.4075683062563327,0.0,0.17993542123137934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048276296879335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989332015358477,0.150762236271781,0.0,0.0,0.2162374761570203,0.0,0.19921443820589635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777766531295896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257673399320473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20439686873301374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287441152961478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507949064985472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380437104260871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560673171030394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22049630215619198,0.14802235894797622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toddlergremlin,2020/01/02,"Needing a Night Out We have 2 boys, ages 3 and 16 months. My husband and I desperately need a night out. The problem is the three year old has decided mommy is not allowed to leave and the 16 month old is similar. So, last time we had my sister babysit and waited until the kids went to bed to leave. But the three year old saw me leave and flipped, we didn’t want him to wake the baby so let him stay up to watch tv with my sister, which then made me feel guilty so we came home early. We want to try this again, this time with Grandma (he’s much more familiar with her and loves her). Same scenario, we leave after the kids go down. I’ve started prepping the toddler and same issue, mommy can’t leave. Any tips for getting out?",1.0299000000000014,3.229857240000001,2.1475833333333334,96.363375,83.26666666666667,4.816666666666666,20.041666666666664,5.985473137389443,-0.15483333333333338,566,16,126,4,16,179,94,150,0.054000000000000006,0.866,0.08,-0.264,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,10,0,9,2,1,2,0,34,23,13,0,5,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,20,0,1,2,1,0,3,3,1,0,2,6,3,16,1,17,16,4,28,0,0,2,1,18,5,0,0,19,75,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556020252317018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390168174933402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361709951302566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573444164878517,0.0,0.07150497473455104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262051934158133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132076325713374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255804082267647,0.0,0.6661127364577336,0.0,0.12865690018812026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355519014280015,0.11905154402231725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008526282264653,0.0,0.0924903263370222,0.1865841380005308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23614236831616725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39607284912024987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039033867103273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905426164866333,0.13410469573021708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467303716140097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542181169896647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842082192102646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663406673146767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204466720378188
parenting,Artchantress,2020/01/02,"Toddler started drawing actual things! [Proud/brag] I'm just so proud and want to share this. As a creative person myself I enjoy spending time drawing and painting with and for my baby girl (1 year 8 months old currently).

She has had a pretty firm grip on the pencil since 11 months old but today she drew a cat face\* out of a circle I drew for her, all the while describing her every move: ""eye -- Eye"" \[dot dot\] ""mouth! mouth mouht mouth"" \[clumsy scribble but in the right place\], eaar, eaaR! \[another two appropriately placed scribble-dots\]. Just excellent. Even caught it on video, since she did it a few times over after the first try. So fun, I already wonder what she'll draw next.

What are the little firsts that your kids have done that have made you just unreasonably proud and joyful, like somehow even more than usually?

​

\* I know the first one was a cat because she loves cats (we have two) and I have drawn her countless of cats, specially quick little faces.

Edit: Some of you mentioned you want to see pictures. Since she was using water and a brush to paint on cardboard (a very mess free self erasing super eco-friendly reusable makeshift canvas lol) I only have the video to remember the drawing by. Here's a screenshot of the video  http://imgur.com/a/HJqm9fv 💧🖌️",3.8327871148459383,6.563197705882356,3.597668067226892,86.93176820728294,76.14285714285714,5.9834733893557415,24.202380952380953,7.1686216300943375,1.1109658263305326,1026,34,182,12,24,309,158,238,0.013999999999999999,0.778,0.207,0.9942,1,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,1,4,0,7,10,13,0,0,18,1,13,9,7,2,1,24,24,12,0,2,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,8,9,1,0,3,3,2,2,0,1,0,6,7,5,22,13,21,16,4,31,0,0,3,1,21,11,0,3,19,110,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.12192702294473334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787847431971048,0.0,0.0,0.13537644129761908,0.15182026515583324,0.0,0.1310143582160913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761645167674461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786077947728325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504826430949676,0.0,0.10527045178847323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188311293384789,0.0,0.0,0.09653118879655093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686657871948652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104117821188,0.25045281249001833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276656283675672,0.11822474519150585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945773058320665,0.13279537448811946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287903705448526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26221478015571364,0.0,0.0846650812790055,0.09502531020219092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909601514365784,0.2610791366647152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711265585228568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153685008179487,0.10670123282248496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956394837530252,0.0,0.1303435230596704,0.0,0.0,0.310064146831782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843579038048653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300703912364038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571134661360952,0.0,0.11843201354749908,0.0,0.0,0.08482856736418275,0.0,0.24410366991087304,0.0,0.0,0.10791123640846728,0.13760782809571287,0.10309163351143014,0.14739005694405674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549610745231772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182026515583324,0.08045964311986664
parenting,Artattack83,2020/01/02,"My 11yo daughter refusing to move into my partners house I am really struggling here and this decision is causing me a lot of anxiety so am looking for someone who has possibly been in the same boat.

My (36f) lease is due to end in Feb, I'd really like us to move in with my partner. It would help me so much financially and also the driving backwards and forwards to each others houses is getting exhausting. I also want to live with him  the decision is not purely financial. 

The problem is my 11 yo old daughter ( I share her 50/50 with her Dad. I have tried to bring it up with her loosely a few times but took her out for lunch yesterday to havr a serious talk. Firstly she just flat out refused to talk and would not answer any of my questions and just looked out the window, she ended up saying she would talk about it in the car. So we get in the car and I try and bring it up again, I'm being as calm and understanding as possible. She just bursts into tears and says no I don't want to but it's not like I have a choice anyway. She does not like my partner, there is no reason for it she just chooses not to like him. Or she says he is fine, she just does not like him staying the night. She said I don't mind if he stays for dinner and then goes home. I think this has something to do with her thinking we are having sex, which we don't do when I have her. She also says things like he's taken you away from me and we aren't as close anymore. This is also not true as I always try and do things just her and I. Even when we have the day together I suggest a whole bunch of things for us to do but all she wants to do is play on her computer games. 

I know this is very hard for her and it breaks my heart and fills me with constant guilt and anxiety, but I'm at a complete loss. Do I allow her to make this decision for me, obviously she means the world to me and her happiness has always been my number one priority but I just don't know what to do. I'm terrified if I move she will say she wants to live with her Dad full time. Do I just move and deal with things as they come. I knew it would never be easy but I'm so scared of emotionally damaging her. 

I also want to be able to give her a better life and as it stands I can't do that because all my money goes on rent and utilities. 

If anyone else has had any similar experiences I would be so grateful for any advise. He has no children so she wouldn't be competing with anyone, she would have her own room. She is almost 12 and moody all the time with I assume hormones etc so it's all very bad timing. 

I have suggested therapy, she flat out refuses this saying it's weird and would never go. I have even recently tried bribing her to go. 

Sometimes I feel like a terrible mother and think it would just be easier to end the relationship. I just want some happiness and stability in my life.",3.302167982770996,4.1203373299832515,4.718395549174447,86.55121859296482,72.6850921273032,8.1647762622637,25.269562096195266,8.491030156203081,1.439869777458722,2234,66,492,37,42,747,250,597,0.10800000000000001,0.785,0.106,-0.1022,1,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,7,1,1,4,31,27,0,3,20,0,61,7,1,4,9,128,94,55,0,19,27,5,2,7,3,10,3,7,4,4,27,48,2,3,17,2,2,15,19,12,0,2,7,11,90,15,70,71,15,64,0,2,2,1,83,25,0,9,29,362,117,2,0.06277102828355359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285611756972939,0.0,0.0,0.2509898431990496,0.10446104802830036,0.0,0.0,0.12805935522928424,0.0,0.09603932965011733,0.0,0.06225199297882812,0.08778192494992877,0.06431633641343279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05897544736829417,0.0,0.052411186669164216,0.03826463622203387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055515873483296466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644831371227392,0.0,0.054071682739590815,0.06581422888651599,0.06783318175818248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04048212032528708,0.06471417389374116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986269971486536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243713952848556,0.0706089580695706,0.16678949889284286,0.0,0.07000628930812755,0.0829193443472399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061402110477294575,0.0,0.0,0.031738917958533695,0.04484363514801518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053393004591396016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559054299901343,0.060215690087657175,0.07134844386491591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364185366074172,0.0562305118555917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438397074672858,0.04207409710197745,0.0,0.06296445940521417,0.0,0.0,0.14485867767927696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899463108086391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886740672730447,0.21466727612564274,0.0,0.1108559359858544,0.0,0.10542370894147288,0.0,0.0,0.053365683533463576,0.0,0.0,0.04190014880429484,0.0,0.0,0.06837605175829843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338084455767727,0.0,0.0,0.2668626763442424,0.04614392831549482,0.0,0.09682577344684476,0.0,0.0,0.058906357818043015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586763496008594,0.0,0.04253527329191649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152980573879426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006339665481965,0.0,0.0,0.07031791750227014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042545612497076,0.06453907157549067,0.061978817676732086,0.06739259297498508,0.0,0.0,0.0597096223184996,0.29950824681405325,0.06284474980625858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05318568856496892,0.04832420428765445,0.062082152023471664,0.0,0.0,0.13381112839839532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562190781338688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135892443008678,0.0,0.0,0.07178414139160323,0.0,0.16680912796347205,0.1206634210232027,0.0,0.0,0.14640916553351124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974092206868893,0.17046963122408254,0.0,0.0,0.0653468541823898,0.15101163646450724,0.0,0.0,0.10358534449564484,0.22214387293742027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008161139593369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567259000308131,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlainaBella,2020/01/02,"We should make a big deal about small things Today my son was on his belly and for the first time, reached out in front of him and grabbed his soother. I made this huge deal “yayyy!! Good job!! I’m so proud of you!” Then it hit me.. why don’t we, as adults and parents act this way when we accomplish something, even simple? Obviously we shouldn’t scream happily over everything.. but just realize we did something great and be proud of ourselves. Especially since it’s hard to get everything done/learn new things while having kids. We’d probably all be a lot happier! We’re too hard on ourselves as parents.",3.1710023310023345,5.489696418803419,3.3838228438228453,89.74678321678324,76.26495726495726,7.331468531468532,26.02097902097902,8.296473431620573,1.6482717948717949,479,18,98,9,11,147,88,117,0.045,0.7340000000000001,0.221,0.9742,3,0,2,0,1,0,19.0,6,1,0,4,6,5,0,0,3,1,9,0,0,2,2,20,14,11,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,3,4,13,4,13,5,2,18,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,1,7,58,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607417794187308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790396752800825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555610629123238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31447648806362005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881660636230035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140674975375557,0.0,0.0,0.14674392643404774,0.0,0.19288846980993266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134505732502911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361580969574208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874045730204705,0.0,0.16554662090823855,0.11678379965407228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897259825931285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388533574767384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863104634926095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472455742281545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693777637082487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324646133304404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201764876210227,0.0,0.16583685266894407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887111007509909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786964607020318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Meowmeowbaggins,2020/01/02,"Is it inappropriate to bring a baby to a funeral? My mom lives over 2 hours away and it would take her a train ride and an hour drive for myself just to pick her up. 

My dad lives in another state. 

My SO has to work. 

The only friend of mine I would trust with my infant has to work. 

I could ask my SO’s mom, but she lives over an hour away and came last week to help because I was sick. 

I don’t have any siblings or family that live in town with me. 

I was taken in by this family 10 years ago and they have all done so much for me and have been so supportive, welcoming, and all around more involved than my biological parents were at some points. Grandma passed away this week and her funeral is this weekend. They all know I have a baby and most have met her over the holidays. I know that if I absolutely cannot find someone that most people will be understanding of why the baby is with me. She is just shy of 2 months so she could end up being unpredictable. 

Have any of you ever had to bring your small child/infant to a funeral? Have you been to a funeral where an infant started to cry? I just don’t want to be rude or disrespectful to the family, to the service, or to grandma. 

Obviously I would walk out and take care of my child is she started to fuss, I would just like to be present for the service and pay my respects. 

Any advice or stories welcome. I’m a first time mom and I am trying to navigate the do’s and don’ts! Thanks!",3.379114508679727,4.20501470568562,4.72272336359293,86.56259754738018,72.51170568561872,8.237044115304986,24.940436375218983,8.563005593585519,1.3782516642777511,1123,32,251,19,21,374,147,299,0.08900000000000001,0.785,0.126,0.9184,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,3,2,3,12,10,1,0,17,0,38,1,0,1,5,48,56,23,4,8,10,5,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,3,8,18,0,0,4,2,1,7,4,1,0,1,10,0,38,9,44,35,8,43,0,0,0,0,28,18,0,8,18,183,46,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785910129987813,0.08877119957152492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430310925275744,0.10500922588646787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914897591348253,0.0936206848473508,0.0,0.28226443695601755,0.0,0.0,0.06104656813701888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453752305821605,0.10210300597444157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599129244816335,0.0,0.11000296847629856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024816032148515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869744594477656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058555880360264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832192307222911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915293747873148,0.08518203789827038,0.0,0.0,0.07737064507622263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712409914563389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958636224862225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100725333680584,0.08163034526583729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04892507171355345,0.0,0.35371429694432155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518606860650546,0.07993361250935671,0.0,0.07361701931977342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761636693857267,0.0,0.0,0.11119754206063523,0.0,0.0,0.06942691644321979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466800780965982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848512904201096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176421599830802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364169434284616,0.0,0.0,0.1505909473989969,0.0,0.0,0.09219871035591228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05839449934767015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799088522250883,0.0,0.0,0.10425294946585692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906725031438913,0.0,0.16065820300214867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090363962082294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581136926170246,0.0,0.0,0.2845563699613935,0.0,0.0,0.06448915183161162
parenting,LOLRECONLOL,2020/01/02,"Craniosynostosis (update) Went to the specialist, he confirmed it. No MRI needed. One suture/seam/whatever he called it.. surgery scheduled for January 17, and he will need to wear a helmet for 6-12 months after. Overnight stay at the hospital, but should be back to normal a day or so after. Not what I was expecting. :(",3.623850574712641,6.381251499999998,4.659310344827587,78.87505747126437,77.10344827586206,8.004597701149425,26.90804597701149,8.841846274778883,2.5548873563218395,249,10,43,6,6,81,49,58,0.09699999999999999,0.903,0.0,-0.6652,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,2,1,0,0,9,7,4,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,8,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,7,28,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26689021388278816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35441693802484797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238438566119173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770433332958025,0.0,0.0,0.5147245718239489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400737775666425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351966630996113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369950965977186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32175521832552456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MattAquilina002,2020/01/02,"Just a small question..... As parents do you manage to keep a healthy life style? I noticed that I piled up a couple of pounds in the last few years. I have three kids, the youngest one having 1 and a half months. I do not have time for gym sessions. I am just curious do you have routines you do at home? Even as a couple, which honestly sounds better! Have a happy new year to all!",0.5356410256410236,2.7970289743589767,1.85923076923077,97.16910256410259,86.17948717948721,4.4923076923076914,20.2051282051282,5.82211442006289,-0.1582410256410256,292,9,65,2,9,93,56,78,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.9387,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,0,1,3,3,0,0,8,0,10,1,0,0,1,7,11,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,8,3,9,11,2,10,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,6,47,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083419161518976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5213059338251618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559131112798594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25076791665853765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23629523051452406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20938483130180394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920204330852508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638957409367774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802918010612507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22751431275824915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681972269489291,0.0,0.0,0.1596278647106014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615718470253067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26389154584124364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736236221983356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033978313745784
parenting,ophelia081,2020/01/02,"Parents of larger families (3+ kids), please share your wisdom! Mother of two kids (2 and 3 months) and conflicted..I would love to have another child (as does my SO) but I do wonder how it will change/impact our lives. Other than the obvious changes (bigger car, daycare fees etc), how do you feel your lives changed after having more kids? Looking back, is there anything you wish you had done differently? Any words of wisdom to offer now that you are pros? :)",4.319601328903655,6.267518069767443,4.568870431893688,84.1882558139535,71.79069767441861,7.239867109634551,25.07641196013289,7.957251820313856,1.4535900332225915,358,11,66,5,7,112,70,86,0.0,0.7809999999999999,0.21899999999999997,0.9640000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,6,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,2,1,11,15,7,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,9,4,8,11,2,6,0,0,1,1,16,1,0,1,4,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380356295920111,0.21284572703603136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703799085231394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156081656554812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4294589113242465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207438411325047,0.0,0.0,0.17763208587924725,0.2077224278147363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263800767092588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913546248429837,0.0,0.10263447403271468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35847601037241195,0.0,0.17045488021870087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832003864244848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201936282784185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253889740136212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22281474901046366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982852253821209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334208197408704,0.0,0.2201267700267883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419353855786235,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,b1gbamb00,2020/01/02,"Sleep training books are BS I have a 10 MO boy who finally started sleeping throughout the night about a few weeks ago... He was a good sleeper at the beginning but around 5-6 months mark, he stopped sleeping. Waking up a few times a night and having a difficult time falling back to sleep. I was sleep deprived and it was very rough. 
I read books and articles on child development, sleep training, how to create a sleep schedule etc, but none of them worked. I desperately needed a quality night sleep and would try anything to get that. I tried CIO method  but my gut feeling was telling that was not what he wanted so I stopped that. It actually worsen the situation. I tried to stick with a strict schedule but my baby is a human being... How can I expect him to behave in the same way everyday while he's growing and changing at a crazy speed? Plus the guilt and feeling crappy when i followed the manual and my boy would not sleep and stayed up for hours in the middle of the night.  So I ditched all the books and manuals. I just did what I think it's right based on my understanding of baby's development and my gut feeling. Then one day my boy started sleeping better. 

Looking back, im glad I did what I felt the right things to do for my child. there are many sleep training resources out there and of course there were helpful tips and info which I have been applying (like sleep routine, loose sleep schedule, quiet space etc). But at the end of the day im dealing with a human being with many variables. There's no one fits for all solution to baby's sleeping. I felt like some of sleep training books and websites prey on sleep deprived parents who desperately seek anything to make their children sleep. My friends swear by the sleep training books but they are not for me and my baby boy.",4.8707758620689665,6.218233583333332,4.961788505747125,84.28206206896554,69.48850574712644,7.522022988505747,30.29931034482759,7.839951260653429,1.9474240000000005,1429,57,274,17,25,446,170,348,0.129,0.779,0.092,-0.9359999999999999,2,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,3,2,14,10,0,1,25,0,22,21,21,3,2,52,38,28,0,5,10,1,6,2,1,2,0,1,0,9,13,20,0,2,8,6,0,3,5,4,0,2,11,8,30,6,36,23,9,51,0,2,1,0,24,17,0,1,31,175,43,7,0.0,0.0,0.048428025760439836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04399064404042132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816762906535094,0.04417785143050013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631898995793901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04389035305623264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05249795373806868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400960453504652,0.05116244709350248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04395409536746615,0.0,0.1106926924176006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527751401994852,0.0,0.09529789488096296,0.05436309123724616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038341089487965545,0.0,0.02592764833505569,0.0,0.0,0.041624113428570406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03326340486894476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04887182391031507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720965307665913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04848972245032927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04167352070332591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03312588290054562,0.1006263828012195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03961117019637539,0.0,0.0,0.036797208538141335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628335859066147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672560132801392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055104037284275625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04963964311125675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476103044261518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05578194329050349,0.8939169541981593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702513787551811,0.05289494066976639,0.0,0.08297947329024517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04337549800929783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03296945116752014,0.03179847382613702,0.0,0.0,0.05787488841247941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107882435699124,0.0,0.0,0.05166263847117868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04094682345881893,0.029270826524464864,0.03939097840833185,0.03980715510522567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03612847451199423,0.0,0.0,0.07050607652496696,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,candypop96,2020/01/02,"Pregnancy advice! I don’t know if there’s a pregnancy community or not, I tried to find one and could not. I am 23 weeks and I have an ultrasound January 8th. My daughter has an Echogenic focus on her heart. I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this and have any advice for me? The ultrasound is for the echogenic focus. I’ve already had my anatomy scan.",2.1791901408450727,4.798895985915493,3.992376760563381,82.24659330985915,82.09859154929578,8.057042253521129,27.184859154929576,8.841846274778883,2.630871830985916,289,13,55,8,8,97,51,71,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,0,12,12,6,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,9,0,4,9,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,1,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5288843106970522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986307310888807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18402769504850636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892205214511603,0.27727737164387345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21606431009632576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260643723784127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473374967167281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206804530735062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872310077385806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833759420736098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837300362814274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21707128367201828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29347076712175896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrLoki2020,2020/01/02,"I need advice with a three-year-old waking up at five every morning and refusing to go back to bed. So my daughter wakes up at 5 to 530 every day refuses to go back to sleep no matter what we try, and it doesn’t matter  what time we put her to bed, we have tried any time from 7-9 and she still wakes up at five and is as energetic as possible. any tips?",7.994615384615384,3.56531948717949,8.921794871794873,77.40653846153849,65.66666666666667,12.451282051282053,33.69230769230769,9.725611199111238,2.695276923076924,272,6,66,4,3,95,53,78,0.064,0.868,0.067,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,0,13,6,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,16,6,0,15,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,6,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247312083801748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127849735543281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35367677868466857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831636758630765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875316786725079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26140285987860645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052529373790554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413225463558165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592649115671644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23119076064228736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301434405969067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366021174064212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26820328874558313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122790541079945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480978756806618
parenting,trying0613,2020/01/02,"18 month sleep regression ? I have an 18 month old daughter who hasn't been sleeping lately. She wakes up from her nap at 3pm, and doesnt fall asleep till midnight daily. I have her in bed at 9pm (our usual routine). I dont know what happened, but she just isn't tired till midnight to sleep. She'll play in bed till midnight every night. Should I shorten her nap, wake her up earlier than 3pm? Any recommendations?",2.0992857142857133,4.200781547619052,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,78.76190476190476,5.628571428571429,23.595238095238088,6.6274283507984215,0.5840523809523814,326,11,69,3,8,104,58,84,0.0,0.912,0.08800000000000001,0.775,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,9,7,6,0,0,5,11,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,12,1,12,8,0,16,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,9,38,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846785683010402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558741884914493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839474484099098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193063257428001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998520128832915,0.0,0.2462790647647514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485283855353368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20488235357549606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290943893825409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6554452344813982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509314060552993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404531226891488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mon0theist,2020/01/02,"3yo is talking/shouting back and his mother and I, not sure how to correct the behavior Our 3yo is generally very sweet, but a new behavior pattern has developed where if his mother or I try to tell him not to do something, he just talks/shouts back at us like ""Stop it!"" ""Shut up!"" etc., or if he doesn't get his way about something be it major or minor, his immediate response is to start crying/whining/starting to throw a fit etc.

I think the problem is that he's learned this behavior from me, as I tend immediately get angry when climbing on stuff, getting into stuff he's not supposed to, etc. and my immediate reaction is to raise my voice and say ""Stop it!"", so now he's copying my behavior. I tend to lose my patience with my wife too, and I fear that he's learning this behavior to mean that it's okay for him to disrespect his mother.

The obvious long term solution is for me to correct my behavior and be a better role model for him, but what can we also do to get him to stop acting like this?

Raising my voice doesn't work and seems to have caused the problem in the first place. Talking calmly and sweetly and getting down to his level doesn't seem to work. I don't want to spank him unless it's literally the absolute very last resort. Is there anything else we can do to correct this? I realize that to a certain extent 3yos are going to be 3yos, but I feel bad that I've set a bad example and I don't want him to think it's okay to have such a short temper and be quick to anger like I am.",5.109498207885307,4.862593225806453,6.2763440860215045,80.73896057347673,68.35483870967742,9.340501792114695,31.738351254480285,8.998388855275968,2.4678136200716843,1180,45,247,19,18,398,152,310,0.162,0.731,0.107,-0.9672,0,0,2,0,0,0,36.0,4,0,0,6,14,19,2,1,12,2,26,0,0,2,6,53,43,25,0,6,13,4,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,18,15,0,3,9,0,0,4,8,8,0,1,0,6,36,11,37,39,6,32,0,1,0,0,30,12,0,7,17,168,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930379489967766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573882614332972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891827487647294,0.1942799457553788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289426336575357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951437449243126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718807444170258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38925329553700977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091610104984416,0.058825564265903275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895969443710488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039171583814613,0.0,0.0661193377060184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483353795726286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051517901704255,0.0,0.0,0.10295822724323517,0.0,0.13015595068870445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126729582659734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236297548189032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155170501316495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22264547295296427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251912559499068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118251663644806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913015110571742,0.0,0.0,0.16469368241767726,0.0,0.0,0.2917991489293413,0.0,0.0,0.2663654885197775,0.0,0.0,0.10965012565469798,0.0,0.0,0.09351058268498294,0.10168726394320106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909337987341348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898798141179905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994403869325375,0.0,0.0,0.19198721101945831,0.1372420098550054,0.09234616320786347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693954371557355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Us3rnam3_101,2020/01/02,"When is it okay to intervene? Long story short, I was in a shop today and witnessed an interaction (for lack of a better word) between a mom and her son. I was really angry at this parent and felt sorry for the child. When is it okay in your opinion to intervene?",3.3240566037735846,4.598073056603777,5.3850471698113225,80.0541745283019,73.15094339622641,8.318867924528304,24.57075471698113,8.841846274778883,1.8011547169811322,204,6,40,4,4,71,39,53,0.134,0.747,0.11900000000000001,-0.2151,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,5,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,5,5,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,3,9,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,4,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196812949012898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34705752307211235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198800237177597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233366546023945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.401357673536068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23156002368217496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404623989110902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426210638995645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrs9001,2020/01/02,"Sophomore Year Slump Our daughter (16) has been having a hard time this sophomore year in Highschool.  She had a better time in Freshmen year than she did this year.  Her classes are  harder and with different  kids. It all happened in September when she went back to school. Just after one week she asked to transfer schools, said she didn’t find what she was looking for.  It was too late to transfer out though, because we had already deposited  tuition.  I’ve encouraged her to join some more clubs , pick up an extra hobby (she did Art  & and a few debate clubs the previous year), make some new friends, etc. For about a month she went a quiet and kind of  was just there.  Grades were fine and was still getting straight A’s.  Around mid October she had finally made some friends and was staying late at school to hang out with them.  Everything was looking great until Christmas time, she went back into her slump, I have talked to her doctor but he said it was probably just a normal thing at her age with a new environment of friends and classes.  I didn’t like that answer though, because my daughter was still mopey.  She’s going back to school on the 6th, and midterms are right around the corner.  

Any advice?",5.107461300309601,6.750394245614038,4.390588235294118,87.47205882352941,69.26315789473685,7.1190918472652225,29.20123839009288,7.510576382923642,1.6537628482972146,960,36,182,10,17,285,133,228,0.005,0.897,0.098,0.9517,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,1,1,16,9,0,0,12,0,22,1,0,3,1,30,35,12,0,1,4,2,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,1,8,16,0,0,2,3,2,5,2,0,0,1,23,6,22,9,30,12,8,46,0,0,2,0,31,16,0,3,25,124,30,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814222046222866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108306011524301,0.0,0.0,0.10881939653684508,0.0,0.06829806161125344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881379109075896,0.09389154171728507,0.0,0.0,0.23168093543546986,0.0,0.12244636766500185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882505789856597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493138181168336,0.0,0.1027976985477912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200963455846816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902629391818916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100197284926534,0.09179418122407984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327834653755892,0.0,0.052472233740847946,0.0,0.05707853681866834,0.0,0.0,0.11072802502055304,0.0,0.0,0.08881280118278961,0.0,0.0899684749217127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458578644088752,0.0,0.0,0.2265861863704669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04906661833658072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867728926980502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503238011094184,0.06703998172017997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016487089122096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399813898965976,0.0,0.0,0.09840327196399906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805617701435587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828404227787868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576945629670966,0.19107006075075111,0.0,0.0,0.40657528879349897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704849335601364,0.16041226423966312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072445099875973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672339602934813,0.0,0.19735033837978108,0.0,0.17569032678519955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056150408425013,0.0,0.0,0.2793079179577545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233786368569505
parenting,moretaj,2020/01/02,ISO Family friendly travel tours in non-English speaking countries? My husband just surprised me with the idea of visiting Japan with our kids. Has anyone done a family friendly group tour in Japan or any other country? What was your experience? Pros? Cons? Recommendations? It sounds awesome but a little daunting. I am not restricting my ideas to Japan either. Kids would be 8 and 5....,3.642238805970152,6.900705835820898,4.106582089552241,77.55390298507466,87.65671641791046,6.2620895522388045,27.595522388059702,7.554174236665415,2.4431504477611936,309,14,46,6,10,97,58,67,0.0,0.8270000000000001,0.17300000000000001,0.8731,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,6,3,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,6,3,6,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,0,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270367492580602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757696425735858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598925129269065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484247271581795,0.4788277783368023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39242265430760254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5733870479053882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25453783041893124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804081604372962,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hobbyhorse224,2020/01/02,"Bit of advice needed about my 7 year old son Hi everyone,

There are a couple of concerns I've been having with my 7 year old and I just want to get everyone's opinion to see whether I'm just blowing these out of proportion in my head, or whether these are just normal kid things.

Just as a bit of background, my son is a really quick kid, very energetic (doesn't like sitting around, always has to be doing something with his body), and is chatty and sociable with adults and other kids when we go out. He is a bit volatile/strongheaded (like my wife!) but he's been getting better at managing his emotions as he gets older. My wife always says that we probably expect too much of him at such a young age. He is also an only child.

So here are the points I've been struggling over lately:

1. Will only really eat plain pasta with cheese for dinner. He eats other stuff during the day but it's usually very specific (peanut butter sandwich, tomatoes, cucumber, fruit, crackers, cheese, etc.)  
The issue with this point is my wife *will not* push him to try new foods, and I believe that her approach of letting him choose exactly what he wants to eat is making him reluctant to eat different things.
2. Will not play on his own - he needs either my wife or my attention pretty much 24/7 (unless he's watching something on the tablet). This causes me to feel like I have no freedom to just do other stuff at the weekend apart from play with him or doing stuff as a family.
3. This one sounds silly, but he will not watch movies or TV! He pretty much exclusively watches the YouTuber DanTDM and idolises him. I'm a lover of movies and I'd like to watch movies together as a family, but whenever I suggest one he refuses to watch it. My wife won't back me up, so he ends up watching YouTube. It's not like we never watch movies, but it's very rare and we almost have to lure him out of the house to the cinema or just put a film on without telling him.",4.910362694300517,5.528135445595858,5.594294300518133,82.45459170984459,68.89637305699482,8.663046632124352,28.13430051813471,8.726425361277474,1.9977338031088083,1526,49,302,24,25,496,200,386,0.063,0.86,0.077,0.8128,1,0,2,0,0,0,50.0,4,0,0,1,19,11,0,1,18,0,27,12,2,2,2,63,40,29,0,6,25,7,1,5,1,5,0,2,0,5,20,22,9,1,3,6,0,4,9,1,0,2,3,13,32,10,49,30,9,39,0,0,8,1,46,17,0,7,22,196,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587514841437756,0.0,0.0,0.08799895104287495,0.0,0.0,0.0702774647175114,0.14624610947585429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823167631695405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757416132628294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901046970248238,0.0,0.07772256419336589,0.2878260263747689,0.09761467506318418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027678842015614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723735543587984,0.0,0.05667521734324081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181571340004507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.359692002914093,0.0,0.09885297540783672,0.07783544129577454,0.0,0.09800923543655288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679458785813587,0.0,0.0,0.16569055679043504,0.0,0.04443468027576517,0.06278136491005873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626463384688753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774074518306148,0.0,0.04994413003387378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019005431286443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140151967780196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917237059464716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913227096130546,0.0,0.0,0.08986307563361373,0.0,0.21466821883590606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866046593202257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380535001656046,0.1303235542023616,0.06777833905971928,0.08487488310019313,0.0,0.0,0.08610357035503415,0.0,0.0,0.18443018780892595,0.0,0.11909928823899454,0.13367313464774294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614968077083933,0.0,0.0,0.17881075184096626,0.09474931540906367,0.0,0.0,0.08834349721736598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125961330381395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988556449070295,0.0,0.0,0.07002884309935087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353083662088326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187107438833096,0.3018041254659414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681084096378964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676690235344292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05966463294421371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967872122410477,0.21753017871934469,0.10366759595785642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471301580151787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318345276207585
parenting,Gogo_McSprinkles,2020/01/02,"6 year old son shuts down when frustrated - not sure how to help him My 6 year old son is normally SUPER easy going and compliant.  He follows his older brother, who is 8, and does what he does.  But when something goes wrong, he just totally shuts down and I'm struggling with how to handle it.  For example, he was playing his kindle this morning and I asked him and his brother to get dressed for school.  His brother jumped up and went to get dressed, but he just ignored me and kept kindle-ing.  I told him I was going to take the kindle if he didn't stop, so he threw it on the couch cushion, crossed his arms, said ""No."" and just sat, staring me dead in the eye.  I asked him why he was frustrated, but he wouldn't respond.  I tried, in vain, to get him to talk about his feelings.  He wouldn't say anything or move.  When he's not upset, he shares his feelings no problem.  Finally I got him to move by telling him I was counting to three then dragging him off the couch and as soon as I stood up he jumped up.  

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Sometimes when he does this, he'll only say to me ""don't talk to me!"" and he covers his ears.  It's like conversation hurts him when he's frustrated.  I try to be aware of my tone when he's like this, so that I convey an air of support and comfort.  I want him to face his frustration so it doesn't overwhelm him.  But he just won't talk.  And if we're in a hurry and he does this, I don't have time to try to sweet-talk him into doing what needs done.  A lot of times we have this situation over buckling his seatbelt.  If he can't get it on the first try he gets frustrated and gives up.  I'm usually standing outside his door politely trying to work through it with him in the rain or snow.  I usually end up giving up and buckling for him.  

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Oh my god is that the problem??  He knows he can just wait it out and I'll cave?",2.9392857142857167,3.886840389610392,3.993798701298704,90.91926948051949,73.67532467532467,7.058441558441558,26.73701298701299,7.310402129719878,1.1189090909090913,1430,50,323,15,28,464,176,385,0.135,0.778,0.087,-0.9766,0,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,1,0,0,3,18,22,5,3,10,0,21,4,4,2,2,56,52,39,1,10,16,5,2,2,0,4,0,4,3,0,17,21,0,4,3,1,0,10,12,14,0,2,14,8,46,8,47,33,2,53,0,2,2,0,72,21,0,6,23,192,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017424186791622,0.22624754501940225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661139133394397,0.0,0.17406737514067194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258813441258829,0.09527116630744148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245683965281192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414588638611956,0.0,0.0,0.10198386884555743,0.0,0.07918876992975094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24319826440116185,0.1786153997140318,0.1058190215984781,0.0,0.07445865434028621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624013580226087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966290494205604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051164005555242746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096556840652477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914824924754907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19789602815559834,0.0,0.06903068983070089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121588027387584,0.0,0.0,0.19538053835283092,0.0,0.0,0.07080491898062928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816365777865753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855713553782531,0.14806989436492018,0.0,0.0942197401689862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464560162081776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716710798476025,0.09207590565380427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783376118159174,0.0,0.0973258238593864,0.0,0.0,0.1056460517942768,0.08774338504810955,0.0,0.06999780811374864,0.29931329357304765,0.08137140474197675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857191699330164,0.0,0.0,0.08895874520650725,0.0,0.3160357922896488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20506770456599185,0.0,0.05491137581276561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630240673738633,0.08400610245814293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777616067014385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178760951686053,0.22624754501940225,0.1199036025284378
parenting,steak_tartare,2020/01/02,"Is ISOFIX relevant for group 2/3 seats? Since group 2/3 uses the seatbelt from the car itself, is ISOFIX necessary from a safety standpoint?

(Not sure if this is the best sub for this question, feel free to suggest other)",5.9606666666666674,7.851494400000008,4.949999999999998,83.32166666666669,67.5,7.333333333333335,28.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.814833333333333,176,6,30,2,3,52,30,40,0.0,0.73,0.27,0.9179,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,1,6,5,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4726241949869926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277151430790337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5045053730555372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3725417837622392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244582158061204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889657502524093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ashleyamichalski,2020/01/02,My toddler hits & kicks parents and siblings Over the last 6 months my 2 year old daughter has been hitting and kicking more frequently. Most of the time when she’s angry or doesn’t get what she wants. She slaps in the faces and kicks whatever is in her way. I’m not sure the right approach with this behavior. What my husband and I usually do it look her in the eye and firmly say ‘No hitting’. She stops momentarily but the behavior continues. Any help would be appreciated!,3.1866545893719795,5.655040684782605,4.172753623188406,83.35292270531401,76.93478260869566,7.567149758454105,28.700483091787444,8.515128840125781,2.3187207729468606,381,17,73,8,9,123,70,92,0.052000000000000005,0.86,0.08800000000000001,0.7477,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,7,2,2,0,1,14,14,8,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,3,10,1,6,8,2,17,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,2,10,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29937483004519244,0.0,0.18789591964298427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435722452236827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520047568496084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22522430790110665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320254311947671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22054289366076527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28993414397662604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068024442301602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23596176067013924,0.0,0.21972770897926294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23100217770834044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604128686306951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611148483812031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043093743207049,0.0,0.16297101927421645,0.21931693305786684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19627814654799608,0.0,0.0,0.17793045638976
parenting,borski88,2020/01/02,"Recommendations for books or games to introduce basics of reading My 3 year old (almost 4) has been expressing interest in learning to read. I recently picked up some books intended for learning to read but they seem more advanced than the basics.

We have lots of books in the house that she has memorized but I'm having trouble finding books/games/worksheets that introduce concepts like sounding out combinations of letters and combining them into words.",10.964230769230774,10.950414012820511,9.563717948717953,61.22711538461542,56.30769230769231,12.928205128205128,45.141025641025635,12.161744961471696,5.9698871794871815,375,20,53,10,4,116,59,78,0.044000000000000004,0.855,0.10099999999999999,0.5632,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,0,18,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,5,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,2,14,6,3,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,5,4,36,8,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24685142658025505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22531230963493865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844478200390767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204358811851459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20958015894080656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586783957397179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7397519133186667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434060542203595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22442005499475112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874903307645466
parenting,FrenchyDarkheart,2020/01/02,"What would make an ER visit with your kids better? I have been tasked with coming up with ways to make the ER a better experience for the families that come to our facility for treatment and I would like to hear from others what ideas you have. 

I myself have a daughter who was born with CHD and have had many trips to the ER but I'm eager to hear of any positive experiences you may have had at an ER or anything to note that you feel makes it easier on you.",6.067157894736841,5.109190873684209,6.725263157894738,80.68684210526318,66.57894736842105,10.126315789473685,27.421052631578945,9.3871,1.8968526315789482,363,8,79,6,5,120,61,95,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.9477,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,5,0,2,0,4,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,3,0,18,21,4,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,7,8,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,4,3,10,4,17,14,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,2,2,57,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212873289851393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598900091408512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436801008080401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347396016455413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801198142908146,0.18316607233584292,0.0,0.09824248308737288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4379740453395607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21933784597434167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492377902800067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890845931460841,0.19698682612989685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422404341288812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760462584640685,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a_day_with_dave,2020/01/02,"7 mo old is clearly going to be a spoiled brat. How to tame her before it gets worse? Hi first time parents with a 7 mo old twin boy and girl.  The boy has been a pleasant experience. Almost never cries. Can be put down and go right to sleep. Always happy. The girl however is straight out of hell. She will cry for any reason. If we put her in her crib before she falls asleep, if she drops a toy, if she sees one of us and we don't immediately hold her. And she cries hard. It sounds like she's being skinned or burned alive when she cries. It makes no sense. Anyways I only see this behavior getting worse as she gets older and don't know how to handle it. I've tried letting her cry it out but she can go well over 10-15 minutes. Please help",0.5490045248868753,2.6851602051282057,2.058054298642535,96.65165158371045,84.76923076923076,4.696229260935144,18.150829562594264,5.900188976854957,-0.4684505279034696,576,14,133,4,17,186,104,156,0.084,0.763,0.152,0.8469,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,6,0,13,3,3,4,2,24,23,14,0,3,5,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,6,10,0,1,2,1,0,6,4,1,1,2,1,5,18,4,14,17,0,21,1,0,2,0,24,7,1,5,8,76,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182286557165274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824253995185728,0.0,0.0,0.08029070203542063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009353781136803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6484641078576522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154937539983269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042909746222024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18505792338878851,0.0,0.2013033320803807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568622845856112,0.1057662815328014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913889901543995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488741907499425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073315084788172,0.0,0.0576823578855272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881171251085861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106178901865936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477862851748332,0.0,0.08000634427125736,0.08979649659185694,0.0,0.0,0.13110121646189946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12960387600486276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373831231742084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139419309661087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082994592813543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881707880128244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815387551642233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884675467906128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016083445560084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202199775499502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615785786390844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406439964221819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,philnotfil,2020/01/02,"Hands-free baby gates? Many years ago we purchased a pedal operated baby gate made by First Years (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000058CC7). But it has died and has also been discontinued and there doesn't seem to be a replacement for it. Everywhere we go the only options involve having a hand available to open the gate. Where are the hands-free options?

Does anyone have a hands-free baby gate they like that is still commercially available?",6.5351428571428585,9.661001333333337,5.580571428571428,74.13600000000002,69.0,7.485714285714287,26.714285714285715,8.418075326091056,2.141628571428571,360,12,55,6,7,108,53,75,0.049,0.867,0.085,0.3899,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,7,0,9,1,1,1,0,10,12,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,3,1,4,9,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,3,6,34,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27138245733697625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448271010790567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406637355028796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177341409277456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679128958475245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26041003025061354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739914298453902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956884948157112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896854162474861,0.0,0.3103868519455375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328399735214311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787063879621929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444908434536734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39429960573055
parenting,SlmnSknRll,2020/01/02,"My Kids' Father has them Keep Secrets From me Let's see if I can keep a long story short...

When I was with my ex , we had been together 9 years and got pregnant with my first child- a girl, we immediately got a visit from my sis-in-law who lived a state over. She always kept in contact with her brothers but not their parents. When she found out we were having a girl- she felt the need to tell us why she doesn't talk to their parents- bc their father molested her and she was afraid of our child being around him. I believe her. She is a smart woman and lying seems too far beneath her- also I know my father-in-law- and he is a pig. It didn't seem far-fetched.

Fast forward ten years. My ex and I have been divorced for seven years. We share a 10 year old girl and 7 year old boy. When we separated, I told him his father is not allowed around the kids. Let his father know he was not allowed around them and why- he never argued. (JS, if I had been accused of something so disgusting, I would do whatever it took to let ppl know it isn't true)

My kids just spent a few days at their fathers. I casually asked my son if they had seen their grandfather- they skype with him at their dad's house and I don't think there is anything I can do about that. So they know him. My son made a weird face and said, ""Daddy didn't want us to tell you.""

So I had been asking when his father would be around and my ex made a plan to lie about when he was coming up, let a child molester around my children, and then tell my children to keep it a secret from me. There is no court documentation about the event with his sister so it would be nothing but an accusation in court. 

I would appreciate any feedback and advice",2.573886198547214,3.933315036723165,3.6073809523809537,91.71775423728815,75.18644067796609,6.300080710250202,21.96489104116223,6.7097532225279775,0.28727554479418904,1329,33,299,11,28,428,178,354,0.081,0.87,0.049,-0.9218,4,0,1,0,1,0,44.0,8,1,11,2,22,10,4,1,17,0,41,1,1,4,2,65,69,28,0,9,9,16,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,13,7,29,0,4,11,1,1,4,10,6,0,3,27,4,65,4,33,31,1,39,0,0,2,0,87,16,0,5,20,204,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758501301943064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167676302059557,0.07457901173384901,0.0,0.0,0.06095120517194452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375752827035333,0.3989467567316093,0.16758316380028815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098187238183556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720796866622277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057803680582119765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605847694046538,0.0,0.0,0.07623889652817542,0.0,0.09827423601406099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336996644630454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342053067920408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390007344150081,0.0,0.0,0.1970323483470436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666093762706512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914458361949453,0.0793193802605179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696193994813415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645921667857797,0.06912787714014604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860020236625304,0.0,0.1881023869964732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904613959747355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525827966628582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142319108429536,0.16319085292638094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900124910907493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204088167572939,0.2350206769967197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574310320270309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564492890963837,0.09958178945095593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156267588811299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052865863461737946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175355568026073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546812001824669,0.0,0.0,0.28859263613484554
parenting,superrenzo64,2020/01/02,"A book about talking to a child (Nephew in 1st grade) I was sitting on the metrorail behind a man reading a book. I only saw it briefly, I didn't read it. It looked like a book that tells you how to talk to a child as they grow up. How to act with them, what they may be capable of doing physically and mentally. Specifically, the book might say at age x repeat what you say all the time in a happy tone to positively assure them, at age x use a lot of new vocabulary, at age x you should not expect them to do math or understand download speed proportional to file size.

Would you please recommend a book, under 1000 pages, simple to read but not at the cost of content.",5.148088235294118,5.027019397058826,6.137058823529415,81.34176470588238,68.26470588235293,9.447058823529412,28.764705882352942,9.188382445141503,2.0808558823529406,522,16,112,9,8,174,88,136,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,4,5,0,3,3,0,0,13,0,9,0,0,3,2,18,13,6,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,4,0,2,0,3,6,2,0,0,1,8,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,4,12,3,24,5,3,19,0,0,2,0,18,9,0,4,8,73,18,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119987543553398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729457371729837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672357451120684,0.0,0.0,0.1693101094382524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069624219779472,0.2112665551902621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19234019864047025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146246057676574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186067686939436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5976113294031556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167439615881512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32013826567835124,0.17406577622353453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612589869526382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732205230966827,0.0,0.17200155785369578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147036347759706,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WillOnlyGoUp,2020/01/02,"How do you keep motivated to do fun things when it just results in tantrums? 2yr old, 11 month old Stay at home mum here. I try to do nice things with my kids but it always ends in tantrums (mostly only from the 2 year old). I get that tantrums are a thing at this age because they’re trying to start asserting control. My son is only just 2 and can’t talk yet and tantrums seem to be his default state. 

An example is I tried to make the kids a den today because they were playing in the corner behind a chair. My daughter kept accidentally pulling it down so I wedged it in firmly one end and held it the other end. This was apparently a world ending change in the eyes of my toddlers. It’s been half an hour and he’s still throwing himself on the floor. 

Aside from being worried he’s going to  hurt himself or his sister, I just don’t know how to keep going like this. It’s my husbands first day back to work since Christmas and I’m already feeling really low. How do I keep wanting to set up nice things and do activities when this is what happens?

Should I just leave him to play? This happens with everything I try to do with him and I feel like a terrible mum is I just leave him playing all day.",3.0900404858299595,4.419037599190284,4.0508502024291495,89.1744129554656,73.8178137651822,6.6574898785425125,26.36032388663968,7.0608816371341465,1.049004858299595,945,33,203,9,19,305,140,247,0.125,0.7759999999999999,0.099,-0.8351,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,1,4,15,15,4,0,13,0,19,1,1,7,1,37,37,15,0,2,7,6,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,19,10,0,6,5,3,0,4,2,7,0,3,5,3,24,8,28,29,2,42,0,2,1,0,20,14,0,3,23,132,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293277443451447,0.0,0.09269380271076463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856597963634446,0.0,0.1358169272743068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784652886991485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494467853922805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143687690122695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946696737565945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001192218292004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265446996872655,0.07958424977925739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475686348444418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582019515139781,0.0,0.12662248185644948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970214713477058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174337780558516,0.0,0.10970665325562873,0.0,0.1192561052082912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29705256758635323,0.0,0.0,0.061222578580476875,0.0,0.0,0.2359132303719675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884891828637408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436042812369205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891849262180387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506869790370536,0.0,0.07548758709947463,0.16944958351610856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136575310781508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141446215017223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215130935840504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788495602698165,0.1187376784972072,0.08896425937987372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953917620939439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960370911387332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559426392767067,0.0,0.0,0.30253340672172857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570666202100467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110059557457222,0.11313220346776033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173800847114617
parenting,familydude213,2020/01/02,"how much should I be saving? Hey folks, I posted a week or two ago about finding out I'm going to be a new parent. I'm super excited and I see every where you need to start saving. I'm not sure what kind of $$ I'm looking at to start, however it would be nice if I could get my mind wrapped around it. I wanted to try and get rid of some debt before the baby came.",1.37582329317269,1.8959984096385585,3.8796987951807225,91.88573293172692,76.95180722891567,6.497188755020081,19.8574297188755,6.42735559955562,-0.03291004016064303,280,5,69,2,6,99,59,83,0.055999999999999994,0.83,0.114,0.6846,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,4,7,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,20,20,5,0,6,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,7,7,10,13,2,12,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,3,5,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951702606324395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19600083076640767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18735117986758668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518194902779781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579038753683415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550542015084165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012343194525742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300628232898492,0.0,0.12512950558395874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292765105390288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489003911072505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223121714612674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185263820893864,0.16325564077525812,0.0,0.21264465216673872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444762870211603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21086506769654365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754495374670708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116794536774325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075106388904804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948315279682073,0.0,0.2150772276448858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986386006209552,0.0,0.1766096634044285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564047268653802,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fakees,2020/01/02,"1 Year old sleep regression Guys I'm really struggling, please help.

I have a 13 month old little boy, we were so lucky he has slept through the night from about 5 weeks and we couldn't believe how blessed we were compared to other infant sleep routines, he has recently regressed massively so I think we are reaping the reward for being smug!

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Our bedtime routine is as follows; between 7pm and 8pm we take him up, we do bath time once every other day. We change him into a clean nappy and pyjamas, turn out the lights other than his star projector,  feed him an 8oz of warm cow milk, sometimes he finishes other times not. I will then give him his dummy and then hold him quietly until he falls asleep, not rocking or anything but just sitting quietly. Once he is asleep I put him into his growbag and leave him. Up until the last 4 weeks that has worked absolutely fine, he sometimes used to wake and cry but fell straight back to sleep if i put his dummy back in.

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Recently he wakes, sits up and cries until we come into the room, he has usually found his dummy himself but continues to cry. He soothes quite quickly but doesn't go fully back to sleep and will cry again if he sense me leaving the room. Holding him seems to keep him awake so the only way to get him back off is to stay in the room and pat him, I've taken to putting a blanket and pillow on the floor in his room and falling asleep patting him through his cot. He will also go back to sleep if we take him into our bed however this is a behaviour I don't want to encourage for a few reasons.

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Reading up on sleep regression at this age it seems to be linked to separation anxiety which would make sense that he screams if we leave the room. I'm really struggling with the lack of sleep at the moment and my back inst doing great when sleeping on his floor. I know this is probably normal but any advise from you guys would be hugely appreciated.",5.855951086956522,6.06894210416667,6.070783514492753,81.2748505434783,66.76041666666666,8.969927536231882,31.53940217391305,8.716276077567194,2.3871380434782603,1544,57,301,22,23,493,205,384,0.10300000000000001,0.826,0.071,-0.9198,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,12,1,0,3,16,11,0,2,18,0,26,16,14,4,0,62,48,34,0,10,13,0,1,0,0,5,0,3,9,4,11,29,2,3,7,3,0,10,5,4,0,0,5,5,44,7,47,34,2,74,1,0,0,0,55,28,0,8,32,189,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277285762679468,0.0,0.2145031700249541,0.24055831160726535,0.04487603983729471,0.0,0.05048281840411973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05430484545175681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044573343039285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434908817746827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980956753713212,0.05684527267094691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899513931208419,0.042558637933864316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556001359422738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235555913792947,0.0,0.0,0.03447749461923443,0.06330443494032105,0.07500823981531571,0.0,0.0,0.07275514333350508,0.0,0.13068262997261598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044232274657777834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865569815775324,0.0,0.0,0.03626684447302608,0.05379134913042045,0.0,0.2096243404003976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614016651866689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04404940373696635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267326560660784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192794088442976,0.06465702025207921,0.0,0.0,0.13849258908877876,0.1405561996837847,0.0,0.05018901387271399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243813486767398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114929590043759,0.0,0.0,0.19901708832177745,0.0,0.07018939025168076,0.06600870646471596,0.0,0.08455085455962337,0.06784958291953261,0.13031600320724185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015117988802748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5283080496435668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130533272906244,0.0,0.0,0.07033746403683158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379759258022288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923381067469672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04228427106357355,0.0,0.0,0.07695958877736632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177909331433842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699490514266601,0.07267959640010248,0.0,0.03892311215257056,0.052380463841890657,0.10586775616605497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048042123585280185,0.0,0.0,0.09375601067244488,0.0,0.24055831160726535,0.04249594277718547
parenting,today-tomorrow-etc,2020/01/02,"The magic custard cupboard Our two yr old is going through the fussy food stage. Im exclusively breastfeeding our 4m old so convenience is our friend. He loves these custards at the moment but if we let him, he’ll down 6+ in one sitting. He can also open all cupboards an drawers within his range. To counter this we hide them in a high cupboard but not the whole supply. We put it in multiple spots in case he eats them all or sees just how many we truly have the clever snot. 

He will tap an gesture for his custard fix but once the stash is empty it is empty for the day, he will still try though. We must then secretly refill the stash for the next day and sometimes we forget so we use some misdirection so one of us can do it. 

The funny thing is that we realised he must think the cupboard has endless custard cos when he checks and its empty, he then comes back later and its full again. 

Who said parenting wasn’t fun?",3.1899643493761154,4.779313807486638,3.8484705882352976,89.67545098039218,74.02673796791444,6.483992869875222,24.766131907308374,7.0316486544052195,0.8710309447415328,730,23,152,7,15,231,123,187,0.055,0.843,0.102,0.9118,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,12,0,2,0,11,4,0,0,14,0,16,3,0,3,4,31,24,17,0,3,7,1,0,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,10,13,2,0,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,2,3,17,4,13,16,5,28,0,0,1,1,32,10,0,3,13,100,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960346142870933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423345395583838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037648495073558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251662478191064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862855773495429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110905789232803,0.0,0.13487224800107903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921207970151777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444265149258965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856541521079329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850951885514496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755612272840602,0.0,0.0,0.1769864476709439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565703647894413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663634240871737,0.18591121348674453,0.2365861227164653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19383918093402835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754909351928962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605592182574472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910958421471575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726540645022566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941172314390174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597646425047345,0.11185732344097088,0.1715140102720063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185214822043824,0.0,0.17052939633624986,0.0,0.20998605857668168,0.1507723174285189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490102485173136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,duraznopie,2020/01/02,"My niece dislikes people based on their skin color This is really difficult to write. My niece and her mom has been living with my sister and I for a couple of months now. She is actually my cousin's daughter, but I call her niece.

We are a Hispanic family, and we are definitely not white. Her mom and I are on the lighter side, but we still look Latina. My sister is darker than us, and is the same skin color than my niece.

She was raised by her grandmother, who we know has racist tendencies, and we despite. She is white. She started calling niece ""Blondie"" since a young age, because I guess she wanted a blonde granddaughter. 

Anyways, at home we never talk about people's skin color, and my sister has been embracing our niece's skin color telling her how beautiful she is having that tone. One day tho, we were talking about her starting a new school and she said that she didn't want to go there because there was only black kids going there. We explained her how this is wrong and talked to her about equality. She's almost 6.

Today I was showing pictures of me and my other sisters when we were younger, and she told me she didn't like the picture because one of my sisters (who doesn't live with us, and looks more darker) looks too dark. I didn't really know what to say, I told her I thought the picture was beautiful, and that was her skin color. She said that it would be better if it was white. I tried showing her a video about equality but she didn't pay attention. I spend a lot of time taking care of her so that's why I'm asking here.

Sorry if it's too long, I wanted to give some background so you guys would know where is this coming from. 

I'm open to any suggestions about how to approach this since she told me too she wished she was white.

Thank you :).",3.478631961259083,5.062777940677972,4.007380952380951,88.84995762711864,73.26553672316385,6.978046811945117,23.942292171105727,7.5804360353943165,0.9825580306698952,1397,40,287,17,28,440,167,354,0.053,0.871,0.076,0.9052,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,12,2,1,1,23,6,0,0,11,0,34,5,5,3,1,54,64,25,0,8,6,9,5,1,0,2,0,3,1,2,16,26,0,0,6,3,2,4,7,2,0,2,21,22,66,4,27,40,6,24,0,0,14,0,73,6,0,6,15,200,82,2,0.0,0.0,0.10087409235254488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035100038485524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029506363174838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663688461711792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890399596290196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142225928187417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111044114350948,0.0,0.10539248269227132,0.0,0.0,0.08904399929352565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437680695179063,0.0,0.06666502152347409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744792391156216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916180880567656,0.1174949708093698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387357769787232,0.1023524337574776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368841868296452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704281493552424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505013023326615,0.0,0.18255499709795506,0.09147909162607404,0.2604139964456488,0.0,0.0,0.08788137609360823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213111006405125,0.08250885262899996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972522460525487,0.0998352749916984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14009221289435295,0.07861745235516786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433273196961786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244278512401206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19665685616446554,0.0822038781560752,0.0,0.10461583799958946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101726714511592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571411851164227,0.14633146730983704,0.0,0.08255132031581683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777212858029586,0.24925438375812314,0.09034983200991416,0.09516909803681584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820641388082007,0.06027580875888936,0.0,0.09798256025248347,0.2963230527003963,0.0,0.07018136366953971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24868247795096254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291070170835966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327523924366343,0.0,0.11887026143291482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686199495262095,0.1130187373525202,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisDadisFoReal,2020/01/02,"Discussing boundaries around your kids with a Relative 
Hey fellow parents. Looking for some insights from you all on:
How to discuss boundaries with a close relatives on how they can interact with my child.

Background: 
My wife and I are raising a 9mo old daughter (our first and my wife’s families first grandchild). We are just trying to figure everything out but we are loving it. As you can imagine I’m very protective as a first time dad and my gut and instincts have been twinging lately when my brother in law interacts with my daughter. I don’t suspect anything serious is going on with them but I cant shake my instincts and I know I need to establish some boundaries. My wife and I have talked about it so we are very watchful of any interactions he has with her. But my gut just won’t relent because I feel boundaries are being crossed that have never been set. These boundaries have never been discussed since everyone else picks up on these unsaid boundaries but my bro in-law doesn’t sense them. My wife says that he doesnt realize them because as an infant himself he had a stroke which caused the loss of some of his motor skills and that he lacks some emotional recognition. 

All that being said, the issue I have isn’t specifically with him but that I feel these unsaid boundaries are being crossed which makes me feel uncomfortable. That instict makes me want to say or do something to counter which would immediately bring a lot of things to the surface that my inlaws dont really discuss. They tend to avoid discussions about my bro in laws stoke and the damage it caused bc they dont want him to feel like hes damaged (which I am totally okay with!) but I need to put my family (and daughter first). In addition, my in-laws are very protective of my brother in law and would most likely come to his defense that I’m overreacting or my proposed boundaries are not reasonable. 

Hopefully I set up this situation accurately because I’m concerned that if I have a discussion to setup boundaries with my brother in law interacting with my daughter it will seem like I’m targeting him or singling him out. Even moreso I want to be sensitive of him because i know he struggles with seeing his selfworth because of the loss of some of some of his motor skills and tends to see himself as not “normal” and overly compares himself to others. Knowing his struggles with seeing his value I dont want to single him out. But these boundaries need to be set with him in order for me to be comfortable with him interacting with my daughter. 

Any thoughts on how I can go about having this conversation with him on setting the boundaries or other ways to help have him sense the boundaries without offending him?

Thanks!!",8.610289026042452,7.927657767123293,7.939187866927592,73.14818568417884,61.348336594911935,10.679542375432787,38.83192834562698,9.851270322608157,3.817228752069848,2193,98,382,36,26,687,218,511,0.071,0.85,0.079,0.3398,1,1,1,0,0,0,34.0,4,3,6,8,12,19,2,4,15,1,46,4,2,9,5,109,82,33,0,13,17,16,5,3,1,4,1,3,0,3,26,38,0,4,15,0,0,8,14,11,0,4,6,13,75,8,74,66,14,45,0,4,5,1,79,21,0,15,13,289,101,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260645214440751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762758298057398,0.08251359727368568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825142906345369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19043596950889224,0.0,0.07984407850606906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258953602224269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077430456627542,0.10426357948743203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612207564504483,0.0,0.0,0.08856910168262835,0.08330363969089509,0.0,0.1747594391262689,0.0,0.18746704587563032,0.06621763081610242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153676774441432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535552926421313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062128037114379676,0.0,0.0,0.09206191225194307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674409764982783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281971435163788,0.0,0.10455816196225826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585070235275026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783611001771862,0.0,0.0,0.07880157616134413,0.08365618757719981,0.0,0.12374235833043765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061849964040442,0.14297621721397227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081635039133176,0.0,0.0,0.09726238116335714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029210836063832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317887707799186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059379476533535126,0.09530057946225633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816925108334613,0.1474213412037128,0.0,0.0,0.22158537420179386,0.08438133717036041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667398259379869,0.10418724892171766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135715711805864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937990642682092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450057178722007,0.0,0.0853363392849742,0.0,0.0,0.061579002325428525,0.0,0.0,0.07358536895828018,0.05404818342331007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293030810556982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22943644322537676,0.2186834455276512,0.07357287019072999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934968543133437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316883871747614,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anomcholy,2020/01/02,"My 17yo sister ran away. She’s not replying to anything or anyone. We know she was working because my dad spoke to her manager. We don’t know where she’s staying because she turned her location off and is now ignoring my dad. This has all been building up because she doesn’t want to go to school, wants to stay out and party late with her friends and not do any chores. She constantly lies, steals, leaves mess for other family members to clean up and is overall a very toxic family member. She’s manipulative and gaslights my dad. No abuse or anything, she just doesn’t like being restricted. She’s by definition an out-of-control child. She skips school and refuses to go to therapy. What should my dad do? Should he contact police and forcefully take her in? Living with her for 17 years, I know that she would resent my dad for that and just wait until 18 until she can leave in peace. She’s trying to get emancipated, I’m not sure what options there are right now. Thanks.",3.1091988304093583,5.44168645789474,3.9287719298245634,85.69584795321641,76.52631578947368,7.169590643274852,24.76608187134503,8.167268648758528,1.5772046783625728,777,27,150,14,18,248,115,190,0.125,0.7829999999999999,0.092,-0.7024,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,2,0,0,1,6,8,1,0,2,0,16,0,0,1,2,36,31,12,0,5,7,6,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,1,6,13,0,4,3,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,4,1,27,4,24,23,1,21,0,0,0,0,32,9,0,3,8,96,33,4,0.0,0.1764824183343356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129169590551014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414990804976967,0.0,0.24514774082733204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399442407786218,0.0,0.0,0.27239719427587794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609629692415113,0.1670610605851225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808352383655917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507906876803622,0.0,0.07782067921361135,0.0,0.1693044182447306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455784999166479,0.0,0.16802306350115287,0.3154349183397141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276986881340347,0.0,0.13152634265292745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272032248094693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014924548633193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175236069766799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038442744973587,0.0,0.11199251327490008,0.0,0.0,0.13713394426167153,0.17033829526139158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112785990620243,0.1620157687427417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290006297627765,0.17571015865699066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843800367631756,0.0,0.0,0.10581042084795006,0.0,0.0,0.09591947347874803
parenting,Chunky_poopers,2020/01/02,"How would you sum up parenthood? When my friends without kids try to get an insight into parenthood, I try to explain how it is the most amazing thing ever and I've never been happier but that at the same time it's also relentless and exhausting. 

Curious to hear how others would explain their parenthood experience.",6.6901724137931025,8.212516465517242,7.358103448275868,68.13474137931037,65.3793103448276,11.317241379310346,38.63793103448275,11.20814326018867,5.0938827586206905,257,14,40,8,4,85,45,58,0.08199999999999999,0.778,0.14,0.4036,3,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,3,2,17,8,8,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,4,2,7,5,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,4,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442182473375185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762404480158013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29872754236706783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359415997583633,0.0,0.15955234730785173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441938706324662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355336413905693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20288586358667665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807388809547514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41467608839456216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943826207857944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338769896772953,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Indawood_,2020/01/02,"Who of you have the highest count of unexpected children? And how did it happen? I recently met a family with four children, where two of them were unexpected. Wonder if there are families with more on reddit. Also interested in in your stories how it happened.",4.214468085106383,7.198184489361707,5.901531914893623,69.49400000000003,76.44680851063829,8.866382978723406,30.676595744680853,9.3871,3.700084255319149,209,10,32,6,5,71,39,47,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,1,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,7,8,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,4,1,8,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,1,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24764949388271595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5838739729048905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5476947067745306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057697999539997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025105413762504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358327290592649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lapaleja,2020/01/02,"My 2yo shredded two books - how to respond? Our 2,5 yo daughter always gets some books in her bed to look at before she goes to sleep. Yesterday night, she took a long time to go to sleep and I went in her room to tell her it was time to lay down. I was shocked to find that she had absolutely shredded two of her favourite books. Ripped out all of the pages and tore the pages into smaller pieces. I told her that that was very bad and tidied everything up. She didn't react much to what I said. 

Now it's the morning, I'm going to get her out of bed soon. Do I say something again? Do I confront her with the shreds? Also, why do children do stuff like that? She really liked those books! I'd be grateful for tips and insights.",1.6681428571428576,3.5851553000000003,2.5125714285714302,96.13200000000002,79.33333333333334,5.352380952380952,21.38095238095238,6.1826913282559595,0.025495238095237568,565,16,128,4,14,177,96,150,0.052000000000000005,0.883,0.065,0.4682,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,5,0,10,2,2,2,1,15,20,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,1,9,8,0,1,2,4,0,4,1,3,0,2,9,3,20,2,23,10,6,21,0,0,1,0,20,9,0,1,10,82,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486452927529587,0.15466405799071778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519903289053458,0.0,0.0,0.15816712896567134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705372611904631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169887665397516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942254981645169,0.0,0.21127568730654966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161964357640484,0.0,0.0,0.16449476794062354,0.15608936480230534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664054381253626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443241310624275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907718374290555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681102503146187,0.1478163766248933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720212825046064,0.0,0.0,0.14309673654195454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21278401150953447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246416952514922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167720513613156,0.0,0.0,0.17761286913754035,0.20651552360906053,0.0,0.0,0.3631484747150303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336749946949155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172309288294468,0.16772454296670458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iAmDrakesEyebrows,2020/01/02,"Parenting advice needed!!! I’m a dad of an 11 year old little girl. In the last 3-4 months, she has been talking and opening up more and more to me and my wife, about anything and everything, but it’s usually in a “guilt stricken” way, like, she will come to us about a thought she had, or about a memory she had of her taking a pencil from her teacher two grades back. She’s also not sleeping very well, just waking up in the middle of the night, she’s also started (at least just told me tonight) touching herself, I didn’t want to over react, even react, cause I didn’t want her to be startled by my initial reaction. We said prayers as we always do, and I came to bed and told my wife, but we are just feeling scared about this time in her life, like, is all this normal? Are these thoughts, and actions normal for her age? How would/have you addressed these things with your sons and/or daughters? Thank you",8.267417582417583,5.771922747252753,7.6110714285714325,81.01517857142859,63.28571428571429,10.1989010989011,35.387362637362635,7.645422480735847,2.4403384615384622,708,23,148,5,8,221,120,182,0.091,0.8320000000000001,0.077,-0.677,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,3,0,0,13,7,0,3,9,0,12,3,2,4,1,34,27,14,0,5,7,6,2,2,0,1,1,1,2,1,6,14,0,0,3,0,0,3,3,3,1,1,11,3,27,4,25,14,4,26,0,0,0,0,30,11,0,1,13,104,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094420433502204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24705578250136245,0.12852963307501816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271138866647936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877624904686025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766700802978679,0.0,0.15868104160062393,0.0,0.13306038324228894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202456422689243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882575176699566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810359088687796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591192185575778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091052171598565,0.15093038713294246,0.1548173751514178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329477156013732,0.0,0.0,0.11453596039371793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495762198532836,0.3026914109057712,0.0,0.0,0.16208803401331967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715182776808684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146934306949812,0.0,0.15464927426539732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457941411082213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933314583315844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614060640891585,0.1241554141428742,0.0,0.14221325140460558,0.0,0.0,0.10262158199341614,0.0,0.0,0.24526045206645455,0.09007145093807449,0.0,0.0,0.29520131821472495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089265344918273,0.0,0.1858058155761828,0.0,0.17012452393134814,0.12745216108082355,0.18221829104359755,0.12260939680166248,0.0,0.0,0.1388851563280468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972953532615927,0.0,0.0,0.09947223694231053
parenting,lkavhayi,2020/01/02,"Unloved daughter I’m just in so much pain . I have never known mother’s love all my life . My mother is the coldest , most selfish person I know . She lives for drama and discord and has caused so much enmity between her own children and one of my siblings hasn’t talked to her in 11 years . I have tried to maintain contact but I’m at my wit’s end .   For her its complaints after complaints , demanding money, and saying hateful staff . I believe my mother is Borderline .",2.381,5.019109544444444,3.391111111111112,86.78000000000004,81.33333333333334,4.933333333333334,26.777777777777786,6.2581,1.2189111111111113,369,16,65,3,10,118,63,90,0.252,0.748,0.0,-0.9691,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,6,3,0,1,2,12,11,7,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,1,13,1,10,11,5,7,0,0,0,1,14,3,0,1,4,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039094358839761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771016835353812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23891337074816546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663166345269745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482444037347247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19052836465229453,0.0,0.0,0.2381891441874208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434547472893379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39658617094950654,0.0,0.20804342056641825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278570746942135,0.0,0.2870269359246931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355303037436881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145114809032187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168102372658464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831386619494632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370647459649774
parenting,Thowaway123200112,2020/01/02,"College Freshman Mental Health My college freshman(19M) is struggling and I am worried about his overall mental wellness. He has always been an anxious kid, but had friends in high school through sports and was able to make it work.  Over the last 4 years he has become very guarded and we have dealt with vaping and weed issues through his last two years of high school. He started at college in the fall and pretty quickly started tell us he was struggling to complete even the most basic assignments. He pledged a frat and made it through the pledge process and survived the first semester after dropping a class. We made a couple appointments for him with a Psychologist, which my son says the doctor told him he needs medicine for ADHD and thinks all his anxiety is just related to him not completing his school work.  We don't talk directly to the doctor, so I don't know if my son told him that he is now smoking weed regularly to cope or that he is drinking.  My son is so guarded, I highly doubt he was comfortable sharing too much information.

We are now in the winter break and he told my wife that he does not want to go back. He says people in the frat text him all the time to do things, but he does not want to leave his room and that he feels like a loser.  He says he is miserable and then 10 minutes later is talking to my wife excitedly about the Frat.  When there is something stressful for him to do, I can smell the weed coming from his room. My wife and I can see that he is struggling with anxiety or depression, but we just can't get him to open up and tell us what is happening, because we have no idea what is going on. The thought of him coming home and just hanging out with the friends that are still here is frightening. 

I apologize this is so rambly and does not ask a specific question, but my wife and I are just so broken at this point, I would appreciate any feedback/guidance.",8.085188172043011,6.713720798387104,7.473763440860218,78.28897849462369,62.79032258064516,10.5247311827957,37.064516129032256,9.2995712137729,3.1888806451612908,1515,61,297,21,18,473,185,372,0.13,0.772,0.099,-0.9004,0,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,8,0,0,5,21,15,0,6,21,0,34,4,0,3,2,65,57,29,0,5,15,7,1,1,2,1,3,3,3,1,14,30,1,2,7,2,0,6,8,8,1,2,11,6,38,7,37,45,4,43,0,3,1,0,64,17,0,6,19,198,52,17,0.08751688715517186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517829125185037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282106094475947,0.0,0.0,0.059514484347453524,0.0,0.13390035825890478,0.09886917179380876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181647557872894,0.0,0.0,0.0672950841272766,0.0,0.05334948210741432,0.09665552601026882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077609801880165,0.18351958220748127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683577103940026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537816666699856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791544848227058,0.2297598531461581,0.0,0.0,0.0857332313851526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780407857457046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0442511677338895,0.06252208167035568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444181950616667,0.0,0.0,0.1352306598421214,0.0,0.045723961412267464,0.0,0.09947572759548022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739089428236014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302635857180404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773991888699052,0.08778657350745207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879591300607224,0.0,0.09134489258888627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0480969924161552,0.14267588750958754,0.0,0.0926677470563901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04275633041529473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656211893920573,0.05841820175584333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763928761217497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433498188114882,0.06489266290310935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060673190149643313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273174631946867,0.0,0.0,0.08903613712567926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803894279433446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087908240093032,0.0,0.2657152863139436,0.06973962821309491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737477542030644,0.0,0.0,0.12388980635075356,0.0,0.06989109913229206,0.0,0.10025029854755303,0.27447495722398324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068551762912307,0.15298723367313505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814233105472616,0.056077287512013116,0.0,0.06947863267004828,0.05103180069234402,0.0,0.0,0.2508784083917154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549128204953334,0.0,0.21054407915514128,0.0,0.0,0.07221059741290045,0.10323945505695874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868819190811895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742667234012106,0.08887764707687376,0.0,0.06216948565287307,0.0,0.0,0.1127160119481501
parenting,linguisticlybubly,2020/01/02,"Birthday parties... to do, or not to do? We have a five year old who has had a birthday party with school friends the past few years.  We were lucky enough to have his 3 to 5 year old parties with good turn out since we had a tight knit preschool group. Us parents all made a point to attend the other student’s parties. 

He’s  now in public school (Kindergarten). I’m rethinking our whole approach to birthdays because: 

1. I’ve taken my son to two birthday parties this school year where, to one, he was the only one to show up. And the other, him and one another kid came. This is out of a classroom of 20+ kids. It was sad to see the birthday kid’s and parent’s disappointment. 

2. Then there’s the expense. We are wanting to become more frugal and minimal going forward this year. Prior years, we spent several hundred dollars on his birthday parties (food, cake, venue, invitations, gift, etc). It adds up, fast! 

3. Lastly, it can be downright stressful: hoping people RSVP and praying kids show up, buying all the food/cake, decorations, meeting new parents, navigating family/friends introductions, keeping an eye on the kids, paying for the birthday party venue (previously did a bounce house place twice and Chuck-E-Cheese), feeding everyone, cleanup, meltdowns, excessive amount of toys, and so on.... 

Tonight my spouse and I discussed changing birthdays for our son — to go from inviting classmates and reserving a birthday party at a venue to a less stressful option. I don’t want to see my highly sensitive son get crushed if his classmates don’t show up to his birthday. I want to save money and be intentional about spending. But I also want to make him feel special. 

We considered the following: 
Have a simple birthday party with just close family at our home. Then have my son to pick one or two friends to invite for a “birthday day” where we take them to a park or kid’s place (like the zoo, movies, indoor playground, etc). 


So, my question: what do YOU do for birthday parties? I’m open to any suggestions. Thank you!",4.196550920344023,6.470024259946951,4.484022184711844,83.2622056104815,72.9787798408488,6.691712884816332,30.78763764970661,7.5764669431780325,2.127096198054819,1594,73,282,20,33,499,205,377,0.04,0.802,0.157,0.9897,3,0,0,0,0,0,76.0,11,2,1,0,9,13,0,2,24,0,22,3,1,4,2,52,45,20,0,6,7,8,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,6,10,26,2,2,3,4,7,7,3,4,0,8,10,5,29,9,45,33,10,45,1,2,3,0,45,21,0,8,20,173,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407961449256985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299449907772442,0.0971351381893133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646900814585287,0.10230730402642513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059489586386446,0.0,0.0,0.09799480421575707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974145864461915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571599234868186,0.20662345766272988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885160413151822,0.0,0.0,0.08732737173596583,0.0,0.04683868432307108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22402752123213693,0.0,0.21470708610119404,0.0,0.048397597267231175,0.0,0.10529241240981313,0.07769725400038571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787322161446477,0.09291975364461666,0.09200675939616064,0.0,0.10688754235638434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233762018437088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550931645197723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525643877192408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765281239352607,0.06183411310675752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946678206787317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944082255755184,0.0,0.2510855903680813,0.07045255774751033,0.0,0.0,0.3085782755712235,0.0,0.08842991905102916,0.06422095835713715,0.0,0.1935662500170076,0.0,0.0875693534836666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377161390465832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812525646852421,0.1476350839067171,0.0,0.0,0.10465038922322364,0.0,0.0766280484066759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212224550330516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964946347417167,0.0,0.0,0.08528521561506056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007595154114332,0.18098049734520588,0.0,0.11142765450782552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185524356861416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034228853458345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579207039378303
parenting,Natka_las1,2020/01/02,"4 month old sleep problems My baby girl is almost 4 month old and for the last couple of days it takes forever to put her for nap and for night sleep. I made a mistake nurse to sleep and now it’s biting me hard. Bedtime takes 1,5-2 hours of nursing to sleep and now I can’t even afterwards to put her to bassinet, sane either awake right away or 1-2 hours later. I take her to bed to nurse and but even after waiting 20 min after she falls asleep she wakes as soon as I put her in bassinet. She constantly need my boob on her mouth for falling asleep. I cam sometimes rock her to sleep but again she is awake right away in bassinet. And for naps I either lay with her in bed and nurse her all the time or it’s 1 hour or nursing and rocking. I don’t know what to do! She is too young for sleep training...",1.1562061403508783,2.95586410526316,2.1032711988304094,99.01876644736844,80.46198830409357,4.976754385964913,20.04422514619883,5.602791699666715,-0.3843073099415206,626,16,149,3,16,196,90,171,0.044000000000000004,0.956,0.0,-0.6049,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,0,6,11,11,1,1,24,13,15,0,3,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,9,0,1,1,4,0,5,2,2,0,0,1,1,23,0,28,12,3,35,0,0,0,1,14,8,1,4,22,87,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090954608250936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472004497804386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773384213448658,0.0,0.0,0.1205486426255492,0.0,0.07026230290416417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439179579114387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759580833975896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32187484237795266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987484880746969,0.08880697902265007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308902049800404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392215177347553,0.0,0.0,0.08078339590175078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224010804609618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286447291771717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424830851999034,0.0,0.3285678212845903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608161192957687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6541587444912264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775213687833436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457455079317289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352832469002183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Charged-UP,2020/01/02,"conversation Looking for ways to talk to my son about his weight 

It's really gotten out of hand 

I’m more of a direct parent that doesn’t sugar coat 

I’m looking for ways to have a conversation with him

Any suggestions are welcome and appreciated",3.093125000000001,5.73906372916667,5.116500000000002,75.47850000000003,78.375,8.006666666666666,24.18333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.1847033333333337,201,7,36,5,5,69,38,48,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.8591,1,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,3,1,0,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,10,7,1,3,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,0,0,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21975977953973846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5427457680173061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358830769898469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20702447481202974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597436462535101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5130184939588495,0.0,0.3935216373796372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoatMaaaam,2020/01/02,"Magic Adult Hands My 14 month old has decided adult hands are magic. He will drag me over to the door, then put my hand on the door. He knows I can open it. He will drag my husband's hand to the touchpad on the stove. He knows his dad can make the special noises. He knows we have the magic. 

He also covets it. He watches us and tried to figure out our secrets. He knows keys have something to do with it. He sometimes steals my keys (he has to climb for them) and hold them by the lock. He knows we harbor secrets. 

This stage is really fun.",0.37197802197801977,2.604404714285714,1.6771428571428582,98.38324175824181,86.67857142857142,4.160439560439561,16.6510989010989,5.369823440869387,-0.791204120879121,416,9,94,2,13,132,66,112,0.057999999999999996,0.8390000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.7645,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,7,0,11,4,4,1,0,18,17,4,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,4,7,0,1,9,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,5,13,2,12,15,0,11,0,0,1,0,24,5,0,0,3,51,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462274034275185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7031096508110131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079821158947106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423657986171406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684972386460271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25722453939883433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391975284589513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19698468631618826,0.2530664171805457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372198532863875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077855111900392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Teek00,2020/01/02,"Does mattress quality matter for a 4 year old? I thought my son had a respectable bed, except lately he’s been waking up in the night and I’ve crawled in to cuddle him.  Turns out it’s the shittiest mattress ever.  I wouldn’t sleep on that thing if you paid me. Then my wife said when our son came into our bed one night he said “ohh this bed feels so good on my body” lol not sure he just meant the idea of being in our bed or literally the mattress.... but anyways. Has anyone upgraded their child’s bed and have you noticed any difference in how they sleep?",1.80681818181818,3.8837118508771935,2.9430462519936214,92.42117224880384,79.6140350877193,5.899840510366826,21.767145135566192,6.980632752743323,0.4892035087719302,437,13,94,5,11,140,84,114,0.038,0.892,0.069,0.3505,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,2,2,0,6,3,0,0,6,1,6,5,4,1,2,20,14,9,0,2,6,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,8,1,4,5,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,8,3,14,3,13,4,0,18,0,0,0,1,17,9,0,2,8,57,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303023157654215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397913900365904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128370584813048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21915238418701866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001931200383454,0.0,0.0,0.16768041854642818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332347212216812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688447601069762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071454290592854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21630593617671415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21614599381003846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35962861861617296,0.0,0.0,0.21815083739102803,0.2010639211931929,0.0,0.12984083673687838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645326207202401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834995387051733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059146735155324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272980932876849,0.0,0.0,0.15211804037935386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20841816961370305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339145286835795
parenting,theGirlyEngineer,2020/01/02,"How to get my 3 year old to not favor one parent over the other So mom here, my husband and I have a 3 year old daughter and another on the way. 

Our daughter is absolutely, unequivocally a momma’s girl. She only ever wants me to do EVERYTHING. While it can be endearing it definitely puts a strain between my husband and I because he can’t help with anything. Not for dinner, bedtime, mornings, playtime, nothing. And of course my husband feels left out and has stopped trying to do things (which makes it even worse since I’m 100% parenting at this point). 

She does prefer dad when I’m not around, but the second I enter the room, dad becomes invisible again. 

I need help with tips or advice on how to make their daddy/daughter bond stronger. Specially since baby #2 will be here in May and having two kids needing 100% of my time while working full time will surely make me lose it. 

Thank you! 

TLDR; I need advice on how to strengthen a daddy/daughter bond since daughter is a momma’s girl",5.113521634615381,6.113409494791667,5.780416666666667,79.92548076923079,68.63541666666666,7.782692307692307,30.39423076923077,7.882392219407189,2.0755091346153844,781,30,144,9,13,254,122,192,0.051,0.84,0.109,0.9219,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,1,2,11,6,0,1,9,0,14,1,0,6,2,31,26,15,0,5,5,13,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,8,10,1,1,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,3,0,1,17,4,20,21,1,27,0,1,0,0,24,12,0,2,12,95,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26326523453197204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125042082854392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108511165847821,0.119916419323265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211519860945371,0.14877159817698404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788165650536313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897168641732058,0.12184880132181375,0.0,0.0,0.12106458230385855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811112842393624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037804350227299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058046180263312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463578772961016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507009543066342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697508232561571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776540762695612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996471769973149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925352265870713,0.0,0.28270144241266565,0.0,0.09127990643909127,0.10244957299477003,0.0,0.0,0.2991489457916002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734020110358246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354161939964145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33428924753114186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261979693547153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269583026251861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401869005016518,0.0,0.0,0.08949232257892759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709567492380616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145616558080158,0.0,0.13158766172724706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945277087475007,0.10692292475559452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806717979270334,0.0,0.137276372759086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349180051930774
parenting,notjakers,2020/01/02,"Everyone knows the best gift to get for a baby! It’s gotta be electronic toy keyboards pianos, right? Kids love the lights. The noise. They play songs. They play notes. How amazing are these!

Two boys, age 3.5 years and 9 months. So far, I think we’ve received at least a half dozen electronic toy piano keyboards. Probably many more, but they get regifted, returned, recycled or donated so quickly it’s hard to keep an accurate count. 

Does anyone else seem to get the same gift from half their friends and relatives.",2.6365625,5.5514011979166735,2.64875,90.32125,83.89583333333334,6.533333333333335,24.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.6139541666666672,409,16,77,8,12,123,76,96,0.019,0.7709999999999999,0.21,0.9555,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,4,1,4,6,0,0,7,0,2,1,0,1,0,10,11,7,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,5,6,6,9,4,9,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,2,5,39,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986403773281905,0.2489130331010564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549426488993637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125918494090896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029389137353383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23213239426504856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876890306050982,0.0,0.3807665807256673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761978432398704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21592954935057526,0.0,0.0,0.1335093371894815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925604695604856,0.0,0.0,0.2462954038797785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939063869748618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26192230052523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746300964996134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22115660491658745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566132331796528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373097324496828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644055157994186
parenting,HabitsMakeYou,2020/01/02,"Pros and cons for having children? I just saw a couple with 6 children and the mother was nursing a baby so they just had another. She looked 15 years older than she probably was. Exhausted.
So as someone who doesn’t have kids but am discussing options with my wife; what’s the motivation to make more and more kids? Let alone one? 
Is it social pressure to do the “right thing” as our ancestors have done? Is it fear of missing out? What is it that motivates people to have babies? From my POV, they seem incredibly expensive, time consuming and exhausting, not to mention an enormous, life long responsibility. 
Thank you for your thoughts.",3.8952564102564087,6.694212649572653,4.550961538461539,79.80028846153847,76.35042735042734,7.660683760683763,28.553418803418804,8.59863814320734,2.5537470085470084,508,22,88,11,12,162,89,117,0.146,0.804,0.05,-0.9082,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,2,2,4,6,0,2,6,0,15,3,0,3,0,17,22,9,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,8,7,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,5,0,1,6,2,10,1,14,15,2,7,0,1,2,0,17,3,0,2,4,66,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491519540039507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25225253196469993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26617970439974525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461806919584137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27070159840869745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459931864804815,0.16991760413112314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289174105069208,0.2020133348208025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057846711013662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301252330222207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677692185102275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593688881665809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544050674837389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900060671766167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24522490021427146,0.20382926041266036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22147918846962916,0.0,0.0,0.1598201607437213,0.0,0.0,0.19098109828327,0.14027491574108475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491545334662196
parenting,space_cowgirl404,2020/01/02,"I went to my first party as a new, first time mom, and had to go home because I felt sick to my stomach, but I don't think I was actually sick... To explain a bit further, it was a New Years party at my brothers house with mostly people that I know. My little man is 2 months old and my mom offered to stay at our house with him for a few hours so we could see our friends. I reluctantly agreed and was even excited at first.
We got to the party and I was having a good time and didnt feel weird at all. About an hour in I started to feel really sick to my stomach (I was drinking water) and my legs felt a bit shaky. I told my husband I wanted to go home and so we left super early.

When we got home, my stomach ache went away within 10 minutes and I felt perfectly fine. My mom told me it could be separation anxiety. I honestly thought that was a made up term to describe why dogs get sad when their owners leave the house. 

Could it actually be separation anxiety?? I've never had an anxiety problem in my life! If so, does it get better as your child gets older? TIA",2.160347222222221,3.503597276785716,4.171369047619049,87.3208531746032,76.23214285714286,7.120634920634919,24.49801587301588,7.793537801064563,1.1487914682539675,826,27,182,12,18,283,122,224,0.113,0.6829999999999999,0.204,0.9824,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,6,1,1,6,7,12,0,1,11,0,17,10,4,1,3,36,41,17,0,6,2,5,5,0,1,0,4,0,3,2,6,14,2,0,9,1,0,4,3,4,0,3,20,6,34,8,25,16,6,36,0,1,1,0,22,12,0,3,19,116,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.18550437300431774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181321437917932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892998095147947,0.0,0.0,0.057939784745364487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406137042329671,0.20753347046348244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276619482115256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317629280581695,0.0,0.0,0.09310990052310034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277766414435905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611726419650676,0.0,0.2737801504542045,0.0,0.0,0.24254085482347054,0.0,0.0,0.07343309637430583,0.0,0.14897444420911898,0.0,0.10803483026632106,0.0797209357823451,0.152035578518847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860197496752088,0.0,0.1872043493349724,0.32901451961546946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05223535969628787,0.0,0.0,0.10064107663641107,0.10326887165743663,0.0,0.06713452521126691,0.0,0.09526208962140427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993579397196642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33395378369522044,0.0758656292081232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330612577577805,0.18359401962521285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973586496756127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589364016705883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094716732866204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608895585585797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574017379874258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727477407985896,0.1013074831150879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609022963148579,0.0,0.07545672164538943,0.11084537020732704,0.0,0.0,0.18164301264392213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0560611984122486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621909034136507,0.08576515718352827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061207168389026685
parenting,tamedorange,2020/01/02,"Attachment issues? Hi I have 4 children and this was never something we dealt with with the first 3. 

My oldest (24 F) and my second (21y M) are close siblings as we raised them to always take care of each other so they get along well. My second son (13) is closest to his older brother and while he and his sister aren't that close they get along just fine. She cares for him seeing as she was about 10/11 when he was born she wanted to help with him as much as she could.

Now fast forward 10 ish years and my last child my daughter was born. So at this point my children were 20, 17,and 9. While we all thought she would be attached to her brother closest in age this ends up being untrue. 

My daughter's schedule made it so that she was home a lot and helped me around the house and what not. So she ended up helping with my youngest a lot. At first it wasn't a problem but now shes 4 years old and is attached to my eldest more than she is to my to the point that she is allowed to sleep in my eldest daughter's room on the weekends when she doesn't have work but when the weekday comes is a fight to get her to sleep in my room once again. 

Any advice for this mom and is this normal?",3.848237951807228,4.140825297188755,4.1749573293172695,92.84870105421687,71.12851405622492,6.385642570281124,24.79944779116466,4.557286568694721,0.2449616465863453,925,23,210,1,16,289,136,249,0.013999999999999999,0.9279999999999999,0.057999999999999996,0.6897,1,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,3,0,3,3,14,6,1,0,9,0,23,2,2,2,2,39,34,24,0,5,4,8,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,12,23,0,0,1,1,0,2,5,2,1,4,9,1,37,4,34,21,6,44,0,0,1,0,41,18,0,2,26,151,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914369268725024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184814471319579,0.0,0.0,0.0968313581169542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267589579621874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29035601384109305,0.0,0.0,0.12265799244348373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136883259974286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25223387496405203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422369129973892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318163371064345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863268178237469,0.0,0.14283066097881986,0.0,0.0,0.1643011063455232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862012337686695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606838326480667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421129610155889,0.0,0.13473463542211128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676764354814952,0.0,0.0,0.1046744122592374,0.0,0.10982139251125728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951380526231538,0.0,0.0,0.1494163203707521,0.1516427001634371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692126948032358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362497943424016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346788917838248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849894182763395,0.0,0.0,0.10962022234260023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706096943480713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304324376352624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398641737410356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802739658714193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366298119111564,0.0,0.0,0.10115110288202936,0.0,0.0,0.1833913985500777
parenting,lakelifesforme,2020/01/02,"How to navigate a separation with kids Hi, I need some advice recently separated with children and my ex is not communicating with me. 
I want to be able to see my children and setup a custody plan but I don’t know the steps to go about an arrangement when my ex won’t willingly talk about it.",4.545508474576273,5.41370723728814,6.562500000000004,74.28408898305086,69.84745762711864,10.645762711864409,31.69915254237288,10.686352973137794,3.4803525423728807,233,10,47,7,4,82,44,59,0.0,0.978,0.022000000000000002,0.0387,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,12,10,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,9,7,1,4,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,2,33,8,0,0.41762584364513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408099140990144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373463911348709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295162418080041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096642713450136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41235513784238415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327937271849174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356718337361604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24632654289440145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fartbrother,2020/01/02,"Should I be worried or this normal 3 year old talk? He's turning 4 in 2 weeks. About 4 months ago, I showed him this little pigeon at the park and his reply was, ""let's kill it"".

I laughed it off but told the wife but she didn't believe me. 

Just recently his older brother and friends finished all the crazy bread from Little Caesers. He was a little upset and said we should kill them. I told them those are mean words and he shouldn't say stuff like that because it makes me sad.

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Should I be worried or this normal? Sometimes the wife watches stuff on Netflix that isn't for kids but she usually changes it after awhile. I know he wakes up and wants to finish the episode and then she will change it.",2.1877722277722285,4.410764825174827,2.4215434565434606,95.89407342657343,79.06993006993007,4.645154845154845,22.801698301698302,5.288315135182226,0.03772367632367635,562,18,118,2,14,170,94,143,0.18,0.779,0.040999999999999995,-0.9678,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,2,0,2,7,2,1,6,0,13,2,1,1,1,25,21,12,2,7,6,3,0,1,1,5,0,2,0,1,13,7,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,6,3,17,3,10,7,1,20,0,1,1,0,23,8,0,2,13,73,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918302822203472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456780045033874,0.16337313242304827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196030794053291,0.0,0.0,0.1514806536576585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28446344619160924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387679585479402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29750104317171633,0.0,0.0738909573949492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748563639352296,0.0,0.06568614855883881,0.4042667867032557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897473342965345,0.0,0.0,0.14645695898817776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731780173721717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26346759406014103,0.0,0.0,0.1410840969013218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275450870874894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789404304905275,0.1069211268474642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297584401246035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078293055911881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806691922932192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25694809390421586,0.0,0.0,0.14624448316375172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807919021122312,0.0,0.07930290223853169,0.0,0.10784877998116224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273083787722026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337313242304827,0.08658227488037107
parenting,--amazingmazer--,2020/01/02,So I think I the wife’s pregnant So we are pretty sure she’s pregnant and with that is the scary but exciting part we were done with having children I dunno just had to tell someone haven’t told any of the family yet well thanks Reddit,0.3332653061224491,2.771863959183676,1.829795918367349,94.41163265306123,93.08163265306122,4.4326530612244905,17.20408163265306,6.1826913282559595,-0.1939877551020408,190,5,39,2,7,61,40,49,0.039,0.688,0.273,0.9115,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,2,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,10,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,6,4,4,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155213184053769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243264919160314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987706952981723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34320120082825945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224288317280761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685313314118256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987000722722145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770082834619764,0.2917839236592063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030741099364589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30283745729504113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28495555407931106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dahlia2019,2020/01/02,"How to stop my 3 yr old from biting his little brother? He always tries to bite him but today they were in a play tent and I heard really bad screaming from my 2 yr old. Only later when undressing the 2 year old for bath I saw on his arm a huge bruise in shape of a bite mark, my oldest almost broke skin! How to stop such behavior?",2.7188732394366184,3.3989890563380314,4.4071549295774695,88.75721126760563,73.92957746478874,7.370140845070423,19.833802816901407,7.554174236665415,0.37628225352112704,257,4,58,3,5,87,54,71,0.218,0.706,0.076,-0.9056,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,1,2,2,2,0,7,3,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,9,1,10,0,0,16,0,1,1,0,7,6,0,1,10,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23054434309186794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157167693069987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223431335706265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307532003803021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7247700567590121,0.0,0.0,0.17510200207602325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749267586902806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849689430682729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21823325425549275,0.0,0.0,0.15631258605843246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482620216301714
parenting,Travelallovernow,2020/01/02,"7 year old boy punches his sick mother and elderly grandmother. What to do? My 7 year old nephew has serious meltdowns when he doesn't get want he wants, or must do something he doesn't agree with (e.g. take a bath). These meltdowns have been getting increasingly physical where he has punched, kicked, and thrown objects at his mother and grandmother. The major concern is my nephew will soon cause serious physical harm because his mother (my sister) has cancer and is very sick, and his grandmother (my mother) is elderly and frail. Also, there is no male figure in the picture to help discipline my nephew. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

A few additional thoughts:

* He is aware of his mother's and grandmother's condition, but it hasn't stopped him
* He sees a counselor at at his elementary school, but it hasn't done much
* All other family is out of state, so it's just his mother and grandmother caring for him
* Considering signing him up for Taekwondo to learn discipline or having him speak to the police about punching people

Please help!",6.548549107142858,8.409246994791669,6.4752380952380975,73.06500000000005,66.03125,10.06904761904762,32.985119047619044,10.290406445055957,3.7502681547619052,861,37,140,22,14,272,114,192,0.08,0.8320000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.7726,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,6,0,23,3,0,1,2,30,31,16,0,4,6,10,0,0,0,3,3,1,1,2,6,11,0,3,3,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,2,16,2,16,24,5,16,0,0,1,0,33,7,0,3,7,91,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322334261942806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812778078719428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446587714033828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205367900808031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160295612583554,0.20312725091685516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023504984936561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640598482017826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20661567163169395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800239504824706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650738180701732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535721621902273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149770687604797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370838346635763,0.0,0.0,0.21705251574576312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20011732961904494,0.15756836981678618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222526706496525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653144491157666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867133377555794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697868152476305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163151229930281,0.2332572319484185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404645358409283,0.0,0.0,0.2546683816645949
parenting,da_shaka,2020/01/02,"1 yr old daughter sometimes holds food in mouth After many months of struggle, my 1 yr old daughter is finally starting to eat semi-solid foods (rice, peas, potatoes, eggs, ground meat). Unfortunately, she hasn't learned to feed herself so I hand/spoon feed her all her meals. She is eager to eat but sometimes instead of swallowing she stores the chewed food in her cheeks or in front of her teeth. She doesn't know to swallow once she's at this point. She turns to me and hums, looking for help. How can I get her to swallow the food she has chewed? Am I feeding her too fast? She hasn't learned to drink from her sippy cup yet as well to wash food down.",4.414837606837608,5.398872107692308,4.203333333333337,90.65388888888893,70.23076923076923,6.700854700854702,28.290598290598286,6.42735559955562,1.040726495726496,514,18,109,3,9,156,85,130,0.027000000000000003,0.907,0.066,0.7149,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,2,0,8,22,3,1,1,9,13,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,18,1,3,1,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,21,2,20,13,1,16,0,0,1,0,19,7,0,1,8,62,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622985149463944,0.0,0.2637037712920624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115548030467528,0.0,0.0,0.779066103037245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732195632388939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636947943879689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081590314443112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820661034879704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063978769750856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285165223770014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27042545105976595,0.13722746447598086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181059646385015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25488381317898745,0.0,0.0912049598778075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470829816943508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015835658721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585704421102365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DAGKJ123,2020/01/02,"Anyone else feeling regrets while pregnant? I’m currently pregnant and everyone has told me my whole life that once I was pregnant/had kids I would feel totally different than my usual stance of never ever wanting kids, but I still lack that feeling. I feel excited for my boyfriend that is excited to have them, and everyone else around me is excited. However I feel like it was a huge mistake and that I’m not going to enjoy it at all. The things that other people say to me does not help such as “you’re in for it”, “your life will never be the same”, “good luck getting any alone time”, “it’s horrible jk not really it’s great” and anything else along those lines. I don’t know why people feel the need to do that. Anyone else have ever/is feeling this way?",4.847200000000001,5.667716653333336,5.599999999999998,81.63000000000002,69.13333333333333,8.933333333333334,29.666666666666664,9.120678840339163,2.425466666666668,598,22,116,11,10,195,93,150,0.151,0.6709999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.3982,3,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,4,10,0,0,4,0,12,2,0,0,5,31,27,7,0,6,4,0,7,1,0,2,2,1,0,2,15,6,0,0,8,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,3,8,14,8,13,21,5,14,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,1,9,77,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178554660787636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652971699764554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794276200655718,0.26075132323829103,0.10471028472160897,0.11327339585732883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132942027315762,0.0,0.0,0.11135135302575756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4251813545781447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301974589427896,0.0,0.2431725981439869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4503657796868479,0.09090254401693458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647930305362809,0.0,0.07231522419583965,0.10672553157145324,0.0,0.14028604096075795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528841275158236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992951695440316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179751223932731,0.0621645841555809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434919612925996,0.1962755495551104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550982021808045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764287813481696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151523110639015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118887366283773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016165576309893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453470624691951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419651401176458,0.0,0.0,0.12158629907199345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014037180654856,0.0,0.07505131672582506,0.1009997033801866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481716691976393,0.14206245197716838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038989513924044,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PerestroikaPal,2020/01/02,"Turning three has resulted in my son being possessed by a demon I'm only kidding about the demonic possession, of course. I had previously read that the ""Terrible Twos"" sometimes don't actually manifest themselves until the little on turns three, and I think I have a classic case of this with my son. 

He has always been a very headstrong toddler with an explosive temper, but holy cow the last couple of weeks have been beyond atrocious. I could tell him that water is wet and the sky is blue and he would defiantly scream ""NO"" in response. Every choice, discussion, or object is a huge battle. 

He used to be great with sharing toys and playing with my wife or I. Now he is bossy and insufferable when toys are involved whatsoever.

I'm guessing this phase doesn't last for 3 weeks and then go away, right? 🤦‍♂️",4.191990074441684,6.261318303225808,5.123225806451618,79.56791563275436,72.41935483870971,7.866004962779157,28.69727047146402,8.617729084823388,2.3449900744416867,647,26,116,12,13,211,111,155,0.07,0.83,0.1,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,10,0,18,1,0,2,0,19,26,12,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,10,1,0,1,4,0,1,3,4,0,2,3,3,9,3,17,19,0,18,2,0,1,0,13,9,0,3,8,73,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.1943491901632451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657151638366861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711521868574427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901122095512282,0.22036421132643308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779895513796309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318591271804912,0.0,0.0,0.21957207163935627,0.21939466408506936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324680219807995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996083399149568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146840820658852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992115988041392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007959095228256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969720616074323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407261144064273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761221502416134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332527845400005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200831201305086,0.0,0.1643259632004158,0.0,0.0,0.3195045941238068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147591873762416,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tinypenguin14,2020/01/02,Tricks and tips please Starting to potty train our 2.5 year old boy. Any tips/tricks greatly appreciated. Particularly how to make sure his little potty doesn’t make our bathroom stink and leaving the house.,6.811666666666667,9.499552388888894,5.8066666666666675,74.80500000000002,66.77777777777777,7.022222222222222,28.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.9155666666666664,170,6,27,2,3,51,29,36,0.10099999999999999,0.701,0.198,0.6115,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,2,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478365903033227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33200488543843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474719594403465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31886087100268784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018186399173271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020229105806121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159928911398133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305582748682493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314649819487305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838182979071955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939225182838744
parenting,LordBunnyWhiskers,2020/01/02,"[Hobbies / Alone Time] How does everyone deal with their hobbies whilst having kids? How does everyone manage their hobbies / alone time, without feeling that you've not given enough time to your little one? 

​

**Context**

My wife and I enjoys board games. Prior to kids, we used to host game days with friends that would last the whole day. 

Our little one came along a while ago, and naturally hobbies took a huge backseat. When he was a few months old, we could even get a few games in every now and again.  We hosted a few game days, and even had him at the table, handing him some miniatures, spare cards, durable components that he could bang together, toss around. He enjoyed it and he could be with us while we played. 

Now that he's getting into his first year, he's getting more active and wants to spend more time with us. I hosted a game day a while ago, and after that, I felt a little bad. 

The Little One was quite active, so my mum took care of him while we had a few hours alone. That night, our LO was all over the place. It was evident that he missed us and was wondering why we didn't spend time with him, even though we were home. 

On my part, I didn't quite enjoy our game day as much. Yes; I enjoyed playing the games, but I kept getting the feeling that I would have enjoyed it more if our LO was playing with us.",4.116147688613168,5.312833718631183,3.986367820692416,91.13659395637384,71.12927756653994,6.601480888533121,24.868721232739645,6.5966054737557815,0.67407680608365,1040,29,218,7,19,316,134,263,0.049,0.843,0.10800000000000001,0.9364,0,3,0,0,0,0,45.0,15,1,2,3,12,12,0,0,15,1,19,1,1,3,1,45,36,20,0,7,4,2,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,11,25,0,1,4,10,2,3,4,2,0,4,17,4,33,10,21,13,13,45,0,1,0,0,43,12,0,3,30,142,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199397547122198,0.0,0.0,0.26638009234113896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928914937533478,0.10417478164720173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632040190783275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158333835806377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805552676022014,0.08741034175793279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535208410929254,0.0,0.0,0.27645293885339595,0.08838679108030434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500507679068922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858493910391177,0.0,0.16987719206697924,0.0,0.07223361333027628,0.16384280071109222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669819737858547,0.0,0.08231696882913747,0.0,0.0,0.07292430789147215,0.0,0.0,0.06623697768347049,0.0,0.17916747667726032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599702637123846,0.0,0.08442957550056325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988370527789366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34370730451952125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843113305731699,0.0,0.06302350020480806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045446041409751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996219127714038,0.0,0.17428436868417838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284030854929652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957256801906477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823748517662502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423207768212275,0.0,0.2499575353364688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905046742543418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125041906522481,0.0740456452147075,0.0,0.0,0.050567448895427636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736055107125263,0.09571765151780062,0.0,0.08264339609191387,0.09297360529177448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180429611420268,0.0,0.10417478164720173,0.055209136572251835
parenting,jamie2882,2020/01/02,"2 Year Old Addicted to Youtube I have a niece who recently turned 2. She has a youtube addiction, her parents allow her to watch those youtube animated rhyme videos from channels like Cocomelon, Looloo Kids, Dave and Ava, etc. She has been watching these since before she even turned one.

Every morning she wakes up and just before breakfast they play these cartoons (from 10-11 am) until her nap time (3-4 pm). After her nap they play it again until she goes to sleep around (11-12). She cant stay without the cartoons for too long and starts crying a lot. 

She also has a speech delay and cannot say any real words expect ""mama"". She doesnt respond to anyone calling her name and doesn't feel the need to talk to anyone at all. She mostly communicates through her cries which make her parent comply with her requests. (Cries indicate them to turn on youtube / or change the specific song)

Her parents and everyone in the house, including family that visit know this is a huge problem but we don't know what to do about it. Her crying eventually leads to her throwing up which is another reasons her parents always comply. She has a lot of toys and barely plays with any of them without the cartoons playing. I dont know what to do but I dont want to see her having any long term effects because of this. 

Can anyone suggest any tips on what to do or if they suffered the same problems? ",4.976616541353383,6.3125733533834625,5.130150375939851,83.21748120300752,69.22556390977444,7.554887218045112,29.413533834586467,7.85451343220497,1.902792481203008,1096,41,204,13,19,344,157,266,0.086,0.875,0.039,-0.9233,4,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,5,2,7,8,0,0,12,0,21,5,2,5,1,42,33,15,0,6,8,4,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,14,11,1,1,6,10,0,3,9,3,0,1,1,7,32,5,34,32,7,25,0,1,3,0,43,8,0,6,14,137,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354154340212996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465599057108792,0.07767887055953472,0.0,0.0,0.2539385098797296,0.0978908976572771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958280406244337,0.0,0.0,0.08310577669463974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690836498775675,0.0,0.1588765237031991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532593204143172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875725231103827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41018450476922097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21882281973180884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411554523263304,0.06166012248590241,0.0,0.07865564631751241,0.08920473994204002,0.0,0.0,0.08800682192497182,0.0,0.047203112477537036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771918035730817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391646316571458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04560855627261209,0.0,0.0,0.16523254274561014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587342306730046,0.0,0.0,0.06231521312158941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692215781604444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796040891224912,0.0,0.06325979014420911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146388897816318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786563279683626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625847184742664,0.0,0.09598452785170004,0.0921768380964272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423967362290229,0.0,0.0,0.0743918789777661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077224252562808,0.0,0.09342245840595284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607717675567981,0.099504049772392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503524373123158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443607369861918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046304229859821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506322046097243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998185148960488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011758403759852
parenting,Dontatme19,2020/01/02,"Stress and Pressure Childhood and adolescence is one of the most, if not the most important time of one’s life. This period of time in a child’s life is a prime time for them, a time of accelerated growth and learning. Children Needless to say, the mental and emotional health of children and teens is more important than ever.

However, the importance of this period of children's lives is often neglected, as many parents and caretakers value success over wellbeing. Students are pressured very heavily to do well, leaving very little freedom and time to be the kids that they are. Replacing time meant for growth and enjoyment with rigorous studying and work indirectly destroys one’s childhood. This can be detrimental to the child’s environment, leading to anxiety and other mental health concerns that can affect them later in life. All the possible effects that can occur later on in life contradict the reason behind such heavy pressure and strict parenting.

Putting pressure on a teen creates a looming fear of rejection or failure to meet standards that will stick to them in the long term. It is often difficult to digress from the mindset that one grows up with, and this can stick with them forever. Parental pressure can quickly become self-pressure, where they obsess over academic success and neglect their own mental wellbeing the way their parents did.

“Parents can be well-intentioned in wanting their kids to do well in school, but they are often too heavily influenced by a culture of academic intensity” (Budzienski). A study by the  *Journal of Child and Family* found that parents who put pressure on their children by over-managing their academic lives end up putting them at “higher levels of depression, decreased satisfaction with life and lower levels of autonomy and competence.” Parents believed that they were being supportive, oblivious to the undermining of “their children’s developing sense of self and confidence,” Pressure and motivation should be a way to drive a student to want to work hard, but when parents pressure kids too much, it creates a block on what they can do. Rapid growth and fast learning capability are often hindered by family pressure, damaged mental health, and other factors. Family pressure could lead to self-driven pressure, causing preventable stress and anxiety for a teen.

It is ultimately the job of the parent to monitor their children’s health and keep their stress and anxiety levels under control. By allowing their children to relax and alleviate stress, they can reduce the risk of mental health problems and others. This can solve the increasing depression rates of the new generation as well as many other underlying problems. Parents and their children can work together to make the most optimal environment for growth and development once and for all.

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Adolescence, National, and Michele Kipke. ""Adolescence: A Time Of Opportunity And Risk."" National Academies Press (US) (1999):. Web. 7 Nov. 2019.

""Anxiety In Teens Is Rising: What's Going On?."" HealthyChildren.org. N. p., 2019. Web. 7 Nov. 2019.

""The Effects Of Academic Parental Pressure On Kids"". Living.Thebump.Com, 2019, https://living.thebump.com/effects-academic-parental-pressure-kids-10380.html. Accessed 4 Dec 2019.",8.694132270168849,11.267701075046908,7.760596153846155,63.15627884615384,61.70168855534709,10.88347091932458,40.34188555347093,10.899274998029325,5.390106979362099,2655,144,351,74,40,820,237,533,0.17600000000000002,0.7190000000000001,0.105,-0.9881,15,0,0,0,0,0,98.0,1,0,21,13,14,39,1,20,32,0,34,10,0,12,3,78,42,38,0,7,5,11,2,0,0,2,10,1,0,16,22,34,0,6,8,1,0,14,1,30,3,4,4,3,22,9,76,30,10,64,0,6,0,0,53,27,0,10,21,247,44,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102817980805986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058118826656646014,0.0,0.05928897552711539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05405911430773685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590220399870915,0.042015803465273165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906495631041236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059194665547484274,0.04660904637655407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04760121857343992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882703914254727,0.05921637879487832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05769925469347604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02990730487593243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047140567342404384,0.0,0.0,0.2796830678754607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222097815168437,0.046774430431479136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05572098099450688,0.0,0.0,0.1858486479077896,0.0,0.052742848772057496,0.09293551744766436,0.04657038619079645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03512677941538615,0.106704499398216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651619471218346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03868453066523797,0.0,0.0,0.05082437122170288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05604260447246296,0.14263693136528105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6427572376659856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932540108759104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070769414625233,0.0,0.15870429037169415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0541060066754155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04184853920235515,0.0,0.053258071223851386,0.0,0.0,0.16469422699161834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24112143253736945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05971683790346869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21479743068904547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329992368310519,0.0,0.0,0.08684025356951322,0.06207773357877661,0.08354060863282957,0.0,0.0,0.1892603795854151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493220802060368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zonitocali15,2020/01/02,"New Dad question Hi everyone! My wife is due in a couple months so I figured now would be a good time to join. 

Quick question for new parents. Obviously your life changes when you have your first child and there are the obvious ones (less personal time/sleep) but what are some of the not so obvious things that changed in your life after having your first child? The things no one seems to mention or warn you about. Lol

Thanks in advance! Hope everyone had a great holiday season!",2.9434065934065963,5.694911747252751,3.0007582417582452,89.75674175824177,79.87912087912088,6.716923076923077,25.583516483516483,7.908726449838941,1.6137727472527477,383,15,74,7,10,116,69,91,0.040999999999999995,0.7240000000000001,0.235,0.9706,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,6,0,3,7,4,0,0,6,1,8,2,0,0,3,14,11,6,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,4,1,0,8,4,9,8,2,16,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,6,12,52,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493575239221991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270600531055314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155651492826265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809079191301529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849775245922832,0.0,0.18204923497111106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400488732023882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23326321405868364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317999974676309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189545987326274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22378390580383375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833500989372018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417946577071258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699522069284621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503222272494557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652427441208808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202352814975845,0.0,0.0,0.21940142433792367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925696743718568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172989924480136,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hotelsierranyc,2020/01/02,"Transitioning to own room/crib Hi everyone,

My 3mo has been sleeping in a bassinet in our room next to our bed since we brought her home from the hospital. I'm pretty sure it has a 15-pound weight limit, which she is rapidly approaching. And it seems that length-wise, she is starting to outgrow it. I often find her anchored to one side, or turned so that her head and legs are at 3 o'clock and 9 o'clock, which I'm not even sure how she accomplishes this since she doesn't move like this on the play mat.

I know the AAP recommends your baby sleep in the same room with you at least 6 months (and ideally a year), but I'm thinking about putting her in her own room in a crib. On top of it being a bigger sleep space, it's a better sleep environment (darker, quieter, in the nursery where all of her stuff is, a baby monitor, etc.) I'll be going back to work and she'll be starting daycare in just over a month, so it could be good to get into a new routine before that all begins. And finally, she takes all of her daytime naps in the crib, and has been falling asleep independently for daytime and nighttime sleep for a few weeks now.

Thoughts? Anybody make the transition before the recommended time? We have her three-month checkup next week, so I'll be consulting the pediatrician on this, but would love to know your experiences.",7.592829354553494,6.4251293793103486,7.430804597701151,77.54657824933689,63.6360153256705,10.482876510462717,35.402593575007366,9.466822959209583,3.0122446802239904,1052,40,211,16,13,336,151,261,0.013999999999999999,0.867,0.12,0.9753,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,3,0,6,11,8,0,0,19,0,19,11,8,3,5,37,37,15,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,5,0,15,12,1,1,6,2,0,6,2,0,0,1,4,1,24,8,30,25,9,46,0,0,0,1,24,23,0,3,18,138,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850154602283627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958760535036995,0.0,0.0,0.10179285923740504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918946103753847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836221257365935,0.07601967345191912,0.0,0.0,0.10997894469489072,0.0,0.11258575244385584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260817949432599,0.10519545260331836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601327916853582,0.0,0.06541158093580647,0.09653687482731624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812146959591632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154504459904193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650725511621802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056229981626295916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387842997331427,0.0,0.0768273230996752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756050469812261,0.12232859335717698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116021605662124,0.2448113234694877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779918753891416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709378017301485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570304286943488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477887025651264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904168277880214,0.0,0.5758944756166984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629307629332065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317571251869264,0.0,0.0,0.21695281040998,0.0,0.08653769845151113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374872482800919,0.0,0.0913731884965378,0.06711327158845279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251911518891811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464577539744206,0.1401556461537498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379109449745846,0.0,0.0,0.08176073582607576,0.0,0.0,0.0741179051063583
parenting,thclpr,2020/01/02,"I'm planning to bring my 8 year old to a dream theater concert but wife won't let. Need some advices :) Hello everyone,


I'm along time lurker and it's the first time I'm posting here which of course, for some advices :)

In 30 days we will have dream theater in our city (progressive metal) and being someone that grew into a musical environment and having countless memories of my uncles taking me to concerts I was planing to take out kid + my brother to watch his first concert. He would use external ear protection and we have seated places reserved too, but my wife inst really happy about this saying it could damage his eardrums and the environment could be not appropriate...

I mean, from my side, even as a child I don't recall any troubles or problems when I went out with my uncles. So besides ear protections I would really be glad for directions regarding what I could be missing or even if it's ok, because as far as I know, we have friends that take their kids to musicals, loud cinemas, football / soccer matches and I'm sitting here feeling kinda bad because I would love to share one of my passions with my kid but I'm having a hard time convincing my wife. (mostly because at this stage, I'm also starting to doubt if I'm wrong or not) 


Sorry for the mobile typing! And have a great new year!",5.781665019762844,6.428480612648222,6.4345825098814275,77.09361289525694,66.98418972332016,9.012747035573122,33.20380434782609,9.017664075816787,2.920668181818181,1037,44,186,17,16,340,151,253,0.08800000000000001,0.715,0.196,0.9873,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,1,4,9,16,0,1,8,1,21,4,2,1,0,43,41,21,0,10,10,4,2,0,1,5,0,7,0,4,9,16,0,2,3,7,0,3,4,7,0,3,2,10,25,9,28,26,3,27,0,2,1,2,21,9,0,10,12,122,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614370350222913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697583843449736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096820227481944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169238097085722,0.2446348917989967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204134333155319,0.0,0.0,0.08627059780999517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670767611401048,0.0,0.0,0.12782298881352802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763814257067761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22756942511700745,0.0,0.0,0.10335038733139723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748192174023952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424006760899118,0.11983166479335135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351650582032591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678891090977438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073266777820485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571477021649173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918877647764254,0.0,0.12919592102773605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403691357734448,0.0,0.0906460290473714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976120171540454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281147038312028,0.0,0.0,0.12799984522237126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713930032145262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637929079986054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334290572151633,0.0,0.0,0.14974458795518264,0.09468311023336434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017352264600294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23400712710844745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155343492529697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400615077657975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850791571934719,0.14625651972075807,0.0,0.17228701696629936
parenting,VitorOfHyrule,2020/01/02,"My 1 year and 10 month old is becoming increasingly difficult to put to bed. Can anybody shed some light? This is the scenario: she’s always hated to fall asleep, ever since she was a newborn. She would fight her sleepiness and hold out as long as possible. Since we’re going for a more affectionate approach to parenting, we have never let her scream and cry herself to sleep, and will never do this, no matter how effective it may be. 

A few weeks back we got really good progress from her: we started putting her to bed and leaving for our room. She would get up a few times, ask for hugs and kisses, etc, but would eventually sleep on her own. We were ecstatic. 

But the past week she has started to spiral down into a frenzied state every night. She asks for daddy. When I pick her up, she asks for mommy. Back and forth, a boatload of times. And it’s the same situation with a bunch of things: she wants water, then she doesn’t, then she does again. Same with a hug. Same with her blanket. 

And she gets progressively more stressed out, no matter how much we try to calm her down. 

There has been some nights where it’s taken almost 3 hours for her to fall asleep. 

Anyone can shed some light on this waffling back and forth? Is this a fase, what can I do to take her out of this stress spiral?

Thanks in advance!",3.443322259136213,5.173592302325583,3.8370874861572553,89.43476744186047,73.65116279069767,6.774750830564784,23.13842746400886,7.447530270364453,0.7871171650055375,1026,28,213,12,21,320,147,258,0.077,0.8029999999999999,0.12,0.8583,1,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,6,0,0,4,10,13,2,2,12,0,22,8,4,4,3,46,36,19,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,1,10,22,1,1,1,0,0,8,5,6,0,0,5,3,31,7,36,24,15,46,0,0,0,3,34,13,0,5,24,153,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813524725615182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816492184527666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249109083993844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33087301228422555,0.0,0.0,0.27214722999998353,0.0,0.0,0.13029447846014874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295903556616261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032410026012672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157367360029504,0.0,0.1067154363720223,0.09939930019361726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232744769235525,0.0,0.06704809637640333,0.09895210595277873,0.0943556452677807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647620968876544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161819315618066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491883569602184,0.0,0.12063776367064752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044044508376816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416677947775592,0.0,0.08672543885444108,0.0,0.1819796883608316,0.0,0.0,0.22142370273105055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237952588076337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099763782684812,0.0,0.11262079763191687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299945368499455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23719557480092726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755780146178468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951808171973339,0.1326092091356136,0.23612105227470498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670070855885187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702806741404501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870276276708844,0.0,0.0,0.10861582948227687,0.0,0.0,0.07837756426288563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375847223755175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009750209270168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958490377325813,0.0,0.1892653803382773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514188596443893,0.0,0.0,0.07597224182159966
parenting,Princess-lilly,2020/01/02,"Cutting 4 teeth tips? Hello everyone! (On mobile)
I was wondering if anyone has any tips for a 9 month old cutting 4 teeth atm.
We are already giving him ibuprofen as much as we can.
He also doesn't like chewing on anything cold or wet, so frozen washcloths and cold teething keys are out (not that he likes them room temp anyway). 
We have a couple teething toys but he'll chew on them for a few minutes and then throw it and start crying hysterically again (not a you took away my toy cry but a mom something is wrong cry).
TIA
~a tired mom who's been up since 4AM",2.531578947368424,4.401137596491228,3.243719298245612,92.11136842105265,76.54385964912281,5.612631578947369,23.68070175438596,6.2581,0.436781754385966,442,14,94,3,10,139,88,114,0.17,0.755,0.075,-0.8885,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,3,1,2,0,4,5,2,0,6,0,9,8,4,0,0,14,14,12,0,1,6,2,1,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,7,2,0,1,2,1,2,3,3,0,0,3,3,9,2,10,10,2,14,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,3,7,53,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006415935684606,0.1377352193621954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712481508596732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042980041452922,0.0,0.1417336512952093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181922098364748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057330162656635,0.5675718617272125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16457667134380946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522224918663245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828936177652315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034360313176183,0.1374752878488374,0.0,0.12661157933246928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807302844303064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14247348786688185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259390884564748,0.0,0.0,0.12190789199444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19795728961805428,0.0,0.0,0.1913579664662904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18678008939476734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831050190108772,0.0,0.0
parenting,summerallya,2020/01/02,"my 5yo son doesn’t like being home Recently i got into a fight with my sister and now we’re not speaking. Which usually isn’t a big deal but we lived together so after our fight she left. I really don’t mind because I didn’t particularly enjoy her staying with us but her kids (my son’s cousins) were here pretty often as well so my son got used to them. Now that they’re gone he seems more lonely and wants to go see them often. He hates being at home with us because it’s “boring.” Now i will take him to see his cousins when i can but I can’t keep driving back and forth to grandmas house (where my sister is staying now) just to hang with them. But i also want him to enjoy being with us at home. It’s just difficult because he’s quite extroverted and i’m not. He ALWAYS needs someone around to play with and that’s not always feasible. 

This is more of a rant than me seeking advice but i’d appreciate any from someone who’s been in a similar situation.",2.2797029411764704,3.9395132350000033,4.102235294117648,86.60582352941178,76.65,6.905882352941178,23.264705882352942,7.724431198458867,1.031858823529412,757,23,160,11,17,256,115,200,0.10800000000000001,0.765,0.127,0.5889,0,2,0,0,2,0,14.0,5,0,3,1,17,11,3,0,4,0,14,0,0,1,0,33,29,15,0,3,10,7,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,1,7,14,0,1,1,1,0,4,8,6,1,0,6,3,27,5,23,19,2,23,0,1,2,0,31,8,0,3,10,106,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334422307760262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094095259803694,0.2100562628943436,0.0,0.0,0.0858363638755091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236574857269926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705814292968944,0.0,0.23083417132578654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013097016536926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173577024390372,0.0,0.20190505788996396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461965467605192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379837631944073,0.0,0.0,0.1456450660579318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219331894470594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714229072796458,0.0,0.0,0.06166646616784083,0.0,0.1114577350714238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744983511237706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359318637934863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284147606786168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342543161938368,0.0,0.0,0.08086205850915598,0.0,0.1246305590985181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116770461771025,0.1149092080577202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188059427330835,0.0,0.0,0.213897662148538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26907508679624936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490442464073867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4554942814765721,0.10901664751643836,0.1390174423933843,0.0,0.14889987752968822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134901586964718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,appalachianma,2020/01/02,"Would it be wrong of me to not throw my daughter a birthday party? My daughter will be two years old in a few months. For her first birthday, we really didn’t do anything. My grandmother and I made her a cake and let her dig into it, and she got a small toy. I was too broke to buy anything else or decorate, and I really didn’t have any friends or family to invite. I still feel guilty for not throwing her a proper party. 

I am already stressed about her upcoming birthday. I am working now, so I can afford a bit more than last year, and I have a few people I could invite with their children, but I don’t want to host and entertain. I’m very introverted. I feel like I’m being selfish though, and putting my being uncomfortable in the way of my daughter having an actual birthday party. 

Ideally, I could take her to have a fun mommy-and-me day. We could start off by going to the aquarium or the zoo. And then go to build-a-bear. And end the day by blowing out a candle in a cupcake and letting her eat it. But part of me still wants her to have that birthday party experience I had growing up. Ughhh I don’t know what to do.",2.4499909645358042,3.943191098712447,4.284477072509599,86.1870363677434,75.7811158798283,7.137022814547097,25.567878924779762,7.85451343220497,1.3983184549356218,878,31,184,13,19,298,129,233,0.066,0.787,0.147,0.9485,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,1,3,7,9,0,1,15,0,27,1,0,1,0,33,40,18,0,7,7,3,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,15,1,0,3,2,1,6,6,4,0,2,6,2,33,5,26,23,5,29,0,1,0,0,17,8,0,3,15,136,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.1396059232875551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787026734514464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972857056950767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354523808959485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618446771845454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34266530715988897,0.0,0.0,0.18452372980453466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638609490592366,0.11950827289094493,0.0,0.1267086974884898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994013100226788,0.13486423592871954,0.0,0.14467086888258815,0.10220209254129288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168676286603534,0.0,0.0,0.11052780107734024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626085895688616,0.0,0.114418150731073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786220346243598,0.11661299391427485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29257708509871266,0.0,0.0698918897305677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536683098854455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141891270794444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011740465390788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492003883891414,0.0,0.0991797910239675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438148133760006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329579844339985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125860428273338,0.0,0.22849580149913626,0.0,0.1638747465810501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756331591760042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055572358495536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974883250956974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803948240505395,0.16876098904184034,0.11355436905684364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414938379210212,0.0,0.0,0.10162571936487742,0.15641365199846802,0.0,0.18425189910898845
parenting,volanna4014,2020/01/02,"Toddler pees on couch- normal? My son is 3, and he’s a loveable scamp who never quite MEANS to do naughty things but nonetheless can be quite destructive and seems to have no inner sensor that says “I shouldn’t do this”. I also have an older 4 yr old son who is quite different, does naughty things in his own way, but not quite so damaging to my house. 

I grew up with 2 sisters and no close boy cousins or family friends; when I ask if this is normal I mean I literally don’t know. I feel stupid asking the doctor! 

But is it normal for a boy to whip off all his clothes and pee on the couch for seemingly no reason? Time outs and discussion are meaningless as he just moves on to the next thing or gets distracted by whatever is passing through his brain the moment. Please parenting reddit enlighten me.",6.243333333333332,6.0438483018867935,6.365408805031446,80.89201257861636,65.98113207547169,10.337106918238996,31.50314465408805,9.994966539143718,2.8025144654088057,636,22,129,13,9,203,110,159,0.184,0.7509999999999999,0.065,-0.9732,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,4,4,5,2,1,7,0,14,4,3,1,2,30,23,15,0,5,8,5,1,0,1,1,1,1,2,2,9,8,0,0,8,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,0,2,13,1,18,21,2,20,0,1,0,0,19,9,0,5,7,83,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344565223945196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418601085360185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444036658772924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514910358073298,0.0,0.13240097070130746,0.11319998534540635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12194497756856088,0.0,0.06540609428149573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999398404644681,0.0,0.06758297880496124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925903180067498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109047244911937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28181241047615785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748456541577522,0.0,0.0,0.09976703798184007,0.0,0.1375711822247018,0.0,0.3802231639114311,0.0,0.0,0.13573697590847414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363412121784294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419936392565418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5503425496661364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299913392831245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286879058489534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355210183756662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578144022942217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542830931626973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267647973601918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EmolaBoi,2020/01/02,"Not really sure if this belongs here, but tonight is the first night I'm solo taking care of my 16 month old daughter. My soon to be wife is sick and stayed at her mother's, and this is my first night alone with our daughter. I'm super nervous. I've been alone with her during the day, and that's not a problem. What makes me nervous is that I'm a deep sleeper, and our daughter has the tendency to wake up a couple of times some nights. Normally, my SO is the one to wake up from the crying, then wake me up. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't afraid of somehow fucking up tonight. Is there any advice anyone could give?",4.0874236641221335,4.026600137404582,4.93823473282443,88.82353530534355,70.5267175572519,7.4660305343511455,27.06202290076336,6.6274283507984215,0.9962587786259536,482,14,108,3,8,157,80,131,0.17300000000000001,0.74,0.087,-0.8898,0,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,3,5,8,1,3,8,0,12,5,3,1,1,18,21,9,0,5,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,3,3,1,12,3,14,15,1,20,0,0,0,1,11,6,1,4,13,70,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17253108690621136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657230653731551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006594865980233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345392582321775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800133289920549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096772964744916,0.19535880788567192,0.1939414061852735,0.11386573449272765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003614255242088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322564349007648,0.0,0.16937116249651188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785428185626495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092744428868384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4970650483729572,0.17299000763499475,0.0,0.0,0.1852686216473733,0.0,0.1196407227762625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894280045793478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310800373099646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794772474732292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881880481550088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640445505561746,0.0,0.13275014530006413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295277912806797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iamarobotdoasisay1,2020/01/02,"How do I survive this clingy stage? My daughters 2 and I cant do shit.  Cooking? Needs to be there. Bathroom? There. If I'm not beside her, she bawls.  I cant sleep in because she screams her head off with my husband until it's not even enjoyable to lay in bed and I just end up getting up.  Cant go anywhere cuz she flips when she realizes I've been gone to long.  She's fine at Daycare but soon as we're home...its all me.  So her naps I scramble to do things when she's sleeping and then I'm wiped by the time she's up.  Do you just let them cry and figure it out or what's the best route?  She's my little bestie but there's days where it really gets to me and is hard to manage.  And I'm beginning to resent my husband.  He smokes so when he rolls out of bed at his desired time, he has a smoke, 15 min poop.  Living the life.  Any tips would help",-0.9268443197755936,1.0884202473118307,1.1402571294997692,101.29125525946706,91.1505376344086,4.094997662459093,17.226741467975693,5.511479884284512,-0.7693662459093034,650,17,162,4,23,214,117,186,0.062,0.848,0.09,0.8029999999999999,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,2,14,6,2,0,4,0,13,7,5,2,1,25,22,20,0,4,8,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,6,9,1,0,2,2,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,2,25,3,22,17,2,28,0,0,0,0,21,12,1,2,13,100,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517428037700114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301359283937232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22403495327709635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344986600491257,0.1376774701661499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908064493106247,0.0,0.0,0.14100207036873966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230698381005369,0.0,0.1213260715185071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912368857218613,0.0,0.2190929138699408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143091695839529,0.0,0.2141386718786612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21829860553787267,0.15078781883702136,0.0,0.21396386831760436,0.18850747807667928,0.18892381072344647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829332543161506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676128186062514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913499726070326,0.0,0.0,0.4272699930879494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182717304636105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24896476960471495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516506517702916,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alcdtw,2020/01/03,The old Switcheroo Over Xmas my two boys 3-5 got iPads with red and black childproof cases. They have been fighting over the red one for some stupid ass reason. (They do the same thing same apps in same order) So I switched the interior cases so one is now black and red and the other one Is red and black.  And not a peep since wtf,2.1762254901960816,3.9838684852941166,2.3652941176470605,98.29049019607844,77.38235294117645,5.121568627450982,18.686274509803926,5.46131890053228,-0.6271254901960783,259,5,60,1,6,78,46,68,0.128,0.83,0.042,-0.7452,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,3,2,2,0,6,0,5,1,1,1,0,12,6,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,2,7,4,0,5,4,4,7,0,0,7,1,4,4,1,1,2,39,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664436351795569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34957589109894066,0.0,0.6772357656306813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425248753864022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27557803406349063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22132436357629884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254307704506248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mizesquire,2020/01/03,"Advice needed--potential theft from babysitter? Hey everyone!  Happy New Year! I have a somewhat complex personal question and need advice of other parents, if anything just for closure so I can sleep at night. 

Long post alert!

My husband and I moved to our current home three years ago.  I never fully unpacked all of my valuable jewelry.  I kept them in several small jewelry boxes or the small boxes they came in and put the small boxes in a big shoebox in my closet.  I have since unpacked most of the valuable jewelry and put them in a jewelry box on our dresser, next to a larger jewelry box where I keep my inexpensive costume jewelry (which I wear more frequently).  One of the items was a gold ring with a small (0.3c) central diamond that my grandmother gave to me.  My late grandfather had it custom made for her after they emigrated to the U.S. when they could first afford it after several years.  It has so much sentimental value.  I have not worn this ring since we moved because I got pregnant soon thereafter and never had a chance to wear it, and thus, I do not have a recollection one way or another of seeing it after we moved.

Recently, I decided to wear it. I looked in our dresser jewelry box--it wasn't there. I looked in the shoebox of other jewelry boxes with nice jewelry--not there.  I can account for every other nice piece of jewelry that I can remember, except this one ring, and I kept it with the other nice jewelry.  I have turned my house upside down.  It is gone.

I had a fleeting suspicion that it was a babysitter we had in October---our first babysitter we ever hired.  She works at our local daycare.  She was referred by our son's teacher who was supposed to babysit that day and could not at the last minute.  Even though I did not know her, I did not hesitate to have her over since she works at the same daycare, and they presumably do a background check and all are CPR certified.

She showed up with her infant--I had no idea she had one, as she is very young, and she never gave me a heads up.  I remember being slightly perturbed that she didn't disclose she was bringing him, even though I wouldn't have minded.  I also remember closing the door 3/4 of the way into our bedroom--I didn't completely close it so our cats could come in and out as they please.  I also told her that my mom was coming in two hours to take over, but if my mom forgot to hand her an envelope, that her money was in the drawer of our media center.

My mom was very complimentary of her when we came home.  I asked if she gave her the money, and my mom said that the babysitter informed her that she already got the envelope out before my mom came (at the time, again, I was slightly annoyed but I guess if I was her young age, I would want to know how much I was getting paid and not forget my money).  I also noticed the bedroom door was wide open, but again, I did not think much of it as my mom could have opened it, my husband, or even the cats. 

Anyway, when I first could not find that ring, I thought it was her.  Then I talked myself out of it, as I would hate to blame anyone in my head and assumed I probably lost it when I was unpacking.  I also told myself that her job with health insurance, etc. was more valuable than stealing a ring, and she would likely not want to risk anything given that she had an infant. Then last week, I was looking through our medicine cabinet and noticed some prescription pain medication we have is completely gone--vials and all. I am 100% sure we did not throw those away.  This again opened a can of worms in that maybe she did take the ring and the pills. 

I am losing sleep over this.  I see her almost every day in the hallway at the daycare, even though she does not directly supervise my child.  We love all of the other daycare providers and I seriously, wholeheartedly trust the ones that we know.

For my son's sake, I have resolved to try to let this go as he loves his daycare and it is so convenient to our home.  Emotionally, I am devastated and feel violated (on top of that, we paid her generously).  I also would never want to point fingers at someone who may be ultimately innocent when perhaps I misplaced that ring and possibly threw away the medication.  

I just don't know what to do or even how to mentally reconcile what happened. Has anything like this happened to any of you?",5.844810766910314,6.1207357360946775,6.344427427775845,79.08671887689991,66.78698224852072,9.515024944889195,32.07158603086205,9.376866141966733,2.756528947673744,3407,131,658,61,51,1108,332,845,0.054000000000000006,0.857,0.08900000000000001,0.9645,5,0,0,0,0,0,106.0,20,1,7,9,35,23,3,1,41,0,73,16,9,4,10,140,127,60,0,18,25,11,3,2,0,6,5,8,9,3,49,52,0,4,22,1,8,15,21,9,0,10,54,16,132,14,93,59,16,113,0,2,5,2,90,51,0,16,46,501,181,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054533061219828,0.047830075889136056,0.0,0.05403065085814753,0.0,0.0595434526341732,0.2157490012294348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03669295622571245,0.05657915255681961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037728344686292166,0.0,0.13320729664849454,0.0,0.0504429869445861,0.0,0.10138971126953354,0.0,0.0,0.032891996513039465,0.0,0.0459138657803095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18513904666616984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295923211211247,0.11314684266080301,0.0,0.0,0.21540340083631312,0.0,0.0,0.06959625868927242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04721857951250608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060694934851525426,0.0,0.0,0.060176885269533374,0.17819212819031244,0.04880765578193124,0.09092305656516683,0.05155871190028774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02728253766119945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049316185466606266,0.13768868811273002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028190571303139945,0.0,0.03066529566880157,0.0,0.08630949770485538,0.0,0.059440279101563576,0.0,0.09542889356455908,0.057438771390619536,0.0,0.05327186902422425,0.11075194141988123,0.05735430862484967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237134208079804,0.0,0.05313727719746465,0.06225972061334585,0.0,0.06091145963808073,0.0,0.0,0.053544501645285805,0.04795991296679415,0.0,0.0,0.11861454277322782,0.08796514247338799,0.0608664200835295,0.0,0.0,0.055175208420762366,0.0,0.05272182654364658,0.0,0.0,0.04775069729202815,0.13593215338989187,0.06036465048499391,0.05890099471032604,0.0,0.09739751656113392,0.0510558994087396,0.0,0.0,0.05420756991246214,0.0,0.0,0.10871302687751706,0.05437647786945679,0.0,0.05448170227172247,0.37916629262929175,0.0,0.17204487785096426,0.11899493206554193,0.04000880903835953,0.16646142846391793,0.05211249817260095,0.05738442268067085,0.0506354667715678,0.0,0.0,0.12286196265923455,0.0,0.0,0.1828150217711038,0.0,0.0574145935876789,0.0,0.05991342801625967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04711361539453009,0.0,0.05922914146187388,0.051007286368379666,0.06082898384084175,0.05167637814086691,0.0,0.05817532049241534,0.0,0.0,0.10848439889729136,0.060444758545934736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053276530399405504,0.0,0.1833700170476282,0.0,0.05132594695788805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599429712878098,0.0,0.0,0.12191325296622155,0.0,0.13390262643625908,0.0,0.10799295241707496,0.0,0.04571802205753665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05085431342752993,0.0,0.08113866295686903,0.04336900165193135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03457379289253692,0.15903893514246578,0.04283623482816107,0.0314630572616829,0.0,0.0,0.10311742380057548,0.0,0.036633606571261,0.05869027522155625,0.052708645707316516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904119119760033,0.09547660993890844,0.0856579178466507,0.04328145884529582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785634179885879,0.0,0.0,0.15331946437227498,0.0,0.0,0.10424059968841813
parenting,kevinpalmer,2020/01/03,"Any transitions are absolutely brutal with our 3.5 year old Our 3.5-year-old is absolutely brutal when it comes to transitions, specifically leaving the house and getting ready for bed. He bites, hits, kicks, and acts like a raging wolverine whenever we transfer from one activity to another. (we don't hit him or get physical with him, so it's not a learned behavior)

We've tried multiple techniques like setting expectations in advance if we are doing another activity and walking through what we are doing. We give him options so he feels like he has control. We tried to talk to him asking him what would make bedtime/transitions better for him. These techniques haven't worked. 

We are kind of at a loss at this point

When he rages we have held onto him asking him to breathe and explain he isn't being safe for himself or others.  He will acknowledge what he is doing is wrong and then 5 seconds after we let him go he repeats the behavior. 

Once we get him out of the house (if we are leaving) he is fine. And as far as the bedtime routine goes usually if we can get to the book reading stage we are out of the woods for the most part. 

This has been going on for months and we are looking for anyone else that has gone through this or any tips at all.",6.656204250295158,6.760143227272727,6.75473435655254,77.42223140495871,65.07438016528926,9.889492325855961,35.467532467532465,9.606745405546679,3.272278866587957,999,44,188,18,14,320,131,242,0.09,0.852,0.057,-0.8858,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,16,0,0,5,4,13,4,0,10,0,27,1,1,2,1,46,45,20,0,5,7,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,11,26,0,3,4,2,0,7,4,6,0,2,3,2,27,7,31,36,3,28,0,1,1,0,41,10,0,8,12,130,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399341491161936,0.28371089611034994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945926370049346,0.13861286061597225,0.0,0.0,0.2529416645850105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964633656445235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653385501741045,0.0,0.0,0.15173077497136422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301113088655655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684028733043502,0.09664581185608573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827179936371293,0.12977525652832053,0.15376827189038353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121955760834973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087585756098206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864891701578007,0.0,0.13833547443477065,0.0,0.19827652029054887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360318923631345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030208823873878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798116376405692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28391235611235044,0.14407139790288834,0.0916708916716735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649771402981673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788564577029854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353190629161578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873491176563788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836958115915387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899451003851366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984872374000752,0.0,0.0,0.09610077356790944,0.14791012597574332,0.0,0.1742349293701509
parenting,Infamous_Broccoli,2020/01/03,"How do you co-parent with someone who clearly does not co-parent? I should have asked this a long time ago. I am seeking understanding and maybe a little bit of hope. Just to state some facts. I am 26(f). Husband is 29(m). My ex is 27(m). His girlfriend is in her early 30's. My DD is 4(f)

\- I was not married to my ex.  

\- We dated off and on for 10 years. We met in high school. However, I was not his first ""love"" or anything like that.

\- We did not fight regularly. When we did fight (every few months) it was bad and typically because I found he was doing illegal things. 

\- When we fought he would always instantly abandon me and then be dating a new girl within days. After about a month of me trying to win him back over (stupid I know) or a month of me saying to heck with this, he would get bored of the girl and come running back. At one point I waited a full YEAR before living with him again and this was during my daughters 2nd year of life. 

\-  The last time we split was a fight. Two weeks later I found out he was seeing  a women I knew and had recently spent time with. She was married and had kids of her own. 

\- Within a month she was at his family's house for the holiday's. Yup, still married and still living at home with her husband. 

\- I ended up telling her husband. They started the process of divorce. She gave up half custody of her then 18mth(m) and 6yr(f). Pretty much unheard of. She would stay out all week and not go home to her kids. Sometimes for weeks at a time. 

\- My ex and her got a place three months after. (she was still married). The place did not have a room for my kid, she slept on the couch. He was there illegally because the apt complex did not allow felons to live there. He was not on the lease. 

\- For the first 9 months of their relationship, he was still seeing me. I was allowing it because I just wanted my family back together. Everyone new it. I sent her proof time and time again. She always took him back. 

Now, flash forward 2 years and I am now married to someone who is great and the complete opposite of my ex. However, my co-parent relationship has always sucked. There is nothing. He has missed ER visit's. Missed DD's birthday party (told his sister it was not worth the fight with his new gf). Ignores facetime calls. Ignores DD's voice memo's she text him and emojis. Says his phone is never on him. Just completely aloof. I have tried to give him more time during her school breaks I get no text back. Here recently he did not even know my kid was on Christmas break this week. I asked him he was still getting her this weekend and I told him where she would be today. His response was he thought her break was over why was she not at school? I screen shot two different text to him from the past month giving him the dates of her Christmas break. If my DD is acting up at school, I get no response. We have gone many times more than 2 weeks (in between his visitation) with no contact. I don't contact him regarding much anymore because I was tired of hurting for my DD. This behavior would be normal if we were still in all the drama of him leaving me for her and then him seeing me behind her back. However, it has been 2 years. She does not get out of the car at drop off. Me, my husband and my ex get out and talk. Everything is fine. He is verbally abusive sometimes in his text, cussing me out etc. if I do not allow him to extend his visitation due to Sunday Football. In person he is very nice. Almost sometimes too nice and tries to me to be ""charming"". He tries to ""trigger"" memories or acts like we still know everything about one another. We spent 10 years together so certain places, phrases, things, etc he will bring up. To be honest I don't think he does it on purpose. I think he has a hard time realizing when me and my DD are in front of him that we are not a family. We are not together and we are not really on good terms. Some might pass this off as just getting along in front of DD but it is more than that. He does not act this nice when my husband is around. I have tried having conversations on the phone with him about this. I have tried having conversation in text about this. I have tried calling his GF to handle this. I have sent her nice text about this. I have even asked for help in supporting his relationship with his DD. Her response? ""he loves his dd very much and does everything for her."" Which is a slap in my face. Before this he was the perfect dad, I really have no complaints and we got along great when it came to parenting. I know what kind of dad he can be, this isn't it. It has been 2 years, so I asked my daughter if her dads GF has ever brushed her hair? No. Brushed her teeth? No. I always ask if she has had a bath at her dads over the weekend. Sometime yes, sometimes no. I ask who gave her one? It was her dad. I ask has his gf every gave you one? She looks at me like I am crazy. She is clearly even after two years just her dads gf. She doesn't want to parent my kid. Which part of me is thankful for but then the other part of me is like how does no one see this? From what I have gathered from others and my child - she ignores my kid. I never expected her to like my child. My child looks and acts just like me to the point it is scary. We have the same mannerisms. This GF hates me and has every reason too. I gave her ever reason to leave my ex. His own mother has told me that she had a talk with her about a year ago and said that you know, you chose to stay with him, you knew he cheated and you knew he had a kid. You have to get over this stuff. I figured it would only be for a little bit but here we are 2 years later....I am married and I still have to deal with this chick's insecurities.

So what I am asking for is some clarity. I do not want to be cliche and blame the GF. But how can I not? I know he is equally to blame if not more. He allows it right? I feel like he would have already left but they are codependent on one another and it is possible they have illegal activities they do together in common. I have no proof but have heard things. I just don't know what else I can do. I have tried everything I can think of besides apologizing to her and I am not going to. I don't apologize for holding on to basically my husband while you were sleeping your way into the picture. 

So please if you are a step parent help me understand. Some of us mother's don't want our exes back. We just want them to have a good relationship with our child and at a young age that does mean having to communicate with us. I want to hear your stories to give me some hope, hopefully. I truly want things to get better and have a good coparent relationship with my child's father.  I have no hidden agendas. Just want to get along and it seems we won't be able to do that till she is out of the picture. 

I would like to also state that I don't want to bash my ex for being a felon. He made a bad choice while not in his right mind. Maybe I am in denial but he is a great person when he is sober and clear minded. My husband, friends & sisters think he is a POS. My parents don't because they know how much my DD loves him and I think it pulls their heart strings, like mine.",1.0407872473758424,3.2239327420230843,2.4639867617107956,94.21480514648287,83.08689748811949,5.48771737427542,19.89716173168312,6.759486899279683,0.14569546190401586,5551,154,1235,63,156,1794,444,1473,0.078,0.825,0.09699999999999999,0.9931,12,0,0,0,5,0,206.0,22,11,8,5,63,56,9,1,52,2,154,11,6,12,14,225,255,79,0,30,48,31,3,9,9,12,2,6,5,18,59,85,0,6,29,5,3,24,44,20,1,13,65,18,233,36,166,168,28,202,0,4,7,3,273,70,2,21,109,854,292,5,0.03350617860598032,0.03969934267721514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059402411374136876,0.0,0.03355159791641734,0.0,0.03697490127561116,0.02679487892575355,0.1115192988967226,0.036303930520846114,0.0,0.0,0.07026829945180241,0.0,0.0,0.033229125798363686,0.0,0.0,0.027572730081282915,0.02982760268170577,0.2505900319596289,0.0,0.0,0.18034928194516184,0.05595251916395642,0.1021252774254974,0.0,0.05702258029405177,0.0,0.0,0.02963349212626652,0.07316013802710955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684271091441109,0.03832214217741228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028862606029242305,0.07026118157329106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021608713303860928,0.03454339889140028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03500682521665978,0.0,0.0,0.2052503788457254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027990112806364282,0.0,0.029676529084197305,0.0,0.0747364922079706,0.06639154489486053,0.060616513628072334,0.0846912017555161,0.032016589533753505,0.12045277136074645,0.0,0.09475992964856088,0.0,0.016941730651205803,0.023936820690963385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057000676811215165,0.0,0.07347559082044645,0.025886790475310704,0.0,0.17505595405101754,0.09642653890479712,0.0380846669039352,0.08431017877445901,0.053595903757738636,0.1108220406008846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030014954746771093,0.033080414567822965,0.0,0.0,0.037763898443826764,0.03970498297404676,0.04491697047931193,0.03540111731407653,0.06721885813722947,0.09983758670686647,0.0,0.03866163148564892,0.03586905718897093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03489152894844853,0.147312955996602,0.027312007573960486,0.0,0.07095641046693066,0.036404561093153084,0.0,0.02366640484482715,0.14732483763984766,0.06716398670429549,0.08875970871218812,0.029651913688341164,0.05627350256461183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072190308135047,0.031704356342484606,0.0,0.03397000610378062,0.06732291989241343,0.036498051174757684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035544760563446035,0.0676633777084012,0.0,0.18721018466992345,0.0,0.0985235861828704,0.0,0.05168406106264448,0.09708142826361026,0.0,0.0,0.0328289409985412,0.032150082039072346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362279226207816,0.025482958676081417,0.0,0.0,0.14881858461215502,0.07256785255401504,0.03198543878254348,0.0,0.05851260553037136,0.10502047564997934,0.036779722392770914,0.06334833787334855,0.037773181982397167,0.0,0.03408782933092778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042929831979457087,0.06889986410622863,0.06616661831579959,0.1798654824276324,0.0,0.05722818690971525,0.031872048691983235,0.05329091613402291,0.0,0.13564016623501915,0.10680034515759318,0.030502766598823595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03353037636745505,0.0,0.056779352802375616,0.0,0.1656923369604153,0.0,0.02371584567266772,0.0714262565101089,0.21406462013144986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03835655822084982,0.0,0.03802241441588591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386199434399813,0.029285876946229937,0.03084798756331998,0.0,0.0,0.0890400649389443,0.10734703165258684,0.0,0.02660016313667943,0.17583949975228064,0.03851042334958495,0.031759939543837976,0.09604976860126052,0.037226597283439584,0.18198796696106487,0.0,0.09819200357961856,0.06976222717535993,0.08060761471207023,0.0,0.0,0.05529221280165701,0.17786531031264546,0.02659564499318775,0.1343831770808987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03023411463919865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904146235396807,0.0,0.0,0.21576880479034172
parenting,Sooverwinter,2020/01/03,"I’m the debil. This morning my baby girl wanted cookies first thing in the morning. I said we needed to eat something healthy instead. Banana? Her screaming determined that I am the debil. 

Then I told her we needed to change her diaper. She threw herself on the floor and wailed. It’s all my fault. I’m the debil. 

I asked her if she wanted to go back to bed. Nope. I’m the debil. 

She wanted to color all over her brother’s math work, but I gave her her own paper instead. She turned into a banshee because I am the horrible evil debil. 

I gave her a spoon instead of a fork for her yogurt. Therefore, I am the debil. 

After 6 pairs of peed in underwear and leggings, I called it enough for the day and made my poor sweet baby girl put on a pull up instead. THIS unforgivable act lead to massive screaming, kicking on the floor, crying, and the pure rage of the toddler shine through. Yup. I. Am. The. Debil.  

Then, she yawned. I have never scrambled so fast to get one of my tiny children in bed so fast before in my life. But of course, I’m the debil. The very cuddly.... nice and warm.... Debil. 

She sleeps. YAY! Please hope for me that she wakes up sane again and not this tiny monster she has been all morning. LOL! 

I walked out to the living room and my middle child asked me to watch T. V.  I told him no because we have schoolwork to do. He looked at me and said “Mommy! You’re the Debil! You’re mean! I don’t want to do schoolwork!” Cool story kid. It’s your nap time too! 

If I’m the Debil, I’m ok with that. Kids are cute when they mispronounce stuff.",0.14345539481615432,2.5022219018987317,1.7955515370705264,95.59010548523209,91.05696202531648,3.7690174804098855,17.966847498493067,5.288315135182226,-0.5028734779987949,1195,33,252,6,42,387,167,316,0.1,0.779,0.121,0.7532,0,0,1,0,0,0,59.0,3,1,1,3,10,13,2,0,22,5,12,6,3,3,5,35,40,17,0,9,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,6,11,14,1,0,1,1,1,7,5,5,0,2,9,11,47,8,35,31,5,36,0,0,4,0,41,17,0,3,12,162,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852810765017104,0.0,0.0,0.11732364360176516,0.0,0.1860211843489475,0.0,0.1298332815872985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579996702883142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614080903738799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760059658007392,0.09840067372089907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612615653686368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576546396197347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978341009708874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971610144134356,0.0,0.0867140220031902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154512991246338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777088614834117,0.0,0.0,0.13472983503973093,0.0,0.1281277253098444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443737061119011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620299295906302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262704253527472,0.11767814116649905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339131239162597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748565320960807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533837901741357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29027467022722586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268894442147873,0.0,0.0,0.11746257905273975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746661690343283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136654430714356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896989838754189,0.0,0.0,0.2915910758836274,0.0,0.0,0.16596187011863928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589345128268786,0.3599796088473443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107915002168443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omgjk31,2020/01/03,"I don’t like being a parent I love my daughter but I don’t like being a parent. I was a young father, (22 when she was born, now 27). I have been there for her since day 1. The mother and I are not together, and I generally spend my time with my daughter alone. When I do have her, I just don’t enjoy it as much as I should. All the silly kid games are just exhausting to me. I constantly have a headache when she’s around. I try to stay patient but I lash out at times. She’s a great kid, so friendly and fun and caring. I just feel guilty that I don’t put as much effort into parenting as I should. I never wanted this and I feel like I’m stuck doing something I wasn’t ready for. Thanks for listening to my rant.",-0.15827324478178184,1.8181269032258065,2.2020113851992416,95.51478178368124,86.41935483870968,5.195445920303605,16.859582542694493,6.522977012572876,-0.33994876660341555,550,12,130,6,17,187,86,155,0.092,0.6459999999999999,0.262,0.9832,3,1,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,10,12,0,0,7,0,19,2,0,0,2,23,28,15,0,3,6,7,2,3,1,2,1,1,0,2,3,9,0,0,2,1,1,1,7,1,0,0,5,3,29,11,15,19,3,17,0,0,0,1,18,4,0,0,14,94,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857487127051586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965625977821127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285553904524815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938096717509048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156635476719048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18136578918562385,0.12812505595177656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856253179492786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19772996500518025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628586771455679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186706745531268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636803808497323,0.0,0.13832294816759655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5974286349344277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802926002033626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835713976476325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13806956902009426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911593279227453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511800725658562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20915657778319435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176438733486025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578311375927442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubbles4one,2020/01/03,"Healthcare rant USA yay.. Last year the rates were lower and now they are much higher. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to afford $1,300 a month for 2 adults and 3 kids to be insured on a 60k income. Slightly freaking out..if it was just me and my husband I'd risk without but my kids are everything.",3.8645238095238095,4.066754142857146,4.787420634920637,88.79160714285715,71.06349206349206,6.934920634920636,28.448412698412696,5.985473137389443,1.0653841269841269,233,8,51,1,4,76,53,63,0.142,0.858,0.0,-0.623,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,3,1,5,0,0,1,1,9,7,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,2,5,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40676031070050334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689227092456603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612544427039942,0.0,0.3327070359140953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4265623986725911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4362823274216928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29145426903675936
parenting,2113andahalf,2020/01/03,Hello from the floor I have a three year old and a six month old. From 5am to 7pm I am sat on the floor. When will I be allowed to sit on the sofa for a little bit? My ass is kinda numb.,-3.3642753623188426,-1.8926385869565203,0.4826086956521749,105.25768115942031,97.91304347826087,3.066666666666667,9.840579710144928,3.1291,-2.2257420289855085,139,1,41,0,6,51,34,46,0.129,0.871,0.0,-0.6534,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,5,2,1,1,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,0,7,3,1,11,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,1,5,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946522303559073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36230682263916375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885369738912396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7586435377005777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327869857768256
parenting,jul1992,2020/01/03,"I just want to pee in peace! Y’all I just need some positive reinforcement. I love my kid with every fiber of my being, but damn is he testing me today. We traveled to see family for the holidays and are back home now, but his daycare is closed the whole week so I took off work to stay home with him. He is generally a very happy and sweet 18 month old, but sometimes can turn into a complete monster and I’m just so tired. 

He hasn’t been sleeping through the night and we chalked it up to being in a new place, but now we’re back home and not only is he not sleeping at night, but now he’s flat out refusing to nap. My husband and extended family are  great and try to help me with him, but he is so obsessed with mommy right now, he won’t let anyone but me do anything for him. 

He has to be physically touching me at all times. It’s not enough to sit on the couch next to me, he has to sit on my lap. I can’t even go to the bathroom alone, he stands there next to me holding my hand while I pee. His pediatrician said it’s a normal phase that I shouldn’t worry about, BUT IM SO TIRED! And then I feel like a bad mom for wanting some space and feeling relieved daycare starts back up Monday. 

Will the exhaustion to mom guilt cycle ever end?????",3.270459770114944,3.9434292452107336,4.532432950191571,88.39336206896553,72.63984674329501,7.485823754789273,25.61111111111111,7.594959193182576,1.0747639846743304,967,29,218,11,18,320,146,261,0.129,0.721,0.15,0.667,0,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,0,1,18,11,1,2,11,0,21,9,5,0,2,46,34,23,0,5,14,3,4,1,0,3,3,1,4,1,4,18,0,2,2,3,0,3,7,5,0,0,3,7,27,6,34,24,5,45,0,0,1,1,26,15,1,2,24,141,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810373875426294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973448537481112,0.0,0.0938393961246907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26305288376333513,0.09521274452189744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956137151468653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099934102021722,0.11782651338778295,0.0,0.07531768359961549,0.10314932575181776,0.09607767295662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150002206002177,0.0,0.11531696490914507,0.0814651575003012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648075495850389,0.0,0.0,0.12572172259373518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213901886094799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643387820327645,0.0,0.34315301951568883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317514694846154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660641052391185,0.0,0.05571073608491847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291918349929964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671080100443778,0.09102000742881433,0.0,0.0,0.08455398257352494,0.0,0.1101337272530225,0.24255065781544094,0.21402438502483329,0.11172807297770744,0.0,0.0,0.11965839161978033,0.0,0.0,0.08672719192421237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914015510578345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738351053898864,0.10847144238875037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086949193961323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282305931171819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127814967688589,0.0,0.0807131042137975,0.12154394502461276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649352628476125,0.2621281868699957,0.1080898967554021,0.0,0.12669479585651838,0.07742088320254525,0.12403509695979505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408912074375134,0.13451916893624705,0.0,0.09147034877876818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731370887753146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301734087053933,0.1158059892431044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nicall,2020/01/03,"How do I tell my husband he's the reason our toddler is acting out? DH has a pretty short fuse, he'll get angry and frustrated with our DD pretty easily. She's a good kid, just 2.5 and figuring out what boundaries she can push.
I was attending school full time until I graduated recently, and since then have been a SAHM for a couple weeks. When DD is home with me, we have really good communication and problems solve quickly and positively. But the minute DH gets home from work she starts to act out a little. She's not being terrible, just needing some extra correcting but he immediately starts yelling and is grumpy the rest of the day if she isn't just sitting on the couch doing nothing.

I know DD is only acting out because of his reaction. Sometimes it's the only attention she can get from him. But for a couple days now pretty much every interaction he has with her is negative, yelling at her to sit down or getting upset over something not that important.

Then he complains to me about how naughty she is all the time. He'll ask me how she's behaved while I'm home with her and I've said how she's been good, so he's convinced she just randomly decided to be naughty for only him and it's not fair. She listens to me less when he's home, too, so it does get harder for me. I can handle her, but his attitude on top of it is getting to be too much.

How do I tell him she's only behaving that way because of how he responds to her? Like I said, he has a short fuse so I'm not sure how to handle it delicately. I know he loves her but it's his first kid and I realize child rearing and patience doesn't come as easily to him as it does to me.",3.3874486803519046,4.497623721407628,4.990010557184752,83.58101583577717,72.78299120234605,8.271249266862169,27.129736070381234,8.726425361277474,1.8991857126099705,1303,46,273,24,25,441,158,341,0.07200000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.125,0.948,0,0,1,0,2,0,29.0,3,0,0,3,22,12,1,1,14,0,26,1,0,8,3,56,47,35,0,3,15,1,0,1,0,2,0,5,5,3,10,20,0,0,7,0,0,6,7,5,0,1,5,5,44,7,37,37,8,40,0,0,0,1,53,14,0,4,18,185,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786438667657593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276274566711463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901750549245949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316592904812942,0.0,0.13502362933210418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832174343207288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819986389073936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904322702154395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32815498895909523,0.0,0.0,0.2634091666562113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200219632525225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506197573288522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051142780510111695,0.1049197737702274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944804104537671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390796289162442,0.07762104893789475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044607235972756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31846427116507314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195004511091951,0.0,0.10016740404382464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706255063609029,0.10763146307338824,0.10336174139571573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991548329660238,0.0,0.0,0.10594469040522336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659478224371621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059001597588455,0.10353407153083866,0.0,0.1481902004239892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866240075971007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829949492062924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208288955081625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830924188060468,0.08397031343555171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621040289619307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,n247jhsa,2020/01/03,"Anxiety triggering masturbation in 9byear old... Dear god help! So I've never posted before, I don't even really know how this all works! But I am at a loss with my daughter and I'm really needing some direction.

So....
My daughter E is almost 9, and was diagnosed with ASD in 2018. She masks her autism so well, that it's difficult to see her traits unless you really know her well. But as a result of this, she has really high anxiety, and is terrified of everything. She is always on such high alert and doesn't like being left alone incase something bad happens. It's exhausting... For us all but especially her. She has always come up with really clever ways to mask her challenges, she tics loads, picks her skin, holds her breath, but the most difficult to manage is her need to touch her genitals. She rubs herself when her anxiety gets too high or she's not coping in a situation, and has done this since she was 2. I have banged my head against a wall for the past 6 years trying to get help for her, but we are constantly dismissed. I've tried talking to her about privacy and what's appropriate but to her it helps sooth her and she really I believe can't help it. What do I do 😞 we are all miserable. It stops her going out some days, and even stops her going to school. Any advice would be great. Thank you x",2.921499250374815,4.908538318007666,4.2525104114609364,84.78592203898053,75.7816091954023,8.370548059303681,22.84207896051974,9.085049710711278,1.735574912543728,1035,30,210,25,23,341,151,261,0.10099999999999999,0.767,0.132,0.9109999999999999,0,1,1,0,0,0,37.0,3,2,0,3,12,14,0,1,6,0,22,5,3,4,4,44,35,22,0,3,9,2,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,11,15,0,3,2,0,0,3,5,6,2,0,3,4,39,8,27,29,6,26,0,2,1,0,38,12,0,5,10,139,50,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657957748343723,0.0,0.0,0.10921542721392304,0.11296112046348873,0.0,0.0,0.18150592859905254,0.0,0.0,0.0741696949099154,0.0,0.2503092019350482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910668740637918,0.0,0.0,0.0928084779027433,0.12288181414729868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395206320258163,0.0,0.11786330768490515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033956656560804,0.0,0.0,0.11070129847716843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111614002431859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407621672044654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802290874518838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139666185536136,0.0,0.1239712390621479,0.0,0.0,0.12024739267854567,0.0,0.0,0.09644810134314423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119348037163217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924228009809821,0.3457076614597132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988137989280533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850224547363755,0.0,0.0,0.05328491067579308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174445808238092,0.08411964197903611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444807872131335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411734695803976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044565931722799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192289098902321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038221443006463,0.08691274072876176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022182976410276,0.12259653037203352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839655521229768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823707622465489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766438989773462,0.0,0.10041477454548396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148099455717133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119487035170854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657276882003698,0.0,0.0,0.19612970693873705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940249768170027,0.0,0.0,0.07747847997236752,0.0,0.0,0.07023594599971007
parenting,HcKnives,2020/01/03,"My daughter wrote a very disturbing thing in her notebook, 2nd time. Straight to the point. My 7 year old daughter, wrote in one of her new xmas notbooks, ""I have a Nintendo switch and i have sex."" This deeply disturb and infuriates me, as a father, my mind goes to the worst place and i go into protective mode. Her mother and I have split up, we keep things fairly civil but she just recently moved in with a guy after knowing him for a little bit, i was hesitant about him watching our daughter, but i have no control when it is her mother's time. He watches her alone at night and now im so afraid of the worst. I haven't been able to talk with our daughter yet because she is on vacation with her mom. 

This has happened once before but it wasn't a sentence, it was just the word ""sex"" written a couple times in no context. I confronted her about it calmly and she assured me she thought it was gross but knew what it was. AT 7!!!!! I asked her where she learned about it, she replied with movies and YouTube. I knew about YouTube, and since i have had a new outlet of things for her to watch. 

At this point, I'm panicking, I'm afraid of the worst and I dont know how to handle this. Any advice on how i can confront her is a calm way to make her feel comfortable enough to speak with me honestly.",2.5893181818181823,4.228473840909093,3.3483333333333363,92.43,75.74242424242425,6.466666666666668,25.25757575757576,7.1686216300943375,0.9197712121212116,1010,35,221,11,22,319,141,264,0.163,0.768,0.068,-0.9763,0,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,1,13,15,2,4,14,0,19,2,0,4,1,39,35,18,0,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,15,16,0,3,7,1,0,2,5,10,0,1,13,5,41,5,35,22,5,33,0,0,3,2,37,17,0,0,13,153,56,1,0.1478963819003542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452263270462634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317604843371474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005746112752764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826315253281515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015626168186884,0.0,0.12584892791396182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614645442081062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658783681858572,0.0,0.16364453353860006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333345811243833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281649769797254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478085447788001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405292210742966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464406703173896,0.13078428207918127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597534715989375,0.0,0.0,0.13145709966130573,0.0,0.0,0.16255996733580713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823102843777985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872198335271308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933318520010955,0.17321445500011304,0.0,0.1571904482640902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856784944801011,0.0,0.1387907356378104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519237395514118,0.15750481990813478,0.10021841596412802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545202409455904,0.0,0.2796197704621921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460298347741431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234141542701335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118873509556128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29476735328805986,0.0,0.0,0.11741320704271233,0.2587187089118829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220300040299129,0.0,0.11739326394256995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952404209704764
parenting,eatscarrotssilently,2020/01/03,"Need custody suggestions. Not sure if im looking in the right place. Wife is probably leaving me. I'm attempting to work things out, but we'll probably get divorced. Neither of us has a lot of assets to fight over. Due to living/work situations we're looking to come up with our own custody agreement until we go to court and have everything finalized. 
Can anyone point me in the right direction? Do i just write it up, have her sign it and we get it notarized?",2.7239999999999998,5.151862066666666,4.174444444444447,82.94500000000002,78.33333333333334,8.0,28.88888888888889,8.841846274778883,2.6748888888888893,366,17,69,9,9,121,66,90,0.054000000000000006,0.872,0.07400000000000001,0.4270000000000001,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,5,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,16,15,5,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,9,2,15,14,3,15,0,0,2,0,11,10,0,2,3,46,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520040745301415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656079351717887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377770010496116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181423468937055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20204314597998016,0.0,0.1098898057564522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20885981739562134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047382003643156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247440384162291,0.0,0.0,0.1643860546883288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337250490773246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201795294217612,0.0,0.18278580620005574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4169452489730855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302533462700573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734249025685815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822376240811704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845846158196886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23258586311240825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28153384971638484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,celestesoy,2020/01/03,"24/7 screaming 20 month old. I am coming to here for help because I no longer know what to do. 

I have a 20 month old girl and a baby boy due in a week. 

My 20 month old screams and cries 90% of her awake time. She is not speaking much because she is bilingual and I know bilingual kids are a little slower on speaking but still understand well.  She cries and screams constantly for whatever reason. I feel bad because I loose my patience and speak to her with a stern voice at times, I just don’t know how to help her feel more comfortable and not frustrated and crying all the time. I can’t imagine that she is having a good time doing that. Please help me troubleshoot, how do I react when she yells and how do I teach her to calm down??",4.219200000000002,4.8837365199999985,4.419999999999998,90.09000000000003,70.46666666666667,7.333333333333332,27.0,7.1686216300943375,1.1094000000000008,578,18,125,5,10,180,87,150,0.12300000000000001,0.6659999999999999,0.21100000000000002,0.9509,1,0,0,1,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,8,9,1,0,7,0,13,0,0,5,1,27,20,13,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,3,3,10,0,0,8,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,0,10,22,4,13,20,3,21,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,0,15,81,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429944709766035,0.2503450336573721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792069276713228,0.0,0.14793206684627416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4511096640813497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384338346329701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481886145152975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752682971812199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256974708957363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720216104444571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277986547760662,0.0,0.1006316748114804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4309366798976392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026676177280066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407482002618916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093224580849476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31929226819731193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425098300056806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980683671857464,0.0,0.12308271966610194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ishmael128,2020/01/03,"Shopping for nursery care: what’re some red flags/things to look for? Hi everyone,

Our wee one is due in April, looking for nursery care from Jan 2021. I’ve heard that we need to get that sorted soon. 

What’re some things to look for, and what are some things to steer clear of?

We’re really new to this, the first of our friends to start a family so don’t know what to expect. We’ve just seen our first nursery and were surprised to find that even the 4 year olds just have free play all day every day, they don’t even teach letters and numbers etc. Is that typical?! Seems strange to me that they’re not even giving the kids some structure, let alone some education.

Hints and tips would be very much appreciated!",4.37732394366197,5.469359126760569,4.074760563380284,91.14030985915493,70.40845070422534,7.370140845070423,24.76338028169014,7.554174236665415,0.8544512676056333,564,15,123,6,10,170,91,142,0.039,0.799,0.162,0.9616,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,1,2,7,6,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,2,22,23,5,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,10,5,0,0,3,2,2,0,3,0,0,3,3,6,6,7,17,17,8,12,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,7,11,70,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17147956415623924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376172860891383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21355663201849806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465321535316948,0.3280703141106973,0.0,0.1394990341332629,0.1582082869396354,0.0,0.0,0.15608372990939656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132707807282478,0.2816658352444111,0.0,0.0,0.1279182085008301,0.0,0.0865029755271005,0.15882888379437335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099239937652397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930553313023014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171088131414417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171227494974594,0.12276732500019145,0.0,0.15990758419211135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373682712356886,0.0,0.11219384796569004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606774917290873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507278108254415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719059936855332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21999339011628916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661177526778234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761547621549827,0.0,0.0,0.1066210157859076
parenting,hotfoffeemomma,2020/01/03,"I need advice: A rude, inconsiderate, psychopathic 7 year old. To start off, I'm going to be looking into therapy for my daughter. But I don't know what to do with her until then.

We're living at my mother-in-law's for the next few months due to financial difficulties. She has been home schooling my daughter until I can get her registered for school (there is a ton of hoops I have to jump through to get her into this school). She also hand made us stockings for Christmas, has been playing games with my kids to entertain them, hand sewn stuffed animals, fed them meals, bent over backwards to make sure they have everything they need and pretty much been an awesome additional care giver. I have zero complaints.

Today, my seven year old basically told her that she doesn't give a shit about anything my mother-in-law has done for her and that she'd be happier somewhere else. My mother-in-law said that that hurt her feelings and my daughter replied that she didn't care. My mother-in-law asked how she'd feel if she never got the toys and things that she gave her and did for her. My daughter replied that she'd just get them from someone else. She showed zero remorse.

When my husband and I got home, we sat her down and told her that she was being rude and inconsiderate and not only needed to apologize, but that she would lose her tablet and TV privileges and her stuffed animals were going to be completely confiscated for a week. When asked to explain her behavior, she couldn't give a straight answer.

While doing chores today, she kept saying that she was having a lot of fun. I'm out of ideas. My punishment isn't punishment. And she still has flippant attitude. What do I do?",5.4114528722810915,6.461402855828228,5.6449191299498045,80.98411600669272,67.98773006134971,8.626659230340213,29.54210819854993,8.841846274778883,2.250268711656442,1345,48,256,22,22,427,169,326,0.08900000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.1,0.106,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,2,0,5,1,8,15,5,0,9,0,35,5,3,3,2,42,68,23,0,6,5,5,4,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,14,19,2,1,6,6,0,3,7,7,0,3,19,7,55,8,35,40,4,32,0,2,1,0,55,10,1,2,19,178,69,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931990867891313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946390389955486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920610270744445,0.0,0.2091702168121677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281216798581487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729554019556575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448377673513467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690920523917615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054323431832617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131315701833494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534532356344304,0.21463540685888352,0.12715873765958413,0.0,0.17894832801739458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22443323895175196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976116384827018,0.12628973808429864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614818608387718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878492170566086,0.0,0.09394420552303734,0.12515602063382633,0.0,0.09510947380021156,0.0,0.10585588003143094,0.07467535017007962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929506917420857,0.0,0.08223870567327023,0.248854749723989,0.08628249235347336,0.0,0.1189770160413276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347814433067227,0.0,0.0,0.08508360766960102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381392302076936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641577852105673,0.08896501105573447,0.0,0.339660952488185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148348795932824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478868287977897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918349413092374,0.0,0.08934102975796597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054379251684265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279352472019626,0.0,0.07432270766160788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21208292726970665,0.21379675550511293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456810004918104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973687601571632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947057546251267,0.0,0.0,0.14408364874327995
parenting,Too-Far-Frame,2020/01/03,"Why is my 7 year old obsessed with playing with\pullibg on his ears? He's constantly doing it! No, not an ear infection, just a habit he's had for the past year or so. 

Other than constantly reminding him to stop, what can I do? Should I even be worried?",1.8635294117647088,4.010847901960787,3.427215686274512,88.6584705882353,79.78431372549021,7.217254901960787,25.88627450980392,8.238735603445708,1.7537733333333332,197,8,41,4,5,65,46,51,0.179,0.785,0.035,-0.7455,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,7,3,2,0,0,6,7,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,5,1,5,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,7,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6422882905481745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962834506422803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118386132304752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836902938990531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24845434815568346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26815717383414545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30179896788269484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827461368366567
parenting,Lizclaire29,2020/01/03,"9 Month Old Struggling with Solids My daughter recently turned 9 months and she is really struggling with solids. We tried introducing solids around the 6-month mark, but the only thing we've been able to successfully and consistently feed her is baby oatmeal. She will nibble on carbs like pasta, bread, puffs, and Cheerios, but almost always spits them out. When she does swallow one of these foods, she shudders and looks disgusted. We've tried giving her avocado, broccoli, carrots, bananas, and different fruits to no avail -- she won't even  open her mouth when these foods are presented. We've also tried presenting them in different formats, such as purees or bigger chunks/finger foods. One additional wrinkle is that we've found out she's extremely allergic to dairy, and moderately allergic to egg and peanut. Other than that, she has no medical history that would seemingly impact her interest in or ability to eat foods. 

At our 9 month checkup today, our pediatrician suggested we begin seeing a feeding therapist and gave us a referral. Has anyone else had a similar experience? My sense is that it's more of a behavioral problem than a medical one, since she is able to easily swallow oatmeal and doesn't appear to have any obvious issues with sensory stuff - she puts everything in her mouth (toys, books, etc).",9.251108891108894,9.744330541125542,8.810129870129867,63.54728271728274,59.60606060606061,12.821978021978026,38.98135198135198,12.230961643895464,5.318266466866467,1069,49,162,33,13,342,146,231,0.1,0.816,0.084,-0.435,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,0,2,1,6,7,1,2,7,0,15,21,3,0,2,31,24,17,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,0,10,19,13,0,2,2,0,2,4,4,0,3,4,3,23,3,23,17,2,23,0,0,2,0,25,10,0,5,12,103,33,2,0.2129849288313127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663682030766593,0.0,0.0,0.08516198531853271,0.08861026132728328,0.0,0.0,0.07241852758485358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744620071925552,0.10911411449105432,0.0,0.09480087104349608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22252391909740854,0.0,0.0,0.0931922732501946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896837697010313,0.08896078920470928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876724783511652,0.07033726839218908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957085603430468,0.10417006450032484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5150844427256596,0.11676349059198825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215727556599774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115046523908577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05202683897133724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942684929663497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145599086465957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400050763968126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174592744354027,0.0,0.21648614980407013,0.08099231792233931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189890632431628,0.0,0.10705434015377174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822179960006636,0.0,0.10514846126382736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486070651343118,0.0969467400267639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809166702739364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226580916003744,0.1219083936570388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364595909255477,0.07074886141586029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094240442901163,0.0,0.0,0.21690417896782807,0.11583322120327184,0.0,0.0,0.12809732262072926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564919130281242,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JTmarlins,2020/01/03,"What are the challenges of raising upper middle class kids in very rich areas? I grew up poor, in a blue collar neighborhood.  I have kids now and some money.  I wanted to move to a really wealthy Northshore Chicago suburb because I think the neighborhoods are gorgeous (trees, beaches, quiet, low car traffic, architectural diversity, schools).  I can't afford the $5M+ mansions but all i want is a simple 4-5 bed house in that area, maybe an older one and update it as the kids get older. 

Whatever we end up buying will be very affordable b/c we want to use our income towards family experiences rather than housing expenses. 

Our kids will be in private school for another 3 years, so we have a couple years to figure this out.",6.073790849673202,7.1441125882352985,6.701862745098044,73.92810457516342,66.5,9.279738562091504,32.02287581699346,9.444778638647367,3.0778277777777765,576,23,97,11,9,189,103,136,0.027999999999999997,0.8859999999999999,0.085,0.6478,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,1,1,16,16,5,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,4,6,0,0,2,1,5,3,1,1,0,1,0,2,11,3,16,12,2,23,0,1,1,0,9,13,0,1,7,59,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293467058431675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797501686740294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21413894325608684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714114814438703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931096005250175,0.1824442909803996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011122302555034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44661877466802224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442842188762866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569337547277794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114196499753675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398124586701845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917284560413468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400718205263557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714909351217194,0.0,0.31936754064978,0.3424497100235255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492559043785233
parenting,DevilsAvocadont,2020/01/03,"Advice about independent sleeping? My daughter is 8 months old, awesome kiddo. For our first, we lucked out in the baby department, and she is an extremely happy nugget.

What I'm curious about though, is how to prepare her for sleeping in her own room. She sleeps in a crib in our room at the minute, and is an amazing sleeper, generally falls asleep around 2300/0000, and wakes back up between 1000 and 1100. She's been an awesome sleeper since birth, but I'm worried that once she moves into her own room, that the pattern will crumble. I don't know how to start the process of moving her, and I'd like some advice on how other parents have done it. 

What did you guys do? Is there anything you would have done differently?",5.79340579710145,6.683754717391306,5.439275362318841,83.37601449275364,67.04347826086956,7.872463768115942,32.0,7.793537801064563,2.1088782608695658,573,23,109,6,9,176,93,138,0.02,0.858,0.122,0.9116,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,2,0,1,9,4,0,0,8,0,15,5,5,4,0,19,19,10,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,6,9,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,4,0,15,4,18,13,3,23,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,2,7,78,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326354353508828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741557844913554,0.1486532985371638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840223359572148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446524601060706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417701258183611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203854592771095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534278885753104,0.0,0.17776012713952585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177135797602183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158111988235511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332869507669838,0.3549602312174587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522413591490393,0.1778350653931806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541863489918695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813287507929473,0.0,0.5013209845997966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819383288897847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406328946233048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958279418774358,0.0,0.11862234697898905,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eatyourslop,2020/01/03,"I want to make my kids' childhood fun! ....but I don't know how.

I didn't have a ""fun"" childhood. It wasn't bad, but I didn't have parents who set out to have a good time with us. They were older, so long drives and going to lunch were about as fun as Saturdays got.

I have 2 kids, ages 8 and almost 1, and I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water. Being in our late 30s, my husband and I are falling into this ""too tired for this shit"" pattern, and while there's not much to be done about that right now, I don't want our kids to suffer for it.

I don't want them to look back and be like, ""yeah my childhood was fine I guess."" I want them to look back and think, ""God what a freaking blast!""

How do all you blast-making parents do it?",1.1741710463449593,2.29833743478261,2.5791304347826087,98.62983277591974,78.37888198757764,5.202293358815099,19.21691352126135,4.713530739802397,-0.6617457238413755,561,11,141,1,13,182,93,161,0.113,0.695,0.192,0.8181,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,1,3,0,10,11,1,0,3,1,20,5,2,3,1,27,35,15,0,4,3,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,8,10,2,1,3,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,8,3,22,7,17,24,2,21,0,1,2,0,14,4,1,2,15,91,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729565261725347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656257162956861,0.14421598293631185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767549752382071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733363126498139,0.12339291155781572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816211592294403,0.14487134788773195,0.13814187559871968,0.0,0.1902731879932942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726300489269609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535235983747729,0.0,0.0,0.09492370971738646,0.0,0.19483838175193868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16876687264789836,0.0,0.0,0.15285388191284516,0.2900866165415637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152935380595814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126970832020429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38357555262423404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750397926969713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729705358998565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067353474976953,0.0,0.0,0.10071581593630999,0.19851898143780292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20776377116798825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075045682031569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pleasantly-Confused,2020/01/03,"Help with after school Oh r/parenting please give me some advice! My 13f is about to go back to school next month. She will be in 8th grade. Where I am living (Australia), high school starts in 7th grade. For her first year of high school what we did was after school she would walk to my mother in law's house after school and me and/or my partner would pick her up when we finished work. She would finish school at 3pm and we'll usually pick her up at around 5-5.30pm.

She had been asking a few times over the last few months of school when she can go straight home from school. I've been putting her off, but I need to make a decision soon.

My partner and I have been talking about it, but I have been apprehensive to make a decision. 

Now she's an amazing, intelligent girl. She doesn't act out or lose her temper (although she has started the moody silent treatment and short answers!) Her group of friends all live within a 10 minute walk of each other. Most of these girls are also responsible and intelligent, but there is one girl she is pretty close to that gets a bit more leeway from her parents interns of being allowed to catch the bus to the shopping centre (mall).

While staying with my MIL, she would sometimes ask last minute to go and spend time with her friends after school, which we felt was unfair on MIL, who has been expecting her. The rule we put in place was that if she wanted to go to a friend's house, she had to ask a day in advance so we could let MIL know she won't be over the next day.

Anyway, my concern is that if she goes directly home from school, she'll start going out to her friends' houses without asking us and we won't know where she is. I just keep thinking about what I did when I was a little older than her and how much I lied to my parents about where I was.

Am I overreacting? Should we allow her to go straight home after school next year? Any advice from parents in a similar situation will help greatly!

Edit: clarifying detail.",4.7717454119484595,5.497517263959391,4.7555329949238585,87.95841468176495,69.25380710659898,7.482858258492776,26.0675517376025,7.321109707123232,1.0478601327606405,1558,43,327,14,26,482,200,394,0.044000000000000004,0.84,0.11599999999999999,0.9823,5,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,9,0,0,4,20,10,1,1,16,0,44,0,0,7,1,59,68,22,0,11,8,4,1,0,6,11,0,0,3,5,10,23,0,1,7,2,2,13,4,4,0,2,15,1,56,6,58,37,9,76,0,1,0,0,60,29,0,5,33,223,66,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123599701253165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04597589629795925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03909616129589656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051179584409048386,0.21498700096018786,0.0,0.0,0.04420738064537237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276577939387311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045902249199969686,0.0,0.0,0.07415446546659124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520081327107728,0.0,0.0,0.04890220279120404,0.0,0.0,0.1776710240307851,0.0,0.030036912695486494,0.055151042920581865,0.1960423147612789,0.0,0.0,0.06338453279714044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707062168474664,0.12148575875067885,0.1730058526975179,0.0,0.0,0.19901226254682047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051101047338699086,0.0,0.0,0.06319160096797427,0.09372641924517827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05878890854918985,0.0,0.0,0.05762154209075907,0.10153201723100944,0.0,0.0,0.06431823310758382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675198612589178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177826277024198,0.0,0.04226283494131624,0.04262918587966832,0.0,0.0,0.1834284458734847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03895769822692796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25534983129785105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006633470304705,0.06310835392402167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058489478929309786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558958431386335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6982130690650785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462280492812897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05686051967293476,0.0,0.12207824461005425,0.061278242222321415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046209454299508165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03683820336586413,0.0,0.0,0.06704746022632034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915514238927972,0.0,0.06331871604716814,0.0,0.033909950084109436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055419711642037836,0.0,0.041854464420155016,0.0,0.0,0.16336112228260624,0.0,0.0,0.07404522499141228
parenting,IronGoddess_RS,2020/01/03,"My LO (preschooler) said he wanted to learn about animals. Last night we were reading a kids book called “Read to a tiger” or something like that for bedtime and LO said that he wanted to learn about animals. 

Now usually we watch tv After we finish breakfast (for about 30 minutes) so we sit down and watch together then I move on to cleaning/cooking and LO plays by himself until lunch then another 30 minutes of tv after lunch, sometime between lunch and dinner LO gets to use a phone/iPad for a set time. I try to spend time with him everyday playing his toys and/or teaching him something. 

Today after breakfast I went on YouTube and searched for kids educational animals videos and Nat Geo for kids showed up, except I was watching it and they were using words like kill, dead, showing the animals attacking other animals. So I’m wondering if that’s ok for my LO to watch?

We’ve been to the zoo a few times before but we don’t have one in our town, the one we go to is 4-5 hours away and it’s considered one of the best zoos in the world.",4.299530744336572,5.592729373786414,4.945611650485437,84.06556957928801,70.79611650485437,8.017605177993529,29.75275080906149,8.447377352677275,2.148494886731391,825,33,162,13,15,265,125,206,0.037000000000000005,0.894,0.069,0.6486,1,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,7,0,1,1,6,8,2,0,10,1,7,6,0,2,0,27,18,16,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,6,15,6,0,3,11,1,3,1,2,0,3,7,6,18,6,35,11,2,31,0,0,4,0,20,9,0,3,19,97,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640038721633515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805328772979496,0.14909455561445367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503357153979614,0.0,0.16653545045499604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204031613835249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290901805185814,0.0,0.0901872305045146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627776489582826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556706362626398,0.0,0.0,0.12935359675467226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505591644917324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686624430805883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489198918136355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225975190892932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174660511909587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019012149204849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24433475573983804,0.15694854860066135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776003885581025,0.0,0.1504196424075117,0.0,0.0,0.10774014885548093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27411455916527183,0.17477470554302307,0.0,0.18719904353442424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710729568172415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209262445253598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mountaingoatee88,2020/01/03,"Son's birthday shared with Cousins [advice] My son will be turning one in February. He shares his birthday with his twin 5 year old cousins ( good timing mom! ) and we have differing views on his/their celebration . Looking for advice, preferably from someone in a similar situation. 

My wife expects a large, shared celebration  for our son and her brothers kids. He doesnt have much money and I don't feel like footing a shared birthday, though I always generally go with what she wants.she doesn't necessarily want to foot the bill, but she is adamant about a shared one as she claims it will be easiest.

I would like him to have his own celebration.  I'm also thinking of how he would feel when older. The problem I have with my own feeling is I would also like to celebrate my nephews bday, but I am more concerned with celebrating my sons and having our families joined birthday for him.our famalies traditionally have not co partied.

Taking advice on what others would do

Tia",6.683919925512104,8.001629938547488,6.444259776536312,75.42866154562387,65.25698324022346,9.095158286778398,35.58705772811918,9.2995712137729,3.328954934823092,785,37,136,14,12,246,110,179,0.07400000000000001,0.757,0.16899999999999998,0.9603,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,6,0,21,2,2,1,0,27,31,12,0,8,3,10,3,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,5,0,2,1,4,1,0,2,0,5,22,9,19,23,4,10,0,0,2,0,30,4,0,0,8,90,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4602891101081634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25112388774294364,0.1306460460920181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16404347394710406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801635542331665,0.0,0.23816901419932124,0.11216896125518526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923318559128604,0.13169369620224505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23012348797278026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185001488619724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838898306279385,0.0,0.0,0.11542143027207008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475703116890555,0.0,0.21278994916944735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023868582445832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764873696559771,0.0,0.0,0.1330352327656559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805301746405852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006065524720572,0.1542628836745728,0.0,0.09155459833890887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078329450372645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926093799575225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4461455179447958,0.0,0.0,0.10111018090945724
parenting,BaronessSavanagh,2020/01/03,"tldr: Playtime vs. Anxiety: go play outside or do the dishes First time posting, I'll probably end up wasting the time with executive dysfunction but that does happen a lot LOL And I also over-talk/text so this is likely going to be way longer and have way more detail than Anyone Ever Needs, sorry...
I have a lot of (recent) anxiety about keeping my house and specifically the kitchen clean. I was diagnosed with ADHD and started treatment a little over a year ago - since then we've moved into a new house that my in-laws fixed up for us. In the old house, I was a very messy and cluttered person. After our baby was born, the house was taken care of even less and I'm not proud to admit that it was straight up dirty. There were rooms that I had blocked off with tapestries/blankets that just became collection points for anything I didn't know what to do with/didn't want to deal with and they were like a Hoarders episode (Before anyone asks, my spouse supports us financially and has a very demanding job, he does help around the house too but his energy levels are about as depeleted as mine LOL - and he also is a very attentive parent) Starting meds and moving happened in the same month-ish time period and since then I have had the ability to keep the house organized-ish and clean underneath the untidiness of life and a toddler. The kitchen has become almost a sore point for me? Like, it's a bit small and has limited counterspace (but bigger than my last kitchen hallelujah), and I LOVE my new kitchen, and I love cooking when I have the energy/time but any clutter or dirtiness in the kitchen gives my brain this undercurrent of rage-anxiety that's difficult to pinpoint and makes me freak out or cry without understanding why until I remember that's what my problem is (I also only just figured that out about myself a couple of weeks-ish ago, soooo....) So anyways moving on, yesterday I got caught up on the kitchen and did some more organizing and made a nice dinner for a friend coming over, it looked nice and I felt good. Today, we have papers and such on the counters again, and there's this mountain of dishes to do and I HATE doing dishes. I know that I'll have a better day overall if I work on getting them done, however it will probably take me the rest of the day. Today is a nice day outside for Upstate New York though, and I'm thinking I should go outside with my Spawn Thing and Doggo for the afternoon. And if we do go out, I probably won't be able to get even half of them done before the weekend and then I'll just be a mess during the weekend because I can Never get them done - weekends are always a ruckus for us, lol. This is WAY too long now, yikes.

Big Question: Go outside and play to take care of my child? Or do the dishes to take care of me?",5.840419794273008,6.142850972477068,6.180083402835696,80.16973589102032,66.79816513761467,9.174867945510153,30.64359188212399,9.0124134603493,2.4234525993883795,2200,77,423,35,33,708,265,545,0.095,0.7440000000000001,0.161,0.9934,4,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,6,0,4,5,25,23,1,0,40,3,43,18,1,2,2,84,86,51,0,6,16,2,1,3,1,3,3,0,9,2,20,41,12,4,10,6,0,10,5,5,0,2,19,2,46,18,62,61,9,82,0,0,1,2,26,29,0,11,42,285,66,3,0.06373116455797177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659247495643852,0.0,0.1129876641244236,0.0,0.06381755535716173,0.0,0.0,0.15289736781472346,0.05302943430937941,0.0,0.0,0.04333937733417488,0.0,0.1462624993409401,0.0,0.0,0.08912462416463582,0.0,0.05244531818406592,0.05673424824812168,0.05958003578687743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038849926383256496,0.07038606415097724,0.10846105403353104,0.0,0.0,0.056365035993372635,0.06957792547040043,0.0,0.0,0.07114505680827561,0.0,0.0,0.19493450917894434,0.0,0.0,0.054898755123726266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051732139727264,0.07000569168199239,0.12330398637658392,0.06570403223322399,0.0,0.06468579049586648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154314316284043,0.19565732499157865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644689538653756,0.0,0.0,0.0841876662552246,0.05764848702071481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119191235686978,0.0,0.0,0.054209696015930287,0.0,0.0,0.04923853964549992,0.0,0.0998907092241807,0.061136740290644385,0.18109944751779472,0.053454677126604525,0.05097163424969038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127145166864226,0.0,0.0,0.06292133069724527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04271765620791592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412232431397196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632433469437725,0.11329437465850957,0.0,0.0,0.07004996265423874,0.05194940519997029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045015206281746926,0.09340748345267666,0.06387536966475929,0.0,0.05640007513101347,0.05351812712474787,0.0,0.0,0.10836391411835168,0.11503972848872225,0.060303968859845625,0.042541047223049334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079095666130103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508696075193967,0.2032084259913073,0.0,0.047255850985082164,0.04915340300877749,0.18465586759233646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687513646778204,0.0,0.0,0.04847042248260059,0.0,0.0,0.07076591616679384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564759466640888,0.0,0.0,0.12049310048027335,0.0,0.061036838725497165,0.0,0.20613892357279456,0.06098211740020165,0.0,0.0,0.07139348986712757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292683641601685,0.0,0.07219498579614136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054381558040738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134182097535664,0.09021849259327244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232137029191743,0.0,0.0,0.14375371291891215,0.0512246959780906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234015386839371,0.04083635689711118,0.06261554559741082,0.0,0.11148646369860736,0.0,0.12081938422296265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663463899050835,0.22998223185575195,0.0,0.0,0.15775465568346764,0.037590292073828316,0.15176049595375715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057507463265042115,0.0,0.0,0.061434568381974,0.0,0.04639704683270996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04104078046702643
parenting,Ionopsis,2020/01/03,"I am at a loss and I feel like it is my fault; how to handle a very extroverted and defiant 9 year old boy as a very introverted and passive dad. A bit of background, and I apologize if this gets lengthy. I have raised my stepson since he was 5 years old. He is 9 now. He is on the spectrum and is very boisterous, loud and exaggerated. I am quiet, observant and tend to keep to myself. He and I don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. He doesn't like that I am quiet. He doesn't understand that constant talking and motion and his kinetic energy wears on me. My wife and I have tried talking to him. We have come up with metaphors and stories to try and get him to relate. It hasn't worked and it has gotten worse since his sister was born. 

He is also getting worse in terms of behavior, and I feel like it is my fault since I can't keep up with him and I tend to be a bit passive because I am exhausted all the time.

This holiday season (Thanksgiving to New Years) was one of the worst I have seen him and his behavior isn't improving. He has said flat out he doesn't want to take responsibility for his behavior and we have to basically treat him like an infant. And no, it isn't because of his sister. We have had issues like this before with him but we thought he would grow out of it. Currently, he has stopped flushing the toilet. Doesn't do any chores around the house. Doesn't take care of himself in way of personal hygiene as in brushing his teeth or taking showers (we literally have to toss him in the shower). In the past 2 years, he has been tossed out of 2 schools so my wife has to home school him, but doesn't really do any homework. He wastes a ton of food, he'll grab something, eat half of it and then hide it somewhere where it rots when he doesn't want it anymore. He has broken one computer, and throws or hits his mom or me with anything he can grab. He doesn't care if we get injured. The other day he found my computer mouse, swung it at my wife and shattered a glass. He struggles to make friends. He gaslights and manipulates people. And he is always the victim. He blames everyone for his problems. My wife and I have commented that he wants helicopter parents and that isn't who we are. We believe in natural consequences and that children need to be children, but that isn't to say we have some structure. We do try to set boundaries and some limitations.

So where do I come in? I am very passive and very quiet. My wife has mentioned that as far as introverts go I am on the extreme side. My dad and I have butted heads in the past because he was also an extrovert. But I don't confront, I redirect. My son struggles with this concept and the quieter I get, the louder he gets because he feels like he needs to fill the silence. And he'll just start randomly talking about anything and everything just to fill in the silence. It doesn't even make sense.

I feel like I am going to go insane as I am so exhausted all the time. Between my daughter, who turns one soon and my son, who needs constant attention, I feel like I am failing them because I can't match their energy level. I can barely parent and my son is getting out of control, because of this. It also feels like a chicken and an egg situation and as a parent I need to put aside my issues and quarks to help my son, but I don't know how.

So I am turning to you for suggestions on how I can start parenting better as an introvert and redirecting the energy of my extrovert stepson or at least manage him.

Edit: forgot to mention he has been in therapy and we have had wrap around at home therapy with him.  We are waiting now for his autism therapy to clear in March.",3.7903636085860515,4.840608723346833,4.958997784737608,84.41095256282944,71.75303643724695,8.291508160822957,28.960889160491945,8.677809691926855,2.081066335650448,2868,111,596,50,53,948,283,741,0.09699999999999999,0.825,0.079,-0.9292,7,0,1,0,0,0,73.0,12,1,2,6,22,26,2,2,31,0,76,11,5,7,3,120,129,71,0,11,14,19,8,9,1,3,3,6,6,5,30,66,3,7,11,1,0,11,20,12,0,4,14,19,87,14,86,109,11,73,0,2,4,0,104,33,0,10,36,395,117,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546259107044873,0.05045082873493178,0.0,0.0,0.0824639195888352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060130827623559174,0.0,0.0,0.09979023159918288,0.107950985298926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22176487543406176,0.0,0.0515935171920929,0.06831170097895573,0.0,0.05362423368406448,0.1323892682377022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363709155357948,0.0,0.0,0.1044585041714538,0.0,0.13104368757626925,0.06800414260695402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03910273844475787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06204185431455726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040046981333578896,0.0,0.0,0.057936643835607114,0.054492291457075404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394470410339656,0.2598938378743461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733166695784779,0.06648005296577793,0.04684426985060055,0.0,0.22174467131562173,0.0,0.10337599104761733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222610639066287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04064047043628519,0.0,0.12163803514509736,0.0,0.0,0.06996139208162984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265684809318693,0.0,0.1077853302975306,0.0,0.0,0.03332185902775402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665963730296737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515473089938737,0.0,0.0,0.08094489845519999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101167336186644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983196508284516,0.0,0.058558934750905935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724654149156228,0.0,0.12325779772739537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692994306499693,0.0,0.11576054799441858,0.04203471750244925,0.052941678609031186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058016805212400935,0.0,0.06095208500153802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03884252541474036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05767508533136621,0.04821714106174705,0.0,0.12272600104199073,0.04831599530918218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046669108982524,0.06815310778039907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667761237868901,0.0,0.0,0.08583153446428239,0.0,0.0,0.0506912152312342,0.0,0.12677183294028374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367635548999214,0.14620154245163253,0.0,0.0,0.20801453699281786,0.0,0.04028132449919752,0.0,0.0,0.048135176171531666,0.07071022045992041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349580535124224,0.1319007960750115,0.0,0.06312023497656552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501394813300589,0.10728728745899588,0.04812700022043606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044140947269159216,0.0,0.12357873743425656,0.04307135919910838,0.0,0.0,0.15618053735290655
parenting,catsrfluffy417,2020/01/03,"Behavioral Therapy Has anyone ever put their child in behavioral therapy? Did it help? If so, how long did it take to see results?  Is an almost (7 yo f) capable of comprehending?",1.7090909090909072,4.48291990909091,4.8627878787878815,71.95418181818181,92.33333333333331,9.912727272727274,27.81212121212121,9.3871,4.21882303030303,139,7,23,6,5,50,29,33,0.0,0.8320000000000001,0.168,0.7399,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,1,5,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,2,2,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021349382013264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21097378819585896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729283810061991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224053312997664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670179564054174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033179004514859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404365044286045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22686035175268646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6900998013161469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StartupGeekChick,2020/01/03,"Are most of us being lied to (about childcare)? I have recently attempted to start my 20 m.o. daughter at a high quality/rating childcare facility that has rooms for kids ranging from infants to 1st grade. They have their own kitchen and provide all food/snacks (no outside food allowed). I have toured several places and it was the best I had seen, with the higher price tag to match.

* 1. The 1st day I forgot to sign out and got an app notification that my daughter had all of her PM snack (banana) - she wasn't present.
* 2. Next time I was in the room when AM snack was served and my daughter tasted the apple sauce from pouch and refused to have it. The fancy app notified me my daughter at ALL of her apple sauce. If I wasn't there at the time I would be happily stocking up on apple sauce at home.
* 3. The first time I left my daughter I stayed in the hallway and she was pulling on the door handle crying and calling me the entire 15 min before I came back into the room. I was told if the child doesn't stop crying after 10-15 min they call the parent. This bit I was told at another school where my older (now 5y.o.) daughter started at 3.5 and she was still crying and sitting in the same chair 45 min later when I looked into the classroom window from outside.

Yes, some parents have to go to work and have no choice but to accept a certain level of ignorance, and caring for small children is very hard, but is embellishing child's experience at school a norm? Fine, maybe some of it is meant to be empathy for the parents, but what about lying what a child eats at school? What if a child stops gaining weight and growing, which will take a few months to detect and connect the dots?

How much of this is about individual caregiver/teacher and what should we as parents expect from the provider and management?

UPDATE: I should mention there was a 3rd occurrence of inaccurate food update that I omitted to keep post shorter. I was there because I was dropping off right at start of snack time. To me, 3 times (out of 3) is a pattern enough. The reason I stayed in the hallway is specifically because I questioned the teacher's qualifications after the trial day and wanted to see/hear how crying will be handled.",5.450036544850499,6.243230797674425,5.711843853820598,81.46424418604653,67.76744186046511,8.003322259136214,30.47342192691029,7.957251820313856,2.0209468438538205,1753,65,333,20,28,558,221,430,0.07,0.868,0.062,-0.2859,5,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,2,0,3,5,14,6,0,0,32,1,39,9,0,4,4,56,55,27,0,8,6,10,2,0,0,5,0,1,7,7,13,23,9,6,4,0,1,4,5,1,0,1,21,6,38,5,58,25,13,71,0,0,2,0,34,31,0,7,31,228,51,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237029735850136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773595706591211,0.0,0.1073979853470972,0.0,0.07495830607831051,0.0,0.09244527213305576,0.0,0.09617172689639884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989996821709126,0.10075176704028067,0.08981387057602698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870519689178266,0.11362183453899086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013830726177484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102076591459976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616915790152012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492951313414381,0.31955720357914424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05006371342640674,0.0,0.07045381211616829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891155234410878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928410267179304,0.0,0.0,0.09307217503868492,0.08836169314861002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829865280470086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571030349714904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397361549731163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849848620244763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031278912970243,0.0,0.06475646218519837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368496959081092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912551469251033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203555173717827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843660995185212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868122918673586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057143811795244,0.08697848470388878,0.0,0.0,0.07522858363413404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26745607734848703,0.07019651618980811,0.0,0.0,0.0995168972981971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870521757876229,0.18778495009883486,0.07034897944641191,0.147294770102113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623289750646721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568306367040936,0.0,0.0,0.1683479986685254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596171244218787,0.0,0.0,0.07268367354758275,0.05195790588522239,0.0,0.0,0.10727018065837984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413074386204648,0.0,0.0,0.06257677905607917,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wbxhc,2020/01/03,"Will my oldest EVER like his younger brother? Looking for advice or someone to tell me this is normal. Our 3.5 year old really doesn't like his 1.5 year old younger brother. Takes toys off of him all the time. Xmas gifts for the youngest are all of a sudden confiscated by the oldest. Tattling for no reason. Saying he doesn't love his younger brother. You get the picture.  


All in all, my 3.5yo is the sweetest boy you could meet. He's more polite than most adults I know. I just get a strong vibe that he would rather go back in time and be an only child.   


Has anyone experienced this? How did you handle it? Will he grow out of it?   


I know brothers are supposed to fight and bicker, but this seems a bit much for being so young.",1.918505747126435,4.252339931034484,2.5841379310344834,93.75298850574714,80.72413793103449,4.694252873563218,20.701149425287355,5.6839178017228535,-0.08831954022988464,570,16,118,3,15,177,99,145,0.039,0.914,0.046,0.2561,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,3,0,1,6,5,1,0,9,0,14,1,0,2,5,21,23,6,0,4,4,4,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,3,6,3,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,3,14,4,15,16,8,18,0,0,1,1,24,4,0,3,14,76,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19637208557048733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051325659907346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545229235155195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21939213740062855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604471841300944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177639962501496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998265426851775,0.0,0.11420804688953967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088055841914425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635410996949576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875260681021592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137082809306926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772593887825505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19689442170270974,0.0,0.0,0.4217394821542093,0.0,0.0,0.15283625542548138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873769583011074,0.2066164561810568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598084463748359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829429889339098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702695471531454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109406287186802,0.0,0.17564458767161856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234358367702703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275352800464458,0.0,0.0,0.25881842513632725
parenting,rednotes14,2020/01/03,"My little girl broke my heart this morning I was getting her ready for pre-k this morning. She loves wearing her silver sparkly shoes- because you know she's 3.5 and everything needs to be sparkly.  She picked up her sneakers and I said oh no sparkly shoes? She said her friends don’t like them so I’ll wear sneakers. Head down and walked to the couch to get them on. I was like listen. it doesn't matter what your friends like. all that matters is that you like them. if they make you happy that is all that matters. She was so defeated and just wanted to wear the sneakers. 

I know she needs to figure these things out on her own but it just hurts.",1.4534871794871798,3.942846092307697,1.7684615384615403,97.81987179487179,84.23076923076924,4.082051282051282,21.743589743589745,5.2151,-0.1487794871794872,512,17,108,2,15,154,78,130,0.081,0.774,0.145,0.5583,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,4,4,1,4,11,0,0,2,0,8,8,7,2,2,22,20,8,0,4,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,1,1,11,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,3,25,8,11,14,3,7,0,3,0,1,26,6,0,1,4,71,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630095550540413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862087979055269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3201485914576953,0.0,0.21649619781628665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22055735372633187,0.0,0.0,0.2126364694807172,0.0,0.0,0.2455208648811895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22180092481755864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22773214880945725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048898075136891,0.2076585716619771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699684892414425,0.0,0.13830077461323814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072571656253717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941698182067525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376476711196205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220588939643115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConfidentChemical91,2020/01/03,"How can I handle my son's ODD? How can I handle my son's ODD? About a year ago, he was diagnosed with ODD. We shower him with love, compliments, and give him the best life we can. He is 8 years old, his mother and I are no longer together and it has literally become nearly impossible. I just do not want to raise him this way. I was raised conservatively with the ""spare the rod, spoil the child mentality."" I completely understand that people nowadays do not necessarily agree with physical discipline, but my back is against the wall. I am really just unsure how to handle this one at the moment.",3.569565217391304,5.657084434782611,5.209782608695651,78.19380434782613,74.21739130434783,9.121739130434785,23.67391304347826,9.642632912329526,2.2265826086956526,470,14,91,13,10,159,76,115,0.11900000000000001,0.82,0.061,-0.5489,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,7,0,12,3,0,3,0,21,16,7,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,9,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,16,3,10,14,1,10,0,0,0,1,14,3,0,0,6,64,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270037340497072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969134128092698,0.0,0.0,0.28282555465062065,0.0,0.0,0.2687452104070536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685000525555399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25992069304749266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456598858140923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808802756329488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23112654052434284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580732581200368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687179314823757,0.0,0.17352969574461893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753696415321712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640544876214613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26659332000326164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104545670368635,0.20326820353769656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298204449671576
parenting,everdeen1001,2020/01/03,"Useful references for new parents I’m 12 weeks pregnant and I want to know from experienced parents what books, websites and apps were actually useful to help you through the first years: sleeping, eating, general habits. 

Thanks!",5.548157894736844,9.241189078947373,4.7634736842105285,74.4473157894737,79.26315789473685,7.2505263157894735,33.915789473684214,8.238735603445708,3.608351578947369,187,10,26,4,5,56,33,38,0.0,0.705,0.295,0.8999,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,2,0,8,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,5,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,13,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.2472496011932431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592576499148606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21551380400351555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982653038262685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924385332729775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24470338568644825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5626680430902209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25354993536490833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23326625287776126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376554027462343,0.0,0.0,0.14944239561965594,0.0,0.20323568986875065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316001320359474
parenting,dynamanda,2020/01/03,"Help me! 2.5yo waking many times a night again We sleep trained him at 12 months and he slept 11 hours a night regularly, except when sick and then it would just take a few days to get back to normal. He had a couple of back-to-back illnesses a little over a month ago and things just haven't been the same since. It started when he was very sick with high fevers and I let him sleep with me. He's been well for over a month now but he's waking several times a night. At first he wanted to come sleep in my bed (since I let him when he was sick), but I told him no. Now he wants me to rock him. I do for about a minute and then tuck him back in and he goes back to sleep. But he's doing it 3-4 times a night now.  I'm so exhausted. If I try to eliminate the rocking and just tuck him in then a huge 3am wake everyone in the house tantrum will ensue. 

I can't let him cry it out. He's got the intelligence and vocabulary of a 4-5 year old but the impulse control of a 2 year old. He has an toddler bed, not a crib. He can open doors and locks.  I'm getting worried because I need good sleep to have a strong reserve of patience during the day, which I desperately need because I run a home daycare. And I don't want to be a grumpy asshole to my little ones. 

We have a solid bedtime routine. Bath (most nights), jammies, brush teeth, read a book or two, rock and sing a lullaby. He goes to bed at 7:30 with a Hatch white noise machine with a dim orange light. I tried melatonin a couple weeks ago and he slept through the night a couple times. But then it was back to waking many times a night. No other major changes or disruptions happened to start the waking, just the week-long fever he had over a month ago.",1.985964945703941,3.2692849502762438,3.1644637073728354,94.60809392265196,76.56906077348066,6.208573061535533,21.875023814059826,6.647476241863616,0.1909017717660504,1320,34,313,11,29,426,175,362,0.09,0.841,0.07,-0.7146,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,2,0,0,3,18,5,1,0,36,0,22,20,13,1,0,45,40,28,0,8,14,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,6,0,8,21,0,1,0,7,0,2,6,2,1,3,11,3,26,3,36,23,4,63,0,0,1,0,28,16,0,4,45,178,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195398810673486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33301932286427005,0.0,0.08800250734991097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635859705536183,0.06217808566245884,0.0,0.0,0.08095783943980263,0.0,0.2396028128859227,0.07928813475738346,0.09310236404167488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689726438642647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061397660384427004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542384839178966,0.0,0.0,0.06054252935146515,0.05773024604273851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382997991608498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04838182725654088,0.07626385859514123,0.07240406349923496,0.0,0.07108436888697735,0.08328791350058841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143183141783934,0.0,0.0,0.14468991866156733,0.0,0.06387847401934388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463616935584503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045876408878546,0.0,0.0,0.10704353291730496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4741630117337484,0.0707226749915447,0.0,0.0,0.15148496371588174,0.0,0.04891214277828291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220116664386897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154469990867137,0.0,0.11941878588871717,0.0,0.3611688099054229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102181063088952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427160510303112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04795426978731065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104484541417443,0.0,0.0,0.0689726438642647,0.0,0.09801318172532043,0.0,0.07051096730207798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955740691892378,0.127723792390688,0.0,0.11579950455844333,0.0,0.06489995697430645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330395236431339,0.0,0.05127576128191502,0.0,0.0,0.09296521051458516
parenting,hhudson092,2020/01/03,"3 year old wakes up by making a fake cry noise I keep trying to tell him to use his words. He makes this fake cry that almost sounds like an engine.  When I say ""use your words, say mommy I'm up"" he says ""I say mmmmmmm mmmmmm"" it drives me insane.  It's the worst sound to wake up to. I've tried 0eeking my head in and saying something along the lines of ""if your too tired to use your words you must not be ready to wake up"" it doesnt seem to work.",1.1319387755102035,2.3033878571428623,2.914030612244897,95.9890051020408,78.59183673469387,5.716326530612244,15.31122448979592,5.985473137389443,-0.9378204081632652,342,3,87,2,8,114,70,98,0.225,0.754,0.021,-0.9682,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,0,1,2,4,0,0,4,0,3,5,4,5,1,16,11,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,7,11,1,15,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,4,44,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590997159148924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490539741516633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306117117844066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122370186420385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762286306369318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121130616812205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672238781706586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6317560223874389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464233603957385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231692747249245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887191644555838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261417622923906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21574407510757088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41167516939268606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156696919689469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231630586107383
parenting,KawaiiTimes,2020/01/03,"Hard lesson about friendship and consent <trigger warning: coercion> My son (7) told me that his friend has been paying him money to expose himself when they've been playing alone.

This is heartbreaking on so many levels. The family of the boy (8) involved is one we're very close to. They are responding appropriately and doing all the right things to get their son support.

I feel like hiding in a cave. I've spent seven years trying to teach my kid that although there are people who do bad things, most people are good, and we can trust our friends.

But with things like this, it's getting to be impossible for him to believe the ""most people are good"" idea.

Although I feel like striking out at the unfair world, and curling into a ball and hiding out, I'm pushing myself to not be silent, and ask all the parents out there to have hard conversations with your kids.

Please find ways to talk to your kids about consent, appropriate behavior in regards to their bodies, good touch vs. bad touch, and that anyone offering gifts or money to expose their bodies is not a friend.

It has taken my son several months to be brave enough to decide he had a choice to say no, and to decide to tell us this secret. But he got there because we talk about the hard things, and he trusted us to help him.",8.502557354925777,7.280974016194335,7.677176113360325,76.68218792172743,61.87449392712551,10.014709851551958,33.13394062078273,8.59863814320734,2.5274645074224016,1030,31,191,11,12,319,144,247,0.11,0.7070000000000001,0.183,0.9719,1,1,0,0,0,0,34.0,5,2,4,1,9,17,0,0,11,0,19,2,2,0,2,36,30,16,0,0,6,4,7,3,3,0,0,1,0,4,13,18,0,0,8,2,4,1,3,3,0,2,7,8,23,14,33,20,5,17,0,1,0,0,43,12,0,3,6,128,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201573965911659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112095588360774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845912675453027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937367203565864,0.07072216446929094,0.0,0.0,0.13071009579009354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25773483483853754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987535066563786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936938595822412,0.0,0.11732216467006272,0.16576344392437214,0.0,0.0,0.10603635380372026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689005944065979,0.0,0.12122695071997652,0.0,0.0,0.2919256857868737,0.09278844611218492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31178214928542675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776295579753997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096773450286528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003840218986385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176218277814235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260271728662907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861531927396077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882183385873747,0.0,0.0,0.2412922766897843,0.0,0.0,0.12735052681222805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907687276200544,0.0,0.09226043322866408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106484922320488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165337287830264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18649823621870576,0.10140293658098733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083030115419877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108580837101636,0.0,0.07876712342496257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791054834246636,0.0,0.0,0.0957251981636606,0.0,0.0920879544609931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471038162347768
parenting,Blarneybloo,2020/01/03,"How can I get my toddler to take Zofran ? Help! Norovirus has hit us hard. Thanks to a family member who brought their sick kids to a christmas party, half the family tree on that side is sick. 

My almost 3 (in three weeks) year old will NOT take the sublingual Zofran. I have tried everything I can think of. She screams. She would rather barf than take it. And she’s barfing so much it’s worrisome. It’s almost 6 AM here and since 9:30, the longest she’s gone without barfing is 45 minutes. I just want her to be able to rest for a few hours without barfing. 

Please, share any and all ideas. I’m desperate. Putting a call in to the pediatrician soon but figured I’d reach out to Reddit. 

Thank you.",0.5122661870503613,2.9961254604316565,1.5521546762589935,96.31312410071943,92.9568345323741,4.794388489208632,20.619064748201442,6.508806274219699,0.2819320863309356,545,19,117,7,20,170,99,139,0.10400000000000001,0.813,0.083,-0.1898,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,1,0,6,4,0,0,8,0,10,2,0,1,1,19,22,6,0,3,6,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,2,2,14,3,16,16,4,13,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,5,70,19,0,0.1675696924707568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355936832350712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395313708971548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171107391427428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15060083463657134,0.0,0.3159395854814227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754824813196778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010953041187491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112318432645628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502239273961172,0.0,0.0,0.1891657861464149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231830047819375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17583620399173144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394120209866016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684538239927327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386153812292323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779746632974157,0.0,0.0,0.3085513182577403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737189276763412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376882162414405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20156570773027524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883694620027828,0.0,0.13441429965200655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230624076067781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903670172187365,0.0,0.0,0.10790938796299199
parenting,helpmeimamess95,2020/01/03,"HELP. Single mum to a 5 year old boy with possible aln. Hey! I really need some advice on whether or not I'm doing the right thing. My son has always had periods where his behaviour gets VERY bad, this has always been linked to bed time (also in the day but more manageable and can actually reason with him) he didn't sleep through the night until he was 3 and a half. Well, as he's gotten older he's gotten more aggressive towards me, he's hit me over the head w things, thrown full scolding hot cups of tea at me, almost put me windows through and I'm at my wits end. He's such an amazing and sensitive little boy but he's literally like jekyl and Hyde. Last night we fought for 5 and a half hour until he finally fell asleep, he needs to control things constantly and is obsessed w my mum, to the point every night I have to agree to ring my mum once he's asleep and she will come and get him (obviously I don't allow that). He's been worse lately to the point everyday getting him to school has been hell, i took him in his pyjamas last week (the school told me to do this) he's so strong and overpowers me. I have adhd and odd and I really believe he shows signs of autism, such as the need to control, can't handle change at all, ticks etc. 
He's also a very anxious child who needs constant reassuring. 

I've banned him off his ps4 and tablet and toys today because of last night. I was meant to take him swimming today in a big pool which was expensive and go with a friend, he's woken up demanding to go on his ps4, telling me he doesn't care that he can't go swimming or that his friend is upset etc no remorse at all (this is typical behaviour for when he's overtired)

My thing is, I feel guilty for letting my friend and her kid down. Is punishing him by not taking him today the right thing to do?? I just don't know what else to do anymore, I'm exhausted. I'm really trying everything, positive reinforcement, limiting time on ps4 and ensuring routine etc, wth am I meant to do 🤦‍♀️",2.9100728155339795,4.250297228155343,4.353094660194177,86.78483616504855,74.29126213592231,7.965533980582522,24.76820388349515,8.567472430010655,1.507530097087379,1566,49,337,29,32,521,214,412,0.14400000000000002,0.7509999999999999,0.105,-0.9378,1,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,1,0,0,4,9,17,4,2,16,0,32,6,4,4,3,51,61,30,0,4,8,4,2,1,3,1,1,1,2,4,14,22,1,4,6,5,1,9,9,8,1,2,16,3,39,9,46,42,10,60,1,0,0,0,52,23,1,4,29,193,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.08203999131230529,0.0,0.10103555463613036,0.0821520292908829,0.0,0.0,0.0841837544053767,0.0,0.0,0.13446116709116218,0.13990560588453724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497493722048453,0.08337464499555254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019476603461287,0.05124816585359853,0.0,0.0,0.09471786840883754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857147575042155,0.0,0.08893469434187072,0.07241868311362769,0.0,0.1816991610190122,0.18858284418025514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05421806193314888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022952492873008,0.0,0.07446088386763942,0.0,0.2812801280357156,0.0,0.0,0.07083242698448781,0.0,0.07555650961051788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04250821364443212,0.0,0.0,0.09209434955857733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948563419076973,0.0,0.13176899186508295,0.0,0.14333640322757876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627986234043312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05635021051581138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279181209765564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620255993187667,0.20558430722004706,0.0948343889711569,0.0,0.0,0.0859670598296802,0.0,0.04107225460975489,0.08426001908591282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493467467552436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31557522489155704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821710629186655,0.08953158641244514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589462573676505,0.09477606053331224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451336277219157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157178747607348,0.08643774959589069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435902887210952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016623873293926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413050777103176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642004430179254,0.0,0.07348070510767378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27926117623860985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804354540587254,0.0,0.2390650028486241,0.08033229048946179,0.09340463398685063,0.05707787134889169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873276839512005,0.0,0.0,0.06743571739131414,0.0,0.07558884079713736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567430193279851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413819072361899
parenting,anxiousfuckingmom,2020/01/03,"How do parents do this? (Rant) I’m at my ropes end right now and trying hard not to be. I have a 2 year old and 2 month old. The two year old is constantly sick - runny nose, colds, fevers. It’s a never ending soundtrack of coughing phlegm, blowing a runny nose, and sneezing everywhere. I’m trying my hardest to keep him away from the 2 month old but the infant has already caught a cold from him once. It was a miserable 4-5 days where I barely slept and was on edge because the newborn was so congested. I “slept” with her on the couch and got so little sleep that I started seeing shadows and freaked the fuck out of my husband. Sleep deprivation is no joke and I only got better when my sister came to help out and let me get some sleep. 

Fast forward to this past Sunday and the two year old has a fever and is stuffy. I’ve been washing hands like crazy, wearing a mask around the newborn, and wiping down everything in sight multiple times a day and yet I still feel like I’m catching whatever he has. Now I’m petrified the newborn will also catch it and I’ll be up paranoid about her breathing. I am breastfeeding but she still caught the first cold. I’m so scared of the idea of needing her to be hospitalized to help her breathe. She’s so little and seems so fragile that it’s just freaking me the fuck out. I hate, hate, hate this. I’m isolating myself from my two year old and worrying constantly about the 2 month old. How have you dealt this this? It’s exhausting on so many levels and I feel like it’s all I’m thinking about during this cold/flu season.  Ugh this shit is hard.",1.7183220402785615,3.9742073633540396,2.8371936758893312,92.10062582345194,80.95652173913044,5.766384340297384,22.490495012234145,6.980632752743323,0.6486405797101451,1249,41,262,15,33,399,165,322,0.21899999999999997,0.716,0.065,-0.9956,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,2,21,18,6,2,21,0,21,21,12,2,2,38,49,28,0,1,4,3,6,3,0,1,7,0,1,4,15,22,0,1,5,1,0,6,3,13,0,4,11,13,26,5,29,33,2,57,0,2,2,2,19,18,3,2,38,156,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002772073655796,0.06524106336664587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262524014474814,0.0,0.0,0.07664893626352405,0.0,0.0,0.049731605164667035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215261330128908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330802774179188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632223093334906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522722926535692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445148022388219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332060457158386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250057975769565,0.11656433603021132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939357289291442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508424135323403,0.04262320655598894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049709099041745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461628223816302,0.2416358844905911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936533527165918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209610184421917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251379387842452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342308071727338,0.0,0.1195704733303102,0.16353311110952418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271130192165149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19535382469552245,0.0,0.0,0.06049198908967034,0.06292103636998903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992457989592538,0.08688212409298042,0.0,0.062046756261246686,0.0,0.0,0.09058711121366923,0.0,0.07787921133005103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967054747439927,0.0,0.0,0.08167777333363119,0.0,0.06501025909944687,0.0742691517303019,0.0,0.0,0.08374270884331221,0.0,0.0,0.24492263040540305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577441306830087,0.0,0.1303029161397875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05227442537563772,0.0,0.0,0.04757109652468261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077759035013053,0.0,0.23908115970170046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285043973796008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21014442804355749
parenting,TerdBrgler,2020/01/03,Wearing the same clothes every dang day? Do you have kids or teenagers who insist on wearing the same outfit every day?! I mean every day. Maybe they will switch to a similar outfit for a day or two then right back to it. I sure don’t remember doing this myself or anyone in my school doing it. Am I the only one? A YouTuber comment about their school kind of mentioned someone who wore same thing every day.,3.242035714285713,5.276709275000002,3.912142857142858,87.37000000000003,75.0,5.571428571428572,23.92857142857143,6.1826913282559595,0.6883571428571424,322,10,60,2,7,102,55,80,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.4822,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,7,2,2,0,1,9,9,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,8,2,7,7,3,10,0,0,0,0,8,3,1,3,7,44,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610995555020785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768652734359476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5354607106449725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5596361114727758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292138243962624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682519695351428,0.18088325893703666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252359056964097,0.126292787267375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18810865505032928,0.14181059834841822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361143201026616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069839408758034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650546348385622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031998013403893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622122189848354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tossawaytoosad,2020/01/03,"My daughter is a victim of child pornography I am not seeking legal advice I am looking for help getting past this.

When was daughter was 11 she was apparently speaking to this “rapper” online while at my parents on the weekend. I guess she flashed him and then he threatened to expose her and blackmailed her.

Last week I got a call from the RCMP to come in and from there I was told the FBI had arrested the man. He is facing a min of 25 years. My daughter still doesn’t know, I can’t say anything as that would be coaching. I have no one to talk to as I’m so scared that someone will say something to one person and so on and then her name will get out.

I’m so upset and I’m scared. I know she won’t under the full concept of what happened until probably years down the road. I have always been on the ball with internet safety so where did I go wrong? How did I miss this? I feel like a failure.",0.9767647058823564,3.1706906737967984,2.5067673796791468,93.74368048128343,83.43850267379679,4.80951871657754,22.184224598930477,5.985473137389443,0.22981732620320816,704,24,151,5,20,229,115,187,0.171,0.787,0.042,-0.9705,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,9,7,1,3,11,0,21,1,1,1,0,17,37,18,0,1,1,4,1,1,0,4,0,3,0,3,6,9,0,0,3,3,0,2,5,6,0,2,10,5,22,1,24,22,1,26,0,1,1,0,24,11,0,1,14,107,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235299357271522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675930832106976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514276310148347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801000420151528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519326659726561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918121604890761,0.1260033476811787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429879662571896,0.0,0.10023878248438536,0.0,0.14106433311803232,0.0,0.1942985083862927,0.0,0.15596908322777692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182213945861788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193863732490062,0.14377032065548814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616860832137245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14811176890261255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390344498890398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19584513854617075,0.0,0.16837124761407393,0.0,0.15400508433349322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901636090445863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28052321235872424,0.3531671254409969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944316592075582,0.1357831829238566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085443460148672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176468311622153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853522506897162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147852300717886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529274628412182,0.19283992416185552,0.0,0.2271612598828854
parenting,private_thoughts88,2020/01/03,"Helping a teenager study Admittedly, I never studied in school. I never pushed myself so I didn't need to study. My son is taking a little more advanced classes, like an Asian language specifically and i have no idea how to help him, and he has no idea either. 
 
We made flashcards for him with their alphabet (characters).... and he has one sheet that's basically match the words (match the English word to the Japanese word but written in English), but there's only 10 words. Everything else is in the Japanese characters. The sheets he brings home, the directions are like ""fill in how you'd answer this""... and... I got nothing, no idea how to help him or correct him if he needs help. I tell him to read the sentences (all in the characters so I can't read it) just so he gets comfortable reading those characters and he says it doesn't help him. I've tried making him flashcards by copying the characters on one side and the English word on the opposite side and he says they haven't studied that yet... (I go from the book, I've gone to page 20 and he says they're on page 60 so i thought he knew them but idk). 

The study group he was in has drama so they disbanded (two members started dating, they broke up and hate each other now... and he doesn't want to meet with them individually for a study session.... there's only 3 members in the group). 

I'm not sure what else I can do to help him. This is the first year he's really had to study and the other classes, I can help- I can understand it lol... but this language class has me stumped!",3.2474754098360634,4.9656837147541,4.140459016393443,87.10708196721312,74.14754098360655,7.371803278688525,26.626229508196722,8.109356740369918,1.5824465573770494,1203,44,248,19,25,387,152,305,0.06,0.8290000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9446,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,1,1,6,2,14,6,1,0,20,1,21,0,0,5,5,50,40,25,0,4,9,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,12,15,0,0,8,5,0,6,11,2,0,4,9,3,31,4,26,30,6,28,0,1,0,0,44,14,0,2,10,153,43,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075312055716506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261097452417534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711515858143896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965047325523936,0.0,0.06488692192456966,0.0,0.09131426123214424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272180915794927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5356924283338589,0.0,0.11452443081124747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3866609181142308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115579344026587,0.11443094336146464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080328784207362,0.07621109969096405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16931507828298775,0.1761139013438493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095516927271454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473262247223202,0.17366682021326293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34261050198727416,0.0,0.07314189363694022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272383911604056,0.0,0.11554877056595605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808119567078859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760632803083904,0.0,0.08584358920274007,0.0,0.099791888199827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064029432024208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751570358485674,0.0,0.11153004411563566,0.11885770720877548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734195991063423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352341363784894
parenting,asian_monkey_welder,2020/01/03,"Conflict of parenting Hi everyone I'd like your advice on a few things.

We have a 2 year old boy (34m) and she's 35 weeks due.

Up until Halloween he was sleeping by himself which was a long process to even get to. He has been currently waking my wife up and calling her back to his room. 
He's had a problem with crying until he throws up so it's pretty much always happened and he's gotten his way.
I know at his age he's always pushing his boundaries. 

My wife can't commit to setting up boundaries, especially at night. We'll tell him it's night time but then it's constant book reading or having to go potty every 5 minutes.

Tonight after having to go potty he goes to fridge for milk. I say no, it's night time, he cries until he throws up and my wife just gives in for milk. I tell her every time he's pushing boundaries and she's enabling his behavior.

 She says she isn't and we get into a heated argument over it.

It's like that with everything we do. He'll eventually get his way.

What do I do?",0.9554071520896166,3.073141156398105,3.026283929340803,90.4480945713055,82.9336492890995,5.352951314088756,22.387117621714786,6.574015621080383,0.5493109004739338,788,27,166,8,22,266,118,211,0.084,0.879,0.037000000000000005,-0.8103,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,5,0,14,4,2,0,1,19,24,13,0,1,3,4,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,1,10,12,2,1,1,2,0,6,3,1,0,0,5,2,26,2,28,17,2,42,0,0,0,0,42,12,0,1,23,98,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364890108030849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324419483951316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074016243997345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426240187111766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509392948981461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30685334635811984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225416709632103,0.0,0.2353647980541705,0.13346566066712515,0.12553108359573825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21892361648796008,0.13398920068407222,0.15876129542974454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123514337896556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676184941632279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647651680735834,0.0,0.0,0.12360817651382935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267735971166103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3932272031306029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465656500225213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550928050430546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420999153443284,0.0,0.13365032429976728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971302051325105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22215068603373148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977609418960174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24416460164965434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927940113701948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244337236284679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217353804122047,0.11203903834130033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994626380282916
parenting,momoffivee,2020/01/03,"Parents and in laws say I'm 'spoiling' my twenty year old daughter by allowing her to live at home rent free. My oldest daughter is twenty years old, I then have four younger children aged 17,15,11 and 8.  My eldest still lives with us, and we do not charge her rent for multiple reasons. First of all, she's on a full time university course training to become a teacher, and has a part time job on top of that. If she was sitting around at home all day, It would be a different story but she isn't. Furthermore, she spends usually three nights a week at friends houses so she isn't at the house half of the time anyway. My Mom especially has made comments about how she's now going to expect us to always provide for her, because she is in her twenties now and has never had to pay rent.  I wanted to hear other people's opinions about adult children living at home.",5.960000000000001,5.988349707602342,6.122274853801169,81.62586842105263,66.54385964912281,8.477426900584796,31.719883040935674,7.908726449838941,2.129090760233918,684,25,133,7,10,218,112,171,0.0,0.9440000000000001,0.055999999999999994,0.7989,6,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,2,9,2,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,4,3,23,18,10,0,4,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,2,6,3,3,8,0,0,1,0,6,1,4,0,0,4,3,2,20,3,25,13,4,33,0,0,0,0,25,12,0,2,19,92,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074066031748557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118477373847865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112978305345753,0.14698627889849988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583135667296132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904961664803436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320538509596148,0.0,0.0,0.10282418555701853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563751211920901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000090894419152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004971772355509,0.0,0.0,0.3071335377484428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320702378302093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525599192110509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593197378541945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558721590017767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264639585417447,0.0,0.0,0.12489495529282604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793089108987258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477795187963469,0.14412235351471944,0.0,0.09226711412288742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683759712253749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583766756049576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628500007842658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328156950424321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3201792180597886,0.0,0.14657866567906025,0.0,0.07849930552713091,0.0,0.1067559205463238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945425650694679,0.0,0.0,0.17140982882631314
parenting,HarleyMoonLight,2020/01/03,"1 yr old doesn't always respond to name Pretty much title. 

My one year old doesn't always respond to their name and it's a bit worrying to me. First thing that comes to mind is autism, but they don't show any other signs of autism. They do have issues with extremely loud noises like the vacuum cleaner, but nothing else. They do respond sometimes, but most of the time it is when I go to say ""no"" when they are after something they shouldn't be (the cats, the dogs, or something random on the floor). 

Is this normal, am I overreacting, or should I let their doctor know? I don't understand why but I'm afraid of finding out if they do have autism, because it makes me feel like a failure of a parent (which, I know autism is not the parents fault, but anxiety be damned anyways).. 

I'm just looking for some helpful advice for this. I'm a FTM and don't have anyone to lean on for information or support besides grandparents/parents who are all about the ""good ole days"". 😟",4.5890354722997175,5.4210189119170975,5.05699481865285,85.249055400558,69.72538860103627,7.596492626544441,27.799521721801515,7.61054688173877,1.4971214826624153,762,25,153,8,13,243,115,193,0.059000000000000004,0.8109999999999999,0.13,0.9304,4,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,8,1,5,7,1,1,11,0,23,1,0,1,1,34,35,13,0,4,11,2,1,2,0,2,1,2,1,0,10,5,0,0,6,1,0,2,8,3,0,2,0,4,16,4,19,30,5,15,0,0,1,0,19,4,1,7,11,102,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964318357531392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548436167104975,0.0,0.0,0.10413804908219224,0.0,0.11714897838214727,0.0,0.0,0.10707657858261528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335056914509188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718536036649825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191350700642696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876035278729682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567416632969624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792586844210005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743039913632857,0.1094007228844774,0.0,0.0,0.13996395687162227,0.13025780091183095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703098343544792,0.128443603316228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264414609732546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15983468582696425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16831959519964182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565924131949653,0.0,0.14962948546668892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285960641827044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221978109105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462417774009318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257292362187273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500412240681625,0.14693857055116746,0.0,0.3213819243484421,0.0,0.10376923349021656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34007984906201155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557948408651467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217802652972859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357838682986677,0.15145588191443562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377744841784498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173706437211556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929510561204015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942046317572894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818184294412958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555175160313266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861486420748652
parenting,Jitterbug2018,2020/01/03,"I’m worried about my son I have a teenager that seems to be having anxiety problems.  Last night he got into bed with his Mom and said he was worried about “stuff” and couldn’t sleep.  Tonight he came to me and said he couldn’t relax and go to sleep.  He was worried about his bird, he was worried about the creaking in the house and said he had racing thoughts.  He’s 16 and huge.  There isn’t much that he should be worried about but he can’t seem to settle.  
He’s a really great kid.  He’s smart as any three people I know and plays music in the High school band.  I’m hoping this is some kind of faze but I’m terrified he might have some kind of psychological issue going on.  
Has anyone had this kind of issue come up?   What did you do about it?  One more thing, my brother suffers from Schizophrenia and I’m just terrified something might be going on with my son.",2.116334745762714,4.014239203389835,2.991041666666668,93.32181673728815,77.87005649717514,5.554943502824859,21.23199152542373,6.322622252153567,0.12448050847457635,677,18,147,5,16,214,100,177,0.139,0.76,0.10099999999999999,-0.6452,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,8,10,0,0,5,0,22,2,2,0,0,29,40,11,0,5,3,4,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,8,13,0,0,4,3,0,5,4,2,0,2,12,3,9,8,23,20,4,16,0,1,0,0,25,8,0,7,3,85,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524712229641384,0.0,0.08464844099646933,0.0,0.0,0.07737041815838483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655635594503678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531685951238768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865816419248174,0.0,0.08849847487333658,0.1219941685576194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690986330855485,0.0,0.10990235620157128,0.0,0.12767749707367793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309837808107568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34568094366622765,0.06081141944033281,0.0901961100217672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347684713982416,0.0,0.12959422973284926,0.0,0.0,0.08134191705813727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038393618998242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498062688768657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671213166613157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587897492216247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088647434556936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157660383613146,0.0,0.0,0.11198568362262018,0.0,0.20146676399861774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22146372856118002,0.0,0.0,0.08518527920274482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667001266660874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351224064937659,0.0,0.0,0.08784529055126446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5618621460253971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Smtncruzer,2020/01/03,"Tips on Getting 8 year old to focus I have an 8 year old son (technically step son but he lives with us pretty much full time and I've been in his life since he was 1). He is kind and smart and creative, but one issue we've been having with him is he seems to have a hard time focusing on one task. Like for instance, his chore is to empty the dishwasher and it takes him a minimum of 20 minutes to empty the whole thing because he gets distracted by anything else, whether is be the cat, the Google Home or he remembers he has to go to the bathroom (this one happens literally almost every single time he empties the dishwasher which I find to be suspicious). 

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Just tonight he was cleaning up a mess he made on the coffee table with a towel, so the towel was dirty. On his way to the hamper he sees our cat on my bed and climbs onto my bed with dirty towel in hand and drops all the crumbs he picked up onto my bed. 

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These types of things happen all the time and it's starting to drive me nuts. Is this normal behavior for an 8 year old boy? Does anyone have any tips on how to help him be able to focus on one task at a time without constantly getting distracted by everything under the sun?",4.523109756097561,5.0771690650406525,5.324136178861789,84.27571646341464,69.73170731707317,8.263821138211382,27.570121951219512,8.278499904357787,1.69460243902439,954,30,196,13,16,311,136,246,0.105,0.794,0.10099999999999999,0.5588,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,1,3,6,0,2,19,0,18,2,1,3,2,27,29,13,0,1,6,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,8,11,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,3,0,4,6,3,14,3,37,20,6,36,0,0,1,0,24,16,0,3,15,120,22,1,0.11125715446106453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140796913009113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410941607516305,0.27037924074518704,0.07565868020391478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777935892568662,0.0,0.09155515839753224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782132870789187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022945914417835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973618856176109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294107634597497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093738951115172,0.0,0.09999075652687198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016870235841148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438181370859354,0.0,0.06323000480235366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676866851504846,0.0,0.09966455726489046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457332543508764,0.0,0.11159999727834252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612356374115496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585720565899985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858421846080238,0.054354625853733206,0.0,0.09824210571468003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527420963651364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178680994114597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900838924125976,0.0,0.0,0.35023700441718,0.0,0.3015629088824248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318852375593005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260326677183079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865754759312174,0.10128433489486036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203306786990363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874838656497284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365153403100849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478286195305963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243747073629122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338286580845435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831075061692055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421463973373492,0.0,0.1072479266796507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27037924074518704,0.21493787929149585
parenting,DonutDracula,2020/01/03,"2 year old constantly looks for her nanny. I'm not a sensitive person but it stings. My daughter (26 months) and I have a great relationship. She still breastfeeds (constantly!) and when I'm home, she always asks to cuddle and nurse in bed.

I just got a new full time job last month, out by 8am and back by 6pm.  When I get home from work, my daughter will have had dinner by then and I whisk her away from her nanny to cuddle in bed for a bit before I get her ready for bedtime. Our nanny lives with us and is absolutely wonderful. 

Recently, she's been asking for her nanny during cuddle time or bedtime. Like constantly looking for her and crying when I tell her that Nanny needs to rest at night. Sometimes when I'm particularly hurt, I'll tell her to stop nursing and go downstairs to Nanny's room and she'll actually try to do it until I stop her, which leads to a full blown crying fit. (I'm not exactly high EQ material and I'm not proud of the way I react.) 

This really stings. I've read so many articles on the matter, that it's healthy and normal, that it's a phase, that she'll always know me as her mom, etc. But somehow, I just can't get past that. Maybe I just feel guilty for not spending enough time with her. I have an opportunity to work from home and I'm actually considering quitting after only a month just so I can work from home.",2.642065217391305,4.294321974637683,4.310289855072465,85.53326086956524,75.63043478260869,7.263768115942027,22.507246376811594,8.04050195162591,1.043972463768116,1059,29,223,17,23,356,146,276,0.09300000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.106,0.5589999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,0,7,13,5,0,0,10,0,12,4,0,2,1,38,31,24,0,2,11,3,1,1,0,3,0,0,7,1,11,15,1,2,3,1,1,2,5,1,0,0,3,3,33,4,33,25,6,41,0,1,2,3,27,11,0,3,28,135,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.19510298055676828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635789611900895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690769632530488,0.0,0.09392047592906383,0.07686697000375889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506291361982816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091359680555159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240801892383573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21961387550597364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032906418738366,0.11148748001497777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054534409079492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566828728685042,0.0,0.056812454195926676,0.0,0.07995120017739205,0.11021184494743604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561858718437604,0.4010924720603765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701467725789268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919990924011868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05493818933833673,0.08148487595852404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883788481915476,0.0,0.08827099014895043,0.0,0.16789096750986846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134889301641614,0.1004283511884562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707788431422628,0.2393735005908718,0.0,0.0,0.07412283434259838,0.0,0.09654688959931716,0.0,0.0938104483882672,0.097944546107488,0.0,0.0,0.10489652728092648,0.0,0.0,0.07602794196485281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954279726459734,0.0,0.08728564516432892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632515917003063,0.0999921241130983,0.0,0.06404018496797523,0.0,0.09870344886690637,0.10732507659970904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886801245156204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983223574504875,0.1671505529054891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474775838707066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748713123964836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786972210670034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202456734155972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934762127750061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084078565166395,0.2183272892992063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437422897767033
parenting,chefboyarbee2,2020/01/03,Weird thing with my baby's eyes? She just shy of 3 months old and since shes had rsv it seems that when she gets hungry the skin around her eyes get red...is this normal? Should I take her in? I've had enough of hospitals for a long while ugh,0.5771698113207577,2.2647731320754723,1.4572075471698118,103.49486792452835,81.83018867924528,4.994716981132076,12.486792452830189,5.6839178017228535,-1.5160762264150949,188,1,49,1,5,58,46,53,0.141,0.8590000000000001,0.0,-0.7219,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,3,0,0,7,8,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,7,0,6,5,1,7,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,1,5,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975143434049499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453243082353703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34921785558420976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957619398993068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667601730477124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274510838194613,0.0,0.0,0.3506931515037269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30424874146018555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764587939606337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512814442289408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220317262816072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catsandbabies26,2020/01/03,"Cosleeping —> separate room sharing beds So here’s my situation: 

FTM. We started **cosleep** back in October because LO was struggling to stay asleep or be put back in her crib. She was tired, we were tired. I gave in and she started coming to bed with us. 

At this point I haven’t done intensive research on methods yet. But we are ready for her to go back to her own bed. However my biggest concern is that we **room share** 

To date she is 9 months old. She is EBF and still will have snacks through the night as she is incredibly active. She has started eating solids/purées but she still gets most of her nutrients from the breast milk. 

So you fine parent professionals... help?! 

Links/articles/videos or even a typed up schedule would be most helpful! 

Thanks friends!",1.177936781609194,3.7540610551724143,1.6586637931034502,93.93167385057473,97.06896551724138,4.899425287356323,23.28304597701149,6.6274283507984215,0.8887528735632189,603,25,119,9,24,183,105,145,0.038,0.8190000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9538,2,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,5,1,0,0,10,6,0,1,3,0,16,7,2,0,0,15,24,9,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,5,0,2,8,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,5,0,21,5,17,15,3,28,0,0,0,1,24,10,0,4,14,78,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826287863641853,0.0,0.10111212855365057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288135145342068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974145074603522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972527151241146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955482964182348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814988376851813,0.0,0.08665964282447687,0.0,0.09426710587696843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223568252560169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239495602214946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565670583575505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740514854228278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18417775987749355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679970336880852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674403578724575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644356862378256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522085369358255,0.1767941545036389,0.264926200632719,0.0,0.0,0.17340216539004386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270977777266154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812837501684539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19951983746423296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782849199531435,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slumxsheezy,2020/01/03,"Toddler biting So I’m just curious on what you guys all do for a biting  toddler. My wife and I have different parenting styles with this. My way, which was how I grew up was that if I bite I got a quick swat in the mouth. Which is what I do to my kids. They never bite me though. My wife every now and again still gets bitten by them. More so just my son now since our daughter grew out of that stage. Very seldomly does she try to bite and when she does it’s because she’s angry. But again never tries to bite me. Also just to clarify so people don’t think I mercilessly beat my kids nope I give them a quick swat on the cheek to get their attention but nothing more than that.",0.4624562937062962,2.6400680209790224,2.088631993006995,96.00679414335664,85.57342657342656,5.533041958041959,17.329108391608393,6.9077264865688965,-0.1348458041958045,529,12,122,7,16,172,89,143,0.016,0.97,0.013999999999999999,-0.0946,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,4,1,17,0,0,0,5,0,7,2,2,1,3,17,13,13,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,24,0,15,10,3,19,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,1,10,89,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771685330877635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505107183198384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23146616519077706,0.0,0.0,0.387749024053294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866602448181882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314950306245916,0.21252504375718895,0.0,0.0,0.17718885154478195,0.0,0.0,0.2193632379739072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417365425632205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257729468742176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459982223188123,0.0,0.0,0.15359060739666155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832633582475052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692520107931278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419563505542481,0.21766570322046414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008274569504281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18279687436524847,0.0,0.17585119242457942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jojo252590,2020/01/03,"Wife and I Not on Same Page Wife and I have completely different views on parenting.  We have a 5 and 3 year old boys that are crazy all the time.  Tons of whining, crying, fighting, hitting, you name it.  And I’m sick of it.  I’ve taken upon myself to educate and read books and listen to podcast on how to change their behavior.  I’m seeing a consistent theme that punishing kids is actually the worst thing you can do.  That you need to relate to their emotions and understand their feelings.  

However she’s on the side of punishing and doing time outs.  So we aren’t on the same page at all and I believe this is what is causing them to be so out of control with conflicting messages.  Problem is I cannot get my wife to research or read the stuff I’m reading.  She thinks it’s all bullshit and bad advice and says she doesn’t have the time.  What can I do?",1.9265011900714053,4.097440283236998,3.4528119687181267,88.43304998299898,79.69364161849711,6.845154709282558,25.20537232233934,7.928766900206844,1.509511662699762,671,26,138,12,17,221,99,173,0.20600000000000002,0.794,0.0,-0.9884,4,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,2,3,4,1,3,7,3,0,8,0,17,1,0,3,3,33,29,15,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,11,16,0,2,3,4,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,5,19,0,21,26,9,15,0,1,2,0,23,10,0,1,5,99,30,5,0.0,0.0,0.16913264940568662,0.0,0.0,0.1693636255412003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471267687793682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19526920680747364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780445736789393,0.18334668540938026,0.0,0.1817198549413581,0.0,0.19439005025761308,0.0,0.0,0.19038087734271364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181079653313064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949585953531035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763441682748442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905511175999482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851255596451291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818673146032931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924483121600336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584121567722698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5200925015913767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782884564025016,0.0,0.0,0.13811142080979769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984068027285269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514428965157646,0.11105470522123323,0.0,0.0,0.3031880731525885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18042938531383246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161063628419286
parenting,Keeffahsgreenhoodie,2020/01/03,"I think I fucked up with nightmares. My daughter is about to turn 4. She had a spurt a few months ago where for several nights in a row, she came into our room multiple (5+) times because she either had a bad dream or heard noises in her room. This is where I am pretty sure we fucked up- we made a new rule where she only comes into our room at night if she's vomiting or bleeding. *cringes*

I want her to feel safe and secure, but I also don't want her on our room multiple times a night. How do I fix this?",1.5642711518858334,2.9020957431192684,3.098470948012232,94.4192864424057,77.80733944954129,6.312334352701327,20.367991845056068,6.937597516519254,0.1409869520897047,392,9,93,4,9,129,72,109,0.07400000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.111,-0.0387,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,6,0,7,4,0,2,1,21,18,7,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,2,8,0,2,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,5,2,20,3,13,13,2,25,0,0,0,2,15,15,2,3,8,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144521019442904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546689281896797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148824916472865,0.11790019461736495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22120811491392786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660453483196133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977932883653272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35760659349582524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300806016043086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437703967518085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679540094536426,0.0,0.5445031028635449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709608938531776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676625677378584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849686511816646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228548236229294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392853407589932,0.0,0.0,0.22555642512847435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21037320942269475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22815501411801944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bleedblue1964,2020/01/03,"Should I still give my daughter spending money for her trip next week even though she keeps flipping out on us? Why is she being so nasty we didn’t do anything? My daughter is 19. She works part time and sits at home on her days off. She doesn’t have a boyfriend and not many friends. I believe she might be bipolar, she goes for weeks not sleeping much and seems to be very manic and goes on shopping sprees and wants to do a bunch of stuff, very little appetite and is actually nice to people. Then she goes on lows where she can’t stop sleeping and is very aggressive and angry at everyone.

 Anyways, the Last few weeks she hasn’t been sleeping much and has been in a good mood....

recently I went on a trip with my husband for a few days and just returned yesterday and I come home and say hi and she yells what the fuck do you want and I said ok nice to see you too and she called me a fat bitch and slammed the door to her room. She’s been hiding in her room since. I’m almost positive nothing happened while we were gone since she has no car and her friends are out of town. Today my husband asked her if she could fill up her cats food bowl and she screamed some smartass answer at him. She was also blasting 90/00s alt rock music which she claims to hate rock music and never listens to it. 

She usually listens to rap music. 

I came home from work today and said hi to her while making dinner and she asked me what the chicken dish I made last night was and I told her it’s mine and she screamed at me fuck off to my face and I asked her what the hell did I do and she just ran upstairs and slammed the door. My husband says she’s been being mean and nasty to him anytime he’s seen her today and flipping out. I don’t know what the hell her problem is. Nobody did anything to her. 
Can’t say a word to her without her flipping out. 

She’s supposed to go on a trip all next week with her friends, and she wants spending money from me (that was supposed to be her x mas gift but idk if I’m going to give her money anymore because of her attitude) and she’s taking a plane and keeps saying I hope the fucking plane crashes or I don’t know if I’m gonna fucking return. Like you don’t have any money? No place to live? No pot to piss in? Wtf. And she will probably still go on that trip even if I don’t give her spending money. 

She is supposed to do her weekly chores tomorrow (she’s had all week to do them and hasn’t yet and it’s literally just vacuuming upstairs and wiping off the counters, not hard) and My husband doesn’t think she will do it. I don’t k ow if she’s fighting with her friends or what but that is NO excuse to be mean and nasty to the people who provide you with food and a roof over your head. We didn’t do a damn thing to you. She was normal before we left. She gets like this on her lows but then again she refuses to go to a doctor to seek mental treatment.",2.203118811881186,3.695861199669967,3.1371300330033023,94.15795247524755,76.44224422442244,5.706085808580857,23.506138613861385,6.042040473130201,0.2967610297029704,2261,69,509,13,50,719,250,606,0.134,0.826,0.04,-0.9945,0,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,5,6,1,2,15,29,12,0,22,1,56,17,7,2,3,97,104,55,0,13,17,6,1,2,4,5,3,11,9,0,17,52,5,4,7,4,9,15,22,17,0,0,23,14,97,11,63,69,9,82,2,2,2,4,103,33,9,12,35,339,114,3,0.0,0.0,0.06836438978653632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015079972345135,0.0,0.0,0.056023626350591965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047640370466926735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947656426598274,0.0,0.0,0.11529996696904865,0.0,0.19647824809066086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042705387094976066,0.0,0.059612356166874214,0.078928936632888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153484077243377,0.08012521274123381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060346899128268364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593388416323288,0.0,0.0,0.09036043666456124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717051161691725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254243729021597,0.0,0.0,0.06694135301112714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942358876634525,0.0,0.21649985895042945,0.25906196427441125,0.03660128260842586,0.20161182294766603,0.15925738304136167,0.05875951105308786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195014398265813,0.0,0.06275626825269337,0.06916563386629569,0.07189749834706953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108151450746489,0.06958125181194508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453769095326,0.0,0.0,0.07700171016095313,0.11420971234450675,0.0,0.0,0.076115870267279,0.0,0.0,0.06845148515104704,0.070214351514032,0.06186058624184365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628852544320372,0.04676281419850907,0.07102562151368304,0.0,0.15262268489477074,0.0,0.0,0.07059980489040757,0.07431817064916088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102998199662032,0.0,0.054031379154166906,0.0,0.14901035167191912,0.06574265591805449,0.06863984454209203,0.06722046359264199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586364297103565,0.0,0.09713579098708848,0.0,0.07319343748829693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553203953484533,0.06703397334027565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917168597175033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327828439869133,0.22284484894639395,0.0,0.0,0.05582543074557842,0.0637762015393675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590182214950022,0.0,0.21031928700370398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189336147362797,0.05856981538291268,0.0,0.0,0.08019717095247833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052673269750716185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04654198421827327,0.04488895066713247,0.06882950270024195,0.0,0.04085012106269994,0.0,0.19921422196215385,0.06694135301112714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426854437660981,0.0,0.07715660540549889,0.17341020342063368,0.12396224061195933,0.0,0.3371673932819895,0.0,0.0,0.06494246138146584,0.06321449506380973,0.0,0.0,0.06753132548780551,0.0,0.10200296523128323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arbyscurlyfries,2020/01/03,"My 3 year old daughter constantly has her tongue out? About a month or so ago, 

I noticed my child would stick her tongue slightly out when she was feeling shy or trying to be cute or funny.

It's now constantly out. When she walks, when she runs, when she concentrates, when she plays.

When I tell her ""tongue in your mouth"" (nicely) I can tell she doesn't even realize she had it out.

Is this something I should be concerned about? 

I read this can be autism-related, but she does not display any other symptoms of autism.",4.764186704384726,5.842645475247526,4.407439886845829,89.16227722772278,69.4950495049505,7.751626591230551,27.299858557284303,7.957251820313856,1.445179915134371,407,13,84,5,7,123,65,101,0.016,0.909,0.075,0.5514,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,0,1,0,12,2,1,0,0,13,13,11,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,19,3,9,6,0,20,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,3,13,60,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117718064571811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246124388730826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5163354008242629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090643532509368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779221831376306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079580008696167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19068893514405855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27199099409259586,0.2506869854616522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23896619662811205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183918082151364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24831018055776935,0.0,0.0,0.41762096326521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219846814835842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970880419687415,0.0,0.0,0.15384476323616744
parenting,fan1906,2020/01/03,"Help with sleep training an 11 month old My daughter is about to turn 11 month old and was never sleep trained because she never had to, she began sleeping 8 hours in a row by two months and would sleep 12 hours in a row by the time she was 4 months old. We never had to sleep train her and of she woke up every once in a while we would answer her cries and rock her to sleep without any consequences. 

However the holidays took quite a toll on our perfect  sleeper's nights and she has been regularly waking up at 7 pm ( we put her to bed at 6:30pm) and 3 am and sleeping more lightly than usual, I'm just wondering if she's too old for sleep training? We just let her cry it out for the first time ever and it took her 45 minutes for her to settle down, we're broken hearted to hear her screams.",4.5750602409638566,4.519402168674702,5.1008674698795184,88.05828915662653,69.48192771084338,7.844819277108432,28.045783132530122,7.1686216300943375,1.2494356626506031,624,19,138,5,10,200,100,166,0.066,0.88,0.054000000000000006,-0.2732,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,8,0,11,10,10,0,5,27,19,10,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,2,14,0,0,2,2,0,3,4,1,0,2,9,3,20,1,27,7,1,34,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,2,21,88,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938163657103044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323039580180312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918372065805234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898732551550687,0.07357215738720638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427565104645949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841771360917333,0.10347643660278992,0.05852978266266961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17198824011366134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929218332854436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787968569955258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020432474968913,0.0,0.0,0.08194534304997513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665170377273951,0.09299458238393034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778225866183352,0.0,0.09287719857142353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6990767615687051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183577579489496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403487145456508,0.0,0.09498075249161904,0.08530044906411192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617233149822944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417484137871616,0.09469647724953804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124061422805716,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Evenlease44,2020/01/03,"Any other dad's get this? So I have a 2 year old son, soon to be 3 in may. His mother and I are married and generally everything is great, nothing out of the normal.  But do you ever feel like the mother / grandmother treat you like you just walked into the picture? 

I watch my son and take care of him just as much as the wife, we are very equal on everything we do. I change diapers constantly, play with him, have fun conversations and wrestle as well as do stuff with him outside of the house. Annoyingly enough there are certain things I find my self doing when i shouldn't be, one reference is if I'm driving and my wife is passenger 85% of the time I'm having to reach back to help my child with a fallen toy or binky and it's quite annoying. But that is besides the point.

What I mean by my main question is that... I'll be putting my son to bed and she will be all like ""Don't forget to change his diaper""..... like, I haven't done that 1 billion times I'm just going to start forgetting now?!  ""Oh don't forget to lotion him after his bath"", oh yea you're right cause this whole time I thought I was just rolled him in sand and said nighty nighty.  These are two examples that actually happen even though I've never missed a diaper nor do I not lotion my child after a bath/shower. I could say this about a lot of things as if I just woke up and forgot how to be a parent or something.

And the grand mother, or my wifes mother ... mmm where do I start!!!   When she gave birth to my wife back in the stone age the baby daddy took off and didn't want to be a man or father so I can understand some resentment over that, the grandma even says that doesn't effect the way she treats me or anything and shes long past it. 

Yet I find Grandma always saying things like, ""only mommy can take you out of timeout"" and ""well did you ask mommy"" .... even though Im right there being a parent and asking she see me just as equal as mommy. Yea, right. I feel like she still has resentment over her past and takes it out me daily and that's so annoying. Once again, only a couple examples but this expands to more than just this. Not sure how to handle that without snapping at her which my wife has told me to pretty much not. 

​

I can't be alone on this, I hope not at least.",2.8029487179487202,4.0606391239316215,3.952649572649573,89.87846153846156,74.42735042735043,6.9948717948717976,21.547008547008552,7.492282038375204,0.5713777777777782,1762,40,387,21,36,574,230,468,0.028999999999999998,0.8640000000000001,0.107,0.9777,3,1,1,0,0,0,67.0,2,5,0,2,33,24,5,0,21,2,44,0,0,4,5,78,73,43,0,7,22,16,3,6,0,3,0,4,2,4,25,25,0,1,10,3,0,6,14,6,2,3,11,9,56,18,50,50,12,53,0,1,2,0,54,20,0,12,32,274,81,0,0.0,0.0,0.08562175928316063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087236571943616,0.0,0.0,0.07300685871485367,0.09506644867930278,0.10661392268529814,0.05966633133150737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220269242514676,0.0,0.16405044902201182,0.0,0.0,0.13493356551921634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894569613751243,0.09013333429576456,0.18563495361362814,0.0,0.0,0.09481596461595816,0.0,0.07005339447262487,0.09708284063837412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978866716957035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065906066105954,0.0,0.17385468473896204,0.0793660162862042,0.0,0.0,0.15771043303797225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872814289717798,0.12536320465115894,0.0,0.0,0.16038587046276978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04584062285553752,0.0,0.04986476642814644,0.0,0.0,0.096733858512189,0.0,0.0,0.07758835165796972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058810393360153236,0.0,0.0,0.0871457963987656,0.0,0.10124038782462112,0.0,0.0,0.09477445099630154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25719252095183825,0.0,0.0,0.0776472985281072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459356365817152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557477824356528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899825604525786,0.0,0.06767063604488367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596674767327478,0.08418906934740386,0.0,0.09206855972016983,0.09344042847181606,0.05945501689355705,0.13346072165852227,0.0,0.0,0.19485017370824592,0.0,0.16751586017715756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294283050009903,0.0,0.0,0.0892633065121333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820311518494338,0.09828908220067184,0.09332248188336847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247889036727583,0.08346100374836342,0.20932353898233125,0.0,0.0,0.0699175639262126,0.0,0.09153214345758996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754667737931781,0.0,0.0,0.12420590240124688,0.0,0.07006942131271268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044151476995837,0.0,0.0,0.08269408155446083,0.0,0.1979090885182304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487203126103795,0.0,0.17240856329388013,0.0696559024715564,0.15348601413278287,0.0,0.0,0.08383950228334511,0.09748256867445937,0.0,0.0,0.08570940698978033,0.09134062199838146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239483762860763,0.05175143160066993,0.06964407113951561,0.0,0.0,0.15777791849314582,0.0,0.0,0.0979587779036273,0.0,0.08457840277729488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661392268529814,0.05650179942752229
parenting,The_Waxies_Dargle,2020/01/03,"HELP: Five year old never stops singing song lines over and over and over and over Curious if anyone else has gone thru something similar. My daughter gets a song line in her head and won't, even can't, stop singing it over and over. It's the opening line to Old Town Road for 90 minutes straight or ""Thunder, feel the thunder"" or whatever was just on last...and she just goes on and on and on. It's maddening. She means nothing bad by it, but it gets to the point where you can't be in the same room with her. 

My wife and I love music and I dabble in guitar so we want to encourage musicality. But sweet freaking moses I'm afraid I'm going to lose it and just lash out at some point. 

To be clear: she's a really great kid, we sing together sometimes, I have a high tolerance for immaturity. But this is just relentless. 

Any other parents dealing with this? Suggestions?",2.4685344827586206,4.52483911494253,3.5707902298850582,88.83135775862068,77.39080459770116,7.108620689655173,25.242816091954023,8.07648339933343,1.435081609195402,682,25,144,12,16,220,108,174,0.055999999999999994,0.743,0.20199999999999999,0.9795,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,2,1,0,1,7,8,0,1,7,0,9,2,1,0,2,35,19,17,0,2,10,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,9,16,0,2,2,6,0,2,4,4,0,1,2,6,13,4,26,14,2,32,0,1,0,1,17,24,0,4,6,91,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296463123564202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643440236712716,0.1852727098776631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097816703490044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186418739520798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105292808075088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943071142717986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142864265406482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889432502134336,0.0,0.10276486719823844,0.0,0.0,0.1993560350453608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18557474017021236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120065321555272,0.19104754827588785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739342939955294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022926945677453,0.0,0.0,0.16319821212463007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969673197578069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946047328615346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350283879291886,0.0,0.3794829090961426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007805677134293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418690017798812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583870467712425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920501042695602,0.17883681163816045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023492756043671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665304134984704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116442938181565
parenting,merciJean1127,2020/01/03,"Please tell me I’m not the only one I clean two rooms and the other 3 get trashed, I can’t get the whole house cleaned at once. I’m wiped out. I have 3 boys, 13, 8 and 2. Anyone else feel my pain? Advice?",-2.740303951367782,-1.0666286170212746,-0.16717325227963364,108.22000000000004,101.12765957446808,2.685714285714286,10.969604863221884,3.1291,-2.192158662613981,153,2,43,0,7,51,37,47,0.076,0.802,0.12300000000000001,0.264,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,5,0,2,7,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675064747859434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19141318290892534,0.28049042380783146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22868397532890944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841681671924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28604737504508504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31587209533607985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915360614937875,0.18550087734692236,0.20820010028196734,0.29129054548828265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30049657843322863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23927058841771945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674151152282597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056334047888288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MphoNaya,2020/01/03,"How do I stop getting into power struggles with my toddler? My LO is 21 months, and I feel like more and more we're just getting into power struggles. I try to give choices when I can, but more often than not I'm just met with ""no"".

For example, I expect her to help me put away her winter things when coming in. Sometimes she will, but lately the majority of times, she will just say ""no"". I've tried offering choices (hat first or mitts first?) as well as trying hand over hand. She just refuses. And then I don't feel like I can give in and do it myself because I don't want her to just ignore me. Today I sat near the coat hook for 45 minutes, asking her to do it, offering to help etc. In the end (after some tantrums) I did it while carrying her and she tried to fling herself out of my arms.

This happens frequently when getting dressed to go out as well. Often I can get her to put clothes on by allowing her to pick from 2 pants or 2 tops. But we only have one winter jacket...

I'm honestly lost. Is this just too young to expect anything?",2.221152454780359,3.7920737534883737,3.777170542635659,89.25650516795868,76.5813953488372,6.452196382428943,24.037467700258397,7.1686216300943375,0.8845762273901809,807,26,172,9,18,268,120,215,0.055,0.7909999999999999,0.154,0.9785,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,6,15,10,1,2,3,0,14,3,3,3,0,39,32,19,0,3,12,0,4,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,13,0,3,2,0,0,4,5,5,2,3,4,5,30,5,34,26,6,34,0,1,0,0,23,12,0,5,20,125,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530112042154154,0.0,0.13098680909652033,0.0,0.13164084403847032,0.0,0.0,0.08541162863313198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069500566852595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409859464562695,0.0,0.15626311327445228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169075896405492,0.20019361426028226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23836021611732602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928131901199837,0.268818453143594,0.07962948812032569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390152745479555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878296783430088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805364889728396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690433986946285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294997019490905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118369178694874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494424421382476,0.1065623055223888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817046751002398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142353913503646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385754115786171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714080262218125,0.0,0.2929532107835472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308489964180414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817010594486865,0.0,0.13281080992450486,0.0,0.0,0.3805103163885348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264232048080561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25195695851506045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Quiet_little_truths,2020/01/04,"My fiancée walked out today, what do I tell my 9 year old daughter? I also posted to relationship advice, but wanted some parent advice too.

We were together for 3 and a half years, engaged for one. I am beyond devastated. He’s been increasingly withdrawn for months, I have tried everything to fix this. Ultimately he said he doesn’t find me attractive, and although he still loves me he wants to see other people and have other relationships. He said he wasn’t willing to fix this relationship. He’s in the Army, so he packed up his stuff and left for barracks.

My daughter considers him her dad. She has been away for two weeks with her biological dad on holiday. I pick her up in five hours. 

I cannot believe he didn’t stay to see her or say goodbye. 

What would you do in my position? What can I say or do to help my daughter through something this? He is the only man she has ever seen living with us and being a father to her...this will be harder on her than when her biological dad left, because she was only months old and has no memory.

Any advice or comments would help me a lot. I’m in shock at this, I didn’t think he would leave, or leave like he has. I’ve been sobbing and lying in bed just devastated, but I have to get my head straight before I go pick her up.",3.66000614376408,4.890607206225685,5.11250051198034,82.5003420028671,72.26848249027238,7.90079868933033,25.977677657177964,8.371475516178862,1.5978451361867705,1000,32,205,16,19,336,141,257,0.102,0.7909999999999999,0.107,0.3485,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,2,1,0,0,8,6,0,0,5,0,30,2,1,2,1,30,42,17,0,5,7,8,0,1,0,5,0,4,1,1,10,11,0,0,2,1,0,3,6,2,0,4,11,7,34,4,31,24,3,34,0,1,3,1,49,17,1,6,13,138,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32806512069676697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949265443502513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610116461709912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514109384291108,0.0,0.0,0.06821797692794823,0.0,0.09522532435002476,0.12608180710773295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122704271597133,0.0,0.0,0.10057554535885273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228173291340538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846722445020627,0.0,0.06359980099091002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484972311595278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001892445611192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020667439368108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369884760241828,0.24317637820240204,0.0,0.0,0.05467251501939037,0.0,0.09881666768668372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951400386222332,0.10100118937707064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864753090433547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23485689376125604,0.0,0.07583164452981439,0.17022190106548085,0.0,0.0,0.1242604062805127,0.0,0.0,0.07758280159945845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717677080915597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604414002008596,0.0,0.0,0.21289995357930014,0.17798720252936898,0.0,0.0,0.17835210991648662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615211795110189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927886125477002,0.08936974080603169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810769623878412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781237947138503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170602140006115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607554161187717,0.0,0.0,0.0759780734767834,0.0,0.10931769299378566,0.0,0.13461134547851056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201227987461156,0.0,0.08976571427477305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384883434866949,0.0,0.0,0.14412995213351126
parenting,housecatyeh,2020/01/04,"What age does a baby sleep with you in bed? Edit : i totally forgot about it not being safe. Just can't wait to get cuddles from him. I'm a mom desperate for some love lol. 

I'm always jealous when i hear parents say they sometimes sleep in bed with their baby. I did the cry it out method (for some reason he has to cry himself to sleep, he gets more nervous when we try to sooth him) on my 18 week old and now he sleeps very well at night. Unfortunately he was never the type of baby who liked to sleep with me, next to me or in my arms. He seems to feel and sleep best in his own bed in his own room. So when i hear other parents talk about how they cozied up with their baby in the bed i feel jealous.  Is there some miraculous age where they like to snuggle up with you in the bed all of the sudden? Does the fact he doesn't like it at this age means nothing for the future or do i have to accept the fact he's not a snuggly baby?

English is not my native language so i'm sorry for any grammar mistakes.",1.629664082687338,3.0536738604651177,3.2283333333333366,93.19138888888894,77.83720930232558,5.521963824289408,20.781653746770026,5.82211442006289,-0.07895865633074939,780,19,178,4,18,258,119,215,0.113,0.7829999999999999,0.10300000000000001,0.1915,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,2,5,1,13,12,2,1,11,1,10,9,7,2,5,34,24,10,0,1,6,3,2,3,0,0,0,3,6,0,7,9,0,3,6,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,3,5,24,8,36,20,9,29,0,0,0,2,29,15,0,6,17,116,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951562722136398,0.0,0.0,0.07776838732844965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001324874019845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25123710033684354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001535530710143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564720722351544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194962463436835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25778295493029746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16761083798025472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321392130634036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457103038529473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339364741909422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820110298824546,0.0,0.1216226346604002,0.10731865179313904,0.0,0.10973103269001012,0.0,0.1200010668212434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539654012874893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758062127787927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094327120652948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410860148734592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6866525853614989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310447806255185,0.12801610700469188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191784106378807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764259951002482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435857120159133,0.0,0.0,0.09173229965217837,0.0,0.10282293215815802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CranAppleInMyCup,2020/01/04,"Need Help Establishing an Effective Bedtime Routine for 5 and 3 y.o. My 5 y.o. son and 3 y.o. daughter usually don't go to sleep until about 9 sometimes 10 pm and usually wake up between 6 and 7 am. My daughter is sometimes up until 11 or later. My son, once he's tired, goes to bed a bit easier- we can put him in his room, turn on his star projector and he might come out a few times but will typically fall asleep after that. With my  daughter on the other hand, it's always such a struggle to get her to bed. My husband started taking the kids on drives at night and they'll fall asleep in the car but obviously that's not a practical long-term technique. I know this is also definitely not advised but my daughter tends to fall asleep on her tablet easier than when we've tried other methods like reading her a story in bed. We'll wait until she's very tired, let her have her tablet and she'll be out within 30-45 minutes. Other times we've used children's melatonin when all else failed but of course we can't and don't want to use that all the time. I know setting up a good routine works and maybe we just weren't consistent enough with it but we tried the whole scheduled bath time, lights out, reading bedtime stories and then putting the kids to bed routine but it was still such a struggle to get them to actually fall asleep. I know that we need to get a better system down to get the kids to bed at a reasonable time that doesn't involve electronics or having to take them on a drive every night. Are there any other parents that have gotten over similar issues or that can recommend some good tips for establishing an effective bedtime routine? We clearly need help.",5.386190476190479,5.863874985074627,5.7776972281449925,82.05228855721394,67.80597014925374,8.530206112295664,31.176261549395882,8.418075326091056,2.2295216773276483,1340,51,264,18,21,430,176,335,0.047,0.813,0.14,0.9845,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,7,0,3,5,9,7,0,2,19,0,22,9,7,5,4,53,44,26,0,4,12,8,1,1,0,5,2,0,7,4,15,22,0,1,6,3,0,11,7,3,0,0,3,2,29,4,44,34,7,53,0,1,0,0,38,20,0,5,21,162,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.1056433753414462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865732145788876,0.09007863237435354,0.0,0.0,0.0736185835104794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957446637351021,0.11818878423731985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325396065417067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043496889040326,0.0,0.0,0.1118585889113222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121132938425174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262395992213937,0.0,0.061525040832911985,0.18160194511920388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512498952930694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299235265235776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784859177533873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070028437734936,0.0,0.052888981830096375,0.0,0.0,0.09580418308769127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875887153797348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484374278910288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24081394515288376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031840289010341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529034604939538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020676875098164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176567003943911,0.0,0.0,0.21657291895230468,0.0,0.0,0.11130639433477076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833534557905868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21413820575937487,0.0,0.07662497755741975,0.0,0.08645431065269728,0.0,0.0,0.2263477849858203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279182843908138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156281132359517,0.2488513684578002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699901572752386,0.11775270711558115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699886171462812,0.2384599423874401,0.08932349753628806,0.06385287990832017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086525701764644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881250440116669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentingisharder,2020/01/04,"4 yr old boy wants nails painted My 4 year old son is quite extra and can use the stereotypical (and politically incorrect) limp wrist from time to time. I have made jokes to my husband like, “he is going to make some man very happy someday.” My husband has laughed and has repeatedly told me if our son is gay he wouldn’t mind one bit. 

I have seen my son taking bracelets and putting them on his ears so he has “beautiful earrings” and he wears my rings too. The last time I got my nails done (and honestly the first since he’s been born) he asked for his to be painted too. My husband only slightly disapproved. My parents lectured me on how wrong it is and don’t even show them how could I do that bla bla bla. 

A couple weeks ago my son asks again for his nails to be painted and my husband chirped in before I could answer and said no. My husband is never one to get mad but basically unloaded all this shit on to me about how I need to stop letting him paint his nails and making comments about if he is gay. My husband said, “if he’s gay he’s gay but you don’t need to talk about it!” I told him it’s not a dirty word and it’s not a bad thing and we can openly discuss it and teach him there are more than just mommy and daddies out there. My husband thinks I can actually persuade him in a certain direction which I say is total crap. 

Anyway... today I paint my kids nails because he asked and I see no issue. He FaceTimed my parents they flipped out calling it wrong. 

I’m not really sure how to word what I want to say to everyone but basically I want my son to grow up knowing he can be whatever the hell he wants to be and if that’s a dude that paints his nails at 40 that’s ok too! I’m sure it’s just a phase but I want to support him like he knows he doesn’t have to “grow out of it” if he wants to. When I explain that to people they say, and he can be whatever he wants but he’s too young for you to talk about that stuff now. 

Any advice from likeminded parents? Am I being too liberal with this?

EDIT: after reading all your comments very carefully I now see the bigger issue is my comments to my husband. I think I was taking something so pure and innocent and tarnishing it with sexuality. I guess I was trying to make my openness about his future known and was wayyyy over doing it by making inappropriate jokes. My husband has also been reading the comments and we are now better parents for it. Thank you all ❤️

Double edit: I don’t think painting a boys nails makes him gay nor do I think my son is or isn’t. I was just trying to let my husband know whatever happens will be accepted no matter what. And my parents did not make comments in front of my son tho I still don’t appreciate them.",3.052878325707507,4.199654919928829,4.410066090493139,87.27753262158957,73.644128113879,7.202914760210135,26.548212167429252,7.62386473244151,1.3004091170987966,2123,74,458,26,42,704,238,562,0.069,0.823,0.109,0.9431,5,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,3,4,5,3,31,23,4,0,13,1,54,10,5,12,9,100,101,43,0,17,18,22,1,2,0,2,0,7,0,4,24,31,0,1,11,5,0,5,16,7,0,3,15,11,76,16,52,73,9,44,1,0,3,5,89,15,3,8,26,298,100,6,0.0,0.0,0.07329656295040331,0.0,0.0,0.07339666045917059,0.06658051736586508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006547075660053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510774019019668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21065324102985344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271374490837038,0.04578638240320705,0.0,0.06391311075912892,0.0,0.0,0.0664287254164615,0.08200070885546319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669574724788045,0.0,0.07657969020584175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993850817456933,0.08310782912929525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686364716780072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049609472136047036,0.0,0.0,0.0717708606817924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388856048944053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039241895132110564,0.0,0.042686765865445266,0.0,0.060072359325719374,0.0,0.08274217553253824,0.0,0.06641955910657013,0.0799560327880587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679073225992468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383553880296315,0.06122470628747726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361020672175849,0.0,0.07338994184089705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107093463729079,0.30081920415070146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758397275520156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138628385789884,0.057929492179135164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763070134929116,0.0,0.10179301207871727,0.05712456896674638,0.0,0.0,0.4170040461289699,0.0,0.0,0.0520718435508109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550633435590193,0.0,0.07988877156133685,0.15026072894806933,0.0,0.048117414049396304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289369352747894,0.179191552246429,0.0,0.0,0.1197059525186462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709937529433439,0.062131800121181927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578233772825252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998297387420831,0.06279535550030778,0.0,0.0,0.08598302431305005,0.0,0.08523398174408857,0.14158064503760756,0.0,0.11294680298155114,0.12074120786760068,0.0,0.06915123221936574,0.0,0.0,0.04989977218758381,0.1925099197769185,0.0,0.0,0.13139180263377942,0.0,0.07119553423577006,0.1435417213635848,0.0,0.1019895717558799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648709575731565,0.0,0.12394729606012808,0.31011292772941274,0.0,0.060248742421998375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164242072542923,0.0,0.04836840229893458
parenting,Split_parenting,2020/01/04,"Ex and her fiancé breakup during the holidays Over the holiday break when my daughter(5) was with me, it appears, my ex and her fiancé are splitting up. I’ll be dropping my daughter off at school and her mother(my ex) will be picking her up from school so I won’t be interacting with my ex and won’t be able to try and read the situation. I’m just worried that I’m sending my daughter into a situation that she won’t understand and will cause a lot of stress for her. There’s also been a history of hostility towards men with my ex’s mother (I fear my ex and daughter will move back in with her) 

My ex and I aren’t on the best of terms and I have alternate weekend visitation plus once a week. 

Just looking for any advice. 

Thank you!

Sorry I’m new and don’t know all the abbreviations.",3.5039855072463766,4.746399807453418,5.180388198757765,81.81832556935821,72.66459627329192,8.099585921325051,29.565734989648035,8.59863814320734,2.1850989648033123,623,26,128,11,12,212,91,161,0.083,0.841,0.075,-0.0752,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,1,7,5,1,2,9,0,16,0,0,2,1,25,24,14,0,0,2,11,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,3,16,0,0,2,4,0,4,5,3,0,0,2,1,21,2,21,12,4,21,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,2,6,90,24,3,0.18639938969139144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821473263009618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490635245919611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267579768975779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433296249250099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561465955265056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148351928805524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097511355178651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024402298092135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652854145486492,0.0,0.0,0.15847009541036647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19811305216028735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002569209206207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985092666033538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644983201347173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772922675123237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190414476828041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865885601670847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21351987111369028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716115144800245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655295002316747,0.0,0.0,0.1940483383962854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951834697257216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18929762827330093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MyxDemonsxSwim,2020/01/04,"Trying to Keep Up With An Active Child I spent most of my childhood stashed away in my room, reading books and writing endless novels that never went anywhere. I wasn't hugely into nature and, due to untreated hip dysplasia, I wasn't into sports. My older son is exactly like me in regards to books and loving to learn. Granted he is way more adventurous than I ever was. But we have always been able to find common interests to engage in. 

Now, my 3 year old on the other hand, I have no clue how to foster his interests. All he wanted for Christmas was his own skateboard. He was borrowing one from a cousin. I don't know how to skateboard. I tried when I was young and sucked at it. I don't know how to teach him. Recently, he told me he wanted to surf. Idk where or how he knows about it but again how do you even get into that? He asked about skiing and that I do know how to do. But we don't have that kind of money. 

He has been begging to go camping and we are finally going this summer. But I have never camped. My mom was so against it when I was growing up. He asks to go fishing all the time and I know how to fish. But I am not sure how to teach someone. I feel so inept because he wants to do all these outdoorsy type things and while I think that is such a great thing, I'm not sure how to do most of these things. 

Does anyone else have an outdoorsy child and have figured out how to encourage their love for the outdoors? I could really use some help over here!",2.202601214574898,3.8728791184210536,3.4482894736842127,91.1653340080972,76.89473684210526,6.124291497975707,22.21862348178138,6.844919456158928,0.4885064777327934,1148,32,247,11,26,373,166,304,0.032,0.8420000000000001,0.126,0.9819,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,1,1,0,23,13,1,0,7,0,31,4,2,11,9,64,56,30,0,4,8,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,15,17,0,1,10,6,3,5,10,1,0,1,13,2,32,12,42,42,8,41,0,0,0,2,31,16,1,4,20,178,47,7,0.13289233072554116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057706494630362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292140754389247,0.13616389731739484,0.0,0.0,0.2484727801647839,0.0,0.1248567192646666,0.0,0.0,0.0810099313482709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610371253697616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629497416353445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101448994976304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777413110679896,0.12020872137076966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719435538259907,0.0,0.0,0.14557705258402234,0.12146118273558072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069430757875417,0.0,0.22657732216886525,0.0,0.0,0.14651426377604976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890749280352236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812080958262325,0.0,0.1383869124278296,0.3651707476603171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492448014159152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398810338856025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564189160373407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049895160157152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394481462002492,0.0,0.09005128258017824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292829327756214,0.0,0.0851342299653901,0.0,0.13121514434123613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259924057183775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504988979853787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648632785800115,0.08515203957179722,0.0,0.0,0.07749058673787748,0.0,0.0,0.12698431698397453,0.0,0.180450338561901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477630561024428,0.0,0.0,0.23515001935046365,0.10548374650109944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319252197386575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557830394103783
parenting,djkku,2020/01/04,"2 year old had a breath holding spell last night He got real mad, did the ""silent scream"" thing that kids do, then fell over and appeared to have a seizure.
We took him to the ER and he was diagnosed as having a breath holding spell. He's fine now.

It was just terrifying. It was the most terrifying experience of my whole life. While he was lying on the floor, unconscious and body rigid and turning blue, so many thoughts ran through my mind.
So much blame and guilt and fear and panic. The horrible feeling of not knowing what to do and not being able to help.
I had yelled at him, that's why he started crying to begin with. So if he got hurt from this, it was definitely my fault.

We're all okay now. I just hope this never happens again. I never want to relive that panic.",1.8283306451612908,4.1333458451612906,2.8048991935483905,92.20734879032257,80.87096774193549,5.681451612903228,21.30040322580645,6.9077264865688965,0.40333064516129097,606,18,129,7,16,192,101,155,0.255,0.6709999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.9864,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,8,12,1,5,8,1,13,5,3,0,3,30,27,15,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,10,10,0,3,3,0,0,4,4,9,1,0,13,4,9,3,15,13,4,21,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,4,13,82,19,0,0.16926925704216908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880199855513853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185934330588845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180473280793254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557781361112414,0.0,0.19047497382712766,0.0855876223326258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27076017579506323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968424498208407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345761495256206,0.0,0.0,0.16812256554714108,0.0,0.0,0.1812062405736867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302595689687204,0.13797703655615445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955988213553174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161245878032172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091369637151785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443238029633145,0.0,0.2611017722992278,0.0,0.0,0.15884773112013506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177619611111895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972020040802961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266547227044276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980965135853197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245497298005452,0.0,0.0,0.1343808825319931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806437279753427,0.0,0.18411634477111846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983939341869692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273917633183914,0.18898308053391885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900385182456822
parenting,helpthrowaway148,2020/01/04,"My kids father is back. One of my kids is excited, the other is angry I don't know what to do. My ex showed up after 8 years wanting to be in my kids life. He said he knows he made the biggest mistake he could have possibly made year after year for 8 years straight. He says he wants to be in there life while they are still somewhat young. My son (13M) and daughter (10F) have figured out he's back which I didn't want to happen but nothing I can do now. Not only do I have to make a decision on rather or not to let him back into my kids lives, to make it worse my kids are having different reactions to him being back. My 10 year old daughter absolutely wants to know everything about her father and wants to meet him right away, my 13 year old son wants absolutely nothing to do with his dad, he basically wishes death on him. I even heard my son swear for the first time when his father was mentioned saying “he's fucking waste” how do I handle this??",5.336474388555608,4.783099121827416,6.0097738809413945,83.87351638209508,67.93401015228426,8.991047531149055,28.56898938624827,8.296473431620573,1.6969634517766496,745,21,162,9,11,244,112,197,0.102,0.872,0.025,-0.9452,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,1,12,3,1,0,4,0,23,3,0,5,0,30,41,7,1,10,5,10,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,5,5,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,2,0,2,6,4,24,1,26,30,1,32,0,0,0,1,38,11,1,2,21,103,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001647648637042,0.3601614286701102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349241806279183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234143148611913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734145737525781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523922394804087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960263967957572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825428016686928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354848133511173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930603296807145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973960560389545,0.16541813368829936,0.0,0.0,0.10339878728346047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22160000601480892,0.1563262998893791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247154396157252,0.0,0.2457471858600917,0.0,0.07934795076225674,0.08905753731274496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200926181997522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000018945673747,0.11138605221237977,0.18624045238870615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351380729089412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828019640409788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144010306694152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465575932316098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933183645162375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524397334186733
parenting,DuckSicked,2020/01/04,"How to get little ones to nap and sleep? Every night is a constant struggle. 3 yo and 5yo. We don’t have the time or space to lay down with them which is what they constantly ask for. Nor do we have the space to separate them. We have tried:

1.	Rewarding them with a chart and stickers for each night they stay in their beds. At the end of the week they get a prize. 
2.	Threatening time outs or taking away stuffed animals if they keep talking and playing in bed
3.	Loosening up and letting them fall asleep on their own despite they keep each other up for hours longer. 

Each method has taken as much effort and drains us physically and emotionally as parents. 

What do you do to get your kids to sleep? Don’t say skip naps because we’ve tried that too.",2.8966307692307725,4.8015780066666665,3.3060000000000014,91.91146153846157,75.6,6.7487179487179505,23.538461538461537,7.61054688173877,0.8740307692307692,591,18,127,8,13,183,96,150,0.037000000000000005,0.905,0.057999999999999996,0.4871,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,4,2,11,3,2,4,0,1,7,0,12,3,3,1,0,22,20,14,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,16,0,2,0,3,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,17,3,23,18,5,23,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,3,9,83,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302263421684462,0.0,0.15378669702879766,0.0,0.0,0.09978037098805796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537689474875688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18412269727015065,0.1449756199594812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791100080902596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256554721013438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119596844649994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909800812173005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737818768114507,0.0,0.0,0.16405457295527526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032672307270395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30721307279827603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091665224565593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175193689622185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016824816034012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276048278796224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446558169856896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111826879967787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307015003029463,0.1315631622572955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089115035900436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22226165887266186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196891942504156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312975945007148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pavym,2020/01/04,"Child Support So my sons father and I have a verbal agreement that he would give me a certain amount of money every other Friday then recently it changed to every 5th and 19th since in October/November it would of been 3 payments a  month instead of 2. We live in different states and my son went to visit for winter break. I was asking him when will he send the 5th payment since our son will be there until the 6. Technically was with him for 12 days. He says why would I send you money if he’s with me. Well I still pay for everything. I pay for his insurance. For his medical bills and for his sports. And yes sports are expensive and most of what he sends me is for that. He yells at me and yes well that’s your decision  that I want to put him in sports. Really my decision? Our son loves what he plays. I do the school supply shopping, clothing, insurance he has his own room. His excuse is well if you go with the DA you’ll get less than what I give you because all he does is UBER. I feel like that’s not my issue. I feel like if he’s going to be like that then maybe I shouldn’t let him visit anymore.",2.022792207792208,3.706058411255413,3.4729415584415584,90.73512662337663,77.44155844155844,6.871082251082251,21.50670995670996,7.734863291789972,0.7327400865800873,867,23,191,13,20,285,127,231,0.012,0.823,0.165,0.9857,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,5,0,0,8,11,0,0,7,2,20,2,0,0,2,27,32,15,0,8,4,5,2,3,0,7,1,2,1,1,12,11,0,0,4,5,7,9,2,0,3,0,4,4,36,11,24,18,5,25,0,0,0,1,44,5,0,4,12,123,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215322146345138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400209700763716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737778578332643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516330690372198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244143906955364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497581672161,0.0,0.0,0.1254364393478243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415376444590981,0.0,0.12882335204236586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495244947753602,0.20480202780303072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488842154834982,0.2750065955805299,0.1629250833021756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496080963065886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657327170846945,0.0,0.21008377208161527,0.0,0.12657047320633433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293685431125009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440027342143275,0.0,0.0,0.14439840358421147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441137944156785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440947277846546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918262783949771,0.0,0.14152942217030412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398848481838506,0.0,0.14506615903130024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237142086199884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447026750600693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16265876899183174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454472875848794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3866354295088472,0.13287617476014474,0.1293406519370132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30547055669813394,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bibaporu,2020/01/04,"At what age should a child go to grandparents' house (abroad) alone, to improve language skills? I am a native English speaker in an English-speaking country. My husband's first language is Spanish. Our son will soon be 5 and has recently started school. 

When our son was very small he was pretty much fluently bilingual (for a toddler), even though he went to nursery and preschool in English. Since he's started school English has definitely started to win out. I do speak Spanish, and if the two of them are speaking Spanish I always join in, but when I'm alone with my son it feels important to speak naturally and freely with him, so English is the language the two of us use. 

My husband has become more and more worried about the deterioration of our son's Spanish. Even I can tell that it's not developing as well as his English, despite fairly regular visits from his unilingual abuelos. My husband feels that the best course of action is to start sending him to his abuelos' house, a three-hour plane ride away, and leave him there with them for long periods (school holidays allowing). Obviously at least one of us would escort him there, and then go home. 

I understand the importance of cementing his Spanish but I just feel uncomfortable with this because of his age. We have friends in a similar situation who have done this, but the difference is that they had the grandparents providing regular childcare for their child for several years; and I know they speak more Spanish at home. 

I would love to hear some thoughts on the pros and cons of sending him or not, especially from those who have been in a similar situation. 

Thanks!",8.054729411764704,8.315529853333334,7.458352941176471,73.02123529411766,62.13333333333333,10.658823529411766,40.31372549019608,10.328600350310266,4.282654901960783,1316,68,227,27,17,411,162,300,0.046,0.8190000000000001,0.134,0.9833,2,2,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,0,5,4,12,6,0,0,16,0,24,1,0,2,1,36,42,21,0,4,8,7,3,0,1,4,0,6,2,2,11,15,0,0,6,1,0,8,2,0,1,4,7,9,33,6,40,30,7,35,0,0,0,1,46,12,0,3,15,163,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320544404089065,0.0,0.0,0.0932162688346515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525399199589476,0.0,0.0,0.0682912278645131,0.12372612236125707,0.0,0.0,0.11756647247770872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704541412032556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464353739521793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798687243059852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699341657844803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529095799484932,0.0,0.0,0.08655255347139833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733618606706326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626369585928907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247464326934513,0.0,0.11032501185366704,0.2585305373908437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061567657996682415,0.0,0.0,0.11862147447237358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914125304514533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110964219331067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235346874518695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591307085221807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397274890848033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061413301239137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401349450443492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655975040493092,0.0,0.09267071773311396,0.2518483274141305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31717597477535364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791740821492992,0.10314032925811124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100669393828375,0.08893771688039792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188701517708886,0.11662509695124162,0.269511776256017,0.09675622123636676,0.0,0.09243483099288913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072662435643526,0.1038510766433438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376987008736185,0.0,0.15916295128757735,0.0,0.0,0.07214235782488061
parenting,Blu_Daisy,2020/01/04,"Toddler Behavior Changes After Starting Preschool My 2 yo just started preschool after the new year and he has been acting differently. He only had two classes so far and I know it is early, but his behavior is different. For example:

-He has lost his appetite. He didn't want to eat any dinner after school.  Not much breakfast or lunch.  He will still eat, but much less. 
-He is more needy.  He wants me to be next to him at all times and play toys with him.  He is always asking for mama. 
-He is crying for longer hours before bed and woke up in the middle of the night, which is rare.  

I ask him if he wants to go to school today and he says no with almost tears in his eyes. He says, ""scared school."" I asked if he likes his teacher and he says no.  My heart breaks for him because he is crying on/off when he is in school. Is this a normal new behavior now that he started preschool? He just seems so sad now and he used to be so happy and bubbly. We go back on Monday. 😓",1.2962562814070324,3.3858424824120625,2.5809522613065354,94.28047361809044,81.46231155778895,5.186030150753768,19.49773869346733,6.2581,-0.0844755778894477,750,19,164,6,20,241,117,199,0.147,0.7929999999999999,0.06,-0.9556,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,1,10,6,0,1,4,0,17,7,2,1,1,28,33,17,0,6,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,4,11,5,0,2,2,0,3,4,3,0,1,5,4,15,3,22,25,5,33,0,2,1,0,34,8,0,5,22,94,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358052169446126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943801557473096,0.0,0.0,0.07713409045488108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181161441883149,0.0,0.0,0.08721818164361332,0.0,0.06914390376920787,0.0,0.09651782359661587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199904785838582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24918795269803434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370136576433799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321277972984213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892609008622266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207449015775032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441126384789134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170251643565264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062336384231718237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554145884641818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381871403114365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676344813347938,0.0,0.0,0.21909655483460186,0.12063065244795634,0.10644333615851637,0.11113414790496373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626616675480198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27060455083942664,0.11355998023317734,0.4591757710639015,0.0,0.10325946776214567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408521463541574,0.0,0.09058276185319822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614005941306872,0.0,0.10751531153181088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080146883595753,0.0,0.0,0.09796430756102983,0.0,0.0,0.20070613613281216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304311846645506
parenting,Secretskillyou,2020/01/04,"I think my weight loss has affected my daughter ? Okay so I’ve recently lost around 80 lbs, I definitely needed it for my Health. The only issue is I think it’s rubbed off on my 7 year old and I want to change this. I’m concerned it’s making her more body conscious. She’s not wanting to eat as much, and is suddenly talking about carbs. I don’t want this to develop some sort of eating disorder in her. What can I do? How do I turn this around ? I’m afraid pestering her too much about it will make it worse. Help.",0.5580555555555549,2.743389435185186,2.451481481481484,93.5166666666667,85.2037037037037,6.192592592592592,20.11111111111111,7.492282038375204,0.5698000000000008,401,12,91,7,12,133,74,108,0.124,0.7829999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.6366,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,1,1,1,8,5,1,4,0,18,20,5,0,4,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,9,4,3,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,15,1,13,18,4,9,0,2,0,0,7,5,0,2,4,56,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316866959223323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976876037880623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188271570796038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039721899465274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642211076961008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917671050782706,0.0,0.0,0.11929138259268075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575731187325972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427827990782628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375963847584729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616608976145666,0.13196453878851916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867524625294776,0.0,0.0,0.13535629587583306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757266194969532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304775468893366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22807550351518746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19358324546872072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149188165935971,0.0,0.0,0.2167228629482178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18136943654112198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460861571536868
parenting,lovestruckgaz3,2020/01/04,"Potty training while still in a crib My little girl turns 2 next week and I've been thinking about when I should start potty training. 

She is is still in a crib, and she sleeps so good so I'm scared to switch her to a toddler bed.

I'm just trying to get some input from other parents. Did you start while they were still in a crib or were they already in a toddler bed? Is it a bad idea to start and then do pull ups at night since she won't be able to get out of bed? Or any other information you guys may have about my situation. 

Thank you!",1.0179858934169277,2.8346864568965517,2.3572100313479645,96.94515673981192,80.98275862068967,4.907836990595611,18.304075235109718,5.565023196281405,-0.5908517241379312,423,9,100,2,11,136,72,116,0.065,0.8809999999999999,0.055,-0.2707,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,2,0,9,4,0,1,6,0,13,1,1,0,0,13,23,11,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,0,12,2,16,15,1,22,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,4,13,66,15,0,0.18435661035465467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20344210384388686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253688168987086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393006906537768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263743974363945,0.0,0.0,0.15462957802534974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254202875609887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208116173126668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847737557946849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960653465923197,0.17300619015856006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204706198664934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457312823571725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525016931740155,0.20722455427781086,0.1844897504938544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914656730618719,0.0,0.4416822815171073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973079772281674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812827192160022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516603694508055,0.20052705273253668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787975260719205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PCprincipality,2020/01/04,"Help I am a new father, I'm not a nurturer or really a nice or good person. I want to be but I get so angry and I dont know how to fix myself ive seeked help from councillors and all that and nothing has helped I dont want to be a nad father like my father but idk how to be good I really need help",-0.2555868544600948,0.7462671267605643,3.3179577464788754,92.35092723004698,81.95774647887325,6.986854460093897,16.05868544600939,7.793537801064563,-0.021677934272300803,230,3,60,4,6,86,42,71,0.11900000000000001,0.5820000000000001,0.3,0.9003,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,1,15,14,10,0,3,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,5,5,11,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,2,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940542646069694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012141732184312,0.0,0.0,0.3535767151949449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5651130780211775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583661629904032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297418594947144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628724616064754,0.0,0.2035681397598914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224462631670195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840408995834711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700561639616462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486415166853155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nohope4throwawAy,2020/01/04,"Bonus child acting out, should I talk? One of my bonus children, the oldest daughter, has been increasingly rude. It started out with little comments here and there and it’s getting to the point where I feel she is intentionally trying to “get to me”. I’ve never had issues with her in the past, this has been a recent thing. She complains about everything I cook, I even made her a meal she specifically asked for and she complained. She makes demands of me “You need to go to the store and get this, I don’t eat any of the other stuff”, even though I know she does. She refuses to help with basic things when asked. If I talk to her about any of her behavior, she smirks at me and ignores me, until she thinks I’m going to call her dad. I’ve started to refuse to do things for her, I tell her “I’m sorry, but I asked you to do this and you didn’t do it. I don’t reward people who are disrespectful”. Keep in mind, I don’t ask her to do anything that I don’t ask the other kids to do. I love her so much. I’m just feeling disrespected and I know she’s a child but it still hurts my feelings. I don’t know what to do. Should I tell her dad? I worry it’ll drive a wedge between her and I and I don’t want that. Any ideas how to approach the situation?",0.7110479797979785,2.7104056856060623,2.5263636363636373,94.365101010101,83.05303030303031,5.2747474747474765,18.868686868686872,6.42735559955562,-0.17595101010100975,967,24,224,9,27,320,127,264,0.08900000000000001,0.83,0.081,0.2477,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,3,0,3,13,9,1,0,11,0,23,4,0,4,1,40,51,17,0,5,4,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,18,14,3,4,8,1,3,6,8,5,0,1,5,3,49,4,33,43,2,23,0,1,0,1,49,8,0,1,9,159,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23636785715733044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534352852309344,0.0,0.5415708244457714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830678378966696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139052655164274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855447595762543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304987054757516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412817490382363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175748035266588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815973858845096,0.0,0.13169267296141854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765902113139543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403133339032778,0.13079268858772924,0.0,0.12092852555270656,0.0,0.10298236158896547,0.0,0.0,0.1910221210478389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612291316797517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456885394381908,0.10963024678132828,0.0773379529337164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698633329909325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517098526090977,0.08590928098607896,0.08935895603353088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851024537497138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106021995608351,0.08032325855806037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095258619859732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143985169780393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302323418127261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969662838502788,0.1640136759526911,0.0,0.09252654776622336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263284382781484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624897059191547,0.20253481143980806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23091821011679084,0.07423889287760814,0.11383260249662505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866184663098813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833767452709177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766221964891585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,king_scootie,2020/01/04,"Is there one book you wish your father would have taught you lessons from? I’m holding a sleeping baby a lot this week. We had a second child a few days ago. I’m home with my wife and baby for two weeks. Some of the time is spent sitting quietly holding the baby while my wife sneaks a nap. I’m trying to round out my dadisms. 

I’ve found my well of wisdom is not as deep as I would like. I’m rereading How to Win Friends and Influence People with the intention of incorporating the lessons into my regular dad guidance.",3.4573584905660373,4.764483933962269,4.3831603773584895,87.23719339622644,72.86792452830188,7.186792452830187,27.400943396226417,7.645422480735847,1.435494339622641,411,15,86,5,8,133,72,106,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.9485,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,0,3,3,5,0,0,9,0,7,1,1,3,0,21,15,6,0,3,1,4,1,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,1,7,0,2,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,3,4,2,10,5,13,9,3,10,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,2,7,53,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22597438956191898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440463223971075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795105686665903,0.19695334044713714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557091552889906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454279392535908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21672692796329332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274282835439722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673192587402414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25510770206598016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486480007880439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307639029426045,0.0,0.24902331465988095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089686691940437,0.0,0.22920693085640265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931495583217537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621808216423367,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,happypath8,2020/01/04,"Baby proofing : Question about bookshelves So my husband and I are planning our first baby together. We have other kids from prior relationships but our youngest is 8 so it’s been a while since we had a baby around. 

We’re moving into our first home together soon and planning on turning the living room into a wall to wall library. We live in an an area with notorious earthquakes, although infrequent. 

What are some of the things I should know before purchasing / installing bookshelves with a toddler / kid in mind? 

Any tips / suggestions would be helpful as I know furniture tip overs pose a real danger to the littles.",5.910450450450451,8.233071036036039,5.8037837837837865,75.41936936936938,68.36936936936937,7.816216216216216,33.954954954954964,8.515128840125781,3.1471333333333327,499,24,76,8,9,156,82,111,0.077,0.889,0.034,-0.6956,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,0,0,4,5,1,1,0,10,0,9,0,0,0,1,20,12,8,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,10,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,10,0,15,7,1,18,0,0,0,0,13,12,0,2,5,59,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508369048241586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19745596106024532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874209426496727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773391895067069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486730876187198,0.0,0.22249130070046752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24379952366047156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223096788041262,0.3917206884780784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22396263985018794,0.0,0.0,0.2357465804086673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484754903864489,0.0,0.0,0.2524658274540852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381385595973198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348169782440504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473592412286724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412631842264616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756589161795442,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alwaysthevillain,2020/01/04,"I feel like I have 2 toddlers and 1 of them is my Wife This is going to be a bit of a wall of a post so feel free to back out now.

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To start with my wife & I have 1 toddler (a four year old son). My wife is often the responsible one for a lot of things and I am working on improving to be more of a partner. I have openly admitted to falling into being a lazy parent and leaving most of the emotional labor to her, but again trying to improve.

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My wife however, often is such a double edged sword. We have talked for years about her temper even before we had our child. Our 4 year old is really pushing the boundaries and limits that we set. She has corrected me when I said things like ""You do not get to cry if you are the cause."" to our son when he has been not listening to us for hours and eventually gets sad when there is a lost bit of fun because of it. She points out that this is emotionally damaging.

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On the other side of the blade when we had what we believed to be a break in attempt we were rattled. Then this morning when my wife heard more noises and my son would not be quiet so she could listen better she said, after saying quiet 3 times and shut up twice) that she would leave him to be killed. She said that out loud to him.

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I guess I don't get why giving a consistent message of you can't be the bad guy and the victim at the same time is damaging, but what she said isn't. This is just the most recent case and it has quite a bit more bite to it from my view. Our son is also obsessed with potty words (butt, poop, etc) and we established a rule that ""you can only use those words if you're in the potty"" since the bathroom is a boring place, offering to let him go there to say those words is often enough to stop the behavior. My wife seems to forget / stop caring and often uses these words around him. He is also very obsessed with the fighting and dying in things like Moana, Brave, and every other kid show / movie. So when have been trying to explain what death is and how we don't just make malicious jokes about it or talk about each other dying in a playful way.

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I have also had to talk to my wife multiple times about undercutting my decisions as a parent. She REALLY likes her sweets, so she has a soft spot for giving him sweet treats. I often feel that 1 or maybe 2 sugary treats a day is PLENTY, but  she often gives him more and doesn't like how ""strict"" I am with giving them out and will try to convince me to give him more instead of supporting me. I have told him NEVER stand in a shopping cart when we entered a store and my wife heard this. Then sure enough I meet up after finding a new box fan a few isles down and he is standing in the cart while she pushes it. She told me she either didn't hear me or forgot, but I can't see how that is a justification for letting a very spacial unaware 4 year old, who has fallen out of a cart with her already at the time of this incident, stand in a cart

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My wife says that I am too strict because once she or I says something then I expect that to be what happens. Sometimes there is a good reason why this can't be the case, we forgot about something, and we don't expect the moon on a string from a 4 year old. Things like if she or I say no to a treat and explains why (it is always his behavior or that he has already had PLENTY of sugar) then the answer is no. This does not mean ask 20 more times, it means no. I am also very big on if we say stop doing X or we are not going to do Y. If he does X 1 more time then Y is gone. There is no consistency with my wife and it drives me NUTS! She will say that and then 10 times later she will remind him that 1 more time and he loses it. She then wonders why he swings his arms at her, climbs on her when she has already said off, and so on. I try to make sure when my son cuts my wife off mid sentence I let him know she was talking and make sure she can finish. I try to back up the parenting choices she makes in the moment. However when we say stop kicking the seat / door / anything in the car I am the one who has to remind him over and over. She does not jump in to back me up and just lets him get away with it. The same applies to talking back and a number of other subjects. 

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After talking to her about why in the living hells she would ever say that either of us will leave him to die \[He's F\*&#ing 4!\] she explained again that she heard noises from the kitchen and was scared. I can understand this and it ended up being the very loud ice maker. The problem is she asked me what do I suggest she does in moment like that. I suggested what I have suggested a few dozen times Be Consistent & Firm! Just like crate training a new puppy there is no instant in the moment fixes. There is however months + of training so that when those moments happen the training acts as the building blocks to a much better outcome.

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If you have gotten this far thank you very much for reading the great wall post.",5.489771828414966,4.813666198458575,5.938116823851538,84.92414815941589,67.65125240847784,8.555886826893824,27.94077679748505,7.475848149327749,1.3786921001926775,3926,101,847,33,57,1269,375,1038,0.10400000000000001,0.787,0.109,0.8672,6,0,2,0,2,0,128.0,20,6,2,9,61,46,6,3,67,0,97,5,3,13,6,156,156,81,5,13,29,19,4,8,1,7,0,24,2,4,57,60,2,8,18,5,3,14,21,17,0,5,25,33,128,30,118,108,27,139,1,5,2,1,157,50,2,25,75,615,185,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552651663629987,0.11162595595715732,0.029036444756646095,0.4159103551729774,0.33922174774641123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02871661001156507,0.03106502806451885,0.06524649716727893,0.0,0.03278614089807013,0.10733213536330044,0.02913688030273564,0.042544815192481586,0.0,0.029694107100207225,0.039316082241768885,0.0,0.06172572931023922,0.11429287991740775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03557901494175288,0.0358480234334313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027861786610551144,0.0,0.038331851464148865,0.022505170542394832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108650279314359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221516448972426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850708561744403,0.03090768704061932,0.07211423290668721,0.038918501977168105,0.023048619622729246,0.03156562257321964,0.029401564577928942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293372153545764,0.024929861594147014,0.0,0.0,0.031894506553336414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292732417669431,0.16737813679984268,0.059496966224052275,0.029269287888603363,0.0,0.038473198110836215,0.03844211293715508,0.034552737320126856,0.061717211953334065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03933056831626098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034365740573114464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038607489464579176,0.0,0.01917804609180196,0.0,0.0,0.11085015309651416,0.0,0.1427349686442655,0.0,0.1363882162653337,0.0,0.0308139954744424,0.0,0.0,0.039039936326526886,0.03809333880980323,0.029667512456897287,0.0,0.0,0.09317397280728418,0.0,0.035057936404756615,0.07602441243053684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027853824348037192,0.0,0.051305463641318716,0.0,0.026914110807572597,0.06740596008189728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647082179388582,0.037163328036838486,0.04729315420289385,0.026540142527946942,0.0,0.0,0.11624434479779792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03645911538416173,0.0,0.032988200809768435,0.0,0.06684185184527781,0.0,0.0,0.033390963077293744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037116418066186714,0.03490565648693508,0.0,0.04471081533028679,0.03587911899829432,0.03445580050211857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659714489387098,0.2497578234258219,0.034937196982751016,0.0,0.02780776379370089,0.03176820177436177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028866508064052002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053729619401375966,0.03451324702610433,0.0,0.0246997192250748,0.0,0.0,0.1166991867223669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039599809059905115,0.09866780353347113,0.0,0.0,0.16828952535298794,0.0,0.03212774454637001,0.0,0.0,0.0927339734846134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313436225318427,0.0,0.0,0.06668965407711101,0.0,0.11846119015537035,0.0,0.0,0.03632818849325576,0.08395169534627789,0.06027824773323742,0.0,0.14396515207424934,0.0,0.0276989896547767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744202271217772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03784345450822442,0.025404858731280525,0.0,0.0,0.07436780564395196,0.0,0.33922174774641123,0.11236008551855124
parenting,jackel0pe,2020/01/04,"Best way to share photos of kids? Hi parents of reddit! What apps/methods do you suggest for sharing photos of your kids with friends and family? I’m pretty adverse to most social media and am only active on reddit. I’d prefer not to use Facebook/instagram, but don’t know much about the other options. How do you guys share pics?",3.2584895833333327,5.587901203125004,4.42625,82.32708333333336,76.03125,5.5166666666666675,24.729166666666664,6.42735559955562,1.0889354166666667,263,9,44,2,6,86,51,64,0.026000000000000002,0.745,0.23,0.8997,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,11,7,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,10,7,3,2,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,2,0,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374543701822155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031354449820758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484342415299665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183921145434491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767193895930135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23638148990986416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445586878245779,0.0,0.0,0.35705113993317605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271392038077809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277870001150011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777221176277108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25523708310555043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heythatsmyporkchop,2020/01/04,"Allegations of molestation Son says cousin molested him

Long story short . 
I had full Custody of my son, his mom was on drugs. This was in my twenty’s I’m in my mid thirties now. I was a dirt bag and ended up in jail for quite some time . I lost custody of my son. He went to live with family. 
I have since changed my life around and have been actively trying to regain rights to my son who is now a young teen . He still lives with family and I have him on weekends.
Yesterday i picked him up and was told by the family he lives with and was told last month was a rough month for him . He had first got caught with a weed vape pen at school , which is weird because he plays sports & that my son stated last week that years. Ago he was forced to do sexual things with the family’s kid which is his cousin who is now an adult . 
The Guardian claims they reported to CPS but my son is refusing to cooperate and now they don’t want him there . 
Now the family he has been living  with has been extremely secretive and difficult to deal with when it comes to returning custody or even visitation with my son. They have moved a few times to try to shake me I had to hire a private investigator to even locate them.
I have brought up issues in the past to the court and basically been silenced by the judge. They don’t wanna hear what I have to say or even investigate . 
But now this .
My son is with me now . I have not talked to him about this or anything .
The cousin still lives at home and I don’t want to send my son back there if this did happen . Idk what to do. How to address this with him. What approach to take . 
My son is a very happy silly teenager . I never seen any rebellion from him before . I’m still in shock about all this . 
Any advice would be helpful and appreciated .",2.4758493432222366,4.233178842105268,3.562693235635781,90.261144669824,76.36842105263158,7.317344294522383,21.063443838799035,8.155646560271837,0.7901319095701904,1386,34,308,24,31,447,177,361,0.069,0.868,0.063,-0.0427,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,5,3,21,10,2,1,16,0,38,2,0,2,2,40,54,18,0,5,7,14,1,0,0,1,2,3,2,2,17,22,0,1,1,3,0,9,5,7,0,1,23,5,41,3,53,29,4,57,0,1,1,0,52,17,0,5,30,206,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664527330203516,0.08767009639347889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715959216465347,0.0,0.13451264500295645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138739987615771,0.08804318686059504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604904806710097,0.0,0.06028935667081225,0.0,0.0841577807253965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462453471805996,0.08519477220591012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196296885974547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469418911938326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759725759443587,0.0,0.0,0.1959702647080958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4661770442395235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412545408398216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910045972952454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745815412168532,0.10528234653464966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114690309762512,0.0,0.06629150299677614,0.0,0.09920613719254287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322733402098083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612356321111271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698569618989054,0.0,0.0,0.4366586046282205,0.08752459946229778,0.0,0.0,0.10796252750874212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583208823466935,0.15788425857933716,0.10511650354447293,0.0,0.0,0.07627883297244901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944125477867118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519378011216536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844612288750149,0.0,0.1573006767331581,0.0,0.10009346568234677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181223458796727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23694828350262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436152118130364,0.07949317421378745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570567503491598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534036740225252,0.0,0.0,0.18900899311550226,0.0,0.13429507520696699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160398734655665,0.1166691799537498,0.0,0.07933271270178646,0.0,0.0,0.09168256006203608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025669503258597,0.0,0.0,0.06368923913048757
parenting,RandomLake7,2020/01/04,"I got into a major argument with my wife over encouraging our 5 year old son to paint his nails. Am I in the wrong? My son expressed a mild interest in painting his nails.  My wife very much encouraged this painting his nails pink and seemingly was very excited about it.  I had a conversation with my son in which I asked him why he liked painting his nails (he liked the color etc, all normal for a 5 year old), I then had a conversation where I asked him if he thought other people might treat him differently and was he prepared to be bullied / treated differently / etc. in order to wear nails that color.  He became a bit scared thinking about it and said he wouldn't want to wear them to school.

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My wife became very angry and was accusing me of having backwards views, etc. etc.  I am of the mind that he should know that there will be possible negative consequences for wearing his nails this way, and I'd rather he not learn the hard way of being bullied, getting strange looks etc.  If I felt he was legitimately feeling compelled to ""be a girl"" or anything like that it would be different, but it is clear he is a typical kid messing around.  Should I simply let him learn the hard way, is my wife right that I am hurting his creativity, being backwards etc?  

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I feel like on the whole cost/benefit analysis the net effect on his life would be negative for wearing nail polish, and whatever benefits of creativity he gained would be vastly outweighed by the possibility of bullying etc.  I feel this strongly enough to put a red line on letting him go to school while wearing nail polish, but I'm concerned with how terribly angry my wife got in this argument.  This is something entirely in our power to control in terms of what he does and he wouldn't be significantly upset if he didn't wear it, but again my wife feels like we should encourage this interest.

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Please let me know what you think on this.",7.547534059945503,7.307818596730247,7.482031335149863,74.10348297002727,63.30517711171662,10.82773841961853,35.516212534059946,10.355215969177356,3.576308010899184,1543,63,284,32,20,495,174,367,0.114,0.731,0.155,0.888,4,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,3,1,1,5,8,21,0,2,17,0,37,7,6,4,2,53,58,17,0,14,9,9,7,5,0,10,1,1,0,2,21,13,0,1,14,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,12,14,39,15,38,24,14,33,0,1,6,0,51,19,0,6,13,187,60,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23136773013734646,0.2594713659279282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058574373638257675,0.06336453224114103,0.13308578909991708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770919396798137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983346654627266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310117867382434,0.0,0.0,0.06228935175371793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735470868812767,0.5556849547121636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439612629314621,0.10170079456993904,0.0683431441001304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03718816682264811,0.0,0.04045274991891356,0.0,0.11385693338785305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275250705236631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619874969381556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823639607742909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21835650294151507,0.05027593698442636,0.17387268065772274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977255707788182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550982728181195,0.07187064820630265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05232486348145488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974045190766967,0.0,0.0,0.1493810836202901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04934665867209457,0.0,0.0,0.07813332939446513,0.0,0.1604875881655813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155470317477776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607866031547816,0.06770766925137592,0.0,0.07126274407448888,0.1440741949379668,0.0,0.0647988226952145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479718533960151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121744741910497,0.0,0.05650829242564339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619075381995794,0.04198330545685623,0.16949608280236206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422810952262216,0.07946897636847372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169087272807805,0.07782322403723309,0.2594713659279282,0.0916740747398758
parenting,moralstorage,2020/01/04,30mo enrolling to a preschool I am new to US (pre)school system. I checked few preschools and they all mention that school year is from September to June. Is that a rule and thinking about enrolling a kid in April/May is not going to be feasible?,4.0867021276595725,6.2013593191489385,3.5542021276595754,90.50875,72.82978723404256,6.402127659574468,33.026595744680854,7.1686216300943375,2.0287489361702127,196,10,38,2,4,58,36,47,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,7,6,2,6,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,26,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581473748129891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34976085822647146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7330179695675807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320472036129687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4356145506748332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332088135447981
parenting,dianee1g,2020/01/04,My son left thumb sucking in 2019 I am just going to share this successful challenge I had to deal with  for my son I had a fear of my son having braces he has been sucking his thumb since he came out my belly I tried diff technique from hot sauce to nasty nail polish to him having a rubber band and have the urge to suck his thumb. I would like to share that I used The NIPIT Hand Stopper you can find it on amazon it is a yellow elbow brace with two blue strap on it it range from 2-7 and my son is 5 there are reward sticker chart and it was so worth it every 7 days we go to Five and Bellow He was so excited to do it the first couple days he wore it to school and sleep with it than he stop sucking at school and his teacher noticed it too and only night time we did this for a while the chart was for 5 weeks but by the 3 rd I noticed he stop however during night time I still made him wear it every other day and by the 5 th week he didn’t wear it I would check middle of the night and see if he is sucking his thumb and no sucking and now he is done his nail is growing back to normal and I give him constant reminder that I am proud of him. I just wanted to share this with you guys because I am proud and happy and hoping In future he wont have urges and you can find this product on amazon. It is so worth it for your little one.,2.6613265306122442,3.0859262551020405,3.90966666666667,93.2145,73.8639455782313,6.288163265306122,21.50272108843537,5.341637118332708,-0.09576544217687166,1045,20,248,3,20,343,148,294,0.045,0.805,0.15,0.9819,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,4,0,6,10,19,6,1,11,0,30,5,5,2,0,39,46,21,0,6,4,4,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,21,23,0,3,2,1,3,5,3,7,0,4,12,6,33,12,34,31,0,35,0,0,3,0,36,10,6,2,21,162,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866333686759958,0.0,0.07821727237788376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675374737568525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865874545497614,0.0,0.0,0.1419738220525016,0.0,0.2482501869515179,0.13228313832085453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130683209556898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21621531784998385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438569104459842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345480919500028,0.10914137949635108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308772532630055,0.14584434136882665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704818926313874,0.0,0.1365895811502361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274419012586186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941041545261662,0.0,0.0,0.06268633564686707,0.12860145828898484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141109126556318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612339033493667,0.12571766190959094,0.0,0.2921661381786005,0.0,0.0,0.0869469407062017,0.09758639437799836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25971542245076673,0.10224735611290776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614029059142964,0.0,0.12840379225307227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246943216081232,0.21454769594942194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963850058189093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711483300299583,0.0,0.12534132722299685,0.0,0.0,0.11081961691645503,0.0,0.0,0.07568122742106415,0.0,0.20584689373128226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822970870874829,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Boredmp,2020/01/04,"Putting baby down with a toddler around My eight week old gets tired so I start to rock him and put him in his sleep sack. He is still fussy so I nurse him until he it's done and pretty much sleep.  I rock him a little more so he doesn't wake up during the transfer into his crib. I start putting him in his crib, slowly lower him down, so slow not to wake him. I get him half way and he grunts so I pause to make sure he doesn't wake. Everything seems fine so I continue lowering him, almost there. I get him into the crib still asleep, just about to remove my hands when there is a crash of the door being thrown open. My toddler speaking at toddler level volume ( which is loud, always so loud)  says ""baby mommy baby"". My husband rushes in to grab him and I look down at the baby, sure enough babies eyes are wide open staring at me confusion as to why he is not right on my chest.... And so I start the dance all over again.",1.7569025735294126,3.475809046875,2.8272058823529416,94.9089705882353,78.32291666666666,5.350980392156863,18.06495098039216,5.900188976854957,-0.4303214460784313,715,13,160,4,17,228,107,192,0.065,0.884,0.051,-0.3976,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,8,0,9,10,9,1,3,21,18,16,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,11,0,0,1,3,0,6,4,1,0,2,1,9,30,3,26,16,4,40,0,0,3,0,23,21,0,3,12,103,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449067133098907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283745963145739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734327569048274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578835756587905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941406765737345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138658295482361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24181720282772426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463062923353324,0.0,0.0,0.12955763256060945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029841225949539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341468004926478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189251798251034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695978625728432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652866664122571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175558786741234,0.0,0.1226908689997164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045211500936816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087859104590746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276037935611799,0.0,0.2464188662094889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908170416870301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732392869451946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246150122905892,0.12375534121825267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921508833480453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheDarkTowar,2020/01/04,"My kids won’t go to sleep with out me and it takes 1-2hrs for them to fall asleep. HELP! I have a 4yr old and 2yr old that go into panick attacks if I try to put them to bed and leave the room.  I mean they will scream and cry bloody murder.

Bed time is 8-8:30.  

I am forced to lay with them until they fall asleep but as title says they won’t sleep until about 10:30 when all their physical and verbal energy wears out.

By this time I’m a little frustrated and have lost my patience telling them it’s quiet time and to go to sleep and just trying to ignore them doesn’t phase them as they just talk to each other.

I tried putting a gate on the door so they can’t leave and I try to leave but the screaming and crying will last for about an hour and I feel bad for traumatizing them.

The 4 yr old has now figured out how the gate works and just opens it.

I tell my wife that I don’t plan to spend 2 hrs every night putting them to bed and they can just wander about until they fall asleep because I have other things I want to do.  

She usually waits till they need to go to bed to get her house things done so they aren’t interrupting her so she says she can’t lay with them I must and gets upset that they are still up and about and have pre-school in the morning and it will be hell getting them ready if they are tired.

In addition my two sons will wake up in the middle of the night crying and screaming for me if I am not there so it is now like a co-sleep scenario where I’m either in their room every night or they will come and lay with me in our room.

I suppose I should feel honored they feel this way towards me only, they won’t act like this with mom.

Not sure what to do, I don’t want to co-sleep with them forever and want my nights back.",3.1757142857142853,3.521826074074077,3.7612973544973554,95.02629523809523,72.65079365079364,6.8945608465608474,20.94010582010582,6.360717304075467,-0.08056033862433898,1368,22,335,8,25,431,174,378,0.17600000000000002,0.764,0.06,-0.9929,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,27,4,20,15,4,1,13,0,32,9,8,1,3,63,53,38,1,9,13,3,3,2,0,10,1,6,10,1,16,34,0,2,5,0,1,12,11,11,0,1,2,9,58,4,53,40,3,55,1,1,0,0,43,20,1,4,24,220,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749136775104714,0.0,0.06589479660295007,0.07155243095442053,0.052239377035207216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738193616991729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282398505956669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876965777584261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440485031725767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999114579094956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343175884041102,0.0,0.19481163956752487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574401023747481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439312150122097,0.09888147160473754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985353172163528,0.0,0.2722185025752596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373329888036783,0.08588972566544409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354711165683313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933478715766225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036590974266836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354236536708595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216788909709397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26977004541200633,0.0,0.0,0.06517553341402532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25844390811850426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362975127537712,0.0,0.08672874585626662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4287885471032676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843679328743545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807672970521621,0.0,0.06443259235808553,0.06887905475843101,0.1498038493669568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138649911374327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499097669843593,0.0984947397872206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327273487429549,0.0,0.08371236495261394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438183973301888,0.0,0.15163684644879458,0.06802135383706594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062387578264722014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fluffernator8486,2020/01/04,"Surviving newborn sleep habits? I have a beautiful 4 week old infant who is great during the day (eats every 2-3 hrs with appropriate awake and sleeping periods) but is transformed at night. She can be fussy for the entire evening at times (maybe a touch of colic?) or refused to sleep unless she is held. I really want to adhere to the “safe sleep” regulations set by the American Academy of Pediatrics because, you know SIDS, but am also afraid of losing my mind with no sleep. Any tips on how to help a newborn sleep appropriately? Is this just a phase I have to survive?",7.282222222222224,7.163723518518523,7.6003703703703716,72.63166666666667,63.814814814814824,10.903703703703703,33.74074074074074,10.504223727775694,3.485062962962963,452,17,82,10,6,148,81,108,0.078,0.777,0.145,0.7814,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,1,8,0,9,8,6,1,0,15,12,7,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,3,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,2,16,10,0,10,0,1,0,0,9,3,0,1,6,51,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412015535075838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704345885485356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699089521793239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092032127706181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460215853544926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425449589792284,0.0,0.12023408313659212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573314130249154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565133067382108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784262613673989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964901927207367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336512021714265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409013000275436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391782351947948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974360393282468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141969083444587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8568409890471087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321171736722728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417038237722843,0.0,0.11446835858071967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zaireali493,2020/01/04,"Need suggestions on a last minute family get together at the house for my daughter's 1st birthday My daughter is turning 1 on Monday and my wife is 6 months pregnant with our second child. Our plan was to just go out with our daughter Monday but last night my wife said we should have folks over today to celebrate. Being that she's pregnant, I didn't argue. 

We only invited 2 of our relatives and their families (10 people). This isn't my area of expertise so I'm lost lol. She said all we need is balloons, a cake, and food. The balloons and cake are straightforward but the food is my holdup. I ask you Reddit, what should an inexperienced father serve to cost-effectively feed 6 children and 4 adults.

Thanks in advance!",3.8793645083932873,6.0103241726618695,4.632535971223022,82.48079436450844,73.46043165467627,7.798800959232612,26.691247002398075,8.59863814320734,2.035330455635492,576,21,107,11,12,185,94,139,0.024,0.861,0.115,0.9256,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,7,1,1,3,2,3,1,0,6,1,12,3,0,0,1,19,23,8,0,4,3,6,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,3,11,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,5,2,19,1,14,15,1,16,0,1,0,0,25,7,0,0,7,65,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17866573470712047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603304264272355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46219146787722604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984914531770284,0.0,0.10861445589445888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051982643817966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31156673624203746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086234406868344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254532297071327,0.0,0.0,0.2834171287060384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934748556659602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535076271850345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249434198225402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635862417443133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759520382877673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811536680363316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787708614760927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,australiansasquatch,2020/01/04,"I can't stop my three year old stressing about the fires We live on the south east coast of Australia and are currently in the midst of some horrendous bushfires. We packed the cars a couple of days ago and are basically just waiting now. Our three year old daughter is apparently a lot more aware of what's going on than I gave her credit for, and is obviously picking up on our emotions as well. She's gone from sleeping through the night consistently, to waking up every hour or so screaming. She's constantly asking questions about the fires and if we need to leave. As much as we reassure her that we'll all be fine, we just can't get her to not stress about them. Our family lives up north in Sydney and the roads have been cut off for awhile now so we can't just head up there. I feel like I've tried everything and it's breaking my heart to see her like this.. I'm open to any suggestions/ideas.",5.449815184815184,5.639595939560444,5.515474525474527,84.98861638361642,67.62637362637363,9.035764235764237,28.63336663336664,8.841846274778883,1.879751648351648,719,22,153,11,11,226,117,182,0.07,0.831,0.098,0.486,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,10,0,1,0,12,10,1,2,9,0,11,4,4,1,2,29,21,13,0,2,6,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,13,0,2,2,0,1,3,4,4,1,2,3,5,22,6,30,16,5,32,0,0,1,0,22,15,0,5,15,100,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424462285502525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927796227685756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022792904867588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365397156696236,0.0,0.0,0.1778057199137402,0.0,0.1036348404973612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807600009195645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539228461595518,0.0,0.14442210847887071,0.0,0.15148873908062382,0.0,0.08125211016026856,0.11480038443004795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395639120700954,0.0,0.09132654787176164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491920686523434,0.0,0.0,0.1904240904862468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582519908551391,0.0,0.0,0.1814048491381612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701525717334534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701470703977802,0.0,0.2837928732923461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661695722910314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812915461127252,0.11915314476003253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508011672239424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33724428405312346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800149326640462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280529360983826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081083393506887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434803325930833,0.3681506598953488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109101208753364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444839077621526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696434215505055
parenting,h1sdudeness,2020/01/04,"What songs do you sing to your child at bedtime? I thinking singing helps calm my child down at bedtime, but I keep going back to either ‘what a wonderful world’ or ‘you are my sunshine’. I’d love some other ideas.

I also see in movies unique bedtime songs. They’re always really beautiful, but I’ve never heard of them before. 

I’d love to hear what other people do, or what your parents sang to you growing up.",3.079417989417987,5.016493061728396,3.9277954144620817,87.51222222222223,75.17283950617283,6.110052910052911,23.917107583774253,6.868970318607317,0.8746811287477949,322,10,62,3,7,103,55,81,0.0,0.703,0.297,0.9833,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,1,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,11,12,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,6,0,0,1,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,7,11,4,10,11,2,10,0,0,2,2,14,6,0,4,2,40,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068062112718779,0.215179958010192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19885117284660767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200536867555122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697110018258494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29146646945724697,0.0,0.17333738496032502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29193340685261043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298598796998401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668019613652341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945200874254929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287150090655034,0.0,0.0,0.17928404694142522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566889379889488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607458990365216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657035508081103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804459368317284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DasIstGut3000,2020/01/04,"Baby girl won‘t sleep at night Sooo... my wife and I have this lovely little baby for five months. Ada is a real sunshine and has a fairly normal day routine. But the nights are exhausting. And I don‘t mean waking ap 3-4 times a night exhausting. It is usually something in between 6-8 times a night breast feeding. As you can imagine, my wife is fairly exhausted. Is this normal? Is there some magic thing that we can use?",1.6248780487804881,4.2538061219512215,3.0055609756097565,88.11931707317076,85.34146341463416,5.231219512195122,20.39512195121951,6.742157984588678,0.5890887804878044,330,10,61,4,10,107,61,82,0.08900000000000001,0.816,0.095,0.3736,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,12,8,3,1,0,12,15,5,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,6,2,5,14,1,12,0,0,1,2,6,3,0,1,9,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205102901930675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728443971746786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864991316947836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035470912451597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915116723267896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7014279111694423,0.3661694383032436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21268943978010765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699657538622624,0.0,0.0,0.14385520904685997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414256130979966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21792103382424766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613884487784259,0.20580168159756912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thepurpleredone,2020/01/04,"8yr old son watching inappropriate videos on YouTube and the browser. My 8 yr old son has recently gotten an iPad and he has been told that he has a certain amount of time on the device and that’s it. 

About 2 days ago I was going to plug my sons iPad up and a notification popped up saying he was logged out of iMessage and something went wrong with the email. As I opened the iPad up to log him back in I saw pornography in my sons google search. I went over all his history and he’s been searching “big boob girls with bikinis” and “hot girls having sex”. I don’t know how to talk to him about this. Not only that but I found inappropriate pictures in his camera roll. Lots of pictures of naked women. This iPad has not been restricted yet because he hasn’t had it but two weeks. It is basically my fault because I forgot to restrict it. So how do I approach this conversation and what do I say? 

He’s been caught watching inappropriate videos on YouTube as well. Idk what to do he’s so young",2.915552941176472,4.733293120000003,3.9252352941176447,87.87482352941177,75.3,6.7058823529411775,24.764705882352942,7.510576382923642,1.0152088235294126,784,26,167,10,17,253,111,200,0.055,0.9079999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.5609,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,7,0,18,2,1,2,2,26,28,16,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,12,12,0,3,2,2,0,5,4,2,1,1,15,6,17,2,27,13,3,28,0,0,3,2,24,13,1,1,10,103,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815218070784057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746031086558174,0.0,0.2496594259771888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206375286185146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22452660949868306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637907280968385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125396821441468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740934611338723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4297564947224264,0.0,0.0,0.15574158023492687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021918613590221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256926166375569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576467764289508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459140832835376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940668928876325,0.0,0.0,0.19567250063470853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003665977081864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425917117083744,0.0,0.1841184585766918,0.3796593060726498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22389070396123845,0.0,0.0
parenting,MACcally24,2020/01/04,Sons first birthday Where’s a good place to have a babies first birthday party ? My son is 10 months but is not walking yet so I’m not sure if he will by by feb but I am not sure where to have his party that can be fun for him if he’s not walking by then,1.671610169491526,1.8260015423728824,3.3625000000000007,97.2264618644068,75.9491525423729,5.9,21.529661016949152,3.1291,-0.4115118644067799,197,4,52,0,4,66,39,59,0.08800000000000001,0.7290000000000001,0.183,0.7289,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,2,10,9,6,0,2,8,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,6,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,5,36,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5709040345159212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814763140006952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678641119711381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506193061176513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6325777325558625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Goats_vs_Aliens,2020/01/04,"16 yrs old, Social Media, Improper Conversations, Inappropriate Shared Random Memes & Nudes This is the 3rd time, took all electronics away for months last time(close to a year), this holiday season & 16th birthday I offered a vehicle and phone, I wasn't asked for it, I just thought given the amount of time and maturity reached we could start a new. Only one rule no nudes. It lasted 3 months. Any advice?",4.008108108108112,6.983155959459463,4.441824324324326,79.69219594594598,77.24324324324327,7.483783783783783,25.466216216216218,8.472884824447931,2.1306540540540544,327,12,56,7,8,103,61,74,0.031,0.872,0.09699999999999999,0.5754,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,3,2,2,0,1,8,8,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,4,1,5,3,2,13,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,1,11,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20087595442703435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4454596612255268,0.0,0.1397913991252831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921757319760672,0.0,0.1931352915269418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412710163784427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351261823922724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281603957186097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19853617099286194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21570611920521895,0.0,0.13929631353384084,0.1563416133736965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095478549413164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550012116397718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319582328151724,0.3596001996934347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22839052378829897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237726233217562
parenting,exhaustedmommyof2,2020/01/04,"Almost 3 year old won't stop eating hair Has anyone dealt with this before?? My daughter loves eating hair. Anytime she finds a piece of hair, it immediately goes in her mouth (she used to pull her own hair out to eat, but luckily has stopped doing that). We did ask her doctor about it and he tested her for anemia, but that came back negative. She just really likes eating hair. All the doctor told us to do it try and get her to stop, but didn't give suggestions on how to stop it. We've tried bribes, taking the hair away anytime we see her start to eat it, ignoring, etc. Nothing is working to get her to stop! How do we stop this??",2.5290411931818184,4.303152742187503,3.6059943181818177,89.93502840909092,76.265625,6.529545454545455,20.23011363636364,7.348242739294969,0.4098187499999999,493,11,105,6,11,159,80,128,0.075,0.768,0.157,0.8754,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,9,15,7,3,1,25,20,7,0,0,4,1,6,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,9,8,5,7,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,4,7,15,2,16,15,4,16,0,0,1,1,21,4,0,1,11,66,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144322379006695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799053656798438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683387652719364,0.0,0.10736731259388388,0.0878722122614838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724159025412714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307028208144784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339353776297104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5846711858585052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744942994234054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444740861042656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941037580265412,0.10962522726319633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583013069229612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313975131744507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965217947551076,0.0,0.1199148335139443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320898334480233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106423586287067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088608181318067,0.0,0.0,0.5732457854323098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592232959398606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919688532932267,0.0,0.15517361037637495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746155647066244,0.09869892109453826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319525671792047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735908532965276
parenting,infinitehedgehog,2020/01/04,"My (26f) son (7m) wants to set up an ofrenda. So my son is half white (me) and half Mexican (his dad). Tonight we were watching Coco together and got to talking about ofrendas and what they are and the meaning behind them. We had a family member who passed away this past July and my son said that he'd like to set up an ofrenda at my house and put our family's pictures up for them. I asked if his dad's family sets one up and he said no. I have limited knowledge on this, and I want him to be involved in part of his culture if he's interested in it, but I also want to do it in a respectful way since it's not my own culture. Any advice from culturally blended families, particularly those who participate in Day of the Dead?",5.662201986754968,4.67136438410596,7.244097682119207,76.74442466887417,67.41059602649007,10.728807947019867,33.44453642384106,10.125756701596842,3.0879860927152314,566,22,121,12,8,198,98,151,0.06,0.872,0.068,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,3,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,20,16,13,1,5,4,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,10,10,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,5,4,21,3,22,9,2,20,0,0,2,0,28,11,0,2,4,86,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167317151536344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692698563955258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643752373267988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007040842873554,0.0,0.1608696617352838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104246816880798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6456552916770263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694268902109494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975683739383885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365091778983376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18651206235809312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160251482885254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541784294099664,0.16345174497663642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212642521260374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257445996037525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163744986578244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376225760619085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029753167690325,0.135908861919011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newparentstilllost,2020/01/04,"Not coping Kind of a vent, kind of needing some support. Not really coping with things at the moment. I (27F) don’t have any of my family in town and only have my SO (28M) to talk to. I have two friends. Baby girl is 8months. 

I’ve lost trust in my baby’s doctor (GP) when she said she was under stimulated after I complained she would push away from me in cuddle time even though she got sick of playing. Crying all the while. Almost everyone I’ve talked to (who aren’t doctors) say it’s bullshit considering she’s surrounded by toys, watches age appropriate shows on Netflix, and I would sing to her all the time. A little after the doctor’s comment I kinda stopped interacting with baby as much. No more songs or games, just planted her in front of the tv, on her playmat or placed her in her walker and let her do her own thing. I feel disconnected with her now and been feeling much more tired and sad, thinking that I’m not doing enough for her no matter what I do. I robbed my dad’s chance of spending time with her on his birthday over the New Year period because my partner made me freak out over her sleeping situation (my parents had a travel cot for her that the surface was ‘too hard’, she smacks her head down in her sleep) and so we left early by three days (and he had time off over that period which, considering he works 16hour days, 6 days a week, was pretty effing rare). Also his birthday is today so yeah. 

I feel like shit and I don’t know if what I’m doing is right anymore. Everybody (friends, mum’s group, my mum, my SO’s mum, etc) said that I’m doing a fucking awesome job, that I don’t need any advice, that she’s so happy so I shouldn’t worry at all.",3.754489247311831,4.687847727272729,4.865619501466277,85.4850959188661,71.72727272727272,7.3255620723362656,25.352028347996093,7.492282038375204,1.132070283479961,1309,38,272,14,24,431,189,341,0.107,0.792,0.10099999999999999,-0.4728,3,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,1,0,0,2,14,15,2,0,12,1,25,11,4,2,3,41,42,22,0,6,7,5,4,1,3,3,5,4,0,2,13,14,0,1,5,9,1,3,10,6,0,2,11,9,46,9,41,27,11,51,0,2,1,2,46,26,2,6,23,180,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394101101054744,0.0,0.0,0.106511605605944,0.0,0.0,0.08506198671993477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466698512627346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548789808707687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993569175756684,0.0,0.0,0.06484059148920382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683961538283705,0.2057945575176213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266146822323159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990597785664197,0.11862778938662658,0.0702546772191191,0.0,0.0,0.1016386273393528,0.0,0.0,0.10027373638177586,0.0,0.16134768942140892,0.07598890554326047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16435840846559724,0.09833496508619594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507174199809253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132300956527364,0.09528431492987176,0.0,0.1091636591198695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055532508128116,0.0,0.0,0.22153059771421835,0.05845675185442591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556851220829893,0.10876789276455312,0.0,0.05196574820452204,0.10660809778109473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611260310106017,0.0,0.0,0.10064742392160901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638458383614404,0.15774018714840934,0.0,0.10273031629904104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808972154155208,0.0,0.0,0.11810843130729518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111313139326995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821390512318717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814169244511548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083719483131124,0.20235954714233492,0.08458764103853722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918462728740476,0.0,0.1195614358223058,0.2128884729941107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892792528482417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070448681876204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709882048839869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133157388703535,0.06815594730738246,0.1045054493257706,0.0,0.24809479012287425,0.12225370111275233,0.10082387620372132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390551278644383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532152771365117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743674802127212,0.10802127741428062,0.0,0.15112072556564266,0.0,0.0,0.06849713058420205
parenting,Caticorn09137830,2020/01/04,"I Need To Know - Can I Trust Him? Hello other guardians of the little people.

I'm in desperate need of advice and what's normal.  I have a 3m/o baby and we've been through a lot medical wise.  

I caught father of child picking up baby aggressively today while proceeding to say in his ear, ""Shut the fuck up"" as my 3mo cried.

...back story...

I was just in the other room, baby JUST started crying when this happened.  Dad had just woken up from almost 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep but wide awake when baby started crying.  Before he picked him up, I could tell Father was holding the pacifier in babies mouth even though baby was still crying (cried sounded muffled) -  the pacifier thing has happened before in which I've already addressed as not okay.

This guy has spent HOURS with our son while I'm at work...this father home alone with our baby...I've never once got a text or call that he's been overwhelmed, which leaves me to wonder... wtf are you doing to him when I'm NOT in the next room, or NOT home at all!!??

He saw me just as he was saying ""fuck"", and nervously smiled...
I was furious...I told him to give me our son and leave.

I'm not even going to go into detail about the conversation we had afterwards, just that it wasn't really reassuring for me but it was a calm conversation.  We went to the same parenting classes.  He's heard SO many times, if you're aggravated put baby down somewhere safe and take a break, call someone, get help.

There are just things he does that I really don't like...this was way over my line.  I feel like I'm being too hard, but there's just been so many red flags.  If anyone had my full history with this guy, you would just tell me to leave.  Idk why I'm still here.  Am I being realistic?  Please give me advice.",1.94832512315271,4.202191862068968,3.4107027914614143,88.31886206896552,80.0919540229885,6.161050903119869,19.4256157635468,7.33818517376401,0.4709801970443354,1360,33,277,19,35,446,187,348,0.124,0.8140000000000001,0.063,-0.9562,1,1,0,0,0,0,67.0,5,2,0,0,24,12,3,2,13,1,27,6,3,2,2,47,58,23,0,7,19,7,2,1,0,1,1,5,5,3,15,11,0,2,3,0,1,5,7,5,0,0,22,9,31,7,37,32,4,46,0,1,2,2,43,21,2,7,19,169,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379179808271114,0.0,0.0,0.08904494614284247,0.09209886500928503,0.09813029176511066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217801131934515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837737819187112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133623751270614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18160351896284235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099890125999576,0.0,0.4883964146407791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781834575103219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746746119673795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044962850865144455,0.06352761244240941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441835836094015,0.04645933120469764,0.1706087836195515,0.10107557684069683,0.0,0.07112096978918507,0.0,0.0,0.17609828253621312,0.15727111469074295,0.0,0.07965880002389693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960415398386872,0.0,0.17839685661242874,0.0,0.17514525222536828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048870527215790785,0.0,0.0,0.2824743145285017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688794472338601,0.08912561472811655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560034885771738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031077813453789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958198235246828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318726385663287,0.06858398287365362,0.0,0.0945721131595052,0.0,0.08712703610790651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470158876247796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874002785839893,0.0,0.0,0.06164898555031149,0.0,0.0,0.09761229279665537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939358774808534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393450130318625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143251146720673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898862478106641,0.0,0.07534535948046528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588230259050248,0.0,0.14203028882691415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686008551021518,0.0,0.1554476983134647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181548462579172,0.0,0.08736777606446562,0.0,0.051852535456423286,0.0,0.08428993794054647,0.08497107940470328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058405331251777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243381399632238,0.08024044388081543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964347235704214,0.06473802566211842,0.0,0.0,0.06316934569010463,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluesunshine173,2020/01/04,"Teenage Exhaustion Sorry for this being so long, I just have to get this off my chest. 

I’m 22 and have full custody of my little sister who is 15. I’ve had custody of her since she was 13, been keeping her since she was 12. We grew up states apart due to being separated in foster care (I went with my great aunt, she went with her father). She doesn’t remember foster care but she did have a rough upbringing of neglect until I got her. She had no rules from age 3-12 (with her father) and was roaming the streets at 12am on school nights. By the time I was able to move to the same state at 18, she was antisocial from the neglect but also going deep into the unfiltered internet seeking negative attention.

I had a rough childhood from the start. I was in and out of the school counselors office since I was 5. When I got adopted by my aunt I thought it would all be better (foster care was awful but could have been worse) and my aunt wasn’t better, she was worse. I went through physical and mental abuse for my 8 years with her and I moved out as soon as I could. A lot of things of course happened in between but I’m not going to go into it.

When I got custody of my sister, which was my lifelong dream since we had been in foster care (for real, I talked about it in 4th grade) I thought it would be great. I thought I could take her out of a bad situation and make sure as she got older nothing worse than the neglect could happen to her like it did me. But she hates me for all the rules and it really tears me down. She goes as far as telling me I’m making her suicidal for taking away her phone after I caught her repeatedly sexting and shit talking me. And whenever we fight, it’s a constant you make me want to kill myself. I know I’m literally her most hated person and I’ve come to try to accept it now having her a few years but it’s so hard to go forward in our relationship. She doesn’t trust me, I’ve tried putting her in therapy but she won’t talk (she is not forced to go to therapy, she asked me to and I’ve always made it readily available). The suicide stuff kills me inside because I’ve been suicidal since foster care and with how other people made me feel in my life, I would never want to make her feel that way. 

It’s hard trying to parent at 22 but I try my best. I have one family members complete support but I feel like the others work against me. When things get really hard, I have people telling me “that’s why We told you not to move back *to my hometown*. It’s all your fault that it’s like this” I don’t go out and don’t let anyone around her that I think would be a bad impression, especially since she is so easily impressionable. I actively try to communicate with her teachers and try to have her get Cs or above but she struggles with that. I’ve tried talking to her therapist about what to do and everyone is telling me I have to wait it out, she is just being a teen. But I’m afraid I’m making our relationship by just parenting into something she views she could never forgive me for. I resent my aunt but I have ample reasoning to, even though I still call her to make sure she is okay and visit her throughout the year, she did raise me after all . But I remember how she made me feel and I would never want my little sister to feel that way and she says things exactly the way I felt when I was being abused.  She knows my background and uses things that happened to me against me but I still can’t shake off her possibly feeling the way I felt, even though I’m not abusing her at all, I try to give her as much space as you can give a troubled teen, a create safe spaces for her to talk even though she won’t. She has even said she purposely works against me sometimes and she doesn’t know why but won’t talk about it in therapy. 

She is very manipulative and I know this and try to keep it in mind but it doesn’t help me feel any better about our situation. I just want her to be safe and grow up with a better life than the cards we have been dealt (I’ve told her this). Does anyone have any advice on how to truck through these next 3 years? I’m not the best parent, I know this. But I’m the only person that was willing to step up and I think she also hates that. She views nothing wrong with her life before and won’t face that not having food in the house for days wasn’t good. She always just says “well that was my reality and it was okay because I was happy” I’m just trying my best but I feel like it’s never good enough...",2.588298427044407,3.9665469528402997,3.8337002114654872,90.03326866255324,75.18435155412648,6.843886330059964,22.683134903392137,7.432916251226849,0.6946298021494166,3509,94,775,42,74,1147,318,933,0.128,0.725,0.147,0.8981,3,0,1,0,3,2,75.0,8,4,0,9,36,53,8,3,29,3,83,8,3,15,12,161,169,69,5,14,31,12,15,4,0,10,4,3,0,2,47,51,1,8,26,1,0,21,25,20,1,1,48,20,154,33,118,97,15,101,0,3,2,0,113,43,1,3,37,536,201,5,0.04249557019504604,0.1510509052622019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152617936935208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796738426350336,0.07071943730285833,0.0,0.0,0.05779688993565218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05942778150319604,0.0,0.0,0.03783006705766605,0.03972762165206512,0.0,0.03992598706687473,0.03267647038498687,0.07096405214342112,0.051809810322555584,0.0,0.03616060028934518,0.0,0.13378943745410138,0.15033551388654506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04339272845872428,0.0,0.2166353299756886,0.0,0.0,0.036606170908093615,0.04455579683744881,0.04592261455295328,0.0,0.16964627452363076,0.0,0.0,0.02740612720499705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03718815985027881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04390928379343762,0.0,0.11227169331424064,0.0,0.0,0.040606338429019166,0.0,0.0,0.04006104157099462,0.0,0.17189629711706486,0.060717687676714614,0.08160482316512753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138581216129312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660654446079993,0.0815312463388025,0.14490727111586468,0.07128653618186566,0.13595035811678033,0.09370303232515992,0.0,0.0,0.11273607713911032,0.0452373246745434,0.11420305174236292,0.125866733047609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028483884933564543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903418244061279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554403068572703,0.0940301043565651,0.0,0.11677227012012928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043454599687402985,0.09004763391623168,0.08304475625254754,0.08518345064459555,0.0,0.037607242365008016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0361282141238571,0.0,0.1206310080553624,0.1701967385322225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042825539691826765,0.0,0.042908411771673434,0.0,0.0,0.13549819763741092,0.03123913369633383,0.0,0.13110081401289028,0.0,0.04519452100416418,0.039879213899177375,0.0,0.08155129142802554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028796098158164106,0.03231979605706491,0.0,0.0,0.1415589050697759,0.0,0.0,0.058922155363913084,0.07421098552752088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047907370318162924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04271978540126738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048369262346266505,0.05444750085642227,0.04369252378772883,0.0,0.09124867773259028,0.0962783940293312,0.0,0.0404230186431453,0.06758836613279087,0.0,0.0860155715352029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043621092127461916,0.2109166488146854,0.09553360278765292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03271516608186282,0.042029205531816806,0.04757031166977877,0.030078583307553024,0.0,0.06787403450305922,0.0,0.0,0.04442559674535815,0.048647260897235464,0.13944976944971468,0.048223469462047766,0.08010314398883071,0.0,0.06390276029542075,0.20493797771513228,0.11142900425563908,0.0,0.145792164131103,0.04934063234223509,0.11292867426872175,0.05445889097013444,0.12525504586451386,0.10121020780083947,0.024779508721054274,0.0,0.0,0.08121267685803832,0.0,0.2885170267994733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03670252846916745,0.0,0.035063295907054884,0.10025995329318624,0.13492402245940546,0.0,0.0,0.038208621118159966,0.11818145794712134,0.07669128467582491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061874562443583636,0.0,0.1299198495806451,0.15093816904543828,0.04646223494191271,0.0,0.1094630157344484
parenting,Nyxandriel,2020/01/04,"My daughter (3), can't tell, or show me what the first letter of the alphabet is after over a week of learning. Hi. I'm mom, age 28. My daughter is an only child, age 3. She is generally very bright and talkative, open and very outgoing. I am currently the only one working on learning things with her, as her father and I split when she was one. 

This is my first time posting here, and I'm crying as I do so, out of pure frustration and a hint of dread. 

I've been working with her on the alphabet for a while now, on and off, but never as intensive as this past week. After many days of writing, singing and spelling out the alphabet with her from physically doing so on paper to games on her iPad like ABC Mouse and such, she's still not able to tell me what or where the letter A is. I don't know if she's unwilling or incapable. She seems distracted but just focused enough to look like she's trying to figure it out. She'll trace the letter A with her finger even, if I point it out to her, or any other letter, as she's seen me write them countless times. 

But if I ask her to show me where the letter A(or any other letter) is, she just fidgets and repeats after me. As in she echoes my question back at me and anything else I say.  I try to always remain calm and softly spoken but can't help to turn to a firm voice after hearing my own questions thrown back at me a thousands times without any results. It's gotten to a point where I wanna cry because I know she's a smart girl but I don't know... I'm going to love her no matter what but I need help. I know this might not seem like a huge deal but as a first time parent, I feel ill equipped and worried. Be gentle with me.

Edit: By ""intensive"" I mean a odd 15 minute session a day of playing school as opposed to the few mintues here and there every other day or so the past few months. And she does better with numbers as well.",3.6973106283029935,4.175257796437663,4.8673409669211205,87.08830446271286,71.54452926208651,7.471090232922293,26.056860442356626,7.321109707123232,1.1230811117635544,1466,43,317,14,26,485,190,393,0.092,0.8009999999999999,0.107,0.7767,2,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,0,1,6,19,13,1,2,24,0,18,3,1,1,2,69,38,43,0,5,20,5,3,3,0,2,1,3,0,2,13,25,0,1,13,5,0,1,9,3,1,6,4,9,50,10,56,31,4,53,0,0,3,1,50,21,0,13,33,223,63,8,0.10222973878235712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506333212054758,0.0,0.0,0.20855918393735887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412636447962141,0.0,0.0955710057611696,0.0,0.0,0.1572167177169002,0.0,0.062318299899594864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041389634139176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22458913542740605,0.19778917277802613,0.10539437179184387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946193332249333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539982891909408,0.0,0.0,0.10563064789390224,0.0,0.06752177831411788,0.0,0.0861329640566154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169042758832239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608696907525601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580995164352683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152203454388206,0.0,0.13704487799081133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473116358458084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983285963648765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584723335954797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922663305665604,0.0,0.0,0.10364490953333427,0.0,0.11135815520886123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084495976164215,0.0,0.11973023450918847,0.08159880216747847,0.0,0.0,0.07580205595880117,0.078845876812441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854703345072,0.15550064598488308,0.0,0.0,0.11351402684388275,0.0,0.19517970640763413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328029344214875,0.0,0.0979078308436141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290414076221169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129719148099596,0.0,0.10346195343301967,0.0,0.18613222941397314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164080144712745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787065953078266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791689591727817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384439311750973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388145641938505,0.11119659978672196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687004817196019,0.0,0.0,0.16400506009684446,0.0,0.09191681246340587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854582010945652,0.0,0.14884893476773708,0.10381926208309378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eyre_it_out,2020/01/04,"Money money So my significant other and I had a small and brief convo about money. I just took a job at liberty national and I will be making about 50-60,000 and that’s great. But now she does not want to work and just be a stay at home mom. I have about 70k in student loans and no savings for me. And neither does she. I would love for her to be a stay at home mom but I’m trying to tell her that if she would at least make 20k a year we would be in. An amazing spot financially. How do I tell her to work without sounding rude. Please help",0.3526923076923083,2.2717606153846184,2.3321581196581214,95.70798076923077,83.87179487179488,5.267521367521368,18.29700854700855,6.42735559955562,-0.2695863247863248,420,10,100,4,12,140,71,117,0.043,0.7809999999999999,0.175,0.9494,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,8,5,1,0,6,0,11,1,0,3,0,23,17,12,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,1,0,0,2,1,15,4,16,7,2,14,0,0,0,1,13,8,0,1,2,70,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890057525243594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205199907696007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068047778089196,0.0,0.3312696851601432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386207665818364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903266287531486,0.0,0.22044577581829367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867871533639873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125876271888824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520046927599689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28865480623935363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834610629132112,0.11210971554115147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973955936721926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917557245380282,0.0,0.24042739077595535,0.0,0.0,0.3519023202969705,0.0,0.0,0.10633573079202407
parenting,DudeFromNJ020,2020/01/04,"Concerned About 3 Year Old I need some opinions here. My 3 old son is manipulative. Like super manipulative. Of course, what 3 year old isn't? I've noticed, he loves trying to get under my skin, but only when my wife (his mom) is around, seemingly in order to get her to come to his defense if I reprimand him. Again, I'm sure this is nothing out of the ordinary. The thing is, I'm starting to notice how good this kid is getting at manipulating the situation, and tonight it got to the point that I was actually a little alarmed. 

First off, let me give some background. I think this problem largely started with the fact that my wife is way too defending of him. Unless she's really in a bad mood, our son can do no wrong in her eyes. She'll tell him to stop doing something 5, 6, 7, 10 times; and no matter how many times he completely ignores her and keeps doing it anyway, she never disciplines him. She eventually just pulls him away from whatever it is, or takes it away. But he rarely actually gets told to start listening, or gets in trouble for not listening. If he refuses to eat, she'll sit here next to him and try to convince him to for sometimes close to an hour. Eventually when he won't do it, she has to resort to spoon feeding him herself, often incorporating ""airplane"" or ""show me how a dinosaur eats"". As for myself, I wouldn't reprimand him for not eating, I'd just say ""okay, if you don't want to eat, that's fine, but don't complain later when you're hungry"". And of course when he gets hungry later and decides he wants to eat, then I'd give him his food and he'd eat. But the biggest problem seems to be that no one seems to be allowed to discipline him but her. This kid has literally followed me around the house spitting at me as I continue telling him to stop, because he knows if he keeps it up, I'll eventually put him in time out. But if I do, she'll come to his rescue. And then we start arguing. I studied psychology all through high school and college - I know the importance of not arguing in front of your kids, of showing solidarity between each other, or else your kid is going to try to turn you on each other. Unfortunately she doesn't understand the importance of those things, and I'm certain that is exactly what's happened, or at least, that's how it started.

So, getting to closer to tonight. Over time, I think my wife has slowly started to see what's happening, partially because of how many times I've had to tell her we shouldn't argue in front of him, to save it for when he's not around even if she disagrees with how I'm doing something, but most importantly if he's antagonizing me in front of her to set things off, show him you don't enjoy it, instead of me having to say something. So, when he'd do his instigation, she'd start saying things like ""why are you doing that"" or ""stop, daddy's not doing anything to you, don't do that"". And that's where things started getting weird.

I could give you a few examples but I'll just cut right to tonight when it became apparent how adaptive my son has gotten at controlling the situation. He often does this thing behind my wife's back where he pretty much gives me a ""talk to the hand""/a ""go away"" gesture. Most of the time it's when she's holding him, or he's standing somewhere in the room and her and I are talking. He ONLY does this when he's with her. Sometimes I'll just be walking past, not even looking at anyone, and he'll get in my way and do it. He seemingly cannot stand when her and I are getting along, and particularly he doesn't like when she shows me affection. Tonight was one of those nights. Now, since she's started saying something when he does it, he makes sure to only do these things when she's not looking. Which was my first alarm, how he'd go out of his way to antagonize me, then act innocent if I say anything, so she'll go back to saying something to me about it instead of him. So tonight, my wife is holding him, we're talking, but she's facing the other way doing something. He does his ""go away"" gesture to me. But, he wasn't careful enough and she sees. ""Why would you do that"" she says (and she's had a rough day so she says it with a little exasperation) so he quickly stops. This is where I became alarmed - she turns around and he goes to do it again, but she catches him - and as soon as she does, he quickly turns it into a wave. This time I say ""dude, I'm not doing anything to you, please stop"", only she's been tricked and starts to stand up for him. ""babe, he was just waving at you"". ""no he wasn't, he was doing it again"" I say. She turns back around so she's facing the other way, his face is now towards me, and I'm telling you, I've never seen such an evil smile outside of movies. This was a pure ""got you, you asshole"" smile. And this time the kid actually gives me the finger. I don't know where he would have learned this from, as I can't remember the last time I've given someone the finger, nor could I see my wife doing it. At this point, I was shook. I tell my wife he did it again, tell her I'm taking him to his room, he immediately starts crying and screaming; and give him a talking to (slightly angry, slightly alarmed) and tell him basically that this needs to stop, that it's mean to me and mean to his mom for tricking her, and that she doesn't like when he does it any more than I do so it needs to stop. 

Alarm #2, the second we're in the room, away from his mom, he stops crying (which he was apparently faking, very well) and just goes stone cold in his expression. He listens to everything I say, but the only thing he says when I finish is ""why?"" when I tell him it needs to stop. At that point I say ""it just does"" and send him back out of the room. From that point on he's acting incredibly sweet in front of my wife, over the top cuteness, largely ignores me. We put him to bed, I tell my wife my thoughts, she thinks he's being a normal 3 year old. I think he's developing some alarming tendencies that are all too reminiscent of sociopathic behavior. He once told me he ""likes making mommy mad at me"" because he ""doesn't want to share mommy"". 

If you've made it this far, I thank you. Is my kid a normal 3 year old, or should I be concerned. I'm at a loss here, and frankly, I'm getting incredibly tired of being bullied by a 3 year old, and seeing my relationship suffer because of him.",5.825622512162759,5.100708070433439,6.495282618310482,81.36880185758514,66.97987616099071,9.364281291463953,31.46023883237505,8.591530228387361,2.1757633878814677,4945,168,1059,64,70,1630,399,1292,0.121,0.8029999999999999,0.077,-0.9961,4,0,6,0,0,0,199.0,4,15,0,6,77,52,9,7,40,1,93,18,8,17,10,193,193,104,0,27,45,15,4,5,0,11,1,17,5,7,76,56,8,20,18,4,0,21,32,29,1,5,23,31,167,22,151,146,14,192,0,2,8,1,213,69,0,29,96,688,243,3,0.0,0.0,0.09743421319700726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022632650455169687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023271290333882862,0.0,0.0821638399636724,0.14813853917832334,0.0,0.0,0.15634594013073255,0.10236607999572173,0.027788771832405385,0.0811526937511373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03393284105797986,0.0,0.0,0.057338356550844426,0.03489515704724761,0.0,0.037328179324987686,0.05314534863851431,0.0,0.07311661805817121,0.021463898768642818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038748578788859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043325045852485,0.027802532217008603,0.0,0.0,0.03438882171480658,0.0,0.043964406971036575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029911384062229176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056618676902036924,0.040244280489707004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127106487736453,0.19156063950308072,0.09457358977934724,0.02791505316912804,0.053236721524945324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05886167301659875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03516387059429504,0.0,0.0,0.03277570260493028,0.038402533865367766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05916448592262405,0.0,0.0,0.05487214226429056,0.027128971424279613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03403272274647593,0.0,0.08129861928951675,0.06671387561340329,0.0,0.0,0.05589637593960668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03003797151106955,0.03149188410669878,0.044431494452363635,0.06748470044733754,0.0,0.07250690632540091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693713246587452,0.0,0.0,0.024465828326008472,0.09871163113952597,0.0513376913748374,0.0,0.03539539229584431,0.03123255627117305,0.06521786432776965,0.03193462269532325,0.07578271529820231,0.20954083988976602,0.03544385097575382,0.04510498920008227,0.1265609010720669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031771082824097144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0365332367122557,0.12584759602806994,0.0,0.0,0.03385938383805013,0.0,0.06369205244887312,0.0,0.06691446350024685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02132106513711934,0.0,0.0,0.03573201654825058,0.0377016002223816,0.028422331151101564,0.0,0.3440695558860248,0.0,0.033682787541428345,0.10608460414480617,0.12119338809936625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027530909207013367,0.07481989570799473,0.0,0.0,0.028199418067189924,0.15373095389831087,0.0658327684253698,0.0,0.259126008073761,0.0,0.0,0.2504244050190563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273508696671276,0.0,0.05004728934366436,0.1070020577180988,0.26180651312137465,0.030641254431245993,0.0,0.0,0.17688669504087595,0.08530210154044625,0.0,0.026421897535799082,0.17466108088617166,0.03825233907681957,0.0,0.06360404962630414,0.0,0.06778812865384974,0.1448034305043404,0.0,0.03464735176294479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027460831229987537,0.05889110504205328,0.13208704835714313,0.0,0.0,0.029924183363641436,0.0,0.090094486448578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728463173921013,0.03638823902037059,0.0,0.10716139638502828
parenting,mrsrapido,2020/01/04,Teething p My 8 month old son is teething (7 teeth have broken through) and lately he grinds his teeth nonstop. Has anyone else experienced this? Is there anything I can do to encourage him to stop?,3.1806756756756767,5.950209162162165,3.006689189189192,89.98138513513516,79.0,5.8621621621621625,28.16891891891892,7.1686216300943375,1.5199783783783791,157,7,30,2,4,47,33,37,0.142,0.7759999999999999,0.083,-0.3313,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,4,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,3,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716900786353103,0.3981254798790969,0.319751645631884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32459189223821044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43831243051467017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101447618238881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077281953439821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248534296296769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,needhelpasap1234567,2020/01/04,"Son is questioning Holocaust. Not sure how to deal with this. Recently my son's eighth grade class has been studying Nazi Germany and The Holocaust.

He started doing some research on his own using the internet and he's now skeptical of the number of Jews killed in concentration camps.  This has been very upsetting for me and his teacher.  I told him if he wouldn't agree that six million Jews were killed in concentration camps, I would take away his XBox as punishment.  His mother, who I share custody with, says this is unfair and that he should be allowed to form his own opinion on the matter.  How can I protect my son from antisemitism and internet hate.

I'm also considering severely limiting his internet access as well.  Simply baffled at the situation.  He's been a good kid up until now.  This really came out of nowhere for me.",4.921280397022329,7.171746845161295,5.351612903225809,77.93049627791567,70.87096774193549,8.898263027295286,30.632754342431763,9.466822959209583,3.095377171215881,671,29,116,16,13,214,101,155,0.191,0.738,0.07,-0.9718,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,6,10,5,1,6,0,14,0,0,4,1,24,21,12,4,4,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,7,9,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,6,1,2,6,1,15,4,21,11,4,14,2,0,0,0,23,8,0,4,5,82,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093473060071013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20082390744315776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24447153007443034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22036548849113036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928223941153168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103255468998544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4729624578233736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394474240760636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369328684872174,0.0,0.2110510203817452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998151807431733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414751509124739,0.0,0.0,0.24026245577603425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512924056219249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145558765240174,0.0,0.16071239513045324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042460099136933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461021809870826,0.0,0.17636503463511313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921857204960687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184091924514825,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ingridxx,2020/01/04,"How do you shower three kids? So I have three little boys ages 4, 2 & 9 months normally their dad helps me shower them but he is currently out of town. I’ve tried showering them individually but they just throw the biggest tantrums, they love showering together so it’s kind of hard to shower them when they’re not together.",2.095119047619047,4.8947947619047625,3.401884920634924,84.69901785714289,85.50793650793649,7.594444444444445,22.160714285714285,8.472884824447931,1.7974142857142854,262,9,51,7,8,85,50,63,0.08,0.804,0.115,0.5123,6,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,6,0,5,3,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,7,4,6,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,9,2,4,4,0,9,0,0,0,1,13,4,0,0,4,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3986456204209453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295877356878075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466117760151727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831363437934836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687566162333815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320658747851648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936735151033054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604875109765677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497963201142984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway19480124,2020/01/04,"I just want my autistic son to be able to live a normal adult life My son is 15. He was diagnosed with autism when he was 2. He's on the low-functioning end of the spectrum.

It's been a long journey. He was nonverbal until age 3, and not toilet trained until age 6. Ever since the early ages, I watched as he struggled with basic skills his peers had mastered, some of which we are struggling with even today.

He struggles with social skills and does not understand basic social cues. He also has absolutely no regard for danger. We must hold his hand when he's crossing the street because he doesn't understand road safety, and we can't even run a fan because he will try to stick his fingers in between the blades while it's running.

School is another struggle. His lack of focus and thinking ability force him to work three years behind his grade level. We've been moving along glacially to teach him all these things.

Right now he is 15, three years away from becoming an adult. He will be graduating with an adapted diploma. He will not learn how to drive, nor will he attend post-secondary education.

His job prospects are bleak. He would not be able to work in an office, since he would not be able to manage the workload. He would not be able to work in a trade, since his lack of danger regard would be dangerous to himself and others on the job. He wouldn't even be able to work as a cashier, because he does not have the necessary social skills. All roads are leading to menial work.

His adult living arrangements are also bleak. He can't even stay home alone, since his behaviors make him a danger to himself. He wouldn't be able to do basic skills like balancing a checkbook, saving money, or paying rent. He will have to live in a group home. We are, in fact, starting to think about group homes for him right now. 

My heart breaks for him. As parents, we all want our kids to live happy and successful lives. We want to eventually become obsolete for our kids. 

We hope that someday, he will be able to live at least semi-independently. We hope that he will be able to get something better than menial work. But in the meantime, all we have is hope, and even that is slowly fading as he approaches adulthood.",4.78642674103105,6.166328768691589,4.902927343985528,84.50182544467896,69.72429906542055,7.485197467591197,26.890563762435946,7.831003766801068,1.5204013264998495,1755,56,335,21,31,548,204,428,0.087,0.8390000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.6895,4,1,1,0,0,0,52.0,11,0,0,14,15,16,4,4,20,0,48,5,3,3,7,65,61,22,0,16,10,3,2,1,0,14,2,0,4,5,9,22,0,1,5,0,4,9,14,8,0,2,6,3,32,8,55,31,8,46,0,0,1,0,65,16,0,5,20,207,41,20,0.5187149620176712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715403305035231,0.0,0.10370404192974443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679897331582794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091872273349998,0.0,0.0,0.11857643486541022,0.14321998054592533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05734515387254487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581059594797056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348273970502705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742843669875487,0.0,0.0,0.2141289626845955,0.05865092251712565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033875894810462534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902271531666708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683496593826343,0.0,0.0,0.1951175251262144,0.19320037434582668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868614019271804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0457979647371226,0.031677241142131336,0.0,0.34352611107018816,0.05738080229721387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04328078312931087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891398926833127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352881614534256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719964474429423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209819344422823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107449358381726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562090430400376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454318841676606,0.0,0.0,0.198286717673072,0.0,0.0499165149851712,0.0,0.0,0.045893639990920665,0.06911014153612842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711367516968537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04307639648905301,0.08309290071718728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061460141530527465,0.0,0.0,0.044021676233205013,0.0,0.0,0.13500014223151455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473182151472655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28322300266068423,0.0,0.0,0.1842401131790168,0.0,0.0,0.08350885720032848
parenting,stormscapex,2020/01/04,I always get a good laugh when My coworkers who are barely 20 and dont have kids complain about working 10+ hour shifs. Im a single parent of 2. 7yo and 5mo. wake up at the crack of dawn to get oldest up ready and to school then I go to work then I go pick her up from school come home take care of the baby and the oldest. Chores. Errands. Kids bed. My day doesnt even BEGIN to wind down till at LEAST 10pm. And then I'm up till at the least 2am. Get maybe 4 or 5 hrs of sleep amd do it all again it doesnt stop. So it always cracks me up. #singleparentlyfe,-1.6876890756302532,0.2267540873015897,0.7863025210084054,102.62634453781513,95.42857142857142,3.599626517273576,11.380018674136322,5.0885558068054335,-1.7205942110177403,429,5,112,2,17,144,82,126,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.9349,2,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,6,0,6,2,2,1,1,10,16,13,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,21,16,4,25,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,1,13,61,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33219086036723106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20352050127993407,0.0,0.0,0.17195039825660532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287349747506232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233946954400493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318436338697936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128713427931512,0.0,0.226891280536726,0.16742734876014473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022983051739165,0.0,0.1965802808129079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21561814171637506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20053980703560748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22164851353095355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040414884933378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997588701531786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688683638079535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008542016155696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906437737189017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pumpernickelunicorn,2020/01/04,"Parents of two or more, do you ever wish you only had only one child? I might be pregnant, already with a 2.5yo toddler, which i love more than anything. We are so close and i feel like i couldn't love anyone else as much as i love him. I only work part-time, so i can spend as much time with him as possible.

My first pregnancy was planned and i wanted him with every cell in my body. I kept thinking that at some point i will want a second child, but i don't know if that's now...it took us some time to get used to being 3 instead of 2 and now...we just have to go through everything all over again. 

This might be just me being shocked, i don't know how i'll feel in the morning.

So, parents of more than one child, are you happy with having more than one? Do you wish you would've stopped with one? Why?",1.690764119601326,2.985740767441861,2.8537541528239214,96.48476744186048,77.37209302325581,5.611960132890366,21.588039867109647,5.773587663045528,-0.09053787375415244,620,16,148,3,14,199,101,172,0.032,0.833,0.134,0.9414,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,5,0,3,9,6,0,0,3,0,19,4,1,2,2,35,36,14,0,6,5,2,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,10,0,2,5,0,1,2,3,1,0,7,4,2,25,5,23,24,9,14,0,0,0,3,19,6,0,6,7,105,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866748015266514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786347207848598,0.12875216923929506,0.103406388371429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957846784362812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497170453860052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366547185331928,0.10587285909613088,0.0,0.11293392075273193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270736103561942,0.08977058744093175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688521061206016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565147491005467,0.0,0.07141472471632727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376600347207604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811745060265612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139048470005541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34023559931025793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666080075899496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18474717930611648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405982996492134,0.28670726989425604,0.0,0.0,0.2790581910446579,0.13607610712395452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187880708494426,0.14166128325275673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050562846727299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805170094717802,0.0,0.0,0.14654517584600468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961141914819875,0.0,0.0,0.12275027327351193,0.0,0.1511519223529681,0.1085287555345508,0.0,0.0,0.14823349255082688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133874154365862,0.0,0.2890025654276767,0.0,0.0,0.0914810169943492,0.0,0.0,0.08926432228191745,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ericrutkowski,2020/01/04,"5 year old won’t eat Constant battle to get this little guy to eat, sometimes I do and all goes well, others he will eat a little then gag and vomit the little he did eat. Any idea for this? I didn’t have this with his older brother and I’m getting worried.",1.28290909090909,2.9976260181818226,3.0745454545454542,92.6118181818182,79.72727272727272,4.4,20.090909090909093,3.1291,-0.41325454545454576,201,5,43,0,5,67,40,55,0.131,0.83,0.04,-0.5888,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,6,5,0,0,1,6,9,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,4,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477637590000933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239151885540045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6908174365561295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763614568868051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711900956190753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053238842444495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5074865323651088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710650853162993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692800938836966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175373847836707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714045638108617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868896453661676
parenting,Francl27,2020/01/04,"How do you manage to keep a friendship with other parents? I never had any friends here until my kids got in 3rd grade and made a bestie. I ended up getting to know her parents and we got very close, they introduced us to other friends, we saw each other most weekends, went on vacations together... until last New Year party when we were all invited to another friend's party and they just chilled at her house with my other friends and only joined us 2 hours late...

Now 3 years later... it's been clear that they'd just rather stay home or do their own things than see me. I get it, they work, and they want to relax at night and during the weekends and not necessarily have to be social, but I just lost my job (first job in 12 years and they realized that they didn't need me after 2 weeks) and frankly I just don't feel that I have anyone to talk to about it.. I haven't even told anyone because I feel that they just don't care anyway...

How do you do it?",5.453988868274578,4.978116755102043,5.74786641929499,85.58934137291281,67.6734693877551,8.555844155844158,27.512059369202234,7.686295010490155,1.3498122448979593,748,19,162,7,11,239,118,196,0.064,0.879,0.055999999999999994,-0.5473,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,2,9,3,14,7,0,0,3,0,15,0,0,3,3,39,32,16,0,3,9,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,13,16,0,1,4,3,0,1,6,1,0,1,11,4,31,6,21,19,4,29,0,1,2,0,28,7,0,2,20,113,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829427220983731,0.1361464327519374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815714555821875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914802164706032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237846407609155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149979038284225,0.0,0.0,0.08575675492213729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129995806361666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044011129963337,0.0,0.0,0.4012499754348309,0.0,0.1356699613451185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20768657171609134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302380706582987,0.0,0.1278642469824991,0.14981558546899126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25768830260103426,0.1154059537912854,0.0,0.0,0.07135555297889752,0.10583527512400152,0.14646288596195314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417334822627183,0.0,0.0,0.12285582694899905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627320988514128,0.10013904703412974,0.12539832088977282,0.0,0.12184413976075514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987476272168282,0.0,0.0,0.2883394016961309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346405223492994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323534599478072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383900009611907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435884243748092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625857824944969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240657448069706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31235818374168584,0.0,0.0,0.10712992331727073,0.07658179893130844,0.0,0.1041481881540936,0.0,0.0,0.12036109935737645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452358881837304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508341881092783
parenting,tortillachop,2020/01/04,"My Mother in law just told my wife “no wonder she (my daughter) doesn’t like him after I had to discipline my daughter. I recently moved from my home city to my wife’s home city, and it has been an adjustment. My folks are much more disciplinary than my in-laws, I like to think that I split the difference, but it’s apparent now I’m here that the gap is much wider than I thought. 

My brother and sister in law are of the persuasion that children should make all their own decisions including a diet with next to no nutritional value, no respect for family or strangers, and a lack of potty skills (their five year old is just getting out of diapers). I know my mother and father in law don’t approve of that either but it still seems sometimes like I’m the only one interested in telling my daughter “no” sometimes.

We were leaving the park and my daughter didn’t want to leave and started crying. After I let her cry a bit I told her that she needed to calm down, she was ramping up and I could tell it wasn’t 100% genuine. She screamed at me and I told her no sternly and when I got her out of the car seat I told her if she can’t be nice she would have to have a time out. That’s when my mother in law leaned in to my wife and told her “no wonder she doesn’t like him.” My wife told her “he’s the enforcer”

In all honesty, I hate being the bad guy all the time. But I feel like I’m the only one trying to keep my daughter from acting out sometimes. Is it a sad reality that my life is just going to be doing what needs to be done to no appreciation?",3.2323671497584527,4.093862580246912,4.508234031132584,87.83118357487925,72.8888888888889,7.486634460547505,25.81535158346752,7.7425588080867325,1.2026230810520668,1212,38,267,15,23,401,156,324,0.136,0.748,0.11599999999999999,-0.7876,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,2,2,8,13,1,0,16,0,29,2,0,1,3,51,55,17,0,8,9,15,1,5,0,2,1,1,2,2,13,16,1,2,9,0,0,4,13,4,0,3,15,2,51,9,39,32,10,31,0,1,0,0,45,14,0,5,18,190,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833816163547719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902477051235702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973265421629151,0.0,0.2193901131310668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433580877603804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219474453547904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414215502503308,0.0,0.050493843946698,0.0713423034183094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521744100869842,0.0,0.05675456855620615,0.0,0.07986973870148517,0.0,0.0,0.09888028702110314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859425375534717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003419014818845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887630172499157,0.0,0.0,0.05488221336827969,0.0,0.0,0.21148145906097496,0.0,0.10211690709719806,0.07053634469917787,0.2439406219409148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665947395659834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613879742315953,0.1468219123597279,0.14809462266035778,0.0,0.0,0.10620566604879976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478964926144893,0.0,0.1353398029912805,0.15190095571477255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860288091290492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909117237366732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29630183047612463,0.0,0.07068370021420603,0.0,0.07975089548080869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456970964886476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398831826571606,0.0,0.07928024084626817,0.1164620918468912,0.0,0.0,0.5725415102763797,0.0,0.0678005703276159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05890191377702225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659480167804848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093996537403313,0.0,0.0,0.06430863872147337
parenting,artfulmama,2020/01/04,"Sleep Deprived Y’all...I have a friend whose toddler (almost the exact same age as mine) sleeps twelve hours at night. 8pm to 8am...or LATER. She also takes a two hour nap during the day. WHAT IS THIS and how do I get my toddler to do this? 😭 I’m lucky if my sweet little guy sleeps 8-6:30. It’s typically 8:45-6:15 with a 1.5 hour nap. Is there ANYthing I can do to change this? We use white noise, we keep him warm, there are no “blue” lights in his room, and he has 90% blackout curtains. Help! I’m so tired...

EDIT: I realize some parents would love to have their child sleep 8:45-6:15, and I recognize that we are lucky to get that much. However...I’m the kind of person that needs 9.5 solid hours, underlined by the fact that I take three medications that cause drowsiness.  If I put him down and immediately get in bed I still won’t fall asleep right away, not to mention I’m almost never able to get right into bed.",1.9277005347593563,3.802568187165779,2.96096256684492,93.42614973262036,78.35828877005348,5.897326203208556,19.55614973262032,6.794906146795322,0.017889839572192926,709,16,159,7,17,226,127,187,0.028999999999999998,0.845,0.125,0.9481,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,3,0,1,0,6,8,0,0,7,0,13,8,5,3,3,28,26,10,0,4,3,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,4,3,11,9,0,1,1,2,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,5,18,7,17,24,3,22,0,1,2,1,18,10,0,7,10,86,29,1,0.12184519415418485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24402072288717244,0.0,0.0,0.09743955774364546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026821290552107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447757080637885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516857819978802,0.12889605931894002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858007022803604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413729475345076,0.0,0.2546363398825228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064589868677901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167026525508825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799718895863012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830160701273696,0.0,0.12688301966793886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212089442353373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997004487814398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274621434577818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957023739105073,0.0903466675704789,0.09397452524966048,0.0,0.0,0.11434346069388633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529466870165993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639052374720567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224880739934003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20811026011368744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877327571848198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730572944538572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322484436487368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004312652808845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902504988947135,0.0,0.0,0.10523512654965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655533001772761,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Merejrsvl,2020/01/04,"Looking for an auto-rocking bassinet Hopefully this is the right place to post. Any suggestions?

Our 6-week-old sleeps pretty well at night, but wakes up from daytime naps after 1/2 hour, almost on the dot. If one of us notices her moving and can time it right to rock her through the danger zone, she might then sleep another hour to hour and a half for a decent nap. With these little shorty naps, she's tired and cranky towards the end of the day and it's even harder to get her to sleep. So we thought an auto-rocking bassinet might help us out but internet research has not been super helpful. Can anyone suggest some good ones?",4.766876138433517,6.258864303278687,4.301584699453553,88.36627504553736,69.90163934426228,6.733697632058287,27.489981785063755,6.937597516519254,1.2332921675774131,503,17,97,4,9,151,90,122,0.11900000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.096,-0.7292,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,9,0,7,5,4,0,0,17,11,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,1,1,3,2,1,9,4,18,7,1,20,0,0,1,0,13,9,0,6,9,63,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609200293160462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242194619030557,0.14251115012191798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502987497099906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764927028582079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037394741042153,0.0,0.0,0.08976580236182004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100620206302781,0.0,0.0,0.11399299198328593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18219223100424092,0.0,0.0,0.13498708443676255,0.4015253399290321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621529290839898,0.0,0.0,0.11412830016431864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883533398829081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444845440496415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754023841784307,0.0,0.0,0.1547319004753566,0.1426123457297789,0.0,0.18418924875906947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199469640403198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016207826008575,0.1382670649783474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23212899129541734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40801777223236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789559080304724,0.07924891544127143,0.15620599234782087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269606343350011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901701775761423,0.0,0.12219740989246725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CourtOrphanage,2020/01/04,"Terminating My Parental Rights Hey people,

Would just like ya’ll to weigh in on this.

I have a 16-month-old daughter that I have not met yet. If you dig through some of my post history, you will find a myriad of other posts talking about what is going on regarding my custody battle. However, I’ll try and fill you in with some cliff notes.

My ex has not let me meet or see our daughter so far. I have tried as much as I can to come to some agreement with her. I haven’t spoken with my ex verbally since December of 2017. I have texted her somewhat starting in July 2018. She got a temporary restraining order against me in January 2018 because I visited my ex’s grandmother and tried to speak with her about the pregnancy. My ex claimed that it was harassment and stalking and filed for a TPO. The judge granted a TPO saying it was for a “cooling off period.” The day my ex told me she was pregnant she was asking me to terminate my parental rights.

Once the TPO ended, I waited a few months to give my ex the chance to reach out to me voluntarily. I didn’t hear from her, so I texted her. I have all of our correspondence saved and documented and it has been given to my lawyer. However, she basically told me to get lost, that this was HER child. The last thing she texted me at this time was “I have a child, my child has a father, and I don’t want to speak to you anymore.” I then started reach out to a few people in her family asking them to speak with her about this because I was getting nowhere with her.

About a week after speaking to some members of her family, she texted me on Instagram gaslighting me saying “I’ve been trying to talk to you.” “Why won’t you speak to me, trying to talk to my family behind my back is the wrong way to go about this.” “I’ve always wanted you apart of this, why are you making this harder than it has to be?” I confronted her on a lot of that. I wasn’t ok with her trying to down-play her role in all of this and make it look like something that it wasn’t.

Eventually I sussed out some info from her about our daughter and was given a few pictures of our kiddo, it was like pulling teeth. Things like me asking for pictures were met with more gaslighting, where she would say “yes I’ll send you pictures” and then make excuses for why she couldn’t or that she would claim to send some and that it was my fault for not getting any.

Eventually I asked to speak with her over the phone and again, to try to come to an agreement with her about how to move forward. She said she would only speak with me in person, how convenient (she knew I moved to another state for work during the TPO). Everything with her is some ultimatum. After a few weeks of getting nowhere with her, her saying she would call me on x time on x day and finding excuses, I asked her on Instagram if she would indeed only speak with me in person… She said yes and that I could meet the kiddo. So I bought a plane ticket right then, told her I would be in town the following morning, and that I would be there for 7 days. I told her that I can be available to meet anytime for the next 7 days. For 7 days she ghosted me and left me on “read” on Instagram.

When I got back from visiting, I got an email from her lawyer saying that she filed Allocation of Parental Responsibility. I figured this was her next best step on delaying things as much as possible in light of the fact that I was not going give up on trying to be a father. I got an email from my ex stating that the rationale for this was that I was being uncooperative (she filed 3 days before I left town and was in her current state trying to come to an agreement with her and see the child.)

So, I called a lawyer and spoke about what to do. I wanted to be a dad and be in my daughter’s life. I packed up my apartment a few days later and drove back to my home state. I only moved away during the TPO to get a breather and make more money than I could in my home state.

So now we are about four months deep into court. The only thing that we have established is paternity and child support. I have not met my daughter and spent any time with her. I have missed her first steps, her teeth growing in, her talking, walking, 2 Thanksgivings and 2 Christmases. Its infuriating, nauseating, and depressing.

My last court date was a conference call from my lawyer’s office. My lawyer gave her lawyer an option to either let me meet my daughter on or before Christmas or she was going to file a forthwith motion for temporary visitation with supervision. My exes lawyer fired back saying that there were concerns about me spending time with my daughter because I was sexually abused, had limited parenting skills, never met my daughter, and whatnot. It’s all a bullshit excuse and time wasting. My lawyer to my knowledge, has yet to file anything. I’m my lawyer’s charity case anyways, I’m sure if I made more money and put down a bigger retainer she would be more apt to being more expedient and not put this shit on the back burner.

I’ve tried everything with my ex. I’ve tried circling the wagons and speaking with anyone that can try to rationalize with her. Her stepmother is the only one that is privy to how dysfunctional the family dynamic is. My exes father just hangs up on me whenever I call and try to speak about what is going on.

As time goes on, I’m becoming more and more resentful. I feel like I don’t have a voice in any of this, I just want to see my daughter, and be the best dad I can to her. As time goes on, I feel less and less that she is even my daughter or that I have a daughter. My ex started dating her old boyfriend (whom when we dated claimed beat her), and I’m inundated with pictures of him holding my daughter and doing things together. He might as well be her dad now.

I am working two jobs now, working 64 hours a week to keep up with my debt, lawyer bill, and child support, and other bills. I’ve downsized my life as much as possible and am pinching pennies. I eat a steady diet of eggs, rice, and sour cream. I can’t continue school at this time either. My lawyer is costing me an arm and a leg. I just got billed for our 2.5-hour court conference for \~$800.

I can’t imagine doing this for another 4-5 years. Battling every step of the way just be recognized by my daughter as the bad guy and being shit on by my ex, her family, and lawyers nonstop. Court seems like a money machine and the more I learn about father rights, Title IV D funding and the national average of custody splits, this seems like a huge racket. It must be nice using the “Best Interests of the Child” broadly as a front to give mothers majority custody, so counties can collect child support from fathers, in which the county is reimbursed anywhere from $3-$12 for every $1 dollar collected in child support. If you are ever wondering where social security or taxes are going, its going to reimbursing countries for collecting child support… I’m a wage slave now. Not a father.

I think it’s time to consider terminating my parental rights. I have no bond with the child anyways and my daughter is 16 months old, the window where neurological associations infants make to fathers is slowly closing, and I’m sure she see’s my exes new boyfriend as a father anyways. At what point is it enough? Even if I get visitation, it’ll be 1-2 hour visits a week for the next few years, while continuing to fight in court, and jump through hoops. 4 hours a month isn’t a father. 8 hours a month isn’t a father. Whatever I bring to the table as a father cannot contend with the dysfunction or character defects of my ex or her family. Whatever I bring to the table will just be drowned out. Image 5 years from now, mommy and daddy are still in court fighting over minutia and technicalities, tossing you from home to home with back handed comments about the other parent being reiterated by family members in some warped agreement and coalition against your other parent.

Doing a simple cost benefit analysis of all of this… It seems like a waste. There is no benefit for anyone if I stick around. The opportunity cost of fighting all of this, not being able to continue school, the lawyer bills, the child support, the hoops, the CFI’s… All for what? 8 hours a month, constant dissent between mommy and daddy? Who does my daughter trust, when mommy gives her things and fattens her up and daddy is only at 8 hours a month visitation?

Eventually I’ll lose my daughter in all of this anyways. Her mother will just inundate, and brain wash her behind close doors. When the age of maturity comes when my daughter is 13, she will just go to court and elect to live her mother and I won’t see her anymore.

This is a losing proposition. I can just sign my rights away. Learn from this. Put myself in a better position to be a husband and father. Choose a spouse more wisely. I can have a family in the future. Or, I can fight tooth and nail to be a weekend landing pad of a father and not have those opportunities.

I’m not superman. This shit weighs on me nonstop. I barely sleep. My nights are filled with constant rumination and what if’s. My mornings are full of depression. I’ll start drinking or using drugs again to cope probably. I can’t imagine holding my shit together for years to come. Taking everything on this chin. What do I do when the sexual abuse allegations of my daughter start coming in as a last-ditch effort for my ex to drag my name through the mud? We all know that’s going to happen.

This is a zero-sum game if I stick around. I’ll be grinding and fighting to lose. If I terminate my rights, I’m called a deadbeat in societies eyes. If I terminate my rights “mommy WAS right about daddy.” If I terminate my rights, all my exes lies and manipulation to her family is seen as true and “she was just fighting to be a good, protective mother.”

I want to terminate my parental rights, either way I lose. But this way I lose less and can maybe have a future.

Edit: terminating my rights can happen. Our lawyers can come to an agreement. My ex is the one that ""has to propose termination"" for the state to entertain the idea.  She will marry her boyfriend and he will adopted the child. I will be released of my parental and financial obligations.

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Edit 2: Thank you for everyone that has weighed in on this. I understand this is an extremely touchy/delicate/controversial subject. My hope isn't to completely derail and argue with people. I understand that ""people paint themselves in a good light"" and ""he is leaving out details."" I'm not trying to paint this any differently that it has unfolded. I'm giving as raw of details as I can. I wasn't a scum bag as a boyfriend. I get that me trying to speak with my exes family can be seen or construed as harassment. I was only try to have a heart to heart with them and circle the wagons. There isn't some secret or mysterious detail I'm leaving out. 

 I will try and answer any questions or gaps in the story as best as I can. There are a lot of details. I'm not trying to be a deadbeat, I'm trying my best to asses what is realistically going to happen and plan accordingly. 

Thanks for the input.",4.9983729188037564,5.822417242562933,5.770008679870589,80.53395881006868,68.79405034324942,8.755274994081907,29.34814171861438,8.920106719697898,2.2524395013019807,8765,312,1713,149,145,2867,646,2185,0.064,0.862,0.07400000000000001,0.9119,18,0,3,0,12,0,240.0,10,13,2,23,73,77,17,0,123,4,172,29,16,13,16,272,298,138,2,30,50,62,4,8,0,22,6,22,6,16,91,125,7,10,26,6,20,48,33,30,1,5,57,40,273,47,300,188,53,266,1,9,10,1,263,106,5,44,109,1189,364,29,0.02660767242733237,0.06305148181519113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02213971495573769,0.028829401958446507,0.032331234354085685,0.09047064833275796,0.05580092901150924,0.0,0.0,0.052775322706103765,0.037209406440779,0.0,0.021895847287075738,0.04737293922893344,0.12437290973899832,0.0,0.049997568232989835,0.1227579462180998,0.02221629507360276,0.048659370444645314,0.02938608373733452,0.0452823389759698,0.0,0.13961555324774347,0.023532324012410708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029702962114502338,0.13584704232213302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044107654273362,0.02789763830790564,0.0575068826902843,0.0,0.04248812269442879,0.0,0.0,0.12011823262467028,0.0,0.04583429854611407,0.0,0.0,0.02779935453216718,0.0,0.0,0.02328455344709889,0.0,0.0,0.026065389332097882,0.030856452638790933,0.0272262915058646,0.0,0.0,0.023566500195029358,0.027492838296608164,0.0,0.035148233390635664,0.02406816302851688,0.0448362231990587,0.0254247712510678,0.0717397809151922,0.0,0.2508334554228505,0.0,0.026907277300725858,0.01900852649855058,0.0,0.0,0.04863786111990518,0.02263247257415316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730987456470466,0.127622519548396,0.15121753414504696,0.044634506479157114,0.10640293148635968,0.0,0.0,0.026345778955358917,0.07058723056290718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029988780612332993,0.06306043987467341,0.0,0.0,0.1067586596064704,0.0264274223795206,0.1834223834342545,0.0,0.0,0.030036823473439195,0.0,0.0,0.026404009252919632,0.023650121802113074,0.0,0.0,0.014622880915312803,0.06506641292102365,0.0,0.05634736651187235,0.05781862789059085,0.05441629556381698,0.03758757183556587,0.10399331794037377,0.0,0.023495062228491168,0.0,0.022343743525419436,0.14883589733581604,0.02904541757882893,0.04524178319669543,0.0,0.0251768229973466,0.08880413978603416,0.0,0.02673098326750331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028226535669792264,0.0,0.0,0.16990392223595624,0.08483923478806411,0.0586791022563516,0.0,0.02052147728693296,0.02569785583321901,0.08489268445179103,0.02496949811988944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376082896065577,0.028336302754621963,0.036060094897470495,0.14165433708038,0.0,0.0,0.2659020428233383,0.0,0.0,0.07378563937086081,0.04646558651555563,0.0,0.0,0.025152850803600548,0.05999230557114325,0.05096559029078029,0.0,0.0286875711487463,0.0,0.0,0.08024417963371865,0.029806682570513162,0.0,0.026614872841371328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726736824530759,0.05061997914813927,0.12695693440792222,0.0,0.05385677002459088,0.10601435008810857,0.07266787699066472,0.0,0.0,0.10924957353651872,0.022010141587989463,0.0,0.026626888170147026,0.027123171256465118,0.0,0.020483886167821253,0.0,0.0,0.09416523746502127,0.0,0.02124892157099928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116442813211814,0.05015483274778393,0.0,0.020005658299663324,0.08554495686548619,0.0,0.04899353983511224,0.0,0.0,0.10606173156885952,0.01704912212071068,0.0,0.0,0.13963632989049984,0.0,0.0,0.1016990850042712,0.0,0.3432323970887219,0.0,0.02599182971548636,0.05539905073364044,0.0,0.04596097194508489,0.0,0.0,0.07846947289331024,0.0844797275504355,0.08537227948458581,0.0,0.023923492965169584,0.0,0.07202785742089629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028854885740126388,0.05811210726884136,0.0,0.0,0.17011194372864166,0.02909131285689365,0.032331234354085685,0.06853787470557733
parenting,hexxtress,2020/01/05,"Adult children Serious replies only. I need help getting my 23 year old son to get a job. I am a single mom and severely financially strained. I called the suicide prevention hotline and the lady that took my call yawned when I was telling her what was going on, so I’m looking here to hopefully get some help. First off, I make a very low income and can not afford to, nor do I want to kick him out. I know he needs to leave but financially it is not the right time as we only have one car, and are about to be evicted, plus it’s winter and I can’t do that to him because it has been just the 2 of us his whole life. I suffer from depression and he does too. He won’t go to therapy, (I wouldn’t be able to afford it anyway), he stays home all day just playing video games. At first that was ok because he was going to start streaming to make a living because he is an incredibly talented gamer. Now he doesn’t even stream. He said that gaming is all he has and  can’t start streaming under this much stress. 
This has been going on for almost a year. He doesn’t clean (unless his girlfriend is coming over which is maybe once a month) He doesn’t cook or eat unless I make the food. I work 10 hour shifts so it’s hard to keep up. We are behind on all of the bills, we are about to lose our car and our home, and we are starving, and still he won’t get a job. I really feel that my son doesn’t care about me at all, and that makes me depressed and suicidal. As shitty as it is, about a month ago I told him I was going to kill myself because I can’t handle the stress. Still nothing from him. No help in any way. It feels like he is just using me for a place to live, and that breaks my heart. We have always been best friends, now I feel like I don’t know him at all. So to make a long question short, how, without kicking my son out, do I get him to apply for and accept jobs?",2.542242675654656,3.387148701754388,3.823481116584564,92.1557142857143,74.51378446115288,6.706455794659061,22.530550514216586,6.8039241337230125,0.3750403768040793,1448,35,338,12,29,475,197,399,0.139,0.747,0.113,-0.9053,7,0,0,0,1,2,43.0,8,0,0,5,20,20,1,3,18,1,42,6,1,7,5,61,77,28,3,5,10,4,4,2,2,3,2,1,3,2,18,23,3,2,7,5,1,9,16,10,0,3,11,6,45,10,49,61,10,49,0,5,1,0,49,17,0,5,22,221,63,4,0.08499510128171599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534302897528533,0.0,0.08511031641669567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072273308198983,0.0,0.0,0.05779958347778121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20724889938130345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919711501412596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357900286130162,0.0,0.0866581703832656,0.0,0.0,0.07321575377359991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481480885741513,0.0,0.1464123123788001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437978590350969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697120766149223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613846278868186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289282310752482,0.12144103467696432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14459357946092002,0.1027764138484602,0.0,0.06566700441078901,0.0,0.22203216188130168,0.0,0.2415233738563844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613891600913858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071960425429052,0.17091127430787775,0.0,0.1705140333250474,0.08441931356065033,0.08370305380313421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530335691884797,0.07554755130819434,0.09403448649629204,0.0,0.0934221697010039,0.0,0.0,0.08999753993353568,0.0,0.0,0.0600345536390459,0.0830486264356977,0.0,0.15010446322839355,0.0752179899944612,0.07137447851338086,0.09508777742932448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836744505166165,0.0,0.08538900335556654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954523536695513,0.13568455788499914,0.0,0.062481179103757264,0.1260455812627492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155509201036452,0.0,0.08918806108018508,0.09051700892500528,0.05759488031900125,0.12928520910138885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880179055424317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521396547825436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054450038305020966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258535208924204,0.08084980500125999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602027155461447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203199403091681,0.09059346900823503,0.13575439535245318,0.0,0.19472320269946888,0.0,0.0,0.1859416910780686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428946483095539,0.0,0.09719930571216907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0495613270698671,0.0,0.0,0.08121646165972526,0.09443268489934163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223864167110823,0.07340847787696267,0.0,0.07012985996451761,0.05013231288309607,0.06746515520110946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489399523098,0.0,0.08193224457831189,0.0,0.06187744601985984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946811710313413
parenting,AmomofThrE,2020/01/05,"Kids scared of sleeping at night I am a mom of three kids and they are under the impression that there is a ghost in our house. When we go to bed at night my 11 yr old daughter says she hears noises downstairs at night and it makes her siblings all scared. My son who is 8 thinks he hears noises coming from the bathroom at night and my 6 year old daughter is hearing noises from the attic at night. So what they do is at night when they go to bed they each have a walkie talkie so they can all talk to each other at night if they hear any noises at all. It worked for the first couple of weeks but than there was an incident two nights ago. After they all went to bed they woke back up at 3:30 in the morning screaming. Actually my 11 year old daughter was screaming someone opened the front door. My husband immediately jumped out of bed and rushed downstairs to see what happened and the door was wide open he said. He went and got his gun and looked through the house but there was no sign of anyone in the house. While he was going through the house I gathered up all the kids and brought them to our room. My husband came back upstairs and said I was for sure I locked that door before bed. He said he always locks it and never forgets. He asked our 11yr old daughter what she heard and she said she heard someone open the door and walk down the hall downstairs. My 8yr old son said he heard it too and my 6 yr old daughter (who sleeps closets to the stairs) says she heard someone fall. We decided to call the police and tell them that this had happened and for them to check the area. 

Ever since that night my kids refuse to sleep in their room and they can’t go to sleep. How do I handle this?",4.0514130434782585,4.9786325797101485,3.765815217391306,93.66698369565219,71.02898550724638,6.329710144927536,24.23007246376812,5.7366,0.2815724637681156,1340,34,296,5,24,402,157,345,0.06,0.927,0.013000000000000001,-0.9398,0,0,0,1,0,0,20.0,5,0,13,2,12,6,0,2,20,0,18,4,4,2,8,44,49,25,1,1,3,10,0,0,0,0,0,17,12,4,16,26,0,1,2,0,1,14,3,4,0,3,22,19,39,2,43,27,7,69,0,0,2,0,70,27,0,1,28,180,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.06289270262243601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712994594265961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053626539480070345,0.0,0.0,0.04382737360714633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04506407845619735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025089995696727,0.0,0.0,0.0991142518097509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484115634956377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580939992139043,0.07371222347231829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055516908626130776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131133811229044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058297602179699065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482009079411805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651088473578852,0.0,0.05154556883461342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398366883940884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905537909013894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29746090985010865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0541207349188542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043020054393204984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548162043271417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04970686452455317,0.0,0.0,0.5443272424512835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057688556625195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30652769420192144,0.10250449729376067,0.1290489237935823,0.0,0.051357325438199375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053312688496215864,0.0,0.25798125631563346,0.0,0.16382170089838632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060742202956147816,0.0,0.0,0.05180148000820383,0.05633106562909486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041296169455419626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629570834666761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169691576242783,0.0,0.0,0.11948931085282498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469194721033054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300578962120364
parenting,pawsywawsy2,2020/01/05,"This is so hard Am I losing it?  I have a 3.5 and 7 year old, and says where we’re not too busy are just so hard.  I work full time and I’m not fond of a lot of screen time.  I guess it’s a recipe for disaster when we’re home with not a lot to do and I’m just exhausted.   

I get it, I can paint with them, play crafts with them, etc.  and I do.  I am just so so tired.  I feel like every action I take is looking for an excuse to lay down, hide behind a corner with my phone, etc. 

Is it just me?   Why is this so hard?",-1.5934999999999988,-0.2380013500000011,1.1916666666666664,104.33,87.5,4.666666666666667,12.5,5.46131890053228,-1.581,378,3,111,2,12,131,68,120,0.203,0.742,0.055,-0.9463,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,2,2,12,5,0,0,6,0,11,2,0,0,0,20,18,11,0,0,7,0,4,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,6,9,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,7,14,3,12,18,5,10,0,1,2,0,5,4,0,3,6,74,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215950028773971,0.0,0.0,0.15925012620095055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556976480468866,0.13502967144885855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987505745472668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20821719607631745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5079508507417082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895936901274466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234134715436836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872184240082998,0.21145523634968466,0.0,0.32138120339186144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833550688781332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030932866331667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421129337683092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22042795431099865,0.21724062185977885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705532501155988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760243773254074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217170450324334
parenting,candaNce7210,2020/01/05,Educational apps What are y’alls picks for education apps? We tried ABC Mouse but it glitches so much that it’s not hardly worth paying for. I know there are more out there but just curious what some other opinions are.,3.0034146341463384,5.974738121951223,3.4372682926829263,85.02419512195122,82.41463414634146,6.206829268292682,20.39512195121951,7.554174236665415,0.8616497560975613,177,5,33,3,5,55,33,41,0.04,0.889,0.071,0.313,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,4,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,25,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6173052283044016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787156215163932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5065735178938419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678589574820175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RoklemRascals,2020/01/05,"Diarising parental memories and family photos! Hey guys,

I try to keep diaries of my family memories, as well as and on top of this keep on track organising all our photos but it's hard as it all accumulates so fast!

Do any of you have any good, clever or effective ways of keeping on top of it all?

I don't want to just post everything to Facebook or Instagram, I want some semblance of privacy, but I also want to share photos and moments with family members and close friends.

Currently I upload details of memories to Day One and try to sort my photos and videos once a week on my Apple devices but I wonder if there is a better way.

I'd love it if Apple gave you the a way of attaching diary / memory entries to photos but this is not there to my knowledge.

Anyone found a better way? Either way I'd love to hear how you keep track of your family memories and moments!

Thanks.",4.0061978021978,5.352692028571429,5.775428571428575,77.63210989010992,71.57142857142857,9.4989010989011,28.31868131868132,9.851270322608157,2.8451978021978013,695,26,131,18,13,239,93,175,0.027999999999999997,0.727,0.245,0.9935,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,4,0,5,7,10,0,0,5,0,5,2,0,2,3,37,19,21,0,5,11,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,6,9,0,4,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,2,15,10,26,17,5,19,0,0,0,2,14,7,0,7,6,86,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949404831037424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146758366074582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301190853282157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999669872100893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656469305211187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669804047129394,0.0,0.4476752703201105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017054691972088,0.09172291468610312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995768522981538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755164094589647,0.0,0.0,0.10634996007601004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380626843182306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4220957947182989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429919078942264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643311449586095,0.08044786481821177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318247075965824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370111281600274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930158894000197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120641513465522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100727099790358,0.4711727548957122,0.09523016534934747,0.0,0.10674369734819568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874696830204224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,specialsecrets_xx,2020/01/05,"Twins fighting out of control My 6yr old twin girls (identical) hate each other. I mean absolutely wish each other never existed. They have been sharing a room since they were born and it’s only made things worse. All they do is argue with each other. Yesterday, after dinner, they went upstairs to play dolls and they haven’t even been up there for 5mins and I hear yelling and screaming. I told them to play nicely and share before they went upstairs but nope! My daughter was saying “I hate you” and my other daughter was saying “blah blah blah you are so mean I don’t want you as my sister”. We set them down yesterday night and told them that they’re sisters and they should be nice to each other and stick together. I told them that arguing with each other doesn’t get them anywhere and it messes up their relationship as sisters 👯‍♀️. They didn’t seem to listen probably because they’re only 6 and don’t understand it. 

About and hour later they were yelling at each other again over someone stole someone’s pillow. So my husband and I decided to let them fight it out. If they want to fight they’ll fight and when they’re ready to stop they’ll stop. Is that a wrong decision? I feel like I should be doing something about the fighting. But my husband thinks we should let them work it out own there own. Tell me if it’s Wrong. Thanks!",2.5308207070707063,4.982166299242422,3.0180303030303044,90.840101010101,79.18939393939394,5.729292929292932,21.898989898989896,6.937597516519254,0.5979883838383842,1069,32,211,12,27,331,136,264,0.18,0.72,0.1,-0.9746,0,0,1,0,9,0,22.0,2,3,20,2,9,21,9,0,3,0,26,1,0,2,2,51,47,23,0,8,4,7,1,4,0,5,0,7,2,1,17,27,1,3,8,2,0,2,7,13,0,0,13,8,41,8,24,25,9,25,0,0,0,0,51,9,0,3,14,145,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753986017318377,0.0,0.10823772072346427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142665470317232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401431453612954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643160762400172,0.0908716125996283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664566821348494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511670748636354,0.0,0.0,0.14336349818314226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252662495644407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601409704197273,0.0,0.06214343140661241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035959263221922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27711589686980315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981043814275892,0.0,0.0,0.11936846131291425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334748663258533,0.0,0.0,0.19348246608033626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714297381503635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365650572415366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023088842303272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579798442621082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522104697590606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155520742762199,0.09792467440961672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21268957403711275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117829300960036,0.11710855052652965,0.0,0.0,0.08450594161437743,0.08150454064049144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646347806713007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241955069579933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005155801427622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358311078469839,0.0,0.0,0.14627357308496405,0.0,0.0,0.09260302036009747,0.0,0.12962753459864276,0.0,0.2781461795208377,0.0,0.0
parenting,danstvx,2020/01/05,"My daughter (2F) has recently become very picky. My daughter who is two years old has become very picky recently. Ever since she was born she has pretty much eaten anything we gave her. She eats a octo vegetarian diet, including some seafood. I was a vegan for many years which helped us introduce new foods and spices to her at a young age. As of recent she hasn’t been eating anything we try to make, including food she once really enjoyed. All she wants to do is eat yogurts, applesauce, cheese sticks and other junk foods. Does anyone have any tips on how I can get her back to eating?",5.124910714285715,6.497700241071431,5.673571428571428,79.32142857142857,68.91071428571428,8.814285714285715,26.5,9.188382445141503,2.1602642857142857,465,14,85,9,8,150,81,112,0.0,0.9390000000000001,0.061,0.7778,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,12,9,0,2,2,10,17,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,1,16,1,9,12,3,14,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,1,12,52,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433058687732997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671019663102754,0.0,0.20409820045767327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953555088418631,0.0,0.0,0.2739170917048116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852138751941598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5075699541221211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121735253730446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498576689736748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478974895827841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312083005394087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277718092334149,0.12572598170146834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116111545393588,0.0,0.0,0.11976896948574753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012691581478994,0.13206587358818175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616205583271978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944354283315305,0.0,0.3673327148458077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258178710852704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419418491614511,0.0,0.12113908180809045,0.0,0.1491679374641157,0.0,0.0,0.2046413448881056,0.0731439071455349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971586652025405
parenting,Thorin2605,2020/01/05,"Helping my children through their grief while dealing with mine My mother passed away on the 20th of December from cancer, she was diagnosed only two weeks before so it was unexpected. I feel like the dust has settled around us and I am not able to pretend everything is okay anymore. my husband and I were able to distract the kids, we spent Christmas with his family abroad so after the funeral it didn’t really give them time to think about the loss. It helped me too but i know it’s not healthy to avoid my pain and theirs. 

Today was the first weekend without her and it hit us all like a big and unapologetic wave of sorrow and pain. Mom was a vital part of my children’s lives, a constant, a figure they could trust and now she is gone and all I can do is hold them while they cry. I feel that  I can’t be a mother to them right now and I’m also starting to feel like my pain should take preference as it was MY mother that I lost,I don’t want to make this about me because I know they are hurting deeply too.  My kids are 10, 8, 3 and 1. It also kills me that my 1 year old won’t remember her which adds another layer to my pain and my 3 year old doesn’t fully understand she is forever gone and having her asking me about her every hour isn’t helpful either. I’m lost.",3.3883634558093334,4.354713298113212,4.4992850049652455,87.64672293942404,72.62264150943396,7.54121151936445,25.268123138033765,7.85451343220497,1.2091886792452824,1004,30,216,13,19,329,148,265,0.175,0.731,0.094,-0.9807,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,8,3,12,18,1,2,11,1,26,6,0,1,2,40,46,20,3,4,5,5,3,3,0,2,6,0,0,4,12,17,0,2,10,2,1,3,9,12,0,2,11,3,44,6,24,30,4,25,0,5,0,0,34,5,0,0,20,148,56,0,0.21731274811144694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737849261517907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393568212120565,0.0,0.0,0.10775792622460592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672720939864096,0.1015790422097752,0.0,0.10208624017446527,0.0,0.0,0.06623591711236695,0.0,0.09245857140132288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741893947017072,0.0,0.0867532732338696,0.0,0.11935392478995192,0.0,0.11201995056607668,0.0,0.11028393246785367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154768145293306,0.0,0.09765334279784003,0.0,0.1024315592900862,0.0,0.1648197824439617,0.1552482706719579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242305626466396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104233094870333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184902314544568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700464128508748,0.0,0.11631889571123274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202121791115148,0.0,0.11942940314271032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925204775452848,0.0,0.09594556896825804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23722253539230997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725289734127675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272570320687844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280331732040181,0.0,0.0,0.08263806871311323,0.4624721713570824,0.0,0.0,0.11766426461599393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960805552556644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308649051089653,0.09279194975524643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690754080792915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169607083730705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962261714281696,0.0,0.0,0.06335840550330607,0.0,0.10299353774848226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614148906378808,0.11311511736485128,0.2614004789651268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408834460764437,0.0,0.08715758921605284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474086717796713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994228490545474
parenting,switch_me_off_safely,2020/01/05,"Need hope, son most likely autistic I just need some hope right now!

I’m in a bad place with my mental health.  I have a sweet 3 year old likely autistic son. 

He can talk in 4-5 word sentences and answer very simple questions:  “What’s the cat doing?”  “Playing with a ball!”  “What’s that!?”  “A giraffe!”  He can ask for anything he wants.

However, he has a speech delay and is in speech therapy because he can’t converse or answer more complicated questions.  He’s not potty trained yet.  He doesn’t make eye contact.  He has tons of echolalia in addition to original speech.

No one will tell me anything prognostic:  good, bad, or ugly.  His speech therapist told me some kids with skills like his make progress, but some don’t.  She scared the crap out of me—like I walked out of her office and considered just leaping in front of traffic.

I’m absolutely terrified.  It’s good that he has some speech, right?  That means he has a chance of being high functioning?",2.5861173425366677,5.096521278688528,3.1903595053206786,89.3441932700604,79.38251366120218,6.2570031636468215,24.932125395455852,7.475848149327749,1.274143169398907,746,28,146,11,19,233,113,183,0.133,0.752,0.11599999999999999,-0.8488,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,2,4,13,1,1,8,0,14,3,2,3,0,35,26,6,0,5,6,2,0,3,0,1,1,5,0,1,6,9,0,1,5,2,0,2,5,4,0,1,1,7,10,9,17,23,7,19,0,0,1,0,25,11,1,11,9,75,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253672392150475,0.0,0.1440911288727773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573849114926982,0.09395646839172717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585545533491849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383342018486946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628472423185516,0.0,0.3061725525159761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259010012012421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057664933175284,0.0,0.0,0.16789320323082882,0.0,0.0,0.15532720314407447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285714946073919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617339395637979,0.0,0.10444275590118247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103347525118325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453226710342917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632530588923551,0.0,0.0,0.15431143038954745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388418657636267,0.1347167734075344,0.0,0.17626155838909338,0.17895728759588989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472782135027019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717373150338435,0.09091011020789466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925493177726737
parenting,bobby-t1,2020/01/05,"Recommendation wanted: cups with straws that don’t spill for use around the house We currently use a bunch of these [Thermos Funtainers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DAPQV0K/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_eyLeEbERE51M6) for our kids (2 and 5).

They are great for when we are outside the house but for daily use at home. they are pain because we constantly need to wash them, and the way they are built has so many parts. 

Additionally our youngest is in a chewing phase and has been biting pieces of the silicone straw off. Ugh. 

Wondering if someone has a recommendation on cups to use at home that don’t spill, easy to clean and preferably dishwasher safe. 

Hopefully not that expensive either since we need maybe 6 of them.",9.45778801843318,10.031475193548383,7.400829493087556,73.55338709677422,59.16129032258064,10.634101382488481,33.843317972350235,10.290406445055957,3.2318285714285704,580,20,101,11,7,169,83,124,0.062,0.8059999999999999,0.132,0.8481,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,0,5,0,3,5,0,0,7,0,11,3,0,4,0,26,20,8,0,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,4,11,1,1,2,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,11,3,17,19,4,10,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,3,3,63,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854054000467756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017161454025602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803160949655264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396344633011247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347478371879291,0.16572936596630386,0.0,0.3850674611448001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916958109116134,0.16763303075718136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24744875768886476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775505219720574,0.0,0.0,0.18069283207873232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380280966422515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413797115440632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5764529457520383,0.0,0.0,0.09841819458257953,0.13244549054838375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809522642831441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uniVocity,2020/01/05,"I finally found out how to make little kids smile for pictures Simply yell any of:

 * ""Don't smile!""

 * ""I don't want to see any teeth!""

 * ""Be serious!""

Works best with multiple kids, consistently. I don't know why it took me so long to find this out, but I hope it helps someone.",0.2252987012987013,2.5631632181818205,2.063376623376626,94.2636363636364,89.54545454545455,6.051948051948052,18.766233766233768,7.447530270364453,0.4665324675324678,207,6,47,4,7,68,41,55,0.019,0.7659999999999999,0.215,0.9047,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,2,0,11,11,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,2,5,2,8,8,1,6,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,2,24,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579228246246525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761757216338639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882846969410876,0.2405282950403409,0.0,0.0,0.2885471422817175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639413752289407,0.0,0.0,0.2613824991845954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462875357398053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637607430082585,0.0,0.2328929883357689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566486554662492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970865321268692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297908473805397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29238630524954445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522169843128952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746572926177675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915874555437011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strawberryaccord,2020/01/05,"How do you manage your stress? Especially parents of children 4 years old & younger and parents of 3 or more kids because that's where I'm at. 3- month old, 19-month old, and 4- year old. I'm just feeling very depressed right now and like I can't handle my life with 3 kids. I could have been a good mom to 2, but that was my limit, and I didn't know that until I had a third. I can't possibly give them the time and attention they all individually deserve. For example the 4 year old is crying because she can't fall asleep for her nap (partly because she hates being alone in her room), the baby just woke up and is hungry (and probably needs a diaper change but I'm ignoring that for now) so I have to sit down and nurse him, and the 1.5 year old is being a 1.5 year old, opening the dishwasher, throwing shoes down the basement stairs, licking the Nintendo switch, etc. lol. Now he's taking apart my breast pump and wearing the tube as a necklace. I seriously just dont even know what to do with my life. My husband works nights so he sleeps from about 9am to 5 or 6pm. I work 4 or 5 days a week and take the baby with me but I do at least get a break from the older 2 on those days. I'm sure that wording sounds horrible like my kids are something to get ""away"" from but damn I am losing my damn mind. Help?? What do you do to cope?",2.33260154738878,3.5546748262411363,3.803417150225663,90.62454545454548,75.56028368794327,6.829400386847197,23.811089619600267,7.348242739294969,0.7691929078014179,1039,31,237,12,22,344,159,282,0.13,0.805,0.066,-0.9643,2,1,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,3,2,4,12,12,3,1,17,1,23,7,5,1,2,38,38,23,0,2,10,4,1,2,0,0,2,1,1,4,8,15,0,2,4,2,0,2,5,8,0,1,5,3,28,4,28,30,5,41,0,2,0,1,22,14,2,3,25,139,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679010091461493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012573084063082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780305594667445,0.0,0.0,0.17090596908919542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988618803488459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461536922402859,0.0,0.1026547683397648,0.12054012421691608,0.0,0.0804917443337899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952732541499224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042258500958005,0.061725448094662363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04725312165581373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765165629945284,0.0896495379274831,0.0,0.07838473365902096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226642107468733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264020819851887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271968629559003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320185676790656,0.09131375220739324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455105784146797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436184190163573,0.1094521287809956,0.14918809171002553,0.0,0.0,0.0692949147279105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877001949440584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6864493491590422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075390887773224,0.10120151345907412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053552792385096,0.0,0.0,0.10075915703778414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980915686420599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352143451435443,0.0,0.0,0.07194541121749144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705117618108098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880792354785778,0.0,0.1405314695906641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054493745813261454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771092904239356,0.0,0.0,0.07496311617546005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607116735298874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009063770460155
parenting,Rakgor,2020/01/05,How to swap baby's day and night? My son is now 12 days old and we are trying to swap his days and nights for sleeping. What is the best way to accomplish this goal?,1.3166666666666664,2.639726222222226,2.5288888888888903,98.305,78.44444444444444,5.911111111111111,17.555555555555557,6.42735559955562,-0.5172111111111115,128,2,32,1,3,41,29,36,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.8105,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,1,0,5,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,7,19,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30864838947013545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5690263346614456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5520012062628854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086170601818644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943205810220184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199680148188648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334493833671355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sillykitty1982,2020/01/05,"5 year old daughter only wants me to bring her to bed. After reading all the posts here (and learning from it!) I have a issue here at home with my 5 year old daughter. I want to know if this sounds familiar to people and what to do about it.

My daughter only wants me to take her to bed. When it's my boyfriend (her father) his turn to do it,  hell break loose. Screaming, yelling, shouting, getting physical, crying,... you name it. It's horrible. My boyfriend his reaction is always calm at first, but after a few minutes of crying, yelling, screaming he loses his temper and just drag her to bed... When I ask her why it is such a problem when her dad brings her to bed, she say simply 'i don't know' or ' because you read more bedtime stories'. It's true, I read 3 short bedtime stories, after that she play a few minutes with her Lego and then I tuck her in. After that we talk a few minutes about things she did that day on school, or just talk about other stuff she like. Then it's time for her to sleep. With my boyfriend it's 2 bedtime stories and sleep. 
When I write this down, I think I'm the one who can solve the problem here, just to shorten the time when I bring her to bed. 

What do you all think?",2.8306354300385124,4.1188027439024415,3.4659777492511767,93.27390885750964,74.40650406504065,5.829353872486094,25.5489944373128,5.750287758089431,0.5271577235772358,929,31,204,4,19,292,120,246,0.128,0.812,0.06,-0.9545,0,0,0,0,2,0,40.0,1,3,0,2,15,11,2,0,9,0,9,2,2,0,3,31,24,16,0,6,7,5,0,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,21,9,0,0,5,4,0,3,1,7,0,2,1,7,38,4,31,23,6,30,1,1,0,0,35,6,1,3,20,139,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126426315494857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655711127696068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252318736388606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974055988791424,0.08730551052690702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514968798473535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072771628872562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579190588960224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129606114393928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879683775772468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613726181539116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144971087887066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841060424297067,0.0,0.09173342997631012,0.2059171858746302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385180213376154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12965158359770587,0.0,0.0,0.2590706942617123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062341346129285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765542987458113,0.0,0.13700646811519074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709450197941172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549716936143528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017849598000301,0.21761818244679693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993696451901333,0.17348533936636765,0.0,0.0,0.15787620361793628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724884750083445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395425941302681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215465015367855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435379324168726
parenting,poppy5016,2020/01/05,"What is the age you allowed your child to walk or ride their bike a quarter mile to the park alone or with a friend? My 9 year old is very responsible for his age and we live in a safe area, we have a park close by and he has shown interest in riding to the park with his friend. I feel like he is ready, but wanted to get insight from others.",7.770225225225222,4.055934851351353,7.584054054054054,84.62265765765768,65.35135135135134,10.947747747747748,31.423423423423422,7.793537801064563,1.7321045045045036,265,5,66,2,3,85,53,74,0.02,0.8009999999999999,0.179,0.8379,1,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,1,0,15,8,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,5,11,8,0,12,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,5,40,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647599555334721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807654286048785,0.2516027649993816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.544198257958851,0.0,0.18400339225279147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206098495623093,0.0,0.3109879464340206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695614556051677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29059150760742075,0.20772926664785213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22679715316728166
parenting,gretna22,2020/01/05,"When to call it quits on breastfeeding My son will be six months on Friday and has recently begun sleeping through the night (7 -4.) I’ve been anxiously waiting for this day & because I have low breast storage capacity this has given me the chance to get ahead on pumping for daycare which has never been the case before.

This means I’m up 2 to 3 times a night to pump while everyone else sleeps. It’s such a good feeling to be able to gain traction & not constant fretting over whether I’ll have enough milk for the following work day. But, I’m also feeling a bit resentful. I haven’t slept for longer than three hours at a time since he’s been born. & honestly, the idea of not having to cart pump parts back & forth to work sounds amazing. (Not to mention not being tits out in my classroom during plan period)

When my daughter was born (she’s currently 23 months) I never made enough & had to supplement almost from the get go & gave up entirely at 5 months. Therein lies my conflict. I would have killed to have this problem last time so it seems silly to whine about it now. My question is this: When did you stop bfing your baby & why? Did you regret stopping when you did? 

Thank you for any insight you can provide!",4.334444444444447,5.74472188888889,4.4856995884773685,86.94731481481483,70.85185185185185,7.375308641975309,27.90329218106996,7.793537801064563,1.5952452674897115,981,35,194,12,18,305,156,243,0.115,0.792,0.092,-0.7874,1,0,0,1,0,0,37.0,0,6,0,6,10,11,2,0,10,0,24,6,5,1,2,26,40,10,1,3,6,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,2,1,4,7,0,0,2,7,6,0,2,12,3,17,5,33,23,4,44,0,3,0,2,14,11,1,3,31,118,27,3,0.09259171492652074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271722765340012,0.0,0.0,0.07404556097427342,0.0,0.7022615910693274,0.0,0.06296554125523017,0.0,0.0,0.10460228268313763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119731343302013,0.0,0.05644305001398019,0.0,0.07878872970042483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108617165584473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454649331431966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005875002621402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942799241229488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734849671175185,0.0,0.0,0.1913439856892956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847535154306202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363430627319376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675069893401053,0.0,0.05262200536964956,0.07766153749620561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118418802197772,0.0,0.0,0.10452477584976576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243901396231918,0.0,0.0,0.07547460571668302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876125194374811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085952174634316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217174704335831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282487729899254,0.0,0.0,0.1737821042475072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026780426867128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859776640043854,0.0,0.0,0.10372391132714144,0.09848268616382616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914231481422197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429201976749386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076592823403599,0.0,0.18531716711139468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548216393222312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524601101511417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197292072950428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835496210012077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481574245701908,0.0,0.0,0.06577449769771739,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mes_Oma,2020/01/05,What is an appropriate/good punishment for a 5 year old? My 5 year old broke the TV after we told him not to throw things at the tv 3 times. He is a defiant child and hates listening to authority. Naturally he does what he wants when I walk away for one second. I would like to know what you guys think would be a suitable punishment that is not too harsh but would really teach him a lesson. I spoke with my girlfriend and thought maybe punishment by education might be a good idea. Like making him read books instead of his regular TV time.,5.096875834445928,5.8379354299065405,5.8106809078771695,80.6284112149533,68.53271028037383,10.226435246995996,28.369826435247003,10.290406445055957,2.6471265687583445,429,14,89,11,7,140,74,107,0.126,0.767,0.107,-0.2725,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,1,3,8,4,0,8,0,9,0,0,1,0,18,18,4,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,4,0,2,0,2,5,4,0,0,5,5,0,2,2,5,0,2,3,2,11,3,11,9,0,12,0,1,0,0,15,2,0,1,10,54,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772160354825617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506387793292582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164134002316426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676486329940914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862246043116232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293062693157824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366140093331427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18430179880139075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590626419255432,0.0,0.18949557135028486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000975216833489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958529067645338,0.0,0.12781475745130513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188672466142391,0.0,0.12083571318533498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253116918104223,0.12086099134304695,0.0,0.14974434025295086,0.21997333663388072,0.0,0.0,0.1802358523986081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112538020069798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.401973740207241,0.0,0.0,0.24293202379608286
parenting,rosekitten89,2020/01/05,"Wits end with my 7 year old.. So I have been battling (feels like anyway) what my mother had done when I lived with her several years ago. She spoiled rotten my daughter to where she was sassy back when she was super young. Now 7 going on 8 years old this year... I just.. I really just want to run away for a week just to get away from the house. I just don't know what to do.   


She refuses to listen to me, won't do as she's told. Throws fits, screams tells me no, or I'm not the boss. I've been told I'm hated so many times that I'm starting to believe she really does hate me. What's worse is she'll do what she isn't suppose to .. over and over and over.. even though it's the same punishment or we extend the punishment. I've never seen a child be so stubborn to where they refuse to have any self preservation... Her younger brother gets in trouble, does his few minutes and gets out of trouble.   


Not my daughter. She'd rather fight tooth and nail and throw a fit and say she forgot how to stand in a corner or that she won't do it and this and that. I spend most of my free time scolding her and making sure she will do her punishment. She had been grounded for over a month now to where we even took her toys and packed them in a box, she isn't allowed games or tv.. she just refuses to listen or care.   


I've tried talking to her, I've tried being nice, I'd tried explaining. I'm just at the point where I snap and I get so worked up and frustrated with her cause it's all day.. every day. The winter break made things worse.. so much so to where I threaten she was going to child boot camp for the summer because I am not going to try to do this for the whole summer.   


I just feel so over whelmed and I just sit and cry at times cause I have no idea what to do. At this point I fear I just failed so bad as a parent that she'll grow into a unruly teen and end up in jail..",1.5876486953906297,2.888437084367247,2.7881118881118887,96.82431235431237,77.66004962779157,5.976659899240545,19.656289946612528,6.42735559955562,-0.1956395368072789,1447,30,352,11,33,465,187,403,0.161,0.7809999999999999,0.057999999999999996,-0.9918,2,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,2,0,2,3,33,22,9,1,16,0,32,1,1,7,3,63,61,34,0,2,18,5,2,1,0,5,0,4,0,3,17,22,0,5,5,3,2,8,11,16,0,0,15,8,52,7,50,38,6,68,0,1,1,0,50,30,0,6,28,229,69,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117835819668876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699476938693994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327896181933826,0.07909227468004816,0.08588302589614255,0.06270193354536031,0.0,0.0,0.11588694720304984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487167568570868,0.21132919467495945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298585702167632,0.1326711799209423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002532826037188,0.10526053913427078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220520926875994,0.0,0.0,0.1358748895119937,0.0,0.08666320161243549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574504875395247,0.10401727135676628,0.07348253919539753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149584720714033,0.0,0.17537153730498892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20310407062519684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868555509858195,0.0,0.11611536845638888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05652865413271445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050251745329889436,0.0,0.0908264420829806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732773778436617,0.06865922703728135,0.10428295124136172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210112726325354,0.0,0.07561325057348836,0.0,0.07933125480291675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158665795797725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421282318514685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447013372577804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178830646766745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179765985077812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107304441330727,0.11620146990402845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728041782028182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694345491505256,0.0,0.0,0.08267422314817509,0.08990335969660967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833499471701754,0.0,0.10105851270409112,0.0,0.17993385030067974,0.0,0.0,0.19657249604624152,0.11428020994552275,0.27933822306559913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060668943676034315,0.0,0.08250734050723052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483847683802788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488262702241175,0.0,0.2096443568997801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26495147137290503
parenting,3quinox825,2020/01/05,"Did you have a secondary sex talk with your children as teenagers? I think most people will say they got the basic ins and outs (pun intended) of how sexual anatomy works when they were in young adolescence. Recently, my (16f) sister in law was asked by her boyfriend to be more sexual. She was confused and had no idea what that meant or what to do and I had no idea what to say. 

We teach kids how babies are made but what about sexual comfort zones or what situations that they might be presented with?",5.9789003436426125,6.494629175257735,5.677886597938143,83.14954467353954,66.52577319587628,9.765635738831616,28.537800687285234,9.725611199111238,2.3315718213058414,398,12,80,8,6,123,73,97,0.053,0.914,0.033,0.1926,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,3,1,4,2,0,1,2,0,13,1,0,4,0,22,18,10,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,7,7,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,9,2,11,1,13,5,2,8,0,0,0,1,15,4,0,5,4,59,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377085014967696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336326818729375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5740806669698271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405968019767287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697407140587122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762790808267218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510613461510925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4044120580071415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858105848888655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437291719890865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162926206344065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851118806965884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IamNotPersephone,2020/01/05,"SLPT: If one of your kids comes down with this stomach flu that’s been going around, just have them cough right in your mouth so you get sick early and get it over with. On Monday, Dec. 30, my son came down with it. On Wednesday might, my daughter came down with it. Early this morning, it was my husband. I’ve taken care of all of them and cleaned up after so much projectile vomit I’m shocked I haven’t gotten sick myself. I either have the immune system of an X-Man, or I’m going to get sick sometime around Tuesday when my husband will be at work (he was off last week for the holiday), my daughter is back at school (same), and my son wants my undivided attention for the first time in two weeks. In truth, though, I was super diligent about washing my hands, and I wore a medical mask every time someone puked (or I cleaned up the puke) so I wouldn’t breathe in the virus.

I should have just exposed myself at the beginning, because beyond taking care of three other people, waiting and worrying about *whether* and *when* I’ll get sick has been almost as stressful. I’ve lost ten pounds because every time I go to eat, I think about that food coming back up and I lose my appetite. I haven’t slept more than three hours in a row for a week, and the eczema on my hands has flared so bad from all the hand washing.

So, thanks for listening to my whine.",2.8494224290069003,4.643383889298896,3.3742210813412505,91.8572019894112,75.42066420664206,5.893855286378951,23.59072677683299,6.498293943080001,0.5311038344296488,1058,32,221,8,23,330,152,271,0.141,0.785,0.07400000000000001,-0.955,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,3,2,5,18,11,0,1,12,0,18,20,7,0,3,37,45,21,0,4,7,6,3,0,0,4,11,1,2,1,9,18,2,1,2,1,0,7,3,6,0,6,12,4,29,5,45,28,6,51,0,3,0,0,14,23,0,5,20,149,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780304526312378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272355829440369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19627923961031846,0.106565749224687,0.15560417105420066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29194952106189664,0.26025465626724953,0.0,0.0,0.21988395032368985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059739003825185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21506762049132916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085620437017669,0.15433074654249138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26672570498604115,0.0,0.21760527264364454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568987667122775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403551416231248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427853641534095,0.1393232613978714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285738342408232,0.0,0.1353952993378643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382276200214433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648541570795504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848259707039463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899535366644962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291684106075718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081405156065924,0.0,0.1262293694211384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619977539819629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959619035655423,0.0,0.0,0.1175045898157402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178017380474431,0.1253958626803312,0.0,0.2232663016713277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246760001239986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527950220716803,0.0,0.3071313498544641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929161865140399,0.12961449720167706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hO97366e6,2020/01/05,"Parenting adult bipolar child I don't know if this is the right place, but there are very few support forums for parents dealing with mentally ill children out there... 

Our child is bipolar and it's been a long painful road. We've survived a few suicide attempts, a few hospitalizations, and largely have not had a ton of relief. After a few years trying a handful of drugs, none of them have provided adequate relief, some have made things worse, and some have improved some things like sleep and appetite but not really depression. 

I think at this point she's feeling dejected, hopeless, and like if all the meds so far haven't helped, what's the point of continuing to try. She's also refused therapy and had no interest in any lifestyle modifications. She's recently been talking about  stopping treatment which scares us. We still have some leverage in that we are financially supporting her and can always pull the ""if you want to live here and have us support you there are things you will need to do"" card, however that is likely to force her to run away and be homeless and untreated. Obviously that is a last resort and a scary one. 

This is a hard situation. And generally know the right answer is to be supportive, but set boundaries, and to not let them ruin your life if they're unwilling to accept help and follow the rules.

I'm really struggling myself however. While I ""know"" what the right way to handle this is I feel so stressed and terrible about all this. I'm so scared. As a parent I feel like I have to protect my child, but that conflicts with the reality that at some point you may have to accept that you can't help your child if they won't help themselves. Thinking I need may need to let them go and make destructive choices they may not survive makes me feel like a horrible parent who doesn't care, but there is no real alternative because you cannot force another adult to do what you think they should. I feel essentially stuck between emotionally feeling like I have to keep them safe and logically knowing I can't.

I'm going to try and schedule some session with a therapist to help me through this. But if anyone has navigated this and has an advice, wisdom or just sympathy I'm all ears.",7.636188164824951,7.442966403800478,7.468885675926884,74.11641949808946,63.109263657957236,10.742166683878963,35.88154497573065,10.276239652853533,3.595534462459982,1780,74,325,36,23,568,210,421,0.161,0.638,0.201,0.9549,6,0,1,0,0,2,40.0,5,9,7,3,13,28,1,4,21,0,45,9,3,3,4,88,79,38,1,11,18,4,8,6,0,6,6,1,0,7,22,25,0,6,17,0,0,5,14,10,0,1,6,9,40,18,36,63,15,32,0,3,0,0,46,15,0,16,16,230,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586013731356675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06208150113225513,0.0645952301175632,0.0,0.0,0.052791757794741816,0.08140289650247096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05428141636839722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293690166710043,0.0,0.0,0.04732315114161004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915000189521164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003417605769593,0.06686348644917955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002734058677847,0.0,0.0,0.08732445214659587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23551546700835455,0.16637885525957902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823899887995927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954214841796873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26017219198821706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900202026855724,0.0,0.0,0.17065592029432353,0.06327964510775648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876596158159392,0.05483308744337703,0.22755957957714584,0.0,0.06854961567075359,0.0687010125448631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345635110452453,0.10363862147890046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623056601172134,0.0,0.07823381228149501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726872599266681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052604790364738016,0.0,0.08260488198114459,0.0,0.3448002565975499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110789622698779,0.0,0.22015922820409795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836109989092313,0.09946484251804602,0.0,0.07665126984286763,0.0,0.0,0.1988894086969165,0.0,0.0,0.15544439394543216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726052258590156,0.07768708730459617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06199623533423294,0.06490301140550582,0.08892607468251422,0.08115680085481931,0.0,0.08491573925538366,0.35237906021544163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239687576342352,0.0,0.0,0.08877784053489643,0.09013560123912183,0.1547238067665858,0.1492284750130897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811910656868766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867611246866284,0.0,0.0,0.06405372424265256,0.04578878877962838,0.06161989271654104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911264475103294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04999183364856432
parenting,mynameylime,2020/01/05,"Sudden loss of manors My 6 year old suddenly ""Forgot"" about manors. No please or thank you anymore. I feel like at this point, I shouldn't be reminding her to use manors. Any tips on how to combat this?",2.056750000000001,4.318883175,2.4700000000000024,95.165,79.75,6.0,17.5,7.1686216300943375,-0.04225000000000012,157,3,34,2,4,48,35,40,0.156,0.679,0.165,0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,6,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,5,2,6,3,0,7,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,5,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24572842111683985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583592292497957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270795251022573,0.25814644253826885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176535942147499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37917299940631777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966506085256048,0.3415898099802962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326798638693949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120878781458819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23269568706084975
parenting,Gr8teful_Turtle,2020/01/05,"Unexplained Pack-n-Play Meltdown My 9-month son and firstborn is a very relaxed, non-fussy, easy-going, baby. Babies like this are the reason many folks have a second child. We are also pretty good about letting him cry and not over-coddling (at least I think so). But when my wife and I go to put him in his pack-n-play, the kid panics. He goes from zero to ‘freak out’ instantly. Same deal if we lay him in it asleep and he wakes up there. We put a few of his favorite toys in there, hang out in the room with him, or even have my wife sit in it with him. All to not avail. Has anyone else experienced this?",1.3372133333333345,3.278901648000005,2.5381,95.41888333333335,80.52,5.126666666666667,18.416666666666664,5.985473137389443,-0.3781333333333329,466,10,105,3,12,149,88,125,0.047,0.8340000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.8439,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,6,0,7,2,2,1,1,20,9,10,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,11,0,0,2,2,0,4,2,2,0,2,0,1,15,3,17,8,4,16,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,2,2,70,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828437608332752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987078487375686,0.2342692573325355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25115090200338197,0.0,0.2357183618096901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909998364181575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101492328371768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598833809286281,0.19177284095172584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23380044762486746,0.0,0.1117022209640334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23180562557327866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249870126404127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682604156166045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326096315187728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596937963347514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23508055977771394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650362881679355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865239438965686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angrybadger13,2020/01/05,"Transitioning advice Hey everyone. I am the proud parent of a soon to be 1 year old son. During the first 6 months of his life he was NOT a good sleeper/napper, waking several times a night and not going down longer than an hour. Naturally (desperately more like) I tried everything - all the gimmicky products that promised baby would sleep, and I even started sleep training at 4 months old. 
The one product that worked amazing for us was the the zipadee zip! He sucked on the little hands and this soothes him all through the night and while falling asleep. 
Once he became a good sleeper I tried on a few occasions to put him in his sleep sack without the zipadee....and it did not go over well. He would scream forever until I finally came in and put him in the zipadee and then he was asleep instantly. I have tried to wean him off the zipadee but have failed to do so. 

Now that he is approaching 1, I want to wean him off for good. But I’m not ready for the fights and crying and potential waking up at nights. I fear this will set him back. And I also realize the irony of desperately trying to solve one problem and creating another. 

Any advice?? 
Thanks!",4.010704365079363,5.813538741071429,4.540119047619047,84.6771031746032,72.30357142857143,7.8349206349206355,27.62301587301588,8.515128840125781,1.9580325396825409,914,34,178,16,18,290,131,224,0.17300000000000001,0.759,0.069,-0.9747,1,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,0,0,4,7,15,2,1,19,0,13,9,8,0,2,25,21,17,0,4,7,2,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,6,11,0,0,1,0,0,7,5,6,1,3,5,2,18,9,28,12,4,40,0,1,0,0,19,13,1,0,20,116,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22612686426213374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925274833190446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786818681837273,0.12132446881734565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896830740904793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233317384623525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709408726760255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642060484526017,0.0,0.0,0.11055897890883128,0.10398621154154668,0.0,0.0,0.1301978116102225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674675635951113,0.0,0.09841673827745501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151312948379487,0.29113804476576993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139439464723018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172430581116788,0.05652654123852883,0.115964596754517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847057341196716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32573770541416586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428212399894175,0.123219700490754,0.15680641653963584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847426128906972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107119487631328,0.0,0.2326265325017932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130711224801994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347359062373565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189503378444864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652358842897493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746723019242724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142184113597969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917621621515308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824450621740985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403070800688813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153336546769026,0.0,0.08423301273705319,0.0,0.0,0.164383891713876,0.0,0.0,0.07450880648249494
parenting,M0506,2020/01/05,"Getting frustrated with daughter's anxiety over new movies My daughter is five, and watching movies with her for the first time is getting increasingly frustrating. She always wants to know what's going to happen, and I keep having to tell her, ""Just watch the movie."" Even if I tell her things ahead of time, like ""Some of the good guys get hurt, but they end up being okay and none of them die,"" it's like she can't go one second without knowing what will happen next.

A new character shows up - ""Who's that guy?"" ""They'll tell you in a minute. Just watch the movie.""

""Is so-and-so going to do something-or-another?"" ""You'll find out. Just watch the movie."" It feels like we can barely go a minute without her asking about something that she'd find out shortly if she'd just wait a second, and it's driving me crazy. I wish she'd just relax and experience the movie, instead of me having to pause it all the time and then rewind because she talked over some important piece of plot information.

She doesn't have this issue with books. All of the movies are age-appropriate, and they're ones she wants to watch. I remember being a little kid and just feeling swept away by movies and absorbed in the story, and I feel bad that she doesn't seem to have that experience.

We're considering having her evaluated for anxiety for other reasons, but this one is making me nuts.",5.099903926482874,6.092233184210527,5.256040100250626,83.70021720969092,68.66165413533835,8.166750208855474,26.807852965747706,8.344100000000001,1.61655873015873,1081,32,214,15,18,340,137,266,0.078,0.83,0.092,0.5733,0,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,1,2,3,2,9,10,2,0,14,1,23,0,0,2,2,49,45,15,1,5,12,2,3,3,0,3,0,0,0,3,15,16,0,2,11,3,0,6,6,4,0,7,0,8,29,6,33,37,7,27,0,1,5,0,32,11,0,5,13,145,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971352810931578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240986244919096,0.17860834172437653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091341742386855,0.0,0.10967909600451277,0.0,0.097471266957919,0.07116233783807582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115550544039125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339512615237556,0.0,0.0,0.077104279281665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283841249346569,0.0,0.0,0.17707856329335006,0.08339757617904378,0.0,0.0,0.21339264399280708,0.0992971946440446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297219733625386,0.0,0.26537934593573725,0.0979142085156723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23117774095675755,0.20646187167941546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497033202563072,0.0,0.0,0.1218440338953109,0.0,0.10376200568654197,0.0,0.0,0.12831218928883034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710967178802329,0.11700203986936268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792345201912368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254923746616955,0.12415207668607052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23731385845173125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002599968704747,0.0,0.0,0.13224127939800367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627379608760396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987053558591161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382949879711076,0.3061021994264287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755547086434883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20421241769744775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137710071190384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424281913078004,0.22506233175353305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PM_ME_BLIMP_PICS,2020/01/05,"A little advice please Hello fellow parents, recently my daughter has became very clingy to her mum, to the point she doesn't want to spend time with me or come stay with me overnight, I used to get her 3-4 times a week but recently this has cut down to once a week at most, it got to the point today that her mum had to give her money just so she would go with me today, she told me this on a busy bus today, other people on the bus heard and I got a few sympathetic looks but what she said hurt a lot, is this normal behaviour for kids who have parents that have split up?  Every time she does come to my house she spends most of the day saying she misses her mum and wants to go home,  please tell me this is just a phase, she is literally one of two members of family I have left and it seems like I'm losing her",6.643424855491331,4.379122554913298,6.962825144508674,83.6590354046243,66.22543352601156,10.037283236994222,27.40534682080925,8.07648339933343,1.3829543352601157,634,10,147,6,8,207,101,173,0.08,0.8540000000000001,0.066,-0.33299999999999996,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,11,0,11,0,0,1,0,22,29,7,0,4,5,6,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,1,11,8,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,4,0,2,6,4,24,1,21,22,4,25,0,3,1,0,30,9,0,5,12,93,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236844344668632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21574053874423066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075978040620063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958526174656302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550748302214802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180510072042318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542490619019002,0.120127252955408,0.14233653308064168,0.0,0.20030778127698426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256109085715033,0.0,0.0,0.14449286382861964,0.13405597738395486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605735419433093,0.0,0.0,0.06117862101307171,0.12550837111793056,0.0,0.0,0.10515748082496444,0.14009476972694218,0.0,0.10646183670120672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269393502187805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336056288775405,0.08485571662181816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780951379342845,0.0,0.0,0.08681526383964999,0.0,0.0,0.2749189423796443,0.2367562466033242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472892064540512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911767337856224,0.0995839646745642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400015806875635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347321309415242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945218986074268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21905915431797968,0.0,0.3560960396678884,0.11965787614200073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232665183443965,0.0,0.0,0.1081542137402704,0.0,0.10332375882919607,0.14772192639493595,0.0,0.2008959204322793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895626365480043,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IsabellaBellaBell,2020/01/05,"First world problems, but feeling so lonely My 5 mo old is lactose intolerant and I’m breastfeeding, so I’ve had to cut out dairy from my diet. It’s becoming increasingly more isolating at mealtimes, and Christmas was particularly difficult. Now that the holidays are over I’d hoped it would get better, but right now, this very minute is the hardest yet. My in-laws are in town and brought lunch, but they happened to show up while my son is napping in my arms (he’ll wake up if I try to put him down). The last time they came they forgot I can’t have dairy and they brought lasagna for dinner, so I had to scrounge up something for myself. Today they brought pizza from Pizza Hut, but at least this time they threw together a salad for me. 

Still, I’m sitting alone in the living room while my son sleeps, seeing and smelling their pizza but knowing I can’t have any, listening to them chat and bond over their meal while a plain garden salad waits for me. Why can’t we have a dairy-free meal for once? I just feel so alone.",4.613596059113302,5.620168364532024,4.7714039408867,86.68006157635469,69.78817733990148,7.7704433497536955,27.80049261083744,7.957251820313856,1.5375773399014785,810,27,167,10,14,253,123,203,0.086,0.852,0.061,-0.6311,0,4,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,9,2,9,6,1,0,7,0,15,13,3,0,0,24,33,19,0,4,7,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,5,9,10,2,3,5,0,7,3,4,0,1,9,5,25,2,24,22,3,37,0,1,1,0,16,16,0,2,13,103,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40565935371478706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317693016379087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21628829315337608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320328357024511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223987130179984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804371119329214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658017130350009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231755987774026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317938374435726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451186929164832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762774592314436,0.1596345571608253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292902832358328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549961552033805,0.208561665169692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873910445834367,0.0,0.19687183456863705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724505237687642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560579697197944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959799831030258,0.0,0.0,0.15076608424542565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639691967876562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22839006777776397,0.0,0.18563204739914207,0.0,0.0,0.13296152084278914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158731431829906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767138313984522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911808763685835,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TemporaryCriticism,2020/01/05,"Should I fight for my daughter's best friend? My Child's KG best friend left our school. My daughter was heartbroken. I reached out to the mom (we used to be friends and grew apart) We invited him (her bff) to her birthday party along with an open invite for a playdate. I got a short but polite decline to the birthday party and no mention of the playdate. Now the mom is leaving me on read and not responding to other messages requesting a playdate. I feel like this is my fault for letting our friendship sorta dissolve. I had a lot on my plate that year and I dropped out of the social scene to handle stuff but we still had nice conversations in the hall/playground etc. (honestly I didnt think it was this bad until she started making it really awkaward) Should I confront her/ apologize? My daughter is heartbroken and I thought she would easily move on and make new friends, but we're halfway into 1st grade and she keeps bringing up how much she misses him and how she'll never make a friend like him again. They only live a few towns away and we dont mind driving. I dont know if I should fight or let it go and help my daughter move on.",3.4044331092047315,5.268034057268724,3.832469278924184,88.8652492464642,74.0660792951542,6.541061905865988,27.80639925805704,7.273561745256523,1.4245823788546257,909,36,181,10,19,284,135,227,0.12,0.6829999999999999,0.19699999999999998,0.9416,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,6,0,1,2,5,17,3,0,13,0,18,0,0,6,1,45,32,18,0,5,6,6,1,2,5,5,0,0,0,1,8,20,0,1,4,1,0,6,6,6,0,0,7,1,37,11,24,17,6,30,0,1,0,0,40,15,0,4,10,128,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550126008638785,0.0,0.1026453952118016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580249063734633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881572620207326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710476121641044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062159511823558375,0.08782462189908774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4748954790251986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986666095246152,0.0,0.09832216324033982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240058277011078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927006916061224,0.0,0.0,0.06756173276033038,0.0,0.0,0.1301701675637996,0.13356898372954856,0.2514182560865853,0.0,0.12011943467634585,0.0,0.10855365127171293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451474246552588,0.0,0.0,0.2461797341433134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241290696115485,0.28795942594572993,0.0,0.26132040334768736,0.09037119858527598,0.0,0.09481487077249416,0.1187311637407464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349742973350794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296803460089176,0.0,0.07875515947718455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244165470815552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531651311767328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870138606170647,0.0,0.09817586349361056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073089599439625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877163461759973,0.0,0.09759647281875093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617616740307163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873293310979624,0.0,0.0,0.07916595918472899
parenting,shejhejw,2020/01/05,"A question for parents of teenagers. I am 19F and have played Xbox games with my online friend 18M for 1 1/2 years. I met up with him last week half way which was really nice, it could potentially turn into something more. We had FaceTimed and followed each other on all social media beforehand. 


I haven’t told my parents as I don’t know if they’ll have a go at me for meeting someone who lives 4 hours away. 


How would you react if your child met someone online? And if it lead to a long distance relationship",4.557184873949577,5.515163598039218,5.01638655462185,85.0508823529412,69.88235294117648,7.397198879551821,28.296918767506998,7.447530270364453,1.5035977591036414,405,14,81,4,7,129,81,102,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.8268,3,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,3,1,19,17,8,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,2,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,5,0,12,3,13,9,3,14,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,4,5,53,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815252363976135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839076447445495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629449541304989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986237358500824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076992910657809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590806747841155,0.17191601352030547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623329246548667,0.1866446024058636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4683708756116535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362622656027237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351113709788448,0.0,0.0,0.22643342218714235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21499144952556853,0.35739884582317905,0.16236524621312204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20152910489108675,0.0,0.0,0.2294044632861697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740685399447908,0.16917555419812955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498211130501158,0.0,0.0,0.13581613384203367
parenting,Exciting-Shirt,2020/01/05,"What a delightful surprise I just read a really fun non fiction book, had me laughing so hard tears were streaming down my cheeks. Each time I have a bad day I'm going to reread some of this book. It's about this rough and tough guy becoming a grandfather and how his grandson reteaches him about life. One of the funniest books I've ever read. It's available on Amazon and worth every cent at $2.99
Titled : Grandpa's Log of Interesting and Unfortunate Events. 
Check it out, it's great fun, I added the link below

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Grandpa%27s+log+of+interesting+and+unfortunate+events&i=digital-text&ref=nb_sb_noss",11.497352941176471,12.953289127450983,8.739999999999998,62.68000000000002,54.78431372549021,9.937254901960783,31.70588235294117,9.725611199111238,2.8276941176470585,529,15,80,8,6,153,78,102,0.10400000000000001,0.633,0.263,0.9598,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,6,0,3,2,1,1,1,11,5,6,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,2,0,1,2,2,7,6,11,3,2,10,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,4,45,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5167018774605593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908844087875915,0.0,0.2633395701405689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377484715051296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156837148718228,0.20089699344601566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551162786921775,0.0,0.0,0.2628822628888946,0.0,0.23609427398140154,0.0,0.0,0.2135964790457749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841806989799826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157392686973515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4770114477342301,0.0,0.1527515372620241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903698021769925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TexMexxx,2020/01/05,"Fuck it, I want to brag about my 5 yo son! Hy there. 

To make it short my 5 yo son found my old chess set some months ago and was interested to learn the game (he always loved boardgames). I was a bit amused and thought he will quit rather fast because of the rules and so I started with rather simple rules and he had really fun with it. He was rather persistent and didn't quit so we played a simple form of chess here and there. For Christmas he wanted his OWN chess set. His grandfather found a junior chess game and he loves it. There are many simple mini games that teach the movements of each piece and yesterday we finally played the first real tournament. Guys he knows every fucking movement pattern, he even understands chess matt. My wife and I are blown away but we didn't tell anybody because it just sounds so pretentious...",3.2461111111111123,5.523467685185183,3.117061728395061,91.9507777777778,75.85185185185185,6.542222222222222,22.528395061728396,7.554174236665415,0.8019328395061738,663,19,135,9,15,199,97,162,0.013999999999999999,0.8859999999999999,0.1,0.8663,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,4,13,9,2,0,7,0,9,4,0,1,0,31,22,13,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,15,0,0,6,11,0,2,2,2,0,1,9,1,13,7,11,12,6,14,0,0,0,4,23,2,2,1,8,74,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050289965451005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127353976998908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951726249157308,0.0,0.0,0.2069969891794746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18535969597015645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112140453426885,0.0,0.14304998898838064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18598961310660256,0.0,0.14441782654790628,0.0,0.3723178644266332,0.0,0.31392436799871715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681124376922776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330861543029402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064726197711997,0.0,0.11333185814617408,0.17213390169296558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551963385180088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781593067028743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611714731427496,0.0,0.19325088457524053,0.10876770900587177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017369190670228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839833257179172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347891976350407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675069468340904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028550903543052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ryan_503,2020/01/05,"Kid wants to buy something I think is a waste of money. Thoughts? We usually give our kids quite a bit of freedom on what they want to spend their money on. Sometimes I'll offer an opinion. Like once one of them wanted to buy a water balloon kit for $20 that was little more than a bunch of balloons and fancy packaging. I told her she could get a big bag of balloons for probably less than $5. If it's something we don't want them to have, well say ""No"". My daughter asked if she could buy coins or something in an online game she's playing for $20. I'm having a tough time with this one. It's her money and I don't want to helicopter parent too much but I see that as a complete waste of money. I've let her buy apps and songs for a few dollars here and there. So what to you do when your kid wants to blow money on something you see as flushing it down the toilet? I haven't given her an answer yet but I'm leaning towards letting her.",2.07438432835821,3.344937318407961,3.575046641791044,91.80645055970152,76.31343283582089,5.821019900497513,24.005286069651746,5.985473137389443,0.4428629353233835,735,23,163,4,16,243,118,201,0.037000000000000005,0.9009999999999999,0.061,0.1007,1,0,4,0,0,0,19.0,3,3,4,1,7,4,0,0,12,0,12,1,0,0,0,24,29,13,0,10,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,7,1,0,3,3,12,0,4,1,1,2,4,4,24,3,28,21,6,12,0,0,2,0,29,8,0,4,5,108,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241554594957822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463567393880878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485082649830005,0.0,0.0,0.226178191648086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400176151020785,0.1358752933972941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28967576222014946,0.0,0.06919881105479615,0.1419618473735985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041226927607151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084341949223032,0.1919596945533604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572759616554637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527133361919528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506530151136348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263888988492042,0.0,0.0,0.2257396417735313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4361697375695586,0.1400869210108695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075806050982232,0.0,0.11244741369947886,0.08259221265238198,0.0,0.0,0.13534438379379826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599794065250935,0.0,0.5012624428590614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735258782043746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsMaxxMurray,2020/01/05,"Get this Fu!*ing toddler out of my bed. I am desperate. 
My 4-1/2 year old has not slept through the night his entire life. The problem has now escalated to him ending up in my bed between my husband and I every night- where none of us get good sleep because he thrashes and kicks and wakes constantly. 
We have tried taking him back to his bed, over and over. We went 6 straight nights of trying to be firm and consistent but his willpower has iron strength and it never once worked at all. He just stayed awake virtually all night for an entire week before we broke and just let him win. 6 straight days!!
I've talked to his Dr and give him melatonin. Last night he got 6mg of melatonin and didn't even sleep a solid hour before waking and coming to my room! 
The ultimate sticking point here is his little brother. His 3 year old brother is sleeping soundly in his own room all night long. And big brother knows if we try to ignore him or lock him out of our room he will just go straight to brother's room and wake him up so we have no choice but to intervene. 
He has the upper hand. He knows it. Every atom of my body is exhausted and miserable. 

Does anyone have ANY advice for me?",2.478388952819333,4.575149468354431,3.0999712313003482,92.02473245109323,77.52320675105486,5.8280782508630615,23.852896049098586,6.782984794422108,0.6807991561181437,932,31,194,9,22,291,140,237,0.094,0.821,0.085,0.2974,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,7,0,0,3,9,8,0,1,6,0,15,12,9,0,4,37,26,18,0,2,8,5,1,0,0,1,3,1,7,0,3,21,0,1,2,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,4,2,30,3,27,19,5,45,0,2,0,0,34,21,0,2,20,115,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643163650872148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406674144342182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615672974884817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837498241162461,0.0,0.0663942961232997,0.0,0.1853593046305239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209813293609675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382165022727308,0.0,0.11769970399052165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024192962347983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531328842966608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646741284817202,0.0,0.0,0.07193811370628363,0.0,0.18353316861231095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138084237752894,0.10448233025789497,0.06189957853533805,0.09135372940754756,0.08711022370742506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072605038139205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971497495284986,0.0887812285215197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137417958501293,0.07693072327698969,0.0,0.10916263178133148,0.0,0.09638739730633628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400287719050004,0.0,0.0,0.613262774822478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285784312755661,0.11599218355712683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296100068737364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042180806458308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32698453220221313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609016262331676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818914171608788,0.08754270471568043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218408227477951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310127613824686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736599476665317,0.0,0.0,0.10096639569962464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929228066659041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027690578242386
parenting,Dealingwitha4yo,2020/01/05,"4 year old is throwing tantrums and I can't handle it anymore. My 4 yo (4.5) has started to throw major tantrums when she does not get her way. We recently moved, and since then her behavior has gotten worse. She is generally shy, and has some trouble expressing her feelings with words unless I really press her. She started a new daycare and tells me she misses her old one. We've had long talks about how it *is* different, but different isn't always bad, and if she needs some extra help being comfortable she can tell a teacher she's feeling sad and we will help her with the situation. She is disciplined with time out, removal of the item she was occupied with for a short while, rest of the day without any screen time, depending on the situation and the severity of the action/non-action. 

The tantrums - she wants to eat candy at 9am. I say ""no, it is too early, you may have one after your nap (so 2pm ish)"" she will ask ""why"" a multitude of times then start fake crying and pushing herself onto me, stomp the ground, try to kick me or anything that is in her general vicinity, then because she's working herself up the real tears flow and she starts screaming ""I want it! I said please! Why can't I have it!”

This basically repeats whenever she does not get her way. At a restaurant, she will say she doesn't want the food she picked for herself, cue tantrum when I let her know she needs to eat because it's dinner. (I try to tell her she may not have anything else if she does not eat her food, I always get her input on what to eat when we are at home, so I'm not making food she doesn't like, has never had, etc. If I do I will offer her something I know she does like after she's tried the new food. Her other parent ALWAYS gives in because guilt of putting her to bed hungry.) She wants a snack right before dinner, tantrum. She doesn't want to go to bed, tantrum and asking to sleep with us. She doesn't want to go to care in the morning, tantrum. She saw a toy at the store, I remind her she just got a ton of toys for Christmas, we cannot buy *that* one today, she stood up in the cart and screamed at me and started bawling.

These tantrums have now spilled into care. She is not listening to the grown-ups in charge of her. She was taken into the office after not listening to her teacher because play time was over and they were going to read on the carpet. In the office she threw herself on the floor kicking and screaming and crying. They let her cry it out and ignored her until she was ready to join her class again. I was a bit embarrassed when they told me about this when I went to pick her up because they made an incident report. I tried to talk to her about it and her response was essentially ""I don't know why I did that.""

I went to visit family yesterday, and she had a melt down over not getting to do what she wanted. I was embarrassed but I tried to talk her through it. When we left my mom, who sometimes watches her on the weekends when we have to work, said a bit accusingly that daughter *never* does those tantrums while she is at her house. I told my mom this has been happening frequently and I wanted to see about taking her to a therapist to see if there is something more going on. Because she also regresses to baby talk after visiting my mom's, and she has started to do it more frequently at my home since the tantrums have started to become daily. As well as the inability to apologize outside of pretend play. (She's made me a treat and drops it onto the floor, she will say ""oops sorry!” She broke one of my cups, I let her know she was not in trouble but you should apologize even if it's an accident. She clams up and stares at the floor, then goes back to normal but will not acknowledge the situation again.) 

After I expressed all of these concerns to my mom she said two things. The first was that we need to get off our phones and spend time with her (this is BS to me. If we're not at work were with our child, doing normal day to day things. My mom saw me on my phone while we drove for almost an hour and daughter was asleep in the back seat) the second was that her behavior is normal because she's only 4. I really don't think this is normal, to this degree, this wasn't her behavior a year ago. If she was having tantrums only once in a while, I would agree, but it's almost daily at this point. I don't want to have to put her in therapy if I don't need to, but she's honestly wearing me down. I don't know how to handle her outbursts, the defiance in every single situation. She won't tell me if she's upset about something until she's almost crying while I ask her yes or no questions about her feelings. Is this actually normal, and I just don't know how to be a parent? 


Tl;dr: 4 year old is throwing tantrums daily over everything and I don't know what to do to improve the situation and help make the tantrums stop.",3.821838798208869,4.809955725985848,4.726816264625164,86.33818048533873,71.61880687563195,7.673673263036256,26.66648851653907,7.957251820313856,1.4532425422504691,3819,124,798,50,70,1241,352,989,0.125,0.802,0.073,-0.995,4,0,3,0,0,0,117.0,11,3,4,4,31,38,13,4,50,1,86,14,3,10,3,138,159,71,0,29,32,9,4,2,0,11,0,11,5,1,38,46,11,3,13,8,3,19,33,28,1,7,37,22,160,10,126,106,14,140,0,3,7,0,154,52,0,20,68,570,198,6,0.0,0.0,0.042774394490971736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03885504586548743,0.0,0.13167635916582154,0.0,0.0,0.035052996184381395,0.10941695900763722,0.0,0.0,0.029807740644087283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04347026247246291,0.0,0.0,0.07214115839151955,0.0,0.12293297898169896,0.0,0.0,0.0674092848583581,0.036598475518312745,0.18704005932558426,0.04840977591793919,0.037298401217067005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570791665896533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938072256069016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925926609583575,0.08480540036271056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159168915426416,0.0,0.0,0.19179146578338496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794071891520374,0.03661659827314556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488850497040708,0.02895108646597828,0.0,0.0369309421676278,0.0,0.039394006468604234,0.0,0.041321570707686266,0.0,0.06648939390833615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037284074175276224,0.21201071038873054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450388909027312,0.04204832211494309,0.09964453934396966,0.0,0.035057016214258746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038761113874647424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814040917229189,0.0,0.0879355485923889,0.0,0.04316638232939884,0.050577053350514385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686251479777646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762435929000888,0.13446572354154426,0.0,0.042828888526412534,0.0,0.0,0.03879056219127135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829511254729528,0.05851733828915037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566816557867977,0.0,0.04658722568421822,0.0,0.13000557338125246,0.0676129644116786,0.08466779401959731,0.0,0.0,0.21473370839774825,0.0,0.0,0.13798514279514448,0.04668039739338733,0.11880869388174622,0.06667349053634954,0.0,0.0,0.09734205728321284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811514440012153,0.04143607164477869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812794494857798,0.04910265814911776,0.0,0.04384456404098228,0.049891211404922434,0.05616070297394425,0.0,0.043279505494013285,0.0,0.0,0.03743288825718959,0.1250848123946602,0.1045725725287389,0.0,0.0,0.06985797737084655,0.0,0.0,0.04951847710416495,0.0,0.07251772857660355,0.2463489694566624,0.04386435774261367,0.0,0.0,0.10123366708299726,0.04335166336334796,0.04906712157660542,0.2171750860020034,0.0,0.0,0.036646101812284185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032956737074397495,0.14092426298733438,0.15324685522139805,0.0,0.05012651512562261,0.050893145763034636,0.05824099943146339,0.028086225739995373,0.0,0.0,0.1277960059905341,0.0,0.04154827654684122,0.08376805089310588,0.0,0.14879763800122606,0.0,0.04281818099583415,0.0,0.052725343875664105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326829712871201,0.0695847176656839,0.0,0.0,0.03941086345394396,0.08126670832634543,0.11865658822597296,0.0,0.0,0.04225316083319288,0.0,0.09573218793458142,0.0,0.04466926836525005,0.0311374940846049,0.0,0.0,0.08468046948801444
parenting,ChainedRuinedSoul,2020/01/05,13 year old daughter bringing her first boyfriend home tonight... So as her father I feel obligated to how do I put this gently I feel obligated to put the fear of God in this boy so he knows to treat my daughter right. I mean it's a right of passage for a Dad I think and every boy to have to meet the Dad I just don't want to scare the boy too much but I want him to understand my little girl is to be respected. So I'm looking for ideas.,0.6827083333333306,2.3723576875000028,2.705416666666668,94.66458333333335,81.5,5.933333333333334,22.125,6.937597516519254,0.3736750000000004,342,11,83,4,9,115,62,96,0.049,0.825,0.126,0.7947,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,2,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,13,16,7,0,2,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,7,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,3,12,2,14,15,1,11,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,0,4,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920316823521815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393389473078477,0.21508811388800808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091670086833173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213348590414127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401046986613841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689060325693873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317443180455087,0.0,0.0,0.1786086937882122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316852141433348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635395197987015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318570198798326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276307621170687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36327760832288297,0.0,0.0,0.21294296675853647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628519449981855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22142108992133794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25090388349255943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696742739479598
parenting,watergator,2020/01/05,"11 year old replies to everything with “I know” and I don’t know how to help him stop We have an 11 year old boy and anytime that we tell him something he replies with “I know” even if it’s something we know for sure that he didn’t know (telling him plans for the weekend or what time we are leaving to go somewhere that hasn’t been told to him before). I’ve recently caught myself replying to him with sarcasm (“Please don’t do that” “I know” “Then why were you doing it” or “Here’s what we’re doing” “I know” “Well I didn’t know until just now so how did you know?”) and I know that’s not helping the situation so I’m looking for other advice on curbing it.

We are thinking of starting a “swear jar” type system where a penny goes in every time he says “I know” in a place that here a yes, no, or ok would be appropriate and certain numbers of that per week result in different chores. This would be our first time trying this so I wanted to see if anyone had any tips or other methods we should try. 

Beyond being annoying to us, this really bugs his teachers and even his friends so we’ve let it get to be too bad which is our fault but we’d like to fix it",1.4984062850729531,3.249344304526752,2.99427048260382,93.26830808080808,79.20576131687244,5.735054246165358,22.156565656565647,6.574015621080383,0.3316765432098765,898,27,202,8,22,294,136,243,0.057,0.8759999999999999,0.067,0.4949,1,0,3,0,0,0,12.0,10,2,0,2,16,9,1,0,7,2,25,0,0,3,2,46,46,20,0,6,9,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,1,1,20,14,0,2,12,1,0,2,7,3,1,1,8,3,29,6,23,29,0,26,0,0,2,0,30,7,0,6,17,134,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716409240811636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457646414898919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766808356238771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156631258936143,0.0,0.0,0.09331746791519982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457735767560215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486637465644972,0.0,0.09239811622887334,0.0,0.0985604962875196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932816228596745,0.0,0.0,0.08472747908460733,0.0,0.057295823132803986,0.0,0.06232556758291366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701326842582052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6629636527844981,0.0,0.0,0.11612018472296773,0.0,0.11214064975829284,0.0,0.05357714138533061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209160201045588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301514938155609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457735767560215,0.12038005108216328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702546815259743,0.0,0.10828168858549506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721059851840895,0.0,0.0,0.0873893967195272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326888715377687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688520896642422,0.0,0.0,0.07762197558330612,0.0,0.0,0.0916854695777196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335866259508524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917053818473647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702693784137801,0.0,0.0,0.19184092560925267,0.0,0.0,0.10479031468457847,0.0,0.14891167832344773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191438305360334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468369509737586,0.0,0.0879672421060013,0.0,0.0986026710493662,0.0,0.09895627340042346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580679119673713,0.0,0.0,0.1412422827188273
parenting,madman54218374125,2020/01/05,"We are adopting 2 teenagers, never been parents before. Help, advice, etc? We are technically becoming legal guardian to two teenage boys from another country (we are in the U.S.). They are family members who were in a bad situation that we could not allow them continue to be in while we could help. 
Mom has to stay in the other country because of citizenship issues, but regardless we will be essentially parenting a 16yo and 15yo. Any pointers, ideas etc?",6.544074074074075,8.503170506172843,7.010802469135804,68.84361111111113,66.16049382716051,10.338271604938267,36.95679012345679,10.504223727775694,4.512323456790123,365,19,57,10,6,119,61,81,0.044000000000000004,0.8909999999999999,0.065,0.1845,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,6,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,1,15,12,3,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,8,0,9,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,3,44,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835074865355323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770452474481786,0.19691555358164392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679789281104348,0.11447583445627248,0.2074007386343069,0.15979656620207178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998721472645233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4188738834067589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703292617655034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517451020203164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119935215016386,0.0,0.19600532918721789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199389028129384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448362287816412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170400337102159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21108529117639896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001605411071581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834448145466956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bezerkley14,2020/01/05,"Purple pony poop We’re working on ‘sleep training’ with our littles (2 and 4). The struggle right now is wake up time and their ability to be kind to be kind in the morning. This morning, I heard them emerge from their room together, chatting happily. I checked the time and they had waited for their visual alarm clock to turn green, YES!  They turn on lights and begin to play nicely together. It’s a bit bright and a bit loud, but I’m happy because I’m still in bed and they’re not trying to kill each other. At about 6:30 (45 mins after wake up) my 2yo comes into our room. She’s muttering something about poop. I sit up happily and ask if she needs her diaper changed. 
“My pony has poop”
?????
It turns out she had taken the initiative to rid herself of her poopy diaper, and for some reason, one of her favorite My Little Pony toys was tromped through it. On the bright side, it was a nice solid poop, firmly lodged between all four of her purple pony legs, but as it turns out, a purple pony has gotta run. 
Baby and pony went straight to the shower while I began to clean, finding more ponies and a dragon who also were ‘blessed’. And the floor. And the coffee table. And the entertainment system...  and I do t know if you’re familiar, but ponies have a nice little hole in their hoof, perfect for collection. Fun. 
Happy Sunday y’all!",2.70653944020356,4.8063351946564925,3.485057251908397,89.52023218829521,76.82442748091603,6.198727735368958,22.36704834605598,7.1686216300943375,0.7256101781170483,1039,30,208,12,24,329,156,262,0.011000000000000001,0.738,0.251,0.9971,1,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,2,1,7,2,5,17,1,2,15,1,12,8,8,1,2,34,29,22,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,8,20,0,1,3,4,1,3,1,3,0,2,9,9,26,14,35,17,6,38,1,0,6,0,22,22,0,3,11,126,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587930609422007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377504471811945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070910518725019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28909048887780625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006041935118305,0.11404987896809783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210101429592563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818820584608864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647970212657174,0.2757460396715884,0.07276294102143414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980952662527607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817206370593694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897168818322363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612806054783078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306788763294577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249445883675828,0.0,0.0,0.10192709697568274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573388622898636,0.0,0.0,0.13841201650439114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544056589595562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989012281380136,0.576047683143516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273505295944905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963879338214868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,superdownvotemaster,2020/01/05,Just had a epiphany: everything you swore you’d never need to know that they taught you in school becomes invaluable info once your kid(s) enter the “why” phase of questioning. The amount of trivia and oddball crap that comes out of my mouth on a daily basis to satisfy their curiosity is unmeasurable. And most of it comes from my time in school and was what I considered useless knowledge at the time.,8.442162162162163,8.344096054054056,7.570945945945947,73.73317567567568,61.43243243243244,11.183783783783785,34.71621621621622,10.686352973137794,3.633064864864865,324,12,57,7,4,100,57,74,0.09,0.871,0.04,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,5,0,4,2,2,0,1,14,9,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,12,5,2,11,0,1,0,0,7,5,1,2,3,39,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841898101970482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4433169260665183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312626945473065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414163856947386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079957778778625,0.19846110789261326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740374856854795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882573784936116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5208433144042641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000908142847425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321913473546472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,halesfyeah,2020/01/05,"Expecting #2 and worried about first baby being too rough with lil sister. My second baby will be here at the end of June and big bro will be on the young side of 3. I have tried everything to get him to stop hitting, kicking, biting, throwing, and spitting. I get it, he’s 2 1/2 and has no impulse control. He’s not being spiteful about it. He’s not doing it bc he thinks it’s funny (I think? I hope?) He’s just doing it because he does the first thing that comes to his mind the second that he thinks it. We’ve read hands are not for hitting. We talk about what other choices to make instead. I’ve never spanked. Other than this, he is the easiest baby ever. He just plays wayyyy too hard. 

Wtf am I going to do with a soft newborn who demands to be on the breast all day? Babywearing can only take me so far. I don’t want to quarantine him and make him resent the new baby, but he can’t randomly decide to throw his truck at the baby either. The best I’ve come up with is to send him to pre-k but school doesn’t start for 6 weeks after baby arrives and it’s not boarding school. He’s still gonna be around a fresh, teeny newborn. 

Example:  When he was almost 2, he held a 4 month old and everything went great.... til he smashed that baby in the head with a toddler guitar. He was just playing too hard and it was an accident. The baby was fine, but it left a big ol’ bruise on his head. I don’t know how, but this mom is still friends with me.",1.1020372050816718,2.961967697368422,2.8989337568058104,92.94960526315792,80.90789473684211,5.377313974591652,20.68012704174229,6.311591054244273,0.12705934664246854,1116,31,246,9,29,371,165,304,0.052000000000000005,0.86,0.08800000000000001,0.9131,0,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,1,0,0,4,18,9,2,0,17,0,27,5,5,4,3,49,47,16,0,3,12,3,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,19,17,0,3,5,4,0,7,10,2,0,4,6,5,18,7,33,30,3,39,0,0,0,1,32,13,0,3,19,153,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492474862852974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994903503691448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213753288043367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414035199064326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232136774705104,0.0,0.0,0.15112472130994084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689750687798914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179137187898676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934150608347932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218819426183507,0.0,0.0,0.2421950206059498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292231210438426,0.0,0.0,0.10410141139571913,0.0,0.1407943708380199,0.0,0.07657703995821252,0.0,0.0,0.14855363975832678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241404909202442,0.0,0.27656853320962305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382930696436007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405073376490906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463976847440155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988279465863966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605110927065708,0.1578083177754411,0.10754985785610044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392141328634992,0.1301347587835437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138916677261162,0.0,0.0,0.10247743795233934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347785620615606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272732395321131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537115114067206,0.0,0.21521042852749528,0.11265042806229165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130928953875176,0.10830059518475604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951666333212492,0.2590118890520613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148104047387204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794743809998533,0.0,0.10808198424833508,0.0,0.0,0.12490727563698795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683714200662775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lmalon58,2020/01/05,"Sleep help!!! Hi! Our house is having some serious sleep issues and I’m not sure what to do! 

Last week we decided to take the front off the crib for my 2.5 year old because she was starting to fight going into the crib. She wasn’t trying to escape or anything, but we’d leave her in the crib and she’d scream that she was scared and get really worked up. She also started begging to sleep on the floor, which was new. Since birth, she has always been our “good sleeper.” We would put her in the crib awake and she would read her books and fall asleep on her own. Now it’s taking at least an hour to get her asleep and we have to hold her and cuddle her and comfort her. And if she isn’t sound asleep, she won’t stay in her bed. We don’t know why this started, but it was happening even with the front of the crib on, and we thought making it a “big girl bed” would help....but it seems to have made things worse 

My 14 month old has always been a bad sleeper. She still wakes up 1-2 times a night to nurse, and will only fall asleep if I’m the one who puts her down. But now she is nursing, but not falling asleep from it. I tried to just rock her, or read to her, or walk around with her....and nothing works. We tried sleep training her with a soft cry it out method, and it only made her more upset. When we would leave her to cry it out, her crying would wake her up so much that then she would be jumping in the bed, trying to climb out, etc. Lately we have been spending an extended time trying to find a new way to get her to fall asleep, since the breast isn’t doing it anymore, and she will finally fall asleep after a lot of crying and a lot of attempts- and then she wakes up 2 hours later and will be up for 3-4 hours. Last night we started her bedtime at 730. She fell asleep at 830. She woke up again at 1030. And then she wouldn’t go back down again until 2am. What is going on!!’ What do we do??

I’m so sorry for bad formatting, or rambling. I’m so exhausted I’m just kind of typing and venting...",2.321777941176471,3.3326006682352967,3.1943933823529416,95.81570772058822,75.25882352941177,6.159558823529411,20.104779411764707,6.158741222570753,-0.1987279411764713,1544,29,369,9,32,490,189,425,0.127,0.846,0.027000000000000003,-0.993,0,0,1,0,1,0,60.0,13,0,0,4,15,12,1,2,20,0,39,18,16,3,1,70,64,37,0,9,14,0,1,0,0,11,1,2,3,1,18,36,0,1,5,4,1,16,8,8,0,1,12,3,52,4,54,37,8,81,0,0,0,2,54,27,0,10,36,237,70,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619382269355433,0.12889230927106407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768114362551047,0.0,0.0,0.06373628400184883,0.06894857890427117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059555701902880724,0.12933814103789631,0.04721393686131675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403089390080169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637930082778987,0.051156225109204465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484473020486427,0.07078959971123303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121396205280204,0.0,0.1320530360295801,0.06496294808644185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849042674737384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382870243652284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288234509804357,0.08936905112696361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083962244679534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065419680101454,0.04256551841653188,0.12626721157193416,0.08736907513835161,0.16402067970563572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169360859932078,0.0,0.14657365113889334,0.05169972004037002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182133818961021,0.0,0.056936031101384885,0.0,0.0,0.14960698402307496,0.0,0.1453666535656085,0.0,0.07431715152922251,0.0,0.16254540302771808,0.0,0.052483386904041335,0.1178112639987467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572102951987415,0.0,0.0,0.1549456453408876,0.0,0.04961764676780637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775428265461824,0.0,0.0,0.07050926727435151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281379630374975,0.0,0.3100311916222928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670101965890806,0.2192833093685204,0.08255338076238453,0.06185315791737496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729974643631366,0.0,0.11646832409028715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145557630457503,0.0,0.0,0.061488127841420714,0.09032560844570146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629236548429279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147768383838227,0.06212721275150845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988825957776758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277175756272333,0.0,0.07893006539293553,0.3301174880466951,0.0,0.0,0.04987646047495355
parenting,singlemomof01,2020/01/05,Single useless mom Hello I am a single mom here for advice! I am behind a small amount on my bill and my electricity is disconnected!  My child and I have been sleeping in my truck for the past week. We’ve barely been able to eat! Any tips on what I can do? She only two and I can not keep taking her through this I don’t receive another check until Thursday. 😞,0.02960000000000207,2.3624650933333378,2.439000000000004,90.9345,91.4,4.6000000000000005,18.166666666666664,6.2581,-0.035933333333333366,282,8,59,3,10,96,56,75,0.055,0.945,0.0,-0.5684,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,10,2,1,0,0,5,12,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,12,0,9,10,3,9,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,0,4,44,14,0,0.2540425400179332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24824742992765644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275763870208838,0.26638575358591443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599489402279885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22580468211757326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5950631050014255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19321079927892126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425123499596923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25422600650213234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910083741092891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24816264777271066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20377760199259448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,granite603,2020/01/05,"Slim Fit Car Seats for 3-across situation Hi Guys. Baby #3 is on it’s way and my wife and I are rethinking our car seat set up. We’re gonna need to do 3-across in the back seat. Baby #3 is obviously the infant and the other two will be in high back boosters. I was ready to go with two of the Graco Tranzistions but I’d prefer a seat with the push button LATCH system as opposed to the clip. So, any suggestions? Here’s the list of features I’m looking for. If there’s one that has all these then that would be awesome. 

- High-back booster with harness
- Slim-fit Profile (need to fit three across)
- Push-button LATCH as opposed to clip

Thanks!",3.169007633587788,4.47257311450382,3.931213740458016,90.21025572519085,73.58015267175573,6.461374045801527,25.31374045801527,6.742157984588678,0.7944039694656486,502,16,108,4,10,160,86,131,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.948,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,0,2,17,17,9,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,1,1,4,1,19,11,1,18,0,0,1,0,6,8,0,1,3,62,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450537306089638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4920517977094697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212253248177798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112040531210727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4507338300882264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912126274430826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163237637510902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454000793032398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397621307702219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963812534724781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167331543504686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16931043199983506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152472415524748,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The_Real_Raw_Gary,2020/01/05,"2 year old issues with dragging us around questions. So I have a 2 year old (2 years 6 months) boy and he was diagnosed with mild autism. Most people don’t notice but if you spend enough time with him you can sort of see where they got that from. Anyway, one thing we cannot break him Of is not being able to go do stuff without us. Even in the same room. He will demand us to get up and sit in certain places. 

For the most part we don’t let him train us like dogs. But there are times where what he says and what I’m already going to do line up so I wonder if he thinks it’s working those times. 

Example: he got a soccer ball for Christmas and was having fun kicking it around the house. He kicks it away from him and it rolls off. He takes a few steps and looks back at me with his hand out and goes “come”. I always say something like “it’s ok buddy you can get it”

Then he says it louder and each time he gets more upset till he breaks and throws the longest tantrums in the world.

For the most part I’ve been trying to just let him go through it and hopefully he will understand he is allowed and can go to the other side of the room without us. We’ve never discouraged him from doing his own thing this is how he’s always been.

However, my issue is the autism. All of his workers are telling me it’s better in his case to work with him rather than try and hammer in a new thing. Feels like I’m just at the whim of a toddler and it’s not convenient or easy ever. 

I’d like to be able to get things done in the house without him breaking down Everytime I won’t drop a task or immediately follow him in circles around the house. 

I’m just torn between what I think I should do vs what his specialists tell me is best for children with autism. He is my first child so I don’t have any knowledge to fall back on like “oh well this worked for my first kid so I’ll do it again”. I just feel like he’s capable of understand this concept. We’ve been told he probably can’t do certain things only for him to accept them after a period of time and do great. So I wonder if appeasing him is only hurting him and us vs just doing it and being “the bad guy” for a while. 

Thanks for any and all help.",1.4061013824884796,3.1241847053763467,2.7102227342549945,95.35104838709677,79.36559139784946,5.71889400921659,19.673579109062977,6.5431188927421005,-0.06873886328725033,1708,40,396,15,42,551,221,465,0.051,0.7929999999999999,0.156,0.995,2,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,8,3,2,8,25,22,1,1,21,1,43,2,1,2,6,78,72,33,0,6,20,0,3,6,0,4,1,3,2,5,28,31,0,1,11,2,1,9,12,5,1,3,9,8,45,17,61,54,14,64,0,2,2,0,59,26,0,13,30,266,73,4,0.13629044385047034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519994693278644,0.0,0.11340456728341153,0.0,0.0,0.09268217541678153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819910854184779,0.0,0.0,0.0640246792022907,0.10479893861397772,0.05689841387974999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151420618444404,0.06026891103014996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058701074698273625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916596580846121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697362215452211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041223061482202,0.0,0.045009276388723284,0.06164125461895801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891254348043853,0.09736592031889438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159285819152046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241226346249095,0.0,0.15491400010946674,0.0,0.10900391831621073,0.07513034774633869,0.0,0.06747448348251188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04567630581685659,0.0,0.0,0.06768358141369803,0.0,0.23589131024726626,0.07295086948396758,0.0,0.0,0.14225181401092765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936621279718892,0.0,0.19975387970732408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05722482360449365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439286599738265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05255779616841609,0.06581507997514759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758378682537008,0.14301389430070782,0.0,0.04617696598874459,0.10365502403089444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758926928326194,0.0,0.047243316599327886,0.0,0.07119725294072833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347207493501479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633824432294778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257544687163694,0.0,0.0,0.054302919082787546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524615211123667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800997550289099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123672611026884,0.0,0.1191238551697906,0.06273896474944883,0.0,0.0,0.2263632872333408,0.08732941325245766,0.0,0.0,0.19868013456981395,0.0,0.0,0.06511567984889159,0.0,0.09253226503477366,0.0,0.0,0.14188315858899736,0.4918218688571183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127073842293735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970686865040343,0.14780117259473918,0.14883159950174174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164986607296567
parenting,lilik02,2020/01/05,"Family Somehow other people thinking I am very rich , because have 4 children, and they use everything good . But they know ?? A lot people donation to me the clothing, so my kids always use second hand clothes, never buy new one and they never complain.  Because my kids knew how stressful struggling the mom work and effort everything for rent and food .mom money always not enough. The short story ..one day my kids home and tell me the friend in school told her like slut because her use clothes and everyday her use .why ?? I think my kids is use normal clothes never show her part body and use sweatpants all the time .why they say that ?? Yeah we not have money for enough buy and always use second hand clothes!! I think is still normal but why ??kids right now like bully other ?? Because my kids all the time depressed and all the time say want kill her self because a lot friend talk bad about her !! And school not fix all the time just say this part for growing up !!",3.952356557377051,6.159904655737705,3.5077834699453554,90.28495389344265,73.48087431693989,5.6678961748633885,24.005806010928964,6.322622252153567,0.6230330601092899,764,23,144,5,16,227,97,183,0.121,0.748,0.131,-0.8743,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,4,2,7,13,1,2,10,1,5,5,3,8,7,43,19,14,1,3,6,2,2,2,2,0,0,3,2,8,4,11,1,0,5,1,7,1,6,7,0,4,2,5,21,6,7,17,10,17,0,1,0,1,30,4,0,3,14,85,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216013508475812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225356264036759,0.2637563148142025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612147867134044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055808265422445,0.0,0.07453293517454875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788286937533313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554512988444627,0.0,0.08157800715038721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463912039065708,0.0,0.13371428955219006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258190663945573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680220389720998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573875546842248,0.0,0.047557670561037005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455378908916733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471388458487132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20269876088958655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022463327642115,0.08357656531015455,0.0,0.0,0.16957291505709596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172774450852422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874191174422085,0.0,0.1199856974031788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390087970050556,0.0,0.20644960787749095,0.0,0.17515717601371414,0.0,0.0,0.09027544258460464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910739530078977,0.0,0.09912617052472353,0.09046573695620133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695539904265145,0.07563587756297542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634544270737558,0.0,0.0,0.20183828081922334,0.0,0.0,0.08268841839379378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.523172466000985,0.0,0.07140088455146097,0.05104090449167751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23425459964275824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629989049149481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seandowneyjr,2020/01/05,"Seperation and kids Hey guys I got a 1 year old with my fiancé who is gearing up to leave me and said she’s all but checked out on me but will try counselling. I guess my question is to separated parents however any one plz weigh in. How hard was it for your baby and what can I expect. He’s 1 and they said he’s starting to develop a bit of an attitude at daycare. I didn’t plan on this but his mother doesn’t seem to want to be with me any more...furthermore we’re common law, do I owe her anything as the house and most of the stuff is in my name/I own...I’m scared to death of this and I’ve been super depressed...ok thanks fellow humans ❤️",1.1805319148936169,2.57336614893617,3.2194503546099327,92.90875,79.0,6.402127659574468,22.388297872340427,7.1686216300943375,0.5330042553191494,501,15,119,6,12,170,102,141,0.087,0.8240000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.0516,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,1,2,1,3,0,1,5,0,11,1,0,1,1,21,20,11,1,2,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,6,9,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,6,3,16,2,20,12,3,11,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,4,4,71,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28243724362664824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088975453911098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22671527252912704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608784858194242,0.0,0.22876527699994975,0.2056199808024989,0.0,0.0,0.1860261292246901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396163417691101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21988616165182429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21790840539167497,0.0,0.14071848156620884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23058626512733954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326311743645919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950719831931989,0.0,0.2079078628801388,0.0,0.0,0.1890494804638592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469856279643765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377255643530081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118908454769964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099020531956508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248559085874144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372878920266582
parenting,otburneracc,2020/01/05,"How to ""toughen"" up my kid? My son is 11 years old now and I love him more than anything. He's the reason I work as hard as I do. I was in prison for the first year and a half of his life and since I came out I've been working almost 12 hours a day everyday just to make sure his life is nothing like the one I had when I was his age.

My wife's uncle (who is quite wealthy) very kindly allowed my wife and son to stay in one of his spare houses and since my release I've been living here with them as well. It's a very nice neighbourhood just outside of London and has excellent schools and extracurricular activities for my son.

He's a very sporty and active kid like I was. He plays football, basketball, rugby and takes part in all the athletics competitions at school. Watching him grow up and be happy makes me happy but I do have a slight concern.

My son got into a fight at school recently. Me and my wife were called in and found that my son had a bloody nose and a black eye. There's a bully at the school who attacked him and he couldn't defend himself.

Growing up I got into a lot of fights at school, it was a rough school in a rough area. My mistake was assuming that I could shelter him from the kind of stuff I had to deal with as a kid. I realised that sheltering him has made him a bit soft. I know not every kid is supposed to fight and be aggressive and I'm happy that he doesn't get himself into trouble but seeing him after he got beat up by the bully just shattered my heart and I couldn't help but feel partially responsible for not teaching him how to defend himself.

I've suggested to my wife that he take up some form of martial arts or something like boxing but she disagrees and my son doesn't seem interested in that kind of thing at all when I mention it. I was just wondering outside of taking up martial arts is there anyway I could ""toughen"" up my son? Not just physically, I want to make sure he can defend himself in a fight but also mentally as I'm aware of how children these days especially teens and pre-teens are not as mentally strong as they were before the social media era.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Do you recommend I make my son take a few fight classes even if he does not want to? I want him to be himself and happy but I want to make sure he's already prepared for how tough the world can be. Thank you in advance for any help.",3.3782769889565003,4.4608142555780965,4.542719743069643,86.88483462925402,72.77281947261662,7.425039441063782,26.270509353166556,7.793537801064563,1.3280376831192249,1880,62,401,24,36,618,217,493,0.155,0.752,0.09300000000000001,-0.9832,1,0,1,0,5,0,34.0,0,2,2,8,19,31,7,0,26,0,39,6,3,12,5,80,68,42,0,10,18,12,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,5,14,27,0,0,7,3,0,4,9,10,1,4,20,10,62,21,63,40,9,47,0,0,4,1,65,27,0,8,18,268,76,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615356937029409,0.0,0.08392359482450246,0.06081754067643205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05171693368403301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05317626326281172,0.0,0.06258306439544943,0.0,0.0,0.08651839900327568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471335634913823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830274262982509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765604213540189,0.08698148803511484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144023858792248,0.0,0.0,0.09809253506719934,0.07840470460796724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665522867735387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05023062420998032,0.0,0.06407580868934218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03845340730457837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468849868954471,0.0,0.0833854249879151,0.0,0.0,0.03973323647272263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824735464885892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238285967070048,0.06812629145558573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012018392664636,0.1019500661584283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489440273132422,0.0877520421723478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375846131231023,0.0417953544328099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074334049654382,0.11146326792067787,0.0,0.0671539663728231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465539775743226,0.06863852661525187,0.07196080216753313,0.25382142677311803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328199137988005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297248580894347,0.0,0.0798021847694547,0.0,0.1030675457079245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235525782247988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088904578322781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819255872534897,0.07509067333339194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4618028700678829,0.060602385570363584,0.0692334999351185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581948442499102,0.08548392492167832,0.0,0.0775238862007454,0.0,0.05854737431725215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810596919042927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870596036753267,0.0,0.0,0.21503002965203544,0.0,0.2287219827990311,0.0,0.0,0.07001706347010568,0.0,0.0,0.05052455906090742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882488297748564,0.17942617194111313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837851402475899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824735005100065,0.11073130911320778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979480302814818
parenting,WorldTraveller19,2020/01/05,"Car Seat Base Question Hello r/Parenting,

Can someone clear up for me if a car seat base (along of course with the car seat) is really needed when transporting an infant in a car? My wife and I do not own a car and do not plan to have one in the near term (we live downtown in a city and use the public transport). However, for getting the baby home from the hospital (via a taxi) do we need car seat base along with the car seat itself?

It sounds like the base is a long term thing if you have your own car to make it easier to use the car seat, but still not completely clear to us if really needed or not.",6.54695538057743,4.5151522125984265,7.066574803149607,82.09886482939635,66.24409448818898,10.986351706036746,29.04068241469816,9.725611199111238,2.149184776902887,469,10,107,8,6,155,72,127,0.0,0.9259999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.8025,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,15,0,8,0,0,3,2,27,15,9,0,6,9,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,9,0,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,0,1,0,1,8,1,17,15,4,21,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,5,6,69,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23219347779448296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570215549915655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221394530346242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819271641141087,0.0,0.19555061075851735,0.19598249868245912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478242841339258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4926227349117326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006501180191378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24590181909696454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480825513320387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837420824767962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763981901373514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685586659693595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471262073756475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663855343393227,0.3825355322539877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KiddisThyName,2020/01/05,"3 year old is terrified of anything and everything that isn't her cartoons. Have my daughter for alternating weekends.

Maybe 3 weeks ago she started to be TERRIFIED of anything that she's not familiar with. If it's not peppa pig, Simon, or another of her cartoons that she really likes, she will start crying and run away begging me to turn whatever it is off saying its scary.

It's anything. From a YouTube video on my phone to even a children's movie on TV. It was impossible to watch a children's Christmas movie because she said it was scary (when nothing happened).

I have no clue what to do. I read that I shouldn't accommodate her, but she will stay upstairs crying and sometimes screaming saying she can hear it, even if I have turned it off.

I have no clue how she got here. I never put anything genuinely scary in front of her (not even action movies).

Any suggestions?",4.600467032967032,6.3390850357142865,5.0428571428571445,81.92521978021979,70.66666666666666,8.026373626373626,31.37545787545788,8.617729084823388,2.5502622710622718,698,31,129,12,13,222,99,168,0.139,0.826,0.035,-0.9561,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,15,0,0,1,1,14,23,9,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,3,0,5,0,2,13,4,0,0,0,4,0,4,8,1,0,0,4,6,21,1,18,15,0,20,0,0,1,0,21,6,0,3,10,89,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024787054753434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999199629866877,0.15407280881157195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4836557028838258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804905953834795,0.0,0.0,0.08956942727438556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32279956713666635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911449937765175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320545463421788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751631243635655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993299659717136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560497266356133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717843899579319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761466331393513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133243371596376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098685984794496,0.0,0.1541822142267215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770896430054467,0.0,0.0,0.14697347472430528,0.0,0.0941294986001563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976760795019025,0.23369517113595725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532119862416734,0.0,0.2080008757653778,0.15661178723923175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31964337197268444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786136116231763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462049335850546
parenting,momoffourgirls4,2020/01/05,"Bad anxiety in a 16 yr old girl My 16 year old daughter has some problems of her own. She has really bad anxiety and panic attack problems. She has been on Lexapro for a year now and it has done a big difference but now she can’t take a shower in the morning without thinking she can’t breathe because of the steam. So I always have to go in her bathroom and calm her down almost every day. My husband gets really ticked off about this because he thinks she does it for attention etc. she definitely does not do that for attention. She has had a full blown panic attack in the shower before and it wasn’t for attention. 

My husband and I don’t really get along too well. He’s been in and out of the picture for years. Right now we’re not together he is just visiting for the holidays. He is very strict to the point when it comes to parenting. He believes that yelling, shaming and spanking does the job when it doesn’t. 

After my daughter got out of the shower I overheard a conversation today. my husband went into her room after she got dressed and instigated an argument about how you need to learn how to stand on your own two feet and you need to stop letting your mom (me) baby you because all you are is a baby. My daughter said I’m not trying to be a baby or anything I just need help sometimes. He said you need help all the f***ing time. He went on about how she has really bad anxiety in the shower and it needs to be taken care of and my daughter shouted YOU DONT DO ANYTHING TO HELP ME. My husband said I help you all the f***ing time im tired of it. And she said you make my anxiety worse with you always yelling at me. He said well someone has to teach you something. 

How do I take care of this argument? I can’t believe my husband would go in there and do that. He says he is really annoyed over her lately but that’s no excuse to make a kid feel bad about her anxiety.",2.9468202764976965,4.4962688701298745,4.2717302052785895,86.55662756598242,74.58441558441558,7.35735232509426,27.22454964390448,8.049812674583475,1.6787109342270623,1485,57,306,23,31,490,164,385,0.158,0.748,0.094,-0.9747,6,0,1,0,2,0,32.0,0,12,0,0,20,17,3,3,21,0,32,3,2,6,3,55,62,23,0,8,9,11,1,0,0,1,1,9,5,2,13,19,0,1,7,1,0,6,12,12,2,1,15,10,48,5,50,43,8,47,0,0,0,0,64,22,0,3,18,209,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760430773117406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637655423864405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904699833492697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498452386619688,0.0,0.0,0.17278573699686606,0.0,0.0,0.25362736828039073,0.13887720732877645,0.0,0.06461946302256079,0.17111705794286802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548520608920208,0.0,0.0,0.06541570351336473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048975105759976136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934127975128354,0.0,0.0,0.19936717596722905,0.07771312563172995,0.08900127456569835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469332621857227,0.0,0.0,0.06398284038773652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0383976148293653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793511741583453,0.0,0.08631705938365268,0.0,0.12147252906390105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20360429135306052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202837896061242,0.0,0.07535886785670844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566378184583291,0.0,0.0,0.07765393481279424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138126177977193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894017021348861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815432454110317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937279778869062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819877625357652,0.08432253482589355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717879751431477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532890964388134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432459804393183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485246175796605,0.3611823002895059,0.060390644667479176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434383133729878,0.05846242728240261,0.07510673691805643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634893546025861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419506376851367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097318746457071,0.0,0.0,0.08856260873463423,0.08728201581860906,0.07198237008457115,0.0,0.0,0.05155836793489625,0.0,0.07418247896072143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265856581984497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365586057605065,0.14079453494796365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320358178777528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738948698027069,0.053945694237817365,0.0,0.0,0.14670887459674692
parenting,SmileyRiley19,2020/01/05,"MIL says I am being too cautious with germs My baby is 4 months old (but 10 weeks corrected) and I said how I have stopped randoms from touching my baby when out and about because I dont know where their hands have been, what germs they carry plus it's a personal space issue. She then proceeded say how i am being over protective, that my baby needs to be exposed to germs. I agree eventually she does, but for the first 6 months I would like to prevent it. She is a shocking sleeper, the last thing I need is her being sick. What is everyones opinions?",3.3498383838383816,5.084009781818182,4.194848484848485,86.75671717171717,73.9090909090909,7.070707070707071,26.767676767676768,7.793537801064563,1.5242828282828276,436,16,87,6,9,140,78,110,0.111,0.831,0.057999999999999996,-0.6858,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,1,6,2,0,0,4,0,15,2,1,2,1,18,19,9,0,3,2,0,2,1,0,1,1,3,0,1,6,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,17,1,10,12,0,14,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,2,11,63,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068098484498345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20195661477001275,0.0,0.2704717469307899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205196137788653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19630084619555446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408737431431941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683032700416882,0.1881160188965672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274716142643187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368411842735988,0.0,0.0,0.3422400130536303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24216416698243526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150767712390805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952406456307985,0.36705009543278827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294191835639254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331958382451066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511732036302525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393906976159292,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TitaniumAsteRisk,2020/01/05,Vaccinations for 5 year old I have crohns and had a severe seizure when I had some vaccinations when I was younger. Due to the above my doctor had recommended that I wait until my son was a bit older to get him onto a good vaccination schedule to make sure he didn’t suffer things he didn’t need to yet. My son will begin kinder garden soon and I want to get his vaccinations done soon. My then pediatrician (for my son) has since retired. I want advice from people that might’ve had to do the same as me. Please let me know. TIA.,3.6573130841121504,4.9569481308411225,4.844941588785048,84.14909462616824,72.3644859813084,7.592990654205607,22.72079439252337,8.07648339933343,0.9385897196261688,418,10,89,6,8,138,71,107,0.055999999999999994,0.769,0.175,0.8759999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,1,1,11,23,7,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,9,0,15,2,12,12,3,14,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,1,13,59,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343398181270616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618107020028377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454559706119661,0.0,0.24540916419358025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505819341286125,0.0,0.0,0.2011414748173983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179345154219113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24522224635589365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007521584041154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25440079711687363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781627486736634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25164053551171256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625424468768432,0.0,0.0,0.26323966025194445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27091734321099004,0.0,0.19837353156420773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22601833926000905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931928599837467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828926183068637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442994990397638
parenting,SLVRVNS,2020/01/05,"I have a cold and am nursing!!! Unfortunately we have been infiltrated. Despite my efforts to stay away from all suck people somehow my toddler caught a cold. He has since passed it to me.. which I am worried about since I am nursing my 12 week old. I don’t want to pass it to my baby..

I’ve been sterilizing everything in the house, all toys, knobs, remotes, phones, etc. I am drinking allot of water and teas. I do not have a cough or sneeze... just a scratchy throat and minor congestion... I am trying to nip it in the bud!!!

Please give me all of your tips!!!

I wash our bedsheets daily when anyone on the house is sick (idk if it does anything but we rarely get sick)",1.1350626566416049,3.4975006015037597,2.5958195488721816,92.24435588972435,84.33834586466166,5.050426065162909,21.64862155388472,6.42735559955562,0.31284501253132824,512,17,109,5,15,166,89,133,0.069,0.899,0.032,-0.6826,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,3,1,0,1,4,1,1,0,7,0,14,9,1,0,3,16,19,7,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,3,2,18,0,13,16,5,11,0,0,0,0,8,4,1,4,3,72,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084003980829522,0.0,0.17752341637996374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268087841135304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887825313456005,0.0,0.0,0.21132851827292126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405905651326814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387985358502668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270748645193515,0.2069432196910042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4978357155002643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263672546512249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955665575712626,0.0,0.0,0.2368014321912787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569001444409001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299343053358644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646321537499438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724028193033507,0.0,0.17304170192119614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907936002039136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Al_In2U,2020/01/05,My children's grandmother told my (F11 & F13) that global warming is God's way of ending the world. Need help reassuring them that everything will be ok.  My ex-mother in law has a history of telling my children that if they don't do this or do that they will go to hell. Recently my daughter's spent the holidays with them and after weeks of my girls acting really anxious my oldest daughter finally said that her grandmother explained that global warming was God's way to end the world and that they must bring everyone they can into Christianity in order to be saved. I don't know what to tell my girls in order to make them feel better HELP.,8.508095238095237,7.05632965079365,8.426984126984127,72.04857142857144,62.01587301587301,11.89206349206349,36.079365079365076,10.864195022040775,3.7898507936507926,520,19,96,11,6,169,77,126,0.051,0.7829999999999999,0.166,0.9125,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,7,1,0,7,1,0,4,1,13,0,0,1,1,14,23,4,0,3,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,4,9,4,0,0,3,1,1,3,2,1,0,0,4,4,17,6,14,14,0,22,2,0,0,0,22,8,1,2,7,61,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289980826252633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387658065612435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869222638168412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374387465035048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20195437546961093,0.18994812195797534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686511845465492,0.0,0.0,0.2315240451387649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201153094623612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833274515879681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615265890325215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107804087992604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671365216126998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539648558267545,0.0,0.20868303391302592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104264015193152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694591507018868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20195437546961093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355202382907289,0.16953255169407372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bananafishlo,2020/01/05,"3 y/o conversation habilities I take care of my little niece (with my mom) since she was about 1 y/o, I've tried to expand her vocabulary in multiple languages to encourage her speaking, but she barely makes any sentences (more than the typical ""_____ water, please"", ""I'm hungry"" or ""I need to poo/pee"") she's turning 4 in June and I wanted to know if there's any advice you could give me to try to make a progress? Her pediatrician said it was normal for kids to take a little talking.

Thanks in advance, a worried aunt n tutor.",3.5024038461538467,4.933822124999999,5.364615384615386,79.75538461538463,72.94230769230771,7.892307692307693,27.42307692307693,8.472884824447931,1.956292307692308,407,15,80,7,8,140,78,104,0.039,0.8290000000000001,0.132,0.8457,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,2,0,12,16,4,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,13,3,15,12,1,7,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,1,42,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941184945255824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701776429461259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253692853318508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860587182602962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19056319454906887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917285251040333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981990023822685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652008536846259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23265649542526515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729646824546302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19463483626187736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21805806181784454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889616536448859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432534431723275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987201763553376,0.15966735646983074,0.0,0.18289024335759152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26974063946102306,0.21607417137063345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716892506153873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017387318491892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExplodingKnowledge,2020/01/05,"I’m About to Have My First Child Hello, I’m (far younger than I wished) and about to become a father. I’m stressed out of my mind so I’m looking for *any*advice that can be offered, including relationship or financial advice. I am currently in a committed relationship with the mother of my child (4+ years), we communicate extremely well and agree on nearly everything, although we have our disagreements.


I am not ready for this, and considering I haven’t started building towards a career or anything I’m concerned that this will put me in a box and make everything I want to do nearly unachievable.


Again, I’m just looking for any advice for the future. Thanks everyone.",5.204880000000003,7.280208728000003,5.9938,74.35390000000002,69.72,9.48,33.3,9.888512548439397,3.6994,541,26,91,14,10,177,80,125,0.062,0.8420000000000001,0.096,0.4848,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,0,1,6,3,0,1,6,0,9,0,0,1,1,17,22,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,2,12,2,20,20,0,15,0,0,2,0,11,8,0,2,6,64,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5241445666732477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158565307656614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713174610355453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746327943981246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084476975965676,0.3213759849146983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208158719856918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30028287613472904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934599265912525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805303805635736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973676483584794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839144316187994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655089916216505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480725244738684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646089545936187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545698836174336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075675203211556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20560360316930595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513709708793142
parenting,Wrong-Sundae,2020/01/05,"New sleep issue w/BF's 10yr old - advice needed. My boyfriend of 5yrs has a 10yr old daughter. Shared custody w/the mom, who married while back, producing a child w/the new spouse. They've been apart since the 10yr old was an infant. The routine's always been this: Summertime- BF gets his daughter from Fri night-Sun night. During the school yr, He gets a full weekend as previously described, w/alternating 'half' weekends, Fri night to late Sat afternoon. Full, half, full half. There have been no issues w/this arrangement.

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However, recently, my BF's job had mandatory OT from Nov 1-Dec 31, requiring him to work every other Sat. So, those 'half' weekends he had w/his child were set aside altogether for 2 months. He just had her every other weekend from Fri night-Sun evening.  The past few weekends his daughter has been here, she's been getting up repeatedly after bedtime, insisting she can't sleep. She exhausts a list of reasons (drink, bathroom, bathroom, stomach hurts, etc). Eventually it comes down to her not wanting to sleep alone, and she says she wants her sister. Her 6 yr old half sister shares a room w/her at her mom's, and BF's daughter has let it slip a few times that she lets the 6yr old share her bed.

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I'm guessing the disruption in routine suddenly made it weird for her to sleep alone here, perhaps coupled with getting a bit older and no longer sleeping like the dead the way small children do.

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What can we do to help her get to sleep without her half sister here? This has never happened before. There don't seem to be any new life stressors beyond that change in schedule for 2 months. She's completely fine being here until it's time for bed.

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He limits electronics during the day an don't allow them at all within 2hrs of bedtime. There's a bedtime routine in place about 45 min before bed that's never deviated from. She gets her PJ's, brushes teeth, & they read a chapter of Harry Potter together. Everything is peachy until he leaves so she can go to sleep. Then she's popping out every hour, well past midnight. This can't be healthy for a growing body.

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Any suggestions are welcome. Thank you.",4.668606886657101,6.799518382926832,4.596843615494978,83.5835868005739,71.26829268292683,6.969870875179341,29.619799139167863,7.724431198458867,1.984747489239597,1747,72,310,22,34,538,221,410,0.067,0.866,0.066,-0.3647,2,2,1,0,0,0,92.0,1,1,2,4,15,11,0,0,21,0,30,13,10,4,3,24,49,10,1,3,3,10,0,1,3,0,2,1,4,4,15,7,1,2,2,7,0,3,10,3,1,6,13,2,29,8,39,31,8,61,0,1,0,0,57,17,0,2,40,170,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052404201113496134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108389457998094,0.0,0.0,0.04462240051136795,0.4067378402501687,0.3909799086192001,0.07293711798003473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041236259914579514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126615540971968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854737274731171,0.059568095754035814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056730815397836074,0.046195368112255004,0.05622744431829421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593378413207286,0.0,0.034585319998224805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253456264395952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059808871130139475,0.035420477426190096,0.0,0.13555051948536853,0.0,0.0481969655435255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810902444711184,0.0,0.03047776083139238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059076769706537274,0.0,0.04742264718197476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03594540256823748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05281231406170294,0.0,0.057409379423509314,0.0,0.0,0.11194641574533386,0.05321704811218908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060494189066508615,0.05678381047995368,0.0,0.10967556447082133,0.037878710002582056,0.02619970205645521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05074366502176973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256158286867407,0.08560996473557059,0.0,0.0,0.03976413357268067,0.0827217134830498,0.15538140634138312,0.0,0.20130321422856465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813653551637029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238708987640106,0.0,0.0,0.05602935423386725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05364204181766212,0.0,0.0,0.0551380319235008,0.0529507156551393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04264676386734307,0.0,0.05427392283709407,0.0,0.048820488699018685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044361246529809134,0.0,0.3756638102489434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049373024028601234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625412873629371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632618126179403,0.04256703671866642,0.0,0.0,0.04821758937985031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516950246836519,0.0,0.03904148013790321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3909799086192001,0.0
parenting,kinghippo79,2020/01/05,"Can you be too attentive to your toddlers? When my 2 year old plays or does anything, my attention is always 100% focused on them. I don’t read, use my phone, do chores or do anything else. Are there any adverse development effects of doing this?",3.786063829787235,5.826049680851067,4.558457446808512,83.30875,73.46808510638297,7.253191489361702,30.89893617021277,8.07648339933343,2.303642553191489,193,9,36,3,4,62,41,47,0.052000000000000005,0.846,0.102,0.3527,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,0,6,9,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,3,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,24,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839104944398812,0.0,0.0,0.2320315916605177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5615664738125056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985914269986778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850335984856689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35803800865634244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34129805749328473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946921921974621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21972529834306
parenting,bojangleswagles,2020/01/05,"Helicopter Grandparents Has anyone dealt with helicopter grandparents? Essentially helicopter parents that are trying to parent parents as they parent while simultaneously parenting grandchildren? We are dealing with this (sigh, boomers) and it is becoming insufferable. Boundaries aren’t respected. Opinions are given when none are requested. When we are in the middle of parenting they interject. 

I’m losing my ever loving mind! Please tell me I’m not the only Millnnial/Xennial dealing with this. It’s so toxic!

Edit: My in-laws are the helicopter grandparents. The joke within the family is that my husband (an only child) never had to touch the ground because my MIL hovered with him constantly. She hovers over my children in the same way and has no problem telling us when we’re “parenting inappropriately” and stepping in to parent her grandchildren. 

I can’t find anything online about helicopter parents from the 80s/90s turning into helicopter grandparents. Please tell me I’m not alone in experiencing this slice of hell.",7.064588235294117,10.570548282352943,7.051176470588236,62.320294117647045,69.11764705882354,10.588235294117649,36.470588235294116,10.46071229359064,5.339882352941176,848,45,108,28,17,270,103,170,0.068,0.84,0.092,0.5242,14,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,2,1,6,7,1,0,9,0,13,1,0,0,2,19,19,9,0,1,2,10,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,10,0,0,1,1,0,1,7,3,1,0,2,2,16,3,19,17,2,18,1,1,0,1,27,9,1,1,7,79,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947517247128721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06040669758698085,0.0,0.07109255169582915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266324040760533,0.09541223273271326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335813720572916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813095505573945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814573703838608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144188330733479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895994182610179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664959375001896,0.0,0.0,0.07797138169659766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723042954883753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663017720977671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314087180849596,0.0,0.0,0.8633442897915552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966306984169695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266465880861303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22652900687961225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865391689115414,0.0939687583985982,0.0,0.0,0.10391791090511944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857327007475446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,updabumnobebes,2020/01/05,"Child Without A Filter We are at an awkward stage with my eight year old and his inability to filter his thoughts and mouth. 

Example - we were shopping today and someone walked past us, my son screamed out “omg ew! That person SMELLS!”. This quickly becomes a very awkward and embarrassing situation because I know rude remarks can hurt someone’s feelings and it’s like no matter what I do it just doesn’t sink in that some things are better left unsaid.

Any suggestions on how to combat this? Please 😔",4.741854838709678,7.070183763440863,4.8039650537634415,81.32594758064519,71.58064516129029,6.800537634408602,30.97983870967742,7.645422480735847,2.1932161290322583,402,18,69,5,8,125,75,93,0.218,0.6940000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.9104,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,1,3,8,1,3,3,0,6,1,1,1,0,17,9,6,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,8,9,0,0,3,1,1,1,3,6,0,1,2,3,9,2,8,7,1,12,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,1,6,45,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196218327116132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622068419677602,0.24679680784920435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763444831396693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298936947654055,0.15964167609715044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23922126014979145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280916244968125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24279269271069456,0.0,0.0,0.10917250464002973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344863348137555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133202702176623,0.0,0.19511886186301894,0.0,0.2452947534250644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25118124645693923,0.0,0.0,0.3786781530474783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845857549514124,0.0,0.0,0.17740428783009904,0.0,0.0,0.21181634967239255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26879790940002024,0.0,0.0,0.18437999015694645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154099046615655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439025428268882
parenting,FuzzyWuzzy44,2020/01/05,"Sleep away camp experiences We are considering sending our 7 year old (will be 8 by then) to sleep away camp this summer for the first time. (Registration is next week.) Would love to hear of any positive or negative experiences/outcomes of sending your kid or kids to camp. Child is an only child, if that is important.",6.142118644067796,7.406877067796612,6.562500000000004,74.28408898305086,66.45762711864407,10.645762711864409,31.69915254237288,10.686352973137794,3.4803525423728807,253,10,47,7,4,82,46,59,0.057,0.7959999999999999,0.147,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,7,3,2,0,0,5,9,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,9,6,0,12,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,3,8,29,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752606608258586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629068142057114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409770219210945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20954470681609128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776537216865943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22233998666297786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619954229628563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585022956098013,0.0,0.0,0.1873598491565775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930546988851992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364833886802833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760666025559406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499957322992776,0.0,0.0,0.15864096171908845
parenting,kimjiheyy,2020/01/05,"In-laws do not seem interested in new baby To start, my DS(5) is my child from a previous marriage. His bio dad’s extended family (grandparents etc) are relatively distant and not overly interested in having a relationship outside of once a year visits. Fine by me.  Onto my new in-laws...

I am pregnant (yay!) with another boy due in late February. This is my in-laws first biological grandchild. They love my son like their own flesh and blood though, so it’s really no difference in their eyes. 

My in-laws originally brought up coming down to help with the baby. I was 100% down for that but told everyone (my side of family included) that no one was allowed to visit for the first week or so, so that we could get settled as a family. It’s a hard and fast boundary I had with my first and will continue to have with subsequent children, barring catastrophic circumstances. They seemed fine with that. However, they have been bugging me non-stop about when they can have DS for an extended period of time immediately after the new baby is born. They keep saying “it will help you out!” But expect US to meet them somewhere halfway. They live 7hrs away, for reference. 

I have stated under no uncertain terms, that the baby and I will not be going ANYWHERE for the first three months that is not within a 20 min radius of home, and that people will need to come to us. In-laws have been hemming and hawing about that.... why you may ask? “Because of the farm.” 

A farm that has a barn cat, 8 chickens, two free range cows, and a free range mule. For those not on the up and up with farm animals, free range means minimal human interaction and interference, outside of inoculations and corralling to butcher. I have been there and seen how they run their place. I also have the benefit of being raised on a Wagyu beef ranch myself. Prior to that, we were a free range operation. The only thing we did was check stock tanks if we weren’t tagging or inoculating. The in-laws have a creek fed pond that the animals drink from, so there aren’t even stock tanks to concern themselves with.  

The only animals that require daily tending are the cat and chickens. My in-laws can sometimes go days without seeing the cows or mule because again, they are free range and they have a decent size bit of land. These are not barn kept, hand fed animals. My in-laws pretty much just have these animals to say that they have animals. 

Not to mention, they have a strong network of friends and extended family that live nearby (one lives next freaking door!!) that could stop by once or twice a day to keep after the animals. But no, THE FAAAARRRRMMMMM and it’s “so much work to leave.”

I asked for specifics about what exactly they meant by how much work it will be. “Oh we have to mow and spray during that time, fix the roads, etc etc etc.” 

Uhhh mi scusi? You live in the mountains. The mountain roads are dirt construct and are impassable until late march/early april because of the rainy season turning them to shin deep mud. There is nothing growing lushly because it’s still too cold so therefore there is nothing to spray or mow. Spraying during rainy season is also a complete waste and contributes to run off because it just washes away....You also cannot fix a road until the ground dries out enough to prevent a mudslide during excavation, which wouldn’t be until mid to late May at the earliest. 

My MIL, by the way, will leave for WEEKS at a time multiple times a year to jet off to Europe and in fact, has a trip planned for April to the Mediterranean. 

I digress regarding the flimsy excuses....

The in-laws discovered that DH has a training course to attend 6 hrs from them and have casually mentioned (every single time....) that DH should bring DS with him to training course and they will meet him halfway between the (super remote) training site and their house to pick up DS for the 10 days..... leaving me utterly alone with a brand new baby and no other adult/family support nearby. 

They keep saying they want to help after the baby is born but.... this is not helpful. Helpful would be coming down to stay for a few days to help where is needed because my husband will be gone for the training course that is 8hrs away when I will be 8 days postpartum. THAT would be helpful. 

Now, I’m not an idiot. I recognize that being utterly alone with a newborn is tough and that being utterly alone with a newborn AND toddler would be even tougher. But to try to force DH’s hand to bring DS along on a WORK TRIP to make it more convenient for them....just no. 

They seem entirely unwilling to come down to spend ANY time with the new baby and in truth, have beat the horse deader than a doornail about getting DS immediately after the new baby is here when DS should be at home, bonding with his new brother. 

I think if you want to help us as new parents, it should be “how can we help?,” not “this is what we are going to do and it will help you out.”

I just don’t get the constant flimsy excuses. I was raised in the mountains, on an actual live operation. None of what they are saying makes sense to me, given my breadth of knowledge on the matter. 

I’ve reiterated multiple times that they are welcome to visit us, that they have our address and know where we live, etc. but it seems to fall on deaf ears.

Should I just reconcile myself to the fact that they in fact seem to be wholly disinterested in meeting their newest grandchild, despite hounding us for years to expand our family? Am I overreacting here? AITA and should just accept the help as it’s offered? WIBTA if I put my foot down and said “no” to their proposed plans for DS?",5.501808581722899,6.4153491990697695,5.8579993449066485,80.03113527677695,67.70697674418605,8.809826400262038,29.373403209957427,8.961289427747246,2.288474877169997,4419,153,837,74,71,1416,426,1075,0.07400000000000001,0.835,0.091,0.9761,6,3,1,0,0,0,154.0,15,5,29,13,39,25,1,1,69,1,101,14,7,9,5,145,149,67,0,19,30,5,3,1,1,21,2,12,4,6,49,60,4,8,13,3,7,22,24,4,0,9,21,19,90,26,148,91,16,142,0,0,3,1,100,52,0,16,66,577,139,7,0.0,0.0,0.044344565650154516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411917585378177,0.0,0.10901918605961806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03090192924071662,0.047649607680979436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496375182546229,0.0,0.12808198108029298,0.0,0.0,0.16620511183335832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04961059114955794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565760793613503,0.04764478097930554,0.049106358042587034,0.0,0.07256303482235138,0.0,0.0,0.14653075703446866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04747692773964435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451558774121057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469534461908255,0.2533976601785423,0.0600276576541532,0.0,0.03828661069229378,0.043421512758045705,0.0,0.0,0.25703046789844125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546108221655583,0.0,0.0,0.03510816171421182,0.0,0.07122427266200129,0.0,0.07747673349678932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04070685727144943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350449124399146,0.0,0.09116350456721464,0.0,0.0,0.05243364609560137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117207137310924,0.0,0.0,0.024973582021784017,0.0,0.15378072524221434,0.14434866707649055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0222005300318572,0.0,0.2407552384793221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041012928291733,0.0,0.060665404626200674,0.0,0.0,0.04949935698359656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03627114898182583,0.0,0.1002146828419481,0.0673889221845997,0.0,0.3511031863839247,0.048327786899733056,0.0,0.0,0.08720511570790865,0.0,0.0,0.09678790180061014,0.06158497377163594,0.06912095456636214,0.0,0.0,0.05045765464462183,0.0,0.0,0.031503568406420115,0.0,0.04747692773964435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046230567894388674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04568148172395834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02911113073164068,0.0,0.0,0.048787403366181495,0.0,0.0,0.04322548369635035,0.14454832500894033,0.0,0.0,0.03621116909512724,0.2068421853036813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04494302502552408,0.0,0.03216388473725287,0.0484348294661967,0.036289817909418064,0.07598262871868723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05156672764632015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03018946093280475,0.0291172206179368,0.04464626117030697,0.0,0.1854820348220072,0.0,0.0,0.043421512758045705,0.0,0.030851946382670564,0.049427544645307485,0.04438995947892915,0.0,0.27330398252801114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360541001069409,0.0360695238061719,0.07290121681365566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04100408612073279,0.0,0.0,0.043804198441418835,0.0,0.09924634452964608,0.0,0.0,0.09684148662168647,0.0,0.0,0.08778893735806696
parenting,gingerhairedgirl,2020/01/05,"Comfort Blanket Causes Mommy Anxiety So my daughter is basically potty trained at this point. She doesn't have pee accidents, and I can't be upset about the very rare poo because she's still learning her body cues due to being born with chronic constipation (she gets devastated when she has a poo accident).

Today while using her potty we had two instances where after she peed (she sat on the potty before starting and until she was finished) there was urine on the floor at the base of the potty. I'm not sure how it's getting there, my mom suggested she may be sitting too far forwards.

Anyhow.

The second instance of pee on the floor her ""blanky"" got caught at the edge of where the puddle was. It was 5:30, she had no nap this afternoon and she was going to be ready for bed before her usual 7:30.

I had been in the process of frying up supper and now I needed to empty her potty, clean up the puddle, and get her blanket clean because there is no way I could put her to bed with a pee blanket. I made a mistake and gave vent to my frustration at the situation by yelling a few expletives.

Of course baby girl had a meltdown about her blanket going into the washing machine.

I tried letting her watch the blanket in the washer on a quick cycle hoping that being able to see it would soothe her. Nope.

I tried getting her to focus on me as I explained that blankly was just having a bath so he could be clean, and that when he was done I promised she would get him back. I apologized for freaking out, and I reassured her that blanky being washed was not a punishment as she did nothing wrong. I almost had her calmed down when Papa walked in... He is not a calming influence for her.

We went back to the laundry room and I let her cry because I didn't want to tell her that she should ""cowboy up"" (Papa's words) and deny that this would be a big upset for someone who is 2. I offered physical comfort through touch, but when she pulled away I let her go (she's very independent and I know touch overwhelms me when I'm upset). I figured letting the emotions out might help her to calm down. It didn't. Poor baby kept burping.

I convinced her to let me get a wipe for her nose and face. Thankfully, while getting the wipe she got absorbed into a cartoon movie on TV while I was holding her. Finally! Peace!

After the blanket came out of the dryer I made sure she had some time to interact with everyone while calm and happy before bed.

Now I'm worried my outburst, followed by ""blankey"" being washed, may create a negative association to the potty for her.

Please tell me I'm being ridiculous and she'll be fine. Or, tell me instances where something similar happened to you and how you fixed it.

TIA",3.9711693511274753,5.551807322641512,4.769199263690751,83.89389093419237,72.0,6.982052462034055,28.39852738150023,7.499876790926021,1.6828375517717442,2131,82,403,24,41,688,248,530,0.069,0.797,0.134,0.9878,1,0,1,0,1,0,59.0,2,2,0,0,25,25,3,4,34,0,55,13,7,8,2,65,90,33,0,10,6,2,2,0,0,8,5,1,8,1,15,26,1,2,4,3,1,11,11,10,0,2,30,6,75,15,63,34,2,73,0,1,2,0,63,34,0,8,28,296,90,1,0.09139468708685472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915185771822878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991668546318462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586831704722518,0.14055374582487185,0.0,0.16714005885999153,0.0,0.23331044152240615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151889389614824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453117420490987,0.0,0.09388751946342752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594244157096045,0.0,0.10039277220102537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352849644745014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028067215841365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733154014476004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011841236663764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342496627839733,0.0,0.15582512058854994,0.0,0.14619336065382946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082001995531636,0.09729134388125764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612599322369979,0.0,0.0,0.09077554624459812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022812984537872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467286298629041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295972550533362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969553200165148,0.0,0.10704035291628386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776800241702767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769566718817877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032392111193224,0.08639752067061551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187690390424676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282973269819652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273145757290328,0.0,0.0,0.0774384217817223,0.07036009525987952,0.0,0.0,0.06468962992594862,0.0,0.07298791516689238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227682193533445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396489546934271,0.08414394860611198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329297701694928,0.0,0.08663147685807454,0.0,0.0,0.12410198645430355,0.0,0.08927932911641956,0.0,0.0,0.0789356652785184,0.10065833568203644,0.15082037694520234,0.05390695439851775,0.07254484853702857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472379057370233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928157411403858,0.0,0.1947724903944756,0.09992574295113396,0.0,0.0
parenting,XxMadCatxX007,2020/01/05,"Parenting Thru the Terrible 2's Hello random internet strangers! 
[yes I'm new to Reddit]

My husband (36M) and I (35F) have 2 wonderful little girls aged 2.5yrs and 6 months. As we all know the terrible 2's are a delightfully trying and entertaining part of a child's development as they learn boundaries by pushing them. Our 2.5yo (let's call her Jena) is highly verbal and very bright for her age, which is a joy to observe but when it comes to setting boundaries it's difficult because she thinks thru what we've said and tries to find a way around it. 

 My question to you fine people is whether you think my husband's method of dealing with Jena's boundary pushing is appropriate.  When she repeatedly pushes a boundary he will take either take her favorite doll she's attached to or her security blanket as a form of punishment. This often results in her being extremely upset and shrieking which he then raises his voice to her.  

He says that her personality is more like his and we need to be strict with her ...  my method is more along the calm her down,  get her to breathe,  and calmly reiterate the boundary. Am I being too much of a softie?

TL;DR! My husband raises his voice to and takes toys from our 2.5yo daughter as a form of punishment for her pushing boundaries. Is his response age appropriate?",5.377103013945117,6.943135700404862,5.9090350877193,77.13852339181288,68.51417004048582,8.40386864597391,31.9408457040036,8.841846274778883,2.7564810616284294,1046,45,184,18,18,338,143,247,0.076,0.8029999999999999,0.121,0.862,1,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,4,2,2,0,9,14,2,1,12,1,15,1,1,1,1,32,27,19,0,1,4,5,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,3,8,16,0,1,7,2,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,5,33,8,31,21,8,21,0,0,1,0,43,5,0,5,10,124,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533981291082162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321978801436725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18965193992701834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999066139903292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148032682864552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975461073008666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703669115008276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623481565058612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207280502782837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18992235386413106,0.0,0.0907387002585194,0.18615108150887547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824857383004866,0.0,0.13653352802612348,0.1377170545495653,0.0,0.17937998970849828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623210319646654,0.2011283858890194,0.0,0.12876236948405773,0.1621729938298053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20806103230727693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667254804386914,0.14770060801516866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189394013876935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380176284278673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521980791622446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324738326453555,0.0,0.1474244851100055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014171587192456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeasickCrocodiles,2020/01/05,"Is there a stigma against letting kids cry while you get things done? I am due early next month and I have an almost 19 month old son. One of the things I have refused to compromise on since becoming a parent is showering. I know it sounds weird but I need my daily shower to feel human and that's especially true now that I feel like a whale. My son has become extremely clingy lately and hates when I leave him to go shower. I always play with him and warn him beforehand even though he doesn't really get it. Every single time I get up to go shower he screams and cries. For the last couple of weeks I have been putting him in his room, which is child proofed and has a baby gate to keep him inside, and showering. I can't hear him while I am in there. Sometimes I come out and he's playing and other times he sitting by the baby gate crying. A few days ago he tired himself out and fell asleep, so I took a picture to share with my husband. 

I was at a playgroup today and all of the moms were talking about how hard it is to shower or use the bathroom when you have kids. I commented that I just let my son cry. They acted like I admitted to killing a priest. I thought their reaction was weird but this is apparently a thing. Moms and dads going without showering or taking their kids with them to poop to avoid them crying or throwing a tantrum. 

It has left me wondering if I am doing something wrong or if there is just a stigma against letting kids cry a bit sometimes when you need to get something done. My son is very loved and cared for and I honest to god assumed this is what everyone did, but now I am questioning everything.",3.8504859013091632,5.004853921450156,4.54766238670695,87.0225610523666,71.71903323262839,7.571047331319235,26.480488418932534,7.937092434478242,1.4327793554884187,1292,42,267,17,24,414,177,331,0.168,0.728,0.10400000000000001,-0.9649,9,1,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,3,5,0,15,17,3,1,18,0,32,4,2,2,3,51,56,31,1,4,12,9,3,2,0,0,1,3,10,6,15,20,0,3,8,2,0,9,3,8,0,1,9,6,44,9,32,44,4,40,1,0,0,1,44,9,0,10,23,184,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769153339313396,0.0,0.08688645117174001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219861884398901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165871496638395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947290912380035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846660671280179,0.0,0.0,0.07474366543424263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600806185783238,0.5718689233421463,0.05595871821178888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775892805580107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573099949724605,0.0,0.07310648297922037,0.08291133704391862,0.07798223100586825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774585679393154,0.061987670672293466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133253315525225,0.0,0.14793817985588015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777278300283644,0.08566625745361756,0.0,0.0,0.0977947794429359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771241243628641,0.0959968563554417,0.0,0.04768588067716306,0.07072817868134805,0.09787902149227448,0.09187566429347624,0.09427458947644138,0.26618102740945826,0.0,0.0847817365683044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783122582509257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20324521388792904,0.13851610720978932,0.0,0.0,0.12867597845813106,0.0,0.0,0.09227963683711106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104929273445324,0.0,0.058796805925132964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634651915508656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722664152641524,0.09720094943474154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555863354017625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177607419022589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335977715007495,0.17163318636216982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523936289099126,0.06974150014018245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293606866173894,0.0,0.08524993655261913,0.06888476016233228,0.1011912070301719,0.09972800777781972,0.0822467067967222,0.0,0.09640336460919842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494041142346518,0.0,0.07159337328339113,0.0,0.0,0.06960072293921657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364205736342553,0.09409709662040336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948680962164681,0.0,0.0
parenting,RMLJR3178,2020/01/05,"GOING TO BE A FATHER OF 3, HELP!!! Hello everyone, I need some help! My wife and I have two daughters (5 and 2). We are expecting our third in July, this time we are waiting to find out if it's a boy or girl.

When we had our first daughter I solely worked, until my youngest was old enough for in home daycare (we live in Colorado and daycare is very expensive). After the second was born my wife stopped working again and did an in home daycare herself. Once our oldest turned 5 and started kindergarten full day and we found a licensed in home daycare for our youngest in Aug 2018 my wife started working at an elementary school. The extra income has helped tremendously and relieved a lot of financial stress... we have a lot of credit card debt... and have considered bankruptcy about a year ago, but all factors weighed in didnt make sense for us.

I am doing the best I can with my career as a Sales Engineer and have a bachelors in InfoTech, but still it never seems to be enough... I feel terrible because my wife is so excited and happy and embracing our third and I am scared inside to say the least... very worried about how we are going to make it now and in the coming years... with me as a provider... three times the clothing, school supplies, airline tickets to visit family, three of everything...

Dont get me wrong, I am happy and love my family and kids, but I cannot seem to overcome the fear from spending many of our years of marriage being the provider financially and will be the sole income again soon... we dont qualify for any government assistance or anything along those lines as a side note.

I guess I am just looking for and hoping for some inspiration from anyone, perhaps words or wisdom or advice...

Thank you all in advance!",7.193585406301821,6.725596698507466,7.096393034825872,77.33337893864015,64.1044776119403,9.951907131011607,35.327529021558874,9.2995712137729,3.1190165837479262,1374,56,256,21,18,438,189,335,0.047,0.8,0.153,0.9913,3,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,15,1,0,6,11,16,0,3,21,0,29,2,0,3,3,62,49,32,0,4,9,7,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,5,30,1,2,6,1,5,5,5,5,0,7,6,3,37,11,43,38,12,42,0,0,1,1,35,14,0,13,23,189,42,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241200281926716,0.09290128582858814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126944189095573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328049701750187,0.0,0.0862437069169566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388676398117248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998398643796208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027826145280053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758908281976014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456560092863035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165784458834359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014348800751983,0.0941899249724934,0.0,0.1975973501351995,0.11793219432991844,0.052991403050815705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578778533883714,0.08914513815793089,0.0,0.1149107705618603,0.0,0.0,0.05475509443837314,0.0,0.11912359932477452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545200913636175,0.0,0.0,0.22312888363260605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074115763268267,0.0,0.31537701290676656,0.1040927460073818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254271982549382,0.0,0.08800788764960729,0.0,0.0,0.17819904565736458,0.09458854451761137,0.0,0.13991325577503205,0.10625350633561086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770988724227125,0.08083031679170961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099728225371161,0.11161147398585768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334332760756748,0.10492580342411184,0.21213189097443136,0.0,0.19081691620308885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835980604399848,0.0,0.08369558575394166,0.08761976477270199,0.12005115906194527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648826179148903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222226150125239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399526202622523,0.1023770267863074,0.0,0.12606476540424033,0.0,0.0,0.1729464359023757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228892880093248,0.10643224709416728,0.0,0.0,0.11458531962544136,0.0,0.20246854236743486
parenting,rachelt17,2020/01/05,"How do I deal with my 8 year old daughter? My daughter and me are as different as day and night. She is out going and I am an introvert. I love my quiet, alone time. She talks non stop all day long. She is also extremely needy, she doesn't like to do anything by herself, like brush her hair/teeth, get herself something to eat. My 5 year old son is way more independent. She also needs constant attention... if she wants hug/kisses it's not just like one, it's many. If she sits beside me on the couch she will rub my leg or my arm... and that drives me crazy!! I feel guilty that it annoys me so much, so I tell her I love her all the time, ask for hugs so she knows I love her. But she needs to stop being so clingy and dependent on me... HELP!! 

Also, she's not just like that with me... it's with everyone. She was sitting on her aunts lap one time, and it was like she couldn't get close enough. Her aunt got really annoyed with her.",1.12424036281179,2.8414555510204096,2.5638095238095246,96.07563492063494,80.22448979591837,5.988208616780046,19.05215419501134,6.937597516519254,-0.042030839002267666,712,16,170,8,18,231,108,196,0.15,0.76,0.091,-0.7558,1,1,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,0,0,10,11,2,0,3,0,13,7,2,3,2,34,26,20,0,6,8,5,2,5,0,1,0,1,1,0,8,12,1,2,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,3,4,41,9,15,20,5,24,0,0,0,4,35,5,0,4,19,109,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392351469247864,0.0,0.3225252496143213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062936910016263,0.0,0.12567950769092576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527755120712832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340019017523392,0.13859760766036774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404570014105234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756158474894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890831972151352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845935423936874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797487836288206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047451737133204,0.0,0.0764030739711241,0.0,0.1075207460703467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010961358139301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388250698308171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283931823788955,0.0,0.0,0.1189716250180268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640012023426344,0.0,0.0,0.1362969982483166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882592464334343,0.1993651735479141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615907425430292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28213592412394944,0.0,0.18219461872817708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612314075288598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349539680993368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22478902273628612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805456034253884,0.11750298503468573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351721291669533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929383289892873,0.10670903525819307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314474609574826
parenting,Msanch0830,2020/01/05,"Major mom guilt after surgery I recently had a breast reduction done and I am not allowed to hold my son for about 2-3 weeks according to the instructions given by my surgery. My mom and my boyfriend have been taking care of him... I feel like haven’t seen my son at all for 3 days already because I’m in lots of pain and feel weak so I’m always in my room laying in bed.  I recently tried to play with him and I feel as though he kinda “forgot” about me and doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. I feel like a shitty mom and the guilt is driving me insane. I’m a stay at home mom so I’m always close to him... holding him... sleeping with him.... it’s really taking a toll on me emotional. I don’t want to feel disconnected to my son. Maybe I’m overreacting.. idk

Edit: my son is one years old.",1.7082521008403404,3.0684095058823537,3.72218487394958,90.00411764705885,77.47058823529412,6.974789915966388,22.731092436974787,7.7094869923839395,0.8408151260504204,616,18,141,9,14,210,92,170,0.10800000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.6486,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,2,6,0,12,4,2,1,1,25,30,10,0,2,1,8,5,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,10,0,3,5,1,0,1,4,4,0,1,6,6,24,4,26,24,3,17,0,0,1,1,14,8,0,2,9,82,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447076986924893,0.0,0.21822507358240198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791066856379793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799370024786171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13369806838828402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456945295402435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419381990173718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750613133935153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33152202843352657,0.1873618112126694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153633862697325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812918721507105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148394962216186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173997050420694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6143220253534951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760123756339668,0.0,0.08885860633392577,0.0,0.13953395951831732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400667718753478,0.0,0.2589545539384381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312269521495091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976953080622453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19719026479051407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883676983690168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903019000767158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469039714693436,0.0,0.10518638118008443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444486966469453
parenting,Melly14830,2020/01/05,"What a day ☹️ I found out today that I'm not pregnant. The tests were negative. My feelings are mixed about it. We have been trying for #3 for about a year. I'm 35, so it's looking like the factory is closed. I do feel like I miss out on things in my son's life because I'm wrangling my daughter. However, I wish she had a sibling closer to her in age. 


About fifteen minutes ago, J got text dumped by his girlfriend. They're 14, going to be 15 this year. It's his first girlfriend, they've been dating for a while now. He's locked himself in his room and when I tried to get him to open up, he said ""Mom, I wanna be ALONE"" so I left him. Now my 3 year old is crying because he won't open the door. I told her that J is sad, but she's too young to understand why. 



Virtual hugs needed. It's been a long day. I'm eating Sour Patch Kids ice cream and waiting for Kid #2 to stop wailing. Kid #1 is going to take a while. Maybe he'll come out of his room if I text him and say I have ice cream.",0.261164383561642,1.7410318630137027,2.3663447488584493,97.60020205479454,81.96803652968036,5.2932420091324195,20.0824200913242,5.985473137389443,-0.2399590867579913,754,20,189,5,20,254,131,219,0.07200000000000001,0.878,0.05,-0.3298,1,1,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,1,9,6,1,0,9,0,16,3,0,0,0,23,38,10,0,4,3,3,2,2,2,2,1,2,3,3,9,11,1,2,4,0,0,3,3,3,0,1,9,8,27,3,25,25,0,37,0,2,3,1,28,15,0,1,21,102,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841613643085824,0.0,0.0,0.17340645248075434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204126920194638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422567620045135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839134275077958,0.21595633359742367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132216208189224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16931475672712948,0.1196116576148886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241543450116365,0.0,0.1835777884985523,0.0,0.0,0.08747499557158299,0.0,0.1903080696013367,0.0,0.13390865421512133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191262546150896,0.0,0.11826039680965147,0.1635951784672619,0.0,0.0,0.14816982562162254,0.14059859929706492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820542184296727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960913893986163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414684171601005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17568907994955393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926378130366167,0.13314664668505627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997854654605135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588613594442716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123271025614026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15870357486619988,0.15998604805330235,0.0,0.22734726005607697,0.0,0.0,0.1742999987149796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107906831914247,0.0,0.19253564497673134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234572970540648
parenting,xxloverofkittensxx,2020/01/06,"9yr old wants to grow his hair out like a girls hairstyle 💁‍♂️ My nine year old son wants to grow his hair out like a girl he said. I support him totally, I just don’t want him to get made fun of in school. I he never gets bullied but I’m afraid the other kids will tease him by saying “you look like a girl” or “eww you look like a girl”. His teacher would let me know immediately if that was happening because we’re very close. 


(Issue) his father is under the impression that our son is transgender just because he wants a different hairstyle! I don’t like the way my husband approached this situation at all. He asked our son if he wanted to be a girl and our son said no but it’s time for a change in my hair. Just because you change your hairstyle does not mean that you’re automatically transgender. It’s ridiculous. So I told our son that if you want your hair different that’s fine. It’s not anybody else’s decision. 

How do I get my husband to be a bit more open on this?",1.3632439024390235,3.369243897560977,3.027987804878048,91.60978658536587,80.75609756097559,6.246341463414635,22.445121951219512,7.365786028017652,0.699239024390244,769,25,173,11,20,254,111,205,0.045,0.818,0.13699999999999998,0.9241,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,6,0,0,5,12,2,1,11,0,11,4,4,2,3,31,32,9,0,10,11,8,4,5,0,2,0,3,0,6,11,5,0,0,3,0,0,3,6,3,0,1,5,9,28,9,15,22,4,18,0,0,2,0,42,9,0,4,10,96,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960328712876625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339665714587304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967344074158938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27067954754828977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673326682701714,0.0,0.0,0.1119580275737988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106874466556131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052450487898466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313375801794605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353238866347905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031051329562626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082366241292195,0.0,0.312516374425838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486875059933566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105653860880805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393602725585897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867245790929202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268495513407974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433936744429431,0.1017401800684456,0.0,0.12947849219329025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143805901907838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518073885539973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460075819363735,0.0,0.0,0.12224873658202935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556094912453393,0.4527613087285697,0.10154997913109104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088236556991773,0.0,0.0,0.08238686307180014
parenting,Naminay,2020/01/06,"Oh no... It’s dinner time, I had just come home from work. My husbands making pasta in the kitchen and handing my son(2) apple slices. I’m talking to my daughter(6) about how they had played outside and had popsicles after nap time.

My son walks up and whines, holding out his hand to me. I see what looks like sticky popsicle residue. No wipes in sight, it’s a small smudge so I lick my finger and rub it off. It wasn’t good enough for him so he whines more and holds his hand out for me to clean. I lick the same finger and freeze. That’s definitely NOT popsicle, it’s dog poop. My son had played with dog poop and now it’s in my mouth. 

Oh god, I mean.. who cleans there kids hands like that anyways?! Why did I make that mistake. 

I tell my husband what happened and rush my son to the sink to clean his hands. I looked at my husband and asked “can I drink hand sanitizer?! Get it out of my mouth!!” 

Such a gross experience, with lessons learned. 🤢",0.7957936881771062,3.0968691658031102,1.6489802166745164,98.86539684408855,85.32124352331606,4.752614225153086,19.65355628827132,6.1124844417494595,-0.25876994818652843,731,21,169,6,22,226,114,193,0.065,0.763,0.172,0.9634,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,1,2,9,9,0,0,5,0,7,16,12,3,0,27,18,12,0,1,2,6,10,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,13,15,4,2,3,4,0,3,4,4,0,0,6,16,27,5,22,12,3,17,0,2,4,0,17,10,0,0,6,97,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215276935966108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836234797953053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255827720824899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23793662148476905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22525407363097824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030968388015735,0.0,0.0,0.19314454838591372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20363226935572068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309855616484304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500240299649807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38674761684510217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074219804676469,0.0,0.0,0.25083802621173285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835001247723491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508709251879266,0.2012713373078001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685515261363107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20778823515927616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764364015742553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Annie_P_84,2020/01/06,"10yr old won't sleep. I'm looking for some advice. I have a 10yr old daughter and a 6yr old son, up until 3 weeks ago they shared a room, we have had an extension so they can have their own rooms. As she is the oldest i gave her the choice of which room she wanted she chose to stay in the bigger room. 

My issue is she has hardly slept a wink in the last 3 weeks, she can't sleep, she is awake until gone midnight evetynight, she is exhausted and the last few days full of cold so she needs some serious sleep and i don't know what else to try to help her and us to get some sleep. 

I have tried all of the obvious, she likes it completely dark with no sound, she doesn't like the door open, she doesn't like a night light, we have tried letting her fall sleep with the tv on but it didn't work and I've even let her sleep in my bed but she couldn't sleep and went back to her own bed at 1am. She is supposed to be going school tomorrow and she is still awake now. 

She is getting herself all worked up at bed time about sleeping in her own, she says she misses her brother and even though he's younger it was nice to know someone was in the room with her, we have even tried letting the cat sleep in her room but he was stay on her bed with her he prefers to go under the bed and she don't like that. 

I thought she was just being naughty but she's got bags under her eyes and I've seen first hand how anxious she gets around bedtime, she's genuinely worried about being in her own. She has always been a fantastic sleeper and to suddenly start behaving like this at 10yrs I'm at a loss on what i can do.

Any help or advice is appreciated.",2.058600000000002,3.352468260000002,2.9392857142857127,96.25321428571432,76.4,6.257142857142857,21.357142857142858,6.7097532225279775,0.0943142857142858,1281,31,308,11,28,405,168,350,0.068,0.857,0.075,0.8261,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,3,4,14,11,0,0,19,0,39,13,12,1,3,40,60,23,0,4,6,3,2,5,0,1,1,2,12,0,8,20,0,0,4,1,0,5,9,4,0,1,14,9,52,7,41,38,11,56,0,2,3,0,55,28,0,4,26,199,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537811301467229,0.06974995280590415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547264374507004,0.0,0.0,0.053508841821299884,0.0,0.0,0.08889222401108139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004678198191974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050429658257778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250025521620204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05074564140663265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573164294558773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559131023810184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692985058209049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332978662984538,0.0,0.08943757190081436,0.0,0.06293198661830197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048675730932151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548247112002766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212722436082869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648699178005821,0.12827837761129413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413837807193336,0.0,0.1922088165709806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607600697189095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058344305133746575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384101638910398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477016043475088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257387199183384,0.0,0.07963393214704366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7086809789648404,0.0,0.0666699732671084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556940056187985,0.1677365583462356,0.0628383461470186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730810941495114,0.0624675019243594,0.04588215089222352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368917209147825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464897454333517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04641074967657323,0.0,0.1262335321745021,0.0,0.0,0.07294225169720646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456796994585552,0.07990895008215322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThatsMommy2U,2020/01/06,"My niece's first day as a second-semester freshman. I posted about my son's issue earlier today, and the response has been overwhelming.  I'll be reading through those soon, but I just want to drop this here because I can share it without embarrassing her to actual people we know.

We got custody of my niece around the beginning of November.  She had to switch schools, and all the meaningful electives were full.  She got put in study hall to finish out the first semester, and she wound up taking astronomy this semester to replace study hall.

The conversation happened something like this:

Me:  So how was your day?

Niece:  Fine.

Me:  Are any of your classes new?  Wasn't there a semester class you're taking?

Niece:  Yeah, I am in astronomy.

Me:  Good experience?

Niece:  It was okay.  The teacher seems nice, but we just talked about what we're going over, and he talked about like constellations and stuff.

Me:  I never took astronomy, but isn't that for the most part just about all it is?

Niece:  Well, I wonder when we're going to get to horoscopes and stuff.

And that's the story of how my niece thought she was taking astrology and that a public high school would offer it as a for-credit course.",3.2433043478260863,5.870092688888893,3.906106280193239,84.48165217391305,77.66666666666667,7.1130434782608685,24.44927536231884,8.18289091462,1.6385188405797102,945,33,177,18,23,299,129,225,0.012,0.835,0.153,0.9839,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,3,2,0,2,16,10,0,2,12,2,15,1,0,2,3,33,31,17,0,2,7,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,14,13,0,0,5,1,0,4,4,2,1,2,11,0,24,8,26,18,5,27,0,1,0,0,18,10,0,3,13,121,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.14050773998961655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791414517817043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817640125993532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877713886547196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571570345110866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084410659624438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24494565322620776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522576470131809,0.0,0.16365899730600178,0.1207670561639422,0.2303145223988856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732468980142778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212713761545998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028202247400102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912991181398489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068674506622414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104943666109053,0.1390607690555496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559207806070207,0.0,0.09982046578866316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378969947376768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474381837558922,0.0,0.0,0.14402309319723292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914392510828143,0.0,0.13107774341874726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084601696851934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296547597156447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247744379923121,0.23145797781231064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430731528008205,0.0,0.0,0.13648011871430293,0.0,0.15997166523445513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492556981210557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294590238120572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879556231574,0.15614464599980427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228219416855376,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,salonmoofdo872,2020/01/06,Having quadruplets in two months I can’t believe this is happening. I got pregnant naturally with quadruplets. They’re all girls and my husband is scared to death. Actually I’m scared to death because Ive read so many stories of moms dying during giving born to the babies it’s made me petrified. Will I make it? I mean it’s hard to carry four living children in your body but I just don’t want to die. I know that sounds silly but I think I’m going to. I’m pretty tall for a girl I’m 6’1 so I’m not short and I’ve heard a lot of deaths are when people are too short and or you body just can’t hold that many people. I’m scared. Any advice? Anyone have quadruplets?? I bet not 😂😂😂😂,-0.5766891891891888,1.6146966013513513,1.7270810810810815,95.86048648648651,93.12162162162159,4.0410810810810815,16.183783783783785,5.6839178017228535,-0.6489362162162164,539,13,121,4,20,181,93,148,0.16,0.779,0.061,-0.9301,0,0,0,0,0,1,12.0,0,2,0,0,6,4,0,3,3,0,11,2,2,2,1,21,28,9,5,1,7,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,6,4,0,1,3,1,1,1,5,3,0,2,3,3,13,1,12,24,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,3,3,62,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.14994573379186482,0.0,0.0,0.15015050730099927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449110026557204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743959203556573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936670483685488,0.0,0.0,0.17311728164010887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413535406083885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189405782036897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740048548373044,0.08732603785564681,0.0,0.12289244730068208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358771697808785,0.0,0.1376452671130611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444511806047375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568074001378633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063252533605066,0.0,0.1453926762251216,0.10256632891864118,0.3115653915480387,0.0,0.16737603122977013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995962157213405,0.12264646117996135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130509392754156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632302007934046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536972154987984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4615082855346132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845632598999053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009922748078566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063007407356682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sunnysue13,2020/01/06,"How to teach daughter not to touch HOT things? I need advice on teaching my almost 3 year old daughter not to touch the stove or other hot things. Normally I would show her why she can't do something and she picks it up quickly, but obviously not going to burn her. She loves to help me in the kitchen and I let her help with most things like dishes and preparing to cook. But she wants to help with the cooking part and tonight she ran over to the stove and I yelled at her to stop which scared her. She has also wanted to grab my straightener while it was heating up.",3.3483671497584564,4.840653208695656,3.5533333333333346,92.34555555555558,73.43478260869566,6.502415458937199,24.082125603864736,6.937597516519254,0.6424879227053144,449,13,97,4,9,138,72,115,0.052000000000000005,0.797,0.151,0.9289,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,6,5,0,2,1,24,12,11,0,5,6,2,5,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,7,7,4,1,0,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,6,18,2,18,8,2,14,0,0,0,1,17,6,0,3,7,70,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20722185005836907,0.0,0.0,0.2123467123492897,0.0,0.0,0.1695837098982675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205181617298064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264165465561137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168449560619901,0.0,0.1036014406432481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19139175731050392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723925085801704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777304581186434,0.0,0.0,0.2225205162963043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22963950853370474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123083086537844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325357505568647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729103286770725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226482395321417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25015608615698043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135049425720194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064081073204968,0.0,0.0,0.1365592078174773
parenting,Left-Reflection,2020/01/06,I don't think my baby would know as much as they know today without the help of Tv. Yes tv. Don't knock parents down if they let them watch something here and there. I teach my baby things other ways as well. But blues clues has definitely helped eith her vocabulary.,2.7100000000000013,4.927347169811323,3.460981132075472,89.12883018867926,77.30188679245283,5.749433962264153,20.033962264150947,6.742157984588678,0.19807471698113188,212,5,43,2,5,67,43,53,0.040999999999999995,0.8220000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.6419,1,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,8,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,8,1,6,6,1,3,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,1,1,29,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034675473638669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308103619668961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30776210475586063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22124749983418865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341914464338339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317013260557176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995102204511825,0.19284935344252127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852842650658948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23889589038298706,0.0,0.0,0.2706080769293794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29012423466996784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21380037523109985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sleepysleeperson2014,2020/01/06,"Those that work FT; what do you do with school age kids out on break? Those that work full time, what do you do with your kids when school is out for holidays or summer break?  Do you just use up all of your vacation time? I imagine not everyone's employer lets everyone with kids have off around all major holidays.  

Currently I work from home and my 3 yr old is in ""school."". My job is demanding of my time 7 days a week and I'm thinking of making a transition to a more traditional day job. My husband also works full time, but what on Earth does everyone do when kids are old enough to be in school,but not old enough to be alone at home? My mom always worked nights, so she was home during the day all the time.  I'm just trying to think long term for our family needs.  Any insight is welcome",3.3459259259259246,4.510679086419753,4.170061728395062,89.2102777777778,72.95061728395059,8.362962962962964,23.37654320987655,8.841846274778883,1.3109654320987651,620,16,138,12,12,199,93,162,0.025,0.9209999999999999,0.054000000000000006,0.6818,4,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,5,0,5,7,1,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,2,3,24,23,8,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,7,8,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,14,1,23,19,10,34,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,1,20,85,21,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847693263824984,0.0,0.08375890367070146,0.08715036779599912,0.0,0.0,0.07122540008040171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323898445921752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264194599434926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165688903119182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644460862260426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002448093965364,0.0,0.0,0.0987376212356226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31518212188072503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787251527685596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710165379192048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268979304424584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991339734619742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266782541494722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776618654808923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828947433064933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297145905181189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.424001603031591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422370309548842,0.0,0.0,0.30536771518638256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711101953294698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045996340250266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401446869956522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.381252388298972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OutsideCockroach6,2020/01/06,"How do you get into magnet, honors program, take AP courses? So I grew up going to magnet, honors, and taking AP courses in a class of about 3-5,000 students? I never questioned why. I was just there. I don't remember taking any tests getting in. 

Now that I have a kid, do I assume he's gonna be put in magnet or honors as well? How do I prepare him when the time comes?",1.2906593406593387,2.9526155384615396,3.7326373626373615,88.14807692307693,79.51282051282051,4.96996336996337,21.399267399267398,5.288315135182226,0.13488058608058573,284,8,58,1,7,99,58,78,0.0,0.8079999999999999,0.192,0.9225,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,3,9,4,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,1,11,15,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,9,4,9,12,0,13,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,3,4,40,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829701750850768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23177155406476474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811457182874453,0.0,0.15291312269967772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075158275855414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704798345782687,0.3014090221047632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047927774672563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6068993981868426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689117716407547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419174493137095,0.0,0.2427849976055431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loco_por_el_lol,2020/01/06,"Young father in trouble Noble people who sort by new hear me out and give me your advice.
Last night I was careless with my pregnant girlfriend. We were In a crowded place and I lost them in the crowd. When I found them again I was so stressed that I didn't ask her if everything was all right (turns out a lady was rude to her). Late that night I apologized to her and the baby saying that wasn't how a father should act.
Now she barely talk to me and keeps me away from all the baby stuff. Due is for the 14 of February.
I'm so scared and I feel so guilty and sorry :(",1.9185000000000016,3.391040516666667,3.0533333333333346,94.54500000000002,77.16666666666666,5.8000000000000025,19.5,6.2581,-0.16435000000000022,442,9,101,3,10,142,79,120,0.19899999999999998,0.759,0.040999999999999995,-0.9592,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,2,1,7,6,1,2,7,0,9,0,0,1,2,19,18,12,0,2,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,5,10,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,9,3,20,0,14,8,2,19,0,1,0,0,20,8,0,2,10,71,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947267616544187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862928694626816,0.0,0.1872230550814101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909325631229314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075815361037058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849198936391898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116032120355653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245945682095184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17712253668839245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243366815354554,0.22478803770558006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175294522278592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924586034151281,0.0,0.3740074477278769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381504472354779,0.0,0.2081973291400755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017760954314562,0.0,0.15846947470762351,0.19950651634870176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22306922724473013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282659531446453,0.0,0.2281193146525701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601676715208317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167512362538972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maldetete,2020/01/06,"Toddler speech and understanding seem to have regressed I have 28 month old boy/girl twins and although they were a little behind on speech my daughter has really started progressing but my son seems to have regressed to the point he barely says any words and stopped pointing out body parts as we ask him, which he could do before. 

Has anyone else experienced this?",16.336363636363636,9.851029909090908,13.013333333333335,60.54000000000002,52.93939393939394,15.624242424242425,49.66666666666667,11.20814326018867,5.499721212121212,298,11,50,4,2,88,55,66,0.037000000000000005,0.963,0.0,-0.3291,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,1,1,0,0,12,13,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,7,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,4,31,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093285564382108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519182393448305,0.22741286574606026,0.0,0.0,0.20749225055394235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886215744626006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465351811647471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720812792310864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540981711154086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224510950969428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17715748588590366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328980234492967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403490182997387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196268811302194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218614178165254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650266511017831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041078659174231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570965661780057,0.0,0.0,0.18555920962897335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310566211604592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellotheregnrlkenobi,2020/01/06,Blood blister on left eye My three-year-old son has had a blood blister on his eye for almost a month now and I’ve been reading where they usually go away within a couple weeks but it seems like his is getting bigger does anyone have any suggestions on how I might get it to go down a bit? I can’t get him into the doctor until another week and a half,2.2783999999999978,3.626861306666669,3.9170000000000016,89.24350000000004,75.93333333333334,6.6000000000000005,21.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.583533333333333,278,7,60,3,6,93,59,75,0.0,0.951,0.049,0.5023,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,7,5,4,1,0,8,13,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,1,10,10,1,18,0,0,2,0,6,10,0,3,7,39,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123916465227404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442380808816542,0.222409672649578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483081384589823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19927881096174327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315627740609853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346891841299469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170975633537031,0.1856137523765144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33244695892393084,0.0,0.2410873285721781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045175644910404,0.0,0.0,0.10362336349315757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250089620212342,0.0,0.0,0.16929949194297622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256760332376505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216152709710734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930916327014321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23360273192581976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402742762508257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658810478066769
parenting,milksteakrumham,2020/01/06,"Toddler only poops in her pull up DD is just over two and a half and she's been peeing on the toilet for about three months with no issues. However she absolutely refuses to poop on the toilet! She'll wait until she gets a pull up on for nap/bedtime and without fail, will poop in the pull up in her bed. Every. Single. Time. This puts off sleep at least a half hour because I have to go back in her room and change her. There have been times that shes slept in her poop all night because she waits so long and I thought she had fallen asleep. I've tried having her sit on the toilet for awhile before sleep, tried to use treats and bribery, positive reinforcement and I am totally out of ideas. Any suggestions or tips? Do I just wait it out and hope she grows out of it? Thanks in advance for the advice!",2.18739837398374,4.1519803414634175,2.9922926829268306,93.0827886178862,77.90243902439025,6.080650406504066,20.07967479674797,7.0316486544052195,0.21366308943089465,632,15,138,7,15,199,102,164,0.028999999999999998,0.8909999999999999,0.081,0.8589,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,8,0,12,9,9,1,2,26,22,11,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,12,0,4,2,0,0,8,2,1,0,4,5,0,18,3,32,15,4,37,0,1,0,0,16,20,0,2,8,95,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910153860315317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292934011921848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030779858699933,0.0,0.2383188405309295,0.0,0.16633437335915835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067860662474713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469566851580827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212734067701597,0.0,0.11109264385075786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415025108698966,0.19250297387162407,0.0,0.0,0.22066687910293245,0.0,0.2040245568492619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298875136187286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602585398348287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343954472265828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866713995983385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19650582893811264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39123127103802063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996662565166946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155184891450887,0.2279654664073056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654286625340032,0.0,0.1909501499239101,0.0,0.0,0.16882717722510984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884304098915888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Luciee1234,2020/01/06,"children are getting addicted to games Hi parents!  


My name is Lucy, I'm in my final year at uni and would absolutely love your help!  


There has been a lot of stuff in the news recently about children being addicted to video games, and I would really like to know if describing extensive video game use as an addiction helps you to understand how to deal with it. And helps you with your parenting strategies.  


Or does the fact that its classed as an addiction simply scare you?  


Maybe the fact that it's called an addiction makes you think that it's not your fault?  


I would really love to hear what you all think about this. Please let me know if you have any questions or if anything didn't quite make sense!!",6.637279411764705,6.886089933823531,6.050294117647059,81.96382352941178,65.10294117647058,10.623529411764707,30.970588235294123,10.411451182825502,2.912032352941176,565,19,113,13,8,173,89,136,0.021,0.802,0.17600000000000002,0.9724,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,9,0,1,4,5,0,1,7,0,11,7,0,4,3,30,24,11,0,6,6,2,0,1,0,3,5,1,0,2,10,5,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,1,14,3,16,17,2,6,0,0,0,2,27,3,0,7,4,71,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6439248050248355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033608408851782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721532128155128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062939324837076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217923510470172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338103452124893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12941149354852816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617208407188902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314711706957952,0.0,0.2375508901331703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984818971432038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080139185367035,0.0,0.05771496121022074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043444382746304,0.21324351824738094,0.0,0.15771251721374396,0.0,0.1186828302395036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623506354482695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967713093766756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233862039858266,0.1256514785579338,0.0,0.0,0.1513610511597099,0.0,0.11664439898990488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182740869478374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352367037903758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139271504799098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298305804641654,0.0,0.1020310060504291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251759874016088,0.0,0.0,0.07607528749744108
parenting,MPLSchiquita,2020/01/06,"Sleep habits for an 8mo old Can I get folks opinions on sleeping habits and rituals for kids? My family is planning on having conversations around how we want our 8 month old to sleep when he is 2 so we can start to initiate those rituals now. So far I have been co sleeping with him and have found that to be a sweet bonding experience but also want him to have the skills to sleep alone when needed. Where do your kids sleep and when did they start sleeping there? Do they have their own rooms, beds, cribs, side cars? What do you all do before bedtime? When is bedtime? Did you do “sleep training” or cry it out? Did you cosleep? If so how long? Any tips or thoughts on what you liked or didn’t?",2.3834200332042066,4.486132366906478,2.6720863309352545,94.94921416712783,77.84892086330936,6.003541781959047,22.203099059214168,7.010146845296331,0.41793370226895377,545,16,120,6,13,166,88,139,0.047,0.889,0.065,-0.3204,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,5,3,2,14,2,0,0,3,0,21,8,8,2,1,22,29,18,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,1,16,2,13,21,2,21,2,0,0,0,17,9,0,5,12,81,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371697662645384,0.0,0.0878049282859242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466598620707038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774295012361438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342948679244244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060727059459447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740290998125257,0.10350720188269606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038716429045734,0.0,0.0,0.057364601400382575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053641455723877685,0.0,0.0,0.0971672296844308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763922435053761,0.0,0.0,0.08141336897042188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304277691208056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.879013426558826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543030698505553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716685837923925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952268362614433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,logan_izer10,2020/01/06,"Fighting and bickering children - What are your disciplinary techniques and approaches? I'm curious to hear what all of you do to handle young siblings who fight and bicker. In instances where I know who the guilty party is, I've instituted a new disciplinary approach which I've aptly titled ""Boss Time"". 

Basically, when one child wrongs another (hits, insults, etc), the victim typically receives 5-10 minutes of boss time over the guilty party. During this time, the ""Boss"" can tell the sibling to do any reasonable task, which typically involves making their bed or cleaning their room for them, or scrubbing a toilet for their amusement. Failure to comply results in extended boss time or further escalated punishment. 

Once my son(6) made my other son(8) write him a card telling him that he was a cool brother and that he was ""King of Smash Bros"". I typically oversee the boss time to ensure no commands are made that are cruel or unreasonable. 

I've found this technique so far to work quite well. It has helped deter frequent fighting and often results in entertaining stories to share and memories to recall in the future. 

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What are some approaches you all take to handle constant fighting between children?",9.416074249605053,10.04870039810427,8.380296208530808,66.29786927330176,59.23696682464455,10.63522906793049,41.28001579778832,10.317481424215053,4.664648973143759,988,50,143,19,12,306,134,211,0.142,0.762,0.096,-0.8972,0,0,0,0,7,0,37.0,0,3,4,3,5,14,8,0,11,1,11,0,0,11,2,28,20,12,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,14,6,0,0,3,2,0,4,1,9,1,1,5,2,13,5,20,14,4,24,0,0,0,0,31,9,0,6,11,90,27,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387888784977507,0.20621417760967212,0.11540747340131136,0.17795396488643409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833943979836681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892696310266452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607640729715055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912736044582116,0.0,0.1137519059069167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326725138950158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32116422109730064,0.11328161773073307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390534765677786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073381625482646,0.11499874598615373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18050568227264124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448841217866404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275995320384003,0.0,0.2966650941272582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4947914146948925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525881558784283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354967416717075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855494006405576,0.20621417760967212,0.0
parenting,Frogad,2020/01/06,"Why are some kids just not well behaved? I am 22 and have a 7 year old sister, she's fairly normal albeit a bit behind in school as she is dyslexic and generally just not doing too well. My sister is almost impossible to discipline, she will kick and scream and shout until she gets her way. Like she rarely does anything 'bad', but she will refuse to go to bed or want a specific juice, bounce endlessly on the bed and jump on me when I am doing my work. She is perfectly capable of playing by herself or watching a movie but I think when she sees me and she associates me as a 'kid', she wants to hop on my back or paint or the carpet.

My mother spends a lot of time trying to help my sister with schoolwork, buying her random gadgets that apparently help people with learning difficulties to read and write, etc. I used to think upbringing was what made you how you are. But when I was growing up, my mother was a teen mum, didn't have much money. I was also growing up outside of Britain with far less opportunity, but somehow I never really had any trouble. I did well in school, I don't recall ever really being told off maybe the odd not tidying my room. But I was very obedient, if my mum told me to do something, I'd go and do it. 

I am struggling to understand why my sister, who has a much better upbringing than me now, a lot of support etc. but she just does these things. Like it seems so avoidable, just don't try and climb the fridge, don't bring paint to the carpet etc. But she just does it anyway and then cries when told off.

She is generally quite sweet and kind and doesn't really act badly in a 'mean' way, more that makes poor decisions that result in something being dropped and broken, damaged, she falls over. Is this just a case of kids being kids? I just find it so hard to relate to.",6.0176243093922634,5.531692447513817,6.5938618784530405,80.02593093922655,66.51381215469614,9.449944751381217,29.14972375690608,8.841846274778883,2.061016132596686,1414,40,287,20,20,464,187,362,0.105,0.7609999999999999,0.134,0.9283,1,1,2,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,0,6,24,19,0,2,16,0,34,0,0,5,3,70,53,37,0,4,22,8,1,2,0,2,0,2,5,4,12,16,0,4,8,2,4,9,9,7,3,0,12,6,45,12,38,36,11,39,0,1,2,0,39,14,0,12,15,209,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353864933962392,0.0,0.0,0.08268773308807932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031451717771267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850881450813146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950705447127801,0.1726668361911532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144755959502868,0.11288436836447747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357838328769855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714541395751088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3459499371179673,0.0,0.09352985160889302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450434434337056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402144209779272,0.0,0.11752748651811415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262473525739172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861165323455674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767361333181197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010305562555323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581139299642606,0.0,0.09783814893289336,0.06901929330129676,0.0,0.10387767838397637,0.11263126518077934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520195709736811,0.0,0.07974728786604796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130856416158776,0.0,0.0,0.1084993191219152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168349214112382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997701901591203,0.10342646858813516,0.0,0.19871915626505912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092895790412412,0.08239520748139986,0.09413009963434922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920241452409972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080945493419956,0.0,0.0,0.11733537827496253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869336062515555,0.132507151469983,0.0,0.0,0.0602924895634245,0.0,0.0,0.2964050575216195,0.0,0.14040157150006166,0.0,0.0,0.10764147201952487,0.0,0.08930309472997572,0.0,0.08531458094401745,0.12197421376685127,0.1641458131306093,0.0,0.0,0.27890297373516537,0.0,0.18660210470573288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527533036200773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658523589031635
parenting,DustinBraddock,2020/01/06,Potty training using only toilet? Wife and I are starting to think about potty training our near 2-year old twin girls. Wondering if anybody has just used an adapter seat for the toilet and skipped the potty entirely? How did it go? Pros/cons.  Would love to get a sense of how possible this is.,3.1922424242424263,5.987586072727275,3.4322727272727285,86.78174242424242,79.18181818181819,5.848484848484849,25.53030303030303,7.1686216300943375,1.3978484848484842,234,9,41,3,6,72,47,55,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.6946,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,4,0,11,13,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,11,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,2,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238532919764873,0.0,0.1766404120929232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28051804306732075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261426753739481,0.0,0.0,0.2363849122400933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35039142908938964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21999282615856816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199154415144492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5368798711387395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33706004643225995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22079041452173376,0.0,0.0,0.20015136638112646
parenting,blahyaddayadda24,2020/01/06,"4 year old sleep issues. Admittedly, we failed our first son with regard to sleeping habits. We are paying for it now.

Our son cannot and will not fall asleep on his own. He requires us to read books until he falls asleep. I believe this is also why he eventually ends up in out bed at around 3am. 

Any tips on steering this back to him being able to do it himself?

We have gone the route of forcing the matter but it's a constant battle and he ends up not getting to sleep until 9pm.",1.2475247524752469,3.2755413267326747,2.8361287128712886,92.71815346534656,81.27722772277228,4.832079207920792,20.000990099009897,5.6839178017228535,-0.17380475247524751,378,10,82,2,10,124,77,101,0.057,0.932,0.011000000000000001,-0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,6,0,0,3,4,2,1,0,3,0,7,5,5,0,0,14,10,6,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,8,0,1,1,2,1,3,3,2,0,1,1,0,10,0,18,7,1,21,0,1,0,0,16,8,0,0,10,53,15,5,0.20025211060862166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601415405046199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617830215133572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826683435457102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539815122329282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256155541178861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21640139070229825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35472786404761564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033434298485547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046234626919387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090111763437114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21013090405293464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030630167371746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6011901908640115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408786326701187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069638260096704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895579370860766
parenting,Slbaumb,2020/01/06,Need car seat recommendations I have a three year old who needs a new car seat and I am looking for recommendations from parents who have used their car seat for longer than the people on the amazon reviews. I would like to find one that will transition with her down to a booster seat and also doesn’t take an hour and an engineering degree to get in and out of the car. What car seats do you like and why?,5.380243902439023,5.627675560975611,5.627951219512196,83.92314634146345,67.78048780487805,8.511219512195122,26.15609756097561,8.238735603445708,1.2848848780487805,324,8,70,4,5,103,57,82,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.6908,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,1,0,12,13,6,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,6,2,13,11,0,13,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,6,46,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505210578350947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457844410256501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049756169052696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26482818673085473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627576432418098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258217934081066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987957573180032,0.0,0.2597208424093543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821822074671033,0.0,0.18222450707396487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29859950187911954,0.0,0.0,0.186432562112248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021914380819916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322571662982761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426549505103557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103027987945526,0.0,0.0,0.17317314984377755
parenting,grownenough,2020/01/06,"Say what you want you can’t change my opinion on this Dear parents who put their children on leashes or those wrist wraps w a cord connected, or those backpack leashes. Fuck you. Pay real attention to your child or don’t bring them out. I can’t STAND IT!!!!!! it disgusts me",2.6355555555555554,4.761264777777782,3.0442222222222237,92.47300000000004,77.14814814814815,5.801481481481483,27.46666666666667,6.742157984588678,1.1446488888888888,214,9,44,2,5,66,43,54,0.162,0.7609999999999999,0.076,-0.7067,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,2,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,8,6,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,9,1,4,6,0,6,0,0,0,1,11,3,1,4,0,27,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151493299863917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628043214381035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357580158695488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945104460009792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466824700013088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120839233749258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314711937232648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Inf3rnus16,2020/01/06,"Is it discipline or abuse? Is it abuse if a father hits a 17 year old boy in the eye and chokes him for talking back? The boy only shoved the father back in self defence then the father pins down the teen, choking him then hitting him in the eye not causing a black eye but causing the eye to be bloodshot and blurry.",7.446256410256409,5.357981523076923,7.201538461538465,82.02179487179487,64.53846153846155,9.282051282051283,33.97435897435898,6.42735559955562,2.0256666666666665,249,8,52,1,3,79,40,65,0.163,0.8190000000000001,0.018000000000000002,-0.8385,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,10,0,3,4,4,2,0,10,5,7,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,6,2,0,10,0,0,5,0,10,4,0,2,6,34,5,0,0.0,0.5918608396472045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38410739409725697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.51315445529693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620861193159961,0.0,0.0,0.1899573683291344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605591348923791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007514674531884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084032802661474
parenting,riotlady,2020/01/06,"Toddler constantly biting and hitting me I’m hiding in my bedroom crying again because I just can’t cope with my 21 month old daughter. She hits, bites and scratches me every day. When she does it I will firmly say “no hitting” and if she keeps going she goes to time out in her room but nothing seems to be working. 

She’s really clingy with me so I get nearly all of it. She won’t accept her dad going to her if she wakes up in the night and will scream for me. Sometimes she’ll hit me when I’m trying to get her to sleep so I leave her alone in her cot and she’ll scream for me until i come back, only to hit me again the second I do. So I have to choose between allowing myself to get hit or listen to her making herself sick screaming for me.

I would understand if she did it mostly in a temper/during tantrums but most of the time she just randomly hits out when we’re doing something nice together. She’s a lovely girl otherwise and actually fairly good at doing as she’s told aside from this, but honestly it’s making me dread spending time with her. Every time I get down on the floor to play with her or take her out to the park in the back of my mind I know she’s going to hit/bite me soon and sometimes it really hurts. 

I feel like such a terrible mother for being so affected by it but part of me wishes I could just send her away until she’s through with this phase so I don’t have to deal with it anymore :( 

Please does anyone have any advice?",2.599803921568629,3.9184586699346435,4.036094771241832,88.83492647058826,75.04575163398692,6.668627450980392,22.22712418300653,7.1686216300943375,0.6266692810457517,1147,29,245,12,24,380,156,306,0.14400000000000002,0.76,0.096,-0.9299,0,1,1,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,17,14,1,1,9,0,18,4,2,4,1,48,47,27,0,6,12,3,2,1,0,6,1,5,2,1,9,17,0,1,6,1,1,5,4,7,0,1,2,7,55,7,49,29,4,41,0,1,0,1,37,17,0,9,20,177,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.12319566880237295,0.0,0.0,0.12336391106424245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307504303133552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585006492403027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519985664414487,0.08827255075525019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861013925362908,0.1941472703574544,0.0,0.07695700555592362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782545542487634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874779430446264,0.0,0.1364246223366541,0.0,0.10079534520413444,0.0,0.138672808554902,0.08141676143767336,0.13015174144057065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209534762930061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273157336232834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638326226728219,0.09018854535056088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638285519141845,0.0,0.21524166174185794,0.10588725044264513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514652312162048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221122704375873,0.0,0.0,0.06938025199833879,0.0,0.0,0.13367388104565006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061676309260056614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393989446880973,0.0,0.1685373390519458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747017842954533,0.0,0.1007665401956862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118471187850258,0.0,0.12113426295998335,0.0,0.13247155729289334,0.0,0.0,0.09601404480135824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670965633985355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857770435878025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174993113571245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003940804958427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492754966218766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633490089096228,0.0,0.0,0.0971885904329902,0.2497165524047445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094919573117074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29445493483909263,0.0,0.0,0.12063129328722084,0.0,0.08571120525689052,0.0,0.0,0.13142417430014713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451740582384671,0.0,0.0,0.09190693839827076,0.0,0.0,0.08967992309961245,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,worthysmash,2020/01/06,"Let’s poo in peace together buddy! Our 4 year old is something else. 

I can’t use the bathroom at work. Not that it’s against the rules or anything, I just can’t do it. It’s perfectly clean and all that, but something about having a dump in public makes me uncomfortable. 

So every day when I get home from work, first thing I do is drop the kids off at the pool. 

And every day, without fail, there’s a little tap at the door. I open it, and there she is, potty in hand and a cheeky grin on her face. Then she forces her way in (not that I put up much of a fight) and she sits herself down opposite me and drops her own kids off. Full eye contact throughout, and there’s always a narrative; “ooh this is a big one”, or “come on poo, you can do it!” 

Then she tells me she loves us pooing in peace together, and calls me her little buddy. 

I’m not sure peace means what you think it does kiddo....",1.9557932263814628,3.23860418716578,3.154352941176473,94.65192156862749,76.64705882352942,6.270089126559715,20.48805704099821,6.742157984588678,0.05530901960784318,681,15,161,6,15,220,111,187,0.06,0.769,0.171,0.9755,0,0,2,0,1,0,29.0,2,2,0,5,7,7,2,0,11,0,12,4,3,2,3,25,20,15,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,12,10,0,0,2,1,0,2,6,3,0,2,0,2,24,4,19,19,4,33,0,1,1,1,22,19,0,2,8,106,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450507866930032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345306073947922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780033789787926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501639178857804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248479604988411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255132245601385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456245841699193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937494660779768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827914262906775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107662656276097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486028606474782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825718389398376,0.0,0.0,0.3494350916936325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573334067726163,0.0,0.11636202510567037,0.0,0.0,0.18988896408191744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814753881187865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292277262965304,0.0,0.1181258463254719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524286719853913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684048831805205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642974618477796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236607590150406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158125238802907,0.11169920574760027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20968922945364574,0.15055919082828767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383695653410564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804125086384902,0.0,0.25381859078690405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225836312917456
parenting,ArtaxIsAlive,2020/01/06,"Compact Jogging Stroller Rec's? Hello friends! I have no running buddies IRL so Reddit will do my bidding today. 

I've gotten back into running and have a 10 month old that I'll need to cart around with me. My routes are on paved roads and trails so I won't need anything too insane but something with shock absorption would help with the potholes and cracks. I also need something compact that can fold up super easy, isn't insanely heavy to carry, and has at least a darn cupholder. Last but not least it needs to have a decent sun visor to protect the kid against UV rays (though I'll also throw a lightweight white blanket over his legs to block out the heat. I tried a J for Jeep stroller but I hated it because it was really big, impossible to fold down, and insanely heavy.

The recommendations I've gotten so far are:

1. Bob Rambler
2. Joovy Zoom 360 Ultralight
3. Thule Urban Glide 2

Thanks in advance!",3.7851325757575762,5.831713460227274,4.138272727272728,86.29157575757576,73.48863636363636,6.284242424242424,27.64242424242424,7.0316486544052195,1.393006515151515,723,28,136,7,15,226,123,176,0.08900000000000001,0.789,0.122,0.7983,0,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,9,5,1,0,9,0,13,1,1,0,0,21,21,14,0,5,4,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,11,0,2,0,1,0,5,4,2,0,0,3,1,9,3,20,15,2,22,0,0,1,0,5,12,1,0,5,76,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32201809791673736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656831165341164,0.1792325299844389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481565097770458,0.0,0.12273310760949045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555239217775702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19877850926187568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495188239149225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411644840091286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607051954780905,0.0,0.0,0.5971550511487973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21126921167184087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898157588447767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30999796943395297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536397024268525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978124854091372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908438427767528,0.0,0.0,0.13669454134995696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302395958217407,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LikesBoardGames,2020/01/06,"Update - 5 weeks ago we took away out 21 month old's pacifier and she is miserable. Now it has been over 10 weeks. [Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/e03owl/5_weeks_since_we_took_away_the_pacifier_toddler/)

[Update 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/e0msxs/update_5_weeks_ago_we_took_away_out_21_month_olds/)


In my last update she started to climb out of the crib.  She actually stopped doing that after a couple days.  I don't know why. Since then she has only attempted to jail break once.

We tried to give her back her pacifier and she refused it.  She says she is a big girl and doesn't want a pacifier. 

Sadly still nothing soothes her at nap time.  Still if she misses a nap her mood is noticeably worse the rest of the day.  But she always screams for 15 minutes on a good day and hours on a bad day.

I don't imagine my fussy toddler story will have anymore updates after this.",6.405197368421053,9.903752019736846,4.961052631578949,76.41486842105266,71.5657894736842,7.221052631578948,26.605263157894736,8.278499904357787,2.09136052631579,745,26,116,13,16,217,103,152,0.133,0.831,0.036000000000000004,-0.8999,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,2,0,0,2,4,7,0,1,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,15,18,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,4,8,0,2,2,2,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,2,19,1,16,15,1,37,0,3,0,0,19,9,0,1,25,72,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.1659742080426507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507662596450384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415207496123319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867433129406487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979639641414414,0.13078154351721907,0.1420102624948298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819103606825832,0.0,0.438751869522055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631568849916269,0.0,0.14265560392569038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749520844065802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347189305572412,0.1386384535600113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575677512661716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631969983771554,0.19363798006212776,0.17847106171512667,0.18113037205281698,0.0,0.12935402033038088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352549822932303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069249504039255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203839798309546,0.0,0.2716532995292367,0.14219506315695454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917541154098464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896589218867835,0.11547361649307815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031799097456634,0.0,0.2728569227952266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347135822893224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332674206134804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Background-Activity,2020/01/06,"Daughter is speaking to an internet predator and I'm trying to make her stop My 15 year old daughter was caught speaking with an internet predator last year and we told her to stop talking to him. She said she was no longer speaking to him so we let it go and assumed that was the end of it.

We caught her texting him in May and took her phone and computer away. As a response, she ran away from home but the police brought her back and threatened to put her in Juvie if she ran again. Since then, she's been in contact with him on and off, usually contacting him from school. This brings me to my issue today:

I made her phone the guy and tell him that she could no longer speak to him yesterday. She dialed what she says is the number but there was no answer. We got to his voicemail every time we tried. I gave up making her try calling at around midnight and sent her to bed. 

Should I make her stay up all night tonight until he answers?",3.699924812030076,4.919552947368423,3.9870676691729336,90.64947368421049,72.15789473684211,6.69172932330827,26.72932330827068,6.868970318607317,1.0269323308270677,740,25,156,6,14,230,112,190,0.075,0.9179999999999999,0.008,-0.899,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,4,1,33,29,16,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,6,2,1,6,17,0,2,3,0,0,10,3,0,0,0,17,6,37,0,28,8,1,39,0,0,0,0,51,11,0,3,17,110,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394884452930723,0.0,0.0,0.2944332006739649,0.12048590991707707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999929951235284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510522409062275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878195132953924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132019147822479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905125619084188,0.0,0.12532031771077215,0.0,0.0,0.15514898616522665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717411345445606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354496977868674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772429333253058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160227433432486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826506247996687,0.31377790601881017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704413655483814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644211230905275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751799857486462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904927384850075,0.1246071821309586,0.0,0.15857992435158969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961663264980255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701203881547588,0.0,0.2620018254781677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594250251356265,0.136955071041607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136793602181988,0.0,0.1485249966900316,0.14972521745399384,0.17408975954353634,0.31914924798434496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257328994276636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018080731738377
parenting,blugooza,2020/01/06,"Nursery Temp My baby's nursery window faces the sun which has not been a problem because it has been cloudy and cold for weeks. Today it is sunny af and it is messing with her naps because it is so freaking hot in there. The rest of the house is comfortable, cool even. We have the heat set on 73 degrees Fahrenheit, we don't have any ceiling fans, and we are renting. I put her in a light dress under her sleep sack so hopefully that will help... Does anyone have any suggestions on what we can do? I am seriously worried about what it will be like when summer comes, if it's that hot now!",2.8058823529411754,4.540526773109246,3.627470588235294,90.25061764705885,75.38655462184875,6.104537815126051,25.345378151260505,6.742157984588678,0.8709825210084032,462,16,96,4,10,147,83,119,0.059000000000000004,0.8079999999999999,0.133,0.8564,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,6,1,19,2,2,0,0,13,21,7,0,3,2,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,11,9,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,4,0,0,2,5,10,4,9,16,1,13,1,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,6,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599638033744655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506056536790855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32267577713230294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279862553456337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316109305380897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480934433357925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773999875595699,0.0,0.0,0.26287297727011066,0.0,0.3053889374727865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293023999399178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25324954195748456,0.0,0.2660623512701411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264857059012647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508723460129432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21229903698288868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687810894066312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlacknWhiteKoala,2020/01/06,"Toddler meltdowns sever times a day My daughter is 2.5yo and for a while now she keeps having several meltdowns a day. Like full blown tantrums with yelling and screaming like never before. She never used to have these horrible screaming episodes. She did have meltdowns, but now it’s getting pretty ugly and loud. She screams like her skin is burning with acid. And it’s for silly reasons (I know they’re not silly for a 2.5yo, but still). One minute she is very nice and well behaved, and next she turns into a screaming devil. 

At the daycare the teacher said they never had problems with her, she’s really good and listens, but at home she’s driving me nuts and I don’t know what to do anymore. 

Is it just a phase, is there something for me to worry about? I’m really at my wits end.",3.2129131652661087,5.434001575163403,3.5571101774042937,89.02485294117649,75.73202614379085,5.417180205415501,27.26844070961718,6.1826913282559595,1.0768323062558358,623,25,117,4,14,193,91,153,0.175,0.669,0.156,-0.6639,0,0,1,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,1,0,7,15,1,0,8,0,12,1,1,2,3,26,21,12,0,1,5,1,1,3,0,0,0,8,1,0,5,12,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,7,1,1,3,10,17,8,15,18,1,18,1,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,15,81,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703116182865111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613095733669146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150537177544652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210323991446212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972268186058048,0.0,0.0,0.14404033249058326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226081387441597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264295167730454,0.0,0.0,0.18875841093889345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25169818053088355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973500295769726,0.0,0.18263852280841975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636978804950195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471279300133113,0.0,0.1643239644961407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22003134243000128,0.1765687040167385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335609380086194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880156912342681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220738872468654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371450910780121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013808683390438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867946851941619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483209786054615,0.0,0.1416965691188311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544073477164267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440179299634845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExpensiveGreen,2020/01/06,"I’m not sure how I feel about having kids My girlfriend is totally unsure on the kids issue, and I’ve always felt like this would be a natural step for me at some point in my life. Obviously, this is an extremely premature discussion to have, as I’m 21 and she’s 20 - but it’s one I ponder out of the fear of us having different minds on this issue and causing us to split.

She encouraged me to really think about why I wanted kids, and I couldn’t really come up with any reasons other than the fact that I liked the idea of it, and thought I’d make a good parent. However, I seem to definitely also only think about the good parts of parenting, and some of it is selfish. I like the idea of seeing myself in my child, and instilling into them my values, and watching them grow and achieve. 

However, I totally gloss over the fact that my child might have a birth defect, mental health problems or personal issues with me. The child could have addiction problems, and the risk of dying before me - which I’ve heard causes grief greater than any kind. I also gloss over the enormous loss of freedom of receive - having to be tired ALL the time, irritated, having to give up on a hobby or two from lack of time, and possibly losing intimacy with my partner. As well as the enormous financial burden and endless thankless work (I’ve heard it’s like an 8-hour a day job for several years). 

So, while I do have a sort of “urge” in the sense that I enjoy fantasizing about it, on an intellectual or rational level I don’t know if it’s the right thing for me.

How do I know?",6.916724276527332,5.931736996784565,7.698663585209005,74.48728798231514,64.88424437299037,11.119051446945338,32.62077974276527,10.411451182825502,3.168519131832797,1230,41,241,26,16,414,164,311,0.14,0.7,0.16,0.8431,6,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,2,4,10,21,0,2,23,0,20,4,0,6,7,60,37,26,2,8,6,2,2,4,2,2,4,2,0,8,15,18,0,0,12,0,0,4,3,10,1,2,4,6,31,11,47,27,8,29,0,3,2,0,23,19,0,9,10,171,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167587156812696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713013949151765,0.0891187618066175,0.0,0.0,0.14566821976482247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113726146235067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004976768864035,0.0,0.0922602540469838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551349675425332,0.0,0.0,0.06907295124434695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115661075348587,0.11190044948107468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205213086085522,0.054154790190886065,0.0,0.10283623675877583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027435171910046,0.0,0.17966680958740416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384610144016595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054754559007228,0.0,0.0,0.241813819365648,0.0,0.3353649460444662,0.10628378080092876,0.0,0.0,0.11153190122922724,0.11772265757022007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565042883342996,0.20930160459464708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982151449973635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714924740165377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793522167579513,0.11361997722243902,0.1081440880759234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257616040487587,0.08145710193120012,0.0,0.0,0.237851710433204,0.1159827443421825,0.0,0.0,0.09351871840182424,0.0,0.0,0.10124750585113282,0.12074319839061325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496733053365868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722659695407333,0.110120322465043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914658755621245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534768972838118,0.0975030803764602,0.0,0.12099656413676675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094386043443901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115486213635741,0.13725530399331398,0.0,0.08502828213761554,0.1249059223104074,0.12309981427490928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462463884307092,0.0,0.2576648485560269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317246882220967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629898467110587,0.0,0.0966443256950532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779726847752441,0.0,0.0,0.07608331314674475,0.0,0.0,0.06897119658980973
parenting,Celsey28,2020/01/06,"First time mom; baby fell out of bed. Feel awful My LO was 6 weeks early due to severe huge and spent sometime in the NICU fighting for her life. 

She is 10months(actual) old today and today she fell out of the dang bed onto the hardwood floor! Im pretty sure I cried more than her. 

I keep replaying it all in my head. I rushed her to the Dr and he assured me she was going to be ok and that this actually happend A LOT.

I just feel so heartbroken. My little girl has already been through so much and here I go being a failure and letting her get hurt...

How do you deal with the guilt? I feel like the worst parent...",0.758942632170978,2.975472818897636,2.6281721034870635,92.37710629921257,84.59055118110237,4.888413948256468,19.30764904386952,6.1826913282559595,-0.07321777277840269,476,13,103,4,14,158,91,127,0.18,0.715,0.10400000000000001,-0.9183,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,5,8,1,1,8,2,9,3,1,1,3,19,17,9,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,3,9,0,1,3,0,1,5,0,4,0,1,4,3,18,4,14,10,5,21,0,1,0,0,14,8,1,1,9,69,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.17755407832467798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007830982615362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986029501701025,0.0,0.18757942319305956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27599369188622475,0.1299830115850129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476407100928916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950598260195394,0.0,0.2068094072850044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673016891870306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19477808420470955,0.0,0.19653404036846492,0.0,0.0,0.1617229013740457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605318979418128,0.12851458490818332,0.08889013998295874,0.18235874710746164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468487864725106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309419038390576,0.0,0.0,0.13375201963475172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092282616774434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020306712558705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510556485484544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554838161712424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995028857616194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17148294494569805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609479024659747,0.0,0.34492906497181536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594695167626526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cookiesarebetter,2020/01/06,"2.5 Year Old Will Only Sleep with Mom in the Room Recently my 2.5 year old will not fall asleep unless I am in the room with her. I am looking for advice on how to get her back to falling asleep on her own.  

Right now, I stay in her room until she falls asleep, which is taking 45 - 60 min. I have tried telling her I will only stay for 5 minutes and then leaving, but that has not worked. If I am not in the room, she will cry and scream “mommy, mommy, mommy” over and over again. She isn’t super verbal, so when I ask her what is wrong, she will only say “mommy.” However, I suspect this new behavior is a result of a lot of changes in her life:

October: twin baby sisters came home from the NICU. The 2 year old has been great with them and helps/plays with them when she initiates (we don’t push). We also make sure that she gets a lot of one on one attention from one parent while the other parent is with the twins.

November: we got rid of the pacifier. Went cold turkey, she threw them in the garbage herself after talking about it a lot with her.

December: potty training, using the “oh crap” method. She is trained during the day and has no accidents at home but is still having accidents at daycare. She wears a pull up during naps and bedtime. Wanting mommy in her room when she sleeps started a week after potty training.

In retrospect, we shouldn’t have pushed all of these changes on her so close together, but I can’t change the past and am just looking for advice regarding what to do now. Other relevant things: she is still in a crib, bed time is 8:00/8:30, she sleeps with two stuffed animals, she sleeps with a sound machine, and we have a solid bedtime routine. She was sleep trained at 5 months old using the Ferber method and has been a great sleeper until recently. Additionally, one parent sleeps in the twins’ nursery and takes care of their night feedings - we take turns but my husband has mostly taken on this responsibility (he’s awesome!). We are hoping to transition out of the twins’ room in March/April. Finally, I go back to work after maternity leave ends in two weeks.

Any thoughts? Should I continue to stay in her room and hope she grows out of it? Should I leave and let her cry and scream? Should I give her back the pacifier? Should I try to introduce another comfort object? Should we move her into another room, maybe sleep with the twins? Thank you!",4.567570521630998,5.7875798574514095,4.893049283330061,84.97134825577591,70.07991360691145,7.9447346030499375,26.9892663132404,8.296473431620573,1.6668709863210949,1866,60,370,27,33,589,222,463,0.079,0.836,0.085,0.8420000000000001,4,0,2,0,0,0,67.0,8,1,4,3,19,13,1,0,27,0,41,14,12,5,2,69,67,30,0,10,10,6,0,0,0,11,1,4,11,0,13,36,1,0,3,1,0,12,8,4,0,6,9,7,59,9,63,46,6,92,0,0,2,0,55,37,1,7,40,255,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223829404841675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410978738253669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460129142776108,0.1419003516905243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325543300219101,0.0,0.0,0.1560851768037947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738803265388534,0.06898656919963084,0.0,0.21473429864729224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864846190433592,0.043636804096856885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599290141764439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412111290643654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070187165237422,0.06490816811961315,0.038454236617691866,0.0,0.05411599292801392,0.14919659513617484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574228612791145,0.13440853392080754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149348926579807,0.0,0.06918963192000359,0.04779212243544853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363914975988818,0.0,0.0,0.17257306626723218,0.0,0.0,0.045165336457440114,0.0,0.0679762146237724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924566417412059,0.05400767233173885,0.07191467637332832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534899767840878,0.0,0.06349680242809931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840022271542091,0.0,0.1833998192714444,0.15438145620976593,0.0,0.0,0.2253940574124266,0.0,0.06459164442042344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361738482976504,0.0,0.0,0.057783523384322875,0.0,0.05380804573558042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4739805239608415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04789196362860646,0.21635810880140935,0.10807094065933057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377123581958688,0.0,0.1526216497903017,0.054384665630116666,0.059140128203698135,0.062294666561305924,0.0,0.0,0.04495205031270767,0.0,0.0,0.05371657680017063,0.039454628506571526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187697979275712,0.07359752062730998,0.13219313165725302,0.0,0.0,0.11687758964910235,0.0,0.0,0.039909177132997804,0.0,0.10854977415327448,0.0,0.0,0.06272394356372446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851841304440476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397847309461182,0.0,0.13071756192674544
parenting,lucy146,2020/01/06,I’m freaking out just a little I came to the sudden realization last night when talking to my SO that we’re just days away from the third trimester ( I’m incredibly excited to meet our little boy) but we have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING READY! I have 2 sleepers for him and that’s it! Our lease is up at the end of January and the plan is to stay with his sister until he’s off of active duty orders(out of town) and then moving to a new place closer to the base. We have THREE MONTHS to get everything ready and move. TWICE.,2.705047619047619,4.510564457142864,4.131428571428572,86.22190476190477,75.85714285714286,7.333333333333332,23.095238095238088,8.167268648758528,1.2008095238095238,408,12,85,7,9,135,74,105,0.064,0.848,0.087,0.3378,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,9,9,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,9,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,1,0,9,1,19,8,0,24,0,0,0,0,11,10,0,0,10,56,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051825016296027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25627286801247856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450462885928833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984567873542744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013769026387075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170657193421651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264444820840187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44914784304534544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884808036191904,0.47629535819339097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21640523065998646,0.0,0.21027162869805485,0.0,0.2149982559128927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234102244513168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388255270608231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18009650535068786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mryingster,2020/01/06,"Is screen time for kids better spent watching a TV show/movie, or by playing a video game? I'm curious what redditor parents think about this. My spouse and I are on different sides of the fence on this debate.

The TV/Movie side: Video games cause more aggression and anger after the activity has ceased. It also is harder to get children to end their screen time because they always want to do ""one more thing"" or get to a save spot.

The Video Game side: TV is a completely passive activity, whereas playing video games generally rely on problem solving or being creative. 

I've done some _very_ cursory searches looking for research on the matter, but haven't found anything that seems very academic and always seems very slanted one way or the other or extremely anecdotal. My goal isn't to make sure the kids are learning; screen time is like play time. It doesn't have to be directly educational to be beneficial. Everyone needs some fun.

For context, our kids (6, 9) play games like Minecraft, dungeon crawlers, Slime Rancher, Portal, Crash Bandicoot. TV Shows tend to be cartoons aimed at their demographic like Avatar (TLA), MLP, Disney type shows, etc.

I look forward to and appreciate your thoughtful feedback!",7.417327188940092,8.627736331797237,6.71398617511521,74.53383640552998,63.56221198156682,9.517972350230414,36.23732718894009,9.606745405546679,3.585171428571428,972,45,161,18,14,299,139,217,0.05,0.752,0.198,0.9839,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,3,2,2,14,2,0,11,0,17,0,0,2,1,28,32,11,0,3,6,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,4,0,1,6,18,1,1,3,3,0,2,4,6,9,11,21,24,5,16,0,0,6,0,16,9,0,9,10,84,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202530792092513,0.2539324179203314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556768357535994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301679219291907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495250385343135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675085817853693,0.0,0.0,0.1599865843791596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942294937153864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615144766921762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514849645552654,0.0,0.17017698605538595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458052565663634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730587996647814,0.0,0.0,0.15944283051740638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236417230722398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562725324217009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185429208228657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314275418738876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679640876266608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943194315202306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14600699331423753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27782245234063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381325567533973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137330132728234,0.09777282165073878,0.0,0.12113856183094752,0.3559033162251097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777055297458356,0.09000090120658125,0.12111798596447948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Banana_mechanic,2020/01/06,"Therapy in NYC for college student So my daughter (19) has asked to see a therapist. Good on her for self awareness. I had the sense she wasn't completely right but wasn't able to get her to talk much about it. She goes to school in NYC, and we live 6 hours away. She did research and found some names, but they're $275 an hour and don't take insurance. (We have Cigna) I know this is important, but I can't afford that. Literally it would cause me to go into the red in a tenuously balanced budget straining to handle private college tuition already.  Any thoughts on other options? I can't believe this is the going rate for all therapists in the area, and she's capable of getting to the boroughs like the Bronx if needed. Any thoughts on how to move forward? 

Thanks!",3.2251670040485827,5.149425717105267,4.108157894736846,86.4344129554656,74.72368421052632,7.045344129554657,29.455465587044536,7.882392219407189,1.9479801619433201,607,27,120,9,13,195,106,152,0.02,0.878,0.10300000000000001,0.9072,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,9,0,12,0,0,2,1,23,25,10,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,4,0,2,4,5,1,0,0,7,2,14,3,22,17,3,17,0,0,2,0,13,12,0,3,4,76,20,5,0.16616201120544094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18336391124536056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259917311157065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533905025436054,0.0,0.15611467924644334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720768593908604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069415694051782,0.0,0.0,0.17421770738434728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218806878583185,0.0,0.0,0.17362558554148372,0.0,0.188867400346206,0.13936881149589905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32727222049814625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131829584650512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117836550759787,0.0,0.14672410012357054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660392154450325,0.12214819708204805,0.12320702587763545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190144967564194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816482630630705,0.13240960986262362,0.0,0.1733432162753801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493315330904935,0.13355473050181582,0.0,0.15297965534770988,0.19002074097629035,0.3858538038908235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26382815284071803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803672533934186,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eileen219,2020/01/06,"Speech delay? - Almost 9 months Posting here because I think it will reach the highest number of parents. Our little boy is almost 9 months.  I’m concerned that his speech isn’t where it’s supposed to be. I can caught up in comparison for sure. He makes noises for sure. A lot of “ooo and aaaa” I have heard him say Ba and Ma but not stringing them together. I’m most concerned because he doesn’t seem to want to communicate back to us. He will grunt if he wants something and will make noises if we aren’t paying attention to him. I have read numerous stories about other moms in the same situation and their babies are doing excellent now. I have this huge fear that he will never be able to talk to us. Is there anything I should be doing to promote his speech? We have our next doctor visit in Feb and I’m hoping we will see a difference before then. 

My cousin is on the autism spectrum so it is always in my mind. I worry about it daily, and that makes me sad because it’s taking away from him at this moment. If he does have it, it’s for sure not the end of the world. But I have so much sadness that his life will be different and I guess the pressure to make sure we give him all we can in order for him to succeed. 

Okay, thanks for reading that long winded whatever that was. Looking for support. Thank you!!",2.3850501253132848,4.341720481203012,3.549041353383462,89.35834899749375,77.27067669172932,5.937092731829575,22.737468671679203,6.816661863887847,0.6232461152882207,1032,31,211,10,24,334,146,266,0.073,0.7659999999999999,0.161,0.9708,3,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,9,1,2,3,9,15,0,2,8,1,30,2,0,4,6,44,52,15,0,7,7,4,0,0,0,7,2,5,0,1,16,12,0,1,3,2,1,2,6,4,1,0,3,7,32,11,31,38,5,28,0,2,2,0,36,13,0,10,11,145,48,7,0.11169793719848002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236986987413565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294163168432286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191788503330196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049438888692212,0.08588881900343921,0.0,0.2042700773202688,0.0,0.09504671761409793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334011413567004,0.0,0.11432757176950195,0.09774761756150566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989312186536216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569123322331555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715083938710168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304787076091407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109412547575229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889555634373316,0.0,0.11195067717386524,0.0,0.09884915949155514,0.09379813540238564,0.0,0.0,0.09496159185011396,0.0,0.0,0.29823696171472946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278307506784843,0.1308192740611272,0.17831245562269166,0.0,0.08211083597025817,0.0,0.08614833512687241,0.0,0.1187920233960529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402734069924855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697574767447976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234563284932229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882668288715463,0.0,0.0,0.08900879436650849,0.1016856069443616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255531613712029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599052912286258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267534954523934,0.4210959356751148,0.0,0.08398294779345644,0.08977857087747662,0.0,0.20567290696243196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157152799175845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687177308910147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317646747068518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343467717195478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlueEyedChildofGod,2020/01/06,"Need help with parenting advice regarding 4 year old Over the last few months my four year old has had increasing bad behavior that I am struggling to handle along with her daycare teachers. I'm a single mom of a 7, 4, and 2 year old. Our schedule is pretty consistent, I work Monday through Friday and our evenings consist of cleaning up, dinner, sometimes a movie/mainly just down time. Then baths and bed. On weekends  typically I try and do a few fun things with them like the park, we go to church on sundays. 

Lately my four year old has started screaming when she gets mad (which I totally blame myself because I'm a yeller and Ive been working on knocking it off)), shes been punching her brother (7) and being aggressive towards her little sister as well (2). She refuses to dress herself, refuses to do any chores ( simple things like throw trash away, put her blanket on her bed, etc). When I try and ground her from things, she just replies with she doesn't care, if I put her in the corner she will scream like a banshee that's being murdered  She doesn't have any specific items she adores that can be taken until her behavior improves.

At daycare shes been hitting/kicking her teachers, sneaking drawing on the walls which she knows isn't acceptable. Any time anyone including myself sit her down to ask her whats wrong/why shes acting like that, she always shrugs her shoulders and says she doesn't know. 

​

And I don't know what to do now. I've been recommended to spend more time with her and also a book to read that I forgot the name of. Any and all kind suggestions are welcome.",5.698980582524271,6.507625524271848,5.634205501618125,82.18625970873791,67.2200647249191,8.251197411003236,31.63122977346278,8.238735603445708,2.2902464724919094,1273,50,238,16,20,398,177,309,0.08900000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.11,0.6759999999999999,1,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,3,0,1,2,8,18,3,1,12,0,28,2,1,0,2,32,41,18,1,2,3,4,0,4,0,1,0,3,5,0,13,18,1,3,4,4,1,6,5,7,1,2,7,3,44,11,35,30,9,49,1,0,0,0,43,18,0,1,28,159,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752241732918273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799289468160093,0.09155579644506004,0.11922009215643925,0.13370144634915745,0.29930330284979434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693723358101735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028654689557555,0.0,0.10337909022404336,0.0,0.09187248316379196,0.06707474816909141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218539587141714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271524543832775,0.07267538241007307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057487403361219575,0.0,0.06253396578405285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375241858256541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458184381232538,0.1814128381326475,0.08969111645019329,0.12412137394695373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502514978242246,0.11028140162236827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886865240016418,0.08782683601929762,0.0,0.0,0.08158765278141067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4618421042139544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217799228284815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194253889155653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122596703506306,0.0,0.0,0.11006220654364147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750220487766641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882488699505204,0.0,0.07788152043316103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150297866525569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21930197216953165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19248238473032134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940959478204938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893236911825053,0.0,0.09928715381062833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602098393388358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030318924928393,0.13370144634915745,0.2834291099892702
parenting,Jumpy-Bid,2020/01/06,"Agonizing over decision to potentially add a second child to the mix. Hi everyone, would be so appreciative of some candid and honest responses here as I've often seen in this subreddit. 

I am heart-burstingly blessed with a gorgeous, silly, adorable 17 month old girl. Lately DH and I have been talking about adding #2 in a year or so and I don't know if I'm considering it for the right reasons or the wrong reasons. She really was an easy baby and an easy toddler - I had no idea how good I had it until I have had some time to observe other kiddos her age. She's mild, sweet, good-natured... I love her so much, I am so blessed, and I'm happy. 

Things like finances? No problem. We are very lucky in that we've found decent jobs and we have minimal debt. I think we could afford outings and vacations for two kiddos (and still retire at 65). 

Here's the thing - DH is cool with 1, ""any more is just a bonus"". I only ever wanted one but now I'm starting to reconsider. I just worry about her upbringing and her future if we keep her an only child and being alone when we're gone. Is that stupid? This is coming from an only child by the way - sure there were times I wished I had a bro or sis, but now that I'm married with a kid I couldn't care less, and honestly wishing for a sibling at that time was the only somewhat negative part of my upbringing if you could even call it that. I have their full support when my mom and dad pass away, so I'll never be alone. I just worry that if we keep her an only, what if she never marries or finds a good partner - what if she has no genuine friends - it's almost too much to think about. Maybe I should add another one so she has someone she can count on (though - it's no guarantee they'll get along even in adulthood!) 

I'm almost thinking a second one would be good for helping me let go, too - I am so attached to her right now and I know that has to change sometime. I'm afraid of turning into a helicopter parent or worrying my socks off when she goes over to a friend's house - that's not good for her upbringing either. 

However you know what? I had a had a terrible time mental health wise during the pregnancy with her, mostly due to anxiety over our impending life change. Potential TW: but this included antenatal depression with a side of suicidal thoughts during the whooooole 9 months and about 6 months afterward. When I think back to that time my blood runs cold at the way I felt vs. how I feel about her and my life now. I am so SO afraid that adding #2 would change the beautiful relationship I have with her right now and we'd grow apart. *Note: this is absolutely freaking terrifying to me and my worst fear*. Can anyone talk to me on how your relationship with your first changed with your second, by the way? 

I also wonder, hmm... I've read stories of parental regret and very few of them are from parents of onlies. Can my introverted, easily stressed, anxious personality handle two or would this be certain disaster for my mental health, and in turn, unfair to my kid(s)? Could it go the other way - will I be sitting there aged 60 or so wishing I had another kid coming home for Christmas? 

Also, she's such a perfect child... will I be able to love #2 as much or will I constantly be comparing the two? I don't know if a second child's personality will be as awesome as hers is right now. 

Then there's the unthinkable.. if something happened to her I'd have 0 kids... then again if something happened to her and I had another kid I'd probably want to be buried right along next to her anyway. 

As you can see I keep going back and forth. Internally this gives me SO much inner turmoil because I just want what's best for my family and most of all my daughter - I haven't quite figured out what that is yet. I know it would kill me if she comes to me later wishing she'd have had someone to grow up with (it seems that most sibling relationships go OK or even great, but I've also known of a few experiences where siblings made life out to be complete hell)... I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm completely not opposed to #2 I'm just so afraid of that screwing things up. I know this happens as I've seen plenty of stories about it on this subreddit and it terrifies me. As an only child I have no idea how to handle two kids, so I think I'd be pretty out of my element as well. 

I guess I don't know what I'm asking, maybe a neutral party to read this and tell me if I've gone off the deep end? Potentially screwing up my life or my kid's life with this decision is pretty scary and I think I've overthought it to the point where I can't trust my judgement anymore. Many thanks for reading this, if you got this far.",3.457819350242654,4.711942668071657,4.668127754938482,85.40108119740574,72.79346680716544,7.833307113492335,26.432582852223987,8.336749749694476,1.6181105715430617,3668,124,766,59,71,1210,376,949,0.125,0.738,0.13699999999999998,0.6506,7,2,2,0,0,1,114.0,7,7,3,5,64,51,5,6,40,2,78,12,1,7,7,161,147,87,2,31,35,8,2,1,3,11,7,1,1,16,49,51,0,4,28,3,3,13,16,18,1,12,22,9,109,33,103,95,20,100,3,2,3,4,82,39,3,36,44,529,158,5,0.047926299646132486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598253231192226,0.09927438523534476,0.0,0.11497993353515105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03259152722221292,0.15076471185004825,0.036663488049240585,0.054143076921298015,0.04753001106808299,0.03351118305454682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04480462059424289,0.0,0.04502833615485215,0.07370473222789796,0.0,0.029215427428451724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050295694660901016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04893811042023665,0.0,0.048864056609665134,0.0,0.2027986809002271,0.12385279038166805,0.10049962668592266,0.051791303787594674,0.0,0.11479575140682408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04127885165811911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04244847620708828,0.0,0.0,0.09496460673772043,0.04335208186236359,0.0,0.04579563314833007,0.0,0.04688111738980031,0.045180649974935067,0.05393041140633095,0.02423297712526477,0.0,0.04601676350771128,0.0,0.04380376961843967,0.040766085995838766,0.0,0.05254871383197401,0.07405548044055084,0.0,0.02503951348003388,0.04597527371231285,0.1089504822036234,0.2009915314764526,0.038331039977805716,0.05283891455456194,0.10559244463802687,0.0,0.12714320549411925,0.051018437159228734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018868307780614,0.0,0.0567928958368029,0.032123988409764034,0.0,0.04807398621669043,0.0,0.0,0.05530051508347317,0.0,0.10820591738248182,0.0,0.0,0.04755945724943488,0.12779729161780432,0.05302334968640094,0.0,0.18437328633148667,0.0,0.054062953523513264,0.0,0.0,0.04900788849431639,0.16925881394564993,0.02341436915619739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651071319660332,0.04534902353461689,0.0,0.048589745511001294,0.096296819454084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659687531464628,0.0,0.0,0.05613070290637764,0.11476294540191982,0.0,0.1409253788424869,0.0,0.07392743369950278,0.0,0.05097016338567697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050290589407251285,0.0,0.09742830294780952,0.21870066313594588,0.0,0.0,0.15964945218556922,0.0518995121329553,0.0,0.0,0.0836947924948984,0.0,0.0,0.04530584431464618,0.0,0.0,0.0975165531117105,0.05167265700333202,0.04585899617320137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05097551903849283,0.14381780755038706,0.0,0.03070281477635227,0.09855243630031707,0.0,0.15436472970900306,0.0,0.2046439901647241,0.0,0.03811291709941885,0.0,0.0,0.0381910557790348,0.04363030321190785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121559632689451,0.07379201386948936,0.047400335822333814,0.0,0.0339224815648431,0.0,0.03827400480632647,0.0,0.054899414318580864,0.0,0.0,0.052423593059669316,0.054386196886085036,0.04516997023202124,0.0,0.0,0.07704268847919317,0.04188969832788588,0.044124097612730034,0.0,0.0,0.09552031170782226,0.184255425804475,0.0470873460672109,0.038048128499409535,0.13973105368376074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032538811494791424,0.10426010326320492,0.18726812316225444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908843291239911,0.0848045197766869,0.15216666349389998,0.0,0.0,0.04309149909907442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045151743216665,0.0,0.051974027567162906,0.0,0.1460144510657818,0.0,0.17022734097949752,0.052399885066484,0.0,0.03086296564665265
parenting,blackat_chemical,2020/01/06,"Girl hair help!!!!! Help a momma out. Ok my 2 yr old is finally very patient when doing her hair. Now for where i need some advice. How the heck do I do hair with big bows!?!??!! Videos, advice, pictures, any resource your willing to share. Cause on Valentine's Id like to do her first big bow!!! Any mommas, dads, hair people, please share your expertise. Her hair is already below her shoulder blades so plenty of hair to play with.",1.2762650602409664,3.799659578313257,2.148204819277112,94.44423493975908,85.74698795180723,4.283855421686749,19.143373493975908,5.6839178017228535,-0.2148303614457827,327,9,66,2,10,102,61,83,0.0,0.794,0.20600000000000002,0.9452,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,0,1,5,5,0,0,2,1,7,7,7,2,0,7,8,3,0,1,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,9,5,10,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,14,6,1,1,6,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4898354047916765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765820465601713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34088090220773765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574712708832775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745584825137012,0.0,0.2131900735886441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359908259889072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244764150158867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18584273828141631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26299935828135645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375880867324506,0.0,0.0,0.27512205686448843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20680019212938416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InfluencerParenting,2020/01/06,"PARENTING HACK #27. Dominant Brain vs. Sub-Dominant Brain. This Parenting Tip Will Change Your Style **If you're a parent you need to understand the Dominant Brain vs. The SUB-Dominant Brain!**

**WATCH YouTube Video HERE ----->** [https://youtu.be/ys9jTMX0rB8](https://youtu.be/ys9jTMX0rB8)

\#Parenting #InfluencerParenting #Parents",10.981008403361344,11.142405952380958,6.1640056022408976,55.27021008403364,144.23809523809524,10.512044817927167,33.42296918767507,7.510576382923642,5.824034733893559,278,13,30,10,17,74,31,42,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,6,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,4,0,0,5,3,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6103983286314547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460779504598906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135943997164676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7589318023297317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230688443305553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thatblondegirlt,2020/01/06,"Overwhelmed & Heartbroken by these Toddler years Let me preface this with saying that I'm 35 weeks pregnant so I'm probably hormonal to begin with. 

My 2 year old son has for the last week been hell to deal with. Crying, screaming and throwing himself around and basically in tantrum mode 24/7. Fighting me and screaming for an hr or two every time it's time for a nap or bed time. He's normally the light of my life (cheesy AF i know) and brings me joy every time I saw his face, but lately I feel such a disconnect from him because EVERYTHING i've tried cant seem to quell his tempers. I took him on a walk to go to the park today and he started thrashing and screaming the minute we stepped outside, and here I am trying to keep my cool while cars are passing by when I really just want to scream ""what the fuck is going on with you?"" I'm embarrassed and ashamed that this little boy who I felt such a bond with and could calm down no matter what is making me so angry, upset and short tempered. I feel like a terrible mom and have no freaking idea how I'm going to navigate life with a toddler and a newborn. 

I guess just looking for a forum to vent, get some words of encouragement. I feel so tired, mentally and physically, and feel like I just want my little boy back. Sorry if that sounds stupid.",7.213863837312112,5.952037919540231,7.2047509578544044,79.1672679045093,64.44061302681993,10.176363100501034,34.25316828765105,9.057496981413335,2.752474565281462,1031,37,208,14,13,331,162,261,0.237,0.6809999999999999,0.083,-0.9933,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,1,1,0,0,13,23,7,4,14,1,10,5,1,2,0,48,37,24,0,5,7,2,5,2,0,0,3,6,1,3,10,22,0,1,8,1,0,10,3,17,0,1,4,15,26,6,29,31,1,35,1,1,2,1,19,8,2,6,19,124,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378198409066787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113233894987206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780802160582873,0.0,0.07753920462827309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155788730216796,0.0,0.13972190317491148,0.0,0.1311363720480636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21434094113562335,0.0,0.11431807484436345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572621299715475,0.18174168868827933,0.1221307903399162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759323603952924,0.06645612029040376,0.0,0.21687001896407346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012381287316092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435919565177984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306013315464683,0.0,0.0,0.06990513102736301,0.10368399467170172,0.14348578080312782,0.0,0.0,0.1300693855555127,0.1796885408137405,0.12428581205532815,0.2549732172093346,0.0,0.0,0.10681495170699253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490618317234902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818646757466035,0.0,0.0,0.14897369101462676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462781193776486,0.0,0.0,0.13347373788985756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714181436777506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148680499156774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115358692559304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579700543580268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238863674001426,0.09003196157224884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966825603641979,0.14619630280090526,0.1205695844042032,0.0,0.14132254115445206,0.17271926409663654,0.0,0.12425473970722785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005028943402632,0.0,0.20406240117927416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382370681187633
parenting,emforshort,2020/01/06,"Dealing with my 6yo daughter’s loss of her kitten I am a rather young mother to a very sweet and smart 6 year old.. in July we got her a kitten because we needed a companion for our other cat and my daughter had also been begging for a kitten for months. We rescued the kitten from a shelter at 5 weeks old which was our first mistake, she was just too young. My daughter fell in love with her, was able to carry her around all the time and slept with her a lot. A few months after having the kitten she started having serious issues with control of her back legs and going to the bathroom. The vet determined it was most likely neurological damage and there was just nothing they could do to make it better. As time progressed the kitten got worse and eventually began having seizures. I did not let my daughter see this, and we did everything we could, but last weekend the kitten passed away while my daughter was asleep (not with the kitten.) The days prior to this happening, when the seizures were first starting, I explained that we may have to take the kitten back to the shelter because we aren’t able to properly care for her in the state she is in, which is what I ended up telling her after the kitten passed. She seemed to understand, and was sad but seemed to move on, at least somewhat. However just this morning she said she couldn’t sleep because she missed her kitten so much and began crying uncontrollably. I just feel so heartbroken for her and for the kitten and I wonder if I did the wrong thing by not telling her what happened..",8.716682646212849,7.15729738926175,7.9563950143815925,75.93134228187921,61.68456375838925,10.125023969319273,35.04410354745925,8.418075326091056,2.756723106423777,1234,41,227,12,14,385,152,298,0.11199999999999999,0.8340000000000001,0.053,-0.9659,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,9,0,1,6,14,14,0,1,24,0,27,6,4,2,1,53,51,20,0,7,11,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,12,24,0,1,6,1,0,5,5,8,0,2,19,4,40,6,38,27,7,43,0,4,1,1,41,10,0,8,28,181,52,0,0.2467057979880557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864526875934916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981023243795833,0.0,0.0,0.11589410913401972,0.18970153041271645,0.0,0.22558434691963364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909561499320744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576650156417582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383507651317006,0.19697450505997494,0.0,0.13549736733903298,0.0795524151204254,0.12717142245522398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925405542853954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086163177498952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237093207129318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20984782573892485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010429516697886,0.0,0.1973131636545976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816112240242785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874837846048026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005490763722472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613669663599456,0.0,0.06026399565288301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487022358331076,0.11133080736082934,0.0,0.08233901792947207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19691821424346104,0.13110461012231048,0.0906785739270776,0.09146461160516382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836043343085285,0.0,0.2588762346063326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733685447296074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829628994456957,0.22459169286655253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123441982982452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461963360371946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274602858581632,0.0,0.21563174143977476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195018496435552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438561347623084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841471812641558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177906023072633,0.0,0.0,0.09894625504084197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377095707664186,0.0,0.0,0.12570714240789932,0.0,0.13486703078747428,0.0,0.07943522266849809
parenting,MarcosNarcos,2020/01/06,"Dad of a 2 month old boy. Having depression issues. I have a 2 month old boy. Hes my 1st child and it's been really rough on me. I love him so much, hes made me view life through a different lens. And I'm appreciative of him blessing me as his dad. But through lack of sleep and feeling like there's a lack of bonding between him and I have sent me into a depression. I work long days as an apprentice in a trade. I'm out of the house from 3:15am-5PM roughly depending on bay area traffic. I am so sad most days that it becomes a blur. When I get home I try my hardest to help my wife with him but I have a hard time keeping him calm in my arms as hes really fussy and always screaming unless hes asleep on my chest. But of course he can't always sleep. Somethings gotta give with me trying to hold him to relieve my wife. I know she's going through it too and I know my mood and depression isnt helping her when she sees me visibly distressed and always zoning out. I dont really have a support system through my colleagues because of the stigma of being a dad with depression, I'm expected to just go to work and be a man and suck it up but I am physically and mentally exhausted. My family isnt much help either, no real fault of their own though. I shut myself out from a lot of people because of previous experiences in my depression. My mom is helpful but I have hard times talking to her and my dad is one of the same with my colleagues as hes an old school dude in the same trade. And I find it hard confiding in my friends because most if them dont have kids at our age range (26yo). I dont even know what I'm sad about most if the times but its affecting so many aspects of my life. I'm not sure what I even expect out of posting but I just gotta get my depression off my chest. I feel so helpless and want to be a better husband and a better dad. But I have such a hard time being a better me first.",2.383033362252544,3.449004227383864,4.154016878302709,88.7794897073902,75.18581907090464,7.526808107894945,25.662986039908514,8.049812674583475,1.334041974919157,1495,51,338,23,31,506,185,409,0.17800000000000002,0.723,0.1,-0.9878,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,2,6,15,26,1,1,23,0,28,10,6,3,1,64,53,37,0,7,15,9,8,1,1,2,3,2,1,5,9,24,0,2,6,0,2,3,8,14,0,2,3,12,64,11,54,44,12,39,1,9,2,1,43,18,1,8,17,228,73,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056533059236362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066379454463566,0.0909880017397644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21858909380241287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626330142936148,0.0,0.4257496105773688,0.0,0.0,0.08607501908543141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896645893872013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882932035049336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058855269460785,0.0776654524039534,0.0,0.0833128842799941,0.0588560169357687,0.0,0.0,0.0752985976585556,0.07007682521968492,0.0,0.0,0.06365061585654809,0.0,0.08608575323642255,0.07903140911525798,0.09364283708476512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952038965758225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208843028374131,0.0,0.08263909196640654,0.0,0.0,0.09506148150839576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598876431455323,0.0,0.07322776804526628,0.0,0.0,0.13583028545642464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638223324133902,0.04024925657948896,0.0,0.0,0.07290832632914376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004096709526958,0.07435587670750983,0.07795488623664076,0.0,0.08352568122411795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302492357106757,0.0,0.0,0.0964885728158891,0.13151819165645834,0.0,0.12112523070243852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259348286056696,0.0,0.05582635656037783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711553760833386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789022664519614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377241567498837,0.15833424271251495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833782399944262,0.06565035311596618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488943329810327,0.0,0.0,0.06342416658627242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348977024526188,0.07764709394595377,0.0,0.0,0.0662181183589976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094305940353408,0.0,0.1921579349611112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186831162596912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04859293671081416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995484131288595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zestybutter,2020/01/06,"I miss being a full time mom I went back to work when my daughter was 6 months old. I love my job. My daughter is 14 months now. Every weekend and week night I'm there. But i miss her so much during the work days. Shes growing and changing so much and I just feel like I'm missing it all. I dont want to give up my job, but I just wish i could be with her more. Part time isnt an option, we need the money. Being a sahm was definitely more work but it was so rewarding. I keep reminding myself how long it took me to find a career that was as perfect for me as this one is. In the back of my head though, i just want to stay at home with my baby. I know im just rambling, I guess i just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.",-1.0738411245505048,0.8304977453416171,1.4203269042170632,99.97209872507356,90.18012422360249,4.134815299117359,15.927100359594634,5.399115186594226,-0.954100621118013,551,12,139,3,19,187,97,161,0.042,0.784,0.174,0.9779,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,5,15,8,0,0,7,0,13,2,1,1,2,29,32,14,0,6,8,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,1,3,2,1,3,2,3,0,1,6,1,26,5,15,22,7,22,0,3,0,1,9,4,0,2,15,94,31,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205385401920089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527453778159864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528359285487352,0.0,0.0,0.09311954592877476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692238974481814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165472543008547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300787618881552,0.10315217951097287,0.0,0.0,0.13196976056120885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851195722196138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906176291831078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818570265098566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483485109849506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596587865519312,0.0,0.28656940899382544,0.128340385025318,0.0,0.0,0.07935291761089118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054161589632596,0.0,0.0,0.12778052537187384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031752981516376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910771577907116,0.2305012948720421,0.0,0.2122863929844484,0.10706328762403323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550014792351905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515129200150658,0.0,0.0978423388664614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636020025423647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442898249920585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539004308142941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293482838700976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186235203229422,0.0,0.16838983364435098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604225011809414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554947272101083,0.0,0.1158208751652375,0.0,0.0,0.13385089179656087,0.0,0.0,0.16604126896096635,0.0,0.0,0.3153527192764528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Guilty-Banana,2020/01/06,"Is watching your kid(s) grow up supposed to feel this damn heartwrenching? I hope this is the appropriate place for this post, I didn't know where else I could go to find some sort of commiseration/advice/etc. I am actually feeling a bit stupid and mentally unstable about this so any confirmation from other parents would be appreciated. :) 

So... I've been having a very difficult time lately coming to terms with my 18mo daughter growing up. I mean, I know there's so much more to look forward to and I'm going to see her spread her wings and fly - that's the point of having kids, right? But right now I can't see more than my tiny baby turning into a little girl. I am so close to her and I love her SO DAMN MUCH it hurts, and while I can't wait to see all the amazing things she'll do I am mourning the fact that someday we'll grow apart a bit and I won't be her #1 anymore. I just want to stop time and keep her little forever... lately I've also been terrified about my decisions hurting her in the future which I'm sure is contributing to this feeling, like ""Would having a second child be best for our family?"" ""What if we don't have a second, will she resent us or be lonely as an adult?"" ""What if we do have a second and it changes my relationship with her?"" ""Am I spending too much time at work?"" ""Am I doing the right thing by working full time?"" ""Do I read to her enough?"" It goes on and on and on. This internal dialog is what makes parenting tough, I think. 

Here was the tipping point, last night we visited my inlaws and they still had the Christmas tree up... my little one has just started to get skilled at walking. The lights were dim, tree was decorated, she toddled up and was admiring the decorations on the tree. I was already feeling a little wistful then my MIL pulled out a little toy radio/music box my DH used to play with as a kid that plays the tune ""Toyland""... *Toyland, toyland, dear little girl and boy land...* The bittersweet tune of that damn song chimed away with complete silence in the background, and I looked at her and saw an absolute pure smile of delight on her face with the Christmas tree all lit up in the background. It was a perfect memory frozen in time. I had to excuse myself to go to the restroom and cry it out. I'm sure MIL/FIL thought I had lost my mind but this has been a common occurrence for me in private over the last couple of weeks. 

Anyway, I won't keep this going longer than I have to but can anyone relate? It's to the point where I'm wondering if I need to get some sort of help for it... but maybe parenting is supposed to feel this crazy intense after all.",3.6383692307692286,4.893503664761905,4.629142857142857,85.85039560439559,72.35238095238095,7.441758241758242,26.032967032967033,7.882392219407189,1.3791978021978015,2044,66,421,27,39,666,256,525,0.07,0.841,0.08900000000000001,0.6751,3,2,0,0,0,0,81.0,6,1,1,6,18,24,5,0,33,0,51,2,1,2,8,77,91,34,1,9,10,4,5,1,0,7,0,1,0,7,27,29,0,4,13,5,1,12,6,12,0,4,16,15,57,12,67,63,16,76,0,5,8,1,38,43,3,10,23,292,84,3,0.0,0.0,0.07509818298676042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492311748717411,0.06154187225828538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052332877833818015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631990503871562,0.05380958790004302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230291477245993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076081940897854,0.0,0.1680325513445581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140949118501002,0.06629098113168254,0.08068714684401337,0.0,0.0,0.061443290595683424,0.08515060881923509,0.0845328090945307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428705841878793,0.0,0.0,0.07951636107377985,0.08582654299800903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254748816984798,0.0,0.19455692008532996,0.05497754870677485,0.0,0.0,0.07033660338997955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041291167698023,0.0,0.17494400419541464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158214125778608,0.0,0.0,0.07643490415605816,0.0,0.0,0.16476647956987936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680447281339486,0.0,0.0,0.0845862668856819,0.12545920329712618,0.17361996710317382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03759692855915193,0.4627821795612036,0.0,0.0,0.12924770871157204,0.0,0.084006819769562,0.0,0.06945600545451991,0.0,0.051368883546257085,0.0,0.07731288033721105,0.08382789895402118,0.0,0.0,0.07755378323487311,0.0,0.07770385824532014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971505932426587,0.05706207215361452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221821213625469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052147535574305945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563523709858257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040288488040673,0.0,0.21824554579882344,0.0,0.07370279918316018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697705911463906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262219488961489,0.0,0.1971606092042788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18397246402125356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447001827956498,0.0,0.06145734761319499,0.06433885721588037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450606789790724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225260426676548,0.049310447175934205,0.0,0.061094653435200735,0.2243689935781539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370628368859978,0.0,0.0,0.09256887372772106,0.06646547731919908,0.0,0.06349695228230649,0.0453907804828098,0.0,0.061729648717512374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345575267642044,0.11205010930470813,0.0,0.0,0.10933500082664556,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Asiure,2020/01/06,"4 year olds birthday Hello, January 19th is my daughters birthday. 
I don't have a lot of extra money due to circumstances. So I felt like we could do a small gathering at the house with her friends and stuff. She is 4. 

Well long story short. My best friend made me feel guilty for not doing something more. 

My husband recently passed away in August and she thinks I should do something more extravagant to help get Alice's mind of things. 

I get paid weekly so I could pick up a couple more shifts. But I've been trying to spend as much time with her as I can. She seems to have anxiety about me leaving. (She is in counciling) but she cries and panics every time I leave the house. It makes me feel terrible. 

What do you guys think?",1.275363984674332,3.8429427931034494,2.2813218390804617,93.05447318007666,86.58620689655174,5.42911877394636,19.090038314176248,6.937597516519254,0.3095440613026823,575,16,118,8,18,181,99,145,0.109,0.8079999999999999,0.083,-0.7122,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,0,1,4,7,0,1,5,0,15,0,0,3,0,23,26,9,0,3,3,2,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,6,0,3,1,2,2,1,0,4,3,22,5,17,19,7,17,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,2,10,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162519171952974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277502454446128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947666853590964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24266151234701336,0.16814509210869102,0.1669251361617445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803608443305572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153674961115445,0.0,0.1459091119129032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348137626313818,0.0,0.15878966255376373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504680875464004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185815478273716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35069172315013153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.321815517077089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424185338478084,0.0,0.0,0.13448321121579274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919421753158966,0.0,0.14379185422165724,0.1014370393257232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344015249023787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171090329642028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946048089103113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829681695909208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004595318745212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834216726418336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339783676476412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396223309369724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095801898074593,0.19474457780847326,0.0,0.0,0.17722266752841234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031734682320886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189622145248333,0.0,0.13663373703993756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785972687424888
parenting,abducted_brain,2020/01/06,"Major difference in co parenting, please help I don't spank as punishment. I have popped my 7 year old daughter's butt twice in 4 years because she was about to hurt herself, just one pop to shock and surprise her, which was definitely the route she was on just with the possibility of death added on. 

Her dad spanks her. He's left bruises, I called it in. Nothing's done about it and as long as he doesn't leave a mark, ugh.

Well, my daughter made a huge mistake and disrespected me in a way that tops the charts. She was terrified when I called her dad, which I only do when things are big like this. I didn't even think about it because I was mad. She fell apart, swearing he was going to spank her till she couldn't sit. 

Later that night she made things even worse for herself by hiding an old phone of mine in her bed after just being grounded that day. Like, what in the heck, kid. 

So, I told her that as much as I don't like secrets, if I think what she's done here could result in a spanking there, I won't be telling her father. It feels like the right thing to do, but wrong at the same time. 

Any advice???",4.601322520274486,4.677312803493454,4.753477854023707,90.11634279475984,69.43668122270742,7.76556456643793,25.964129756706186,7.1686216300943375,0.8700889582033677,868,22,198,7,14,271,133,229,0.109,0.785,0.106,-0.6990000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,1,14,13,2,0,11,0,21,1,1,3,0,20,28,14,1,4,5,6,1,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,16,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,6,7,1,2,12,1,32,6,29,11,3,34,0,1,0,1,34,17,2,1,17,129,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335892178654264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296594869568396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667153453212774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791877675183413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915000354750357,0.0,0.0,0.0881651804629544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283048783429664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279798956606278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058834121091508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912353915822672,0.09766403423710998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769415705693615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163231406865303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463484593289788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475375386424885,0.1485333556569985,0.0,0.0,0.26715397862463885,0.0,0.0,0.12098204481881128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25871233137213523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049591608629216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829094982455808,0.0,0.13117476015414328,0.0,0.2869035453805765,0.0,0.09263670024419128,0.103972393858606,0.0,0.0,0.15179776306055873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006404206198734,0.0,0.1541174321352594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674765997198965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194885872968152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27246763666763185,0.17519359500450726,0.0,0.0,0.07971538049990373,0.0,0.0,0.13063010066163272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851223797458176,0.0,0.0,0.12291667300985902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931686271368962,0.0,0.14946844907072526,0.0,0.17607060027232144
parenting,superdooperme86,2020/01/06,"21 Month old boy not talking do I need to be worried? 
My son is 21 months old he is a normal child he hit his development milestones fine.  He is a very active happy toddler. He smiles and plays all day. Eats well. Everything is ok but he doesn’t talk. He speaks 2-3 words so far. (Dada , no and W) he blabbers and screams in excitement all day but doesn’t talk much. Nor he is interested in repeating what say when I try to teach him new works. He is just very active and wants to do what he wants. 
Any parents out there who experienced this. Some people keep saying sometimes boys tend to learn speaking late. Do I need to be worried?",0.7108593750000018,3.147399617187503,2.1878125,93.6259375,87.984375,5.075,20.5,6.6274283507984215,0.2829125000000001,493,16,106,6,16,159,86,128,0.095,0.754,0.151,0.7143,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,2,1,13,1,0,0,2,20,20,9,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,4,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,6,6,7,8,17,4,14,0,0,0,0,25,4,0,1,10,51,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774263734867727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043575997163312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212067151748227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239301808673654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865920199028445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082614325946413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17872391053562856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529259076691925,0.0,0.1164694728964904,0.2349581525378311,0.0,0.15301950481737542,0.0,0.0,0.1552346844847129,0.0,0.0,0.33250609580908136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17592561109994373,0.0,0.0,0.10984031189644444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519910268300749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669830867055845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820371344637412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756836716295014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614543432609732,0.1869005719908066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424539491073039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534407041432952,0.3218010607804943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ridethewave711,2020/01/06,"Question for Parents of young men who struggle with depression, anxiety, or anger Hey parents

I'm a mentor and professor, currently doing some work to find out how to help make the lives of young men who struggle with anxiety, depression, or anger a lot easier, as a guy who went through that.

So, if you feel like that's your son, I have two questions for you:

1. What are the two biggest problems your son is dealing with associated with those issues?

2. Regarding helping your son improve his life, what would you wish for more than anything else?

Thanks so much for any feedback and insight you'd like to share. Looking forward to reading your answers!",5.6113957759412285,7.364458000000003,5.451680440771352,79.92277318640956,68.17355371900827,8.352984389348027,35.758494031221296,8.841846274778883,3.2470433425160703,522,27,91,9,9,162,83,121,0.18,0.66,0.161,-0.5792,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,8,0,1,3,11,2,2,5,0,6,1,0,2,0,23,13,9,0,4,3,5,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,8,7,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,7,0,2,1,2,10,4,18,10,4,7,0,2,1,0,27,3,0,7,6,60,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438097172117597,0.0,0.2348445031848133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631222714781262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824525298602696,0.2644077780234928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822428088433538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761102088852707,0.10965592175313343,0.0,0.0,0.14029045054099207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198288388500153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20576716782302976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020753190987458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841713155423638,0.14997852589715305,0.0,0.13553773910402153,0.0,0.12889603998933322,0.0,0.0,0.13049484499935712,0.0,0.0,0.10245822898975583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283552227745874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34087315271161345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687273014484506,0.0,0.0,0.3438961196620793,0.0,0.15353522609895867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209298606022836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131636586817362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998820603711149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422901870519321,0.0,0.0,0.1765101666614605,0.0,0.0,0.11174523334861793,0.0,0.0,0.1090375123804674,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tnbeauty37,2020/01/06,"“Adult” son shutting me out  So my son turned 18 in June.  As most newly 18 yr olds he thought he knew everything... and still does.
 He moved out suddenly to move in with friends about  a month after he turned 18.
I knew him moving out was eventually coming but the way he did it had me shocked and hurt.  Didn’t tell me he was leaving until his stuff was already loaded up and packed. Hadn’t even decided to move in with his buddy until a couple hours before this 🤦‍♀️.
Two weeks later him and his girlfriend come over and announce they are pregnant!  To say the least I wasn’t shocked or excited.  I didn’t jump for joy, I said that as long as they were happy I was happy and that I wish they had waited but too late now and that the baby would be very loved.  I mean she called her parents on their cruise and told them and they hung up on her.
His dad  and step mom on the other hand we’re static that they were having a baby....🤦‍♀️
 Since then it’s been told to me that the step mom and girlfriends mom have gone to dr appointments and ultrasounds and I haven’t been notified of any.  
Due to vicious rumors of the baby not being my sons, and me not confronting my son about them, but yet having heard them; I’ve been told by him and her I won’t know when my granddaughter is born, or be allowed in her life.
  I took the girlfriend shopping Christmas Eve and she seemed to enjoy herself, and mentioned that her and my son had been talking and they wanted me to be able to take my granddaughter to church and such.
They came over for Christmas...  and things seemed fine-ish.
Now...
I text and invite them to dinner weekly, asking him how work is how the baby is... no reply.
 For Christmas I got them baby items and a throw blanket with their photos on it.. no thank you nothing.

Yesterday I text asking if she wanted a co sleeper that vibrates and plays music and she asked where I was getting it.. when I told her from a friend( she used it twice for maybe 10 min and didn’t like it) her reply was “ if it was new I’d say yes to you getting one , so I could have extra but since it’s not brand new I’ve already got one”

This morning I notice I’ve been removed from their snap chats and all social media except Instagram...

I’m completely at a loss as to what I did wrong this time????",2.363364429896343,3.9248809000000047,3.3453191489361696,92.54294871794872,76.17021276595744,5.926895799236225,21.62575013638844,6.42735559955562,0.224463720676487,1773,45,387,13,39,567,230,470,0.055999999999999994,0.828,0.11599999999999999,0.9847,2,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,0,2,15,2,16,18,2,0,15,1,40,5,1,4,1,68,76,48,0,7,12,10,1,1,5,2,2,4,0,1,22,36,1,1,8,4,1,15,12,7,0,4,38,5,68,11,51,31,5,62,1,2,0,1,79,18,0,7,29,260,90,1,0.0863497768716566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905782520021961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587208093327462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24217615503584844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347730015619655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817277666979109,0.09876114089813952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876537368631892,0.09053609817667724,0.0,0.0,0.06894327048672487,0.09554438570948301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556527164126442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703321323958786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760561158649036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342724682231807,0.0,0.0902283889196625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812360953300384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838418862949099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850371363806084,0.0,0.09243922206967267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04745557912690599,0.0,0.09740630944277023,0.09143194578356896,0.0,0.0,0.06099140107073772,0.04218613928378672,0.0,0.0,0.07641683526240388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793404494704606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674995706643678,0.09406022131775184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30339544513569083,0.06892356807403116,0.3671045892956321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679430516432686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285493977471524,0.09830979329084864,0.09060956523086544,0.0,0.11702568711604967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588120840884057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213841170488217,0.13733761678921275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15721918758628753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285885548441465,0.0,0.0,0.08802272323683688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895904335225896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884983551493197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492428584516091,0.06940467977802375,0.0754735110063071,0.07949927308502103,0.0,0.0,0.05736695484234783,0.0,0.0,0.06855207747242087,0.05035124930037399,0.0,0.0,0.3300436489570422,0.09593777932474484,0.0,0.18784752254746884,0.0843511848902959,0.0,0.0,0.074578482636943,0.0,0.07124760919932348,0.10186267128895464,0.06854043362944587,0.13852916493638934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929798191097072,0.0,0.0,0.062863665983445,0.0,0.0,0.06134040399349375,0.0944099255940882,0.0,0.0
parenting,Siaswad,2020/01/06,"School refusal My kid (M, 12) refused to go to school this morning. He’s been sick, his sleep has been off but I found him this morning at 6:45 AM happily playing on his iPad.  His sickness was fever plus cough and it’s been 9 days since he got sick. He hasn’t received any medicine in the last five days. He’s not 100% but he also has zero grit. I never yell and I never get angry and I did this morning. I yelled and yelled. There was crying on his part. I finally drove his sister to school. Came home. Told him to get into his room and took away every device he has. Today was supposed to be MY DAY OFF AND I’M PISSED.",-0.2519321266968291,1.995079607692308,1.3708144796380104,98.85477375565613,91.3846153846154,3.6742081447963817,16.877828054298643,5.0885558068054335,-0.8181040723981905,479,12,108,2,17,154,81,130,0.13699999999999998,0.7879999999999999,0.076,-0.8624,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,13,7,2,0,2,17,23,10,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,2,1,4,9,0,2,1,1,0,5,4,1,0,2,13,3,16,1,14,9,1,22,0,0,0,0,20,9,1,0,8,64,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401002065087173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913591060314695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459774327779034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20037187134858064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924391243932508,0.3389511710032977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760600198140986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19191321435868644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19208792612607534,0.0,0.0,0.18306016893068205,0.0,0.0995651018398281,0.0,0.14011627380901387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573089119754584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428040750578575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702362510444525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18971481746349664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5319080379050966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491983360971805,0.0,0.17531755476157113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16606061557977134,0.16740254053070167,0.1946436847682105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angrysparklingwater,2020/01/06,"MIL and baby poops I just had my baby 3 weeks ago, which my MIL was involved in. For the most part my baby tends to poop ever 3 days or so, usually in the form of what me and my husband call the poopacolypse. Its mustard and seedy and perfect for her age. However every time my MIL visits she insists that because my baby doesnt poop every single day that shes unhealthy, despite having five different pediatric doctors and nurses saying shes fine any time we bring up her bowel health and that she can go up to ten days without pooping and its not a problem unless there are other issues along with it. MIL says we need to switch pediatrics because ""thats not normal for a baby"" despite seeing her actual doctor ONCE. Our baby likes to grunt and babble a lot and she keeps insisting its my baby trying to poop and that shes constipated but i know better than anyone how easy it is for her to poop because she has no problem doing it on me when i wipe her down at the right time.

Have any of you dealt with this issue? Ive already gotten into one argument with her already and now shes trying to bring her doctor cousins into the mix and its getting out of hand. How do i convince her to either understand her bowel movements are okay or to just back off without burning bridges?",5.873058823529411,5.932055286274513,6.541960784313726,78.43882352941179,66.72549019607844,8.368627450980393,30.72549019607843,7.793537801064563,2.121243137254902,1018,35,186,10,15,335,147,255,0.032,0.8640000000000001,0.105,0.9526,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,1,0,2,10,8,0,0,8,1,17,15,9,2,2,45,28,20,0,4,11,2,1,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,16,21,0,1,2,0,0,5,6,2,0,3,3,4,35,6,35,25,6,31,0,0,1,0,28,12,0,4,15,143,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.121829994372045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066690891713296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27553750341317684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979676360720966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729401338751483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599753418661164,0.0,0.2283117169193943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041460769594102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747995375842716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415426699047431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043568596330818,0.0,0.3833501883047986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129287858417263,0.210373356770068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522597609833904,0.0,0.07095187326405711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13270361651324614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26060995577297164,0.0,0.1109673196478322,0.0,0.0,0.06861114349765085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06099260211895105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613813026910224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257044115911137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232087348943185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295506854975012,0.08459770546850312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351941738244596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23891820347645246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661632081467233,0.0,0.198562342015705,0.0,0.0,0.0994847161627154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21839308599282845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16952212290546095,0.0,0.0,0.12996728351726905,0.0,0.0,0.1374983208607423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014253949617784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24069083421370274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Burner15116,2020/01/06,"How frequently do you bathe your 4 year old? My 4 year old has very sensitive skin, and we live a freezing cold and dry midwestern state where the winter weather wreaks havoc on her causing dry skin flare ups. These itchy dry skin flare ups are further exacerbated by an issue she has called dermatographia, in which scratching the skin actually CAUSES hives to form (rather than the other way around).

Soooo...assuming your preschooler hasn't done anything particularly messy or gross, like finger paint, eat spaghetti, or crap their pants, what is the most time that is reasonable to go between baths?",10.870571428571427,10.005588247619047,8.558095238095241,71.10857142857145,57.0,11.447619047619051,38.14285714285714,10.355215969177356,3.811342857142857,486,18,81,8,5,142,85,105,0.147,0.83,0.022000000000000002,-0.9188,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,3,1,0,4,3,1,0,6,0,8,7,6,4,0,12,9,5,0,1,3,0,7,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,4,1,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,8,8,1,10,8,2,17,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,3,8,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.21304038818809493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965164172355555,0.19434338836413995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229202995114597,0.0,0.0,0.4485317911666296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22340830962648744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22338701503274472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407137257748785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278603328750371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066558994687512,0.0,0.19277292385195727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4581620809223752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22446043001045332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272991052198667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012972917558287,0.0,0.17328539000809487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811707067021829
parenting,CoffeeAndBooksLady,2020/01/06,"First time parent, sorry for the silly question that I am probably overthinking. At what point do I have to transition my kid from sleeping in a crib to a bed? Our daughter will be 2 in April and my family has mentioned that it will be time to move her to a bed soon. She sleeps in her crib with her small stuffed animal and sleeps in a zipadee zip. She sleeps 12 hours at night and naps for 1.5 hours during the day.

I have no idea how to make this transition happen. We have a queen size bed that will be her bed but I have no clue when we are supposed to switch or what is the most appropriate way to make this switch. 

I assume we will need to get some rails and push the bed up against the wall for her safety. Again, I know this is probably a silly question but I'd like to ask  what your experience has been making this change. Thanks.",3.7551550387596886,4.628815755813957,4.269767441860466,89.97968992248066,71.67441860465118,7.826356589147288,23.635658914728683,8.07648339933343,0.9458356589147292,658,16,147,9,12,208,98,172,0.033,0.89,0.077,0.8151,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,11,0,19,4,4,4,0,23,28,9,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,5,1,11,8,0,0,5,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,20,4,22,20,2,24,0,0,0,0,19,10,0,6,12,99,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319363185250343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929549120625293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101636035813734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380509856955466,0.13304361352023286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200440319688151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373394043734262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247996764312999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779667563135921,0.0,0.0,0.15931716631814394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756066326039357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689483724241544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28261358436671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499975132300107,0.0,0.10464517057427766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243975976237018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670676146445656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341227371783262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043212973575526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31619296951808096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5649226356960326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798206718153324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993238018872744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458660345427129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202142277599474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BMMXVIIC,2020/01/06,"2 Year old hitting, slapping and screaming!! Hi all, 

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I have a two year old son who recently started hitting and pushing other children and parents. When we try to tell him calmly he kind of gets angrier and tries to hit us back. Timeouts not working and if we take away his toy or remove whatever he was doing as an act of penance he starts screaming loudly.

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Please if there is anyone here who can help me out or has a good trick I am all ears!",6.7170329670329645,6.351380263736273,6.549758241758244,80.5202417582418,65.04395604395604,8.598681318681319,36.88131868131868,7.554174236665415,2.749468571428572,368,17,69,3,5,116,71,91,0.098,0.79,0.11199999999999999,0.3348,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,1,5,6,1,0,3,0,7,1,1,0,2,15,14,11,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,3,8,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,3,0,1,1,4,8,3,7,10,2,14,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,4,9,45,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34894899469963986,0.3913349205619317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259499060711525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512917367959562,0.12382110800731833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413083419054708,0.0,0.0,0.135063208970358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793412358414793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768658070099696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379450037749389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880328227550993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676112434877642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899638560289786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279538437629295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107352004793714,0.0,0.1407461557560038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218655794315542,0.0,0.15730161282388125,0.0,0.1936976638298257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723079006036916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913349205619317,0.20739436870588684
parenting,laceylee92,2020/01/06,"Kids activities Question for parents and teachers. We have 4 kids, ranging from 3-8. We like to do as many activities with them as we can, especially ones where everyone can participate together as a group. Does anyone have any ideas as to what we can do with them? Science experiments, art crafts, food prep...I've got a few ideas saved on pinterest.",4.288802083333334,6.874118609375002,5.348125,75.71770833333336,73.84375,9.266666666666666,30.979166666666664,9.725611199111238,3.407060416666667,277,13,50,8,6,91,47,64,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.6486,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,0,11,8,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,7,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,2,11,7,1,2,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,1,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558413701172024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18053870617220094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259516372467396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24672015737189784,0.0,0.25256811326788525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31221518988416835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20650528370077972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5829503629463411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261429626765927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617732048884633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496228776445416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866993732785432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892419106513047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alaskan_Lost,2020/01/06,"Am I allowed to ask about which product is the best? I have a 6yo and a 3yo and one of the things we wanted, when are kids were younger, was an amazing infant car seat that came with a good stroller that you just lift out of the base from the car and clip it on the stroller and off you go. But back then we were new parents and we spent too much time reading reviews. I would look for dozens of reviews for the same item. It became too much and we literally gave up. 

Well, a friend has a baby girl due in April and we decided to get them the car seat. So I wanted to ask you guys if you could point me in the direction of a good infant seat that comes with the base to snap in and the stroller all together? I really don't want some basic ugly and top safety rating is a must. Thank you guys. 

I trust word of mouth from other mothers than reviews online",3.5263780260707627,4.059830385474863,4.13699720670391,91.97056098696464,71.96089385474859,7.083985102420857,24.41387337057728,6.816661863887847,0.5963292364990687,665,17,153,5,12,211,110,179,0.026000000000000002,0.815,0.159,0.9752,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,5,1,2,8,8,0,0,18,0,13,1,1,1,2,34,26,14,0,7,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,8,19,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,0,1,2,6,1,18,8,24,17,7,22,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,2,7,109,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432345656661983,0.0,0.0,0.14115738186295812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265000666061108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996020827806086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813309040221651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656922043552592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182912569669331,0.0,0.09591004699766027,0.0,0.10432956172350852,0.30794699338562714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635350341106008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415626120668655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698966119833673,0.0,0.0,0.17729729898531493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439476406064807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383764610653216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353714404040874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362407736418773,0.0,0.11760246102658782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901064308381128,0.0,0.0,0.12195867400317124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704370862899017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32483081126483004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16505543157167893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040598641542184,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PullTheOtherOne,2020/01/06,"In defense of ""babysitting"" your children... In defense of parents who use the term ""babysit"" and are chastised with comments like:  ""you don't *babysit* your child, it's called *parenting,"" or ""*it's called *being a mom/dad*"" or ""it's called *doing your job as a parent.""*  

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This morning I **filled out some medical forms** for my son's upcoming kindergarten enrollment. I **packed his lunch** and his extra clothes, **gave him a kiss**, and handed him off to my wife, who would **drop him off at daycare** this morning so I could swing by the elementary school to **drop off the medical forms** on the way to my work.  After work, I stopped by the store to **pick up some sandwich bread and his favorite applesauce packets**, then I **picked him up from daycare**, **gave him a big hug**, **asked him all about his day**, and **took him to the playground** for a while because the weather was so nice. When we got home I **let him watch a TV show** while I **folded his laundry** in the other room. My wife got home from work a bit later and **microwaved some frozen ravioli for my son** while I **dug out some raw broccoli and carrots** from the refrigerator for him. As I was microwaving my own plate of leftovers and **having a giggly conversation with my son entirely in mouth-fart sounds**, my wife got a surprise text from a college friend who was in town unexpectedly and invited my wife to go out for drinks.  I had hoped to go to the gym tonight, but I agreed to **babysit** so she could see her friend. In turn she promised to **babysit** on Saturday afternoon so I could go see a movie.  While she was out, I **gave my son a bath** and **read him a story**. At precisely his bedtime, my wife called from the bar and I put her on speakerphone so she could **sing him his favorite bedtime tune**.  I **kissed him goodnight** and he drifted off easily, so I went downstairs, made some popcorn, and started browsing Netflix. A few minutes later, he came down and told me he was scared of a shadow in the corner of his room, so I **carried him up to bed**, **adjusted the angle of his lamp**, and **sat with him for 20 minute**s until I was sure he was sound asleep.  My wife came home, told me a bit about her night, went up to **give our son a kiss**, then went to bed. I accidentally fell asleep on the couch watching Netflix and **casually browsing the internet for inexpensive birthday party activities**.   

vs. 

This morning I **parented** for my son's upcoming kindergarten enrollment. I **parented**, **did my job as a dad**, and handed him off to my wife, who would **be a mom** this morning so I could **be a dad** on the way to my work.  After work, I stopped by the store **to be a dad**, then **I parented, took care of my child, parented**, and **did what dads are supposed to do** for a while because the weather was so nice. When we got home I **parented** while I **parented** in the other room. My wife got home from work a bit later and **parented** while I **took care of him**. As I was microwaving my own plate of leftovers and **parenting**, my wife got a surprise text from a college friend who was in town unexpectedly and invited my wife to go out for drinks.  I had hoped to go to the gym tonight, but I agreed to **be a dad** so she could see her friend. In turn she promised **to parent** on Saturday afternoon so I could go see a movie.  While she was out, I **parented** and **parented**. At precisely his bedtime, my wife called from the bar and I put her on speakerphone so she could **be his mom**.  I **parented** him and he drifted off easily, so I went downstairs, made some popcorn, and started browsing Netflix. A few minutes later, he came down and told me he was scared of a shadow in the corner of his room, so I **parented him**, **took care of him**, and **acted like a father** for 20 minutes until I was sure he was sound asleep.  My wife came home, told me a bit about her night, went up to **be a parent**, then went to bed. I accidentally fell asleep on the couch watching Netflix and casually **parenting**.     

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**TL;DR:** 

""Parenting"" is a big word for a wide variety of activities which can take place with or without your spouse/co-parent, and which can even take place away from your child (e.g. shopping for diapers, dropping off school enrollment paperwork, calling home to say goodnight).  

One *specific* parenting activity involves **being the** ***sole*** **caregiver for a stretch of time**, an activity which carries a particular set of requirements, implications, and restrictions.  ""Babysitting"" is a perfectly good word for this activity, whether it is performed by a mother or a father or another caregiver.  Why replace it with inadequate and overly-general terms like ""being a parent""?   

""Babysitting"" only implies ""I \[the father\] am doing *the mother's job*"" if people insist on hearing it this way, which is an awfully cynical and disparaging way to respond to a parent who is sharing a story about *spending quality time with their child*.   

Sincerely,

\-A father who parents, takes care of his children, *and* babysits -- and sometimes all at once.  :)",-0.4339326076611947,-0.7373662034261255,1.3281107244825137,91.31696028134668,140.37044967880087,4.5520402093742565,21.658473114442067,6.063744427637984,1.0814573043064484,3842,172,728,76,288,1239,294,934,0.034,0.8420000000000001,0.125,0.9979,27,0,2,0,0,0,380.0,3,6,1,9,21,36,3,2,71,1,53,19,6,5,7,102,110,77,0,13,11,54,2,3,4,2,2,5,17,6,26,52,7,6,1,18,5,28,2,5,0,1,48,14,122,31,135,42,21,134,0,0,7,4,157,59,0,14,42,495,148,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653645960499945,0.07330426334887434,0.0,0.03162921302797868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028198937377784308,0.0,0.02833973850499812,0.0,0.0,0.03677495747507662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172355721532505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480273143587367,0.13799670213442386,0.12301539029548285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926657362401696,0.0,0.0,0.01945305640467732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590977796568286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01992280381640657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321743283295007,0.0,0.0,0.02893571794929092,0.1028561714458804,0.025299835304476256,0.14474774007103788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03399662146274158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21179617552645386,0.05991861332988373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979829349590901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030844371860304032,0.0,0.04420930168488742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057083142668577586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607734002832976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598189351242997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056613077181765385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03212329873814035,0.020439667287366774,0.022940812139670537,0.0,0.0,0.7703426672814254,0.0,0.0,0.020911674298336614,0.0,0.06302918048958403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060645591315436974,0.0,0.0,0.030171808882919163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023987342115989144,0.060398143817350175,0.06105444057231722,0.09614608279422418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029832617346428038,0.0,0.04269996802378759,0.0,0.0,0.050436317676724456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685775908982104,0.0,0.06803792402751828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03517732930488412,0.0,0.0,0.1152906262075727,0.13405168304575854,0.0,0.06561877065193172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026051705560748033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576999331631927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777201318785165,0.027217999015088274,0.0,0.0,0.029076678517471675,0.0,0.13175696196253836,0.0,0.0,0.0428547776064363,0.0,0.07330426334887434,0.0
parenting,From_the_silence,2020/01/06,"First day of school Today is my son's first day of school.  My stress seems to be drifting, lingering in the air, as my thoughts are able to exist. No I don't have to sing the 12 days of Christmas for the third time today, or kiss a bear 40 times, or ""watch me do this"", or much of anything at all.  I can sit, savor the silence, sink into this couch, and wonder. ""We'll call you if we need anything"" in such a confident tone, eliminating the worry, providing me with a day of something different.

A goal has been reached, my stay-at-home parenting without babysitters, without close-by family, has been relentless. The duties of guiding a 'sphere of blood' (Physics approximation) into a tiny human, capable of interpreting the world, has been suffocating. The tasks are menial but not trivial, simple but not insignificant, and straight-forward while being nearly impossible to explain. Whereas my duties are not over, I can rest a little easier knowing that I'm not solely responsible for his societal and cultural exposure anymore.  A heavy weight, that used to be a great motivator, but has since been a daunting burden. 

I've been a great parent, better than most, and I hope everyone else feels the same about their parenting. The drive to achieve the best parenting possible is tough, ever changing, relentless, and always up for interpretation.  The lack of sleep, insecurity, and lack of self combine to increase the challenge when things are good (""Can I do more?"") and when things are rough (""Can I do better?"").  The balance of parenting while maintaining sanity often felt elusive to me. 

These words are for me, an attempt to appreciate what I have accomplished. I had previously dreamt of the day when my child would go to school, but there was always a doubt, ""Will they do well?  Will I handle it well?  Will I like who I see in the mirror when I have a chance to reflect?"".

Perhaps you needed to hear these words, perhaps I wasted your time, but these words are for me. These 2 hours I have had to myself have been a wonderful breath for my mind and I'm having a hard time fathoming that I will have another chance again and again and again.

Thanks for taking the time to read these words, I know that I feel better knowing that I can attempt to share this feeling. Hopefully, this helps someone else too.

Time is almost up on day 1.  I'll need to shift my focus back to parenting, I hope my son had a good day at school...",6.466239356669817,7.096927379690952,6.609267581204669,76.49322019867552,65.49006622516556,9.826836959949544,31.851860611794386,9.784248007369934,2.9667900346893723,1905,71,349,38,28,610,234,453,0.065,0.726,0.21,0.9971,7,0,1,0,0,0,84.0,2,3,2,13,16,23,0,3,34,0,50,5,3,2,2,69,76,26,0,10,15,8,7,1,0,6,0,1,1,4,19,14,1,2,16,2,0,4,8,5,2,3,12,11,42,18,54,55,10,49,0,0,2,1,27,15,0,14,30,251,61,13,0.07247101974375224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256925785625491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206033879183002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599218306593984,0.0,0.0,0.07187177804188706,0.0,0.0,0.11927494863607956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05572574081386444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760538641144608,0.19228418300519184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400101390412887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666472957459629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32716468649790337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571679096194586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108047543552625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655541864024056,0.0,0.06924916504247755,0.0,0.0,0.06831922765882267,0.0,0.10993057527882888,0.0,0.06958354392753617,0.0,0.0,0.12328762474439613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04118695061567977,0.12157050599363295,0.0,0.15979911022532312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491979893143758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168010628449136,0.0,0.04857579691070402,0.0,0.0,0.21594022411468036,0.0713693562723504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948453151079536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03540567959419367,0.07263500060325218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317507077574174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327453813406285,0.1612090285891063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4828229463508467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170018579027266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249063143092274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29337816409506673,0.05775001988121405,0.06597489455356331,0.0756030789348512,0.0,0.0,0.05994877642688596,0.0,0.0725233574474997,0.0,0.061404459851533186,0.0557917316124212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724446447083821,0.0,0.0,0.08301530826245147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448918771761272,0.0,0.0,0.06672157819147331,0.0,0.0,0.09629305060505301,0.0,0.0,0.05753389458507972,0.25355060645450783,0.0,0.13738810580631522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625916925723411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825017824149932,0.1303203003384348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971895379721347,0.1571834590107413,0.0,0.0735978383767929,0.0,0.051481333130825715,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CiCa560,2020/01/06,"Phone Screen Time for Teenager First Reddit Post...

Just wondering how other parents deal with or handle Teenagers and the amount of screen time they have, whether it be phone, tablet or gaming etc?

I have a 14 y/o daughter and staring zombie-like at her phone is all she seems to do. To put into perspective, the latest Screen time she clocked up (and the most by far) was 14.5 hrs in one day - I don't know how that's possible, given she seemed to only be awake for 12 hrs.

Anyway,  what do other parents think is a reasonable amount of screen time and what do you do to curtail it? Also, do you face the same screaming melt downs (""it's not fair my friends don't have to deal with..."", ""my friends parents don't..."", ""I hate you"" and so on and so on) if Internet is disabled or phone taken away and how do you handle that too?

Thanks!",5.057409638554219,5.121555584337352,5.029783132530124,88.5679277108434,68.4578313253012,7.844819277108432,28.045783132530122,7.1686216300943375,1.2494356626506031,641,19,138,5,10,199,98,166,0.063,0.9009999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.5579999999999999,3,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,4,1,1,9,5,1,0,6,0,18,1,1,4,1,30,27,18,0,1,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,9,10,0,1,6,1,0,1,4,2,0,2,3,6,14,3,20,22,6,19,0,0,5,0,22,9,0,8,8,95,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274012939714807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967833382223664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274269361690017,0.3284861804475305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17767435786084942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355102219928161,0.0,0.0,0.24616723310911065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572870559606435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755339623261184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795354879207407,0.12116352227418173,0.0,0.0,0.5306894733260947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795997016934564,0.15257631334072136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601519904666374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379868455303806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900622872876742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667256168139542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208033239808674,0.0,0.0,0.3715831067208037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276645136366314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Former_Oil,2020/01/06,"How to tackle my son's toxic masculinity phase? I am father of two kids, 5yo daughter and 7yo son.

My son started recently to hate everything ""girly."" For example says he hates pink, he hates My Little Pony (while my daughter is in My Little Pony phase) and so on.

I am already trying to tone it down. Saying that hating pink, because its ""girly"" is lame and really cool dudes can wear pink, if they decide to.

I am well aware it might be development phase of him discovering his ""manliness"" and maybe sexuality. However, I would like to let him know, that basically ""pink is okay"" and also girls are cool.

As a parent, I refrain to say that things are ""too girly / womanly"" for me, and am taking (hopefully) my part in household chores, including laundry (which is seen as ""girly job"" in my country)

Do you have any recommendations of what else could I do in order to show him that its basically toxic masculinity? I would not like to punish him, since I believe its always better to show positive examples",6.083217468805702,6.92045788770054,7.020120320855617,72.48743538324423,66.37967914438502,10.297504456327985,30.556595365418893,10.317481424215053,3.1729932263814615,783,28,141,19,12,262,115,187,0.077,0.805,0.11800000000000001,0.7369,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,1,1,5,14,5,0,1,3,20,1,1,1,0,17,29,13,0,5,2,7,0,2,0,3,0,3,1,3,12,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,6,1,1,1,10,23,8,22,22,1,12,0,1,5,0,22,8,0,3,5,94,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682067996623275,0.11364441791008127,0.11824597009726916,0.0,0.0,0.09663890974949912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662825265294474,0.0,0.0,0.16010804091426814,0.0,0.125683753700254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346237509513432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871373205047328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771829576911564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.561212382142337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114618018724048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102113305481456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780993225479579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453159553071777,0.0,0.13885443859685312,0.2848608569824109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427674680744091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075506163618296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577950908951057,0.1538900658095382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103858576486903,0.0,0.14031537228463328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390320494110429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755393189357995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058539485040224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684819013286856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441082360085333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648259947935034,0.0,0.1388197239871965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777294736798542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20190013839674129,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PatrickBrown2,2020/01/06,"Caught my 5yo son and his 5yo girl friend being sexual. I need some advice, recently we caught our 5yo son and his 5yo female friend being sexual in his room.

It was just a play date and these two are best friends from Kinder. She came over for a visit, her mom and my wife and I were chatting in the lounge room while the kids played.

We first noticed inappropriate signs when the she took him into the cubby house and covered it with a blanket, and then it was quiet and we could hear kissing noises. She'd poke her head out being cheeky and saying she's having a baby.

Her mother explained her daughter knows about the ""birds and the bees"" . Whereas my son doesn't know anything about that stuff yet.

Later the kids went into my sons room, us parents were having a good chat and realised it was a bit quiet after a while. My wife went to the door and heard her say ""just get it out"". My wife went into the room and was stunned! They were laying in the bed together, his pants were down and she was playing with his penis.

She immediately stopped them, we later sat down with our son and tried to have a talk. He won't tell us anything, we haven't been approaching it in a bad way or anything, we know it's not their fault, she seems to be wanting to explore it a lot. But I'm sure a lot more went on because they were in there for a while, we just thought they were playing with their toys.

Every time they catch up now, she keeps trying to explore with him, mostly just kissing and holding hands. We don't let them be alone without supervision anymore. 

We don't know what to do, I feel like he's waaaay too young for any of this, he calls her his girlfiend and in a serious way. I feel like he shouldn't have to worry about this stuff for another 10 years. I worry it will can effect his mental health, especially if he has to go through break ups already. He's 5!

Anyone else been through anything like this, or have any advice?",4.720850515463916,5.251495652061855,4.878263917525778,87.73065360824744,69.28350515463917,7.3420206185567025,26.08701030927835,6.918507183188421,0.9505883298969068,1515,41,319,11,25,474,196,388,0.025,0.841,0.134,0.9912,1,1,0,0,0,0,42.0,13,0,8,3,12,18,0,0,23,0,37,5,2,1,1,72,63,26,0,5,10,12,3,3,3,3,1,6,6,3,17,37,0,3,12,7,0,14,8,3,0,2,24,9,55,15,43,28,7,55,0,0,0,2,79,21,0,8,20,217,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802333790386694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996406977040541,0.10616602860841187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308471466819329,0.10088067895376956,0.0,0.0,0.0954107840300998,0.06726967188016401,0.09857470884886034,0.3166783033497759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032823003359223,0.05864645881799259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096256140275743,0.0,0.10503234679229163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823737422358436,0.11003436121211202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681289076748136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036800679473967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105794505877995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728957746688097,0.13745957947682114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183301748299643,0.0,0.0,0.22298621308243427,0.0,0.05026381351858248,0.0,0.05467624924710755,0.08069326798224233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873540465868164,0.10226278290733228,0.10843147606176276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100913681304853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551256715616411,0.0,0.0,0.21148983447105174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837744531985493,0.0,0.14100459490087058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358228749275927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695330804180173,0.0,0.0,0.11267563907752508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133574183296848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953149393859507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682569504126598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499210073172724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530141996777959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758258926041958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043276269085746,0.0,0.0,0.22026635998517072,0.0,0.0,0.09067328573267333,0.0,0.0,0.07732696822916002,0.0840885341794462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763770445120804,0.05609865887143496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688872331876564,0.13063550570937782,0.0,0.09397956182443523,0.0,0.23144863229755944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05674495993418911,0.1527281431346711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567367628329275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273942630087892,0.0,0.0,0.19540430621760665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195369375410354
parenting,dumb-blonde-,2020/01/06,"A question for the parents of IVF children and/or for people who came into the world with a lot of love and a little extra help from science ❤️ Hello, 

First off, thank you for taking the time to engage with my post; that is already greatly appreciated. Secondly, my apologies if the title seems inappropriate-I really couldn’t come up with much else that caught the eye and easily got the point across.

My partner and I are considering IVF. I have PCOS and my chances of conceiving naturally are not spectacular, and getting less spectacular day by day. We are doing our best to ensure that the decision we make is ultimately in the best interest of our potential future child and is informed by as much information as we can get. I’ve done copious amounts of research on peer-reviewed articles(ranging in publication dates from the 1990s to 2019) that cover everything from overall obstetric outcomes, studies on apgar scores, studies on IQ, studies on ICSI, studies on imprinting disorders, and follow-up studies on children with regards to various markers of general health. I feel that I’ve exhausted the literature-review portion of this decision(at least the freely-available articles) and also accept that, considering the scope of human evolution, this technology is still essentially brand spanking new and there may be repercussions that we currently don’t fully understand. The only thing we’ve settled on this far is that , if we do go forward with this, we will only do transfers consisting of a single embryo.

That all said, at the end of the day I am also very curious about what kind of questions children who came into the world with a lot of extra love and little bit of extra science have about their beginnings. If your child is aware of their beginnings, has this caused them any emotional distress or discomfort that would be good for a prospective IVF parent to know about? Obviously no two kids are the same and individuals will have different responses to the same
experience, but we are curious if there are any anecdotal trends. Overall, as prospective parents, we are curious how it feels to be someone who exists, in part, due to this technology. Maybe it’s a sensitive subject, but I have yet to find much discussion on this topic from people who came into the world with the assistance of IVF. If my partner and I are going to do this,we want to do our best to understand it to the very best of our abilities, and just understanding the science isn’t always enough. So, parents and/or IVF Babies of Reddit, what wisdom might you have to share with us as the potential future parents of a child born with the assistance of this technology? Are we overthinking this, or is there additional knowledge you can share with us that might help us consider the emotional aspects of children who entered the world with a little extra help from science and what that entails in your experiences. Parent(s), were you forthcoming with this knowledge or did your child’s learn that they were an IVF baby later in adolescence/life (al la Billie Eilish). Did always knowing vs knowing later seem to impact your child(ren) emotionally? In positive ways or negative? Do you wonder if physical health conditions your child may experience are a function of the reproductive technology that helped them come into the world? We would greatly appreciate your input as we consider this massive decision.

Thank you in advance!",12.801930693069306,10.000996429042905,11.762780528052804,55.702289603960416,55.006600660066006,15.24851485148515,47.36221122112211,13.427899808715575,6.433615181518152,2780,134,421,78,24,899,279,606,0.02,0.846,0.135,0.9966,8,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,18,12,5,6,13,21,0,2,39,0,51,6,1,3,2,102,83,35,0,10,15,5,2,0,2,8,3,1,0,13,37,47,0,0,22,0,0,11,6,3,0,3,11,4,46,18,90,60,25,65,0,0,1,2,75,34,0,21,20,327,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354279573401068,0.10658961833951072,0.11090551612333127,0.0,0.0,0.09063977533059077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797531047304217,0.0,0.07275747738572984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22866734273896144,0.0,0.06846126607796868,0.0,0.11481500511591056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893869628494709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962830751094333,0.07637926241007681,0.0,0.0,0.06819947228082275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055672120213290266,0.22489501356088773,0.059026389286754764,0.06886058440852724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989491015640614,0.19557048915595573,0.0,0.0,0.06739394528061046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091098170665515,0.05668695502633585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963699064309968,0.0,0.07575011107768394,0.055897433502166714,0.053300921249990765,0.14694946055407926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167791812737218,0.0,0.0,0.178679021227273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693989841156285,0.10987662838241408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003829835024016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133158969255162,0.12029678073025392,0.0,0.0444850756956388,0.0,0.06695238628170057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139651359967675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469719943189207,0.0,0.0,0.06436473934158543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137081966190126,0.0,0.0,0.44399853922431054,0.07216845174859117,0.0,0.09240446899695244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299967966894536,0.0,0.0638260825289484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931201783834885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04269355367073156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339326098823292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213395387632395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646684914624449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053221611448189016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010764283882894,0.0,0.0,0.12271282247728164,0.0,0.0,0.04427500197456302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03886037995780317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510104794367948,0.20813480412825014,0.2404918933733229,0.0,0.0,0.10997578820949803,0.03930808236942975,0.05289853440226504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227206859000504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468330732896467,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NeneGoes,2020/01/06,"11 month old in daycare too young? My plan since my baby was born has been to put her in daycare at 11 months so I can resume school. I have 3 years left in my program so i thought it would be nice to be all done before my child turns 4. That would be the main upside of putting her into childcare at that age.

Then I started thinking that maybe i could push it back just one more semester or even a year, somewhere between 18mo- 2 years old so that she’s less of a “baby” going into daycare. Because 1) i’m a single mom with no family or baby daddy, just me & her all day every day so I would feel horrible throwing her into daycare when she’s still so dependent on me. It feels like going from 0-100 (i should add i need FT daycare, PT wouldn’t work with my school schedule) so she’d be going from all day with mommy to all of a sudden 5 days a week with strangers all day. Im just so worried she’d feel like I’ve abandoned her even tho i’d be picking her up at the end of the day. And 2) since im lucky enough to have some flexibility on when I can go back to school (i hate putting things off btw) should i just wait an extra year and enjoy my child while she’s still so litte? 

This dilemma has been driving me nuts! Do I chose just going back to school when she’s 11mo so I can be done sooner, or postpone so I can spend more 1 on 1 time with her?

Thoughts? Anyone who put their child into daycare younger than a year even when they didn’t necessarily have to and then regret it? I’d love to hear stories!",1.959185520361992,3.2617198328173416,3.3930804953560383,92.8627286258633,76.6780185758514,5.712264824958324,22.6397951893308,5.8734145424116955,0.16337685163134053,1178,33,269,6,26,387,161,323,0.083,0.853,0.065,-0.6846,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,0,2,2,30,9,1,0,10,0,31,1,0,2,5,47,50,24,0,9,8,1,3,2,0,6,0,1,0,3,11,13,0,2,6,0,1,12,3,3,0,1,8,4,38,6,36,27,13,64,0,2,0,1,22,16,0,6,38,177,49,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568109767425242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617466303531497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037089610688816,0.0,0.0538314089090065,0.0,0.07514314561091649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050632238887282,0.0,0.0,0.34170604316043873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073838568376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821419987313531,0.0912452138338406,0.0,0.17497873648094486,0.0,0.07440284500936084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324841556851102,0.0,0.13395271767706535,0.126173736324667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250935827171274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718533591152497,0.0,0.0,0.09952892713612774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907744241796849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594631533745808,0.0,0.0,0.0862851302436336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970093178511707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871671443734007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034246316574703,0.14097234658326155,0.0,0.0,0.06547886378537339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853276519254515,0.0,0.059839421348399126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550935580923311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35748746231850786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460976894449618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250447578757459,0.0,0.14104490569993547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866755354115821,0.056583855649979614,0.0,0.14021252083270874,0.05149279096845643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605316001967973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083491901611405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428888373127925,0.08968051373080974,0.0,0.18819326102009049,0.0,0.0,0.2843355497601948
parenting,rockymaivia989,2020/01/06,"Any tips for long flight with an infant My spouse and I are traveling with our infant daughter of 15 months. The overall flight duration is 18 hours (10 hours + layover + 8 hours). She is a very physically active baby and does not like to stay at one place unless she is sleeping. I am freaking out thinking about the toll this flight is going to take on my daughter, us, and also the rest of the people on the flight. Can people please share any tips they found useful while traveling with infants?",5.9496875,6.543127927083333,5.7687500000000025,82.20125,66.60416666666666,8.066666666666668,28.5,7.793537801064563,1.7070749999999997,395,12,74,4,6,123,67,96,0.049,0.846,0.105,0.6671,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,7,0,7,1,1,1,0,12,12,6,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,7,0,0,2,2,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,9,2,14,11,1,15,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,7,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573401317338797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26759218042078364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721764058801767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157251609710076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181701033824644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.581274500455587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612164003492477,0.0,0.0,0.17411670412143962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570432021704542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332223762096956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728020148917336,0.0,0.20556086506068247,0.21597135715556715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19689112420923452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970829238860544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793078815656313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606883687184992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366648633250779,0.16992799493112692,0.0,0.16233855861369156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anon_anona,2020/01/06,"Depressed and self harming teenage My teenage daughter has been staying at her grandparents for a few weeks over the holiday period. I know she's been depressed and has body image issues, and is overweight, which causes her a lot of emotional distress. I've taken her to a doctor and a dietician to help work out a plan for her, and she'll stick with it for a week or so or until she has a bad day and just comfort eat on anything she can find. 

Today she called me and said she tried to cut herself but she couldn't do it properly, and that she just wants to hurt herself because she hates herself so much. I talked to her and supported her, told her she's worth more than hurting herself and that she is more as a person than what she looks like. I didn't yell or get angry or cry. I was calm and tried to be there for her. She got mad at me and said I'm so accepting of everything (she can't rebel against me because I don't get angry or act in the way some of her friends parents act) and she hung up on me. She won't talk to me.

I called my mother and mentioned my daughter was really upset but I'm not sure how much good my mother will be. She's not good at dealing with emotional stuff.

Just before the Christmas holidays I got my daughter to agree to see a psychologist after over a year of casually mentioning it. I haven't been able to get a hold of their office though because of the holidays and they don't open til later this week.

I don't know what to do right now.",3.4360675155463416,4.4108771270358345,4.496572401539829,87.67895395321293,72.51791530944625,7.666508735564111,27.30959431448031,8.00094639256281,1.5253009771986967,1166,41,251,16,22,381,153,307,0.149,0.703,0.149,-0.474,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,2,10,22,4,2,15,0,25,4,1,2,1,43,43,30,0,2,12,6,0,1,1,3,2,3,0,2,10,19,2,1,4,4,1,2,10,12,0,0,12,5,51,10,40,25,7,28,0,4,2,0,52,12,0,7,13,181,61,2,0.11475842817625358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944364083372782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958184940644245,0.20986701800107035,0.0,0.0976509700203715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747074326806765,0.0,0.0,0.2343623718588295,0.0,0.0,0.11788851740092045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605674471096698,0.07400969244579203,0.11831090042404592,0.1976825320620703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746011396935988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742652149730914,0.0,0.25817557127226315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313747557865148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488712432887604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866207693838417,0.0,0.17986962672792225,0.0,0.0,0.19250784975498947,0.18356559678894768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330018931328185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692015540269649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457025417058908,0.0,0.0,0.11977798384034305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261364618669936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056065171334807984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636817701936627,0.0,0.0,0.09756351183522396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687212979670539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274256537453776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002026330445826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351718764720379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800307063312187,0.21832308922248705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144760943269137,0.0,0.1197180684710418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231721534115805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137094454841955,0.0,0.13022650434551186,0.1081584604459073,0.0,0.0,0.18447695519214646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274957302280435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877757156028416,0.10965659598680892,0.0,0.15582687958121993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768749422670375,0.09108989872116087,0.2761568668839347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354550247859567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390066524264577
parenting,shorterthanyouha,2020/01/06,"Ideas for long-game, thoughtful gifts or experiences to give to my child in the future? Remember that story of the dad who every year had his daughter’s teacher write a note in a copy of “Oh the Places You’ll Go” and then gave it to her when she graduated high school? Or the mom who collected a Christmas tree ornament every year since her daughter was born and gave her the box of them when she moved into her first place on her own? I had my first baby a few months ago and have started thinking about what kind of long-game gifts or experiences I should be starting on now. Have any of you done something like this or seen interesting ideas? I appreciate any suggestions!",6.100858778625955,6.540124229007637,6.01915076335878,81.07391698473285,66.25190839694656,9.298091603053436,30.115458015267176,9.188382445141503,2.303510687022901,538,18,107,9,8,169,87,131,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.8946,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,1,2,4,3,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,15,18,10,0,1,4,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,1,16,3,15,7,2,24,0,0,1,0,23,8,0,4,15,69,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385242231585167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253837306625634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599188085989361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26332899423118833,0.0,0.0,0.3057247470982365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26584693422802946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990874483216876,0.08881203262760896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651081887564946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528203738323145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273150636780725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634579215789558,0.0,0.0,0.2765886578556781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302192765388406,0.12473349048517672,0.16609063516121186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32653847924396523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702382646547432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815392188757849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926843595900814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030453855515115,0.0,0.0,0.22121789485360266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013172074372452,0.0,0.1240611904183619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20126594442216286
parenting,ccredfred432,2020/01/06,"Is there a such thing as an OCD obsession with people? My daughter (14) met a boy at summer camp this year with OCD and they connected greatly. He was like a best friend to her. They’re the same age and I think the boy liked her a little bit. After two months in summer camp it was time to go back to school and leave the camp. The boy got upset when he hugged my daughter goodbye. 

As we got home and settled down to eat dinner my daughter got a friend request on Instagram from this boy from camp. We don’t know how he found her thag quick. It had only been 3 hours. He must have been digging. He doesn’t even know my daughters last name and isn’t friends with any of her friends so idk how it happened. My daughter didn’t accept the friend request because she was creeped out that he searched for her and found her that quick. 

The next day, we were watching tv and my daughter was on her phone like any other teenage girl. She told me that the boy from camp messaged her that morning and told her that he misses her and really wants her to accept the request so he can look at her photos. My daughter asked him how he found her and he said a person can find anything on the internet with a winky face. My daughter never replied. Should I be concerned about this? I mean it was less than a day and he found her three hours later from leaving. Should she talk to him? I don’t care that he has OCD but I’ve heard there’s people that’s have obsession with people OCD. Is that even a thing?",2.110380639097741,4.084399878289478,2.5015225563909773,96.46565789473685,78.17763157894737,5.132330827067669,22.04135338345865,5.773587663045528,0.008373496240601686,1169,34,257,6,28,357,148,304,0.035,0.8740000000000001,0.091,0.9272,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,1,1,15,18,0,3,19,0,25,4,1,3,2,42,48,20,0,4,1,8,0,3,5,3,0,2,1,7,18,20,2,0,11,1,0,1,6,4,0,2,22,4,36,14,30,22,4,29,0,1,2,1,68,9,0,0,22,160,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143038155836064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654579341832164,0.0,0.09831957641995842,0.0,0.0,0.08086909292704211,0.0,0.06411054064505348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036922820060126,0.0,0.11481819488829373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722763153228143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565165524912515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076149723424682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892733659320147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612330195774103,0.0,0.0,0.4612530776379046,0.40626967553359056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977042724019235,0.0,0.25234171594605154,0.11595008792826254,0.0,0.0,0.0930013165536755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054938954722733,0.0,0.2071421580131215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559715541351842,0.08572743280652458,0.0,0.22271928909010255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414197199163454,0.10540777973971303,0.0,0.0,0.0883161535605125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145607557840692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394553977522445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811134417694816,0.0,0.1118492871420445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998638041159664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187345145350442,0.09183022239130488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673744739643946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004057392153333,0.0,0.0,0.1064374634974174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453151033380693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974029853849834,0.06738856832883157,0.0,0.0,0.06132536255721409,0.0,0.0,0.20098852275991266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273562359235393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062031879393656536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772591016723223
parenting,RettaJay,2020/01/06,"Single father of two little girls in need of help This guy really needs help. This is a post of his I came across in a neighborhood app in my town...If you can’t help this guy please pray for him and share so he can receive some help to get a better footing on life.

“I would have never thought this would be me. This father of two little girls (3&5) is seeking for a little push to end these hardtimes we a currently experiencing. After 12+ years of working with a company I was laid off due to actions not caused by me or for any reason of my own and this lost caused me to lose our home. I am ACTIVELY seeking employment while working daily work daily pay jobs which isn't much help because the pay is mostly used to have care for the girls while I do the work when available as well as trying to at least get a room to avoid sleeping in the car. I have a few job leads that i pray will come through for me but if any one falls through it will not help overnight so until then a goFundMe account has been set up (gf.me/u/w99spp) in order to reach a goal to help assist with rent, security deposit, and lights and help pay the bills for at least six months so that we can get back on the right track and to a better living.(sharing with other social medias would be appreciated as well) Anything can/will help and will be greatly appreciated in hopes to eliminate this unfortunate situation we have been placed in. Someone who reached out through this app suggested I create a gofundme account,  Because I had been using only cash app( $MYNAMEISDETTSKII )”",7.915175438596487,6.722900078947372,7.452157894736843,77.73143859649123,63.01315789473684,10.211929824561404,34.41140350877193,9.029198982220553,2.752731403508773,1240,43,243,16,15,390,170,304,0.044000000000000004,0.7609999999999999,0.196,0.9923,7,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,1,0,10,8,12,0,1,18,0,28,3,2,6,1,37,41,20,0,7,5,2,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,5,15,15,0,2,2,0,9,8,5,3,2,4,8,2,22,9,50,24,8,45,2,2,0,0,29,21,0,5,13,167,37,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978397701660097,0.0,0.12525436506695214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578564153365817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081471953347952,0.0,0.11227948257104944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628995899246277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533117762722896,0.0938961274123386,0.18921212862674786,0.0,0.07933095880644052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156808515181728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434618272764455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153412953363923,0.0,0.1823753822958347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5555589294457326,0.0,0.09237794502162823,0.09147027437915638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277847429766275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504882427939285,0.0,0.2769076079157496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302980117595566,0.1005316476665345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735086748237934,0.0,0.0676997994309427,0.13657329603966406,0.07102868872887155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240538193702334,0.07004175378170144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621878933570452,0.101091725365931,0.0,0.0,0.08820074203313026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058997873041666024,0.09468812822450573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864790403372113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351768731023546,0.09216066295870973,0.0938783919684988,0.07803107754126562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311247099109958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252588511770597,0.0,0.17992521264837594,0.0,0.0,0.1590795596398185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560740841132118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681825628090035,0.0,0.0,0.19626313335409395,0.0,0.0,0.059305615533105975
parenting,zuck515,2020/01/06,"Do you know what running like a mother means? I will now tell you :

We are pretty unfit, we haven't run in years, your last PE lesson is a leat 20 years ago...

Picture this : your child just fell, you have to start your engine again, you're about to outrun a cheetah on steroids, and you start the motion, so you look like you're running, but you are actually running as fast as you were walking a second ago.

Here it is, running like a mother is what mums do when their child needs rescuing, the body is moving like they're running, but the speed is a bit... underwhelming.

Have a good day 😚",4.146355932203388,4.9154147796610195,4.5625,88.62307203389831,70.6949152542373,6.9169491525423705,24.91949152542373,6.6274283507984215,0.7140813559322035,456,12,97,3,8,144,73,118,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.9319,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,10,1,1,7,5,0,0,10,0,14,1,1,0,0,10,20,7,0,1,3,3,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,1,1,14,5,7,18,1,25,0,0,1,0,19,2,0,0,17,59,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.21066052261564736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827160788918314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23567697429460935,0.23978579931150434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921997161805572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106369918219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863793822671985,0.17596498531911722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218578028930691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18127861940983864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351485522164904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294384158242602,0.0,0.1600668013969317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196200470263519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30559148201175457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18868217185960426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27802976009317426
parenting,TipsyyCanadian,2020/01/06,"My step daugther tells me I am not her mom when she is asked to do something Hi guys!

I come to you hoping you can help me with a situation that has been going on for months now in my blended family. Little context, daddy is 31, I am 24, we have a 7 y/o daughter from his previous relationship and a 3.5 months old daugther.

I recently came into living 24/7 with him and his daugther and we are facing a situation I have no idea to handle.

His daugther doesn’t listen to me. She talks back, question everything I ask her to do (go ask other family members as we live in a inter-generation house) and tells me I am not her mom, thus, I can’t tell her what to do. Her dad had the discussion about her having to listen to me but she still doesn’t want to. She wants him to approve everything I say. Problem is, I am a mom at home and he works 10 hours a day, evening/night.

I also am a first time mom and to be honest, it is my first experience with a blended family. I’d like to ecplain her the concept of me being her step-mom and stuff, but I don’t know how.

Also, english is not my first langage, their is, so I sometimes face the langage barrier, especially the daughter, since she can’t understand as much.

Any advice on how to take my place as a step-mom or explain her?

Thank you!",3.95754791804362,4.205144067415734,5.738290372328709,81.89577660277597,70.87265917602997,8.679356686494822,28.814496585150913,8.671277953709913,2.0143568627450974,994,35,212,16,17,344,143,267,0.027999999999999997,0.904,0.068,0.87,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,3,3,1,5,10,5,0,0,14,0,29,2,2,3,0,35,46,19,0,4,6,7,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,5,16,0,1,5,0,0,5,9,1,0,3,3,3,50,4,29,41,1,27,0,0,0,0,51,8,0,3,15,154,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618352913163971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410596671938998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059975899819521165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473523948009862,0.0,0.0,0.06781682254693824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087204791411578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597253214158843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687874006777763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852868646850926,0.0862720295623803,0.24942833622390484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250568995785525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024696236817474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873273171140591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05911552096136013,0.0,0.08846718233235025,0.08759793736044187,0.0868547084152358,0.10176565614739876,0.0,0.09956187717996832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04846988813564375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043087820011462205,0.08839496567772784,0.15575631704179752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6197603551424427,0.1407934618403434,0.0,0.06483377064426482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276541316881254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254624159184087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214542689780368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439109163418268,0.0,0.0,0.09879903818231366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870823225665126,0.09468885887193286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013652604246552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295615048758049,0.1982706611573509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789713168612768,0.0872275107977872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043296444210773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096263827742516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631196858405461,0.07088812583942679,0.2312600142902411,0.08119847959270267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142744996436743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181452709050407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403986998810398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420730531737398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lemongirl97,2020/01/06,"Stupid kids beat me in wrestling  

So my son is a big pro wrestling fan. That’s all well and good, but recently he had his friends over (also into this ""sport"" they see on tv) and they had some fun facing off against each other. This is also fine, but then someone came up with the brilliant idea that I should be their final opponent after their matches.

Everybody thought this was a great idea, cheering me on. Stupidly enough I agreed, thinking they’re 11-12 and I’m a grown woman, how hard can it be right… Well it was HARD. I had my ass handed to me more times than I can count, these kids were freaking strong! It was fun at first but... Eventually I had to tell them I was going easy on them because they’re kids to save face, but I really wasn’t. I doubt they believed me anyway. At least they had to go home eventually... How can they be so strong at this age? Does anybody else have experiences with kids growing up faster than you thought?",2.588667083854816,4.6052932234042565,2.970813516896122,93.46029411764708,76.87234042553192,5.912891113892366,23.29286608260325,6.794906146795322,0.5156842302878597,738,23,159,7,17,227,117,188,0.098,0.638,0.264,0.9907,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,9,4,9,16,2,1,4,0,21,4,4,2,1,24,29,14,0,1,4,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,11,8,0,0,5,2,0,5,1,4,2,1,14,4,25,12,22,11,6,26,0,0,1,1,20,13,1,2,8,107,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712131242595018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336943724651884,0.0,0.0,0.19104942765329944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19394504332436568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839348501854507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165553730667693,0.0,0.0,0.1752130697783821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587382587297864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575769354652671,0.0,0.14423774488506147,0.0,0.0,0.13101080511157193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274320152779395,0.14222883817748705,0.0,0.18695358387612734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038061740803488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009441034488218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38285199879285897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863208122106294,0.0,0.16743176303239546,0.0,0.0,0.14481344933950002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351268248050565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367769406268846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821328742098366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086548064469858,0.0,0.2692422447625734,0.09887872029616183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049309494368233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isolatehawks1212,2020/01/06,Toddler is having trouble sleeping by herself at night. Need help pretty badly here! Hey everyone! So my daughter is 2 and cosleeps with us to an extent. We will sit with her and she goes to sleep for a few hours (sometimes till about 3 or 4 am and then she seems too afraid to fall back asleep on her own and we end up bringing her into bed to get her back to sleep. Did anyone else in here deal with a similar issue and what did you end up doing to help fix the situation? Thanks guys!,1.4680000000000002,3.583901800000003,2.7059999999999995,93.473,81.0,5.2,21.0,6.2581,0.1227999999999998,380,11,82,3,10,122,75,100,0.054000000000000006,0.83,0.115,0.7633,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,0,7,4,0,1,4,0,8,4,4,0,0,14,13,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,11,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,12,1,19,10,3,17,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,2,8,59,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290598621328575,0.18010228782354434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703202924322556,0.14676480584941812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18121633511512056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683748053208798,0.0,0.3113690031767178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679605714664156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091835197031245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404491255291452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356365915330173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17310299492190548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346346094255192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033495566703748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495295599837828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882639524850874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600189834037102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757849561477092,0.527705910421012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384599677075346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183002921850173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21143571549540854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elllamagooty,2020/01/06,"Is anyone preparing their coherent children for the possibility of our country being at war? I've always been one of informing my daughter (8) of current world events because she probably wouldn't hear of them from anywhere else. Even though she wasn't alive for 9/11 or conflict in Afghanistan or Iraq I try to fill her in on the events that took place and the countries involved. I even throw in some knowledge of WW1 and WW2. I guess I'm just trying to make my child a history buff.

It also stems from me being younger (12) and seeing 9/11 happen and dealing with family and friends being deployed for war. Even being just out of high school (2007) and my friends going to basic and going to Iraq. I was unprepared, and I worried for my the people I cared about.

I see it as war is war, it's a nonstop occurrence even if it's not on the news. I feel the more a child understands about it the better off they will be in understanding that there's a possibility their friends or family may be deployed. 

Do y'all think it's a waste of time trying to inform the younger generation of things such as this?",6.7370833333333335,6.483185208333333,6.835555555555558,78.11500000000002,64.97222222222223,9.792592592592593,33.27777777777778,9.2995712137729,2.7966833333333336,879,33,170,14,12,282,126,216,0.115,0.8170000000000001,0.068,-0.8871,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,4,1,12,9,4,0,13,0,15,0,0,1,0,31,30,16,4,2,7,1,1,0,3,3,0,1,0,3,10,10,0,1,7,0,0,5,3,4,0,1,4,4,22,5,33,17,2,21,0,0,2,0,21,12,0,7,4,119,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004937821354764,0.11450536440565336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622248191400663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388784522373782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170786036496252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403060224915143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187336244044035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495832912709525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635693847600025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594593135073694,0.0,0.0695814647714131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189592910995636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564177216049979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159666368537414,0.0,0.12169106624529025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510029189451982,0.0,0.0,0.14539610196687666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185800636782956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325039448322292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540379743998187,0.0,0.14377670296621448,0.0,0.0,0.3102768407223235,0.0,0.0,0.14837050950599515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927209744358174,0.21932010982682326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142422148814723,0.08817710368590492,0.13520445691087055,0.0,0.08024347432930451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289353967228106,0.28029137575935514,0.0,0.0,0.2865207842406665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397530773930157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tolkienislife,2020/01/06,"Silent hysterics around grandpa My son (Roman, just turned 2) is typically rambunctious and outgoing. He is also very affectionate, helpful, and caring. My dad (73) has FTD, a form of dementia. It impairs his mobility and as it progresses it is causing him to lose control of his voice as well (repeating words or sounds at increasingly louder volumes). 

My parents have come down around once a week since my son was born. They usually have a good time together my mom playing with Roman and Grandpa watching. Recently I left my son and dad together for a minute and when I turned back Roman  was silently crying making a horrible face, then just wanted held and comforted. He has done that a few more times. I thought it might be because the yelling scared him, but it’s never happened right after that. There doesn’t seem to be a clear catalyst. This is very out of character for Roman  he’s usually very vocal when he’s unhappy with something. Yesterday we had just gotten my dad situated in his usual chair when Roman had the same reaction. My dad hadn’t had an episode or anything, he had barely been there five minutes.

They have always gotten on well so this is hurtful and disturbing. I’m not sure what to do. Grandma wants to keep them separated from now on, but I’m not sure that’s a good solution. I’ve repeatedly explained to Roman that Grampa is sick and he doesn’t need to be afraid but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. Has anyone else encountered this or have advice?",4.850207792207795,6.737851085714286,5.68292207792208,76.9875324675325,70.28571428571429,9.233766233766234,30.941558441558442,9.688023934748609,3.178678571428572,1184,51,209,29,22,387,162,280,0.11,0.7959999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.84,1,0,1,0,1,0,32.0,1,0,3,3,16,15,0,3,12,0,30,2,1,4,4,47,50,23,0,3,11,11,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,14,16,0,3,4,1,0,2,7,5,2,1,13,4,20,10,26,33,5,31,0,2,1,0,28,10,0,6,19,140,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349712628995375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288240469632468,0.09664328657984857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121241256519256,0.11900593090135145,0.0955787664160987,0.2067902207044931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930957632793785,0.0,0.07080189743602444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841921302908515,0.11931456591996345,0.0,0.1000500230371267,0.0,0.0,0.13026830296704808,0.0,0.0,0.12758160088927575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134849035582475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885831065247494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702559180731184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483653740073897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270806656434933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785062663191321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243373517429662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032364465188202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619363519483515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993835113370744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550575325468578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232132022180842,0.0,0.13602950974864172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612124207627363,0.08957942839137302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369235255301125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289670690487332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468076860553515,0.0,0.0,0.09918857314701587,0.0,0.0,0.11628302185748135,0.0,0.0,0.21147102917986332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607767875077562,0.13055365970565205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941533733128336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189336169999913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220743726050752,0.13545204848737752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526683258695679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837572564521677,0.2874993594986572,0.13701256356297398,0.0,0.0931658073364843,0.0,0.20885950801500167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meowfaceman,2020/01/06,"18 month old pronunciation? Hey all. So I know I'm about to commit a cardinal sin of twin parenting (don't compare the twins), but just getting a gut check here. I've got twin girls who are about 2 weeks shy of 18 months old and I'm trying to figure out if there's anything to worry about.

One of my twins' vocab/pronunciation is pretty solid. She can say dozens of words quite clearly (picture, pancake, strawberry, okay, stairs, teeth, bacon, house, etc.). She's not perfect: strawberry is ""strawby!"" and things like that, but it's pretty clear what she's saying most of the time.

The other twin also seems to have similarly good vocabulary and can definitely understand damn near everything that you're saying, but her pronunciation is noticeably worse. Lots of words she can say are much more difficult to parse than her sister's. Now, she also doesn't have many teeth, so I'm sure this isn't helping. We still try to encourage her when she's trying. We were reading a book with the word ""lick"" in it (showing a bunch of dogs doing dog things) and she said ""liiih."" She clearly knows the word and what it means, it's just the pronunciation is off.

Regardless, I'm trying to figure out if one twin is a little ahead of normal, one twin is a little behind normal, or if we're just sitting in the middle of ""expected."" I hear a lot about early speech intervention and whatnot and I want to make sure that I'm on top of things if I need to be. Will be following up with my pediatrician regardless, but just want to get that gut check to start with. Can't really find much on the internet for this.

Thanks all!",4.136442307692306,5.725340528846152,5.213333333333335,80.84000000000002,71.59615384615384,8.405128205128205,24.85897435897436,8.959647251330699,1.7984397435897437,1263,37,247,25,24,416,167,312,0.078,0.7509999999999999,0.171,0.9842,1,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,2,0,0,4,17,11,1,0,15,1,22,4,4,1,9,61,44,21,0,12,14,2,0,1,0,1,0,7,0,1,17,14,0,0,8,3,2,1,5,3,0,4,3,8,19,8,41,38,10,28,1,0,0,0,26,14,1,9,13,158,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477923884170982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992652644089183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218739153291502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821206765451783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987816060923298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141865447070152,0.0,0.0,0.09165724610810752,0.08739964164204236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316430770216755,0.0,0.0732467753745309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260922010911898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011272000869985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053387736797933065,0.21905063475522596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580858550617335,0.0,0.0,0.07294394886689941,0.11079079376918738,0.0,0.1190358355640624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444939849828814,0.0,0.16066388514679034,0.08102829156612776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214138579823535,0.0,0.12441378751357295,0.2293378679371,0.0,0.2221489103442361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213403455567282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22235013193134315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162306605576326,0.10930762509031897,0.0,0.0700063189104426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394845272759673,0.3476091750550792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994826351610168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734756829172255,0.0,0.08726959420395658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598654320604085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006085491383494,0.0,0.0,0.21779844788019656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372091143520695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967704988697819,0.0,0.0,0.11376230696355863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891005379103598,0.0,0.08765626248363294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109771672000728,0.11136367178753696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bones36588,2020/01/06,"Motivation First time dad. My son is 1. Since he was born and we brought him home,  I'm having a hard time finding motivation to do anything other than play with him and make sure he's taken care of. I feel like I'm more tired than usual. I used to do alot of meal prep and I did yoga before he was born. I also have a few hobbies mostly I play video games (not online for hours on end). I know this sounds like it might be crazy or a joke I know I'm gonna catch hell from older parents saying that's what parenting is. I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips on how I can find motivation. I don't wanna gain the weight back I lost and I wanna be able to move with him when he starts walking. I get up on weekends which should give me plenty of time to do what needs to be done but when I get up I don't wanna go anywhere or do anything other than parent. 

Thank you for any help.",1.0795318755774552,2.6531969162303675,3.001188789651988,93.55683092084999,79.83769633507853,5.541238065906992,18.56513704958423,6.2272716619740125,-0.2785007083461655,685,14,160,5,17,230,120,191,0.062,0.8059999999999999,0.132,0.8694,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,6,6,10,1,0,5,0,21,3,0,6,1,34,43,12,0,6,6,5,3,2,0,3,1,2,1,0,8,7,2,0,9,7,0,5,3,2,0,1,7,5,21,8,24,30,4,25,1,1,0,0,18,5,1,7,17,98,29,3,0.13931775064849158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141235485948177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894816957004189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097414210552474,0.0,0.2292932762840769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712675067715934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118549144564674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204373182748858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257042900328848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339417537537307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044324075790978,0.09952862890028524,0.0,0.0,0.2546678002777214,0.11850360753110105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455755491714625,0.13364628119302405,0.07917748827236136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480133978603168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338175156753824,0.0,0.13974706317549748,0.0,0.13719992096498498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531307845649379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612723151089662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152081782229544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929956803779314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779411723647454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807272087518653,0.0,0.10330234681704792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640876248528042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107910671207422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524508300634327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860982097352967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313053312283488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282650668670201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437119023004244,0.16012525990139995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032580539495208,0.1534388196757567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169651487869316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108415768093106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,usrnmeeeeeeee,2020/01/06,"Feeling torn. I currently live in a popular area in the UK. I live with my mum, two of my siblings and my child. It's overcrowded here and I want to move out. I've been looking for full time work for a long time but it's proving difficult... Because of this, if I were to rent somewhere, I would need help from the benefits system. The area I live in now, that my son goes to school in, is very expensive and I would never be able to afford to rent my own place here even if I were to find a full time job tomorrow.

I'm considering moving further our ( five to ten miles ) where the cost of living is drastically lower. Instead of paying £700+ a month for a two bedroom flat, it would be closer to £450+ a month for a two bedroom house.

I would do it in a heartbeat if it wasn't for my sons schooling. I've brought the idea up once or twice to my mum and she basically shut me down, giving me a big rant about how I'd be a terrible parent if I were to change his school. I don't agree, but it's making me second guess myself and doubt every choice I make.

I don't want to be in this house anymore, it was fine for the short term but now it's its obvious that I'm trapped unless some kind of miracle happens.  I just don't know what to do for the best and it's really fucking with my head, not helping my depression at all.

Did any of you lovely people change your children's school when they were around 8? Am I wrong to think it isn't a big deal in the long run?",2.7149956709956733,3.3375787809523807,4.303932178932183,89.70775974025976,73.8888888888889,7.6320346320346335,24.794372294372288,7.84624498591911,1.0378571428571424,1136,33,266,15,22,382,168,315,0.091,0.7879999999999999,0.121,0.8615,7,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,2,1,2,12,12,1,1,19,0,25,3,1,3,4,43,42,17,0,11,11,5,1,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,16,10,0,0,6,0,5,4,7,6,0,7,9,2,34,6,43,25,7,44,0,1,1,2,18,25,1,8,14,176,50,7,0.0996954618954883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779633279199138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887110923057857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875009775232942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077342823166725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462423653810307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092915907785326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278164360120677,0.08586755524539272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584791233167557,0.0,0.08399772647696252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05040902104782108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111984603689942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216684805110828,0.0,0.09563697139907204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982579104363807,0.0,0.08816036770486123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231630604622416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336475332368031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23007035531691314,0.0,0.11254404150667724,0.0,0.0,0.09893236266914177,0.0,0.0,0.1038174820131388,0.05479001859618842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521316774369965,0.1764546930885575,0.08371907904852194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997904673138553,0.0,0.13309498992637447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591519330695832,0.2119209969018153,0.0,0.07392292175889377,0.07689128624407343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617241321080342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070001227246423,0.0,0.0,0.06911628044901298,0.0,0.10416053858337074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386746573845015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035885196996909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638808264563128,0.0,0.0,0.17439967668277878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921639398641025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225919701718766,0.11760593289261848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257948362713597,0.0,0.0,0.2832831829120576,0.10900133712691472,0.0,0.0
parenting,caynharris,2020/01/06,"Safe baby monitor? I'm looking to get one of those Wi-Fi baby cams, so I can check up on my little one from anywhere, without having to call whoever's watching her every time I get that worried feeling. I've looked at reviews, but there's always some story of the monitor getting hacked or starting fires. Which one can I trust not to put my baby in danger?",6.0829166666666685,5.6665392361111175,7.1633333333333375,75.765,66.3611111111111,8.866666666666667,34.66666666666667,8.07648339933343,2.786266666666668,283,12,51,3,4,96,56,72,0.133,0.7659999999999999,0.10099999999999999,-0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,11,3,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,0,5,6,2,11,11,1,8,0,0,3,0,2,5,0,2,2,33,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224248356076605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481878676264759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478558896063093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228966722931258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809609772618569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436064719075845,0.0,0.0,0.4082124988203169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4941041357633646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24433892084676054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203664571191538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172820305964529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342977979656961,0.0,0.0,0.2468356797424243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leslie925,2020/01/06,"15 year old asks me if I smoke(d) weed and what age I started. How much info should I share? To be transparent, I'm the older sister (23) but since my parents don't do the drugs/sex/alcohol talks - I sorta feel like I could. And even if not taking the role of a parent, I should still educate him on it if he asks. And he has been asking a bit.

He doesn't seem interested in weed, and classifies his classmates that smoke as ""druggies"" saying they're too young. I started smoking at the age of 13 but just here and there.

I'm not sure how much I should share if any? So far, I've just lied and said I never had haha.",2.207153846153848,3.3168630999999986,3.73076923076923,91.4692307692308,75.69230769230771,6.7384615384615385,22.23076923076923,7.1686216300943375,0.4982923076923078,473,12,109,5,10,157,89,130,0.1,0.8420000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.7251,3,0,5,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,6,1,11,0,0,2,2,28,22,16,0,8,10,3,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,3,13,6,7,14,3,14,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,6,11,67,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19597960309190351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470605805748253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5143122854268398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002056639237625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641561636643996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211220908274256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272345636596173,0.1310081475483984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959118912911812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696137612067175,0.0,0.14143551445308605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242857567261512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072480498250401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443828951291798,0.14583273806514888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694409833306095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516954971202178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595974669512262,0.0,0.14644911338235944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283537809698038,0.0,0.13788045246563327,0.1473955165844857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809200469545306
parenting,YesImAPisces,2020/01/06,"Found my 9 year old daughter sexting. My 9 year old daughter recently got an iPhone for Christmas. She is a fairly responsible kid with good grades and a generally nice disposition. Possibly a tad spoiled due to being an only child but nothing crazy. She has been begging for a phone for a year, and I finally gave in and got her one this year. I told her that I would be checking it periodically, not out of mistrust but because it is my duty as a parent to make sure she is safe and doing age appropriate activities. Well, tonight was that night, and boy was I shocked and appalled! She has literally been sexting out entire role playing fetishes online, in direct messages on the Tik Tok app. From “I’m taking my bra and panties off now”, to “I’m licking your dick and sucking it slowly.” Like, I am so floored. She doesn’t have any bad influences in her immediate circle, I can’t speak for all her classmates but she doesn’t hang out with any of them outside of school. She’s mostly with me, her father, her grandparents or at school. She does watch online videos on YouTube but unless she’s watching porn (found no evidence of that) I’m not sure where the hell she got this language. She has an entirely different persona with me. I feel like I don’t even know who is she at this point. Help me.",4.6797935880544586,5.915702857707513,5.376251646903821,81.55201032059729,69.8300395256917,8.151866490996929,31.051602986385607,8.515128840125781,2.3182114185331577,1025,43,200,16,18,332,150,253,0.094,0.7829999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.3911,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,1,0,5,13,2,0,11,0,21,2,1,2,3,37,36,16,0,1,8,4,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,10,15,0,2,4,2,1,1,7,4,1,1,11,5,35,9,29,22,2,29,1,0,2,2,35,14,3,2,16,130,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372005871509088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892647133080715,0.08682646686419786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881325301233436,0.0,0.0,0.1246449855298932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407633803951997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201892871636043,0.1017549044150396,0.0,0.15602952529404898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123431393541589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946691240758228,0.3417525326973695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547053254781247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782780217037664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917215160828522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507582564357887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366469487651222,0.0,0.13666929986472748,0.0,0.2989211234676151,0.0,0.09651698961960978,0.10832750337959388,0.0,0.0,0.15815614203631587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464620361190466,0.1605729754880002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063642806023005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883016990492601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684847882655291,0.0,0.10709266960789453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610182612649746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806530480573147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118105317564496,0.0,0.0,0.36689139949947
parenting,Life-Basics,2020/01/06,"You should play with your kids at bedtime. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17540228

I've been  doing this for awhile. It seemed to work. But I didn't know until today that it's scientifically shown to help kids sleep. It increases melatonin. So, if you're your kid has trouble sleeping, then try this; especially if you're giving them melatonin. Definitely, try this.",5.463225806451613,9.116883306451617,4.180887096774196,78.89133064516129,78.83870967741936,6.325806451612903,25.491935483870968,7.645422480735847,1.8035419354838704,303,11,47,5,8,88,48,62,0.043,0.792,0.166,0.7759,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,7,8,6,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,6,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,3,28,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067729598117976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143493710790882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757489381670156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911259938887228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6400445096553813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30312476527628085,0.0,0.0,0.4342346093892628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328118790064952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheresAShinyThing,2020/01/06,"How to get your 4 yr old to brush their teeth... My kid never wants to brunch her teeth (just like most 4 yr olds, I assume) and we'll tell her she has to, because her teeth will fall out or they'll go brown or they'll rot. 

Today she said ""but I don't understand how they rot!""

I said ""well kid, you've got bacteria living in your mouth, they're super tiny, you can't even see them, and they're good, they are supposed to be there, and when you eat, little bits of food and sugar stay on your teeth, and these bacteria eat them, and just like us, when the bacteria eat, they have to poop. And their poop sticks to your teeth and that's what makes them rot.""

Kid looks at me in HORROR. ""I DON'T WANT POOP IN MY MOUTH MOM!"" 30 seconds later, we're in the bathroom, getting every nook and cranny with that toothbrush. 

Maybe it'll work for your kid too? Hahahaha",2.4275302663438225,3.7506078022598888,3.0073809523809523,96.01944915254236,75.49717514124293,6.187086359967716,18.857546408393862,6.5431188927421005,-0.27201824051654633,659,11,155,5,14,205,105,177,0.046,0.857,0.09699999999999999,0.8457,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,7,10,2,10,5,0,0,2,0,12,16,10,3,1,25,24,16,0,2,5,1,0,2,0,5,0,2,0,4,5,11,6,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,3,7,31,5,17,15,2,18,0,0,3,0,32,8,0,4,9,88,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646120997446818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727563345211573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4857549322971281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045155667966154,0.0,0.13332343701568974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134359248719904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534700875906888,0.0,0.0899310421386177,0.13272361917908446,0.12655842550631471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546154602822021,0.15859735188802307,0.1397282030331991,0.0,0.13288116036805367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562596305162827,0.0,0.1589726479953492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18532795839891372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204390509817754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320910581529504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010436258972928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609623664312528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866204187151762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830812491342245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999235617007428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473269433118926,0.19034239720803786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666728070289848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227613656825788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520009671508985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeautifulAnomoly,2020/01/06,"Food Therapy tips for 7 year old My son is a very picky eater. He eats the same foods everyday and won't try anything new. (pizza, macaroni, applesauce, yogurt and cereal are his foods) We are on a waitlist for food therapy but it may be a while before we are seen. Has anyone had a child in food therapy that can share some tips until we can get in?",2.530610328638499,4.224488845070424,4.3151408450704265,85.20163145539908,76.04225352112677,8.67699530516432,23.10093896713615,9.2995712137729,1.8474769953051642,272,8,57,7,6,92,54,71,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,11,7,0,0,0,9,13,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,6,8,2,9,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,2,6,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417630072408686,0.0,0.11083594692638993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460873958519645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781845300536194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8143204367797443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036841246822365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008156971088716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133137776424354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620790594946834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144365006600606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113090262482217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673402933120136
parenting,exlap,2020/01/06,"What is up with 4?! I’ve heard of the “terrible twos.” I’ve heard of the “threenager.” But 4??? Oh. My. God. It’s the worst yet! I honestly feel like I’m losing my mind. The amount of arguing, persuading, coaxing, pleading... I do with my preschooler on a daily basis is seriously psychological torture. It’s been YEARS of this! I’m getting to the point where I really don’t like my child. I love her- but I don’t like her. Now what? How can I fix this this? When will she grow out of this??? Mama is exhausted!",-1.1503418803418803,0.7885396923076904,1.867179487179488,91.96670940170941,104.0,5.7726495726495735,18.277777777777786,7.1686216300943375,0.6827752136752139,384,13,86,9,18,134,65,104,0.165,0.7140000000000001,0.121,-0.6886,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,5,12,2,0,6,0,9,2,0,1,0,8,16,4,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,0,1,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,3,3,13,5,11,12,2,10,0,1,0,1,8,5,0,0,7,55,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886183289888286,0.2527122943164542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481481878121533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184592419412987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39574515252668657,0.0,0.0,0.3192646253852514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571770796684422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33439912534314786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22661523170126255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277972935690309
parenting,I_iz_narwhal,2020/01/06,"What do I do with this therapist? So there is a lot going on in this situation but I'll try to include just relevant details. 

My 10yo is possibly Asperger's (very high functioning) and has attachment issues from his biological mother. She was very emotionally absent and would leave them alone to go visit neighbor men and leave the kids with random sitters. His father, my husband, (who didn't know what was going on while he was at work) was working full time+ and parented the only way he knew how which was feed baby, change baby, if they're still crying all well. They also did the whole put baby in crib at bedtime and don't go back till morning thing. He didn't know how bad this was. 

I can into my son's life when he was 2. I was more compassionate but by then he was in his habits of not asking for much and just going to bed. His behavior wasn't suspicious. Just seemed like a really easy kid. 

Fast forward his behavior becomes increasingly difficult. He's becoming unmanageable. His 14 month older brother does not have the same behavioral issues so I know something is up. By now our parenting style has taken a MASSIVE 180. We are more compassionate and empathetic and listen. Anyway, his behavior escalates to a point where DCS gets involved and he has to live with someone else to protect younger children until we get him in therapy and the therapist approves his return home. 

Let me be clear that during all of this although I'm frustrated and hurt this is still MY child. I do not see him (or his older brother) any differently then my biological children. My husband is the father of all 4 kids so the younger 2 were always seen as his baby brother and sister. His mother has always been out of the picture as a parent and has given permission for me to adopt them. 

I should also add that over the last few years my mental health has gone downhill. We recently discovered that they're seizures and I'm having them pretty much constantly at this point. The sudden downfall is probably due to the PTSD of dealing with DCS and the stress of having to deal with what's best for everyone involved. 5 years ago I was having symptoms but they were just inconvenient, not debilitating. 

SO we get to the therapist. I let my husband and his caregiver handle the appointments. I have literally been to every therapist (there's been 3 before), every doctor appointment, every evaluation, intervention/principal meeting. EVERYTHING. I couldn't make it anymore though. 

I finally realize she wants this to be a family meeting. She wants me to call in. Which is fine, but I struggled to keep up with the conversation. I feel like she's treating me like the evil step-mother who isn't willing to do things for my ""step-son"" but I'm willing to do it for my own children. Even telling me ""well why are you able to do that for (2yo) but not for (10yo)"" talking about level of constant supervision. Making me feel guilty. The next session I explained to her my new diagnosis and this is WHY I struggled to keep up. I also explained I was on new seizure meds. During that session she actually said ""well if you're not willing to do this you need to just admit that and let me and (caregiver) deal with the fall out"". At which point I start crying and saying I'm trying but I really am just not able to help. I'm doing the absolute best I can but I simply can NOT keep this child safe from himself. I've tried all of her advice in the past and it was unrealistic and he simply found was around the techniques. At this last appointment I was trying to explain that her level of my involvement (watching every social interacting and correcting all the behavior and NEVER sending him to his room when things gets overwhelming) was unrealistic in a family our size ""well I know you have 4 children but that was your decision and now you just have to do it"". Every single appointment I end up politely arguing with her over stupid points and wasting our time.

I am so over this lady. Every time I talk to her I'm upset for DAYS and I have seizures for days from the stress and them I'm no use to anyone. I've cried myself to sleep many times because I am doing my absolute best and I feel like an absolute failure. Now I have a professional telling me in details how I'm a failure for him. My husband thinks I'm being oversensitive, which is possible because these meds are messing with my emotions. The caregivers says she sees her points but agrees that her technique is unrealistic with this many children. Unfortunately she's out last hope before a boy's home option. 

I'm thinking of just not going anymore and having Chris share her appointment notes, or maybe video recording them so I can see.  But I'm concerned she'll just view me as not caring and giving up on him. I'm certainly willing to give up on trying to communicate to her. I feel like it's making me feel hopeless here. I get moments where I feel my best move is to just leave and let my husband raise the older boy and I'll take the little ones so atleast (10yo) can be home. I feel like I'm not good enough to be a parent to them anymore or that I just didn't try hard enough. I think my son has wonderful potential to be an amazing human being. This lady makes me feel like I've just shown up and fucked all that up for him by not trying hard enough. I feel so tired and defeated and exhausted (this specific situation is 18 months in the making). I don't know what to do. I guess I just need to vent. And I guess need to get ideas on how to proceed with this therapist. 

TL;DR: My 10yo has some behavioral issues that multiple therapist and environmental changes haven't been able to resolve. Current therapist is either unrealistic and decided I'm the issue OR a horrible reality check that I'm hopeless as a mother.",4.3728663317814265,6.1769799290206695,5.4576181287266206,78.46116867802013,71.36298292902065,8.54516458384383,28.820234011271747,9.126865294068056,2.5469237196765486,4603,180,843,97,88,1520,414,1113,0.109,0.777,0.114,0.5849,6,1,1,0,0,2,111.0,7,5,8,9,50,46,5,6,43,0,103,9,1,10,10,173,188,84,0,11,43,20,11,7,1,7,6,4,6,14,48,60,1,5,30,1,1,14,23,19,4,1,34,21,130,27,121,135,27,113,0,5,6,1,136,51,1,15,56,593,178,10,0.12491585141390295,0.0,0.04063328388392375,0.0,0.0,0.04068877475997705,0.03691012176241238,0.0,0.0,0.043125049805041664,0.0,0.09989516124484414,0.0692933301177237,0.0,0.0,0.028315687502840317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388295871202185,0.029114689248937783,0.0,0.0,0.03706719715226762,0.038926486223856194,0.0,0.0,0.03201752638064897,0.03476650606400322,0.05076502906326704,0.09197316249776193,0.07086279271069304,0.0,0.17478863915106205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251768357435158,0.0,0.04245334524051896,0.0,0.08809627169673276,0.0,0.0,0.08999310547280498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721419718167416,0.05370692675427816,0.1287827577711048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350349258127823,0.0,0.042618889019989815,0.03643823445512477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03478372166811974,0.09367567975113053,0.036879455787897655,0.129071466622452,0.0,0.027501913916476658,0.0,0.210493984785415,0.0397874830590643,0.037422104210073165,0.0,0.07850636499130019,0.0,0.1894836233287432,0.14873318201576596,0.0,0.04561306979511708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04565459450234773,0.0,0.03849423058831339,0.1305267533042576,0.07988711142128603,0.1419851140908931,0.03492449652451789,0.0,0.0,0.09173926231335178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460004459542638,0.0,0.0,0.04425990290814105,0.0,0.0,0.02790948736320008,0.04399348512497977,0.12530078398411726,0.04135654200529936,0.0,0.0,0.04457500083655778,0.047004930478868126,0.0,0.17383959295872398,0.0,0.11103094827335308,0.0,0.0,0.11441747517557073,0.10182309119892607,0.0,0.13226785022224247,0.0,0.1703132285047775,0.02941058668475002,0.14239767560073496,0.04173283322945934,0.03676766178765496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035399663279660376,0.0,0.0,0.13897050134377195,0.08443004467703079,0.04183158752562037,0.0,0.09250223377195983,0.0,0.04196193256780185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647109388789266,0.04425526039862026,0.061218349194197434,0.09262352102040304,0.03211426847612351,0.08042967179699104,0.04428314170604085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028215404588568364,0.031668044641373114,0.0,0.0,0.1849390269343868,0.0,0.03974877156592605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968097599291868,0.09388256901173983,0.0,0.04236144298238628,0.04489347179627065,0.0,0.048673315203539735,0.04185831088688103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05334952871261919,0.0,0.041113111103542536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03960786004558827,0.06622539919965909,0.0,0.0,0.09954176066707812,0.03790623320531432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360710050548952,0.04166868804929092,0.042445326497456005,0.03528026517858015,0.032055441751585506,0.0,0.0,0.029472027523039762,0.0,0.06650530686635085,0.0,0.0953937904986794,0.08705944669128615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043278466348101945,0.03130705809791127,0.06693508642542795,0.07278797334984981,0.0,0.04761738753873239,0.3384195065532119,0.08298854110307469,0.08004103370501775,0.04090972992724674,0.0,0.09711925000815176,0.04785746511206786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19788921464247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035962396172323344,0.0,0.06871243977516159,0.04911907041468723,0.033050796166024035,0.0,0.0,0.1497524696156867,0.0,0.07514475098884127,0.046488029033796716,0.0,0.0,0.04515530410163663,0.06062681837995421,0.0,0.0,0.029578878944523525,0.0,0.0,0.053627808522326466
parenting,LucyGoose_2015,2020/01/06,"Pool fence dilemma Hoping for feedback on a family issue. I have an active 2.5-year-old daughter, who is always exploring. My husband’s sister recently moved to the area and purchased a beautiful home with a pool. The home doesn’t have a pool fence installed. The exterior door locks are located high up, so the doors are quite secure once locked, however I don’t feel like this is enough, given doors can be left open and a quick toddler can be outside and in the pool in an instant. We recently went over to the house for dinner with our daughter, and I spent most of the evening chasing after her and making sure she wasn’t in harms way. I recently put my foot down saying we can’t go over to the home until they install a fence. My husband is skeptical on my stance as he claims there will be 4 adults there plus the door locks. I firmly disagree as many of the adults will be drinking and distracted. We have a pool fence plus door alarms on place at our home, which has been a lifesaver. Am I in the wrong for saying no to more visits with my daughter until they install a fence? Should we offer to help pay for the fence? Thanks for the advice.",6.269033356024503,6.224813132743362,6.0705309734513255,82.5037746766508,65.90265486725664,8.900748808713413,30.658951667801226,8.384062270229773,2.105247515316542,912,30,179,11,13,285,128,226,0.09,0.7959999999999999,0.114,0.825,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,2,1,5,10,1,2,24,0,24,3,1,1,1,29,32,13,0,2,0,6,1,1,0,3,0,2,9,2,3,16,2,7,2,6,3,6,5,5,0,0,5,3,21,5,34,20,3,32,0,0,0,0,25,18,0,2,8,121,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449335962681847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452166871868864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348279274634723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221166468652613,0.0,0.09090528826719048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974812883964024,0.0,0.06959137241188894,0.09832503168399036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821999688992398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225248838486112,0.14541680478349034,0.5522284217636205,0.136700608697402,0.0,0.15880998524654927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365307772903918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495386404543425,0.0,0.0,0.06724052415497732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187108594447987,0.13953824401251955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628208117057315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442266495620204,0.1465746367225148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437971751981008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835916398785256,0.0,0.14638962067927636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40768790431593777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890254704229853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971745914674454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671396062618476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924665687112596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275871555910965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048006264983524,0.0,0.08863112959456784
parenting,PalmTrees198,2020/01/06,Cheaper alternatives to Similac Pro Advance Formula? We have 6 month old twins and after trying several formulas they seem to like Similac Pro Advance the best.  At this point we're going through a container every week- does anyone have any suggestions as to cheaper alternative brands to Similac Pro Advance?  Thank you!,6.909444444444446,10.096685129629632,7.4145925925925935,61.1396666666667,68.07407407407408,11.727407407407409,40.42962962962963,11.20814326018867,6.298167407407408,263,16,34,10,5,86,42,54,0.0,0.83,0.17,0.8706,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,1,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,8,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713022295885525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129749480709361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31964621902967033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26654693184334505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566284501934805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173104327977999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880626706129585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24311916311297646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196137734090794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28793402562111275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27728539293137555,0.0,0.3440976397922064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28042362403177096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206795196609835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443220482281153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coltsfootballlb,2020/01/06,"When to switch to a toddler bed? Our daughter just had her 1st birthday on christmas eve. My wife is very insistent on converting her crib into a toddler  bed, and I feel it may be too early. Everything I've read states 2-3 years. Thoigh she has been consistently hitting her milestones early, I'm not sure about this one. She is large for her age (32"" tall) and is quite comfortable walking/running, climbing stairs, and climbing off the couch. She can almost climb on the couch now too. What have your experiences been in transitioning? Should we transition now or wait? What are some tips to keep in mind when doing so? 

[Here is a photo from our baby monitor](http://Crib https://imgur.com/a/yB6wIUG), the crib is lowered as far as it will go",5.3605858585858615,7.572616088888893,4.754882154882157,82.83151515151516,69.59259259259258,7.872053872053872,28.56902356902357,8.575989854853784,2.156407407407408,592,22,106,10,11,178,99,135,0.026000000000000002,0.9390000000000001,0.034,0.4751,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,1,0,4,10,2,0,0,6,0,17,0,0,0,1,17,23,9,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,5,5,0,2,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,3,1,13,2,15,15,1,24,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,4,9,72,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210147413127719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28811679353620323,0.3135889293362829,0.0,0.0,0.1620949707353974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18219310335987887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849463926473666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32369459340686685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21723342580497554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409764811006857,0.32066693230474336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.302143024566498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645122213456409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064431244845273
parenting,bartdelmar,2020/01/06,"Girlfriend has a toddler (2yo) and nervous about the relationship if we move in together Hello.

So I am (33M) in a really exciting new relationship with a person I have known and wanted to go out with for quite some time (33F). 

She has a toddler (2yoM) and has acted as a single mother for all intents and purposes. We basically hang out in my place or date whilst she leaves the boy with her own mother, about 3 times a week.

We have been talking about moving in together in the next couple of months and I really want to do this. However, I am scared that this will mean that we become 100% involved in the kid's life and forget about our relationship and making it stronger. 

I have no problem with living with the boy, playing with him, and learning to become a father figure for him. But I do worry that the romance in my relationship will completely go off the tracks.

Anyone been through a similar experience? Any advice?

Thanks!",4.891210025929127,6.350520134831463,5.9915730337078665,76.49348746758861,69.56179775280899,8.84770959377701,28.299049265341395,9.265573868473778,2.5145223854796885,736,26,132,15,13,245,107,178,0.08199999999999999,0.826,0.092,0.4475,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,0,0,1,5,7,0,2,15,0,14,1,0,2,1,35,21,13,0,4,3,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,6,20,0,0,4,1,0,6,1,3,0,0,2,0,18,4,29,17,4,25,0,0,0,0,25,11,0,3,8,99,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335775652483122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295783953371624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955808899573882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019395690116215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433229579419823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512513157780458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371473382542742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537476002202774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474112739561185,0.0,0.0,0.09655229446077214,0.0,0.0,0.12070490621652538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124551584727457,0.0,0.0,0.1489018128175806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910929283708022,0.2905720296740181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320216668570062,0.14537754664604366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935751027411028,0.1428180291268234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079943073487896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539282208593515,0.0,0.0,0.1751416746907376,0.0,0.0,0.5870405796418188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685635440457422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987091559204104,0.0,0.12585113785826735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941685429652824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125346295038026,0.0,0.10964913487419707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882123227133028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,basicbitch-,2020/01/06,"How do I get my toddler to eat what I give him? I’ve been having trouble getting my 2.5 year old to eat meals. Sometimes before having a single bite he will tell me he’s full, refusing to eat lunch or supper, but then asking for a snack food instead. I’m at a loss because I want him to eat, but I also don’t want to make a separate meal for him when he won’t eat what I already cooked. He can be picky and I know texture can be an issue (example: mashed potatoes make him gag no matter how delicious). Any advise? I’ve tried to negotiate by telling him he can have said snack after he eats his supper, still no dice. Help would be much appreciated!",2.9737777777777765,4.046098266666668,4.621666666666666,85.97250000000004,73.74074074074073,7.177777777777778,25.35185185185185,7.554174236665415,1.1633851851851849,506,16,108,6,10,171,88,135,0.11800000000000001,0.794,0.08900000000000001,-0.6062,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,15,15,0,4,0,14,26,9,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,15,1,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,1,15,0,11,18,3,8,0,1,0,0,20,2,0,1,6,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358158014081565,0.1040503401797912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848046933546329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163694666858273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931493093529413,0.0,0.11071553810647954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7988209751219763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573316758834999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359560654853306,0.12481507135754355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721118074778927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358028899398161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150602931818427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737012414965825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956471261399098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653042165136506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376609417855244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868387331540035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390743230662283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744685409195464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833735507537316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348659301234502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242767251071586,0.0,0.0,0.08378771779798454
parenting,itsmeeejoe,2020/01/06,"Need help with a 4yr old. I’ve always been more of the type to read than to open up but it seems my wife and I are having a little bit of an issue with her son. 

Brief story, my wife and I met around 3 years ago she was in a tough spot then and didn’t get to see her son much as he was looked after mostly by his father. Anyhow, as time went on with us the environment began to stabilize to the point where he began living with us full time. . He now has his own room, he started preschool this year. Life has been moving forward pretty nicely. 

To the problem, each time he goes to visit his father, he cannot wait to go.. all he talks about is his daddy, I get it his father has been in the biggest part of his life. But when mom goes to pick him up, he goes ballistic kicking and screaming, he doesn’t want to go, he wants to stay with daddy. This happens, 95% of the time. 

His father doesn’t have a stable job, doesn’t have a stable place to live. He’s all over the place and very unreliable. But on the other hand, he babies him and lets him do whatever he wants, stays up as late as he wants etc. 

There’s structure at home, a dinner time, bed time, time allowed with the tv. But we all play, he’s got two younger sisters that live with me. I’m lost, moms heart broken.. she feels she’s a bad mother. What can I do?",2.9626428975664965,3.469773741935484,4.051537445764954,92.16923599320884,73.2293906810036,6.5905300886625175,20.777400490473497,6.05967700443912,-0.04876057347670315,1010,17,236,5,19,329,155,279,0.057999999999999996,0.856,0.086,0.7935,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,17,0,22,5,2,2,3,37,45,16,0,6,4,12,2,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,7,17,1,1,2,3,0,7,5,5,0,1,12,5,25,2,41,32,12,47,0,1,2,0,49,20,0,3,20,139,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550656164772828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964976798592154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591300111983612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995986185174876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762608740972134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201605328012532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447746666941113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258123622001416,0.0,0.12246424020010535,0.0,0.08617092080764968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527567473782958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767449389382302,0.07221702471121155,0.0,0.1080737611498434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245439603667157,0.10691706321218526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153738822113208,0.0,0.0,0.11017324029922172,0.15220237030826578,0.0,0.10798553944686906,0.28541382061287324,0.0,0.09047593553013047,0.0,0.11761284877434225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25237167360049634,0.0,0.11451243056589815,0.07920258403538849,0.07988914330245052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305684374051665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667381716107986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22513439662160492,0.0,0.10185078006810114,0.0,0.0,0.10961209479953707,0.0,0.10309430502922304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777090761890716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585622631165908,0.09808404376880878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762601660225131,0.2296767425040677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659873840617124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4397755708077428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524803540521882,0.0,0.2592001215333332,0.0,0.0,0.08889822834498523,0.2541955053324552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987768275383936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876431060398078
parenting,krystallej,2020/01/06,"Repost for any parents looking for advice on how to comfort their little ones during this time The fires in Australia are devastating, and the emotional fallout will be vast. The ripple of this will also reach the hearts, minds and spirits of kids and teens who weren’t directly involved. As the important adult in the life of any child you have a profound capacity to give them what they need to steady their world again.

With such wide coverage of the fires, it is likely that most children are aware of what’s happening - that other children like them and families like theirs are hurting, scared, grieving, have lost their loved people, pets, or homes. 

This taps into their common humanity, and it is very normal for them to start thinking, what if that was me, or my mum or dad or grandma or grandad or home? If this could happen to them, it could happen to me. .

When their fears are really big, such as the death of a parent, being alone in the world, or losing everything, children might put this into something else. .

This can also happen because they can’t always articulate the fear. Emotional ‘experiences’ don’t lay in the brain as words, they lay down as images and sensory experiences. This is why smells and sounds can trigger anxiety, even if they aren’t connected to a scary experience. The ‘experiences’ also don’t need to be theirs. Hearing ‘about’ is enough.

The content of the fear might seem irrational but the feeling will be valid. Think of it as the feelings being the part that needs you. Their anxiety, sadness, anger (which happens to hold down other more vulnerable emotions) needs to be seen, held, contained and soothed, so they can feel safe again - and you have the most wonderful power to make that happen. 

‘I can see how scared you are. There’s some scary things happening in the world at the moment, but my darling, you are safe. I promise. You are so safe.’ 

If they have been through the trauma, the truth is that they have been through something so awful, and they are safe, ‘We have been  through something terrible and it’s been really scary. We are going to get through this. It’s okay to feel scared or sad or angry. Whatever you feel is so okay, and I’m here and I love you and we are safe. We can get through anything together.’",6.432563492063494,7.370521192857147,5.929047619047619,80.26039682539681,65.64285714285714,8.984126984126986,31.031746031746028,9.049649993220411,2.515507936507937,1791,65,328,29,27,550,200,420,0.16,0.722,0.11900000000000001,-0.9652,5,1,3,0,0,0,59.0,4,8,20,3,18,29,1,6,25,3,50,5,2,4,1,71,85,44,2,11,15,4,7,3,0,5,1,2,3,7,28,21,0,7,9,0,0,2,5,15,0,1,9,13,38,14,47,63,6,27,1,6,3,2,49,18,0,20,10,241,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466527765285004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913592474781707,0.0,0.1833109990291268,0.06357780202587444,0.0,0.0,0.10392048823305984,0.0,0.11690423564463258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628774962455291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0465777725235437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529689965174872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201157325277087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382930553869254,0.2578470602468531,0.0,0.07895016868309505,0.0,0.0504669420662513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867082672509986,0.298967800731901,0.07203091730052774,0.2579416413540725,0.19317158697627115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984033544122833,0.07329777549632283,0.04342458097557004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4729730690569337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611767407936623,0.09054416847804797,0.0,0.0,0.15328745059675805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179663392350049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539694211414321,0.1119876643609423,0.07658116025117255,0.0,0.0,0.06416370333656347,0.085481310252439,0.08340865328562264,0.0,0.13792289467573474,0.0,0.05100311390351806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211420068217772,0.07715057169307803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266230577505806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486388211451374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051776221577583416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968468424473748,0.08274271106016802,0.0,0.05297187409200825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681141599580696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789818930341893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294940250148816,0.0,0.06088749900600453,0.06955921980310999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646845888963628,0.0,0.0,0.05408216715743257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507622597798234,0.09791866905897872,0.0,0.0,0.04455427700926978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304482531461793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894657961358673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828615100389786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stepmom97,2020/01/06,"struggles of coparenting I am only 22 and am the step parent to a little 2 year old boy. I got married to my husband in September and my stepson turned 2 in December. When I first came into the picture he was just barely 1. He absolutely adored me and would follow me everywhere when I would be with him. He would want to sit with me instead of his dad and just really seemed to like me. That lasted up until about 2 months ago. Now he only wants his dad. If its the middle of the night and he wakes up scared or whatever, I try to go in and comfort him and he only wants his dad. He really doesn't want much to do with me. He throws toys at me, refuses to kiss me, and just ignores me for the most part. Our custody agreement is an every other week one. I don't understand why this is the case all of a sudden. Maybe I sound immature or silly but it just hurts. I try to talk to my husband about it but he thinks I'm overreacting. Are any other stepparents or every biological parents experiencing anything like this?? I expected to get backlash being a step parent, I just thought I had a few years until it happened.",2.1300482483742407,4.126670647577093,4.2724103209565785,83.68447870778269,78.2070484581498,7.1431927837214175,24.02538284036081,8.11559375814309,1.4749955527585483,875,30,176,16,21,301,129,227,0.043,0.88,0.078,0.5623,5,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,11,11,0,2,11,0,15,2,1,0,1,40,31,18,0,9,11,8,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,9,13,0,2,4,1,0,6,2,4,0,2,5,2,28,7,29,21,5,31,0,1,0,1,26,9,0,6,17,122,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612105192718755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908254055720123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779947640095283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982581881118173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22074146395365585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142609195090318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844059377485813,0.0,0.07444868787106135,0.0,0.10477037176384063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584032953082965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402351371289016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678014499298387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799716170137865,0.13129353855022274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316042244056194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456065946757884,0.0,0.096297963353176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293193261844962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374594519603746,0.0,0.08876704559431431,0.2988876612142368,0.0,0.0,0.4363704315630496,0.1418571263310388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784023184225175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115097987334642,0.0,0.0,0.11925486734321455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694664291633488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529053109861518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839376715416419,0.0,0.1039970887852158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787690493327354,0.1424872607858696,0.0,0.13637263230551694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090620054278733,0.0,0.10507799614845664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820453462330313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27916980821473103,0.0,0.0,0.1687157137613121
parenting,I_Need_A_Nap_Yeet,2020/01/06,Children's books Has anyone found or have children's books in Tagalog? Like from baby to toddler. I'm trying to find some for my daughter since her other side of the family speaks Tagalog and I want her to learn some of the langauage,3.67195652173913,5.784907282608696,4.029782608695655,86.65380434782612,74.0,5.469565217391305,26.71739130434783,5.985473137389443,1.025191304347826,189,7,34,1,4,59,35,46,0.0,0.9129999999999999,0.087,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,8,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,1,21,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30820486425811744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155298268626491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028665549428666,0.0,0.0,0.48329446284125605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153437094634634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646192374084116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992618900845392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25998450988440325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdditionalHealth8,2020/01/07,"Looking for an umbrella holder for strollers Hello!  


i am looking for recommendations for an umbrella holder for strollers. The ones i found on amazon don't seem very reliable.

Anyone here used one and loved it?

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thanks!",4.403846153846153,7.84043848717949,4.1911538461538465,76.59134615384617,87.20512820512822,6.702564102564103,29.57692307692308,7.793537801064563,2.925646153846155,187,9,27,4,6,57,29,39,0.0,0.784,0.21600000000000005,0.8436,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,9,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,2,2,6,8,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,18,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855948340383863,0.3202852949540975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18430514570573103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28900795127663104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4426909537101124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23789625055692176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572247815787329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399583857593727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426741612318193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276532855905063,0.0,0.21748568422414907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202852949540975,0.0
parenting,forestelfrose,2020/01/07,"Tips on getting a good night's sleep? Aka sleep training an 11 month old? Ok so I haven't had a good night's sleep in over a year. Before my daughter was born I couldn't sleep because of things related to the pregnancy, and I can't sleep now because she keeps waking up at night. It's only once or twice but it means I have a broken sleep. 

I think one big issue is that she still night feeds. I really want her to stop but around midnight she always demands to be breastfed. I've tried giving her a sippy cup with that same breast milk but she won't have it and angrily slaps at it. She's normally a really easygoing baby but at night she gets really angry really quickly when she doesn't get her way. 

Another big problem is that I can't walk out of the room. I live in a very small place with only one bedroom, so my kids and I all share that room. I managed to fit in enough beds for all of us so that's not an issue, but I think just the fact that I'm sleeping in the same room makes my daughter wake up more. And it also makes me very frustrated when she does, as I can't simply ignore it for 5 minutes. 5 minutes can feel like an hour when you're right next to a screaming baby. 

So, any advice would be very much appreciated.",3.2916837606837603,3.996753792307693,4.566410256410258,88.05081196581197,72.61538461538461,7.623931623931623,24.05982905982906,7.793537801064563,0.9888418803418806,966,25,214,12,18,320,141,260,0.10400000000000001,0.778,0.11800000000000001,-0.2909,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,13,9,1,0,15,1,17,12,10,2,3,35,30,19,0,5,8,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,5,1,13,8,2,3,4,0,0,1,8,4,0,3,2,2,28,5,26,23,7,42,0,0,0,1,17,22,0,1,19,132,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598873162681983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037041757235127,0.07321977132723245,0.0,0.0,0.059840338468624,0.09227154166704812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833514985120575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728316313035716,0.0,0.07487816603807444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700594530064023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092345304529488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04449345203712753,0.06286440300943512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792292869727904,0.08441383925873087,0.0,0.1476138407491464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665839386822644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369004956800705,0.0,0.07821494150552018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0429904301747854,0.0,0.0777021333440153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747610700579325,0.0,0.0,0.09585350651747772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023761574272543,0.0,0.06468722922414873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358480834617608,0.41289170753760224,0.08621745569094627,0.0,0.0,0.09233706267883754,0.0937129322622535,0.11925681553306686,0.13384993811569454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193715393171477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420034551082244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22549011780021055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514815463253623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6164172695132589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702737673673461,0.07356864655348283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846067235258622,0.11276864453803465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059743548681817936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058484257853399,0.0,0.0,0.21781789614351568,0.05190235622186856,0.06984717672964823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250987645577018,0.0,0.0,0.05666657772276715
parenting,super_mad_face,2020/01/07,"Baby hates tummy time I’m sure I’m jumping the gun here but I am a FTM and I worry a lot. My baby is 2.5 months old and hates tummy time and I’m not sure what to really do about it. I’ve tried all the tricks such as: mirror, toys, boppy, rolled towel, singing, black and white pictures, put her on an elevated surface, put her on my tummy, etc. She just cries! Even when I’m face to face with her she just looks straight into my soul and cries louder.  She’s just more interested in playing with her toys on her back.
She has great neck control otherwise. She can hold her head up and look around for several minutes when I’m holding her up right or using a carrier. I’m just afraid she won’t hit her milestones for rolling over and crawling. 

Should I worry and is there other tips I can do to make this more enjoyable for her?",2.063333333333333,3.8165910058479575,3.3472280701754364,91.36926315789476,77.53801169590643,6.197426900584795,21.92631578947368,7.0316486544052195,0.492132631578948,646,18,141,7,15,210,104,171,0.13,0.745,0.125,0.1819,1,0,0,1,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,13,10,3,1,6,0,10,4,4,3,3,29,23,13,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,12,0,3,0,4,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,4,22,6,19,20,5,23,1,0,4,0,15,12,0,2,7,88,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489477183979466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515573164978114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825540489493521,0.0,0.0,0.35757797228185256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152526540830954,0.10750431239017434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944826093956964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213921797416417,0.16704317173182087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733621069629736,0.0,0.0,0.13837642250213034,0.0,0.0,0.108646461732464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129916944397812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079379633051214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32724623772546474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427100488366216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899985817791022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387737669008267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068069309583697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18981839270685524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105063036401204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405761316885089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305901788064927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mishie_,2020/01/07,"I thought it was a bad day but I think it’s just been a bad two weeks.. My daughter is 10.5 months old and I’ve gone through the sleep regressions so far and survived, I don’t even know if this is her 10 month sleep regression had finally hit but damn guys, today finally broke me. And since my parents died before I even turned 18, and I think my mother in law has enough on her plate, I’m releasing it all on Reddit.

I’m a working mom as a supervisor on nights for  operations for an airline. So I work at night, my husband works days, and we just take our turns caring for her so she doesn’t need to have daycare. (My husband is paranoid we will find that one caregiver that ends up on the news.) She will usually only wake up twice at night, one between midnight and 2am for a feed, then again sometime after I get home at 4am and she will sleep till 8 or 9am. This regression started last week and I swear, I came home and she stayed up for TWO HOURS, after I just had the WORST shift of my life. (Thanks O’Hare International ATC) She repeated that my entire 3 day work week stretch and then only napped maybe an hour in the daytime for me, so all in all I got shorted on sleep. I spent my whole day off sleeping just to catch up when my husband was finally not working.

This week, she blew my husbands mind and SLEPT THROUGH THE ENTIRE NIGHT - for him. I was glad she stopped whatever she was doing the week before but I knew this meant I was screwed. Lo and behold, I got one hour of sleep before she was wide awake every day I worked this week, and it’s day 4 for me. I couldn’t even fall asleep when she napped and by the time I was out, she would wake up. Today i actually only clocked one hour of sleep because today she decided she just hates me, she screamed whenever I would put her down anywhere, she threw a tantrum when I laid her beside me for her scheduled nap, she cried all day, and I cried probably half as much.

My job probably isn’t helping me cope, it used to just help me reset to just go to work, interact with intelligent human life but my department manager has began to run us into the ground and it’s taken a toll on everyone. This isn’t parenting related, but I’ve been trying to put in my applications to all the other major airlines cause I have experience to at least be considered for two, and they’re all still pending. I even tried to step down and take a pay cut, applied for a gate agent position locally and they sent me a denial yesterday. So today I felt like shit because my daughter hated me, I’m running on fumes for sleep, my job is beginning to become just that - a job and not enjoyable at all, and no other airline wants to consider me because this airline has some shit reputation hanging over us I guess. Or maybe it’s me. Either way, I finally broke down today guys. I cried my whole 30 minutes to work, I was trying to not cry while getting my reports sent out, I’m in the mother’s room trying to pull myself together so I don’t cry in front of my coworkers.

My husband tried to assure me our daughter loves me, but I really didn’t feel that today. My mom has been dead for almost 12 years and I never wanted her so bad as I have today.

I’m sorry for this long rant, but I really needed to speak up somewhere.",4.055204678362571,4.788055706766922,5.114085213032585,84.71796157059319,70.8796992481203,8.377276524644946,27.860484544695073,8.582038596145509,1.840175271512114,2555,87,538,41,45,842,294,665,0.147,0.792,0.06,-0.996,5,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,6,0,1,9,24,23,9,0,23,0,38,19,14,2,9,86,83,49,2,8,22,14,2,1,0,5,2,2,4,3,22,29,1,1,10,3,2,17,12,16,0,9,29,4,100,7,78,46,16,119,0,2,0,2,55,39,4,6,62,349,122,15,0.0,0.0,0.04665678579909232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047875960665367936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976094014784848,0.08743570026935378,0.05280365911578413,0.12205130220608522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054683218846059034,0.04874665412227418,0.04911522149046217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625915175347453,0.2158396561378228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04962042554856451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234648801702708,0.0494016989305412,0.0,0.12631525528004856,0.0,0.040282956160545114,0.04568560296221175,0.0,0.046768479181368366,0.0,0.0,0.02417475412887868,0.0,0.04590620202607577,0.2094991124172286,0.04369852515313902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995870534251979,0.0,0.027172178493386327,0.0,0.07647788896739183,0.0,0.05266937227308681,0.09468111120442596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440722499050926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409361238866018,0.0,0.09591696395998607,0.0,0.1883374086793514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233556771396194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026275757805790563,0.03897246871998722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675408587253722,0.023358112975880918,0.0,0.0,0.04231136343885626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0431514297692586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606545335564366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048275632321944255,0.11199168264208803,0.07632480796330075,0.0,0.035146696652516435,0.0709027241895561,0.03687490653389814,0.0,0.0,0.17947010276020509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016975948238581,0.0,0.12959229107686274,0.10908760264586036,0.0,0.0,0.10617724856080504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030970129492733,0.0,0.0,0.09612682305176433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061258094244556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815491732636004,0.03954987755056872,0.0,0.3827654310980549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047286450121579116,0.05352066834425672,0.03384097822700114,0.05096032468664015,0.03818204634690976,0.039972262447533935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189606962837156,0.0,0.0,0.044018083516213315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061270909096445635,0.0,0.037956712738289176,0.027879066195727758,0.0,0.31723566015729426,0.0,0.0,0.16230316305469614,0.10400960430122727,0.14011363967649335,0.0,0.11502185382937764,0.0412934829443611,0.052657227287917815,0.0,0.056400510318963024,0.0379502656396852,0.2301073248209435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675888363086397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784566944591089,0.0,0.0,0.06792733873217295,0.0,0.0,0.030788813208509364
parenting,Krausy13,2020/01/07,"2.5 yr old son is PETRIFIED of vacuum My son has always been afraid of the vacuum and lawn mower/leaf blower. Every time I use any of them he just screams and screams until it’s put away. Recently he’s also started saying ‘help Daddy’ when he sees it after being brought out. My question is, how do I get him to overcome this fear? Is it better for me to avoid using when I can/use it when he’s not home? Or is it better to expose him to it more so he can see that it’s not dangerous or scary? Appreciate any help in advance.",2.8623648648648654,3.732176351351352,4.9167454954954986,84.52484797297298,73.77477477477478,7.712162162162162,23.78490990990991,8.07648339933343,1.213188288288289,409,11,87,6,8,142,73,111,0.131,0.731,0.13699999999999998,0.1874,2,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,3,7,8,1,3,1,0,9,0,0,3,0,13,16,11,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,9,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,6,0,0,2,5,9,2,13,13,1,15,0,0,2,0,14,3,0,3,9,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984041445761352,0.16631247901014093,0.0,0.0,0.2718444719267038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778966969383346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535473831707683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840378127259822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22491557559708128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442673141506156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679447515880761,0.0,0.2004914852161461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097357792883548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093014548289811,0.22390637274603656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19735300398560576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894906906075135,0.0,0.0,0.3185498893558778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147295130669826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654904736877415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404256906649669,0.34525662128823525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PenguinOverlord33,2020/01/07,"Babies in their own rooms I just curious about when everyone moved their babies from bassinets in the parents room to their own cribs in a separate room? How did you know it was time? And how did your transitions go?

I don’t remember exactly when my oldest got moved over. He was such a terrible sleeper that a lot of his early months are just a blur of time that I know happened but don’t really recall thanks to lack of sleep.",5.9654117647058795,6.047346482352943,6.171764705882352,81.09294117647059,66.52941176470588,10.564705882352943,29.94117647058824,10.355215969177356,2.8125764705882346,341,11,69,8,5,109,59,85,0.06,0.863,0.077,0.3522,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,3,0,8,2,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,2,1,13,13,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,5,0,10,1,11,8,4,17,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,2,7,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23978683780787602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261671806475926,0.0,0.2007020808380388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190810999704486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27582347464988377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334280694992447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030034804346653,0.5334254962343847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278642559457901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076054332902914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842695567573693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25112427765560896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310346447970967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926538204886755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VetTechByHeart,2020/01/07,"Need help with stepson He's 18 years old, has a job, but spends his money on whatever he wants, his phone bill was due today and he didn't have the money to pay for it....  Am I wrong to be livid that my husband paid it? I asked him why he didn't have the money and he said because he got his hair done instead. I am 21 weeks pregnant and we are struggling big time financially as it is on the necessary bills....any tips on how to make my stepson more responsible? Idk how we will manage when the baby comes ....I'm kinda stressing",2.1937474747474752,3.6407736272727287,3.65848484848485,90.60217171717173,76.36363636363637,6.343434343434343,23.131313131313128,6.937597516519254,0.5819191919191913,409,12,91,4,9,135,79,110,0.165,0.7909999999999999,0.045,-0.9343,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,5,0,13,1,1,3,0,14,22,8,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,7,1,2,3,0,0,7,2,11,0,9,13,1,12,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,7,51,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200091286157135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23645518634590945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418363653452294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21787659576730647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588349639260406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20229103785668853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953348928883946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25099376308233795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688325815120068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875442151559297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654072399681296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24059412591169396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897301901190373,0.2644171062882098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748537940459372,0.0,0.23974784198544305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491845280004334,0.0,0.20288500020488245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22822977131562974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765389913711663,0.0,0.16287847539778885
parenting,Thiccrazyguinea,2020/01/07,At what age do you think kids should receive the talk? I received the talk about sex when I was 10 years old. Is that too young? What is an appropriate age just so I know for the future. I’m going to have my first kid but I’m nervous about them seeing anything graphic or being exposed to sex too early. I see kids nowadays and it’s nuts how early they are exposed to sexuality. I want to make sure to keep my kid away from sex and having a daughter makes it even worse because media can influence her to think she has to offer herself to men/cater to them. I know of kids who are watching pornography as early as 10 and this is what got me really into thinking how can I keep my kid safe and away from this disgusting crap.,3.3924588163514318,4.5477519798657715,4.58131787675412,86.34273947528982,72.8255033557047,7.028920073215375,25.625991458206226,7.348242739294969,1.1242295302013412,571,18,119,6,11,188,95,149,0.139,0.8079999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.9282,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,3,1,10,5,2,1,5,0,14,4,1,5,1,24,30,12,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,9,5,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,2,3,18,2,21,26,0,18,0,0,3,3,20,4,1,1,11,82,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617828199657758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369419254441862,0.0,0.0,0.11984388432322697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985065707205415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722555596219588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173077150888364,0.0,0.1572368137464071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34948941208028744,0.0,0.0,0.21608946020549094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624604377415405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20629578650627772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125945259280077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133251760340316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18529062087580905,0.0,0.0,0.31603491233056885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779148189790608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595817635612675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034943610741074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660221021538495
parenting,helldeskmonkey,2020/01/07,"How do I get my 4yo to listen in class? Our 4yo daughter is apparently well behaved in her Montessori school, but when we take her to extracurriculars at our local YMCA (A creative movement class & a basketball class) she completely disregards the teachers and participates minimally, if at all. She's the only child to act out this way; all the other kids are attentive and excited. I've tried talking to her multiple times leading up to the class, trying to engage her in the class during the class, and trying to take her out of the class if she doesn't participate - none of these seem to have the desired effect.

Any suggestions?",8.810512820512821,8.2617641965812,8.756880341880343,67.0117307692308,60.88034188034188,11.902564102564106,37.44871794871795,11.20814326018867,4.294374358974359,509,21,86,12,6,166,76,117,0.028999999999999998,0.8540000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.877,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,10,0,5,0,0,3,2,18,10,8,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,6,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,13,3,18,10,3,15,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,3,2,61,16,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867798457364857,0.0,0.17999095929873565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775111471921968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828397856033053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013004887677254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267869521223149,0.0,0.2409540392526837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980116971766311,0.2127391470761228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433659321875473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390994894584055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21009006074505235,0.0,0.0,0.23797842327489374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sciencenerd17,2020/01/07,"My son spends hours video editing on his laptop... Should I be concerned? Just 2 years ago, all my son wanted to do was play video games on his laptop. I wouldn't say he was addicted, he was still getting what he needed to get done done and was making good grades. But I didn't think it was good for his mental health. Fast forward to a few months ago, he developed an interest in Video Editing. Instead of playing games, he now pretty much only edits videos (he calls them ""montages"") of games. Then, he asked if I could get a subscription of Adobe Creative Cloud for him. The college I work at offered a great deal for it, so I got him it. I was happy to see he was finally putting his mind to something other than video games. But, right now i'm debating whether it's any different. I still only see him on his laptop, and I fear it may be just as mentally harmful as video games (in my experience). 

Should I allow my son to edit on his laptop for hours a day? And should I be concerned about his new hobby? Could you share some of your opinions?

Thanks!",3.523928571428569,4.904345238095238,4.194464285714286,88.36741071428574,72.80952380952381,6.9642857142857135,25.505952380952376,7.413659706084162,1.1230238095238092,820,26,169,9,16,261,118,210,0.015,0.8220000000000001,0.163,0.9833,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,1,1,9,11,0,1,6,0,21,2,0,2,1,25,34,11,0,9,6,3,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,7,3,0,0,1,13,1,2,2,2,0,0,11,3,28,9,25,13,4,25,0,0,2,0,35,9,0,4,16,107,35,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471905717804799,0.0,0.0,0.23937228362281696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181750772233092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262244806559476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786943154857378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21560327053556186,0.0,0.0,0.08707604506351732,0.1391985962429882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106605271827527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763425019518977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207442930246405,0.0,0.15193384255998849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790664672126647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116254669479999,0.0,0.0,0.2264949582465043,0.107986978798847,0.14885885561835485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373016998896798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351881714509734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659329125410155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012618944200487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27213466508285217,0.0,0.13633063763759154,0.0,0.10777082802158984,0.0,0.09925445478452087,0.10011483158357903,0.0,0.13040213151427102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537597281497966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736279995935746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573132500188834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153054351774704,0.0,0.10737247862724864,0.0,0.0,0.21518522498237228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039441747714477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21565259632719974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243072975891874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651468353689841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963766775328816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982953948093865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694776919395789
parenting,redladybug1,2020/01/07,"12 year old boy extra curricular activities. Does it always have to be sports? My son is not into sports which is so AOK with me. I have had him try soccer, tennis and hopefully track and field this spring. I am thinking of getting him into martial arts, even though we have left it a bit late. So far none of the efforts to get him into any structured physical activity has been challenging. He is slender, fit and in good shape from riding his bike and scooter. 

Right now he loves his computer and coding. I have him enrolled in an after school STEM/coding program. He LOVES IT. I love it. The instructors at the learning center love him. They hope to have him work there when he is old enough. 

Anyway, he’s my only child and I like our life, including his after school schedule. It’s not overwhelming, he’s not over scheduled, he has plenty of time to do homework, talk on the phone to friends, and he and I go out to dinner a few times a week to his favorite places. I never have to spend hours at practices or be at games at 8 am on a Saturday or deal with aggressive soccer moms and dads. It’s great. 

I have a boyfriend who is wonderful and he keeps encouraging me to enroll my son in more physical activities. I understand his point that sports are so good for kids, socially and developmentally, but it’s not as if I have not tried! His own son, who is only 5, is just a much more physical kid, his uncle played minor league baseball, etc, etc. So, anyway, his son wants to try everything- flag football, t ball, ice hockey, etc. My bf’s 8 year old daughter is much the same as my son. They share a lot in common, including Minecraft. ;) 

Anyway, how much do I push my kid to get into a sport? Any tips to get a hesitant kid to try new things? The next thing coming up is track and field at his middle school. Fingers crossed he will not hate it!",3.017242199894234,4.843074718579235,4.135281156354665,86.44325489159179,75.03825136612022,7.236241847347082,24.374757623832192,8.049812674583475,1.3184102943768732,1441,46,294,23,31,469,196,366,0.01,0.853,0.136,0.9901,0,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,2,0,2,3,15,19,2,1,16,1,29,8,2,1,1,44,47,25,0,4,11,8,1,1,2,1,1,0,1,6,15,21,1,1,4,12,1,5,8,3,0,0,2,1,38,16,42,42,16,54,0,1,0,4,58,27,0,7,23,192,53,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127755267272795,0.0,0.0,0.13285144636960974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066412187104809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414263737387534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070375085449357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854803922742948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092951138904613,0.3268169317115446,0.06451669311172344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877884506601471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546729569501524,0.0,0.2041349924802925,0.0,0.05551377296900962,0.1638586340715619,0.0,0.10769250203147043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643873891143788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940364831932269,0.09619508562353501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682243761180478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018725084040502,0.0,0.10612956361988926,0.0,0.06899424531464922,0.04772149502268085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304400991902988,0.3526399145481613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440158995944108,0.0,0.0,0.2154180319829729,0.0,0.07533680783359066,0.09433991518121754,0.1038837468602482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074960631323186,0.0,0.0,0.1485800241961906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205476930363537,0.0,0.09233913626015756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341815312570618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29657200676756595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957241928615926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851145273800031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978845167884834,0.0625893749743474,0.09597006590215527,0.0,0.11391594176037985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652731270159613,0.0,0.0,0.1016882844477561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761417189912248,0.0,0.07835297288686427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592975114166396,0.07111217509513615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580538486146414
parenting,christina0001,2020/01/07,Has anyone used a hose bibb lock or anything similar to childproof an outdoor hose spigot? My kids simply won't leave the outdoor spigots alone. Goggle suggested a hose bibb lock and Amazon has way too many confusing options. Can anyone recommend one? The simpler the better.,5.350000000000001,8.556492333333335,5.362333333333332,73.71600000000002,73.58333333333334,7.173333333333334,32.516666666666666,8.238735603445708,3.271161666666667,224,11,30,4,5,70,38,48,0.076,0.757,0.16699999999999998,0.573,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,6,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,16,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.355829761039865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.480457319587295,0.0,0.2827247490331349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30385535272262965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637857637313379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483210194287214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328085583154421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29672987960057395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727059320534101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blnkskies3,2020/01/07,"Harambe was bad parenting I think he was wrongfully killed to this day. Gorillas in the past have saved children. He also did not harm the child, the child only got hurt once when he moved quickly not realizing his strength but he did that because idiots were throwing pebbles and rocks at him aggravating the animal.
I always kept seeing SJW mommies posting on youtube that its not the moms fault that kids run off. I mean, if you go to a place with dangerous animals and not watch your child, not teach them to stay away, and aren’t watching at all times in a crazy environment at the Zoo the death is on you. It depresses me knowing people like that reproduce, it really would have been natural selection in the wild. That mother wouldnt have even survived in the wild, she deserved to be charged Tbh",6.176490066225168,7.277814496688745,5.9281390728476815,79.45551986754967,66.28476821192054,9.74860927152318,32.98079470198675,9.888512548439397,3.185878940397352,643,27,119,14,10,200,108,151,0.196,0.7290000000000001,0.075,-0.9693,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,1,2,4,12,3,0,11,0,14,0,0,0,1,20,21,7,2,3,7,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,9,4,0,1,4,1,0,4,7,9,0,0,8,3,11,3,16,10,1,23,0,2,3,0,19,12,0,1,6,76,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525760697263392,0.17194901792619294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415409759221927,0.0,0.17254378059978182,0.12597167544976634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332718934931089,0.0,0.17798699391786385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649010896127522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744372744384775,0.0,0.1652765594329028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122266616090647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286271598905287,0.0,0.11356921340977252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095855415529784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22510199105650786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24202550883795795,0.0,0.2196358163385285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007507504308674,0.0,0.15716632947141787,0.0,0.0,0.2294599206270489,0.0,0.19727042192724367,0.14326481000591787,0.0,0.2159048443191186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791318939852148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238502253211454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467297271150874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22026097334832712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132412716740971,0.0,0.0,0.12049904104954196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679794367589982,0.22593889243502324,0.0,0.0
parenting,InsertQuestionsHere,2020/01/07,"How to be the best parent in the not best situation... I've read the rules and I'm pretty sure this post is okay.  Here is hoping.

Backstory.  My ex-husband and I were married for almost 10 years which was about 9 years too long.  The great part of that is we made two beautiful children, the sad part is they were then of course impacted when the marriage ended. In 2015 we separated and in 2016 we divorced.  We came up with our custody/child support agreement outside of the courts, then went to a lawyer to finalize it and submit it to the courts as part of our divorce.  The lawyer pushed and pushed for me to 

* use the state required child support amount
* have the state be the middle man for payments

I choose neither of those because #1 I felt the state amount was too high (200-300 a month more than he and I agreed on) and #2 For some reason I didn't think he would ever just stop paying child support.  Well here we are in 2020 and he is now \~14k behind in child support.  Thankfully 11/2018 I asked the state to step in and help me collect child support.  It's been a year long battle but on 9/2019 we went to court and the judge gave him until 1/2020 to make all his agreed upon payments.  As of right now, he has not made a single payment since April.  Tomorrow we go back to court and I have a strong freeing that the judge is going to send my ex to jail.

Here is my question.  Assuming he does get sent to jail;

* What do I tell my children (now 10 and 12) ?
* Do I take them to see him for visitations?

To be clear, I don't know that jail is the right option - it doesn't solve anything - he still wont pay AND the kids start to miss out on seeing him.  But at the same time he really is in content of a court order and I don't know that there is anything I can do. Thankfully I am remarried and my now husband has stepped in and ensured my children have not gone without (trust me - it's been a struggle)  However, my oldest is ready for braces and his child support would help tremendously with that.

How do I handle this with my kids and not make them hate their dad - or me?",3.662053712480251,4.639908127962091,4.128701421800951,90.51610110584521,71.98578199052133,7.0484676145339655,25.67804107424961,7.1686216300943375,0.9354063823064768,1618,49,353,15,30,509,209,422,0.021,0.8170000000000001,0.162,0.9948,2,0,0,0,2,0,53.0,9,0,4,4,21,24,2,1,26,1,39,0,0,8,4,67,74,29,0,3,9,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,11,15,30,0,2,8,1,3,13,11,5,1,1,16,3,44,20,53,52,13,63,0,2,2,0,52,19,0,7,25,234,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889442126743648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461070134093099,0.0,0.08299178448196792,0.0,0.0,0.06826179053890755,0.0,0.05411585734981519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863258474821104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153390187483637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776867987367897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862748846531424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030124096683486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523704182600265,0.09724766926631458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04638079463026011,0.0,0.10090471494151472,0.0,0.0,0.09787374049400592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764602853250641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900679382817675,0.09379469328689108,0.0,0.08817269561103598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757582933259884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712454073654009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680003686109202,0.11851478019924724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085862652103196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857311405773103,0.2884010444814006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502103260036628,0.09031515781110493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944729045921817,0.0,0.08879810705970302,0.0,0.05687095110088311,0.09127454317356436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162516456584438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14148290191122553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343483926368467,0.09978578937819048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283475324160506,0.0,0.07089509778276311,0.07421910887302517,0.0,0.09280594702758713,0.0,0.0,0.6044386678293375,0.08366852313072601,0.0,0.06674706274500496,0.0,0.07759246188303325,0.16346249788386968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05688284818687915,0.0,0.0,0.05176488200974096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671938023185415,0.0,0.0,0.07667230521206142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981856243404556,0.16458892964717925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557504861422845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126125123776401,0.0,0.0,0.1715027976657276
parenting,KindaSortaNot,2020/01/07,"Our daughter has back hair She's 3. Bio dad is deadbeat and never been in picture, but he was very hairy on back/ legs. Daughter has her fuzzies all over her back. She now understands when people are making fun of her. And she has recently been dealing with A LOT of emotions about being different (hair, clothes, skin color, shoes, anything even including her advanced vocabulary). The worry is slowly killing me, I don't want her to have confidence issues but I don't know when to bring it up. I had a friend when I was younger who had fuzzy back too (and I say fuzzy because it's not like a patch or anything) and she was made fun of all the time. I don't even notice it, but I know kids are cruel. Any way to get ahead of this? Any tips on the emotions and being different?",2.9765062034739462,4.7439374000000045,3.6767741935483897,89.93823821339953,75.0,6.575682382133995,26.1166253101737,7.321109707123232,1.1751191066997522,607,22,126,7,13,192,95,155,0.113,0.7659999999999999,0.121,0.3318,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,2,12,6,2,0,6,0,20,5,5,2,3,21,28,12,1,1,5,3,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,8,5,18,4,15,18,3,20,0,0,1,0,19,5,0,2,13,89,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113465577788773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255752116241873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4779537130056111,0.0,0.09472676715857538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020443645984678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32470740494963457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34959476899531394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527260155683325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200570532416177,0.0,0.08118697455294695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219100972659622,0.0,0.0,0.1719204865994871,0.0,0.17080100580769134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591768084365079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211045961601794,0.0,0.14703760209405445,0.10372673129997237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984946679000098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691714950859075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077306644608361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343287198028754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357558117718305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061151694281724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617706804988827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821636082129484,0.09165543351544188,0.12334455945736475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781019510746108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,progov,2020/01/07,"Honestly, are we the assholes for uninviting a mother and her kid from our house parties? My wife is part of this mothers' group. They have know each other since before birth and they attend weekly meetups and so on. All the kids are approximately the same age (18-24 months).

Every 2 months or so, we organize a party/get together/playgroup at our house where the same 7 or 8 mothers and their kids are invited. Sometimes the husbands come along too.

I'm always a little nervous about having so many kids in my apartment but they were always well behaved and trouble free. Well, all except one. 

At our last get-together, as soon as this kid arrived at our apartment he started opening and emptying all our drawers. The dad just stood by, watching him idly. The mother was in the kitchen drinking wine. We don't keep any dangerous items in drawers ... but still ... I found this very intrusive. At some point the kid opened a drawer where my wife keeps some work stuff, like material samples that she shows to her clients. He brought the samples to his dad who cheerfully started to build towers with them and knock them over, as if they were legos.

When I asked the dad to please not allow his son to empty our drawers, his response was ""oh he is such a free spirit and I don't want to stifle his creativity"".

Then later, the dad decided it would be a good idea to do ""trolley races"" through our apartment with my daughter's wooden trolley. The kid kept pushing the trolley faster and faster while his dad egged him on. At some point he bumped into a heavy floor lamp and almost knocked it over, which had me really stressed because it could have injured some of the other kids who were playing on the floor.

Then the kid found my daughters' coloring pencils and started scribbling all over the living room wall. When I protested to his mother, she took them away from him, but said ""you should relax more - it's just kids being kids!""

The next day my wife told her ""I  want to give you a heads up that you will no longer be invited to future events at our house - nothing personal, I just don't think it's a suitable environment for your child and I'd rather meet up at a park or something."" The mother said she understood but I think she was still a little offended.

...

If my daughter were to start emptying drawers at a friend's house I would tell her NO. I *thought* it would be a reasonable expectation that other parents would act the same in my house.

I *thought* that my house was child proof. I never would have guessed that a floor lamp could be an issue. It was never an issue with my daughter, or indeed most of her playmates.

We are new to parenting and have little prior experience with children. So maybe WE are the crazy ones? Maybe the above is perfectly normal and expected in this new world of parenting that we now inhabit?

Hoping to get a little perspective from other parent redditors...",4.617327487609606,6.429369865209472,4.714256788240776,84.00391536408695,70.74863387978142,7.438488583894607,28.79658575846147,8.057270187336151,1.941100614224594,2292,88,424,32,43,713,264,549,0.068,0.838,0.094,0.9694,5,0,3,0,0,0,76.0,14,4,8,2,22,19,3,2,40,0,41,5,1,2,8,93,71,36,0,17,16,24,0,1,1,7,1,2,2,15,25,30,3,3,11,5,2,6,8,6,2,2,22,6,66,15,57,35,16,79,1,0,2,0,98,42,0,14,32,299,91,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721434184797392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989568229977862,0.0,0.0,0.04899358520037424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673530571761109,0.0,0.06768936014542648,0.0,0.0,0.04391842466055545,0.0,0.06130563264373402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062061040143920936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504534882832937,0.0,0.0,0.046463552960210534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057741358976583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060701657439396664,0.0,0.0,0.07047457467904364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798890740794774,0.05566237301156493,0.0,0.11292280309808655,0.06911285483423213,0.0,0.060428562643322886,0.0,0.0,0.0793665236614479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739397317114976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155769267923456,0.0,0.4987867820174083,0.0,0.08133089002423438,0.0,0.15039410411573598,0.0,0.12807515795059327,0.0,0.0,0.03959446379582855,0.058726907637561374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035197917616616725,0.2888351017824207,0.06361772322255367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304308939948183,0.1447592926922797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150124714941805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113225829850144,0.1391644817887168,0.07662147973265805,0.0,0.07058954493328416,0.06912984676559368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764013877709236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199931476880193,0.07801853384185026,0.0,0.0,0.06290757593175514,0.0,0.07908460606735952,0.13621305490659327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04615435666393998,0.07407503722766932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706402612003507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959699455215504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055464343446875584,0.0712550957125777,0.0,0.20397743001408436,0.0,0.11507166894347012,0.0,0.08252817103442903,0.0,0.08247515477691231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297116701688278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232802379621903,0.0,0.11439256667175217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884280810653734,0.08004548674809228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944529462885681,0.08498890804200905,0.0,0.05779076039797389,0.0,0.12955557547996396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052450169034884836,0.0,0.0,0.2558961928003168,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InfernoBane,2020/01/07,"Please don't let it be poop  As far as physical suffering goes, yesterday may have been the worst of my life.

I'd not eaten or slept in three days and could not even keep water down. The nanny was out sick, which left me responsible for the two kids. My wife went to work and I lay on the couch, watching the baby monitor with a sense of impending doom. It cycled between rooms, displaying stirring babies in monochrome and static.

I managed to get my two year old son up and fed without major mishap. But I was wavering. I could feel the nausea building. In the back of my mind, the dread was growing.

I watched his little nine month old in the monitor. Did she look poopy? Would she be merciful to her daddy on this painful morning? I couldn't tell through the tiny screen.

Finally, I could put if off no longer. She was kicking the sides of her crib and demanding to get up. I don't think I've ever prayed harder than on that slow climb up the stairs. Every step landed with the inevitability of a pounding gavel, because I knew, judge, jury, and executioner had delivered the sentence: *poop;* even though my soul pleaded for any other outcome. When I swung the door open, the thought frozen in my mind was, ""Please, God, no.""

I knew the second I stepped into the room. It was poop. And not just any poop; this was little sister's special morning blend.

See, sissy is a dedicated craftswoman of artisan poops. On certain mornings, when the circumstances are right, she starts with a frothy green base, adds some urine variegate for subtle texture and color, and then lets marinate for a few hours in the pulpy confines of her filled-to-the-brim overnight diaper. In the dark void between her chunky little thighs, this volatile mixture takes on sinister and terrible properties. The stench alone would give the heartiest of stomachs pause. The smell is so pungent it is physical; it has character. This is what I imagined the Vietnam war smelled like.

I almost didn't make it down the stairs with her. I managed to get her on the changing mat and unzipped, but at that point, I was undone. I scrambled to the bathroom and proceeded to abuse that poor toilet with the meager contents of my reeling gut.

My son watched from the hallway in grave concern.

When I finally stopped heaving, glasses half off my face and almost in the toilet, feeling like I was crying tears of vomit, he asked, ""Daddy cough into the potty?""

""Yes,"" I choked in response.

""Daddy all done?""

""I think so.""

""Good job, Daddy!""

""Thanks, honey. Now go pin your sister down so she can't roll away.""

That's how my morning began. It was all downhill from there.",3.7768590178773462,6.1445842057026505,3.998123557365922,85.83191264992081,74.56008146639509,6.6455035075809015,27.408056121294408,7.635375032292933,1.681679936637248,2059,81,377,28,45,638,281,491,0.111,0.843,0.046,-0.9863,1,1,0,0,1,0,92.0,0,1,0,2,15,15,1,1,37,1,36,19,11,2,4,61,61,28,3,7,9,5,2,2,1,3,5,0,4,1,18,23,3,3,8,0,1,7,11,9,0,6,23,14,45,6,64,27,6,71,3,3,8,0,24,43,0,6,23,249,63,4,0.0,0.12639824865776828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21364903952118885,0.11048821355150554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450919937166433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973131491220562,0.0,0.10022928692335016,0.0820302656606448,0.0,0.06503108283291656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285319929279394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555256820009393,0.0,0.11718287158735305,0.06879971639740601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917058617540408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092214857099386,0.09649808593336577,0.08988242505387725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078811355117511,0.07621214886032067,0.0,0.23372525337575106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672075494226964,0.10233709023677544,0.060628651165737166,0.08947804692688441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505822209892517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586334947352366,0.0948220054555409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590803411388036,0.21817487106394354,0.0753511751752187,0.10423683061328758,0.32076388624322066,0.0,0.0,0.08958425619081717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120966815920239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154325957018827,0.0,0.08515088619827002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388523963706888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135149454955832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342050111189024,0.10084699673336653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724277451464737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110406006040764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501007619776478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550858921862108,0.0,0.0,0.08918918138369725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021001567369827,0.0,0.09324294325243077,0.09821652802473507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136712357278242,0.10481246971238574,0.08469193210135696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084215413098746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988933451435316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283562614354028,0.0,0.07766424486922688,0.0,0.0,0.15156469421883784,0.0,0.0,0.06869836425813644
parenting,Js10241024,2020/01/07,"Kicked my 24 year old daughter out a couple months ago 

It’s just my daughter and I. Always has been. It has not always been East she has issues as a teen with a lot of pot smoking and messing up in school She got her crap together and graduated from a really good college. But that was two years ago and she has not got a job and is part time at the same cleaners she worked at in high school She was supposed to go to graduate school. Dave money for a year, then go A year passed and nothing . She still smokes a ton of weed, pays no rent or phone or tv I have become increasingly frustrated at her We fight a lot and she calls me a ton of names I do the same it’s a bad circle She has hit me before and thrown hair and broke shit in my house I gave her an ultimatum and she said fu you never follow through So in the meantime my boyfriend and his two Kids were going to be homeless so I said he can stay there until he figured something out First day he was there she threw a tantrum because I didn’t get her pizza And from there on it got worse she ended up hitting me in front of him, throw a tantrum in front of his kids screaming and throwing things, then finally threw a tantrum because he opened a window and starting screaming he was a piece of shit So I kicked her out I’m october She is saying it’s because of my boyfriend and refuses to get a job or get help for her issues and just blames me and says I am a horrible mom She has been staying with my dad but he’s going move soon and she will have no where to go She goes back from framing out on me and calling or texting 100 Times in a row to not taking to me to screaming she needs to come home She still doesn’t have a full time job which I tile her she needed Am I wrong here?",1.7595973719676543,3.359850743935312,2.9579775943396207,94.50507959905664,77.94878706199461,5.823483827493262,22.64496293800539,6.4784943948869325,0.2941219002695421,1370,41,315,11,32,441,182,371,0.124,0.865,0.011000000000000001,-0.9859,4,0,2,0,2,0,10.0,1,1,0,2,14,16,8,0,24,0,27,5,4,0,1,49,52,32,0,2,11,4,1,0,0,1,0,7,3,2,8,28,1,1,1,1,3,16,8,15,0,3,17,8,52,1,44,31,10,65,0,1,0,0,54,23,3,6,24,214,60,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166522403765242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631067231878495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222457148532377,0.07842567138578703,0.1717722862290097,0.10373571915858078,0.07992551918183805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191821281894038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091036077049205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392916746405814,0.0,0.06057556921333264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319202611800465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289315860683057,0.0,0.0798948182344488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721997434611767,0.0,0.2669062641034072,0.07878206348097203,0.2253675865823945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295772950156704,0.09923972806400247,0.09421709974756806,0.0,0.0,0.10837990680087553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607214435240292,0.2796261229979621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970787253842808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000693828037973,0.07497216079620925,0.0998302361107317,0.0,0.1392923370703962,0.07244280059856545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012612145787408,0.0,0.09856127713623952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171450084127016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017246311291706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17869342467207214,0.1493900878467218,0.0,0.2851794145145584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19283078309922147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231010031056911,0.0,0.0,0.06648248004385872,0.20022877271939568,0.15002149862599073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062190965990375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240136259645946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430991884153354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18350734802798974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838045397312781,0.0,0.09572030835283643,0.0,0.10269514942690562,0.0,0.2419453298280388
parenting,cuddle_cuddle,2020/01/07,"Is morbid curiosity normal in a 5 yr old? (girl, if it matters) She's been asking to see youtube videos in the vein of piranhas eating people etc. So, I've been watching a lot of nature documentaries on netflix and youtube lately. Birds, frogs, elephants, normal stuff, along with piranhas, killer bees and what not. For some reason, she's also excited about those super dangerous animals and always ask for me to search youtube for videos of piranhas and python eating people or killer bees stinging people or what not. We watched a video of somebody getting stung by normal honey bees and it's obvious she's not a big fan of that. She's also a very kind and empathetic kid otherwise, helping other people, pick up trash at school playground to protect environment and what not. Super gentle with dogs and cats and pets.

Don't know if it matters, my father is a doctor. Just like when I was little, I teach her from early on about animals and how body parts function. When we see a cow, we know that we'll have to eat it some day, and when we see a fish head, we poke it apart. (no blood involved.) She's pretty interested in those things. 

Is this normal???? Or is it one of those ""dead dove, do not eat"" situation where they don't know/don'tknow what they're asking for?",4.722098765432102,6.228660242798357,5.311213991769549,81.02879629629633,70.02880658436214,7.8691358024691365,27.08024691358025,8.344100000000001,1.848496296296296,1001,33,185,15,18,322,140,243,0.092,0.797,0.111,0.4025,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,6,0,1,2,11,7,1,0,9,0,12,9,4,3,1,45,21,23,1,6,11,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,2,19,19,4,1,3,4,0,0,8,1,0,1,3,6,17,6,28,17,5,18,0,0,5,0,22,11,0,8,8,121,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800183008278,0.09365369196350534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156675377416906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502178337939973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258782289733229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152034776600823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4606821222579529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552712380590292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058804660930497875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551256433503125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544237022327567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720735465885405,0.18556970416280974,0.0,0.1269654721281414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054988050795379585,0.11280837279420733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568912779260816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411149005680596,0.0,0.0,0.11810617089051755,0.0,0.07626929765026746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188468501475724,0.0,0.3121222452404713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450757310875005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572394577745596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391034979710107,0.2690721711651444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651507066328285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884705423847667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477567467425561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286858717615476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anna_nanush,2020/01/07,"Little mean troll This piece of Reddit literature is dedicated to all the parents who sometimes think their kid isn't a loving cute creature.

My daughter (1.5F) has always favored MIL. Taking into consideration that MIL watches her 10 hours a day, 5 days a week and is an awesome grandma, I am not surprised. When MIL isn't around LO LOOOOVES me and prefers me over my hubby. When MIL IS around that little mean troll doesn't let me kiss her, says ""go away"", and runs away. 

I know everyone says it will change and I made my peace with this and am just waiting. We had to take her out of part time daycare because of health issues. 

So sometimes kids are mean little trolls. They smile as they say and do mean things. Screw them! Mama is going to enjoy a glass of wine tonight, there! 

Curtains!",2.9414692982456145,5.379051085526321,3.1896315789473704,90.24308771929829,77.61842105263158,5.105964912280702,23.949122807017545,6.079149491110277,0.5173196491228071,623,21,121,4,15,191,106,152,0.069,0.809,0.12300000000000001,0.8931,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,4,0,7,7,1,0,6,0,15,5,0,1,1,25,28,10,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,2,7,12,1,1,8,1,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,4,17,6,16,24,3,21,0,0,1,3,17,10,1,0,8,76,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472293847515313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240784675944109,0.0,0.0,0.2364932101627505,0.0,0.0,0.07672113616490905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313980472743348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623344462337867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202615643784696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305463784240907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133779891406315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239435945362284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136179894250513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916760497979811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128697103457931,0.0,0.0,0.3784247273950525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359067436433082,0.119088745768502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5483797987183321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974908051323925,0.13629064804874666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30025913291059103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489511836028209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892572987013664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361366449281665,0.08064395456183804,0.0,0.0,0.07338811128053485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009547321388488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maam-,2020/01/07,"He’s not pooping I want to preface by saying that I have called his doctor and left a message with the nurses about this, but I would still like some input from others. 

My son is 10.5 months old and *normally* he poops like once a day. We EBF and before he started eating solids more regularly every poop was an explosion, I had to have at least 3 extra outfits in his daycare bag everyday because of his poopsplosions. Once he started solids, obviously his poops weren’t as liquid and that helped with the blowouts. But he still pooped at least once every day. The last week and a half or so has been different though. He’s gone quite a few days without pooping at all (definitely not normal for him) and when he does finally go he seems to be struggling a lot, gets frustrated, and when I change his diaper if there’s anything at all it’s pretty solid (also not really normal for him) and not very much. I’ve tried giving him puréed prunes, which he’ll eat on his own from a pouch, but it hasn’t helped any and I’m not sure what else to do. Ive also tried massaging his tummy a little but that didn’t seem to do anything. I can tell when he’s trying to go but nothings happening because he gets really frustrated and fussy. What else can I do to help him?",5.023333333333333,5.513384150793655,5.677103174603175,82.41303571428571,68.60317460317461,8.839682539682537,27.257936507936506,8.841846274778883,1.8843126984126983,994,29,200,16,16,323,147,252,0.066,0.857,0.077,0.4397,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,11,6,2,1,11,0,18,9,6,0,4,39,32,25,0,6,13,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,10,13,2,0,2,0,0,3,9,3,0,1,6,1,21,3,24,23,11,27,0,0,0,0,32,8,0,6,18,127,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272167177344694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343798471256037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777357549624853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316613424239453,0.0,0.09189288953791427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027148805881916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424078354885905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089369258053675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282822720820135,0.0,0.11053396884685804,0.09450416856732588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210047143724768,0.1804262333275926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197514522890795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182995087783318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284229766952432,0.10359537388415033,0.12274821906846065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954966068095072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21715346019147405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802755968285893,0.0,0.0,0.11733317903042455,0.0,0.0,0.10551847248048768,0.10823594406490897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181058840618694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619785721742708,0.0,0.0793862446709212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174264896399653,0.1036208436102474,0.0,0.11331900806287548,0.3450225581755217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098662711908523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486234941798736,0.0,0.0,0.13836435628224214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587924721093076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19662297617625465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287400713601235,0.0,0.17248444730382412,0.0,0.0,0.11289625785277713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178079599489084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438940999734392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610118933862224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995760353544366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910437193631399,0.06369623802789784,0.0,0.08662433992687736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041000395291915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671412744347814,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunnysun143,2020/01/07,Time for a 3rd? I have thought about it constantly for 3 months do I want a 3rd child. I have weighed the pros and cons and can’t decide. Any input is welcome! My kids are 8 and 2.,-1.9649166666666675,-0.10040632499999802,0.2850000000000001,104.89333333333336,99.75,3.6666666666666674,16.666666666666668,5.46131890053228,-0.9225833333333332,137,4,36,1,6,45,32,40,0.0,0.867,0.133,0.5562,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,6,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,3,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591327282438865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5706990071907376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215321505953167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192601377469028,0.3079450323864553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114928035044305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LloHEngriN,2020/01/07,"Tooting my own horn for a quick minute Just want to write this out for myself and post so I can look back on today. 3 months ago I made the decision to change my work, not the job role but the location. I made my choice and accepted the job. The job is perfect, insane levels of support followed by a huge huge difference in staffing levels. Guaranteed no stress. The only drawback is that it adds over an hour to my commute to work. I could put up with that because the work would be so much less stressful. I handed in my notice and I’m counting down the days. And then my wife becomes pregnant, and very sick. I catch an infection from a patient and had to await incredibly scary blood results.
I then broke my arm and got robbed of 1500. This all happened last week. In the same week. I felt like my family and my life had just ended, how can I leave my sick pregnant wife for 14 hours 5 days a week. But at the same time the working environment where I was is completely unsustainable, I had already had 2 breakdowns from the place. 

So that takes me to today. I went into work and had to ask to keep my current job. It was hard and a few people were smug about it but it’s for my wife and daughter. I  swallowed my pride and took the shame of it. Once my job was secure I put into place plans to help in my role. I spoke to every Human Resources and staff health person I could find to ensure the workplace is a better place to be. It took me 14 hours of begging and pleading and grovelling but I did it. I took the horrible situation I am in and changed it for my family. I feel a huge sense of accomplishment and relief today and the futures looking a lot more brighter. Thanks if you read this it made me feel better just typing this whole thing out. Sorry about grammar. I’m tired.",2.524750000000001,4.451635697222223,3.5147222222222254,89.90125000000003,76.75,6.277777777777778,23.75,7.1686216300943375,0.8349166666666661,1401,45,292,16,32,449,188,360,0.12300000000000001,0.725,0.152,0.8635,8,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,0,11,12,15,0,3,26,0,22,10,3,5,2,55,46,29,0,5,9,4,5,1,0,1,6,1,0,2,17,24,1,2,6,1,0,8,2,5,0,0,20,8,41,10,42,21,10,54,0,1,2,0,13,23,0,2,23,195,58,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128752826892026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887455326796139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751818973926765,0.0,0.0,0.06183805980520388,0.0,0.049023320320031386,0.0888176346822308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225001031374346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701475139906679,0.0,0.08431889971716662,0.0,0.0,0.1284177433624189,0.0,0.0,0.1037285675695425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402184303663869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122830057145603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677573665177708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162574509051704,0.0,0.08132559435108051,0.0,0.07721586627662126,0.0,0.07350247517304351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431926610123473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111519082076631,0.0,0.07204057497007281,0.0,0.0,0.08548275998798968,0.0,0.0,0.053903869030345934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375926702977348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990224878098668,0.07148104174703725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555307998346263,0.0,0.0851532286318053,0.0,0.0,0.056803064568314125,0.03928917768007333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506518715543345,0.0,0.0,0.06837025661966044,0.0,0.22828620724950824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419052225160551,0.0,0.0591179951511592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155876792403947,0.0,0.08564473608668033,0.0,0.0611630772210643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055753141699772295,0.07021969183309333,0.2520655291099161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702018445655877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616887389234533,0.0,0.0,0.08044181981744264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039551354517948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002366973329852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842418071830713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912597276717692,0.0,0.0,0.0604658744703559,0.0,0.0,0.07403998371745989,0.0,0.0,0.05342751244914186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04689358196227169,0.09243102526228092,0.2286864323191068,0.0,0.26804892712025563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635496930121974,0.047433833235087715,0.0,0.193524356606025,0.0,0.0,0.07455019854039452,0.0,0.0897861216835111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29273379650002584,0.0,0.0,0.05712810113425312,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KryLei_0603,2020/01/07,"Is it wrong of me to not want to go visit my husband’s friends anymore because their toddler is violent? By violent, I mean this kid is only 2, and he’s kicked out of daycares constantly for fighting. On NYE, I witnessed him throw a dollhouse (a pretty decent sized one) at a little girl that’s 5 years old and about twice his size. He threw other toys at other kids that night including my son and another little girl. He goes to the gym daycare with mom and dad while they workout, and they’re often told he has to leave in the middle of their workout because he’s hitting or throwing toys at other kids. Big, heavy toys. And usually at the other kid’s head. 

He’s also hit my daughter (1 year old) and to be honest with you, it took everything in me to not yell at him. I don’t believe in punishing other people’s kids, but the parents response at any given time that he hit another child, was to give him a sippy cup and lay him on the couch. I heard her (my daughter) cry (same NYE event at the friend’s house), so I started to go to her when I saw all the kids standing around, my daughter was being pushed by him, she turned back around, he hit her in her face, and then she started to run the opposite direction. She doesn’t know how to defend herself obviously. She’s also pretty tiny for her age. So...I don’t know....maybe I’m more protective because she’s my youngest. My son (3) will let an adult know he was hit or he will defend himself (I have no idea where he got this from) by hitting back. And no, I really don’t...I didn’t teach him this. 

However, today my kids were playing together as usual, and I hear my daughter arguing with them, and then cry out in pain. She ran to me and pointed to her face which happened to be a little red. I tried to get my son to tell me what happened, but he kept saying that he “needed to say sorry” to her so he could continue to play. I separated them and put them down for a nap. My son knows not to hit his sister, so I’m guessing he picked up the behavior from the other kid. 


Insight please?


TL;DR: My children were around a kid that hits and throws things at other kids. My son seems to be exhibiting the same behavior, and doing this to his little sister.",3.754725699163149,4.524559159645236,4.945068306988059,85.52115871539951,71.59423503325942,7.770574350904797,27.408697518060226,7.941651935203635,1.5736765753522637,1715,58,358,22,31,568,218,451,0.083,0.875,0.042,-0.9479,2,0,0,0,2,0,67.0,0,1,6,0,16,12,5,0,19,0,23,4,3,2,2,50,60,31,0,3,7,15,0,0,2,2,1,5,1,15,21,24,0,2,7,9,0,12,9,7,0,2,15,7,59,5,60,29,4,64,0,0,2,0,88,30,0,5,21,227,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273431187615574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493973770330831,0.20026924535127127,0.0,0.0,0.09470517999208618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25503185047761445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685921116056494,0.0,0.17463822862531764,0.0,0.0,0.1075899366840386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319595213649496,0.0,0.0762448261985964,0.0,0.20979310434081527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582456744037212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755808902456574,0.0,0.0498920908653708,0.09160731239622724,0.10854378944430253,0.0,0.07637591405527007,0.0,0.1051982868352829,0.0,0.1688914700488695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800521361235194,0.0,0.1076295783713212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018817620583893,0.0,0.1078020039511224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992577562048687,0.0,0.0,0.10111520335563456,0.0,0.09764990153774686,0.0,0.0,0.38284350231865627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593736056573864,0.10402183093351228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184235396487173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080818315075328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961539948983357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004114543503695,0.0,0.06470974695530718,0.07262809749475944,0.1016131985929548,0.0,0.10603567279639113,0.0,0.0,0.06620406943187054,0.0,0.0,0.10482461231158408,0.09027345132249001,0.0,0.0,0.19430508234941293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599864843207223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611764132664108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188259345252875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693487811046881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689860875695582,0.13518341991441346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346666307891164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344250092312846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556837850117427,0.0,0.0905179031578696,0.09124937240076836,0.10609823495250248,0.06483469980532182,0.10387091885368624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21034805850593485,0.0,0.056325306398443575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044085712430731,0.0,0.12299103875524088
parenting,tre2012,2020/01/07,"4 year old loves Jason, Chucky etc. since he was two yrs old he LOVED halloween, talks halloween year round. So far for halloween he's been kid characters but he started watching  Animatronic videos, that had Michael Myers, chucky, pennywise and I always tell him They are BAD, they hurt people and he just says ""NO, they are Anatronics"" LOL one day he was on the phone and I allowed him to watch some of the videos, showcasing the Animatronics and he must have clicked on another video and it was Freddy Vs Jason, anyone that's ever seen that movie, it's crazy.. it was the fight scenes and he threw a fit when I wouldn't let him watch it, he pleads ""PLEEEASE, i like scary movies, Ill watch them when i get bigger""

### The thing that worries me is he mimics these Animatronics, like one holds a knife and moves it up and down and turns its head left and right, for week everytime he would hear anything that sounded like the michael myers song, it's like he was programmed, he would jump up and start doing the pose and movements of the Characters. 

He will be 4 next month. I have since locked the youtube app on the phone and downloaded the kids version of it and set the parenting controls for younger children, but he constantly asks to see Animatronics, or Chucky videos. When i talk to him about it he knows it's a movie and not real cause I have constantly told him that, he just loves scary stuff. His favorite was my favorite as a kid, Jason.. when he was watching the Freddy vs Jason, freddy was winning and killing Jason and he was getting upset cause he wanted jason to win

I have read others questions on this and alot have been close to the same as this, but it will just help my anxiety to know that this is normal. and that I don't have to worry, or if I should be worried and what to watch for. He chases our cats, has never hurt them but they are scared to death of him, when my Fiance and I are working he stays at her moms and she has dogs and he was hit them a few times but nothing extreme",3.60211294416244,5.360342621827414,3.737255710659898,90.19821859137058,73.28934010152284,6.549365482233504,24.241434010152282,7.1686216300943375,0.8026855329949236,1579,47,327,16,32,485,193,394,0.128,0.7490000000000001,0.12300000000000001,-0.6456,5,0,0,0,1,0,45.0,1,0,7,4,11,16,2,2,20,1,39,5,1,4,3,59,57,39,2,8,14,2,1,4,0,7,1,4,0,4,27,24,0,2,3,6,0,4,5,7,0,3,16,14,33,9,28,30,6,40,0,2,10,3,61,14,0,6,24,198,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670436829543164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092648281586678,0.07971420511283976,0.0,0.0,0.07286042495455901,0.0,0.08574932473677305,0.0,0.0974147552806673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700427417754235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140882089722135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252105750353576,0.1168713453090588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720163613738117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621271671568904,0.0,0.09425662776558028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888243425134124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069412610530835,0.0,0.11744316871924165,0.0,0.06984436935458077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310068127688595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528401681244675,0.0,0.11453333116133378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321572154349507,0.10655355186981544,0.0,0.2036312336674718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821389795325924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204006227114925,0.08317300085974548,0.11075018014268448,0.0,0.0,0.08036696625091144,0.0,0.11081995399084696,0.0,0.10209578500749217,0.09998457958117572,0.0,0.21868483183439344,0.0,0.14121987365280966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570393193887228,0.0,0.0,0.07224051059052865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673002965148994,0.0,0.10423014666574558,0.11860462969151878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898789436068766,0.0,0.08286557151985602,0.1043243282636776,0.0,0.08303546159484795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239385658712494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750935043412694,0.11106541220550044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928630052115458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750715762850685,0.09107709556001292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922714417945701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607609939295519,0.0,0.0,0.09956942692292367,0.0,0.0,0.11334179723226195,0.10179016219626773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061461008791594586,0.0,0.08358451743225494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586025928419436,0.3174664092533749,0.0,0.14804414851558614,0.0,0.0,0.13420527641252372
parenting,nurse_camper,2020/01/07,"I’m so proud of my boy My son is 5, his cousin is 10 months older, and kind of a puke. We were leaving my mother in laws house and my nephew was kind of picking on my kids. He stuck his hands in the car seat where my 7 month old other son was. Before I could even get there, my 5 y.o was there protecting his little brother, shielding him from their cousin who was probably going to make the baby cry. Hearing, “hey, that’s my brother! Leave him alone!” was the proudest moment I’ve ever had.",1.7375490196078438,3.4362353039215705,2.9437254901960803,94.14343137254903,78.31372549019608,5.31764705882353,20.15686274509804,5.82211442006289,-0.14918431372549046,379,9,84,2,9,122,73,102,0.11699999999999999,0.818,0.065,-0.555,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,4,0,10,1,1,2,1,8,16,3,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,2,16,3,8,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,0,6,49,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21513033260859293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675036010790804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658437076436031,0.0,0.22816542444018706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719394910780666,0.18789031567842454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852263351814102,0.0,0.11804935089130747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341101582778118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396754847714425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326068918348885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4398808695545047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20818522723892427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865152764819946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315926265965165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179621903599004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22395214760672807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,doctor_ben,2020/01/07,"Recycling expired car seats Anyone have any tips on how to get rid of an old car seat that expired last month?

Walmart had the $30 gift card program, but not anymore. Is there anything like that around?",4.513846153846154,6.196482435897438,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,70.7948717948718,6.225641025641028,30.948717948717945,6.42735559955562,1.5234717948717948,161,7,31,1,3,48,36,39,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,15,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27052776472871165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945254717310656,0.2781614185598045,0.0,0.3273677558729865,0.3541395909725151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20784185918821366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242722284487485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19435225932100045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175320473281842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174398041083683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KneeDeepNZombie,2020/01/07,"4 year old boy listening. Stalling or other issue? My 4yo is a fun loving kid and has a big heart. But he also loves control. And a lot of the time one thing he will do is when its time to go and I start helping him get dressed, he says my wife has to do it and is adamant and freaks out if I continue to try. This is also the opposite if my wife starts, he says I have to do it. This can pertain to anything, clothing, eating, putting toys away, medicine, etc.

Its also incredibly irritating when obviously the one parent trying to help is the one available at the time. I think he's figured this out and tries it as a stall tactic. 

One of our friends suggested sensory issues, but I looked that up and it doesn't really pertain to him. 

Does anyone else deal with this?",2.625,4.27301816666667,3.991282051282056,87.82038461538464,75.66666666666666,7.107692307692307,26.102564102564106,7.882392219407189,1.4147333333333338,598,22,127,9,13,197,96,156,0.04,0.8759999999999999,0.084,0.7693,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,9,0,14,4,1,1,1,20,23,18,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,13,10,1,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,4,0,4,11,4,16,22,2,18,0,0,1,2,23,6,0,4,10,86,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311749897114733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652176133773814,0.14143973436344826,0.11359631600113425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969444584214365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548251757545576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231462915181006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080096543618155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412508213493412,0.11531588239125905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395265830850796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066504485562252,0.0,0.07212093766426983,0.0,0.0784521127154208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16357973183806004,0.18505249053466707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881587290721929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159200151921056,0.0,0.0,0.11735786775194006,0.2491755184747828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485123549352813,0.0,0.37416171946192095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327864628029356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876974124227615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843286002216401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21955213471080207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954128366197059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917085769503824,0.08845135968359387,0.0,0.0,0.2414791634156532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811631620586229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888941401881314
parenting,Blaveder30,2020/01/07,"Alternative formula for infant So my infant needs to drink hypoallergenic formula, yay my wallet, is there a cheaper alternative then what I am using now ( nutramigen with enflora lgg) it's like 50 bucks a can...",6.2499099099099125,8.656844081081081,8.036216216216218,59.413963963963965,67.64864864864866,12.500900900900902,33.954954954954964,11.855464076750405,5.442809009009008,169,8,25,7,3,59,32,37,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.7096,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6203005992846023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093523590714775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469514061672747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5468864876330689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,climbin510,2020/01/07,"Thoughts on the boy's name ""Wilder""? My wife and I are due in a few weeks, and we are considering naming our son Wilder.  We are a little apprehensive to go with a less traditional 'bad boy' name.  We are extremely outdoorsy people and want to inspire nature and freedom, but do not want to set the kid off on a path to 'live up to his name'.  Thought?  Thank you!!",2.625,4.273018166666667,3.84,88.90500000000002,75.66666666666666,7.022222222222222,24.5,7.793537801064563,1.0572333333333326,276,9,61,4,6,90,50,72,0.028999999999999998,0.812,0.159,0.8240000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,19,11,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,8,2,11,9,2,10,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,0,2,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832614755172139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19280488355097453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400199000822257,0.29956597048077943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23519480870828285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31233791094616425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5386568162920677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4001995580483174,0.0,0.2721277082312144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Castieled,2020/01/07,"I have no clue where to go from here My GF and I have been fostering her younger brother (14Male) for 18+ months now. Her parents have some mental health issues (as does her brother) and basically forced him out and we decided to become his legal guardians. So here’s the thing, I’m fully committed to continuing to raise him to college, but I’m kinda of at my wits end in regards to getting him to take responsibility for his life and choices he makes. 

Most recently he’s resorted to stealing money from our wallets, school fund raising money we sent him to school with, and spare change jars (to literally buy donuts and other junk food, almost $50 before we fully figured it out, he’s really good at crying/lying). He’s hiding his grades/homework from us, tossing attitude about anything to do with chores/complaints of harassment from other students/complaints of disruptive behavior from teachers that we get on a almost daily basis. He has a therapist, psychiatrist, skills builder, IEP, and an individual one on one all day Educational Assistant at school. Over Christmas break he stole a wallet (a Christmas present) from my friends nephew and showed no remorse for it at all. 

I just don’t know what to do anymore. Everything I say is met with an eye roll and silence. I remember wishing my parents would leave me alone and get off my ass. But I also remember saying fuck I hate being grounded, I need to get my shit together so I can actually leave this house on the weekends and see my friends. 

I’m just so lost on what to do. Do I just say fuck it, let me know when you decide you want to give a shit about anything? Right now he’s grounded from screens and has to work off the money he stole. He’s handling the grounding decently, he loves to read so he’s thrown himself into that, which I get cause I did the same at his age. But all requests of him to pull his grades up (all D’s and F’s) are met with more attitude and dismissal. 

Should we just back off? Let him drown in his bad choices? Push him to do better? We’ve tried really hard to be supportive, understanding, enthusiastic etc. but no bs I’m tired. My GF tends to be more off hands with him because she’s exhausted from her job (special ed teacher). I’m going to school full time, working part time, full time cooking, cleaning, appointment managing and the main one pushing him to try for passing grades. I’m fucking exhausted and running out of ideas. 

So veteran parents of teens out there, wtf do we do now?",5.395857254697287,6.368035158663883,5.989357385177453,78.78284609864302,67.97703549060543,8.910255741127349,32.922820981210855,9.103633062298675,2.851240553235908,1967,86,369,35,32,639,252,479,0.177,0.757,0.067,-0.9961,5,1,0,0,0,0,65.0,8,2,0,5,23,19,7,0,13,0,25,16,5,2,5,67,59,28,1,5,8,6,2,0,4,2,5,3,1,0,12,32,2,0,9,4,5,8,4,12,0,3,6,8,53,7,71,46,14,54,0,1,3,5,61,29,6,5,16,233,65,13,0.0,0.0,0.08419228441597973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278457690522406,0.08935523077611397,0.0,0.06899435654222033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556195231451758,0.0,0.0,0.14199450390066934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663404093805531,0.07203630341697577,0.05259264520054016,0.09528433239323196,0.0734139580676339,0.0,0.0,0.07630352527495936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862853765120006,0.09126786778871744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564045556004591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550012958897906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641434149578262,0.0,0.0962198076057659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753871063188778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432448103999102,0.0,0.1333122240810507,0.2392804789780601,0.2253765158279173,0.0827631656004675,0.0980645254805124,0.07236366011855719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728575654831384,0.08517903453048167,0.0,0.09170664976305692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955015637936038,0.0,0.09739435501042426,0.0,0.0900490377232939,0.08561496035529136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948293388214306,0.0,0.0,0.18270625130558868,0.0,0.1764447566561451,0.06093882261834535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417972288580953,0.0,0.07786686086207578,0.0,0.057589457982229475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694524841961616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886415159106678,0.0,0.0,0.06397206985646024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538720533778046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873956581952773,0.09342778346728776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629868522422088,0.0,0.11054038132045704,0.0,0.08518648783453871,0.0,0.1954662789204612,0.07367866715976737,0.0,0.2058288345918849,0.0,0.3492609918707353,0.06875027419467948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771207890734867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790423103141213,0.0,0.0,0.06486831699688901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001723169642929,0.05731750089226434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509235299990361,0.09916080929253122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715058233419888,0.0,0.0,0.08981566940931411,0.10377860868251887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088742960593005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992123807586294,0.0,0.0,0.12561894704012674,0.0,0.0,0.061287524678467674,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dovahgalaxy,2020/01/07,"How much does moving your child to a different daycare affect them? We are planning on moving to a different province in March sometime as my husband as a great union job opportunity there with his dads work and it’s just an all around cheaper place to live and will give us potential to buy a house, etc. My daughter (who will be 2 in February) has been going to the same Montessori daycare since she was 10 months old. She adores the teachers and has so many friends there.

I’m terrified that the move will impact her negatively and that she will miss her teachers and friends. That being said, she is very adaptable, not shy, very social, and loves anybody. 

Does anyone have experience with something like this? How did it affect your kid(s)?",5.743478260869567,7.364114072463771,5.268811594202898,81.86713043478262,67.69565217391305,7.838840579710146,31.19130434782609,8.238735603445708,2.274316521739131,594,24,107,8,10,181,98,138,0.037000000000000005,0.797,0.166,0.9621,3,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,2,1,3,7,8,0,0,8,0,14,1,0,4,1,18,20,11,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,1,7,10,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,4,1,14,7,13,10,4,12,0,1,0,1,23,5,0,0,4,74,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617341506133966,0.0,0.0,0.13517406539215598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31729099596132426,0.0,0.0,0.26576081632384363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934709089270394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853335159981176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346298323632208,0.0,0.0,0.14566336886616674,0.08629689937616887,0.0,0.0,0.16740942858569074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520851267788445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068253443684862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418369953617841,0.0,0.13408174074734702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704586084777498,0.0,0.0,0.15394679470035713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120107105724973,0.4841609770355154,0.11162339983763847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593355750563701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864549798066213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443917736354067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125607588075868,0.0,0.0,0.15478665182019388,0.0,0.11689754587333798,0.1501783903337516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265059881728274,0.0,0.0,0.2505757257358225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054482321047236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stickyschweet,2020/01/07,"Are we being too hard on our niece? Last year we adopted my husband's niece when she was 13 years old. She has been nothing short of amazing and blended well with our family. She made good grades and she had proven herself to be a responsible young lady. 

Last week we found out she had snuck 2 males into our home while we were all sleeping around 3 am. We have a home security system, however we later found out she tipped them off on how to not be seen by the cameras bc she ""knew where all the blindspots were"". The boys are 16 and 17. When we asked her about it she denied it. So we asked our youngest son whose bedroom is across from hers. He told us that yes they were in the house. We asked her again and she still denied it. So we took her phone and we not only confirmed that she was lying about sneaking those boys in, but pretty much everything else. Without getting into too much detail we have basically discovered that she is a very good liar and manipulator. And judging from what we found on her phone, she is seriously lacking in morals and basic common sense. ie. She bragged on social media about sneaking boys into her room, having unprotected sex, and skipping classes to give boys oral. We have already taken her to get tested for stds and a pregnancy test. 

My husband and I have decided to withdraw her from her current school (she will be homeschooled for the remainder of the year), her phone has been taken away indefinitely, she is not permitted to hang out with friends and she will not be getting her learner's permit on her birthday. This is something she has been asking for since last year. 

Her reaction to all of this so far has been a hunger strike and threats to kill herself / run away. My husband did ask her if she had anything she would like to say to us and she grinned and gave a very disingenuous ""sorry"" before asking when she would get her phone back. I was talking to my dad about this whole ordeal and he thinks we are being too hard on her and said ""She is just being a teenager. Remember you were that age once."" 

Are my husband and I overreacting to this whole thing? I feel like she put us all in danger by doing what she did. The fact that she shows no remorse is also putting up some red flags for us. I understand ""kids will be kids"" but I feel like the ones she has chosen to surround herself with are heavily impacting her poor judgement. I'm truly baffled.",5.0397015524625255,6.106698764453967,5.110556076017133,84.41549150160601,68.85010706638116,7.721868308351178,28.726512312633833,7.865858978985527,1.697858725910064,1901,66,373,22,32,594,231,467,0.099,0.8270000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.9172,2,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,23,1,2,0,22,15,4,0,15,1,53,3,1,5,5,77,81,30,1,4,9,6,4,3,1,5,0,2,4,7,17,43,1,1,10,1,1,5,6,5,1,1,28,8,83,10,55,40,10,54,1,0,2,1,106,27,0,3,24,278,100,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994199391763141,0.06517893907003977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707107350409686,0.07255608443625691,0.4571729677314627,0.0,0.15315189816656855,0.06267175632329497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935413473785512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808636315262809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325078671836856,0.0,0.07683497653860127,0.0,0.0824220204850143,0.11645334033192638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680956911854961,0.06297000049093192,0.0,0.1703304783657361,0.0781863270891646,0.0,0.1367238374305656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460236422079505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351086605109244,0.0,0.0,0.09404499008687256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901724041467494,0.0,0.0,0.1993105864530685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945661510717305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712131545836118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983003988502867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782055498040488,0.0,0.08552502585425976,0.0867993925958467,0.055229405917088,0.061987673669846276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291914873535758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386861550883874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232845498173364,0.0,0.07752922957735267,0.06481547062240357,0.0,0.08248667735147966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742117831425458,0.0,0.08156313616141456,0.0830833440311931,0.0,0.0627459726403206,0.0,0.09123736272817673,0.0,0.0,0.06508941909786313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551004871613825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054147818539588936,0.05222464826074463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788082731156831,0.09055424817725616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484882441627198,0.3921584286652276,0.0,0.0,0.13449912497208732,0.0,0.0,0.06537781294152972,0.0,0.07328213126919053,0.0,0.0,0.18199322414346464,0.0,0.0785672123711462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579659661951967,0.0,0.0,0.20994432286279846
parenting,Accordingtodom,2020/01/07,"Two year old mutilated new tv I have a two (almost 3) year old who decided it would be a good idea to scratch the screen of the brand new TV we bought. We are in the process of moving so the TV was on the ground, we understand that a big part of this is that we are responsible for this. In this day in age where kids are playing on tablets and cell phones with games and movies constantly, the only thing we can think of is that she thought she could color on it like a tablet. The only thing that I can see she would have used is a fork to scratch this. How do we punish and teach a child when were not even sure she understands what she did? She is one of the more advanced kids in her classes and is even speaking properly at this point, but I'm not sure she understands the gravity of what she had done.",8.260535714285714,5.050833029761908,7.677142857142857,82.76785714285717,63.94047619047619,11.742857142857144,34.714285714285715,9.606745405546679,2.6638714285714284,631,18,149,9,7,198,95,168,0.037000000000000005,0.912,0.051,0.0702,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,15,0,22,0,0,2,2,29,31,8,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,16,11,0,0,7,5,1,2,2,1,0,3,7,6,17,5,18,20,2,24,0,0,3,0,23,12,0,1,11,106,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455595910510271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570852699493819,0.0,0.11606016377278633,0.0,0.0,0.09374681585909836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875635213812174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19202117980026387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192320590732353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409661950061796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710167968483685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449738043539868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28078410317751484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30506707633198543,0.0,0.09850142237542103,0.22110953123014254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741347055254615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374145901720964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583512806137455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740049563765631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19314483131260607,0.09314244923188257,0.0,0.11540162342524606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839961685508192,0.4539826068977827,0.0,0.1255465667303403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20652276235559688,0.0,0.0,0.18721742591868012
parenting,SolidBones,2020/01/07,"Questions on letting nails grow and painting them Help, Dad and I have no idea what we're doing!

Our toddler (almost 3) has had the same chipping paint on his nails since christmas, and of course by now it looks terrible.  I think the only way to get him to let me remove it is if we're painting on a new color.

1) Is there a non-toxic nail polish anyone can recommend that's good for toddlers?  And preferably dries fast?

2) What age can they grow them out without being a major scratch hazard?  What length?  Should I file them so they're kind of ""blunt"" or does it really matter?

3) Is there a better way to blot up mistakes than just clumsily pushing a tissue around?

Thanks!",2.0183458646616543,4.427311849624061,2.9315413533834622,90.96543233082708,80.8796992481203,5.003007518796993,21.530075187969928,6.1826913282559595,0.32324962406015034,528,16,103,4,14,167,99,133,0.057999999999999996,0.818,0.124,0.8417,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,4,1,7,6,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,19,17,7,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,3,11,4,15,12,2,16,0,0,2,0,10,6,0,4,4,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813600591105226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231929078755893,0.0,0.0,0.19392441847621697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266240701034956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906338749591117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381278090767954,0.0,0.0,0.1827144537330486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460140372805824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459156480373879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22684757917953546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44551377409143456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829313333846208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21039191697436316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567767765471486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24403145248212185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955433815343124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020008796174303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005584596662026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958353214315694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458236348620223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999067257767226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,traumstdu,2020/01/07,"First time the family is genuinely sick: 16mo DD and husband got the pukes! I had to clean up two separate Ground Zeroes created by my husband at 2AM, only to wake up to him getting sick again at 6AM, followed by our daughter getting sick at 7AM... Zero sleeps for me!

He's currently resting while I'm hanging out with her in the living room. What sucks is that I had to go grocery shopping today anyway, so there's not much to eat for us adults - certainly no suitable ""sick"" foods, at least.

I also need to figure out why the first Ground Zero, the downstairs bathroom, still reeks. Husband puked in the sink and I think it got in that weird ""overflow"" hole they have in porcelain sinks.

Oh and I'm also 35wks pregnant and can barely move. :') 

But the good news is I took off from today until next Thursday for some extra rest before going on leave. So it's good timing at least?

I'd advise anyone here to NOT marry and reproduce with a projectile vomiter. ...I'm just kidding, of course. Haha. Kidding while I had to wipe vomit off the walls. Yep.",2.8681151153746427,5.094171108374386,3.864526834327197,86.38560020741508,76.83251231527095,5.850038890329273,24.477313974591645,6.8360192770164,1.0305625615763554,817,28,151,8,19,263,134,203,0.106,0.782,0.11199999999999999,-0.2173,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,1,2,10,7,1,0,9,2,8,10,2,0,1,19,22,13,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,3,5,9,2,0,2,1,1,6,3,3,0,6,6,1,13,4,34,16,7,41,0,0,0,0,14,21,1,1,14,103,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699496030744365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801620882000385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436209411443213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270599082865376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911252710435073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28713154709149397,0.20409170879402655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636312312823785,0.0,0.1918452541328344,0.2831324517689211,0.2699805620676145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787156315784327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490374846268872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17938841826305135,0.12407409573127945,0.12514961897669016,0.0,0.0,0.17950143496642704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836621876202384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890376359624476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478942048237813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081486080460796,0.0,0.0,0.19683613298092065,0.0,0.31997095778204004,0.0,0.1875228693572796,0.0,0.0,0.16487536334119504,0.0,0.2030238096670977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522993865502073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KenAdams1967,2020/01/07,"I got to share some important information with a fellow parent today NSFW We were discussing annoying YouTube channels kids watch, I ask if she has the YouTube kids app.

Her: I wonder if she can watch My Little Pony on there?

Me: DO NOT LET YOUR CHILD SEARCH FOR MY LITTLE PONY UNSUPERVISED!

Her: What?

So, now my friend knows that there is MLP porn.",1.495000000000001,4.2156539545454565,2.1809696969697008,91.18145454545456,92.78787878787878,5.0642424242424235,18.72121212121212,6.742157984588678,0.3474593939393942,275,8,53,4,10,85,53,66,0.039,0.843,0.11800000000000001,0.6614,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,9,10,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,13,2,4,7,1,5,0,0,2,1,16,3,0,4,2,35,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28468367177840104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352702222171984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435512467070988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735539273325525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113907775052369,0.0,0.0,0.6104150335663772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381317346499906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28864791257958616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302373016151148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BWVJane,2020/01/07,"Teen won't eat what I cook I have a young teen who will come to the table when called, but won't eat what I cook. For days at a time. When he was younger, we had a lot of challenges with defiance that are better now. I hear him taking food from the kitchen at other times and I know sometimes he will go get fast food. I am pretty sure he eats plenty when he is at someone else's house - I have seen this with relatives. He doesn't look underweight or exercise compulsively.

I think it is a power struggle/ passive-aggressive thing because I don't always serve what he would prefer. I am trying to ignore it, but it's hard. Any advice? Has anyone else been through this?",2.017386877828056,4.11218854411765,3.066470588235294,91.71065610859728,79.0,5.949321266968327,21.490950226244344,7.010146845296331,0.4894633484162894,526,15,111,6,13,168,92,136,0.038,0.86,0.102,0.8426,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,6,0,18,9,0,0,1,15,27,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,5,1,1,1,0,12,5,8,1,3,3,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,4,12,3,11,18,1,14,0,0,2,0,11,3,0,2,9,68,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15597308016867836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281174227243442,0.0,0.0,0.10854308154926234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160591064977284,0.16354353812980804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729929193688384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116572675194922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629838722804682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749343947423956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029379090630436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4899753069640063,0.26667424813406665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38601207823521816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339179490075553,0.0,0.09071238817706742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429829087372104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989672449317395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18417327538829215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771975137384118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340356690423571,0.0,0.0,0.13569822515505506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238495214782814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524053406699374,0.0,0.1578624555255396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668633442309681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504344282194437,0.0,0.12000996125727867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604053534754987,0.10227428933001097,0.0,0.0,0.18614456513868136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083675166712673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338529813514595,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NerdMachine,2020/01/07,"Do you let your kids on TikTok? My son is 12 and we let him have 30-60 minutes of screen time per day.

He has been spending some time on TikTok lately.  He has an account and so do a few of his friends and from what I have seen the content is pretty well tailored for him without anything inappropriate.

However I am not very familiar with this platform and I am interested in the thoughts of others.  I try to be fairly liberal with his tech use to encourage him to learn how to use it well and be smart with how he uses it.",4.164841269841272,4.603158499999998,5.504920634920636,83.07500000000002,70.48148148148148,8.393650793650794,30.243386243386244,8.418075326091056,2.0669719576719565,410,16,87,6,7,138,74,108,0.0,0.8320000000000001,0.168,0.9531,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,0,5,6,0,0,4,0,15,0,0,5,0,19,20,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,9,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,3,2,13,6,16,13,2,8,0,0,2,0,15,4,0,1,4,66,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469907201504015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369114393277342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401706541763458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394757803740111,0.0,0.0,0.4341680051406952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597832835431247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853694943255176,0.2475795415716453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441330295017822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5500590392171097,0.0,0.17516397972982592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817538518219765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464290155143308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dddance,2020/01/07,"Looking for a good online child psychologist A bit of background.

When my daughter was 5 —with very little knowledge of the language and culture— we moved to Japan and we struggle for years to assimilate.

Our struggle also affects our child, she is our one and only child,  growing up she sometimes complained about being lonely, asked why there weren't any siblings around or why do have to move to Japan far from our family. I felt extremely guilty since I took the risk of moving to Japan hoping to have a better future and due to this we also had to postpone our effort of having another child, yet the result was not as we expected, our financial condition grew just slightly and by the time we decided to have another child we already passed our prime.

But nonetheless, we tried to be as loving as possible before she sleeps we have a ritual of hugging and saying love to each other, also regular outings such as picnic, hiking, going to Disneyland, etc. yet despite all of that we've noticed that the more she grows the more complex her emotion has become, there are times that she weeps for no reason or has a sudden feeling of gloominess and loneliness these combinations have made her insecure and anti-social. 

My wife and I had the same experience growing up and it continues to our adult years and the solution is to ignore it. I was suicidal for years at one point in my life and it was the worse feeling I've ever imagined, and I know that feeling could re-emerge again someday.

We thought our daughter wouldn't suffer the same fate since the love we provide is different from our own experience yet she is expressing the same symptoms and we're worried that she'll end up like us one day.

Hence as stated on the title if somebody knows any good online child psychologist please let us know, we discovered this [https://www.talkspace.com/](https://www.talkspace.com/) but not sure how reliable the service is.

And yes we also looking for a local one.",9.939188301018733,8.810090480446929,8.938583634571149,68.48543378245154,59.0,11.663752875451856,38.935918501478795,10.59048541779884,4.175560433782451,1584,64,258,29,17,495,197,358,0.086,0.8220000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.4089,1,2,0,0,0,0,42.0,24,0,0,2,17,19,0,4,20,1,28,7,1,5,3,65,46,31,1,5,8,3,4,1,0,2,2,1,0,7,12,29,0,1,13,0,0,10,5,9,0,4,11,7,41,10,42,29,10,39,1,3,2,4,50,11,0,4,18,193,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332345428222807,0.29950472911840625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734374032221718,0.19635923762931565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335089035287083,0.08753176755552683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340740023134913,0.0796725584762194,0.0,0.0,0.08280846366858773,0.10222012657152936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747562408760084,0.0,0.0,0.06038385023686162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782382048509497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532157691331494,0.08292872706353398,0.0,0.1044226254764585,0.0,0.08469404053188596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317695879048027,0.08826639081331256,0.0,0.14202700253506634,0.0,0.0898998494707083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053212303534914435,0.1570654435233567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299609527791672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437042712404642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574340876402564,0.06613390745202959,0.045743074960954234,0.0938422398740907,0.0,0.0,0.15725187813741928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535152247074581,0.08859533088898097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985428335897917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659880994674292,0.0,0.0,0.2537854787846863,0.07121012429803937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277804224102532,0.08851097455707645,0.10555418694861636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626762632801608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445863743879266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490403829798216,0.0,0.09369800026900484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260284145308796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576560821521607,0.0,0.10241644056492974,0.0,0.08824552651936501,0.097317816839582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433206431751525,0.10919325684822233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040267989852749,0.06356888299732996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22525164114489926,0.0,0.0,0.0772548705267747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897371210818735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508619736777864,0.09541735784352688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18088468773268448
parenting,marlyn_does_reddit,2020/01/07,"Transition to fewer toys? Looking for success stories. My son will be six years old soon. He has a lot of toys. Not trashy ones, but good quality, open play inducing toys. There's just loads of them. 

And the last couple of months, he's had difficulty getting into serious play. He will jump from thing to thing, claim he doesn't have anything to play with, talk incessantly about other toys he ""needs"" or he'll want to watch Netflix/play on his tablet. 

I find it very frustrating, and I want to change it, and to help him get into a better play vibe again. 

I've been thinking about drastically reducing the amount of toys available to him. Not throw the other ones out, just pack them up and put them away and then maybe switch them around every few months. But anyway, cut the number of toys down to something more manageable for a child his age. 

At the same time, I would like to enforce a much stricter amount of screen time.

Has anyone here done something similar? What worked for you? 
How did you transition? 

My son is very verbal, very stubborn and very sensitive, so I'm not expecting this to go easy.",4.263228324505157,6.142921890995263,4.126417619180376,87.58492612210762,71.79620853080569,7.618734318371898,25.207973236688037,8.313332769828598,1.4627115137998326,873,27,173,14,17,266,135,211,0.068,0.767,0.165,0.9663,0,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,4,3,12,12,3,0,9,0,13,0,0,2,0,32,23,12,0,5,8,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,12,0,1,3,10,0,4,4,4,0,3,4,3,15,8,32,14,7,25,0,0,3,0,21,10,0,2,12,107,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745734400154484,0.0,0.12646638681954378,0.1368086920491389,0.0,0.0,0.14438837925038991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359183754023082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257414413782126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004512803232616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572690426475474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948288943279446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046167014728644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16058398232468524,0.0,0.0873404665110776,0.1289003500957097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300914974057562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252705446462661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508078473091344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905335311460134,0.0,0.0,0.13065410941042768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543932429584602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24533345147521585,0.0,0.11297323410050775,0.11395253069475796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126238089473294,0.0,0.20827647591170315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449187431939662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23662231816863916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352298433088656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041976848467718,0.0984725936741495,0.0,0.0,0.17922527985901052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5072117524575231,0.1812900972927169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188161451202172,0.0,0.0,0.1091705888647834,0.0,0.0,0.09896553968273694
parenting,SystemCanNotFail,2020/01/07,"Do kids actually not feel the cold? I have a wonderful 9 year old boy. Him and a lot of his friends seem to be unable to wear coats. I feel like I have to basically force him to wear a coat in the morning on his way to school. And when he comes home, about half the time he's left his coat in school. And his friends are the same.

It drives me nuts, but also, maybe they just don't feel the cold, maybe I should just leave him be?

Does anyone else have similar experiences? What do you do?",1.486008629989211,3.0782101359223297,2.620906148867313,96.65578209277241,78.70873786407769,6.519525350593313,19.211434735706586,7.3871296695380915,0.0009382955771299882,376,8,94,5,9,120,66,103,0.03,0.878,0.092,0.7359,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,0,5,3,0,0,8,0,11,2,2,0,0,16,17,6,0,1,4,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,14,3,10,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,3,5,57,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.18316060317273972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009745901834234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123881543160618,0.1923129347781852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616802911347704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642507905690315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679282677534587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835990780251691,0.0,0.0,0.2847085888126636,0.13408741172694974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900212001891022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18827067352066468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987390378150269,0.20392822568451352,0.0,0.0,0.09169697372772258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595692756937068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771242720501483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695148841572865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37990924215622973,0.0,0.1708680144515424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944488551548648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898140594300574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354428550079567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208676830531498
parenting,jf-c,2020/01/07,"Pooping in the bathtub If you're in anyway squeamish, do not read this. Its really gross but I'm at my wits end. Daughter 20 something months (2 at end of march, never been great at figuring out the months). Since she was born we always had issues with constipation followed by huge nappy explosions and it seemed to settle after we started weaning her from about age 6 months to 1 year old when it started flaring up again. Have changed diet (avoiding foods like carrots etc) to avoid things the doctor has said could be upsetting tummy. She always seems to get better for a week or two and then go 5/6 days without pooping leaving to her getting upset (screaming) when she does finally go as must be painful and then clears her system over the course of a day. Doctor has said she'll grow out of it and childminder reckons when she gets older and we begin potty training it will go. Currently issue is that over the last few months every few nights she will be in bath and then suddenly get very distressed within a few seconds and then poops before we can get her out. We have been very calm and don't get upset and reassure her that its okay and everyone has accidents as she is very upset understandably but it seems to kind of prove that she is holding her poos in. Obviously we remove her from the bath and clean and refill it before placing her back in or simply wipe her bum and get her changed into pyjamas. We ask her throughout the day and before bath if she needs to go poo and try to give her some privacy as she will only go in her nappy if she's by herself but she insists ""no poop mummy"". The doctor keeeps giving us advice like ""all sized poop before age 2 is normal poop because nothings normal at that age"" but they're literally the size of sweet potatoes and relatively solid. Is this really normal? Is there really nothing we can do about this? None of other mum friends seem to have this issue.",7.258297297297298,6.866187559459464,7.188243243243246,76.47695945945948,63.94594594594594,9.562162162162162,32.28378378378378,8.841846274778883,2.603821621621621,1527,51,277,20,20,488,201,370,0.091,0.81,0.099,0.2784,2,2,1,0,0,0,28.0,9,0,0,1,9,20,0,7,12,1,30,12,6,0,6,62,58,35,0,9,11,2,0,2,1,5,4,3,4,0,18,29,2,3,8,4,0,8,6,10,0,2,6,4,36,10,46,43,7,66,0,0,0,0,44,20,0,10,39,189,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925497751980994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349719020331606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582233205094066,0.0,0.0,0.06236482539735455,0.0,0.04944092395182257,0.0,0.2760579091607965,0.0,0.0,0.07173088130460667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17159691030488922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475583296070342,0.0,0.0,0.15691826422684327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490435589022247,0.0709756307393933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367011327594478,0.0,0.09045363990261536,0.0,0.0,0.06833455554033614,0.07749941093133418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888466866487568,0.0,0.0,0.0980726242945958,0.0,0.0626616089332189,0.0,0.29661851751173185,0.15560682908654253,0.2304695232653836,0.0,0.0,0.08941867315091315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539579978741847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445849415496252,0.0,0.0661114918596367,0.0,0.08587860376558333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924772264013416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589493088882128,0.0,0.0,0.060138413436969476,0.06255326293687946,0.0,0.0,0.07611165412004309,0.23839737079468315,0.1556450862322728,0.0,0.08510617249963036,0.0,0.0,0.06168409299503268,0.08630155831884231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473758049735801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112706096154218,0.0,0.1558740361593579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542990702491552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953401942693005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709098739729286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243867824470512,0.0,0.0,0.11481323252325197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388263305481845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055065047688810376,0.0,0.07922791013874474,0.08443328271501979,0.09755946444857032,0.0,0.0,0.20076063613993653,0.0,0.0,0.06505762927604268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818243446389818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222903348584455
parenting,Nirolosa,2020/01/07,"Bullying, 4 year old. Need book suggestions. My oldest has a problem, a bullying problem. Now - Due to his speech delay he was quite depressed at school for the first few weeks. He's caught up now but in those weeks he fell under the influence of an older boy. Who has already punched one girl in the face and routinely picks on another. This child's friends are very similar to him (known for picking on others) and were caught by us (in the playground) pushing my child to the ground into a very muddy puddle yesterday. This is not the first time I've witnessed this but it isn't yet big enough of a problem to bring to the teachers (the teachers haven't done much to distance the kids from their other favourite targets even if I did bring it up).  


Try as I might, I can not seem to find the right kind of books to explain to my Oldest that friends don't bully each other. I can find Kindness books but that's mostly focused on you doing the right thing. I am hunting for books about friends don't hurt friends.

Any suggestions?",4.367761194029851,5.832376920398012,4.312616915422886,88.01011940298508,70.84079601990051,7.151044776119402,29.320398009950253,7.554174236665415,1.6775198009950247,815,32,161,9,15,250,124,201,0.075,0.7809999999999999,0.145,0.9638,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,1,3,6,11,0,0,16,0,17,1,1,3,0,25,24,7,0,5,6,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,5,13,4,0,1,5,4,0,6,6,5,0,3,6,1,13,6,30,17,5,37,0,2,0,0,21,15,0,4,16,109,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506444198564784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283286169853733,0.1431447663147696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757761153459748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969920280731535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410534191101376,0.0,0.09016490843802608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495390448651149,0.2322341262156676,0.0,0.0,0.421875423442621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613895168384214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843125447267429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481769117121876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003520494352756,0.10122194061808944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14324641184655393,0.0,0.09250408458830818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39187072950165625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519734766176606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233161055716968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381574625406015,0.0,0.1242754252146788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069252698423004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960126258075183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268270758640594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420716398672305,0.0,0.0,0.2252734431391363,0.0,0.0,0.2190034326141716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879092716934631
parenting,glasses83,2020/01/07,"Tickles, butts, and exes Hey!  

Need insight from mamas and dads.  I’m sure this is nothing, but your advice means the world! Recently, I was walking upstairs from our basement.  My five year old was holding my hand.  She started tickling my legs and butt. She said, “I’m going to tickle you like daddy did yesterday” and giggled.

Her father and I are currently separated (due to reasons related to his alcohol use).  He has never been physical or a danger to myself or our daughter.  But she mentioned that sometimes when she is at his house (He is living with his parents currently) and she is walking ahead of him on the stairs, he tickles her legs and butt when she doesn’t expect it.  Basically a quick tickle when she is walking ahead of him. 

I asked him about this and he rolled his eyes and dismissed my concern.  He said she’s a baby and there’s nothing wrong with tickling his daughter.  I know when my ex is drinking he is extra physical, but do you feel this is crossing the line?  Do your partners or other dads think it is completely appropriate to quickly tickle their daughter’s butt? Is this appropriate considering her age or is that inappropriate?  

I am very anxious and may be taking this out of proportion but I merely want to ensure my daughter’s safety. 

Thank you so much",3.4248071625344347,5.999169545454548,4.530929752066118,80.53760674931131,76.68595041322314,6.677961432506888,29.09159779614325,7.793537801064563,2.190974655647384,1018,46,175,16,24,332,133,242,0.03,0.856,0.114,0.9646,3,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,2,5,1,2,9,6,1,0,6,0,23,10,8,2,2,36,39,24,0,3,8,9,2,1,1,1,1,2,0,1,10,14,2,1,6,1,0,5,2,2,0,1,6,5,40,4,19,31,2,28,0,0,1,4,48,5,4,5,19,129,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736906566643937,0.0,0.18995567717654405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200801603501184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661678680113412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636257244058974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412273232529202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987336777024861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101675400031136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509421951294246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768417217947238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683737864339283,0.0,0.15695236235507934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936167469344632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066325213986746,0.131795892794382,0.13708813825972468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411028313964561,0.0,0.18651379951447386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197365128469684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275177883608104,0.1755020471177861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33815298007727523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579465336731098,0.0,0.12580904300768256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752284813578278,0.0,0.1336423500420881,0.0,0.0,0.1636439976722797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138920155606511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351487586546936,0.0,0.14665849310974866,0.1048387871765499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943365900671365,0.0,0.11446214997456106
parenting,justlurkin_0811,2020/01/07,"Recovery time for a cold? My son is almost 5 months old. He's had a cold for two weeks now. He has gotten a little better, but is still stuffed up and coughing. We have been running an air purifier at night and a humidifier. He does go to daycare (I do know there are A LOT of germs there). Is this a normal recovery time for infants?",1.0416149068323008,3.0979024782608704,3.4745755693581764,87.70826086956524,82.18840579710145,6.2616977225672885,22.900621118012424,7.447530270364453,0.9326795031055904,257,9,56,4,7,89,53,69,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.2877,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,7,0,9,1,0,0,0,8,12,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,3,1,7,9,1,14,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,8,36,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881387559927545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544903398715763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25181082486306616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353421633502468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813915922953134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28839978985054665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24463365318382985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22967826558767954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700326605906858,0.28193262936221025,0.0,0.0,0.3019438541766386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297964820498025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355771598203151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810886665800517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308146489291192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theapplecherry,2020/01/07,"A schedule and night time routine for a 3 month old. Need help. Hi! I am a mom of a 3 month old baby boy. I am not good at all this parenting thing at all. I have been feeling desperate so many times.. People tell me that I need to put my baby on a schedule, with is fine and I really want to do it. I tried the eat - play - sleep thing, but my baby is not down with it (maybe I'm doing it wrong?) And then also evenings are messy, he doesn't want to sleep.. He just cries every time I put him in his crib. Bathtime is a torture too - he . only likes bath if we take it together.. Just hard. So..

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Can you please write what schedules you had/have at 3 months and what is your bed-time routine? What worked/worked the best? Maybe you have some good books to suggest? And any other advice you have for me will be greatly appreciated! (but please don't be mean, I know I am not good at this all and believe me - I feel like a bad mother almost all the time). Thank you!",-0.2933497536945815,1.8735227783251247,1.4694108374384278,98.99024433497536,89.6896551724138,4.233221674876846,16.4943842364532,5.6839178017228535,-0.7574345221674874,736,17,174,5,25,239,117,203,0.127,0.701,0.172,0.8377,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,1,6,0,1,7,13,1,0,10,0,20,3,2,0,4,32,31,13,0,5,8,3,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,13,9,1,0,4,3,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,3,24,10,16,27,6,23,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,3,16,109,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312670572619694,0.0,0.0,0.11592447434040905,0.0,0.0,0.09257926439810424,0.0,0.1254340873005194,0.14067023930462647,0.07872590085262562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666106497016458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304303803447051,0.12149089682699367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716521282667698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845910055777086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646337204522426,0.0,0.09753915018914523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707109897122545,0.08270435771474154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913009741092743,0.0,0.12763412772960436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370498180261166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775965455467927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362281548400467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131163502802194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737012081306415,0.2326081195605496,0.12610479558748014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355855502464432,0.2772136512556277,0.0,0.0,0.1716803363681209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863999924572623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429571298393759,0.0,0.0,0.08804643512127973,0.0,0.0,0.12854615923379173,0.0,0.0,0.0802586396321133,0.0,0.0,0.2541560014750806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23275671709602136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416365411474939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317023030924755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704278684938599,0.0,0.10118593752366127,0.10658320213677608,0.0,0.0,0.15382162645422498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700199472909203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859856428744834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136565395668105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842801519883925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657363763001042,0.14067023930462647,0.0
parenting,damegolda,2020/01/07,"Sleep question So I know I am lucky that my 11 week old basically sleeps through the night. Has been for a few weeks but the past few nights shes been waking up at 530 whining for her pacifier. I dont put her to sleep with one and I dont take her out of bed- and i try not to have her look at me if possible. 
Not sure what to do. Do i let her whine and see if she cries? 
Shes discovering her hands these days and Is into putting them into her mouth (but sleeps with a swaddle that keeps her hands where her mouth can get them but covered ) 
Any suggestions or am I just going to wake up at 530 for a little bit?",1.3660560492139453,2.6631767744360917,2.7886124401913897,96.60483253588517,78.24812030075188,6.340123034859878,20.361585782638414,6.980632752743323,0.02096090225563918,473,11,119,5,11,154,82,133,0.09300000000000001,0.8909999999999999,0.016,-0.8727,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,15,10,10,0,1,23,22,11,0,2,9,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,9,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,2,4,23,2,19,19,3,20,0,2,2,0,16,10,0,5,7,82,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927430536078273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937700641747854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603568588317198,0.09414777313915797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421849397517814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627075252883893,0.0,0.08296622129535669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975752118892242,0.0,0.0,0.08022913353631271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927880041644806,0.0,0.0,0.1463145837153481,0.0,0.0,0.1225900144700489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739926845601978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318592760472124,0.0,0.09892271521652417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935849820901994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16457532283458284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935090123772537,0.1635357854634509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163305575589764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5843587673403394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758844092752126,0.0,0.10976199837097544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911373242458137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23419954148350286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,porridgeandoatmeal,2020/01/07,"Advice on how to get over ‘gender disappointment’ (though I’m reluctant to say it’s actually that!) I’m due my second in March, we are so happy to have fallen pregnant again so easily and so far (touch wood) the pregnancy has been relatively easy. We found out at 20 weeks it the second girl on the way. Whilst in my soul I always knew I’d be a mum of girls, as did my husband, as friends have gone on to have a boy/girl followed by the opposite gender, I’m finding myself feeling a bit jealous I guess? How do I get over this? It feels absolutely ridiculous and frankly I’m a bit ashamed because all you ever want is a healthy baby/pregnancy which I have!",2.3142230576441136,4.2533016691729335,4.17009398496241,84.90571741854637,77.42105263157895,7.140100250626568,26.12092731829573,8.07648339933343,1.6563288220551384,514,20,105,9,12,174,89,133,0.09699999999999999,0.755,0.147,0.785,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,0,8,6,2,1,9,0,11,0,0,2,2,16,25,10,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,6,5,0,0,5,0,0,3,0,4,0,2,5,4,11,2,17,19,3,20,1,1,0,0,9,10,0,1,6,67,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.22463605469804493,0.0,0.0,0.22494282910259372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153977732886548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032407370741287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5026242699046758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082235745317142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23278591946692676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21039306755493206,0.0,0.0,0.2523957457424214,0.1778472473357964,0.0,0.2405336388642552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535845491328079,0.0,0.0,0.24504570244269824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305944013179185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261643522554455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357743349012986,0.1827172146995069,0.18464767314334174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SEA612,2020/01/07,"Returned from maternity leave & my backfill is teaching me how to do my job. I just returned to work after being away for 6 months on maternity leave. Before I left, I had been in my position for a year. It was a new position created for our department & my manager was still trying to figure out exactly how this new position would evolve. My manager didn’t seem to have too much confidence in letting me take initiative or allow me to turn this position into my own. I felt for every move I made, I had to ask my manager how to proceed and she would limit me to info I felt I needed to be privy to in order to take the lead in my new role. When I returned from maternity leave, I find that my manager had given my backfill way more responsibilities and allowed the backfill to be more involved in the process of our day to day team responsibilities and has even allowed the backfill to manage several projects on their own. My manager even asks the backfill advice on how we are to proceed on a project. I’m back and I feel like I’m the brand new employee and learning everything from my backfill. Also they are keeping my backfill to continue as a temp until their one year contract runs out or until they can permanently hire them. Has anyone ever felt with this? How should I handle this moving forward? I feel very insecure and overwhelmed with my return to work.",6.331099056603772,6.730970400000004,7.3448466981132094,71.90330778301889,65.75471698113208,10.398584905660377,35.430424528301884,10.270032843473604,3.760665094339624,1096,50,195,25,16,370,136,265,0.026000000000000002,0.9279999999999999,0.046,0.7032,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,5,5,14,3,0,2,10,0,22,0,0,10,2,43,39,18,0,4,3,0,5,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,12,0,2,10,1,0,6,1,2,0,1,12,5,40,1,44,20,5,45,0,1,0,0,14,15,0,3,25,150,46,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959983831909048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969298933083729,0.0,0.24304704357100465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842372382106948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970582779314675,0.0,0.10537645874759037,0.08624284548740048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543849218544964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466570998038675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815906040386684,0.10145364577276858,0.09449824444093427,0.0,0.10080068999812976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342126014116982,0.08012594528968804,0.3230688048160603,0.0,0.1025106969600755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129985277865567,0.09969149190785856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.356278484291711,0.121860371855745,0.11468950845680645,0.0,0.05479490285858617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612693951881938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952372227944458,0.2384131452996725,0.0824492899260927,0.08316399292159284,0.0,0.4332929205663159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600139840181709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210474645883713,0.0,0.12670700716197733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956980055200932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865823687335738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614815513912845,0.12199607412487905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254238219622662,0.0,0.08902607506570917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163305224387828,0.0,0.0,0.15934814302486786,0.0,0.0,0.14445259603234706
parenting,cr8zyc8l,2020/01/07,"Asking for a friend! Daddy demanding baby photo and updates every morning when he arrives at work. Mummy friend of mine asked me what I think about her husband asking for photos each morning after he leaves for work and apparently he becomes moody with her if she doesn’t send one. 

Background - they are married, live together. She is on maternity leave. Their baby is almost one year old. He works in an office, mon - fri,  sees the baby every night after work (and I’m guessing in the morning too? Unless he leaves before LO is awake?) 

Friend asked for my opinion. I don’t get it? Why ask for photos every morning when he arrives at work? Doesn’t he have work to do? Maybe he should have a framed photo on his desk? Surely he has lots of photos on his phone if he really wanted to look at a photo? Surely he could swipe through his own phone instead of asking her to stop what she is doing to send for photos? 

I would understand it more if she was out and about at a play group? Or at the park? Or doing something with the baby and therefore he would want a photo to so that he would feel included? But starting a text conversation and asking for a photo every morning during breakfast time is weird and shows that he has no idea how hard it is to get a child ready and get out the door in the morning. 

Writing this I think I sound like the bad guy but listening to my friend talk I could sense her frustration. 

Imagine trying to prepare a breakfast for baby, feed baby, dress baby, wrestle the dirty nappy change, clean up the breakfast mess, shower and dress yourself then get out the door for whatever you had on that day and having someone demand a photo and become moody with if you don’t do it. 

TDLR; a friend asked for advice.",3.850413105413104,5.581267168639059,4.548435239973703,84.74941376287529,72.57988165680473,6.3091825553364025,24.056980056980056,6.775458762138228,0.8967057637519176,1365,39,253,11,27,437,167,338,0.08199999999999999,0.833,0.086,0.5271,2,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,0,2,2,6,8,15,1,0,22,0,28,4,0,2,2,51,52,25,0,12,9,1,2,1,5,4,0,2,4,2,10,18,4,1,6,2,0,2,5,6,0,2,2,6,25,9,46,44,4,31,0,0,2,0,54,16,0,10,14,164,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765728778752241,0.0,0.0,0.07957785217629389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5943507242133003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635423609350442,0.0,0.1755370219661362,0.06762322433427997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406885639243072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690085881087093,0.0,0.0,0.05125165714307586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26782803611808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04018248372941287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069921126997902,0.0,0.16607944418927972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754530379581016,0.07868791943388931,0.0,0.0,0.07118962375106302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971209959412413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25244216790349444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0388250895789631,0.0,0.07017357759139911,0.0,0.06673489113223065,0.0,0.0,0.06756265960591254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983842350252833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457733019364217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833905293663904,0.0,0.10770202873403352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091059793522884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332740172688947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673347802275934,0.061179985879241575,0.0,0.0,0.05624936451243908,0.0,0.0,0.06644058412602995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979930732604332,0.0,0.0,0.06387507734362992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184249629712616,0.0,0.0,0.04633966979886783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05395499928486824,0.0,0.0,0.08273120427050319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374707912809846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170942830898659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471311911219083,0.0,0.0,0.16935989310397553,0.0,0.0,0.051176155885737006
parenting,jer05,2020/01/07,"Early riser. Send help! Hi all 
What to do with an early riser? Our toddler (2yrs) wakes each morning around 4:50am. We tell her to go back to sleep and that might get us an hour, or it might get us 20mins. After that she screams hysterically until we exhaustedly bring her into our bed, where she proceeds to kick me in the face in different positions until I’ve had enough and we get up. 

I’ve thought about just letting her go until a reasonable hour, but then I don’t want her to scream for 40mins and then go into her, thereby teaching her to scream for 40mins! 
We aren’t up for cosleeping, and we’ve tried a gro-clock (the light just disturbed her sleep even more)

Any thoughts?",3.5360583446404337,5.333672917910448,3.6907598371777515,90.2988127544098,73.55223880597015,6.365264586160108,24.122116689280872,6.980632752743323,0.7237402985074626,537,16,111,5,11,165,83,134,0.096,0.879,0.024,-0.8944,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,8,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,6,0,7,5,4,1,1,24,17,11,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,4,13,0,0,3,0,0,5,2,5,0,0,3,4,19,0,22,11,4,25,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,3,12,75,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556686533320255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128503523517425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067544834161485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755395372830865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755962403057741,0.0,0.11224555228164508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663641439039785,0.0,0.2897470626100054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390901129623372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347186593676109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377792735122746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36056470321464296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747294021621556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401308663206988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853741257659808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698310461177027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537993971507104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088402934044147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002366090411339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lotekjeromuco,2020/01/07,"Can you list arguments why calming down a toddler with a candy is not a good thing? In short, dad is buying good behavior, as he sees it so, with candy from his two year old who has really intensive snaps of frustration, for example when she wanted to bring a book with herself today for outdoor walk, and he insisted on not taking a book, and she insisted on taking. His nerves were short because he already dealt with older daughter, and her protest against t-shirt, so when he got back to the youngest he gave her candy, more to calm down situation before his patience goes down the road, than he really needed it because although two year old is intense and stubborn she's someone we can handle well when we have enough of patience. But not today, he grabbed a candy. And he's doing more of it lately. He doesn't control his emotions well so he doesn't have means to teach kids to do it either. 

I need something short and convincing to tell him why candy are a bad strategy.",7.3584126984127,6.7753419047619055,7.327031746031746,76.19435714285716,63.814814814814824,10.099682539682536,35.3021164021164,9.3871,3.1841805291005287,776,31,142,12,10,249,111,189,0.10300000000000001,0.828,0.069,-0.774,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,1,0,1,9,11,3,0,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,23,24,15,0,3,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,12,0,2,1,2,1,2,5,4,2,2,3,2,15,7,25,21,4,24,0,0,1,0,30,10,0,0,12,95,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441371402920496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145637957646647,0.12440008178066846,0.18164533863260646,0.0,0.1267791648690297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16710449057474502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16759323183709252,0.0,0.15394607071745736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499307934942044,0.11916058311931192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806674357763893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622933379521434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094778172492704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126790174569643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908930889572905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872541102998978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747053811931575,0.0,0.0,0.1262383935095283,0.1146994629851949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404325476494846,0.0,0.13022346595169776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098982061269692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824494150138393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29108235477819144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787791855368735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679190631459073,0.0,0.2688798566985893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188881832456614
parenting,benveb1214,2020/01/07,"Things To Know About Craniosynostosis The premature closure (fusion) of a suture line is a condition called craniosynostosis. This error in the normal developmental process results in abnormal growth of the skull and deformity of the head. It is produced either by defects in the ossification process of the skull bones or failure of the brain to properly enlarge. Genetic factors are involved, but the underlying cause is unknown. It is a relatively common condition, occurring in approximately 1:2000 births, with males being more commonly affected. Primary craniosynostosis involves the early fusion of one cranial suture, whereas complex craniosynostosis results from the premature fusion of several sutures.

The early fusion of a suture in primary craniosynostosis prevents any additional enlargement of the cranial bones and skull along this line. Continued growth of the brain and skull is therefore diverted to other areas of the head, causing an abnormal enlargement of these regions. For example, the early disappearance of the anterior fontanelle and premature closure of the sagittal suture prevents growth across the top of the head. This is compensated by upward growth by the bones of the lateral skull, resulting in a long, narrow, wedge-shaped head. This condition, known as scaphocephaly, accounts for approximately 50 percent of craniosynostosis abnormalities. Although the skull is misshapen, the brain still has adequate room to grow and thus there is no accompanying abnormal neurological development.

In cases of complex craniosynostosis, several sutures close prematurely. The amount and degree of skull deformity is determined by the location and extent of the sutures involved. This results in more severe constraints on skull growth, which can alter or impede proper brain growth and development.

Cases of craniosynostosis are usually treated with surgery. A team of physicians will open the skull along the fused suture, which will then allow the skull bones to resume their growth in this area. In some cases, parts of the skull will be removed and replaced with an artificial plate. The earlier after birth that surgery is performed, the better the outcome. After treatment, most children continue to grow and develop normally and do not exhibit any neurological problems.

Source:

OpenStax Anatomy and Physiology.

[https://monimize.com/2019/12/05/craniosynostosis/](https://monimize.com/2019/12/05/craniosynostosis/)",12.601921487603304,15.286802942148766,10.885609504132233,43.957505165289255,52.63636363636364,13.102341597796144,46.529958677685954,12.45797560212912,7.1658834710743795,2040,114,219,64,24,633,179,363,0.047,0.8540000000000001,0.099,0.9617,0,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,0,0,1,5,3,4,0,0,41,0,20,26,23,11,0,47,21,18,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,14,20,0,2,4,1,1,11,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,58,16,9,47,0,0,0,0,8,20,0,4,16,162,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674912462705524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891538717574263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499005737404047,0.12574901827283566,0.0,0.0,0.25301613413838386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5055460939475979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767953457024138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898309406486636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24131997701724855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344902941334434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335849389189985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783707417876048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173703506730691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834704463323804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181480186048024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356313549906564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,musicmmm,2020/01/07,"My step son is being horrible and now I'm worried he's violent My daughter and I recently moved into a new house with my husband and his son. My daughter is 14 and he is 16. However it's become often that he does something to make her cry, he can be a real jerk to her and does stuff to make her mad on purpose, he's sweet (for teen boy standards) when not talking to me or my daughter. We stopped leaving them at home because we came home to him yelling at her once while she was just pouring tears. My step son claims that she does all kinds of stuff to him and he got sick of it, my husband of course believes his son. I was cleaning out my daughter's room and she had drawings upon drawings each of which was about her crush on him, I was shocked but not surprised because we moved 2 teenagers who never had any form of relationship into the same house. However this just makes things more complicated. My daughter still sees her biological father pretty often (my ex and my husband are somehow really good friends) but my step son's mom walked out on them and he doesn't have a mom anymore. I'm assuming this is why he seemingly only treats me and my daughter the way he does. 

One morning he cooked breakfast for him and his dad but of course none for us, he even threw out any extra he cooked. When my husband realized this he gave his plate to my daughter and my step son just dumps the food in the trash can. My daughter pushed him into a sharp corner of the kitchen counter and he responded with a slap. He slapped her really fucking hard. My daughter was on the ground screaming. My husband took him upstairs to talk, I followed because I wanted to talk to him as well he and my step son said to me

“I shouldn't have hit her that hard. I'll talk to my dad. If he punishes me then he will. I won't listen to anything you try and tell me disciplinary wise. I don't care if this is disrespectful but I'm not listening to you just me because my dad decided to marry you. I don't care about your opinion and I don't respect whatever authority you think you have. YOU ARE NOT MY MOTHER!”

He spent the rest of the day saying how much he hates me and my daughter and the next day he didn't come home from school, he now does this almost everyday he either stays and friends houses or roams around the neighborhood until he thinks we are asleep.

My daughter wrote him a 2 page note and he started to cry as he read it, hugged her and apologized to her and me.

Still, they argue over petty stuff and she cries. She always tells me the real reason she's cries is because she likes him.

Advice on his attitude towards me and my daughter, him slapping her and her crush on him please",4.11052826150404,5.1186933678373405,4.685104095729159,86.83007661251102,70.95933456561922,7.5431656775950975,29.02427278918183,7.7627490962704995,1.6700765249537888,2116,80,438,25,38,675,238,541,0.126,0.8109999999999999,0.064,-0.9792,3,0,1,0,1,0,39.0,5,7,3,0,20,24,8,0,17,0,31,9,1,5,2,84,60,41,0,4,17,32,3,1,2,3,1,6,6,1,17,41,5,1,7,3,1,14,13,10,1,1,16,11,96,14,55,38,11,56,0,0,1,2,128,22,1,11,19,283,113,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378622206730259,0.0,0.0,0.0756110500328656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282928244964621,0.0,0.0,0.10269700271869768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488433485485532,0.0,0.0,0.06213722156876626,0.06721874661067448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301469956893219,0.08339342032691617,0.0,0.08507244108858117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636183041896425,0.15397229225481654,0.0,0.0,0.06504405405645605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317710198536131,0.09739372216097072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33039083569197514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049872780379541966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913054127498229,0.0,0.11667565966277114,0.0698065710568682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333311020909856,0.06039120060210455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528191716805366,0.07454920290910193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22722413065515465,0.0,0.0,0.2613806853458285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786306854182171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995280456288519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03688973389457701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120791913904824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686974009152548,0.0,0.16050758425052847,0.05550757837859351,0.0,0.05823695993026162,0.07292676738266561,0.08030435290899386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041429498564698,0.0511666453701804,0.057427764491056535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288587139612634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681948786681758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552912792486399,0.17189084991273176,0.09674560603007636,0.0776355135927007,0.07455572608560368,0.08106807923068611,0.0,0.0,0.07182605950103732,0.060047544324784735,0.0,0.07641882974703168,0.06017065313368222,0.06874027929131624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058130281816067775,0.0,0.0,0.05344544239576636,0.08048222126558577,0.12060268145310543,0.06312864940658201,0.0,0.0,0.2593181686860368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427641127173377,0.13199585382216486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016462123353774,0.0967658446716394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389293758119909,0.051265446840832236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082766198211377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04453698420187609,0.05993528681542384,0.0,0.0,0.06789138431528108,0.0,0.06813485188928216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668274423918198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,howditcome2this,2020/01/07,"How to raise a son to be able to carry his own share of the ""mental load""? I have a four year old son. His father and I recently split, and it has led me to a lot of introspection and thinking about what circumstances led me where.

I recently came across [you should've asked](https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/) when browsing another subreddit, and my mind was blown wide open. I had never had a way to put into words exactly what I had felt countless times in my life in many different relationships. I think, most of the men I know don't do well carrying the ""mental load"". My own dad, rather than plan meals or grocery shop or cook, keeps only mustard and white claw in his fridge and eats from the deli at the health food store for every meal. Most of the men I know have an ""It's not a problem to me, so I can't understand why it's a problem to you"" type of attitude. 

Obviously, I want to set my own son up for success on this front, and am wondering how to go about doing this effectively. 

Any advice is appreciated!",5.0439886845827475,6.191943554455444,5.283677510608204,82.88009900990097,68.90099009900989,9.137765205091938,27.299858557284303,9.424239791934726,2.1319125884016983,826,26,167,17,14,261,128,202,0.01,0.892,0.098,0.9420000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,2,0,3,9,5,0,0,13,0,14,7,0,5,3,38,25,13,0,4,4,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,7,10,5,1,8,2,2,6,4,2,1,1,6,2,22,3,28,18,6,26,0,0,1,0,14,11,0,6,7,109,29,2,0.15622889123342434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266506438806351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624100335568423,0.16381961430620953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605292395315728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868423171952466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322593971444105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598611583172469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162957896098762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000423554587067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889125954126791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878847918416638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660640057888193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886341681221595,0.0,0.0,0.1717186257668282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034908611538187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282021652863765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839157461660136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31488395387183504,0.0,0.15774664429510873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204933521248581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639359408212582,0.0,0.0,0.11881911172648005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29897989947551695,0.0,0.15705318639889354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085143649982676,0.1677313621543135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021033051247028,0.0,0.0,0.09109832283767252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626397854817659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214784780047136,0.12400722200477655,0.0,0.0,0.14046853555441902,0.0,0.14097227448859806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694235682643306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060628378892393
parenting,-treadlightly-,2020/01/07,"At the risk of being attacked, I really need input on bringing my young son to the local anime shop for Pokemon games. No-one I know has experience in this area. My son is 5 and has gotten very into Pokemon lately. He's read all of the black and white comic books, he just got some cards, he's very into it. Today we went to a local anime store where an awesome guy that plays in Pokemon championships (something like that?) taught him and a few other kids to play. We're going back this week for more learning. He was amazing, the shop owner was amazing, the environment and experience couldn't have been better. Except...(and here's where you should move on if you tend to get pissed at people online bc I'm really trying to just make good decisions for my son.)

I feel like these guys are so nice and considerate of my son being involved no matter his age. I feel like my son could easily look up to them and this community could become important to him bc it's really fun and the people are great. But...I have concerns about presenting them as role models and this lifestyle as a healthy one. They are great guys. But...it's hard to explain. They're like the guy friend you had at school who you could never ever date bc they were a little off and their personal hygiene and self care habits are noticeably sub-par.  across the board. Lots of extremely dirty hair, horribly cared for skin, bad breath, some extreme morbid obesity, unkemp clothes, etc. It sounds horrible to point out individual issues, bc Lord knows I roll with dirty hair wondering if people think I come from the streets at times. But over the top bad personal care seems to be a general culture status quo.

I'm going to stop bc you get the point. Should I be concerned about encouraging my son to insert himself into this environment that may give him skewed ideas of how maybe he views his goals for himself in light of these guys potentially heavily influencing him? I think they could be a big influence bc they really are super nice guys and he will idolize them. These guys are certainly a very specific and distinct culture. I want to make a good decision about choosing to be heavily involved. I hope you understand what I'm asking.

TL;DR: my son loves Pokemon, should I encourage his involvement with anime shop culture guys that are very nice but care for themselves very poorly? I think he will idolize them and want to be like them.",4.5247350407175775,6.483790458515284,5.031017349226957,81.03994157913372,71.27074235807859,8.182792399386287,26.35217750501593,8.841846274778883,2.0642281836421583,1922,64,351,37,37,613,233,458,0.054000000000000006,0.779,0.16699999999999998,0.991,0,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,1,6,10,4,12,34,2,1,20,0,35,7,5,5,5,73,74,21,0,14,6,7,6,5,1,6,1,1,0,12,18,21,1,1,17,9,5,6,3,5,0,1,9,12,45,29,52,47,7,46,1,0,4,1,69,28,1,9,17,206,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746322241305107,0.08209651017764999,0.0,0.055489352183287655,0.12050717948865967,0.0,0.07969902397478107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382283778987001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29430238893578226,0.0,0.0,0.062162549555354676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23046704280397404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048148694134588,0.0,0.06527610549893227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117969117885348,0.0,0.0,0.07297616646896378,0.10310737712957048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575341651825295,0.0,0.07540500263649921,0.06922589846354382,0.08202447108609885,0.12105480382421087,0.05771582129363095,0.1591212422906513,0.0,0.5716264575751572,0.0,0.0,0.0646444091000492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167473517885396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146391793930953,0.0,0.0753200472329125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931845203103574,0.0,0.08140368135004067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762774433859169,0.07232688288110473,0.0,0.0,0.06059924714147327,0.0,0.0,0.06135091010909805,0.06513046431470118,0.0,0.09633952355311602,0.0,0.07249803326462106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669848385621501,0.0,0.053508393259924236,0.055657015235795686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215873419717779,0.0,0.0,0.048899921361672836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008745705390295,0.12602093993901614,0.0,0.0,0.13643585019009308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721831261229029,0.0,0.18491939398142476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303341343067099,0.0,0.06569502900582556,0.07528237062239479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055555063048831885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06033199888944744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871855856598825,0.0,0.0,0.04207917410147116,0.0,0.06840265268384448,0.0,0.0,0.04899434584681033,0.0,0.0,0.07512485011725162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977126281342976,0.08512791915129328,0.0,0.05788528517649358,0.0,0.0,0.06689637797778786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825834333515372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ender_is_God,2020/01/07,"Please please help my 5 y/o daughter sleep before I blow my lid Guys........I'm at wit's end here.......

My 5 year old daughter can't go one single night without waking up after just a few hours to ask to sleep in our (parents) room. I am losing my shit.

She goes to sleep fine. We have the same routine before bed since she was a baby. Teeth brush, story time (at least one but usually 3 stories) then tuck her in and bed time. Acts like she isn't going to do it again. Then she does her delaying routine: bathroom once but usually twice. Tuck her in one or two more times. She goes to sleep. Then lo and behold she is up, asking again, crying and screaming when we say no. She will stay in her room sometimes for the rest of the night but most often she will get up again.

Of course I have to admit the obvious reason she thinks this is OK is because we have let her do this in the past. She gets scared or has a nightmare and I cave. But our bed is small and she is not. Sleep just doesn't happen when she is with one of us.

Its recently become unacceptable. I have been sick as a dog this past weekend and I can't take it anymore. I'm losing my cool with her and I hate it. I NEED to get  uninterrupted sleep. Please, does anyone have any advice?? How do I get her to sleep through the night and stop hating sleeping alone??

Sincerely,

Sleep Deprived and Enormously Frustrated",1.274968483500185,3.463034494623656,2.499703374119392,94.27645161290329,82.18996415770609,5.281967618341368,19.298109010011125,6.48374012150746,-0.03685079718205397,1060,27,232,10,29,339,151,279,0.177,0.7390000000000001,0.083,-0.9874,1,1,0,0,0,1,49.0,6,0,0,2,10,14,4,1,10,2,25,13,12,2,1,36,41,22,0,1,10,3,0,1,0,2,1,2,5,0,7,14,0,2,4,1,0,3,7,9,0,6,2,4,39,5,28,36,7,45,0,3,0,0,33,14,1,4,28,152,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747714485689392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924845273793722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05203412942026799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588422384753392,0.05350240951268268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306598219416256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04664400417677895,0.08450692641878868,0.13022052622313893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405024357061452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339209445148624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777127962102371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990773014805187,0.0,0.08697265784341815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766365958123115,0.0,0.0,0.15108923414154418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128767851264122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535375295806776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824373479464625,0.0,0.037382302052330216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120572223310568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056736326575779074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154178378302317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029163592109792,0.08148802246905193,0.207399380835732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496298440040544,0.0,0.14608811626068385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519778014058336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867213754926985,0.07555122734763194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084932588195696,0.0766067853211109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854351871669353,0.06329558685903544,0.0,0.6891496156894936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567719033008281,0.0,0.0,0.08155685573093505,0.0,0.06397157125113939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753120112909696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04902895266473931,0.0,0.0,0.13385289400839953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474591241519156,0.0,0.09204043337979896,0.0,0.16854515411820511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375958028693719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04927438772052023
parenting,Short-Vermicelli,2020/01/07,"My mom doesn't pay attention to my daughter and my niece is defensive around me My college-aged niece doesn't have a car, so she has relied on my mom (who raised her) to pick her up from school for breaks. My mom has gotten older and is uncomfortable driving long distances now. I drove around 8 hrs to mom's house, picked up mom and brought her on the drive with me to get my niece from school. When we got there, I kept trying to call my niece but she wouldn't pick up. After 20 minutes or so, she came out with things and said she still has things to put together (She was moving out of her dorm room for summer break).

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Mom says, ""Why are you taking so long?""

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Me: ""You didn't pack the night before?""

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My niece: ""I didn't know you'd be here 40 minutes early!!!"" She was really irritated and snappy. I said, ""Well hurry up!""

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She was moving really slow, so I went down to the elevator with her to help her grab more things. I asked how she was and she was like, ""FINE!!""

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Me: ""You should be grateful. No Thank you? I'm here to help Mom because she's scared to drive. I always help people. What have YOU done for anyone lately?""

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I'm her uncle. I've noticed as my niece has gotten older, she's become really defensive around me

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Last year she got into an argument with me and said I was very judgmental about how she and Mom live their lives, that it's none of my business what mom eats, and it's none of my business how late she stays up at night. (My wife works in a journalism department at a university and she told Mom that my niece shares articles on FB that aren't true. I also noticed on facebook that my niece posted things super late, around 2 am when she was in high school, so I told mom that she should be going to bed earlier.) I responded to my niece and said I had to drive a few hours for work (I'm a traveling musician) and tend to my animals later because that's what adults do and as an almost 60-year-old man I can say whatever I want to my mom Then I asked her ""Got a job yet?""

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I've always gotten the impression that mom babies her too much. Mom always says ""Oh she works so hard in school. She gets things done somehow."" She also didn't have a job throughout high school.

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My mom also never pays attention to my daughter whenever we tell her about the things my daughter has achieved. It's always a competition about what my niece has achieved but my daughter feels a bit left out",3.985521953405016,5.179936364919357,4.4619623655914005,87.61224910394266,71.43951612903227,7.607885304659499,24.86648745519713,7.984000788550335,1.2045113799283156,1951,55,406,26,36,617,210,496,0.044000000000000004,0.872,0.084,0.9571,2,0,0,0,0,0,109.0,2,6,1,6,30,11,2,1,16,0,38,1,0,6,2,52,69,33,0,4,3,20,3,1,0,3,0,7,3,2,21,28,1,3,4,1,2,15,11,3,1,0,30,10,83,8,58,32,6,70,0,0,0,0,80,27,0,3,25,262,104,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03465491340348667,0.0,0.0,0.08302801653222003,0.11518651528046632,0.33747978691991143,0.378472577974438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02419871863829661,0.0,0.0,0.12323383113295205,0.06470761749538452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042193431791883805,0.03822181755965117,0.029448859441159225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03778297317213648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03533863793533007,0.039582332916087135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083200034215545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03541262442674263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01749884491598084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03616250375624759,0.0,0.019668524236079662,0.0,0.08303753854584081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03100197076008572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959103972567528,0.0731305053167492,0.0,0.0,0.034081909259427716,0.039932986038709165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868620082411676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019019652007303756,0.028210139490490168,0.11711799600819815,0.0,0.037601693824479226,0.0,0.0,0.016907720935479018,0.0,0.061118997010759624,0.06125398281637789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6079870789955399,0.0,0.07356565515737616,0.02544086242832599,0.0,0.02669182351505894,0.0,0.0,0.06495452815183696,0.0,0.0,0.0788028759401135,0.03631527485136204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023992830005553044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0331448979613305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034790599314500216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651231396104451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168053458007473,0.082565013226093,0.034648645933049366,0.17512572078605254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03688752381122598,0.02763799391867312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026020909370750026,0.0,0.030248917862125375,0.03186239714549012,0.0,0.0,0.13795210652501025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613885517650969,0.0,0.023496560622923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028555224870392526,0.02041269536790713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03111674871948252,0.032081963202931385,0.03122833753738542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558510966926152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.378472577974438,0.04457283533148372
parenting,zeusandmonkey,2020/01/07,"5 year old does not listen For a long time now my 5 year old daughter does not listen to me and only her dad, so hes always the bad guy as she just dont listen to me i have to make compromises for her to do anything for me but her dad just has to do 1...2...3 and she listens.",0.14199999999999946,0.7387745846153848,3.2769230769230795,94.72307692307696,80.07692307692308,5.815384615384616,19.15384615384616,5.6839178017228535,-0.42278461538461576,208,4,56,1,5,76,42,65,0.039,0.961,0.0,-0.3071,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,11,5,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,11,0,9,11,0,7,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,7,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100364072538507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20772286848094726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076291221814725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4417946626969987,0.0,0.2958382282759947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499387534641056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233866776751584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849451320594808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5297515834831197,0.0,0.0,0.19197929468617855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14719005647618022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251046590426705
parenting,JohnsNotHome84,2020/01/07,"Should I just give up on teaching my daughter (again) to sleep by herself? I'm currently having some serious issues with my daughter and her staying in her own bed. She falls asleep by herself but then wakes up around early hours saying she's scared to be alone, I ask why and it's that she feels alone and that's what scary. I tried reassureing that's she is not alone and we are nearby. I sit with her and then I leave and then I'm up again and again and I'm just losing my mind now. 

Me and her mum are divorced for over 5 years and my daughter is with me Friday to Monday and once in the week. 

We moved into our apartment a year and half ago with my partner, and then we taught her to sleep in her own bed. It took one whole weekend and then a few other days after that. Eventually she did it and everything went well. Until her mother said that she's scared, doesn't trust me and is just pretending. Even though my daughter was so happy, slept well and even was proud of herself that she self soothed herself. Me like an idiot believed the mum and I gave in. I used an air bed for my daughter on some nights and then I tried again with her. I made out that it was temporary. This was a while ago. 

Now the air bed isn't an option anymore (which I did warn about it's broken). And I'm trying my hardest to get her to sleep. The mother gives no support. I'm now told again that my methods are evil, horrible and I'm scarring my daughter for life. My daughter doesn't even want to try. So now when she comes over the only option I have is to take get her mattress and put it on the floor next to me (which isn't comfortable). 

I told my daughter that I would try my best and not give in to her mums persistence that I'm a bad father. 

Now I just don't know. I'm a nervous wreck, tired. All I'm trying to do is teach my daughter to get over her fear and learn that she isn't alone. But now I'm thinking maybe I should give up. Put her in the mattress where she will be happy, but not comfortable and most likely not sleep well. Our dog comes in and out, and then my partner comes to bed quite late as well. 

Please help..",1.9366998577524903,3.5442347657657685,2.866391654812709,95.3228236130868,77.46846846846847,5.664675201517308,21.143669985775247,6.202715092499727,0.0009648648648652447,1652,42,378,11,38,523,182,444,0.149,0.75,0.10099999999999999,-0.9707,1,4,1,0,1,0,44.0,5,0,0,5,29,24,2,4,15,0,29,9,7,2,1,70,66,44,0,4,11,15,1,2,2,4,2,2,7,3,22,42,0,0,4,2,0,9,11,9,4,2,15,3,67,15,49,45,9,73,0,1,0,0,63,26,0,5,38,263,89,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323865834871702,0.0,0.0,0.3347143807900589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012629937663901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192411370266882,0.0755318242625401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745991947866821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102758135699957,0.08478870080595416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20879157268738047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210568107736326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009174705959675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261276505860023,0.0,0.0,0.09091612210355136,0.04085205823211105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663516218033372,0.3100212655216012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201420650598984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415475937519595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956617413393563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432832538313484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044402469710859135,0.0,0.09113956218115098,0.08554956609849991,0.0,0.0,0.057067448938387035,0.07894409071511636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038822734884792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644958110714603,0.0,0.0,0.08116879852545858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157927614461846,0.0,0.0,0.0858716230357562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859257231155885,0.07582003781503327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604336122728533,0.05474835228190016,0.061447754848331475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868795000252325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244130352032912,0.0,0.08593475169839836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685394225346788,0.0642509214073328,0.16177850688053722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428614264974853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32341085243505063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611604240222623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916844872476282,0.0,0.0,0.060747307034852975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05176976636449624,0.07938005279292516,0.0,0.0,0.09286123652948768,0.0,0.15440495507268667,0.08976551164199872,0.3291244196165304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978038994136278,0.0,0.0,0.04765460942410689,0.0,0.06480836566876046,0.0,0.29057534638103044,0.07489718522904773,0.07290434709803134,0.09020402250282407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739399835558485,0.0,0.0,0.10405784343337646
parenting,persephone44,2020/01/07,"Advice needed on my daughter going overseas with her freind I am a single parent without family to ask for advice. I have pretty much made up my mind, but would like any advice or thoughts on this. 

My daughter is 17 and has been invited to go to Bali with her friend and her freinds mother. I initially said yes but I no longer feel comfortable. 

I feel that My daughter's friend is a bad influence. The last time she stayed overnight here, she encouraged my daughter to invite a boy over, while I was sleeping, and then talked her into having unprotected sex, in my backyard, in exchange for marijuana. 

So, needless to say, I don't trust this girl, I'm worried she will influence my daughter to do stupid things in Bali, a third world country, with very strict laws.

My daughter is PISSED. She keeps saying that her friend is going to make her life hell for not going. I suggested that she just say that her father didn't get around to signing her passport application to avoid the blame but she isn't having any of it.",5.074747252747255,6.46882440512821,5.151886446886447,82.9344230769231,69.05128205128204,7.8278388278388285,28.800366300366306,8.192908349453996,1.9421135531135527,809,29,151,11,14,253,117,195,0.177,0.687,0.136,-0.9109,1,1,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,4,12,3,1,6,1,17,4,2,4,0,29,32,10,0,2,7,9,2,1,3,2,1,4,1,2,8,8,0,2,3,0,1,4,6,5,0,1,6,6,30,7,26,24,2,19,1,0,0,1,36,10,2,1,5,104,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4258938294137072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19758891986312072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932879427588034,0.13581592123212394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130159968589785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695577636473535,0.0,0.14691449537183324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367257605886298,0.0,0.07590209548458858,0.0,0.3302608059819301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291303341920107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184214851755569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261460285923693,0.07097580729043364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374661659142064,0.0969746231681568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669001644285962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679651952536448,0.10772227391915228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613147419113371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147800609854401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381932591909064,0.34659422698244663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145383562785591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548477048703242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676947121995795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651667587639004,0.0,0.0,0.11533501578115213,0.08471314578315546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987009634652199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004342881132412,0.0,0.0,0.14753751526578196,0.0,0.10320178065293588,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SadDogOwner27,2020/01/07,"My kid is too wild for some people My kid is a 4 year old boy.  We have come a long way from having yelling, throwing temper tantrums and not listening.  Consequences of his actions have worked for us and he has learned.  However, for example today we went to a friends house and he wants to be running, not listening and is trying to be center of attention.  There is nothing that will make him relax and sit down.  I don’t blame him, because I remember doing the same thing when I was a kid.  Now, my friends are always just nervous of what he will do next.  He is fearless and can be wild, but I get subconscious and see people feeling nervous with him.  I’ve gotten to the point that I’m nervous taking him out with us to friends houses.... now, he is an amazing boy, he is smart, he is well love at his school and at home.  Does it get better?  Is this normal for a 4 year old boy to be this unhinged with reality and not listen? I’m pretty sure I’m overreacting, but again my subconscious is failing me and I don’t know what to do.",4.614633787265369,4.837312311004787,5.528803827751198,84.05854987118147,69.43062200956939,8.536032388663967,30.430990062569013,8.384062270229773,2.0646883327199124,799,30,168,11,13,263,115,209,0.08800000000000001,0.746,0.16699999999999998,0.9646,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,4,0,0,3,8,17,2,3,8,0,28,1,0,1,1,34,46,13,0,2,6,0,1,0,3,2,0,4,1,6,8,17,0,0,5,1,0,5,5,6,1,0,3,6,20,11,22,37,2,24,0,1,1,1,30,6,0,1,11,111,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158218361264768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907239808197406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292298182081046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586803182960038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786916444965393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388183487984465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33867205520645843,0.0,0.15268162808396946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465686322121118,0.0,0.0,0.33720194617836363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030283117672612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293101534958888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187752777320402,0.0,0.0975351421697568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539853710888796,0.0,0.14316497222565366,0.14020451047692362,0.0,0.30665328518160834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20260015027067207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812908300304708,0.0,0.0,0.14865490603586493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655236216130338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787958460632694,0.11643741758877085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771482822596975,0.0,0.10986282459120804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707454791582223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850312329246472,0.0,0.0,0.09920477725942248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515248000824188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618439650533648,0.11598195558432002,0.0,0.0,0.13137795676964334,0.13545318673094664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637590878659274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819087064882425
parenting,gunmetaleye,2020/01/07,"(Sorta) adult child - this fills me with rage and despair My 19 year old daughter has lost her mind and is dating the 50 year old chief of police of a neighboring small town. He is married and has two tween kids. He is six years older than me, her parent! I am extremely tempted to inform this POS’s wife, his boss, drag him through social media and ruin his career.",4.413749999999997,5.418933986111113,4.776,86.46900000000002,70.25,6.871111111111111,24.12222222222222,6.742157984588678,0.7878188888888893,285,7,56,2,5,90,58,72,0.182,0.818,0.0,-0.9215,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,7,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,9,0,6,6,0,10,0,3,0,0,16,2,0,1,7,31,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962887540587196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27405845630408043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5696226512455098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013815815102403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27668015430967463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651394775512246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5243598610839859
parenting,WhatchaGotCooking,2020/01/07,"We’ve created a monster - sleep help My husband and I have the sweetest, most monstrous 7 month old baby on earth. The poor kid has had a rough go of it but he’s pushing us to our limits and we need help. 

Since he was born, he’s screamed. And screamed. And screamed. We had to quit nursing due to food sensitivities that weren’t even fixed with an elimination diet, so he’s on special formula. He has reflux and is on meds for that. But his personality is just difficult. He can’t ever be on his own, not even surrounded by toys or in a bouncer. He wants to always be held (and usually by me if I’m around), and even sitting next to him isn’t good enough. Ok, fine. He’s needy. But the sleep issue is just beyond. 

He’s an unsurprisingly terrible sleeper. He never took to the bassinet no matter what swaddle or sleep suit we used. I hate bed sharing but we took to doing it because the lack of sleep was bordering on dangerous for my husband and I. We practice bed sharing as safely as possible but it makes me a nervous wreck and I despise it. The kid also will not nap anywhere but someone’s arms and even then, he naps for maybe 45 minutes. Basically, he’s always exhausted and so are we. We want him out, ideally in his crib in his bedroom, but I don’t even know where to begin. 

We did sleep training with his brother who is now three, but he was NEVER this needy or anxious or scream-y. We did a heavily modified Ferber method and after a day he was able to fall asleep on his own happily. I don’t see that happening with this one. 

What do we do? What methods work for a baby this difficult? We can’t keep up what we are doing, nor do we want to. Help!",1.5060905778240503,3.641083823008852,3.440122332118687,88.15733081728267,80.97640117994099,6.466111400312338,25.01483602290474,7.618777277803332,1.3182770432066633,1292,51,272,21,34,435,177,339,0.154,0.722,0.124,-0.9202,1,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,15,0,0,4,16,19,3,1,15,1,31,10,7,2,3,65,48,32,0,7,17,3,1,0,0,1,1,3,3,3,15,30,2,4,1,3,1,5,12,11,0,2,12,5,33,8,37,33,5,35,0,0,1,0,49,15,0,6,14,183,48,1,0.11062302917013787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846519646035965,0.1840944441913108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497253536887867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847794940556698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743477181628117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134270219987134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143031605324257,0.0,0.3653273372812007,0.10006486317233244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376580597835172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286961678609697,0.0927853483938418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782357935698872,0.0,0.0,0.10921733894904324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244485385810087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546170168835038,0.0,0.09832683114758144,0.0,0.0,0.0607955237897628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384173097296635,0.0,0.1111357015471178,0.0,0.12287724723124516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829824647834389,0.0,0.0,0.08202557443034428,0.17063859957887395,0.0,0.11764884651334533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608026031758804,0.0,0.0749610275121828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965917621422179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471084397376901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766120838025447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815223183673139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150851287637916,0.0,0.5535145989940857,0.0,0.09373053363055958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458125115142731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330658834373465,0.09554277913738507,0.1218356379270651,0.0,0.19574498624520906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053488274977899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,producermaddy,2020/01/07,"First time traveling with my son—any tips? Hi guys—next month I’m taking my son on a plane (5 hours ish each way). My husband is not coming and baby and I are sharing a seat. He’ll be about 6 months when we travel. He’s huge though. Probably like 80-90 percentile. Maybe 20 or so pounds then and 30 inches (we already outgrew the infant car seat). Hoping you guys can give me some tips because I am super stressed.

1. How do I keep him occupied/quiet? He doesn’t sleep a lot during the day so chances on he won’t sleep on plane. His favorite toys are all ones that make really loud noises. I have an iPad but I don’t want to put the sound up super loud and he can’t have headphones right? Or do they make baby headphones?
2. Is there some sort of device I can wear him in? When he was younger we had like a carrier you strap to yourself but I’m worried he might be too big. 
3. Diaper changes on plane— guessing I’ll need to use the plane restroom...but how exactly does this work in such a small place? Do I just avoid changing unless it’s really uncomfortable for him or poop?
4. Any other tips for the plane ride?
5. When we get there we are staying at a family member’s house so I think I’ll need to bring my pack n play for sleeping. Obviously his car seat/stroller too. But what else are must haves? Do I need to bring his shower tub or can I just bathe him without at 6 months? He’s really into his rocker and his jumper but those are bulky. Do I leave them behind? Trip is 10 days. How many toys should I bring and what do I prioritize?
6. Any other tips for basically the vacation? I’ll have family in the destination but I’m worried about doing this without my husband.

Thanks for all your help.",0.08613499199408636,2.4138920198300298,1.9439025742086464,94.79385361497721,90.55807365439095,4.995910826456461,17.872213326764378,6.601985625127523,-0.051525138563862434,1325,36,293,17,46,435,194,353,0.054000000000000006,0.855,0.091,0.892,1,1,0,0,0,0,45.0,5,3,2,4,19,10,0,2,14,0,34,5,5,6,5,56,57,27,0,7,15,3,0,2,0,5,0,3,2,2,9,15,0,2,1,6,0,12,7,2,0,2,2,3,38,8,29,48,6,43,0,0,0,0,36,17,0,11,14,166,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440901886358705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299968081104617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687239458516594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385233897246076,0.09711367371013853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541317100479229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865765066353754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417800594420506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255841969276734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589475606417942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05890087258753957,0.10814841675200684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419344994044255,0.1116281943109553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556580321881516,0.0,0.0,0.1119741209974266,0.11102407114069474,0.13008434031892208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020657944778814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937310315545785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015603601775197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584568697346432,0.0,0.0,0.15050677815903066,0.1142984831429156,0.1132603214869379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959704109761275,0.0,0.0,0.2699588244907103,0.0,0.0,0.2507810577735759,0.0,0.0,0.11989798051546535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763940836007725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778705631342448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155046817661952,0.0,0.0,0.11333267581692215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166682570724979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627750635098846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384577982973617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016354590489255,0.0,0.0,0.1291408241812573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476483142811557,0.0,0.0,0.1037938637905218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223786095475387,0.11076436342909404,0.0,0.06573834588369734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973693037450068,0.0,0.0,0.066495703789627,0.08948605636519226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173505251594223,0.0,0.08207449617156236,0.2289815144910318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bruhster329,2020/01/07,"Im a 14 year old babysitter with a problem Just a heads up this is for parents especially moms. 
To start off hi my name is Ethan and I have always wanted to be a baby sitter. I volunteer at my local church and take care of 14-22 toddlers in a room each week with a few other volunteers. All of the other volunteers are female. Basically how it works so we get the children the parents go to the service and we take care, play, feed, and change the diapers of the kids. Out of all the kids one of my absolute favorites is a kid called Skye. Every time she comes in she wants me to pick her up and never wants me to let go until her parents get back. We just do things together like play with toys or I read her a story etc. whenever I give her to one of the other volunteers she starts to cry. I have grown a good connection with her even though she can’t really sprawl full sentences lol. Anyways I wanted to start to babysit because I feel like whenever I leave the church after 1 hour of volunteering I just want to do it again because how do I say it really just gives me a lot of joy and a warm heart. I asked my supervisor if I could ask any of the parents of the children I could baby sit and she told me I should probably only ask the parents of the boys. Now I understand her reasoning. But I just feel that Skye would probably want a male babysitter because she only stops crying when she is with her parents or with someone male and especially if they can’t stop her from crying they give her to me and she stops crying immediately. I really want to ask the parents of Skye if I can babysit their child but I am pretty sure they would rather have a girl babysitter to let me babysit their child for a number reasons. I wanted to know from the perspective of a mom with a young daughter on my situation and if there is anything I can do because I feel like I would really enjoy babysitting Skye.",5.3010193737328235,5.3310835984455975,6.1790515881955415,80.6535019148457,67.93782383419689,9.407343996395586,30.25411128632575,9.20300075937882,2.3724511376436137,1503,52,308,26,23,498,176,386,0.040999999999999995,0.845,0.114,0.971,7,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,5,1,17,13,0,0,31,1,27,3,2,5,4,71,60,24,0,20,14,10,4,3,0,4,0,1,1,11,9,23,1,3,7,4,0,4,3,1,0,2,1,5,59,12,48,50,7,35,2,0,0,0,58,11,0,7,22,219,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593542267928868,0.0,0.0,0.0457143550825222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531929726160872,0.0,0.2513799763009492,0.0,0.0,0.051690801068566335,0.0,0.16391553721872104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864281448258186,0.0,0.13707788649463765,0.0,0.07111365820425199,0.05790718140603018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734515356289348,0.0,0.29536788428426536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497208685093441,0.04440055563195,0.0,0.05663878466809993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197082021881763,0.09604911050865504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024311579604146,0.19346101578833413,0.07640944525106362,0.0563839686053879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899081045695772,0.0,0.0,0.07966029295733085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620170756972428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261302662508733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03694433403601477,0.0,0.0,0.07118008901667358,0.0,0.13748137675161795,0.0,0.09852617016150243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05715110314046903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746294220571858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184698666368941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053986288514638,0.0,0.09110490600162588,0.10225315824379533,0.0,0.0,0.5225069885317679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839057134355551,0.14495682722703096,0.06432390910975573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06724179443655454,0.0,0.17226064518541176,0.13823411945573885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345890708447952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556214607757712,0.0,0.0,0.056958340482369585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274363612625982,0.0,0.0,0.16860582598057391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335745005671974,0.0,0.10108756641232937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446603746349192,0.0,0.06604684841350393,0.0,0.03919862337596031,0.0,0.0,0.06423503325566275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998214125639553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172017809611982,0.0,0.05392271928084495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04893958344940065,0.0,0.0,0.1432611560157865,0.0,0.0,0.0432897961746687
parenting,uMinded,2020/01/07,"Night weaning Our little one is 8 months old and definitely is using nursing to fall back asleep all night. She legit nurses 8-10 times a night and as a result, bearly eats all day. Maybe 2 bites of solids and one milk all day.

We are trying to break the nursing to sleep bond but as this is her main nutrition supply how do we night wean and not adversely affect her growth?

If we just lay with her, soothie, hold/pet she will eventually dissolve into tears without feeding or WORSE she just wakes up for 3 hours and decides its morning now.

Any links to accredited recommendations? (I prefer nothing anicdotal)",5.7033260869565225,7.040841191304352,6.02320652173913,77.48263586956524,67.52173913043478,8.184782608695654,29.15760869565217,8.472884824447931,2.149804347826086,487,17,87,7,8,156,88,115,0.02,0.88,0.1,0.8516,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,6,6,3,4,3,27,7,11,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,10,3,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,11,0,12,6,4,18,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,12,54,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446769166166748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140739920262087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23608034234297545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728691120784216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18024915172465544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344564009088926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387973582964195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460939914953869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6870506291724374,0.0,0.1756236539262799,0.0,0.19206076269905645,0.0,0.24805375310677855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316367616167212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672713547229316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426636924858502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808044349064362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764358277640849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652472819140314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,X5648,2020/01/07,"Looking for advice-My husband (my son’s stepdad) and I can’t agree on anything with raising my son Sorry, this is kinda long. To preface, my husband (33) and I (31 F), absolutely don’t see eye to eye at all with raising my son (8). We got married 1.5 years ago and have lived together just over 2 years. My son likely has ADHD but didn’t get diagnosed because it doesn’t affect him in school enough, but he has all the symptoms. My husband also has 4 kids, who are ages 4, 7, 11, 13 who are with us about half the time. We have not heard from my sons biological father in well over a year.
My son is a constant source of turmoil in our marriage because we don’t see eye to eye on anything. My husband is very strict with his kids other  than the 4 yo, and for the most part they are very well behaved. Before my husband, I lived with my parents and worked my way through college until my son was 4 and then was a single mom so I didn’t have a lot of time to be as great of a parent as I’d liked to have been, and my parenting style was on the opposite end of the spectrum from my husband. My son isn’t perfect but I feel like his behavior has come a very long way in 2 years, and I try to be more strict to conform more to my husbands standards, but I don’t think we will ever really agree. 
My son is very soft spoken, sweet, and has a big heart, but has a hard time sitting still, doesn’t remember things well that he’s been told to do, and can easily get a bit aggravating with making noises, or irritating his step siblings. He also gets anxious and gets upset (as in cries/feelings hurt) very easily. He is very much not like my husbands kids who are mostly very hearty and resilient. Overall though, I do not feel like his behavior is really very different at all from that of a normal 8 year old boy. He does very well in school, never gets in trouble there, generally does whatever we ask him(albeit sometimes with tears), is usually more than happy to do what is asked of him, and other than normal minor sibling bickering, he gets along pretty well with my husbands kids. I feel like a lot of what my husband gets upset about is pretty minor, and that he can react very excessively in response to my sons mostly normal childhood behavior. He feels exactly the opposite, that I completely ignore bad behavior and do not parent or discipline my son enough, and that even small issues are a big deal if they are repeated often. 
We have went around in circles and cannot find middle ground. He does not feel like he should have to change his parenting style or meet me in the middle at all, that his way is the only way he is willing to parent with my son, that when it doesn’t work, it’s my sons or my fault, never his parenting methods. I feel like I’ve significantly changed how I parent to try to find common ground with him, but I think his way is too much for me to change to completely. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Anyone have any suggestions?",8.373669334021685,5.806351857382553,8.456375838926174,75.26304336602999,63.144295302013425,11.383995869901913,36.01032524522458,9.565088089820216,3.142369334021683,2321,78,471,33,26,763,242,596,0.055,0.8170000000000001,0.127,0.9933,9,0,1,0,1,0,70.0,8,0,2,3,22,25,0,3,21,0,60,7,5,4,9,94,87,39,0,5,18,33,8,8,0,3,2,1,0,5,20,36,0,2,12,0,0,3,19,8,5,1,11,17,63,17,71,71,19,61,0,1,7,0,81,26,0,12,34,309,83,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247514172325783,0.0,0.04608103036994125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314380517381742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03535117180493609,0.0,0.0,0.0587275705505499,0.0515545520681565,0.03634869828194296,0.0,0.08555745686855981,0.046277133646350936,0.09719678550089828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04340479915250678,0.0633784104277218,0.0,0.04423489204424227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056753496437421586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497779380139374,0.04477995401945042,0.1090093000270505,0.05617666412849316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05359362950335245,0.0,0.05276306753383617,0.0,0.05431262935788737,0.0,0.0,0.13647568539832694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04604274494482039,0.1074275544543446,0.0,0.034335203188282336,0.04702286221719472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399410751807915,0.18568831394281915,0.0,0.0,0.0950255920765752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19011790881618346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04157667023329132,0.05731297995546428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533835603770063,0.04656780791362168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061601759387890975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05565037093378924,0.0,0.0,0.054258203306626125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028569264454644663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031755998671434,0.0,0.09180634788336284,0.09200910896315813,0.043653799916813965,0.0,0.0,0.0883905487592793,0.0,0.0,0.03469998790125784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060883496144445215,0.0,0.0,0.07642902471506517,0.0,0.08018714164545056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280101182816008,0.0,0.0,0.0545488787372796,0.0,0.0,0.03953647555727794,0.0,0.0,0.4617801573025136,0.0562940348727817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577363863230416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660507024747297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888818675578472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522196784727103,0.08284966611422799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514138967420016,0.058192275138851876,0.0,0.0,0.0415148056838905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403169176706128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034536122706791815,0.06661900365694068,0.05107440499216442,0.0,0.09093755781826747,0.0,0.0,0.04967331798551168,0.0,0.07058798488564343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253082754840274,0.0,0.057253467738438577,0.428925708299402,0.0,0.20631396879165287,0.0,0.0,0.2337010747605273,0.048190055770566016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569051863287563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738123278878647
parenting,Peppermintgirl45,2020/01/07,"I’m leaving my abusive alcoholic husband on Wednesday. I’m moving back into my parent’s house with my kids and getting my old job back. If everything goes to plan, I will hopefully be able to have my own apartment by the end of the year. 

I’m terrified of actually leaving him. I’m very codependent, but I want to break the cycle. He’s going to lose his mind. I feel as if he’s delusional. He thinks everything is fine, but I want to scream, “HOW ARE YOU HAPPY BEING WITH ME?!” 

Here’s to the next chapter of my life, I guess.",1.7633333333333354,3.6724034814814814,3.9182962962962975,86.20633333333332,79.0,7.282962962962964,25.61481481481481,8.238735603445708,1.711963703703704,408,16,85,8,10,140,70,108,0.109,0.765,0.126,0.2459,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,4,0,6,2,0,1,0,16,18,7,0,5,4,2,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,15,3,15,15,1,13,0,1,0,0,9,3,0,4,7,50,15,1,0.17642751957357272,0.2090377610531878,0.1721678091281443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18854736338928105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713237446624309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626241588001985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31712335696118715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920705495022707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217609719985773,0.0,0.10026782514744544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943548034247228,0.0,0.0,0.18781037524246413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523233540534836,0.0,0.20357366997569654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507708996390836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736225382112208,0.0,0.0,0.12461597465643533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19737726599107566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814150093696915,0.0,0.0,0.18751453234722454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763266859306535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18513100348923625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590188169717265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130476307117362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557118063277688,0.2081230442478116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361353820193615
parenting,garyscomics,2020/01/07,"Am I wasting my time trying to put my kid to sleep for 1 1.5 hours every night just to have him run to our room and sleep with us an hour later? Every night our 2 yo son takes about 1 1.5 hours to be put down to sleep. Usually entails a tantrum or two as well. He gets a 1.5 to 2 hour nap at daycare every day and we usually start bath at 730 followed by books and then bed time. It usually takes an hour or so to get him to sleep and usually about an hour or two after he falls asleep, he comes to our room crying and we put him on our bed for the rest of the night. The next day we all get up at 630a -7a. He has been doing this night time routine for months now and I just can't help but think we are wasting our time getting him to just sleep in his bed for an hour. Any advice is appreciated.",3.872285714285717,3.1719706571428574,4.923000000000002,90.93650000000002,71.0,8.142857142857144,24.92857142857143,7.1686216300943375,0.689742857142857,615,13,154,5,10,203,95,175,0.062,0.904,0.034,-0.455,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,10,0,0,0,8,2,1,0,9,0,9,6,6,0,1,21,19,13,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,2,12,0,0,1,3,0,7,1,1,1,2,1,0,19,1,29,17,2,44,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,3,28,89,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802428370890497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055841718330378584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073569139375166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020060639741932,0.10591609601221368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20755889835708688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160895214861674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055040645999668784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5660742605463149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554423412158929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733133269975962,0.3082413371756319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24764788134805096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108766811703781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058122150818399373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348207472490255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052616638257262816,0.0,0.0,0.19153007684764214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055751396180631456,0.0,0.16043086466285605,0.0,0.0987754770390898,0.0,0.3617568364102587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383217542147727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,feecher,2020/01/07,"Ferber method successful for night sleep, not for naps. Looking for suggestions! Took my 6 month old 5 nights before he was putting himself to sleep without a big fuss.  He didn't take to it amazingly (1st night 1h45, 2nd 1h, 3rd 45min, 4th 25min) but it did work eventually and he is sleeping through the night blissfully.  Naps, however, are a completely different story.  He just cries and cries. I know the ferber method suggests that after 30 mins of crying to abandon the nap and wait until the second, but this just results in him being napless for the day and passing out while playing on the floor mid afternoon.  Any suggestions on how we can make this work for naps too? I have tried to let him CIO in his crib for up to an hour without success....  its no fun dealing with a cranky baby all day and i am worried that if i hold him for his naps/use the swing, he will regress...",3.7861932773109217,5.662461417647059,4.069243697478992,87.51588235294119,73.05882352941177,7.210084033613445,28.02521008403361,7.957251820313856,1.7374621848739502,691,27,136,10,14,215,117,170,0.10099999999999999,0.835,0.063,-0.8321,2,0,2,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,4,4,6,0,0,11,0,11,3,3,3,1,24,17,11,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,3,1,5,0,3,5,1,0,1,4,1,12,5,25,10,1,26,0,1,1,0,16,9,0,1,14,83,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901837947501836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128469077892759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904591895491308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43701912567731394,0.17105339429194924,0.13672182946911113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138556058208814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060057823854765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288258210953097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560939709812164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113644931909676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852257017075556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058532569164104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4978065560394238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915875012687914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331625153841642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981369419516728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971113367637256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473418554295421,0.09003792541704456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952136886157947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556752240719077,0.0,0.1930928410121069,0.13467853363335058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,obviousthrowaway2022,2020/01/07,"Is six years old too young to start acting classes? My kid is six years old and  just told me her mom/my ex, has enrolled her in acting classes.    I have a bad gut feeling about the whole thing.  Is six too early to start acting?  I’m all for art classes.  Music, dance, painting,etc.  but acting?",0.059703389830506375,2.4112050338983053,1.4862500000000018,97.54259533898306,91.8813559322034,2.95,17.54449152542373,3.1291,-0.9278322033898307,223,6,47,0,8,71,42,59,0.05,0.9279999999999999,0.022000000000000002,-0.3695,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,0,1,5,10,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,5,0,1,0,3,1,1,5,0,5,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,8,28,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22129183562861224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29558232223079484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400886074655727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31040393883526823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5562159827000615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37518403823864027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607642791821493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25325079100481895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959003490516568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413456666251748
parenting,playsmartz,2020/01/07,"[Rant] We missed date night because MIL changed her mind last minute We're visiting my husband's family, leaving tomorrow. His mother offered to watch our infant so we could have a dinner to ourselves. We made reservations and were really looking forward to it. 2 hours ago she says she won't watch him because she's tired. It's too late to reschedule because we're leaving tomorrow. Now I'm eating leftovers while my husband watches our kid. I'm usually pretty easy-going and I'm not telling them I'm upset because I don't want to make tension worse and my husband is upset too. But I'm really upset, trying not to cry. I didn't know how much I would miss just having dinner with my husband after having a kid.",2.813714285714287,5.2638592285714285,4.155714285714286,83.07928571428572,78.14285714285714,6.285714285714287,27.857142857142854,7.447530270364453,1.8830714285714287,572,25,100,8,14,188,88,140,0.155,0.802,0.042,-0.9075,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,1,0,6,6,0,4,2,0,10,4,0,3,0,19,22,7,0,3,4,5,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,2,7,3,0,1,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,3,5,19,0,8,16,1,14,0,2,4,0,24,1,0,0,13,55,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409371596901952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238713716517863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18389375624588386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879263141529272,0.0,0.19094893683934225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778759993213008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387561095841438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879410126479868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119187765480826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553484561815437,0.14169824558596816,0.19609278626573876,0.3681310811376553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597712315343164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448632195919474,0.11603581857563522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552319956227294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277882930533899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313181799548326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768520896512754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22272554876519307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824010009903887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519389364728995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19979708231377724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180221536548907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19145404356416573,0.0,0.10253203896025824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17715211496205496,0.1234869773689287,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SANMAN0927,2020/01/07,"To move or not to move So, I’m not sure where to post this, but I’m in quite a precarious situation. 

Family life highlight:
Married, 2 little boys. In laws all live in our town. Great family support network and relationship. 

Situation: wife has been super supportive of this move due to the job being one I’ve wanted for YEARS, and the pay and bonus is great. It literally doubles our income and will allow for us to buy a good home and really get savings growing. 

Problem I need help with- this job is on the complete other end of the US in a major city. This job would allow for us to truly put money away and provide for our family. Where we currently live is uber expensive and my line of work, I am maxed out in career moves and pay. (Airline management)

I am no stranger to moving, but she is born and raised in our current southwest coastal town. Again, her family is all here and this job would take us away from that. 

How do I/we decide if this Change is worth the move? 

Thanks all!",2.351619226638025,4.580452147959188,3.845402792696024,85.86651450053708,78.54081632653063,6.983458646616543,22.560687432867883,8.032893268588372,1.234136734693878,775,24,155,14,19,256,118,196,0.048,0.7120000000000001,0.24,0.9938,7,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,9,0,0,4,6,11,0,0,8,0,15,1,0,3,4,34,24,16,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,9,13,0,0,1,0,7,8,3,1,0,1,1,0,15,10,26,19,5,31,0,0,0,0,15,15,0,2,7,101,24,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196037990434986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117967208955616,0.0,0.09037063718233458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634049933821441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32501646115020505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04503174514265696,0.0,0.0,0.0722937322923391,0.0,0.1900538950753161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777265840998293,0.0,0.08645757023305703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421289091239552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087993505805597,0.0,0.0863869940450921,0.15221817135865995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5496505203228167,0.0,0.06391025115109894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840590728098277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254807840931876,0.0,0.0,0.08247407162349109,0.0,0.08664673288393107,0.0,0.09167576613205668,0.0,0.0,0.05521678092001917,0.0,0.0,0.0925379157601421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937667636770422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561924471139774,0.08123490854611565,0.0,0.0648056322129714,0.0,0.0,0.0793539826534796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147132934665619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050838255098610514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274877827687135,0.0,0.0,0.12245660030756356,0.0,0.0,0.05550480062062127
parenting,keccsy,2020/01/07,"Be honest... should we try for a second? Our daughter is 2.5. Like everyone said it would, it’s getting better and better. The baby year and a bit was tough (colic, PPD and PPA, no sleep, marital stress etc) but this phase is amazing and we are all finally doing so well. 

We are completely on the fence regarding having a second. We see lots of good in growing our family and at same time are nervous about the unknowns,  disrupting our current family vibe, and going through another rough patch that could potentially break us.

So... if you’ve had more than one, would you recommend it? What were some of the hardest parts? Best parts? How are things with kids and relationship now? 

TIA",3.0212260967379048,5.799653220472442,3.836046119235096,83.71726377952756,79.78740157480314,7.4080989876265475,24.032058492688407,8.418075326091056,1.9129239595050616,537,19,97,12,14,171,97,127,0.049,0.7140000000000001,0.237,0.9855,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,8,1,0,3,6,11,0,2,7,0,16,1,1,1,1,24,20,12,0,5,2,1,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,7,12,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,3,4,3,9,8,10,11,10,11,0,0,1,0,13,3,0,3,6,76,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112008943534694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126710030638468,0.30552728818334146,0.18857394936191987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811017427441274,0.0,0.0,0.13790904056037684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926370818476458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650487518556132,0.0,0.0,0.32566467035122953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18921478965661653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902431119047012,0.0,0.09816515170525032,0.1448758282096002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438604598390329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684694258602676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704478274062173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740946073052331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544494469213446,0.0,0.0,0.16430362922157393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764164080800895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285247583484892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978590356320112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475263134930636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071893069488164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727079319300204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077701965142072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530297657100653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24540165276776355,0.0,0.0,0.11123099755043864
parenting,nb0724,2020/01/07,Advice... am i wrong? So there was a heated discussion/argument the other day in my house. I typically try to save money where i can and ask everyone in the house to try to do these things like shut the lights off when you arent in the room and not run water longer than need etc. Well the other day i for the first time broke that rule by falling asleep with the light on i had worked overnights been up all day no sleep and passed out watching something on the ipad WITH the light on. Problem i have is my 19y/o deccided she was going to reprimand me which i didnt think it was her place to do so. I told her i pay the bills so its not her place to tell me what i can and cant do in my own home. Honestly i found it very disrespectful and the fact that my wife didnt stand behind me on this upset me as well. I feel that the children ( not that it matters but my stepchildren)  who are now young adults don't know their place. I told her when she contributes to the house hold then she can voice her opinions on such. My wife on the other hand always side with the kids. So i told my wife then she could pay the bills since the little things i ask around the house are just too much for everyone. They totally ganged up on me my wife called me an asshole and other names. I need advice please help.,3.738552685526855,4.2563093763837685,4.128161131611319,92.28128638786389,71.47232472324723,7.645838458384586,22.804633046330466,7.594959193182576,0.5730268962689622,1015,21,237,11,18,318,146,271,0.057,0.8690000000000001,0.075,0.8265,5,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,2,2,15,9,0,1,20,0,22,4,3,0,3,32,34,16,0,4,5,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,19,11,1,1,4,0,5,4,9,4,2,1,11,7,42,5,32,22,5,40,0,1,1,0,29,24,0,1,12,168,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159943312794788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919600466541201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838468359563304,0.20663931048747075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285150124780664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823983852179325,0.0,0.0,0.21382540635218675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325707529017188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21120986924112115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588135350561135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400677641867453,0.0,0.12117756884473865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281007466763103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407806077878153,0.0,0.1108588269741708,0.0,0.0,0.5100929392947121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060737945988835425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053993639872016067,0.11076833179382964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124363828989471,0.16389578044205838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464041806559029,0.12131586265789188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575105003897224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142184763181647,0.0,0.11059807604913093,0.0,0.0,0.08508235681518342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659783147583158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146846843674191,0.07081563917000779,0.0,0.0,0.06444408680164163,0.0,0.0,0.3168148038616817,0.0,0.15006928933194566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911891398018706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987383788458721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045861033435064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083436904666348,0.0,0.0
parenting,fishonmyside,2020/01/07,"4 year old stage fright - advice needed! Hi! My daughter is a happy and social kid with many friends and wonderful reviews from teachers at school. However lately she has developed a case of stage fright. Recently she had a holiday performance at school. She was so excited each day to practice her songs, get dressed up and perform. However at the time of the performance she walked out and instantly started crying and continued to cry through the whole thing. She said she was nervous because there were so many people. This has happened any time she has had an “event” like a Halloween parade or a school bike ride. Cries through the whole thing no matter how excited she was leading up to it. 

Yesterday while out at a store I encouraged her to grab a book and sit in a little area to check it out. Excited she ran over but as soon as she noticed other kids and parents she came back and said she couldn’t sit there because then everyone would look at her. 

I’ve never had stage fright personally but I’m afraid if this progresses she won’t be able to enjoy group activities in the future. I want to help her overcome this but I am not sure what the right approach is. Any advice greatly appreciated! TIA!",4.8175438596491205,6.723780754385968,5.083333333333336,81.17833333333336,70.40350877192982,8.575438596491226,30.64912280701754,9.150863307647796,2.7483491228070167,964,41,176,20,18,304,139,228,0.075,0.762,0.163,0.9711,4,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,5,7,15,0,5,15,0,17,0,0,2,2,30,29,20,0,5,6,2,1,1,1,2,0,3,0,3,9,14,0,0,1,4,2,6,5,5,0,0,11,5,21,10,28,14,3,44,0,0,1,0,30,16,0,3,18,118,30,6,0.12165423565706825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377582222217489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654581038966066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354459795246656,0.0,0.1483185858055141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914003653351525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008943962794047,0.07845691779499814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624583554806475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398976069227152,0.0,0.06355931703740858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412422428909754,0.0,0.0,0.10757843882226237,0.1295031960082692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154226979970336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723127670669966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059434114549243924,0.12192950384282568,0.0,0.0,0.1021589185497572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466766011379031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020507426449327,0.09382724628446623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850415361441706,0.12765565587695685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508263188902647,0.0,0.0,0.08433972930782678,0.10622378615313606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011888123501008,0.0,0.0,0.10389205254368564,0.2314420732990441,0.0,0.0,0.36936174388386667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401117297323265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861074941489875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465767738804572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164333704515071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187512625816873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175482014309938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716452191757958,0.0,0.0,0.1319288291478358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641967858024292,0.0,0.0,0.07834133917236126
parenting,Snotface612,2020/01/07,"Toddler sleep avoidance 🤦🏼‍♀️ So, my toddler has quickly learned sleep avoidance. He’s 27 months and the sleep avoidance started while we were in NY visiting family for Christmas break. He stated he wanted water one night which we gave him because the relatives house we stay at is very dry compared to the environment he is used to sleeping in. That has quickly escalated. One more book, one more kiss, water, milk, toys, doesn’t like his pajamas. I ignore most of what he says and just continue to sit in his room while he works through whatever is going on (he’s not a good sleeper and doesn’t fall asleep well). But, two hours for bedtime each night is starting to take its toll since I don’t have any “adult time” before I go to bed myself. Any advice?",4.476307977736546,5.984573687074832,4.793246753246756,84.49948051948053,70.63265306122447,7.522325293753865,29.69016697588126,8.00094639256281,1.9718489795918368,600,24,115,8,11,189,104,147,0.08900000000000001,0.873,0.038,-0.7516,0,3,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,1,5,8,0,3,4,0,11,9,5,1,0,18,19,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,7,3,4,1,2,0,4,4,4,1,4,2,1,11,4,14,17,4,26,0,0,0,1,17,6,0,1,13,64,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890002979451314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072417632477968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288697416707432,0.0,0.12966072348193947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364649900642668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319754521343614,0.12780573029626455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005963205647518,0.1758214056105869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744431998565255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162504178077005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28598904247626306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097616929007111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117548355968645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260469731368384,0.0,0.6099440377487733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157049850811388,0.1624125047823094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114567762510826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885165076326522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884917704086675,0.0,0.0,0.1316039102462286,0.0,0.12572612950536804,0.08987529228110193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700429245605436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093151755458283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cosmobella20,2020/01/07,"My children stay sick basically 100% of the time. Someone is always sick. No one is EVER well. I just got over Flu B. WTF I have three children. A 17-year old daughter (when she gets sick she's basically self-sufficient and obviously a lot easier to care for) an almost 6-year old daughter (she's only sick sometimes) and our sick bomb of the family, our 2-year old son. Not to mention, my husband is in full-blown kidney failure (we're only 34 and 35.) 

Last year, 2019 was the worst year of my entire life. Our son had something like 10 ear infections over the span of 8 months that they finally put tubes in his ears and removed his adenoid. Every three weeks he had bilateral inner ear infections and his eardrums would either bulge or rupture and he'd become extremely ill. This all started with Croup, which he had twice last year. He also had strep twice. He was on oral antibiotics all of the time and always had diarrhea to the point of blistering rashes. He never slept. Then our 5-year old would get puking viruses nonstop, and then he'd get them, and then we'd get them and be trying to care for them, and the only one in this house that lives some semblance of a normal life is our teenager. 

 I was laid off from the job I'd had basically for my entire career, and we went broke along with my husband's medical bills. I eventually found another job, a better job with better pay, but ended up having to find a ""supplemental"" source of income to help negate some medical bills and childcare costs. I did this by serving tables, but I brought home Influenza B last week and rang in the New Year with that, and have now passed it to my husband and kids. Once again, the teenager seems to have dodged. This is the first time in my entire 35-years that I had flu and I'd rather NOT EVER have to deal with that again. We all had the shot, but this particular B strain wasn't covered. 

 Is this normal parenthood? Sick kids quite literally... NONSTOP. It is staggered, someone is always sick. No one is ever entirely well and I don't remember the last time anyone in this house was all healthy at the same time. What on God's green earth am I doing wrong? Someone tell me this will calm down. We'll ""outgrow"" it.  I am exhausted with life anyway, but this is just more dramatic than I can handle. I just want some kind of break.",4.307147319104633,5.805212619469027,4.788511192087455,84.40961218115565,71.0353982300885,7.7955231650182215,26.568453930244665,8.313332769828598,1.6709401874023957,1832,60,359,28,34,582,227,452,0.11800000000000001,0.823,0.059000000000000004,-0.9763,5,0,1,0,0,0,67.0,9,0,4,4,15,14,0,1,20,0,42,24,6,0,9,63,56,28,0,6,12,7,0,1,0,4,18,4,1,4,19,27,0,0,4,0,4,5,8,5,2,8,19,5,41,9,45,29,12,60,0,1,1,0,41,17,0,7,37,230,60,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485730345564955,0.0,0.0,0.05978232058572256,0.18660886180748232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838815052087543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05227111097506306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256209335676523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223115739957605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243738316120214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707012046474877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621159888421138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028631586959296,0.06298512722235268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047327350160149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189150888020721,0.06832560041597491,0.06358738817543275,0.0,0.08196606033982615,0.0,0.0,0.15622763132486348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059789176681949774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501073495494092,0.0,0.07498633111388553,0.0,0.0,0.17251670024309534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22255128955780126,0.0,0.0,0.07784683689379678,0.0,0.24374436580220815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840705294455795,0.036521989885660834,0.0,0.06601088931994062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355485067863127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150617546028049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05966950042880222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057656411066096626,0.07219977970985557,0.0,0.0,0.1464899528527627,0.0,0.0,0.3137752523542845,0.07961266612877584,0.15196973581050688,0.17056584684717427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066855300617278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515039555768828,0.0,0.07951217384165049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468393891731202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805502561199049,0.07798677827486948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900214672337432,0.057550796397833004,0.07393556383824222,0.0,0.052912658903722584,0.07967991526957975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534001101795621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179540305061046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050754395148401917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04409300677546688,0.0,0.11992945660757118,0.0,0.13442918609129414,0.06929953126627039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620898960022758,0.08173391559863492,0.0,0.43326353168100656
parenting,singledadthrowaway1,2020/01/07,"Fear of loosing my kids Fear of loosing my kids

Alright, this is a pretty messed up situation so if this is the wrong place to post, I’ll take it down. I did see the rule about not asking for legal advice. Because I’m not asking for specific legal advice, I feel it’s okay but if you disagree let me know, I have no problems with taking it down 

For those of you who haven’t read my last post, I’m a single dad of twin boys (five months old). Their mom passed due to complications during childbirth. Her parents blame me for this, and we haven’t spoken since. 

This morning I received word from my boss that her parents had contacted the company I work for claiming that I was stealing from the company and I should be fired immediately. My boss told them that there was no money or equipment missing, and that I had a perfect record so no action would be taken. They responded by saying that they were taking me to court to have custody of my children so it didn’t matter that my boss wasn’t going to fire me because they had other ways to get to me (this was all via email so I have proof of their scheming should I need it) 

My fear now is that they’re actually going to have my boys taken from me. My kids are happy and healthy, been accepted into daycare (starting at the end of the month), I can provide for them well, I work from home so I spend all my time with them so I see no logical reason why. Additionally, I never abusive to their daughter, I provided for her when she dropped out of school and her parents refused to support her (they claimed she was too lazy to finish school when In reality she just hated it and couldn’t justify spending the time and money on something she hated and wasn’t going to pursue a career in) etc. Im just afraid they’re going to paint an awful picture of me and I’m not in a mental or financial place to fight back. They come from quite a wealthy background so they can afford the best lawyers in the country until someone takes me down

Any advice Is appreciated. Can they technically do this? What would yall do in my situation? 

Thanks In advance",4.224460431654677,5.420814359712232,5.111575539568347,83.17254316546764,70.87050359712232,7.38254196642686,28.048681055155875,7.675431598112923,1.6172574580335737,1656,59,325,19,30,540,206,417,0.16399999999999998,0.726,0.11,-0.9741,4,0,1,0,2,0,34.0,1,3,13,6,17,21,3,4,16,3,37,0,0,4,5,49,66,24,0,9,10,6,3,0,0,4,0,1,1,6,23,16,0,1,5,1,4,9,14,12,1,1,16,6,62,9,54,42,5,45,0,1,2,0,49,16,0,4,16,236,85,12,0.0,0.11073723843940267,0.09120547232689633,0.0,0.0,0.2739900814554629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355739448317421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747487883192173,0.0,0.0,0.07186654233086234,0.0,0.11394718838453845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808264843107638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050927472099276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277962947574814,0.0,0.10423488400109647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155123485642525,0.047257217378953296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048830060189159016,0.0,0.21246653246210087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994920831520324,0.0,0.1845488367631719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375004999061264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095504507275396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136429482613188,0.07618403960910608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955712716554677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941877572713223,0.0,0.0,0.10946161568050224,0.14920102277358185,0.0,0.0,0.06930092095090191,0.07208368964627143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980726925729805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31133561622927597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529588600713246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902160462389874,0.09508449838055127,0.0,0.08943055323888052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940838765929004,0.09348733558738444,0.0,0.0,0.096094546728514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432476822814581,0.0,0.1891771553052474,0.14895429608604965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731276813630633,0.2101105054453208,0.0,0.0,0.07919008610336897,0.0719516471755654,0.0,0.0,0.06615291538702392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605961931027874,0.0,0.0,0.2810873006614451,0.0,0.0,0.08604729256980037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089969382530258,0.0,0.0,0.08930698772628777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418581977556649,0.0,0.0,0.08403360138473621,0.0,0.08433495710564336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608296149079865,0.0,0.0,0.13278550819283913,0.1021860725745206,0.0,0.0
parenting,HokieGirl07,2020/01/07,I know jumpers (and walkers) are bad for babies but it’s the only thing that keeps my baby happy for periods of time when she’s sick! So recent studies have shown that jumpers and baby walkers are bad for baby’s development (I believe Canada even banned them).  But my 6 month old has had a cold and my in-laws brought my niece’s old jumper and my baby LOVES IT. My husband however is by the book and HATES it citing all the research but I just need 20 minutes at dinner time to eat in peace and it’s the only thing she will sit in for that long and be content especially when she’s sick! Anyone else have this dilemma?,2.4780816034359354,4.276259456692916,3.6859556191839684,89.1998282032928,76.48031496062994,5.878024337866857,24.14387974230494,6.574015621080383,0.698313385826772,489,16,101,4,11,159,78,127,0.185,0.708,0.107,-0.8956,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,5,5,1,0,5,0,9,5,0,0,1,16,15,13,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,10,7,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,13,2,10,11,1,15,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,10,63,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103118475383736,0.20666234258559985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33681702717378176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22724337340173645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063863154407811,0.16849190575446807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321892153735618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21471013497623986,0.0,0.1991339632047862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927750084554894,0.0,0.0,0.11084735916350012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849543805624127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820393561778625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099256706363568,0.0,0.0,0.1495557196104595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232940027529772,0.0,0.0,0.3067992116572704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915138775043909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679969590307101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522220645981098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,confusedmum80,2020/01/08,"What would you do if your 17 year old wanted to ‘smoke’ essential oils? My daughter recently turned 17 and has brought up the topic of purchasing an essential oils diffuser. I am extremely torn on the topic and was hoping to gain some insight/opinions from fellow parents. 

She has first mentioned it late last year (she was 16 at the time). Obviously I was extremely saddened and disappointed when she had brought it up. I strictly declined to purchase it and quickly ended the conversation. As you might imagine, she was a bit disappointed at first but eventually forgot about it.

However, she recently mentioned it yet again. This time, she was sure to show me everything on the website stating that it was pretty much harmless. The ingredients were all natural/organic and while the manufacturer did make it clear they would not encourage use in minors, it did mention that it was perfectly legal to do so. The website also states that there is no nicotine, tobacco, or vitamin E acetate (I was completely unaware of this at first which was one of the the main reasons I was so against it). 

I told her I would look into it and get back to her. The thing is, I’m not afraid of saying ‘no’ but she daughter suffers from anxiety, stress and insomnia on a daily basis—all reasons she wanted to try the product in the first place. 

I’ve since looked into the website myself and everything does appear to be completely safe. However, I’m a bit torn on is the fact that despite the products being perfect legal, the manufacturers discourage minor consumption solely due to the fact that they do not wish to encourage the “hand-to-mouth habit that may lead to unhealthy habits, such as smoking”. I agree with this statement 100% as this is the only reason I’ve yet to agree to allow her to purchase the product. 

So, I thought I’d reach out to fellow parents (of teenagers), what would you do in this situation? What are your thoughts/opinions?",6.723540547142161,7.772518058988767,6.953263312164147,72.7796213971666,65.03932584269663,10.011529066927212,36.82657547630679,10.074871250255047,3.950858475818272,1543,76,259,34,23,498,186,356,0.113,0.762,0.125,0.6904,4,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,0,5,2,8,13,14,0,2,25,0,34,2,0,7,8,52,52,21,0,9,7,4,0,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,27,12,0,3,6,1,3,4,5,6,0,5,19,5,30,8,43,25,6,44,0,4,2,0,32,16,0,7,22,198,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888336780909354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497880616867981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541658864122614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425494874821823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329385105066292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972101856421695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838727910757764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199669920992574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779513084454463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058036702883263125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033128212631907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054812658662396,0.12530736961553604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865648367259256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741493018881075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784236183570435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165937755853754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165637662081633,0.0,0.07527326060217203,0.08448423872741805,0.0,0.0,0.24669083738009506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605893241388993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301216422709487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34263795511905515,0.21936371080901346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833829968290652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188967074846234,0.12486285015771485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724612240622207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469517084235734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379914355929224,0.0,0.0,0.08818813235909005,0.1295477190908861,0.0,0.0,0.10614533531172074,0.0,0.07541861132419901,0.12082728045993905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594074082689602,0.0,0.0,0.13104021160693174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277408926852464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156429894346861,0.0,0.0,0.1430686557675651
parenting,bootyeyequeen,2020/01/08,"My son (26 months) has a blankie that he sucks on Right after his 1st birthday, he took a liking to these 2 blankets that we got him when he was first born. These blankets are identical to each other. It was cute at first, but now not so much. He sucks on them whenever and wherever, especially when he's sleeping. I'm having to wash them constantly because they get gross real fast. It's weird being out in public and he has a blanket hanging out of his mouth. These past few days I've been hiding them, only giving them to him for nap time and bed time. But I can tell he's going through withdrawals. As much as I try to distract him with other things, he gets occupied by trying to find his beloved blankies. Does anyone else's kiddo have a stuffed toy or blanket they suck on? How do I get him off of ""needing"" them?",3.77118181818182,4.9253595272727315,4.361590909090912,88.28238636363638,71.9090909090909,6.954545454545455,27.083333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.2211515151515155,642,22,133,6,12,204,110,165,0.122,0.812,0.066,-0.8628,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,7,2,5,8,3,1,4,0,11,3,2,1,0,16,23,12,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,10,8,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,6,0,2,5,0,19,2,23,17,4,26,0,0,0,0,27,9,3,1,15,85,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513358082372032,0.1980201926528215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781098021147154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088480232092905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246382756362007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16912525010016793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144595682264198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663835479881387,0.32877783919586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30291492065199044,0.1853949278956457,0.10983548960866242,0.0,0.15456961577473352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944182585752108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426022344834675,0.0,0.2841402382143107,0.14330163898789613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469847826121072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449085233645876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199749496723653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650450546016233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340199636623898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891987744683876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839496735030556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22538574786599325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472166472689325,0.26242500038760025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,therealfauts,2020/01/08,"My wife and I lost a child, should we opt for Anti-Depressants? Tragic story, she was an angel, she had a super rare genetic mutation and we were forced to make some life altering hard decisions. Its been 4 years, we're not over it. We never will be. In the time since Ellie passed, we had a son and he's 3 now, a complete handful. Constant conflicting emotions cross our minds. Our 8 year old has anxiety, but we know she's sensitive because of everything she went through. Like I said, we aren't moving on like we want. There's always a fear in the back of our minds. I get it, we have a lot on our plates but to those out there who are on anti-depressants, can it help cope with tragedy? We regularly use Cannabis (we live in Canada and its legal). Do we wait until our son is a little older and less ""terrible 2/f%\*$ 3's"" age? I've never been on any medication, but I'm considering it so my wife will too, we're a team and I know she wouldn't unless I did. Will it actually make a difference to our thought process? Ugh! Sorry for the hard questions, life can be so tough. We are so grateful four our 2 healthy kids, we love them to death...but can we be better parents?",1.8636704545454563,3.7569643291666717,3.562045454545455,88.95477272727275,78.625,7.03030303030303,23.40909090909091,8.00094639256281,1.176125,909,30,197,16,22,303,144,240,0.14800000000000002,0.737,0.11599999999999999,-0.4793,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,21,0,1,4,8,11,0,1,13,0,25,5,1,3,2,46,39,14,0,3,5,5,3,2,0,5,3,1,0,2,9,22,0,2,5,1,0,4,5,6,0,1,11,4,34,5,21,20,3,26,1,2,0,1,41,10,0,3,14,126,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.14070013999328645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199703828518532,0.0,0.0,0.09804822093722117,0.0,0.11029829170236193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086651172140112,0.0,0.08789157573836727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751663365165047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117133870752889,0.15580875243341946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483662664725678,0.0,0.0,0.15063875993553286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218454423474465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958084599418315,0.0,0.0,0.16224403529022896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532877281607157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25831623031173856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664167903241376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584765319078771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036790172140732,0.14087939018505566,0.14450752970090472,0.12731472000951427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739090923214405,0.12257777622384115,0.1301292428413118,0.0,0.1924842604389352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452474803675197,0.0,0.0,0.2911640015328326,0.0,0.0,0.15324189281164086,0.0,0.0,0.2224029976646936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129400925724545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009625910512107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151604149724585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371494233438911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926825246908912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139914911836195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446383852841704,0.08407326928845807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452634127220615,0.0,0.0,0.08504186006020666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365749970725785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856960463293933
parenting,RealOzome,2020/01/08,Help My Twelve-year-old son is afraid of Selective Services after he Googled it. I can't let my boy ever be in Selective Services. How do I make sure he dosen't have to sign up?,2.4309909909909915,3.889397324324329,3.5713513513513497,91.4247747747748,75.75675675675676,7.095495495495496,28.54954954954956,7.793537801064563,1.596592792792792,139,6,31,2,3,45,32,37,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,5,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,5,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,18,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981017461597024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949942731733866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500389634603728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937746688282177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4618179934700792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147953973800008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28341431340269785
parenting,ScottyCoder,2020/01/08,"Why are English swear words short, phonetically correct and so easy for children to pick up? Yet we try so hard to prevent children learning them. Just food for thought. Not overly useful I know but intrigued to see what other parents think.

Ever wondered why those naughty words you don't want your 5 year old learning are so easy to spell, sound out, repeat, etc?

Words like ""because"" sound like they could be spelt ""becus"". Since a child would struggle to read ""because"" via phonetics why can't swear words follow the same logic? Yet f**k and many other 3 and 4 letter swear words are spelt and sound exactly as a child would expect! Is this coincidence? Were swear words created by children? Secretly constructed to be so simple and catchy that other kids will easily pick up them up even against all the adults trying to stop it?

P.S. My 5 year old just can't appear to pronounce ""vegetables"". Always comes out as ""venjetables"" even having heard it pronounced correctly a million times. If only ""vegetables"" were a swear word!",5.228006756756756,7.702338378378383,4.673969594594598,82.1466300675676,70.62162162162163,7.2195945945945965,28.319256756756765,8.07648339933343,2.047493243243244,820,31,138,12,16,247,121,185,0.085,0.8009999999999999,0.115,0.9151,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,2,3,0,11,3,0,1,6,0,16,3,0,3,5,46,27,13,0,6,5,1,1,2,0,3,0,4,0,7,9,9,3,2,8,1,0,3,4,1,0,1,4,6,8,2,20,17,3,20,0,0,1,0,17,7,0,3,12,82,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336825936706231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19587457382730947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383949889303283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827451603018275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917917739885367,0.2122297876008952,0.1453268239890186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942715866975787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392045284182328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829493295662602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698143014122296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288475870587635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33717281021452394,0.0,0.0,0.12218972120241647,0.0,0.0,0.17839472247550714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070420232426133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802579721028376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290021214918746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431956022032918,0.0,0.1679574732149242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294490554464576,0.0,0.12754666987159508,0.0936825608927879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21815617279596972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875928279847555,0.0,0.0,0.09476185832849483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43491394608347705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174229703206269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22825753927285394,0.0,0.0,0.20692047918483425
parenting,NICUnurse,2020/01/08,"ABC’s recognition My kindergarten-aged son is having a difficult time fully grasping his ABC’s and letter recognition/sounds. Does anyone have recommendations for programs (online or to purchase) that helped their kids? We do flash cards, lots of reading, singing, writing practice, etc., but he just seems to have a mental block. Thanks so much!",7.0267241379310335,9.932679258620693,5.41331034482759,76.91272413793105,66.75862068965517,7.398620689655173,32.289655172413795,8.238735603445708,2.7708993103448285,279,12,41,4,5,81,52,58,0.1,0.8340000000000001,0.066,-0.2598,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,7,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,7,3,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,3,1,24,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24353398121201536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047928222526752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884378328411737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334528977119179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29610554515449644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35099658492696245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560348175970005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483864195913256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170721077017193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206606326468603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20309196334349644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,akai21,2020/01/08,"AVOID BUGABOO PRODUCTS! HORRIBLE CUSTOMER SERVICE! I bought a Bugaboo stroller from a local retailer, and it came out to be defective (The retractable handle does not extend the entire way to lock).  I took it back to the local retailer and they asked me to contact Bugaboo myself for replacement.  After a few emails with Bugaboo, they have sent me the replacement product, but this is when the nightmare starts. 

Although I did receive the replacement after 10 days of the request when I opened the box the replacement product is used and battered, not a new product.  Please note that I did advise Bugaboo the defective product was purchased new 3 days ago when I called in.  I called them again to express my concerns and dissatisfaction but after a lengthy phone conversation, their ""Tier 1"" support staff was not willing to assist in the situation, and have suggested to email their ""Tier 2"" and wait for a reply.   

I ordered this stroller approximately a month ago to prepare for a trip planned for next week, of which I have also advised Bugaboo, and as much as I understand their stance to have their customer return their product to them before sending them a new one but this would not be an issue at all if Bugaboo replace their products properly in the first place. 

I'm not entirely sure if customer satisfaction means anything for this company, so for all parents reading, beware when buying products from this company.  I'm not saying their products are bad (I wouldn't know as I have yet to use one), but their customer service is subpar.",9.598344507478082,9.088845361010831,8.569749871067563,68.86224729241877,59.28880866425993,10.802372356884993,43.612429087158326,9.957137785484203,4.618622692109334,1243,66,195,20,14,386,144,277,0.096,0.877,0.027000000000000003,-0.9523,1,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,13,2,9,6,0,1,22,0,18,0,0,2,3,35,33,23,0,4,12,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,9,11,0,2,3,1,5,6,7,4,0,3,8,1,29,2,33,20,4,40,0,0,0,0,31,9,0,2,23,147,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578360550993405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630312169597737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967938317689555,0.0,0.13596069543529365,0.0,0.0,0.1118293885504382,0.12143090221743034,0.0,0.0,0.12375320138102168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970077388348433,0.16633718620860624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758515909224216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726984060320526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370566536794672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179479478918076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992645113335371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584197226345361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160836364650344,0.0,0.10691036023619804,0.0,0.0,0.4213817572024886,0.15467018286184608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970990141668072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148669681182198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194705916173468,0.1596423160277594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454728617360681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565456073899928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347335345423594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029385836388407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503621842214766,0.13706935767080786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161581975652135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140140807204874,0.0,0.25121570773126184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543834718554295,0.11665798558925415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331178951952663,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alf6894,2020/01/08,"A father needing of some advice/way to go about potty training. So our son just turned 4 and basically has no
Interest in being trained to use the toilet. My wife and I started training him on and off for the last year and a half (more off than on). Next weekend we were planning on getting him to start using it and we are taking this much more serious then we have been.

We’ve already agreed not to tell him that he has to or make him feel bad about it.

If our son doesn’t want to do this at all, should we make him do it anyway?

He will literally fight us and flat out refuse to try the potty if we don’t do this right.

Every idea is good to share. We have something for a reward already so I have some glimmer of hope we can get this going.",2.481666666666669,3.6220391146496813,3.7927547770700656,91.17325106157114,75.05095541401275,6.252441613588111,23.274416135881104,6.42735559955562,0.4196670912951164,579,16,130,4,12,190,100,157,0.073,0.8170000000000001,0.11,0.7190000000000001,0,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,10,0,0,2,6,8,1,0,6,0,18,0,0,4,1,33,34,12,0,6,5,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,14,0,1,2,1,0,2,4,3,0,1,2,1,18,5,23,29,6,18,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,6,7,96,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121728692145447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559308447619954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734734653559926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442786175298684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951413319983362,0.0,0.21227191810285256,0.15663944590606882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854877369457104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108212572196796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222851363221926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493179801460577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372848466166356,0.13847488586623544,0.0,0.0,0.19861379461675494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948592954109042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377148230949144,0.0,0.0,0.26436928347393474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404149156441883,0.0,0.16323023878299947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679293912398693,0.2031334938005988,0.0,0.0,0.2246407068727553,0.3225890346583899,0.0,0.0,0.11015168060871564,0.14823573461011824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026272456349943
parenting,Tobar26th,2020/01/08,"Not sure how to help my son Over the last few months my five, nearly six years old son has started acting out more than normal. 

Now he’s not awful by any means. He interrupts a lot, throws tantrums when he doesn’t get his way, snaps at us and the like. 

He’s bright and socially adept, has a great imagination and loves to read. 

Somehow though I feel he’s really anxious as if we stop him doing what he’s doing he finds it hard to change his current activity. I’m possibly phrasing that badly but basically if we’ve sent him to get his shoes on and realised he’s not done his teeth and cal him back to do them he finds it upsetting to have to do his teeth first. 


I don’t know how to help him with his struggles. Can anyone give me any advice please?",3.4743706293706293,4.350811448717948,4.38834498834499,88.85968531468531,72.33333333333334,7.724009324009327,23.7972027972028,8.00094639256281,0.9687,590,15,132,8,11,191,103,156,0.115,0.7709999999999999,0.114,0.2293,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,1,7,9,1,2,4,1,11,4,3,2,1,27,21,13,0,3,6,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,6,1,0,3,5,4,0,3,2,3,18,5,17,19,3,20,0,0,1,1,30,5,0,4,12,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204829164985007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255417526722729,0.0,0.0,0.18734201040410928,0.0,0.11595300380849526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751392696006308,0.13846209298608655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542738032036814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697028534485954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384921786626558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031333544462398,0.14105590116107772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732798747920838,0.15908036070177214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828294408648334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855214804332798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230626381398572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113646943887882,0.13517452972085314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810167289982829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098372323296096,0.1496690976327729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18063874982149794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236485089771075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247932887007274,0.0,0.0,0.17401190807196162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820328170400182,0.0,0.18694971787422987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587603765460862,0.0,0.10623568833422203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904398542367755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737614955817485,0.0,0.0,0.1386422763475809,0.0,0.1733627356872526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15629390707626886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629282740921447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19947446889646175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162905710397044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678983094517217
parenting,therealdonutman,2020/01/08,"19 m/o son refuses to hold my hand I was wondering if anyone has come across this problem before and has advice on how to handle it.

My 19 month old son is very independent and likes to run around the house exploring. Recently we've been taking him outside more, going to the park and zoo, etc... However, he **insists** on his independence and will not hold my hand or his mom's hand. Whenever we try, he throws himself on the ground and throws a tantrum.

I would love to let him walk around outside, but I'm not comfortable letting him just have free reign. I need him to walk with me and hold my hand!

Anyone every had this happen before? Any tips on what we should do?",1.8412781954887232,4.206264819548878,3.108984962406016,89.69325187969925,81.25563909774436,6.506766917293232,21.530075187969928,7.7094869923839395,0.9277609022556385,523,16,108,9,14,169,89,133,0.053,0.805,0.142,0.9156,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,4,0,13,5,4,3,0,31,21,10,0,5,6,3,4,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,12,0,4,2,0,1,8,2,2,0,0,3,4,17,5,14,13,2,19,0,0,0,1,16,8,0,3,4,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226215717986471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683788874800522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608339080955805,0.0,0.0,0.3320791718815297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174242905919291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066779504227838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20801564834587946,0.0,0.0,0.15714853366270706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060018532313996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493627974304434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152154617376872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814523367521214,0.0,0.09112273659009107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683387854322882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844634042599054,0.14887601105685727,0.0,0.0,0.13829991888720056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957181122816816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847148478354646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416293836102074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023749738203906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663273261879504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389597711395367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20226962306499607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324962551758582,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway84838282,2020/01/08,"How do I get my 3.5 year old to stop throwing tantrums when leaving school? This seems to occur mostly when leaving school. To get out the building you have to go past an open area that has bikes and she always wants to play with them and throws a tantrum when I say it's time go to. I mean literally screaming at the top of her lungs and yelling no and falling out on the ground.

Things I've tried:
-compromising and letting her play for a couple minutes
-offering her to walk out on her own or carrying her out (which worked before the winter break) now she screams when I carry her
-talking to her beforehand and setting expectations

I'm not sure what to do. It's really frustrating as she's literally the only child that does this when it is time to go. Not even exaggerating and it's humiliating having parents and staff stare at me when she's falling out on the floor screaming. She's perfect at school otherwise for staff and tantrums at home are very mild and easy to deal with. I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I'm getting really embarrassed having to go to that school.

Any suggestions?

TL;DR how do i handle public tantrums?",5.361621621621623,6.40809065765766,5.543261261261262,81.68056756756759,68.09909909909909,8.622702702702702,30.56576576576577,8.841846274778883,2.3299203603603598,914,35,178,15,15,289,121,222,0.161,0.7759999999999999,0.064,-0.9582,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,1,1,3,11,14,5,1,9,0,11,1,1,2,3,34,24,20,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,13,18,0,1,2,3,0,9,4,9,0,0,0,6,21,5,32,23,2,42,0,0,1,0,22,17,0,3,14,114,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307720615510534,0.0,0.0,0.0924146329161124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477332606745535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156383537414086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036746653989594,0.0,0.0,0.14010385920228202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892439697760512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975869926614954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21300175019827686,0.0,0.3089336302110745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363157902585713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877906419345754,0.0,0.13896390906496775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803169308909458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260106092967845,0.0,0.0,0.10335580657930317,0.0,0.0,0.15089755708995226,0.0,0.12972908154756935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17411822021731765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807076388566564,0.0,0.5501401530321414,0.0,0.12371554201360226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136159928129442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561626639563492,0.0,0.0,0.10922887605313647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028394079565784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848528907679166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226515527533333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212927282721058,0.080155582680072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893464823860046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751322457187792
parenting,Nursingnursw,2020/01/08,"3yo (Possibly autistic) throws bad tantrums whenever she’s instructed to behave in a group or do a non-preferred activity Hello! I have a 3.5 year old daughter who we are pretty certain has autism but she will be fully evaluated by a developmental psychologist on the 24th. She has maybe 50 words and can’t express herself or her wishes well. She also does a lot of stunning by jumping and shouting/making vocalizations for stimulation and not speech. She is not potty trained.

We are running into the issue of the fact we want to socialize her more since I’m a stay at home mom. We’re thinking of adaptive gymnastics or preschool. However, she resists things she doesn’t want by crying and screaming and melting down. I don’t know what to do with this. She can’t participate in group activities because she literally does whatever she wants and when we stop her (which we do) it’s 5-10 minutes of crying and trying to figure out how to get her way. I don’t know if this is normal three year old behavior but it doesn’t seem like it is based on watching other kids her age.

What can we do to help her stop throwing tantrums so severely in response to directions or doing non-preferred activities? Thank you.",4.822801932367148,6.681302217391307,5.759420289855076,76.52903381642516,70.30434782608697,8.589371980676331,32.34299516908213,9.150863307647796,3.036270531400966,970,45,172,20,18,319,141,230,0.124,0.775,0.10099999999999999,-0.8622,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,1,0,0,5,8,2,0,9,0,22,0,0,2,2,43,33,18,0,6,9,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,11,16,0,2,5,0,0,4,8,4,1,1,0,3,27,4,25,31,2,23,0,0,1,0,34,9,0,7,9,118,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323775884857947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867128608427295,0.0939410127329305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385543390120783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697167487207257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051353211979702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329337168263644,0.0,0.15457993768411465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608456423345143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938421887149913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528794697331047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101460908262555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548192434396333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048598088629106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099023680020926,0.0,0.0,0.3234146692820465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373029768072573,0.0,0.15678024529973766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402914566151416,0.0,0.17409485077429995,0.0,0.12747729608563738,0.0,0.0,0.1570906992678592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425548702123927,0.0,0.2576774569641526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418792323274323,0.0,0.0,0.10238055265348506,0.09874429839052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046272183568946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726854670075245,0.12232142168564497,0.0,0.0,0.13855895401362406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772132108695501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847720906281754
parenting,piotrmcom,2020/01/08,"13 weeks old obsessive about thumb suck 2 days after discovering thumbsucking My daughter just discovered thumbsucking at the age of 13 weeks. Two days later, the skin or her thumb is like destroyed, the thumb is constantly red, there is some dryed skin layer all over it.

She tries to suck the thymb almost anytime she is awake. Any tries to stop her like putting a glove or just taking the thumb ends up with immediate endless cry. She even sleeps with the thumb and sometimes sucks it during the sleep.

This two days also made it almost impossible to give her pacifier and also made feeding a lot more challenging, she also spent significantly less time for a day during feeding (barely over an hour). She also do not operate her hands enough to take baby teether, even that sometimes (but not often) it is possible to offer her a teether by holding it (but most of the time she still rejects it and wants the thumb).

Did anybody had similar problem and has some advice? We already talked with the doctor and he only recommended to just stop her from sucking physically (like glove) due to skin condition on the thumb itself. But, this ends up with an endless cry.",8.838719590268887,8.371408211267607,7.972146820315839,72.39499359795136,60.78403755868546,10.937942808365342,35.79556124626547,10.230975488527342,3.566496713615023,931,35,161,17,11,289,122,213,0.129,0.833,0.038,-0.9648,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,1,13,12,5,1,17,0,9,9,6,2,1,35,20,14,0,2,10,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,10,10,2,3,0,0,1,1,2,8,0,2,5,5,14,4,24,15,8,27,0,1,1,0,18,6,4,9,23,108,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363722076222983,0.0,0.0,0.2328952301369089,0.0,0.12832888262617306,0.3719882140606159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908117289782927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566815361261496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25547816089043346,0.299989661917274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190277202686721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599680790007568,0.1201586337034628,0.0,0.1536168676273142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115559435027167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452220364920986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044022787672758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886558085735868,0.0,0.2200727782062657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220267699924786,0.0,0.0,0.08844376861304866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109947747807746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127380378855377,0.0,0.1169035475520234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327479227704536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002752384223096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286932677148538,0.19444725771415067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487118221056522,0.09346947945391484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561924288138424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579065233835187,0.0,0.2271968221230336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859084208453163,0.0,0.18656161194320145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdiosMFer,2020/01/08,Stepson just found out he’s having a baby. My wife wants to raise it since he’s only 17. I’m at a loss for words and don’t know how to react. I don’t want the baby to be in bad hands but I also want the stepson to get some responsibility. Any advice?,-1.3280451127819577,0.5777948421052663,2.2839598997493766,93.19105263157898,91.80701754385963,3.95889724310777,13.406015037593985,5.288315135182226,-1.187724812030075,194,3,47,1,7,71,43,57,0.077,0.871,0.051,-0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,4,1,1,2,0,13,11,4,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,8,9,1,3,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270957848586202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676846899725384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22762892424726824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794868524520674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36701585410815896,0.0,0.0,0.1748834130500768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395969927759065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545784182004108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27689338722192003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5923000010541609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,riceshortii,2020/01/08,"First Time Parent, Sleeping Question Hi all,

First time parent here, baby boy is 10 months old.  I have a sleeping question.  For some reason since he was 5 months, he did not sleep through the night.  No night feeding, he just needed comfort and he'll go back to sleep right in your arms.  Fast forward to now, he does not like sleeping in his crib alone at all.  For his naps, he will and can sleep on his own, at my parents he has his own playpen where he will fall asleep on his own.  When my husband and I are babysitting, he can pass out on the couch no problem.  But for some reason through the night, once he wakes up and realizes he is in the crib, he will cry and cry until you get him.  Since it is in the middle of the night, my husband or I will usually wind up falling asleep on the recliner with him until we have to wake up for work.

Since my husband and I ordered a new mattress for us coming Friday, we thought it would be cute to sleep in the nursery on the floor, just to see how it will go.  Baby boy still does the same thing, crying in the middle of the night.  Since we have been on the floor, baby boy will find his own comfortable position (head on my belly, leg, half propped up) and will eventually go back to sleep.  Once he falls asleep I had tried to move him back to the crib, no-go.  Wakes up instantly.  Falls asleep again and I laid him between the pillows, covers, by himself, and he sleeps the rest of the morning.

The past few nights I've also seen him toss himself around to adjust to another comfortable position and eventually, he will fall back asleep on his own, in another awkward looking position.  
Is there a way for us to comfort him or make him feel comfortable enough to sleep in his crib?  Baby boy seems to be more comfortable with things surrounding him (pillows, blankets) instead of a spacious crib with a few of his stuffed animals.  


In the beginning, we had tried to sleep train by putting him in the crib once he is drowsy, but it worked about 30% of the time.  This is all temporary, right?  He is a wild sleeper it looks like, but we want him to sleep in his own crib, for his own safety, and build his independence.  


Any tips and tricks and advice appreciated!  


Thank you!",4.972133004926106,5.55731032413793,4.981572249589494,87.01797413793102,68.7471264367816,8.145320197044336,29.09893267651889,8.07648339933343,1.7021346469622332,1721,59,361,21,28,535,186,435,0.048,0.89,0.063,0.8916,3,1,0,0,0,0,60.0,7,3,0,4,18,13,1,1,27,0,30,24,23,5,3,56,48,23,0,4,9,6,1,2,0,10,0,0,4,4,8,24,1,0,10,1,0,13,4,3,0,3,7,5,45,10,67,29,18,80,0,0,4,0,64,37,0,7,32,236,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656018818390979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05994677762607109,0.0,0.04628704232719592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039360748097353966,0.1213855737134735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051525946867403874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780262323410225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985895516268496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19073714703578287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130329114252468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059806064321208975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029266137231715887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05290175970921756,0.09846630572768418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030240190214105386,0.0,0.13157936588437336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940212667392141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05655501075061091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721014236807203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038635706060864736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239938044995252,0.06151784788408075,0.0,0.042917682743983686,0.0,0.05590138065403963,0.0,0.3259017627461145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060735884140377276,0.18492263987642715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928084507520074,0.0,0.05525351925955334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538385433931619,0.0,0.05818592363099031,0.12967888988267126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902165839450092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885931998941372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612329197835351,0.05269226453937481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19151750420655744,0.0,0.6950680185423771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046223469418517266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0532886194413752,0.0,0.0,0.0769065101220509,0.0,0.0,0.04595067887522358,0.10125181495040568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859416675392053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924631211846256,0.0,0.0637472311748942,0.0,0.03413943873294198,0.04594287396968102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427543657409124,0.0,0.0,0.041116670856772716,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemonsmith,2020/01/08,"3 Month Old and Sleep I'm the parent of a 3 month old. What's normal sleep look like for a 3 month old? My wife and I have tried all the tricks (white noise, bed time routine, naps during the day, etc.), but our son wakes up every 1.5 - 2 hours. Is this normal for a 3 month old? I'd love to get him sleeping longer, and am open to any advice.   


\-Muchas gracias from a sleepy dad.",0.9860846560846532,2.403225950617287,2.179647266313932,100.04555555555555,79.61728395061729,4.628571428571429,16.509700176366838,3.1291,-1.1660596119929454,286,4,71,0,7,91,59,81,0.017,0.8759999999999999,0.107,0.8253,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,7,0,3,5,4,0,1,8,7,4,0,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,7,7,2,13,0,0,2,1,7,2,0,0,12,29,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891071361614532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666922586767847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916772201372012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853868187533707,0.0,0.0,0.1197704191181881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426931446675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999252117482974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944899897071974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937310218247688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282990455917728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4538621347672241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785604129660697,0.0,0.0,0.5966645641711246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784459201878456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42676835760134935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828908243371789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651286656220184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crazy-modder,2020/01/08,"Dad here and need a little help/advice My son is going to be 10 years old next month and he still needs to wear a pullup to bed. He is such a deep sleeper that he just cant get up to go in the middle of the night. Its getting to the point where it’s affecting his childhood. He doesnt want to have sleep overs because he’s embarrassed and he really wants to do cub scout summer camp this year but is afraid of the diaper issue. I have tried setting my alarm for like 2am to get him up an go but thats not helping. Im not sure if this has anything to do with it but he does have adhd and does take meds for it. Hes in the 1% as far as his size goes. His pediatrician says he’s perfectly fine and nothing to worry about, that some kids just develop later than others. I just feel real bad for him and feel like im failing as a parent. I want him to enjoy his childhood with sleepovers and not have to worry about kids making fun of him. Please any advice helps.",2.103967391304348,3.2160644541062813,3.7068327294685983,91.52952445652174,75.95652173913044,6.527657004830918,20.666968599033815,6.9077264865688965,0.21211135265700465,750,16,173,7,16,250,121,207,0.09300000000000001,0.75,0.157,0.9555,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,9,12,0,3,10,0,14,2,2,2,2,32,29,14,0,6,10,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,10,9,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,0,3,14,7,31,28,1,26,0,1,0,0,25,11,0,2,13,100,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077125922774366,0.2614462848207428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097142078414984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008522508049824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169633271400813,0.08154784904252843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23413437932002565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528107129712194,0.09556871175643936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20967536453493227,0.0,0.2280818284520288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689991954318156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28899938269268216,0.13962608852784414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071117621343709,0.13407744847625802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892956877918673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859359553072213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677773321681927,0.0,0.0,0.1983845716715965,0.0,0.0,0.14227096966585334,0.12553854548929008,0.0,0.12836048542143808,0.0,0.1403741021173088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854103433804766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684450926950204,0.12646038336981666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226495829862485,0.08569953360067517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638305456270776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387136560520674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068326922083551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608112350083728,0.0,0.1005819673441878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082427749170742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367114495863419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717095147235833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229311258386404
parenting,drunkchrist,2020/01/08,"Has anyone done long international flights with their babys? Any issues to be aware of? My daughter would be around 8-9 months old when we would do this flight. There would be an additional 8 hours or so of ground travel as well, but we could break that up fairly easily if needed. Has anyone done anything like this what was your experience?",5.061093749999999,6.9689291718750015,4.889500000000002,82.80550000000002,69.78125,7.620000000000001,22.175,8.238735603445708,1.0335975000000004,273,6,52,4,5,84,53,64,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.8146,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,1,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,13,0,0,0,0,13,14,6,0,6,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,5,2,7,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,6,37,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059830434509974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30969566477838256,0.0,0.18224018145114226,0.19714361649870105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681533598203145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4532546487571086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166273687197932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21809046385436967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311434953239268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081926682414028,0.0,0.0,0.1959824114263216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676480619579554,0.0,0.0,0.1642075051947346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323817916727081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991163731531441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4719499407910248,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,djavuln,2020/01/08,"What caused my friends kid to be terrified of me from the age of her being 5 to 9. Hey, so this thing happened a couple of years ago, where me and my friends kids all played hide and seek. We played for half an hour or so and it was my turn to seek. I managed to find everyone right away except for the oldest girl. Took a couple of minutes then i found her too. Here\`s where I´m soo confused. She was hiding behind a old barn, and i found her by peeking at the opposite corner of the barn and i said something like ""Hey! Found you"" or something like that. I realized that she got scared when i just popped up like that but i didnt scare her intentionally. She then ran immediatly inside to her parents and were crying hysterically. I came after her and was so confused of why she reacted that way. Well i thought she just got scared and carried on without thinking about it anymore. Couple days later i see her again and she sees me and just starts crying and ran to her mother. The kid could not tell her parents what was wrong and i had no idea, which led to the akward assumption from my friends that i had done something to her. Sexually or physically. And the idiot friends joked about it which led me to feel so incredibly akward, because even if they laughed about it, they did not know 100% what had happened, I was aware of that mindset of theirs. Which i absolutely had not, never even touched her. And this continued for atleast 4 years, everytime she saw me, she stared crying, and ran to her mother.

So my question is that what could possibly have happened that caused her to be so afraid of me even though i had done nothing for her to feel that way. The kid is now like 12 and i was at a party where she also was and i asked her mom and dad (my friend) about it if they ever did get an answer and they said no, that they had forgotten the whole thing. Then we went to ask her about it and she couldnt remember, or thats what she said atleast.

I am a 26 year old man. 

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parenting,mxmoon,2020/01/08,"Morning Rush/Morning Routine? I have two small children 3 and 1 and am divorced. Mornings are difficult mostly because they are very resistant of everything (change of clothes, diaper, teeth, etc). I am very rushed in the morning and sometimes barely have time to get their hair to look cute or brush their teeth. I leave their clothes set out and everything else the night before and their bedtime is at 8:30 pm, but it takes them some time to fall asleep. Sometimes they wake up during the night, which means I don't get enough sleep either, so I'm tired and it's hard to wake up on time. 

I just realized that they need a morning routine and that I need to accept that I probably won't be getting much sleep so I should wake up the first time no matter how tired I am... so I will work on establishing one. amd on waking up on time, But I want to ask, what is something that you've done to help in the mornings?",5.539484848484847,5.8451567666666655,5.279595959595962,86.35590909090912,67.44444444444444,8.323232323232324,30.25252525252525,8.00094639256281,1.8337222222222225,718,25,148,8,11,221,106,180,0.091,0.843,0.065,-0.6803,0,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,0,0,8,2,5,3,0,0,6,0,15,12,10,1,0,24,26,14,0,4,5,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,8,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,3,1,4,19,2,21,21,6,24,0,0,1,0,12,13,0,3,8,94,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282671628839982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363824844378574,0.0,0.11675044753290655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451435761015675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040726697957492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461628638297346,0.0,0.0,0.1417683471157352,0.15301866150785776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24662010891872896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670560141386885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505018755759286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229077807877103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919649089578124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527916194993584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521675404344918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945531355326558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086068290912548,0.20346996625539135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575132067905047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929729407218324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792905340095666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746060544198505,0.0,0.0,0.10562629631721787,0.2713964102381322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316028776320857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000236043759875,0.31539149140992073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402831302916995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22641523959067644,0.08092643874095769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988610253131912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inspiredstone,2020/01/08,Toddler and Funerals We will be having a funeral in my family very soon. I’m hoping my husband will be able to come because I will have to bring my daughter. From what I know at this point she will be by far the youngest there. She is almost two and very active. Not great at sitting still. My husband will be the one to take her out of the main room if she gets too loud or active. Is there anything I should know before the service? Should I bring silent toys or would that be rude? Has anyone else been though this situation?,2.8989832285115327,4.707239820754719,3.4750314465408785,91.12583857442348,75.32075471698113,6.220545073375264,23.09853249475891,6.937597516519254,0.6088670859538783,415,12,87,4,9,130,72,106,0.107,0.8140000000000001,0.079,-0.485,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,5,0,19,0,0,0,0,16,28,6,2,5,4,3,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,2,1,1,13,2,10,14,1,13,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,5,2,66,17,1,0.22198809504573466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22228901107441024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521923753627542,0.2274530367137438,0.1826772876111199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353218823208744,0.0,0.1888955186881517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122308771264832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854425685205123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20927061957459744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597961744065645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447426584747419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22048426697302684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439977030938189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042487830004542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098505027115844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24952391976798585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17727997945723606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690742071509335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181021762873138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21685011272789534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663268537735447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769397357089215,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BerniesSurfBoard,2020/01/08,Tell me about your dogs! We are considering adding a dog to our family. We want a family member who will love and guard us. We have a toddler and infant. We have a decent sized yard that we plan to fence.,0.4885714285714258,2.79634023809524,2.5764761904761926,91.55185714285713,87.09523809523809,6.217142857142857,13.16190476190476,7.554174236665415,-0.1957580952380944,158,2,35,3,5,53,31,42,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,7,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,0,10,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,7,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7163080428671029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428919221573529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320661371869121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4569960342050449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240861947951293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beasalsa,2020/01/08,"Constipated Baby Hello first time poster, on mobile don't know the correct format. I'm sorry!!

My son is 8 months old and hasn't pooped in two and a half days. Does anyone have any tips or tricks? We tried to rub his belly, saucer, oatmeal, and gas drops.",1.105882352941176,3.5459963529411773,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,85.47058823529412,4.184313725490196,14.382352941176471,5.46131890053228,-0.9402705882352942,198,3,41,1,6,63,48,51,0.071,0.929,0.0,-0.3365,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,7,6,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,3,0,3,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,19,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418664450732432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24869134423617276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293764445691688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31124747479722514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025310299863319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546583830744296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28389081453843745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732137496238533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.398141221349639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739287846441096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24147523402308424,0.0,0.34743596791256304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zombie5nack,2020/01/08,"How do I help my wife stop yelling at our 2 year old? I have a wonderful 2 year old boy. We all get along 90% of the time, but he's a toddler, full of energy, and extremely opinionated (typical kid stuff).

The issue is, when my wife gets frustrated with him, she yells so close to him I'm worried about not only a damaged relationship, but also legitimate hearing damage. If it was only in cases of him need reprimand, that would be more tolerable, but it happens frustratingly often. 

For example, the other morning, she was trying to change his diaper, and he was trying to play with her, wiggling around, laughing and trying to play a game. She got frustrated immediately, and I went to help, and in the time it took me to cross the room, she was holding him down and screaming so loud, that when I went to (literally) pull her off him, my ears started ringing. He covered his ears and looked scared, and I took over the diaper situation. She then yelled more at me *and* the child, while I was telling her to ""walk away and cool off,"" saying that, I ""was leaving for work, so she had to do it anyway.""

I intervene when I'm home (telling her to go in another room and chill, or even take the car for an hour and leave us alone), but I know when I leave for work in the morning, I'm leaving my little buddy to get screamed at while I'm away. How can I encourage her to stop being dangerously loud?",6.216993939393937,5.655741560000003,7.0501818181818185,77.16993939393942,66.12727272727273,10.533333333333333,32.51515151515152,10.047579312681364,2.949824242424243,1079,39,221,22,15,361,146,275,0.138,0.758,0.10400000000000001,-0.8873,0,1,0,0,1,0,50.0,3,0,0,2,15,14,4,1,14,1,15,2,2,2,1,37,36,31,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,12,3,3,9,18,0,3,2,3,0,9,1,9,0,0,12,14,38,5,37,21,4,45,0,2,1,0,38,19,0,5,17,152,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155466793629861,0.0,0.08921770694335818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698460301444966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931563125376244,0.0,0.0,0.20963613957817076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801994090250133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368698340156046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486278833903446,0.0,0.06340440388414903,0.0,0.08922793881756418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865569494476746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574075940913487,0.0,0.14955802263973186,0.0,0.11190780900656468,0.0,0.10986808740147716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644385223321768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061312668054419275,0.0,0.0,0.4725207568455709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118164575315938,0.0,0.0,0.0936856791627518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272330763054657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341353450012153,0.0,0.0,0.1696989298225314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977800642368795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872018700966428,0.11169504709194293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540263347060684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896558797675078,0.0,0.0,0.1865450334063954,0.0,0.0,0.1277141120952983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388225915543926,0.0,0.19502374272396614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010775513763784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24790346365328264,0.22723394013843104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419778023091694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684192956212494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209864213063463,0.1624398713929739,0.11329867833589995,0.0,0.07925187928524732,0.0,0.0,0.1436871429547763
parenting,gooodfella,2020/01/08,"Help! Advice needed! My 18 month old nephew doesn't respond to voices or commands. At same time, he responds to nursery rhymes. He is capable of behaving intelligently and remember things. 

Any tips or advice I can get from other parents would be so great. Thanks in advance.",3.120816326530612,6.251775775510204,3.9971428571428578,78.87285714285716,87.16326530612244,6.06530612244898,27.40816326530612,7.447530270364453,2.252951020408163,219,10,34,4,7,70,45,49,0.0,0.708,0.292,0.9539,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,8,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,6,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,3,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5387900219884131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18747443222693114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403340294248432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30394235403772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847850346785963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200481726761128,0.0,0.0,0.2044160386642853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892837648018015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061142261480269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122959951039786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538125964785821,0.0,0.0,0.18315206159223732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075343616288024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19583785615226312,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImAMaterialGirl,2020/01/08,"Nap schedule for 11 month old? This wasn't brought up with the doctor at her 9 month checkup because she was taking naps twice a day 2 months ago. Now, she wakes up between 730 and 830, goes down by 11 until about 1 then usually from 3-5 or 4-6.

However, I've been noticing that when she wakes up at 6 before my husband gets home, she is mostly fussy and clingy for the rest of the night. We cosleep so she usually rolls around in our bed until about 930.

My mom also watches her and even though I've told her to make her stay in bed for naptime, she sometimes ends up walking around with her. I told her to stop letting the baby get out of bed when it's time to sleep. My mom just doesn't like when the baby cries. I don't either but I know she's tired and needs to stay laying down.

So should I stick with 2 naps and deal with the evening fussiness or try to keep her up later until 12 or 1 and see if she sleeps until 3?",4.649696969696972,3.8773421515151534,5.137070707070709,90.29227272727272,69.40404040404039,7.8060606060606075,27.09090909090909,6.1124844417494595,0.8158121212121205,718,18,169,3,11,230,121,198,0.05,0.95,0.0,-0.8028,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,7,0,8,7,4,1,0,28,19,23,0,3,7,3,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,0,3,14,0,2,1,3,0,2,3,0,0,1,6,2,24,1,37,11,3,41,0,0,2,0,23,14,0,5,24,106,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959184316970455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107889524486042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402015608135333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224144359803014,0.0,0.11480065071276264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481951107759877,0.08700743935319727,0.13908892407581705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808872061040153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949248287936423,0.0,0.0,0.1782169453212353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409724872677965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532829651919112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199164810704449,0.0,0.0,0.07414441401818933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379572319225681,0.0,0.06591146150638102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005518057566743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160159164878104,0.3230577517487987,0.0,0.0,0.10003595283880652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660629715508284,0.0,0.0,0.15359884232592924,0.14156803566804207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750784213213084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27001998196347576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343197030428466,0.0,0.0,0.2875976738706981,0.0,0.1127929400955486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014374541013578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325509039787708,0.0,0.07866859794243536,0.15506213983857525,0.0,0.2578294628636253,0.0,0.0915967714951087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971742463104049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drippyTrippy2233,2020/01/08,"What is this called and how do I stop it? My son is 6 years old and is in Kindergarten. He has recently started this terrible behavior that I don't know how to correct. He will be completely teasing, harassing, torturing, (I don't know what you want to call it) someone and won't stop. He will use the excuse ""I'm not hurting them so it's okay"" or ""They like it"" when they clearly don't. 

It started off as kind of a brother/sister annoyance thing. His sister is 3 years old. He would purposely try to annoy and aggravate her. He will get her upset and she's crying. I try to tell him to stop and he will use one of those excuses. I try to point out to him that she's crying she doesn't like it. It's not nice and he just doesn't understand or doesn't care. 
I have caught him either chasing the family dog around or holding and squishing her down. I've told him not to do that it's not nice. And he always say ""Well, I'm not hurting her""

If I say ""What if someone was doing that to you?"" He just replies ""I don't care.""

I just don't know what to do with this behavior. How do I manage it? How do I get through to him that that is not okay? Any advice is much appreciated. Thank you.",0.14700341491178293,2.2394367211155384,2.3387407512805933,94.26134960159365,86.17131474103586,5.8167899829254415,20.518070574843485,7.1686216300943375,0.4527528742174165,911,29,211,14,28,307,114,251,0.172,0.733,0.094,-0.9707,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,3,3,0,11,20,5,1,3,2,30,0,0,6,2,45,48,21,0,4,15,2,0,2,0,6,0,2,0,0,24,12,0,4,4,0,0,1,15,9,1,1,3,2,31,11,21,38,2,18,0,2,0,0,39,6,0,5,13,142,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219730968335435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405152980565156,0.0,0.0,0.08503821643912328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132091826871593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25537984750843057,0.0,0.2549934032691909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111243526421495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27472287454990685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788591142823797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066681731896382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677369969232125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022022197992647,0.20617245512592003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218612392813498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192606092117298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624376573522558,0.0,0.08473704486530402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821257004980912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347168473864795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888939056637925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119087397037292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177021917984697,0.0,0.0,0.31364193362786763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092991196358693,0.11512914192051073,0.0,0.0,0.08307759340804098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949053314016375,0.0,0.25470200973092305,0.0,0.0,0.13018135035027426,0.0,0.21600591750172188,0.0,0.0,0.07375766773795832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243487309106123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883185723315769,0.0,0.0,0.16105606433960004
parenting,PrTYlaDY90,2020/01/08,Putting everything in her mouth 😑 So my 8month old was playing nicely on the floor before bedtime which I thought was nice. For once she wasnt banging things together or pulling up on EVERYTHING. She crawls over to me to get some cuddles and as I'm holding her I see something white in her mouth and on cue she starts gagging. I thought it was some thick cardboard and start retrieving it from her mouth wondering where she could have gotten it from. It comes out a few seconds later and it is not in fact cardboard but a piece of rawhide the dog had gotten off of his big bone and dropped on the floor. To date it is the grossest thing she has done. I asked my husband how to sanitize her mouth and just said we can't. Lol,3.289252873563221,5.067244034482762,3.2825000000000024,93.05041666666668,74.17241379310343,6.488505747126437,28.63505747126437,7.1686216300943375,1.341471264367816,575,24,122,6,12,174,95,145,0.05,0.9129999999999999,0.037000000000000005,-0.5991,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,1,12,6,5,1,1,22,25,11,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,9,0,1,3,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,11,4,19,3,21,13,4,25,0,0,2,1,15,16,0,4,5,85,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071171482350989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852073441474565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908436853505142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688777292418986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267201680806933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982254889575402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157495043233402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324769928401214,0.2359410192452633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227165825081798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107425513096952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654479507092774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705582066365868,0.0,0.0,0.313625137299826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943728317460481,0.0,0.0,0.3517681777442785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402589784096151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thingalinga,2020/01/08,Highlights magazine in the mail when we didn’t subscribe We received Highlights magazine in the mail addressed to my son who is a minor. We didn’t subscribe for it and interestingly enough they got his first name right and used my maiden name as his last name. Not sure how they got the name and address. We didn’t subscribe for it and nor do we think friends or family got him a subscription. Is this a scam? Has anyone else had a similar experience? I am not sure what to do next. Thanks.,1.7043750000000024,4.387680687500005,2.7716666666666683,89.44000000000004,85.875,6.116666666666667,23.625,7.492282038375204,1.2432250000000002,390,15,78,7,12,124,59,96,0.084,0.825,0.091,0.1928,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,5,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,2,2,21,16,9,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,7,0,13,5,7,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,1,4,54,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515589659450704,0.2273602190335245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853668942218849,0.0,0.0,0.22927944215541946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170583410954773,0.2091852216668464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874590649448736,0.0,0.0,0.1714374638279393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.532415122331774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087608485088014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359905165628051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18949925894888486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182715494758128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042934120046768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218296295579014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916482011569905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,will_work_for_guac,2020/01/08,"Cool down tactics for stubborn 3yo So I have a particularly stubborn 3yo boy. When he's feeling good, he's very reasonable, charming, and sweet. But - whooo boy - does he have some epic meltdowns and I'm at a loss for the appropriate response. 

In a perfect world, I would send him to a cool-down spot (a child-sized chair in my bedroom) and have him stay there until he's calm. We've been working a lot on calming down and he is pretty good at it, but our major hangup is that he has trouble calming down when I or my husband are present (our presence prolongs the fight in him). BUT, he won't go to or stay in his cool-down spot by himself. 

This is what usually actually happens when he's melting down: he picks one parent and follows him/her around, crying and yelling at them until my husband or I take him to the cool-down spot. He tells us he doesn't want to stay and we have to physically block him from leaving. We don't restrain him, but we do have to hold the door or lock it, depending on what room we're in. He kicks and screams at the door and myself or my husband (trapped in the room with him) until he's calm. If we try to leave him be, he's out of the room within moments, still crying and yelling.

So how do parents send their kids to timeout? Am I expecting too much for his age (turned 3 at the end of October)? Does this sound typical? (I asked my mom, but she was no help because I was apparently the world's most reasonable 3yo and would put myself in timeout, lol) He's definitely at the point where I think my presence continues to escalate the meltdown; I'm not doing any soothing until he's good and ready. I just wanted some ideas on potentially better ways to react.",4.5767623604465735,5.0588526198830435,5.3089845826687965,84.68794258373207,69.58479532163743,8.089526847421585,31.04253056884636,8.00094639256281,1.9813637426900577,1324,53,278,16,22,430,171,342,0.099,0.777,0.124,0.8049,3,1,0,0,3,0,48.0,7,0,2,4,12,18,3,0,17,2,23,0,0,6,1,57,35,33,0,6,13,6,1,0,0,3,0,4,6,3,7,19,0,6,5,0,0,5,5,6,0,1,3,7,38,12,45,28,6,53,0,1,0,0,52,30,0,11,14,172,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.12182943735284943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489799363951943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113735690692178,0.11671200211932994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610355768495727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041410286906092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742698733911609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21850311751718487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057445815489406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312472330063636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095154886483528,0.3141389044681878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039886714269513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368009713363063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093333557310606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643828938935812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613764499471437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621542666093698,0.0,0.0,0.09177448048876644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459731867914068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772482979761578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801764477720986,0.0,0.0,0.1270109198838539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255023954858587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25672022219569257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992003035073629,0.09970033605518816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386692161374942,0.0,0.10911889209593084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999479875725574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476067391648777,0.1357940903374182,0.0,0.0,0.1501715934275458,0.0,0.13749769220435534,0.1030091230241606,0.14727209174161582,0.09909511405657026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088769680569037,0.0,0.0,0.17737075790544582,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,little--stitious,2020/01/08,"Should my four year old do a second year of preschool before kindergarten? My four year old’s birthday is mid September, born in 2015. He started his first year of preschool (two and a half hour long days) and right now we are deciding whether or not we should send him a pre-kindergarten program (4-5 hour long days) for next school year or if he should go right to kindergarten for full days. 

If we send him to kindergarten, he will be starting at age four and that seems young to me. Cut-off birthday in our state for school is December 1st. We were heavily leaning towards waiting. However his teacher called a meeting with me to tell me she strongly believes he should go right to kindergarten, that he is adjusting very well, smart, listens well, and plays well with the other kids (which, not gonna lie, he isn’t the best listener at home so I was a bit surprised to hear that part - but he is a very sweet, considerate kid).

 I keep thinking that even though he may *seem* ready now, it may be more helpful in the future if he had stayed back a year. He is also probably the smallest boy in the class so it would be nice for him to have more time to grow for sports, at the very least.

Wondering if anyone has been in a similar position or what your thoughts are?",6.324118663594469,6.1194775524193545,5.640345622119818,86.17516129032259,65.81451612903226,9.02119815668203,33.036866359447004,8.418075326091056,2.2678769585253455,995,38,208,12,14,301,143,248,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.9841,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,1,0,3,11,10,0,0,14,0,26,0,0,0,0,38,41,17,0,9,11,0,0,0,0,9,0,3,1,3,9,10,0,2,8,2,0,5,3,0,3,7,5,4,19,10,26,24,7,48,0,0,0,0,34,14,0,12,27,133,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878657546370899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768260677495324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448589747465435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349420952365818,0.12378974785659293,0.11530540235594293,0.0,0.11995334546795038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219307240091833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257784815240044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257037448428648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934582965782414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488722217737575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383535839066855,0.0,0.07364585445809475,0.0,0.11021202432817223,0.0,0.21640642291318626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766056670350874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446908343040256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685165573232285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305873966118415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189822343426074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846215758108575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814939662501095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239558533487766,0.0,0.20004931637505288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553798042228764,0.1171104737318117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603423419899182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040246735461493,0.1079501023051585,0.0872272427112043,0.06406808962577419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073303909770435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719712981443632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963682682129507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915306471250214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780509432306611,0.0,0.0,0.4245293791977037
parenting,brittpotter,2020/01/08,"Advice on Preschool Drop Off Hi There! My daughter will be 4 next month. She has been in daycare since she was 4 months old. We had done part time and at her new preschool she has been there 5 days a week since August. Its a great school - its through our towns school system and we love her teachers. Our one problem is dropoff. At our old center, we'd have some rough mornings but usually a teacher would help distract her. We expected some rough days at first when we started our new school and she did clutch on but shortly after broke out of it. But that sort of stopped but not completely. One of her teachers did get moved to the full day full year program (longer day and all year). At dropoff we put her coat away, wash her hands and she also practices writing her name or some other name activity (its how the teachers take attendance). Some days if she needs to use the bathroom or she is washing her hands I have been able to say goodbye and leave but she has caught on to that and downright refuses to do either of those. This also occurs at her dance/gymnastics class - she doesn't want us to leave the dance room and we are usually the only parents in there. My husband and I have talked to her about being brave like Batgirl (one of her favorites) and reminding her that we will be back to pick her up. I do 90% of drop offs and pickups for school. I'm really at a loss at what to do for her anymore. Is this common at her age still? A few other kids have issues with drop off but not every day. The teachers usually have to grab her but I feel bad as its almost every morning.",2.983209487089613,4.8275792429022095,3.2828951980371563,92.43739105035635,75.18296529968454,6.084308914592826,24.98995209720761,6.775458762138228,0.7752758266152586,1248,42,262,11,27,384,168,317,0.092,0.858,0.05,-0.8684,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,13,0,0,2,10,9,0,1,11,0,31,5,2,3,1,54,41,26,0,6,13,3,6,1,0,3,2,1,1,1,14,20,0,2,1,1,0,5,3,5,0,4,9,7,44,4,42,25,10,64,0,2,0,1,51,25,0,9,31,187,58,6,0.0997347766951944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745966949961599,0.0,0.0,0.09986997220159208,0.0,0.0,0.15951572977992926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891009894768522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370410577322194,0.07668988701824071,0.0832743726160817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457001583137816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859240806971145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206330373404572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680617017826967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05042889979183005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483435010739808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210730442213505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995794340114376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685011849992414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409719496131226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211209455910582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04872537409511105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001452987307257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921469446566391,0.10600228386113753,0.0,0.07395207318471984,0.0,0.19264893763789884,0.1060690664817118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930974189269247,0.0,0.20274859753491664,0.0758527918978568,0.0,0.0,0.11074366670494504,0.10800304407785699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954327118214957,0.0,0.10026099750883488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389265180585488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931309748883858,0.0,0.4037476744045692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500327582601892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059278827693707,0.0,0.07964832150144538,0.08338273914486011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498813992868016,0.08016303562140144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058156150336796136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996865634515673,0.08613882492270124,0.32953129831991346,0.0,0.05882615533378724,0.0,0.08000122195589345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084872383372891,0.0,0.0,0.12845185251721195
parenting,apatheticsahm,2020/01/08,"My son said he ""doesn't want to grow up"" My son is 11 years old (6th grade in middle school), and generally an optimistic, intelligent, creative kid. He does not have many friends, and I don't think he is particularly close to the one friend that I know about. He is very, very closed off emotionally. He loves hugs and cuddles (in fact he craves them to the point that it's probably excessive for a kid his age), but won't ever talk about what is happening in his life or how he feels about things. He does not answer direct questions about anything. He has always been like this.

He sees a therapist to help him with his anxious behaviors. Yesterday after his session, I asked him what he did or talked about, and he just clammed up and refused to tell me. After a lot of prodding, and visible annoyance/borderline anger on my part, I finally got him to say that they played Jenga. (This is pretty normal, they spend most sessions playing games. The therapist has tried to explain his reasoning behind how playing games is good for helping his anxiety, but whatever).

This type of exchange is not unusual for my son. I wasn't asking to give an opinion or discuss his feelings (I know better than that by now). I was asking him to give a straightforward account of what happened during a safe time, when he was doing something he enjoyed. And he refused to tell me, until I had to get angry at him.  When we got home, I tried talking to him, and kind of apologized, saying I wasn't really mad at him, I just want him to share things about his life with me, because he's growing up. He started crying and said he ""Didn't want to grow up."" I didn't know what to say to this, so we just went inside and watched cartoons for a few minutes before bed.

I can't discuss anything with him that's not about movies/books that he likes, or ""look at that cute baby animal! AWWW!!!"" I told him that we got the the letter from school about ""your child will be getting sex education within the next few weeks"", and he started crying. He knows what sex is, and he's surprisingly astute about issues around choice and consent, just from our discussions about current events. But if I ever tried to talk about it in a personal way, he would get upset and start crying. I tried to joke with my husband about the inevitable day that he'll have to start shaving his teenage mustache, and he freaked out. God help us when he hits puberty.

He doesn't seem to be insecure in school. He gets good grades, and is interested in his classes. He has an IEP because he had some attention/focus issues, and also gets some speech/language therapy for something called ""Social Pragmatic Communication Disorder"". He has only the one friend (who he won't let me talk about), but I know that he's well liked because I'll see other kids say hi to him (while he tries to hide). I doubt that he's being bullied, but even if he was, how would I know?

I'm not sure what my question is here, I guess I'm just venting because I don't know what to do about how he communicates (or doesn't communicate).",5.834444444444442,6.143203774410776,6.081700336700338,80.84810606060606,66.8114478114478,9.15892255892256,31.314814814814817,8.998388855275968,2.4502814814814817,2398,88,471,38,36,767,274,594,0.091,0.752,0.158,0.9916,1,0,2,0,0,0,93.0,5,1,3,1,35,30,2,3,18,0,44,7,0,5,4,91,91,40,0,8,22,4,2,3,3,6,2,6,2,5,28,28,0,3,16,6,3,4,17,6,1,2,18,12,61,24,76,62,7,52,0,0,4,5,119,22,0,17,28,291,89,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05419488276403425,0.05638927634625621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051843135809651116,0.07655973392966305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153630351382256,0.060328820105753724,0.19006473365935006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165245529271632,0.0,0.05766646795646897,0.0,0.0,0.059936215279120963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919977448344777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233233493140505,0.04370542921389356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766919961628453,0.0,0.11861030022767816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623105692042359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04476081669772393,0.12260196654519788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853213324875085,0.0,0.0,0.07423767896010085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570745938618337,0.0,0.17703265115004166,0.13002049099922927,0.0,0.11368292344611583,0.16260329420585848,0.0,0.07465524611965668,0.0,0.11985588970428095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627249199298844,0.0,0.06797788014593448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146655717969125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705710343405068,0.2607086731659985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929844251432887,0.09573456477004844,0.099325600316459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056908931789938125,0.0,0.0,0.0576148207006323,0.06116421120677006,0.0,0.0,0.06870717734493903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207315078954936,0.0,0.06639927777293746,0.0,0.0,0.07111221532130066,0.0,0.09184412086203096,0.05154141437838659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338727434634165,0.0,0.0,0.05917331826211038,0.0,0.0,0.06406365473521176,0.0,0.0,0.06894548467223892,0.07306649523011625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183368564537164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04341458712415016,0.069677867700795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892776616739612,0.2155706663406863,0.0,0.20575768211819545,0.10800631346408256,0.061694395573965236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908200952114217,0.0,0.10434384725113012,0.0,0.0,0.1918691223709659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638715252108993,0.0,0.0,0.2723509664849104,0.11846626903153508,0.0,0.07749981189377317,0.1573701747840614,0.09004548768515055,0.043423669213802266,0.0,0.0,0.03951667655419877,0.0,0.0,0.06475622902025037,0.0,0.2300536737180479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151781990345812,0.0,0.0,0.11183312299536964,0.11991582007010075,0.05379191547883248,0.05436024210102262,0.0,0.06093251239583155,0.06282258593814098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628237384357297,0.0,0.0,0.043641044664356525
parenting,DaddyMitch123,2020/01/08,"To smart home or not? Hi,

When I was younger I watched Home Alone 3 and remember I was so in awe with the smart house of Kevin's dad. That was 1990s.I was thinking of slowly put up my smart home, but at the same time, thinking if this is worth it. I know it can save time and all, but I just read this article, https://thewiredshopper.com/15-must-have-gadgets-for-your-smart-home/,, it was a good article, but I am not sure if I can cope., it  made me feel that I don't want to have it, but at the same time, its probably me, that just wouldn't want any complications.

I am a homeschooling mom with a toddler, I also work from home, as much as possible I don't want confusion, but I know these new innovations should help us live better. 

May I know your thoughts?

Thank you.   
Mitch",4.460788681517158,5.796871695364237,4.4550270921131885,87.57201685731488,70.45695364238411,8.139915713425648,24.323299217338953,8.575989854853784,1.1524516556291395,610,16,135,10,11,188,90,151,0.052000000000000005,0.753,0.19399999999999998,0.9734,0,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,2,0,2,5,9,0,1,6,0,16,0,0,1,2,37,28,15,0,7,12,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,12,4,0,0,8,1,1,1,5,1,0,0,7,2,19,8,13,18,4,10,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,5,5,87,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511719816417789,0.0,0.11672527181671145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925875125257932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909098909912545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380246504517075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242548985614295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978348437943808,0.0,0.5856447053944969,0.0,0.0,0.16841984830550924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24064969016756402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888658257560334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811219756225562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094821729063714,0.0,0.0,0.10729841707270678,0.0,0.0,0.14097042117418698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454953748791454,0.0,0.0,0.15737106681389001,0.0,0.0,0.1467315129734107,0.0,0.0,0.14600089043598502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534580276888333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137566883833871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438163849534154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705233165016724,0.0,0.11587704057559778,0.2553337830159313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17557358187425615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582754307957548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626163119308944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brass_monk,2020/01/08,"How much speech should a 2 and a half year old have? He says very few words- can say mummy, dad, goof (for goofy), dog, yoghurt and a few others. 

He definitely understands everything you say to him and will follow instructions (where’s your binky, get your shoes) but won’t repeat if you say can you say or ask him what e.g. an animal is. 

How worried should we be? I want to bring it up at his next assessment but SO is pretty laid back about it.",4.125,4.766139500000001,4.813333333333336,87.27000000000002,70.66666666666666,8.666666666666668,22.777777777777786,8.841846274778883,1.1704444444444442,345,7,76,6,6,111,70,90,0.031,0.866,0.10300000000000001,0.7665,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,5,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,0,10,1,1,2,0,15,16,10,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,10,0,6,11,3,10,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,2,5,50,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184329692915012,0.0,0.0,0.15161349965428933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720595014941015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301450540815456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494449155822772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096952153617179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689939517409345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005953409582242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7839975221142591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052635503773443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268798126755346,0.11629746278333901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20023826835371814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697264042506015
parenting,NachosWithBenefits,2020/01/08,"Reading around your kids: books vs smartphones As most people know reading around your kids gives good reading habits and using technology (tablets, smartphones) could be detrimental for young kids. But what about reading ebooks in a kindle, tablet or your own smartphone? It's there a way to show the difference between reading a book or just mindless using your smartphone to your kid?",9.592846153846152,10.963562092307694,6.541346153846158,77.10740384615386,58.84615384615386,8.346153846153845,39.32692307692308,8.07648339933343,3.3636923076923075,316,15,47,3,4,87,47,65,0.045,0.91,0.045,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,2,0,13,6,5,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,9,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,3,1,30,7,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29701505197733474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331943106751291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742941617239798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003148588253074,0.0,0.13992292306187148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168136505381433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565381982638336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8343389674586625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28816241283295085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241605375257498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rochimer,2020/01/08,"Best way to tell 2 yr old that his older brother is leaving again to college? My son is leaving for another semester in college. My 2 yr-old adores him and nearly cries even when the college-age son goes to the grocery store. He leaves early in the morning, so my 2 yr-old will wake up to him suddenly being gone for 4 months. We were thinking of having my college son pretend to leave before my 2 yr-old goes to sleep, so he understands that he is leaving(tell him he's going to school and has to fly on an airplane). Does anyone have advice on how to make him leaving easier on my 2-yr old?",4.193987603305787,4.7905400000000045,5.326931818181818,83.81039772727273,70.48760330578513,7.7028925619834725,30.001033057851238,7.645422480735847,1.8696024793388424,464,18,93,5,8,154,73,121,0.044000000000000004,0.873,0.083,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,4,0,9,2,2,2,0,7,14,6,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,12,2,19,10,1,18,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,0,8,55,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793581549981398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265528553340617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843884987899567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269738147965027,0.0,0.1266555752783427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257111114169567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561568691091704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971389319728897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859029432533123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6389606991275668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056079104410457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963327442406101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6332135956573178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214362997928045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077607976375568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548743537046858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733258651912517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564142169913886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579724682671592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tall-Guy,2020/01/08,"Stopping Nightly Feeds? Hi everyone,

Out first born is already 9 months now. He moved completely into solids during the day, besides two breast-feeding sessions - Early in the morning when he wakes up before my wife goes to work, and just before he go to sleep. Just before going to sleep is more of a soothing thing for him, as he also eats a good dinner an hour before that. 

His a healthy baby. Above normal in height and weight. 

He wakes up every 3-5 hours to breast feeding (depends on the day). Early on people told us he will grow out of this period my himself, but it's already 9 months now - and we don't see it improving. Some people mentioned his not really hungry, and that's just a pattern we need to break.

I'll note we did some sleep work with him. He goes to sleep at 18:00 by himself (we just put him in bed and he put himself to sleep), and goes to sleep without crying after every breast feeding session - and wakes up finally around 6:30-7:00. So his OK on that front.

When we try to not feed him when his up - he will scream, and get agitated. Last time we tried it, he cried for almost 45 minutes and didn't showed a sign of stopping. When we try to help him fall asleep, pick him up and rock him in our hands, he sometimes dose, but won't fully fall asleep. And when put to bed, will scream again.

So we trying to understand if perhaps he really still need the feeding, being over the standard in weight and if we should keep feeding him like that. It's getting harder because my wife is back to work (and we keep hearing from out friends how the baby starting to sleep for full night around 6 months). Rr it's a pattern that we need to break - and that will involve a lot of crying and it's a stage we need to force the baby to play in.

Thanks!",4.533533529845247,5.08204340960452,4.845942028985508,87.7331650700074,69.70621468926554,7.1734708916728085,26.69073937607468,6.7026698264267655,1.023284844018669,1373,40,285,9,23,433,172,354,0.055999999999999994,0.8490000000000001,0.094,0.9333,1,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,14,0,0,4,20,8,0,0,16,1,13,26,15,3,0,65,29,29,0,8,11,2,3,2,1,6,1,3,2,0,14,34,10,4,1,3,0,10,6,2,0,2,3,7,32,6,52,19,5,68,0,0,1,2,50,24,0,7,32,173,46,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700458105928877,0.0,0.16972287218808138,0.061497173140668736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691521066922294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913161374875873,0.0,0.04687773275839139,0.0,0.26174609730373083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062854212279537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534142335710419,0.09918871341623244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868824476464835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958370421656507,0.07348156919785707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424056227685905,0.0,0.06541138888344536,0.0,0.0,0.05941301098346447,0.0,0.08035450613835995,0.0,0.08740846939766989,0.0645003556585123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866722707537419,0.0,0.051544676096028835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146268661337212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670510893322066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268403985885404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0375696211427536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537791805035023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414335023138714,0.0817328900780907,0.0,0.2280825072249067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443315171502563,0.07534600451848504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662602451163304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319182414761245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852865233897463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061279613688858835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5386911270091607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605640139200684,0.0,0.054430455593798124,0.0,0.06141270988755286,0.12858425318203007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079950006414645,0.0,0.0,0.05108916805688321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0448412059599493,0.0,0.0,0.07348156919785707,0.0,0.20884112864876775,0.0,0.07512045693379504,0.08005596470821005,0.09250163906581432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872877911292704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412918239089587,0.0,0.16795308753581487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noblerare,2020/01/08,"Parents of children with allergies, do you/your partner also have allergies? For parents of children with allergies, what type of allergies do your children have and do you yourself or your partner also have allergies? 

In addition, was your child breastfed? Were there any other environmental or genetical causes for their allergies?

I am trying to figure out how to decrease the chance that my children will have allergies.",7.75147619047619,10.810404814285716,7.502857142857145,62.05047619047619,65.14285714285714,10.380952380952381,41.66666666666666,10.504223727775694,5.7222380952380965,347,21,43,10,6,110,43,70,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.4515,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,4,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,2,0,10,11,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,11,8,0,3,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,0,40,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5197744191647377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22099824218160524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338450344912086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7217059423186577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064078476587745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jingerginger000,2020/01/08,"New Step Parent My daughter is 23 and does not like her STB step mom.  People are saying she is should suck it up and do events with her, even small events of less than 10 people.  Here is an example, it is her birthday and we all want to go to dinner.  I have a fabulous relationship with my XH and my daughter has a fantastic relationship with a previous fiance ( as do I) her dad had but this new woman no one likes.  So should she suck it up and do, as an example, her small birthday dinner with her dad, STB step mom and siblings?

I am thinking it is her birthday dinner so she should not have to include this woman even if it her dad's future wife.",1.9955012531328364,3.8554170150375953,3.6377631578947383,88.72225877192983,78.09774436090225,6.5385964912280725,22.36152882205514,7.492282038375204,0.8285844611528819,505,15,107,7,12,168,69,133,0.073,0.8590000000000001,0.068,-0.2035,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,5,0,17,3,0,0,1,21,22,12,0,5,4,9,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,2,7,11,3,0,1,0,0,4,3,2,0,1,1,1,18,2,13,18,2,13,0,0,0,0,26,4,2,1,7,79,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398823183020335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777318159951269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948799787928538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20543175471966646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924765948115826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4061149866862089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424685492656843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23345398776086,0.0,0.0,0.2915170641590545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514523692609509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719654894367356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471754312890186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240089023230724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oldcrowmedicine,2020/01/08,To Van or Not to Van We have a 7 month old. My wife's car broke down and we need a new one. Do you folks use a van or an SUV? We don't know if there are more kids coming. We would like to do some road tripping in the future. Just curious what if guys like vans better or if there are specific models of vans or SUVs you like. Thank You!,-1.3425146198830404,0.5012530526315793,1.0559649122807038,102.53230994152048,90.84210526315788,4.430409356725146,12.391812865497075,5.82211442006289,-1.3676941520467834,256,3,68,2,9,86,53,76,0.034,0.775,0.191,0.8932,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,3,0,1,3,6,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,20,12,8,0,5,9,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,8,5,6,11,2,10,0,1,0,0,10,3,0,8,7,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699592862824337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629365614658318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022348187791612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775149335904732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44737339596993664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24363903433005066,0.0,0.0,0.2263310149593766,0.0,0.294801942046437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32029721604374595,0.0,0.20683799604033906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28102326483694273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636286831805995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21683318510640054,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,popgiffins,2020/01/08,"I just need to brag on my son a second. My 7 yo son is in first grade. He's been roughly reading since before kindergarten but despite his general distaste for sitting and reading a book (he's more STEM oriented), he is magnificent at reading. I guess they test this regularly at school because yesterday a paper was sent home about where he's placing, and if I'm understanding this correctly, he's reading at a 3rd grade level. I'm so unbelievably proud of him!",7.0508988764044975,6.9813136404494385,7.792449438202247,70.89833707865168,64.28089887640449,10.715505617977527,39.14831460674158,10.355215969177356,4.1844184269662925,370,19,66,8,5,124,64,89,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,10,5,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,7,2,9,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,2,2,36,9,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232030834122226,0.0,0.17197891387549408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191285342770468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226446078240512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273067537067466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498604268434297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111597106951128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8086502645762057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20454395738229508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718572097422016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040142338850615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aussygal,2020/01/08,"How do you stay positive about your child's future with current events? I am usually a pretty positive person but I've been starting to feel depressed lately. I live in Australia, I am not in a bushfire area so I am not directly affected, but I keep looking at my 2 year old daughter wondering what I have gotten her into?   This is our worst summer for bushfires in my life time but they have been progressively getting more frequent over the years, I can't imagine there will be much of Australia left by the time she's in her thirties. What Australia is facing is just one of the issues in the world though. I can't be the first parent to wonder what it is in store for the world's future and have trouble believing its anything but bad. How do you shake off that feeling that your child's future is bleak?",7.643726415094338,6.5997337735849095,7.449300314465411,77.0543278301887,63.46540880503143,9.962578616352204,35.59827044025157,8.841846274778883,2.9725025157232694,646,25,121,8,8,206,101,159,0.129,0.8079999999999999,0.062,-0.9420000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,4,1,2,7,5,0,1,8,0,20,2,1,3,0,19,29,9,0,0,7,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,8,3,0,1,5,0,1,1,4,5,0,2,3,3,19,0,19,23,3,32,0,1,1,0,14,14,0,2,16,92,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444359246994227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567038889865099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114496446766195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164740356907895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18979199641942854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963942043443444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805438325182464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958878196324513,0.0,0.16681746659906788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117097669947612,0.0,0.20391347468833765,0.0,0.1325630278288745,0.0,0.0,0.16572374516033825,0.0,0.15760285382195238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796545126514073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196937242076642,0.0,0.1271759555077754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839500446670928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387381619895602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19093672646309814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283996156172845,0.2000405404104175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18439338612817768,0.0,0.21887393780256836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670159124694046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070591245532936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24171788035880665
parenting,Buttraper,2020/01/08,"Need some advice with a 17 year old My eldest son is 17 and like many teenagers, has had his moments and made some really stupid choices. He has been caught stealing a few times, not often, but every 6 months or so something come up. Nothing big, but sweets from shop, vape juice, lighters, etc. In addition to that he will lie, deny, escalating things until there is so much evidence he has to admit what he has done.

Yesterday it was noticed that a load of old vape juice from our bedroom has gone and after lots of shouting between me and my partner and us and my son he owned up that he took it a while ago.

My fiancé has had enough (8yr relationship, 6yr old daughter between us - Due to marry in June). She has said one of them has to move out. Initially last night I was upset and agreed with her, but after thinking about it this morning I said I wasn’t sure. We had another fight and I ended up saying that if she was going to make me choose, she should pack her bags.

I lost my mum 18months ago, and losing either of them sounds pretty shit, but I don’t know what to do?

Any suggestions on how I stop my son doing this shit, or what you guys would do in my position?",6.624646892655362,5.441808724576273,6.680000000000002,82.1987570621469,65.5677966101695,9.561581920903956,30.683615819209038,8.344100000000001,2.001741242937854,913,26,192,10,12,292,146,236,0.145,0.8009999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.9764,0,0,1,0,1,0,29.0,4,1,2,2,6,11,4,1,4,0,26,2,2,3,1,40,40,21,0,4,9,5,0,1,1,3,0,5,1,2,13,15,0,1,4,1,1,6,3,8,0,1,16,6,29,3,28,21,9,35,0,2,0,0,33,9,2,7,21,133,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831143706349632,0.2327910237386776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892930931531538,0.13768657691969596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113109139004394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437239466131287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629880718156807,0.1356749739448225,0.1464417363644774,0.0,0.0,0.11063160064974127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462465236868869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001432717717476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216275619778664,0.10703252707126587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414984581519426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468986670290961,0.14333682942114712,0.11163230384231076,0.0,0.12424562234448627,0.08764827568311855,0.13312443576577146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480779564204926,0.13955829569367467,0.0965255700878081,0.09736229183696997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322249053671712,0.0,0.12599236862658206,0.1494936059284131,0.4133530399527986,0.0,0.0889768524966323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358617105619647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411846677808746,0.0,0.0,0.1409743100355345,0.0,0.0,0.24980557765323755,0.10442039839659167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695689852596779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108635173003316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977832308378394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375505855104872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723437058954052,0.08413606389249721,0.0,0.0,0.07656602225420485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458866313917428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158917073545883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327654829833336,0.0,0.0,0.08455724236791451
parenting,CouldDoWithANap,2020/01/08,"6 year old terrified of our cat, help? Tl;dr, our 6 year old is absolutely terrified of our 7 year old cat - what the hell do we do?

Bit of background. Cat is generally sweet and loving, but there is tension between him and the kiddo. Every so often - I'm talking once every 3-4 months *at most*, cat is feeling playful and decides that kiddo's legs are the perfect target practice. Pouncing happens. We intervene, cat is scolded, runs away, kiddo is comforted. Sometimes there have been small scratches which is definitely not pleasant for kiddo, and I totally get his apprehension around the cat.

However more recently, kiddo has developed such a deep seated fear of the cat that every time he needs to move from one room to another we have to escort him and make sure that the cat isn't around. He won't let the cat be in the same room as him, and if the cat so much as sneezes in his direction he will shout at him and at us to get him out. The first question on his mind when he needs the toilet or to get a snack is ""Where's the cat? Can you make sure he's not around? Move him now!"" etc etc. I feel like we are constantly at kiddo's call because of the fear.

We live in a small 2 bedroom flat, and the cat is a big lazy indoor cat whose pouncing days are mostly behind him. We give him lots of play time and stimulation when he needs it and discourage leg attacks, if/ when they do happen, with scolding and an occasional blast of air freshener into the air, which he is decidedly not a fan of. There hasn't been a murder-mittens incident for probably close to a year now. But the fear is still there in our kiddo. Even when the cat is curled up asleep. Even when I'm sat next to him. Even when he's sat on me.

Recently we have been trying to encourage kiddo to take control of his fear a bit more. We encourage bonding with the cat when he's calm (which is like, 99% of the time, he's very lazy) - ""Come feel how soft he is! Look how much he likes these scritches, why don't you come and try?"" And that's going ok. But it's just the whole *going to a different room* thing that is grinding us down. I want to be able to explain and show kiddo what to do if pouncing happens. He's in charge. Cat is not. But nothing is sticking and he's still as scared as ever.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice? How can we make living with a big scary thing easier on our child and help him deal with his fear before it drives us all mad?",3.1481504668930387,4.4679059012096785,4.393268251273343,86.81319185059424,73.65725806451613,7.559762308998303,25.14940577249576,8.119692808369301,1.350827419354839,1901,60,403,29,38,626,221,496,0.12,0.757,0.12300000000000001,-0.7394,2,0,0,0,0,0,69.0,17,2,1,3,31,28,3,8,32,1,43,5,3,8,6,83,72,40,0,7,13,0,5,3,0,2,0,1,4,1,17,37,1,2,7,3,0,8,8,12,0,2,6,8,39,16,57,61,15,70,1,1,1,1,62,33,1,9,32,259,56,0,0.07480901349235881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310250217774744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05087269448518453,0.07844377336478411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05230820163005849,0.0,0.0,0.1997876473202629,0.0,0.08510605262739745,0.0702855307382078,0.0,0.0,0.045602880272782434,0.0,0.06365696053780147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334413473806358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638836692482814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888268216184132,0.0,0.08084196719630704,0.08390466977121186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048245624907297585,0.07712480805786265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815949681263652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668636498272514,0.1482319436132801,0.06766903560068845,0.18908946106082275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42090469161332855,0.11347705494327134,0.05344357418648882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363250866039816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725386576477212,0.07176362241304078,0.08503137268419994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19846009071219547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028580967520384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764972847616702,0.0,0.109643715729411,0.0,0.13211545895683016,0.0,0.06282073020208517,0.0,0.0,0.06359994807556496,0.06751805541574432,0.0,0.14980679222297827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553577797473597,0.0,0.05971184084998076,0.15902028452570402,0.10998646510459448,0.166409806809048,0.0,0.0,0.07956023453887791,0.0,0.0,0.07178126605616945,0.0,0.23549842628895745,0.07966915786728236,0.050692523614908835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065676932060485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838032159584705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772975159414142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489687304377164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408846554020727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398802720546481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194851496194799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101321977647854,0.0,0.05624706804965279,0.060128651330091314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939956892292558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086521209663446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158081913739417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699580967212641,0.0,0.0,0.061725270764886035,0.04412429439249879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675034988791483,0.08352159198032895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269820791691025
parenting,rosesalad,2020/01/08,"Tantrums at speech therapy/school So my son has a speech delay, he’s not speaking as much as he should be but he is starting to say more words. Once a week I take him to a 2 hour class where he does circle time, snack time, and play time. Sometimes if he gets frustrated with a toy or when we change activities he starts angrily flailing his hands causing the toys to get everywhere or he throws his chips, toys across the room or hits toys out of peoples hands. He ONLY does this at school, very seldom does this happen at home. I get so frustrated and try to put his hands down and say that isn’t nice or ignore him. At home I’ll put him in time out, or take away his toys.. am I just not putting him on a strict enough schedule? Am I not disciplining him enough? It gives me anxiety and I feel humiliated when he behaves like this every week for what seems to be the past 2-3 months. 

Please send help",3.239091614906833,4.540678266304352,3.7085403726708073,91.88304347826087,73.40217391304348,7.2136645962732935,23.468944099378877,7.7094869923839395,0.7647683229813662,707,19,160,9,14,221,112,184,0.127,0.7879999999999999,0.084,-0.8181,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,8,0,8,4,3,1,0,27,20,17,0,2,11,1,4,1,0,1,0,5,3,0,6,8,1,3,2,6,0,5,4,4,0,0,0,9,17,3,21,16,4,33,0,0,0,0,26,13,0,7,16,84,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711657467691992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192739153701643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041285116414633,0.13429650509231694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33328499230274616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623470367994064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069610399138112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418984820727154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897875871697007,0.12178222368741992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226166474258273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509205984786218,0.0,0.2546828532058962,0.0,0.12502039948812485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202146745058301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013304584504718,0.0,0.09332302248389794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519784645958266,0.0,0.09655136673852252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118835451727082,0.08801130151812624,0.0,0.0,0.13935322465591896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828601201554108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191182872016109,0.0,0.2569608105773795,0.0,0.11557071695865755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555701867258953,0.0,0.17971204538389585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909015401580284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961027885080288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619086956996679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474723096043057,0.0,0.0,0.20366362601378826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,esmeraldaai,2020/01/08,"Explaining to young child about extended autistic family members Hi - I’m usually not a poster but I’m going to give this a shot...

My nephew is being assessed due to suspicion of autism. He has sensory meltdowns that last for hours, limited language and he often has trouble socially with peers.

My daughter and nephew are the same age (5). She loves him, adjusts the games /activities so that he will join in and engage for a small amount of time. However, she often asks questions like Why isn’t he answering me? My sister is usually present, I’m cautious to my answer and it usually ends up being “he just wants to do his own thing”.

I’m looking for some words to say to her that will help her understand that everyone is different and sometimes we need to just give him a bit of help to feel better. We are together often, so it’s not like these things happen only on holidays.

I’m also looking for ways to help my sister feel supported as a parent. She’s overwhelmed, sad and I want her to know that I am here to help along this journey. I’ve said those words to her, but besides googling and learning more - well I don’t know what to do.

Thank you everyone",3.022250891546044,5.240475022026433,4.220427942101953,84.05716593245229,76.31277533039648,7.848038598699392,27.549611915250683,8.704169506293173,2.2874625131109707,918,38,175,20,21,300,134,227,0.059000000000000004,0.74,0.201,0.9881,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,1,0,2,11,11,0,1,7,0,16,1,0,0,0,39,41,13,0,3,6,6,2,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,14,11,0,1,11,2,0,2,4,3,1,0,1,6,22,8,28,36,6,18,0,2,2,1,40,4,0,5,13,112,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556193778642584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340403476406488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674502657374905,0.14411197677480966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791397661698515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691457631077885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25226710237135896,0.0,0.0,0.12443972131049245,0.0,0.1334883372268625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532566597031141,0.07501976869292562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672891726132223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539125857915036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999536307687784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450896749630532,0.10759923388098408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897900203182636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216968396539515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913694298919532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787779749962752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039345599703678,0.0,0.0,0.1465725802850447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478724305739909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556411359318914,0.10497327472740499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455939784911974,0.0,0.0,0.1305533360637193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979428554915825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152969054343445,0.0,0.0,0.17539250357556566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769714175802033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741871917640594,0.0,0.0,0.4361446041706129,0.0,0.15571637877034514,0.10477702959360538,0.0,0.0,0.11868563514945013,0.0,0.1191112576927234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dinosaurs_are_sick,2020/01/08,Watching a neighbors kids for a night after a medical emergency and don't know what to do all morning. So my mom picked them up and since I'm(19m)on winter break I am helping look after them tomorrow morning. My mom is taking one to school but the other goes in later in the morning at 11 and I'm driving her. I'm not sure what to do with her for 4 hours before I take her to school and I was hoping for some suggestions on what I can do.,3.9503623188405843,4.3829434565217396,5.1400000000000015,85.52166666666669,70.95652173913044,7.872463768115942,28.3768115942029,7.793537801064563,1.6271028985507257,346,12,73,4,6,115,60,92,0.049,0.89,0.061,0.2633,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,1,2,13,15,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,11,2,15,14,2,14,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,2,7,53,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070669239353746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022061134861145,0.0,0.0,0.22259832086676729,0.2207096746245424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316860461222072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18820147191087092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257738639902569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5249652314941341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103182169851147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186718665179982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536358636350309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539154099731509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21122721301911504,0.0,0.33701553495359426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iamkatlady,2020/01/08,"Single mom in a new relationship. Advice needed. Sorry for the long post. I have a nine year old son whom I’ve had a great relationship with. His father has never been involved and as a personal decision, I never dated again after having him. I just wanted to focus on him. About 4 years ago, I met a great guy. We dated for about 2 1/2 years and in this time, I didn’t introduce him to my son or bring him around my home. I wanted to get to know him and make sure things were more serious before I took any drastic steps. The day came and they eventually met. My SO is a single child with no little children in the family, his experience with children is limited and my son is protective over me. When they met, it was awkward but not in a bad way. My son was being shy and my SO was unsure on how to bring him around. I decided to give it time. For the most part, it’s been quite. Literally. When my SO visits, my son won’t leave his room and that gives them no opportunity to build any relationship. I’ve tried to talk to my son about it but he’s a typical 9 yr old boy, “Eww, you have a boyfriend” or “he’s weird” but that’s it. My SO hasn’t pushed either. Today, my son has been crying most of the day. Not the whine cry but with feeling. I asked what was wrong but he wouldn’t tell me and would ask for my mom. When she came, she took him out to dinner and later told me that my son doesn’t want my SO other around. That he wants us to be like the old times. He wants to live with my mom if I’m going to continue in this relationship and I am just flabbergasted and hurt. I’m not sure what to do right now. I didn’t know he felt this way or why? I’m in tears. He doesn’t want to come home and asked my mom to bring him to school tomorrow. I’m not sure what to say or do. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.",0.4219186046511609,2.381471188630492,2.6664541343669264,93.17766569767444,83.88372093023256,6.040542635658915,16.651744186046514,7.268377926160553,-0.10772759689922484,1398,27,332,21,40,475,178,387,0.08800000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.106,0.8427,0,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,2,2,3,3,20,15,0,1,16,0,31,1,0,2,5,67,67,32,0,10,17,13,2,1,0,3,0,1,3,6,18,25,1,2,6,0,0,12,15,7,0,1,20,3,50,8,46,42,7,59,0,2,0,0,65,16,0,7,29,212,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122009937501096,0.06858835531152402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785315864056568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066407235159344,0.2170058136359148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460497438094216,0.0,0.0,0.06584050895434143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769929969615673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665179516305356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998582250982494,0.09980107350021564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568769238829857,0.07294235563485663,0.0,0.03912317411420658,0.0,0.07429222755331537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04042529485958424,0.14845048787008816,0.04397405097035258,0.0,0.0,0.1706126361146577,0.0,0.0766135113356193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522706297268438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283164209181099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504666001054788,0.0,0.0,0.08192905607961776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037801564229480125,0.07755017477654763,0.0683236285943046,0.0684745263593144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05164847835150723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624831157323218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737265431638613,0.11935289029867845,0.07472935123745761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435764465317798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378969035146162,0.0,0.0,0.06756095056551012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410395487044408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229794038908117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322875912043229,0.0,0.0660779104214419,0.0,0.06153178307283999,0.0,0.07830772944254788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866150867627535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187753408488707,0.0,0.0,0.062191172384996815,0.06762924558554675,0.07123659402687704,0.0,0.0,0.05140457659646837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535412460894464,0.0,0.07334254511606292,0.07393522141629437,0.17193316045262447,0.05253261210950623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307271524490764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27382702304752393,0.1228335016262408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981899048985665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054965049203103473,0.08459752247622643,0.0,0.14948107767772786
parenting,coldestnose,2020/01/08,"Silly Sleepover Problem I don't even know how to describe this situation without sounding like the bitchy mom.  I just feel like I need to get it off of my chest and get some input from other parents because it's still bugging me (but it could be PMS).

My 10yo daughter has a friend who has been a bit of a handful any time we've had her over.  That opinion is primarily based on the last sleepover where she came into my room at 5am when I was fast asleep to see if it was ok that they turned on videos.  I'm not very hands-on with sleepovers, these kids are old enough to do their own thing and leave me to my murder podcasts.  I'm here to order pizza and make sure everybody is safe.

Apparently friend decided she wanted a sleepover, I told my daughter that's fine!  Just have her mom let me know when she wants me to drop her off and pick her up from friend's house.  No - friend has too many brothers and sisters around and mom doesn't want to deal (I understand!).  My daughter says they've decided this should take place at my house, this weekend.  Oh and friend has invited a third girl my daughter knows, but has never mentioned before.  I don't know her parents or anything.

I use my ""army wife"" get out of jail free card - ""Sorry, Dad's out of town all week/weekend so I really don't want more than one kid spending the night"".  Frankly, my house is still a disaster from the holidays and I look forward to the time my husband's not here to not have anyone complaining about clutter.  I just want to be a slob in peace for a while.  I work full time and I'll have to spend all day on Sunday undoing the damage we've done from not having my clean freak husband around for the week.

Now there's drama because they had to uninvite girl #3 from a sleepover that was not really a thing in the first place.  Other mom says that's not cool, sleepover postponed.  I offer up a date two weeks out where husband will be home and we don't have any plans - this apparently is not good enough for the friend and now she's asking if my kid can spend the night at this other girl's house.  

I wonder if this girl's mom knows that someone else's kid is offering up her home for a multi-kid sleepover in three days...  But in a way I still feel like the bitchy mom for not opening my home to everyone else's kids on my one real day off.",4.8073505019642075,4.9408373459915635,5.09882875018187,87.618417721519,69.0,8.056918376254911,27.948203113633056,7.6298220110432995,1.3726231049032451,1818,55,395,18,29,575,221,474,0.102,0.82,0.078,-0.8806,4,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,0,3,3,22,22,1,0,24,2,37,5,3,4,4,73,66,23,1,13,19,19,3,3,6,2,1,3,5,9,23,21,1,1,11,4,4,2,16,5,0,6,9,9,48,18,56,50,9,63,0,1,2,0,58,33,0,7,30,250,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340002979874312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801777889304583,0.0,0.05651205188559245,0.122267111410606,0.0642000123236251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372488266032019,0.0,0.05843569002286261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497316196033264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854365094470937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482982601103195,0.0,0.0,0.13286526838025706,0.07079887790221677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027635185606634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473500828781523,0.0,0.0,0.14191519368306868,0.0,0.0453578882565314,0.0,0.0,0.06562002252215894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694462941297634,0.09812005186835716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05841324373707791,0.0,0.0,0.3183396730420867,0.0,0.10763647048061224,0.0,0.0,0.05759967890182549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665394327346806,0.0,0.0,0.3169578229007911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870450505260192,0.05597768463874702,0.0,0.07271482254571156,0.0,0.07022282531490151,0.0,0.10065052008749284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766804896251675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045839780388000725,0.0696236731666225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4825741323812781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050920181156955104,0.052964873841292,0.0,0.0,0.1288899721310441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206079232200363,0.0,0.09306924400445976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250654451608855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349739885472348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571081465305185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078164941911481,0.08798740223079006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922309864560698,0.0,0.0,0.054723513315082885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719136234737077,0.0,0.0,0.05818643496924467,0.0,0.0,0.07687383408414357,0.0,0.0,0.16452710999340858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472351750984727,0.0,0.051633571654627536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124661857735086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013138711380915,0.0,0.0,0.06562002252215894,0.0,0.0,0.07469653604454643,0.06708357115506804,0.07149104550340911,0.0,0.0593114483586577,0.0,0.056662441287189974,0.2025256600231832,0.05450945428164478,0.16525608570552885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619834975137782,0.07447297100310762,0.04999478330450837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MyToddlerIsSmarter,2020/01/08,"Do you ever feel you don’t even deserve them sometimes? Tonight I asked my two year-old daughter for one of her crackers. She tripped over herself to bring me one, “Oh, sure Mom! Sure!” And watched me eat it with a huge smile on her face. I’m not even a great Mom, I work a lot, but her happiness to share with me was so pure and sweet. Just had to share. This parenting thing hits me right on the feels.",0.09607142857143104,2.3063526547619047,0.8907619047619058,103.63757142857143,87.92857142857143,4.312380952380953,20.304761904761907,5.6839178017228535,-0.4243295238095235,309,10,76,2,10,94,63,84,0.024,0.7340000000000001,0.243,0.9586,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,1,1,5,7,0,0,4,0,4,2,1,0,4,14,10,4,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,2,4,15,7,10,7,1,9,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,1,2,49,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839203671003824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130869089776146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25988279930499325,0.17795777991067874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894992925736565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169006775008712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20942772345267527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672567883004799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4608265552624718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20643995067474707,0.0,0.2666250192720953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184505784143594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680103404371618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457562745761167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708402123174848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070177853563475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19218119415694312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432251889940142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669068270758255
parenting,tilfordkage,2020/01/08,"In need of advice regarding a particularly destructive six-year old boy. Recently, our two boys enjoyed Christmas break. Two weeks of family, food, and holiday cheer. For a bit, things were good. But about a week and a half ago, our youngest started destroying his brother's things. Pokemon cards were ripped up. Books had pages torn out. A stuffed Pikachu had its tail ripped. So on and so forth.

When we confronted our youngest, he had no answer. He'd mutter and mumble, eventually saying he ""didn't have a reason"" or something else to that effect. 

After a few days, we thought we had a breakthrough - jealously. Youngest said he wished he had those things he'd destroyed. So, we bought him a Captain Underpants book with the promise of Football cards in the future. He seemed happy and we were ready to put this all behind us....

Until today. 

More ripped Pokemon cards. The stuffed Pikachu, which my wife had fixed, was ripped once more. A page from a Pokemon book had been turned to confetti. And now the youngest still has no answers other than occasionally mumbling that he's jealous, which I'm guessing is just him copying our words.

He's been talked to, had things taken away, been put in timeout...nothing seems to make a difference. Our oldest never did anything like this, and we've always tried to explain personal boundaries and personal property. We're at a loss here. Does anyone have any advice?",4.123963800904978,6.961565168627452,3.8295098039215714,85.07548642533938,75.74509803921569,6.58974358974359,28.631221719457017,7.748469712250963,1.9956696832579184,1118,48,195,17,26,337,162,255,0.113,0.809,0.079,-0.7907,0,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,11,0,0,2,9,13,6,0,17,0,23,1,0,3,2,33,37,15,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,13,15,1,0,8,4,1,2,4,7,0,3,21,2,17,6,25,14,7,27,0,1,0,0,34,8,0,4,17,121,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25547703100602986,0.11587579593583075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876989016888466,0.0,0.0,0.0888943918414056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140278137962292,0.0,0.10757179617403724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281617031397818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14271288031175045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430387909552915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657505280780882,0.0,0.0,0.11439435088192547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920016628090216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232316109379476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806769279248456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964211547407714,0.0,0.0,0.1440033184874384,0.0,0.0,0.13915435484341412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386341125713615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725691862230546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692756086171267,0.10081967338176982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542980190537412,0.0,0.13716912773748485,0.13921301807969902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282801179705339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628203245585705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344023989681989,0.12907067885570328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434508717257516,0.10395415237079232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380059850178036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063499250826806,0.0,0.0,0.09252461070320077,0.0,0.1043935240406452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506814994415176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473794466017381,0.0,0.0,0.1037774394737005,0.0,0.0,0.12390770638373147,0.0,0.0,0.08875060807522428,0.14218631747008165,0.2553897797775513,0.0,0.15724061190749325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971212776610734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503220717384111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417968703570003
parenting,teacup_elephant,2020/01/08,"5 year old telling others her family is dead... Spoiler, we’re not.  She’s been telling us that her real family died, and we’re her mortal family. All well and good until she went back to kindergarten and it upset another kid in her class. 

Husband is worried this is some sort of sign of mental illness or something to worry about; I think it’s a good opportunity to talk about the power of words and stories (and maybe a little less Frozen 2 and reading stories with orphans.  Thanks, Harry Potter!) 

Anyone else go through this?",4.460699999999999,6.351192270000002,5.097000000000001,80.78350000000002,71.3,7.0,27.5,7.645422480735847,1.7409000000000003,417,15,73,5,8,134,73,100,0.131,0.7440000000000001,0.125,-0.1759,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,4,6,0,1,3,0,4,1,0,0,1,16,8,8,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,2,0,8,5,12,6,3,8,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,4,46,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17531594299371245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690490273120722,0.17130850244463827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856073356030026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351944737278344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396679031492421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4728427058562942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950193663992756,0.28046631954240114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675708357273857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679673661965342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849074373793374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544043292593026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723777229158215,0.19030169953311896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287129760490816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438302055988954,0.2922672768961924,0.15392841640720925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071302207599756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20111202485287916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150326161344987,0.15498914813321166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395842550313424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766650616439452
parenting,rob_inn_hood,2020/01/08,"Falling off the bed prevention tips? My daughter is 4 years old. We are struggling right now so we are going from place to place. My daughter falls off every bed or at the least rolls around from end to end, even the air mattress she sleeps on. Even on the more comfortable beds she's slept on she moves so sporadically. If we had a place to stay were could put a barrier.. I suppose we could stack things around her air mattress? Does anyone have experience with their kids doing this near 5 years old on a nightly basis, and at what point is this expected to end? Is there a way to stop it besides our improvised barriers?",2.8019972451790665,5.221668586776862,3.3606818181818205,88.92768939393942,78.00826446280992,6.677961432506888,24.13292011019284,7.793537801064563,1.2370490358126722,493,17,99,8,12,154,81,121,0.063,0.907,0.03,-0.4528,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,1,0,8,2,0,1,8,0,11,2,2,0,0,17,13,5,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,8,0,4,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,3,0,13,1,19,8,2,35,0,0,0,0,13,18,0,2,10,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625871067396923,0.0,0.0,0.27056531800980704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24266622708173985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13298715913921771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037924006888683,0.0,0.0,0.2007452587829299,0.0,0.12803857208001582,0.0,0.0,0.1486526775460791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636622696534052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151664440896354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261053481830302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31892715818180845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4763188429019412,0.0,0.14365773345076507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276859415535135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977880552104004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520765353095782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619763748123864,0.0,0.12705103831487596,0.0,0.15886868099996515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095998052080808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062416182161413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957232564335479
parenting,oh4foxxsake,2020/01/08,"How Do You Teach Your Child About Private Parts? My parents never sat me down and explained reproductive parts and 'teenage stuff' to me... from the difference between male/female, to periods, to sex, to drugs... nothing. I learned everything firsthand, and I don't want to go that route with my kids. I felt very lost and confused about those things... the thing is, I don't know how to approach this now that I'm the parent. It's kind of weird/awkward to me, perhaps because it was weird/awkward in my upbringing? Nevertheless, I need to do this.

Around what age are you supposed to talk to your kids about penis/vagina? Should I use an illustration? Do I 'gather round kids' kinda host it, or just wait until a natural moment? I'm lost and feeling weird.",4.056384976525823,6.1292293098591575,4.3151408450704265,85.20163145539908,72.80281690140845,6.986854460093897,28.734741784037556,7.793537801064563,1.8296600938967127,590,24,111,8,12,184,93,142,0.087,0.883,0.03,-0.7671,2,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,4,0,2,8,5,0,1,5,0,9,2,0,3,1,24,23,9,0,3,2,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,12,7,0,1,5,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,3,17,1,21,17,2,11,0,2,1,1,13,3,0,3,6,77,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461091193239735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127206582959541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319371671484484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144392512072788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618701098829916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349707926472056,0.0,0.1775445486101978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050897689733449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255742609319534,0.10162281681176924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037066521883161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710992857040968,0.14261555839198742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742808162048498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106458569082452,0.4004834217943604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116800365989421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862528682033727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24569467490441485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970462522112094,0.0,0.1525717917924276,0.10906590726321838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IraiseDemonspawn,2020/01/08,"Opinions on opening presents during the birthday party? I have been seeing a trend recently where the kids don't open their presents at the birthday party but wait until after the guests have left. I was thinking of doing the same for my daughter's upcoming birthday (she is preschool age), because I find it a little awkward these days to force other kids to sit still and watch someone else open present after present. But, I have heard feedback from other parents saying that they enjoy watching the kids open the presents and receive a thank you. 
So, to the other parents of Reddit: do you open presents at the party or wait until after?",11.042307692307697,8.866432888888895,9.067623931623933,71.73015384615384,57.71794871794872,10.043760683760684,43.91282051282053,6.742157984588678,3.736967179487179,516,24,82,2,5,154,74,117,0.012,0.86,0.128,0.9287,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,2,0,3,3,0,1,12,0,9,0,0,0,0,16,15,8,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,6,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,5,10,2,15,12,1,28,0,0,3,0,15,11,0,2,15,61,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123726936415014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058117321292313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209565286804275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24174899437738015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873809585164902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26509934878049485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5873938073511369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611626898169851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21034170031097807,0.0,0.0,0.21077294053033996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241107205020198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112307286181465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435168552524867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948147113369566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slimatuga,2020/01/08,"My friend’s 22 month daughter passed away unexpectedly... how can I help the parents during this difficult time? As the title says, my friends daughter was on cardiac arrest, they had to perform CPR on her for a long time (like 45 minutes). Unfortunately this caused severe brain damage and she had to be taken off live support. 
The parents are devastated as expected, I want to make sure I help with whatever I can. I understand that they will have to go through a grieving process, so while I want to give them space to spend time together as a family, I also want to make sure they know that I’m here for them if they need me. I should also add (because I think it’s relevant) that I have a daughter that is pretty much the same age as her daughter (mine is 19 months and hers was 22 months). They even have the same name. I can imagine that because of this they might not want to be with me right now, as my daughter will definitely remind them of her daughter that just passed. Any advice is greatly appreciated.",7.618520408163268,6.7190319744897975,7.466244897959182,76.44304081632656,63.438775510204074,10.288979591836735,35.41632653061224,9.3871,3.0355383673469394,801,31,156,12,10,256,112,196,0.099,0.755,0.146,0.6925,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,9,1,8,10,0,0,9,0,20,1,1,4,2,29,35,13,1,8,3,8,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,0,4,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,5,1,31,7,24,24,3,19,0,2,0,0,29,6,0,2,11,110,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549039738679358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217619834778134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428899677298276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026933697982634,0.0,0.0,0.1690435261741967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478293516043398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424351301127134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915791951815192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070998884594973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424638706472612,0.0,0.0,0.13300887697409747,0.07879986410939703,0.0,0.0,0.15286574973778488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587276495832264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762002260868295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773899740130747,0.0,0.1224334017423582,0.12270380492593574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510430518670365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708923721274236,0.0,0.0,0.3320152171722898,0.0,0.10192612715195436,0.10280966306185156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079161562308139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106025009155992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840915828639613,0.0,0.11026266713106984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566387598317953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573421186348043,0.2613581835796891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884343432077588,0.0,0.0,0.2425495579886919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434297233722762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271252284697512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayyikestho,2020/01/08,"Don’t scare your kid into secrecy Today is my 21st birthday and I wasn’t able to celebrate with my parents. Instead I celebrated with my boyfriend and his family. My family is so judgmental that I can’t drink and have them know about it. I love my parents however they’ve preached “drinking is bad, have one and you’ll turn into an alcoholic” and won’t let me make my own mistakes. I had to have ONE glass of wine in secret tonight in fear of being kicked out. Please trust and respect your kids if they respect you.",2.0460900264783746,4.501707466019418,3.298711385701676,88.09013239187998,81.13592233009709,6.8522506619594,25.86849073256841,8.00094639256281,1.7308912621359225,411,17,82,8,11,133,70,103,0.106,0.693,0.2,0.9001,3,0,4,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,2,0,3,8,0,2,1,0,14,5,0,1,0,16,18,8,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,11,4,0,2,3,0,0,4,4,0,2,2,0,19,4,12,12,1,7,1,0,0,1,13,5,0,1,2,59,21,0,0.19934656902924025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21304085712936952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16644605842766452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905674912344084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758524077809183,0.2243203118030632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955566097530378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203845372975669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799180615585785,0.0,0.13306538277849508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701647886079397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427015476621049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21882267014293805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19958069188841127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889572384572131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21683182329549405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jamIEsonManchesteR,2020/01/08,"A grinding in the garbage disposal The garbage disposal was making a terrible noise, so I called maintenance to come take a look. Turns out my 3 year old boy had been tossing coins into the sink like it was a wishing well. He knew he was busted, because as we dumped the gnarled pennies onto the counter, he shouts “Ohh noooo!” Before running off to hide under his bed. Anyway, the disposal wasn’t broken, and we racked up another 31 cents for the college fund. I guess we’ll chalk this experience up as a draw.",4.938673469387755,6.265206132653062,5.282244897959185,82.12704081632656,69.3061224489796,8.457142857142857,32.36734693877551,8.841846274778883,2.6942693877551016,403,18,76,7,7,128,74,98,0.111,0.823,0.066,-0.6588,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,12,0,7,0,0,1,0,10,15,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,2,1,0,7,2,7,2,13,7,0,12,0,0,1,0,9,8,0,1,3,44,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915580959528466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16949578496777185,0.0,0.23659879442871026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839186063880597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23951416282373644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719847865176885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063017704330885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584045242446008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334907118620332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559953296409296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917651281655646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905786858602493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024369245785561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24999899396038786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197420531156825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905411794928489
parenting,Hannarks_the_Hunter,2020/01/08,"A plea from an Uncle: Please, advise me...  Reddit, I am caught in a riptide and need a rope. (identifying info changed)

Background: 

My sister is a single-mother to 4 children: 

11/F/biological. “Meghan”

10/F/adopted. “Ashley”

9/M/adopted. “Kevin”

7/F/adopted. “Sarah”

“Meghan” has been given a preliminary diagnosis of Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder. Behaviors include intensely negative reactions to changes in expectations, angry outbursts, sneaking out windows and then bragging about it, burning papers & other small trash to “relieve stress,” refusal to sleep before around 2am, refusal to listen to teachers / administrators (repeated 1-day suspensions for refusing to go to class.) Lives connected to her phone, tablet, and headphones. Was recently discovered as having 7gigs of Hentai and cartoon porn on her tablet.

“Ashley” refuses to see anything as being “fair” unless she comes out being the grand champion; Will destroy items that are not meant for her simply so somebody else doesn’t get to use them. Also falling behind in math, despite being removed from class an hour per day for individualized help.

“Kevin” lies and steals on a daily basis. Today, all 3 other children were able to bring up something “Kevin” has stolen from them since 2020 began. Repeatedly has electronics taken from him, and is frequently grounded for weeks at a time. In addition, has been given a diagnosis of ADHD - Inattentive Type, for which he takes Adderall, and is in the 11th percentile for height and 15th percentile for weight. Obsessed with violence and violent games / movies. (Seriously, his first question when we go to watch something is “does anybody get shot?!”)

“Sarah” is the ‘princess’ of the family… in her own mind. She will make declaratory statements and insist they be carried out. Still in the “I will watch the same movie 100x, doesn’t matter if we just finished watching it 3x in a row” phase.

All 4 kids meet with social-workers 1-on-1 once a week, and “Meghan” is starting a group session soon. 

My sister is moments away from just falling apart, I can see it in her eyes. She has a very serious job, and is called away frequently because 1-or-more children has decided to fake being ill to get out of class, or because “Meghan” has been suspended. My sister has even recently threatened to pull “Meghan” out of school entirely and have her take classes online. (As she is still 2-years away from retirement, I’m not sure how this would work.) 

I want to help. I have been trying to help. I try to bring the kids on fun trips where they will accidentally learn cool things (Department of Public Health, Dental School, Fire Department, Police Department… all these places were happy to put together cool demonstrations for the kids, and they all asked a ton of questions and keep asking where we can go next.) I try to have talks with the kids, have them talk out what they’re feeling and what they’re going through, and the talks always seem to end well. I just feel like I’m not doing anything that’s actually making a difference.

These kids, as well as their mother, need things to change, but I’m not sure how to go about doing it. And “half-butting” it isn’t going to work; These kids RALLY around failed programs and champion them as reasons why things shouldn’t change.

I could use a little advice here...",6.987559422750425,8.474504120543294,6.4804240237691,74.8280044567063,64.67062818336163,9.2176740237691,32.89138370118845,9.451951473030183,3.1601439388794565,2633,107,431,49,40,815,326,589,0.087,0.85,0.063,-0.9024,1,0,2,0,0,0,107.0,3,0,8,4,21,21,2,2,27,2,50,6,2,7,6,84,90,35,0,8,11,4,4,1,0,6,2,1,1,9,19,35,1,5,11,1,0,18,9,9,2,1,13,13,36,11,86,65,8,75,0,1,6,1,59,33,0,5,25,272,55,17,0.07977004458322133,0.0,0.07784405654595405,0.0,0.09586809192003264,0.07795036434292213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379207583307878,0.06637506733827721,0.0864308099783477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128789968740234,0.14202450382125076,0.14914844704166466,0.0,0.22483974826569084,0.0,0.0,0.0972541575582928,0.0,0.06787843259892011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145413434512694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.337544520154396,0.06871483008598522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368988965209844,0.0,0.0,0.10289015909008352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334271840094505,0.09142338204493113,0.0,0.06980730357562126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663763638072884,0.0,0.07065258249710274,0.0,0.0,0.052687362118009486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066826272587249,0.056987735789061876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785235917194189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502966772267748,0.0,0.2720109278282609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491669577679085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479182717651093,0.0,0.0,0.16040453821127942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785574254626382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915946052904542,0.07090328083771881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038971614442772674,0.07995054101502752,0.07043841082194964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064942483676958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054500514551571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829695459178767,0.0,0.0,0.0848363473856808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495249406851152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334271840094505,0.08756355445757043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801909274402914,0.17872141233107794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201689151371584,0.15752659099209432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614630876752956,0.12713279534067853,0.07261965263521468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598660520013629,0.0,0.07982765355541574,0.0813155147740027,0.0,0.12282175506386847,0.0,0.0,0.056461648130170274,0.0,0.1274089212946557,0.0,0.0913763165552326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503646459599717,0.0,0.11995429204408856,0.1923484206012265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898701923153924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04651455449018195,0.0,0.07561267499840109,0.0,0.0,0.1624758720862777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779141302797454,0.0,0.0658186409760543,0.047050439065772894,0.0,0.1279734362194907,0.09713842412723228,0.1434457001550879,0.0,0.07198005779962736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422062753969236,0.0,0.0,0.0566663509575312,0.0,0.0,0.05136929334794954
parenting,iamcosmos,2020/01/08,"3 year old really struggling with extended vacation after dad went home. I'm at my wit's end and I am completely lost as to what to do. For a little context: daughter turns 3 next month and has always been a bit ahead for her age. She's also very needy, independent and stubborn, so things haven't been easy with her. We have a 5 month old as well, who is easy except for naps which are a struggle (30 min max, won't nap unless held. Working on it). We live overseas, and are spending 2 months at my parents house. 

Ever since her dad went home about a week and a half ago she's been turning into a comple monster. I know she misses dad and is home sick as she asks to go home all the time. Her whole world is upside down right now and she's acting out in a big way. Shes angry, destructive, and defiant, and has started taking it out on her brother. Her big thing is waking him up on purpose, even though I give her the option of sitting with me with her tablet and headphones when I'm giving him a nap. She also kicked him last night. She's not listening to anything anymore, smashing food into my mom's couch, breaking things on purpose. She was almost 100% out of diapers but now refuses to use the potty.

I know shes 3 and this is a big disruption so I don't expect too much of her, but this behavior is unacceptable. I also know that she's acting out because she's hurting and doesn't know how to deal with her feelings. I don't either. I am completely lost as to how I should discipline her, as even at home we haven't found anything that works. Any time she gets corrected she gets frustrated and hides. 

I'm dealing with pretty bad ppd as well, so I just find myself getting angry. Yelling doesn't work, and honestly just makes things worse. The angrier I get the angrier she gets. The more I yell the more she yells. I try so hard to have patience with her, but I'm so burnt out right now I'm at a complete loss. My parents are a little help, but I've been home alone for the last 3 days too. 

If anyone has any thoughts as to how to help her deal with this transition, or how to positively discipline a strong willed child I'd be grateful. I was a very unconfident and anxious as a kid and I'm still dealing with the after effects. I really don't want the same for her.",3.034423076923076,4.34960616025641,4.2804273504273525,87.52846153846157,73.93589743589743,7.336752136752138,25.606837606837612,7.8897218956490685,1.3262068376068377,1785,59,378,25,36,587,223,468,0.16899999999999998,0.769,0.062,-0.9925,2,1,0,0,1,0,51.0,3,0,0,9,28,15,3,2,25,0,36,3,1,8,3,78,72,45,0,4,12,8,2,0,0,3,1,4,7,2,14,35,1,5,10,3,1,5,9,11,2,1,13,6,57,4,60,55,8,62,0,5,0,0,58,26,0,4,28,248,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437907047547016,0.0,0.07272501694320505,0.07521922139753681,0.0,0.17423832051644655,0.060431122550127676,0.0,0.0,0.09877711339132697,0.0,0.0,0.08204734948360093,0.07202604009245757,0.05078218498150718,0.0,0.11953095452127654,0.0,0.06789603719270595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06064015064723095,0.04427248174349772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928940211496334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284427242375951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04683812809926375,0.2994992102505771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432558252039945,0.0,0.0,0.09593832638299292,0.06569488868490686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03672217495349984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663793673899887,0.0,0.08782033428117891,0.07963128314544896,0.0,0.0,0.18972192108531016,0.1393400436167125,0.0412753522613858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505913959586294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736011522560024,0.0,0.4371022157374708,0.0,0.0,0.08380130841607318,0.07774824311805079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965464964582635,0.11840069248071836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14558180159440398,0.06413059010431675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585609564292025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04847879807935572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505935864734987,0.17390950098469193,0.0,0.05338888398329129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723917897425289,0.06815511418800664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241873197679007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128641792775805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388732935535601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305287831156564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240453844554882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060077447533024665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05140545862118998,0.0,0.05799967100219256,0.0,0.0,0.15185011553663946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05460614063098495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929994585485976,0.0,0.07135523429241956,0.057657382507569,0.08469827166984342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04930867232342287,0.1579937014305063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272603630374651,0.0,0.11984904930147015,0.04283703148247285,0.05764758917185954,0.05825665206429995,0.0,0.13060001342344374,0.13465111225871504,0.0,0.0810849695023302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586190193970591,0.0,0.07401267743010156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046769128621783035
parenting,ItsYaGirlPersia,2020/01/08,"5 year old literally does NOT sleep. My 5 year old has always been an early riser but it’s getting ridiculous. I will put her to bed around 9/930 and she’s been waking up between 4 and 5 the past couple weeks. It’s typical for her to be up around 730 or so, not 4 AM. 
And on top of that, she does NOT nap. Ever. Like literally ever. Never has since she was a little baby. 

she’s obviously very tired and it shows. She gets incredibly cranky and grumpy through out the day and that leads to attitudes and tantrums. And I’m just at a loss on what to do.  It doesn’t seem to matter what time I put her to bed, whether it’s earlier or later. If she eats right before bed or not, if she gets a shower or not... she’s up before the sun for no reason and it is KILLING me. I can’t think of a single part of her routine that has changed/anything new to disrupt her schedule. She is in preschool and will lay down for nap time there, but never sleeps. 


Anybody else have kids with funky sleep schedules? What did you do to fix it?",1.566952779144124,3.2508040327102847,3.083939990162325,93.0131751106739,78.76635514018692,5.813674372848009,21.543531726512548,6.5966054737557815,0.2240411214953273,789,22,180,7,19,259,121,214,0.133,0.852,0.016,-0.9799,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,3,7,5,3,0,8,0,18,6,4,2,5,39,24,20,1,2,15,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,1,13,14,1,0,3,3,0,3,10,4,0,0,4,0,20,1,28,17,2,35,0,1,0,0,16,14,0,7,19,121,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290725043257413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116635836557854,0.2415906584136997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309290971972308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014146333120398,0.0,0.0875106077122737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23749130578403635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884757412408574,0.11335389327333903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24548374863412786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126816072836588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501239396931496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629263077394064,0.13599979809584029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930925081143786,0.13105291779691605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28477346135087594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694204111269005,0.12953409795593826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728174144299517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951476181027006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588087972470698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352959680814303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224645725113573,0.0,0.4073722814693885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694644464877124,0.0,0.0,0.1582470847318888,0.1559588719230667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196074185418572,0.0,0.0,0.10884455105945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476338333555486
parenting,throwawaypop9,2020/01/08,"My son claims his sister's boyfriend is abusive and has become violent in keeping him away from her I need advice, bad. 2 kids, 17 year old daughter and a 15 year old son. My daughter has this boyfriend that no one ever liked, but we couldn't couldn't tell her who to date. The boyfriend is 18M.

Around 3 months ago, I came home to my daughter crying and my son telling the boyfriend to leave. My daughter said they got into an argument and he said something hurtful which is why she was crying. My son said the boyfriend was shoving her and screaming in her face.

2 days ago I came home to my son beating the shit out of him dragging him out of the house while my daughter was screaming at my son to stop. The boyfriend got up and left.

My daughter said it was my son's fault and that he started it.

My son told me that the boyfriend had been physically bullying him since he was 13 until he was able to prove a challenge and since he couldn't hit him anymore that he just started to hit his sister.

When I asked my daughter, she denied her boyfriend ever hit her and said that her brother randomly attacked him.

The boyfriend also denies hitting my daughter or my son. And now my daughter is pressing for her brother to to stay with his dad

Now everytime she tries to bring he boyfriend over my son doesn't will block the door and will get violent if the boyfriend presses hard to get in. Not only that he tries his best to keep his sister away from him, he follows her and won't let her get close to her boyfriend

My son promises that the reason he is doing this is that the boyfriend is abusive and that he won't stop. 

I don't know what to do, I don't have any proof that the boyfriend is abusive and my daughter is denying it and I can't have my son being violent when she tries to see her boyfriend.

TL;DR: My son claims his sister's boyfriend is abusive and is forcefully trying to keep him away form her, but my daughter denies and blaims her brother.",4.7519671168526125,5.491865653944025,4.4469847328244265,90.10204492072813,69.30534351145039,6.962184380504991,31.145918966529656,6.490185161304077,1.4703839107457424,1554,63,325,9,26,471,156,393,0.218,0.735,0.046,-0.9977,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,1,3,9,14,5,0,16,0,38,2,2,1,4,49,66,26,0,5,6,32,3,1,0,4,0,7,3,1,18,26,0,6,3,0,0,4,11,10,0,1,18,11,64,4,36,35,2,41,0,1,1,0,88,15,1,3,22,207,82,1,0.08583998336256674,0.4068253745067481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388183826726701,0.15218393192538365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864620368191282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058374132265000774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513019760406433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641578432599543,0.08024879689801563,0.09765537333727478,0.2419484701457741,0.0,0.07167280056924281,0.0,0.09480351751897634,0.0,0.0,0.09008376663289673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635614586856234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18858238197737545,0.05535968790421323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529435876647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345435451768488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730815265351884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689576440182776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17220900455418234,0.0,0.0,0.09904781570362227,0.09189347757439184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22889556396492355,0.0,0.0,0.04717540994656225,0.0,0.0,0.0908921480658146,0.09326539308783033,0.08777719882503225,0.0,0.04193707992591019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685166557587894,0.0,0.0,0.06364925998886346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801492453991486,0.0,0.05816739428270583,0.06528517544502609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825779952575905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408267406680994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840335299985455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881135093679678,0.14201544256685486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608381295465213,0.0,0.0,0.1215159640799888,0.09149400089128404,0.0,0.1435321395022467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005585801860816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820237826946043,0.0,0.2331188560747555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745723342940483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055626982217563
parenting,Successful_Kale,2020/01/08,"20 month old suddenly started having violent tantrums I'm a work from home mom, my daughter has been with me all day every day since the beginning of November b/c her daycare temporarily closed. The daycare was amazing; one on one care with field trips and a family-like environment. I keep her as stimulated as possible with games, reading books, listening to music, but due to the nature of my work, I can't leave the house during the day. 

A few weeks ago, out of nowhere, she started throwing these super dramatic, violent temper tantrum, several times a day. Most of the time, it's triggered by diaper changes or getting dressed. She won't let me take her diaper off, put it on, and she does everything in her power to avoid getting dressed. She pulls out all the stops; screaming, kicking, punching, throwing herself on the floor and against the door, refusing to be held...

It's odd, because she's always been an easy going kid. She would cry when she was tired, but she's never thrown temper tantrums like this before.

There have been no changes to her diet, her routine, or the household. She eats healthy, sleeps well, and is an extremely happy, goofy kid outside of these tantrums. Her daycare is opening up at the end of January again as well, and I don't want her acting up as badly as she does at home while with her daycare provider.

Headliner question: is this normal? I'm considering talking to her pediatrician about this at her 2 year appointment if it doesn't stop.",7.263695652173915,7.537269536231888,6.9990942028985526,75.6066847826087,63.78260869565217,10.233333333333334,37.90217391304348,9.978442167317967,3.8122434782608723,1176,57,210,23,16,371,165,276,0.18100000000000002,0.706,0.113,-0.971,1,1,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,0,0,4,6,18,8,1,17,0,18,4,1,2,3,34,32,17,0,4,5,2,0,1,0,2,1,2,3,2,9,13,2,6,1,3,0,7,6,11,2,2,6,2,29,7,37,22,4,45,0,0,0,0,31,15,0,5,24,134,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070374232747447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039150048290676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427444140418468,0.07612923540108313,0.0,0.10626863269845087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732941448141566,0.0,0.2642252719918655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718120670032824,0.3221640838183766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857684154789905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778936941897284,0.0,0.0,0.11061176652303928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522168780316384,0.0,0.11223932038183213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049537068854822,0.0,0.07097548826774708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329432753226751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505413157019011,0.0,0.0,0.14410146628527304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100425304426552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223604899368854,0.0,0.1277042100044869,0.0,0.06101290236555256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626476046783418,0.09968266831192496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631964167716564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236158570386572,0.0,0.0,0.13104665775710495,0.0,0.1692517244643282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078999516469906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255447406137664,0.13990069743199893,0.0,0.12491961370619956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108542681344874,0.0,0.10330683904363654,0.0,0.1249760088743508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678964928809207,0.0,0.0,0.2088202714457206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389859277657184,0.1003784897812744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564384936395436,0.1435378761499429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366089103626428,0.0,0.10017587006704133,0.0,0.22457469682639175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818367255267051,0.0,0.0,0.08871530183746752,0.0,0.0,0.08042237214032359
parenting,Valkyriescry,2020/01/08,"Rsv exposure to infant. Just looking for a little comfort and support here. My daughter is 7 weeks and just started daycare Monday. Monday afternoon we got an email from the preschool saying there were two cases of rsv in her room/building and to see a doctor is our child had any symptoms. 

She’s so little. I know flu and rsv can be devastating to little kids especially so young. She can’t even get her 2 month shots yet. 

I have generalized anxiety disorder and a major trigger for me is when my kiddos get sick. My other daughter is 4 and thankfully been spared this particular sickness. Everyone else I know including my niece was hospitalized as an infant for this sickness. Please send good vibes or prayers or whatever you thing is. Hoping nothing crops up later this week or next week and we dodged it this time.",4.290364145658263,6.779065529411768,5.022469654528481,78.51897058823529,73.44444444444444,7.770121381886089,29.22922502334267,8.634040054169528,2.5762440709617183,658,28,112,13,14,212,110,153,0.091,0.812,0.09699999999999999,-0.0367,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,0,0,9,5,0,0,6,0,13,6,0,1,0,19,24,14,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,4,7,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,3,16,5,11,18,1,20,0,0,2,0,17,5,0,4,14,73,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112969455670696,0.0,0.1270837742482002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903915508952838,0.17003410895091636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877459633124986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972279040496756,0.0,0.0,0.1587378128551061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358500501139865,0.0,0.0,0.13933623760864508,0.13286387876396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499779630257244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825939050712159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994971907062167,0.0,0.0,0.1395016278886505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259793345292645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667388133937845,0.0,0.0,0.15939966687002302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235336040059352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210781653119988,0.0,0.0,0.13237866251036662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175828383632077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18851461044859752,0.0,0.17266558635092955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294390027459154,0.0,0.0,0.11036485592870404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968677593248142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622782034259356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399761971996174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stuckone535,2020/01/08,"What would you do in regards to decluttering a room for a 6 and 3 yr old. I am Marie Kondo-ing the shit out of my house right now. We plan to list it for sale in 4ish months when my son finishes up the school year. So for the time being I am slowly going through through everything and either boxing stuff up that we can't/dont use right now to store in my garage, or I'm boxing it up to donate. 




My kids 100% are great with the idea of boxing up some of the 93,273,958 million toys they have to store in the garage for later use, but here's my dilemma. 



They are planning to store a few awesome toys that we should keep, but there's also a lot of shit thrown in there as well. Should I use my power of being mom and go through it and just keep the few toys? Or box it all up and make them go through it again in about a year when things are finally settled into our new (hopefully forever) home that we are building? 



I really dont want to move boxes of junk, but I honestly think its only gonna be about 4 totes total so its not that bad.... ? 


I mean if someone promised that I can have my junk box (yes I totally have one full of crappy books and post cards) and then threw it out; I'd be devastated so I imagine my kids would be too. 



What do I do?",4.537069182389935,3.913789071698112,5.281886792452834,88.66031446540882,69.60377358490567,8.576100628930817,26.72327044025157,7.793537801064563,1.1702628930817616,964,24,228,10,15,314,146,265,0.053,0.847,0.1,0.9308,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,1,3,3,17,8,2,0,12,1,23,2,2,4,3,45,39,21,0,7,9,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,17,15,0,2,4,4,5,5,2,3,1,2,1,0,27,5,40,28,9,39,0,0,0,0,13,18,2,6,15,160,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929614831388036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411499283173247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203559577324989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283153060647599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971694662445326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233020687308452,0.0,0.0,0.15068081005980902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370926569366781,0.13574563649829585,0.0,0.15770055989507462,0.0,0.15428548657657326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429598158447641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619322096869462,0.0,0.0,0.09122928680536356,0.0,0.0,0.14887532895436387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006800772612084,0.1090898865213847,0.14526017408415695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319981853177252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434137475031767,0.0,0.09261214475913784,0.10394483358760503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308935164803393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755526188638582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334334266465733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831885345722938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805826592527321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580131752508112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564561679017958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090798470954191,0.08757357795917703,0.0,0.0,0.07969425010742176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541208806425624,0.0,0.0,0.0806123911035882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288409112256216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941750230817599,0.0,0.0,0.17602392871577918
parenting,scarlett_here,2020/01/09,"3 year old experiencing separation anxiety. Normal? My son is almost 3. He’s been in daycare since he was 9 months and goes Monday to Friday , 9-5. He’s always loved his class and his teachers and I’ve never had problems during drop off. About a month ago, he was transitioned into the pre-k 3 classroom. More kids, fewer teachers. The teacher to child ratio is 1:10. There’s more than 10 kids in there and at least 2 teachers. But unfortunately, my little one has regressed badly. Drop offs are super hard. He clings on to me and cries and doesn’t want me to leave. It’s been almost 5 weeks! In his previous class, the teachers were super nice. Always greeted / welcomed him with a huge smile and a hug. The ratio was lower too 1:4. So he got more attention. His current teachers don’t really greet him or anything. It’s just a half hearted “hello OP’s son!” They see him struggling to let go, but don’t help at all. I usually have to stay a few minutes to distract him, before quietly slipping out( I know I shouldn’t do this, but it’s the only thing that doesn’t lead to a full blown meltdown) I’m not sure if he’s feeling neglected or just doesn’t like the class and/or teachers. But, is separation anxiety at his age normal? And can it go on for so long? I’m not sure what to do. I should also mention that I’m pregnant af and haven’t been able to spend as much time with him as I used to. So it’s possible he’s feeling neglected at home too. Any insight or advice? It’s getting really hard and I don’t want him spending his days at a place he doesn’t really like. Also, he’s too little to really articulate what the problem is (if there is one).",1.181383430908653,3.49307769732938,3.263645841687385,87.88641270350472,83.59940652818993,5.898436121581522,22.164487930066567,7.2228458231874715,0.8802792365065358,1292,44,263,19,37,437,171,337,0.124,0.764,0.11199999999999999,-0.7144,2,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,0,1,3,14,17,0,2,14,0,30,3,1,2,4,50,45,26,0,10,13,2,4,2,0,2,0,1,1,3,12,14,0,2,5,0,2,3,12,7,0,3,9,7,23,10,33,33,8,39,0,2,1,2,33,19,0,7,16,158,35,5,0.1171519010884107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447948187844442,0.10384809177364494,0.0,0.2346214127659844,0.0,0.0,0.18737266594917196,0.194959533097366,0.0,0.0,0.07966731004998519,0.0,0.17924176734755992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964060326068746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781694397064536,0.0,0.0,0.0996876391810074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868586231614204,0.07555328446705968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847104242214665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061207033052291436,0.0,0.13316025031032766,0.0,0.09369707733023752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098901847935142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882556685417824,0.07852444984347175,0.0,0.11751290877383268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643836210512941,0.0,0.0,0.12404694785347516,0.0,0.11979575614703908,0.0,0.11446900260140262,0.23483396359859954,0.0,0.10367574590790908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573416464788757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18701905950887565,0.0,0.08612012697048536,0.0,0.0903547683049956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295679787256865,0.0,0.0,0.12293121312134547,0.0,0.15877032018507556,0.08909929984458166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239880212628675,0.0,0.0,0.13207116608058975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419709526354945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002020307324331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335489745969802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690926319467524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248683390038132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247260342238075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22082856068005394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783051749425003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831221563528465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118162823041102,0.12902626795296568,0.0,0.1381984531260777,0.0,0.09397218855938352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544198332498306
parenting,lindysauper,2020/01/09,"Daughter has a strange habit of contracting phrases My daughter is 20 months and she is getting into the phase where she is trying to repeat whole phrases.

But sometimes she repeats phrases in this strange ""contracted"" form. It's actually hilarious.

An example:

When she wants me to sing ""Old mac Donald had a farm, E-I-E-I-O"", she will say ""yayao"". (it sounds like Chinese the way she says it lol )

At first I was like, what the hell is ""yayao""? But then I realized, it's exactly the same sound as ""E-I-E-I-O"" except with all the pauses removed. What I find strange about this is how accurate her representation is, while at the same time being so wrong.  It reminds me a little of the work I do on AI/machine learning.

What is going on in her brain? Have you come across something like this? Should I be worried?",2.8219676549865227,4.780608937106918,4.053122192273136,86.23202830188679,75.98113207547169,6.80700808625337,28.33827493261456,7.7094869923839395,1.7303293800539086,627,27,126,9,14,205,102,159,0.10800000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.6311,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,0,2,5,5,1,0,11,1,16,1,1,1,2,17,20,9,0,2,3,2,0,3,0,2,0,4,0,0,11,4,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,2,4,17,3,16,14,5,23,1,0,0,0,13,10,1,0,12,86,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.21892713093325344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504418118201345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932522696117465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050461165281868,0.19082667296245803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721034613137064,0.0,0.12749971899862528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288090619772543,0.22485136743417974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906903508516056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354110193185187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568142974392228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271077359930492,0.2218816980173784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081664051207895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231467500552906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232375200974672,0.17807362063961002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504717769842262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633249166305522,0.22783196064956995,0.0,0.0,0.24528466460756165,0.0,0.0
parenting,jazzeriah,2020/01/09,"This Is What Netflix and Parenting Small Children is Like A lot of people ask me what it's like parenting two small children. Here's what it's like: In July, Netflix ships you a movie. You think you lose the movie because you haven't seen it for months so you finally report the DVD missing in October. In December, you find it randomly in a pile of mail. You attempt to watch it but are unsuccessful, and you've basically lost interest in it by now, so you send it back and the next movie Netflix sends you is the one film you actually watched on demand in the last six months.",4.556543478260871,5.609225295652178,5.407554347826089,81.8965489130435,69.95652173913044,9.228260869565217,30.89673913043478,9.516144504307137,2.709543478260869,459,19,93,10,8,150,68,115,0.096,0.826,0.078,-0.2846,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,10,0,3,5,7,0,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,10,6,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,11,3,0,0,2,5,0,2,1,3,0,3,2,3,11,4,12,8,1,18,0,3,3,0,18,9,0,2,10,60,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.2093948197435738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20059920801330952,0.0,0.0,0.16499538123138546,0.0,0.1308032860492693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23505706688595826,0.1961181989025824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490774220333352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144923791276104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24005519523640445,0.2342346004027753,0.18242449053841786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425443723075576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22820357078951764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454019708250259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.476521591500007,0.0,0.0,0.14875969424945085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749137179124676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096091691786032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,faraamstuckathome,2020/01/09,"Being a stay at home day has made me hate being a dad and has completely robbed me of my masculinity. My second daughter is 7 months old. I’ve been a stay at home dad since she was born. Actually, I’ve been one ever since I was discharged from the military. That was 2016. I’ve been unable to find work. I was going to be a cop only to be disqualified because I have PTSD. Anyway, ever since our second daughter was born I’ve felt as if I’m trapped. I can barely find time to workout anymore, I can’t find work. I can barely leave the house. I hate it. I hate being a dad now. I resent having my second daughter, and I feel awful for feeling this way but I can’t help it. The wife makes the money. She controls the finances and it drives me up the wall. I can’t stand being dependent on someone else. I contemplate killing myself every day because I can’t take feeling trapped like this anymore. It doesn’t help that I have depression. I have no one to talk to. My wife doesn’t understand and my friend I used to hangout with I’m not able to hang with anymore because I have to take care of the baby. I can’t play my video games anymore because I’m on call 24/7 with the baby. I don’t care if you say my thinking is antiquated or whatever. It’s how I feel. I feel as though I’m Mr. Mom. I was in Afghanistan and Iraq, now the only job I have is changing diapers and rocking the baby to sleep. It’s pathetic and I hate where my life has ended up. Rant over.",1.0063662239089195,3.04947347385621,3.067520556609743,90.65126185958256,82.23529411764707,5.647733502002952,22.61606578115117,6.828538100315305,0.6323865907653383,1137,39,245,13,31,384,143,306,0.149,0.752,0.098,-0.9505,1,2,0,0,0,1,34.0,1,1,0,3,8,12,6,0,15,1,37,2,1,6,2,34,61,15,1,2,5,9,6,1,1,0,1,1,2,1,10,10,0,1,11,6,2,3,10,7,0,5,11,7,41,5,27,44,0,29,0,1,0,0,21,10,0,4,13,156,51,4,0.09326041861888873,0.0,0.09100871559491552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699571017916079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274027423126577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952293145497823,0.0,0.19017042452607502,0.0,0.09865715700857287,0.0,0.0977817745681888,0.0,0.10459948957543867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202905095344972,0.0,0.08032506190061879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790711284054165,0.0,0.0826010497375516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871877580102818,0.07857592497528669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23577634907877976,0.0,0.08954462706076811,0.0,0.2557149991881777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205276808248254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053002045088304924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683014224881992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502098550997495,0.0,0.18709560772898245,0.0,0.0,0.10761000170270943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254657516058334,0.0,0.10317883552122972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098749317575991,0.0,0.0,0.06587259170876435,0.0455623297714865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824526303977856,0.062252053607127066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922547513729622,0.0744395763853038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786112124951807,0.0,0.12639134650952694,0.1418575016701558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901643866823184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074164428084855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314379460243573,0.0,0.09332777017787464,0.0,0.07901925005428705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19880639510839224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140240456798205,0.07495919184399208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975751056032695,0.09162788778404976,0.0,0.054380900077093834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708738478757553,0.0,0.08054705828621321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402577938450265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578939096155196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rach23elle,2020/01/09,"19 weeks pregnant and depressed w/ a 2 year old I’m 24, and 5 months pregnant with baby girl #2 and I’m so depressed. And I shouldn’t be. I have no friends, no one to talk to that I think will care. 
I just became a stay at home mom quitting my old job and my boyfriend has a job that makes enough to support us, so I should be ecstatic, most women would love to be a SAHM’s and I know should be cooking and cleaning daily but I can’t bring myself to have the energy to do anything. I’m so sad all the time. Most days my 2 year old will ask me why momma is crying, I tell her I’m ok and distract her. 
I’m terrified to be responsible for 2 kids. I feel lonely because I have no adult interaction except my boyfriend from 7pm-10pm then it’s back to work all day for him, idk what’s wrong with me it’s so hard for me to maintain adult friendships. 
My boyfriend is 100% supportive and offers to cook and clean when he gets home and he has never gotten mad that I don’t do enough around here but I feel so guilty he has to work all day then come home to a messy house and make dinner. 

I’m not sure if I can take meds for depression while pregnant or if just getting a therapist will help. I feel so helpless and sad. No thoughts of suicide yet. Just want to sleep all day and not be around but I get up and take care of my daughter all day. Some days I’ll give her the tablet and let her watch cartoons while I lay down and be sad. I don’t want her to grow up with this much of a shitty mom. If I stare at her too long I’ll burst into tears with guilt. Help.",1.2496920085951082,2.7123978902077184,2.5978553156656083,97.13495548961427,79.0,5.5978307582114,21.116238616596746,6.129581340695534,-0.09386045226644812,1207,32,294,8,29,390,165,337,0.23199999999999998,0.647,0.121,-0.9938,2,2,0,0,0,1,27.0,1,0,0,3,16,20,1,2,10,1,29,5,1,2,7,62,60,35,1,9,13,4,4,0,1,7,0,0,5,5,7,25,3,0,6,2,0,3,11,12,0,1,2,6,36,8,35,43,11,35,0,8,2,1,30,8,0,7,23,178,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780442229025419,0.16885321587503746,0.08866144308959925,0.0,0.0,0.07292515632525637,0.0,0.057812830952056415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338888341268365,0.0,0.0,0.08169519854776848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417593019267801,0.3669789461004678,0.0,0.2450534682729087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598759272590704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385998768345526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327219466954378,0.0,0.14864802133955832,0.09097798529950604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849569053104704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713685028142882,0.0,0.28539304226954826,0.0,0.0,0.10943120164550373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882256810287472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05212090505881554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697906285224916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392932272422103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559568826821913,0.0,0.1266112242976892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534448817277513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22214803095341776,0.07569939749960022,0.0,0.06971740464714958,0.0,0.07314550228052596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985519911698357,0.0,0.06426520168795116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087270063335503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490725653620248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108550491257164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373821608054004,0.215243813522883,0.08938441374950154,0.0,0.14261389707194402,0.07622780697026382,0.08289326089763968,0.0,0.0,0.11011511599483116,0.0,0.06076885126371862,0.0,0.07529138590785478,0.055301246611267466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407935724329107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187672170412488,0.0,0.07607393678852882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557723428933797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808750105483547,0.0,0.0,0.06737073768006342,0.1036913016136683,0.0,0.12214611064505056
parenting,throw-away729,2020/01/09,"Staying together for the kids seems like the better option. I'm a father to a wonderful 3 year old daughter. My wife and I had an argument last year which resulted in her putting her hands on me. I came from a household with domestic violence, so it's a pretty sensitive subject for me. While I wasn't hurt, she was physically restraining me to prevent me from leaving the room to de-escalate the situation. I do not want my child to ever see this type of behavior. I knew if I let this slide, it could possibly get worse down the road. I called the police and she was arrested. I filed for divorce the next day. 

I found a place to stay and lived there for about 2 weeks. It was very clear she was going to do everything in her power to prevent me from seeing my daughter (only reason I can think of is out of spite. I'm a loving, caring father). Financially the divorce would ruin me and I likely wouldn't recover for a year or so. This would affect my housing situation and likely my custody. I don't have any family (she has tons) where we live, so my support system is almost zero. I was incredibly miserable about the thought of only seeing my daughter 50% of the time, likely less. 

I decided the nullify the divorce filing and patch things up with my wife. It's been about a year and there have been no signs of any future physical altercations. I'm hoping it was an isolated incident and she learned her lesson (if not, I divorce). The issue is, after I told her I no longer wish to divorce, she would threaten me with divorce if I do not give into some demand of hers. As a result, all my personal credit cards have been cancelled and I've cut contact with a close friend of mine whom I've known almost my whole life (he was there to support me during the divorce process, she feels uncomfortable with him now). 

Despite all these red flags and situations which affect my overall happiness, I am still happier than I would be without my child 50% of the time. My wife tells me how much she loves me quite often and on the outside it appears we have a normal, loving relationship. On the other hand, I resent her for the things mentioned above and don't genuinely love her. I care about her, but only because she is the mother to my daughter. If having my child 100% of time, but dealing with my wife makes me happier than having my child 50% and being with someone else, wouldn't staying together for the sake of the child be the right decision?",5.316748549061952,6.045778535564853,6.272083951950332,77.55841341611556,68.03765690376568,9.263976245107305,30.900526386826833,9.370254747372089,2.746065919827238,1932,74,360,37,31,642,232,478,0.069,0.8270000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.9419,1,0,0,0,8,0,56.0,2,0,0,4,16,23,3,1,35,0,41,7,2,7,4,81,72,26,0,15,11,11,3,4,1,6,1,0,1,7,16,26,0,3,13,0,1,5,11,6,0,1,17,7,72,17,56,44,7,42,0,3,4,4,61,15,0,14,22,266,88,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280214204859856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735230527844805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259799172723796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631128223096459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810572199684834,0.09868603386110952,0.1759447984534012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889083969540022,0.0,0.0,0.05564611192473333,0.0889551272184318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720793009795065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804891606461717,0.0,0.0,0.07754659315585907,0.0,0.08134097847559052,0.0,0.04362783784295196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460607147302792,0.06666288824813457,0.0,0.04507988548523801,0.08277157923839712,0.049037247321290216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185103802467058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569958864993164,0.0,0.09956027656949007,0.09236892280002193,0.0,0.0,0.09005819203721868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033306467526775,0.0,0.09136241253926618,0.0,0.08823134694524852,0.060945017610835636,0.1686162282844865,0.0,0.1523808973399217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114991069821593,0.0,0.057595312480961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342874777947262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176412834148567,0.0,0.08454010655270655,0.0,0.0,0.09054065740022296,0.0,0.0,0.1968688580466124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533995547455967,0.0901485288246094,0.0,0.0,0.09727236799287957,0.0,0.08778195811784383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673936094867403,0.0,0.09177377039047477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871443421319015,0.0,0.0926368416834506,0.0,0.07368615727477347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20627178987946893,0.07854981184228492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909608596025263,0.0,0.0,0.07310824519316435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759021378253053,0.0689066005657995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582836779614654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541611402066695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464665548810657,0.0552873727753187,0.0,0.06849994418017273,0.15093887276567944,0.0,0.0,0.08244816336774513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119342597732169,0.050892602781759735,0.0,0.0692119073217454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633312584093598,0.09922246661075676,0.08317480161079895,0.09357143511604434,0.0,0.0,0.08793087809564606,0.245175020478934,0.0,0.0,0.22225654794696176
parenting,ladya1992,2020/01/09,"Bad Mental Health Day I have twin 8 week girls and I’m currently sitting in my bath tub wishing I never have to leave. I need to get out in the next ten minutes and start our bed time routine but I honestly am really resentful right now which makes me want to cry on top of all the crying I’ve done today. 

I’m exhausted, cranky, and just down. I feel fat, ugly, and so much more I can’t even get out. My mom came last night so I could sleep, my partner is with them right now, and I can’t seem to shake this funk today. 

I feel like such a bad mom and person for feeling this way. I should be so grateful for my twins, my night of sleep, and my thirty minute break but I don’t. I don’t want to leave and start what is going to feel like an eternity tonight. I just want to hide away from the world and my responsibilities a little longer but I hear them crying and it just makes me cry a little harder. 

Why can’t I just be happy and grateful today? Why can’t I just be better?",0.8546650717703344,2.6647539282296684,2.600332535885169,95.03207775119616,81.48803827751195,5.519712918660287,17.627033492822967,6.508806274219699,-0.3337887081339717,757,15,178,7,20,250,114,209,0.16899999999999998,0.6509999999999999,0.179,-0.5114,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,2,2,12,10,1,1,7,0,17,5,3,2,2,39,38,17,0,7,8,2,4,2,1,1,3,1,2,3,5,15,1,0,5,1,0,3,7,5,0,1,2,5,28,5,20,31,3,37,0,0,0,0,9,13,0,1,20,108,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098076614706629,0.0,0.17432039910331618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232331718861053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939285699157368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334587833733692,0.0,0.4586643165755871,0.0673220720625695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682587740856754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894774817462962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21112824178408288,0.14915060835370625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090775687370405,0.0,0.05932650069746565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112370634776056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096030077076972,0.11765364539056608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509071855468055,0.0,0.2210651097815459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199808646865556,0.20924979147685493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936052828107978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051992515281731,0.0,0.0,0.2445175546006864,0.0,0.0,0.07673770154191531,0.07740289423440502,0.08051099652296048,0.0,0.11101856081733748,0.19592343652477268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114818153889176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687407069347852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829474938971324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503154686710708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20892816544440504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777371044252238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060869887208642726,0.0,0.2968448294824309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184713469822992,0.08285888676499721,0.08373431406321485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883891202466406,0.0,0.12004184688465593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2mamas3teens,2020/01/09,"Senior wants to attend a music college instead of a traditional college. Would it be wrong to discourage this option? We have 3 kids. The oldest is a sophomore at a large public out of state university. It cost a lot to send him there and we don't qualify for any financial aid but it was his dream school and is considered to be one of the best public universities in America so we couldn't pass it up. His major is very employable. 

Our next two are seniors. The boy twin has a partial athletic scholarship to an out of state university. Combined with the academic scholarship we are paying very little for all 4 years. The girl twin wants to major a music field. We accepted that but figured she would attend a traditional university with a strong music program. She elected to apply for two music schools instead and has been accepted to one. It's a great school but expensive and I'm not sure if it's worth it for a major that may lead her to struggling with employment after. At least at a traditional college she could double major or explore other options. 

I am not threatening to hold tuition but is it wrong for us to discourage this option? We have talked about employment after and she says she doesn't care because she wants to major in something she loves.",4.301785714285714,6.599675750000002,5.436309523809523,76.44250000000002,72.75,8.571428571428571,29.345238095238088,9.23628265651192,2.92389880952381,1020,43,174,24,21,337,128,240,0.08199999999999999,0.782,0.135,0.9496,3,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,8,0,0,3,5,13,0,1,18,0,22,1,0,1,2,46,28,12,0,8,8,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,13,16,0,3,4,1,7,6,5,5,0,4,2,1,20,8,35,19,10,24,0,2,0,1,28,9,0,7,7,134,33,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052565959089805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435324764556684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243343163359972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780985732793928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358027834977335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706469365371779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551315313438691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158953151914224,0.13969617193217113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461167512409206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097676377371681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230883071754874,0.0,0.4699408358325549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915821146112204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181102788913296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458795493539231,0.0,0.0,0.1244073509305971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023976911534286,0.0,0.18618285366702772,0.0,0.0,0.2554215752878634,0.2738820739675605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21990439809678397,0.3384581207572781,0.0,0.0996740865033294
parenting,PEEPEEP00P00PEE,2020/01/09,"Is my 29 year old son autistic?  

My son is currently 29 and I think he may be autistic. I couldn't find much online about symptoms of autism in adults and was wondering if I could get an opinion on this. I haven't talked or asked him about it personally because i'm not 100% certain he is autistic and I don't want to offend him even though autism is nothing to shameful of whatsoever. I want to help him because he's never had a job or driven a car and lives with his dad still and I don't want him wasting his young years of his life if he can get proper help.

His symptoms and things he does that makes me believe he could be autistic:

\- He stays in his room all day and plays video games or watches anime.

\- He's not social-able not all not even with his family.

\- He has no desire to get a job or drive

\- He sometimes talks to himself out loud and in an odd way

\- He gets angry incredibly easily

\- He has very odd mannerisms and the way he talks is odd at times.

\- Sometimes when he walks he does weird motions with his arms on purpose

\- He likes odd hobbies but never really does anything with them

\- His hygiene is really lacking (Not meant to be offensive I don't even know if this is a symptom of autism)

\- Sometimes he'll just stand around and stare at things for minutes without moving.

He was diagnosed ADHD awhile ago but I think it may be something more. Thank you for any replies!",1.95321812596006,4.201324136200721,2.9720570916538698,91.50189516129034,80.03942652329752,5.7061443932411695,23.58435739887353,6.868970318607317,0.7409927291346645,1090,38,226,12,28,347,148,279,0.073,0.8590000000000001,0.068,0.3016,3,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,1,1,10,8,2,1,7,0,26,6,1,1,5,55,44,21,0,11,16,3,0,1,0,3,5,1,1,2,7,16,0,0,6,3,0,6,14,4,0,0,5,3,27,4,28,29,5,32,0,0,2,0,45,10,0,11,13,134,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769476748527686,0.0,0.09418636430849517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225529289648475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743669289985119,0.0945871855246384,0.0993316748270221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295409847808563,0.0,0.0,0.11971009835821092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966783185945944,0.0,0.0,0.0685240244089281,0.0,0.0,0.1078439752948164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27894664075400505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105361748729853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100165330545404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711279198948798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220500276835424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424375222262555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087827459731012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058393554318311024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504923039396105,0.05190956808597781,0.0,0.09382283835839804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092431909031577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292951308322476,0.078107758309282,0.0,0.16389684161233178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195206791886144,0.0,0.11149404698903423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277551960663824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361360490587789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831096712212873,0.0,0.08179830818003919,0.3152590970852258,0.0,0.0,0.11325094825665888,0.08485332426268581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33131086029033435,0.0,0.2562050245593903,0.0,0.09782295794435672,0.0,0.0,0.1411787804634948,0.13616452796147813,0.10439246858875643,0.0,0.06195664377319132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876693786984397,0.188011300410432,0.16867645945015708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242354656323913,0.11522622303860057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684615680931686
parenting,ia1v1chem,2020/01/09,Was there mal-intent behind this? Long story short: My (female) friend was at a rest top. It was pouring rain outside. Suspicious looking lady knocks on her window (nobody else was around) and asks if she could help her with a flat tire.,2.0400757575757598,4.886667704545456,2.2881818181818185,91.71893939393942,87.86363636363636,3.8424242424242414,16.424242424242426,5.46131890053228,-0.4825030303030302,185,4,33,1,6,56,39,44,0.053,0.784,0.163,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,1,5,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,1,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33995125260648346,0.3570031933358465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30489749561596313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190090068806077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29503701460529824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559639227576251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379488894262838,0.32068027540689936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389111252352478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kantGetEnuff,2020/01/09,"Help me save my pup! I’m pathetically begging anyone and everyone...I have no where else to turn. All I can say is fuck me for not being able to save him on my own, and hopefully someone out there has the heart to help. Thank you! 


https://www.facebook.com/donate/3150566971638975/?fundraiser_source=external_url[Izzy](https://www.facebook.com/donate/3150566971638975/?fundraiser_source=external_url)",16.53612244897959,22.459039755102037,8.219755102040818,53.58595918367347,49.40816326530613,7.185306122448982,22.044897959183675,8.238735603445708,1.1951926530612242,344,6,41,4,5,83,40,49,0.134,0.583,0.28300000000000003,0.8571,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,5,2,1,0,1,8,10,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,7,4,6,9,2,3,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,1,0,27,7,0,0.3069981288575715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21466022975924934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564575435210175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838148232268819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637942608345818,0.4115487490608179,0.0,0.0,0.30491841190540936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24413723407017784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260118518334437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826426305526402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339258074651296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nerdypoliticaldude,2020/01/09,"20 year old son looking for advice from parents regarding boundary issues My parents have always been controlling, but since entering college in the Fall of 2018 things have gone way too far. To put the change in perspective, during high school I had a great deal of friends, participated in multiple organizations, and was the captain of a varsity sports team. 

I attend a university roughly 15 minutes from home, and originally had a dormitory on campus. Move in day happened, but from that day my mom would not let go. She would constantly text. My father would walk around outside the dorm complex. My level of privacy was near zero. I couldn’t go anywhere without them spying on me thanks to Find my iPhone. After about a month of this I gave in and left the dorm to live back at home. 

Academically, my father seems to have a set path for me. I have limited role in choosing my courses even though I explain time and time again about expanding my knowledge in diverse fields. I have spoken to my mother about this, but she doesn’t make any effort to convince him to change his ways. I explain I need to take the courses that will lead me to a good job/graduate program in my field. But to no avail. 

Currently, I live at home and commute to school. Because roughly 95 percent of the students live on campus I have found it nearly impossible to find friends. When I mention to them the possibility of social plans they make excuses for me not to go. And, at this point my only social life consists of seeing extended family members on the weekends and attending class  for a couple hours each day. 

I do maintain friendships from high school, but as you all know, those friends get busy and can’t be there to chat all the time. I am asking for any advice on what to do in this situation. Leaving the house likely isn’t a real possibility, and I don’t want to lose my relationship with my parents. 

It is time for me to gain freedom. I am trustworthy. I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. I maintain a 4.0 GPA at what I would deem a prestigious university. Thank you all for reading. 

TLDR: 20 year old guy with over controlling parents. Persuaded not to socialize. Important decisions are made for me. Need advice on how to move forward.",5.162460347866067,6.741073885985749,5.85086966515976,77.30337675273927,69.04750593824228,8.757673741475749,31.870431384568235,9.19923166143015,2.906562730825224,1770,77,318,35,31,576,222,421,0.025,0.8540000000000001,0.121,0.9928,6,0,2,0,0,0,47.0,0,2,3,9,12,10,0,0,22,0,31,2,0,8,3,54,55,18,0,8,9,9,2,1,3,5,1,0,5,1,12,13,1,3,11,6,0,14,12,1,0,1,9,4,48,9,71,38,5,67,0,1,2,0,37,30,0,1,23,215,60,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22246111494257567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314219571616589,0.0,0.0,0.10320847210573457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755352104630745,0.07094200285983039,0.0,0.0,0.05835069302167501,0.0,0.04625864271790543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055201907280936,0.0,0.0,0.08200446232293271,0.17022241218508513,0.0,0.08396503879466838,0.0,0.14681816884847754,0.07823385100447344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433817092567659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050121165432029054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153739407275972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871458382316915,0.0,0.0,0.0832037177752002,0.1758851219646774,0.0,0.03964665280833948,0.0,0.1293811662317006,0.06364853272582494,0.0,0.08366321101984123,0.0,0.0751378386948473,0.06710463882327647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603528214492433,0.2283557915970472,0.0,0.07473119851223886,0.0875608195576584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920396943811182,0.07530391078983767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04170427715690087,0.0,0.0,0.0803509993578557,0.08244900906824278,0.07759730401923721,0.053599647106605315,0.03707345853194248,0.0,0.20102288858200726,0.0,0.06372408269638627,0.08489563102287137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180399062896407,0.10130732732532036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887530869126918,0.06057048799078316,0.1613069719011716,0.0,0.11253516959000527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592565717657346,0.0,0.0,0.05771377618298094,0.0,0.0,0.3370441632523442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173562222619624,0.17109732024148994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628513895571983,0.0,0.0,0.07590529115982204,0.08637346523658189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147182850958136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23039827208696406,0.060470325434345114,0.06908263152734184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277265405935963,0.08529764481659166,0.0,0.2320648560303573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05705589228738968,0.0,0.0,0.13972897515984978,0.0,0.0,0.05041445976235572,0.0,0.07455638715510356,0.0,0.17699604511440414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044758794998755916,0.12046757380802585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315019650938785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156254127439804,0.0,0.0,0.0977345893405027
parenting,Strawberrythirty,2020/01/09,"Yesterday my daughter's classmate threatened to kill her. I don't know how i'm supposed to handle this So i went to pick up my daughter when the guidance counselor came to me. She said that yesterday my daughter was playing with a little girl in the school yard. My daughter gave something to the little girl to see, but then when she asked for it back the girl refused. My daughter got upset and told her she was going to tell the teacher on her. According to a teacher passing the girl then went ""I'm going to bring a knife to school and stab you"" And then motioned to my daughter how she was going to stab her. The teacher immediately took her out of recess and to the principal and guidance counselor who then called the girls mother. She told me all this happened yesterday. I thanked her for telling me and then asked my daughter why she didnt bring any of this up. My daughter just shrugs and goes ""i forgot.."" I'm pretty shaken up tbh. This girl and my daughter always got along before. That little girl even gave my daughter a little plastic doll as a present a while back. She seemed so sweet...As a mother what am i supposed to do now? How do i handle this?",4.289267916773697,5.701897803493452,4.555232468533267,86.39641407654769,70.9650655021834,6.4362702286154665,29.62779347546879,6.522977012572876,1.4523915232468538,923,37,177,6,17,289,104,229,0.1,0.8590000000000001,0.040999999999999995,-0.9288,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,0,12,4,1,1,16,0,8,0,0,4,1,23,35,23,1,0,2,12,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,10,12,0,2,2,2,0,11,2,2,0,0,16,2,33,2,27,19,1,36,0,0,1,0,45,10,0,1,15,122,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116830948326282,0.0,0.0,0.09127526725178743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509580904859961,0.0,0.0,0.2064161978649994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142126664278895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705522533353967,0.15351371399682207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865207819553238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288436265784085,0.0,0.2146984947442797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869168717378785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849627574103644,0.0,0.07376466224863794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.538101079948856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655158572437318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767544530111882,0.0,0.0,0.2716787802399697,0.10695721004701766,0.12219027229964252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333031866016253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346311287535256,0.12357318435513412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565089157116722,0.14912509801743845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24884947201228466,0.12111408611193883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cachecash,2020/01/09,At what age did you start letting your son use the men’s public restroom by himself? My son is 7 and I still bring him with me into the ladies room unless his father is with us and can take him to the men’s room. Just recently I’ve let him go into the men’s room by himself while I wait outside but it gives me anxiety waiting for him to return. Is 7 too old to keep bringing him with me?,2.4985098039215683,3.139796282352944,4.0950000000000015,90.93583333333336,74.41176470588233,6.607843137254903,24.75490196078432,6.42735559955562,0.6293137254901957,304,9,70,2,6,102,56,85,0.031,0.9690000000000001,0.0,-0.3421,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,14,17,5,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,7,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,17,0,13,14,0,16,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,0,7,50,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21404059740226053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684025872797369,0.1590126004023977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24869254672412724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5722138448288814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935953007521558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27626146934059354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803866478155724,0.0,0.22344275707539493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21036923839400354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33655608594219955,0.24165099990982014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Toastwaver,2020/01/09,"How to tickle your kids like a boss I am a father of two daughters that love to be tickled. They are 11 and 9. They are very ticklish. I know the spots that they are the most ticklish. The front of their hips, their ribs, the soles of their feet, their necks, and of course their armpits. 

They like to be tickled, I suppose, because of the physical sensation and the playful laughs that come with it.  The main reason I like to tickle them is so that, along with the laughs and physical touch, I can consistently reinforce to them the 100% control they have over their own bodies. For when they say ""Stop!"" -- even while laughing -- I immediately stop and pull my hands back. And then I don't start up again until they tell me that they are ready.

My goal is to build up a foundation of understanding, over many years of physical touch, that the words ""Stop!"", or ""No!"" or ""Get off!"" are *completely non-negotiable.* They demand an immediate agreement from the touching partner. So that if they ever utter those words later in life, and the touch continues for even a second longer, they hopefully have a visceral reaction that something is wrong and they bolt out of the situation. 

I'm writing this to (a) state generally that it is completely wrong, even in good fun, to continue tickling a person after they ask you to stop, and to (b) suggest that actively tickling (assuming your kids enjoy it) and then pulling away on command is an effective way to instill them with the sense of ownership over their body that every young person has to develop.",8.063193473193472,7.564826111888112,7.483062937062937,75.37254312354314,62.35664335664335,11.123170163170164,35.5002331002331,10.504223727775694,3.5632613519813523,1212,47,225,25,15,379,156,286,0.039,0.805,0.156,0.9886,0,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,0,3,23,3,10,15,0,0,23,0,18,10,8,5,1,38,27,21,0,2,3,2,5,3,1,0,1,1,0,5,16,16,0,5,5,1,0,4,2,2,0,2,0,6,36,13,41,25,3,36,0,0,0,1,39,11,0,6,22,166,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273963045743783,0.0,0.12803241163921678,0.10478506893868,0.0,0.08307039411519819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027358462218667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738661174213087,0.2857580508680005,0.0,0.15284109127116008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700199176622249,0.1232661933439229,0.11481537978445007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119670791513262,0.0,0.0,0.11429882909949272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534924758303174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489175073379839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625323070401696,0.19972744316619453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299116721855817,0.0,0.0,0.13815883130380638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379756180178328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401107299307817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836928715426927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317589439929202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490915612487256,0.0,0.0,0.09645431065002218,0.0,0.0,0.4557193345459996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910808965524182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311833991133196,0.14186438098145793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243900689243792,0.0,0.10816669325298743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979849680258192,0.0,0.0877549618642402
parenting,avengingcoffee,2020/01/09,"Board games for preschoolers? My 4 year old and I play a lot of Connect 4. I like that Connect 4 teaches strategy. Any game that teaches any form of critical thinking would be great, so long as it's age-appropriate. For example: Battleship is too complicated and drawn out for him at his age and maturity level. Are there any other games that I might want to get for this stage?",3.0759295499021526,5.44528489041096,4.318238747553817,82.67739726027398,76.8082191780822,8.007045009784736,28.23679060665361,8.841846274778883,2.435780430528375,299,13,58,7,7,98,55,73,0.047,0.8079999999999999,0.146,0.8053,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,8,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,10,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,5,36,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6069101809815087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542624063245164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279837627381801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453385816633393,0.0,0.0,0.26326927850701176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25291535002270465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155898660234645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121656999043532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906195726190712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546730301610491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21132835254485927,0.0,0.0,0.1915737991096636
parenting,disillusionedcs,2020/01/09,"My almost 4 yr old daughter was tickling another girl’s private area So this one baffled me. 

We went to the McDonald’s playroom and there were two older kids already in there (brother and sister, probably around 8/9).  My daughter joins them and there was some tickling going on (not sure who started it).  The other girl leaves and eventually comes back, then her mother comes in and says no tickling to everyone.  

The mom approaches me at our table and explains that my daughter was tickling her daughter in her private area, and warned me that maybe she has older cousins touching her or something, which she has none.  We have no family here, it’s only my daughter, my mom and I.  Her father is not involved and I don’t have men around.  She doesn’t go to anyone’s house and we’re pretty much always home (no preschool).  So there’s no way she’s getting touched by anyone.  She does understand what a vagina is and tries to poke at me when I’m out of the shower/getting dressed, but I tell her no, it’s inappropriate and explain that I need privacy so I can get dressed.  This behaviour has just recently started.  

I was quite upset inside when the mom told me about this as it felt like I was kind of being attacked or things were being assumed about us.  She was being nice about it, but still.  

I explained to my daughter that she can’t do this and she got mad saying she did nothing and ran back into the playroom.  I’ll try again when we go back home.  

How do I best approach this one and explain to my 3 year old that she can’t be doing this?  I’ve tried calmly explaining to her that those are private areas and she cannot touch people there, but any advice is appreciated.  She’s very smart and understating; I’ve had to explain things to her in the past, but nothing like this with her doing stuff to other kids.  

I know she’s young and it’s normal for kids to explore those areas, but I don’t want her doing it to another child.  That’s just scary to me.",3.3670453084832914,5.1335319537275055,4.1966958547557836,86.62596923200516,73.9357326478149,6.507744215938303,26.552136889460158,7.1686216300943375,1.2650828406169667,1546,56,304,16,32,496,186,389,0.065,0.852,0.083,0.8402,1,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,5,0,1,2,25,11,2,1,8,0,35,1,1,1,1,57,60,34,0,3,11,14,4,2,0,0,0,2,2,7,31,28,0,0,11,0,0,10,14,3,0,3,15,6,53,8,33,41,4,45,0,0,0,1,62,15,0,5,21,220,84,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995142941183992,0.0,0.0,0.1019754103240084,0.0,0.11238006424204217,0.0,0.0847368454132136,0.0,0.0,0.06925290011666896,0.213570712405968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241410640531282,0.0,0.0,0.1813136906340961,0.0,0.11585470401308445,0.0,0.2349199421203685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687203133813007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544774470559504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911856407849521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730996607116274,0.0,0.0,0.096003204102318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777984029910483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596174595482824,0.0,0.1736295635273581,0.0,0.08144864353401063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430236011803132,0.0,0.0,0.1175066458642646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604794413112084,0.05596715233660088,0.0,0.0,0.10783106501379804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950518473180367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023093206669586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578120720164755,0.0,0.0,0.0748621805779544,0.07551111551428552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977899524096273,0.1954313959086105,0.0,0.213722366631232,0.0,0.13801526772235526,0.07745190478667477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972152877001219,0.07060120613096926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360521104645233,0.10979790329603564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831657271838656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055211184448708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197031965056374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783993786340371,0.0,0.0,0.14416202171210274,0.0,0.08132745096127053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657941815265832,0.0,0.0,0.09598051099057027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901034537102932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531243996254286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730996607116274,0.0,0.20742265745939847,0.0,0.09948030771900032,0.10601628809224324,0.12249781077462125,0.0,0.0,0.08402649111105942,0.060066316187992075,0.08083375992309756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440425729903887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557992396794159
parenting,snglpar3nt,2020/01/09,"Going to be putting down our senior dog this week. Is 2.5 years old too young to tell? Just googling a little and the advice seems to be to tell the child, with some even suggesting having them around for the euthanisation process.

2.5 seems too young to me. My daughter is smart but I don't know how much she'll grasp.

Wondering what people's thoughts are. She's not super attached to the dog as due to her age all she does is sleep and then poop around the house (which my daughter is fascinated by). 

Would you have a frank conversation about death or just gloss over it with a ""gone to the farm"" type conversation?",3.7632499999999993,5.693982158333334,3.4466666666666685,91.725,73.25,6.8000000000000025,22.833333333333336,7.554174236665415,0.6699833333333332,489,13,104,6,10,146,86,120,0.08,0.871,0.048,-0.7122,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,1,1,9,2,0,0,9,0,12,2,2,1,1,21,19,7,1,1,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,11,2,18,13,3,17,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,5,9,68,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075749941625037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3781988166461399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18589073642380505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030183150871414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072354681947735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245104902219473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674083027449166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129012894856372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615361425337265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289973213844108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472657278065553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21354141748557026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.386759551386406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257405094189735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713300101151552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863826315912156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17039102703455375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303611263940794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508975303498752,0.0,0.0,0.13679192979680746
parenting,naradykema,2020/01/09,"Help: my parents still look through my things when I come home from college. I understand that when I am home, I am under their roof. But I am 20. In about 3 months I will be 21. My parents (mainly my mother) can’t seem to understand that her going in my room to grab a cup, then looking around my whole room and looking in my belongs isn’t okay with me. Because then she finds things I’ll tuck away. 
I had a beer one night. It was a super stressful day at my job (I work in a memory care unit). And I drink at college. But I had it tucked away into a bag. So when she confronted me about it I knew she went through my stuff. 
I understand I am under their rules when I am home. But I don’t think it’s fair for them to go through my things. It just makes me doubt their honesty and ruins my trust with them. I am an adult and I wish they would treat me like one. 
I don’t know what to do. And I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if I am justified in feeling this way. I know this isn’t exactly the place for this. But you’re all parents. And I want another parents perspective on this.",0.9765890047005924,2.5788649012875564,2.6641814837522984,95.72354792560805,80.24463519313305,6.15483343552013,21.824851829143675,7.07126945348624,0.3672911914980577,834,25,202,10,21,275,121,233,0.048,0.8,0.152,0.9645,5,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,6,2,10,10,1,2,7,1,20,2,0,1,2,37,42,20,0,5,8,5,2,1,0,2,0,0,5,1,16,11,2,0,11,2,0,4,6,4,0,2,5,5,47,6,28,34,3,32,0,1,3,0,17,17,0,5,11,145,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766798818366385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989580016249984,0.0,0.0,0.21086076422985545,0.0,0.0,0.06840567385923033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441142622560155,0.0,0.0,0.09666392417901368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236986924514703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992870471024932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0567396501019427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256315385636793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754958267646171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521584545006497,0.0,0.3376846116976016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113568072722618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850125088490113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482294257172679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826988792877189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490487815246412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956953346554111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530687075540143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208057985637444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4984091999455231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724156491838512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215699562165416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961563531733455,0.0,0.12854275160398096,0.0,0.12846017549044875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22365345520339647,0.07190331543863188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35046163007972586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618775115578407,0.0890716315951791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402511568379688,0.0,0.1252848668118018,0.12904256355797214,0.0,0.0,0.08169439556615593,0.0,0.0,0.07971484242347505,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RisenandReborn,2020/01/09,"Help with Smartphone! My SIL doesn't have Reddit and is also no good with technology (same here) so has asked if I can post here on her behalf for a little advice! I'm unable to advise her as my children are only 6 and 4 so I am years away from things like this yet!

My Niece is about to turn 12 and is now in High School. She has shown a lot of maturity and responsibility since starting High School last year (although she has been known as the sensible one and ""beyond her years"" since birth) and has been asking her Mum (SIL) if she is now able to have a smartphone. SIL completely agrees that she should have one. Not only so she can speak to her friends but so SIL can call and text her if and when needed. Seen as this is my nieces very first phone SIL doesnt want to spend a ton of money until she sees how she treats the phone. If she looks after it and is sensible she will be able to have a more modern smartphone for Christmas 2020. So I suppose my SIL question is, which smartphones are good for a 12 year old that arent too expensive but still provide all/most things a pre-teen is looking for?

Thank you in advance!

(Also any further advice regarding parental controls and internet safety handling smartphones would be awesome!)",5.576666666666667,5.907133877551023,5.469795918367346,84.93829931972789,67.36734693877551,8.002721088435374,28.170068027210878,7.554174236665415,1.4459333333333326,980,29,199,9,15,305,140,245,0.012,0.9,0.08800000000000001,0.953,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,3,18,6,0,0,9,0,32,0,0,2,0,29,44,30,0,8,7,2,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,8,12,0,1,2,0,3,1,5,0,0,3,3,5,24,6,26,36,4,28,0,0,4,0,29,9,0,6,18,141,32,3,0.2521811766788972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464285272153601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016691958795644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574592390133763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23575535823825086,0.0,0.11846625839326487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128752588467499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220358290007822,0.0,0.14142131652304005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725259002812804,0.0,0.0,0.09741727576982992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115176063433708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451586348840183,0.26644325886862197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027806585832946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160149238102532,0.12637589470223834,0.0,0.0,0.21176867495796525,0.0,0.0,0.10719770916409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349457356565756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231086174226825,0.0,0.17088449181777074,0.19179514858334,0.0,0.0,0.1400086765358662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075992897128544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125031612695615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25522081410951425,0.10047787390303548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086068753171582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924756741135824,0.0,0.10069610672573656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608727293815507,0.0,0.0,0.16753796823506356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371503522894035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403794065472097,0.07437149589710189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957113624062922,0.0,0.0,0.3247928193931123
parenting,win7119,2020/01/09,Book on death for young child I'm looking for a book for a 4 year old that explains death. Specially for someone he's never met. A grandparent passed before he was born and anything that would better explain it would be helpful. He hasn't lost anyone yet.,2.881,5.347857099999999,3.414000000000001,88.397,78.0,5.6000000000000005,26.0,6.742157984588678,1.1610000000000005,205,8,38,2,5,64,39,50,0.146,0.711,0.14300000000000002,-0.2819,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,11,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,2,5,5,0,8,0,1,1,0,8,1,0,0,6,19,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22261583354492506,0.0,0.26199624026481544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709144434228799,0.0,0.0,0.2815776131021988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21340065628201804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26735557297006624,0.0,0.34754490670322313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455511231588561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340819529450129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26975886890848944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523302127842409,0.0,0.0,0.20502364276171867
parenting,ArtisticPiglet3,2020/01/09,"Weirdest thing your kid did today Today I had to watch my three year old check his 18 month old sister's dirty nappy for the sweetcorn they are yesterday 🤦 his dad thought it was a good idea to tell him how sweetcorn comes out in your poop. The kid wasn't satisfied with the nappy so marched off saying ""I'm going to do my own sweetcorn poo""
So yeh that happened today 😂😂",2.1759740259740283,4.112506857142861,3.105194805194806,92.39207792207796,77.83116883116884,5.43896103896104,22.688311688311693,6.1826913282559595,0.3497844155844154,296,9,62,2,7,94,59,77,0.094,0.868,0.038,-0.4993,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,6,1,1,1,0,6,11,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,5,2,9,1,8,6,1,14,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,0,9,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341504414374652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276071107882888,0.1883273803355083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19855352977870724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25347009408491755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921986321483918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712186075215759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785574193487566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625148112421129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916955240701174,0.0,0.0,0.17825388747291765,0.0,0.0,0.6384922521532341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445917006284375
parenting,po0f,2020/01/09,"Parents, I need your help locating a specific onsie I hope this is allowed.. I am in a desperate search to find a copy of the onsie that was my son's first outfit. He is 8 now. Please see my post in r/HelpMeFind

https://www.reddit.com/r/HelpMeFind/comments/embjsj/this_baby_onsie/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share",11.327608695652176,16.134470456521743,7.2371304347826095,59.56221739130436,61.82608695652174,7.1582608695652175,24.417391304347824,8.238735603445708,1.7604139130434782,275,7,36,4,5,75,38,46,0.053,0.764,0.183,0.6808,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,4,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,1,2,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671602361902824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097165976997053,0.2882385138572586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22713415949089014,0.0,0.0,0.3365695430224596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512642065913346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762696345257116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719721629862808,0.0,0.0,0.32453913188541905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700316425156028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,canim86,2020/01/09,"How to explain puberty to my children when I was never taught myself? I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional and abusive family where I was taught absolutely no life skills nor did anyone ever discuss puberty and menstruation with me (my siblings were), so imagine how scared I was when I first got my periods.

Is there a good website that can help me? I've already discussed the basics, but I want to make sure they're not missing out on anything. I'm hoping to break this dysfunction with my own children (girl and boy). 

Thanks!",6.992121212121212,7.588419676767678,7.293484848484847,72.16022727272728,64.35353535353535,10.236363636363636,36.7020202020202,10.125756701596842,3.8849111111111103,424,20,72,9,6,138,75,99,0.102,0.7240000000000001,0.174,0.7782,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,1,3,0,7,1,0,3,3,18,17,10,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,8,0,13,4,10,9,1,13,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,1,6,53,15,2,0.0,0.3210177117961141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989872728597165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944643597626856,0.0,0.22295922606661744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450793034554441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554166201447013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304600732251937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272502838091215,0.21669419725466516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816043051558884,0.0,0.0,0.26910297479794154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913718116569033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808534926154045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20896440469508348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712566141015262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553562450982915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494436863000129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980649405126948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greenpotatoes9,2020/01/09,"How do you drop kid at school in a harnessed car seat Kiddo starts first grade in September. He will be 5.5. He is still in a harnessed car seat, and we have no intention of changing that any time soon.

His school does a ""kiss and ride"" type deal: the parent drives up, the kid unbuckles, lets themself out of the car, closes the door and goes to school. The parent is not supposed to get out of the car. There is no way I can reach his seat from the driver's seat.

How does this work with a harnessed seat that the kid cannot fasten or unbuckle by themselves?",4.814525916561316,5.053214371681417,4.698634639696587,90.1278761061947,69.0,7.87307206068268,25.877370417193426,7.447530270364453,0.9935547408343864,436,11,96,4,7,134,71,113,0.057999999999999996,0.907,0.035,-0.3818,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,2,5,1,0,0,12,0,10,1,0,3,0,13,12,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,15,9,0,21,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,1,5,58,8,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727944394991687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135531265376332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20812050299421145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533179665169326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717116715447757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054694511208028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064271378198544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4483085000080722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6129137663566416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428855841848694,0.0,0.1612147249720748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771281058083673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023608536146985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696475080850255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Daisy_334,2020/01/09,"What sort of treatment/ help should I seek for my daughter? Hello all. I’ve decided to post here because I need advice on how to help my teenage daughter. We discovered a lot of things through therapy and I’m not sure what extra steps I should take to make sure she gets better. Firstly, we found out she has been masturbating since the age of 6. She often did it in public spaces like school or the train. She’s even admitted to still doing it now. We have also found out she sometimes drinks urine and her own blood. She also elaborated on something we had already known about which was her abuse of alcohol when she was around 15 and even added that she also abused prescription medication she had stolen. She’s been going to therapy for around a year but I still don’t know how much it will help. She managed to trick her first therapist into believing she was perfectly fine and we were the problem. How should I go about helping her now? Sorry if this is all over the place. I’m very stressed at the moment.",3.682290235891308,5.762322131979697,4.083726485518067,86.42421021200359,73.87309644670052,7.477933711555687,25.293819050462822,8.313332769828598,1.5926544640191094,808,27,158,14,17,253,125,197,0.094,0.797,0.10800000000000001,0.6028,0,0,3,0,2,0,16.0,5,0,0,4,19,9,1,1,7,0,18,5,2,4,5,41,30,14,0,6,4,2,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,9,14,2,0,6,1,0,3,2,3,0,2,11,0,28,6,25,15,6,26,0,0,0,0,30,12,0,5,11,118,37,2,0.0,0.2899163318208651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955357940159038,0.0,0.13074900843969414,0.0,0.0,0.13501014153335322,0.2935164344999531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21782499591494364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458004042566016,0.0,0.0,0.1378402980341479,0.0,0.10820372274350644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985098280154707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161470914299167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081322512916401,0.0,0.2682887465194796,0.0,0.0,0.06391992491477831,0.0,0.1390623393589011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280196204694866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723730947429396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059771317824702935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040128752871011,0.0,0.0,0.08166586959125642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324916087272016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899372469974431,0.0907168585610324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278239093028241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717216281686316,0.0,0.0,0.11706711451863926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381911383950545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120459231634372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941867338917972,0.12100178819827273,0.1369545939390868,0.0,0.0,0.19540886969381666,0.0,0.1401451527365797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306163902054908,0.0,0.09198779953975073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798230792443431,0.1420513347492223,0.08128021546250318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094698320354893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878581380402888
parenting,umer_shahhh,2020/01/09,"Nicotine is all I do to bring some calmness to life. I started smoking cigarettes a lot after I joined the Office. I switched from smoking a cigarette a day to 4 cigarettes a days. Then, a sponsor came up to me and sponsored the Brand Velo (Nicotine Pouches). Honestly, I liked Nicotine Pouches better than the Cigarettes. I only wanted to confirm if Nicotine Pouches are more Harmful than Cigarettes or what effect do they cause? I do 0.7g of Nicotine Pouches twice a day.",5.194285714285716,7.297964586206902,5.8042692939244676,75.58551724137929,69.80459770114942,7.730049261083742,40.014778325123146,8.418075326091056,3.9354709359605913,377,24,58,6,7,122,55,87,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.8859999999999999,0,0,5,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,2,0,5,0,0,9,0,5,1,0,2,1,10,9,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,9,4,11,8,4,9,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,7,44,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828557443540743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657901000883585,0.0,0.32854433524541565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6187743914946515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258990783146638,0.15624841886823998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271900434807416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432383336379751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263709977935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863875197879668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,b1gmamma,2020/01/09,"Toddler (2F) won’t nap at home, but will nap at daycare. It has been at least 3 weeks since this has started happening - at home DD will settle for nap and stay quiet for 10ish minutes and then it’s Armageddon. We will do what we usually do when she wakes when she’s not supposed to (go in, lay her back down, remind her it’s nap time and that we love her, then leave the room) but she will never fall back asleep. We are at a point in her life where we leave her to herself until nap time is meant to be over (she knows how to fall asleep on her own). She usually will cry the whole time. At daycare she usually naps for 1-2.5 hours with, again, no changes in routine. 

Sometimes she will even “spite shit” when she wakes up and yells “POOP” from her room so we have to go in and change her in the hopes that she gets to end her nap. We change her in the dark, no talking, rock her for a bit, then back to bed and she still doesn’t get the picture. 

We have changed nothing about her routine. Her bedtime has not changed (she goes to bed flawlessly and sleeps for 12 hours). This is completely out of the blue and we have tried everything short of dosing her with propofol to get her to nap. 

I’d love some input from any parent who has been through the same! I’m hoping this is a phase as I’m NOT ready to say goodbye to her naps! I have a 4.5 month old and need some me time haha!",3.1708333333333307,3.8673066388888913,3.5468333333333355,95.2815,72.8888888888889,6.871111111111111,24.12222222222222,6.742157984588678,0.4471938888888891,1064,28,254,8,20,330,145,288,0.079,0.8370000000000001,0.084,0.6768,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,9,0,0,0,13,8,2,0,11,1,25,11,7,1,1,36,41,21,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,7,2,3,6,0,10,21,0,0,2,10,0,4,8,2,0,0,3,4,39,6,44,30,7,54,0,0,1,2,43,22,1,4,27,167,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936211244287052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23529041257441274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135535826478113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.539501601595715,0.0,0.1069429235262171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203997280916927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033992054529616,0.0,0.0,0.06736869254110292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166919220335172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986917744067805,0.0,0.11593558573962985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019646175422256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046245464230001,0.2026139832580175,0.20089489509682912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056055412942109965,0.0,0.0,0.21600223077217454,0.0,0.0,0.07204417764653577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841142875982199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141380088317003,0.0,0.0,0.07563019709159849,0.07866711697669257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786979631931264,0.0,0.10702970417742667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325666717443515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642104361190787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111287401021022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046994431843796,0.08437376894296242,0.0,0.10207162462616867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087859340625599,0.0,0.07219468313341862,0.10871625720891999,0.08145570494180507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198209897866826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23790332969160485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924992149864176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33700903796886306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181661342988703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387708303978812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CatRose521,2020/01/09,"Ice storm = bad mom We are supposed to get a bad ice storm this weekend. My kid is with her dad. She has a swim meet two hours away. And I am thinking of not going because of how bad the roads are supposed to be. I know my daughter won’t be happy, but I don’t know if I can handle driving that far on icy/slushy roads. And back home again in the dark on icy roads.

I don’t want her to go really if it’s that bad, but her dad will make her go unless they cancel the meet. 

I know my mom will try to guilt me, or talk me into letting my dad drive, but I really don’t want to go if the roads are bad. 

It is highly unlikely they will cancel. We live in a place with winter so the attitude is very much “deal with it”.",0.3336657681940736,1.6742725597484274,2.4946316262354045,97.4056132075472,81.26415094339623,5.549146451033244,17.64645103324349,6.1826913282559595,-0.5116831985624439,543,10,138,4,14,184,87,159,0.149,0.818,0.033,-0.9620000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,2,0,4,7,0,1,8,0,19,0,0,2,0,25,31,12,0,5,9,6,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,6,8,0,0,4,2,0,7,5,6,0,1,0,0,22,1,17,24,1,25,0,0,0,0,20,13,0,4,5,88,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519177367126206,0.11064447777492692,0.6007212833648795,0.0877155540243256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14834688570872648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517791080687046,0.0,0.3271097755154325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317627961584634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203036391013475,0.14433594529745564,0.0,0.14170516243585324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372387230409788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713986647530444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705974500138012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604938473069988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33705039676488896,0.0,0.0,0.10577757001441723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033707353951353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18436248552648413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565536941100447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220052656544947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976935861899858,0.0,0.1405620986934103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187264113594801,0.1697430910249093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scraffe,2020/01/09,"Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go right now, and again, and again, and again... Our boy, 4 years old, has been having changes in his bathroom visits over the past few weeks. He is potty trained, using a pull up overnight only, and has the occasional accident sometimes when he naps. Otherwise he has been doing great. 

We of course have the typical “I have to go potty” as soon as we are buckled in and start driving somewhere, even if he went from the bathroom to the van, but lately it has become more.  Usually around meal times or getting ready to do an activity, he will visit the bathroom 3-4 times. During swim class the other day, I had him go before changing into his suit, then he wanted to go again after everyone was changed and we were waiting for our classes to start, and then again just as he was getting to his swim lane. So 3 times in 10 minutes. 

This morning he went when he got up. Went again as I called everyone to the table for breakfast. Then as I was serving plates up, he wanted to go again because he had a drink of milk. I told him no that time and that he needed to hold it. 

This has been the behavior over the recent week or two. He doesn’t act uncomfortable or in pain, and while he gets a lot of urine out the first time, he does dribble more out on his 2nd and 3rd visits usually from when I have stood nearby to listen. It doesn’t seem to be an infection or anything, more like a game to him. Has anyone else experienced something like this?  He is our oldest so we don’t know if this is typical or not.",5.246440129449837,5.06266556957929,5.84545307443366,83.72927993527513,68.06148867313915,8.678964401294499,29.46440129449839,8.167268648758528,1.8213508090614887,1187,38,250,14,18,386,157,309,0.040999999999999995,0.9159999999999999,0.043,0.1227,0,0,2,0,0,0,39.0,7,0,0,1,17,4,0,0,17,0,30,7,1,1,0,37,59,32,0,5,10,0,0,2,0,4,2,1,0,1,10,18,4,2,2,5,0,18,5,1,0,2,15,2,20,3,39,39,5,69,0,0,0,0,38,15,0,9,38,163,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754253772538603,0.11052580449418127,0.08876801324681523,0.09602738002965297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575669476774157,0.11913420094080825,0.09178962598168763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101475717681832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423372204269912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956737846231112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943979706169341,0.0,0.0,0.10567176484103406,0.0,0.0,0.09011174073262428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124727365685768,0.0,0.0,0.2061492667191004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175436779998312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907323869263638,0.0,0.4291359876921982,0.0,0.08627368201692079,0.11892731621784933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05928266076112401,0.0,0.12168232492214673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539989733532976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170741733489124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998441331809439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319166715739855,0.0,0.0,0.08204017544356237,0.11478153672618338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029743462175839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065088446780418,0.0,0.0,0.09212059231561692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820101170710413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304377788406897,0.10668642182938724,0.0,0.15270221676451715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145000109671475,0.0,0.0,0.1030746333595502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537354660192276,0.0,0.0,0.09316524985233117,0.2376076507481807,0.0,0.12724932025581825,0.0,0.1730539936828961,0.0,0.0,0.2999903689688791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946489544348873
parenting,yellowromancandle,2020/01/09,"My daughter is uncomfortable with attention from autistic kid in her class... My daughter told me she didn’t want to go to school today because James was going to hug her and she didn’t like it. She said he hugs her every day no matter what. She’s tried to go around him, but he moves and blocks her way. She’s tried to tell him she doesn’t want to hug him but he won’t listen. I asked her if he hugs everyone in her class, and she said no. It’s only her. 

I want to teach her to be sensitive to the needs of those who aren’t neuro-typical but it’s EXTREMELY important to me that she doesn’t feel obligated to show affection to others. I’ve always told her she can choose who she hugs and I’m frustrated that her choice is being taken away in these instances. 

Am I overreacting if I send a message to her teacher and ask her to back my daughter up when James tries to hug her?",1.9825000000000017,3.675830293478264,3.5167391304347824,90.33206521739132,77.58695652173913,6.991304347826088,21.82608695652174,7.865858978985527,0.8070391304347821,690,19,154,11,16,228,97,184,0.067,0.75,0.184,0.9686,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,2,0,13,6,0,1,0,22,30,11,0,6,5,3,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,11,7,0,1,3,1,0,5,8,1,0,0,8,4,35,7,24,19,0,16,0,0,0,6,46,6,0,2,5,99,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619907065552434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641302752400166,0.3285173969930022,0.0,0.165078864504643,0.1351048533412117,0.0,0.10710699079177308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331397648085385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803745613958902,0.16789186021440144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884077647569544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995683955691099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583966904984328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867446096443736,0.0,0.1302816367368451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363013981809474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33426780438932696,0.0,0.0,0.17782093721271974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535722708169462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665460128003445,0.3357837204288029,0.0,0.35787265392740764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109027564654633,0.13946495790254898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheJugglingMom,2020/01/09,Help! I’m a people-pleaser Do you find yourself saying yes to stuff you don’t really want to do? You could be a people-pleaser. After doing some research I found that I’m a secret people-pleaser. What? I didn’t even realize it. Check out my blog post  to discover if you are as well. www.thejugglingmomblog.com,0.9594999999999984,3.4733692833333367,2.8766666666666687,85.12500000000001,97.83333333333334,5.066666666666666,19.333333333333336,6.742157984588678,0.7495333333333338,247,8,44,4,10,82,42,60,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.18100000000000002,0.8292,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,9,12,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,7,1,6,8,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,1,32,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398555201863911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220176163970675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21061565349709,0.0,0.0,0.2526627685370202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445736453255512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7588533592188189,0.0,0.0,0.22069537717736226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762413040359446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325310838534295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637957472247905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591797774374625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20719094091619672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ok_kat,2020/01/09,"How to talk to 3 year old about privates etc. I've been wanting to start talking to my son about his genitals and 'private' area, and who is allowed to see/touch him there, etc. We already use mostly anatomical terms like 'penis', 'breasts', 'vagina' - I know 'vulva' is more accurate but I feel like people commonly say 'vagina' to refer to the whole shebang, and I haven't really mentioned 'testicles' (or would 'scrotum be better?') .  We don't actually use the term 'private area', but maybe we should when talking about others?

But beyond that, how do I introduce information about who is allowed to see/touch him, and who he is allowed to see?  It's easy to say only mom and dad can touch him there, but there are many exceptions, e.g. doctor, childcare provider, babysitter. I thought about saying that anyone besides mommy and daddy need to ask us first, but I feel like  it would be easy for a potential abuser to just say they had permission. And how to talk about him who HE can see? He definitely sees us changing/using the bathroom, and sometimes he will come into the shower with one of us, but what would be a good way to talk about others' privacy?

I'm not to going to sit him down and have a huge talk or anything, but I would like to start bringing it up in a more casual way with regularity and consistency. Any advice, stories, or resources would be welcome!",8.835465116279071,7.1856818875969015,8.574069767441863,71.88459302325585,61.51937984496124,11.235658914728685,37.77906976744186,9.928628108626363,3.6473581395348833,1069,42,194,17,12,345,142,258,0.018000000000000002,0.8420000000000001,0.14,0.9856,4,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,6,0,1,2,16,8,0,0,8,0,24,4,3,8,0,53,42,24,0,8,13,3,3,4,0,7,1,4,1,0,12,17,0,0,6,1,0,3,3,0,0,2,3,10,21,8,34,28,8,23,0,0,3,3,38,8,0,4,13,136,33,1,0.0,0.1052847542696442,0.08671469396664422,0.0,0.0,0.08683311595657371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805939172845156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042795318434465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062133087135358374,0.0,0.07312433696332273,0.0,0.08307225056535421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858958678567893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654515612709117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095213493263732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19820512599085016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986072958525,0.12696342631844312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558440324903105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050501274404266105,0.074531682861618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883521781123462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736503347713438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009025097102047,0.0892719702592933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407194067049444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588867968717158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324378577274108,0.0,0.060213941384411926,0.06758215278497745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160444359229943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05692609129002479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826606503585769,0.0,0.0,0.3540501976083086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788496637377648,0.0,0.12579135147125214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285345642940967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054503804127467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42755130613753545,0.15349328827562644,0.0,0.0,0.05241202226114969,0.14106611137204295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099209190728812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156185262896715,0.0,0.0,0.05722302703123632
parenting,gga061,2020/01/09,"November 2019 bumpers community? I am new to Reddit, referred by a friend. I’d love to join the 2019 November bumpers community if possible, that’s when my son was born. I’m not sure how to find it? Thanks for any help.",0.6484848484848484,3.149439000000001,2.824545454545458,87.87348484848488,90.8181818181818,7.4787878787878785,25.51515151515152,8.344100000000001,2.15840606060606,172,8,37,5,6,58,36,44,0.039,0.653,0.308,0.9273,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,1,6,5,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,4,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552451228740873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430553739435256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899879480281767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25158352699923725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33876040035249144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362507204857488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231411979796145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35375496592970945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34556406762041864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mushbroom,2020/01/09,"My son (3) has an 'imaginary Daddy.' I dont know how to deal with this.  His sperm donor is not around and likely never will be.  My son has a lot of father figures in his life including my 2 best friends (males) I've known for 15 years, my boyfriend I've been with for over a year, my brother, and my dad.  He is just now realizing that most family dynamics in the shows he watches and at his daycare have a mama and daddy.  At first he kept asking me when his daddy was coming.  I tried to divert but he obsessed so i tried explaining that he has lots of daddies which is awesome!  He wouldnt accept that either. Now when he is playing, he often talks to/about his daddy.  For example ""my daddy got me new pants!  My daddy got me this toy.  Im eating with my daddy""... you name it.  Sometimes i correct him like no, i got you those pants!  Sometimes i just ignore it.  I guess I'm just curious if theres anything else I can be doing.  I think hes too young to truly understand our situation.  Also all this talk of his daddy breaks my heart, even though i know it shouldnt.  Any thoughts??",0.8419947209653103,3.0421903846153846,2.8446889140271487,91.06863216440422,84.06787330316742,5.493288084464557,20.068061840120663,6.816661863887847,0.3445428355957767,829,24,176,10,24,278,133,221,0.049,0.836,0.115,0.9393,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,0,2,16,9,0,1,5,0,19,3,1,1,3,40,33,12,0,3,7,5,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,11,9,1,2,10,3,0,1,6,2,0,1,7,1,34,7,18,21,6,18,0,0,1,0,32,6,0,6,12,117,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182497883510232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359534899633394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253615389674247,0.13561349075207493,0.14241585782287156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986977246828482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122605921756206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705422108821815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853949280253015,0.0,0.0,0.15588023421982605,0.12725920164356774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061808917614116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361110389587953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957898159111586,0.0,0.0,0.11769628482002052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655168507586977,0.0,0.16781794358806562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805217602910036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455163419295424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674424224508573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076011306978857,0.14884971346860187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590253527442176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174927802905108,0.14712939459149801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123476596548062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30133318384118896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448877018312349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761230789901523,0.14967172344778062,0.12093968851718208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20685557382726188,0.0,0.0,0.15858966694115811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620189477022965
parenting,Impossible-Sorbet,2020/01/09,"NIPT Panorama by Natera Suspected Atypical Finding Sex Chromosome My wife and I had the NIPT test conducted around 17 weeks, and we just received the results. We are low risk for the Trisomy 21, 18, and 13; however, the gender could not be identified. Natera listed the reason as the following:

""Suspected finding outside the scope of the test involving the sex chromosomes, which may include, but is not limited to, fetal/maternal mosaicism, chromosome abnormality, or normal variation. Fetal risk assessment for monosomyX and fetal sex could not be performed. Repeat cell-free DNA testing is not recommended""

Has anyone had the same or similar result? If so, did you follow through with the amniocentesis and what were the findings? Thank you",9.148306451612903,10.788649314516132,8.821129032258069,59.426693548387135,59.88709677419354,12.329032258064515,42.11290322580645,11.93303328291395,6.049906451612903,601,33,79,19,8,193,87,124,0.084,0.875,0.040999999999999995,-0.3917,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,2,0,2,3,4,0,2,12,0,13,3,0,3,0,32,16,11,0,4,9,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,1,6,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,4,0,6,1,9,7,1,7,0,1,0,3,7,2,0,4,2,58,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140110628982276,0.0,0.0,0.23094976260925165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142711856053863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7113493058883241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541885853594397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667396275347129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238850419215604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810095384934046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dinevalesco,2020/01/09,"Toilet Issues - 4 year old boy. Hey everybody,

 

I’ve come seeking advice relating to issues my 4 year old boy (4 at the end of February) is having with toilet training.

 

Not sure where to start but the beginning is probably best.

 

We started toilet training him February 2019 and, in fairness, he was quite good – became aware when wees or poos were coming and, while he did have accidents, he was definitely getting it.

 

We were happy with how things progressed with him – but then he started going to preschool and things started going down hill.

 

He began to have accidents in class – wees and poos, and that transferred to the home too, though not as bad as we were able to keep ontop of him a bit more.

 

Our main concern is that he’ll go for a wee or, more worryingly, a poo, and not even realise that he’s gone. He’ll happily play away while having had an accident.

 

Another concern we do have is the consistency and regularity or his bowel movements – he can go from having a dry and grainy poo, to having a bit liquidy accident within hours.

 

We’ve considered the idea that he may have an intolerance to something – lactose, gluten – but it’s really difficult to pin it down to anything in particular.

 

I’ve just come here to see if any of you good folks would have any suggestions/tips/advice – anything would be appreciated.

​

Apologies for the long-ish post.",6.486985294117647,7.2456375686274574,6.867977941176469,74.20902573529416,65.47058823529412,9.982843137254905,33.19240196078431,9.978442167317967,3.323710784313725,1080,44,191,23,16,351,145,255,0.069,0.792,0.139,0.9745,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,5,1,0,3,8,8,0,0,13,0,26,1,1,1,1,36,45,23,0,3,11,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,9,18,0,1,1,1,0,9,3,2,0,0,9,1,11,6,30,30,6,35,0,0,1,0,24,9,0,5,16,122,20,2,0.11615465704890872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270099730894237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585352238358946,0.14114062207519554,0.15797829981233716,0.12179828562689846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19117077146612685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913112387494522,0.0,0.09698428685257256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189714639997301,0.0,0.2536216034099752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001708560342389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287854961656703,0.0,0.0,0.07671905550014324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06068601420138151,0.0,0.2640534735440678,0.19485003082449534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364879231563472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651259169190326,0.0,0.11438893961928714,0.0,0.0,0.13112446941476918,0.0,0.24247056806349115,0.0,0.10324359616918127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279321631438963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24376954651278385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124405334003676,0.0,0.12523436604420318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354477553086166,0.0,0.0,0.07441164761551025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256022307383598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942152979935443,0.0,0.0,0.32885945641582576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947438963469476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433598573293705,0.0,0.11412136080114685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179606925143948,0.0,0.16502587145525036,0.0,0.14114062207519554,0.14959958171894785
parenting,DeidrePozzi,2020/01/09,"Tell me about your favorite video baby monitor I am having a horrible time trying to pick out a baby monitor. I definitely want it to be a video monitor and it would be great if it streamed to our phones, however that is not a deal breaker. 

Please tell me all about your favorite one!",4.4941071428571435,5.710220196428577,5.884285714285718,77.8107142857143,70.25,9.885714285714286,31.857142857142854,10.125756701596842,3.3441928571428576,225,10,43,6,4,76,38,56,0.087,0.684,0.22899999999999998,0.8372,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,1,8,7,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,1,6,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,1,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35049897857214946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748232974603768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23037564949192446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37319011864934776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.594305730511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19824197654657652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23082049892083456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052588141528585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24150826640453185,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,courbane,2020/01/09,"Single mom (50) needs advice on guiding only child (M17) to apply to colleges in NYC Hello.

I’m a single parent (F50), working two jobs and I have  one child (M17) who is soon to graduate HS.  I’ve never had a chance to go to college in NYC. I don’t really have any idea on how to assist my child in choosing a college. Though his school staff is assisting in applying, I’d like some pointers from anyone here.",3.3619678714859447,4.375453650602413,5.15921686746988,82.71223895582331,72.73493975903614,7.461044176706826,25.88152610441768,7.793537801064563,1.4904634538152617,315,10,62,4,6,108,60,83,0.023,0.9440000000000001,0.033,0.1926,2,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,7,9,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,4,1,13,8,3,9,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,1,3,38,5,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669662340238365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578422429826325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102661580285893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526489971699126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084076466917616,0.0,0.0,0.27110717496879344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347089817112145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199665676197662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257309077430832,0.210707384630668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851262503946977,0.20777963127860186,0.0,0.0,0.3033544007896168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501783786033212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276491282714884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684159598816944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26687505897068525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988916289470572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slopey1884,2020/01/09,"Sibling classes for a big brother-to-be: worth it? We’re expecting our 2nd child in June. My son is 4 and a half, and he’s had a long time with having me and dad all to himself, so I want to help make his transition to brotherhood as smooth as it can be. He seems really excited in the abstract but obviously he’s not fully able to understand of all the changes that will happen.

The hospital where I’m delivering offers a family class for kids becoming big siblings. It’s a few hours on a Saturday morning, so nothing super long.

Have any of you done something like this for the arrival of your 2nd or 3rd or beyond? Any thoughts on when during the pregnancy I should do the class? He already asks often when the baby will arrive and I’m not sure it makes sense to take the class before the 3rd trimester, but maybe I’m wrong.

Any advice appreciated!",4.971037433155079,5.5966047882352985,6.0549197860962565,79.17804812834224,68.76470588235293,9.475935828877004,30.74866310160428,9.573946990214177,2.7278823529411764,674,26,133,14,11,225,112,170,0.066,0.8440000000000001,0.09,0.2386,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,2,0,1,7,5,0,0,15,0,11,0,0,2,4,24,23,14,0,3,6,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,3,1,9,4,19,16,3,16,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,4,9,80,15,4,0.18450641166523254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029753008230373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036074133151552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764120607804222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248858837223074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037728357516926,0.15700136678777002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518331886469212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881411839141235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393622426785565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631584104937832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367075851096675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817016495038924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014051296079352,0.0,0.0,0.32656473649111023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246318925004619,0.0,0.1853614898650075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770388781582312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819953186943308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796770760383134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204204986759553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389510945079092,0.0,0.13872585946600693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647748129601798,0.10758717240325542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207768151159835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882666199644324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017287968541873,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kismekate,2020/01/09,"5 point harness to seatbelt I have a 48 pound 5.5 year old who is currently in a five point harnessed car seat.  I'm a car seat nazi, so am always trying to do what's safest for the kids in that department.

From what I can discern from the googles, there is no difference in safety between the harness and the seatbelt as long as the child is responsible enough not to fling themselves all around and stay still in their seat.  This particular kid is super chill.

Before I make the switch, I just wanted to triple confirm that in terms of safety, it's equivalent to the harness.  

Anyone have insight on this?",6.330732600732597,6.65199276923077,6.056776556776558,81.40846153846154,65.75213675213675,8.736996336996338,32.0989010989011,8.418075326091056,2.3360388278388284,482,18,92,6,7,150,78,117,0.019,0.857,0.124,0.9062,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,10,0,9,0,0,1,1,10,12,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,19,12,4,19,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,0,6,63,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243235552741444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885061835512252,0.0,0.0,0.2399955503687795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294043823627909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816680366232997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785623592535905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385819410651348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799558883182696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828932378266588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5097063741628277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28735101383858336,0.21529787723453508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303642584601726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590133493146316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736095039573272
parenting,Wintermom,2020/01/09,"Small preschooler I’m not exactly looking for advice since I’m not SUPER concerned, I’m more curious than anything. My son just turned four and had his annual well child. He’s always been on the small side. Right now he’s 38 inches and 8th percentile for height. The dr always tells us this does not indicate his adult height or future growth spurts. 
-For reference my family is short. I’m short. I’m 5’1. The men in my family hover around 5’9. My husband is tall. His family is tall. Men in his family are over 6’3. 
I know my kids will be smaller-ish. 

I know he’s healthy and happy. I notice all of his friends at school are a few inches taller than him. Sometimes they break the kids up into groups (for small group time or whatever else is going on that day). Some days he mentions to me that he’s not a big kid yet. He’s older than a few of his friends (not all) and more emotionally/mentally developed than a couple as well (again not all). When he says this I’m not sure how to respond. I tell him he IS a big kid. Everyone is 4, but we all look different etc etc. 

I guess my curiosity is, has anyone else had a smaller kid who grew later (or didn’t)? How did you deal with the questions as they got older, I know there will be more in depth questions coming down the road. 
I had one brother who was always much smaller than the other kids even through HS and my parents did not handle it well at all. That’s another reason I’m asking for advice.",1.3885854402789908,3.626714087837843,2.9636006974716658,90.82176547515259,82.1081081081081,6.1166521360069765,20.35919790758501,7.359569317364363,0.5946659982563212,1134,32,239,17,31,372,160,296,0.013999999999999999,0.9229999999999999,0.064,0.8696,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,1,2,1,13,8,0,0,13,0,22,1,0,3,7,41,40,14,0,0,13,4,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,10,9,10,0,0,7,0,0,4,9,0,3,2,9,3,28,8,30,27,14,47,0,0,2,0,50,30,0,7,12,147,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324247912325414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27236531920980706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441157419903718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629239945132904,0.11179630958647953,0.08978841036927376,0.0971312242937692,0.10200332247528428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398878917106142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072837787995308,0.0,0.14073412476453442,0.11248784092352207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399695202516705,0.0,0.0,0.09548308465813296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229516827179312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433734640040065,0.07206626813880393,0.0,0.0,0.10425948650013038,0.0,0.0,0.41143760156098014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16859656330646947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062009849780325525,0.0,0.0872654065543304,0.0,0.12019720330753385,0.0,0.0,0.11614985304454345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989236249105364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325020142338594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020856260117999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422270325549485,0.0,0.0,0.07393590565732915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115398172705125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444568242826235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218347357189608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317952766721334,0.0,0.08676882254115853,0.0,0.1104253629633666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902570975800842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791279283689664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283508661979136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907342747359749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636230439614406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868058241999314,0.0,0.0,0.1312461545759076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943095613967392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lgjunior,2020/01/09,"Is there any iOS app that allows creating profiles to it and only shows the apps that I make available to each profile?  My goal is to isolate the other apps of my iPhone from my kids and let  them play with just a few. For example, Kid 1 - will only see Mario Race  and Mario Kart and Kid 2 - will only see ABCya.",6.899166666666666,4.8617335,7.111250000000003,82.07541666666668,65.5625,9.783333333333333,30.70833333333333,7.793537801064563,1.8556833333333331,240,6,52,2,3,78,47,64,0.027999999999999997,0.899,0.073,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,9,8,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,7,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,32,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21835116742150693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283347108172258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432904429758867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7326067414086205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5117318717564489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lucifers_Soul_Star,2020/01/09,"Displaced Frustration Hi. I am a 42 yr. old mother of five. Three adults and two still living home with me. I had an assault situation that happened to myself prior to XMas. And my two children still in the home witnessed it.  It was their father. Even though they have never seen us fight before, they have heard us having and resolving conflicts in the home. We just ended a 16 yr relationship because of this assault. He was forced out of the home and I now have full custody and an active PTO on him to protect us. Without writing a book about this, we are coping. I never spank or hit my children. This is something that I just decided I wouldn’t do as a parent; coming from a very strict Christian Home.  I was spanked regularly throughout my life. Here’s my deal. My two children at home are 14 and seven.  Although they are normally very well behaved. My son that is seven has been acting out lately. I know it’s something that he is reacting to, with us all going through this ordeal. Them seeing their father assault me. Over the past few weeks it’s just aggravating me to the point that I spanked him last night with a belt. I feel horrible. I can’t get the look of his face, in shock, that I was hurting him, out of my head. I sent him to his room, and I went into my room. I was trying to keep it together, as the parent. I keep justifying in my head that I shouldn’t feel guilty, because I didn’t do anything wrong. What’s disturbing me is that after, when I came in my room, I just lost it, and oddly enough I felt all of the trauma from my assault resurface. I feel like I’m a horrible mom now, because of what I did, how horrible of a time to hit him, when I’ve been explaining to them, that this is the reason why their father is no longer home🥺Just need some experienced advice. 
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parenting,Hiddenbear515,2020/01/09,My wife works from home taking phone calls and my 2 year old is home with her. How can we keep him engaged in an activity without using tv? I just need some ideas that will keep my son occupied so he isn’t yelling at his mom on the phone that isn’t screen time. I should note that she often works during his nap (he is 2) to minimize time on the screen. Any tips?,1.3196103896103892,3.043443038961044,2.492207792207793,96.78688311688316,79.64935064935065,5.9584415584415575,18.79220779220779,6.868970318607317,-0.15904675324675344,282,6,68,3,7,90,57,77,0.0,0.9590000000000001,0.040999999999999995,0.4696,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,0,14,12,3,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,3,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,11,1,8,10,1,8,0,0,2,0,14,4,0,2,4,38,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551132863713915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23350947995020924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4587725772080852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581536892060947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065254236212963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26782912401717857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956450748944982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399628689795245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171940102109049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666921578982531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750747740708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044090019254645,0.0,0.3329658542235105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726345165323168
parenting,SammaYamma123,2020/01/09,"Who let's their kids take a sick day from school knowing full well they aren't sick? My son is in kindergarten... first year at any kind of school or structured center during the day. He seems to love it! Never complains about going in, always comes running out waving by at friends and strangers alike and when I ask him how his day was he pretty much always says ""good"" in a positive way. 

This past week back from holiday break he has been wanting to stay home for some reason. Doesn't throw a fit when I tell him no though. I told him he can only stay home when he's sick otherwise he needs to be there to learn and play with all his friends. Well last night he came to me after bedtime and said ""mom, I think I'm gonna be sick tomorrow"" and so what do you know this morning he said ""mom I'm sick, I'm just really tired"" so I told him he could stay home even though I know he's not sick and that tomorrow he needed to return to school....

My concern is that this is setting a bad example for him.. I don't want him to think he can take ""sick"" days whenever he wants to. But at the same time the ""I'm just really tired"" in his little voice really spoke to me.",2.1365289256198348,3.621180710743804,3.0744545454545467,94.57168181818184,76.60330578512395,6.4928925619834725,20.36446280991736,7.1686216300943375,0.20902909090909014,900,20,208,10,20,286,138,242,0.135,0.755,0.109,-0.7799,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,2,1,16,10,0,0,7,0,16,10,0,2,2,34,44,16,0,6,5,3,0,0,2,1,9,5,3,1,8,10,0,0,8,2,0,5,6,2,2,1,8,5,23,8,27,31,5,43,0,0,0,1,42,12,0,3,20,113,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392958614507958,0.0,0.0,0.06698738429612218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208971146166227,0.0,0.0,0.07574495034445562,0.08224830501146174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126644978848718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485410342875138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786489390593308,0.0,0.0,0.254112603940246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506221246498413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378906119473951,0.0,0.0,0.1522108152122461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598316834664736,0.0826220684135531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964283232927861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257872775518907,0.1624087858507936,0.08029544917668419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072894828545477,0.0,0.0,0.09872878195266667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889054132247411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307378197262448,0.0,0.0,0.07241316466419108,0.14608174112745362,0.07597381640771173,0.0,0.0,0.09244110642858616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491816951594843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403501984256513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021590540984507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893161899140228,0.10128046284478766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18740332133943088,0.07833583885093147,0.0,0.29907966426710497,0.0,0.0896760642201645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149825219159055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812834276232498,0.0,0.08609849120621202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623719587052376,0.19356307699130795,0.0,0.05743957763867327,0.22643606351276305,0.0,0.18825320187515432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430398144881104,0.07818939179365401,0.07901548457234815,0.0,0.17713725351773846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343456463989425
parenting,DavidJason54321,2020/01/09,"Getting my kids out the door struggles So my son is 7 and refuses to get dressed and out the door in the morning. My current approach is to tell him it's time to wake up and turn on a hall light. 

I give 5 - 10 minutes them I sit on the bed 5ish minutes rubbing his back and asking what he wants for breakfast. I then ask him to get ready, most days somewhere during the process he gets ready. About once a month, despite 20 minutes getting him up he refuses. 

At that point I just put everything on, which includes him struggling and me wrestling to get his stuff on. He is understandably upset often crying. It also makes his sister 9 cry to see him upset.  So it's causes a lot of unhappiness in the house. 

We've tried monitary incentives, telling him how important it is etc. But in the morning he's ready not processing any of that. Also he would definitely be happy not going to school if we let him.

Any have similar problems and have some type of solution?",4.121345864661651,5.445644878947373,4.9186466165413565,83.97052631578947,71.26315789473685,7.744360902255639,30.939849624060148,8.192908349453996,2.20272180451128,757,33,149,11,14,245,118,190,0.11199999999999999,0.7879999999999999,0.1,-0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,0,9,6,0,4,10,0,9,2,1,3,0,27,24,14,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,9,9,1,2,1,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,0,3,20,1,24,21,4,24,0,0,1,0,28,14,0,5,6,95,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22286818403830205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951866461539274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605374030411481,0.0,0.0,0.10714765169201762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314562980383705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061277300028541,0.08986595361711168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540643368772647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523424014125956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368118552714698,0.13367235631330274,0.07919293623328955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14833527154553594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078534306947415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424896341883097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846607842247915,0.0,0.0,0.0930138243437014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122379553643336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839780517658085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317260012892644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333428127025668,0.0,0.14008014429354584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102451076200362,0.11103986999666607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913471565440975,0.15951660950451174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435872254194888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125315060841765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460606219247543,0.15156727244158216,0.0,0.14506298879089544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218925137529502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898664190696677,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrEarlPatrick,2020/01/09,My son is gay. I need advice on how to punish him. I have already taken all of his electronics and forced him to swallow his mobile device. He is also banned from talking to guys and I am working on getting the money for sending him to gay conversion. What is my next step?,2.396181818181816,4.3874089818181865,4.147272727272728,84.92090909090909,77.36363636363637,5.854545454545455,25.54545454545455,6.742157984588678,1.1762,214,8,40,2,5,72,41,55,0.161,0.8390000000000001,0.0,-0.8555,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,1,6,8,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,0,9,7,1,5,0,0,0,2,11,2,0,0,1,31,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37140547863154105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194228770672852,0.3039463209364137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985738145682788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763346005570845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28182124234552064,0.0,0.0,0.4042147137057153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30549037121084416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766995643287724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,magic106,2020/01/09,"Daughter talking to older women My 15 yo is talking to older women online from like social media.  These girls are like college students to recent graduates.  I do not allow,  it would be just as bad if she was talking to older men.  A college student should have nothing to do with a young  teenage girl regardless  of their gender.  I have already brought  it up with her but she still  does it.   Any advice?",3.0276315789473682,5.6872799210526335,3.951842105263157,83.65039473684213,78.73684210526315,4.852631578947369,27.921052631578952,5.985473137389443,1.3744526315789485,318,14,52,2,8,102,57,76,0.048,0.9059999999999999,0.047,-0.0214,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,0,10,11,3,0,4,4,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,7,2,11,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,1,8,39,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25277934413041864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854600857504901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591143891141106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21598720168908606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22637282791559926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527562050950726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24821067424492235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554155371160745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26369193608607105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20658237990744893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6237521532317865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18375902601678448,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,backpack_of_snacks,2020/01/09,"Kicking toddler tips I know this is FAR from a unique issue, but my 22 month old has been kicking a lot, hard, during diaper changes mostly. Of course it makes it very hard to change him and that’s frustrating, and sometimes he nails me right in the ribs or stomach or face, and that’s fun. But the real concern is that I’m not really doing anything in the way of discipline. I have tried raising my voice and saying, “STOP KICKING”, and I’ve tried calmly explaining why it’s not nice to kick and that we can kick balls (we take him to soccer) but never people. The latter does basically nothing, and the former makes him laugh. The louder my voice goes the harder he laughs. 

Just wondering if anyone has found any techniques that actually make a difference, or if this is just another phase we have to ride out.",6.522222222222222,6.5093805286624224,6.620976645435245,78.66392073602266,65.36942675159236,9.52554847841472,30.18329794762916,9.150863307647796,2.4062334041047406,641,20,121,10,9,205,101,157,0.083,0.8190000000000001,0.098,0.6861,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,10,0,10,3,3,3,1,36,19,15,0,2,12,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,10,11,0,2,4,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,5,12,5,10,17,2,12,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,8,5,74,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.16556613520951172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153763244693191,0.1779059344098399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863197152715753,0.0,0.1396177891769121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589608773157978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726121165529518,0.0,0.0,0.14847280544263278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18602618454133213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039685668873208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770835802663118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324207819070418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442409984306066,0.0,0.0,0.3397531277266985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542299644800765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085418672685892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279575373635896,0.0,0.17803226346661385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176226216197312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931130797182224,0.10869014807454312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489085613545052,0.0,0.1349224373486183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780056020403167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184545496803688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756509242172234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23037941408958376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399893388741199,0.0,0.13467020294096732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309402555359228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399175428880574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,no_sleep_forever,2020/01/09,"6 mo old won't sleep - help! My wife and I have one child, a daughter who is almost 6 mo old.  She has been really hard to get to sleep ever since she was a few weeks old.  I work full time, my wife is at home looking after the baby when I'm at work.

What happens is this.  When you put her down to sleep in the daytime, she will cry and grizzle and roll around and won't go to sleep 9 times out of 10.  My wife spends her whole day putting her down to sleep, picking her back up again, repeat, repeat.  My daughter usually gets between 30 min and 1.5 h of naps altogether in a day.  Occasionally she'll have  a good day and have up to 3 h of naps in a day.

Then at night, when you put her down to sleep, she will cry and grizzle every single time.  We go through rounds of putting her down, consoling her, feeding her, until finally she falls asleep.  The process takes 1.5-2 hours every night.

Now, this WAS tolerable because once you finally got her to sleep, she generally used to sleep well overnight, only waking up a few times briefly.

However, for the past week, she has stopped sleeping well overnight, she has started waking and crying every hour.  It's impossible to get her to sleep in her cot.  She ends up sleeping on or next to my wife.

We do absolutely every thing you are supposed to - looking for tired signs, regular routine, bath time every night, quiet time, comforting before bed, feed play sleep cycle.  None of it has any effect.

This is slowly grinding my wife down and she is getting to the end of her tether.  Trying to think of something to do, I have suggested we try sleep training.  Now sleep training seems to have a million definitions.  What I mean by it is putting our daughter down and leaving the room and not coming in for X minutes even if she cries, start with X = 5 minutes and increase if possible.  Perhaps only do once per evening, perhaps repeat.

I don't know if this is going to work though.  I tried leaving her to cry for 6 minutes tonight before consoling her.  Her crying upset my wife so much that she almost broke down, saying she is a terrible mother, that she can't cope.

Any practical advice on how we can help our daughter sleep better?  My wife will see a psychologist and I know that there are professional sleep clinics available, so no advice about those please.  I am looking for practical techniques.",4.893632754342431,5.883681832967032,5.30562211981567,83.16599078341014,69.13186813186813,7.892945763913506,30.062034739454088,8.049812674583475,1.9797018787663947,1834,70,358,23,31,585,217,455,0.08900000000000001,0.868,0.043,-0.9645,1,0,1,0,0,0,63.0,6,4,0,5,19,9,0,1,15,0,35,23,19,4,1,41,59,26,0,3,5,12,2,0,0,6,2,2,4,1,15,21,2,1,6,4,1,11,7,3,2,2,4,8,56,6,61,49,8,82,0,1,5,0,58,25,0,7,46,227,71,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953102932770357,0.0,0.0,0.0917452465829767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062305455576031114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04078107948583156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035225465872298266,0.0,0.027925670732875912,0.0,0.0779627650359312,0.0,0.0,0.040515686451236065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03946171079208767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019242625151168,0.11817599479716595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114905541426715,0.0,0.0,0.060514839189653676,0.04143824240250745,0.1929867147665332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003663814809724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573643383685254,0.0,0.07810553087895597,0.038423694754106376,0.03663886157032455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04051009580750257,0.0,0.04103723213540235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141165828600261,0.0,0.045951691557204716,0.0,0.09022827824207563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050352532785637484,0.0,0.0,0.09701346253535743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115407909522064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04990109134545512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03367600676987294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04872001285605476,0.12897022276294912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421131891927788,0.09757342768084293,0.03104239720431385,0.06968193685514162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043731329510438205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028619961088447,0.0,0.05164448357768006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302611519840953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029347395245770274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03643036803737672,0.0,0.0,0.03650505717358055,0.04170418127392245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03789493952471455,0.0,0.733497738144249,0.0,0.0,0.03526718010684225,0.0,0.0,0.06484985050736013,0.0,0.0,0.03829965000975168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03444381347512704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03043447712214057,0.029353534557285912,0.045008608043753576,0.0,0.1602749125291426,0.05265245928113706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330701781460997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03956558492350866,0.05045382102797686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349287952606325,0.0,0.08237832687362079,0.0,0.0,0.05114581497433048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000518230109044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashkando,2020/01/09,"4month old wakes up quickly Hi,
My 4-month-old boy has gotten into the habit of waking up and checking if his mom is next to him. If his mom is up and feed him for a moment he goes back to sleep. Otherwise he starts crying and we have to hold him and put him back to sleep. Is this normal? How do we fix it?

Thank you very much for your help.",1.4126126126126124,2.6180781891891907,2.774054054054055,97.140990990991,77.91891891891892,5.473873873873874,17.738738738738736,5.46131890053228,-0.6784072072072074,262,4,64,1,6,85,52,74,0.04,0.888,0.07200000000000001,0.3527,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,6,5,4,1,0,12,9,7,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,1,11,8,1,12,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,2,7,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31244771697996643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22317080410353285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361794085064534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475896443700536,0.16216697445266615,0.0,0.14935205499330692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21607175960843786,0.0,0.1990617674953702,0.0,0.0,0.4263818447175624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042402263959431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40662999057978666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438035469209452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705004612553727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763509991865208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,birthchoice,2020/01/09,"How to Tell Your Parents that You're Pregnant  

You found out you're unexpectedly pregnant, and you are feeling overwhelmed. Telling your parents may be one of the last things you want to do. **But it is an important step.** 

There is no ""formula"" for how to have this conversation. It all depends on your relationship with your parents. If you have a great relationship with them, telling them that you're pregnant may actually be a relief to you. Maybe you know that they will be supportive and do whatever they can to help.

If your relationship with your parents is strained, this conversation may be more intimidating. **First of all, know that that's okay.** This is a big conversation, and you're likely still trying to process the news yourself. Sharing it with anyone is tough. 

If you are feeling really nervous and stressed about telling your parents, [**schedule an appointment** ](https://www.birthchoicedallas.org/contact)**with Birth Choice to talk with one of our trained client advocates**. We can help you figure out the best way to start the conversation, all based on ***your*** needs and ***your*** circumstances.

Scheduling an appointment with Birth Choice also gives you the chance to confirm your pregnancy with a **free medical-grade pregnancy test**. And because we will talk with you about all of your options, you can go into the conversation ready with **information and thoughts about your next steps**. 

Until then, here are a few **quick, simple things** for you to consider as you think about telling your parents:

1. **Find the right place to talk.** Make sure you are in a comfortable setting with a lot of privacy. Choose a spot where you won't have a lot of distractions and where you can share your news without worrying about what's happening around you.

2. **Make sure you and your parents have plenty of time.** A conversation like this may take a while, and you don't want to feel rushed as you work through things with your parents. 

3. **Have a game plan, but be open-minded.** Go into the conversation with a general game plan about how you'd like to tell them. You'll feel more confident if you have some good information to share with them as well. But we also recommend that you stay open-minded. You never know how your parents will respond, so be willing to adjust your steps if needed. ",2.4376664086687327,5.132758022058828,2.3816253869969053,87.54928792569662,99.90686274509804,5.872858617131064,23.505675954592363,7.1686216300943375,1.5644137254901964,1835,74,326,38,76,549,177,408,0.027999999999999997,0.8370000000000001,0.134,0.9872,9,0,0,0,0,0,109.0,4,43,6,5,21,23,0,5,24,1,39,0,0,7,7,85,62,31,0,9,9,9,4,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,17,31,0,0,16,2,1,6,5,6,1,3,2,4,53,18,57,43,11,37,0,1,0,0,92,13,0,14,18,238,70,2,0.0,0.0,0.06785966787493218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122002812198536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0486230241286615,0.0,0.0,0.061904120154135475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042390100954374614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297649775849888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064327476032584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355704433403282,0.0591495197224264,0.0,0.07624551411459422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670778645435785,0.07904080730890994,0.05832570022209468,0.0,0.07666658061987339,0.0,0.0,0.061492777286448135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322055034669216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464983071537213,0.05668326135865034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191918034520454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823850614213348,0.0,0.0,0.09283514561649578,0.0,0.0698608964089377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042837798240315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312402006536847,0.05363247526489866,0.0,0.07395511761281523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424234525600912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6949297331381397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726530635918675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0445482244317796,0.0,0.0,0.22397538054798072,0.0,0.059385606621935524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049219797371720886,0.07411892287062312,0.055533636522749286,0.0,0.07965626109698205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891160867564331,0.13107866403328874,0.0,0.052284392537271684,0.1676775404241881,0.3646789447971086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385951195273168,0.044557543672038055,0.0,0.05520590147670696,0.04054853201529668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04721216239527976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203136655624431,0.055196524534799576,0.0,0.0,0.06252357599622875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703275393908265,0.0,0.05062494790391832,0.07061985015319124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Municuhh98,2020/01/09,I would like to have another child (I have 1) but I’m scared that I won’t love the new baby as much as I love my toddler. I don’t know if this makes any sense or if I sound extremely offensive. As a child and teenager I realized that there was favoritism at my home( me being the oldest followed by 2 younger siblings) I saw and got told by other kids that it appeared as if my parents favored the other 2. I don’t know if they were agreeing with me and I was just a selfish/petty child that I made myself believe that. However the situation was; thing is I  think about having another child but live in fear of not loving the newborn as much as I love my toddler. Any advice?,3.3670714285714283,4.303255850000003,4.872857142857144,85.06214285714286,72.64285714285714,7.6,29.0,7.908726449838941,1.8095142857142856,529,21,110,7,10,178,84,140,0.109,0.7090000000000001,0.182,0.904,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,3,9,1,2,7,0,13,4,0,2,0,21,28,16,0,5,9,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,6,10,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,8,2,21,6,14,17,2,6,0,0,1,4,13,2,0,6,3,80,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098046690613632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240555348183728,0.34548517180540644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560377403240624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853765104076628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175635501545785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524605642429765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18107184288185751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048286549994962,0.0,0.14546703351327306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5947313846518091,0.15587946603825434,0.10996416738754053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422033716827101,0.0,0.0,0.15910538220141554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292250799321494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649318865047841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517287426316972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944487903146012,0.10555772080049414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741460974559393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702543935368595,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,liu8954,2020/01/09,"Giving up sleeping Just decided to give up sleeping hahaha... my 3mo old just won’t sleep unless he is held in arm... for past three months we’ve been taking turn staying up and holding our son to sleep. 

Man it’s so hard to live life with 2-3 hours of sleep... haha 

I’ve receive many tips from Reddit, and thank you thank you. But none seems to work for him so i give up haha. White flag I surrender.",-0.17920043811609787,2.0971963373494016,1.5695947426067924,97.24865279299016,91.65060240963855,4.463964950711938,15.97918948521358,6.1124844417494595,-0.5385807228915658,308,7,69,3,11,100,63,83,0.022000000000000002,0.821,0.157,0.8894,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,2,3,7,6,0,0,11,12,6,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,7,4,15,9,1,11,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,1,4,35,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167753672524453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973081819313034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261912599124574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229107756824384,0.0,0.0,0.12787924920498525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468253649905362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559442682688945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196486558335756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824765616120205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183924151826915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7246259734810188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435949805197782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888707330641197,0.0,0.0,0.2666627153007136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752323411639538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054311266907738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Burgerlini88,2020/01/09,"Newborn and a 4 year old. How do I insure my 4 year old doesn’t feel replaced? To start, my four year old son and I (father) have had an awesome bond for the past four years. 

We’ve spent close to every spare second playing, learning, adventuring, and discovering together over the past two years in particular. 

Last week we welcomed our daughter into the world and within this first week, I’ve started to feel like I’m letting my son down by the amount of attention a newborn requires. 

He says he’s good and that he enjoys helping by being a big brother , but I can tell he isn’t exactly happy about it. 

Play time (with my son)  has slowed down dramatically and his attitudes/emotions have been a bit wilder than usual. He seems to get irritated a lot easier and he says he can’t do things that he has never had issues with before. I know it’s more than likely attempts to secure time together and that sort of bums me out. 

What are some tips to balance the demands of a newborn and a four year old ?",7.2148484848484875,6.105508060606063,7.567353535353536,76.07436363636364,64.35353535353535,10.142222222222225,33.94141414141414,9.120678840339163,2.801368080808081,788,28,154,11,10,259,122,198,0.02,0.825,0.155,0.9704,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,3,2,10,0,0,13,0,16,0,0,1,2,29,25,11,0,0,1,6,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,15,0,2,6,2,1,0,4,0,0,6,4,4,12,10,24,19,5,33,0,0,0,0,25,10,0,4,25,94,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725700073455006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761104702117474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178628963857304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620031856454908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746664268999974,0.09004824338688393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721580123318446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585453164488222,0.0,0.0,0.10572252676174188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341797350437305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448687363584405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156067264940136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927232049153899,0.10274540370905988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889194297929513,0.0,0.12316072480971138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071609391938746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721547756650444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5290619107596379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406528931734109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20047580454818453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474876242445685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843390906666062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017092909285227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374025045265222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699843275992455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312993374152514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882333487183346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022151428230707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48702211793046
parenting,meatkissy,2020/01/09,"6 year old is having nightmares about being abducted. What else can I do to help? My child is usually really good at night, but lately they've been having nightmares that cause them to wake up screaming. First it was earthquakes and being swallowed up by a hole, now it's being taken by someone. 

My SO and I have explained how we lock the house and all the other precautions we take with strangers and whatnot. They're fixated on it lately and I'm not sure what else to do. Any advice?",2.9852514619883053,5.2869535368421054,3.8045614035087763,86.58637426900587,76.78947368421053,6.32748538011696,24.239766081871338,7.3871296695380915,1.2048362573099416,386,13,72,5,9,123,70,95,0.08900000000000001,0.87,0.042,-0.6604,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,13,2,1,2,2,15,17,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,7,2,11,11,1,12,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,8,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198678360435478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530080218453435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311374417558241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759180097127537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913852681426118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18871970269572413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081305907661607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596203105874673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076206166927729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111476807230944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23610012351294274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414104997239435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064215144386729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120602617021317,0.0,0.16917233702618528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24780620825761385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448929131083069
parenting,DisneyMom42,2020/01/09,Son and Daughter sharing a bed. Do you see any problems with a brother and sister sharing a queen size bed on a family vacation?,4.0368,5.82200568,5.805,75.70750000000002,72.2,8.200000000000001,36.5,8.841846274778883,3.652200000000001,102,6,17,2,2,35,19,25,0.10300000000000001,0.684,0.213,0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,0,10,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992098767379755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.553412596607088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5617215813425745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677978594280317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,liveinpresent33,2020/01/09,"Gender inequality in parents My husband took our daughter for a walk around the neighborhood to get a coffee this afternoon so I can have a quick nap (I am 8 month pregnant) . He came back and told me that he met two random ladies on the walk, they told him he must be proud to have such a well-behaved toddler (2F) and that he is a good dad.  I asked him what did she do? He said nothing, she is just being herself, trotting along and saying hi to random people on the way. I said how come nobody has ever said anything to me when I am with my daughter alone?  I can’t help but think what a double standard the society has for moms. If a dad is doing anything with a kid, he is glorified and kid is golden! Does anyone ever have this unfair treatment?",4.235328947368424,4.804987664473688,5.243263157894738,84.54384210526318,70.3815789473684,7.395789473684211,27.7,7.1686216300943375,1.3856505263157892,583,19,118,5,10,192,98,152,0.044000000000000004,0.8809999999999999,0.075,0.5711,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,1,10,2,0,0,12,0,20,0,0,1,3,21,32,9,0,2,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,6,10,0,0,1,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,9,4,17,2,13,20,1,17,0,0,0,0,32,4,0,3,7,85,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468710511189414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793518625768032,0.0,0.277595487278828,0.15014849593018853,0.15767993825779875,0.0,0.0,0.12969373998555705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290896657579576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529082106133548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147600749938382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051360998371173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812102160830225,0.0,0.0,0.1414690353504287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305326195969835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975395763039165,0.1346275890392061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161839572348857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872836285605968,0.0,0.0,0.1169317647702085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813199596744803,0.1341299699753103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807435996250507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322335174878519,0.1873941278604844,0.0,0.0,0.16476217020835765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387921706727066,0.0,0.0,0.1516509866005007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pamplemoussant,2020/01/09,"Can you help my son with his fundraiser? I'm posting this in a few places around reddit, hoping maybe some parents will understand where I'm coming from!

My son's school is having some fundraising thing. And my 1st grader son came home with the goal to raise $1,000. It's not even about the fundraiser or the prizes (which are stupid), I just want my son to have a goal and know what it feels like to reach it.

The problem is, I made these nice posts on Facebook, shared it with every single friend of mine, messaged it to family and friends, and 2 people donated. Not even family or friends. So, starting off we're at $35, and $10 of that is from me. Not much when the top 5 are already at over $90.

So I'm wondering, if a few kind strangers could kick in to help my son meet his goal. If you are able to message me for the fundraiser link I would be happy to send it over. Even $1 helps.

We're going to go door to door and do a lot of activities so he is going to be doing some work to raise money, but $1,000 is a lot so all help is needed.

We'd be happy to mail you a hand drawn picture or something from my son. He's no Picasso, but he loves drawing. If you PM me for the link, send me your mailing address and any specific drawing requests you have.

Thanks in advance!",2.9831481119154724,3.748988453531602,4.0126198395617285,91.5108334963804,73.38661710037175,6.8527489728037585,24.93856388182352,6.8360192770164,0.7186312267657984,990,29,226,8,19,321,146,269,0.017,0.797,0.18600000000000005,0.9905,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,1,6,0,7,12,15,1,0,13,0,22,2,1,1,1,44,41,20,0,9,12,7,2,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,12,13,0,0,6,0,2,8,4,2,0,0,2,2,23,13,34,32,10,25,0,0,0,1,36,13,0,13,3,142,35,5,0.12923439974494114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261337373546962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788382346295928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150460150568418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780972487128746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132399218447717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318315229751994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25607430657864416,0.0,0.10888555561906943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436613810249883,0.0,0.0653447955702794,0.09232508100004004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29953852998945635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203406627488827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27514484326477684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464923760192129,0.0,0.1296326400730568,0.1283589189302788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457774020911972,0.0710238463282852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313739983370109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197409303945601,0.11663909141764918,0.12228471379572407,0.0,0.0,0.12983332482773666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500215371314877,0.09582566988774063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434995070566694,0.0,0.0,0.08959486065468975,0.0,0.13502244159361165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475416625360169,0.0,0.0,0.12365986706898804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079211203719618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949095474517188,0.0,0.0,0.0914727733052744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898167209594952,0.0,0.0,0.08585759272157961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453756783038082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622579731740628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014919375298254,0.09408418218858952,0.0,0.0,0.09180440966273537,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Uyeeeen,2020/01/09,My 2-year-old daughter can't stop watching youtube!  I still have control of the videos she watches & let her choose sometimes. Some of these videos I feel like are so mindless that it has no value to her. Do you guys have any Youtube channels that you can recommend?? and favorites from your child and/or you? Thank you!!,3.7445000000000017,6.4258297833333335,2.273333333333337,96.57500000000002,76.16666666666666,4.666666666666667,28.33333333333333,5.46131890053228,0.7723333333333342,257,11,50,1,6,71,50,60,0.078,0.6920000000000001,0.231,0.8628,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,11,2,4,9,1,2,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,1,3,33,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33273995394349304,0.0,0.20883679379037648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444358982039606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527769571309494,0.21939047645795184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040747528806509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314027944557745,0.0,0.15003229980189114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32224710974822257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037272261048464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452484167057688,0.2567472153885374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827340680143334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19776068634539568
parenting,bbyizzie,2020/01/09,"unconditional love im 21, no kids, but ive always loved babies and thought they were the most precious things. everyone around me has one, and i was just wondering, is your love for your child really unconditional, is it really always there? when they cry all night do you ever get tired of holding them? do you miss them everytime you leave them? do they really bring you joy everytime you look at them? i just want to know what its like being a parent without being a parent... yet lol",1.892741935483869,4.659576903225805,3.4195967741935505,84.34939516129033,86.41935483870968,6.970967741935485,18.502688172043012,8.07648339933343,1.1212301075268818,384,10,73,9,12,126,66,93,0.106,0.612,0.28300000000000003,0.9785,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,7,7,0,7,7,0,0,3,1,11,4,0,0,2,15,22,4,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,1,18,6,6,17,2,7,0,1,1,3,21,2,0,2,5,54,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29214312826805433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627661296974352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19283330126839426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879491793082495,0.0,0.16774543447456844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171756735266927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896239961651283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647762366027196,0.0,0.0,0.18588197674806625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576480456843487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474176868081909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475321865019291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474167139485524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895714274157555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898547362038412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373852472507555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166275405683095,0.0,0.0,0.13936699653011342,0.0,0.20176876396423452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354386824955902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922382092743862,0.19037635766293265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ceebio-v,2020/01/09,"What makes YOU a good parent? I know we are always worried about what we think we might be doing wrong as a parent, but what is something you KNOW you are doing right? I think we should stop criticizing ourselves and start seeing how amazing we are for all that we do for our children. 

So what is something you do that makes you a good parent?",4.1407352941176505,5.4565963088235305,4.290470588235299,88.52511764705883,71.20588235294117,6.028235294117647,23.894117647058824,5.6839178017228535,0.42186117647058863,271,7,54,1,5,84,39,68,0.126,0.725,0.149,0.5913,3,0,2,0,0,0,5.0,7,5,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,3,1,19,20,5,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,14,3,4,17,1,3,0,0,1,0,16,1,0,1,2,44,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586061415192344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197560070410805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951297019946086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25447268838928555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20221136179897214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6349629631427308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278333887836605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189470186730278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29348798346253085,0.0,0.0,0.1349175904877574,0.0,0.0,0.15936186299315058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442755456664413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357779861054966,0.0,0.0,0.2084065171202678,0.0,0.0
parenting,illmindedone,2020/01/09,"Refer to your child as roommate and tell me something your roommate does. I’ll start 
My roommate hasn’t paid rent in 4 years and eats all the good cereal haha.

(Seen this on Facebook and the responses were really funny)",5.307142857142857,6.725194476190481,5.603333333333335,79.82500000000002,68.52380952380952,8.457142857142857,28.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.2872285714285714,176,6,31,3,3,56,36,42,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.7096,1,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,5,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,4,2,4,2,1,4,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837943499237095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487651813064352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678505460122545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809582845762202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376315458894801,0.0,0.0,0.3104211225730198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833282996802959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282423808637149
parenting,madamebaggins,2020/01/09,"My 1.5 year old niece has anger issues. How to deal with them effectively? For background, her father (my brother) passed away unexpectedly 4 months ago and left behind his wife and two daughters (4 y/o & the 1.5 y/o). They moved into our family’s house immediately after his passing and have help from my parents, my sister, and I.
 
My sister-in-law is exhausted trying to keep everything together raising the kids on her own. She’s incredibly patient and kind, and has always been excellent at disciplining children effectively. However, nothing seems to work with the 1.5 year old. She just does not listen or care what anyone says. 

Ever since she was born, she’s displayed some aggression and just general rage towards things and people. Lately it’s gotten pretty bad. She has explosive fits of anger in which she’ll scream, throw objects, hit people, bang her head back on the chair she’s sitting on over and over again, plop on the floor and cry, run to walls and corners crying, etc. She’s really attached to her mom and gets upset when she tries to do anything without her or even goes to a different room alone. Other things that upset her are just the usual, not getting a dangerous object she wants, not being allowed to climb on something, her sister not sharing, etc.

Any advice on getting through to her or what we could do/avoid to help her calm down?",7.2117847769028876,7.638049102362206,7.088015748031495,74.40514698162731,63.88188976377953,9.607979002624672,32.287664041994745,9.3871,2.8986549081364825,1088,39,188,18,15,346,165,254,0.14300000000000002,0.763,0.094,-0.9186,4,2,1,0,0,0,44.0,2,0,2,5,9,15,5,2,8,0,12,2,1,4,1,39,22,17,0,2,11,8,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,2,8,16,0,2,3,0,0,6,5,10,0,1,3,3,31,5,33,15,4,41,0,0,0,0,41,20,0,5,14,124,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318327408745795,0.11174358708222884,0.0,0.0,0.13055897754372975,0.0,0.0,0.1048910826963554,0.1365847388259261,0.0,0.08572435801306377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814329669250259,0.0,0.10373571353953798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184364630400109,0.09693149403037274,0.10525389547384327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852542485099086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064775450054413,0.0,0.2769395107099099,0.0,0.12996116530777585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170469452603178,0.0,0.0,0.11031497135578087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811779364531908,0.08326069831022183,0.11402746980350224,0.0,0.0,0.11329358888371342,0.0,0.1188370887717878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19758167852033687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937277414386664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898921394326388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545501721967505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157271479055652,0.0,0.1120469205084065,0.0,0.13127092026370515,0.0,0.0,0.1421999021860689,0.0,0.1369633369622507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763863131248886,0.1006189916701494,0.13398063479801225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095689077019668,0.0,0.2645551686879485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997346306637212,0.0,0.0,0.1747867038154137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282471952626192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807565435013726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002470773485577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475926572127546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427720438496356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704628096012806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674958308955821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117140334546746,0.0,0.12314120419197724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388360417861452,0.0,0.07435279078205617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215162574613545,0.0,0.09177236264305548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235556550632246
parenting,round2ftw,2020/01/09,"DIY Natural Cough Syrup We ran out of zarabees so in a pinch I poured hot water over five or so Ricola cough drops. Just herbs, menthol sugar and caramel color!

Do you think it'd be safe to melt a quarter of a melatonin tab too?",4.341418439716311,4.704121297872341,4.830638297872341,88.33333333333334,70.06382978723404,7.9687943262411345,28.43262411347518,7.793537801064563,1.5102113475177306,179,6,39,2,3,57,42,47,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.69,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,3,4,0,0,0,7,5,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,3,1,6,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zayleyhunts,2020/01/09,"Took my IUD out and... Feeling overwhelmed So I have a four almost five year old daughter. I've wanted to have another child for years but with living situations and such we've just decided not to until we were able to afford a house or bigger apartment. Well we bought a house last year and now I got a new dr who took my IUD out today. 

I'm not sure when we're going to actually try. For now, I bought condoms. But now it's real. All these hypotheticals in my head and wishing so badly for another baby. And this feeling of not meeting a very important member of our family yet, should make taking my IUD a relief. But instead I feel my anxiety flaring up I guess. It's so real and so close now. Not something that we'll do in the distant future. And I guess I want to know if it's normal to be freaking out. Even though I've wanted another child for so long.",1.7377467597208387,3.7806404350282463,3.9372549019607885,85.3789232303091,79.67796610169492,6.42459288800266,22.8411432369558,7.510576382923642,1.0586154204054503,675,22,136,10,17,232,105,177,0.091,0.823,0.086,-0.6131,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,0,17,6,0,1,7,0,7,3,1,1,2,43,26,20,0,7,10,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,7,14,0,0,5,0,2,3,4,3,1,2,6,3,16,3,20,17,1,28,0,1,0,1,9,9,0,5,16,92,23,0,0.12766822187631008,0.0,0.12458576818886816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278412825726829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.401613786703918,0.09766584029208718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659763256152856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843236564816258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035423740420954,0.0,0.19365866694455974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725567926076347,0.0,0.10210793974850747,0.0,0.2812818796787176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102442792799718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29462397396335666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016311593077533,0.10406664047977994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127333789070348,0.11298235887588401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521952946242682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330276423918525,0.0,0.0,0.12508775090866334,0.0,0.0,0.1339663227526785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29062877325206393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350443047778166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098285234505372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032578822707775,0.0,0.09599061434473354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254333797865071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101454648538153,0.0,0.28368818405533924,0.08667834229183369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053396535457817,0.2259060750966549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147890638038732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681215453888205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24664244736380875
parenting,sbt-thoughts,2020/01/09,"On average...and help! How much one on one time do you get with your kid(s) each day? 

What are their ages? 

I worry that I could “do more” but I also stay mindful of spending time with them. When I’m busy at home they get super clingy and loud. 

Mine are 7 and 2. 

My 7 year old follows me around constantly. I get really overstimulated and sometimes even a normal speaking voice pains me. I make sure I engage her and set aside time for her but she wants constant attention, no exaggeration. My 7 year old and 2 year old refuse to go to sleep unless I’m in the room. If I leave the room they get up constantly and it takes them hours to fall asleep. I’ve tried everything and I’m losing it here. 

I’m parenting alone so I don’t have back up.",0.2357275541795687,2.5455770653594776,2.0498727210182324,94.70863777089785,88.80392156862746,5.5739938080495355,17.20295837633299,7.0608816371341465,-0.003371241830065319,573,14,131,9,19,188,100,153,0.124,0.79,0.086,-0.593,1,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,5,2,8,5,0,0,3,0,7,3,2,2,1,24,20,15,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,4,11,0,1,1,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,0,3,23,3,15,19,3,31,0,1,0,0,14,9,0,1,17,75,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830057554634784,0.0,0.10678680068710332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887324706229647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267912375828618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4329072663692461,0.0,0.1066157428370676,0.0,0.0,0.0861181484371742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819770737586888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001142198804993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27906325423056205,0.0,0.07589024278061511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950478162886298,0.0,0.13394512485398605,0.0,0.1315037334311159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413928400833654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938998241369952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913473912121132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483090648001547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816258724140653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083461167687674,0.0,0.0,0.42036326549489306,0.0,0.1809716956392184,0.0,0.14208920382112147,0.0,0.14827330044623532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554506672383096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336300726730858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206818072513185,0.0,0.0,0.14232908905663974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585387188629604,0.0,0.1004006760149386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335936114881907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066057365463463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876159841395305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560988951721406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579738510722837
parenting,efeekom,2020/01/09,"What is the nickname for 4-year olds? 2-year olds are going through the ""terrible twos"" and 3-year olds are known as ""threenagers"" but is there a nickname for 4-year olds?  My four year old has been testing limits and pushing buttons for the past few months and I assumed other, more creative parents have come up with nicknames for this stage of development so I figured I'd ask.",5.071304347826086,7.53181953623189,3.9442753623188413,87.26684782608696,71.02898550724638,5.759420289855073,31.78985507246377,6.42735559955562,1.7285246376811596,304,14,53,2,6,88,53,69,0.028999999999999998,0.904,0.067,0.5573,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,10,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,9,9,2,13,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,8,35,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320794180361862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195590813292699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705895791525528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227135645351855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8037130663738656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009458068043062,0.0,0.14623307463312482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4932328105441912
parenting,Tish_EllisLPC,2020/01/09,"Hi I'm Tish Ellis. I am a high conflict coparent specialist. AMA Hi Reddit! I’m Tish Ellis. I’ve been a psychotherapist for 10 years.  I have an online video therapy practice where I specialize in helping high conflict coparents, especially ones that experience parental alienation. I use an approach of compassion and light humor when working with my clients. I combine conflict resolution, stress management techniques, and person-centered therapy to help my clients create the coparenting relationship they desire.

**My Proof:** [https://www.facebook.com/empowertransitions/](https://www.facebook.com/empowertransitions/)

When I’m not contemplating how to be a coparenting and relationship recovery jedi, I can usually be found doing a things I love most like watching my kid play baseball (P.S. he's a hell of a pitcher), laughing till I cry watching funny youtube videos, or binge-watching fantasy shows like Game of Thrones (yes I HATED the last season), or running away from my rottweiler's silent but deadly farts. 🤢🤮

Ask me Anything about relationship recovery, psychotherapy, online counseling, coparenting, or my side DIY hobbies.

*DISCLAIMER* I'm not able to provide counseling thru reddit. If you'd like a free consultation, you can contact me at [https://www.empowertransitions.com/](https://www.empowertransitions.com/)

If you're experiencing thoughts or impulses that put you or anyone else in danger, please contact the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or go to your local emergency room.",8.579098712446353,12.669801811158802,7.897160515021456,55.04386952789702,67.36909871244634,9.564909871244637,37.216995708154506,9.791249743138472,4.9498276051502135,1254,65,155,34,25,392,157,233,0.125,0.72,0.154,0.4603,10,0,0,0,0,1,77.0,0,4,1,1,5,13,3,1,12,1,9,1,0,2,1,25,20,16,2,3,11,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,3,2,7,1,4,2,4,0,1,3,4,22,10,18,14,1,23,1,0,2,1,22,12,1,9,10,83,25,3,0.14252463725286738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965654023008104,0.14603333364796287,0.11728563257299254,0.0,0.13324129641963986,0.0,0.13390658832323102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565566215808935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906104606276655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941644356700458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627090829682294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100003583235893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407135723204175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865937801805488,0.3011702088064685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617660187102062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088910156927412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286340496540684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657838276914676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825674301565118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444701581767124,0.0,0.15644925235834625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432766260080859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459054366159228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326149043267574,0.0,0.0,0.15589882046994727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259786876879116,0.0,0.09468703597647628,0.0,0.0,0.11314864182230755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309552577649467,0.15697075220494974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375963338032457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178119353706124
parenting,whateverreddit88,2020/01/09,"Why are so many posts being deleted? I have seen SO MANY posts deleted lately from this subreddit. One of mine was just deleted, and it was literally just a PSA about mental health and parenting, and had literally zero controversy or arguing happening in the comments.

Last week, someone was seeking support about her daughter being assaulted (it had already been reported to the police, and again, all comments were supportive) - also deleted. 

​

The description of this subreddit says it is a place to discuss the ups AND DOWNS of child-rearing. That doesn't seem to be the case, and I don't remember it always being this way. I know moderating can be a difficult, thankless job, but it seems that the posts that are the most needed are the ones being deleted, and that is concerning.",6.865106382978723,8.622688453900711,6.981340425531916,70.12350000000002,65.17021276595744,10.179007092198582,36.79503546099291,10.355215969177356,4.349044822695035,636,32,98,16,10,204,87,141,0.044000000000000004,0.943,0.013999999999999999,-0.4767,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,8,5,2,0,11,0,22,1,0,0,1,18,30,12,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,12,7,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,3,8,2,5,2,12,16,2,12,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,4,4,82,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168104894312746,0.12182183412367133,0.12675449634824762,0.16505435289342055,0.18510307540374307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347088836585672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16192443607523518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116847263478156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371905010007917,0.12417293862304316,0.1718399364276133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088865197130936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351733332470927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295409180072072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064515815193154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914942011285505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915711605031446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376829878781796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256527780535325,0.0,0.0,0.12114249822822898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277359191150773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907251639215775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457347409397394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091602510127973,0.12219353670321388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745818029849294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510307540374307,0.0
parenting,Bukt,2020/01/09,"Considering Private School, Need Advice Relevent info: 

I currently have one son who is about 19 months so I have time to think it over. My wife and I plan on having more kids.

The men in my family have always been considered to be very intelligent, but have not performed very well in the current U.S. education system. I myself did well with grades and learning the material in a public charter school situation through Jr. High, but much worse in my public high school (Which felt like a repeat of everything I learned in jr. high.)

My son seems to have MANY similarities to the men in my family and like any parent I want the best for him. I am considering budgeting to allow him to attend a private school. I believe he will learn and perform better there in most cases.

Problems I need advice on:

- If we can't afford it, what are my options for him?
- How do I pick a good private school? (I currently believe good teacher/student ratios are VERY important) 
- We live in a fairly rural town about 30 minutes drive from the closest established private schools and 2 hours drive from the top rated ones. What options do I have for transportation? Is it worth it to move?
- Anything I am missing?",4.4189591692235055,6.621531094170402,5.126381873967432,79.2135850837857,72.1390134529148,7.744064196365353,29.22563134293132,8.532816995589336,2.396637668161435,946,39,166,17,19,305,132,223,0.067,0.785,0.14800000000000002,0.9601,5,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,0,6,7,10,0,0,12,0,20,0,0,3,0,29,27,10,0,5,4,4,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,8,0,0,7,0,2,5,2,2,2,2,3,1,25,8,28,22,4,30,0,1,0,0,16,17,0,5,9,113,33,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021766590655148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607714327457112,0.0,0.0,0.07034828564189767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512900856292657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23310126790539365,0.10856244539995794,0.09149147717798224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297252189363288,0.0,0.19504340795402114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993264415467403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353479107013028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278959330559299,0.0,0.0,0.10187558428177199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107907606136247,0.0,0.0913466068434038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488018168554372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257132197983562,0.109949006160151,0.0760462890969334,0.15341097670677012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019827993222578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486692219471815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989859033007909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.628170270346356,0.0,0.094175305504002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162800487152123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628539393682427,0.0,0.0,0.0603214449606336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25606665951355856,0.0610163958697858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860246110402086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542249705854602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,esteesmireddit,2020/01/09,"Don't be scared to talk to a speech and language pathologist (SLP) if you are worried about your child's communication skills Hi there,

I am a mom of 2 and an SLP. Everyday, I see at least one post from a concerned parent about their child's speech and language development. Many well-intentioned parents chime in with their own experiences. While that creates a beautiful sense of community, I want to encourage all parents to check in with an SLP.

Yes, kids learn to talk at different rates. Yes, kids are all different. However, SLP are professionals trained to look for all communication aspects, way beyond spoken words. And research shows that early intervention works really well for children with delays.

Also, if you want information on speech and language development, visit the speech, hearing, and language association's website: www.asha.org",8.436875,10.44130671527778,7.726000000000003,65.319,61.70833333333333,11.037777777777775,38.01111111111111,11.00357731598739,4.7864994444444475,693,34,104,19,10,216,92,144,0.015,0.833,0.152,0.9509,6,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,2,2,6,3,0,1,7,2,6,0,0,0,3,20,11,10,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,2,9,0,1,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,7,8,2,22,10,5,13,0,0,2,0,21,6,0,2,4,63,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662758191293867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570008950631301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671227363613023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255881477511602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346981381178686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732136877493574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009584211911405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577144839426233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5691215310844977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362575370388385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094500025832271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104927618810595,0.0,0.13614423251157515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27464330272288723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154188850412785,0.1356116844156259,0.0,0.0,0.30722685995170923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437983218264598,0.17350506962472712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,supertiredyo,2020/01/09,"Need advice, what to do with/for 7 y/o daughter?!? My daughter C has separation anxiety. She’s always had a bit of it but it’s worsened due to a tense marriage (to her dad).  Even when things are calm she has a hard time at school. She’s been in school since age 3, but still cries in the mornings when I drop her off for 1st grade. She misses me throughout the day, but does see a school counselor weekly. She always wants to be in the same room I am in at home. She won’t spend the night away even with family, never really would do that her entire life. 

Me and her dad separated in December and he no longer lives in our home. They have regular visits but when given the opportunity to do something outside of scheduled visits (like go to the park or dinner with him) she declines even when her little brother goes. 

Recently she’s been complaining with feeling nauseous. Part of its nerves I know. She has a good diet and no health issues. 
I also don’t know that she has the issue as much as she claims because she will say she’s not feeling well and then play or practice her gymnastics as usual if I’m busy around the house. She also says it to try and stay home from school. 

How do I approach the situation to find out if she’s actually not feeling well or just saying it? I don’t want to assume it’s fake every time because her nerves/emotions do make her Nauseous and I want to acknowledge her emotions. But don’t want her faking for attention. 

How do I help her get through her anxiety and encourage her to take her own space without making her feel rejected? She’s super sensitive...",3.533018867924529,5.09671441509434,4.58463647798742,84.84872830188682,73.08805031446542,7.4779371069182385,25.92754716981132,8.109356740369918,1.5398972075471695,1256,42,251,19,25,410,173,318,0.14,0.753,0.107,-0.8845,0,1,1,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,1,2,16,14,0,0,14,0,23,4,0,4,1,48,43,29,0,8,14,5,5,1,0,3,2,3,4,0,10,12,2,0,10,1,1,4,10,5,2,0,4,9,45,9,37,35,5,38,0,2,1,0,49,15,0,6,18,171,55,5,0.0,0.0,0.09622968231870926,0.0,0.0,0.09636109845995572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577176592343771,0.16410377175230415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087361777068686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877843055116429,0.0,0.0,0.0926478676654154,0.0,0.0,0.12022416484016896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765719217161154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831907033102099,0.06359565368433259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629476603190814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218472159225829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539403560632024,0.0,0.08308365027286473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929612603388228,0.0,0.19944184924973188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012826583018717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151994786852858,0.0,0.05604265402218725,0.08270985961400197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833569313382075,0.0,0.0,0.10481841459022262,0.0,0.0,0.06609658009209933,0.0,0.2967432972319359,0.0,0.0,0.1137833471275362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584761070037774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838757034067964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965155515279657,0.04817613885603903,0.09883368756024716,0.08707493156435779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164662973522448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249010825536759,0.07311848113232848,0.07605454341773682,0.0,0.0,0.09253933098117867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678562750925727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317245013390803,0.0,0.09736603204234197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352572269799095,0.0,0.3991966072328013,0.07857984957850217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157167467179277,0.11084240163988576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591522716088904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510573695689644,0.07875052100808967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414286927193978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551247469320431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500122168335652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695009762279394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860560081271133,0.0,0.2326522540141409,0.0,0.0790994435481745,0.0,0.17732547311123373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505706141083256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005011291497415,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ddadandann,2020/01/09,"What to do when 5 year old just wont listen? Recently I've been put in a position to where I'm looking after my niece (5) and nephew (2). Im 25, never had kids and I'm really not sure if I ever will. But my brother needed the help so he got it.

I knew children were frustrating beyond belief and no one could ever hope for complete obedience from them. But I feel like the 5 year old is more than ordinary when it comes to not listening.

It's constant. Today it was telling her to quit touching the lamp, she quits, I turn around and turn back and she's messing with it again. This goes on every 30 seconds for hours with different scenarios. We go over the same lessons every day and it feels like zero progress. 

Maybe it's normal I just don't now what normal is, but my brother and his wife also feel the same way. What do you do with a young child that just isn't listening?",1.3786324786324755,3.435496802197804,3.0060805860805893,91.51947496947498,80.97802197802199,6.242246642246642,21.649572649572647,7.3871296695380915,0.7161821733821734,686,21,148,10,18,226,118,182,0.03,0.9129999999999999,0.055999999999999994,0.5251,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,1,4,15,6,1,0,7,0,14,0,0,0,4,39,31,15,0,6,9,4,4,2,0,2,0,3,0,3,12,13,0,0,6,0,0,3,7,2,0,3,6,8,15,4,17,22,3,29,1,0,1,0,20,6,0,2,21,99,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178580828041763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244380571407214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748583878336253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204121784986707,0.14656164326532115,0.1510576474813229,0.0,0.1116067427039052,0.0,0.0,0.09014959497541283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604530451579814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25288660530360857,0.235549349279598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203809799945644,0.19972449631268605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794428906498061,0.0,0.11179862836252384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369476653450368,0.0,0.0,0.1388377900831721,0.13765981412406172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099150936049946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658352902255405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738397822930972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043256244643762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364861554871764,0.10781061107070657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27391873758271623,0.0,0.0,0.2933611463987951,0.0,0.09472175935012796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052227527640654,0.0,0.2973565607336001,0.0,0.0,0.08954968560342491,0.0,0.1380205697161129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174546576456064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217802643208232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249959153324606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040913198418435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095462235677653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18003358262615982
parenting,john8377,2020/01/09,Baby sitting I volunteer and take care of children at a local care center I only take care of the kids for an hour. I’m 14 male and wanted advice on how to start babysitting because I heard getting a job as a babysitter if your a guy is really hard because of the community and incidents that have happened. Is there any advice someone could give me? Also I might have a lead and wanted to know it if was a better situation and I’m lucky or if it won’t help me. I’m in 9th grade and when a parent came I realized it was my 6th grade math teacher. She like me when I was in her class but just every kid I wants considered her “favorite” kid. So I was just surprised had a quick chat with her and that’s it. Would this be my best bet in getting a babysitting job or is there really no difference? I thought by knowing her before hand that it would help me. Btw I have been taking care of the same children for the past year now but she joined recently with her boy age 2. And she also has a older daughter that I remember she was pregnant with when she was teaching me.,2.2667396999285567,3.9776424660633545,3.896542033817575,87.84342700643009,76.82805429864256,6.643581805191713,24.753750893069785,7.475848149327749,1.1455013574660635,839,29,175,11,19,280,124,221,0.021,0.8059999999999999,0.174,0.9864,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,3,13,9,0,0,15,0,21,1,1,2,0,38,44,23,0,9,9,2,2,1,0,4,0,1,0,8,10,12,0,0,5,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,11,3,29,9,18,27,2,22,0,0,0,0,26,7,0,8,13,124,39,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413810781779787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975385256194519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398964111238535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057859964219195,0.0,0.10509616846483866,0.0,0.12961397344976486,0.1092327448054274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126019164485065,0.5036983446598235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986110479588536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903952018365664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406077453631496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290556123054847,0.1184800795867293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229228816555418,0.10921767209128316,0.0,0.11063886356122037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556955059139525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163045174258748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24512516511698765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135753478364493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060339745630625184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310224169076387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939333612822618,0.0,0.0,0.13714096204034262,0.0,0.117902313272296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824471045028726,0.0,0.121949200288843,0.0,0.1399104306547166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882811032291584,0.0,0.0,0.10464788504257576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741956253988725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785878224215187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980515161463596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854456626683047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547300780233735,0.0,0.0,0.0795350702853694
parenting,thecelticbelle,2020/01/09,"My son got a job today. My son has high functioning autism, and to look at him you would think he was ""normal."" When he was 3 and didn't talk I knew something was wrong, but his (at the time) Dr. told me I was overreacting. I paid for a speech/language eval bc I couldn't get a Dr. referral. At 36 months he was talking at a 22 month level. At age 4 he was diagnosed with sensory issues in OT and age 5 autism.  At age 7 he began having severe behavioral issues,  and at age 9 I was told to put him in an institution (by a specialist whom I told to go to hell). At age 10 the behavior was diagnosed as actual seizures,  and once on the right medication they stopped! He applied for and was hired for a grocery job at 16. He wanted stocking due to less people/sensory interaction, but on the first night they put him up front bagging. He did well, but it was loud, chaotic and fast paced. After two weeks he couldn't do it anymore. He wasn't eating,  sleeping, and his grades were dropping due to the stress. He asked to move to stocking, but they had a shortage of baggers, so they said no. My son quit. He thought he wasn't able to work. He thought he was a failure because he couldn't filter out noise, follow audible cues, multiple demands, etc. All these tasks can be difficult for people with autism in general,  but especially for my son. He graduated high school with a general education degree and went on to a trade school. Today, he was hired part time in his trade field! He is SO excited! He came home, hugged me, and said ""I CAN WORK! I CAN BE INDEPENDENT!"" To see the joy and pride he now has in himself made me teary eyed. He has worked so hard and come so far. Some parents get upset when their kids leave the nest, but I am excited for the day my son leaves only because I know how hard he has fought to get there. It may take a little longer,  but I will be there cheering him on and eventually waiving bye. Thanks for letting me share if you have read this far.",2.536396503185657,4.296034307304787,3.855007408504964,88.22116572825605,76.20403022670025,7.290235590457847,24.77470736405393,8.124751697461798,1.341739131723218,1528,52,328,26,34,501,208,397,0.102,0.8140000000000001,0.084,-0.5767,3,0,1,0,0,0,60.0,0,2,5,6,11,15,2,2,20,0,40,9,2,3,1,47,69,29,0,7,8,6,2,0,0,3,5,4,1,1,6,19,1,1,5,1,3,9,7,6,1,2,33,9,35,9,46,26,5,61,1,0,3,1,58,27,1,3,25,187,41,16,0.09750448362843428,0.0,0.0951503108304942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669824752308367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115353005480993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887565643199233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151915378010628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399147900888669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288232559566735,0.0,0.0,0.19792999685920898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977142877291154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874327339194144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293726396415764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282620504011354,0.0,0.05541404503774618,0.0,0.07798324276175195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468973099739804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060376806421351,0.09780494710897482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353869689588955,0.19351630962516653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05358591423964732,0.0,0.0,0.20648633925297732,0.0,0.09970494064095377,0.0,0.0,0.09772510794263632,0.0,0.0,0.08187920911617359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226109996900947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822550926370824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565429717036205,0.10363183529154016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150135275042062,0.0955336917937808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383909286218608,0.0,0.07415655351973106,0.0,0.0,0.10826719019169752,0.10558785402702853,0.0,0.06759733198852892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603787393132488,0.0,0.1037080204029638,0.09753086972645532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326829626323554,0.1854981844654448,0.0,0.0,0.19735948589583388,0.07769844950381054,0.0,0.0,0.11015231295228477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757490020041353,0.0,0.0,0.07506371513523931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151811427513589,0.11169105656310907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331123710587338,0.15674082107267898,0.0,0.08976902838454487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062476936050609534,0.0,0.1548153372889332,0.11371129702805312,0.0,0.18484569915946752,0.2795091377094538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524771254938276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751067069811128,0.0,0.07821221538694241,0.0,0.08766824059969858,0.09038763317917876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129532760628863,0.0,0.0,0.06926438762933669,0.10660584633742166,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamagatolu,2020/01/09,"Toddler constipated after switching to cow's milk My daughter was breastfed and supplemented with formula during the 1st year. After she turned 1, we transitioned her to whole cow's milk. She was never constipated during her first year. However, we've noticed that after she started drinking cow's milk, she's been constipated on and off. Some days are better than others. On her bad days, she will strain until her face turns red and cry in pain until she is able to have a bowel movement, which could be hours later. Her mood is affected by her constipation as well- she seems pretty unhappy the entire day until she is able to get the poop out. Once she's able to poop, she is happy and babbling again.

We've tried increasing her water intake, limiting the cow's milk to only 16 oz a day, cutting out all other forms of dairy, giving her more foods that are high in fiber, and massaging her stomach. We have given her apple juice too, which seems to help, but we don't want to give her apple juice every day. We've reached out to the advice nurse, but she basically told us to do everything we've already been doing. Our poor girl is now 16 months old, so she's been having constipation on and off for the past 4 months :( I do want to mention that she has been able to have at least 1 BM a day, which we are thankful for, but it's so hard to see her in so much pain on those bad days.

Has anyone had a similar experience? Any advice? We're even considering going back to formula, since she was never constipated with formula. We are considering giving her half formula and half cow's milk. Has anyone done this before? Thanks in advance",5.410956873315363,6.300935845911951,6.160368373764602,77.86688679245285,67.8993710691824,9.076010781671158,27.721473495058397,9.23628265651192,2.2396530098832,1301,40,244,24,21,427,164,318,0.10400000000000001,0.82,0.075,-0.8227,2,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,7,0,0,4,9,12,1,1,10,0,32,15,5,1,3,31,49,17,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,11,17,8,1,2,1,1,4,3,6,1,3,11,3,36,5,42,35,8,47,0,0,2,0,42,15,0,3,28,162,47,0,0.3844447885582724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783749899118346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606109599983007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535890984828999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440636747325482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390357801018155,0.16049767008830573,0.0,0.0,0.08178354984161458,0.0,0.0,0.08500254347635748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673697027665591,0.0,0.10557363702368094,0.4338863975184481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983551237686898,0.0,0.09415238328187801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348053926439627,0.0,0.08097782883202845,0.0,0.08637854670327684,0.09401519309529953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175213518848881,0.11621804108388215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05021413366205109,0.27659585413035004,0.0546222082178238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231215653551907,0.08609675447403142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442130950556668,0.101546756648844,0.0,0.0,0.09465016905612526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343008120499302,0.0,0.0706527885936609,0.0,0.14825376060278908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942323496412378,0.10085253375440703,0.10235528822349543,0.0,0.0730968963610546,0.2045381801994861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174901287835716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777964009002203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658818056159401,0.17499204838348908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950417545955744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802800001700315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697255475908052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183836762172554,0.0,0.06525319395309315,0.20908276692565905,0.0,0.0,0.11560993629932124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337774845633967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864155087192273,0.0,0.0,0.10730471927760282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378491965701008
parenting,heltmetcrunch,2020/01/09,"I’m out of options with my son’s bullies My 8 year old son has a bully. I am out of ideas. They’re making it impossible for him to play in the neighborhood and they’re terrorizing him in school. The school won’t do anything. 

They push him off his bike, they throw things at him, they chase him, it’s so bad he’s scared to leave the house. 

I’ve spoken to the parents of the ringleader kid and let’s just say I now completely understand why their son is this way. The parents of the bully, the less aggressive one, basically insist their son wouldn’t do anything like this and aren’t open to discuss. 

I don’t know where to go from here or what to do. I’ve gone all the way to the principle and they’ve said switching classes wouldn’t help because the majority of problems occur on the playground and during lunch when all the classes are together anyways. 

Switching schools wouldn’t really do much because they live in the neighborhood. 

I’m so sick and tired of this and I just have no clue what to do or where I’m headed with this. Advice appreciated.",3.467558268590455,5.124153924528301,4.301831298557161,86.43206992230856,73.43396226415095,7.441065482796893,26.621531631520533,8.124751697461798,1.5635729189789125,840,30,173,13,17,270,114,212,0.152,0.7979999999999999,0.05,-0.9681,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,6,0,11,7,1,2,15,0,17,4,1,1,2,27,26,12,0,4,4,6,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,1,9,12,1,0,3,2,0,4,7,5,0,1,2,2,18,2,26,19,5,21,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,3,5,110,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074362669435884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25388995044204965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880282688517652,0.18807409747242326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174140042585075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767099018067362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583179316707435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339896861302124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799832793059928,0.0,0.1741436977323419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477869027475737,0.0,0.0,0.16334181892659128,0.0,0.15774395942298516,0.0,0.07536491392642516,0.0,0.1362167014277976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297148291965558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340076018770005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187264823163064,0.0,0.10453232965159567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342580721610194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760847393707358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988245712486475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673905774001084,0.12267581063239577,0.154443773254616,0.4683659586188961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248521640794672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773021649815815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059280626243155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448929420260225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919800188041873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934005626876112
parenting,becca_ann16,2020/01/10,"It's my daughters birthday party and I'm not sure anyone will show up. I just recently stumbled upon this sub and I'm hoping I can get some parenting advice. Please let me know if this isnt appropriate here.

My daughter just turned 6 and we are having her party this upcoming weekend. We semi recently moved to a small town where everyone knows everyone, and we dont know anyone. We invited her entire class because I thought this would be a good chance for us to get to know everyone and for my daughter to start building some good friendships. 

Not a single person has RSVPed yet, and I know they still have a little while to do so, I'm just getting a little nervous. 

What can I do as a parent if no one shows up? What will be some good ways to console her? Shes extremely excited and I dont want her heart broken.  I just am not prepared to face the worst case scenario.

Any tips?",3.043898305084745,4.879008418079104,4.3453333333333335,84.9257966101695,74.98870056497175,7.20587570621469,26.48926553672317,8.021203637495839,1.6931577401129942,698,26,136,11,15,230,106,177,0.08900000000000001,0.762,0.149,0.8996,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,1,0,9,8,0,1,7,0,19,2,2,0,1,33,35,12,0,5,9,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,11,0,0,6,3,0,1,7,2,0,1,1,0,22,6,13,28,5,17,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,6,7,96,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572830641060606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749546909645219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992876868539515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843196516312792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30158490369201496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36882994566924543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166382166859506,0.0,0.0,0.3237500632181637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246665271949228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779170707396129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535499769275968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156696106938948,0.0,0.0,0.2579088937727033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674874636805176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718559491007742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857307793470041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112343847533484,0.0,0.1412336875913889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25407901126597604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106855954294772,0.0,0.10275069289931918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212636556604767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214430359768494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994874466700846,0.0,0.0,0.15476613107837384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588895920474521,0.10212695398151377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139873041538042,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lessmeatfortheplanet,2020/01/10,"Newborn + Sleep = Help ! My 4 week old son cannot be put down. During the day, I’m totally fine with this. I have a toddler as well to take care of so I just pop him in the sling or cuddle up all three of us. But at night I am not making it. I’m trying hard to follow safe sleep advice and put him in his own space (bassinet) but he will wake up within a few minutes. I’m not getting a wink of sleep. I have fallen asleep with him a few times now in bed out of sheer exhaustion. He will sleep a couple hours when I nurse him in bed and we cosleep. 

Any tips? It freaks me out that I keep falling asleep with him in the bed but it’s like I literally don’t have a choice. I’m married but separated from their dad so I don’t have a partner to spell me off. It’s almost like if you breastfeed you have to bed share. I need to be able to get up and take care of my toddler but don’t want to be unsafe. Looking for advice.",0.16945046439628442,1.7059456715686283,2.248348813209496,98.06651702786378,82.48039215686275,5.079050567595459,18.579979360165122,5.750287758089431,-0.5363686274509799,703,16,178,4,19,236,116,204,0.057,0.818,0.124,0.903,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,1,0,6,10,0,0,10,0,15,9,7,1,2,27,31,14,0,3,10,2,1,2,1,2,1,0,4,2,6,9,0,2,0,0,0,5,6,2,1,1,0,2,24,8,32,26,5,28,0,0,1,1,19,15,0,3,10,111,30,0,0.14555895058724422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844770437557373,0.0,0.0,0.14575626306627545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989850778284265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29681410223843624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105821024929798,0.0,0.0938734813372369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209708791540325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039222903455294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975650963276357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334624571066662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937948331173213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222550158067376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223285853480635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716172980076056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793011748967572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365972146923963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273963299030116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926538979842023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5826562860822299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21888443161339213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487659464149516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988249727082822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175089495355577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585444035872465,0.0,0.1167586101805364,0.0,0.13087497750514548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway6667776,2020/01/10,"Daughters friends suicide ... I just found out my daughters friend committed suicide. My daughter (16) is visiting her mom a few states away.

I know news travels fast and she might have already found out, but, if she hasn't, shouldn't I be the one to tell her? 

I'd never thought as a father I'd have to tell something this horrible to my baby girl.",1.66,4.237743529411766,2.4750000000000014,92.45750000000002,84.29411764705883,5.1647058823529415,27.617647058823533,6.6274283507984215,1.2826705882352938,272,13,54,3,8,85,49,68,0.158,0.762,0.08,-0.8170000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,2,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,2,15,11,4,2,2,3,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,0,10,2,7,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,2,2,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23413263438966705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933879502579865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652624631475508,0.3278408996794626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166019694350199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250766910082036,0.0,0.24848856601828284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363702072323316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437705096352017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333727140932736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.464154652994489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.370888320632526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843767138044166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SexxyCarChick,2020/01/10,"Any mom's have theie children live with father? My husband and I have been separated for a few months now(not legally as we still live together) and we are going to be moving out our separate ways in a few months. And I'm wondering if any mom's on here have had split custody of their child but with them staying with the dad more often?(i.e. where the mom would get the child every other weekend and one day a week) his dad is amazing with him and he is so great with him and has the support of his family here where as I have no family. I love my son dearly but our original agreement we were going to do would be where he stays with each parent for 1 week(Mon to sun) and then switch. Which still may work, I just don't know if that's what I want to do.... But I don't want him to feel abandoned or that I'm a bad mom. I know his dad will see it that way and will accuse me of being a shitty mom. Our child is almost 2 years old.

Please don't say I need counselling etc.
I just want to know if any mom's have had their children stay primarily with their dad and how it has worked out for them?",3.6816091954022987,3.9808479655172455,4.479931034482759,90.49150574712644,71.5,7.565977011494254,24.518390804597697,7.3011,0.7615008045977016,856,21,198,8,15,276,122,232,0.075,0.76,0.166,0.9714,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,0,5,2,11,8,0,0,9,0,28,1,0,2,0,47,45,21,0,9,9,14,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,5,8,22,0,1,5,1,0,3,4,2,0,1,4,3,29,6,25,33,5,26,0,1,1,1,40,7,0,7,11,134,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961927261019546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959773997924396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020818209703233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061952370955091325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713508999916264,0.0,0.0,0.08093680658676303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811183674139165,0.0,0.0485720906731272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050188695878196105,0.0,0.1091890747290405,0.0,0.0,0.10590925479552532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838032732544535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964990997468973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867001644878664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6750434939186576,0.15335235565328256,0.10209924397549287,0.0,0.07122913287860166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080144325920626,0.0,0.06509444190379897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066660475019648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054477873467411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763927624575813,0.0,0.0,0.0765493820512765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071695577397336,0.1534312868176971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901059629868357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699804692915642,0.15249989587427118,0.15411109989879931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041756927590987,0.13986930063179165,0.0,0.0,0.13648009979724945,0.0,0.0,0.06186110596654325
parenting,idabyells,2020/01/10,"AITI? - Being semi-nude around my family Okay the title makes it sound weirder than it is, but I (22F) just moved back home from college. In the mornings after I take a shower, I usually walk out of the bathroom wearing underwear, a bra, and a cami or tank top. And I wear boy-shorts or high waisted panties so it's not like I'm in a thong. I've done this since high school. However my mom took me to the side the other day and said I'm making my dad uncomfortable by doing that. I told her that's weird because I'm his daughter and it wasn't an issue before I left for college and she said that was different because now I have an adult woman's body (I gained weight in college so I'm curvier now and my boobs got a lot bigger). I'm going to respect their wishes and stop doing it since this is their house, but I still think it's really weird. I'm very comfortable with nudity (nursing student) and I know not everyone is like that but still, is it inappropriate to be semi-nude around your family as an adult? Parents of reddit what do think about this? Am I the asshole?",2.385928229665073,4.147724281818185,4.051244019138757,86.64055023923449,76.63636363636364,6.813397129186604,23.397129186602868,7.669130373188453,1.0778636363636362,842,26,173,12,19,282,131,220,0.083,0.8290000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.507,4,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,2,2,11,7,0,0,14,1,14,6,5,2,0,28,33,16,0,1,8,4,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,3,16,12,2,1,3,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,8,4,22,5,19,23,1,25,0,0,0,1,16,12,1,3,11,109,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472459333319091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678178822698353,0.0,0.1693066640540571,0.0,0.11816740048005675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425229637868312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955909976954947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508868288950072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421113331733421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269540374816374,0.0,0.0,0.2618269113393442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892252618137523,0.0,0.11106632829963196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29344571820649945,0.13929705896074096,0.0,0.0,0.16023632979841174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449432912156722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631884148956729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088171485091673,0.0,0.0,0.13568888363773876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806156736454923,0.0,0.0,0.1853924437242875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626418453634069,0.0,0.1475959069302622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419773356497984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896311990615452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641926845459373,0.0,0.0,0.14054297229291585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297479568827861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218021314121672,0.11610080988950346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441230243950128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796346098999333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269540374816374,0.1542887118407327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529447261757406,0.11458157487558453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910518741157374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969264480855538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Earthbenderrr,2020/01/10,"Taking care of a 9 year old boy. Hey guys, I’ve been asked to take care of a 9 year old boy for 2 hours. I’m a bit nervous about it and I’m quite anxious because I just want the parents to trust me and for the little boy to be ok. I’ve never had a younger sibling before so I’m unsure of what to do. They asked me because there was an emergency with the parents, so it kind of just happened. I’m happy to do it. I’m just a bit of a nervous person. Any tips or advice?",-0.32130841121495024,1.1068021495327116,2.4783271028037426,96.35207009345795,83.57943925233644,4.653831775700935,20.980373831775697,4.935628992294339,-0.291660934579439,358,11,89,1,10,126,60,107,0.106,0.736,0.158,0.76,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,1,7,8,0,2,10,1,6,0,0,0,1,9,19,5,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,4,6,14,15,2,7,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,6,48,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573313129059194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837609894807487,0.0,0.0,0.1800411322172281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979762170545454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429921354763693,0.0,0.13561092298713626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34797842512775723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324973776038583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779994946141254,0.14092910840760628,0.16965081617826966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156945948316594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659578511085043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972918414944756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291487316577733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344610307210516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539198947648948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391544963668295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695081012184021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23965067603264226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939997172056236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20525628001089766
parenting,TwinToyzTv,2020/01/10,My kids won't nap. It's a plot! I had a rough two nights. I feel like my 6 month old was hungry all night. Today I tried like hell to get him & 2 year old to nap with no success so I thought okay let's go get something to eat then. Got in the car within 5 minutes they were passed out. As soon as we got home they were wide awake. I feel like they spoke in baby language together and planned on not letting me get any sleep. I'm still tired 😩😩,-1.1080333333333314,0.8166113300000006,0.7580000000000027,104.47066666666667,90.7,3.733333333333334,16.333333333333336,4.7782277997778095,-1.1935666666666669,343,8,90,1,12,111,76,100,0.09699999999999999,0.767,0.136,0.4534,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,3,2,3,6,1,0,3,1,7,3,1,0,1,9,18,5,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,0,3,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,8,4,13,5,11,7,1,19,1,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,13,44,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609686640741305,0.0,0.11679953806076485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574861734694108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368934660655805,0.24540413439732384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26920526808645284,0.0,0.09761253213233714,0.0,0.2747369113617397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722846353460256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512629953448968,0.0,0.2517329871762653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709349384013392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223615503765801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604567267757337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187940484465014,0.0,0.0,0.13222567131888918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371640564934193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635457468770668,0.0,0.19740752603262754,0.16280400335724807,0.0,0.0,0.11661061863488499,0.0,0.16778003474435374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060482395122094
parenting,Mengdim,2020/01/10,"Father to be, fed up with 'new parenting trope'. I'm sure you all heard them and more;


Get ready for sleepless nights.

Very few mistakes require 18 years of funding.

Are you ready for your clothes to be puke catchers?

Get ready to not have a life for a while.

Ever changed a diaper? Well you will be the shittiest diaper changer in a few months. *hehe funny pun*

Etc, etc, etc,etc.......


Very few of the people who have been told have said something positive, or shared a trick or tip or two. Is this common? Is it common for people who have or haven't been parents to try and scare new parents, or try to make them dread the coming changes. 


I get that things change, and there are hardships, and its not all sunshine and rainbows. I get that I won't really understand until it happens. That shit will hit the fan, hopefully not literally, but is this a common thing for people to do to soon to be parents. 


I'm reading the material I am given and then some. My parents did very well for me, but I would like to hope I can become a better parent for my child. As much as I read, every baby is different, and its a mostly a random gen based on the parents attributes. So books don't give that personal feel.


What are your tips and tricks for a newborn or things you tried?",2.9921267311705577,4.751230474103586,3.880193511667617,88.53201859229748,74.9362549800797,6.693302978561943,24.3029785619427,7.447530270364453,1.0318046291026377,983,31,201,12,21,315,140,251,0.07,0.8,0.13,0.9378,8,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,0,6,2,2,6,15,3,2,16,0,27,3,1,2,4,37,47,22,0,4,11,8,1,1,0,4,1,2,0,3,16,10,1,1,2,3,1,1,6,6,2,1,8,4,18,9,26,30,11,17,0,0,1,0,26,3,1,11,14,142,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069433410341378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072627862742385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606140470179989,0.07073852046014141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857972083090617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663389839307254,0.0,0.07428162386233426,0.06918906655098754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0415219942054549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716158156302501,0.07877633188893625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261784103125822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312602224944728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058003302322653924,0.040119350396052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481528192399676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655468555562023,0.0,0.06036714694042515,0.0,0.0,0.15862269661460698,0.0,0.0770634163137121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6382864853956156,0.0,0.0,0.1707935843616563,0.07170342032339026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428307978504053,0.0,0.05260773740861298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781142758287397,0.0,0.08221576238698229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842942990595592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321946239744795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773964846555792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16366927632265107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846852676791455,0.0,0.1672608778552244,0.0,0.0802186405390397,0.0854891053390923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032711108584805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767025666282713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05833520684828745,0.0,0.0,0.052882147914356345
parenting,n6344,2020/01/10,"How often do you buy toys for your kids? Hey everyone! 

I feel as though I’ve been buying quite a lot of toys for my kids. Just

 wanted to ask how often does everyone buy their kids toys? And how much do you spend every month on toys? Has your kid ever swapped toys with another kid? 

Just feel like my kid throws away their toy after a few days lol",1.3753571428571445,3.3720961388888924,2.351984126984128,96.52000000000002,80.66666666666667,5.7809523809523835,15.841269841269842,6.868970318607317,-0.4442563492063489,270,4,62,3,7,85,49,72,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.7616,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,2,1,9,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,3,1,14,8,6,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,2,6,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,9,1,9,7,3,7,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,3,5,37,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677724398409673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23873177798930864,0.0,0.2399237982059688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468928174838285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22347160872002986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309922379717677,0.21515600352800307,0.4880243501962279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582404063848746,0.1824327877139371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475842681000808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21710216808104635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038298851005164,0.0,0.1877226378031575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716120822491899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25089478938401205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506208773358774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rahgheer,2020/01/10,"My 14 year old sister isn't able to engage with the world outside of watching TV and I'm worried Scenario: my sibling 14yrs old, cognitively disabled but in regular classes, transgirl (but can't come out to parents) 

Two times cancer survivor. Has an anxiety disorder, probably depression. Therapy isn't an option 

Problem: All she does outside of school is. . . Watch TV. She's really good at art, and I'm trying to encourage her to do more art. But she simply refuses. 

She wanted comics and I brought comics she requested but she's not really engaging in them either. 

Idk how to get her to engage in life outside of watching TV.  I understand that's her escapism but I want her to be able to engage with the world otherwise. Am I asking for too much? Should I just let her be as a tween? 

There's also an emotionally abusive mom in the picture but she's out of the country for a blissful month so I'm trying to take advantage of it and spend time with them

Help 😭",1.9332591876208909,4.5690167553191525,3.810812379110253,82.96136363636364,83.57446808510639,7.035203094777564,27.16247582205029,8.150884317080207,2.3004489361702127,762,35,139,17,22,256,111,188,0.16699999999999998,0.703,0.13,-0.7838,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,1,6,9,0,0,9,0,11,2,0,1,1,28,22,14,0,4,9,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,0,1,1,7,1,2,4,2,0,1,1,3,21,7,27,17,4,17,0,1,3,0,22,9,0,1,6,92,23,2,0.3236586870900621,0.19174130957077534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294148675656299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379900486555695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128859085901944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940165011468875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938337646447524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854704479394228,0.0,0.14161794908495828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820362298540054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454915274244072,0.0,0.0,0.13573477542437204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084707977620762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654814680482703,0.1143048512081214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895325712840273,0.1291706380756481,0.0,0.11896318782851635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396253468496152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969233479513566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447940324663838,0.1548488262423604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20734404270423246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377993532388538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167552643556442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506595791088087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872798323642967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21974300301995195,0.0,0.15808375392018828,0.16847005384870742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190902279353146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643455537532502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421279145955696
parenting,blu3-r4ven,2020/01/10,"When you realize you're not doing such a bad job at parenting after all! My son (11) has been seeing a therapist for almost 2 years now (I won't get into too much detail as to why, but mostly for issues with his biological father).

Anyway, at the end of each session sometimes I'll go in for the last 5 minutes of the session and my son and his therapist will share some of what they talked about (not everything).

Therapist says that she asked my son if he had a magic wand that could do anything at all, what would he change? My son's answer: nothing. He went on to explain that he loves his family, is grateful for what he has, and even though at times as a family we have problems we always manage to figure things out. He said he is even grateful that I'm strict with him because he learns responsibility unlike other kids he knows! I jokingly told him he doesn't seem so grateful when he gets grounded though haha.

His therapist said thats the first time any of her clients ever gave that answer. She usually gets things like ""a new ps4"" ""i wish my parents didn't  work nights"" ""i wish school didn't exist"" etc. She also told me good job for raising such a family oriented young man, which was nice to hear! I don't think parents get told enough when we do a good job, and instead focus on everything we do wrong. 

So good job parents! For all the little victories along the way! We aren't doing so bad after all!",5.955265957446809,5.706280510638301,6.556799645390072,79.44562500000002,66.58865248226951,9.461347517730497,29.32712765957447,9.017664075816787,2.1934957446808507,1112,33,221,17,16,365,161,282,0.025,0.792,0.183,0.9941,8,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,1,1,2,19,13,0,0,13,1,22,1,0,0,5,41,45,17,0,6,4,9,0,1,0,3,0,4,0,2,13,15,0,0,9,1,0,2,8,4,0,1,12,5,28,9,31,29,10,31,0,0,1,1,52,11,0,5,18,144,41,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464348988165543,0.0,0.0,0.0675977361460459,0.0703348218413407,0.0,0.0,0.05748255517360246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956008788191559,0.0,0.07902311719794332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115621263421455,0.05152803695347442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942037515225702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748945381772417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486752182469919,0.08734095661893733,0.0942720751744045,0.11166109132437337,0.07646123547856998,0.0,0.0,0.15193826176758413,0.0,0.2390589910613357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190024485475817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17665145978863167,0.0,0.048039725645258866,0.21269650947159716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527022122120238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822621729212901,0.3355275874895444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04645487649872037,0.06890234088085047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04129655409209836,0.0847201710508535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629063852279641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06213847244286987,0.0,0.0,0.08163854482080854,0.0,0.07932465278984878,0.0,0.08110776573288146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754373902608537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088274783071317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081269438719953,0.06722077934725045,0.0,0.08554776636019795,0.06735859464297414,0.07695194197313253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360125012176664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794113330487847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925783029599907,0.11231449921545557,0.05416271028370568,0.16609844330597665,0.0,0.09857897051682893,0.0,0.0,0.2423129782667669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309664857263177,0.0,0.0,0.06709511163924217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835914336688984,0.07627419066355709,0.0,0.1944081421453328,0.0,0.0,0.061538050809751985,0.0,0.0,0.060046910064653375,0.092419089902964,0.0,0.0544338445237256
parenting,Secure-Lab,2020/01/10,"Is this a bad practice for a toddler? My 15 month old daughter is on the run about 10 hours a day. She constantly moves, she doesn't slow down. As such, I can rarely get her to sit in her highchair for meals. She eats a couple bites in her chair and wants down, refusing to eat more. I've recently been trying just making a meal for her, and giving her a few bites every time she would run up, then she would run off again to play. We do eat at about the same times each day. She's been eating her entire meal this way, just on the run. I'm finding I'm not wasting food and putting things back in the fridge or throwing them away. We don't really sit down at the table as a family for meals because my husband works 16 hour days and is only home for maybe one meal, which we do all eat together, typically in the living room. 

Is this bad practice for a toddler? Should I be more forceful with getting her to sit in her chair, or should I relax my expectations? She's so high energy that she never sits still for more than a few moments, which is something I don't necessarily want to curtail. She's getting proper nutrition from what I can see and from what others have said to me on a previous post. She's very easy, we don't have many behavioral problems and she engages in solo play 95% of the time, not needing either of us to entertain her. 

Thanks!",5.284130434782611,5.066027811594204,5.844746376811596,83.88277173913045,67.98550724637681,8.928985507246377,28.84420289855073,8.472884824447931,1.8168811594202896,1060,32,226,14,16,344,151,276,0.05,0.856,0.095,0.8844,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,1,1,9,9,0,0,17,0,22,11,0,1,2,35,35,12,0,9,7,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,10,12,11,2,1,4,0,7,7,3,0,1,3,2,35,6,41,27,9,51,0,0,1,0,31,19,0,2,19,154,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704201603053098,0.08760598105971203,0.19025541420940306,0.06945133927179667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311904111243555,0.0,0.0,0.12606259184601795,0.0,0.22042839687582694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5828997758934387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599186304535813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740409866034256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041309586383517,0.0,0.13776593475066584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785728875774369,0.10929308977345227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037445925051445,0.11428217968262612,0.0,0.22439836178126826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060324598111284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604989194880082,0.11550825018320288,0.11445910033456196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909387146734824,0.12109072569133203,0.0,0.08447846482295714,0.08787068564941268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955152104672565,0.0,0.07720265989917892,0.08664973321383783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911449747892958,0.0,0.0,0.1090166731152227,0.0,0.11453222048296505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298717812202747,0.0,0.11249321355504976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837456322255708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078833361427296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770972465403748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098552124915554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489244700829588,0.0,0.0,0.07569075838458253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993024166419487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735173624141489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704508174634686,0.0,0.0,0.09400508686935292,0.1343990257479888,0.09043320175661916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294319554172278,0.0,0.0,0.16186676495705726,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConditionCan,2020/01/10,"Potential Hand, Foot, and Mouth Infection 1 week before vacation. My 1.5 year old has just been sent home from day care with a fever, where Hand, Foot, and Mouth is making the rounds.  He does not have blisters yet, bit I'm under the impression those show up a couple of days after the fever starts.  Am I correct to assume that I will have to cancel next week's vacation if he does in fact turn out to have Hand, Foot, and Mouth since there is little chance of a recovery that speedy?",6.86042105263158,6.099481568421052,6.352631578947372,83.3584210526316,64.89473684210526,10.126315789473685,27.421052631578945,9.3871,1.8968526315789482,379,8,79,6,5,117,69,95,0.02,0.813,0.16699999999999998,0.9247,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,9,12,9,1,2,12,15,4,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,2,12,12,1,17,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,2,10,42,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546333901298635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25078003814782623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23420111727351514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541659072260462,0.0,0.29628341841890216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020354661106653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23041437950351185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302262899179056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333089299972474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442955014540895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410383632617229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001561598750769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625874647829596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24985474360375656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685134466234721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792347460137945
parenting,snatchingraisins,2020/01/10,"My little boy left nursery without a card :( After a rocky time with nursery we put in our notice and today was the last day. Our daughter has a beautiful little painted card with ""sorry you're leavin"" and ""we will miss you"" with little handprints from the other kids. My 3.8 year old got...well, nothing. Not a card, not a goodbye, we just picked him up for the last time and that was it. He doesn't fully understand and he never saw daughters parting gift but I just felt so bad for him. 

There are greater problems out there but felt like our decision to leave was vindicated in that moment :(",2.9223444976076536,5.276308140350878,3.5640988835725693,87.96854066985647,77.24561403508774,5.548963317384371,24.39872408293461,6.574015621080383,0.8615719298245609,464,16,87,4,11,146,78,114,0.106,0.742,0.152,0.7073,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,1,1,25,12,7,0,1,7,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,11,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,6,3,12,1,13,5,2,20,0,1,1,0,15,8,0,0,12,60,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461688043666094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290000288533418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33617244428173754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400124478445838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853965148728647,0.0,0.18536455257190326,0.19020452512190725,0.0,0.0,0.08552606822549319,0.5263719907388459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501800317873994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797595969429865,0.1993083565117488,0.18369729938277649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957423904705464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750994268934755,0.0,0.17598487589974185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959667006068269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415920755079134,0.0,0.1659375648940964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822449013652795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687527666721398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273368451346948
parenting,NewVigil,2020/01/10,"A message and a wake up call [fathers perspective] I really needed to get this off my heart. For starters I'm a 34 year old male, father to a 4 year old daughter. These past 2 years has been a very very hard one, I was diagnosed 2 years ago with severe depression and high anxiety something I never thought I would have to be honest. These last years have gone by like a blur yet I remember various nights so fucking vividly. I dont know why it started, I dont know where it came from, but I wasnt their for my little girl. My daughters name is Cadence, shes a peppy full of life curious little girl and god I couldn't ask for more. However I cant get over and forgive myself for what this mental illness did to her. Every night after work I would come home, shower, and simply stay in my room and sit and think or drink into a slumber, I remember one night she came to my door and asked me [daddy, can you read me a book?] I said yeah baby go to you're room I'll be in in a minute...I fell asleep, she lie their waiting for her father to cuddle up and read a book and I never did. I know to who ever reads this you may be confused or not understand, you dont have too. Just know that I'm having trouble dealing with the pain of feeling absent despite seeing her 4 days a week, I cant bring myself too forgive myself for feeling like a failure, feeling weak and incompetent. Have any parents mother or father ever been through something similar? Have you ever felt defeated or depressed and missed time?? I need to know, i just need too relate with someone perhaps that can help me. Please I ask you dont judge me, dont beat me up for this. Thank you,",1.94685697973166,3.8508840796460215,3.5031572937482167,89.42397944618902,78.41002949852506,6.026110952516893,23.619849652678656,6.968188349444268,0.8222034636977829,1289,43,267,14,31,426,183,339,0.135,0.76,0.105,-0.9358,3,0,3,0,0,0,39.0,0,6,2,3,11,15,1,1,14,1,31,11,3,0,5,59,66,18,0,6,8,8,5,2,0,3,5,1,5,3,12,19,1,1,16,6,0,7,12,9,0,2,12,8,46,6,34,47,3,50,0,4,2,2,37,16,1,7,27,172,58,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018365546048554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05384155784199815,0.0,0.06056848146555072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220531632223936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084629127393061,0.1811096863490804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820205275808157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05106117594825069,0.08162571014023523,0.13638622480305942,0.08036072377514873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.463961197193738,0.07756113133159677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485433381955552,0.06670815754270353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009942621079515,0.05656247069207149,0.07602019436552689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731957980040566,0.08273109782053335,0.0,0.04499684572530507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092504138734741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382248230846107,0.053069178633064096,0.08365249029500285,0.07941874868070735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21756191182654255,0.0645380039349578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05592348072054504,0.07736158558400331,0.15870783670776187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978954490455871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761212636652146,0.12212892542603596,0.0,0.0,0.2229004713820936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616120257373132,0.0,0.10730174487470223,0.0,0.08424753630124845,0.0,0.08791421111470295,0.0,0.07558127568686099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869101204692987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375885840248685,0.0,0.050721384316303415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937915783483346,0.0,0.07531333602365807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309203998800096,0.0,0.0,0.08944495260765163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708452472160582,0.12190521039234302,0.0,0.0,0.05604030890804027,0.0843897690644984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289348969883802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050731994947203166,0.0,0.06285592256580487,0.04616744442776518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242372662944315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065495232097313,0.0,0.0,0.06350922382950654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144291404689368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057640174695620376,0.0,0.0,0.11248696832335613,0.0,0.0,0.2549297764891643
parenting,Charlotte131415,2020/01/10,"My 4 year old does not defend herself and doesn’t ask for the help of others when she is harmed. How can I teach her to at least ask for help if she is bullied? My child has never defended herself as a toddler. Even if another child would hit her, she would not say stop, run, hit back, ask for help from an adult; she would just cry. I tried really hard to teach her to put her hand up when she is pushed/hit, to say stop/no/help, to run away, but she usually just stands there crying. Lately beside kindergarten, we only meet up with children of friends or with the children from the local park which we know and she knows which of them to avoid. Today we went at a new playground and at some point I wasn’t looking after her and when I did go near her she was cornered up by a much bigger kid (6-7) and she looked really scared. The kid ran away as soon as he saw me and my own kid was not saying anything or crying, but as soon as I asked her if the boy harmed her she burst into crying saying he hit her multiple times and she showed me her stomach and had red marks. Now the people in charge of taking care of the children at the playground immediately called the boy’s parents and put him in time out so that was taken care of, but without blaming her I asked her why wouldn’t she yell for help or why wouldn’t she come to me and she said she didn’t think about it. Sweet child, she froze and 20 feat away from me at a playground she was hit multiple times without even upsetting this kid. He just came over and hit her. And she wouldn’t run or yell for help. I didn’t watch her for less then 5 minutes. Obviously from now on I am not letting her out of my sight but how do I help her to defend herself anyways?",4.698120440376705,4.415539899721452,5.046502188619178,89.33012999071497,69.22284122562675,7.952301366228943,26.008887120307733,7.07126945348624,0.8911789627271527,1340,32,306,10,21,425,166,359,0.08900000000000001,0.797,0.113,0.8516,2,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,0,1,0,19,9,0,3,14,0,24,2,2,2,2,59,50,36,0,9,20,1,3,0,1,6,0,7,0,13,6,23,0,2,3,1,0,10,14,5,0,0,15,17,59,4,56,23,5,55,0,0,6,0,78,23,0,8,21,212,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940072586548282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016028856797664,0.0,0.39852484916067504,0.0,0.2403088427407565,0.06555834399214898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870582221867505,0.09751274341656244,0.17385296901496547,0.0,0.0,0.07344244700709164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37460880779262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461008325488339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262456140700156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587032493671885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048454237431664535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637466004201489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000277304417055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937114267616472,0.0,0.09617503780807446,0.0,0.0,0.08718235356462414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319094144921315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267463556351326,0.0,0.06575643086176658,0.08234296472743166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946420834239376,0.0,0.0,0.06484275329316641,0.0,0.0,0.09466921492618507,0.0,0.0,0.059107346732911424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059661942059347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17141621194765386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923725691922194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110013505699618,0.27120318104103563,0.08535839784288182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425594562309414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410360562412251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05463005437226393,0.0,0.0,0.14914434186603948,0.0,0.08081486732464638,0.0,0.0,0.057884766217596924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938999349692524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790352668888699,0.15386464825428464,0.0,0.0,0.1643718522443037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169507828554812,0.0,0.0,0.05490352809979501
parenting,lookingforhelp48765,2020/01/10,"How do I help my wife find a therapist to deal with kids growing up? I'm not sure if this is the best subreddit, but my wife is having a lot of emotional issues related to our elementary age kids getting older. She has a hard time getting rid of any things they've outgrown and it causes stress in our relationship. She can shutdown when I try to bring it up. We talked about having her talk to a therapist, but I have no idea what the next step would be. Is there a certain type of therapist? Do you just google those things? If anyone has any experience with this or feedback, I would really appreciate it. Thanks",4.210073461891643,5.615080842975208,5.256639118457301,81.32112029384756,71.14876033057851,9.014141414141417,27.49403122130395,9.444778638647367,2.332828466483012,486,17,97,11,9,160,84,121,0.075,0.775,0.15,0.8606,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,1,0,1,5,5,0,1,7,0,14,0,0,2,2,20,19,8,0,4,7,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,13,4,13,16,2,11,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,4,5,70,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175342901228052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183629670440544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16785095954072915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430615436613016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489484724079972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991504262777794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645554935215555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618556939172458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712787813721058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327806575920032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720683579793233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18055687651883276,0.0,0.16693958272123952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597834453701346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010185245307746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246397739523108,0.0,0.0,0.17171958869502504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832148742298088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150744967277784,0.0,0.0,0.2571132434697819,0.0,0.1472545945154832,0.0,0.5571206050738162,0.2125188657980225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326440999209064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859121776801813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272387146941033,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Itsmekarilynn,2020/01/10,"School setting up doctor's appointments My daughter's school has a headstart program where a disabilities program worker sees the children. I don't know if she's a nurse or what's going on. But she set up a dental appointment for my daughter. I found out because I got a letter in the mail, informing me of her appointment. The thing is, she already saw the dentist three months ago. Her next appointment is in March. During her last appointment they said she didn't have any cavities or concerns.

I also work in a school based clinic and we would NEVER set up an appointment without the parent's permission. We also only do that if we believe the child is being neglected, but we ask permission first. We never signed a consent form for any services.

Would anyone else be upset? Or am I crazy...lol",3.9257710501419107,6.37722725827815,4.792587511825925,79.91266556291393,74.43046357615893,7.493093661305583,28.66650898770105,8.418075326091056,2.446450898770105,640,27,108,12,14,207,95,151,0.055999999999999994,0.9440000000000001,0.0,-0.7649,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,1,3,3,2,0,1,14,0,13,3,0,0,2,24,21,10,0,4,8,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,3,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,2,0,2,5,3,21,0,12,12,1,21,0,1,2,0,23,9,0,5,8,79,24,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146321085014154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215447985312572,0.2640065052272378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450113521741605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541801319910006,0.16912966466200438,0.0,0.0,0.15431446519538364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062272594392566,0.0,0.0,0.18597290178388004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895208646678675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789149567348846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040508936627855,0.0,0.1809863930134091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938108345246853,0.0,0.1320183913200685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907159787769572,0.13455085373442072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175413836833785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546182122134032,0.0,0.17554960625629593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554016163992002,0.0,0.0,0.18328630325773204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701560385696364,0.0,0.0,0.5011669350425405,0.1315362627698735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966254239696988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591177722397672,0.0,0.1201700431037966,0.0,0.0,0.2345163577906401,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dalsgaard,2020/01/10,"General tips from parents who have two or more kids? My SO is pregnant, and due in May. It's another boy. We have a son already. Our son is 3.

What are some good tips for surviving two little rascals at once? I feel like a lot has been written about having your first child, but not a lot about having your second.",1.0983035714285734,3.3800191875000043,2.5413392857142867,93.126875,83.6875,5.5321428571428575,21.642857142857146,6.868970318607317,0.5250919642857146,244,8,52,3,7,79,53,64,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.5661,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,2,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,11,12,4,0,0,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,6,2,6,9,4,5,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,5,3,41,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865692478803568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723027381957745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130471868791724,0.18551927024565013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088823119097334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21781175596170935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268691477492555,0.260272948547286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44155040654533867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765564289740248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28834985619728065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5073497181945077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ddobro2,2020/01/10,"Harmful soothing behaviour Hey parents, I have a toddler that tends to stick one hand in her mouth while using the other to finger (sorry for use of this word, it’s the only one I can think of) her belly button. The second part is very cute - she and we call her belly button her bibi and she says “bibi” when she’s all bundled up and wants to get to it.

Okay, that’s not the harmful part. She will also stick her middle and ring finger in her mouth and suck. Her central incisors (two teeth are the top right in the middle) are kind of pointy and dig deep into her middle finger.

After she removes her fingers from her mouth, her poor middle finger has two deep bite marks between the nail and knuckle. 

Even when she’s not sucking, this area in her middle finger has a bump, and might also be calloused. It doesn’t look like the rest of her fingers. 

I would send a photo but don’t want to deal with the imgur thing.

We tell her to stop, to look at her “booboo finger,” that these bite marks will be there permanently, but she just can’t get herself to stop.

We haven’t actually tried to do anything else. Right now I feel like I should at least try to get some ideas from others. Maybe a silicone ring that can cover this part of her finger so at least when she sucks it won’t dig so deep? No idea where to even find such a thing. 

She will turn 3 on Feb. 1. Please no insults, we are doing the best we can.",2.762928344190275,4.241180508710805,3.461190728677476,92.47270110589308,74.92334494773519,5.548795637024694,20.14376609604605,5.511479884284512,-0.20225847598848645,1094,22,235,4,23,345,147,287,0.076,0.843,0.081,-0.1583,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,5,0,0,2,14,12,4,0,15,1,25,14,14,2,1,37,41,18,0,4,5,1,11,2,0,7,0,3,0,0,16,15,0,2,5,0,1,2,9,6,0,5,0,16,36,6,32,32,9,33,0,0,2,0,39,23,3,2,10,167,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.12166140400775695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939951371470624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259402524693524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083505202576526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730354488675044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853084651145946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041470442518868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646887054237233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303765847751384,0.08906534750315143,0.0,0.0,0.11394749621399344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954071459364984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814779063234246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982618664487158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181639909163068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093853283961295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252492829469263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225676427006808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896127552468218,0.09481829684885744,0.0,0.0,0.13843295152405716,0.4050212696618155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685187344943678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293756676772554,0.0,0.09914378407885008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395595419331792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208461919844814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089683897801518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16565241532857616,0.07988446586959536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928753538370309,0.1356067962339652,0.2435718882291112,0.0,0.0,0.2153523019358557,0.0,0.10286704761206902,0.1470689665959055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856305957564939,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hangmanskint,2020/01/10,"I hate sending my SS to school... I know how the title sounds, and apologies for formatting, I’m on the phone... 

My school years were awful. Between bullying and struggling with undiagnosed mental illness (through no fault of my amazing parents) I had a truly miserable experience until high school. I dreaded every school day and had horrible anxiety. It was extremely hard. 

My SS is in grade 2, and he is a smart, engaging little man. He has a good group of friends and is assertive and strong. He loves school. He is excited to get to class every morning and when I pick him up he does not stop talking about how much fun he had. He goes to a great school and we are so fortunate to be in a great school district. His teacher is an amazing woman. I love being a part of his day to day life and I cherish all the little ‘normal’ parts of life I get to share with him. We co-parent very effectively and share 50/50. 

My issue is, I hate dropping him off at school because it feels to me like I am sending him to a horrible prison. I dread the days I take him in and feel guilt at leaving him in such an ‘awful’ place all day. I get so sad thinking of him being forced into this experience for the next 10 years and I wish that I didn’t have to do it. I know that it’s my own mental struggles and it’s vastly different from how he feels about it. 

I am scared that he can feel my emotions about it. I try so hard to hide it and get excited for him. I love hearing how happy he is with it. I don’t want him to know how I feel about it. I’m wondering if anyone has experienced this? How did you cope with your emotions while not letting on to the little ones/letting it rub off on them? Does anyone have advice for me? 

NOTE: Homeschool would not be ideal for him, we wouldn’t be able to give him the education he deserves and he does so so well with the other kids.",2.8261228070175437,4.2377384894736885,4.193157894736846,87.56043859649124,74.63157894736842,7.066666666666666,25.561403508771928,7.675431598112923,1.2409982456140352,1446,49,307,19,30,478,177,380,0.156,0.657,0.187,0.9406,3,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,2,1,3,18,33,2,7,17,2,32,6,0,8,2,55,58,30,0,7,4,1,8,1,1,2,3,2,0,3,17,24,0,1,11,0,0,2,7,11,1,0,7,11,49,22,50,43,6,34,0,2,0,3,49,19,0,2,13,206,66,10,0.0734041665441863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172970199908082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615398649026341,0.0,0.0,0.10265179995915548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044746498612494405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23669807422907305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766917307582272,0.0,0.0,0.19270944241429988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513961486299894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369235241844034,0.0,0.0,0.14360672007091413,0.0,0.0,0.18557676076583304,0.052439951246012674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671187698513035,0.0,0.15340258949636024,0.07041596520931273,0.0,0.061567932260170474,0.0,0.16185670550887546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814010023121692,0.1315114303518313,0.14494283510169084,0.0,0.0,0.08273183054762426,0.0,0.0,0.07755553212233351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661487887094227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102303074365972,0.0,0.0,0.07772441364534761,0.0,0.150121467151742,0.10369506729852893,0.03586156798582022,0.2207107765312428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987503785883953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794827006462793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396050840162885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806616387185528,0.0,0.07192049803304268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150664014987792,0.15897911836708614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766917307582272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349037617111932,0.5943114832330878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136917005194105,0.0,0.15347594525046693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519079797998694,0.058999488567806825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047034425991175965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04983661070746355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06056612490516915,0.043295679264137285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599916120923316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441116891973106,0.0,0.0796036874050639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214421384456442,0.0,0.0,0.0945397532086418
parenting,HotdogsforKessel,2020/01/10,"My 14mo daughter will hold her poops in for 2 days at a time and I don't know what to do about it. This is starting become a regular occurrence. At first I thought it was a rare occurence until my buddy told me his oldest did it.

She did this about 2 days ago and is starting again today. What happens is she will fight pooping all the time, violently shaking in her playpen or crib. Even while she's standing on things while doing her regular routine.

She usually poops while she sleeps on the 2nd day, one fairly hard above average mass followed by about 4 diaper changes of poop following it.

It obviously causes her discomfort and us worry/stress.

Wondering if anyone has advice.",5.537991452991452,6.800990423076925,6.018717948717949,77.63850427350431,67.84615384615385,9.162393162393165,32.136752136752136,9.444778638647367,3.0321880341880347,545,23,97,11,9,176,92,130,0.09699999999999999,0.903,0.0,-0.8834,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,5,4,2,2,5,0,12,5,5,1,2,12,21,9,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,4,0,2,5,1,16,0,14,14,1,28,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,3,17,70,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943941083782605,0.17634126985791862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909792296878146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197048328924832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20435802576442424,0.2104437438698757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848841677485424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313927506056997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921151009076438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591496521263902,0.0,0.1782040530791662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932785860892982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480151343661936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907572809494828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816102743932365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278760046008303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216162236808793,0.0,0.0,0.15792983609389724,0.2319977699386329,0.0,0.18856433401319952,0.19008811003790246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23929077641338165,0.0,0.2190955610955994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21573333508241055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommacatdoza,2020/01/10,"Sleep deprived mom looking for sleep training tips Sorry for the long post, I feel like some background on my children might help. 

I have a two-year-old son and a 10-month-old son. I feel like I messed up the two-year-old's sleep patterns. He was breastfed for 8 months and slept in our bed for a majority of his life. I would start him off in the bassinet or crib, but when he woke up in the middle of the night he would move to our bed to go back to sleep. Eventually it ended up that he was in our bed more than he was in his crib. A majority of the time we have to take him on a drive or walk to get him to nap or go to sleep for the night. 

Once I had my second son, I wanted to move my two year old to his bed. He does not sleep in a crib anymore because he kept climbing out of it. We got him to sleep in his room in various ways. We would put on music and rock him. That worked a couple of times. Then, we started to lay on the floor next to his bed until he fell asleep. That worked a couple of times. Then, we would put him in his room, turn the lights off, and put a movie on for him that he would watch until he fell asleep. That also stopped working. 

Currently, if I want him to go to sleep I have either been taking him on a drive or turning off the lights and letting him lay in my bed until he falls sleep, but even without the TV he doesn't settle down until close to 11 at night. I don't give him sugar or TV time past 7 o'clock. We eat dinner, we take a bath, and we read a book, then I try to get him to go to sleep, but he has no off switch. He literally will run or roll around for hours and then once he suddenly stops, he is sleeping...but the process takes way too long and he will throw a fit if me and my husband are not in the room with him. 

I made sure to break the bad habits with my second son, and he's been going to bed between 7:30-8:30 like clockwork and sleeping through most of the night in his crib, I just don't know what to do about my two year old. I can't keep up with taking him on a drive every time he needs to nap or go to bed, and I can't lock him in my room until 11pm every night. 

I will also mention that he shares a room with his brother, so I can't lock him in his room otherwise he will scream, wake the baby and also climb in the baby's crib.

Any ideas on how I can properly get him to go to bed? Appreciate the help!",4.022405139129276,3.1676480212355216,4.930260950605778,91.52932432432434,70.71814671814674,7.917028358407669,25.19797630142458,6.48374012150746,0.5579471974437489,1817,38,456,10,29,595,201,518,0.040999999999999995,0.9059999999999999,0.053,0.7345,1,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,11,0,0,5,12,9,0,0,33,0,31,19,15,2,1,67,64,40,0,10,17,7,2,3,0,10,1,1,16,1,9,28,3,4,4,8,0,23,10,4,0,4,11,8,64,5,88,42,7,111,0,1,2,0,71,45,0,12,42,276,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123101291873027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03719796140455956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424782659659586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04869470921046655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04206102043107311,0.045672320356355614,0.03334468908104973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210492979381246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786844885104987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055971884765289914,0.0,0.0,0.04844807574888549,0.0,0.0,0.036128917311790534,0.0,0.09217443064796267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055316054487241584,0.07815556184033784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573567445938242,0.052473345156685065,0.21761139506216992,0.0,0.04374868768712565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332868281253782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386860557584562,0.0,0.0,0.061749784094119325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048619985278120115,0.0,0.0,0.030061758699386036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593458484780883,0.0386363166451475,0.08017115561163964,0.0,0.0,0.09681578033579016,0.045934329233218656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05175858178334869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05802818946137581,0.0,0.06406412642421935,0.08732223735385777,0.11627515440629728,0.0,0.04055945030148345,0.0,0.0,0.05817420452491985,0.25666181365767915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869929032519371,0.11650769787096653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05221745968342311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052387600164643576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496620461792466,0.0,0.0,0.05471492859757263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6021359271777336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123231265437926,0.07743406139838079,0.0,0.0,0.09146350923522996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05155422137415705,0.0,0.20563843606121016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948041668953913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0371377949207778,0.11899605903023905,0.21373629932095176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452710305303735,0.08683682782206192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272896945329294,0.0,0.11946702953720775,0.0,0.0,0.1942870003170784,0.0,0.0,0.1409003508337567
parenting,7daystodaniel,2020/01/10,"6 month old in his brothers room? Hello all, I wanted to get some other parents’ take on this. I have a 6 (almost 7) month old boy, and a 22 month old boy. The older, D, is in a queen bed in his own room, he’s been in his own room since 11/12 months. The baby, E, is still in a crib next to our bed with the front rails removed. 


I want to put E in with his brother, there’s room for his crib in there, but I’m worried about D’s sleep as E still wakes up several times to nurse. Do most parents find the baby sleeps better away from mom?",2.070762711864408,2.3242940000000023,3.5625,95.79256355932205,75.10169491525423,6.238983050847456,20.682203389830512,5.148860815047168,-0.3297322033898302,404,7,103,1,8,134,73,118,0.026000000000000002,0.925,0.05,0.3736,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,8,0,5,3,3,0,1,11,10,3,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,1,20,9,5,29,0,0,0,0,15,14,0,3,12,55,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066875581437958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413666262272706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307388221039307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752209510251145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861164425155462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17622254729447293,0.4803982497178616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16002101457416307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736624687420034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33414669312364953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151258675839743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699823882367174,0.0,0.1244660318109453,0.0,0.3011469141861832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24032275645582216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131307989260532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773723093175549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17749606689775085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280430124866445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,awaywethrow55555,2020/01/10,"My son (15M) ordered chemicals and I would like to know what he might be up to  

My son used a prepaid visa to ship the following to a friend's house:

2 lbs Sodium NItrate

200 grams sodium nitrite

I   saw some text messaging discussing Gallium or something similar, I did   not have a clear view before the conversation was erased.

He   can't keep his story straight. He says it is for a science project but   his teacher says there is not a current project that requires outside   material.  He says it is for the other kid, he just bought it.

I am worried that he is trying to do something harmful.  Please let me know if this is stuff that is commonly used for something illicit.

Thank you.",3.302500000000002,5.518834856060606,4.165151515151518,84.7927272727273,75.43939393939394,7.127272727272729,31.45454545454545,8.07648339933343,2.4096545454545457,539,27,102,9,12,173,91,132,0.035,0.8909999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.6134,1,0,3,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,2,1,17,25,4,0,2,6,2,0,1,1,2,0,3,0,1,10,1,0,2,2,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,4,5,10,3,9,17,1,6,0,0,2,0,19,2,0,4,3,62,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655183313074587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028216332140262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444472684783212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289427995233403,0.0,0.0,0.2138012216457883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989052385839916,0.0,0.0950304293123588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20635016601654765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135195652322328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640595076650351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492425171308761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267366642034275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790837033099527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206323027693007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335997810786957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19753989353039303,0.0,0.1381782031885426,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hieremias,2020/01/10,"7 year-old and tantrums Wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and has any suggestions. We have already met with one child psychologist, had 5 sessions, I decided it wasn't a good fit. We are looking for another. In the meantime I don't really know what to do.

Our 7 year-old is routinely having epic tantrums. Sometimes because she doesn't want to go to school or to bed; sometimes about absolutely trivial things. Like it's her sister's turn to pick which side of the bathtub she sits on (yes, really, this was a tantrum). Sometimes we honestly don't know the reason and she can't tell us. It's the kind of tantrum that might be normal in a 3 year-old, but she's 7.

Academically she's well above-average. She's reading several years above her grade level. Socially she's very much an introvert, like me. She's pretty quiet and shy.

Her teachers don't see any of this behaviour, this is reserved exclusively for mom & dad (mom moreso).

This is not a sudden occurrence, it's been happening for over a year.

During the tantrums she's usually non-verbal. She can say ""Mama, mama,"" but that's it. She screams and cries. She doesn't hit, isn't violent. But when we take her to her room she lies on her bed and just screams.

The tantrums (which can sometimes last ~an hour) are usually followed by a very affectionate period where she tries to make gifts for us or wants to play with us. It seems to us that she's very ashamed of her tantrum and wants to ""make up"" for it.

We don't use physical punishment. For discipline we take away TV privileges and/or remove her to her room. Although we've found zero point or effectiveness in disciplining the tantrum itself. During it she's way, way past the ability to regulate herself or understand any punishment.

I have a strong suspicion that the tantrums are anxiety-based. I think she's a pretty anxious kid, worrying about a lot. I don't know for sure and we have not had any professional tell us this. She won't tell us if anything is wrong, no matter how often we ask. Her teachers do not see any problem.

Five of the last seven days have had tantrums. It's really wearing us down.",3.199658845909955,5.420284431325307,4.1940298034242245,84.44507133798353,75.77108433734941,8.127457197209893,27.78852251109702,8.916525866297963,2.3411445783132527,1689,70,332,39,38,546,202,415,0.16699999999999998,0.726,0.107,-0.9706,1,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,16,0,0,2,8,29,13,1,21,1,36,1,1,7,1,60,62,20,0,7,13,4,0,2,0,2,0,4,4,2,24,19,0,2,11,3,0,3,15,18,1,4,8,7,51,11,39,50,2,34,0,0,3,0,59,16,0,11,14,205,75,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648945725789602,0.0,0.0,0.07510142951211941,0.0,0.2356786668163162,0.07268152046492297,0.0,0.07830481891286077,0.0,0.0484657923016893,0.07102013777886605,0.05703931819358005,0.0,0.06479900850835338,0.0,0.06512255876551666,0.0,0.0,0.04225302447387936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613791014092866,0.04470164072470481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057902751955642665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599895969521155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039392606887786855,0.05813709294046845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061293928656779226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826009096193691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217961428136045,0.11427908860978585,0.11299993043301247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677264034846047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058206100904549786,0.0,0.0,0.058928079684874235,0.0,0.0,0.09253494545794767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073530945318661,0.0,0.16235887490932482,0.0,0.0,0.05095358861174362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791276765318158,0.0,0.0,0.21819939245123185,0.0,0.04696879732444941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616782650468267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552390696061647,0.0,0.0,0.14103402441495003,0.0,0.06632390686048248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693325168365018,0.0,0.1332125077415936,0.07126608900649606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05512108364378712,0.0,0.0701492251483768,0.110468184555352,0.06310064345045993,0.0,0.07830481891286077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065664897241329,0.0,0.0,0.2742123221679403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653273980800746,0.0,0.10423064195374472,0.0,0.18174984291976026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04604898192033843,0.04441345835191461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04705949285894908,0.07539346644196687,0.0,0.0721580681713007,0.5836314285134698,0.059864833474823326,0.15267862713758285,0.17157333225564894,0.12264915371836588,0.11003607207976167,0.0,0.0,0.062321394082230364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516781550362535,0.0,0.07039148739174085,0.0,0.0,0.07578371501032488,0.0,0.2231789430427
parenting,beepbopunderscore,2020/01/10,"Agreed to get a full time job; been vegging out before it happens My husband and I agreed on me getting a full time job (my current night job isnt giving enough hours) and so these past two weeks I've been vegging out about 3 days of the week. 
I've been plopping my kids in front of the TV or in their toy room while I nap. 
Just trying to enjoy the last few weeks of SAHM luxury. 
Struggling to not feel so guilty but whatever.",2.6028731942215124,3.938064247191015,3.289919743178172,94.12101123595508,75.06741573033706,5.984590690208668,22.82664526484752,6.1826913282559595,0.2416150882825039,334,9,75,2,7,105,63,89,0.067,0.873,0.061,-0.1346,4,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,1,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,9,7,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,4,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,1,7,1,12,6,4,21,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,12,44,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314167116177167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364510977470496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981005259939956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969406237514172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20033411847327712,0.1839176295910875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695395160988344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880797893298734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5707648004461241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627937337881814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991851761505598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302075805471785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20042991646718425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358978728080706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301669483749162,0.0,0.18728496063716535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613645185177919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MadameMalia,2020/01/10,"Best diaper for chunky babies? I cloth diaper during the day, but use disposables at night for the convenience since my baby is a master pooper. Currently using Pampers Baby Dry but the tabs seem to poke through the diaper material into my baby's tummy (leaves red marks where the corner of the tabs are. I do not make his diaper super tight or anything like that to cause it, so I'm looking for other options where the tabs aren't sharp. Baby is allergic to Honest Co diapers. Has anyone tried the Pampers Cruisers without the tabs??

Baby is three months and 16 lbs, with Michelin Man legs (lots of rolls). Thanks for any help fellow chunky baby parents.",6.347622950819672,7.417097491803283,6.896844262295088,72.77756147540988,65.88524590163935,9.378688524590164,28.364754098360656,9.516144504307137,2.7103737704918034,522,16,84,10,8,171,87,122,0.021,0.805,0.174,0.9712,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,10,0,7,2,1,4,0,16,14,5,0,0,5,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,5,5,14,14,2,9,0,0,2,0,5,5,0,4,5,50,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317091925438826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777521676203336,0.0,0.1974544007104352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518076147951687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464897486455101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474476132611326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083016555805968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540672516651197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722507242233228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20149348091423325,0.0,0.0,0.20399277248905195,0.0,0.0,0.16016524021344608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152191682515612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251722540197516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664306758212119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21843703837181852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848509444864276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090924182995875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290699563878466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144711119191352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23129854680627054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Matto_McFly_81,2020/01/10,"3-year old gone insane. Please help. Hi - this week my three year old daughter started a very frustrating (and loud) behavior. She will want something, then immediately not want it. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. For example, she will suddenly want a blanket, we will hand it to her, she will flip her sh\*t and say she doesn't want a blanket, then scream about wanting a blanket. Its very confusing and she only keeps working herself up. He speech is good, but not great. She knows ""yes"", but its like she doesn't know what she wants and any attempt to help drives her crazier. Nothing we do helps -- responding to her request or ignoring it. It's like living with a tornado. Any ideas?",2.83478494623656,5.751710758064518,3.1452903225806463,87.2362688172043,82.54838709677419,6.2098924731182805,26.008602150537637,7.554174236665415,1.6811382795698928,530,22,96,9,15,163,80,124,0.138,0.7020000000000001,0.159,-0.0284,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,2,0,0,2,1,8,1,1,5,1,8,1,1,0,0,24,19,9,0,6,5,1,1,2,0,4,0,4,0,0,8,7,0,2,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,1,5,16,4,7,14,0,14,0,0,0,0,24,1,0,2,13,56,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576604425752302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330626434909086,0.0,0.17490502207163808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190061879130935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790892046857049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100963465746666,0.0,0.0,0.17437264067905722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501040430455293,0.0,0.14008511959536607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222271972685653,0.0,0.3329393392889654,0.0,0.0,0.12065553274936948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741429264977359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261596810359314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213151919714582,0.0,0.0,0.11228868792709452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26179500886359786,0.5614322901353197,0.0,0.12725424884409042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549435958821275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043224291464154
parenting,StetsonBirdDude,2020/01/10,"3 Year old sleep problems after big boy bed transition Hi everyone.  I’m looking for advice on how to retain my sanity during this transition.  In December we moved my son (just turned 3) to a big boy bed.  He sleep so well in a crib.  And now we cannot keep him in his room.

He won’t go to sleep at his usual bedtime.  Instead he waits until we are out of the room and then starts his game of coming out of the bed to find us, and then running back and diving in his bed.

Our current plan is to walk him back to his room silently, remind him its bedtime and to stay in bed.  We have also issued warnings like - if you get out of bed we will have to shut the door - which he does not like.  Then we tried some mild bribery with a sticker chart, he can earn stickers for staying in bed the whole night and then gets to watch a tv show when so many stickers are earned.

When he does get to sleep he wakes up at night and comes into our room to try and sleep in our bed.  Or comes in crying because of nightmares or some bullshit like the ceiling exists.. fucking toddlers.

This is in addition to losing a mid day nap - he no longer takes a nap during day.  Bed time is 8ish.

Does anyone have a plan or strategy that worked for this kind of behavior?  I’m losing my mind from lack of sleep.",3.5479924242424232,4.209050541666667,4.2989393939393965,90.36424242424243,71.99242424242425,7.078787878787877,24.89393939393939,6.937597516519254,0.7774939393939397,989,27,219,8,18,317,141,264,0.079,0.879,0.042,-0.8738,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,10,1,0,7,12,9,1,0,12,0,12,8,7,1,0,39,28,23,0,3,6,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,14,2,6,23,0,3,1,5,0,7,4,4,1,0,0,2,22,5,43,26,4,55,0,2,2,1,32,25,1,6,24,129,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928372553390054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125061379298408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104207077868703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625043124068574,0.0,0.06193527873436426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625618643815241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116043820660832,0.13104901306554012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667362453101721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708450478106964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286185141662033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392886974144267,0.1592476355743965,0.0,0.05774242478610225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604547898070374,0.0,0.09030800476026682,0.0,0.10580223747577126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148911955879802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531959850098839,0.2273319864915121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030078864745596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258846448509383,0.0,0.0,0.10798622354118756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19069208809495225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661359243439426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972188312979918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6100487338900428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719140035251996,0.21658717691773496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639161861723882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924460135963702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796138116070986,0.11051316247715784,0.0,0.0,0.12221399077584914,0.0,0.11189960300228972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135187271583994,0.0,0.0,0.1134343499510693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396703920843753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542797926115576
parenting,Justonetho,2020/01/10,"Telling your kid ""don't stare"" Hey guys this is part vent part advice maybe. I have a toddler with a spinal cord injury. Lately i brace him pretty much full time. His bracing is pretty high - think Forest Gump on the bus for a visual.

Anyway I swear I'm not exaggerating, every time I take him out to a kid friendly event (this a.m. my girlfriend and I took him to a childrens museum) we run into staring curious kids (totally fine) and their parents telling them ""don't stare"" (not cool lol). 

He hears ""don't stare"" so much that today he finally asked why everyone says it. I kind of explained that he's just an interesting guy and that his braces are kind of unique so people want a closer look but now in my head I'm like ""yea buddy you're right why the fuck so people say that so much?"" lol 

I think best case scenario is that parents think it's a polite thing to say? But the cynical shitty side of me thinks it's just parents wanting to avoid awkwardness. imo itd be much better to let them stare or encourage them to ask questions. Or better yet say hi. It sucks bc sometimes a kid will want to come touch his braces and ask questions and say hi and their parents rush them away.

Sometimes a parent will notice their kid staring and they'll say ""those braces are interesting/cool huh?"" Or if their kid asks a question they'll say ""idk why don't you ask him"". That kind of thing is way better. We can hear you when you say ""don't stare""",2.13067968363816,4.302683678200694,2.9709972812654466,92.14560121107269,79.0,5.651062778052398,21.048072170044488,6.7097532225279775,0.29686742461690585,1129,31,237,11,28,356,155,289,0.09,0.765,0.145,0.9493,5,1,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,4,10,4,10,18,3,2,14,5,20,3,2,0,1,36,43,18,0,4,10,5,1,1,2,4,0,10,0,9,16,13,0,1,8,1,0,4,7,5,0,0,1,20,33,13,18,35,9,24,0,0,8,1,67,10,2,7,10,132,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069707572822244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33344219495060856,0.0,0.06702142343049768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486150580840481,0.18926958742350805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144864187054778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060102673114922414,0.0681634895401576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781438222985463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511311471610153,0.06594790326816471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126539904861407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321011835134783,0.0,0.16079908160471576,0.0,0.0,0.0753691672001471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228527525716308,0.0,0.0,0.08046879830384877,0.0,0.0,0.07294469942030615,0.0,0.03485059594871106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059903293250629625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716654274038381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20975723941973465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121517972367374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960444484919832,0.15449734436275533,0.0,0.09890918206900844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451463401869068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397340147793829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060919557276862074,0.0,0.4538265764574741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110394694448833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363491638870879,0.0,0.12469957581173115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478338610553977,0.18283392143323607,0.0,0.0,0.08319182910177138,0.0,0.06761708034549165,0.0,0.07925562377186486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622539747476064,0.05662226975786094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19310577300486154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jenshady,2020/01/10,"My 1 year old started biting, help! Hello everyone. I wanted to get some advice from you all. I’m a mother of 1 and my son just turned 1 on the 4th of this month. He is the sweetest little guy but here recently, if he doesn’t get his way and we have to tell him no, he started biting us! He will bite me, his dad or either of his grandmas. This morning he bit me so hard it left a nice bruise, just because I told him no to playing in the cabinets. The biting just started out of nowhere!

Do any of you have experience in this and how did you break this habit?

(Sorry for the format, I’m on mobile)

Thanks in advance!",1.1238205128205152,2.8616741769230782,3.158076923076924,91.71608974358976,80.30769230769229,5.564102564102565,21.602564102564106,6.42735559955562,0.2873333333333332,473,14,105,4,12,160,85,130,0.059000000000000004,0.845,0.096,0.7067,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,3,0,1,6,3,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,1,1,16,18,8,0,2,7,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,16,3,16,15,4,18,0,0,0,0,23,8,0,3,7,68,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396065799903087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497898160226984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099674294120664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669802612940756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966426096104347,0.0,0.19415983296845485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20740409041327496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965348142434635,0.0,0.0,0.17780670248540695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304265280326613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156583282571309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19893761463940232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843162130668068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082802838936055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598344086473227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22219161725961672,0.4214735305736372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348769149028018,0.18274153645141927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966426096104347,0.0,0.0,0.21589848282137916,0.0,0.0,0.2387572176617929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707365574577012,0.157550926749938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278200816981586
parenting,NtUrAvrgWmn,2020/01/10,Part time parents are the worst. Long story short my daughter is 11. Her dad is in her life (par time). His soon to be ex wife made our lives miserable for 6 yrs and his new girlfriend well she's nothing to rave about. Ok so I try my best to co-parent as civil as I can because my daughter loves her dad and he can be a great dad when he truly wants to be. But he straight let his (ex) wife and girlfriend tear me down and said absolutely nothing. I'm the bad person because I think it's pretty shitty that he only seen her once in a 3 month span and not even any phone calls in that time. Im beside myself for his action and reaction to the whole situation. I never thought I could actually hate him but at this point I truly do!!,2.358614718614721,3.580416831168833,3.8968181818181833,89.98189393939394,75.49350649350649,6.432034632034633,23.222943722943725,6.816661863887847,0.5498242424242425,568,16,127,5,12,189,102,154,0.059000000000000004,0.7959999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.8845,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,6,9,1,1,5,1,11,2,0,1,1,15,20,12,0,2,3,10,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,4,2,22,5,15,11,4,19,0,1,1,1,32,9,0,0,9,76,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.16090834096962855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213049657793273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376758232991993,0.20103018572606896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304133002442296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837058863773766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316508277598301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890794242551068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817912271261677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279421833924132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810892702740205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861065870390746,0.1164663118025495,0.0,0.0,0.1456004264012901,0.14592199566481512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881918794273055,0.1560224070995739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316132049589145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717292741359598,0.15925128141939174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31643179467189525,0.0,0.0,0.17560190833229228,0.0,0.12540587513310827,0.0,0.0,0.18309024745304456,0.17855923191148895,0.0,0.0,0.14397512855801028,0.0,0.0,0.15587384985817335,0.0,0.0,0.16775187382952605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684764902337536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534267730296375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565451695347808,0.0,0.1309038239727542,0.2884451347755043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194912917367034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972560838668114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825543949881456,0.0,0.0,0.1840932091077109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigb12345,2020/01/10,"Brothers kids are making out. Caught them (m)6 and (f)4 kissing and simulating adult relations. Basically boy lays on girl and has prolonged close mouth kiss. I have witnessed this 3 times in the past year, but I really only see them 15 or 20 times a year. 
How weird is this behavior? I mentioned this to family and they dismiss it as pretend play. I have boys so not a lot of playing house at our place. Is this behavior normal? Me and my wife are the only ones making a big deal about this.",2.2590625,4.6978401145833315,3.5185833333333365,86.93475000000002,80.14583333333334,6.756666666666668,23.141666666666666,7.908726449838941,1.3086616666666666,385,13,76,7,10,125,73,96,0.057999999999999996,0.861,0.081,0.4891,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,3,0,3,5,0,0,5,0,7,3,1,3,0,15,11,10,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,7,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,10,4,8,10,1,13,0,0,1,2,13,7,0,2,5,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611228424228311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238771931075374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922536701722763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153314820177749,0.0,0.0,0.33813569100586865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24816279411938896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163058410441015,0.3852650761878856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24178653401470895,0.0,0.0,0.2646260066506992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622590728036487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018331330608655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953817932037509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262108849807344
parenting,Rebecca1307,2020/01/10,"Really struggling to balance life For background - I study full time and have a 5 year old daughter. 

Me and my mother did have an arrangement I lent her a stupid amount of money and she said she would help me with my daughter so I could have some time to myself or see my boyfriend or friends. 

However, she hasn’t lived up to her side of the bargain and has taken the money but gave me no help at all. I love my daughter but not being able to have any free time to just being an individual is really getting me down. 

My daughters dad is useless, he’ll have her for the odd few hours but never enough for me to go anywhere and do anything. She can’t stay overnight with him either as he still lives with his mother and has no space. 

My sister also takes her to dance class which means I get Saturday mornings to myself. 

I’m just so frustrated by my lack of life. Everyone keeps telling me ‘that’s just called being a parent’ ‘it was your choice to have her’. But this feels so unfair.  I struggle to maintain relationships with my friends and boyfriend and I just feel so trapped and guilty for feeling this way.",4.67910606060606,5.621105668181818,4.772727272727273,86.96742424242426,69.5909090909091,7.503030303030304,28.303030303030305,7.554174236665415,1.4769030303030308,877,30,179,9,15,273,128,220,0.17600000000000002,0.726,0.099,-0.9702,2,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,10,9,2,2,8,0,20,3,0,0,2,36,36,21,0,3,12,9,3,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,5,13,0,1,4,1,4,2,6,5,0,0,5,5,35,5,26,25,8,19,0,1,1,1,33,6,0,3,9,130,40,1,0.15327902703500818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257718254170885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423499454560764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261355790302991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651502422534705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223808306595089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837820899381108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646467896034726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232507444765054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23684599212436205,0.0,0.16016393053450692,0.0,0.08711200338055931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20547940167668916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094896592073714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362414419745909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21653101958838405,0.0,0.0,0.2706963781477338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383403063118609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696579572766582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821823500168012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608405545655895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701982201724938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963889393048568,0.0,0.0,0.16456431196107285,0.0,0.0,0.14580345525429875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214353944437205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633750483958254,0.12240882898874847,0.0,0.0,0.3204810390035405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152467525200462,0.0,0.1339726256751912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681346999041897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166575710895018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888502301553976,0.0,0.0,0.09870666796024068
parenting,Neromei,2020/01/10,"Tell me about how it gets Hi everyone. First time mom here, with a 2month old. This baby was very very desired, but I can't deny how I thought I seriously had messed up our lives during some weeks in her first month. Only recently I have started to slowly enjoying it. I am with her 24/7, only have help at the end of the day.. When husband comes home, he holds her so I can poop (yes, I wait for it), shower and stretch a bit...
Now at this point feels like our relationship has been put on hold.. (even my own life). I can't hug him for more than a couple of seconds because if I don't hold the baby she cries. No sex. I can't even sleep cuddling with him for comfort since I sleep with the baby attached to my breast... 
Everyone tells me it gets better.. I picture a toddler coming cuddle with with us in bed in the morning, unwrappping gifts at Christmas with those baby laughs of joy, even the tantrums,.. I want this family moments... But the baby stage feels like endless.... So many nights rocking her to sleep, alone, feeling so alone.. This Christmas made me feel super bad. We are expats and dealing with a demanding baby we couldn't even make proper food... Only deal with her crying,... It passed us by.. I look forward next Christmas and hope it will be better... Please let me know how it is for other ages.... Such as 6months maybe, 1year, 2years...and on. Tell me when were you able to get your relationship back and when did you really had good family moments with your kid or kids.",2.7309992069785882,4.7315665051546425,3.454037800687285,90.23357057890566,76.38831615120273,6.126407613005551,22.87615648955855,7.010146845296331,0.6689655300026431,1147,34,235,12,26,362,176,291,0.077,0.762,0.161,0.9817,1,2,0,0,0,0,70.0,6,4,0,5,18,16,1,0,12,1,21,11,5,5,0,42,39,18,0,5,4,2,4,2,0,1,1,0,3,2,13,18,1,4,6,1,0,5,6,4,0,3,8,5,39,12,34,27,4,37,0,0,1,5,32,12,0,4,23,151,52,0,0.09506033305895246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969076727052548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309552839815668,0.07937140743146079,0.05794789671462545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814627918923328,0.1037812632899694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377211942631964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518245045329933,0.2088386243518008,0.06130605067788325,0.1960060585971251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419523968853825,0.0,0.0,0.2511458138003393,0.0,0.0,0.18166844391781292,0.0,0.0,0.17922884370998438,0.0,0.19226144255211974,0.13582224186253658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617165414767026,0.11494733206631355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899530165823455,0.0,0.0,0.07973209726289535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371693746359415,0.0,0.0953532648039282,0.09441635979801899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05224267300671962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720563108739116,0.06714392450757524,0.09288335409942301,0.0,0.08394001567709111,0.0,0.07982673821285961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994838560307734,0.06345351047243429,0.09637625741252608,0.0955008815349021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111333513175661,0.07587625091917725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109774264416163,0.08920768301226227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974982867616647,0.0,0.0,0.21689300062199204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043476996164696,0.0898627409557345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556189056441612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608980835165082,0.0,0.09386061073168547,0.2041184447375705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863488983274243,0.0,0.2853869534838632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728419301197566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492607631419265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546728610656597,0.0554304446616235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22869175239964434,0.0,0.0,0.15686946059416818,0.05606904736647325,0.0,0.07625166522899374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,molliepop83,2020/01/10,"My 12 year old is obsessed with who he’s dating and it’s affecting my family, his schooling and his attitude Hi. So my son started dating a transgender ftm person about a month or two ago. That took a while to sink in as I never saw him thinking that way. But recently he has been doing things that are upsetting me. He comes home from school and video chats all night until I tell him it’s homework time. He is failing a class but they are willing to let him retake if he does so at lunch. His boyfriend is at lunch so he never does it. He’s called me a bitch to him over text and said other horrible things. The kid has threatened to kill me 4 times in text and I would usually take this as blowing off steam in the state America is in right now a shooting could easily happen. My sons going to hate me for telling his mom but I don’t know what else to do. I have offered to keep him late to redo tests I have volunteered everything I could think of. Any advice for me? I raised this kid since he was a baby I split with his dad at a young age then his dad didn’t see him for over a year because of the drugs he was doing then he was hit by a Car and killed. I sacrificed my dating /friendship life to make sure he was ok because I knew I wasn’t. Any help would be great.",1.8570825925327268,3.440177992565058,3.2278099240342684,92.75201713269762,77.62453531598513,6.611346371423952,21.732826895102633,7.423996415210882,0.5701784709875541,996,27,226,13,23,325,154,269,0.133,0.802,0.064,-0.9694,0,0,1,1,0,1,17.0,0,0,1,1,5,10,4,2,13,1,28,4,0,2,4,29,45,20,2,5,5,5,0,0,0,3,2,1,2,3,13,9,2,1,4,2,0,4,5,7,0,1,11,3,35,3,32,26,1,41,0,1,2,0,41,11,1,2,24,143,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325107267254055,0.11180508940186074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154307932704574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377322918199093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128791052053135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864832496935008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014062996160874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075137476517065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626873467565166,0.0,0.10536397403039588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335594430560128,0.0,0.11890249526900712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168159489714708,0.0,0.0,0.1390568482597909,0.0,0.0,0.1115348008357394,0.0,0.0,0.12452554105628015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454111178198244,0.0,0.12651692531788464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210858977908963,0.27908445711745244,0.0,0.06931679133156983,0.0,0.14227816729339396,0.0,0.0,0.12897468790449504,0.08908811774764344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841915907347921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771988983058454,0.1006743711469348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19455577422151946,0.0,0.0,0.11836282473024412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323503883274948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013032873792217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453643724365154,0.0,0.0,0.1077128420502623,0.11997685518130773,0.0,0.0,0.25529705884957304,0.1005078906922387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433459729780864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927422925554168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887438925278135,0.0,0.0948327521669342,0.0,0.22048331132973006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758801857630487,0.16163578808744933,0.0,0.0,0.14709280153148674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013313403011685,0.0,0.0,0.12320897962229793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389124554653667,0.0,0.0,0.10011473936420523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919578949571718,0.0,0.0,0.16244492404710786
parenting,Kid_resent,2020/01/10,"Is it wrong for me to resent the way I had my 2 kids? My parents were shitty parents, my dad was in the southern cali gang the bloods and my mom was a junkie. My dad was in and out of jail my entire life and my mom was in and out of rehab. At the age of 11 I went into CPS where my grandparents on my dad side took care of me. It was the only time I felt like I was loved. My grandparents died when I was 15 and I moved back in with my parents and ran away at 17 and broke contact with them. I started dating this girl at 18 and and at 19 I found out my parents had another kid, my ""sister"". Almost 2 months after she was born my dad died in a gang incident and my mom overdosed.

At 19 I didn't want that baby to go into foster care so I decided to take care of it. Raising a baby at 19 is HARD especially when all your friends are out and you have to make sure the baby is doing well all by myself and my SO. At 21 we were sloppy and got an accidental kid, my son. So at 21 we were raising 2 kids, while all my friends were out having fun. I won't lie I resented my situation bad, I never showed it to my kids (and yes I call my sister my kid) but its something I've always thought about.

Don't get me wrong I love my kids very very much and I would never trade them for anything but if I had a do over I would have waited on having them and probably would have let my ""sister"" go into the adoption process.",1.2455844155844176,2.4152904155844155,3.428436363636365,92.42565454545456,78.28571428571429,6.2267012987013,21.086233766233764,6.742157984588678,0.21097542857142848,1080,27,258,10,25,371,146,308,0.073,0.8320000000000001,0.095,0.7759999999999999,7,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,2,2,3,0,9,17,2,0,12,1,33,5,1,1,6,48,53,25,2,5,3,15,2,1,2,4,2,0,0,8,7,28,0,1,4,1,1,6,5,6,1,0,23,2,54,11,42,25,4,47,0,1,0,2,37,27,0,2,14,182,61,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408065452783133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648620589227025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898989994039293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553356537975544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976548250272428,0.0799232588190976,0.08678535716202118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061341150562837,0.0,0.317920534433778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157461196503983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979846852905133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396458081463225,0.16060719987209882,0.0,0.05430423409940949,0.0,0.11814272061529504,0.0,0.08313012031517192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310960817572746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062854456671142,0.07341572561481363,0.0507797160261125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18761938107468631,0.0,0.06938059620889993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651989684092151,0.08296372395591199,0.1104715145353398,0.07640768229495193,0.0,0.1603294995802347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790508703913153,0.0,0.0,0.4616512075199689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206463994138424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683264397225865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001790448186856,0.0,0.0,0.0735690963643935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796199273995322,0.0,0.07814976327266075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825165584276981,0.06060810930891805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154808966403502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152237318249014,0.061306362818821784,0.08250254266209921,0.0,0.0,0.09345432596510116,0.09635319788053334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150746775591407,0.22728361936436864,0.0,0.0
parenting,lamaestrariendo,2020/01/10,"Crappy Food, Chips in lunches yes or no? My kid started school, kindergarten and sees that other kids have chips and Lunchables in their lunches.

I feed my kid all these salads and try to have healthy things in the lunch box.

This morning he begged me to buy chips.

I did. I said only because it's Friday and you have been doing so well with your chores and behavior chart.

It was like the plain baked chips, a small portion.

I also bought him a Lunchable.

I am like great, juvenile diabetes, all that sugar and chemical additives etc.

He loves to eat the little ham portions. I bought him some organic nitrite free ham pieces just like those but he won't eat them.

He is a picky eater and I worry about him eating enough foods throughout the day.

So, what are your thoughts on healthy lunch options for a child who will not eat sandwiches at all or pita pockets or any peanut butter and jelly or almond butter or any kind of lunch meat or beans or tofu or any kind of anything?

Do you give your kids that young chips?

Is it okay as a once a week thing, once a month thing?

Thanks.",3.0965652282364644,5.221542113744079,3.1135644799201816,92.51955599900228,75.7298578199052,5.7691194811673725,22.953604390122226,6.5966054737557815,0.4948805687203794,850,25,172,7,19,257,136,211,0.055999999999999994,0.8140000000000001,0.13,0.9048,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,5,2,0,6,11,0,0,11,2,14,18,0,0,3,27,23,21,0,0,11,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,2,5,15,10,16,0,1,0,4,0,3,0,1,0,7,5,20,12,14,14,9,12,0,0,1,1,23,7,0,10,8,105,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426127566709137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659795226598425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728796423617704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947572169847768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408144036880097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5336269204049693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347127888336415,0.14540319510451966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31530125133874354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250681020334041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437394978482625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715321333020866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910847162541733,0.13067054626522218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176690189248146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406451559879312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27769139934747755,0.0,0.09915647638125326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401699832112115,0.0,0.0,0.13194701124182925,0.10389242902226678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228048128926812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003228467746699,0.0,0.0,0.25984715535770736,0.0,0.0,0.103503619078396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851643649891716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457939749960714,0.0,0.11722327179211613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324026938082584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwingthisaway826,2020/01/10,"Help with raising a 4 year during a divorce? My 4 (almost 5) year old has been acting out ever since his dad and I split. His dad is very toxic which I’m assuming is where the behavioral problems are coming from. 

My son constantly acts out when he doesn’t get his way. He will throw things and yell “you HATE me!!” Not only to me, but his teachers too.

I work a lot, and my ex also keeps our son against our agreed upon verbal agreement from me, which leads me to hardly seeing my son...it is hard to fix this problem while his dad is constantly starting problems. 

Does anyone have any advice on how I can handle this????",2.400637829912025,4.287813330645161,3.5563636363636384,89.64318181818182,76.98387096774194,5.799413489736072,21.756598240469213,6.574015621080383,0.4357677419354844,479,13,97,4,11,155,87,124,0.12,0.812,0.068,-0.7682,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,1,0,2,6,5,1,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,1,19,18,8,0,3,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,4,0,0,1,4,19,1,11,16,1,20,0,0,1,0,18,5,0,3,9,63,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102518571098752,0.0,0.0,0.1752548580394657,0.0,0.0,0.13996152177359678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901797835581432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237638427528025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507621763620615,0.0,0.3782637267154623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315909243839151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831345078108758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143947913479966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135628083234999,0.17279365869288965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731061668843537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556369588528066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879371576618486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365154356724786,0.0,0.0,0.13310878117721264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5024046565919894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946637784426702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477637794153084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387836719441322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627392516128013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440785993833008,0.0,0.13892083469051214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274149066132242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254112090105447
parenting,tripug,2020/01/10,"Competitive sports for under 5s - opinions please? Our daughter is about to turn 3 and has shown an interest in gymnastics and swimming (as much as 3 year olds can). 

Me and my husband are in a quandary about where to take her. Equal distances from our home there is a gymnastics club which is very relaxed but would lack progression and would only ever have low level competitions - or there is a competitive club which competes county/national levels. The competitive club has recreation classes but they're constantly looking for students for their development squad and competitions start as soon as they're 5. 

It feels if we send her to the first she would be restricted in her improvement and development, but sending her to the second could lead to 6hr per week of team training before she turned 6, added pressure, a lack of leisure time..

We are probably getting ahead of ourselves but wondered if any parents had experienced this or strong opinions either side. We will nurture whatever passion she has as she gets older and will never push her into an activity she doesnt enjoy.",10.792274035693731,9.659627145077721,9.52566493955095,64.96318940702362,57.34196891191711,12.515601611974668,43.20610247553253,11.429527900616536,5.065899712147379,881,42,140,19,9,274,127,193,0.086,0.787,0.127,0.772,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,1,7,8,8,0,1,9,0,20,1,0,1,2,34,29,20,0,8,9,3,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,11,0,1,2,7,0,5,2,2,0,2,1,3,18,6,25,21,5,27,0,1,1,1,22,10,0,7,12,104,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129435489655038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196252116272938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20568636504555235,0.0,0.15196837501510016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721704510857017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962399595030395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190030820631512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888615012819585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909232391351674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15983489878960427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991938219810515,0.0,0.1467994045598731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19972635895784396,0.0,0.0,0.14475964477862555,0.0,0.0,0.21134639151157333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089325504275666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20521516575156631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347213029239978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431095181480369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098686618923014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140633676153783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570477193392924,0.0,0.0,0.15267662774741358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20641204266473165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40562921305521454,0.0,0.0,0.12257060074062599
parenting,Shameless_Dad,2020/01/10,"My toddler is having terrible separation anxiety I'm a father to one 3.5 year old. He is very well-behaved when we are all home and together (except for the occasional ""I don't want to""); however, dropping him off at daycare has been extremely difficult lately and it is almost at the point where he absolutely refuses to go. We recently moved to the area and he has been going to this daycare for the last 6 months. The first 5 months were absolutely amazing. He would run into his classroom so excited to go to school. Then the school had a fire drill and he has be petrified of the alarm ever since. My wife and I will take turns dropping him off, and every single time he refuses to let go of us. We have to physically pry him away and the teacher has to grab him while he is kicking erratically and crying/screaming at the top of his lungs. The last thing I see/hear when I close his classroom door is him crying and banging on the door. I feel absolutely terrible. Every day is getting worse and worse.

We have tried talking to him and telling him that the fire alarm helps keep us safe by letting us know if there is ever a fire. He says ""okay"" and acknowledges alarms around the house and mentions that they ""keep us safe"".

Additionally, he refuses to stay in bed. He won't even sleep in his bed; he sleeps on the floor. From 8:00PM to 10, 11, sometimes midnight, he constantly comes into our room and my wife and I have to bring him back into his room.

We are extremely exhausted and on top of it, feel like terrible parents. We have no idea what to do. Help!",4.788067226890757,5.803391588235296,5.671942110177407,80.35088235294121,69.39215686274511,9.227264239028944,29.93090569561157,9.48565724429506,2.59013370681606,1230,47,244,26,21,404,163,306,0.142,0.7929999999999999,0.065,-0.9709,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,11,0,1,3,10,14,0,3,17,1,30,4,3,0,3,49,46,22,0,3,2,4,6,1,0,3,1,1,7,0,7,29,0,7,5,0,0,8,3,8,0,2,4,7,34,6,39,36,2,54,0,0,0,0,50,24,0,2,20,160,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268487472724826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844730883251763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128756408011172,0.0,0.0,0.09634521919491157,0.07885144320876593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833418580533398,0.0,0.11081565391725824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264182152275196,0.06613360186753561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773057910645107,0.18551721810112196,0.17279863419977254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370054469033836,0.07325878904913391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722546348327531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053575983942010436,0.0,0.23311672128414396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557664676886865,0.0,0.1374686683562926,0.0,0.10286186732931496,0.0,0.0,0.11832416434366985,0.0,0.11576180377340364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229495949824784,0.0,0.0,0.05635652760076858,0.1671771391197726,0.11567620641443407,0.0,0.0,0.20972019676795894,0.0,0.05009873162771367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637022680144811,0.10899002972696924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107604639070387,0.0,0.06948773450132957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386505164414305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693899162282864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125167406049183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154859063575051,0.0,0.20756378746138315,0.08171578065115125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482700222234686,0.0,0.20523985208852666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142048618030187,0.0,0.0,0.1093002518128651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710173122971123,0.08242248484783621,0.0896296090872545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812691855048499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059795320658532526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696219135218873,0.11154045829755993,0.0,0.0,0.4934002153573177,0.0,0.0,0.08461108110371582,0.06048421019826111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220105117497854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900600177442255,0.07284564290021785,0.0,0.0,0.06603617730857146
parenting,allylin87,2020/01/10,"Am I raising my kids for failure? Everybody says I have good kids (5yo & 7yo boys) and they really are. They are well-mannered, caring, loving kids. They still play outside and use their imagination, they don't have devices such as iPads and PS4 and rarely have access to the internet. They help around the house and don't really give me much trouble.
I'm just worried that I'm not doing enough to prepare them for the world because of their child-like innocence. They've been through a bit the last 2 years due to their father leaving and my mental breakdown afterwards, but they've handled it pretty well, all things considered.
I want to protect them as much as I can without putting them in bubble wrap but I also don't necessarily want to expose them to the evils of the world if it doesn't affect them.
I don't know if I want advice or if I'm just venting but feel free to comment if you want.",4.9854307116104914,5.922149134831461,5.243314606741574,83.89040262172288,68.88764044943821,7.955805243445692,28.87827715355805,8.07648339933343,1.8148524344569288,718,25,141,9,12,227,107,178,0.069,0.754,0.177,0.9423,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,13,0,7,8,1,0,7,0,14,1,0,2,1,29,27,18,0,8,12,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,7,0,1,3,1,1,1,7,2,1,0,1,2,24,7,18,26,5,10,0,0,0,1,24,4,0,5,5,92,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687400565304794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365643292744332,0.0,0.18502871146918404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202108452807192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409951880897514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18643609487808485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17411091426192538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764505712599999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634620404671077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638176912620418,0.0,0.14323337738335815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144632144736262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19704510653408255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385046618821526,0.13919995704445073,0.0,0.18082027222418665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412616566440082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720955180842642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25107050309982176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373400200458589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167054178380384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187986639679804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580278228591106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637676508373905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134516858672178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749004209535507,0.0,0.0,0.40289716672007264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070846272543313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461573038029784,0.0,0.0,0.17342474431051033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996997667422916
parenting,Sharp_Handle,2020/01/10,"How can I, a single father, help my daughter through puberty? Pretty much just what the title says. My daughter recently turned 12 and I have no idea what to do to help her for when she starts puberty. I know precious little about female puberty except the fact that every single time my sister was on her period, without fail, she turned into the biggest bitch toward me, my mother, and my dad. So does anyone have any advice that could help?",6.731445783132532,7.211382144578316,6.949060240963856,74.80768674698798,64.90361445783131,9.049638554216868,28.648192771084343,8.841846274778883,2.343773012048193,350,10,58,5,5,113,61,83,0.062,0.748,0.18899999999999997,0.9044,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,1,11,10,5,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,13,1,10,8,3,10,0,1,0,0,14,5,1,0,5,47,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21672925453737585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082385450053626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15507974703667868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770801512247245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940886998122469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868664624590695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459806735220117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503723349341771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188921513184504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229044469655712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304014145343432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22563874220491045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21898948724176595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637519788504855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698311370772358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932671713305008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4824846205446646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137962973371938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parenting_abroad,2020/01/10,"Where is the best place to find parenting research? My wife and I are preparing to have children in the near future. While Im sure there is no way to be 100% prepared, we wanted to review the latest research on parenting so we can make good decisions. Its important to us that we find good sources of information. 

1. What is the best place to find information?
2. What are some good topics to dive deep into?

Thanks in advance!",2.4250677506775062,5.044859609756099,3.6486991869918697,85.13112466124663,80.95121951219512,7.059078590785908,24.96476964769648,8.167268648758528,1.8042314363143623,336,13,64,7,9,109,56,82,0.022000000000000002,0.7070000000000001,0.271,0.9739,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,3,3,7,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,15,11,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,13,10,3,14,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,1,3,44,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635743942049495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4749689544092701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358745303522996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871109209497571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562791742946756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38468801524572055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361963020888744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326093788032914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948076835947805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836633675889252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021716077009783,0.13749661594044674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mage1984,2020/01/10,10 month old not sleeping Our 10 month old is still not sleeping through the night. We tried everything. The only night she slept through was when she slept in our bed. We do not want to make a habit from it and always try to put her in her own bed. Be it in our room or in hers. Do you have any suggestions? Pediatrician says nothing is wrong with her,1.0595833333333324,3.3694846805555585,1.8505555555555588,97.82500000000003,84.1388888888889,5.266666666666668,20.11111111111111,6.6274283507984215,-0.029505555555555674,275,8,64,3,8,85,48,72,0.017,0.948,0.035,0.3252,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,7,4,4,1,0,10,11,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,1,12,0,10,7,1,14,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,8,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964880940002489,0.0,0.0,0.13864891942814386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323886047031632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136094946250333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32547842392449605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38266487493847295,0.0,0.1956333367946609,0.0,0.4278864154587727,0.0,0.0,0.15506387296752627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496092750604095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213768492834849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40806486308644857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282297458487852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768493186875932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025676642370348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22291644675292524,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsfrankgrimesyo,2020/01/10,"4 year old always lying about being sick Need advice.

My 4 year old is a sweet girl but she tends to exaggerate or out right lie about not feeling well all the time for attention and it’s driving me crazy.

For example, a year ago she complained about having a tummy ache. To the point where she would scream bloody murder. Took her to the ER, couldn’t find anything after ultrasounds so they directed us to sick kids hospital for further testing. Waited there for hours, tests after tests, found nothing significant and all of a sudden she was completely cured! Dancing and singing! I’m not doubting she wasn’t hurting at all but it was definitely exaggerated. After that incident, my husband and I noticed a pattern.
She would always complain about having a tummy ache in the middle of the night, so she can come sleep in our bed. We let her, but if she’s bored and wide awake, she will tell me it’s still hurting and that she wants to go downstairs and watch tv!
One time she told us her leg was hurting and that she wanted us to hold her, 10 mins later we ask is your leg still hurting, she now points to the other leg and says yes it’s still hurting (forgetting which leg she told us before). If she gets distracted, she forgets and starts running and playing. 
I’m getting tired of this bc many times we’ve wasted our time at the doctors just to find out nothings wrong, or i get worried. I always err on the side of caution and think what if she is telling the truth THIS time and I didn’t do anything about it? I’ve explained to her that she will go to the doctors every time she says she’s sick but I don’t think she cares or understand the consequences or impact. She did it again last night, claimed she wanted to throw up bc she didn’t want to sleep in her own bed (then asked if she could go downstairs to watch tv that’s how I knew she was lying) im dead tired right now and can’t take this anymore. 
Any advice?",3.4318296370967762,5.115673973958334,3.929509408602151,88.95272177419358,73.58333333333334,6.51733870967742,25.40793010752688,7.1029339738359605,1.0009402889784949,1522,50,310,15,31,478,187,384,0.233,0.716,0.051,-0.9978,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,8,1,1,0,18,18,1,2,17,1,25,13,6,1,4,63,56,30,2,13,15,1,1,0,0,4,7,3,2,2,17,19,0,2,10,5,0,9,8,13,2,1,13,7,52,5,38,35,4,57,0,5,2,0,56,18,0,9,30,196,69,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955900098218175,0.06783493690189693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102518977781688,0.0,0.0,0.05203973282594409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589239560125348,0.0,0.0,0.12594737230423012,0.0,0.14308138855813204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511727464845797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802250055424446,0.0,0.0,0.06591964917001353,0.08023517410190617,0.0,0.0,0.061099113194190875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665348741515522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447574763755101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03869342012044466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988521938052526,0.0,0.0,0.08390588785600465,0.0,0.0,0.119943712613549,0.0,0.1304730355180339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753618675869036,0.0,0.4096088315033879,0.0,0.08266030437116305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237821891689699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825216063731052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758450094200389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05674243634753692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362735703823465,0.0,0.14685590945291632,0.08712440164166063,0.16060056459268393,0.0,0.05185542876957264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468202226381713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070413669168682,0.0,0.12171175714155097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316085071748275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416490198177298,0.0,0.18333927441202846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753739649860831,0.0,0.13377272530247292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980684649031552,0.0,0.0,0.26773461648282343,0.17590882777676747,0.0,0.1462461392118973,0.0850222682675109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966539016018359,0.3682013797969429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18054608780257614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688053089656037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777150144001367,0.0,0.10872255582065908,0.08366824912431503,0.0,0.14783908181266042
parenting,missellehaze,2020/01/10,Sleep My 19 month old has never slept through the night. I’m so frustrated/exhausted. We share a room so I don’t sleep well either. Lately he’s been peeing in the bed (through his diaper) almost every night. Does this ever end? What am I doing wrong? How can I help him?,-0.3908080808080783,1.8079812727272755,1.5969696969696976,94.49767676767678,99.9090909090909,4.6262626262626245,13.383838383838384,6.42735559955562,-0.4704949494949498,210,4,44,3,9,69,47,55,0.057,0.794,0.149,0.6082,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,6,4,4,1,2,6,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,7,2,3,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,8,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23822818789318134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081928767004324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21071383140378705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151993212661863,0.20044580862163208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946317235910365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26836798612907764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989405580267596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834875382178083,0.0,0.0,0.4465167567122501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24964200660251484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761550148099843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139057909122916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601125301556332,0.0,0.0
parenting,urbworld_dweller,2020/01/10,"I’m nervous about rocking and bouncing my month old niece. Stupid uncle warning! 

We all know that shaking a baby is dangerous, but I don’t have good sense for what counts as a dangerous level of shaking. Google hasn’t been much help.

My niece (1 month old) loves to be rocked, and I’m extremely careful to stabilize her head and neck when I do it. Can swaying and bouncing cause brain trauma? I’m paranoid about this. She’ll chill right out if she’s crying and I can’t help but think, “Does she just like this or am I turning her into a vegetable?”",2.067454545454545,4.332246472727274,2.8990909090909125,92.08863636363638,79.72727272727272,5.454545454545455,24.54545454545455,6.574015621080383,0.7711818181818182,432,16,88,4,11,136,78,110,0.20600000000000002,0.624,0.17,0.2123,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,4,11,3,3,3,0,11,5,3,1,1,17,19,11,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,0,2,2,0,2,3,7,0,0,1,0,12,4,9,16,2,11,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,2,6,52,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493774337784372,0.0,0.0,0.22776128019175684,0.2294833548064542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453837346505436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954903407589548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736916945910667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292628769376048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994675936760363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276945656298527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913720767184684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016184508109684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566159828837985,0.0,0.16421756053264522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4688210443308938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19077407983457345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313947229398244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429844781599177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spicebagqueen,2020/01/10,"Switching Daycare TDLR: Moving 2 year old to new daycare after spending 1 year + with current daycare. Will he be traumatised??

So my toddler is 2 years since October. He has been at his current daycare since he was 11 months. Loves it. Has got on really well. I like the girls. Don't like the Manager (lies, twists words, has zero interest in childcare). 
 
Moved to a new area which is 15 minutes drive from where we live but we can get on the main road to our places of work so not a huge deal. It still adds on 30minutes a day. We were offered a place in a daycare 10minutes WALK from our house. Same opening hours. Saving 30 minutes a day. Have heard great things, did an hour tour, met all the staff etc. Feel really good about the place. We would be saving petrol as well as about €60 a month. 

We only moved at the start of December to our new area. We were living with my parents but it wasn't working out etc. We have been there since he was born. Big change but he managed it like a champ and we only had a little blip with potty training as he didn't know where the toilet was and new surroundings etc. 

Me and DH are pretty confident that it's a good change for our family, more time at home in the evenings and if we have a day off we can just walk him down instead of driving the 15 minutes there and back twice a day (We only do this if we have appointments or if one of us is working and the other is off ill). My Mother is saying we are traumatising him. He will revert to nappies. He will be upset leaving his friend and that they are now further away from his creche, was 8minutes drive but now it's around 20 minutes. She said if an emergency happened they wouldn't be able to go over. 


I know it's a lot of change for such a little person. I'm upset he's going to miss his friends. I'm upset about leaving the brilliant staff but I know the staff are also equally brilliant at this creche. I'm so torn to just cancel the change. Has anyone else moved daycares?",1.346284276292952,3.632322256218906,2.4684843225731825,94.0160794862895,82.65671641791045,5.033067222029389,21.289135716765013,6.270204493941655,0.20260319333564736,1545,48,327,13,43,491,201,402,0.07,0.7859999999999999,0.145,0.9888,3,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,18,0,2,4,23,19,0,3,29,0,42,2,0,0,1,52,60,24,0,6,13,2,1,3,2,5,1,3,1,2,14,27,0,0,4,0,1,11,5,4,2,3,16,4,34,15,45,35,9,69,0,1,0,1,49,32,0,6,29,213,48,9,0.07948049237919275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356052104012945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055574608285027,0.08143715701252566,0.0,0.07075448906040781,0.0,0.0,0.07467453892806973,0.0611155926015938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33631928879995554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205033369309998,0.08194089766623884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639575266879026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26592527616636324,0.052496115618080486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492713463242688,0.0,0.040187725068509116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228128625045568,0.0,0.041525276831780734,0.0,0.09034119089552176,0.13332893216249458,0.0635678104367978,0.08762752343884693,0.0,0.0,0.07028433692256311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797254142995665,0.0,0.15654454973503984,0.09170981695041236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310412000514716,0.0,0.0,0.16831673070486072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649046158519323,0.15932066727699504,0.1403654618419002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675714723714853,0.07173424749782477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688114145788668,0.3379007400939263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070510192564832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340140669405306,0.0,0.053858038607451336,0.18134548794759348,0.0,0.0,0.08825368090497117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939930024000608,0.2491205939273409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086023450243468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183447726486664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560414910222844,0.06320607765330814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972412538744418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056256701589841834,0.0,0.0634732238831608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280330745893734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04634571427149575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560524615725803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292501574460098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735882351804436,0.0,0.0,0.05646066137944788,0.0,0.0,0.15354849366569115
parenting,awarenessthrowaway11,2020/01/10,"IF YOURE A PARENT OF A TEEN. YOU NEED TO READ THIS. I just wanted to say that if youre a parent of a teenager then please pay special attention to what kind of apps yor kid has installed on phone.

The major one I want to mention here is popular chat application kik. That app is filled with predators hunting for vulnerable teens specially girls to prey on them and abuse. When i say abuse I dont just mean having them send nudes. I mean literal abuse by making them self harm and more stuff that you dont even want to know.

The main places of their target as I know are.

-bdsm groups. Yes teens are doing it and they fall trap to it.
-eating disorder groups. 
-nude selling group. Yes minor girls are selling them

The other apps that are worth mentioning are TUMBLR, DISCORD, VENT.

The reason why kids fall trap to predators is always the fault of parents.",2.6895818568391228,5.184468397590366,3.074861800141744,90.40936569808649,78.87951807228916,5.833593196314671,21.81289865343728,7.048011613610866,0.632899787384833,678,20,133,8,17,209,105,166,0.17800000000000002,0.726,0.096,-0.9526,3,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,0,4,6,0,5,6,0,0,9,2,13,3,2,2,0,19,22,8,0,6,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,10,4,1,0,6,2,4,4,2,2,0,1,0,2,16,4,19,22,3,9,0,0,0,2,28,3,0,2,2,81,26,2,0.0,0.4817678806528731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277772010442677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553372524462577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176969301743565,0.0,0.0,0.13868828433738165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952097250165562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114102669916542,0.14897528484756975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904720629052927,0.0,0.0,0.29527925949791545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049903803611716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184344282246636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514937104456585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160741593920018,0.14877902851135438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355737725584947,0.0,0.0,0.13935470660735394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21556907488943847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413947488925186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551575460030902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398298695822242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223011461556061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LTBT03,2020/01/10,"The phrase “raising children” is very inaccurate Discipline might have been a better flair, but I wasn’t sure, and I figured it was less smacking related and more what do you think related, so I picked discussion.

I have 4 year old twin girls, and an older 16 year old son.

And I was thinking about This over the last few days

Raising children is very inaccurate. The correct phrase is raising an adult. Kids already know how to be kids. But they need to be taught about being an adult.

That is all. Have a nice life.",2.8357575757575764,5.323910202020206,3.2891818181818198,89.11377272727276,78.2929292929293,6.384242424242425,26.061616161616165,7.554174236665415,1.4067446464646474,406,16,80,6,10,126,65,99,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.8225,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,1,1,4,3,0,0,8,0,16,1,0,2,3,18,21,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,4,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,7,3,5,12,4,8,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,7,52,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686464569622661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21530639413476366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700121077604334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337904305617081,0.19843931461990852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195166427100442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582555641667233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805106072949917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5109069562855018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294430456945607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31197811189727936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017335152850462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31353984962844245
parenting,Rosesareredare,2020/01/10,"Worried about having a second baby so soon & suffering from exhaustion, possible PREpartum depression Found out I was pregnant only 9 months after giving birth to my first child. It honestly came as a shock because it had taken 5 years to get pregnant the first time, plus ‘natural family planning’, and I thought breastfeeding would lower the odds of conception even more. Now I know that’s not the case. We did want a second soon, but this just seems SO soon. 

I’m practically panicking about what will happen when this new baby is born since I know how difficult having just one was. 

Morning sickness has me feeling so exhausted and sick, plus my LO has been extra fussy & difficult lately, especially at night. My mom came to visit over Christmas and even she thought the baby was hard to handle. 

I’m feeling like I just hate motherhood lately and I’m finding it hard to enjoy being around my LO. I know this is from the lack of sleep and general exhaustion from pregnancy, but it sucks. I have insomnia now even when the baby does sleep just because I’m so used to being on high alert all night. 

Anyone else been through this? Just had to get it off my chest :(",5.856606060606063,7.09106841818182,6.113636363636362,77.35378787878791,67.0909090909091,9.503030303030306,30.57575757575757,9.725611199111238,2.962130303030304,932,35,164,20,15,298,131,220,0.21,0.715,0.075,-0.9869,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,3,23,13,2,0,9,0,19,9,3,2,1,37,43,17,0,3,8,1,4,1,0,2,6,0,0,1,11,12,0,0,10,0,0,3,1,10,0,5,14,4,15,3,25,25,4,30,0,2,0,0,6,7,1,1,21,116,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717893439473401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769797045899429,0.12850964874678442,0.0,0.11165216063488917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291215994355167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28689868374100297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802577478098803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097576272066866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477397746623507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24852012126156914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823668834283114,0.0,0.12683425163508855,0.08960149353589095,0.0,0.0,0.1146334251386358,0.21336775843291614,0.0,0.13751873653023206,0.0,0.0,0.13105562461971376,0.12031619979825013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091025008314097,0.0,0.22470693234028066,0.12382824729862182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251521683403988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067859341821276,0.0,0.2829629317063312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127484819720741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468927168973283,0.10011063450333968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113333789981055,0.0,0.2354000794910969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498918525077909,0.09538907386945834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139444686167196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141794676710378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037503648360466,0.0,0.2510251332148486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914209795159735,0.07313457002228961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083243283206303,0.0,0.0,0.07397713829897155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737211729499345,0.0,0.08909618198935892,0.0,0.0,0.08076764837431975
parenting,ayyecee1_,2020/01/10,Mother to be I'm 10 going on 11 weeks pregnant and my husband has asked me if I have decided if I wanted to breastfeed or formula. And I haven't. I've done a lot of research and practically everything say breastfeeding includes the vitamins and nutrients more than the formula. Now I wanna reach out to the world on everyone's opinion. Any mothers out there care to make their statement? I'm open to all opinions. Also is it to early to be thinking about this or should I wait? Thank you.,3.0377083333333346,5.312283187500004,4.672083333333337,80.56458333333337,76.5,8.016666666666666,30.458333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.871070833333334,390,19,71,9,9,131,70,96,0.0,0.92,0.08,0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,1,1,23,18,9,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,9,2,15,14,3,10,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,7,3,52,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509282686908959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21337989808531027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29334020805366245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199177304062901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211039831393424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998284636162389,0.2820035636317251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832735046786866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26676295753407153,0.0,0.0,0.20944934789680825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495289745386681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888847579162735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20105636510863906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507447926312576,0.0,0.2516939006108509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toxic1699,2020/01/10,"Dad Trigger maybe ?

I can talk about anything with my partner except about my dad. It hurts to much and I feel ashamed. Ik its not my fault but I'm still ashamed. Sometimes I just want to cry and talk about it but I just can't. I can talk about it with a close friend but not my partner idk why. All he knows its that he is an selfish alcholic. I never go deep into it. Maybe because I hope that he'll change ome day and I dont want him to see him bad ? But Ik he will never 😓



That he maybe a potential pedo. Ik I should hate him for it. He never abused me atleast I think. I came to find out when I was a teen. I love him, he was my bestfriend at one point. I was a daddy's girl.",-1.5287086092715219,0.4120262450331147,0.5611225165562921,104.48698178807949,94.49668874172184,3.284900662251656,16.159271523178813,4.406508900861427,-1.2697260927152314,517,13,134,1,20,169,85,151,0.165,0.691,0.145,-0.7379,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,8,10,1,2,5,0,10,1,0,1,4,31,23,8,0,4,9,2,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,3,10,9,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,7,0,1,4,2,24,3,15,16,2,14,0,1,1,1,21,6,0,1,6,83,34,0,0.0,0.1832174791382314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272516308274028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911397042522524,0.09426421005671284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686152493784574,0.0,0.0,0.1635835852686032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985955547964302,0.09972694034620444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18123135543288896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818822612230157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133381244209564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947080666874947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788277328283109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267029016686262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535876895863996,0.0,0.0,0.16554022797460874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498348657038758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956434594174313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4660556638633875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367469760679468,0.0,0.3577927016267317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478484397821317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618028901789934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322426954248936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529382112809292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349190637757496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37286985726575533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908402107446967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824157478799074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953425660494734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeartsPlayer721,2020/01/10,"8yo waking up more than once in the first 2-3 hours of sleep; emotions, nightmares, possibly night terrors I need help with how to handle my 8yo son waking up at night. It's usually the first 2-3 hours after putting him to bed. I'm certain that he's actually falling asleep and then waking up (he like like he's tired and just woke up, sometimes his hair and nose are wet from sweating), and he doesn't have much trouble going back to sleep, but it's definitely taking away time from his sleep and he's a little grumpier the following days. 

Sometimes it sounds like something just woke him up (maybe a dream, but he says he doesn't remember or know) and he can't get back to sleep. We hug him and ask him what's wrong (sometimes he'll explain, other times it's I don't know or I just can't sleep), then we'll take him back to bed and he goes back to sleep. 

Around October, he was sick with a slight fever and he experienced what I'm almost certain were a few episodes of night terrors: he woke screaming or crying, sat up in bed with his eyes clearly open, fidgeting with his hand in a weird way either with his blankets or by themselves, and he seemed to talk nonsense (""why is this blue?"" ""why are you doing this to me?"" ""help me get this off of me"") or mumbled in a way that we couldn't understand. That's when I started paying closer attention to his wake ups. But he hasn't had any like those since.

2 weeks ago our baby passed away from SIDS. He's taking it very hard, but he's been slowly working his way back to normal. He woke up a couple times a night for maybe 3 or 4 days that first week, usually telling us that he was just sad, thinking about the baby. So we cuddled him, talked with him for a while, cried with him, and eventually put him back to bed and he seemed to go back to sleep. This week, it's been less and less simple wake ups from being sad and more nightmares or night terrors; at least he's the one telling us it's nightmares (though most of the time he says he can't remember what the nightmare was about). He's woken up once tonight from a nightmare and couldn't remember it, and just now he woke up and was very calm as he came to my room, but he was struggling with words and talked a bit of nonsense about taking pictures of his room (he clarified that he wanted me to come take a picture of his room, that he wasn't talking about his dream or a picture off his wall)... I'm not sure if this was a night terror, but his gibberish has me wondering. 

I understand if the extra wake ups over the last two weeks were sadness and emotions about the baby. It's a lot to process for a boy. I just wish I knew what we could do to help him at night. My husband has a lot of trouble sleeping every now and then; I've never had trouble sleeping in my life (aside from temporary physical issues while pregnant), so the thought of having to live life that way sounds terrible, and I don't want him to have to grow up with that!",5.43406496927129,4.997221180762857,5.572867525119499,86.69636303775243,67.70646766169155,8.553487464637596,29.84143010438006,7.724431198458867,1.633342834845381,2304,73,504,22,34,728,234,603,0.11900000000000001,0.789,0.092,-0.9685,0,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,8,1,0,4,26,24,0,5,28,0,36,28,21,1,5,96,76,48,0,10,24,2,4,4,0,2,5,5,7,1,29,38,0,0,15,2,1,10,13,15,0,5,23,13,49,9,83,47,13,93,0,3,2,2,78,34,0,17,49,305,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.05282853331066496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04798794019692236,0.0,0.054208980311705915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03681406220406447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04819215855369997,0.05060947522771445,0.0,0.10172435043304476,0.29138852636916435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059102050695067965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191670083710765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04663302313891076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04322286898104021,0.059900008169617276,0.11893082211807425,0.0698259628032271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179051986713088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045611575142426836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814313291623195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056567229913989214,0.0,0.061533014419056675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04849486140653531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885784819132524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066253160998394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056503498176317994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950301645224675,0.0441277367634859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764751459813088,0.1057916723825932,0.05425808991242238,0.04780272377327794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204829696256754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087729665831692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03979589256025055,0.04014085906811141,0.04175270959603035,0.0,0.0,0.3556181323727344,0.05304139077600463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530528756740872,0.036683681423317314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102975135477246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088424542467587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183975234168276,0.0,0.0,0.08610159881799427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856602824863328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044781525084258735,0.0,0.4875722358106377,0.0,0.0,0.0416762272328108,0.16062446839873426,0.0,0.03831745404042378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056594279860288615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102215930353885,0.0,0.20351615762943345,0.17404856831062,0.09463379543019636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034687904521696324,0.05318794898206406,0.042977616844258916,0.1262676073343989,0.062220904838979615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052882611851301435,0.11271413089983935,0.13023691478974375,0.0,0.11924542328336472,0.08933507377569737,0.06386115518017116,0.1718812677005021,0.17369724133558162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769791169416757,0.0,0.06225326463220233,0.0,0.058707745445853984,0.03941135921298524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059188776738532685,0.0,0.0
parenting,SheStillMay,2020/01/10,"Four year old waking up multiple times per night For the last few months my four year old has been coming to our room in the middle of the night crying and we have to walk her back to bed. When we ask her about it in the morning, she says she was scared. Sometimes it’s two or three times per night. 

Since this first started happening we have been doing everything we can to make her feel safe at night. We got a nightlight for her room with soft light. We tell her that her animals will keep her safe. We make her go potty right before bed and make sure the room isn’t too warm. My mom bought butterflies to stick on her wall and told her they will protect her. We make sure there is no screen time right before bed - we read books and sing songs and sometimes I lay down with her for a few minutes before bed. 

We’ve tried taking away her tablet and other privileges the day after she doesn’t stay in her room and tell her she can have them back when she stays in her room like a big girl (this is how desperate we are getting). The first time we did this it worked for five days. Now we’re right back where we started. 

Recently we got a new dog that is requiring a lot of attention, but we try our best to make sure she is still getting what she needs and spending time with her (the wake ups were already happening).  So, now when she wakes up, she also wakes up the dog. 

My husband and I are barely making it, we are so tired. It’s getting to the point where I’m afraid to go back to sleep because I’m anticipating a scream-cry wake up. I don’t want her to think she can’t come get us in an emergency, but we need sleep. Something has to change. 

We don’t know what else to do. Please help.",4.314888311688311,4.548461320000005,4.403688311688313,91.82612987012988,70.08571428571429,7.849350649350648,24.19480519480519,7.520522993642371,0.7194571428571428,1322,29,306,13,22,409,174,350,0.044000000000000004,0.87,0.086,0.8987,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,20,0,2,5,19,11,0,2,17,0,28,8,7,7,3,56,61,19,0,3,3,2,3,1,0,2,1,2,9,1,13,31,0,5,4,4,2,5,6,2,0,7,9,7,56,9,37,50,4,69,0,0,1,0,59,28,0,2,35,193,69,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050090315356617,0.06558396801645203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666898163087985,0.0,0.07705180027724726,0.2522448214644954,0.0,0.04999299266777149,0.0,0.2093553263993048,0.0,0.08606522360696987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675650041495968,0.1412900006705328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801699182868184,0.10578029974488798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850945914538606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370597499531377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04146709989811154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139516605962709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138893030095756,0.0,0.09321719956510946,0.0,0.13118297894161945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504367268722218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05497007774272426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289492373457443,0.0,0.0,0.04507096403225511,0.06684970796692431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04006631045918964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972260784391829,0.0,0.0,0.32845687905619503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605000049058357,0.06546019909128183,0.0,0.0,0.1216198655565374,0.0,0.07920649444339095,0.0,0.3078461373467116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211297514998292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002317732971933,0.07752666799676995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203294436326401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097572284996153,0.0,0.0,0.2101101999934163,0.0,0.06521824093674078,0.08210706873160033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784014077679403,0.0,0.16413995654588884,0.0,0.0,0.06313588287133573,0.16222145967360385,0.0,0.11609526345606427,0.17482509756711428,0.06549389175752797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318824870329033,0.0,0.06166187845525675,0.0,0.14336202244446442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052549177849037995,0.0,0.0,0.23910564236583,0.09425929410831167,0.0,0.0783647871593624,0.0,0.11135983332510938,0.0,0.08011258718604737,0.0,0.09864883584298983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048372065817767054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597048035363482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562446974684277
parenting,overandunderthehill,2020/01/10,"How to handle what I'm assuming is a form of PTSD For a little back ground barley a month after my daughter turned two we were getting ready for a yard sale. I was in the garage with my daughter when I my uncle and brother pulled up and parked across the street. She saw them and took off before I realized and she was hit by a car. He wasn't paying attention and her uncles nor I were able to stop either of them. He managed to slow down, but there was still impact at 20mph. She survived with road rash and a lost tooth. 

It's been two months and I'm still haunted by the images of seeing my two year old hit by a car and in a hospital bed. I just don't know what to do in these situations.

Before I get branded as a bad mother who needs to loose her child: 1. Toddlers are fast. 2. Parking has to be done across the street. 3. The legal speed limit is 25mph but people do 50mph. 4. The man had plenty of time to stop but he wasn't paying attention or listening to four people screaming for him to stop. 5. I was not investigated by cps and even her doctor said it was an unfortunate accident and the city needed to install speed bumps on my residential street. 

I just need to know the best was to cope with this type of trauma.",1.3221011673151786,3.3075804785992204,3.0658926070038923,91.39146147859924,80.78988326848248,5.824062256809339,19.22941634241245,6.918507183188421,0.14805724513618654,961,23,211,11,25,319,151,257,0.151,0.7979999999999999,0.051,-0.98,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,2,4,9,5,0,0,18,0,21,3,2,1,0,36,39,18,0,3,8,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,2,7,14,0,4,6,1,3,4,5,4,0,4,17,5,23,1,39,19,3,37,0,1,2,0,22,16,0,2,17,140,30,6,0.14343562050292002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029313841427801,0.11976275181006725,0.0,0.0,0.24410629703069334,0.0,0.15052683444326587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681243547238745,0.0,0.14678443955824516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473787456862358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987838325171915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765693172572506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376017363348365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156576923613436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228977887659578,0.0,0.0,0.3190670854103013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051155524936854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888039805564425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676685646168578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364401215248682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429961886843767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612276471621966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290957436339525,0.35975580408711355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836384637939575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936225205966748,0.0,0.1560167665318921,0.4203472776616106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236783688233606
parenting,VanArielDZ,2020/01/10,"Potty Training-Help. Is it too soon? My daughter will be 18 months old next week.  We introduced a potty chair a few months ago but have not pushed it with her.  Over the last month she has  consistently used her ASL sign for ‘potty’ and also tells us when she goes “poo-poo” or “pee-pee”.  This last month we have started rewarding her with stickers when she poops on the potty, which she has done every day at least once for the past few weeks.  She does tell me when she has to pee but we have only made it to the potty a handful of times.  Usually she ends up peeing in her diaper or near the toilet.  
Is it too soon to potty train? All the articles I’ve found online discuss aversions to pooping in the toilet but don’t talk about the reverse if that makes sense.  Any advice is appreciated.",3.591666666666669,5.007736484076432,4.3188694267515935,87.40127653927816,72.69426751592357,7.016772823779192,22.637473460721868,7.492282038375204,0.7692849256900214,616,15,127,7,12,197,102,157,0.017,0.924,0.06,0.8299,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,1,10,1,0,0,11,0,13,5,5,3,1,19,18,11,0,1,7,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,17,1,17,13,4,30,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,3,22,85,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158964385006942,0.1442018060535116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009134965053368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062475772471016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104912087332063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423582195597413,0.1664732744648106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408199910901331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370609258387221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836503017401534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903780024642408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652041038742775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392726788666716,0.10858700174943076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193833740612501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730069885122296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070032438425586,0.17324384675096158,0.0,0.1237218685124914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529194634226484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514238896954992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075221497540448,0.2843707014456948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485725449434737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956783126182482,0.14049919725114401,0.17916382043607132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609765683244508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,manatoe,2020/01/10,"My kid doesn’t do anything on her own! My daughter is seven. She is not a terrible kid. She is polite, well mannered and a friend to all. Her major downfall is that she doesn’t do anything on her own. I have check on her consistently. I have to check on her when she’s  taking a shower, when she’s getting ready for school, when she’s getting shoes on, when she’s taking ten minutes to get out of the damn car! She doesn’t finish anything. She gets so distracted. She can’t stay on task. She can’t sit still. I try to reward her doesn’t work. I try to take away from her doesn’t work. I love her to too pieces but it drives me crazy and I waste so much time checking on her that I can’t get anything done in a timely manner or stay on task. I don’t want to be up her ass all the time. I just want to figure out a way to help her. It’s like she’s struggling. I am thinking about finding out if she ADHD or something similar. I am not sure if this is normal for a kid her age or not.",0.5504883720930245,2.176784176744185,2.433197674418608,96.76468023255815,81.65116279069767,5.044186046511628,19.587209302325586,5.6839178017228535,-0.35471627906976755,758,19,183,4,20,252,101,215,0.10300000000000001,0.79,0.107,-0.6551,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,3,11,10,1,2,8,0,22,3,2,0,3,24,34,14,0,5,10,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,5,0,0,3,0,3,2,12,4,1,2,1,0,39,6,28,32,7,30,0,0,0,2,32,14,2,5,11,131,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064297495637076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673788187443941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340317500878426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530386537127132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977521364229855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097002139230259,0.0,0.3709165032685561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517211635513917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936856772861003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815045811389153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437812376772483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13911890135013505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437002712515465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930993437808104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026823903238558,0.11339245900417805,0.0,0.0,0.14843754889676158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382278712855744,0.0,0.3202737768620068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098070575818858,0.0,0.0,0.2483844769830951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192802183473517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749737549557353,0.11270412019427956,0.0,0.0,0.12766500578514592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206739111256729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,j_marine,2020/01/10,"Divorce I’m in the middle of a nasty divorce. On top of that, we share two children; Waverly 2 and George 8 months. So there’s also a custody battle. He wants more than joint. It’s just all taking a toll on me and the kids. Please tell me it will get better.",-0.4597922077922085,1.7079121636363652,1.6342857142857168,97.34000000000002,91.0,3.8701298701298703,16.948051948051948,5.288315135182226,-0.7058311688311689,199,5,45,1,7,66,45,55,0.11,0.727,0.163,0.25,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,4,3,1,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,6,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,1,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32199545399933777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561072165029253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210365650675764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213877897719889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4419838373834645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30273929968177143,0.0,0.3519299068004597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933261384178805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23749074301162365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuperZed92,2020/01/10,"Parenting Poo I am a fairly new parent, given I have 2 daughters, a 3 year old and 4 month old. This has presented some very rich comedy but today was one of the greats. 

My wife states that she has to take a poop and asks that I hold the little one since she's not feeling well. My 3 year old must have heard this from her bedroom because she barreled down to the living room and said ""I have to poop right now"" being the bossy creature she is, she started bolting for the bathroom and my wife set out after her. Lol they start arguing about who actually needs to poop , saying things like Wife:""no kid, I actually have to poop and I don't want to  have an accident"", Daughter:  ""no, I pooped my pants, I have to poop right now, you wait here now."" My kid exaggerated a bit. My wife barely won the battle by quickly distracting my kid with the dog, shutting the door and locking her out.

The sweet Joy's of evil toddler comedy.",4.077357859531773,5.116902956521741,4.8723913043478255,85.3394983277592,71.06521739130434,7.835451505016723,26.653846153846153,8.139509932561175,1.5164143812709026,720,23,149,10,13,233,114,184,0.115,0.7659999999999999,0.12,0.4498,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,1,1,7,11,3,1,14,1,14,6,6,0,1,18,26,7,0,3,2,7,1,1,0,1,0,3,3,3,6,9,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,4,1,2,5,5,25,7,18,19,2,26,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,1,17,95,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.3044996485470296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585458325489406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510635143594913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032986283402834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788867472317137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200899728156302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622189430820074,0.15636975204297784,0.13776563228583275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453106660798277,0.0,0.0,0.11568442953675788,0.0,0.1506819314979506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4911399446542892,0.0,0.21144195003718386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464762340217263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26647487250392904,0.1484076391417781,0.12407076695295913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905865254074705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22085889115855034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730516557667485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036505838887532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788561891762422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873014289292795,0.09202271050104928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402777784872424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093931977100812
parenting,dafnipatitas,2020/01/10,What do you call... What do you call parents who are too ignorant to see the needs and wants of their children. Im talking about the type of parents who think that feeding and clothing is enough for the kid?,2.4201219512195142,4.688625097560977,2.509939024390245,95.32393292682929,78.51219512195122,5.0756097560975615,27.32317073170732,5.985473137389443,0.8134341463414638,163,7,34,1,4,49,31,41,0.051,0.9490000000000001,0.0,-0.2732,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,5,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,12,0,0,0,0,24,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5472517954662124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27688319272722506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28945206788467537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869531890253836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.595094828982348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213536277416062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538300741352287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170345655294242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805482105499938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toby_flenderson21,2020/01/10,"Only momma How do you deal with being the favorite? I need some advice. My children are 4 and 3 and only want me, for everything! Meals,drinks, butt wiping; only mom! My husband is a great Dad, he spends time with them,  interacts with them, etc. But my little ingrates will still throw fits to have me do things instead. They fight over who gets to sit with me, they even tell my husband they love him but love momma more. I know my husband gets discouraged by all of this.  We just can't find a solution. Help us, please!",1.429117647058824,3.949515539215685,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,84.78431372549021,4.968627450980391,19.284313725490197,6.42735559955562,0.0749254901960783,403,11,82,4,12,126,77,102,0.095,0.746,0.159,0.8045,0,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,2,1,5,0,5,5,1,0,3,0,8,3,1,1,1,18,15,5,0,2,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,19,3,10,13,4,7,0,1,0,3,26,3,1,1,2,56,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189249200569494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20245095821342785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236984684387134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900674147008772,0.12970188528630408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648653407060216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948049375437025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051925796301261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21650087552523228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162404403471736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792094168456788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968163802940608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544668793306964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229988568567752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560738493433262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4480493727590514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155575386385639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568229707268128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163782488586626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046086260176054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450612002772716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362113943833727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582532138752034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,youknowwhy123,2020/01/10,"Child afraid of the dark but leaving the light on wakes her up. Help! So my 3 year old girl is suddenly afraid of the dark (never been an issue ever). The routine at bed time has always been bath, bed and a few books, light out (always had a red nightlight) and that’s it. Then it escalated to leaving her lamp on to fall asleep to and then when I came to bed I’d turn her lamp out and no issues. 

But suddenly she stated waking during the night, crying and being afraid of the dark begging for the lamp to go back on. After a week of this I allowed the lamp to stay on through the night and it cured everything..... until now. So it’s been about 3 months of this will zero issues but now all of sudden (the last 7 consecutive nights) she’s waking around 1am/2am and isn’t going back to sleep until around 5am or so. I’m convinced it’s because she’s waking and the light is on and it’s stopping her going back off. 

So I’m caught in a cycle. Lights off; waking and crying. Lights on; waking on messing about. 

It’s now 04:16 and I’m up for for work in 2 hours and have been up since 2am constantly going in her room and telling her off/to go back to sleep. 

Any advice from people been through this phase??",2.390219123505979,3.744674426294825,3.549121513944222,91.97005677290838,75.65338645418328,5.976175298804781,20.51812749003984,6.2581,0.022603027888446814,935,20,207,6,20,303,120,251,0.057,0.912,0.031,-0.7298,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,0,1,17,5,0,3,16,0,13,9,9,1,3,27,24,26,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,2,11,18,0,1,0,2,0,8,3,4,0,1,8,6,12,1,45,14,2,61,0,0,1,0,13,21,0,1,30,134,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540001058983905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652720133652501,0.0,0.0,0.08030791433170666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21025725002242596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36322773592304897,0.0,0.07198895673379826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350679824183969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761757248573455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594412488661265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682271047215564,0.0,0.0,0.10613519939126666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355774773743725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915586439428299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162987217149818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697781080908131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626230552907776,0.0,0.2500888169834327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942614392277823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108131036363692,0.0,0.0,0.33246942840660343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391970214442585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187145381823989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768850990078384,0.0,0.23635840943938924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258724044425371,0.0,0.09873180393213377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321929014741273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886151368240571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284522720274635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472781826893577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597377930825299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604861178412423
parenting,123123jj123,2020/01/10,"I was never in my son's life and now I'm a single dad, help! So before my son was born my ex moved states and I never got to meet him. I looked for 4 years and when I found them (he looks just like me which means he will win most attractive male before he hits puberty) a court battle followed, they said the best thing I could get was visitation rights but I ultimately lost because they said I had been out for his life for too long. Anyway fast forward 2 more years of being in and out of court, she got a boyfriend who didn't want kids and didn't like my son, so she was ready to give me shared custody which turned into full custody. Yes full custody. We stayed in her state for 4 months trying to get in contact with her but to no avail so we went back to my home state because I have to get back to work because well I got a kid now. I need advice on how to raise a kid, his mom is out of picture for now at least I just don't understand how you can give up your child for some person you are dating. he's almost 7 now and he obviously misses his mom and he's lives with his dad who barley knows. I didn't anticipate having full custody I just wanted to be in my son's life but now I'm a single dad. Advice please!",2.9246810308407305,3.4579302661596967,4.106812420785808,91.64274503591044,73.33460076045627,6.909083227714406,21.835445711871568,6.691623216298621,0.2224644697929872,952,19,225,7,18,312,140,263,0.044000000000000004,0.8370000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.9595,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,2,3,3,4,19,10,1,0,7,1,19,3,0,2,3,37,46,16,0,4,6,10,0,2,0,1,3,2,1,6,5,15,0,0,4,0,0,5,7,3,1,0,17,4,38,7,32,24,10,42,0,2,2,0,50,17,0,3,20,143,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365168501187166,0.0,0.0,0.12118310767849165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611237455084964,0.0,0.22131628761968755,0.0,0.20595661360433307,0.0,0.12700203745508867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966238722031756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269115313548274,0.0,0.0,0.18968239231740386,0.23218501994598,0.0,0.0,0.2903699933627623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111652511671663,0.0,0.12139198472695195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650891059438158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564380236510394,0.11824759986362547,0.0,0.10686204737725744,0.10709806007806626,0.20325106237030785,0.0,0.13210660006838254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182523457106465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28347212145925343,0.0965962593064741,0.12862410889011425,0.0,0.08973409975224501,0.18667471971436211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566917549203347,0.0,0.13284258681841393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334961622098207,0.230233678777178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899021613365153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039968620925339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216399801349397,0.1316339860596306,0.0,0.1259851096919941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276035446843496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088106689742364,0.11218588129460123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810331719579634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558646140771317
parenting,momshissler,2020/01/10,"Kids song that get stuck in your head. This has most likely been done before but I’m new so I thought why not.

Everyone knows baby shark, we turn it on and do a dance party. But what are some songs that get into your head. Do you like them or hate them. 

Personally I have a few “wiggles” song on my play list, you know... for the kids. 

Currently the song that is on repeat in my head is some odd YouTube video. Like I said I’m new so I’m sure if I’m allowed to post it as it’s not mine and involves a kid. It’s moo cow, what sound do you make. A girl sings it. “Moo, moo, moo cow what sound do you make. “Then some other lines then, “yes your a moo cow.” I sing it and add in different things, Mar, mar, mar, mar-ilyn what sound do you make, yes your a laughing baby. Or my cat, yes your a grumpy cat. Today I stepped on a lego and made up a verse about legos, I did one about meatballs last night. The kid’s keep telling me to stop but I don’t even realize I’m doing it. 

I can’t tell you if it’s better or worse then the last one I had, 1, 2, 3, 4 monsters knocking at your door.",-0.8034550743374282,1.0029349957983198,1.2673949579831962,102.27998060762769,87.69747899159663,4.501874595992243,15.876535229476405,5.634304966280588,-1.0062836457659985,811,16,214,5,26,268,126,238,0.067,0.7879999999999999,0.145,0.9631,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,12,2,1,5,8,1,0,13,3,17,3,3,5,1,33,36,18,0,2,10,0,0,3,0,0,0,8,1,6,18,7,0,2,4,9,0,2,4,1,0,2,8,8,29,7,16,28,5,25,0,0,0,0,25,10,0,9,15,120,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421031738046726,0.0,0.0,0.12909922501276558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250831681839666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937870956889876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641227294222583,0.0,0.0,0.13948126257774768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252733566169785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411584924280735,0.4494241628473142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974546816965785,0.0,0.0,0.1604433622981933,0.2379712115141329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21394173731302416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812100902260396,0.2923097340897404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819588299743533,0.0,0.13698361685549498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978270528102133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274559878947401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979958386999602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885156592992345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203804421455768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757566050358985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551696574583792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697644922951128,0.0,0.0,0.11588443344868456,0.0,0.0,0.1383631589584898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158774208804322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317158555676244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148756617435445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,craftymama0808,2020/01/10,"son just came out I am a single mom, getting married soon with a son and daughter close in age.  Today my son told me he is gay.  He's 12. There was no screaming, there was no crying.  I hugged him and said I loved him.  I asked him questions, but he didn't want to talk much. Or rather didn't seem able to explain himself.  He expressed that he was worried about telling me.

I was not really surprised by this news, but it did take me off guard.  My son has Autism (high functioning), so communicating with people can be difficult for him.  I suppose part of me wonders if he truly understands what all this means, as he's never done well with social things and ideas/happenings fly over his head.  I tried to talk with him more about it.

Any suggestions on questions to ask and how to approach him?  I know of course with love and kindness.

Also I promised that I would not tell anyone in his life, that that was for him to do, but that also means I don't have anyone to talk to myself.  He did say he told his whole class, and they were handling it fine and being kind to him - which made me feel good because I know acceptance is difficult.  He attends a small private religious school, which I also teach at.  I figure I will take each day as it comes, but right now I am trying to process myself.",4.083759689922484,5.039037918604657,4.452713178294577,88.6680620155039,70.97674418604652,7.283720930232557,26.348837209302324,7.3871296695380915,1.1429674418604652,1005,31,212,10,18,316,151,258,0.08199999999999999,0.7859999999999999,0.132,0.9619,0,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,1,0,14,14,0,0,3,0,24,6,1,2,2,48,47,20,0,4,10,6,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,15,17,0,1,13,0,0,4,8,3,1,0,16,4,38,11,31,27,7,21,0,0,0,4,48,11,0,6,6,148,53,3,0.11485590649389744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755506807806212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810595499270671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061984070675106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147495363282104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700150945446981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136455906640174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893819340750404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616382006566962,0.0740725578964923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753746946225074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058074597357168786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060007470640340475,0.0,0.0,0.09633568506550697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156669879509728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178752959925645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135157123765067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23920950422062434,0.12624360493519127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112612344933387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732387976945094,0.10867943582416403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25022350666925924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451784953257698,0.0,0.0,0.08443230676299418,0.0,0.08858395573013003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437775410651054,0.0,0.07962662385555462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573298025644232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357963475356143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808631658377727,0.10925426881363297,0.09133802682247696,0.0,0.11624030923602137,0.0,0.1045605035858776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708113252515916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727146953789647,0.2769504809261469,0.2007782495093376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630516070708096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886996960757003,0.21949948139331832,0.0,0.15595924233929068,0.0,0.0,0.11956904927124473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774498946402623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326925357786418,0.0,0.0,0.12823251785954864,0.0,0.0,0.1245563311676835,0.0,0.11664174828292867,0.0,0.081590340596319,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cookiem0nster1983,2020/01/10,"2 month old hates being held horizontally Has anyone experienced this? Our 2mo boy cries and screams when held either side horizontally (he's fine on his back on the change table). Is there anything you can suggest I try in order to get him to enjoy being on his side.

He is impossible to settle off the breast at the moment, its the only way we can get him to sleep - god help us if he stops liking that.",3.0065357142857145,4.982716725000003,4.649642857142863,82.08250000000002,75.5,6.571428571428572,20.17857142857143,7.447530270364453,0.5631071428571435,318,7,63,4,7,107,61,80,0.105,0.7559999999999999,0.139,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,0,3,5,1,0,4,0,7,2,2,0,0,7,12,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,9,3,10,8,1,16,0,0,0,1,14,8,0,1,7,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910662587237288,0.0,0.22486559302611026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101162381240966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890675716420011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001578009313516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855289324226542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26978275337314656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831570753783119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334985968048034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810954452994416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28673516991071896,0.0,0.0,0.20782275087974492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734523547008021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284534265832691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855222170314552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286921358751159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689711050284224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adamnshamef,2020/01/10,"Which school to pick? We’re in an odd situation where we have 3 choices for the school our youngest child will attend next year (which will be 2nd grade).  I’m really having a hard time choosing, and would love some advice.

School A: his current school, and the school one older sibling goes to (but will be leaving at the end of the year).  It’s very small (350 kids PK-5), and has strong arts, music and drama programs.  It also has great special ed supports (our son has an IEP - he has ADHD and needs a lot of behavior support), and all of the classes are ICT.  Academically, it’s okay - not amazing, not terrible; school leadership is okay, but still fairly inexperienced and many of the veteran teachers have left.  It’s very racially and economically diverse.  The downside is it’s a 45+ min bus ride away, and because we live so far, he almost never sees his friends from school outside of school, and doesn’t have any friends in our neighborhood.  Not much of a strong sense of school community - pretty unengaged families.

School B: the school in our neighborhood - a 5 minute walk away.  It’s huge (900+ students K-5), but the school leadership is excellent.  Our oldest child went there, and had a mixed experience.  Academically, it’s the best school of our three choices, but there’s not much focus on arts education, and it’s very racially and economically homogenous (mostly families from our background).  Not known to do great work with kids with special needs.  Has the strongest school community and family-school connection, but also has an (over)active PTA - parents who can be pretty over-the-top and competitive child-rearing is the spirit.

School C: a mid-sized (650ish students) K-8 school where our older child will be going next year (so the kids could be in the same school again - a logistic win).  Located about 20 minutes away by bus.  Okay academically and arts-wise.  Rumored to have support for special education, but also rumored to have issues with bullying and weak school leadership.  Economically diverse but not very racially diverse (and our kids would be in the minority group).  Rumored to have a pretty lackluster family-school connection/community.

If we lived close to school A, that would be our choice, hands down.  However, we can’t move, and our son has already started to feel left out because he’s not around after school and weekends to play in the neighborhood, and he hates being on the bus for so long.  School B would be great from a logistics standpoint- close enough to walk!  Tons of local kids! - but I worry that the size is just too big and he would get lost in the ocean of kids - especially in a school not known to support IEPs.  It would be nice to have the kids in the same school (School C), but I worry that the elementary-aged kids are negatively influenced by the middle schoolers in the building (it’s a weird layout, and they have far more contact with each other than I’d like).  Our son is a pretty average, good kid who prefers sports to schoolwork and loves to socialize, and we think it’s important he go to school with people who have a wide variety of backgrounds and interests. 

Any advice?",6.340084134615388,7.6446206927083376,6.210625000000004,76.84110576923081,66.03125,9.37991452991453,31.78311965811966,9.59751140882722,2.95450219017094,2493,98,445,50,39,783,258,576,0.066,0.7659999999999999,0.168,0.9967,3,0,0,0,0,0,108.0,17,0,1,7,16,33,1,0,43,3,51,4,1,2,2,85,70,42,0,11,19,4,3,1,2,10,1,0,0,12,20,41,0,0,6,6,0,8,12,5,0,2,3,4,22,28,61,46,13,60,1,1,1,2,55,33,0,5,20,272,42,35,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03987260639604755,0.06484084816179317,0.0,0.0,0.03322222277529606,0.0,0.036611919656794105,0.07959550294380059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04512333450193793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029534785902395562,0.0,0.0,0.09351335366372288,0.0,0.0,0.040449086521254736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034817476313972404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026489333944646618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029385195390361087,0.03428096741118273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032453716074446415,0.06255311596581094,0.0,0.016775414133644383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051265321088469776,0.0,0.017333743442303103,0.0,0.0377107907455689,0.027827502666666868,0.0,0.10973410358658207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029720298737239307,0.03275566502105709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03462842859620833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03512991663974132,0.07209435697736519,0.0,0.0,0.016208728182379662,0.0,0.058592238014071,0.02936082164318898,0.0,0.0,0.03621688683873976,0.028206110963469557,0.059887525720350325,0.0,0.0,0.033636523460652955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035262165508730764,0.04877819138364771,0.049201020003860466,0.02558834000742174,0.0,0.0705687621322266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02248176279014545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0368394091348928,0.0,0.0,0.02300092729056118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350127600812975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02125419548244046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9065829848210536,0.02643797225502565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03729261833605519,0.0,0.03382002759771518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02348302784876839,0.0,0.026495394183730817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059659755413216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021258641741673624,0.0,0.0,0.0193459208974512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094988212490998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030755642531468636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02415343266230512,0.067386214343745,0.0,0.14140899619748046,0.0,0.0,0.06409518245803003
parenting,noeffsleft,2020/01/10,"Surviving baby sleep Hi there. I have a beautiful 2 month old baby and a 3 year old daughter. I do not remember having these issues with my oldest, but my new baby sleeps poorly in her bassinet. She averages actually staying asleep in it 2 times a night for 45 minutes and I usually put her in it to try 10-12 times to get that. I am not fully committed to, but try to follow the APA safe sleep guidelines, though by 2-3 am I will bed share with her until morning just to get some sleep. (I follow La Leche League safe sleep 7 for this). My husband is back to work and I am still on maternity leave so this pretty much all falls on me. 

I am reading several books, talking with my pediatrician, and considering a consultant. We swaddle, use white noise, use a bassinet right by the bed where I can physically reach over to soothe her. We use a pacifier but she just wakes up every time she falls asleep and it falls out (usually every 10 minutes). I get up and sit with her if she doesn't fall asleep within me trying to soothe her for 20 mins in the crib. 

I mostly need moral support, though if anyone has suggestions, I welcome them. I feel like a terrible parent for endangering her with bed sharing even though I do believe it can be done relatively safely. We also know it's not a long term solution for us. I don't understand why we can't get this down. It's particularly hard because I work with behavior problems for a living, and sleep issues is one of the things I help with! I would welcome the typical feedings every 2-3 hours all night. That would be bliss. I dread every night, and the lack of sleep is contributing to some post partum depression and anxiety. 

Please, tell me your survival stories of this time period, or how you got through it or anything you have to help. Please please lol",4.270912646675357,5.611961932203396,5.286666666666669,81.41029986962191,70.92090395480227,8.609995654063452,28.022164276401572,9.057496981413335,2.2233567144719686,1420,51,279,28,26,467,189,354,0.078,0.73,0.193,0.993,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,3,1,4,13,13,0,1,15,1,24,12,11,4,3,55,39,23,0,7,12,3,2,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,15,21,1,3,4,2,1,7,6,4,0,1,2,3,46,9,42,32,8,47,1,1,1,0,34,14,0,7,24,182,61,5,0.0,0.0,0.07631746570573103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254105677052388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982713375265568,0.0,0.0,0.054683232215152734,0.0,0.06435661389290455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013534319593272,0.0,0.04767345872971816,0.0,0.0,0.08811102437217315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735844052779577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003156656493353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165411631898842,0.0,0.26356664503603044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03954314335153089,0.05587015585655574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634369670511958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254822925060109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700569311764384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483924217349644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701684482663332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325283001769209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297979834852935,0.0,0.0,0.0828085267252258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03820734659398812,0.0,0.06905705124831059,0.06920956883125999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06242303037459807,0.0,0.05749017576989492,0.057988523310200074,0.0,0.07553153637083458,0.0,0.22017220825473852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412741826018548,0.0,0.05299419505971408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683815641159917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575390669848721,0.0,0.0,0.07489942666214501,0.07956329548182604,0.0,0.07483227711809244,0.0,0.07861831238486877,0.0,0.0,0.07822684698170644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859179402018819,0.06678722632619616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835016189404582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5478351383565897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335685292108655,0.06245515979610425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874688275791234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285876594881626,0.06835521435808219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195638102739665,0.0,0.23051006064429502,0.0,0.18240945164650849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592895764448406,0.0,0.0,0.0814148745046003,0.09407180793414097,0.20263380221132446,0.17226502292760734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056846516441101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386933789986715,0.0,0.0,0.11111014733198868,0.0,0.0,0.05036189604398948
parenting,gauzjzgshha,2020/01/10,"2.5 year old daughter cut my beard while asleep and my wife is mad and thinks my punishment was too harsh Throwaway account

So I’ll go straight to the point. I was asleep when my daughter got scissors from god knows where and cut like an inch from my beard. I was shocked to say the least. My wife woke up and looked at me confused. 30 mins later after coming to reality she told me that it wasn’t the girl’s fault but mine because she shouldn’t be able to reach scissors. My daughter is 2.5 years old. I was angry as I had to shave my beard and glorious moustache. So I decided that she must be punished by getting her hair cut at shoulder length so she could understand what she did rather than thinking it’s funny. However, when my wife came back from work and saw her hair she was livid and called me sick for doing this and that this punishment was too harsh. I knew my daughter would hate it so I did so she could taste her own medicine. My daughter spent yesterday and today crying and my wife is mad at me.

So I decided to post what happened here and ask: was my punishment too harsh? 
Did I have to punish her?

And how can I make it up with my wife and daughter. 

I would really appreciate any advice right now.",2.632141001855288,4.6297939673469415,3.1539981447124315,92.28506029684604,76.6734693877551,6.413729128014842,24.19758812615955,7.348242739294969,0.8926734693877547,962,32,205,12,22,299,129,245,0.239,0.693,0.068,-0.9942,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,17,15,11,1,4,0,26,7,5,2,1,34,45,25,0,7,2,11,2,1,0,4,1,1,0,1,11,16,1,0,7,0,2,3,2,14,0,0,19,6,41,1,21,18,2,28,0,0,2,0,27,10,0,1,15,137,52,1,0.1753588647276822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135865308465922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925004132652264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639368668136888,0.0,0.0,0.13484014271885256,0.0,0.10689713631585801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790610071834155,0.20056382511386744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105613462786596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800195688087284,0.0,0.19262347868543345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916177691499821,0.0,0.09966048397136526,0.0,0.1402505034598854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506926494714507,0.0,0.0,0.1731305742606869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637264602383072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567148358754978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725728111261474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705340388962852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368019259991137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577080816183126,0.0,0.16794531874172364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233937906491206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975551233288206,0.0,0.13945240762091027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224725759673762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662196995879799,0.16756291008635424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825547625440388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276633420357516,0.0,0.0,0.2491398124218473,0.0,0.0,0.2258507190368161
parenting,Rd59,2020/01/10,"What do you feed your kids on date night? We have a 12 month old, 3 yo and 5 yo. Usually give the older two fish sticks and Mac and cheese but curious what others do for a quick easy meal for your young kids.",2.8166666666666664,3.1328475555555566,3.633333333333337,95.73000000000003,73.44444444444444,7.777777777777778,19.444444444444443,7.793537801064563,0.09011111111111124,160,2,41,2,3,51,36,45,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,3,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,8,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015797075766515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341395372907122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928477430473585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392726471710536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089321936858095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610522327015053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heretoroarloud,2020/01/10,"How do you handle such a rude comment? I just hate it when they keep ponting it out to me that my offspring doesn't even look like me. Most of the times, I just keep my mouth shut or if I'm feeling generous, I'd give them a half smile. Some days when I'm feeling like a jokester, I tell them: ""I guess I'll need to make a new baby and make sure that this time, it would look like me""! Hah! Ha ha. . .

Seriously, just f*** off with that comment. End of rant! LOL!",-1.208671328671329,0.8043874646464673,0.610303030303033,104.25083916083919,93.54545454545452,3.8542346542346544,16.706293706293707,5.369823440869387,-1.0044349650349649,345,9,90,2,13,111,67,99,0.154,0.638,0.20800000000000002,0.7159,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,3,0,8,9,2,0,5,4,3,1,1,3,1,21,17,6,0,3,5,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,4,13,6,7,16,2,10,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,5,10,49,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010347972906895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241242791786556,0.0,0.0,0.14348666258773626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196887323635746,0.15519812888884682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083988597380404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23931717293532506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21448205298758266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38619033957851984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184012256786371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648580743785478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900221925866165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108260621067005,0.0,0.20981421900719327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474854265486225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987957354920448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533517685171884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432288224470148,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LilyMarch,2020/01/10,"“Kid-free” bedrooms? A friend of mine recently told me her kids are not allowed in their master bedroom (which she shares with her husband). This got me thinking about my own home where my kids generally come and go as they please—though we do insist on them knocking—and come in to chat, watch movies or whatever else. 

No judgment either way from me, I’m just curious about other parents’ policies when it comes to this. My friend’s reasoning is that they might have nsfw items out and she also just wants her own space. It actually sounds kind of nice. But I think in my house it would cause a mutiny lol. 

I guess it never occurred to me to exclude them from a room in the house. Although I have heard of some families having a special dining room or something that’s off limits. (My grandmother had this). 

I suppose we just let ours roam, free range. 

Thoughts?",4.327062937062941,6.100190181818185,4.235151515151518,87.30503496503498,71.42424242424242,7.016317016317017,27.237762237762237,7.61054688173877,1.4558811188811185,680,24,132,8,13,208,115,165,0.025,0.858,0.11699999999999999,0.9356,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,5,2,8,7,0,0,5,1,10,1,0,3,1,31,23,9,0,2,8,2,0,0,2,2,0,3,5,2,11,9,1,1,4,1,1,4,3,0,0,0,5,4,27,8,20,15,5,19,0,0,1,0,23,11,0,5,3,93,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.16459980811193425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348871565421069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327288826789472,0.0,0.43588868624493066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090404133584308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590092084367076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26063156089575473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586034034263942,0.0,0.1349026259871871,0.0,0.18581152604161547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919204347334366,0.0,0.0,0.3892503155418766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564621733518332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172478828015065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789346276077049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009045598985994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729059920906135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342318995317846,0.16654352175569867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985215707219264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216156764924748,0.1657196527647626,0.13390694464434694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611735860553935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948727732651792,0.13388420001728105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198199439735896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,etno2,2020/01/10,"my son's video went viral and now he's instagram famous, and i'm worried about it affecting his schoolwork. what do i do? as the title mentions, he suddenly became famous on social media (1000+ followers) and now he goes on live and has fun taking pictures and making videos. i'm ok with this.

however, after this he's been coming home later and later because he's hanging out with friends, and he recently got his first girlfriend, an easy looking girl who doesn't look like she studies. i really dont approve of her. 

i've told him all of the reasons i don't like her, and told him about my worries about her influencing him. he told me ""i just want to be fking happy and have fun in high school."" but he is a junior and college enters me exams are coming up! this isn't the time to be playing.

am i being too controlling? i know his irrational, hornone filled brain won't listen. what should i do?",4.045243589743588,5.2224166611111125,5.281111111111112,81.86115384615384,71.2777777777778,7.7606837606837615,27.73504273504273,8.139509932561175,1.863965811965812,709,25,135,10,13,236,115,180,0.055999999999999994,0.8490000000000001,0.095,0.6929,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,3,7,8,0,0,5,1,18,1,1,5,1,26,35,12,0,2,2,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,1,7,15,0,1,2,3,0,7,5,0,0,1,6,3,21,8,16,24,1,22,0,0,2,0,29,6,0,0,11,84,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062861378243458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842790736194242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28439619534840604,0.0,0.0,0.18514643282278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346748951856935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041330503012853,0.0,0.0,0.12753707536839815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202611624464206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572615089244684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441153901705128,0.16558438529878444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907212869320306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612952962299481,0.0,0.1457648663256768,0.0,0.27724402315040203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101893107512682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575171962585628,0.16972531163662932,0.16299233763765542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706542010872885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827388640549154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411638153787782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625696744633223,0.0,0.0,0.4732107129657269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736592408824818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530268265664543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352847700970391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greeneyedlife,2020/01/10,"Preschooler picking nose constantly, causing nosebleeds Has anyone had a preschool aged child who picks their nose constantly? Any advice on how to deter the behavior? My son will be 4 in a few months and has picked to the point of causing nosebleeds more than once a day lately, for days on end. We’ve taken him to the doctor and nothing is wrong medically, but we can’t get him to stop. We put aquaphor in his nostrils, run a humidifier, and his teachers and we calmly help him when his nose bleeds, but he won’t stop. I’m at my wits end...any advice would be welcome.",4.602094594594593,5.9040132072072105,4.9167454954954986,84.52484797297298,70.08108108108108,7.351801801801803,29.190315315315317,7.645422480735847,1.7104855855855856,450,17,88,5,8,142,77,111,0.049,0.8390000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.7927,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,7,0,10,7,4,6,0,18,13,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,7,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,4,12,2,12,6,2,19,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,11,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34020572257037784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367522488402952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171641873927586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576433997832871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762237822880208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245263457950812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817186705329724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30835536283253523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094635372325446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667797041047676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636278070633867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753609973066968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894401256595312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702846522460954,0.0,0.0,0.18538287070468285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455596655486351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499220589525197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910669117422591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365700298797885,0.1903223273932352,0.0,0.0
parenting,genuinebanana194,2020/01/10,"Should I reach out to my daughters paternal family (biological father is not involved) Looking for advice, fellow redditors, hopefully ya’ll can share some advice ... hopefully I am in the right place ?? 

I slept with an ex and fell pregnant. (Together for 6 years, separated for 2, had a “one night stand” down the track) 
He suggested I get an abortion, and when I said no he said he did not want to be involved. We have not spoken since, and he is not involved at all. (Not on birth cert, does not pay child support, lives in another country) 
My daughter is now one year old. 

I’m wondering whether or not I should tell his family about her, mainly because he has a daughter from a previous marriage who would be my daughters half-sister. He is actively involved with this daughter. Should I reach out to his family now and let them know about her and for them to decide whether they want to be involved in her life, or wait until my daughter is old enough to ask questions( and understand the answers) before telling her , giving her the chance to make her own decisions as to whether she wants to attempt to meet him or his family or not. 

INFO: His parents and his first daughter live in the same country as I do, as well as some brothers and sisters, some of which I do speak to, but mainly for special occasions such as birthdays etc. I do not speak to his parents nor do I have anything to do with his first daughter anymore)",5.5460803608036064,6.512783560885607,5.8263161131611305,80.1063786387864,67.63468634686346,8.826650266502666,33.87474374743747,8.998388855275968,2.942030586305864,1119,51,207,19,18,357,145,271,0.021,0.9079999999999999,0.071,0.8558,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,3,3,7,6,0,0,10,0,25,2,1,1,1,55,44,24,0,9,17,14,0,0,1,4,1,4,0,1,3,14,0,1,8,0,1,1,11,0,1,4,5,5,34,6,40,31,10,25,0,0,1,0,60,11,0,11,12,158,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301103819096833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234617565040188,0.0,0.0,0.11676748320835467,0.0,0.0,0.0968908516074546,0.0,0.1100719874733656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177385098417215,0.0,0.1001889611449036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303598592050688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165797837093735,0.1313123937099674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.443983131393246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003009532301982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06151483881703945,0.11294794342698905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338868577744478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647074016485011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203982003841728,0.08316398532688933,0.0,0.0,0.20793500777038693,0.0,0.0988728277966342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859306486134546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049199902279423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24709885069194956,0.0,0.1595687647001381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614750036645055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301433689433433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189692182200985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055021300551066,0.22399740113778605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739661290566873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361114775600536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20582173393976191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257258496215688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20834016480308515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586334369387186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768514576035067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836398634578649,0.0,0.0,0.15164275126060436
parenting,zombiegypsy,2020/01/10,"Does anyone else go to sleep really late because they feel the whole day was about your children and this is the only time you get to yourself? I find that since my daughter has become a toddler I've been going to sleep later because the whole day is filled with tantrums, playing, cleaning up, etc. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter and I love being a mom to this beautiful little person of mine. But, it gets exhausting. At night when she is finally asleep is when I get to catch up on my favorite shows and go on social media. I don't end up going to sleep until about 2-3 am and then I wake up at 8:30 am, repeat. 

Does anyone have any tips on how I can balance the 2? 

p.s my husband usually gets home around 4 pm but starts playing his video games until her bedtime and then he's the one to put her to sleep which is when I become a night owl.",4.3378274268104775,4.4846236045197765,5.152121212121212,86.78408320493068,70.01694915254237,7.566307139188495,26.825372367745253,6.980632752743323,1.1308802259887003,666,19,142,5,11,217,109,177,0.021,0.887,0.09300000000000001,0.882,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,1,0,7,7,1,0,8,0,15,9,6,1,0,12,28,15,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,5,7,0,0,2,5,0,7,2,3,0,1,2,1,21,4,24,25,3,37,0,0,0,2,18,11,0,0,19,90,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959171724419528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367521460473974,0.11992207018772826,0.0,0.10419107339287416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269389852150366,0.258524605586285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509631905583232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20484628200103355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977725206012416,0.0,0.10366335681927956,0.0,0.1305313643181685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591793152308794,0.0,0.0,0.12821241064369493,0.10697311672232827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057447819562097,0.0,0.26606780081356185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174014059443136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202705356184818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173055699906668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112676763010005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707670106964076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966961337317092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930983500643017,0.08901475743860683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021954603975329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765827137674367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497929555798237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681731025805268,0.0,0.4685010649058857,0.11930829596082365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284203874589391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824739717905266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289038406034161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26134361468191364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279656767050006,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fitztragedy,2020/01/10,"Do we respect our son's wish to not celebrate or acknowledge his birthday this year? My son is 11. He won't turn 12 until May but one of my other kids has a birthday coming up and we were talking about her birthday party a couple of days ago. 

11 is my early riser and we normally spend some time in the mornings together before his siblings wake up and the craziness starts. Yesterday he told me that he doesn't want a birthday party. I said that was fine. We could do something simple at home instead. He said that he doesn't want to do that either. He would prefer to just treat it like a normal day. I asked additional questions and he kept saying that he doesn't need all of that. 

We obviously have a while before his birthday. Should I just drop the topic all together? Bring it up when it gets closer? Ignore it all together? He sees a therapist to help with some disordered attachment issues and coping with his Type 1 diagnosis as he gains more freedom and medical responsibilities. His therapist isn't concerned about depression and he's having one of his best years ever in just about every sense of the word. He's doing great academically, has been more comfortable socially and is joining peer oriented groups without any push from us, is finally sleeping in his own room consistently, etc. I'm thinking we just let this ride and address it again as it gets closer. Is that the right move?",5.037584269662922,6.691507692883898,5.835975655430713,76.99935674157305,69.4494382022472,8.785692883895132,29.45486891385768,9.255337874911486,2.6755844194756557,1122,43,199,23,20,367,157,267,0.047,0.762,0.191,0.9936,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,8,0,0,2,12,9,0,0,11,0,26,3,2,0,5,52,44,16,0,10,9,2,0,1,0,4,1,3,3,1,16,19,0,2,4,0,1,5,7,2,0,2,7,4,23,7,26,31,11,32,0,1,1,0,41,11,0,5,16,136,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734394952909735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002068935461087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375433666135766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252856282853665,0.0,0.13892117034201099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403079797020582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105692016273273,0.14647229088400998,0.0,0.17074402904936514,0.0,0.11401585009179865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171515660699764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763500280145495,0.0,0.11974229583042265,0.11153307163200192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501219460500608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832271493190074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459457692951917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887293056796538,0.0,0.13278461453322138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816687298957106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353641354697067,0.0,0.06467256467833335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335558957338284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406954730748454,0.0,0.0981556391296237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25940210213781123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940374368288894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829218988807166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130489709261058,0.2518410944326992,0.10527125799328724,0.0,0.0,0.10548708395800276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247229198737062,0.13494136601130535,0.0,0.10191004416738406,0.0,0.0,0.09369690331679126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639936998568483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073990826555218,0.0,0.08482163853586554,0.0,0.0,0.07718991313966543,0.0,0.0,0.12649160124763326,0.0,0.0,0.14398782701934632,0.0,0.0,0.15923286031031986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615840437369838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522266618039002,0.12760640637047976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403660330180924,0.0,0.0,0.17049249788735135
parenting,jdubs1932,2020/01/10,"Bedtime nightmare I am at my wits end. My toddler (almost 4) is an absolute nightmare at bedtime. I have no clue what to do or why it is going on. I try to remain calm when she is getting worked up, which was working for a little while but we’re back to tantrum city. Her new thing is to slam doors, kick the walls, hit the doors, scream, or throw things. I have had to lock her door because of slamming it, which then she just bangs on it. I have read books on how to talk to my toddler to make things easier, talked to friends who are parents on what they suggest, colleagues, etc. 

I understand it is more than likely because she doesn’t want to go to bed. But also, if she stays up until she is exhausted then she is an overtired nightmare. She is such a sweet and kind child, except at bedtime. Any advice, tips, or tricks would be appreciated. I don’t know what to do anymore 😩 please help!!!",3.6004102564102567,4.667097400000003,4.166666666666668,89.85115384615385,72.22222222222223,6.649572649572653,27.179487179487186,6.67199483983844,1.0182435897435895,692,24,148,5,13,219,115,180,0.086,0.758,0.156,0.9444,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,2,6,9,2,0,6,0,21,1,0,2,0,16,29,14,0,3,8,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,13,1,0,0,2,2,0,3,3,4,0,0,2,2,20,5,26,24,2,23,0,0,0,0,18,11,0,5,9,105,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485913141028206,0.0,0.0,0.1791836221362131,0.0,0.0,0.14309909985743174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168605595128094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746144716574722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759462863779848,0.0,0.2181616168189972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584886653382069,0.0,0.19956658119442847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824941793838394,0.0,0.09348931756249784,0.0,0.2033926545226956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994041961754467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633957626782188,0.09834132605554567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874215625361396,0.1793459501506388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944454606937935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17282238938132924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869286925185764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964235472754138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898948252251404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19072735952836853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876520893604094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566414643815712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148923274281982,0.0,0.0,0.18628395262590125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554407252440864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146647282281212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605424435762414,0.0,0.0,0.12711459391047492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OrganizedSprinkles,2020/01/10,Switching from daycare to nanny for a year. Please inform me of nanny need to knows. Is it normal I provide food for her lunch?  Do I pay for gas miles on her car for outings? What are good interview questions?,0.8266666666666679,3.3887541463414657,2.040853658536588,92.60160569105692,92.90243902439023,3.7089430894308943,21.46747967479675,5.46131890053228,0.1650943089430892,164,6,31,1,6,52,34,41,0.033,0.831,0.136,0.6531,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,9,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,20,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619439708503682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32042293589381665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20994996041003255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832653628220045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743016256143014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193467551045468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279534150538339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460104162161934
parenting,marahhow,2020/01/10,Need some potty advice My 5yo has been potty trained for awhile. She never peed her pants when she was younger. In the past few months she’s started peeing on herself. It’s usually when she’s frantically running to the bathroom but sometimes she just pees and tries to ignore it. She says she does it because she doesn’t want to stop what she’s doing to go. Is this normal? Any advice on how to make it stop?,2.362682926829269,4.616919597560977,3.085548780487805,91.19710365853659,78.63414634146342,5.0756097560975615,22.445121951219512,5.985473137389443,0.3003853658536588,325,10,65,2,8,102,57,82,0.129,0.853,0.017,-0.8577,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,0,6,2,2,2,1,13,11,5,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,12,0,9,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,9,44,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4772408832774685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605813021133975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488564564347033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21369303080539648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387792695092452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299926749343027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491078157679648,0.0,0.0,0.1810643977559084,0.18833501308118014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392551554688221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233107766985112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19419033993950915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24151096339792497,0.0,0.17283951814774784,0.0,0.0,0.4083089167437057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657895366266127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689416875124024,0.0,0.1440300714924177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m6993,2020/01/10,"Hurt Feelings Hey.. So today I, Dad, teased my 7 year old daughter ""you think that boys cute huh"" in some YouTube video she was watching. Just me being a goofball, it's who am. I talk a lot and and I'm kind of weird. I wasn't trying to be mean to her or anything, but she didn't take it well and she began to cry. At first it sounded like her fake crying so I just kept poking at her, but then I quickly realized it was not fake when she sobbed ""you're making fun of me"" 

So of course I immediately feel like a terrible dad and asked her to come over and held her and told her I was sorry for hurting her feelings and that I would stop. Told her that I love her and I'm sorry. Over and over.. 

I still just feel so terrible about it. I didn't mean anything by it, and I would never do anything to intentionally make my children feel that way.

I'm not sure what I expect here, I just needed to vent I guess.. I love my children so very much and I feel pretty bad right now",0.2487483530961789,2.244841826086958,2.1597386912604333,96.3369466403162,84.84541062801931,4.7298199385155915,18.587834870443565,5.852544927426893,-0.4242154589371983,746,19,176,5,22,247,110,207,0.223,0.655,0.122,-0.9631,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,1,16,19,1,0,3,1,12,2,0,3,2,46,38,21,0,4,9,3,6,2,0,2,0,1,0,3,12,12,0,3,10,1,0,1,6,10,1,1,11,8,36,9,18,23,3,21,0,3,1,2,29,7,1,4,14,118,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30622836224213057,0.0,0.11596266621492425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035700143849192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068513291734158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725089554058909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763166299145569,0.08861573706905851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551018980912392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664641336066527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26557937512335045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917081157734642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120145820147935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545620052662713,0.22390576742707213,0.0,0.16559819726212174,0.0,0.0,0.2702365320935358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911852530563718,0.0919756828291842,0.09566895338605924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130161370765725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619546096966908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059313187328337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777100639054097,0.0,0.0,0.099060221584261,0.1037047920192842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169082588242472,0.0,0.09326425990523632,0.0997003819016943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948120140834528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757745476233784,0.23705518093655265,0.0,0.08421647781759549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023477648693718,0.0,0.0984588853434526,0.0,0.0,0.11152879012145367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623196947857686,0.0,0.0,0.07987907801065787
parenting,jespicy,2020/01/10,"Confused and Frustrated, Co-parenting with a controlling mother   Ex and I split when my daughter was very young about when she was 1.5.  I work 2 hours away from where my daughter and her mom live, I stay with my parents during the week.  I bought a home almost 3 years ago for our family, they never moved in.  I live there myself on the weekends.  Luckily cost of living is cheaper in that area where I can actually afford a home.  I get to see my daughter every other weekend Sat-Sunday.  She stays with me at my house.  I love my girl a lot and unfortunately I can't see her more often.  I pay for her preschool $1200/month myself, her mom provides the housing, food, and most clothes.  This is how we have split the costs for the last 2+ years.  My daughter will be 4 next month.  

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 My ex has been dating her BF for a little over 1 year.  I have been supportive.  My ex made a rule to not introduce partners to our daughter for 1 year after we start officially.  Rule was broken by her after 3 or 4 months.  Well out of my control, I let it go.  I barely met him for the first time couple months ago by accident due to a late drop off exchange.  Met him again during a school event for my child, was it awkward, yes.  It sucked to be following my ex around at this event feeling like the awkward one left out, but was there to be supportive of my daughter.  I find out that my daughter has been left alone with him unsupervised sometimes while my ex was at school.  I was not aware of this and was never told how I felt.  I really don't know this person myself.  But hey what can I do, its her mom.  She is with her more often.  Yes, im upset.  I want to know this person more to make me comfortable with that situation.  They sleep over his house, frequently.  Yes this mad me feel jealous a bit at first that I cant give my daughter that family unit.  But her mom and I are just different personalities.  

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 Now on to me... I commute to work Tuesdays 3 hours with traffic.  Stay with my parents till friday, Drive back to my house 3 hours with traffic.  See me daughter every other weekend.  Holidays suck.  I have to juggle driving back to pick up my daughter and debating driving back to my parents to be with my family...to then drive back to drop my daughter off to then drive back to work the following day.  Recently I have been dating and have been more consistent with a partner who has 3 kids herself.  We relate really well on having ex's and dealing with them.  Its nice to have someone whos in the same situation.  She has a 9,6,and 3 year old.  Youngest is a girl too.  My daughter has met her youngest very informally at the park one day and trick or treating all together in a friends group.  Nothing formal.  My daughter has met my friend, as she may come to breakfast at my house very infrequently.  Maybe 5 or 6 times.  My daughters bday is coming up and I mention that I was dating someone who has kids to my ex and was thinking of inviting them all.  My daughter hasnt met her older kids nor have I...Really was more of a test to see how she would react to me dating someone, let alone with kids.  She seems cool at first...expressed concerns about how old where the kids. 

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 Now today she called me to tell me that she was thinking about what I told her about me dating someone with kids.  She specifically told me not to introduce them to our daughter until she has had a chance to meet them all and see how they interact with my daughter on a ""play date"".  She has worked in a family law center and has seen the worst of the worst.  She told me that she needs to know more about my friends dynamic with her own ex.  That they all will have different parenting styles.  Asking if I know how her ex interacts/is with her own kids.  Does he hit them or abuse them...all things to be concerned about.  That she needs to know what kind of parent my friend is too.  Wait, wait, wait, hold up...Is this crazy? This sounds crazy? Am I crazy?  Is this normal? This is all I know...My first relationship ended with a kid and separated, so does everyone go through this ?

 She tells me that she is thinking of our daughters intersts and well being.  That how dare I question her involvement in my life, its not about me, its about our daughter.  She needs to know that the older kids are not going to be a bad influence on her. Wait am I not her Dad? Capable of these judgments myself?  How come she gets to assert so much control over my dating life and interactions?  Did I have a say in hers? Not at all, she did as she pleased.  But justified because she is the primary parent.  

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 So now I am frustrated, fuming, upset, confused.  Does she get to dictate all these things?   She tells me I am being dramatic when I try to state my case and plead that she is being controlling.  That its me who is controlling and that I cannot handle a strong woman like her.  Its all for our daughters best interest that she has her wishes respected and vets the situation before I put my daughter in it.  She even went as far as saying that the schedule we have now is ok and shouldn't be changed, I mentioned I was working on moving to the area full time to see my daughter more often.  That me being around more would not be beneficial to my daughters situation.  Like am I a bad parent, am I really causing harm?  I am confused, seriously.  I think I need counseling, seriously. 

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  My ex bought a groupon for my daughter to take Tae Kwon Do.  We agreed to meet up together one monday I was off so she could show me the drill and I can take her the mondays I pick her up.  Immediate tension, I feel it, my daughter feels it.  My daughter wasn't paying attention too well and started to suck her finger.  I never seen her do that, my ex was pointing out she doesn't do that ever.  I take her on my own when its my day a few weeks later.  She still has some attention issues but hey she is 3 and the other kids are 5/6/7.  Maybe she is too young.  Maybe she is not used to me taken her myself?  I ask the teacher and they say its probably her age but they can still work with her.  I mention to her mom maybe she is bit young. Maybe wait a bit more to put her back so she can have more concentration.  I fully support it.  I get hit back a couple days later...maybe she should take her herself for a couple weeks instead to make sure she get the hang of it.  Our daughter must be acting out about being with me.  Um no, I don't want to be left out from my daughters activities.  I want to support her and show her her dad is there to take her.  So she ends up telling me we should stop taking her altogether for now and not stress over it....",2.578262067899644,4.5562884088145905,3.6798562670650665,88.54374092009688,76.76595744680851,6.649466797176862,24.222451187471023,7.591517297339326,1.0997050847457626,5150,172,1064,72,118,1664,419,1316,0.096,0.809,0.095,-0.4549,11,2,0,0,1,0,190.0,13,0,11,16,65,54,9,9,50,5,119,7,2,22,14,179,208,67,0,17,22,54,6,3,7,9,2,4,2,19,62,65,2,12,21,7,7,20,24,25,5,6,41,19,233,29,156,138,34,176,0,0,8,1,224,57,3,18,96,768,295,11,0.0,0.04154105757074236,0.03421407134666475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215818258749675,0.0,0.03510810926943195,0.07262438030227385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994063454308188,0.21301222889144653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062422704087194615,0.06555382433487776,0.0,0.03294057174502989,0.18871596854992465,0.0585482444562487,0.021372605906623644,0.0,0.02983397370187453,0.0,0.03679391867258673,0.0,0.11483122769984393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035800775134576884,0.0,0.0,0.036016876505766626,0.03708944782579702,0.09060476303985876,0.0,0.0,0.19661712484154176,0.027993022528723287,0.1163816043006073,0.0,0.09044470188676908,0.03614592145023993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326169370198705,0.0,0.0,0.09204525705740838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062106539808982515,0.0,0.0,0.02315718433184391,0.03171430447646496,0.05908010646366778,0.033501889435661035,0.0,0.0,0.0991559916983114,0.0,0.07091073663883846,0.02504728741905709,0.03366365780398696,0.0,0.03204473758161474,0.11929005556784555,0.04239539599460684,0.0,0.10835087746415678,0.0,0.0915885374282055,0.03363330585899595,0.05977721167636341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033724659932059,0.0,0.10358283517774997,0.2022760266312839,0.0,0.0,0.03787144594290268,0.03659413950737888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036510201807714165,0.13487865608409394,0.0285790545255958,0.03954986462669026,0.0,0.11428027767393485,0.07170364285581071,0.049528653113730885,0.05138648945867546,0.0351399147971917,0.09287741108347186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029807253791205333,0.031643544910989765,0.0331751712559809,0.04680642265232974,0.0,0.21133840782857544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531265466126364,0.11194009104792044,0.07452770202226673,0.025773562543439817,0.10398791183517654,0.08112264881372923,0.0,0.03728732765269774,0.0,0.034351927161494496,0.03364157486808245,0.0,0.07358036782759914,0.0,0.07127387501532177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725143970811026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184064587849,0.0,0.03848599151317727,0.03314358340897612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037801238300721934,0.0,0.0,0.07049113919641815,0.039275876823443925,0.0,0.0,0.03990661906248229,0.06738212152254795,0.0,0.034618095859500264,0.037641944962499126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364474821865013,0.0,0.07096636335124902,0.1676324715061235,0.03191783787583696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763825657794558,0.03508590321946405,0.0,0.11882687241301372,0.0,0.034675812970847354,0.0,0.04963212204480963,0.11210974919184168,0.05599885356441529,0.02931221720151457,0.040161779238348856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914533588844199,0.033044184444919245,0.0,0.15816716992050509,0.0,0.12257797919976593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04658538673808076,0.08986162331574861,0.0,0.0,0.06133232349136075,0.0,0.033233333049392966,0.13400755774264414,0.0,0.02380383434235956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030281086607516376,0.0,0.08678595816621576,0.06203892052328785,0.0,0.08437045430771062,0.0,0.12609469848430047,0.03250151159209326,0.0,0.0,0.04031794002615216,0.0,0.0,0.1531471314623712,0.0,0.0,0.04981206428962457,0.0,0.21301222889144653,0.11288932936048575
parenting,omglol9312,2020/01/10,"If you tell a kid something over and over they’ll think it about themselves...good or bad. I mean I know this is obvious but it’s so true. 

I tell my daughter over and over when she does awesome things that she’s so smart and did so well. Now when she does something cool she says, “look mommy, I’m so smart”. 

It really warms my heart. 

I try to tell my daughter everyday...I love you, you’re smart, and you’re beautiful. 

Growing up I got the opposite of some of those told to me...especially that I’m stupid. I really believed it for years. I’m just now coming around to realizing that I am actually decently smart. 

It really matters what you say/don’t say to children.",0.93097222222222,3.3408703703703715,2.734699074074076,90.48427083333334,86.03703703703705,6.63425925925926,21.770833333333336,7.865858978985527,1.1288611111111115,520,18,112,11,16,172,80,135,0.043,0.622,0.336,0.9943,0,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,0,3,1,0,12,11,1,0,2,1,4,2,1,0,2,18,15,13,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,12,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,3,5,18,9,14,11,1,13,0,0,1,1,19,6,0,3,5,67,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.16412438324137504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497203841186294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042752196727085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894869987901436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144876559724769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29435980480613216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106567090359762,0.1345129775165495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930013704869293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243012501214816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412331139981602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517936067726478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320286413154047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32323101873292903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012425932497011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25895419243189943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44100353545976384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173469811557173,0.10776621228683236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070805737606578,0.0,0.1141866336407364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512185908032863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108305681414488
parenting,potheadbarista,2020/01/10,"Parents whose kids have an age gap of 8+ years. What is life like?? I’m expecting baby number 2. We had our first at a very young age and at the time we thought we didn’t want more, now that were 26 and everyone is having babies we couldn’t keep ourselves off the wagon. 

Our kids are going to be 9 years apart, I’m curious about the positive sides and the negatives. I have a sister with this age gap and we did not become close until she turned 18, so I am a little worried that my kids will have a similar experience.",5.197003058103974,4.471634770642204,6.326192660550461,82.06372324159024,68.26605504587154,9.835474006116213,28.25840978593273,9.2995712137729,2.04402629969419,406,11,89,7,6,137,78,109,0.021,0.871,0.109,0.8014,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,7,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,9,0,15,1,0,0,0,17,22,6,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,11,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,5,0,11,1,8,14,1,18,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,0,11,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975862798695477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574709566871252,0.0,0.2635737365136409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291939741883657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313460561639505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394994797013701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903204552851727,0.13163962614831734,0.2700596185212888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991922618157088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391314785774215,0.15711842198722753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930841511081357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22232441266710007,0.15892855087714122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27363948497218343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34703384340195764
parenting,nisher16,2020/01/10,"8 month old/needs to be held or screams Our 8 month will play alone some times, but if he gets in that mood he needs to be held and squirm constantly. If I put him down he screams and cries. I want to try to teach him its ok to be set down if I am there with him and he can still play with me. But he still screams even if i'm right beside him until I pick him up. Today I was trying to show him its ok to be beside and not be held but he just sat there and cried. My wife came in and that's where the argument started. Is it wrong of me to expect him to be ok with being set down? or is my wife giving sound advice that something must be wrong for him to be crying like that? I feel like we are conditioning  him to cry any time hes not being held , I am told that is what babies do and we have to pick up. I don't know, just looking for advice. Thanks!",1.0908596491228053,2.0714775947368445,2.57842105263158,99.13728070175439,78.3157894736842,5.698245614035088,17.403508771929822,5.6839178017228535,-0.7802385964912282,653,9,171,3,15,213,96,190,0.166,0.706,0.129,-0.8765,0,1,1,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,8,14,0,0,1,3,24,0,0,2,1,39,41,17,0,8,13,2,1,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,9,13,0,4,2,3,0,2,3,5,0,0,8,6,25,8,26,21,1,23,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,7,12,111,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708408600450989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352884361332627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094240305849429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850054231267094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975758196311406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6089019456317386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153190360196793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007106970951289,0.09900279173315908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240321671919094,0.13294019106924782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616087622088377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540803384307654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637372244265733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122917614176785,0.0,0.0,0.10275657205848897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454181786196645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931288159344388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834801168953425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106686960523383,0.0,0.0,0.09808883812181686,0.0,0.2213430438186024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758740718108014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161620345113106,0.0,0.1313592444339677,0.13242074987898764,0.0,0.1881757504849968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173907517617987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30303466060189643,0.0,0.0
parenting,maschuld,2020/01/11,"Death of a friend's parent We could use some thoughts from people with experience. We have a friend who lost her husband. We have twins and they have twins. Our kids are twin 4 yo girls and a 6 yo boy. Her twins are 7. Their father just passed of a fast moving cancer and we are bringing the kids to a viewing tomorrow (per the request of the parent to be with their kids. I think they'll be quite a few kids there.). We'd like to do something for their kids (e.g. our kids make a card). Does anyone have experience with this. We have not discussed death much with our kids. If anyone has suggestions on what are kids could do for their kids or how to explain what we are doing tomorrow, we are certainly interested in suggestions.",3.344583333333333,5.171328736111113,3.7580555555555577,89.4925,74.1388888888889,7.022222222222222,23.11111111111111,7.793537801064563,0.9225111111111116,574,16,120,8,12,179,80,144,0.07200000000000001,0.8340000000000001,0.095,0.3283,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,11,0,6,2,3,6,0,0,10,0,21,1,0,3,1,28,28,6,2,3,4,4,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,11,4,14,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,1,20,5,16,20,3,8,0,1,1,0,42,2,0,3,4,81,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857218524594867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262558123064754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879634159672822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997161092218426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31570459660899025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981737915055916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230325960531124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363810162686684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21715318467003847,0.15019411667699634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4537324863399987,0.0,0.0,0.14164543043372327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173128251851711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729070848668486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091600272878431,0.0,0.16220229736104275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646148247337134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oieaeoaeeaa,2020/01/11,"Unexpected 12 hour workday My son is 11mo and I've been home with him since birth. I just got hired part time at a restaurant under the assumption that I'd never have to be away from my son for more than 6 hours. Well my GM just let me know that for two days, we have training in a city 2 hours away. A 4 hour round trip, plus 8.5 hour training. I'm still breast feeding, I wasn't anticipating anything like this, and I'm really nervous and anxious about being away from my son for that long two days in a row. I'm honestly doubting whether the job is even worth it now.",4.801764705882351,4.594677411764707,5.418151260504203,86.49596638655463,69.0,8.480672268907563,28.764705882352942,7.957251820313856,1.530929411764706,448,14,101,5,7,145,83,119,0.081,0.855,0.064,-0.2271,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,6,0,9,2,1,0,1,12,14,5,0,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,1,2,3,1,9,3,17,8,2,21,0,0,1,1,5,7,0,1,14,61,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602327356772701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671779747673401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997748500094692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829431772405395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368042105807643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343809303498616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227167653601855,0.0,0.6983925934738402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074896322350405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794859138460042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503549649801958,0.0,0.06929322523558304,0.0,0.0,0.1255191650036408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939159368879244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359305902520426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086288191117256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732705360150918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132693013431282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270490065927237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771036057209418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752634644528776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlentyBathroom,2020/01/11,"Any previously one and done parents (by choice) now moms/dads of 2+? Would love to hear experiences. I have a 16 month old daughter and swore I would be one and done. I was an only myself and enjoyed it a lot. This was even the plan when my husband and I got married 5 years ago now. Just one.

But now we are the only couple in our family and group of friends with one. I'm starting to consider if we are missing something. I am very comfortable and happy with one but also realize I can be a bit insular in my thought processes so I've raised the discussion with my husband and he is on board. 

Reason for the change of heart is that I would like the idea of 2 adult children and somewhat selfishly would like that because I like the idea of being able to visit two adult kids, and double the amount of love in our lives.

I am afraid this may be a difficult transition however as I value a lot of one on one time with my kid, especially having that in my own childhood.

I think it would be really valuable to hear from parents who previously thought they'd have a family of 3 and ended up expanding. What was your experience like? What was difficult, what was easy? What are your favorite and least favorite parts? Would you change anything?",3.4642682926829313,5.193620914634148,4.6525284552845525,83.61391463414637,73.59349593495935,8.172032520325201,27.747154471544718,8.841846274778883,2.1661534959349598,979,38,195,20,20,322,136,246,0.040999999999999995,0.7659999999999999,0.193,0.9913,3,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,4,3,1,1,8,16,0,1,14,0,31,3,1,1,0,39,42,19,0,7,4,5,0,4,1,7,0,2,0,5,12,18,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,5,0,8,10,2,25,11,27,19,9,20,0,1,0,2,28,7,0,5,16,146,37,0,0.09666151992151127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856846051880428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773001825583873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573314821138365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954419480014001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892396536436216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552934464012208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20451014243361684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695413326165976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783659008521307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561341599132559,0.0,0.0,0.06384402227165198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910702874940516,0.18224775665406234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468045051209216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773090476791255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289798537010814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788911619365425,0.11454436651406365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21823818062148695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889574428674108,0.0,0.08535389301183376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643563351772108,0.17448159129373614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715430299665797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143000493980024,0.0,0.4585024326302984,0.1470308832704334,0.0,0.0,0.214662357506377,0.10467500647864447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061923844821396234,0.0993841414327228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441476049016943,0.0,0.0,0.06841752131455835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193679894459594,0.0,0.15347689924225907,0.05636410959758521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442425949513626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975587714854894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119934223864933,0.0,0.0,0.0622468496570353
parenting,almoststarry1,2020/01/11,"Do you take your kid(s) to the grocery store? I I have been typically going once a week on the weekend to the grocery store with my now five year old since he was born.   Many times I get nervous mainly in the parking lot because there are so many cars that speed around despite all the pedestrians.

We are due with #2 in July and I just don’t know about taking a 5 year old and a newborn to the store at the same time.  The logistics of keeping everyone safe and getting the groceries in the car and home seem a bit much.    My grocery store offers curbside pickup and delivery so I am thinking of just using these services.


What are your thoughts about taking your kid or kids to the grocery store?  How do you make it work or do you skip it (leave them home or use a service to avoid going into the store)?",5.079689440993789,5.406110167701867,5.274093167701867,85.92579813664602,68.44099378881987,7.6822360248447215,30.385714285714286,7.1686216300943375,1.6506467080745346,631,23,129,5,10,199,100,161,0.031,0.95,0.019,-0.2359,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,6,1,1,10,3,0,2,17,0,11,0,0,4,1,29,26,11,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,10,0,3,4,1,6,4,1,2,0,1,3,0,15,1,18,23,6,23,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,5,12,87,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428366349639818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880116293472176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694705218344178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487234692929794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935799123292822,0.0,0.18422517299085708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251546298098103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406225458186492,0.0,0.0,0.08907375660762422,0.0,0.0,0.1716170581989503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377928059558142,0.0,0.0,0.10818823430022356,0.3286430345711029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191458806374874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401469124679068,0.17260763794376807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754960224655075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407248585707182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655871538200357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385295229776273,0.0,0.12867172155662046,0.1890178144524409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799664752927903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000908794731506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799461699325475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20874566391139374
parenting,throwitallaway775,2020/01/11,"I recently had a baby and I’m (23F)starting to realize my BF(25M) wishes we didn’t. We’ve been together 6 years and we have a great relationship. About 3 years in we had a pregnancy scare and I was not enthusiastic but my boyfriend was. We were pregnant but it led to the conversation of kids. I grew up around babies. I was the babysitter for my aunts and also has 2 much younger siblings. I know kids but with spending my whole life around them, it was easy for me to honestly say I’d prefer a child free life. My boyfriend on the other hand wanted kids. Lots of kids. 

Well some years pass and I start to think I’m pregnant. Turns out this time I was. I wasn’t exactly thrilled but I have a comfortable life, great family, and love my boyfriend dearly. So how bad could it be? Well it’s not. I love being a mom and my little guy is my life but I noticed a change in my boyfriend. 

He’s nothing like the dad I’d thought he’d be. He’s easily annoyed when the baby wakes us up. He barely holds him. If I’m cooking, cleaning or studying and the baby starts to fuss, he’ll ignore him and wait for me to get him. He won’t change a diaper or wipe up vomit. He just sits there on his phone or PS. 

I feel alone. Like I’m just a single parent.",-0.306829670329666,1.9491268115384628,1.8302197802197813,95.17192307692308,92.42307692307692,5.125274725274727,18.582417582417587,6.742157984588678,0.11386483516483505,961,29,218,14,35,320,141,260,0.075,0.705,0.22,0.9925,1,1,0,0,1,0,32.0,5,0,1,0,12,17,1,1,15,0,21,10,2,2,1,47,39,22,0,5,13,4,2,2,0,2,5,1,1,6,6,17,1,3,6,1,2,3,5,4,2,0,12,3,34,14,23,20,5,23,0,0,0,2,33,11,0,6,10,132,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340387154685198,0.0,0.10349606671228463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304201161398996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805918683490304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27381559323823185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033302801680203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200440772947745,0.0,0.06543797008963131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761591552269806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28536908959362794,0.0,0.1281448342766592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711251185518251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656489467927362,0.12645485369714682,0.12971151069336798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002712844331802,0.23361081196622266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157358664231355,0.0,0.0,0.09513761637597246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418070799055415,0.1473440179481993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370412163202392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778532723199615,0.1389472221176979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291892392289456,0.1295706697841788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748096103749389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292626049975266,0.0,0.10274397082292493,0.07546506947359405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077035363035142,0.0,0.0,0.1556747297286759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633448695313444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23272586068038045,0.0,0.0,0.1444913275352296,0.14882508790985313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500241483854711
parenting,LadyLily29,2020/01/11,"My daughter has a bit of a fever and today was a planned night out. My 5 year old daughter has a temperature of around 100.1, but aside from just wanting to lay down she is not acting any differently than any other day. She was very excited to go to the babysitters today but now I'm wondering if it's bad parenting to go out when she has a fever even if its mild. I gave her tylenol and I'm waiting to see if it goes down. Should I stay in with her or still go out.  The only reason I'm even considering this is that I'm performing in a friends show tonight and really don't want to bail.",2.9602844444444467,3.8478799440000064,4.458666666666666,87.83377777777778,73.56,8.115555555555558,26.68888888888889,8.515128840125781,1.5728222222222228,463,16,106,8,9,155,80,125,0.054000000000000006,0.882,0.064,0.2935,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,8,0,9,3,0,1,0,22,22,10,0,6,8,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,6,8,0,1,2,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,3,1,9,2,19,18,1,23,0,0,1,0,10,8,0,5,10,67,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26563952938052005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387027607921632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307847563511255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21323157500299086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125960942552158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040608636915579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580052301079964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089859734210798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333003206105811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832883330580032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494848877941185,0.0,0.0,0.14854459165245099,0.0,0.0,0.21687234361700528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512272303534172,0.20081463672771055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15563943988444914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20817802676335206,0.1559774808179424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702684064605177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611539554057299,0.2304017295581701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21180897919907135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577538348795592
parenting,lariet50,2020/01/11,"Am I wrong to be overwhelmed? My son just turned 3, and it’s like he grew horns overnight. He throws random tantrums, throws stuff - it’s like I can’t make him happy. Added to that is that we just recently got a diagnosis of autism for him. He’s speech delayed, so he has trouble telling me what he wants. So he gets frustrated, then I get frustrated - it’s like a vicious cycle. Plus we had been trying to have another child, but now I’m way second-guessing that. I’m 41, and terrified of having a child with severe special needs now when my son already needs extra help.

I feel like I’ve totally shut down. I’m constantly frustrated with my son and my husband, I just don’t want to deal with anything. I used to try to come up with activities to do with my son, even though he usually wasn’t interested. Now I just sort of let him do his thing while I do some chores or read. I know I’m doing it wrong, but I feel set adrift. I just don’t know what to do.",1.4397566781274769,3.3867873316582937,2.963078550647978,92.47355725998415,80.20603015075376,6.601533985718064,22.533985718064,7.669130373188453,0.8302201005025127,745,24,169,12,19,244,112,199,0.154,0.7290000000000001,0.11699999999999999,-0.8638,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,0,13,16,5,1,3,0,18,0,0,2,1,35,37,13,0,4,8,5,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,2,11,12,0,1,4,1,0,4,4,9,0,0,4,3,23,7,20,31,3,19,0,1,0,0,23,3,0,4,14,99,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513329478736706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664144916894857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059948502426413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670904088079622,0.0,0.17150213842455356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361637360193915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482218660337388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160490549317728,0.11337783549696702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583209121546946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692971297249592,0.0,0.1748298337030428,0.0,0.0,0.16894286167752792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106375632665956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443862227137813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228511471573598,0.0,0.31013811867864993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593584045431792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353533171969644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874648016571846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567005924398184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792898188269177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816775754950238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387138827525069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543557523386984,0.0,0.15592541513113958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154985623083248,0.17262387074997068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706889686762125,0.1747895198423343,0.0,0.1872149109487224,0.12597147724433308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34703479869743603,0.0,0.0
parenting,jibberjabber777,2020/01/11,"My 12-year-old daughter came out to me in front of her bff, saying they want to date. I love these kids. Maybe they’re gay and maybe they’re not. They’re 12. They don’t know if they’re gay yet, and neither do I. They will figure themselves out over time. I reminded them that I love and accept them and will always support them. 

Does anyone have any advice or resources for helping tweens process this? How to keep an open dialog? Ensure they feel supported and safe? Help them navigate these feelings? 

Thanks!!",2.11812925170068,4.875647989795919,2.0439795918367345,94.95399659863949,84.40816326530613,4.899319727891157,20.41156462585034,6.42735559955562,0.1990380952380945,405,12,80,4,12,120,70,98,0.0,0.6809999999999999,0.319,0.9873,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,8,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,1,0,21,16,8,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,9,0,2,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,3,15,7,9,13,1,10,0,0,0,4,16,5,0,2,3,45,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965630823824276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737430208737197,0.0,0.0,0.1367900323410725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064992360022993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300639213084553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602918061121142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034166550149389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696554465542777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879284529289555,0.0,0.0,0.1105476964179678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630944685509315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041677751906277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110748387016646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599638804004513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4565290592387514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519343074393568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729315550102028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186444657208925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953507947518564
parenting,crashbootiecoot,2020/01/11,"Son came out, sun came out. My 16 year old came out to us recently, I’ll be honest, it wasn’t a massive shock, literally nobody has had a problem with it, every single member of my family and all my friends have accepted it without a second thought. 
He is such a good kid, he’s always worked, always tried his best in school and is the funniest fucking thing in the universe.
He is the only person in the world who could make me laugh so much I’m actually worried that I might die.😂
We have always been close, but since coming out it’s been different, it’s like he’s mentally allowed himself to make comments about boys/film stars where he might have been scared before?!  and that’s made him  be that much more relaxed.
So where he was my sunshine before, he’s now my sun rise, sunshine and sunset.😍 the full spectrum.🥰",3.885363636363637,5.067901369696976,4.862196969696972,84.69329545454545,71.66666666666667,7.4393939393939394,27.083333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.5349696969696969,646,22,129,8,12,211,106,165,0.053,0.764,0.184,0.9708,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,2,7,14,1,1,9,0,18,1,0,4,1,28,28,7,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,15,0,0,2,1,0,5,2,4,0,1,11,2,12,10,13,12,7,21,0,0,2,1,18,12,1,2,5,81,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.13306946520437785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403918721165945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320677293973621,0.0,0.143103316495883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678847822157905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746363302320735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887381684595772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152203967487156,0.14246907803097064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148907139942636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285497873415199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535280332828564,0.12606430463444546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437382438312968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666194970066794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902885050911575,0.18204514649446304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742064120859224,0.289316682387741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20048325434976053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308879082457546,0.0,0.0,0.10370930827382968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190658808890596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047984500070445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464084574274576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652196962741506,0.1380054411380485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127999060461468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059273356808238,0.0,0.0,0.10825605275832348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092580724277357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640264788256071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144792771886665,0.0,0.09927302850921348,0.13848204665572644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878125408290241
parenting,RasmusHax,2020/01/11,"List with all hoverboard recalls Hi!

It's just after Christmas and one of the most popular kids gifts is the hoverboard. Here's a list with ALL recalls and all brands with fire risks:  [https://eridehero.com/blog/hoverboard-recalls/](https://eridehero.com/blog/hoverboard-recalls/) 

I feel like this will come in handy to many parents - if your kid's board is in the list, you may wanna turn it back asap.",8.115238095238094,12.17759480952381,4.7771428571428585,76.84285714285717,69.15873015873015,6.139682539682537,21.698412698412696,7.447530270364453,0.806307936507936,335,8,52,4,7,90,47,63,0.07,0.8390000000000001,0.091,0.3367,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,0,3,15,7,3,0,2,2,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,9,5,4,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,3,34,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077938724801719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448094291619029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20239573893426216,0.285963141028904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955586605208084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058253922533427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27124296045428103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44446827806202266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4353943085952606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lovebug180,2020/01/11,"Daughter Won't Sleep At Night S is four, about to be five. 


Tragically, we lost my husband suddenly on December 30th. Ever since then, S will not sleep at night. She's crawling in my bed in the middle of the night, running around the hallway, or just screaming at the top of her lungs. 


Any advice? I am trying to get her into therapy but there's wait lists everywhere and I'm not sure if places would take a kid so young. This pregnant mama is exhausted. 🥱😭😫 At least my 2 year old stays in his crib.",0.6956472491909409,3.0156477475728214,2.5361407766990314,92.16757686084145,86.0873786407767,5.763430420711974,21.204692556634306,7.1686216300943375,0.6575119741100321,390,13,84,6,12,129,82,103,0.11599999999999999,0.87,0.013999999999999999,-0.8439,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,5,0,7,4,3,0,2,14,12,6,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,2,1,1,9,1,15,7,1,24,0,2,0,0,8,13,0,2,9,51,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971043265062468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716668903725518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956070128114365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245421552014954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538282344802503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201854322044185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5678609770922363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116560415132439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107393662376081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685291321011547,0.0,0.4037024335484814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149912757941523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901050913752499,0.0,0.15165746910989608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23066787231059124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694482641199995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328583368661266,0.0,0.0,0.12989175937532066
parenting,sylverkeller,2020/01/11,"I'm not the real parent but I do the parenting I'm 21 and while I love my three younger siblings (17yo and twin 12yos) I resent the fact that my parents have neglected the hell out of us since I was 9 (shortly after the twins were born- for those doing the math). And I'm not talking like, ""oh they were busy working and taking care of new infants, woe is me who lacks attention and love"" I mean, as soon as the littles were old enough to go to the bathroom by themselves my parents decided I was old enough to watch them and they could go recapture their lost youth (my parents had kids young in their early 20s) and until I literally screamed at them about it a few years ago I have essentially been raising my siblings. I walked them to elementary on my way to middle school, I make them breakfasts almost every day before I head off to work. I make sure they take showers on a timely schedule and that they're clean and hair is brushed/braided and that they're not wearing the same clothes for three days straight. I make dinner almost every night so I know I eating a balanced diet. I help with school projects and reports. If they have a nightmare it's a guarantee they sleep in my bed. And until I temporarily moved out last year I also was largely in charge of discipline bc my parents just DONT do anything about it. My sisters act out? I'm the one who puts a foot down and confiscates electronics/books/toys until they've done their chores/calmed down. But now that I've left the house and returned my parents act like I'm a tyrant who just yells at the girls when theyve been acting like savages. I dont know what to do anymore! I've been essentially acting as a second mother since I was 10 and now I get reprimanded for suggesting we begin a tighter discipline schedule and actually enforce punishments! Dont get me wrong, I love my parents and I love my sisters more than life but I just *dont* know what to do anymore. The tweens have gotten out of control and I have to suffer the ensuing hormonal hurricane and I'm not allowed to do anything about it! If anyone could offer advice I'd really appreciate it!
Tl;dr My parents foisted my siblings off on me at 10 and since I've moved back in the children have gone crazy and I'm not allowed to do anything about it.",3.760720255653883,5.453150612831858,4.526578171091448,84.97208456243857,72.73893805309734,7.146116027531957,28.705998033431662,7.793537801064563,1.7926517207472954,1815,73,353,24,36,583,219,452,0.1,0.7909999999999999,0.109,0.7959999999999999,12,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,12,4,14,18,3,0,24,0,33,14,5,6,2,64,62,36,0,5,13,12,1,3,0,0,1,2,3,4,16,27,4,4,6,0,0,11,9,9,0,4,15,4,56,9,50,45,6,64,1,4,1,4,41,23,1,4,32,231,72,7,0.0,0.0,0.0649205133558355,0.0,0.0,0.06500917210589463,0.05897195165636749,0.0,0.13323386472370075,0.0,0.0,0.053201419541555384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195332343142144,0.04651705182471077,0.0,0.16423754535615726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05115496583917789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05660936602796314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782845744292486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746154092562012,0.1062323962870522,0.0,0.0,0.08580850284245604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807996489428808,0.3118754315297127,0.0,0.0,0.06807347572118227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137479837082286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121033156760696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951496426254901,0.0,0.07561737254611102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827564052376474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044591479544039934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676293975906333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968408922836972,0.054228182089968,0.0,0.0,0.07228151070619376,0.0,0.046989812369698514,0.09750483189825472,0.06667728271211402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262180851689311,0.0,0.2401719642430277,0.0,0.13322137065261913,0.0,0.0,0.07246713591719782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141481805812475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425195163918174,0.0,0.062430850109287485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961727044637726,0.0,0.04508024888328496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6648307667038796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687776057547784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572200833925813,0.04261874084813291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465724944216415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509485017675435,0.0,0.0665747968279376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270067645130441,0.0,0.10003967630002447,0.0534716832716448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03879228408707006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002349143699845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528058391747727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686453557633448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727365597710763,0.0,0.08568209424971758
parenting,R3dAt0mz3,2020/01/11,"Top Motivational pictures with Great Meanings - Must share with your kids. {Youtube Video} Just watched and discussed this video with pauses (has motivational photos) with my child, (while he was about to hit bed)   
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1V6WvzDZGKo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1V6WvzDZGKo)

BUT

This pictures and there Deep Meanings, made a great impact on him.. (His innocent queries/answers etc.). He really appreciated this photos.   
I tried to understand meanings of this pictures from him, and was happy with many of those, also helped him understand the true meanings of same carefully, (while he was actively listening).  
Kindly share your thoughts too.   
If it becomes helpful we you can share similar kind of videos/photo albums here..",11.014292929292926,14.652130954545452,6.76939393939394,68.29853535353536,57.63636363636364,9.252525252525249,35.858585858585855,9.725611199111238,4.026373737373737,615,26,78,12,9,164,77,110,0.0,0.664,0.336,0.993,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,1,3,0,3,6,10,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,3,2,25,17,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,6,9,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,10,10,14,10,2,5,0,0,1,0,20,3,0,1,2,52,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219284474431543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838871027451066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545108720304096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700419040428447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361925834258536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230481204529046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20439190972155055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175435101155294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442687222709649,0.0,0.15457842206883432,0.0,0.6643285422964602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767477913885504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104240522888413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351563038586607,0.0,0.0,0.31744872119921513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Careless_Hellscape,2020/01/11,"Penpal organization for children? I posted a similar question on r/findareddit and it was recommended that I try here as well. I have copy/pasted my question below. 

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\>My son doesn't have many friends, as we live in a very rural area and his class size is very small. I've been wanting to find him some kids his age to email/write back and forth, maybe learn a little bit about another country while he makes a friend. A Google search yields mostly outdated results, or those that don't have any real way to verify (I'm trying to be careful) the age or basic identity of the person he'd be corresponding with. Searching on Reddit has so far come up with subs that are intended for adult penpals, and before asking there, I wanted to see if there was a more appropriate sub already in existence?

\>We are from the US, my son is 12 if these pieces of information help.  
(If no such sub exists, would any non-US readers with similar-aged kids be interested?)

I want him to have somebody to talk to, and going out locally is not really an option as we are very far from any local hangouts, but I also don't want to put my kid into a situation where he might be talking to someone who is not who they say they are. Does anyone know of any groups, subs, etc.?",6.32973867595819,6.202083890243906,6.948222996515683,76.54390243902441,65.78861788617887,9.955400696864114,31.392566782810693,9.606745405546679,2.7324957026713133,991,34,191,18,14,327,160,246,0.015,0.94,0.046,0.6228,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,3,0,2,0,10,5,0,0,11,0,26,0,0,3,0,41,38,17,0,8,8,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,6,8,13,0,1,6,1,0,3,6,0,1,0,3,2,19,5,32,28,6,25,0,0,1,0,33,16,0,11,4,124,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673349684792324,0.09908768831660524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370416724239461,0.1299263820879957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663804786287774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583550652937663,0.0,0.0,0.09527616658724324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543499149300034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527340381192224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263305586207328,0.0,0.0,0.10673416058923664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084310903602393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381880893416189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132479591245564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19145913913195373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041870975188094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305166788237414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809556925614366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418649472342574,0.10941138387321682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270830469117303,0.1256213691523493,0.12448036285865842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314448244292655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828242245604376,0.0,0.10819005444009216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186678228259316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455988491132955,0.27760644828213066,0.0,0.0,0.1410323037558639,0.07937744041411164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985351287204204,0.0,0.0,0.09873714434766603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927568287880127,0.0,0.0,0.10498526283492317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19918210947910628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824825928098044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29808763923384635,0.0,0.0,0.3067066041018837,0.2923321858036313,0.09835091955318316,0.0,0.0,0.11140649243423884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801936053016232,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oblivionrpg,2020/01/11,"Help putting our 15month girl to sleep So here is the situation. Out 15mo daughter is fine with me. We can spend whole day together and all is good. Until bed time. She got used to falling asleep with mom and the breast and we need to break it.
We have a well established routine of dinner, bath, pjs, sleep. But at the end when mom is not there to take over. All hell breaks loose.
So we started puttig her to bed together. Singing to her, humming etc. She usually feeds a bit but when mom takes the breast away, she starts screaming. So we figured she cannot see the breasts, so mom leaves and I try to put a fed baby to sleep. But she starts screaming and trashing like unholly hellspawn pig. Really. I have never seen or heard anything like it.. And she can be at it for a very long time until mom comes back and puts ehr exhausted daughter to sleep. There seems to be no progress for two weeks now. Any tips?",1.434047619047618,3.9400922777777794,1.9128571428571417,96.61500000000002,84.55555555555556,5.206349206349207,21.904761904761905,6.655083550727371,0.3679761904761905,710,24,153,8,21,216,110,180,0.096,0.8170000000000001,0.087,-0.3919,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,0,0,1,12,9,1,0,9,0,11,12,8,1,3,28,25,19,0,1,5,7,0,2,0,0,1,3,3,1,3,16,3,0,2,2,1,5,4,4,1,1,4,5,17,5,22,19,5,29,1,0,2,3,24,5,1,2,19,93,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159469419626574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866372972657647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989149706054924,0.08095459486595538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493959081262205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069026429550316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789753907278583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932477220973138,0.0,0.11741615126493825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830471265727134,0.08420283795616199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056763897194507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147738378486056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286996298804356,0.0,0.0,0.09317037714954053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6165192079223297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780645318038156,0.08119920205554634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175094689702864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744570820171213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389533085976295,0.09584387361933508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834026164149088,0.4214281540081736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22355531339060405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583164279857127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227804022806586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147889212420132,0.0,0.10284424475644358,0.0,0.0,0.09092898614113397,0.11595215392087585,0.08686785571935267,0.0,0.0,0.08445007241541898,0.0,0.09466026797155468,0.0,0.0,0.11754248319515255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wrigley445,2020/01/11,"6 YO issues My son is 6 and he is a mouthy, disrespectful child.  He doesn’t listen to anything he is told and he thinks he knows it all.  On top of that, when he is disciplined he says things like: no one loves Me, I’m a terrible boy, which’s guilts us into relaxing on punishment. I need help.  Do you have any advice on how to end this terrible behavior and get my fun loving son back, without losing my mind?  Thanks!!!",2.4027408637873755,3.874555453488373,4.157242524916942,87.13941860465117,75.86046511627906,8.170099667774089,22.75083056478405,8.841846274778883,1.41184584717608,323,9,71,7,7,109,65,86,0.133,0.609,0.258,0.9195,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,2,3,11,1,1,2,0,7,2,0,1,1,12,17,5,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,5,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,2,7,6,8,16,1,8,0,1,0,2,19,5,0,0,4,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304395729264251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603649894538214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194058923196806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813302353988468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20886561690920044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232056812734352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806448797021755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461337420174416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959994136128775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520923941981895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638211126642932,0.0,0.0,0.4256716635224277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381099401336495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485678177656575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979704038007886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18753271385628792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21711042873444056,0.0,0.0,0.1566676483656823,0.15110327711085467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22533513623926385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836611910821625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273210765053299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,molecularmama,2020/01/11,"Screen time monitoring app? Anyone know a good app for this that can turn off the device at a certain time?

I’ve been using Qustodio but it just never works and is always a huge headache.

To clarify I don’t necessarily care about a certain number of hours, I want the device locked down at a specific time.

Most of these apps do WAY more than I really need so just wondering if there’s some easy way to do this.",3.986184738955824,5.154711012048196,5.301385542168674,81.69296184738957,71.40963855421687,8.90682730923695,24.676706827309236,9.2995712137729,1.836608032128514,326,9,67,7,6,109,62,83,0.0,0.757,0.243,0.9553,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,3,15,13,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,11,12,3,12,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,4,5,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21262457883145405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17867516336267594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605337234165585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432961446102694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25164930406698605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043468500551404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947506312070692,0.1970834075261012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370148546917393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44701141352986057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779473788263505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206991445473723,0.0,0.0,0.15072044656783035,0.4056616475442066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771154886135559,0.18603163828363406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dave_stephenson90,2020/01/11,"Reaction to cheese in 20month old Hi, My daughter has a red itchy rash all over her body every time she has cheese (within a couple hours) but doesn't have a reaction to anything like milk ect. Any ideas what this could be? Thanks Dave",3.364782608695652,5.4014387391304375,3.2602173913043515,92.17119565217396,74.65217391304348,6.339130434782609,22.369565217391305,7.1686216300943375,0.5975826086956529,186,5,38,2,4,56,40,46,0.07,0.784,0.146,0.6908,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,3,2,0,1,4,7,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,5,5,1,6,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,4,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21815791996725947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26399459869569764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35634124917489113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25613612373589284,0.3549638482129477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27029145287866674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159276073264247,0.0,0.0,0.3621489981638938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672877302233865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.336630140226626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953534914149356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18706356298459426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisIsMy1stRodeo,2020/01/11,"My Baby is 3 today!!! My amazing and wonderful son turns 3 yrs old today and I’m just so happy and filled with love for him. 

Does anyone else do the whole “x years ago at This time I was doing this waiting for you to be born?”",1.228061224489796,2.4233848163265317,3.3956632653061227,92.53594387755103,78.38775510204081,5.716326530612244,18.37244897959184,5.985473137389443,-0.3072081632653059,172,3,40,1,4,59,41,49,0.0,0.698,0.302,0.9602,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,7,10,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,5,8,1,9,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,7,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304863074689645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818075069296504,0.2664145901299103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22753959372745214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172079414670872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767892393493969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346723638998241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27284046245912785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161598126539932,0.0,0.4929248507971452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828200576454929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902958224435159,0.0,0.0,0.2819735836152979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744018948958128
parenting,gordy06,2020/01/11,"Queen Bed and Bed Rail Foam Bumpers for Toddler? Our son turns 2 next month and we are expecting baby No. 2 in May. So we are planning to transition to his big boy bed after his birthday to give him time to adjust. 

Now his big boy bed is a queen. We have a new bed we purchased for when my parents were in town. It's a nice queen, but we only have 3 bedrooms so our plan was to use the nice new bed for him. Does anyone have any experience with a toddler's first big bed being queen? We will obviously buy a smaller bed if it doesn't work, but looking for advice. 

Along with that, we are looking at a rails for the sides of the bed. I've only ever seen people use the typical rails, but in research found these foam bumpers that go on the matress and your sheets go over.  And they seem to have good reviews and we like the look opposed to the rail system. Again, wondering if anyone has used some of these and your experience?",3.303293233082705,4.424407599999999,4.173383458646619,89.31368421052632,73.0,6.9022556390977465,25.67669172932331,7.1686216300943375,0.9750375939849628,724,23,157,7,14,233,106,190,0.009000000000000001,0.9209999999999999,0.071,0.9125,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,10,2,1,8,6,4,0,0,13,0,15,0,0,3,2,35,29,14,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,10,2,6,17,0,1,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,4,4,19,4,24,22,1,25,0,0,4,0,23,11,0,6,12,97,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535329703120786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684498696225003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219719799697654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749419592565745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421213737481349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073812615246217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336436889572558,0.0,0.17227074404888998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072099834063596,0.1785864892309058,0.13178233357219235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675945806915634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39581627240260797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540933641653565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30348926663587283,0.16709577324424146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389892045876025,0.0,0.0,0.1744598989485394,0.0,0.0,0.10892518487853003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430334683628486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161621980627876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708982414031779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070960752527445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038674683536642,0.11438308921016205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pedoexthrowaway,2020/01/11,"Having ""the talk"" with a five year old. Major TW. Using a throwaway for content, and keeping my child's gender anonymous. My ex-husband is a pedophile who went away when my child was under a year old. He made and viewed CP. Many of his victims were children in the family. My child is 5 now, and their father has no parental rights. I try to keep relationships with their paternal side of the family as I thought they were decent people.

I let my child's aunt watch them for the weekend. She decided to leave them with her kids (my child's cousins). Well, apparently, some of them hold a grudge against their uncle for his crimes, and decided my child needed to suffer. My child wasn't physically touched, but they were exposed to every sexual concept under the sun. 

They were exposed to porn, extremely explicit conversations, and (apparently) one of the teenagers decided to have them in the room while she was sleeping with her boyfriend. When they came home, I was horrified. I can't pursue anything legally because the kids are so young, the teenager in question is only 14. Obviously, there will be no more contact with that side of the family, but it presents a problem. 

Obviously, they have questions. The ""cat's out of the bag"" on sex. They're not going to forget what they saw and heard. I didn't think that their first sexual education and only knowledge for years should be from their traumatized cousins, so I gave ""the talk"". I know that this subject involves many talks over years, but if they have to learn about it now, I'd rather it be factual and not fear based. It wasn't my dream to introduce this topic now, but I was backed into a corner.

Now I'm having issues with their school because they are talking about it and the other parents are NOT happy. I gave the teachers my explanation of why I had to talk now. I should have said something to keep my child quiet, but I couldn't think of anything that didn't sound like something a groomer would say. 

Has anyone else had to give a sex talk at a much earlier age than normal? I don't know what else I could have done.",5.172443609022558,6.4380689573934875,5.2572243107769445,82.75170112781957,68.69924812030075,8.206265664160401,29.538220551378444,8.527137837955566,2.1213092731829577,1650,61,315,25,28,517,203,399,0.09,0.889,0.021,-0.9727,4,0,2,0,0,0,56.0,0,0,18,1,15,7,1,1,25,0,42,4,1,2,4,60,63,21,0,10,10,6,1,1,0,4,0,5,2,11,15,18,0,4,12,2,0,3,12,4,1,3,24,9,50,3,47,29,4,39,0,1,3,3,61,16,0,4,21,219,65,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708366974645909,0.0983021475940962,0.15790134041109846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013904483550599,0.07377214805397103,0.0,0.11696860011905667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973011376457324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660050142203834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818020923872997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602915749493723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083381804413464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713318533322574,0.10795948033777647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160674737591958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203465222936652,0.054525068206102006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021302048274243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623591651500107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013671915910437,0.0,0.2558283690380636,0.0,0.0,0.10545253019565304,0.0,0.0,0.10158689664080536,0.0,0.0981054295031206,0.0,0.046871571356920716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078100624405963,0.0,0.19453675721437966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052713983400631,0.0711384969257242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400109769081906,0.0,0.0,0.20134635567233886,0.0,0.0650116120765844,0.1459338020113337,0.0,0.0,0.21306063925361207,0.0,0.0,0.06651290543244863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180188443898477,0.0,0.0,0.21495012590219453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300394877579194,0.0,0.08193246910717651,0.0912611699181764,0.07629555601214996,0.0,0.09709667848883358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600956012157476,0.0,0.0,0.14771901905967774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626789446888491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294930634092224,0.0,0.0761658602911936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651371478203515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286159221855614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626182757370396,0.08893759444425679,0.08657117401140124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815321742296468,0.0,0.0,0.2471295616709593
parenting,ranceego,2020/01/11,"Getting to know boyfriends daughter I am a single mom of a 10 year old boy. I’m dating a guy who has a 9 year old little girl and I want to get to know her and make a good impression. I want her to like me. I need topics to talk to her about when we’re hanging out, outside of “how was school”. How to I even begin to connect with this little girl? I’m a boy mom and not a girly girl myself. Help!!",-0.503308364544317,1.1590778202247198,1.9228464419475664,98.88991260923844,85.40449438202249,4.404993757802747,17.754057428214733,5.033348758259628,-0.7764092384519352,302,7,76,1,9,103,54,89,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.8643,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,3,0,14,14,6,0,3,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,10,3,13,13,1,11,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,8,44,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328083001272071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101070284309217,0.0,0.0,0.16865237198786173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990961013432081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477649538811565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101138748471813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823520592594603,0.4030604311779314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421928457302512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4709937835174722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909474319829805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219892813341858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034988785300791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161666191717253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371987733440965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25897172505985266
parenting,rwaltonen,2020/01/11,"Medication help Need some advice.  We have a 3yo girl with a UTI who absolutely refuses to take medicine.  This isn't a new thing.

We've tried spacing it out, putting it in apple sauce, putting it in chocolate milk, squirting it all the way in the back of her throat with a syringe (yes she can still appt it out), bribery,and even the futile task of reasoning with a toddler.  

Nothing works and always results in her spitting out all out and refusing to swallow any of it.  She may have a penicillin allergy so the one time injection at the ER is a no go; we've explored this option before.

Any advice is more than welcome.  Last night I told her no stories until she drank it in a rather large volume of chocolate milk and she fell asleep sitting up in a chair with no stories.  Tricking her into it is futile because no matter how we try to hide it she tastes it and refuses any more.",4.632931034482759,5.644305683908048,5.120172413793107,84.17956896551726,69.7471264367816,7.639080459770115,31.74137931034483,7.793537801064563,2.1194000000000006,695,30,136,8,12,222,103,174,0.10800000000000001,0.845,0.047,-0.8696,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,14,1,8,9,3,3,2,30,13,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,14,15,5,3,2,0,0,5,5,1,1,1,2,1,12,1,26,10,5,28,0,0,0,0,19,14,0,3,7,94,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693910327010512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572690190505459,0.0,0.0,0.385593856414282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533476621068625,0.0,0.11521695247275165,0.0,0.16083109121555048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483738380905295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741707066138496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266874515153775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406598434359706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904047333513231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014634373552345,0.0,0.18254420107361505,0.0,0.1773703267341193,0.0,0.181357376335804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280760787284901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800086086847644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433074181604176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509412861924397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421097905975109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255678954914611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021153950717716,0.0,0.0,0.18060435024723304,0.0,0.2566467806570022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500250105757479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759939432225726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ardnax31a,2020/01/11,"Would you use a parenting consultation service? 1. If there was a consultation service for general parenting, would you be interested in it? Questions could range from development, breastfeeding, nutrition, discipline, behavior, sleep? Mental health? 

2. How would you prefer to access services like this? Email? Phone? In person? Text? 

3. What would these services be worth for you? A per hour/visit fee? A package fee for x number of days/months/weeks? Something else?

4. Are there other things you’d like to utilize a consultation service for? 

5. Have you seen services like this near you or online?

6. Any other information you’d like to give? 

7. What sort of experience, education and training would you expect from the people providing these services?

I appreciate your time!!! I’d love any and all thoughts you have about this!",3.192318526543879,6.1106916338028165,3.8245070422535217,77.37041170097507,97.45070422535211,6.973347778981582,26.588299024918733,7.748469712250963,2.7459861321776815,660,30,102,17,26,208,92,142,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.9717,2,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,11,0,0,4,6,0,0,6,0,14,3,1,2,1,21,19,5,0,9,2,2,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,1,11,2,0,1,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,12,6,15,6,1,4,0,0,1,1,23,3,0,4,5,64,23,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228378083778313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081535721523496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368698588542266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026995884879566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717319970572238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415751890319509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135241762764813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32018178661848234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478747651076266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651152755476862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638566734557795,0.0,0.0,0.11358815310660116,0.14306144665329826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835417326345686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396139281364994,0.0,0.0,0.126134397863199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885005363209424,0.0,0.0,0.13007309399585176,0.09553821013945156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150780457391313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142502573453735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5819470706485264,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunnyspellopa,2020/01/11,"Unsolicited advice thank you very much That's it. Venting. Single men without kids not only suggesting how to deal with a situation that I already know how to handle, but thinking that they can ""control"" my ""strong minded"" 3 year old. And their opinions... Opinions every second about everything. They've known my kid for less than a day, btw. ""It's tiring being a parent, huh?"" ""It's like a whole job, huh?"" they say, in a tone voice like they raised 10 kids on their own... Fuck you please.",3.0330676328502406,5.463306413043476,3.6597101449275367,87.03118357487922,77.26086956521739,5.828019323671497,22.17874396135266,6.937597516519254,0.7026338164251205,378,11,71,4,9,119,70,92,0.05,0.7829999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.8823,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,5,2,3,5,1,0,5,2,2,2,0,3,0,14,6,4,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,4,6,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,10,4,9,5,5,5,0,0,0,1,15,2,1,2,5,43,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20399384411652052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303673206938533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341374866258256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346302820485296,0.21521816085334156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758858447367897,0.0,0.18761633737496589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19299146067533804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20715801379029974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472678021324816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039751708313847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21078394389199004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345960226450028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219054194822071,0.0,0.0,0.15876826471564467,0.0,0.0,0.2317987163171067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291512840110026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601106620416234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23465037201733455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219438047416054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376234804205547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399341915669052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224547569994245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23306850117621866,0.0,0.20123323288675607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443195176738038
parenting,parentingthrawy,2020/01/11,"What are the best ways to be informed of research for parents? Im a parent of a 3mo and my husband and I want to find quality information on raising kids. We'd ideally like to find some journal/conference with peer-reviewed submissions or some other reputable source that is thorough and well vetted.

What are some good sources of information?",5.728571428571428,7.890339317460318,5.993841269841273,74.53171428571432,68.52380952380952,8.84952380952381,37.99682539682539,9.3871,4.032831111111111,279,16,45,6,5,89,49,63,0.0,0.7559999999999999,0.244,0.9344,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,6,4,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,9,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,1,32,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880868881104412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018040514983874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302504229437189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965236485686508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341143171946631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6096335439016067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191624594565535,0.21789748036915274,0.0,0.0,0.24682223723448696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,purple_spikey_dragon,2020/01/11,"A thing i learned from my dad When i was 3 i my mom got called from my kindergarten that a kid had scratched all across my cheeks. My mom worked at the daycare closeby (we lived in a small village) and came in a matter of second. I was bleeding, crying, the whole routine.

That day my dad came back from work saw me and got furious, as furious as a father of a first born, baby daughter can get. Cursing up a storm, threatening the boy and the world itself. My dad is a calm guy but does have a short fuse, he used to go to a military school when he was young (was his decision to go there at about 14 as homelife wasn't exactly a peach). Anyways, he went out to talk to that boy, who was about 5 at that time, still angry. 

My mom, a panicky person, worrying about the outcome of that anger took me the neighbor and then ran to look for my dad, as said, small village. About 15 minutes later she found him and the boy, sitting on the sidewalk, having the most adult conversation that can exist between a 5y/o and a recently boiling 26y/o adult. She made sure everything was fine and went back home. 

The outcome? They talked, like adults, my dad explained why he was angry and why it wasn't right to do what he did. Then they talked some more. In the end that boy and my dad became friends. He would come visit our house just to listen to my dads jokes and talk. Needless to say he never touched me ever again and even apologized to me.

My dad was never that good with children, though any child who got to talk to my dad would always end up looking up to him. Later we moved and my mom had her own kindergarten in a closed community where my dad works as a guard, and the kids love him, greeting him every day. He never looks down on anyone just because he's older, always talking eye to eye, respecting and handling them just as any other adult and you can see how they appreciate it. 

I used that way a lot while working with children. If they dont want a hug, never force it, if they want to talk, simply listen, and if they've done something bad, take the time to explain, we all need to learn and we need the reason why, respect them as they have yet time to learn and change. You never know what they have been through, sometimes all they need is someone to give them the time and respect they crave.",5.099285714285717,5.225449253246751,5.173571428571432,87.35892857142859,68.37229437229438,7.8121212121212125,28.62121212121212,7.1686216300943375,1.3526744588744593,1793,56,380,14,28,561,229,462,0.08800000000000001,0.818,0.094,0.6052,0,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,5,2,12,5,21,16,3,0,33,0,28,7,3,5,11,73,64,37,0,10,7,16,2,1,2,2,1,4,2,15,19,30,1,1,9,1,0,11,8,4,0,2,28,13,52,12,57,34,9,66,0,0,7,2,90,22,0,6,32,248,71,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550803837563768,0.0,0.0,0.10257398187390768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273418854805196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598394601178648,0.06297108206308698,0.04597426047347097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701045761009005,0.17251675498762142,0.0,0.0,0.07978250020658233,0.06496613771745141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284339775224148,0.09727705412139508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599901203426989,0.07717904648404636,0.08838961824025267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359635464008912,0.0,0.0,0.04981303772482086,0.06822011789793499,0.06354312186421975,0.0,0.06778105314487755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415071833696366,0.0,0.0826922099008664,0.05826794688525201,0.0,0.03940291880648592,0.07234805015827242,0.08572385017823947,0.06325724341148188,0.1809565737630619,0.0,0.0,0.07467591707426928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565064621206903,0.0,0.0,0.08702252571833896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041447893587397526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03684554364454392,0.0,0.06659568963979035,0.0,0.1899969867803324,0.0,0.0,0.06411789258562217,0.06806790816233421,0.07136256436103529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533157352972641,0.0,0.08015765602544161,0.0,0.1677650130389968,0.2908359890814298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585230012220084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754251393141516,0.07446641570492872,0.0,0.0,0.064406766809792,0.07174001899076113,0.059975613309907576,0.0,0.07632728755257161,0.06009857464663674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390163192349356,0.05806064749191441,0.07459057003231591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602291056887058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108080078963702,0.0,0.056705132261726014,0.4243282843414197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010452898235857,0.0,0.0740980400988488,0.0,0.175907934231588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379244214530578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130274293101736,0.0,0.0,0.08896726660572754,0.059863490273932174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398269323118291,0.20415969924115931,0.08420177414000701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962151436211189,0.07659088590128132,0.0,0.10714991088956348,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BadgersZMushroom,2020/01/11,"Kids gravitate to me(28M) and LOVE me. Will be first time dad in April, a little nervous So my friends who have kids, my family, etc, the kids literally are obsessed with me. It probably has something to do with this strange sense that I need to pay attention to them and play with them and help them realize they can do things on their own. 

It’s fun, but also at times i kind of need a break from their kids and I feel like I’m crushing their soul by not being fun with them. It makes me nervous because my wife and I have a baby due in April. I’m very excited but I’m also really worried about hurting my own child’s feelings.  I’ve always felt like I have that goofy dad personality since I was like 20",3.7421917808219187,4.4838854109589095,4.813589041095892,86.55572602739728,71.60273972602741,8.305753424657535,26.928767123287678,8.548686976883017,1.6255035616438356,554,18,122,9,10,182,92,146,0.114,0.706,0.18,0.9099,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,8,1,4,14,0,3,4,0,12,1,0,1,0,20,22,10,0,2,3,3,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,6,8,9,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,4,0,1,2,3,21,10,16,17,3,12,1,1,0,1,21,5,0,0,9,76,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31398595571513715,0.1633497474545164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967175863705284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189430394305897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506824355409174,0.0,0.19852545349158315,0.14024742455936734,0.18849311820747866,0.0,0.0,0.16698537838677435,0.0,0.0,0.15167242722593036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158575882031845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101591918606368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443178888021207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877286742932109,0.19675913271918166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718188814004746,0.0,0.13104173957040818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911300648287744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17141462385167125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116606971498851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576437049883976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162393737996363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113282348441026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042291571954762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894562773720495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198037625248174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993673398328009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hgp87,2020/01/11,"Husband (31M) and my Daughter (12F) hate each other. Options? Please be gentle. This will be all over the place, sorry  Husband and I have been together 10 years. I was a single Mum of 1 (now 12F) and he was a single Dad of 1 (now 11F). We have added 2 of our own bio children (6F and 3M) to our family over the years. In the beginning everything was ok. But over the last few years I feel as though hubby has treated my DD completely differently and has been 10 times harder on her than the other 3 kids. Her bio Dad isnt in the picture at all so she only has him. I have had numerous people from my family and his family  express to me that they have issues with the treatment of my DD. We moved 2.5 hrs away 2 years ago from friends and my family to be closer to his Dad who contracted a chronic illness. The kids are at a beyond amazing school and have made great friends. He gets his daughter on schedulded visits throughout the year (she lives 4 hours away). I have treated my Bonus Daughter with respect and have always had her back. I do majority of the pick ups and drop offs and caring. Recently my DD has been in an extreme emotional state which I completely understand because she is always picked on I feel by Husband. I am constantly in the middle of screaming matches but 95% of the time I side with her and keep them separate. I suggested family counselling but he won't have a bar of it. A few weeks ago I had enough of seeing her hurt and upset so I took her to my Parents (who are more than happy to have her any time) for a holiday which she is stoked about because she is so happy there. I guess I am at a loss now because I feel like there are 2 options and I am just trying to find a way to keep all my kids happy. Either send her to school with my family where she is happy and stay with her on the weekends and holidays OR split everyone up and move myself and all my kids over there. Obviously I still love my Husband. My other daughter (6f) will be absolutely heart broken if we move because she beyond loves her school and friends and we just started here 2 years ago. I am just completely lost and I don't want my baby thinking I am abandoning her or choosing him over her, and I dont want to break my other kids hearts too. I dont know what to do and I only have a few weeks before school goes back to work it out. I love my Children and my Husband and I just want to keep everyone happy. I am fighting to keep my head above water. I feel like my kids are doomed either way. I have already told my DD that she doesn't have to come back here and she is very happy about that.
Added unrelated information: I have been a long term SAHM with anxiety and OCD with intrusive thoughts. I have been through a lot of trauma losing 2 baby boys (during pregnancy to blood clots in 2015) so my emotional state has been pretty well wrecked and I can't see the forest for the trees anymore.",3.2550640301318268,4.574982476271188,4.523333333333333,85.98484934086632,73.38983050847456,7.617325800376648,25.822975517890768,8.167268648758528,1.5033303201506591,2271,75,471,35,45,750,249,590,0.084,0.7609999999999999,0.155,0.9942,2,0,0,0,3,0,54.0,6,0,2,5,28,34,2,1,28,1,61,11,4,3,5,85,92,40,0,4,12,14,4,2,3,3,2,1,0,9,15,42,2,5,11,4,1,7,7,11,1,0,17,7,89,23,69,68,18,74,1,6,2,3,75,30,0,7,32,336,104,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501412820693495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684751225681604,0.0,0.1032632596331682,0.0,0.0,0.04219699335173919,0.0,0.047469053871490516,0.0,0.06153818897081465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659842684948975,0.143140795824349,0.0,0.15130351990702331,0.0,0.052801062884290616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632654081485245,0.0,0.0,0.05345167714599191,0.19517873695534385,0.06705538180835974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483037316489293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454472592409117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959866011664385,0.0,0.06411555218193106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858530067174684,0.05576768292848798,0.0,0.35097850560133576,0.0,0.1254999518955608,0.08865888341327037,0.0,0.0,0.0567137392110498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382197838584124,0.0,0.03241922898070415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684117473529237,0.06835647274221497,0.0,0.0,0.3963284025837544,0.0,0.06126278540279334,0.06368250771400194,0.0,0.0,0.14706211413242698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110800445835165,0.0,0.06642717093714652,0.0,0.0,0.06476540740545772,0.0,0.22061608949258316,0.0,0.0,0.0341017567651998,0.050580069227745536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060630235145644924,0.0,0.0547924107389956,0.05491342381295143,0.0,0.0694195021934592,0.06773629431527753,0.05275377318370947,0.1680110891116791,0.0587144146867065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978520488297604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438557824602058,0.0,0.0,0.06890059520225877,0.0,0.0,0.04301853959493899,0.0,0.06483037316489293,0.0681136639174508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312845230116795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061268145996154176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25119680344447565,0.09889366127681637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946131971822908,0.04392021028368942,0.06613840064991125,0.049554226635205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039759950107494,0.06096506050182665,0.04926177943086555,0.10854778856708304,0.0,0.0,0.05929265033587342,0.06894124727414676,0.042128741097576014,0.0,0.0,0.06459756336944625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05119879861796453,0.10979834522069744,0.0985068242434522,0.09954757637482016,0.0,0.05579154633050843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045174065645755726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397539116213894
parenting,dingerhitter16,2020/01/11,"Advice to parents... From a 14 year old Hey parents. I have just a few advice that might help you with relationships to your children, from personal experience.
 
You’re not always right. Don’t assume your child is lying and just punish them, listen to their story. If you don’t believe them explain why. 

Don’t pressure ever. Pressure is one of the worst things you could do to one of your children. Your child may not get the best grades, but you can’t tell them to bring a grade up that they’re trying hard in.

And last, when you’re talking about problems and it seems like your child is troubled by something, please look at yourselves before blaming it on bullying or just being lazy and depressed.",4.376206425153793,6.4209762857142865,4.208161312371839,86.42738892686262,71.85714285714286,6.039371155160628,26.376623376623375,6.574015621080383,1.0735924812030078,558,19,102,4,11,170,88,133,0.254,0.693,0.053,-0.9831,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,9,4,1,6,9,1,2,5,0,13,0,0,0,1,21,19,8,0,3,8,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,6,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,7,0,2,0,3,14,2,16,15,3,11,0,1,1,0,28,5,0,6,6,72,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34220680065414405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569527434862875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899520642974098,0.19727509467964946,0.18375418449995845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980122835589462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081135223745115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838585196412025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712791035592638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914812969742352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685310469687713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736426612497175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272795743399147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855438688914801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703792932382462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857509397272505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373553257105288,0.0,0.2373014029145388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888504452188545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288851705381526,0.0,0.1922046425146112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754480677933978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18798935120574006,0.0,0.14953243922394505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940232738096596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479872802849094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073686116302733,0.15304306674928525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632710048969346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887981289721307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799839742986033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112757147940529
parenting,nevergiveup2018,2020/01/11,"Wife is pregnant! Ideal Age gap between kids? I have a 2.5 year old. I honestly did not want another kid but last month decided maybe he should have a sibling around his age and I was being selfish by not wanting another one. So I told her only way we can have one if she gives birth in 2020, so the age gap is not more than 3 years lol. Anyways, she is now pregnant and expected to give birth in September. Now I am nervous but more importantly excited that my son will have someone around his age to be engaged with eventually. Any tips for two kids with 3 year age gap?",3.3074106280193227,4.789524069565218,4.579420289855072,84.98903381642515,73.52173913043478,8.241545893719808,29.299516908212556,8.841846274778883,2.2742270531400965,448,19,93,9,9,148,79,115,0.064,0.78,0.156,0.9099,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,7,6,0,1,3,1,15,0,0,0,0,19,20,7,0,6,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,3,0,12,4,12,13,2,20,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,1,15,61,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368069415313968,0.4122611621623396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499945848130561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37715363639380095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023840154479155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749037198520486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690775601264628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062769521506152,0.0,0.26641450050140225,0.14950744846674566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656103930043553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783998634709034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920294539007035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318951792547393,0.15603553236504789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797719551286093
parenting,throwaway456790q,2020/01/11,Raising my sisters kid My sister is in and out of jail she also uses. The dad is not there at all. I’ve been taking care of her since she was about a couple months old. I have no kids of my own but I took her in since Im her only choice. My sister has two other kids raised by family from other dads. My question is since I’m raising him do I be honest about his mother? He already calls me and her mom. Should I set that boundary about who he calls mom for stability? Or should I be honest? I’m just scared because I’ve threatened her with cps before but I’m scared she’ll take him away from me and I don’t want him to go through that process. He’s only 3 years old.,0.21200913242008929,2.101342027397262,2.188191780821917,96.71046118721462,84.2054794520548,4.441278538812785,17.267579908675803,5.2151,-0.7377921461187213,520,11,122,2,15,173,90,146,0.094,0.8220000000000001,0.085,-0.3378,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,2,0,14,0,0,1,1,16,24,7,0,3,5,8,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,3,0,25,3,18,16,2,12,0,0,0,0,30,5,0,2,4,77,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685373269919991,0.1221352083554984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434914349596401,0.0,0.0,0.09310056650218973,0.0,0.12995887655398855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31190136203406565,0.0,0.15571469433729865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689888033644391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397681217928068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679790530777823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649706679169425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577425147414184,0.12190471691192173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205212297516774,0.0,0.0,0.2323105453129216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108846708297856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058114429574504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790104493171984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296624190483563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968459638043534,0.0,0.0,0.14919145370117629,0.0,0.0,0.13190653164984165,0.0,0.0,0.09008195929463783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098350763228702
parenting,embrheartwitch,2020/01/11,"It's 7am and I still havent slept. Ok so I made a previous post yesterday that it is time to stop swaddling my 5 month old because she is now rolling over in her crib and kicking off her swaddle.

People suggested a sleep sack, which seems great, but I don't have one and the stores around me don't have any so my only option is to wait for one to be delivered.

My daughter has been amusing herself all night rolling over onto her belly! She gets so excited! It's pretty damn cute but I am EXHAUSTED and cannot keep playing this game. 

Mind you, my daughter is a baby who typically sleeps 12-14 hours per night. 

What can I do in the mean time until I get a sleep sack? She seems to not want to sleep, at all, without her swaddle.

Please, I'll try anything at this point.",2.4157836538461552,3.881419818750004,3.5912499999999987,91.23644230769231,75.8125,6.6730769230769225,25.43269230769231,7.321109707123232,1.0135336538461541,601,21,133,7,13,195,103,160,0.10099999999999999,0.78,0.11800000000000001,0.778,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,0,6,8,1,0,6,1,16,6,5,1,2,21,26,10,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,5,0,3,3,3,1,0,6,2,0,2,3,0,20,6,17,22,2,23,0,0,0,0,14,10,1,3,12,84,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086728718206443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220602901107102,0.13204226878888028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041861979895012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498922648634705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353078309049196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607198630111365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183964477243518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035037232544326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615713315922465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976775039343024,0.0,0.11839300945497952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783892438116816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556439896084157,0.0,0.20102011065829026,0.11280918935891647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283110342260626,0.0,0.0,0.16281824731242278,0.1402167372628275,0.0,0.14205604046727566,0.15090164539788753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700622338996512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5937355430336749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845394688274195,0.12400781796040172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729810600660202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070413764996117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748696956655777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298170931506124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jubaking,2020/01/11,"2 year old sleep advice My two year old who we have sleep trained early on started to wake up during the night and he will cry, and scream so loud. He will crawl out of his bed, which is a big boy bed, and sits at his door crying and sometimes starts banging his head on it.
We are unsure of what good methods to use to get him back in bed and to sleep.
We have a sleep schedule that we follow every night, and until recently he started to wake. He normally sleeps through the night.
We do have a LED nightlight that we put in his bedroom to help him out. 
We would be very grateful for any advice whatsoever!",5.431497695852535,5.0051509516129045,5.4976036866359435,87.1985483870968,67.70967741935483,8.053456221198157,29.004608294930872,6.868970318607317,1.3031188940092169,474,14,103,3,7,149,78,124,0.084,0.8490000000000001,0.067,-0.318,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,7,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,10,8,8,2,0,19,16,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,1,6,15,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,14,1,19,12,0,28,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,0,15,63,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457763537383674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551899718160838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669928544147599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762760758414496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595560317229176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657027842889305,0.0,0.0,0.10547891233612967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290628493910697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429219212545079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35404296509851885,0.12321505089924373,0.0,0.0,0.26392140168558376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642040813605498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416975686139793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.629238547623324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437677921501893,0.0,0.26703412076005234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284620775612838,0.0,0.0,0.10861357530507802,0.0,0.10376260408446802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933408609054982,0.0,0.0,0.16196662734806047
parenting,CoolJacob,2020/01/11,"Son has a strong fear of going to sleep, need some advice on what to tell him. This has been going on for a while, but its gotten to the point where I need advice. My son has numerous fears about going asleep. Ill try to explain them all, and see if I can get some help debunking the myths since I cannot convince him on my own logic.

He tells me hes afraid that his body might have a chance to become possessed sometime during his sleep and he will permanently lose all conscious.

Another fear he says that there may be a chance he wont be able to wake back up after falling asleep. Is this possible?

Another couple of fears he has that he might time travel, or earth might get destroyed by a black hole without him knowing since hes asleep.

If anyone can give advice on what to tell him then that would be great!",5.207926829268292,5.41255906097561,5.196243902439028,87.01826829268295,68.14634146341463,8.023414634146341,25.546341463414635,7.554174236665415,1.0695190243902442,642,15,135,6,10,200,100,164,0.161,0.75,0.08900000000000001,-0.9232,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,2,4,10,1,5,7,0,22,8,7,0,2,22,34,8,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,0,9,2,0,0,4,1,0,5,3,7,0,0,2,3,15,3,19,22,5,17,0,1,2,0,24,7,0,9,5,86,24,0,0.11198636832501599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282953491370541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23485494292021586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830347254560792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611060473595446,0.0,0.0,0.123680145492863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243916096895028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391078653686262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5040631937171799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701651076584035,0.10742752880580403,0.19093330153793212,0.0,0.0,0.12346536642494005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506210211692578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615447793348847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528410115205274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563995192014027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660729462777574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586331526025143,0.1262478040254219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905605489575379,0.0,0.0,0.08923863663105383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852725622273049,0.0,0.22413448708185632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075738175746433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29364306574515553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653001519408351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603139311440725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795086282244253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955190301221779,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KittyWinterWhiteFoot,2020/01/11,"Able to have my own children but thinking about having a surrogate mother, is this strange? Tonight it suddenly occurred to me (36F) that I would love to have children but I don’t want to or would rather not go through the birthing process at all.  Is this strange??   Has anyone felt this way before or done this even though they are probably ABLE to have their own child??

I have been reading stories about women who love being pregnant and consider it a purpose of their life to be surrogate mothers. This blew me away.  I assumed being pregnant was just horrible in every way.    It’s awesome to me that some people are just good at this and want that experience.  And I realized that most of my hesitancy to have children comes just from fear of the birthing process. 

My mother had very difficult deliveries so this might be why I have fear but I’m not sure.  Either way I’m just curious if people have felt this way and acted on it.",4.9970527225583385,6.482651617977531,5.063483146067416,83.14742005185828,69.33707865168539,8.173552290406223,32.23163353500432,8.617729084823388,2.55148867761452,740,33,140,12,13,231,100,178,0.13699999999999998,0.733,0.131,0.3983,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,3,0,10,7,0,2,4,0,25,3,0,0,2,33,36,12,0,6,14,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,17,5,0,0,5,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,6,2,15,4,20,23,6,16,0,0,0,2,14,5,0,7,4,107,32,1,0.2949315313185501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311149209879912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854894111305188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548250520918827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702869960421426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090867728970814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739974743519188,0.0,0.12424626771425995,0.0,0.0,0.14424981527667646,0.0,0.3318799685798847,0.0,0.0,0.283180521506172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380819297406923,0.1236872877691369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415943136594832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661872219107686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643787354278071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446838847327975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899303691100558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750567198975992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898473894821545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449010822782247,0.14488436603565014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167470053324154,0.17395825858416686,0.4682058432557501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306491667491904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209510897849672,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chytrid_oz,2020/01/11,"Single mum needing advice on sons behaviour Hi everyone,

Looking for advice about my almost 6 year old son. He’s a beautiful kid - kind and quirky and smart, but then he goes from calm to flying off the handle screaming, bright red, tears and snot everywhere, whenever something doesn’t go his way (kids don’t share with him, toys break etc.). Kids are starting to say they don’t want to play with him because of his behaviour, which breaks my heart a little bit. 

I’ve tried deep breathing, counting to 10, even yelling and time outs... but the negative discipline techniques have never really worked on him- he just shuts down and sobs until he can’t breath. The breathing and counting hasn’t worked because he says he “just. Can’t. Calm. Down” (whilst sweaty and clammy and snotty and teary). 

So for back ground, it’s been a rough few years with me having cancer when he was 18 months old, then a major surgery once a year for 3 years with a couple of minors in between, then his dad and I broke up and sold the house and moved. I’m unsure how much this has to do with the current problem as he’s always been like this... just a little bit of a delicate temperament. His dad and I always disagreed on how to handle this- he took a really hard approach and I was always more gentle... but then he might have had the right idea because this is still happening and I’m really not sure what to do about it. 

So does anyone have any similar experiences/ ideas/ recommendations? I’m avoiding taking him to play dates because I feel so embarrassed about this, and I feel like a really shitty parent. 

Thank you everyone!

tl;dr: my son has problems with emotional regulation and I’m at a loss how to help him",4.765132924335379,6.243813095092026,5.0547392638036825,83.0160148261759,69.88957055214722,8.132719836400819,26.16002044989775,8.59863814320734,1.7753357873210631,1343,41,255,22,24,424,184,326,0.165,0.7190000000000001,0.11599999999999999,-0.9707,2,1,1,0,1,0,48.0,0,1,1,3,16,20,0,2,17,0,22,5,4,3,2,48,38,33,0,4,7,7,4,2,0,1,1,4,0,3,9,24,0,2,4,3,1,4,9,8,0,0,7,11,20,12,38,30,8,44,0,3,3,0,36,16,1,2,23,151,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203783740290732,0.0,0.0,0.10441178685739362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26028408458885216,0.0,0.0,0.07090747684430385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290831817313549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017753445753435,0.0,0.2542491770643354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22767263595532894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537326195400995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091247767359168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729021398758956,0.0,0.0,0.11628910662209575,0.06886964422145833,0.0,0.0,0.19926975344820705,0.0,0.10199650120988242,0.0,0.0,0.10544453794157524,0.07449082533281005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925929568562745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922060084104756,0.0,0.09340583615007804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235609770297727,0.06989028003448583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031409163566055,0.0,0.2354172766713945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858162084469204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018825431190898,0.20901275348290596,0.0,0.0,0.08756091096067005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061446233032082,0.0,0.0,0.0832276728262118,0.11082297936926416,0.07665077313589219,0.07731521229863975,0.08041979373144541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21882857956104934,0.11104461880478317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157799874066514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995454638921033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671932632018991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904638862115806,0.0,0.16584008280863982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027248123523333,0.0,0.0,0.07380315625163625,0.0,0.08327051049309797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827365856307574,0.0,0.07839839653966522,0.0,0.0,0.09599821476356153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080093384981735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584829881031095,0.07079278632378959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061501408851432585,0.08276502428532159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518202487574847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685869866748733
parenting,randothrowawayxo,2020/01/11,"Soft spots - is it bad to touch them? I find myself mindlessly doing this a lot with my newborn. Not like roughly poking them, obviously. Just kind of rubbing them. Sounds kind of stupid writing it out, but I just think it’s the cutest, weirdest thing on my baby. 

My husband noticed me doing it the other night and seemed horrified. I didn’t think I was doing anything harmful? Baby seems not to even notice. Thoughts? Should I avoid this? (Again, I apologize if this is an idiotic question. I just inundate my pediatrician with questions already and I think I’m becoming a nuisance).",2.97800143781452,5.937295728971964,4.051775700934581,80.6732925952552,82.3644859813084,6.282961897915169,28.79151689432064,7.61054688173877,2.261464989216391,461,22,77,8,13,149,73,107,0.193,0.748,0.06,-0.9338,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,3,0,5,8,2,1,5,0,8,0,0,0,1,26,15,4,0,2,7,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,5,0,1,9,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,5,17,3,8,11,1,4,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,6,3,59,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030053126387317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138406046661393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359958044425978,0.0,0.20317024589386198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150437064939147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813683462910764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831337203485785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987395260848037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639689008766075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263474501091913,0.0,0.0,0.4188811706013094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121563854007276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349419988215016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221537851830673,0.35362394980912115,0.0,0.14604432324379796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LightFan2020,2020/01/11,"My husband is struggling with Fatherhood Hi 

I'm not sure how to explain this but I feel like my husband has turned into Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde since we had kids. 

He's 80 percent of the time doing ok with the kids (joking around, doing activities with them etc) but 20-25% of the time, he's awful. 

He feels they are ""non-compliant"" and will yell at them (I think excessively) and has called them idiot, slow, spoiled brat, etc. They are 8 and 4. The 8 year old seems to get more of this than the younger one, but he told the 4 year old he was an idiot !?!

I had a bad home life growing up with alcoholism/drug addiction in the background and truly abusive parents who swore at me and hit me. 

So I really don't know what's ""normal"" but this isn't how I treat my kids or expected that he would. 

I've talked to his parents about it and they say he's an excellent father. His best friend admits he's having problems with his temper. 

Not really sure what to do. Any advice appreciated.",3.2386097152428803,4.483805356783918,4.408120603015076,87.08792629815747,73.321608040201,7.517721943048577,24.321943048576216,8.021203637495839,1.1682117922948074,762,22,163,11,15,250,122,199,0.171,0.6829999999999999,0.147,-0.6853,2,0,2,0,1,0,33.0,1,0,6,2,5,15,3,1,10,2,16,3,0,2,2,37,28,15,0,4,7,5,2,1,1,2,3,2,1,4,8,15,0,0,7,1,0,1,4,6,0,1,4,4,20,9,20,21,5,14,0,0,0,0,36,6,0,2,8,96,28,1,0.0,0.17624885079784558,0.0,0.16216352730239889,0.0,0.14536042758238849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115764033157346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242236118238307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420315472315932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610786680982694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189419442188992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725071056450497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33179947011759875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504287152600845,0.1062696975322397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492676614861724,0.0,0.0777176866067361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921212417743204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175116214498497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506916173227564,0.07267356075535518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457470762412394,0.0,0.0,0.31218404222888363,0.0,0.10079938016316654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303468363256815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233723412918134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059090254576172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829494008192447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541981294020486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305062622164648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555097010266751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803972683676182,0.0,0.0,0.1195626169681918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531538655015123,0.0,0.0,0.17347899747465614,0.0,0.0,0.14214056785955395,0.0,0.0,0.16180134724775694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567038491935343,0.0,0.0,0.19158505565961725
parenting,len9999,2020/01/11,"How much would I get back in a subsidized student loan for the summer session in college if I’m a freshman and did not take out a loan for fall or spring semester. The title pretty much says it all. I’m a freshman and have used up all my financial aid. I’ve already checked and the school I’m going to considers fall 2019 semester, spring 2020 semester and summer session 2020 all one year. I’m just curious as to how they would divid my loan or will I get the whole $5,500? I can’t seem to find anything online to answer my question.",5.934393939393942,5.3029505000000015,6.685454545454547,79.78484848484852,66.72727272727273,9.87878787878788,33.78787878787879,9.2995712137729,2.8696060606060594,425,17,86,7,6,141,67,110,0.0,0.945,0.055,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,3,3,22,16,10,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,4,0,4,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,7,0,11,12,6,13,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,5,6,52,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666772768700314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988651847678906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185821245282424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208724127344954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525142381218654,0.0,0.13734066772401105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552950888884213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375473715433608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24585459830228984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707139558925287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217734065870806,0.0,0.2445723241836796,0.0,0.21999774043864487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169787549231506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087162250023124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26980421107754843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433359625715113,0.0,0.0,0.15562080035341114
parenting,taytaybecool,2020/01/11,I really want another kid. But I really don’t want my sex life with my SO to get any worse. What is sex life for you guys after two kids? I mean my tampon even feels different after one and I’m 22 :( I really want another one but I also really don’t want to have a ruined sex life. My partner is really supportive about it but I know it must be so different for him too. Kegels don’t really help I do them all the time. Any advice? What’s sex like after two?,-1.4944318181818197,0.4423351313131327,2.198882575757576,90.31832386363637,101.72727272727272,6.919444444444442,12.24810606060606,7.865858978985527,0.4531863636363638,354,6,80,11,16,129,56,99,0.08,0.755,0.165,0.7682,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,0,2,0,9,7,0,0,2,14,19,7,0,5,3,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,4,0,1,14,2,9,17,1,4,0,1,0,4,8,0,0,0,5,52,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891769466265735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136857818071427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19334816808256292,0.2981355721581008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970551428405114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389573666508573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188067166062774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427304691851858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076134612717162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952872546933018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812774886574675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30123671147801523,0.06945248917445859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485457104459527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926634056955462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5464303300220941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132216611400862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289499006842492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27774050220791713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33540002451452217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487379823808744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jodders,2020/01/11,"Hacks and tips to putting a baby down Lately , I have found it extremely difficult to put my 10 month old son down in his cot to sleep . When someone else put him down , it’s fine but when I do , he cry’s. It’s a 30-45 min battle sometimes! Even harder at night time when he will only sleep in our bed .

I’m tempted to try the cry out method but curious to hear from other parents how they deal with this

Thanks",1.9460098522167504,3.2428949310344852,3.2272577996715945,94.06137931034485,76.70114942528734,6.3507389162561605,21.623973727422005,6.868970318607317,0.2815628899835789,317,8,74,3,7,103,66,87,0.107,0.794,0.098,-0.2086,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,5,4,1,0,3,0,3,2,2,1,0,7,7,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,2,14,5,0,19,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,9,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905387214470759,0.0,0.1832705893318192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850201873920282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741382290129533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491299732116435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003570043881847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052959524370012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418924019163004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682284982004347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653719194266952,0.0,0.0,0.13520026993193546,0.0,0.0,0.19738988186384607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5361166117033558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35579196226177073,0.0,0.15062191017574236,0.0,0.17581670140781405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636645217861799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365771683559104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069253108644365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,britknee1887,2020/01/11,"Influenza I am on mobile so please bear with me.  My (8) son has been running a fever on and off all week.  Last night the fever was accompanied by a horrendous cough so I brought him into the urgent care today.  He was diagnosed with influenza.  At the med center his temp was 100.9.  The Dr.  prescribed him something similar to Theraflu and had it sent over to our nearest pharmacy (which is Walgreens).  I went to go pick the medicine up and to my surprise, ( we have blue cross insurance) I had to pay $149 out of pocket!  That seems a little ridiculous to me, has anyone had this medicine prescribed and if so was the price similar?  I gave him a dose around 6:30pm and he just woke up about an hour ago.  His fever spiked to 103 now, which has me freaking out.  I gave him a motrin and am sitting here waiting patiently to see if this will take his fever down.  I have a cold wash cloth on his forehead and he is drinking water.  Any advice?  I kinda want to just bring him in now because I am freaking out that it is so high even after taking the theraflu, but he is my only child so I'm not sure if  I am just overreacting because I have never gone through this before.",3.4890134099616863,4.966839836206899,4.1866666666666665,88.00277777777781,73.05172413793103,7.052107279693488,27.113026819923373,7.594959193182576,1.4066170498084296,910,33,187,11,18,290,136,232,0.055999999999999994,0.9079999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.6646,0,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,0,0,14,6,1,0,14,0,23,12,1,1,3,31,40,16,0,4,8,1,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,1,9,15,2,1,1,1,2,8,2,3,0,0,15,3,28,3,31,24,1,38,0,0,2,0,20,19,0,5,10,131,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19280829337681127,0.17490272507151425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341770406068827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379631994179777,0.0,0.0,0.17564704431012831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240555747246056,0.0,0.16789561994752944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116990723477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026471241450355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328792637715414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032088378457804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213538088521682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084680317036479,0.0,0.0,0.1943098440039894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083335478664934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19775568077970002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21916607138362104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217703984580727,0.0,0.0,0.1851613437566571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006255847963673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21658628076065692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722990847114215,0.17962291014594786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189828285619458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18596161170081188,0.0,0.2967039670334057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702607674752905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163780943857132,0.0,0.1582695606559191,0.0,0.0,0.1829076304925296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dingleberrrrry,2020/01/11,"Co-sleeping I’m a “single” mom. I have a boyfriend and he’s involved with my 14 month old son. He helps with finances that involve my son (even though I ask him not to) until we move in together October 2020. 


My son had colic the first 5 months of his life and it was hell haha. Only thing that would calm him was sleeping right next to him. So you can imagine how well getting him to sleep in his crib alone is going! We’ve made progress though. 


I used to have to sleep in bed with him all through out the night and now I just have to lay beside him until he falls asleep and I move him to his crib where he sleeps peacefully until about 7 every morning. 


It is now 12:18 am and he is wide awake. He had a 46 minute nap today around 1 pm and I am losing my mind haha. 


He just refuses to sleep or lay down for that matter. So now I have him in his crib crying for the past 5 minutes and I feel awful. I hate the “cry it out” method. 


I just needed to vent honestly.",1.0126392811296547,2.7391526926829286,2.4900898587933256,96.42709884467268,80.60975609756099,5.291399229781772,19.082156611039792,6.05967700443912,-0.29899999999999993,742,17,174,5,19,241,118,205,0.10300000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.11,-0.2714,0,1,1,0,1,0,18.0,1,1,0,3,16,8,2,0,7,3,15,7,6,3,1,30,24,16,0,2,5,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,7,14,0,1,2,1,1,4,1,3,1,1,5,1,28,5,28,18,2,29,1,1,0,0,30,11,1,1,14,111,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121229857075053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418539082768244,0.10941132570992762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25711349222969865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730008929801459,0.0,0.09860649377605238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917608760008676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954936463367244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061145621336521974,0.0,0.06651332237910977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155471982535238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844566279965896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266482776226476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093150972274964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074073876234737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181713382482894,0.1370692249273502,0.1868314150380806,0.24877800076820986,0.0,0.08677949308931766,0.0,0.0,0.12446736684106867,0.10982881631304396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280787081339607,0.0,0.0,0.08900990258736385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172253687012136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994670177106184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7027132693942965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775242670336878,0.0,0.2299713238967892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093488636509814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108010824023816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522794258107596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313784963078509,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellobluepuppy,2020/01/11,first time flying 1yo- am I crazy? Im not planning on bringing a whole car seat for him to sit in on the plane. Everything I am seeing is people suggesting otherwise. He is 15 months old. We got him his own seat. So will have a row of three to ourselves. Planning to push him still around the airport in a compact stroller then gate checking it. His great grandparents will be driving down so they can bring his car seat for when we are down there. Thoughts?,2.462333333333333,4.825203677777779,2.7322222222222234,93.285,78.8888888888889,5.777777777777778,25.555555555555557,6.937597516519254,0.9858888888888884,361,14,74,4,9,110,66,90,0.027000000000000003,0.9229999999999999,0.05,0.4696,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,1,3,7,1,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,5,15,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,2,1,11,1,13,10,2,21,0,0,1,0,11,7,0,0,7,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677521259994621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703157705844381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558377312865947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24055599320421844,0.3316037753701749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248869242101945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24007448732746065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31561112588366097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20851842983927926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396774874817613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24019805477283995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387805117220079,0.17538340947614042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358028004165489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imrllytiredomg,2020/01/11,"Advice: Ring stuck in coat lining. So I was doing some hands on stuff for my tech class in college and I took my promise ring off. I stuck it in my pocket and I forget there was a hole in the pocket. The hole leads to the inner coat lining, there are several layers of lining. The ring is very delicate so I can't feel it in the lining. Is there a way I can get the ring out with minimal destruction to the coat? It's a nice coat. 

I told my boyfriend about it and if I can't get it out in about a week or so I will buy a replacement.

I'm asking this sub because I figured that maybe some parents had this problem with their kids, and I don't know where else to ask. Thank you!",0.004623287671233101,2.019508280821924,2.0317636986301397,96.74846746575344,86.05479452054794,5.019863013698631,17.344178082191778,6.322622252153567,-0.3754643835616438,523,12,123,5,16,174,81,146,0.094,0.84,0.066,-0.6025,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,9,5,1,0,12,0,12,1,1,1,0,18,24,9,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,9,8,0,0,3,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,7,6,17,3,19,16,2,16,0,0,0,0,7,12,0,4,1,84,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23120252545030365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4423776324036493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442290041076678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19764872109494472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963193644523225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24722719538573576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002902826290114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376962377602029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627160091068325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263939955571857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26729035824678005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27085009375992897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21782925036502995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260811887020809,0.26287101430028514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952195623926206,0.0,0.18780185903371946,0.18978603816613315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,modestmal,2020/01/11,"Kindergartener being excluded by big kids at recess I have a son in kindergarten and he attends public school. We love his teacher and are happy with his school. Since the beginning of the year, however, my son has told us about big kids picking on him at recess. I think these kids are in 3rd grade, but I'm not completely sure. 

My son likes to play basketball, and he's 6 so he's still learning how to play. This creates a problem at recess because there is only one basketball court and apparently only one basketball according to my son. The big kids do not want him to play with them, which I kind of get. But they've called him a baby and told him to go away etc., in the past. And he says today someone hit him and pushed him down. We've told the teachers and the recess monitors but nothing has happened to make this stop.

My husband's solution is to tell our son to stop trying to play with them. However, I feel like he's kind of being set up for failure because he REALLY wants to play, and it's not his fault that he shares recess with bigger kids, and that there's only one court and one ball. I sort of think it's unfair for him to be excluded by default.

Two things: is it common for big kids and little kids to have recess together? Should I talk to the school principal about this? I don't know what to do because my kid is persistent and tries playing with them every day no matter how they treat him, but this is starting to cause problems for him and I don't think he's being treated fairly. Most importantly, I tend to get pretty defensive when it comes my kid, so I'm sort of looking for neutral input regarding my expectations and what is ""normal"" for elementary kids.",5.3118750000000015,5.746898104166667,5.961904761904763,80.81642857142856,67.95833333333334,9.138095238095238,29.392857142857146,9.107695989026183,2.3022535714285715,1337,45,263,23,21,436,158,336,0.092,0.759,0.149,0.9577,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,0,4,1,11,20,1,0,10,0,21,1,0,5,1,55,45,24,0,7,7,6,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,10,15,22,0,3,6,7,0,4,6,4,0,5,3,3,35,16,46,36,2,32,0,0,1,1,53,16,0,3,13,165,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475638497811687,0.0,0.0,0.20390510671791712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385229775432144,0.0,0.0,0.11453953532293065,0.0,0.09604596940333494,0.11690391520421604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190722191632075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12435015113754375,0.0,0.0,0.0939421820780922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637692390342935,0.0796544548114645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650658841839184,0.0,0.06336709076937758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859763665476197,0.11869208370600914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232216780315886,0.06127658591374905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894493906731,0.11175065421104156,0.0,0.0,0.09363054569748924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063162832831296,0.0,0.07442602497565508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092447251469673,0.10698568912006567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022167130868039,0.25439859451668684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064378064665376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343392241252655,0.0,0.2133777557895486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714287082152555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866797570701589,0.0,0.3385268964332129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223260038846914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447220352301104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891911719764598,0.0,0.08904273896235856,0.18643525276317294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508589024482097,0.0,0.0,0.08961816295321637,0.09745448620535647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407455986590711,0.21433095210870354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568741362400494,0.3196244000603243,0.0,0.15140014287698425,0.0,0.1089177020479392,0.0,0.13411880563500436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152924995288245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180129196265563
parenting,brokenInparadise,2020/01/11,"Husband admitted to abuse of baby I have no one else to turn to with this baggage. Give me an outside perspective as best you can, I just need to see a direction to take. 

My son is 3 months old today, starting when he was a month old my husband would pinch, squeeze and bite my son. I noticed bruises and pointed them out explaining we have to be gentle with him when dressing and picking him up because his skin is more sensitive than we’d think. I never imagined it was the first sign of something sinister even though it upset me to see him bruised a bit. 

My husband has no experience with kids and having grownup in a big family and taking care of my fair share of siblings and cousins I almost immediately became a hover parent while my husband started learning the ropes. I told myself I needed back off and let him handle because they needed to create a bond and learn how to get on without me. So when my son’s cries would turn into painful screaming I would refrain from crashing through that closed bedroom door, ignoring my instinct as often as possible to interfere..

He finally came clean after I noticed the bite marks.

He was physically abused by his stepdad growing up although that’s not an excuse.

I told him when he holds his son in his arms, he is god in that moment, and the fact that he let himself hurt his son repeatedly, never came to me to tell me he was overwhelmed and needed help has made this situation so much worse. I told him he needs to fix his shit because my son will not be his punching bag. 

He left tonight and won’t be back until he can show he’s started counseling or whatever it will take for him not to be a threat to his son, for him to have a loving relationship with his kid, one that neither of us had with our fathers. 

Reddit, I want to take my vulnerable little boy and run. I fear that giving my husband the chance to correct his behavior might be putting my son in danger of more abuse if he fails to fix his shit.

I feel sick and scared. My first failure and he’s only 3 months. What would you do? What should I do?",5.907801548492259,5.953674762836188,6.2895018337408315,80.32303840668298,66.65281173594133,8.87045639771801,33.4230847595762,8.472884824447931,2.5421172779136105,1634,67,319,21,24,528,215,409,0.156,0.753,0.091,-0.9859,1,0,1,0,3,0,30.0,4,2,2,4,13,17,4,4,15,0,35,7,4,3,4,65,67,30,0,12,7,16,3,0,0,9,2,1,3,4,13,25,0,4,7,1,0,5,10,13,0,4,11,6,62,4,52,39,6,46,0,3,2,1,74,15,2,5,26,223,75,3,0.0,0.2956403755972385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328607260618558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791030892586036,0.0,0.15210506441646798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728527527682291,0.0,0.09080373135705247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025625687119804,0.08480075006564135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091361994166678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948064212183147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054935198042579785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135947349455425,0.07840841043823338,0.09359311641147892,0.04205493319888458,0.0,0.0,0.09111231422419458,0.0,0.14149437887659067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04345463049348251,0.15957486814576655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055749327854804735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903876676151617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036806312336804,0.17010072400044335,0.0,0.0,0.08336152404886933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506717490105469,0.07870061303341079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882337561516879,0.0,0.0,0.19916446822182374,0.0,0.06114196537442091,0.3083598403435993,0.12829679447665426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893867680668969,0.17455283080752526,0.0,0.1127207978057037,0.06325706310035477,0.08850228406006676,0.0,0.09235413670933447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862567798923271,0.09376542914557318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361216623985697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929702642558368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327101000909229,0.0,0.1325567462288961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075244981999646,0.0,0.09349030434896244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403089058869882,0.0,0.0,0.17661152677718506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501439633565171,0.0,0.07269715379147497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053294109535695834,0.08171737146174847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883858877319921,0.2384270347260441,0.0,0.0,0.1809373918597707,0.0,0.0,0.10004727149278177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04905778319816585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017611915960926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476072588660395,0.23633578050309975,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goliath1701,2020/01/11,"At my wit's end My wife and I don't know what to do anymore. Our son is 6 and keeps having pee and poop accidents at school. He's been toliet trained since around 3 and half or 4 and he knows what to do and he knows what it feels like when he has to go to the bathroom. He soiled himself 4 days or of five this school week. He'll go to the bathroom during school when he's told to, but he repeatedly gets distracted by any number of things and pees or poops himself. He'll only go more than a day or two when he's on break with my wife and I or grandparents who are paying attention to only him. He's an only child and the only grandkid, so I guess he might be spoiled in the attention area.

Just tonight we had a family movie night while having dinner. He had some water and didn't have an accident. Had to tell him to go to the bathroom a dozen times it seemed like and then he went upstairs and then came back down after a couple of minutes and said he didn't have to go.  Neither of us believed him, so I marched him back to the bathroom and stood outside while I watched him pee after saying he didn't have to go.  

We did daily colon cleanses for a good 4-5 months that we stopped after we were sure he was cleared out. We did a urine alarm for working on the bed-wetting that Em stopped so everyone could start getting sleep again.

We ask him what happened, why he didn't go to the bathroom and he'll say he doesn't know or just shrug his shoulders. I feel like such a crappy dad sometimes when I lose my temper when he gives off a attitude of not caring what's happening with this.  It feels like it's taken over our lives, it completely revolves around making sure he goes to the bathroom instead of his underwear.

TL;DR Son keeps soiling himself, multiple days in a row in 1st grade. Only way to keep him clean and try is if someone hounds him every 5 minutes to pay attention. Don't know what to do anymore.",5.11504435439711,4.849240256926954,5.497910415069544,86.38876902858395,68.34508816120908,8.415682838681414,30.10721717227029,7.7425588080867325,1.7148712955864638,1510,51,327,15,23,483,195,397,0.075,0.847,0.079,0.1126,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,9,0,0,2,17,12,1,2,20,0,30,11,9,1,3,64,68,36,0,2,11,6,3,4,0,4,0,3,1,1,17,28,2,5,12,0,2,9,9,4,0,4,18,7,33,8,46,44,3,54,0,1,1,0,59,14,0,11,33,197,50,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060879521058054074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756788689158154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159391023747395,0.0836930354434654,0.0,0.0,0.13767715661659266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086310859332198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239182711115646,0.09127588109226596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386441294138244,0.0,0.0,0.07147778334633853,0.09905681661876513,0.0,0.17320709472297655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929186268296243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754279936286905,0.08554420274974084,0.0,0.0,0.08439544157632972,0.0,0.13579836542836873,0.19186830379418335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354539158583483,0.08587976332115269,0.35615063320475426,0.07508864552178178,0.0,0.0,0.09862099147858967,0.0,0.15833189617028665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23871964799813786,0.0,0.0,0.2460007756711476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494799435286906,0.0,0.07905150245186238,0.0,0.0,0.1001546724051642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975809389871136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949710212302536,0.0,0.0,0.0714573566277338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401239046103065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34043591391141065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515800824076668,0.1423864627955532,0.0,0.27180978791911103,0.0,0.081499462883356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405533744868588,0.0,0.08958884615829414,0.0,0.07585355809063983,0.0,0.08854171586312888,0.0,0.06336568448258477,0.0,0.0,0.1496924677126842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875098458459395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824809049543227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059475895769262536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05220227678932931,0.0,0.0,0.08554420274974084,0.0,0.0607810504274584,0.0,0.0874521280471667,0.0,0.10768658118368178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106013728160689,0.07181090749371273,0.0,0.0,0.08298982368282709,0.08078165945588467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517467862779261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,octofood,2020/01/11,"My son and daughter are saying degrading things and gender based insults to each other My daughter is 14 and my step son is 13. I've been a step mom for 4 years now and everything has been pretty great and our families mixed really well however lately it hasn't been so good. My daughter started saying a lot of horrible things about men and boys that my step son took offense to and in response he has began saying  horrible things about women and girls that my daughter takes offense to. My husband and I don't know how to stop it, everyday someone is an incel or a whore. It's bad",5.7769211822660145,6.0345374310344875,6.436650246305419,78.43051724137933,66.93103448275862,9.387192118226602,32.08866995073892,9.23628265651192,2.7903118226600987,466,18,87,8,7,153,72,116,0.204,0.696,0.099,-0.9211,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,6,9,3,0,4,0,11,1,0,1,0,15,16,12,0,0,1,9,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,9,10,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,6,1,0,5,3,9,3,9,11,2,12,0,0,0,1,19,1,0,2,7,58,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032276572644356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183332667269727,0.0,0.1923032068254406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109676850209532,0.0,0.2248992150324263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210732987354984,0.0,0.2301091139413449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342463302112804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23891011254266514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20753072269155948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306809384844081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4866620677495653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283969604871466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438486369751685,0.0,0.0,0.17054440998882436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337476570634448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065648074689146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266399119339169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341111666752874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136259149187335
parenting,JackOfAeons,2020/01/11,"How often do you let your little ones have the TV? What kids shows drive y'all absolutely insane? Fun discussion time!

My 1yo gets the TV for most of the day, but he's usually playing or doing something else while it's on. (I'm a person who needs background noise, so the TV is generally on whether anyone is watching it or not.) I've found that watching what I like to during the day and making TV time limited makes him appreciate it more, he really pays attention. (I know that it's not good for kids to watch TV all day, but he doesn't have the attention span for that yet and I don't intend on letting him do so as he gets older.)

What drives me the most bonkers is the Pajanimals, but my son really seems to enjoy it. The songs get stuck in my head like crazy. It's also very dramatic for a puppet based show, and it personally rubs me the wrong way.

Daniel Tiger on the other hand I don't get tired of hearing, even if the songs repeat themselves one billion times, but maybe that's because it's always a good, wholesome message and not just incessant noise.

I've found that during my maternity leave I've started to make a ranking system for the themes songs for kids shows. It's based on quality of performance, catchiness of the song, and musical arrangement. How do your little ones shows affect your lives?",5.625576923076924,6.0109183653846205,6.178269230769235,79.71048076923078,67.26923076923077,9.576923076923078,29.32692307692308,9.516144504307137,2.435692307692308,1045,34,206,20,16,340,141,260,0.08,0.8190000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.8343,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,5,0,3,9,8,0,0,18,0,14,3,2,7,1,37,30,20,0,2,12,1,2,2,0,0,1,5,0,5,19,5,0,1,6,14,1,2,6,1,0,4,3,10,17,7,21,25,4,25,0,0,3,0,21,9,0,7,14,123,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577656417029188,0.11005954074901084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248651558077316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063078762878335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25591033149544323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049491851035996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736332949286414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290055259025601,0.0,0.0,0.276423228608388,0.0,0.0,0.22188421551388024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574755586152626,0.0,0.14907831597718216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269233416890564,0.0,0.0,0.1400552196157719,0.0,0.2705108223384793,0.0,0.12924123951421085,0.26513931147982395,0.1167971567794292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26487448987491863,0.0,0.13288336132929585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980768006458242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688894702381533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23098676395606224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947156730125754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041397378402828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182819015026044,0.0,0.0,0.09362164608389352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23138374290049235,0.1520253283453835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567712150162174,0.10913690469992347,0.0,0.1049900601181056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461688143756982,0.0,0.0
parenting,101bluw,2020/01/11,"Took away daughter's phone, right thing to do? I had made it clear to my 16yo that she couldn't talk to her friends after 10pm.   She agrues  about it with me all the time and I constantly  find her still doing it.   Not only  is she keeping herself  awake but her friends too which is unfair to them.   

She has recently  got a boyfriend  which added onto  to issue even more.  I will find them calling late at night  or they'll  sleep together on the phone.  I had enough  one night and went in and took it away and said she couldn't have it back for a week.  Now that I think of it I feel kind of bad.",2.128629032258061,3.483221056451612,2.5685806451612905,98.73287096774195,76.33870967741936,5.927741935483872,20.464516129032265,6.2581,-0.21478451612903227,457,10,111,3,10,140,85,124,0.076,0.8590000000000001,0.065,-0.517,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,6,4,0,0,4,0,12,1,1,1,2,18,21,6,0,2,3,1,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,8,2,20,3,17,9,3,21,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,1,11,79,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073562616575392,0.12577419519861366,0.13657299030791314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670218795073885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675960159600215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901013988966562,0.0,0.10803555053387896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270522402204554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989975652249573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527454661569591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082079151790427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707231739118108,0.0,0.14538733145918553,0.0,0.17033157813471295,0.0,0.0,0.18451256151246614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477261135616768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069961947681405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108383502879002,0.12440132885124335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150430859907167,0.0,0.0,0.1396867331970782,0.1555912427945727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368677711308655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062613501284745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147028483118578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866774282574172,0.10480818617308046,0.0,0.0,0.0953781950770165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634615767765393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120490455299388,0.0,0.0,0.15162977707987405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Winter_Appeal,2020/01/11,"I’m thinking of sending my daughter away to live with her uncle when she turns 10. Would that be a bad idea? Will that scar her emotionally? Hey, guys! I’m a 30-year-old single mother to a 5-year-old daughter. I am currently living in China as an expat but I’m originally from Canada. 

I love my career here in China & don’t plan on moving back to Canada anytime soon. My daughter goes to a local kindergarten here & already picked up some Mandarin.

 I wanted to enroll my daughter into a British international school in China so she could be taught everything in English and easily integrate into Canadian life when we decide to move back. But the tuition fee there was an exorbitant amount that I could not afford on my salary.

I have decided to put her into a public Chinese school for grade 1. I think it will help her learn fluent Mandarin and be bilingual. She would also get to experience the unique education system here. Since I don’t know any Mandarin, I have already hired a home tutor for her to help her with future homework & assignments.

I don’t think finishing a K to 12 education in China would be a good idea for her since we are not Chinese citizens!! She will have a tough time adjusting to the university system in Canada.

I have decided that when she finishes grade 5 in China, I’ll send her to Canada to live with my older brother while I’ll be staying back in China. 

My older brother is a doctor in lower mainland. His wife is a stay at home mom to their 3 kids. He & his wife will be happy to take her in. My daughter will fly back to China during her summer vacation to be with me. But I’m not sure how a 10 year old would react to being separated from her biological mother to live with her uncle. Would she resent me for my decision? Or would she be mature enough to understand that I love her dearly & doing what’s best for her. 
Btw, I love my career in China & plan on staying here for at least another decade.

TLDR; would sending a 10 year old to live with her uncle be a good or a bad idea ?",4.311526482416362,5.531129717121591,5.7874715495850095,78.320570719603,70.68734491315136,8.139265850945495,27.047916488405924,8.53829466247534,1.9764935227175493,1608,53,299,26,29,545,184,403,0.039,0.8270000000000001,0.134,0.9933,4,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,2,0,1,3,16,13,1,0,21,0,37,5,0,4,1,51,54,15,0,10,8,12,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,3,7,13,0,0,14,0,2,6,6,4,0,0,2,0,51,9,58,28,6,55,0,0,0,3,53,22,0,3,22,206,58,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15512519206084302,0.056207867988903114,0.0,0.4569305664373273,0.0,0.04779704257968232,0.07370123429808606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603622118753796,0.21618307117684832,0.11737212246895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376105583795221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223566134327442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194092861008136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906254180295545,0.0,0.07262445814835039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316872610529964,0.06875341400191141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036721651115631485,0.0,0.0,0.11790550007227647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959441220607647,0.0,0.07482099248133761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422274883787783,0.0,0.14100562704580105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380337750931991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03862747060107884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04964523866578999,0.0,0.0,0.3103201177516211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19030818412086567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231837613964586,0.0,0.14940626572712395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950142749514885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065706836795484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226682230691248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628298172425605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22474728891215687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662439343754174,0.0,0.05284649326633345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510972303733634,0.0,0.0,0.040984462477564834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645122858245612,0.0,0.07317043802567258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041456636005213016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495052187449771,0.0,0.0,0.1810480954869679
parenting,ole_freckles,2020/01/11,"How to keep my wife's hope's up? I 24M and my wife 27F have been trying to conceive for about 4 months now. We know we're supposed to wait a certain time before seeing a doctor, but she has become extremely hard on herself and it gets worse each failed attempt. 

How do you recommend keeping her spirits up during this time? I've tried to explain to her it's not her fault and it'll happen when it happens but it doesnt seem to help, which I understand.",2.3063421052631594,3.9272830421052634,3.573881578947372,90.59029605263159,76.47368421052632,6.0131578947368425,24.50657894736842,6.6274283507984215,0.7438684210526314,359,12,76,3,8,117,70,95,0.14400000000000002,0.777,0.08,-0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,2,1,19,18,8,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,11,2,11,16,1,8,1,1,1,0,11,3,0,2,5,47,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499751387145895,0.1925989707920476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23166894353323764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825349329119345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003040556920415,0.0,0.20275649971599116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171116846697086,0.0,0.0,0.22480704248442085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40236341330431385,0.0,0.0,0.12439073943589744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806627114245507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036395802781288,0.2060517578457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639617615979596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30734048645720885,0.0,0.0,0.2356282911935661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306601578741196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RGMV5,2020/01/11,Newborn Floppy arm My baby is 1 day old. He’s my first and my girlfriends(who’s a nurse) second. The nurses and her have noticed our baby’s right arm is kind of floppy. He’ll pull down with his left arm but the right is much weaker. He just lets it hang. We were thinking maybe hypotonia. But I can’t find anything on just 1 limb. The hospital pediatrician said everything is fine but we’re worried and still have no answers. Any ideas or experiences?,1.2770973782771549,3.9275010449438215,2.9474438202247204,87.14079119850189,89.11235955056179,5.663295880149812,20.8998127340824,7.1686216300943375,0.8464149812734076,359,12,70,6,12,118,65,89,0.109,0.866,0.025,-0.8047,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,9,3,3,0,0,15,12,7,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,1,8,2,4,8,1,11,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,4,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474263478592692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18725526800748976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675171406977405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20450836675321346,0.22258875986829152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079776954942234,0.19355495414177307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568776332730668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369595823544514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24723506972640816,0.23268654270784786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860578858780303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727633137293246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25906857572213754,0.23877673042923145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886550024524389,0.21645332189344785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817227007239967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580563565998794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23108931267817734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deadredhead69,2020/01/11,"My daughter (4) likes to be alone now. My daughter will spend all night before bed in her room, alone, just doing whatever it is she does, usually watching TV and playing with her toys. She even closes the door! She's an only child and I know me and Dad are boring, but wow. She'll even say she just wants time to herself... Are we doing something wrong or is this normal?",1.4621621621621617,3.8048581216216237,2.528310810810812,93.4111148648649,82.64864864864866,4.781081081081081,20.06081081081081,5.985473137389443,-0.010427027027027249,287,8,59,2,8,91,58,74,0.111,0.784,0.10400000000000001,0.2481,0,2,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,1,14,11,5,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,1,2,6,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,13,3,4,8,1,7,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,1,5,40,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383118251319101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22113759549547107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274215633697599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432948029492699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428225130572391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696358446244424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438785142212403,0.2546259056550402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976494286536847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206665938210059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006728609839525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515373343441868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862196244718497,0.0,0.1532831646760318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28413651416698565,0.0,0.0
parenting,dan8260,2020/01/11,"Should I let my 15 year old son smoke weed 2 times a week instead of him doing it every day or should I make him stop completely? I have known that my son has been smoking weed in the past but I only recently found out that he has been doing it every day for months, I have tried multiple times to get him to quit fully but a few weeks later I will find out he is still doing it. He says that he will not stop smoking weed fully but he will negotiate to 2 times a week. Should I allow this? Is this a better alternative to multiple times every day? Or should I force him to quit completely?",2.3729268292682946,3.8312164146341487,3.980983739837399,88.4285487804878,75.91056910569105,7.196422764227643,20.430081300813008,7.908726449838941,0.6521291056910576,461,10,101,7,10,154,63,123,0.038,0.895,0.067,0.6676,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,5,0,19,0,0,2,0,19,22,5,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,14,1,10,11,1,22,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,2,19,65,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333096855150682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31607803695705056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916278745665909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809931486918371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776578051960742,0.0,0.0,0.16526921402937614,0.0,0.0,0.07875094194989002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413308189793834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061438845622632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031237559190198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816726192360675,0.0,0.0,0.11463803161054885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389018908044396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32064282270235483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882908571305964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986766933113925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037430092626344,0.2520364207222465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515707956872627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023367349844078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627229419773556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706608788461593
parenting,adanacs,2020/01/11,"Told busybody to gtfo My daughter was having a breakdown in the road outside our house as I was trying to pull away (holding onto the car and running alongside).

I pulled over to try and get her to either get in the car or go in the house. An older lady was driving by and thought it was appropriate to stop and start yelling at my kid to ""listen to her father"".

I turned around and yelled at her to ""GTF out of here"". She looked so shocked like I'd done something wrong. 

I'm just glad I was able to say something for a change!",4.164841269841272,4.603158499999998,4.630846560846559,89.34166666666668,70.48148148148148,6.541798941798942,28.3915343915344,5.288315135182226,0.9006756613756615,410,14,88,1,7,130,73,108,0.078,0.8690000000000001,0.053,-0.4224,0,0,2,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,17,8,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,7,0,2,1,0,0,7,0,2,0,0,8,5,11,2,23,9,1,21,0,0,1,0,11,11,0,1,4,59,12,0,0.21084414408729416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876959897920932,0.0,0.0,0.19809501393481566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22304514750854126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576676292456468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203147260289703,0.0,0.11982758599001653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4865716676001425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300779865196127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705597857870958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676717260424974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246362460625678,0.0,0.0,0.1492365703938408,0.0,0.0,0.1762751454327892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738669888587485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014706152027024,0.0,0.28629866732432946,0.2293378833468659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305249726912093,0.0,0.0
parenting,Soulrider_05,2020/01/11,"Epidural My wife thinks she gave up because she got an epidural, please help me convince her that she’s even stronger for getting one",5.355599999999999,7.468363960000001,3.4450000000000003,92.6275,69.4,5.0,36.5,3.1291,1.7117999999999998,109,6,20,0,2,30,22,25,0.0,0.6759999999999999,0.324,0.8225,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,6,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,12,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295888326163552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32059452836711044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535954591012313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882095268644229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253456819531512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289118115281391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5328108167684661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31101735353895466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,codercodingcode,2020/01/11,"My kid is a class clown My son is 7yo and in 2he grade.  We've been informed by the school that he is acting up in silly ways and basically being a class clown.  Just goofing off and not concentrating.

We've probably been inconsistent and not following through with consequences when he acts this way at home.  We have probably been letting a lot of bad behavior slide at home.

He's a very social and outgoing boy and very energetic.

Any tips we can try at home to reverse all of his silliness at school which is distracting the class and getting him in trouble?",4.857777777777779,6.398038666666665,5.517592592592597,79.5491666666667,69.74074074074073,9.474074074074073,31.092592592592588,9.827888789773867,3.030903703703704,448,19,86,11,8,145,71,108,0.09300000000000001,0.846,0.061,-0.5489,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,6,0,11,0,0,0,1,16,13,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,10,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,3,0,6,2,15,8,2,16,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,1,1,54,9,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909946433138084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585106245111053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918491254952842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5712827594607749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19412690020601928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139737262098922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093648201402937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842616522001603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352060279809472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128890650177765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31328002073005684,0.0,0.3013764070062828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,G-MED,2020/01/11,Children’s Tamiflu flavor trick Children’s Tamiflu tastes really nasty. Mix it with some (cold) grenadine and they will drink it! I give them spoonful of whipped cream after for good measure. Cheers!,4.411764705882352,7.863886058823532,3.3737647058823548,82.98594117647062,85.47058823529412,6.249411764705883,30.329411764705892,7.554174236665415,2.712842352941177,162,8,24,3,5,47,30,34,0.132,0.698,0.17,0.3593,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,4,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,1,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5661687666588676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544201436625695,0.0,0.4847551510119281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702481269750805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Find_ur_Happy,2020/01/11,"Parents of college age kids... what's one thing you wish you did differently when they were tweens and teens? As I gear up for this era, it's always good to get perspective.",3.076666666666668,5.107957647058826,3.4064705882352966,90.82578431372549,75.47058823529412,6.886274509803924,23.098039215686285,7.793537801064563,0.8949333333333342,136,4,29,2,3,42,32,34,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.6808,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,5,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,18,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33373339128146584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190466264811409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20954944224878191,0.0,0.0,0.3364095979836279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27178438801321336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4453554803488984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664618870991587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4612259395299724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaydaddylong,2020/01/11,Trying to improve How important  finding one on one time with your child/children? Does it form a closer relationship with your child? Does it play a role with in the relationship you have with them when they become independent adults? Does it make parenting easier? Do make time for it?,5.003529411764704,7.930748568627454,5.0468235294117685,77.04670588235294,73.11764705882352,8.785882352941178,25.88627450980392,9.3871,2.640832156862746,231,8,39,6,5,72,36,51,0.0,0.802,0.198,0.8708,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,0,9,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,8,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,3,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455419746209209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5836778336308137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320224646924828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968091159404415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013081629143221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24686708940255275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773905705029147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592805528600233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094499059728506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jankerjunction,2020/01/11,"Science Project ideas for 5th grader that struggles with school Hi! I’m trying to help my son find a fun STEM project (experiment) for school.  He’s in 5th grade and struggles with these sort of big projects, he’s loses focus very easily if he’s not interested.   
I thought I’d check here to see if you had any recent successes with a science project! ANY IDEAS, websites, resources, etc to help come up with an idea is greatly appreciated!!",5.291365461847391,6.7840673132530185,5.301385542168674,81.69296184738957,68.63855421686748,7.9429718875502,33.110441767068274,8.344100000000001,2.503595983935744,349,16,66,5,6,109,60,83,0.10099999999999999,0.6890000000000001,0.209,0.9041,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,2,1,7,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,15,6,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,5,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,1,3,4,12,4,1,5,0,1,1,0,8,3,0,3,1,28,5,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360011579238871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947341857127766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352235503323814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973733561675242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585955190270619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130808036849112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23261562461150245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5876540002798064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941261876597773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133156002862698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35122606950639484,0.138274179739037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628047213279829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775669856577855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780971689175812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431734206443589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,emrouse95,2020/01/11,"Two under two Hey all so first time posting but we recently found out I am pregnant with our 2nd little (I am around 8 weeks) and I'm a little nervous only because our daughter is only 9 months old. I am due sometime around the end of August which is still a while but just curious about a few things. 

My daughter was, and still is, a fantasticly easy baby. Naps and sleeps great, never fussy except when she needs something, etc. So I'm hoping this baby will be the same but parents who went from 1 to 2 kids with them being so young, what were some of the major challenges and how did you handle them? What is your best piece of advice or something you wish you had known before? Also they will be sharing a room for now (small house) so how did that work out if anyone else had done that? 

Thank you for any advice! ☺",2.731948051948052,4.495454909090913,3.4524891774891806,91.30159090909092,75.66666666666666,5.441558441558441,20.87662337662337,5.773587663045528,0.030298701298701488,640,15,131,3,14,202,115,165,0.012,0.7909999999999999,0.19699999999999998,0.9882,1,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,3,5,3,4,15,7,0,1,8,0,19,1,1,2,2,29,27,18,0,4,7,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,8,11,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,9,0,16,6,16,13,8,27,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,4,16,100,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789065315018754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114124075993008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704679282056422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978522383725813,0.14622190226672616,0.0,0.25408195383667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699388382391593,0.0,0.12143457159907192,0.0,0.14976395018997835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604052211667545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921478614692226,0.0,0.12639752804251184,0.0,0.1591578961753681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138792621682025,0.0,0.15647269639954106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733681820670126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174191473756925,0.0,0.16466665073978431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860631669160951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390870301926305,0.0,0.0,0.10581667440091372,0.11006572801997877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497487484324828,0.0,0.0,0.2170727563676804,0.0,0.0,0.1584610953692883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667546251396293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090760025071292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428117376919994,0.0,0.0,0.21972822055800226,0.1411425288177355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22793466470766044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138697460297213,0.0,0.0,0.09480930260658632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321457613808829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788112785650129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447229118562645,0.0,0.0,0.13229237164139915,0.0,0.0,0.16410793358463124,0.0,0.0,0.10389361519297756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wetseagullfarts,2020/01/12,"Kids are the absolute worst Tonight my 3 yr old boy cried for 15 minutes because his food was ""too hot"". It wasnt hot, it was a sandwich. 

He cried again for about 10 minutes because he dropped a chip on the floor, and another 15 when the dog ate it. 

Over a chip. 1 chip. He had several more left on his plate. 

I often question why I decided to put myself through this.",1.5371240601503755,3.3687601184210543,2.928496240601504,93.40447368421052,79.39473684210526,6.448120300751881,27.962406015037594,7.447530270364453,1.4236037593984958,283,13,64,4,7,92,55,76,0.125,0.875,0.0,-0.8519,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,5,3,0,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,2,6,0,8,1,2,11,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,4,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662377710954438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095518912099797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5577975629051122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30701859815464483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758646296769141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664268236226215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255241049537093,0.2844276922230476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286836328134519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291065346787158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeboMeister,2020/01/12,Cellphones So my wife and I have three daughters all under the age of 13. They have all expressed their “need” for cellphones but we decided they don’t need it until they are older. My wife’s daughter is the youngest and she came home from her fathers house this weekend with a cell phone. I told my wife that I didn’t really care she had it other than the fights and whining that are sure to come from my kids because they don’t have one. So we told her daughter that she could take it to and from school for “emergencies” but when she was at home and especially when my children are here she wasn’t allowed to have it but was more than welcome to use our phones to call her dad or friends. It’s like I just ended the world for her and life’s not fair! For clarification the youngest daughter is younger than 10 years old. As we all know kids I’m sure she will be bragging about her new “toy” to my children. Any advice from anyone going through something similar?,4.156432272390823,5.3895791398963775,4.032024426350851,90.70882124352332,71.07253886010362,6.7578090303478895,27.77535159141377,6.868970318607317,1.1012149518874912,766,27,162,6,14,233,110,193,0.040999999999999995,0.846,0.113,0.9469,1,0,1,0,1,0,9.0,4,0,5,0,7,8,1,0,6,0,19,1,0,2,5,31,31,16,0,3,6,9,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,4,10,12,0,0,3,2,0,3,5,2,0,2,8,0,30,6,25,20,4,16,0,1,0,0,45,3,0,1,11,113,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760809164470126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253630724294035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259939920841657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984298364412497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399553029402016,0.2060909180624841,0.18371710576905595,0.0,0.0,0.15521890573613015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386814266851952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959606578243804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392154016351547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240690525596696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614932620540929,0.0,0.0,0.2079166422843447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902846180703803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727449000968666,0.08803239913433614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672192279407088,0.0,0.17402994318566956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908052614470533,0.0,0.12210233233086328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543520249931825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182363281364264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872011615068328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33965645811976825,0.0,0.13548148140755642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34436114242747873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562748480403746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603733127084068
parenting,Throwaway-12706,2020/01/12,"Anxiety of growing Hey everybody, 

I don’t know if this is the proper place to ask this question but here i go.

I have turned 18 on the 11th of January. For a while im having struggle with accepting the fact that im growing. 

I dont know how to put this into words (my apologies for that)

I have sleeping and thinking straight because my childhood has ended together with the 2010s. As the decade was ending i was thinking of all the memories i had made which has wanted me to go back for to my childhood friends, toys, games and tv shows (spongebob, big time rush, icarly etc.)
And the fact that my siblings and parents are growing older scares me even more and hurts me.

This is because of all the useless fights we had because i was a troublesome child. It scars me when i think of the time i kept breaking their heart’s and did not show them enough love. I try to make up for it as much as i can but i still feel like its not enough.

Mom dad i am so sorry for the troubles i caused you as i child. I love you.

I want to go back to a younger me

Does anyone have any advice on coping with this.",3.4096238938053105,4.297056278761069,4.120519911504426,90.67865597345137,72.49557522123894,6.888938053097348,27.39933628318584,6.9077264865688965,1.1020097345132744,853,30,187,7,16,272,129,226,0.12300000000000001,0.747,0.131,0.2193,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,2,2,0,8,11,1,2,13,0,19,4,2,4,4,36,37,17,0,3,5,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,12,11,0,1,8,5,0,8,4,6,0,0,8,1,32,5,28,29,7,28,0,2,0,2,19,7,0,2,13,131,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779238608197913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893188086604557,0.0,0.10004296297924033,0.0,0.0,0.09144132825589174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225751661676915,0.0,0.0,0.20111670192883205,0.0,0.23915874458440825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434254744295987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444259388747455,0.0,0.1532680092072541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23165670042127146,0.2702522713300952,0.14584934391112622,0.08637603913954085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612406408696446,0.0934261025625966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103689095502386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229683324803008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496969541071282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999796627233574,0.0,0.282520141495518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374168058306055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389034408100297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23606013879562476,0.1237430185727336,0.08729371708286612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531627821477228,0.0,0.0,0.09613510067181373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521080857706084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366326499791698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146558128502436,0.14649858225969598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309291724799011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087002747407228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639255831541953,0.0,0.0,0.10443754944330498,0.0,0.0,0.13671503368294832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513871391304116,0.0,0.0,0.15251258813084229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878803646259521,0.14224628105438306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426965416014335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FatGhoulSacrifice,2020/01/12,"Sleeping on a pallet. My son (7yr) has an old dinning room table in his room, and for months he's been asking to turn it into a fort and sleep under it at night (instead of his bed).
I have no issues with the fort, my worry is him sleeping on the floor. The mattress won't fit under the table, but he says he doesn't care. We have a mattress pad and comforters we can lay down to make a pallet, but I'm still so unsure.

I'm absolutely terrified of losing my son. As a child, me and my sisters had crap parents and social services always seemed to be involved until eventually I took off at 15 and my mom lost custody of my sisters. I've see the system fail so many times and now that I'm parent I have this paranoid feeling that one wrong move.. and boom! There goes my boy. 

This fear makes me doubt situations like this. Like is him sleeping on the floor going to raise some kind of neglect flags if he brings it up at school? 

I remember pallets being a big thing for almost every kid when I was growing up.. sleep overs, living room movie nights.. but everything is so different now I'm not sure what to do.",3.2234305049453416,4.4523265486725725,4.42302446642374,87.02996616345655,73.3362831858407,6.5565851119208745,24.798542425819893,6.794906146795322,0.863749921915669,864,26,178,7,17,284,142,226,0.215,0.732,0.054000000000000006,-0.9917,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,0,3,9,14,1,2,13,0,16,6,6,2,1,27,32,18,0,1,5,7,1,2,0,1,0,2,6,3,10,12,0,1,3,0,0,5,4,8,0,1,5,4,20,6,29,24,1,38,0,4,1,0,24,22,1,5,12,113,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048669265166301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100118864117673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124863122670992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226779170882718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571253986464553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137781238355256,0.0,0.10813908236306287,0.0,0.0,0.13539748842165558,0.06083922139995227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838266790491784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558656479734084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252985009843973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175680546117416,0.0,0.10624793261310532,0.0,0.0,0.13461131736327714,0.13134740992056962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606338586038683,0.12198923267373185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092153200176566,0.0960411399684312,0.12788493192098446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258310727441256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625936497467916,0.0,0.08153437721145104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672102102214104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630316949511126,0.0,0.0,0.09568614659368793,0.0,0.12177389480146347,0.09588232126939863,0.10953807545540314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524875424570418,0.6020524211610382,0.12265474523476873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609057278592599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340355769618088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993764532995044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016165176545187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336839335202656,0.0,0.1308775119297833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219444423555033,0.0,0.0,0.13155495473844062,0.0,0.0
parenting,30152010,2020/01/12,"Hypo-sensitive 2.5 yrs old boy I'm gonna be completely honest. I am anxious and I don't know what to do anymore. In the last couple months we have recieved confirmation that my son is hyposensitive (sensory processing disorder) and needs alot of sensory input. I have been racking my brain and the internet on how to constructively create a schedule that will help him thrive  and be happy. I am asking, please other parents who are in my shoes, what does your schedule look like? I really just want to be able to help him and I need some outside input and discussion. I am open to any comments, questions, concerns and advice.",4.548205128205126,6.79793702564103,5.614025641025645,75.65180769230773,71.90598290598291,8.782564102564104,30.503418803418803,9.3871,3.1569664957264973,500,22,84,12,10,165,83,117,0.019,0.804,0.177,0.951,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,14,2,2,1,0,18,22,8,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,14,3,9,16,2,9,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,3,6,57,20,0,0.20232229612859368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770700618660209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758609929460305,0.0,0.0,0.2285666058733176,0.20064935213682905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891440353778536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258585944801955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213107814806226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238657724347138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23187887974507576,0.0,0.17705360476802598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153758463966974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27122474064806185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119104276712168,0.16491967494195098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884445419450738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989977257565358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149172650254576,0.0,0.0,0.30003883792569325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123032155134576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465496662132467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220891249039513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266472752967129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296128436584564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933493224658345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monkeysarecools,2020/01/12,"Not sure if this is appropriate but my baby brother is turning four soon and he still doesnt talk, advice? So as i said he is turning four and he can use words but he seems unwilling to say sentences. He can say basic stuff like “give me please” but he wont say anything more than that. What can we do to help him talk more?",0.8818487394958012,2.9434826470588256,2.2544537815126056,96.20147058823532,82.82352941176471,5.0621848739495805,20.00840336134453,6.1826913282559595,-0.13562436974789893,252,7,58,2,7,81,48,68,0.02,0.823,0.157,0.8729,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,1,12,15,8,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,4,5,2,4,13,2,2,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,2,3,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478634390954173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245569795073729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103566118623264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046827193040118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238379904009222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300415184488885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19934610704462047,0.4999680178151324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19078183000817314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673603926891729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399039558094049,0.0,0.0,0.1975143179827306,0.0,0.0,0.3368838631586339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4558972052242485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809985106162668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gmaforall,2020/01/12,"How to spot a little liar I have just been witness to the greatest “tell” of all time. 

My son has raised his children from an early age to believe that when they lie, their ears turn red. 

Now, when they tell a lie, they cover their ears with their hands. 

When they come to him with a story, and are covering their ears with their hands, my son only has to say “show me your ears” and when they do, he says “nope, you’re lying, your ears are red!”

They are now scared to lie, because he can always tell ‘by their ears’. 

Definitely recommend 10/10.",3.505833333333332,4.710303657407408,3.5509259259259283,93.6491666666667,72.6111111111111,6.511111111111113,20.907407407407405,6.6274283507984215,0.064607407407407,417,8,93,3,8,127,66,108,0.051,0.841,0.10800000000000001,0.7623,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,12,0,8,2,1,1,5,0,9,8,8,1,1,9,11,7,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,12,20,0,12,10,2,11,0,0,2,0,26,1,0,0,9,60,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429376707111732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496677819523197,0.0,0.0,0.2766189392318903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114952504737005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460772976709991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673035700755408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904975054684631,0.2458101066549548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6437905025425874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316570877441573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26705716422836273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway731234,2020/01/12,"Will I ever want kids? Hi everyone,

So here's my problem. I'm a guy. When I was single, I was never interested in having kids. I saw my sisters' experiences with kids and it just didn't sound attractive at all to me. I was also never patient enough to kids, people would see kids doing stuff and saying ""aww so cute"", and I'd not feel anything. I like pets though.. I had a cat for a very long time and I loved her so much. We have a parrot now and I'd give my life for him. But I just never felt the same about kids.. I thought when I am with someone I'll want to have kids with them out of my love for them. 

I'd sometimes fantasize about having a teenage son or daughter, helping them out with school, listening to their stories with their friends, helping them with their careers, or when they make their own families and come to visit me when I'm old. I guess I'm not fond of the first 8 years of their lives (especially first 2 years). 

When my wife and I got together, I honestly thought that I'd want to have kids with her. But to me, I always expected that to be an outcome of our love for each other and not for the sake of having kids. My wife is now very keen on having a baby. I feel I'm not ready. We're doing fine financially but I'm talking about being ready emotionally and mentally.. I just don't look forward to all the hard work parenting requires. My wife has a very optimistic view of things. She thinks everything will be the same. I understand that she has an urge to get a baby (she's almost 30), but I'm worried I'll resent it (or even hate it?)

The problem is that I don't know when I'll be emotionally ready or keen to have kids. I'm worried it could never happen and that I'd be wasting my wife's time who'd rather be with someone excited about having kids. 

Any advice or thoughts?",2.963468571428572,4.082572584000001,4.359614285714287,87.66045000000004,73.82666666666667,7.4904761904761905,25.392857142857146,7.957251820313856,1.2669257142857138,1409,45,308,20,28,468,171,375,0.10400000000000001,0.8079999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.8388,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,2,0,10,4,24,18,2,0,16,0,34,4,0,1,7,70,68,30,0,9,17,8,4,1,1,3,1,3,1,12,13,23,0,1,9,0,0,3,11,4,0,2,11,11,48,14,39,46,9,29,0,0,4,3,51,6,0,7,23,207,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115564216110924,0.0,0.0,0.10365735101024512,0.0,0.0,0.08278253026884262,0.08613446026439191,0.0,0.0,0.070395129110659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518569420944823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917075400392896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264992397708003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23288544803823366,0.0,0.10696076225682573,0.0,0.06837202101295989,0.09363707871403433,0.0,0.09891495682914424,0.09303443037349486,0.10125951720536999,0.0975866416631548,0.0,0.1046826398675792,0.0,0.0993925809703142,0.0,0.0,0.1761030630720132,0.0,0.0,0.07997699941185042,0.0,0.054083374868475684,0.0993029662835297,0.0,0.0,0.0827920241290323,0.0,0.1140356774741425,0.10249813311063936,0.0915397664069521,0.0,0.09273092469376187,0.10220163441882962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877056427803133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05689025164366565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311713857152613,0.05057319126400953,0.0,0.09140743266005416,0.0916093127062032,0.08692823248608432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28028447930998424,0.0,0.06909842032750592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043208172341524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609692674837328,0.0,0.319354855917846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862370794215942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494340970301264,0.0,0.0,0.0717656735325886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810363193397684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232089590968435,0.0,0.104764759323367,0.08248966929678575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541928459659073,0.0,0.10238098808170004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850223136758685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320306632990057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877211398652155,0.06632953201001085,0.10170495488841128,0.246542872925826,0.12072322352703653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776487736273092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562371690072341,0.18317107627833246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536162960897999,0.2102531344975289,0.0,0.07353552697738391,0.0,0.0,0.13332314479287113
parenting,sim1374,2020/01/12,"Is my kid supposed to be big at 12? My son is 12 years old, and he is 111.7 lbs, and 5'0"", and when he was 11 he was 98.7 lbs and 4'11"" im getting worried about his weight. I feed him healthy stuff, he plays hockey, so he gets exercise, so I'm just not sure why he's getting so big so can someone please help me understand why this is happening? Thanks",-0.009078947368418966,1.89632335526316,1.778157894736843,99.2346052631579,85.1842105263158,5.378947368421053,21.34210526315789,6.6274283507984215,0.1303736842105261,269,9,67,3,8,88,53,76,0.051,0.789,0.161,0.8427,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,8,15,9,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,3,3,12,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,3,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36745325878635454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20731315650189103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713915841849002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25323376733650266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460037276511813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573430292378101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19863894692143794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683759485261921,0.0,0.0,0.22095547469101465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21583943675973427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24405870544596675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28548288697442104,0.0,0.0,0.423088492321186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238083636696876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097068228737384
parenting,jazzhands88,2020/01/12,"Starting 3 day potty training plan tomorrow. Can you share your positive tips, tricks, or advice? I'm starting the big 3 day potty training plan in the morning with my son. I still feel a bit unprepared, but it may be because this will be my first time potty training. 

I've read a book and some websites.  Anyways, I'm having a hard time finding information on a few things. 

1. How to handle naptime. Do I use pullups or not? If I do use pull ups when do I wean them off and how?
2. Using rewards, I'm finding mixed info. Should I use food? Toys? None at all? 
3. Clothing for boys. Just put him in underwear? Or just thin pajama pants? 
4. Sleeping arrangement. Crib? Toddler bed? Does it matter? 
5. How to best handle a refusal to sit on the toilet? 

Any parents out there with a success story on this method willing to impart your wisdom, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for any help you can provide.",0.6507407407407406,3.153705371428572,2.446349206349208,89.06772486772489,95.28571428571428,4.421164021164022,23.624338624338627,6.238725200709706,0.8688751322751322,700,30,131,8,27,230,119,175,0.015,0.78,0.205,0.9902,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,4,1,6,9,8,1,0,9,0,14,2,1,7,1,32,25,11,0,3,8,2,3,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,5,5,1,1,5,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,13,7,17,17,6,24,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,6,10,81,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582607709155661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22027021259001886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872640159966677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699620161980111,0.0,0.17681315904430922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889544307435165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172810829739127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188942768280474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29604828212903805,0.13775903116694602,0.1958369002463712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855620668838573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508006984300806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855517306711808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983211062305282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280973288724707,0.0,0.0,0.16199905181574994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207218655813702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292654828637895,0.0,0.12933765143744172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910661128630082,0.0,0.0,0.1075958547093735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887478755136106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595092578507621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504834471405792,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catloverof6,2020/01/12,"ADVICE NEEDED: PARENTS OF TEENS I am the parent of an 18 year old High School Senior and a 13 year old who is in 8th grade.  I am frustrated and very overwhelmed with my 18 year olds sleeping habits. She does well in school and is otherwise an amazing kid.  She does not play sports. She works on average 12 hours a week. I need advice as to whether her laziness and sleep needs are normal. 

She sleeps about 6.5 hours a night during the school week and then will come home and sleep several hours a day after school. It drives me insane. Yes I know she needs more sleep during the week, and I have discussed that with her. However, because she is functional and doing well in school, I don’t harp on her for going to bed late.  So I go into her room after 30-45 minutes and wake her up, which as you may guess, doesn’t go over well. Then on weekends she will sleep in, I usually don’t let her go past 11 am. And, unless she has day plans, she will lay in her bed all day or sleep for hours at a time. I feel like she is in bed in some capacity all the time. 
I am questioning whether I am being a nuisance or if I should push her. I feel very anxious all the time when she is home and she demotivates me. I think she should do something to become an active member of society. But.. I am open to criticism and advice.",2.7992228713046536,4.1410377769516735,3.749952203929901,90.9924411400248,74.57620817843865,6.908196140909897,22.47495131881748,7.447530270364453,0.6484252434059123,1018,26,225,12,21,327,139,269,0.055999999999999994,0.87,0.07400000000000001,0.5809,3,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,0,2,7,8,1,1,14,1,27,8,8,0,3,43,41,25,0,8,8,2,2,1,0,6,0,0,6,1,4,17,0,0,5,3,0,7,4,2,3,0,0,2,40,6,31,33,5,54,0,1,0,0,28,17,0,7,31,147,44,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21889006489896376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435202535028959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551607731209127,0.08246341334047992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643186799866373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446137481548568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068252119060886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755073710995262,0.05334184682976145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697390388456333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225369773362669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888938141575247,0.14979341162801893,0.0,0.29412631320388394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04103482056086431,0.0,0.08422719737106492,0.0,0.0,0.0763516757395552,0.0,0.03647833800608558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214574046464765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006956295264227,0.07315743243164104,0.0,0.0,0.2350501659922895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581688621664606,0.0,0.07127773560025269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364370043626834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778330184636445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435202535028959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230437894822777,0.0,0.0,0.05748201042966197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04784335391878965,0.0,0.0,0.13061611625458422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223473092434158,0.12321555916814028,0.0,0.0,0.1796791714545155,0.0,0.20140277009029456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435818719081261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424856188331026
parenting,Sonamdrukpa,2020/01/12,"Car seats for pickup trucks My wife and I are having a baby in March.  We have a single vehicle, a pickup truck a single row of seats.  I've figured out how to install the car seat but I am worried about the safety of having an infant in the front seat.  I've been trying to do research but all I can find is that you're allowed to do it if the passenger seat airbag turns off.  

Frankly, this advice is useless.  I need to know *how much if any* the risk of injury in an accident goes up when you have an infant in a front seat of a pickup.  The best I can find is some websites saying that the risk goes up 30% but they never explain beyond that (is that a 30% increase in death? A 30% increase in non-serious injuries?  Does this apply to pickup trucks? Are there car seats designed to reduce the risk? Etc. etc.) or link to any actual research on the topic.  Can anyone here help me out?  Getting a new vehicle is not something we're really prepared for but if it's needed we'll find a way.",1.1296387520525428,3.2675373004926094,3.060788177339901,90.33564860426931,82.39901477832512,5.2459770114942526,20.504105090311988,6.42735559955562,0.2851090311986861,764,22,157,7,21,256,109,203,0.132,0.768,0.1,-0.7827,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,1,1,7,5,0,3,22,0,19,0,0,3,2,28,25,12,1,5,9,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,8,4,0,0,7,0,0,7,2,4,0,0,1,1,11,1,27,23,10,25,0,1,0,0,10,13,0,5,4,110,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.1817170482930685,0.0,0.0,0.1819652103228077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532624814722802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302044749176699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541907855901655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295627075358748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153534862899647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5105859867704376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728861853533917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481466370036524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233780720970076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688799739547014,0.2761491931986951,0.14361896252941442,0.1798456973829767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929283039462915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808406944132646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335588217454245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264264188533183,0.2025462959357646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780722966380624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891083632237647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittens_N_mittens,2020/01/12,"My 9 year old daughter wants to quit visitation with her dad I left their dad in 2017 and the divorce was finalized a year later. He was verbally abusive and threatening violent acts before I left, the kids saw/heard most of them. My oldest is 9 and she doesn't want to visit with him anymore. He remarried months after the divorce and they had no time to grieve the life they once had with him. He yells, neglects, and delegates most of his parental duties to his new wife or mother. She's sick of going over to be ignored. Any tips here because I think her younger siblings will want to follow suit after her. She researched writing a letter on her own and showed me her rough draft to ask for permission. I dont know what to do here...",4.0983573667711575,5.595699813793106,4.5247021943573715,86.10097178683388,71.55172413793103,7.479623824451412,27.66457680250784,8.00094639256281,1.6815517241379312,583,21,115,8,11,184,98,145,0.183,0.8170000000000001,0.0,-0.9765,2,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,4,1,2,4,1,0,6,0,10,2,0,0,0,21,18,7,1,3,1,6,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,9,0,3,2,1,0,5,3,4,0,0,4,2,23,0,20,12,3,21,0,2,0,0,33,5,0,3,11,73,24,2,0.0,0.2372107014857978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614656047444645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985499937487279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716505506717204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204337434250595,0.0,0.17036007852902704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23463927762603384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931526701102105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378136189293127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002767071618336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4350475797245717,0.0,0.14141101883055515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980206736818253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335965574119493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008192483116775,0.21321225323901444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230444176997385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21294312286048295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828355818265413,0.0,0.0,0.11674139858992814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542590563971475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578514710393161
parenting,MDFOUR4,2020/01/12,"SOLO DAD | Bratty Teen! Completely and absolutely random, but I’m extremely new to Reddit! This may be my
one and only post?

I’m randomly looking for a super close long term friendship or relationship and Mom to proxy co-parenton my Daughter on Reddit. With my profession it’s so hard to find someone to chat with AND having a very clingy 17 year old Daughter, it’s hard.

I know this was very forward, but hopefully I will hear from someone. I would love to chat here or even exchange instagrams or numbers to text.

Talk soon!!!",4.422004950495051,6.248298267326732,5.456522277227721,78.4285457920792,71.27722772277227,8.614356435643566,30.446782178217827,9.188382445141503,2.8434247524752467,419,18,75,9,8,138,72,101,0.042,0.773,0.185,0.9613,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,19,13,10,0,2,5,4,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,6,3,11,8,1,10,0,0,1,1,10,3,0,7,7,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350586801587207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449801729570668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861173451714377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648312666066832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22950977300323264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20225402925819289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191165532574336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180209254345008,0.17100086765290187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378719924439468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384931136872744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966705193917207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21367912097784986,0.0,0.13798734102229365,0.15487246556119974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502461953725236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862618926638389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.345076035842214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636729072579793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33603795508112266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465540776362848,0.0,0.0,0.13113330839577378
parenting,a12rm,2020/01/12,"FTM looking for some perspective My daughter is 3 months old and takes the best naps in my arms. I can tell when she’s getting sleepy, I scoop her up, and we cuddle while she sleeps. If I try to put her in her crib, she wakes up crying. Thankfully, this doesn’t effect her at night. She has slept through the night since she was 6 weeks old which has been amazing. So my question is - should I be worried that she doesn’t nap in the crib? Obviously I love the baby cuddles and I always tell myself she won’t be this little for long so I’ll let her sleep on me all she wants - however in the back of my mind I’m wondering if I’m setting myself up for 2+ years of being stuck on my couch while she naps on me. Any advice from seasoned parents out there? There is so much information about sleep training and how your kids shouldn’t get into the “bad” habit of being held to go to sleep, but like I said since she sleeps through the night I really haven’t been too concerned... any thoughts are welcome 👍",3.362103559870551,4.422467766990295,3.914543689320389,91.45780258899677,72.7864077669903,6.852556634304207,24.412944983818768,7.0316486544052195,0.701844401294498,784,22,174,7,15,247,124,206,0.037000000000000005,0.871,0.092,0.9003,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,2,10,7,0,0,7,0,21,11,8,2,2,24,37,14,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,1,4,7,0,1,5,3,0,2,5,1,0,0,8,2,34,6,26,21,4,31,0,0,1,3,27,14,0,5,15,114,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173106407365071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989051037821244,0.0,0.0,0.16327507836978564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231038675085601,0.10023602643718872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259841772898643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318683550478145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254414528634735,0.0,0.06822669891677566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275839024189053,0.0,0.058649951149752313,0.12032078711579347,0.0,0.10623972070563832,0.10081105149619844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834904560236797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121542011244825,0.0,0.09582208680949733,0.0,0.08824993884881709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379739869375113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519427785861867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330037507174675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068255432252525,0.13448252340205985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690656001792531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419423336188166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986117961424973,0.0,0.6006792441585321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902620210784419,0.0,0.20985649830826955,0.11052512891762242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530561609169906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150549314011284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080809949082648,0.0,0.0962961874951398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018818305694804,0.0,0.12191573993213654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730771713033982
parenting,desicoastie,2020/01/12,"Carseat help! I have a lovely baby girl who's 10 weeks old now. She's a happy and cheerful babe almost all the time, with the exception of when we put her in the carseat. Which means that any car rides and stroller outings are just so so stressful. Other than playing the Mickey Mouse hotdog song video, we can't find anything to calm her. And I hate to put a screen in front of her. Would love any input about how you keep your babies happy in the carseat!",3.5718633540372693,4.956102521739133,3.5161490683229846,93.26239130434784,72.69565217391305,5.691925465838509,24.01242236024845,5.288315135182226,0.2412900621118017,360,10,76,1,7,109,69,92,0.076,0.682,0.242,0.9516,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,2,0,0,7,9,1,1,8,0,4,2,0,1,1,15,9,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,6,0,1,2,3,0,5,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,7,11,8,1,13,0,0,1,2,14,3,0,1,5,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656195979341035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805581212965918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975278425286644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18853831589521505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4391827600863673,0.0,0.20366109777932268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382667000436585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335321630589824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723557199541893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470193515311296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21645860880953666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147414418913198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362957163143712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028488766733934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546724534698046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653705134128234,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DevinChelsea,2020/01/12,My daughter(3) won’t nap but she needs to My daughter used to nap every day without fail and now she screams and cries and bangs on her door every time we put her down. But she’s obviously tired and she’s a complete nightmare if she doesn’t sleep. This has been going on for weeks now. I’m losing patience.,1.3119047619047637,3.6844766984127015,2.1549206349206362,95.64285714285715,83.60317460317461,4.234920634920635,21.698412698412696,5.288315135182226,-0.11512063492063485,244,8,52,1,7,76,46,63,0.196,0.75,0.054000000000000006,-0.8697,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,1,1,12,8,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,1,10,0,7,6,0,10,0,2,0,0,9,3,0,1,5,32,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835039666965682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29701616219784965,0.17438237728647202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556388246321094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367168464595735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025027912100334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049443357750588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718216141857001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270590231822004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576694731965058,0.31077922500870003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335344253131415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689452358543704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26065108834270656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skelshy,2020/01/12,"Early board games for 4.5 year old? We recently tried a few board games, and they are mostly fun, but they seem to overwhelm our son emotionally. He doesn't like when things don't go his way or when he has to pass a turn. While there are certainly are a few good lessons for him to learn, it seems it's a little too big of a leap for now. For example we have this orchard game where you get to collect fruit based on the roll of a dice, but if that tree is empty, you don't get anything on your turn.

We may have made a mistake of motivating him to get dressed by having a mock competition who's getting dressed first ... he can be very competitive... 

Are there any board games that are a little more collaborative, give something to do every turn, or are more activity-centered than winning centered?

I tried the search, but searching for 'games' is hopeless .-) Thanks.",5.971479289940827,6.1070414437869855,5.873189349112426,83.05546449704144,66.51479289940828,8.8901775147929,31.101183431952663,8.548686976883017,2.0948220118343186,680,24,141,9,10,213,107,169,0.09699999999999999,0.78,0.12300000000000001,0.7839,0,0,1,0,0,1,26.0,4,3,2,4,7,10,1,1,11,0,19,1,0,2,1,20,32,10,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,5,5,0,2,3,4,0,1,1,1,13,6,18,29,5,19,0,2,0,0,23,7,0,7,10,89,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210828925784018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566311430511616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854417308587531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889897917889515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402271249693579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445235322611097,0.15814568151122013,0.09369192865976143,0.13827407715819515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805407139179346,0.3304596816706729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599150703543604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729894983372488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277621906313705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001589105989569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691483248690735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177800858125118,0.0,0.0,0.10952354438549787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22385391554638087,0.5379506336872745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602413985450704,0.0,0.13085566848450586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616238559423946
parenting,cheesy-charlie,2020/01/12,"I need advice, direction, and opinions. So I have a 5 yr old (M) and I am very concerned with his weight. 
He has gained 25lbs in a year. 
I share joint custody with his dad, but he refuses to do anything to assist with getting our son back to a healthy weight. Our custody arrangement is week to week. So he is with me Friday-Friday. When he is here, I encourage him to drink water, we eat clean, I take him to the park to play while I job the track, and he really really enjoys jogging/walking with me. 
When he is at his dads, he plays his PS4, they don’t keep any drinks in their home aside from Mountain Dew and Dr. Pepper, and they eat out a lot, especially pizza because his step mom works at Pizza Hut. Not only that, but his grandmother picks him up from school everyday during his dads week and takes him to Taco Bell to get a Large soda. 

My son has expressed to me how much he loves drinking water, he and my daughter race each other to see who can drink the most or finish theirs first everyday. He loves the food that we eat and the activities that we do bc he doesn’t get that nutrients at his dads. I’m not saying he doesn’t love what they do/eat/etc as well. Because I’m sure he does, what 5 year old wouldn’t? 

I’m just very concerned with him becoming obese, right now his BMI is in the ‘overweight’ category, and I want to set him up with healthy habits that he can carry into his teen-adult life. Rather than continuing bad habits like I went through as a child. 

If more info is needed I can provide that. I’m not sure what my first step should be? Should I make an appointment with his pediatrician to express my concerns and see what they think? I’m so lost and just want to help my sweet boy. 

TIA. 

TL;DR- 5 yr is overweight. Where do I start with getting him help and getting information for myself and his father in order to help him live a healthy, happy life?",4.325354330708663,4.897514679790028,4.941001574803148,86.78214803149606,70.18110236220473,7.9857637795275584,26.26362204724409,7.9765259561132025,1.3049390236220475,1467,42,316,18,25,471,191,381,0.028999999999999998,0.757,0.214,0.9976,1,0,4,0,0,0,49.0,5,0,6,5,14,16,0,0,14,0,24,24,0,3,2,58,51,26,0,9,10,9,2,1,0,3,6,1,2,2,12,28,18,2,3,6,0,3,7,2,1,2,2,6,52,14,42,45,5,37,0,1,2,3,70,13,0,5,20,186,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146983990052264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636546914434416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702903807128246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197655936618264,0.07815636529569263,0.11412162465825584,0.10337950083827717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191447128917803,0.0,0.0,0.36678952696022654,0.0,0.3831256251376913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439445217486444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924093447534549,0.11318768263619212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445240589061955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996443907999478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822461643612867,0.0,0.09389356743595753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288863807422322,0.0832005315346139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223212894976072,0.04573073344549402,0.0,0.08265503586855266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102181045891589,0.07957972565711073,0.25344682611230906,0.0,0.06248214444301128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962918520657036,0.0,0.0,0.06881053352920731,0.13881402079954133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964456546881656,0.0,0.0,0.07119091175383026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993167351187073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993826101411965,0.0,0.07443854844333526,0.0,0.09473337875966173,0.14918232305829718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625418570548681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764434356220713,0.0,0.140758801849649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997838127476088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446805421112364,0.1104214499796964,0.0,0.2252531432249701,0.22797163754151925,0.08416224438594075,0.08677288401198921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814564217779365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205572566067569
parenting,JustARandomUserHere,2020/01/12,"What's the best option for Windows parental control software? I've got multiple kids with multiple shared devices and am looking for software that will let me manage my digital chaos.  Seems easy, right?  Tons of articles with recommendations but you can tell that most of those authors haven't actually tried to use the software to manage digital lives of kids.  They read some marketing info, maybe configured the software but never actually relied on it.  Anyway, the two most recommended Microsoft' built-in solution and Qustodio have too many bug so I'm moving on.  Before I waste time on another ""Editor Recommended"" option, I'd like to hear from real-world parents.  At this point, I just want something that reliably tracks usage with controls around time and length.  I don't need any social media monitoring as they aren't allowed.  I also need simple app/website blocking.   I hate to say it but at this point price isn't a top consideration.  I just need something that works that I can rely on.",5.371906424581006,8.030276592178772,5.978711592178772,72.12438023743019,70.7877094972067,8.94427374301676,31.29923184357542,9.516144504307137,3.4642650837988835,806,36,126,20,16,261,122,179,0.09,0.8059999999999999,0.105,-0.252,3,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,2,5,7,4,1,0,5,0,10,0,0,4,1,30,21,9,0,4,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,11,7,0,3,3,1,1,1,5,1,0,1,1,3,12,3,21,18,5,15,0,0,1,0,12,11,0,6,4,78,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.2771526255850511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356127939081173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656821190082206,0.1489045352373978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641448132985186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083572368998301,0.0,0.1490253975089159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31854117466864484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357430309165775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020045440435866,0.0,0.0,0.16004986004783914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520964693257682,0.0,0.06937642862770448,0.0,0.125392941783662,0.0,0.11924836392705823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439706954731284,0.14266302408926798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092875154351576,0.0,0.3158845358779057,0.10952294493754054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31535930639049925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684810898423031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204334375972247,0.16163268234470998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212714216901616,0.0,0.11292800823726615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927594147822072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475612795891873,0.0,0.21864464292672092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411855501609513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656084160678661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641201598212712,0.0,0.13871816804181925,0.0,0.0,0.12264665280268675,0.0,0.0,0.08375817821306858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338126954538543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alfredlloyd,2020/01/12,"My(m30) 14yo daughter is on the phone (group call) to two boys from her class and I hate it. She’s friends with them and she’s recently got her first phone for Christmas which she mainly uses to takes photos via snapchat where she looks like a girl five years older than she is and also looks somewhat seductive because that’s what snapchat does now apparently. It’s making me feel things like anger, sadness, disappointment and all the things I don’t ever want to feel towards my daughter. I can’t control this and it’s making me feel powerless. I don’t know what I expect anyone to say here but hey.",2.8888461538461527,5.437834230769234,3.0381410256410284,90.64644230769231,78.48717948717949,5.609401709401709,23.42521367521368,6.816661863887847,0.7286188034188029,483,16,94,5,12,147,79,117,0.098,0.8420000000000001,0.06,-0.6369,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,2,5,7,2,0,3,0,5,0,0,4,2,20,18,7,0,2,1,2,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,10,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,3,1,6,16,3,10,17,3,9,0,2,2,0,19,3,0,1,8,61,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718157138821352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617643452779852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274382646457265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21346899278708967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344734685036503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294583698269928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891026271941103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171141575395039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782246275297656,0.0,0.0,0.16151572551799362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720074449707956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063989803778022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489141048928092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426787048368367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35110785954058543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790922783654901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064170406242736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624928824441212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718368446863207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777743093045652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20421680204495832,0.0,0.0,0.18055679058082907,0.0,0.0,0.12330632347039065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462485850882253
parenting,liznotliz,2020/01/12,"Transitioning toddler out of crib when kids share a room We live in a small apartment and my 7 yo son and 2 1/2 yo daughter share a room. 

The toddler has stopped napping and now can climb out of her crib. We’ve been doing quiet time with a gate up in the afternoon which hasn’t been going well but we’ll get there.

I think it’s time to turn the crib into a toddler bed but I’m super nervous about bedtime. I’m really worried about the toddler keeping the big kid awake or waking him up at night or early in the morning and then we’ll all be miserable. 

Any advice on how to make this go as smoothly as possible?",3.49079861111111,4.352026968750003,4.706666666666667,86.64944444444444,72.28125,7.251388888888887,28.284722222222207,7.3871296695380915,1.4769399305555555,484,18,102,5,9,160,88,128,0.092,0.828,0.08,-0.3694,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,2,7,6,0,2,11,0,9,1,1,2,1,19,18,13,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,3,9,0,2,1,1,0,3,1,2,1,0,2,2,7,4,19,13,1,27,0,1,0,0,11,15,0,2,9,62,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27048227023514915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823106579682147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461471158578726,0.0,0.3146195826363183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460293871589568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444163209688318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18476376799703606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597547011176172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312046388120557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732288238325722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23141421162336145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735997734193018,0.0,0.0,0.3228044513591385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30107503437188143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24887323465693106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811002131367625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,29fy4a,2020/01/12,"Child Thinks It is fun when i get angry I am having trouble with my daughter not following rules established by my wife when I am in charge over the weekends. It usually starts in the mornings around food. She refuses to eat the same things that are required by my wife, then when I tell her that she has to eat if she wants to go out to the park, she still refuses. She then freaks out about being in her chair and I tell her to get down but she refuses that too. It is a vicious cycle that is tearing my family up. My wife tells me to give her a time out when she sasses me, but when i do that she says i am too hard on her. I have tried the positive parenting techniques, but they don't seem to work. Please help!",2.9499084807809623,3.995282758389262,3.9477608297742535,90.88502135448445,73.76510067114094,7.834289200732154,24.28370957901159,8.296473431620573,1.1641624161073825,557,16,127,9,11,180,84,149,0.066,0.8440000000000001,0.091,0.7777,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,2,10,4,1,0,7,0,13,3,0,0,0,19,22,12,0,2,5,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,6,3,4,2,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,29,1,22,21,1,25,0,0,0,0,29,11,0,2,12,97,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268418694432405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969819131955292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828679917824279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345625552294255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20269409793099852,0.18608421924169505,0.11024385381439168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376884464790776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300213532075018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21539290770522496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293285032688986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426145074954511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659298690139014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373007268262126,0.0,0.15491345078671534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5086437455310134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887233499393747,0.1242951710174348,0.0,0.0,0.11311186178582056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317003433182247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21364262967775552,0.0,0.1144150001843661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122045424633795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,es88,2020/01/12,"Help. Let's talk about food. I have a really complicated relationship with food and worry everyday about passing on my bad habits and unhealthy beliefs about food to my kids. (Food=coping for me.) My kids are 5, 2 and infant and it kills me to see how obsessed my 5 year old already is with treats. I don't want them to have the same struggles I do.

For those of you who were raised to have a healthy relationship with food or have cultivated that in adulthood, how do you teach your kids about food and eating? What messages do you send them? What kinds of rules and routines do you have around food? Do you ever use treats as a reward or something to look forward to?

For example, are your kids allowed free reign in snacks or do you control the snack cupboard? Do you enforce meal times? How often do you do treats? Do your kids have to finish their veggies/dinner/etc. first before having treats? Do you cater to picky eaters? Do you pack their school lunch for them or leave it up to them? How do you handle holidays and events where there is tons of junk food available to your kids? How do you encourage kids to eat and enjoy veggies?

I would also love book suggestions or resources around this topic! (Though I'm not interested in following any sort of specific diet like keto, vegan, etc.)",3.6176451259583793,5.78926473493976,3.8939704271632,87.30367196056956,74.34136546184739,6.7762687112084725,24.16958744067177,7.686295010490155,1.1588056224899592,1025,32,199,14,22,318,138,249,0.083,0.8059999999999999,0.11,0.8826,1,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,0,16,6,3,17,16,1,2,5,0,29,15,0,8,1,34,36,21,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,8,13,14,1,1,2,1,4,2,4,0,1,1,2,32,13,34,33,3,20,1,0,2,1,40,9,0,7,10,137,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547301405547466,0.06918714490200965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058834128195377935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403590175100682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223759177557572,0.0,0.0,0.07361909595529342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703551477793176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770557804393194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19297734205810965,0.0,0.07825904948966174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359081742779802,0.8369279284022475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799012851900855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571759345698594,0.09009353152511336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916083902880323,0.0,0.08846889483271117,0.0,0.042267549696497035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265199792224694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808444133010077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078442271311396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554246300946496,0.0,0.0,0.18577250123163971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755922971175567,0.06894238052425943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660456219482838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044574048820134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953861627282239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850019373443252,0.0,0.05044841666519136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472240348757929,0.0,0.0,0.051029622454436686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786161787602023,0.0,0.06145877812513295,0.0,0.0,0.05571373397031678
parenting,ilikerosiepugs,2020/01/12,"How to get a rest when you have kids on different nap schedules! I saw a post regarding this in a sub (can’t remember if it was here!) but this is how I keep my sanity. QUIET TIME IN THEIR ROOM! I started implementing quiet time with my oldest when she was around 10 months old. I’d pop her in the crib with some toys & books, turn the light on, close the door (eventually—start with it open) & do some much needed chores hands free. I lengthened the time she was in there alone & eventually it turned into her playing in her room (no crib since she transitioned) with the door closed, and the video monitor attached to my hand and NO CRYING!

Now I have another babe who naps differently (only one nap a day while I’m on my own) so big sister plays magnatiles & reads books in her room for sometimes over an hour while I nap with baby —sometimes I desperately need the nap too & other times baby won’t sleep unless it’s with me since he’s been sick lately. 

All I can say is thank god that I trained my eldest to have quiet alone time in a safe environment and with a video monitor so that I can get stuff done! 

PS: we don’t use her room (or crib) for time out. 1) we don’t want to associate the place she sleeps in as an unhappy place 2) she wants to be in there for quiet time instead of thinking she’s being punished.

PPS: their room needs to be a completely safe area that you are confident with leaving them unsupervised in + including the toys you give them. The only things in big sisters room that she can reach & access is a teepee, pillows, bed, blanket + any toys that I give her. We don’t have furniture (if you have drawers—baby proof them AND make sure they’re anchored to the wall).",5.956032741738062,5.451993002906982,6.221052631578946,82.70815789473684,66.6453488372093,9.683965728274174,29.15177478580172,9.134995656068208,2.0475197674418606,1339,38,286,21,19,430,183,344,0.083,0.81,0.107,0.7759999999999999,2,2,0,0,0,0,50.0,3,4,5,0,13,8,1,0,21,0,26,5,4,4,3,45,45,18,0,7,5,2,2,0,0,1,1,5,11,2,15,21,0,3,2,15,1,0,7,1,0,1,6,9,42,8,39,35,6,54,0,0,1,0,34,33,0,5,20,174,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549151063076386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5821578112185392,0.0,0.06089638937456315,0.0938999322755167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971759366894285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389042061356707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836536935523993,0.057751695476431573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711928665812544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916397156547462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357131086453167,0.17180711726076786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818772471249893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959526390924775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101517017167988,0.09481945897849177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977465149352064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147715581944145,0.0,0.06582881713579923,0.19919834193450936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396660958965382,0.0,0.06068071855977158,0.13621209635250156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711928665812544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576318641037198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957323118440542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144155814777077,0.0,0.0,0.07121295740645163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815171296237492,0.0,0.1792273383383183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713249747649626,0.0,0.12676648331571275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251217824703816,0.0,0.0,0.08439887080258845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244468602854252,0.0,0.0,0.059492375173453974,0.0573793820587306,0.0,0.0,0.36551718588574733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948071902632735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734158246846125,0.0,0.0,0.10563663825536064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sweetpea8709,2020/01/12,"How to get 3yo to fall asleep without us sitting next to bed?? This will probably be long, so bear with me:
My 3yo has been sleeping in her big girl bed for about 9 or 10 months. We got in to the habit of sitting in a chair next to her bed and staying there until she fell asleep. She’s a strong willed child to say the least, and has always needed some type of assistance from us at bedtime. Sitting with her to fall asleep had been ok until recently. Over Christmas, we spent about a week at my parent’s house, where we had to share a room. Naps were non existent during that week, but we kept bedtime the same. Once we got home, we went right back in to our normal routine. Since then however, she’s been waking up at night around the same time (between 2:30-4am) crying out for me. I’ll go up, tuck her back in, sit with her, and she will fall asleep. About an hour or so later, she will wake up and cry for me again. Out of exhaustion and frustration (because it takes me forever to fall back to sleep, if I’m even that lucky to drift off), I’ve been bringing her down to our room where we have her sleep on a bed on the floor. This has been happening every night for about 2 weeks, except for the night before last, where she slept all night in her bed. 

I feel like we need to abolish this crutch of her needing us next to her to fall asleep, because when she wakes in the night, she can’t put herself back to sleep. I don’t even know how to begin to wean this bad habit. I know we’ve also started another bad sleep habit of bringing her down to our room. I’m a SAHM with no family or friends near to lean on for help, so it’s not like I can have grandma come over for a couple hours so I can rest. I do this out of desperation to be honest. Also, I’m 26 weeks pregnant, and I’m getting worried that the habit of her coming down in our room will become permanent, and I really can’t have her, plus a newborn in our room. 

Please help!",4.863549289711578,4.3750097673267385,5.19261300043048,89.11967068445978,68.90099009900989,8.412225570383129,26.723633232888503,7.586124646067393,1.1197508824795523,1502,37,346,14,23,477,189,404,0.08800000000000001,0.831,0.081,-0.7979,2,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,16,0,0,1,25,12,1,0,17,1,27,15,14,2,1,49,54,25,0,5,8,1,1,2,1,5,1,1,11,3,10,26,0,1,3,1,1,14,6,4,0,0,14,2,51,8,80,33,6,90,0,0,0,0,47,40,0,6,33,226,61,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949013928411768,0.06736664861883512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489543756182591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207310838141398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490183047245723,0.1351993326768544,0.09870704349812556,0.08941587465667163,0.06889247274709315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948273045701373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895826190488194,0.17786532684264947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694892382912637,0.0,0.06821375297028998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632351765640145,0.0,0.040936685472948986,0.05783907913673525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255083505984685,0.0,0.08459832916353764,0.0,0.04601241934741364,0.0,0.12950498977581335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159419423141987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853388775711983,0.0,0.08121122068537584,0.0,0.1594619995056487,0.09341897121274484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898890364093437,0.06599461924572886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910762765466839,0.0,0.0,0.07164858710844035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462288387132815,0.0,0.0,0.18009630028806464,0.0,0.0,0.25831116864905,0.37988551555297295,0.07932530977711126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622160468840337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989842472739994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887167187185092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729044295146078,0.0,0.0,0.08138890471864388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051866160114654565,0.0,0.07993994529153284,0.0,0.0,0.0691408786959852,0.0,0.06438402065459971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697238322052691,0.0,0.4051010193124558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057305132221417886,0.08629443642631618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608731483560781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720943832767612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29216099330068873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597704787674602,0.0,0.0,0.075052338785729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804422270644949,0.0,0.0,0.08222057112348997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonymause66,2020/01/12,"Parenting a Step-child I am really struggling on what to do about how my wife and I are dealing with a kid (17 in a few weeks) from her previous marriage going through adolescence and desperately wanting  to escape to his dad's place where there are no expectations for him academically or otherwise.

We have been married for 10 years and this issue has been building for a minute. I am of the mind to let him go to his dad's place and let the chips fall where they may. His mom, understandably, sees things quite differently. She is insistent that he stay here for the duration of his high school career and or he turns 18. We are now at a full stop about what to do. His behavior has become increasingly confrontational and belligerent with me and this has put a huge wedge between his mom and me. 

His mom and I have provided him with 100% of his costs since we got married and he hasn't really wanted for anything materially.

My hands are by no means clean. I am not super-adept at parenting in the first place so I am kind of building the plane in flight so to speak. It feels intractable and I am scared it's going to fracture my marriage to a degree that we're going to have part ways.

  
I could go on for hours. But right now I am really fucking lost and need help.",5.29127988047809,5.8794096494023895,5.901033366533866,80.69625124501995,68.04382470119522,9.621613545816734,28.834910358565736,9.673873057562805,2.3883484063745017,1006,33,206,21,16,327,140,251,0.084,0.878,0.038,-0.8824,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,3,11,6,2,2,12,0,26,2,1,1,0,34,42,18,0,5,4,8,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,18,0,1,3,0,1,8,4,5,0,1,4,4,31,1,36,34,4,33,0,1,1,1,34,16,1,3,7,145,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503666773333654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754726681791936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922076580591402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906291154863274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066023229136423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05839413151979815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982339138473644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676666467607,0.0,0.0,0.32817205837200153,0.0,0.09236619083921874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740907749153572,0.12201926373081942,0.0,0.0,0.11373227783299633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205393200824448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026283337219355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23618832068810006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606864047889674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258001348500623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166098156771528,0.405773953922872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563278408881496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564712006507399,0.12506209706051705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619806968740926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609719623083205,0.0,0.1228355537017494,0.0,0.0,0.22195343908558998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862600054993956,0.0,0.0,0.11562349385413676,0.11687987888550297,0.09202887133978338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553275036294837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230946915190533,0.0,0.09655302130733408,0.0,0.12073298530344775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672500185519743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561762739155818,0.0,0.1202269340913546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362354628217277,0.09166888693721098,0.09263739434969484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437039476188406
parenting,FALC0N11,2020/01/12,"Bath with massive bubbles- glycerin the secret? I saw this on Reddit a while back... [crazy bath bubble tower](https://imgur.com/a/9MtA764)

And I want to know how to do it? Some people said add **glycerin**. Some said need jets in the tub. 

Any other ideas/suggestions? How much? What products? (Links are always appreciated)",3.03530997304582,4.562596641509437,2.3619002695417777,84.87174528301888,120.32075471698113,3.7784366576819415,20.766846361185983,5.773587663045528,0.7111789757412401,254,9,38,3,14,74,45,53,0.0,0.9540000000000001,0.046,0.3094,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,12,8,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,5,5,3,4,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,2,2,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021021961272994,0.0,0.0,0.2468991276629207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279177375880908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953303134461145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668972281088931,0.26921079865135744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517060827246234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6907228435029069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141472926585901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Juanrivera504,2020/01/12,"I’m trynna succeed but.... I’m a foreigner living in the USA I’m a first generation college student and live with my auntie, my auntie thinks I should not just keep studying and working all the time , she thinks I should get a girlfriend since I’ve been single for a year now but it’s not because I don’t wanna get a girl it’s because I wanna be alone till I finish my career, buy my own house and can be economically stable but I don’t care what they tell me because ima do what I believe is right , just wanna hear what you guys think about it since I don’t have anybody else who to share this with , thanks",1.959217758985201,3.554764992248064,3.619295278365048,90.00158562367866,77.37209302325581,5.621141649048626,22.579985905567302,6.1124844417494595,0.30711782945736354,480,14,104,3,11,160,79,129,0.021,0.8440000000000001,0.135,0.9239,0,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,3,4,4,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,0,1,22,24,7,0,5,7,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,8,5,0,1,3,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,1,1,16,4,10,19,3,8,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,6,68,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001071403995852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533368023020091,0.0,0.0,0.21768134323771213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699032360267396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140204143367265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434420368501104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20188834924973267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191308132538046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21776154828292216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229382314429704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717337962914652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34121568289280385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500016021149455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31965037672494073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887392905476545,0.17788167562183968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3714032202106681,0.0,0.0,0.11266222001331823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065907532145436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244208117766009
parenting,Rochy11,2020/01/12,Any tips for getting over someone you have to see because you share a child? How do I get over my ex when I have to see him?,1.5503571428571448,2.035313321428575,2.934285714285714,98.96071428571429,76.5,5.6000000000000005,24.714285714285715,3.1291,-0.06420000000000002,95,3,25,0,2,31,22,28,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,5,7,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,1,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986797364191285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677400204110365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4589410760219008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6999914054887199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.372143544220082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,downbytheriver87,2020/01/12,"Answering the question ""What are your hobbies"" as a SAHM. When meeting people, two common questions I get are, ""What are your hobbies?"" ""What do you do for fun?""

I never have a good answer because my entire day is spent taking care of my kids, cooking, reading, sewing, cleaning, making things, planning, and recently writing about doing those things. I would be gardening. I wouldn't change any of it and those are the things I love doing.

But I feel really lame answering.

It's like,""What are your hobbies?""

""The responsibilities that I already have.""

What do you guys do? Do people still have hobbies?",4.16644010195412,7.0398477850467325,4.3045709430756185,81.52630416312661,75.82242990654207,6.1338997451146975,28.418861512319456,7.348242739294969,1.9075682242990653,471,20,77,6,11,146,68,107,0.052000000000000005,0.8690000000000001,0.079,0.5942,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,5,0,1,3,5,0,0,5,0,19,2,0,1,1,14,26,5,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,12,2,1,0,6,3,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,14,4,5,22,0,6,0,1,0,1,12,0,0,2,6,62,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117063702603848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629381810741306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217537781260687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434356445281787,0.0,0.21201987819245646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925559560264055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133937431017022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471221162719528,0.0,0.0,0.16810444656617113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984492689624973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979160549647268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18088866054617256,0.0,0.13378322691648664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545777854024684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778947287512135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4490369691735664,0.0,0.2004762154821628,0.0,0.1283954514921201,0.0,0.19789252463017232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005725088452974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506923849702366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3994543704781124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578315049161973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423740231022712,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,turquoise102,2020/01/12,"Husband has never helped with discipline. He’s just incapable of doing or saying anything the kids don’t want to hear. He was raised like that as well. It’s exhausting for me as the mom I have to do all the discipline and be the bad guy.  Feeling hopeless. Isn’t the dad supposed to be the one kids are afraid to piss off?  No, not in my house.",0.7860915492957758,3.0597851267605627,2.3304049295774694,94.16208626760564,85.05633802816901,5.803521126760564,21.551056338028168,7.1686216300943375,0.6258014084507044,268,9,59,4,8,87,55,71,0.207,0.701,0.09300000000000001,-0.8779,0,0,0,0,0,1,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,1,1,6,0,10,2,1,0,2,11,13,4,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,3,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,5,1,1,1,3,3,2,11,10,1,3,0,1,0,0,11,2,1,1,2,41,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25875148198763026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625383342878134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898671986821247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113380021078908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543887260769894,0.0,0.2107577422267326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628133454134124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361603036575294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368260007544765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425100335671257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21306786791581628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500496593102572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546066873527128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827129353752907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,girl-at-home,2020/01/12,"Is it okay to hit back when you are being abused by your parents? My parents abuse me and they often hit me, saying I'm not enough academically, and at basically everything I do. They often say ""if you were better and more motivated, we wouldn't have to be angry and hit you. You bring the anger out."" When they are angry, they take it out on me. When I start having a downhill moment, they get more angry and start beating me. Is it okay to hit back? I've watched as my dad hit my mom since I was a very young so this kind of behavior is like normal now. Dads aren't supposed to hit moms, so whose to say daughters can't defend?",2.7506153846153865,3.995307446153853,4.184615384615388,88.21538461538464,74.53846153846153,6.7384615384615385,22.23076923076923,7.1686216300943375,0.5486,488,12,107,5,10,162,79,130,0.17,0.7440000000000001,0.086,-0.9343,2,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,1,5,5,3,10,6,1,0,3,2,15,0,0,1,0,15,27,12,0,3,2,7,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,4,21,5,12,16,3,15,0,0,1,0,22,4,0,3,11,76,26,2,0.0,0.4110243269944751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667476416357163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340412883820054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922220117130885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588740248709826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062146983795172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806234843791918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847398472799775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40628958741305776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994605539918828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38519566357699336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41380778865157103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348122157974147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24554032508723836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041425834847573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311600030521338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kenaum,2020/01/12,"At what age are Reddit’s parents taking their kids to sports / music / art / tech classes? Is 3 too soon for snowboarding? Can they “get” Bossa Nova @ 4? Bungee jumping @ 5 acceptable?

P.S.: no bragging about you extraordinary kid, just curious to understand age vs cognition",2.9349033816425134,5.636646934782611,3.8468115942029013,76.58635265700487,101.3913043478261,7.261835748792271,26.850241545893716,7.793537801064563,3.0482734299516916,213,10,32,6,9,68,44,46,0.046,0.838,0.11599999999999999,0.5204,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,16,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29413964054776154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6251350492752844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232992815225628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5860936446409426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saltyhumor,2020/01/12,"How do you breath with all that hair in your nose?!?! My 9 yo last night.  

Gave me a good chuckle.

I guess I'm getting old.",-2.3550000000000004,-0.5846014074074048,-0.2834259259259237,109.11708333333335,100.11111111111113,2.7,14.157407407407408,3.1291,-1.8134370370370367,90,2,25,0,4,29,26,27,0.0,0.762,0.23800000000000002,0.7611,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,1,1,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,2,2,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,12,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23757416510706936,0.0,0.0,0.3814003440776508,0.0,0.0,0.5009289996088961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706601944479192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4267270291795071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4771556284708606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DutchMasterFunk26,2020/01/12,Mom's husband smokes in basement wife doesn't want kids at their house. I'll start off by saying I apologize if this sounds like a stupid question. My wife doesn't like for the kids to go to my mother's house. Her husband smokes in the basement with the door closed. You can sometimes smell it when walking in the house. Well today I didn't have much choice but to leave them with my mom due to work. Wife's pissed and I understand. Will it affect my 3 and 1 year old at all? Are there any studies that would be helpful to read as I haven't seen anything specific to my situation. Thank you.,2.8761157024793387,4.544463099173559,3.1719752066115703,93.8725082644628,75.03305785123969,6.162314049586778,23.670247933884298,6.742157984588678,0.5048968595041319,469,14,103,4,10,144,81,121,0.087,0.8029999999999999,0.11,0.1996,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,2,1,3,6,2,0,5,0,10,1,1,1,1,13,16,6,0,3,2,8,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,2,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,4,2,1,0,2,4,14,4,17,11,2,15,0,0,1,0,19,7,1,2,8,59,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116343543706285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078822871150196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972314453205411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467454789980873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5922267327082272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18115412068220985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671668015251836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007449446800878,0.0,0.0,0.12576702727749928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952473803466334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165415194257107,0.0,0.1711311170374426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360535149548963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923065047914978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920726067355607,0.0,0.12109471549633626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751191541610984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216840404195795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810533026716052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091025893385107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538257987918279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245517858828904,0.0,0.0,0.12153374679388915,0.0,0.0,0.1101730142357257
parenting,Memoriessoften,2020/01/12,"Hello! Needing advice on switching my 4 year old son from a Montessori school he’s been at for 2 years, to a regular daycare setting. This is purely because of financial needs. So, my son is 4. (Turned 4 in November). He’s been at this Montessori for two years now. His teachers love him, he has a great time, etc. however, he recently got put in the primary class. His behavior immediately changed. He’s been much more aggressive, etc. I try to get him to talk to me and tell me if anyone is mean. Every now and then he will tell me about some kid hit him, or something. I’ve spoken to the director. Anyway, he hates his new teacher. And quite frankly, j don’t care for her either. She is very detached from the children, she’s cold in her tone and voice when speaking to the class. He doesn’t respond well to her at all. He’s told me how much he doesn’t like her. He’s also started putting his fringes in his mouth, and biting his sleeves on his shirts, and zippers of jackets. He NEVER used a pacifier, never sucked his thumb as an infant. So this is all new and seems kind of strange to me. Is this a sign of something happening at school that I’m not aware of? And perhaps he might not know how to communicate properly with me about? I’m wanting to switch him to a regular daycare because we are moving soon and my bills are super tight to begin with. I pay over $900/month for his Montessori(which I’m sure may seem cheap, but I’m a young mother who only brings in $1,600 a month). I found a regular daycare that is common around here that would save me almost $300/month. However, my mother and family really, REALLY discourage me from taking my son out of the Montessori setting. He’s never been in any other kind of daycare or school. I think he might do better with the regular structure of a daycare. Versus the Montessori method of teaching. Does anyone have any advice about this? Or maybe been through a similar situation? Thank you so much. Sorry if this was properly written or jumbled up.",2.426406361570919,4.7377814582278495,3.6253164556962036,87.11031483284651,78.72151898734177,6.582927620902304,25.824407659850696,7.702957570686157,1.5291447581953903,1576,62,308,25,39,511,202,395,0.039,0.884,0.076,0.9338,2,0,3,0,0,0,60.0,1,1,0,3,17,16,3,0,19,0,26,3,2,3,7,56,56,26,0,6,11,5,1,1,0,5,0,2,0,3,11,16,0,2,6,0,3,4,8,4,1,1,10,4,38,12,52,40,10,43,0,1,0,1,53,16,1,13,22,193,49,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18912135939674832,0.0,0.0,0.09689928666213556,0.0,0.0,0.07738542469935078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161126980058754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532502862654675,0.0,0.0,0.08614413626138005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797788656570883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558353183346247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866154007079947,0.0,0.10236783215612842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846824274609162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584405012910032,0.0,0.0,0.08153130845523685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122436443488252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610124077125424,0.0,0.0,0.05055734488640557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739429959602798,0.10668718578291997,0.0,0.0,0.08557172240659985,0.0,0.0,0.09553847724615447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153819642679704,0.0531812239901417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04727601187904098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733699971721005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721657564325542,0.10540884318542712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531135069957396,0.0,0.0,0.2317181528104013,0.10284918944372837,0.21340709116817075,0.14350465872405962,0.2239006020480147,0.18691849233370514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154185604406472,0.0,0.0,0.07359651018423502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945573614265084,0.0,0.1029247991917904,0.0,0.0,0.12398426166460567,0.0,0.09554683701829778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938034885175068,0.0,0.17618811074278826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877141300774454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899364151132655,0.0,0.10832397955391207,0.06849296817384437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120280093900136,0.0,0.07275757774861658,0.07777854341148333,0.16915919131089666,0.08909107689280865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200509924055544,0.0,0.0,0.05642626465617085,0.0,0.0,0.09246607851297188,0.0,0.06569919644196226,0.1052559188654607,0.09452838507119392,0.0,0.0,0.08357657967578039,0.0,0.07984382728653762,0.057076339997510224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700615462681878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874129079112261,0.0,0.0,0.18694647557660865
parenting,Green_Leif_Erikson,2020/01/12,"How to curb cheating in an older child? I tried looking online for some resources but one of the things I read said if a kid is still cheating at this age they might need psychological help, so I am curious to see other responses. 

My 10 year old is a cheater. He will find a way to cheat. Most of the time it isn't serious. He was talking about how his class played ""Heads Up, 7 Up"" before winter break. It's basically a game where 7 kids are called up to the front and the rest of the class puts their heads down and thumb up. Each of the 7 kids pushes someone's thumb down and each kid who had their thumb pushed down has to guess who did it. My son said it's so easy to cheat because all you have to do is look at the person's shoes when they put your thumb down. Ultimately not a big deal but still very pointless. I have also caught him cheating in the board game Battleship by moving his pieces around after someone guesses his spot. 

It isn't limited to games. The other day he was bragging about how he tricked his friend while playing basketball. The friend lost track of the score and my son gave himself an extra point. The friend had no clue. Once while he was playing touch football in our street with friends I heard him tell someone that the quarterback is only allowed to run on fourth down. Then when my son ran on third down he told the kid he was just kidding. When playing kickball he has gotten people off base by promising not to tag them and then tagging them immediately. It's never ending. 

He does play organized sports and I have talked to his coaches but they say he doesn't cheat there. At least not from what they have seen. I'm worried that this is going to snowball into a much bigger deal as he gets older. How can I curb this behavior? We have told him that we won't play with him if he cheats but his friends don't hold him to the same standard. He's popular and everyone thinks he's funny so the cheating doesn't get the same negative feedback with them.",4.041415607985481,5.258680223057644,4.2079422694667725,89.39932330827071,71.33082706766919,7.1074583009247245,26.039322444041144,7.372421405659032,1.073285990839167,1575,49,332,16,29,488,210,399,0.11900000000000001,0.736,0.14400000000000002,0.8563,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,2,9,2,21,24,9,0,25,0,31,3,3,5,2,48,53,29,0,3,10,3,1,0,5,3,0,4,0,8,18,16,0,4,2,12,0,10,12,11,0,2,18,9,37,13,50,32,12,58,0,1,4,0,75,26,0,7,20,214,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879828252517373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884873513770694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676886748614859,0.0,0.09448647275653277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338378850295135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161131924792828,0.2289537864782175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717145247708453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834807693242738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061030419577016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148813077170607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289443778914126,0.0,0.11602715659666987,0.0,0.0631063312691879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446451509373529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791721232479026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744274651482617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864905004146407,0.0,0.12121277826308935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779540782954925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801746152057915,0.0816268405755988,0.08233441425543142,0.08564054103409176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651732165536625,0.11825348949692195,0.07524326815220264,0.08445057618532854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698083802537146,0.09695544606801833,0.0,0.0,0.10496825941189747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232508203505197,0.0,0.0,0.11106959200934068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21124806663609336,0.08830310149948221,0.0,0.0,0.08848413953808637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822503336764044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735264516167148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849875733271847,0.09705345496334103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376973846771948,0.0711496556587415,0.0,0.0,0.06474805055661755,0.0,0.0,0.2122060839154032,0.0,0.07538856095958336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916192520856014,0.0,0.08813802087287809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276604603822983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715058252025783
parenting,Ducky_30,2020/01/12,"6 yr old boy not fully talking and it’s driving me nuts My 6 year old son has an expressive language disorder which was diagnosed last year. He’s had speech problems since he was little so it’s nothing new and we are working on it, but my concern is the social part of it.  When  he tries to play with other children no one can understand him which then upsets him- he cries a little but then gets over it. Any advice on how I can help? He sees a speech therapist and a school counselor but I feel he needs more....",1.8974285714285701,3.9487879333333353,3.226904761904766,90.62892857142859,79.19047619047619,6.104761904761905,23.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.9153619047619048,403,14,84,5,10,131,76,105,0.138,0.8009999999999999,0.061,-0.743,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,5,0,8,1,0,1,0,14,13,11,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,8,5,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,3,4,8,1,6,10,2,15,0,0,1,0,16,5,0,0,9,51,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116756010415447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607614871232786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364962623144428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817380045053225,0.0,0.0,0.21248073952144456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374216823153447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686215081818864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426753469908468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112309724726514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716325014461552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374693422654419,0.0,0.17905733811591193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177893183477678,0.0,0.3890854077324656,0.0,0.1256296370882753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076661535861148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739965304203495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876314106264504,0.14773720774265295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336210888089685,0.0,0.0,0.18898864084086905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149014886348747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21525991822970672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587222467266698,0.0,0.0,0.19300455693449675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497104333524793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387788593054245
parenting,Orange__Taco,2020/01/12,How to make veggie juices and veggie-filled baked goods more tasty? I'm on a kick trying to get my 4yo and 2yo to getting more veggies in their diet by blending them into juices and baking them into muffins. My 2yo has been ok with the banana-carrot muffins I made but neither of them have tolerated more than a sip of the shakes I made trying to sneak in some carrot and spinach no matter how much oj and other fruits I pack in there. Anyone have any luck with getting more veggies in their kid's diet with this strategy?,7.855288461538464,6.352671644230771,7.272000000000002,79.97300000000001,63.32692307692307,9.08923076923077,31.37692307692308,6.742157984588678,1.7998753846153843,417,11,81,2,5,130,66,104,0.027999999999999997,0.902,0.07,0.5122,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,5,0,3,4,0,1,4,1,4,5,0,5,0,19,11,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,10,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,1,10,3,18,8,7,8,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,0,55,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096370247910561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21555248592326173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831816323653794,0.0,0.0,0.25856577005206394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5833929969686868,0.2057754199505661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266170049094547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185958875444151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ngata_da_Vida,2020/01/12,"5 yo potty issues Our 5 yo daughter has had accidents 4 of the last 5 nights after having none for 2 1/2 years. No other signs of a UTI. Nothing dramatic or traumatic going on at the house or change in schedule.

Never had this issue with our two older kids. Anyone else encounter this?",3.0941071428571405,5.1818759107142895,4.792285714285715,80.65271428571431,75.60714285714286,6.622857142857143,23.7,7.554174236665415,1.3781757142857145,225,7,39,3,5,76,47,56,0.083,0.862,0.055,-0.1285,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,5,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,8,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,7,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882434688350461,0.2758456316863032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28479692216245617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489707411314733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300278020532554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106413990438141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619872449886539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944858293472835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076375002788675,0.0,0.0,0.2526428336683645,0.0,0.2583219093508258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262986844189528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336755024154502
parenting,CrayChickenLay,2020/01/12,"How do you know when you are ready to be a parent? We are TTC but I don't know if I am ready, or if I will ever be ready? Any help/advice appreciated!",-2.7234285714285704,-1.0440393428571395,1.3000000000000007,98.21000000000002,99.57142857142857,3.9428571428571435,9.857142857142858,5.6839178017228535,-1.677457142857143,113,1,31,1,5,42,25,35,0.0,0.652,0.348,0.9239,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,1,9,10,6,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43161112642354016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003620986537851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995309026302846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29605328127460034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.485478912888193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.490440804654922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cocobunny808,2020/01/12,"NOT HANDELING IT I stay home and look after the house, my child and I love it. Although when his dad comes over and I ask for help with our child he always complains like a teenager, even after I have cleaned the house, made dinner , done the dishes, sweeped, moped and done the washing.  Ill ask him to do a small job (when I'm busy) like ""Could you please change the babies nappy?"" And he will reply with, ""No, I did it last time you need to do it"" with attitude and an annoyed look on his face. In my head I think he should just get it done, yes no one likes it but it needs to be done and I was busy so I couldnt do it. This kind of thing has started so many arguments, I feel horrible. I always feel like im stepping on eggshells, if he dos'nt find a task fun he dos'nt want to do it. If he is playing playstation and the baby has finished dinner and is crying for his dads help he will just ignore him. If I try to talk about this stuff with him he flips out swearing and yelling, its horrible then it never gets resolved because he tells me to shut up because he dos'nt want to speak about it anymore. Im really not ok with this, im doing everything and am not getting any help and he dos'nt even want to talk about it.",2.1781308586426698,3.675125200787406,3.0176940382452213,94.97014435695542,76.51968503937006,5.940457442819648,22.33145856767904,6.42735559955562,0.2274419197600301,947,26,216,7,21,299,136,254,0.126,0.7490000000000001,0.125,-0.6479,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,2,0,1,11,13,1,0,10,2,23,8,2,1,1,44,43,22,0,11,9,2,2,4,0,3,2,2,3,2,18,19,3,1,5,1,0,2,7,3,0,1,7,6,23,10,27,30,0,21,0,0,2,1,35,8,0,3,14,134,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783909747499121,0.0,0.0,0.0728968154043673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630942267216424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20042719289909194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069112138813913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339893574975952,0.09233968423972116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558711841938962,0.0,0.11774954551027138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4387940568826648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416036210906127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634066707266284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840282802057273,0.07658069621526854,0.0,0.0,0.0979750131412841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680161331063817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100138100034433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21555324215330865,0.0,0.10752612097912707,0.0,0.0,0.2473791063745468,0.0,0.0,0.3473695552492975,0.0,0.10637528435553173,0.0,0.0,0.1116279230807007,0.0,0.08737887884334575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948179992323054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18003493699130144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674838873605816,0.10143125158977488,0.0,0.10867970945057624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896864504878133,0.0826760042720291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263864384878836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766879084765115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867237014965097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587373429389473,0.11425645289767908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271353706062878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231983644191398,0.09369384826714462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121612193313634,0.06868673602673599,0.0,0.0,0.06250672917039961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277890719391275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968056886281176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alozcast,2020/01/12,"Adulting adult Rant/suggestions? “I’m an adult”

So my little sister turned 18 and graduated high school .. she did one semester of college and found out that wasn’t for her so this semester she doesn’t want to go back she is not the brightest and lacks some common sense she doesn’t have a job and still lives with my parents and they take care of most of her needs we are from a Mexican/ Hispanic household and know that we aren’t allowed to do shit! As long as you live under their roof. (But are more lenient to her but still have rules) My mom has diabetes and has worries a lot causing her to get sick easily my sister went out with her bf (that my parents have never met) and wanted to stay the night with him but wasn’t granted permission and was told to come home she said she was and left the house around 2pm and now still hasn’t came back (6:30AM) she always complains how my parents don’t let her do nothing and control her and how they don’t have any trust in her and treat her like a kid instead of a adult what are something that we can tell her to try to at least respect our parents?",5.456779487179485,5.2512652488888945,5.372444444444443,87.37169230769234,67.62222222222222,8.523076923076923,29.30769230769231,7.882392219407189,1.6024461538461536,871,27,189,9,13,271,130,225,0.067,0.8220000000000001,0.111,0.8637,7,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,3,1,12,7,1,0,9,0,25,3,1,5,1,44,42,23,0,4,4,7,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,5,6,25,0,1,2,0,0,4,10,2,0,1,11,1,32,5,25,30,6,24,0,0,0,0,44,9,1,3,11,134,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205744966565346,0.0,0.0,0.08340851412855807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918752500962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862577864047708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028280791016376,0.12505330996971867,0.12599882243962324,0.0,0.10565503876694657,0.0,0.0,0.13756621120397372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448311612425748,0.0,0.0,0.06408133622066635,0.0,0.06970675056307715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959004527943416,0.12303135508906267,0.0,0.0,0.14152554933089226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171456817256505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740709787659753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326327185056813,0.12542140575428487,0.0,0.05992225302178894,0.122930923351056,0.21661038866755694,0.10854439433091216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427552975754432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436501730800024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094593778204088,0.09459785907194967,0.0,0.0,0.11510190183757653,0.0,0.11768923986826405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311311431278222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5447683175423965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667146538056038,0.0,0.0,0.12413178324400463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590194673337265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442457528061413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130732198833806,0.293853477519998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922200881550655,0.0,0.10720447283738152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720057450622885,0.0,0.08327360358983266,0.1334116722543003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468829966618746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370092538301715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456047570950035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zestyclose_Rule,2020/01/12,"Kids under 7 Parents,
Describe your typical Saturday with your family.",8.904545454545458,12.512294000000004,10.154545454545453,41.8518181818182,63.54545454545455,15.30909090909091,47.36363636363637,13.023866798666859,9.471472727272726,58,4,5,3,1,20,10,11,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6472045404967345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7623163928188943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crimson_memories_,2020/01/12,"I need advice Okay I am on mobile so I'm sorry for mistakes 

Recently I had ds2 so I'm dealing with ppa and ppd and it's bad... I'm talking I'm barley able to sleep bad, now here's where it gets worse. I have two toddlers. 

I have ds1 who's 46 pounds at 2 and looks like he's six(he's a big kid but a lover and cuddle bug and doesn't know his size nor strength), Ds loves to work out with dh and is kinda a lead foot. 

DD is sassy and loud and knows how to get her way even if it means throwing a screeching fit for hours on end until you give in from migraines, we try time outs, taking stuff away, and even tried to make sure she knows not to screech. 

Now I have a dude who lives upstairs, he works 7pm until 12am and blasts his music that shakes my walls from 1 am until 4 am when dh must leave for work, now I never made any complaints in the past until one night it just got too much and I messaged him twice the landlord called him four times and the cops told him three times. Well that same night we lost power and he assumed I did it. This caused him to come downstairs screaming getting in my face shoving my dh ect. 

Now anytime the kids are playing during the day or he even hears the newborn make a slight cry to be fed or changed he starts to stomp hard smack the walls and scream and yell threatening my children, this has caused a huge stress on me and the landlord won't say anything and it's gotten to the point I dread waking up and I dread going to sleep (mostly because I know by 1 am I'll be awoke to blasting music. 

I feel so bad that I need to beg my son to stop playing because he's too loud, and I see how hurt he is by it, I feel worse when I gotta tell my daughter to lower her voice or to not speak because it'll piss the man upstairs off. 

I'm at a breaking point mentally, how can I help teach my son to maybe be a bit lighter on his feet and how to get my daughter to lower her voice? I've tried everything from games about quite walking and whispering to kid shows about it and nothing's worked 😔 please someone give me some advice!",2.664553167420813,3.51459578054299,3.385562782805433,95.39133059954752,74.22624434389141,5.977488687782806,23.54100678733032,5.3872612403679225,0.10381651583710473,1613,43,380,5,32,509,238,442,0.153,0.773,0.07400000000000001,-0.9894,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,1,0,9,24,22,1,4,19,1,22,12,7,10,3,66,59,41,0,5,8,4,3,1,1,4,1,11,2,6,17,29,1,1,8,4,0,6,6,13,1,5,8,16,42,9,49,44,5,53,0,2,2,3,48,22,1,8,24,210,59,6,0.09271252489998827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119521263565733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630476961799386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629450837360882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710646905323217,0.0,0.23223325706021405,0.16955008395746507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121806485736247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946698538045948,0.0,0.0,0.19048260382529672,0.09807755810209076,0.07986363087335388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184035515785617,0.05979190864467425,0.0955825421785808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821157785260773,0.0,0.0,0.1837072449113853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833240392419936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937564765782312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937538707675771,0.17787660388174995,0.05269066446163809,0.0,0.07415067561285292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305221171462858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044937537033546,0.0,0.06214325114431243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130316151052728,0.0,0.09925067543148657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20380951617216275,0.0,0.0,0.09816917723728323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045294656575612456,0.0,0.08186685805888627,0.0,0.07785517066992431,0.0,0.10120667291970704,0.0,0.08367667346088413,0.08772683275543904,0.12377266059059312,0.0,0.09314219267235767,0.10099111922410664,0.0,0.0,0.09343241888061043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815437344132982,0.13749032491440782,0.07150561474873307,0.0,0.0,0.17400884819992166,0.0,0.08896016811216277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282440629123562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850459565789838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177051129148487,0.17528660673370336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861118244140246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154243341639508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372872100874171,0.0,0.0,0.07387987881422711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555896155336574,0.0,0.07855502148424501,0.0,0.0,0.10378408113932566,0.06562240231295854,0.0,0.0,0.07751182220844698,0.1062018840300127,0.0,0.1061336597332432,0.0,0.0,0.08738045751057569,0.0,0.06970828050870398,0.07451881562658509,0.08103483323254063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218425653067525,0.0,0.0,0.08859079064990792,0.0,0.18883715579137045,0.0,0.0905666651705274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735908868527929,0.0,0.0,0.08335969421171772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269983289312135,0.0,0.18896396705136206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,caydenA,2020/01/12,"3yo and 4yo can’t get along (Not a native English speaker so please excuse any grammar mistakes)

I’m a recently-turned SAHM of a 4yo and 3yo boys. Their personalities are polar opposites. 4yo is a bit of an intellectual who prefers arts, crafts, and reading books to physical play. Meanwhile, the 3yo has ADD and speech delay, but has good fine motor skills and loves rough play. According to the developmental therapist, the 3yo’s comprehension is of his age, but his speech is 1 year delayed. 

They just can’t get along with each other. The 4yo gets frustrated especially because his brother can’t speak. They fight so much that it’s hard for us to get quality sleep. I have anxiety and depression (which I am now medicated for) and husband has a high stress job. 

So we came up with the solution: to separate them. Husband sleeps with the 3yo, and I sleep with the 4yo in our room. This is also our go to arrangement for going out. When it’s just one of them with one of us, they behave like perfect angels. For the past year this has solved our troubles as they get full attention from each of us.

Now the thing is, I’m worried that while it’s good for us-the parents-we might actually be causing harm to their relationship as siblings. I imagine siblings as people who will have each other’s backs and love wach other. I imagine my 4yo being the one leading and protecting his little brother in school, stuff like that. I don’t see that happening right now. 

How do I ease them into actually... liking each other and playing together? (And ultimately sleep in the same room because I really miss my husband haha T~T)",5.164377758164168,6.525437177993531,5.926562224183584,77.58857237422771,68.80582524271844,9.113327449249779,30.87393350985584,9.457814108942452,2.8281896440129453,1284,52,238,27,22,420,167,309,0.114,0.71,0.17600000000000002,0.9703,2,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,7,0,9,3,12,21,2,1,17,1,22,7,4,3,1,46,37,24,0,2,5,5,2,3,0,2,1,4,2,2,18,28,0,3,4,6,0,4,5,8,0,3,1,7,30,13,34,32,8,28,1,2,1,2,35,12,0,1,15,159,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.19973589694466032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818403359860877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959392276958125,0.0,0.07828893498501932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786922534720163,0.0,0.12476961796072117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172751131882214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704837331776975,0.0,0.10513018256632634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814429574672401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673391086333767,0.0,0.11632304605566099,0.17167393259655112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904979011212058,0.0,0.09167550216925946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812660670327888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155551079927697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999276845587106,0.10257040633166596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847296032461597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309561799847096,0.0,0.10856534023229042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523082505898672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080423462420624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769400577920996,0.07094886825880839,0.08935833054696912,0.0,0.1123373181285891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236653761073787,0.0,0.06556088353226723,0.0,0.0,0.10987361842511638,0.0,0.08739681297951613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035723729956224,0.0815508082285704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096510046201409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172287991947357,0.0,0.1171534911862268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882328479787828,0.06798938008843172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131527413515584,0.0,0.0,0.4924041111999469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393006298263772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180571950549708
parenting,Icebolt08,2020/01/12,"I'm on my second baby who doesn't sleep well, and I guess I'm looking for some more specific advice than what Google gives. Our first would cry, scream and arch through her ""sleep"". She would sleep fine/normal when held but if you layed her down, not her or anyone in the house would get sleep. It started on day 1 from the hospital, and went until about 4-6 months or so. We tried gas drops, changing my wife's diet, sound machines, different sleep schedules, probiotics. Then, because my wife and I held her in shifts all night, she became dependent on us for sleep onset, which was honestly an improvement for us, once she actually got to sleep. Still, it was not something I expect you'd normally see or recommend...

Our second is on a similar path now.. **I've been up since 2am**, my wife shift was until 2. The first couple weeks were near perfect sleeping. IT WAS AMAZING! Then something changed.. Again now we're seeing gassy like symptoms, crying and the occasional screaming but no arching this time. We changed his diaper brand, changed my wife's diet again, tried changing him more to see if that was irritating him, went back to changing him less. All without any significant improvement.

I know y'all aren't doctors, but maybe you've had a similar experience and can point the way?

TLDR: Our baby (the second, or previously the first) doesn't sleep well.  Gas drops, change in wife's diet, probiotics and different sleeping/changing schedules haven't had a significant impact. Any specific advice could be considerably helpful!",4.38637479541735,6.9297945496453925,4.6243971631205705,81.22615384615386,73.36170212765956,7.742716857610475,28.222040370976554,8.617729084823388,2.3574485542825974,1221,49,214,24,26,382,162,282,0.087,0.807,0.106,0.9129999999999999,2,0,2,0,0,0,57.0,7,3,0,4,11,8,0,0,11,0,21,16,11,1,3,37,37,22,0,8,12,5,0,1,0,3,2,3,0,0,8,9,3,2,2,0,0,2,8,2,2,6,14,7,30,6,23,17,6,38,0,0,4,0,29,11,0,9,23,135,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.06509146448618196,0.0,0.0,0.13036071339157304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071920314184448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04663954227000705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051289669013583034,0.0,0.040660879094231786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5644944038383919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325606570838304,0.07380441988737799,0.14653788207003346,0.043017228505018566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937864586423426,0.0,0.06827225456377055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524728931854545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020988974553916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03484900683665953,0.06398657183156725,0.0,0.0,0.05334762895085668,0.0,0.07347969895709837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04470889950019604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696507481071645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03665763782845942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03258719509270948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056012824191784084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701105678790134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053240846340667766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259524536500853,0.06535373192533835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103538145405794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305488641066045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594584133997753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05517652804248191,0.0,0.6007509367160393,0.0,0.0,0.10270081317191912,0.0,0.0,0.04721197130736243,0.0,0.053268249649721496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932884783226805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03889443338427382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905724678031746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604684245912071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05294488949075436,0.05350426704663172,0.0,0.1199460962293043,0.12366671981878588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429828289873771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214941774274895,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brett_jenkins,2020/01/12,"Overwhelmed mother of NICU baby Hey all, not sure if this is the right place to talk/vent about this, but here I am. Sorry in advance if I'm in the wrong place. 

Quick background: I went into labor about 2 months ago, I was already full-term but my baby came out tiny, just under 2 kilos. He had a few other issues on top of that, and so he's been in the NICU since then. His issues have been mostly resolved now, he just had surgery, and we should be getting discharged once he's properly recovered. I am being vague for privacy reasons since this isn't a throwaway. 

I've been with my baby, non-stop, these past two months. I went from not really wanting kids or this pregnancy, to being fiercely in love with my baby. I can count the amount of times I've gone home to sleep on one hand. I haven't been apart from him for more than 8 hrs. 

I am exhausted. I feel so lonely. I feel ugly and unkempt (thanks hormonal nasty acne and facial hair). It seems like none of my clothes are pumping/nursing-friendly, and I just don't have the money to buy new stuff. I feel like a slave to my pump. I have to pump every 3-4 hrs, for fear of my supply drying up. I can't breastfeed in the way that I had wished to, because the doctors don't trust my baby to feed like a normal baby. I don't think I will ever be able to have fun again or enjoy myself for more than an hour or two at a time. My life feels like a never ending circle of hell, where all I do is pump, feed the baby, change him, and put him to sleep - and run to eat something in between. His smiles and cuddles are the only joy I have. His cries of pain send me down a deeper spiral. I am sick of the rigid schedule the hospital has. I know I don't have to be here and that I can pump from home ... but there's nothing for me at home. My husband is at work, and he comes to visit the baby in the evenings and that's it. Sometimes weekends. 

When my husband is here, I get a reprieve from all but pumping. I can't complain without him getting stressed or anxious, which just makes it worse for me. I feel like he only cares for me on the surface, and he only misses me because he has to sleep alone... not because I'm anyone to miss. I don't see the level of caring and empathy that I see from other spouses on r/Marriage. His idea of caring is to ask me a million times if I need anything from home. Never just does something without me asking. His idea of treating me is buying a bag of chocolates... he doesn't think to put himself in my shoes and really get me something that I need. 

Sorry. This got too long. It's 2:30 am, I'm still in the hospital, and I. Am. Exhausted.  Please tell me there's a light at the end of the tunnel.",2.4918064784053198,3.6617648035714327,3.8597840531561474,90.58568106312292,75.07142857142857,6.0664451827242525,23.7375415282392,6.146975581142439,0.4790955149501661,2070,60,450,12,43,682,254,560,0.11800000000000001,0.762,0.12,0.4853,0,3,3,0,0,0,82.0,1,0,0,4,23,30,1,4,30,0,50,18,7,2,7,72,88,30,0,9,21,4,7,5,0,2,6,0,4,1,20,22,3,1,13,1,3,11,18,13,0,4,13,10,64,17,74,68,9,65,1,4,2,2,33,30,1,9,28,303,84,3,0.07573268228855819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713245340023342,0.0,0.0,0.07843621906899087,0.0835728981178675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855563745350935,0.0,0.05295405232873032,0.0,0.06232154468075533,0.0,0.14159966955834058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849782059328528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661801312134462,0.2316435507356253,0.0,0.08011513606598135,0.0652369999616218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318879536118452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751560939085855,0.06627418062425718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749344066605521,0.0,0.0,0.1341533557132971,0.0,0.0,0.05002072239965516,0.06850454690788735,0.06380805115191407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852203225136011,0.1914635983879544,0.1623103300771542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851088247309904,0.0,0.15826880297832485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057034433834992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303864220803614,0.0,0.07458143686709746,0.0,0.0,0.17098596018002324,0.0,0.15809048868136727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041620701605045815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349223318190599,0.18499581580323485,0.0,0.0,0.06702104065684422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835170256675177,0.0,0.05055215350152825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089820894158552,0.0,0.0,0.11230964862326599,0.11681942670541005,0.07314309647450308,0.0,0.0,0.07420194907182259,0.07266755117760794,0.0,0.0,0.08065283498994627,0.051318425495949865,0.17279435257743864,0.08058491350614112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229541457604907,0.0,0.0,0.15824906822356594,0.08313174305517294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522645264144132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703259104042153,0.0778658106530615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467529687808284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069828528110232,0.06894418963487657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529371477808035,0.0,0.22736212657796376,0.0,0.0,0.17490815636948165,0.07490155926305593,0.16955307499203895,0.0,0.0,0.0604802179035364,0.06331591347826906,0.08675153168751927,0.0,0.08669580233490833,0.0,0.0,0.07137715679748599,0.0,0.0,0.060871061320524215,0.06619370237329253,0.06972447884454756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705288971764917,0.0,0.0,0.1324810082056691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795965241357906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044669098179930485,0.06011307813445715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040991042953965,0.0,0.0,0.08708884711000263,0.1460072063982007,0.0,0.05513429467796317,0.0,0.07717807327609624,0.0,0.0828017993669001,0.0,0.0
parenting,singledad234,2020/01/12,"Any advice for a young single dad? Stressed and really overwhelmed at the moment. I'm a single dad to a wonderful \~6 month old son called ben. I'm 20 years old and graduated college in November. My ex-girlfriend decided being a mum wasn't for her, so she abandoned us virtually right after the birth in favour of ""freedom"" and a ""more easy life"". I really struggled during that time, and still do, because I really loved her, and I missed the family we could have been, but I'm doing a little better now.

I used up my 18 weeks of parental leave (which was a huge help) and have been back working for around 2 months. Money's not a big issue, as I'm quite money smart, have some savings, and a good job. Also, despite all her complaints and efforts to dodge it, my ex is forced to send me child support, which isn't even close to a significant amount but certainly helps.

Ben is fairly easy as fair as babies go. He's now sleeping through the night and has longer between feeds. He had a bad tummy issue with formula earlier on (no breast milk from me lol) but that was resolved fairly quickly and he's now started on solids.

Despite this, and how much I absolutely love him, this is so fucking hard. Even though I'm getting ***SO*** much more sleep than I was earlier on, I'm still so fucking exhausted all the time. If I wasn't so worried about taking care of Ben I think I might just have dropped dead of exhaustion by now.

I spend most of my free time just talking to him, playing with him on the floor, sitting him with me while I watch TV, and sometimes going on walks with the pram. Is that okay? I don't really know what else to do. I always feel like I'm missing something that I should be doing.

My parents + sister are very generous and help watch him while I'm at work.

However, like I said before, I always feel like I'm missing things that I should be doing. I don't even know what I'm doing. I did and still do so much research but it all seems like it's missing something. My parents try to reassure me but I always feel like a failure and am so freaked out about being a bad dad. I love him so much and I can't stop thinking I'm going to ruin his life. I know this probably sounds dumb but I feel like he would be so much better off with a mum than with me. Any advice?",2.442564516129032,4.1998048881720464,3.763534946236561,88.78530241935486,76.46236559139786,6.54247311827957,24.31317204301075,7.365786028017652,1.0138397849462364,1783,59,372,22,40,584,225,465,0.121,0.66,0.21899999999999997,0.9942,5,0,2,0,2,0,64.0,2,0,0,7,29,40,3,3,21,2,41,14,3,2,4,65,82,40,1,5,10,11,5,6,0,4,4,2,0,1,16,26,2,2,13,2,4,5,8,17,0,0,10,9,48,24,47,62,15,53,0,7,2,6,40,19,3,6,33,240,64,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539785622114482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300555616423513,0.196670102601592,0.0,0.0,0.10715507840763704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701367116162049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060581975087005815,0.13156691614406896,0.04802753481700469,0.0,0.06704153049733268,0.0,0.0,0.1393605589842311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044985163548897,0.0,0.08032811383191701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290462988019614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581603258410937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561132715805258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742729246402503,0.0,0.1593473387241845,0.2251404389050144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567374698278548,0.041162707901786014,0.0,0.1343285946315165,0.06608239978380484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057725180639078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842684235129406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644653269673855,0.07818346983007428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989704229232274,0.0,0.0,0.08342355487543958,0.0,0.0,0.11129850623979624,0.2309467008733199,0.07896479674786258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21332374651726752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358005327174682,0.0,0.0,0.1257733063462448,0.0,0.28958580853953825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393581725519986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534641087415708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624493392107971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494520025053039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379916814264607,0.0,0.0,0.2018906633165011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728326249408507,0.07494402790534392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172429401274807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768684884014406,0.0,0.0,0.12130743334196055,0.07792188851660749,0.0,0.05576550842614327,0.0,0.1887570636702609,0.06586906334023833,0.0902496990357584,0.08236478308529943,0.0,0.0,0.08940601573972409,0.0,0.0,0.05923766224743125,0.06332562500397733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052342266855568816,0.10096644885900752,0.0774073615120533,0.0,0.13782317021885626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349087928962285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947704897282632,0.06804626200909422,0.0,0.0650071349225488,0.0,0.0,0.06319779861338412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544062634972592,0.11471505815385745,0.0800115412712653,0.0,0.05596768738517281,0.0,0.0,0.050735939454615166
parenting,climbatron,2020/01/12,"Should I teach my teenage son about violence? My son is nearly 15, and trains karate and recently got his black belt. He's at the age where he's likely to get into fights (although not the personality to start them) and I don't want him to believe his own hype and think he's invincible.

I'm a big fan of Rory Miller and was thinking about letting him read one of his books about real world violence, how to avoid it, how to handle it.

But at the same time I don't want to introduce him to how bad other people can be, and either scare him or give him a negative view of the world.

Has anyone done this and did it work out well or not?",5.670526315789473,4.614045526315792,6.3703759398496285,83.23120300751881,67.42105263157895,9.705263157894738,28.02255639097744,8.841846274778883,1.7367624060150373,497,12,112,7,7,164,86,133,0.183,0.764,0.053,-0.9565,0,1,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,8,6,1,2,6,0,11,0,0,3,0,26,20,14,0,3,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,9,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,4,1,1,4,2,14,2,18,13,3,13,0,0,2,0,17,9,0,2,5,77,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165691228177753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978556267573474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669780708423422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424971608291093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380427556756457,0.2273181330185209,0.0,0.0,0.1895223179950209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24231246094189746,0.0,0.11576898303419528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605734136414546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642814865737851,0.20690843617770086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23702882634798705,0.26971770715599824,0.0,0.0,0.23397405394608176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372430038612644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677248345475354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30367482351851344,0.0,0.0,0.1381760223848173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795358396022031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21305972391736952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251312407963745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,davedacooke,2020/01/12,"I love my children immensely I love my children immensely  


I only want to do the best for them  


I kiss them on the head when I get home from work  


I sometimes stare at them in amazement at these human beings I brought into this world  


I have a routine with my youngest who I give 5 second hugs to before he sleeps  


I love the youngest slightly more because he's still my baby  


I wonder if my attachment is too strong and if I somehow lose any of them I will be broken  


I just wanted to share and wondered if anybody else felt the same way",2.1820909090909097,4.120143027272729,3.2890909090909126,91.0736363636364,77.81818181818181,5.490909090909091,25.54545454545455,6.2581,0.7922000000000002,423,16,87,3,10,136,75,110,0.048,0.6609999999999999,0.29100000000000004,0.9826,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,4,4,5,10,0,0,5,0,6,7,2,0,0,15,17,6,0,5,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,23,9,12,12,3,10,0,1,1,5,15,6,0,6,2,63,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193675122958085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182696519378323,0.0,0.16509234770242173,0.0,0.20360661558294693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207451195049924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862846818411575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136475159327174,0.18611672319421446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911520965253413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946127138148613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170529903643543,0.0,0.0,0.5253179316157348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755703626680425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415496546466846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188564785413015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494051003692755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22886997086970925,0.15399995748854375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208016579753607,0.1412451216950787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tristan5279,2020/01/12,"You or friend suffering from addiction? I want to help So my name is Tristan, I’m a recovered addict of 2 years thanks to god. I’ve been through the whole treatment industry in and out. I’ve worked and partnered up with people who are in this for the right reasons to help the individual. Me personally will guide each person. This is my purpose. Anyone let me know and I’ll do what I can !! Thanks",1.240759493670886,3.824517696202534,2.8758101265822797,88.51523417721522,87.22784810126583,6.197974683544303,23.08987341772152,7.554174236665415,1.2365129113924045,314,12,64,6,10,103,60,79,0.036000000000000004,0.7490000000000001,0.215,0.9229,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,8,2,0,1,0,11,13,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,3,12,10,2,6,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,1,1,42,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847426884021723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545755310383233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717707752137197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29804478260221906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218616225664605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273463880911295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541348821171316,0.388258081715935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285911627579777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898676863578904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40938120487268015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311353597511041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24822230388317185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185810463633893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317253775095468
parenting,Thisisathroway9898,2020/01/12,"I’ve went spank free for 6 months. My spanking wasn’t a norm. It was generally one hit to the butt and an arm grab away from the danger. I do actually feel I did it right. A 2yr old tries to run away from you into traffic for example.  

I’m not going to get into details but I swatted the ass of my oldest about 7 months ago.  They are older. They were 6. I did it because they hit their sibling.  It seemed to me it was justified. I did it and own it but immediately asked myself should I have?  

That did get to me thinking which made me look at my house. I realized I had 3 corners of my house continually worse if you were told to sit in them.  

I came up with a system. Act bad and you go to the first corner. Where it’s in the front room and near all of us. Protest and act up, you go to the second corner that had no angle to the front room but in sight of the family. Then I found a third corner. Far away and one you could put your nose in if you acted up even further. 

I have not put a hand on the butts of my children for over 6 months. I have never been out to beat them, just to wake them up because they are animals to a certain age. My youngest are now 4. I think we are past that moment. I’ve got one child who never accepts the first Corner. Immediately tells me I’m bad. Alright, go to the next corner. He completely changes and begs to leave. Not something I’m proud of at all, but damn they don’t like it.  

I may swat the butt of one of my children at some point but damn I’ve learned a lot.  

Understand. I’m against corporal punishment. I do understand those few times when it’s needed. I’ve now identified those times. A 2yr old out of the car that runs off straight to traffic. A 3 yr old on top of a 1yr old hitting them. It’s never about beating. It’s about “WAKE UP” To stop it immediately. 

Hitting kids is wrong and I admire every parent who can. I have 3 children within 2 years of age of each other and it’s clothes off down to underwear every night for them. If they get bored it’s super hero mimicking and shit goes south. Someone is wolverine and shoved imaginary claws into the other. Now one child is upset that was participating.  

I don’t know what I’m saying but I’ve suffered through a hard life the last year and I’ve kept it together as best I can. I had to spend an hour at the doctors office recording my children with my ex to give to an attorney why she can’t control the children while I coach another on the floor to basketball for Instance. I won as usual and for 6 weeks she’s unable to attend practices. During games she’s allowed to view behind a glass window. Why?  Because I have a 30 minute video of my children being horrible. Her reply to the attorneys: “ he could have stepped in at anytime.”  Me:  Yes. Exactly what il be doing while coaching 10 other boys on the court. Is stepping in at anytime to make my other children behave. 

I’m going insane!!",1.1083580160482531,3.2426235325542616,3.0116260972588726,90.67853990521841,82.45575959933224,5.734299100651626,22.182158436103183,6.968188349444268,0.6211690774947498,2252,75,485,28,62,753,281,599,0.129,0.79,0.081,-0.9837,2,0,1,0,0,0,60.0,2,7,12,11,10,23,6,1,36,2,42,12,10,4,7,68,80,28,0,7,13,2,4,1,0,2,2,1,3,11,32,23,0,3,11,4,2,20,11,12,0,9,22,9,65,12,91,48,8,112,0,1,3,4,48,52,7,7,39,322,97,2,0.0,0.0,0.0835439736116881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588897435245652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977058424955313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003471605129706,0.0,0.24130302080131985,0.0,0.14296319605764551,0.15656298887533887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984344889877695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791616190513916,0.0,0.0,0.09056507245322401,0.0,0.0897614908729158,0.0,0.09602000137857901,0.1367068135069534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762647266750198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654524938404201,0.0,0.1442618975498668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070641919957706,0.0,0.04328748726302915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564132332453902,0.0,0.09386802822169896,0.0,0.0,0.13418462146477644,0.08212585952392662,0.24327348360414794,0.0,0.06847092687955472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669062848716557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430957700641452,0.19756716889886816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047049559440435776,0.06978438061175431,0.0,0.09064967380115084,0.0,0.0,0.060469571814921526,0.04182520378662236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189166725827678,0.0,0.0,0.07278339952407034,0.0,0.08100718572456828,0.05714599848849832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050016187311132,0.0,0.0,0.06347946196075417,0.19808541237712413,0.0,0.0910482557280052,0.08034011169162672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593373174354174,0.0,0.2900611015250821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950608694962664,0.0,0.0817253740132626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093005446971471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212537535254396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311131498139578,0.0,0.06808129289974534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793702708523173,0.0,0.0,0.08787844771692759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253791132197407,0.06590752023527713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157461839519201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482777594544862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971212707964073,0.0,0.0,0.09984090977050103,0.0,0.0,0.08180496669325495,0.0,0.05812424040405645,0.0,0.0,0.17824811304499205,0.10297947615238336,0.0,0.09428840696291707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867196965902381,0.0,0.0,0.07936224249016499,0.15450119935180598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724490952987149,0.0,0.09360217465953782,0.0,0.11026133730270553
parenting,strandeddeeper,2020/01/12,"Help responding to my child. So just before Christmas my 8yr old daughter told me she had so many ideas in her head and she has no opportunity to communicate them so she just forgets them. I told her it would be a shame to lose  all that and suggested she keeps a journal to write it all down because I would like to know what ideas she has (she’s very creative) and we could also leave notes for each other. Long story short, today she writes: I don’t know why tears come out when I’m not sad. It’s so weird. 

While I totally understand this I don’t know how to express my thoughts here. How do I respond?",1.3815694789081905,3.6209265241935498,2.5945161290322574,93.45023573200994,82.14516129032259,5.750868486352358,21.635235732009924,7.010146845296331,0.4561210918114149,475,15,105,6,13,152,82,124,0.105,0.81,0.085,-0.1378,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,2,2,11,6,0,1,2,0,10,1,1,2,3,29,20,12,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,7,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,22,2,10,12,4,10,0,2,0,0,23,4,0,0,6,72,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973207215748094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413695468412945,0.0,0.15932352467150768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128670782944826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949222185594693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921575255246224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549993384070934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227319254214138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642341582322934,0.0,0.0,0.3086990178907112,0.0,0.0,0.19825524126288827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147375296435996,0.0,0.0,0.16569742644826058,0.0,0.2094685062427787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898272957013671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964720433500703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486439836962256,0.0,0.0,0.1774772549886207,0.35782287410874064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491864214485924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544888039969315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895081509112406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660132952147798,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anon47052,2020/01/12,"The father of my daughter (24) goes out until 3 am with no calls or anything. Leaving me (24f) alone with the baby. The father of my daughter (24) goes out until 3 am with no calls or anything. Leaving me (24f) alone with our 17 month old.

Hi. 
Me(24) and the father(24)of my daughter broke up a month ago but we still live together for financial reasons. I’m in school so a lot of time I’m relying on him to come home but he will turn up at the house at 3am. He doesn’t call to let me know he’s going out or anything and he just doesn’t pick up my calls. I find it super immature. Am I wrong for being upset? I bring it up and he calls me crazy. Says I overreact and I’m controlling. He says stuff like you aren’t my mom. What should I say or how should I approach this? Do you think I’m crazy for being upset. He also tells me I just need a break to go out as well. Like I do need a break but I also need a reliable human to be there for our child. 

TL:dr The father of my daughter (24) goes out until 3 am with no calls or anything. Leaving me (24f) alone with the baby. Is it irrational for me to be upset? How do I approach this without being called crazy?",-0.7800978915662641,1.3186940963855456,1.6615549698795178,97.00932040662651,91.9718875502008,4.397640562248997,17.419804216867472,5.985473137389443,-0.40746897590361497,886,24,206,8,32,300,111,249,0.168,0.7759999999999999,0.055999999999999994,-0.9753,1,3,0,0,0,0,38.0,3,2,0,2,10,9,0,3,12,0,20,0,0,5,0,42,34,21,0,5,11,8,0,2,0,3,0,3,1,2,7,17,0,1,4,0,0,6,7,5,1,0,0,3,29,4,38,25,1,30,0,1,0,0,35,13,0,6,11,132,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071711290099308,0.0,0.0,0.2829247925309736,0.0,0.1456375401191306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997307503820989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6508602927986474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843810295194723,0.0,0.0,0.10212889761867484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322504274049303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350032219803362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133824765404863,0.0,0.0,0.1050683028306292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05004290325044705,0.0,0.0,0.2892507119939289,0.0,0.09311261679277558,0.0,0.08897233688974107,0.0,0.08040557348260846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741395804636148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664561952382028,0.14536269548331268,0.0,0.0,0.20255428176627996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554968646125768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362243015519917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21723809495350388,0.0,0.0921552034558344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271875716640258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423922425997087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958839990467574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834606557578813,0.0,0.0,0.05309644816554652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990445756814015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187176321835775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777632550489498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955724615123653,0.0,0.0
parenting,gracefulkindness,2020/01/12,"Parenting after Trauma For parents who have experienced trauma before becoming parents, how has that affected the way you parent?

What I mean is, how has the traumatic experience change the way you parent your children. I started thinking about this because I am a survivor of human trafficking from when I was 18-23 but now as a 30 year old woman, I am a mother of 2 of girls. I find myself meticulously looking after my own actions and reactions towards my daughters to ensure that they don’t feel unvalued or unlovable. And when I do snap and raise my voice at them, I’m thinking oh no, I’m setting them up for failure and they’re going to lack confidence and find it elsewhere. 

Just wondering if this all of parenting or more so prevalent in parents who’ve endured trauma. 
Hope this makes sense!",7.093533333333332,7.628920486666673,7.587333333333337,70.35033333333337,64.13333333333333,10.133333333333336,38.0,9.994966539143718,4.0884,643,32,104,13,9,212,103,150,0.16699999999999998,0.7490000000000001,0.084,-0.9051,7,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,3,0,8,5,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,4,1,24,21,15,0,3,5,9,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,8,5,0,0,7,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,4,17,1,17,20,4,17,0,0,1,0,20,4,0,5,8,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840918949387904,0.1239398384628012,0.0954922375513616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871547510975065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977416815337684,0.0,0.0,0.0567425661740841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513684995454234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377806897374695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146127840589552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423780276227901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490872780659563,0.0,0.0,0.12224212075177787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775759464566699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8722609264953413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943096075370172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381402166147367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781524186681596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169943805578493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226697163461042
parenting,isaor,2020/01/12,"Baby head nodding My baby always head bops really hard, like back and fort, when he’s sleeping. I try so hard to stop him from doing that by supporting his neck but he’s always banging it at night, either by himself while feeding or on my chest or shoulder. Is this normal? I’m very paranoid about shaken baby syndrome, so much that I don’t take him for car rides... nor on the stroller. I only go out when necessary. Please help :(",3.3151932773109247,5.074476317647061,4.2774789915966425,86.02294117647061,74.05882352941177,6.26890756302521,25.084033613445378,6.868970318607317,1.0545798319327735,337,11,64,3,7,109,67,85,0.141,0.747,0.11199999999999999,-0.1829,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,3,7,6,0,0,8,7,10,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,9,2,10,7,2,13,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,7,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625922277244771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167538581229441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382793248755225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3903607506270267,0.0,0.4472216434214592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604238503876502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644663022944603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016907813657966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044684397823852,0.21347908332028265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657098429918967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23917010973738398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395814317993915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180403568493558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821599477911828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472510513052466,0.0,0.0,0.16382090339626731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792825773719134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977629714239407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Peaches-N-Chucks,2020/01/12,"Should I call cps on my sister-in-law again? So my sister-in-law is a heroin addict. Before she had her son she was using and ended up getting pregnant. There was a possibility of three different fathers. She choice to never find his father because she said she didn’t want the father to have any rights. Right after she had the baby she was leaving him alone with my father-in-law to babysit. My father in law as Alzheimer’s and was diagnosed over 14 years ago. He has not worked for the last 12 years because of his diagnosis. He is still in pretty good health overall however I have seen him pass out on the floor before and hit his head. I do not allow him to watch my kids alone because my grandpa had Alzheimer’s and I watched him forget who he was sometimes. I didn’t believe it was safe. Especially for a newborn. I told him this was not safe. They even put a car seat in his car. I told them what if he forgets the baby is with him. I live in Texas it’s very hot. They called me insane and he continued to watch the baby for hours everyday alone. I called cps out of concern for my nephew. They came and talked to his neurologist who said he was not mentally fit at this stage in Alzheimer’s to watch a child unsupervised. Anyway long story short everyone hated me after this. It was really damaging to my marriage but in the end we made it out stronger. So here it is a year later. She is still having my father-in-law watch him daily unsupervised, but worse she is using again. We talked on the phone a couple times this month and she was completely trashed. Then Christmas Eve she showed up the my in laws with her son and new boyfriend completely messed up on heroin. How do I know it was heroin... well she had the heroin nodding, she could only hold one eye open, that one eye kept rolling back, she has lost half her body weight and looks like a skeleton, she was slurring, and falling in and out of sleep. She was so fucked up my mother-in-law(who is an enabler and literally never says anything) would not let her leave with her son. She told her to leave him there with my husband and I. That she would take him to church with her later. My sister-in-law said no to which she was taken outside and my mother-in-law demanded she take a drug test. Anyway she ended up leaving my nephew there after crying and stumbling in to the door and breaking it. Her new boyfriend didn’t seem to mind. She gets with a new guys every 3 months. The last two boyfriend she had she was having my nephew call daddy. Which I think is wrong because she keeps bringing strangers she meets on tinder in and out of his life and having him call them daddy then they break up weeks later, but that’s not csp stuff. Just another crappy choice in my opinion. My in-laws pay most of her bills and she lives in an apartment 2 blocks from them. He’s well fed and clothed. He doesn’t talk but he is only a year and half. He seems happy but very quiet. I know my mother-in-law tries to watch out for my nephew as much as possible. I am concerned he is being neglected in my sister-in-laws care or exposed to her drug use. Also my father-in-law is not fit to watch him. I don’t want to hurt anyone in my husband family but I also want to do right by my sweet nephew. Should I call csp again?",2.8547387906211448,4.536928533936653,3.5987538735774045,90.73176306046896,75.12368024132729,6.209450157685453,22.461785273549978,6.823360437735567,0.4834611764705885,2570,69,543,23,55,814,271,663,0.122,0.82,0.057999999999999996,-0.9923,3,3,2,0,0,0,78.0,2,0,7,3,22,17,2,0,25,0,54,14,5,6,2,90,89,40,0,9,16,15,2,1,0,4,6,5,1,4,20,38,2,7,6,1,2,7,15,8,2,6,36,19,106,9,77,45,2,90,1,4,11,1,114,42,1,6,39,353,126,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103139706941862,0.0,0.0,0.05775827731270726,0.0,0.0,0.2024508563095929,0.0,0.10421301167769817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430939950879532,0.06832342041583545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045559705988993136,0.0,0.05361914957535018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010216924951098,0.0,0.15887786257100572,0.0,0.1108886299233274,0.07341029785859751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723754002308192,0.0,0.0,0.3991991423472618,0.07452293143990689,0.06643251146765479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366329990905218,0.0,0.0,0.052023038342826,0.07209564046085208,0.07157255944655591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613358820371135,0.0,0.06807581954767701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511242499741606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17313087030032331,0.0,0.0,0.04303597752515902,0.0,0.05489808470492825,0.06226087507628642,0.0,0.0,0.06142478246438288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955286215283066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060237147402837185,0.06808430907383263,0.0,0.0,0.05465109999512356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451626392737622,0.0,0.06936147235413731,0.0,0.0643296362564676,0.06687049128123132,0.06925947745328785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641671068874567,0.0,0.06975255394995457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791506497815505,0.0,0.0,0.07161782129193918,0.10622427412839967,0.0,0.2759699438496281,0.0,0.06662805629118093,0.04602273686880904,0.031832710081817435,0.0,0.11507070170837648,0.05766242191337486,0.05471597013146372,0.0,0.07112721280975506,0.0,0.0,0.06165369261246501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566353135947542,0.0,0.06579059743857202,0.0,0.10401634269236228,0.0,0.04789833005895653,0.0,0.1005071094741056,0.18878883620554945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830494644297546,0.09911057547419344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691079836348506,0.0,0.0662886995305103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550138045082335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04174162433979877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166932692453319,0.1859393837008952,0.051815935432837384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863405617817728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520465185943992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444252834434203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406988038346507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458985839909553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798080619206352,0.1571136221899536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041750356454960766,0.0,0.0,0.037993918107887284,0.0,0.0,0.18678262522885927,0.0,0.04423773050688602,0.0,0.06364950335008583,0.0,0.0,0.16882572734282442,0.0,0.10752368081884896,0.1152949145744762,0.0,0.05226549312360451,0.07934439815387874,0.11716900751508505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04743550578235302,0.0,0.06640115671276374,0.0925721732197899,0.07123960242167965,0.0,0.16783742173723212
parenting,O_Omphaloskepsi_O_O,2020/01/12,"Big Changes For A Little Girl Hi everyone,

I before asking all you lovely people for advise, I wanted to provide some background information.

I had a baby and moved back with my parents for help. My brother and his family also moved into my parent’s for help. My brother had his son when my daughter turned two, and since that day, they have been so close and best of friends.

She is four now and he is two... My brother and his girlfriend are still very young and naive... so we fight a lot about chores and helping around the house. They are tired and feel like they shouldn’t be helping around the house since my mom is retired and thinks she should be cleaning after them still. I have a major disagreement because my mom is very type A and stresses so easily. 

My brother is taking his family to another state. 

My daughter will be so heartbroken. My nephew and her have grown up together and are SO close! Like all children she hates change, but she takes it so hard. 

Her teacher at school was just let go over the holidays and she cries about it on our way to school... I can’t imagine how she will feel when her cousin is gone.

Is there any advice or a suggestion on what to read for this? I don’t know how to explain this big change for her.",3.8573684210526338,5.42407624489796,4.032416756176154,89.11908700322235,72.26530612244899,6.953813104189044,25.139634801288928,7.475848149327749,1.0818979591836737,980,30,199,11,19,303,138,245,0.07400000000000001,0.831,0.094,0.4594,2,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,2,1,4,1,21,8,2,1,9,0,27,2,0,2,2,40,41,27,0,3,3,13,3,2,2,4,1,0,2,2,6,21,0,0,7,2,0,5,3,3,0,3,5,3,38,5,24,28,6,29,0,0,0,1,51,13,0,3,11,145,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443675537075202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546768799005157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267848556102509,0.1120674795691256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028234809757108,0.09991345139256068,0.0,0.0,0.0821800752152784,0.0,0.06514984726063211,0.0,0.09094252887770088,0.0,0.1121584420782422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391778996986504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739687935219208,0.06892536337403599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021233905314032,0.0,0.0,0.2015039795129976,0.0,0.10807815577901736,0.0763513329527588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257115613540593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073937555698504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573877136899232,0.10551667573115328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865435316219647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24663819277988164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058735560043474314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928665883085482,0.0,0.10442719538956656,0.10711656275284444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086107890821554,0.09645862216067097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250340798876768,0.0,0.22718186189601744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373434937324513,0.0,0.0,0.07409348535203862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690365810110676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632587776970744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768157725271432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070060489729516,0.0,0.12242464931628932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071300191450266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848101559528479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283678744462025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162490232191599,0.2088021756773025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636570051710565,0.06303748848666887,0.08483219104928359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hmene866,2020/01/12,"I don’t like my 14 yr old daughters boyfriends attitude! My daughter who is 14 has known her boyfriend since daycare. When they were little and in the same class they were always best friends but this kid always got my daughter in trouble. Years later I thought they would go through the cooties faze and the boy wouldn’t wanna talk to a girl anymore or he might get teased but nope! They were still friends. Basically they have history and they decided to start being boyfriend and girlfriend at 12. So they’ve been together for two years now. 


A little backstory on This kid, he’s adopted and has a lot of issues with that. Basically he is upset that he was adopted instead of being happy. He has had depression issues, suicidal thoughts because he is overly upset that he didn’t get to have a real mom or dad. So that impacted his life. But that’s not why I don’t like him. His attitude is what ticks me off. Every time he gets in trouble at school he uses “not knowing his parents as an excuse” and he says “he has had a hard life” when in reality he hasn’t! 

His parents are so sweet!! I’ve none them forever and they are so kind and they have raised him greatly. But his attitude is the issue not his problems. I hate that he can’t just grow up and accept the fact when he’s wrong instead of blaming it on “oh my life sucks, I never met my parents that’s why I’m like this”. 

He has done that for years. You may think I’m being mean but I’ve known this kid forever and he likes to get out of things. 

Now back to him dating my daughter. He used to be a really sweet kid. But now that he has gotten older he is extremely rude to my daughter when they’re over at my house, he’s been rude to his parents talking on the phone and he has made some remarks towards me. 

My daughter has a PlayStation that she plays video games on. Mainly just survival games. Her boyfriend has one too and they were playing together one night and I remember seeing a message pop up on her screen on the ps4 from her boyfriend. He called her a mean bi**h. I immediately asked my daughter what was going on and she said her boyfriend was in a bad mood. I told her I don’t like when people call her names and she said she knows that but she doesn’t know what to do. 

Yesterday my daughter was texting him on her phone and she put it down to go to the bathroom. Well I walked by and I saw a text pop  from her boyfriend saying I f***ing hate you. You are soo stupid!! How can you be so dumb sl*t? When my daughter got out of the bathroom she explained to me that she loves him but he has been being mean to her with words. He is soo mean to her and my husband and I can’t stand it. Sometimes he’s nice but recently he’s been so mean 

It’s not that I don’t like him it’s just that I don’t like his attitude. What do we do?",1.1698502467525105,3.3753366782006964,2.3960672755119425,94.76071161154918,82.73702422145328,5.381859436156333,22.624198763401214,6.636973602784848,0.4464684553860123,2192,76,484,23,61,700,232,578,0.10300000000000001,0.763,0.134,0.9529,4,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,1,4,10,2,25,38,8,2,21,0,62,4,0,4,2,77,101,44,1,4,18,16,1,7,3,4,3,4,0,6,29,24,0,0,17,5,0,6,18,16,1,3,27,10,80,21,54,64,6,58,0,1,3,1,122,27,2,6,31,316,109,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291530937712695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696684686204573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255353606060581,0.0,0.0,0.059676199425525475,0.06479991378903469,0.047309463607611714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144540558260616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849405315882906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684414715705843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942051167988037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538856700226936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992037650061894,0.0,0.1621890974742099,0.0,0.13232021554708845,0.0,0.1241413253537336,0.08556372181467102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261576531826456,0.06952203436178638,0.1532447899848147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954986923367443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430095495383187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081738236671021,0.12795492041138884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445168330820362,0.2654093881536298,0.15556835020825446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598003044826868,0.07004476398071538,0.07343510492207721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226924193818265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233042781912578,0.0,0.09089421857415103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05985651318598735,0.0,0.0,0.07283038509183383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143713848426093,0.0,0.10517915038664287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447005281322858,0.0,0.0,0.05380401023505597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426091970931849,0.0,0.0780180479404832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833554272641253,0.049718036878642985,0.0,0.07662909957658823,0.0,0.087915380314507,0.0,0.14764704348474528,0.12343489883286188,0.0,0.0785440156197792,0.06184398184621279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641986106441677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675685964434703,0.0,0.054931744914637835,0.0,0.061978303823789625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489117861138569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475765674711245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05155968505105694,0.04972843761485101,0.0,0.12322507038370875,0.04525418096513845,0.0,0.0,0.07415831396355084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581229539861585,0.0,0.0,0.13405777200179966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977942436124518,0.0,0.14005932539816182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055130901047487,0.08485278750985012,0.0,0.14993212271075745
parenting,Mama_Meggy,2020/01/12,"How to navigate tantrums and sensory issues? My daughter is a bit over 4 years old. She is wonderful, full of energy, creativity and has such a great personality. Two things have been happening and I am wondering about other people’s experiences and if you have any advice. 

First: The Tantrums. She will have full on blow out yelling screaming kicking throwing fits. I feel like this is normal and recognize that it is a part of growth, developing and learning to process huge emotions. So to navigate these situations I usually sit with her and offer comfort and support when she is ready.  I have found that by initiating any sort of consequence or getting angry just adds to the behaviour. So I sit and wait and once she is calm we usually process what has happened and why. Should I be harder on her or does this seem appropriate? I wonder if I am enabling her or allowing her to get away with bad behaviour.

Second: Some things that will trigger these tantrums are sensory issues with her clothes. She gets so upset by socks that now I don’t even try to make her wear them. But she is also so upset by her underwear, shirts and pants. Sometimes she wears things with no problem, other times she gets so upset, like she is uncomfortable in her own skin. I have tried new and different clothes with no success. I am at a loss with this and don’t know what to do.",4.879630350194557,6.7201794046692624,5.35379571984436,79.56579085603116,70.1284046692607,9.031050583657589,31.137937743190665,9.516144504307137,2.970290428015564,1085,47,201,25,20,347,147,257,0.13699999999999998,0.737,0.126,-0.5038,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,1,1,1,4,13,17,3,3,6,0,27,4,4,4,0,48,43,28,0,5,7,1,2,2,0,3,0,2,0,1,17,23,0,1,8,0,0,2,4,10,0,3,2,4,32,7,27,37,6,24,0,1,0,0,23,11,0,11,11,151,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235188631921295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001288560507436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702915754448159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117637112418629,0.0,0.10454351655344728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669479435729473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081579404128216,0.0,0.0,0.1095704342543041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084223704690127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269875573592794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247752743359144,0.0,0.0,0.06330896714724939,0.0894486771117414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065019285782164,0.0,0.1372841966722363,0.0,0.0,0.26166421535352363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804234982516744,0.0,0.0,0.22144218263717846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613694101251925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881108609533708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234068641428425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357736541559505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209267435361158,0.0,0.0,0.12267733385359356,0.0,0.0,0.13138481731491725,0.13334251846569994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558814881057002,0.0,0.08680351725409623,0.10932686563986277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980722249385276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398473321659705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073912752694118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238339923251148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420846449912776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495480536520941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300983813410915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001613440113242,0.0,0.12231010036160266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757980209158521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298081700307085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073484640476835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806298981792676
parenting,ToDeemon,2020/01/12,"How Parents Can Prevent Their Children Cutting Them Off  Today, there is a phenomenon where adult children cut off their parents. Sometimes it is due to physical or emotional abuse they suffered in childhood, but it is also often related simply to money.  

read more:

 [https://medium.com/@michaellaitman/how-parents-can-prevent-their-children-cutting-them-off-5d4c483dbaeb](https://medium.com/@michaellaitman/how-parents-can-prevent-their-children-cutting-them-off-5d4c483dbaeb)",29.5481884057971,36.338655413043476,16.042173913043474,7.358623188405801,16.608695652173907,10.481159420289854,45.76811594202898,10.504223727775694,5.8200376811594206,423,14,27,5,3,100,38,46,0.154,0.7979999999999999,0.048,-0.631,4,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,0,0,4,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,4,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,4,1,7,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,2,3,24,6,1,0.0,0.3553461733976717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23983917744777025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373601538612785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6660326217786199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29999273442510305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966202154978925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842811045010457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MaceWinduVibes,2020/01/12,"High anxiety over something small. Tonight, my 3 year old son was in his booster seat waiting for dinner. He was away from the table and swung his legs too hard tipping him forward. Dad reflexes caught the chair before be hit his head but the crotch belt caught him pretty roughly. 

No bruising and he’s been fine except winced when stretching his tummy out during bedtime. 

He’s language delayed so can’t tell me
If it hurts. 

Ugh the frustration. I feel terrible. And I don’t know if I should worry about it. I wish he could just tell me if it’s hurting him. >.<",1.5048484848484875,4.218502818181825,2.073636363636364,93.25712121212123,89.0,4.387878787878788,23.696969696969692,6.079149491110277,0.6205878787878789,450,18,86,4,15,138,83,110,0.244,0.6779999999999999,0.078,-0.9648,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,4,0,8,4,3,0,0,17,15,9,0,6,6,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,2,2,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,5,3,14,1,8,6,0,15,0,2,0,0,15,8,0,3,6,49,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325421000440122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21278250443176575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927151626441978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082337751697627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451352643408505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20287881944148398,0.0,0.23243063986398665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23928528122675094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.484896415028601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446578236237806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376494109536723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304084290756889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435298368804558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.395901589143583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604372601270587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299982872574533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584369944077194
parenting,krammiit,2020/01/12,"Has anyone else ever had a parent violate custody? I am seeking advice as a single mom with Primary Physical Custody in the state of PA. We have a 14 year old daughter and she has recently decided dad's house is ""more fun"". Dad does provide for her, but in the form of 100% unlocked Netflix, no bedtime (she stays up for days chatting on her phone), and no discipline. Our agreement is me M-W and every other weekend. This agreement was made when she was 5.

She goes to school in my town 10 miles away. When she is here, she sets her own alarm and has to catch the bus. Her cell phone does not stay in the room with her all night and she is expected to contribute to the household by doing her own laundry. Dad has zero chores and zero rules.

Christmas break came and went and she decided I have too many rules. She found her phone I had hidden as I always do at night and sat on it all night the day she was to go back to school. On Monday, Jan 6th, I had to drive her to school because she missed the bus. This was also the date I was to start a brand new job and training was 1 hour away making me very late. The employer considered anyone not on time a ""no show"" and terminated me on the spot.

Since I told her about the new job and reprimanded her, she called her father at school. He came and picked her up and he decided he is just going to ""keep"" her away from me because of my strict parenting. I am not abusive and certainly do not set rules out of the norm. I also can not afford a lawyer because I was just fired.

He has communicated with me that she does not want to speak with me and will not be returning home. He communicates ""through"" her when her cell phone goes off.

This was my weekend and she will not answer her phone. He does communicate that she is ""too upset to talk"" and she will ""return home when she wants to"". We have a set custody agreement and he has now violated it for a week and a weekend which makes her believe she can just run away when she doesn't like a situation.

Ideas? Thanks",3.2570222715384034,4.569321272727276,4.229585479908064,88.12279147182377,73.37346437346437,7.41377506538797,24.922644051676308,7.941651935203635,1.188159451533645,1566,48,337,22,31,507,192,407,0.086,0.8640000000000001,0.05,-0.8981,6,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,3,0,0,0,17,12,2,2,22,0,38,0,0,4,4,60,55,30,0,3,12,9,1,1,0,3,0,1,4,0,9,29,0,2,6,6,0,8,12,5,0,2,18,2,58,7,49,33,7,67,0,1,0,0,67,22,0,0,31,233,67,8,0.0,0.1079108727587166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899899507990157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566784109509795,0.07578302348247908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736574647452165,0.09331873506392016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422778382686969,0.07003228014683043,0.0,0.16655834189471094,0.0,0.0,0.10261213480982652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299938701925813,0.20833472442966272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747373908791865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31880697004244496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608280887943354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823839948986125,0.07673595984304585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998607860634346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035218562116744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827145025148216,0.0,0.08969210062292544,0.1050901630743301,0.0,0.10281439048233112,0.0,0.0,0.1807589354466403,0.08095306283193775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273836678537332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044495424123865285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617887683904747,0.1215886694874052,0.09233737283972186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666780794001827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759246870116995,0.0,0.2564076456469782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556956628586044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20225956231551748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992715053250455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686975081317665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533950098951114,0.10237390934571126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446448309123816,0.19415106543609134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320391757420427,0.0,0.08385109264588478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053107495277427835,0.0,0.0,0.08702759003936462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514772963246001,0.10743867152436597,0.0,0.07305615128590938,0.0,0.0,0.08442891652210892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865034146369965
parenting,throwaway0854532,2020/01/12,"Stepfather(daddy to 3yo girl) looking for advice. Bio dad trying to get visitation changed. This may be long and excuse the formatting as I'm on mobile. I am daddy to a wonderful 3yo little girl who was born at 30 weeks and has come a long way health wise. I  started dating her mom when she was 1 and we are now getting married on May 9th.

My fiance's ex husband had an affair and bailed when my daughter was about 6 months. Basically said he couldn't handle my fiance's family (they are the most amazing, loving people I have ever met.)

He was granted supervised visitation every other weekend for 2 hours. At the time of the divorce our daughter qualified for an at home nurse and he had his lawyer put in that the at home nurse would be the supervisor. He used that visitation 1 time and then we didn't hear from him for over a year.

We hear from him again this past July and he wants to use his visitation again. Our daughter's health has improved and there is no longer a nurse so the ex agrees for me to be the supervisor. He uses his visitation twice over the summer, at which point we meet his new wife, who is also pregnant. At the second visitation he tells me he is changing jobs and will be moving. We hear from him a few weeks later that he is actually staying in this area and wants to use the visitation again. At that point we had a lot of travel planned but I gave him multiple dates but he never responded.

Fast forward to around Thanksgiving and his current wife gives birth prematurely and he bails on that family as well. My fiance learns though a mutual acquaintance that he is living with some new woman and her mother and sisters.

Around Christmas time he contacts my ex again and wants to do his visitation to give her Christmas gifts. Before the visitation he informs my ex that, since daughters health has improved he wants to have unsupervised visitations.

He is currently going through another divorce and we think he coming back around to look good in his current situation.

Since the divorce was final he has seen daughter a handful of times for about 30-45 minutes each time. There has been no consistency on his visitations and he seems to only come around when it's convenient for him (ie look good to the new wife/look good during current divorce proceedings.) He has missed all her birthdays and is months behind on child support. He didn't have any concern when she had open heart surgery when she was 15 months old and has no experience with any of her current medical conditions.

He is currently making statements that he would like to sit down and adjust the visitation without going to court and that he has a lawyer and is prepared to go to court. My fiance has contacted her attorney and I guess we are just going to wait and see if he actually takes it to court.

Obviously we are wanting whats best for our daughter. Are we wrong for being this cautious about the situation?",5.719690290708723,6.9627615162454894,6.177016910507318,76.74314459433785,67.4115523465704,9.08067642029261,30.64392931787954,9.345792617884785,2.715307581227437,2336,89,424,45,38,755,254,554,0.027999999999999997,0.885,0.087,0.9851,7,0,0,0,4,0,41.0,13,0,1,2,26,12,0,0,27,0,52,7,2,5,4,81,95,38,0,9,5,17,1,1,0,5,4,4,2,4,20,45,0,1,7,2,0,23,8,2,1,2,17,10,50,10,67,67,7,103,0,1,5,1,117,28,0,9,52,276,70,6,0.0,0.0,0.1424335202754689,0.0,0.0,0.07131401736215694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05836110250254764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925614335210832,0.07652461200421383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25986633973392204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056116175669385183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620995650460346,0.0,0.07658672521264716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154403741237787,0.18859426612421848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601348293077827,0.06148776812182857,0.0,0.0,0.07138724853890246,0.13759579414852274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799446842648572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625679896790492,0.14001578775761028,0.16590208562723988,0.18363340991756094,0.0,0.0,0.08039435180831589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23271908552600995,0.24675716065927225,0.0864802034609337,0.0,0.0,0.14640732957671804,0.0,0.07186939600081052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724201764819577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035653744692926884,0.07314390789729795,0.06444159812032194,0.12916784427032502,0.2451351738107044,0.0,0.0,0.062043947418721275,0.06586619654235525,0.0,0.048713901090016484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351844120721925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547186291922006,0.17475289333111693,0.07756489171894056,0.0,0.0,0.05628573269136534,0.2114500760270535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076578951293606,0.0,0.0,0.055503649316122006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966650144415552,0.0505942958689215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797706831356926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336382889252868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941952997187173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058154637573851926,0.06643713871661637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073759881892322,0.16406240861388408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051654754778789766,0.07778566734916667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281545258213767,0.0,0.0,0.05487095883134327,0.0,0.06378666875382627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467618542705892,0.07170127897737838,0.0,0.21277256203145808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04954779989618046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521209311557338,0.0,0.0,0.2152238707745245,0.05792715719558516,0.11707834760467427,0.0,0.06561668593609049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034893786173271,0.07914237181369005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368406023755523,0.07979083748257372,0.0,0.046995940411278365
parenting,tabbyspirit,2020/01/12,"Need help for newborns and traviling So my husband is in basic training for the Air Force and graduates basically the same time as our first is due. Previously I didn't think I would be able to go for obvious reasons but if (in the rare instance) she is born early is it reasonable to try and go down (from Kansas to Texas) to see him.

Some more background info: Obviously still need to ask doctor/obgyn. If she says no way then that's that. I would not be driving, I would be in the back of a big empty van while the in-laws drive so I can be by her and monitor her the whole way. Aslo she is due March 9th. Another side note Husband will be going to Tech school right after so no time other than waiting till after that which is another couple of months at least.

I know the unlikelihood that everything would fall into place, but I miss him so much already and I really want him to meet his baby girl in person closer to a few weeks old than a few months old.

Basically any advice that might help *if* its possible. Or is their no way this could work out? Thanks all so much in advance! :)",2.9986757990867585,4.669250168949773,4.349520547945208,85.54884703196348,74.70776255707763,7.606392694063928,23.582191780821915,8.344100000000001,1.3372575342465756,853,25,176,15,18,282,138,219,0.055999999999999994,0.875,0.069,0.6035,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,1,3,7,2,0,0,10,0,21,0,0,2,3,34,34,20,0,11,7,2,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,3,10,7,0,1,5,0,0,7,5,1,0,1,1,2,20,1,30,21,10,45,0,1,1,0,21,15,0,6,20,126,30,3,0.12659424328403945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370642939045097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396998954292152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608842653472337,0.2654902040774501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118348528503898,0.0,0.0,0.09734315888913454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107520219497636,0.14007412233279976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295745722586071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137747430197656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768099866670476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158392774714028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169706905562341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957288538343001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429648660198693,0.0,0.0,0.2020926344195789,0.0,0.18612266986818032,0.1877360546505661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26567872576547075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105372102680305,0.13226404002062753,0.0,0.0,0.14271598816817607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109951387861826,0.2603199326748759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811079206537597,0.0,0.10067282338033808,0.0,0.12812013274753725,0.1008792216854489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109832621508442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655097074295845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811164794449078,0.0,0.0,0.14763624260572053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594918132548822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466856463267123,0.3014538535256264,0.10154626591541564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413379516855683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216211684094136,0.0,0.0,0.359715673050801,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marjoha,2020/01/12,"Girl and boy clothes I know people have ranted about this before but I still have to. 

Went to Target today and decided to look for a Mickey Mouse top for my 18-month old daughter since she is obsessed with him. In the Girl section I could only find Minnie Mouse so I went over to the Boys section. And yay, they had one! Only problem: It also says LADIES MAN on it. Seriously. And what’s up with the caption? I couldn’t imagine seeing a Minnie Mouse shirt with MAN’S LADY all over it (although I guess I wouldn’t be too shocked if I did at this point).",1.8701055194805176,4.0252263839285725,3.025551948051948,91.50581168831171,79.80357142857143,4.7870129870129885,21.788961038961038,5.565023196281405,0.10909642857142864,433,13,88,2,11,139,77,112,0.099,0.8390000000000001,0.062,-0.4753,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,5,5,0,1,5,1,9,1,1,0,1,19,15,9,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,6,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,4,3,12,1,16,7,3,15,0,0,2,0,11,10,0,2,3,63,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184518129489636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19633788761811155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422255668176066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108869622572482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541798352173801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680553234351674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375869287978872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416991008095954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421168251637689,0.0,0.1563515273191864,0.35096765182640194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599621055166168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181184853093904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078155554589687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348916953657102,0.0,0.0,0.1838653569953796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086579020817235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184264703182708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21870912921723895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277859995556815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashtisd11,2020/01/12,"Any tips for spending a long period of time away from your toddler? This summer, I (the mom) will have to do a 10 week job in a different city. I’ll be able to come back on most Saturdays, but I will be gone the rest of the week. My daughter will be 3.5 years old and she has never spent more than one night away from me. My husband is the best and I have no doubt he’ll keep the house running smoothly, but I’m worried for how my daughter will react to being away from me for so long (and I’m going to miss her like crazy).

Any advice?",2.67254347826087,3.2572848956521767,3.8684239130434785,92.93133152173915,73.95652173913044,6.793478260869566,23.07065217391305,6.6274283507984215,0.37449999999999983,413,10,98,3,8,135,76,115,0.09300000000000001,0.831,0.076,0.168,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,1,8,0,13,0,0,2,1,12,22,7,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,2,4,2,2,0,1,2,1,11,2,18,11,4,22,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,2,14,66,12,1,0.18006141701887965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595393275832244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448958762838523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5075208856458884,0.13845611515955367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896334825468952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510696703429616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881258566657004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233305280881287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077666997311704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868317245880114,0.16004686076874275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796891310193759,0.0,0.0,0.31869737571871404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21088575538303025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887446523921174,0.0,0.0,0.1689754421773114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889441675707394,0.0,0.1220142761980926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499526027926698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888688151906029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828611093718505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159536490147061
parenting,SchatziRed,2020/01/12,"Mini guns in Space My husband works insane hours in a juvenile jail.  Every other weekend hes off.  Tonight wasn't that night.  Due to a storm, he ended up working three hours over (power went out, all hands in deck).  Well, our youngest (12m) and I had a day out.  He got some awesome lego pieces at his favorite nerd store.  While Dad ate dinner, two hours after we did, munchkin sat with him, showing him a jetpack he'd designed,  and they discussed the logistics of how to line a suit with lead to protect the user from radiation,  and how to compensate for no oxygen with the mini guns.  

Why is this important?  Despite being tired and dealing with little punks for 13 hours, he got into a very deep discussion with munchkin as to how newton's law gets in the way of jet packs and projectiles in space.  That's the stuff he's going to remember.",4.950703991130818,5.841645567073172,5.2623503325942345,83.88885809312642,68.9390243902439,7.914855875831485,29.543237250554323,8.00094639256281,1.9075560975609755,659,24,128,8,11,209,116,164,0.043,0.858,0.099,0.8445,1,0,0,2,0,0,23.0,2,0,1,4,4,2,0,0,11,0,7,4,1,4,1,22,14,10,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,14,2,1,1,2,1,3,2,1,1,2,8,1,10,1,30,4,3,32,0,0,0,0,17,16,0,1,12,77,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009837456899428,0.17600178301000635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512046353280932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383647809810512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891926128530657,0.0,0.097022434033026,0.0,0.27307604133138963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.672487626047026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711033336814932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020638729970255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338913903183255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954301792426492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962141361742061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676575228038926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408594456824432,0.0,0.13550724854315124,0.0,0.0,0.1534951307846567,0.15825641624888864,0.1540455848295996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485680921368631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pineapple-0_0-Panda,2020/01/12,"~DESPERATE~ Please help!! Urgently need help navigating ex visiting 3 yo DD for first time in over a year Okay, you guys. As the title says I desperately need help and advice. Buckle up and get ready for a long ride. I have a daughter who is 3 years old who hasn’t seen her biological dad in over a year. Last time he saw her was a month before her 2nd birthday. They have facetimed maybe 10 times in this period of time. We have tried to set up times for him to come see her but he either cancels last minute or has some excuse why he can’t come. For example, he said he wanted to come for thanksgiving so I changed my plans around in order to make sure we were here for thanksgiving so he could see her. About a week before he cancels for no reason just says he can’t come. Okay, super annoying but whatever didn’t expect different. Then he texts me he wants to come see her for Christmas. I was really sick and didn’t respond for a day, but when I did respond I asked him what days he was thinking. He said because I did not respond right away he had booked a flight to Arizona instead. In my personal opinion he took the opportunity of me not answering right away to use as an excuse to not come. Fast forward a couple weeks I’m talking to his dad and step mom and end up talking about how he is telling people I’m keeping him from his child. I let them know what actually happened and they believe me. 

About a week later I get a message that he’s already booked a flight and is coming the 7th-10th. Not asking but telling. I said ok thats fine let me know your flight info so I can plan accordingly. After many, many attempts at figuring out when he’s coming I realize he has not booked a flight. He finally gets back to me today saying he’ll get in on Saturday at 2pm and leave Sunday night. I let him know a couple things we could take her to do and then he lost it when he realized I was not going to let him take her by himself for the weekend. 

In my eyes, he does not know his child. Even when we lived together he wasn’t involved and every time I had him watch her something bad happened because he was not paying attention, slept through her crying, even left chewing tobacco out, and many more. One main example that sticks out to me is when I went to work on a Saturday when she was about 1 yo he did not feed her for the entire day. No food, no formula, nothing and when I came home she was super lethargic. He didn’t understand why I was so upset and didn't see anything wrong with that since I fed her formula for breakfast at 8 am (I got home at 7:45 pm). All in all, I do not trust him to take care of her and keep her safe. 

Aside from that major concern bc of the huge gap in time since he has seen her he doesn’t know what she eats, what she likes to do, how to deal with her tantrums, or anything regarding her. I really, really need help navigating this situation and help explaining to him why I am not comfortable with what him taking her by himself for the whole weekend. I even offered to have a third party like my aunt be there instead of me if the issue was just that he didn’t want me there. He did not take this offer either. I really need help with this. TIA! 

TLDR: My daughters (3 yo) bio dad has not seen her in over a year and now wants to come visit and have her for the weekend by herself. I need help explaining to him why this is not okay with me and help with suggestions navigating this.",3.114620911924764,4.458035539229673,4.3027349817720735,87.33554379986265,73.77888730385162,7.646230253077617,25.392323136260373,8.226894021818545,1.4098974269562,2687,87,575,43,54,881,290,701,0.076,0.8029999999999999,0.12,0.9840000000000001,1,0,2,0,0,0,63.0,4,2,3,9,30,21,2,1,27,4,53,9,2,5,3,107,120,42,0,13,25,8,0,2,0,1,1,6,2,4,21,42,6,3,16,6,1,18,27,6,0,3,36,16,89,15,87,76,9,100,0,1,10,0,129,33,0,5,51,357,110,6,0.0,0.0,0.05311114295752697,0.0,0.0,0.053183674231625434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06005956008356855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957460233042676,0.04844996561471164,0.10176042776042496,0.0,0.10226853140782392,0.04184961829830898,0.045442767534463364,0.0663541918867383,0.0,0.092623670899419,0.06131856146283449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224792822242109,0.055490117277637085,0.0,0.05757464365268149,0.4219424055399845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690818501383793,0.12044089425482225,0.0597835251115525,0.10529925194347048,0.056109990010363806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056862748780935286,0.0,0.0,0.04762785810751797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055690565489320346,0.0,0.0,0.04820457175310354,0.0,0.0,0.10784199124512484,0.0,0.04585557720600901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596201448433408,0.0,0.046294046172414886,0.06581116624783173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373967991902065,0.0,0.03093109462456277,0.0,0.04352880320054154,0.0,0.0,0.053889503385524735,0.09625604685643854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29184050739343265,0.0,0.10918582361989214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056805767284797186,0.0,0.09675123450193557,0.0,0.0,0.14955332919309747,0.08872760187587793,0.0,0.0576284269968282,0.059133137584125424,0.22261381217711504,0.0,0.0531788058792602,0.0,0.04805844752780968,0.0481645881481337,0.0,0.0,0.05941153349842025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03632924272049032,0.16553582718893792,0.054677427292371364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374213487905593,0.043441674319360433,0.0,0.0,0.20177797591571764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051074362073205364,0.0,0.05222244596474336,0.0,0.0571100906840774,0.0,0.03687992314351948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03773157997545476,0.04752198418735869,0.0,0.059742524542253386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946470357979818,0.05595816872088928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295764455346534,0.15531248149662155,0.1298433073128006,0.0,0.0,0.17347934749373592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004217348301806,0.061176203614121585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04189917689888507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051295105636122336,0.0,0.2046048804432988,0.08748982617724962,0.09514004502358306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036157683628304564,0.034873469704617674,0.0,0.0,0.222150397079158,0.0,0.05158872455304786,0.0,0.06046839826794356,0.03695113732255632,0.0,0.0,0.05665855120708276,0.0,0.04700589717680103,0.0,0.0,0.1284055690988553,0.0,0.1309698344498581,0.0,0.0,0.05045270441547897,0.196441105950343,0.060763790661883865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039622192821483035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950541091790512,0.0,0.1401921741331395
parenting,SocialWorkLIFE781,2020/01/12,"Half Siblings/Different Childhoods ETC This will be a super long write up. The story itself is almost embarrassing. I got pregnant by a long time boyfriend at 18. Boyfriend splits, impregnates other woman when I’m nine months pregnant. Him and that girl split-he has nothing to do with his daughter until the girl is 9ish. He stops visitation with our child as a toddler. I attempted to keep a half sibling relationship between the kids but the other woman wasn’t really big on it and I respected that. I marry, move on, have more kids- bio dad shows up when our son is eleven.  He’s around for a brief time, I allow short visits, our son meets his half sister/ extended relatives and bam bio dad is gone again after six months. He marries a woman that wants nothing to do with our son so there’s no longer any contact from any of the family at all. He’s had at least one other child with this woman from what I understand and my son has never gotten to meet the baby. My son was very hurt, confused, etc. He’s a teenager now and doing much better but all of the sudden his half sister(the nine months younger one) finds him on social media and wants contact. My son has explained to me repeatedly that he doesn’t want a relationship with her. It brings up too many bad feelings because bio dad still communicates with her and not him. I think it’s very confusing for him. How would you navigate?",4.410077889892018,6.151990535315987,4.934338821030269,82.50099132589841,71.15613382899626,7.6516905647017195,26.93591786156843,8.269060116576782,1.805488440431936,1110,38,207,17,21,354,153,269,0.08199999999999999,0.8640000000000001,0.053,-0.8346,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,1,0,3,10,8,0,3,15,0,18,0,0,2,3,37,31,15,0,4,3,11,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,10,14,14,0,2,5,1,0,6,5,5,0,10,6,1,25,3,32,22,7,37,0,1,0,0,52,12,0,3,19,142,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103976451983805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191564077923034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538532647235193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176028954989754,0.08586014362414203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456935022292955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715705634779608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141673695634356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277974814437254,0.0,0.07121740393876706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873328517711072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264968160459125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078159293884574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519291779378153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24929357669250266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279861345352812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33727259336080834,0.14970002318776582,0.10354010135000603,0.0,0.1086313060239887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27029651531830395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088563407447776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902313715183163,0.0,0.0,0.30243787911427344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435776516429571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248206303981656,0.11775593438908233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025024741832699,0.0,0.0,0.16426017887188854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466286064482447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324300825478895,0.24922887970181598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005497253839092,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SynfulEden,2020/01/12,"My daughter(3yo) left out (cropped out) of friends birthday pictures? My daughter(3yo) was invited to her friend from preschool let’s say “ Abby”s 4th birthday party.  My daughter was extremely happy to go.  Whole way to the party she talks about how she missed Abby and that Abby was her best friend.   Abbys parents were very inviting and Abbys mom is always nice to my daughter.

There was another little girl there probably 4 “Maddie”.  I’m not sure if “Maddie” was a cousin or not but her and her parents seemed pretty close to Abbys extended family in attendance.  All 3 of these little girls were sitting on a bench eating party snacks.  It began when one woman said “ Oh we must take our traditional picture of Abby and Maddie together!”  Ok... my daughters sitting right next to them.  Then they go “ Ok now one with OP’s daughter!”  Kind of sounded out of obligation since she’s literally sitting right next to them.  

Anyways second thing was all 3 little girls standing in front of Abbys cake.  They wanted to take another picture.  My daughter is standing right there of course by her friend Abby.   Birthday girl Abby was in the middle and instantly wrapped her hands around my daughter and Maddies shoulders for the picture.  Okay.  (Yet my daughter was cropped out later.)

So the party is over and I’m looking at the pictures one family member posted of Abbys party.  No pictures at all of my daughter, just Abby and Maddie.  I realize they don’t know my daughter but she is there and she is Abbys friend too.  The pictures literally look cropped so that it excludes my daughter.  I understand maybe if you want one picture of just the two of them but why exclude my daughter from every picture?  Even crop her out so it’s just them two in it. 

It doesn’t help that my daughter is biracial(white and black) and everyone there was white.  Which wouldn’t really matter except they were saying things like oh Abby and Maddie are the perfect pair- a blonde and a brunette!   

TLDR:  my daughter posed for pictures but none were posted with her in it and she was even cropped out of some. Rant over.",3.5810450232439663,6.424248412532643,3.8892020633000084,83.81712220594794,77.92950391644908,5.720919569509013,27.357129210978798,7.0180271515732855,1.6440728395847932,1654,69,274,19,41,514,176,383,0.027000000000000003,0.8190000000000001,0.154,0.9940000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,2,1,8,2,21,16,0,0,12,3,26,4,2,1,6,54,42,27,0,6,13,17,1,1,5,2,0,4,0,5,13,25,2,0,4,0,0,4,7,1,0,7,16,10,41,15,46,23,7,46,0,1,5,0,57,26,0,5,9,196,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293447065834733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20902800777090386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872855062353584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459883541791604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10198857928130456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166385098706834,0.0,0.08397733314921862,0.09524015776772303,0.0,0.0,0.18792238193208588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38502883112665176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132909450158019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061019068863947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680754285817744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379227676027017,0.05477671644084218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082931128039524,0.10192061363020746,0.0,0.04869434177807111,0.2996903534938951,0.0,0.0,0.16739750674398796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013317479017464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673377204113472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21200302599050366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27015929411832296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22134627209885133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091502582605094,0.10140150124403856,0.10746247331781317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385195972161367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553561276863629,0.0948101902797878,0.1585251687985086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073696935025824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244909409920449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093938980542688,0.0,0.14988076265402556,0.08011198122146125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243430914921644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472867136775102,0.10376129405357806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223922577707103,0.117577380020598,0.07911440481239157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993780693502622,0.11127939942611216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dssk9,2020/01/12,"5 year old extremely violent.. Hello. I have a big problem with my 5 ½ year old son named Aidan. Every since he was 2 years old, he's had severe violent outbursts and displayed many psychopathic signs. It all started when Aidan was a toddler. He was lively, talkative, and loved daycare. Also at this time my husband and I were filing for divorce. He was an alcoholic and abusive and would put threats on me even when my son was an infant. So on, Aidan was that age, he started having constant temper tantrums. I figured it was just terrible twos. But then they progressed. He would scream bloody murder, hold his breath until turning blue, and I'd get calls from the childcare center that he's throwing everything and banging his head against the wall, biting himself.. all at 2. 

I didn't pay much attention to this until a year later. He was now very chatty. Except he would talk alot about knives and guns. He would try to hurt the cat. The final take, very terrifying..he picked up my razor and slit his arm all down, didn't cry either. He smiled at me and said Mommy, look at all the blood! A normal 3 year old wouldnt do this. I came to the devastating truth that something wasn't right with my little boy. We took him to a psychiatrist, who ruled out ASPD (aka sociopathy). I was shooken.

Later at age 4, we noticed other things. Never did he show a bit of remorse, guilt empathy. He could slap me in the face and laugh. He tripped his cousin and he fell and bruised himself.. aidan laughed when he cried. My sister and I are now strained in our relationship all because of my son's behavior. I took him back to the dr when he talked about suicide, killing me, and his angry raging fits would last 2 hours. Another psychiatrist talked about bipolar disorder, because my preschooler could be happy and talking and fly into aggressive rage the next minute.

Now my baby is almost 6. He has a baby sister named Kaya who's 1. At this point, my son is a threat to his sister, me, and even himself. I cant even leave kaya in the same room with him without worrying that I'll get out and find my daughter dead and my son next to her.. it's gotten that bad😭. I'd dont know what to do anymore. These violent rages can include death threats, trashing a room, destruction, injury, and restraining him only results in bruises and bite Mark's. Yesterday I took his legos  away from him for attacking his sister with them. He got so mad he had a meltdown that lasted approx. 3 hours. He did so much damage. He screamed, pushed and hit me and my daughter, and locked him in the bathroom. I heard slamming. He had slammed my toilet seat repeatedly at least 50 times. Which I now have to pay repairs to. And the door. 2 hours into that fit he was still at it. He is very strong, He punched and kicked my bedroom door. My only choice to prevent us from danger was to lock me and Kaya in my room Aidan was screaming, yelling, broke a vase, tore down a lam shade, and produced a crack thru my door. That much destruction from one fit. God only knows what sets him off, these fits can happen any time of the day.

Another example is 2 weeks ago. Note, my son takes medication, and his outbursts have landed him once in a psychiatric hospital for 10 days after trying to throw himself out the window in rage. You dont know how painful it is for me to only have an hour to visit my son when he was there.. doped on medicine.. padlocked to a chair.. saying mommy why'd you leave me here.. And the rage weeks ago started when I told him he cant bring his iPad to the grocery store since he'd lose it. ""But I want to!"" I still don't let him. That set him into a 2 hour outburst. During this, he had threw glass cups throwing down the knives, and hurting his sister, when I put him in a headlock, he bit me thru the skin. He smashed a hole in our tv. I eventually called the cops. They had 3 cops hold him down just so one can place him in handcuffs..it was too painful to watch on my own son like this. He had a fit when his hands were pinned together, and the officers managed to calm him down in 10 minutes. I'm depressed because I fear that my son will be responsible for murder in the future. I dont know what to do. I want him to live with me, but I'm a single mom, and he is currently expelled from public school. I dont know what to do anymore.",3.0133918639244617,4.786872030267755,3.788877085758632,89.147837682706,74.9138533178114,6.541721640150048,25.5510444961842,7.2793139503082624,1.1004757340576896,3370,117,694,38,72,1072,383,859,0.121,0.8270000000000001,0.053,-0.9946,1,0,2,1,4,1,128.0,5,2,3,4,33,46,22,3,45,0,67,14,7,4,7,97,99,54,6,12,8,19,2,1,0,7,6,7,8,2,33,48,1,4,8,2,3,15,13,38,0,2,37,12,98,8,91,48,16,132,0,6,3,1,118,55,0,2,61,416,131,6,0.0,0.0713575259066098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067727781542808,0.06436288496340273,0.060307271004338275,0.0,0.0,0.04816241625598264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040955495073786916,0.12630365291723622,0.0,0.0,0.11945528792705272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851535100319707,0.0565839638933512,0.0463097936020793,0.050285887202782514,0.11013895905826387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315015839694712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299420806953855,0.06888207886602991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508251278547521,0.0,0.09617053330411816,0.0,0.13231005783546612,0.07768110076410592,0.0,0.05187224870467082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690237921258314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823359692802117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933538606254797,0.0,0.050742692580311936,0.0,0.05412691478787701,0.0,0.0,0.06777057986941792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597423619351743,0.05504513668812026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293081413396362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048167939731102886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325732759495517,0.06411130529418703,0.0,0.0,0.0618088736613673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965505805948397,0.0,0.12894556962408674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666307387828396,0.0,0.16549216191336244,0.09818385678909293,0.0,0.12754049706319284,0.0,0.0615847892650362,0.0,0.029423201744866238,0.06036190523619974,0.10636067311223976,0.0,0.05057436277672453,0.06737707723414793,0.0,0.0,0.054355984363605864,0.0,0.0,0.06105933819376427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060670988313809064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053553246205492,0.0,0.0,0.13281830779829146,0.0,0.04644972029163038,0.0,0.12810128603175466,0.0,0.0590083323756004,0.0,0.06856728135358044,0.25278667951745915,0.06413833266717323,0.0816208939667173,0.18321722842521432,0.12816863761965827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292296720418125,0.0,0.05693268900812992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057627796299778176,0.0,0.12108678944509008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465979009471595,0.0,0.051432360772336816,0.057288367687262226,0.047893839950189136,0.0,0.06095155500929319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803782176303075,0.0,0.09963853050601597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463646339723672,0.0,0.0,0.1278840372051666,0.0,0.096192535232362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587706653532256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056436037974708,0.19362832720096468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040011233890363235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535415125130954,0.0,0.0,0.05754817241362877,0.20073867985672506,0.08177850180482132,0.06550819353255788,0.0,0.0,0.07244402006670786,0.0,0.0,0.14907736153875262,0.07104527644599568,0.0,0.09661873868220364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805536021728041,0.0,0.0,0.061162052850457435,0.0,0.21391280553916567,0.0,0.0,0.1939166625862268
parenting,slowdefensive,2020/01/12,"High chair recommendation for my 9 month old Having spent whole of my past week looking for a high chair for my 9 month old. As I read more and more, I have found out about all different features available in high chairs. 

My budget increased from $100 to $300 eventually and circled on to buy ‘Peg Perego Siesta’. After visiting buy buy baby (baby store), we realized that it is difficult to clean this high chair as it is leather seat. Or may be I’m feeling it? Looking to hear feedback on this high chair and also any recommendation on high chair will be great.",6.925443425076453,6.629378256880735,6.975733944954129,77.40684250764528,64.59633027522935,9.835474006116213,32.84556574923548,9.2995712137729,2.6989804281345564,446,16,87,7,6,143,70,109,0.023,0.882,0.096,0.7845,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,1,11,15,7,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,6,5,0,0,3,1,6,2,0,1,0,0,2,5,7,1,18,9,5,20,0,0,2,0,3,11,0,2,7,49,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332727621548764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786560311964323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499444832768087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533124808722401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14166947140976693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245184228002694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562636301851378,0.0,0.0,0.8190895813750567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21700369534112668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626455754945955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27116329587027216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233432805244331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924257188687344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036425482304157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425567835809394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SwarleyMadeMeDoIt,2020/01/12,"Parents, my husband and I need help. He's working his 9 to 5, plus his dream job as a second job and it's causing issues with our 5 year old. My husband is the bread winner of our family, I'm a shm with our 5 year old. About 5 months ago he got offered a role in his dream job, it doesn't pay enough to cover expenses, yet, so he's kept his 9 to 5 on top of the extra work to put in the grunt work to chase his dream. I 100% support him on this venture because this side job is what he loves. It's obviously been hard on the family since he's gone every other weekend to work this dream job so everything as been falling on me at home. I'm more than happy to take on the burden for my husband but our 5 year old has been struggling, she doesn't understand that in the long run the sacrifice will be great for our family. When he's home she fights non stop for all of his attention. Since I never see my husband as well, I as his wife and partner need attention too. How do we get her to see that her father and I need a relationship as well. That if we don't have that connection that ruins the family dynamic. He takes her on a ""date"" once a week and I'm lucky to get that. We try to give her what she needs but it's seriously affecting us as a couple. Any advice?",2.319945054945056,3.1603250512820544,4.299800366300366,88.54728296703298,75.04395604395604,7.804322344322344,23.540109890109893,8.238735603445708,1.0931041758241755,981,27,228,16,20,337,136,273,0.07400000000000001,0.789,0.13699999999999998,0.9207,6,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,9,0,0,5,9,13,1,1,15,0,13,2,0,3,3,30,33,19,0,5,3,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,16,11,1,2,3,5,2,4,4,5,2,1,6,3,34,8,37,25,4,32,1,1,2,1,46,12,0,2,16,137,50,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175998767201908,0.08323849361085045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385660790998066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057241812619005725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964632626022466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390082230777528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702590993831388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911651949414603,0.0,0.08439309960139146,0.0,0.35408994870312965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811988150475097,0.09007939416230476,0.0,0.0,0.07510204029273898,0.10352733169251388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996046873300382,0.08411778448464957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294055870413376,0.0,0.18838280683065076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800933427523492,0.4659164317894832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310035134940978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475025817205625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495171323883447,0.0,0.0,0.27850869425642305,0.072423042887091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29560318797996704,0.10000260902105323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426710395975623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09439748711061732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081565016320893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965553825829206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535347732425786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850631092096709,0.0,0.09816680155951844,0.0,0.0,0.10655892332356734,0.0,0.0,0.14120529713945815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375332193894616,0.0,0.0,0.09775533630177097,0.11295259345511785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753225531967166,0.0,0.16885842405982504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734472168284811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140950709063025
parenting,ggmomster,2020/01/13,"A larger age gap between 2nd and 3rd kid? I have a girl and boy who are 2 years and 4 months apart in age. They are super close and have a tight bond, and love a lot of the same things. We are talking about having a third. Ideally I would have like a similar age gap between kids 2 and 3, to keep them close together. But it’s already too late for that, and I’m still not quite ready yet for a few reasons. At this point we’re looking at putting 3.5-4 years between the second and the third. But I am really worried that the gap is too big and  the third child would feel kinda out there on their own. Does anyone have experiences with this? Am I likely worrying for nothing?",2.596136363636365,3.923922392857144,3.6179220779220778,91.7925324675325,75.07142857142857,6.805194805194804,23.441558441558442,7.348242739294969,0.7157857142857141,525,15,118,6,11,169,91,140,0.053,0.845,0.102,0.8281,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,3,3,6,5,0,0,12,0,13,1,0,1,0,27,18,11,0,3,3,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,5,7,14,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,3,8,5,15,16,4,20,0,0,1,1,12,10,0,2,11,80,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227936888144104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116811695760528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766777209712917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748986635339336,0.0,0.0,0.10208304921619878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945156776074672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22774383505524695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19726921595996266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953907632400875,0.0,0.0,0.17164201078688351,0.1822161046768377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114888048493153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372155505647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085392236563395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20295799403535134,0.0,0.21473780922288915,0.0,0.0,0.12933767632795384,0.20757938971379364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123182455661916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227375858763407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412858341495434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4100638100820115,0.0,0.2868376582427502,0.0,0.0,0.2600246453235301
parenting,KeechiConsuela,2020/01/13,"I'm so lost I live in a house with my SO and my 9 year old daughter. I deal with major depression and anxiety disorder. My daughter is newly diagnosed with dyslexia, and struggles with processing time, though her IQ is high.
Every single thing she does takes constant urging and supervision. Her struggles in academically, are not her fault; but, her attitude doesn't help.
At home, she does NOTHING helpful of her own accord. Her room is a wreck unless I clean it, and she wouldn't care for herself properly if I wasn't lording over her every move.
I realized when she got her diagnosis that I would need to switch up the way I give her instructions, and communicate with her. But now, everything is compounded by the fact that she has meltdowns and is defiant on a daily basis.
I am not suicidal, but I wouldn't be mad if I no longer existed, as I am CLEARLY in over my head. All of this is also obviously taking a toll on my relationship. Everyone deserves better than I am capable of.
I've went to parenting workshops, read every book, now I spend every waking moment learning about dyslexia. But, nothing I do matters.  My kid talks to me however she wishes, and I feel my SO is tired of it all.
I couldn't feel more helpless.
Can ANYONE relate?
How do you not fall apart?",4.0348367346938785,5.927296024489799,5.514846938775513,77.34247448979593,72.42857142857143,8.818367346938777,29.80102040816327,9.3871,2.9159346938775506,1006,43,182,24,20,339,147,245,0.138,0.7440000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.1566,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,2,10,9,1,2,6,0,22,4,2,1,5,40,34,23,1,8,10,3,2,0,0,3,2,0,3,1,6,13,0,0,4,2,1,3,9,7,0,0,4,2,42,2,27,25,6,24,1,3,0,0,28,12,0,2,8,135,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241166768395693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796758892069632,0.0,0.0,0.08954439363011038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326102112122208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056842285447695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383902467849093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202698537071153,0.11030018652152708,0.12998091023053213,0.0,0.0,0.14677090999559414,0.0,0.22413700392525976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315932774056847,0.12236936531006197,0.11509446661794807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295046635030542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122849378365615,0.0,0.0,0.102423412698897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142924133382392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167541106805098,0.13530523769321418,0.1284572955287461,0.0,0.0,0.14776712247138968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308168024127753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979552772329232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361103470297787,0.0,0.09495684411790366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24575916367607425,0.0,0.13438022544423914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219843533094292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809732151552133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749137710406914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677578076512891,0.0,0.14007977112592074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19257437438198854,0.1029319199545063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507914484659929,0.0,0.12582091907577336,0.0,0.0746743703619327,0.14718919571812453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165018339623784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187153743307552,0.0,0.0,0.14726574574500664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909720435859514,0.0,0.0,0.0824681581655313
parenting,junkdrawer0,2020/01/13,"Alternatives to CIO sleep training for a 12mo old? Our daughter has never been a great sleeper and still rarely sleeps through the night even after she moved out of dream feedings. She wakes up between 12am and 2am like clockwork and because we're all exhausted and just want to sleep she ends up in our bed where she immediately falls knocks back out with no problems. It really hasn't been a big issue for us in the past, but we only have a queen sized bed and it's getting harder to sleep more comfortably when we have a toddler starfished out between us taking up more space than I knew was humanly possible for such a tiny body, haha.

We're also teething in a big way (4 top teeth are coming in at once for our poor girl!) so I'm sure that's contributing greatly to how restless her sleep gets sometimes, but if anyone has any tips or tricks that worked for them in getting their little one to sleep through the night we'd appreciate it! Crying it out isn't on the table as an option for us right now and we'd prefer to keep it that way, but as first time parents we really have no idea what else to try.",9.602123015873019,6.214833339285715,8.866666666666667,75.8227777777778,61.589285714285715,11.741269841269839,37.388888888888886,9.150863307647796,3.1146365079365075,884,28,182,10,9,280,143,224,0.102,0.805,0.09300000000000001,-0.2891,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,11,0,2,4,11,10,1,1,12,1,13,12,10,1,3,32,22,17,0,4,6,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,9,15,1,1,3,1,1,3,5,4,0,2,4,0,19,6,37,16,3,39,0,0,0,0,22,21,0,3,14,118,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352965230238928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103045339758443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303476483395947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031658829609882,0.0,0.06367253189144194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602182720183955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997553050505723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147348283811723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725564303159132,0.0,0.0925128328742777,0.0,0.0,0.06898908651229899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884620692324635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371445098739112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23031581381609906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791278327609135,0.0,0.10902000088353042,0.0,0.09284109849271033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510296202397536,0.10468762468002686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110151823446576,0.0,0.0,0.08055926772613209,0.0,0.0,0.1960409044536148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960404963146957,0.11123720617481404,0.07077889175465933,0.07943990654883591,0.0,0.0,0.11598078744105968,0.0,0.09971056736805453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775312611366008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994577020988743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382833147260415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920082392815337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6271602914801386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330498849294267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341492855486092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844409694766099,0.0,0.07853436477627787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090638238097167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091556396652456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769260937032669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061608072233335975,0.16581713134024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604177714472211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dopequeen1010,2020/01/13,"Im pregnant with my second!!! Yayyy! So here my question..

What do I do? How do I prepare? What ideas (inexpensive) do you guys have for things to do before second baby comes?

I have to deep clean my house, which is fine.. I like that kind of work and now is a better time than ever! I want to spend time with my husband (our 5 year anni comes before 2nd baby). I want to have fun and experience thing with my firstborn.

Also, I want to set up cool, fun activities to keep my firstborn (who will be 19m old) occupied SOMETIMES. The reason I had two was so they could play together and form a bond. Im talking about the times Im bf'ing newbie or putting newbie down for naps.

Thanks in advance!",0.8093571428571416,3.11922743571429,2.5725000000000016,92.20375000000004,85.35714285714286,4.928571428571429,19.464285714285715,6.322622252153567,0.02935714285714308,531,15,113,5,16,175,91,140,0.0,0.802,0.198,0.9755,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,1,3,8,9,0,0,4,2,15,0,0,2,1,19,22,8,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,8,0,1,3,2,2,4,0,0,0,3,2,1,17,9,17,17,1,16,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,8,75,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245229513644255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26059255020173044,0.0,0.0,0.13542472551653767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638035694576477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225614330678565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385083925457252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497835382167886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161570449511053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668322078465676,0.0,0.17285706979616292,0.4961968916732618,0.0,0.0,0.13610263277841642,0.0,0.15945389461904394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480809444384763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067668263522875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393076625814658,0.17153264605491028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743580177717525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144242303571492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123074353989886,0.0,0.14097495599572804,0.0,0.0,0.2034560473492602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678615116464852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495787837629615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27094748880049885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147526514196633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986061009592016
parenting,klmathis95,2020/01/13,"Best kid ever at home......Holy Terror at daycare. HELP! So I have a wonderful sweet little boy who is 1.5 years old. He is a handful because he has tons of energy, but otherwise I have no problems with him.


At daycare he is a different kid. He is still funny, energetic, and by all accounts happy.

But, he is that kid. The biter, everyday he bites someone. My husband, myself, and the daycare teachers have all tried to come up with a solution to no avail. To make matters worse he recently started laughing about biting other kids, he has also begun tackling and sitting/jumping on other children. 

I'm not sure what to do, at this point we have tried everything we can think of at daycare and the situation has only gotten worse.

I'm starting to worry that he will get kicked out (which i would understand because other children are being harmed) But if he gets kicked out I'm not sure what to do. The cheaper daycares in my area, will not be able to handle his very type A personality. And we can't afford a more expensive daycare.

Anyone else go through something similar?",4.0795588235294105,6.088854504901963,5.286078431372548,78.53735294117647,72.57843137254902,7.545098039215688,31.117647058823533,8.313332769828598,2.598605882352941,845,39,146,14,17,280,127,204,0.124,0.735,0.141,0.4667,2,0,1,1,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,1,5,9,0,1,10,0,22,1,1,1,5,32,36,11,0,3,7,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,8,10,13,0,0,3,0,2,2,6,3,0,0,1,2,11,6,24,30,5,24,0,0,0,0,26,13,0,2,9,100,21,1,0.1568027025629994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539506458837454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964009547647947,0.16066289886188848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911709441846753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455476238189226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507164399787872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382545042433108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098853750805786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418370215923723,0.0,0.0,0.14092415836699604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384588059256955,0.0,0.08911458938625115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691939261271932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510154626886477,0.0,0.15728589558158695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715750151614108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046670215537421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453805928619206,0.0,0.0,0.11925552109955068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369140717158261,0.0,0.0,0.14822923703454124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003900968524908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548237519619746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625280745650956,0.0,0.0,0.13285842103762674,0.12071438111992852,0.0,0.0,0.22197151986634386,0.0,0.1252228408171195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955693829637324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047284038674087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129174844811127,0.0,0.0,0.163237143312397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937865132195112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700458421741022,0.0,0.1592407558370373,0.3195906998826962,0.11138814101143484,0.0,0.0,0.10097579947202684
parenting,SouthernWallaby,2020/01/13,"My son makes me laugh and has no idea why He's 11 and started middle school. 

I asked him what he hates most about school and he says ""school.""

I asked him what he likes most about school and he says ""nothing except when it's time to leave.""

So where does he and his friends hangout EVERYDAY including the weekend - school.",1.91,4.431124444444446,1.593015873015876,99.67142857142859,82.33333333333334,4.8698412698412685,20.11111111111111,6.1826913282559595,-0.16956507936507936,252,7,55,2,7,73,42,63,0.07400000000000001,0.787,0.138,0.6597,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,7,3,4,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,2,6,27,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970258807956008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901972324742068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273507739747715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684166201270466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793339475457887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821012513721764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776111205680705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604048700635832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243074691565928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526641810822345,0.0,0.8038755478851001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244214136772243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263272123377694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334671591773318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Myrren,2020/01/13,"Nothing like a dose of heart stopping terror first thing in the morning My daughter is nearly 11 months old and is having a grand old time pulling herself up on the furniture. Seriously, this kid never wants to sit down any more. She also likes to stick her tongue out and blow raspberries. I'm sure you can see where this is going.

We had just gotten downstairs and I'd put her on the floor, and the first thing she did was grab my trousers and pull herself to her feet. The second thing she did was lose her balance and fall down onto her backside. She cried a little, so I pick her up, and am confronted with blood and dribble coming from her mouth. Major freak out time. I'm convinced that some how she's knocked out one of her only four teeth or something equally horrible. But of course she doesn't want to open her mouth. So I use my favourite trick; she loves looking at herself in the mirror, so I stand in front of our mirror and hey presto, she stars to laugh at herself and opens her mouth.

Teeth are fine. Seriously guys, there was a *tiny* little nick on top of her tongue where I'm guessing she bit it slightly when she bumped down. It literally stopped bleeding a disappeared before my eyes. And she's fine, barely even cried. Me, on the other hand... I needed two cups of tea before I finally calmed down. If I disny dye my hair I'm pretty sure I'd have some more grey hairs.",3.871982683982683,5.35230132727273,4.020415584415584,89.56224242424244,72.0909090909091,6.547186147186147,25.095238095238088,6.868970318607317,0.8406329004329001,1095,33,224,9,21,338,163,275,0.11199999999999999,0.775,0.113,0.5042,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,0,4,11,18,2,1,12,0,15,16,12,3,3,37,30,20,0,4,4,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,9,19,1,2,0,0,0,8,2,7,0,6,7,8,41,11,33,23,7,50,0,1,4,1,34,28,0,5,14,147,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969705239606647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328221958668803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334479284496185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497571889893806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816223595000908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013557972208425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060135208631716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502661163436076,0.0,0.2333582565570512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795847319228419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111132320160767,0.13582265535762056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255044890322992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403141928393988,0.27496639895425884,0.0,0.0,0.11519061863360895,0.15346129505556189,0.0,0.0,0.1238038231529459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094900340243511,0.0,0.0,0.10171190588080392,0.1057961330995446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131621017723213,0.0,0.28787959350575376,0.0,0.09295185102936544,0.10432610876289992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955406966175699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378965687231228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093089755241449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560233637695507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22936523482719626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585675137700081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733945737174621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997314570670612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339979104638461,0.0,0.0,0.11847327161926167,0.0,0.0,0.16181616327900342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HumanRaisedByHumans,2020/01/13,"Parents with a lot of kids: How would you describe your feelings as you added each additional child to the chaos? Start with the difference between having your first child and your second. And on from there.

And if you like, at what point did adding more kids to the family stop making a big difference to the difficulty of your life?",6.603387096774192,7.611633048387097,5.8711290322580645,80.57669354838713,65.29032258064517,9.425806451612903,28.403225806451612,9.516144504307137,2.313535483870968,267,8,50,5,4,81,44,62,0.129,0.8340000000000001,0.037000000000000005,-0.7319,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,6,0,3,1,0,2,0,14,6,6,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,7,1,12,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,4,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6039306841267124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724631972301764,0.0,0.14613765914430835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458410433481709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041440202060113,0.14120102045819086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457152471424903,0.0,0.0,0.192923705592537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209235236962294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27321818526358743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20457049179829,0.0,0.0,0.24163442712356156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053121661817437,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pootpootpoot3,2020/01/13,"Son (3.5) indicated that his friend touched him inappropriately. How do I get him to open up and what to do from there? I really don't know how to write this out so please bare with me on the clarity.

Yesterday DH was helping a friend at friend's shop with some mechanic work. I was working so DS3 tagged along with DH. Friend has a 4yo son, whom DS has met a few times and they play well together from what I've been told by DH. Friend's son was also at the shop. 

This shop is in a very rural area (like literally middle of nowhere, up an empty dirt road in the middle of an open field)so they had the garage door open so the kids could play in the grass just outside the door.

Fast forward to today. I'm driving DS to his grandmother's house before I head off to work. I ask DS if he had fun playing with 4yo yesterday. Convo goes roughly like this:

Me: What games did you and 4yo play? Did you have fun?
DS: We played tag but I didn't like it because he's too fast, and I don't like it when he swats me on my butt.
Me: That's not nice of him, no one is allowed to touch your butt. Did you tell Daddy when he did that?
DS: No because it's a secret and he said I'm not supposed to tell anyone the secrets.

*Cue roughly 10 minutes of me asking him what type of secrets, body secrets aren't allowed, trying to get more details whilst also trying not to pry so he doesn't get nervous and shut down*

DS: 4yo wanted us to put our butts together 
Me: That sounds silly, how do you put butts together?
DS (while laughing kind of nervously): I don't know 

Rest of convo is basically me trying to get him to explain what ""putting our butts together"" means, reminding him that his penis and butt are private areas that others can't touch, etc. He seemed very nervous and ignored many of my questions which isn't like him. I assured him he wouldn't get in trouble for telling me any secrets, but it was obvious he wasn't willing to talk about it.

I called DH after dropping off DS to see if he noticed anything 'off' yesterday. He just said the boys played outside, they stayed close to the open garage door, but admits he and his friend didn't have eyes on them every single minute while they were working. 

Maybe this means nothing, maybe I'm blowing it way out of proportion, but I can't go to that conclusion until I can get DS to open up to me.

It definitely seems to me that something happened seeing as he was so closed off about these ""secrets"" but I feel like I need to know exactly what happened so I can  react appropriately. It's frustrating that he won't tell me and I feel like I'm at a loss.

I know Pre-K kids are curious about their bodies and other people's. But the fact that DS reacted nervously to questions and flat out said he didn't like it when 4yo swatted his butt makes me worry about what the details of the secrets are.

We've always taught about bodily autonomy, saying no to any kind of unwanted touching, no one but him are allowed to touch his private parts, etc. 

I guess I just want to hear from anyone who has had a similar situation, or has any advice. I feel like he thinks if he tells he'll be in trouble. I want him to feel safe telling me anything. And if something bad did happen, I want to be able to explain it to him and assure him that it was wrong and that we will protect him.

Sorry for the long post. I'm just confused and sad and want my boy to be okay :(",3.5040259740259714,4.540265695526699,4.510060894660897,87.41385324675328,72.41991341991344,7.448761904761906,26.70271284271284,7.770157013224466,1.3540658816738822,2649,89,567,33,50,863,278,693,0.08,0.78,0.141,0.9847,3,0,2,0,0,0,77.0,5,5,6,6,26,46,1,5,23,1,54,11,11,9,5,108,105,47,0,13,19,3,11,9,6,5,0,6,3,4,40,34,0,3,26,10,3,6,21,13,1,2,26,20,73,33,82,70,8,61,0,2,3,7,100,36,7,12,26,341,113,6,0.0661704679867331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466101548841853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583299868451768,0.05505913017063231,0.0,0.0,0.13499456193903409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253585951267508,0.0,0.10890531412762897,0.0,0.12372091042202199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05524957682662785,0.08067380622526706,0.0,0.05630619457145455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470009457381208,0.0,0.0,0.06756744611629527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283173434742181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759512635695138,0.0,0.0,0.05575147318770532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383110725678282,0.14181658665362035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30673883654164275,0.0,0.2074280306263108,0.0,0.037606201855893584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289423061191083,0.0,0.17554297892802495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679099903348645,0.0,0.07457892654417693,0.0,0.044352669877905135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635183583959634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781271964445405,0.1454622347930831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909479343298859,0.0,0.0,0.05855878190506486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04416930120324907,0.06708646867291948,0.13295425801613886,0.14415807634991806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049064563569207166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634923486606609,0.07533551637780446,0.0,0.0,0.08967764322596389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716561685645997,0.0,0.04587427086307978,0.0,0.0,0.07263530323083145,0.0,0.0,0.06337301712450358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995587901976809,0.148252135936311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042390496183970665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882980382024708,0.05262141203116275,0.0,0.0,0.10545859173211136,0.12047821773229606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437837845101555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188251810551874,0.0,0.07407242145514177,0.0,0.0705289146129421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053185315674957295,0.3470154336110479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04239936403950592,0.0,0.0,0.03858453201187172,0.0,0.06272186654168352,0.06322871783443196,0.0,0.1347762126581906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959492563320772,0.0,0.0,0.10919513204214394,0.1951452821814216,0.05252303750610772,0.0,0.0,0.05949519747380999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926915551232473,0.06719932223147966,0.0,0.0,0.07234701912940354,0.0,0.0
parenting,licious_lips,2020/01/13,"My 5 yrs old Please help me! My 5 year old has complete meltdowns at school. Sometimes he refuses to do what he's asked to do and has tantrums crying, stomping his feet yelling no. Other times he just talks non stop and just won't pay attention.  He's a very strong willed child, but getting him to do anything can be such a challenge.  I've made an appointment with his doctor for behavioral health, but is there anything else I could be doing.  I didn't have this issue with his brother, he was more shy and reserved.  Thank you for taking your time to try to help.",4.283839285714283,5.447726848214288,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142859,70.69642857142857,7.028571428571429,28.285714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.3236571428571429,445,16,92,4,8,136,82,112,0.087,0.778,0.135,0.6754,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,2,0,2,4,4,1,0,3,0,16,3,1,1,0,14,21,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,3,5,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,1,11,3,10,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,0,6,54,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31826153141705554,0.0,0.1807790865608256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027495208197296,0.0,0.0,0.15439383115064886,0.0,0.2124128465044791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979270305304148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153961069558245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103021328629763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055480880804744,0.0,0.0,0.2592297492707213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201832774235374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829756605966402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058280907222599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21226717012261845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570535317123644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19125235966709525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166976997993332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539358454549026,0.1554271263179539,0.0,0.17803329111942076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255164928447381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312886158120738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955424317629185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452686049252965
parenting,funkoid,2020/01/13,"Best way to capture video hands free? So I have a killer idea.  So much I assume it's already a thing.

My daughter does hilarious stuff all the time, but it's usually too fast for me to get my phone camera out to capture.  What would be ideal is something like a camera strapped to frame of eye glasses that is always recording.

So, this already exists, and you can find them on amazon.  I want more.  

I don't want to end up with hours of footage.  What I really want is a 'recent capture save' ability.  When my daughter does something I want to preserve, I want to hit a button (or voice command or whatever), and it auto clips the last x minutes in a file.  That way, I will have a concentrated file list of awesome memories.

I would be okay with the battery lasting only an hour or two.  I would even use a belt clip battery for longer use.

Anyone out there has something like this they use?",3.347816558441558,4.930759187500001,4.263993506493507,86.88295454545454,73.60227272727273,6.619480519480518,27.912337662337666,7.1686216300943375,1.4222837662337655,691,27,138,7,14,223,110,176,0.015,0.7509999999999999,0.23399999999999999,0.988,0,1,3,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,2,2,7,7,0,0,12,1,14,2,2,3,1,27,24,10,0,9,4,2,1,2,0,4,0,1,0,0,11,6,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,17,8,19,17,4,17,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,4,12,91,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29524057324459624,0.0,0.11130868710331544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935362127989682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403850407494241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341288565968529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184819317490324,0.0,0.0,0.08835487991905383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226481857588235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698901395823238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634761587780795,0.0,0.0,0.15101185323599228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808341589584307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070809301974334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833751767827824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173932949020804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569751213419305,0.0,0.13208331629879502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308951738629732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313647699017754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888719067103022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800329550117129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067541505514968,0.0,0.0,0.34660713487690337,0.14733051787226736,0.0,0.39450977679276705,0.2123633384459588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28508251882621194,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mergenwilder,2020/01/13,"My 10yo son is looking for a snail mail penpal. I don’t know where to begin. As title states, my 10yo son has shown an interest in snail mail pen pals. I’ve had look at a few websites and a few look pretty dodgy. Or at least would take a while to weed out any “undesirables”.
Our social circle isn’t massive and I don’t really have any avenues to ask friends of friends.
So, if anyone has any advice or even any kids interested?
My son is interested in video games (Roblox, Minecraft etc.), maths, puzzles (jigsaws & crosswords), cartoons & anime (Dragon Ball Z, My Hero Academia, The Simpsons etc), YouTube. He also likes riding his scooter, cooking, baking, and writing stories. He’s looking for an English speaking boy his own age.
We’re from Australia, so hopefully the place won’t have completely burnt down by the time I manage to get my son a penpal. I’m half joking.
Thanks in advance.",4.530285067873301,6.18237782941177,4.850000000000001,83.58192307692309,70.70588235294117,6.877828054298643,30.135746606334838,7.321109707123232,1.8394027149321264,701,29,129,7,13,221,117,170,0.011000000000000001,0.805,0.184,0.9828,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,0,2,5,10,0,0,10,0,12,2,0,0,0,12,24,11,0,3,3,4,0,1,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,4,2,0,1,5,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,5,11,10,17,21,6,16,0,0,4,0,21,9,0,5,5,69,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924997632462852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214138943470397,0.0,0.3309746260129741,0.0,0.4154576503563294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679522071471023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278574819672926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601387780938526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406777476043676,0.10087942006436636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360039442925447,0.0,0.07979725348211354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169940484988234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393865660400797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461815710479755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5130326440843038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957460690561456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538546932155933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784536330055116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556931613745159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483702095898797,0.0,0.0,0.14061702136026388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906047091543401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849790902334064,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellojolie728,2020/01/13,"Should I have another? Will I regret it if I don’t? I am 31 and have three littles, a 6 y/o boy, 3.5 y girl, and almost 18mo boy. I always thought I would have four but after my third was born I began to question this. I had a difficult pregnancy with him and it made me feel like a bad mom to my other kids, and that made me depressed for the duration of my pregnancy. 

Now that my youngest is weaning, I am unsure whether I want another. At times I am satisfied with my three. Other times I become very sad at the thought of not having a baby in the house and getting rid of the baby stuff. It is a stage in my life that would be over. Part of me feels like I am throwing in the towel early if I don’t have one. I can see myself being happy either way but am very afraid I will regret not having another once that window closes. My husband is mostly on team “three is enough” but even he occasionally wavers. 

I should add that accidental pregnancies do not happen to my husband and I. Letting “nature decide” isn’t an option. We conceived with a sperm donor and would also have to sell back our remaining vials if we opt not to have any more. This would also come with its own emotions as those vials have always felt like our family planning safety net, and getting rid of them would be a truly final end to making any more babies. 

Has anyone else struggled with this choice? How did you ultimately decide? Has anyone decided not to have more and regretted it?",4.300972696245733,5.157161170648465,5.548073378839593,81.37890187713309,70.39931740614334,8.044300341296928,25.912798634812287,8.238735603445708,1.6031489419795224,1145,33,223,16,20,383,159,293,0.11199999999999999,0.7979999999999999,0.09,-0.7886,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,4,1,1,2,6,13,0,2,13,0,42,1,0,4,0,59,57,20,0,14,13,3,3,3,0,9,1,0,1,4,17,19,0,0,9,1,1,2,8,9,0,6,9,4,37,4,27,35,8,23,0,5,1,0,17,9,0,7,13,177,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140476297603518,0.0,0.0,0.18216076854584,0.18953660185412588,0.0,0.0,0.15490261990104498,0.35828098350484266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927360555214712,0.11669708544572767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757687268966814,0.09509609953103663,0.0,0.12578613736695224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810894296427043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809608222334612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951431890142173,0.12811456734898144,0.10087560687864396,0.1176821643025182,0.0,0.0752254120181245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736841207581696,0.0,0.11517569026796687,0.16273070931546407,0.10935537291810422,0.12476447927114813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900903608043388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071541753461673,0.12124147367103287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141750937140675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164635561848402,0.08044616486598781,0.16692745483647808,0.11415094905409215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553707832011612,0.07602462325858281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339038821045365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212925853823803,0.0771770081849291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333528199165784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275864964443809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075816786099282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906594514315473,0.13038051307572315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083702388985426,0.13282413033038876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18794770460540006,0.06717718485182235,0.09040315400109902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045324558853595,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wassilif,2020/01/13,"I think my dad is right My dad said:

Smoke never
Drink better 

And give me an beer

He seid 

My dad always gave me beer and wine 
To drink 
I could drink all the alcohol we had
But I never was drunk 

But all of my friends 
Who don't get alcohol 
There stole from their parents 
And drunk until they fall over 

So my dad said 
I better give you a beer than you stole it from me 





My question is 
Was he right 

Info: im 15 and living in Germany 
And my family came from Russia",-0.3544333333333292,1.7573874899999993,1.5839999999999996,98.54866666666668,89.1,4.533333333333334,14.333333333333336,5.985473137389443,-0.9024666666666668,359,6,85,3,12,118,61,100,0.048,0.88,0.07200000000000001,0.3313,1,0,10,0,0,0,2.0,1,2,2,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,7,11,0,0,4,17,15,9,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,7,11,0,3,9,0,2,3,0,0,0,7,2,19,3,9,7,2,9,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,1,3,53,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34594650340486216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467592102680873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862943282340105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851184447722524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922765871223002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4756674133665248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525820305317647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504839553983055,0.0,0.08456230294231293,0.31053119515412364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483064882423413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292050062659906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496643574656487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17972028291810807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181314097131014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27644574013679585,0.30792141306980786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370983677503014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Liapocalypse1,2020/01/13,"Bad word So my toddler picked up the f-word and whenever he would get frustrated (or happy, or any big emotion really) he would say f\*\*\*. So I start putting him in time-out for saying a ""bad word"" (we explained what the bad word was so there wouldn't be any confusion). After about five time outs he realized he landed in the big house every time he dropped the f-bomb. So now he says ""bad word""! Just like that, really enthusiastically. Today we got home from the playground and he was mad at me for making him leave and was letting me know it. So he starts yelling ""I say bad word! I say bad word!""

I'm loving the alternative right now, hopefully his preschool teachers will be just as down when he starts school this fall XD",2.385394605394609,4.657471860139861,3.246718281718284,89.97798951048952,78.65034965034965,6.603196803196802,22.1023976023976,7.7094869923839395,0.8484929070929068,568,17,120,9,14,180,88,143,0.174,0.7020000000000001,0.124,-0.8151,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,2,0,0,0,12,13,2,1,7,0,10,1,0,2,0,26,21,12,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,6,1,0,4,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,9,0,1,4,6,11,4,12,10,0,23,0,0,0,1,21,10,0,4,11,61,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637780114580437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6032686892665389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545509490173732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145814709183408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291392388083343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631002348986492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281881964086172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079001103183595,0.11960317420739935,0.0,0.13894728423165054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617909792381116,0.0,0.0,0.1275062659586156,0.0,0.12313652055381795,0.0,0.05883060946792579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108682791086729,0.0,0.08038057475781682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105429047693599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542869076355665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283711327026997,0.0,0.4788098553075618,0.0,0.12187039195488568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25569942779295085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106517496578024,0.0,0.11414307098281068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710843140999606,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,incaseofemergency0,2020/01/13,"Question from a non-parent So this stems from a situation I observed today. I was standing in Starbucks waiting for my drink alongside a maybe 5 or 6 year old and a woman I assumed was his mother. While waiting for her drinks the kid began hitting her with this toy on a string he had. She patiently ignored him for a minute or two, but it continued. Then he really began whacking her hard and he ignored her polite request to stop. I felt bad as she just looked so tired and frustrated and getting basically beat on by her kid. I almost considered saying something to him like ""You know hitting isn't nice"" but bit my tongue. It evolved into a full blown tantrum, her dragging him out without the drinks she paid for. My question is would it be inappropriate for me to have said something like that? Maybe a stranger bringing up his behavior would have scared him enough to stop? I just felt really bad for her and wanted to know a parents viewpoint.",5.230267743306413,6.665563773480668,5.421215469613261,80.99368465788358,68.72375690607736,7.779175520611986,32.70760730981725,8.139509932561175,2.4832699532511677,757,34,137,10,13,239,110,181,0.215,0.752,0.033,-0.9889,2,0,5,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,1,4,10,2,1,11,0,10,4,0,0,0,32,26,14,0,3,7,2,3,2,0,2,1,2,0,3,6,8,3,6,7,4,1,1,2,7,0,1,9,6,27,3,23,12,3,19,0,0,1,0,30,7,0,6,12,95,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993691661936722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23336662022463184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152568055930825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.410697989456738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439650563709674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683589958699963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301229141689954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251862945602886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360312265605972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654712145571887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173526884752424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807902577703211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664147417471726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517304062657822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31309832483518063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905163066028454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329318571177822,0.11113280664298024,0.1399116085056868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708202482137906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151688779885894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336703046568531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061917273425785,0.13246427257664195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651298369196446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824266855443352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347115856303377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854520315068327,0.0,0.0,0.08999279652857352
parenting,conzojay1,2020/01/13,"For dads fighting to see there child. I am not sure how many people will see this but i think it's a good think to help support dads who are going through an extremely difficult time trying to see there child. There is no more isolating a feeling than having your child taken from there mother, you feel powerless, you feel like your whole world has collapsed, that there is nothing left to live for, sadly for far to many fathers there life ends prematurely due to this as they sadly take there life's, never seeing there child grow up. If you are a father going through this now or have been going through it for years, i want you to hold on, i want you to believe that you will see your little one again, i want you to keep on fighting, never give anybody the satisfaction of seeing you beaten and defeated, you will see your child again, i know how you feel, i now see my son every weekend and we have a wonderful relationship, but that was only after many years of fighting through lies abuse and manipulation and complete and utter neglect from our broken court system who does not care about dads and views them as lower than filth. Keep on fighting, never give up, we see your struggle and you are not alone, never alone.",8.871620046620047,7.357975260683763,7.834568764568765,76.78164335664336,61.35042735042735,10.218492618492618,33.665889665889665,8.575989854853784,2.558808547008548,977,29,183,10,11,300,123,234,0.243,0.6409999999999999,0.115,-0.9909,2,2,0,0,9,0,21.0,3,16,2,2,15,16,5,1,6,0,15,2,0,3,5,39,46,15,0,4,7,7,4,1,0,3,2,0,0,5,10,9,0,4,8,1,0,4,8,11,0,1,3,14,29,5,32,40,2,29,0,4,10,0,43,9,0,3,16,128,39,1,0.0,0.10831798602107644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936750940860692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299925762601896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093208985156012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585233873214756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000243173292723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097116087368036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702546011445842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848991968225588,0.06531060803888014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539716930284244,0.15586861667430454,0.07667892505743057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127703196556436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162516945772452,0.0,0.0,0.05024215022306107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932831310717796,0.0,0.12914557956257572,0.044663291149791916,0.09162705579418902,0.08072571012651032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780571967805166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282035571682604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772014602859884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061948692442654524,0.06952918047269503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337925472834396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815108008048833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6556505575606952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557224087247823,0.0,0.0,0.10374255782202824,0.08616245512496397,0.0,0.06873661184988268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715674356112148,0.0,0.0,0.053307852897614055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206831376771915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176600498339402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102067386765266,0.0,0.0,0.09914130549381428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774322094495746
parenting,themagnificentlurker,2020/01/13,"8 (almost 9) year old son watched porn My son turns 9 in February. Last night, he was using his tablet, and when I went to go put it away, I found a porn video open. When I took a look at his history, I found out that for the past few days he's been watching porn whenever he's on his tablet, and it originated from a search he manually made, not from an ad or link. This is so shocking. Isn't 8 too young to be watching porn? What are some tips for having an age-appropriate conversation with him about this?",3.6039757412398927,4.045143952830191,4.787412398921834,87.71028301886793,71.73584905660377,8.698652291105121,25.52021563342318,8.841846274778883,1.4116970350404316,393,11,93,7,7,130,77,106,0.040999999999999995,0.9590000000000001,0.0,-0.5929,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,7,4,0,3,0,15,16,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,3,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,7,4,9,0,13,8,2,20,0,0,4,4,11,6,0,3,10,51,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357650286989683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212091452497936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518431081859052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5163084876496984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380931376152644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19191980857491198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977152322251284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22278457501753351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209499994350733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24706083428507064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22475972415088766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23668812991499785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26158902472422857,0.0,0.2560974965541063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033496363551838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21826068030218654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161942087069755
parenting,e_mobes22,2020/01/13,Does head lice still itch after it’s gone? I’m wondering if anyone has had the same experience. I’ve been getting rid of head lice for a couple weeks now & think it’s gone. However my head still feels itchy. I hardly have any nits/dandruff that I can see. I’m paranoid as hell because I’m afraid of it coming back and I’m not sure if it’s gone all the way. Does the itching continue after successful treatment? If so do you know how long? Any insight is greatly appreciated.,1.8229896907216483,4.122811762886599,3.5208350515463955,87.09671649484541,80.85567010309279,6.35422680412371,24.13298969072165,7.554174236665415,1.219932783505154,379,14,77,6,10,126,69,97,0.115,0.809,0.076,-0.4232,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,6,5,1,1,4,0,7,5,5,1,2,15,21,7,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,5,3,4,3,6,16,2,14,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,9,39,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19616636115719185,0.0,0.2462388626798337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265935705643045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921539572369104,0.0,0.11036570292698776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595755933421532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003271169103808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168741500410693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771005229137646,0.0,0.0,0.09154374212026364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459055538179327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199607004244412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218421445002926,0.0,0.5574250803149673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949971709182244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022254136501818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427249873031714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28917170249355395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063640530527505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600879727456613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370815573113693,0.14522647256370988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963397626286436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Civil-Motor,2020/01/13,"A Helpful Guide In The Training Of A Mentally Retarded Child Hi fellow parents! Saw this guide from the US government and thought I'd share it with you all as you might also find it helpful:

https://mn.gov/mnddc/parallels2/pdf/60s/63/63-AHG-NARC.pdf",14.2228947368421,15.290617078947365,11.383157894736845,47.29210526315794,49.26315789473684,11.810526315789476,42.6842105263158,11.20814326018867,5.00101052631579,211,9,28,4,2,63,32,38,0.086,0.7240000000000001,0.18899999999999997,0.5255,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,1,0,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707647772972823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309458813225675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4538902206798259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412121223420376,0.35918315603197004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759564563797865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687971558942892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40727377247077856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,universe_point,2020/01/13,"Bicycle fears My daughter(3yo) got a bicycle with training wheels for Christmas. We spent the next few days going outside and learning/practicing biking up and down our street. She was doing great. She got the hang of pedaling, breaking, steering, and paying attention to where she was going. I was impressed with how well she was doing. And then she fell over. She made a quick handlebar movement and just tipped over. She wasnt hurt, but now she's terrified of her bike. When she gets on it, she started freaking out as soon as it moves and tries to reach out to grab onto me. What can I do to help her get past her fear of falling again? Should i just give the bike a break for awhile??",3.409545454545455,5.65246783333334,3.450000000000003,89.92000000000004,75.21212121212122,6.521212121212122,25.393939393939394,7.492282038375204,1.231321212121213,542,19,106,7,12,165,89,132,0.125,0.7859999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.8443,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,18,20,12,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,11,0,0,1,3,2,7,1,4,1,0,9,1,20,3,21,10,1,29,0,1,0,0,17,10,0,0,10,79,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423631565874312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5033388381096756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233696708280484,0.2145463037336787,0.2542118986942453,0.0,0.35774807984682583,0.24657588515769704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990847074941085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23942289308662934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162387065197533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23770549142087324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23785524853047266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350007193154052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583012442460305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184426693744293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20108900083771733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Edemardil,2020/01/13,"6 month old terror I had to go back to work recently and my wife has been staying home with the baby (we own a business) and I noticed that he will wake up an like 10 at night after falling asleep for an hour or two and then be up for like three or four hours wide awake.

I was giving him 2x1.5 hour long naos in the day and my wife switched to 3 short naps (she's always too busy for him) and I noticed this change but is there any advice from people who had similar night creatures?",6.2247058823529375,4.538875196078429,6.132666666666669,87.42900000000002,66.64705882352939,8.944313725490195,29.223529411764694,6.742157984588678,1.2705858823529417,378,9,87,2,5,119,79,102,0.036000000000000004,0.9109999999999999,0.053,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,5,0,8,2,2,0,0,10,10,9,0,0,3,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,4,0,10,2,13,4,1,22,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,15,55,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418384564937586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831828666452132,0.0,0.0,0.12121611846376178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706325408076564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885648742439281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495650944583513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099365079514653,0.10130358779625853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879929248286175,0.0,0.5266210589292379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416790112600086,0.0,0.0,0.15774564862183782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227745645099385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345511166172636,0.0,0.0,0.4058776329925673,0.1870433993975893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357611235975012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760003794871982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999079250401027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412435789639005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976812938213728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,metalhead_mommy,2020/01/13,"Fighting Cabin Fever So I live in Canada and we are currently having a cold snap. Our low is -45C and our high is -25C, needless to say we are not really leaving the house unless we have to. Unfortunately this leads to me having 2 really bored and mischievous toddlers on my hands. What kind of activities can I do to help combat cabin fever for the next 10 or so days until this cold snap is over? 

Kids are: boy aged 2.5 years and girl aged 15 months.",3.629238095238094,5.156040399999998,4.633174603174607,84.74500000000002,72.77777777777777,7.365079365079365,21.746031746031747,7.957251820313856,0.8866031746031751,356,8,72,5,7,116,66,90,0.125,0.847,0.028999999999999998,-0.7959999999999999,1,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,5,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,3,0,11,3,1,1,0,11,11,9,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,4,9,1,11,11,0,14,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,1,8,45,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966515148466615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20438492016785734,0.3221701935317754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35184271692557484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175326511367327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228717372058949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692545198496617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243388368997068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242913875338668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39068575588739374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424887414154719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963618181333032
parenting,stepknee1985,2020/01/13,"Anyone got advice on transition from co-sleeping to cot-bed for a toddler? She’s 22 months old and has been sleeping in the bed with us for the past six months - before that she slept in her cot for most of the night but I’d bring her into bed with us when she woke up at 4ish until about 7am. Then she went through a crazy not-going-to-sleep-until-11pm phase and to survive it we ended up co-sleeping all the time. She still breastfeeds to sleep and I’m not unhappy with that, it’s just getting her back into a cot/cot-bed. I’ve been thinking about taking the side off the cot and putting a mattress next to it so I can still breastfeed her to sleep, just in her room instead? Has anyone else had a similar experience? Any anecdotes telling me how easy and painless this transition will be?",2.6334161490683243,4.488418397515531,3.260217391304348,92.17119565217396,76.20496894409938,5.8422360248447225,25.16459627329193,6.5431188927421005,0.7400360248447204,626,22,132,5,14,196,98,161,0.021,0.9079999999999999,0.071,0.818,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,1,11,0,0,0,11,0,8,4,4,1,1,19,17,11,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,6,11,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,7,0,15,0,27,8,2,29,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,1,14,87,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214567019341176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850022800495749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480168679261707,0.1280742487682095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611501552380032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636328272949568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441899565756252,0.0,0.11071028484278687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227109954788508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530579934542967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997155925127167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954290487537954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329357802947329,0.11730126350358352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116337677296194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932382754028165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256565592501304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7505239257585918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964561052841875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398222521349783,0.0,0.10925293080565857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009306221470476,0.0,0.0,0.07288678481291959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007121203410197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587351725756158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TigerUSF,2020/01/13,"Somebody please assuage my fears One of my sons is having a very, very minor surgery Wednesday.  Like, to me it barely qualifies as ""surgery"".  It'd be a routine, ""oh we've got to go have this done Wednesday, he should be back at school Thursday"" kinda thing and I would barely think anything of it.  (if you're curious, he's not peeing straight and they've gotta fix it).  

The thing that's just terrifying me more and more as we get closer is that they have to do general anesthesia.  I know it's incredibly safe, and accidents rarely ever happen but... I'm struggling to get past it.",2.550502392344498,4.812109377192981,3.667607655502394,87.22643540669857,78.03508771929825,6.601594896331737,26.15311004784689,7.686295010490155,1.5122736842105264,455,18,90,7,11,147,78,114,0.11699999999999999,0.794,0.08900000000000001,-0.5001,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,2,3,0,12,1,1,0,1,17,21,8,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,8,2,9,13,2,10,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,7,55,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946464606601709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187923518088492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24205532626182294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139575914405484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661653243442953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24715740351478946,0.0,0.13442712412625224,0.0,0.1891770046269133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20916530300220051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999232126088367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555804968409253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028084574296295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22579746123547356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25964214521782997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393839692621332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472755919872097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142839582120714,0.15156076102696298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39032890439881934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802621838985668,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mizym,2020/01/13,"Kids under 8 up past 10? So my bf aunt moved in with us and she brought her three kids. While I dont have a problem with that, they are up at all hours of the night and are relatively loud. I was wondering how to ask them to make sure they listen that they need to be in their room by at least 9 because I'm losing sleep with them running around. They dont go to school so theres no incentive to actually sleep. I dont want to damage them so I have been lenient in what I say or do but it's been 4 months of this and personally I need it to stop as I have to wake up at 430 am to get ready for work. I've tried talking to the mother but she has less control over her kids than I do. I just need advice. The ages are 4 7 and 8. They are all girls.",-0.15147189349112367,1.368651585798819,2.074937130177517,98.99926960059177,83.4378698224852,5.408431952662722,17.663091715976332,6.322622252153567,-0.5565831360946745,574,12,152,5,16,194,103,169,0.048,0.8759999999999999,0.076,0.5356,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,9,3,7,4,0,0,4,0,18,3,3,3,3,25,30,13,0,5,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,5,6,8,0,2,1,0,0,4,4,3,0,1,4,3,24,1,31,25,4,24,0,2,0,0,26,13,0,2,7,103,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.14904088814745248,0.0,0.0,0.14924442595342188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359606572900308,0.1427804382199706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310181574339864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129788860534734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369896459203705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979428594812123,0.0,0.08679906997867373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504067103005751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086401443100568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194739369695477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190635265273032,0.1623261199820658,0.0,0.3397385226274273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332525833689075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579654043909768,0.0,0.13335654884093134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614045344196025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145575463249585,0.0,0.15456929570435401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056773994711529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768778205376122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394471058058075,0.0,0.0,0.12275730356387993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369255899870973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371346158429985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900831680315979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656274360472966,0.11118809499516784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mamabird49,2020/01/13,"What should kids wear to a viewing Hi there! Don’t know if this is the right place but sorry if it isn’t. 

My husbands grandmother recently passed and today is her viewing. I’m having a hard time figuring out what my kids should wear to this event (this is their first funeral with someone close) and also I’ve never been to one as an adult with kids so I am lost on what to wear as well I’m not a dressy person and we all dress very casual. Any suggestions for what kids should wear?",1.5622000000000007,3.701498820000001,2.7059999999999995,93.473,80.8,6.4,19.0,7.554174236665415,0.3785000000000003,382,9,84,6,10,122,67,100,0.099,0.848,0.053,-0.5676,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,1,2,4,3,0,0,5,0,11,4,4,0,2,19,15,10,1,5,4,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,8,8,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,1,1,2,2,3,6,2,11,10,1,12,0,1,2,0,12,5,0,2,6,56,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21819628747076208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554586067964013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23208419970828684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444180364649361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995001556019502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978456053305412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104370442674812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488873096530115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382401751533416,0.28506787881289924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26940428637515074,0.0,0.0,0.233010530799246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311830559264704,0.0,0.0,0.3054307742646614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590997466467668,0.0,0.258627811603982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251280103335196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453229403396709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aalynia,2020/01/13,"We're moving and pulling my son from his school...in February We're doing an interstate move next month and the whole process has been an absolute shit show. It took forever to sell our home, so my 3 yr old didn't go to preschool this year (we expected to have sold in October) and my kindergartener will be removed from his friends in February. That's long enough that he's made some good friends and he won't have a lot of time to make new friends at his new school. Now the house we were going to buy has sold and we can't find a different suitable house where we were originally planning. We will likely have to rent, so then he will be going to (let's call it) Elementary school A but when we buy a house he will be in Elementary school B in the fall, so AGAIN will be losing out on friends.

My heart is  breaking, I'm crying all the time. My son has an IEP for speech and 504 for ADHD. His school is small and everyone knows everyone and takes care of everyone. He's going to end up in an elementary school with 700-1.2k kids and the thought of it makes me physically ill. I don't want him to be a number, I don't want his needs getting lost in the hundreds of other kids who have additional needs. 

He's a very social boy, but because of his articulation errors, ADHD, several food allergies, and a bit of general naivety, he has been picked on. I'm afraid it's going to get worse. He is the KINDEST PERSON I KNOW. I could talk forever about how he cares for his little siblings and friends, how he makes books and cards for everyone, and how I've never seen or heard of him being mean to anyone. And I'm afraid we are just going to crush his little soul with this move.

There's not really any advice to be given here, but as I'm searching for houses and apartments to rent, my heart feels heavy and I had to get it out. Thanks for reading.",4.8935301579979225,5.024544437665785,5.576083496713184,84.27952369968862,68.81432360742706,9.20904163302964,28.592895859762425,9.085049710711278,1.9991008880175296,1451,46,315,25,23,472,189,377,0.07400000000000001,0.847,0.079,0.3987,3,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,8,0,0,3,14,15,1,2,18,0,37,5,3,9,2,60,74,29,0,6,6,2,1,1,5,6,1,2,3,4,11,28,1,0,6,3,7,13,7,5,0,0,15,4,30,10,46,44,6,47,1,2,1,0,44,17,1,3,17,183,41,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786575695291265,0.07231134093173706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503221181963054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051742089380199065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04510933722701157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078816089990963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556164398434663,0.0,0.15089460616540987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059082486186682985,0.0,0.08128484782030852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731360559080838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554148943012053,0.07646114423902528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828383276981559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03741631163312939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763409573149741,0.0,0.0894803480281611,0.0,0.28585869990112645,0.0,0.11598487069928955,0.0,0.2523333291017964,0.06206717184164981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537925102584412,0.0,0.0,0.07422741499867624,0.0,0.0,0.3415414119594185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133625162984802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566938304386996,0.0,0.036152360830978274,0.14833364481995334,0.0,0.06548712560264104,0.0,0.0827863816122803,0.08077906831654949,0.06291162944533105,0.0,0.07002000571610763,0.14818548891782238,0.0,0.0,0.08060702208480937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590656017610153,0.2359489005199947,0.0,0.1097392101599548,0.05707288632427754,0.14293813103609945,0.0786991836525812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764990474544968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461340721512777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401940859189031,0.0,0.047405899809501634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44934795927632093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359824005081458,0.07595930356577918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543305232025535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055638326910609534,0.059477901256016284,0.0,0.06812869001915874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058747244535093626,0.08629927098814942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221603764542483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610572410713205,0.08729350706574218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261766879286736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541169353486328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04765317668516165
parenting,baroberts32,2020/01/13,"Grandparents are alcoholics My parents are alcoholics. My dad is a lot worse than my step mom. Dad abuses alcohol and has an alcohol dependency. He will start to show signs of withdrawal in the morning and sneak shots in his coffee. Drinks 10 beers/day? A few rum n cokes. Somehow, he maintains a good job and is a nice fella for the most part. He is very kind, caring and loves his granddaughter very much. I know he deals with depression and instead of maintaining healthy habits of mind and body he has relied on alcohol which has hijacked his mind. His alcohol abuse is now one of his defining characteristics. And now, in his 60s, his health is deteriorating dramatically. He is the type of man who tries to conceal his pain and suffering from the world. The denial of his dependency runs deep. I do believe that he feels shame and embarrassment for his disorder. I also think he has trouble seeing the truth and gravity of his affliction. Now, I have an 8-month-old daughter and we spend 2 to 3 times a month with the grandparents. Not until this weekend, did I grow too many concerns over my daughter’s health and safety. They are good people and I want so much for my daughter to have a great relationship with her grandparents. They have a lot to offer. They live in an off-grid location in Colorado that is beautiful and there are horses and wild animals. My kid can learn and experience so much there from them. I am concerned now because the drinking has only intensified, and I know that the solution is only binary. Quit drinking altogether or continue down this negative path under the weight of alcohol abuse. 

I feel bad in a way because they didn’t sign up to change their lives for a kid. I have a list of things that I want to improve about myself to be a good role model for my baby. I cannot expect my dad to have that or change his life because of choices I have made. Am I supposed to accept this level of intoxication around my kid? And, as she gets older, how will I feel okay with leaving her with them for a weekend. This would be negligence on my part, wouldn’t it?",4.815488721804512,6.437126476190477,5.566924812030077,78.83925939849624,69.95238095238095,9.029273182957397,29.590726817042608,9.473421319101043,2.7072311779448617,1660,65,311,37,30,540,206,399,0.10400000000000001,0.774,0.122,0.3892,5,0,11,0,3,0,43.0,1,0,7,1,15,18,0,2,25,1,36,19,1,4,1,54,50,26,0,5,3,8,4,0,0,4,12,0,0,4,13,25,12,0,8,7,1,3,5,7,0,1,3,5,49,11,51,41,9,32,0,2,1,1,49,16,0,8,12,219,62,3,0.0,0.2804657266860022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5902721612735241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309966095641903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024146746748096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588171192499423,0.14429780552810376,0.0,0.0,0.0888980143844846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764477952664605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044809151196435,0.0,0.16694036446761285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508866820020438,0.08134676646121099,0.06796007262001093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043105017650127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318882332316283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718344901417395,0.0,0.0,0.1196890043505947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041224188322063975,0.0,0.0,0.19854330040395307,0.0,0.08699216005405233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774295167045652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830024428027353,0.0,0.0,0.08216658313697775,0.08672737058852045,0.0,0.0,0.08354815589117112,0.0,0.0,0.0557323705736412,0.0,0.0,0.1393477099821622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416305993699496,0.0712141219424367,0.07466106272006641,0.0,0.07999647521362184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593414997095817,0.09241164646060067,0.1259611607447544,0.0,0.17401099949665527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279668573453919,0.0,0.05346752858999194,0.1200204006954253,0.0839596329227146,0.0,0.08761377742236852,0.1708911208437185,0.0,0.054702237942100856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392433017252629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471358269910279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287643235994894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558487995182462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242044501071498,0.05055862592792603,0.0,0.0,0.046009674078475685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053570773006712855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020845852605809,0.09307948406223346,0.06263048199014151,0.0,0.09608405978679327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804101216966573,0.05605128045078541,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sssyawaworht,2020/01/13,"can i survive a week with no baby gear with my newborn? i will be staying at a close family friends house after i get out of the hospital due to my current housing situation not being suitable for a new baby during RSV season and many people wanting to come visit that will not take no for an answer. i wasn’t planning on bringing any swings or other large baby gear. should i? there will be people very willing to hold/comfort her, but i don’t know if i should be bringing the larger furniture too.",4.52900432900433,5.685962535353537,5.7782395382395375,78.82545454545458,70.1111111111111,7.273304473304473,30.304473304473305,7.447530270364453,2.0555443001443003,397,16,70,4,7,133,72,99,0.04,0.937,0.023,-0.1306,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,16,20,4,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,1,0,10,1,12,9,0,15,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,6,53,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439737367483173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824505831655224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278991145815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867744093065516,0.0,0.12630369316990894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5578909745838615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285873718928615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24509518977351816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23348235510134946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351961534218288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717356143811599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576718979777988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176490075565765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19946795635270206,0.14258961878841386,0.0,0.1939161870527044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StayBehindThePines,2020/01/13,"What would life have been if I never had a kid? I sometimes have dreams when I sleep of things I don’t have or want but I could get if I worked really hard. Like a million dollars, long flowing hair, 40lbs skinnier. Lol! 

But last night I had a dream about being 18 again, no kid, fresh out of high school and I was having the time of my life. I never once thought about what my life would had been if I didn’t have a child. It never even occurred to me. The dream was nice, reliving my youth but I woke and realized that it’s not a world I would ever want to live in. 

I had my son at 19. I never thought I had really given up anything. I never understood the sacrifice. My son is my only child and will be my only child. It’s so important that I allow him to experience all the things I couldn’t. 

But it’s Ok. Once I know he’s in college, safe and thriving I plan on traveling the world. I just have to be patient because he’s number one. I hope one day we can travel it together!",0.8546650717703344,2.6647539282296684,2.8826291866028733,93.00815430622008,81.48803827751195,6.0938755980861234,20.49784688995215,7.1686216300943375,0.37889071770334937,757,21,174,10,20,255,113,209,0.024,0.7709999999999999,0.205,0.9872,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,10,2,28,5,2,1,7,38,38,14,0,11,10,2,2,1,0,4,3,0,0,5,11,6,0,1,5,5,1,3,10,0,0,3,15,2,32,5,15,14,1,26,1,0,0,0,11,9,0,5,15,125,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103861568407697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225409234595403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773326706999216,0.0,0.0,0.08702082111207374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912217755877187,0.12205490245278908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199066720847574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049708443008107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087374065160425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256444859238146,0.0,0.13401922102610128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415581744159548,0.10998865558925064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859221583544695,0.06592159870029951,0.0,0.11914858333903396,0.11941173175927818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5203444287534553,0.0,0.0,0.12662576922498134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873991392272205,0.1828686036376868,0.20524572260963164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288346494875412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655971176498227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350307555411671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345249216386698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792873887006236,0.0,0.0,0.21424394921796366,0.07868069718609362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917432249676675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982330555046314,0.0,0.0,0.2875582524135433,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anony-mous99,2020/01/13,"Getting on the same page with partner.. Any advice is welcomed but mainly venting here and if anyone can relate. My kid is a little over 2.5 and his dad and I aren’t together anymore. I have a new boyfriend who is great with him and me but seriously running into issues.. it seems a good amount can be over my toddler. 

Just yesterday a potty training situation came up. We talked about taking a 3-4 days to implement potty training. That we’d take diaper off and leave some pants on so he doesn’t pee everywhere and can feel that he wet himself. That we’d start second weekend in February because I work most saturdays and he goes to his dads the first weekend of February.. he put on me that he would ask my toddler if he had to go potty and start yesterday. Which is fine. Ask away and see but then wants to reward with chocolate and candy.. which he also got on me about giving so many treats. So I cut back and decided to do a star system since he loves stars and then after 5 stars can have a snack.. 

He throws that he’s a joke to my kid all the time because he feels I’m not backing him up. Which I also made more effort to make sure I wasn’t giving in to my son if my boyfriend said no on something or timeout time. I improved and follow through with it now. Have for a while now. There was no conversation except when he started this already. Which again is okay but I’ve heard from so many people and agree to take a good 3-4 days to work at it and implement. Now I’m in trouble for not following through on this because he just started without being on the same page. 

Same thing goes for time out times. If he touched the sound bar then he gets 20 minutes of timeout?? What the hell. I don’t know how many times I’ve said it’s 2-3 minutes and 5 max if he’s really worked up and he relaxes and calms down with the 5 minutes. I’m trying to work on getting him to calm down and redirect before a full blown tantrum. I’ve brought up us watching videos on parenting and finding ways that can work and more importantly us being on the same page. My kid is very smart and knows he’s not suppose to certain things. If anything my kid finds me a joke not him. And that’s a work in progress and seriously considering talking with a therapist and finding a way to adjust his behaviors because it gets to me. 

We’re going back and forth on how his word is a joke and that he just wanted to do a test run...I don’t know. Yes it’s great he is working with potty training but we talked about how we’d do it and he changed it up with less than 10 minute notice. And again rewarding with junk food isn’t the route I wanna go with every attempt. Now that’s in his head but yet I was told to cut back junk food... sorry for my rant and hope this can make some sense but I’m just frustrated that we seem to never be on the same page",2.4853612059158148,4.010732477815702,3.7299530716723552,90.06504337315133,75.75767918088738,6.658077360637089,25.00696814562002,7.333567415737692,1.0006701934015934,2216,75,481,26,48,723,254,586,0.069,0.7809999999999999,0.149,0.995,2,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,8,0,0,13,30,29,5,0,27,2,37,7,2,6,4,106,83,58,0,11,24,4,4,0,1,1,0,4,0,5,29,46,4,0,12,8,0,10,14,8,0,2,12,10,42,21,76,63,19,82,1,0,2,1,63,33,1,13,36,306,71,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737312467840955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326363889376702,0.12067857092820733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131024356100383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482854140994001,0.05275809730616952,0.0,0.06209092550890932,0.0,0.14107568385332492,0.0,0.07089004695912329,0.23207306220584245,0.0,0.18398041759405548,0.0,0.06420446533452287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629748553244553,0.0,0.0,0.07981867219579793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732115783516054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357193120352156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630203703115357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20688647752110145,0.06417980314987186,0.18247476917954625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768313360092268,0.14476170299591234,0.1286440738073173,0.12657184627699344,0.060346205435482664,0.16637315317005624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743596692171124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494129333500868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875273957557241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440005601074848,0.0,0.0,0.07989323479564547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562316250592603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809876896054938,0.07139491889870685,0.10073017327979036,0.22949078081595234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819356980571552,0.0728724324461705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590309799038114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378100050534333,0.0,0.0,0.05230921847572893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585053784912142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048336762295364974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354508931951096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06012582228851762,0.13737812709296146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062415034406413175,0.0848116989123829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808697117329178,0.0,0.08446282423731488,0.2136224889884224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111302758063683,0.0,0.170192524128668,0.1819374288680635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760609319126535,0.10025449099770832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21998460976271672,0.0,0.0,0.07209803562901737,0.0,0.051227250923222535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815199795516636,0.0,0.0,0.062256161362507875,0.08900760280727388,0.119781262665346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273345536181881,0.0,0.3845119020974696,0.0,0.0,0.053599245391894916,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheCasualBaker,2020/01/13,"15 month old suddenly refuses to go in high chair and car seat - advice!? Our typically very happy 15 month old girl suddenly throws a fit every day the past week when I pick her up from daycare to put her in the high chair. She is is a happy mood until the moment I open the car door. So far, I have been able to give her a biscuit to calm her down and get her in the seat. 

At home she is now refusing to sit in her high chair for meals. We don't want to physically force her into it, so we've been letting her eat on our laps.

I hope this is a short-lived phase, but it's very challenging right now. Please share any tips/tricks on how to help her be okay with the seats.",4.5456249999999985,3.747421201388892,5.360555555555557,88.69000000000004,69.625,9.144444444444442,24.94444444444445,8.472884824447931,1.091961111111111,519,10,127,7,8,170,92,144,0.02,0.812,0.168,0.9621,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,10,1,10,2,0,2,0,13,15,8,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,6,2,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,18,7,21,11,0,37,0,0,0,0,20,17,0,1,14,71,21,1,0.16075386066048025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708681214215442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093181377338956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036729412909274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449133170098096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544206086361332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398725732418201,0.15420975119603225,0.0913601235875236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422509477579479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107749924254768,0.5095358393615778,0.16124922931109986,0.15966485555681653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16438171393262233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566243957958097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33736827010633125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345774967890816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645946552685526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160203047802674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728291865987804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652775411022476,0.0948167920064642,0.0,0.12894705049843974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seedpod785,2020/01/13,"6 Year Old always LATE! So the 6 year old in the house has decided it is acceptable to take literally HOURS to eat, and it always makes us late for school in the morning. I have tried waking her up earlier. I have tried having everything she needs ready to go for her- lunch, bag, socks/shoes, coat etc.  basically making it so all she needs to do is eat and dress herself.  I don’t like doing that because I don’t want her getting the idea that things will just be done for her.  I have also tried “timing” her and giving her a reward if it’s under a certain amount of time but that feels weird because I’m just rewarding her for stuff she should already do! And also rewarding her for eating her breakfast feels weird? Idk I’m trying everything I can think of. We were about 20 minutes later than the latest drop off time today.  

I’m just not really sure what to do. I feel that she needs to understand that not only is she making herself late, but she is making her older sibling late for school as well and that isn’t fair when the older sib was dressed and packed and ready to go for 40 minutes! And truthfully, I have things I need to get done and with a younger sibling (age 2) it isn’t always easy and every ten minutes COUNTS! 

I am open to all advice and ideas!!",5.409778645833335,5.318893441406253,5.862093750000002,83.43186458333334,67.7109375,8.701666666666666,27.613541666666666,8.238735603445708,1.6349529166666668,995,27,205,12,15,321,134,256,0.042,0.81,0.14800000000000002,0.9792,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,3,10,11,0,0,9,0,27,6,1,4,5,46,50,20,0,7,8,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,15,14,5,0,9,0,0,2,6,2,1,1,4,3,30,9,27,43,4,28,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,1,20,137,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923837887067603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043276868088584,0.15120785398776382,0.2359955690290434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526190568133125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934953142215844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902153062640023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543754118701112,0.0,0.0,0.07965436793961418,0.0,0.1699336383904283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434074067869019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878691825098644,0.09069177021763024,0.1074589806570828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310325431399234,0.10908693308167894,0.0,0.21344921743906348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4265827748125207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04618766601787345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252425815392094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28040204686107423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984085013684274,0.0,0.0,0.07190223746384727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060565003705147585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135987241976304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082261440889924,0.0,0.0,0.08910321201464766,0.0,0.0710826181768599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125616887238559,0.06057767356635939,0.0,0.0,0.16538180969516822,0.0,0.0896132487575665,0.0,0.0,0.2567469143266972,0.0,0.0,0.09841989480361477,0.1137204656667604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05576237978940688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500317712257245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176184120949435
parenting,Throwaway185381,2020/01/13,"My [46 M] daughter [16 F] came out to me as a lesbian so I got angry and slapped her and now she won't talk to me. I've been going through her phone. Someone whose name is suffixed with a "":))"" keeps messaging her every 5 minutes. I suspect she's responsible for leading my daughter astray. So I called her and angrily said ""are you happy now? Are you satisfied with what you've done to my daughter? Just stay the hell away from my daughter and don't ever contact her again""

Now my daughter has been sitting quitly in her room for the last 2 days and hasn't come out even to get something to eat. What do I do??

tl;dr: I corrected my rebellious daughter and now she has stopped talking to me. Please help.",2.2652045826513927,4.281776546099295,3.452765957446811,89.62615384615387,77.86524822695036,6.040589198036008,28.57665030005456,7.010146845296331,1.464079759956356,547,25,112,6,13,177,86,141,0.12300000000000001,0.784,0.09300000000000001,-0.6639,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,0,2,10,2,1,0,4,0,13,2,0,1,2,20,20,9,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,12,1,2,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,6,1,25,1,17,13,0,20,1,0,0,1,27,5,1,0,9,78,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017191242605976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21923423381644996,0.2455613157871688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849463289597868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138464703951007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21971417451228276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196932320321504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180831407292094,0.194209796206458,0.18089527148040585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121726708651566,0.0,0.12201980871725206,0.0,0.17171640075107972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285537362409287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390988793124473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083655574396044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501037613194656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356777703929882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283614705151869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423029008668545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191588193513564,0.1652877019926847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288432291855577,0.0,0.17950006544491984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451378615736441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,illexa,2020/01/13,"Daughter 12yo doesn’t take much care of herself or her surroundings Hi everyone, my daughter is 12 and in 7th grade. We have been struggling for a little over a year about her taking care of herself and the things around her like her room and her school things. One of our main battles is trying to get her to keep her hair and face washed. She will go shower but over half the time will not wash her hair. It ends up looking super greasy and I put dry shampoo in it for her. I hate arguing with her about this because I love her and I just want to help her and make sure she doesn’t get made fun of or anything at school. She’s a really gorgeous girl but just won’t listen to anything I say for some reason. I don’t want to make her feel bad when I tell her these things, I just want to help. 
The same goes for keeping her room clean. We constantly fight about her sneaking food into her room and just leaving trash everywhere. This isn’t healthy and it’s also just disgusting. I feel like all I do is complain at her lately. I try to talk and reason and help but nothing works. I don’t want to be a nagging hovering mom but I won’t let her live like this. She has friends at school and online and she’s usually fun spirited and happy. But when it’s time to take responsibility she just shuts down and everything is a problem and She thinks I’m just being a b*tch. Also once we get things going, like if I help her get her room cleaned up or once she’s ready for school and looking nice, she’s happier and in a good mood. It’s just so exhausting emotionally to be the bad guy all the time for no reason. I love her so much. 
Any advice is appreciated. I don’t know if I should back off and let her figure things out or keep at her until she just starts doing what she needs to do.",3.0242239382239404,4.240026437837842,3.8830308880308912,90.75925675675678,73.81081081081079,7.015444015444014,23.484555984555982,7.447530270364453,0.736996138996139,1402,38,313,16,28,449,169,370,0.10800000000000001,0.645,0.247,0.9961,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,4,0,0,2,20,30,6,1,12,0,27,9,3,6,3,73,61,37,0,9,21,3,4,4,1,5,3,2,7,2,15,26,1,3,8,0,0,3,10,12,0,2,2,8,59,17,42,49,7,39,1,0,2,2,61,23,0,7,17,212,74,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234429717965483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477585882722248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057304143472847985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386883809855315,0.07501509484934171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479577531636352,0.14071809849868122,0.05136810661144902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17183072714169625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910622040708612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478852653386728,0.07463515146712416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052029947750435,0.07573334140288115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521539898958612,0.06020003999938006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018954464794882,0.0,0.06510412732705126,0.0,0.1761031771438107,0.0,0.09578124432563022,0.07067878395526167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343713264930702,0.0,0.08970330916988606,0.0,0.08319577214909019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259283682169509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469994377301875,0.0,0.0,0.04631069199788451,0.0,0.09505633854328367,0.08922610908670632,0.0,0.17233651276492462,0.0,0.1646735190167452,0.08445722049551121,0.07440890728962825,0.0,0.14152535748299105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521077023226394,0.07973504688083774,0.11249715263594856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869196465229263,0.0,0.0,0.12389121984212136,0.06248257892356333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085602719437884,0.0,0.0,0.17948225070395205,0.057101194965708986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063170769238616,0.0,0.08471115710513118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053983309556762366,0.25992014324061924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701214259592365,0.0,0.3411289886109798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05964429765113726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809369405852842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942022591306687,0.0,0.19007387499691167,0.06773026075219704,0.07365267870538612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27991475664599386,0.053994602564241864,0.0,0.0,0.147409508489356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442291179669847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280769949310283,0.0,0.1988103773227345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134705184888595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054264895270325984
parenting,DanWessonValor,2020/01/13,"I'm Concerned About My Son [3M] 'Cus He Keeps Getting Hit But Won't Hit Back I am a proud father of a 3 year old boy who was 9 lbs and 3 oz when he was born. He's a big boy for his age and is in the 90th percentile in his growth. I'm just trying to say that he's not small but he big and tall. However, he seems to have been born with an anti-violence mentality or something. He has been slapped in the face by another boy way smaller than him. He gets his toys taken away by kids smaller than him. I've asked him why he doesn't hit back and he says because he doesn't want to hurt his friends. Okay, that's fine but I would like to encourage him to tell his peers to not hit or to express himself. He has started to do that. Like yesterday, a smaller kid wanted to play with what my son was playing with and was screaming his lungs out. My son stood his ground and yelled back. I think that's an improvement. I don't know why some kids hit other kids. I don't want my son hitting other kids but I don't want him to grow up being a push over. When I tell him to give me his best shot on my back or arm, he hits hard for his age. But why is it that he won't hit back?! (I know he said his reason but is there a real reason?)",0.5138725490196094,1.9086269558823543,2.3652941176470605,98.29049019607844,80.91176470588233,5.5627450980392155,19.78921568627452,6.21433560688645,-0.27065490196078423,940,23,240,7,24,312,133,272,0.033,0.81,0.157,0.9890000000000001,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,2,11,12,0,0,10,1,23,3,3,2,0,36,50,17,0,5,12,5,1,2,1,3,0,5,0,8,10,10,0,1,6,3,0,3,9,2,0,0,9,6,31,10,30,29,2,32,0,1,0,0,56,13,0,5,17,132,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769830910839825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276454656458632,0.0,0.12337752663211908,0.504876947489697,0.0,0.0800501969077116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781007555256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145591410358916,0.0,0.13721640660290252,0.12597213313307395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763508008131987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057856993170892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672141808560026,0.0,0.0,0.14433781028389225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283106239683573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323375964384597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377960871705339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149468564003359,0.0,0.27003342500791794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249134317165848,0.20885859198928405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954691992132448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109496523601358,0.0,0.0,0.09294751327921323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295553339251357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841432330748557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915626080364357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098188915616799,0.1042340678166292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35548204487823315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932844963357573,0.0,0.0,0.08456444743863235
parenting,bloodyslinger6,2020/01/13,"Chronic Illness and parenting For the longest time I thought I wouldn’t be a good mother. I have been sick for the majority of my life and was told children wouldn’t happen. But it did. I was so worried that my child wouldn’t have the attention or love she deserve. More so because my health has gone downhill since having her. I have days where I have no energy and days where My heads in a trash can. I can’t go out and do the things most moms do, I can’t lift her and carry her like she wants either. She has sensory processing issues on-top of it all, so every day seems like a marathon. But in the past few weeks I’ve learned I may do more than I realize?

She started doing things she had to have learned from me. If I’m upset she comforts me. If I make her food she always makes sure I’m sitting down to eat too. If she grabs a snack she will bring me one or even force share it with me. She cleans up her messes, puts dishes in the sink and will even throw away her own diaper after I change her! I don’t have to ask her nor do I, one day she just started doing it. She even asks if I want more if I’m finished eating! She’s extremely compassionate and caring which my mom told me she had to have gotten from me. Her behavior has shown me that I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. “Our children are a reflection of ourselves” has never been more true.  I never wanted my daughter to grow up with a mom “who couldn’t” but I’m starting to see that I’m not a mom who can’t, I’m just a little different.",2.8092340193539584,3.6684058181818213,4.097500340738724,90.38873926673028,73.89028213166145,7.17792013084367,23.90091317977375,7.423996415210882,0.7966558811503344,1172,32,267,13,23,386,161,319,0.043,0.885,0.07200000000000001,0.763,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,0,12,12,0,1,14,0,41,12,1,2,5,48,69,22,0,13,14,7,2,2,0,7,5,0,1,3,12,10,5,0,7,1,0,6,14,2,0,2,12,3,55,10,26,47,10,33,0,0,1,1,43,12,0,10,16,193,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044926945671634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20324451057457052,0.0,0.10212966902074502,0.0,0.0,0.06626409475371757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082954323237383,0.0,0.11499293515396765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28041673167890235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135710786624713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224597906201002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153911221914757,0.0,0.09158662705596723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144361289314613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177819145282588,0.09117458177921504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612534834876213,0.0,0.0973761763741372,0.0,0.11156022617076193,0.11554577843106445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345727041156987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677985963179032,0.10621319713117132,0.10894856031744064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810833865960672,0.0,0.1451196564081739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5092446756207656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767628964388684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731938719792764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070137090995947,0.0,0.10376892967423787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927613477309604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662189677300196,0.0989587625663742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991991230476996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308207749004129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245091210140413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443435182576778,0.0,0.0,0.08629772055401036,0.063385359012892,0.0,0.0,0.20773998132864235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19234682592914248,0.0,0.08719466721537683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039276474196452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drabm2,2020/01/13,"School + therapy.. Impractical? I am a father of 5 yr old high functioning autistic son. We are under evaluation and planning to re start therapy but till now what I gather the might be 5 days of therapy 2 hrs each session. 

My son spend about 6 hours away from home inclusive of 40 mins travel one way in school bus so that's about 4 30 hrs of school..

We've had therapy before, twice , about 10 to 20 mins from home, 3 times a week and he would be absolutely exhausted by the end understandably. His reluctance would grow as time passed and we ended up with stopping therapy after 4 months.

 Recently we got some concerns n complaints from school which shoved us to take therapy but I am afraid this will happen again ....

He definitely needs help with social life , rest of the things not so much. We have good and supporting family fortunately.. School, teachers are supportive as well

My question is , in name of therapy, autism, education etc are we really exhausting the child too much?  What is generally accepted amount of time a 5 yr old can healthily spend like this? Bunk school for therapy? He loves his school.

Thank you",3.6707359307359297,6.34931113397129,4.608174982911827,79.75055821371612,76.41626794258373,9.148416495784918,26.22032353611301,9.606745405546679,2.832817999544317,893,34,164,27,21,289,140,209,0.07,0.775,0.155,0.966,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,1,0,1,9,11,0,1,7,0,16,4,0,0,0,26,26,11,0,3,3,3,0,1,0,4,3,0,2,1,7,12,0,1,3,1,2,3,1,3,1,2,2,0,14,8,29,18,7,30,0,0,0,1,22,6,0,3,21,94,21,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957961241557135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301761678760125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776106613323127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118621625118776,0.0,0.08259387073900483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981497391172921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062116054259032175,0.05923067856581452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548894699795885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04963929058153376,0.07824598722987294,0.14857174898603906,0.0,0.07293188048222317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052309117670956036,0.03618083344764601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683993245179767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856347743099024,0.0,0.0,0.05911212022339327,0.0,0.10888180728748932,0.05491281888942836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542211939936926,0.0,0.050183389218901614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296153168832833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744323540756605,0.0,0.07312300803742282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5246521624335916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549246134178049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524183951931745,0.0,0.0,0.06191552252671977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680795171767846,0.0,0.0,0.055682146144478285,0.0,0.0,0.06818234632348863,0.6775311365654899,0.0,0.049200620720164366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955085692218454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709663918602086,0.0890822503628046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058783525956106884,0.05940459033817388,0.0,0.06658673319414783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521687825332114,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MairaPansy,2020/01/13,"Chores for teens So I'm relatively new to parenting and due to circumstances I started off with a 14F with some trust issues. She is my sister, her father left her and my mom a couple of years ago and my mother died last year. 

My mother didn't make her do anything in the house, my sister is the youngest and spoiled. So now she has to do things and it is turning into a lot of issues. I don't believe I have made her into cinderella, but she sure thinks so. 

* She has to walk her dog when she comes out of school (I walk the morning and evening).
* She has to do 1 hour of homework (she is behind). 
* She has to wash the towels (she uses most of them) about once a week. 
* She has to fold and put away her own laundry (I wash that). 
* She has to keep her room clean and orderly. 

Most of the rules came into existence due to bad behavior in the past (shower, use 3 towels) and thus consequences. If she doesn't do her chores, the internet will shut off for her mobile and laptop at 8 pm. If she did her due, it stays on until 10 pm. 

So we have rules and consequences and we try to stay true to them, but it doesn't always work. Like last week, she just didn't do any of her chores (maybe walk the dog twice) and accepted her faith of no internet. I'm at a loss for how to handle this further. I would like some advice from you guys.",0.8538975155279473,2.863560590579713,2.405734989648036,95.37130434782613,82.58695652173913,5.681987577639752,18.19047619047619,6.868970318607317,-0.07713933747411961,1017,23,234,12,28,331,140,276,0.055,0.868,0.078,0.7569,4,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,2,1,2,2,10,9,0,0,13,0,25,2,0,6,2,45,37,24,1,3,5,7,0,2,0,2,2,0,7,1,6,23,0,1,2,0,0,6,6,2,0,1,5,0,42,7,41,30,6,42,1,1,0,0,39,16,0,7,19,161,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357689644462898,0.12316047948925805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560785165706422,0.0,0.0,0.09448285411697532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433443791533406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053716958527214,0.0,0.11600773317874255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653596167289047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890847850936066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196831009260584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373266069156413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441960896469368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176748119739027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757082741806478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682630472011936,0.16031622156277164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900311161370517,0.0,0.12349480462762748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226506626300882,0.0,0.0,0.15095694252509184,0.0,0.0,0.13575653636250776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812043133710601,0.0,0.1314668424635292,0.09274243900106216,0.0,0.1395822644697649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272293648675693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341875408518518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796482664367003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427461456325472,0.0,0.13263239272631647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967143410208455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061304520359094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983412914382364,0.2961796262613613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094776684755816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923044775284124,0.08902609563649727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433003119616908,0.1511250463912645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239996279864698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289595511981974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114878609242638,0.0,0.0,0.0986978297446868,0.0,0.0,0.1789435064474349
parenting,DespairingKatty,2020/01/13,Regression with toilet training (Posting for a friend) 2 1/2 yo F was doing really well with her toilet training and has suddenly regressed to the point where she's having accidents all the time and no form of bribery seems to be working any more!? Does anyone have any tips or tricks?,12.170754716981133,8.488088811320758,10.552547169811325,66.6054245283019,57.11320754716981,13.618867924528306,43.481132075471706,11.20814326018867,4.812403773584906,229,9,39,4,2,71,46,53,0.12300000000000001,0.833,0.044000000000000004,-0.5038,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,7,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,2,6,5,3,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,2,26,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684357503583118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408269497854713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014048607685456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660985653709365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255888721085089,0.0,0.3298598077150002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064470897317315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31354765433485265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008344700585213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096755573451901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25074235930879474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wintermute-rising,2020/01/13,"At what point do I allow my teen daughter device freedom and privacy? My daughter just turned 14 a couple weeks ago. I have always been very involved in what she does online, and check her phone and computer regularly. I recently allowed her to get discord to talk to her friends from school and keep in touch as we just moved.

Recently she got into some pretty cringey role play on some minecraft servers and has since added those people to her discord and has been keeping in touch with them. I was a teen once too, so I left the cringey role play thing alone as it didn't seem sexual.

Today I checked through her history and a guy previously named ""hentai lover"" (I commented on the inappropriate name but didn't check into their chat that day) has changed his name to something more innocuous. There is a ton of texting back and forth, she is lying about her home life (expected teen attention stuff) and amplifing her problems (also expected, yay attention). She has told this guy she is 17. There is sexual flirting.

She has been pouring her heart out to him as if she has no support at home, and the guy, admittedly, has responded very kindly. 

However, there are references to him thinking her very innocent and obviously a virgin, and how she is into such dirty role play. She is not allowed internet connected devices in her room, the chat from a couple nights ago shows her talking about how she was sneaking the phone into her room and talking to him at 11 pm. 

I just... I have no barometer or mom friends with kids this age to ask. She is clearly exploring her sexuality and relationships, but I feel like its way too early for this kind of heavy shit. She is lying about her age! My first instinct is to remove all devices, ban discord, and re-enable the monitoring software.

I was once a teen. I did a lot of this same stuff, so ... at what point do I back off and leave her to it? At what point do I allow her to have unrestricted access to devices? Should I message this guy and let him know she's only just turned 14? How can I support her without going nuclear?

Help.",5.421287878787877,6.547627643939393,5.8037373737373725,79.57560606060608,68.01515151515152,9.0989898989899,31.83838383838384,9.348350401419415,2.8164838383838378,1641,68,309,32,27,526,199,396,0.10300000000000001,0.774,0.12300000000000001,0.7842,3,1,1,0,0,0,52.0,1,0,2,1,21,15,1,0,14,1,35,5,2,7,3,68,51,30,0,5,10,3,3,1,3,1,1,0,4,5,17,25,0,3,9,6,3,4,6,2,0,1,11,3,57,13,46,38,7,42,0,0,0,2,71,23,1,6,15,219,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502810137597748,0.0,0.0,0.09640777043328494,0.0,0.07443987362508903,0.07745400286779891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702171393678536,0.0,0.0,0.1431529167897395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847136613363387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599310118485667,0.0,0.06003198939608384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145912777434504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706646714697145,0.06649979319403174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917787555839964,0.0,0.0,0.14383415703283264,0.0,0.04863296129452716,0.0,0.05290223178910702,0.0,0.07444841071317318,0.0,0.0,0.3686743109100292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030592536223714,0.06239277317443229,0.0,0.1867432698174593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547607821932991,0.0,0.19386697082719512,0.05115696668247288,0.0,0.0,0.09856335314453596,0.10113689763854516,0.09518550534822,0.06574854063310842,0.045476526922821725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913736045081854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090197820359876,0.0,0.09893440133434082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735377049125949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826452862714175,0.0,0.07079517801506613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453327351841019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639856450957385,0.0,0.0,0.09470069689730852,0.0,0.08906957348334843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838200022950507,0.09993822937979246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420677791639744,0.0,0.08474089758433788,0.0,0.0,0.09555020015976287,0.07700070091620531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166121972021701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311963040140006,0.0,0.2112630351405637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244540867271183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061841398873183476,0.05964497538793988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823349762224307,0.08894650673372778,0.0,0.0,0.20249904498368032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23041410327763545,0.0,0.07388637424921489,0.07466700444483335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973041665650547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thepennydrops,2020/01/13,"Desperately need help with our 3 year old Our boy just turned 3, and although we survived the terrible 2’s pretty well, he has just completely flipped.

For the last few weeks, he has turned into a short fused, short tempered tantrum machine.   All of a sudden, He is extremely quick to fly into hysterics if he doesn’t get what he wants.  He will punch us, kick us, try to scratch us with his nails, and now started to throw things.

We have been trying different approaches, from ignoring his outbursts, to loving reasoning, to naughty step.  But none have worked (and in hindsight, the lack of consistency of response is certainly not good.
He is very good driver , and so Previously if he was being very naughty, he would stop if we said  “you can only have your apple later if you’re a good boy”.  But now, he’ll throw even his favourite foods away in favour of continuing a tantrum.

Can anyone give us advice on what to do with a violently aggressive toddler?
What should we do when he is hitting us?  Continue to explains it’s wrong?  Or ignore it, as he’s looking for a reaction?
What should we do when it’s screaming and foot stomping only? 
Really concerned that what we hoped was a small blip, is becoming a regular occurrence.",6.027532467532468,6.942773571428575,6.149333333333335,78.40400000000002,66.53246753246754,9.796363636363637,33.581818181818186,9.888512548439397,3.26910077922078,969,42,180,21,15,308,141,231,0.168,0.743,0.09,-0.9515,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,13,2,0,2,10,18,5,0,11,0,24,3,1,1,2,40,38,17,0,11,10,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,2,10,16,1,3,2,0,0,4,3,10,1,0,4,4,18,8,24,27,4,28,0,0,1,1,37,9,0,6,15,115,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108507772494006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931882814505622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106579193319167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528389720634686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189380960494235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851907544883135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492505123271162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717026955470474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592669277991709,0.10882053398631288,0.0,0.28544046417894503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603542709490026,0.0,0.0,0.11267001409303445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246750787263014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525975941758953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023826640434975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411320122282019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903461038705765,0.0,0.0,0.17255016319232633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540772381828128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267159995070821,0.11663365846346666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790597891282916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029234542737376,0.0,0.0,0.0948396551193741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536349061329208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403457364060785,0.2467769997752412,0.0,0.0,0.6822626666858981,0.0,0.0,0.18719726511085505,0.06690895910918293,0.0,0.09099351229328297,0.0,0.10199482381713698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825845700591939,0.0,0.0,0.08058344692137426,0.12402717837934442,0.0,0.07305066682333877
parenting,mommy1395,2020/01/13,"Should a three year and 6 months old knows capitals of 12 countries? So,the daycare once asked me to work with her on these 12 capitals and I got worried. There is a trend in my country,third world country, to show off using your child.
I went to them and asked them to exclude her as this kind of education is too soon and she should be doing simple tasks like painting,playing, doing hand craft stuff. I downloaded some kindergarten materials for her to do before and none was like that.

They backed off quickly and told me they learn at most one capital each month. I let it go but today again I had to have the talk again as there was the list in her bag this saturday.they said she must have took some one else's list by mistake. I know she didn't but as long as they are not forcing her to learn I let her stay because she likes it there.

Now, despite them agreeing with me because every other parent is doing this I got kind of doubtful.am I doing the right thing?

I can't not send her because she is an only child and her friends are there.plus it is clean and abuse free which is a hard to find daycare in my country.",3.0864392175128046,4.8929522876106235,3.407354448067071,91.81936422915695,74.79646017699116,5.996832789939451,24.72659524918491,6.5966054737557815,0.686189380530974,891,29,186,7,19,275,132,226,0.07,0.831,0.099,0.7754,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,1,6,1,10,8,0,0,7,0,26,1,1,1,1,28,38,14,0,4,4,1,2,3,1,3,0,1,1,2,12,11,0,0,5,1,1,4,5,1,0,3,10,3,35,8,26,22,5,26,0,0,0,0,30,9,0,3,15,136,47,3,0.0,0.1693136203697597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267185189214793,0.0,0.0,0.1098815957213293,0.0,0.26133229347549497,0.0,0.1215977250670248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937495722123005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039975992618512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306083872444158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040450343888987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121359699215516,0.0,0.22858102654228885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801070019547256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976175769221833,0.1570686579747259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922507050992397,0.0,0.20944176862913105,0.0,0.0,0.12646236735667926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22812349020686276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994994342421078,0.15218427447402874,0.19366603423733736,0.10868220227879567,0.0,0.0,0.1586739958382789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203617061954945,0.13593101519381354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231282514567304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358678253438316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485793778585515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949366836835792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545288118783327,0.13654746704316534,0.1587676151555959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342007406811475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247011311100526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403320150183253,0.14512230442112764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920231798267936
parenting,cisnemich923,2020/01/13,8 months No teeth My youngest turns 8 months in 5 days & she still hasn’t sprouted a single tooth. My oldest (F4) had atleast a couple by that age. Has this happened to anyone else’s baby? Should I be concerned?,0.445658914728682,2.9064387209302365,1.2003488372093043,99.22129844961245,92.02325581395347,2.8666666666666667,18.794573643410853,3.1291,-0.8302217054263568,167,5,35,0,6,51,38,43,0.07,0.93,0.0,-0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,0,0,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392221746223728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189128964146042,0.3207875766923946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464171932093684,0.0,0.20191077419339065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615382631544085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27685571240352874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4997951228820539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500261848679373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405412627283709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sillythefox,2020/01/13,"Middle of the night wakings My DD is 17 months and she's always slept in a pack n play. (she has definitely sept in our bed a good few times but she mainly sleeps alone. But she still does this even if she's in bed with me) She sleeps through the night mostly but some reason keeps waking up randomly to cry. Now I can just say ""lay down sweety"" or ""go to sleep"" and she will just lay back down and go to sleep. Which I wish was ok but it's like 5 times in a night and I'm just so tired and want her to sleep fully.  Help?",-0.15368421052631476,1.7158016140350902,1.2606140350877233,102.94513157894735,85.49122807017544,4.5017543859649125,13.008771929824562,5.46131890053228,-1.4751964912280706,400,4,104,2,12,127,76,114,0.094,0.738,0.168,0.733,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,5,1,5,9,8,1,0,22,12,12,0,3,9,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,3,6,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,13,4,14,9,4,19,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,5,10,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869279148747858,0.0,0.0,0.11945978883789204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039466378786904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770232616458876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256370212324788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482508124573047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318561222372466,0.12041773639686795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623037199445893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276095271379576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013990371231772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145943314627957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041855523551495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476114591558183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141707606007068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7183566826797803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465331369348353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743090681827047,0.16500989826557982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467992185803819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650957164677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,therippa,2020/01/13,"Pre-school ""bullying"", with a twist Our son is 2.5 years old and enrolled in what is basically a pre-pre-school program two days a week in the mornings (they learn about shapes, colors, etc). The woman who owns it is also one of the primary teachers runs what appears to be a tight ship - she's good with communication, everything is clean and organized, and she's great with the kids.


Recently, there have been two ""altercations"" between our son and another boy there. They happened closely, one right before the Christmas break, and one right after.


In the first instance, the boy tried taking a toy car my son brought to school. My son held on to it tight, and he ended up accidentally hitting himself in the face with it, leaving a cut very close to his eye that would have been a big deal if it was a few millimeters over and on his eye. She told me the story as soon as I picked him up that day, and said my son did not start it, and held his own during the fight.


In the second instance, the fight was over a small blanket that my son brought to school that day (some call it a ""lovey""). The boy tried taking it from him, my son resisted, and the boy ended up digging all of his nails into my son's face, leaving deep scratches around his eyes and mouth.


After this one, we asked the owner if it was the same boy. She said yes, but couldn't give out any more info due to privacy.  She said she feels terrible, and they will keep the kids separated from now on, and if that's not possible, will have a teacher assigned to them if the insist on being near each other. She did say the mother would probably want to contact us to apologize, and asked if it was ok to share our info. 


Tonight, we received an apology letter from the mother. In it, she said she feels terrible, and said they did their best to explain to the child that that behavior is not acceptable, ""as much as you can explain that to a one year old"".


Hold up, we said to ourselves...the program (and school) he's in has an age requirement of two to join. We remember the owner saying a while back she made an exception to let her grandson join, and after a little sleuthing we confirmed that yes, it is her grandson who is doing this.


We were concerned before, but now that there is a bit of nepotism mixed in, I feel really concerned.


So what would you do? Start putting his name on waitlists for other schools? See if it happens again? Just calm down, because we're overreacting?",6.959874213836473,6.180230714884697,6.792919077568136,80.34427169811323,64.70230607966457,9.896150943396226,33.126121593291394,9.065960079200117,2.5929328134171907,1909,67,385,27,25,604,230,477,0.036000000000000004,0.887,0.077,0.9546,0,0,0,0,2,0,77.0,10,2,6,3,13,12,3,0,40,3,34,6,6,2,1,75,65,32,0,11,13,12,6,0,0,5,0,8,1,9,31,33,0,7,10,1,0,7,4,5,0,10,22,19,48,7,62,33,12,67,0,0,5,0,91,33,0,8,26,276,79,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062467399914798924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053119911507035884,0.08190889713201313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953764524858523,0.1460513012995836,0.0,0.0,0.0600645196357552,0.0,0.04761731197984074,0.0,0.1329378026776096,0.0,0.08197538063669035,0.0,0.08527979567709161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976269651680391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511303864447548,0.08053166871717217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383708891182146,0.0,0.08711728759664956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020344690012423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848971590095556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664433693402152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493366157586248,0.0,0.06551796295336572,0.0,0.08612049524801567,0.0,0.0,0.13815115768217992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943093701717087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542200027991838,0.0,0.07987642561869518,0.0,0.0,0.0782903260909486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391295598592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742246751869249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393411948668288,0.0,0.26465890943485343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806132214618778,0.0,0.0,0.08421964851894548,0.0,0.0,0.07852572076599162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050041558126959367,0.0,0.0771277343479669,0.0,0.08848745627267454,0.13341713720721754,0.4458234016872092,0.12423810457193175,0.0,0.4743306658815846,0.06224640807749339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105783847769728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746337824500015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464087103564697,0.0,0.1060679835812912,0.0,0.2289168453807783,0.0,0.09396101617681243,0.0,0.0,0.06445188236949903,0.04607341201717818,0.0,0.06265800034248642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664689333627667,0.0,0.0,0.10060516604926144
parenting,noobalert,2020/01/13,"Help, 3.5 y.o trouble sleeping Hey everyone

My 3.5 y.o daughter has always been a bad sleeper. At age 1 we sleep trained her and that worked really well until about a year ago. I was working a lot of nights and odd shifts so my wife had to do a lot of bedtime

She got the bad habit of having one of us lay next to her toddler bed until she falls asleep. Gradually this has gotten worse and worse

I tried to sleep train her again last month, gradually moving to the door then hallway etc but it hasnt stuck. She will run out of the room and make a game out of it. Bedtime ends up being 2 hours and usually ends in tears

To complicate things, our new daughter was born 4 weeks ago so there is some significant adjustments.

For reference bedtime is 8, she has an hour a nap a day and goes to daycare. She is definitely overtired at bedtime. 

I'm not sure what to do. I have tried sleep training , sticker charts etc. She doesnt remember any of the bedtime because she is too exhausted, so we cant discuss it in the morning. Any thoughts or ideas?",3.5581399521531085,4.975279679425839,4.40963815789474,86.7134046052632,72.77990430622009,7.521650717703348,28.85197368421053,8.07648339933343,1.8081409090909089,819,33,170,12,16,264,133,209,0.096,0.8490000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.7741,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,13,0,20,6,5,1,1,23,26,14,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,7,10,0,0,5,2,0,3,4,4,1,1,8,0,19,2,25,16,5,32,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,4,21,107,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818865052220127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024042828000914,0.0,0.0,0.16738394103984375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055169877332045,0.075022464409168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937011118278127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800737321189095,0.0,0.2745116570590911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759887019896947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843049839143576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249137490985417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24239875410217265,0.0,0.0,0.13893129932069634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003186560572713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20925980167843816,0.0,0.0,0.08215032815597402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823347622293196,0.1308041681227506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188619863156343,0.13088657620690775,0.11549306537855153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339556681423545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884193494896387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941456925760595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4926364032623634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599222679161672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176238624841392,0.0,0.0,0.09770400837615524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711320299954174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803832259491073,0.0,0.13554446117284405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871950778393238,0.0,0.11065490879485416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919317325644382,0.0,0.2508381387109629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925318729146792
parenting,ALP851520,2020/01/13,"Leaving window open. Do any of you leave a window open while your child is sleeping? My husband, son and I are sharing a room for the time being and it gets so hot in there. We were leaving the window open a crack until I noticed my son was coughing more at night. So we started leaving it closed but it is so hot even he has been asking me to open it. What do you or would do in this situation?",1.122078313253013,3.02493293975904,2.8152861445783164,93.3573870481928,81.04819277108435,4.6319277108433745,22.423192771084338,5.148860815047168,0.01584457831325281,306,10,67,1,8,101,57,83,0.013999999999999999,0.958,0.027999999999999997,0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,3,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,0,12,2,1,0,0,12,15,9,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,6,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,10,1,7,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,1,5,51,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395476649439667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18415192539615916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301049976787987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291515823981362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8343035517895188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485461040522766,0.0,0.0,0.22426573397114574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221416437251834,0.1971246284311736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942513543311325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486200410680406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993062403242826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fahrenheit1984,2020/01/13,"How do single or stay at home parents do it?! FTM of a delightful six month old. Dad is currently sick with a stomach bug, so I was on solo duty from 6:30am on. Haven't been solo for three months now.....I am exhausted! Trying to actually accomplish things while playing with bub during wake times and frantically using nap time to finish up... I will sleep hard tonight. Kudos to all of you doing this every day, working is much easier.",3.05147590361446,5.433546602409642,4.663478915662652,80.10678463855425,76.95180722891567,7.523493975903612,23.62801204819277,8.472884824447931,1.8072903614457845,340,11,61,7,8,114,72,83,0.10400000000000001,0.7340000000000001,0.163,0.7568,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,1,2,0,10,5,3,2,1,8,11,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,3,1,13,8,3,15,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,10,41,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.2520872544696278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665978037876963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21764936539262744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23140783401970103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591203368128879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123839856916244,0.0,0.18989808472794745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710678995286096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28683856612078595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585108601535656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753393341850358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161918735452358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012619551085641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753852438201633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310925548443813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806316807042675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IntrudingAlligator,2020/01/13,"Am I too tough on oldest daughter? My 10 y/o said I was, not in anger but as part of an discussion about the outbursts she's been having. Yesterday I scolded her for something and when I threatened to tell her dad she had a panic attack. Tonight she had another one and I'm taking her to the pediatrician on Monday because this is totally abnormal. 

She has issues from being a preemie. She has therapy to help her physical delays but she doesn't want to do it anymore. She struggles with school and I know it frustrates her dad, who is more goal and grade oriented than me. He doesn't show it because he knows she's trying but she senses it. 

She feels like she can't follow all the rules no matter how hard she tries. She says she's always in trouble, which is true lately. She feels ignored but I don't know what she wants me to do on that because she already seeks attention every minute of the day. 

We're strict and we have rules that some people might think are too much, but we do praise the kids and encourage them. No matter what we say, she's only hearing the negative. What do I do? Just try to go easier on her? It seems dismissive not to do something concrete to show that I heard her and I want to make things better.",2.915931259600616,4.715334875000004,4.05119815668203,87.05155913978497,75.25,6.981874039938557,24.712749615975426,7.793537801064563,1.2810846390168975,971,32,196,14,21,316,144,248,0.155,0.73,0.115,-0.8809,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,1,3,6,13,3,2,9,0,25,0,0,2,3,41,43,15,0,3,8,3,3,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,15,11,0,2,8,2,0,2,9,8,0,1,6,8,41,5,23,35,6,16,1,0,0,0,46,6,0,3,9,142,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282055141730264,0.0,0.12276999473702607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471472362585098,0.0,0.0,0.14632586968320624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16785474291125935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698278033542577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049234377811764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951548886994259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431377046139465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920726392377107,0.1054068086626781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838537257966016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217213066254166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629493402722434,0.0,0.09889689558495504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399956876347626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432620767614523,0.0,0.16643818324887885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208346585395414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984880229574236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652286592455858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846320122892572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998090918582027,0.11221529308370903,0.0,0.17311330376585218,0.0,0.15977781360308646,0.0,0.10228973786856567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034992288811873,0.23466881725518335,0.0,0.14932431121383274,0.0,0.13432023091430548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271760591358041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424699309354994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093614208993648,0.0,0.12896160553834,0.0,0.1687315765482552,0.0,0.09802292887495828,0.09454144451340896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005219092173019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610791546338023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bananapancakes102,2020/01/13,"Advice please for a new dad! Dad fears! I am a stay at home dad (disabled vet) and my wife and I have a 9 month old boy. We have not been on a date alone since before he was born. I am planning a surprise date for her, however, I am having major anxiety in the fact our child has not been away from either of us at the same time since he was very little. It may seem small but is very hard to get peace over. Our family is not too trust worthy of watching him and I have heard horror stories about babysitters. My family is not particularly bad with him, it is just that they do not see eye to eye with us and kind of imagine that he is still slow. He is incredibly strong and able to get around quick and is able to sit-up turn and jump, basically, in a 3 second span. I also am having a hard time being away not knowing how he may act. I guess am just overall looking to hear how maybe if anyone has been in my shoes and could relate and give advice. I am sorry for rambling. I know it is something that I eventually have to get over. I just have very strong fear and am very protective.",3.6072393538913374,4.053933189427315,4.763101321585904,87.8676182085169,71.73127753303963,7.639236417033775,23.50337738619677,7.554174236665415,0.7710642584434653,842,19,190,9,15,278,126,227,0.114,0.795,0.091,-0.3534,1,1,1,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,1,3,11,8,0,2,9,0,34,3,3,2,1,38,47,15,0,2,12,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,6,14,0,1,4,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,6,9,23,5,27,37,3,28,0,0,5,0,23,14,0,5,11,129,29,0,0.2363331540537763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23094202292421315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238493662483267,0.0,0.09449776895599404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039710798942502,0.0,0.0,0.08262481816696665,0.0,0.0,0.1051933063230944,0.0,0.0,0.2220427778452253,0.0,0.09866415599623177,0.0,0.0,0.10055105367023756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434639645408577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227938645298215,0.2659405028383925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521147805282287,0.11335614813935856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017380681280827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170808546993464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318232039453054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853071147174468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305230601071435,0.12988252082202606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843395365458773,0.0,0.0,0.09923016368967746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871420929096928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943194344079574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141260164351169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399594483191274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971141681842555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416346281212792,0.10757441369902294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549722723271126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909704040919198,0.0,0.13227780854144858,0.0,0.12594984854730065,0.0943679810556631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378077626696372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285313034184667,0.0,0.0,0.2842796853929348,0.0,0.0,0.3899992058090405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tukitukiyumyum,2020/01/13,"When is someone else allowed do get involved in your child’s life? I’ve posted a couple times here when I talk about someones kids other than my own, and I wonder, when is it ok to say something as a non parent to that specific child and when is it not? When I talk about my best friends kids I get a lot of ‘not your kid not your business’ but I know that as parents sometimes we don’t want to see something that is wrong with out child and our blindness or denial could damage them. So when is ok to say something and when is it not?",4.190446428571431,4.346933580357142,4.5571428571428605,90.88785714285716,70.33928571428572,6.757142857142857,27.607142857142854,5.288315135182226,0.7631464285714284,419,13,93,1,7,132,66,112,0.07400000000000001,0.828,0.09699999999999999,-0.3591,3,0,3,0,0,0,6.0,2,3,1,1,11,6,0,0,3,2,9,2,0,1,0,19,15,16,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,6,7,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,4,13,4,13,14,3,11,0,1,2,0,20,2,0,3,8,67,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893590384095915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440654330783847,0.1996517311736074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073318539174646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394063116110444,0.0,0.18854330283300155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916426230780104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744902507932498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340233166679668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007111271623884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281017309572833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869838216407346,0.0,0.0,0.1437860963432918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30576985421930336,0.4167310407831861,0.17845825715548533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29005920894956344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521512085639796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642728253361623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567781991571484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19728113739874475,0.0,0.0
parenting,MurderfaceII,2020/01/13,Tween self esteem My 12 year old son thinks he is ugly and no girl will ever want to date him. Middle school has been rough for him. He doesn't have any close friends and he spends most of his free time watching YouTube.  We've tried to get him in several activities but nothing is sticking. I dont know what to do to help build him up.,2.1667619047619056,3.838581485714286,2.782857142857144,95.8904761904762,77.0,5.80952380952381,21.666666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.07595238095238077,264,7,61,2,6,82,59,70,0.052000000000000005,0.8240000000000001,0.124,0.6465,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,9,13,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,7,3,8,11,1,9,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,1,5,31,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914934616046173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34322026615985063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264901325388038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262566649420915,0.0,0.15300303983073768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962924671879301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609437550704719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809993130169158,0.0,0.3072988243291752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29638177503885765,0.0,0.0,0.30550841849092963,0.3308393096916054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764768383559852,0.0,0.0,0.17076430809580148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988272286181697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727316484212756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885870332862033
parenting,Thesealiferocks,2020/01/13,"3 year old won’t stay in bed at night Hi all,

My toddler won’t stay in bed. She goes to bed around 8, sleeps till 12-3am and then comes in our room. This has been going on for months. 

I can’t sleep with her there, so I always come to my toddlers bed to sleep. 

She is very quiet when she comes in, usually my wife and I don’t notice it until a bit later and my back starts to hurt, and then I leave. 

Any idea how to keep her in her room all night? 

Thanks",0.16754901960784352,1.4762849705882388,1.7868627450980412,102.43754901960787,81.64705882352942,4.925490196078432,14.274509803921573,5.033348758259628,-1.3903607843137258,345,3,93,1,9,112,67,102,0.048,0.9209999999999999,0.03,-0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,7,3,3,1,2,14,14,11,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,6,0,2,9,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,1,15,1,17,11,3,30,0,1,0,0,9,10,0,0,14,55,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352268380623986,0.0,0.0,0.10912411289152353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285102582131087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339040550997757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519008949403814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41468832642883663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119797178046198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178489566747632,0.18114945432702986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263181534522085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699130186888251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280844611792996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011777169604855,0.0,0.0,0.18269450137551765,0.16838474363109412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817532985850748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135804616519968,0.3420762346181834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773787605284314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673343082924906,0.1324033547538729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333648142444617
parenting,ravenqueen7,2020/01/13,"15 month old barely talking- worried Hi all,

My son had his 15-month baby well-check last week and I told the doctor he barely says anything aside from Mama and Dada.  When he started daycare, he seemed to start picking up words (Bah for ball, mil for milk) but we noticed since he was about 13 months, he seemed to even stop saying Mama or Dada as much.  at first, we chalked it up to him starting to walk and climb on practically everything.  Basically, we figured he was just super focused on his physical milestones (all normal) but the doctor told us he should be saying more words and not continuing to drop words he already said.  She told us that if by 17 months he doesn't say at least four more words aside from also saying Mama and Dada, to rebook an appointment and she will refer us to a specialist.

I am really worried now.  I thought maybe he was just a late talker but now I am wondering if something else is going on.  He seems to understand everything we tell him, follow most commands (except when distracted) and if we ask him to find something, he knows what to look for, so he seems to know most words we tell him.  He will reach, wave, gesture, tug at us, etc to get our attention.  he recently started pointing to want to know what something is, though he doesn't point to get a need met so far.

Does anyone have any advice for how to get him to speak?  We (along with his daycare) drill words to him constantly, repeat his babbling (he does make a lot of noises), etc but I'm not sure what else we could be doing other than your typical serve-and-return stuff.",5.229313725490201,5.9961580424836605,5.570464052287587,82.37608823529412,68.24836601307189,8.211503267973857,28.3718954248366,8.238735603445708,1.8577024836601308,1235,40,237,16,20,394,174,306,0.03,0.9259999999999999,0.044000000000000004,0.6689,0,0,3,0,0,0,44.0,13,1,0,3,13,3,0,1,7,0,18,3,0,3,3,65,48,23,0,8,13,1,0,0,0,3,2,7,0,0,7,17,1,1,14,1,0,4,4,1,0,2,10,8,31,2,40,32,11,37,0,0,1,0,61,11,0,12,21,145,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004294140311434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039134504940308,0.06550457372369914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055702609108990116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0572744050237389,0.0,0.06740616128095678,0.0,0.07657616810103761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851720051213556,0.0,0.06539964435530729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767972280396096,0.14336256043735138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368530466541439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270588485407752,0.054101754035989005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723349681271228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486560049549375,0.06967385534428172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838608839787713,0.0,0.046552176590609264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504920678976465,0.06676878140140392,0.09239970704242703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878500566560636,0.0,0.0,0.069638203418476,0.0,0.0,0.05467654291110551,0.0,0.08229108221774256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26152381852023626,0.0,0.06021435600177435,0.0607363178118173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025585007749518,0.0,0.0932567525804171,0.08595230976790758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486563234701622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247458575268183,0.0,0.08087769568813727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779165664101104,0.3256964469196982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982765070871819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775801521836672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891783565056077,0.0,0.0,0.2319094429334421,0.0,0.0,0.0684816574658044,0.0,0.0,0.09376903708828216,0.0,0.0,0.07720059198650096,0.0,0.0,0.06583733759701375,0.14318847200639478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047760431962664,0.06502855833300017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348097621907269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527273002054249,0.3941176562304504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04831350781844573,0.0,0.06570444117110777,0.0,0.07364824955487816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882949613420968,0.0,0.16637014965119845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WTFparent,2020/01/13,"Difficulties raising a tween who has mental health difficulties. Has anyone raised or is raising, a psychopathic child. 

I've raised my daughter from birth.  I don't even know another man that could claim such a claim.

I've suspected since she was 3.  At 7, after her mother and I, remarried, she tried to murder her mother, twice.  At 10, she lied to her therapist and CPS took her out of the home and placed her with her grandmother for a week.  She never showed any regret, guilt, or shame about her matricidal attempts, and unfortunately, her grandmother never quite believing before, after that week passed with absolutely not a drop of remorse, sadness, or care shown for almost putting her father in jail, grandma understood what she had been hearing for years.

She has had 4 mental health hospitalizations.  Yet still, being as manipulative as possible has the therapist and case manager approaching my wife to talk to her about my ""temper and anger problem"" and ever so nicely, ""is your husband very controlling?""  

I refuse to give up on my child.  However, at every turn, it becomes more and more apparent that I am alone in making the parenting decisions and directions, constantly aware, of the facts at hand.  Whereas, the professionals, that are supposed to help my child to grow up and be a stable good citizen; are also ready and willing at a moment's notice to pounce on me or my wife. 

How can I raise my daughter under the constant threat of what she might do or say, not just from her, but also for her?   
 While keeping an eye on the state department of mental health workers, well-intentioned as they may be, from being a danger to her, myself, or my wife's?

My wife and I are a team, however, she is recovering from some very bad traumas, and at this time is truly not able to do more than she can, and that is enough for me.   

I believe my experiences would be so different if I was the mother and a woman.  

This mountain that I unwittingly began the journey of climbing, believing it to be then and still now, as what would define my life.   I look around and I see where I am at becoming more and more untenable.  I refuse to give in or give up.

Just knowing, without any details, that someone else could relate, would be, refreshing and very helpful.

However, it still stands, that I don't know, what I don't know.  I can't help but strongly believe I can do right by my daughter.  

Not asking for medical, mental, or legal anything.  

I and my wife would take benefit from any other that might be able to turn my post into a discussion.",6.893637593984963,7.224749707368424,7.223124060150379,73.49161842105265,64.5578947368421,10.490977443609022,33.174812030075195,10.290406445055957,3.3918075187969916,2001,77,358,44,28,652,233,475,0.1,0.8270000000000001,0.073,-0.8989,7,1,0,0,0,0,74.0,0,1,1,7,19,17,5,2,21,0,47,7,2,4,4,74,67,42,1,9,18,14,1,0,0,8,5,2,1,6,20,25,0,4,7,2,0,8,11,12,0,1,8,6,59,5,63,41,7,56,0,2,3,0,59,23,0,14,21,273,79,5,0.15530959798493554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776006397848245,0.0804269522941733,0.0,0.1242010293967407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842377863420468,0.08142782759025705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054298041019543296,0.0,0.06390328295311577,0.06912923487674716,0.07259675443064342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483851351558972,0.0,0.1715272489189558,0.06607851439638814,0.3499614651021684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079174242993874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678345006762086,0.08709646019163671,0.12400207633396393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113273696568214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487062011204013,0.0,0.0,0.08023816579545785,0.0,0.051290262354673065,0.07024321150983161,0.06542751737517155,0.0,0.0,0.07596129420229522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234806775265893,0.0,0.06513316108789842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24763026008064906,0.08752260224339399,0.0,0.1561511246152234,0.0,0.07789409497474145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690231533669929,0.0,0.0,0.17070818671128016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0548498810536215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521047329278387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05183518132686872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822904028570908,0.31303109112304073,0.1647589400897625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978433649899245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841050334546678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622646445525878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113273696568214,0.0,0.0,0.08754411801605498,0.07437183166569454,0.0,0.0,0.0743051551261099,0.0,0.07806452138683166,0.0,0.08259543744663612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631677404095437,0.0,0.06175421299421754,0.0,0.0,0.061880820796278525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423685218912015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579665918697038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604566835853384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838674458335943,0.062415985918640025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18032641374672906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04528113777585911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627733897123924,0.052722511121004775,0.16893224433385728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922200255117307,0.0,0.0,0.12457999137298002,0.0,0.06982099026067337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485645511077464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22065496471688287,0.0,0.0,0.0500071445385551
parenting,notracistdaughter,2020/01/13,"My daughter is being accused of racism. Hi all. 

I'm white, my wife is black. We have two kids. Laura (15) and Sam (12). 

Unfortunately Laura has been bullied by an awful girl named Charlotte for several years now, and at this point we're thinking of quitting the school. It's truly awful. She calls Laura a n****r and a monkey, calls her ugly and stupid and all kinds of horrible things.

A few days ago Charlotte and her gang were tormenting Laura and her friends. She tried to walk up to one of Laura's friends but Laura tripped her and she hit the ground face first. She broke her nose and had to go to hospital.

Charlotte's parents have complained to the school, and have reported this as a racist attack. Now, Charlotte is white. I, Laura's father am also white and so are the majority of her friends. I highly doubt that she hates white people. However, what none of us knew is that Charlotte's mother is Jewish. Laura herself didn't know this until the racism accusation came. Charlotte isn't religious and has never mentioned being Jewish.

The problem is Charlotte has many more friends than Laura, and has convinced them to lie that earlier in the day Laura insulted her for being Jewish, which making it possible that tripping her was racially motivated.  

I refuse to accept it. Laura didn't even know Charlotte was Jewish, and even if she did, we didn't raise her to be a racist.

I don't want my daughter to have a racist incident on file if she didn't do it. How do we go about this and get it sorted?",4.036356321839083,5.9999100551724185,4.6252586206896575,83.42352011494256,72.58620689655173,6.902298850574713,26.56609195402299,7.645422480735847,1.55519540229885,1196,42,219,15,24,381,149,290,0.222,0.703,0.075,-0.9937,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,4,0,1,3,8,15,4,1,14,2,34,2,2,3,3,39,47,23,0,4,3,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,16,19,0,1,6,0,0,6,8,8,0,3,12,6,29,7,26,30,6,22,4,1,5,0,42,7,0,4,9,153,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051138577981747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177405664014876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749650165882374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006785964649569,0.16839302533105088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189903611854622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19448935551829105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252346015747461,0.0,0.0,0.455001178594652,0.0,0.0769221135091953,0.0,0.1673495246948653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14536011746139887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555762037046264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331841552214434,0.16182859908956984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827782649778097,0.14926911110155874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355361299274272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976752655804838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634825864660076,0.0,0.0,0.10207142766076466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391808711371348,0.1659808149802578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408801697311563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565982767514933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29801123646715555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632910667366307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781372503478956,0.0943396709745614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996017507498586,0.0,0.14382327993340682,0.0,0.1771007482207745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684065023277072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481192789928757
parenting,Scarady,2020/01/13,"My son's first crush is on a cartoon character. My 3.5 year old boy is in love with Doc McStuffins. We limit screens to one show in the morning and one show when his sister goes down for her nap. He always picks Doc McStuffins and I always loved that. I have heard that young boys usually prefer shows with male leads so I liked that he picked a show where the main character is a girl. I also liked that he started pretending to treat his stuffed animals for owies. 

Welp. Turns out he loves watching Doc McStuffins so much because he has a bit of a crush on her and thinks she beautiful. You can't win them all.",2.8010283159463505,4.8581124262295114,3.0502086438152034,92.948219076006,76.37704918032787,6.403576751117736,24.205663189269746,7.348242739294969,0.8980885245901646,484,16,102,6,11,148,83,122,0.047,0.75,0.203,0.9711,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,1,4,5,7,0,0,7,0,6,3,0,3,1,14,13,7,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,7,0,1,2,6,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,3,14,7,13,12,4,15,0,0,2,3,23,7,0,0,9,58,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375562179940052,0.3615822481625245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324494962613797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23720923145527684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481494299270892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230025866376173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.588300500420406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972293648486824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279947212817933,0.0,0.2944638223222082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378914466347465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922175416279178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363340086532963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392989319232419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991868724297638
parenting,stronglikeamama,2020/01/13,"Teen Girls Can Be The Worst My 15 year old DD had a pretty frustrating night last night. She is a freshman at a small school and has a group of friends. Most of them she met in 8th grade, and they seemed to make a good group. She had changed schools for 8th grade, for many reasons. She was lonely at her old school, and wanted to meet the kids she would eventually go to high school with. She became quite close with 2 girls, P and B. Unfortunately, P, her closest friend, moved to public school for high school. B is at DD’s school. To add to all of this, DD’s cousin is a freshman at DD’s high school too. 

Her cousin C became a part of DD’s friend group, and it has been rough. DD is a great kid, but can be less mature. She is great in one on one situations, but put her in a group, and she doesn’t get the social cues at times. She can be awkward. She is very small for her age, which is part of the maturity delay.

B and C have gotten closer and closer, and are beginning to exclude DD from chats, etc. last night was the group holiday get together, and B called DD ‘ugly.’ No one knew how to respond, because B always says she is just making a joke/being funny, but she doesn’t do this to anyone else. DD told me she does this every.single.day. at school too. At the party, B also decided to start a discussion about what they think of each other, setting DD up for someone to call her out for wearing her hair the same way every day(???) DD’s good friend P finally said something at that point...that all the girls wear their hair the same way...why treating DD like this.

It all makes me livid. B tries to manage everyone at lunch...and tried to move DD’s seat down. I’ve told DD to start sitting with other friends. B is NOt a friend. She is a little bitch in the making. But mostly, I am so upset her cousin doesn’t have her back. At all. When she spends time with DD over the summer or holidays, they seem tight. Really tight. They grew up together. But now this? I’m pissed. On top of all of this, C has been flirting hard with DD’s first boyfriend. They broke up earlier this year. It’s just a lot for DD to take. 

I’m glad she knows she can talk to me. I just wish these other girls would have DD’s back. There are a few sophomores who have witnessed the crap behavior, and have her back. It’s potentially going to mess up my relationship with my niece C...she is old enough to know what she is doing. Help.",1.4371505376344125,3.4327702419354864,2.5714516129032283,95.03134408602152,80.45161290322581,5.746236559139786,18.599462365591396,6.816661863887847,-0.11000860215053798,1864,41,427,20,48,594,226,496,0.094,0.769,0.13699999999999998,0.9740000000000001,0,2,1,0,0,0,84.0,0,0,7,3,15,24,4,2,27,0,43,6,6,6,5,61,70,21,0,4,10,3,6,1,6,2,0,2,0,6,20,21,0,3,8,3,1,6,5,10,0,4,12,8,43,14,64,53,18,69,0,2,0,0,72,34,3,6,27,252,63,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528667093649639,0.05500732415785463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046224395524090765,0.06773567052057251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524993920217909,0.0,0.040298949477848726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500774165952456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993371751780088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526864921849371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785173756284176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05522492424492265,0.0,0.0,0.06830744981245017,0.07372812587554088,0.0,0.0,0.05569901573835249,0.06316922492646382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241830957733385,0.0,0.05623160722119222,0.0,0.0,0.3064502210833883,0.0,0.06907761942918615,0.0,0.07514163516285335,0.11089685533139916,0.0,0.14576906350683522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059219968621502764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044310937744191835,0.2095408513049262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266268352943353,0.10777402432660216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03229713075367807,0.06625779080262129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05620283365787093,0.0,0.0,0.1765109664161727,0.06702334594572587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052512415272214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611422232205535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810832838547216,0.0,0.13438989615406727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431774922679474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249362380743932,0.0,0.0,0.06725581299001783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645700738420675,0.0,0.07031421571257855,0.0,0.0,0.04235061029074726,0.06797024724542694,0.0,0.07097547416160414,0.0,0.0,0.0628840436164676,0.052571899706220136,0.0,0.6021453147622715,0.0,0.12036485785777698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430839464973728,0.0,0.0673889919755595,0.056013269379785464,0.050893327610522274,0.0,0.0,0.09358345854037113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04970514450077247,0.05313527276409215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04235946980237597,0.0,0.0,0.07709645442194868,0.0,0.0,0.12633844985292764,0.0,0.08976626638163372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454619430135624,0.038992333375273865,0.10494723548664607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965237446925931,0.0,0.0760211756705486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939227472290977,0.0,0.0,0.08514303590984283
parenting,Oodles_of_noodles_,2020/01/13,"Don't want a baby. Don't want a toddler. Want kids. I have no idea how stupid this will make me sound, but here goes:

My husband and I want kids, but we have absolutely no want to have to be home every single night at a certain time with no independence because we have a small child.

The baby part doesn't sound nearly as terrible to me as having a toddler. I have zero interest in having a small child hanging off of me, screaming because he can't stick a fork in an outlet or his sandwich was cut the wrong way... essentially toddlers. 

I have a career. My husband has a career. We enjoy each other. I was extremely close to my grandmother and want to be a grandparent. Having teenagers and being a parent with a semi independent child (middle school, teenager) sounds okay - but I don't want the first 10 years. I feel obligated to have a family lineage to carry on. 

What the hell can I do? Is having small children that bad?",2.7111829347123444,4.8903392197802225,4.340239172592117,83.01358435681966,77.13186813186812,6.699935358758888,24.44214608920491,7.724431198458867,1.4046389140271498,726,25,137,11,17,243,104,182,0.22899999999999998,0.7020000000000001,0.069,-0.9767,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,0,1,2,11,3,0,18,1,26,1,0,4,1,28,35,10,0,7,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,6,4,10,1,0,2,0,0,1,8,7,0,2,2,5,18,4,18,29,3,17,1,0,0,0,14,11,1,1,4,101,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489455260000022,0.2174858739705943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502985719741415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816719814252948,0.0,0.09019772553224853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173572015809556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17893650423551768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137698283168784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907457357392395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674039266719139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19807742971036865,0.1931755197237144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18053696427324634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401877708504652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7365200915292989,0.14159513787795533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950379611517276,0.0,0.11487524995868932
parenting,mecrjzak,2020/01/13,"Mom and her husband act like I’m some neglectful child abuser Every time my child has been sick they act like I need to take her to the ER. I do when it’s necessary. She had a broken arm a few months ago and I mentioned she might need physical therapy. When it turned out she has movement in that arm like normal again I still get questioned why I didn’t bring her to therapy. She has eczema and anytime her skin has any scratches it’s like- why don’t you take care of her?! It’s cold and her skin got dry again.... ugh I can’t keep it perfect every minute! Now my daughter spent the night over and had a fever. The next day I pick her up and notice bumps on her hand. I don’t accuse or anything. I call the doctor and the doctor says it’s likely hand foot mouth virus :(, and so my mom calls to check on her fever and I let her know she broke out into rashes and the doctor says it’s hand foot mouth, not the common season but common for little kids. I asked the doctor if I need to bring her in and she said no and even said she can go back to school in a couple days and won’t be contagious. Now my mom and her husband are texting me why am I not taking care of her and bringing her to the doctor tomorrow. I know they are concerned but it’s hard enough to have a sick kid and then be judged like you’re a neglectful moron when you are taking the doctors advice. My daughter loves them cos they spend tons of money on her and take her places, and I appreciate that, but their lack of respect in my competence as a parent is making it hard to have a relationship with them. Just venting but any advice for a direct kind way to make it clear it’s rude and hurtful ... I’m open to. I am a soft spoken person and try not to be a jerk, and when I do lose my shit on them they act like how dare you, we really love your daughter and do things for her! I hate it.",1.825636055991385,3.3004252030456875,3.14250576834333,93.79773342562684,77.42639593908629,5.9940316874327015,19.553607137363482,6.574015621080383,-0.057261252115059065,1446,30,332,12,33,470,186,394,0.145,0.721,0.134,-0.5548,1,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,1,4,8,3,14,25,5,0,21,0,29,25,13,5,2,58,60,36,0,6,10,9,9,7,0,2,10,4,0,5,15,28,0,3,3,0,4,8,9,11,1,0,8,14,63,14,34,46,5,47,0,5,0,2,63,16,1,5,29,214,78,7,0.0,0.09343508953601673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412031913594934,0.06990379753294093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725372833748174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489428615591909,0.0,0.07372257477709851,0.0,0.0,0.06063774852939415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610478319894259,0.0,0.16080413223190182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725604862654587,0.0,0.10171513814323904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842935292886766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148248808401229,0.0,0.05208566459251107,0.0,0.13288431638577444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04120060342953021,0.0,0.044817420417402457,0.0,0.06307079322552818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128445435413314,0.07785699431257967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442025343526674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009355480637527,0.0,0.0821195745696286,0.08667775273554817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063873047625343,0.0,0.26968586959504504,0.07903749392446995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822311541864414,0.0,0.0,0.14234675884023038,0.0,0.10527806818431262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365699938120054,0.0,0.2770763296791478,0.06294454836592042,0.0,0.0,0.17541897861718608,0.0,0.0,0.08386750365841361,0.07400388461414939,0.07726513424948425,0.0,0.0897815611053802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087563652444556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068856688398693,0.08239093213922558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834019358690262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051913236171627,0.0,0.0,0.08466511696028704,0.0,0.0,0.1500260469018243,0.1254237774394323,0.0,0.07980957757849101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094769061158606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297694621514095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964609903911317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036441272024564,0.0,0.05239045459459106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04598335134750578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05354012447303057,0.08577601101344089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259465027950759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347410444483605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thrway010101,2020/01/13,"Better to tell teen the social truth or let him find out the hard way? I have a 15 year old son who is an amazing, interesting, smart, talented person who I love to spend time with, but who has always been quirky/socially awkward.  He’s on the spectrum, but is so high functioning he’s never needed any classroom support - just really, really socially awkward.  

He’s in 10th grade, and has not had the easiest time making friends, but seems to have a couple of people (other quirky kids) who genuinely like him and want to spend time with him.  

There’s a winter dance coming up, and he mentioned he was going to ask this girl who he’d never mentioned before.  I asked if she was part of his friend group, or if he knows her well, and he said they had a couple of conversations at orchestra rehearsal.  He then said, “Yeah, I sent her two messages asking if she wanted to go, but it’s weird, she hasn’t seen them...”. 

I asked my younger sister, who is far more knowledgeable about social media stuff, and she said, “Oh, that’s a bad sign.  He doesn’t realize she just didn’t open the messages bc she probably guessed what it was, and this is her way of not replying...”. When I told my sister the girl’s name, she looked her up, and said, “Um, she’s...really, really popular.”  Apparently she has some crazy number of followers and she gets hundreds of likes and comments and whatevers.  My sister explained that my son, by those numbers, literally doesn’t have 1/10th of the social currency this girl has.  

So, do I let him figure this painful social truth out on his own?  Social skills/ideas that other kids/teens know intuitively he doesn’t always get, so part of me feels like I should gently explain that he’s more likely to find dates in his friend group/social circle (I wouldn’t say, “She’s out of your league,” or something like that).  Any advice?",5.117627118644067,6.127926426553675,5.462500000000002,82.17052966101697,68.63276836158192,8.611864406779661,26.331920903954806,8.841846274778883,1.8372734463276843,1441,41,278,24,24,459,184,354,0.06,0.77,0.17,0.9904,2,0,1,0,0,0,65.0,0,1,2,1,9,24,0,2,13,1,28,2,0,1,4,56,59,25,0,8,14,5,2,5,3,2,1,5,0,5,22,17,0,0,11,2,3,6,10,5,2,1,14,9,39,19,30,40,6,32,0,0,2,1,84,13,0,9,16,171,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821179651987719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984759444541842,0.0,0.0,0.11429327398792645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31424527869395097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016565998578422,0.0,0.0,0.0715075396105115,0.0,0.0,0.07432207034790482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238865492426423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18596611283101613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04249058774136488,0.06003457384362961,0.0,0.0,0.1536128150291817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19477554531099175,0.0,0.08780956949901332,0.0,0.09551797947909987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257395429634556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527879497541191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878752190934283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486521203954196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923668043584428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718628276932379,0.0,0.2052761206139344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705681800597325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584480913440725,0.0,0.056093971176684236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231083896897255,0.1296258438187395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818052733380026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941909498182737,0.0,0.0,0.18200328937051927,0.0,0.05825924244768705,0.07337606323847327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060387235460418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956501528039071,0.16150479221985606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197458652424933,0.06682795265810862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765022480409604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5139781964037546,0.0,0.06469419798743144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619989457356834,0.0,0.09536184756672128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345023655408142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470043379165283,0.0,0.0,0.08029898094657721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208992004216609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913196302182258,0.1334060386612043,0.0,0.0,0.0755574981114155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054115742485499364
parenting,tamlovee,2020/01/13,I don't know what to feed my children. I feel horrible right now. My 4 year old is crying because she wants us to name spaghetti but I've already made chicken and dumplings for dinner but she refuses to eat it. I'm so over making 2 meals or making what I like to eat and then tossing her a hot pocket because I know she won't eat what I cooked. I compromise most of the time but sometimes I want to eat something I know she won't. I don't know what to do.,1.054545454545455,2.7125423333333347,2.8838383838383836,93.97909090909091,80.21212121212122,5.612121212121212,24.131313131313128,6.42735559955562,0.5452101010101011,357,13,82,3,9,119,60,99,0.067,0.879,0.054000000000000006,-0.0129,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,8,0,3,0,19,17,8,0,2,4,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,2,8,1,5,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,17,1,9,14,1,7,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,6,49,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478956397695592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204156709934814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839402673445753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6853886575314492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466973303634882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36811317904348656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180952655639058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844894732855322,0.22355358289642416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571471954691062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300473214804035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891420815212667,0.1656162079947672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764372698521652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014264468867024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19753732039474267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783483385075553
parenting,lego--lass,2020/01/13,"Is a kid saying “What the hell” bad? My 3 yr old has picked up the saying, although they actually say “What my hell”. 

My husband says it’s pretty bad and that when he was a kid it was something that wouldn’t have been okay to say. Is this still the case today? 

I have never told him that it’s bad or something he shouldn’t say though. I honestly don’t think I will, I was just wondering what the average person would think of they heard a kid say it..",1.1508304093567254,2.99690630526316,2.6866666666666674,94.60111111111117,80.6842105263158,5.906432748538013,18.976608187134506,6.937597516519254,0.008730994152046813,349,8,81,4,9,114,57,95,0.196,0.7240000000000001,0.079,-0.932,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,4,7,2,0,7,1,14,0,0,1,1,11,19,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,8,0,4,11,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,6,8,10,2,3,9,0,6,2,0,0,0,19,1,2,2,5,53,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.13689398065714772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513862248179201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081933239791196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720126915148726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248792290792902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427161676817855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7808993459726006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159902721932858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202855542967703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977274904474586,0.13782533041995576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296994694200975,0.13404446836843215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212871654468293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965156874002357,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Severe-Serve,2020/01/13,"My 5-year-old really tested my patience this weekend. Single dad here to a 5-year-old daughter She really tested my patience this weekend. I took her grocery shopping, a normal errand that she’s usually too eager to “help” me with, but she ran away from me every chance she got. Then I put her in the shopping cart and she screamed like you wouldn’t believe, so I tried to carry her, and again screaming, she wouldn’t stop until I put her back down. Then she finally stopped running away, but now she wouldn’t come with me and instead opted to just sit down in the middle of the aisle, finally picked her up and had to carry her back to the car with her crying, without getting the groceries.

We get home, she says she wants to color, so I put out her coloring book and crayons, and then she proceeded to throw everything on the floor, screaming that she doesn’t want to color and asking me why I’m making her color...

And then at dinner, she’s crying that she doesn’t want to eat, that the food I cook is disgusting. I finally had enough of her and I put her to bed early, which was a struggle in itself.

I feel so defeated and lost, I don’t understand this sudden change in her behavior, and why she’s being so difficult when she’s generally been a very good kid. Could it be perhaps now that the holidays are over and she’s back in school? Is it just because she recently turned five? Is she just going to be like this forever now? What do I do?",5.616643598615916,5.611952671280278,6.1472664359861575,81.26858131487892,67.26989619377163,9.29134948096886,30.148788927335637,9.007467420416297,2.3095107266435986,1138,38,227,18,17,370,144,289,0.146,0.778,0.076,-0.9793,0,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,1,1,0,2,18,12,1,1,12,0,20,4,0,2,0,39,37,24,0,8,6,2,1,2,0,3,0,4,2,1,14,18,4,2,2,7,2,11,7,8,0,1,8,9,51,4,34,22,2,53,0,2,4,0,39,16,0,0,27,170,65,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007064369219278,0.0,0.20241855569961692,0.2484969474747701,0.0,0.0656669236442231,0.0,0.0,0.1213669002382446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395662040575975,0.09279380159717182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600802733161342,0.0,0.2366572520623181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022749302510024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130662583726532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076124963404444,0.0,0.09681446086464177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446797115852765,0.0,0.0,0.3540157498204109,0.0,0.0,0.130259044863671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125616131277678,0.0,0.0612214472421102,0.09035291770365264,0.08615590107625626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722044371665616,0.0,0.10805492371781956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525600526113192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759234866385893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190592003142705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554564042406618,0.0,0.0,0.22607427549821454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331653590048114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802018803380522,0.0,0.10636343866751807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566563070676855,0.0,0.10902139832303798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012245556057402,0.0,0.11261543909016886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968418509948367,0.07313682660077628,0.11717165968032732,0.0,0.1121434124993515,0.0,0.0,0.1186416342402477,0.0888827332394603,0.19061339898239607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19440645328100326,0.0,0.0,0.10384110052763323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874012375936162
parenting,ktgdraws,2020/01/13,"Enraged when my kid won’t eat my food. I’m the step parent of two kids who I love and I am fierce when it comes to their well being. However, my fierceness does not stop at external forces when it comes to food. 

I don’t know why I’m like this, but when my kids don’t eat my food, I become so angry I can hardly function. It generally comes out to them as probably mild to moderate frustration because I am toning it way down for them, but usually I get so mad I have to go to another room and make my husband deal with whatever we have going on. It’s not great if we have things to do and I can’t help them get ready - not that he needs a lot of help, he is pretty good at that kind of thing. 

It hasn’t been much of an issue because normally I stick to stuff they like, but I’m worried because the older one wants to be with us during the weekdays next school year (high school) instead of the weekends, and I can’t cycle out the same five recipes or I’ll go crazy (I’m very passionate and adventurous about food and cooking). Today we tried a recipe that the whole family loved except the oldest, and I could hardly figure out what to do when she would barely touch her dinner. 

I feel like an awful person and a jerk. I don’t know why I can’t just stop caring and let her be. I have a few ideas as to why I’m like this:

- My mom used to also get angry when I wouldn’t eat my food as a kid
- Cooking and food is incredibly important to me and it’s how I show love, therefore maybe I’m feeling rejected 
- I worry a lot about the kids diets as they don’t seem to get great nutrition at their other house, and it feels like a loss if they don’t eat the healthy dishes I make them 

Any advice?? I am miserable and would prefer to just not care about this over forcing either of them to eat.",4.095700355626935,3.9838010158311365,5.314094298497189,86.31273144430426,70.50395778364116,8.491040495583343,25.713089365607434,8.18289091462,1.2877377767580591,1391,35,314,18,23,465,183,379,0.149,0.68,0.171,0.6356,2,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,0,10,1,17,24,4,1,18,1,31,20,0,5,0,65,63,33,0,10,14,3,6,5,0,4,0,0,1,6,20,24,16,2,9,4,0,7,15,7,1,3,1,6,47,17,42,53,7,34,0,3,0,4,35,11,0,6,20,205,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027258172511586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057508825009127185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04890332716785178,0.07540708334715877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151254890336464,0.07942229295755009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664025596825855,0.0,0.0,0.18584012609749773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741670373663989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413917739918091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629315781507728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679249197434185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779320564869264,0.0,0.1090841678447212,0.10274936760907606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5217451361221529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028636264744993,0.0,0.12260949847421518,0.060317238616921474,0.0,0.15856874138102806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288399014581766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640357780277736,0.07598006568285155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829779826897657,0.0,0.08118105885578926,0.0,0.07505852090236112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488635564121295,0.07904304243602386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353594658214438,0.0,0.17566537270060334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227577485613722,0.19471295478726092,0.0,0.09600501337943007,0.0,0.07224630553331393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422367290972549,0.0,0.0,0.05286435229621972,0.05332260137241129,0.0,0.0,0.07648032443689137,0.0,0.07045950192017793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873013101411208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985091073075005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279168496335312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316140585539847,0.07753441051832233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555965350381342,0.0,0.06546692267155535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024502814560205,0.0,0.0,0.08232321559606436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955516449162508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681651449363909,0.0,0.0,0.04882422763847387,0.0,0.07024858203692574,0.0,0.08650252202528333,0.06210976956072911,0.0792020439875761,0.059335782019931074,0.042416168959861,0.05708121683087958,0.0,0.0,0.06465845138913816,0.0,0.194670975701302,0.08028833108856387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606234769789095,0.0,0.10216990805095014,0.0,0.0,0.046309634283101433
parenting,Dmharper80,2020/01/13,"Could someone explain what happened? I swear I didn't blink My toddler seems less like a toddler and more like a little girl. Being so independent, dressing herself, needing help less and less, etc. And it's wonderful but wow it goes by fast.


And with her speech issues, seizures, and ankle issues, sometimes I want to cry for joy how far she has come.",3.9090909090909065,6.276088393939396,3.8969696969696974,86.71545454545458,74.15151515151516,5.612121212121212,29.181818181818183,6.42735559955562,1.431472727272728,278,12,50,2,6,85,53,66,0.07,0.6709999999999999,0.258,0.9187,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,16,11,8,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,7,4,4,8,5,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,3,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21551060527008006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975086384311388,0.0,0.2748144097755044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790203118731547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22123610689413656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769247179356228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5222523556142572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24445367052219816,0.2507492118405621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185507613522303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22775731635127835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197934581662264,0.0,0.2474375029806729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756448627755273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27131292169048304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,F1tnessFanat1c,2020/01/13,"Newborn belly button redness This is our second child. Our first, we were told to use alcohol wipes to help the process of drying out the belly button. This time around we were told not to. 

Our daughter is just over 2 weeks old. There is still moisture in the belly button and it looks red/irritated. We cannot remember if this was how our sons looked (3 years ago). Should this be concerning or is it a normal part of the healing process? 

[belly button](https://imgur.com/gallery/zPHGuSC)",4.153770287141079,6.9728630786516925,3.7790262172284654,85.58204744069914,75.51685393258427,6.202746566791513,25.61922596754057,7.3871296695380915,1.4072986267166043,390,14,68,5,9,117,62,89,0.0,0.968,0.032,0.4019,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,7,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,5,0,10,2,0,2,0,15,15,4,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,6,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,5,3,7,0,9,8,1,11,0,0,3,0,14,4,0,2,7,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090789131504226,0.2542715583736015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118054347982391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238054771995007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947742370903592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995974401800572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331179007700297,0.0,0.0,0.2496643173062419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576517081609904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695248607142807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000877486573087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873712173835792,0.0,0.0,0.4546988062914352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549249856620186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085065303384804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321715929434926
parenting,Inotttalk,2020/01/13,Boy prefers to sit when peeing? My son is about 8 and I recently discovered he prefers to sit down when peeing.. This is my only child and don't have much experience with little boys.. I asked him why and he simply said it's more comfortable and that's what he prefers.. Just wondering if this is normal for boys?,2.5006989247311817,4.760478532258071,3.4754838709677434,88.5498924731183,78.19354838709677,7.359139784946238,23.23655913978495,8.344100000000001,1.39692688172043,247,8,51,5,6,79,44,62,0.0,0.9329999999999999,0.067,0.6063,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,12,8,7,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,6,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,3,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154262749633755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33004489332257714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381664621238988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480300396841207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33058331935024593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566101984946296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331447748191114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209475338103863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044537432835951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658991794355359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CloudySideDown,2020/01/13,Dad Taking Son to Undisclosed Address My son's dad is taking him multiple nights a week to a persons house. And I don't know where this person lives. Now I'm not saying if dad isnt spending a night he has our son at his house it's wrong or even that he needs to notify me. What I do want is to know the addresses of any place my son who is under the age of 13 is going and spending the night frequently. I want to know if this is an unreasonable request. Currently I am separated from my husband have been for 6 years but no divorce yet. We have a 50/50 custody agreement. I don't want to go to court over this if I dont have too.,1.8602005347593569,3.1638012500000063,3.808288770053476,89.78002673796793,76.94117647058823,7.0042780748663125,24.128342245989305,7.686295010490155,0.9970529411764706,494,16,113,7,11,168,84,136,0.039,0.897,0.064,0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,0,0,16,28,7,0,7,6,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,7,3,0,0,3,0,2,2,6,1,0,0,1,1,14,1,14,27,0,17,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,4,10,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787438152504595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314842795344404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448675202869653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970216157568521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000127989729889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857826945708066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15305880858118515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852640141449193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4879921060774122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027005097042322,0.18109916214053493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784369479155414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26065410633521097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067140809649596,0.0,0.13903963369721425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951563705752328,0.0,0.11162266078615846
parenting,shellyb8098,2020/01/13,"Hygiene advice I have a 6 year old daughter that seems to feel ""drip drying"" is better than a proper wipe. I've talked to her numerous times, grandma's have talked to her, her doctor, we started leaving wet wipes in the bathroom and advised her to use them, yet I still notice dirty underwear and she gets so red down there and complains it hurts. Her dad and I try and try to get her to clean, but still getting nowhere. Anyone else have this issue? What can we do?",3.827841614906831,5.275659641304352,4.029192546583853,89.58413043478262,72.15217391304348,6.126708074534163,26.186335403726712,6.1826913282559595,0.8402031055900623,365,12,73,2,7,113,68,92,0.069,0.888,0.043,-0.3313,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,1,0,11,13,7,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,13,1,9,13,0,9,0,1,1,0,16,2,0,1,7,46,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202455182049742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486599183648385,0.2122817395753284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323503567309324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120588537305136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307340278070116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475709737516987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32473105615075704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22179188148249354,0.0,0.0,0.21624346424489974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937509672743305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358772989856853,0.2174019372179204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886100869262501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664400028631844,0.0,0.3309105297057269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330489843381775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080909020314927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813250247059704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17893813482863333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334179734013012
parenting,FunkyTowne,2020/01/13,"None of the other parents invite us to social outings My kids go to a small school and we've been there for 5+ years. I've been aware of lots of social outings between some of the parents. My husband and I never get invited. To be fair, we haven't reached out to any of the parents to get together either. 

Does anyone else have this issue? I feel left out.",1.677335907335905,3.648484108108112,3.3625868725868737,89.78337837837843,79.54054054054055,5.3096525096525085,24.08494208494209,6.1826913282559595,0.6494347490347487,280,10,57,2,7,93,50,74,0.019,0.925,0.055999999999999994,0.3826,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,10,9,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,14,6,4,7,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,2,2,39,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120900962993404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491141762506115,0.19769464219281968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688472036937362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118053537847046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975586356328762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20161128031407136,0.0,0.1096549171443718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138413400961086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20963497674359047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403468076455746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488108442120399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6427267543005228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952703331693441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933656389301342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23208871262424485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425005827833728
parenting,Randolfo89,2020/01/13,"How much is a father supposed to do? I was raised by a single mom. My mom had to be the mother and father if you know it like I know it. Lately me and my baby momma/girlfriend has been getting into it about responsibilities. My day goes like this: 
- Wake up at 3am and get ready to go to work
- Work from 4am to 1pm
- Come home a take the kids to daycare
- Drive my girlfriend to work
- Come home and take care of my 2 month old daughter
- Clean
- Try to get a short nap in
- Pick boys up from daycare between 11pm and midnight
- Pick my girl up from work
- Go to sleep for a few hours
- Do it all over again

Now my girlfriend doesn't drive and we have 3 kids. 2 boys and a 2 month old girl. She got a job before our daughter was even 6 weeks old. It's been times where I had to sit in the hospital with just me and one of my kids while the doctors ask: ""where is mom""? Plus she doesn't clean so I have to clean up. She tells me that I don't want her to work because I'm controlling but that's not the case. I have to constantly drive around with the kids. I'm responsible for laundry as well as doctor's appointments and getting food. First off, shouldn't you get a car first before getting a job if you don't like public transportation? Secondly, do most fathers do this much? I don't really as fathers doing half as much as I do. To me it seems like she doesn't want to be a mom. She is not  nurturing to the kids, she carries herself more like a tomboy. I understand that I laid up too but it seems feels like I'm a single father sometimes. She's quick to rush off to work but leaves the house trashed. It's not post pardom depression because again she has no problem bullshitting around and running off to work. Am I wrong or is there something wrong with her?",2.3126616961789392,3.5561842270270283,3.450186393289844,93.05094594594595,75.64864864864866,6.508853681267475,23.02889095992544,6.953978226594392,0.4774035414725075,1364,38,316,13,29,441,166,370,0.066,0.8420000000000001,0.092,0.8475,2,0,1,0,1,0,40.0,2,3,0,10,16,13,0,0,20,0,31,5,2,4,1,46,57,25,0,6,10,12,1,6,2,1,2,0,5,9,13,20,1,1,6,1,0,11,11,4,1,5,7,1,39,9,53,47,9,49,0,1,0,0,42,18,0,6,24,204,52,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717373439439602,0.07727798140338288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007801975583686,0.0,0.14067885669918626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427960348493067,0.0,0.0,0.14241230041203154,0.0,0.08932845224157457,0.09271266579031452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05331026878565773,0.0,0.07119681605336517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921649152607976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459759146954366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04179648283586716,0.05905387919054619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062481921250472,0.09995543834403477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591254693907773,0.0,0.09395764572887663,0.0,0.06611249811493354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583381640407194,0.0,0.0814055980388924,0.09538105935366972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405892089393406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908579466226876,0.0,0.0932465415751973,0.08752731504336396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423073995797293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872517930362944,0.1319603297300185,0.0,0.18229864455409106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602201635523793,0.0,0.05601403369790997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916752022141503,0.0,0.0,0.07909654420566233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05295551034357671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505050914622412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827218794334187,0.0,0.0,0.06363738605407702,0.08175501146109666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430334654774525,0.0,0.07225039037138142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482009829559242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612219535022185,0.0,0.0,0.08605424648630179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751259305113892,0.0,0.06630661612946037,0.0,0.07432322876203644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212533699366834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18075623853078526,0.0,0.0
parenting,castleofchaos97,2020/01/13,"Does the “mean” go away? I grew up in a very authoritarian home. It was do what dad said when he said it and don’t question it. If you questioned him, if you didn’t do something to his expectations, if you looked in the wrong direction he would fly off the handle and berate you. He was angry and petty. We often walked on pins and needles to not upset him, but it was unavoidable because nothing was ever quite good enough. I swore I wouldn’t be that parent. I do not have biological children yet, but I’m a parent figure to a sister who is 7 and several step kiddos of varying ages. 

I work very actively to be kind and understanding. I make requests for help in order to avoid always be ordering people around. I try my best to remember to breathe and calm down before responding to young humans who are learning how to be humans and being shaped by their interactions with the big humans. Unfortunately, at times when I’m not being vigilant in assessing my behavior- I make mistakes. I yell when there’s no reason to, but only because the seven year old (or whoever) questions or whines or refuses to do something on my first request. I feel my raising coming out and it causes a lump in my throat. I usually am able to reign it back in, feel embarrassed from it, and will apologize for it happening, but I hate that it happens at all. 

My question is, does this mean ever go away? For parents further down the road than I who also experienced these households of emotional abuse, anger and pettiness, yelling and screaming, and other gross parenting tactics have you found a way to break the cycle and no longer feel that streak within yourself? Have you gotten away from the gut reaction to be hateful and spiteful that you vowed to never be?",6.532831325301206,6.963436620481932,7.091228915662651,73.78840963855423,65.32530120481928,9.893012048192773,33.16626506024097,9.766711354998122,3.1998573493975915,1386,55,246,27,20,456,191,332,0.16899999999999998,0.7509999999999999,0.08,-0.9863,5,2,2,0,2,0,34.0,1,7,1,4,12,16,4,3,13,0,28,4,3,5,4,63,50,30,0,7,13,6,3,0,0,3,1,5,1,4,20,20,0,2,15,0,0,6,9,12,0,2,9,10,31,4,45,30,3,49,0,1,1,0,41,24,0,11,15,184,51,3,0.09399731931321663,0.11137145283076127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516962229448322,0.07821329963684906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367754277772624,0.0,0.0,0.2649407270919182,0.07227813644360842,0.0,0.1145997868035235,0.0,0.07998479550584814,0.0,0.0986443874454694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656113968794316,0.0,0.08097036749687808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451537513550532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573433253407293,0.0,0.09712435791784137,0.0,0.0,0.1700519135337892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258360684458982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995407178926922,0.0,0.10306320892774164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684168546954924,0.07884049176731768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662430380755265,0.0,0.0,0.18560578499335328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300442175719549,0.0,0.09428697534411216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788374336750784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893407439329461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254878810854372,0.0,0.0,0.2047812739810019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249652740527794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019296300275233,0.0,0.0986343745681759,0.0,0.0,0.0714891970191313,0.0,0.0,0.4174915970582497,0.0,0.0,0.06516590584552688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42119403971166697,0.0999777194483411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966448994854112,0.0,0.0,0.10648063909957532,0.0,0.17882595167280685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619021555072196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447274574016781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481059279795484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381800966758529,0.0,0.0,0.09785452439856963,0.0,0.0,0.10352476738226267,0.15511526525809302,0.0,0.07461069685575615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684311679626916,0.0,0.0,0.06677299872526611,0.10277131272260903,0.0,0.06053119181454163
parenting,electricwater001,2020/01/14,I feel as though im on my last leg I have a huge 16 year old who tries to muscle his way into getting whatever he wants. He wont listen or do anything my wife and I ask.. I get so upset with him I'm afraid I'll get physical with him.. Before it escalates what can I do??,-1.9056451612903231,-0.08223841935483732,1.7066935483870969,96.63004032258064,94.48387096774192,5.035483870967743,15.81451612903226,6.6274283507984215,-0.3395225806451614,206,5,52,3,8,75,49,62,0.067,0.892,0.040999999999999995,-0.3456,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,7,13,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,0,6,12,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,3,29,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511179953408945,0.0,0.28528035804128443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25966590922253024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542964162850224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4782954040915257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32962164351971124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24874347119380955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202106649252904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29981494692076155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071813949176645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998935113194614,0.24221921571781685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19651093510262346
parenting,muchbooty,2020/01/14,"Nutrition tracking app for kids? Title says it all, I'm not looking for a weight-loss app. Just wanna make sure my kid is getting everything he needs. 

(Apologies if this has been asked before, I tried googling *reddit, r/parenting, nutrition* etc and couldn't find anything relevant.)",3.931666666666669,7.108051900000002,3.9440000000000026,81.62866666666667,80.0,7.333333333333335,30.333333333333336,8.344100000000001,2.9523333333333337,225,11,36,5,6,69,46,50,0.0,0.9490000000000001,0.051,0.3182,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,2,11,10,2,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,3,8,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23922438998256096,0.0,0.2717687337930059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473674522954862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32421148912680164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26126575665102525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26569793129982544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518806940669888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24411790714078935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940469888167302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215553123070721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227920758749768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311792641895017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739848134547432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736874192402032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539988119397754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MDMAandshoegaze,2020/01/14,"Parents who send their children to private schools- does your school have a tuition reduction program where parents can trade work for all or part of total tuition? My child’s school is looking to offer such a program, and as the parent liaison I’m helping the school look at what polices and procedures other school who offer this option have adopted. Your help is greatly appreciated!",6.193578431372551,8.999035514705882,5.835882352941179,73.40813725490199,68.85294117647058,6.886274509803924,37.80392156862745,7.793537801064563,3.4755215686274514,317,18,44,4,6,98,53,68,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.831,3,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,2,6,8,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,6,8,3,3,0,0,2,0,15,2,0,2,0,32,9,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044649033650915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434305636413385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982826984135432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25035162735605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4965521934017635,0.16142126536172247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7543011987034386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108520017451363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The_Junk_Drawer,2020/01/14,"""Daddy, can you clean off my foirt?"" Hey you.  Yeah you. 

Want to laugh at my expense?

Picture this:

My daughter, who is two years old and not potty trained, walks up to me. 

""Daddy, can you clean off my foirt?"" She says in her squeaky little voice. 

She holds out her left hand in a pleading sort of way. Her plump little face is stitched together with confusion and another emotion I don't quite recognize. If I didn't know any better, I'd say she looks disgusted. 

""What's the matter hun?"" I say. Because it's loud in the kitchen and difficult to hear her tiny toddlerese. Especially with everyone else's conversations.  We're having some family over for dinner.

""Can you clean off my foirt?"" She squeaks again.

That last word keeps catching in my ears. What is she saying? It's very difficult sometimes, to understand what a toddler is saying, even if you're the one around them all day. I knew I couldn't ask anyone else what she was saying. If I didn't understand her, no one would. 

She is still holding her hand out to me awkwardly.  I grab her wrist gently. I figure if she's got something on her hand that she wants me to clean off, it probably shouldn't get on anything else. I bend down to get a little closer to her. Maybe I will be able to hear her better down here. 


""What do you need, baby?"" I ask looking at her tiny, slightly wet hand.

""Can you clean my…""

And as she says the word again, the gears in my mind finally click into place. It went something like this. 

Fart. ""Can you clean my fart off?"" That's a fart in her hand. But farts are gas. She can't hold a gas in her hand. Poop. She could hold a turd, I guess. But she's not holding anything. Her fingers are wet, though. Oh, great. My daughter just discovered a wet fart.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have a ""foirt"" to clean. 

Cheers,
Sean",0.6697959679378194,3.1285225474860354,1.7832062181199897,96.13956278843818,88.88826815642456,5.012484819042993,19.23512266213262,6.601985625127523,0.09027452028175807,1384,41,300,17,46,435,177,358,0.048,0.782,0.17,0.9915,0,0,2,0,0,0,78.0,0,9,1,3,9,11,1,2,13,1,27,13,11,0,1,47,46,13,0,12,10,2,11,1,0,4,0,12,8,0,15,10,2,6,5,0,1,3,9,5,0,3,6,26,63,6,39,33,2,44,0,0,3,0,54,31,0,9,10,183,78,0,0.09734626872369173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619880087790331,0.10207605053432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806677450509134,0.09974275615723503,0.16021536943991074,0.08665881777155544,0.18201124095263574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05934138187856276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218972785097428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772307443788916,0.0,0.0,0.0627802900709009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439609489548111,0.10950144986458996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429629239747241,0.0,0.0,0.09301853144818564,0.0,0.0,0.09176939855664414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663807913878044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171881517811183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785670384922272,0.10732460493038816,0.10723788991452414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21943263952582315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652583643248643,0.0,0.0,0.053498963465678034,0.07935020164321936,0.0,0.0,0.1057670057996292,0.0,0.0,0.047558469748432634,0.2926996051306124,0.0,0.0,0.16349269688726367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779741116076912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829198110910567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218102478852523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214853362054188,0.0,0.13192870205681967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170613171912228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049557422845898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353973937671253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5418956205754657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498838271437752,0.09627794890537714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777408559500418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564221476702464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509315957697413,0.20268179768383726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803208666230437,0.1148347028961746,0.0772689370170273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024096637739512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915199630041496,0.0,0.0,0.06268780543526818
parenting,jessjohn118,2020/01/14,"I think I came up with a new parenting hack!  My kid will agree to eat almost anything that has his favorite characters on the packaging (paw patrol yogurt, cereal, etc). Problem is that most of the character food is sugar filled and junk. 

Here's the hack: get stickers of your kids favorite characters and put them on the packaging of ALL the food. My 2.5yo wont eat broccoli but will ask for seconds of ""spiderman broccoli"" because he saw spidey on the packaging. Crappy paw patrol yogurt is now paw patrol greek yogurt. 

It works for us, maybe it will work for you too!",6.065287049399199,7.046876757009348,6.141522029372499,78.25644859813087,66.47663551401868,9.478771695594123,31.173564753004012,9.606745405546679,2.9241359145527364,451,17,80,9,7,143,72,107,0.067,0.8809999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.555,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,1,2,3,1,0,0,7,0,8,5,0,0,1,10,13,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,4,5,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,2,9,0,13,7,3,9,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,2,51,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20081033960193806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650260981658255,0.0,0.1874764263986465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224640801218868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22936261945230302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41040189912086783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22365343698871315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4849838994119886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477308910859694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20146787703327945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368133252770814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267427165088705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188826078098112,0.0,0.2015965811819585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849697314039438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412231233391199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291988832190763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElkorDan82,2020/01/14,"My 16 y/o son lied to me about being fired from his job. What am I doing wrong? I really don't know what else to do. I'm beyond pissed. I pulled a lot of favors to get him hired.  Not only does it reflect badly on him but, it reflects badly on me. I personally know the manager who hired him.  All i wanted was for him to start making money. I wanted to prep him for life. He was only working a few hours a week.  But, the reason behind him being fired really irks me. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like a failure. I feel like I've   failed him already. 

I just don't know. I don't think I know my son anymore.",-0.8832499999999968,1.0760388740740758,2.2102546296296306,94.24427083333336,89.88888888888891,4.560185185185184,15.104166666666668,5.985473137389443,-0.6664722222222221,468,9,109,4,16,166,74,135,0.21,0.731,0.059000000000000004,-0.9672,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,3,8,1,0,6,0,12,2,1,2,1,20,26,2,0,2,4,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,11,0,1,1,5,5,0,0,2,4,25,3,15,22,3,7,0,1,0,0,13,3,1,1,5,71,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18569491304197933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337658472482911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810040817467695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725800450994214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057161437348814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016911967423762,0.24043043704578101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791639475296241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571632365852584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698631229844088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623958687178027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885713925016606,0.16442068039934232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306082204137932,0.0,0.0,0.11232442526178382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559604289479784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693065864909946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156016957803304,0.1730140423965046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910544039255835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078233992267082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985051252018849,0.0,0.13497952135873514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250571999329007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839815691382449,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway76549723,2020/01/14,"Being used by adult child This is more of a vent than asking for advice, but advice is still welcome. My oldest son is 19 and is about to become a father. His gf is 21 and hates me with a passion. They live together rent free in a tiny apartment that a local slum lord often rents to young people, probably as a tax write off. Neither of them is currently working. He keeps losing jobs because he gets drunk or high, and calls in too often hungover. They only call when they need something, and even though I know they’re just using me, I still show up every time. I’ve given them money, food, basic necessities, baby supplies, household items, and more. I’ve taken him shopping for clothes he said he needed for job interviews. Taken him to get haircuts, groceries, etc. She has never once thanked me. He only thanks me occasionally. He acts like he just expects me to drop whatever I’m doing and do whatever he needs, like he’s entitled to the help because I’m his parent. I text them regularly and tell them hello, love ya, etc but I never receive a response. Inevitably they need something and call. Meanwhile she flaunts a very close relationship with her mother on social media, thanking her profusely for any small thing. I’m tired of being used but I do not think either of them is emotionally capable of being any other type of way. But my heart hurts constantly. I raised him better than this but once he got with this girl it’s like he changed into an entirely different person. My fear is that this is who he was all along and he just hid it. There’s a lot more to the story but that’s some of it. Thank you for reading.",2.9904942166140884,5.28951047318612,4.090621451104102,84.55525920084123,76.7602523659306,6.371777076761304,24.13133543638276,7.42949916751922,1.2233870452155615,1288,43,239,17,30,418,190,317,0.086,0.777,0.136,0.9604,7,0,2,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,9,3,13,16,1,1,12,0,17,6,1,3,3,46,44,19,0,5,12,4,0,3,1,0,1,1,2,4,13,15,2,1,2,4,6,2,4,4,0,0,6,1,34,13,33,35,11,25,1,2,0,2,58,11,0,5,13,151,47,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18847780389596785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311634136889615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015728146323763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175764230921382,0.10650910347634987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529230215499925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954244631637307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201948767670428,0.0,0.0,0.1042161074236661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075804434874652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848069585596087,0.0,0.0,0.21510956077150267,0.06369693322655852,0.0,0.0812538679682947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852048775553176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661420788832805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077060957467504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713093681462166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521337217730308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428046989709142,0.06464091038755555,0.10189291163225472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032397548942572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19140130266060454,0.08571925720912761,0.0,0.0,0.05300025517019316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134541319410382,0.0,0.08515724777910233,0.0,0.0,0.10789037513151603,0.0,0.08198883885009475,0.08703980321455718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28603266189949084,0.1487591315248708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20540839869688365,0.0,0.14669214157700636,0.0,0.0,0.10708390046416737,0.0,0.0,0.06685853726771973,0.08420666065119409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397736259374446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646492097448296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353920495839404,0.0,0.0,0.09173540518789926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983072354854604,0.0,0.14848663543923732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403233765995453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429178224182085,0.35515164597049936,0.0,0.0,0.06406966896032515,0.061794103915543075,0.0947506542056044,0.0,0.056234253382966164,0.11084224061254994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498765381870184,0.0,0.07957212907953702,0.0,0.07654864904549659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020861191360628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,owlaround,2020/01/14,"Parents who were told you'd ""never be able to have children""--did the doctors actually say ""never""? I feel like I've seen an uptick in posts around Reddit where people are posting (very sweet!) images of the offspring their doctors said they'd ""never"" be able to have. While I'm super stoked for them, I'm having a very hard time imagining a doctor literally saying, ""You will never have your own biological children."" Doctors, in my experience, don't say things like that: they say, ""Chances are very low,"" or ""Odds are not good,"" or even, ""If you choose not to use any birth control, you are as unlikely to get pregnant as a fertile couple using birth control,"" because that is a much more accurate reflection of statistical, medical reality. Are there actually doctors out there saying ""never""?",9.50982897384306,8.703108795774654,9.273541247484914,64.70697183098594,59.63380281690141,11.77625754527163,39.29979879275653,10.914260884657429,4.42853199195171,627,27,101,13,7,204,95,142,0.012,0.9059999999999999,0.08199999999999999,0.8644,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,5,4,3,5,6,0,0,7,0,17,6,0,4,5,20,26,6,0,1,5,1,2,2,0,1,6,6,0,1,4,2,0,2,4,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,4,10,11,5,13,17,3,17,0,1,1,0,19,6,0,3,11,68,15,6,0.20401276897103324,0.0,0.1990870333200013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936783939812287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080730880149517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06218214519334051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288176679588686,0.0,0.11286812424078295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220392845076646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737425490755926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978181751739967,0.0,0.0,0.051577492944794114,0.07287338145829242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329412573542442,0.0,0.0,0.08555811564631957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913776844031998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967033383624184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276070075322744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498642960188275,0.0,0.3933680610468099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326601832944032,0.0,0.0,0.0707183832006487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538783833614226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703143087273072,0.4055978558968167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776850924709908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948074310711896,0.0,0.0,0.09747147176348296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620152940331474,0.0,0.2524978505200598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tatsuhime,2020/01/14,"Is it fair for a man to be called a single parent when he didn't help with anything? I had the baby 2mo ago. The father and I aren't together. He is with a girl who calls my child her children's brother. (To which they correct her and say step brother) and claims she thinks of him(the baby) as her own. They also say he is a single parent. I feel this is absolute bull shit. HE DIDN'T EVEN LEAVE WORK TO BE SUPPORTIVE AT THE BIRTH AND WAS ON HIS PHONE AFTER HE GOT THERE! He has helped pay for NOTHING. Was at none of the appointments. Offered nothing financially or even a toy for the baby. He has hardly seen his kid and most of the time he does it's because I make time for it! Even then he's a HUGE PITA when I'm trying to arrange it. I'm getting tired of it. He gets pissed when I treat him like he does me as well and makes me feel like I have no right to get upset. I honestly feel like it's a crock of shit to call him a single parent when he's not helping with anything not even the tiniest bit of emotional support. I got 5 weeks with the baby before I had to go back to work so I can pay for his needs. He's more of a father figure to the GF kids than his own son. He's even chosen said GF over his kid. Anyway I'm not sure if I should be posting this here or not I feel abandoned, stressed and no one I can really talk to about this. So I figure why not post it on Reddit.",0.19932375951130865,2.0928657408637896,2.309731004179614,95.79695316686322,84.28239202657807,4.9469938913299725,18.34755117350766,6.0311780096671335,-0.3437346265137715,1072,26,251,8,31,360,149,301,0.114,0.775,0.111,-0.4315,3,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,0,0,2,2,18,15,3,2,18,0,20,4,3,2,2,34,41,20,0,3,8,8,5,3,2,1,1,3,0,7,12,11,0,1,7,1,2,2,11,6,1,1,10,9,30,9,36,27,9,24,0,1,1,0,57,8,3,4,15,160,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992010294195614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112122776113546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695232869817184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800080657080402,0.0,0.061836651049319374,0.0,0.08631764555419277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074579281321302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31074358208316044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754099075146507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410591951714065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349995627742368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20516367991547108,0.14493697012250947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899404463290842,0.0,0.05765047393350406,0.0,0.16226106219187328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086997507993094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039785178366871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740991124740863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867482379960387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354234685776934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521619316793722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19466810317430325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873811204103668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379100815550595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943022316278469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498481831925046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662888153970792,0.09649230841164023,0.16133771521365686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20825262516753595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619874240566608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302249581650325,0.09560564171056747,0.0,0.0,0.0815333243892533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499841278104537,0.0,0.0,0.1183005167876722,0.11658992124486987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887084355998521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136874471761027,0.0,0.09120640112170826,0.0,0.0915334794607115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769850353949246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nextact,2020/01/14,"Coparenting question Hi all! 

My ex and I share our 11.5 yr old daughter fairly evenly. We don’t have a custody plan as we’ve never needed one. We get on famously and the few times we’ve have personal issues it doesn’t interfere with communication regarding the kid. 

We’ve let kid take the lead sometimes on where to stay as she’s usually pretty good about going back and forth. 

She has been in a mommy-phase for about a 5 days. Yesterday she started her period at her dad’s. For the first time. He brought her to me. And now she doesn’t want to leave me.  

He’s been fairly understanding but I know he misses her. 

Should I force her to go to his place or take her lead and let her stay with me. I don’t want to upset either of them. As she’s gotten older I try to take her wants more into account. But I don’t know. 

Thanks!!",0.35512181616832805,2.6704219651162795,2.4914950166112995,91.78794573643414,88.06976744186045,5.601771871539314,17.492801771871537,7.07126945348624,0.14531971207087446,646,16,141,10,21,217,103,172,0.043,0.8759999999999999,0.081,0.6281,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,1,4,6,5,0,1,7,0,13,0,0,2,2,28,31,11,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,10,0,1,4,0,1,5,6,2,0,2,4,0,28,3,22,24,4,27,0,1,0,0,30,7,0,2,13,90,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245855074357769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449128147735164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701451011562656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781648359451454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465020897733383,0.0,0.18416254561159973,0.13589701058467266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910967483641492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780869519374776,0.0,0.0,0.1715587169504859,0.0,0.3313585150837478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013782940447718,0.12496194698053766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001563973324266,0.0,0.10979082070178607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147203140861814,0.1692793076526622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483540317661952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150258068476788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024466035076215,0.0,0.114680549036364,0.3453894255026181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36546287240418907,0.0,0.0,0.14916879622410378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18895355781389406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100028239408284,0.0,0.0,0.1686714154091958,0.0,0.0,0.1784451884222661,0.0,0.2866956790930937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ctgvideotutorials,2020/01/14,"Teach a 3.5 yr old to read? Hello all,

Our Pediatrician thought it was a good time to teach our daughter to read that is 3.5.  She loves books and memorized them and can go through the book like she is reading it.  

Any ideas on how to start this journey?  Techniques or what you did to teach your kid to read and recognize words?",3.620153846153848,5.0808184000000045,3.640000000000004,92.12000000000003,72.69230769230771,7.046153846153848,26.84615384615385,7.554174236665415,1.1199846153846158,256,9,57,3,5,78,48,65,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.8638,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,1,10,9,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,3,8,6,1,6,0,0,0,1,11,1,0,1,4,34,12,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369120890271184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008662858626447,0.17722836944796588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385319192486137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323048032727114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907064507517682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22172374860152985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8454285061166902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955918916589206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677485545028309,0.12321069760354753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-Just-Bee-,2020/01/14,"Parenting Advice So I personally could never have an abortion just because, I can't explain it I just couldn't. I'm 16 and I used protection, but it broke and I have no clue what to do. My period is late and I'm going to take a pregnancy test this coming up Monday. His parents are good people at least, his dad is a Preacher and his mom is very kind hearted. I just don't know what to do, any advice would be appreciated.",1.1749116161616158,3.2894819204545485,3.777878787878791,85.39237373737376,82.06818181818181,6.638383838383841,22.277777777777786,7.793537801064563,1.136435353535354,331,11,69,6,9,116,59,88,0.07200000000000001,0.779,0.14800000000000002,0.8334,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,14,1,1,1,1,16,22,6,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,10,2,5,18,1,8,0,1,0,0,9,2,0,0,4,49,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189581329286852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577838284345496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067745293314398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18466005361237428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115633441872422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218309362842159,0.17980268444675354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25402849199540417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22323249673679446,0.11781168653208747,0.0,0.24181775473924866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510665745047145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653347150472764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4760631764359018,0.0,0.0,0.1486165870199107,0.1871788857750925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117893307876754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514612992006912,0.0,0.1768770112088321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228170385841527,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boringusername,2020/01/14,"Party for 4 year old? My littlest has got the idea in her head that she needs a frozen party with her friends I really didn’t plan on starting friends party’s until she was at school but her older sister had a party so she expects one too. 
Option 1 I just invite 4-5 friends to our house put up some decorations put on frozen music play pass the parcel that kind of thing.
Option 2 do it in a hall invite the whole nursery class have bouncy castles ect ( be really stressed spend quite a bit of money)
Option 3 one of those soft play type party’s and try to find one that will do frozen theam ( prob be stressful and even more expensive)
So the issues would people be offended if I only invite a few? I don’t really want to do a huge party for her 4th. Home might be stressful if they don’t behave might have toy sharing issues ect. I just don’t know what to do. 
What do people do for a 4 year old?",2.53509803921569,3.961794417112305,3.9746737967914463,88.77063814616758,75.41711229946523,6.270089126559715,20.48805704099821,6.742157984588678,0.2826352228163995,704,15,148,6,15,233,109,187,0.075,0.7240000000000001,0.201,0.9642,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,2,6,11,1,3,11,0,23,1,1,0,0,21,28,8,0,6,5,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,3,3,3,3,4,4,0,3,4,1,15,7,18,16,5,18,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,8,7,93,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388351369538979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399363803499364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622976484473957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947503543203975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170831875161727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305116361447674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756043970158698,0.0,0.0,0.14673545039464614,0.0,0.14355783122921986,0.0,0.26546188551586297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242649154909286,0.06988851775161081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698115030341206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429387983374024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668840344849016,0.0,0.2585181330165466,0.09671742435678024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632534234701622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556790646692084,0.0,0.13525942270019675,0.0,0.0,0.24440231783326616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870137730406062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001056506269182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4370134857304465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448514412043336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633910828475483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500731464647019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197916172247393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033690015511077,0.0,0.0,0.16378477335483224
parenting,hwilson01,2020/01/14,"Bittersweet Moment Well, guys, it's finally happened: we went to the pediatrician yesterday and we got the okay to start solids! I've been so excited to begin real foods with my little man and see him experience  new tastes and textures.

So, I'm sitting here with rice cereal and I feel like I'm going to cry. I know that even though I'm not going to be his only source of food that he is still going to need me, but dang I don't want him to grow up this fast.",3.1387053571428574,4.152479864583338,5.000238095238097,83.64000000000003,73.27083333333334,8.402380952380952,23.089285714285715,8.841846274778883,1.3880285714285718,361,9,78,7,7,124,71,96,0.049,0.873,0.077,0.3751,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,2,1,4,3,0,0,0,15,20,8,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,8,3,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,3,3,10,4,11,16,0,16,0,0,1,0,8,2,1,0,9,44,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21804004536595767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110564390198773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941685210957569,0.0,0.0,0.10036623681635352,0.14180656413214968,0.0,0.21744417148554807,0.0,0.0,0.4800476267496289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384318972111842,0.0,0.158756483610865,0.0,0.0,0.19654360864475307,0.17553057288077156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908896596862508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969757907783588,0.19894651655950976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471832881731911,0.0,0.1917100013801689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509661980774616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259334689901601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158176708077229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049746345799968,0.0,0.1585202598279614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502266279565292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707889447516792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847297841255788,0.18400905498729986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,butlerwillserveyou,2020/01/14,"[Serious] How to sway a toddler towards 'Left Handedness'? First off, I know how insane this title sounds, I guess I'm still a bit grief-stricken and feeling helpless so here I am posting. I'll provide the needed context, but let me first assure any readers that this is not an attempt to force my child to be 'unique' or 'interesting' by having her join the presumed 10% of left-handers in the world. 

Last month, my 2 yr old daughter, in a fit of curiosity and terrible-two independence, decided to stick her hand in a juicer/food processor and it took off the tips of 3 of her fingers. Her hand and fingers are still very much intact and healthy, but the finger tips and fingernails are now gone on the pointer, middle and ring finger (it hurts to even type this as I'm still adjusting to this new reality.)

To paraphrase, we can only assume she is inclined to be right-handed, or else the left hand may have been the one to be injured, and though it's difficult to determine at this age, she did show signs of favoring her right hand when playing.

I know there is no specific answer for this question, I don't intend to tie my daughter's right hand behind her back or something to force her to be a lefty, I just want my little girl to have the best quality of life possible. Simply curious if any parents have observed their child expressing an interest in being left-handed or if an injury led them that way and if those attempts to help push them towards that decision were awarded with some success. Thank you for your wisdom and kindness, lots of great help in this community!",9.701172886519423,7.244802148514854,9.194389438943896,70.65690022848442,60.51815181518153,12.227367352119828,40.79944148260979,10.560738912317856,4.2134982990606735,1253,53,230,22,13,403,185,303,0.059000000000000004,0.685,0.255,0.9973,1,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,3,7,15,16,0,0,17,0,22,11,9,5,1,46,33,25,0,5,11,3,10,0,0,1,2,2,0,3,14,12,0,0,10,2,0,4,3,4,0,3,5,12,26,12,39,21,5,38,0,2,0,0,25,19,0,13,13,160,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373241201917313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925689482317057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633705908995488,0.0,0.1314296865956094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056656133024387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951342696935579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060870479742674136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047995340375005,0.1455705138823184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272533793072738,0.13261809989531426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613836034790609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288750697293536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253628776052051,0.13232134438382176,0.09813017559951576,0.0,0.0,0.52319639455583,0.12310223660939992,0.08503177428254324,0.0,0.12065780575463447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234736933129293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609048456554227,0.0,0.08849712701124167,0.08926425504624096,0.0,0.11626897775226933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263242352739928,0.0,0.08157626843635242,0.09155852798104863,0.0,0.0,0.13367374954876413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571645990678072,0.11529594379601844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485920907767174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084254433961732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267856900526836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884198283427861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083470990855873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182780526760858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375261845926106,0.0,0.0,0.11759905147510916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933056983854673,0.07100643304466495,0.0955563338321617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gnarglesdidit,2020/01/14,"Finally on the potty! First of all, I am sorry for any formatting/grammatical/spelling errors. Quickly typing this up before my kids interrupt.

So I know for a lot of parents its not a big deal for a four year old to finally pee on the potty but I am just so proud of my little man. Weve been trying on and off for years without any success until today. Just a lottle background- he has a speech delay and up until about 7 or 8 months ago had a hard time with communication. He understands a great deal but has a hard time expressing himself. I also suspect he may be on the spectrum. 

My daughter who just turned two has been speaking since around 13 months, small sentences since around 18 months and now talks nonstop with a broad vocab and a grear understanding of how sentences are formed. Shes been fully potty trained for about a month now. 

I think this has also played a part in his development. I often get the feeling that he is embarassed or maybe jealous that she can do so much without help that he can't. Today was different.

I absolutely refused to let him wear a diaper or pants (I let him wear a shirt but thats it) and he spent the whole day in hysterics absolutely furious with me. Its been a huge tantrum all day and all day he held his pee qithout accidents. Finally he asked me for a diaper to pee in and when i said no he threw yet another fit dlamming the door.

I told him very firmly in my most ""mom"" voice to sit down and use the potty. You cpuldnt imagine my shock when he actually sat down. I stood just outside the bathroom (he left the door half closed so I couldn't see) and guys... Honestly I vould have cried i was so happy wheni heard the telltale tinkling sound. A few seconds laters i heard him yell proudly that he did it! 

I checked and surely enough there was a good inch of pee in his potty. Ita now been an hour since and hes gone four more times since and i just couldnt be prouder.",2.9460724431818197,4.823764549479171,4.0362026515151515,86.85065340909092,75.38020833333334,6.946212121212122,25.43844696969697,7.793537801064563,1.3550270833333338,1513,53,307,22,33,491,212,384,0.14,0.746,0.114,-0.7655,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,0,4,26,13,3,0,29,0,32,7,7,2,4,54,52,30,0,2,14,3,3,0,0,1,0,8,2,3,12,18,0,3,7,1,2,2,7,4,0,6,21,12,37,9,40,24,12,60,0,0,1,0,44,25,0,7,32,207,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.09463286379286773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859618074507258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510051996872193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318916091700802,0.10168593980674152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265525618428987,0.09065781833632608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251793074035044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652164261393003,0.1876210755740305,0.19995235449239784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131743473450687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020030668553068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903308651726173,0.0,0.0,0.3186916002231121,0.0,0.0824862339972293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066503486014528,0.0,0.0,0.0813373866626316,0.0,0.10691443545873147,0.0,0.0960197380392641,0.0,0.10323087544187214,0.17373973216902427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499978499683677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550008662942153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329450297320167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536278910658213,0.19832544917188968,0.0,0.0,0.09719365862665112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244402601146575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742365238950486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357505095870712,0.30961563392342983,0.0,0.07128722007145923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175814587960563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767841085563587,0.10501364547427924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224470351765174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772759092916662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208723542495187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855471569204893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139706800860672,0.0,0.0,0.07794421606134884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06213717357167284,0.0,0.0,0.16963936727231474,0.0,0.18384047007915005,0.09266303643450136,0.0,0.06583913940683615,0.10548011986264594,0.09472973582109677,0.20190719538342036,0.0,0.0837546024673404,0.0,0.08001389910662796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826826923764124,0.0,0.18695940230268526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489645468726633
parenting,hayybailss1815,2020/01/14,"Can I quit? I love my kids. I really do. But there are days when I am ready to just pack up and walk out. Today is one of those days. 

Neither one of them listen to anything I ask them to. It doesn’t matter what kind of consequence or discipline is on the table. They would rather get that over with and do whatever they wanted to do in the first place. I literally just freed their room of all toys, and I am completely at my wits end. 

Halp me, please.",0.7070212765957429,2.8195720425531974,2.3866382978723406,94.69400000000002,83.8936170212766,6.313191489361702,16.846808510638294,7.554174236665415,0.07987148936170207,348,7,81,6,10,114,69,94,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.8957,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,5,2,5,3,0,0,2,0,11,1,0,0,1,15,16,6,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,5,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,1,15,3,15,15,2,15,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,1,6,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095620051362635,0.0,0.2380710461469145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670042837676246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32846695086212885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255515838306739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216612139811122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330484019312822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651873335412075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298389733075593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451259817919154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660636238860464,0.2795382376087721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708603484287805,0.0,0.0,0.16314056756905884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413862027515091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502040077820067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809018829410816,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nov1290,2020/01/14,"4 year old to start kindergarten this September. And im freaking out!! Canada here, we have Jk and SK. I hadn't planned to put her in school until SK, when she was a year older. It's when I started school, and I dis great. She was also our, going to be only child, so I lavished at the idea of having her at home for the extra year. 
Circumstances have changed, we decided on a 2nd and final child. A bunch of things, and we are now having to put her in school a year early. 

I feel like I'm missing an entire year and September is coming so fast. They recommend kids being able to do certain things before starting school and she can't do many of them. Zipping up her own coat, doing her own shoes. We are still having minimal issues with using the potty which should be cleared up by then. She can't say her name correctly, has no interest in learning the alphabet. 

She has never been away from home for more than an hour or 2. And I'm afraid she's going to have issues going straight to a classroom full of kids she doesn't know, with an adult she's never had to listen too. For 6 and a half hours a day. 

How do you get over this tremendous fear.",2.6226449598572685,4.0908420762711915,3.8042105263157886,89.91152988403212,75.27118644067797,6.493844781445137,22.59054415700268,7.0608816371341465,0.626079661016949,894,24,190,9,19,291,138,236,0.045,0.867,0.08800000000000001,0.8337,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,1,2,1,10,8,0,2,14,0,27,1,1,2,5,32,42,18,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,2,5,6,17,0,0,5,0,0,6,7,4,0,1,5,3,27,4,32,33,6,43,0,1,0,0,30,13,0,1,25,137,33,6,0.11738785388122967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938750243377559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102897528932681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988841762895201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124180784332382,0.10111924188774747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570545449854038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209397138240891,0.059354826032710764,0.08386190626795274,0.0,0.12859265605392006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061330308647946974,0.0,0.20014266769457129,0.0,0.0,0.12942052331958476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354991773268898,0.0,0.23120678018107654,0.0,0.0,0.1325165985332252,0.12679902604859014,0.2450448422601861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451329453552877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05734977591683672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901285908334965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18107349928969174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317880588587705,0.0,0.0,0.08927875257596052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360144317868721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335153300981036,0.0,0.475211100664885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24926318150730745,0.0,0.09374609174562257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559745480906981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138541568534032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779696459377114
parenting,RomansMommy91,2020/01/14,"22mo calls me and dad “babe” 

my fiancé and i have called eachother babe for over 3 years and hardly say each others name when calling for one another. our toddler has obviously picked up on this and now calls us babe when he wants us. he’s currently in his crib screaming BAAAAAAABEEEEE because he doesn’t want to take a nap. it is hilarious everytime though. lol the looks we get in public are the best.",2.8888461538461527,5.437834230769234,3.3407051282051263,88.47721153846153,78.48717948717949,6.464102564102564,23.852564102564106,7.645422480735847,1.1835333333333335,322,11,63,5,8,100,65,78,0.032,0.833,0.135,0.8126,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,1,11,10,7,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,4,8,1,8,10,2,10,0,0,1,0,19,5,0,0,5,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875713070043705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090436052349528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772355417535166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7306260374492312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345743203240177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024137016124926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021417208193574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121373694737406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225257859805196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449551974221474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574872004488282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4303412993911555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110161511828082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151928737169892
parenting,0bscurious,2020/01/14,"Message to all parent Hello, i am a 14 year old boy from The Netherlands with 2 bad parents, i do not want other kids my age to experience what my parents do to me so let's start here, sometimes a kid does something stupid especially in their teenage years, this is part of puberty and growing up and completely normal. When I do something stupid like for example: climb my own wall in home and leave marks on the wall that can easily be wiped away, do not instantly enrage on me, pull on my hair and hit me and then ask me to tell the truth about it, making your own child be afraid of their own parents and then asking them to tell the truth is useless, you should just be calm and ask if they did it and not try to ""intimidate"" your own offspring because this is not going to work and just makes them fear you.",13.33435582822086,6.342069552147244,11.747312883435589,68.90428220858897,59.0,15.003190184049082,44.86993865030675,10.355215969177356,4.40854208588957,639,20,135,8,5,202,104,163,0.106,0.802,0.09300000000000001,-0.5103,4,0,2,0,1,0,13.0,0,4,5,2,6,11,3,2,6,0,15,1,1,2,3,25,24,14,0,4,7,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,10,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,7,0,0,1,1,20,4,20,17,6,21,0,1,0,0,24,9,0,1,9,95,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878600510045875,0.0,0.1299322296527959,0.0,0.11547012607037002,0.08430304004535444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499914597853114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102244380177668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527855193500915,0.0,0.15561975410370713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859594803692638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138720653500302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643390118161845,0.0,0.14141549003151346,0.0,0.06756370432866972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846252974709203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354992415891162,0.0,0.0,0.1451168079976526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6142386789207964,0.1497594604903153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293171614558126,0.13677679091909914,0.0,0.09788555477417908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241750966969216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389288365510018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156967575058985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068003883811398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811424016985822
parenting,1111mel,2020/01/14,"Absent parent I would be open to any advice. I met a man 18 years ago we had a relationship and got married to come out of this marriage was a beautiful baby girl. She was about 1 year old and he went to jail I thought it was best we moved out of the state with my family he was supposed to follow he never did. I met another man and got remarried we have been together for 14 years. I don't like it when mother's/fathers talk bad about the other parent and in my defense that's what her therapist said was the best option so I told her mainly good memories. The problem is she holds him up on a pedestal and can do no wrong. Keep in mind he hasn't seen her since she was 1 but they talk on the phone enough for him to make false promises about coming to see her. Which he never does. How to deal with this situation eludes me. 

Stuck between a rock and a hard spot any advice would be great.",1.1652207130730048,3.273698844086024,2.692410865874365,93.19545840407473,82.06451612903227,5.851273344651951,20.004527447651387,7.0608816371341465,0.2979827956989247,699,19,155,9,19,228,118,186,0.07200000000000001,0.8220000000000001,0.106,0.8589,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,1,2,6,10,1,0,11,0,19,0,0,2,2,30,35,10,0,3,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,8,16,0,3,1,1,0,5,5,4,0,0,19,4,22,6,24,12,4,22,0,0,2,0,33,8,0,1,9,101,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621895102633235,0.11892035095347266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824600588966764,0.14067325952613266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201385704361537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815748813336569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311253808746031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383079583560359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739998197299753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386180210731282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646943481983047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252288492308553,0.21459208598100216,0.14790640825034668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201765675759314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192431660557874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554137745893307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954953277239616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545834988247335,0.0,0.0,0.14258557942501002,0.0,0.0,0.20693727874307855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077315006799795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29792659760916457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836825788577824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403230979961548,0.0,0.0,0.12761216685917362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690419996672684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097443768993707,0.1507958889367024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156574833334461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576434464184086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650411868669722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819089244397086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436306867915285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905997865590959,0.14667747924518054,0.0,0.25917434727221056
parenting,donedone28,2020/01/14,"I had a baby with a psycho I met a guy in April 2018 just looking for someone to occupy my time before making a move to a new city in February 2019. I knew he didn’t have a job, he lived with his sister and he was going through a custody battle with another woman over their two daughters. But he was convenient at the time. I hung out with him once in April and realized I didn’t really want to deal with him. So I didn’t end up hanging out with him again until July. Fast forward I found out I was pregnant in August 2018. Being my age and the fact that I knew I wanted a child I decided to continue the pregnancy knowing I wasn’t interested in this guy. Throughout my pregnancy I avoided being around him as much as possible. I knew something was off about him and I couldn’t pinpoint it. I was convinced that us moving into the same house to raise our baby was the best choice so the month I was due I signed the lease to an apartment for us. I delivered my beautiful baby and all HELL broke loose. I found out this guy is a meth addict and a criminal (Felon). He went crazy one day drunk and high and tried to take my 9 day old baby from me. He also tried it again a week later. He staged a robbery at my house and stole my cousins backpack after I told him he needed to move out. So many things. I truly hate this man and he’s still in my house 7 months later. Just last night he asked if he could take my baby to California to visit his sister (his daughters) I told him hell no and he threatened me with court to get custody of our baby. I work full time in the medical field and I have no criminal history, so I know I would win that battle but... I’m at my breaking point WTF",1.7001014957264964,3.5302817692307724,3.5470717592592607,89.16838541666668,78.88603988603988,6.552742165242165,22.07986111111111,7.531066641456977,0.8296587606837611,1315,39,281,19,32,442,177,351,0.142,0.795,0.063,-0.9789,1,1,2,0,0,0,27.0,4,0,1,3,12,11,5,1,21,0,20,3,0,1,2,52,43,23,0,7,5,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,6,9,26,1,1,9,1,0,8,7,7,0,2,21,1,54,4,48,17,5,61,2,1,1,0,44,25,2,1,28,186,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461487995476308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407804376626958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024534152702516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359424577600807,0.0982889292617882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894638676090617,0.0,0.11033482505000856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394336223906462,0.0,0.0,0.13560937132271042,0.10839165990913996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312020099385247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23055465030731714,0.0,0.0,0.0549297580594819,0.0,0.0597517962228077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31230656372728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380104913131424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108304311265192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639420450228094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433227795080133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556112266770133,0.08570071074070194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283792243116493,0.0,0.08828862456551774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017978297605568,0.10659244506564937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591449531267276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783874628521625,0.33523206798841904,0.07728781322399883,0.0779577745017292,0.0,0.10154199734779147,0.0,0.09866397913976843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032362553736484,0.11196750413069832,0.07124357152994018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938847529399766,0.1185262025892113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673534726924668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890822631288367,0.0809396211273251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839625668308359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809992204713627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984837007131117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839187405545806,0.0,0.0,0.20092587270311105,0.0,0.142762282052899,0.0,0.10270359990978126,0.0,0.252933800389077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402508691974415,0.0,0.08433458255486707,0.0,0.0,0.09746307881161397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654100897838867,0.0,0.0,0.0746863285707904,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kimhamamoto,2020/01/14,"my son has played football since he was 7 yrs old and now he wants to quit in his senior year of highschool I am just beside myself.  you don't play football your entire young life (since 7 yrs) just to quit in your senior year of highschool!  he will have only one class left to graduate fall semester 2020 (as a senior).  he wants to instead work and take a full load of college courses completely covered by the school district (aka dual enrollment during his sr. year).  he is not longer interested in carrying the burdensome workouts and football schedule.  it's like he is in a hurry to grow up.  he also says he wants his last summer of highschool to have fun with his friends.  i told him he has lots of time for fun after football practice during the summer.  he disagrees saying its impossible with early morning practices....  i'm telling him he has an entire lifetime of working and college studies...to enjoy his last year of highschool and that he deserves to be a senior in football.  heck he just lettered and I spent $175.00 on his darn jacket, so needless to say im pissed over that too if he is planning on quiting.  we are very close but this is tearing us apart.  he is applying for 4 year colleges and football is all he has ever done extra-curricularily.  his GPA is 3.98% and he has high ACT scores with plenty of honor/AP course completions too.  I need help sorting out my thoughts.  convincing him otherwise.... convincing me otherwise.....",5.543111625216889,6.843997380952381,5.833464430306537,78.83127241179874,67.86446886446886,7.945170618854829,33.04973973395026,8.20500826718156,2.617949450549451,1147,51,200,15,19,366,163,273,0.034,0.882,0.084,0.9266,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,2,3,0,6,10,11,1,0,8,0,21,2,1,0,2,29,30,13,0,5,6,1,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,5,14,0,0,1,3,1,3,2,1,0,1,5,3,23,10,34,23,3,39,0,0,0,0,41,15,3,3,22,116,28,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427829224050053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734371760202483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334412227370059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795139176077925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007442619850218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740224180856045,0.13777140277985778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408509450451111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125816291511472,0.0,0.0,0.14167652972338302,0.0,0.09210313237575037,0.06370530111892465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085871587846097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668759200094128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368295306298765,0.0,0.08836026195981185,0.09917265979593466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160792163620339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110903621799831,0.0,0.13196854642820166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215731198935222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804218280971494,0.0,0.11397257077295855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352051199401488,0.07603543611366101,0.0,0.0,0.12459975240776372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685132272935876,0.0,0.0,0.10759103523347947,0.2307342740083899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986088032255655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41985639391498014
parenting,zemogwai,2020/01/14,"Newborn: RSV -> Pneumonia -> Spinal Tap New here, Father of a newborn, she’s ~ 2 1/2 months old.  

Last week we visited pediatrician because baby was coughing and sneezing alot.  Turns out Dr says she is positive for RSV after nose swab.  Says to watch her closely and it should get better in 7 days or so.  

Next thing you know were in the hospital because baby’s coughs were out of control.  Choking and spitting up fluids.  X-rays showed some fluid and a high white blood cell count was noted.  The most horrible part if the experience, was the spinal tap they ordered because of the elevated white blood cell count.  

Spinal Tap was performed with us in the room and Im distraught still with thoughts of how we failed my daughter by exposing her to anyone over the holidays that got her sick.  Meningitis test was not positive.  The spinal tap seemed excessive, but slight fever and high white blood cell count was primary concern - Dr said they had to rule out meningitis.

Anyone have any words of encouragement/experiences with spinal taps performed on their child for similar or other reasons?  

My guilt is getting best of me right now....",5.025797101449278,7.475009381642513,4.799347826086958,81.1364130434783,71.1256038647343,8.078260869565218,29.85748792270532,8.841846274778883,2.599635748792271,910,38,159,18,18,279,137,207,0.071,0.863,0.066,0.2391,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,1,3,6,5,5,0,2,11,0,13,16,10,3,0,31,21,12,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,1,6,3,1,3,4,15,0,1,4,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,12,8,15,2,25,8,5,26,0,1,4,0,24,14,0,7,10,88,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110720053885508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284123894798329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986987468218563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140785181091592,0.14445471916471264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831917893727192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533623909458864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195419280500733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066944775054788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063227905631464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34514045377656666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764276116336212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976351655223334,0.13313815216613942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037080059875453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774797871919324,0.17370644289325296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713904530938498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768736657227247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793347334062705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948544493379175,0.1553670361693056,0.25977783149448913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869218126587966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304379030508367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851115285668722,0.0,0.0,0.129668116038158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776593449043544,0.0,0.0,0.1964694254756483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101583858539856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dinkdink--,2020/01/14,"Baby names Is it just me or is it just overwhelming to try to agree on a name that your child has to live with FOREVER. With my first it was easy. We had names pick the day we found out we were having a baby. This time it feels impossible. We have a boy name, but if we have a girl we are screwed. I’m just now 6 weeks, so we have plenty of time, but I’m a planner and it feels like I need to know my child’s name. It made it feel more real the last time. I’m almost ready to take it as a sign that we are having a boy and not worry about it any more.",0.5326190476190469,1.4038370238095226,2.622412698412699,98.70314285714292,79.55555555555556,5.992380952380952,16.56825396825397,6.2581,-0.7514546031746034,419,5,114,3,10,142,73,126,0.035,0.862,0.10400000000000001,0.7629,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,8,1,0,2,6,3,1,1,9,0,13,1,0,2,0,37,24,8,0,2,8,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,12,13,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,5,3,13,1,12,19,2,10,0,1,0,1,19,2,1,3,9,74,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24211887458796802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442624927838348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593526601798052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667705576104885,0.1727356205611352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205667398534406,0.0,0.26511147700699633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328820731838809,0.1970920298049245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181269252380742,0.0,0.21350598398410156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287885988709401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928504772975173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752112231925754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817968268813403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229710300156453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416029520759695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19395024749305348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455506136660919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,popupideas,2020/01/14,"Step son with ZERO motivation Hi. Our 15 yo son (my step son) has zero motivation. He is failing simply because he will not do any homework (aces tests... not sure how). We follow u up with him asking if he has any work and the answer is always “no”. 

He has had every thing taken away. No phone, no games... so he just goes to his room to sleep or read the same book for the 100 Th time. 

He showed interest in cosplay so I did everything to help him get into it... but it was effort so he didn’t do anything. Got him into running club... he ditched it. He loves history and tried everything to get him into anything. 

We are at a loss. No idea how to help motivate him. He will literally lay on the couch and stare at the tv for days on end. 

We have two other children and so much of our time and energy is in trying to stay on top of his school work. 

Any ideas?",0.2723595505617986,2.4122142696629254,2.597853932584272,92.28914044943821,86.07865168539325,5.5824719101123605,18.45056179775281,6.961326702584282,0.1480238202247195,652,17,146,9,20,222,109,178,0.07200000000000001,0.805,0.12300000000000001,0.8983,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,0,0,10,7,5,0,0,6,0,16,2,1,5,1,29,23,14,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,5,13,0,0,6,6,0,4,7,2,0,3,6,1,14,3,24,15,2,23,0,2,1,1,33,14,0,2,4,91,19,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375691848048562,0.0,0.0,0.3372935929334227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27210773651934445,0.0,0.15456278311449342,0.0,0.15533453609923425,0.0,0.0,0.10078464482748536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662524256530677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643477691628887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929905347820604,0.0,0.2971788690839879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275793612251694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223083110771455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216366520906932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732786377448387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921827730648024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153779273469592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537640018366545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673244656337698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545105963561138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176221550511326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558231320712738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983900786505044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928124399531941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244986877321784,0.0,0.16150500729998918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407268338142429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bherwig16,2020/01/14,Hand chewing My baby is almost 4 months old and she gnaws in her hands like crazy! I’ve read that others babies have started and I’m not sure what it means. She won’t take a binkie. Does anyone know what that means??,0.8633333333333333,3.1244908888888894,1.5555555555555571,99.94000000000004,84.55555555555556,3.6,13.444444444444445,3.1291,-1.5550888888888887,170,2,38,0,5,52,39,45,0.09300000000000001,0.7709999999999999,0.136,0.457,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,1,8,9,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,1,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,18,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862450518315947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998782507469916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501558749580272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570998377996755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396555633881168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6227653643380505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281687751834027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29995942021488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859349146487242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023314505232887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694173649904937,0.0,0.21492930785353456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GhibliGirl1985,2020/01/14,"Advice on a stubborn child? So my daughter just turned 7 and is in 1st grade. Pretty much all year long she's been having issues with her teacher. She wants to do what she wants to do matter what is said. My DD will listen some days, and others be out of control. She constantly can't follow class rules, disturbs other students and doesn't listen to what the teacher asks. I just got a call from her secondary teacher (her first had to get help from a specialist teacher they have) about how DD got a write up today. DD was paired with a student she didn't want to be paired with, when the student tried to get my DD to work with them she threw his hand off her and went to the student she wanted to be paired with. She's constantly in this state of 'me me me it's my way or the highway's and thinks she can do as she pleases. We're tried nearly everything we can think of with her aside from straight up spanking her. We would have her write a full page of what she did wrong, nothing. Sit in time out for hours, nothing. Take away her things, nothing. Offer her treats for behaving, she'd behave until she got it then right back to it. Infact, we told her if she didn't behave we wouldn't go out to dinner for her birthday. Yesterday we went out to dinner, now without a treat dangled infront of her she seems to have done back to misbehaving. It's beyond frustrating! She keeps this up she'll get a suspension in 1st grade! Her secondary teacher wants me to basically ignore the bad days and only give her credit for the good. So we make a chart where only the good days get marked and she has to have X good days to get a reward or something. I don't know. I don't think ignoring this bad behavior and not punishing it in some way is going to help. Yes, I don't want my husband screaming at her or anything, but I can't ignore it either. Suggestions anyone?

TLDL : 7 yr old Daughter thinks everything is about her, refuses to participate in class unless it's on her terms like what she wants to do and with who. Will end up suspended in 1st grade if she gets another write up, don't know what to do about it now.",3.3390909090909098,4.729946172494174,4.085594405594407,88.92531468531472,73.28904428904428,6.971561771561771,24.655011655011656,7.463857097105799,1.0070382284382289,1664,50,349,19,33,531,192,429,0.068,0.856,0.075,-0.2392,0,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,6,0,2,4,15,19,3,1,17,1,40,3,1,3,1,70,79,23,0,11,12,3,1,1,0,5,0,4,0,1,21,26,2,7,7,0,1,6,12,11,0,1,15,5,60,8,70,55,8,60,0,0,0,0,66,27,0,8,24,241,81,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000993466245677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658655593036708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440624699253296,0.0,0.07579961538632159,0.0,0.0861114767479987,0.0,0.08654144305593893,0.14165555363001178,0.15381789978797591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405576705373754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907882681310127,0.10331046980606244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23761624657368546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942616709835255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158312520928569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556709680988355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834968402318429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28874559644335346,0.08836139355165994,0.10469776097340812,0.2317753485206808,0.22100906652022065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348030378615996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071091319132396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614009328289032,0.0,0.08187260867031955,0.0,0.0,0.10124374130750748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0450008476452097,0.0,0.0,0.08151545553954398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614848975903094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771228236311093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26514935365663816,0.0,0.09665514098655537,0.0,0.0,0.14010933707748566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111036531997987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937101384237928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786624056490801,0.08761878222811208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385451747409943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091165154657086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925610983593848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061194544904048236,0.2360843830304025,0.0,0.0,0.053710743314758114,0.0,0.08731058531450771,0.08801613643212104,0.0,0.12507482809937148,0.10019046405056524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38030673586893393,0.14622706242667302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170775889164915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879184674663902,0.0,0.06705800301635073,0.0,0.0,0.06543310721177348,0.10070906582077238,0.0,0.0593165506907005
parenting,dbhammel,2020/01/14,"I want grapes. My three-year-old was having a total fit about getting dressed and going to daycare this morning, and midway through the tantrum he was offered grapes (because he said he wanted a snack) and promptly screamed ""I DON'T WANT GRAPES!"" and threw them across the room.

Guess what he asked me when we were two minutes away from home in the car?

""Dada, I'm hungry, can I have some grapes?""

For fucks sake.",4.513846153846154,6.196482435897438,3.3979487179487187,93.85538461538464,70.7948717948718,5.2,27.102564102564106,3.1291,0.4446256410256408,322,11,64,0,6,92,61,78,0.134,0.818,0.048,-0.7793,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,5,0,7,2,0,0,1,11,18,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,1,5,2,7,0,8,13,2,9,0,0,0,1,9,5,1,2,1,37,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665113622559843,0.0,0.26784208971277473,0.0,0.0,0.1737821514740826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635519110070623,0.14894255903259207,0.0,0.16201756116569518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31404781349756783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859585325298319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991435551471921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27117640868198545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784817835144602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044427961087015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358220443910972
parenting,Jeepercreeper1711,2020/01/14,"Afraid of what is ahead I have a pretty complicated situation. After traveling alone for 7 months in Europe I returned to the US pregnant. I knew who the father was and we talked about getting together and me moving to foreign country. He had a mental break down that required being admitted and then anti psychotic injections after. I postponed moving and had my kid in the US. I kept constant contact and when my child was 1 1/2  I decided to try to give our family another chance. I moved to foreign country and it’s been exactly one year now. I’m not happy here. Ex doesn’t really help with much and makes excuses saying it’s because he’s recovering. I’m isolated because we live in a rural area and can’t drive because the car is a manual and he has broken promises to teach me how to drive so many times. 

I’m planning on moving back to the US and I’m scared of what might happen now. The whole child custody proceeding is daunting especially since it’s international. I’m overwhelmed. I don’t have any support here and I just want to go home where I have my family. I’m scared of what kind of single parent I’ll be too. Im snappy at my child because I’m so stressed with solely taking care of her and being alone with her all day. My child is 2.5 and is such a handful at this age too. I get migraines and weird swelling on my lips once a week. I just want to know that everything will be ok if I move home.  I’m rambling so thank you for listening.",3.1726468926553686,4.833138494915257,4.84375,82.22811087570622,74.22033898305084,7.899717514124294,27.206920903954806,8.59863814320734,2.041488700564971,1156,44,227,22,24,391,168,295,0.094,0.8109999999999999,0.095,-0.1974,1,2,0,0,1,0,22.0,6,1,0,3,17,13,0,5,12,1,23,3,2,2,2,36,48,21,0,3,4,3,1,0,0,2,1,2,2,5,10,19,0,2,4,1,0,10,4,6,0,1,7,3,30,7,32,35,4,38,0,1,0,0,29,10,0,2,17,145,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20977343660460146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886808367927218,0.10619198379156224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778715221293729,0.0,0.24693663321147116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325303004547637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943849972982328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531173091769638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101628219110862,0.0,0.1909394893920205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582034391171136,0.09714883796666776,0.05755491967389565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955404120340549,0.10780538069025444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788014280005214,0.0,0.2031671165940789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093905838722778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545866928508492,0.055656160592758665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894245781046074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759950373469316,0.10267339228968383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205783925018518,0.10743304355095226,0.0,0.0,0.08083393446945199,0.5381778168152267,0.07444619514518219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785082815416837,0.06862418029070039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245000126875733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302950969468988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487710756205105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053515093564012,0.20278085021018244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377282027973715,0.1138333941201224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600614581381832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492168294572988,0.0,0.0,0.07614355457986026,0.08139818488538013,0.0,0.09323717866755246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059052218277930224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687566918103817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654513876852227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946509337721092,0.0,0.08123387800054349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306599824789007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652155170959755
parenting,AllDayDreamer,2020/01/14,"What Books are your Go-To for raising kids? We loved Wonder Weeks when my daughter was a little sprout. It helped us through so many headaches and gave us some great suggestions to help her develop, explore and play with. She's 3.5 and obviously has outgrown the Wonder Weeks for quite some time now. We miss it though! 

I've been reading parenting books since then, looking for something that resonates with us. Haven't been having much luck. We don't get much support from our families and are trying our best. I think my husband and I operate even better when we have something to lean on, and I've noticed that missing the Wonder Weeks comes up more often in conversation. I *know* toddlers (and older) are more complex and challenging than babies, but I also feel that we can learn to parent better or more intelligently. 

**What parenting books (or resources) can you recommend?**",3.3234375000000007,6.408879468750005,3.3862500000000004,85.03375,82.4375,5.95,26.125,7.365786028017652,1.6912249999999998,705,29,120,11,20,215,107,160,0.027000000000000003,0.8190000000000001,0.153,0.9635,3,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,10,2,0,5,8,11,0,0,3,0,13,1,0,0,1,33,27,17,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,16,0,0,9,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,2,20,9,14,23,8,15,0,2,1,1,26,4,0,9,9,85,27,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751116054089914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279629776902546,0.21568272177072967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503597414807203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053674000841426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149492127259198,0.0,0.06165386385764165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370586441688496,0.0,0.06929831776636501,0.0,0.0,0.13443347168995146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346056018970564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670121394359645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221063413342498,0.0,0.0,0.10239446421798387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100508556187685,0.0,0.0,0.12362267909250947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927211494337456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882349972612626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406182267210332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296925959458446,0.12196772853759427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086566974330856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774262664356775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837008805053894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813085228762608,0.11980025437397675,0.0,0.07110112237527462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278567852473129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4400174048623681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934260592997937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966990440169656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,suprswimmer,2020/01/14,"I love it I love the pterodactyl scream at 2 am.

I love the feet slamming as a way to self sooth.

I love how she twists my nipple during breastfeeding.

I love how she starts to gently cup my face and then swipes my eye.

I love the little toots before the big poop.

I love the constant game of retrieval as she learns to chuck things across the room 

I love how she smiles at me in the morning when she sees my face.

I love how she tried to give me a big sloppy kiss thing yesterday and I started crying.

I love that she giggles only when something is absolutely hysterical.

I love that she holds me tight in her sleep.

I love all of this. Being a parent is awesome.",1.8696410256410267,3.954811029629632,2.794814814814813,93.52128205128206,79.44444444444444,5.33903133903134,20.014245014245013,6.297961479604792,-0.02928490028490005,519,13,112,4,13,164,76,135,0.042,0.575,0.38299999999999995,0.9961,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,6,15,0,0,10,0,4,19,6,4,1,10,20,11,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,29,14,13,19,1,17,0,0,2,13,25,9,0,0,7,72,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397639590685909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394726547856427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549545336337133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339722943863953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713302073491523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9415609585060828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611898059255568,0.0,0.0,0.09653248306895347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927698269374408,0.0,0.09069353052581752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699909349151606,0.0,0.0,0.06692781809110718,0.0,0.0,0.1230679341201434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551324162338696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05902404724922838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900599563431413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nocopingskills0,2020/01/14,"Troubling teen behaviors. My step son (Dave) is 14. His dad (Ben) and I have been together since he was 11.

Dave has always been a rebellious kid, but never anything too bad. I always loved his quick wit and creativity but when he turned 13 things started going sideways, and now that hes 14 it's gotten much worse.

In the start of the school year, Dave was constantly getting sent to the support room and having teachers call home because of racist remarks and extremely innapropriate jokes.

He got his school laptop taken away for writing his name as the N-word (several times) and writing it on the teachers projection screen. (We are white).

He was grounded for weeks after that and we had so many long talks with him. We asked him why he thinks that's okay, and he says ""it's just a joke. Its just a word. People need to get over it"".

Than he was given 3 days ISS AND labeled as a threat for writing a joke about hitler on one test, and on another test that involved creating a problem and solving it he wrote his problem as ""my wife is leaving me, solution: shoot her 36 times"". 

At this point I'm not sure how many more threat assessment forms he needs before they expell him. This wasnt the first one (or the last).

On top fo school issues, he steals out stuff.. he has stolen at least 4 phone chargers from us that we keep replacing, an xbox one controller and a game. He also tried stealing our nintendo switch but Ben drove straight to his moms immediatly and took it back. The other stuff we didnt notice right away and is now just lost for good.

But than last week it all exploded. Dave wrote some anti LGBT stuff on his uncle's facebook page (his uncle is trans, and they actually have a great relationship with each other so it was a huge shock). Dave's cousin wrote a comment on the post saying its innapropriate and take it down. Dave called her the C-word.

Ben (furious) took Dave's phone away and screamed at him (Ben rarely ever gets that mad) and Dave wasnt affected at all. He argued it was a joke, and everyone else is being too sensitive and being mean to HIM. Than Dave started asking a bunch of questions like ""how is it gay bashing? What is gay bashing"" ect. Ben replied with ""I'm not answering you anymore. Go away. I cant even look at you"" Dave mumbled something, Ben asked what? And Dave goes ""that's what I thought"" and walked away.

Not gonna lie.. I wanted to slap him.

But it gets worse.

While going thru Dave's phone we found videos of him spray painting his ""memes"" all over town. Videos of him lighting the spray paint on fire to make a flame thrower (and holding it for a looooong time) AND a video of him using his new flame thrower in his moms TRAILER in the toilet causing the bowl to go black.

We immediatly called his mom. Shes an absolute useless waste and wouldnt answer her phone until 3 days later - to which she didnt seem to care at all.

When we confronted Dave and explained how hes basically grounded for life at this point he argued more.. how nothing happen, he cleaned the bowl, we are acting insane. How going thru his phone (that WE pay for) is an invasion of his privacy and compared us to the insane parents subreddit. We tried explaining to Dave how dangerous what he was doing was. Especially in a trailer.. and he just kept arguing.

Same night Dave's phone kept going off, his friends trying to reach him so Ben posted in an Instagram group chat to his friends that his phone was gone to which his friends started calling Ben the N-word, C-word. Boomer. Said they were gonna F Ben's mom.

We've met these kids. Given these kids rides. They've been over our house and showed us so much respect... we were floored.

In a rage, Ben deleted Dave's Instagram account, smashed the phone and cancelled the line. 

Dave has been flipping out ever since and is telling us hes 14 and can legally get a job so hes going to go do that and buy his own phone and contract and than we cant control him anymore.

I'm completely numb today. Ben is even worse. He feels like he failed Dave completely somewhere and we dont know what to do anymore.

We have tried counseling (3 different therapist gave up because of how unwilling Dave is to talk, and one quit on us because Dave was intentionally trying to sound crazy and just playing mind games with him).

We have tried out of school activities (skateboarding, which Dave got very good at and now refuses to do anything or even go to skate school anymore).

Mentors (Dave ditches them in the hallways at school and bullies them)

We cant do much of anything else because we have 50/50 custody with his mom who refuses to send him to a reform school.

We've tried keeping him at home all the time, which DOES keep him away from ""friends"" and out of trouble but than hes messing with our home and leaving ""booby traps"" and ""pranks""

Hes gets off on screwing with people. That's his joy.

Can a child just be a ""lost cause""? Are we going too hard on him? I'm even questioning myself if we're ""insane parents"" at this point... I feel crazy...",3.6153485699693566,5.408952316649644,3.9476913942798753,88.55591911389173,73.33094994892748,6.937900919305415,26.53780643513789,7.645422480735847,1.3520190909090912,3934,140,797,50,80,1225,407,979,0.132,0.782,0.087,-0.9944,7,0,1,1,0,0,150.0,27,2,5,8,36,47,11,0,45,1,66,6,0,15,9,155,141,72,0,7,18,11,4,2,4,3,2,5,5,4,48,74,0,10,14,14,3,20,13,26,0,5,44,14,92,21,107,91,18,114,0,4,4,4,171,57,1,7,37,465,140,17,0.0,0.0,0.04411103377843461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03614835270317955,0.07522405607616793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047398670460030025,0.0,0.0,0.17931458659782587,0.0,0.0,0.11159320123030783,0.0,0.1267744605827177,0.0,0.25481492539196576,0.034757864801508304,0.03774212607891506,0.11021988368796096,0.0,0.03846392346512144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462686714533985,0.0,0.04608687181822836,0.0928706578087178,0.0,0.0,0.09478773835444894,0.04884774913439505,0.10139669783729964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058303632730289386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047226899903403466,0.0,0.0,0.03955693552773508,0.0,0.052976890445500614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552163028837303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194230677694521,0.0817763394391985,0.0,0.04319284196155406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0457113955751776,0.03229261230578135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03844914872355235,0.0,0.04956211183882603,0.13969308613750694,0.0,0.14169836827467167,0.0,0.256895725418517,0.07582727747472755,0.07230499670660173,0.04983581902630546,0.0,0.0,0.03997234382301317,0.0,0.04049248267038929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360251150405913,0.0,0.0,0.052157514683910285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047179574378835035,0.04485641925942092,0.1205339426596342,0.0,0.0,0.024842063598554683,0.07369199805314436,0.0,0.09572565560820337,0.0,0.0,0.031927800529256915,0.04416723067535526,0.0,0.0,0.04000271235785216,0.03795864172750055,0.0,0.09868754521337242,0.0,0.040796941828267666,0.0,0.030172961144331517,0.09165630233830886,0.0,0.049238678424322606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045641550560261715,0.2647025942379093,0.0,0.0,0.09968692206416682,0.06703403177356007,0.03486288692705111,0.04365677137442927,0.0,0.042419401751998466,0.0,0.04337293361932448,0.05146324588645376,0.0,0.0,0.12252129741066373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038385880104997,0.0,0.0,0.06267532220656584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819267071244608,0.0,0.08658283156882028,0.0,0.0,0.08650520750783977,0.0,0.0,0.10127409343848574,0.04807832944696604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04853047416961783,0.0,0.038602613034902734,0.042997845248084886,0.07189354494289983,0.0,0.3202307806985584,0.0,0.04115057838075417,0.0,0.051065859428109414,0.0,0.0747838049572643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034799025299706805,0.0,0.0,0.12797800003578969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523784215139838,0.0,0.05129516168893267,0.04260273854759313,0.0,0.03398658846293138,0.07266397337485826,0.0395089006376043,0.0,0.0,0.052483484536943036,0.030030474116393605,0.028963880542766513,0.0,0.03588566612639625,0.1054315602421876,0.0,0.042846601383925736,0.0,0.1004430863277846,0.214826295024988,0.049167244271489344,0.0,0.0,0.27186468123702984,0.03904037086548216,0.0,0.03729672404252797,0.02666155386821704,0.0,0.0725172969947659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04078814622280967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819535933817084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029108871435907863
parenting,ozark_sky,2020/01/14,"Hidden danger to our children Good morning everyone! I wanted to pass along a Public Service Announcement. This PSA could save your property, pets and the lives of you and your family.

We've all had to buy a charging cord for our phones or other devices like tablets. They inevitably get lost of left behind while traveling. I recently purchased one of these replacement cords from CVS. It looked well built and was actually covered in a metal like sheath which I thought meant it would hold up well. It also wasn't cheap.

Fast forward a few weeks and my daughter (who was the new owner of the cord) woke me up in the middle of the night in a panic. She was yelling about blue flames and smoke in her room. I rushed up and quickly determined the issue and luckily my home electrical system did its job.    

[http://imgur.com/a/78sWX4P](http://imgur.com/a/78sWX4P)

As you can see by the pictures that I've attached, the new cord from CVS slipped between her bed and the wall. The wall charger was plugged in, but had slipped away from the wall ever so slightly. The new ""metal covered cord"" crossed the two terminals and we all know what happens then. The terminals shorted out and a fire started. The cord actually welded itself to the terminals as seen in the picture. Her sheets and bedding were right next to the outlet and could have easily caught fire. I'll have to replace the cord, wall charger, outlet and do some painting, but everyone was fine. The lesson learned is... only get a cord that is plastic covered.

I know that is a long story, but I hope it reaches one of you and keeps you from losing property or heaven forbid... the lives of the people you love. [\#CVS](https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/cvs?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG) [\#Powerxcel](https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/powerxcel?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG)",6.236585311240482,9.029209943573669,5.018104567845949,79.37720611285269,68.68652037617555,7.56654724585759,31.14207344379757,8.418075326091056,2.6279734885803845,1488,63,236,24,28,437,182,319,0.049,0.8390000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9535,3,0,1,0,1,0,89.0,3,7,1,3,7,15,1,1,30,0,20,1,0,0,3,41,38,25,0,5,5,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,5,1,15,17,0,3,6,1,3,6,1,5,2,3,16,7,24,10,36,19,4,41,1,2,4,1,22,21,0,4,17,159,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.25110343370429056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288781183541193,0.0,0.27880192947799537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087849162338668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544599926454507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637858983362424,0.0,0.24587659818789864,0.0,0.0,0.121287377813667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443706247732626,0.0,0.0,0.1079122847017744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377190611291188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905453402081413,0.12778649312879006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428559832374967,0.1276732818856142,0.11435720380746385,0.0,0.0,0.14141422078725113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978736914922466,0.0,0.0,0.12571166814518436,0.0,0.2272148652944823,0.11385834302813976,0.1080403751633023,0.14393547050550884,0.1404454812337695,0.0,0.1161189310271902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727762962309584,0.13682931669226886,0.1207368828523816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436407541622376,0.09785025954173096,0.0,0.15095252383272806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919530595021773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703432237789175,0.0,0.0,0.1098732885258405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252382411373842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910648439147027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214013607531036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568023932279274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588586290936379,0.0,0.10320174295734763,0.0,0.2313581116998635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139500131605137,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iluvtotrip,2020/01/14,"Will I be able to have a daughter? I don't know if this is the right sub for this but I'm just gonna ask this anyway... So um I'm a dude, 20 and having a daughter has always been the biggest dream of my life ... Always dreamt of all the things my kid and I could do together and stuff like that but I am just not like other dudes. I have never once ejaculated wantedly... Not even while having sex. It just happens automatically when I wake up in the morning rarely but other than that never once willingly... I don't want to be one of the dudes who has to do the insemination or other stuff to get my girl pregnant. I have been freaked out about this thought for over 2 years now and I just had to ask it today. Please direct me to the right sub if you are grossed out by this. I have never talked about this to anyone.",1.7328070175438592,3.4039698830409364,3.2782222222222224,91.86400000000002,78.23976608187135,5.963508771929827,20.171929824561406,6.742157984588678,0.07493964912280715,634,15,145,6,15,209,97,171,0.035,0.892,0.073,0.8029,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,0,10,0,23,3,1,0,4,27,34,13,0,5,12,2,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,2,17,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,7,2,1,1,4,0,15,2,21,24,1,16,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,3,10,113,32,0,0.1671912476501425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782330229130392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690400774711435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126024947868987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334886067729991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104282422547085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735052633293074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784666813944636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918839372796547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809212264790472,0.1633623968914762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868445916038025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561064444307273,0.11329311635123505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835257833304724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855608239515294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38278795680774014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343819917692833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111074435875349,0.0,0.0,0.13273117519062552,0.0,0.0,0.15847775361287014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19722745927982552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076656819063172
parenting,greybird30,2020/01/14,"Is this normal motherhood anxiety? I did something stupid. I gave something to my toddler without fully researching the safety of the product, only to find out it is not, in fact, safe. You just think - they sell it in the store, it must be safe, right?

I found out it was not safe, and the offending item went in the trash. 

But now I’m having rapid heartbeat, shaking hands, shallow breathing - basically an anxiety attack. I’ve been having them all night long. I feel terrible. I keep thinking how my little guy trusted me and I gave him something dangerous. 

Is this normal parenting anxiety? The thing is not going to cause him lasting harm - it is safely in the trash, outside the house, where he can’t get at it. I didn’t have an anxiety attack the time he fell and we went to the emergency room. I think I’m more ashamed that I bought in to a product that was more about my convenience than his well-being. 

I’m also ashamed to say - I’m worried about what our friends and family will think. It feels like I have to keep this a shameful secret, except that some people already know, so it’s not really a secret - and on, and on, it goes in my head. My heartbeat is rising thinking about it. 

My husband and I are considering a second child soon. If this type of anxiety is normal for parenting, then ... I don’t know. Maybe not?",2.444561717352414,4.828096604651165,3.738914728682172,85.93051878354206,79.07751937984496,6.759928443649375,25.426952892069174,7.882392219407189,1.6354562909958257,1036,40,198,18,26,338,142,258,0.203,0.745,0.053,-0.9888,2,0,3,0,0,0,43.0,2,1,2,0,10,18,5,4,16,0,22,3,3,2,3,48,45,13,0,5,10,3,3,1,1,2,0,1,1,2,19,10,0,6,13,0,3,6,9,11,0,1,11,4,27,7,27,31,5,28,0,0,0,0,21,15,0,2,8,139,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362901275127225,0.089591163575758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285171056486793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25490290962781204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508671451019173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561287203543236,0.0,0.11329249639338886,0.08003498071217274,0.0,0.0,0.10239431964675884,0.0,0.0,0.12283622729291645,0.08655488559404684,0.0,0.058531582313742524,0.0,0.06366980854388686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092832001997098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497614407875678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926875169446347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915663030661387,0.0,0.0,0.1231386338233738,0.09132023118750557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05473269585222259,0.11228451033307567,0.0,0.09914392436508164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255021426280316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513351997959268,0.3292998297737035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520463650793994,0.0,0.0,0.2487943721269381,0.0,0.0,0.07766820095619292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176993801331727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567387613094358,0.0,0.08909156107207486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25874084997754937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442842944770585,0.3589247594216741,0.0,0.0,0.06532618676475943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072933839354392,0.2077077497350464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799390225837838,0.0,0.0,0.11377293556931595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Solipsistic,2020/01/14,"Potty training a stubborn toddler My son will be 4 in May and is nowhere close to being potty trained. We're trying to get him into preschool this fall and desperately need to get him started.

Our problem is that he's incredibly stubborn when it comes to the potty. He has zero interest at all. So far, we've tried the following:

- Offering small prizes if he even sits on the potty. This worked at first, but after 2 days he decided the prizes weren't worth the effort. 
- He's obsessed with being clean so we tried putting him in regular underwear in hopes that he'd not like being wet and want to go potty, but that was also a no go. 
- Let him run around with no diaper/underwear. Every time we try this he throws a massive fit because he doesn't like going without pants
- Take him to the bathroom to change his diaper. For the most part, he's ok with this, but it hasn't helped get him interested in the potty
- Offer to take him to the potty with us anytime we go. He'll go sometimes and watch, but again, it doesn't help get him interested in going himself.

We've read a lot about it and understand that most of the time when kids are stubborn and not interested in the potty it means that they're not ready. That's ok, but we know we won't get him into preschool if he's not potty trained. His diapers are usually dry in the mornings and he often has dry diapers after a couple of hours so I think we have a chance, but we honestly have no idea what else we can try.

Can anyone offer up any advice?",4.498717105263161,5.133795121710527,5.553789473684212,82.3175263157895,69.82236842105263,8.58,28.02894736842105,8.697196308434329,1.9581505263157888,1183,39,240,19,20,392,151,304,0.10400000000000001,0.763,0.133,0.9226,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,10,0,0,5,11,17,3,1,18,2,24,0,0,0,1,56,48,21,0,6,13,1,1,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,16,24,0,3,6,1,1,12,13,5,0,2,2,2,25,12,34,36,5,43,0,0,1,0,41,18,0,8,14,154,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148148577030354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941654818291998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454006808374581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692558890174946,0.0,0.0,0.11066880755100857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578270901689099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151128339050375,0.10708839815778742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375547947087808,0.0,0.08017441292781577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038512025439586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821104440674108,0.0,0.1047427378856857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574428323343983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247534489490248,0.0,0.4239145247989641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665461233323062,0.0,0.0,0.1234751893799362,0.12242755815108247,0.0,0.0,0.1403391679102491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832157008614231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271229237495308,0.0,0.1214703655405126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569017416596264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354180503391072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217974750375477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462358665545598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895492445939587,0.0,0.12497328386932355,0.0,0.0,0.12435100242533975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295304820454593,0.0,0.08799246753637485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694236704185385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965754481783094,0.0,0.0,0.1449809051450348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.422016636467866,0.0,0.0,0.12941875644493014,0.14953847774677728,0.0,0.13691800903647278,0.0,0.07332560010509064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983749913296945,0.0,0.0905045189707666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imjustwandering63411,2020/01/14,Super proud Super proud of my kid. Straight A’s again. All AP classes. My kid works their butt off. 👏👏👏👏,-3.1337499999999987,-2.1203235416666644,-0.4429999999999996,106.78800000000004,117.75,1.92,13.133333333333333,3.1291,-1.8528566666666664,81,2,21,0,5,27,17,24,0.0,0.485,0.515,0.9423,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,5,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,8,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WatercastleTaleWorks,2020/01/14,"Children's ebooks     Education

1. **Pretty goes to a tea party** by Cecília Vizvári: Watch out! This is a really girly tale! Only for girls, mothers and grandmothers. And a pox on doubters! 😉 Available on apple, amazon, kobo, googleplaybooks.
2. **The Haughty Teapot** by Cecília Vizvári:  From the first part of the kitchen tales you learn how the most conceited teapot becomes the nicest and friendliest teapot in the world. Of course the tea cups, garlic press, cake-server, kitchen sponge, and not to be forgotten, the leftover chocolate sauce, also play their part. Available on apple, amazon, kobo, googleplaybooks.

[https://books.apple.com/us/author/cec%C3%ADlia-vizv%C3%A1ri/id1484112836#see-all/books](https://books.apple.com/us/author/cec%C3%ADlia-vizv%C3%A1ri/id1484112836#see-all/books)",11.428865546218493,16.096146284313726,4.11997198879552,74.17558823529413,86.15686274509804,5.080112044817927,27.406162464986,6.655083550727371,1.9428985994397765,659,23,76,8,21,154,73,102,0.022000000000000002,0.836,0.142,0.8966,0,0,0,0,0,0,72.0,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,11,0,2,4,0,1,0,9,2,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,13,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,1,1,40,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048563101029853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630692869816525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026097957091825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18115914898787766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5158871298921203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24233144317857866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525947580586614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796234943966945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5730420501324173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nsjones76,2020/01/14,"Any ideas for getting my 12-year-old daughter to stop chewing with her mouth open? Her father and I have asked her to stop chewing with her mouth open hundreds of times over several years and have made no progress. She does not, to my knowledge, have any muscular issues that would cause her to be slack-jawed while she chews. She does have ADHD for which she is appropriately medicated.  Any behavioral recommendations?",7.546891891891898,9.136129635135132,6.127945945945946,77.48867567567571,63.45945945945946,9.163243243243244,33.71891891891892,9.3871,3.0151005405405407,339,14,59,6,5,100,50,74,0.091,0.873,0.036000000000000004,-0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,7,3,2,0,14,10,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,6,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,12,0,10,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,5,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515667696081834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42704249310350784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19568968289077024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503340845911756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36636168518354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936315022108706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23630131645622704,0.0,0.2184798714191732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980674295908568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087190751736773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21965032541218493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364765377529123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350008473018279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205850746064285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486977634619106,0.0,0.0,0.2695955854713002
parenting,K8terpillar,2020/01/14,"My toddler is obsessed with Dinosaurs, any recommendations of TV shows and or movies? We have Disney+, Hulu, YouTube TV, Amazon Prime and Netflix...

We have watched, the Good Dinosaur, Dinosaur, We're Back and unfortunately all the Land Before time movies are only through HBO, I can't find them free streaming anywhere.

Any recommendations for a Dino obsessed 2yo would be greatly appreciated.

I don't want to keep rewatching the same 3 movies lol",7.068614718614718,9.460267831168837,6.425389610389612,71.85332251082255,65.49350649350649,7.730735930735931,37.50865800865801,8.344100000000001,3.3494346320346318,361,19,56,5,6,111,61,77,0.122,0.7440000000000001,0.134,0.4598,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,1,0,1,5,0,2,4,1,8,0,0,0,1,13,10,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,4,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,5,8,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,30,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670350414484162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26404633047956544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922002805641686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31385297196815104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880199126413078,0.0,0.3785895714678261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052215226612507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26116417869406144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002339381148984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254079196143485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24393497336887066,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dave_Broom,2020/01/14,ENTERTAINING & SCIENTIFIC BRAIN GAMES FOR KIDS Here are some [great scientific brain games developed by academicians to help kids cognitive improvement](https://www.mentalup.co/brain-games). Hope you like it!,13.347023809523812,18.618177750000008,9.121428571428574,46.2902380952381,57.214285714285715,13.733333333333334,34.333333333333336,11.855464076750405,6.313033333333332,179,7,21,7,3,50,22,28,0.0,0.647,0.353,0.9006,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27718615940305524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8567555445597261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820478423011695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17147402995430136,0.0,0.0,0.25409183731456075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498311812460125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catloveroftheweek,2020/01/14,Help explaining that mum and dare going to be away for 2 weeks Hoping this community can help us with some tips on how to explain to our 3 year old that we’re going to be away for 2 weeks.  We’re going to an overseas wedding and can’t really take him with us. He’s at an age where he understands that we come back after a day at work or a few hours out without him but I’m struggling to find the right words or method to explain that we’ll be away for an extended period . How have some of you explained this scenario to your kid ? He’ll be staying with his grandparents whom he loves but he’s quite attached to myself and his mum.,4.553853383458648,4.480003586466168,5.444125939849624,85.64182800751881,69.52631578947367,8.755263157894738,27.90319548872181,8.472884824447931,1.6813917293233085,499,15,110,7,8,164,82,133,0.028999999999999998,0.889,0.08199999999999999,0.7140000000000001,1,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,5,2,0,2,4,3,0,1,6,0,8,1,0,2,0,26,22,9,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,9,0,0,6,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,12,2,25,16,3,24,0,0,0,1,28,9,0,5,10,71,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4731336256276326,0.12907497131352266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445976387349031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108256645871551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342217890275905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861983201067297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22502776997522414,0.0,0.0,0.16672413757068982,0.1653095585447342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150136886241047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614218758735556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785411454244433,0.0,0.0,0.10753624134332174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335262532843698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891780154174766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754850679382988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621080023036987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747495238687868,0.4038329296948857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692964047931803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618122943719023,0.0,0.12220501906031575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809716785007413
parenting,gaga_booboo,2020/01/14,"My 8 year old daughter refuses to go to sleep by herself and ends up getting into an emotional frenzy every night. My 8 year old daughter is constantly asking either my wife or I to ‘put her to bed’ which involves sitting with her in her room until she falls asleep. We’ve indulged her and now it’s to the point where she is crying and sobbing when we tell her it’s time to sleep and when we refuse to sit with her. She says she is scared to be alone, she has bad dreams, etc.

Often she wakes up in the middle of the night and comes to our room and we find her fast asleep in between us come the morning. Other time’s she will fall asleep, my wife and I will unwind by watching a tv show or something, and before you know it it’s 11pm and she’s come out to the lounge room and sits there and cry’s and sobs when we tell her it’s time to go back to her room and to bed.

I admit, sometimes this up and down and emotion gets the better of us and we are firm with her, sometimes we are soft and go back and even fall asleep in her bed.

I don’t know if this is common. We have no issues with our older daughter and she has no issues going to her room, sleeping and being on her own.

Are there any resources someone can provide to help with this?",2.787368421052633,3.6292620909090942,3.685007974481661,93.39093301435406,73.92424242424242,6.0124401913875625,22.60685805422648,5.399115186594226,0.060662121212120564,968,23,221,3,19,310,128,264,0.098,0.8590000000000001,0.043,-0.93,0,1,1,0,0,0,17.0,11,1,0,1,11,5,0,1,8,0,16,8,8,0,0,48,29,27,0,1,4,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,8,0,10,37,0,2,4,4,0,11,3,4,0,0,0,3,43,1,37,25,3,54,0,2,1,0,49,19,2,4,21,153,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560659851076012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590670228778061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435138474413712,0.0,0.0,0.17166066285505502,0.09319960269804133,0.0,0.0,0.09498199379816803,0.0,0.0,0.09872047707559503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884570834288705,0.0,0.12062359185860895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452227753980639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25111916967445297,0.0988638496150415,0.0,0.12448789589647488,0.0737251953283056,0.0,0.09404624341702453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202037102585544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166356447306582,0.0,0.2537491342567118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481778954053286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330084732575041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226889260421508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094991353538768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342567607823836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551875071213312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221081396809206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876619471862901,0.1117529688952282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33510745923043445,0.0,0.09457685197563394,0.08593197228556854,0.2207937759452081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512487636557446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19526283785380008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685347425944393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376165492863313
parenting,Yeager2017,2020/01/14,"What do I (mom 33) do when I'm at wits end with 3rd son(8)?? I'm mom (33) 4 kids, 3rd son (8), I cant find anything to atta boy him cuz he chooses to be bad. 
       I'm at wits end. I have 2 older sons (13 10) and problem son (8) and youngest is a daughter. the older 2 boys didn't give me ANYTHING like #3 gives me. yes older 2 have different dad, but I was the stay at home mom who raised them while the men in their life were NOT THERE enough to make an impression. now #3 is making bad, mean choices and purposely being against the grain against his 2.8 year old sister, school, me(mom) and step dad. older brothers live with their bio dad and visit us as often as possible. 
    the fuk am i supposed to do??? I've tried reasoning, my way or no way, his way, chores, one on one, special time on weekends, atta boy for what he is good at, rewards, grounding, being tough, being nice, being mom, being friend, trust me I've tried as much as I can. what the f am i supposed to do now when that doesn't work?!?! fiance and I are relatively on same page and he doesnt know what to do either.",2.532604625550661,3.1724223568281964,4.030349669603528,91.43644961453742,74.33039647577094,6.732268722466961,23.87912995594713,6.6274283507984215,0.5286037444933922,813,22,190,6,16,271,134,227,0.057,0.809,0.134,0.9643,1,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,1,0,3,2,6,12,0,0,8,1,26,1,0,4,0,24,35,17,0,1,4,13,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,6,9,0,0,5,1,0,2,6,4,0,2,3,0,19,8,23,26,5,30,0,0,0,0,33,9,0,2,16,107,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900663354856964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19177276342541225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998308049146555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034278376161933,0.11866014466141007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049614371249102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872489424681591,0.0,0.0,0.22032947589168492,0.0,0.09632212102962184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519361748041933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311291493652943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111470091521332,0.056104893652191366,0.0,0.10140558980429258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331282947010855,0.0,0.0,0.1250941376368669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6724945472962965,0.0,0.0,0.08442041871924362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050498356702635,0.0,0.15563675277448233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946454601818289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098861167742675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807437392200995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622394263495656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240387740128482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696397288808469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559372833242251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813806114044105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734633084426184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360469468092734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395302405311087
parenting,CinematicMuse,2020/01/14,"Sometimes I just feel like a shitty parent I always said I wouldn't be mean like my dad, but now I totally get it. It's freaking stressful trying to support a family. Everything is just mentally draining, while I love my kids just sometimes I cannot life.  

Like earlier I started randomly bawling because I don't play with my daughter (5) enough. I know how she feels when I don't give her enough attention. I know one day I will miss these days and wishing she would ask me to play kitchen again. 
I feel like I'm doing the same with my little guy (1).

Sometimes I get very snappy, and I don't like when I do. I tried taking anti-depressants after my son was born without much luck. 

It's very difficult putting this in words, I don't really know where I'm taking this, I hoping I'm not alone with these feelings. I want to not be a shitty dad but I do it to myself",2.8674799357945453,4.268392955056181,4.350593900481542,86.51651685393259,74.50561797752809,7.3329052969502415,26.19743178170145,7.957251820313856,1.514761155698234,678,24,140,10,14,226,101,178,0.174,0.665,0.161,-0.5102,1,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,9,15,0,1,4,0,15,3,0,1,1,33,40,8,0,5,8,5,4,5,0,3,1,1,1,2,8,5,1,0,9,2,0,1,9,4,0,1,2,5,31,11,10,33,5,14,0,1,0,1,14,3,0,3,15,90,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132504673972602,0.0,0.0,0.10645425520936383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960429934130865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798951717907893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501821683262324,0.0,0.11019238785424604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26438729046946563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498198240097522,0.0,0.12060809604827627,0.0,0.25875619180167103,0.18279716202996926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336841346230046,0.12272931511203627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667824686136814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270708124354621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21093332501800174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036604520164876,0.3125190192778441,0.12822699303586665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546859565111656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936145197613908,0.0,0.0,0.12893091646950092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404878878736632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669376621974886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205946184140006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861253174626053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196004341577763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169786715190213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796003992031194,0.0,0.0905548263922327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465519827360348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518196753203827,0.0,0.0,0.1923861674390492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372233928629752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21112368499120945,0.07546085674751518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712181986756165,0.12332719189604925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088313471491803,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway019082,2020/01/14,"My 15 year old daughter is pregnant and refuses to have an abortion My 15 year old daughter came home from school crying telling me she's pregnant, immediately j want to confirm what she's saying so I took her in, she's 3 weeks pregnant. When I sat down to talk she said before I even ask, no abortion. I'm a single mom and in no way can we afford a baby. The next day the boy who is 14 came over asking what's next because he's goes back to Germany in a month, she told him no abortion and if he isn't going to be there for the baby he can just leave. He started begging her to have an abortion saying it was a mistake, she can have a child later in life, and he just kept saying that they weren't ready. They argued for a while before he went off on her in German, he refuses to tell his dads because he says she needs to abort. My daughter says she can take care of the child by herself and she knows what's she's getting into. I told her that she has absolutely no idea, not just the pain of the pregnancy and birth but the job actually raising a child and that your duties as a parent really don't end after they turn 18. We've only talked about adoption a little because I don't want her to have to go through pregnancy and birth at her age, she says that I'm overreacting and that adoption would be to emotionally painful for her. She sometimes says she wishes she had a father (her dad passed away before she met him) and with the boy who got her pregnant clearly wanting nothing to do with this and is going back to Europe, I brought up that her child would grow up without a father and she has experienced that herself. She said it was wrong of me to use that to try and make her change her mind, and I'll admit maybe I shouldn't have said that. I just don't know what to do, a baby is NOT an option right now",5.366882205513786,4.7218637684210565,6.030827067669176,84.05412280701756,67.89473684210526,8.395989974937342,29.67418546365915,7.2636822038024595,1.553418546365915,1432,44,309,11,21,469,179,380,0.057999999999999996,0.898,0.044000000000000004,-0.6186,3,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,1,3,0,12,6,1,0,23,0,30,3,0,2,1,51,66,20,0,10,9,9,0,0,0,3,3,10,1,6,18,20,0,4,4,0,0,10,13,5,0,0,18,11,53,1,45,43,1,48,0,0,0,0,88,16,0,2,21,204,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.08564039645169898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640861576537056,0.0,0.08245273107098355,0.13496293631961934,0.0,0.16049172498387262,0.0,0.22403004684858954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007464706804822,0.08947643334673566,0.0,0.0928376802571173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639944664583537,0.05659747453070721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871737631010452,0.07772867247503089,0.0,0.0,0.0579641758149753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04585060091977276,0.0,0.14962686126624722,0.0,0.07018911203141505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802971185529389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906954340423077,0.0,0.0,0.08708754249732659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646040879226213,0.0,0.0,0.09292440456126017,0.0,0.0,0.061986973800942737,0.0,0.08795785231224118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585799999043677,0.0,0.08816599096770154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861185399291244,0.1027826063936434,0.07004861887854295,0.0,0.0,0.06507239306245974,0.0,0.0,0.1866659767232128,0.0,0.0,0.08420739466432857,0.0,0.18417720030947746,0.0,0.0,0.06674488593353149,0.18676411976556112,0.0,0.09744629323645806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562208410537506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749459443862962,0.2504375117648037,0.4885279050030612,0.0,0.08881707515245392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679617050011851,0.0,0.062116469063114764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598405570420239,0.1410751676969516,0.1534109552258736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677155030209922,0.09750378756878186,0.05958278947556363,0.095456894367922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579583954742447,0.0,0.0,0.15528808878712236,0.06965923046703225,0.07039519970708044,0.0,0.0,0.0813537304527101,0.0,0.0,0.10091883929774066,0.08459681283988249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468334711229315,0.09595099442890884,0.0,0.11302819619028895
parenting,SlipperyNinja14,2020/01/14,"Try me (a rant). 'Give yourself a break,' they say. 'Don't worry about the housework! Enjoy your children!'  

Would I like to bake cupcakes with my kids? Yes. But there's a sink and kitchen full of dirty dishes and I need to pack up the kids and go out to get that one ingredient I've been meaning to pick up since forever but keep forgetting to (because the last time I went to the shops, one kid needed an urgent nappy change in the middle of the supermarket and so we got changed, but then he had a meltdown in the parents room so I had to abandon my full shopping trolley).  

Would I like to play dressups with my kids? Yes. But the dressups are all still in the wash (for the third cycle in a row because every time they're ready to hang, something else comes up and by the time I get around to hanging them they've all gone smelly) from that one time I decided to loosen the reins and let them play outside with them on.  

How about if I just plop down on the lounge with my kids and write-off the rest of the day and watch a movie with them? Yes. But there's nowhere to sit because the lounge is covered with toys and crumbs and clothes and dog hair and I cannot let my family sit and play and live in this mess.  

Why don't I just hire a cleaner/gardener/professional organiser so I don't have to worry about all the above? Yes. Of fucking course. But that's either money we don't have, or money better spent doing fun things together as a family on the days my husband has off. Or, you know, paying existing bills and other mundane but necessary shit.  

There's no way of knowing where to start. My thing is usually just getting the kitchen and sink in some sort of order so I can at least make dinner that evening. I want to be one of those mums who cleans when the kids have gone to bed for the night but when that time rolls around for me, I barely have enough energy to take a shower let alone stay awake for one episode of whatever on tv to try and switch off. 'Get the hubby to pitch in more!', the voices say. No. Because he works enough as it is (12 hour days, 6 days a week) and he would give anything to switch with me and be home with the kids, AND take care of everything that goes with it (seriously bagged myself a keeper!), but unless I can match his income, that's not going to happen any time soon. 'Go study, do a degree and then you can earn the big bucks!', the voices speak again. So what? So I can graduate in 8 years' time (a 4-year degree completed at a part-time pace, of course) and hubby can finally have that quality time with our ""little ones""... oh wait. They'd be moody pre-teens by then.  

'Oh you're just a bit burnt out/This woman needs therapy!' Yeah, fuck off. You think I don't know that already? Sure. I'll just spend another couple hundred bucks that I don't have on a therapist (not to mention the cost of the fuel to get there). Oh and I'll bring the kids along as well. Unless of course you'd like to fork out for a babysitter for me? No? Oh, you think maybe I should try one of those 1800 hotlines? Sure, I'll be sure to remember to set aside an hour of my ""free time"" for a chat with a total stranger at the other end who is struggling to hear me over the noise of my kids in the background. Or, if the kids are too much, I can just wait for my husband to be home before I dump the kids on him to talk to a therapist over the phone in another room. Like that wouldn't be humiliating enough.",2.658028083028082,4.085231008547011,3.469014041514047,92.51894230769234,75.0968660968661,6.666707366707366,22.364774114774114,7.240123139073775,0.5142620268620268,2656,69,597,29,56,843,311,702,0.057,0.825,0.11800000000000001,0.9907,3,1,1,0,0,0,92.0,3,6,6,3,31,25,4,1,57,5,47,10,2,3,7,102,86,54,0,11,25,4,1,4,0,5,1,6,10,13,23,42,5,5,8,8,12,10,13,9,1,8,8,8,54,17,108,62,16,88,0,1,1,2,49,40,3,7,35,381,77,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120092903098417,0.07586377898417118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04675016644543239,0.1441739816820371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05657274066222859,0.12239841510896342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762959105809355,0.0,0.058498444610973414,0.0,0.0,0.06080093846468562,0.07505367628122701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009192187053846,0.0,0.14544995118452153,0.05921926196335602,0.0720796887368399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606700223653111,0.0,0.1773439380402325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742911159805227,0.0,0.06088924015453396,0.21310139643794368,0.0,0.04540659848129303,0.0,0.057922125461921416,0.0,0.06178517121944317,0.0,0.129616687922587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530873494754269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127110576920443,0.17958677034723344,0.13189634740160544,0.11721113456731586,0.0,0.0549830784783723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079254871702512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748261513311652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379172471423142,0.0,0.1354034566284291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110529498124523,0.0,0.0,0.11334429386228048,0.05603779955381906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089471462573434,0.0,0.1343448127243302,0.0689023319501245,0.06070466444474685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04588900812085051,0.0,0.06906537866344434,0.07488539501527093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053679191183776,0.15292459432713731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645141940881323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260921715200913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633516130035356,0.07444606121430032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787669805384602,0.0,0.0,0.1093403942669132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056757966599311,0.05686804514439765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052924628343145916,0.0,0.0,0.04865932328318941,0.07327491826359248,0.0549012656887562,0.0,0.0,0.07186905885750812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437907394928494,0.0,0.1033780427791033,0.05525605604868801,0.0,0.0,0.07861793194705577,0.15964061575565786,0.09134460910271447,0.08810031889681162,0.0,0.0,0.3607811917186449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400236487489242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571486345967353,0.0,0.040548630812887725,0.0545679924515586,0.055144518543883664,0.0,0.06181160954899693,0.06372895192045824,0.06203327423846783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050048473130584435,0.13963138014821866,0.0,0.14650721588028487,0.0,0.0,0.08854134211895984
parenting,cheeseandrice111,2020/01/14,"My toddler is trying to drop her daytime nap but still needs it My two year old daughter (27 months) has had such a good sleep routine until just before Christmas. Wake at 6, nap between 12-3 for about 1.5 to 2 hours, bed at 7.30. But now she is refusing day sleeps. 

We chalked the disruption up to excitement around visiting relatives and new toys etc. I would still run through our normal nap routine at nap time but if she fought it for a good 20 mins or more I would just give her “Quiet Time” for an hour or so. It’s been three weeks now, and in that time the only day nap we managed to get was when a long drive lined up with nap time and we’d had a busy morning. Since then, I’ve tried every day to keep our routine as normal as possible but this week I’ve been getting desperate. I’m pregnant and I really relied on those day naps so I could sleep as well. 

And the thing is, she SO CLEARLY needs them. In the afternoon she is irritable, cries and tantrums about everything, then barely gets through dinner and passes out around 7-7.30. I’ve been trying to keep her awake until at least then because I don’t fancy waking up at 4 in the morning when I’m already up a few times a night thanks to baby #2. 

I’m just really at a loss as to what to do. Everything I’ve read says that toddlers need day time naps, my friends kids are still having day time naps and are older than my daughter. And I would be fine if it’s time to stop them, I could deal with just Quiet Time, but I’m not fine with the attitude and emotional roller coaster that comes in the afternoon as a result. 

Any suggestions would be very helpful. 

TL;DR My toddler doesn’t want to have her day naps anymore but then is a pain in the ass in the afternoon and falls asleep early if I let her.",4.420835935623352,4.766728160220996,5.021189046360799,87.09624669709349,69.88397790055247,8.284602450156138,27.61758347345664,8.18289091462,1.5584610617343264,1382,43,299,18,23,444,184,362,0.105,0.789,0.106,0.0414,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,0,2,1,20,12,2,0,19,0,29,9,7,1,1,54,46,38,0,15,16,2,0,0,1,4,1,3,1,1,11,20,1,4,0,13,0,6,3,4,1,2,7,3,29,8,50,29,4,73,0,1,0,1,28,20,1,5,46,186,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428368686641232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058101219226285535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473219355649952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521170444921613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052082614669655684,0.0,0.07270200756838081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359784110646622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364316370378259,0.0,0.09385035710459708,0.38570607680021135,0.08808350778549914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961069937794342,0.0,0.0,0.09528669158987353,0.0,0.0,0.07198575674470813,0.0,0.15357351859461404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600969746903744,0.0,0.13391452190354272,0.08196054878726237,0.0,0.14332379030070302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05726773342938876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827974135124904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518836149486714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736681941326645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561052629572526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819632399538351,0.0,0.0,0.1900550533967112,0.0,0.08251719109603857,0.0,0.08017839547794668,0.16742349466685486,0.0,0.0,0.08965350228136455,0.0,0.0,0.06497995162546034,0.09091275906758996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631925276634766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546178181174358,0.0,0.10946838790476048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794425240181262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067574319252014,0.0,0.25650109102744284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469427487319425,0.07143054619963801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866043990758348,0.0,0.0,0.05676164987359849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4483797322354469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402172722361536,0.0,0.08346115697310376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049584310020983,0.05039393583625384,0.0,0.13706748038152444,0.0,0.07681961691682312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427726933843489,0.0,0.0,0.055019696400951015
parenting,hkjakaoysgzvsahuau,2020/01/14,my kid keeps killing birds and leaves them on my doorstep My son(9) keeps killing birds and after that leaves them outside the door for me to find them.I really don’t know that to do and my wife thinks he’s a psychopath.i don’t even know how he kills them.advice?,6.243333333333332,6.0438483018867935,4.435849056603776,94.7259748427673,65.98113207547169,7.821383647798742,28.9874213836478,6.42735559955562,0.9507534591194976,212,6,48,1,3,59,35,53,0.215,0.785,0.0,-0.9231,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,2,3,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,8,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,5,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412818415107545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797210118923564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092475634497846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713480517957697,0.6933286934653979,0.0,0.2296046669433127,0.0,0.0,0.4423758353780751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382244225420314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338504371632539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yuxjwj07,2020/01/14,Listening to my baby cry at night makes me want to kill myself Every time I think our son has improved sleeping he just relapses. This will never get better: every time he screams just reinforces what a total failure I am as a parent and a person. I’m sick of having hope that anything will get better.,7.642485875706214,6.712454491525422,8.080000000000002,72.16146892655367,63.40677966101695,9.900564971751416,33.22598870056497,8.841846274778883,2.8834361581920898,241,8,41,3,3,80,47,59,0.299,0.6,0.102,-0.9338,1,0,0,0,0,1,4.0,1,0,0,2,2,5,1,0,3,0,5,2,1,1,2,9,13,2,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,6,3,5,11,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,4,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929427072539524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147261572847861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575461098148675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39508963383093626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24499401833592602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23287422280562406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593980812698433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650557771097948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808319784422528,0.0,0.0,0.22002722721160156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260342923244496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472366149872293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346318834772313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023413961307772,0.0,0.0,0.2734340054617645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829209108306606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IdahoPhoenix,2020/01/14,"Help: super messy 8YO son refuses to clean up I need a little help. My 8YO son is super messy. He rarely puts his stuff where it goes and he pouts or throws a fit when we invite him to clean up after himself.

Anyone else deal with this? Has anyone solved it or improved it? I'd love to hear your ideas.

(BTW, I am not interested in using violence to force my son act better. I'd rather not in damage him or our relationship. If that's your idea, save it. Thanks in advance.)",0.7508434864104956,3.029766989690721,2.447029053420806,93.22475164011247,85.28865979381445,5.176757263355202,16.034676663542644,6.574015621080383,-0.3635896907216498,366,7,80,4,11,120,68,97,0.09,0.563,0.34700000000000003,0.9841,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,2,0,4,3,8,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,16,8,6,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,3,0,1,2,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,12,7,11,8,0,14,0,1,0,1,20,8,0,4,2,45,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040857980632348,0.2227985373747272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923128104444636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241766881474294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816477530057361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24507680067292215,0.0,0.29149817350992663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4909388410558071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179374436991976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962529882978828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612330295318977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859271384942894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334550128632799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24892299155960704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019453527718092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878030338367108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,daddy_issues101,2020/01/14,"My new baby is just over 24 hours old and I'm so scared We had her yesterday morning through a natural birth and she's our second. Our first is 2 years and 4 months and she's absolutely incredible. She's funny, well behaved (mostly) and generally just a lovely kid. 


Like I said, we've just had our second and I feel such a mixture of emotions which I'm sure are normal but I'm so scared. How do people of more than one do it? How do you go out with 2, to necessary places like the doctors? My mum is great and will look after my first no problem, but who wants to help look after a newborn as well? How do you split your time evenly between the 2 kids, especially with your first so they don't get jealous? I feel so guilty that I won't be able to just get up and play like I used to. I don't want to be stuck on the couch breast feeding, (which I forgot was so difficult!) I want to give my daughter attention, and hugs and kisses, I want to get on the floor and play dolls house or cars or read a book whenever I or she wants. Even if I'm not feeding, with the ever so glamorous hemeroids and stitches that come with childbirth, I'm unable to anyway.


I'm sure things will get easier as they get older but in the mean time, I'm stuck on the sofa, in pain from the birth and not being able to give my first what she needs; time and attention off her mummy and it absolutely breaks my heart.


Sorry, just needed to unload",3.232382561132564,4.089946597972972,4.457818532818532,88.20738738738741,72.88513513513513,7.3948519948519955,23.8925353925354,7.62386473244151,0.8956765122265127,1107,29,245,13,21,365,152,296,0.1,0.7120000000000001,0.188,0.9843,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,4,2,4,21,20,1,2,13,0,19,9,2,4,3,60,53,33,0,10,14,2,2,3,0,3,2,1,2,3,9,22,2,1,5,4,0,3,6,6,2,7,7,5,33,14,33,40,2,34,0,0,2,4,28,11,0,5,22,162,42,3,0.22004742326895094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477568540788593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126139309617318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376186680205532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533924775246684,0.09952274614974936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126258889006993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743444516425829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874142413389017,0.21108953933804425,0.06252901081930202,0.0,0.0,0.12130153049483232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037862803037092,0.07374657470828393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835119337097747,0.12695259115989366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125608397679655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478441518620986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993006953626138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984807652625418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781987693920097,0.0,0.0,0.16316237614315107,0.0,0.1062615862977188,0.0,0.0,0.10779987715591148,0.0,0.0,0.11545137737997123,0.0,0.07455491443955822,0.0,0.11707298642753007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627658837010591,0.0,0.11495136130471215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527783300737227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005348561339208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046577449408342,0.0,0.220305858275582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231625374008514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739209227670025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309486515875653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19246713312394176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950251612112398,0.0,0.0,0.32447417869043704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978490601519417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708516630235202
parenting,pepperlewiss,2020/01/14,"Night Potty Training Okay I’m in need of some advice here. I feel like I’m setting my son up for failure lol. 

So, my 4 y/o has been potty trained almost two years now. But for awhile we did pull ups at night time bc he just wasn’t ready to sleep all through the night without an accident. We decided to kick those about a month or so ago bc we ran out and it was bed time and he decided he was big enough to sleep in underwear. Fine by me, I hated the pull ups. 

He did really good for the first couple days, but then he started to have accidents at night. So I started waking him up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. Not only is this detrimental for the cleanliness of my bathroom because he’s “aiming” half asleep, but I feel like I’ve trained his body to need to go pee at 11 pm & 3 am now. My newborn no longer wakes up in the middle of the night so I was only waking up my oldest at around 11 pm before I went to bed. Now he wakes up at around 3 am every night wet. 

Question is: do I just wean out waking him up altogether? I can’t keep waking up to him crying and changing wet sheets at 3 am when I have to be up at 6. I just got my 2 month old to sleep better! And I want him to be able to get a good nights sleep too!",1.5291208791208817,2.4704230109890126,3.484395604395605,93.2356043956044,77.13186813186812,6.518681318681319,21.424908424908427,6.868970318607317,0.25032161172161205,954,23,232,9,21,324,139,273,0.054000000000000006,0.852,0.094,0.7843,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,2,16,8,1,0,12,2,19,13,13,0,1,32,36,14,0,3,9,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,11,0,1,5,0,0,6,5,1,0,3,10,4,26,7,51,24,3,60,0,0,0,0,18,28,0,4,27,141,29,0,0.09223334586776163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901293581133465,0.08175929607012737,0.0,0.09235837280735618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993479171303486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421446485436664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622459156202198,0.0,0.07848378402654924,0.0,0.0,0.08157289915668567,0.0,0.10245045473964727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757065022286722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020544428964024,0.10131399949146913,0.05948287781038035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953017018088618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771057188517759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327190194540573,0.13178304143404565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845363687769147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818811642494107,0.0,0.10483667194987713,0.15472190906484662,0.07376743236694364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106133391584023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198123567352114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901211078094687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723955342839953,0.0,0.0,0.13677971455292667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6924379763095521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678338116944334,0.0,0.0,0.1402952314523501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332245596471924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059087043132687186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691998227483596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305664738552552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756401139282272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009857688347857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544016170763964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855012356657658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889096540618995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593952507498098
parenting,hottea210,2020/01/14,"Sister Hi! I’m the eldest sister of a 9 year old girl. I just want to know what do you suggest is the best way to help your little sister (or for parents, your daughter) get fit without making her feel insecure? She eats a lot! And she’s gaining a lot of weight and is almost the same height as me. I don’t want her to feel bad about herself. Sometimes my dad makes comments joking to her, but she is a very emotional girl and doesn’t take jokes too easily. OR is the weight something to just let go of and let her be, until she says something? I want her to be healthy and happy, and I don’t ever want her to feel less or insecure.",1.4642982456140388,3.1922759248120296,3.105432330827071,92.5388001253133,79.22556390977444,5.636340852130326,21.60964912280702,6.42735559955562,0.2700130325814536,490,14,108,4,12,162,77,133,0.055,0.718,0.22699999999999998,0.9606,1,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,0,2,5,7,0,2,8,0,12,3,0,2,1,28,26,12,0,4,7,6,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,3,0,4,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,6,20,4,15,22,5,9,0,0,0,0,27,3,0,6,4,75,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552408251135064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944413651818376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269512693082813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863508217247854,0.0,0.17438864083460295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023411961731802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351644996189924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099712811178646,0.0,0.08810750428442286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503303444550735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391379236509354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520080360923729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170587340706525,0.0,0.0,0.15538146260368574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636030688752199,0.0,0.0,0.20696835643854525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267861259702368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214321598756535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328661383445333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23870037274405004,0.1533292999564334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165637724696373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791654154690374,0.3657644311280521,0.12305613233246655,0.0,0.3775711889946943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944403671895742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983467068499156
parenting,snazzypurplefish,2020/01/14,"My 4 MO screams bloody murder if he wakes and I’m not around I’m really just posting to see if this is normal. I’m a FTM to a 4 month old boy. He doesn’t stay asleep very long during naps because if he wakes up and I’m not near him, he freaks out and starts screaming crying. Most of the time he calms down when I go to him and he will fall back asleep but sometimes he is so shaken up, it takes a few minutes to calm him down. 

He’s definitely more attached to me than my SO,  but that’s getting better because I’ve insisted that SO go calm him down when he wakes so he isn’t solely dependent on me. 

Anyone else experience this with their baby?",1.4735371702637927,3.006947043165468,3.1893705035971216,92.82755695443649,78.568345323741,6.072182254196644,20.93585131894484,6.816661863887847,0.2183520383693045,505,13,117,5,12,168,84,139,0.09699999999999999,0.797,0.106,0.6584,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,9,8,1,0,4,0,5,5,5,1,0,18,15,15,1,4,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,5,7,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,3,10,4,17,14,3,22,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,5,8,63,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931527024890074,0.2334552249331501,0.0,0.20283130900661253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519956419320185,0.0,0.2777856996946226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015113337316337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502782097274365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903361554175344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228771772804689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190401678890097,0.0,0.25898034527407177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163660258375765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818645597750289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324077288715466,0.0,0.0,0.23908612326074424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182135531641237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596402715877355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815638189384136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22534558983285896,0.0,0.16127062148834115,0.2428535953758212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713118892982428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285887605672925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799687021630448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,johnnybravo75,2020/01/14,"Leave or whatever I’m a paramedic and my wife makes more money than I do. It’s eventually led to a serious lack of respect and I am conflicted. I love her but she admits that she doesn’t respect me. I’m a jiujitsu mma instructor on the side, keep in shape, married 15 years, former Marine infantry, 3 kids. I’m moving forward in my career but never getting rich in this field. Never wanted to. I like my life, she comes from money. What the fuck do I do here? No effort in bed, how do I turn this around?",-0.007925824175824658,2.3222712019230802,2.7379120879120897,88.6642307692308,91.78846153846158,5.279120879120879,19.92857142857143,6.868970318607317,0.5892686813186812,391,13,80,6,14,136,74,104,0.17,0.722,0.107,-0.6967,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,3,7,1,0,5,0,6,3,0,3,2,17,18,6,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,4,0,2,1,0,3,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,14,5,11,18,2,16,0,0,0,2,8,9,1,1,6,53,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567061896704725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484011100989724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665890063937019,0.15065892966023692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563122640005001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053371395286759,0.0,0.0,0.20368088832833267,0.14088068438530982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26026087656888364,0.0,0.19248602871162893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064866011621106,0.0,0.0,0.4448100815767188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136585616255148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008528260867736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18569775224159266
parenting,reditorreadit,2020/01/14,"Helping a 4 year old process death In the lass 7 days we had to put our dog down and lost a grandparent. Any advice on how to really help my 4 year old process? I'm getting worries because he has been acting out, getting frustrated easily, and like hits himself when mad.  I'm totally at a loss and want to make sure we are supporting appropriately. Thank you!",3.326666666666668,5.2182664788732405,4.813732394366198,81.62698356807516,74.35211267605635,8.67699530516432,30.143192488262912,9.2995712137729,2.8069136150234737,284,13,56,7,6,95,57,71,0.21,0.5660000000000001,0.22399999999999998,-0.3351,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,2,2,8,2,0,4,0,4,0,0,2,2,11,14,5,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,6,4,8,10,1,13,0,2,0,0,8,5,0,0,7,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22503249559814192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566021552855643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038000955555965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851520879795405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406295201534897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087112663998665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250594823348033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25138401668593224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371747572342762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4832921536974958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315007078970353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475268996916853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613254540689693,0.2170415226107656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120161089436352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582845713691086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23386628047872346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965928479396964
parenting,C123456ec,2020/01/14,"Teaching a 5 year old his letters My 5 year old is having a hard time learning the alphabet and I’m trying to get some tips on how to help him. He is in pre-k 4 right now due to a speech delay. He still has trouble communicating with his teachers so we are trying to help him at home as much as possible. The teacher came to me saying he was behind in learning letters as they go over them every day and he is not recognizing any lowercase letters and only about 6 uppercase letters consistently. She said he needs to know them all by this fall for kindergarten and I’m just starting to worry. I work with him every single day, we have workbooks, we have flash cards, he has a leappad with abc books, we practice tracing them writing them. it just seems like it’s not getting any better. He gets frustrated easily so we try not to do it for more than 20-30 minutes at a time so maybe a more fun approach? I’m just not sure 

Thanks for anyone who can share",3.3182646048109987,4.733827974226807,4.59936082474227,85.12313058419247,73.38144329896906,7.029003436426118,27.366323024054985,7.554174236665415,1.495030652920962,753,28,152,9,15,249,122,194,0.10400000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.3268,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,5,2,10,8,1,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,2,31,26,11,0,1,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,5,13,0,1,4,1,0,4,4,2,0,0,3,4,19,6,27,23,6,24,0,0,0,0,34,7,0,2,14,94,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180362947833476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209438172691716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178357372977438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335504461446614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677688494282234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27014076273791404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512703396103808,0.0,0.09110941354700716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360870906478684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490847479385408,0.0,0.16080672990078432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810367872312712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832069759571306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105567537564947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784829548741345,0.11886985103840655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33644246561586016,0.0,0.0,0.12192504801350887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807285050911122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690618749153127,0.15249410857093254,0.12748710993325985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594267994466292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134701687930383,0.0,0.12802594578636073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109284197875195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759441447072486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869592732102206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265254423307325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670956994018072,0.16280534957313073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064722720644873
parenting,gowiththeshittyflow,2020/01/14,"Depression Hey everyone just looking for a little advice.. I think. 
My 20 year old daughter has been struggling with depression (mainly situational) and has had a rough few months, losing multiple jobs, not motivated to do anything, and unfortunately she has to pay for schooling now bc of her shit father. 

So anyway, today we went to an Air Force recruiter, we figured it would be good to get another option in her head. The military will give her insurance, free school, and just turn her life around completely for the better. We went, and the damn recruiter told her she has to be free of depression for 36 months. As you can imagine, she’s absolutely devastated. This would’ve been a great option for her, I’m just honestly not sure how to console her about this. 

There were a few other factors that couldn’t be waived or would be really hard to get waived, but since her depression is the thing weighing in on her the most, that’s the part of the whole appointment that she took home with her. I feel awful, because had i known, I wouldn’t have taken her, I would’ve told her straight up. 

Now I’m sure she feels horrible because it’s something that she can’t really control and now she can’t be given an amazing opportunity because of it. I’m not sure how to approach making her feel better. I’m not sure if I’m looking for advice or just empathy, but I had to get this off my chest to see if anyone has had similar situations and how to dealt with it. 

If you read all this, thank you so much. I appreciate every single one of you. Have a great day :)",5.679030745179781,6.231995541254129,6.362807017543862,77.84842105263161,67.18481848184818,9.679277401424352,30.468820566267155,9.682069395223575,2.7028521452145218,1231,44,238,25,19,404,154,303,0.13699999999999998,0.727,0.136,0.7694,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,3,4,0,6,16,23,2,1,14,1,29,5,3,6,5,53,55,19,0,7,15,2,5,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,14,13,1,1,8,1,3,4,8,8,0,1,14,8,36,17,33,31,9,22,0,5,3,0,33,9,2,8,9,167,50,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876659107026718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068890755381947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714179408151683,0.0,0.07901907664821113,0.08548118432922443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756049205316065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984978845233478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067870819768024,0.0,0.10769840837003897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061927149317219835,0.0,0.330819255582786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090385613152241,0.09175447389228092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565694897833895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505047901688174,0.09211439522767476,0.0,0.08053987229609125,0.0,0.2117322754459966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601810566947456,0.0,0.09854771136624543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631929967929798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528840805388997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782416731705733,0.0,0.09624067326196414,0.0,0.0,0.1612709441287749,0.1074256229995367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409636527354738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328992386057794,0.0,0.07058824774777832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076040564499372,0.0,0.06506794108686761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039839850144972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604938550498937,0.0,0.12303009798737012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19436161491271484,0.07651821777517827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856664042137976,0.07943154893146853,0.21586865011573927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392350475990514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038450681403696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36200367322754057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840544576192468,0.0,0.0,0.06379368034495307,0.061527917599076075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101895567681542,0.18350894778456187,0.10668553079149183,0.0,0.10444588561408596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780293080223727,0.0,0.107206697140229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728490738506191,0.0,0.0,0.06183592148386785
parenting,Glittering-Entrance,2020/01/14,"5 year old is REALLY good at puzzles. The adult 750 piece kind. Should I have him tested? I only have the one kid so I don’t have anything to compare to. My son’s definitely a smart kid and really funny and sweet, and my mom has a habit of claiming everything he does is “amazing” and I hate that. I’m trying to avoid the snowflake syndrome. But lately we’ve been into puzzles and he just walks up to the table and immediately puts a few pieces together and meanwhile 2 adults have been sitting there staring and scratching their heads for 15 minutes.

Should I be pushing him more or having him tested or something? According to my mom, he’s “gifted”. I really have no idea if this is age appropriate but all I know is the ages listed on the box from the puzzles he doing say “14+” and he’s 5. 

TLDR: 5 year old is a puzzle wiz and I’m wondering if he’s “special” or not.",1.5077028714107357,3.669576000000003,3.6464419475655454,86.53260923845195,81.13483146067415,6.202746566791513,23.372034956304606,7.3871296695380915,1.0790963795255937,680,24,138,10,18,232,110,178,0.034,0.8540000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9045,0,1,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,0,4,8,1,1,11,0,19,1,1,0,1,31,24,18,0,4,9,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,2,11,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,2,4,14,6,12,19,5,15,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,10,7,86,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262921715632075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230946068768684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669198282962175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555667084436976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831170784978157,0.19034973168998184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093774583146492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19314252644151003,0.10193160545066858,0.0,0.2092226390489216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4344495825088668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892473181486327,0.0,0.12568191544778107,0.14106125951588067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864524987815831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564579910129115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749629048522225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278687045644312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592460398033467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113853389223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388782225395981
parenting,DeeRexBox,2020/01/14,"Why does my 2 year old daughter close her eyes when she is in trouble? For about the last 2 months, our LO closes her eyes when she knows she is In Trouble for pinching/scratching/etc. She’s a pretty good kid most of the time but as soon as we raise our voice a little she closes her eyes for like 15 seconds when we to start talking to her about what she did.",3.646578947368418,4.070006289473689,3.8458947368421086,94.56226315789476,71.6315789473684,6.08,24.410526315789475,3.1291,0.06433473684210478,282,7,65,0,5,87,50,76,0.049,0.853,0.09699999999999999,0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,4,0,3,3,3,0,0,8,5,6,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,15,2,12,4,1,16,0,0,3,0,17,6,0,1,11,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712026773152978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456294654791656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599362209220856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031739360196807,0.2526164742300852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140544949899126,0.3106093440866588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473656983665633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251964314724542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152879639629936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21935455681866567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490924013794228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18070991236898495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27964386802910673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995706634430744
parenting,hawkinsst7,2020/01/14,"Connecting with other parents? This isn't about feeling lonely or anything.

My son is in Kindergarten. My wife and I work full time.

How the hell do you reach out to parents of other kids? My son keeps asking ""can x come to our house?""

Back in the day, my parents got a class list with parents names and phone numbers. Privacy has changed a lot, but now I don't have the slightest idea how to contact a kids parents. 

He does before and after school care, so we don't really run into his classmates parents then. 

So how is it done these days?",2.539906542056073,4.6786742523364495,3.2502897196261697,90.81749065420559,77.50467289719626,5.401495327102804,25.65327102803738,6.2581,0.8288998130841123,423,16,84,3,10,133,76,107,0.038,0.887,0.075,0.5967,6,2,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,0,1,8,3,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,3,0,19,16,11,0,0,2,9,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,1,10,1,12,14,2,14,1,1,0,0,20,5,1,2,7,58,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540789596776733,0.0,0.1197476997267432,0.0,0.0,0.09849399488498756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089959208560425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059720851819073,0.0,0.13550318707832354,0.11033896769454288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652160665422728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209320905596744,0.13108146206467894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476660732295343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244599339528523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779969983276406,0.0,0.14459903388891948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385307660661426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088983019033115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8533787099767601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205830996539817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963482841020074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469083338772625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325170015347148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maker-of-the-Things,2020/01/14,This sleep regression is going to be the death of me! My 14 month old has hit a sleep regression and will NOT sleep unless he’s being held (which means I don’t sleep.) I’ve brought him to bed with me the past couple nights in hopes we can sleep but he fights it just as hard. I’m 13 weeks pregnant and utterly exhausted. My temper has been so short and I’ve cried so many times in the past few days... I’m tired and hormonal and at my wits end. I know it will pass but it feels like forever! I don’t remember it being this bad with my older kids. I can’t take much more of this screaming!,0.9404761904761898,2.7541515396825424,2.458968253968255,96.13464285714286,81.22222222222223,6.4222222222222225,18.436507936507933,7.492282038375204,0.13020317460317402,458,10,110,7,12,149,83,126,0.239,0.7240000000000001,0.037000000000000005,-0.9842,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,3,7,2,0,4,0,13,7,5,0,0,19,24,11,1,1,5,0,2,1,0,2,2,1,1,1,8,8,0,1,4,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,3,3,12,2,11,15,3,17,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,11,62,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231679804027434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322137171791445,0.16203713921609794,0.0951342894477907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065356867858308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458748167251326,0.10538399006233733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383557303512143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214351787116654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651462950739244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810698050256326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206786113335431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955598455937946,0.0,0.1606859286767102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177442216117556,0.0,0.10843972097682504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843184225398136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479106823414138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816374995089958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671045408321096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7381023769853241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091212649244506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860165662010429,0.16954557683181298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183267868433765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,akubac101,2020/01/14,"How to convince my husband to have kids My husband and I married two years ago. We married late. I am going to be 39 this year and he will be 40. He told me before marriage that he doesn't want kids. I always wanted kids but agreed because I loved him and wanted to marry him. Of course, the desire to be a mother was and is still there. So my question is how should I convince him to at least try? He does like kids (at least in the TV shows that we watch). At one point he did agree to try but then quickly backed out. When ever I bring up my desire to have kids he either shuts me down, or tells me that I knew his wishes before marriage, or tells me to not ruin his mood or just tells me that he doesn't want kids because he is too old. How should I talk to him and understand why he thinks that way? 40 is old..but not too old to try..What should I do?",1.1377717391304325,2.6212917989130453,2.4906521739130447,97.68858695652176,79.38043478260869,4.817391304347826,18.565217391304348,4.557286568694721,-0.7208413043478261,657,13,157,1,16,212,94,184,0.013000000000000001,0.815,0.17300000000000001,0.9847,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,3,0,19,1,0,3,1,35,31,16,0,10,9,3,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,6,6,8,0,0,4,2,0,2,4,1,0,2,4,1,26,4,19,20,3,24,0,1,1,1,35,9,0,4,13,104,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991138178924835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121944765209895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126910694133664,0.0,0.1786760584164851,0.0,0.24941351799782116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825049504026534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256658883882058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832900818000735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531942696357285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159893863239608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322708120788501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613516769214883,0.0,0.099308862252966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854101065604196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417415106806132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703830682189742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779464754523443,0.3842842726062555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390596031617324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003873884217516,0.0,0.19900125020195394,0.0,0.14316207676418774,0.15256800388060252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457656602083421,0.11632783621796287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224229518948244,0.0,0.16853000141439328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18875209223935432
parenting,WynterRaynne,2020/01/14,"Best kid flex this year! My 16 year old son just told me that he tells his friends about me. I thought that was so sweet. Then he says, ""I tell them, my mom is a Buddha. She's 10x more self-aware than your mom will every be."" So, still sweet. And is that really something kids talk about? LOL",-0.5534016393442621,1.6213079836065558,0.15096311475409865,107.56119877049184,92.11475409836063,3.705737704918033,12.543032786885245,5.148860815047168,-1.7005918032786882,221,3,57,1,8,66,49,61,0.0,0.7340000000000001,0.266,0.9631,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,6,4,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,10,4,3,2,2,5,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,5,31,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391183128060765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919764989386822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603913870140675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5337188030142105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23909404115325605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596886109669466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119834101855176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377010147786678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541284571174054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819641922698219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18314010580223675,0.3983082073188391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089031980863027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177238947815447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934605167848088
parenting,MARY_Documentary,2020/01/14,"Parenting while high We’re making a cannabis film called Mary, and today we’re looking to discuss this idea of using cannabis while parenting/teaching.

We are sympathetic to the parenting community who don’t use cannabis who would also argue against parenting while high.

But we aren’t 100% convinced one way or another, yet this seems to be a hot topic.

Is this type of parenting ok?

(Want to help direct our documentary film? Visit [MARY](marydocumentary.com/access) and subscribe)",7.058118466898957,9.925419585365855,6.678571428571433,68.04500000000003,66.5609756097561,9.563763066202087,34.88501742160279,9.957137785484203,4.135701742160278,394,19,58,10,7,123,57,82,0.028999999999999998,0.835,0.136,0.8343,6,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,3,1,6,0,0,3,0,13,12,8,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,7,10,0,9,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,2,5,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236495950416738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356041497961272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901273478310294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094345667726883,0.3497584350102256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868500628598577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389937216876793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048477956338422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215951321022496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7351541307664792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506816834965343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689203609479238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859094106483414,0.0,0.0,0.09762700743412618,0.13138075683286582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757948227565228,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cryptorchild7,2020/01/14,"I’m about to be a first time dad in a couple months. My job doesn’t want to give me any more than a couple days off. Anyone else go through this? I (30m) just started a new job 6 months ago that I was really excited for and want to make a career out of. My wife got pregnant shortly after. We’ve been planning for a child after we got married a little over a year ago and built up a savings for us to take some time off when it happens. With my wife’s due date a couple months away I started asking my supervisor about taking a two week unpaid leave when the baby comes. I know I don’t get vacation or qualify for Fmla until after a full year of employment but I didn’t see it being a big deal taking a couple weeks off. I was taken aback a bit when he told me no like I was crazy for asking saying he couldn’t let me do that. I said ok then a week? He said no again and said the most he could let me have off is MAYBE a couple days. I told him my wife and baby might have to spend a couple days in the hospital and might need longer to get things settled at home. He just shrugged and said yeah well... you know?

I was pissed off I just said well gee thanks for the generosity and walked away. Am I an asshole for asking for this or should I have waited another 6 months to have a baby when I get two weeks of vacation? I’m sure no one expects a new mother back to work after a couple of days so why do new dads get screwed? Luckily my wife has 12 weeks off and I’ve never been late or missed a day so I can afford a few call offs but they do have a strict call off policy after 7 call offs within a year. It really decreased my moral here at an otherwise decent job but from now on I’m only doing the bare minimum for these guys. 

Sorry for the rant I just needed to get it out. So my questions are am I being ridiculous for asking for an unpaid leave? Will my wife need my help for more than 2 days? A week? I’m sure she will but I’m wondering how others handled this situation. Fortunately we have family that can help us out too so I’ll make something work. I’m going to contact HR and see what they can do as well. 

I work 7 days have 4 off work 7 have 3 off work 7 have 1 off and repeat. Of course the due date is during the week when I only have 1 day off. I just really want to be there for my wife and baby.",1.0939607807699259,2.5938127495029875,3.2254667449846397,92.29890136454006,79.55666003976144,6.163184529188506,18.390068678836073,6.980632752743323,-0.009146719681908607,1795,35,418,20,44,612,218,503,0.07200000000000001,0.8320000000000001,0.096,0.8969,5,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,4,1,2,7,26,14,3,0,37,2,46,2,1,3,3,56,97,31,0,10,12,9,0,1,0,5,0,6,1,2,14,18,0,1,4,0,1,4,8,4,3,4,17,8,45,10,70,67,7,88,1,1,2,1,46,30,2,9,55,269,59,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922968856481312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03806214553411128,0.058690390754214526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039136169279390995,0.0573488227956297,0.0,0.0,0.20930102207624265,0.0,0.10517304526415484,0.043038183290455716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110574927728937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145770447755482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048213992348088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04468822594037293,0.4335153157144114,0.0,0.2887729089546052,0.057703561769146525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04675652237711656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052764402936591084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047608836721593696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462124802686186,0.05369240744925838,0.06361912839143638,0.0,0.08953011696332634,0.0,0.0,0.05542001142293726,0.049494900501750684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750322569207619,0.0,0.05614339724888443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662750760426834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061520308717085435,0.0,0.06313763669268573,0.11853024733228484,0.0,0.11446811752465727,0.0,0.027344564749490742,0.056097566826556526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472204863914349,0.0,0.056230313043374426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187526041192751,0.0,0.0,0.17870182026262016,0.0,0.0,0.12450518591882187,0.04316822469301243,0.16217119253545226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03792734453811845,0.08513681497578104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270024095080699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756921543043617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662058149212641,0.04451032280496799,0.0,0.0,0.08920315474951125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291366017704379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04308914939772122,0.0,0.06265486353656757,0.07923301178223195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550386111215386,0.0,0.12624950054079168,0.0,0.0,0.05153050403088872,0.0,0.0,0.0371845928022756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652741881616544,0.0,0.0,0.10696522699497828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935091364548878,0.0,0.13465225264093744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903929790349693,0.0,0.3142754764034872,0.0,0.15097373916931453,0.0,0.05050505038902777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060698076152349935,0.20373748511460987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081303139353844
parenting,catsruletheworld4,2020/01/14,"Help my picky eater!! [The New Food Challenge](https://youtu.be/9LdmrPziof0)

My 7 year old has agreed to try new foods if I make a YouTube series. Go and watch it and click the Like button so that he will eat more foods! I beg you!!",2.805348837209305,5.64562581395349,1.4849302325581384,99.7339069767442,81.55813953488372,4.370232558139535,13.251162790697672,5.6839178017228535,-1.4256846511627908,182,2,40,1,5,50,37,43,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.816,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,4,0,1,0,4,4,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,1,3,1,5,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,5,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213447816817668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7847087615662071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293709583833982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499173429852108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568083726586663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439229029148398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178377571450121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269867515839313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468640397469598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930010363668646
parenting,bigdaddy3254,2020/01/15,Going backwards on potty training My son just turned 5 years old and has been potty trained for a long time. All of the sudden in the past week he has decided to stop wiping his butt after he poops. Obviously it caught me and my wife off guard when all of the sudden he has poopy pants. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experienced this? We just had a baby 3 and a half months ago so I’m thinking maybe that’s why he’s acting out? I guess I’m just looking for advice on what to do?,1.8061057173678527,3.477811660194177,3.537411003236248,90.08490830636462,78.02912621359224,6.131175836030206,20.182308522114347,6.937597516519254,0.25647227615965473,383,9,84,4,9,128,74,103,0.028999999999999998,0.971,0.0,-0.4098,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,0,7,2,2,0,3,19,17,6,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,0,12,14,2,22,0,0,1,1,8,6,1,3,13,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417271822613649,0.21927865322029816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296691375144654,0.2534598829901891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664596260265736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058611887723074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27250603529546114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891473926982308,0.2077285680649925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485164972830353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744844029016898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595732900970565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361427348368596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20681246597907726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850476089073065,0.0,0.0,0.14424348475896945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690676163161729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984253595374686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232130240516827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682623030315556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592982231761026
parenting,Nootherids,2020/01/15,"School/Teaching Situation (Upset with a Nice Teacher) Long(ish) Read

To start, I am a nice person but I am not shy when I am upset. I also disagree with the absolute lack of discipline and guidance that kids are given in high school today. With that said, I want to snap at the teacher a bit and even get administration involved, but a part of me is telling me to cool down first. I'm going to paste the e-mail she sent and follow with my frustration after:

\_\_\_\_

"" I am writing to give you an update on James’ progress in math class.  He currently has a 61%.  My biggest concern is that he sleeps every single class period.  No matter how many times I prompt him to lift his head off of the desk and take his earbuds out, he does not listen. For a while, he was achieving decent grades, but now he is not.  He once told me that he prefers to do his work at home (which wasn’t even an option given to him), but it’s hard to believe since he is asleep during the notes too.  There are times when he is awake, but most of that time is spent watching videos on his phone, despite my request to put the phone in his bookbag/pouch designated for phones. 

James and I typically have a great student/teacher relationship, that is why I’m hesitant to write a referral.  I am hoping that with your help we can get James back on track and being attentive in class.  I am trying to resolve this issue without admin intervention at this time, but if it continues, I am thinking that might get through to him.  If you have any ideas, I would greatly appreciate your help in this matter.""

\_\_\_\_

Ok, maybe you'll see my frustrations right off the bat, maybe not. My kid is a 15 year old boy, and he's not the most alert type of kids, quite a bit of a pain in the butt but still a good kid overall, and got an A in that class in the first quarter. Here are the things that irk me...

Why Is He Not Being Sent To The Office For:

* Sleeping in Class!
* Having His Earbuds In!
* Using His Phone At All!
* Watching Videos!!!

The kid goes to school at 10pm every night as I have a lock out on all his devices, wakes up at 6am. He's not actually tired; he's bored cause he thinks school is for fun and socializing like many teenagers do. But whatever happened with teaching kids some sense of accountability and discipline ?!

And then the other part that has me furious is the 2nd paragraph detailing their ""good relationship"". What good is a good relationship if you're letting a 90% student drop to 61% before contacting his parents or teaching him some sort of consequence for his disrespect in class and academic failure?! I do not consider allowing a student to waste his life away in your classroom as being a good student/teacher relationship.

So with that said, a part of me wants to get the entire school board and the local news involved and ask what is their new definition of ""teaching"" cause this didn't fly when I was in high school. We learned to sleep with our eyes open or balance notepads, or else. And when there were rules of no phones, well, That Was The Rule! But the other part of me wants to calmly let it go and say ""thank you teacher"". Let's be honest though, that part of me doesn't actually ""want"" to be nice, but it's the ""polite"" thing to do that achieves zero results and instead just reinforces that useless mentality that clearly isn't achieving the intended results. Teachers are there first to impart academic progress in children, if there is a good relationship that is a positive byproduct but it is secondary at best and should never take priority over the kid's academic advancement and personal development. He doesn't need any teachers as friends.

Please help me make sense of myself before I irrationally take this further than it needs to go. Note: this is not about the kid, I'll handle that one. But there's a good chance whatever I do or say won't change anything because life in school is basically hidden from parental view or knowledge, and they sure as hell are smart enough to know that they can get away with anything there for at least 6 months before the parents even find out.",5.2474762053175406,6.241578245235067,5.419683536716933,82.6539318165472,68.32655654383736,8.430092781280718,30.22389777276977,8.622042349995798,2.1848270672004984,3217,121,631,49,53,1015,348,787,0.076,0.767,0.156,0.9969,4,0,0,0,0,0,113.0,3,7,4,13,26,35,4,2,49,2,65,12,8,9,5,115,107,55,0,15,32,3,1,1,1,5,4,5,1,12,39,35,0,2,10,3,2,8,19,9,1,6,15,12,62,26,101,79,18,83,1,1,5,1,92,44,2,17,31,417,101,31,0.0,0.0,0.10721019303793963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04392859948349343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471043521497285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040767974831107,0.0,0.05135341896399693,0.0,0.10321966712999847,0.04223883545411383,0.0,0.033485655386585496,0.0,0.1402276586989075,0.06188884709651669,0.057647087415318814,0.0,0.11994166536281932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285930410568595,0.05811010944568444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04807081506204852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04588811385845803,0.0,0.0,0.0567587928318943,0.0,0.10884496223543504,0.0,0.092564102566082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050206280146632365,0.14017379452615888,0.0,0.0,0.04243984284661423,0.0,0.14349687703415726,0.05269517879225626,0.09365629623785528,0.3225168088050425,0.04393363740611394,0.12112406625632342,0.0,0.0,0.04857563210793805,0.0,0.049207720969353344,0.0,0.056375436837822174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104580251135862,0.1160760239348234,0.055100646377805464,0.05455924832996355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201083432944227,0.0,0.05733408223902926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030188846256011908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685131531308753,0.07759930713054213,0.0268366943656341,0.0,0.0,0.04861253689346996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03666711831169457,0.11138358167019327,0.11037189577186976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055357904417601585,0.058273506473191884,0.0,0.0,0.04384569819363948,0.0,0.0,0.08146183472657886,0.04236646159873395,0.05305306275494704,0.0,0.051549372808045994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764123596013149,0.05850011993377367,0.037222920269321266,0.0,0.05845085427622825,0.0,0.18298436850309124,0.29742662199143355,0.0524382115506288,0.0,0.09592791294939726,0.0,0.06029815244110754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055221202441382115,0.0,0.05842627727612744,0.0549462386368807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948786878404073,0.0,0.04691109276681836,0.1045046305742288,0.08736726586623657,0.0,0.3891543778800203,0.04377319263250623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045439799744047486,0.061745165266385675,0.16491313262412538,0.055995617537954304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038880708841928915,0.0,0.04386826577662997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05177216936894037,0.0,0.12390466957022173,0.0,0.04801244157357686,0.050573428388901005,0.0,0.0,0.07298792731113506,0.07039561212088234,0.05396979549030942,0.0,0.12812370236698206,0.06313553302298099,0.05206851905198475,0.05248928134188656,0.0,0.037294796766948926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744306966126188,0.0,0.0,0.129599789080455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04938990170370527,0.0,0.09913404097876748,0.0,0.0,0.05295188375309258,0.0,0.0399906940844289,0.0,0.0,0.03902167162451348,0.0,0.0,0.03537400349123032
parenting,spaghetti503,2020/01/15,"Baby having rough time at daycare I have a 9 month old who is in her second week of daycare. The first week she did well... the staff said her transition was smooth and no tears at all. Now this week, she will cry often. When I get there to pick her up she looks at me and bursts into tears until I pick her up. Although she apparently cries sometimes throughout the day. She is clingy then even after we get home.

I had a feeling that this would happen. I even told friends weeks ago that she would take a while to realize that I wasn’t there... it’s similar to what she is like at home if I leave her with her dad and go off to shower or something. I think that it took a few days for her to realize that I wasn’t there with her at the daycare. Her dad is good with her too but honestly she is more attached to me. 

How do I help her become more comfortable at the daycare without me? Any tips or tricks from people who’ve done this before?",2.7506153846153842,3.9953074461538454,3.5794871794871814,92.55384615384615,74.53846153846153,6.635897435897437,22.743589743589745,7.0316486544052195,0.4900358974358978,732,19,165,7,15,233,113,195,0.057999999999999996,0.8390000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.9109,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,1,11,7,1,0,9,0,17,0,0,3,1,24,28,13,0,3,5,2,3,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,12,8,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,1,1,2,9,5,33,6,26,16,4,30,0,0,1,0,27,11,0,4,18,125,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112863340246875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059564230102228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337408998087344,0.1258752440190851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249824041160941,0.19080175229079752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138099567563024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954091840191329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479649180479463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258268928881347,0.0,0.0,0.11428827145833555,0.0,0.1545718262452192,0.0,0.08407049830430922,0.12407440785505515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081163020977496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915255659293994,0.0,0.2967663030005199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663366049352473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226981074810138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422168254402938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180741661920337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522482602998225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255416980381817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407127452248963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388166901899488,0.1463038904197772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122292607583327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478584612842107,0.0,0.0,0.08625760308118594,0.0,0.0,0.14135088238511373,0.16435268249486673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47463345558587605,0.0,0.13300441553505654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259664642199474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101666311771564,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whattheheckhappened_,2020/01/15,"Pregnant...? Does anyone know of a sub that I can post a picture in that can tell me if I’m seeing things on a pregnancy test or not?? 😂 I see the line, and then I don’t. I’m going crazy!",-1.9046511627907,-0.23422518604650835,1.4849302325581384,99.7339069767442,91.55813953488372,4.370232558139535,15.576744186046513,5.6839178017228535,-0.8959172093023255,139,3,37,1,5,50,34,43,0.092,0.9079999999999999,0.0,-0.4993,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,9,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,3,9,0,5,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,22,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27336957325355304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421332962869865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221925944638672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486237475562894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744333221380553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6230918558394994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417178360123728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25973764047770903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DramaFreeDramaQueen,2020/01/15,"I might be raising a sociopath This is long, I apologize.

I’m really trying to keep a level head and I do have an appointment with a therapist next week, but I’m seriously worried.  
He’s 13.
He lies about EVERYTHING.  He will lie about his name.  He will lie about his age (even to me and I know when he was born!). He lies to his teachers about homework assignments and then lies to me about his teachers.  His go-to is to make up a lie.
He is super manipulative.  When I try to speak with him about his behavior or school work he will start screaming/crying/hyperventilating and can literally turn it off in a second (tried this 3 times today by pulling out my phone camera and he immediately stopped). He will accuse me of having no faith in him, of not believing him, and of picking others over him.  He will scream “don’t hurt me” and act like I’m trying to kill him when I’m standing 5 feet away and speaking calmly.
He respects absolutely nobody but especially me.  He will undermine anything I say by telling me his father said it was okay or “dad will let me”.  He will claim his teachers are making up stories and are out to get him.
He deflects all responsibility and claims he is the victim by pointing out that someone else made the same bad choice and they didn’t get in trouble (classmates/friends) or pointing out something his sister did and didn’t get in trouble for.  He will try to justify any bad decision and argue that it was a perfectly fine choice.  Even after lengthy explanation on why the choice was bad I can ask him specifically if he understands why a choice was bad and he flat out says “no” and tries to justify it again.
He is failing almost all of his classes, and just doesn’t seem to care until the end of the quarter- then he will bust out all of the missing work for credit and be upset that we aren’t praising all of his hard work.  He thinks he deserves full credit for turning everything in before the end of the quarter and doesn’t understand the “big deal” of not turning it in when it was due.

An example of all of this today:  I received an email from his teacher yesterday that he was falling behind in his assignments.  They were due today and he had not been completing them during class time.  I spoke with him last night and he assured me that they would all be completed and turned in today.  I asked him to choose a punishment that would happen if he did not turn in the work as promised.  He refused so I came up with the punishment that he would have to delete and block two of his friends on his phone.  I emailed his teacher and asked that she let me know if he did not turn in the assignments.  Today I got an email that he only turned in about half of the assignments.  When he got home I spoke to him about it.  When I asked him for the phone he began screaming about how “fucked up” it was that I would take away his friends, and how I obviously don’t love him or care about him.  I literally spent 2 hours with him making excuses, making accusations, screaming and crying before he would even sit down calmly and speak to me about the assignments and what he will do to ensure the assignments would be turned in.  I still don’t know if he’ll turn in the work or if we will be having this same argument again in 2 days.
I’m exhausted and worried.
Someone please tell me this is normal and I can get him back on track.",5.241674185463662,5.7438271097744416,5.720939849624063,82.24717418546369,68.12781954887218,8.919799498746867,29.667919799498748,8.909455092898707,2.1674611528822063,2648,92,539,43,42,853,259,665,0.172,0.7240000000000001,0.10400000000000001,-0.9947,1,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,2,0,4,9,28,40,6,1,29,1,65,5,2,9,9,104,117,54,1,12,18,3,1,1,2,20,1,11,2,0,25,43,0,4,9,0,3,5,15,21,0,5,25,12,71,19,89,65,9,82,2,3,0,2,109,37,1,13,39,360,96,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737498884783643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038964142034334584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04715081185876754,0.0,0.21426103646210373,0.0,0.10766543547008993,0.044058101904060135,0.19136347371816312,0.0,0.0,0.09751159740875402,0.06455445806656496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553286926994185,0.11683687168946864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201502986309584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293841494021818,0.036952030955832986,0.0590710204353834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478645581684509,0.0,0.10149683657332813,0.0,0.0,0.1135330173371368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299027233710628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280330062316978,0.052970448554181024,0.11974193821045867,0.0,0.0325633870602872,0.0,0.09165180114671348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050667830361720616,0.0,0.05132714388609346,0.0,0.0588035800320524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747388314552826,0.0,0.05642631799148856,0.0,0.0613379655218331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05092849017934936,0.06339099466652233,0.0,0.094467324944952,0.0467049627225425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718078229816192,0.0,0.027992576083535628,0.0,0.0,0.050706324671145366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051713067839708936,0.05421610905416227,0.15298562261356372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607834013154059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060936349258257014,0.05376965287631001,0.056139207687510025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357719335729837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628952506932368,0.10832897401985953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03670613002094317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545028717504225,0.09113025634419736,0.0,0.057987946240593724,0.0,0.052161327689829964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709566566514016,0.04411027580583481,0.0,0.0,0.04055533761390569,0.0,0.04575771332618303,0.047903124663752905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04308045348649285,0.0,0.10016076536055922,0.0,0.0,0.06652660407115854,0.0,0.03671380873875935,0.0,0.0,0.06682105548745881,0.0,0.2715557961911582,0.0,0.0,0.2334067128675181,0.5609072719924334,0.0559711554758334,0.11929706049046225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04596045354120465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340383755012887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085656548343904,0.1163764183576916,0.0,0.2442142307782981,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NugsCommaChicken,2020/01/15,"Maternity leave covered by disability insurance? Hello all! Not sure if this is the best area to ask this, but I figured it’s a good place to start! If not, I’ll gladly remove and post elsewhere. 


My wife is a teacher in PA, and gets 0 maternity leave. The only thing she would qualify for would be unpaid FMLA. So we are looking for any possible income alternatives if we have another baby. 


Our first baby was born at the very end of the school year, so she ended up having the summer off to bond and recover. 


Some people have mentioned that short term disability may provide some income during pregnancy and maternity leave, so we contacted her provider (MetLife?) via the union, and had no success in finding any information. They said that once the policy is purchased, we would receive the policy in writing and it would state the info in there, and we’d be able to cancel within 30 days if not good for us. 


So my question is, has anyone utilized any kind of insurance for income while on maternity leave? Although people have recommended it, haven’t heard any success stories. 


Also curious and open to see if anyone has any other ideas or recommendations!",6.5715020026702256,7.678823359813084,7.354606141522031,69.55925233644862,65.4018691588785,10.039519359145526,33.04272363150868,10.125756701596842,3.5600704939919883,925,38,152,21,14,308,135,214,0.062,0.8220000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.9619,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,7,0,1,4,6,8,0,0,11,0,22,0,0,0,2,39,29,22,0,9,10,2,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,9,13,0,0,6,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,4,4,14,8,21,17,5,27,0,0,2,0,23,13,0,10,10,108,23,4,0.11900166852338225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516559132403014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046260766849699,0.1247836253933873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641746711631952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112504960249369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488490929578333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767462314351745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21080031349035036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876536913337123,0.1012227584539584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217346019072869,0.0,0.0,0.19962590712298314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343383988300221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392192529697126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5040223379271086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993143022356472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267328931830886,0.0,0.09050613133259047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500154649335722,0.0,0.12433141539290266,0.0,0.0,0.13415650093085588,0.11397070334592226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330910355744716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319783787362513,0.0,0.0,0.12043604174153145,0.0948289226151732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422999347907645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215766425638926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905942078451075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314435494464586,0.0,0.0,0.09818883939472434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33814148397736576,0.0,0.0,0.07663317290609713
parenting,Tixanna,2020/01/15,"Chores chores chores chores Right now I do almost all the chores with his and pitching in with one or two things when he can. Kiddos are 8,4 and 3 and I really want them to grow up at least knowing how to do chores if not how to do them regularly without much complaining. 
My own parent's method of waiting until I was a teenager then suddenly just screaming at me for not doing a chore I didn't know they wanted me to do was a failure so I'm aiming for a better plan.

So, how do chores work in your house? Any tips for getting started with dividing them up? Right now I don't do anything regularly except laundry and dishes, should I get myself together first before getting the kids to help?",3.0322422062350154,4.952797014388491,4.123183453237413,86.13259292565952,75.25899280575541,6.647721822541968,24.53297362110312,7.492282038375204,1.1750426858513188,551,18,108,7,12,179,90,139,0.044000000000000004,0.8859999999999999,0.07,0.3453,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,4,4,9,3,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,3,1,25,24,14,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,1,1,7,1,1,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,3,3,1,16,1,21,20,4,17,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,3,8,83,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232125184230214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158668343696066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834362266910043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968029162310265,0.0,0.0,0.19714609192834034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960743173162484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493843762614281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941211035009785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572086179547291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450113999507272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386475728168826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510498236351863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247515566487926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280207958326355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807284456830706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577770946205097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809173310525128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21775102398609664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629566023047151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21487762497365612,0.0,0.1622813912717176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kikibutt1,2020/01/15,"Feeling guilty about spending money So I’m a sahm. This is my first child and the only time since I was 15 that I haven’t made my own money. I’m also a really cheap/frugal person so even if I want something I won’t buy it. 

Now given all that and the fact that my husband is the money maker I just feel so weird spending his hard earned money on myself. Like groceries and bills are fine but I feel uncomfortably buying clothes or books for myself. I refuse to tell my husband when I like something or if I want to go to something because he will just tell me to spend the money. (He is crap with money and will spend anything in his wallet so I’m in charge of making sure things get paid properly). 

I know that being a sahm is a job and is saving us money on daycare but I just feel so weird spending money that I didn’t work for. 

Is anyone else in the same boat?",2.2463167587476955,3.7722886961325983,3.654121546961328,90.35639410681401,76.40331491712708,5.489650092081032,20.90644567219153,5.6839178017228535,0.026303572744014403,678,16,143,3,15,223,100,181,0.099,0.823,0.078,-0.6813,1,0,3,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,3,13,8,1,0,9,0,14,1,1,3,3,31,30,18,0,4,9,2,5,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,1,5,1,17,1,3,3,0,1,5,5,22,5,14,21,3,10,0,0,0,0,12,5,1,4,6,94,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595686410884984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761845586884013,0.1870077819529477,0.15019396910637944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125920949726938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246753316520148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054917562228715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691394740433208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524683023386765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535634838159984,0.0,0.10372725637856474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349723704095975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18111758353184984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030525403495702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178334834195087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17269973277957024,0.1218299164464398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881058193554238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936471364016375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169235298618756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509779677557765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215259806024007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201785574890027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190516197959771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212545939706198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064257342333849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954259803279336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21530368627458088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132872806570873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parenting0870,2020/01/15,"Help! Created a throwaway for this one. My son is almost 2 years and is adorable and talkative. One problem we keep running into is whenever he sees African Americans he will scream Daddy monkey! Or daddy Gorilla! I’ve tried redirecting him teaching him it’s not nice to point at people and gently correcting him but it keeps happening.

Anyone have any advice on how to better correct him? Obviously he doesn’t understand what’s wrong and monkeys and gorillas are his favorite animals. I just don’t know what else to do.",4.025312500000002,6.902784239583338,5.116500000000002,75.47850000000003,76.39583333333334,8.840000000000002,31.475,9.3871,3.703870000000001,421,21,67,12,10,138,75,96,0.092,0.752,0.156,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,1,3,21,15,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,2,0,2,8,3,7,14,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,2,1,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370110144352629,0.0,0.0,0.24287260099126556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493811521897653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959227881803335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451029924386547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20261423960359976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21448069958098728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625720103724237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4311681840050809,0.0,0.0,0.1332957407562833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32870793990168945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814934611851218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292823075983103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320816800965031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932760227978386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467133322180236,0.0,0.0,0.2524966710562027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265183592705848,0.0,0.15619026838231342
parenting,nursemomstar,2020/01/15,In-laws coming back from 3rd world country What is a reasonable time to wait to allow my in-laws to visit my children after they come back from a 3rd world country (Philippines). My children are 10 months and 2 years.,4.8585714285714285,6.1652086666666674,4.760476190476194,85.86785714285716,69.47619047619048,6.552380952380951,28.285714285714285,6.42735559955562,1.2879428571428568,172,6,32,1,3,53,29,42,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,6,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5512801274859972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6175775512847258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28612604762932664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685652060962917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090257999997981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308418892788896
parenting,outcontrolthrowaway,2020/01/15,"Out of control and depressed 15 year old I'm at a loss. My 15 year old son is really out of control and is displaying some troubling behaviors. 

* He refuses to do his homework and regularly cuts school. His school has an online parent portal where parents can check on grades and homework, and holy moly do we hate looking at it. He has started the new term with 15% due to his school refusal. His school has called a meeting regarding his truancy, and we are going to get slapped with a truancy fine. 
* He refuses to practice basic hygiene. Showering, wearing deodorant, and brushing teeth bring on constant battles. He constantly reeks of BO. 
* He smokes pot and has pothead friends. If we turn away for even a second, chances are he's smoking pot. We have to regularly search his room to see if he has hidden any pot. 
* He has unprotected sex. He sneaks out at night to meet up with a girl and have sex. Despite having drilled him on condoms, STIs, birth control, etc, I suspect that they are not using condoms or birth control. 
* He constantly treats us with disrespect. He swears, lies, and is in general rude and disrespectful to us. 

I have no idea what to do. I have seriously tried everything. He's been tested for depression, ADHD, etc, but hasn't been diagnosed with anything. He's in counselling, but it's not helping because he refuses to talk. We got him a mentor he could talk to, but he was so nasty and disrespectful that the mentor quit on us. I've had to quit my job as well so that I can attend to him. It just feels like we're in a constant downward spiral that is continually escalating. What can we do to turn this around?",2.903942307692308,5.456679907051287,4.059294871794872,83.32528846153849,78.4551282051282,7.233333333333332,28.98076923076923,8.278499904357787,2.3465461538461536,1289,60,240,26,32,419,167,312,0.11,0.853,0.037000000000000005,-0.9593,4,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,9,0,1,7,7,15,4,0,10,0,31,7,2,5,0,51,44,21,0,3,9,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,4,1,10,27,0,8,3,0,1,3,4,10,1,1,5,5,25,5,41,38,4,38,0,3,2,4,50,19,0,4,17,148,35,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962383395427673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202996713796555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506294653044054,0.08120152551552959,0.0,0.0,0.08570037828908764,0.0,0.0,0.055604390397309834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314167330865246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942881043987796,0.4092257319018823,0.07282850579327009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712831094953686,0.0925822590346247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20345976992273807,0.0602472681017928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819790052475863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612152000384783,0.06516468577241905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047320898455453,0.0,0.047656563858675366,0.0,0.05184012078260465,0.0,0.07295371996458076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005685627027928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06114012184246306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297169343439297,0.0,0.0,0.0905177456143037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04456350079615885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659841629094727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809692326884631,0.0,0.08559998056670376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19143156974580736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025690134155601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403876039557694,0.0,0.0,0.05843526689114944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692616043266172,0.07268729442427417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645631118283811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663183477108574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192963569852995,0.19843349883922312,0.0,0.0,0.329164634146211,0.07878128519916569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201408466736368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748014947499825
parenting,metallica11,2020/01/15,"Child cannnot keep up in grade school and is constantly moving/etc my son (he is 7) is constantly struggling to finish basic tasks and to complete basic assignments in grade school. the teacher mentions that its like ""his mind is always moving"".  He often shows reluctance to do even basic things - examples are writing three sentences about his day in his journal at the start of class. 

He took MAP test scores and scored above average, so he did not get a refferal for additional help. 

Could this be ADHD/ADD?  Remember - this is mostly around  being ""self-flustered"" around things. he can focus hard if he wants.",5.6261060142711505,7.9727929357798155,5.1553516819571845,79.67249745158003,69.18348623853211,8.147196738022426,28.624872579001018,8.841846274778883,2.4895190621814485,486,18,80,9,9,148,82,109,0.059000000000000004,0.884,0.057,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,16,17,5,0,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,4,1,13,12,1,15,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,3,6,48,10,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196995661096432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211081395968273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254755700415272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167060095634186,0.39510078389858255,0.0,0.14595722979246206,0.0,0.0,0.11789596964075998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203879127195266,0.12074289124731748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955095805752834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375996774235715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253227930599865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248805753629414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931070403290597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845838623504624,0.0,0.0,0.1942958628137868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708570996987716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700227009271809,0.0,0.0,0.1907085045144633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939236974050686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19111050481471895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24289888632511605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031062989008704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078248334872564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,harleyquinn1234,2020/01/15,"Naughty Baby - 17 months TL/DR How do I make toddler care when we say no to him?

17 mo finds being naughty hilarious. He loves to hit, nip and grab the dog (she is an angel fortunately). He has been flinging the dogs bowls since he could crawl so we have to keep them where even the dog cant reach during waking hours. He won't leave the appliances in the kitchen alone (the dishwasher runs empty about 3 times a day!). 

We consistently say NO and remove him from the situation (supernanny style) but he thinks it's a game and will shriek with laughter and sprint back again shouting ""Ah-ah-ahh!"". We have been doing this for 7 months with the dog bowls and it's had no effect.

Is he just too young or are we doing it wrong?",2.8669770114942525,4.540084979310347,3.608017241379312,90.71662356321842,75.06896551724137,6.764367816091952,21.738505747126442,7.492282038375204,0.5353333333333326,562,14,124,7,12,178,103,145,0.10400000000000001,0.8170000000000001,0.079,-0.4066,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,0,1,1,10,3,0,0,11,0,17,3,1,3,0,22,23,10,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,4,12,1,1,3,1,0,2,5,1,0,0,3,4,10,2,9,15,0,13,1,0,0,1,19,2,0,1,9,70,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431629529315895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805325743501747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23937550999192075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874540200200991,0.0,0.0,0.15141472255093025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15507104639723854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21458614817314609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23121260353629206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20868469231531375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485998368570279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118995794457396,0.0,0.15671855513165994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748008998817038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734155369388071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19421378306371706,0.26390437897671576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504385826752415,0.0,0.0,0.13690305127324515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566968459353543,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fire-Ze-Missiles,2020/01/15,"How do you keep track of your children's well-being? It has become clear to my SO and myself, that we often disagree about when specific symptoms or illness (cold, rash, eczema flare up etc.) first started showed on our 1yo son. 

It has not yet been a serious problem, but I can foresee that at some point the time since something started is going to be valuable information for our Doctor.

Have you had the same kind of problem, if so how did you solve it?
Using apps, spreadsheets or pen and paper?",5.921614035087721,6.592647705263162,5.738684210526317,82.11995614035091,66.68421052631578,7.596491228070175,31.62280701754386,7.1686216300943375,1.952964912280701,392,15,72,3,6,122,79,95,0.111,0.7979999999999999,0.09,-0.2912,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,3,4,0,1,8,5,0,0,3,0,10,4,1,3,1,19,15,11,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,1,3,1,10,2,9,11,3,11,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,5,6,55,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26596166122651144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464847400166465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685727992311832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048374345247552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686092691792415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21404776964914035,0.0,0.2507721548681752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276483673055437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4608555811297653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992049662995815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853914404608804,0.0,0.0,0.3409007230748149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502993806602433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042138145390765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798716425369845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165219424347287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tasty-opportunity,2020/01/15,Am I being unfair to my husband? Hello everyone! This is my first post on here but I’ve been reading struggling with this decision and I honestly have no one to turn to about it. I’m 38 weeks pregnant and my husband told me a couple weeks ago he didn’t feel comfortable with having my mom in the room with us during labor. He brought it up again last night and I told him this was how I’ve always wanted it and she was asked in the beginning if she wanted to be in the room so it wasn’t a new idea that was just being brought up. He wants it to be between the two of us but me and my mom are extremely close. It hurts my heart to not think she won’t be there and he isn’t quite understanding how I feel even after we’ve talked about it. I understand where he is coming from and since this is baby #1 he wants us to have our own moment but I’ve always wanted my mom in the room. I told my mom today I was kinda rethinking things and wasn’t sure if I wanted her there anymore because of us having our own moment and she lightly cried and told me to do what I feel is best but I know I definitely hurt her feelings. Am I being unfair if I don’t respect how my husband is feeling because he is definitely a part of this too and a very strong supportive husband but this just hurt me and I don’t know what to do. Any insight is seriously appreciated!,2.2440346609911828,3.612254111888113,4.112712070538159,87.72418516266346,76.06293706293705,6.93195500152022,23.62359379750684,7.586124646067393,0.9498998479781084,1060,32,232,14,23,360,129,286,0.102,0.758,0.139,0.9252,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,6,0,0,4,15,12,0,1,9,0,34,1,1,3,1,53,62,24,0,9,11,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,17,17,0,0,14,1,0,3,9,5,0,3,14,6,40,7,27,41,4,29,0,3,0,0,35,12,0,4,13,169,57,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781563842517053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608742708640546,0.0,0.0,0.0596964516851036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705860851419167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820666319297452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107025199528149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212438821359832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561855025156543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713184934098576,0.09642712120556776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798081629478865,0.0,0.0,0.08388182557351148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22193233509453889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746694276229787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402502280004007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819252808397576,0.0990979845010627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648810085313812,0.07155606167752843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4112484537782224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478279074093106,0.0,0.08237978093363271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948503057282875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950620293857788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407325896477308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336959230712133,0.08780822841217639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261622294652831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177139090507508,0.0,0.0,0.09961677931232166,0.08273582662108635,0.0,0.0,0.07055783392921293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058320102992142776,0.05624874551628019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320941573845263,0.3355273022940459,0.0,0.0,0.09548429833772648,0.08575267423258616,0.1827734639060784,0.4223756481024539,0.0,0.0,0.07243138350061372,0.3106653384488844,0.0,0.1408308178237462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnhappySwing,2020/01/15,"Teaching fire and emergency safety at home - when and how to start? Our oldest just turned 4 and we have an infant as well. Our 4yo is very bright though and has amazing knowledge retention, so it feels like she's ready to understand what to do if there is ever an emergency at home, particularly a fire.

I'm wondering what kind of guidance is out there for teaching this? I'm thinking evacuation routes, dialing 911, stuff like that...what did you use for guidance in teaching your kids?",5.1521978021978025,6.99338531868132,5.299780219780222,80.22021978021981,69.43956043956044,8.716483516483517,30.582417582417587,9.23628265651192,2.7288197802197796,388,16,71,8,7,122,68,91,0.096,0.708,0.196,0.8875,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,2,0,0,9,6,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,1,16,16,10,0,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,6,6,11,15,0,8,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,2,6,46,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225956962637221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442669841939324,0.17580137652711478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936815937952446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562570400416051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404469442296545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417844953543002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817055707240804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767972007869016,0.24177479218457515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26766707942749024,0.0,0.256180545557071,0.0,0.21253625669212536,0.0,0.20304382205259025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22125770742588885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26686595791807616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lea_Lately,2020/01/15,"Toddler hitting? My daughter is just now 15 months, and she's becoming very aggressive. It started off with smacking me while nursing, then to smacking when I tell her no or don't let her do what she wants. But now she's walking up to me or family and smacking them for no reason. She's hitting her dolls in the face too. And it's not a playful thing, she always has this angry face on when she does it. 

She also knows the word ""smack,"" which I've never taught her and I've never heard anyone use it with her. Today I was talking about how she smacks, and she hit me. I asked her to ""smack it,"" just to see what she'd do, and she hit her doll right in the face (again with her angry face on).

Is this normal for this age? There are some outside factors that I'm concerned may be causing the aggression, but I'd like to know if this is normal first before sharing those concerns.

Thanks all.",3.5042307692307686,4.474482280219782,4.133736263736264,90.36126373626374,72.35164835164834,6.479120879120879,25.538461538461537,6.297961479604792,0.7284923076923082,693,21,148,4,13,220,106,182,0.07200000000000001,0.868,0.059000000000000004,0.5164,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,0,0,1,1,12,6,2,0,5,0,13,4,4,4,3,32,28,17,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,15,9,0,0,3,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,3,2,27,4,17,17,2,22,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,5,15,108,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769976093728408,0.16408514873903365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788594393678236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843542017991619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177905149428592,0.16780160315925288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025774266227476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256994605971868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859014216039748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677371472978064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167505403551236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20164907202434704,0.0,0.09634134335190273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740215268787308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041836500337091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864257914088377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275314787334955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840664627639287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571418641789796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957828297595273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585008772607278,0.172360390433423,0.18155410508148295,0.0,0.0,0.13101008026216407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18692134744568506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031639596257225,0.0,0.1627096126217993,0.11631292595151993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kbernal2021,2020/01/15,"First date night in years I am a stay at home mom, my daughter is 18 months and we have a 7 year old son. A year ago we moved across state for my husbands job, so we have no family near us. Even before we moved we never had family that could keep our children for a multitude of reasons.

The last date night we had was when my son was 3! It has been a very long time! Another coworker and his family moved here when we did and we have become super close. Their family is only about 4 hours away and they go home once or twice a month to visit. For christmas, they got my husband and I, a Visa gift card to go out and have a date, and let them watch our kids. They have no idea how much this means to us. I wanted to cry!

Being a stay at home mom is very rewarding, but also so much work, and can be very lonely. My husband works long hours and travels a lot for work, so I am always on mom duties. I am so excited to just go have a date, my husband and I, and enjoy each other without the chaos of kids. Although, it will be very odd to go have dinner that's actually hot when I eat it, and one where I dont have to tend to children. At the same time i am almost anxious to leave my babies because it's been so long for my son, and my daughter has never been left. I know its irrational mom fear.",2.3965884476534285,3.162467819494587,3.997059566787005,91.07400090252709,74.77617328519854,7.128447653429602,21.79223826714801,7.365786028017652,0.4886622382671488,994,22,233,11,20,333,144,277,0.08199999999999999,0.846,0.07200000000000001,-0.385,1,2,0,0,0,0,29.0,12,0,5,6,15,6,0,1,14,0,33,2,0,2,2,42,43,26,0,2,4,13,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,9,24,2,2,4,1,1,9,6,2,0,3,9,2,37,4,27,28,5,51,0,1,1,0,36,12,0,3,27,162,46,5,0.0,0.0,0.08102937812418344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736047871848097,0.0,0.0831467331786945,0.0,0.0,0.06640240068878818,0.06909108630787228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706857360407193,0.0,0.09380498434066664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801334183559577,0.0,0.0,0.05061686310173032,0.09170472392285103,0.07065596817000241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662960331243893,0.0,0.09120914354516024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973154360723814,0.0,0.0,0.08496469173319142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484329025049842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131089257864305,0.09343653307347538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706288278375563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18876094337739308,0.0,0.06641001600456012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498701466932787,0.0,0.16354387514521973,0.0,0.0,0.09373547794841353,0.0,0.0,0.08239860747143678,0.0738045909754596,0.0,0.0,0.045633411695202734,0.06768393600757194,0.0,0.08792120338216358,0.09021687537030124,0.08490807087785053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204478989487227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059268725487478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904485601588886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38899449433337707,0.13255417446339174,0.2647565655092992,0.12207934704872582,0.0,0.1280821511235471,0.0,0.0,0.15584389890425787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713040004518836,0.0884286876854396,0.05626610671844995,0.06315123264537764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537296243177896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17700676751055822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683579174314716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975978042333375,0.0,0.0,0.27404756555152954,0.048975708450120815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004198275249373,0.0,0.18134960756589694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041386122545714
parenting,drdrdoug,2020/01/15,"Failure To Launch -- I need your advice **Background:** My son is 30 and still lives at home (he is paying $300 rent where market for a room is around $600). 5 months ago we told him he had to be out on his birthday, February 21st. Since then he has bought a $2,000 camera and beer and other stuff, has no savings, no car and taking home $1,200 per month working at Starbucks. He came pleading to give him more time, said he needed to save and would sell stuff and get a second job to save up enough to leave. The wife wants to give him longer, ""you can stay until June."" I want to but think that to rob him of managing this crisis is to compound our enablement that has led us here ""not my problem, figure it out.""

**Question:** What would you do if it were your son? Have you dealt with this personally? 

**Additional info:** He is really beating himself up ""I'm a failure, I am going to be homeless, I hate myself."" He is extremely bright (straight A student) and personable, had an appointment to the Navel Academy but turned it down because of a girl and has only finished 2 years of community college.",1.082916666666666,3.61186701388889,2.4985185185185195,91.39833333333334,87.19444444444444,5.237037037037037,21.425925925925924,6.775458762138228,0.5854703703703699,849,29,172,11,27,274,144,216,0.141,0.805,0.054000000000000006,-0.9717,2,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,3,5,0,3,4,6,1,0,9,0,21,1,0,2,0,35,38,13,0,8,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,3,11,15,1,0,4,1,4,4,3,2,0,1,7,2,21,4,27,27,2,27,0,0,1,0,32,12,0,2,10,110,32,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373872332761292,0.13039010909747262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094499963269185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966724250469031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823654743205274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198760132882996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768506342380987,0.2822122679722808,0.0835970082303274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522504271151676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950948974349861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459682695733378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575149035071592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988684953712187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348183308540838,0.0,0.0,0.2181369307238152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187174678728004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568739161321078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074925793759066,0.0,0.0,0.16477913770078234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423229370406873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992024262897312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167781982987015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678281678026382,0.11746959646574763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367752719343432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059651190488952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425200657470126,0.0,0.0,0.08577179510230885,0.0,0.0,0.1405547857625427,0.0,0.0,0.15999622093088928,0.0,0.0,0.17693617873852838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351990847832174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708630973476124,0.0,0.0,0.2089829601421117,0.0,0.0,0.09472382465838146
parenting,enitsirhcbcwds,2020/01/15,"18mo Refuses to Play Independently Pretty self explanatory title!

My toddler used to be able to entertain himself in his room, with the door open and baby gate locked, for like 15-20 minutes while I made lunch/vacuumed/etc 

For the past few weeks though, he’ll just stand at the gate and scream bloody murder until I give up and sit on his floor. Then he’ll play with his toys like nothing’s wrong.

It’s driving me insane. He has an entire room full of toys to play with, but he just wants me to watch him do it.

Any advice?",4.596,5.354124599999999,5.094285714285718,85.25571428571429,69.66666666666666,7.904761904761906,24.523809523809533,7.957251820313856,1.1113809523809532,413,10,86,5,7,132,77,105,0.098,0.784,0.11800000000000001,-0.126,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,9,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,3,0,15,9,8,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,5,1,2,7,0,1,0,6,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,10,6,16,5,2,17,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,0,7,46,12,0,0.2645843176934167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25854873306618903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992640901437687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950814539339304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538133867157841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585250659097855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503560787826765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538757887053425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525756695779486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691773708734245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276019147049792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599527487658262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285158996118125,0.0,0.0,0.1560586857188702,0.0,0.21223358017364027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289281416255718,0.0,0.0
parenting,feta_morgana,2020/01/15,"How die deal with anxiety and difficult children? Hello everyone,

I have anxiety and mild depression, currently in the waiting list for therapy, Its not so easy where i live...
My child is 4 and has some behavioral/sensual issues that shows as aggression towards other children.

But the theme of this post ist not him but me.
I already got great tips to help him with therapy etc. in an older post.


I deal horribly with it. I worry about it for hours everyday, during everything i do. Even smaller normal conflicts with him and others trigger my fear, and he realizes that i don't have his back but am an nervous helicopter mom because of this when he is around others. 
I feel ashamed and guilty in front of the other parents, sorry for the kids he hurted and desperate that it doesn't get better with age as i hoped.

I feel that it its connected to my old fear of be the isolated outsider.
Its hard for me to have his back and stay positive and proud wih him to be honest.
I feel like a total failure as a parent.
Help :'(",4.828252356780276,6.093502010152289,5.830852066715014,78.32102791878174,69.50761421319797,9.689485134155186,31.330311820159537,9.957137785484203,3.2240372733865112,804,34,148,20,14,266,117,197,0.26,0.608,0.132,-0.9769,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,9,14,1,4,9,0,12,0,0,2,1,32,19,18,1,2,5,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,17,15,0,2,4,1,0,1,4,8,0,0,1,4,22,6,26,16,3,19,0,2,0,0,21,6,0,2,10,110,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767503505450758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047457217034959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912925037390833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580050338768102,0.0,0.08157616871696359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835398709828066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27592758688738683,0.11526001375649532,0.0,0.1388852903523665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492460253564337,0.08838764839054447,0.0,0.0,0.12787190279373314,0.12026987645294805,0.0,0.0,0.30117213589513864,0.2029920769079448,0.09560190055093128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991605997346098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702904799130182,0.14753835859770606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987752073627725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939507507082678,0.0,0.0,0.13291465839485422,0.13178693753363402,0.0,0.14325837514128334,0.0,0.0,0.13967457742627856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537828458491426,0.0,0.11816658186406125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672978605930607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311163747706802,0.0,0.0,0.14042285078349395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971852383803145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25632745888379155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498018906663698,0.0,0.1426356064525859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060724369825219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359019365644822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,helenmrema,2020/01/15,"My kids are learning black history in school...help! My kids (7, 6, and 4 years old—though my 4 year old is in daycare and is still marching to the beat is his own drum, literally) are learning about the Civil Rights Movement and African American history in their school this week, and they have a ton of questions! So a bit about me first, I’m Swedish and my ethnicity is Tanzanian. I’ve lived in the US since 2003, first generation American here! I’m also a single mom (I say that with a massive amount of pride and empathy toward any other single parents out there, YOU’RE THAT MAGIC!!) and I’m personally still shaping my own understanding of my identity and my understanding of where and how I fit into this culture. The conversation about race and identity and what that all means means is a definitely extended in our household, needless to say. 

I would LOVE to hear how you address and teach the topic of race, racism, identity, history, cultural identity, and heritage, while also instilling a sense of pride in your kids. It’s important to me that I address these topic in a way that emphasizes more pride than defeat, highlights more accounts resilience than victimization from oppression, and also highlights the unparalleled strength of mind and spirit. I also want to teach my kids the reality of what it means to be African in America and African American (there are many differences and obviously strong parallels as well). I don’t want to traumatize my kids or make them fearful of the spaces they occupy. That’s a delicate balance, as you can imagine! They have such a beautiful background and I want to give them reasons to celebrate their heritage, instead of being lost in some textbook’s version of who they think my kids are. 

I’m realizing more and more that my kids are unpacking complicated and abstract ideas everyday. Before, I was only responsible for providing for their basic needs and giving them as much love as possible. In this new stage of their development, I’m quickly realizing that I'm also in charge of shaping their minds! Not only is that trippy as hell, but it’s also slightly terrifying (yet super exciting)!

Anyway, I’d love to hear from you! I invite all perspectives, the more the better! This isn’t a safe space, it’s a brave space! Ive seen this group tackle so many topics with such dignity. My hope is that we can continue down that path with this post as well. Thanks for reading! That was A LOT! Hopefully, at least some of it makes sense :) These are still developing thoughts! My kids literally came home on Monday and started asking me questions about segregation instead of their usual “what’s for dinner” lol I’m still adjusting!",6.8829642857142845,8.054311997959188,7.166772959183675,70.95362882653063,64.73469387755102,10.778061224489797,35.3125,10.75352987622681,4.1143724489795925,2149,98,362,57,32,697,240,490,0.039,0.794,0.166,0.9957,1,0,0,0,2,0,65.0,3,4,13,12,31,23,2,1,22,1,25,4,0,5,3,69,60,41,0,7,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,9,30,29,1,1,17,2,1,2,3,5,2,2,6,6,47,18,63,51,20,50,2,2,2,3,49,25,1,8,20,258,77,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062466818452381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057576132561622265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915176104264081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204496705913217,0.0,0.0,0.07488065089564623,0.09243390437655252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683593610003817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845848632500893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527336645081907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403458637036146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162439669412783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085062832161714,0.0,0.056750179348085426,0.0,0.08492741638971997,0.16818590363017422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557818816970902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476208263898121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242350108266036,0.07198044212848692,0.22924450227726634,0.0,0.11303111049973988,0.17167711163717275,0.0,0.2766799623287722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709780859783327,0.099160397402672,0.0,0.0,0.06223962932306045,0.0627791470018165,0.0,0.0817714463900411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768652708858326,0.0,0.0,0.1287853975684803,0.0,0.0,0.09401214370588376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739275339039566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544877266538862,0.0810871160077891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18969174406597794,0.0,0.08468942552446954,0.0,0.0,0.08705127713117053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723047399732344,0.0,0.13466041970139156,0.0,0.17137406371132835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003701493931389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599273940763792,0.0,0.2704591483999313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779495503844023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054250883207492995,0.083184419700742,0.06721575442805834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762816530890933,0.10184339110399926,0.0,0.09324820309522587,0.0,0.14981551000038448,0.06720433756486667,0.0679143701752465,0.0,0.15225072746614765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014466203454302,0.0,0.0,0.10904491766837883
parenting,superi4n,2020/01/15,"Tips on finding the right nanny? I (34m) am currently caring for my newborn daughter (3 months old) but I am planning to return to work FT in March. Currently, we want to try out a live-in nanny while she is still young and maybe transition to daycare next year. Any good tips on finding a suitable nanny? I'm thinking that [Care.com](https://Care.com) is a good option if we cannot find a personal reference.",6.088701298701298,7.019135272727276,6.50690909090909,75.84036363636366,66.40259740259741,9.276883116883116,33.581818181818186,9.3871,3.145204675324676,324,14,57,6,5,105,58,77,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.8912,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,9,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,9,9,0,16,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,11,31,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605716193632108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5669876334649302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5082712610456827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109571620674247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636840742617106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862279064296627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795963272073093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714185518283814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451340618558674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185691359019178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830396919790587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803578822579144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187768623110642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258532686071483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933533951461877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495071700871136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937144988110958
parenting,Trigger93,2020/01/15,"I need some advice on how to get over this fear that we're having a boy. I know that most of my feelings are coming from the stress of this pregnancy being nearly over, but the one fear that's been prevalent since we found out the gender is that he's a boy. The closer it gets to labor, the more I'm scared shitless that I'm not prepared to raise a boy in this society.

You'd think that most fathers would want to have sons, my wife was excited when she got the news of his gender, I suddenly started freaking out and after a few months of mulling it over I think I know why I was completely prepared for a girl and am *not* at all for a boy.

Girls are... celebrated, while boys aren't. Here, I'll like some things so that you know where I'm coming from.

* [NYT: The Fear of Having a Son](https://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/14/well/family/the-fear-of-having-a-son.html)
* [RESEARCHERS SAY WE STAMP OUT A BOY'S NATURAL EMOTIONAL EXPRESSIVENESS](https://www.courant.com/news/connecticut/hc-xpm-1996-07-09-9607090073-story.html)
* [School dropout rates: Boys make up 59% of high school dropouts](https://www.childtrends.org/indicators/high-school-dropout-rates)
* [The Silent Epidemic: Young Men Dropping Out of College](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-creativity-cure/201603/the-silent-epidemic-young-men-dropping-out-college)
* [Male suicide rates](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_in_the_United_States)

Put simply, I'm a guy, I know what it's like to grow up in this world. I'm 27 so I'm young enough that I've got a pretty good idea on the state of current childhood. I *know* that it sucks to grow up as a boy, because I experienced it all. All the horrible shit, all the double standards, all the indifference and expectations. I grew up as the oldest of 4, had to always be the responsible one who had his shit together at all times, no room for error. I had to do all the manual labor growing up, I had to get a job as soon as I was legally allowed to, I wasn't allowed to babysit because they feared a teenage boy around children, I had to do the sports, I had to work shitty jobs all year long, I had to figure out what I wanted and I was left to figure this shit out by myself.

My sister was coddled, cared for, never had to work until she wanted an easy receptionist job in college, was encouraged to do this that and this other thing... I grew up knowing that girls ""can do anything."" Gotta introduce girls to engineering, gotta encourage girls to be the powerful glass ceiling breakers, have to protect girls from shitty jobs, girls were always the more important ones that *mattered.*

And I just sat in the background, ignored, told to figure my own shit out because I'm a man and should be able to take care of myself. Even as a child, I was a man and obviously advantaged so I didn't need any help or encouragement, it was fine to leave me behind.

I grew up... repressing a lot. I repressed my emotions for my sibblings because I couldn't ever be mad at them as I was the eldest. I repressed my sadness when my friend died. I repressed my guilt when I lost my virginity in grade school. I only let my feelings out during wrestling season. When I went to college I lost that, and had to discover how to deal with my own emotions, and how to care for myself a little bit. Came to terms with the fact that I'm extremely emotional for a guy and that doesn't hold any bearing on my machismo.

It took me 22 years to become comfortable in my own head because nobody cared, and expected so much from me. The only thing that helped me emotionally mature was when I joined a fraternity and tried to kill myself (ex fiancee cheated on me when I was 20). First time in my life a group had unabashedly cared for me and helped me out. They were there for me, validated my feelings, talked about their own struggles, and just let me be... me.

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I don't want my son to grow up in that world. That world sucks. That world will ignore him, make him feel like he's broken and unloved and inherently flawed. That world will lift up the girls around him and encourage them that they can do anything while passing right over him and expecting him to not feel hurt. That world expects him to bury everything, expects him to be more responsible, expects him to not rely on anyone else.

I'm scared fucking shitless that I'm having a boy in this world. And I'm already so scared for him and all this bullshit that he'll have to deal with from his teachers, his mentors, and his friends.

Can someone just tell me that it'll be alright? I don't need to hear the oft repeated, ""Oh, boys are advantaged in this *patriarchy,* you're wrong."" I know that I'm right, I lived through it.",4.990186691375818,6.6191375277463225,4.955700092659324,83.3617590686022,69.53227633069082,7.933621606781291,28.214574968255604,8.438071523408619,1.9133036617591537,3699,131,708,57,66,1147,355,883,0.17600000000000002,0.695,0.13,-0.9941,9,0,0,0,0,3,219.0,2,2,6,9,26,54,10,14,47,1,66,8,5,7,13,120,130,47,3,16,9,6,5,3,3,8,1,2,1,27,52,41,0,8,19,1,0,14,13,33,0,4,36,8,97,21,120,74,27,104,0,4,0,2,81,58,7,6,33,464,149,19,0.05684203426136274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554537801522134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272659827413649,0.0,0.09459425205175814,0.0,0.0,0.07730906498827349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03974527199867106,0.05824138138160054,0.09355230188379968,0.10120292340739936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732518824851962,0.06277756098985131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205677945560688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501214430428927,0.28977121126227945,0.0,0.0,0.09792875875696448,0.059597791458080675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720328279623253,0.0,0.0,0.05899305736344757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04748422581484107,0.3196981890769212,0.0,0.05873301622552276,0.0,0.03754362753963727,0.05141687425727908,0.0,0.0,0.05108595519858539,0.0,0.0,0.3198154578511706,0.14370520217288205,0.04060796063389301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834980530494848,0.0,0.062324356649317326,0.0878320293351327,0.052549544734292436,0.08909285049934762,0.0,0.0,0.047676401486381935,0.09092353483492527,0.0,0.0,0.11256510122129024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05833632607943959,0.0,0.06406510376577214,0.0,0.1143000521601992,0.12011346008273835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085057331170435,0.06416773784488862,0.0,0.0,0.2256277925385252,0.0,0.06288728906217228,0.0,0.218672268376975,0.0,0.0,0.06018750694095431,0.061759036542518214,0.11624966239578124,0.04014920981746456,0.0833104402141446,0.05697065126808985,0.050192557647126726,0.05030341160680223,0.0,0.0,0.1240995901208866,0.04832506483862957,0.0,0.0,0.07588499851017869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453707694427802,0.0,0.04178543551038885,0.12644294448599874,0.043840081022621394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555290049672587,0.0864618569118578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057828783923996874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057141944307879486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708557335921028,0.0,0.0452030671168344,0.17072637740602686,0.23010869329550376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333901253092307,0.04702031813037375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04816207117027944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04023308441453729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511235819720422,0.059423635938776385,0.0,0.06217595964644701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04273813568609797,0.04568747400129385,0.04968244335850757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328996544364404,0.07284416074786701,0.0,0.0,0.06629009457866282,0.0,0.0,0.05431499964859566,0.06315359155405287,0.0385920100543421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837396844133735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410761813470815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051107815254848914,0.052693135236255684,0.051291094708023836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827633558552655,0.0,0.0,0.04037895026163617,0.0621478412527705,0.0,0.07320881285003855
parenting,JethroJames,2020/01/15,"Depressed mom looking for tips Hi All
I am a mom of two who is struggling with bad depression and anxiety. I see a therapist but we are going through a crisis and I’m struggling to keep it together each day just to do the basics. We have no family or friends here yet capable of watching the kids. A house cleaner or babysitter are things not really in our budget now. I want to keep providing stimulating and productive days for my toddler (older one is in school during day)- but I’m running out of ideas for activities. We go to the library, a toddler swim class, a children’s museum and go for a walk on the trails at a local nature sanctuary almost every week and occasionally we do crafts at home. We read and listen to music and play with toys. Can anyone suggest other activities that are low-prep, low energy requirement but still worthwhile?
Our daily schedule is:
Wake up
Breakfast 
Play with toys/help big sister get ready for school 
Out of house for errands 
Snack 
nap 
Lunch 
Some kind of activity in our out of house 
Free time 
Bath
Dinner 
Thank you for your time!!",4.3354605451936825,6.383626482926832,5.287575322812053,78.63139167862269,71.97560975609754,8.335724533715926,28.15638450502152,9.007467420416297,2.4875767575322807,859,33,153,18,17,281,135,205,0.107,0.727,0.166,0.9391,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,8,2,0,1,5,12,0,2,12,0,11,5,1,1,1,35,24,12,0,1,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,5,19,4,3,1,8,2,6,2,6,0,2,0,4,14,7,32,24,3,30,0,3,3,0,20,13,0,4,11,98,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198241177445047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082950429098976,0.0,0.0,0.09216024321135367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005062176936807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550075353451977,0.0,0.2270447451589735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105033995315944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425284071169496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183124656365714,0.0,0.06886201685143993,0.0,0.2247213173928332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834527208256443,0.0,0.13220990302424793,0.0,0.0,0.4562514768437448,0.0,0.1487903850879434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343064494436207,0.0,0.13725331808596092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068195031985327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087339067114267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931362883373639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183941313355074,0.0,0.08443685418255771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26678485355276343,0.10503052021067537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052586411491962,0.0,0.0,0.27557978422206714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213471801592802,0.0,0.15303430691309985,0.08756455165318107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371164749048588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875310719614716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774126381751333,0.0,0.10572501409461303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nnndude,2020/01/15,"4yo talking back/ arguing My 4yo son has recently started talking back and arguing with just about every request, especially if it inconveniences him in any sort of way. I wouldn’t be so worried about it, but he’s started doing it with our DC provider as well. He gets pretty angry. Yells. Says things like, “I can do whatever I want.” Starts stomping on the floor. Throws things occasionally. (Fortunately he’s doesn’t hit people.) 

We send him to time out and talk about what he needs to do better. And always try to praise him when he does the right thing. However, timeouts seem to be less effective than they were his previous year of life. We don’t spank, but I’d be lying if I said I’ve never raised my voice and shouted a few times (not proud of it). 

I guess I’m just looking for advice, or some company. I know my son isn’t unique in his behavior, but he’s my only child, so I don’t have much of a reference point. 

Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!",2.6849206349206334,4.931874132275136,4.11346560846561,84.27273809523811,77.51851851851852,7.586243386243386,25.314814814814817,8.515128840125781,1.8276370370370367,757,28,151,16,18,250,126,189,0.07400000000000001,0.762,0.16399999999999998,0.9659,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,1,4,11,8,2,0,4,0,16,1,0,1,1,29,29,14,0,5,9,2,0,1,0,1,1,5,0,1,8,9,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,2,1,0,2,6,20,6,20,22,4,21,1,0,1,0,29,7,0,7,12,92,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325037341103825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049334586846487,0.0,0.0,0.21329665042993268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411818936538058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870150101659126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724112042271727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213423915004294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193608598443178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290327344893658,0.17276357286387695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618849252080205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077215812625246,0.07661817255288066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169590745355106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528652471057325,0.11628587382110298,0.12095531666461605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192746573254297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872469426319603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825302250070346,0.0,0.0,0.1595503180810147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484859561081926,0.0,0.0,0.13393013876011906,0.14917921165739145,0.12471581187332552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277019712656472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33301070747863337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3781568890747327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31256839233688105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828951770721447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064758250432604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250113731684832,0.12448265851832575,0.0,0.0,0.1410070837915917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926630825628588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099200245943736
parenting,Very_Unstable_Table,2020/01/15,"Today I found out my 13 yo sister helped launder money... Now to clarify I am not her parent, but our parents don't really know how to deal with the situation so I ask on behalf of them. 

The laundering scheme works by someone or a group of people gaining control of someone's bank account, sending that money to someone and then said someone takes out that money in cash giving it back to the group or person, getting to keep some amount. 

My sister did this in turn helping someone rob 1500€ of some poor lady. 
What did she get in return? A whole 10€.

She doesn't seem to show any remorse for it and doesn't see the value of money. How can we deal with this? 
Please and thanks for any replies!",4.05503597122302,5.209308928057557,4.85689928057554,84.99844244604319,71.23021582733813,6.711079136690649,26.849640287769784,6.742157984588678,1.1918138129496405,547,18,106,4,10,177,94,139,0.094,0.7909999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.5082,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,3,0,21,20,10,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,8,0,2,3,1,8,1,4,0,0,0,4,2,11,1,22,16,4,12,0,0,1,0,21,6,0,5,5,69,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931771357515988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327834104830461,0.0,0.0,0.10921603156279723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930416057780067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928633850984371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573388071505515,0.0,0.0,0.14841469261955206,0.13625276947879922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190405930584508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624709986339305,0.0,0.0,0.07805863845661278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154257821595271,0.0,0.0,0.09846908041404974,0.12401935157298763,0.0,0.1559116118942376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099116125440784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510766701478527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318338530781125,0.12930319203798676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596531212587425,0.0,0.0,0.6017283330195798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679252996341244,0.0,0.0,0.1307666059392536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463242911579418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544931293356581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857683650776971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340306167029452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wittyjesus,2020/01/15,"I keep losing my temper and screaming at my nearly 2 year old during his extreme outbursts. And I feel awful after each time. He was a very difficult child growing up and I never yelled at him or his brother (who is now 4). Over the months of his colic and reflux I started to wear down and I lost my temper a little more.

He’s much better now and so much easier to take care of. Yet here I am, having screamed at him in the car twice the last month. I hate myself for it. He doesn’t cry and freak out nearly as often as he used to, but when he does, holy crap does he throw a wile fit. You know, screaming bloody murder and rocking his entire car seat. And for some reason lately I go from enduring it, to a switch flipping, and I just scream at him to stop (ironic and flawed). 

This morning it scared my 4 year old who wouldn’t talk to me the rest of the drive. I don’t want my kids to be afraid of their dad. I feel so horrible. I don’t know why I’m freaking out at him now, yet  I tolerated over a year of the hardest parenting/time of my life. 

I think I should get into therapy. I have no excuse for being like this and I just feel fucking awful.",2.909527959331882,3.591969979423869,4.35836843379327,89.27461873638346,73.48559670781894,6.869910433309128,22.52457032195594,6.794906146795322,0.4754291454853545,887,20,198,7,17,296,141,243,0.247,0.688,0.065,-0.9937,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,1,3,12,20,6,2,11,2,12,4,2,2,1,36,30,19,1,3,4,2,3,1,0,2,1,5,0,2,7,16,0,2,7,1,0,6,6,17,0,1,2,8,35,3,35,24,6,43,0,2,0,1,24,17,2,3,21,135,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729200884842999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582715826539864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051744707436434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716929374425485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23547318263020825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351148922994456,0.08110344703937071,0.0,0.08822315647587732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326160515282752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797926333199112,0.0,0.0,0.17062528078024705,0.126536567797519,0.17511090586414566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096464854537513,0.07583957453223493,0.15558542033472653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366732944197272,0.16945643469535146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478128677675411,0.0,0.2282299536005088,0.0,0.11972616218332573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257842975121755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15960658150281495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541648550435266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987554487558517,0.0,0.0,0.12978271747559594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167167770955179,0.1247713460931535,0.0,0.0,0.17752380277468233,0.0,0.0,0.09946778838418632,0.0,0.0,0.09051829318674946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340724818262567,0.0,0.12808444811142766,0.09156113574773404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400746937580817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29989714877613005
parenting,queenoftitsandwine,2020/01/15,"What is the most unique/funny punishment you've given? Me and my Husband have been having behavioral issues with my 9yo and were trying to come up with ways to stomp this out before she becomes a teenager. My husband reached down into the depths of his knowledge and suggested making her go out if its raining and have her mop up the rain (a common ""punishment"" in the army). Of course i think this is hilarious and was wondering if any other parents have come up with funny or unique punishments for children.",10.722789473684207,8.267721673684214,9.695657894736843,67.85085526315792,58.57894736842106,12.447368421052632,40.59210526315789,10.686352973137794,4.331157894736842,409,16,69,7,4,129,67,95,0.063,0.866,0.071,-0.0717,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,6,0,9,0,0,1,0,21,16,8,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,13,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,4,0,9,0,16,12,1,14,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,5,1,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037190434042066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308534302941479,0.25491347053686936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5161090244399205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025351298835334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31267504611865343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999664503453528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326389448552049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919534629915478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033895345263488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377860886483667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248727531439496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheDefenseNeverRests,2020/01/15,"Advice on ditching the crib? Daughter is two years, two months old. Though she's perfectly capable of doing so, she hasn't really tried to climb out of the crib yet. My initial thought was to leave her in there as long as possible, but now she's showing signs of being ready for potty training, which complicates some things there.

First, am I correct that it's probably best to ditch the crib prior to starting potty training? I know that overnight vs. day is a whole separate thing sometimes, but I don't want to have a literal barrier to an aspect of potty training. Am I correct on this?

Second, any generalized advice for her sleeping without the bars vs. with them? She does fairly well at school on a mat and is a pretty good listener/rule follower, especially given her age. But, what general difficulties should I be prepared for? She can indeed open all door knobs now, FYI. If helpful to your responses, our normal bedtime routine has been story, lullaby, turn out the lights and lay her down. She has always been a really good sleeper.

Thanks for the advice and help.",5.918757142857142,7.352647190000002,6.206428571428571,76.01,67.1,9.314285714285717,32.285714285714285,9.606745405546679,3.202571428571428,858,36,146,18,14,275,134,200,0.032,0.758,0.21,0.9919,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,1,1,4,8,6,0,0,12,0,18,2,1,0,4,28,26,11,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,7,1,1,2,2,0,2,3,0,1,4,5,1,19,6,27,18,4,23,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,2,12,107,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44043912355599263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501193005261968,0.0,0.0,0.1021685273166431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766788155817205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968925372664359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147626212237393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779428660280126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25202880041865783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20140575585703752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256811660888709,0.0,0.0,0.15908274011463672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329579004389584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199203404644702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472035536956491,0.0,0.0,0.15765187751382598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693733167465989,0.0,0.15284835461205784,0.16198440878739526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924955126397168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152051161919529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034875959785973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859145667716728,0.0,0.10634082781011422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832104404103898,0.0,0.0,0.199625902962974,0.0,0.14761029055604394,0.1192739827573851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200327307125724,0.163418257997784,0.293525802371715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861559668872063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508403496410185,0.0,0.0,0.16773788253454655,0.0,0.1448262472606054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674980025463653
parenting,B0ne588,2020/01/15,"Son in fight at school - Advise? My son is 12 Y/O and is in his second year of high school, I had a call today from his school stating he had been in an altercation with another pupil, he is missing his lessons tomorrow to work in isolation, he has also been given after-school detention. 

My sons normal behaviour is great, really helpful at home, grades a good and have always been given positive feedback from teachers so this obviously came as a bit of a shock. 

I have spoken with my son to find out what happened and it looks like the other child involved has been name calling and such which had started in his first year of high school, however he has never mentioned anything previously to myself his father or teachers. 

He explained that the other child was pulled from class before the end of lesson yesterday and therefore the fight didn't go ahead but then ended up happening during lunchtime today... My son said the other boy hit him first and he just responded.

I know this may be controversial but I have always raised my children that if they are ever attacked or hit they are to defend themselves as I myself would never allow someone to hit me and I would just take it, but I'm really disappointed that 1. He went to a meeting place for what sounds like a pre-arranged fight, resulting in lowering himself to the level of this other pupil and 2. He has never communicated with me that there was ever any issues.

Any advise on how I should approach this from a punishment point of view as he is my first born and this is my first time dealing with this situation.",8.367700000000003,7.434805703333335,8.258000000000003,71.47900000000004,61.96666666666667,10.933333333333335,35.0,10.047579312681364,3.4137000000000004,1261,45,222,22,15,408,164,300,0.109,0.847,0.045,-0.9568,2,1,0,0,4,0,24.0,0,0,2,8,9,12,5,0,14,0,30,0,0,4,6,44,48,22,0,5,8,6,0,2,0,4,0,2,1,4,19,15,0,0,5,0,0,5,4,8,0,5,15,4,27,4,37,25,1,44,0,2,2,0,44,16,0,4,24,160,46,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059640045657182,0.16771962466077114,0.0,0.0,0.13707225419588695,0.10568011928160828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829361013897377,0.0,0.0,0.11465559862126536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575919915856033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002930444712143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058221164553821,0.1152692917867902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103903197991558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852825003304634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232860167745532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211414676794563,0.3429050295246391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0572774945830136,0.0845322838230908,0.0,0.1111139879680344,0.0,0.0,0.17824474915361638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675529482719025,0.2129662638567157,0.1010939072289404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519162245732826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538788786302371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847529816360368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463262253131879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23319097433706684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874627471223724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052971394904626,0.0,0.09527283220136867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912877641048576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586803533870401,0.0,0.0,0.5099906024097725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328469663451875,0.0,0.0,0.08539339679058734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133496666646456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577652891690931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876757593779033,0.0,0.1910616437599514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342716573506434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337147172597665,0.0,0.0,0.14318718601151395,0.0,0.0,0.12980233308838654
parenting,Andromede,2020/01/15,"Does anyone have tips for stopping screaming behavior? My daughter has recently started doing this absolutely ear-piercing screech for fun. It's not when she's upset.

I don't mind happy little squeals, but this is just an intolerable sound that literally hurts my ears and is unacceptable in public.

She is 2 years old. I have tried telling her why I don't want her to do it. I've tried immediately ending any fun activity we're doing if she makes the screech. I've tried not talking to her for a few minutes or leaving the room, but I can't do that if she does this in the grocery store. We emphasize indoor vs outdoor voices and tell her she can scream for fun outside only, but she still does it inside. She will sometimes agree to make a quieter sound but will go right back to the hideous shriek the next day or next hour. I am 100% sure she understands and is doing it on purpose. She probably realizes I can't stop her, and she enjoys that she has the power to do it. 

With other behaviors, we do natural consequences like take the toy away if she throws it. But I can't think of a way to apply that to the screaming. 

Any ideas on punishing or deterring this behavior? Or any positive way to get it to stop? We're not doing physical punishment.",4.8176111908177885,5.889067069105687,5.834830224772839,79.00345050215209,69.36585365853658,9.202869440459107,31.137254901960787,9.478462496947786,2.8057831659493067,993,41,192,21,17,329,133,246,0.098,0.742,0.16,0.9578,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,1,4,14,2,1,12,0,25,1,1,2,1,37,34,17,0,4,17,1,0,1,0,2,0,7,1,0,16,7,0,3,5,1,1,2,8,7,0,0,0,7,28,7,20,32,1,27,0,1,0,0,24,8,0,7,16,125,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705112619079628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271481668949222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457912708228047,0.10195881068320703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551401367199124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34810925156471195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174414727132254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692763934510042,0.0,0.0753578586683929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115183702416256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058121037925247,0.0,0.1419476950675747,0.14968572996222454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040094311632093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478013446088703,0.13289690127617065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701888482707714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388504269283552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282036557601945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913811310422194,0.0,0.0,0.10084589702246896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429618558713615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309234155620858,0.0,0.0,0.11323700511465115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311416979709337,0.0,0.09385274923949233,0.0,0.10589203412530168,0.3325707695734087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497098365983975,0.0,0.09969634667287493,0.1065763439026794,0.23179102303409205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496272224359433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700737188051202,0.0,0.0,0.13803802115779792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820907121002738,0.2104984519514656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964805383183234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853880389052768
parenting,sneakypeat007,2020/01/15,"New born Hello, I have a 3year old girl and we just had a new born in December. My eldest became (jaleous) but I never expected such change swfitly and with such intensity. I meant to post here for a while about this.
Before the new born, my eldest was very attentive doing good at school -beside incidents here and there- but overall her teachers we're proud of her. Now once we had the new born she started slamming doors. Getting upset about the littlest thing and just run to her room and slam the door. This behavior has got worst...until recently couple days where it's progressing to the better
 She no longer slams doors after I talked to her and told her I will take her door down and such. She is super hyper -normal for a 3 year old- so commonly she would do good on her curriculum such as gymnastics and swimming but that behavior starts to change where she no longer acknowledges the authority of her coaches and needed to be placed in the corner. I dealt with that as well to curb her attention. Worked a lil but more progress is welcomed. Now her daycare teacher told me that since December lil one has not been willing to do tracing and that basically she would just get mad -just like at home- and put her head down! Her mom told me about it... We usually don't give her any homework or tracing so far since she is at school all day 5 times a week. But now I don't want her regress on her education! Which brings me here to ask for some opinions, tips or any positive contribution is welcome.
Let me know if you need some extra info",3.6345307692307713,5.722754663333332,4.1320000000000014,85.98946153846157,74.03333333333333,7.548717948717949,26.205128205128197,8.384062270229773,1.7594974358974356,1229,44,240,22,26,387,172,300,0.055,0.8029999999999999,0.142,0.9852,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,1,0,6,23,11,1,1,13,0,22,1,1,0,2,48,39,24,0,8,13,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,7,1,10,16,0,1,6,2,0,4,6,2,1,1,9,0,39,9,31,24,5,46,0,0,0,0,37,15,0,6,27,165,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554740073465148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691800704550593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731816695110312,0.0,0.0,0.10114860180709964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419709229286041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654526581611086,0.0,0.1475149218474088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950441017765487,0.10971155593991908,0.0,0.19185176612117247,0.09146999456871203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737386671850547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471974829493628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285328887174753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694833474371552,0.0,0.055874096314299834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394562456320466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960383933428966,0.08820712877719633,0.4418266866629367,0.0,0.0,0.11205569248002664,0.0,0.0,0.2400185302878358,0.12179746473408593,0.07749825682297361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948950900835885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953227984340116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497074646243716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292393249553805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23149167005183616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892116601851397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618995574495268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598999249603849,0.09192412077563186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598056647367413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668850481977284,0.0,0.0,0.3278486300742637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595944681692067,0.09436501766106296,0.0674568093105679,0.0,0.09173856668806518,0.0,0.10282995689217496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326077207967954,0.0,0.0,0.16248652751249756,0.0,0.0,0.07364880529482756
parenting,chelsrose23,2020/01/15,"6 1/2 yo's Development? Seeking reassurance/validation? If you have a child a similar age, can you tell me what they're like in the below? I know all children are different and that's pretty much all it says online but I'd love to know whether other kids in the same age range are similar or not to help put my mind at rest really. :(

Sleep: Where do they sleep? How long do they sleep? How do they fall asleep? What time do they go to sleep?

Food: What is their appetite like? Do they feed themselves ie. cut it themselves, use a knife and fork etc.

Independence: Are they able to be alone? Do they dress themselves? Do they wash themselves?

Personality: Do they physically hurt you on purpose whether it's playfighting or not? Do they boss you around? Do they lie a lot?",1.5523277993641855,4.2219599798657725,2.5154009184033903,90.99606852702229,86.78523489932886,6.089862239491347,21.264924055104203,7.475848149327749,0.8404281879194628,603,20,126,11,19,190,93,149,0.11199999999999999,0.807,0.081,-0.7172,1,1,0,0,2,0,27.0,0,4,12,0,4,5,1,0,6,0,17,9,5,5,2,23,22,10,0,1,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,4,8,3,2,0,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,19,3,10,21,7,14,0,1,0,1,24,7,0,4,6,80,27,1,0.1658665943907405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178776904122856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476564347678736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329528823328405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498509759978504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20056654432629747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426580798942556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117688190235983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756361982978952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823118849819258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206807954802985,0.0,0.0,0.14678671651847214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101384710546147,0.14970107730185075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747797708366108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193103173214885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482831244920402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874595661245093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667417400234702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625838762359388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190377325714034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.663945525046164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497471436359094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967181450530593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325548227188362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,l-un-a,2020/01/15,"I'm finally starting to love being a parent At first all I did was love my son and think he was cute, but now he is almost 7 months old and I'm really starting to love everything about being a mom. 

I always find myself looking at old pictures of him and thinking about our lives when he was first born. I got pregnant at a young age (18) and I second guessed myself so many times. I was ready to take on my new responsibilities and I was excited too, just nervous. It's just so hard to be pregnant and then go straight to having a baby and dealing with all the highs and lows. 

Medication is what really saved me and now i dont find myself stress crying or only looking forward to my next break. Depression and mood disorders run in my family and I have definitely gone through hard times in my life. I put off taking my regular medication for months after I gave birth. I really am so grateful to have my supportive boyfriend and this amazing opportunity together. He is an amazing dad and I know I am a good mom too. I look forward to every second with my son now from eating meals to going swimming together. I try really hard to spice up our days and find new activities as he grows. 

I am so happy now and I am so thankful for everything that has happened and all the lessons I have learned. I know a lot of parents aren't as young as me, but if there are any of them in this sub I'd just like to say that it is possible to be young and be a good parent, don't sell yourself short. Things do get better and your love for your child will only grow stronger.",4.035081732147976,4.941835492113568,5.4030470318325206,81.98958345282479,71.05047318611987,8.539661600229424,28.289217092056212,8.841846274778883,2.0778593059936905,1229,44,252,22,22,413,165,317,0.057,0.687,0.256,0.9977,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,2,1,5,18,22,0,2,10,0,30,9,0,0,3,43,57,32,0,1,7,8,3,1,0,1,3,1,0,1,8,20,2,0,9,1,1,10,3,4,0,4,9,8,38,17,37,42,4,52,0,2,3,4,27,15,0,5,31,170,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037971255357267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510135734496483,0.0,0.0,0.06137810268337044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982530390959437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914347636668704,0.05820853307555535,0.0930513792578714,0.07773853549264947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034427588547562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057809585897372,0.0,0.0,0.09235581630784312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604572207011308,0.0,0.16223499815099035,0.0,0.08508661022711943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887253068842526,0.24748078706727825,0.15354573568717902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04715574753648522,0.0,0.10259068006391313,0.15140718964579974,0.07218705928314556,0.0,0.09942866232368087,0.0,0.07981428904413941,0.09608064247354424,0.2425586097937477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536186070458223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920617381292578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375144553116288,0.04409518905134161,0.0,0.07969890614182512,0.0,0.2273803619804811,0.0,0.0,0.0767335833720366,0.3258431801363248,0.0,0.0,0.09150680080129668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18184959766290115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114166680921485,0.14408513392859648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434224946331647,0.09598973072799233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894198415189152,0.0,0.0,0.1372895851873478,0.0,0.0,0.3006603649709045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175161666837798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907335802286176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23128471460239836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177627864264534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776925380425969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338950569355863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242298724672884,0.0,0.0,0.1357246103563681,0.0,0.0,0.08309685445606797,0.0,0.0,0.05996298220267105,0.11566654903780572,0.0,0.0,0.10525958974039253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127882561333184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,triciamurphy1120,2020/01/15,"My 4 year old boy HATES going to preschool He goes to preschool 3 days a week (MWF) from 8:30am to 3:30pm. He rarely wants to go, screams bloody murder the entire car ride, and then has to be dragged inside by his teachers. He's been going for a year now. He's always quite happy when I pick him up, tells me he's had a great day, and then turns around and does the same thing in the mornings! His teachers say he's fine within a few minutes but what could be going on? Is this happening with anyone else's child? I'm so worried that he's going to hate school for the rest of his life.",3.757256097560973,4.1210957317073165,3.9330792682926834,94.24888719512195,71.35772357723576,6.475203252032522,23.50508130081301,5.148860815047168,0.08943983739837423,457,10,106,1,8,141,87,123,0.155,0.7929999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.9165,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,4,7,3,0,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,10,18,8,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,2,2,7,3,17,13,3,22,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,0,10,55,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629295400692682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293459956346922,0.1801442168620649,0.0,0.15651346988085876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037472911470072,0.0,0.0,0.22677348461009725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385772189562355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687166529704507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4996012778834156,0.0,0.0,0.19383770461222474,0.0,0.0,0.15547346318385394,0.18715934714435045,0.0,0.3471637009757292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418400437326847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844892631969448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870019035238702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981589949200668,0.0,0.17793512689573346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367088895044134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680430431104127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912372658441404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103700802037235,0.0,0.14102894934593874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854963066143933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264394137883211
parenting,JusticeBabe,2020/01/15,"Help! My kid keeps scratching tip and or side of nose to a bloody ragged mess. 
We cut our child's nails but they grow fast and that doesn't stop them for making a tiny cut on the nose.

If we don't do anything the area gets scratched and rubbed bigger daily. The tiny mark soon turns into a large abrasion.

We clean the area and put a bandage on it. The bandage is removed almost immediately.

I clean the area and put liquid bandage on. That gets picked at and the nose is a raw mess within a couple of hours.

Child is a thumb sucker ( will trigger a tantrum if stopped ) and seems oblivious to it. Will rub the nose with index finger. Will find dried blood on that finger and under the fingernail or the other index finger, despite cutting and filling the nails down.

Child cannot sit or stand still. Putting the liquid bandage on the face is difficult. It takes the two of us to whole them still and keep hands off until it dries.

We are losing ground and can't keep up with how quickly it gets removed. It will barely last past the half day preschool. Overnight it is always destroyed by the next morning.

My spouse and I are currently working with our child under the impression they are mildly autistic or something similar.

Going to the pediatrician is especially frustrating. I mentioned this problem to the doctor and the doctor asked my child ""could stop touching your nose, okay?"" My child responds ""okay!"" The doctor looks pleased with himself, not understanding that kid will parrot back an okay but has no understanding, ability, or desire to follow the request. The doctor asked me if I need a Rx for a cream to help prevent or treat infection. I tried to use antibiotic topical products, but they just get rubbed off within moments.

I am at my wit's end with this. Evey scratch ends up taking 5 to 6 weeks to make progress to heel because of the constant scratching.


TLDR: possibly autistic four-year-old keeps scratching nose to a bloody mess all of my efforts to help it heal fail.

What can I do?",4.720861917326296,6.617728443271768,4.561802110817943,84.85807695690416,70.6358839050132,6.847528583992967,28.464467897977126,7.42949916751922,1.6219107475813543,1596,60,294,17,30,489,200,379,0.134,0.757,0.109,-0.9255,1,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,7,1,5,5,7,19,7,0,36,3,24,20,13,6,1,61,47,27,0,7,14,1,13,0,0,5,7,0,2,8,16,23,0,8,4,0,0,9,6,14,0,2,0,21,28,5,44,41,2,55,0,2,2,0,31,23,0,11,21,186,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093351038604473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387107479558385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294723979953884,0.0,0.18846294337787886,0.0,0.0,0.07750657517191938,0.0,0.06144483952974612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892561329313176,0.0,0.08047810289230628,0.11152982516822348,0.0,0.06500564575546161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4126794913885632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855222657374006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212651779935403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106488281167868,0.0,0.05728518701364825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026860621218692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992646180401818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583715758861904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216290642840518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464398878577857,0.11276592045269294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345653937287339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473960573246728,0.0,0.0,0.10719862023952036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576936461232757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962220227365189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106447001831198,0.0,0.11363333172482624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644899660490536,0.0,0.3039860994337555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176168947229116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759835898159682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099302940166452,0.252812103036525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515734115764769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843446174739308,0.10963805561378856,0.09846390066447896,0.20986620365143202,0.12124623001567905,0.08705613697806308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085317327296418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253611144301344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338132559547501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490988284237258
parenting,Pbandj8,2020/01/15,"Explaining home invasion to 8 year old Last night 2 men attempted to break into our home.  My husband is out of town for business, but received an alert that there was motion in the backyard.  When he looked at the live feed from our exterior cameras and saw what was happening, he called our next door neighbor who is a deputy sheriff.  I was awake when this occurred and immediately locked myself in my son’s bedroom and called 911.  The 2 guys succeeded in kicking the back door in.  But our dog barked in a way that I didn’t know was possible and ran towards them, and they fled.

Our son slept through everything.  He came downstairs this morning and had no idea anything had happened.  I was concerned that someone might ask him why the police were at our house.  So I casually mentioned that someone was tried to open the back door, but his dog scared them away and our neighbor came to help me.

He didn’t seem upset and told me that we need to buy a gift for the dog.  (And I totally agree... he deserves a huge bone).  And that was it

But when he gets home this afternoon, he is probably going to notice the damage to the back door, and at that point he may start to realize how dangerous it really was and start to feel unsafe.  And I can’t blame him.

Does any one here have any experience with this thing, or any suggestions on how to explain this to him?",5.328532741398444,5.975864894339626,5.49544950055494,83.42728079911213,67.98113207547169,8.952275249722529,30.68257491675916,9.007467420416297,2.338069922308546,1067,40,216,18,17,337,154,265,0.078,0.852,0.07,-0.5041,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,3,2,11,6,1,2,14,0,20,3,2,2,1,38,41,24,0,1,5,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,11,2,17,20,1,0,7,1,1,7,4,4,0,1,20,3,26,2,30,19,1,41,0,1,2,0,41,18,0,4,14,139,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25494389327171824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283653053452714,0.0,0.11682652296896473,0.0,0.11740985367757005,0.288273870362279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552089139575101,0.285856071020776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935875922731683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231155804568296,0.12224091767566472,0.0,0.0,0.06318666291964793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528967900874846,0.0,0.07102116836849691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237361800380234,0.22101438676044535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376220621964788,0.0,0.3760538476030889,0.0,0.0,0.14419421055035336,0.0,0.14107162302459872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867815252976912,0.10186412780160001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103474395209637,0.0,0.10494013011607513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256938446971508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266085002491092,0.0,0.0,0.13290296591137327,0.11727230840495885,0.0,0.0,0.14227484108335178,0.1311309998965587,0.0,0.08468032776677549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813344675735205,0.1408806081540656,0.0,0.0,0.1347346941052523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080056544349854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511296155293136,0.0,0.0,0.11376453037041905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117669026962204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17690343179509707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302198703118034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194105544678828,0.0,0.08484384329252681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919234875780354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276255358510663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047413229233624
parenting,UniOfManchester,2020/01/15,"Stopping the erosion of school playtime ""*Play is not an extra. It isn’t an add on. Play is a fundamental human right.”*

[Let's stop the erosion of school playtime](https://www.manchester.ac.uk/discover/news/erosion-of-school-playtime/?utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=News)",8.8902842377261,12.875393325581395,6.031472868217055,60.32974160206717,92.48837209302326,7.492506459948323,30.35917312661499,7.793537801064563,3.660356072351421,255,11,30,6,9,72,29,43,0.122,0.8009999999999999,0.077,-0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,15,1,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791140383562458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260852580080047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21353553402003386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881445717272627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6712817339177937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22537914821201702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36969168788913503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,avitony,2020/01/15,"My 7yo asked me about guns today. Some background: my boy doesn’t play video games (we fill in his extra time with soccer and b-ball)  He has one nerf gun at home that he hardly plays with.  The topic of guns came up at Target of all places. We were in line behind a police officer and I politely asked my very inquisitive boy to save all his questions until we get in the car.  Long story short, I chickened out and redirected the topic to sports and weather.  What’s appropriate for a 7yo to know about guns?",3.4426980198019805,5.0257549900990135,4.288205445544556,86.80478341584158,73.35643564356435,7.030198019801983,21.53589108910891,7.645422480735847,0.7270881188118814,398,9,81,5,8,128,73,101,0.024,0.884,0.092,0.7096,0,0,0,4,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,17,8,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,11,0,0,2,6,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,1,11,3,19,6,4,16,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,2,4,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5247460390968715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209926932854849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662980453012506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514102974307837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815182174988372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542397547946406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483694046075395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017798979108846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932230421161866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143960097564191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365123950811306,0.0,0.26602658289728026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315684261953819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emilystew96,2020/01/15,"TAKE PART IN RESEARCH SURVEY: Parents views on clothing rental in childrenswear Hi everyone, I am a final year student at Nottingham Trent University completing my dissertation on the viability of implementing clothing rental in the UK childrenswear market. If you are a parent/ guardian of a child(ren) under 12 years it would be amazing and so so helpful if you could take 5 minutes to complete my questionnaire around your views on the topic. I am just looking at your general attitudes and behaviours towards the childrenswear market and this service. 

Please complete using the link below:

[https://forms.office.com/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=xcLLiu3Ix0KBabpDig2-L6gbPG6tJHNAmQ1\_6e1lcV5UMzhWT0E0TlZLS1kxSEE1V0NIRERRNVlMVy4u](https://forms.office.com/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=xcLLiu3Ix0KBabpDig2-L6gbPG6tJHNAmQ1_6e1lcV5UMzhWT0E0TlZLS1kxSEE1V0NIRERRNVlMVy4u)

Thank you :)",21.412404526166906,26.62588118811881,12.702489391796329,29.690990099009923,34.148514851485146,10.919943422913725,45.12164073550212,10.914260884657429,5.936863083451202,764,31,64,13,7,194,71,101,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.9425,5,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,5,0,0,4,2,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,1,0,12,11,7,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,2,15,8,1,15,0,0,3,0,9,12,0,2,3,49,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847831929948828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5952951990367918,0.0,0.0,0.1511058342222472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084259911564246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732113371300467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685457452168322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589277092489261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42029366696912696,0.2049462366107652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077466928589726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845945167572428,0.0,0.0,0.17424186428590485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345676313766633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444231542150692,0.0,0.0,0.2437498311631476
parenting,abenyishay,2020/01/15,"Resource for how kids of varying ages deal with pet loss? I'm sure such a thing exists. We just found out our cat probably has a mammary tumor and probably has months. We have a 3 year old who thinks very fondly of her, so this is with that age in mind, but I'm curious about a guide to various ages' coping",4.232500000000002,4.39943225,5.400000000000002,84.845,70.25,9.525,26.9375,9.516144504307137,2.0225437500000005,240,7,53,5,4,80,53,64,0.055999999999999994,0.8370000000000001,0.10800000000000001,0.5017,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,1,13,8,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,9,7,1,8,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,6,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915015329669807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100193965734351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854956223290631,0.0,0.2256873447385556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966972366100392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.609701923238006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664873389546327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784569742819565,0.1811739741335894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332973203287202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820809167059015
parenting,Womenrlikechairs,2020/01/15,Help... I cant stop grabbing her ass When i see it its just so cute and round and i know shes only 8 but i grab herr ass all the time u like ti dlap it when she goes to school she doesnt say anything when i do do ut but she layghs and it just turns me on more please help me,-2.8483333333333327,-1.2159049242424231,-0.3936363636363609,110.94621212121214,98.24242424242424,2.9333333333333336,10.363636363636363,3.1291,-2.3772,209,2,63,0,9,69,46,66,0.099,0.695,0.205,0.7568,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,1,10,8,9,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,12,2,2,8,2,6,0,0,2,2,8,1,2,0,6,36,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696684944751507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392996910292625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800948933202238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600972613480992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492299848688619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35971528157109617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605995322316452,0.0,0.33164905425693403,0.2611338105001911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739711788510308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19108402084907952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564425949073905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nurdok,2020/01/15,"Daughter yells at me We have a very stubborn 3.5 year old daughter and in the past few months she developed a very annoying strategy to yell ""enough"" / ""stop it"" / ""leave me alone"" and not acknowledge anything I say, just continues to yell as a response. 

It's very frustrating to me as sometimes it's just me asking her what she'd like to do / eat or just suggesting something. She yells it really angrily. For example, we might need to get dressed in the morning, so I ask her which shirt she wants to wear and she'll just yell at me.

I've tried all kinds of strategies from just leaving, to insisting, to counting to 3, etc. 

Any advice on how to deal with this?",3.2736363636363635,5.195653643410854,3.9851867512332646,87.37832980972517,74.5813953488372,8.101761804087387,28.7815362931642,8.841846274778883,2.28611007751938,516,22,105,11,11,164,86,129,0.135,0.846,0.019,-0.9212,0,1,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,5,0,5,3,2,1,1,21,10,8,0,2,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,7,6,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,16,2,21,7,4,11,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,7,68,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233204473782485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265057269882648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199274334090196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512512156409724,0.0,0.3297361989879536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181423996003207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045517091546384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222183629735167,0.1966824192777084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213819791250387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18364657272868815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37346891890678396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615813486273946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708476391456486,0.0,0.0,0.1407648619703354,0.0,0.0,0.13076498258158215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18505488469800416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16835078274489215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297751558113205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024455792758306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357666790069765,0.1744195839348006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744065936660114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973345471489935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365339819850938,0.104018736004193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356682465837765
parenting,Minky_Dave_the_Giant,2020/01/15,"Asking my three-year-old how her day went Driving my three-year-old home from preschool yesterday:


""Did you do any drawings today?""  
""I did painting.""  
""You did some painting? That's good, what did you paint?""  
""I painted a sandwich.""  
""You painted a picture of a sandwich?""  


Get home and open her bag to find a half-eaten slice of bread covered in paint. 


""Oh, she *painted* a sandwich.""",0.9026248399487821,3.4659144225352136,1.5526248399487876,95.42729833546736,94.91549295774648,3.1451984635083226,26.17285531370038,4.851557810540192,0.5011014084507046,288,14,55,1,11,88,47,71,0.0,0.9390000000000001,0.061,0.594,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,5,4,0,1,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,11,1,5,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,3,31,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323337235392014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23814948804512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428758862865905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328296762860707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309223997614156,0.0,0.0,0.21366559826944406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511054219584847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.534617990822275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24146573695884305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361484909502489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32809113751312
parenting,Workeachday,2020/01/15,"How to teach my child to be more socialable or interactive? Example today, my 6 year old was at school and was talking to/at another kid. 

Then the other kid said “hey look at my glasses case” (it had some characters on).

My son just ignored that and carried on talking to/at him.

He’s not doing it to be mean, I don't think. 

He just doesn’t see the point or it doesn’t occur to him to respond and interact.

Any advice?

Thanks",1.6789772727272734,3.492068034090913,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727276,78.88636363636364,7.127272727272729,24.63636363636364,8.07648339933343,1.4138590909090905,329,12,71,6,8,112,60,88,0.027999999999999997,0.9329999999999999,0.039,0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,15,7,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,3,7,1,9,9,2,9,0,0,2,0,16,5,0,3,4,44,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509568410697237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464314249688326,0.2692931292194265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21566008735071274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797470406410741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26948435132296594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427733739090219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24429006518893176,0.0,0.0,0.25991069300265085,0.20464846434009853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26179075479196384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4128366593770546,0.0,0.23644093185281465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645568103492816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24343078088708625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538056871514714
parenting,Vonderchicken,2020/01/15,"Doctor sais no milk at night but this is a nightmare. So your family doctor has been saying for a year that we should not give our 2yo daughter milk at night when she wakes up and ask for it because it's bad for her theeths . The problem is that when we try to do this she goes full meltdown and wakes all the family and neighbours up (we live in apartment) . Last night she woke at 3am asking for milk. I tried no milk and just putting her back to sleep and the result was that she woke everyone up and wouldn't go back to sleep for the rest of the night, with all the consequences on my sanity and performance at work the next day. How do you guys deal with that problem?",5.2158695652173925,4.980812579710146,5.075181159420289,89.4001630434783,68.13043478260869,8.63913043478261,26.67028985507246,8.07648339933343,1.252533333333334,528,13,119,6,8,163,84,138,0.113,0.887,0.0,-0.9455,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,2,0,2,7,3,0,0,9,0,9,10,4,2,2,23,15,12,0,4,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,8,12,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,1,14,0,20,9,4,25,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,0,12,82,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697152503388252,0.0,0.0,0.2218441986601482,0.12044571442351455,0.08793564389241974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303162576218836,0.14871910756687898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29529930482511524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784047822752873,0.0,0.0,0.27197887532220866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838117915349366,0.08198263424716366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283372442656364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758592155418872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737855462218778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341531961488306,0.5414888539935067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760623897511936,0.0,0.14501469172802567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471623730180093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28871551785779376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19587742450771248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501832481462513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289457644302752
parenting,timevirus,2020/01/15,"How does she know? I have a three years old daughter.  I don’t know if she can sense that I am off or going to take a day off from work to rest due to being sick or just being lazy.  Every time I take PTO, she would ask me if she can stay home with me.

Like every normal day, my wife drop the kids off at daycare and then she’d call me while driving to work.  I told her that I’m taking a day off.  I didn’t want to tell her before because I was afraid that my daughter might hear us talking.   As soon as I said that, I got a call from daycare.  I switched over and they said that my daughter has been crying ever since my wife dropped her off and that she wants to stay home with her daddy.

This isn’t the first time either! But like every time without fail!

Obviously, that girl got me wrapped around her little fingers so I went to pick her up.  The first thing she said to me in the car was, you’re not going to work today daddy?",2.6236755204594435,3.273323618090455,3.53246590093324,95.0537311557789,74.12562814070354,5.886719310839914,21.2494615936827,4.65589566412798,-0.2985724335965543,716,14,171,1,14,229,110,199,0.063,0.89,0.048,-0.5851,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,6,6,4,0,1,8,0,16,2,1,2,2,26,35,14,0,6,9,5,1,2,0,2,1,4,2,2,9,6,0,0,2,0,0,5,5,2,0,3,11,5,35,2,26,19,2,36,0,1,0,0,32,11,0,5,18,114,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366132763317082,0.10886097552731776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098419511485551,0.0,0.09908668224912223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378080818519463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791009250526222,0.22529345721404306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190238405969973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533176846683187,0.2943314790165853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809724225218725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323575071003069,0.0,0.18626446779896266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312427247695739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336089879849671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799098170183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377893770304158,0.11670914530409295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235304462691493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409202559839113,0.0,0.0,0.12219013463581545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322994727792624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632505542368994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482311654984762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626579393138516,0.09359461271913863,0.10177864166770023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736132402769143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20370120688974774,0.0,0.11037687251623296,0.11126882078896497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006979453835305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373653376158275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794629585463364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122494633787112,0.0,0.2543214877142406,0.0,0.0,0.0827196577257953,0.0,0.0,0.07498718889704006
parenting,PeachKnight96,2020/01/15,"In your opinion, should you adopt a child as your first child or a later one? Me and my SO had a discussion and she believes the first child should be adopted and later ones biological, I think it is optimal if the oldest one is biological.
What do you think and why? (If we assume we are fertile and want multiple children)",3.934285714285714,5.6503960793650805,5.4319365079365065,78.56028571428574,72.33333333333334,8.214603174603175,28.473015873015875,8.841846274778883,2.282831111111112,255,10,49,5,5,86,43,63,0.0,0.905,0.095,0.594,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,17,11,10,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,10,0,2,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,5,5,41,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381597150545301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5106049812298198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6101564030821781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846405491891385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703281690733136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708334427146803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nancyxxu,2020/01/15,"Mystery Solved!!! All day while we were out and about, our 3 year old was talking about a ""human fire"" which is terrifying and what the heck is he even talking about?! So we question him about it and he keeps trying to explain to us that the ""human fire"" makes his nose feel good. We keep telling him to tell us more and he mentions the ""human fire"" is for night time. My husband and I literally are creeped out and still have no idea what he's talking about. 

Eventually we get home and it's bedtime, our son crawls into bed and asks if he can have the ""human fire"", I again ask him what he's talking about and he points to the HUMIDIFIER on the dresser! I immediately remember that a couple of days ago when I turned it on and he asked me what it was and what it was for, I told him ""it's a humidifier, I turn it on at night so that your nose won't feel bad"". Whew, mystery solved. Sometimes toddlers pronounce things badly and it's adorable but sometimes it's terrifying hahaha.",3.9293877551020415,5.005238061224492,4.800612244897959,85.58010204081633,71.44897959183673,7.4367346938775505,27.775510204081634,7.7094869923839395,1.4215653061224491,764,27,163,9,14,248,104,196,0.08800000000000001,0.85,0.061,-0.6449,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,8,1,0,0,12,4,0,0,9,0,12,2,2,1,1,31,25,18,0,1,2,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,19,19,0,2,6,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,8,22,2,20,19,2,20,0,0,0,0,41,8,1,2,12,106,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128162872754176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569379977168184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21252859369720956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082072499325152,0.0,0.16415594931904798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405997251910045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870205824144987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664927983381175,0.0,0.0,0.1067471968318378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766118133104848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367120689548304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262450651973493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495304406377603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388666653536953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354740388338024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203103395740515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257040403233615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417096451260455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517445854933779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163718577074217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091759971740847,0.22247742677442195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455186677444658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421157588844977,0.0,0.0,0.12161098106504425,0.0,0.08640729511819008,0.2768642460453354,0.0,0.0,0.3061778674494164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195706168554304
parenting,MrsRobertshaw,2020/01/15,"Tantrum terrorism. My sisters little girl is 11 months older than my girl. 5/4. She is the absolute queen of the tantrum. Screams. Sitting down. Hitting. Crying.   

It is excessive and extreme and happens the instant she doesn’t get her way. 

My question is, I want to avoid my daughter getting the idea to do this (it ain’t gonna fly). Can I remove her from the situation without being rude? If I just pick her up and go play else ware in the house? Advice please parents.",1.2378717948717934,3.9022035222222256,2.318888888888893,90.76807692307695,91.55555555555556,4.547008547008548,26.92307692307693,6.297961479604792,1.229538461538462,367,18,69,4,13,116,67,90,0.18,0.736,0.084,-0.8905,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,1,7,3,2,6,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,16,4,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,1,0,2,3,6,0,0,0,1,12,1,9,13,0,10,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,2,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430319359729959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27319108837559464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20776136089662275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598765035232472,0.0,0.14134495062586933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199292711024932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28697251874296714,0.0,0.28075800566479986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492680429239693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985141937685916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276157797930528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730037292305804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786068494020697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795551720452045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669282678692874,0.1974106869784305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23974302941532924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Silly-Introduction,2020/01/15,"Meeting BioMom, would it upset my mom (stepmom) My birth mom,22 at the time,  left my dad, also 22, me and my twin brother when we were a year and I’ve never met her. We were raised by my dad, and our entire extended family. We are Punjabi so it’s a large family. My dad ended up marrying Sammy, when we were 4. She’s raised us into the people we are today and is just plain awesome. I look at her as my mother. 
Recently, our birth mother, has come in contact with my brother and me, we are now 22, and wants to meet. Would it be disrespectful to Sammy if we went and met her. I don’t want to make her upset in anyway but I have so many questions for my birth mother and I feel like this is my only opportunity. 

Side note: our family is not keen on us meeting our birth mother but I haven’t asked Sammy her opinion yet because I don’t know how to approach it",1.1864509803921557,3.029627122222226,3.5516339869281066,88.45794117647058,80.55555555555556,6.0130718954248366,20.03267973856209,7.048011613610866,0.4006307189542482,662,17,142,8,17,229,100,180,0.036000000000000004,0.904,0.061,0.6581,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,13,0,0,1,10,5,0,2,4,0,17,0,0,2,1,34,28,18,0,5,5,10,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,18,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,6,2,37,3,15,19,0,26,0,0,1,0,37,9,0,3,15,101,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119262125087933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336682077954553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000480225008117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413165908157296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530170675418752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639619232686642,0.0,0.08294980764110876,0.11719904611479615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015889237156788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17824338033146062,0.0,0.0,0.08014770151867022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776267339882906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950623105648746,0.16632335443695298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842723066816231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265273014759134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476922008890692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373325743968933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377619987414764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619819242365184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956602563906457,0.0,0.15550246489529088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946696044479339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352467689545666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207819082972449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330761939239436,0.0,0.0,0.10564434779888872
parenting,imjennaayy,2020/01/15,"At what age do you stop collecting your kids lost teeth? My kid's 6, I have 7 teeth put aside. I dont even know which was the first at this point! Lol do I keep them? Do I keep the others to come? Where does the madness stop?! 😂😂🙈",-3.3169811320754725,-2.0796478867924506,-0.8324339622641508,110.47059433962265,112.7735849056604,2.8747169811320754,9.073584905660377,4.935628992294339,-2.219217358490566,174,2,50,1,10,57,40,53,0.17300000000000001,0.773,0.054000000000000006,-0.7306,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,2,2,2,1,0,3,1,6,2,2,0,0,6,11,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,2,0,8,0,3,9,0,10,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,27,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536249306102106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23910444052421145,0.0,0.32022222100097913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804651031718507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324083519495922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4857167782642841,0.0,0.0,0.15015945090171634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982616065949625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582896138698849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746704980512187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.456863168307804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nine_tailsfox,2020/01/15,"Feeling like a bad parent cos I don’t enjoy time with my toddler I am a SAHM with a 2.5 yo son and another on the way. I love my kid to bits but recently I’ve noticed I am constantly looking at the clock to see how long until it’s his bedtime. 

I try to do all the chores/work when he is at his preschool. So when he is back, I can spend quality time with him. 

We color and draw, we read books, we play with toys, if I’ve energy we try messy experiments and when the weather is good, we go outdoors to play. 

However, lately, I am on my phone most of the time while he tries to get my attention as he empties out yet another box of toys! 

Recently , he has been quite clingy that I can’t even use the loo peacefully cos he is certain some aliens are coming! He throws a tantrum every morning when I drop him to school(he was very happy before). He doesn’t even want his dad who he is really close to. He just wants me all the time. 

His bedtime is 6 pm but he is up till 11(!) these days and husband and I don’t get to spend any time at all.

Right now, he has told me he loves me for the thousandth time but I just want him to fall asleep! It’s been 3 hours fgs! 

I am exhausted and I just want to be left alone. I feel like a very bad mom and wonder how bad it’d when the second one comes...",0.3989247311827953,2.1366740537634428,2.3969892473118293,96.28215053763444,82.65591397849462,5.997132616487455,20.010752688172047,7.093109894594671,0.17316344086021518,987,27,242,13,27,330,152,279,0.09699999999999999,0.746,0.157,0.9414,2,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,0,1,16,15,1,0,14,0,25,4,1,5,4,46,43,23,0,5,7,5,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,20,0,0,4,6,2,5,4,5,0,2,4,5,33,10,27,37,6,42,0,0,3,2,36,10,0,4,27,139,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580728645440198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760384729668509,0.2344969064751625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597932908802597,0.2800841792629324,0.0,0.0,0.09514687833991488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220737244140966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263855478133635,0.0,0.1208329890808838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211184079016587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770635801549262,0.0,0.09420950353748248,0.0,0.0,0.10937715661481827,0.0,0.0,0.1130746996593582,0.1597622383541999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683811905304008,0.0,0.06354740788366076,0.09378565802416243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902983337641805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011588684370242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261329179813335,0.0,0.12148802553256445,0.0,0.0,0.10925495230588317,0.0,0.0,0.09895332725041736,0.09389698036576803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20183597049295526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309571320931532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273028530169493,0.0,0.0,0.07576917490848165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415804135654032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892970218768563,0.11184590396773024,0.0,0.07163196543262132,0.0,0.22080891992583784,0.0,0.0,0.09548994993621117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316340235935833,0.08910259229737487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39120361101412,0.0,0.0,0.10684464061493214,0.0,0.2277464496846761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657281635482427,0.0,0.1845192349225461,0.2638070580139997,0.08875405446366184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125929733819155,0.08140312132608304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quietlittlewife,2020/01/15,"Advice please  

I'm so sorry if this isn't appropriate, simply looking for advice from like minded women on how to make sure I can cope with my role as a stay at home mother. This is cross posted to another sub, but this post has most activity so I have added more information. Sorry I am very new to this reddit thing!   
A little bit of background:

I'm very happily married with 3 gorgeous children. Two of my children (the oldest 9 and the baby 1) have primary immune deficiency disorders. As such I home school them because a cold has very serious consequences for them.Only one child of the 3 is old enough formal schooling at the moment.  
I just can't seem to keep up with my work, my house is getting worse and worse and I only ever manage to get the surface cleaning done. My incredibly robust middle child (3) and youngest seem to undone the work within minutes and color the walls etc, which I can't seem to find the find the time to get off my walls. Or, crushed noodles int he carpet if the cupboard is left unlocked (I put locks in to prevent this happening, they have huge meals eating more than most my adult friends) I have asked my husband to stop bringing pens home in his pockets and only keep writing pencils in the house but I haven't managed to get to the existing pens off the walls (and somehow the stuff in her room keeps growing).

I baby wear, I have a schedule, I try not to let thing slip but I just can't seem to get on top of it, even when I do cut into sleeping time. Getting a cleaner or hired help isn't an option, though getting help through our health system may be in future it's not yet at that stage with the kids.  Getting help from friends likewise isn't an option, our closest friends have massive anxieties around cleaning and its a trigger for their bi polar. The other close friend doesn't vaccinate her kids and our city has current outbreaks for measles.   


How do other families manage to keep up with it?",5.257894736842103,6.081534263157895,5.6158947368421055,81.87226315789475,68.21052631578948,7.764210526315789,30.989473684210523,7.699297019823105,2.042150526315789,1540,60,289,16,25,492,206,380,0.061,0.802,0.136,0.9845,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,3,3,14,9,1,0,24,0,29,7,2,4,2,55,52,24,0,2,11,2,0,1,4,1,2,0,7,8,16,17,2,6,7,0,0,4,10,2,0,2,1,3,32,7,51,48,7,51,0,0,2,1,31,29,0,14,14,191,48,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425157874085106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812635158661766,0.06429261990894915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481603572082797,0.07856880496917147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051231796838649125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917531247547098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632049164418946,0.0,0.0,0.08600510783534958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599691009268631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683882425474293,0.09373009507918564,0.05550956997136696,0.07602165177779155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922820524267984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362745120568794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597254712778247,0.0,0.3512717438591163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431889526223204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933371636849764,0.0,0.0,0.16899663561862546,0.0,0.2529057671097737,0.0,0.0,0.1939485404256016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988049103726529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913129014158722,0.08593960136235616,0.0,0.04105913585050732,0.08423310585908644,0.0,0.0,0.07057490377180614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609931579108324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485941256567182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116919622300102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818892914430171,0.0,0.056949671940512585,0.12783688765919018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092253911710692,0.0,0.0,0.16097981192601413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448636862565775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011188647155956,0.0,0.3060381485960113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410363591100581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881583837380945,0.0,0.08957859294778106,0.0,0.07026366195677379,0.0,0.0,0.09620906046663913,0.0,0.0,0.07920947738320935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116687913229897,0.0,0.08257176292540576,0.0,0.09801222962639616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570596402861048,0.0,0.08209774154168675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803268429897606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236852414068534,0.0,0.17129387394870113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,truedjinn,2020/01/15,"Parents with older teens/ young adult or fully adult children. How do you let go if your kids just choose to take the downward spiral... I never once will give up on my kids. I have 6. From 25 years old down to 6. 5 still live at home. My oldest at home is 19. He graduated high school but has no ambition to try to figure his future out. He is currently working part time, and seems 100% content on that. Says he wants to go to college for business management/ horticulture so he can open up his own marijuana dispensary, but he has no ambition to do anything to enroll in school. 

He has fits of rage and gets out of control occasionally. Claims that getting high is the only thing that settles him down. 

He was diagnosed with Tourettes When He was 8-9 yrs old but has grown out of the tic/movement disorder phase. Tourettes is not a mental disorder, it is a movement disorder. We thought his rage was from the Tourettes, but several specialists have stated its not neurological...its not causing his rage. 

He refuses to stay on any medication provided to him by the Dr. Because he says it makes him feel nothing. Dissociated. 

He flips out on his mother, calling her every name under the book. Total disrespect. 

We're at wits end as to what to do. He knows he needs to talk to someone but he adamantly refuses to take any meds except for pot. 

I miss my happy fun to be around son that unused to coach for years in football. My wife says it's time for him to sink or swim. If he wants to prosper in life and make something out of his future, he'll have to do it on his own. If he want to get a better job he can stay off the pot so he can pass a drug test. But he is no interest in doing that.

She's kicked him out temporarily. I don't know if that's the right thing to do. It breaks my heart when I heard my daughter say that he broke down in the kitchen crying last night because we asked him to watch the girls for a few hours so we can go out to dinner.  He went into a fit of rage at 9:15 because we thought we'd be home by 9 but we actually didn't get home till 10. I know he's hurting and it kills me that I can't help him but he doesn't want to help himself. Almost like the typical 19year old teenager that thinks he knows everything already but I still know that he's hurting and I want to help him.

Sorry for the long post, I know I'm kind of all over the board here. I just need some kind of direction. Any advice would be helpful any comments critiques I'll try to answer everything.",2.306773630211744,4.155583532416507,3.704633922724295,88.64852477624973,77.1335952848723,6.8034228334424816,24.67063959834098,7.715138304826218,1.166021314123554,1954,68,418,29,45,642,248,509,0.135,0.807,0.057,-0.9926,3,1,2,0,0,0,54.0,6,2,0,3,12,16,5,0,19,0,37,8,1,5,3,78,73,28,1,12,21,5,1,1,0,3,5,5,5,6,20,22,2,3,14,3,0,8,11,9,0,0,8,7,44,7,80,57,7,75,0,4,1,0,80,38,0,9,25,244,64,9,0.0,0.0,0.07242284371468383,0.0,0.0,0.07252174802809055,0.0,0.0,0.0743153039278961,0.0,0.08189776930583842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187416961427285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061072376380313535,0.066066819358456,0.06938072827698558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572178081359687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563687307217132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578150861279337,0.0,0.0,0.0762389425052298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323809908356643,0.0,0.0,0.08152136547558961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532636049144845,0.0,0.0,0.2551694350280624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606549290421348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573219802857802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252908742885102,0.0,0.13339877783065507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03752518331750896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155096475131797,0.07119350483471977,0.1265337765585405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790029304726607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794477939676326,0.1989782019327942,0.15682381501689294,0.2977735894784323,0.0,0.0730865322203494,0.0,0.15889674722771582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364664038351315,0.0,0.08210757212394461,0.15456638367999478,0.2447187565703261,0.0604948875697723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588956116481159,0.052420038929453336,0.03625755474898278,0.0,0.06553294168909671,0.06567767601657395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907777996504244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243580359962384,0.07476350464974957,0.07479096429925453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005852257026782,0.057238953501808375,0.0,0.0,0.0696454705411439,0.0,0.0712110083100203,0.0,0.23362753700021,0.07903623570110815,0.0,0.056443625239927936,0.0,0.0,0.08240664403766021,0.08036729027602504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107716983668923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337895014766058,0.0,0.2360740396902576,0.0,0.15021848145201785,0.0,0.06756227754279506,0.0,0.08384148907265139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288187630957924,0.05713410352980922,0.0,0.08307728302786213,0.0,0.1582059958576008,0.11853591403387488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160043979062263,0.059650966398208737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986099008485588,0.04755378448974522,0.0,0.1178363673145159,0.08655037930383093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077382237966152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188687708711675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879777243331822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402918706980411,0.0,0.0,0.05271999509501421,0.0,0.0,0.09558366994084047
parenting,FridaKlo,2020/01/15,"Living like a prisoner in my own home My 20 (almost 21) year old is verbally abusive - He has no interest in getting or seeking mental health. Treatment.   He blames everyone for his problems and I get the bulk of them because he lives in my apartment. 

I’m going to have to move because I can’t sleep peacefully at night and he is going out of his way to create drama.  

So disturbing and sad.",2.1001623376623364,4.491873480519484,4.101412337662339,82.80068993506495,80.42857142857143,6.966883116883117,27.806818181818183,8.07648339933343,2.222092207792208,306,14,56,6,8,104,59,77,0.23600000000000002,0.647,0.11699999999999999,-0.9053,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,2,0,5,2,1,0,0,7,10,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,11,10,1,13,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,2,4,33,8,0,0.0,0.2664593938146205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22519613271711705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741832753978171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21489325676094365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23499282484012304,0.0,0.2556217955386605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23904891560329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22558429163157084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987052033282614,0.0,0.3971662431275132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22663751652980565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239023841285596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104523292196567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359855689110769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151905839477677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505369506724765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850823124738885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482261178983516
parenting,Snowstorms11,2020/01/15,"Why do some parents spank ignorant toddlers? I've seen this happen with friends if their 1-3 year old does something like, stick something in an outlet or is pulling a heavy tv off of the stand, touching scissors... they spank them and sometimes yell at them. I don't understand because I believe the toddler doesn't. I do understand the parents not wanting their baby hurt but isn't there another option? I try to prevent my 2yrd from things like that because I can't get her to understand how dangerous it really is. She understands ""ouchie"" like ""don't touch that it's can cause an ouchie"" I just feel as parents we should prevent these things instead of spanking. Now I'm not against parents spanking their kid I'm just wondering why do some spank their toddlers when the toddler doesn't know better.",6.332450331125827,7.4725115496688765,5.771847682119205,80.57604966887419,65.95364238410596,8.424105960264901,36.9543046357616,8.548686976883017,3.1904484768211923,648,33,113,9,10,198,96,151,0.075,0.8370000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.1948,4,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,7,1,7,8,1,0,7,0,13,0,0,2,0,27,26,7,0,3,7,4,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,3,7,1,0,1,8,3,0,0,1,5,17,5,11,24,2,9,0,1,1,0,16,3,0,6,7,71,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339159983537019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570274038539822,0.0,0.0,0.1438864340711228,0.0,0.11294989956367175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119425858903713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176065618711258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457446079371551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986691130344528,0.0,0.0667236663969117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293431392997025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671714388824194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018656252757052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871792626144276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401109063836958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5672312973958106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181486322475978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966361574920436,0.12630933093140534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969087458784834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670730782615517,0.0,0.0,0.5318061414578006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532718891206272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304784193063154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384970071187892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224162284417562
parenting,Casanova64,2020/01/15,Miss my little princess.. I haven’t seen my daughter since Saturday. She’s 5 months old and me and her mother just broke up and she left with her. She refuses to tell me where she is or where my daughter is and i’m losing it. I need to know my baby’s okay and where she is. I want to hold my baby girl and take care of her.. I’m meeting with a lawyer tomorrow for what to do next but I need advice on what do do for myself mentally.,-0.9122982456140356,1.134173621052632,1.53328947368421,98.1701096491228,91.73684210526315,4.850877192982456,16.337719298245613,6.42735559955562,-0.4324912280701749,334,8,81,4,12,113,57,95,0.057,0.889,0.054000000000000006,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,0,0,17,17,8,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,20,2,11,16,0,12,0,3,1,0,15,7,0,1,5,54,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595148793208246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707693911121544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595198522216907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885458608439024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661739323227866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971082759176066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676351384537935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197784905540606,0.0,0.0,0.3938380551994993,0.0,0.0,0.2824399172396374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786742079407989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21968474464044205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19967785837978053,0.0,0.23212252311998996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566418466298619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poca_loca,2020/01/15,"Huge bedtime success! TLDR: I moved bedtime back 30 min and my kids are sleeping better than ever. I feel like a toddler whisperer. 


A bit of back story, I have DS(3) and DD(1) and their bedtime has been 7pm since I can remember. 

Actually I can remember. I remember letting DS stay up with us as a baby thinking he'd sleep later than his typical 5:30/6 am wake up. I read some random comment somewhere where someone mentioned their glorious 7pm bedtime and it took little more than that to convince me that this grumpy kid was fucking exhausted and bedtime needed to happen earlier. We dropped a nap and started 7pm bedtime (really head hit the pillow and lights out was normally 7:15ish) and my whole life changed. Sure he still woke up between 6 and 6:30 but those 3 hours a night I got with myself or my husband were priceless. And that's been the norm in our house since. 6:30 bath plus story time and a song and some milk and I never had to worry about being woken up or anything. 


Fast forward to about a month ago, bedtime routine was falling apart. DS begged for playtime every night at 7. It was causing tension between my DH and I as we stressed out trying to figure out who the guilty party was that was riling up our oldest just as the youngest was trying to settle down for bed.  It was hell again. Newborn sleep for our 2 toddlers. I was going crazy. 

Then I remembered, earlier bedtime=later wake time. SOMETIMES. So I tried it. For 4 nights now we've done bath at 6 and lights out at 6:30. YOU GUYS. MY KIDS HAVE SLEPT TILL 7:30 EVERY. FUCKING. DAY.  I'm over the moon. The hour of extra sleep, the 30 min of extra hangout time. NO MORE FIGHTING TO GET IN BED. I was keeping him up too late. I can't believe I didn't see it. 


Anyways I just wanted to share my story with people who'd realize how precious that tiny bit of extra sleep is. I'm sure molar growth or nightmares are around the corner but for now I'm just relishing in my sweet sweet 13 hours off. Even if I'm gonna sleep for 10 of them.",2.3831304006284384,4.5268770721393015,3.5352919612464007,88.55856245090338,78.02985074626865,5.7241162608012575,25.753076721654892,6.7183091564049375,1.0703920398009954,1581,61,309,15,38,511,225,402,0.08,0.8079999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.8468,0,0,0,0,2,0,52.0,6,1,3,2,19,17,4,2,15,0,30,15,10,2,4,56,53,29,0,4,9,1,1,1,0,1,2,2,5,5,14,26,1,1,8,6,0,6,4,7,0,0,21,8,39,10,54,26,10,62,1,0,1,2,26,26,3,7,31,198,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.08286732489876797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527432586734745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987994666137612,0.07559466466649345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305927804712744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567305224685717,0.0,0.07510271355318268,0.18541604433083608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723376347121321,0.08983155766979004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054764824833932864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690018421557326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056087271763833324,0.07681282786726472,0.1430934754234039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04293688839544097,0.06066514807189587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700989966759366,0.0443659394473434,0.0,0.048260627148957305,0.0,0.06791635947579627,0.0,0.0,0.08408177148913445,0.07509235034446844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871499529731574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508801822980616,0.09798350537268312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547866170231357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957907478626252,0.0,0.0,0.08683399600055074,0.05997980988272548,0.04148644840922816,0.08510974057747651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778041554947792,0.09025396648738478,0.0,0.06296532198900405,0.06549368560265646,0.0,0.0,0.2390682361685723,0.08320121508333364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887116945064229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494057663857249,0.0,0.054400386905153315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847803335998023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766833027621906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048942706007098,0.0,0.5098735392221859,0.0,0.07195040414207785,0.0,0.08398567450419002,0.0,0.060105112034605536,0.09051085946937801,0.06781530244183136,0.0,0.09727282014863976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006765992079866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441176716288948,0.0,0.0,0.1485484006290405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434657449162716,0.17296042212851548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214541323936496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050086598690953436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948074641678454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623794147846993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,astrotiff,2020/01/15,"FTM anxieties regarding 3 m.o. and head bumping. Please help me chill! My daughter is 3 months old and just learned how to roll over a few days ago. She's doing it all day long and is now spending a considerable amount of time on her tummy (a dramatic increase in tummy time). We did tummy time with her before and she was holding her head up well (most of the time we used a small tummy time pillow under her chest), but now that she's getting to her tummy on her own without a pillow prop, she's handling it much differently. She's not using hands as much and keeps bopping/bumping her head off the floor (not super hard but not light either). My concern is that this is bad for her little noggin. Dad thinks it's fine and that she needs to learn, but I honestly have no idea. I haven't spent much time around babies so this is all new to me. Should we allow her to keep bopping her head off the floor while she learns? She's on a baby playmat that is similar to a yoga mat. She got rolling over so quickly, but is not using her hands much. It freaks me out to watch her bump her head. I keep cringing but I don't want to prevent her from learning. What's a safe way to help her learn? Maybe I'm overthinking it? Should I just let her do her thing?",3.2201617857874254,4.341516062256812,4.010554986688511,90.4007311079255,73.2023346303502,6.655662502559903,24.032152365349173,6.8360192770164,0.6541097276264591,976,27,212,8,19,312,135,257,0.055999999999999994,0.831,0.113,0.9498,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,0,1,10,7,0,0,11,0,17,8,8,5,2,51,30,16,0,4,13,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,13,12,0,6,8,1,2,1,8,2,1,0,4,5,39,5,28,23,12,35,0,0,1,0,33,16,0,1,17,144,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671570401612964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346563438016902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971272891366352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109878129920716,0.0,0.0,0.09284099534647272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140728423087251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399233357294145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700327460319505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872618710991804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977373615714912,0.0,0.5598701123956361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626262879522667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316716191715525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909347305586882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115680673185548,0.0,0.0,0.10935266950230424,0.0,0.09655519503176384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096114356840934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870872044729556,0.0,0.32082125218299995,0.08090056436374445,0.0,0.1053750564913312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448817806400123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976539882633115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248504199579749,0.0699105878037938,0.0,0.0,0.3817227980925656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826971273328491,0.0,0.0,0.06435342460197603,0.08660310144914825,0.0,0.0,0.09809921259718292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517409273009846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SelfDefecatingPOS,2020/01/15,"Expecting a quick friendly child hand off with the bus driver? Alright. I have a child who needs a bit more and she is in her 2nd year of public school. (7)

Last year, she was in the same school and program and her bus drivers were excellent and if needed we spoke about her behavior on the bus otherwise I gave them thanks for getting her home safe and it was a very fast exchange.

This year, I've had a few incidences with a home driver who tries to initiate a conversation about themselves or shoot the breeze when dropping my kid off. I tried to be polite, but ultimately I need to get my kid inside and start their expected after school routine.

Yesterday the driver asked my kid as she was almost off the bus a question that triggered her and made her not want to exit the bus. This hasn't happened all year.

Today, I asked if my kid had a better day on the bus to the driver and they immediately thought I was asking them. Then they got offended when they realized I meant my child. As they realized I was taking my kid in and started to drive off they said ""my day wasn't better..."" and the vibe I got was that they thought I was rude.

Then I reminisc on all the other drivers my kid has had and any conversations we have regard my child, her behavior, or general ""have a great weekend!"" 

Since this a regular driver, any tips for tomorrow? I absolutely do not want to converse for 2 minutes while my child is 10 seconds from melting down due to delay in routine.",5.475416666666668,5.951059597222222,6.055555555555558,80.14500000000002,67.6111111111111,9.316666666666668,30.930555555555557,9.2995712137729,2.5702347222222217,1156,43,227,21,18,376,143,288,0.049,0.873,0.078,0.8514,0,0,0,1,0,0,30.0,2,0,9,3,5,10,2,0,22,1,21,1,1,2,2,44,45,23,0,9,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,11,9,15,0,2,6,1,1,1,4,2,0,1,21,3,43,8,32,23,6,38,0,0,0,0,46,13,0,6,23,157,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622886341085815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144750566548528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35354159951436315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297608831100707,0.13762267140225745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259394422360873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739208687448472,0.0,0.13172018911415767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016401731944544,0.13897937400547888,0.0,0.0,0.11147266023905016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528928751344615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275408289400224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927911380716735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804111968552738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412137934526945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199100111710616,0.0,0.0,0.3827322336336862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427646822882894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784489818664246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477991696427834,0.0,0.0,0.11605725659715352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001519193005988,0.0,0.0,0.11948823065307887,0.0,0.0,0.17117019494254387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401103987374168,0.1487045317610728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247088386795077
parenting,BatFace,2020/01/15,"I need help from parents experienced with eczema. My son is 7 weeks old, he is my 3rd. My oldest who is almost 8 had a teeny bit of eczema. This is a whole nother ball park.

Once I was sure it wasnt just newborn rash I called the dr, suspecting eczema. She agreed and gave us some samples, dove sensitive bar soap and aveeno baby eczema lotion. I've been washing him every other day with the soap and using the lotion, after a wipe down with warm water, twice a day. His bath water also has a little but of baby oil in it too. I would worry I'm cleaning too much but his rash gets gross pretty quickly.

Today the rash went from pretty much gone to extreme within a few hours. I'm calling the dr again in the morning, but can anyone tell me if this is typical eczema behavior?

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parenting,Falentines,2020/01/15,"Baby proofing cables?? So my sweet little 5.5 month old boy is already crawling- we thought we had WAY more time and didnt baby proof (stupid, i know) I bought some dinky plug covers but realized they seem more like a fire hazard because most of our lower plug ins are in use anyway. 


What do you baby proof for early crawlers?? He loves to try and munch on phone chargers so my biggest concern right now is cords... we have SO many cords even in his bedroom (camera, growegg, google home mini, sound monitor) are those cord concealers from amazon really good? 


Everytime I think about baby proofing I always get told I'm doing too much, like our livingroom has two entrances and I wanted to buy a gate for the one that goes into our kitchen but its WIDE (82"") and people were like ""just dont leave your baby unattended"" and its like ok but its RIGHT next to where hes playing and kids are fast... I'm trying my best not to be a bubble wrap mom but this is so hard!!",2.308922305764412,4.6508863862433865,3.0238652186020616,91.10032581453636,79.3174603174603,5.460428849902534,21.058479532163748,6.5966054737557815,0.3680412698412701,753,21,149,7,19,236,136,189,0.043,0.76,0.198,0.9871,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,6,2,1,1,11,11,1,0,4,1,16,2,0,1,4,29,28,14,0,1,6,1,2,4,0,0,0,1,4,2,7,10,1,0,5,1,2,0,3,1,0,2,6,4,19,10,14,21,6,19,0,0,0,1,18,11,0,3,11,88,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19280016415180315,0.0,0.14537523016703938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650343650638393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335053751926647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047623604409344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539630318962756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912803429148002,0.0,0.0,0.14654099354422945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650855046375667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525140616809395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601770768136676,0.0,0.0,0.18499586359505205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414238295669197,0.17510834667487096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768532349253933,0.0,0.0,0.1771315818865132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462177962956132,0.13945426719989076,0.0,0.12843417381489525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580928083837886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18333192656246072,0.0,0.11839006522996096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112401094600772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192563559470717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984079321283001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905217335134375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194904981384814,0.0,0.1387026237335577,0.10187656805928308,0.0,0.0,0.1669457795620997,0.0,0.2372373467761631,0.0,0.17066923557532412,0.0,0.0,0.15089595526806826,0.0,0.0,0.10305026695923997,0.13867906454132714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,potofgold78,2020/01/15,Weighted Blankets I’m wanting to get my 12 year old with anxiety a weighted blanket. My concern is my 20 lb dog sleeps with him in the bed. I don’t want her getting suffocated it’s very concerning.  And she LOVES being under the covers. Anyone have suggestions I haven’t thought of? I considered a twin instead of a full size. I’ve considered somehow partitioning off part of the bed. I’m just not sure what other options I’d have so I’m hoping you all might have some ideas!,1.3683333333333323,3.981259368421053,3.2722368421052654,85.7027412280702,86.89473684210527,6.114035087719299,26.864035087719298,7.492282038375204,1.8536140350877188,380,18,72,7,12,127,70,95,0.040999999999999995,0.856,0.10300000000000001,0.7537,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,8,4,1,0,2,16,18,2,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,10,3,9,15,4,6,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,5,2,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728873992384886,0.0,0.0,0.1580226430154267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361486369188924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244664202931292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25512356616679754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039714850744723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23974753678529304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23714626380100925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447331705691019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261606215417363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129998833336823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941669852361425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647153071890527,0.2665982543390159,0.0,0.0,0.5504079200060419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553492172567895
parenting,mamabean23,2020/01/15,"2 month growth spurt? My LO just turned 2 months old today and just when I thought we were moving past the “peak of fussiness”, she’s suddenly started acting like a wildebeest for the past 2 nights. When evening rolls around she starts screaming and crying and thrashes wildly when I try to nurse her, and then won’t go to sleep 😫 None of the usual methods of soothing seem to work, including white noise, shushing, swaddling, rocking...

Last night she slept between 9-11pm and then was up and fussing and only sleeping in short bursts for pretty much the rest of the night. Needless to say, this morning I was a zombie and hoping it was just a one time thing, but alas, same story tonight (so far).

I have the Wonder Weeks app and it claims that her second leap should be over based on her EDD. Has anyone else experienced  this around 2 months? What could be going on?",7.261757575757578,6.95999941818182,6.006060606060611,84.65575757575763,63.90909090909091,8.06060606060606,31.06060606060606,6.42735559955562,1.5768787878787869,684,21,132,3,9,202,118,165,0.040999999999999995,0.897,0.062,0.3049,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,10,3,0,0,9,0,11,3,3,0,0,23,21,16,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,7,12,0,0,3,1,0,5,2,1,0,2,6,4,12,2,18,10,4,37,0,0,1,0,8,9,0,3,24,83,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091920005692666,0.14788359278150207,0.0,0.25696938428396354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523611270356335,0.0,0.158540211982893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056956321034755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532889493527888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405263120536512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433526939137009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764857277893395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051256296248275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456095425603625,0.15340041721045286,0.10609948086101258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4063330244344668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145051862567804,0.0,0.09780204198692394,0.10976980400678726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755594741458641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146835946023209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477735952349315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313930126316289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888693490355203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431565772520907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588673161285452,0.0,0.0,0.11458224812813883,0.0841602407048611,0.0,0.13680838176246662,0.0,0.0,0.0979908952039201,0.15699007406047993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895958968958787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577317373139474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652020632267907,0.10507427986930652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redditsaidit0,2020/01/15,"misbehaved child So I babysit a child who is a 3 year old boy, don’t get me wrong he can also be very sweet but that is only 10% of the time. He is always hitting me, yelling, constantly over the top hyper and demanding. His mom only speaks Arabic and scarcely speaks English. The boy learned English from YouTube videos. He doesn’t comprehend anything very well even though he is really smart. His mom acts oblivious to his poor behavior. He hits her and yells at her. If you’re not paying attention to what he’s doing he will grab your face to make you look at him. His diet consists of chicken nuggets, chips, cupcakes and kinder eggs and I am not making this up. While at restaurants gets up and runs around and his mom says not one word. He runs around  in circles getting in the way of servers and bugs people at their tables, we have been asked to leave once due to this. His mom gives no discipline and when she does he proceeds to tell her “No” and she accepts it and ignores it. There’s been times where I’ve spent the night but stayed in the room for a few hours to notice that she is on the phone while he runs loose and wild in the home trying to get her attention while she speaks in an entirely different language on the phone. It’s sad because she has become my good friend and I love her but her is son is almost too much for anyone to handle at all. There is so much more he has done and does but what can you even do. He is beyond misbehaved and this past weekend of me babysitting pushed me to the edge. I thought maybe I’m exaggerating but my friend the kids former babysitter whom I met them from expressed the exact same scenarios and emotions and was relieved she doesn’t watch him anymore.
There was a time I took him to the park and he didn’t want to leave so he proceeded to push me and push me towards the park while screaming for the ENTIRE 20 minute walk home. 
-I took his iPad for bedtime so he pulled i kid you not chunks out of my hair and screamed in my ears and hit me for it
- Jumps all over me and gets in my personal space when asked to stop says no and stops at absolutely nothing 

Apart of me calls it ADHD, but also parenting maybe??",3.4700174989904404,4.959143583524028,3.706857585139321,91.37873839009292,73.11899313501144,6.880306905370842,24.98108762955984,7.39963492309942,0.9421353344999328,1714,53,367,19,34,529,226,437,0.10099999999999999,0.8109999999999999,0.08800000000000001,0.13699999999999998,2,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,1,4,2,1,23,14,0,0,20,0,28,6,3,2,3,56,50,43,0,2,11,6,2,0,2,1,0,10,3,7,14,27,2,4,5,2,3,12,11,5,1,1,11,15,51,9,51,34,7,65,0,1,2,1,76,29,0,2,22,230,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127612653571218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939537245423194,0.0,0.0,0.1500660970011926,0.07807119586224218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305071370427627,0.06560569691081279,0.0,0.07721124619429752,0.1670510223147056,0.17543029466463644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05719578666831913,0.10362403958986516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580738568351783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139315503645732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980287621978744,0.0,0.0,0.16421647129311318,0.09601712420177028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055422264878072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239430868345922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498030094787132,0.0,0.2451024676585428,0.09000696476910594,0.0,0.07869724846312239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823133542573375,0.0,0.09240023996465756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869751241444356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787906610611827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846821137331429,0.0,0.1252598853142262,0.0,0.1885227370306975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4395540290263846,0.0,0.0,0.13794660242720422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880498498827589,0.0,0.09002909367943801,0.10682213533500108,0.09845516825675307,0.09992220075058196,0.06357929036529583,0.14271862019449938,0.0,0.0,0.10418326677212156,0.0,0.08956804716802598,0.06504750755215066,0.08192571388029034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06010768277704515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922925779978682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000660543735436,0.0,0.15688637400212216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200852974099297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218409715322916,0.07448779060688035,0.1641330264362872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084894719786039,0.06370206033283315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483344023863124,0.05534132304510876,0.07447513855942442,0.0,0.0,0.08436132573191454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025845901124264,0.0,0.06042121421638073
parenting,Mienya,2020/01/15,"Baby Scared of Running Bath Water? Is this normal? I had my 5 month old in his baby tub and needed to run the faucet real quick. After a couple seconds he FREAKED and wouldn’t calm down until I took him out to dry. I had to run it again to clear out soap residue while I was holding him and he seemed fine that time. Why did this scare him? I thought maybe the noise is what scared him, but no other loud sounds seem to scare him like that.

Not really worried about anything here. Just kinda curious.",1.8537623762376216,4.032353831683172,2.48563366336634,95.23102475247528,79.99009900990097,4.832079207920792,19.01089108910891,5.6839178017228535,-0.3345968316831689,391,9,83,2,10,121,76,101,0.151,0.73,0.12,-0.6639,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,4,3,0,7,1,0,0,1,18,12,6,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,7,5,1,1,3,1,0,4,3,5,0,1,6,2,12,3,13,5,0,16,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,9,54,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660753928589265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971266706935072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870382191970079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898205208319304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220274070381678,0.0,0.0,0.13210071498600665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455544818991467,0.0,0.0,0.18694517521162807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278098935898925,0.11413155334838325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7134625538494731,0.0,0.0,0.3243737953610267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143628326159688,0.10388443094941968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793831831751774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075844273213366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092647457939995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Coleman4T,2020/01/15,"23 y/o with 2 kids. I need advice on being a single dad. My girlfriend and I were together for seven years. A lot happened in seven years. They were great. We have two kids together (5 and 3). Recently we broke up. She doesn't want to be together anymore. We're not getting back together. We're not even speaking to each other anymore. Our families are communicating for us, because she doesn't want to talk directly. I've moved out. I'm living with my mom and younger brothers for the time being. 

The kids are with me half the time, with her half the time. I can manage taking care of them by myself just fine. There's nothing I do for them now that I haven't done their entire lives. The part that I need help with is the emotional side of things. 

I don't have anyone I can turn to in my life for advice, because I am the problem solver. I don't want to appear weak in front of people I need to give strength to. I am hoping someone who has been in my shoes can answer some questions for me, or tell me how they moved forward. 

How do I move forward in my life? Every time I see my kids, I see their mother in them and it breaks me. I've been going as hard as I can at work every day, because it's distracting me, but that only eats up 9 hours of my day. 

How do I talk to my kids about what happened? I can't figure out what to tell my son, aside from telling him that his mom and I aren't together anymore and I will explain it better when he is older.

What can I do to get my ex's sister and my ex's mom to stop running their mouths and gossiping about us when I'm not around? My mom and sister respected me when I told them to stop badmouthing my ex in front of the kids. Her family is a different story.

This is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through and my life has never been easy. Everything is going to be fine, but I am more depressed than I have ever been and I am doing my best to not let that show.",2.172372542997543,3.3986678181818206,3.8086417383292392,90.40998963452093,75.97788697788698,6.6599815724815725,23.03816031941032,7.1686216300943375,0.6672015356265355,1490,42,334,16,32,498,187,407,0.073,0.851,0.076,0.6005,1,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,5,0,9,4,16,15,0,1,12,0,48,7,2,3,3,53,73,22,0,8,8,13,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,6,16,22,1,2,4,1,0,12,12,6,0,5,9,4,68,9,53,58,7,49,0,2,2,0,54,17,0,6,23,241,84,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16410924581529004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24982736692767504,0.05871385563924029,0.0,0.0,0.07475120355711512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456783398117759,0.0,0.15356220510156615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881214533903117,0.07426474147710614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561312684955406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083075528409765,0.0,0.07232333556423275,0.0,0.0,0.08773089629706833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593057973214817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592238909327474,0.0,0.09445507542238746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055461467910179946,0.15191154976439938,0.14149688415525158,0.0,0.07546692343237027,0.0,0.15831909938825384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774183694741551,0.08055178414099713,0.14316645148390011,0.0,0.0,0.09257734638138268,0.0,0.0,0.14850898779552565,0.0,0.07522072812809694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562833969477423,0.0,0.0,0.08340126924507406,0.08269364713389571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586513002407607,0.17793172299822252,0.0,0.0,0.1482942969395797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713883875492686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933791274405021,0.0,0.2677408247195745,0.0,0.18678832514719326,0.06476292798954443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057158842184266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638630550219056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093144990319547,0.0,0.05821430375629327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034805804053789,0.0,0.0,0.09406574438724807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291035667851107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382661734564932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114760452697756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040554934500338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313507501087733,0.13498399271859068,0.22018074053590686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157202424236433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19585459339834607,0.0,0.0,0.08023704174221433,0.0,0.0,0.09133537067258997,0.0820265993838752,0.0,0.20201141472529774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858324528915468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06113124257984207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814799982601817
parenting,misslou512,2020/01/15,"10/old refuses to do anything asked of him My husband and I are getting increasingly frustrated with my 10 year old son, who flat out refuses to do anything asked of him. We have been telling him this past week to clean his messy room, then grounded him this weekend from all electronics til it got clean, yet he still didn’t clean it, and even lied one day about it being clean and brought in the vacuum, pretending it was spotless enough to vacuum. Today I kept him home from TaekwonDo due to this behavior, and told him I was going to have his Master hold onto his belt because he is being constantly disrespectful, and that he cannot go back until his room is clean. He threw a huge dramatic tantrum, cried, acted as though I was being unfair, and still hasn’t cleaned his fucking room. He has other chores to do on top of this, such as clean the bathroom and cat litter, but he hasn’t had to do any of that because we have been focused solely on his dirty room. I am at my wits end. This is ridiculous. What do I do? I already told him I was coming in with a trash bag tomorrow and he still won’t pick up. What. The. Fuck.",5.7289128205128215,5.590989973333336,6.001777777777778,82.85969230769233,67.04444444444444,9.411965811965812,30.64102564102564,9.057496981413335,2.292579487179488,884,30,183,14,13,283,126,225,0.10099999999999999,0.8190000000000001,0.081,-0.8225,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,2,9,5,5,0,5,0,30,2,0,1,1,21,44,15,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,15,0,15,14,0,4,0,2,0,7,5,5,0,1,14,0,26,0,29,26,3,41,0,0,0,2,32,15,2,0,19,126,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717863038590441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586130042548493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25620716889329304,0.0,0.2910618682480365,0.0,0.0,0.1197010306997766,0.0,0.1897906237394349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409637993472484,0.0,0.1682245429097093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099677047730616,0.10039461530810173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787788653549046,0.1608492736650753,0.0,0.1028189187034898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878297981321182,0.0813314282864056,0.0,0.1769423023570129,0.0,0.12450394579687472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561502369262136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32670007499294224,0.0,0.10548638176196236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860513797739805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729560655746903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606290706128393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529455080233989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475574629490999,0.2974997302726272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248695114531116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002467192183294
parenting,LuluMac666,2020/01/15,What are some funny stories you tell your kids? I like to tell my son silly bed time stories. Tonight's one was about how Indiana Jones grew in a tiny peach and was almost eaten by a family in a pie. He then went on to save the world from Godzilla.,2.641923076923078,3.859618576923076,3.77615384615385,91.14384615384618,74.76923076923076,6.7384615384615385,22.615384615384606,7.1686216300943375,0.5859076923076927,194,5,43,2,4,63,45,52,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.8271,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,1,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,4,3,8,1,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,4,25,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827534009369895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603373867705736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18674084147320447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590125057311176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6681809330521815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288445501796905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543359171522815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wittyish,2020/01/15,Recommendations for affirmations for toddlers? I am looking for nightly affirmations that are good for toddlers. I want to build their sense of worth in ways they understand. And ideas?,6.1839999999999975,10.045470400000003,5.428333333333337,69.5025,78.33333333333334,8.333333333333334,34.16666666666667,8.841846274778883,4.0196666666666685,152,8,22,4,4,46,24,30,0.0,0.795,0.205,0.6662,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,7,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536366296655193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4759600522956554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35405639169013225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956637971870759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389234951497034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24868364962053102,0.3346640131435984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,5683968,2020/01/15,"Babysitting advice A couple days a week I babysit two kids after school (5+10). I get along with the kids really well, and I genuinely enjoy my time with them. But whenever I pick them up from school, the 5 year old is always upset to see me. He gets out first, and as soon as he sees me, his face drops. He sometimes cries and says he wants his mom. Today he told me that his mom had found them a new babysitter! After texting with his mom, I found out this was not true. I don’t know what’s going on and how I can make it better? He is not like this as soon as his sister joins us and we go home. He often says he doesn’t want me to leave at the end of the night. Is there anything I can do to cheer him up during pick up? Today was pretty embarrassing for me and I don’t want to repeat that.",1.4169269102990043,2.64388896511628,3.0595681063122946,95.00918604651164,77.95348837209302,5.84451827242525,17.518272425249172,6.1826913282559595,-0.4868750830564776,610,9,147,4,14,202,103,172,0.079,0.815,0.106,0.6911,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,3,2,6,8,0,2,7,0,12,1,1,4,1,28,26,12,0,3,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,6,13,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,2,1,2,6,4,26,6,24,20,0,26,0,0,2,0,28,7,0,1,17,92,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958720263520884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103440551381074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912862180795684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728480080003525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673298521451553,0.1456683821643715,0.08552396135391628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745513445549655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127999527828992,0.0,0.29080507947973233,0.0,0.0,0.13856890448314796,0.0,0.15073324980839822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302094726194608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288025077211256,0.0,0.0,0.14041727568994392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478767021023389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851973854796946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4659417613569748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807778359662134,0.0,0.12444765810310968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915429877524094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491438186725654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849548337171283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21091724379288387,0.0,0.2684214504583631,0.21134966398510424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115695343424907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732729730022082,0.0,0.25140190477371865,0.12671673354468962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954294565218186,0.0,0.1595162661590476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23465450736583285,0.0,0.10637358626281336,0.0,0.1192343818392597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539797193279776
parenting,KM-Illustrations,2020/01/16,"3 Year keeps having accidents Hi, I am a mother to a 3 year old little girl, we live in North Wales, and we recently travelled to the South of England for the Christmas holidays, to see friends and family.
However, since we've gotten home, my daughter has started having accidents, (wetting herself), and it only seems to have gotten worse. It started off with her wetting herself once a day, but today, she's wet herself three times, when she was so good at using the toilet and telling me and her dad when she needed to go before.
At first we thought it was because she started playing video games, and was forgetting to go, as she was maybe getting too engrossed in the game she was playing, so we stopped her from playing them for a while, but it doesn't seem to have helped.
I feel frustrated, even though I know that this isn't her fault, but I'm not sure what to do to help her go back to using the toilet normally; should I go back to using the rewards chart like when we first started toilet training her?

We never tell her off, but we have tried explaining to her that she needs to tell me and/or daddy when she needs to go, as soon as feels the need to go, but she still leaves it until she's partially wet herself before telling either of us.
I'm very confused as to why she's had this huge step backwards, and I'm not sure how to remedy it.

Any advice is appreciated, thank you.",11.040109090909093,6.493029974545458,10.110272727272726,71.55740909090913,60.16363636363637,12.89090909090909,42.04545454545455,9.642632912329526,3.9558363636363634,1093,40,216,13,10,349,146,275,0.071,0.787,0.14300000000000002,0.97,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,8,1,1,3,14,13,1,1,11,0,18,0,0,4,3,47,51,26,0,6,8,3,6,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,11,15,0,2,7,8,0,8,5,3,0,3,9,7,40,10,34,41,1,44,0,0,1,0,48,11,0,3,26,148,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059866294770736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000752222287976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831984933370113,0.0,0.06275556438344138,0.0,0.17520070932311071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639232877350326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799555368331907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704931393974907,0.0,0.10410624043829762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751334113209889,0.0,0.0,0.07953663320714867,0.0,0.0537855831195549,0.0,0.3510430756462912,0.0863470988058411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380064712617287,0.0,0.10326428201601948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150406558077837,0.0,0.0,0.056577004780378914,0.0,0.0,0.1090060584835095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029472714982214,0.10317998633944683,0.09090412865392672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342414582109123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053357239067236,0.07939910919656197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008662484161725,0.0,0.0,0.10802560835904317,0.10963524531801992,0.0,0.0782958682802136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164778937273787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203546792811145,0.18743825049210006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515886117464554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291465799170946,0.0,0.08221364478468816,0.08606834102719216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194052747099854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599210269103899,0.0947798095844486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114495107090203,0.08172845608922465,0.06002925103384025,0.0,0.09758176335489267,0.0,0.0,0.06989428734947868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383262210840258,0.26673958550037585,0.0,0.08494209533258529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928936976059009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491183599251884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258904614322065
parenting,thebrazilianmafia,2020/01/16,"What was the most beneficial contribution your parents have made towards your success later in life? Hi, I am a first time mom, expecting my baby to come in september. Since I had a pretty toxic relationship with my parents and have learned more about what not to do/be in life than the opposite, I wanted to hear from others how does a healthy, positive relationship with your own child looks like and what are things that bring great results in the long run. 

Note: When I say ""success"" I don't mean financial. I mean happiness, maturity, self worth, positive thinking, decision making, etc.",7.0698247978436655,8.371826764150946,7.125148247978437,70.94990566037738,64.37735849056604,10.962803234501347,35.89757412398922,10.914260884657429,4.284810242587602,471,22,79,13,7,151,77,106,0.0,0.726,0.27399999999999997,0.985,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,0,3,3,5,0,0,6,0,7,2,0,4,0,18,17,4,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,6,5,0,0,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,3,3,11,5,13,14,4,13,0,0,1,0,13,5,0,1,6,53,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504135981327278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528049722834774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473959997635287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852568902629842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925113976460508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587873589073128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19680148905126502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466685859183814,0.0853070690278019,0.0,0.0,0.15452696907776636,0.14663090352442365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522299854433722,0.11655550233756964,0.0,0.0,0.3804093917552501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204504580732896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3877740415722549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764414817582513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749379299209365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885922905552425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215939214643365,0.0,0.0,0.14444163951648312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160050874466198,0.11188493002589264,0.0,0.0,0.10181821737249784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299124402624348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EI-SANDPIPER,2020/01/16,"Daycare incidents Our 8 month old just got moved to a higher class in daycare.  Of the 11 days she’s been there, there have been 4 incidents.  Most of these are little red bumps from falling on a toy.  Or just minor scratches.  She also cannot crawl yet.  Is this normal?  It seems excessive to me, especially considering how expensive this place is.",2.4145000000000003,5.253058815384616,3.554134615384616,84.05274038461542,83.92307692307692,6.9423076923076925,23.509615384615394,8.07648339933343,1.749653846153846,273,10,50,6,8,88,54,65,0.027000000000000003,0.973,0.0,-0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,0,7,9,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,7,6,1,10,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,3,4,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751409204206384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218872227041715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751724747766414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34483382388374945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746216792551411,0.36567636293274014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371011702572728,0.0,0.0,0.361028188986838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35946458790894914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132150475705202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mayamoo18,2020/01/16,"Parents of older children with a ~4 year age gap- is it hard to find common activities for your two kids through the various stages? We’re trying to decide between a 3 year and 4 year age gap.

I’m leaning towards 3 because I feel like they’re more likely to play with each other and it’ll be easier to find common activities for them as they age. 

The advantage of a 4 year gap in our case is for me to be able to give my body another break year before getting pregnant and to maybe travel a little more since it’s easier to travel with one child.",8.001415929203539,5.5248489646017696,8.678867256637169,73.09246017699118,63.778761061946895,11.517876106194693,34.98938053097345,9.888512548439397,3.1916846017699108,435,14,87,7,5,148,73,113,0.013000000000000001,0.868,0.11900000000000001,0.885,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,6,0,5,1,1,0,0,11,9,4,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,7,4,21,6,4,18,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,13,51,11,0,0.190141336487454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19937977003563198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590839389467256,0.0,0.16179627277965644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21120416054160324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096141172835979,0.13583700877867255,0.0,0.0,0.3475714736975637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934100052044104,0.1824008958250778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032928992812338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857869051957679,0.19057157108183287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910225292343027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884469050036482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21112945245922435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572868784087775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290934862698552,0.0,0.18574045713146145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6122239333466328
parenting,Stormelan,2020/01/16,"Need help getting younger child to understand... My daughter (14) is having a 3 day school field trip that's 2 hours away and she really wants me to go with her, (I also have to drive the kids to the choir). (Shes in an honor choir and this function is for that honor choir.)
But, I have another daughter, 9, who will be very upset if I leave for 3 days. She will have her father and grandmother but she is a momma's girl! But i feel that she will be much happier, and less bored, at home with all of her toys instead of stuck in a hotel room with me doing nothing. 
Any tips to help her understand and cope better? Thanks 💗",2.55890625,3.8452583281250017,3.7832500000000016,90.73675000000004,75.09375,6.995000000000001,22.175,7.554174236665415,0.6801599999999999,478,12,106,6,10,156,82,128,0.059000000000000004,0.7759999999999999,0.166,0.946,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,3,2,6,0,1,6,0,14,0,0,0,1,18,23,10,0,3,4,4,1,0,0,3,0,3,2,3,5,8,0,0,3,5,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,4,16,4,16,17,3,11,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,1,3,70,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747884098206195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863344520166613,0.229187158412104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053514304120417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330525734168091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819160069442484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051433254611104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419253627901325,0.0,0.12421698909579232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930024750547683,0.0,0.2192410974559709,0.0,0.21524503313147136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23143150201312546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067231546787422,0.16206508653069074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20972148188401932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001998453412787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22120205347556665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122765649732496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4550731051001773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034113865273116,0.1289168179318596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Forensix78,2020/01/16,"Letting your infant “cry it down”? Advice? My girlfriend and I have a 9-month old daughter together. My girlfriend works in the evenings the latter half of the week, and when she leaves, my daughter cries MANIACALLY.

I can only calm her by holding her, but I can’t manage to hold her wherever I go and no matter what I’m doing for 5 hours straight. I eventually end up putting my daughter down in her swing and letting her cry it out until she falls asleep.

When I do this, I always get extreme anxiety that her crying will harm her, or that she will get too worked up, or that she will flail around and hurt herself, etc. Nothing negative ever happens, but I’m sure you all relate to the feeling.

Just wanted to see others’ experiences with letting their infant “cry it down”, how you manage the anxiety, whether or not it is harmful to the infant, and etc.

TLDR: I let my infant daughter maniacally cry herself to sleep when all else fails, and I feel anxious and worried that it will harm her.",5.872035087719297,6.530754536842108,6.297631578947371,78.11258771929826,66.78947368421052,8.228070175438598,33.20175438596491,8.07648339933343,2.497701754385965,782,33,142,9,12,253,109,190,0.253,0.685,0.062,-0.9927,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,3,1,3,9,9,2,0,7,0,14,2,2,1,4,30,24,19,0,1,8,4,2,0,2,4,0,0,0,4,12,11,0,2,2,0,0,3,4,7,0,1,0,3,32,2,19,16,4,22,0,2,1,0,28,10,0,3,9,114,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173227364632144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662546443073492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592833250591929,0.11761141369552028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926774095863378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6861407028445138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696814077231342,0.0,0.0922080084808121,0.0,0.23221391854104345,0.06876177149233376,0.09417085109307582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183674082385097,0.0,0.0,0.10527937678519607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878334760750866,0.0,0.05916647595316226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206158318683226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252454329729203,0.0,0.11144882611088633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023440914434177,0.0,0.4258263383462538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309731065710314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989359028162682,0.0,0.10924291067471867,0.0,0.0,0.07917815668583453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465641107742656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295989655752037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041823058108732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811972938469683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06140507722531765,0.0,0.08350845273581724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158244784018682,0.10572583474697644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SAOReckless,2020/01/16,"RSV Advice needed.. Hey all, new here. But honestly scouring for advice through the horrible mess that is RSV. 

My little one is 3 months old tomorrow and tested positive for RSV two days ago. We are doing all the common methods of potential relief (humidifier, nasal drops and suction (especially before feeding), etc). He can manage through most of the day time but at night when his coughing gets worse, he has coughing fits and can barely catch his breath and it is truly heartbreaking. 

My dire question is: Is there anything more that can be done for him at home? Also, when/under what circumstances should admitting him to the hospital be considered?

Thanks so much in advance.",5.8827500000000015,8.339915108333336,5.8066666666666675,74.80500000000002,68.75,8.8,31.16666666666667,9.3871,3.236066666666668,543,23,85,12,10,170,90,120,0.11900000000000001,0.779,0.10099999999999999,-0.5362,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,4,0,15,5,2,0,2,14,19,9,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,5,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,1,7,3,11,15,6,19,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,2,11,60,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127450526782471,0.1872072855603972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888865063123712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379146181442326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17970722443006787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724002927483801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161208010067725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355327926073312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033811328859644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21184089465800734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116679667957076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16856992690355985,0.0,0.15524902698648255,0.15659478684366485,0.0,0.20396871937390526,0.0,0.19818760708974745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22160848915024814,0.0,0.14310788076005054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23658125067512745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19443547435666492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231466485448094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063020454180936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522075942407276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,3amvomitsesh,2020/01/16,"Thoughts on starting school at 2 vs 3 I'm debating signing my daughter up for a one day a week mommy and me 3 hour preschool class when she is 2 this fall.  She is super shy so I'm hoping this will help her easily transition to solo pre-k at the same preschool next year.  I can see a lot of pros to it but we also already do gym class and story time weekly, and see thinking about starting swimming, so I'm worried about over structuring her life.  Also, part of me feels like she is going to be in school for 15-25 years anyway, so we should just enjoy our first two years doing whatever we want.  I think I'm over thinking it bc it is only one day a week and I'll still be with her so it's really like any other class we go to but it does mean an official start to school.",1.2125502008032143,2.884382463855424,3.156120481927712,92.14570682730923,79.78313253012048,6.113413654618473,21.30763052208836,7.0316486544052195,0.4405273895582327,603,17,136,7,15,203,105,166,0.028999999999999998,0.847,0.124,0.927,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,5,0,0,2,12,5,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,0,0,25,30,13,0,3,4,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,9,0,0,6,2,0,4,0,0,0,4,1,3,16,5,19,25,3,28,0,0,2,0,13,7,0,2,19,83,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048585911576368,0.21810743157843607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927351504967045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758926013989199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933685719943207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895193236489396,0.0974215725237274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599484412651648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550025455228656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140482676440799,0.0,0.0,0.13544453570127907,0.13429534997343512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096320994577055,0.13324536973557205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159354898743912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854510485758518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502928138914728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481343888145604,0.10371427094819824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476736280426555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736105336656105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140361348296352,0.21733582971730125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895666482600455,0.0,0.10890393603301912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26213798643603703,0.0,0.108261233002481,0.079517478294758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321205743352635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043358273937957,0.0,0.3281593809214126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848867326730915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634502284446145
parenting,rackopacko,2020/01/16,"Lack of ambition in 4yr old Hello

We have a problem with almost 4yrs old son, who avoids any progress.

He gets frustrated any time he needs to do basic things, like dressing, washing hands, anything that takes some effort from him...he comments it by saying ""i don't know how to do that"". always refusing to do what he is told to..He was born prematurely (5 weeks) and has the same problem since birth (when he was a baby, he wouldn't want to invest energy in anything,,,not even turning around on his stomach, wouldn't want to learn to sit, walk..everything took him a lot of time..we are encouraging him in everything, not forcing him more than necessary...otherwise he is a healthy and happy, emotional boy, very extroverted...he doesn't have any cognitive problems.

His 2,5yrs older brother is very calm, capable, smart and confident...quite different..we as a family get along nice and spend a lot of time together..communicate a lot.

Perhaps we should be more persistent in the upbringing...we just don't want to be too hard on him..it doesn't meen we are very permissive.

When he was 5 months old his physiotherapist told us he uses all his energy to avoid progress...always searching ways to do nothing if possible.

How can we help our little one?    


Thank you in advance",4.4479113924050635,6.6111150042194105,5.063567510548527,79.8654778481013,71.9535864978903,8.959409282700422,29.149578059071732,9.516144504307137,2.866277805907173,1004,41,183,25,20,322,145,237,0.10300000000000001,0.747,0.15,0.9272,1,2,0,0,0,0,58.0,6,1,0,4,8,13,1,2,9,0,25,3,2,3,1,40,39,10,0,12,3,2,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,6,11,0,3,2,0,2,2,7,6,0,1,6,3,15,7,26,28,9,25,0,0,0,0,34,9,0,6,13,104,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570629795984112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922931548381319,0.0,0.0,0.2357332028384853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508752847774536,0.102863699425429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997782008996006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631946367855913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076971756736432,0.0,0.1089299401068163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073986121036673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230047665799687,0.10350980319425228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774505044838653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635030737669702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05645172947353407,0.11581111989267433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947085781858977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223063985761026,0.0,0.0,0.08567861215968943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087301955374236,0.0,0.36374980628482506,0.0,0.0782994431664983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026488515493162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316962710326339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290129156746107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918897310959218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558387659574637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687896742904877,0.0,0.0,0.10638260655587004,0.0,0.0,0.0767660627509779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20213381592268165,0.0,0.0,0.22082531255167026,0.1283799289690765,0.0,0.12568485413879568,0.0,0.0,0.1389920192317146,0.0997978103197847,0.0,0.28602172384867197,0.20446255786905812,0.09171794534740098,0.09268697107570062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Baegelbites,2020/01/16,"Visitor Advice for New Mom Hi all!

My SO and I are expecting our first child this coming April and was hoping for some advice from anyone out there that has international family (in-laws in my case).

This will be the first grandchild on their side of the family, and with that comes with much excitement! We are all excited to share our new little one with them, but I am struggling with having a newborn and having visitors that are anxiously wanting to come and visit (and stay with us).

Does anyone have any advice as to how I can best approach the time spent while visiting? I struggle because while they would be coming internationally, I also want to take that time with my SO to get a grasp on being full time parents and spending time with our new little one. I'm afraid we'll struggle with how much time is actually spent at our home and I don't want to feel obligated for an extended stay.

Thanks all!",6.832857142857144,6.867877000000004,7.080714285714286,75.46678571428573,64.71428571428571,10.2,30.07142857142857,9.888512548439397,2.688257142857144,725,22,136,14,10,235,105,175,0.065,0.8220000000000001,0.113,0.7767,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,7,0,3,3,6,10,0,4,6,0,18,0,0,2,3,37,33,17,0,6,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,6,22,0,0,2,0,3,7,1,4,0,4,3,1,19,6,25,24,8,31,0,0,0,0,18,9,0,2,13,102,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.10562670451794506,0.0,0.0,0.3173128611298177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655955308070558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736069662897295,0.0,0.0,0.12228048138388582,0.0,0.15136796165500466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598214828056381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135912863543343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729569796614308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472162365567106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20407822910406773,0.0,0.05472943683177416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413791395542814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056550974493147374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857362586105253,0.10750682260278856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21696999222692964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676947381074674,0.0,0.0,0.15913782651394842,0.0,0.0,0.3136168320155362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669255932376732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201877997827997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23073904752002866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394680999974945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813830697140023,0.0,0.0,0.09965292339327292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155783062267499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019948930749425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915284112296796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689064745961542,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CurlyPinkLemon,2020/01/16,"Maternity leave has not been all that it’s cracked up to be so far. I hate that I’m saying this because I know many women and men don’t get the opportunity to take leave once their child is born but I’m not loving it.

I adore my soon-to-be month old dearly and I love the time with him but I feel so alone. Every day just runs into each other and I lose track of time. 

My husband is amazing and has been very helpful when he’s home. He tries to give me time to myself but that’s pretty much an hour for me to workout and take a shower (I’ll take it) then next thing you know, it’s bedtime again. 

Nights are worse. My husband goes to bed at 9 and that leaves me with the little guy all night then all day by myself. I used to cry after my husband went to bed but that’s getting better. 

Most of my friends don’t live close and even if they did, their at work during the day. Also, I live in a state that has horrible winters so that plays a huge role in us not getting out much. Right now it’s 3 degrees out..... 3 DEGREES. It doesn’t help that lots of people have been sick so that’s been another reason we don’t get to see many people. 

Anyway, I just needed to get this off my chest as I feel I don’t have many people to talk to about it. 

Thanks for listening",1.3607166746297177,2.7490384432234483,2.913855709507885,95.31266602962255,78.48717948717949,5.4804268195572545,19.19557254339863,5.7926816847441245,-0.37670906195254,977,20,233,5,23,321,148,273,0.124,0.7190000000000001,0.157,0.9158,1,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,3,4,13,12,1,0,8,0,19,4,1,2,3,37,43,21,0,2,10,3,2,0,1,0,1,2,4,4,20,15,0,0,5,2,0,2,8,2,0,0,6,5,29,10,32,36,8,37,0,1,1,2,26,14,0,3,20,145,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944201715568462,0.0,0.08450407980321133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080397117980388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441531322012964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345632762232893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116073284474249,0.20444478646840816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979388889446159,0.0,0.08903134179244708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685962514859504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164020498977292,0.0,0.2760404768415736,0.10136807561048132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104629689282663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432702458960674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165644369656422,0.0,0.10599539874855836,0.0,0.10406344148135266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614668817946268,0.0,0.0,0.33566709832473896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590887363380752,0.18661669216987264,0.0,0.0,0.11821744742290245,0.0,0.08983666276265086,0.19074219266869466,0.0,0.0,0.3213976948353079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434460517174171,0.0,0.15535888429213549,0.07835279821790705,0.0,0.0,0.11238100306457034,0.19832784859045954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088265186694556,0.11253486023925277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21977434793189488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750414876218588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864612657882013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024140931951737,0.0,0.0840328452734195,0.0,0.0,0.08420512848010525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383515570371625,0.08493336135269236,0.0,0.09728653038673704,0.0,0.0,0.07020230222100234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848506843515012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174283995607529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710772691397276,0.0912647567166592,0.0,0.08718862988771585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795693882529924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692885373152457,0.0,0.1076865269614261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,medusaxoxo92,2020/01/16,"My 7 year old daughter says she wants to die. Ok backstory is needed.... I was in a domestically violent relationship with her dad until she was 5. He assaulted me in front of her many, many times. Even before he and I split she was showing signs of mood instability and age inappropriate anger. Her dad has borderline personality disorder and probably other shit as well, possibly bipolar? He struggles with mood instability and explosive rage as well. Her outbursts remind me very much of his own. Lately when she gets angry she says she ""wishes she was dead."" Today she said she ""wants to stab herself in the heart and die."" One time a few weeks ago she actually grabbed a kitchen knife but put it down when I screamed at her to put it down. Her dad is the same way, he has threatened suicide regularly the entire time I've known him and even made a few attempts which required hospitalization.

I'm fucking scared. I've been trying so hard. I've taken her to a therapist and a psychiatrist. I've gone to a therapist myself and a social worker who specializes in parent education. The psychiatrist wanted to wait and monitor her symptoms before trying medication. The therapist was strongly against medicating her as well. I'm trying all the parenting skills they give me but I'm doing this completely alone. And she gets SO ANGRY. I mean she literally physically attacks me. Its hard to remain calm when it's happening but I try my hardest and usually I am able to. Sometimes I lose my cool and yell at her but I always apologize immediately and I absolutely never hit her even if she attacks me. I've tried teaching her coping skills, working on our relationship outside of the outbursts, making her home life as peaceful as possible, etc etc EVERYTHING they suggest. I'm just so lost about how to help my baby. PLEASE if anyone can suggest something I haven't tried I will be willing to hear it. I feel like I'm failing my child.

Edit- her father is no longer involved in parenting due to his own choice, I think that's probably a good thing because it's not exposing her to more violence and mental illness? But possibly that causes her to feel abandoned so that could be behind some of the anger.",4.493515815085157,6.843758248175185,5.801672749391727,73.80182785888077,72.35766423357664,8.848905109489051,30.638077858880767,9.444778638647367,3.1956428223844284,1764,79,302,44,36,590,223,411,0.205,0.7090000000000001,0.086,-0.9959,3,1,1,0,0,1,44.0,1,0,2,10,16,28,9,2,17,2,20,10,2,4,2,48,48,35,4,8,9,8,5,1,0,2,6,6,2,2,14,16,1,3,5,1,0,4,4,16,3,1,11,12,60,10,39,31,11,32,0,4,0,1,64,10,2,3,18,201,74,6,0.07836169419394233,0.0,0.0764697097230038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946291382885507,0.0,0.0,0.08115908253446262,0.0,0.0,0.06520320699379968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054792318580546416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829547961417447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776856145367765,0.0,0.1333600602951025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049904565928644,0.0,0.0,0.08216074546872673,0.0,0.0,0.06256543646477332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162654133714649,0.0,0.08980929048506177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478800600924566,0.15527147990507875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042643795030523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924405417984469,0.05598160998955925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724441235787819,0.08188150191335918,0.07517167746577286,0.0,0.06572607124447963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929498738223393,0.0,0.14039337238485894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883193245110342,0.09285898491666887,0.05252419182457821,0.0,0.07860316849853216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883954042459177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055349182039797724,0.03828356558109692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766669165792589,0.08554104596197262,0.0,0.0,0.07414772975280827,0.05230703936298418,0.1588929171168267,0.0,0.08535885749503963,0.0,0.15788232566409532,0.07897015688032076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760486164464181,0.05810420332738645,0.06043736940758025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222741620074472,0.0,0.05309991200240105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610341637632678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842240881870312,0.0,0.08601760864982658,0.0,0.2650231084282854,0.0,0.0,0.1689743199946934,0.0,0.0,0.1575502926201567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826226703780994,0.0,0.0,0.07453991582584882,0.12463272886225192,0.07845372619621611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043715300227786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798798789098794,0.0,0.0603266605964926,0.07750171926114123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192065691941196,0.0,0.0857149748305467,0.0,0.0,0.08144780442433107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27295190005865816,0.05206002765792112,0.050211009532946674,0.0,0.0,0.13708000215761867,0.0,0.0742777235034533,0.0,0.0,0.3192146793659179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630433529786027,0.06465660441051455,0.1386592725512273,0.06219986541451961,0.06285702437785166,0.0,0.21136972182449956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011208105550053,0.0,0.0,0.05704824665646351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050462361871835164
parenting,MadMax777g,2020/01/16,"Thoughts on why are men portrayed as losers or do nothing parent in most new movies, tv shows etc. My son and I are pretty close and we usually watch a lot of different movies together . Recently my son asked me why most new movies and shows depict fathers as lazy or do nothing parent. I did not know what to tell him . It does make my life easier because I tell my son you see I am a better dad then others because at least I do something. It really sets the bar low for the fathers and my son is now learning that a typical father is a lazy pice of shit .",4.6852255639097775,4.818706745614037,5.666691729323308,83.44184210526316,69.26315789473685,8.970426065162908,29.44360902255639,8.841846274778883,2.1324451127819555,435,15,91,7,7,144,76,114,0.11699999999999999,0.8079999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.6369,3,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,2,1,4,1,0,6,0,9,3,1,1,0,16,14,9,0,0,3,10,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,6,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,14,1,9,12,5,12,0,2,2,0,17,5,1,5,6,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16172201757156213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090583092904805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299533175758234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807374174795693,0.0,0.0,0.1513844521938107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929292432197228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507061502765336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218774099641593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706965673752734,0.0,0.0,0.1154719680117065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341490603808065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319765653432001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841691797142079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759927157811558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082163145012038,0.0,0.1708064590796253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785039381780176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757144108226325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317592254286306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024012451930137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733449863287567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905237147074798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31219259477831623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Apptubrutae,2020/01/16,"Redoing a Back Yard with New Child in Mind? I'm a soon-to-be first-time father, and I also happen to have a backyard that is in need of a redo.  I don't want to set things up just for the kid, but I'm looking to not make any obvious dumb choices seeing as I will soon have a child, and then also look for possible ways to make things kid-friendly without making the whole backyard for a child, if that makes sense.

I don't have a ton of room to work with (although it's a decent size for my city).  The yard as it is now is roughly 45 feet wide and 30 feet deep.  Plus we have a covered porch (excluded from those dimensions) that is 45 feet wide and 13 feet deep.  And overhanging everything, right smack in the middle of the yard, is a huge tree. Other than that, things are pretty rough.  And fenced in.

So, given that I'm just brainstorming ideas, does anyone have any ideas or tips?",5.371318681318684,4.671422835164839,5.7717362637362655,86.09826373626377,67.90109890109889,9.038241758241758,27.540659340659342,8.238735603445708,1.4990839560439562,684,17,152,8,10,220,106,182,0.033,0.9209999999999999,0.046,0.4676,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,1,8,1,1,0,15,0,14,4,4,4,1,28,28,17,0,3,7,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,7,4,12,10,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,5,6,0,25,26,2,20,0,0,3,0,6,13,1,2,5,94,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593218814327905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051750852982854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336999559258333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467338372131255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188722552584782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571832634332416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791369233823708,0.0,0.0,0.12526668302766408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433772583024289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660659892781363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27230857434183586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4329109609278711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637122009401529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202225685239596,0.0,0.15659297372494652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278516291341929,0.0,0.16495166969311942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384641552359374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920223730381905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231499556339503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563263321843707,0.12869684383838026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102022664939488,0.0,0.1562943308199724,0.0,0.11803770381609895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,valvel92,2020/01/16,"Trying to do better for my daughter. When I was a young girl I was sexually molested several times. I always asked myself... why didn’t I tell my mom? She openly talked to me about what to do if someone were to touch me inappropriately and told me I could trust her. I never to this day have told her. When I think about it, I can remember thinking that I didn’t want her to over react. I hated confrontation and didn’t want to be the center of it. I never came to my mom when I was in trouble I always figured it out on my own. We didn’t have a “best friend” type of relationship. 

I have a 9 year old daughter. I reflect a lot on what I can do differently to foster a relationship with her that would allow her to come to me if she were in trouble.  I have made it a point to always tell her that she won’t be in trouble if she tells me the truth, and I always ask for her opinion on what consequences/actions should be out of something that she confessed. She always pops into the car after school and tells me about her day for the whole 30 minute ride home. She even tells me about things that might get her in trouble. I don’t know if that’s how she is naturally or if I’m doing something right? 

People that feel like they are best friends with their parents/can tell them anything. How would you describe your relationship? What would happen when you told them something that was difficult? 

Is there anything else I can be doing to support my daughter in the difficult years to come? I really want to help guide her and be there for her. 

Thanks and sorry if this is difficult to read. English is my second language.",3.4965644171779147,4.9085462269938684,4.517072392638037,85.9030809815951,72.92638036809821,7.179190184049081,25.309938650306748,7.699297019823105,1.2183554846625766,1274,40,262,16,25,415,146,326,0.087,0.789,0.124,0.9006,2,0,3,0,0,0,29.0,1,3,4,3,13,20,3,0,11,0,40,0,0,5,3,50,62,19,0,14,7,5,2,1,2,6,0,0,1,1,19,16,0,0,8,1,0,5,8,10,0,1,15,2,62,10,42,35,5,35,1,0,0,0,52,16,0,10,15,204,81,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594712623946741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422046829640198,0.0,0.16155036127957015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813493236971982,0.07641646910751676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882206192088913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14885713992790214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898579829180647,0.0,0.0,0.11144562818325623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027278885399972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217865452609154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057068394300171535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368797411453937,0.06172635041017777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335095517072673,0.0,0.04514202324797629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764059246174298,0.0,0.0,0.08530511581674917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791413769950483,0.0,0.08666929591691871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474848522032323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04221216189478181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734567764364443,0.0,0.08175664740071978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165997331522953,0.0,0.20238839684688006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327870501107136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066545793658512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599009901082029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167880254349835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642642380797262,0.0,0.05535200112883858,0.0,0.0,0.27829359475166465,0.09787780322640297,0.07378772569954987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744449125900798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097610843718953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320901702843248,0.19955184881693055,0.0,0.09672113150567914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804914804588068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944749220442176,0.4531204020260173,0.07954831238307028,0.0,0.0,0.057402341772158916,0.11072716091793287,0.0,0.0,0.05038230857709156,0.0,0.0,0.24768542782025085,0.0,0.05866199381751746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288825824612173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796530619729312,0.09646591067064238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413472586194835,0.0,0.0,0.11128145232003946
parenting,External-Clue,2020/01/16,"School not letting kids drink water or use the bathroom during class? Normal policy? Kid is 7 and in 2nd Grade. Her class got a new teacher who started just before Christmas. My daughter told me that that her teacher won't let children use the bathroom or drink water during class time, but instead they have to wait until recess and/or lunch to use the bathroom/drink their water. Recess is 20 minutes mid-morning and lunch is 40 minutes long. 

I spoke with her teacher today who confirmed that this was indeed her classroom policy. Is this a normal policy for schools to have? I really do not like the idea of my 7 year old not being able to drink water and/or use the bathroom when she needs to. I understand that kids constantly asking for the bathroom during class can be frustrating for the teacher, but am I crazy to think this policy is wrong?",5.970291595197253,7.3357900314465425,5.780606060606066,79.3636363636364,66.9245283018868,7.794396798170384,29.54888507718697,8.00094639256281,2.1285924528301887,681,24,114,8,11,212,91,159,0.095,0.905,0.0,-0.9444,0,0,4,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,0,3,3,1,0,9,0,16,9,0,4,0,22,29,8,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,9,3,9,1,3,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,1,14,1,13,20,0,11,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,2,11,73,23,8,0.13500967361179034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621581986075514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488328831130808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589749410909295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5290323256799945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797956935575036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240948807375862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761130769066001,0.0,0.0659589069246926,0.0,0.0,0.1194793126397707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010796228177987,0.0,0.1303931840727935,0.0,0.0,0.264561629743279,0.0,0.0,0.14166994138395714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649065403598455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27327399503520805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556054187340172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865087473987471,0.0,0.0,0.07872522640206983,0.0,0.12797338431719688,0.12900752884852162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140549831601743,0.0,0.466420040169495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761188392086144,0.0,0.08694180333996891
parenting,taufique_1929,2020/01/16,"Gymnastic Class for toddler: Does it stunt growth? Hey All,

My 3 y/o daughter is very interested to enroll in a gymnastics class. However, I have been reading about stunted growth and other physical issues resulting from gymnastics. Can anyone provide some wise words?",5.032666666666664,8.608173488888895,5.428333333333335,69.5025,80.77777777777777,9.222222222222225,34.16666666666667,9.2995712137729,4.740333333333334,217,12,29,7,6,69,42,45,0.0,0.76,0.24,0.8922,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,5,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,5,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,17,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485043712283811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43616759495102253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5202172820794244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4985513294692183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41124577038520777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maselsy,2020/01/16,"Teens with ADD -- what are realistic expectations? My stepdaughter is 13 and I suspect she is mildly ADD (have since she was about 6). I think her parents are in denial and refuse to address this as a real concern, despite every teacher conference since the 2nd grade suggesting it. 

I've been in SDs life since she was 2 and have tried many different tactics to keep her on track, but now she's older and has more responsibilities --- me reminding her to do every little thing isn't benefiting her. 

I believe her dad has ADD as well (it runs in his immediate family) but it's a very sensitive subject for him. We parent really well together and he's happy to enforce whatever I think will benefit SD, but I often have to enforce his enforcing or else he just forgets. I feel like I'm constantly tattling on SD because I need to tell SO what I see so he can parent SD. Things like, ""SD left the milk on the counter"", ""SD needs to brush her teeth before bed"", ""SD wants to go to her friend's, but her hw isn't done"". Stuff like that. I generally address 50% of this myself, so it's pretty even.

Anyway, I need advice on how parents of teens with ADD or similar set expectations and enforce them. I'm struggling with knowing what is reasonable anymore because we've gotten to the point where we remind her of everything. It's like she has no thought of her own to ever brush her teeth, throw away a pile of trash she created, change her clothes, etc. If this were new behavior that sprang up in the early teen years, maybe I would be more patient about it --- but it's not new, just much worse and more smelly.

So, please, what are some realistic expectations for self-care and self-advocacy that we can instill and enforce in this kid? Also, how do those of you with ADD or a spouse with ADD keep it together to parent/keep your kids on track? Much appreciated 🙏",5.440485366734919,6.0615653019390585,6.253742020956281,78.18202938696858,67.72576177285319,9.602360592556908,30.931109237624952,9.653516015845867,2.7518061182705043,1458,55,285,30,23,481,190,361,0.037000000000000005,0.846,0.11699999999999999,0.9855,6,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,3,2,1,0,19,11,0,1,9,0,26,4,2,3,1,61,42,27,0,9,12,6,1,4,1,2,1,0,3,2,23,23,1,3,7,0,0,3,4,1,2,0,7,4,41,10,41,32,8,28,0,0,1,0,42,16,0,6,12,185,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297522138070066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608793650819523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435891167765836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939246380863447,0.0,0.0,0.1159998019944707,0.0,0.08096193457282544,0.10719655813781664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065147466513072,0.0,0.0,0.10281863921226987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994069464474652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736702687624016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948197608838323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611254280570276,0.06284280000715439,0.08606468148374383,0.1603286160222931,0.0,0.08551076910002202,0.0,0.0896948446828132,0.0,0.048108496018951126,0.06797206652766599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350928793312324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054073461674372734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101284306434183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537094581176312,0.0,0.0,0.05228955724040833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033760197513804,0.0,0.06720418159754049,0.185933421141686,0.09536093016419524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646274852629418,0.0955865870585606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988599073005742,0.2116478665856197,0.0,0.18378451022462186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5282398853426936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444134455559953,0.08994338663300172,0.0,0.0,0.09679732463134788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829657201703416,0.060952735390435386,0.09782556771509222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581875909871978,0.0,0.19851531274529055,0.0,0.0,0.2361163778396361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946688462791406,0.10891899809167876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316148588862844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642107520867338,0.1219309727259094,0.0,0.07553501284553314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459764622261496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850512011469711,0.056119365510016464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109471957509706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696153896131376,0.06758873508192045,0.0,0.0,0.06127067476150198
parenting,Comicinsane,2020/01/16,"My son is awesome!!! Scratch that my kids are awesome!!!! Right now my ASD 11 yr old son and my husband are in Tallahassee with his schools entire 5th grade class for a big 3 day field trip. Today is day 2!!!! My son , has been adopted by his inclusion class, he has a crew of 3 boys he hangs with. The whole class is protective of my son, and his inclusion teacher is awesome.

My son called me last night, telling all about his day. My husband is so proud of him he is come so far, I'm sitting here in my garage waiting for my youngest to come home. Damm I miss him, but this is awesome for him.

The 8 Year old is alittle sad she doesn't get to go on a field trip for 3 days. But we are having mom and daughter time. As a mom it's awesome to see for theses little people grow and learn and devolp and you had a hand in that. I must have done something right.",1.7091666666666685,3.1297138055555562,2.8566666666666687,95.955,77.6111111111111,5.688888888888887,24.222222222222207,6.079149491110277,0.33078888888888835,655,22,155,4,15,210,106,180,0.028999999999999998,0.841,0.13,0.9679,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,20,1,1,0,2,17,28,11,0,1,2,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,11,0,2,1,0,0,7,1,2,0,0,3,3,23,1,20,24,2,29,0,2,1,0,27,9,0,0,12,89,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724295085098984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909235847713961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4356144646320152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280698577180098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822471823317159,0.0,0.09596957226672367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938483615885136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764708465115502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924656560599027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39554406295424016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846787000124085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543897195744448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706936450663215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884186769010704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089986330452892,0.13456312311416865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300001223403399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147594993600702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846623297616316,0.0,0.1600637768962182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18853115513393068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874318505378168
parenting,wolfmoon1496,2020/01/16,"Hello everyone, I have twin boys who are 14 months old and one of them has started a habit where they bang there head on the crib. Sometimes when he bangs it, it sounds and looks pretty bad, any advice of how to maybe to stop him or anything I can buy to help prevent the hard hits to his head?",11.501803278688516,5.302660245901642,9.84598360655738,78.79553278688525,61.295081967213115,12.855737704918035,38.69672131147541,7.1686216300943375,2.763780327868852,229,5,53,1,2,70,52,61,0.107,0.787,0.106,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,2,2,1,0,6,7,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,0,7,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,1,5,31,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420789293019328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846492315315836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038607160757404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684423684887088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23671667076176434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219174579238109,0.0,0.5084849851179064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604822480167275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080308423412022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488781237316367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19773575553493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25995100573394897,0.0,0.16786828733265402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25203051262551035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245011345350547,0.0,0.1753445983375338,0.0,0.0,0.20711340719793456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,roys_silver_rings,2020/01/16,"Teachers aide assaulted my child. My 4 year old has been having a terrible time transitioning since she has started prek with the school district. She has been sent home multiple times for freaking out in the classroom. To the point they want a special education evaluation done. 

The principal and social worker said she seems like she has suffered some abuse or trauma and asked about our home life. After waiting on a list for 6 weeks she finally had her first counseling appointment yesterday. Her counselor said she sees nothing alarming but she will carry on with it for a bit to see if it helps. 

Today the principal called to tell me 2 staff members came to her and reported they saw the teachers aide in her class dragging her down the hallway by her backpack screaming. She then tried to pick her up to carry her and dropped her then continued dragging her to the bus. The bus drivers previously complained she is always crying and yelling when brought to the bus. 

What do I do? Can I have her arrested? I'm so upset and angry.",6.457672170761176,7.828940727748692,6.14104712041885,77.20293596455902,65.80628272251309,9.227708417237213,35.11115585984696,9.466822959209583,3.402600966572693,833,39,143,16,13,259,124,191,0.17600000000000002,0.78,0.044000000000000004,-0.983,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,1,0,2,2,3,11,1,2,14,0,15,1,0,1,0,18,29,13,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,2,1,3,10,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,9,0,1,10,7,28,2,23,18,2,27,0,1,3,0,33,8,0,4,16,98,31,6,0.0,0.20336704787061066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281943394898575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046158320487902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18738800555656165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752651082173293,0.19631208975082332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18854007004673967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756487930850104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802481559904005,0.0,0.14599812727348624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504764398670665,0.0,0.3443407325846604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212354301716322,0.08385534113929499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646945977480032,0.0,0.1801088255980225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225664698734268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265406434951921,0.0,0.0,0.17371030802813886,0.2735520217911276,0.1562559270949665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198357878672813,0.0,0.0,0.17496684006520347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214886997354123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002219022318952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001710162890049,0.0,0.1626960224025675,0.0,0.0,0.11653327578295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123857261309026,0.0,0.1376804156613959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053146448685737
parenting,jim7raynor1,2020/01/16,"I am 14 and i need help with my education please. If this is not the proper subreddit for this please let me know and refer me to the proper subreddit.

When I was in second grade i couldnt comprehend the ramifications of the choices that were made. I was withdrawn from school and quickly my mom (with serious mental health issues) could not handle the responsibility of keeping a schedule and routine for school. Eventually the responsibility was put into my hands, managing my schedule and time. Tell me if I am wrong but should an 8 year old be given that responsibility? To say the least I couldnt handle it and i simply rotted away falling into a state of complacency and self hated. I gave up on myself and my future until 6th grade. I cant describe how appreciative of my friends (which went to public school) giving me a reference for what i should have known. Every time my parents would threaten to put me back in school i wished and wished that they would but i never asked because I though I was already too far gone. In 6th grade I realised how behind I really was and decided to take it into my own hands. I asked to be enrolled in virtual school to catch up. Now I am just about caught up and I want to enroll as a freshman in highschool come this fall. My mom is pushing back saying that she doesnt want me to be further corrupted by the kids at school and that if i cant even obey her how could i ever obey the teachers. I really want to have a future. My dad is fighting for me and I want to the best for myself i can.",3.978664290805416,5.410315265573777,5.327968638631504,80.48275837491092,71.75409836065573,7.796151104775483,26.04775481111903,8.321376580360154,1.665135424091233,1216,39,237,19,23,407,152,305,0.07200000000000001,0.847,0.081,-0.1119,1,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,1,1,15,6,2,0,16,0,30,3,2,6,2,56,51,25,0,18,8,4,2,0,1,4,1,2,0,2,12,19,0,1,5,0,0,10,8,4,0,1,12,4,47,2,42,27,3,43,0,0,0,0,20,16,0,3,16,185,59,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880841684848637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843568455551484,0.0,0.09263868217167813,0.1516358330436138,0.0,0.060106122658996425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347543947152706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493584458154915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744940537981356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651248878104956,0.08919005399881534,0.08307541301529492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617872101703067,0.0,0.0,0.0945868564750845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734786067408986,0.0,0.10480802245800164,0.0,0.0,0.0660900270030991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029136010573834,0.0,0.0876409071232308,0.0,0.0,0.054188412173779565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082598189986182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329844575140107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936639897459827,0.0,0.0,0.2309600927173713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731112318629449,0.07604700305496477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346493621933857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094845018556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164681028275756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982420429882729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633237391055185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682260173533488,0.0,0.5987355438390146,0.0,0.0,0.1028621215933302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413551844046871,0.0,0.08618143109528002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968747695146208,0.0,0.11498981998542035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23262918790505435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140391447313986,0.0,0.0,0.22677207067379035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008633571267542,0.107804478535754,0.0,0.06349567204933433
parenting,__mephoto,2020/01/16,"As a daughter, what do you wish your parents would have taught you? Or shown you? Told you? Loved you?

I have a sweet six month old girl. I think about how when I was younger, I had an oppressive grandfather that was militantly angry and always telling me to lose weight. And how I never want to put body shit on my own kid. But women of reddit: from a female perspective, what do you wish was different about your childhood? 

From,

A seriously panicky, over the top first time mom that overanalyzes everything including my need to chill out.",4.047051705170517,6.362869326732675,4.20844884488449,84.8781078107811,73.55445544554456,8.053245324532451,26.073707370737075,8.841846274778883,1.996999119911992,426,15,82,9,9,132,74,101,0.166,0.7090000000000001,0.125,-0.5547,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,8,0,3,5,5,1,0,6,0,9,4,2,2,1,14,17,8,0,5,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,6,2,16,2,12,10,1,12,0,1,0,1,17,4,1,1,7,58,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907643298725142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257063948715532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21229793215692275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826206327208401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283952120295532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22732580498264196,0.0,0.0,0.18339349832791635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379822241486205,0.16219014777081658,0.0,0.0,0.15066822466408256,0.15671828595084605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21322138689132408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256265569938416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426941189293693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085791103889749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760339815470833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302006263177636,0.0,0.0,0.11848598081430185,0.0,0.0,0.1941637298059842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985103332825316,0.0,0.0,0.24743957205695974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673337382123218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434553326287852,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IM_NEWBIE,2020/01/16,"Need coping tools for dealing with disappointment My son is just shy of 5 years old (in Pre-K) and deals terribly with disappointment.  If he doesn't get what he wants or if things don't go his way, he has three possible responses:  sour grapes (says he didn't want that anyhow), temper tantrums, or lashing out physically.  Obviously none of these are healthy ways of dealing with disappointment, and I am unsure of how best to teach him better methods.  

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Is this normal behavior for his age?  What can I do to help him, and spare his family and friends from the terrible reactions?",6.737896825396824,7.815299324074079,6.597513227513229,75.24166666666669,65.01851851851852,10.615873015873015,33.02116402116402,10.608840637214634,3.5628052910052905,469,19,85,12,7,148,81,108,0.213,0.6659999999999999,0.121,-0.8715,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,2,10,2,0,1,0,10,0,0,1,1,20,15,9,0,6,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,1,1,2,8,3,14,14,2,8,0,3,0,0,16,2,0,5,3,52,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20703286986657696,0.23218061353832944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052451111231995,0.16899291154016294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5909789026832227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18013127781697896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476263436726475,0.0,0.09983033802249884,0.0,0.10859399759079558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807551648855914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168187253914094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721581305654472,0.0,0.0,0.20050415691502496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154116691391767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519528484486078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694369392613622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225405441201112,0.3033375521546139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23218061353832944,0.12304792963884435
parenting,FrancineArthur,2020/01/16,"Switching schools mid-adolescence? We recently gained power of attorney for my niece. She is 13, entering 8th grade next year. 

I am a teacher in our district that is poorly funded and rural so doesn’t perform well when you look at the stats. I love my job but also don’t like having no job stability. Last year they cut my position because of budget cuts (cutting the special education budget so didn’t want 3 resource teachers at one school) and this year they’re losing two more positions in sped but thankfully someone is retiring and one other position is going unfilled, they’ll just shift someone into that position who isn’t needed elsewhere. 

I am in the second round of interviews for a much better school district. 

Should I go for it? I also have a two year old so it’d be nice for her to go to decent schools when she goes. My niece is firmly rooted in her friends here. She hangs out with them nonstop. 

I am feeling torn. What would you do?",3.487270973963355,5.837573863387978,4.470530376084864,82.18423336547734,75.39344262295083,7.147412407585987,28.25104468016715,8.124751697461798,2.1551320475731286,759,32,135,13,17,246,120,183,0.07200000000000001,0.76,0.168,0.9564,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,3,5,10,12,3,0,6,0,20,1,0,1,0,16,29,12,0,4,3,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,1,0,4,5,5,4,1,5,1,3,22,8,18,23,2,24,0,1,2,1,16,8,0,0,12,95,30,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21878986633254927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338897839028286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098408429531965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916767556386948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568749803956533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332312977879217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714959117089243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150620428139024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683114010123256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487336944394813,0.1530386436966389,0.0,0.0,0.12346285213431535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056008422021354,0.10143177873067392,0.0,0.0,0.1454830624513869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354336877617646,0.0,0.18539170030431135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350685854664995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5537754793017786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23181196385516145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594248129107966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26725772733960035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068525079058696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299515712983156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717526189297243,0.0,0.0,0.3523660479274597
parenting,shygirlshouts,2020/01/16,"At what age do toddlers volunteer affection/say I love you? I guess this is just me wondering when i’ll get an unprompted ‘I love you mama’ from my toddler.

My little guy is 28 months, he’s got a great vocabulary and I know he can say ‘I yuv you’ if i ask him to (multiple times before he complies usually). I’m pretty certain he’s not autistic or on the spectrum and doesn’t have a sensory processing disorder.

He allows lots of hugs and kisses, we say I love you to him constantly, probably to an annoying degree, he will come and hug us and hug our legs unprompted, he snuggles, he gives kisses (usually when prompted). Makes great eye contact, will hold hands, very social. On the whole a really normal, energetic, cool little toddler.

At what age though will he vocally express love? I’m just aching for his tiny voice to say it without me asking for it 😂",3.1458882235528947,5.272312011976052,4.932838323353295,79.52628343313377,75.58682634730539,8.764710578842315,28.498602794411177,9.3871,2.8767927345309388,674,29,125,18,15,229,107,167,0.044000000000000004,0.6859999999999999,0.27,0.9927,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,4,0,0,5,14,1,0,7,1,9,12,3,2,1,22,25,10,0,2,6,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,1,5,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,7,19,13,13,21,2,16,0,0,1,9,33,6,0,5,9,68,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23773744011095715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081958620749398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095290505957331,0.0,0.1374047120494285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572569305784566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643098141904541,0.12197451664360573,0.0,0.0,0.10169401280774618,0.28036814323693343,0.1400708071531359,0.12589916203858445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987868747199888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548767665155649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809895967104588,0.459033805548537,0.0,0.0848740650527993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149045826667746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458066801003803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935795124332086,0.13708993667142175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145598034668726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40446129109912493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961410398242892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492489577152982,0.0,0.0741425829885333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294661024813,0.0,0.2800770166928177,0.10491262582746268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195919141971602,0.0,0.12256871642118815,0.13788948664438996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cookmybook,2020/01/16,"What should I know about #2 I am pregnant with #2 and my son will be 2y2months when she is born. I also have a broken arm and the name of the game is survival right now. I can't even think about preparing for baby. 

What are some things I should focus on with #2? What do you wish someone had told you about your second one? 

Help a mom focus on the most important things you wish you knew!",2.7644444444444436,3.7847715555555546,3.514506172839507,93.91027777777781,74.18518518518519,6.387654320987655,20.907407407407405,6.42735559955562,0.0351629629629624,300,6,69,2,6,95,57,81,0.038,0.83,0.132,0.7747,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,0,12,1,1,0,0,14,18,4,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,12,0,9,11,2,6,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,2,3,53,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177813553539516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17987069682618242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253634839111116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966486369948565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31894836377298275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18453713803306976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325674272345411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307434275722109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618464945659726,0.1744973889324371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602219730789803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6263296835382379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofoctspawn,2020/01/16,"Febrile Seizures Our 15 month old LO just got out of the hospital after experiencing complex febrile seizures. She vomited during the seizures and at the first one, she actually choked and turned blue until the daycare realized she was not breathing and managed to get the vomit out. 

Our doctor told us that she may have them again and we have good directions on how to treat when we see another seizure. However, thats dependent on actually seeing the seizure happening which we may not if it happens at night while we are asleep. According to our doctor, she may seize before a thermometer even picks up the fever since the seizure is more stromgly correlated to the rate of temperature change than the actual final temperature. I am worried that she might choke again on vomit during a seizure at night or that the seizure may go on for too long before we realize what is happening.

I am not looking for medical advice on the seizures themselves necessarily but are there any other parents of children who have febrile seizures? Do you have any recommendations on how to monitor at night? What is in your emergency bag beyond the medication? Or even just anyone who is willing to share their story.",8.887635658914732,9.21225351162791,8.191918604651164,68.24214147286823,60.3953488372093,11.817829457364342,40.70736434108528,11.374738998889045,4.877922480620157,975,49,161,25,12,306,127,215,0.045,0.925,0.03,-0.5007,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,9,2,2,1,12,3,0,0,15,0,20,10,2,4,0,32,31,13,0,1,9,1,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,1,11,11,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,5,21,3,29,22,1,30,0,0,4,0,25,15,0,9,14,122,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.379075932242024,0.0,0.0,0.12653120586221747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610842821820705,0.1357762722279293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905388958183983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22036433058849375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697792026804473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650666898680717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104719185565634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184444624591366,0.0,0.11013984218024576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765054813558939,0.0,0.07358928765318336,0.10860584240852583,0.10356095245913853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343509371707705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459011635221815,0.10873475611392257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260884952584268,0.0,0.1373630819072062,0.0,0.0,0.10335366098180927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645385946984807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587268547271358,0.0,0.08774236106990388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377772633258734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20636549982400676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071112982871572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372842975448678,0.0,0.0,0.14084245566618378,0.0,0.0,0.15575446572884655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149826384331662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wiblejc,2020/01/16,"Moving 14 month old to toddler bed Our son is only 14.5 months old. He is extremely tall and we’ve had his crib on the lowest setting for a while. He’s finally gotten to the point where the top rail is below his armpits and he’s able to lean over. I’ve decided this is now way too dangerous. I’d rather deal with keeping him in bed vs falling out. He sleeps in a sleep sack, so he can’t climb out yet, but he’s throwing his Bear out and leaning for it. 

The crib we have has the option to just take one rail off and it turns into a toddler bed. There’s an option to add a rail, but idk if it’s necessary. 

The rest of the room is babyproofed and he frequently plays happily in there alone. 

Any suggestions for making this transition? If this is a huge mistake, any suggestions for how to keep his crib safe for longer?",3.412803921568628,4.281179123529412,4.303235294117648,89.44289215686277,72.47058823529412,8.019607843137255,25.93137254901961,8.344100000000001,1.4071372549019607,641,20,143,10,12,207,104,170,0.071,0.8370000000000001,0.092,0.7657,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,2,10,4,1,0,13,0,10,3,3,2,0,28,16,12,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,6,12,0,3,1,1,0,4,1,2,0,1,2,0,7,2,24,14,1,32,0,0,0,0,18,17,0,4,9,82,13,0,0.19540699845784504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238271873501465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265766919485665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014560351175293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21405881539194327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473734372771432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043568883082196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119440037550847,0.20768671475833766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4100935477725701,0.0,0.1324128393279047,0.14861582770377765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472277466632767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910962381103533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692174413928696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21254670178998367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510497992873634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2PlusTwoEqualsFive,2020/01/16,"L-Theanine for 4-Year Old? To start, we plan on contacting our son's pediatrician regarding the use of L-Theanine as a dietary supplement for official recommendations/approval.  

There's more context to the reasons why my wife and I are interested in pursuing this, but for now I am just curious as to whether anyone here has actually used this for calming/focus purposes with their kids?

We're not seeking medical advice, but instead just feedback from anyone who's tried this (obligatory disclaimer).

Info we're looking for:
1. What age your kid(s) were when first started?
2. Dosage you administered?
3. Any noticeable improvements/successes after using the supplement?

We're pursuing only for informational purposes right now and unfortunately I did not find any info in this sub previously referring to it.  Any insight is greatly appreciated!",6.796573426573428,9.880752293706296,7.7615384615384615,59.00846153846157,68.020979020979,11.393006993006995,39.671328671328666,11.051253699011982,5.916227972027973,690,41,94,25,13,231,105,143,0.022000000000000002,0.898,0.079,0.8335,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,2,1,2,8,2,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,4,0,21,12,8,0,0,7,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,9,2,19,10,1,13,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,0,9,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.18545309268127208,0.0,0.0,0.1857063568429647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3877042156227836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26576287454856345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17369449044682475,0.16164920499394408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20952142747674488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595869989740961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19144682044811165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636351025002654,0.1994165885140127,0.0,0.0,0.14453512629420562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539431599821394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229440481626262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26902470729902045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902570558571033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924045230583871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17148289699467653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238049689259012
parenting,Teabee27,2020/01/16,"5 year old was fully potty trained for 2 years. Now shes peeing all over the place. Every day for the past few days she has wet herself several times during the day. Either she doesn't make it to bathroom in time or shes sitting and tells us she wet herself.

She wet the bed a few times and just ran to the bathroom and peed on the hallway carpet. Yesterday she peed on the bathroom rugs and it's been hurting to pee.

The doctor said yesterday it's vaginitis and she has a cream. We're at our wits end. Daughter did not want to go to pre k yesterday and I don't really want to take her anywhere for fear that she'll pee on the floor. When she does realize she has to pee she has a few seconds before she pees herself. This was never a problem before and she was night trained for a while as well.

My mom was going to come this weekend and I'm probably going to cancel the visit because she'll find a way to blame me for not being on top of it and/or she'll make LO feel very self conscious about it.

I'm hoping this will resolve itself in a week or 2 but between the constant washing things and laundry and her crying it's just been a lot.",2.2325000000000017,3.783030583333339,3.5941666666666663,90.6675,76.5,5.966666666666668,24.5,6.508806274219699,0.701025,900,30,192,7,20,295,133,240,0.066,0.903,0.031,-0.7131,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,2,6,6,0,1,19,0,20,7,5,2,2,33,35,16,0,4,8,2,4,0,0,4,2,1,3,1,12,11,0,0,5,1,0,6,5,3,1,1,9,6,26,3,27,21,6,41,0,1,1,0,29,11,0,4,22,128,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878877467663393,0.0,0.24788011160617765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546724414924493,0.0,0.15739925125064444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999308527681466,0.2818025896656425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490821143605907,0.12746200478358286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900540984887976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271901432123558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390022560175327,0.0736465811081643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312428990346406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24833403102638066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466638775827212,0.0,0.0,0.15592465043427642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238290525806389,0.0,0.0,0.1944491435650829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058714424085228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233664592520397,0.0,0.0,0.13668556264271195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528384214871021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904235996168166,0.0,0.0,0.15217648336739262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703867112153955,0.13937034082731467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330910217870587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854944736182787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194794361841488,0.16454653859977952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951300052559608,0.0,0.1273072247604606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676544414804897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547944726375732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752027392315323,0.0,0.0,0.12017905722215246,0.17181993808927448,0.11561264704532055,0.11683412697576814,0.0,0.13095962444349066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875916352320544
parenting,lyraterra,2020/01/16,"Night light suggestions Hi all! We have an 11 month old that seems to be afraid of the dark. This has been an issue for months- we couldn't drive after dark without him screaming the whole time for months. Luckily we have worked past that. 

During daytime naps he can self sooth fairly reliably. But at night time, the second the light goes out he screams. If we're not lying next to him he screams when he wakes up and wont self-sooth.  We have two standing lamps in the room, and none of our plugs are in a convenient place. 

So im looking for recommendations on night lights! Something simple is preferred, and bonus points for battery operated ones or ones I can attach to the wall. He also has a tendency to crawl straight for any light filtering in under the door. Not sure if theres to be anything done about that (he sleeps on a mattress on the floor. Has always refused the crib.)

Thanks in advance for any suggestions you may have!!",3.586691988950274,5.752857127071824,3.5555766574585626,89.71966332872928,74.41436464088397,6.5139502762430945,25.124654696132595,7.413659706084162,1.096229005524862,744,25,148,9,16,226,119,181,0.046,0.86,0.095,0.8797,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,5,1,0,3,5,7,0,1,14,0,18,2,2,0,2,22,21,10,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,1,4,8,0,1,2,1,1,2,6,4,0,4,2,8,9,3,27,14,3,33,0,0,1,0,19,17,0,5,13,92,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336008333306518,0.1283550304823575,0.0,0.0,0.20980148746676347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269412073095052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785951230326886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662513304525986,0.16100529600287186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953788641944286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693818409801252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405515491539635,0.4342821077933957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186784361597,0.0,0.20905845395999628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725673531097147,0.0,0.0,0.16116679936935935,0.0,0.14582369005512635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043070841806735,0.3218495157969084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543694238865447,0.0,0.0,0.1187553606143631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538635883636306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202006013958848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989818463107107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068767154831406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722235711160165,0.0,0.14869922713740955,0.0,0.11230167619288617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Renskott,2020/01/16,"I don't know what to do anymore! Hopefully, a more experienced parent out there can help guide me on what to do next.

My sweet 2-year-old son has quite a few developmental health issues. He's cross-eyed, underweight, very short, non-verbal, and struggles to eat.

Well, last month we had him set up to see lots of different kinds of doctors so he could start getting the help he needs, but he managed to get the flu and strep throat during this time, and unfortunately, he had to go to the hospital and we were forced to quarantine him for such a long time, that we had to reschedule all of his appointments. Life happens like that sometimes.

So this month, I was looking forward to finally being able to take him to go see all of the appropriate doctors, until I got a letter stating that his insurance renewal was denied. They say that I didn't send in proof of income, but I did! I've called their office a dozen times today, but I can't reach anyone.

I'm so poor right now. There is no way I can afford to pay for all this out of pocket. I plan on reapplying for his insurance, and I'm going to keep calling them until I can reach someone.

Is there anything else that I should be doing?

I'm pretty sure I'm going to have a heart attack from all the stress this is causing.",5.087893700787401,5.53074805511811,5.746131889763781,82.1407726377953,68.44881889763779,8.71220472440945,28.07972440944882,8.660442795831766,1.891544094488189,1002,31,203,15,16,326,152,254,0.14,0.7859999999999999,0.075,-0.9586,4,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,0,3,2,9,9,1,2,11,0,25,8,2,1,6,27,46,13,0,4,3,2,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,11,10,1,1,1,0,2,6,4,3,1,1,9,6,24,6,33,33,7,31,0,0,3,0,26,9,0,2,16,130,35,4,0.12540025086172313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436335280224498,0.08768277110357736,0.0,0.10319372166536253,0.0,0.0,0.1426608887232118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560953534367683,0.0,0.0,0.12882060072386967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012189640180444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310165720676398,0.0,0.2567049408411509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831576283849044,0.1047558185862334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736984530318028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103291074152984,0.0,0.2850714096585296,0.0,0.1002940361450472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089102769633348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332946026859166,0.0,0.1485999010498092,0.16810628965754393,0.0,0.0,0.12455074396572667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308852818916397,0.0,0.11146150475938583,0.0,0.1305850641619746,0.06891669837372441,0.10221794140083257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857390570963901,0.061264228359701564,0.0,0.0,0.11097527589686028,0.1053046278636298,0.0,0.0,0.10661080892722967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001865676992975,0.0,0.0,0.09298269707315857,0.0,0.0,0.13336458942627122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158646868665852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924213846278458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275771373303369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337860261342724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709112906058156,0.0,0.09972331268276544,0.0,0.0,0.1998555286231657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625122561594284,0.0,0.124024054578356,0.0,0.08875894299147667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436455636788822,0.13109556951418674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118188252386164,0.0,0.09428538239423946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193656841587248,0.0,0.11886477515044325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346833993760812,0.0,0.0995368822328134,0.0,0.0,0.11274988548939036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075365014622615
parenting,brittyks,2020/01/16,"Finally left him... and I'm struggling I finally got away from him after 6 years.

6 years of emotional, sexual and mental abuse. 6 years of him laying his hands on me and me having to lie about where the bruises came from, or why i had a concussion, or why there were clear hand marks around my throat.

I'm finally free from feeling like I was failing my kids from staying with him.. and now I'm feeling like I'm failing my kids because I'm struggling financially.

I've always taken care of everything financially, he never helped, but the last 6 months have been absolutely terrible. It seems like its been one thing after another of extra unexpected costs and I can't stop stressing out or worrying. As soon as I get to a place where I feel okay, something else happens.

If I don't make my mortgage payment this month, I'm going to lose my house. I and the kids have nowhere to go, no family to turn to.

I'm literally stuck where I'm choosing whether paying, for one thing, is more important than paying for another thing.

I feel like I can't breathe. The stress is making me feel like a bad mother. I try to not let my kids see me struggle, and try to remain happy for them, but it just keeps getting harder.

I just need a break. One little break, something to go right. I need to get some of these extra costs out of the way so I can get back to stability.",3.2281784759358274,4.871552091911768,4.545788770053477,84.4925267379679,74.03676470588233,7.73957219251337,26.334224598930483,8.438071523408619,1.7590750000000002,1067,38,216,19,22,353,147,272,0.11199999999999999,0.728,0.159,0.8140000000000001,1,0,2,0,1,0,34.0,0,0,1,3,12,19,0,5,9,1,15,4,4,2,2,38,49,17,0,3,10,1,7,5,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,12,0,2,7,0,5,4,6,10,0,3,9,8,30,10,36,39,4,36,0,3,1,0,13,12,0,6,21,132,38,4,0.0,0.11038786698471653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775225526586969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953878117377413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293853790155706,0.0,0.0,0.0875336273275791,0.07163980633138067,0.07779069912000737,0.05679384483458098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655842762045276,0.09499014367918744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782921935202412,0.10480053136440028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373264899510477,0.0,0.08782972046142548,0.0,0.2355406139620484,0.2662345923412586,0.0,0.3061802570991467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947040133917092,0.0,0.15884715693649407,0.0,0.07451430043866338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823874247294891,0.099178189702002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244799319400899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750241051974313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281126547718992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594368208243119,0.0,0.0,0.10122640770811546,0.09526974820522607,0.0,0.2275838770480631,0.09337798475353908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042302370359109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437962488020167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389059875233398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873029965368395,0.0,0.0,0.13816455876372094,0.0718562685558977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893974658993268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733986774022166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956425797437525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424217568937608,0.08481589655914656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344928534756424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930381174018013,0.0,0.07789192963991469,0.2134453672433634,0.29219567867915114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856883927154772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650879167608328,0.10133913223876548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739517665506772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813776753578485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461578815673463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998981733506872
parenting,WorleyDooDickPotato,2020/01/16,"I miss my son. I feel so stupid, but I'm sitting at work trying not to cry because I miss my son. He is 1 and so sweet and wonderful. My husband and I recently earned our PhDs. Something I worked hard at for a long time. I never imagined my whole world would turn upside down, would change so dramatically when we had him. I knew things would be totally different and that my priorities would change completely. I just never realized I would find everything else so dissatisfying once he got here. I don't want to be here at work anymore, I just want to be with my family. I feel like I barely see him during the week. I know it's so good for him to be at daycare, and he loves it. 

Just having a hard day and need to vent. Work sucks lately. Never imagined all I'd want was to be a mom. I know I'd be so bored if I didnt have my career, but it breaks my heart to say goodbye to him every morning. Evenings are dinner, bath, bed. Not much time for anything else. I just hope he feels loved.  I feel like we're always running out of time, always doing things that have to be done: working, cooking, cleaning... I just want to go to the park and cuddle with my son and spouse. Is life supposed to be this way? Is it this way for everyone?

TLDR: I just need to vent. Work sucks and I miss my kid.",0.8724638844301751,2.9861924569288405,2.6690034777956133,92.9113061797753,83.23220973782772,5.612038523274479,20.02260567148208,6.868970318607317,0.2303077581594435,994,28,222,12,28,329,137,267,0.114,0.7440000000000001,0.142,0.9573,1,3,1,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,0,7,16,14,3,0,5,0,26,7,1,0,5,53,53,19,0,13,11,6,6,2,0,5,1,1,3,1,10,13,2,0,12,2,0,2,7,7,0,0,6,9,37,7,26,34,4,25,0,3,1,3,20,7,2,3,14,141,47,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190693895511182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648600906556656,0.0,0.0,0.0800617717338832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05930737090883845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584084585837492,0.0,0.10200721263891646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686901903894136,0.06274430812243105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164783978089686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956193507149733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254741664699965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425944156614882,0.0,0.08197142179766928,0.09296521872851628,0.08743840614412059,0.0,0.09171680176605516,0.0,0.1967719508623516,0.1390086704178576,0.0,0.0,0.08892173213376074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055292419343952834,0.08160263501878995,0.07781208099222778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430631268320246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528968202259147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663139454361212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693660204915376,0.0,0.10974789415279199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871914013819183,0.0950624240938348,0.0,0.0,0.0860990093541843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561690540739772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394542916734506,0.0,0.0,0.07151969395235094,0.14427930979004058,0.22510923765324467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361118129746212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606260744558164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736929115169322,0.0,0.0,0.07752791281367842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489896130025378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927093786681365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701925761367126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605384661855145,0.10582409979056026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295377728751551,0.15444930206642188,0.07804055105612029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086213415653582,0.0,0.0,0.10550737065547974,0.4249717497691112,0.0,0.0,0.3455618123342788,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sara7147,2020/01/16,"What to do if you said something mean to your teen in the heat of the moment. My 14 year old has been struggling lately.  A lot going on emotionally.  She is in therapy.  

She can me a real asshole... for no apparent reason. She struggles with friendships.  She has tons of surface friends but no close friends.  No one is inviting her to parties and sleepovers.  I think it’s related to low self esteem.   

I have been stressing myself out for months trying to figure out how to help her have more self esteem.  

This leaves me as the substitute BFF.  We do get along great l and we do spend a ton of time together. However, I am still mom... I am the disciplinarian.  I set the rules and boundaries and I am the one who grounds her and takes away privileges..  

She is also unnecessarily mean to her 12 year old younger brother.  She demeans him in a way that effects his self esteem. 

This morning... I did the same thing to her and I feel sick to my stomach about it.  

This morning she started in on her brother for no reason in the car on the way to school.  I told her to stop being such an asshole.  That’s not the bad part..

Then I said...  No wonder no one likes you.  😢😢😢

As I said I feel sick to my stomach and am in tears over this.  I regretted it as soon as it came out of my mouth.  

How to I make it right?  Can I make it right??

I feel like those words coming from a parent will sit in her psyche for the rest of her life.  😢",-0.02352685838307167,2.2789263986254302,1.913417435340932,94.98388632664137,90.8556701030928,4.575185386145777,20.02902875746066,6.202715092499727,0.0332350515463915,1086,36,241,11,38,358,151,291,0.134,0.7390000000000001,0.127,0.5879,3,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,2,3,0,1,7,12,0,3,17,0,21,6,3,7,0,41,40,17,0,2,3,4,3,2,2,1,3,3,0,3,16,17,0,1,11,0,1,4,7,6,0,3,8,6,46,6,45,30,7,42,0,2,0,0,38,21,0,3,15,178,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812068224031769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035292223638018,0.0,0.09200590484947728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603054945466796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949208444485931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395142126197613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714949906503135,0.07872134730657401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702684788401136,0.0,0.057570889362664086,0.0,0.06262478064874548,0.0,0.0,0.12148731668806495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385952542970603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430162903935232,0.11667765540191005,0.0,0.0,0.0778320270407073,0.10766870987831914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368148888519456,0.0,0.0,0.14710833121948713,0.0,0.0,0.24006327320034546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290558017210829,0.08795438241955339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23125640688319898,0.0,0.22400730965771434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235542510193242,0.1193274411407841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542287579846353,0.0,0.2265919188561997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882071155400342,0.31445411821974123,0.0,0.0,0.11152041422672564,0.0,0.0,0.3448635670198695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084831358039685,0.0,0.0,0.07799462376271186,0.0,0.08799965294565755,0.09212563388762472,0.12622482103457386,0.2303936769999457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285083934436092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601441223354365,0.0,0.07320681771770035,0.07060672818795281,0.0,0.0,0.06425397233513168,0.0,0.0,0.1052933928360055,0.0,0.07481328732896311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493091780074793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194987671460596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192035975970074
parenting,uhoh_spaghettihoes,2020/01/16,"The Dream Toilet My son has a history of sleep walking and night terrors. I've posted here before about his sleep issues but, I've got a new one and it comes with a phrase I never thought I'd need.

""He's peeing somewhere he shouldn't.""

My son sleep pees. Not like bedwetting but also not unlike bedwetting? He gets up, obviously asleep, and walks through the house. I can usually catch him before the peeing starts and guide him to the actual toilet.

So far he's peed in the kitchen, the utility closet, and on the swiffer.",1.890882352941176,4.525971519607842,3.1112745098039234,87.89573529411769,83.80392156862746,6.1450980392156875,21.245098039215684,7.492282038375204,0.9945333333333336,413,13,79,7,12,133,70,102,0.053,0.932,0.016,-0.5369,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,10,0,3,8,7,0,2,16,9,9,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,7,1,0,1,1,0,4,4,1,0,1,2,0,7,1,8,6,0,14,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,6,43,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.19717680393943787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158353235360118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438683180230349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405273030186533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556554292882528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616020634550321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23314466168384346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108932140191572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871400234197256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982142797509335,0.15583748626037972,0.1951462460200402,0.0,0.1896151902604281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691788521264914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935131025325575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6066035979798772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301576533191024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040932047935474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22253534192546492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,almostperfectionist,2020/01/16,Question about getting pregnant don’t know if this belongs here but... I don’t know where else I’d post it. I’m wondering if you can get pregnant right before your period and then not have one? I was supposed to have mine more than a week ago and haven’t but I took a test and it was negative so either my cycle is messed up (likely) or could I have gotten pregnant and it’s too early to detect?,1.4058132530120488,3.379140831325305,3.0996234939759044,91.31883283132534,80.44578313253012,5.595783132530121,21.218373493975907,6.6274283507984215,0.3652421686746985,311,9,66,3,8,103,59,83,0.11,0.89,0.0,-0.8594,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,0,0,16,19,11,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,4,0,8,1,5,14,2,10,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,5,6,49,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25807074840281485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477316935782284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23244502890268334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24320323679528735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30420866782512024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31999681430463145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223227728949378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727842204181725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27882375960414296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261342112676832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24862494103996266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234581088272207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335283452625289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157199859398249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,youcantfindme123,2020/01/16,"Daughters (9) Absent fathers sister reached out to me dont know what to do Some background: 
No one has attempted any contact in around 4 years. Her father and I split when she was 9 months, I took him to court for sole custody and was given that. he's never made much of an effort. He can't/wont hold a job, he is a drug addict who is in and out of jail and prison constantly. He hasn't paid any of the court mandated child support and would often be a no call no show when he would make plans to come see her. They probably saw each other a total of 5 times for 15-30 minutes at a time. This really hurt her and it's what she remembers the most. The final straw was when he promised to call her daily and failed on the very first day. I told him to only contact us when he had his life together. We have moved states, he sent her a birthday card (from prison) that year (I actually held off on giving this to her as she was dealing with alot at the moment, she has it now.) and that's the last of it. (There is alot more background info that I could add to this but I'm trying to keep it brief)

My daughter struggles with having an absent father. She has broken down on several occasions about her father. She wonders why he doesnt contact her and why he never tried to be a part of her life before. It's really painful for her and it breaks my heart to see her hurt. I'm trying to get her into counseling- it's a long wait where we live.

I recently had to log back onto Facebook (better for my mental health if I stay away) and I had a message request from his sister. She gave me her number and told me she would like to be a part of my daughters life if that is ok with me. 

I am afraid of what this could do to my daughters emotional and mental health, what she will say/promise to her, and whether she will pass my number out to the rest of their family. I dont think it's time for her father to come back into the picture- if he wanted to be in her life he would have tried already IMO. But I also dont believe it would be fair to my daughter to ignore this message. I just dont know what to do or how to go about it. I dont want my daughter to hate me in the future but I need to protect her from that life. Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.",2.89848774656306,3.8792390460251087,4.227080693365212,89.08136820083683,73.81171548117155,6.969133293484759,23.698983861326962,7.225922671290522,0.7647295158398082,1776,48,391,18,35,587,218,478,0.08,0.86,0.06,-0.9046,1,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,3,0,2,6,16,14,1,2,23,1,44,11,1,3,3,72,75,30,0,14,10,13,0,1,0,8,10,0,0,2,28,29,0,6,6,1,1,8,12,8,0,2,17,3,63,6,67,42,11,55,0,3,3,0,78,20,0,11,25,277,91,4,0.0,0.0,0.07357449699265886,0.08219151433823828,0.0,0.07367497406226926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320009091656506,0.06029323367501541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381324859005846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711740043449461,0.0,0.0,0.07083594268085901,0.11594797039465655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415546358593789,0.0849441767718936,0.0,0.06668061723012504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539731413888311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989197335901562,0.0,0.08147504748672983,0.0,0.12039330432130835,0.0,0.0,0.048623440481153836,0.07772877896032114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418110088216146,0.0,0.0874340888048958,0.0,0.0,0.08480905749364813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737506296661301,0.0710755538668418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825913720400664,0.0,0.06413082022381215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039390696905356265,0.07232560941675527,0.04284863028186856,0.0,0.0,0.08312308742286117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443680455249685,0.0,0.16028239817942785,0.0,0.0893432593276547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142349086851082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481775422631748,0.0670144061632349,0.0,0.0,0.0828700747619687,0.06145686492383653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26626805844328905,0.036834114983796636,0.0,0.066575033151411,0.06672206901462098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134042929509607,0.05032664729926474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519605498947807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060179449331788114,0.08013279291944839,0.05542388921297641,0.05590432536565025,0.11629831131383445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05108950105973599,0.05734118024735685,0.08022543529313178,0.0,0.0,0.16329054904323456,0.0,0.0,0.06583187421656662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128839931078136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659974200065403,0.0,0.07444331789395958,0.0,0.08540766680913403,0.0,0.0,0.05995701022063736,0.0,0.0,0.12015986683503875,0.0,0.0,0.08517471931836251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036087765555137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881906637263951,0.0,0.0,0.08555718141580712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04830997506413755,0.0,0.0,0.1318900286535992,0.0,0.0,0.14408601879370986,0.0837664516102304,0.2047526142668675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069072047848,0.0,0.0,0.06220864658684457,0.08893967095623845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360642489894843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176249784091152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213500261756226,0.0,0.0,0.09710362194993197
parenting,mandahm,2020/01/16,"Returning to work and terrified I’m hoping there might be some advice for me from others who have gone through this.

I’m returning to work next week after 7 months on maternity leave. My husband and I are swapping out, so he’ll be staying home with our little one. I’m so worried about how I can go about maintaining some semblance of work/life balance. I’m a secondary English teacher, so my marking load is heavy. 

On top of this, I’m worried my little man won’t know me anymore. I’m so aware that kids understand the time you spend with them, not the things you do to provide for them. It makes me anxious that I won’t get enough quality time to make sure he knows I love him.

Any advice is welcome.",3.4665172855313666,4.929738788732396,4.3191933418694015,87.08861075544176,73.08450704225352,7.135467349551858,29.106274007682448,7.686295010490155,1.7358647887323944,556,23,113,7,11,179,94,142,0.09,0.8109999999999999,0.099,0.2886,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,2,3,8,4,0,0,3,0,11,1,0,3,1,17,28,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,8,5,0,0,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,16,4,18,21,3,17,0,0,0,1,14,6,0,4,8,69,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215435366518916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188253217382182,0.0,0.0,0.1858662376983735,0.16316443093598096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699981387309339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595743775509146,0.0,0.09350325736033918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503182784103765,0.16341028770859906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808370974046689,0.0,0.0,0.1742080487664641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32979422138567993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484900904858863,0.0,0.2196432148962948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453485431073126,0.0,0.0,0.13132215666307395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749740325459887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148628869990328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536158742300126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550627134873967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093029923087914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918715131434568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712761594597043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197190169145964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593281263598814,0.3341659200324528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wakentines,2020/01/16,"When activities get serious (dance) So out 9 yr old is getting pretty serious about dance. She already was taking 4 classes, she asked for more classes (different styles of dance) and now she was selected for a scholarship to another program on top of the classes she was already taking. All together this adds up to about 8 hours of dance a week, plus of course time commuting to and from class.

She loves it, she makes lots of friends, loves her teachers, and I can see she does excel. She has ambitions of an actual dance career and I while I know that's a tough and short lived road, I do see a path there she could pursue if she wants to stick with it. 

I've never been in a situation like this. As a kid I just wanted to read books and be on my own. How do I support her ambition while making sure she still balances her life? She's doing great at school, no troubles there at all.",4.475719696969693,5.367203011363635,5.2152272727272715,83.79492424242427,70.02272727272728,8.821212121212124,28.303030303030305,9.075114841892004,2.13686893939394,694,24,142,13,12,225,114,176,0.051,0.784,0.165,0.9712,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,10,12,0,0,8,0,12,3,0,3,4,24,27,14,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,10,0,0,1,7,1,5,2,4,0,0,4,2,22,8,26,21,5,25,0,0,2,2,20,10,0,2,11,97,27,11,0.0,0.0,0.158811536242004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35917701904920896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706479088519107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521406710659598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993527916627026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002948884126146,0.0,0.0,0.1424155627759684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573313132558012,0.0,0.17005069269605647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942229645307872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026689736516214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943808261951917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494863340424526,0.07950693006130961,0.0,0.1437030998824616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835640072686262,0.29375983515899295,0.0,0.2172614832094118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551573056587628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707690840641779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556589067915586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627848308332918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470236867058435,0.2593666803948545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829274675030393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299650058048813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846763209069021,0.15338126943121966,0.0,0.24472164277689915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489546387960103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19197746984023428,0.0,0.1305408460579625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Subtle-Sabotage,2020/01/16,"Tips on feeding a teething baby? So my daughter will be 6 months next week. I started introducing baby foods at about 3 and a half months. Feeding her solids has never been a problem. She hasn’t disliked any food that I’ve introduced so far, opens her mouth for the spoon, spits very little out, and even gets excited when I sit her in the high chair. Just as I had gotten her to the point of eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner with everyone she began teething full force. She now will only eat a bite or too and then clench her mouth shut and refuse to eat. I’ve spoken to her pediatrician about it, who said it’s definitely the teething that’s causing her not to eat. I asked if there was anything I could do to encourage her to eat and she had no suggestions. She just said that my daughter will get past that phase and as long as she’s drinking formula regularly it’s not a problem. I just hate that I’ve lost all the progress we had made. If anyone has any suggestions on how to encourage her to eat while she’s teething, it would be very much appreciated. Thanks in advance!",3.376453790238834,5.257426219626171,3.989657320872277,87.6341329179647,74.18691588785046,7.185462097611631,26.374870197300105,7.984000788550335,1.4624951194184843,857,31,177,13,18,271,122,214,0.043,0.8220000000000001,0.134,0.9620000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,3,13,8,1,0,10,0,16,21,7,3,2,29,28,19,0,6,8,2,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,10,11,14,1,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,1,11,2,25,4,22,10,3,28,0,1,0,0,28,13,0,3,13,114,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538092900199937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907471224356939,0.0,0.09306291011711207,0.0,0.10572328869754287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617392795730362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029265439046033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107845224154612,0.0,0.6943119083758355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469445785591372,0.0,0.0,0.10806173292425528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734962138768607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181690494143273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165233324689597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948512131127913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334525161894915,0.0,0.10008052776216288,0.0,0.0,0.12345039906485142,0.0,0.0,0.10700788989424057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805337016225293,0.0,0.08313369421818785,0.0,0.08722148867705486,0.0,0.1202718207879942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600955675405153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079565935509907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690600198450824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21642249515764744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514776331007746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004523337661766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411749164613246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18662113671615868,0.0,0.0,0.0907134657544926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033543896096726,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmrawlins83,2020/01/16,"Best potty training books? I've received such great advice for books on sleep training here! Now it's time for potty training! So Reddit, what are your favorite potty training books? TIA!",3.421818181818185,6.621047545454547,2.717333333333336,87.33600000000001,88.69696969696967,2.64,24.78181818181818,3.1291,0.4067018181818178,151,6,22,0,5,44,25,33,0.0,0.62,0.38,0.9557,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,12,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549645456552005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4886030254422595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133094131914611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465921518606195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714865200229336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yakodman,2020/01/16,"Fear of death and general anxiety in 4 year old Hello everyone!

I have been a long time lurker and I have an issue that I would like others advice on. My son has just turned 4 and a week before his birthday he started crying and saying things like I dont want to get old. 

When we would probe he would say he does not want to die. This escalated to the point of any mention of his birthday would cause him to say hes not feeling well and vomit. With a lot of comforting and talking he got over it. 

Two days ago he asked me where did earth and all the animals and people come from and my instinct was to say I dont know as I didnt want to burden him with things that are hard to explain. He said ask google and I told him google says it started with a big bang and clouds of dust and rock which over time came together and made planets and we were eventually created. I mention this to mention that he is a very bright young boy but he seems anxious quite a bit. He picks at the tips of his finger to the point it bleeds and does the same to his lips. He does not participate in school group activities but does his own thing, he prefers more one on one play and has a strong personality where he wants to lead but he is the youngest in his class so others dont necessarily want to follow.

Outside of this he is healthy, laughs and plays a lot and is a joy to everyone who knows him with a personality larger than life. I have generalised anxiety and I dont want my son to suffer from this, what can I do to ease his smart curious mind.",4.018692722371966,4.562866682389938,4.935840071877808,86.64613207547173,70.8553459119497,8.321293800539085,26.149146451033243,8.418075326091056,1.4032693620844563,1207,35,270,18,21,394,165,318,0.08199999999999999,0.78,0.139,0.9772,0,0,0,0,0,1,16.0,2,0,0,3,6,14,0,1,17,0,26,5,2,4,1,60,50,25,2,11,7,2,3,2,0,4,3,6,0,3,18,27,0,0,6,3,0,4,8,3,1,3,10,10,29,11,38,36,7,30,0,1,1,0,50,13,0,3,15,167,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841902161971728,0.07637170569456644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05858873526416933,0.0,0.13181753530800894,0.09733125970137033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610876370849251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331203598341103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405955752855084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853900864478796,0.0,0.08850549285812796,0.0,0.0742153862865989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463783721015936,0.055563208789172105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941586916916543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015812449223974,0.0,0.4038946991095779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646506595710459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694895777758283,0.04356283986861317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04501272420966637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890647186761276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717845916787716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992402082121424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094697685330561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085422001722107,0.08418250955328113,0.0,0.0,0.07624495952609238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649275248038493,0.0,0.08152247411552414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699255550585616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18081153478762468,0.0,0.11676247448664198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05972941737269974,0.15045542379895396,0.0,0.0,0.1628897044543128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916370432578058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195366707442532,0.3425717970898245,0.0,0.0871940264412664,0.0,0.07843278613331395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219626977499651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924857568918848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171713777536214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047599987129943,0.0,0.0,0.08232532978552295,0.0,0.0,0.09371250919072632,0.08416146331962387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108736001798119,0.30490068934326925,0.0,0.06910879348437783,0.0,0.07746419539159112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24480975186885603,0.0,0.0,0.055481355979737024
parenting,alegun1,2020/01/16,"How does laundry work in your house? My fiancé and I have been dating for almost a year now and we live together. He has 2 kids I have none but I’m currently pregnant. Since I’ve been with him and helping with the kids it’s been maybe 6 months I’ve been doing all the laundry in the house mines his and kids 2 kids (8) and (12).
It have been extremely exhausting and especially while being pregnant I can’t do it on my own anymore. 
I will wash, dry, and fold not to mention his son puts clean clothes in the hamper constantly and I’ve brought it to my fiancé’s attention and it gets sweep under the rug. Lastly I currently do not work so wanted some opinions from stay at home moms. 

What are your opinions on asking him to ask his kids to fold their laundry I’ll wash and dry but they need to fold? 

What age did your kids start doing their own laundry?",1.8034588235294144,3.903630925714285,2.9218487394957973,92.44932773109244,79.74285714285716,5.946218487394957,22.294117647058826,7.048011613610866,0.5964050420168068,672,21,144,8,17,215,99,175,0.022000000000000002,0.9359999999999999,0.042,0.494,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,3,3,2,3,1,0,0,6,0,18,3,0,1,1,26,26,15,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,6,7,13,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,7,0,21,0,16,17,5,21,0,0,0,0,25,7,0,4,11,91,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19753895277200254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564036050056507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688445227834137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21318045411951075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263365515937415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306623823368204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222695581113592,0.0,0.19787944043733316,0.0,0.0,0.4552497448948726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080263562115482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419438512816907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818577830824255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310420449097688,0.1574602621655692,0.0,0.0,0.14627434823692848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19831238574687285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318505749069412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962981226562854,0.21026521518558355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635586617349868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872320630821075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270364047796804
parenting,LJCat89,2020/01/16,"Is this a phase? So my husband and I have a 2 year old boy. He's your typical energetic, loving, playful toddler. The issue that I seem to be having, is that it seems that currently, my son prefers my husband over me. For example, this morning when he woke up, he went into our bedroom and was greeted by my husband. I was in the kitchen doing my morning routine and getting ready for work. I go in to say good morning to him and he says ""no mommy stop it! go away!!"" It broke my heart. This has been going on for a few days now. He doesn't do it like all day or even everyday, but it still hurts. I know that I shouldn't take it personally because he's only 2, but still. 

My husband says he thinks our son associates me with punishments and that he may be acting like that because he doesn't like it when I get mad at him. Now, before you ask, I do not hit my child or abuse him or anything like that. As mentioned before, he has A LOT of energy. We live in an apartment on the top floor and I do have to tell him a lot about no running or no jumping or stomping. When he won't listen I do get stern with him. My husband says I can be sharp with him, but that it isn't necessarily a bad thing. Our son, as any toddler, just doesn't like to listen most times and it does get me frustrated at times. 

I am absolutely trying my very best to work on my patience and come up with different approaches to get my son to listen more but this whole ""mommy go away"" deal just makes me so sad. Again, I know he's only 2 but regardless, I want to have a great relationship with my son, but I know that the whole parent/friendship line is a hard one to balance. 

​

Advice??",3.009566473988436,3.9323932167630105,4.472339884393062,87.64867167630061,73.47976878612718,7.38571098265896,26.556763005780354,7.699297019823105,1.2991636069364163,1287,44,284,16,25,430,165,346,0.146,0.763,0.091,-0.9698,3,0,0,0,1,0,50.0,4,2,0,4,14,17,3,0,13,0,29,3,1,1,1,47,56,26,0,4,14,10,2,5,0,3,0,7,2,3,23,16,1,1,7,1,0,10,10,7,0,1,5,9,44,10,37,44,9,44,0,3,0,1,50,17,0,11,22,192,67,2,0.0,0.12282256830641765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129734727329197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231777872098636,0.12596072687156876,0.07049374298384123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853050276257206,0.0,0.09691001551183596,0.0,0.19478780078318947,0.0,0.08655347473643935,0.1263828367576881,0.0,0.17641752459528773,0.0,0.10878691717775156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929566993970464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370688211925988,0.10687101306364656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830477008959967,0.0,0.0,0.09071535113554467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846780079054629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707956911112321,0.0,0.23565410844549906,0.0869468022484873,0.0,0.11428776677932945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286082793796853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284001836216545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097235947958584,0.0,0.0,0.10819623914498472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709098411347629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532201866718302,0.0,0.09153548187434116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762595214896749,0.0935590397444419,0.0,0.06919521769041094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877587478516293,0.0,0.07024408215594682,0.15767930759412688,0.0,0.0,0.11510442957712592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051369625907167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129423819963526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32974486455359864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874005872489832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556928059146575,0.08666610842332571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794095435305835,0.0,0.0906051934130913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688684542392183,0.06642245054202447,0.0,0.0,0.12089234012367392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703797216642903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553204065444348,0.06114255790312055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609575107190417,0.0,0.2314699348341862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509344017296353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596072687156876,0.06675495607126478
parenting,ovrpaid-undrwhelmed,2020/01/16,"2.5yr old cant stand to be away from me So, quickly to preface, I’m entirely sure that changes in her life are the cause of these issues but I’m looking for advice on how to correct and overcome them !

We recently put our 2.5yr old in a twin bed in a new room that we designed for her. She was happy to leave her crib and the transition was quite smooth aside from the odd wake up and needing me to sit with her for a few minutes before sleeping.

Her behaviour has gotten much worse lately however, such as :

- she needs to replay or redo events throughout the day if she feels they can be done differently. For example this morning the lights were bright on the walk downstairs, she had her eyes closed, about halfway down the stairs I said she could open her eyes if she wanted. She immediately started screaming that she wanted to do it again, so she ran back up the stairs, told me to come too and we had to start over, even me asking her to walk down the stairs needs to be repeated this happens a few times a day. It’s almost like she’s a perfectionist.

- I can no longer leave my house nor can she leave the house without me. It’s immediate explosion of screaming and crying, and more recently, constantly saying she needs to ask me a question ( to stall me ) but the question never comes. Just screaming and crying that she needs to ask me something.

We are frustrated. I’m yelling more than I ever want to. Recently my partner and I formed a united front, to help correct and calm each other when it’s getting too much. Which is helping us feel better, because we don’t ever want to yell, but nothing we do with our toddler works.


Please please someone give me a hand here. She is an extremely bright little girl, and I just don’t want her to feel this way.",4.700009633911368,5.768265855491331,4.935968208092486,85.35179431599232,69.63583815028902,7.7319845857418095,28.578516377649326,7.937092434478242,1.7050909441233135,1390,49,277,17,24,437,186,346,0.102,0.76,0.138,0.9324,2,0,1,0,1,0,37.0,9,0,2,3,17,11,1,0,21,0,23,6,5,2,6,57,54,22,0,13,9,0,5,1,1,0,1,7,2,2,14,23,0,0,5,0,0,7,7,4,0,0,10,18,50,7,43,40,8,50,0,0,5,0,47,18,0,6,23,194,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875164375809239,0.0,0.0,0.0896808313968649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25117792968338026,0.0,0.08414403174238941,0.06886567279346678,0.0,0.05459459671023653,0.0,0.07620847778851643,0.0,0.0,0.07920803705672826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920022039514298,0.09474200081643812,0.15429503604751166,0.0,0.09678192627185267,0.0,0.07150591660807183,0.0,0.19675365492824756,0.1155168453874743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357054164203027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165039032457098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915315825618705,0.16202326196466868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585181491684878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04679110526829716,0.08591356512285939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919710736616146,0.0953376776128258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200595949691586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667911337216185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347677569557987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102693694311922,0.2844915121239793,0.0,0.0,0.06325847335039607,0.04375421322990178,0.08976207605036138,0.0,0.0,0.07520736431361721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167297043633575,0.33203590931918514,0.06907375287476658,0.08649705469135059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593468763914229,0.0,0.18795511061632827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661871788917726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003196271169057,0.2006541144290052,0.09525747692095243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652873950770789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851915259636501,0.0712212526614306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962410783457113,0.0,0.07588341363320505,0.06894722398820045,0.0,0.0,0.1267812497337944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440870202121417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052222823317876116,0.0,0.0,0.08557787247665531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772896602875907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641223583984865,0.07108810616015003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633209370318963,0.0,0.06520033102223431,0.0,0.09126870951467896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DiabeticStormtrooper,2020/01/16,"Old parents of Reddit, how did you handle and overcame challenges of becoming and being a parent in late years? What are the biggest challenges of having a child in late 40s/50s+? What are some issues younger parents don't experience? How did your behaviour changed over the years? How did your child handle it/ is handling it?

I don't mean to be disrespectful to anyone, I'm just curious.",3.8376408450704247,6.8692660563380326,4.158573943661973,81.05504401408452,78.5774647887324,6.366901408450705,30.00176056338028,7.645422480735847,2.362843661971832,314,15,51,5,8,98,48,71,0.0,0.914,0.086,0.594,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,3,0,8,13,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,8,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,5,38,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982540032350496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22085388161471656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154435741493152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956114469600216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871930376532832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4511553117531985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178286433134896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098374678365716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6661372869749126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575514281121907
parenting,bre_huh,2020/01/16,"I’m just tired. Really that’s it. I’m just tired. I stay at home with my 2 year old (28 months). I can’t get anything done. I can’t eat or drink when he’s awake. I can’t clean the house when he’s awake. I can’t workout when he’s awake. I can’t get on my phone when he’s awake. Nothing. 

I play with him constantly. I take him to the park, to local kids areas/play places, and we go for walks often (when the weather is nice). He’s up my ass and attached to me every second of every day. Some days I’m literally in tears by the time my husband gets home and I just have to peel my child off of me, give him to his dad, and go upstairs to our room to cry. I promote independent play and he will play on his own for awhile...but if I do ANYTHING other than sit on my ass, he will stop playing and come see what I’m doing (like uhhh when I’m just going to the bathroom for 2 seconds or filling up a small glass with water to drink so I don’t dehydrate) He has full blown meltdowns when I’m doing something *interesting* (AKA mundane) and he can’t be involved in it. Some days I just turn on the tv so I don’t have to be touched and not hear any meltdowns. Some days I yell back at him and then I fucking hate myself after. Some days I can handle every meltdown like it’s nothing. I never know what each day will be like. 

I love my son more than life. I love being a mom more than life. I’m so freaking grateful I can stay home with my kid and be there for everything. But I am so tired. I feel like I shut down a little bit more every day. I keep thinking it’s going to be easier but it just gets harder. Maybe I’m not cut out for this stay at home mom job. Maybe it’s just the “terrible twos”. The thought of leaving him every day to work another job causes me panic. I’ve never been away from him. 

I feel like the most invested mom yet the worst mom all in one. I don’t have anything really profound to say. I’m just....tired.",-0.14893131795279754,1.7764562124105048,2.09431662688942,96.63147759215065,85.9212410501193,4.8700291699814375,18.380323521612304,6.079149491110277,-0.35044952532484697,1479,38,354,12,45,499,187,419,0.1,0.8370000000000001,0.064,-0.9331,2,0,3,0,0,0,55.0,2,0,0,2,22,20,3,1,13,0,31,14,2,2,3,50,64,27,0,1,14,7,3,5,0,3,5,3,6,3,11,18,4,2,5,8,1,7,13,7,0,3,3,7,49,13,47,52,14,61,0,0,1,5,36,23,3,9,32,209,60,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04997982591892936,0.07706700376048768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181442930263482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905194675580277,0.05651391634757399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023863785575683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550067612781397,0.0,0.06331032869007436,0.0,0.0794231068022535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073194629958874,0.3791909131007688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521196384095567,0.0,0.14399627341408894,0.0,0.07520479486762043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096179080795616,0.0,0.06605349962814347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432360993458803,0.10501116802861672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794590254939213,0.1535945850336013,0.07050409638829147,0.1670779677550434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725621212918512,0.0,0.0,0.08283537601126392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294890073233709,0.0,0.0,0.08480455973279337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586695357469798,0.06532665524201255,0.0,0.0,0.04039150022957996,0.0,0.0,0.07782169192861244,0.0,0.0,0.10382484991967364,0.17953225794689168,0.07366233787199633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326660869927494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767329680646066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34431068428801465,0.05866383609482265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336935031433805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410428607343576,0.0,0.07712172819632931,0.0,0.04980281723434585,0.0,0.0,0.08623176462879449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767877165567539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941668874416758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058446999089789876,0.0,0.0,0.058566826478611285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658084050891987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23501099167076506,0.0,0.061445978447502325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055259873651680086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047093293314841404,0.0,0.05834764434252938,0.04285613061926805,0.25341865087850585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994258409334475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350599077533806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04732903861314853
parenting,rare_snark,2020/01/16,"Dealing with daycare illness Our 7 month old boy started daycare 2 days a week 2 weeks ago. The first week he picked up a cold and the second week low and behold, another cold. 

I've got a suppressed immune system so in turn I caught the first cold and will probably get the second one and because of the dodgy immune system is like a normal persons cold X10.

I'm trying to weigh up if it's worth sticking it out or if we are going to be better off taking him out of daycare in regards to the cost of taking days off work vs keeping him at home. I know that kids are bound to pick up crap but I did not expect it to happen for the first 2 weeks in a row. 

How does everyone deal with daycare illnesses. Bonus points if you or another family member have some kind of immune issue.

Location Australia if it matters",3.213790209790212,4.710407218181821,4.521212121212127,85.2541258741259,73.78787878787878,6.773892773892776,25.41958041958042,7.321109707123232,1.2415174825174824,641,21,125,7,13,212,105,165,0.066,0.83,0.10300000000000001,0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,1,0,6,2,6,1,0,12,0,7,7,1,3,0,29,19,13,0,6,9,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,3,5,9,1,3,1,0,3,2,1,2,0,6,3,4,8,4,23,14,1,31,0,1,0,0,11,13,1,7,15,76,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196817268596596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28314781260024496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823032552084368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940887342825435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741456660493324,0.2783869230416343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815162386561183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901162208458242,0.0,0.0,0.12727914299651233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344528409291434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053922018732334,0.0,0.0767315433245595,0.0,0.10798299540282733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939239653921638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543000752492598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409194936811867,0.0,0.12000660875406745,0.0,0.14059626000779668,0.07420014000538774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659609997124451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776685259888463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228501196468065,0.0,0.0,0.14167443638140406,0.0,0.09148895164693488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788897977266105,0.0,0.0,0.12763183000467365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556788145778068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556357388137424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302738637234025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916656144495422,0.14685641529538074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5415002630998186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829176891403507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mikrohn,2020/01/16,"Am I wrong here? So my tiny's FIRST birthday was yesterday! His grandparents (my in laws) send me a text message early in the morning wishing him a happy birthday. Then, they called to Facetime with him before they went to a dinner with friends. (We live 5 hours away.) My aunt from another country sent him a text with happy birthday wishes for him before I even woke up. My biological father texted me last night with happy birthday wishes for him. (We don't really talk and I've seen him once in my life before I got married.) My aunt from my biological dad's side texted me wishing him a happy birthday and saying that my biological dad already showed her pictures I sent him. My brother in law drew him a dinosaur birthday card and sent it to us in a text. 
Meanwhile, MY OWN MOM, step dad, and siblings said NOTHING. It was not until I posted about his birthday and what great fun we had that they posted a comment. 

I am SO livid. I can't understand how even people I don't normally talk to (my dad) remember about my baby's birthday, but my own parents who I talk to a lot, and come visit at least once every 2 or 3 months don't say a word! Am I wrong for being this upset?!",3.5464453860640286,4.938735970338981,4.9233333333333364,83.11705273069681,72.77118644067797,6.9393596986817325,27.517890772128066,7.3871296695380915,1.5115845574387945,923,34,180,10,18,308,125,236,0.04,0.857,0.10300000000000001,0.8370000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,3,1,8,10,0,1,11,0,11,2,0,1,0,29,25,13,0,5,3,10,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,7,14,1,0,2,1,0,8,5,3,0,1,11,4,45,7,25,13,4,28,0,0,1,0,45,9,0,2,9,120,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390462228107237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823401593056103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096977553823568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634950430890122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539803693792064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891394227945526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635021925704835,0.0,0.08696637460985987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779794317164988,0.0,0.0,0.07974666569575012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255358314323208,0.11379920107578236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4395137513932129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164982412773543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413717952241742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290656125102582,0.0,0.0,0.09114417930223118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775301719847982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088872756786,0.0823883408023475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968639449256772,0.10113260604682003,0.09904131788396492,0.0,0.0,0.21984951849990733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461237274372645,0.0,0.0,0.07155898843068728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771034673293747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612467008039545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692689179339814,0.0,0.09818481029938303,0.16416762354581446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488903246283363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745451457279644,0.1241596270713073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956849539275258,0.0,0.0,0.4747865615940917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22570732602280025,0.0,0.0
parenting,Usernamecujo,2020/01/16,"My son's penis is smaller than his cousins As the title says, my 13 month old sons penis size is normal but his 3 year old cousin is rather....hung? It obviously doesn't pose a problem but the other night as I was bathing my son, his cousin asked me why is ""peanut"" is so small. This got me thinking that as my son gets older and behind to catch up developmentally to his cousin, this sort of thing could embarrass him greatly. The thing is, my son is the normal one, and his cousin is abmnormally large but it's hard to explain that to a child. 

Any advice?",3.8212499999999987,4.870241482142858,4.5146428571428565,87.63035714285715,71.67857142857143,7.028571428571429,23.82142857142857,7.1686216300943375,0.6862464285714287,434,11,94,4,8,139,70,112,0.044000000000000004,0.93,0.027000000000000003,-0.2199,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,6,0,11,0,0,0,1,13,16,9,0,4,3,10,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,9,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,2,14,1,11,13,0,9,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,1,6,58,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21306949110155807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827699192248514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038411492854087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408991594686746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139186793152631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438922902931225,0.2403936229554723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953240621260477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404016502345482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461896423100875,0.427272482349568,0.0,0.0,0.4575997478408256,0.0,0.14775185373299302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086380904701083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17339686668752438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897166982687624,0.13971340924185327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967502578609809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041280350844296
parenting,jjustice8675309,2020/01/16,"The hardest thing about being a Single Parent Hi! I was debating the other day that since I was a single parent I didn't think that loneliness was the hardest thing about being a single parent, that the financial responsibility is.
a) do you think ""loneliness"" includes ""financial responsibility""? or do you think that is separate?
b) what do you think the hardest part about being a single parent is? Is it one of those 2 or something else?",4.17625,6.964816124999999,5.8625000000000025,70.8425,75.25,8.0,26.25,8.841846274778883,2.5915,350,13,55,8,8,119,38,80,0.0,0.951,0.049,0.555,4,0,1,0,4,0,13.0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,10,0,14,0,0,0,0,6,18,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,6,0,4,11,5,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,1,52,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385636332938645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747997293955092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963087633070632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7841254868580771,0.1911800964323733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603913460687018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591230194387455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345761601351165,0.4524894181824066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anon10000000000001,2020/01/16,"4 y.o is truly testing me and everyone. Help! Hey everyone, I’m not really sure where to start. Our toddler is very active and has trouble listening. Big surprise right? But, it’s now becoming more of a safety issue now. Before he wasn’t big enough to climb on top of chairs and was easier to watch over him. Now he’s constantly on counter tops, chairs, and tables. We try things like asking him “can you please get down?” To being more direct “sit your butt down”. He’s also constantly hitting us and pushing. I noticed it maybe because he wants attention, which he gets from not just me but my in laws in the same house. As of now, my next concern is also his interaction with our little dogs that he sometimes kicks or throw things at. I caught the dog a few times giving him warning bites. I’m scared I won’t be home one day and the dog latches at his face.
We all tried explaining to him in many different ways to not treat the dogs like that and also what may happen if he does. 

TLDR; toddler keeps climbing on top of things and has fallen and hurt himself many times. Toddler constantly hits anyone who tries to show authority . Toddler also abuses the dogs.",3.041040876527603,5.281543946902655,3.905372945638433,86.23113569321535,76.34513274336283,6.782638010956595,24.036241045090605,7.793537801064563,1.312664812473662,916,30,175,14,21,293,143,226,0.106,0.777,0.11699999999999999,-0.7538,1,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,5,2,0,5,11,8,0,1,7,0,12,2,2,0,2,29,27,18,0,2,8,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,10,12,0,1,2,1,0,6,5,3,0,1,3,2,21,5,25,18,6,39,0,1,1,1,29,19,1,3,14,108,31,1,0.0,0.1419279370326307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831742928231359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375781412763038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119846195129307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302100723297265,0.13229526482922946,0.10192986381682867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883413834427808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725266702984314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251518576884137,0.0,0.0,0.10482635904289124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377193081825985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289231104047544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516746499180464,0.114910548630731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592719606500292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029066135575008,0.0,0.12015606835955897,0.0,0.0,0.13821804667368534,0.12823439751958154,0.0,0.0,0.12502644447416647,0.0,0.10647213677809664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704369711497932,0.12005798374715534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428903131468001,0.12034208239960666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739477039540814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637822593773818,0.0,0.0,0.08117073113364652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149008955341746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673858153700308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229739285929472,0.0,0.0,0.1199276246487532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847234730364505,0.0,0.08478581317261465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128977739964005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387433621908961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969745685495194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439824091568407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408894069386374,0.0,0.0,0.09883677118679796,0.07065344120177172,0.09508129791029926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Saffles16,2020/01/16,"I'm just losing it today My 3.5 year old daughter first took her crayons and drew on the carpet, the door, her pant and my blanket. So I took away her crayons. It old her it's not ok and she said sorry and helped me clean up. Then later today she grabbed a marker and drew allll over her t-shirt. So I took away her markers and color pencils too. Her dad scolded her this time.

This whole week, she keeps doing a bit of pee in her pants. Then she might tell me she needs to go or she might just sit around in pee-soaked pants and not tell me at all til I notice her. Which just means I have to look around the house for wet spots to clean as well. She's been toilet trained for a year and I just don't get why she's doing this. I got really angry and yelled at her for a while. 
I know I shouldn't but I guess I was hoping she'd be scared into not doing it any more. Now I'm thinking I've traumatised her. I did give her a hug and told her I love you before she went to sleep. I couldn't read her bedtime story today either because my younger daughter (11 months) was screaming to be breastfed and put to sleep.

I just feel like a bad parent today. I'm so sick and tired of washing pants. We're travelling overseas in 3 days and I've just been more stressed as a result with a constant list of things to do in my head that never seems to shorten. 
I need some advice for what I should do to curb her pants wetting and some advice to curb my own temper with her",1.7343269230769207,3.161123266025643,2.818846153846156,96.22615384615385,77.55769230769229,5.3128205128205135,19.69230769230769,5.369823440869387,-0.40023461538461547,1137,24,265,4,26,363,165,312,0.129,0.8009999999999999,0.07,-0.9612,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,0,2,14,12,1,2,11,1,20,9,4,1,2,53,45,25,0,6,12,4,4,1,0,4,3,3,4,0,11,19,0,3,5,2,0,7,7,6,1,1,12,9,52,6,36,25,9,43,0,1,2,2,39,14,0,8,22,173,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145863933496572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700984474195497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835274506619467,0.0,0.0,0.1936955229388232,0.0,0.08606812379337511,0.06283707079664552,0.0,0.08771412928495367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253748554209744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139367482203323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647855858652088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05212072638549964,0.07364091115943179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768043658084568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05385543939453608,0.09888445192974743,0.05858316791979042,0.0,0.08244309547389267,0.0,0.11355507181197172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579059226623884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909285646833126,0.0,0.0,0.10238244735968624,0.0,0.11894135007612727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162291031195656,0.0,0.0,0.05665048653095814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050360049529651535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865618716974199,0.115320996542019,0.0,0.0,0.09303440490672543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228516012017437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187047802738631,0.0,0.0,0.08227807428926108,0.0,0.0,0.1528661457224844,0.07950223210949882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735812149275535,0.21633182226942016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445897838505947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362462873207184,0.0,0.0,0.10310864898341528,0.0,0.06603617046105917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805340218308488,0.0,0.10320181720424693,0.0,0.0,0.09384084687858546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063103951102614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539046460901756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807865528167832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180194244696627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848227252537997,0.06604998485986238,0.0,0.0,0.06010721653358789,0.11847616277919132,0.3908340070007127,0.09849807774903142,0.3435795311387345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826851630172642,0.0,0.09268197722772882,0.0955568915570293,0.09301434717977558,0.11508598046708975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276125171076622
parenting,asakk,2020/01/16,"My 2.5 year old don't talk yet So 6 months ago when he was 2 we went to a see some meds and the psychologist didn't found some issues with my son (no autism) i was releived. The other meds told us that a speech therapist is still early.

Then another specialist in language proposed to proceed with a blood test too see if there's a problem with some chromosones. => we are still waiting the results. 

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He went to nursery at 18month hoping for him to speak but no improvement.

And he began preschool this month, even if it's difficult and seems to not understand (or he doesn't want to understand) what his teacher is telling him. He participates in class activities in his own way, is nice to his teachers and loves to play. 

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He is a lot talkative in his own blabbering, he understand a lot of things but doesn't talk for example when he wanna something he points it with his finger or takes my hand :( 

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His pediatrician advised us to wait 2 months to see if there is any improvement if not we'll see a speech therapist.

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Concerning my family i stopped talking to them about that as i have the same speech everytime ""XX didn't talked until he was 3 and XX also was a late talker or don't waste time and money he'll talk....""

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But when i'm seeing other children talking or even saying simple words I can't help comparing and it's worst now at preschool every child talk so well :( 

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If you have some advice it'll be great!",4.4742952169781445,6.126665933797909,4.8336157744694335,83.64334098828002,70.84668989547038,8.145011086474502,29.421761165663604,8.710501217029153,2.259684320557492,1181,47,227,21,22,373,155,287,0.091,0.7829999999999999,0.126,0.9298,0,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,5,1,1,0,17,9,0,0,12,0,22,4,3,1,0,48,44,28,0,9,14,1,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,2,11,13,0,3,5,1,1,2,11,3,1,0,11,12,23,6,28,29,10,31,0,0,5,1,44,7,0,17,21,144,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060395427149838574,0.054786672322858256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049425678778928214,0.0,0.4017961223055772,0.4506012511653398,0.04202972568880448,0.0648082494918131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164363995828684,0.0,0.05207363373387363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05826453949031842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776632505125645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814056516224917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04142679205203085,0.0,0.0,0.061386611776454124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450867920102325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971907425593682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050893175008325,0.0557816993356164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730351808152824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479972104895559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485426912042544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584259889283878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059139328340831215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915005792661824,0.0,0.0,0.2462541241492757,0.05626522694726736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047580742071597064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871559022404484,0.05167200107935144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046469896372697515,0.3477373319638581,0.054020559328310985,0.0,0.0,0.1435214417222185,0.041060697272803634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03603916942274128,0.0,0.0,0.059057615982401473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19302450148176886,0.14868834014641272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03645436925046041,0.04905817301858698,0.0,0.0,0.055570390252196684,0.11458827085795616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4506012511653398,0.039800589006694975
parenting,Pizzalover1011,2020/01/16,"Please help me with disciplining my kids I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, going on 6 this coming September. Anyways, he has 2 boys. They have gotten a lot worse lately with disrespecting and not listening. We have tried taking tablets away. When then get told “fuck you i hate you!” my boyfriend has tried spanking. and that has the same result as the tablets. we have even tried putting them in their room to calm down for 5 minutes and they fight back. what else can we do? please help. they are 6 and 8. please don’t come at me for them swearing. they know it’s wrong and only do it when they are mad at us to make us even more mad.",1.1988372093023258,3.640095240310078,1.4849302325581384,99.7339069767442,84.96899224806202,4.68031007751938,18.67751937984497,6.079149491110277,-0.4197931782945736,502,13,114,4,15,150,84,129,0.171,0.728,0.10099999999999999,-0.902,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,5,2,8,0,6,7,5,0,3,0,14,1,0,2,0,20,26,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,13,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,6,0,0,3,1,22,1,15,23,3,17,0,0,0,1,23,7,1,1,6,75,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791299887589468,0.12105586066606668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712282858435284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151463712849756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796533870494946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554379245745636,0.08225197387903264,0.0,0.08947250735788179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543198228762728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110473478390192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865207747028725,0.0,0.17759069658382806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338434660648317,0.0,0.0,0.10508740398841578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973449647846088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184407663129148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582631272071576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836963349097995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043348284277885,0.0,0.3206589627140867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37874378256314944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043714864031444,0.0,0.17212770452546844,0.0,0.10138135655958926
parenting,zariao,2020/01/16,Are store bought pancakes okay for breakfast? I'm just wondering if store bought pancakes are okay to give to my 1 year old for breakfast. I usually put organic peanut butter on them after toasting them. I serve them with grapes or orange segments. It's just much handier buying them than making them from scratch. But I'm worried they might have too much salt or sugar in them. What do y'all think?,3.89212406015038,6.308685618421055,3.704812030075189,87.83868421052631,74.39473684210526,6.448120300751881,26.646616541353367,7.447530270364453,1.4680774436090234,321,12,59,4,7,97,56,76,0.03,0.912,0.057,0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,7,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,1,0,11,13,4,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,11,2,10,10,3,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,5,4,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891045913254495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011689209059513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31970929144107624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430878901622502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162404293463846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029632602112313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931077485622205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319199521290865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268263304611521,0.0,0.3060590675118868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19407443066461386
parenting,jethrospike,2020/01/16,"Teenage son 'tissues' Hi all,   


Bit of an embarrassing one and probably a fairly common one for those of us raising teenagers. My son is 16 years old and obviously growing into a young man. I do look mother him a bit, but he is largely gaining his independence and responsible.   


Anyway, onto the slightly gross uncomfortable stuff. I often give his room a clean over and collect laundry, open the curtains etc. Over the last few months or more I had noticed tissues down the side of his bed, underneath the bed etc. Now most us sexually active women know what men are like, but when it comes to your son its not great to think about. At first I was quite naive and picked these stiffened and scrunched tissues up without considering it, but it is now pretty clear to me they are semen covered tissues probably from the night before. There is literally a new one every day pretty much. I left it for awhile hoping he would take them out the room and it didn't really help.   


Whats prompted me to reach boiling point with this is the other day on a weekend my son had got up to have a shower, and when I went to to pick up any empty glasses and laundry, I picked up a pair of boxers next to his bed and a moment or so later felt something wet on my hand and looked down to see the boxers must have been pretty much just been ejaculated onto and folder over. It honestly was the hugest amount and it had touched my hand virtually still warm.  I feel embarrassed and angry and don't know how to confront this without causing everyone embarrassment.",7.3152923728813555,6.970929196610173,7.320625000000002,75.41653072033903,63.8135593220339,9.815677966101696,34.03072033898305,9.188382445141503,2.905716101694916,1223,46,226,18,16,393,178,295,0.09300000000000001,0.736,0.172,0.9813,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,2,3,12,10,1,3,20,0,21,3,2,6,4,48,35,24,0,3,9,5,7,1,0,2,0,0,8,3,16,20,1,0,5,1,0,3,5,5,0,4,11,10,24,5,38,22,11,46,0,0,3,0,23,23,0,5,21,163,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799506960621965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004223986372836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567089752595797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077536283092552,0.0,0.10127495951883304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164407281070694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622401877111615,0.0,0.0,0.09905663658947132,0.11234185872463648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059446228942095385,0.0,0.1128843164631914,0.0,0.0,0.10000381169242338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278253731062313,0.0,0.0,0.09403036887834942,0.1296198232443958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880377056721988,0.0,0.0,0.11677217159984128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922528236050584,0.0958341204057769,0.0,0.0,0.12773865420449526,0.0,0.0,0.057438091168042535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974560678422434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384215417371644,0.0,0.17285293282614925,0.0,0.0,0.11354850987775628,0.12503556563349236,0.11033018950335237,0.0,0.0,0.13385265790181874,0.12336849393628575,0.0,0.2390026273922805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114035141540464,0.0,0.0,0.35882867251248296,0.2535177235869968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504870365453616,0.0,0.0,0.07531747118511939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368697183367776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051007079956576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389045516308528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345879466726832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839697380953776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533322718030408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28284115816165994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898729251161206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266639165831449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351737742962759,0.0,0.0,0.07571033935199546
parenting,Maria-skyler12,2020/01/16,"My daughter is hiding things from me I don't know where to discuss this. I have talked to my spouse but he seems so busy with this work that he hardly listens to anything going at home. He thinks it is all drama and he doesn't have time to resolve these issues. I feel like I have been a terrible mother and wife. 

My daughter is 13 year old, she studies. Recently, I have seen her indulged in her laptop so much. we got her a laptop because of her studies. Last night, I walked into her room to see if she was sleeping, and surprisingly, I saw her using her laptop on the bed. I don't know what she was doing. She doesn't tell me anything. She has been different last few days. She doesn't talk much and gets irritated easily, I have asked for a therapist at school but will that suffice? I feel like I am losing her. 

Please tell me how can I make her be open with me? I am not her enemy. How should I tell her this?",1.262255639097745,3.3442528306878363,2.836563631300475,92.44318295739349,81.53968253968253,5.6720690615427465,20.000278473962684,6.8360192770164,0.2293640211640211,711,19,155,8,19,233,108,189,0.068,0.812,0.12,0.8725,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,4,0,25,1,1,4,1,26,41,11,0,2,4,5,3,2,0,2,0,1,3,0,9,9,0,0,7,1,0,2,6,2,0,0,7,7,39,4,15,31,4,18,0,1,3,0,35,8,0,2,10,109,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519245573331749,0.0,0.14309832279808815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330909645908024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871647670663597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992393427035828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479199855005135,0.2187042392522472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997193894625622,0.0,0.08699231834018006,0.0,0.12242280950450153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711925089870822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535401194472062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976367636446415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824481616202852,0.2495424064888308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956300984982152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124442393121458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217436809652633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250458221114396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436443558956881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061957229539986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802317462436694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113661197405606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491342684701934,0.121975723829036,0.13934775320021994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317897790106733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24606121777191725,0.40136567347756413,0.0,0.0,0.17772424928447542,0.1016918658332626,0.09808007168817127,0.0,0.0,0.08925543463936865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322019805863191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114356427762916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857105276276998
parenting,RealGaleo,2020/01/16,"Change after Orchiopexy First some context: I'm a father of 3 reaching out to parents who have had baby boys undergo orchiopexy (undescended testes surgery). My 2nd born son who is now 7, was almost a year old when he had this procedure done, I was very apprehensive about the whole thing but ultimately acquiesced due to multiple doctors (from a reputable children's hospital) advising me that to not go through with the procedure placed him at risk of cancer and infertility once he reached adulthood. 

Now, as to my concern/question, I know some of you might think how can I possibly have determined my son's personality before the age of 1? The answer is I don't know. What I do know is that my son was a peaceful and quiet child. Rarely whined for anything besides the obvious hunger or diaper change. After the surgery, and I mean immediately after the surgery once he came to from the anesthesia, he was changed. At first I thought the obvious explanation was he just came out of this, I would be upset too. But days, weeks, and months passed and he was never the same child before surgery. He became rowdy, aggressive, whinny. Assuming there had been a change to his hormone levels because of the surgery, I asked medical professionals and they denied the surgery had any effect on his behavior instead saying ""it's just him, he's growing up"". To this day he remains rash, impulsive, and while not violent he shows aggression. Did any of you notice a change in your sons? Was it really a coincidence that his personality happened to change within days after the surgery? 

P.S. while his behaviour is troublesome at times, it is not problematic to the point of him needing a therapist so please refrain from making that suggestion. My question is curious in nature and mainly seeks to get other parents' experiences.",9.231408526713436,8.931546308868509,8.872009354200399,65.71484619535887,59.91743119266055,12.342435689872275,40.94783234394676,11.67016984619884,5.0258812376326665,1461,71,238,38,17,470,186,327,0.092,0.8240000000000001,0.084,-0.7207,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,3,1,3,11,7,3,3,22,0,28,5,1,3,3,44,43,17,0,2,8,7,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,6,15,13,1,1,10,1,0,5,5,7,0,2,17,2,26,0,40,23,5,41,0,1,0,0,41,13,0,7,23,165,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970526436592056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354224257063574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193786623495752,0.0,0.09308478185689346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060697125719724784,0.0,0.16945396929257375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277637760434443,0.0,0.0,0.6319929972207718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19264380295115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191441283949264,0.0,0.10189497860599236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739885144787304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693888787251379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05202136786738441,0.0,0.05658809144357967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804968022670863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416368520014002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646394297053325,0.0,0.0,0.10846123783092514,0.0,0.10030659368975346,0.0,0.10562834466574236,0.0,0.0,0.0794760569803444,0.0,0.0,0.07383010973915996,0.07679474737079241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336143719253025,0.10448227174654616,0.2120782223460199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22112205144865188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388187643634773,0.10402976250292824,0.10929828002862434,0.09412610973907257,0.11225054332372293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154151457806974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378727858743627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918229251973914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560878319075993,0.06615007753142021,0.06380062253059388,0.0,0.07904768960114071,0.0580602378874202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215591860184379,0.0,0.0,0.07986928211623039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116667496476687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073187850268997,0.0,0.0,0.06412000339635965
parenting,allthingsinfours,2020/01/16,"HELP - 12 week old - does NOT sleep during the day. Hello everyone - thanks beforehand for reading this post.
As the title says - my 12 week old boy just doesn’t sleep much during the day and I’m really worried about this.
Thankfully in the last 3 weeks he sleeps longer during the night. He goes to bed around 7/7.30pm and has one 5 hour stretch and then wakes up for a feed around 12/1 - then wakes up again at 3, then 5/6 and then his day starts.
During the day, in total he has two 30 minute naps if we’re lucky. 
The only time he naps longer than that during the day is with a car ride. 
He seems happy enough and when he seems tired, despite rocking/shushing/swaddling/feeding, if he does miraculously knock out, once put down he’s awake within 10 minutes and if held, then within 25 minutes. 
I’m really worried how this lack of daytime sleep will impact his development.
I’m tempted to bring in a sleep Comsultant except it’s blinking pricey and can’t be sure of its usefulness. So here I am asking the reddit world - can anyone relate? What did you or should I do?
Please help.
Yours truly, a desperately worried parent.",4.560236175115211,5.997682889400918,4.598914170506916,86.24694268433181,70.33640552995392,7.268317972350231,24.622407834101377,7.645422480735847,1.1118665898617517,885,24,173,10,16,274,141,217,0.068,0.8059999999999999,0.126,0.9203,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,2,0,0,9,5,0,0,13,0,12,9,7,2,2,28,24,20,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,7,11,1,1,2,3,0,4,3,0,0,2,2,1,7,5,23,19,4,41,0,0,0,0,19,14,0,7,22,91,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730015841647195,0.0,0.0,0.18588308393229644,0.09760348585590033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33665916027456005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827289871889408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787706339960884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976233194192867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113981646573223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995937056502564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281674019544622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510305454993541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674882656163744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797592022603373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910851009532964,0.11118666962617643,0.07074673595869252,0.07940381593815696,0.0,0.0,0.11592809582008955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460405144686975,0.0,0.0,0.09999000750088602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495468383929683,0.0,0.0,0.10443208132626157,0.0,0.13376753147397852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302611462171873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009064806049386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5223961368185877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389756694059896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839937247943173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922420357601171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060878711797887286,0.11999684205512212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10198736965020026,0.0,0.0,0.09017138628861136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512393602427001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318081466159928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kiikaau,2020/01/16,"Anxious mom with FOMO I am a mom of 2. I have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter. Ever since the birth of my son I have only worked part time because I rather be home with my babies. 

Recently I lost my job of 16 years due to layoffs. I was home for about 2 months and suddenly I was offered a job. I took it but now I am overthinking everything. I got used to being home and now I am afraid of missing my babies. 

I’m afraid that I will miss my sons first day of school this fall. I’m afraid that I will miss my son playing soccer or T-Ball. I’m afraid I won’t be able to drop him off and pick him up everyday.  

My husband is also in the beginning stages of opening up a new restaurant for the first time ever with his brother. I know that he will be super busy. He reassures me that he can make his own schedule and will be able to do a lot of things for and with the kids and then I feel jealous. I don’t want to resent him for that. There are so many people that don’t have help at all. There are so many people that work full time and only see their kids for a couple hours in the evening every weekday. 

I have so much anxiety too. I’m afraid every time I leave my house without the kids that something horrible will happen to me and they won’t have a mom. Or if I do take them with me to a crowded public place I will lose them. 

I don’t like change. Maybe once I get used to this new job and my husbands new restaurant I’ll be okay. 

*My husbands health isn’t great right now either and he’s not making it a priority. That also adds to my anxiety and stress. 

Am I crazy? Or do all moms feel this way?",0.8198071428571438,2.443142391428573,2.6670535714285712,95.42200892857143,80.8,5.632142857142857,20.080357142857142,6.4784943948869325,-0.027107142857143,1247,32,297,11,32,415,164,350,0.11699999999999999,0.805,0.079,-0.8440000000000001,3,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,4,7,16,19,2,6,16,1,36,1,0,5,4,42,59,23,0,3,9,13,2,1,0,8,1,0,3,3,15,19,0,0,3,2,0,2,8,13,0,2,5,3,47,6,34,40,8,45,0,5,1,0,34,10,0,5,31,192,62,7,0.17612120932790198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408440674686829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473224307089632,0.09948341781569332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05368092725416261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315644331497426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743738412119206,0.0,0.05679180493618938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816319886119713,0.15931171696661167,0.14838971490422942,0.0,0.07914319329139169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905217528642285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980861068275195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04600803136949196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043011003909289,0.09708712752325016,0.0,0.0,0.07787170187971887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936043048582593,0.0,0.0,0.05902516706836671,0.0,0.26499589950232033,0.0,0.08672195713600317,0.10161011453909666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621596864642897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048395805339538925,0.0,0.0,0.09324346539157652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043021963325852015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851729158864823,0.09612855245771916,0.07486597700826787,0.0,0.0,0.11756227482997808,0.178559262941618,0.088468713534681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125420635137296,0.07028913449559132,0.0,0.06473467681103988,0.0,0.0,0.25514844217441235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480958241333426,0.09378166997987823,0.0,0.13394811601951406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536105340777994,0.0,0.12210027081962367,0.0,0.09200458912954314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694922339514717,0.0,0.0,0.07520327522804482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912203325122478,0.07017290067224871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284464217119982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779335572219869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087312511682983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662106154298205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850355280773065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205395386976694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783857195150213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521121770978162,0.0,0.0,0.0519404262023922,0.06989840909849025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488728044604314,0.0,0.128218337984192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012442666975014
parenting,FLOCKAPUEO,2020/01/16,"Does anyone else’s kid give awkward hugs? My oldest son has never been the cuddly type. As long as I can remember it has seemed he does not enjoy hugs. Every once in awhile he will offer a nice hug. But most of the times he just stands there or gives the one armed hug. 

Anyone else’s kid like this? 

I know it’s not personal but sometimes I wish he could be more affectionate. He’s growing up too fast! 😭",0.10675324675324303,2.4441107142857166,1.7167532467532496,96.3555194805195,90.66666666666666,4.483116883116884,14.779220779220779,6.1124844417494595,-0.7056999999999993,316,6,70,3,11,102,62,84,0.035,0.711,0.254,0.9570000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,1,4,0,7,5,1,0,1,13,12,5,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,4,8,5,8,2,9,0,0,0,4,12,2,0,3,6,35,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739156840125093,0.4013868069517289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638738028211654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428167764266222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272508537446049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503010825574713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757954031665212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764580280328492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956928756096394,0.0,0.0,0.17334003147469654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106810416188232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859665589589907,0.1327275345700172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102735747354197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22188412127375007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783139725104602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372182993455345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142141925734934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252424514927505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jayjuice55,2020/01/16,7 yr Son is a cry baby My son cries over everything and I mean everything. It’s so annoying at times and when you compare him to other children he acts so immature. How do I help him with this?,1.0415853658536598,2.9676930975609785,3.661158536585369,87.07027439024392,81.4390243902439,8.002439024390245,24.88414634146341,8.841846274778883,1.9927024390243904,151,6,33,4,4,53,35,41,0.21100000000000002,0.727,0.061,-0.7644,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,2,22,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6935741633570213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5674705347915824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116103844782048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34389526093942313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409010497947995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pdxerton,2020/01/16,"How old to put themselves to bed? We have twins who are turning five, and my SIL just let slip that they let their 5 & 6 yos put themselves to bed.  This sounds like a magical alternate universe, as we are still doing a 25 min teeth-bathroom-book-tuck routine.  

When did you start letting your kids do the routine with less hand-holding?  I'm in law school and husband is in a stressful patch at work, so being able to relax this routine sounds like a dream.",6.302967032967032,5.834470285714289,5.7717362637362655,86.09826373626377,65.92307692307692,8.159120879120879,33.58461538461537,6.742157984588678,1.9295784615384621,360,14,74,2,5,110,72,91,0.037000000000000005,0.847,0.11599999999999999,0.7149,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,2,1,5,4,0,1,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,8,14,6,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,4,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,3,9,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,7,45,11,2,0.2091007067742643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22656052842856286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.641458919049022,0.0,0.20431208649047028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941601723468687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42040792862175785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162107860950571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800255649025565,0.0,0.1669880945363217,0.0,0.23952415313237704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274415241909167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222780490906265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Paleblueseas2005,2020/01/16,"What time do your tweens and young teens go to bed? My 9 year old daughter's bedtime is 830 and she wants to move it up to 9 pm. She is cranky by 8 though. My son is 14 and absolutely will not go to bed before 1130. He is quiet, watching things on his Ipad, but he just refuses to go to bed earlier than 1130. I'm a single mom and trying my best, but feel like its not good enough.  What time do your kids go to bed? They wake up for school between 630 and 650 am.",1.2452941176470596,2.2275211274509843,2.9177941176470585,96.8525735294118,77.92156862745098,6.276470588235295,19.612745098039216,6.6274283507984215,-0.2013372549019609,353,7,91,3,8,117,70,102,0.028999999999999998,0.8809999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.8075,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,2,1,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,8,1,1,0,0,13,15,8,0,1,5,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,4,1,5,5,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,3,9,3,14,14,3,13,0,0,1,0,13,3,0,0,6,51,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19844852994301224,0.0,0.24474443613787875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24097312406137664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179203580436002,0.16660862602622964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301651466125334,0.19560942291918973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139369207502464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731382343054427,0.0,0.2478703147985347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447195934066217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23602572394793245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549374818014597,0.0,0.2291322555568068,0.0,0.27197873038917525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158337470544577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755607058499536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018261852549206
parenting,YeetzByDre,2020/01/16,"Daughter has a bad cough in flu season My little girl has developed a cough throughout the day today. She 7 and a half months old and is just getting over a small cold fever, nothing serious but I’m a new parent and am already frequenting the hospital to make sure she’s okay for any little ailment. Just wondering if I have cause for concern so I can avoid another unnecessary doctor visit.",5.852,6.9220848666666726,6.622666666666664,74.29800000000002,67.0,9.733333333333334,33.66666666666667,9.888512548439397,3.5056666666666665,315,14,54,7,5,104,60,75,0.1,0.812,0.08800000000000001,-0.2159,1,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,7,1,6,5,0,2,1,12,10,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,5,2,5,10,0,13,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,7,32,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564267981201274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802001500197502,0.2436608945005785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19401979235888114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23870867405037954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498598501373083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23784121369579156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214040774701828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4657928882943482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510921784944853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547604136945053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22442502839970904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22296591233947716,0.0,0.24383391543479896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580201152425755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219006594107624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202602123264379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25199606510855915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gwreck209,2020/01/16,"Six year old puked on everything day after baby sister came home from hospital So short prefix. Fiance had preeclampsia at 38 weeks so we spent five days in tbe hospital after a C-section and delivered a healthy 6lbs 3oz girl.

We were home for just over 24 hours when our six year old woke us up at 11 projectile vomiting on everything with in 20 ft. It was so bad it looked as if someone had puked on her face. Within the next 12 hours she puked 8 times and ran a fever just over 101. We went to rapid care and she had a negative test for influenza which was obviously a huge relief. She's holding down fluids after some nausea medicine but still running a fever and now has a little diarrhea and is sneezing. She's tough but she has to be severely dehydrated.

So the question now is if not the flu then what in the world is it and how do I stop googling what it, whatever it is, can do to my 6 day old baby. Also, baby has her first appointment tomorrow. What do I need to ask the Dr to express our concerns without being blown off. Also mom and baby are quarantined in there room and six year old is quarantined in her room. I have disinfected everything I can think of. I know I am thinking too much about it but I feel like I'd be more comfortable knowing what the actual outcome has been for anyone who has been in a similar situation. Anyone else have any experience with having a very young infant around a sick sibling like this?",3.8276573426573433,5.339860786713288,5.034545454545455,82.1218181818182,72.25174825174825,8.696503496503496,27.33566433566433,9.218907990703514,2.276816783216783,1139,41,225,25,22,377,173,286,0.08199999999999999,0.843,0.075,-0.2453,0,2,0,0,0,0,19.0,6,0,0,1,17,7,0,0,16,0,31,7,1,1,1,36,45,23,0,3,9,2,1,2,0,0,6,0,4,2,13,15,0,2,6,0,1,4,3,2,0,5,13,2,22,5,36,29,3,55,0,0,1,0,22,24,0,4,29,157,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.11271427422336786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847354274114132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854600615435514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615247774365227,0.11834648113080234,0.0,0.10282216511093577,0.10797972064777636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644018705160176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210467071117968,0.11776301444915582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346965435413932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964879420971662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114199675319713,0.11298410503796807,0.0,0.0,0.058401791282800625,0.08251537193857876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824679953432117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317178689722147,0.0,0.2274943929894105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695486497941713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285787077750516,0.11576435766749375,0.0,0.0,0.09699343647919156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352757269051126,0.0,0.0,0.08490800076961864,0.08564401684139285,0.0,0.0,0.12283875927886137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4848039084705278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293898029786047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048552232856195,0.0,0.0,0.12983022029145505,0.0,0.0,0.09786532379148727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224085132839677,0.09656568650572198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480193273396508,0.0,0.0,0.06735073277031903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893589702075906,0.0,0.0,0.09530207798979316,0.0,0.0,0.09264954592156376,0.0,0.0,0.10707244551947433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113407779030462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22314045056208012
parenting,Meg5987,2020/01/16,"The Dream Feeding Method (xpost) Has anyone tried this before? I tried it tonight for the first time bc it sounds like something my partner and I align with as it prevents the cry it out method for hours and hours. 

I feel like I have a shit ton of questions! Does anyone’s baby actually stay asleep when they pick their baby up??? Even if it’s gently done?! 😩 I know it’s just one night and I’ll need to stick with it to see how it goes. But my baby definitely did not stay asleep during the feeding. It was easy-ish to get her back to sleep. 

Please save the “never wake a sleeping baby” stuff. My intent wasn’t to wake her. I’d be happy to PM about this. Also anyone against this method, please save that too. 🙃 I’d love to chat with someone who supports this method and has had experience with it. TIA! ☺️",0.34093516924842504,2.7004824337349405,1.5675559380378663,97.90323293172692,89.12048192771084,3.8847963281698217,16.33849684452094,5.288315135182226,-0.8676009179575441,628,14,140,3,21,198,104,166,0.037000000000000005,0.733,0.22899999999999998,0.9856,0,0,5,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,1,8,8,1,0,7,0,9,10,7,3,1,24,16,10,0,2,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,17,9,2,1,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,2,5,3,12,7,19,10,1,13,0,0,1,1,9,2,1,2,11,82,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.14473885044098686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861138965533492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31112621846237704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404886633178522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620933106567842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292247197308088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297957650235734,0.15178277785408592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796391097921336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508534605733972,0.0,0.0,0.07499501010152036,0.10595978335833793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261608516053916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749103862333542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788931712113508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921304967798916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151275134237602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449232458985837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338645222279537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997734430872803,0.11439346904044735,0.0,0.0,0.1391882012291512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050541906834363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256214738817904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615225951591495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819177640168504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15224827059586946,0.0,0.0,0.2968540777982557,0.0,0.12567099030903547,0.11418392376940398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31617860883109666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697908277763495,0.0,0.16831169211160885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648654045552177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139898487331964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chessakali,2020/01/16,"This Helps Me Get Stuff DONE! I was diagnosed with adult ADHD and I was having a lot of trouble staying focused and getting things done. I didn't want to take a daily medication like adderall. This is a great natural alternative. Check out my review on YouTube:

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAWTKIY4KTM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAWTKIY4KTM)",10.714066666666668,15.575037340000005,6.539999999999999,63.01666666666665,65.6,7.333333333333335,30.333333333333336,8.344100000000001,2.9523333333333337,297,11,36,5,6,80,42,50,0.071,0.6559999999999999,0.272,0.9007,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,0,0,6,11,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,5,2,5,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,27,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30828148838671954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603575845130843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5250083327069502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680372672219613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28280897453284576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193676850967834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253203966474359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808009697307654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584121329285698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734111316957106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936485965670265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928675482587735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704173374798864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129934364964864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sonny2014,2020/01/16,"It’s 2 am, my daughter woke up and won’t go to sleep, I am sleep deprived myself and all I can do is yell at her, feeling like a terrible mom over here... help!  We just came back from Holiday vacación and all of our schedules are all over the place, she’s been sleeping since 8:30 pm tonight thinking she was gonna go back to her regular schedule but not, have been waking up since 1 and I lost it, I can’t, I am so tired and can’t fall sleep. She keeps falling. Sleep and waking up, asking for milk, book, story... anyways I en dip heeling at her and leaving her alone calling my husband to rescue the situation and take care of her... feeling pretty proud mom right now... 😖",2.5905533596837955,3.99674991304348,3.753451910408433,90.49701581027672,75.23188405797102,6.177602108036891,27.03820816864296,6.574015621080383,1.0092666666666659,520,20,112,4,11,169,92,138,0.111,0.716,0.174,0.8548,0,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,3,0,14,10,8,0,3,20,27,10,0,0,3,4,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,10,1,1,3,2,0,5,4,3,0,0,6,3,19,3,14,19,3,20,0,2,0,0,17,9,0,0,7,72,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409484812005636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722603536763366,0.0,0.0,0.2092900407328395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896338557434892,0.15565101861074554,0.13875310429983032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762266319461464,0.09722291894859847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546864778488943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121844201254653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096328851511175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409995029779032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648683369857554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855861022736333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187745682682803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421853710076018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845273401014338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162203504243771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22515056196696204,0.15297116995207272,0.6809427839177841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023229494158757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720115250453543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564157502924514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pserenity,2020/01/16,"Your toddler is your roommate. What crazy stuff does your roommate do that you have to put up with? My roommate falls asleep everywhere in the house; on the couch, the floor, the dinner table. Instead of kindly refusing food that he doesn’t like, my roommate throws it on the floor!",5.359230769230769,7.251840307692312,4.23,87.89000000000001,69.0,6.7384615384615385,28.384615384615394,7.1686216300943375,1.4599461538461544,224,8,41,2,4,65,38,52,0.08800000000000001,0.809,0.10300000000000001,0.2244,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,4,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,7,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,1,28,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326053063524286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.450533221980531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4299149370804558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879916313951017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202700331761454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3745524639901985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4265225413537074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,patisseriepeach,2020/01/16,"4 Month Sleep Regression Hi all. First time posting. I have an almost 3 month old, and she is one hell of a great nighttime sleeper (we've been pretty lucky). I keep hearing about this dreaded 4 month sleep regression, so I am wondering if anyone's babe was unaffected by it? Anyone have a good little sleeper that continued to sleep right through it??",3.9804545454545455,6.365177045454548,4.433333333333334,82.87000000000003,74.0,7.430303030303031,29.181818181818183,8.344100000000001,2.3110181818181816,279,12,50,5,6,88,53,66,0.127,0.721,0.152,0.1938,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,1,3,0,6,3,3,0,1,7,9,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,4,3,5,7,1,10,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,4,7,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540235985893974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589242967579489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748966741737375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529619129570715,0.0,0.20413004772502372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20867905923290966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16457105182793025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18557032162121992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4433581900659164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19428522524286904,0.0,0.12546336538870326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732383941539925,0.188365514398655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581182650367589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5558552758921834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796325737418593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007887712528848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Icegem34,2020/01/16,"Daughter not having it easy.. Hi All,

I have an 8 year old girl in 3rd grade who attends her schools After School program (Latchkey). At least 3 times a week she comes home grumpy from various things that happened during latchkey. She always tells me and it's never been anything too serious but enouch to get her grouchy. Whenever i offer to talk to the teachers she insists i don't. I want to respect her wishes but i feel like I'm letting her down at the same time. 

It's never really bullying or anything drastic just little annoyances. Is it worth going over her head and speaking about it or leave it be since its nothing too bad?",4.057804878048786,5.934577747967483,4.364723577235772,85.67732926829271,72.33333333333334,6.871219512195122,30.186178861788626,7.554174236665415,1.9462754471544723,505,22,94,6,10,158,94,123,0.109,0.769,0.122,0.5566,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,4,0,7,1,1,0,3,16,15,6,0,2,6,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,10,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,3,0,0,1,2,14,2,12,12,4,17,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,2,9,63,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572865491768309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111080940267025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578305951367103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628309986702519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557830357880118,0.1350417358069256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875939751393688,0.0,0.10742904399742548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715695351671955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399739882015124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961062956113114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20015349907559868,0.0,0.19329407278572802,0.0,0.09234959748234822,0.18945584848879726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915802983846366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137759149152302,0.0,0.19835322736766664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109626218226532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826131241487718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636602477445788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519336528468513,0.16521891977659073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558189202478084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044764866217545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149369024658612,0.0,0.15162696609165807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21737302384084176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172791996087233
parenting,Bee96Honey,2020/01/16,Unexpected parenting hack My LO is ten months old and like a lot of babies has a hard time staying asleep. She would fall asleep fine and then wake up an hour later completely inconsolable. I used to nurse her back to sleep but once we started night weening we started giving her half of a banana. After eating her banana she would fall back asleep way better than after nursing and stay asleep for longer. I googled it and bananas help promote sleep because of their magnesium and potassium. So if you too are having a hard time keeping LO asleep maybe bananas are the answer. 🤷‍♀️,4.0208108108108105,6.377370045045048,4.153414414414414,85.05498648648648,73.77477477477476,6.602162162162162,26.41531531531532,7.554174236665415,1.5386677477477475,469,17,84,6,10,145,80,111,0.025,0.826,0.15,0.9354,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,1,2,4,3,0,0,6,0,7,9,8,1,0,15,12,9,0,3,2,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,12,3,10,10,1,20,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,15,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26270359328847753,0.0,0.10413168236174597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107843362348922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791039208507509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17479384832170494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386830589521192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060464375309113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449858008992456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822554594704722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518347000059832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345514224102593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522700214576129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161395020484368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363487219980797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603051471808757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924925776854894,0.18192016362648628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896779373948671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34189131127822897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418177919103356,0.3641476646477284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992157018260753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753561198661286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559078253945306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24269450712056284,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tannerw2013,2020/01/16,"What do you do with your toddler on a ""normal"" day?? Seems we always have something on the weekends and I feel he (3yo) gets bored at home on weekdays when there isn't a lot going on. What are some fun easy activities for toddlers around 3 to keep occupied and learning?",6.154465408805032,5.932907716981131,6.216981132075473,81.9561635220126,66.16981132075472,8.576100628930817,32.76100628930818,7.793537801064563,2.1754704402515728,211,8,42,2,3,67,46,53,0.039,0.836,0.125,0.6848,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,10,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,9,10,2,10,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,3,3,29,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30078457380669466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217983918138122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23312799437995305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827777356523719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886105293872887,0.0,0.2054403213900896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625990442300643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32130457961842235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073217181042857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541786623287869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290824724373108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782889022379318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deadgoodhorror,2020/01/16,"3 year old suddenly wakes up in the middle of the night and refuses to go back to sleep. HELP!! It's 2:30am and I've had about 6 hours sleep over the past 3 days so forgive me if I ramble a bit.

The long and short of it is, my 3 year old who from the age of about 8 months slept like a log all night. Has suddenly started waking up in the middle of the night and refuses to go back to sleep unless he's in bed with my wife and I (we've never co-slept with him).

Whereas before he slept like a log from 8-7, now he'll wake up anywhere between 11pm and 2am. Each time he gets out of bed, I'll go in and settle him back down. 5 minutes later he'll be up again. We've been doing this dance for about 90 minutes tonight and he's got up 15 times.

I'm exhausted, he's exhausted. What do I do?",0.8829293739967916,1.7909276460674164,3.091043338683789,95.5468539325843,78.71910112359551,6.434028892455858,20.579454253611555,6.868970318607317,0.07571621187800925,603,14,155,6,14,207,99,178,0.031,0.8959999999999999,0.073,0.7756,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,10,0,8,10,8,0,2,19,19,11,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,2,0,5,12,0,2,1,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,5,0,8,3,31,11,3,45,0,0,0,0,15,15,0,1,28,80,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35750102515478965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187319521095905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691936968470739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994672472143296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096858431297123,0.0,0.2642293642589283,0.0,0.12394849623262864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387717261754764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262018150179954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142692965422874,0.0,0.0,0.13714891827190845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370039628485208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952707574196213,0.0,0.0,0.4363035445184842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252425676574715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794216574301647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652638844542336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969283851614577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073554999948965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959897688123526
parenting,9186mamaof3,2020/01/16,"Picky eaters How do you deal with your picky eater.  My daughter is 6 and refuses to eat almost everything we cook for dinner. I'm struggling, I know its partly my fault as I give in and make her something else. I need advice and tips, please.",3.213750000000001,5.007999541666671,3.59416666666667,90.6675,74.41666666666666,6.466666666666668,22.416666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.6318166666666669,190,5,39,2,4,59,41,48,0.11,0.8420000000000001,0.048,-0.4445,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,2,0,11,7,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,0,5,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,0,22,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838228300393528,0.0,0.0,0.29084213287137245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29943956276626266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972012395163119,0.2426323815692225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26103630757095164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786245860315418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596228532407457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387657267170694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21536381978647304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145273299245399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31882514012532936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360138022749734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036397469245759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChaIupa_Batman,2020/01/16,"Started talking about racism with my son. Now he feels bad for black people. Where did I go wrong and how do I make it right? My oldest is 7 and in second grade. Since Martin Luther King Jr. Day is coming up his class has spent some time talking about the civil rights movement and how Dr. King fought for equality. My son was telling me about it and asked if I knew that people used to be racist. I told him that things were much worse in terms of equality when Dr. King was around fighting and that things are getting progressively better. He asked if old people are still racist and I told him that some people, old and young, are unfortunately still racist. He asked how people can still be racist if America isn't segregated anymore and I gave him some examples. He said, ""I'm glad I'm not black. I feel bad for them.""

So, where do we go from here? I tried explaining that he doesn't have to feel bad for black people, racist come in all different colors, and how anyone can be a victim of racism but he didn't change his stance. We are white in state that is over 90 percent white so I don't know how to address this. My brother is in an interracial marriage but they don't live anywhere near us.",3.8912319851231993,5.293454192468619,3.9556973500697374,90.35136099488614,71.92887029288705,6.9847512784751284,22.90120874012087,7.3871296695380915,0.6390611808461188,948,23,202,10,18,291,130,239,0.146,0.8370000000000001,0.016,-0.9764,1,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,3,0,2,5,19,9,3,0,3,0,26,2,0,7,1,38,51,22,0,3,6,3,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,11,15,0,0,6,0,1,5,6,7,0,1,12,10,24,2,23,36,9,32,0,0,6,0,33,13,0,6,13,125,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439074977570178,0.08065155612922968,0.0,0.0,0.10268105924532248,0.3234946107533911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889235180836209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201283667122253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201918661701207,0.19871814649594535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438766013635406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205104524295926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496493438760752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026274045880189,0.0,0.1311058746635318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339032055184278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185130650212157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699334925818126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479147903587414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420692989411275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47979211746266404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19700714513617126,0.10971903290164707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541416214318203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816414306088932,0.0,0.2763427995278447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541907947900205,0.1008161768096574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532595207326305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725830538915085,0.0,0.0,0.2204332250117334,0.0,0.07831134392894931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874523122420904,0.0996206137951326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754589941732835,0.0,0.12611110341063633,0.0,0.0
parenting,skelet0nic,2020/01/16,"I continually lose my temper with any 3 yr old. I grew up in a home with a mother who bounced around to a lot of different husbands and places. She is a self proclaimed perfect mom and she could do no wrong...to make a LONG story short — I have bipolar depression and a lot of mental disparities in result. 

I now live with my SO and my 3 year old daughter. Lately, I have become my mom in the flesh. I swear all I have done all week is yell at my child. It is like she has absolutely no listening abilities - but my angry mind can’t comprehend that she is just three!!! Stop yelling at her!! She just wants me to play and I’m so overwhelmed with a lot of things going on in my life that I feel she just acts out because she needs me to be her play mate and have some fun.. but I can’t relax and all I’ve done is get upset with her.

I was so upset tonight over literal spilled milk that I lost my cool and it ended up in her throwing a complete meltdown/temper tantrum in bed until I came to lay with her, I immediately started crying and hugging her because I don’t feel like I even have the right to call myself a mom. I have been nothing but terrible all week, I haven’t been able to play or focus on her the way I should and half the time at night is just me scolding her some more. As I cried, she told me it was okay, everything was okay and I reassured her I was supposed to be the one consoling her.. I know she loves me and I know that she understands that I love her but she doesn’t understand why mommy is so angry all the time.

I want to be the mom that makes everyday a new adventure, with learning activities and games and fun, but my mind is absolutely against it. My heart aches physically everyday. The guilt I hold is unimaginable for every bad week I have versus the good. This little girl is incredibly smart and beautiful, she is my best friend and I fail her every single day. 

I’m becoming my mom and I can’t do anything to stop it. I cry more and more everyday, and feel I shouldn’t even have the title of “mom” anymore because I don’t feel like I’m giving the love a mom should. 

No point in this post except getting this off my chest with other parents and hoping someone can relate.",4.001468428781205,4.546079308370047,5.1789603524229095,84.88612041116008,70.89427312775331,8.432187958883992,27.46813509544787,8.548686976883017,1.7193021439060212,1722,56,373,27,30,572,206,454,0.132,0.6679999999999999,0.2,0.9904,2,0,0,0,1,1,40.0,0,0,0,5,12,36,2,4,22,3,45,10,3,3,6,79,74,32,0,8,12,11,4,3,2,3,2,3,2,3,17,31,1,3,9,5,0,5,11,12,0,3,11,8,75,24,44,56,15,54,0,5,0,4,50,23,0,7,27,261,92,2,0.07290761445017721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049579677934749634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230476267416339,0.0,0.0,0.059996754561147676,0.06490323417253957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087481271280791,0.13333141519444913,0.161041464199731,0.0,0.0,0.07651204332310096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444682591360331,0.08338688812089627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644224662559852,0.0,0.0,0.05821079759188483,0.0,0.240256772987067,0.04701937982390856,0.0,0.06279522149336365,0.0,0.0,0.07617293950571356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921960513120966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457450627640215,0.0,0.0,0.09630958347250773,0.0,0.12285561930780264,0.0,0.06552466275770119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745712197885824,0.10417042866167356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05632824206904966,0.0,0.07618243879880443,0.06993962719442216,0.04143507744867005,0.0611514479224702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639587415993709,0.0,0.0,0.0731322818170553,0.07241371176002734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013623640595663,0.0,0.0822429647319586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149680422047583,0.1068569331435074,0.0730725831966348,0.06437875928892342,0.06452094451957746,0.0,0.08156497152422107,0.07958727363940149,0.18595033981372608,0.1974059056338014,0.0,0.09733279756479532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347372731185174,0.0,0.14723181394014107,0.5977196181579406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05406007230577811,0.0,0.07041462835208277,0.0,0.0684188572642406,0.0,0.06995682239418045,0.0,0.15300855396925786,0.0,0.0494040864153326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095527781245934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617293950571356,0.0,0.06892126147899946,0.0,0.0698253411171907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622627043800139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605854243141986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617743851294837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051604384761267615,0.0,0.0,0.12190806053443705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048436579425597565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502603258680533,0.0,0.0,0.06966634999432172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179879573551286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600559994773918,0.05787067078043431,0.1754462717772658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578778198728166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971303117220954,0.0,0.04695011333587895
parenting,desireestem,2020/01/16,"My almost 2 year old isn't talking. I'm not sure if I should worry or not. I'm not sure if it's he *won't* talk or he *can't* talk. He babbles, says dada, and says momma when he's upset. That's it. Every time I try to teach him or encourage him to use words he gets extremely frustrated and agitated. 

I'll look at him and try to get him to say like ""snack"" or ""milk"" or "" cup"" or something simple and most of the time he gets angry, but sometimes it's like he wants to say it but doesn't know how. He'll look at me kinda confused then moves on. He knows what a lot of words and phrases mean he just isn't saying them. Everyone is telling me ""he'll talk when he's ready"" ""he's fine"" I just don't want there to be a bigger issue and it not get addressed until way later. 

We read to him, show him picture books and ask him where things are, try to work with him. Idk maybe I'm overreacting but I just feel like something's wrong. 

Thoughts???? 

Thank you!",-0.2472343584305428,1.7602891121951243,1.815843054082716,97.9189925768823,87.14634146341463,4.735949098621421,17.205726405090143,6.0469075449839425,-0.5502513255567343,728,17,176,6,23,242,112,205,0.11800000000000001,0.7879999999999999,0.09300000000000001,0.3438,0,0,2,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,1,1,8,12,1,2,3,0,10,2,0,2,2,46,31,23,0,5,18,1,1,3,0,4,0,5,1,0,8,9,2,0,5,3,0,1,10,4,0,0,1,8,18,8,15,25,2,16,0,0,2,0,37,5,0,13,12,87,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034964264304007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235836245183838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126249815460688,0.11484356478743757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077001860556915,0.08586141927858387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511704100062254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544371383671102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321029601559291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615148669987035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018531558703897,0.0,0.0,0.10217845439672706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074371794336188,0.13091857583033747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773946663650534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611574872397396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021924772829848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4778865323215818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850512230755176,0.1188677427021662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22654912908336636,0.0,0.0,0.38640614300934617,0.1050484937780624,0.11065178739775897,0.0,0.0,0.07984671864966186,0.0,0.0,0.09541483346697713,0.14016368997080292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24479668796616885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038027403894003,0.0,0.0,0.1417784868948306,0.09539862687806924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749736612062821,0.12205545171058682,0.0,0.0,0.13140531491279267,0.0,0.07739630945364627
parenting,withani-me,2020/01/16,"8yo struggling at school, I dont know what to do 💔 My daughter is struggling in school with focus and friendships. Shes so anxious around bed time she ends up in hysterics. I feel like I've tried all the things! 
Doc has her starting melatonin to help her sleep, low pressure environment, less screen time, going to see a counselor (no instigating trauma we know of)
I'm willing to do anything to make her feel better. Its breaking my heart 💔

What helped you as a kid? Or your kids?",1.2258101472995089,3.876948553191493,2.042765957446808,93.29576923076924,90.06382978723404,4.1689034369885425,23.188216039279872,5.8734145424116955,0.4121761047463175,380,15,75,3,13,118,72,94,0.18100000000000002,0.715,0.105,-0.7747,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,2,0,1,2,7,0,3,3,0,7,2,2,1,1,11,16,4,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,4,12,2,13,15,2,12,0,1,2,0,13,6,0,1,5,44,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236982127414824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294774335786047,0.17627346049632378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512631703691575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232069641869896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538065438962386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002425418195828,0.1414604539795627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253529320886324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346462376634617,0.265447743350011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21764542064078046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967391000020964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132175147088385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40079924859680494,0.15779064298282827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815590066380245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401545484539367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140121486425745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155097090011525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309258265390215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443775991337473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhiannon1994,2020/01/16,"I’m in university and I am pregnant! I don’t know what to do! I’m half way through my final year in university studying to be a nurse. I am 25-years-old and I have been with my 27-year-old boyfriend for 3 years. 

I have just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant and it’s the shock of my life. I am really struggling mentally with it, as I do not know what I want to do. 

I miscarried a baby when I was 22 and the heart ache I felt after, I said to myself I would always keep the baby if I got pregnant again. My boyfriend has been freaking out and he thinks very strongly that I should abort the pregnancy. He wants me to finish uni, get a job and he wants us to enjoy life and go travelling before we grow up and settle down. 

Although, I want the things he wants, I can’t help think aborting a baby at my age now is selfish and not a good idea. We are in a long term loving relationship and I am hardly a teenager anymore! I’m so heart broken over the situation and I do not know what to do!",1.1768495884260446,2.8250151658767777,3.2254128211524105,91.71766026440511,79.80568720379145,6.1482664005986525,22.953604390122226,7.0608816371341465,0.6163023696682464,764,25,176,9,19,259,117,211,0.12,0.818,0.062,-0.8554,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,5,8,0,1,13,0,23,5,2,0,0,38,44,16,0,8,5,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,7,17,0,1,8,1,0,3,5,4,0,1,7,3,30,4,23,34,1,25,0,0,0,1,11,9,0,1,12,118,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477674497195615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679895534249722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737638634393564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244358742270218,0.15110602046020333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124358263895127,0.0,0.0,0.07206771488957632,0.0,0.07839421775101088,0.11569713922129045,0.11032284883427043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356673115405302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269180312296211,0.09245796407653672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571694732615068,0.0,0.0,0.13688370615061285,0.12260699851211727,0.0,0.0,0.2274238864765302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486154881898196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207214962816483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449581775057478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901060967000986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894886805145408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836759960907327,0.0,0.0,0.14809544041321754,0.0,0.0,0.1312120876169187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550498191388666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420435405989426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164089917071716,0.17677217123677685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592427908236934,0.0,0.0,0.11381456430331673,0.4068015643546122,0.10948998399190987,0.11064677627587792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798828947617813,0.0,0.0,0.2664856180983684
parenting,SaltCantaloupe,2020/01/16,"My son (7/m) was bullied by an autistic kid and the school won't do anything about it. On Friday, my son (7) came home with a serious bruise on his arm. It was swollen, i asked what happened. He told me that on the line for the bus, this kid in his class just bit him. Why? I don't know. He said he's never even talked to that kid. He said he didn't ask for help because you're supposed to be quiet during the bus arrivals.

He just laid down because he said he had a fever. He threw up that night, so i took him to the doctor, and they had to give a shot. I think Tetanus.

My son didn't want to go to school at all this week, he's been pretty upset since. I let him miss the days. I demanded to see the principal and his teacher, they let me have an appointment today. They said they asked some other kids who were there, they backed up his story that my son was just sitting there when the kid chomped him. Some other teachers have noticed a little bit of bullying on the other kid's end. I asked what they'd do about it. The teacher said it would be best to separate them.

They want to move my son into another class. I told them that wasn't gonna work, because he's got a lot of friends in his current class. I asked why they were being so lenient. The Principal butted in and said ""David's not like other kids. He lives with his grandma and he's got a rough home life."" Then they told me that he has Autism. It wouldn't be fair if they punished him.

This made me so mad, so i decided to press charges against the school, the boy's family, and am suing them for the medical bill and emotional damages.",2.427699175824173,3.626653770833333,3.3571428571428577,94.01093406593408,75.27976190476191,6.597802197802199,23.637362637362642,7.010146845296331,0.563595604395605,1241,36,288,12,26,396,162,336,0.114,0.8390000000000001,0.048,-0.953,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,0,13,2,14,9,2,1,22,0,28,6,1,1,2,30,58,15,0,5,6,5,2,1,1,4,5,7,2,8,21,11,0,0,3,0,1,5,8,6,0,0,26,10,43,3,33,21,7,29,0,2,1,0,70,13,0,4,11,175,64,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391900982553504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370616700912383,0.0,0.4186661669879404,0.0,0.0,0.0688716416330765,0.0,0.16379798587053626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939952416531832,0.0,0.19556835090106495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024410061371882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776342882737653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167581581688393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075103505581832,0.07932994674385878,0.0,0.0,0.05915828527665627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443597689770589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691993899943429,0.0,0.0,0.08592101156561839,0.05090309902271544,0.0,0.14327013036893324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792039716689737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003500048657514,0.0,0.17968639193216646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922378607996393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831770434027445,0.06326395619353209,0.04375800556751245,0.08976985605763127,0.07908947106719638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614682328494518,0.0,0.08475064226890718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022952251909012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951957499250908,0.0,0.0,0.06907973974943762,0.0,0.0,0.08405274180209019,0.0,0.0,0.10197284120320692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112203377167252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5111934589478139,0.0,0.0,0.2719403387747105,0.07137345534529825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409090639467436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199071580616026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573910397671519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489922475275176,0.2567558694711165,0.0995124453931813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565810033953099,0.0,0.07184539843492002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164091813907788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520598217327353,0.0,0.0,0.06362596305399172,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m0rph-,2020/01/16,"Can I feed my baby protein shakes/pre-workout? I come from a long line of dweeby English & German farmers, and I dont want my son to grow up small and pathetic. Can I feed him protein shakes or pre-workout/gatorade to accelerate his growth? Im hoping he grows up to be like Nordic skull-crushing berserker huge. I dont want him to get picked on if he ends up short like me and his mom. What can I do to help my baby grow big?",1.4929945054945082,3.1144942747252737,2.980315934065935,93.95530906593409,78.78021978021978,5.429120879120879,23.46291208791209,5.985473137389443,0.288987912087912,333,11,76,2,8,109,58,91,0.069,0.752,0.179,0.8688,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,7,2,0,1,0,10,12,5,0,4,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,0,14,3,11,11,0,16,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,3,4,39,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745775399792255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21829656588694374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5940063793178828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224452510627792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240008046634086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986027519041103,0.0,0.0,0.2517005602620455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737341719288571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476137855331005,0.0,0.0,0.2242663369892127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967992803599241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29894418013342194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gustavopret,2020/01/17,"Billingual Children To all of the parents out there, bilingual and monolingual, how important is it that your child learns a second language? If it is important, how do you plan (or did) to have your kid learn the language?",9.411749999999998,8.738172675000001,7.550000000000002,76.55500000000005,59.75,11.0,42.5,10.125756701596842,4.30425,177,9,31,3,2,52,32,40,0.0,0.903,0.09699999999999999,0.4515,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,9,5,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,26,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lilews,2020/01/17,"How to discourage junior from attending our local university without him feeling like we are pushing him out? I'm the mom of 3 amazing teenagers. The oldest is 18 and is heading back to college soon after a wonderful winter break home. We live in Washington state and she goes to school in California. It's a short plane ride away and we feel like it's perfect. Enough space for her to do her own thing but close enough to where coming home isn't exhausting. 

My 16 year old is a junior. He's a young junior because he has an August birthday and we probably should have waited until he was 6 to start kindergarten because maturity has always been a struggle for him even though he's super bright. We have started the college talk with him and his top choice school is the school 10 minutes away from our house. It's a good school and he has a good shot at getting in but I don't want him going there. He plans on applying other places but this is his top choice. I want to discourage it because I want him to explore the world on his own and know that even if he dorms he'd end up home most nights, especially on the weekends. He's my kid that refused sleep away camps because it meant he had to be away from home. He's not super attached to me or my husband but he detest changes to his routine. I don't want him to feel like we are pushing him out though. My 18 year old suggested withholding tuition if he picks his top choice and I don't want to go that far, but I do think it would be unhealthy for him to be that close and would stunt his growth.",4.150424242424244,5.1295333714285745,4.641075036075037,87.29061688311691,70.84126984126979,7.505050505050505,27.96897546897547,7.686295010490155,1.4816031746031744,1232,43,257,14,22,391,157,315,0.08900000000000001,0.784,0.127,0.9609,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,8,0,0,7,11,14,0,1,14,0,28,3,2,2,1,56,48,21,0,10,10,2,3,3,0,3,1,0,5,1,13,21,0,5,8,1,1,9,6,4,0,0,4,4,38,10,39,37,5,54,0,2,1,0,45,26,0,5,20,163,51,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854125575088608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547355330780309,0.07258120583037439,0.0,0.23016063012618276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985364816898673,0.0813098842695973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360281614607781,0.1950632199455712,0.0,0.12468933739412574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318147403397127,0.20229983233590526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049315641665105193,0.0,0.10728968324162193,0.15834215552018846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687286926620806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787293198912911,0.0,0.0,0.10891507089093083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187507752834418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834469747692074,0.0,0.08334938796909283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055013641333952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857999038046606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809591654506734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861898485981416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017699580581772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821167848705128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944596277685942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362152156645465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867844793278296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075868279569126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270949137621105,0.0604822358141426,0.1854782591892621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783726417197384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098999848053227,0.10236351123348733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410596904836058,0.0,0.0,0.1215700101973958
parenting,no0ne_n0where,2020/01/17,"As a parent, what does sacrifice look like to you? Upon becoming a new parent and over the years, what kind of sacrifices have you had to make? What has it felt like to change some or all aspects of your life?",3.849285714285713,4.905240595238098,4.479523809523811,87.88214285714287,71.61904761904762,8.457142857142857,23.523809523809533,8.841846274778883,1.3581809523809527,163,4,35,3,3,52,33,42,0.0,0.873,0.127,0.6747,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,1,6,6,3,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,8,4,2,4,2,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,4,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952262243650071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28278172640081983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339274216209576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566624155605988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27836537084401525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881108852834733,0.2611912741516531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244756088681856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843351384522552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581725765069802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5936389396298728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214081805006173
parenting,tburto33,2020/01/17,"6 Year old will not stop pooping his pants I am currently at my wit's end with my six year old son. He flat out refuses to poop on the toilet, but urinates just fine in one.
He will poop in his pants and go around like he doesn't care in the slightest until we smell him and then off to the bathroom where he will clean himself up, only repeat the process a short time later.
We have tried everything from therapy, prizes, discipline, and I don't know how many talks about why he does it.
He just does not care and doesn't have a reason why.
It is causing us serious stress. We cannot go anywhere, family won't watch him anymore, or anything else. It is inevitable that he will just poop himself and we will have to leave events or activities to clean him up. Now one of us stay home with him while the other takes our other children places. 
I am just at a complete loss and don't know what to do anymore...",4.380009009009008,4.877718708108109,4.71006756756757,88.75248873873875,70.02702702702703,7.896396396396398,27.30855855855856,7.793537801064563,1.3420720720720722,711,22,155,8,12,224,109,185,0.084,0.823,0.09300000000000001,0.4039,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,0,2,9,8,0,1,8,0,19,5,5,3,0,31,26,13,0,0,9,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,3,1,7,14,0,3,3,0,0,2,8,3,0,3,0,2,20,5,22,20,0,32,0,1,1,0,26,14,0,2,16,99,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28052830548506685,0.0,0.0,0.11638782335465953,0.12590591289935166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884020157327645,0.14529129369043187,0.0,0.0,0.148290466078892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475390386096366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814964624034585,0.0,0.125268213000628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711142344615314,0.0,0.1333310354170475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075997810406215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418694587716678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554564441917923,0.0,0.0,0.14975778863682232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909732562423733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433914979803685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968215977911925,0.0,0.19167817075324384,0.10756664589260916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776803666205784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541732336834065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507494270802428,0.0,0.1182448443984616,0.16201174084362846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634048519553137,0.113678991248937,0.0,0.0,0.16174167750850685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247108475821632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602414817510384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402544758713412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25524369792458723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215723625011346
parenting,Hatchem08,2020/01/17,"4 Year old obsessed with being a big brother My son (DS) is 4 years old and lately he has been obsessed with becoming a big brother. The thing is my husband and I are clear that we are one and done. We have never once mentioned the possibility of having another child. 

He is constantly talking about brothers and sisters and asks where his are. I have explained to him that mommy and daddy only wanted one child and that he wont be a brother. 

This past Wednesday when my In-laws picked him up from pre-school, the teacher casually mentioned ""oh DS's mommy is expecting?"" At which point my MIL says ""no? Not that were aware of"". Apparently my LO has been telling everyone at pre-school that ""my mommy is having a baby"". When my inlaws talked to DS about it he tells them ""shhh dont tell mommy"". 

I talked with him later about telling stories and told him again, mommy and daddy wont be having a baby. He got upset and says ""but I want one, just one"". 

He brought it up again tonight ""I want to be a big brother"" and when we say ""no bud, sorry"" he just asks why. Its breaking my heart telling him no. I dont know how to explain it to him so he understands that we dont want another and that it wont happen. 

I had a rough pregnancy and was high risk, I just can't go through another pregnancy. How would you explain to a 4 year old that no he wont ever be a brother?",2.762462393721385,4.171579615107916,4.236742969260956,87.19398299542186,74.7913669064748,6.9250490516677585,26.665140614780906,7.520522993642371,1.350893525179857,1055,39,222,13,22,351,132,278,0.068,0.903,0.028999999999999998,-0.8762,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,1,1,0,16,5,0,4,12,0,35,1,1,3,3,42,51,20,0,6,5,9,1,0,1,5,0,3,0,2,16,20,0,0,5,1,0,2,14,4,0,4,9,4,29,1,20,32,0,32,0,0,0,0,53,10,0,0,19,149,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021280665016277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795742945994067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607183809651384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037882557723961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828523278124683,0.33768469292962344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687630222729738,0.0,0.09177310743036704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054583393767469006,0.0,0.07681428136187113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493041988712355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381129973748633,0.0,0.10147459769238222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278266647634458,0.0,0.10834057530433434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407420586348203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023426043347399,0.10228255472584084,0.2603246204494999,0.07304495382801783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168381618233076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079158495405854,0.10827393980869557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291315085078489,0.0,0.1944010859532028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751216416614252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315869365849062,0.4197286422942405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380663559303999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177310743036704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998404674545916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22659436483353504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866637793485157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822612103952018,0.0,0.0,0.18554543744832566
parenting,Asoxus,2020/01/17,"Looking to add some way for 3yo to video call mum or dad from their tablet My 3yo has an android tablet with google's family link on there. 

This is a wifi only tablet so has no phone number associated with it. 

Is there a way to add buttons to the home screen that would let the kid call either parent whenever they like?",3.4752307692307696,4.899899907692308,4.003076923076922,89.51692307692308,73.0,7.046153846153848,20.69230769230769,7.554174236665415,0.4224461538461535,254,5,55,3,5,80,50,65,0.038,0.904,0.057999999999999996,0.0828,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,7,2,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,9,5,2,3,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,2,1,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5687952744201529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26256163121438514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793758887274673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28480314365948645,0.0,0.13606964403826746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23388466014551998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21182520574810232,0.0,0.0,0.3092608643418576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421486566215144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19785093109399626,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gmaz2011,2020/01/17,"2 yr keeps refusing clothes So we are a very laid back family and all of my kids have been a bit of nudists, but my youngest is by far my worst.  I am not sure if it is because he is a boy or just the youngest.  They all ran around naked in the summer when it is hot, but it is cold today, I am sitting in a sweater and a blanket.  The two year is running around in his diaper.  I have asked him if he wants to wear clothes, I have put clothes on him despite his objections, he just takes them off.  I just canot understand why he isnt freezing like the rest of us.",2.8705165289256205,3.1383504628099215,4.059163223140498,92.89965392561984,73.29752066115702,7.7028925619834725,28.348140495867767,7.645422480735847,1.3038999999999996,430,16,106,5,8,141,78,121,0.107,0.8809999999999999,0.012,-0.9035,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,2,0,8,3,0,0,9,0,14,1,1,0,3,21,20,9,0,3,9,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,2,3,16,2,12,18,5,17,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,3,6,73,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290331986881192,0.2252767430688828,0.0,0.0,0.1852929653777548,0.0,0.14689458924449855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26307954052813026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271674113315983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21418741524754328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772698339060192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422439028463427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22711371379619835,0.0,0.1811813181083744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228413738074086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353951015938068,0.2508608535526821,0.2898602273503367,0.0,0.0,0.19882753547093368,0.14213181408100495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21744018538094734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551783787053897
parenting,GoldenFalcon,2020/01/17,"A little poem I wrote the other day. Maybe some can relate. I'm calling this ""All But Disappeared"". I'm open to critiques, as I don't consider myself as much a poet. But mostly just sharing what I've experienced and hope it helps some out there. Parenting is hard.

I, am a stranger,

In my own skin.

I don't know, who I am anymore.

The person I use to be, has all but disappeared.


I use to, love R rated movies,

Violent video games, lude music.

I still love those things, but the time, 

I have for them, has all but disappeared.


I use to make art, webcomics and comic books.

I use to make music, though at that, I was no good.

I use to, hang out with friends.

But somehow, all of that, has all but disappeared.


Sometimes, I find the time for them,

and who I use to be.

But it does nothing for me.

What has happened?

I've grown angry in the very spot,

Where happiness once ruled.


Family and friends tell me I've changed,

I see it too. But why? Depression? Life? ... Trump?

Laughter? It's all too dark. And then.. the laughter.

Where does it come from, I search from within.

It's not here, I've rotted away in there.

I'm not who I use to be.


Laughter. I hear it again.

Someone pulling at me. Bringing me out!

It's a change for me, but it's all worth it.


Come on, daddy! I hear him shout.

It's hard to admit, I shriveled away.

But that laughter.. ... Is what this change, is all about.",-0.6051872822299629,1.60122208928572,1.2755574912891987,98.08114982578398,95.96428571428572,4.445993031358885,17.9006968641115,6.219705907916566,-0.22403919860627167,1035,31,236,12,41,337,137,280,0.091,0.73,0.17800000000000002,0.9837,1,0,0,0,0,0,78.0,0,0,2,0,13,10,1,0,10,0,17,4,1,9,8,52,42,20,0,1,14,1,3,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,25,12,0,0,3,5,1,10,5,2,0,0,2,8,31,8,32,37,13,32,0,1,1,2,21,16,0,5,6,160,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107782420073748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19151547174657227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407230317467013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234553646560097,0.17559110257077898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573033963593912,0.0,0.08778404248909355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838276521964966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608164805390043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931535597262975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748716789375358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548614329297383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012802847758837,0.10849634801873156,0.18260163313935968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297437923105152,0.0,0.06831521348601317,0.0,0.0,0.10123012864294158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05601288294141922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198951675360409,0.0,0.1021511923291667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18397459759563595,0.0,0.13606555138774873,0.0,0.1023929173288812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492335025789916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779554117986053,0.0,0.0,0.108542086773419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317073780775412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899311542552253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121750311701607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635697303046093,0.0,0.1008020554517202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139390339569896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908307547715348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771150169081523,0.0,0.10013644812838864,0.0,0.11886141460728787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6161865741232345,0.0,0.08409514892370212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196746682142183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,it5chri5tine,2020/01/17,"They literally grow up SO fast! My 3.5 year old daughter and I were snowed in this week. Just after lunch she approached me and said, ""I think it's time for my nap, but first I will clean my room and brush my teeth."" Then she proceeded to put all of her toys away, brush her teeth, use the potty and grab me for story time. Does she even need me anymore?! Just the sweetest!",2.689780701754384,4.067532276315792,3.0131578947368425,96.02043859649126,74.92105263157895,6.119298245614036,20.561403508771924,6.42735559955562,-0.10673859649122797,287,6,67,2,6,88,57,76,0.0,0.9420000000000001,0.057999999999999996,0.6626,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,2,1,1,11,6,7,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,4,1,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,4,16,0,8,3,1,17,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,10,42,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999351806435477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841485165938272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264663724872012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997560827818987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572518518831781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22425241371313884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31735563867064703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040316481254358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876858313973664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378873537415028,0.0,0.0,0.3527056517459582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612075439058891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425958644701872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947588264426155
parenting,rinahr,2020/01/17,"Pressure to provide healthy food at birthday parties? Anyone getting pressure from fellow parents to go easy on the cake and soda and offer healthier alternatives at kids birthday parties? When I was kid, cupcakes and ice cream cake were a given. Now if you offer as much as some Coca Cola they look at you like some kind of monster.",6.8881147540983605,8.09183449180328,6.800122950819674,73.4710040983607,64.73770491803279,7.411475409836067,38.200819672131146,7.1686216300943375,3.14168524590164,268,14,40,2,4,85,48,61,0.063,0.74,0.19699999999999998,0.8577,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,2,4,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,6,6,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,4,2,10,3,3,7,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,3,3,27,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27750794841517257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799092596031361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073535871248646,0.0,0.22555623257136134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132897807990784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389567767259785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332795128308492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29175270161719435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4406886289223612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chadmemelife,2020/01/17,"I named my son Chad before knowing about the stupid meme. Did I doom my child to a lifetime of name hell? My son, Chad, is 5 years old and in kindergarten. We used Chad because it honored my husband's brother and we liked how it was known but uncommon for a baby born in 2014. He would never have to spell his name out but also wouldn't be one of ten Chads in his class. 

The stupid Chad and Stacy memes exploded a few years after he was born and now it feels like that is the first thing anyone thinks about when they hear his name. My hope is that it dies down eventually but I am secretly worried people are always going to automatically think ""douchebag"" or ""alpha male"" every time they hear his name. Anyone give their child a name that has since been ruined by a meme or TV show? Does it affect the child? 

Using a throwaway because I don't want to give away my son's name out on my real account. Hope that is okay!",4.577580645161291,5.082664876344087,4.919516129032259,87.39927419354841,69.59139784946237,7.275268817204301,24.639784946236556,6.816661863887847,0.7323526881720421,721,17,153,5,12,228,114,186,0.105,0.805,0.09,-0.4525,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,3,2,6,11,3,0,10,1,16,0,0,4,1,37,30,12,1,5,5,5,1,2,0,2,0,2,0,4,10,8,0,0,6,2,1,1,3,5,0,3,4,3,20,6,19,23,1,20,2,2,0,0,32,8,1,4,13,93,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925884448257996,0.13449263712704412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260368395960517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518606905065747,0.0,0.0,0.19706146669384828,0.0,0.13753883454088014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775082385884962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144721391791698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618381964071755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172712903752684,0.11547153438065495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374860031978192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101085853214789,0.09186046427280463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3643470746430528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32107854463328256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882995199472811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793265181319935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246622914332995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696079465850938,0.0,0.10952754512666847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205683136539583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18397515299732992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370551480118167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073826078721323,0.20713739082003466,0.0,0.0,0.09425022601169593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27920017643292155,0.0,0.0,0.09533606339999744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414741809492542,0.0,0.11482032760590467,0.0,0.0,0.20817430420094787
parenting,sleepysanta800,2020/01/17,"One of the biggest shocks of parenting is realising your teenager doesn't tell you everything (not a serious post, just musing) I have no idea why this came as a surprise. I am really close to my own mum but I hid lots of trivial things from her as a teen. Yet it still makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong when my teenage daughter doesn't tell me everything and then I find out some random tidbit of info. Logically I know I don't want to know everything anyway. Is it an inbuilt parenting thing that makes you wonder why they aren't telling you everything in their lives or am I just a nosy git?",4.894648760330576,5.665228578512398,5.619493801652894,81.71287706611571,69.0,9.355785123966943,30.001033057851238,9.516144504307137,2.561090082644628,482,18,97,10,8,157,86,121,0.113,0.845,0.042,-0.6102,2,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,2,0,6,5,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,23,19,7,0,1,5,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,8,0,0,1,6,3,0,1,1,1,18,2,11,18,3,10,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,5,5,67,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171635457865611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.539478363917481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587784847449032,0.10720713785050608,0.0,0.0,0.1371575509083527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940618069232527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649446326288375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331463838619516,0.0,0.13251097476325344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758069617181195,0.0,0.0,0.2003403610787594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168856499398383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332609355522224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143721688905048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613608411785048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552809252601122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984285390087515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39349273916306415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939428546856086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851277975882163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708223400057663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274011104638808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407354814898506,0.0,0.0
parenting,BriarRoseAurora,2020/01/17,"My son ( 14) was bit by another student yesterday ( also 14) There is a boy who is mean, impulsive and extremely aggressive.  During square dancing yesterday my son told the kid to stop messing around . The kid lunged and bit him on the arm , it broke through the skin and was bleeding, then when my son grabbed his arm in shock the boy bit him on the shoulder.  My dad is a cop and says I should file charges, and I am considering it. These are 2 seriously deep bite wounds. What would you do?",3.3475,5.2270395789473705,3.9465131578947386,87.91871710526317,74.26315789473685,8.118421052631579,28.717105263157894,8.841846274778883,2.170710526315789,380,16,80,8,8,120,66,95,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.8832,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,4,5,1,0,8,0,10,7,5,0,0,10,12,8,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,4,5,6,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,3,4,10,0,7,7,3,11,0,1,1,0,15,5,0,0,5,49,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19285697425105172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528791351435512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146850977866307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7898585525312758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26269585823201697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178151297403526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016220318639172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304403987204784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131439673030335,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,totesnotanalien,2020/01/17,"Our baby is getting a flat head! Baby is 3 months old (as of yesterday woo-hoo!). Our pediatrician mentioned a while ago the back of his head is getting a bit flat. I kind of blame myself because sometimes I’ll put him on his back to play with him instead of tummy time. On a bad day, he can only do tummy time for 5 minutes then just lets his head fall and start bawling. On better days, he’ll hold his head up for a long time really well and look all around. I always do what I can to keep his attention but then he just puts his head down and is totally over it :C Since his head is constantly on my mind now, I’ll hold him in a way that he can hold up his head and only put him down if he’s sleeping or I have to do something really quick. 

*WELL* turns out he’s turning his head in his sleep to face the ceiling! At night I’ll wake up, notice, turn his head to the side and go back to sleep, wake up later to check on him and same thing! There’s not much I can do about it I guess so this is mainly a rant but if you had similar experiences/ any advice that’d be nice too",1.8203338102050568,2.85887535622318,3.5879470672389147,92.39424296614212,76.55364806866953,6.7228421554601825,21.098950882212684,7.1686216300943375,0.30154287076776365,830,19,199,9,18,279,127,233,0.063,0.897,0.04,-0.7884,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,1,15,7,0,0,10,0,19,15,15,0,2,27,30,16,0,2,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,4,1,1,1,5,1,1,2,0,1,1,27,6,33,25,6,46,0,0,1,0,26,18,0,4,22,128,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811261182196755,0.07085851148225877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651322175792468,0.0,0.0,0.054359275240627836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116005826087092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18439773311615806,0.06674328751857203,0.04872829217323076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069696645354379,0.08726949564028373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638250421545213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310431676685217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819282436213815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352660468300409,0.0,0.045429516154043566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805860373270853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7383373128944842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105086037334947,0.0,0.08324112598915953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174005720753268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074091498821068,0.06712617443266887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071265316287546,0.0,0.06380421608755082,0.0,0.05876221605586018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501459566903225,0.0,0.0,0.09100775641670712,0.08387946882522791,0.0,0.0,0.12158998115939887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410735154192699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241819892086827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612395106676225,0.0,0.23998142538761144,0.0,0.0,0.06153869938561656,0.07905882666671439,0.0,0.0565791685567788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531059793525842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983411249930547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608425010859013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344953925383487,0.0,0.0,0.14374427096263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iwalkthroughthefire,2020/01/17,My 3 year old girl tries to make out with me I think it’s cute and don’t mind it but I am wondering if this is normal. She legitly slobers on my mouth. At what age do I tell her to stop? Should I try to direct her to a stuffed animal or something?,-0.7829761904761909,0.9786247500000016,1.74642857142857,99.16523809523814,87.21428571428572,5.8761904761904775,18.261904761904766,7.1686216300943375,-0.03946666666666676,190,5,50,3,6,65,46,56,0.062,0.899,0.039,-0.2869,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,1,0,13,8,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,8,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,3,4,32,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21740634678452064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288627430838567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191154788590423,0.0,0.0,0.34176589574643296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507386970036473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27229861616516743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846749350190259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208694513852483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422559444267821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532062418914508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20973922206803075
parenting,domestic_human,2020/01/17,"Turns out that my helping her she ends up helping me My daughter recently turned 8, and I've been noticing that she tends to get down on herself when I correct her behaviour (""I'm so stupid, I don't know anything"", etc). I've been trying to encourage her to not say negative things so I've put some growth mindset post it notes on her mirror. We try to read them every night before bed, in the morning, and if she needs a boost. 

I've had a really hard couple weeks with stress at work and personal things, and have been feeling particularly run down. Tonight my daughter, instead of reading the notes, started joking around ""I'm stupid, I'm really stupid, I'm so dumb, I don't know anything"" and I lost my patience with it. 

I shouted, ""Hey! This is not a joke!"" Then I started crying and told her that when I was young my parents didn't say nice things to me and I've lived my whole life thinking I'm not good at things or a good person. And I explained that my job as her mom is to make sure she doesn't feel sad like I do.

She looks me dead in the eyes and says, ""Sounds like you need some notes on your mirror."" 

And then she made me some.

At least I know I'm definitely doing something right! She's a lovely person and I'm proud to be her mother.",2.7829069767441865,4.080395313953492,3.802240310077519,90.7787093023256,74.54263565891472,6.555348837209302,24.527906976744184,6.961326702584282,0.7526939534883725,973,30,214,9,20,314,138,258,0.156,0.721,0.12300000000000001,-0.9057,2,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,1,2,1,3,7,18,4,1,8,0,15,3,1,2,2,37,43,21,1,3,5,5,3,2,0,0,1,5,1,3,11,16,0,0,7,4,0,3,8,7,0,0,9,10,40,11,24,33,6,30,0,2,2,1,37,14,1,5,14,129,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874612403556717,0.10139582440812404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969211572329952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260290240712906,0.12511463605392134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088226546980993,0.0,0.12702945526102116,0.0,0.0,0.09596630246321253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151832927782018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059508445810967626,0.0,0.0,0.1910691063365452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203270821318806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526905564709885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302892872833878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18779063614331026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045147495173882,0.11129231558277697,0.0,0.10057645748621932,0.0,0.09564795142539413,0.0,0.12433613403007265,0.0,0.10279988252234336,0.10777565273949538,0.0760296414874737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333991930354063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891194002552073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688814703635577,0.0,0.0,0.12967676973474165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264733142906465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983612497791293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908544261961543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145017229997712,0.0,0.0,0.2278631655280549,0.0,0.14593548639190754,0.0,0.11246325901583497,0.0,0.0,0.09727062635596544,0.0,0.2717353670290561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876863694283875,0.0,0.0,0.1612390877789757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047293529229986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735011796369856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30268241421140085,0.0729830076411395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883705690845018,0.0,0.15466227825353626,0.2477826380385377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913643189639095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716613046374506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829211095409327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,controversial_Jane,2020/01/17,"Parenting with non parent friends is frustrating! I find it frustrating when friends without children invite you to events during nap times or bedtime and make out that it’s ‘no problem’ and my child can just nap in the pushchair or in their room with the other babies invited. If only life was that simple, I don’t chose to be a fun sponge but attending an event with a screaming 1 year old over a lunch isn’t exactly my idea of fun. It’s also not my fault and I didn’t create a difficult child (despite what non parent people think) but she sleeps in a cot, in a dark room without a party going on downstairs! Am I the only one with a child that won’t sleep just anywhere? How do I explain without being an arsehole and keep having to repeat that it’s not that bloody simple?",5.960336917562723,5.924759858064518,6.352473118279573,80.19315412186381,66.54838709677419,8.953405017921149,31.415770609319,8.515128840125781,2.354749103942652,618,22,118,8,9,200,97,155,0.094,0.7759999999999999,0.13,0.7671,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,0,5,10,2,0,13,0,12,4,2,2,1,30,17,12,0,2,12,3,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,4,11,9,1,1,4,2,0,2,10,6,0,1,2,1,11,4,18,12,0,18,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,3,7,83,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130095962009347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006471500838836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25370224215685666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331173552144864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853480909938381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459376998260029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597072991051198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959666088690273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17228752303149075,0.0,0.11125793238777393,0.2497445080755915,0.0,0.0,0.5469335117082594,0.0,0.0,0.1138271779324651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710559276627326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286128372267641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520494089492748,0.0,0.0,0.0957392522676787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4748136680126946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573158850075212
parenting,LunaIvyft,2020/01/17,Babysitter? What is a reasonable price to pay a babysitter to watch an almost 6 month old for 3 hours?,2.6454999999999984,5.05386455,3.0599999999999987,90.935,78.5,6.0,25.0,7.1686216300943375,1.094,81,3,16,1,2,25,17,20,0.105,0.895,0.0,-0.1926,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4585914768509656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510088632802364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655478231434818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4805631839974322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47087012836198405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heybrownfox,2020/01/17,"Weird 9 month old check up My son does not crawl yet, he's not even close. I brought this up with the pediatrician and she wasn't concerned, she said some kids just need more time. I started to feel better, but then she said he is ""a little floppy"" in his shoulder girdle, but she's not concerned, because he's only ""a little floppy"". I was like, what the fuck? I asked her if there was anything I can do to help him get stronger, but she said keep putting him on the floor and do what I've been doing. She also thinks he'll walk late. Any thoughts? I'm worried he has low muscle tone in his shoulders.",1.4751344086021518,3.4801883951612917,2.3335483870967764,96.73698924731184,80.37096774193549,4.455913978494624,20.81720430107527,4.7782277997778095,-0.4004118279569888,467,13,105,1,12,146,85,124,0.091,0.813,0.096,0.1442,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,5,0,10,3,2,0,0,18,25,8,0,2,8,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,0,1,3,4,3,0,0,9,4,17,2,8,15,2,20,0,1,0,1,23,10,1,2,8,60,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508743541902692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829783781939702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525421315779192,0.0,0.1763751636235685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500768725821495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668577790308919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510094251039548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461064528365087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953940742911672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441662161678062,0.09856903659760033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645735276557124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676930334475028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128209579104943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217159159690758,0.3781813363267298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058962672990586,0.0,0.0,0.13989179998949544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797089714825947,0.0,0.0,0.14348730381520006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18965920502619868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383873660838214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353719230657826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088813030059957,0.0,0.149777964876154,0.11001136547927236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915972233560359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,C250586,2020/01/17,"The best way to keep your kids safe in the long term, is to teach them how to be safe in an unsafe environment. [Video Here](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhG9Txdw4NQ)

I have made my home in the Canadian Rockies. Like most everyone else who makes this (often expensive) place their home, we choose this place so we can enjoy the mountains.

But, mountains are inherently risky. There are bears, blizzards, rockfalls, thunderstorms and all other kinds of dangers lurking at every corner when you choose to explore the vast open spaces the Rockies offer. 

I've chosen maybe a slightly different path to parenting than maybe a lot of people in this day and age. Rather than avoiding any and all perceived risk for my kids, I've chosen to expose them to it in a way that allows them to understand risk, consequence, and empower them to take safety into their own hands through education and knowledge-based decision making. 

I'm one of those people that I'm sure many would look at as a ""risk-taker"". While there is some inherent truth to that, I'm also dedicated to giving people the opportunity to learn how to manage risk in a way that enables them to enjoy things like the mountains in a safe and responsible fashion. 

This starts with my kids. As a rock climber at a fairly advanced level, I feel as though I'm able to give my kids an incredibly unique gift... enjoying the vertical world. 

The route in the video we chose was 3 pitches long, bolted, and had no serious objective hazard above. This means that I would climb first 3 times, stopping at a bolted anchor to give my daughter a top-rope belay 3 times. The route ends with an easy 10 minute walk-off back to the car, and there is little to no chance of rocks falling down on us from above. 

I hope I can inspire some of you parents to learn how to keep yourselves and your kids safe in what might be considered higher-risk environments, and in so doing, giving them the amazing gift of an adventurous life.",8.957402319902318,8.048524233516485,8.084029304029304,73.12208180708184,60.78571428571429,10.946031746031746,35.332112332112324,9.994966539143718,3.3506335775335767,1567,55,278,26,18,487,202,364,0.065,0.746,0.188,0.9940000000000001,6,1,0,0,0,0,56.0,4,4,8,6,14,24,1,4,28,0,16,2,1,7,4,58,36,23,0,4,2,3,2,2,0,3,1,0,2,5,16,17,0,8,11,4,1,5,2,6,0,2,3,3,26,18,53,28,9,48,0,0,1,0,30,26,0,7,16,177,42,4,0.1116901693745918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931858809631431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595314519382741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588284602634833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721194202277843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203091934943769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669245495568405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330280474296693,0.0,0.09892433866726892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410378485559882,0.1067247432144788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056473905549890374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500360101307832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285735511304653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240686930849768,0.11093353955569817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985507087868614,0.0,0.11630812405730835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889006969999908,0.10913235013610904,0.11194289177364868,0.0,0.19768457042370646,0.09379161238669598,0.0,0.0,0.0949549879240242,0.0,0.10568393881755576,0.1491081106918377,0.11323630128056401,0.22441557463176814,0.1216633375440678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848561945533286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568414933252635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24803743090016134,0.0,0.0,0.2322957010215145,0.0,0.2333849099113681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905487674948299,0.0,0.0,0.09337798275188366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526666283669248,0.0,0.08397710735661011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420198563303439,0.0,0.1097350243285725,0.0,0.1302548719017478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627340528433165,0.13434952170979678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26596337310028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868298355239902,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kourtneybs,2020/01/17,"Toddler Poop Play I’m on my 4th child, the third who has more interest in poop than I’d like. My son is almost 3 and has some sensory issues with a speech delay. He has been taking his poop out of his diaper with the diaper staying on (and pants on) so far, we are trying one piece pajamas to keep him from accessing. I think he might just take his arm into his sleeve. I think he hates the feeling of poop and I try to change him as soon as he goes. 

His twin sisters had an interest but mostly taking off diapers so if we could keep the diaper on we were good. 

I understand that this behavior is typical to start potty training but we have communication barriers among other things that makes this time not right.  

Has anyone else had this issue & what are the tips?",4.7735714285714295,5.3773586948051975,5.8172987012987045,80.78451948051949,69.1948051948052,9.796363636363637,25.78961038961039,9.888512548439397,2.1947501298701297,605,16,123,14,10,201,103,154,0.023,0.894,0.083,0.8043,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,7,0,15,5,5,1,0,30,28,10,0,2,5,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,11,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,2,17,5,20,22,4,16,0,0,0,0,19,11,0,5,5,85,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807377789336701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19556421083865452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262049801944246,0.18493652236186972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19093777937359305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410906262863804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077883423995636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126274035649212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138905844024553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819957994512636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37677582952672295,0.0,0.3208611412151215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817981719155989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048055343980618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914746681505395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230680351183425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414013097423485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775395327190284,0.1923816414249958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071250714795189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991160311697127,0.2313053956397991,0.0,0.0,0.1052469847692376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450859495808273,0.0,0.0,0.1878996944430335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoldenRam_,2020/01/17,"Book recommendation to help raise teenage boys I'm the eldest of 5 boys currently 26, and I'm looking for books I can read to better prepare my 2 youngest siblings 12M & 14M for the real world.",6.855853658536584,5.271441048780492,7.658658536585366,76.66652439024392,65.34146341463415,10.151219512195123,37.57317073170732,8.841846274778883,3.0789414634146337,157,7,33,2,2,53,33,41,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,11,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4659748974846893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38035725767273104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882632873925573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611460138399122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301810582717454,0.4895077551818684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stankus_grinch,2020/01/17,"First child will be here soon. Would like some advice Hi everyone! Just posting here to see if I can gain some insight/advice from some experienced and even new parents. My wife and I are expecting our first child in March, and I’ve really been going back and forth with what kind of parent I want to be. Growing up, my dad was extremely reserved and stern, but instilled discipline and respect in me at a young age. While I see the benefits of that now, growing up was tough because I felt I could never speak to him without being corrected, and I was scared to make mistakes. We’re closer now that I’m an adult, but I don’t want that kind of relationship with my child as he grows. At the same time tough, I don’t want to be too laid back to where he thinks he can run the house. People often think that I’m going to be a “soft” parent because of my laid back and nice demeanor, and while I do want my son to feel like he can come to me whenever there’s an issue, I don’t want him to not have respect instilled in him like there was for me. So I guess what I’m asking is, what do my fellow parents out there recommend? What is the best parenting method that raises a respectful child, without hindering the relationship by being too stern?

TLDR: Need advice on raising a respectful child, without damaging our relationship by being the stern parent.",5.736109550561796,5.923557561797754,6.209510767790262,80.2657268258427,67.01498127340824,9.371629213483146,30.170646067415728,9.188382445141503,2.396498314606741,1067,36,210,18,16,346,135,267,0.037000000000000005,0.7609999999999999,0.20199999999999999,0.9922,6,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,4,18,17,0,1,12,0,27,0,0,1,2,45,48,16,0,11,8,9,3,3,1,2,0,1,0,6,9,13,0,1,4,0,0,7,8,5,0,2,6,7,26,12,33,32,5,35,0,1,2,0,31,11,0,6,19,148,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269551521217446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085958954193032,0.0,0.0,0.21210697526367356,0.0,0.11210127682120456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649373783601774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920504770784714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341298438909832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073077711078687,0.0,0.0,0.08786024030173402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649166409723116,0.06568765907281827,0.08828448526086177,0.0,0.0,0.15642181865482765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045123179801392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129107211920804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060956298672943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596980782018533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914993547125755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347634234413043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137599417782023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817826603377264,0.07091595467946571,0.0888039371701767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6125841382138767,0.0,0.0,0.06374515567832936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806075314993476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058904233848076124,0.0,0.0,0.29615317692883103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920559737444209,0.0,0.14654127948202775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783311257098045,0.0,0.0,0.053615609656517633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711665201104648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659037299828833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531721064295078,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Two_drei_cuatro,2020/01/17,"PRE-PRESCHOOL, is it a thing in your area? I'm looking for insight and discussion into pre-preschool. I don't know what else to call it, because I've never heard of it before now.  I'd really like to hear from different parents/educators around the United States, to hear what the norms are in their area.   


I'm from the Midwest, and in the midwest (as far as I know) preschool starts at four years old and kindergarden starts at five years old. First grade comes in at about six, so on and so forth.  
Here on the East Coast, it appears that ""preschool"" starts at THREE years old depending on who you listen to.  So since this conflicts with my experience of when preschool starts, I'm going to refer to it as 'pre-preschool' for clarity.  


I live in the Boston suburbs, and I have toured seven preschools within 20 miles. Five of the preschools start at three years old (all are private), and the remaining two start at four. There is a lot of pressure, I feel, on me to get my son into these three year old preschool classes. Guilt, and especially fear is being used by native/local peers and educators in my neighborhood to push me into putting my (almost three) year old son into preschool when he turns three.  

  
A pre-preschool in my area can cost anywhere between $12,000 dollars to $19,000.00, for ONE SCHOOL YEAR.  The ratio of students to teacher also vary with the dollar amounts, on the low dollar end it's 20-25 kids per a pair of 'teachers'. On the high dollar end, it's 12-19 kids per a pair of 'teachers'. One of the teachers is always a early education graduate of a college, the other teacher is usually listed formally as an aide. The school day is generally a morning or afternoon class, and you can only take one slot. A daycare operation would still need to be employed in order to pick the child up after school.  


After listening to my peers, and touring these schools, I really feel like it's just a money grab. I can't shake this feeling that private institutions are just trying to shake the money tree loose in order to upcharge glorified daycare.   


Is this happening in your area? Has anyone else faced this?",6.892113646147222,6.907420841584155,6.594593198450283,79.06818553594492,64.59405940594058,9.402324580284118,34.14937580714593,8.964715089967882,2.8127459319845025,1676,67,315,24,23,525,203,404,0.04,0.91,0.05,0.4704,3,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,0,4,1,1,15,8,0,5,28,0,19,1,1,3,2,40,48,21,0,2,3,2,4,2,0,1,0,5,0,3,21,18,0,1,7,0,7,7,3,6,0,16,1,10,20,2,69,44,3,81,0,1,1,0,19,38,0,5,35,199,41,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374680918097535,0.0,0.0,0.06688163162936576,0.06958972168751812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05847844571504954,0.08569234246547121,0.0,0.07445149278235914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05098216867294027,0.0,0.07116589741551609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539909286248297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204280301695773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053936649879180516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737914416936994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973001476639454,0.0,0.14814880796791094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180955216883426,0.0,0.0941108713077054,0.12686274027036107,0.059747746137135065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113856120932277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04369502047689537,0.0,0.04753081119817857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739567746526378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852193000067974,0.0,0.0,0.08836332099236915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192550267252812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171814844161646,0.0,0.07384985962016154,0.0,0.07023102585104689,0.0,0.0,0.0711021597974355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201313593075705,0.06450326464769092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5265553587605911,0.0,0.1700165498713972,0.0636069996704453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407470675688028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715544624465467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385660244039098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918244568519646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35517707509409313,0.0,0.06678977309518254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628819384546033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055562341222015824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678161581264182,0.09096916660624353,0.08169771831598502,0.0,0.0,0.07223243958968384,0.09211041834760456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594107961063829,0.0,0.0,0.37700035261806014
parenting,Pam_Doov,2020/01/17,"How do you all navigate video games and the pressure to let your kids play this junk? Hi all. Looking for a bit of feedback and just some knowledge about where other parents are at with this. 

I have two boys. Aged 7 and 10. 

A year ago I caved and got them an Xbox.  When we got it the rule was that they weren’t allowed to play online multiplayer games, violent games, and there were rules around when they could play it. For example, once all homework and chores were completed, they could get an hour of video game time. 

At the beginning, things were ok. They generally just played Minecraft and a few other tame games.  After a few months, I noticed some behaviour changes. They would play a game together, but would just fight and bicker like crazy.  Then came the fits of rage when it was time to turn it off.  And after it was off, the general rudeness and bad mood for an hour.  

At first, it was a nice tool to have because it seemed like an incentive for them to be on good behaviour and do their chores.  It was a carrot for sure. But what I’ve come to realize is that it’s been an overall bad thing for them, and for their mental health.  

It really sucks because I wanted to let them have one because their peers were playing video games, and you want your kids to not be left out of popular things happening with their friends.  But what I’ve realized is that it’s a terrible drug and it has changed their behaviour.  All they could think about was “when the next Xbox session would be”.  There was no incentive to do chores or be on good behaviour just because those are nice things. 

About 6 months ago there was an incident where I removed it all together and packed it away in the basement for two weeks.  The first day or two was painful for them, and then I noticed a huge change where they started playing together again and be creative.  They actually enjoyed not having it.  

I decided to bring it back out and see if they could play it again without fighting. But things quickly went downhill.  

To add another layer, my 10 year old cake home one day from school and was upset saying that all his friends were playing Call of Duty and Grand Theft Auto and that I was a bad parent because I wasn’t letting him play those. Which by the way are rated for 17 +.  I told him that he wasn’t allowed to play those games and he basically told me that I was a terrible parent.  And he said his “friends” constantly tease him because he’s not allowed to play violent video games. 

So, first off...are parents actually letting their kids play these kinds of games?  I have seen Call of Duty and I am shocked that any parent would knowingly allow this.  I’m pissed at myself for brining this Xbox into the house, but also pissed at the industry that it sucks these kids in like this.  If you ever go on to an Xbox and look at the home screen you’ll see what I mean. It’s just a feast for a 10 year old boy.  Not only that, but the toy industry markets stuff like Call of Duty action figures to little kids meanwhile the video game is so violent that I wouldn’t even play it. 

I don’t even know what I’m asking here, other than how others manage this. Ugh. What ever happens to the days of Pac Man.  

Last night, after the boys bickered and fought again after playing for an hour, I packed it away again. I told them I might sell the damn thing and how I’d wish we never bought one.  Now I feel like a failed parent because it was all my decision and fault to get it in the first place. And now I’m blaming them for not being able to handle it when it was me who put them in this position in the first place.   

Thanks for reading this post.",4.556762510289231,5.4650639791376925,4.656992421447021,87.80930061593484,69.84840055632823,7.9834350430019025,27.19085464505691,8.159919018807972,1.5139812721750734,2847,90,596,38,49,885,284,719,0.132,0.718,0.149,0.2194,10,0,1,0,3,0,67.0,2,6,23,6,39,61,14,2,41,1,61,5,2,7,11,111,102,52,0,14,21,6,1,5,3,7,3,2,6,9,67,40,0,3,12,37,2,8,13,26,0,11,34,9,61,34,77,47,12,93,0,1,6,0,84,31,5,8,57,411,128,11,0.05720726142402064,0.0,0.11165206980634744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142157112750934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04574862629237501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038902899488917175,0.059986801596096435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050926591311120255,0.05348106701882105,0.0,0.10749621051151516,0.04398885284156348,0.14329702122045354,0.2441111090983567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245551292422349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524503020758375,0.06542986688074359,0.0,0.0,0.1815530915233413,0.04927899023968893,0.059980725189389926,0.06182072634741561,0.0,0.1827013729994075,0.0,0.0,0.11068185293950952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634226114840218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755697132720668,0.10349448627110562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028925710261864617,0.04086887899187165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433023367146445,0.0,0.0,0.13259456480235204,0.0,0.05977686590281878,0.0,0.032512205009127784,0.09596547340466803,0.09150774588715282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117638469475852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060808643761587226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476709520656285,0.0,0.1690128869321616,0.0660094988893752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059572559482549164,0.06287922955901262,0.046631553412047916,0.0,0.0,0.062155856923386266,0.23399320286642264,0.0,0.13974289140693136,0.05733670483369139,0.0,0.0,0.0960793831584381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231547857412125,0.0,0.0,0.05765146422392771,0.06068786398232661,0.0,0.0,0.0913245805590867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044121766726003535,0.0,0.06084057152667675,0.05368513952027477,0.0,0.0,0.13026169259684645,0.12005879513466135,0.060923866373544966,0.11629536262943665,0.04350870017089649,0.06087255956698629,0.0,0.3811313627305485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953882448635984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547887428965636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057509098482769874,0.0,0.0,0.0572227425214151,0.0,0.036648436543875874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441720594529293,0.04549351041572488,0.0,0.05789680271103335,0.09117356141167908,0.05207934224595026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040491594080080434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548862761312267,0.0,0.0,0.05391716687200978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266876028126966,0.0,0.0,0.2280357750763381,0.0366561031925382,0.0,0.0,0.06671602836991256,0.0,0.0,0.16399196956194442,0.0,0.0,0.062225072950680665,0.16764954561320847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674846499538443,0.04540846133955066,0.04588821442553463,0.0,0.0,0.05303170447509392,0.0,0.0,0.06578552737318256,0.05514575856687132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255358863643646,0.0,0.0,0.11051880222998417
parenting,iamusingmyrealname,2020/01/17,"Eating Is it me, or is the sound of kids eating just SO INCREDIBLY FUCKING ANNOYING?? 
Slurping, slopping, mouth open chewing, forgetting to breathe in and out, FFS.
I have to leave the room 😂",4.454476190476188,6.694509114285713,5.142857142857146,78.9704761904762,72.14285714285714,8.095238095238095,34.52380952380953,8.841846274778883,3.269666666666668,149,8,26,3,3,48,31,35,0.293,0.7070000000000001,0.0,-0.9253,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,3,6,2,0,0,6,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,5,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,1,0,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8242901451939363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723641423153823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264864617474851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Your_mortal_enemy,2020/01/17,"Kids with Bring Your Own Devices... educational apps/games Hi, my 10 year old now has a bring your own device for schools. It cost quite a bit and I think it’s really great for kids of this age to be fluent on computer devices, but I’d like her to be spending a chunk of the time when the device is at home playing games that have an educational or learning element - any suggestions?

It’s a Microsoft surface so would be using the Microsoft App Store / steam / chrome store",9.165978260869565,6.751753641304351,9.027826086956527,71.30304347826089,61.5,12.678260869565218,38.21739130434783,11.20814326018867,3.996686956521738,373,14,74,8,4,122,68,92,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.799,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,11,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,2,0,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,9,7,3,11,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,7,42,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129519766408567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418774719637782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452477455638329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314113859103606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529887249411441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285970721067895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330723799939686,0.0,0.0,0.20061119107686853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31692338464418746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006531578199212,0.0,0.0,0.18259963012587005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704600885593769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22245197957581173,0.0,0.0,0.2016576116437445
parenting,miiten_livin,2020/01/17,"Moving away from family? My husband and I, plus our 3 kids, are debating making a interstate move. We currently live near my family. We moved here 5+ years ago due to my grandfather being ill. He has since passed and the situation has gotten to be almost toxic. My mother and two brothers live withing 45min-1hr from us. Without getting into the details, family drama has gotten out of control.

We think it would be best to move back to where we moved from, which would be near my husband's family. In comparison to my family, they are a breath of fresh air and not nearly as complicated. There are a lot of pros to moving back (cost of living, weather, schools, opportunities, etc), except for the huge mountain that is moving, getting jobs, selling/buying a home, etc.

Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do? Stay or go?",4.4046997518610445,6.526859961290324,5.656129032258067,75.74727047146403,71.96774193548387,8.382133995037224,26.761786600496286,9.057496981413335,2.4280223325062043,654,23,112,14,13,218,104,155,0.018000000000000002,0.904,0.079,0.8611,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,6,1,1,3,5,2,0,0,7,0,17,2,1,2,0,23,24,7,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,12,0,1,1,1,1,9,2,0,0,1,4,0,15,2,27,14,4,27,0,0,0,0,14,11,0,3,6,87,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227068402526239,0.0,0.09293605585600964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489508257684254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719828208722341,0.14273070205990634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739862818230097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409458371164057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070159171442482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4374662043751712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697904680511046,0.0,0.05274620212514137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309624492373222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209984919028777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458594451205765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890395298688595,0.0,0.0,0.06195156048782706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6904982318137014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392892476343068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677359530869578,0.20864521222063764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892337439703627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05946905869875142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066212536307283,0.0,0.11163929959405926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946576606833698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185947308060758,0.0,0.0,0.059766756098872775
parenting,DF-Dave,2020/01/17,"Help with bullying This will be a little cliffnotes, so I apologize for that. I can fill in details if needed.

My daughter is 9. She has a classmate who has always teased and/or bullied her and other kids in class. My daughter tends to be the one to defend others, but as a result is now the lone target for this girl. Up until this point it was manageable. Most of the insults are easily refuted or explained. 

But now the bully has found my little girls kryptonite. My daughter is average height and normal weight, but she's convinced she's short and now she's being called ""fat"" and ""ugly"". She comes home with her lunch either not eaten or only partially eaten. Hardly eats supper. I was putting Vicks on her chest earlier this week because she's got a cold and cough and there's visible ribs. I'm...well...I'm not a happy daddy right now.

I've contacted the school and there have been issues between them over the years. They're well aware that my kid will fight back, but never instigates these issues so the principal has claimed that she'll handle it when she's back in the building and discuss this with the staff.

I have also contacted the girls mom who totally denies her daughter has said or done anything wrong. Fine.

Now, my question is two parts.

One; what else can I say or do with my daughter to help her understand this is bullshit she shouldn't be taking to heart like this.

Two; she's already starving herself and I've asked her not to wear a dozen hair ties around her wrist because I caught her snapping them....so...how do I avoid her anxiety escalating beyond where we are now?


I'm torn between barely contained rage and feeling totally powerless to do anything meaningful to help my kid.",4.7650461538461535,6.510074489230776,4.910769230769231,83.00923076923078,70.26153846153846,7.661538461538463,28.384615384615394,8.238735603445708,2.0096153846153846,1359,50,246,20,25,425,185,325,0.165,0.7509999999999999,0.083,-0.9863,1,1,0,0,1,0,46.0,1,0,1,0,18,12,4,1,16,0,31,14,7,1,3,46,46,25,0,4,13,6,4,1,0,4,2,2,1,6,18,17,7,2,6,0,0,4,5,7,1,5,10,7,37,5,26,28,5,32,0,1,0,0,52,15,0,7,14,176,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130349903335862,0.10239946606379673,0.10654570127444787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097955916780841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074421318103814,0.11398934091223345,0.11970704152404613,0.0,0.0,0.19692110599988824,0.0,0.15611302307377672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307507203160285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030150405954907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310369556844594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102446564440112,0.1069671788545518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474461697278762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403973738710246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241120967940197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630884704548699,0.11470532666017427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173679522420855,0.2574824357499225,0.0,0.12844199075769513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672964527694757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255749571508291,0.2566742845262691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499675768809216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494553068682944,0.09875805506508037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545927298292373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353647535911182,0.09738582396237297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386628649362051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104618931539833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287230121580164,0.1434424021939433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935178695137912,0.12180240774596553,0.10182843843585404,0.0,0.12959081320872187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627571525902627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501674235625003,0.13330186775563582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271190714591877,0.155927246997492,0.23025999566879998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999973963209586,0.0,0.08245833267236237
parenting,Winter-Neighborhood,2020/01/17,"My son has severe mental health issues and I need help My son in 12 years old and has some sort of behavioural and anger problems. There has been no cause. At the age of 3 or 4, he started physically attacking his siblings which he still currently does. He kicks and hits them everyday to the point of cuts and bruises. He won't stop until they are crying; once they do cry, he laughs. I thought it may have been jealousy for some reason but the fact that he laughs when someone is crying in pain begging him to stop suggests otherwise. I have tried restraining him but he says child abuse and hits me too. He is also physically abuse and swears and myself and the other kids constantly, dragging us all down with the most disgusting words (I can't put on here). I suffer from depression and can't cope anymore.
I tried getting help at the doctors and school when they sent a psychiatrist to talk to him. The psych said he was a lovely pleasant child, but he is a compulsive liar and he is good at it. He is home schooled now.
His dad (doesn't live with us) doesn't care and won't help. He makes the situation worse by buying him very expensive game controls and designer brands whenever he wants (the other kids get nothing).
Anyways, my son believes there is nothing wrong with him at all. The bullying and physical abuse is literally every day. He also steals from his siblings and puts things in his underwear so they can't get it back. He has put holes in all of the doors due to bordem and anger. He also spits on everyone, bites and pulls hair out. Not to mention he uses weapons on people, usually heavy things and metal. He has threatened to stab us to death (rare, though). He also tried to put a knife in my hand and stab himself a few years back.",4.818037634408603,6.015556017595313,5.0040359237536665,84.49272055229717,69.46920821114371,8.263978494623656,28.28457966764418,8.59863814320734,1.9472022482893443,1386,48,274,22,24,435,185,341,0.251,0.653,0.096,-0.9972,1,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,3,0,5,1,17,19,7,0,16,0,27,7,3,5,4,51,42,33,1,3,5,4,2,0,0,3,3,2,2,4,9,24,0,4,2,1,2,6,9,13,0,0,6,4,30,6,35,31,7,41,0,2,0,1,57,15,0,6,20,167,39,4,0.0,0.31146528368640564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28029597815793217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690084348574262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996865337185488,0.0,0.1347570357246597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987238105582174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933992734469276,0.09001541538563489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469191955207848,0.09827932836822713,0.0,0.0,0.2887571365087851,0.05651112894578685,0.0,0.07547162196270188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896883019932982,0.07668157127185987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382817223896565,0.08372981741689353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734195256786388,0.0,0.0,0.07349602167681289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314169443406957,0.0,0.0,0.17620036012211102,0.0,0.08789541298377106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914581437373998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737482674529457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790853376466635,0.0,0.058490629762001485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830578569512246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497311807028501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815785430435787,0.0,0.09194810900896253,0.09331818298324587,0.0,0.0,0.09323959542392432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060748413933630376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283431872416107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384566633389119,0.0,0.3523508861050875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009349724119363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335181406091614,0.06968322895817211,0.0,0.17736315014567658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899175168788807,0.0,0.0,0.09849461227057776,0.0,0.0,0.0742447105145327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202170365354631,0.0,0.06997775145650277,0.14651750308474584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042997111510267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642883406220372,0.0,0.08609150300605498,0.06956477361043392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784756684068872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162076736095296,0.07568020477476864,0.09650698996233127,0.0723001254955341,0.05168372665599345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929776076899072,0.0,0.09580461078182297,0.0,0.1128557594200361
parenting,abeard86,2020/01/17,"Daycare App and ""Performing"" Our daughter's (3 year old) daycare just recently released an app.  I have no issues with pictures being taken of my daughter for privacy concerns, so that's not where this post is going.

My problem is the unnecessary pressure of ""performing for the camera"".  I know the world is changing and there is no stopping the social media powerhouse until it runs its course.  I just don't like the idea of the need to ""create"" these moments.  I watched a Bo Burnham award acceptance speech where he said kids today need to be the actor, director, editor, etc to be ""relevant"" - it was eye opening and upsetting at the unnecessary pressures put on kids these days.  I would have never wanted that knowing what I know now.

Now even in daycare, the spotlight is being put onto unknowing kids to be a star.  There was a video of them trying a food and I could hear the teachers inciting a response for the sake of a cute moment.  Nothing against the teachers or daycare - they are doing what they need to so they can stay competitive - also it isn't their choice as the daycare is a chain and that choice was made at a much higher level.  I feel like this is what most parents want, they want to be able to check on their kid, see their child interact when they are at work. I want that too, but not at the cost of this spotlight syndrome.

I don't even like the idea of Snapchat since the filters give an unrealistic idea of ""cute"".  Yes some are there for the sake of being funny, but then it gets into bigger eyes, fuller lips, bigger hair.  An unrealistic image of what a person should look like is now being placed directly onto a toddlers face and they are receiving praise for their cute reactions.  I understand magazines and media have been doing this for ages - but not directly on my daughters face...directly distorting the image of what she is supposed to look like and being fed to her at an extremely young age.

I can control Snapchat though, I can delete the app, it's an easy choice not to subject her to that.

I do not have as much control with the daycare & app.  Without sounding like a controlling psycho to the teachers who are honestly just trying to do their jobs - how can I explain that I don't want this world of performance thrust on her without excluding her from activities? How can I explain to my daughter to just be herself and not to worry about cameras?

Any advice is helpful as my wife and I were discussing this the past week. Thanks.",6.08557692307692,6.915028711538465,6.227333333333334,78.20100000000002,66.37179487179488,8.975042735042734,32.90769230769231,9.029198982220553,2.841717435897435,1959,81,352,32,30,624,219,468,0.059000000000000004,0.8390000000000001,0.102,0.9762,3,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,1,0,12,9,23,18,0,3,38,1,50,7,5,6,1,64,77,26,0,12,16,6,2,6,0,2,0,4,0,6,26,14,2,4,11,2,2,5,15,4,0,0,9,12,42,14,58,55,5,49,1,0,6,0,44,22,0,4,26,265,68,4,0.09921031899751563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969471755072896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933845625861224,0.0,0.10749433918417474,0.0,0.06746641898511113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495136268052416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338184263411009,0.0792113669023863,0.0,0.0,0.06398244828848572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106457307456827,0.13105496004611256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050163718221693035,0.07087587171498423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996551153613215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518332969212911,0.09517157812463684,0.05638351058898663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181723989655848,0.0,0.06649858556026386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33598912267998776,0.0,0.10354979738332322,0.09845093320168108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16357019024113656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29081490333244064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166623362401172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387520264060796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586199949756726,0.2206895833418112,0.07651711413304595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951949767952162,0.0,0.1041045408159131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016131849705678,0.0,0.09470747536471574,0.0,0.08662662382823673,0.10365366751239156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501606133445498,0.0,0.0,0.09493087663437633,0.0,0.19946754533295924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795822118798256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437173230108772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905777943771862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206780108589327,0.0,0.0,0.1011324263678909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574499969837657,0.0,0.08294426902593949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133953240618528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747363469675646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403978205152852,0.0,0.0,0.13471458852587592,0.0,0.0,0.103281440916233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29258408297732946,0.0,0.07958053362561619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127041437023126,0.0,0.07222629381938786,0.10075289472546303,0.0,0.07047616413272438,0.0,0.0,0.06388819269632189
parenting,petertmcqueeny,2020/01/17,"A hilarious conversation My toddler was sitting on the bathroom floor, eating a tortilla while I poop. It do be like that.

She takes a bite, then stands up and shows me the ragged edge.

""Look! I turned it to a kwiridnwrbejwijw!!!""

""A what?""

""Like this!"" *Begins dancing*

The end. I never figured out what she turned it to.",0.2380443285528031,1.8969782542372893,1.7800000000000011,90.38439374185137,113.91525423728814,3.8492829204693617,19.792698826597128,5.8734145424116955,0.24128839634941324,243,9,47,3,13,78,44,59,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.8346,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,0,3,2,1,0,1,4,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,1,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,7,2,5,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,7,34,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33403079219072024,0.0,0.0,0.2891299657029232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189653130567017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741283493822314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25177153905083066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24544311841713634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7101484617165114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CleverChoice,2020/01/17,"Suddenly less attached toddler? I have observed my very attached toddler who is almost 2 has become suddenly less attached to me. When I'd leave for work in the morning and after saying goodbye he won't whine and cry anymore and seems okay to continue playing. He's become more in tune with dad and is becoming more attached to dad step by step. Only changes have been I stopped putting him to sleep at night and let dad take care of it the last weeks, and also that I've been growing prego belly and have gradually picked him up less and less.

I am fine with this change completely, want to know if any of you experienced something similar?",7.076445993031364,7.134255390243903,6.80432055749129,77.57560975609756,64.20325203252034,9.630197444831591,37.083623693379785,9.23628265651192,3.353186759581882,515,24,94,8,7,162,85,123,0.025,0.841,0.134,0.8919,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,1,11,1,1,1,0,17,16,11,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,10,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,1,0,0,2,2,8,4,16,12,6,17,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,3,9,58,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169990891132822,0.0,0.0,0.1371224787058731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660376363376987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004966162849575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5681170675864882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17482251961538106,0.0,0.3627797079238069,0.0,0.1797803864094553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834897102845094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423404061516576,0.13976887849922304,0.0,0.18155929926492964,0.0,0.17533711161245213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091061081581906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304087422117489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237217313805786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635781921336898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609755039412918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715913078833575,0.0,0.0,0.13200404026224055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335448784395766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892220265361265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414786253280783,0.10113595998631808,0.0,0.13754086658695275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483036478514888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trifangle,2020/01/17,"Babysitter glued to iPhone Hi, looking for advice. We have many babysitters in order for my husband and I to work our shift work jobs. We pay well ($15/hr) just so we have good sitters and can compete with minimum wage jobs they have when they are older, and we can get overtime easily (not wanting it). 

One babysitter is 14 and has helped us quite a bit, but is now glued to her phone and the kids don’t want her to watch them because she won’t play with them. We have others we can use, and play with the kids, so it’s not a hardship. My question, should I tell her mom (how we arrange babysitting) why we won’t be using her anymore, or should I stay silent unless asked? I don’t know her mom very well, she met us first with her dad.",7.089642857142856,4.8860651447368415,6.61936090225564,86.28052631578952,65.31578947368422,9.212030075187977,32.2406015037594,6.1826913282559595,1.6002996240601504,570,16,129,2,7,177,95,152,0.008,0.8690000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.9357,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,11,0,4,5,8,5,0,0,4,0,18,0,0,3,0,33,27,13,0,4,6,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,18,0,0,2,2,2,0,6,0,2,2,1,2,29,5,12,21,1,7,0,0,2,0,36,1,0,2,4,86,32,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500567278872893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731252231515214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829215728474346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669580284131812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731764765014676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349256116043327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287456566012649,0.0,0.0,0.13304640192595402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632241672159402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148199637122452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717567841743991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320432625379505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608199799078071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.371557348929557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748782181465946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769533852503394,0.16871629726285267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907222656588206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864448913216554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816106166954342,0.2740006523503847,0.0,0.1308815271427203,0.18712125398955706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852443019172187,0.0,0.14313361304533678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309605247997932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,annieisokayannie,2020/01/17,"Ex got his girlfriend pregnant - they're keeping it. I think that I'm just venting.

My ex and I split custody of our eight year old daughter, who is super rad. We split when she was 2.

She has, basically since she learned to speak, been very clear about how much she does not want to be a sister. I've always thought it was kind of funny, just the idea that she has such strong feelings about being an only child. My brother and sister in law are in the 'waiting on the phonecall' stage of adoption, and my daughter is just so put off. She thinks babies are weird and gross and annoying.    It was only two years ago that I met someone I'd consider having children with, and now that she's 8, the gap feels like it would be too big and it's just not something I've given much thought to.

I get a text on Monday that my ex's girlfriend of under a year is pregnant and they intend on keeping it. Yikes. My concern is immediately on my daughter, who is absolutely going to lose her shit. His girlfriend moved in just last month, and now they're going to tell her they're bringing a baby into their already cramped house. He's talked to her in the past about wanting another baby someday (which is a weird thing to talk to your kid about it, but tracks for him) and admitted that she's gotten really upset when he's mentioned it.

Anyway, obviously I know that children don't get to decide whether they're only children, and I don't want to imply that I think she should get the to make that call. I just don't want this to destroy her relationship with her father. It probably sounds overblown, and I hope that's the case, but she's got pretty intense anxiety and a definite tendency to perseverate and hold grudges. I'm afraid she's going to view it as outright betrayal.

We're going to get her into therapy, so hopefully that'll help.

There's also this weird sadness in me, like now that he's having another kid it seals that deal that I can never do that. The thought of my daughter floating between to houses with 'full-time' families makes me ill. I just can't imagine what the would feel like for her.  Again, I know I'm really dramatizing a pretty normal family dynamic and making myself sound like someone with deeply traditional values or something - I promise that's not the case. Maybe I'm too wrapped up in my kid's feelings.  I don't know.  

In any case, sorry for the wall of worst-case-scenario text. Any words of advice on how to help her with the transition would be greatly appreciated. Or maybe just, ""oh my god shut up, it's not the end of the world! She's fine!""",5.302202788649705,5.750710626223098,5.832333047945209,81.68973244863015,67.98238747553816,8.501002935420741,30.64585371819961,8.376592526197632,2.1485170743639923,2034,75,402,27,32,658,237,511,0.079,0.79,0.131,0.9855,0,0,2,0,0,0,58.0,2,1,2,4,28,24,3,2,22,0,32,3,1,6,3,84,76,28,0,11,17,11,4,4,3,5,2,3,0,7,35,23,0,4,18,0,0,7,10,11,0,2,12,8,54,13,57,55,2,47,0,2,1,0,66,22,1,4,21,252,89,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542762541828021,0.07749420017345973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647219143341572,0.0699112262637885,0.07274198700012015,0.0,0.0,0.1188997191349728,0.18333887590083398,0.06687748017822329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926748882139897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012809434626208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650345487910254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742981579719417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648270900509997,0.0,0.17681246750747173,0.12490838208291047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18269724519219668,0.0,0.1987354204868572,0.0,0.1398384879738404,0.09638290432202193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171940539445738,0.0,0.0,0.17365925613957106,0.0,0.20174616754267705,0.0,0.09868863384185407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540912393135595,0.0,0.09103640967229752,0.1441342965217792,0.07126048027730575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708396110076742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780269466700917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750643021769828,0.0,0.1756540083043147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977929101202349,0.09291559724822528,0.1285302453695788,0.0,0.06742512435294355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565485697879605,0.0,0.0,0.09173453141494753,0.0,0.0,0.19946478147680574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345405306995862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787891154868338,0.09425554627686457,0.0,0.0,0.08788311086240262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120093584038407,0.0,0.0,0.09385835609772247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973727839145659,0.07231626226738773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814450895178735,0.13460323082844736,0.0,0.09786160990664024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053275194996054,0.07641055498681522,0.0,0.09997451066177566,0.0,0.05807919624994064,0.16804918520599005,0.0,0.20820956446808608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539844993728139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721321863501101,0.20625470159929668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630593368844192,0.0,0.0,0.16889042612392285
parenting,dadwhodelivers,2020/01/17,"A special delivery! Baby born in the back of my car! After making us wait 11 days over due date, my second daughter made a dramatic and rapid appearance in the back of my car on the way to hospital! 

For the full story check out my blog www.dadwhodelivers.co.uk",4.688469387755101,6.743275346938777,6.044642857142858,73.54410714285714,71.04081632653063,8.981632653061224,26.535714285714285,9.516144504307137,2.531363265306123,208,7,37,5,4,70,38,49,0.0,0.9279999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.5538,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,1,10,3,1,17,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,1,7,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6176835366857071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590291022775004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800481243930625,0.26810250655993045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831319149360805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318808711569403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,h2oc3por2d2,2020/01/17,"Need help and advice - I’m at breaking point My daughter (15 y.o) has been having problems at school and self harming since 13 y.o. I’ve finally managed to get child mental health involved and she’s seen a mental health social worker 3 times, once on her own. At some point after the first meeting, about 2 weeks after, I asked her to do some chores whilst I was out. She started phoning me and shouting abuse at me so I ignored her calls. When I got home, she was sitting on the couch with a knife, having cut herself. When I told her to give me the knife, she threw it at me then started throwing others things at me and her sister (14). It ended up, I had to call the police who calmed her down and took her to ED. Eventually she was seen, assessed and sent home. Last week, she went for another appointment but didn’t want me to attend so her dad took her. Things have been tense between me and her since the knife thing, as I feel unsafe. On Tuesday she went by herself for her appointment. On Wednesday, she refused to go for her orthodontist appointment so as a punishment I asked my other daughter to get 15 y.o ps4 for me as she had stormed out. I had an appointment to get too and arrived home 30 minutes later at the same time as 15 y.o. 15 y.o. started screaming at me as I was trying to take ps4 to my room and she ran and grabbed a knife. Eventually she put the knife down but it really scared me. She was hysterical and crying and said she was cancelling her appointment for Thursday to see the psychiatrist about medication. I told her not too. Unbeknownst to me, she was on the phone with the social worker. I just got on with my housework. Fast forward to Thursday, she says she doesn’t want me to go with her, so dad takes her. Whilst there, he texts me that he’s been told to leave the room so they can speak to her alone as he went off on a rant about her behaviour. He asked me to go and support him. When I got there, we eventually got called back in. My daughter told the psychiatrist and social worker that the reason she keeps getting knives is because of my physical aggression to her. I couldn’t believe it and lost my temper. Today, my husband gets a call from child protective services asking him how he plans to keep daughter safe. He says that I’m making plans to move out (which I am as I don’t feel safe & I was planning to take 14 y.o with me, which 15 y.o knew) and CPS says that up until I do and moving forward, I’m not to have any unsupervised interaction with daughters. I was like WOW. CPS have closed the case since I’m moving anyway, but will be informing daughters schools of the situation. I just can’t stop crying. What the heck can I do? Just on a side note, as social worker left the meeting yesterday, she told daughter to call her if there was any “drama”. Wth? Daughter is the one causing drama. Psychiatrist wants us all to have family therapy but I can’t see the point since I’m not allowed unsupervised access and my husband and I work opposite shifts. We have no other family at all near us. They all live a plane ride away.",4.002466302367941,5.304593403278691,4.727158469945357,85.31512750455374,71.52459016393442,7.586156648451731,26.998178506375226,8.021203637495839,1.5604397085610198,2416,82,489,33,45,777,256,610,0.107,0.8490000000000001,0.044000000000000004,-0.9889,1,1,0,0,1,0,76.0,4,0,2,10,22,16,4,1,28,0,40,3,0,5,3,71,98,44,0,7,11,13,3,1,0,1,3,7,7,3,18,32,0,8,5,2,0,20,10,10,0,2,39,14,95,6,83,56,7,88,0,1,4,0,105,38,1,3,33,322,113,9,0.0,0.07528753195030015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209304506882004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581091902952821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068848327067601,0.0,0.08642222680039628,0.06662990472014965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376148289278267,0.0,0.059700318016500914,0.04886029919242749,0.0,0.03873494908780065,0.0,0.0,0.07159069499193996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244202434182035,0.0,0.0,0.06527570310553991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959701629328786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05627983943630493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980452319711946,0.0,0.06425804568437307,0.0,0.0,0.06960775828770707,0.0,0.054049261111269016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599180042936149,0.060955804631146374,0.10833808759731196,0.0,0.20328312986813493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508551988741924,0.0,0.0,0.04259123227262848,0.0,0.19121507769600535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295907722036025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179565968057063,0.0,0.06728238630476989,0.06903916719030373,0.0,0.0,0.03104368058312334,0.0,0.05610923636613527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936420020660111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042415145966318166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401243475159607,0.12807189134975944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20260702574658535,0.0,0.04711599615274275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767074262410061,0.043058076805897766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020474735878045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060801639350882425,0.0,0.0638778139606298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040706985038185504,0.06533232505189816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06044351675365159,0.15159476003378736,0.06361717827541408,0.12861690723942468,0.1012703719521563,0.0,0.06628873842995167,0.0,0.0,0.2102522180707437,0.07142448924471134,0.0,0.2590945130901065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492723317815467,0.0,0.0,0.053124417579764764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210733344979334,0.0,0.0,0.14332827033351062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266644444182932,0.0,0.1266445414811932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410434454440633,0.0,0.06023090816862959,0.3035881509501107,0.1411962235831417,0.043141220840084184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528677292572791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243712808960382,0.0,0.10194000258717356,0.0,0.0,0.17671374313875302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0462597336520018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StrugglingSinner45,2020/01/17,"Need input on current situation (25F) pregnant with fourth child Hello,

I'm a single mom of going on four kiddos, ages 7, 4, 2 and pregnant. My first was from a previous marriage and I coparent with his dad, the other two are from my ex of 5 years that was extremely toxic and doesn't help financially/or coparent, and the baby I'm currently pregnant with dad has constantly stated that if we aren't together he wants the baby put up for adoption because its not fair for the baby to have a split household/nonmarried parents raising baby. 

The things hes said has been eating me alive from the get-go, he broke up with me four days ago because I wouldn't do sexual acts with him due to we JUST did even though I hadn't wanted to and I declined the second time. He then started sitting around trying to convince me why we now needed to give baby up for adoption because its only fair. (also disclaimer before anyone rambles about protection, we had ONE oops, I took a plan B, that obviously didn't work). 

He also previously has told me how its NOT noble for single moms to be single moms, how its better and less selfish for the child to be given up in adoption to families who are wanting/ready for child. I've had many moments of self-doubt/guilt since that conversation regarding my current children because we have struggled. Right now we have an apartment and I have a good job, they are in a good daycare, everythings good. But its still a struggle and I have no idea how I'm going to juggle four kids.

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Any input? Please be kind, I'm a hormonal mess and doubting everything/scared im going to make the wrong decision. I don't think I can emotionally/mentally handle giving my child up for adoption but I DO want to do whats best for the baby too.",5.551256916996047,6.206821918840582,6.430256916996047,76.89186758893283,67.4927536231884,8.93939393939394,31.62384716732543,8.97023862654752,2.697202898550725,1402,55,254,23,22,465,190,345,0.063,0.863,0.07400000000000001,0.7442,7,0,0,0,3,0,42.0,6,0,1,5,14,14,0,3,19,0,31,1,0,4,1,42,52,19,0,7,6,7,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,13,21,1,1,3,0,0,6,9,7,0,7,12,1,28,7,41,36,5,37,0,1,0,0,36,12,0,2,17,171,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549990601678757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231007024437295,0.0,0.11673000716904534,0.13090889722153204,0.07326297953521675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533028758016777,0.0,0.0,0.09590631716507053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626951780700184,0.0,0.09167390570423277,0.0,0.11306044124681887,0.0952821829128578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164224432817208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947967403764037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023902636783484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115745136825699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682459077260004,0.0,0.10156225610211556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163869197293888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056286695347286884,0.20669700527660406,0.2449114119020437,0.27108711457881896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221199207412543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121618846774678,0.116371469618694,0.0,0.10690961240983482,0.0,0.0,0.11218863538626084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191344370449271,0.10922561274046888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785311296051677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597671520264005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300351117177681,0.08193674641481058,0.0,0.0,0.1196261272501133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825984671600195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830267051000232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200445478495307,0.10247993588934004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239031130789184,0.0,0.0,0.08911887902013765,0.12109780290513418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625485162827916,0.0,0.08603670554430347,0.0,0.0,0.22525444457780505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157384386166593,0.06903175273094456,0.10584834665061477,0.0,0.06282070340963024,0.0,0.0,0.10294468593854962,0.11969670791651214,0.07314447906627791,0.0,0.1052407009135482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063334327759807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721339722586997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078431811938353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779048220413114,0.13090889722153204,0.06937732022038348
parenting,leonbiv,2020/01/17,"My son is almost 2, and needs to go to the doctor for general checkup and he's behind on some shots, but I have no insurance. Where do I begin? Not sure if this is the exact right place to post this.
I come from a family of going to the doctor when we are gravely ill and getting shots when required by law for school or activities etc., and never other than that. I do know that's not the correct way; my son should be seeing a pediatrician regularly. When he was born, I had state supplied insurance for him, but they took those benefits away shortly after because I made too much money at work to qualify for free insurance.
Re-enrollment came around at work, but for reason after reason, I had a really difficult time adding him to my insurance because I didn't do it when he was born (?). That doesn't matter much, though, because I just got a new job. Through this new job I won't qualify for insurance until at least March, and even when I do qualify, the benefits aren't that great. 
When we had the state insurance, my son had an AWESOME doctor. I don't care if I have to get my own insurance not through work, but the issue is that I don't know how to go about that. I want good insurance that I can afford, but I also would like for my son to be able to keep his doctor. Who do I call to start the process?",5.551460674157305,5.109450962546816,6.643385767790264,79.1365393258427,67.46441947565543,10.266067415730339,30.15955056179775,9.888512548439397,2.617452134831461,1025,33,213,21,15,346,137,267,0.091,0.81,0.099,0.6385,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,1,4,15,10,0,0,13,0,28,6,0,4,4,43,47,23,1,6,12,4,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,0,14,10,0,2,4,0,2,6,11,2,0,0,11,1,30,9,35,31,6,38,0,1,1,0,15,10,0,5,19,157,44,14,0.11777066802657772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179303120908674,0.0,0.0,0.0941811606714838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484086337523574,0.0,0.0,0.11064941938429368,0.0,0.0,0.2153757183635447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025701960520105,0.1346982697584557,0.12007504505666887,0.0,0.0,0.10144900237728388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4821730763827921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134542611977906,0.07778641550993111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102370449441676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230606264776403,0.0,0.2007953539968415,0.09878044874919492,0.09419196177612522,0.12984257726628362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292197963959905,0.2337384314083761,0.10467998097735276,0.0,0.0,0.12944735835671453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753679957156441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143745366237158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314998373254906,0.08732545807499131,0.09083199951348177,0.2274872901111039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304528187884185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279174514995015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544690562813103,0.24217572281676675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057550700669976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919020351878527,0.09384797459739158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335868499151343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099746085644346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570908338177074,0.0,0.06867302361292175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308475455223818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946419133486832,0.09348087450612416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572153468957053,0.0,0.0,0.08366090356054119,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fumble_and_bumble,2020/01/17,"Sleep aids for long flights Throw away post because shame haha

SO I would love advice from some hopefully level headed strangers on the internet :)

As the title suggests the topic is whether or not to use sleeping aids of any kind and which kind on children to aid them in sleeping on long flights.

My husband and I live about a 20 hour travel away from our families with the longest stretch being a 10-11 hour flight. 
We have made the travel with him once before but he was just 3 months so in my opinion an absolute breeze to fly with. He has done now several flights ranging between 1 hour to 3 and as he gets older of course it gets harder. 

We have now a trip back to visit our families right around the time that he will be turning terrific/ terrible two.
I have a lot of friends that have traveled a lot with kids and they suggest using a small amount of NyQuil (pre tested) to help your kid sleep on the plane better. But I am a 6 and the internet says either that this is great advice even sometimes suggested (on the DL) by doctors OR that it will kill your kid.... so.

Honestly I am interested if it is something that more people I would think do or if there are alternative ways to make him drowsy or what.

I also feel like I should say that it’s not just because I want an easy flight, I love my boy and I love spending time with him and think he is the best. But I know that he is going to be super tired anyway but has trouble falling asleep in new places. I am afraid that he will get overtired, stay up for a whole day and then turn into a gremlin.
But I would rather have my own little gremlin on the plane than have a ‘backup plan’ that could seriously harm him.",5.901658834586463,5.608020848214288,5.916365914786968,84.14266917293236,66.70833333333334,8.740350877192984,30.77944862155389,8.032893268588372,1.9296273809523807,1319,44,273,14,19,416,190,336,0.079,0.732,0.19,0.9933,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,4,2,2,4,15,22,1,2,23,1,31,11,6,4,0,54,50,27,1,10,18,1,1,1,1,7,2,3,0,5,16,17,0,0,4,3,1,8,2,7,0,1,3,4,30,15,41,36,9,46,0,0,0,3,36,20,0,11,16,186,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876726875853436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679265144659328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530156297200537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548427117624248,0.0,0.0,0.18044080652573075,0.07383873391539819,0.0,0.11707417458319128,0.0,0.08171179174274526,0.0,0.10077427331730228,0.08492796098475945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666964012149992,0.0,0.0,0.061929385594567975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828756814951448,0.0,0.0982688255252244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342484049830416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105116948576244,0.0,0.04855406961923881,0.0686016135080953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419011981915939,0.0,0.15051022511062806,0.0,0.054574281882694725,0.0,0.0,0.1058699606996464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855127006411978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436478529372038,0.0,0.0,0.09537634683221242,0.2837013647845243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623950160191582,0.1999944114994036,0.05277385519617647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046913877078491435,0.09624414864941468,0.08479348351754147,0.16996151233993406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632772180165252,0.2600039918524035,0.0908629440981338,0.06409867988436571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664772968876167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927433472548052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226548017644488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657293918801993,0.0,0.10032763852241083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196719502710116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200642037711059,0.0,0.1527288389430394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848302759695623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843848688242057,0.0,0.0,0.07392617424269278,0.09497302760598177,0.0,0.0,0.1023518642408178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306027891919925,0.0,0.0,0.11198807762596424,0.1103687583563976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889931460682507,0.09380429654271118,0.0,0.0,0.16587276420786973,0.0,0.0,0.0566391345696501,0.07622165793763754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721056852638236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464419511375545,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,linuxgeekmama,2020/01/17,"Grandmother with Alzheimer's- how much to tell a 7 and 4 year old? My mom has Alzheimer's, and my dad has been taking care of her at home by himself, with no outside help, for several years.  He spends ALL his time and energy taking care of her.  He says she's upset by the thought of somebody else coming into the house to do stuff for them.  My sister and I disagree completely- we think he should have gotten help years ago, and that she might not like it at first, but would have adjusted.

Recently, Mom fell and broke her hip.  Dad had been helping her balance and move around for a few months.  When I approached Dad about her using a walker (before she broke her hip), he said they had a walker in the attic, but she wouldn't use it.  Now, at least, there's no question of her being able to do without a walker- she'll have to use it, like it or not.  He can't be her walker any more, like he's been doing for several months.

My sister and I are pushing him harder to get help now that Mom has broken her hip.  He has finally agreed to a home health aide, but I suspect there will be arguments of this sort in the future when they need more help.  (I could also see him having the aide there for less time per day or week than he really should)

My question is, how much to tell my 7 yo and 4 yo about all of this?  They know that Grandma is sick.  At least the 7 year old knows that Grandma has a problem with her memory (I don't think the 4 year old understands this yet).  They know that Grandma fell and broke a bone.  They don't know how bad a broken hip can be in an elderly person with dementia.  I tell them that I am upset by Grandma's illness, but I try to keep the details of how upset I am from them.  They don't know that their aunt and I are arguing with Grandpa about how much help he needs.  I'm wondering if I'm taking the right approach to this, or if I should be telling them (or at least the 7 yo) more.  I'd be especially interested in hearing from other people who have been in a situation like this.",4.609110576923076,4.541226805288464,5.309215384615385,86.63578461538464,69.40865384615384,8.482923076923077,26.976538461538464,8.109356740369918,1.4118714615384622,1565,43,346,19,25,508,179,416,0.15,0.775,0.075,-0.9869,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,1,0,11,1,19,16,1,3,21,0,45,8,5,8,2,69,74,29,0,11,13,10,0,4,0,8,3,3,2,1,19,20,0,1,14,0,1,7,10,9,0,1,9,4,49,7,48,50,13,44,0,3,1,0,68,13,0,11,28,234,68,0,0.08241518731934258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305609091074235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659073955234912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056045153514347856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336698974859962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881323892697695,0.0,0.0,0.0701292542433911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805555231274735,0.0,0.0,0.07099338633620929,0.08641075588977487,0.0,0.0,0.06580182088966789,0.0,0.0,0.053150977782641225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688473137194557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902818092858092,0.0,0.07010231623201485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0430585338129422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760349021255708,0.09288790586226724,0.0,0.3314469769353961,0.0,0.16533830520987278,0.0,0.0,0.09509606089166027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325440523855069,0.0,0.0,0.2264661580368024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610555902892842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742948978176608,0.0,0.28957101394549994,0.1315660324630961,0.08759430130768735,0.1817539364781231,0.1222196342364917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25944262609474544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057136313847394926,0.07196176266528419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886020385044265,0.0,0.0,0.1846477427986971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279727935825202,0.0,0.0813750548355695,0.0,0.0,0.07038211966178555,0.07839571602869014,0.06553986485974525,0.0,0.0,0.06567423396324339,0.0,0.0,0.18621140624089214,0.0,0.0,0.09263812360792767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434567181983533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858978925025968,0.0,0.2881380252541205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056166485096488,0.0,0.06542845286580141,0.09611391698257732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595450231485621,0.0,0.0,0.08579711652712364,0.0,0.2135407816624071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610849206011159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944529958302837,0.08937575505130968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058545384464419065,0.0,0.0,0.2653633927280022
parenting,The_Gowk,2020/01/17,"""Tamagotchi"" style game with no ads and in-app purchases? Hey,

My 6yo twins really loved a ""Tamagotchi-style"" game from FB Messenger Kids. Unfortunately FB removed the game this morning and they are really sad that - after a hard week of ""work"" - their pet is gone. :|

I've spent almost an hour installing all the ""virtual pets"" that I could find, and the ""official Tamagotchi"" game, but they are all full with in-game purchases and/or ads.

So I'm looking for something paid, that has no in-game purchases and no ads.

It should be simple, with just them washing/feeding/playing with the character, and the character should somehow change/evolve.

Any hints? Thank you!",4.228585434173667,7.057302831932777,3.944726890756304,84.44353291316528,75.30252100840336,7.6641456582633065,27.56372549019608,8.59863814320734,2.30499943977591,523,21,93,11,12,158,80,119,0.12,0.831,0.05,-0.6488,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,4,1,3,3,0,0,8,0,8,1,0,0,2,19,15,7,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,5,9,0,0,1,4,5,2,3,1,0,0,3,2,7,2,8,8,3,6,0,1,1,1,12,1,0,2,3,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092405847044073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21000952343814824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24656920678901886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822576775749614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27664381824348405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041274241408892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593326684439435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27872387701933843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39567851211322735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377462332558416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28432177015234045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477183492628745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22482606566180316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AwayPage2,2020/01/17,"What things did people not tell you about raising/living with a tween boy? My son is 10 and an amazing kid. It's hard for me to not see a baby, but he is very much a big kid and affirming his own identity. I'm a dad and remember my tween years as chaotic and never really got better until my 30s. I know things are very much different now than in the 1990s. I don't feel like I can really apply much to my own childhood to his. I read a few books about raising boys and most seem broad and general. They certainly did not mention or understated the challenges and quirks. I really try to understand my son to the point where it annoys him. For example, he's shedding off many of his friends that he had since kindergarten for newer kids and I am getting one answer replies to any question I ask.

For parents who recently raised tween boys, what things did you wish you knew then that you know now and what advice or warnings would you give parents raising one?",5.269694589877833,5.736575057591629,5.691845549738223,82.60419066317628,68.05759162303664,9.089179755671903,30.052792321116925,9.075114841892004,2.3344342059336816,760,27,152,13,12,244,119,191,0.094,0.831,0.075,-0.5849,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,5,1,2,5,7,1,0,9,0,11,0,0,0,2,31,24,15,0,2,6,5,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,6,11,10,0,0,9,2,0,0,5,1,0,2,6,3,23,6,19,17,7,15,0,0,1,0,31,6,0,5,10,102,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432926095798024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044004212242748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380781559907392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306273171798044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543134923670138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468079745445426,0.1055158351014272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411149167897898,0.0,0.07716636816410381,0.14168585585972726,0.0,0.0,0.1181279798187331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230884153436145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234246157750348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215802463886052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149743092815754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257261670468299,0.0,0.1139141854899069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016864680349847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280034018864506,0.0,0.0,0.10239554019748427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139622819155703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545611798319382,0.0,0.1477384653770888,0.0,0.2838583158489245,0.0,0.1458344463862881,0.0,0.1673136039422184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769657877621174,0.13445916365133015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217772222031242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290949956368127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943729536228112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002775836452095,0.0,0.0,0.1537593432724027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437334549853226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984598133336914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492077392873184,0.0,0.0,0.09511298898138434
parenting,CptCptJaneway,2020/01/17,"Cooped up Any other parents out there cooped up inside a lot? We have 1 vehicle and my hubby uses it for work from 7am to 6pm every night, and kiddo goes to bed around 730. I feel like we don't have a lot of opportunity to get out, and when we do its usually grocery shopping for the family. How important is it at his age (14-15 months) to be out and exploring? We're in Northern Canada so temperatures are anywhere between -20C  to -30C without wind chill and because of this, its also a bit of a deterrent. Other than that, we spend lots of time together and I keep him entertained and am teaching him things everyday.",7.374506666666669,5.7339448640000015,8.394200000000001,71.98676666666667,64.36,11.853333333333332,36.03333333333333,10.864195022040775,3.7712133333333338,488,19,96,11,6,168,91,125,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.8466,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,24,12,11,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,15,0,1,2,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,10,3,23,11,4,16,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,3,8,70,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628255817611194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990401238599582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623474021142184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437571566489565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406589767334361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572680426286267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20780740550366109,0.0,0.11145904511830952,0.1574794944100403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516869133681085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959336103414764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076938757754407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5622203129133272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594988079455684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068642164290048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447680475835652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644785736014304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285379814164873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19038589406332765,0.2427790678159565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21249239989421428,0.0,0.16048000481077046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snoopykiss,2020/01/17,"Anyone else nickname their kid “cockblocker”? Not to their face of course.

But seriously!",4.789761904761908,7.678308928571429,3.93,75.19833333333334,102.57142857142858,7.580952380952381,26.095238095238088,7.793537801064563,3.1131238095238083,71,3,10,2,3,21,13,14,0.133,0.867,0.0,-0.2481,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675430057438187,0.6851217551294172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5585800913283809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vdub12345,2020/01/17,"Any parents with an 11 month old that doesn’t eat solids well at all? Wife and I are at wits end. We have an 11 month son who for the most part has very interest in solids still. It is becoming a problem at this point as the wife’s milk supply has dropped, so he is waking in the night again due to hunger. 

We have tried so many different foods. 2 days ago he ate and ate and ate. Yesterday he basically had no solids. It is affecting his mood, sleep, and our sanity. 

What has worked for you?",1.829901960784316,3.5515264999999983,2.828039215686278,94.97284313725493,78.11764705882355,7.2784313725490195,20.15686274509804,8.167268648758528,0.5749333333333335,381,9,91,7,9,121,75,102,0.069,0.879,0.052000000000000005,-0.2185,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,6,0,11,9,2,1,1,11,14,7,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,0,6,2,10,10,3,18,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,11,52,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926977081223044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782850408424356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400834347846467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019462957151552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22711990411976601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224379961482042,0.0,0.0,0.1925376094088848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628614706229063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039315137800095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470275045698541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204000060949108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281078315508309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24137909149975306,0.2354055760875111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549804695077514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800703068830004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217540888627966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360306061313266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475893963224839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936448095992566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545422977975985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825806573823695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayyyyy899,2020/01/17,"I am having issues getting my son to school when I’m working, anyone have any ideas or tips? So I have a kindergartner. I work over an hour away from home 2 days a week. When I work and he has school, his aunt watches him (as I’m gone the whole 2 days) and he takes the bus. He only takes the bus when this is the case. The issue is the bus is entirely unpredictable. His school bus ticket says the bus comes at 7:37. We live not even a block from the stop. This morning he was out there at 7:25 and another kid waiting for a different bus told his aunt his bus already came. They stood out there until 7:45 anyway and it never did come so they must have missed it. It’s currently -15 degrees out so I don’t think he should have been out there any earlier. But regardless I don’t have any other way to get him to school when I’m working. His aunt doesn’t drive and I don’t have any family close enough. I don’t know any of the other parents for a carpool situation and don’t even live in a town that offers Uber or anything. Does anyone have any ideas?",2.000564593301437,3.666645563636365,3.1394258373205735,93.17782296650721,77.45454545454545,6.4497607655502405,20.669856459330145,7.273561745256523,0.3550000000000004,824,20,186,10,19,265,117,220,0.024,0.9640000000000001,0.012,-0.33,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,2,4,13,1,0,0,16,0,24,0,0,0,2,30,41,18,0,3,4,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,8,15,0,3,4,1,0,5,8,1,0,0,7,2,19,0,19,32,2,29,0,1,1,0,24,11,0,2,12,112,27,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190671987663561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4402426113004429,0.11313957967644765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088840559810515,0.0,0.08879016900268746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137293329934087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340560657021216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588769843534994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391694837997095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127295671510139,0.0,0.0,0.09442153156321784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148660870320737,0.0,0.1425301127644665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017158395677567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274362530874445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082296485799164,0.0,0.10625696808085903,0.0,0.0,0.2436055200371047,0.0,0.22523320433793084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059297457218893415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905503375727096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832169412127343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206065198722219,0.0,0.0,0.11980702708347098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580415207161415,0.0,0.43679074390009065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121280928221226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020685682765256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622504722606106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913614324205176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310035992850004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564374317375341,0.08654859325831328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046332557995484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142016692543245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wq34tsdfdgcvb,2020/01/17,"[Trigger Warning: Sexual Abuse] Advise needed When my \[36M\] wife \[35F\] was a young teenager, she was sexually assaulted while at a large sleepover by her friend's father. No one there knew/saw that it had happened (everyone was asleep), and she never came forward with anything even 20 years later.   
Now we have a kid of our own who is at the sleepover age, and she doesn't want him to go to sleepovers at all because of what happened to my wife on hers. In addition, she doesn't want to host sleepovers either because it doesn't seem fair to refuse to let our son go to others, but allow others to come here.   
I feel like our son will be missing out on a childhood activity that I loved growing up, but I can totally understand and empathize with my wife's reasons. Is this something that I should push my wife on so my son isn't left out socially? Or should I respect her wishes because of the emotions she would be going through during the time he is away? Would it be different if he were a girl? I'm not sure how to broach this.",6.705815508021393,6.152030250000003,6.681942959001784,80.18783422459894,65.12745098039215,9.37896613190731,34.23172905525847,8.575989854853784,2.644133333333334,817,32,160,10,11,260,129,204,0.078,0.828,0.095,0.8606,1,0,1,0,1,0,29.0,4,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,8,0,23,2,1,4,4,37,40,11,0,9,6,8,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,2,12,11,0,1,4,0,0,8,7,2,0,1,6,1,23,5,27,25,4,30,0,1,0,1,31,13,0,3,12,116,35,1,0.0,0.19935778887074485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384617006590707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808359081961465,0.0,0.0,0.3077048856082482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244191500591226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493905770232285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579342124934866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926719734677586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113258387817587,0.0,0.0,0.16077738486825424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507611800349932,0.12020329113118465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999543473751585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28687408172900103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29757934949680465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828124174082685,0.17205483598207474,0.0,0.08220218353746249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518590886797756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476090755178312,0.12977066417806174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140157309276262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299687646460649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531754354983807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151747407619716,0.0,0.1295329510531188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858083378733867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811238256449308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516213642953374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984854301215698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934879814205307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23905079881406305,0.0,0.0,0.10835240316201468
parenting,thebuddingdawn,2020/01/17,"Dealing with divorce and potential step children? So my ex-wife and I got divorced about a year ago and I moved into an apartment. We still have a very good relationship and everything is very cordial. My son is 3 in February and he's starting to understand that daddy has his own house and mommy and him have their own house. My apartment isn't big and a little bit shady so he lives with mom full-time. I'm closing on a house in a couple weeks, so we are hoping to actually start some overnights and having him actually come to my place.

Also, at some point my girlfriend is likely to move in and she has full custody of her 1.5 year old daughter. I think the age difference is a little much for them to play together right now, but we did take them to a children's museum and he got jealous when I picked her up.

I was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation or how can I make sure the transition goes smoothly from always being at mom's to coming over or sleeping over at dad's? What about adjusting to potentially having another baby in the house when he comes over?

Thanks for your input.",5.317455968688847,5.934570246575348,6.190166340508808,78.54380136986303,67.99543378995433,9.362165688193086,30.711350293542075,9.424239791934726,2.6734994129158522,880,33,169,17,14,291,135,219,0.019,0.917,0.064,0.8002,0,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,3,1,3,0,11,7,1,0,12,0,18,1,1,3,1,36,33,22,0,2,4,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,21,0,0,4,2,0,6,1,1,0,0,5,1,24,6,30,27,7,42,0,0,0,0,29,24,0,7,13,116,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.21682639195709705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984794700731457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884304243686607,0.0924403673540059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164933330630328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768056651331702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212875278414172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870968448187239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292507321035892,0.0,0.0,0.11453459678343965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160711666927673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984548453543693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318164628241396,0.17770646268583773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034291262856788,0.0,0.5127572289131196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427565650680807,0.22269378180558516,0.09809937425793676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415711828981822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602274466682251,0.0,0.2361538994674044,0.08166798563012002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657605370377548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160711666927673,0.0,0.10502117000755504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927500573915086,0.0,0.09487496197114742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124876012496007,0.11117574588757442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726795328027254,0.0,0.08872102101705602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470620721750366,0.0,0.08353000054774082,0.0,0.0,0.10228182317128644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07118551955400686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156543481051854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18333086788626696,0.0,0.0,0.08911412018155564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047834595467015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308373725932855
parenting,nsfw693692,2020/01/17,"my toddler just started daycare my 16 month old just finished his first week of daycare. he still freaks out everytime i leave, and clings to me everytime i’m with him. i feel so guilty but i have to work. can someone just ease my mind and tell me he will eventually like it?",0.5905909090909098,3.0942764909090954,1.6803409090909118,95.26051136363638,93.1818181818182,4.931818181818182,23.238636363636363,6.6274283507984215,0.7174090909090909,217,9,46,3,8,68,42,55,0.081,0.805,0.114,0.5983,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,6,4,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,1,5,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,8,28,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695751221525377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28526887046073945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35511253897720835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384674855518408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386320375521606,0.0,0.2676922496221897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519184951058538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841612195776349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23737937461584704,0.0,0.267830032057141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29313157331701944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690167154453916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441561955778487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leviOsa934,2020/01/17,"Book recs for 9mo+? My husband has been asking about a new growth & development/ parenting book to read. We've got this whole baby thing down, but one-year-old is coming up fast! Gah!

We are reading, *Cribsheet* by Emily Oster (highly recommend), and *The Whole Brain Child* by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson.

We're going to be talking, walking, and getting into mischief! So what have you guys got?",2.1102579852579844,4.989097175675678,2.5012039312039316,89.11222358722358,90.75675675675676,4.312530712530713,20.24078624078624,6.1124844417494595,0.3123675675675677,317,10,56,3,11,97,65,74,0.061,0.914,0.025,-0.5699,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,0,0,7,12,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,9,8,2,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,2,30,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22349111198689126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19283258070131545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302631196388627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768147480920682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776642988649104,0.0,0.11722676351977075,0.0,0.3299424595879885,0.0,0.0,0.20423758506613449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179332915359754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992147594363215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644339382346187,0.0,0.13977242258796366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290360195309137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4126473060579792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579027170156718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703518351245098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4605813408768882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328297223546803
parenting,hopeismyonly,2020/01/17,"Four Year Old doesn't want to be herself Hi. My four year old (soon to be five) is always telling me what she likes according to what her classmates likes. For example, she told me she wanted to be a police officer because her friend 'P' said he was going to be a police officer. Then she told me she wanted to wear yellow hair tyes in her head because one of her other friends in school wears them. This morning she had a complete meltdown because i refused to let her wear leggings in 32 degrees weather because her friend 'C' wore some yesterday. I understand she wants to fit in like other kids but I tried to explain to her that she should wear and do things she likes. Not what everyone else likes. I dont know what I should encourage in this situation. I feel like a horrible parent because i know she just wants to fit in but I know that her establishing her own identity is more important. Maybe its too soon for this. Any parents with experience??? Please help",4.0967023172905535,5.911263732620324,4.668791443850272,83.7941675579323,72.10160427807486,7.981319073083777,29.57896613190731,8.648137234880735,2.3070202495543684,766,32,147,14,15,244,105,187,0.037000000000000005,0.76,0.204,0.985,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,4,10,0,0,4,0,14,7,7,0,0,21,30,4,0,7,4,2,2,6,3,2,0,1,0,1,13,2,0,1,6,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,6,4,33,10,21,17,3,17,0,0,1,0,37,8,0,1,14,101,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101078456851675,0.0,0.0,0.08260841245813627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702557512409844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736614882381256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236994425319036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147830689616194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607632026891805,0.0,0.11882765282614373,0.0,0.0,0.061422337032677736,0.08678307418767063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281558100881921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903808396293569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467027732889152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142336093245506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200281472539362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421829265127494,0.0,0.35608466915608755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203980693558805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549390044959613,0.0,0.08231584628456724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697712957714645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334508447142093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555228665741868,0.0,0.0,0.12294104092994194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654505063301095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617610686431464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807038104708343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321526405378361,0.0,0.08247479605764745,0.0,0.0,0.12646166787600924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582509190329303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564541961128057
parenting,MRMOJORISINYT,2020/01/17,"How do i teach my child to be soft and hard at the same time ? Ì want him to be decent, loving and caring but also respectable, firm and courageous.

How do i convey these traits in a balanced way over 18 years?",3.4813178294573635,4.286963953488375,3.995348837209304,91.94713178294576,72.25581395348838,5.7333333333333325,21.310077519379846,3.1291,-0.2352108527131782,162,3,35,0,3,51,36,43,0.025,0.677,0.298,0.9233,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,2,0,8,7,7,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,5,5,1,6,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,24,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35661366830621405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546599551799514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3994697324794883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4024733077193327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600280001826129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263023729068913,0.3539620592528484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287167205328834
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parenting,doggolover335,2020/01/17,Aggressive dog So I have a 7 almost 8 year old olde English Bulldog who is very territorial. He didn’t get this way till about 2 years old and it’s very stressful cause I can never have people over or take him on walks unless it’s 5am and no ones out on the road. So basically what happens is if we bring anyone in house he immediately runs towards them barking and with his hair up and jumping on them. We us sally make the person yell at him to get in his bed and it doesn’t really work. We’ve tried treats leashing in front yard and walking with the person. And he hates dogs that are bigger then him and in general dogs who approach him he likes are cats and are small dog and any form of puppies or human babies. He’s ways more dominant with girls then guys. And at this point idk what to do I need help.,4.088504572350729,4.540288071005918,5.064540075309306,86.11664873587952,70.65680473372781,7.802259279182357,25.4228079612695,7.686295010490155,1.091078106508876,640,17,140,7,11,210,114,169,0.071,0.8959999999999999,0.033,-0.6361,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,2,1,3,5,2,1,4,0,11,1,1,2,1,27,19,20,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,10,17,0,0,0,1,0,7,4,3,0,1,1,2,14,2,22,18,2,35,0,0,0,0,24,17,0,4,10,84,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491451901700868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199571227010367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515596644547085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691833023493267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720887841783591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307025172205827,0.14563594767572033,0.0,0.0,0.16259853467862212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038908788711244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900316156849512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045983648217092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993270271801044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221164911806622,0.12702006164095478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184473568311059,0.0,0.11159906795725473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141761912417458,0.2876041320449736,0.0,0.0,0.1556864846934505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550544582123947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886532953150613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382734024753525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181456287504304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198103321970915,0.0,0.0,0.2717750940592171,0.0,0.2614485314782893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989720727162448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121115587371921
parenting,manmeet10,2020/01/17,"How should we start calcium in pregnancy? Dr. Manju Hotchandani, Senior Consultant Gynaecologist and Laparoscopic  Surgeon, Moolchand Hospital, New Delhi, will discuss calcium intake in pregnancy in this video. Calcium tablets are started after three months of pregnancy. In the first three months, a calcium-rich diet is encouraged. Also, Vitamin D has suggested if the pregnant lady is deficient.

For More Information Watch Video - [Click Here](https://www.medtalks.in/articles/how-should-we-start-calcium-in-pregnancy?fbclid=IwAR3lXrQHtbPzviZEQOd3hieJO30wuk65XPjmpCMrubYUM0yjiHoLTqqCoAM)",15.57108225108225,20.07454431168832,11.329285714285716,36.69488095238097,47.441558441558456,16.042424242424246,49.1969696969697,13.816669648895859,9.480733333333337,500,28,42,21,6,143,58,77,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,6,4,0,1,0,6,8,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,7,6,1,12,0,0,2,0,6,4,0,1,8,26,2,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26148576204810176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781289935016751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5219845813205579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157992903615299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6943143123187253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justbrowsingthrough9,2020/01/17,"Working away from your child and husband Any mom here who had to work away from her child and husband and would only visit once to twice a month?

I have a job prospect which will require me to work in another city for 3 years. My son who is currently one year old can visit me every month and stay with me for a week. 

Any thoughts or any experiences to be shared? How did you cope? Did your child cope well? I know 3 years is a long time but after these 3 years, I would come home and stay with my son for good with a better career. If ever, I would start working away when he’s always two years old and I’ll be back for good when he’s 5 years old.

Son and husband cannot join me for the time being since my husband has a good job in our hometown and all our extended family are here to help take care of my son.",3.6673357856016793,3.8320607572254346,4.321671045717292,92.0903152916448,71.48554913294797,7.4469784550709415,23.81975827640568,6.980632752743323,0.5281838150289015,633,14,150,5,11,202,96,173,0.013000000000000001,0.8220000000000001,0.165,0.9793,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,3,0,6,8,7,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,1,2,24,23,14,0,4,3,9,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,4,12,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,4,0,18,7,22,12,1,32,0,0,0,0,26,5,0,2,22,91,22,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875958795827722,0.0,0.0,0.2176217033793216,0.11185481558033926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30066535843944625,0.08202412682899153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094342650174949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875913813341596,0.0,0.0,0.09188841909525038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964908643853233,0.08987569859661726,0.0,0.0,0.10434561262025198,0.1005607985197354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268414052195215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149994362446617,0.0,0.10700063953615334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21171085412988294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586241009606925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440129797045953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493287079470528,0.17028902766259854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33580272738176364,0.11360212007198525,0.07228365792501708,0.08112880674192492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824011971965301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550293844431412,0.2273961604837815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020401306259907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468559408075721,0.12440251607038275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042029719190396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556578489447669,0.0,0.0959108724911966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31063373109555026,0.0,0.0,0.22733002754435225,0.0,0.0,0.4121593388102664
parenting,lubodogg,2020/01/17,"My son lost a friend My 10 year old son recently lost a friend suddenly and unexpectedly to illness. He saw this friend mostly after school at daycare. We didn’t know him well but my son did. 

I had to pick him up from school because he was inconsolable. I brought him home and after a bit he calmed down. We tried to keep his regular routine we made his favorite foods and let him relax. 

I’ve never had anything remotely like this happen during my childhood. I’m not sure if I should take him to the memorial. It has not been scheduled as of yet. 

My concern is his strong emotional reaction. How would he do at a funeral? I haven’t really talked to him about that part. We did talk about death. He feels like doctors could have fixed him. I’m worried it would be too overwhelming. How should I approach this? Should I ask him if he wants to go? He also has a history of depression so this really worries me. Any advice would help. Thanks.",1.7893024453024466,4.3282609135135175,3.0900386100386115,88.59927927927929,83.10810810810811,6.767052767052768,23.40411840411841,7.957251820313856,1.4437902187902192,739,27,148,15,21,239,114,185,0.133,0.682,0.185,0.8837,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,3,9,15,0,1,6,0,22,3,0,4,2,30,38,11,2,10,5,3,1,2,3,6,2,0,1,0,7,7,1,1,2,1,0,3,5,4,1,0,12,2,27,11,18,17,3,17,0,4,1,0,32,4,0,3,12,98,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429640595497822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109903867480355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345808730314027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309435960960187,0.0,0.1284798381656358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837769260885041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500395306292619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972781651562118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183694920380577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066689535239135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459186458891366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948946198030366,0.0981810433407911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618263454866328,0.0,0.3185375531392051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810545059825909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153016250771545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921173927461306,0.0,0.13785493297740453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215537242433315,0.0,0.0,0.07552872154625062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053295171521568,0.0,0.1342841126669529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30004528782131795,0.0,0.0,0.1300409450503381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599559366577188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421117069180858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882484956416192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760841904864651,0.0,0.135696960436972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781758950322935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952749936024188,0.0,0.10333133421625673,0.22092436039786745,0.0,0.1265283991985574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330692190907897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106062002917039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356736330170184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279136582997667,0.0,0.29288204114228256,0.0,0.0,0.08850133711662367
parenting,fr33dom35,2020/01/17,Fun things to do with mom and newborn baby We're in college and have a 2 month old. My woman is having a hard time. She watches our baby girl all day at home except for one class and I'm in 4 classes so pretty busy but I'm looking for ideas for things to do out of the house other than eat out that you can actually do with a 2 month old that are not stressful. She's very attached to our little girl so it has to be stuff we can all do together,-0.3736363636363649,1.5802875959595966,2.103838383838383,96.00909090909092,87.18181818181819,4.4080808080808085,18.090909090909093,5.565023196281405,-0.5086848484848487,348,9,82,2,11,119,69,99,0.013000000000000001,0.9,0.087,0.7942,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,4,0,12,1,0,0,2,14,15,6,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,7,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,7,1,17,14,2,12,0,0,2,0,11,6,0,0,6,57,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.2001697734251352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228691274959378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20989131950765266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374928872140064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057543893633452,0.0,0.0,0.2366835914374026,0.0,0.2315581066668809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558642997680254,0.0,0.0,0.17225106879799154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24023675609049916,0.32745332227810875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4304826925552195,0.0,0.13899617760962674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208683119680142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349668991169115,0.0,0.2348159559241163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27254828032013617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960846140866688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924737784636784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrisAustin,2020/01/17,"Any parents of introvert teenagers out here? Sooo, I have an introvert 14 year old. He recently got into reading fan fiction. I know some of those writings are sexually explicit and have depictions of drugs, when I first saw him reading, about 3 weeks ago, I asked to look at it, gave it a quick read, no more than 30 seconds, the reading was about the Gorillaz band, clearly fan fiction (the characters where passing a bong or something). I told him that if he had any questions about what he read, to come ask me and gave the phone back. Today he asked me to charge his phone (his charger is not working) I was at my desk and his phone was right next to me (he put it there, I try to be as little intrusive as I can, give him privacy, that’s why I make this remark, I wasn’t trying to see what was in the phone, I was actually very deep into a game) but by the 30th time I glanced over I saw an alert from an app I have never seen before, it’s called Wattpad, went back to my game, but it kept vibrating, and then I saw it was messages from different people. Went online to see what the app was, it’s like a fan fiction community based, apparently different people can add to the story, what I could see from the notifications was that they were talking about the band members from Gorillaz( I don’t know if what showed on the screen were the messages my kid wrote or the replies to him).  My main concern are the strangers he is taking to, I’ve always told him not to give out personal information. He is already asleep, so I intend to talk to him tomorrow about internet privacy. 
I would love to hear any advice from parents that have dealt with something like this? And how do I approach it with out sounding like a crazy insane parent that is going through her kid’s phone. I know he needs his privacy, it’s just scary all the things that are available at the reach of their hand. 
Also, I saw and did some pretty messed up things online when I was about his age. So I don’t want to be a hypocrite, I just want to assure him that I am there for him. 
Help, please.",7.845055435198161,5.816438600484265,7.687368421052632,78.66363068688672,63.72154963680386,11.019192047916405,35.53829488976679,9.549672527348893,2.9898116222760285,1614,57,339,24,19,518,202,413,0.038,0.8420000000000001,0.12,0.9852,7,0,3,0,0,0,50.0,0,0,2,2,22,6,0,0,25,0,35,4,2,3,5,48,70,21,0,7,10,3,1,3,0,1,1,2,0,3,26,15,0,1,5,10,0,7,7,1,0,2,28,14,49,5,52,38,5,41,0,0,11,1,60,16,0,7,21,227,75,7,0.0,0.0,0.08910188767445272,0.0,0.0,0.0892235697373444,0.08093762573361722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075889687824464,0.07301770523795477,0.0759742497600711,0.0,0.0,0.18627447497305388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560775112088409,0.0,0.0,0.14041799069610067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769503216185154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323405602269456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865238970782777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290074086040826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907915353578915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588645084980026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766518798793531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517886196030874,0.05189153848731237,0.0,0.07302607922559018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029089630465592,0.0,0.061200763767736976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053884963191494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382310352192806,0.09151301256798346,0.0,0.0,0.07667439054969646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240760229066861,0.0,0.060947739474702924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770254806829655,0.07042113432625816,0.0,0.09710540574163674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581072072351833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304154897711514,0.0,0.0,0.1266007400157499,0.07972523770605586,0.0,0.10022702232955223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289144695089883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178816375116568,0.10228407866400513,0.0,0.4566556074966196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015406724103048,0.0,0.0,0.07797517754521169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21827816829208688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405842746288477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686510591176045,0.14677727178525915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131984686505433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053241503504699035,0.0,0.08654780304897408,0.17449438034618442,0.0,0.12398212140870846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533735284814537,0.10770977574112747,0.0,0.07324049673985968,0.0,0.0,0.16928391864190806,0.08238983564630736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647215589049857,0.0,0.0,0.06486145586411486,0.0,0.0,0.058798336172306086
parenting,Stupid_primate,2020/01/17,"Teacher bullying a student in my daughter's class My daughter is 12 and in 6th grade and she came home and told me a very concerning story about her strings teacher today. She has told me quite a few stories over the course of the quarter about him. These stories have been enough for me to know that this guy seems like a bit of a dick to be honest, but nothing too terrible. I basically let her know that some teachers are not the nicest and the best thing to do is to behave and not draw attention to herself. That is until today. 

The story she told me today was about a boy in her class who I will call Landon. She said that Landon is not very well liked and is frequently made fun of by many of the kids in her class. Today in music though for some reason Landon did not have the sheet music to play. The teacher started berating him in front of the other students and refused to give him new music because ""its not like it would do any good"". I have no idea if this has been an ongoing issue or not but regardless saying this in this way makes the teacher a bit of an asshole IMO and is pretty in line with other stories she has told me. Then she gets to the part that makes me so angry. She said another student said they saw Landon picking his nose and the teacher proceeded to make fun of him for it and tell the class not to touch his things because they are probably disgusting. She said that he was hanging his head and looked like he might have been fighting tears at this point. She decided she had enough and went up to help him pick up some of his things that had fallen over. She told me she wanted to show him that not everyone is mean. She said the teacher then got upset with her and told her to sit down. He also said that Landon doesn't need her to ""hold his hand"". 

Guys, my heart is breaking for that little kid. I remember being that little kid. I want to rip that teacher apart piece by piece for this. I wrote my daughters regular teacher an email about what happened tonight and I plan on meeting with the principle or Vice Principle about what happened. I desperately need some perspective here though. Am I overreacting? What things should I say at the meeting if I am not? I have had really bad experiences with this school when teachers have behaved in a way I thought was inappropriate so I want to make sure I have my thoughts together before I go in there. Thanks in advance to anyone who took the time to read this.",6.093509316770184,6.0764369896480375,6.064622153209113,82.3063742236025,66.26708074534162,9.05320910973085,30.91459627329193,8.634040054169528,2.203050931677019,1938,66,387,26,28,611,221,483,0.09699999999999999,0.8109999999999999,0.092,-0.6008,0,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,0,0,2,4,15,18,2,1,28,0,42,5,5,8,1,69,84,29,0,10,15,3,2,4,0,4,0,8,1,6,35,19,0,2,11,3,0,8,11,5,1,1,31,13,62,13,62,46,13,49,0,0,2,1,72,23,1,10,18,283,97,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058911102343023575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009577071418948,0.07724578625538503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05150935490735875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615084806307839,0.08981287337619802,0.0,0.06268479646566813,0.0,0.0773084848238144,0.0,0.16084955601730053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522176982019325,0.08425489236480826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223444829570004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039153220000924,0.0,0.07206000785332252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03848772466347356,0.0706676540412133,0.04186639013922307,0.061787995436284486,0.058917858524158026,0.0,0.0,0.1458829052467944,0.13028614925741436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560311888462441,0.0,0.0,0.08729520002659596,0.049377126356447934,0.0,0.07389354215923451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316055259013548,0.0,0.07688872457215379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097040344179393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532902427243607,0.0,0.14395899408688248,0.14766644422861305,0.0,0.0,0.06186133697357275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970505768610308,0.19669193963678896,0.07468630523459906,0.0,0.08024445395088098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814855342745491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924560625774626,0.0,0.07114759965752926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068502823201803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977367989735742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963868778915036,0.0,0.0,0.07494535086089522,0.07942498551180557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835342898717182,0.07368647135945652,0.0,0.04719266939623759,0.07574146830499816,0.0,0.0,0.08344982502334605,0.0,0.42044247206594537,0.11716517260719884,0.0,0.07455446745101517,0.0,0.0670632477880518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052141553445537316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942983851238063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438779957786381,0.06782224907433332,0.0,0.0,0.19576309311873835,0.0,0.14475399548107,0.1169660021400507,0.0429555496388211,0.0,0.2793090506674364,0.4223491932000554,0.08184623220444567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156521461270416,0.13035129496369144,0.11694613499943952,0.0,0.0,0.0662350629928953,0.06828961704316673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052330593683765664,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flailawaywithme,2020/01/17,"Manipulator in the making My eldest child (8f) is getting really good at using her brother (6m) to get what she wants. She will talk him in to choosing what she wants over what he wants and making him think it was his idea. Ex: she talked him into giving up half his allowance money (to her), or convinced him to spend his money on a toy she wanted. She is generally a good kid but I'm starting to wonder if this is going to get worse or if he will figure it out and start to assert himself.  Any experience with this?",5.35257142857143,5.019923828571429,6.631190476190479,78.68964285714289,67.85714285714286,8.523809523809524,27.023809523809533,7.793537801064563,1.5008095238095245,402,10,81,4,6,137,69,105,0.038,0.89,0.07200000000000001,0.1513,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,5,0,25,23,7,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,5,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,17,3,16,20,0,11,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,5,2,57,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620925435420175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592951258216385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31394172822158,0.1921437344248291,0.11383375686343992,0.3360002916986083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261116397352348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674004417285085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831578829518128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835433815842954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32198328969505186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283426312429155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299283893181852,0.0,0.0,0.4725629179997812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172142315528873,0.0,0.0,0.2041203930625768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EM020925,2020/01/17,Student is making my son uncomfortable at school My son(10)  has been acting out at home recently. When he does this in the past usually something is going on at school.  So I asked him if something was going on at school. Are you being bullied? Someone hitting you? He said no. Is anyone doing anything they're not supposed to? He said yes.  He told me another boy  in his class is caressing the side of his thigh.  So I immediately asked him if he was touching him anywhere else. He said no but he was still in tears.   I told him to tell the teacher tomorrow morning so he isnt paired off or put in a group with him.  I will be contacting the teacher tomorrow. Advice how to handle this..I dont even know what to think. Tell me I'm not over reacting? 😔,1.105666666666668,3.580141300000001,3.0,88.39666666666666,86.0,6.0,23.66666666666667,7.3871296695380915,1.2246666666666668,585,23,118,10,18,195,93,150,0.075,0.9129999999999999,0.013000000000000001,-0.7912,0,0,2,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,0,7,0,0,0,5,1,16,1,1,3,0,13,30,9,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,9,5,17,0,19,17,0,25,0,0,0,0,30,14,0,3,7,74,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510394295324233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557060357206974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382854319896527,0.0,0.12219565660324976,0.0,0.2776385708204003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994570430992933,0.0,0.17403065351874358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404539567499995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807707829941203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878201270325147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894884333153555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160691438200188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991190706435592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175171200871145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927473218051976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661720740892895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4237475838329928,0.0,0.0,0.4508432550748776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581616468047324,0.2286316567014597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858531389245858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595758165475093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514720507202933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28377952917542304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354214674378376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TriniTornado,2020/01/17,"Occupational therapy for handwriting? I had a parent teacher interview for my 5 year old who attends a Montessori school.  The teacher indicated that she thought his fine motor skills were somewhat behind regarding his handwriting (she was showing some cursive writing letters) and that he was also possibly needing some gross motor help.  She suggested we consult with an occupational therapist.

I am not particularly well versed in occupational therapy, so I was curious if anyone in the community had experience with this

He is a bit clumsy...he’s a gigantic 5 year old (4 feet tall and 58lbs) and he has definitely had some trouble adjusting to his body after some recent growth spurts.  We keep him pretty active - he does gymnastics and skating weekly and we do lots of hiking and playgrounds on the weekend.  His cursive wasn’t beautiful, but he is trying hard with printing and can draw stick people and dinosaurs at a level that seems appropriate to me...I can’t remember my own handwriting at 5 years old, but I’d imagine it was a bit awkward?  

Is occupational therapy overkill for a situation like this?",8.385153846153845,9.455907989743594,9.082884615384613,58.885865384615386,61.410256410256395,12.243589743589745,41.891025641025635,11.855464076750405,5.7493333333333325,898,50,131,28,12,303,124,195,0.047,0.8540000000000001,0.099,0.8387,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,11,0,17,2,2,0,0,32,21,13,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,14,0,1,5,2,0,2,3,3,1,0,10,1,16,3,16,11,9,19,0,0,0,0,24,7,0,8,11,89,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186730289399596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781199770705387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054399813905877,0.15538253216854098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241574946927478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683598514475911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531096122175125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376307233208653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433768128828016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834155089333248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892662682865306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372417794793454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44036252087385214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532756956276786,0.0,0.0,0.09697978924284407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577011787141717,0.0,0.14231501248160594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812119011836158,0.0,0.15846430436797165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415727572687485,0.0,0.12734755173444018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723845481780205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799177241011749,0.16241918158306945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105437404236893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497385246406476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220863222425337,0.0,0.12577489741891718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702472473278156
parenting,cdnmish,2020/01/17,"Would you take Fornite back? Does your child play Fornite? If you could go back in time would you stop them from playing it in the first place? Why or why not?

Debating on letting my 9yo have it on his iPad. We’re not big video gamers and don’t see the point but I’d like to be open to other points of view. TIA",-0.2302611940298505,1.9040572238805995,0.7090858208955241,104.89556902985079,88.70149253731344,3.9470149253731344,15.83768656716418,5.148860815047168,-1.1951477611940295,242,5,61,1,8,74,55,67,0.022000000000000002,0.8029999999999999,0.175,0.9054,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,10,4,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,7,3,8,5,0,15,0,0,2,0,7,9,0,2,6,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596939009126446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867421099640492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467868969188774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894668976537405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292506045935276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23916834177630006,0.0,0.11426682554330665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443652386485063,0.0,0.4422032448415236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638002497122974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19554248857259715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585615015128864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363831229255101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42209863896015576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322974493934939,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BXCellent,2020/01/17,"Parents of Suicidal Teens - I need advice My 14 year old daughter has had an increase in suicidal thoughts recently. She has past attempts at taking pills, so all medication is locked away. Today, during a short time alone, she walked to a store to buy some Advil. I sensed something was wrong, and tracked her, catching her before she took the pills.

The last year has been really hard. She's been hospitalized twice, and we are doing our best to keep her safe. But I dread missing a sign, not getting to her in time. 

How do you all handle it? How can you be there for them every moment, and still work, have time for others? I would never forgive myself if something happened to her, but I feel I am reaching a breaking point myself.",4.405879659908437,6.223182302158276,4.533865271419232,85.06376716808373,71.3021582733813,6.781164159581425,27.02485284499673,7.348242739294969,1.4220446043165462,576,20,107,6,11,179,101,139,0.11199999999999999,0.828,0.06,-0.6557,1,1,2,0,0,0,21.0,2,2,1,3,5,6,0,1,7,0,16,4,0,2,3,22,25,9,2,3,4,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,3,0,2,4,2,3,0,1,6,2,23,3,12,17,5,24,0,1,0,0,17,6,0,2,13,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657235960629765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564643753088274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933751319221376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431052427060048,0.0,0.17797661641289186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428887955545642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575094356373221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860495745902856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996987758293726,0.0,0.15192135582530686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074139514470175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824032906108213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084636239088444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575051369872006,0.13080000782009474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795855093479013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883121375413193,0.0,0.16189500425730613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031950506328946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864514597299778,0.0,0.1674518993901403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611208182992741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543659985068626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37101281832854055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751227533255194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463731273269425,0.2966718361495443,0.0,0.16075363488424718,0.0,0.188423243672264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234651868857188,0.0,0.0,0.1204734773930721,0.18542251593170808,0.0,0.2184237134129348
parenting,brandnewdayinfinity,2020/01/17,"My kid is trans and until today I’ve been totally supportive but now I’m a bit concerned. They think it’s okay and in fact the right thing to do to not tell people they are sleeping with they are post op. To be clear my kid is 14 and not transitioning until at least 18. That we agree on. 
They think it’s okay to lie because they say it’s not a lie. 
This is the part that concerns me and has been for a while. 
There seems to be this huge attachment to being different and being special. And being the sex they want to be as if they never were the other. 
I had a trans friend before I had kids. We were pretty tight and they were pretty open and honest about who they were so this has taken me aback. 
I grew up going to AA meetings with family. I love AA teachings. One thing they say is don’t talk about your story talk about your feelings because someone will always have it worse than you and someone will always have it easier than you if all you listen to is the story. If you talk about your feelings everyone can relate. 
I feel like my child is so attached to the story that they can’t hear me when I say these feelings are universal. We all go through these things. Self doubt. Self hatred. Body hatred. We’re more the same than not. 
I feel like because my child is so attached to the story they are attached to being the opposite sex completely one day as if they always had been. This is why they think they don’t need to tell people they transitioned. 
Growing older is about finally accepting yourself and accepting your flaws and being okay with them. And being open and honest about who you are. This I have learned. It was painful. I wanted to be perfect. 
I feel like my kid is doing the same thing. 
I feel like there is more to say but I don’t have the language for it. 
I’m so okay with my child being trans. I’m not okay with them having unrealistic expectations that could bring them a lot of pain and potentially hurt others or themselves. 
My kid thinks I’m being the unreasonable one. Not sure how to navigate this. Maybe I’m way off base 🤷🏻‍♀️",1.9016689450900013,4.14085035167464,3.08377306903623,90.67974481658695,80.17224880382776,5.8948279790385065,20.239462292093872,7.07126945348624,0.4049471861471865,1629,43,338,20,42,524,178,418,0.073,0.738,0.18899999999999997,0.9943,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,9,19,1,15,23,0,1,17,5,56,7,2,1,8,71,84,32,0,9,13,0,8,4,1,2,2,6,0,10,27,24,0,1,15,0,0,5,11,4,2,3,12,14,53,19,43,57,11,26,0,1,0,3,57,9,0,8,14,247,80,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301418605386693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686043695557879,0.0,0.07845148987018014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065349196296322,0.10240829888482347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966651166264203,0.0,0.0,0.07361052018390275,0.0,0.0,0.05945840206190418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632456404847856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809665001241579,0.0,0.0,0.0869136123805389,0.0,0.32631732994149515,0.26345763187532506,0.0,0.10099554776478556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122993278356289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479353422506993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391090971144386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869707621796277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801680503583335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838122712804113,0.08320994272664133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262266527987263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836171652392012,0.07110677159814152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18742195523962912,0.0,0.19620479916879432,0.0,0.0,0.0998386274381887,0.0,0.12783335557687767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829770239003584,0.18759172129084936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787343628170511,0.0,0.2932699113720763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393122417470465,0.1923598062359061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922619765142099,0.0,0.15623371647654505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462224066345252,0.08689306785458692,0.0,0.0,0.2223094964420604,0.16116567624535658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450020927350576,0.23630034341789485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739045348534842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875846428471402,0.0731804124967534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319200310191435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395498306402586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ehster1,2020/01/17,"Accidentally pregnant before BOLC Are there any single moms who accidentally got pregnant before they had to leave for BOLC? If so, how many days were you allowed to go after having the baby? Can you take the baby with you while you are in school? I am 3 months away from graduating college and am wondering how these things would work, with commissioning and getting assigned a unit.",8.35586956521739,8.900713246376819,7.896920289855075,69.1697282608696,61.46376811594203,9.798550724637682,33.19202898550725,9.516144504307137,3.0620985507246385,310,11,51,5,4,98,54,69,0.094,0.9059999999999999,0.0,-0.6747,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,4,1,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,3,0,10,14,7,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,9,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,4,39,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17987766137468622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485183264933875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4501615378401116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058876608968207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819693370118194,0.0,0.1503286253725723,0.0,0.21155491678119476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800806863762675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26817429357385675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097939995654786,0.21113146054412368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677009068616892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888058146597454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573044027297244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286852667788851,0.19256834759318656,0.0,0.0,0.18790218567329992,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iliketothinkicansing,2020/01/17,"Night weaning help! Hey everyone! So i need some advice on night weaning. My 6 month old son is not sleeping through the night, but I want to work our way there. He is all over the map when it comes to initial wake-up time and then subsequent wake-ups. For example, yesterday he didn't wake up until 1145 for his first feeding, so almost 5 hours after being put to bed. But tonight, he was up at 10. I tried to let him CIO and self-soothe. But after about 20 minutes (and an hour after pumping) I went to comfort him. Subsequent wake-ups tend to be more predictable, at about every 2-3 hours. 

Ive been testing the waters and trying to see if he will self-soothe and go back to sleep (which he can do), or if I can just rock him to sleep. Most of the time I give in because i dont want to wake up my husband (roomsharing).

My first child wound up soothing himself at 5 months, which was wonderful for me! But I think i need to help out my second a little bit more. Any suggestions or tips and tricks? Anything is appreciated!",2.9815865384615385,4.2836462932692285,3.8896153846153863,90.33038461538463,74.04807692307692,6.7384615384615385,25.5,7.1686216300943375,0.9600423076923076,791,26,172,8,16,254,129,208,0.009000000000000001,0.868,0.12300000000000001,0.9733,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,0,3,8,2,1,0,6,0,16,8,5,0,1,28,28,19,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,8,2,0,2,1,0,4,3,1,0,3,5,1,21,1,33,19,6,40,0,0,1,0,19,13,0,8,22,108,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341673206707005,0.0,0.0,0.12646898623843772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588682353911455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393231433843676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971151994150912,0.0,0.07698995640980791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788446845962782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879435709175507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802006134113774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064113295589035,0.12068294425895848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485765981034888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115634206305835,0.07177794074917157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930948372628185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731336272226767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914804030009366,0.0,0.0,0.12658355842521332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20161937126296828,0.0,0.0,0.18729641191896074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35556574177439976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325282779370589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696415583857287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064298141361318,0.0,0.2635122648858974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37916698196752696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092651981958303,0.0,0.0,0.14729050613488678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17149580883223858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489874096360335,0.10024930165844677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707931038735128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696455842166286,0.09194629039847188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pablo630,2020/01/17,"Help with Preteen Texting Long Story short I caught my 11-year-old texting a boy, who I've told her I didn't like, that she loves him. He has said it many times to her, her saying it once or twice back in response, even to the point of them two ""arguing"" of who loves each other more. Shes told me before that he calls her friends bitches and other similar insults. He's also put her down many times. He is also constantly texting her when at home and I've seen some of the explicit things he says to her. I don't think he offers her a valuable friendship, and she's been lying to me about their ""relationship."" From time to time I check her texts because she gets carried away far too often with texting and I think she still needs the supervision.  I have no problem with her liking boys, and I've told her that but I do have a problem with her saying ""I love you"" to a boy she's known since late September. I don't think it's appropriate, at least not at their age. How should I proceed?

Thanks in advance",2.7731190817790505,4.433236882926831,3.618307030129128,90.59919655667143,75.29268292682926,6.384505021520805,24.741750358680054,7.048011613610866,0.8455767575322808,791,26,169,8,17,252,117,205,0.07400000000000001,0.807,0.11900000000000001,0.8749,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,3,1,10,13,3,0,7,0,11,3,0,1,1,25,26,11,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,1,3,11,10,0,0,4,0,1,3,5,5,0,2,8,5,36,8,22,17,4,25,0,0,1,3,51,10,1,3,14,110,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314590066833935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933371705652085,0.0976658301470776,0.0,0.0774264795937056,0.0,0.10807945302128358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969536786981622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725687689020125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389146685952434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981306051259138,0.0,0.06635950763500098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513472339804966,0.0,0.12740527318692474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432771838787911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241051276837596,0.0,0.0,0.11240328290807014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439049447260833,0.0,0.0,0.2575442682455572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941791792829895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327969628484476,0.13526563210395395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006916684324738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24307025047556316,0.0,0.12768402632729647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636536865179796,0.0,0.0,0.12081928146827806,0.3030195952410681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506719032394947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143344503050024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693731169154993,0.0,0.0,0.08438237506927164,0.2441560884402191,0.0,0.0,0.2962512488485207,0.0,0.0,0.36410160324954544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407410050805345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179277149697435
parenting,lilbitsiesmama,2020/01/17,"96 Hour Stomach Bug? My LO (3F) got hit with the stomach bug on Sunday. Since then she's eaten very little and isn't really drinking a lot. We thought the worst was over and she hadn't thrown up in about 2 days but suddenly tonight she threw up again while begging us to change her diaper. Throughout the whole sickness she never had diarrhea, and actually only had one bowel movement before being sick on Sunday. We were thinking she hadn't pooped these past 4 days due to almost no calories and slightly dehydrated. But now my husband is worried she may have fecal impaction that's causing the constipation and nausea. I don't think she does, but it doesn't change she wont drink, wont poop, and is clearly having moments of pain that cause her to throw up. Right now she's in a great mood but I'm sure that will change when she feels the need to go to the bathroom.

Do you think this is a dehydration issue? If so how do we get anything into her? She's refusing all liquids, no apple sauce/""liquid"" foods, and no pedialyte popsicles. Alternatively, could it be something more serious that requires an emergency room visit?

Thank you!",4.660555706153431,6.48454599078341,5.157820547573866,80.81891569531037,70.65898617511522,7.686527514231499,29.354567633505017,8.313332769828598,2.188014583898075,908,36,164,14,17,290,144,217,0.136,0.7979999999999999,0.066,-0.9328,1,0,3,0,0,0,26.0,4,2,0,1,7,7,0,0,10,0,23,12,5,3,4,36,37,17,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,8,12,4,2,5,2,0,5,11,3,0,1,10,1,23,3,17,19,5,34,0,0,0,0,23,12,0,4,17,111,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.1385348623877677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215487648503974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168229915256045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079957978086013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916690609432541,0.450532311561859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334545615870985,0.0,0.0,0.18310805812368847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124232287262687,0.0,0.0,0.2781382896155491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178047478288742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716615450549211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416951522871146,0.0,0.0806805257560277,0.0,0.11354033119026727,0.15651409045340056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139804406513416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817190358573612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228365900749154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069138923229705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526334991028348,0.10949018486255767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619742285803784,0.10796883212823567,0.15105804446670848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135519211656605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909447737446968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212351474567568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743279675360087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928962139808662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13379791894422266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069994081355066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728913966534312,0.0,0.11270231941252193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17076333505327707,0.0,0.0,0.1171338798972378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849599366059602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416974808730448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dre6485,2020/01/17,"Today is my children’s (9, 6, 5, and 4) mother’s birthday, she passed away a year and a half ago and abandoned us a couple of years before that, I wanted to celebrate her birthday with them to remember her but it only opened an old wound. Last year I posted here for recommendations on how to approach their mother’s birthday and I got mixed answers. But I got a cake and we sang happy birthday and nothing major happened. Some tears but that’s it. 

This year one of my kids had a Girl Scout meeting so I waited till after and we went out for ice cream, talked about mommy then called their moms sisters and mother just to say hi. After we said a prayer for mommy and said we missed her and wished her a happy birthday with her ashes. My kids broke down. Like major break down. Sobbing for 20 minutes as I tried my best to hold all 4 at the same time. Asking me questions why mommy didn’t come back home, “Maybe if she came back home, you could have taken care of her and she wouldn’t have died”. My heart is crushed right now. I wish I wouldn’t have said anything. And they would have just been happy. But I want them to remember their mother...",2.6480434782608704,4.506678804347828,3.3115217391304377,91.80336956521742,76.17391304347827,5.2956521739130435,21.065217391304348,5.6839178017228535,-0.005286956521739493,895,22,185,4,20,281,136,230,0.092,0.764,0.14400000000000002,0.9432,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,1,6,1,9,10,0,0,9,0,13,2,1,1,1,48,31,22,1,9,7,6,0,1,0,3,1,5,2,4,5,22,0,3,4,1,0,5,3,4,0,2,11,6,36,6,26,16,6,31,0,4,1,0,41,8,1,3,17,121,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175499339723172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446293180569937,0.0,0.10731377084536167,0.0,0.10784960308961124,0.1765338627940465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767839633258768,0.0,0.12046571491427265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721409751022635,0.13128993365842198,0.11703672755256354,0.0,0.0,0.0988819887271832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165100084994328,0.12701368116201064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913458124536147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18361715313670984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150900091685214,0.36659037404486733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602748396575612,0.0,0.0,0.2302887814719668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356970823455474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056080917833723036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532264617994095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444143280744755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014473351937387,0.0,0.12045348706783607,0.0,0.07778512154716738,0.0873034690627244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993772054020763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859180949231713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600708797700204,0.09803059583653527,0.32757661137180977,0.0912861396349118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226438375229844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693535655975091,0.0,0.10880812289673383,0.0,0.0,0.0779353226078015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807902933658445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541300995691952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641209120933176,0.10358071547318587,0.0,0.2640071862060095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154399086167613,0.0,0.0,0.2956856841179212
parenting,augustomen,2020/01/17,"Dad at work, mom in college So my wife is currently in college, where her schedule is kinda crazy - some days of the week she has 2 hours of classes, some she has 6, and some days she doesn't have classes at all.

For this term, her mother is helping us with our 2-month-old. She came from overseas to help us, but she'll be gone by the end of the term. Next term we will have no-one with us, so I'm looking for childcare, but they all seem to require you to drop your baby in the morning and pick him up at the end of the day. Really? Is that how it works? Or is it just the ones I've looked at? 

The worst thing is that we can't even know what her schedule will look like until a few days before classes begin. 

Has any mom been through this? What did you do?",1.7218803418803397,2.9488172469135847,2.8181481481481505,97.05320512820515,77.14814814814815,5.478442545109212,22.338081671415004,5.369823440869387,-0.09748015194681824,582,16,140,2,13,186,102,162,0.066,0.894,0.040999999999999995,-0.7281,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,3,1,3,6,2,0,0,9,0,20,0,0,2,2,22,29,9,0,0,4,5,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,20,1,23,21,10,29,0,0,3,0,26,9,0,6,18,99,29,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748752664391397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219860614677444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396196619384112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698130552115491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539431139275768,0.0,0.0,0.09468580148097093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217805625697948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117755175427532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787851374513788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003688171475153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361150770841288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357954573787271,0.11442601448041888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246156239402053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042882591387388,0.0,0.09714226455991774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183802443945638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050662885027306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523987496464648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5173216676093085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499216215812867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087308871295694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,n0names4me,2020/01/17,"How do we get our almost 3 year old to sleep on his own?   

(cross posted for answers) 

​

We are on our wits end, so apologies in advance if this is all over the place.

We have a 9 month old and an almost 3 year old. The baby we have sleep trained and will sleep in his crib, the older one though will absolutely fight sleep. He wont sleep unless someone is there next to him and it takes him forever to fall asleep - usually around 830-9 pm hes out.

He still takes naps at daycare (about 2 hours).

We have tried the chair method, the ""i forgot something brb"" method, the sitting near the door, and even one night put a door cover (and that was traumatic for all of us).

We need our nights back together as a couple, or just time for ourselves period. We usually take turns lying next to our older child til he falls asleep, but we ourselves end up falling asleep as well.

Its just not an optimal set up - my question is, I guess, would sleep training our toddler traumatize him? He is much older and aware so I feel like trying to sleep train him would cause him to resist bed time even more....HELP",3.802106164383563,4.9931509086758,4.0805450913242005,90.18602311643835,71.87671232876713,7.118835616438358,24.18978310502284,7.413659706084162,0.8533673515981737,855,23,182,9,16,266,136,219,0.073,0.899,0.028999999999999998,-0.8273,0,0,3,0,1,0,38.0,14,0,0,1,14,3,1,0,12,0,16,10,10,2,2,37,25,17,0,4,7,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,3,1,4,16,0,1,3,1,0,6,2,1,1,2,2,1,26,2,26,18,4,45,0,0,0,0,30,12,0,6,25,111,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387179352767724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947765876309933,0.11156095097294344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173164830150402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059733151329574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943156412889808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158761399992336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263537259778602,0.0,0.0,0.12128118274527805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046422623567144064,0.06559011232136013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0479676889298158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114065398623744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615392740938545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041577610388753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04485443285740831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328301686183927,0.0,0.0674919736362197,0.06807702070907214,0.0,0.0,0.1952850197297629,0.17231763718417828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28902199126684336,0.0,0.1244276180389018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592341554539698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792998215699663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229585743556244,0.1028498267804271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6431442280320809,0.0,0.0777915366439599,0.07068093334997835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332073596845537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070923343328673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020427535397553,0.0,0.10707198000923716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246678845555555,0.09986448429015404,0.0,0.0,0.11043785996436813,0.0,0.20223466409996865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254951223201812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304404280213383,0.0,0.11156095097294344,0.11824711664391513
parenting,millsvl,2020/01/17,"What to do with duplicate gifts? What do you do when you receive duplicate gifts? This is not the first time that this has happened and we hate storing additional items.

We have a 16 months old and another baby due in the spring.

For Christmas we receive this [tricycle ](www.walmart.ca/ip/6000197511615)
[this](www.walmart.ca/ip/6000197536259) from my father-in-law. However, in the summer we received [this](www.walmart.ca/ip/6000197536259) from my mother. 

We cannot return the new one. My original idea was to sell the new trike from Christmas as it’s still in the box and keep the one we’ve already used. I don’t think either grandparent would notice since they’re the same brand. The tricycle looks a bit nicer but the 4-in-1 is more versatile. 

What would you do? And what do you do in similar situations? I already hate all the toy clutter.",5.047627551020408,8.298119489795923,3.726458333333333,84.70968750000002,75.19047619047619,7.756632653061224,27.554846938775512,8.660442795831766,2.459721428571429,683,27,115,15,16,196,90,147,0.059000000000000004,0.9159999999999999,0.025,-0.7757,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,5,4,0,1,2,2,2,0,13,0,15,0,0,2,1,23,22,7,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,11,0,1,2,1,2,3,3,2,0,3,1,1,14,0,12,19,6,20,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,0,13,79,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026861754086612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131946119205107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991930685284808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519571215159386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134391974667733,0.0,0.0,0.360272107934909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059689322259802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217395088076056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321583522076945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563344836917844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524314034835093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077256678010233,0.19145531504737676,0.0,0.2472717945213898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092825528070922,0.20508651266438327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570840657642944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690948217937652,0.0,0.0,0.10639069146033506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758211456628196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259220896641213,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PersonalWhatever,2020/01/17,"I need advice on daycares... So I moved in with my boyfriend a couple months ago,  new area, transferred jobs and what not. The job I was working at dealt with my single momness and I liked the job and the people, but it just didn’t pay enough...cuz honestly $9.75 isn’t gonna cut it. So I ended up looking for another job and getting an interview. The job payed good and also offered commission but the schedule was all over the place, and with my boyfriend working graveyard there was no way I could work this job without daycare...but most daycares are 6am/6pm. I did end up finding a daycare that was open from 5am-11pm (I live in an area with a lot of dairies and factory work) but the thought of taking my daughter to a new daycare in a new town scares the hell out of me...they are ICCP certified, I have talked to one of the ladies and she was very nice and she was even gonna let me come check it out and I drove by to check out the outside(cuz I’m a paranoid momma) and it was clean and fenced and ya know, a normal looking place. But I just can’t shake the gut wrenching feeling of leaving my babygirl with strangers. I guess all those videos of daycares and nannies hurting kids and sacred me a lot 😬 But i dont want the fear of leaving her at daycare so stop me from getting a job that helps me pay all my bills and what not....
Any tips on what I can do to calm the anxiety?",1.992559588299024,3.9126092147887337,2.7552112676056346,94.76427410617552,78.33098591549296,5.355146262188517,26.416034669555803,6.093298490706669,0.7203877573131088,1083,44,236,7,26,339,150,284,0.124,0.778,0.099,-0.6429,7,0,1,0,1,0,37.0,0,1,0,4,8,11,2,3,24,0,19,1,1,0,3,53,35,25,0,4,10,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,11,26,0,2,4,1,6,4,8,6,0,1,11,3,28,5,34,20,7,33,1,1,2,0,12,19,1,4,10,156,39,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915688237058296,0.08306508250888776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493698579894448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372357517158155,0.09825934598783803,0.07168515058618756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071977873559409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481694699642913,0.10368436528999868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982321987351662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599213937160304,0.09682377545423736,0.0,0.06189220299324081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544576821620656,0.047380778720322134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564596519358053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791546794513356,0.0,0.0,0.07859649458931607,0.0,0.0,0.10322818009670273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628094343748774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031465477561773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6509241005932043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149859475996607,0.0,0.0,0.19844312557777014,0.0,0.09582115760256822,0.0,0.045780220817734266,0.0,0.08274448076084666,0.0,0.15737957518770873,0.0,0.0,0.15933168522387714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974782009142693,0.07479556602108807,0.09959508885194866,0.0,0.06948211898213857,0.0,0.2715067170592492,0.0,0.0,0.09181239042799233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349789158804173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649642290577266,0.0,0.1958065174614847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381646810375094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834275839499903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045556177660185,0.07531766641758589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439242598357419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731760566993236,0.05527047110571759,0.0743797901341788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032963963087168,0.0,0.27287754309771245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OoklaIsMyHomeboy,2020/01/17,"My son is worried our cat will attack my wife's breasts I'm at work tonight and my wife sends me this text:

He wanted me to put my bodysuit jammies on and I went to the bedroom and closed the door and started changing. 

He opens the door a little and says ""Julius (our cat) wants you. He'll probably attack your boobs though."" 

I'm like ""What?? Why??""

He said ""He'll probably think they're lasers or something. You've got little bumps on them.""",0.14509939498703514,2.5380078314606784,1.0013483146067408,100.07716508210892,94.28089887640448,3.6373379429559214,19.2057044079516,5.369823440869387,-0.44807588591184055,343,11,75,2,13,105,61,89,0.107,0.865,0.027999999999999997,-0.782,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,1,1,1,3,2,0,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,11,13,7,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,3,0,2,3,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,2,12,1,5,7,0,12,0,0,0,2,16,7,1,1,3,32,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.450696933720656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095459751724531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842539243093445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677354499750487,0.3970632158364421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42713482172369577,0.0,0.0,0.1991285307523064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842267664443396,0.15752387234103835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249428090539435,0.0,0.0,0.14020445198599218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692384621577704,0.19461593746343608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336694461950029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362529884866569,0.17873946106656732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442070763535146,0.20116331067526466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KnifexCalledxLust,2020/01/17,"Toddler and His Aversion to Sleep I think I have reached my limit. My 3 year old has been an utter bear lately. I think he just needs more sleep because he thrives off little sleep. He never has been a big sleeper. He didn't sleep through the night until 2 and half. I honestly have never met a child who can have some much energy and just not need a lot of sleep. I just don't get it. But it hasn't really a big issue until now. 

Recently he has refused to take nap during the day. Despite the sheer exhaustion I see in his eyes sometimes, he just won't nap. I implemented quiet time where he has to hang out in his room for an hour to two hours. For the most part, he plays and generally hang out. 

But now he is wild even though I make sure we are highly active during the day. He isn't listening so well. I correct him and half the time he just laughs. He is just nuts half the time. I don't know what to do with him. I really think he just needs more sleep. I just don't know how to get him to do so.",0.9992523364485992,2.7553585046728983,2.6988878504672904,94.770761682243,80.77570093457945,5.962242990654207,18.643925233644854,6.961326702584282,-0.03815626168224373,776,17,183,9,20,256,110,214,0.036000000000000004,0.857,0.107,0.9137,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,17,6,0,0,13,0,22,8,7,2,4,40,37,13,0,3,11,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,4,9,0,2,5,3,0,2,10,1,1,4,4,4,21,5,19,32,7,31,0,0,2,0,25,11,0,3,18,117,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948846047039138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470308094219649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529063582977512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911222226108467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043879845915205,0.0,0.0,0.2245183009536348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897802391136665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252940356393911,0.0,0.1285879324556008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424992305504615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691191546086501,0.0,0.0,0.07609054002228274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379723042691459,0.25357085370850085,0.17583530368967185,0.0,0.0,0.10697376274380377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961542040131848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344221922186625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605237839776264,0.0,0.1125533402993965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083685926975367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6844458957187199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274099515196012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074361037025192,0.0,0.0857077917307883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191243976119353,0.11199655366535996,0.0,0.1994089422275766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135361279236232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249249096523058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340710566664209
parenting,longintheface,2020/01/17,"Send help - snow day #4 It's day 4 of snow and they cancelled school tomorrow. Monday is a federal holiday in the US so the kids don't have school.  It's too miserable to go outside.

The hydra eats it's own head. They are dueling eachother and are love/hating eachother from minute to minute. Right now it is a disagreement about whose pen has more ink in it.

Venting with humor and love. No advice needed.  Much love to all who are housebound.",1.035,3.637595862068967,2.292672413793106,91.53831896551728,90.3793103448276,5.658620689655173,21.04310344827585,7.1686216300943375,0.8672,348,12,69,6,12,111,61,87,0.10300000000000001,0.731,0.166,0.7906,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,2,0,4,4,0,1,5,0,8,4,1,0,1,6,12,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,9,12,4,10,0,1,0,2,10,3,0,0,5,43,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174982527916629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28708563481629645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277503550836687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649481509074725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284267287385436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918770038211973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6026493750833016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361864011723504,0.16503695108530125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19007830472517948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4505166814260385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26773098327547523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vehemently_disagrees,2020/01/17,"Please tell me it's going to be OK? We have twin daughters, they just turned 2. Our first and only kids. A and B. A just got over being sick, B is still sick.

It breaks my heart. A is normally so goofy and funny and smart. Since Monday she just sleeps all day, and when she's awake is so sad and lethargic. Doesn't want to eat. Doesn't drink a whole lot. Her fever is usually 102 but spikes to 106. We took her to the doctor twice. We're giving her the prescriptions.

She and her sister are peas in a pod. Sending A to daycare and keeping B home has been so sad. When they're together it seems like A is trying really hard to be happy, but it's too much effort. B wants her to play, and says her name all the time, and is really stressed out.

Every parent probably goes through this at some point. But it's so sad. I'm trying to be strong. Please tell me my child will get through this?",0.5406451612903211,2.6404459139785,1.9305483870967743,97.78582258064516,84.48387096774194,5.2253763440860235,16.289247311827957,6.508806274219699,-0.4982120430107524,684,13,160,7,20,219,113,186,0.128,0.725,0.146,0.5599,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,1,3,11,10,0,1,10,1,17,8,2,0,2,29,28,19,0,3,6,3,1,1,0,1,4,1,1,2,7,13,2,1,1,2,0,3,2,4,0,2,3,2,17,6,14,20,6,17,0,3,0,0,24,5,0,3,9,97,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000058159883787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871001923437422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189932661331992,0.0,0.15866462968293304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064435802297253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189357349728098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101221470837587,0.14874724895226674,0.08812391526595552,0.0,0.12401528660504685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506377364420058,0.13890289945230636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374631260747956,0.0,0.0,0.15553737081910582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782405205204865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575426347063634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182608390777364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398661018064753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192543614068316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792977456052302,0.0,0.0,0.1721752795349497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34041764343865194,0.1465813938473297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718042014051673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19867023572935494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233095773079882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116039013350026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826686159497847,0.0,0.15517153154021104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383075643989452,0.0,0.17762018993249787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27105776138292553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041647020404574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227686475087478,0.2105505113167115,0.16866026326372474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077618700282302,0.0,0.18291627936695232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311844939602766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MSDLF,2020/01/17,"What would happen if i raised my kid like a mini-adult? I mean as in, instead of being all cute and playful and bouncy around the baby. 

Just like being serious and logical around it. Minimizing hugs and letting the baby do whatever it wants to do.",3.7043750000000015,5.620484020833337,5.560833333333335,76.56750000000002,73.375,8.133333333333335,26.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.3191083333333338,195,7,34,4,4,67,37,48,0.024,0.7120000000000001,0.264,0.9153,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,1,13,9,6,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,6,5,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,29,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6298159638402473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128154693051616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617281532133548,0.0,0.3456438044462688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853319276815262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864792223891332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512902455941348,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrincessComplex95,2020/01/17,"How many parents actually regret the circumcision procedure? I'm so conflicted with how I feel. A part of me feels justified, like it was the right thing to do. For hygiene, looks, whatever. But the other part of me feels like an absolute POS who mutilated my baby boy just because it's considered normal in my country. I wish I waited until he had a voice. If he grows up hating me because of our choice, I wouldn't blame him.",2.8812349397590364,5.221021867469883,4.947816265060244,78.06823042168679,77.31325301204821,8.487349397590362,27.24246987951807,9.188382445141503,2.702953012048193,337,14,62,9,8,116,64,83,0.071,0.7829999999999999,0.145,0.6526,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,6,0,4,0,0,2,0,15,12,6,0,5,3,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,5,11,2,9,9,2,5,0,1,1,0,7,3,0,1,3,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.2281853058798688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850823900399809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546959078507366,0.16704889877818302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23085968249604585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22847601106210844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635913129763524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370679124177505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22910471330599816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596416311729889,0.5064323291865657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969037922293933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534691289227676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688940869999841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pinacoladapopsicle,2020/01/17,"9 mo refusing crib naps and we're all losing our minds My 9 month old has never been a good napper, only averaging about 30 min per nap. But the past 2-3 weeks we have a new, much more difficult problem. This baby WILL NOT nap in a crib. We rock her dead asleep and the second we take one little step toward the crib she wails bloody murder. We tried CIO and she just escalates, we've made it 45 min before giving up. Last Saturday she was awake feom 6:30 am until 4 pm, when I finally took so much pity on her I put her in the car to sleep. She will nap in the car, in a stroller, or in a carrier but the crib is a no go. 

I am trying to just ride this out but it's gotten so bad that today daycare asked us if we have any solutions because she is refusing to nap there too. They have to send an extra aide into her room every day to watch her fulltime while she naps in the swing, which is usually against their policies. They said they've never seen anything like this. We are all at our wits end, including her daycare director!

Wtf do I do?! She goes to sleep at night in her crib by herself with minimal fuss. She wakes up 1-2 times a night to eat and usually falls back asleep ok..sometimes she has to cry for 5-10 min in her crib but then she falls asleep. It's only naps that are a disaster. 

Help me! What do I do?!",1.3446785714285738,2.9979312535714304,3.1065714285714314,92.73842857142859,79.32142857142857,6.622857142857143,20.48571428571429,7.554174236665415,0.4824614285714284,1021,26,236,15,25,340,168,280,0.171,0.804,0.025,-0.9917,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,9,0,3,1,9,8,1,0,16,0,20,7,6,1,4,31,29,16,2,2,9,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,10,13,1,2,0,8,0,11,4,6,0,2,7,3,38,2,30,20,6,55,0,2,2,0,38,18,0,2,27,146,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495447473301616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490514969736335,0.0,0.13053697008831194,0.0,0.0,0.1073683059759736,0.11658679738143403,0.08511830533913922,0.0,0.11881645570646153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337907673960405,0.09005101887364572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287828464313504,0.0,0.0,0.1236724113595351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176458912734838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529599125192102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394763419015068,0.07935602203463922,0.11711660620876665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359231388517704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381862839007748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821708934573516,0.1399478383855726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15621237067914698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212307235636064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098840632924595,0.0,0.1114528440183684,0.0,0.2052910137242576,0.0,0.21538544626751416,0.1348573513827996,0.0,0.2620701434127612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652018202831232,0.0,0.09461818371241372,0.21239269182086146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329444057985732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360886293299848,0.0,0.14036861803466327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282190466152008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794654649397048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809951155374775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498580537113894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814204791077692,0.0,0.1323547068754431,0.0,0.15513616972157512,0.18960177796263225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795997363941226,0.0,0.30756960395796706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200428128638534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YeetYeetB,2020/01/17,My kid is really struggling to make friends I'm not a mom but I'm big sister taking over mom duties. But my brother who's in 3rd grade is really struggling to make friends and is most likely autistic (his dad won't let him get tested). I know his confidence is low because he's also convinced his dad doesn't love him. I know if he made friends he would be nowhere near as sad or tantrum-prone. My real question is what are some out-of-school ways to help get him some friends? Or maybe some ways to boost his confidence? Perhaps some ways to also teach him more 'normal' social habits?,2.9906779661016927,4.812569423728816,3.4120000000000026,91.61732203389832,75.10169491525423,6.07593220338983,25.359322033898305,6.742157984588678,0.8521972881355939,464,16,96,4,10,144,75,118,0.09300000000000001,0.642,0.265,0.9789,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,11,0,2,1,0,11,1,0,3,0,22,22,9,0,3,6,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,13,7,9,17,6,8,0,2,0,1,27,5,0,9,1,51,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388778228614289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910452478554582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4615643285231445,0.0,0.15606334814390804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100109317039276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416289053431565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272531493043962,0.0,0.07296716943217285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479846126548042,0.1413230423488967,0.1993908637171848,0.0,0.15004688561138768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498448736324422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463359094532144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673114619599422,0.0,0.0,0.16999836330164325,0.1913609094386169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115494500164295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15224832301191354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122759524982764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122961580735919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556524620528483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609730416718594,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Imminentdadbod,2020/01/17,"4-year-old is wrecking me Getting dressed is a grueling war. Getting in the car is a grueling war. Meal time is a grueling war. Brushing hair, brushing teeth, taking medicine...war war war. I always wanted to be a parent but now hate it 75% of the time. It gets better? It has to, right?",0.4894642857142877,2.9668590178571432,2.3114285714285714,90.95857142857143,92.75,4.942857142857143,24.857142857142854,6.6274283507984215,1.1371857142857151,219,10,43,3,8,72,36,56,0.278,0.6609999999999999,0.061,-0.9154,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,1,7,6,0,6,0,6,3,2,0,0,2,12,1,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,3,2,1,4,11,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25488356598497786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27091598388635674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4801201541635992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024285164172933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214323041651884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340133159964638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615964142298196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303152293283559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35723641403594136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806760304908547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19726064613878286
parenting,VetsforWhoDat,2020/01/17,"Looking for suggestions at the dinner table My toddler has moved on from a high chair. The chair still fits, but we want to get a solid start on sitting at the table and the etiquette involved. Problem is, he's too short for the table still, so we need some sort of booster. 

I could just do internet research, but I'd rather hear the tried and true from those that love what they have. 

I'm taking any and all suggestions, thanks for reading!",6.283837209302328,6.340261104651166,5.799395348837212,84.1188604651163,65.86046511627907,8.275348837209302,31.153488372093026,7.554174236665415,1.9000260465116283,349,12,68,3,5,107,64,86,0.038,0.7829999999999999,0.18,0.9252,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,8,0,5,2,0,0,2,17,15,6,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,3,11,14,2,12,0,0,1,1,9,7,0,2,3,45,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078962509889093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21226253803412126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889757984794987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29963642927235856,0.0,0.0,0.2808890189136645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325014188075115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23994333403302295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825603982003895,0.0,0.19712714184717334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543860761429398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659256328830762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817260948582248,0.0,0.4246221990636183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998888883027413,0.0,0.0,0.24476235835292326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049720380386025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568073938622639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blueeyedmonzter,2020/01/17,"Four month sleep regression My daughters been sleeping through the night from 7:30-7:00 every night since she was about 2.5 months old. I thought I was one of the lucky ones after dealing with a seriously hellish, colicky, newborn for the first two months on my own. She turned four months old on the 11th and since about three days ago has been extremely fussy and cranky. every time I try to put her down in her pack and play she starts flailing around and wakes herself up after about 20 minuets to an hour.  The only way I can get her to sleep any amount of time is if I let her sleep on my chest, which is getting dangerous because I end up falling asleep with her laying on me and I’m terrified I’m going to drop her. I don’t have any help and I’m exhausted. I don’t know what to do.",3.605666666666668,4.911568900000006,3.696250000000002,92.31041666666668,72.5,6.833333333333335,25.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.9217083333333336,624,20,136,6,12,191,100,160,0.11800000000000001,0.833,0.049,-0.8834,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,6,2,0,7,0,13,8,7,0,0,13,23,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,9,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,4,0,7,5,0,22,2,26,17,2,32,1,0,0,0,14,9,0,2,18,85,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459759747576168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582763771884502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508528110942312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788069787995383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833739429723941,0.1332804655578304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114502386546189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21784543812291046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996423320117336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508536972832905,0.0,0.07347195554683901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866526591050135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731328959936164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104808729033049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219603372362518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127554880566953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426382451299199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713120951551706,0.0,0.17520492608882607,0.09832213114919122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996060790335826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388103614773327,0.0,0.5174874871616927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150399363676166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263269511829902,0.15076667575391148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877716211379111,0.14061789387855098,0.12628631780263516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261526254688584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gamakani,2020/01/17,"Toddler is hitting at daycare and I don't know how to stop it since this doesn't happen at home. I have 4 kids. My youngest is 18 months. My older three, all boys who wrestle constantly, never had this issue. 

My daughter is constantly hitting other kids at daycare. It used to just be hitting, which was bad enough, but she is escalating behaviors. This week she dug in a boy's nose and pulled him by his nostrils. Today she threw a toy at a kid. I'm not sure why this is happening and I suspect the daycare is getting tired of it. I'm a teacher too (kindergarten) and know how irritating it can be when parents aren't working on behaviors at home but she never exhibits these behaviors at home. How can I work on this if I have never seen her do this?",2.812195618950586,4.6651383907284805,4.1002649006622525,86.3539938869078,75.6887417218543,6.765359144167093,28.83392766174223,7.61054688173877,1.7701386653082019,591,26,118,8,13,194,91,151,0.11599999999999999,0.884,0.0,-0.9427,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,5,0,18,3,2,4,5,22,31,11,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,14,4,0,1,3,1,0,2,7,1,0,1,4,3,15,1,13,22,2,22,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,1,11,85,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684491849891495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542230893498138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693466531453067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562802219740984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898624269991355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4931981240965198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106309796076988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801440735681417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130818889434514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37921622991194814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198525630900486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557508224387985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702299740041635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446846508291756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883724208802907,0.15535265983901247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155207785813995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146614443845892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788913941709414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386340463657753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunfrost,2020/01/17,"Gloves and socks. Trouble in paradise My wife is crying. My daughter is having a “meltdown”. She’s 3.5. Winter brings lots of changes in clothes that are a challenge for kids. My daughter like to have her socks just right. Not folded/crumpled. And her gloves are also a challenge with them being too tight around the wrist if she has layers, or they don’t feel right depending if they are over/under the layers of sweaters and jackets she’s wearing. 

I’m the calm dad trying to help everyone but I’m not sure what to do at this point. I feel like it’s just a challenge with kids that are this age because clothing just doesn’t tend to fit very well and too many layers makes for less mobility and more frustration. My wife struggles with these issues with my daughter often, especially this time of year. 

Any recommended methods/approaches to help with these situations?",3.5333201010465523,6.292154515337424,3.4966510285095644,87.0710393359798,77.46625766871165,5.7984843016961385,26.152652472031754,7.048011613610866,1.2985210393359792,698,27,126,8,17,212,100,163,0.08199999999999999,0.7609999999999999,0.157,0.8297,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,3,3,9,11,1,1,7,0,13,2,2,2,1,28,20,10,0,2,9,6,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,11,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,3,14,8,19,19,3,13,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,6,6,84,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673479598526776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230636828780907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628889758789371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756509834511273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137305484107708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298661484202905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19996025937495665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116198448747522,0.1494978991728894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28052985024877863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184167445705274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204471169310384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790835978940875,0.0,0.0,0.139685023317089,0.21216036218722412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978216645900528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574198021922662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352209621883972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876766514216384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972283893160542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202324028075873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207619239976751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17266431831501886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815303434713695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347588447089759
parenting,Sousmatras,2020/01/17,"3 year old is scared to poop So my 3 year old had the flu for a week by the last day he had 39.4ºC (102.92ºF) so we rushed to the ER and the doctor prescribed a med for nasal congestion and for fever.   
That med is called Actifed and one of the possible after effects is drowsiness and constipation.   


After 4 days without pooping, and with alot of pain, he actually made his first stool. It was massive, the smell could kill and it was very hard.   
After that he became afraid of pooping because it would hurt. After 2 more days without doing it and being in constant pain because of all the gas, we used a glycerin based lubricant in his rectum so he could poop and he did.  


Since then we've been using it so the stool gets soft and easier poop, else he wont do it for himself.  
He still uses diapers, he does pee in the toilet.  


I need help.",2.4773214285714293,4.411895422619047,3.598238095238095,89.21342857142858,76.91666666666666,6.3847619047619055,23.7,7.3011,0.9126399999999996,653,21,135,8,15,211,102,168,0.124,0.845,0.031,-0.9468,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,5,6,1,2,13,0,16,13,7,5,1,25,22,14,1,4,2,0,2,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,8,12,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,6,1,2,7,4,7,0,21,10,3,21,0,1,0,0,15,3,0,1,17,84,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.13529745349563296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903332692756468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415719766233026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982591657392114,0.0,0.22139339252598744,0.0,0.0,0.268243533270217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190896240849926,0.12132911397805415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582004984488647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793130801470207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243625441632008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419862609744844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293077515951148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842226682884596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339007488912468,0.0,0.0,0.1130141239681166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311891865991939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080065275490937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028034600374977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909690663083456,0.0,0.09394939382914733,0.0,0.2950559648901829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563013286251016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388077633620017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468852015862932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072202149187968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592341173518707,0.0,0.11439658866372775,0.0,0.0,0.11121260121741956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672975330640404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848938151004256,0.0,0.0,0.17856558062964833
parenting,MustangGuy1965,2020/01/17,"Tip for parents - don't throw away those kitchen cabinet boxes! If you have youngsters and you are having a kitchen remodeled, or if you know anybody who is remodeling a kitchen, use the boxes to make a castle. Fasten them together with duck tape and make rooms, towers, secret hiding places, windows, and whatever you and your kids creativity can come up with. You won't regret it, and your kids will NEVER forget the castle they had when they were little.",9.600903614457833,8.559637493975906,8.709728915662652,69.57615963855423,59.60240963855422,11.191566265060242,36.41265060240964,10.125756701596842,3.6607855421686737,364,13,60,6,4,114,61,83,0.026000000000000002,0.8909999999999999,0.083,0.5705,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,7,3,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,10,3,0,3,1,19,15,9,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,2,3,8,3,0,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,10,0,6,11,0,9,0,1,0,0,15,5,0,3,2,44,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245776871274688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975892936107166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898596685548764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462487645634049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4612039075944753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664455040369978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38360030125145705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36093956232590013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983726308957337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Taelaf,2020/01/17,"Cranky, screaming nap wake ups My 2 year old daughter must be woken up from her daily (if she takes one) because she would never sleep at night if we let her nap as long as she wanted/could.  We have tried every kind of schedule change and tweak with no change in behavior. The only time she doesn't wake up a mess is when she wakes naturally. I get this, I'd be pissed if someone was constantly waking me up daily but if I don't wake her she wouldn't be going to bed until almost 11pm.

Has anyone gone through this and found a way to help curb the dull blown tantrums and screams of ""No wake up"" for 30 minutes to an hour? I'm at my wits end with the cycle of crappy night time sleep due to long naps, and/or a screaming crying toddler every afternoon so that she actually sleeps at night.

For some extra context she gets about 11 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period unless something goes off the rails (a bad night, falling asleep on a long car trip, etc).",4.185384615384617,4.841522205128207,4.6620512820512845,88.3546153846154,70.53846153846155,7.230769230769233,24.743589743589745,7.010146845296331,0.8090512820512821,750,19,160,6,13,238,128,195,0.18,0.7959999999999999,0.024,-0.9854,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,3,9,2,0,11,0,13,12,12,0,2,21,21,14,0,7,6,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,3,7,0,1,1,3,0,5,6,8,0,1,4,3,18,1,31,10,3,41,0,1,0,0,15,12,1,6,23,93,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.11273064801196725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115676379706966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077412091712227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645419673445822,0.0704197898328446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444092341682529,0.0,0.0,0.12483585040209373,0.0,0.0922331498494462,0.0,0.12689306143636492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231624303797067,0.0,0.1288350985868493,0.0,0.0,0.1946608054558384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266614836663374,0.0,0.0,0.12070864142576125,0.0,0.06565255700738544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774304780564425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412911610018852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029608131487493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812680873394757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30669412843425564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909598116867991,0.0,0.0,0.4336299776425205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212185837534466,0.0,0.07827919722844702,0.0878580034016479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624128553354309,0.0,0.097879540501252,0.08893277568431555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685650307781723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472103336677174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843035233646048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169422977849527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206194213613435,0.0,0.0,0.07439095525054792
parenting,kissmylovelybutt,2020/01/17,"16 year old hanging with 10/12 year olds Ok, I need some input here please.
I have an 11 year old boy with ADHD.

My ( now separared neighbor) has two sons, INE of them is 16. 
About 100 meters away ftom my house is a small yard, the local kids will hang out, specially now during summer.

They plan soccer, chat , etc.
My 16 year old is a fucking pain in the ass, always lying, misbehaving and acting innapropiate.
( I know him since he was 5). 

His parents ALWAYS enabled him, never corrected him, and he has never been seen with friends his age.
He would traspass my property to climb into my roof and throw small rocks to my patio and when confronted will look you right in the eye and deny it 
( he admitted to my son later, laughing his ass about it), hide behing the wall separating houses with a water gun and try to splash you when you are doing tour laundry,
 when younger he would steal some toy from my kid and try to stomp him ( he was around 6, my kid around 1) etc etc.

His parents got upset and deny if someone EVER said anything about their "" precious kid"".
Now this grown up asshole took the idea of hanging out with the 10/12 year old neighbor, which I HATE he does that.

If you say something his mother shruggs off and doesn't do anything.

Telling my kid to not go to them means my kid being upset because he feels left apart while the rest  of them play, and him being ADHD, doesn't help.

I offered him to take him play soccer in another para, but he refuses, he wants to be with his friends.

But this 16 year old has nothing to do with them, and I really want him out.",5.74599499821365,5.628027459807075,5.831934619506973,84.02410057163274,67.0064308681672,8.45451947123973,28.85334047874241,7.793537801064563,1.6437158270811008,1224,36,249,12,18,387,172,311,0.08900000000000001,0.848,0.063,-0.6545,2,0,1,1,0,0,47.0,0,4,6,3,13,15,3,2,11,1,23,6,3,0,4,46,39,19,0,7,5,5,1,0,4,4,1,2,4,7,6,24,1,1,5,8,0,9,5,7,0,1,7,6,41,8,36,25,6,54,0,0,3,3,58,20,3,4,25,151,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537571680547155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911716108752224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395870878281327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747464425726473,0.15953498552969272,0.0,0.0,0.08418689503329597,0.0,0.0,0.05462240740616185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784139839687104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997999536747399,0.0,0.08105289861633888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045307006116615985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845728025678208,0.08283842577381846,0.0,0.0,0.050924615433047986,0.0,0.07166534486264535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846643687242628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600603768925226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678439650130767,0.0,0.1011531958157738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049244592655590017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735615009336812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524567523202864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976061691608594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644100993572251,0.13821787861620408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597846309699674,0.0,0.5641525670010296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534609189083866,0.0,0.19899161018739112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983594381072342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740329013966838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652222396112672,0.08523492285211076,0.07125753303935335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412222414102979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592206893372004,0.06898234596723819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673718468665222,0.0,0.07831876407732087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955450865945356,0.1216718955992348,0.0,0.08753111470478019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570276133435272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273057146731261,0.0,0.0,0.346216290165674
parenting,mrs-sukgil,2020/01/17,"My kid stood up to his bully today I’m so proud of my 7yo for standing up to his bully today. He has had all kinds of trouble with the same kid at school since he started Kindergarten.  When it comes up, we talk about it as a family and try to give him tools he can use to handle these difficult situations.

Today he owned it! During after school, the teachers told the kids they weren’t allowed to play Minecraft. The other kid decides to pick up the game anyways, looks at my son and says, “my parents say I can play this so I don’t have to listen to the teacher.” My son straightened up and responded, “NO, the teacher said you can’t!”

Sure, it’s small, but he’s come a long way from getting pushed around and manipulated by this kid - and I couldn’t be more proud.",3.685716783216783,4.614650916666669,4.463986013986016,88.31737762237762,71.88461538461539,6.9547785547785566,25.720279720279716,6.980632752743323,0.929853846153846,597,18,128,5,11,192,99,156,0.086,0.8320000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.3506,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,1,2,7,8,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,4,2,20,22,10,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,8,10,0,0,1,3,0,3,5,2,0,0,5,5,14,6,25,15,4,21,0,0,1,0,28,9,0,0,7,81,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573710391572406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045593943353509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666517728382212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235987784082736,0.1695827942964518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18408841726224429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644410045052262,0.14845007274155106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19629247073792366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815757794051228,0.2811639587379988,0.0,0.3578201396144704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462336477355147,0.19870731820552506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512528471788772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661237991025238,0.0,0.0,0.1420884895016253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5026982633757301,0.16892017836511838,0.0,0.12002152746062775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268053942612908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031916457711333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cfb1993,2020/01/17,"I just want to run away I’m so tired. I hate my job, I have to work with people all day and I am exhausted by the time I get home. My husband is great but not very understanding about how my stressful job impacts my well being. I love my baby who it only 9 months. But sometimes I just want to run away for like months. I want to move to another city and just take a break. But that’s unrealistic. I’m dealing with so many transitions being married, being a mom and working full time for the first time. I would just run away if I didn’t have my baby, then mom guilt it annoying. Ugh signed a burnt out mom",0.8244050480769225,2.8302521015625004,2.723437500000003,93.07396634615385,82.671875,5.813461538461539,20.002403846153847,7.010146845296331,0.23651129807692284,471,13,108,6,13,157,77,128,0.155,0.71,0.135,-0.5661,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,3,9,10,2,2,5,0,9,3,0,1,1,23,19,11,0,5,9,4,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,6,1,1,1,0,16,4,15,14,2,18,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,9,69,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351612788859802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857708567091077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826736625815433,0.14110302630578014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641830650229525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150693238699674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089545144190422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512702156624465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728794230412678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716371383660766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686590430247143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352707500153895,0.0,0.0,0.13876082894849628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48088806287248,0.21849056516030926,0.14546709389376267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409290063565213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488577917857162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353641559957329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677975176693293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290633743527414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394233182548635,0.15730754509788605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248252476865045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292893588707215,0.2421816648561765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230591367116162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19928042457144488,0.0,0.0,0.0972258104898506,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Loopsxx,2020/01/18,"Overestimating my 2 years old understanding?! Help! Is this a common issue? In a nutshell, I feel my husband continually underestimates our daughters abilities/skills/understanding and he believes I overestimate them, placing her at unnecessary risk. Is this a common issue amongst 2 parent families? 

She’s 2 years and 3 months and at the age where she wants to do everything by herself/be like mummy and daddy in daily activities. She doesn’t talk, although words are increasing every day.",6.3995481927710856,9.613199722891572,7.506852409638554,59.72124246987954,69.8433734939759,9.933132530120485,34.471385542168676,10.125756701596842,4.615724096385542,399,20,55,12,8,134,64,83,0.055999999999999994,0.861,0.084,0.4809,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,8,5,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,10,1,6,8,1,16,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,10,33,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491823027724625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263603849325515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634485301941356,0.0,0.19877289650283,0.0,0.2084989325510539,0.0,0.11182995078545396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824526199676158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616870182566757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805225197361698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653539458440504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320801983723631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24558256968796915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231075066752724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776767618091616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460490524393321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045150861968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28485182910191953
parenting,Samihami13,2020/01/18,"Question regarding new baby joining the family My beautiful, wonderful niece is expecting her first baby in a few months. I promise I will not be a justno! I won't baby grab, touch DN's pregnant belly, go to the hospital uninvited...none of that nonsense. 

I have a question, though. I'm in my mid-fifties and things have changed a lot since I was niece's age. Back in the olden days, there was no such thing as finding out the gender until the baby arrived.  So, there was no such thing as a gender reveal party. DN is having one when she gets a little further along. 

Tell me, please. Is that the same as the baby shower? Or is that a separate event? Do we bring gifts to the gender reveal? I am just not sure of the etiquette/protocol around this sort of event and I want to be appropriate.",1.7868891402714908,4.230505660256412,3.570874811463049,85.80549773755658,82.14102564102564,6.234690799396683,22.63800904977376,7.510576382923642,1.1721904977375572,617,21,118,10,17,206,99,156,0.06,0.8270000000000001,0.113,0.8389,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,10,2,0,0,16,0,16,0,0,0,1,22,22,10,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,0,6,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,3,2,13,2,16,15,3,20,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,6,11,89,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17897071512928334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458950320620318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267662457752576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12965597384021765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952525904476147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374947657188412,0.17100690257640475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503656501823128,0.0,0.11425725600532972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014977009663256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091939880080922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047044452367115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19416838856185864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362318039892374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22068462186295584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4504278925567008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630468128915973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18948045931205734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572026810822552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40069170829779305,0.0,0.19752352978696386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858025200138997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180223401772847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kdela1212,2020/01/18,"Feeling Lost So this isn’t a depression post, I just don’t know how to word it. My boys are 6 and 4 (5 years old in May) and for the past 6 years it’s been all about them. My entire existence was feeding them, cleaning up after them, changing diapers, etc. On the weekends (I work M-F 8-5) it would be watching over them every minute of the day. Now that they’re getting a little older, especially the 6 year old, they’ve started to become more independent and they don’t need me as much. I’m having mom guilt every time I go do something relaxing (crochet, knitting, laying down) because I feel like I should be watching over them, but their not babies anymore. Did anybody ever go through this phase where you don’t really know what you should be doing. You want to give them independence, but you’re kind of lost on what you should be doing.",6.380841551610782,5.621065769230771,6.814990138067063,79.647744904668,65.8639053254438,9.404602235371467,32.38724523339908,8.515128840125781,2.372336752136752,661,23,133,8,9,216,113,169,0.057999999999999996,0.9,0.042,-0.5456,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,4,8,3,7,7,0,1,6,0,21,1,0,3,2,24,35,8,0,6,4,1,2,1,0,5,0,0,1,1,8,3,1,0,4,2,0,2,5,4,0,0,5,4,20,3,17,21,4,26,0,3,2,0,15,9,0,1,15,88,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146036883340312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924537323305932,0.1798070641925436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722277624245404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499676823362164,0.0,0.1402250591566727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157236020045864,0.0,0.14726786234420766,0.2743431120310153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646397859647912,0.1163090452909929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850597126119773,0.15617889590165612,0.18505344987166292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953798806995032,0.1789484649211077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953906584506852,0.16317495277187433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554452039119824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067708570822844,0.0,0.0,0.11968156084216923,0.12071900786101808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416762139151561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541729188018594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592368903146042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429805688268352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533645068229407,0.0,0.0,0.115235327367341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493381953117233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602753245922856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852512111344847,0.0,0.0,0.11565311533678835,0.0,0.0,0.3145262774794997
parenting,everydaybeme,2020/01/18,"Sometimes I feel like I’m not cut out for this. I have a 4 year old daughter. She is sweet, smart and beautiful. And I love her to pieces. But sometimes I don’t love being a parent and feel I’m not worthy of it. 

My daughter is a non stop talker. On the weekends, when we’re together all day, I start getting agitated after the millionth time she’s called my name, even when her dad is right there and is equally suited to help her with whatever she needs

She always wants to play barbies with me, which is like the equivalent of torture in my mind. I feel terrible, so I usually play for 5 minutes before getting out of it

I can tell she’s catching on, because she keeps asking why I ignore her after she calls my name 5 times in a row for something that’s not even urgent. 

Then when she goes to sleep I look at her sleeping peacefully and feel an overwhelming sense of love and also of guilt for not being as perfect as I should

Tell me I’m not alone here.",5.527743424088607,5.0218747969543145,6.249367789570838,82.15574988463314,67.52791878172589,9.194093216428245,31.10706045223812,8.575989854853784,2.207369543147208,753,26,157,10,11,248,113,197,0.111,0.693,0.195,0.9575,1,1,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,9,16,2,2,8,0,11,5,2,0,2,31,29,15,0,3,6,4,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,3,4,3,0,1,6,6,0,0,0,6,30,10,26,26,3,24,0,1,1,3,29,8,0,0,17,105,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921308032193398,0.0,0.11521273433100965,0.11987778888804235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468601060935748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782374041776783,0.0,0.1225929665980473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942231748351793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291323733953644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903137646809812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913845019465792,0.1029236433812108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054126710575622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965670903221152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805604382162347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077065850606624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098252279506574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900864245991845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454696395803466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068260863403648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117723950387008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599726957149789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303500069815973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883481097374445,0.0,0.0,0.11091213172987972,0.2849778459802105,0.0,0.10197349405800488,0.0,0.0,0.12044897874513436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25184707642128223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680167619258977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867276111040887,0.0,0.08497622416970071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000077467457047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277636242400003
parenting,Vlad_implacer,2020/01/18,"What do you think about the rule ""Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them""? So my cousin with her husband and her 4 year old daughter just left our house. The girl behaved terribly and what's worse, her parents didn't even try to discipline her. We were trying to have a conversation and whenever the girl would interrupt me or my hubby, her parents would just cease paying any attention to us and focus on her and later be embarrassed and apologetic that she's misbehaving but ""well, we are NVC parents, what can we do"". 

I don't want to them to visit again, not until it's possible for us to have a conversation. I don't like their kid and it's not really in my nature to falsely smile and not say anything - but of course I don't want to hurt their feelings. 

I have a 4 month old and I'm currently reading 12 rules for life by Peterson. There is some stuff I disagree with, but the rule no. 5 (in the title) seems very legit. 
The idea is 1) why would you let someone you love behave in a way that makes everyone hate them? And 2) if you don't stop the bad behaviour and it continues, maybe even to maturity, well, then someone else will. Someone who doesn't love your child and doesn't care for their feelings and isn't scared the kid won't like them afterwards like many modern parents are. 

What do you think?",3.5662656641604014,5.1617150751879715,4.3883458646616536,86.16104010025066,73.06015037593986,7.923809523809522,26.576441102756892,8.563005593585519,1.7737689223057649,1054,37,216,19,21,339,143,266,0.131,0.762,0.107,0.2771,5,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,6,8,7,0,10,14,1,2,12,0,30,3,0,2,0,46,44,21,0,6,11,7,2,3,0,5,1,1,0,6,12,18,0,2,7,1,1,1,14,6,2,0,2,3,37,8,22,34,1,20,0,1,0,2,48,5,0,4,16,147,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188008498247045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739653017594574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825565016471705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077688847700612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829935240881039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962860052743795,0.0,0.0,0.10100152656499224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689087647019588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043575352468599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196438959955384,0.11315476086900834,0.1193231983887815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484409482342248,0.21617220732031173,0.07465951409698557,0.15492003488667394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907979756231796,0.0,0.1411120453373395,0.10716389608851966,0.10619053717101616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436927192850653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22183015946230364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469472371853435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916163148536638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057292810923032,0.0,0.06771456029900656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405742085534787,0.10582481729713472,0.0,0.0,0.09622592649004283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686795218007038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837049892494157,0.0,0.0,0.12100198648580585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545745161521847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352764260032036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25428979967084403,0.0,0.0,0.08721412838547653,0.12468999579521099,0.08390027743150552,0.0,0.0,0.19007520550632287,0.0,0.09537842029303864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771802011219722,0.2252601846949985,0.0,0.0,0.06806777044742092
parenting,Krys2248,2020/01/18,"Parents don’t make sense I’ve been trying to play gta v for a long time now. I’ve also seen all the Game of Thrones. I’m 16 and my parents let me start watching game of thrones at 8 or 9, yet at 16 they won’t let me play gta v.

I’ve seen and heard just about everything under the sun, as well as done a lot. 
Main point is, parents don’t make sense to me.
Just felt like complaining a little bit about the logic of parents.",2.8382269503546063,2.827573106382978,4.07744680851064,93.73333333333336,73.25531914893618,7.117730496453903,25.241134751773053,6.42735559955562,0.5454241134751774,328,9,82,2,6,108,60,94,0.02,0.873,0.107,0.765,4,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,2,1,11,16,6,0,0,3,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,6,5,5,4,13,7,4,10,0,0,3,0,9,5,0,2,6,44,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331844274177648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18182189066695328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704313761023791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967816638597475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599074580483972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34060313138416104,0.0,0.08136452823212773,0.16691990169264026,0.0,0.147385370068868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158895664007687,0.0,0.0,0.2223375757398091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7397054502695292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574370261367351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788003727855978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711259941716677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307180769408386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974221477512395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Witcher420,2020/01/18,"What should I do? Hello, I am Vinnie. I came here asking for some advice and tips. My story is complicated but I will try my best to keep it simple for you guys.
Last year in June I started a relationship at work with a new girl, in Netherlands. everything was ok for a few months and then we broke up in July and after a few weeks we got back together. After some time I found out she slept with her ex while during our breakup (she says it is not true but even her sister called me and told me that it happened). In September she drops the bomb on me and tells me she is pregnant. I was really supportive and close to her but we fight and she went to Poland (her home country). For a while we didn't have any contact and in November we started to speak and talk about the pregnancy and all of that. Last week I went to Poland, spoke with her family, but she was really cold to me and during one conversation she did a mistake and admitted she still has contact with the ex. But back to the point, my question is : What can I do in this situation? I want a DNA test to determine if the baby is mine or not, she already threatened me that her lawyer will call me but from what I know if she wants child support she needs to ask herself for a paternity test. Can someone explain to me the laws regarding paternity testing in Poland and how the procedure works? You can also PM me, any information is welcome. Thanks for reading, and never forget to use a condom so you don't fuck up like me :D have a nice weekend everyone",4.156988795518206,5.015568415032682,5.209197012138191,83.66852941176474,70.73202614379085,8.573669467787116,27.31652661064425,8.841846274778883,1.8921271708683485,1189,39,248,21,21,392,166,306,0.048,0.7979999999999999,0.154,0.9892,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,6,3,0,3,9,13,2,0,17,1,24,3,1,2,3,58,49,29,0,7,11,3,0,1,0,3,0,3,1,3,10,26,0,1,6,2,0,3,5,4,0,1,13,4,52,9,38,33,6,39,0,1,0,2,54,14,1,6,22,185,62,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223581330099806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817728367582935,0.10013396814193798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030026970237208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341172575034039,0.0,0.0,0.19256440011496767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314048634054471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25571595177075873,0.1432119986269317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270297793118372,0.0,0.0,0.11964779409042313,0.11253469369526106,0.0,0.11804106054311933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729120573396553,0.0,0.1157587618262401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014545194039992,0.0,0.0,0.12398201362264755,0.11072674419767213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560032493338635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129637610697517,0.0,0.0,0.06881459925389276,0.20413301391518907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061173466266619674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099944997056705,0.0,0.0,0.09284494451456583,0.09657312015167603,0.1209329174660415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484856690682054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118368149078625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026886548942238,0.0,0.12524835696735914,0.0,0.16043119432191325,0.0,0.0,0.13443348288416526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995755739969045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074631298059476,0.0,0.0,0.10609381591883874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725489573035952,0.0,0.09999643920744007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841837982809852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064264967660186,0.10944296771290724,0.11528066286351067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301356566047218,0.0,0.0,0.11964779409042313,0.0,0.08501240729800592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814510095642013,0.0,0.0,0.1477094797417855,0.0,0.20087899348106775,0.0,0.0,0.2321501403117232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231525404896606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063401474874363
parenting,h2throwuaway,2020/01/18,"My 29 year old Son is still a loner and is mentally ill  

I  have a 29 year old Son, let's call him Steve. Steve was a fairly normal  kid growing up, maybe slightly shy but nothing abnormal I didn't think  he would grow out of. His Mother and I divorced and to be honest overall  the stability of his Childhood suffered quite badly, and then when he  was 15 his Mother died. But I felt like he would bounce back or at least  attain some sense of normalcy, but he's now 29. His whole life he has  lived in isolation, with a seeming misanthropic outlook on life and  humanity.

It's worrying to me  because it seems to be consistent and unchanging. I always thought he  was just going to be a late bloomer or one day find his feet. As far as I  know he's still a virgin and seems to have an entirely pessimistic  outlook on love. He has violent thought processes, occasionally  threatening to kill himself/others/me but always retracting it and  apologizing, saying he lost control.

Steven has been in therapy for about a year, which in retrospect may be something that should have started much earlier. He occasionally makes  attempts to re-integrate into socializing and normality but it seems to stress him out. He has also struggled with addictions, and can't work  due to his mental health issues. He tries and has made sometimes  impressive amounts of effort to fix things (he went to the gym at 6am for months on end, etc), but it always seems that he gets sucked back into negativity. It's like he lives in a mental prison.

I  feel powerless about this situation. I feel like I failed him. I really  never imagined he was going to grow up to be a shell of a person but  that's honestly sometimes how he is. I wish I knew what to do. I feel a  mixture of pity, regret and fear. Somewhere inside is the person he was,  but his life trajectory has made him into an eerie, hostile and  unpredictable Man. Hopefully you can help with anything at all, really.",4.2768018018018035,6.193663256756757,5.4210810810810806,78.16315315315315,71.83783783783784,8.717117117117118,29.09009009009009,9.2995712137729,2.7074576576576583,1535,62,281,35,30,508,201,370,0.22,0.687,0.094,-0.9952,1,1,1,0,1,0,41.0,0,1,0,8,11,21,4,3,16,0,33,9,1,5,2,65,60,29,2,8,11,4,4,3,0,4,6,1,0,5,13,21,0,1,16,1,0,6,4,13,0,1,15,5,27,8,46,35,7,44,0,5,0,2,46,18,1,10,23,177,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729253537546438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713708905044286,0.22278226259417955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344277632275455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725105446910082,0.07451761826883065,0.0544042166644318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113128907563407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009823515719997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755700988330089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262442140484373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904645935100718,0.0,0.09953413144430064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042782342094468,0.13537807802153295,0.06375816115059545,0.08569123207936982,0.0,0.08157025184302566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046627937238839734,0.0,0.1014423912505868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486551635222316,0.0,0.0,0.059820464028826875,0.0,0.0,0.08864252865664297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315080730473238,0.0,0.0,0.09873871644279288,0.0,0.049047883746042666,0.0,0.10067463993862212,0.0,0.0,0.09126122800841052,0.1891136429644608,0.13080490597863478,0.0,0.15761368603943415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742377531569957,0.0,0.08054901123847688,0.1688955677913532,0.05957314635355562,0.0,0.08966072877944023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698203207840398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123620059966472,0.0,0.06560690291833,0.0,0.06883288170749707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748864594518662,0.08563501970944243,0.0,0.18729968123824733,0.0,0.060476158995122514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585428745577035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949252989415874,0.0,0.0,0.11434798216738655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097289282069548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406236135837579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031750343101556,0.0,0.09097620081265974,0.0,0.06870679404729163,0.1765353696337647,0.0,0.06316957167128877,0.0,0.14254573240102958,0.0,0.10223227569245824,0.09330046860754157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206186094852172,0.0,0.059291821609582886,0.057185951563964714,0.0,0.14170449031610952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059293689613327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273297539397334,0.0,0.09964122351649084,0.10262978479224967,0.0,0.0,0.06497296709330233,0.09063478364156696,0.0,0.1267971884175098,0.0,0.0,0.17241665973151798
parenting,mkecupcake,2020/01/18,"Help! 13 month old with diaper changing drama. First time mom here, to a 13 month old little lady.  She goes to traditional daycare two days per week and her dad watches her the other three weekdays.  She is a daddy's girl through and through.

For the last 3 weeks or so, I cannot change this child's diaper to save my life. She rolls, she screams, she stands up to hug me. 95% of the time I end up diapering a standing baby. 

I've tried to distract with toys. No dice. She starts squirming and rolling before she even gets on the changing table. 

And did I mention that her dad has no issues during diaper changes whatsoever?!

Any advice? She's not walking quite yet. Maybe that'll make this better...?",1.4792647058823505,4.106658397058826,2.5402941176470613,91.09882352941177,86.35294117647058,4.964705882352941,21.23529411764705,6.522977012572876,0.4361294117647061,546,18,108,6,17,173,95,136,0.065,0.86,0.075,0.5145,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,7,0,5,2,0,1,0,10,8,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,5,6,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,0,3,1,2,16,3,14,6,0,21,0,0,1,1,18,4,0,1,14,61,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743532716077776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026015817726226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838527442099484,0.0,0.0,0.13343850801083368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6384317402463797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730322875936843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363230182464206,0.0,0.0,0.09965288214605283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283359591385181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882704214356065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112972004088228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574764625658905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229849497967028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656893689808856,0.0,0.15121846152476734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007116161751334,0.0,0.15157629662914004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670540152774272,0.2408572765316111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31664021058483754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047633636097774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679156709886796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595526632379352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024356270758432,0.0,0.14738497463646172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24204897046927956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poetloretta,2020/01/18,Please Help My 13 year old daughter has a non-sexual type of crush on an animal. She often talks about him and even daydreams about their future life together. How do I handle this?,3.7816190476190457,5.8545304000000025,4.46857142857143,83.80476190476192,73.57142857142857,8.095238095238095,20.238095238095237,8.841846274778883,1.3233809523809528,144,3,27,3,3,46,34,35,0.045,0.815,0.14,0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,3,18,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030158312903656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075064717289129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240455700676779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4814060294297335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5035959702304093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687450792932295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29543534731845944
parenting,washyourhands47,2020/01/18,"My kids father came home from Europe. I no longer exist to my 12 year old son and he now wants to live with his dad My kids father was finally able to come home from Spain 1 year ago after being gone 4 years, no more video chatting and calling everyday. At first I was super happy to have him back even though he's my ex, I still love him but not in that way and I know my kids missed him. I have 3 kids, 2 girls aged 9 & 14 and 1 boy aged 12. 

When their father returned home my son was the most excited, the girls were really excited as well but like they could still get to sleep that night. The moment he came back my son stopped paying any attention to me, I didn't exist. His relationship with his sisters became bad, he never really liked his sisters but they got along well enough. Sometimes they would get into a big fight and he would say to them “I'm running away!” I guess now that dad's back he sees a way out. 

I'm aware that a father son relationship is different and they have way more in common with each other but I'm still supposed to a relationship with my son. My ex has a good relationship with his daughters as well but he's way closer with my son. It wasn't so bad at first but it kept getting worse, every month I was less important to him. He started sleeping over at his place more and more, 3 days ago he asked to just move in with his father. I'm heartbroken. And his dad is all for this. I know his dad can take great care of him and I completely trust his parenting but I'm not okay with my son just moving out, but I also feel like if he's unhappy here I shouldn't make him stay. I have zero idea what to do. I've talked to my ex and he says he understands what I'm going through but is still okay with our son living with him.",1.810379043126684,3.4232453638814064,3.2124250336927247,92.68082083894882,77.8409703504043,6.578200808625338,19.680003369272235,7.413659706084162,0.27466098382749315,1374,30,315,18,32,449,178,371,0.107,0.765,0.128,0.8586,2,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,0,6,3,20,21,1,0,8,2,22,3,2,1,2,60,52,26,0,6,14,24,1,3,0,3,0,2,3,7,10,28,0,2,6,2,1,8,8,4,3,3,12,4,50,17,42,35,9,59,0,1,1,1,79,14,0,3,35,189,60,1,0.08482043464333325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037639507828188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783087093949461,0.0,0.09190290549844828,0.0,0.05768080417410669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929565647449267,0.0,0.07969159046537998,0.19566503576325928,0.1416430399505226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661114726396113,0.19402396162071195,0.08648008610451317,0.0,0.0,0.07306529393067429,0.08893261194723373,0.0,0.0,0.0677222151611184,0.0,0.0,0.054702163325468726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861930109303212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876421829179509,0.0,0.05602309712135036,0.0,0.07146487446235716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04288776032457115,0.06059573545712148,0.0,0.09291664016168058,0.0,0.14429643675416026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294552880041496,0.0,0.0482054076954897,0.07114335630056362,0.06783865007844038,0.09351482863671408,0.0934392714999884,0.0,0.0,0.09029292990740156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552454353483358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957519463335342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323018526794802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243169397632632,0.0,0.1497959955449273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655375387647713,0.0,0.05661829876589414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677028616981594,0.18030139712983184,0.0,0.0,0.06541874821086925,0.0,0.0,0.079598232018946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890047778252935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418305484973803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861930109303212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086762847677562,0.0,0.0,0.3642616145816545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490522814268255,0.0,0.0,0.06759090467204312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16976338189365867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388957871515447,0.0,0.060036340208932476,0.09040729761185476,0.2709508346927521,0.07091368136947454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377441081845042,0.06817545242535142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333564638020574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883010638170007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050029289974321364,0.2693060518144961,0.0,0.0,0.22879127180714315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643926931401619,0.12050800630692995,0.0,0.0,0.16386473688935774
parenting,_flippantshecreature,2020/01/18,"Encouraging artistic skills This is complicated. My daughter enjoys art. She says she wants to be an artist when she grows up. She likes cutting and pasting things. Nothing too complicated. She is especially fond of colored tape. Details? Not so much. But she thinks she is a very talented artist and expects praise for every little drawing or creation that she makes. She's 7. At what point do I stop saying, wow--that's great! If I don't say that I love it she will hound me until I tell her I do and answer that she did a good job. I have a a hard time lying to her or saying ""good effort"" for these drawings because most of the time she puts in zero effort. She'll take a sheet of printer paper fold it in half, write her name on the front and inside maybe a rainbow in pencil or something fast and quick like a flower and then call it a card. What is the developmentally appropriate response to encourage her to put in more effort? Like to at least try to make the letters the same size? To not draw in ball point pen? At what point are these white lies actually giving her false confidence in her efforts?",2.7503072196620586,5.072083539170507,3.7201843317972334,86.79551459293396,77.66359447004609,5.976651305683564,23.23655913978495,7.07126945348624,0.8260973886328729,876,28,172,10,21,281,136,217,0.061,0.741,0.19699999999999998,0.9867,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,6,4,14,1,0,14,0,13,1,0,2,0,24,20,15,0,3,7,1,1,3,0,2,0,4,0,0,13,6,0,1,2,5,0,4,3,1,0,2,1,7,27,13,24,16,5,28,1,0,2,1,34,15,0,5,12,115,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.1416357167567103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847600526320963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820418170215535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228672145240108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923152652515086,0.0,0.2434731148852282,0.0,0.16001737758862755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001694394845772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402906821135594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21272423829209455,0.14546842346358616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309945290865855,0.0,0.1937641724660312,0.0,0.1458126519920883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066946101569363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392657576757487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855256609387875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116126792791429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29181160359201114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616846578257518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173587351218454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134355046493465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912722746969487,0.0,0.1268587693542674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642457593226207,0.09299986033734826,0.0,0.0,0.16926461844769822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985405421201575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975571166557555,0.08560734057923437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nmmb,2020/01/18,"Do your kids do more or less chores than you did as a kid? For years we had our family responsibility (chore) chart hanging in out kitchen. When we would have parties or friends over I would always get comments about it like ""your kids do all that?"" or ""how do you get your kids to do that stuff?"" from other parents. This was funny to my husband and I because while our kids have a decent share of responsibility in our household - our kids do less chores than either of us did as kids. After a while I started asking our friends about their own responsibilities as kids and how it compares to their own kids. 

I wanted to pose the question to this sub. Do your kids do more or less chores than you did as a kid and why?

(I will update with the general trend I saw in our friends answers in a little bit).",3.768396226415096,5.152775981132077,4.346053459119498,87.5032311320755,72.20754716981132,6.557861635220128,25.199685534591197,6.816661863887847,0.7634817610062892,627,19,133,5,12,199,83,159,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.9615,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,9,7,2,0,5,5,0,0,7,0,18,1,0,2,1,21,24,16,0,3,5,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,11,8,7,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,25,5,26,15,10,15,0,0,1,0,38,7,0,5,8,105,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128442158369415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036780604248213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281089124709114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23785646854739256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20538745856069066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5049750367230368,0.0,0.2276550709258673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643976519729376,0.21836192661539344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24191768868008398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24406308843302876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420876593276628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494078259027649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620695243403898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285047529643512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196592842268068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095357057565071,0.0,0.0,0.14030046228481688
parenting,kr87ol,2020/01/18,"Advice on how to get kids to fall asleep by themselves Our 3 yo daughter wants us to sit with her while she falls asleep, and preferrably sing to her the whole time.
This has worked for us for a while, but she’s taking longer to fall asleep than she used to and it’s starting to wear us down a bit.

Does anyone have any tips on how to get them to fall asleep alone in their own bed?",4.0562962962962965,4.077455864197535,3.5477530864197533,98.48088888888893,70.60493827160494,6.48,21.138271604938268,3.1291,-0.5132735802469144,299,4,74,0,5,88,55,81,0.032,0.968,0.0,-0.3612,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,5,3,0,8,8,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,0,18,8,3,13,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,4,45,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023231416506542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443741208396816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079850984375158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477151085959464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260408161546675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118751706467248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163461786349466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465483596999645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567296846793854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073029903405025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7471532247948605,0.17882143214660964,0.0,0.0,0.12212120787469034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311596782834628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507320930069077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2lipluvr,2020/01/18,"I am exhausted I am a 20 year old mom to a 1 year old, my boyfriend (her dad) doesn’t do anything all day. he stays home and plays video games, doesn’t even leave the house to get food, he orders all groceries from shipt. i take our daughter to work with me at a daycare, while he does nothing all day. he NEVER watches her, and if he does it’s while she’s napping so i can run a quick errand. 
i am so exhausted, our daughter has been waking up at 3am-4am every morning lately. i nap every time she naps, i go to bed right after she does. but i am so so tired, physically and emotionally. 
sometimes i feel like i wasn’t built to be a momma. i know i’m not a bad mom, but it is so so so hard, every day all the time and i just need a break.",2.3878091473743623,2.77544372670808,4.116939582156974,91.61511575381144,74.46583850931677,6.848334274421233,24.574251835121398,6.574015621080383,0.5593428571428576,564,16,137,4,11,191,94,161,0.091,0.852,0.057,-0.6155,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,9,0,13,5,1,0,5,18,20,16,0,2,5,6,2,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,5,1,0,2,6,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,3,21,2,11,17,4,24,0,0,1,0,19,4,0,1,16,81,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727939498692992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899578997434715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757351356124673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374152911967258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031250728572927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413117229188728,0.0,0.3602303026694265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206090637189796,0.10181421427153044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723321914946021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445928030862548,0.0,0.08099572801831982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766729021334575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429562286869444,0.0,0.0,0.1644455495149712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832364759531753,0.0,0.160765448335461,0.15090498593127874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962663542329246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33382851028305977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567459222331077,0.10991794055259643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674896026643762,0.0,0.2990953555504505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121708788306139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095301390469986,0.0,0.0,0.1519042206736946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715509068629048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620568450509146,0.16380239235706898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037541151456624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835526247003166
parenting,locusofself,2020/01/18,"1 year old baby girl sleeps well at night but won't nap ​

Greetings parents,

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We did sleep training around 5 months and our daughter has slept beautifully through the night usually from 7pm-6am with only minor issues with teething.  My wife is beside herself because now that she is 1 years old she just won't nap for about a month/ She has been averaging 1 nap for 30-40 mins if we are lucky.  We have her in her own safe crib, completely dark room, 68-70 degrees F at all times,  the house is quiet, etc.  

She either cries or mostly just stands up in her crib and crawls around babbling to herself etc.  My wife is still breastfeeding and sometimes she goes in, feeds her a bit and puts her back down if its been more than 30 mins of wakefulness.

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I'm not terribly concerned about it because she seems great otherwise but she is definitely more fussy at the end of the day and this makes trying to do anything like go somewhere in the car or getting food etc less fun. But all the websites we are reading talk about how important it is for a baby this age to have 90-180 mins minimum of napping in the day. 

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Just wondering what people's real world experience is with this and if you have any tips. Thanks!",7.311763759253296,6.994917974895397,6.638577405857742,80.21227228838106,63.811715481171554,9.529578371419372,34.28419697457354,8.841846274778883,2.7140122948181524,992,38,190,13,13,305,150,239,0.025,0.8170000000000001,0.158,0.9885,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,5,1,0,0,13,8,0,0,10,0,20,7,5,2,2,38,28,15,0,3,13,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,8,15,2,1,2,5,0,3,3,1,1,0,4,1,22,7,30,22,12,38,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,9,21,124,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852332741220958,0.43202655693605535,0.06044576318199686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314588898024546,0.15825538551106055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834811328822281,0.0,0.10836858276450556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704086824436428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319564243058974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763747707249246,0.11464867930529005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872691950751949,0.0,0.2973953148111427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694790213819431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074817221575142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464394470282752,0.0,0.05051615870087349,0.0,0.0,0.09799751003328276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256290893603302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927742516103814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04342537873176912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593323260306952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418964663737304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682762840129434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654253523424486,0.0,0.0,0.06760207134781142,0.0,0.0,0.0986977680134338,0.0,0.0,0.061622600338274186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935532809553058,0.0,0.0,0.08891039970065001,0.10117212121016912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091879087237915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779010768980477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791086880737381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098475056956034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144347779357409,0.0,0.08183460494912331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051830343037026994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06034799414055365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789575212277782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991949968900625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639345037498354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43202655693605535,0.11447978487489875
parenting,Zelda1433,2020/01/18,My almost 1 year old ”hid” the TV remote and it’s been missing for two weeks No really.  I have absolutely no clue where it is and I’ve searched the entire house.,0.2747058823529436,2.508375588235296,2.6485294117647062,91.21338235294121,87.23529411764706,5.752941176470588,17.323529411764707,7.1686216300943375,0.1359058823529411,126,3,28,2,4,43,29,34,0.242,0.758,0.0,-0.7425,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,3,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4137273249249968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767395404427746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335495328826411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646855238994369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036043734908868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33141785084040576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26606616659676563
parenting,Monkeyjess559,2020/01/18,"Partner wont get off his phone I'm a being unreasonable for getting frustrated with my fella for being on his phone most of the day we have four kids (5,3,2,1) and I have to often  ask him to get of his phone and pay attention to them or if I ask him to do something such as talk to a child in time out he will accept that I have asked him stare at his phone for 30 minutes or more say didn't you want me to do something to which I get annoyed and go do the thing myself. I am just worried that someone is going to get hurt when I'm not around.",2.828928571428573,3.2096030168067284,4.19276260504202,91.49653886554623,73.45378151260505,6.958403361344536,24.959033613445378,6.6274283507984215,0.6324361344537821,425,12,101,3,8,141,78,119,0.121,0.857,0.022000000000000002,-0.8632,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,1,0,5,4,2,0,4,0,13,0,0,0,0,17,26,8,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,4,7,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,3,0,1,1,2,18,1,21,21,2,11,0,1,1,0,23,6,0,5,3,74,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852922310373634,0.5624527245873673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933613336534647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5238872833648773,0.0,0.2279508033910588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21468956059744115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948291180854293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992270301290896,0.3087815401120791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119196885624326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323442205770733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694048636283365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828773355440188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20366507030807465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,S1155665,2020/01/18,"Right, if you were a 1 year old, where would you put your shoe? Just that really, can only find one of the bloody pair. She's just mastered walking and is getting into all sorts of trouble, so I'm fully expecting to find it somewhere random. I've checked the toy box and the kitchen cupboards, her 2 favourite places. Any ideas? I'm stumped!",2.9933333333333323,5.068992835820897,3.0306716417910486,93.22322139303483,75.86567164179105,5.6606965174129344,27.58457711442786,6.42735559955562,1.0147532338308456,268,11,55,2,6,81,57,67,0.09699999999999999,0.903,0.0,-0.7393,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,4,2,1,0,1,14,7,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,3,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,0,4,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,3,2,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992264426670188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355299331011116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530622717593932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307221513225159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074177886455621,0.0,0.19852086176707845,0.22281330373801628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060863724283482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294511032910889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18768106588107655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501907559944907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081141356572994,0.0,0.0,0.1886600408141146
parenting,Nearcellar,2020/01/18,"Lost Baby Unit of Capidi Monitor - can I ping it? Hi!  New here.  Just misplaced the baby unit half of the two-part Capidi baby monitor system.  Audio only.  Anyone else own this and know how to ""ping"" it or have it make noise so I can find it?  Google didn't help me solve this one.  We've been tearing up the house - twice - and still can't find it!  Any ideas appreciated.",0.15527027027026818,2.528457229729732,2.4446486486486485,90.71589189189191,91.56756756756756,5.662702702702703,14.156756756756756,7.1686216300943375,-0.1052875675675673,281,5,60,5,10,95,55,74,0.095,0.86,0.044000000000000004,-0.4203,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,2,0,10,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,3,1,3,0,4,6,1,4,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124466727944504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607678686518466,0.2580169861865557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103613709962188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460313620945183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878809235946193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29056380946140586,0.0,0.28427152544114626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383924191523118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748887601084067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16809026630121374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24320709827174644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706381867097399,0.19151870380892488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726940234060625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011019359057282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459892967297789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Total_Wolverine,2020/01/18,"Romania Caracal case (kidnapping of two young girls) Hi all, opening this thread for comments on the Romanian s Caracal case. 
As you know, the kidnapping of Alexandra Măceșanu happened in Caracal, Olt County, Romania on 25 July 2019. Romanian police were heavily criticised for taking 19 hours to locate and search the building where she was held captive. 

Gheorghe Dinca is accused of :Kidnapping, rape and murder of Luiza Melencu and Alexandra Măceșanu


Today, more details and atrocities on the case have been revealed and I would like to know your opinion on this. The killer didn t manifest any compasion for his victims and the way he played with the investigation is absolutely terrifying.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kidnapping_of_Alexandra_Măceșanu",10.824054621848738,13.190526563025214,8.85326680672269,58.08309348739496,56.47899159663866,12.336554621848741,45.127100840336134,11.93303328291395,6.536889915966388,627,36,76,19,8,188,86,119,0.185,0.778,0.036000000000000004,-0.9686,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,0,0,1,5,3,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,1,15,12,7,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,0,5,2,16,7,2,11,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,1,4,47,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531916784817411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292430512907931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666621005082126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092367891041288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189768729856406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799397537969163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352917653254105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36370442313348295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955318162624205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644868151910815,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brainlesslyfalling,2020/01/18,"HELP- Anyone else's toddler (2y.o.) take way more than 3 days to potty train? Today marks 1 week of removal of diapers cold turkey for our 25 month old. He's had some success.. but he's by no means potty trained... and when we put pants on camando style he has way more accidents, most of which involve pooping in them, so he's only getting pants on for about an hour a day and then back to naked from waste down. 

Literally everyone I have asked the past week says their son got it in 3-5 days max. I'm just worried we've missed the boat on some aspect of teaching him? We prompt every hour, try not to harass. Have him naked from waste down mostly. Are short and concise with prompts when he has accidents ""Don't pee on floor, pee in potty"". We don't get angry or reprimand him, but we also never say ""it's okay"". He does get a diaper overnight, we say ""you'll get diaper for tonight because you are still learning"". He does not get one at nap time. We act like crazy proud/happy if he self initiates using the potty and/or uses it when prompted.  

Just wondering if taking this long is normal? Thoughts? Thanks ya'll. Feeling a bit stressed as I have a 2 month old as well....",2.7438510638297875,4.524976268085108,3.6044148936170224,90.14875,75.68085106382978,6.572340425531915,23.664893617021278,7.365786028017652,0.8829617021276599,913,28,191,11,20,291,154,235,0.12,0.8059999999999999,0.073,-0.9132,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,7,2,2,1,11,8,1,1,8,1,12,3,3,2,1,32,30,16,0,3,9,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,5,10,0,0,5,1,0,3,6,3,1,1,3,5,16,5,28,26,7,40,0,1,0,0,30,12,0,8,24,98,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810014435366517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577458154752157,0.12569117949232894,0.0,0.0,0.1146810477150617,0.0,0.0,0.09432660963699252,0.0,0.0747792478208979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392521983921735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373383996560947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147008533043394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247607814867132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335580840805332,0.11721762444518805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202626356661035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204532927720711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811139490437984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058581344079465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222394473510197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416129175072547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059930970306329774,0.0,0.0,0.10856018499836836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362494000410918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19583002293071103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461162084512906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019176723502505,0.0,0.0,0.2574456565835816,0.0,0.08312520532455167,0.09329700393903782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710357678709278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331847576697998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29265927530252994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797285437375774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979654087731484,0.0,0.14051948815759194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844670080365194,0.0,0.0,0.11293919414105555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738726010929002,0.07153058511488553,0.0,0.11627798963180284,0.0,0.0,0.08328571794903357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21189712565726707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474143699174606,0.1967989347049392,0.0,0.11029617478625584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303172432487062,0.0,0.12457859634172867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monogramchecklist,2020/01/18,"Is French Immersions in JK valuable? (Canada) Our son is starting JK in the fall. We have a really great small school a 5 minute walk from us that does an arts based program, same curriculum as the regular stream but they try to bring arts based professionals in to bolster the topics (artists, musicians, poets, graphic designers etc). They also try to give a worldview and a sense of community. 

However we’re also considering a catholic French Immersion program that’s down the road (5 minute drive/15 min walk).  We are non-religious but the public school board doesn’t start FI until grade 1 and it’s at another school that has a history or bullying so we don’t what to send him there.  (For non-Canadians, Ontario has 2 public school boards, Catholic and regular).

So I’m wondering whether parents or anyone with experience in French Immersion can tell me if you found it beneficial in you/your child’s experience?

We do not speak French at home.",4.942413793103448,7.330676229885062,5.345494252873569,77.3989310344828,71.183908045977,9.697471264367817,31.71494252873564,10.047579312681364,3.6017039080459776,760,35,134,22,15,242,115,174,0.032,0.893,0.075,0.6416,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,1,2,0,5,2,0,0,12,0,10,0,0,0,0,18,17,15,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,8,0,0,2,3,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,1,11,2,18,16,2,19,0,0,0,0,19,10,0,4,4,74,17,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25418122362562723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664455161602135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112260964226917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390745293136879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17724107927066216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31091424607842016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425079278308173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245335820027525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521309427991502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594126592191528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764651094326959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018101001017502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6433539692777517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497293938512125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890564793684596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579647857096435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116472029814285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17234514124677427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aacook,2020/01/18,"Business Dad: A New Podcast for Dads from Reddit Cofounder Alexis Ohanian [Business Dad](https://businessdad.initialized.com/) is a new podcast hosted by Alexis Ohanian focused on helping dads answer the question, ""How do you balance it all?"" 

The first two episodes feature Hasan Minhaj (Patriot Act) and Nicholas Thompson (Wired). It's awesome.

From the website:

>In a new podcast from Initialized Capital, Alexis Ohanian (cofounder of Initialized + Reddit) opens this question up to some of the most successful men across business, sports, entertainment, and more, for candid conversations about what it means to be a father in today’s world and how they balance their careers and family.",12.210277777777787,13.315789842592595,9.785555555555558,56.965,53.35185185185186,11.644444444444444,47.62962962962963,11.20814326018867,6.129229629629629,565,32,66,12,6,168,75,108,0.0,0.8590000000000001,0.141,0.9412,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,2,2,3,2,0,0,8,0,3,0,0,2,1,14,4,6,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,15,3,4,12,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,4,5,46,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908427281447684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976777295334517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15577156691101698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25314969197707043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6733546825268308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5206781818608979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202862523874561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270192029502413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jh987,2020/01/18,"LPT: For diaper rash, skip the cream and use a blow dryer on gentle heat instead For a typical rash, drying the area is much more effective than OTC creams.  Optionally, cream can be applied after drying the area.

Of course, significant or persistent rashes should be seen by a doctor.",5.816764705882353,7.934435333333332,6.50406862745098,71.14080882352944,68.21568627450979,9.805882352941175,26.47549019607843,10.125756701596842,3.0052313725490194,226,7,36,6,4,74,41,51,0.096,0.7609999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.4005,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,0,5,4,3,2,0,6,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,7,3,2,4,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,2,1,23,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6699737383264852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811796741648434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5653329206082462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vitras,2020/01/18,"Donations and Fundraisers My son (kindergartener) came home all excited about some fundraiser they're doing at school. And TBH it kind of triggered me for a number of reasons

1. I donated 10% of my income to my (former) church for 33 years, only to find out that they were stockpiling hundreds of billions of dollars instead of using it for charitable causes, as I assumed they were. So donating money to any organization that isn't *crystal clear* about their finances is a non-starter for me. 
2. Enlisting kids to raise money for something they don't understand, and using crappy plastic toys as ""rewards"" for raising various levels of money seems pretty scummy. My kid tried to empty his piggy bank into the collection box. No dude! You can donate *some* but you have no understanding of what this is or why they want your money!
2. Virtually no information was sent home about the cause except what was printed on the collection box. I'm currently vetting their website, trying to understand what the school gets out of this, where the money goes, etc. Charitywatch rates them as an A-, but why donate through this program instead of donating directly to the charity? The only way the school seems tied into this is that it will receive some free educational materials as a reward for participating in the program. Doesn't sound too ""school funding critical."" 

I want transparency and choices when it comes to where I donate money. I'd much rather write a check to the school directly if I know they need cash for a beneficial program. I'd much rather write a check to a charity that I believe in. I'd rather leave my kids out of this process and have you approach me directly.

Maybe I'm an asshole. I donno.

/rant.",4.820084436330443,7.344856009584664,5.583700365130081,74.94050718849842,71.97124600638978,8.433089913281606,30.986878137836605,9.140100540675403,3.1394565038795066,1373,62,224,31,28,446,170,313,0.039,0.863,0.098,0.963,2,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,0,4,8,2,13,6,0,0,20,0,15,0,0,6,2,45,32,15,0,7,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,16,12,0,0,10,1,22,5,6,0,0,1,6,1,28,7,47,25,8,22,1,0,0,0,22,12,0,8,4,157,44,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836509938760619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298326168157808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180040789730946,0.0,0.2367602479522342,0.0,0.09926645619189003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285196964227974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532451383135136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060206566850994216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23118417754057985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000158358258113,0.06333123158611748,0.0,0.0,0.12201932500504442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577103729717884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694248821776707,0.08544676197209088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528583513880208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723743911159215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848281016271887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5831298898385839,0.0,0.20981484078366552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871505869404163,0.0,0.0,0.08156532896351554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647669281395385,0.0,0.0,0.3598972868597901,0.0,0.1990555058907114,0.0,0.0,0.1359395153124105,0.09146975245189384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796690453328293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420883819914446
parenting,mcmanybucks,2020/01/18,"Is there a source on various subjects that explain them in a way that kids understand? I was recently asked by my nephew why the sky was blue, and I went on to explain the sun and the spectrum of light etc.. He looked like a big question mark..

How would you explain such things to a child < 10",4.125,4.766139499999999,4.420000000000002,90.09000000000002,70.66666666666666,8.0,30.0,8.07648339933343,1.7665000000000002,230,9,51,3,4,72,47,60,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,11,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,1,7,7,2,8,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,1,2,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301336732442068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594851747296978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15747504163951034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27067754057547433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610853983228806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182637777585137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414293310320992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355587837315241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558519889004227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29880481884803034,0.2908543246484052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289752709552224,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catbasket14,2020/01/18,Parents who recently moved: how do you close the deal with potential new parent friends? We just moved to a new city and I have a 16 month old daughter. I’ve been going to playgroups and have had small talk with a few potential new mom friends. The issue is that I have no idea how to close the deal? It feels so awkward! What do you say? “Hey I’m new here do you want to be my friend?” Help!,0.4721409214092134,2.6068726097561026,1.6340650406504054,99.57502710027106,85.09756097560975,5.107859078590786,20.08672086720868,6.42735559955562,-0.09137831978319833,302,9,72,3,9,95,55,82,0.049,0.779,0.171,0.8916,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,3,0,0,5,4,0,1,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,13,14,5,0,1,1,4,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,2,7,3,6,11,1,13,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,7,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140689450800073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701719639954835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35304445582997057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656654774944705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209639169395206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194990833279328,0.0,0.15898173749720262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839448068797506,0.12157978306065208,0.3237825432890584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5884435761030097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15983344437647176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338265033099242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039689695335795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113039212773058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242845439665333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984184817584764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ginger_kittycat,2020/01/18,"Parents of older kids, do you really miss the toddler years? I'm a mother to an almost 2 year old daughter. I love her, but she's very attached to me, and clingy. The second I walk in the door from work, she's immediately grabbing my hand and leading me somewhere to play with her. Everywhere I go, she follows. I can't even use the bathroom by myself without her standing outside the door and throwing a huge fit. She's like my shadow.

I don't mind her following me most of the time, I just do what I need to do (make dinner, do laundry, etc.) with her next to me, and she'll usually behave. But sometimes I feel suffocated because I come home from work, and immediately she's all over me, and I don't truly get a moment to myself until after I put her to bed.

I know it's temporary and won't last forever, which is why I'm not too stressed over it. But anytime I say anything like ""I can't wait until she's older and more independent"", people always just say ""Oh trust me you'll miss this when she's a teenager and hates you!"" 

So is it true?? Will I miss these years when she's older? Cause right now, having a kid who can entertain and do some things on their own sounds amazing lol. But I guess the grass is always greener",3.0696741854636613,4.274510428571432,4.613583959899749,85.60860902255641,73.6825396825397,7.0512949039264825,25.96157059314954,7.475848149327749,1.2389888888888885,956,32,200,11,19,321,143,252,0.051,0.7659999999999999,0.183,0.9889,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,3,1,3,8,13,1,1,13,1,18,3,1,5,2,37,37,19,0,1,8,3,3,2,0,4,0,3,4,2,9,13,1,1,2,2,0,8,7,5,0,1,0,6,45,8,22,33,6,34,0,3,0,1,28,7,0,4,20,135,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028795826825526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663837467919274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317247726805873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757778003236188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443698388895414,0.0,0.1378869704582548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852144887390411,0.10572536866930367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093669405485247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363047723521151,0.0,0.09097202336779506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763362244348785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803694724027562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605642383230268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797082109911478,0.1304792082076999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640518480964952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447030363348454,0.0,0.1068486181241787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162605264631014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869059897760105,0.0,0.0,0.1702372968268672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796756038898913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773987351718534,0.0,0.0,0.11097305856434493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091554078127174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254556480332902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669973719290213,0.0,0.2545897266248433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583142863016085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18336075990683787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634404245581916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333867220279604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382499270813492,0.17629556321682915,0.1320753175480628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444391565980889,0.0,0.0,0.1543027068010847,0.0,0.2330671510329835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092413773911722
parenting,semelendez,2020/01/18,"How the hell do you make friends as a parent? Let me start by saying I'm just out of college with an undergrad and fairly recently moved back home with my fiance. I got pregnant towards the end of my degree and now have a 6 month old. 

Now I'm taking care of the baby, work part time, and I'm doing grad school part time. So, I know right now it's just about impossible to make friends.

But what about in the future, like when I'm done with my master's? I hope to teach at a community college, but I have no idea if that will change things very much. 

How do you do it with small children? Do you just go through your adult life kinda lonely?",2.8094776119402987,3.887053082089551,3.813611940298512,91.5877313432836,74.1492537313433,6.554029850746268,22.35522388059701,6.742157984588678,0.3470471641791044,499,12,113,4,10,161,89,134,0.064,0.853,0.083,-0.355,1,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,4,0,2,13,7,1,0,8,0,10,1,0,4,0,22,23,11,0,2,6,1,0,1,2,1,1,1,1,2,5,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,1,12,5,18,19,3,21,1,1,0,0,10,6,1,3,14,74,17,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627633471119496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069435523612148,0.0,0.18748226933309053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18136436865636474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697018567792267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738497009529853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072197490534536,0.0,0.1417443215909672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777275457185174,0.1760260269268663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000672869871106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973991179609664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122623104551372,0.125180406114258,0.08658397667914397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366002961122266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146060085329612,0.18836385444374928,0.1302819609808683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185969529709295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19678919317534693,0.3838383274989371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498991093675315,0.0,0.0,0.15135056899245608,0.0,0.1409377251761995,0.0,0.1793628056947613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544191701751034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325236551541822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774149435220604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20668453995575106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623052590474586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902309341134682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alllexandriiia,2020/01/18,"4 year old meltdowns while sick... In general, 4yo is a really good kid - only occasional minor meltdowns when he doesn’t get his way or something and rarely have to put him in timeout for not listening. 

He gets sick fairly frequently. My DH’s ex stayed home with him up until he was about 2 but he was still sick often, now he’s in preschool and he’s sick essentially non stop. 

When he’s not feeling good, he literally screams bloody murder saying his stomach hurts and refuses to eat anything, gets himself crazy worked up, and then makes himself puke because he’s so upset. Cries the whole time. 

We’ve tried everything we can think of Because of his extreme reactions to being sick. He’s had ultrasounds done on his stomach, multiple trips to the ER, diet restrictions (he’s a picky eater anyway), blood tests, etc.

I’m at a loss for words on his reactions though, it’s like he’s terrified of being sick and any changes to his current state (whatever that may be, even trying to give him medicine can be a nightmare cause he doesn’t want to eat or drink anything) result in screaming at the top of his lungs, hysterical crying, and eventually puking.

Does anybody have any advice for trying to handle the emotional aspects of his reactions when he’s sick?",5.876575630252103,7.0142124873949605,6.12637605042017,77.63351365546221,66.98319327731093,9.311344537815128,32.52205882352941,9.516144504307137,3.0538647058823534,1004,42,180,20,16,321,146,238,0.28800000000000003,0.659,0.053,-0.9972,1,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,3,11,9,1,1,8,0,16,15,4,3,0,26,26,17,1,1,5,1,1,1,0,1,7,4,1,1,2,8,4,3,2,1,0,2,4,6,1,0,4,5,15,3,29,17,2,30,0,2,0,0,34,11,0,4,15,95,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843142183984955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926713647443954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331531196460005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727128721477703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552690051648468,0.14986064610827432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311220257094209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397022605650862,0.14497041007954625,0.0,0.13877578606317167,0.0,0.2899131838908398,0.0,0.15935178211017134,0.0,0.0,0.1579916665698251,0.09356706042964552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273175494862792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162905780251834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22203917609508586,0.135896036265081,0.0,0.23764036835463664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420995166921805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165314710795327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920937501939069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945611373569211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865146436419793,0.0,0.0,0.10774107778996636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241041973043336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075293072523473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265608545846532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905908092718793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509938849079729,0.11313223663913602,0.11843659224362285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077191573252456,0.1391831559028298,0.0,0.0826048212680062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28853958768718946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355649435339099,0.11244547748589756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816165504228408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031323346484582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122631275694182
parenting,he-loves-me-not,2020/01/18,"Birthday celebration! Tomorrow is my daughters 10th birthday and instead of a party we are going to her favorite restaurant Benihana. We are a military family and our past 2 duty stations haven't been close to one. Whenever we visit our family back home she begs to go to one so this year we found our closest Benihana (3 hours away), made a reservation, booked a hotel and will be going tonight! She was so happy when we told her and started jumping around, definitely made my heart happy. 

Here's the issue, when we booked we didn't mention the 3 kids we were bringing. The room has a full size bed and while we can imagine her and her brother or her and her friend we aren't sure about stuffing 3 in there. The kids are 10, 9, and 7 so not extremely large but I still am doubting them fitting. Do most hotels have rollaway beds and should I call them and tell that I have 3 additional guests, will I get charged for them?",4.594743589743589,5.908399277777782,5.084444444444447,83.27115384615384,70.1111111111111,7.7606837606837615,30.512820512820515,8.139509932561175,2.133410256410257,730,30,140,10,13,233,115,180,0.039,0.88,0.081,0.7464,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,13,0,3,0,12,5,0,1,9,0,20,1,1,2,1,35,30,18,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,2,2,23,0,1,2,4,0,6,4,1,0,2,8,0,30,4,10,18,2,25,0,0,0,0,35,8,0,3,11,99,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913532384507129,0.0,0.0,0.16795198570587014,0.1374562907568259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253512173991787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33704020742301105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19600237512703486,0.13811042173110008,0.0,0.0933953232386408,0.0,0.3047822447866335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805891383165968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21183282449022603,0.0,0.0,0.1793120096226283,0.0,0.17604372492180392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865801979101726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382962464466017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24226636441794475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706477457576109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265280626690942,0.0,0.14275888600529296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848026914992995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624512508286806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081394030347244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511632025001675
parenting,ckad14,2020/01/18,"pretty cool training on how to earn a side-income as a mom from home this is pretty cool free training I came across that seems like a great way for parents to make a little extra money on the side [https://fossurl.ml/#aY2jy](https://fossurl.ml/#aY2jy)

its pretty long, over an 1hr nbut the presenter seems like a really successfull online businessperson and the method seems prety easy.

I was wondering if anyone else has tried out these methods for making mone y online",8.080166666666667,10.497427350000002,6.4250000000000025,72.74666666666668,63.0,8.333333333333334,24.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,1.8939583333333327,388,9,58,6,6,114,61,80,0.0,0.674,0.326,0.9808,2,0,2,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,9,2,3,0,0,3,0,11,10,4,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,7,11,8,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,5,4,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294122190049955,0.1801539210114448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20109744020391085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687957709462898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938481464130984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636723232025034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17179883798233775,0.17622326196686738,0.0,0.15559996391296102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23472966648890706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059246070248089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523332152027367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5366329879594628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263826640334965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4801945768399353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937391878550542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395620345006288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067516792219874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,artvandalism,2020/01/18,"Is it okay to make your kids believe that fairies are real? Non-parent (and non english-native) here. I have a (non-judgemental) question: 
a woman I know posts on her Instagram how she established kind of a system to make her daughter (~7) behave well and also for entertainment I think. She puts notes in her bedroom when the daughter is sleeping signed by „the fairy“. If the daughter behaves well she gets praise and even presents from the fairy - if she doesn’t she gets a note saying (for example) she should go to bed earlier etc. This has been going on for years, the daughter REALLY believes in the fairy &  talks about her all the time and now she wants to visit her in „fairy-land“ and the mother wrote a note to her saying the fairy will pick her up in her sleep to go to the fairy land with her... but she will not be able to remember when she wakes up. 

My question: I get it if you lie about Santa and stuff (once a year) but to grow up with this DAILY system and then eventually to find out that all of it was a lie... for years. Isn’t this going to mess with this little girls sense of reality? 

PS: I‘m really not trying to shame the woman or any parent. I can only imagine how tough parenting can be and she definitely means well. I am just curious if this is a common thing to do and if other parents have/had similar systems and how that turned out?",5.015606685478616,5.406937154981551,5.562114174082918,83.57795311482526,68.59409594095939,8.590492728456697,27.01128717169525,8.4952907291091,1.6667115693509875,1063,30,218,15,17,343,144,271,0.019,0.899,0.08199999999999999,0.9296,4,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,2,0,1,15,10,0,1,18,1,19,3,3,6,2,47,35,25,0,7,11,8,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,4,14,15,0,0,8,1,0,7,4,3,3,0,3,2,28,7,38,27,3,34,1,0,0,0,41,13,0,8,10,154,42,0,0.11908651587326882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523344371907994,0.0,0.12903019019486595,0.0,0.08098291444445646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683394465612111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281294429750928,0.07865552060261398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088429180740282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866533682872976,0.0,0.27071844528245564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401028075521613,0.0654468347425046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935597405526766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898234813471512,0.0,0.0,0.12972012719440326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268232528415999,0.0,0.09057066156554723,0.0,0.0,0.39669444881479976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405196365313977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197148403690258,0.26680830401509675,0.0,0.0,0.13554652642002818,0.1525797429058623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490180795554282,0.0,0.0,0.18940475441035992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383450374616533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363255694755928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571723054188594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911578959362384,0.07630583086883211,0.0,0.0,0.0694403050740954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085192723374537,0.12953193271623914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024031248728888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212192384570409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300634354527833
parenting,humbledasher,2020/01/18,Antibiotics and Nexplanon Hello all. I had the flu that lead to an ear infection and had to take amoxicillin for 10 days. My doctor and pharmacist told me it could alter my nexplanon in my arm. My boyfriend and I had sex on the 9th day. He didn’t go inside me. This was a week ago and now I feel slightly crampy and was supposed to get my period yesterday and didn’t. My question is—do antibiotics make your period late? Or could I possibly be pregnant? I do have a child and I figured out I was pregnant when I was 5 weeks. Obviously a pregnancy test will be negative at 1 week. Has anyone else figured out they were pregnant after one week?,2.5225520833333306,4.669174484375001,4.1496875000000015,84.30989583333336,77.59375,8.016666666666666,27.072916666666664,8.841846274778883,2.295732291666667,506,21,100,12,12,169,84,128,0.059000000000000004,0.941,0.0,-0.7808,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,6,0,18,6,2,2,2,21,24,10,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,3,10,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,11,2,18,0,10,8,1,21,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,2,14,69,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751587591085231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816515896372633,0.2024625650347772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31553194676669305,0.0,0.0,0.25486880553701163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224998886152068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650678251288948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991151703676636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032368315589458,0.0,0.11229953198262158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228992201041161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189824040544426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133897560330225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276212465333595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135505128740587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856915084341274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888134156136579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6340049839202181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RocknRollFairy,2020/01/18,"Disciplining Other Ppl's Kids So, I'm 27 and a nanny for 2 boys ages 2 & 3. The 3 year old has anti-social problems as he does not socialize at all with others and throws tantrums and soon the little brother follows. Their parents are rich lawyers and don't know how to discipline their son.

He has thrown tantrums giving me a hard time during baths because he's a huge mommas boy & wants HER to bathe him when shes around, and obviously I need to do my job as a nanny and bathe him. When she's not around he's somewhat fine because he knows I'm in charge. His parents were around this one day on New Years Eve and I was bathing them & this kid was giving me the hardest time - screaming & crying and no one came in to tell him to stop especially when I would expect the dad to correct that situation, he just walked by. He knows that all he has to do is cry and throw a tantrum and he gets what he wants. Well, that doesn't fly when we're not around his parents because I use time out and like to be honest & explain when he does something mean or acts bossy, and put him in his place about it.

Today, I was speaking to the mother about something that happened earlier in the day with her sons (when I rewarded them) & the 3 year old starts tugging at her skirt and yelling ""mommy! Mommy! Mommy! MOMMY! MOMMY!...I felt my blood boiling because I was in the middle of speaking to her and the little dude was trying to get her attention so she can play some game with him.....well, mom did nothing except look at him and asked what he wanted.....if it were me (& ive done this to him before), I would've kneeled down & told them they were being rude and when 2 adults are talking you wait until they're done. (Which I have done when talking to other nannies at a playground or when I'm on the phone) but these teachings, I feel like the parents mess them all up & there's no point because its further confusing the kid and he will ultimately act like how mommy treats him...thinking he's a special prince.
These parents are raising children no one will like. No one likes a brat. 

Should I have corrected him in front of the mother or should I just have swallowed my pride and remained silent (like I did)? I know it will happen again....",5.310213392200146,5.345068969094928,5.358189845474616,86.53005886681385,67.91832229580574,7.770713760117734,29.360559234731426,6.937597516519254,1.403953053715968,1765,57,370,12,27,553,220,453,0.075,0.8370000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.8273,7,0,2,0,1,1,76.0,0,1,7,2,25,23,4,1,21,0,38,3,1,3,6,70,66,38,0,8,10,13,3,6,0,6,0,4,4,7,19,27,2,4,9,6,1,9,9,8,1,4,16,8,47,15,45,42,5,63,0,0,1,0,73,26,0,6,34,225,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6248146114387829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281567705674793,0.059900276178766726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952937161875934,0.0,0.05452201400556718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328326293709166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076393914353869,0.0826444936949504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121426832505102,0.19670897555881636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032397596568948785,0.045774276303578415,0.06152081652308606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695174528623085,0.12293069581826994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133203528615533,0.0,0.05739746516699192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358327749168474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085295699756434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878190901392929,0.12843739462078718,0.0,0.0,0.053805784991636636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979506178304683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504236307789093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750984935951513,0.0,0.0618827952502781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061480459641609225,0.0,0.1344691754883151,0.0,0.17367203580939686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557314011691167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694339698101189,0.0,0.06057037312147723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061309893926626315,0.0,0.06441178297167319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202154261146843,0.0,0.0653150855968441,0.0,0.0986541555746989,0.0,0.0,0.04535170675375207,0.0,0.0,0.05356849653235393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300005348223708,0.05600325291467827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04105585073868659,0.0,0.0,0.11208569913634532,0.0,0.060734391874081216,0.06122518251429933,0.0,0.0435018480062139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055339119240929865,0.0,0.0,0.075584676884627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760996662302509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103226053572877,0.0,0.0,0.12378411923219118
parenting,TooMuchPFC,2020/01/18,"Sick mom, sick toddler My 1.5 year old keeps getting sick, so I get sick. Winter is about 6-8 months long where I live so my only survival is to keep my social calendar full, but nobody wants to hang out (understandably) when we are sick. I’m now sick with my 8th illness since September and my son is on who knows...more than that. Everything is cancelled so we are stuck home and I’m going insane! What do you all do to survive?",2.089568965517241,4.05174765517242,3.2995258620689683,90.7761853448276,78.19540229885058,6.189080459770117,22.36925287356322,7.1686216300943375,0.6551390804597701,334,10,71,4,8,108,63,87,0.299,0.701,0.0,-0.9823,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,1,12,18,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,3,6,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,10,0,8,17,2,13,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,7,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304459205913263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679286165394188,0.0,0.14572443665586698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572014154516937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4558202454418808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22641585361108454,0.22691590969674086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003057864339653,0.2046650335015723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26906050022858824,0.0,0.0,0.19501232907004876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21210605646757205,0.0,0.0,0.2613790043605499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26693318023840995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123801345804452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512045440908596
parenting,CheesesteakLover,2020/01/18,"Advice for starting solid foods Hi fellow parents-

We are ready to start letting our almost 6 month old daughter try solid foods. We were thinking of avocado this weekend. Any advice/things we need to know ahead of time? Thanks!",2.6361324041811827,5.535333170731711,2.8113588850174236,85.33878048780491,95.34146341463415,3.3184668989547035,22.930313588850176,5.288315135182226,0.5574850174216026,184,7,28,1,7,56,34,41,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.784,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,6,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,7,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356176033837656,0.0,0.0,0.24144472909622516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396842782657042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5831213992351038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325120819937153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465593702536322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19245799275784548,0.0,0.0,0.17878585407180336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530126564292581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677328732276532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413289553594276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219889502414741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449860266691173,0.0,0.0,0.14059777582598787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370321426698167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Drufus726,2020/01/18,"Cry it out method!!! (Long Post) So this one might be along one, so me and my wife used to have our own house but we ran into some money issues so my wife’s family offered to let us stay at there place for a couple of months so that we can save money. We have a 1 year old daughter, at the time we moved in she was about 10 months and FULLY SLEEP TRAINED. We literally used to put her in the crib and forget about her and she would sleep all through the night, even when she woke up she would just sit in her crib quietly until she went back to sleep. We have a very nice nanny cam we have seen it with our own eyes that she knows how to put herself to sleep or at least can be taught to. The method we used to teach her was the cry it out method. I know it might be controversial to some my wife wasn’t on board at first, but god dammit it works. Within a week she had no problem falling asleep on her own. The trouble started when we moved in with family, that everyone wanted to sleep with her because they love her so fucking much they can’t leave her alone for 2 seconds. There constantly in her face doing all types of dumb shit and when it’s time for bedtime, which changed from 9-10 to midnight because that’s how long they stay up and I guess they just couldn’t fathom leaving the baby in the crib, they sleep with her. They always say she’s crying, but her sleep schedule drastically changed so I would think that’s normal. But they don’t understand that so they force one of us to go tend to her and sleep with her to get her to stop crying. Fast forward to month 3 of us living here our now 1 year old has absolutely no idea how to put herself to sleep. As soon as her feet touches the crib she’ll scream which I think is a bigger problem than just hearing her cry. I know all about the teething and sleep regression and I’m telling you that’s not it as soon as someone holds her again she’s a happy little baby again and falls right to sleep. It’s super frustrating because I know how good of a sleeper she was and now it’s like they won’t let us try to teach her again. They think we don’t care about her or something which is completely wrong, it may be a controversial way of teaching but IT WORKS!!! Please in the comments if anyone has used the cry it out method can you please state if it’s a legit way of teaching a baby how to sleep, or if you have any other suggestions please let me know. (And by the way melatonin barely works anymore unless we like overdose her which were not gonna do)",5.098899552143312,4.773490575815742,5.134631477927061,89.18172968650032,68.38579654510556,8.09829814459373,26.771657069737678,7.1686216300943375,1.006365015994882,1974,49,446,15,30,616,221,521,0.134,0.777,0.08900000000000001,-0.972,0,1,5,0,0,0,37.0,18,3,10,5,34,18,4,0,23,0,39,20,18,9,3,90,69,44,0,11,17,4,1,2,0,9,0,4,0,0,26,33,0,2,10,0,2,11,10,9,0,5,11,7,75,9,71,41,10,74,0,0,2,2,75,25,3,12,34,305,101,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053764595010804994,0.0,0.0,0.04319447568839546,0.0,0.0,0.03530155855877396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051482198351095874,0.03629768506728953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03991669219828032,0.0,0.09493419395352952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05292717165612517,0.0,0.10983083825176124,0.0,0.05442815601120411,0.05609782355479583,0.0,0.0,0.05743901975146126,0.34213366823024466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034287015793046716,0.0,0.0,0.049603604467484505,0.0,0.0,0.09787496915619194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04415584339396306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799128875652348,0.02712158425015985,0.0,0.029502467016155418,0.04354085201259181,0.0,0.0,0.05718630247576821,0.0,0.0,0.055260691979053415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850796442834697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989883070649917,0.0,0.058601695815593914,0.0,0.05418205517745461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426458460403731,0.0,0.0,0.10993343671172308,0.0,0.15924889009296075,0.0,0.05072261377925882,0.05202889938397321,0.04583875159435562,0.0918799797055104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046852100348794765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013966631404126,0.0,0.0,0.12430564575452176,0.11034728832481802,0.038160880584899366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871536881334087,0.050862188262158485,0.0,0.0,0.10894464532520276,0.0,0.10552960339489544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054236404845022165,0.17094951353936458,0.0,0.0,0.04971680880176177,0.0,0.0,0.0993444724340192,0.0,0.15655600233577655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04433208516584915,0.0,0.04128205977146837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05328634602483632,0.0,0.0,0.6233871444266124,0.0,0.04398439370563725,0.039963961814716766,0.0,0.0,0.036743183627309904,0.11066137362273774,0.0,0.04340028734562131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453728856720582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978826183044484,0.0,0.0,0.060539954945523965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03524445944445968,0.0,0.0,0.05404163863126589,0.249772277152104,0.17933926333432745,0.0,0.0428323736832415,0.030618711631541513,0.12361465171756447,0.04164022502132722,0.0,0.0,0.04812242392196128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133764373048027,0.0,0.0,0.11062919030924916,0.0567570092231447,0.0,0.066858529313114
parenting,historemajor,2020/01/18,"My 5th grade started her monthly and I couldn't be more pleased with the attitude changes! And she is taking it so well, we had the care of you book for younger girls for about 2 years so I've upgraded her to 2 really cool and artsy love your body books more appropriate for her development.

She is an only child of divorced parents that have joint custody. She is a total daddy's girl and would choose her dad over me anyday of the week, but since she started her period, she has really been snuggling up to me and wanting to be around me without an attitude and I LOVE IT so much lol

I had a feeling that she would come around when she was older cause I'm the more open minded, outgoing parent while her dad is very introverted and skeptical and I knew that wasn't going to fly as she ages because she takes after my personality of wanting to be out in the world and try new things. I am so pleased with her current mood! She really adjusted well to caring for her monthly, it could not have gone smoother! I almost cried when she told me she started, my baby is really growing and out here just living her own life, watching a child develop is probably the most absurd thing a person can experience lol

I just wanted to share, I was afraid she was going to be super moody but I think this experience has humbled her and slowed her down a bit.

I also want to brag about my baby's chalk drawing she did today ok?!? Look at the detail on this crab tho! She did highlight on him and everything
 https://imgur.com/a/etAINeb",2.8324276787780605,5.194459724832222,3.939733857903264,85.11909395973156,77.59060402684564,6.929136773894932,24.034251330710482,7.990435384864732,1.4344328627632486,1210,41,233,21,29,392,166,298,0.046,0.782,0.17300000000000001,0.9912,4,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,2,0,1,17,14,1,1,14,4,29,4,1,1,1,45,52,24,0,8,6,4,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,10,21,0,0,5,2,0,5,4,3,2,0,12,4,48,10,35,32,8,36,0,0,2,2,45,13,0,2,18,172,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231200043453886,0.0,0.0,0.08969428106075708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969229088250265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683716717824486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244962928980285,0.12458443308911896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287091125849097,0.11521917682102065,0.11865036787824493,0.0966158759106972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955060308950938,0.0,0.12320245159196275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080214169762353,0.21942792922127974,0.0,0.0,0.056711446799051414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748618222356115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792218980996904,0.0,0.0,0.09903930128044093,0.0,0.09418611984195743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20245748938054015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324958837310407,0.0,0.1790500231432682,0.0,0.08245047733455638,0.0,0.0,0.10832479017830456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530270519547886,0.0,0.0,0.24908072905000636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958675051520406,0.0,0.24623591446521445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092740910298193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874101746177763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927798795661262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23816219508795286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866066583566994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902818990955996,0.07186757480610136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631452942225016,0.10717365016668458,0.0,0.07614925180065199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254371496219667,0.2646194061243661,0.0,0.0899679561033332,0.0,0.2016905513520829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811820089623124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935043790616846,0.0,0.0,0.0722273381963575
parenting,SVNTHRTY,2020/01/18,"💚 Last chance for Girl Scout Cookies 🍪 💚 Last chance for Girl Scout Cookies 🍪

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Thank you 🙏 for your love and support!",6.353571428571431,10.207198642857145,3.326190476190476,81.90214285714288,86.38095238095238,4.3047619047619055,20.285714285714285,6.1826913282559595,0.1774857142857149,221,6,35,2,7,59,30,42,0.0,0.545,0.455,0.9656,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,4,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,5,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,11,0,0,0,2,15,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795721840640522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295684543181052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700973783701314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343271558202915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5699355932739174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155244783549889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39671795013863015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218614751331835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,plasticbun,2020/01/18,"My son is a sook Out of my two boys (6 and 5), my eldest son seems to whinge a lot. It really only started coming about when his father and I separated (about a year ago) and it feels like he is getting worse. 
Instances where he would play fight with you, and then if you pick him up and start tickling him, or catch him, he will - not so much chuck a tantrum - but just start crying and whining. 
I’ve tried things that other parenting forums and articles have advice to, but all have been done (even before looking into recommendations) but I can’t seem to shake it from him. 
I’ve even kept the conversations open about the situation between myself and his father (nothing serious than love lost) because naturally children are curious. Their father doesn’t see them - for some unknown reason - and I’m not one to drill impurities and pettiness onto anyone especially the kids. 
I’m just trying to see if there are any methods - other than not acknowledging the whining, teaching them to ask nicely and giving them praise when needed (the last two I do anyway). Any tips please? 

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parenting,smcfarlane,2020/01/18,"2.5 year old tantrums middle of the night Up until last week she's been an awesome sleeper and all of a sudden she's now the worst. Full on meltdowns at 3am are not enjoyable. 

Any advice? Tips? Help.",-0.465574912891988,1.6632361707317107,1.0845296167247405,97.71926829268294,101.92682926829269,3.3184668989547035,18.052264808362374,5.288315135182226,-0.4739783972125435,157,5,33,1,7,50,37,41,0.19399999999999998,0.664,0.141,-0.3749,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,1,3,13,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,8,20,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140132998316502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881156114728717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839824749703209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34535416901430616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975931615147826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4445788569406449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33984898638153305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728347818291592
parenting,_daddynoplz,2020/01/18,"My 3m son was jumping on the bed, lost his balance and slammed his head against the side table. I feel so fucking awful. He ended up with a big gash above his right eye. Called 911. I panicked. This all happened in the midst of me changing his 1 year old sisters diaper in the same bed. 

My husband just got home from work and dialed 911 for me.

I want to fucking cry. My husband was upset with me how I wasnt watching him. This is all my fault.

Doctors said it will leave a scar.. left with 3 stitches. :(

UGH.",0.4392857142857167,2.6572391428571467,1.870119047619049,97.2394642857143,86.14285714285714,3.880952380952381,23.035714285714285,4.7782277997778095,-0.053142857142856485,390,15,86,1,12,125,77,105,0.22399999999999998,0.764,0.012,-0.9716,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,3,6,2,1,6,1,5,5,2,1,2,12,13,4,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,6,4,16,0,12,6,3,12,0,1,2,2,12,8,2,0,3,50,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22903281035175496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372769985567374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463802552940308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22957798040075095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866099686674454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341154790263645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41471882157231854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939118887990488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19834552540881156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301939296415624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249886657550048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374986508269357,0.2436998739557184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448472010213069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536247981953165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915488268204247,0.21335827203277774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229646811859655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329124059597958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444022658708006
parenting,flowersncake,2020/01/18,"my boyfriend saves pictures of other girls to his phone...i’m 8 months pregnant about 6 months ago i was going through the worst of my pregnancy. throwing up all day long and losing more weight than i was gaining. my depression hit a very low point and my anxiety poured out of me every second of the day. i didn’t feel like my self-confident self anymore. i felt ugly and disgusting. one morning i was kissing my boyfriend goodbye and tapped his phone screen to see how late i was running. on his phone was a notification of a screenshot he had taken being saved and a small picture of what looked like a female in a bikini. of course i opened the notification. that lead to me breaking down and crying and getting more sick. i felt so terrible about myself. why is he saving pictures of other girls??? i get porn. it’s a website you look up and when you’re finished you close out the tab and it’s essentially gone. but why save the pictures? not even of pornstars but other girls he may or may not know. it really hurt my heart. i woke him up, asked about it then asked if there were other girls he talked to, if he’s getting these pictures sent to him, why is he doing this? we have always had a VERY healthy sex life. but was it not enough? i sat there and cried and cried and cried. he said i was the only one and that if there was anyone else he wouldn’t be having a baby with me. i believed him and because i was so late to work at that point i accepted it and left. 
fast forward 6 months. i’m about a month from my due date. we’ve been so happy for months, and so excited about our growing family, so excited to meet our baby. our sex life has been amazing despite me being so far along. as if we were in the early stages of our relationship all over again. everything seemed to be going perfectly.
tonight i plugged his phone into his charger for him, he asked i said sure. like most other phones, his lights up once you connect the charger. i saw something i never expected to see again— that notification “your screenshot has been saved to your camera roll” and a small pretty picture of some perfect boobs. i don’t know what i feel right now. my depression has been coming in waves and i’m back to crying often. but right now i don’t really feel anything. i don’t feel the excitement, the confidence, the comfort and security. i’m just laying here. i haven’t said anything as i don’t know how to express my emotions right now. i’m scared to confront him because i don’t want to get so riled up i go in to active labor (i have been having on and off contractions all day). i don’t want to be confrontational, but i don’t want to be passive either. i need advice. i’m so stuck. what should i do?",2.197452188695284,4.343772909760592,3.4117817679558016,89.20069857628559,78.65009208103129,6.09220852812013,23.333652075364785,7.1686216300943375,0.8498672899844175,2122,70,435,26,52,687,242,543,0.099,0.733,0.16699999999999998,0.9921,0,0,1,0,0,0,60.0,6,5,0,6,28,31,3,1,22,0,48,10,2,3,7,83,93,44,0,11,15,0,7,3,0,4,3,3,0,5,20,30,1,1,11,0,0,11,14,11,0,3,31,17,69,20,60,51,10,69,0,5,6,5,51,31,1,11,30,290,89,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517578696734625,0.06819442135867078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401250288214544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588517728097264,0.0,0.07629457975372696,0.05379173222860318,0.07882459055778418,0.12661481779445524,0.0,0.2157594510781677,0.0,0.0,0.059154957518667076,0.0,0.09379247796876783,0.0,0.0,0.08667455154749447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626898375120249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225237925805591,0.14884180617998882,0.0,0.132520593587131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426572600131815,0.08653667979109618,0.0,0.07948997510665327,0.0,0.050811999967445336,0.0,0.06481743040712581,0.0,0.06914035014722271,0.0,0.07252341468846482,0.0,0.15559388810622654,0.05495930547012157,0.14773106736366984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077245641373816,0.0,0.13116446430737094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818941577181559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116324662031744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235590249953839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683729785249276,0.0,0.17356235467369846,0.0,0.08358542763281977,0.0,0.10867685312422933,0.11275335823582144,0.0,0.0,0.06808124617762812,0.12920482035819175,0.08606577208625292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30702674282281023,0.0,0.0,0.057043137208155674,0.059333696328156174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192868179992092,0.10426046284559563,0.05850926187077004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544875015587172,0.0,0.0,0.07826617616428448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856754913281747,0.0,0.0,0.08259477831158188,0.0,0.1970951852678352,0.2195361300445279,0.0,0.07702104859240877,0.0,0.12260761087721432,0.07003481744012248,0.16051099033783894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05922500921880125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250627169861107,0.0,0.0,0.061833980347676114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269517640925659,0.1361271552895498,0.0,0.0,0.09368086397142804,0.0,0.0,0.2082539653273624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600646382110426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Andyp023,2020/01/18,"I had an idea for how to make young children feel better when sick- no idea if it would work. Sugar pills. Random idea popped into my head:

If when you're young child says they don't feel good, you could give them a sugar pill. You could tell them it's medicine, and if the symptoms keep going, you could give them the real medication. Because of the placebo effect, this might make them feel better, but only if the issue is in their head.",6.001724137931035,5.883012620689659,5.437379310344827,87.07055172413794,66.47126436781609,7.419770114942527,24.29655172413793,5.6839178017228535,0.4825558620689647,346,6,71,1,5,105,61,87,0.063,0.892,0.045,-0.1414,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,6,4,3,3,0,0,6,0,8,9,2,4,0,25,17,9,0,8,5,0,3,0,0,2,5,1,0,2,3,2,2,1,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,6,11,3,5,11,0,7,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,6,4,43,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283697466852446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26938323471122017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36478296583232095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310131818913828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29218845635315505,0.08655215794148438,0.12773693461760335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125950465187283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5157639761880909,0.0,0.15895531023711618,0.0,0.1353658548345586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033147802885328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342012635757213,0.0,0.16155980768006878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158264069743311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334384956127202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111025683151652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582917200360116,0.0,0.0,0.13311161960789314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087180498130933,0.0,0.0,0.10818524822959533,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zioladeamerica,2020/01/18,Is 13 to young to babysit? He is a very mature teenager and my 19 month old adores him and is a very good sleeper. Im thinking of taking on a 12a to 6a 4 minutes down the road. We need this but I'm not sure if I'm pushing and its too early for this. Help!,-0.9463841807909574,0.6237259152542407,1.6449999999999996,100.78298022598871,86.45762711864407,3.9333333333333336,20.002824858757066,3.1291,-0.7384937853107347,195,6,51,0,6,67,46,59,0.040999999999999995,0.785,0.174,0.7893,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,1,10,8,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,7,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766048465963231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210454047708436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35622031558466294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632282288599743,0.0,0.0,0.2445286009594433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460499222540908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31081490336951073,0.0,0.2479544407025482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113104940906345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5442080990322891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mcorra59,2020/01/18,"Book suggestions for a 5 YO that's starting to read Hey guys, as the title says, my son is 5, he is learning how to read, I've always read to him since he was a baby, but I feel like the books we have are no longer of much interest to him, a couple of days ago I went to Barnes & Noble to the section according to his age, but I just couldn't find something interesting, that's why I came for your advice, he likes super heroes, astronomy and dinosaurs, or if you recommend something different is great too, I just don't want him to lose interest in reading, we also read in English and in Spanish haha so any of those languages is very welcomed, thanks in advance for your help",14.045652173913048,6.094060594202901,13.085289855072466,62.69576086956522,59.0,16.118840579710145,48.99275362318841,11.20814326018867,5.33571884057971,534,20,108,8,4,178,94,138,0.062,0.627,0.311,0.9934,1,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,2,3,0,4,6,12,0,0,6,1,9,0,0,1,0,17,15,10,0,3,6,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,3,2,15,11,19,11,2,12,0,1,0,0,19,5,0,2,6,67,18,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403248282362935,0.12729325291912813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483733475231915,0.1194871890840864,0.15559117223852487,0.0,0.09765332106134107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642408119046837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588913143282183,0.0,0.092610496584753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003204594283978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726087697379447,0.10258828555304232,0.0,0.0,0.13124833178517326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583201502755186,0.0,0.1421871545275107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625244415706423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403119831156937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065232134215404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556295177552352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7181972193417271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419694771336697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878788660781933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22110148975310576,0.0,0.0,0.10164123211726324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322081239501152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848552046632885,0.08469934471763975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311917958741973,0.12957719097676446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jesuswasnotwhitenope,2020/01/18,"How do I turn my 2.5 year old from a snack eater, to a meal eater? Has anyone struggled with this? I have to admit, it is part my fault and the schedule we've had since he was 15 months, mixed with being a new mom and not knowing anything about babies/toddlers in general. Also, how do I not create this habit with my 7 month old that just recently started on salads? 

I have followed the saying ""toddlers will eat when toddlers are hungry"" and I mostly go along because if hasn't pooped, he won't eat unt he has room to eat, lol. Is that wrong? Please help! He turns 3 in the summer and will start pre-k next year. 

I'd like to add, when he eats, he eaaats lol. Is it like one of those things you have to show kids that age? To show them meals are a thing?",1.966606621226873,3.386276955696204,2.8170886075949357,96.51277020447908,76.91139240506328,5.367867575462512,19.74878286270691,5.369823440869387,-0.4068642648490752,581,12,135,2,13,183,103,158,0.063,0.8190000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.8243,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,1,7,2,19,9,1,2,0,19,27,10,0,1,4,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,1,10,9,8,0,2,2,0,2,4,3,0,1,2,1,10,2,16,21,2,22,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,2,18,78,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433081176955863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996598478150916,0.0,0.11764981740096996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715147325428813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5851645167549655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812515498794645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582789516158656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857102979422734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969309689408213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744144733359492,0.22823009729529484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807860489414497,0.1520472305925436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000400366143621,0.0,0.09687826930207932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481953685746774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693504454625004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116285438448134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136932493412071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826393858368428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238582865560906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494603505573263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18996209933793204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110145016116938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631218105856295,0.0,0.18413236853641374
parenting,User0728,2020/01/18,"Help. My 14 year old is texting inappropriate things to boys and is smoking weed. So we just moved to a new town about 6 months ago. Right before the start of the new school year. She is in 8th grade. Before we moved, as early as age 12, I knew she was messaging boys.  Mostly just lots of I love you’s and silly romantic memes, but sometimes sexually explicit content. Not of herself until very recently. Every time I caught her I would take away all access to the internet and every form of communication with the outside world, ground her, and then slowly start giving things back under very close supervision. Each and every single time after a while she would fall back into her old ways. No amount of punishment could make it stay gone forever. 

Her 14th birthday was yesterday. I had noticed recently that she was wearing a lot of tank tops and would have her hair ridiculously high on her head. I would walk in her room unannounced and find her on her PS4, seemingly just playing a game but her top pulled down low enough to see her cleavage. Tonight I go in there to find the same thing. I tell her to give me the PS4 camera and to hand me her phone without touching it. 

I go through her phone to find sexually explicit content of herself. All taken within the last month and a few videos of herself and friends taken this past weekend smoking weed. I have reason to believe that was the first time she had ever smoked because I really don’t let her go many places. Since we moved I’ve been trying very hard to let her have friends and hang out. I had a normal childhood and was given much more freedom than I’ve ever allowed her and I wasn’t doing this stuff. I also didn’t get a cell phone until college and smart phones weren’t even a thing. 

I don’t know what to do. Putting her in a bubble will not equip her to become an adult. I also don’t want to be a grandma before I’m 40 or have a kid that is not a functioning member of society. What the hell do I do?  I was actually scared tonight that after I confronted her with everything I knew that she could possibly take her own life. Teenagers are pretty melodramatic and I could see her thinking that she would never be ungrounded so she might as well kill herself. I did not come down on her harshly or even yell. I just told her that she knew how much trouble she was in. She said yes ma’am.  I then asked her if she felt she needed to go to the ER for anything. She said no. 

I can’t ground her forever. I can’t let her continue to do the things she’s doing. I feel so helpless.",3.5674505928853755,5.170519924901188,4.315041501976285,86.6569100790514,73.0711462450593,7.2734387351778675,25.693478260869565,7.908726449838941,1.3723527272727276,2006,66,407,28,40,642,250,506,0.087,0.81,0.10300000000000001,0.625,2,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,3,1,0,3,19,16,5,1,24,1,50,6,4,4,7,77,86,34,1,12,14,0,6,0,2,7,1,3,1,5,19,25,0,0,12,4,0,15,16,9,2,1,27,11,80,7,54,44,16,83,1,2,2,1,73,27,1,8,39,291,99,4,0.0,0.0,0.07356485625501959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682422738865612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057066646056384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062035407050155665,0.0,0.07047477067695115,0.0,0.07082666078608935,0.11593277730454965,0.0,0.04595397798132022,0.08325677660948698,0.1924411711769328,0.08493304622318834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649374765673916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180566293114058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778928256273007,0.0,0.09958212335400153,0.1363800423749628,0.19054526552076,0.0,0.0677511501368852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03811690586979952,0.0,0.07238139309047413,0.0,0.20670149045133554,0.06412241692596249,0.0,0.0,0.1164844815601424,0.0,0.03938553539709165,0.14463226465092044,0.17137206267137134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753012595484383,0.0,0.07736672772934364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05052895630809243,0.07964835967040622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340230003315892,0.0,0.04142960799524892,0.061448812004209735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23125871777445656,0.05324663367155108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817921131275495,0.06803787860234123,0.0,0.05032005281309483,0.07642852738673209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997154012509368,0.0,0.0,0.1203431275932734,0.2403668784723324,0.110833253632806,0.05589700001575619,0.058141536158632524,0.14561454745539246,0.0,0.0,0.07386126480281018,0.0,0.08582628793217212,0.15820768968369092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196348380096995,0.0,0.0,0.07876124872100801,0.0,0.0,0.08498522681467402,0.0,0.07669361582137349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578271626452586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04829354209012909,0.07750830445389521,0.14886712662302784,0.0,0.0,0.06437835243773203,0.14341673880684974,0.0,0.07547350593066428,0.07629361419720428,0.12014412184461032,0.06862764537772133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06235922614643155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455766286566178,0.0,0.10671573946471977,0.08035034767342976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862977548925652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133602312488257,0.0,0.06588978646018838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504121216858251,0.048303644829966866,0.0,0.0,0.13187274661681392,0.0,0.0,0.07203356933568253,0.0,0.05118144619420402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660148547548308,0.044464008431598624,0.05983708026191473,0.0,0.0,0.06778014135273218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266842090938602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26775659874729,0.0,0.0,0.09709089810428832
parenting,rodogg85,2020/01/18,"My 4 year old’s a crybaby Help! My boy is about to be 4 next week and he has become such a crybaby. He cries very often. If he doesnt get his way hes crying, it could be the littlest thing. If something is wrong like his toy breaks a little he starts getting emotional then the tears begin. I dont know what to do, is this yet another phase? Whens the dude gonna grow up!?",0.9121428571428574,2.252931085365855,3.0810104529616744,93.8376829268293,79.60975609756099,6.636933797909408,20.25087108013937,7.447530270364453,0.3432627177700347,287,7,70,4,7,98,62,82,0.14400000000000002,0.773,0.083,-0.7135,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,17,5,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,4,13,0,14,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,10,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22969747865186765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24192820662631576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748969923699399,0.0,0.4812416107237064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25672994714923913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464065450314767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22889360683103616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682744492564606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038648590173424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070188406837235,0.21954990404693106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329666777954313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22986058431732906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686386620828466,0.0,0.0,0.1550477241546181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552990875709504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807426957633221,0.0,0.17387506587506288,0.17571210454513495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395014324052882,0.0,0.141063753694689
parenting,GrandfatherSam,2020/01/18,"Punishment Help So, I'm not the parent, but I made a Reddit account just so I can ask a question for my Mom.
So my Brother (16) was planning to meet up with a girl secretly, without any of our parents knowing, and of course he got caught before he went.
Messages were sent that were highly sexually explicit, including one of choking.

I don't have much information, since I'm taking this all off of my Mother's Facebook account, but what would be an acceptable punishments? Would he be untrustworthy?",6.295567375886524,7.143633946808514,7.090212765957446,72.13333333333334,65.91489361702128,10.09645390070922,36.94326241134753,10.125756701596842,3.991168794326241,397,20,68,9,6,132,73,94,0.10800000000000001,0.841,0.051,-0.7476,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,4,3,2,0,5,0,10,0,0,1,2,17,20,6,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,2,3,3,2,0,1,8,0,7,1,10,8,2,6,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,1,0,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569234697136808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21403527634400085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481770500833973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831104610504564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345887645880002,0.2418959084031073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582371692607466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166359329780715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26814088253864754,0.0,0.0,0.16830296744165746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514094654068586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084388494386279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564739200146448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893879763302968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214024386813306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122368934472753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206974978623014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252758798946985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,indigo_green,2020/01/18,"Crying in front of your kids Do you allow yourself to cry with or in front of your kids; If they are emotional about something going on with them? Sometimes I can’t help it....And then afterwards I feel guilty for crying and giving context and advice based on personal life experiences....

why do I feel this way? Is it because I didn’t have emotionally available parents? I’m honestly curious.",3.9792172211350314,6.572927547945207,4.964814090019573,78.04178082191783,74.89041095890411,8.007045009784736,29.606653620352247,8.841846274778883,2.8374242661448137,313,14,53,7,7,102,55,73,0.14800000000000002,0.675,0.177,-0.1877,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,9,12,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,2,9,1,11,11,0,10,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,2,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900822574591903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857731501193824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6410117903426837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376166345916556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027744976369185,0.0,0.0,0.1967098629172371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866008815751875,0.11054994557755707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038235714445995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739491403254134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599094553329126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984697209771946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975065648785318,0.19238481334018948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544005682923873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552364243488622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beeonerom,2020/01/18,"My almost 8 yo daughter is very clingy and emotional Hey parents, I’m a parent too and in need of some advice. 

I’m (31 F) married, and have two kids (9 yo son and 7 yo daughter). Back in 2017 when my daughter was 5, I went through a traumatic experience with our dog who I was extremely bonded with. The event put me into a depression and gave me debilitating anxiety, PTSD and several ER trips due to anxiety attacks out of my control. I cried everyday for 54 days straight, lost 8 lbs the first couple weeks and needed my mom to help get my kids to and from school. It was the most difficult experience of my life yet. 

I was as open about that situation as it unfolded taking into consideration my kids’ ages, as I could be. They understood why I was hurting and really showed me the most patience and love a 7 and 5 year old could at the time. They really are such awesome kids. 

To this day, I have been on medication for depression, GAD and going to therapy for my PTSD. Again, my kids are aware I struggle with my mental health and understand mommy is taking care of herself. Lately however, my daughter has grown more and more clingy and emotional and there are days on end she is completely glued to me. I am fully aware this could be her way of dealing with what *I’m* going through whether she understands it or not. I spend a lot of time with her as I’m the parent responsible for school mornings and after school pick ups. We play games, draw, watch movies together, play outside etc and I obviously make sure I do the same with my son. 

I have noticed myself asking for some alone time- the clinginess can be a bit much especially on days my anxiety is particularly elevated (usually from everyday stressors) and it almost upsets me I have to ask. I don’t want her to continuously hear “mommy needs a break” because I’m not actually pushing her away. Another thing she’s doing is baby talk. She started speaking very early, just before she turned 1 she could form full sentences. When she’s talking to anyone other than my husband and I, she sounds like a full on teenager. But when she speaks to me or my husband, she regresses like 3 years. We have been asking her why she speaks like that and she doesn’t have an answer- just shrugs and gets a bit shy. I don’t pry too much because I don’t want to embarrass her, but I’ll gently ask her to use her big, almost 8 year old voice. 

Should I be concerned something has affected her deeper than I think? I worry that during my mental health episodes, something in her little mind changed and it kills me to think it will have a long lasting effect. I will be bringing this up to my own therapist, but I am looking for some advice or insight. Maybe ways we can have a deeper conversation where I can better understand why she’s behaving this way. Thanks so much.",4.521297814207653,5.873471546448088,5.560564207650273,79.64182991803283,70.3296903460838,8.768688524590164,29.38984517304189,9.188382445141503,2.5002389435336974,2225,86,426,45,40,735,269,549,0.07200000000000001,0.852,0.076,0.2795,5,1,2,0,0,0,58.0,4,0,2,5,16,20,2,3,20,0,48,5,0,6,2,85,87,38,1,10,11,12,0,3,0,3,4,6,0,5,17,36,0,1,10,4,1,8,6,10,1,2,11,8,79,10,58,64,19,67,0,4,2,1,65,21,0,12,37,287,96,3,0.0,0.0,0.06617070777056817,0.0,0.0,0.13252214769922355,0.0,0.0,0.20369938572696814,0.07022851208365223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110247262573705,0.1556185237948902,0.0,0.0,0.047412845085961317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25356485110207194,0.07714125057554487,0.06370773371723529,0.0521400728457637,0.0,0.08267010642570459,0.0,0.057699510106796977,0.0,0.0,0.05997055796570337,0.14805728193082865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913465103677842,0.0,0.07173174418752105,0.0,0.07109527024904723,0.0,0.07605230128128114,0.2165562928299262,0.07502812756011568,0.07448377024788408,0.17492188746864706,0.06990694504455389,0.1168056523583241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254947268669597,0.060057653687303064,0.0,0.07562370845484484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265823248563482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05767734660204521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085363544010166,0.0,0.07707355968831282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415320748648838,0.07642440691723419,0.0,0.04545019146403145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258973610537217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750193707135918,0.0,0.0,0.055272470972873,0.07649024017228999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04789470972705517,0.0993825126180682,0.06796130777795623,0.0,0.06000783846411744,0.0569415398817087,0.0,0.07402030915563527,0.05764783325774171,0.06119925751935008,0.0,0.04526228527045693,0.0,0.06812212770309513,0.0,0.0,0.06830930358895937,0.13666878539102595,0.0,0.06846662718195462,0.07941576748079363,0.0,0.0,0.14953977777052851,0.15083604760153405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771997188182488,0.14230592342660806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22587787283463145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852756207245391,0.06816564630557083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687892625722403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20587557864462785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766036016803199,0.0,0.0,0.07621889619472252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044036349442012,0.0,0.0,0.04799476523246949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708875170184764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390812277985898,0.0,0.10196617130286648,0.10900280804542786,0.0,0.06242838401929692,0.0775442182971083,0.07873017294310247,0.04504854130031707,0.0868971008443712,0.0,0.0,0.11861795731692147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375550001649314,0.06623844418278453,0.21177117790286493,0.0,0.05856423553277468,0.07468079807042738,0.11189720194788072,0.07998968686993484,0.16146821268008762,0.054391389826122134,0.0,0.0,0.06285858247828159,0.18355818984674832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886219183831807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099815127829811
parenting,srv524,2020/01/18,"4 yr old suddenly doesn't want to go to bed (separation anxiety?) Literally within the past week our son doesn't want to go to bed. No changes in sleep patterns, habits, naptime, nothing. He used to go to sleep and play in his bed for about 10 or 20 minutes before falling asleep. Couple times he'd knock on his door to go to the bathroom or get another toy out but eventually he'd fall asleep.

Yesterday he had a late nap, my fault, but didn't end up going to bed UNTIL AFTER MIDNIGHT when I made him sleep on the couch with me since he kept opening his door and running out into the living room. Today I tried to hold him off his nap but he slept aboit 30 min to an hr late this afternoon when I didn't notice him sleeping.

Honestly don't know what brought this about. No nightmares that he's told us about, his nightlight and music are on, everything is the same. I think separation anxiety is hitting him hard because he also has a hysterical breakdown if we go in the basement or even open the side door to take the garbage out or get the mail. Like hysterical crying, shouting, screaming, running outside to us when it's 20F outside.

We've tried comforting him, speaking in a firm tone, you name it. I was expecting separation anxiety at some point but not out of the blue.",5.866071428571433,6.027450607142861,6.414380952380958,78.99728571428574,66.73809523809524,9.577142857142855,33.86349206349206,9.3871,2.946975873015873,1011,43,199,18,15,330,152,252,0.106,0.845,0.049,-0.8187,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,4,1,0,0,8,6,0,0,14,0,13,7,7,2,0,34,33,17,0,4,10,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,9,0,6,12,0,2,2,4,0,11,8,2,0,0,9,5,24,4,37,21,2,49,0,0,1,0,28,21,0,6,18,114,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566578935819857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543949820676226,0.2745433290240061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292360085228836,0.0,0.10179389446370317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654966366277198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236516713101154,0.13140480801029658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595414848180472,0.0,0.0,0.07901260494186624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751316962971083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500049783801856,0.0,0.4079212000066789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716243004332636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574395361682049,0.0,0.26988927362432424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844378333112606,0.0,0.10563296591964293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131941026493032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147854776549322,0.13619630418814688,0.12552857142145418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419765163257985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308632451701442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895681542103818,0.0,0.4788541768086922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994472969753313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665224796693451,0.0,0.0,0.06975555370845554,0.0,0.11339255142181905,0.11430886919814025,0.0,0.16243796586341924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877934664709394,0.10331944933564452,0.0,0.0,0.1411183860721138,0.0,0.0959576846570521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thumbooktoo,2020/01/18,"20 month old - unresponsive to name My daughter is 20 months old. She is still unresponsive to her name being called. She will look up if I call out her favorite toy’s names, but not her’s. She also does not simple follow direction like - ‘Come here’  or ’Bring it here’.  She says ‘No’, ‘Oh no!’ quite a lot, but has never said ‘Yes’ , nor does she nod or gesture for yes. On the other hand, she is quite verbal -  has said up to 90 words, makes different animal voices, names common colors, body parts, knows 1- 10,  sings a few rhymes (does not get most of the words in them). She is really into books and music; will completely ignore anyone when she is flipping through a book. She will often take our finger and bring it to a picture in a book when she needs to know something. She makes eye contact and has no problem playing games  with us parents & grandparents, but is generally standoffish in her day-care. She does join in if the class is singing or reading a book (I probably should add that she is the youngest in that class and noticeably small in size compared to other kids).

Today, her day-care teacher bought it up to us that she doesn’t really respond to her name being called. When I searched online, I found that it could be a sign of Autism. As you can imagine, we are quite concerned and thought asking for advice here might be a good start.  Has anyone else experienced similar?  Appreciate any input. Thanks.",4.976080792386874,6.1866367343173465,5.125399106622648,83.72025636045835,69.11070110701107,8.066886774130898,26.80928335599145,8.371475516178862,1.6851874538745388,1109,34,215,16,19,348,159,271,0.036000000000000004,0.86,0.105,0.9618,3,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,4,1,1,3,9,6,0,0,12,2,25,4,4,2,1,48,45,19,0,6,11,2,2,1,0,5,0,4,0,1,10,11,0,1,5,10,1,4,8,2,0,0,5,10,31,4,27,30,4,29,0,0,3,0,44,13,0,9,13,138,41,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581200806164492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865931506442239,0.0,0.11732360251673188,0.0,0.07363553638554557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151426714207731,0.1109478004557369,0.0,0.0,0.10122913993914777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202769948632916,0.0,0.0,0.3317043708249249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327543516059296,0.11353171434877192,0.0,0.0,0.08645444025977833,0.0,0.0,0.1396659840512007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313174050764947,0.0,0.0,0.3790335571087562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045579423987488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872572595342196,0.0,0.0,0.05657292440959144,0.0,0.0,0.09082188219233713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901801297373225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052901161095963586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092968657104153,0.0,0.0,0.09205756325725872,0.0,0.0,0.1445582757923903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487018898693495,0.0,0.0,0.17285946710910546,0.0,0.0,0.08028979991593099,0.08351382549449189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327988055993636,0.22724768317234714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023444994553292,0.1172589546970855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674641046932566,0.10361133917697644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455140038088842,0.10831139566388263,0.0,0.13873656298388382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600213356980687,0.08611026647197981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336084536943839,0.0,0.0,0.07664262274440291,0.0,0.0864742193368574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141465805701839,0.0,0.0,0.09969160306876028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859638866082555,0.0,0.0,0.102638763063329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605000508931225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bridiacuaird,2020/01/18,"Husband’s matter-of-fact labelling of “fat people” in front of 4 year old rubbed me the wrong way. My husband and I had a disagreement today. He calls me too sensitive, whereas I’d probably call him *insensitive*. 

None of us have a weight issue, so it’s not like it’s personally degrading or anything to anyone in our household, but I am worried about the effects of using the word ‘fat’ may have on our kids. 

It came about when I was prepping my lunch. I’m a nursing mom so sometimes I have big whopping meals ! Today it was a chicken salad sandwich along with a sort of poutine I made with homemade gravy, homemade fries, and a few slices of mozzarella cheese. Yah, not the healthiest, and I’m aware of that. Husband asked me jokingly if I was trying to “get fat”. Now I didn’t take offence personally, but like I said, my four year old was within earshot and my two main concerns were:

1) his own perceptions of his body based on his father loosely kidding around/poking fun at the thought of being fat (an undesirable thing in his father’s eyes), and;

2) that my son will be judgmental of others for not having a specific, familiar-to-him body type. 

My husband scoffed at my concern and matter-of-factly explained to our 4 year old that some people are “skinny”, and the opposite of that is “fat”. Our son just casually agreed. But I think husband sort of dumbed down the actual issue. 

Am I being overly sensitive? Can using the word “fat” be used matter-of-factly or is it still degrading when used by people of normal weight? Just looking for other people’s perspectives :) thanks.",4.819497290788681,6.2446749172185445,5.66628537025888,78.88791089704998,69.69536423841059,8.272366044551475,30.2835641180012,8.710501217029153,2.498478145695364,1243,50,223,21,22,407,167,302,0.1,0.838,0.062,-0.8804,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,5,0,0,1,11,10,1,0,16,1,23,16,10,6,0,39,40,17,0,2,11,10,3,2,0,2,6,1,0,4,12,11,13,0,5,2,0,2,5,4,0,2,11,6,30,6,34,23,5,26,0,0,2,0,30,11,1,7,14,147,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.10786004387786363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728422021837214,0.0,0.09095568274089247,0.09839395513033623,0.1033293918382347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24554488438458286,0.0,0.0,0.2257242722008537,0.12641536023326946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577466713366084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23072644310267476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079974562041788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928162505289988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458490575616798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944984954328329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829463507531854,0.0,0.0,0.3479437577899294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065066684773278,0.19301875328537726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916860698751378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513808174179247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931568683072802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882683434743683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310380893097181,0.0,0.0,0.1017599549167958,0.0,0.0,0.073430341082843,0.07082231266462198,0.0,0.08774742261587558,0.0,0.0,0.2095365222452316,0.0,0.0,0.07504171574946407,0.0,0.10797045606234736,0.0,0.13295238825893627,0.3818451533654725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773251836719234,0.0,0.26918830167604785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224723572490626,0.0,0.0,0.12084575618544376,0.0,0.21353053066603056
parenting,neraha,2020/01/18,"Teenage son and Oppositional Defiant Disorder making me question my sanity. My middle son started acting different in middle
school. It started with being disrespectful when I dropped him off in the morning for school. I chalked it up to typical teenage hormones/insecurity issues. It continued and  I didn’t get angry with him but instead discussed it with him. He argued. Over the years he’s gone from being disrespectful to hurtful to verbally abusive. He’s 18 now. He is a bully to me and his younger siblings. I’ve decided that I can’t be home alone with them and him when my husband works late. 

He is very particular about everything. The clothes he wears. The foods he eats. What he listens to. He’s a very detailed artist. He has a condition where he chokes on food for no discernible reason. He has Irritable bowel syndrome and acid reflux regularly due to his diet. 

He watches YouTube a lot, masters video games, designs board games, teaches himself to play instruments, designs his own alphabet fonts and even adds new letters that he makes up. He used to write in mirrored lettering and has been diagnosed with dysgraphia by a psychometrist. 

He thinks everyone is less intelligent than him except for those he admires. 

He got kicked out of 10th grade  for a nasty text to a former girlfriend who to be fair was antagonizing him. 

He graduated alternative school a year early, won drafting technician student of the year and he is on track to graduate tech school this May with two drafting certificates. 

He is successful at work. He’s worked  at a theme park for two years. 

At home he yells, insults and physically intimidates his 9 year old brother and 5 year old sister. She’s actually his niece as she’s his older brother’s daughter that we are raising. He lectures them on doing things right. Being clean. He tells them God isn’t real, although me and my 9 yo are Catholic. He tells his sister that her parents are losers. He talks about drugs and uses really bad language. 

Other times he plays rough with them and laughs at their  screams because, and this is true, they come back for more with their own comebacks and toy weapons. He uses a fake evil  laugh and chases them around the house. He is genuinely having a good time and when they cry when he goes too far he says it’s just an act. They are only doing it for attention from me and to get him in trouble. No matter how I say it to him he doesn’t see it from their perspective. He says they are just weak. He defends himself completely. 


I know this sounds awful. 

Anyway other times he is loving and docile and takes time to teach them
To play chess , draw with them or walk them to the store to get ice cream and snacks. He plays video games with him. He teaches them how to exercise properly. He seems genuinely interested in what is happening in their lives and whether they are doing the right thing. 


He loves animals. 

He comes to me and cries about how bored he is and how no one loves him. 

He affectionate one moment and then pretends to jab me in the face  the next. 

He has attempted suicide once over his girlfriend but it was only ibuprofen. 

He drinks and smokes pot now. 

I have taken him to see a child psychologist for about a year and she discharged him because she said that there was nothing wrong with him. Two psychiatrists said there was nothing wrong with him. A therapist said that he seemed fine. This is because when i explain the things he does he says the most rational and sane things and it makes me sound like I’m just overreacting to his typical teenage mischief. They find him intelligent, reasonable, well spoken and successful. 

WTH?",4.617142419914302,6.902251269230771,4.770310140787597,81.62097633136095,71.81065088757397,7.975678432972863,29.554580697816768,8.74248658614541,2.4586856559885737,2902,121,525,56,58,906,329,676,0.155,0.718,0.127,-0.9766,3,1,3,0,0,1,67.0,1,0,19,9,28,34,4,0,27,1,41,17,3,12,1,85,75,46,1,0,8,9,1,1,2,1,5,12,3,1,30,48,6,0,12,15,1,6,7,14,1,5,13,18,70,20,76,56,6,67,0,2,4,3,137,27,0,7,34,317,100,19,0.0,0.08405727740820731,0.06923130643829205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347679667605397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315538001280098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455171151283186,0.05923544456760064,0.12974077950976312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222429481766953,0.07438364507133505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585774722525156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200687074108063,0.0,0.07412159043394559,0.08130820076470748,0.0,0.062083748457041364,0.0,0.0,0.06949830832725015,0.08227274996944331,0.07259362895270734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04685797572822867,0.0,0.0,0.06779022438696486,0.06376007342980952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484171453227787,0.0,0.1715720191225639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119625086440092,0.0,0.0,0.059504629948173474,0.05674055848654476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273572272569851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423256362566149,0.0,0.0,0.08186008290530825,0.0759472345680582,0.0,0.0,0.0740473140542487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03898907756707108,0.0,0.08002814893966935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034659753121804575,0.0,0.06264502931912226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06031422277676525,0.19208973398661114,0.0,0.1420674153518801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851835149252825,0.07544996270198524,0.0,0.0,0.13614574864011328,0.0,0.14888800988635745,0.07555325879095638,0.09614725341578463,0.10791252359181476,0.0,0.0,0.07877513962857254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947374156222782,0.0,0.0,0.08075003250088854,0.045448671847355765,0.14588490891787514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117192019402268,0.20245254388110126,0.2256707047890751,0.0,0.2871972761265921,0.11306668618163945,0.12916987238615782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004293413564148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776014412809905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05334121010375521,0.05702226151632521,0.12401671748709955,0.0,0.0,0.08237168548751726,0.1885286993256247,0.04545817945619484,0.0,0.0,0.1654725366913214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790652760346084,0.0,0.0,0.18381903442313846,0.0,0.1170727915515337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378735683455597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494467000125628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513269376591862,0.0,0.319800176527758
parenting,Farore91,2020/01/18,"Help with angry child My oldest daughter is 5 tomorrow. She was the sweetest most caring and chill child until she hit about 4. Granted alot changed. We got 50/50custody of her older stepbrother and went from having him 2 days a week to every full second week, she started kindy and her younger sister was born. However that was all at the beggining of last year.
Since then she's becoming angrier and angrier. Getting dressed every morning takes an hour. Brushing her hair, anything is a giant screaming match (her end. We do not scream at her. I can count the times I've yelled at her on one hand and I always apologise if I do yell) my partner though he has a deep voice and very occasionally raises his voice (mostly to be heard over her) has never yelled or screamed at her. We've never hit her. Today while asking her to brush her teeth so we could go finish shopping for her party she was literally shaking and pushed herself into a corner as if she was going to he hit. Again we do not use physical punishment of any sort.
I seriously think something is wrong with her and I feel so lost. I've tried so hard to be a patient and kind parent and i just feel like I've completely failed. I don't know what to do. I've tried giving her natural consequences (if you don't get dressed we won't have time to go to the park) I've tried spending more one on one time with her I've tried every calming technic I could find. We even tried a counsellor who gave us calming techniques to help with her anger and they didn't work either. Every day she just seems to be getting angier and angier. She constantly tells me she hates me, I don't care is her answer to everything. I've got a doctors appointment for her for an unrelated issue and I want to bring it up but am unsure how to even beggin to get them to see its not normal behaviour.",3.685862068965516,5.36137164835165,4.671106479727172,83.92906593406595,72.9010989010989,7.76794240242516,26.28798787419477,8.433251757073789,1.7829065176203098,1456,50,284,25,29,474,204,364,0.076,0.8390000000000001,0.085,0.0081,2,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,7,1,2,3,12,17,3,1,14,0,29,4,3,2,3,55,61,27,0,7,11,3,5,1,1,1,1,9,0,3,5,24,0,0,7,1,2,7,10,11,0,4,12,17,54,6,38,40,7,45,0,2,1,0,56,13,0,9,26,185,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647276869959185,0.0,0.0,0.07067161851921888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552027619697049,0.0,0.09715454673067866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477546242513025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191409316137566,0.0,0.10993739964273233,0.0,0.10896192789687237,0.1123045029137283,0.0,0.16594909255067236,0.0,0.0,0.1340442621793042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637021849571973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920454723332168,0.0,0.0,0.1372811286082087,0.0,0.350240494586918,0.0,0.09339983967034032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050937995820244,0.07424304777705562,0.0,0.0,0.0949842968410587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171831878270159,0.099692996371731,0.17718654751774668,0.0,0.16623440910189305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930951419179889,0.10260304954245122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931561038743526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234382207170592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846924867957804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082204476600408,0.057113698240447264,0.0847116126815605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05077182648093754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344489669801378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603045894994228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182307276692644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112639831805639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153948704186636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281366216624003,0.09460815148202928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596668414153315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000547225653097,0.0,0.0,0.07355766607776194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813762129676954,0.0,0.09083381579295333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659005306178238,0.1021044192147072,0.0,0.18179607823649696,0.0,0.09850743084856442,0.0,0.0,0.3527865474590877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250073071007715,0.08975663201087787,0.0,0.08574786204339764,0.0612968377691204,0.0,0.16672250279614131,0.0,0.0,0.09633822767260546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075657625832894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362415337645015,0.0,0.06692339759596873
parenting,jesusgivesmethehorn,2020/01/18,"How do I make the hand off easier for my daughter? I recently separated from my 4 year old daughter's mother. I'm helping out with drop offs to daycare and occasionally still stay the night at her mother's as to help out in the morning. My daughter used to be very trusting and agreeable but has since become very clingy every time it comes for one parent to leave or when she is left at daycare. 

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Do you guys have any advice on how to deal with this? It's very distressing for our daughter and us, and sad to see her go backwards like this. We know it's due to our separation, but we don't know how to navigate it as so to keep her happy.

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It breaks my heart to see her cry at each goodbye, begging for one more hug, and not to leave her.

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Regards.",4.1863636363636365,5.196190496815287,4.933051534452812,85.11633468442386,70.78343949044586,7.492530399536768,28.92240880138969,7.686295010490155,1.6498713375796177,616,23,126,7,11,199,96,157,0.094,0.764,0.142,0.8068,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,5,1,0,0,6,6,0,1,3,0,7,3,2,5,0,25,17,15,0,0,4,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,13,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,3,18,4,29,16,2,24,0,1,2,1,23,11,0,1,9,83,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109397640565014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690276657602631,0.41385249551944536,0.07720398830373877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538447037570274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779565626384362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470688169185667,0.0,0.11704398281796115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565354386298187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452146056538892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124121053516281,0.0,0.12085431894187518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453306548125224,0.15219293091405292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091028198872827,0.0,0.0,0.12478574520660332,0.0,0.0,0.24042280592090784,0.12335019019055485,0.0,0.0,0.05546480439991318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757818573837069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065397936415675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913016686555665,0.0,0.15386112490629664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606113193362345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209673607429876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093670809402704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939128184133668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210073966085852,0.0906648467025792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661999946226373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656207226477027,0.0980530814653174,0.0,0.2810213099818327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41385249551944536,0.07310930913292372
parenting,meow823,2020/01/18,"Healthy dinners I live in a household of 6 and make homemade scratch dinners most nights. I am a stickler for healthy meals and my kids (of course) would prefer junk food (pizza, nachos, etc). I rarely have these types of food but on the weekends we sometimes do because  I’m so frustrated with them not eating during the week. I spend a lot of money to feed 6 (3 are teenage boys) and they will continuously snack at a friends house before dinner and then pick at their food and eventually throw it away. I’m ready to just give in and feed them junk so at least I’m not wasting my whole night cooking for it to just end up in the trash. Help!",6.258482142857144,5.733054937500004,5.830491071428572,85.8296875,66.03125,8.251785714285715,32.348214285714285,6.868970318607317,1.7262776785714284,504,18,107,3,7,155,87,128,0.046,0.8190000000000001,0.135,0.8683,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,4,0,4,2,1,0,7,0,6,13,0,2,0,19,11,10,0,2,5,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,8,13,0,1,2,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,11,1,19,9,5,17,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,2,7,65,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705297996200318,0.0,0.0,0.1106436837473639,0.0,0.1544472754337539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857247941842159,0.0,0.0,0.16075944083024754,0.0,0.20242590807840224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6584292257947549,0.0,0.14023021189215631,0.0,0.0,0.17411600967609792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165888803161955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943225003114024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027212504471772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430894932795486,0.0,0.0,0.1211559097640226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406600489971772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17951295695019315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559225806511966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264370482456895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893585162576102,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,orphanmother,2020/01/18,"This is for all the parents... ...running to the grocery for milk or diapers, boomin' underground, death metal, hardcore in your minivan because you don't have the kids. 

You've been rockin' Kid's Bop in car line all week; but right now, this is your time. 

I see you, I feel you, I am you. Got them $uicideBoy$ on blast with the windows down in my lil Honda Odyssey. Self-care. 

Happy Friday!",2.466729323308272,4.52925702631579,3.083759398496241,92.29131578947369,77.42105263157895,5.9218045112781965,25.330827067669173,6.868970318607317,0.9137353383458642,298,11,62,3,7,93,60,76,0.033,0.894,0.07200000000000001,0.5983,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,6,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,0,2,6,9,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,11,1,9,7,2,11,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,1,3,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292742532136472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017341940812107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300810952957521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003779889394366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176276274519216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32119740937957303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29971239731552285,0.0,0.3923666187233633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931380646446416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30169418724152164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwawaygolddigger,2020/01/18,"Unsolicited photos taken by stranger of my 2 year old at beach A Dad looking for advice on this one- 

yesterday I was at the beach with my 2 year old daughter and 3.5 year old son. It’s a popular Australian beach, lots of tourists present. My daughter was happily digging in the sand (might be important to note she was fully dressed). I was standing chatting with a friend about 10 metres away from her when a ~ 50 year old man, in tourist attire, starting blatantly filming her from about 3 metres away. This continued long enough for me to notice, turn to my friend, say “you’ve got to be joking” and approach the man still filming. “Hey! Hey!” “Stop filming” I said as I approached which caused him to look over alarmed with his hands out in apology. I then asked him to delete the video, he informed me he didn’t speak English while still saying sorry. I repeated my request that he delete the video as clearly as possible incorporating some fairly quality charades. This still didn’t get through to him. After about a minute of trying to get through to him I walked away with my daughter in exasperation, I didn’t see him make  any attempt to delete the video

Has this happened to many people on here before? I’m fairly sure the guy had honest intentions but I’m of the mindset that you can’t just start filming toddlers at the beach without some form of parental consent first. Pretty sure he was just documenting “interesting Australian culture” but the whole thing really creeped me out to be honest. How have you dealt with this/ similar in the past? I felt like throwing his phone in the water. Now he has a video of my 2 year old on his phone. 

TL:DR- at beach and random man filmed daughter, when confronted he couldn’t understand me and didn’t delete video.",5.066059701492538,6.7041160238806015,4.923164179104479,83.63280597014928,69.3582089552239,7.748059701492537,31.01194029850746,8.238735603445708,2.2377785074626866,1408,59,263,20,25,434,179,335,0.02,0.8590000000000001,0.12,0.9836,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,2,0,2,13,12,1,1,18,0,19,2,1,4,4,34,37,14,0,1,5,7,3,1,2,1,0,4,0,4,10,11,1,1,3,17,0,4,7,2,0,2,14,10,33,10,57,18,6,53,0,0,3,0,46,19,0,5,30,163,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000319593155987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961314802389804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569943330105307,0.0,0.28853182073786204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710687455251538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515922467827768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577259349902868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828848300977258,0.0,0.0,0.0870734151067682,0.0,0.0,0.15817715711018832,0.0,0.10696518432213782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187233269836829,0.0,0.0,0.1013595372655372,0.09052290107946293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05001140127136056,0.0,0.0,0.0905916748268151,0.17192518834640036,0.0,0.0,0.08702885987267504,0.0,0.0,0.0683308436712258,0.10378418671940967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859533130324736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654563808503635,0.5370853321396389,0.0,0.06936660591345903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366656606949535,0.0,0.09772099365446668,0.07096846781551508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540354040180907,0.0,0.10414415685803037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557899466336864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973745675073861,0.16281287597079064,0.0,0.0,0.08157333656101008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459160351008968,0.14491194072684735,0.0,0.2452515290754101,0.08558349122859163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19295958747546296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800816208937409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950055103784214,0.11134602487271199,0.0,0.10656777612888986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428922734594887,0.0,0.09867824518065524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32960532677226184
parenting,LucipurrHortler,2020/01/18,"Met a mom stranger and it totally turned my day around. I was at a super store looking at high chairs with my husband and my little 4.5mo. deciding if we have enough money to purchase one or if we should look elsewhere, just browsing. We've been pretty tight on money and one of our cars just broke down. While the other is a cross your fingers type of thing.

Suddenly behind us I hear ""do you guys need a booster seat?""

It was a young mom with a 2 year old and a 1.5mo, and she started offering us her wooden highchair, her Bumbo with a tray, and a walker, all for our daughter.

I just looked totally dumbfounded and kept asking if she was serious. 

She said she understands how it is to need things and be a young new parent. Let me tell you, I almost cried right there. 

We stood in that aisle and talked for awhile about life and kids and difficulties. She gave me tips and tricks for my baby, and to basically not sweat it, or think kids have some sort of instruction booklet.

I'm so thankful for just a little bit of humanity. I'm so thankful I got to have that connection with another mom. 

We exchanged numbers and she said she'll bring that stuff by tomorrow. I just wanted to share this amazing little experience that will stick with me for awhile! I just wish I would've hugged her lol",4.521185476815397,5.691310681102365,5.011758530183731,84.26419072615924,70.14173228346456,8.164129483814524,27.103237095363077,8.515128840125781,1.7749289588801402,1019,33,203,16,18,325,151,254,0.05,0.8270000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.9712,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,8,3,0,1,12,9,1,0,12,1,15,4,2,1,3,53,40,23,0,8,12,6,2,0,0,3,1,3,0,4,13,24,0,2,3,0,5,3,1,3,0,2,11,8,36,6,28,24,6,24,0,1,3,1,41,11,0,8,10,141,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639744516061565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188764529704775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347813406876943,0.10866859298132496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690383890459514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276840457595378,0.07496510383926873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010686495254935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370490356962284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296764768128156,0.0,0.0,0.11509575260737614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101078849110592,0.0,0.0,0.12281381117688785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886314886789455,0.08210366215454593,0.0,0.34950867967556104,0.0,0.0,0.2928366606447872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084162142423716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723807906075504,0.0,0.1122651967334818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197419637986495,0.0,0.15753429679761125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907062641566294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825774304625933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926821911819587,0.22114148178714976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227518263060801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306684805842653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342920937051992,0.10159877524525754,0.21403612129960214,0.0,0.0,0.15444921731666816,0.0744818190839303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643560614321925,0.0,0.12100981050373533,0.27964451756812475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856129063151177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367012097313571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257347294029384,0.0,0.0,0.07485466917409091
parenting,The39bus,2020/01/18,"Teacher telling 4 year olds that MLK was shot and died Tonight our 4 year old told us her teacher read a book where a boy was shot and died.  After some back and forth we learned that the teacher read them a book about MLK’s birthday.  That gave us a tiny bit of relief because there’s at least some context for the story, but STILL.  She is 4.

WTF?! So many questions.  If it was in a book, wtf is that book doing in a preschool.  And, why didn’t the teacher skip that part? I’m fine with her learning he died, but shot and died?! 

Or, if it is a misunderstanding and one of the kids brought that fact up and a discussion ensued, why weren’t parents at least notified so that we could help our kids process this information?

I’m so, so angry.  I cannot believe this happened and don’t know wtf to do other than emailing the school director, which we have already done.",3.4409978021978027,4.64710990857143,3.7525714285714318,92.13496703296705,72.77142857142857,6.527472527472527,27.74725274725275,6.67199483983844,0.9973120879120888,674,25,149,5,13,209,103,175,0.17,0.7879999999999999,0.042,-0.9813,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,7,0,1,0,9,2,0,0,13,0,15,0,0,0,1,26,22,17,4,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,13,12,0,0,5,6,0,1,4,0,0,1,9,0,12,2,13,12,6,15,0,0,0,0,24,6,0,6,8,93,25,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520256884163992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593179541960336,0.0,0.08397948375628421,0.0,0.0,0.15521253412645405,0.0,0.0,0.1504022994585572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999311880876723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.571907956383736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098011395468865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182400076881965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092340116174977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571133652630684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967078708180194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891196951722323,0.0,0.09335226060324334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297030549301358,0.14918468151124956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543268927578935,0.0,0.275601997440574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394242373704132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001828307295712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041156162775912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163913618951795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3314255804731365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24862065526142696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743063513558047
parenting,PoppyDoggo,2020/01/18,"5yo son refusing to leave mom and dad Recently our 5yo son has gotten to the point he’s refusing to ride the bus, walk into school or even go to his grandparents house because he wants to spend all of his time with my husband and I. We’ve tried most of the usual things like tough love, attempting to get him to explain why he feels this way, and even bribery but it always comes back to tears and screams anytime we go to leave him. Please say this is a phase or help me figure out how to better understand what’s going on.",7.581775700934577,5.676594280373831,7.09244859813084,82.32895327102806,64.14018691588785,10.802990654205608,32.614953271028035,9.3871,2.4922388785046725,416,12,90,6,5,130,78,107,0.106,0.77,0.124,0.7351,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,1,1,22,13,8,0,1,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,9,0,2,4,0,1,6,0,2,0,0,1,3,9,3,16,12,2,15,0,0,0,1,20,4,0,3,5,49,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980365127471075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476770595876843,0.0,0.1170738509405525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985545241575956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543683019556546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536986606606532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710787079042284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033987269104948,0.0,0.3274447860974944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872921472434742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216036125322373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067132267201105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382749477730283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333551539411396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22493039204519852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081674613748008,0.1815523554128559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962937005472288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272841673579662,0.0,0.19436809626949528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275916153324994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198776804345313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039151920858374,0.0,0.0,0.19993415909120288,0.0,0.0,0.21151947177608102,0.0,0.1132779559901529,0.15244289445733905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732981451713241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,livelovedream1989,2020/01/18,"Nifht time toilet training tips Tips on nighttime toilet training a 6 year old boy please.... We are waking son every 2-3 hours from him going to bed at 7 until 2 depending on what time matt goes go bed and he generally has a small we every time but sometimes between 7-2 we have wet pj or full wet bed and sometimes not and also sometimes from 2-7 we have had wet beds or pj also, we have had a couple of dry night's and im super proud of him for that but his now getting tired and Naughty by 530 due to the regular waking and i dont think its good for him, any parents have any tips at all sorry for the long post and thanks on advance (his 7 in july if that helps) x his been dry during the day since 2 weeks before starting school  so 4 yeara old, his been delayed in a few areas x",3.2524098977945144,3.4965275384615384,4.715427649273803,88.61960731576117,72.43195266272191,6.85551371705218,24.83109198493814,6.1124844417494595,0.6143917159763319,610,16,137,3,11,205,104,169,0.064,0.856,0.08,0.6799,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,7,0,11,3,2,1,1,23,17,16,0,1,6,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,4,12,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,3,13,4,19,13,3,30,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,4,16,74,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24050026072409406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045123149756129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795304529906887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638057041792653,0.0,0.09697564220929952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623148790641832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533849367221409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856165856773085,0.0,0.17091647149006664,0.126122483038253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078925100897013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808329293919326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624244522937618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307193872334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411112321616025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155741917535909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669671119758912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506013797135374,0.0,0.0,0.1440120504073483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15218157653638353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438688934074082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4461567116916201,0.16832591813381784,0.10643203657261084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843968230551396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635045999626086,0.0,0.0,0.2630443280673048,0.17282718242232084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206170373616619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968327827716504
parenting,SassyDictator21,2020/01/19,"What to do for my kids 2and birthday Me and my S/O have been thinking if doing a destination party for our 2 year old. His birthday is in March and we live in ohio so it will either be sunny and nice or freezing with snow. We were going to rent at a rec center so our immediate family can come and go swimming and such but it costs about 150 and were just trying to do something small and indoors. Any recommendations? We want to do something he will enjoy. 
Thanks in advance",2.3017708333333324,4.393556468749999,3.934583333333333,85.85208333333334,78.0625,5.933333333333334,23.166666666666664,6.937597516519254,0.7812791666666667,375,12,75,4,9,125,71,96,0.012,0.838,0.15,0.9194,1,0,2,0,0,0,6.0,5,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,0,0,19,19,12,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,12,0,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,9,3,12,13,1,14,1,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,3,54,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378415868280207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708041716050288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963625232342773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573304039602129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775967788604519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32988117656431365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840387961889227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894320668516017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20143727805787973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343836981076436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854251136023431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20244565712554125
parenting,happy_ly,2020/01/19,"Get the happyly app today. Plan less, play more! Our newly updated app release - happyly helps parents and caretakers find playgrounds, hikes/walking trails, stroller running routes, indoor activities, kid friendly eats and more – all using curated content provided by local parents and caretakers. You can search using location, distance, age, weather and activity types. We only share reviews that we personally experienced and liked. We strive to support your active family lifestyle where you live and when you travel.",9.306160714285717,12.847017437500007,8.337142857142862,55.64500000000004,62.125,11.071428571428573,43.92857142857143,10.914260884657429,6.556107142857144,425,26,45,13,7,132,65,80,0.0,0.795,0.205,0.9485,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,4,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,1,13,5,7,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,9,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,5,2,5,4,8,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,0,5,25,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515161612460741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317196515965245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465799496532926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18990552521950896,0.0,0.12842106837681164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647554739989553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008613125832453,0.0,0.21704710899296864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869430146678004,0.0,0.0,0.5458666554308724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21462427132102305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789324766486325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329909536589631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4245869191651102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrscassar,2020/01/19,"Has anyone here had a 2nd baby after preterm birth due to placenta previa? My first pregnancy was basically a nightmare. 3 years of infertility and hormone treatment, then finally got pregnant. Immediately classed as a high-risk pregnancy. hyperemesis gravidarum landed me in hospital, then at 17 weeks i was diagnosed with placenta previa, which developed into complete placenta previa. from then on i was in and out of hospital several times because I kept getting spontaneous haemorrhages - big ones. The last haemorrhage luckily happened while I was in hospital otherwise my daughter and I wouldn't have survived the ambulance trip - i lost half the blood in my body in a matter of minutes. I ended up needing an emergency c-section. Daughter was born at 30 weeks, thankfully relatively healthy for her gestational age. She spend 5 weeks in the NICU and was discharged with a clean bill of health.

It's been 4 years and i'm still rather traumatised about the whole experience. So is my husband. However, I can't help wanting another baby. I really want to give my daughter a sibling. Don't know if it's even possible since we've been trying for 2 years....even so, I am quite worried about the thought that I might end up with placenta previa again, and that if I do, the baby or I might not survive the ordeal. Has anyone had a similar experience that might offer some hope? thanks  


P.S. My husband and I have discussed this at length and ultimately our decisions are all made together. I am just looking for some different perspectives that might be helpful.",5.889303412809722,8.293192304659499,6.608253077762196,69.29035063113608,68.60573476702508,10.586940938133084,36.861617578307616,10.662846686107436,4.837832351566153,1259,69,196,40,23,413,175,279,0.06,0.853,0.087,0.73,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,5,10,4,0,0,16,0,27,4,2,1,1,37,44,18,0,8,6,5,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,8,13,0,1,3,0,2,1,4,1,0,3,15,1,25,3,31,23,4,39,0,1,1,0,13,16,0,10,22,138,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507525442848338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680639767676175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271184962337036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249295107208864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506258483959706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106647062609005,0.0,0.12462198757806595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21129297021375726,0.0,0.0,0.15756634564771266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23335703481805156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066517376241238,0.0,0.10145932391104164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062318764401492276,0.11442403835267607,0.0,0.0,0.09539894022085546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547871966118057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267888333360727,0.0,0.0,0.1599014507163376,0.12602564142448833,0.0,0.11847174004310128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555305022190329,0.09722894457148128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001649777461663,0.0,0.1302079753154029,0.0,0.0,0.11286541632468232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5061480076513789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844444894836566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082706908134307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447003510487102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268687334415142,0.0,0.0,0.07641368439669716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475220504267085,0.0,0.09866947048702077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525699012199082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963359996980664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469482535126314,0.06955300166701782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098314406409672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070861486876607,0.0,0.2870371452634357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317161986373002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113441131670327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536245411795832
parenting,William23fcd,2020/01/19,"Advice for a struggling 17 year old I know this is a reddit for parents and not kids...but i have a problem involving my own parents and need advice. I never agree with my parents much which is very normal for any teenager. So we end up getting in fights a lot about what i should and shouldn’t be able to do. They still treat me as if i’m a baby. And there is absolutely 0 trust in our parent child relationship. I always feel like they are trying to find a reason to punish me like it’s some kind of game. recently in the past year i’ve gotten in trouble for vaping or lying to them about where i am. I understand they are not good thing to do. Every time i get caught i try to explain to them my reasoning behind it and why i don’t feel as if it’s that bad. But they never listen. I am never asking them to condone my behavior just to listen to where i’m coming from. Instead of working things out with me and trying to understand why i’m not being truthful with them they instead ignore what i say. And then ground me for some unreasonable amount of time. I have done lots of reading on parenting and most of the research i have read shows that putting ur kid on house arrest for months does not change the behavior. and i can’t get them to understand that. Every time they ground me for a month or longer it just makes me more spiteful towards them and doesn’t accomplish the goal of getting the bad behavior to stop. Taking away my social life does not solve any problem is just makes it worse.i lie to them because they don’t let me do things normal teenagers are able to do.i will be turning 18 in about a year. And im still not able to sleep at friends houses on weekends, i still have a 
bed time on weekends, And they rarely let me go very far from my house. i feel as if it’s a game with my mother. I honestly believe she enjoys punishing me. there have been multiple times i have noticed that she has gone through my room just to try to catch me with something. i would love to be honest with them and have a good relationship .but I have no idea how to start a conversation with them about the flaws in how they parents because anytime i criticize how they parents i just end up being shot down and grounded for longer. 
( P.S sorry this is written poorly i’m on the brink of a mental break down)",3.794883983444127,4.9342931321961645,4.533415903674904,87.12906653706257,71.83582089552239,7.308691834942932,26.16085538693089,7.618777277803332,1.2662378778377021,1825,58,378,21,34,586,212,469,0.08800000000000001,0.8590000000000001,0.053,-0.8965,7,0,1,0,1,0,33.0,2,0,19,3,22,24,4,1,20,0,39,3,1,7,4,78,71,29,0,11,18,8,3,2,1,4,1,3,2,2,18,24,0,2,12,7,1,6,15,11,0,0,6,6,64,13,72,54,9,60,0,0,0,1,49,27,0,10,28,271,82,6,0.2004446897655051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305814873194609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055595346391402733,0.0,0.0,0.09087284172122476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246290896219792,0.0,0.0627747947567974,0.0,0.11157529558260793,0.08145948161380329,0.0,0.0,0.07527750829356329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706813012515075,0.057555117215733226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169403325244808,0.06837483684665117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183563333308563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258886415734612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135085783448863,0.04773257547307321,0.0,0.0,0.06106760502797923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05162102336275929,0.0,0.13963210313733165,0.0,0.037972445481141634,0.1120823304942756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312862597701911,0.0,0.07542588551125398,0.07217155380940113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069577433043624,0.0367197198045389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664551721897064,0.047193337411700856,0.0652847670447087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136072715124628,0.060303052798851176,0.0,0.08919892459799944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733370072981748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666202601129204,0.0,0.04911663681308237,0.049542399211893434,0.15459530177031494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092882502190545,0.0,0.07606920261216205,0.07011099449426092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193302495613098,0.0,0.06378237905686014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786566497262242,0.0,0.0671674254697119,0.0,0.0,0.13366595529683714,0.0,0.0,0.13739368339658492,0.06597164977196103,0.14346838831806694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05313388752075928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686314950775041,0.06810937287364333,0.0,0.051437371674333765,0.0,0.07479380651467503,0.04729192769972695,0.0,0.16007538817169364,0.05586024532101131,0.0,0.06984943698366032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050236487018076176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331665452159442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480151755960265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18145171575437335,0.07267542110774759,0.0,0.20866999110754886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025857421510796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058010355752175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04864204047800697,0.0,0.0,0.047463385523437006,0.0,0.0,0.12907980837168492
parenting,TJChance,2020/01/19,"Flu shot So, my brother brought his 11 month old daughter over a couple days after getting her flu shot and now all 3 of my kids are deathly sick. Is this normal? He stated she wasn't feeling well, but said it wasn't contagious.",2.7504347826086963,4.634501652173917,3.5167391304347824,90.33206521739132,75.95652173913044,5.469565217391305,26.71739130434783,5.985473137389443,0.8830173913043478,180,7,36,1,4,57,41,46,0.17800000000000002,0.768,0.054000000000000006,-0.4191,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,1,5,8,3,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,2,5,1,3,4,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,5,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313418228211555,0.0,0.25140946550874754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19711083153904332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20367119144584414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111602766361171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819527055406284,0.0,0.0,0.4090632300526137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708196139974966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505058902080607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sicklymom,2020/01/19,"I’m finding it hard to love my baby Hi there reddit! So I’m new to this whole mom thing, I got to the ripe old age of 32 and after endless speed dating and one night fling things I realised I’m never going to find ‘the one’ so I decided to use a sperm donor instead. To cut a long story short I found the pregnancy hard to say the least- I was scared as to what my family would think as they have always had high expectations of me settling down with some high paid doctor or lawyer, not to mention my job is super busy and involves me moving around a lot and I hadn’t even considered finding enough stability to support this baby, so I just didn’t tell my family partly out of shame and partly out of terror, and the more pregnant I became and the almost endless sickness I was getting... I was beginning to question whether I would make a good mom at all. 

At last I give birth to a healthy baby boy coming out at 6.3lbs, a scrawny little thing that the nurse handed to me and even when his tiny body lay there in my embrace, I still felt the strangeness of my empty arms and it almost felt surreal- like he didn’t belong to me. Like I didn’t have anyone’s permission to have him. I felt kind of detached from him and I knew it wasn’t right. And he was a cryer all right, I know babies cry a lot, but it’s getting to the point where I’m getting angry and frustrated, even thinking about hurting him, which I wouldn’t but the thought comes into my mind and I feel so guilty about it that I cry with him. Sometimes I look at him when he finally sleeps, or when he’s screaming at the top of his lungs and I feel real hate towards him. I know he can’t help it and I want to love him so desperately but I just can’t make myself love him and it hurts so much. I don’t want to ruin this kids life with him ending up in an adoption home or something. I honestly thought I would make a good mom and I’m so stupid to of believed that because I really am not capable at all.",3.839265551959727,4.281122050970879,4.910625674217909,87.03423049262855,71.20873786407769,7.65710176195613,26.42430780294858,7.526774132740827,1.2170520316432945,1543,46,335,16,27,508,200,412,0.157,0.742,0.102,-0.9793,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,2,23,22,4,3,21,0,22,11,5,4,4,78,62,36,0,7,11,3,8,2,0,4,3,2,1,2,18,27,0,0,18,0,1,4,12,11,0,2,19,11,53,11,52,39,13,47,0,3,1,3,33,25,0,9,20,228,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629346623992067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690910862590669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805942658223536,0.0,0.0,0.07391802101236035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05061686306597499,0.0,0.0,0.0935510821762321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223225095167063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430531807539152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824182869614617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849889977157428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073543634191059,0.08579650036394253,0.0,0.16452987063527275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655446278262647,0.0,0.08396914868586844,0.0,0.23917749171187955,0.09095988125844744,0.2276751980418564,0.0,0.0,0.09104268827967968,0.0,0.0,0.13014578973674906,0.07965394788818209,0.04719023581101348,0.13929025479540422,0.06641001595764864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876462445422325,0.0819790582976242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055656057966363456,0.17546033192187438,0.08329004883892416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777796057752961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239860741323109,0.0,0.0,0.08646731678327776,0.09126682332593533,0.06768393595976056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864949420423611,0.08113260846570743,0.0832220583306712,0.0,0.07348263293100002,0.06972779524720779,0.0,0.0,0.14118537441001738,0.22482475745064087,0.0,0.16627787198847474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384084749600881,0.291745870543946,0.0,0.0882521884407591,0.06103967348124499,0.0,0.06404107551653547,0.08019492471315068,0.0,0.07792194939708552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713039998364018,0.0,0.11253221335740808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983584222809532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849413544877779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301728051572077,0.0,0.0,0.09451107091651774,0.05319381943257693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418214654269259,0.0,0.06603210959656929,0.08313169572293322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309414240662512,0.0,0.0,0.06392376545819396,0.08212292335876492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631120030719208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422619905883096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257552980630715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654926510856225,0.10640989456624544,0.0,0.13183972165991312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171486813531576,0.0,0.0,0.09795141683104956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270469231400154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695528904129165,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gw3nhwyfar,2020/01/19,"Where to draw the line between freedom and responsibility I am a pretty laid back person, and my kids are pretty laid back as well. We don't have a lot of drama, which makes me wonder if I am allowing my oldest (16m) too much freedom because of my desire to stay drama free.

My teenager is really passionate about gaming. He even goes to tournaments (and wins woot!), and lately I have noticed him putting his hobby above nearly everything else. He does his schoolwork and makes good grades, but as soon as it is done, he immediately gets on his games. I haven't made a big deal about it because we are a gaming family (he learned to read by playing KOTOR). 

He has even found his tribe through gaming. He is an introverted kid, and we do online schooling, so I had been worried about his socialization for a while, but he found people in the area with similar interests, and we let him cultivate those relationships.
 (There is a gaming center in our area that he goes to. My husband checked it out with him and sometimes goes along if he has the free time, so he knows the people there.)

My issue started about a month ago when we were on vacation. Son asked if he could check out the game scene in the city we were in. He had been talking to people online after finding out where we were going and had been invited to a gaming center. My husband and I talked about it, checked out the center and it didn't seem sketchy at all, laid down our rules (phone on with volume up at all times, don't leave the building with anyone, check in every hour, etc), and let him stay for a few hours while we went to a nearby park with our other kids. 

I might be laid back, but I have anxiety and it showed its ugly head the whole time this was happening. I wasn't sure we had done the right thing, but he was fine. 

Fast forward a month to last night, my husband asks me what I had decided about letting son go to a tournament a couple of cities over. I had not been asked. Son tells me that asking me had slipped his mind since he had talked to my husband about it and he had seemed cool with the idea.

I am miffed, but I let him give me the details and he reiterated that he would follow the rules that we laid out for him before, except this time he is going with a friend. I asked him about his other extracurricular activities (he has a Beta Club speech coming up in February), and he confesses that he hasn't been working on it like he should. My husband and I talk it over and I acquiesced, telling him that he can go as long as he works on his speech everyday for an hour until his competition with the caveat that if I don't see him working on it, he can't go to his weekly meetups.

Am I being too lenient? Should I just let him have is freedom? How would you handle this?",5.920725806451613,5.567007923913046,6.27553062178588,81.78536465638152,66.68115942028986,9.151566152407666,29.219495091164088,8.558390810932622,1.910119144460027,2162,63,448,28,31,698,243,552,0.022000000000000002,0.88,0.098,0.9889,1,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,13,1,0,4,26,13,0,0,31,1,63,2,1,5,3,83,90,39,0,10,12,8,0,1,1,5,0,2,0,4,27,43,0,0,11,13,6,10,9,0,1,0,27,4,68,15,72,50,7,74,1,0,1,1,96,35,0,9,30,316,95,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693242909168003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776267372060965,0.0,0.0,0.052796273234333065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529444166748567,0.0,0.0,0.1741807432626349,0.0,0.0920567732067032,0.0,0.06425092389124765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504262324591285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060286221941194915,0.08354709606104514,0.0,0.0,0.07784443571901585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607671357988629,0.15453982087631948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630764373816575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421030139272814,0.0997433666000322,0.0,0.0636179320565235,0.0,0.06786085271203061,0.0,0.07118131094025303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901206041292332,0.0,0.0,0.16557912915636366,0.05833654654141849,0.0,0.0394493084053404,0.07243322651389293,0.21456193511849114,0.06333171703514691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667706200865355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749199983535712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22307765388380346,0.0,0.0,0.08523824972693786,0.0,0.07880972531012748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04149669076321908,0.061548309841558166,0.08517522229628295,0.07995104579619411,0.0,0.3860552859879697,0.0,0.03688892241040743,0.0,0.0,0.06682134830781013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419337946341032,0.0,0.0714465804906574,0.10080306195575443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801010299399875,0.07624057888907428,0.0,0.120537987030661,0.0,0.05550635734725523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085823566468315,0.0,0.0,0.0859652577471835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704120878119987,0.06592982894186307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363559605090296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759054235412132,0.0,0.0,0.07552746646826937,0.0,0.0483717389313558,0.0,0.0,0.08106629593067256,0.0,0.0644825937831818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641714871916701,0.06016932952607284,0.13747753434566634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062460198125187875,0.0,0.0,0.07696991151509279,0.0,0.0,0.07467838653746163,0.0,0.053444266726390036,0.16096090170603705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711644851951269,0.0,0.0,0.24275877249897304,0.13199295023532592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016351773422489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761150330646567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605671875131862,0.0,0.06788989087041697,0.06999577624226698,0.0,0.08430090604808654,0.0,0.0,0.08188415658313739,0.1649100583462244,0.07668105740584218,0.0,0.10727605995501398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gbsmom,2020/01/19,"3rd grader bullied for having lice then her teacher tells the whole class In 2nd grade my daughter was bullied by a girl who'd had lice telling my daughter that she had lice when she didn't. So now it's 3rd grade and my D has lice. While I'm freaking out over whether the nurse and other teachers are adding to her ostracism I find out her teacher actually told the whole class so they would ""stay away"". I'll admit, she's a hugger, and she's honest to a fault. She told a teacher she couldn't hug bc she has lice so that's how it started. 

Does anyone think this teacher was in the wrong? Doesn't she have privacy rights? The school policy doesn't send kids home for lice, they just inform the parent.",2.8742773892773883,4.618983741258745,3.1679895104895124,93.5745483682984,75.22377622377621,5.605827505827506,23.105477855477854,5.985473137389443,0.2534107226107229,557,16,119,3,12,171,85,143,0.13699999999999998,0.81,0.053,-0.9188,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,0,10,0,15,1,0,1,0,14,21,11,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,7,0,17,2,11,11,2,14,0,0,0,1,26,7,0,0,5,74,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.2019082657603473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467195000033556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943929340300984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106291254283755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891063278115241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20754138458606894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297421881184809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17669471749051324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20939769497742253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644757688345514,0.2205319248601968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616860874267933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325756027268374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954109013868423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620014147832238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469785254838057,0.22621682857398065,0.0,0.0
parenting,shittycinnamon,2020/01/19,"My son can't see his grandma much because her house is unsafe My son has always had a very close connection to his grandma, but now they can hardly see each other. He is 5 years old, in good health but has severe allergies and avoidance is the best way to keep him healthy. His worst allergies are mold, human dander, (I had no idea what human dander was or that people could be allergic to it) milk and bees/yellow jackets. Well grandma (She's 41 fyi) lives like a pig. She doesn't vacuum, mop, dust or wash throw pillows, and her attic is riddled with mold due to neglecting a roof leak several years ago. I am more than happy to clean her house, I want my son to be happy and it's a small price to pay. His allergist said it's okay for him to have limited time there as long as I clean thoroughly and use a HEPA filter, so I did. Well then he got stung by a wasp there because she has lots of them in the yard and one made a nest in his treehouse, no allergic reaction but I was understandably furious. I began inspecting and killing wasps in her yard. When I tried to talk to her about it, she got pissed and bitches me out because it offended her that I asked for help Finn-proofing the house because it's so much work. She thinks I'm overreacting with all of this and doesn't take it seriously. So I kept working my ass off every time he wants to go to Grandma's house because I'd do anything for him. Well last time I let him go there I discovered she has bed bugs and she refused to treat them. So now we only meet up in public and he always wants to go to her house and it breaks my heart that he can't. She's delusional and acts like anything she's too lazy to deal with doesn't exist because it's easier than facing the reality of it, she tells Finn he can't come over because I just won't let him and tells everyone in the family that I'm some schizo freak who keeps Finn from her for no reason. I hate this because my baby is the one suffering in the end",4.274903846153848,4.608167120098038,5.251078431372552,85.36466063348419,70.20098039215686,8.727903469079937,27.211915535444945,8.730908602173464,1.7355675716440422,1547,47,336,25,26,509,207,408,0.18100000000000002,0.688,0.131,-0.9794,0,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,3,4,16,23,6,1,14,1,31,9,4,3,1,48,56,27,1,4,6,3,1,2,0,1,4,1,8,2,19,22,1,7,4,2,2,6,10,12,3,2,11,4,53,11,44,39,9,37,0,2,2,1,54,13,3,4,18,210,72,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742735023902094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943758715435742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790169026629162,0.0,0.07833099240908796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086138248732974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879309237404651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217642477167027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689834673881015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638232559169924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421179386087756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059547506020113,0.08006355918059384,0.0,0.0,0.07898839680564207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428569076347969,0.07027786829823511,0.13402673035556292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838895903323773,0.07505809146653424,0.08272385560233554,0.0,0.08906332050591957,0.0,0.09928984630782374,0.056161705174626236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4834037393655325,0.0,0.09458708477708523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489502428819066,0.0926996266613531,0.0,0.0,0.06829885901598877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135895765746054,0.0,0.08186971559238458,0.0,0.07398683302228469,0.07415023839130437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123403688936028,0.0,0.07928276082101376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318846397928328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792199833099662,0.0,0.11355459262038416,0.06372497507606581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058088437120144824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614859402167548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970210737052871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353726739098976,0.0,0.0,0.18931444529950167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299856904925205,0.06734607018650711,0.1464697880808407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053688325625795466,0.0,0.0,0.1465733483767912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05688693180289435,0.0,0.0,0.0872268452911894,0.0,0.07236641307379257,0.0,0.06913433654768884,0.14826198965152207,0.06650745841037478,0.0,0.0,0.2260079324894141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199813831120818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791417026754282
parenting,redeemeraz,2020/01/19,"Transitioning to toddler bed/room - 4yr old We are the parents of a 3yr 9 month boy who just started climbing out of his crib. We now face the transition to a toddler bed and room and we are terrified

Our boy is extremely stubborn. We have no faith that he will not get out of bed and open drawers, or play with the camera cord.  We are about to empty the room of all furniture but his bed and buy a backup battery for a camera so we can place it on a hanging shelf where he can’t reach it. Also a door knob cover as he is very close to figuring out how to open the doors.  

Is this what every parent goes through? I know we have been fortunate that he didn’t start climbing out of his crib until nearly 4 but I feel it adds new challenges as he is more capable and doing things he shouldn’t.",5.458489159891598,4.76835605487805,6.122764227642279,83.62115176151761,67.71951219512195,9.240108401084012,30.41734417344173,8.515128840125781,2.025536043360433,619,20,134,8,9,203,102,164,0.046,0.867,0.086,0.7501,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,8,0,0,3,7,4,1,0,11,0,16,1,1,1,1,33,21,14,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,7,2,9,21,0,1,3,1,1,3,5,1,0,0,2,1,13,3,23,17,2,23,1,0,0,0,22,13,0,1,7,90,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137246720438776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251748598473468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351327556775978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963032440845274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468770081749049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21332133455544466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581176857797379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804404054905501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5935127245470917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27922582742245194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37833060210340735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755313179966395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051433933251288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BronzeMedalMom,2020/01/19,"I’m clueless about this, help me. Background info.. My little one is almost 3 years old (next month), on the spectrum and non-verbal. 

He is about to start a special education early preschool. His hours will be 12-4pm. It’s a strange time for preschool but the only option locally that can meet his specific needs. 

The problem is... his sleep. 

This kid is something else when it comes to napping. It’s all over the place, but generally he won’t nap. And when he doesn’t nap, he makes damn sure you know that he needed a nap. He is sooo angry, over tired and miserable. It makes the second half of the day absolutely awful. 

So now that he’ll be going to preschool at that weird time he won’t be able to nap unless it’s after 4, which is way way too late for even an 8 o’clock bed time. And for work reasons, his bed can’t be pushed any further, because that’s when I sleep too. 

I’m not sure what to do, or what things I can help him with. It seems cruel and unusual punishment not to allow him to nap when he clearly needs it, but he also fights it with every fiber. 

I dunno what advice I am looking for, maybe just experiences.. maybe I am just sitting here loathing next month when he turns 3 and gets to start school, when all hell will break loose.",2.9903359683794437,4.450063873517788,3.755357707509884,90.66955830039528,74.29644268774703,6.482924901185773,23.71719367588933,6.961326702584282,0.6496056916996049,972,28,210,9,20,309,144,253,0.20800000000000002,0.733,0.059000000000000004,-0.9928,0,0,1,0,1,0,39.0,0,1,0,1,19,11,5,1,10,1,21,3,2,4,5,38,38,19,0,4,9,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,1,20,9,0,0,4,6,0,3,6,8,0,3,0,1,14,3,23,29,2,39,1,1,1,0,23,8,2,5,24,121,34,2,0.12957605222264326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662021857509487,0.0,0.0,0.12975169907901304,0.0,0.0,0.10362192214790956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811615886355938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898835875348856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116182955420397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356583412426087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824416479615492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558376043220235,0.0,0.10917341256688397,0.0,0.0,0.12675024276878094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769813923200041,0.0,0.07364105655942342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737041929177636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276063103312378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121160959504609,0.0,0.14616743084271047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298692451774162,0.0,0.0,0.10881124930435578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729860420662993,0.0,0.2603531213256051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20685273731293274,0.0,0.0,0.2882370026126818,0.0,0.0,0.2756112030940867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596826976954732,0.0,0.08780408644065238,0.0985484266358574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353793957157872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398678234897398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322576254590013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113788258458595,0.0,0.11796117140731828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593392609958077,0.0,0.0,0.0997539755141368,0.0,0.0,0.1834291933749352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442477915005041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608457144659988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22667051422209736,0.14892861062261753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409415361181698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205702877971115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433290926141802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344272931363322
parenting,wweffttwqqqqa,2020/01/19,"Ridiculous DRESS CODE rules. Husband refuses to put a united front with me in front of our daughter’s principal. My daughter was gifted a gorgeous and expensive and luxurious dress from Agent Provocateur, which is a high end line for modern and feminine women. 

She was gifted this dress after a sleepwear shoot by the a power couple in the industry who got her the shoot. The fact that such powerful people are taking a shine to her was a fact that I told my daughter she should be proud of. And she should wear the gifts with pride.

They asked her to model the items they got for her before she left and she had school the next day so we had to drive four hours back to RHode island from New York. She was still wearing the dress when she got to the school. 

Three hours later I get a call from the principal saying that she was suspended for extensively violating the dress code. I never like the principal- she seems to be the stereotypical career woman who’s bitter that she’s alone and her beauty has faded or never been there to begin with. 

The principal complained about the dress being too sheer, but somehow shorts and tank tops are ok during the spring. My daughter’s private parts were all covered as far as I could see them.

I refused to accept this principal’s decision and was about to give her a piece of my thoughts but my husband started apologizing profusely and saying this would never happen again and that we accept the punishment. 

And he did it all IN FRONT OF OUR DAUGHTER! How am I supposed to teach her to be a woman proud of her body and sexuality if this happens. This makes me want to consider homeschooling even more so that my daughter can pursue her dreams more.

Parents who have dealt with dress code- what would you do if another parent allied with people intent on slut shaming your child?",6.446757399577166,7.347630752906983,6.184344608879496,78.57397463002116,65.59883720930233,9.04524312896406,29.299154334038054,9.095868883498916,2.3709406976744187,1465,47,262,24,22,457,186,344,0.083,0.818,0.099,0.8375,4,1,0,2,0,0,21.0,4,2,3,6,14,15,4,1,27,1,28,4,3,3,7,48,45,23,0,8,5,10,0,1,0,4,0,2,0,4,17,19,0,2,5,1,1,5,3,7,0,2,16,5,42,8,39,20,7,34,0,0,2,1,56,9,0,5,21,194,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690077781976226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860444310392314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357240782161745,0.0,0.0,0.10163986558139967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247722013575867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682450003763595,0.0,0.0,0.1349726893936891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553664049890307,0.14625696482228553,0.0,0.08524651078907404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707409512005885,0.0,0.0,0.08730502164562454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905968470151977,0.12680110215280832,0.0,0.0,0.3171542694620716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337763655130074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965763192945374,0.0,0.0,0.2603454587488569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436162239907402,0.0,0.0,0.06457749080074354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823256930240345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305840922157961,0.1276622830416883,0.14057714880948388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935451292346983,0.14314031887730372,0.0,0.1832768313222114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287950610008342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21023300153493774,0.0,0.2675506572693379,0.10533200945063767,0.12033360734619135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355916132432827,0.0,0.10556078520842664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938447895662432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049378119805456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263056484085434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779644194726033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18779672384603044,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CraftyPerspective6,2020/01/19,"Wife doesn’t do well with kids I’m looking for advice. We struggled with infertility . We had a miscarriage and looked into foster care. We had a difficult first foster child who would become physically aggressive and make threats. After he went back to his family we received a placement of 4 children. Newborn, 2, 3  and 5 years old. Things went well for a while then we learned that one of the children would be gong back to his family, this was the newborn who was 1 at the time. I worked 24hr shifts and was gone a lot. She took this very hard. We ended up getting to adopt the other 3 children’s and I was hoping things would be great. Things have fallen so far down hill. She has got to the point that all we do is fight and argue. She throws leaving me in my face all the time as well as that’s I don’t have any family but hers which is partially true. She tells me that she will make sure I have no one. She tells me how worthless I am even though I am the one working while she is a stay at home mom. I have asked her to keep the house clean but she expects me to do everything when I get off work. She won’t let the kids in the living room or on our couches. They can only play in their play room and she wants to constantly control their play. She screams at them and I can tell they are highly afraid of her. Talking about parenting with her only angers her and starts horrible fights.  She doesn’t want to spend time with the kids, hug them or anything. I don’t know what to do...... thanks for any and all advice.",1.969400155227852,3.9576250064308702,2.7827674908526454,94.21237942122187,78.67845659163987,5.961680895886463,20.69198359019847,6.953978226594392,0.2439279521011204,1191,31,264,13,29,374,168,311,0.10800000000000001,0.7659999999999999,0.126,0.723,1,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,8,0,6,5,11,24,6,2,17,0,35,2,1,4,5,46,56,23,0,7,4,3,1,0,0,5,0,1,5,9,14,22,0,2,2,3,1,7,6,11,3,4,11,4,48,13,34,37,4,40,0,1,2,1,57,16,0,4,16,184,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19807749535612384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784392606892226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340300446269806,0.0,0.09474923906802402,0.0,0.0,0.15586489075644866,0.0,0.0,0.1119339042217742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333381066812393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952411959149604,0.11367344715885368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976665278883163,0.0,0.0,0.06694119272711291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910874893212357,0.0,0.2866333080571089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862088681180277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590313308764354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105942696119532,0.11173952330863793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079033513594507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708259706697294,0.10166303279852744,0.10066413040603243,0.0,0.1169451198277111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008517406719738,0.0,0.0,0.05569970352127975,0.0,0.0,0.10731577543073492,0.0,0.10363797486912994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949453995556812,0.0,0.1702181529247247,0.0,0.0,0.08616475527032103,0.0,0.0,0.13530478121762304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870073483929865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635052848169324,0.0,0.2060336064798645,0.15416357465644762,0.0,0.0,0.1125379771965844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580918702609596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173655915258327,0.1080263791961302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595377502410244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955218513502877,0.0,0.0,0.08146186723983041,0.26575498165469963,0.09331012332925727,0.0,0.0,0.2019987387421277,0.0,0.09957656488166354,0.0,0.17729525439718682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260437578030773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362495584322789,0.11955855760410487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27337939898518204,0.18790626012480924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135358720467493,0.0,0.0,0.2159899244202449,0.0,0.0,0.06526653884395689
parenting,sensitive-midnight,2020/01/19,"Tired mama—give me all your encouragement Im 30 year old nurse, mom of a 1 and 3 year old, and wife of 4 years. I’m in a rough place mentally and emotionally and I’m desperate for encouragement from other moms (or dads) who can tell me yes, it was hard for them too, but they made it to the other side in better shape than where they started. My husband and I are perpetually exhausted, drained, and borderline bitter (we’re working on it, but it sure ain’t easy). I just need to know other people went through it too and it will get better at some point. Thanks ahead of time for those who care to listen ♥️",2.718,4.175647400000003,4.200199999999999,87.21310000000004,75.0,7.56,22.9,8.238735603445708,1.0554800000000006,475,13,105,8,10,158,90,125,0.11,0.711,0.179,0.8873,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,3,4,4,9,1,0,3,1,5,2,0,1,2,17,16,10,0,1,4,5,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,12,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,4,9,7,17,12,2,18,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,2,8,62,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30989812548771506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862680863164174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707501994888268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153411920660587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694367327666772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892447212721095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096284654726316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577729952423906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655913935961412,0.0,0.0,0.41038133229543866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990765800562645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676832466768505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146075817290188,0.0,0.1830454113827342,0.0,0.16561945413034998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240065815901802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651227546043789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313143537436966,0.16129947628527486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215980382328656,0.20136519781272053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624110025120551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754678133544653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384667651976595
parenting,POWDEREDTOASTMAN119,2020/01/19,"Dad in need of help Disclaimer, this is going to be a long post so please only comment if you have read it all...

I am a 33 year old father. 3 kids, 2 boys (2 and 6) and an almost 8 year old daughter. 

My daughter for the longest time was the light of my life. I was her favorite parent, we did everything together, I made her laugh, smile, I was her world. Her mom (my wife, same woman for all 3 kids) is an amazing mom but for some reason, my daughter clung to me.

In 2013 we had kid number 2. Our first son, up until he was around 4, though we lived together... He always clung to his mama and didn't really need me for anything, that made my bond with my daughter even stronger. 

Fast forward to today, third and final kid is 2. Daughter is almost 8 and middle kid is 6. 

My daughter will not listen to anything I say. 

I always try to give her the benefit of the doubt and ask nicely for her to stop or follow directions. It takes a lot for me to get mad but lately, I have been furious with her not listening. 

She will listen to her mom and her teachers at school, but when I say anything... It goes in one ear and out the other. My daughter has admitted that I go easier on her than her mother, so lately I have been stepping up my discipline and have started to do the dad growl and give her less and less chances. 

In the last year, she has missed out on Halloween, had her tablet taken away, and had some of her Christmas presents taken away. She has also broken a 400 dollar tv from throwing toys in the play room directly at the tv. 

I could write a novel but I'm not going to. Now that you've had a taste of my past and the present... Let me tell you what made me lose my shit and start begging the parents of Reddit for help.

My daughter will jump and yell and climb all over the furniture, completely disregard when I ask her to stop. Her mom was upstairs in bed, trying to catch up on sleep. I kept asking my daughter to have quiet feet and a quiet voice so she didn't wake up my wife. After several attempts and me getting more and more upset.... I resorted to the dad growl and something happened that I did not expect. 

She laughed at me. Pointed and laughed directly at me and my discipline. To which, I sent her to her room. She kept arguing and refused to go to her room. Eventually, she made it to her room and I gave her a spanking on her butt (outside the pants) 

I have never felt worse in my life. My daughter won't listen to me at all, but her mom and teachers will make her fall in line. I don't want her to end up with ""daddy issues"" 

The last time I yelled (about 3 months ago) the kids told me I was a monster and they didn't want to live with me anymore. So I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.",2.626660366505053,3.767100699646648,3.9494954392308337,90.1910218588216,74.68904593639577,6.7492152189990975,24.470211192374066,7.121374137718711,0.8353945763826118,2100,64,463,21,43,691,246,566,0.10099999999999999,0.8170000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.9445,3,0,1,0,0,0,79.0,4,2,1,4,12,18,6,2,27,0,44,9,6,6,5,86,86,45,0,9,13,25,2,1,0,5,2,12,5,8,12,37,1,8,4,6,1,13,11,10,0,3,29,16,92,8,73,49,12,81,0,2,0,1,97,36,4,10,34,314,104,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999699776818669,0.0,0.15814247739424778,0.0,0.0,0.06314764121449122,0.1314090781065882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831126685067688,0.0,0.0,0.1949424221659807,0.0702948782732662,0.22146259935474089,0.0,0.14837892814346573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279246003668272,0.0,0.0,0.06304648732963394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993884228001238,0.0,0.0,0.05215510854783648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096793019905061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03992667149865862,0.056412039367558224,0.07581801404369444,0.08650141999532325,0.0,0.06716690712116284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251106944356709,0.15149930948093315,0.17950869552999654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982778017477677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585607586169436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241810795613445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287327223912373,0.17815011126553676,0.0,0.0,0.08074624321398079,0.11154949765730376,0.0385779188753971,0.0,0.13945366838170625,0.06988083103875305,0.0,0.08834074014578801,0.0,0.06713253799407133,0.0,0.2988713365414534,0.05270921583526099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624095760803588,0.06302847008293984,0.0,0.0,0.11710190564853165,0.06090205806742498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657192867684271,0.0,0.053508184685149125,0.06005583141539201,0.0,0.0,0.1753607958665647,0.0,0.07538026269589966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667897772790435,0.07464669130704198,0.0,0.07562587468559354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898556758749704,0.0,0.05058648771559823,0.08118834778771011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255910004798867,0.0,0.07991598483628949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920706832630462,0.08105561527482122,0.0,0.0,0.07902122575384468,0.0,0.0,0.06079049804243505,0.0,0.0,0.11178253260898048,0.0,0.0,0.13203521188199838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937125024712354,0.0,0.06901819019882953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758192435254252,0.0,0.0920893186132943,0.0,0.07484882737725639,0.0754536758457192,0.0,0.1072230152154794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315026063375287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047126463042499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255106516362335
parenting,H069,2020/01/19,"How to ask your mum to let you go to the cinema with a Male friend. So, I'm 13. When I was 11 my mum had told me I can date boys but not have sex, of course. Then when I just turned 12 she said I can't hang out with any boys, alright. Now I'm 13 (and a half;)) I'm far more mature, I feel like I'm more mature than all my other friends. I always hang out with friends a year or two older because kids in my year are far too immature for me. Everyone I meet tells me I look and act 15 (slightly insulting ngl) So, my best friend (she just turned 16) invited me to the cinema in a couple weeks time with two other boys (14 & 15). What is the best way of asking my mum if I can go to the cinema with them? 
In my opinion, I dont think it's that big of a deal, I'm gonna be in a public place, get mcdonalds afterwards and it's not gonna be late at night. But that's just my opinion on it. Any help on this subject is greatly appreciated, cheers.",0.7139866183440198,1.7121336966824643,3.1757067187064396,94.4010398661835,79.33175355450237,6.860440479509339,19.994703094507948,7.510576382923642,0.2337541678282684,714,16,185,10,17,249,120,211,0.019,0.742,0.239,0.9949,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,1,2,10,11,1,0,10,1,13,1,0,1,1,25,32,13,0,1,9,3,1,1,4,2,0,1,0,5,9,10,0,0,2,3,0,5,4,1,0,3,4,3,26,10,24,23,5,32,0,0,1,1,27,13,0,4,14,110,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748922158952554,0.1529895033319576,0.0,0.19204088346333045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640047784042909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607385066470255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29636014204631445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623446313246014,0.0,0.0,0.14557039317708162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548465864093076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492208862452235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139466500530782,0.10087288776497096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363612601563488,0.0,0.07377086470069352,0.0,0.1604937589567724,0.0,0.0,0.15567284962003267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464298915044828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927908634818982,0.0,0.0,0.1443859647777788,0.0,0.06898290018499162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857194365174975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250608255128654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752333222018868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431297464495145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341450923810665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047488148567796,0.0,0.0,0.08233451232197114,0.0,0.0,0.13492208862452235,0.0,0.0,0.30716882648870936,0.27586261585256633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207752053085486,0.11326165086158853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185558316033895
parenting,zed_oh_oh_e_why,2020/01/19,"Auto Flush Is Scary 

Auto flush toilets are unpredictable and my son will only go on them while plugging his ears. Then when he is finished he flees from the toilet without wiping! I am also afraid of them, to be honest. 

What are your thoughts? 

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parenting,Brian_F_,2020/01/19,"Self-Driving safety survey Hey parents, I'm a college student doing a survey on autonomous cars, I could really use your guys opinion. Thank you!!

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parenting,photolly18,2020/01/19,"Hand foot and mouth can jump right off a cliff.. My poor little one...she was sick with colds and ear infections on and off from November until Christmas. She was doing so well aside from some teething. Friday she spiked a fever not long after I dropped her at daycare. Few rounds of Motrin knocked that down. She was off Friday, didn’t eat a ton yesterday and we noticed her foot was red and inflamed. She woke up with blisters on her hands and face today. Doc says she also has mouth sores. Poor thing is so miserable. I’m off to re-bleach/Lysol every surface in my house. Thank god I can run her hard toys through the dishwasher......I am so glad tomorrow is a holiday work wise......",1.8433333333333333,4.381688721804515,2.2409323308270683,94.78871679197998,82.8345864661654,5.651929824561403,21.64862155388472,7.0316486544052195,0.5546495238095237,532,17,111,7,15,162,96,133,0.12,0.7609999999999999,0.11900000000000001,-0.0116,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,5,0,12,15,9,0,0,11,15,11,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,9,1,0,0,2,2,2,2,1,1,0,6,8,14,4,19,9,3,22,0,1,2,0,11,13,0,1,6,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22213030289213676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842251562301951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23403081798303976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488248223725287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205060166910177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27839567313232466,0.0,0.24581520174708096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31623976036852663,0.0,0.0,0.18822222085776025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372116427069349,0.0,0.22089159975402015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557306879437758,0.0,0.0,0.1845361631342676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632907956127396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24974604140018994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20221780558196253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PouriaMirzaie,2020/01/19,"I need your very help at soon as possible My brother is 15, he goes to school and he is great at studying. I am away from him as I study in another city's university.
Lately I just found out that my brother keeps saying ""shut up"" to himself and I assumed that he is preventing himself from some intrusive thoughts. He, sometimes make it short, like ""shuu"", ""uppp"". My parents think that he sees some flies or same things. But I know this is a kind of obsessive thoughts which is known in OCD.
NOW, what should I do as a brother who have studied 3 years in psychology and is really concerned about his brother's situation?
Ps1: he doesn't want to go to visit a psychiatrist or psychologist. He denies his abnormality and won't admit it.",3.6251877934272336,5.590933091549297,4.813732394366198,81.62698356807516,73.71830985915494,8.11361502347418,29.438967136150232,8.841846274778883,2.4200122065727694,577,25,113,12,12,190,96,142,0.065,0.865,0.07,0.5699,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,0,12,0,0,1,0,26,24,10,0,3,4,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,2,8,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,2,16,3,19,19,3,16,0,0,1,0,23,10,0,5,5,73,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22295644948369364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997687223764131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23313296295550545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208400114833393,0.0,0.0,0.2344204417418576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251843772738965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18899137631807,0.0,0.22141681162326915,0.11685345272400607,0.0,0.2398509044648289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387811345055027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192921915019766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765916610902966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360955331292257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397033827828227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362133848370194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908838756123148,0.0,0.21518842854508655,0.1694350506966708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390000495283815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102921257156019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412589809022006,0.13624187991793238,0.0,0.33760190440976745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543836333779486,0.12541207022227824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692389598354174
parenting,CosmicBunBun,2020/01/19,"""Mommy, will you play with me?"" I have three girls, K who will be 4 in February, H who just turned 2, and A who is almost 3 months old. Naturally, we are a busy household. I'm on maternity leave until December so I'm home with all of them most of the time (my mother watches the two oldest at her house occasionally). 

I am very lucky in that my husband works from home most days so he is around if I need help, and he is very involved in the day-to-day tasks that need doing around the house, so I feel even more guilty complaining about this, but I feel like there is always something that needs my attention and when my oldest asks ""Mommy, will you play with me?"" I feel like my response 80% of the time is ""not right now, sweetie,"" or, ""As soon as I'm finished with this,"" and other statements to that effect. I do try my best to play with them, and it does happen at least once a day, but I feel like I should be doing more while they are so little.

With three kids to look after it really is always something around here. Sticky floors from the maple syrup and pancakes from breakfast.... 2yo needs a diaper change or her nose blown... baby needs nursing... grocery list needs making.... laundry... make lunch... clean up... and over again. I can only imagine how much busier we'll be when I go back to work full time and can't get to the chores during the week. I have a commute so I'm gone for easily 10 hours a day when I'm working.

I don't know what I'm looking for. We hear about mom guilt all the time, no matter what we do we always feel guilty about something. Sometimes I just tell myself to leave the chores and play with them, but when it piles up it takes 10x longer to deal with it later on.

Thanks for reading.",3.1954973474801065,4.376015813218391,3.8035632183908064,91.63237400530508,73.33908045977013,6.503271441202476,21.71794871794872,6.67199483983844,0.2559824049513706,1325,29,292,10,26,418,185,348,0.044000000000000004,0.8340000000000001,0.121,0.9815,0,0,3,0,0,0,68.0,5,2,4,5,25,12,0,1,16,0,26,3,1,4,2,60,57,29,0,8,9,3,5,3,0,5,0,1,5,2,17,24,2,0,10,5,0,2,4,2,0,3,1,10,36,10,44,48,10,45,0,0,3,0,30,17,0,7,29,188,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155594897523822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22823626608585376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24418161626606116,0.08547658533638984,0.0,0.0,0.0703055706132148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959522517927073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672294131814907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948304068255385,0.09426238577998712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001276660316832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060389979159102464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311538530770008,0.19595713497200426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776945061404701,0.0,0.05196291736211837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085302297115217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305051841770148,0.0,0.061284947852124384,0.0,0.1834275184483707,0.0,0.09004211058917018,0.21100052333826413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024864060206508,0.0,0.0,0.1936265900765796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400718252268418,0.09163889235604962,0.0,0.0,0.15355971844615174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206315102822607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708406305721577,0.07298015670406928,0.0,0.06721304639415199,0.4067740536933097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594251218006318,0.09737210480988502,0.0,0.06953816238790173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145675108899172,0.0,0.058573685760335635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808243550283298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111664808340083,0.0904285941082572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874549137952814,0.0,0.07991560527351609,0.08417830895482101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132589572402868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062076331873606415,0.0994517696563562,0.08931578650797016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088196474599028,0.0,0.0,0.07334124195574496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996907729531489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shadez1217,2020/01/19,"Hiring my mom as a live-in nanny My wife and I are considering hiring my mom (who currently works at Wal-Mart full-time with benefits) as a live-in nanny starting in June. She currently does not live with us and lives paycheck to paycheck. 

We are wanting to officially hire her as a household employee and pay her an hourly wage as my wife and I work full-time as engineers and it would be a better compensation to have her stay with us rent free so she can save more than she is currently. She'll lose her benefits though at Wal-Mart, so is it possible to claim her as a dependent and put her on our insurance and still pay her for nanny services?

Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated! 

We appreciate your help, Reddit!",6.782535211267604,6.6728220070422575,7.536725352112676,72.64269366197185,64.8450704225352,11.607042253521128,33.94718309859155,11.20814326018867,3.8177295774647884,583,23,111,16,8,195,82,142,0.038,0.81,0.152,0.9559,6,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,1,0,4,4,7,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,1,0,18,13,16,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,12,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,23,7,19,8,1,13,0,1,0,0,24,4,0,1,7,75,27,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799011391289584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044656458017546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896781030653124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507864430151365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644095147964104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638698016798766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5608967091985889,0.0,0.0,0.17765768018491304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719715838746795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902424797201405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596388489745222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124001530648978,0.16926071866459852,0.12681867010272865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602115945608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820360596407034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936649341261015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312180137731415,0.0,0.0,0.22561532410713625,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,askwhy423,2020/01/19,"WHY aren't little kid toilets more common? Just a mini rant. 

I know small toilets are a thing. I've seen them. Our Heath Department has a child size stall in the regular bathroom. So then WHY are child sized stalls not more common? I don't mean everywhere, I know it wouldn't make sense in places where there aren't many child patrons or limited bathroom space. But doesn't it make sense at places like the children's museum? Or the zoo? Or even the airport, in the family bathrooms! It is so hard to be hygienic in a public bathroom, especially since they can't reach the sink, which is covered in pools of water anyway so he gets soaked if I try to lift him up to wash his hands. Kids are just smaller people, and are a huge part of society, I'm just surprised there's not more small toilets for them.

I have a travel potty seat but it's not always convenient to carry around.",2.4494016806722705,4.710010491428573,3.3264201680672265,89.54875630252104,78.37142857142857,6.403361344537816,22.294117647058826,7.510576382923642,0.8922907563025215,696,21,140,10,17,221,109,175,0.052000000000000005,0.917,0.031,-0.3447,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,3,1,12,2,0,0,12,0,15,3,1,2,0,21,23,11,0,2,12,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,6,6,2,1,1,3,3,0,2,9,0,0,0,1,3,11,2,15,20,4,21,0,0,1,0,14,16,0,4,4,85,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807316770926085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335819753705785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346162947969046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20476122280769135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348047010226255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945727120923324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23874000157938555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061152254859866,0.21769613111600586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899715944560881,0.22021143370595028,0.0,0.2365995505597522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352114804316029,0.0,0.15058236268518554,0.0,0.4538652802653642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967393935269213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14430112477440538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746770650884225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919868434046008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crazydoggo187,2020/01/19,"Trust Pills as ECP??? Hi me and my GF tried unprotected sex last Jan 16, 2020. I cummed outside twice and she's about to get her period by January 20-21. But out of being paranoid, i told her to take trust pills as ECP and do the Yuzpe method.
my questions are

1.) will it affect her menstrual cycle? will it delay? like mag kakaroon ba siya sa expected date niya given she took a lot of pills?

2.) is it effective and what are the chances of being pregnant??
THANKS",0.2778908188585625,2.6976047956989295,2.0451612903225818,93.14158808933004,92.44086021505377,5.442183622828785,18.981803143093465,7.010146845296331,0.4313381306865174,358,11,76,6,13,117,71,93,0.065,0.757,0.17800000000000002,0.9152,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,8,4,0,2,0,12,14,7,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,10,4,10,7,1,6,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,2,5,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504592737812096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30430817818792266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238682431612532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173859754479631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182073452489874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28069253355075835,0.0,0.0,0.3437057810831722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35672624966961497,0.4147757344011406,0.2534619000822083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElegantCap,2020/01/19,"Teen daughter pregnant Not quite sure how to process this. My oldest, 15, called from her mom’s house to let me know she’s pregnant.

I did not respond well. Called her a “fucking idiot.”

When I had her this summer her step mother and I set her up with birth control against her mother’s wishes for her “periods” but she had the same boyfriend for a year at her moms house, so I figured something else was up. Had multiple talks with her. Said condoms no matter what, even with birth control. She said she’s not having sex and knows all that stuff. I was 19 when she was born and remember being a teen in a poor town pretty well, so we talked about it anyway. Multiple times.

She goes back to her moms for the school year. I find out she’s going to her boyfriends every day after school. No adult supervision. Fight with her mom. Mom lies and says she’ll pay better attention. Nothing changes. I get her two younger sisters out of the house, but the 15-yr old refuses to leave. She loves her boyfriend. 
They’re being evicted from their house in May (to do with her mom’s ex boyfriend who owns it) and I’m trying to get her up here (live in another state). I’m worried she thinks going and getting pregnant will somehow mean we’ll let her move into her boyfriends parents house.

I told her mom the two kids are not allowed together unsupervised anymore, and not at his house at all. His mom’s reaction was “if you’re happy, I’m happy.”

I also called child services on my exes household (this is the third time I’ve called in the last five years and I know the younger kids teachers have called multiple times in the past).

I don’t know what to do. Child services keep saying they won’t do anything as long as their mom stays sober and they go to counseling. Courts won’t do anything without a remove from household order from police or child services or my daughter saying she wants to move.

I called my daughter and apologized for losing my temper. Told her we’ll figure this out no matter what and she’s not alone.

I feel horrible thinking this, but I genuinely wish their mom would fall of the wagon and get arrested so I can pull out my oldest without her permission.",3.068067247218188,5.274479952830191,3.372169811320756,90.249656507015,76.12264150943396,6.046831156265119,25.258587324625047,7.010146845296331,1.01573580067731,1716,61,339,18,39,529,203,424,0.1,0.81,0.08900000000000001,-0.2093,3,1,1,0,1,0,45.0,3,0,5,5,15,12,4,0,15,0,30,4,0,4,3,68,58,27,0,5,14,18,1,0,0,8,0,5,0,6,13,23,0,4,13,0,2,9,14,5,2,4,12,6,65,7,49,34,4,53,0,1,0,4,88,18,1,5,22,218,78,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687347445601685,0.0,0.04391403547762108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758123788558547,0.0,0.0,0.05445910068274882,0.0,0.0,0.09037770615492906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042224831669453546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04856622894861898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364348658090862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580908437284715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317956015044484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035414446367937995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04587290019884758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03626962532661122,0.0,0.04626670701815217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02776574445179842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018963485023135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050766333023748,0.1147594418779259,0.0,0.09362524560422644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691216322045735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38017449410119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04880934112153098,0.0,0.0,0.1207153500091078,0.044761555851449926,0.0,0.05814510928083633,0.0,0.11230485639643037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048489327732746036,0.04859641998373209,0.0,0.06143378156761916,0.0,0.0,0.049561272280808734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05981653130784819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6431363116228223,0.0,0.11672800069583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05269065955417621,0.0,0.05762212569235872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060974567402376674,0.0,0.052420826283856393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558664269669342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058406906737222174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622059073914183,0.0,0.10446998330408436,0.13100745042899636,0.0,0.11115010238971508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04227483460023735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585301238178738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286243215269416,0.0,0.0,0.0517550049205496,0.0,0.0,0.08827423841219095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703722732910455,0.0,0.0,0.09606091835539846,0.0,0.0,0.10494375828706178,0.0,0.03728243211964608,0.0,0.10728435934250197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03238920545207598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874705413577864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629485154449108,0.10586865636879406,0.0,0.0,0.05576698113491118,0.0,0.03900873445234386,0.0,0.0,0.1060868269804338
parenting,Zen-Nebuular,2020/01/19,"I Knocked up my immigrant, poor girlfriend in high school and abandoned her and resulting baby out of fear. I was alone for a long period of my life. In 2016, I met the girl that would change everything. She was a cute Hispanic girl who went to the same school as me. Apparently she and her family had immigrated to America recently from Nicaragua. She could speak Spanish and English fluently, and had the most beautiful brown hair and eyes. I met her and her sister who were really nice people. She was fifteen years old when we first started dating, we were in a long and committed relationship for two years. Christmas of 2018 would be the day that changed everything in our lives. She had invited me over to her place and I discovered that she lived only with her older sister.We had loads of unprotected sex during the Christmas break. Apparently, that is what she wanted, being too poor to afford another gift. Unfortunately, she wasn´t on birth control and we ended up conceiving a child on the 27th. She didn´t tell me that she was pregnant until valentines day. She had come over to my house after school and proceeded to tell me in a surprising way. Once I found out she was pregnant it changed everything. My parents weren´t home, thank god I told her that I was excited to have a child but on the inside I was dreading commitment. She loved me and the baby equally, the child would be allowed to stay in America even if she got deported. She envisioned marrying me and settling down with a nice house. after a few weeks and some phone calls me and my family left the area completely. Shortly afterwards, I cut off all contact with her and have only recently seen a picture of the child. A baby boy, born on October 5th 2019. She gave him a cute little name, and from what I was able to learn from my contacts in the area, she put my last name on the birth certificate. I have no clue how she is doing financially or emotionally. I feel guilty, and I know it is wrong to abandon my family. I am seven hours away from them and will likely never get to meet my son in my lifetime.",5.093949843260186,6.6209185656565674,5.707234413096483,78.46590909090912,69.15151515151516,9.603483106931382,29.816788575409266,9.921728534948242,2.980897352838732,1656,64,306,41,29,536,206,396,0.086,0.833,0.08199999999999999,-0.4045,6,1,0,0,0,0,40.0,4,0,1,2,4,15,1,2,24,0,31,5,2,4,4,55,47,26,0,6,3,3,2,1,1,4,1,1,1,7,12,28,0,3,4,0,2,3,2,6,0,3,23,6,64,9,51,16,6,63,0,2,3,2,61,29,0,4,29,219,76,5,0.0985415350051606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205931169332363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332939144762704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258301592632068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062192484437554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31273163368261603,0.08488480694313202,0.10331892462175092,0.0,0.11052271066508368,0.07867739730393955,0.0,0.0,0.12710227588107198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108459635527992,0.08727855133739848,0.0,0.0,0.06508575450355783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26568833300334355,0.0,0.2786885676925143,0.11088662305829676,0.04982556094044776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381937933542312,0.0,0.10804570688293272,0.0,0.0,0.05148388488832694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881266748416621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411454203865048,0.09884519419583217,0.0,0.09704356229945144,0.22740740191241676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415585055505959,0.08032450319268197,0.0,0.0,0.10706566611174707,0.0,0.0696028003935546,0.048142416478326414,0.09876450586528822,0.17402796154833827,0.17441231511660066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893758266055107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600130668891641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340276451751317,0.10494351873270408,0.0,0.14989055564611248,0.0,0.0,0.109418713018796,0.0,0.0,0.06831629283620515,0.0,0.10295493058379733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906146003478464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631282306245195,0.0,0.194595755356468,0.10579673045555334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991878829200838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974820566714987,0.10503216494706777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225928997696327,0.09072380595998787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416065960214036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626076105498572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05812235046917915,0.07821768375619141,0.07904407544737753,0.0,0.0,0.0913489901951772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21000323751871647,0.10773969921881943,0.0,0.1269150354643795
parenting,gdadash,2020/01/19,"Helping my son understand where I’m coming from So, its a bit of a long story but I’ll try and explain the best I can.  I know this story will appear a bit one sided but I will try and tell everything.
So first off my son (12) doesn’t live with me, he lives with his mum for the most part.
My mum has recently got remarried, the guy seems alright to me, maybe a bit annoying but a kind, caring guy that my mum seems to love.
So my son has decided that he doesn’t like this guy, and is refusing to be around him. Even if I promise he wouldn’t be alone I can’t persuade him. I have tried asking him what the issue is, my mum has talked to him about it and the only answer we get is “I just don’t like him”.  
Now there was something that happened over a year ago where they were messing around and my son got hurt, completely innocent as far as I’m concerned, apologies were made and we all moved on, I have asked if it’s related to that or not and told it’s not.
So my sons mum is insisting that they spend no time together, which I understand, but she wants that to be the end of it, but i want to help my son, either if it’s to express what has happened or to work out a way to “act as an adult” for want of a better phrase, and learn to be ok around people we don’t like, I believe at 12 he is just too young to be making that decision off his own back. 
If there is something more serious to it all then I want to know so I can do something about it, even if my son is never to see this guy again, there are other children in the family, so would need to make sure they are okay too.
If it is just a dislike for the guy, like I said I would like to help my son learn how to deal with this, rather than just stop being involved in family things.
Now I’m not sure if I’ve been doing the right thing, in the way I’ve been dealing with it all, but I have been trying to persuade my sons mum to let me sit and have the conversation but she just keeps telling me, this is how it is! 
I’ve tried calling my son over the weekend and he’s not answering my calls, so I sent him a text and at first he was his normal 1 word answers to things I was asking, and then the style of messages changed telling me he’d read everything I’ve sent to his mum, that I said he doesn’t get a say as he’s only 12, which in a way I did but I meant it in the way that a 12 year old may not realise the consequences of what they are saying/doing and that our job as parents to help/guide him?
So if I had to guess the change in the style of message was his mum talking, I can’t prove that, but you know you know how can tell the difference between an adult message and one to your kids?
So anyway, I’m wondering if any of you had any advice of how to proceed with this? Do I leave it a couple of days before I contact him again? Do I try and arrange a face to face sit down with him and his mum? Or anything else you think can help me?",6.540870006770482,3.697493630331756,7.058697246671184,84.72097748815169,66.88309636650868,10.496253667343717,31.76986007673211,8.306716005460428,1.9654988038817425,2240,58,548,23,28,742,241,633,0.040999999999999995,0.836,0.12300000000000001,0.9946,2,1,3,0,0,0,53.0,4,5,4,5,39,20,1,0,35,3,62,3,2,7,7,113,107,57,0,19,33,20,0,5,0,6,0,3,0,9,39,30,0,3,20,2,1,6,15,4,0,4,21,4,77,16,73,72,12,58,0,1,1,1,102,23,0,19,28,378,116,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642361553124319,0.05827072277593525,0.0,0.0,0.06808234982435189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940504652402875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409487169208281,0.17555610219148354,0.18436198899523787,0.0,0.0,0.05054668786267509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055936230388954976,0.07406161184928639,0.06898555091415691,0.05813787570665356,0.21529904372280892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342469780286116,0.0,0.06702191684289009,0.0,0.13907928721225313,0.05662547615881033,0.06892262012025742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273529049183647,0.0,0.042394081766928604,0.13554121955498355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867980475128453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054913733839327884,0.0,0.05822230980913162,0.0,0.0,0.0868356063385637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815799872749115,0.0,0.12393951610349425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182948838851783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868836959857791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514967246439574,0.0,0.07241527346265708,0.3254433394453156,0.11625970685481796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203062362443433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037141554838311,0.0,0.0,0.06861098152143544,0.06523252897988273,0.05842890149962762,0.0,0.06845360528474359,0.14450646399043207,0.0,0.0,0.0696046040530634,0.0,0.06721919658757969,0.0,0.16057568808204464,0.0,0.1160916369194747,0.05817401692422097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059329026570575566,0.0622006991462551,0.08775816682438825,0.0,0.06604033591850664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698666351377618,0.0,0.04874218108023352,0.05069941647902717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440701903176993,0.0,0.0,0.06897854855067515,0.0,0.0890884093731508,0.09998990856933912,0.0,0.0,0.07299170426958068,0.07118534619725944,0.0,0.0455728504377288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575347884824245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490606330132502,0.0,0.0,0.05613791994709033,0.1250593887129822,0.05227565899577734,0.0,0.0,0.052382833971634686,0.11968660633551145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181963677526736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495798015307587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239102194428755,0.0,0.0,0.10567171493460982,0.22982356134140536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101561418096264,0.04212077575672877,0.0,0.0,0.03833100937636871,0.0,0.0,0.06281326868035307,0.0,0.2677813103718896,0.0,0.0,0.13686634282786408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550904520754317,0.20871172339242453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128755153143519,0.04785636510962288,0.0,0.0,0.0933934960222482,0.0,0.0,0.08466325805155467
parenting,zarzar1986,2020/01/19,"I feel like a terrible mother I am 33 with one 7.5 month LO and a 5 year step son who is with us Friday night and Saturday day. I work from home 60 hours a week since 5 days pp as my salary is highest. SO works Monday-Saturday.

We have a nanny Monday-Friday 9-5 but I'm still very much hands on with LO. My day starts at 5am when she wakes and stops at 8pm when she sleeps. I'm exhausted. I go 3 or 4 days without a shower sometimes!

My LO is super active and not so interested in toys. I take her for long walks at the weekend but i swear by Sunday evening I'm ready to have a nervous breakdown. I'm tired of being needed all the time and i feel like a bad mother for feeling this way. 

At the weekends i just don't know what to do with her, i get no time to relax or just chill, I'm tired, i have no time for me, i just want a lie in.

I know I'm lucky compared to some but that doesn't change my feeling of desperation. 

My so is useless at helping, my family are in another country and his cannot be trusted with LO.

i love my baby but i just feel guilt for wanting to be on my own sometimes.",0.6953439153439119,2.0402721851851884,3.102281011169904,93.43074074074076,80.23456790123456,5.945443856554968,21.447971781305114,6.655083550727371,0.2325823633156965,843,24,204,8,21,292,135,243,0.18100000000000002,0.6729999999999999,0.146,-0.8444,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,3,11,14,0,2,11,0,16,7,3,0,1,38,37,18,0,3,12,3,6,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,4,12,0,1,7,4,0,3,7,6,0,1,0,6,30,8,30,34,4,36,0,1,0,1,13,10,0,4,24,122,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429865910951061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385589292544793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442520519457604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35176673149915416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006527605491288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854918854889366,0.0,0.3447415594181216,0.19483291435582706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712430905996957,0.0,0.07749720337719973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140002734179713,0.0,0.1367813858785712,0.0,0.1342882984843397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498810812729665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323837337812638,0.0,0.0,0.1206753569054378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307129255974593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884219619890477,0.0,0.1002411602433634,0.10111009019488344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279657339318583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240186741141644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279938061741307,0.0,0.1364596625312334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26972939567210474,0.0,0.0965171479636654,0.0,0.10889821777905474,0.11400405576966627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252664009562903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385399091349193,0.3134542431990099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16402571478042227,0.0,0.0,0.11251225779324492,0.16085871877480845,0.10823716085971108,0.10938071671711604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144731542652854,0.0,0.19854513217897468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781213179293755
parenting,passagg,2020/01/19,"Co-parenting from different continents I’m separated and have been single-handedly raising my almost 2 year old since birth. Baby’s daddy and I are on very friendly terms and we are now in the talks on how best to raise our child together and education plays a big part in this discussion.

Where I come from offers a wonderful education system but it lacks autonomy and creativity (I’ve been a failure of that system). We have since decided to put our child in private education but the fees are proving hard to keep up. So we are going to explore the options of moving our child to where baby’s daddy is (provides an equivalently awesome education) for the good of our child. 

I am in a dilemma because I’ve been with our child day in and out for 2 years, catering to every need and now I might miss out on all of his milestones and growth, and worse of all him forgetting about me. Although baby’s daddy and I settled on the fact that I will be flying out every two months for a visit and will definitely keep communication going with the help of technology. I’m also a bit worried about how much I can trust my ex with regards to the level of care and validation he could provide to our child.

I think I’m seeking assurance from parents here and it would be wonderful if anyone could share similar stories. This is tearing me apart but I feel like it is for the better.",4.596573033707866,6.140959846441952,6.056949438202249,75.41508707865171,70.38576779026218,8.93550561797753,30.57846441947565,9.3871,2.8937866666666667,1097,46,199,24,20,372,146,267,0.057999999999999996,0.741,0.201,0.9923,3,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,9,0,0,2,11,11,0,0,15,0,22,0,0,2,5,51,37,22,0,6,4,2,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,6,7,23,0,2,7,1,1,8,0,1,0,1,3,2,24,10,40,26,8,37,0,1,0,0,27,18,0,6,10,142,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905568370435285,0.0,0.0,0.11903841384851767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408211122633096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907399587231324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562129894781858,0.13164918226642444,0.16250991116282534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176647648453712,0.0,0.0,0.1282244585159678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23769546117957116,0.0,0.0,0.09599845418695532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552064852430672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508316695349753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526500680060966,0.10634125929526014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500415756117248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919420881712696,0.1248515929779707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333438607687303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977363464775604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646163799297922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272249895931543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579104697514122,0.0,0.0,0.11881376662173965,0.15820814351736506,0.10942474734047336,0.11037328425056908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561971331123468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528464555204322,0.16119427313628207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963928799733422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462669764447285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964313015172645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537957170606018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540863562167966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282006066013325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32285142003614625,0.0,0.1511683658133177,0.15169484588431262,0.10574154310667756,0.0,0.0,0.191714068583054
parenting,Historical-Sink,2020/01/19,"Moms who breastfed for over a year, what was your experience like? Would you recommend it? What was your experience as in how did others react while you were still breastfeeding over a year? How did your doctors react? What was it like physically and how did your child handle it? My son is 4 months old and I was planning on weaning around a year but now I’m thinking about nursing a little bit longer and just want some input from those who have.",4.2648338870431886,6.199147709302328,4.431661129568108,85.17197674418605,71.90697674418605,7.239867109634551,25.07641196013289,7.957251820313856,1.339520265780731,357,11,69,5,7,111,58,86,0.0,0.907,0.09300000000000001,0.6868,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,6,0,1,8,2,0,0,4,0,11,1,0,5,0,15,14,9,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,8,2,9,5,2,14,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,1,10,54,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242725742873472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605172068310151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244243277202366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668429913017462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23316069976396725,0.23916540738830794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27947526325795385,0.19046857137442275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25039728680098666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19056660642617604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290156416801595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074748318274974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951268546662396,0.0,0.0,0.4610009318824727
parenting,tessemcdawgerton,2020/01/19,"How to deal with whining in toddlers who aren’t verbal yet? All the advice I read on the internet about toddler whining seems to apply to children who can talk. As in “I want a coooookie” and stuff like that.

I need advice for how to deal with whining in a preverbal child. She is 15 months old, in good health, knows a couple of words and some sign language, but none of her communication skills are extensive enough to actually tell me and my husband what’s wrong.

She whines a LOT lately, especially around me (the mother). It’s like “ooooooo” in this very annoying voice. We try to make sure all of her needs are met (fed, not thirsty, clean diaper, lots of activity, toys, outside time, pain reliever when teething, adequate sleep and naps) but nothing seems to work. She doesn’t whine nearly as much when she’s with her nanny.

It seems like the primary reason she moans and groans is when she is unable to access me, particularly my breasts. I am trying to wean her gradually but it’s a very slow process. I also notice she whines when I can’t pick her up for whatever reason (I’m cooking, I’m holding a bunch of stuff, or god forbid I’m going to the bathroom with the door closed). 

Sometimes I give into her whining because I just want to make the noise stop (it literally gives us headaches), but I also know that if I continue to do that, she’s just going to learn that whining WORKS.

This kid is a wonderful human being but she’s also a HANDFUL and I’m at a loss for what to do.

Experienced parents of reddit, your advice would be appreciated.",3.904415011037528,5.620399149006623,4.946639072847682,82.00993653421635,72.41059602649005,7.68233995584989,27.48399558498896,8.344100000000001,1.8876419426048567,1221,45,236,20,24,400,171,302,0.142,0.753,0.10400000000000001,-0.9057,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,1,0,4,14,19,1,0,16,0,16,8,4,7,3,54,38,24,0,6,10,3,1,3,0,1,2,1,2,4,16,14,2,3,9,4,0,2,5,13,0,0,2,3,33,6,41,33,9,26,0,9,0,1,34,12,0,9,15,157,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.10658498101772593,0.0,0.0,0.3201916166423241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620345403403862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723079523035684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658075771736184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085213867619153,0.0,0.0,0.2252063083990497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285559115513655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095515164051885,0.12414683434897845,0.09161028701871972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609794878471605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005118222314555,0.0,0.12320724791205935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600811533952216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571338951953514,0.0,0.0,0.14581315445794046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718001110256772,0.0,0.08029078581785018,0.16197355609515454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480151813533037,0.12435004614650162,0.11461018521764513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116219979033094,0.0,0.12127817881732365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925162311823997,0.0,0.0,0.22459694967108293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982950005850061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930094494588376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802341615015848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131453787990787,0.0,0.0,0.25006626901330514,0.0,0.0,0.10294050468656908,0.0,0.0,0.08778855945355556,0.09546489990785507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368826506950198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830922668177635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313806973311304,0.0,0.0,0.18023928634561592,0.12884400883555244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844667155801207,0.15902992986370815,0.0,0.0,0.0775882220062204,0.11941718328692168,0.0,0.0
parenting,KazzyChan25,2020/01/19,"Dealing with potty training regression I have an almost 3 year old and two weeks ago, my husband and I worked for 4 days to get her potty trained. We took 4 days and just constantly worked on it. Surprisingly, after the first day, it (mostly) clicked with her. She still had issues pooping on the potty (which I hear is common) but was letting us know when she had to go potty. She was also going to daycare when the daycare provider asked her to. We were maybe dealing with 1 accident a day. Things were great.

Last weekend our daughter caught some viral thing and was really sick. We didn’t try as hard to make her go potty instead just letting her relax and if she had an accident in her pull up, so be it. When she was better, we sent her to daycare and provider did the same thing - didn’t push her. We figured we’d take this weekend and just get her back on track with potty training.

So yesterday we went back at it and my daughter is refusing to go. She’d ignore me when I’d ask her to go.  Or cut me off mid-sentence with a loud “okay.” I’d try to get her in the bathroom once an hour to at least try and it was a constant fight. We’d get her in the bathroom and she wouldn’t go. Then minutes later she’d go in her underwear.

After not even a full day of trying my husband is ready to throw in the towel. He’s put her in pull ups full time, stopped taking her to the toilet, and is telling me we need to stop banging our heads against a wall and to try again later. No one’s happy. I’m not ready to give this up. I’m worried if we put her full time in pull ups she’ll just treat them like diapers and we’ll never get her potty trained. I feel like it sends a confusing message and with daycare...they don’t have a potty training program. They just do whatever the parents want. So if we’re not training, they’re not training.

I guess I’d like to know how others have dealt with regression and what you did to solve it. Did you keep trying? Did you give up? I’m just so depressed about this. We worked so hard and it all fell apart.",1.9793367835921032,3.698850560283692,3.179286946520989,92.63108108108109,77.67612293144208,5.802287393776755,23.9619832598556,6.5153245180268975,0.5737840265797707,1589,53,347,13,37,513,186,423,0.10800000000000001,0.79,0.102,-0.414,2,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,15,3,2,5,25,15,2,1,19,1,35,3,2,2,2,69,69,34,0,6,15,5,3,3,0,3,1,2,0,0,17,32,0,5,4,3,0,20,10,5,0,3,20,6,57,10,49,39,8,79,0,1,1,0,65,23,0,9,39,233,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816593528382043,0.0,0.08829917744872183,0.0,0.0,0.07051723065101541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648721303379197,0.0,0.0,0.1356094087755862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798773060528832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905817407934106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843428821496668,0.18181868511849586,0.07594899946158187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824182421326191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044586278268650886,0.06299555636709013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500556141899799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303511264755976,0.1691799019673423,0.3508016724840369,0.0,0.0,0.0972183704695106,0.0971398209836494,0.0,0.0,0.09386887233271377,0.1579832842479114,0.0,0.09049775611531312,0.0,0.09938486918428804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086839188384371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203664011490104,0.0,0.07837812053381223,0.0,0.0,0.09692245414394164,0.07187818026616022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803393237629469,0.0,0.12924036200175226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058860598100001424,0.0,0.08858830605855478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538408982088756,0.06800957871529491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252970454333616,0.09390844458931792,0.05975280990058422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979130609745595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772897982258042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05649013887864724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042037880568126,0.14744426412877512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326002386532467,0.0,0.07707289684558531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757479147567471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283652083046126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797083070473127,0.3592091461990588,0.0,0.08613870065365561,0.0,0.10606925626776983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201063957401751,0.0,0.07073239270898089,0.0,0.0,0.08174341481615102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258749642397707,0.08955071035103128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678480062124985
parenting,DrownTheSailorSiren,2020/01/19,"A win. My daughter mailed me a letter... Wanted to share a win with the universe. I’ve been feeling very defeated with my D13 attitude and such lately, and was frustrated with her yesterday as she was texting me from my ex husbands house complaining about every little thing down to the kind of toilet paper he bought.

I go grab the mail and there’s a letter from her school in the box. I get nervous of course..

Inside is a letter from my daughter. It was an assignment given by her teacher for kindness week to write to someone in your life you feel you could be better towards and really let out how you feel that you can’t put into words. It was never meant to be mailed - but her teacher mailed it to me anyways because she thought it was important I see it.

I stood in my bathroom and sobbed like a baby for half an hour. It meant so much to me.

She apologized for things she says and taking me for granted, told me how much she loves me and appreciates me & that I am her mom but I am her best friend.

It was short.. half a page. But it was about 200 words that I will keep forever.",2.6000191387559823,4.414990236363637,3.675789473684212,89.33236842105266,76.18181818181819,6.631578947368423,23.85167464114833,7.475848149327749,0.9894090909090912,852,27,177,11,19,275,125,220,0.047,0.775,0.177,0.9847,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,5,0,5,8,15,1,1,13,0,17,2,0,2,1,30,34,14,0,2,3,5,4,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,13,12,0,1,6,0,1,2,2,5,0,2,15,6,36,10,30,14,4,16,0,2,1,1,37,9,1,0,6,131,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399092380741727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351564620154034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820691984496648,0.15018466358128454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558083786577604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307369501318115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25758571829751925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311961108791385,0.0,0.08871961311555761,0.0,0.09650791176081026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723033472003848,0.19593992140498093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150936455941773,0.0,0.353665542665801,0.0,0.0,0.1915550126129679,0.0,0.0,0.17364398514744042,0.11994303724495445,0.08296142712753167,0.17019595100338472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532617039718782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988814299338931,0.0,0.0,0.24966230072797546,0.0,0.13096926427256306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707076773248914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878573382380724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504109264990344,0.0,0.17185852284398306,0.13531795239921185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438809162729314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276772774279542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256307177893829,0.0,0.0,0.13481153469416646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226237217195133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011245017797144,0.1001593500214198,0.0,0.1362127160368642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,L4dyHD,2020/01/19,"How do you teach the difference between tattling and telling important things? DS is 4. He started tattling. ""Mama. Da said a bad word and I told him no."" We want to discourage silly tattling, but encourage telling the big things. How do you do that? When I was growing up, everything was tattling. Neighbor kid broke my arm? Quit tattling. Brother broke neighbor kids nose? Quit tattling. (Since the adults weren't going to punish the neighbor kid, brother would.  Lol!) 

I dont want to be that parent. I dont want to hear every little thing, but I want to hear the bigger things. I dont need to hear how his brother was mean in a game on the tv, but I do need to hear if something got broke.  

Please help? Thank you!",0.7639751552795033,3.3014030579710187,1.6801035196687373,94.72152173913048,94.5072463768116,4.077846790890269,23.23809523809524,5.916634753146586,0.5036703933747413,554,23,109,5,21,172,79,138,0.1,0.7070000000000001,0.193,0.8795,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,1,3,0,2,4,9,1,0,8,1,14,2,2,3,0,20,31,10,0,8,4,4,0,0,3,1,0,5,3,4,6,3,0,1,1,2,0,2,5,6,0,0,7,6,14,3,11,22,0,10,0,4,0,0,29,6,0,1,2,64,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023390431558543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542315597541318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.422081195697511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114444580245406,0.0,0.10789015168147824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822525447252904,0.0,0.09601223982817783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5412050130733543,0.0,0.08046471165983828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203182397747751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076595026708432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802607920470606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329755293667495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177512756014098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25536869138554463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419181572764175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930379564162208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241774469390772,0.0,0.0,0.08496960785453506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20985205538465734,0.11052278896289637,0.0,0.0,0.31901453170290395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470967955648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832264015804501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527766685641666,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kwm05,2020/01/19,"Entrepreneur Hello everyone!
 Kinda new here. Not really sure how to even use this. Lol. But I figured it’s a good way to reach people 🤷🏽‍♀️
So for months I’ve been looking into marketing trying different things researching different things. & like all trial and errors I’ve waisted a lot of money with all this. I can’t see myself working a 9-5 ever again but I’m also at a point where I’m feeling hopeless and I don’t want to give up but at the same time I have 2 boys I need to keep providing for ya know? 
So I guess what I’m saying is, does anyone know of any legit ways to make money online? Legit businesses? I eventually want partner up with somebody and do my own online business but I definitely need more experience (or the right idea)",1.0750980392156892,3.507565954248367,3.7668300653594784,83.19573529411767,85.53594771241829,6.537254901960785,21.5718954248366,7.793537801064563,1.3228013071895424,593,20,114,12,18,208,107,153,0.052000000000000005,0.835,0.113,0.6826,2,0,0,0,0,1,15.0,0,1,0,1,9,4,0,0,6,1,6,1,1,3,4,33,23,12,0,4,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,6,6,1,1,5,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,11,3,16,22,6,15,0,1,2,0,6,8,0,4,6,69,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338571411801607,0.0,0.18136078787999144,0.0,0.11382704424664915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703897428002955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497618748925813,0.0,0.0,0.14647910368332806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055573246894718,0.15140865620339478,0.0,0.1599428441980308,0.0,0.16373393572744713,0.0,0.0,0.08463451683803176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057024512605558,0.0,0.14039398516421256,0.0,0.0,0.18439264576304884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18895646806711275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877883105835046,0.0,0.0,0.1839800359160365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177549998741346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056063097664365,0.0,0.0,0.14230412163032222,0.0,0.0,0.11173030076596092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360452830858108,0.0,0.0,0.2482266323079104,0.0,0.16166077213313704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160431779838534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15823223963313476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072306502305488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429452530068289,0.0,0.13311069074687745,0.0,0.0,0.1333835928076301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577576946659882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224053442497083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976031145877208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364293273211998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456626772392378,0.0,0.0,0.1974551598256636,0.26572368671603896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185774294861075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Railman20,2020/01/19,"My nephew's behavior makes him a danger to himself and others. Background info: he is my brother in law's son from a previous relationship, my brother in law is currently married to my older sister. My family (which includes my brother in law, his son and my older sister, my mother and father, 1 older biological brother, a younger sister and a biological nephew) lives in the same house 

My 5 year old nephew tends to do things that could either get himself hurt or hurt others. I'm not sure why but he really likes things that involve fighting. Things such as Power Rangers, Pokemon, any video game or TV show that is combat oriented or includes fighting in some way. Because of this  and lack of proper parenting, he tends kick, punch, headbutt or wrestle either me or any other relatives in the house. He also likes to run around, he is almost always running around the house",7.9218518518518515,7.962221802469138,8.037407407407407,69.49833333333333,62.45679012345679,9.916049382716052,35.901234567901234,9.444778638647367,3.5095382716049386,700,29,112,11,9,228,95,162,0.12,0.8320000000000001,0.048,-0.8538,3,0,0,0,4,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,4,8,3,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,1,27,11,13,0,2,9,15,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,1,4,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,14,3,16,10,5,17,0,2,0,0,29,8,0,7,8,73,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057506255672555,0.0,0.0,0.12823798647150084,0.1334304437692751,0.0,0.0,0.21809745571282493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285504683172687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775255921982788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803256675560354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117095832608224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378027431866346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5550937314358514,0.34333244671792346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668533435914153,0.0,0.14159877784342745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704000303426184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826842021297464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17805823729491568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272924217832792,0.0,0.0,0.17216414648603254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113522473278831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31960357074297124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728447000218476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469787285931265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326509459642054
parenting,throwawayforadvice68,2020/01/19,Where is daddy going My son is 3 and I’m in the military I’ve explained that I need to go away for a while but he’s not understanding why and where how would you explain what I’m doing and why I’m doing it to a 3 year old,0.6580188679245254,1.2698555094339632,3.8265566037735854,91.22775943396229,78.81132075471697,6.809433962264151,20.797169811320764,7.1686216300943375,0.27304150943396266,174,4,45,2,4,64,38,53,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,11,14,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,13,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116994502424075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37709371816146026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459958436799975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481263224272546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34537387052822976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5987236140661747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356727924259249,0.0,0.0,0.21364256924415168
parenting,scb0121,2020/01/19,"Parents, let’s talk about our second favorite topic: minivans! Hi Parents,

Firstly, I appreciate this sub very much.  Parenting is hard, and I value the threads here.

Secondly, I am considering buying a minivan, and I’d love your thoughts and insights.

About my family: I’m 6’4 270 lbs (ample space is important to me,) my wife is tiny, and I have a 3.5 yo girl and a newborn boy.  We live in Colorado (mountain state in the US that gets snow in the winter.)

My old 4Runner is too high and small for the family, so we’re thinking about taking the plunge. Here are some things I’m curious about.  We would love to hear about your experiences!

1) what year, make and model do you have, and what are your favorite features and biggest frustrations?  Thinking about things like captain chairs, foldaway seats, room, media interface...  things like that.

2) is this a long term play for the family?  I figure we’ll be using this thing all the time until the kids can drive, but what are your experiences?

3) a minivan isn’t a sexy purchase if you ask most people.   But the practicality is undeniable.  Did you struggle taking the plunge?  In hindsight, would you have done it again?

4) any specific year, make, model recommendations?  Why?

Please share your learnings with me!

Thanks!!!",3.191150530503976,6.05015618534483,3.8098275862068967,83.6410079575597,79.81896551724137,6.50026525198939,25.733421750663126,7.748469712250963,1.7203436339522549,993,39,177,17,26,313,145,232,0.026000000000000002,0.818,0.156,0.9802,3,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,5,9,0,1,11,9,1,1,16,0,23,2,0,3,1,29,39,14,0,3,3,4,1,2,0,3,0,1,1,4,13,12,0,0,6,1,2,1,1,2,0,3,3,2,24,7,16,31,5,21,0,0,0,2,30,9,0,3,12,115,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854663549520857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749334669383707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286137412463451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24587729148551496,0.3554382807589301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690290000748973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656623401634753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258412655872443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164990610915326,0.0,0.0,0.13278726906749713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851578156953536,0.0,0.12280128952771785,0.0,0.11097728186139734,0.11122238336060464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226861271974384,0.0,0.16778405531597584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238887738973636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318794708736543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41865656234416376,0.0,0.0,0.08713032570577382,0.0,0.0,0.13795832629425922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138747862122865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889906533001013,0.10101640397412777,0.0,0.11570877801454582,0.0,0.0,0.33398344340204444,0.16106066991259896,0.0,0.0997754672072194,0.07328471446300254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117693784490685,0.10854671693502084,0.0,0.10369873178708264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340618094040948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785581908759122,0.0,0.0,0.161866926876202
parenting,quesomonstruo,2020/01/19,"Should I still be using the newborn car seat inset on my 10 month old? She's small. Proportionally, she's slim and long. The insert is for a maximum length of 60cm which she's over by a way.

But there's a gap in the back. 

It's as though she has to hunch to be in it and the shoulder straps go over her shoulders and quite far (or at least I think so. About an inch or just under) down into the back. But the insert makes it a really tight fit 

The woman in the shop said she shouldn't need to use it but she just doesn't seem to be comfortable or supported in it as is.",0.868698181818182,2.3396296879999987,2.718618181818183,95.8113090909091,80.12,6.1454545454545455,16.96363636363636,6.980632752743323,-0.3522800000000004,441,7,110,5,11,147,79,125,0.0,0.9209999999999999,0.079,0.8515,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,13,0,9,2,2,3,0,21,18,13,0,3,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,4,0,1,2,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,10,2,21,12,1,24,0,0,0,0,10,15,0,4,6,77,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37980622061429004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403575782349831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185588654786567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485302538597074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971274627020892,0.0,0.0,0.18312360674230235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591513206529684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26268081634157936,0.0,0.0,0.1582139937279778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349230769998932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483034760823575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972289251159065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802563046972179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824709121364886,0.2426447584565707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4266020307770911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960316645151214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Queen_Red,2020/01/19,"I’m 30 years old and my parents are Chaperoning me on a play date. 😂 I live in a Port City, where unfortunately sex trafficking is a problem. 

A mom posted on one of the FB mom groups that she’s looking for friends with only one kid ( apparently her daughter is getting made fun of for not having any siblings).

So we set up a play date for today at 11 at a public place. My mom just called me to tell me she just had a bad feeling and thinks this lady is going to kidnap my daughter and I. So her and my dad are now joining us on the play date. 

I just Find it hysterical that a 30-year-old is having her parents tagalong.  They weren’t even like this when I was a teenager!!!!",3.9071631205673767,4.162007375886525,5.332765957446809,84.73333333333333,70.98581560283688,7.685106382978723,29.141843971631204,7.3871296695380915,1.51134609929078,524,19,115,5,9,177,91,141,0.069,0.799,0.133,0.8429,4,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,1,0,9,8,0,0,11,0,11,1,0,1,0,15,18,7,0,1,4,8,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,2,0,2,4,2,19,6,15,14,0,20,0,0,1,1,22,9,0,0,9,77,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787284388248823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244820139386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197747068655827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047726517706529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020735390577079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498360783455136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255601318924304,0.0,0.08287686275358759,0.0,0.09015225243620296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749788990777867,0.0,0.14007190323547614,0.0,0.13320801837313698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009815595996046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5573514714745127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329079280574066,0.0,0.21498160226260216,0.12064414947791187,0.0,0.0,0.3522764329538393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573305744712985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192228822642176,0.0,0.0,0.15178608541632754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386483320403831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164276053910944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503613038988547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19081059703457365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430315230412852
parenting,omgseriouslynoway,2020/01/19,"Conversation with my daughter made me feel old! My 6 yo daughter: can I have tiktok? It looks awesome! My friend has it! 

Me: no, it's full of spyware

6 yo: please please please I'm sure it's fine, everyone has it <ad infinitum>

Me: no, I've been around longer than the internet, I know more about it than you do....

Then I realise what I said. Old, I'm officially OLD!

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parenting,glamatovic,2020/01/19,"It's great if you listen to your kids, but please also give them room if they don't want to talk Hey parents. A teen (AKA a bad guy) here giving some advice:

**(PSA: I'm really only talking about personal experience as a son)**

When your kids are upset about something, first and foremost make sure they know they can count on you BUT please give them room as well; ie: don't ""force"" them to talk unless they want to.

Please respect your childrens (or teens) privacy, unless you suspect something serious is going on (Them being bullied or self-harming). Most of the time it's nothing very serious but we don't really want to adress it (it's not that we love you less or care less about your advise), and we may feel worse if we are forced to talk about it.

This obviously doesn't mean ""stop talking to your kids"", it's great that you're listening to them and are willing to help them out, but sometimes we don't want to talk about it and it's cool, but do make sure your kids aren't planning on doing something terrible or are being abused in some way.

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parenting,danieljay691,2020/01/19,"Has your toddler complained about ""everything being red"" when they have a fever? A couple months ago we got the bug that was going around and we all got the fever. At 2 a.m that night, my 3 year old woke up crying screaming ""daddy please come help me everything is red"". Of course I panicked, went and grabbed her and took her out to the kitchen in the light where I was asking what color things are and she answered correctly. 

Last night at 11pm she woke up calmly, told my wife that she is thirsty and wants some orange juice, and again asked ""why is everything red?"" Her fever was 99.5. 


I'm not sure what to think. I've googled a little and found nothing.",3.8234883720930237,5.3794321627907005,3.436348837209305,93.40196511627909,72.33333333333333,6.4003100775193795,23.752713178294567,6.742157984588678,0.5264536434108527,515,14,109,4,10,153,90,129,0.10400000000000001,0.841,0.055,-0.7523,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,1,0,5,4,0,0,7,0,10,4,0,0,3,21,25,8,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,6,12,1,0,3,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,11,7,15,2,11,13,2,22,0,0,4,0,16,9,0,1,9,62,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489256916441661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495594625437867,0.3141227179623369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472084436051885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858935830449244,0.18454485511423788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4529743457476709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842080637598986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548072592513747,0.0,0.2687368021524653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260975338291672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694594290203152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838446356189055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340994442570449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153213441751508,0.0,0.1612046748045033,0.0,0.17629227100924888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441829107996946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15834208203722125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161460409035813,0.10765038364600887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605353260954515,0.18665897965242767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909329995593724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574168651150394,0.15159776614227022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818927294465784
parenting,RobSerial,2020/01/19,"Need some help with Toddler sleep habits/bed wetting. So we are at the end of what we know to try with this and need some help. Keep in mind the same issue does not appear with either grandma and all they do is ask her and she does it. No tricks no nothing.

The issue:
Daughter turning 3 in March. As been toilet trained for the better part of a year with occasional accidents that usually coincide with growth phases. For the past few weeks she will wake up in the night and clearly needs to pee. If we ask her she says no and screams to leave her alone (this is not normal for her). If we pick her up and put her on the toilet she will not go and continues screaming. If we try to get her to sleep she will continually wake up every hour and the process repeats because she actually does have to pee, or she just pees the bed and wakes up upset because she had an accident.

What we have tried:
Asking if she has to pee
Making a deal (you can have ___ in the bed if you pee)
Sitting her on the toilet (locks legs out, kicks, screams, if actually sitting will refuse to go)

We are out of methods. Also please note we live in an apartment so letting her scream for beyond 5 min is not an option.

Also there is this school of thought were if you make a loud noise or equal their volume for a minute it gets them to pay attention and they will calm and listen. She finds these things hilarious and will laugh then return to however she was before.

Suggestions are appreciated. Thank you.",2.8517143607246,4.852294566552903,3.585204778157,89.4301778682069,76.03071672354947,6.418955106327123,23.214623260698342,7.321109707123232,0.7934474665266471,1160,35,241,14,26,367,157,293,0.10099999999999999,0.805,0.09300000000000001,0.3477,1,1,1,0,0,0,29.0,8,4,4,1,7,10,1,1,18,0,24,11,11,3,2,63,43,27,0,11,15,1,1,0,0,6,0,7,2,0,10,27,0,2,4,0,1,5,7,6,0,0,5,8,36,4,40,31,8,37,0,0,0,0,47,16,0,13,14,171,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.2298111891680637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195198161856738,0.0,0.1883269379473402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302369843449186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435568403787864,0.0,0.1001953392884486,0.0,0.0,0.10413901940535528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213935796750014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091276359266895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429026133722093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992082276983592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762003702501928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230375098436884,0.0,0.1338384233912118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578487354930639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595859828356245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24579777810022474,0.0,0.1046603171021426,0.0,0.0,0.06471152099549722,0.0,0.0,0.12467870771127065,0.0,0.12040586507093905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397412257507924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719613637100024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188924642121624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619271626118014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049903306948253,0.1153685738129397,0.11298290471756625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751019982941927,0.1124043098218461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925254329338173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836981019009545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363836914264764,0.0,0.11916781393420199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356671633785739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084070403104892,0.0,0.0,0.0782269012627761,0.0,0.0,0.09347919216786814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398305987125896,0.12807660472096752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968338703654148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445078039504186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582620250555894
parenting,dnkwtu,2020/01/19,"Do I bring my newborn around the unvaccinated kids? Family reunion happening tomorrow for my in laws fam (my parents in law are the hosts) We were made aware that there will be some second cousins who have chosen not to vaccinate their 5 kids who will be there. I ha e a 1.5 month old.  My gut is telling me ""don't go"" thoughts? How do I tell them? Is there a safe was for me to still go ?",0.6180694444444441,2.8465701125,2.184166666666666,95.23527777777781,85.375,6.055555555555558,21.38888888888889,7.3871296695380915,0.580597222222222,299,10,70,5,9,97,59,80,0.0,0.9179999999999999,0.08199999999999999,0.7399,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,4,1,13,1,1,2,0,10,19,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,4,0,12,2,7,11,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,4,47,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575681259613093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27275784062899816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288697515179021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558566274165601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737743202188957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309432112303017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036068002184854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32127057239398005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310620787657783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057804023117412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22969845221861496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jenny_Conway,2020/01/19,"[Academic Research] Parenting children/people with mental health issues Hi Everyone, as part of my research into caring for people with mental health issues, I am asking you to complete the below survey.
For this research to go ahead, I need another 25 people to complete the questionnaire, I'd really appreciate if you could take a couple of minutes to complete.
This is a really important area of research aimed to help direct the limited resources to areas that will impact families the most
Thank you!

https://forms.gle/FstMwKsWJbiKRkEd7",17.10780303030303,12.990692659090907,15.025000000000002,39.58666666666667,48.54545454545455,17.187878787878788,52.06060606060606,14.554592549557764,7.757942424242424,446,20,50,12,3,143,59,88,0.021,0.826,0.153,0.9036,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,6,0,4,2,0,0,0,8,10,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,17,8,2,6,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,1,39,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453070327652078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668689335752094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997717569867834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4935421110577217,0.0,0.0,0.1252774968382986,0.17361464569542998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993139249420218,0.0,0.0,0.14791798472562814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917388180219815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33356967390094755,0.0,0.0,0.10517147561086104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275403498662495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31625076521170137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634457553471947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742266895447562,0.16991502440113065,0.0,0.3263387371621949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010373241483581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797456020398778,0.0,0.0,0.1444589132810789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gloomytanturm1,2020/01/19,"Hey, I'm not sure if this is allowed due to not being a parent but here's some tips from a teenager that your kid would enjoy if you do this. Some of this from personal experience First of all, if your kid is disabled don't go to hard on them nor call them names and stuff. This would make it harder to deal with when they are older.

If your teenager showing signs of depression, don't try to force them to show their emotions. Try to talk it out. This also includes self harming, don't get angry at them even if they relapse. 

Don't compare your younger kid to the oldest. This probably cause self-esteem issues later. This is from personal experience. 

If your kid comes out as trans, gay, bi, or anything lgbtq, try to be as supportive as always. If your kid comes out as trans male, take them to get their hair cut or pick up masculine clothing and same thing with trans woman. This would make them feel happier and like their selves. It also make take use to referring them to right pronouns and their chosen names, but you should always apologize if you do use their old pronouns. 

If your kid secretive, this probably is because they don't trust you enough to show you their emotions because they afraid how you act. Don't try to force them to you their secret. They will lose trust in you. 

Don't call your kid names if their disabled, they are special in their own kind of way and they probably just need a supported parent in a way to support them and go on. 


Listen to your kid. This frustrates me the most with my parents. If they don't like the clothes you bought them, try to compromise with them. 


DON'T PLAY FAVORITISM WITH YOUR CHILDREN IF YOU HAVE MULTIPLE OF THEM. There always been the thing that youngest get the favoritism but this isn't the case with some youngest siblings.


Respect your child opinions.

Give your teenager freedom sometimes. This is what some teenagers need to calm down. They stressed enough about school and especially they are going through puberty. 

GIVE THEM PRIVACY AT TIMES THEY NEED TO. I'm telling you. If your tracking your teenager every move, they will outsmart you. They will find a way off tracking apps. 

LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS FEELINGS. I have a bunch of issues trying to express my emotions from this. This is important. 

This is only something I can think of about this stuff. But please take this into consideration.",4.194723710746182,6.473298611235959,3.7094382022471915,88.79066839527512,73.0,6.541630653990206,26.9158743877845,7.419758726546812,1.3771544223566696,1882,69,357,22,39,560,194,445,0.077,0.81,0.11199999999999999,0.946,4,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,0,27,35,2,10,21,2,2,12,0,35,3,1,9,2,78,67,35,0,20,22,3,4,2,0,7,0,2,0,16,27,19,0,0,8,4,1,7,13,7,0,1,2,6,67,14,59,56,11,33,0,2,0,2,98,15,0,21,10,249,94,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460567557911495,0.19447658661250006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411147945208004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498374090489206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910514442804086,0.0,0.0,0.08003276907770554,0.0,0.1342213388316861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031951865855895,0.06710187212472428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26290735941908305,0.0,0.16099916248253626,0.0,0.05145736571086583,0.0,0.06564067982041599,0.0,0.0,0.15241755125403642,0.0,0.0,0.07878504691595763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120631581182295,0.06626833304797729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211082654515168,0.149472517457303,0.13283039070413374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979008421835581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263099973827433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811289826809211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612362950466027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715889774596107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601218007706535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280365962446974,0.0,0.17330293480845688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175112833640669,0.0,0.0,0.059252390921159824,0.0,0.0,0.2595221692227298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605216806929712,0.0,0.08551936676150952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519933488920351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653283367889286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884685071824174,0.0,0.0,0.1625496484239782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059977229011922276,0.07705280416621353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924311920879455,0.0,0.17837157851103197,0.0,0.2652265372369453,0.07342717746826002,0.0,0.1757309047037331,0.06261933681310343,0.06809484924196542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351695818507416,0.04992017108025445,0.0,0.0,0.04542866344149619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173656844086962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345746464990288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855187508602598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660303929160982,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommyisme,2020/01/19,"Is this a normal parenting thought process or am I needlessly stressing myself out? I have two kids, 3 and 8 months. Every time I see/read the news of kids getting hurt, I immediately start thinking about my kids and worry these accidents might happen to them. I get really sad and just go into a ""what would I do if this happens?"" and start playing out scenarios of how I would save them or how I can prevent things like that from happening. How do I prevent my kids from ever getting hurt?!?

The news of the two siblings who got swept away by a  wave at the beach and the grandpa and toddler on the cruise ship are giving me a lot of anxiety and stress. I can't stop thinking about those poor babies and then think about my own babies. I know every parent worries about their kids getting hurt but am I overly worried? Is this normal? I don't want to be an overly protective mom but even a slight boo-boo feels like someone cut a piece of my heart out.",5.8513852813852845,5.809927058201058,6.095036075036077,81.96688311688312,66.77777777777777,8.777489177489178,30.93843193843194,8.296473431620573,2.125524867724868,750,26,149,9,11,240,114,189,0.159,0.767,0.07400000000000001,-0.9279,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,3,0,10,11,1,2,13,0,15,1,1,3,1,41,34,17,0,6,6,4,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,5,9,12,0,4,6,3,1,2,2,7,0,2,2,1,22,4,23,28,3,18,0,4,0,0,14,9,0,5,9,107,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745964695578327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741374028080976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755117367940288,0.10341508613114812,0.19265042697410054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780703737780692,0.0816750494312633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389240222825661,0.1096726313157668,0.06497452381231239,0.0,0.09143754187829768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032962889512254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547774321996728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36716743507227695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283098911831582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170854542498017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719651018795047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128260947945592,0.0,0.13389810192032262,0.09125451707320244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240318723567265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538926412035384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435768338442975,0.0,0.07324064031447754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110361378647372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968686799863922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184211701519746,0.0,0.0,0.0955822779856037,0.2619218001262599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595360928609689,0.2197678855446583,0.0,0.09076266506387574,0.06666484436793486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22336123496823374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743287627155091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483130771274306,0.0,0.162428878826732,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vapr21,2020/01/19,What to do when high school junior is failing on all the class tests? My son is a junior in high school and is failing on class assessment of each of the subjects now whether it is an AP class or a regular class (he is getting Ds or below in each of the test which has become a pattern now). What should we do as a parent when kid is not sharing anything? TIA!,3.654,4.178154400000004,4.577333333333332,88.96200000000002,71.66666666666666,7.066666666666667,28.333333333333336,6.742157984588678,1.218733333333334,280,10,61,2,5,91,48,75,0.161,0.8390000000000001,0.0,-0.9158,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,0,1,10,11,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,10,3,11,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,2,4,46,6,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379013652103055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192838051726249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510407215178159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6108915667154805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210068820128397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5851611470742402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jlynny1811,2020/01/19,"Help settle a debate....Swim lessons or teach her to swim? I want my almost 5 year old to take swim lessons. We did a free trial when she was three but didn't continue because my husband didn't want to pay for lessons and he said he'd teach her himself.  We don't have a pool but he said he'd get it done. Fast forward a year and a half and I have yet to see her swim comfortably without floaters. He's sworn she's done this a few times. I have yet to see this.  And a ""few times"" doesn't equate to strong swimmer, which is what I want. The only water access we have is two neighbors with pools and I don't really feel that it's right of us to invite ourselves over, he disagrees (neighbors don't seem to mind, I still think it's rude).  The only other water access is a lake which he has taken her too. He keeps insisting she can swim without floaters, which I have yet to see (I'm in the military reserves, he's taken her while I've been away on duty).

It'll be getting warm enough to swim in a few months and I want her to get comfortable swimming without floaters.  He grew up with a swimming pool and says his dad just threw him in the deep end and that's how he learned to swim. I learned to swim by taking swim lessons.  He is so adamant about not paying for swim lessons (before she supposedly knew how to swim and now) that he gets upset when I bring it up.  

I know that I don't need his permission to sign her up (which I just sent my info over to one of the local swim schools), but I'd like us to be on the same page about it and his reaction is so visceral I'd like to get some feedback from others pov. Because I'm definitely not understanding his pov.",2.2604571428571423,3.604461874285714,3.343857142857144,93.35264285714287,75.97142857142856,6.371428571428572,24.214285714285715,6.868970318607317,0.6135999999999995,1296,41,298,12,28,417,160,350,0.03,0.8690000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.9551,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,0,0,6,16,9,1,1,16,0,29,2,0,2,0,54,60,21,0,5,11,2,2,2,2,1,0,3,2,0,19,15,2,2,14,16,3,18,12,2,0,4,14,8,40,8,42,41,7,49,0,0,3,0,44,15,0,4,20,184,59,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248489615698273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492280824859435,0.0,0.0,0.14912915959027204,0.0,0.10408453337035488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25034978750307274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833840439530767,0.12638831428949165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061848205402972214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31953337076545985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819879052936661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872282428835277,0.0,0.0,0.06722337101041961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195178541594642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350740809559015,0.0,0.09763392783833022,0.0,0.0,0.09069805272740024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835330497850386,0.0,0.08288657864351295,0.18605835435845053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836073896002978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445983151608652,0.23270692406799784,0.0972730470996784,0.0,0.12379344582484665,0.29241742566357976,0.11135470235024007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768418047108447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839374604736949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837713158987111,0.0,0.0,0.14265048598419044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194879738351759,0.12733848284276025,0.29426960057359497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885878655429765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537337032076092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753896261214687
parenting,RatherBBakin,2020/01/19,"Potty training break through - you gotta push, kid My daughter recently turned three and she's been doing well with #1, but just could not master #2. It has been getting very frustrating for me and my husband, as well as her daycare teachers I'm sure. 

We've been trying to tell her ""when you need to poop you've got to tell us, so you can go to the potty."" ""Hold it till you get to the potty"" ""don't poop in your panties"" trying to be encouraging, even offering a treat or surprise if she does poop in the potty (is this frowned upon? We were desperate!), but she just was not getting it.

Throughout the day we would see her staining and know she was pooping, so we'd try to get her to stop to take her to the toilet, but that would be all. And then 5-10 minutes later it was the same routine.  So she would have like 5+ just small little poops a day. We were going through so many parts if underwear and it was just so frustrating.

Today I could see her straining, and I said "" come on kid let's go to the bathroom and I just want you to push that out."" We went to the toilet and as she was sitting there I could see her changing the toilet seat and I was like ""good kid!"" And then she had the biggest poop! I had to call my husband and he was so sucked he took a picture. (Sorry if this is too graphic, but it was impressive). 

We congratulated her! And I had to ask if she felt better, because honestly there's no way she didn't!!

But then I realized, all those times I thought she was trying so hard to poop out the smallest little nugget, she was trying desperately not to poop at all. Because we've been telling her not to poop in her underwear. I had been thinking I seriously needed to up her fiber intake, but she was just trying to do what we said because we weren't giving her all the information she needed. 

Now I'm laying in bed thinking about how miserable she must have been these past few weeks (month?) holding in her poop. My poor baby! 

So let's hope we all learned something today and this is the final step in potty training.

Oh well I guess we still have nighttime potty training to look forward to. Wish us luck!",2.813105734173021,4.374598795823669,3.832525024859134,89.51836658932716,74.96287703016242,6.410633079217766,25.307325157441174,6.9916214562510826,0.9320228173682468,1655,56,350,16,35,534,194,431,0.08800000000000001,0.797,0.115,0.9084,0,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,12,6,0,2,28,21,3,2,16,0,48,10,10,1,7,81,85,41,0,17,21,3,2,2,0,5,0,2,1,3,14,26,0,3,8,0,1,10,8,6,3,1,32,8,62,15,43,40,8,48,0,1,4,0,64,17,1,8,22,248,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856422709326125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753242308859378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102092621995499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354327424164267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691042655913804,0.0789132466618098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942756603008326,0.0,0.0,0.11816075937593867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016786127485996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605070375285199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795923446064748,0.10035344210101166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19144818271295985,0.08787992834776617,0.1561909228005008,0.07683748223092363,0.0732682760699429,0.0,0.10091790346829513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206388311143037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098864343638532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034604126383422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873533045743417,0.0,0.08951129237991698,0.18363304561676552,0.0,0.0,0.07692868731094579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287738841235876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312161954711979,0.0,0.0,0.20378126698475132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920387719859623,0.08745138320759363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045307043034166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428272675720766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900210533091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705252668213192,0.0,0.10254904147175986,0.0,0.0,0.07315925558179395,0.07658942472627217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634062240281255,0.0,0.06887874585713755,0.0,0.2402115348306185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739900102757385,0.0,0.07272750190064073,0.053418083218058666,0.0,0.17366969154814382,0.0,0.10178123385087298,0.3731799541523455,0.0996445443874251,0.0,0.0,0.22038926686485047,0.0,0.0,0.07558721521670199,0.05403350192233184,0.07271514884522184,0.07348340471708274,0.0,0.24710311961951256,0.08492268116258596,0.0,0.0,0.10534610232731842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952297222422314,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chimpageek,2020/01/19,"It's okay or concerns - 12lbs at 4 months Hello all,
Our 4 month old have a slow growth rate as per the weight height graph and we are starting to be concerned about it. She was born 7.6 lbs and 19 inches in height. She is 22 inches in height now and 12 lbs at 4 months.

She was on 100% breast milk until 3.5 months and then we switched to 80/20 breastfeeding/formula. 
She throws up milk few times a week (5-10 times a week).

Should we be concerned about her weight? Is there anything we should do to help her gain weight, diagnose for anything?",2.947023445463813,4.628290532110093,2.6654434250764503,97.52387359836901,74.87155963302753,5.945361875637107,21.285423037716612,6.42735559955562,-0.00754515800203892,424,10,96,3,9,125,72,109,0.0,0.898,0.102,0.8738,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,1,11,7,1,0,1,12,12,8,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,11,1,14,6,2,28,0,0,0,1,13,11,0,1,15,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285364664063012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598366750029162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162173291669989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5535818625350744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193998542747705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272387089345795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20220614767600087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278160414803775,0.6334142103273632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bobsc414,2020/01/19,"Single dad here; my daughter (6) has recently started asking for her mom. I think it might have to do with her learning about families at school, but she has never asked for her mom before because here mom walked out on us when she was two. She does not remember her mom at all, and I'd prefer to keep it that way as her mom was not a good person. But now she's asking me about her mom, she yells that she wants her mom when she is in the midst of a tantrum, and, most recently, her babysitter told me that while she used to say ""I want Daddy"" when I was gone, she has started to say ""I want Mommy,"" which, I admit, kind of hurts. I'm wondering if this is just a phase. I'm sure she's going to have questions in the coming years, but I don't know how much to share with her when she's so young right now. Any advice?",6.425621387283236,4.107221930635841,6.6899927745664725,85.61510476878614,66.6878612716763,9.806069364161848,29.13945086705203,7.645422480735847,1.477116184971098,626,13,148,5,8,203,99,173,0.063,0.8740000000000001,0.063,-0.4782,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,0,0,0,13,6,1,0,5,0,13,0,0,2,3,32,33,14,0,5,7,9,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,7,6,0,1,8,0,0,4,4,2,0,1,5,3,30,4,21,27,4,26,0,1,0,0,40,7,0,5,14,102,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283615822009253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460552475790161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26644587766634953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791315046921446,0.0,0.08084083970105799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183695986160623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313805758693478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956068798593614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399258392679878,0.0796842889527461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170303369257236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444332818274758,0.0,0.0989313526010532,0.052211347681036836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078352386385324,0.0,0.7788672939749166,0.0,0.0,0.06983838153509186,0.0,0.0732724277631606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295324658721931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642547634219543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187608661594944,0.0,0.1076202573536066,0.08113232793909657,0.0,0.15110092831637303,0.0,0.0961484457480247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448769722538498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953951774771676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087430020501128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077975668325647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280445255629942,0.0,0.11427731305773367,0.08205237736259971,0.0,0.0,0.16810628310417355,0.07540922429512757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030270628885925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061179032132870424
parenting,SubjectWafer,2020/01/19,"First broken bone Well, it's here. The first broken home I've ever had to deal with. My oldest girl (5), fell off the top of a play structure today and broke her arm. And to all the parents who've never seen their kid break a bone, let me tell you, I think it hurt me more than her. I took my girls to the park, but I got distracted with my 3 year old and wasn't watching her. All I heard was her screaming, and gosh was that the worst sound I've ever heard in my life. 

I keep thinking that I should have protected her more, gone up the play structure with her to make sure she didn't fall, but I know that really there's nothing I could have done, and that broken bones are a normal part of childhood. My daughter is pretty pleased with herself though, she got a bright purple cast out of it. Said that she wanted purple to match her rain boots. I guess kids tend to see the brighter side of things.",4.7503519061583575,4.5778821290322576,4.644330400782014,91.88195014662756,69.10752688172043,7.4087976539589455,24.435972629521018,6.1124844417494595,0.42763010752688224,700,14,160,3,11,215,113,186,0.122,0.73,0.149,0.6652,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,3,6,10,0,1,11,0,13,5,4,1,6,28,30,8,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,4,9,10,0,2,3,2,0,4,3,5,1,2,14,11,29,5,19,13,6,21,0,2,6,0,24,6,0,1,10,103,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13215757896803226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706481486067037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938869217156774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994521719806436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815895447273004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26476959542733697,0.0,0.18234353192074748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16603423607267795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719704481916834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471254854983825,0.0,0.0,0.09096775365690532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925967592976068,0.11691461467481445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048866715873867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766244225914647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217854009480398,0.15882490297986232,0.0,0.1736897696862658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379499960451687,0.1792465432489601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169583000002384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683975854151483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603902022384697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745138799713448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190133105458152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600456902189372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446754182154916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996690193559858,0.21212240599172366,0.16262665421002406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689755660859606,0.0,0.1839034405768284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763044260684473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882610528471926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065921369819798
parenting,closettedextrovert,2020/01/19,"Need advice on letting my son call/talk to his biological mom Sorry about the long post, I’m hoping to get some unbiased advice. 
My husband and I have raised his nephew since he was 2, he is 8 now. Neither one of his biological parents have been in contact or called for ANY occasion since the reunification case closed on permanent guardianship in 2015. 
His bio mom would call randomly maybe once every 3 months when her dad (my husband and her are related paternally) would visit her or give her money and urge her to call us. 
When I caught on, I basically told her that he was doing well but her lack of consistency/never following through with visitations and in staying in touch really set him back. She never called again. (She suffers from addiction and a cocktail of disorders) 
Fast forward to now, he is 8 and asking to call her. He knows his grandfather goes to see her and she recently called my husband while relapsing and our boy saw her name pop up on his phone. He is really smart and started putting everything together. He even told me he could probably call her through Alexa since she was in his dad’s contacts (we have since changed the name). 
I want to clarify, I haven’t told him he can’t talk to her, going on his school counselor’s advice, I have told him to write her a letter. He’s self conscious about his spelling and says he would rather talk to her on the phone. I’ve told him I can help with the spelling but he still doesn’t want to do it. 
What complicates things even further is we recently reopened his case and applied for TPR (terminating parental rights) so we can adopt him and he can (legally) become our son. Obviously the lack of contact in 5 years is a strong argument for us in the case, which I’m not worried about losing, but I don’t know if as we’re going through this—facilitating contact between them is a good idea. 
I don’t want him to resent me thinking I kept him from his biological mom. I also know that he probably has high hopes and she will likely let him down. 
She just got admitted to a mental health clinic after another episode. 
I’m hoping someone has some advice as to how to move forward. 
Sorry about the lengthy post.",5.727065999648937,6.452573305687202,6.192285413375464,78.50504914867477,67.12796208530807,9.474600667017727,31.980340530103565,9.53975657930432,2.8376105669650697,1733,69,333,34,27,561,209,422,0.045,0.86,0.095,0.9647,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,7,0,1,2,19,11,1,0,13,0,34,3,0,1,2,58,66,27,0,15,9,13,1,1,0,4,3,1,0,2,6,19,1,1,7,1,1,10,8,3,1,1,13,4,64,8,52,46,5,50,0,2,2,0,107,21,0,9,20,212,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232136005994075,0.0,0.2593101912996523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05305278406046215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045114078676836256,0.06956420529911991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062019774795850365,0.0,0.0,0.051012047792566836,0.0,0.0,0.07326829851235762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.541931710960638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017986287748935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052967800756145496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760324050027512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876350615231963,0.0,0.055895059288585916,0.0,0.05962291233142964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034660375792332984,0.06364022469105801,0.07540611080452124,0.05564358922233298,0.05305886838420664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051726156487348,0.0,0.0,0.04446689873262924,0.07009279040099158,0.0,0.1976744117170179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489078736337099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937765102594547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567610515725245,0.0,0.03241080680506553,0.0,0.0,0.05870959813798765,0.0,0.07421848418338663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664833868570194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685601142850647,0.0,0.0,0.2330929382203253,0.052952663767972336,0.07050986486861603,0.0,0.04919092775245649,0.05116618251050942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065088044802875,0.04495430253564407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732741012731107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707246452643894,0.0,0.1430533952947549,0.0,0.0,0.06669091578443218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499934304868324,0.0,0.13100724669239813,0.0,0.0,0.05665475575959344,0.0,0.0527569367616205,0.0,0.06714052029430176,0.0528650984478116,0.0,0.0692080144573027,0.0,0.0,0.21951147197191576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621041900700648,0.0,0.0,0.148526385121508,0.046956421888288184,0.07071055953225244,0.052979918748127366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996687816257438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04407393807436742,0.04250856221874959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169578066751628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595998395364321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173887234946518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059648425414489226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737239189420499,0.0,0.14137998998703405,0.0,0.0,0.04272135671612886
parenting,Wompum-Stompum,2020/01/19,"My child (4F) started to say she was scared of monsters. My solution to my daughter(4F) saying she was scared of monsters was to inform her that monsters taste like her favorite food, in this case chicken.  For a week or two i had to remind her what monsters taste like and now she no longer claims that she is scared of monsters.",5.883095238095237,6.586690285714287,4.974722222222223,87.44875,66.77777777777777,6.934920634920636,31.62301587301588,5.985473137389443,1.52903492063492,260,10,50,1,4,77,40,63,0.147,0.7140000000000001,0.139,-0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,3,1,0,5,3,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,4,11,2,9,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,5,35,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016762457410713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24376991664658404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967983319347465,0.7493290399618086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658559255520975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437089724118305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012048722033074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chango-the-burrito,2020/01/19,"Need a second pair of eyes. My wife and I have a two year old girl. I have been showing and teaching our daughter to pick up after herself and tidying up around the house. Whether it be her toys when she is done or pick up her shoes and clothes that she'll leave on the floor.
For the most part she does very well. When it comes to her toys I'll will get on the floor and help her put them away. When she leaves her shoes on the couch, I'll politely ask her to put them with the other shoes. 

She doesn't do this everytime because she is two, which is not a big deal. My wife doesn't know how to feel about this. She thinks that I'm an taking things too far and could possibly give our daughter anxiety over keeping things clean.

I believe that this teaches her responsibility. I'm not behaving like a drill sergeant telling our daughter to pick up every single thing and mop and sweep and clean. Just small things, she sees me clean and she wants to help. She'll hold the dust pan and she's even wanted to wipe down the dinner table. 

I do have a thing about keeping the house tidy. I was taught at an early age to clean up after myself. I get a strong sense of satisfaction and accomplishment when the house goes from a mess to everything put away and tidied up. But living in a house with several people and two kids. I do not expect the house to be pristine, that's straight out unfair.

I feel responsible for teaching our daughter to at least pick up after herself. This is a value that I believe will be very beneficial if taught correctly.

Any thoughts and concerns are welcomed.",4.168111801242233,5.446261758730164,4.2109868875086285,89.26534161490684,71.09523809523809,7.129054520358868,25.759144237405106,7.423996415210882,1.0375479641131815,1254,38,264,13,23,386,158,315,0.034,0.8490000000000001,0.11699999999999999,0.976,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,2,2,12,5,0,0,22,0,24,5,4,5,1,51,45,24,0,6,8,6,2,1,0,4,0,0,7,2,18,20,1,6,5,3,0,4,5,1,1,4,6,4,39,4,42,31,4,40,0,0,2,0,41,25,0,3,12,182,57,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546736656912867,0.0,0.0736468099655849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570131957467915,0.09000009420960385,0.0,0.18089895382616555,0.0,0.0,0.058685715581583565,0.0,0.0,0.21692818829123373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292867011358146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686430777635749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992508482555063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842471245653569,0.09851833448053303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635858790128968,0.0,0.0811122036218795,0.0,0.08652188345641416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735470115924806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059491821498708,0.09235161263595563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905642074060913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5554172205167299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17113961510794876,0.0,0.0,0.05290785038139648,0.0,0.0,0.2038735085145895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047032993516454014,0.0,0.08500877797513127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138349254817218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101988867395306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042517695596477,0.0,0.06674197086637619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853073158344764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903358835120399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671527115931041,0.0,0.0,0.108758470869426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238357353998108,0.0,0.08414482135813567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197898244502104,0.061686367243278764,0.0,0.07642816977421246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821274095761049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588667936163813,0.1135658877451098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655890680721637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06199516431444615
parenting,bandmonkey101,2020/01/19,"Child's Anxiety is Worsening My Own So, my daughter (9) goes back and forth between her dad's house and mine and the dynamics are vastly different between each household. She gets incredible anxiety from being there (whole other story) and when she comes home, she struggles to get out of that self-preservation mindset, which I understand. The biggest issue I face is when I am going through my own battle of anxiety and depression and she comes home, I have no energy to assist her and just get frustrated. Does anyone have any advice other than cry it out when she goes to bed?",5.682172897196264,7.484734542056074,6.1683060747663525,74.66124415887852,68.06542056074767,9.835981308411217,31.132009345794398,10.125756701596842,3.4813000000000014,464,19,77,12,8,150,72,107,0.217,0.747,0.036000000000000004,-0.9607,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,7,5,2,1,2,0,7,1,1,0,0,14,14,11,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,12,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,15,1,12,13,4,11,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,0,4,60,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837708418477461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788779609586856,0.0,0.4315980026191204,0.0,0.0,0.13149648729840094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446071505363166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239954624656719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065759633403218,0.0,0.0,0.1619764955453567,0.0,0.0,0.19648351424045649,0.0,0.0,0.16457327753822007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947620256431386,0.0,0.1068792891907436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772806413689905,0.0,0.0,0.21699691913092026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628662040665634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961884338704208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19660198548167898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577793004394695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996317244201293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StrictMom123,2020/01/19,"How to keep your child safe on Roblox. Hello! Here are some tips and tricks to keep your child safe on roblox.

1. Do not let them on in the first place! TOO MUCH RADIATION!
2. If you do, keep their privacy settings as high as possible. They should make real life friends only!
3. Only let them play game you approve! If you do not like any of the games available, create one yourself!
4. Look over their shoulder every minute to make sure they are not chatting or playing unapproved games.

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That is all!",1.226013745704467,3.8706516701030935,1.529938144329897,95.61153951890034,94.15463917525773,4.236151202749141,19.86872852233677,6.079149491110277,0.07921635738831645,400,13,79,4,15,120,70,97,0.068,0.78,0.151,0.8825,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,5,6,2,3,8,1,0,2,0,9,2,1,3,2,20,15,7,0,3,6,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,5,0,6,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,1,11,7,11,12,3,9,0,0,1,0,19,7,0,4,2,49,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974454051446005,0.22142858443850508,0.12392219470596773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353607174113085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550041767522162,0.0,0.0,0.14078992990459213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253529439837813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4859214097817162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726836768779485,0.12871396639049448,0.08902804688189406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302674329430355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432789883583986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395952663448984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348331153116066,0.2771872371887044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903908664589554,0.0,0.0,0.20543619142926095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20741687495404967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174898886420567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22142858443850508,0.0
parenting,queerfart,2020/01/19,"Questions about infants and bedtime I've been around children for 8+ years and have seen a lot of different personalities. I've studied early childhood as well, but there's something that's always stumped me. A few babies I've watched do things to purposely upset themselves while they are falling asleep. It's kind of like they are trying to keep themselves awake. They do things like throwing their paci or hitting themselves in the head. I try to prevent them from hurting themselves, but my question is why? When it's late and there's nothing going on, why do they fight their sleep to such extremes? Anyone know?",5.643859649122808,7.7553335614035115,4.669298245614037,84.14675438596494,68.64912280701755,6.119298245614036,33.719298245614034,6.42735559955562,2.044445614035088,502,24,85,3,9,148,82,114,0.111,0.8170000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.7557,1,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,7,0,7,7,1,1,3,0,8,3,3,0,0,13,13,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,2,2,10,4,13,10,2,12,0,1,2,0,13,3,0,4,8,53,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15983750388134693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431651352085935,0.0,0.0,0.17100428738611925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006972287952909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917138386450967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714374909469232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056404810425468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074187463104226,0.0,0.20003622508023755,0.1055697776475689,0.0,0.2166902736945692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876947421540865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331135499616722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843192671957112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772897437652942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.430378236628542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223261680435924,0.0,0.0,0.1478832605297698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552372883630485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608382823715234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271547566535772,0.0,0.3466697128695113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370216640292525
parenting,Seamonstermom,2020/01/19,"Team no sleep Hey guys!
 So as the title suggests, we are not sleeping much here.
 My LO just turned two on Friday, and the other day started refusing sleep. I thought it was sleep regression, but I'm thinking it's more. 
 She does not want to nap and takes hours, I mean HOURS, to go to bed. We do our normal routine and she will scream her little heart out until I go get her. LO went to sleep around 1am last night and she normally goes to bed between 8pm-8:30pm. She woke up again when I moved her to her bed and she cried/screamed for another two hours, off and on. Finally went to bed around 3am. 
 I've been having to bring her into DH and I's room to get her to settle, but she still won't sleep. She will crawl, try to stand on the bed, play, etc. After a few hours she will go to sleep. 
She's not sick, routine is the same, I just don't know what to do. I'm getting to my wit's end as none of us are sleeping. Any help is appreciated!",1.0718407960198988,2.6702476517412954,2.561019900497513,96.5903855721393,79.9452736318408,5.6606965174129344,20.12189054726368,6.42735559955562,-0.11584378109452766,722,18,175,6,18,235,115,201,0.042,0.8809999999999999,0.077,0.8721,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,5,0,14,10,9,0,0,29,34,14,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,6,1,4,13,0,1,4,3,0,7,7,1,0,2,6,1,27,1,30,24,6,34,0,0,0,0,25,11,0,0,15,108,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062095047764778165,0.09574821823825856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257344113192565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888845506173601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990743324625953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087501207444879,0.0,0.10183661796453404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002744052539236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311969257670826,0.0,0.15568353126649498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904128815688475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820473540996887,0.061204268861017125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596942961335636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050182490433542976,0.07443117542670122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151825370593096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946514705536083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097049824695917,0.06712456331694662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568979039004346,0.17893204371141844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7310206893494836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463085018099733,0.0,0.07292159524756453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865499090458188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850881318652714,0.0,0.07249124413295399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06199461105956105,0.09932084569017988,0.17839641225304625,0.0,0.10983666241148506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05385797225046289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929361387917535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,livingdatmugglelife7,2020/01/19,"I would really like to like my kid again My 5 year old boy. 

He’s always been a horrible sleeper. Gave up naps at 2. Would never fall asleep unless we were with him. Just couldn’t go to sleep. Would wake up multiple times a night. It was annoying but whatever. 

Now he’s a horrible sleeper and a bit of an asshole. His behavior at home is ridiculous. Impulsive, Wild, defiant, sneaky, explosive, and to be honest, at times he can be downright mean. He can be very sweet and polite and loving. But a lot of the days I just cry. And after a long day we love for him to go to sleep but we’re up there with him while it take him an hour or more to fall asleep. We start going up to bed at 7:30 every night. Routine is the same. It’s more 10:00 and he just fell asleep.  We’ve done no TV, we’ve done movies while he’s falling asleep (most effective but not all the time), no iPad at least an hour before bed, melatonin, lavender lotion...

I’m at a loss and just upset. He’s 1 of 4 and I feel like my others are being denied attention because I’m constantly trying to redirect this one. Even worse, his 4 year old brother is copying his behavior so once 5 starts, 4 is following along....",1.5420265900107817,3.4973652975206626,3.23909809558031,90.58022817103846,79.9090909090909,6.853323751347468,21.678763923823208,7.893859768569023,0.9351851958318372,910,27,198,16,23,302,139,242,0.16,0.722,0.11800000000000001,-0.7979999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,3,0,0,2,9,11,2,1,13,0,20,9,7,1,2,38,34,17,0,4,11,1,1,3,0,3,0,0,3,2,5,14,0,0,4,2,0,8,5,4,0,1,6,2,16,7,27,20,8,41,0,1,0,2,23,10,0,3,26,117,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096819533800258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035416311488161,0.0,0.11216620002629467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390956413377354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244689326119214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479432246258495,0.17002157715437868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697882522246857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706360727428601,0.0,0.11106115305655996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666504230154237,0.09416979041533198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247431987742165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322227764594177,0.0,0.259625555883363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319676664153929,0.0,0.0,0.116653524438137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206574170737424,0.2379392181205887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435868979455794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166507200181074,0.0,0.0,0.2474018598869627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766386515665613,0.14038035466618698,0.08932232540777714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444507589926271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638235508245653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660090622315575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910966267394232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23058992186405036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949480451107737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876248266959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433235546279185,0.2809161472754946,0.0,0.0,0.16977111027066297
parenting,Violetleaf10,2020/01/19,"Should I stay or should I go? Advice needed. Hi! this is my first post ever on reddit. 

Lets get down to the problem. I am a stay at home mom to two children one is 4 and the second is 8 months. Two times a week I attended a workout group with my children. Currently we are working out inside due to it being winter.  . The kids that currently attend are 2 and under. The last workout we participated in, she had a hard time with hitting and kicking. I made her stay next to me. She started crying over every little thing. This is a sign she is done. I made her sit in the stroller with the shield down as I gathered out things.  One of the other children touched the stroller and she kicked him. The parent screamed at her. Of course, the child she kicked happened to be the over bearing parent in the group. I am not even sure she made contact because the kid did not even cry. I am pretty sure she just flung her foot to get him off the stroller. She still should not being doing.  We left as quick as I could. Hitting and kicking are not usual things for her.  I diffidently talked to her about everything. Once I had time to think I made a game plan if the issue happens again.  I do not think quick on my feet due to some social anxiety.

I am friends with the leader of the group and she agreed my daughter was having an off day. I am pretty sure she was over tired and hungry which does not excuse her behavior by any means.  Later in the day I get a message from the leader saying they are going to post an announcement reviewing 'playground' behavior as a refresher so we are all on the same page and everyone can act appropriately. Then she says,  we are not trying singling you out and I wanted to give you a heads up to avoid feeling attacked. 

Well, I kind of feel attacked. Now I feel like everyone is thinking my kid is terrible which is not true. I just started to work up the courage to go back to working out with people and now I don't want to attend another workout.  I also feel like a terrible parent like it is my fault for her hitting and kicking. Not sure what to do from here on out. I feel like she is to old for the other children. Her birthday lands past the cutoff for preschool, which means all her friends went to preschool. Now it is all younger kids.  What do I do?",2.2910869675843455,4.394296319474839,3.2726080097704973,90.52907485624142,78.14660831509846,5.8266551320543485,24.194646582871105,6.8252276405021135,0.7977190880871201,1786,62,367,18,43,570,206,457,0.096,0.831,0.073,-0.7523,5,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,5,2,1,5,18,22,2,1,35,0,44,4,3,4,9,74,76,20,0,9,13,5,7,4,2,3,1,3,1,9,16,26,0,1,10,4,0,8,10,8,1,6,11,10,64,14,65,54,7,73,0,0,0,0,62,28,0,3,35,276,80,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535475223881223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166791021083469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052440055736133126,0.08086058521236497,0.058991876743746015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545625166611667,0.0,0.05929578322143603,0.0,0.04700788128942846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061569126652670315,0.0,0.1694118651195026,0.09946409502252967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748284128935089,0.07891423195913831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186592845296133,0.0697538833832345,0.0649717363279082,0.14737115805565335,0.06930494731384397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495537328413653,0.1652704287106608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559299314788691,0.0,0.0,0.11915592342115845,0.0,0.12086639636853545,0.07397462228509716,0.1314767175594939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638302857310394,0.0,0.06907885418833225,0.0,0.07914104746994606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735146927828347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048681444683048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030219805335999,0.0,0.06285807207472817,0.0,0.0,0.0837844130954316,0.07885412630803533,0.0,0.15069570875961155,0.07728832649251666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918679208274368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679991575220084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031479773407544,0.061551531601928736,0.0,0.0,0.05717893546112456,0.0,0.0,0.082011443974402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091800342887334,0.08212372317388805,0.10450866779015357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568773814670573,0.0,0.0736138861594266,0.05346102731162175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770748550641946,0.15690499697996255,0.0,0.07378753069560849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264804182591114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860784898977607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916314610478914,0.24657928024417644,0.061583212458999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907155274334316,0.0,0.0,0.06198118379608896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369302689433462,0.14823430539158933,0.0,0.0,0.13489710119968104,0.08863101549680351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052355235664176825,0.0,0.15065803374713532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493000050627449,0.0,0.09096748189479313,0.0,0.061856071236854826,0.0,0.06933460341094018,0.07148530250934958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841938243404703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teewyesoen,2020/01/19,"IEP humor My son, 5, is being assessed for an IEP (individualized education program). The school district marked below average for lacking sense of humor. The speech therapist asked him “does your little brother drive you crazy sometimes” to which he responded “my brother doesn’t drive”.  My boy’s got jokes tho!",6.086981132075473,9.14308939622642,6.132679245283022,69.9741132075472,70.13207547169812,8.013584905660379,33.241509433962264,8.841846274778883,3.438263396226416,250,12,36,5,5,79,44,53,0.043,0.841,0.11599999999999999,0.4753,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,3,5,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,0,20,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629482032010263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397478942037201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31050775349181103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891144129479008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39291550611095294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839752795507856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4507718586895517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parkjidog,2020/01/19,"When your child has a physical difference, how do you cope? My daughter who is 8 months old has been diagnosed with a congenital condition relating to her eyes (in case you're wondering, she has ptosis and blepharophimosis. Basically, it means her eyes don't open properly).

We knew about the condition really early on, but our GP didn't seem to think it was too serious and wasn't going to refer her to a specialist until I made a comment that she adapts her posture to adjust for limited vision. I had taken big strides in accepting things, but the specialist took everything much more seriously than I expected and escalated her care, referring us on to more experienced doctors in a bigger city, saying my daughter would need surgery soon.

I feel really lost again. All the feelings I experienced when we first discovered the problem have re-emerged: Worried for my daughter's health, guilt for having trouble accepting it, worried that I won't be a good enough parent, anger at society for valuing normal physical appearance so highly. My partner is supportive but he just doesn't seem at all affected by everything the same way that I have been, which has me feeling that there's something wrong with me.

I thought about reaching out to local parents groups for children with disabilities but my daughter's condition is only physical and relatively minor, so I'm not sure if I belong, or it would be insulting to other parents if I attended.

I'm hoping that someone would be able to point me in the direction of some resources that might help me to cope and respond in this situation. Or offer their own experiences in coming to terms with their child having something wrong.",13.490221291866028,9.471883440789476,12.500023923444974,54.66698564593304,55.05263157894736,16.58086124401914,50.004784688995215,14.291902434058313,7.007675000000001,1362,68,215,42,11,446,181,304,0.153,0.754,0.09300000000000001,-0.9629,3,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,4,2,2,3,12,17,2,1,12,0,28,5,2,3,3,58,51,19,0,10,10,7,3,0,1,5,3,1,0,4,15,14,0,1,15,0,0,5,6,10,0,1,12,8,34,7,37,31,10,33,0,1,2,0,35,17,0,11,10,160,49,1,0.11773174961134568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200353651385634,0.0,0.0,0.10141547760863344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949524762165555,0.0,0.1230046204182868,0.0,0.12050343444859354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216483690289478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21161941032727868,0.11516424207145046,0.0,0.0,0.17858613014030386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014256607611846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06690966643336223,0.09874780582896996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514334445205033,0.0,0.0,0.07891311008571276,0.12439005738597834,0.0,0.11693419193115533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851811217560544,0.0,0.0,0.11140062811687113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824438957182993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489478134352065,0.0,0.0,0.09397235931336692,0.0,0.08654638235306872,0.0872966005632302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535211780182092,0.0,0.0,0.1235396666051453,0.0,0.0,0.08954030077524885,0.0,0.0,0.39218152599053613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129455764718037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265338435796995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084394698954082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362501269736252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435712630177736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323354193300938,0.0,0.0,0.09975372939172517,0.1812713054073795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360059427460125,0.11096078071066777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821574308759525,0.07543775135125581,0.0,0.09346585842736284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080430573106475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161679885445735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344998287961608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767506035330195,0.0,0.2391246131308885,0.0,0.25089977110495265,0.25744237272064946,0.0,0.0
parenting,Till_Dawn100,2020/01/19,"My 16 year old son is everything I hate For four years my son has been a vegan.     
No big deal I assumed he was going through a phase.
Not only was it not a phase but he has been radicalized by his militant vegan friends.
He has “animal liberation front” posters/flags all over his room, he attends animal rights protests, and refuses to cook actual food for his siblings when I work.

Around the same time he told me he no longer believes in god 

https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/580580236455051307/668281447135838233/image1.jpg

https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/580580236455051307/668281446389121034/image0.jpg

I would be willing to overlook this but I saw on Facebook he liked a bunch of “Socialist Libertarian” pages - a few days ago this flag appeared in his room 

https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/580580236455051307/668281925227773962/image0.jpg

I did research into this “YPG” and they’re a socialist rebel group in Syria!

So my son is a socialist, a vegan, and an atheist.

Further more I logged onto his computer while he was at school and found he’s been doing research on growing magic mushrooms
It’s absolute degeneracy and i don’t think I can stand by and watch all this happen.

I’m considering sending him to a disciplinary school or something?

Any advice is appreciated",8.41303780378038,12.500970618811884,5.982988298829883,68.52139513951397,68.05940594059405,8.425202520252027,27.993699369936987,9.095868883498916,2.9223287128712867,1083,38,153,24,22,308,131,202,0.055999999999999994,0.845,0.099,0.892,0,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,3,0,11,0,19,2,0,0,2,22,28,12,0,1,5,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,6,8,2,1,3,1,0,6,5,3,0,1,10,2,19,2,19,15,7,30,0,0,2,0,24,15,0,3,9,97,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.19699588504387916,0.0,0.0,0.19726491262902854,0.1789454705269476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727844237701053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17970699414712898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274382288223127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018937380460816,0.208118984574184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18142763356579986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441018629768376,0.2213399063684274,0.15596417030483847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472730620417135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785128702320827,0.0,0.0,0.19930471552011414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862342765000537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21182848330421025,0.0,0.0,0.15353114209419275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239577648562918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086061964118636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540929786441654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293500694290453,0.0,0.0,0.11771195176353375,0.0,0.0,0.1928953234810971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469636785728614,0.0,0.0,0.14340257245581745,0.0,0.0,0.2599951712738417
parenting,TLDoctor,2020/01/19,"What hobbies, interests and activities do you recommend we introduce to children and how should we do so? I dont want to raise a kid to become someone who's obsessed with YouTube and instagram and all that online junk. I feel like a good portion of parents dont have time, parenting skills or money to help raise their kids well and so while they're running errands and maintaining things around the house, they let their kids spend copious amounts of time watching tv and using their phones. I want a kid who isnt reliant on things like that who can use their imagination to find something to do around the house and who has plenty of interests to have hobbies based around",14.731377952755905,8.592340700787402,12.216122047244095,64.0292224409449,55.377952755905504,15.8496062992126,50.64763779527559,12.161744961471696,5.83344251968504,547,24,100,10,4,166,78,127,0.047,0.805,0.149,0.9206,2,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,5,1,7,7,0,1,5,0,12,0,0,3,1,25,17,13,0,3,1,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,5,9,14,0,0,3,1,2,1,3,1,1,0,0,2,11,6,15,15,3,8,0,0,1,0,21,4,0,1,5,67,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4305342364717926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804419331198168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778747172694657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151280932925146,0.11516872396930175,0.0,0.0,0.14734336199606834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352156138087827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080559160603578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720302560025871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648485305712425,0.0,0.15751849215455996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580100865101491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659302742157972,0.12410762254824367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142020194234337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800613193209287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784680070655618,0.0,0.0,0.19017211174901644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494748753393574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,10thandrose,2020/01/19,"Sometimes I second guess my parenting skills, but I guess it is bath night. My newly turned 5 year old tripple dog dared himself to pour all the handsoap in his underwear and is now running around the house naked telling all the pets that he has a beautiful butt...",10.946199999999996,7.82867602,9.028000000000002,74.86400000000002,58.8,12.4,43.0,10.125756701596842,4.1846,211,9,40,3,2,63,43,50,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.7469,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,3,1,1,0,2,7,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,3,6,2,7,0,0,0,1,5,2,1,2,4,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24199190982475655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5989165892939439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136625541110395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255099921421268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28524643391508386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018420043006037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26885301840881964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375968785938551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956797982085241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505364312715818
parenting,laurenfuckery,2020/01/19,"I don't want to throw my daughter a birthday party ever again. 2nd birthday today for my ♡.

I invited tons of people, mostly family. There were a couple I knew wouldn't make it because they live a little far and have their own multiple kids to rangle, but I invited them on the Facebook event anyway. My MIL was rushed to the hospital last night for insanely high BP, so we told them don't worry about the party, just fill your new meds and stay in bed. Of course they came anyway, thank Gawd... because out of the 50ish people I invited, a good dozen gave me a definite yes, but only grandparents, my great aunt, and 2 of my former coworkers + 2 of their kids showed up. I always specifically ask multiple times for a head count to know how much food to buy. WHY TELL SOMEONE YOU ARE GOING TO SHOW UP WITH YOUR KIDS TO A PARTY AND DON'T SHOW UP OR EVEN GIVE A BS EXCUSE? I juuuuust went back to work PT from maternity leave for my 2nd baby, so the one paycheck I've gotten was enough to stock up the formula, juice, diapers, etc. that I usually buy when I get paid, plus a couple presents. Soooooo my mother and grandmother helped ALOT with buying the food and cake. But here I am soaking in the tub, post-party, ready to cry because no one really showed up, we have a fridge full of party food, half a giant sheet cake (we sent guests away with some) cookies out the ass, etc. I feel like I wasted my time, my energy, my money, my family's money on this party. I'll do a party for my 2nd's first birthday, but nothing else again. I appreciate those who came so much, especially my coworkers I haven't even worked with for months. But fuck, man. My feeling are mostly hurt because my baby's too young to have her feelings hurt over this.",3.935231213872832,5.0879708699422,5.154420809248556,82.75849826589598,71.514450867052,8.31056647398844,24.822658959537566,8.726425361277474,1.6350595606936418,1355,38,272,24,25,450,198,346,0.095,0.754,0.151,0.9636,3,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,3,3,6,3,18,7,1,0,22,1,15,6,2,2,1,39,36,18,0,2,7,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,4,6,18,3,0,5,4,6,8,6,3,0,5,12,3,43,4,43,23,12,45,0,2,0,2,30,18,2,5,19,175,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870444989980804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779690153019732,0.0,0.09828521475239406,0.08043918623124656,0.0,0.2550788951218169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392935894946944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23149954328766226,0.11490996347278255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738883297270568,0.0,0.0,0.10809083768006253,0.23333721016812897,0.13818878753732988,0.09462638506456633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723535287504654,0.0,0.1586829692744387,0.07473391907104343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898182475445131,0.3794870925825461,0.0,0.0,0.09671092470757968,0.05465478340610199,0.10035213458865153,0.059452682772546325,0.08774250848017184,0.0,0.11533368780091832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736077862733294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011836032979539,0.11052696891252142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239758781438484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057491315752108474,0.0852716987795566,0.0,0.11076764758924863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110751356422728,0.10484742338280513,0.09237318207106036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698284677294598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619892681163092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349927843698862,0.0,0.1538018313175422,0.0,0.0,0.1010336849774006,0.0,0.09817007393385688,0.0,0.10037680693921504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177386205959708,0.0795611662875503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504780267338396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018815241911463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701630576397807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08863632334516561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150110832365576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143437994045474,0.09631149582584456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199870385312332,0.0,0.09915873048530956,0.09996002568752377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521392848175332,0.0,0.061702112861859615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697518523151584,0.09439490339180807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231569972940087,0.10623726380206523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_uncle_cracker,2020/01/19,"Serious So my dad takes all of his clothes off; he then proceeds to bend over and move his butt cheeks back and forth as if they were talking to me. He also likes to slap me and my sister's butt. This is not a joke, it is very disturbing, but when we or our mom says to stop he tells us to shut up. He proceeds to be angry at us the rest of that day. There are 5 of us: I am 12, my sister is 10,and my brothers are 4, 6, 17. (he doesn't do it to the oldest one though)",0.7913207547169812,1.436266386792454,2.8246698113207565,98.4107783018868,78.52830188679245,6.054716981132076,19.85377358490566,5.985473137389443,-0.36865660377358506,351,7,95,2,8,119,77,106,0.111,0.86,0.028999999999999998,-0.8377,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,1,0,6,4,0,1,3,0,10,3,3,0,1,10,11,12,0,1,4,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,1,15,2,15,9,2,15,0,0,0,2,21,6,2,2,9,64,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740207881126107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096276559516529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350013014623518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226864680531668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24516616237542774,0.0,0.22248592915039955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184823340092226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646856601426352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501024994944406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739100498200856,0.16825248300412127,0.1829646886703297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20566683355091425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7553989500125119,0.0,0.0,0.1727201565403546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momsdads4mh,2020/01/20,How do you help a teenager with depression? My son is 17 and dealing with depression. It’s only been going on for two months but he is just so different. Two months ago he remembered something he did as a child and he can’t get over it. He feels like he has screwed up his whole life because he can’t forgive himself. He is seeing a therapist but it doesn’t seem to be helping. I just don’t know how to help. Any advice?,1.1213888888888874,3.2226654318181818,2.839242424242425,92.12191919191922,82.18181818181819,6.1838383838383875,24.550505050505052,7.3871296695380915,1.0998444444444444,330,13,72,5,9,109,60,88,0.095,0.752,0.153,0.6662,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,5,5,1,0,3,0,12,2,0,2,0,15,18,8,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,4,3,0,2,2,2,5,2,9,15,1,7,0,2,1,1,18,3,1,1,4,44,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799148803134613,0.17053324300045813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308249820666889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727304901480258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983353099963112,0.3313931864000739,0.0,0.0,0.20099613107445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727309727524908,0.1374362947605093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051059834199527,0.0,0.10933397492594056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868447322793993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572700476693968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588366785080772,0.093987139788731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30711172613995186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463136422832454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217929012898793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153301934988639,0.17513550673292086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810350594066646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22336798220522305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.375854569307614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21478537521125385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SailingBacterium,2020/01/20,"Any other dads kind of shut out of daycare meetups? Sorry about this, just need to vent a little.  My wife and I have our 10 month old at a home daycare we absolutely love, and before I start I want to say that we love the other parents and their kids. I know nothing mean is intended.

That said, recently my wife decided it would be fun to organize the parents to go out for a drink after daycare one Friday. All the plans were made, but we didn't have the newest parents' email. I knew the Dad from work so I forwarded the email chain to him to pass along the info.

Then all the replies came in. ""I thought it was mamas only"", etc. Nowhere in the initial invite did it say that or even hint at it. Everyone just assumed dads couldn't go.  My work buddy and I ended up not going because we felt disinvited (even though it was my wife who organized the entire thing, and she fully intended for it to be inclusive).  It's been days and I still feel sad about it.  I didn't realize dads had to be explicitly invited to something to be welcome.  Any other dads experience something like this?

Sorry for the rant.",2.8935688536409536,4.802634780821922,4.315308819995194,84.6535976928623,75.62100456621005,7.350252343186735,26.13818793559241,8.20500826718156,1.7194146118721465,863,32,171,15,19,286,129,219,0.045,0.872,0.083,0.8153,3,0,3,0,0,0,26.0,5,0,1,3,9,7,0,0,14,0,17,3,0,3,3,39,34,11,0,4,5,11,2,1,0,1,0,3,1,1,18,14,1,0,10,1,0,6,4,1,0,1,14,5,22,6,27,14,3,25,0,1,0,2,29,10,0,2,12,119,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791793574178948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803092392330623,0.0,0.1121034908782086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067876247848735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496326129955535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129057871183661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668509177702853,0.0,0.14692814020868675,0.17402986464030748,0.0,0.0,0.12588597128505893,0.0,0.12886981993301874,0.0,0.0,0.06661316053130734,0.0,0.12649382858842134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246175508113724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214885421129485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371899404421434,0.07240244361815419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436291848412443,0.13204097976665086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378061926132513,0.12465830215718755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350662231847985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515591302968062,0.0,0.0,0.09768567910487744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641085022863355,0.0,0.13824199511609506,0.0,0.08927238766423162,0.10019639976873704,0.0,0.0,0.4388546455600389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008020427270806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531765140709605,0.2095344581011532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028442168045436,0.0,0.2949507451577295,0.09324829130232253,0.0,0.10521003726288948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875241181318418,0.0,0.129436714537982,0.10458913399478917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770536626547701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918207770608068,0.0,0.0,0.09358636483556676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BHMThrowawy,2020/01/20,"Feeling uneasy about a Black History Month project. Am I overreacting? My 10 year old Black daughter attends a Christian school due to her special needs. Her class is pretty diverse however the rest of the school is not. She was handed a voluntary assignment on Friday for black history month and it is not sitting well with me. I was feeling almost nauseous about it and wanted to see if I am overreacting.

Basically all black student volunteers will be given a black historical figure to dress up as. They will come into school dressed as that character and take pictures. Then teachers will put their picture side by side with a famous picture of the black historical figure. The pictures will be hung up around the school and each student will stand under their photo and read an little index card explaining who their person is and what they did while the non black students and black students who don't volunteer take a parade around the school checking out each picture. 

This feels so wrong. I hear all the time how different she feels and think this will make it worse. The pictures will be up for the entire month of February. I want to respond to the teacher about this assignment but want to get my thoughts organized first. Am I crazy here? No other parents are complaining about it. I'm white and want to make sure I handle this delicately. I haven't discussed it with my daughter yet.",6.5066274509803925,8.143434192156864,5.992254901960787,77.33348039215689,65.90196078431373,8.80392156862745,33.382352941176464,9.150863307647796,3.079941176470588,1129,49,189,20,18,347,141,255,0.062,0.873,0.064,-0.5044,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,5,1,11,5,0,0,18,0,23,1,1,3,3,44,45,17,0,6,4,3,5,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,14,19,0,0,9,1,1,3,5,2,1,1,5,16,21,3,31,30,5,30,1,0,10,0,20,12,0,2,13,134,35,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199699953303668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169123532951675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049473513316258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728835300926766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24640737666120505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363010965444852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636521133742107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137313349793181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210752040801395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626474122726741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291735061773711,0.0,0.0,0.09033677329530224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278420326001441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527985196610048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063788724362448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394679112831625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122474659766373,0.0,0.0,0.12186481976080403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6165016841395202,0.09708421109165408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148250771170514,0.0,0.18320477857741194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806493033814893,0.0,0.0967208804137546,0.07104113167429345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28743832752051085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954146486536576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415706387432525,0.0,0.13320400285361045,0.0,0.07845571719959979
parenting,MaleUnicornHunter,2020/01/20,"My best parenting advice for parents Teach your kids the sports, activities, hobbies, and passions that you enjoy.  This way, you get to enjoy your passions and spend time with your kids.  I love snowboarding and got my kids into skiing.   I enjoy cooking with one of my sons.  I enjoy baking with another.  Find family and individual activities so you get family time and one-on-one time.",4.318136645962731,7.188233608695652,5.697763975155282,71.76913043478264,75.23188405797102,8.580538302277432,25.799171842650104,9.23628265651192,2.8094910973084892,305,11,48,8,7,102,42,69,0.0,0.67,0.33,0.981,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,6,0,1,1,8,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,10,4,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,9,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,12,8,7,3,1,5,0,0,0,3,13,1,0,0,3,30,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21555840568520315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23130828930218844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314960367419925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41590603240063895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20161564780834115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304987801304461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764263104205415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909146673249356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29895555542052354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4898791132211981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858841440285664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509440798356407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnitedDig3,2020/01/20,"Unexpectedly pregnant with another kid and feeling terrified. Hey parents, not sure where else to post for commiseration or advice but if this is the wrong place for it please let me know and I will take it elsewhere. I have a daughter who turned 3 this past November and I am 11 weeks pregnant. This came as quite a shock because I thought we were being very careful with preventative measures and well I guess not. We only have ourselves to blame and now I have to own it.

Husband is excited and I'm very not excited. We never wanted another child and this news has turned my world upside down. He is having a better time adjusting than I am but every single night I'm in tears wondering what this is going to do to our happy family and what the hell we have done. 

I hate to sound dramatic but I purposefully planned one child as I knew I would have plenty of love, dedication, and energy for one. My daughter is the absolute love of my life other than my husband of course. Now that has all gone out the window. I don't think I have the temperament to handle two kids. I hate bickering and high energy kid stuff just exhausts me. Don't get me wrong I love kids but I am highly introverted and need that silence and couple time to recharge.

There is no question we are keeping the baby and I'm doing my best to embrace it but I can't help but feel I have torpedoed my life and sanity. 

I was just so happy with our trio and didn't want it to change. 

Not sure why I'm spilling it out to be honest. Has anyone been in similar circumstances? Everyone makes it out to sound like two kids is a post apocalyptic disaster and if it is I guess I'd rather know. Any advice as we prepare for things to change a lot around here? Thanks for staying with me.",2.9146273637374875,4.947782505747128,4.317949573600298,84.09942714126808,75.95402298850577,7.708713385242863,25.018909899888765,8.558390810932622,1.7543686318131262,1384,48,276,28,31,458,182,348,0.15,0.6729999999999999,0.177,0.9147,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,0,4,11,23,3,0,11,0,38,6,0,1,4,72,71,29,0,7,16,5,2,1,0,2,3,2,1,7,21,31,0,2,10,0,0,3,10,7,1,4,9,4,38,16,37,57,5,26,1,0,0,3,28,12,1,8,9,195,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909986710215904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066458853996077,0.2049540852399625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833416570733868,0.0,0.0,0.08699924532431888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05957449654513682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256022079940852,0.08643307606113981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177557526911026,0.0996409030401147,0.0,0.20676797120693632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813492613887372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001037081986243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816397722834689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823406283207445,0.0933839422838842,0.0,0.0,0.09212990234117033,0.0,0.09882911455346613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051059201956274065,0.0,0.05554146128382289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21531831918894012,0.0,0.0,0.20806799528942072,0.0,0.19297367831584766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550547450384928,0.20651143324041396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686574158587969,0.0,0.0,0.10741825394887924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099934197127159,0.13805731442859753,0.0477452968236913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308542934644438,0.2646118491884151,0.0,0.06523465310627494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246457827167439,0.07537438318004545,0.0,0.0,0.09171174632249172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244696628353522,0.07432706533970443,0.0,0.0,0.10851613428047686,0.0,0.09329308376349027,0.0,0.0,0.10210567062828957,0.10727674381191774,0.0,0.0,0.18719412242414687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947848841400913,0.10394648136784716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416577019332426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187595778519999,0.0,0.0,0.1842162495908479,0.0,0.07347980524813601,0.0,0.0,0.08997543873778513,0.0,0.0,0.06492659279375834,0.06262059235024478,0.0,0.07758565591375023,0.11397275902011594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21260148176372504,0.1909334406225256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127279276809478,0.115285815637896,0.0,0.07839205259022107,0.0,0.0878698205080008,0.0,0.08818493342317785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598258517078568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942365065105836,0.21370194083272076,0.0,0.0
parenting,heyitsbobwehadababy,2020/01/20,"Help! Kids excluding other kids... My son(7) plays with the neighbor kids all the time. There’s this one girl who is a little younger than the rest of the kids who always tries to tag along with them, but they all don’t really enjoy her being around. 

I definitely try to teach my kid to be fair and inclusive, but when they don’t want to play with her, should I be making them include her anyway?  This child is VERY whiney and for a lack of better words, annoying. She’ll come around knocking on the door even when my boy isn’t home, she’ll be crying to me that no one wants to play with her. Anytime something doesn’t go her way she throws a hissy fit and cries.  On one hand I want them to include her, which they do really well when they’re outside. But sometimes they’ll come inside to play on his room and she’ll come around wanting to come inside too, they say no. She cries on my porch. What do I do? Help!",2.0284491978609616,3.9283404010695233,2.5823529411764703,96.14058823529413,78.14438502673798,5.683422459893047,18.486631016042786,6.522977012572876,-0.2592759358288768,713,14,161,6,17,220,101,187,0.126,0.6659999999999999,0.207,0.9426,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,8,1,11,8,1,0,8,0,18,1,1,1,2,29,28,10,0,6,3,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,5,8,8,16,0,0,0,4,0,6,6,1,1,3,0,2,29,7,25,19,4,21,0,0,0,0,34,10,0,0,4,108,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302457264344833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627625438212769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201339253972909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4680350388289175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4476210328100777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971691970946626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719745808430399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209301683519868,0.0,0.13625233999322098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614111583168026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906700918991224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761334206481652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403717423391282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802046069898308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457146737542077,0.13434306535652402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920575983990649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444441810088216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120770805455906,0.3204730921623568,0.10781851892077317,0.0,0.0,0.12213086636086455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,canamsmalltowngal,2020/01/20,"Hacks for making a road trip easier? Hi parents!

I’m going by myself with my 2 year old and 10 month old to see my parents. The drive alone is 6 hours and over a snowy mountain pass with not a lot of places to stop. 

Do you have any hacks of things to bring on a long drive or a good way to pack?",1.298181818181817,2.0917706363636377,2.7883030303030303,98.58245454545455,77.48484848484848,5.8860606060606075,17.745454545454546,5.6839178017228535,-0.7084145454545451,226,3,59,1,5,74,51,66,0.065,0.8370000000000001,0.098,0.4857,2,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,8,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,12,8,1,18,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,2,7,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353379625193139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452170454010686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291379666391971,0.1905866750589126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22377217569127494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010881623479654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19317971034855705,0.0,0.0,0.15167534778224132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813698983853448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768716448635002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5046159249183625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374031648157123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810699755469164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189971396503938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095908498610536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036169383029732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632631439355176
parenting,avacadohedgehog,2020/01/20,"Care package for teacher one of my teachers just returned from 7 weeks of maternity leave. she has two other children age 6 and 4, and now a newborn. i want to make her a small care package of nice stress relief things for her, what would you suggest? it's a little out of my price range to hire a cleaning service or meal delivery service. any small items that it would be appropriate for a student to give a teacher?",5.782317073170731,6.129614060975612,6.059658536585367,80.82802439024394,66.92682926829268,8.023414634146341,35.912195121951214,7.554174236665415,2.593421463414633,331,16,63,3,5,106,60,82,0.048,0.784,0.168,0.8738,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,1,6,0,4,1,0,1,0,9,9,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,6,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,4,12,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,4,43,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990068291791655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5394455494081395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253777096169525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28011653234835826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26514507893640793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658683438063796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179263546180173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030371071710627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757529310363986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584234777949031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603637225847114,0.0,0.21220323475861436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37585246846168896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Saiasmom8,2020/01/20,Daughter 5 yo over dramatic always hurt or feeling sick. My 5 year old recently has come up with a new way of getting attention and it's really annoying. I feel like a bad mom because I don't respond every time to her constant complaining with empathy or cuddles. I give her lots of attention every day reading cuddling talking and baking so I don't know why she's doing this. We will be walking to go brush teeth for bed and she will literally throw her self on the floor and cry about hurting her head or knee I've tried saying things like we wont have time for a book if we take too long to brush teeth. It doesn't faze her. The teacher has talked to me about her complaining about things during transitions going from one activity to the other. I don't want this to turn into a boy who called wolf but I already don't believe her when she does this. How do I get out of this cycle without mu daughter thinking she can't come to me with things.,4.4426106018333975,5.238225616580312,5.362694300518137,83.05734555599842,70.03626943005182,8.425508170585891,29.872060581905146,8.617729084823388,2.183909047429254,756,29,152,12,13,248,122,193,0.091,0.8809999999999999,0.027999999999999997,-0.8123,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,7,8,1,0,7,0,15,8,4,1,0,29,29,12,0,2,6,3,2,2,0,3,1,1,2,2,11,14,1,0,6,2,0,6,8,6,0,1,0,5,24,2,25,25,1,23,0,2,0,2,28,6,0,5,12,97,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679178054864762,0.0,0.11822417935086806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863311061341095,0.08661228852086328,0.0,0.0,0.16007853569127006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508231138373012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447833116235539,0.0,0.1535409111336268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607116230409387,0.09163158027178814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433751872317045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394215871115964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368255344769687,0.101503901493455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846468163205453,0.13629866211433792,0.1614977330421946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581782988913014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042049146440656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808493015445525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882885005581744,0.0,0.0,0.12573870878558505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079362136080833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640552827481533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722434652086085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909188134564816,0.0,0.09627890727344336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212113870885149,0.0,0.0910218088824646,0.0,0.14028951451805466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298985716607565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14822323183037922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682849980589428,0.2284013670285876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28318027581495275,0.09104085013756633,0.0,0.0,0.16569911724373487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646481935664808,0.1545451656862215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380405127576025,0.11277862521494204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282075273780034,0.0,0.0,0.13696264207459272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149659342632567
parenting,branden-branden,2020/01/20,"Bringing up Finances to a teen? Yes? No? My teen daugther put up a big fuss (in front of one of our friends as well), because my wife said no to Tim Hortons. Her response was ""If we don't have to go to Tim Hortons, then I guess I Don't have to watch my brother and sister then as well"". It's frustrating because we pay her for that, yet neither myself nor my wife were ever paid for watching siblings when we were her age. Besides the point, the decision to not go to Tim Hortons was due to finances at that moment, so it got me thinking that maybe it's time to introduce finances to her as she is turning 16 soon. My father didn't do a good job at this, as my memories were buying milk with dimes and nickels and him breaking down infront of me because he had to use money I got for selling my bike for food. It's always weighed on me and I feel bad for him cause I understand now, but I don't want that to be how my daughter is introduced to this area of life. 

So, in conclusion, when is a good age to introduce kids to this subject and what are suggestions for that conversation. Should we even have that conversation at all? I don't want to throw her to the wolves, as she will be moving out one day when she's older, and her being bombarded with this. I want her to be prepared and confident with all of that.",6.80765256883338,5.019168822878228,7.170258302583027,80.7846409310247,65.56826568265683,10.25728072665342,35.97530513766677,8.841846274778883,2.8342776610843035,1025,41,221,13,13,336,138,271,0.069,0.8909999999999999,0.04,-0.4255,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,0,1,13,7,1,0,7,1,25,4,0,3,3,34,41,23,0,5,3,6,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,16,15,3,0,5,1,10,7,10,2,2,2,11,4,37,5,47,24,3,37,0,0,2,0,30,13,0,2,16,165,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858572030328134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906508107267054,0.3045881085667608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109615831441846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741312499878618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100069095642696,0.1506570304248381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421437253316652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139695855453574,0.0,0.12867869650735367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931220147932665,0.27939407725718657,0.26641584016593345,0.0,0.18347728022578655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652784892906697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764154885682583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732521524997532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701984098995838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22572170579258102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744674008978468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743210797003774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843036565752874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672065446014097,0.0,0.0,0.09711859131916342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811622057654631,0.0,0.17338789964976253,0.0,0.143848609062552,0.0,0.0,0.29471242365529904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995029079079705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TombStoneFaro,2020/01/20,"Approval of kids' friends? I am not a parent but hope that someday I might become one.

It seems to me that the mistake I made growing up involved terrible choice of ""friends"" -- oddly, it was a house guest who was a few years older than me who met them and later on gave me what would have been great advice if I had taken it -- he simply pointed out what amazing jerks they were (not remembering what he said exactly but the gist of it was that they were not people I should be hanging out with).

The older kid was right for sure -- I see that now clearly but at the time, it was not so obvious -- I was young, did not understand a fundamental theorem of human relationships which is that if people will screw you over little things they will do so over bigger things and the second one which is that people don't or at least they only rarely change.

Now I know that if my parents had forbidden me to see them I probably would have done so anyway. But I don't even recall them expressing disapproval.

TL;DR: Do you make a point to meet your kids' friends and have you ever forbidden them from seeing a particular kid or at least expressed concern about the relationship?",7.203666666666668,6.663265155555558,7.141166666666668,77.25975000000003,64.1111111111111,10.166666666666668,32.083333333333336,9.516144504307137,2.7214666666666667,920,30,176,15,12,294,128,225,0.08900000000000001,0.797,0.114,0.7906,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,4,8,1,9,11,2,0,12,0,30,1,0,2,5,37,43,15,0,8,14,2,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,5,21,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,4,0,3,18,4,27,7,21,18,3,25,0,0,3,1,36,14,1,8,9,142,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144652869863885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856128029269586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229906373610104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765557642700602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884590745763914,0.12167654410060295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117779312302931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830329342517112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360377444747393,0.0,0.15521228216220714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392594160434206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481939658127787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272813720814526,0.08978982582250973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269918764316933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230172871379172,0.1023047403943105,0.0,0.0,0.2987260399807001,0.0,0.0,0.2797673505118238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543203614196877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450299514709042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888375987977851,0.15237930476666434,0.11487509907024253,0.12795459541080134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215731851701868,0.12245742960490305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677882211998115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787316151954769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843679466077144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003488824088126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19111123315904285,0.0,0.0,0.0866232678860231
parenting,kraziewilde,2020/01/20,when did you child start playing pretend with other people and by themselves and how did you encourage them to play appropriately with it? my son will be 3 in march and has played pretend for a few months now alone but recently he has gotten really into story telling by himself without the influence of others.  he likes to pretend the that his hands are shooting each other and then some times they go to the doctor or sometimes jail. i worry that his imagination is going a little too far. almost like he’s not staying a child anymore.,5.9766619519094775,7.356270485148518,6.276746817538898,75.76029702970297,66.92079207920793,8.147666195190949,31.26025459688826,8.418075326091056,2.5389422913719937,433,17,72,6,7,139,79,101,0.08800000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.126,0.6262,0,1,0,1,0,0,5.0,0,2,2,0,4,6,0,0,6,0,8,2,1,2,0,17,12,9,0,0,4,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,1,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,1,9,6,12,7,3,15,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,3,10,56,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540121597519804,0.26272385604216625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25157079051017384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25964025349962244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883310809161109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478590358198788,0.25424227726518245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247561661397084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586165913372265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250640827982268,0.0,0.25046684309567857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508844345984112,0.0,0.17954772808931668,0.270376655745716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22171727474424072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791602545049026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445271886520909,0.0,0.0,0.2576124716088027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chocobojitters,2020/01/20,"I am a goth queen with a pretty pink princess I think it's so funny whenever I go out with my daughter. My daughter is about to be 5. She is so girly  girl girl that she asked all 3 Santas we sat with for makeup. All three turned wide eyed to me and said ""Oh boy, makeup huh?"" I have never worn makeup in my life. Her Aunt got her that makeup since she's the makeup expert. Everything she picks out is pink and a dress. If it's not a dress, she won't wear it. She'll wear stuff under and over the dress, but she must be wearing a dress. And it must be pink. Then there's me. The goth queen I always wanted to be in high school. With my all black in the freaking DESERT!  I am her dark cloud that shades her from the brutal sun. She's hopping  along beside me and I look like I might be the kind of person to use her in a spell. 

My grandma in law once said to me ""You're a mom  now, moms don't dress like that."" I told her ""Well then I stole these kids! Hope they be tasty!""

One time someone asked her who was her mom and she turned, pointed at me and said ""she's in the shade because she might catch fire."" I  never actually said that to her, I told her the black is very hot in the sun.

Just love being a goth with a little pink princess. Anyone else with the odd but fun opposites?",0.2916527632951009,2.18434304014599,1.662924921793536,100.56965328467156,83.92700729927007,4.498227320125131,15.260166840458815,5.288315135182226,-1.1224782064650674,979,15,241,4,28,312,138,274,0.045,0.843,0.111,0.9524,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,1,2,7,9,1,0,19,1,22,6,4,2,7,37,42,14,0,5,5,6,2,2,0,6,1,4,0,5,12,17,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,2,1,2,10,14,45,7,29,19,3,24,0,0,8,1,44,16,0,4,8,152,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.1165311084567328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936224438989284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349723887057932,0.122354038325228,0.0,0.0,0.2232724581626244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279383478431174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975530537516217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732185212597416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786588541811008,0.0,0.09550650587223354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616773975575682,0.0,0.1186053210855964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12435159334075233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434583521546757,0.116679567609218,0.11968447662663433,0.0,0.0,0.100277917272031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777604707185784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533593536420014,0.0,0.4195696732865507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184199303875629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717230754956332,0.08091820443687835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426794049310542,0.0,0.0,0.11288508969724427,0.0,0.0,0.12148724973019515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543612913882797,0.0,0.0,0.1208536233626353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878072377599333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011793292329494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670077733988475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765158468470778,0.0,0.0,0.06963142511608647,0.0,0.0,0.228210917769835,0.0,0.0,0.2597768850078818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313559447207364,0.0,0.09852928444867877,0.07043363438381155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073677759364747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gumgums66,2020/01/20,"The ‘helpfulness’ of kids I currently have a cold, and I’m at that horrible stage where I can’t taste or smell anything. My daughter was with me in the kitchen, helping get things for dinner. She noticed me sniffing at stuff that I was putting in the dinner, and the conversation went as follows:

5yo: Mum, why are you sniffing everything?

Me: I need to sniff to see if I can smell it, so I know what’s going in the dinner (I know I can read labels 😂) 

5yo: Why? 

Me: Because I have a cold at the minute, and I can’t smell anything. 

5yo: Oh. Ok. 

So it’s later on, and I’m putting her to bed. I let her know if she hears banging about later, it’s just me having a shower (her bedroom is right next door to it). 

5yo: Ok. I’m glad you are. I know you can’t smell anything, but you’re really stinky. 

Well thanks sweetheart 😂 how else can you tell if you smell, when you can’t smell, if it wasn’t for your kids honesty 😂😂",-0.8911187476135929,1.2367188762886627,1.201912943871708,99.24306796487207,94.77319587628868,4.111187476135931,18.5253913707522,5.82211442006289,-0.3855442535318825,698,22,165,6,27,230,98,194,0.032,0.836,0.132,0.9570000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,7,0,0,8,6,0,0,9,2,17,5,0,1,0,18,32,15,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,2,10,5,5,0,4,1,0,5,5,0,1,0,4,12,30,6,17,27,0,20,0,0,1,0,22,9,0,5,5,100,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41378527402653004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217326027073544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001631882264498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063670656306416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756910143154703,0.0,0.0952564017938354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890820773307387,0.0,0.2246903720141021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684554248891164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139217828360664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242803992569412,0.0,0.0,0.17825471773091467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082464761874296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33698789671989343,0.0,0.0,0.16765496378467065,0.0,0.10737500564970064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313768792976556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356315568826474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918728989033842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649818355043304,0.15431240636946314,0.0,0.0,0.11135237473610264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070116511861076,0.15537578419775738,0.3024831992588393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MusicalTourettes,2020/01/20,"Best part about a second kid is getting to re-read the awesome books I read Hand Hand Fingers Thumb to my 7 month old for the first time today. It was my favorite when my son was littler. I forgot how much I enjoy all these old books. Go Do Go was a family hit where we'd all turn things into hats and say ""do you like my hat?"". And Are You My Mother! ""How can I be your mother? I am a cow.""

Do you have a favorite you forgot about and relished the second (or third) time around?",1.0449019607843155,2.5715513333333355,2.712352941176473,95.8022549019608,79.78431372549021,4.925490196078432,18.196078431372552,5.033348758259628,-0.6252627450980389,364,7,85,1,9,120,66,102,0.0,0.7509999999999999,0.249,0.9803,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,5,0,2,7,3,0,0,7,0,13,3,3,2,2,12,20,7,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,4,16,3,7,12,5,13,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,9,62,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622383889694314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313210898365412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207795861299633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874922993808125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516229343743273,0.0,0.2505437538091195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768789312014737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594010635308452,0.0,0.1620367928073047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625952192783167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386974032175529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4409667295879504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752897853330768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643972182743312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25706168164141424,0.0,0.20893590835743026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397577056636565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrSnarals,2020/01/20,Long plane ride with two little ones coming up My wife and I are taking our two kids on a long trip in a few months (California to South Carolina). What are you’re best tips to make the trip as easy as possible? They will be one year old and three and a half at the time.,1.4234482758620717,2.937684103448277,2.7684827586206917,95.8747931034483,78.65517241379311,6.708965517241379,16.772413793103446,7.554174236665415,-0.19548000000000032,210,3,52,3,5,68,47,58,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,7,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,0,0,4,1,9,5,2,16,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,6,34,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590695517319681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21265230951517616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474235499463311,0.0,0.4369354535056131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478428191654745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19704526083971494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590432549329393,0.0,0.3345641801068787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783031573155789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856117319035325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394894706178007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4823024023072826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897294448570592
parenting,thisissixsyllables,2020/01/20,"Aggression in a nearly 4-year-old Let me start by saying that I know expert consultation is warranted and that I am in the process of seeking it out, but I want to reach out because I feel like I’m at a loss for what’s happening with my son’s behavior and I don’t know how to approach the situation. I have a nearly four year old son (S) and a 2 year old daughter (G). S is genuinely kind, but he is aggressive in his actions. For example, in playing with G, he will ask to play tag, but he gets excited and pulls her hair or pushes her down to the ground. It would be one thing if this happened occasionally, but it happens so frequently throughout the day that he can’t be left unattended for more than a few seconds when he’s with G. I initially thought it was rough-play between siblings, but it’s a persistent issue at school as well. We’ve even had parent-teacher conferences on his behavior that were requested by his teachers. His teachers expressed that what they are seeing is indicative of a sensory processing disorder in which he is hyposensitive and craving big actions. I’ve tried looking deeper into this but am discouraged because it isn’t considered a diagnosis and there’s debate on whether it (1) is an actual disorder versus rushing to a diagnosis for normal but concerning childhood behaviors, or (2) occurs secondary to another disorder such as ADHD or ASD. When playing respectfully, S likes jumping, falling backwards on the couch or bed, screaming, and making loud noises (like sirens when playing police)—characteristics that could be attributed to normal little boy behavior or a sign of something deeper. Again, I know professional consult is needed here.

We’ve tried explaining to S how his actions affect others in an effort to help him develop empathy. We’ve tried taking ""breaks” to allow for self-reflection in which we have a discussion afterwards to try to make sense of whatever happened. It feels like he does understand, and he genuinely feels like he is being friendly, but his actions are too big. The closest comparison I can think of is “cute aggression” when something is so cute the impulse is to squeeze it tightly.

The majority of people I talk to say it’s either normal 3/4-year-old behavior or that he needs to have more severe consequences for his actions (read: spanking). Again, I feel like I’m at a loss and I don't know if I'm in denial with my mommy goggles strapped on too tightly or if this is something bigger.",10.984640312571821,8.391219275109172,10.660834290967596,61.56379108250979,58.21397379912664,14.1835899793151,46.157664904619615,12.57992686440994,5.870705676855893,1980,101,328,52,19,654,233,458,0.075,0.7959999999999999,0.129,0.9765,1,1,3,0,0,0,55.0,1,0,1,4,18,24,3,0,22,0,35,1,1,7,0,69,65,38,0,11,21,3,8,6,1,2,0,4,2,1,26,17,0,3,12,5,0,11,4,7,1,3,4,14,27,17,58,53,5,56,0,3,2,0,38,29,0,10,21,220,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.08491539599035051,0.0,0.10457673134522696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124422002318376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134853194869275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608870692517376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947546724003248,0.0,0.0,0.056118340887636516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991847945850372,0.0,0.07614858589291469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747347217570336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599230505613012,0.24865796392637626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722860875389296,0.0,0.045462446401610436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077930498244658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05832521875672149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082245184182453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061412811053483,0.19128762008022046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454350847097076,0.08898010361525384,0.0,0.25507073137981057,0.0872132331121005,0.0,0.0,0.07307181032611333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616816584448204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904302768039988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557726148748156,0.0,0.0,0.3652360461804733,0.0,0.058964524268100414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662134834502503,0.0,0.0,0.06032617406707959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703988827591964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383977729617618,0.0,0.08806518208412292,0.06934075726989464,0.0,0.0907770206150792,0.09830369645622412,0.0,0.0,0.09781001247202936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009682902635224,0.0,0.0,0.061590613618791874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654254586774573,0.06994043830792017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780979004437264,0.05575655737428304,0.0,0.06908125447266687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23631353296598626,0.0,0.0,0.09058707917162492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05132449209441435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782381402785173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061813911612459964,0.0,0.0,0.22414268114666133
parenting,Csd267,2020/01/20,"How to break the cycle of helicopter parenting? We had our oldest son when we were 18 (8 years ago), we have two more children now. 


My husband was raised mostly by a helicopter Grandma. He was raised by this Grandma because she convinced his parents that they couldn't parent well in their situation (they had him at 17) so she took control.


My husband doesn't know how to cook, buy groceries, he didn't know how to buy his own clothes, didn't get a license until he was 20, didn't know how to manage money, etc. He did, however, get a job at 16 which I think was a huge life saver for him, he gained some skills that way. 


When we had our son at 18, we had no money and his Grandma offered to have us live with her until we saved up enough for ourselves. She was in control of our money, and would always ask to look at our savings to see how much we had. She didn't let us do laundry or the dishes or allow us to cook. She runs a childcare business out of her house. I learned about how to take care of a baby from her.


Now that we are older and we have our own house and own everything else ourselves, I find that I am mimicking her helicopter parenting style. I hover over my kids constantly and I am here to ask how to break this cycle.


I was not raised with this style parenting, it was actually the complete opposite. Now, I am not sheltered like my husband but, I didn't have any guidance when I needed it. 

I need to find a happy medium. Any advice would be appreciated.",4.553805668016197,4.93387937792642,5.3861644076747055,84.47548318957932,69.60200668896321,8.16764654110192,29.114768526667838,8.032893268588372,1.7725879598662204,1150,40,240,14,19,376,148,299,0.016,0.9059999999999999,0.078,0.9516,7,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,17,0,3,4,17,7,0,0,10,0,34,4,0,10,0,48,49,21,0,5,5,10,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,10,17,3,2,7,2,5,2,10,0,1,1,20,2,49,7,35,24,9,28,0,0,2,0,54,10,0,4,14,175,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.10031011808647716,0.0,0.0,0.100447106678035,0.09111886411028387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553113928190466,0.0,0.0,0.13980410567965246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921932000849931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266102039090261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480324667845227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777540688848364,0.1110815835453237,0.230579831448224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586948664999987,0.0,0.0,0.10621156533872476,0.11464019927888512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238277917877223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878999653851656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740910558937752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942394524179083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23721622500708814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200515216781933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947530717140408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511173618041372,0.07260499623332346,0.05021895595160076,0.0,0.09076717762264147,0.0,0.08631935159836063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556391275526106,0.15243786116628838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5706914952893514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191187792069282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554246184312668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772867559440393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586493284380765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420564184823152,0.0,0.0,0.10041280170188796,0.0,0.3709381886002587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159146761893007,0.0,0.0,0.09242231044999498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460409081513918,0.0,0.0,0.06619464748358522
parenting,lolzmaddie,2020/01/20,"My kid quits everything My daughter is almost 10 and has quit literally EVERYTHING she wants to try. First it was soccer, then ballet and then violin. She’s the type to give up easily and it’s incredibly frustrating. I don’t know what to do with her anymore. 
Advice? Tough love? Lol.",1.5700000000000005,4.315274425925932,3.649907407407409,80.91708333333334,91.77777777777777,7.885185185185183,19.712962962962962,8.472884824447931,1.960451851851852,225,7,41,7,8,76,43,54,0.079,0.757,0.16399999999999998,0.7242,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,0,7,9,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,6,1,5,8,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,1,3,26,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587144059220003,0.0,0.0,0.2651127452026029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625646856830094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758873923420998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251994963916941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539760252563859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550179646235034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389506935538282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5631966344252719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975049070345578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615868500268248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MadWander,2020/01/20,"Summer Programs: Applications Open for Hundreds Of Them I thought I'd share some awesome programs I found that your children might be interested in :) 

* Stanford's Science, Technology, and Reconstructive Surgery (STaRS) Summer Internship Program  
[https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/5zKIUXEoM2RtBYvExXRK](https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/5zKIUXEoM2RtBYvExXRK)
* Apple’s Engineering Technology Camp  
[https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/80K1MskvKf7vWidlc2HR](https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/80K1MskvKf7vWidlc2HR)
* South Carolina Governor’s School for Science and Mathematics  
[https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/enYKGvYbAgS7yNpW6RJC](https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/enYKGvYbAgS7yNpW6RJC)
* Minority Introduction to Engineering and Science (MITES)  
[https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/qbDeK6fHIr89q8PwIZQv](https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/qbDeK6fHIr89q8PwIZQv)
* Princeton Plasma Physics Lab Summer Internship Program  
[https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/ZZLoDxOk6dUiJ592Hqm7](https://app.scholarahead.com/opportunities/ZZLoDxOk6dUiJ592Hqm7)

There are hundreds more listed on [app.scholarahead.com](https://app.scholarahead.com/) so check it out :)",46.26201315789474,59.04914217500002,27.647105263157894,-95.65368421052628,21.0,11.68421052631579,49.21052631578947,8.99025400887824,8.827125,1114,36,41,20,19,282,64,80,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.9325,0,0,0,0,0,0,118.0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,7,1,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,3,23,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5494552910384891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5316121052502474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5071630332126034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978355319020673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,killerorcaox,2020/01/20,"I’m not as awesome anymore... My husband works 70-80 hr weeks and on his one day off he’s playing with our son way better than I do lately. I love him for it. I think he’s so caught up with adulting it’s probably easier for him to just switch out of it and do 6 year old boy stuff. I have a difficult time doing it everyday, and I don’t think I have to necessarily, but I try to think the few times I truly engage with him are enough. Otherwise I’m busy catching up on laundry, dishes, other chores, then my own stuff like gym and my art (my two things that are important for my own sanity)... my husband and I co own a restaurant and I’m responsible for the social media part of it now too. I’m mostly stay at home but help out in the restaurant two nights a week. I wear a lot of hats, now more than ever, (restaurant just opened 2 months ago) and often feel like I don’t really get a day off. We’re new to the city as well and I handle our “social life”  and continue finding ways to be part of our community. 

I think we equally handle our life together, and I’m not complaining, just trying to explain how busy it can get. I love our life together, I just have a hard time really getting into the things my kid enjoys lately because they’re really all the things my husband likes. I guess I do my best, I’m just really impressed with my husband. He’s not too expressive in general, but when he plays with our son he can be and I battle with the thoughts of being less than what I should be right now. It wasn’t always like this of course, we have shifted into a different world and organizing the hats I wear now is something I need to figure out, for my kids sake. I know I’m being hard on myself and having a moment of guilt and shame though. I hope to find that connection again.",4.648448909580985,4.474324652291108,5.967411173731929,82.31517458956138,69.3234501347709,9.225238912031363,27.37576574369027,8.97023862654752,1.8722280323450144,1390,39,299,23,22,471,181,371,0.046,0.774,0.18100000000000002,0.9946,1,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,8,0,0,3,19,20,1,2,16,0,23,8,2,1,2,61,47,24,0,3,11,6,3,4,0,1,3,0,2,4,17,28,1,0,11,4,0,2,6,5,1,3,3,3,47,15,46,38,14,49,0,0,0,2,35,18,0,5,30,206,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999918026267319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448011833188734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006893159222842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189103128829944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654824132037508,0.08979399785260381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095538978239749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607601611505574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490641985320506,0.0,0.0,0.09183863770356808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051336026116386976,0.07253221512213741,0.0,0.0,0.18559101917229645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913386679333955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184545067678447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818997754698392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680526333781261,0.0,0.1018416927966247,0.10084103495876642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557975887471204,0.0,0.2290578808922776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151384416754192,0.1984074280742164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631617899425373,0.1832674627244988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103934199379527,0.0,0.0,0.07528233961167624,0.0,0.09805717490068687,0.0,0.0952779274743744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106537426164097,0.0,0.06879856154624757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21989165396499144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946524876881697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601678684476852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670506450241312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20699170895950414,0.0,0.07816185216539931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821622197546064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324524353620411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023537261282589,0.2602222941157005,0.09975155817472756,0.0806025486768991,0.1776068285155394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786281958325866,0.0,0.1983578247882993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117771602693595,0.1628806036468787,0.0,0.09128660963567764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391419610116763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538123658004336
parenting,toucansammi,2020/01/20,"Daycare naps Anyone else’s kid not sleep at daycare? She’ll be one next week. She’s been like this for months. When we are at home she will easily nap for 2-3 hours at least once a day, sometimes twice. At daycare she doesn’t sleep. If she does it will be 15-20 minutes and only once. She is absolutely exhausted from the afternoon until she goes to bed and I don’t know what to do. I work at her daycare. It doesn’t matter if I’m in the room, not in the room, I try to rock her, someone else does. She wants to sleep, she rubs her eyes and says night night but at home she sleeps in a crib in a dark room by herself. She can’t do that here so she just doesn’t sleep. I’m half ranting/half asking if any of your kids did this? Idk what to do. She is miserable.",0.3843674698795176,2.103992421686751,2.033358433734943,98.96341114457834,82.6144578313253,5.354819277108434,18.20632530120482,6.322622252153567,-0.437468674698795,586,13,147,5,16,191,94,166,0.054000000000000006,0.917,0.028999999999999998,-0.701,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,0,1,4,3,0,1,6,0,18,7,6,0,0,14,23,10,0,4,7,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,6,2,7,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,7,2,0,3,2,3,22,1,21,16,1,23,0,1,1,0,23,13,0,3,11,90,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917852516580914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437521442461272,0.13829425689822888,0.0,0.0,0.1261801372071039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704545470473969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362289468765101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255027462492745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707748485072033,0.0,0.13291974432349934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417680924766352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594025958845846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773296745623527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435437266106349,0.2533232281348045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874804953123252,0.09146018476637154,0.10265191147615747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733475800452563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6753448982093466,0.0,0.11436091804782618,0.0,0.1334902694945128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916367920208755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960969054294276,0.0,0.10826599982317638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826086302293233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InPlainRice,2020/01/20,"Dealing with Ex advice? Establishing boundaries vs Disrespect Hi all, not sure if this is the right place for this kind of question but since it deals mainly with my daughter I figured I'd post here first.

My wife and I have recently split up and our little one isn't adjusting too nicely. Acting out in school, at home, etc. She's 5 years old, turning 6 soon.

Most recently, I had our daughter for the weekend. She facetimed me to speak to our daughter, so I gave my daughter the phone and had her answer. Eventually she asks to speak to me so I take the phone. ~~She had asked me to buy something for our little one when I picked her up on Friday, I honestly forgot so I told her not yet but I'll get it before you get her back. She wanted to know exactly when and what time I would be buying it~~ 

Don't want to add too much detail on the drama, basically she began becoming verbally abusive (insulting, name-calling) towards me, so I told her I was hanging up because I didn't want our daugther to hear her talking to me that way and think that it's okay. Fast-forward 6 hours later, it's bed time so she facetimes again for good night, and she says ""I'm just calling to check on my baby"" (something sweet) and our daughter said she's not a baby, and mom insists she'll always be her baby, etc. All very sweet. But then, our daughter hangs up on her because she saw that as name-calling and I'm guessing since she saw me hang up earlier on her mom, she did the same thing.

I haven't talked to her about it yet, this all happened last night. Should I bring this up? Sit down and tell her that she can't hang up on her mom like that, even though I did? Kind of conflicted on what the ""right"" thing to do right now is... any advice would truly be appreciated.",3.0791653290529686,4.532655921348319,4.0522792937399705,88.65528089887644,74.05617977528091,6.771107544141255,25.35473515248796,7.310402129719878,1.0510252006420542,1372,45,289,15,28,443,178,356,0.043,0.88,0.077,0.941,0,0,2,0,0,0,53.0,7,1,0,1,20,11,1,0,8,1,22,0,0,1,5,46,47,24,0,7,9,11,0,1,0,4,0,5,2,0,19,14,0,2,6,2,3,6,8,1,0,3,15,9,59,10,41,25,9,57,0,0,2,0,66,25,0,4,24,197,78,1,0.0,0.11636260950838435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19193905204116102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817184602757661,0.0,0.0,0.06678606383762223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362589950606034,0.0,0.0,0.07551731034488507,0.0,0.11973562257310592,0.10846506024809358,0.0835693464482155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028323448405166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250008011338352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190598803998268,0.064866677819437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353724583585884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026211833731306,0.0,0.0,0.08237376027508778,0.0,0.0,0.10818921893846477,0.0,0.08684664351315227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068963543961503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851248425721544,0.0,0.09671691659939008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20454088578695895,0.05397356359755498,0.08005413334067167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04798037055832314,0.19686413504231076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450665581268895,0.0,0.0,0.07219553784289015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18432657731098714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305471393482864,0.0,0.13309906827213314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260838739660948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405788588368318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001750521451964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19394075192057555,0.0,0.0,0.2516120186318597,0.09342005449138124,0.07810041232756204,0.0,0.09939360851380384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624804009101276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121347690744388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256161869589233,0.0,0.0738415827087199,0.15787471007147466,0.08583973520449735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304925171095851,0.06292890452941058,0.096490676210031,0.0,0.11453390333990285,0.0,0.0,0.1876874353309935,0.0,0.0,0.10682411205799124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103340928597254,0.1737801371782463,0.07795440539478006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395309153087731,0.0,0.0,0.06324392164386987
parenting,builtlikethewall,2020/01/20,"26 month old boy, great at speaking but refuses to say his name Hi all,

Maybe I'm just a worrywart. Actually, I absolutely am a worry wart. Issue that I am having currently is that my son has hit all of his milestones and we have no reason to be concerned about him otherwise. he will answer to his name, but he refuses to say it. He will say other names, but he won't say what his name is.

What can I do? I read him lots of books, and generally will replace the main character's name with his name because he likes to say the main character's names in the book, but he still won't say his name.

is this something to be concerned about, or is it just something that will work out on its own? Any advice is appreciated.",3.8628571428571448,4.585888244897961,5.314428571428575,83.14307142857143,71.31292517006804,8.873197278911565,27.62517006802721,9.120678840339163,2.015561088435374,560,19,121,11,10,189,84,147,0.073,0.856,0.07,-0.1097,1,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,20,1,0,1,2,28,22,7,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,6,1,7,0,1,10,5,0,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,14,2,15,13,6,8,0,0,0,0,35,4,0,2,5,81,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.15799486076642136,0.0,0.0,0.15821062657213114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010021039148038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869512050227752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849963181074027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898561757687264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909807210642532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764491413062865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626542384718167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923015592107234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989091786641247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194772301175522,0.0,0.0,0.16646418403895122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7725149231581447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24928307890722326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929667127808053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786797439280725,0.16442127911475782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deelabee,2020/01/20,"10 year old challenges everything. Mom ready to quit. My 10 yo son has recently begun challenging everything. I mean EVERY-thing. He is refusing to go to school, refusing to go to bed, refusing to do chores. Yesterday, he refused to wear snowpants to play outside. He just walked out of the house and said he would come back if he was freezing. I am at a loss and feel that I have tried so many options.

I have taken away electronics. I have done ""time-ins"" where we spend more time together. I have tried positive parenting and punishments. I have tried earlier bedtimes. This morning, I physically picked him up and carried him outside to take him to school. I am at a loss. Have you been through this and tried something that worked? I would love to hear from you.",2.760416666666668,5.4927642083333375,3.4075000000000024,86.66250000000002,80.52777777777777,7.7666666666666675,27.75,8.660442795831766,2.465841666666667,602,27,115,15,16,189,91,144,0.127,0.77,0.10400000000000001,-0.3612,1,0,1,1,0,0,24.0,1,2,0,6,4,7,1,0,3,0,16,2,1,1,0,20,26,7,0,3,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,4,8,0,4,2,1,1,4,0,3,0,0,5,4,17,4,19,19,1,17,0,2,0,1,21,6,0,2,7,70,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374775941401833,0.12583118105096133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096374745648996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674633586011584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941431211257872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827426961575425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18600390283440374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844372832382065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882177345584494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769397955928293,0.0,0.0,0.16590807346561914,0.0,0.17825493869957568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916564222251313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17171554850227486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170591869672215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405421799691284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615774830739217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566173817380755,0.0,0.0,0.3312304183263575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598019118522996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230389896101458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084281818059706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444107678431462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913387794883645,0.0,0.0,0.23249424252851156,0.0,0.0,0.10538057192977901
parenting,alilbitcloser,2020/01/20,"How old were your little ones when you put them in daycare full time? How did it affect them? I have a two year old who is super high energy. She’s an only child and I feel that she’ll do really well in daycare. I just got hired at this super awesome job full time and am looking to get her into daycare within the next two weeks. She would be going full time as I’ll be working full time. I feel like she’ll enjoy having others to play with and being able to learn new things, but I’m still super anxious because she’s been home with me, or my mom all of this time. I guess I’m just looking to ease my mind a little 😭",2.2470895522388052,3.184981320895524,3.813611940298512,91.5877313432836,75.34328358208955,5.957014925373135,20.116417910447762,5.6839178017228535,-0.1345200000000002,483,9,109,2,10,161,89,134,0.018000000000000002,0.7959999999999999,0.18600000000000005,0.9623,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,2,4,7,7,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,3,1,20,24,9,0,1,4,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,7,6,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,4,18,7,13,14,5,27,0,0,2,0,13,12,0,2,14,74,25,4,0.1500236063094618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694839726079124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914529979374777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171288611013345,0.10717689432361344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838114230069093,0.0,0.08526187276103124,0.0,0.11998758288293215,0.0,0.16526791616080186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850817693349725,0.15048590930556566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887528023993132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329395605774099,0.30072613227521905,0.0,0.0,0.2519640897783846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148107544979453,0.1757058345183406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489373382994092,0.15955180729081833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31484907626967595,0.0,0.10165987827673972,0.11409971292095868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081516113911475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961089637758316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980904579212875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966901780456157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373998564846523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29310252816350085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033988769701764,0.0,0.13488923918301615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092189721658157,0.0,0.0,0.10657246553469517,0.0,0.0,0.09661028374614984
parenting,foreverpregg,2020/01/20,"Is it wrong to give monetary incentives to your kids to encourage them in hygiene and chores. Hello, I have 4 kids (6, 5, 3, and baby). Lately, the older kids have been really sloppy like not brushing their teeth, hair, wearing dirty clothes continuously without me yelling at them.

I finally woke up from Post partum depression a few weeks ago, and saw how lazy we are were getting.

On top of all that, my kids have been asking for more things from the store or have been asking to go get ice-cream and and etc...

I decided that I would offer daily monetary incentives to help my kids be a little more sanitary and cleanly without all the yelling For each kid, I offer $.25 a day to do basic hygienic things, like brushing teeth and putting toothbrush back, making their bed look nice and putting dirty clothes in the hamper, this also extends to the daily cleaning of 20 toys and clearing plates off the table.  If they do everything on the list per day, they get their 25 cents.

I also offered them earn ""extra"" money, like 25 cents to wash certain walls, vacuum, dust, and etc...

Now, my husband thinks we should just enforce these these and not offer any money (allowance). $.25 a day to each kid may not seem like a lot, but it does add up. + any ""extra"" chores they choose to do.

I am relying on my kids being lazy and only doing the chores when they want something in the store, I buy it on the condition they do ""extra"" chores.

I think it is a great way to get my kids to brush their hair, teeth, and get dressed with minimum complaint. It has worked for about a week now.

Is this a good way to go about it?",7.162500000000001,6.13606533757962,6.982858280254778,79.95320461783443,64.4140127388535,10.015605095541405,32.68232484076433,9.017664075816787,2.54394331210191,1252,41,250,17,16,397,169,314,0.051,0.847,0.102,0.9103,0,0,1,0,2,0,58.0,2,1,12,3,10,11,0,0,18,0,24,7,6,3,4,45,42,20,0,4,9,1,2,4,0,3,1,2,8,9,14,19,0,0,5,1,7,4,5,2,0,0,6,9,30,9,36,31,13,35,0,1,2,0,35,14,0,5,18,162,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163217859122992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141746036070346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127778144961253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354610743384638,0.0,0.0,0.09683485321399868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24364947686755475,0.0,0.1084660759311028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020498719638304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28089760171165984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131806350390503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795365905967005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289744822478644,0.12080659536593767,0.14314147318466064,0.10562678872558012,0.0,0.13884179157064552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441036574664489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205812871220427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460983908960513,0.1262181447727777,0.0,0.0,0.10575216633346747,0.0,0.0,0.10706389858970143,0.0,0.0,0.08406138524700855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095777869219626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206091892252146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531952870017368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067602913017065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146448505950388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694952570104667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673288373503064,0.16138581221162224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427866096003345,0.1999198162464578,0.2020320249838643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427902112124184,0.0,0.09168086548689254,0.0,0.0,0.08945932820590106,0.13768817891241913,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blh5555,2020/01/20,"Toddler meals. What are some of your favorite meals to make toddlers? We all know they are ridiculous most the time, and hard to feed. They love something one day and they will eat 3 bites and the next day they hate it haha. So I’m looking for inspiration. I have been resorting to using squeeze packs for too long now and I need to have more ideas for quick meals. Thanks everyone!",2.4168918918918934,4.996719810810814,2.2093918918918938,95.69760135135138,80.62162162162161,5.321621621621622,22.763513513513516,6.6274283507984215,0.4248432432432443,302,10,63,3,8,89,55,74,0.08800000000000001,0.718,0.19399999999999998,0.8805,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,4,0,4,6,2,0,2,1,6,6,0,2,1,14,15,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,8,4,8,13,4,7,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,2,7,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399938227207473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26972340117419397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518762342068042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361292655338619,0.2602454030451607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975665703858265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486486984809546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23327320197458176,0.22135333772290872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379046992092945,0.0,0.17595165038380836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545228699991848,0.0,0.0,0.2803361789738241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861873403351478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292824108122406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24268277956701084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370431276545346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22766137047400894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ncan781,2020/01/20,"I don't like my kid There I said it aloud. I don't like my kid.

 He's 16 and he's a lil shit and I am exhausted! 

He lies, he smokes, he vapes. We've caught him, we've punished him he seems to make a turn around ... but then i find something that lets me know he's just doing a better job of hiding it.  He has a job now, so he's not home a lot. Thankful for that because it gives me time away from him. People always comment what a ""nice boy"" he is. He's not. I wouldn't recommend him for a thing. The life I thought he'd have(or the one I been planning for him in head) it's a wrap. He'll be lucky if he makes it out of high school. Oh he's definitely going to summer school this year for the first time in his life for math. Forget college, he's not gonna be able to do that at all. 

I've now had to become a helicopter mom, real time updates for all his classes, daily homework checks and aggressively monitoring his every move.  Since I been all over him this semester he's gone up 20 points or more in a few weeks. But why do I even have to do all this?

I hate this, I hate that I feel like I have to be this way. I hate how time consuming it is.  Do I love my child. Sure, but do I want this crap ... no! 

I wish I believed it was gonna get better. I just want him out my house and my life to be my own again. I can't stand him.",-1.256850431447745,0.5933408221476526,1.23325599232982,101.38561744966444,90.44295302013424,4.479539789069992,15.561265580057526,5.860315114193679,-0.936814113135187,1007,21,266,8,35,341,152,298,0.166,0.7170000000000001,0.11699999999999999,-0.9361,2,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,0,4,10,18,7,0,13,0,26,8,3,3,5,38,50,12,0,5,10,1,1,3,0,4,4,1,2,4,19,7,0,0,5,0,1,4,8,8,0,2,8,2,41,10,26,32,8,31,0,0,0,1,37,12,2,5,16,157,60,8,0.11842202572209495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853661199147133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054207098200969,0.0,0.0,0.11126139138061633,0.0,0.0,0.07218896772668533,0.13078782346401424,0.0,0.13342107042892115,0.0,0.20946931657469806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821663112471952,0.0,0.09977566417095377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059877734388839275,0.08460071883770423,0.0,0.0,0.1082355861141094,0.1007297145832941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187062075093045,0.11360119780453827,0.06730196625452027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507517002385727,0.1215351631461174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251193719957733,0.11878694734105062,0.0,0.0,0.136643118037773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350311754216955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650816483333382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109454463855801,0.2509349367686541,0.17356506012073827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067817145721028,0.10688050171876416,0.0,0.15809524346319687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869444527238242,0.0,0.1258638721814002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024582941540613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820989219121011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194709168879506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347901911525846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264646483273505,0.0,0.0,0.2396988245619529,0.0,0.10780696459715723,0.0,0.0,0.12155850763349367,0.09795992341676467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911670609775841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116113577759668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902709078397643,0.0,0.0,0.0786743318634871,0.0,0.0,0.094013860554708,0.2762113420930308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880915824491232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969675795956074,0.09399789192662064,0.09499100592778817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685745884637854,0.0,0.13617948527522927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625990194640386
parenting,Kaikichan,2020/01/20,"Breastfeeding vs formula feeding: no more guilt I meant to post this as a comment on another thread, but comments got locked. I figured someone might find it helpful 

I breastfed for 6 months with my first. My second,  I was taking 
a new medication and my supply was short. We tried for one month, but it wasn't working and everyone was miserable.  I was devastated.  I felt so guilty. 

Remember a couple things: 

Fed is best. As soon as my baby switched to formula a lot of stress was taken off my household.  I make sure she has all the necessary nutrients: she is just as happy and thriving as my first. 

Do what works for your family. You know your family better than anyone.  If it works, and everyone is happy and healthy, then you're doing good.

Turn away from shaming moms. Unfortunately, everyone thinks their opinion matters and is relevant to you personally.  Try to steer away from the negative moms as friends.  This will really help to surround yourself with other peers with similar values. Chances are they went through the same thing.

Be patient with yourself.  You just had a BABY. Your body is still recovering.  Your hormones are probably unstable, you're tired, you may not feel good. Early motherhood is fucking hard. The house will be clean again.  You will not be tired forever. Your baby will eat\sleep eventually, even if they are screaming now. Remember:  you're in charge.  Take time as much as you can get it. This time is for building bonds between the family.  Don't stress the little things. Focus on what's important,  and remember to take just as good of care of yourself, mentally and physically, as you do for your baby. 

Sorry for the wall of text. I just know how you feel.  Wishing you and your fed and healthy baby the best! ❤",3.4483311081441923,6.305984576323991,4.1613119715175815,81.56338317757009,78.62616822429908,7.780720961281707,27.8630173564753,8.676224119757912,2.596593698264353,1383,60,243,33,35,440,178,321,0.129,0.6709999999999999,0.2,0.9848,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,16,3,8,11,18,1,5,13,0,32,8,1,2,2,49,53,27,0,3,11,2,4,0,1,6,3,1,1,1,13,15,3,0,12,0,0,1,6,7,0,4,14,5,36,11,41,30,7,25,0,1,0,1,30,10,1,6,13,176,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513607583901668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634390318545523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048362912377546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042659106043214,0.08024142255593128,0.0,0.10077820348178196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925031037775492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038865555619053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283725484150512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059924898325066984,0.0,0.0,0.26008308558078064,0.0,0.0,0.2565904660814766,0.0,0.09174946794793773,0.0,0.08711297721889913,0.0,0.08292362378404977,0.15434614909690825,0.0,0.0,0.07009612246492818,0.08387644805783354,0.047401564149399215,0.0,0.0,0.2282946826510185,0.07256336078054999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316299605690276,0.08127434514199627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162594920657592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468777339920286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972332234520136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093315453198524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713358529219859,0.0,0.0,0.06056155355951325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139877766216133,0.0914323472281085,0.0962479258221739,0.0,0.21251875494219294,0.14483623048509114,0.0,0.06669541913031901,0.0,0.0,0.08762553616069688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147954852544316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922007108047482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689221396446396,0.0,0.09781998231181413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058122592731239237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083309498304291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079338631762356,0.0,0.07687342452341835,0.0,0.0,0.10156241545674316,0.0,0.0,0.072455389180311,0.0,0.20785692275224954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550993785430015,0.0,0.20464818693040035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082668365738627,0.05813475165368824,0.0,0.0,0.1058082939212918,0.20855666552122756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319652789144185,0.09868586258663817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410563865007208,0.0,0.0,0.10433256574379643,0.0,0.0,0.19815289609795814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tscxcvi,2020/01/20,"4 year old keeps asking if I'm happy. Hi there!

I'm just looking for some advice. My son is turning 4 tomorrow, and for the past couple of months, he's constantly been asking me if I'm happy. 

As I was dropping him off for daycare this morning, he asked me again. I asked the daycare workers if he asks them if they're happy as well, and it turns out he does. I asked them if it might be a concern and they said that it is.

I feel like I am doing something wrong & I want to know how can I support my child. He has many loving people around him. He has stability in his life. I am very affectionate & understanding towards him, and he is a confident, happy, and smart kid. I have noticed that he tends to ask these questions when I am stern with him or when I have asked him to do something multiple times (like clean up his toys). It seems that if he senses anything but happiness in my voice, he asks me if I'm happy. In those cases, I always tell him that I am happy with him, even if I'm not happy with something that he did. I constantly tell him I love him & we have a very strong bond.

He will be getting evaluated to see if he's on the spectrum as there are some signs (socially) that he might be. Could that be why he is constantly seeking reassurance? Or is it something else altogether? I just want him to be okay.",3.1598540145985443,4.1855486715328505,4.610664233576647,86.40760218978106,73.23357664233576,7.523795620437956,26.10875912408759,7.908726449838941,1.3523918248175182,1032,34,223,14,20,345,137,274,0.006999999999999999,0.769,0.223,0.9957,0,0,4,0,0,0,39.0,1,0,3,2,11,20,0,0,6,1,30,3,0,1,0,41,61,23,0,12,15,1,1,2,0,3,1,2,1,2,15,11,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,5,38,19,24,48,2,22,0,0,2,2,52,9,0,17,14,143,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576739843584417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056001219964006935,0.21876727190030887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538436979307424,0.05991365280458369,0.5662702722960721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21819085702467533,0.0,0.0537357122624513,0.07446913357215956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058897027444191535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622275174230455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04445278436037695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034030256436521314,0.04808104692247229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03516287166725805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5731596214677259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982171296529956,0.0,0.0,0.03698779195139035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04753787215609386,0.06576137818857175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056517299273633616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148658992119582,0.0,0.0,0.06823435236113681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279501213327656,0.0,0.0,0.05372035582270147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662454547866722,0.07062283948959347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424802202407451,0.04665920303009143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539440278999839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402025935102958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05363152100643282,0.06126983073641561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860660503946958,0.0,0.2072515598859687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637428191648117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176510148775952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03924473302990213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641197537573672,0.0,0.07006446180843355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106351643296687,0.07939372698778319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060513190640813924,0.0,0.060730199026619774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358491351842975,0.0,0.043340718307869175
parenting,Kentuckianquitter,2020/01/20,"22 month old doesn't know a lot of words, but can repeat our last name. It's not much and he doesn't understand what he's saying, but hearing him say our last name is another one of those ""first"" moments.

Went to a speech therapist on Friday, and she confirmed that he's a few months behind for speaking.

She suggested more interaction with kids his age. All of his cousins are years older. So we my have to arranged a play date with someone new.",4.61498127340824,5.459688943820229,4.911853932584272,86.26680711610489,69.67415730337079,8.18052434456929,28.316479400749067,8.344100000000001,1.758841198501873,352,12,73,5,6,111,69,89,0.0,0.9620000000000001,0.038,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,15,10,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,5,9,1,10,9,5,15,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,1,13,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386159161469504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19356194506505112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564760295824401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506071809648348,0.3709826342698472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346289993441826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632715510249925,0.0,0.16728237315059735,0.0,0.0,0.2197783270379268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23878535469726125,0.0,0.15420016714293713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619288035952038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928103766971445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642140512343611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368974043739037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109498824985248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654081977974853
parenting,Lord-Eddard,2020/01/20,Judgment for bringing your baby certain places? Has anyone ever brought their baby into a liquor store or something and felt everyone judging them ? I feel like it would be frowned upon and was wondering what others think. I usually don’t care what people think but I live in a small community where everybody knows everybody. Thoughts ?,5.654022988505743,8.915670034482762,5.269655172413792,74.49919540229888,72.79310344827587,8.004597701149425,33.804597701149426,8.841846274778883,3.67488735632184,274,14,39,6,6,84,50,58,0.0,0.892,0.10800000000000001,0.6046,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,2,15,15,4,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,7,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,2,6,3,4,9,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,2,3,27,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896092974053022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764772412555702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24528999079501654,0.0,0.2591158244503599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371123710935889,0.19372485072217072,0.26036699997612417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902866998465436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248061334237496,0.0,0.2394492504860713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879960550026047,0.0,0.2833163216163773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20876093632895174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475112747987679,0.0,0.21527974409667575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986569067122641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940737375428608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926323309431238,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agent_tater_twat,2020/01/20,"Frozen 2 sing-along? Anyone out there ever taken their kid(s) to a cinema sing-along? Thinking about taking the daughter to Frozen 2 sing-along at the movie theater (no school today), but I'm worried it might be lame for us. Anyone out there with movie sing-along experience?",3.80294117647059,6.431963019607848,3.6585882352941184,86.99964705882354,75.66666666666667,5.648627450980393,20.003921568627447,6.742157984588678,0.3602439215686277,218,5,39,2,5,66,37,51,0.147,0.853,0.0,-0.7929,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,8,3,0,5,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,21,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4371640382597836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28277084612427866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057895414031843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316265294134554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163748810270689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23504149103387525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030588466753435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963147974088657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760276210546688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31746749022210324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ksi7221988,2020/01/20,"Neighbor Kisses and Hugs my Son even though he cries and squirms TLDR, neighbor is nice but makes my son uncomfortable. questions are in the last paragraph below =>

I have a neighbor who is honestly a very nice person, so I don't know why I feel so uncomfortable with her and a bit scared of her. She gives us leftovers, hand me down clothes/shoes that her sons can no longer wear, and advice on how to teach my son how to speak. She also helps us with buying fish cakes (of course, we pay her for it) because we don't have a car. 

But here are some of her odd behaviors, some of which I've had to speak up against. The most alarming behavior was showing up at our door at night at 8pm, without any warning, and forcefully hugging and kissing our son even though he shows obvious signs of discomfort (crying, screaming, kicking, squirming). I've tried to pretend that I wasn't home a couple of times, and I heard her try to open the freakin door!! Did I overreact when I told her please don't come to our house at night time anymore, and just send us a message when she needed something? 

Other odd behaviors include: her asking me to watch her child (for free, of course) right after I told her I was exhausted and needed to rest, asking my husband to watch her kids even though he was going to work, hugging me and acting like we're best friends even though I barely talk to her. My husband has chalked it up to her being lonely in a foreign country (she is from Korea) and grieving because one of her kids has autism. Also possible cultural differences when it comes to trying to open doors of other people's homes when no one answers the door (but my mom is Korean, and she told me she thought that was weird?).

Now she goes to our church (starting recently). I want to speak up against her hugging and kissing my son even though he obviously doesn't like it, but I wonder if I'm overreacting and being an asshole? I know she's struggling, but she creeps me out and I feel bad for feeling this way. At the same time, I feel the urge to protect my son. How would you approach this situation? Do you think I'm overreacting? How do I stop this without pissing her off or hurting her feelings?",6.801640040444895,6.190720846511631,6.6296764408493445,80.83007583417597,64.95348837209302,9.338725985844286,34.50960566228514,8.456263369488248,2.6011921132457028,1724,68,342,20,23,544,215,430,0.131,0.706,0.163,0.9609,0,2,1,0,0,0,57.0,9,2,0,2,25,27,1,4,14,0,27,11,3,5,2,63,54,39,1,5,10,10,6,2,4,1,1,5,9,4,14,24,0,2,12,3,3,7,9,12,0,2,12,13,66,16,53,39,7,42,1,3,2,7,76,19,1,7,17,231,80,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083845007902598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723212578757565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834850168008551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509281911681522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042712341734006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164133088001874,0.10460856312567034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900442131604838,0.0,0.09367388160432176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782215632089585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493860546952013,0.1884995802882154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964513433458678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28335802727730697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21692108762907167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629063890507106,0.0,0.0,0.08230937805261687,0.0487634205552934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751146851506446,0.0,0.17213339199527766,0.0,0.0,0.09900432634707752,0.09185312950430084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430939286702128,0.06994032085919487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383733285854672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057273696994473634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049060881703532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724262646121065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103927957281242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628370894227673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948450660707245,0.07491925289672582,0.0,0.0941851520177172,0.0,0.09672919358152192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611820519106612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471941329547318,0.0,0.0,0.07327468959974101,0.0,0.0,0.08590306385089068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644537256184607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605479724660238,0.0,0.0,0.06073130476775871,0.0,0.0,0.07173455910979269,0.0,0.08969918655558473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06896463316242964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05497864495484512,0.4215015872654269,0.06811743661275314,0.1500960215525632,0.0,0.0,0.2459633044635044,0.0,0.17476237467121475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096287825815999,0.0,0.0,0.07079587785501631,0.05060841560580382,0.06810586659525661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742322394400981,0.0,0.0,0.1654206976169139,0.09304892692345287,0.06246509136933645,0.0,0.0,0.060951487320110284,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aortally,2020/01/20,"Help! My 4 year old is going through a defiant stage I'm home with her today for the holiday. I've instructed her that shes not allowed to come out of her bedroom until she will brush her hair. This is a daily battle that I'm failing miserably.

Today's scenario, she took a bath. After telling her 3 times not to splash, bath time was cut short because she splashed anyway. Next, she wanted me to help her get dressed. I told her no because she wasnt following directions so she can get dressed by herself. I washed the dishes and she came out of her bedroom fully dressed after about 5 minutes. Great. Next, I asked her if she wanted to brush her hair or if I could. She wanted to. I told her after her hair is untangled, we could blow dry it. 

This is where the real fun started. She wouldn't focus on brushing her hair and she wouldn't let me do it. She was chasing the cats around the house and getting into mischeif. I did the old 'count to 3 and then you get a timeout' thing, which she laughed at. So I put her in the corner, but she wouldn't stay, so I sandwiched her in the corner, which she thought was funny.

At this point, I have no control over the situation and I'm getting really angry about brushing a 4 year olds hair. If I give up, she wins and no lessons are learned. I could hold her down and brush her hair, something I dont want to do but have in the past. I could tell at or lecture my 4 year old, but I know that wont do anything. So I told her she was to stay in her room until she was ready to brush her hair. She wouldn't go in her room, so I picked her up and put her in there, reaffirming the terms. She came out a minute later, still didnt want to brush her hair and wouldn't go in her room, so i stated again what the deal was, put her in her room, and shut the door.

I'm so frustrated and I feel like I have no control over this kid. In general, shes great. Smart, kind, curious, sweet. I know this is age appropriate behavior. However, I grew up in an abuse/neglect situation and my thoughts get dark pretty quickly when my emotions get high. Obviously, I would never hurt my kid, but thinking about how my parents handled similar situations multiplies my emotional load.

While typing this, my daughter came out of her room and told me she was ready to brush her hair. She brought the brush and sat still for 2 minutes so we could brush it. She was all kisses and hugs. I gently brushed her hair, told her I loved her, and told her to go play by herself for a little bit.",3.0081845953525668,4.2590525878906265,3.9112500000000026,90.40362179487178,73.90234375,6.9700320512820495,26.018830128205128,7.419758726546812,1.0962663661858976,1943,66,427,22,39,624,215,512,0.061,0.784,0.155,0.9952,3,0,1,0,1,0,65.0,2,1,0,5,21,19,3,1,22,0,41,16,10,5,3,75,85,39,0,19,11,2,11,1,0,8,1,0,11,2,16,29,2,3,8,4,0,15,16,6,0,0,25,23,98,13,56,46,3,89,0,3,0,3,81,39,0,5,32,283,114,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058411197212343564,0.06318801139663856,0.06635751942721801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653854300942655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749271178055464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24354957210172784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061143723086771185,0.0,0.0,0.15922213312524885,0.2833621920800741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317814663553802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318903557007458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968782034927045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03589005395072377,0.050708738303918914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25959197647776866,0.06809130571967112,0.16136022677001935,0.0,0.0,0.15651329048495452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951539442454089,0.07499517236320119,0.07119958682850114,0.0,0.0,0.08190237871266016,0.07598647530039312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391563956271081,0.07801844521094341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258273521160898,0.0,0.034677661266884284,0.07114146588652362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640629945691776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474481262039156,0.0,0.15097789300365752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979298759223709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881584149462982,0.0,0.06775925949816429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709985274737379,0.0,0.0,0.0722130494775035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406609848318173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079175476279084,0.045472154455736206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239356371183786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054644531400711946,0.0,0.0,0.0502406158026425,0.15131229816025848,0.11337080791259235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408079495935576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0471565272790949,0.045481666977006084,0.0,0.11270174337301606,0.08277901686414209,0.0,0.13456310540729108,0.4069515031285688,0.07886234366554642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20933174205253302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050422764153669086,0.0,0.0,0.13712803380433955
parenting,Marsar0619,2020/01/20,"Montessori to Kindergarten -- Insight from anyone? Greetings! Due to geographic reasons, as well as our work schedules, my wife and I might be forced to send our 4-year old to Montessori next year. The plan would be for him to attend Montessori for two years until he is old enough for our local full-day kindergarten. 

Has anyone else done this? What was the transition like? Was your child behind, academically? Was your child able to adapt to the structure of a traditional kindergarten? 

Thank you!",5.254754521963825,8.45099693023256,3.915736434108529,84.00820413436693,73.88372093023256,5.682687338501292,26.997416020671835,6.937597516519254,1.4133865633074931,400,15,65,4,9,115,62,86,0.032,0.845,0.122,0.8148,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,3,0,2,1,3,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,5,11,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,9,3,16,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,9,45,11,2,0.21050095074321534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943743183010909,0.2156830998879032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357556989202114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215415556979388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584653345391976,0.0,0.0,0.2175037525687744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284013171940977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22330824354914294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22387014919662895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4417706754674246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21643003624786425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380099374969453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056288418916836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189265634866045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324719919528418,0.0,0.0,0.14953383584065352,0.0,0.0,0.40666713220158907
parenting,IsEneff,2020/01/20,"Teenager Lessons I think I’ve learned two things today. 1st, I think I became a parent because I missed being yelled at by my parents. 2nd, you can start/win and argument by countering with something completely irrelevant. Example: I say “can you do a load of dishes.” My child: “I haven’t washed my hair in a week!!”",2.166714285714285,4.854735766666664,3.4861904761904756,85.33500000000002,83.0,6.761904761904763,26.904761904761905,7.957251820313856,2.0414761904761902,246,11,46,5,7,80,46,60,0.10300000000000001,0.897,0.0,-0.6467,2,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,3,1,0,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,11,0,6,7,0,4,0,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,28,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709975244349413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29411151714303824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6229508061105375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230744180948698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21595185840860104,0.0,0.0,0.19854785231138103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635972239088056,0.3594815530645249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265892596578826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740194846091648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500982309007514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,princess_jennyfish,2020/01/20,"Cleft during 20 week ultrasound First time parent/pregnancy. I just had my 20 week anatomy scan a few days ago. Everything was going well until the tech said she was having a difficult time getting a clear image of the baby's face. She said it's important because they like to rule out cleft. I didn't make much of it and asked if she sees clefts often. She said, no, that they're not common. She immediately follows this by saying, ""I see a left cleft.""

After the ultrasound they said I will need to see a specialist for clearer imaging and to determine whether the cleft includes a palate. I asked if the tech is ever incorrect during the ultrasound and whether it's possible the specialist will say there's no cleft. They said that's unlikely.

They usually give me all inclusive pics of my ultrasound, but this time around did not include a picture of when she identified the cleft. I realize it may be considered sensitive, but I would have liked to have an image of what she saw.

I guess my question is, has anyone ever had a cleft diagnoses during the anatomy scan only to learn during a follow up scan that there's no cleft?

I've also read on different forums that people have known clefts to resolve in utero. However, I can't find any information on this happening.

Anyone have situations similar to this?",5.843633776091082,7.112984274193551,6.467153700189751,74.6795540796964,67.14516129032258,10.351423149905122,31.523719165085392,10.46071229359064,3.5192335863377613,1052,42,184,28,17,344,136,248,0.033,0.9059999999999999,0.06,0.7359,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,4,2,10,5,0,0,19,0,20,2,1,1,4,31,40,12,0,4,9,0,0,2,0,4,1,7,0,0,13,5,0,0,7,1,0,3,7,1,1,1,12,14,24,4,22,23,3,25,0,0,7,0,23,7,0,6,17,125,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597210456188416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956025065500715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129675150105796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671815071884795,0.0,0.0,0.1064230813900015,0.2235225174760638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287536197534364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709858144518128,0.0,0.0,0.12133872148285844,0.0,0.1249022339808466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21627605249600168,0.0,0.0,0.10744204979334664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926472236786723,0.10168748277054314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245890507721622,0.11468135189552005,0.0679418934347426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169561944118108,0.0,0.10571591722422242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988927100601808,0.0,0.0,0.1168102456731802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979923010937871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878815483686638,0.08864334032496295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092165448837762,0.0,0.0,0.13274392608359029,0.0,0.0,0.08287954296260384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477242751853974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392113965477834,0.0,0.11958036907500412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5685877051884892,0.1901387639361747,0.0,0.0,0.28579287647942475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437698074196486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091282314730089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316652518617719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178841752105036,0.0,0.1074880250373138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492348176224204,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vault13rev,2020/01/20,"Is there a good, accessible 'Hamlet' for kids? Last night we watched the Lion King (the original animated one) and I mentioned that it's based roughly on a very old play called 'Hamlet.'  Well, I got to thinking that it could be fun to watch another, perhaps more direct adaptation of the play.

I remember Simpsons doing a Hamlet, but I think it was more or less just a whirlwind tour of characters with Simpsons gags.  All I can find for Animaniacs was a 2-minute bit which I didn't feel would be worth our while either.

Does anyone have a recommendation for another kid adaptation of Hamlet?  Could be an episode of something, could be a movie, just something fun but on point enough for us to compare it to the Lion King.",8.09952380952381,7.491078296296301,7.926984126984128,72.58000000000003,62.33333333333334,10.973544973544977,37.06349206349206,10.290406445055957,3.7129047619047615,570,24,104,11,7,183,87,135,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.9342,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,1,1,20,19,5,0,4,6,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,4,9,6,15,7,7,8,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,1,5,74,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837704380025587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795369593799852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19978210967130008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685738698925314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43831758033054224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601393280252386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908177304443533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252729101540616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672532482536601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348672867078195,0.1463570601588164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916457621942866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172752138584615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19202147459503294,0.0,0.12400150551581104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298852798525682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072965882861592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817555229232087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345103990105517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011931301689694,0.0,0.0,0.15098925753552095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645336293935287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299937241402125,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,STmcqueen,2020/01/20,"How do i deal with my 3 year old being a complete prick? My 3 year old daughter has become a literal part time monster. I’m pretty sure it’s because of the ongoing toxicity between me (her father) and her mother. We have decided to split up but in the meantime we have to figure out a way of this not affecting our daughter 

Ever since Christmas, she has been unbearable if she’s not with either me or her mother, she shows obvious signs of anxiety, and in a group setting, she’s straight up mean, like she enjoys making her little daycare friends cry by saying shit like i won’t invite you to my birthday 


I’m concerned she is isolating herself and that we’re not helping by constantly cocooning her, but i don’t know what to do. Plus i kind of has a shitty childhood because of a stalin level authoritarian father, so being strict definitely doesn’t come naturally.


I’m looking for any advice that could help with our situation, I’m kind of scared I’m messing my kid up and i don’t know what to do

Thanks for reading my self pitying rant, any input is mad appreciated",6.424889415481836,6.314577014218013,7.709206161137445,71.1092436808847,65.58767772511848,10.066508688783571,35.592812006319114,9.725611199111238,3.481426224328594,854,38,154,16,12,294,126,211,0.146,0.691,0.163,0.4682,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,1,0,0,3,14,3,1,8,0,18,2,2,3,3,33,30,11,0,2,8,6,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,6,12,0,0,5,2,0,1,7,6,0,0,1,2,29,8,26,25,2,20,0,1,1,0,31,9,2,2,10,103,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494226063827701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796909482544554,0.0,0.11697629832988213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642593689480547,0.1688778998476948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171906372916642,0.1603240026898883,0.16524218848502922,0.0,0.12208678422824695,0.0,0.16796526885323745,0.0,0.15764425968287438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383165195396174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813845918509187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049856929444043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184660124253789,0.16807148858447776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940892846544468,0.15325673357500744,0.0,0.0,0.12840651088577573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206910698885037,0.0,0.0,0.16656462426877022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32090820064841524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558743146004806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556519600067786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295212081812198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160075863092985,0.15309032723542598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951925145643855,0.0,0.15696067825008755,0.12648934509118162,0.17187807959287946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411656376819434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077966610682194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916348275269426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137342879664935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19693900765683006
parenting,MNCPA,2020/01/20,"Birthday Gift for a Preschool Party Do parents generally bring birthday gifts to preschool birthday parties at dance studios? 


If yes, then what do people normally bring?


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I asked the hosting mom and she didn't say yes or no.


My 5 year old daughter was invited to a birthday party at a dance studio from one of her preschool friends. They have a waiver and required clothing to wear. The hosting mom said that parents don't need to attend.


Should I just go shopping with my daughter and pick something out?


What do other parents do?",3.4986270871985137,6.437527081632652,3.4171985157699436,86.43104823747683,79.20408163265307,4.788126159554731,33.398886827458256,6.1124844417494595,2.0141918367346934,426,24,71,3,11,129,66,98,0.021,0.7829999999999999,0.195,0.9536,3,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,6,2,9,1,1,1,0,14,15,6,0,4,3,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,4,5,0,1,0,3,1,6,3,0,0,1,3,2,7,1,11,11,0,12,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,3,46,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18897766341203925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617620985177494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488328257990706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734979982080507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498874611900661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805852654811096,0.0,0.0,0.21211647262599026,0.0,0.13697823124105146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6733720772298568,0.0,0.0,0.1401414278130419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922855507975219,0.1607532866864719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556205830400084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017432257020126
parenting,noddingtrillium,2020/01/20,"Potty regressing after new baby 😫 Since our son was born 2 months ago, our daughter (3+yo) has just gone completely backwards with potty training. Before she was nearly fully trained (she would ho by herself) and now she holds it in until she has an accident or she gets so constipated that it hurts her. We have started a pre/pro biotic that seems to help with straining. We are out of ideas. This morning she did 1 & 2 in he pants while Mom was putting baby down for a nap. She seems to do better at pre-school than at home. She is obsessed (in a good way) with the baby and is very sweet and even helpful.  We do our best giving her attention but Mom is certainly occupied with feedings. Any ideas?????",3.706031851360319,5.4288162189781035,4.4263968148639705,85.51042468480428,72.94160583941607,7.317584605175848,26.323158593231586,8.00094639256281,1.5821445255474451,550,19,107,8,11,176,98,137,0.05,0.821,0.129,0.8766,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,0,0,2,4,8,0,2,5,0,14,2,0,0,1,22,20,8,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,11,1,1,5,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,5,1,17,5,20,14,1,21,0,1,0,1,25,9,0,3,9,72,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450605593151706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888535158702305,0.0,0.11852968747202708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831609991018152,0.0,0.18291664973840152,0.15415380911289253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274978740516026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151232249287814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106433359211287,0.16720403396276734,0.0,0.1461942132873787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336586610749085,0.0,0.17483668448391154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18659129917620967,0.3935260070055322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082751095225543,0.13912425724548227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833961493286684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752192139792219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640047454363675,0.0,0.31735157231248523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441824089755546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337013576387552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438154028782353,0.0,0.13835088905637696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381741664282794,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,larryisnotagirl,2020/01/20,"5 (almost 6) year old already showing perfectionist tendencies! The title says it all! She’s almost 6 and she’s starting to show some perfectionist tendencies that I’m concerned about. She’s intelligent and has a great memory. She an advanced reader as well. Emotionally she’s also fairly balanced, isn’t phased by much and pretty much just rolls with the punches as it were. I’m worried that because of most of what she’s been asked to do in school so far has been easy for her, that she’s starting to balk at anything that isn’t easy right away. 

For example, I bought her an Osmo kit a few weeks ago for the iPad. She loves solving the tangram puzzles, but only on “easy”. Anything harder and she just gives up. She gave up on the drawing app because she kept making mistakes. She won’t play the numbers game either because “it’s too hard” (it has different levels and it’s set to the lowest). 

It’s not just these apps/games, this is just an example. Basically any time she has to work any harder than what comes naturally to her, she gives up.

How can I help her curb this? I can already see where this is going if we don’t help her change her mindset.",3.43065789473684,5.278782153508775,4.409298245614036,84.8234210526316,73.95614035087719,6.905263157894738,26.47368421052632,7.669130373188453,1.4741631578947367,913,33,178,12,19,296,129,228,0.027999999999999997,0.816,0.156,0.9759,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,2,11,5,0,0,12,0,16,1,0,2,1,27,31,12,0,2,8,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,16,8,0,2,0,4,1,3,5,1,1,0,6,3,24,4,25,24,7,23,0,0,1,1,30,12,0,6,7,118,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129392804252672,0.0,0.2923339467968813,0.0,0.3221610740940425,0.1167314404789835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19852799369878785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402402719747193,0.0,0.13646140873306514,0.0,0.13714277909512484,0.0,0.0,0.2669442345955784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441595820816026,0.12573945891327054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250664671632874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419559614698248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28005373260438315,0.08295760619365437,0.0,0.0,0.16093145350656268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307596467672249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19568002828191933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174281621779402,0.0,0.09743551101249533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460817509475466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317002098242274,0.0,0.0,0.1110160819225175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485030565589331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124656818052476,0.0,0.11608049101483768,0.0,0.147728527112362,0.1163184779491206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066353675430847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511575893978958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170876112578252,0.0,0.13124375552094034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626724687600976,0.14823871157001509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399931779276308
parenting,the-journey-,2020/01/20,"Holistic Parenting Approaches for Eating Disorders Hi all, 

If your child is struggling with an eating disorder, the following article may be helpful: 

[Holistic Parenting Approaches for Eating Disorders](https://medium.com/@thejourneyofintegration/holistic-parenting-approaches-for-eating-disorders-c50fc7a3307f)",32.02583333333334,27.639538805555574,24.344444444444445,-15.354999999999961,22.055555555555557,27.73333333333333,86.0,22.918633597333717,16.7167,271,18,15,12,1,79,24,36,0.16,0.758,0.08199999999999999,-0.4019,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,3,3,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,11,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4984000952192809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6674727378430753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574250651183926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4828730278438839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227310910644886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nedinburgh,2020/01/20,"2yo Addicted to IPad Help Please! We were so cocky, we don’t even own a tv! It’s been manageable for the last year, about an hour in the afternoon of something tolerable like Daniel Tiger or LBB, but the entire house has been sick for ten days and my in-laws are visiting and will not say no to him. He’s having insane meltdowns and they just hand him the iPad or the phone and let him go crazy on YouTube. 

I know I should have spoken up sooner, I did I just didn’t enforce it while I was trapped in bed with the flu. No one seems to understand that this is awful for me as a SAHP, as soon as everyone leaves and it’s just us again it’s weeks of terrible behaviour, screaming, banging his head on the floor, yelling for trucks. 

It just seems to be a terrible cycle. I get him off the screens, we go out every day, he helps with chores and we have a great time. Then we visit family, or they visit us and he spirals into this tiny monster. 

Do we just cut him off completely? Hide all screens for a few weeks? Please help, I’m feeling like a massive failure as a mum and like I’m damaging my child. He’s so good, until he gets handed a screen and then he’s a nightmare. How do I get through to my husband and in-laws that this isn’t alright?",2.285508365508367,3.707780305019308,3.434671814671816,92.40469755469758,76.06563706563706,6.941055341055341,24.302445302445307,7.62386473244151,0.9331564993564992,965,31,220,13,21,312,148,259,0.182,0.6729999999999999,0.145,-0.9321,0,1,1,0,1,0,29.0,8,0,2,0,12,11,1,0,18,2,20,6,3,1,1,38,32,25,0,1,10,2,3,3,0,2,3,3,2,1,10,20,0,0,5,1,0,5,6,5,0,2,6,9,27,6,30,22,3,30,0,1,3,0,33,10,0,5,18,141,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160678902824056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545375797829917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19011113570413507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735094530022148,0.0,0.12418401413264166,0.14083925572161352,0.0,0.0,0.13894794499026653,0.0,0.07452576212205134,0.1052967870579365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310185185607293,0.0,0.16753240177255588,0.1236253142643714,0.0,0.16250006577917134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126658933475762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29638100670779033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515130994811026,0.17007043794223053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100272149083533,0.12014405266133615,0.0,0.1560667170421794,0.0,0.1507181813093687,0.0,0.2160246795454684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987655103086132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235840420782088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721193722282765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683600600681944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134694685617294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594538932686557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344014299995207,0.3545885625817186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364577479013044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491553696741037
parenting,MunkyCyd,2020/01/20,"Daughter found out her friend is a cutter by walking in on her in the bathroom at school On Friday my daughter (11y) walked into the bathroom with another friend and saw their mutual friend by the sinks bleeding. Then she saw the cuts on her arm. She couldn't tell me how deep but it stopped bleeding. When I told her she needed to speak to the principal or counselor she said her friend would talk to them when she was ready. I told her no that she had to. That she could be saving this girl's life. She understands she has to speak up but is afraid to lose her friend. She doesn't have many. 

  
My heart hurts so much to know that this is happening so close to home.  I have talked to my daughter about this. And expressed that if she feels in any way like she may want to hurt herself she needs to talk to me or someone she trusts so we can get her help. 

  
I will be going to the school on Tuesday to speak to the principle about whats going on.",3.062400690846289,4.444172891191712,3.184476683937824,95.148390328152,73.97409326424871,6.390189982728844,22.71122625215889,6.742157984588678,0.32521858376511226,740,19,167,6,15,225,107,193,0.08800000000000001,0.772,0.14,0.8885,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,1,8,13,1,1,8,0,17,5,2,1,0,26,33,14,0,7,5,3,1,1,5,3,3,4,1,1,9,7,0,1,4,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,8,7,35,8,32,18,1,24,0,3,2,0,47,14,0,4,6,117,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284674577383847,0.14316617503446344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901004908541446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903490748231136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970078083895955,0.5274231488711161,0.0,0.07133256832459213,0.0,0.15518907190397835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073519186849427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617916069280075,0.09151482116156508,0.0,0.13695317639346286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923216164273161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503466217195029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964369049737716,0.06670285702409794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15274488440861572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842247151893758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036705807968764,0.2024741587267131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987362259629495,0.0,0.0,0.276356250719091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568349917481817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141472391079152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292188271290372,0.11933537648218033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26092520792195445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213509227489066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805303746021048,0.10837310126911012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698873295454476,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AllricMulled,2020/01/20,"Flying with a 5 month old Hello! 

We are flying to NYC from the UK on Thursday with a 5 month baby. We think we are pretty organised but are there any specific tips you found handy when travelling with a small baby? 

We are flying BA. As I mentioned we have researched quite a bit but any recommendations would be handy! 

Thanks!",2.3585714285714303,4.991110253968255,3.4660317460317493,86.24285714285719,81.38095238095238,6.139682539682537,20.11111111111111,7.447530270364453,0.7561492063492068,258,7,49,4,7,83,43,63,0.0,0.888,0.11199999999999999,0.7799,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,5,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,10,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,7,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,5,30,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955534436655563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175148065777614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31888387087099257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642809765599907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051807865335455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958821792450599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093371777400539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267760369748108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635433399121248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20659974131123035,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bobafiah,2020/01/20,"I cannot control my teen girl, need help My teenage girl is 14 years old. She left home at night when I fallen asleep by someone who called a Uber ride for her. Once I found out, she told me that she was with a girl’s name that I have never known before. She hanged out until 1am and didn’t answer my phone and refused to let me pick her up. I wanted to punish her when I see her, but I was also fear that the more push would lead to reverse results. I need help! 
She was still a lovely girl when she was 11. A couple days ago, I found her pictures again on Facebook that I posted when I graduated master. For these few years, I found she had changed a lot. She hid her secrets from me, makeups, locks herself in her room, skips school, lies. She sneaked  out at mid night until next early morning to pretend she was at home all night and lied to me. She also becomes very un-respect to her adult relatives including her dad and me. When I talk to her, she often appears very impatient and tries to interrupt me, makes me stop asking her too much. She also sometimes tells me that she lost herself and she hates to tell me that she does not trust me but only her friends. She asks me not need to worry about her. She feels she does not need me anymore. She always complaints me that I control her too much and she wants take charge on her own life, not me. I found myself unable to communicate with her anymore because she does not want to share at all.",4.018627118644069,4.755961193220344,4.322500000000002,90.34375,70.96610169491525,6.713559322033899,25.597457627118644,6.2581,0.6869966101694911,1132,32,244,6,20,354,155,295,0.151,0.792,0.057,-0.9758,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,0,5,15,8,2,1,6,0,12,3,1,6,3,50,34,19,0,8,7,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,5,9,12,0,4,8,1,0,6,8,4,0,0,13,2,73,4,32,19,8,42,0,1,1,1,63,14,0,3,21,168,82,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433534603346601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282488539290636,0.0791636100648219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887054587696218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788500979148744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799610090706143,0.10507400293840152,0.08095663003528758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971479742024562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064488009042817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134138749796983,0.0,0.10526994690045263,0.0,0.061357048364286265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24977141484948576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107058285884769,0.04810534400282936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41726180695443177,0.07350447168485448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393046999174608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753988131185665,0.0,0.1908651696064277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336924666745917,0.09728649198506743,0.06719977845295326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385590401580322,0.08088412363891415,0.08586703145759775,0.0,0.06350629453195959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987682555270878,0.28217866619804444,0.07337737767377367,0.0,0.1011818412105904,0.26784567235337764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983280597490504,0.10132036597717292,0.0,0.07235780798082353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091117255225935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628616154501528,0.0758137915364223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806113128301296,0.0,0.0940953085869795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597845522887492,0.07954080630391873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153299560951126,0.07646945344429926,0.16631207447778082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090978277410988,0.0,0.064593413855379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569999530899191,0.168347065891422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966186884040286,0.0,0.06758430674180889,0.0,0.0,0.1225333207476058
parenting,vianey08g,2020/01/20,"Bad Influence My husband, my kids and I went over to my in laws for dinner today. My brother in law, who got out of jail almost a year ago and still lives with his parents, is always trying negatively influence my son. He puts on adult cartoons on purpose, cusses excessively around him, and encorages bratty behavior. I've had it. He is no longer going to my in-laws house. Sorry, not sorry. My son comes before anyone's feelings. I just want to know why he's trying so hard to be a bad Influence?",2.758321995464854,4.88140385714286,4.670952380952382,80.96849206349209,76.75510204081633,7.212698412698412,24.15419501133788,8.167268648758528,1.6458263038548746,390,13,72,7,9,133,70,98,0.126,0.848,0.026000000000000002,-0.8703,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,3,0,18,11,4,0,1,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,7,1,0,2,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,3,2,11,0,14,7,0,15,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,1,4,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754619780010035,0.0,0.19820844303543134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470204085202753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840433790455453,0.0,0.0,0.1762086772066221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33054347322072825,0.0,0.0,0.16843246759964964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050789107727962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008447475635804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249393470554073,0.0,0.1583108003285309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731547281166538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22839632857636336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878271625010334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747847570176155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197890844438622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898449729506007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4431555292175898,0.0,0.0,0.1580752397058872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762409419562293,0.0,0.0,0.2687767038130082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675021431801827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349247917420144,0.17861017541158608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746695093226207
parenting,cheeseandhamomlet,2020/01/20,"And the Chipotle came before the anal play... Being an experimental couple, getting married for me and my wife went from cocaine and orgys to anal and the dishes after tucking our young son in. 

Our son loves Mexican so much that we always order too much and have to eat it the next day too! 

Well the night we bought the fresh stuff we got extra chipotle which my son doesn’t like. Honestly the first night neither of us felt like we were in shape to have sex so we didn’t. The tonight night we had to eat it again and it went down a lot better. So after putting our son to bed we put on a little George Jones and went to bed. 

The anal, well it was a lot easier to get in than I remember and felt a little warm too, mostly normal though until it nearly fell out and on the compression stroke we heard a loud squelch and you know it Mexican feces are being forced out her anus through the tiny gap between its lips and my dick which they were stretched over. 

Didn’t smell too bad as it was a fresh food kind of shit smell. Hell I farted just to make her feel better. I finished in it then we showered and washed the sheets. Will leave the window cracked tonight though LOL.",5.39950363196126,5.4153006694915256,5.184285714285718,87.91822033898308,67.72881355932203,7.929297820823246,26.60290556900727,7.1686216300943375,1.0518617433414046,922,23,197,7,14,284,135,236,0.075,0.7909999999999999,0.133,0.9009,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,13,1,1,3,13,14,2,0,20,1,14,15,7,2,0,39,29,20,0,1,1,5,5,2,0,1,2,2,4,0,13,24,4,3,5,1,1,7,4,3,2,1,16,9,24,11,30,10,7,38,1,0,0,3,24,15,3,3,17,135,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089326241811553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124224694403272,0.0,0.0,0.10317844918831187,0.0,0.0,0.2144790885193368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868257728953926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341655385431714,0.0,0.0781989701676052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24814676964586765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130979994743752,0.0,0.2328462202809509,0.0,0.0,0.10313881633796997,0.14662113921395112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670069833404912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697811295197276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126267658466011,0.06663817327581077,0.0,0.0,0.12839075948849868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847741872089347,0.2430572574484668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061720809618973,0.10943670874562307,0.0,0.08093816381249627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782716737544751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289552870169648,0.3413667427013229,0.11880343552525653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437880550704803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373574457669423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124465761121177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880712423114624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238263400531718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585395181824012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21804429357093053,0.3372117568908448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BigFPS,2020/01/20,"If you are a parent who no longer gets along with your child (ren) I have a couple questions. I am a father iof two younger kids and I absolutely love it. They still hold my hand, call me daddy. And we get along fantastically. It’s wonderful and I don’t want this time period to end.

I read someone’s post on here tonight where it was evident that the parent disliked their child and I realized that the parent may have felt like I do now, in the past. 

If you felt like I do but no longer feel like you get along with your child:

1. What changed besides your child getting older and no longer holding your hand/calling you mommy or daddy.

2. Why do you think your child doesn’t get along with you? 

3. As your child aged and changed, did you also adapt to those changes and make changes in your own behavior or did that go against how you parent? 

4. Did you praise and tell your children you are proud them and tell them you loved them often?

5. Did you let them change your mind and allow them to do certain things if they gave compelling reasons?

6. Would you admit you made a mistake if you did and apologize with sincerity?

And finally for the parents who have a healthy relationship with their older children and get along and respect one another, any words of advice?",2.5034939759036163,4.88967271485944,2.937773493975904,91.74005783132532,78.87951807228916,5.911710843373497,23.61461847389559,7.087006719466742,0.788544931726908,1002,34,206,12,25,309,136,249,0.045,0.773,0.182,0.9884,5,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,24,9,2,7,11,0,0,9,0,21,3,1,6,1,56,40,24,0,7,7,6,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,9,12,25,0,2,9,1,0,1,5,1,0,2,10,4,44,10,20,27,1,17,1,0,0,2,62,4,0,10,14,140,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501253805582736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775521107363449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612008723071335,0.10195467706347536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928323112416038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5142849850197264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758372013774306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611738046171151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049162671956358685,0.0694615023421031,0.18671309242184,0.10651128119037308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047935994333037,0.0,0.05525834473800039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099424793448426,0.0,0.14250576112966618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550867941690307,0.09200186820005513,0.06490212657153004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817510708389644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588591615368239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5398149255619479,0.0,0.09281753243636053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311996039302788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892043375060637,0.0,0.09725683115662104,0.0,0.0,0.0999691674548941,0.0,0.10438919011184404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238310339088267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764841822871837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996751877404165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459563656288317,0.06230139070531573,0.0,0.0,0.056695897651048675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498008910872008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057349079378434524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773542033570657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054423504931714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690697711578582,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strangemadn3ss,2020/01/20,"Am I being petty? Just kinda would like some feedback. Am I just being petty and selfish or what?

My husband's ex-wife, since their divorce has gotten close to his parents.

From what my husband has told me and his own mother has confirmed, his ex-wife, while they were married, never really made an effort to be around or have any type of relationship with his parents. Apparently the first 6 months of their son's life my husband's parents weren't able to see their grandson despite living a couple of miles away from each other. Why? Because his ex apparently always had plans with her family. There came a point where his parents were able to come around a few times and she would run to their bedroom and hide and not interact with them at all. This is how it was pretty much until got divorced.

His ex-wife remarried a month after the divorce was finalized and ended up moving out of their state.

Me and husband dated since his divorce and my divorce. He also moved out of state to be with me. We got married November 2018. Been together since August 2014.

They dont co-parent at all, personally I think because of her, because its either her way or the high way.
While and me my husband co parent really well along with my husband.

Now, why is it I feel some type of way that his ex-wife has slowly but surely become buddy buddy with my husband's mother to the point she complains to her their arguments (only her side and twists it at that) and now when she goes and visits them stays at their house when she has her moms house, dads house, friends house, her own in laws house that she could stay at when she goes and visits?

My husband's parents have forgiven her for how she treated them in the past and the reason they have let her stay at their house was because of their grandson and because exs moms is ""crazy"".... am I being petty or something for thinking she should be staying at anywhere else but my in laws house? She apparently tries to stay there when she travels without her husband. When they go and visit with her husband, they stay with his parents...

I honestly feel like my husband's parents bend over backwards to make his ex happy or else I'm sure they knows that the ex will prevent them from not seeing their grandson. His parents constantly tell him to let shit go and basically let her do what she wants...",5.723354022988503,6.504379962222222,5.670613026819925,82.045,67.15555555555554,7.806896551724138,29.961685823754788,7.6298220110432995,1.867193869731801,1853,65,344,18,29,580,197,450,0.044000000000000004,0.883,0.073,0.9382,13,0,1,0,5,0,51.0,1,0,20,3,18,12,1,0,12,0,38,2,1,5,5,74,57,35,0,5,13,33,2,2,1,4,1,0,1,1,13,35,0,1,6,1,0,11,6,3,1,1,14,4,77,9,53,29,10,70,0,0,2,0,106,26,1,8,24,249,90,3,0.11247798442942462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044974301755517185,0.046795346734374785,0.0,0.0,0.038244443223221535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012925285968484,0.0,0.0,0.05283838446013914,0.0,0.0,0.1714138383131753,0.0621115484279333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432242485515549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048444912052284905,0.0,0.06077437131609185,0.0,0.04490225907500184,0.062227375202851515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591168002948444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396092313105987,0.0,0.04981105448497698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301711671789917,0.0,0.05687224851280767,0.04017714727527246,0.0,0.061607067030995215,0.0,0.047836858048131814,0.0,0.0,0.04345010587823471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392383060741037,0.0,0.08995891920763388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05986745297237218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05941958300977716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4542457235690217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030907479344497918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252453954352567,0.039723263385843297,0.05495106170977033,0.0,0.04966006047169195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321469423550485,0.03753996400625195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173285595032752,0.08977885406900113,0.1195462969757766,0.041342130219193585,0.0,0.04337497781988165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04277228780533589,0.0,0.0,0.5620207087658093,0.0,0.05368648164355448,0.0,0.04910571876283367,0.0,0.0,0.10632805138328542,0.0,0.0,0.05721527336502421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205627698888573,0.05782305058765084,0.0,0.06037963078330661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896303910165159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772851733236808,0.13956442655315987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043295523795451686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596596971892013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060091692024642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049155358029580966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207135076042105,0.0,0.0,0.03279340862239388,0.0,0.0,0.05373876713022202,0.0,0.03818258408938605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03317121471028195,0.13391968293127088,0.0,0.0,0.050565608032471836,0.0,0.10149388611622394,0.0,0.0,0.054212381601865416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990113298763457,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abbrosy,2020/01/20,"Second birthday party a hugesuccess!! I just want to share in case other parents are planning their toddler’s birthday parties!!

Here are the things i did to make sure it was a happy, fun, and not-too-stimulating time for everyone. 

1) Planned the party for AFTER nap time. 
2) Had lots of balloons because kids love that. 
3) I created multiple stations around the place for kids to play. I didn’t want them to have to all do the same activity at the same time, and I know sometimes it’s overwhelming if you’re surrounded by noise and just need a quiet time. I had a cupcake decorating station, and then had little pockets of toys set out around the house. I also taped a roll of paper to the floor and put markers and crayons there, which was a hit with everyone!
4) Didn’t invite too many kids, but if I did - I would have created more stations. That way they could play in littler groups and the stress level would have stayed the same!
5) Bought a parachute toy. Man, these things ROCK! The kids played with it for ages. It was a massive hit, so much fun, and so cheap and easy! I found one on amazon for only $20. 
6) Made sensory music shakers. Again, super cheap - got rice and coloured it (food colouring + vinegar!). The kids loved pouring it into their little screw-lid containers I got from the dollar store. 
7) Capped it at 1.5 hour long. 
8) Served food that was colourful, kid-friendly (fruit, veggie straws, cupcakes), and also juice boxes!

My expectations were somewhat low because I didn’t want to be stressed. I was worried that my toddler wouldn’t have fun, but because I knew what she liked, it somehow worked out that all the other kids liked the activities too! She kept running up to me and hugging my legs and had the biggest smile on her face the whole time. I am still on a high from being so happy that she had such a good time!! 

Hope this gives you all some ideas if you’re planning a birthday party! I found this was the least stressful one out of other toddlers’ parties I’ve been to.",3.691005154639175,5.5511885515463915,4.010399484536084,87.90596005154644,73.2783505154639,6.39639175257732,27.073453608247426,7.04035,1.2518360824742272,1570,58,307,15,32,489,214,388,0.027999999999999997,0.728,0.244,0.9979,1,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,0,1,4,5,17,23,0,4,28,0,32,8,2,2,4,58,52,24,0,13,7,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,7,24,21,3,2,5,7,5,2,4,5,0,3,26,5,29,18,38,18,13,41,0,2,3,3,22,23,0,8,15,201,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16298210777044408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18142890543652795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635568032499505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136051636199762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474360232383608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464407911616749,0.2234607346944427,0.0787292916450329,0.0,0.0,0.0977537573458208,0.0,0.08547062718737927,0.1630007992665794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169533109224577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766513879880672,0.0,0.10121175493575503,0.10035301889550063,0.11758131482577727,0.0,0.11503504098069395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056002716360346594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995684147623641,0.20426530288985645,0.0,0.09018013116879972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663350151978688,0.1839412054086329,0.09642220882059968,0.0680204274501603,0.10331271156533718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490975134503074,0.0755590986435515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381029687765205,0.07750112117996953,0.0,0.0,0.11315019682824096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646598135360466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243973258123913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078375944167356,0.0,0.0,0.10861405521206853,0.08137913004938584,0.0,0.3501854535531981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604150128629704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539842351945094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35651952223579875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803134550095988,0.08088512529791726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137700294529458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418592545310218,0.10348650528820393,0.0,0.144776623085357,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InitialDeezNuttz,2020/01/20,"My brother (33) is a deadbeat dad with a weed addiction and my mom pays his child support He is literally a 33 year old child with a victim complex who is addicted to weed.

I need some advice on how to get my deadbeat brother to take care of his 4 year old kid. My brother also grew up without a dad in the picture and he has a victim mentality - the world ""owes"" him something, and he's selfish, hypocritical, and projects his insecurities on to others.

He currently lives with my grandma (basically rent free), my mom pays his child support while he works 5 - 10 hours a week as a server to fuel his drug addiction to weed, fast food, and other drugs.

He is literally a 33 year old child and just runs from his responsibilities and shuts down when faced with criticism. This is especially frustrating because his son is beginning to adopt bad behavior like hitting his mom, pooping on the floor and hitting other kids, from having an absent father figure.

As his younger brother, I have lectured him over and over again and it all goes in one ear ad out the other. How do I get him to get his shit together and step up for his kid?

tl;dl - 33 year old brother is a deadbeat dad who grew up without a dad. works part time to fuel his drug addiction instead of supporting his 4 year old kid and plays victim when confronted about his negligence.",7.862747680335232,6.931209887159536,8.190038910505839,71.55522298712962,62.968871595330754,11.176174797964682,37.66806345405567,10.389873798559362,3.8264465130200533,1059,46,197,21,13,350,130,257,0.11199999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.066,-0.9099,3,0,4,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,9,16,6,1,16,0,11,12,4,2,1,27,24,20,0,1,3,14,0,1,0,0,7,1,1,8,8,17,1,0,2,1,5,4,2,9,0,1,0,1,26,8,35,22,3,39,0,0,0,0,47,15,1,1,21,121,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40700399087546624,0.0,0.09120773814797432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464148496988356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793241256614715,0.056897307736471336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516318982432263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32472351344909484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286334960993892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629403326725635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191804491964377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045599694565417036,0.0,0.08241819244801475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406164182637544,0.0,0.0,0.3279451465719526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920812846136665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489706876402962,0.0,0.0632474988159301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107476676263634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580898625666866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185530541883298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177528230680988,0.0,0.0,0.0701777326553079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05442549681161837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486923094583091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994688115511784,0.0,0.13590074924012724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300529516187674
parenting,simpleelf123,2020/01/20,"New baby and new adult mattress gasses We have an 8 week old and just got a new hybrid mattress (coil/foam) a week ago. She sleeps in a co-sleeper but obviously ends up in the bed at feed time. 

The thing is the mattress stinks of chemicals and I’m really worried after reading about off-gassing and neurological issues, SIDS etc. We have aired the mattress but our clothes etc still smell every day a week later and I worry about what it’s doing to the baby.

I never gave our mattress a thought even though hers is organic but they’re so close to each other. I’m wondering should I just get rid of it and get an organic. It was approx €1000/$1200usd and made by a small company. 

Does anyone have any advice/thoughts?",1.6196396023198003,4.217868246478872,2.8746893123446564,89.3300041425021,84.84507042253522,5.594697597348799,22.437448218724107,7.048011613610866,0.8593582435791225,569,20,112,8,17,183,95,142,0.07400000000000001,0.9259999999999999,0.0,-0.8621,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,13,0,8,3,1,1,2,22,17,12,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,1,6,11,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,9,0,12,11,3,22,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,15,68,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207454096329152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132129753107648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418034496321353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608905848752748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038599872824844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196480969409402,0.0,0.3323362696306957,0.0984093924022106,0.0,0.12553420348588026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568684327347398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191644282204686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555114379536546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409820986591596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149136622918228,0.4316991441044288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634455352777826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903471455150036,0.0,0.09544962436973817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982039930443729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898711595339433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989852552456555,0.0,0.14638623616180138,0.2365698128783515,0.08687982964464379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585429483196222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157806521664814,0.0,0.30262208005581903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrinceChanchi,2020/01/20,"I'm a dad, but... not a *real* dad. I need to be good at my job (being dad) but I don't know how. This is hard for me (31M) to write, partially because I don't like talking about it and partially because it feels hard to explain. It's a long post, I'll try my best to do a TL:DR at the end.  


I...am not a good parent. I don't say that for sympathy points, or any such thing. I do my best like anyone else, I don't abuse my kid (10M), so that's a good start but, I'm not a good parent because I don't know how to be.  


I spent 2008 to 2017 being emotionally abused an degraded and became a very submissive, passive, minimal person.  I did a lot of the primary raising for my son, like taking him to and from school, making appointments, making sure he ate and went to bed on time, that kind of thing, and we had some fun, too. I was like.. the fun baby sitter/nanny, I guess. But I was never allowed to make any decisions about my son. I didn't get a say in his name, he got circumcised against my wishes, my protests about his doctor or the people he should be around were ignored, I couldn't even take him anywhere without ""permission"" (which I never got) and I definitely wasn't allowed to take any responsibility for his discipline. Even when I tried, his mom would step in an basically shove me out. Eventually I stopped trying, partially due to major depression, but mostly because I knew she wouldn't let me do anything or listen to anything I had to say.  So I was ""fun nanny dad"" until my son's mom put me on the street in 2017.  


Now I've been mostly physically absent. I talk to him frequently--write letters, phone calls, video chats, etc. Me and my husband even go up to visit him in NYC from Kansas when we can afford it, and we had him down for this past summer.  


My husband is excited and happy to be a step-dad. But he's a step dad, and I'm his father and I should be the one ""in charge "" I'm older and he's been my son way longer. My husband doesn't want or need to have \*all\* the responsibility, and its not his job to take over. But I let that happen without even thinking about it because that's how I've been...wired? to be, I guess. We talked about it recently and he definitely needs me to step in and be more assertive, be more strong and behave more like a real father than...whatever I have been acting like. I need to be \*good\* at it. (He was really kind about all this, the harshness is mine.)  


But I'm unsure how to start being like that. I've tried self-help books and I'm in therapy and I've tried so many tips and tricks and whatever else that I've found online, in this sub, in books, in videos. I'm trying to get into parenting classes when I can afford them, but I'm worried it will be more of the same stuff that hasn't worked already. My son has very little respect for me now. He actually intentionally injured me over the summer, and is very aggressive and disrespectful, for being only 10. (He's in therapy now, finally, after having to beg his mom to put him in for years) and I feel like it might be too late.  


How do I become an assertive person that my son at least reasonably respects? How do I be disciplinary and it be taken seriously by him? How do I take charge and rally the troops, even for something like an outing, I just... have no experience with any of it.  I've been so passive and submissive for so long and I'm having an extremely hard time getting out of it, even with therapy. I know therapy takes time, but my son is getting older by the minute and I don't want to be a terrible dad, I want to be a GOOD dad, who he remembers fondly, and who did the right things to help him be an emotionally stable, functioning adult.   


I want to be a partner to my husband, not just like, a cardboard stand-in. I want to do what I need to do.  


Sorry if this wasn't super clear, I have a hard time putting the words together. Thanks for reading.  
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TL;DR:  I was emotionally abused into being a passive/submissive person and I'm not good at being a parent, at least partially because of it. I don't know how to start being better, but I know I have to, because its not my husband's responsibility to shoulder everything, and my son needs me. I don't know where to start and I'm scared I'll never be what my family needs me to be",3.0014788176475733,4.084231510832385,4.835740022805017,84.42400210507853,73.68643101482327,7.905474958336987,25.12286641522673,8.384062270229773,1.4742319761424438,3293,102,705,55,65,1127,302,877,0.121,0.765,0.114,0.9109999999999999,10,0,1,0,3,0,159.0,4,0,1,6,38,43,3,1,40,0,86,4,1,15,7,140,151,65,0,19,27,29,6,10,1,6,2,4,1,6,38,43,1,3,15,6,1,10,28,9,0,1,26,10,97,34,100,90,17,79,0,1,0,0,84,34,0,12,43,468,135,10,0.0,0.17126000820639545,0.047017757709751466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053168990289320935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105907346271056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03368931265343436,0.04936718276322923,0.07929780296175068,0.04289135231264045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20559505975576176,0.05321218785162323,0.0,0.0,0.10112608556938804,0.042612226151889566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049198242268320966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0414982705093256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04931534954263134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049817495957498,0.1625915995277521,0.0426741122291842,0.0,0.053734610389406884,0.19093878734092745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04330202387197223,0.047130315235858214,0.04542080894050826,0.0,0.048723576339737666,0.034420554023616184,0.0,0.0527799886947681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05282803794003995,0.0,0.0,0.10069044676168666,0.0,0.027382402858814433,0.28288387034899704,0.0770695793127708,0.0,0.1061537241302582,0.0,0.042606346212637085,0.0512896270402977,0.17264303972793785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458948867607968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562452165868633,0.0,0.0,0.10034630518747513,0.1588742807281173,0.0,0.054350326613569325,0.0,0.0,0.09853678249927728,0.0,0.2353882886802581,0.04829007290992072,0.0,0.0852774318018316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04096180844857509,0.0,0.0,0.0964836814024178,0.048848025615998915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05111248344240133,0.0,0.16928720152242616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25007948306626776,0.11148059545591008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032648728574772815,0.03664386206990202,0.0,0.0,0.21399743088248094,0.0,0.04599426706652143,0.033402675719307245,0.1262095116383414,0.0,0.0,0.045546668754114436,0.0,0.046144130479631215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530579844649094,0.0,0.0,0.048194091663967216,0.10968117340282853,0.03086601641778426,0.0495381472190158,0.04757297741631095,0.0,0.05457974092555092,0.041146356164649414,0.0,0.11494652201983654,0.048237639492584895,0.0487617980886171,0.0,0.0,0.05026334637099171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03709212865641413,0.0,0.05393474440159963,0.1364111897282962,0.0,0.0,0.04028151786883937,0.0,0.0,0.055155778682804,0.0,0.0,0.04541007242913244,0.0,0.2173569347421244,0.11617831645686362,0.0,0.044358640445677375,0.2203969333577046,0.0,0.09602805250534743,0.030872473416384945,0.0,0.0,0.11237903829974942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196270634558297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926324442137845,0.14209216748782824,0.03824387737618518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04466431900939747,0.0,0.0,0.055405833357236665,0.0928896318541944,0.0,0.035076380553499736,0.04893019827508283,0.0,0.034226437801890525,0.0,0.0,0.03102701857436248
parenting,ellak6345,2020/01/20,"Special needs kids Am I a terrible person for not wanting to raise special needs kids? I don't feel that I can give them the love, patience and care that they need. Additionally, I want to have kids that can be 100% independent. I don't want to be a caretaker for my child my whole life. I  honest to god don't think I can give them their best life so I would make sure they go to someone who can. Thoughts?",1.5946428571428584,3.570797511904765,2.833571428571432,93.44892857142858,79.83333333333333,6.104761904761905,22.404761904761905,7.1686216300943375,0.5042904761904765,317,10,73,4,8,102,51,84,0.034,0.659,0.307,0.9713,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,5,1,1,8,0,0,3,0,12,3,0,2,1,16,27,2,0,7,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,1,15,7,7,23,2,1,0,0,0,1,14,0,0,0,0,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931924875139866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130764523451079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567024422180804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40095926936517423,0.11877228294143047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952277817764825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861917262648314,0.0,0.1395006270492431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4648842429477945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247962512639126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707423760028312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969680308464094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391060553081874,0.0,0.16591255007308198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697983235651549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333268261174297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845856207885114,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isaiahoe1,2020/01/20,Had recently had sexual intercourse and wanting to learn more about emergency contraception pills ( plan b) It has been roughly 24 hours since I had sex we expect her to take the pill in the 37 hour mark. I had just talked with someone saying you have three days but at what point is it too far ?,3.605789473684212,5.742156245614037,3.968280701754389,86.91663157894739,74.26315789473685,8.068771929824562,23.68070175438596,8.841846274778883,1.6249396491228074,234,7,47,5,5,73,50,57,0.035,0.965,0.0,-0.2357,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,0,0,8,10,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,5,0,6,5,1,8,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,30,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064581017687397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6305293755705232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026274032058969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31609088023524057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254581131968224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648157874817866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27124607639506043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406987767678789,0.25730928430045724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882164091903805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LAPS2019,2020/01/20,Anyone else’s toddler toe walk? My 1.5 year old has been walking for the last 4-5 months. He recently discovered tip toeing and he loves to do it all the time now. Is this worrisome or just him discovering a new skill?,2.4818181818181806,4.494315363636368,3.986363636363638,86.07454545454546,77.18181818181819,8.036363636363637,24.63636363636364,8.841846274778883,1.8164727272727281,172,6,36,4,4,57,42,44,0.068,0.8440000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.2347,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,3,2,0,1,4,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,4,1,10,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,8,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454361741452581,0.3596538935175197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932259896632176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28612212126358044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31680257952980745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801749116331344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390101602120388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683286811908323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465825999441349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467827214339268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22604060855628885
parenting,deandeandean123,2020/01/20,"Disappointment and Shame I am the mother to a 7 year old, 5 year old and 2 year old, and I feel like my parenting journey has been defined entirely by shame and disappointment. They behave heinously all the time. I am so ashamed of them and I am ashamed to be their parent. I am a total failure and every day life is largely just composed of suffering through.

I consider myself a zealot in the science of good parenting, and I feel I have done everything I have been advised to do for them. Unmedicated birth, extended breastfeeding, zero screen time, no preservatives or artificial ingredients, strict bedtime routines since day 1, plenty of outdoor time, the best schools and extracurriculars, no spanking, and positive parenting techniques. They see psychologists, OT’s, and speech therapists. Nothing seems to help. 

I envision their future and it just fills me with dread. There’s nothing that’s more important to me than raising kind, responsible, consciously minded adults, and all I see is a future of delinquency at worst, mediocrity at best. 

I am a very happy, positive person in all other areas of my life. Work brings me joy. Friendships bring me joy. My church brings me joy. But because parenting defines 99% of my day to day focus and energy, I survive by trying to enjoy the fleeting moments when I’m not reminded about my gigantic parenting failure. 

Where did I go wrong? Have any of you felt this way? What helped you? What helped your kids?",6.174423076923077,8.269506826923077,6.3630769230769255,72.59692307692309,67.26923076923077,9.815384615384616,34.92307692307692,10.125756701596842,4.010253846153846,1165,57,188,30,20,372,155,260,0.179,0.6579999999999999,0.16399999999999998,-0.3807,6,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,3,6,5,7,20,0,5,10,0,17,2,0,0,4,29,28,17,0,0,5,7,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,3,6,14,0,0,5,0,0,6,3,10,0,1,5,7,34,10,26,22,8,31,1,3,3,0,23,6,0,2,19,126,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703464313410258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06009064068472818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689757308932666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542918774930884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008768450628788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305401467266812,0.0,0.08859320123510403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968535457656266,0.0704222758329727,0.09464782975323156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602266383539234,0.08268035734341339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493533196252358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19821901113227725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265109588130948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925342145261665,0.04815895462321507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953303971087793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917148393587532,0.0,0.3103148579936233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6567378067831429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607222528765776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976355385657887,0.15710364093139756,0.08973932966386307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815425783871447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445362145800958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244030182284364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692621679522129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133501753647053,0.0,0.0782445535205581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176405542066773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777671054658987,0.0,0.19043795101200725
parenting,Tarzan-loves-cats,2020/01/20,"Raising mixed race children Hey folks, New user and first time posting here. 

My (29M) wife (28F) are a mixed race couple married for over 5 years and been together for 9. 

I’m from India and she is North American, and we have a super cute son (2Y) and she is due in the next few weeks with our 2nd one. 

We have had lots of trouble during our relationship with my parents not accepting her initially and a very verbally and emotionally abusive past as I didn’t have an arranged marriage and instead married her. 

It was a very rough few years, and there was LC to NC for a few months to a year in between. Things have been better now with them having visited me and DW and relationship has been better. 

I am posting here because DW thinks and has research to prove it that mixed race kids need cultural influence and knowledge about their background. Kids who grow up without this, they do have a trend of  feeling lost, being depressed and having troubles in their life. 

My issue is that I feel that I can’t separate my culture from my Indian background and this ties in to the resentment I still have towards my parents on how they have caused DW and me lots of pain and hardship. I feel that every time I try to introduce something from my culture, I try shielding my son from being too much into it, because I want to protect him from it. 

But that’s not fair to him. DW made me understand this by really taking the time to talk to me about this. Do you folks have any advice on how you raise tour mixed race kids or how other people you know do it? 

Really appreciate and help and sorry for long post.",6.780294117647056,6.285271652866242,6.870854252529039,78.70009179467966,64.95541401273886,9.808617459722743,33.43874110153615,9.168548406835145,2.7740785312851237,1265,47,245,19,17,406,172,314,0.09,0.836,0.07400000000000001,-0.6586,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,4,3,5,5,12,11,1,0,11,0,30,2,0,6,1,49,42,25,0,2,5,5,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,17,25,0,1,9,0,0,2,5,6,0,2,9,4,39,5,40,31,6,32,0,2,0,0,38,11,0,3,16,178,56,1,0.0,0.14296684542663216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791124700811112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205550653827975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471110377877644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343461138457612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123954938012379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351217490642436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392753487835757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573050895419114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166443685498616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830336945599385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263654762676376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087838667457324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594163443149325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663136565652573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522839460504263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678364615134947,0.0,0.0,0.13171876713431796,0.20516805755860265,0.0,0.11417498393917545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631267611950914,0.0,0.08870176032390666,0.08947066220124797,0.0,0.11653782835659005,0.1283272964299777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176489853778904,0.0,0.128394766846971,0.0,0.2679656909668087,0.0,0.11518722915660322,0.08365307043503549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34668763331539304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460061146858442,0.0,0.0,0.25909548007278793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289287113268307,0.0,0.1350732201886078,0.0,0.0,0.0963622486979127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072414399932112,0.09698497381126783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801636522322661,0.07731647652741311,0.0,0.0,0.21108005729784973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384556889000074,0.0,0.0,0.12561524796884774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912050698632552,0.07117062234781157,0.0,0.0967892041028237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631557575628552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331105500650109
parenting,lolaboats,2020/01/20,"Sex My child and I share a room due to her breathing issues, and until she's old enough for an inhaler
That being said, I have roommates, and my boyfriend spends the night frequently.
We don't have sex while my child is in the room with us, it's just a total mood killer, looking over and seeing a baby. Or her snores.
We can't have sex in the living room or kitchen in case a roommate leaves their room. We used to go to the bathroom, but that is uncomfortable. My child is gone on the weekends but I'd like more freedom.
There isn't a solution to this that I can think of, just a rant.",3.0295810564663017,4.090066803278688,3.6245355191256814,93.22037340619309,73.59016393442623,6.405828779599272,24.21129326047359,6.42735559955562,0.4618167577413481,458,13,104,3,9,144,76,122,0.094,0.815,0.09,0.1272,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,12,0,11,5,1,1,1,17,18,10,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,5,8,1,0,1,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,4,15,2,13,15,3,18,0,0,2,3,13,9,0,2,8,71,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053611400259236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679563169152214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084561852240811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129232400433289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438086465807254,0.0,0.26095810514977663,0.0,0.2481704843188446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773345672609316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101086659369245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811163833650323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23549887758228344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936347390017186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35548579475593683,0.2552427406446081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spoxtrez,2020/01/20,I was called a “formula mom” today and it hurt I tried to breastfeed for weeks. My nipple anatomy makes it near impossible. The nipple shields didn’t even work. I sobbed for days when I finally gave in to giving my baby formula. It just freaking hurts. :(,2.8968750000000014,5.494069937500001,4.133166666666663,82.52850000000002,78.79166666666666,7.173333333333334,26.266666666666666,8.238735603445708,2.0517866666666658,199,8,36,4,5,65,38,48,0.27699999999999997,0.679,0.044000000000000004,-0.9136,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,6,0,6,2,0,7,0,3,0,0,4,2,1,0,5,23,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837597969195831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921797882425336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835456885649088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30441816989646725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665802627012229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5949803527256143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854957181294314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254648927164309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26341004633580445,0.0,0.0,0.18867108808411487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22290898162934314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023093948814522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZCMomna,2020/01/20,"Looking for pink boy’s pants (size 6) My son wants another pair of pink pants for Valentine’s Day this year. He’s grown out of his last pair and because of his last growth spurt I’m not sure he’ll be ok in another pair of girls this year. I’ve considered having him wear a soft cup but I’d rather not have to explain why quite yet lol 

Any leads are appreciated. Thanks in advance.",1.3502500000000026,3.436905525,2.4700000000000024,95.165,81.25,6.0,21.25,7.1686216300943375,0.3623750000000001,302,9,70,4,8,96,60,80,0.018000000000000002,0.792,0.19,0.9364,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,2,4,1,1,1,1,10,10,2,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,3,10,8,0,13,0,0,3,0,9,3,0,0,6,27,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773718413563436,0.5470013595880399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589981998592964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821234679611854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42521892211956797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21902965243051828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27742246057713005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24582710529147275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401351857001309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384298834861498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353565112946264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359290903516405
parenting,Argen90,2020/01/20,"Which girl to choose? I have met two girls and I’m not sure which one to choose?

Girl 1 she is very nice, funny, and family oriented but she doesn’t want to leave her mom by herself since she is the only left. She work as an IT at a company. 

Girl 2 is a little more shy with glasses but funny too 
She is a nurse and she is very passionate about it 
Which we have that in common",-0.6152439024390262,1.4572916219512209,1.5665365853658564,98.43639024390244,90.09756097560977,5.231219512195122,14.297560975609755,6.742157984588678,-0.6005453658536584,291,5,71,4,10,97,56,82,0.061,0.763,0.17600000000000002,0.899,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,0,1,12,11,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,10,3,9,10,1,5,0,0,0,1,15,4,0,0,1,48,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641976347088391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967475157851802,0.30449576004631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28088718233594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32822898631685393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18990672044180776,0.21314507405945649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318282199378309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641351840176981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737665085787773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462476235288259,0.16530051065407708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040275590097857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fluxz123,2020/01/20,"Best Educational Board Games To Play With Your Kids In 2020 1. [Turing Tumble](https://www.turingtumble.com) \- Discover how computers work and understand the logic behind programming.

2. [Potato Pirates 2: Enter The Spudnet](https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/codomo/potato-pirates-2-enter-the-spudnet?ref=8lxmd6) \- A Board Game of Cyber Security And Computer Networking.  
3. [Algobrix](https://www.algobrix.com) \- The ultimate coding blocks building game - perfect for kids into lego!  
4. [Beasts of Balance](https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/185709/beasts-balance) \- A game of strategy and balance. Great fun for the entire family!",12.86796380090498,17.703519974358976,8.135309200603317,44.90871040723981,86.43589743589745,10.553242835595777,34.075414781297134,8.841846274778883,6.0054862745098045,530,23,46,17,17,145,60,78,0.022000000000000002,0.7390000000000001,0.239,0.9627,0,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,0,1,0,3,1,6,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,2,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,10,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,0,22,1,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.478041031489035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4294245195931864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022133482144707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.474213272450197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33162460598144206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,r3y1a1n,2020/01/20,"Where do you go on vacation with 3 young kids? (7, 3, & 1) We live in the Midwest and are trying to find somewhere to go for spring break. We're not beach people and each place we think of doesn't seem realistic, or we want to go but we think we should save it for a time we can go without kids to enjoy it more.

We've hiked Grand Teton national Park when my boys were 5 and 1. Maine at 4 and 6 months. That was doable because I carried the youngest. We haven't been anywhere with our 1 year old daughter yet.",2.4508486238532114,3.335369440366975,3.364116972477067,95.211129587156,74.77981651376146,6.55091743119266,23.716743119266056,6.6274283507984215,0.3645678899082574,395,11,96,3,8,126,82,109,0.032,0.8759999999999999,0.092,0.7509,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,8,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,25,17,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,14,0,0,4,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,3,0,11,3,13,13,3,19,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,2,8,52,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26591239291284463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960571215014107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243093709539704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5579112104073075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167102955454764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958918476359696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25752693371157337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014327903844478,0.0,0.2564115931275961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22342108803061173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145103645726673,0.0,0.0,0.14310633549376392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662402349303734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475503402911455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236576055839912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804238928013187
parenting,ohnospaghetti-o,2020/01/20,I feel like I’m doing it alone. My boyfriend never seems to be around for any of the hard stuff and it seems like he doesn’t even want to parent our daughter. I’ve talked to him about this before and it’ll get better for a few days and then just go back to how it was before. I know he loves our daughter and loves to talk to her and play with her but he goes out on weekends all the time and just leaves me home with the baby. We had our baby really young and I know that he’s just trying to live like a normal 19 year old would. I feel bad because he’s the main breadwinner but I feel like I’m parenting by myself. When I leave him with the baby I feel like I need to write out instructions like he’s babysitting his own child. I’m just really frustrated with motherhood and my relationship right now and really don’t want it to effect our kid when she grows up because I grew up in a broken home and just don’t want that for my daughter. Sometimes all the crying and crying and crying makes me so frustrated I have to just leave her in her crib and sit in the kitchen to calm myself down. I feel like I’m a single parent even though me and her dad are still together.,4.404206989247314,4.340538641129033,5.084612903225806,88.05608602150541,69.84677419354838,8.387526881720433,23.79139784946237,8.021203637495839,0.9332443010752688,925,18,209,11,15,299,123,248,0.138,0.731,0.132,-0.8238,3,1,0,0,1,0,10.0,5,0,0,2,18,15,2,0,11,0,11,3,0,3,3,52,33,22,0,6,8,7,6,7,0,2,0,0,3,2,9,22,1,0,10,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,2,6,33,12,31,28,6,28,0,0,0,2,35,11,0,2,20,134,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016664338840232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675366137320095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738516861043721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548067175861367,0.08196133583876472,0.1196775306744754,0.0,0.1670576025425637,0.0,0.0,0.0868164878553282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234796984301481,0.06330649753057857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967041315957828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481687860245374,0.2805083780146447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128569742680475,0.0,0.055787839780263436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793404918826818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969293782944725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789475469780538,0.0,0.0,0.3118187853786412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356996441081957,0.0,0.08667902003831986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771904340200495,0.0,0.06552403000376081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278602667124996,0.07570873929471689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617811310793417,0.0,0.0,0.1030047150801299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269925154765091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865565459490333,0.0,0.0,0.1053894654348228,0.0,0.08382998150639663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17872635831761582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708492470716557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078392458838089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123722326333915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779811430609836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964438620167214,0.0,0.0572391675746271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664568951311156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17369582460780145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973160968327423,0.0,0.0,0.06321323771367285
parenting,ifonlyYRUso,2020/01/20,"After your child falls asleep at night do you guys talk to them cause you feel bad and cry cause you think your a bad parent. My son is 2 and a half, I'm a single parent and some days are more stressful than others. I always tell myself to never let my adult responsibilities or my personal problems effect my child or take it out on him. But some days my patience is thin, I have things to get done, and I want 5 mins to myself. I love my son to death, I have and will continue to do anything i have to to support and care for my son. I play with him tirelessly even though he is like the damn energize bunny but I try my best to keep up. I hope he knows that even though when I'm frustrated, my patience is thin, and I snap at him that I still love him, that I would lay down my life in a heartbeat for him. I just feel defeated today.",5.646723163841808,4.220992203389835,6.280000000000001,85.06655367231639,67.64406779661016,9.44858757062147,27.576271186440678,8.167268648758528,1.4147355932203394,648,14,151,7,9,213,101,177,0.125,0.723,0.151,0.7099,2,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,5,1,3,7,16,2,1,5,0,14,4,1,3,1,29,29,14,1,4,5,5,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,5,6,9,0,1,5,1,0,1,1,7,0,1,1,4,36,9,21,25,5,20,0,1,0,2,27,9,1,5,11,107,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294818969168385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159392255471925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467469221186024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550650454075911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065120798236306,0.3035805259289966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230746513720182,0.19058600321630131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120982162024976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518822509137676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494238313487877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719852207914382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630566992639546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467590592866911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133591229023753,0.0,0.0,0.08120505346202987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109465145948128,0.10436728569739984,0.07218809166221399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26671840921013873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396165159631097,0.0,0.0,0.13866278755114256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281400753332903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901836713957654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138640239265016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180013584311245,0.0,0.16925862604257338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767634181306862,0.0,0.0,0.11109716075619908,0.11876392271639187,0.12914878732897794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816520461101014,0.09467866703634244,0.2903469772219351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005924033824646,0.0,0.0,0.10031936761122548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715269964027134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049644926332802,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,barefootyeti17,2020/01/20,"Redshirt Decision Process Hi all and thanks in advance. My wife and I are currently discussing whether or not to hold back our 4yo boy (June birthday). We can use some guidance from those who have been through this process or has expertise.

What criteria should we look at when making the decision? What guidelines did you use in your decision?",5.04136612021858,7.9892787377049235,3.850409836065573,85.5650136612022,73.09836065573771,8.001092896174864,36.39617486338798,8.841846274778883,3.5569978142076497,277,16,48,6,6,80,52,61,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.504,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,3,1,18,12,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,1,6,9,2,8,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,3,4,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257102088551067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557041606417625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827458341362434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899795471625253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7316817313717855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SquashedSharpie,2020/01/20,"Success stories with changing 6 year old's attitude/behaviour Would love to hear any stories, or recommendations for books, procedures etc for dealing with difficult kids.

**Background**: Our daughter is nearly six. Has always been a handful. Precocious talker, thinker and debater/negotiator.  She had a difficult first two years with a bit of pain etc. 

We are attentive, aware, sensitive parents, especially since she always struggled with being calm, handling overstimulation, getting enough sleep etc.  But perhaps we could be firmer with her.

She's an only child, so is used to having the attention of about four adults (including grandparents), but is also the kind of kid that never played by herself. She is 150% extravert - her inner world is her outer world. She narrates everything in her head, describes everything to us in excruciating detail, is very particular about everything even just the way things get described to us (even if we are there seeing the same thing, she might describe it to us or commentate it three slightly different ways because she felt she didn't quite nail it the first couple of times!)

**Problem**: She has gotten into a bad habit of anger/frustration, negativity. Mostly to/around us. We don't really get bad reports from Kinder/childcare.  Normally if she's tired she will get really annoyed or frustrated with basic issues like if she can't watch TV, or if her kittens walk away from her, or if we don't understand what she wants us to do straight away, or even that we've decided to walk outside, everything really!  Complaining if we suggest she go get her own drink, or if we sit next to her on the couch, or if we \*don't\* sit next to her on the couch! Not just occassionally, but about almost everything!

This has been a period problem when she gets overtired - that's kind of normal. But this has become ongoing. Every day for hours.  When she's not like this, she's lovely and sweet.  But it's like it's become a habit of grrring, or grumbling about \*\*everything\*\*.",5.486567850063075,8.030801801675981,5.592083258244731,75.53908542079655,70.08938547486035,8.8651648945756,31.10145972247252,9.454032385205345,3.2618400432510364,1607,70,261,38,31,506,200,358,0.129,0.799,0.07200000000000001,-0.9749,3,0,1,0,0,0,78.0,14,0,0,4,14,22,2,1,14,0,28,8,3,1,1,62,44,28,0,15,26,2,2,3,0,3,2,1,2,4,14,17,1,0,6,4,0,3,9,11,0,6,6,6,41,11,40,32,8,34,0,0,2,2,55,13,0,20,17,188,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610226058774283,0.0,0.0,0.06077656460668674,0.12647491136402775,0.0,0.0,0.05168208918591487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765543619250712,0.0,0.0,0.1428075750597129,0.0,0.12691238147773942,0.04632843117989193,0.16787037879419905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297148622614453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039711856405435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067920886227559,0.08409171330506962,0.0,0.049013222407853864,0.07835187911373248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794030299726566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445032178681253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852753058611378,0.25427772559120404,0.15059034335706578,0.0,0.0640326373480377,0.0,0.4098192976135081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297118847599704,0.0,0.0,0.12928982909163353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23823879624119584,0.0,0.04319211937894708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799714581138771,0.0,0.08565666670602606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484394231750745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932346112410918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828302633778935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113881690825868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371845622477208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062318336274157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05861529893480225,0.0,0.1616521074301684,0.0,0.14892623766620247,0.0,0.0,0.07974841771717718,0.0,0.0,0.05780084652137815,0.08086854948722144,0.0,0.08438816188924013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544201712551694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808345464538439,0.0,0.0,0.1460611772542449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605615544622615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286735651330598,0.0,0.07605412553756644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945090663830996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098103586025334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04431576789444878,0.08734994620510624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424021415874428,0.07911788888425406,0.4570886396719622,0.06563894188091965,0.0,0.0627073321155541,0.04482632070378754,0.12064931815246276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053987679426003785,0.0,0.0,0.09788203739068764
parenting,byathred,2020/01/20,"I think I have failed my autistic child All, not sure what I am looking for here but I am not in a good place admittedly.

I had suspicions that my son was autistic well before he was 1 year old. I did push and got a diagnosis and started therapy before he turned two. He has received ABA, Speech, Occupational, and physical therapy. The quality of services isn't great where we live and I even tried to locate to somewhere else but I could not make it work.

Everyone has told me i have done so well for him and started therapy really early compared to so many others. I just don't see it that way. I have tried the best I could to help him. Learn the therapies that he is getting and try to do them at home. Tried to get family members to help to. I know I did not do as much as I could but I did try.

He is now almost 5 years old and has no words. He does understand what you are saying he just does not speak. We are getting an assisted communication device to help him. He doesn't have any friends. He doesn't try and play with other kids. His father is not involved. 

I know he is awfully young to predict his future (at least that is what I told myself 4 years ago). But the reality is that not having speech before the age of 5 is bad for their independence as it means he will be low functioning. All his therapists have told me that. 

I love my little guy so much. I don't want this for him or me. I don't want this world to have access to him because as sweet as he is he is different. I just wanted to see him live a happy productive life with friends and kids of his own.",1.7365137614678898,3.6016373761467904,3.600449541284405,88.66324311926607,78.90825688073394,7.1734556574923545,22.52079510703364,8.131152278815165,1.10570629969419,1230,38,271,23,30,414,158,327,0.10800000000000001,0.785,0.106,0.6481,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,1,2,3,13,15,0,0,9,1,43,2,0,2,3,48,67,22,0,6,15,2,0,0,2,1,1,4,1,4,16,13,0,0,7,1,0,2,14,3,2,1,11,8,44,12,30,51,7,24,0,2,3,1,48,8,0,2,13,184,60,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791289920577677,0.0,0.08938708256579356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607039940411197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453344640592267,0.05441577255443143,0.0,0.2278765726250961,0.0,0.093679241484223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21381509868602444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326405209680708,0.0,0.0,0.15623469266009796,0.09135019021931172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457035371850686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058959402569255026,0.0,0.0,0.08529756285402988,0.0,0.0,0.08415211377339536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793350071399998,0.0,0.1399135241550034,0.0,0.0,0.07487215094815476,0.07139423711377246,0.09841616602959467,0.0,0.08838745152087553,0.0,0.09502539982815747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949951111903514,0.0,0.0895411544520036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981166038163276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305127073738942,0.0,0.08946806110309079,0.15764716444478538,0.0,0.07496102320581327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056612049159216,0.0,0.05958580016549156,0.090501792132927,0.0,0.09723692808837138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124167669667136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733946518600095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326405209680708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571861352958943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098796802980012,0.0,0.0,0.1422670135478963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636597878535435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413222200687022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083341588107227,0.1036447966325792,0.0,0.05719809831666724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25589268856208963,0.0,0.3636348439183367,0.09709585936345064,0.08719998724687945,0.09292913523868628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795433666193445,0.07085525764879748,0.0,0.0,0.16052184892706098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498676787027723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245328240667296
parenting,meowroarhiss,2020/01/20,"If your toddler likes to play with your phone, you can pin your screen to a certain app so they can only use that app and not go anywhere else on your phone. If you have an iPhone, go to Settings > Accessibility > Guided Access. This feature lets you limit use of your phone to one app and even allows you to disable the touch screen and buttons. I use it so my kiddo can watch videos on YouTube Kids without being able to touch the screen to do anything else.

If you already knew this tip, then great! For those of us who didn’t, I hope you find this helpful.",5.022932996207331,5.3133847699115035,4.907484197218711,88.63053097345137,68.55752212389379,6.811125158027812,27.647281921618198,5.288315135182226,0.7672715549936782,441,13,94,1,7,136,73,113,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.9505,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,11,1,1,3,5,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,4,1,18,15,9,0,4,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,4,0,1,2,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,6,16,5,14,11,0,6,0,0,4,0,19,2,0,4,2,61,23,0,0.211701301889802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336176509217519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421213333536806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35369854562239583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982671329568433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934911546348219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24062945704478197,0.0,0.0,0.2334014327047561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189892018481234,0.0,0.0,0.21026716029430292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164789243843544,0.0,0.1034265626575536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345428103328606,0.1610083797132144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546506000796378,0.5485258597948683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040725004431939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Breaking-Chains,2020/01/20,"Dear parents, do you believe that if a child cuts all contact with their parent(s), it was something the parent(s) did wrong as opposed to the child just being crazy or overreactive? This especially pertains to adult children. If an adult child decides to never speak to or see their parents ever again and moves far away, that it's definitely something the parent did wrong?",8.443181818181818,9.399888924242426,7.472272727272728,70.87840909090909,61.27272727272728,9.630303030303034,39.22727272727273,9.516144504307137,3.9688,303,15,47,5,4,93,48,66,0.15,0.779,0.071,-0.7059,5,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,2,0,3,4,1,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,3,12,6,6,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,2,3,1,7,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,4,3,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277076997975596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120610051959972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745589191725235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150869336605048,0.0,0.0,0.11720038461567744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8436641295159132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109189247324767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23397139530700964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322872918095369,0.0,0.0
parenting,yesmaybenook,2020/01/20,"Need help with finding a solution for 7 year old. Sorry if this is a long post, I tried to get in a lot of detail.

I have a 7 year old daughter at the moment who I’m finding trouble getting to do everyday stuff— e.g. having showers, getting ready for school, brushing teeth, etc etc. So far, I’d say I’ve been doing a pretty decent job in disciplining him and he understands my authority and generally does fine in the listening department, although like every other kid, it is met with resistance (first they don’t wanna get in the shower, then they don’t wanna get out of the shower, it’s a struggle). 

But this ain’t my first rodeo as I do have a 20 year old daughter and a 16 year old son as well who I’ve learnt many a thing about parenting with when they was younger, but we all know it’s different now with technology in our faces all the time. She helps out in watching over the 7 year old when I’m away, more so recently as I’ve been enrolling in classes that have been really fulfilling for me and my Husband (we enrolled together). I gotta say, I didn’t know how much I missed going to classes and to be in a learning environment, kids don’t know what they’re missing. 

Anyway, it’s been good so far with the 7 YO understanding that the 20YO is in charge while I’m away but more recently, the 7 YO’s been getting much much more rebellious and outright questions the authority of my older kids. She stands her ground and says no and refuses to do basic things like eat their dinner/have a shower/go to school/etc and it is met with incredible resistance. 7YO is not nearly as resistant as with me and my Husband and I’ve tried explaining and talking to her about it and as I’m doing it, she puts on a face like she understands and when I’m around, she does everything I want/need her to do, including listening to my older kids. However, the moment I leave, all of them have huge arguments. 

I trust my 20YO Daughter with doling out punishments/time outs such as removing electronics (I.e phone/laptop/TV) which worked for a period of time but his rebelliousness has been getting worse. I don’t know how to deal with it, because he is not as bad as when he is with me or my Husband and only likes to defy my older kids’. He has had some issues in school, but generally he is okay around his Teachers and peers. 

My 20YO tells me that nowadays instead of grumbling about threats of removing electronics and going on to do what she needs to do, she just outright accepts the punishment and continues to resist. It took my oldest a good 20-30 minutes just to be able to convince her to head to the shower, peppered with threats of no electronics/telling me or my Husband. Aside from my authority, electronics are her only other motivation to do anything really. It’s not that she doesn’t have any other hobbies it’s that everything else that she likes, she is willing to give up if that means she doesn’t have to do what she doesn’t like. This is getting to be a problem because obviously, my 20YO is moving out soon and this would leave my 17YO to deal with her when I’m not around and it’s even worse with her because it doesn’t take 20-30 minutes, it essentially doesn’t work. Im usually gone for a few days to a week at a time, which happens 1-3 times every 2 months. (I live with a big family (arnd 10+ ppl) so there’s always someone in the house with them, I’m not leaving either of them at home alone. Additionally, I have 2 housekeepers that cook and clean and do the chores so I’m not forcing my 17YO to be doing everything, he has a healthy social life and does his work on time and well, I might add.) Therefore, I need to find a solution that would help out my 17YO. 

I realise that taking away the 7YOs electronics or only allowing her to use them when she’s done her needs doesn’t work because she essentially doesn’t care enough. I need her to do something she doesn’t like if she breaks rules. E.g things like doing homework/doing housework/etc BUT I don’t want to associate these tasks with punishments because I’m afraid it’ll translate badly into her future, I don’t want her to not want to do these things later in life just because they were used as punishments now. I know this happens because I used to hate folding laundry for the very reason that my Mother used to give me laundry to fold for hours when I was being a bratty kid. I’m wracking my brain trying to find a solution because compared to the 7YO, my first two were angels.",6.53797832585949,5.92211477466368,6.976334080717487,78.14466554559044,65.49103139013454,10.258445440956653,33.26943198804185,9.673873057562805,2.9154292974588936,3537,131,706,63,48,1158,335,892,0.077,0.81,0.113,0.9743,9,1,1,0,0,0,92.0,3,0,9,8,33,32,6,2,41,1,76,9,5,10,4,128,135,63,0,16,23,10,0,8,0,6,2,5,7,6,47,54,2,2,19,1,0,9,25,14,2,4,17,7,91,18,118,107,16,100,1,2,1,0,88,39,0,10,57,467,138,11,0.05203498580776214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0538925523662073,0.0,0.0,0.043297276627860655,0.0,0.0,0.035385574704973013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0428203596516594,0.1389665082796198,0.0,0.0,0.1466657461601431,0.0,0.08689407929334435,0.2537603550170797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580882531644871,0.0,0.0,0.05305313598102487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03355826109903549,0.10729157103848667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054365485086937934,0.0,0.0,0.1366085002138622,0.05324985664253544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05324478102978873,0.04346855365884282,0.0,0.0,0.053766050167903895,0.23213105601183465,0.034368617372387784,0.0,0.08768343958715002,0.0,0.14029707002628836,0.0,0.049053953624415315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023613734017336,0.13278279703799298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174890593577423,0.09983339973217534,0.08871804474380922,0.08728895462474175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202873220324884,0.0,0.0,0.05137377564877913,0.05340290753253294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463386240955146,0.0,0.05219533343859785,0.0,0.051243979370954464,0.06004138727123017,0.0,0.0,0.056206713920778716,0.054311006069568186,0.05163669428417722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429853368375191,0.0,0.0,0.16529261013478336,0.0,0.0,0.07350769866674885,0.20337332541612205,0.0,0.04594784579338712,0.04604932499435882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0442382841450578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275530839510073,0.0,0.0566813541234607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055200896921414326,0.0,0.0,0.04153382922903359,0.05530495499239872,0.11475510537272512,0.19291641321772268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730098218923821,0.0,0.0,0.1187248544791988,0.0,0.0,0.057778693814120874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04983513260522457,0.05293828748157086,0.0,0.04979045393969439,0.0,0.05230953289631897,0.05829109287063719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666988868082843,0.05350063182502772,0.10275654187540592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414092773720205,0.0,0.1579865509582904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0530431151107329,0.04408907461500551,0.0400590742742114,0.0,0.0582489064447551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439826517295589,0.059567609488606066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824766698710353,0.041823750542048815,0.04548087113082341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382789296835311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171009339388633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057812783847851774,0.10598501909188512,0.0,0.050830620155026485,0.16251076601465178,0.0,0.17976608283983,0.05730918541982805,0.042934312835968484,0.12276633123765028,0.0,0.04173932691302778,0.0,0.09357140278350183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152835760696298,0.0,0.10605619202263042,0.07392832192231254,0.0,0.0,0.16754412413087447
parenting,goph0r,2020/01/20,"How to talk about toy guns? We are visiting my extended family, which involves a ton of boys ages 6-10. Lately there has been a lot of play with toy guns, cowboys vs. “indians”, etc.

I grew up with nerf guns, super soakers, etc. but Im not sure how I feel about my kids being around play guns. They aren’t exposed to it in our day to day (their friends don’t play with them either). 

I’m debating either a) talking to my kids about it and letting them do whatever or b) talking to them but then redirecting them completely.

How have others handled it?",2.9216565656565656,4.549477872727274,4.194848484848485,86.75671717171717,74.81818181818181,7.7979797979797985,26.767676767676768,8.515128840125781,1.8463737373737368,426,16,88,8,9,140,72,110,0.035,0.8340000000000001,0.132,0.8994,1,0,0,4,0,0,19.0,2,0,6,1,8,6,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,3,1,19,11,8,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,1,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,13,6,16,8,6,10,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,2,5,62,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19342265361029373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278108691925798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802514645872181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4846427250171493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20482948008636528,0.0,0.10986181270668842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786772174148895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346965155531517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450979936830903,0.0,0.0,0.22218052033315866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472119109345464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478106276191974,0.0,0.0,0.5239172245553207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jojo1206515,2020/01/20,"Is it normal to have a 2 year old pee at the playground? Just wanted to double check if I am in the wrong.

The other day while at the playground, there was a group of 7 moms with all of our kids ranging from infant to about 5 years old. The bathroom is about a 5 minute walk at a very slow pace. I noticed one of the moms take her 2 year old boy off to the side of the playground turf (not even to the bush but to the side of the turf that meets the grass) and had him pee there. Is this normal? When my son was potty training I always walked him to the bathroom and never had him pee at the playground like that. Am I thinking to much into it?",4.123695652173911,3.617368869565219,4.647644927536233,92.46538043478265,70.44927536231884,6.9,24.49637681159421,3.1291,0.15296811594202886,496,10,118,0,8,158,78,138,0.016,0.955,0.028999999999999998,0.4098,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,18,0,10,3,3,0,2,14,13,6,0,4,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,4,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,4,1,10,1,24,9,3,22,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,1,12,84,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982690666712842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612579000779405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892996577104638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796972528896223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217754048388224,0.0,0.0,0.13236708172997244,0.0,0.1388757474198679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528471737272481,0.0,0.20500300942054656,0.5668377360837311,0.0,0.12201540271436355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538502663067584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537715069245708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857089828953954,0.10620586954176547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968707106188128,0.0,0.3478641587258091
parenting,Jen11122,2020/01/20,"Not sure if putting my grandson in time out over and over is the right thing to do. I keep my two and a half year old grandson for a couple of days every week. I know at this age that it’s normal for kids to throw their toys. But for awhile now, every time I tell him no over the slightest thing he throws his toys. I’m not trying to tell him no over every single thing but I’m not going to allow him to pull drawers open, pull stuff off a shelf, etc. I’ve tried taking the toys that he throws and putting them up for awhile after explaining “we don’t throw our toys, it’ll break them.” He’ll turn right around and do it again. I also do time outs for three minutes but then he’ll do it right again. I didn’t have this problem when his dad and my other son were little. I know he’ll out grow it but what should I be doing? Ignore it as much as possible? Time out over and over? His mother will spank him when he’s home but I’m not going to. I can’t do anything about what she does but I’d appreciate any help.",1.5362100456620986,2.843543009132418,2.67920091324201,97.52418949771692,77.81278538812784,5.414611872146119,17.646118721461185,5.46131890053228,-0.7168977168949775,785,12,191,3,18,251,115,219,0.071,0.895,0.034,-0.6765,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,3,0,8,3,0,0,6,0,16,0,0,1,1,34,30,19,0,4,11,5,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,17,13,0,2,3,4,0,11,9,2,0,3,2,0,24,1,31,21,3,48,0,0,0,0,29,20,0,1,16,125,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879884132094496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251841489992066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195725471315524,0.1211130164141928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053632977600168,0.0,0.08774075734437903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905794952715365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173130244682298,0.0,0.0,0.34388304745136666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464028192565382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911912003285679,0.0,0.1364688734088368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209271637621995,0.0,0.0,0.1495386391594127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635747248888153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001213337427972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329975299877198,0.0,0.0,0.14276120246278262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337551791435947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301811236373856,0.0,0.2735349140474772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348556926340005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557442787127826,0.0,0.0,0.12822516780051202,0.0,0.10229239145642967,0.0,0.23782674948048746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711559900123638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173265373168848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847375387903664,0.14798293165960474,0.13290072139091452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913080816630684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876115022554973
parenting,keikeimcgee,2020/01/20,Looking for an app I’m looking for an app that you put in the destination and tell it how often you want to stop and it tells you how long it will take to get there. Like I know my toddler will need to get out every 2 hrs and I want to go *here*. If I have a 13 hr window that day how far can I get each day? I could do a website too or an iOS app. Thanks!,-2.071807228915663,-0.3799935421686751,0.8686867469879545,103.61772891566272,92.855421686747,3.8019277108433744,14.324096385542171,4.935628992294339,-1.4276014457831323,268,5,75,1,10,93,54,83,0.027999999999999997,0.868,0.10400000000000001,0.6239,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,0,7,2,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,3,0,17,19,8,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,2,8,16,1,9,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,3,5,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790243044212213,0.0,0.0,0.30355384610038044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982868335120226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36887139498581295,0.0,0.13375098916782546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933849225648586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497682147120855,0.0,0.0,0.2082713652997616,0.3952581048399447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17450403355319594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365849626643553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19675749012670726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694883081262902,0.0,0.4114007372138244,0.21667243990018994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27762308592840873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,askthrowawaying,2020/01/20,"My 15 year son is a men's rights activist and I'm worried I have three daughters, 8F, 13F, 17F and one son 15M. The school gives the kids a good amount of freedom with groups, unofficial clubs. They don't do much except for talk about the subject of the group after school. Most are non controversial groups but you also have groups like feminism and men's rights. My son is in the men's rights group. He says he's for men's rights and issues, He started this at 14 and it's only gotten more intense since some girls at his school got away with bullying and hitting boys. The school planned a breast cancer thing for October which is everyone wearing a pink ribbon and asking for donations and selling brownies or cookies and donating the money. My son and some of the boys in the school asked for one for prostate cancer in September or November of the following year after one of the boys father passed from the disease, the school said yes but also that it was just a protest to the breast cancer one, I know the teachers at that school can be a bit biased against boys but that could be the reason my son wanted it. My son doesn't say bad things about women and he respects women but I feel like that might not always be the case with him joining this men's rights stuff. My oldest daughter told him that being in that group would make him an incel he said that’s a shame but oh well. Sometimes the kids in the men's rights group talk after school, I asked my son what exactly they talk about and he said sometimes double standards but mainly about them wanting more male positivity and sometimes they feel attacked because of their gender and it puts them down. I’m just worried about my son becoming some women hating person in the future and I feel like this might lead to that and I don’t know what to do, help!",4.657989657401423,6.041419044817928,4.5067366946778735,87.20751292824824,70.03641456582633,7.060935143288084,25.77558715794009,7.321109707123232,1.1221571644042236,1457,43,286,14,26,446,170,357,0.122,0.782,0.096,-0.9336,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,6,2,10,11,3,1,28,1,21,7,4,3,1,51,45,26,0,4,12,11,3,3,0,3,3,5,0,18,21,19,0,0,6,1,4,4,4,5,1,5,7,9,25,6,40,29,11,29,0,0,1,3,67,17,0,8,11,179,46,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994621149252126,0.062401464138113275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103293113487776,0.08531711467957091,0.07045983806298356,0.0,0.0626173075438754,0.045715974902344594,0.08282557630759586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187461317643313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987703703305905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716604958381397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375847676171458,0.10715222729733262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194159538852597,0.0,0.06290186122427208,0.059979983722558826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404158109851927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05026725867696159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827481452665372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824300747193056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991563090976944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005943712692723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911470918782006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05512961514977191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032729620105888,0.05703672629546095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654823387835761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539022532910727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710687641835702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842695592743677,0.2140109405066686,0.11927733495183092,0.0,0.6071878179105746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203625763581815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225145500393614,0.0,0.05308152070140016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585080487266784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083330912492152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964607873455884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716604958381397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846744429145513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742909704614546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523211893590668,0.0,0.05327396880959464,0.0,0.0,0.09658804865132643
parenting,DrunkCrowdAdvice,2020/01/20,"I feel like the worst mother and wife right now for not controlling my emotions I just messed up soooo bad... 

My 8 month old was screaming, crying, wanting to be breastfed and then biting my nipples with her 3 teeth for 20mins while I tried to put her down for her morning nap. I felt like I was losing my damn mind, I eventually got so worked up that I went and put my daughter in her cot to cry it out. 

She cried it out for 10mins and during this time my husband was making fun of me. I'm sure he was just trying to get me to laugh, but I couldn't see anything funny about it. I asked him over a dozen times to stop making fun of me and everytime I asked him to stop I got angrier and louder. He then he started mocking me and I just exploded. I called him a c**t, I threw my wedding rings at him. I screamed and completely lost my temper. I slammed a door. I knew I needed to calm down without having this meltdown but I really struggled to stop myself.

My husband left the house shortly after and now my daughter is wide awake running around the house when she is usually meant to be sleeping. I can't even get my little girl to sleep today and I am soooo damn tired. I'm also 10 weeks pregnant and am just really at my wits end. I want to cry, but I also want to scream. 

I just can't believe I exploded like this and I feel like I'm failing as a mother and a wife. My daughter and this baby on the way don't stand a chance with me...",2.0842857142857127,3.5812272890365437,3.4929754152823937,91.46423388704322,76.77408637873755,6.1449036544850495,23.33568106312293,6.742157984588678,0.5735032823920259,1118,34,246,10,25,367,156,301,0.22,0.698,0.08199999999999999,-0.9925,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,5,14,23,4,1,10,0,15,4,3,3,1,47,40,25,0,5,10,9,3,4,0,0,1,4,1,1,8,19,0,4,5,1,0,5,6,14,0,1,12,8,55,9,37,25,1,43,0,3,1,0,27,17,2,0,23,160,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464419841350236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471189690544606,0.09163955821061373,0.19247238929839053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595166349223067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597956389174953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511454974290893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793196669944197,0.0,0.11545739147699732,0.0,0.0,0.4523046206523842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579507714339522,0.09117541371061154,0.0,0.0,0.06799174026833779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410040181686683,0.14708253267916452,0.09883976588394812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756513329320863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466308052541292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375608168617196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184599483330188,0.0,0.0,0.20116762582236547,0.10317419966540184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516495366117498,0.11237256029666044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374281987940561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039413409519302,0.0,0.08216674237115963,0.0,0.0,0.07632964991799106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801954992652862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069688248269204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189363150080502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791128508656967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203086710841888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20603123286430086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286236320183136,0.0,0.0,0.2581905420920128,0.0,0.10761656998338588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970209319907892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005176879078792,0.11831585058708607,0.09757629064766228,0.0,0.0,0.1397807348944982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337526929976248,0.0,0.1821522906369492,0.08170999136302923,0.08257328026020208,0.0,0.0,0.09542759183633508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923171416253364,0.0,0.07494247311486077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nikki2172,2020/01/20,"Nap help I'm at my wits end.  I have an 8 month old that REFUSES to nap unless I hold her when I am the one to put her down.  At daycare she will nap solidly from 12-3.  If my husband puts her down she will nap for about an hour BUT she fights sleep when initially falling asleep with him.  If I put her to sleep she will NOT stay asleep when I lay her down.  It doesnt matter how carefully, slowly, or what point of her sleep cycle she is at when I lay her down.  The longest nap I can get from her is 20 minutes.  I would think that it was a development phase type of deal except for the fact that she will sleep like a champ at daycare. 

I have tried replicating daycare routines and nothing.... no difference. 

Before someone suggests it.... husband cant be the one to put her down.  He works most weekends and is unavailable when I would need help.  Cry it out and Ferber method doesnt work for her either.   She just gets worse and ends up making herself sick and throwing up.

I am going crazy over here.  The only decent naps I can get from her are when I am glued to the rocking chair with her for 2+ hours.

Not sure if I need advice or just space to vent.  Mama needs a break.",1.9164550264550253,3.564678000000004,2.9566019988242225,94.4751851851852,77.64197530864197,5.780834803057027,21.447971781305114,6.42735559955562,0.1394959435626104,906,24,205,7,21,289,133,243,0.11800000000000001,0.83,0.052000000000000005,-0.9372,0,0,1,0,1,0,29.0,0,0,0,3,11,5,1,0,11,0,22,7,6,2,2,35,33,19,0,8,13,2,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,8,8,0,2,1,8,0,7,6,1,0,2,1,0,37,4,33,25,2,37,0,0,0,0,30,15,0,6,14,139,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658264023358095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151904938488997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163853800178225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105001301002372,0.0,0.12299734595994158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464745017331355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113361413064654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869944918603912,0.0,0.0678033010833603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993412156357906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349811228616453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058285984218316676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963645038128682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952274388990368,0.0,0.0,0.265387559394164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447555510192553,0.0,0.12518964235024216,0.0,0.16168716711664624,0.09073618650610514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127809897035826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4797345142681202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775612631751349,0.0,0.10108602401823864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716235611638835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244275489645522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764452857198894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099969043010527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737096925968198,0.0,0.12158112715790337,0.1695004984959136,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,backgroundmusik,2020/01/20,"Three year old won't talk. When we try to talk to her, ask her things, etc she just put her hands to her mouth and do a sorta giggle.  She won't answer questions when prompted.  I've heard her say things... ""Are you okay?""  ""Mama, Daddy, cookie... Up, down"" and other select phrases, she doesn't respond when we ask her the names of items or body parts, but seems to know them.  I think.

I feel like I've failed her somehow.",0.8577516339869256,2.9948106705882367,1.6980392156862756,99.71006535947714,83.47058823529412,3.7777777777777786,15.326797385620914,3.1291,-1.3028300653594769,317,5,72,0,9,98,60,85,0.053,0.887,0.06,-0.1145,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,1,1,1,5,4,0,0,2,1,5,3,3,0,0,16,12,7,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,6,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,4,16,3,7,9,3,8,0,1,0,0,23,2,0,5,6,46,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298908456880649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553907850530077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25642307946407056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625514167681834,0.1642558566189036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635875964210422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232795662936164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24126377730350046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248982413707806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311344589741989,0.257564529210652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828426839263713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931175955325265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696041397643057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054990537124769,0.14732431568281562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610150254210384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806180954454973
parenting,Ratallus,2020/01/20,"What makes a kid's room feel like a kid's room? TLDR: I don't know how to decorate, and my kid's room looks barren. What would you make sure to provide foe the room if you had to start from nothing?

Background: When I was young my family moved a lot. When I was on my own I moved yearly. I kept a lot in boxes and unpacked only as needed to fit whatever space I had.

Problem: Long story short, my son lives with me, and has his own room. I made a bed frame, someone donated a mattress still wrapped, picked up a dresser, and some plastic bins for the toys he's collected. I painted the room (shocked at how cheap painting walls can be) his favorite color.

Now, it could just be me being self-conscious, or my personal standards have changed, but his room feels empty.

Question: So, if you had a blank space for your kid's room, what would you do to make that space feel more like a 'kids room'?",2.1814986187845307,3.998647436464093,3.0340296961325954,93.45888984806628,77.39779005524862,5.850966850828731,24.01968232044199,6.6274283507984215,0.5960632596685076,690,23,150,6,16,218,112,181,0.036000000000000004,0.898,0.066,0.6046,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,5,0,0,8,6,1,0,12,0,16,0,0,7,1,33,28,14,0,7,5,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,12,6,5,5,0,1,5,1,2,2,1,3,0,0,7,5,23,3,14,15,6,29,0,0,2,0,17,19,0,7,10,92,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122063356378296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367751092398872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149347672156542,0.0,0.2598546764673097,0.2447642421885074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414612874181068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738439497325694,0.0,0.1512676719567654,0.151601757749428,0.14385516552455208,0.0,0.0,0.2912790420719953,0.0,0.1620953102842983,0.3430472842740597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641455500217541,0.0,0.12702234982208546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437417834613804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028708259962915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495791121972515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391815379105545,0.0,0.0,0.19190361946470036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787110962233976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514829935073592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212523389984186,0.0,0.1368064006972146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145530310488207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433838835262216,0.0,0.0,0.11031642145434488
parenting,treesbeme,2020/01/20,"Toddler Struggles My husband and I are at our wits end with our kids' behavior. They are 4 and 2.5 yo boys and I know I can't expect them to behave like grownups, but man they are so hard.   

They hardly ever do as they are told even though they hear what we are asking and are perfectly capable. They fight all the time. Anything they need to do that they don't want to be doing is a huge battle. Brushing teeth is a nightmare. Mealtimes are awful. The smallest things will set them off into a spiral of tears and screaming. We don't want to spank them (and we don't), but I don't know what else to do.  I feel like we've tried everything. 

I feel like they hate me because I'm so mad at them all the time, but what am I supposed to do? Let them do whatever they want? Let them eat whatever they want and trash the meals I make for them? Let them sit in front of a screen all day just to keep them quiet? I don't want any of those things, but I don't know how long I can keep fighting. Every. Single. Day.  

I hate hating my kids who I love so much.",0.7703743315508014,2.698018380090499,2.156686548745373,97.49225730152205,82.39366515837105,5.10415466886055,18.642739613327848,6.1124844417494595,-0.35150859728506795,806,19,189,6,22,259,114,221,0.209,0.6859999999999999,0.106,-0.9702,0,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,5,0,20,1,8,14,7,1,8,1,29,4,1,2,5,38,51,17,0,7,5,1,4,3,0,1,0,3,0,5,8,12,2,2,5,0,0,1,7,9,0,0,1,9,41,5,18,45,5,16,0,0,1,1,38,6,0,0,10,128,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671951344722124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493995888400988,0.0,0.11921610397784475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773638941415374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448262315401554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048711354851053,0.10652848950393083,0.0,0.11294687659637392,0.0,0.0,0.0842272536545329,0.11535118990882973,0.10744300865216468,0.0,0.11460878952500195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289581780781561,0.18220386386974255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284698038784139,0.3777055084186086,0.0,0.0,0.14372686122529638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22669529769514846,0.0,0.0,0.21024870632767906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912004690353591,0.0,0.1869028125366745,0.0,0.0,0.11285319205293398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150938233920564,0.0,0.08512210243060099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374353802340783,0.0945561440203081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331395992584189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694402535798448,0.0,0.12528997836242545,0.0,0.14871851700971664,0.0,0.0,0.1218529895071597,0.0,0.08657924747558267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760796808230599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrGissy,2020/01/20,Am I doing cio method correct? Just some background: after months of trying the no cry method and many sleepless nights we gave in and tried the cry it out sleep method. The first night our 15 month old cried for 90 mins before falling asleep then 2 hours upon waking up later that night. By the second night it took him an hour but he slept through the entire night. Third night 20 mins before he fell asleep and since then it's been between 20 and 30 mins before falling asleep. And he screams bloody murder until he falls asleep. I thought by now things would have settled but the week is almost up and it's like we have hit a wall. Is this what it will always be like; screaming at every bedtime? I feel like I'm losing my mind hearing him scream just as he did the first night.,5.16,5.809743225806455,4.31048387096774,91.76572580645164,68.35483870967742,6.2,23.887096774193548,3.1291,0.10401935483870917,620,13,128,0,10,182,103,155,0.196,0.748,0.055,-0.9715,0,0,3,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,3,3,8,1,0,9,0,11,7,7,0,1,20,19,12,1,1,4,0,1,3,0,2,0,4,0,0,9,9,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,5,0,4,6,5,9,3,15,9,1,36,0,1,0,0,12,7,0,2,27,72,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685231638384486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878932859101192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724011002001406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516400906181701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990581320401038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053954603537577965,0.07623197989156448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815309770908108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026729798263032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101711182338411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563959308476409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937858659072845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818482770342812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774432652222396,0.0,0.17034608632574655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7009654299643411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119717482137356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826968629441316,0.0,0.1067847317737311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089183362738401,0.0,0.0,0.08471396964230962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185561462894645,0.1448950052410264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559445538114456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580206630269361,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lukamu,2020/01/20,"Actual conversation between my wife and son yesterday. This sums up 3 year olds pretty well. 3YO: ""Mama I'm making something for you...""

Mama: ""Oh, what are you making?""

3YO: (serious) ""I'm making something for you to clean up.""",0.7766463414634153,2.949349195121957,3.38923780487805,79.89166158536588,105.82926829268291,5.9524390243902445,19.759146341463413,7.1686216300943375,1.5345829268292681,171,6,28,4,8,59,30,41,0.0,0.8140000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.7906,0,0,2,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,6,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,15,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.29843532871219164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6124098761247609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32090570334205665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111279707858656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708689715297088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27496810018413115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196937475078245
parenting,speak911,2020/01/21,"Is this a fair punishment for a 4th grader? Our daughter came home with bad grades the other day, which is a surprise to me because she has always had fair grades. They were mostly C’s, D’s and one B.  The teacher told me she gets up repeatedly during class and distracts others and herself. I was not having it, I will not have my daughter ruin other kids education.  She doesn’t have ADHD, she just likes to get up and talk and distracts others.  I took away her TV/Movie privileges,  no computer games, or any electronics.  She’s allowed to do more productive things like hang out with friends or read a book.  I told her she could earn back her privileges In a few months when I see an improvement in grades. It sounds pretty fair, but my SO disagrees with me",3.7994369369369374,5.5977324121621646,4.368648648648648,85.70855855855856,72.85135135135134,7.365765765765767,25.84684684684685,8.07648339933343,1.5314576576576568,599,20,117,9,12,190,102,148,0.107,0.7609999999999999,0.133,-0.0277,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,1,4,11,1,2,8,0,13,0,0,1,0,19,20,10,0,1,6,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,9,10,0,0,0,3,0,3,4,5,0,1,7,2,22,6,13,11,3,14,0,1,1,0,20,6,0,3,7,84,31,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629201553472982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820349468342822,0.0,0.0,0.14877174066822033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554249892853796,0.16822134836252906,0.18266459620926284,0.1333607340110929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502156732639237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467079344136693,0.0,0.0,0.14108915735090485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16902188498324122,0.0,0.22859757264588065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194450895643378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21376086074552827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462087651642813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824485027525264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256869479418456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883014177762167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743321142168409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758397940768664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534169105826492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180900153606067,0.24306256313852465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pinkpals,2020/01/21,"Keeping the door open at all times? My husband is adamant about keeping our daughter’s  door open at all times.  She’s 16 almost 17 and she needs her privacy, but he will not allow it. However,  he had no problem when our son kept his door closed when he was a teenager.  I let her keep it closed when he’s at work, she hasn’t shown me anything that would make me not trust her and she’s a good kid.  I’ve already talked to her about internet safety along with not posting anything or share anything illicit.  He’s gotten more stricter about it, and  even threatened to even take the door off.   They already don’t talk enough as it is, I don’t to want their relationship to deteriorate even more.",3.5120750988142286,5.147155543478262,3.838959156785248,89.88397233201584,73.27536231884058,6.757312252964428,27.76284584980237,7.348242739294969,1.3126000000000009,547,21,115,6,11,170,84,138,0.111,0.807,0.08199999999999999,-0.6251,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,2,1,9,4,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,2,27,19,9,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,5,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,4,0,18,3,14,12,5,14,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,2,5,71,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676044949913381,0.0,0.3694107011589465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132125252858328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294581008704338,0.0,0.3316539910116462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038839492657187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463187208533837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115494254700814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117258518650182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410837418346506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030147932181274,0.0,0.0,0.16015776431988132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17970090976743416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258471294826882,0.2690635594686477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519845641218006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872364875700088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185289079101552,0.0,0.0,0.11890024916562067,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rotaxxx,2020/01/21,"Questioning my decision about advice I gave my son about a bully My son has been having trouble with a bully in his class pushing him, harassing him, and stealing from him. We have always told him not to hit anyone, and if anyone hits him or harassed him to tell his teacher. He will tell his teacher but he tells us the teacher doesn’t do anything to the bully. My wife has talked to the teacher in the past about this bully and him harassing my son but it doesn’t seem to get better. So he came home from school today with a mark by his eye. I asked him what happened and he didn’t want to tell me, but eventually got him to tell me the  bully pushed him down and he hit his eye in the snow and made a mark. I asked him if he told the teachers, and he said he did but nothing was done again. I made sure he never started it or pushed the bully, and he never did. So I told him if he gets pushed again by his bully he needs to push back and stand up for himself, seeing as the teachers are doing nothing about it. I told him that he would not get into trouble from us, and if the teachers call us that we would be behind him 100%. But after saying that I am not positive that was the right thing to do. Was I right to tell him that? If it matters he’s 7 and in grade 2.",4.238432835820898,4.021497880597018,5.120111940298512,88.18748134328364,70.19402985074626,7.5955223880597025,26.078358208955226,6.6274283507984215,0.8721671641791042,984,25,221,6,16,322,115,268,0.165,0.802,0.033,-0.9901,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,1,14,8,3,0,15,0,23,2,2,2,3,45,47,26,0,9,15,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,12,17,0,0,3,0,0,6,8,6,0,0,18,5,42,2,32,22,0,25,0,0,3,0,63,9,0,9,9,157,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890842414754747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842209445517807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415470507600806,0.0,0.0832932557607817,0.0,0.1892491200688592,0.0,0.0,0.07782989529897323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951852179606087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033542323540231,0.11576568516336495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358049219186752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586456652304844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095276213605639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089506169391184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015292560124944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154861007819804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750513833947853,0.15613012219522673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424155664791312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966234147029107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338659802361815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728781297660657,0.0962808795318946,0.08049210024165676,0.0,0.10243736315140688,0.08065712425217768,0.09214447507510032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164216214257553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539615564834174,0.0,0.0,0.08135467284985788,0.5308105577075913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06724431059286516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594221390386076,0.3868700665855598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652560327914373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970061618920909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380380445034294,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agus86hsn8,2020/01/21,"Constipation in a 16yr old.... This is quite embarrassing since I think constipation is mainly for smaller children but my 16yr old daughter came to be yesterday complaining that she can’t poop and her stomach is killing her. I’ve never seen her act like this before so I went and got her on miralax and she took it in her tea the next morning. Still, nothing has worked. She’s had two things of miralax and nothings working. So I bought suppositories yesterday and told her how to use them etc. so she tried one and waited the amount of time it said and still didn’t work. I honestly don’t know what to do. She has never been constipated to the point where she tells me. I really think we should go to her doctor but I don’t know. I don’t know what they would do for her. 

Any advice would be great.",2.591509433962265,4.779426389937111,3.535194968553462,88.59675471698117,77.55345911949684,6.7557232704402495,23.17861635220126,7.793537801064563,1.0310306918238994,632,20,132,10,15,202,96,159,0.064,0.856,0.08,0.5652,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,2,4,7,6,1,1,4,0,19,4,2,2,2,24,35,13,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,8,9,1,1,5,0,1,5,7,3,0,2,11,2,26,3,12,19,3,20,0,0,1,0,23,5,0,0,11,91,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427234507393236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040043384235137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563097983618676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688611159418956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511160534970865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646579073971913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390735731710253,0.0,0.11808139634454673,0.16277389853094298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334206359808312,0.0,0.2434176633490844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212956930183315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277385274300067,0.0,0.15701708244741885,0.0,0.0,0.28332960645092203,0.0,0.3098472164406143,0.0,0.1000448553984633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395677592452402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703358090306208,0.0,0.0,0.0945821256767059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043968848523644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212954174031156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358113911777899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904408734729428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808562279427524,0.18920382346047465,0.0,0.0,0.08609021796031023,0.0,0.0,0.14107658732370734,0.16403375184246086,0.10023803943022863,0.0,0.14422307278008414,0.0,0.0,0.12751377402895833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136863992315422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224515845086722,0.0,0.0,0.20975879736648906,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nachotype13,2020/01/21,"My 3 year old is driving me insane Hi reddit! I’m a single mom to a beautiful 3 year old daughter and while I love her so much I need help. She doesn’t listen to anything I say, screams to where I’m pretty sure the whole neighborhood can hear her and throws dramatic tantrums all day every day. I’m mentally exhausted. My mom watches her while I work but I just want some time to myself. She’s with me all the time unless I’m working. I can’t even take a quick trip to the store without her screaming and embarrassing me. I’m tired of getting stared at it’s humiliating. I’ve tried bribery with toys and her “good girl jar” but I feel like it isn’t really working to correct her bad behavior. I’ve resorted to spanking and I hate doing it. Even still, she’s so stubborn she keeps doing the behavior even after being disciplined just to get a reaction out of me. I’m at my wits end. This has to be a phase right? I hear the term “threenager” get thrown around from time to time but this has to stop. She acts like an asshole to me and her nana for fun. I believe she’s old enough to know what’s acceptable and what is not yet she continues to do these bad things repeatedly. How do you discipline/reward your small children?",1.7882800000000003,3.983731668000004,3.319600000000001,89.0738,80.32,6.88,24.0,7.9765259561132025,1.3376800000000002,967,35,204,18,25,318,141,250,0.15,0.726,0.124,-0.8744,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,2,0,3,13,16,3,1,11,0,14,3,0,1,4,34,34,16,0,2,8,3,1,2,0,0,2,6,0,2,9,11,0,4,3,1,1,4,5,9,0,0,0,9,35,7,27,32,8,33,0,0,2,1,28,7,0,1,24,128,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007698377561227,0.10901070274974124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044892276382046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796458659688093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794638596391902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845857527214714,0.1265285064460515,0.0,0.2426406521121009,0.0,0.10317342092610708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061916808527743214,0.08748170856911927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19193268170356886,0.0,0.0,0.1027092470380023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089872852915892,0.0,0.0,0.2760308397467223,0.0,0.08207884773023201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884342157054573,0.0,0.0,0.06729793636407712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965042547997125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052020634740874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340560143143968,0.0,0.0,0.28683508150209186,0.0,0.0,0.0900183420859252,0.09079865661375723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854870302126084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458051926703395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844765807946093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457570021119844,0.0,0.09738094408623696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977925334940598,0.10237766668444116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541216680075428,0.0,0.09207074358120176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135350463339544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856174328591975,0.14074373852053146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313874727933653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222699307858932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671637198807013,0.0,0.11804202363195568,0.0,0.2674455820033089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771370761950734
parenting,teodotia,2020/01/21,"strollers Hello, we are design students and we have a project about strollers. we would be happy if you could take a minute to answers our questions. thank you

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parenting,bar159,2020/01/21,"At the end of my rope with my teenage daughter. What to do? My daughter is almost 14. Over the last few years her behavior is getting worse and worse. It started a few years ago with the attitude. She's constantly being disrespectful she slams things and stomps around any time we ask her to do anything. The past year or so she's started stealing. She got caught stealing at the mall and I guess we were in denial but lose ends have started coming together. She's stolen money from her sisters and myself. She constantly sneaks out of the house. She admits to doing drugs and shipping school. We tried to reward good behavior by making a check list of good behavior and getting her a phone once she did enough good things. After getting the phone she started sexting and she lost her phone again. She gets burner phones from kids at school and keeps going. We find lighters and razor blades in her room. She's not self harming but we still don't want her to have them. We find condoms in her room and she says she's not using them but we can't trust her so at least she's being safe I guess? I don't know what do to at all. We have talked about sending her to a residential treatment facility but they are so expensive and I don't know if we can afford it. My wife and I have talked about moving to get a smaller house so we could afford it but it's a huge step. 

TLDR: 13 year old is lying, stealing, doing drugs, maybe sex, skipping school, sneaking out of the house. Please help me I'm losing my mind and don't know what to do with her.",1.9931168831168835,4.358240503246755,2.6838798701298683,92.96367694805195,80.65584415584415,5.2785714285714285,21.313311688311693,6.4784943948869325,0.2765077922077928,1217,36,251,11,32,379,150,308,0.114,0.777,0.109,0.1903,2,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,10,0,3,4,9,13,0,0,14,0,25,4,0,2,1,56,51,24,0,3,9,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,9,30,0,2,6,1,3,6,7,7,0,0,5,1,51,6,34,43,5,41,0,3,0,2,56,15,0,5,20,166,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454616695798292,0.0,0.0955065268742131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648597926215224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848734039623541,0.08490596317380616,0.08916484276465493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215904545764784,0.0,0.20613782228481747,0.0,0.07615096381045361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212146321563558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895184721597933,0.09855018303485476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434613567642648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491533521252001,0.0,0.054205082455645634,0.2399937068556881,0.07628189028936701,0.0,0.21013756167137326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392935231993141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301575819742059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477567165854961,0.0,0.0,0.157250507403459,0.07774517898817568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134054660542068,0.1041155222984206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06366504713517482,0.0,0.09581925537455672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630382161836387,0.0,0.0,0.10137091008572748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008236734439767,0.10157364593904347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104836605036074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469556632986618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758478080028352,0.0,0.2895805711106399,0.0,0.0,0.09949926047703493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700340004936718,0.0,0.07616838565458707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332122252802285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267287980762887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05561523461557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647548840320863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237531077696597,0.0,0.0,0.05625596624731433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943951081243691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24567925741911814
parenting,TheNoobQueen,2020/01/21,"Custodial mom allowing stepdad to slap 10yo Custodial mother allowing stepfather to slap 10yo

Washington State. My stepson is being slapped in the face hard enough to give him nosebleeds in order to “teach him a lesson.” His step father has also slammed his head into a wall hard enough to break the drywall. His mother is aware and has been present during the abuse. My husband and I get our son every other weekend, and on vacations. I’ve filed police reports and called CPS a couple of times on them, but what is the chance that we can get full custody?

We only just found out, so the police say the head-into-the-wall will all just be hearsay since it happened almost a year ago. But the slapping as well as verbal and psychological abuse are ongoing. We have encouraged him to tell his teacher at school and the school nurse, but it seems like we can’t do anything until there’s more “evidence.”

Any advice on how we proceed?
Has anyone successfully changed a custody for similar issues?
What else can we do to make sure the abuse is being recorded?

Any help is appreciated.",6.476440872560276,7.4724152587064685,6.525572139303487,75.81616532721011,65.56716417910448,8.970685036356679,32.3769613471106,9.057496981413335,2.827830922311519,861,34,149,14,13,274,130,201,0.075,0.787,0.138,0.9163,0,0,0,0,3,0,20.0,7,0,1,2,7,5,0,0,14,0,20,2,2,4,2,29,27,15,0,0,5,6,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,14,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,3,18,5,20,21,5,21,0,0,0,0,27,10,0,2,8,99,24,5,0.0,0.4875704542947841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404049518998915,0.12159252835067035,0.0,0.13735548865743488,0.0,0.0,0.10969443832547814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18655999336008733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591213761661266,0.0,0.11287885075902745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006544542705635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510719421117987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177549633682097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458755650542855,0.0,0.0,0.28346562252986657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557126063060225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503993298125131,0.0,0.0,0.14333085518591904,0.13158552988353805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129857867168176,0.0,0.2457539451053224,0.0,0.281551060219987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194185690599532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316937079863706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701411266382233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156173871936346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606513172904303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043236226814004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908273049805177,0.0,0.27764581229781515,0.0,0.12487400516727695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346806793643545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292806760650637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989223132477418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998466678073769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333189744358485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833269191183941
parenting,Anxiousmummyblog,2020/01/21,"Worrying-how much can it really affect us and those around us? Is it an innate feeling or is it learned from our past experiences-like a safety barrier to gauge what may happen? Worrying... how much can it really affect us and those around us? 

We have an innate instinct to worry especially when it comes to our children... so when they’re ill our flight and fight response kicks in... but when we ourselves suffer from anxiety it seems that we can over worry too much to the point of it swamping us with a spoonful of guilt, a cup of helplessness and a dose of anguish. 
Worrying is not a bad thing, it makes us see the difference of right and wrong, alerts us to possibly and hopefully a productive solution. 
But what about when we become a bit too perplexed, overpowering everything else around us, it’s hard to see the happy or carefree times that should occur. 
When we stress, children can pick up on it in an instant... which makes them stressed too... so how do we find the medium balance... differentiate... be in the here and now and not the what if’s or what not’s? 
My therapist told me I’m not psychic, I can’t see into the future nor can I control it... but it doesn’t stop you being a full on stress head. 
Imagine looking outside in on a situation, telling your friends a solution but deep down you know you would never listen to your own advice?!?
Why is that? Why is it ok to give out the advice but not take it yourself? Even if it’s the right advice? 
Anxiety has a nasty trick of popping up when you don’t it want to... it’s always there, for me, masked away like a locked box but it always ends up finding the key... some people find it easier to hide the key better than others... 
or like a rock being eroded away, worn down through overthinking like erosion... are you an igneous rock or a limestone? 
Me... I’m more limestone, easily weathered and worn down due to certain triggers. 
It’s comforting to stay in the 4 walls you call home, your safe place... I could tell you lots of reasons why it’s better than being outside but are my reasons more valid than others who think the opposite??? 
We all think differently and try to find acceptance in areas where we feel we need to be accepted... in society or a friendship group. But if we’re looking for acceptance surely we shouldn’t need to with those people? 
Are we looking in the wrong places? Darent look into the unknown... even though we know it’s bad, it’s what we know, maybe the happy is in the unknown but only for a short while... 
Worrying can make us productive to put things right or into order but it becomes problematic when it starts to make us crumble rather than make us stronger! 
What things help you reduce or stop worrying? 
Is it writing them down or talking? 
Can worrying be seen as healthy, as it shows we care or are passionate about something? 
But where is the line drawn? Well the answer is that the line is different for everybody, it’s how you  action each worry and learn that we can’t always control everything and I think that’s when the worries will shrink. Perhaps not disappear but the worry cloud over us will become smaller.",3.910989167713673,5.766147881863563,4.58648103500968,84.02564772997388,72.67720465890183,7.701463547149309,27.240347719786747,8.418075326091056,1.923912261876464,2451,90,468,42,49,784,264,601,0.14400000000000002,0.69,0.166,0.9678,5,0,1,0,1,0,99.0,30,12,2,4,31,33,2,5,42,1,41,4,1,16,4,126,79,55,0,12,32,0,3,3,1,6,2,1,1,2,50,38,0,6,22,3,0,4,13,13,1,0,4,12,53,20,71,62,12,68,0,2,8,1,59,43,0,18,22,340,103,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818489896875795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914998759174008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06690016254856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167755713964668,0.0,0.0,0.08216356839821208,0.0,0.07301835446590342,0.0,0.14487497611023442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734375018210654,0.047737197279574366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04464888252770898,0.0,0.044581319234795865,0.0,0.0,0.03766586436756092,0.0,0.0,0.09808429987324227,0.034911455681677334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705231563778858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03652725576925056,0.0,0.03872803856494648,0.0,0.0,0.057760894786124665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859577448020562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04421810894092846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598581839118816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03378240821243395,0.0,0.0,0.04194572650094562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866653886957766,0.09309375404603908,0.039169685971701486,0.0,0.04487523733989352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029308450459418118,0.0,0.043860495323499914,0.04342953873575492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209159077489594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408658255937709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687447924409786,0.0,0.0,0.03717407145499962,0.0,0.0,0.14593639793344562,0.0,0.04392839591349925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964303785599757,0.06484418343426224,0.03372399623197519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033255405426834216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041741178800680616,0.06062786292927469,0.0,0.0913682104251924,0.0,0.04133496988855597,0.049294216462598385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04395645878328345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602367391988612,0.08991471295901947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202466215068316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453129157080314,0.039806283201961376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491495782798274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033662220817780905,0.0,0.0,0.030949312947128882,0.0466058346787302,0.0,0.07311337464272374,0.15026310658717631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121100462096418,0.0,0.03287632443233634,0.03514510386678042,0.07643647062390603,0.0,0.0,0.050768969261448,0.08714834185116206,0.08405309064032739,0.04296033020161533,0.0,0.025496838140360148,0.0,0.0,0.04178183070747088,0.0,0.029686915975028018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6311603629266217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0257905819466916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03931470309531716,0.0,0.11836707261841528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44405624553144013,0.0,0.031061520296275836,0.09561449319185146,0.0,0.0
parenting,Riskbytheminute,2020/01/21,"At a loss with my 3.5 year old son I know 3 is often a trying age, but I just don't know what to do with him at this point. For context, I work full-time from home while my wife works full-time at the office, we also have 1.5 year old son. 

My older son has been somewhat difficult since hitting 3, but no more than I expected, he was still overall a good/happy kid, but the past few months have been hell. He has suddenly become a picky eater, a terrible sleeper, and too rough with his younger brother, a complete u-turn from his former behavior. Also he has been solidly potty trained for the past 8 months, but this past week started wetting his pants again every day, has no interest in using the bathroom anymore, and purposely waits until nap/bed time to poop in a pull-up. When I try to talk to him about this he turns into a jabbering maniac, full nonsensical baby talk (he normally speaks very well) and will not listen or sit still for me. He also displays this behavior when not wanting to eat meals, or when being corrected for being too rough with his brother.",7.893033175355452,6.232759464454976,7.850374407582944,76.36068009478673,63.36018957345972,10.90445497630332,34.84407582938389,9.642632912329526,3.0860953554502366,841,29,164,13,10,272,130,211,0.11800000000000001,0.863,0.019,-0.9673,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,3,15,7,2,0,12,0,16,3,1,1,1,28,25,17,0,3,9,6,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,5,9,2,1,2,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,4,5,16,2,24,17,4,34,1,1,0,0,24,8,1,4,25,105,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310058108873197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683004826459022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237800736827076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465985238579415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889798095274773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411786641858808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624642483938052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572343592894573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468725771782739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839605138905986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165038497647665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025409498064824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518217748379574,0.0,0.0,0.289554478158737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951264765979822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042708648565599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413094534983295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765650555232158,0.0,0.220367460778714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22179154908972265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045193506150879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734635432451985,0.3001454163589546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916254959832018,0.0,0.11384043312206665,0.08137880518954595,0.0,0.11067192509069143,0.0,0.12405239908473913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20088890121703226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769745826361308
parenting,kikamperine,2020/01/21,"Doing things for yourself OR being a real person again For those of you fellow SAH parents, what do you do that is just for yourself? How do you keep yourself happy/positive/feeling like more than just a caretaker?

I’ve been struggling a lot with being myself (or new self, as it were) and realized that I’m not doing any that is strictly for me. Aside from moving last year to an isolated area and not making new friends, I just haven’t been able to focus on myself. I fall into the trap of scrolling social media or doing tons of chores while my kid sleeps, then just watching TV until bed. In fact, I’m not sure what I would even do for fun.

There’s definitely a need for routine and structure, which is something I’m already working on, but that just frames out my day. What the hell do I want to do?!

So please, tell me what you do to stay sane, happy, and mentally healthy. I need some suggestions to get the ball rolling.",4.871884057971017,5.533349086956524,5.204130434782608,85.06188405797103,69.0,7.655072463768116,28.3768115942029,7.492282038375204,1.539711594202898,728,24,145,7,12,231,117,184,0.079,0.815,0.106,0.7322,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,4,0,1,10,7,1,1,8,0,20,1,1,2,2,32,29,14,0,4,12,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,12,7,0,1,1,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,1,15,5,24,23,4,18,1,0,1,0,13,6,1,5,10,106,27,1,0.1779603562055407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963836783374045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101914474041038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476970745963068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175411368896673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899821032079376,0.1271349140313988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374917297546503,0.0,0.0929769410745621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944210834017536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817934137993409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506144235985538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694244091722117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129553092338946,0.0,0.0,0.11878991965201148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934218233270036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18914369510427564,0.0,0.2639106983978455,0.0,0.3437504419289625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976039153779877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538811878774855,0.0,0.1953470306216948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025578458421132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856514632339176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17808887704648946,0.1814081720754387,0.0,0.13700257656339052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968206133627216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860428036419028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772552964941556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555451952438558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182289530793495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496562888386822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955725881524655,0.0,0.0,0.12641793111635746,0.0,0.0,0.11460063473690045
parenting,littyinmytitty,2020/01/21,"Kid at Mom’s Daycare Put His Face on Other Kid’s Bare Stomach My mom has a home daycare and she’s been working with kids for over twenty years. I trust her judgement, but I thought I would bring it to Reddit too.

Earlier today, a kid at her daycare, let’s call him Ray, took another kid (let’s call her Jamie) into a play tent. This is normal—my mom assumed he just wanted to play with her. She turned her back for a mere two seconds and when she peeked into the tent to make sure they were playing nicely, she saw that Ray had pushed up Jamie’s shirt and had his face to her stomach and was basically rubbing his face (namely his mouth) onto her belly.

I’ve watched this kid grow up. He just turned three a couple months ago and he’s great. He’s really bright and genuinely entertaining to talk to. He does (like any other little kid) occasionally hit another kid when upset, but he’s never done anything of this sort.

My mother says its normal to a certain extent, and that she would keep reminding him rules of consent (and urge his mom to do the same).

What does one do in this situation? Is reiterating ‘always keep your hands to yourself’ and ‘always ask before touching your friends’ all you can do, or is there something else you could do to ensure this doesn’t happen again? And also, is he just doing it because he’s a kid and kids are curious, or did he have to have learned it from somewhere?",4.532642897566498,5.429724075268818,5.19347292963592,83.9821392190153,69.89605734767025,7.594114318053198,26.8705904546312,7.669130373188453,1.4028164874551965,1103,34,221,12,19,356,156,279,0.012,0.8390000000000001,0.149,0.9903,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,4,1,1,11,13,0,1,9,0,27,8,8,1,4,40,40,18,0,5,7,5,3,1,1,2,0,1,1,10,14,15,0,2,3,4,0,5,2,1,0,4,10,7,29,12,28,24,3,25,0,0,3,0,55,11,0,4,10,139,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882995944728934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915923567305617,0.18553872700783733,0.0,0.0,0.0758176379271019,0.23381586789506054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174751437685523,0.0,0.10422894510326143,0.0,0.0,0.08572962327706073,0.0,0.06796382027615447,0.0,0.09487054763730664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22768935689207054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901641477134425,0.12336256471944257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195132882882987,0.11409390363883068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313634411758692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613759588922433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291911529167185,0.0,0.0,0.09859103823027007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183446715578743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981964764007573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280140062231533,0.0,0.05446882408646885,0.11174317555051023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442104418176695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5223071972704579,0.0889909759122945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598865838494084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184748283801753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554912197869755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207915254550233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142392801003251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866204180269119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532044741663328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583114487582996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507885760858884,0.0,0.0,0.08961216545975294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885113241458039,0.0,0.0,0.1056803407321771,0.0,0.1238704966608391,0.0,0.2425401763334491,0.10891041297634298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576022382721627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811667059848442,0.0,0.0,0.15839987878666267,0.0,0.0,0.07179648682310552
parenting,mommy2330,2020/01/21,"For all the partners who’s partner is a stay at home parent Just out of curiosity I have a few questions: 

Do you resent your partner for staying home while you work? 

Do you feel as though they aren’t contributing because they don’t have an income?

And on the flip side, 

Do you praise them for being the one to stay home? 

Why? 

Thank you in advance.",2.0062857142857133,4.2558847714285735,2.8071428571428565,92.74785714285716,79.85714285714286,5.142857142857143,22.857142857142854,6.1826913282559595,0.35471428571428604,274,9,57,2,7,86,51,70,0.024,0.8740000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.7476,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,6,3,3,2,3,1,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,1,6,11,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,10,2,10,10,2,10,1,0,0,0,16,5,0,1,1,43,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952379588236055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991399978191438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5900292230760935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286360004164754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177149793260205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21964574208010784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6269606447324028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051694261441056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263994523997446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769246673261543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274289995996398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brownjila,2020/01/21,"I have an explosive child and don't know how to handle it [help] I have a 14yo boy (I'm his step mother) who has extreme anger problems. Just now I asked him to collect his dirty laundry and he started getting agitated when I went around the house to find that there was a whole load of clothes he missed picking up. 

He starts by talking over me and tries to start fights by questioning every definitive response I give him. Every time he gets to the screaming stage, I try to disengage and tell him we will talk later when he's cooled down but he won't stop. He follows me around yelling at me to answer him and I can feel my adrenaline freaking me out. 

I don't think he'd do anything but yell but I'm 5'2 and he's 6'1 now and a lot louder than me. As usual, it ended with him being grounded for yelling at me, and him slamming doors, throwing things, and punching his punching bag in his room. 

I'm always needing his dad to talk to him because he doesn't have the same response to him as he does me. He mostly speaks respectfully to his dad and when I try to talk with him about after the fact, he ignores me or talks over me. Generally speaking he has more respect for male adults than female adults. 

What can I do to fix this?",3.028227091633468,4.541148266932275,3.831193227091634,89.94774601593626,74.29880478087651,6.294900398406376,26.494223107569734,6.742157984588678,0.9779416733067734,969,35,205,8,20,309,142,251,0.085,0.872,0.042,-0.6682,0,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,11,10,2,0,8,1,17,0,0,2,1,38,34,20,0,2,5,3,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,5,7,16,0,2,6,0,0,4,4,7,0,0,2,8,37,3,36,28,5,31,0,1,0,0,52,12,0,4,14,131,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816441097818305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686283688467403,0.2528395452011664,0.13276098315026186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656850157670481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427465974458772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257794700577749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23930054724711275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718049572820475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297953524235147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838962513793408,0.13622975616566949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518688535744216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386146459504114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804545422633141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073255400369826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529925256882064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588521312064442,0.0,0.0,0.15908466284230924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015480508738345,0.0,0.0,0.11872743698697125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.570714746123266,0.12412375018733232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943457045646718,0.0909948243288827,0.0,0.0,0.08280767393022746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28924815436187146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640489809504354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164548908064794,0.0,0.15855005262361355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,themamagirl,2020/01/21,"I don't have a bond with my son My husband and I had one girl (9F) and one boy (13M). My daughter is super interested in all the stereotypical girly things while my my son is into all the stereotypical boyish things. I have a strong bond with my daughter doing all the girly things and we hang out a lot, my son exclusively hangs out with his dad and always has. Him and his dad have a lot in common, football, video games, loves to sit and watch dad work on grandpa's car, working out, roughhousing etc. I try to do stuff with him but he blows me off and doesn't hide the fact that he'd rather do something with dad, my husband has a pretty good relationship with his daughter as well, most of their bonding is done during family dinner, movie and game nights. I've tried bonding with my son during those times as well but he doesn't want to conversate with me.

I could use some tips, I feel like I'm not being a good mom by having a great relationship with my daughter but not with my son",5.175746268656717,5.191617482587071,5.560410447761196,85.03076492537315,68.2039800995025,8.491044776119404,26.700248756218905,8.07648339933343,1.349430845771144,778,20,168,9,12,249,109,201,0.006,0.8140000000000001,0.179,0.9877,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,4,3,10,0,0,11,0,20,2,0,1,4,41,25,14,0,3,6,17,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,23,1,0,1,3,0,3,5,0,2,2,2,2,27,10,25,20,8,16,0,0,1,1,35,8,0,4,5,115,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589428951947152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039673857858727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713179209046752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821435860924008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539623896719068,0.0,0.08257887102421614,0.11667495306497312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27396805054463264,0.0,0.18005950682434252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978929541625122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776955347618673,0.1474015551276844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127695502884728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532635904953589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133803375036246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615389063654062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35068645065591864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573075863618535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696090378623484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255051766829493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523248093358674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217654317767037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105496932974318,0.0,0.0,0.09632963467797744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29368635376068875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377960013055456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rummhammmm,2020/01/21,"2 weeks in. I've been on this sub since I found out I was pregnant back in may of 2019. 
I had my son two weeks ago via c-section because he was breech. I have had the hardest time healing and caring for this tiny human and just trying to make sure he has everything he needs. My milk took a while to come in and he dropped a lot of weight in the hospital, fast! I feed him every chance that he will latch and it still doesn't seem to be enough. We had his two week check up and he wasn't up to his birth weight yet. His pediatrician isn't necessarily worried about it but wants to check him next week to make sure he is still gaining. 
I can't help but feel like I'm already failing. He's in the 24th percentile for weight and I just feel terrible. No one tells you that breastfeeding takes a lot out of you too, If I wasn't already exhausted from my new lack of sleep schedule, breastfeeding every hour completely knocks me on my ass. 
He's a good baby overall, relatively content and I am trying my hardest to be the best mom I can be for him.  
I need more sleep to be the best I can be, and I don't know how to get it right now. I'm too focused on keeping up with his feedings, but when can I implement sleep training too?",2.8120318237454107,3.8076426511627934,3.929820481436149,91.0732986536108,74.03875968992247,7.137005303957569,25.59445124439005,7.475848149327749,0.9777643410852712,956,31,221,11,19,311,141,258,0.08199999999999999,0.7759999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9373,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,2,0,4,13,10,0,0,9,0,26,12,4,3,2,37,44,15,0,5,6,2,5,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,13,6,1,5,0,2,2,7,3,0,3,10,5,30,7,32,27,7,36,0,1,0,1,24,14,1,5,20,140,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514930737324656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369019145980548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253685746509141,0.0,0.06543269330354133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252907489575416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943898861439802,0.0,0.0,0.0924628111600528,0.11254261581770167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110909601164216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087501839818654,0.0,0.09646912895486463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854737374302467,0.07668280989866992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176913767249762,0.0,0.0,0.056080055991697415,0.0,0.0,0.09003063376646107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194688787115239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570702695011537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540759481646888,0.0,0.0,0.058990558657206926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244028141109258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251109893307985,0.0,0.0,0.14329887106076564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571382284855528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591806158807731,0.0,0.1036684139516242,0.11415595669835925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273550114896007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166668861959514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771714809912582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879170636205291,0.0,0.32224874514606144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714416962834999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20233096475895504,0.0,0.0807053662159351,0.0,0.09381878084717386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259007644547558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192572781287543,0.14575190304605884,0.0,0.2097086838522932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331116378942224,0.0,0.3444026173639391,0.39212896642059497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900769029046016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,positivityseeker,2020/01/21,"Parents of A Single Child - does your child appear sad? Parents of a single child - does your child appear to be more depressed or down than his or her peers?  Our son is 7 years old, very sweet, cuddly, not too into sports, but plays basketball and martial arts.  We do our best to keep him busy and around other kids without over scheduling him and giving him time to be on his own or for unstructured play dates.  I feel that on the weekends when it is just the three of us, he tends to be more ""down"".  Curious if other parents have experienced this and if it is normal?  Is the answer just to have more playdates/time with other families?  I feel like that sounds like an easy fix, but not always easy to execute.  TIA!",5.199992006394883,5.887479007194242,5.289448441247,84.64809752198244,68.28057553956835,8.19216626698641,26.23581135091927,8.167268648758528,1.4701168665067943,558,15,111,7,9,175,88,139,0.026000000000000002,0.726,0.248,0.9903,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,2,0,1,5,8,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,27,17,12,0,3,12,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,8,8,0,1,3,5,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,5,14,6,20,14,7,16,0,2,0,0,23,7,0,7,9,83,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600740909672858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690660934835938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967600827321588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148559677124705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32814901750257536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17674968974773236,0.0,0.1896020172764501,0.1339435026925159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798583103436207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666504846402065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831971202845764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837012276526175,0.0,0.0,0.19674011064235544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6245592119159269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932742402081363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255284107613232,0.0,0.0,0.15469958917872978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073449145868756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073796206488985
parenting,chunk84,2020/01/21,"Daycare asked if everything was ok at home. So this morning I dropped my son off as usual and did the usual greetings and getting his coat and shoes off. The teacher said how are things with you, is every ok at home. I was pretty taken back and said oh everything is fine. She said ok, just checking in. All very breezy.  I thought this was a weird question to ask. Maybe she worded it poorly and didn't mean anything by it. Anyone else ever get asked this question? 

We are a normal family with no issues. Son is happy as can be and very well cared for. I guess I just have had it in my mind all day. 

The only thing I can think of that might be relevant is that after my kid watched the Grinch at Christmas he kept saying that frog is so angry. He now says I'm angry a lot, however I think this is just him after discovering a new emotion. I'm sure it's just a phase that will pass soon. He also has started to resist naps recently but this is pretty normal too.",2.295589728277097,4.031198487309645,3.6644371454165454,89.43030158256201,76.81725888324873,6.056613914601374,22.24813377127501,6.794906146795322,0.5432636010749485,750,21,156,7,17,246,121,197,0.042,0.845,0.113,0.8763,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,0,14,9,0,0,9,3,23,1,1,1,4,34,42,14,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,1,15,9,0,1,6,1,2,1,2,1,1,0,12,6,16,8,18,26,3,21,0,0,1,0,22,7,0,6,12,107,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298528663895583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130236814717592,0.11913774877789968,0.0956846350054761,0.0,0.3261050275949683,0.0,0.0,0.0894085007984899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855038102286312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498792608938873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713306298447087,0.1307940218156584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517763320331863,0.09796692485972652,0.0,0.20900141968304556,0.0,0.10961397069783456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149805274652475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128090312322715,0.0,0.0,0.12377718069402455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332671406634398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136116638958318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885307143898216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168141311799466,0.12665784979480665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233496803125462,0.11740487032259801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229937456114304,0.0,0.0,0.22785014235453385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843257786198258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365874904692808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605098131248921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480779568127834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318132085918509,0.1849335138145365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230023034881956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095880602908912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449623757660133,0.1490089884073046,0.0,0.09230957157002953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561215521759353,0.19187854031774207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045454264644739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loveryss,2020/01/21,"9 month old screams before bed For the past few nights my almost 9 month old has screamed his little head off for ~1 hour before actually falling asleep.
He hasn’t had a problem going to sleep before and he’s been able to fall asleep on his own since around 6 months.
I mean, he’s always whined a bit, but now it’s almost nonstop screaming. He calms down when I pick him up but I can’t always hold him, and he doesn’t fall asleep on your arms.

He is teething but it doesn’t seem to cause him any discomfort. Nap times are easier, but nights have got really hard and it’s emotionally draining me and my boyfriend who started a new job and needs to wake up early.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you.",5.0829166666666685,5.461072013888892,5.236111111111111,86.02000000000002,68.44444444444444,8.066666666666668,26.416666666666664,7.793537801064563,1.2324916666666663,566,15,120,6,9,178,96,144,0.113,0.7829999999999999,0.10400000000000001,0.5625,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,3,9,0,1,4,0,12,8,8,2,0,20,19,10,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,4,6,0,1,2,1,0,4,4,6,0,0,3,4,13,3,13,14,3,27,0,1,0,0,14,8,0,3,15,59,17,1,0.13784637081142112,0.0,0.1345181733339015,0.0,0.0,0.13470187818297827,0.0,0.0,0.2760664570012581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293984463152653,0.0,0.0,0.187480518210474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271249514990328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518913260867184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504925350290425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416061943537372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505861354857356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834126920299257,0.0,0.11024833524351592,0.1519761104600303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348327246046985,0.0,0.14147014513145995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575090821236827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679125298638767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381582770940225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15015510886197864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300829741517613,0.0,0.0,0.1022113373116464,0.0,0.13313288390477598,0.0,0.25871896207453765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892931558222777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158995858147635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190036030751195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830791489985115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254901588390983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402794240029893,0.0,0.1379459218118583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756837075170073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269104179991612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037932735128914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792210681884184,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skyofromantic2,2020/01/21,"Tips for children who claim to see ""scary things""? My niece comes to several people  with stories about how she saw something scary. She is 7 years old and has not watched anything too horrible that I know of. As in she doesn't have access to horror films or anything that's intended for above her age range. 
She refuses to sleep by herself in her room or go to the bathroom by herself. She claims to see ghosts sometimes, or says she feels like something is there with her but she can see it. 
It saddens me to have her be so scared, and I really want to help because I know how bad a child's fear can get for them. I don't know what I can do or say to help put her at ease.",4.043920634920634,4.38859675714286,4.383809523809525,91.33896825396828,70.71428571428572,7.650793650793651,27.698412698412696,7.3871296695380915,1.1890317460317466,526,17,120,5,9,165,90,140,0.17,0.736,0.094,-0.9191,0,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,2,2,0,12,1,1,3,0,20,24,11,1,1,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,7,5,0,1,4,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,9,22,1,22,22,0,10,0,0,5,0,23,4,0,4,4,78,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29568537759212343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000638046589104,0.1095174512216947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547588965055455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021644631085168,0.09084015275053167,0.12834724460540514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386354873227004,0.0,0.1021034105143313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24084106538085065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962049384232604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877715049088534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885201640745189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455178345123433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060525544320466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509309688768372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28574146652991833,0.17986834584052142,0.0,0.4294909357696625,0.0,0.0,0.20296166469726576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978709340333218,0.0,0.0,0.2766180059933732,0.17768571002520833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935635836878444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596655803134293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569344118075245
parenting,Cayla_marie123,2020/01/21,"Trying to get toddler back in her bed... My daughter just turned 3, she was in her crib until 18month(sleep regression) and has been in our bed since. Any tips/ideas in getting her back in her own bed?!? We’ve redecorated her room and bedding(her favorite, Frozen) and she does fine going to bed but ALWAYS wakes up in the night wanting back in our bed. Has anyone dealt with this and had ideas or tricks to making the transition easier?",4.186167247386759,6.340144585365857,4.232229965156797,85.58402439024394,72.65853658536584,7.124738675958188,23.90940766550523,7.957251820313856,1.2531407665505228,344,10,65,5,7,106,56,82,0.02,0.887,0.09300000000000001,0.7337,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,2,0,5,1,1,1,0,11,11,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,10,1,13,8,1,15,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,1,5,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966274235414,0.0,0.0,0.15500571077497996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937960540677604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5258109413791922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994701499137332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381764780747707,0.0,0.1295424637368588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146286953530349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215043841252945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21390444719332102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885527352780632,0.0,0.2281026942218291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475499411655902,0.24793117704486306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344437852951859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,c_east,2020/01/21,"Am I a bad parent? I'll start off by saying my daughter thinks she is transgender. Female to male. I don't believe her. There is no way that she is transgender because I watched her grow up and experiment with so many girly things and never have a problem with it. She only started telling me she wanted to be a boy when she was 11, when she started hitting puberty and everything became confusing for her as it normally does for the average preteen. On top of that, there was another transgender female to male going to her school at the time. I told her that I wasn't sure what she wanted me to say or do about it. I'm highly against letting children transition, especially not her. She's impressionable and she tends to claim things about herself that just aren't true to be popular. She was diagnosed with BPD at 14 so that was a huge eye opener as well.  

Now for the issue. My daughter alters the look of her facial structure with my makeup. I previously told her that it was okay for her to use it as long as she didn't ruin it, but I wasn't aware that she was going to make herself look like a boy. after she got a few strangers saying ""have a good day sir"" while out in public with me, I decided to revoke my permission for her to use my makeup. Never have I seen my daughter have a meltdown as great as she did. She screamed at me for being ""unfair"" and ""unsupportive"" and she went on an entire rant about how her father and I threw three of her packers out in the trash and how we ""couldn't even bring ourselves to buy at least a binder."" I'm not going to entertain something that I think is completely false. She told me she hated me and stormed off to spend the night at a friend's house. When she came back, her hair was cut short. I'm at my wits end here and I'm sick of my daughter's entitlement issues and her negligence to respect any of my wishes. I'm considering taking away everything except for her basic necessities from her until she learns to be grateful for what we've done for her. Before I do that however I want to know if her outrageous behavior has any validity or good reasoning to it.",5.999804964539006,5.761881938534284,6.710227541371161,78.34562500000001,66.49408983451536,9.981442080378253,31.572990543735234,9.621722640351123,2.724784160756501,1672,59,333,31,24,553,206,423,0.081,0.826,0.09300000000000001,0.6037,2,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,0,1,18,20,3,1,17,1,32,5,3,6,4,52,68,30,0,8,8,6,1,1,1,0,2,4,0,6,20,21,0,0,6,1,2,8,11,8,1,1,20,10,69,12,68,41,2,48,0,1,5,0,62,21,0,4,19,245,89,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623289725457367,0.11274280207483615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101742102452192,0.08267529518923733,0.08977367949564925,0.06554244249225387,0.0,0.09149055170032053,0.12113683172407995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541612333339698,0.0,0.0,0.12297282627581504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273138171068252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934070999626507,0.0,0.0,0.10912928538954758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940903976758437,0.11002902849751246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522971442058867,0.0,0.0,0.07101513165888786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19326187010125226,0.10517398549169296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306873277650799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833161794009927,0.18036328135861968,0.08599258010399596,0.11853982034070228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615252286649512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359948066785355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240622215275473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244433172720955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059089502558603374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994522401467216,0.0,0.05252823863935503,0.0,0.0,0.0951507254960052,0.18057737019953116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176961195938439,0.10900715413687947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585020307219084,0.0,0.0,0.10089907943496973,0.10534556339629954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177286738721502,0.0,0.0,0.11938686691495765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288093942132101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054719983994707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565097173387221,0.0,0.10881473249343293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277319983206076,0.0,0.0,0.2283070103221932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133516559220053,0.0,0.08084073200969602,0.0,0.0939761415573041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286138267836596,0.1377873691248788,0.0,0.0,0.06269505775931944,0.0,0.0,0.3082163688385079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857233868670192,0.0,0.0,0.1902520637139031,0.08534339276493369,0.0,0.0,0.09667228413901632,0.0996709743183872,0.0,0.0,0.1236412759920522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alive-and-hopeful,2020/01/21,"Parenting is so difficult these days What happened to the days of coalition parenting.where the priority as parents was to stand together in raising& disciplining children. Instead of trying to find favour with our kids even if they are losing their path.
Sometimes they won't even like you.At some point,they can even stop being the bundle of joy, you birthed .but they still your kids& you still love them.
Who said parenting was easy 
Be a parent first, then a friend after.they will thank you later, that could even happen when you have departed this world.",6.0500000000000025,8.948747939393943,4.552525252525252,82.01545454545456,69.60606060606061,7.632323232323233,29.181818181818183,8.515128840125781,2.4087454545454547,462,18,75,8,9,133,78,99,0.063,0.746,0.191,0.955,5,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,5,5,2,9,8,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,0,8,16,6,0,2,2,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,5,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,1,11,6,9,8,1,14,0,1,0,1,21,2,0,2,11,55,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107532766826101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449529343703725,0.0,0.0,0.18496560476321086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788642133988173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106736254561827,0.12197816350794648,0.0,0.0,0.11079247959638693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25362086040946186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005925831735714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043080897677314,0.0,0.0,0.129426429613104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6369263897326565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556179237421964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640869491988342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418288209924884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22904297542062635,0.11989098020172413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202583131958176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736094039714917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InTraining420,2020/01/21,"Ques for Parents of Kids in Speech Therapy All - my son has had speech therapy for about a year and it's done wonders for him. The thing I've struggled with is that I don't get any notes at the end, the homework is unclear and I can probably do this with a virtual therapist (saving time, energy, gas, etc). I've tried out a few virtual therapists but I haven't really liked any of them - I am trying to figure out if this is something that others would be interested in? I'm a budding entrepreneur and really passionate about this space as it's changed my son's life, but I want to make sure this is something others would be interested in as well before diving in. It wouldn't be for all issues, but definitely for articulation, stuttering, etc it could be an option.",7.00346026490066,6.345759039735099,8.02555463576159,71.14177566225166,64.56291390728478,12.053311258278143,34.1067880794702,11.45678717892309,3.901231125827815,609,23,117,17,8,208,89,151,0.061,0.773,0.166,0.9457,1,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,3,9,0,1,8,0,20,2,0,1,3,25,25,9,0,6,4,3,0,1,1,3,1,2,1,1,13,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,2,9,7,22,15,5,11,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,4,4,85,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481475816526133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439876462063327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708387618962564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610548240918962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163161362182846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398915596795771,0.0,0.3522987621056007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251925410115933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485256678488688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115605627719492,0.07716349119799218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542888861615307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753781907213272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029041385888127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023660225004671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431861125412101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511742814927374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886041033864852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36124560237388814,0.3667704617365655,0.10493101739543152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920984533820694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144673023323283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315950064231243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201068110176354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712835990561576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22439786166696468,0.0,0.0,0.101710798276582
parenting,312185ag,2020/01/21,"need help 4 year old refuses to use toilet   

hello, I have a 4 year old daughter with some speech and behavioral delays who outright refuses the potty. She was born premature and did hit her milestones a little late. I think that I may have waited too long to start her (2 years) and she was just not interested. I asked her pediatrician and she said not to force her and she'll go when she's ready. So we would periodically check back in with her and try to restart toilet training and it was always met with either fit throwing or just plain disinterest. At three she started preschool to help with the delays and I was really hopeful because I thought that maybe her seeing other kids who use the toilet would make her want to learn, no such luck. From there we tried talking with her and stressing how important using the potty is, this eventually turned everything into a game for her. She would giggle at me when I was trying to talk with her while changing her pull-up and make up a wide range of excuses/reasons like ""I'm afraid I'll fall in"" or ""I don't wanna be a big kid!"". From there we tried just leaving her on her potty with a book and we did get a few pee's and even one poop but after that it stopped (and she got a special toy for pooping in the potty finally). She'd sit for like an hour until her little butt had a red ring around it and then get up and go in her undies. That's the other thing, she doesn't care if she pees or poops in her undies, I have to find the trail or smell it. We've tried offering rewards, sticker charts, tough love, read all of the articles and watched all of the videos suggested by the teachers and our pediatrician, letting her run without undies, she even went without tv for 2 months (we were trying to leverage it as a reward). Now we are at almost 5 years old, and she fights me tooth and nail to just get her to sit on the toilet, letting me know if she has to go, or even just putting her undies on, as a matter of fact she just threw a 30 min tantrum because I put undies on her. On top of that she's been pooping in her sleep every few days for like a week and half which has resulted in a nasty diaper rash that is super uncomfortable for her, first it's awful because it looks like I'm not even trying to train her but also looks like I’m not changing her, second I tried to talk to her about how if she'd just use the toilet this wouldn't happen, she doesn't care! I don't know how to make a diaper anymore unappealing than a nasty uncomfortable rash on her butt. I know that we've been inconsistent in her training in the past because we were trying to wait for her to be ready and we tried being consistent for months and it's a constant battle which is stressful for me but most importantly for her too. I feel like we're stuck now. I'd like to add that I have two adult children and I've never encountered something like this. 

I just want my girl to thrive and be happy. I’m also worried that this is a sign of things to come (meaning she’s going to be super difficult cooperating with important things in the future). I’ve seen other people on reddit rail pretty hard against parents of kids who are too old for diapers. The typical consensus is that the parents are lazy and just don’t care. The really upsetting ones are the teachers who trash talk the lazy parents (which I’m sure there are lazy parents) who send their kid to kindergarten in a pull-up. I am really worried about her going to kindergarten in a pull-up and me being pigeonholed as a lazy shitty parent.  Has anybody dealt with anything similar? Any suggestions? Any advice is greatly appreciated; I am at my wits end and often left in tears over this.",6.160882537377473,5.750870133964825,6.512854549655106,80.47204363180306,66.19891745602165,9.428971253176673,30.338327997623683,8.841846274778883,2.18095139113502,2915,91,594,41,41,944,312,739,0.126,0.754,0.12,-0.8578,5,0,1,0,1,0,64.0,9,0,1,6,35,33,3,4,41,1,53,13,12,11,5,124,107,52,0,12,27,6,2,8,0,6,0,4,0,7,37,48,0,7,9,6,1,14,14,9,0,7,20,13,84,24,95,70,7,91,0,0,6,3,96,36,2,15,47,399,121,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05832184949426743,0.0,0.0,0.05976422367983584,0.0,0.0,0.09545745878227016,0.049661303319185376,0.0,0.0,0.0811734083716751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591898159916572,0.0,0.0,0.04911428696024055,0.05313080834312419,0.055795847485718086,0.0,0.0,0.04589278900056019,0.0,0.1455295914937322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18255336708353,0.0,0.12627407753641182,0.05141189540396133,0.0,0.06449646596472773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038490803881906094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05286170651685334,0.0,0.0,0.15768107972803996,0.0,0.05028577116793687,0.0,0.05363951955725857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030177679843580774,0.042637775688735814,0.0,0.06538015969404516,0.0545494731684892,0.05076660144971202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354621398767547,0.0,0.16959703061602102,0.0,0.04773420312916167,0.06580107093186838,0.0,0.0,0.05277776271365736,0.0635340038804344,0.0534645316653736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000894256761007,0.0,0.0,0.05927900342698295,0.058776047849289186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984011753521891,0.0,0.06732538451208335,0.06319601822285888,0.06484610174327493,0.12206047660974112,0.0,0.233266043204724,0.11963673189648348,0.0,0.052817860020254896,0.1002379142387623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386652643609941,0.0,0.11951723852083265,0.0,0.059959916860786826,0.06501263217687105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527731312426428,0.0,0.0,0.04425442548915348,0.04603145569586643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505104178379688,0.0,0.08088592441240047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313563187301065,0.0,0.05697448218888719,0.041376899213947584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06071939291740217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199964423618003,0.0,0.0,0.059699471091625475,0.0,0.11470398909239225,0.0613643931387849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05677250460343205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047559878764811714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059726422517513415,0.0,0.0,0.04594713555118316,0.0,0.0,0.08448832208043619,0.0,0.0,0.0498979279100208,0.13673408267933787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625082271814005,0.0,0.0,0.1918847672075635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895283730006022,0.03824266150919985,0.0,0.04738188933895004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052105652163913,0.06491831359538935,0.05830193125349455,0.0,0.0,0.20618890289894232,0.0,0.0,0.07040553688142878,0.0,0.04787435921160685,0.0,0.0,0.05532703552378079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506518123127794,0.0,0.0,0.12122261698791613,0.0,0.1271919542567688,0.0,0.0,0.15373640498130742
parenting,jesmonster2,2020/01/21,"My 3 yo won't get dressed! My 3.4 year old has A LOT of trouble dressing herself. Unless we hold her down and force her it takes 15-20 minutes to get her to get her shoes and jacket on. She knows how.we offer help if she needs it. She just *cannot* focus on it.  It doesn't matter if we are patient, if we put stickers on a chart, if we get mad, if we time her, or if we bribe her. She takes soooooo long. Her daycare spoke to us about her being the last to get dressed every day, and there are two year olds in her group.  Today I watched a  two year old get her boots and coat on in a quarter of the time it took my daughter.  
 

She also will not sit at the table and eat at home, but I know she has no problem with it at daycare.  I don't know what I have done wrong. I don't know what to do.",1.9833238095238104,2.296243937142858,3.313500000000001,97.28091666666668,75.34285714285714,5.833333333333334,23.154761904761905,3.1291,-0.20255238095238104,599,15,154,0,12,196,96,175,0.10099999999999999,0.888,0.011000000000000001,-0.9236,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,7,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,7,0,14,2,1,0,0,32,29,15,0,8,11,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,8,12,1,1,4,0,0,2,7,4,0,3,3,2,32,0,20,23,1,25,0,0,1,0,29,10,0,8,12,103,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255986101467123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077382931746393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440388518279888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402512248713314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859019684546285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412247708759312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434354916028524,0.0,0.1411864063737073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094159503124454,0.11473221375902087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456168556786434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966288844437065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436632288117104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430887566190835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468129812276744,0.0,0.14149531159536738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116569850450695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414802999275735,0.0,0.1334170753596054,0.0,0.15638139765004586,0.0,0.0,0.2749898169298069,0.0,0.1693081341000989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389095120145582,0.0,0.2719203181973652
parenting,Bjpembo,2020/01/21,"iPhone parental control app suggestions I currently have iOS’s screen time app set up on my 12yo’s device but I want to add a second layer of protection just to make sure he’s as safe as possible. 

I’ve tried to do some searching but most of the info I’ve found is not as current as I’d like it to be.  

Can anyone suggest apps they like and are currently using?

He is currently being treated for depression due to a breakup with a girlfriend he’s had  since kindergarten and has gone as far making a plan for suicide that was prevented by his school.  

He has also had some behavior problems related to this situation and his group of friends that are not good influences for him, so he has not been allowed internet access because of that as well as being caught accessing inappropriate videos on YouTube and other sites. 

For obvious reasons I need to heavily monitor his phone. Right now it’s locked down to only phone calls and texts but I’d like for him to have a little more freedom if I can properly filter the bad stuff. 

Thanks for any advice you can offer.",7.38793148880105,6.8564560144927595,7.5964339042599915,74.11715415019766,63.73429951690821,11.198770311813787,36.209486166007906,10.637119530657019,3.807197101449274,853,36,158,19,11,278,132,207,0.098,0.748,0.154,0.8724,6,0,0,0,0,1,9.0,0,1,1,2,5,13,0,0,7,0,20,0,0,7,2,34,29,18,1,4,8,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,4,3,1,0,2,3,3,1,1,7,1,12,10,32,19,4,18,0,1,1,0,22,8,0,4,10,101,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738723136245832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516801570179333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344538364409174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692872047175688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156844341515696,0.11065789039714928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853605624079389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035992835499306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634995085014236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990362738991392,0.14024821745236732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225722036992395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660564904090667,0.1819389201851004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423429323674076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460084138498987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380603568117635,0.0,0.0,0.2015655555634165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464574183453293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17369794724671386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18664119703879456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502406931777302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371620409594144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016198195002536,0.20404527406498785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078063297654734,0.1985623598774462,0.0,0.17108815633173824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712675415960376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585053846282344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324571478073182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567820591256335,0.0,0.0,0.10707002065505204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632156296885278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,voluntarybutler,2020/01/21,"What gadgets or items did you wish you had for your newborn? My best friend/cousin is having a baby shower in a month’s time for her baby girl, who is due in April.

I want to get her a gift that she will actually want. Not just another bag of newborn clothes. 

Is there anything you wish you’d been given (or not given) as a gift when you had your baby? Is there anything you had for your baby that you’d really recommend? 

I live in the UK and have a budget of around £50, but will spend more for the right gift!",3.597896825396827,3.8953986574074086,4.740105820105821,88.55833333333334,71.68518518518519,7.652910052910053,23.761904761904763,7.447530270364453,0.7771571428571438,397,9,90,4,7,131,66,108,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.9334,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,10,0,1,5,1,0,0,7,0,15,0,0,0,0,12,22,6,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,7,0,16,1,12,11,3,10,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,2,5,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.23597341097396735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25356073041191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979809748295372,0.21526374713528276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537665396291814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18682317779561666,0.0,0.12633667220757314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135242278314308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301185206572344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549108152338031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20650593491208355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100239080555976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852537004573742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5561432157557251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shadysamonthelamb,2020/01/21,"What's the deal with TV and babies? I am basically raising my son alone since my fiancé works offshore and is gone for 28 day stretches (then back for two weeks and repeat). Sometimes I just need to get a small thing done like ya know eating. My son enjoys to sit in his swing periodically and watch some TV. He is 2 months old.

I read to him several times a day. I hold him, walk around and explain about all the art on the walls and different rooms, etc. I talk to him a lot.

I am reading that TV is detrimental to babies though but I know basically every single parent I including my own, my aunts, uncles, friends etc have all plopped their kids down in front of the TV periodically and have been fine.

So what's the deal? Does TV screw kids up or not? What have ya'll done when it comes to this and is there anything I should know?

Thanks.",2.9440574809805566,4.641326402366868,3.780579036348268,89.45823964497042,74.91715976331359,6.722062552831784,22.130600169061708,7.447530270364453,0.5777215553677091,658,17,144,8,14,210,110,169,0.019,0.89,0.091,0.9179,2,1,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,1,1,1,8,6,1,0,8,0,13,2,0,0,2,26,22,14,0,2,4,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,7,11,1,1,4,8,0,4,1,1,0,1,4,1,20,5,17,17,8,27,0,0,1,1,18,10,1,3,13,92,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803670320856109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556815686830278,0.13583700567555734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733190655931365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144234288095166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681520791467028,0.31462614822491936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942355027262015,0.0,0.0,0.13353209955841708,0.3123040724785415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15613715230688985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34035525498171826,0.0,0.0,0.12856323471357076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789026903169313,0.0,0.0797217157467122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515775955915157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454752200945833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972613607872632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179548295247634,0.0,0.0,0.11314318064796812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011701172454565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943258177926138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052615853735778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17238270190089391,0.0,0.12622361105183458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15091491700667353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226456599525836,0.0,0.14048391037098884,0.0,0.0,0.10137368342613726,0.0,0.14991840881535273,0.0,0.08897616442626098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490577691841533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239809268368294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108697318735657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TinyCuttlefish,2020/01/21,"Almost 6 year old's recent behavior at school is entirely out of character, and I don't know what to do. My son is an only child who will be turning 6 next month. He is typically very kind, attentive, and excited to learn. This year he started kindergarten and up until returning from winter break was a wonderful student. 

Last week he returned from break and seems to be having difficulties paying attention and doing his work to the point he has been sent to other classrooms a few times. This is extremely uncharacteristic of him and has me somewhat worried. He is typically very independent and enjoys learning /doing his work. As far as I know he hasn't experienced any big life changes recently(aside from being off of school for 2 weeks), and I'm unsure of what could be causing this.

Does anyone else have any experience in a situation like this? What can I do to help him? While I hope this is just a phase I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to help guide him.",6.665614973262034,6.921463368983963,7.3833155080213935,72.40673796791447,65.0427807486631,10.650267379679144,32.508021390374324,10.436869588844218,3.323282352941176,778,29,144,18,11,259,117,187,0.032,0.82,0.14800000000000002,0.9683,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,6,0,27,1,0,3,1,27,39,12,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,11,9,0,0,8,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,13,6,24,30,2,27,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,5,17,93,24,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342740604557462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083893125268895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713478308466946,0.1569916985617286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739884747809388,0.16208613593809712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233347005379301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408359989555949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279954061652052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987827598171624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205399882450736,0.0,0.0,0.1521817430021657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595547488635428,0.16841109007512478,0.12489451281601728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082236117281766,0.07485541040226655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227534554349377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229850994098955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295089878582356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077831029051098,0.0,0.0,0.11653049305662493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484215001352668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128597809693756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31013305108258943,0.0,0.13948546856485536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222537259617754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844969866410199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440776247354767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934364449166092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665904527016034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528446128202768,0.09037295416763057,0.0,0.2458072170159937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661602385204102,0.22309154601356485,0.15560205197467789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19733693821084652
parenting,Ysena,2020/01/21,"Worried I passed on a genetic condition, just venting my anxiety. I'm not here for medical advice or anything, I just have a lot of anxiety right now about this. I've had psoriasis since I was 9, and for anyone who might not know, it's not a 'skin condition' but an autoimmune disease which, basically, causes patches where skin regenerates much faster than normal skin would, causing red flaky plaques. There are treatments of varying effectiveness (and cost) but no cure. There is no aspect of my life that I can think of that hasn't been negatively impacted by this disease, and I've spent 24 years feeling disfigured and subhuman. And now I'm afraid I've passed it on.

I had pretty much determined not to have kids specifically because I didn't want to pass it on, but things happen and now I have an awesome 4 year old who is the light of my life. But a few days ago I noticed a small red, dry spot on her back that looks suspiciously to me like the beginnings of a psoriasis plaque and I am utterly terrified. Often times this disease can be triggered by sickness and we've all been sick in this house to some degree lately. There's nothing I can do but wait and see what happens with it, but even though I don't even know for sure what it is, my mind is going crazy thinking about how I've doomed my innocent girl to the crippling lack of self-esteem that I've lived with. I'm so scared and heartbroken.

I just needed to get some of this anxiety out of me, I'm grateful that this subreddit is here and I'm allowed to vent.",6.956672185430462,6.28734992384106,7.283170529801327,76.46429221854304,64.66225165562913,10.993708609271524,35.10016556291391,10.411451182825502,3.441694701986755,1215,49,241,26,16,397,167,302,0.157,0.7559999999999999,0.087,-0.9699,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,1,21,5,0,2,11,0,25,8,3,6,2,53,46,21,0,5,14,0,4,1,0,2,5,0,0,2,22,14,0,1,6,0,2,4,10,3,0,0,7,9,20,2,32,36,8,26,1,1,4,0,5,9,0,6,14,162,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697416486902753,0.12425375631102945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32169290499780895,0.0,0.0,0.09801131316485866,0.0,0.11534936731006735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778338652446373,0.0,0.08544736848813426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879898999706063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039915164864294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851641743075874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087502419938961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732339289004695,0.0,0.07966280848202438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24790674623819975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617393242489205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406940318106865,0.0,0.15811978526050022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19801483692816144,0.06848081323151914,0.0,0.12377418089533385,0.0,0.11770892650118392,0.0,0.0,0.11916896841892012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120824291376,0.0,0.14870002462921011,0.14153346051910146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060846586067225,0.1039355408941759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733850665051972,0.13449852848235638,0.15958641173327934,0.14708662178880172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426050135298436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970586758869813,0.0,0.0,0.14033632681310654,0.0,0.11169869837071272,0.0,0.14622965545658956,0.0,0.0,0.11595148035573725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211017023337515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312385031947347,0.1796327334614597,0.13771798548512612,0.0,0.08173524664386074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267690153959474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235116743674153,0.0,0.09957395534980364,0.0,0.0,0.18053196070497574
parenting,ivanaiandrej,2020/01/21,"Im afraid im wasting time with my baby me again.  My baby is now 7 mo.   We survived the worst part of first 6 months, constant crying, leaps, colic etc. Now i have fully aware little fella, i enjoy being with him most of the time, but since i spend all day only with him, it gets kinda boring doing all the same stuff over and over again. I feel im living the groundhog day. My husband is absent for work, he comes home every other weekend, so i pretty much moved to my parents house in the village. We live in the big city normally, but i  just cant be 24 hours a day alone with the baby, so i decided to come here.
I feel like im not enjoying my baby like i should, because im exhausted and bored here. Im stuck in this big house, nowhere to go but for a walk in the neibourhood.  So by the 2 pm im already tired, and cranky, and sick of playing with rattles. Of course i feel guilty, and i know there will be time i will be sorry i felt this way. I just wish things could be normal, us living like a normal family. There s a reason grown up people dont live with their parents..",2.820394736842108,3.501827574561404,4.406973684210527,88.84756578947369,73.69298245614036,6.752631578947369,22.583333333333336,6.6274283507984215,0.4730385964912282,829,19,183,6,16,279,132,228,0.155,0.7390000000000001,0.106,-0.8654,2,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,1,3,13,11,0,1,13,0,15,3,0,1,2,39,26,11,0,6,6,3,4,3,0,3,3,0,1,0,6,15,0,0,7,2,1,6,3,5,0,1,2,4,26,6,23,15,8,32,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,2,18,114,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938406184707111,0.09523769991432032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05260961457404442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868508728494478,0.0,0.09326307264288414,0.0,0.06890606285601633,0.0,0.09479998548893752,0.1669752249906722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114667859964692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625085357897273,0.0,0.0,0.07271414734418995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135895280694548,0.0,0.13091243552715434,0.06165500561789353,0.0828645823517202,0.0,0.0,0.07340943675000977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508984701771942,0.0,0.04904808333222351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656912147158823,0.0,0.08499124313613904,0.19916455382435147,0.0,0.0,0.652555672521093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04742996807522901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649011620507572,0.08649845422322043,0.3048291394497805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888637107641397,0.09172661713809907,0.06344276395374766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253676363435184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563745372114052,0.0,0.0,0.1916589255684502,0.09345792857497892,0.0,0.059831755111017876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780135574535908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873403789470959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713908783703775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660933890833756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879648776758147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057335994772487776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509722264991146,0.0991928041998696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038120935541349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850344340364012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924439230585093,0.0,0.0,0.06282973942248575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Spivey_Consulting,2020/01/21,"Why college admissions is going to get dramatically less competitive soon There are two driving factors, but this is very good news for future applicants especially in the 7th grade and younger -- not just in respect to competition but also tuition and scholarships. 

[https://blog.spiveyconsulting.com/how-will-the-upcoming-demographic-cliff-impact-admissions/](https://blog.spiveyconsulting.com/how-will-the-upcoming-demographic-cliff-impact-admissions/)",32.92340909090909,36.97567543181818,21.149090909090926,-17.38136363636363,10.590909090909092,16.072727272727274,53.81818181818181,14.554592549557764,8.36749090909091,405,14,28,8,2,105,39,44,0.066,0.826,0.10800000000000001,0.2874,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,21,1,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817519975229573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494057178703358,0.0,0.2712999320851539,0.4003946580968077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4663203692910704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938796055579373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4307514763859892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sevenliveslater,2020/01/21,"You guys. I totally forgot... I had my second baby this morning. 

And I completely 100% forgot how teeny tiny they are. 

My son will turn two tomorrow and is 32lbs. This tiny 7lb 12 oz baby doesn’t even seem possibly real. 

I just needed to share that. Hopefully it helps you reflect on your kids being babies again!",0.7988888888888894,3.353263606557377,3.1090710382513684,84.84408014571952,93.2622950819672,5.9897996357012735,18.25318761384335,7.3871296695380915,0.9739821493624764,244,7,44,5,9,83,51,61,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.7777,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,12,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,10,2,2,7,1,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,2,31,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309944386135216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085099399990012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125822415115975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116000200268705,0.0,0.0,0.3135509084305899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340797670677737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558924824475964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593237686862864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873918678980729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433795277393421,0.3083827738485552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heyoitslate,2020/01/21,"I know WFH with infant is not an option, but how can I convince my husband? Hey Everyone! I'm 35weeks FTM and freaking out about this ""plan"" my husband is insisting upon for when baby comes. My husband has his own business and work 5 days a week 9-10 hours a day. This includes driving time, eating, chatting with clients, difficult horses (he's a farrier), etc. I currently WFH 30 hours a week with a flexible schedule, but still need to be available for the occasional phone call/skype conference during work hours. I've read a lot of the threads about working from home with an infant and have learned that it's pretty much impossible. We also have animals to care for (live on a ranch) and are outside of town so even basic errands take a lot of time. 

My husband has come up with a plan where he pushes his schedule back so I work from 5am - 9am M-F while he takes care of the baby and then I get my other two hours/day in while baby is napping throughout the day. I am a morning person, so this may be feasible, but I am VERY worried that I'll have no time to take care of myself, will be exhausted and never have time for any sort of self care. Even feeding the horses is self-care for me, but with a newborn, dogs, horses, chickens and working 30 hours/week I'm already freaking out. We can't afford child care (even a mommy's helper for two days a week will break the bank) and we don't have family that will commit to a schedule to help us out. I want to cut my hours drastically or be a SAHM for a few years until baby is in pre-school, but husband keeps insisting that I'm tough and can handle more than other moms. The resentment is already building and I feel like I'm being trampled and expected to lose all sense of myself so he doesn't have to increase his workload. How can I show him that he's pushing me too hard and expecting too much? I feel like I'm hitting my heads agains the wall when I talk to him about it.",4.572741116751267,4.9458257360406135,5.441171573604064,84.12235634517769,69.55837563451777,8.131411167512692,29.973197969543147,7.9765259561132025,1.898092304568528,1516,56,312,18,25,497,194,394,0.092,0.787,0.121,0.9303,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,4,0,0,8,23,17,2,0,26,0,32,4,1,2,3,52,55,31,0,4,7,6,3,2,0,4,1,0,1,6,12,26,2,1,4,4,1,6,6,8,0,2,0,3,32,9,44,45,10,48,0,1,0,0,32,11,0,6,32,199,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18648760919649948,0.0675716869712028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746040394168976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497246442846409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628020324783306,0.0,0.4307482143867316,0.0,0.0,0.14557221812311386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27246572288400306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646084319010677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423574689021856,0.1674270931248071,0.0,0.0,0.0807398671908512,0.0,0.0,0.07965562276991059,0.0,0.08544776958954038,0.1207283943545642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044145846534172965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569211759543698,0.0,0.08671761484910409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663611090262589,0.0,0.08475671140736124,0.0,0.3328474700534789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751042231410388,0.0,0.0,0.046436974845954736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256128045684094,0.0,0.07461181008224375,0.0,0.0,0.09452978330037294,0.0,0.14367152139569633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989610839817664,0.0,0.0,0.12422905405313404,0.06265296026922752,0.06516878104212834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377893879877889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596314763950587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845191989062031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551480003838892,0.0,0.0,0.17629620656581235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747888068095169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059218014941187,0.06791495179997313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970819650917033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16508127908426726,0.0,0.10163868483809822,0.0,0.0,0.06971832389561032,0.0498381264270048,0.0,0.2711114463645842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30757168384682426,0.08581012770956857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441286812992571
parenting,farmathekarma,2020/01/21,"1.5 Year old sleep advice? So, our son has always been a fantastic sleeper.  He would sleep straight through the night from about 3 months on.  However, for the past month things have taken a turn.  He doesn't want to go to sleep, and for some reason cannot stay asleep.  He will wake up 3 or 4 times per night, often waking up at 3 am and not going back to sleep until his nap at 11 am.  

We usually put him to bed around 8 or 8:30 pm, with him usually falling asleep in our arms then moving him to his crib.  For the first couple of weeks he would wake up, we'd hold him/rock him back to sleep, and he'd be good until the morning.  However, he's recently discovered how to climb out of his crib and his pack and play.  Now, he wakes up, and we hear the little pitter patter of his feet running around his room. 

So my question is two-fold: 

1) Does anyone have any advice for helping him to sleep through the night? 

2) What on earth should he be sleeping on? We've lowered the base of his crib as low as it goes, with nothing else in there.  Yet, he still climbs out.  Should we just put his mattress on the floor, since he can get out anyway? At least then we aren't risking injury.

Thanks!",2.6417738791422987,3.9533762139917736,3.2859605804635064,94.28331384015594,74.92592592592592,6.268052848169807,21.431448992852506,6.5966054737557815,0.15611604938271562,912,21,207,7,19,286,143,243,0.036000000000000004,0.887,0.077,0.8938,3,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,7,0,0,3,15,5,0,1,10,0,20,15,15,2,0,32,28,17,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,0,3,17,0,1,2,2,0,9,4,2,0,1,2,1,22,3,44,17,2,56,0,1,0,0,34,23,0,5,23,123,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19087278965178528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126449679213353,0.0,0.0,0.06641505300242632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828912875321895,0.0,0.0,0.17388381357664706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019559114459666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806365772347937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546666127775271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158596601188255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830731786103538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102555040127092,0.0,0.11100971121816372,0.08191615646013334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007473089617874,0.0,0.06546230185340007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788525638298327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559093779111249,0.1038016634671404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27495390576459144,0.0,0.09371150158146507,0.0,0.1024822230094644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323159715149094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635913384517906,0.10940633449790052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041513605325583,0.09643168483062696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078889380678464,0.0,0.6841436173994854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409711772695576,0.07799481259334176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991613868393372,0.0,0.0,0.06488380166650105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056948821534001964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062306813217518,0.09540380112203857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151267921415924,0.0,0.05760491714520673,0.0,0.07834038679113929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875579130161167,0.0,0.0,0.06289258816437025
parenting,ohfuckoffwiththatish,2020/01/21,"I'm sick of people patting my kid's dad on the back for just... ""being there"" Being present is definitely a good thing. But it's not enough.

Please don't tell me I should be ""happy"" that my kid's dad (KD) is involved in his life. Because I know what you mean when you say that. You mean: ""what more could you ask for, anyway? At least he's not a deadbeat"".

Well, let me give you a fucking example.

First of all, all of his complaining - about how I kept his child from him? How I cruelly beat him out for primary custody? Well guess what. KD initiated the custody case himself, and from the beginning, *he did not even attempt to pursue primary custody*. KD wanted visitation, and that's exactly what he got.

Make all the arguments about a corrupt system that favors mothers if you must - but you have to try to fail and KD didn't make any attempts.

Oh! And let me tell you something else. That child support he's ""more than willing"" to pay? Yeah, KD is over $6K behind. He refused to pay anything for months until the government got involved. He's skipped doing his taxes for several years because he said any return he got ""would all go to me anyway"".

Oh, and here's one last thing. The cherry on top. I had to acquire a complete immunization record for my kid so he could *attend school*. You might recognize this as pretty fucking important for more than health reasons. Well - KD and I had moved around a lot when kid was a baby because KD's employers all seemed to have it out for him and he couldn't keep a job. Eventually we ended up with his parents in another state. Soon after I grabbed my bootstraps and got myself and my baby out of there.

Anyway, I found that my kid had a single-visit medical record in that state. I called the office and they used PAPER records (because TN, I guess) and did not have a functioning fax machine. So I had to wait for the clerk to physically find my kid's record in their storage room, and then drive hours and hundreds of miles to retrieve it within business hours.

I asked KD to pick it up before a scheduled exchange one day, since it was in his city. He refused. His reason? He ""didn't want to do anything to help me"". You see how fucking stupid this is?

Being there isn't enough. You have to be there, and have enough brain cells to determine what's best for your kid.

KD lacks that. He doesn't see what's best for our child, he just sees opportunities to get one over on me... no matter the cost.

Not that anyone else could possibly understand the inner mechanics of all this. No, it's far too easy for him to play the CrAzY bAbY mAmA card. Then he sits back and eats up all the undeserved praise he gets, while he fucks over his kid - either without realizing it or without caring.",2.57988847583643,4.706554602230487,3.608630483271377,88.35523568773235,77.3271375464684,6.460133828996283,24.328773234200746,7.479797944008522,1.1134028550185868,2128,73,430,29,50,684,253,538,0.091,0.813,0.096,0.8628,3,0,1,0,0,0,90.0,2,12,2,11,28,20,5,0,23,1,40,11,1,9,9,80,78,31,0,11,14,4,1,0,0,5,5,2,1,11,27,21,1,5,10,1,5,5,15,7,3,4,17,6,55,13,69,45,19,56,1,1,3,4,78,25,4,7,22,291,82,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859468493293496,0.0837244511982761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558294850794557,0.08181064487267006,0.1314112743358497,0.07107898396769832,0.1492886057102399,0.0,0.0,0.12279176302146083,0.0,0.19469109963103612,0.0,0.06794221972461098,0.0,0.16758481669005976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913343365616605,0.08153067891026462,0.0,0.08140730558424238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837159702690846,0.0,0.0,0.1912492220856588,0.0,0.0,0.051493423822148235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170137504422692,0.13340051499598818,0.0,0.07071897656348837,0.24750370709330344,0.0,0.05273687380030774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297688948659123,0.06791612179575637,0.0,0.08754592847562044,0.0,0.29526168785796364,0.0834314408986947,0.07659460585343912,0.04537775726006037,0.06697020328644622,0.25543738292230384,0.0,0.1759165530750223,0.0,0.0,0.08499649420081709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487150825827106,0.0,0.0,0.05351842484033671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572624958304422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923384872961307,0.07096991049184492,0.0,0.0,0.043880727481070886,0.06508433712193237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329385775581154,0.056396889434572786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788136929751566,0.0,0.0,0.10659432377818916,0.0,0.0,0.17394923903113196,0.0,0.08043544399399527,0.0,0.08470293416421397,0.0,0.0,0.06373152247476925,0.0848626059164392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231512856134164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865843077149706,0.0,0.0,0.055354474128603316,0.0,0.0,0.08764584020342914,0.0,0.09001324796989073,0.0,0.0812310764751038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418792983275554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595088556629592,0.06349595396477152,0.0,0.08080740936572232,0.19087839799451545,0.07268789520848737,0.0,0.09020213044144668,0.0,0.06604861452649602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614685869281877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906071672443701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395761100987028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609094897458428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0542095182940788,0.0,0.0,0.08312146772005957,0.0,0.06896044959839136,0.0,0.0,0.09418930717021354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537074970649867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393547410683692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671960179896308,0.0,0.0,0.05141756640679869
parenting,iheartnjdevils,2020/01/21,"Taking my 7 year old to talk to someone My 7 year old would greatly benefit from seeing a licensed professional. He suffers with his self-esteem (he often tells me he’s stupid, he doesn’t like the way his face looks, etc.) and has trouble coping with negative emotions (he hits himself in the head when he’s frustrated, laughs during sad parts of movies, which I’m not sure is better than how he used to react which was with anger). 

I’ve tried very hard to teach him coping skills... acknowledging how he’s feeling, putting a name to the emotion, encouraging him to release the emotions in healthier ways such as stomping. His 2nd grade teacher is very big into mindfulness and they meditate everyday and practice different breathing exercises to use when emotions are overwhelming but none of this seems to helps. 

As a result, I need advice on how to tell him that he’ll be seeing a therapist. I had had scheduled an appointment last year, I believe in a November and was actually relieved when they canceled before I had even told him. I was too chicken to reschedule right away as I’m afraid that it’s only going to reinforce his beliefs that something is wrong with him. It also doesn’t help that his father (my ex) used to use therapy as a threat when he would say things like, “I hate myself.” But I know this is something that could truly help him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! 

**tl;dr** My 7 year old has self-esteem issues and signs of anxiety and depression. I need advice on how to tell him I will be taking him to a therapist without it reinforcing his belief that something is wrong with him. 

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parenting,Fat_flounder,2020/01/21,"Argument Between Parents Regarding Childs Safety Thank you in advance for taking the time to read this.  I woke up this morning to find my 6 month old daughter asleep in her rocker, covered in a blanket, with the space heater only about a foot or do away from her. I looked for my wife to find she was also completely passed out in her bed.  I'm recovering from a surgery and have been instructed not to pick up my daughter or anything else until told otherwise by the surgeon. 
I was admittedly furious and woke up my wife asking her why the hell the baby was asleep in her rocker, unsupervised with the space heater right next to her. 
She downplayed it by saying the space heater is was blowing away from the baby and that's it's perfectly fine for the baby to take a nap in her rocker unsupervised.  This led to how much she hates me for being a control freak, doesn't love me, and wants to leave.
Aside from not handling this in a calmer manner did I do anything wrong?",7.258730158730156,6.650900613756615,7.077296296296296,77.98483333333333,64.02645502645503,9.888042328042328,33.18571428571428,9.120678840339163,2.7034926984126986,772,27,148,11,10,245,107,189,0.122,0.809,0.069,-0.8877,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,3,3,9,3,0,15,0,12,5,3,4,1,20,25,9,0,1,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,7,7,0,1,3,2,0,3,3,5,0,0,9,2,21,4,36,15,1,25,1,0,1,1,22,17,1,2,5,102,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121796393588096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906349988012037,0.0,0.1650866486186731,0.0,0.33182189738862505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514995035064075,0.0,0.19805930488702075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751724580667155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227978466177146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434483672672302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698199462113785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829007956585813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937824628151828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095145984746285,0.0,0.1298130538204603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878041447798538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853001934217394,0.0,0.0,0.13430370591596935,0.0,0.0,0.19608091506012587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766365428779716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508058322921633,0.0,0.14043046608975973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655455347175316,0.0,0.0,0.16257920057345115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297032339370828,0.0,0.0,0.16873812338005753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415662322297883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934388517232576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930720827204379,0.0,0.0
parenting,SantiagoEyes,2020/01/21,"Free App for blocking children screen time. Hello everyone, my gf asked me for a free app for blocking her niece's screen time, something that can block her phone from time to time, like ""From 1 pm to 7 pm"".

She knows I know a lot about computers/phones since I'm a programmer, but I don't really have the time for searching for the exact app, I checked a couple but they all have bad reviews in the playstore, so I'm pretty sure people here will know better.

Thank you a lot!",4.870312500000002,5.195662072916669,5.03125,87.48875000000002,68.89583333333334,8.066666666666668,27.458333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.4016583333333332,373,11,79,4,6,117,64,96,0.10099999999999999,0.688,0.21100000000000002,0.9043,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,3,7,0,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,3,13,12,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,10,8,11,11,3,6,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,2,6,42,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917170901195964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122874481620004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813718394495456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22691117054164506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595759122465414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381109500612697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018910242014174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486942230624842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217292276993096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086346179602788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137605517765616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696398479067873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787646436337885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328040587815265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880516085773089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5979033112276353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bgiacomo0715,2020/01/21,Tuesday child is full of grace 😬😳 Guys!!!! How do we do it? School year? 5 days a week? 2 kids mine 2 kids his. Blending a unblending family! Routines routines routines!!! 6:30 am first alarm goes off yay! Laying in bed til 7 am just to get that last moment of peace before the tantrums. Medicate 2. Then off to hair dos brush teeth and then the this shirts to tight or to loose. I don’t wanna go do we have to go? Come on this blending family thing should come easier lol,-0.4693749999999994,1.7481216458333364,1.1643333333333352,98.11400000000002,98.16666666666666,4.6433333333333335,15.775,6.42735559955562,-0.3402325000000004,362,9,81,5,15,116,72,96,0.069,0.762,0.168,0.9048,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,1,2,4,1,1,4,2,9,4,3,1,0,11,14,6,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,5,5,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,0,3,5,2,13,13,1,19,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,10,44,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21872750318815395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428453233595999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577362454273836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4846408260828775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186434856974113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429610357984234,0.0,0.29217071758919383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25451628960733264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20952707481500912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25894714514698497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26014461937376304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707701667249696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061870693456686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655294155203519
parenting,thelittlemisses,2020/01/21,"My daughter's fear/anxiety response enrages me I know this sounds bad, and I will absolutely admit that this is a bit of a rant/vent/defeated post. 

My daughter (6) often has a fear response to stuff she doesn't want to do, or something that seems that it will be hard. This can be from anything to brushing her hair, folding laundry, or getting out of the car to go to school.  Doesn't matter if we did them yesterday, or do them daily.  I know that this impacts her on a larger scale, as we tried to play softball, only to realize that she would have epic stage freight/meltdowns on game days. 

Today, she refused to get out of the car at the school drop of line.  This time, I told her that, if she was staying home, she was cleaning all day (she hates chores, with a fit-throwing passion).

This is where I feel at a loss as a parent.  I feel like I can't do it right. I hated school mornings b/c my parents were not morning people and we ended up going to school to the tune of yelling/arguing enough for me to have a lasting memory. I try so hard to make the morning manageable while still making the kids pull their own weight. And 75% of the mornings go off without a hitch. But these responses, freezing in all her actions and then freaking out by throwing a fit or crying - I am unable to maintain my cool. I lose it. I yell in the mornings, I scream, I do everything that I hated so much as a kid.  

I feel really defeated. To tell her to clean results in a dead eye stare and no action. I am really unsure on the punishment here or what steps I can take so she knows that she can't quit like this all the time.
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parenting,TeenYearsYIKES,2020/01/21,"Getting enough sleep Longish backstory: 

My 14yo stepson came to live with us a couple of months ago. Prior to his moving here, he was pretty much left to his own devices. He habitually stayed up all night on electronics, didn’t do his schoolwork, ate mainly “junk” food, and did pretty much did anything his teenage heart desired. Not surprising behavior and not his fault that he indulged in it. Well, he was diagnosed with ADHD, depression, and anxiety last year and the year prior. He has been seriously struggling at his mom’s and wanted to move a few states over with us to try more structure and our public school system. We all talked it over and his father, my DH, made it really clear that part of that structure would be getting enough sleep, eating decently, chores, a bit physical activity each day and seeing a therapist regularly. All of that was stuff he’d only experienced in the short term with us on summer vacations and the like. So, mostly new habits. 

I’d say he’s made an excellent transition. As a matter of fact, he appears to be thriving. His health has obviously improved. He randomly makes remarks about how much better he feels and we’ve had no depressive episodes or atypical anxiety. (I know we didn’t solve any of those issues but he was having episodes biweekly or more. So, huge improvement.) He’s a great kid and we’ve really had only developmentally appropriate behavioral issues, pushing boundaries and the like. Totally normal and expected behavior. We’re still stuck on sleeping enough though. He’s going to bed at 10, falling asleep pretty much immediately, and getting up at 6:30 for school. Although he acknowledges he feels immensely better than he did when he went to bed at 4 or 5 am and only slept a few hours, he’s still trying to assert his independence by objecting to having a bedtime. My husband gets sass and kickback pretty every night, as well as the typical “None of my friends have a bedtime!” We’ve tried letting him stay up later on weekends so he can compare how he feels and although he admits to feeling badly, he says he manages fine and likes getting to stay up to talk to his friends more. 

I get it. I really do! But how do we balance his need for independence and autonomy with the absolute truth that he NEEDS more sleep than he thinks he does? His behavior, ability to concentrate and emotional regulation are notably improved when he sleeps that 8.5 hours. How do you all handle this with your teens? 

As a side note, do other teens truly not have a bedtime of any kind? Is this a norm we’ve missed?",5.8330835913312695,7.3956755263157925,6.328845201238392,74.57106346749227,67.42105263157895,9.630340557275543,32.28637770897833,9.916854025145753,3.368566563467492,2045,87,352,48,34,663,250,475,0.06,0.7809999999999999,0.159,0.9941,0,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,7,2,0,3,17,22,0,1,19,0,32,13,8,9,9,76,60,41,0,7,8,3,4,3,2,1,2,2,3,1,15,31,3,0,8,1,0,8,7,7,2,0,19,8,30,15,54,36,26,55,0,3,1,0,61,20,0,6,25,219,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503417045687323,0.0,0.06272034097438786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623211684502897,0.0,0.10825528493479676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822561718582939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907775457525034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251546991057334,0.07724650728221827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092526106718821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828943941644655,0.0,0.04563134172785562,0.0,0.12188294365307804,0.07181518208272386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061918476027827185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240037829209704,0.0,0.07959023561094945,0.0,0.21932754513068314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05961442674081261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431041061881883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555763961672884,0.0,0.10933080242267283,0.0,0.22180047322032395,0.0,0.04021189104708306,0.0,0.0,0.07800801362744265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520961918686647,0.0,0.08384542017426347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935951730457294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770038711066208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736807998914746,0.03888528519430884,0.05767504679043025,0.0,0.0,0.07687588540486827,0.07235213035213188,0.0,0.10370245738083153,0.0,0.062478262710612326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390082955722596,0.047229739775820886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286780063805464,0.056476238420795334,0.1504034605997123,0.2080532684267284,0.10492837814773563,0.0,0.06833594958094334,0.0,0.13279818951871555,0.06932521174226433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16143787636499313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662113962512619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879344766321578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359830503899566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125349747070597,0.0,0.14321636578859614,0.056382846331580326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3540322000601435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22624733874634964,0.11301061400213595,0.0,0.0,0.07396884541139112,0.08099793777944475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374092642599225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215240477561875,0.0,0.045337165762062336,0.06951676363257098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411469682361194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25532989130846984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041733333536323684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723509849834005,0.06559091029952857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050262564425617995,0.0,0.0,0.09112824004971973
parenting,Roniba3,2020/01/21,"Questionare on strollers Hi, we are design students at IED university, we are doing a project on strollers and we would be happy if you could take a minute to answer our questions. The use of the answers will be private.
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parenting,godanieego,2020/01/21,"Feeling bad for staying in I’m a stay at home home. I try to get my son (1.5Y) out of the house at least once a day, but it’s been 10 degrees the past two days. Actually, it’s 2 degrees with the windchill factored in. He’s happy at home. We watch Sesame Street, read, play, cuddle. Nevertheless, I feel bad because I feel like he should be experiencing more. I just can’t bring myself to brave the cold!! Tomorrow will be 35 and we will go out. Bad mommy yay or nay? Thoughts? Comments? Thanks all.",0.268674790555977,2.6295766138613845,2.043960396039605,94.24626047220109,89.79207920792079,4.691850723533891,20.64051789794364,6.297961479604792,0.1077777608530086,382,13,85,4,13,125,75,101,0.1,0.672,0.228,0.9439,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,6,1,7,1,0,0,1,15,16,3,0,1,3,1,3,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,2,6,0,0,4,2,0,2,1,3,0,1,2,6,8,6,12,9,3,16,0,0,1,1,6,8,0,1,5,43,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.16515881851342834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239378054040932,0.10317025133681378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21829819598295455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567262464438282,0.1209087441007218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842358734655473,0.0,0.09618589921149216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016457220828047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5092999497835502,0.0,0.0,0.19528613963254776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268461437553043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18024052410271826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615636129224062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929091531087326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607855480036056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558181632585723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436171658938822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490632366547385,0.0,0.1653278852529104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oana2401,2020/01/21,"Screen time I have a 18 month old and I am most if the time alone with him. My husband works a lot even from home, so he can rarely help. He also does all the grocery and shopping in general. I take care of our son(maternal leave) and cook and clean. I started to let him watch kids songs on Youtube when he was around 1 year old to cook and clean, otherwise he cries, holding my foot and I can never do anything. When he sleeps I usually sit or sleep next to him as I am still breastfeeding him and at night he also searches for the breast. Slowly he watches more Youtube. He doesn't mind when I stop the songs and take away the phone. He plays alone a lot but he likes to see me sit around, not doing chores. He is happy and sleeps well but I worry about using the screen time. Do I do irreversible damage to him by letting him watch screens while I am busy?
Did any of you let your smaller kids watch tv or songs and were they ok growing up?
I know the advice is to not let them watch, only super short time frames, but I can't not do anything around the house or limit my chores to 15 min. I have to cook for him and us, wash clothes, clean a bit. I appreciate any advice from experience. Thank you!",2.5552834008097167,4.037395327935226,3.176297570850206,94.28679453441299,75.47773279352226,6.235546558704454,22.066599190283398,6.742157984588678,0.25700502024291483,934,24,213,8,20,292,136,247,0.064,0.778,0.158,0.9764,0,2,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,3,2,3,13,9,0,0,12,1,23,9,5,1,2,37,31,26,0,1,10,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,6,2,0,15,3,3,1,9,1,1,6,1,1,0,3,12,33,8,26,24,6,32,0,1,9,1,30,9,0,7,21,131,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656860972124266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893708117132368,0.0,0.16904911897653846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437529695909228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395658853075752,0.2822738984096449,0.0,0.0,0.09930429147834832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539198322144502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776348705609044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116101415001381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249474181139056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981080354363417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339036579315686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125147004545472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084538716953098,0.0,0.1060210868856165,0.0,0.0,0.12195828088931635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058087418248044,0.0,0.0,0.11191614924263857,0.0,0.43232276023182026,0.0,0.0516374251864983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797168696136893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672220632417254,0.0,0.08436504620789373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151879517705221,0.0,0.1124082387620019,0.0991879568146466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218190488736266,0.0,0.0,0.08038610148312042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842255357138808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173151444111599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481173600106647,0.0,0.08440846928610278,0.08836607279881374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893954791946524,0.0,0.0,0.09731010791704488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24652731090697755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713853165407155,0.09128687486147297,0.11640853169157794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503284269837176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694749754966868,0.10733879187261472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806436120405455
parenting,xRogue2x,2020/01/21,"Advice for child adjusting to daycare I have a 6 year old that is in kindergarten. She did struggle with that for about a week, but afterwards she has always been excited about school, until the last few weeks. 

I actually have a 3 and 6 year old (girls) that have started day care at the start of the year. Previously, my mom kept them and actually lived on my couch the last year. I’m a single father, but their mom has started to keep them more recently. 

Well, the 3 year old threw tantrums the first few days and whimpers in the morning at first, but she’s doing well. The problem is my older girl and show upset she is as soon as she wakes up. She actually spent the entire weekend silently crying.  This was after her mom took her hiking and on weekend adventures. 

I am having trouble understanding why it’s so bad. I’m leaving work a few minutes early to get there, so she’s not there but maybe and hour and a half. Is it normal for someone that age to have a sense of impending dread about something like this?  I do know that she’s not interacting with anyone and sitting by the care provider.  No one is being mean to her. Another thing that worries me is that she really won’t talk about it.....anyone been through anything similar?",3.953586341887778,5.6143038801652905,4.736872553284037,83.78727055241411,72.18181818181819,7.57407568508047,27.6128751631144,8.20500826718156,1.816046280991736,977,36,190,15,19,315,137,242,0.14,0.77,0.091,-0.9309999999999999,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,3,3,11,14,1,3,17,0,22,1,1,0,0,24,38,17,0,2,6,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,12,10,0,2,4,3,1,2,4,7,2,4,8,0,23,7,29,28,5,40,0,0,0,0,24,7,0,0,31,134,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.3089955605189795,0.0,0.0,0.1031391801829722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782345134068753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067509639588652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760165171506534,0.0,0.08685608114756993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812722807261167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522413736767326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593828101457225,0.1361379994423383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795562280552727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05514388348777178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039424065275346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938149079805984,0.0,0.0,0.05800579967240376,0.17206957302768336,0.0,0.11175889596873127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051564869489919465,0.0,0.09319982025493816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603601776155236,0.11497148397049176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708456568404341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034135232511372,0.0,0.0,0.33226105671136424,0.0,0.07152129094480142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099410053864062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761602784829815,0.0,0.1042148012321524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681906770429003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942952076148163,0.08125513737301368,0.0,0.0,0.22411985430779985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034050560493563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483457636804646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012065075641223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726645656656327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987801437717376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693266658614999,0.0,0.1897986242845776,0.0,0.09523963375356068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683937869469963,0.10718797023915567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398436201772029
parenting,Guskat3541,2020/01/21,"Reluctant reader. This question is for parents or guardians who have been able to get their kids to love reading. How did you manage it. My niece is still young, half way done with kindergarten but she just doesn’t like to read and doesn’t find it fun at all. Now I’m afraid that this will be a life long habit. We all know that reading is important but here are a few parts of the problem that have me second guessing on tactic. Her school already give her plenty of homework and she’s doing good but I’d still want her to read at home for fun, only because it’s a good habit to have once you’re older. I’m an avid reader but only as an easy escape for a bad childhood. So anyways I’m not expecting her to stop doing her regular routine but I do want to nudge her into the right direction.  How can I slowly get her to read? And great books to start with?",2.0631144067796607,3.9478002090395488,2.991041666666668,93.32181673728815,77.98305084745763,5.554943502824859,21.796963276836166,6.322622252153567,0.23470649717514114,675,19,145,5,16,214,112,177,0.063,0.726,0.21100000000000002,0.9829,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,1,0,9,10,0,1,8,0,18,2,0,2,2,28,30,13,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,1,9,7,0,1,3,6,0,0,3,3,0,2,3,0,16,7,21,25,4,15,0,0,0,1,18,5,0,3,10,97,25,9,0.1328833945153599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664013020262978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095208387722852,0.08100448391748732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598584871836086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145301520136816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885217814885153,0.1274738604852405,0.0,0.2229125734190674,0.0,0.14650441157277733,0.14638604046503434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329287934863465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302923842464988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385947137505207,0.06492011436068237,0.0,0.0,0.11759762254953085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993245166421973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151647831401928,0.0,0.20212761896804,0.0,0.0,0.14755128391980254,0.14389976686787131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715146225677068,0.0,0.0,0.14885981365070142,0.0,0.6645967732455776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348169285358513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344850895553932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405555058504983,0.0,0.2122417010248896,0.11109646793936898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567561379503875,0.10547665335340392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hoarduck,2020/01/21,"What are the most important/effective rules you have for kids and tech? I'm honestly on two sides about this. I spend most of my time 11 and up on a computer and it was fine. I have a good job, a good family, and my brain is (probably) not rotten. 

That said, there are risks regarding who the kids are talking to, what apps they have an so on. What kind of ""Terms of Use"" do you have in place and how do they work in practice? What's working well with you and your kids?",2.8720408163265283,3.6852715102040814,3.8373469387755113,92.48622448979592,73.6938775510204,8.457142857142857,23.18367346938776,8.841846274778883,1.1361061224489797,360,9,87,7,7,116,66,98,0.021,0.821,0.158,0.9159999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,4,2,2,5,8,0,1,6,0,11,1,1,2,0,12,14,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,2,2,10,6,13,12,3,10,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,2,2,62,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280918190058156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372277890393185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221344903558259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24971807394210996,0.0,0.0,0.26204874674368844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629146658793509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713150470718771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393712934800868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022621040169114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673577712548402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458198523038637,0.0,0.0,0.21733982291656795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262583885653341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366400000365796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bierdieb,2020/01/21,"Request - Empirically studies about violence against children *If there is a better subreddit for my request let me know.*  
**TL;DR: Some of my brothers think that under the right circumstances hitting your children is ok, and I need professional proof that it isn\`t.**  
Background:  
I was having dinner with my four brothers. Since one of my brother already has children and is expecting one more and another brother is ecpecting a child too, the parenting style of our parents came to discussion. I am very gratefull for my parents they did a really good job, however I dont think they did everything right, which is impossible anyway. From time to time everyone of us was hit as a punishment by our father. Two of my brothers and me were hit more frequently than the others. I told my brothers that I think hitting your children is never ok whatever the circumstances to which my two brothers(one already has children), lets call them A and B, who were hit more frequently agreed. The other brothers(one is expecting a child), lets call them C and D, did not agree and said that sometimes you have to hit your child to show them that it crossed a line and took my brother A who had a really really reblious teenagelife as an example. C and D said that he was hit the most and is now the most peaceful person of all of us. I said that this is true however since he was an asshole(I love him but he really was) his whole teeangelife the violence obviously didn\`t help. But neither of us could proof their point so this went into a long discussion were no one would admit to be in the wrong. I told them that violence leads to more violence because you teach your children that it is a proven medium to react to things. But the brothers C,D did not want to believe me/us until we would show them empirically studies which we could of course not provide in the moment.   
Brothers C,D are pretty intelligent and would for sure think about this topic twice if I could show them studies. The problem is, that they work in research themselves and do not want any studies that have a too low number of probands or are only based on opinons of single people. The books I found about the topic lack exactly that and did not provide any sources to any studies made in this topic.   
I know that my brothers would never badly hurt their children so that they would bleed or anything like that, but I do not want my nieces and nephews to grow up with any violence at all.  


Does someone have relaible sources in this topic?",5.578696309358865,7.188692631691648,5.6095912583448815,79.30866576395013,68.07922912205568,8.577629424360751,33.0072427257841,9.007467420416297,2.9550101272200533,1997,90,351,36,34,627,205,467,0.098,0.812,0.08900000000000001,-0.86,6,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,7,6,12,3,10,14,1,0,28,2,49,3,0,3,10,74,78,27,0,18,14,15,0,1,0,5,1,3,0,11,31,20,1,0,8,4,0,6,11,6,0,7,24,3,52,8,48,35,13,30,0,2,0,1,72,14,0,7,11,266,83,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651530751420585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21755098722876945,0.08386385127697807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581503616500732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677824541572773,0.04875381441958237,0.0,0.0,0.09010775901355762,0.0,0.07073399515522133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333285277556456,0.09147346548171732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19156764945339744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998924075029601,0.0,0.0937335587331453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764223561407358,0.07187902213448524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769169126229595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670817077690102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360753229375053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561804685780311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936577201594923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790757659750191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24534860973014105,0.0,0.03907318526790203,0.0,0.0,0.07077796670865777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218322009530895,0.07567706763594502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059302634616035424,0.12336784707080856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258538105475467,0.060826832958270835,0.0,0.0,0.266418137578339,0.0,0.0,0.05544663857924581,0.06983365879507818,0.0,0.0,0.07560501147033223,0.0,0.0,0.08136632511861963,0.0,0.07652809442449715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494368428200224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660146021149674,0.22823202829012165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323171691524821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776505531185666,0.0,0.07910023503053071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537826894448862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05313379448476575,0.20498655735848595,0.0,0.0,0.0932715686140047,0.0,0.0,0.1528447122814716,0.0888584423554384,0.0,0.0,0.15625366676074495,0.0,0.3848144932917746,0.0,0.0,0.06599018259085314,0.14151919663882553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414035852435479,0.0,0.08929252211876981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822489825549585,0.0,0.0,0.284070195843553,0.08744333035671739,0.0,0.0
parenting,matchehh,2020/01/21,"Social media and parents Hello parents!

I am in my third year of university and currently completing a study looking into the effects of social media on parents and would love to hear your responses on the topic!

If any parents have 10-15 minutes spare and you could complete my online study It would be greatly appreciated, all responses are completely anonymous. 

[https://wolverhamptonpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_8Ajas6W945FuZLf](https://wolverhamptonpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8Ajas6W945FuZLf) 

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Thank you to everyone that takes part!",22.238461538461536,27.079902333333337,10.917076923076923,44.57792307692308,32.076923076923066,11.881025641025643,43.80512820512821,11.602472056035307,6.066140512820513,594,22,49,11,5,135,59,78,0.0,0.855,0.145,0.9036,5,0,0,0,0,0,155.0,0,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,1,1,11,12,5,0,4,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,3,8,8,2,6,0,0,1,1,12,4,0,1,2,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158274435672897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698626647338314,0.0,0.0,0.11926686128054192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273789819799335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646907158626445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836082700037538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544061683777968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348202494907841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6634701662381872,0.16176274395781398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30454586351092233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231430912642942,0.0,0.0,0.13752798072961772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21222890652955315,0.0,0.0,0.09619508555087444
parenting,BIONSTORYTIME,2020/01/21,"What should I do for screen time I know there are a lot of education videos out there... as i had my kid learn his body with cocomelon on youtube.

However he got so addicted to it he was asking for it every single day, the moment he wakes up and till he go to sleep. if we didn't turn it on he would show aggression.

We did no screen time for more than a week. But i want to make a healthy screen time for my kid I need some advice

\-gonna watch it after dinner, before bed.   
\-he is 2.5 year olds  
\-he has problem with pronouncing and very little vocabulary so something that is easy to earn words would be nice.   
\-1 hour will be the rule so nothing too long.",1.6951965811965837,3.737038770370372,2.794814814814813,93.52128205128206,79.81481481481481,6.227920227920229,20.014245014245013,7.321109707123232,0.32804843304843345,514,13,115,7,13,164,97,135,0.052000000000000005,0.8759999999999999,0.071,0.3818,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,6,3,1,0,5,0,15,5,3,1,0,21,24,9,0,7,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,6,7,1,0,2,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,4,10,1,19,12,4,18,0,0,4,0,13,5,0,3,12,70,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192545396320756,0.0,0.19653576954370292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188023526654904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17114147058454968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22340311063834412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970815958142282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16945540683788568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430324385622545,0.0,0.16085701031253044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980663489749753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105323355914736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20157880256592506,0.0,0.1779881614651591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098819281969302,0.0,0.0,0.13425164353849334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913068849231448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19298363178962327,0.0,0.2110455094249845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244823580644296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20126896717714066,0.0,0.0,0.15483486415786965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518305721379409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876485109072832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594813075718606,0.11862797983189174,0.0,0.16132931501065734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857450375389599,0.0,0.0,0.12951708031332876
parenting,ntrontty,2020/01/21,"What are your tips for easing toddler preschool separation anxiety? My son is 3,5. He's been in daycare since he was about 1 year old. Last September, he left daycare and went to what we in Germany call Kindergarten (I guess you can compare it to a play-based preschool for kids aged 3-6. No lessons, no class rooms, just different play rooms the kids can choose from on a daily basis. In my eyes basically kid heaven.).

The first weeks and months in preschool went very well. We were very lucky with our preschool, it's a brand new building with loving teachers and lots of fun stuff to do. He found his place very nicely in the beginning, made some friends, didn't shed a tear when the time for separation came.

Ffwd to the beginning of this year. Preschool was closed for 2 weeks for christmas. Starting again, he cries every single day. Doesn't want to leave the house in the mornings, doesn't want me to leave at preschool. Begging, crying to come with me to work, for me to stay with him at daycare. It breaks my heart. 

I couldn't find a specific reason such as bullying or anything more serious. I assume one big part is that the budding friendships from the first weeks all fell through after a few days/weeks and he doesn't have a BFF at preschool. He misses his old friends from daycare. 

I know this is not uncommon. It might just resolve itself. But do you have any tips on how to make it easier on him? 

Or how to help a 3/4 year old to not only make but keep friends?",3.86711956521739,5.600720736111112,3.6337560386473453,91.31293478260868,72.54166666666667,6.81425120772947,27.10507246376812,7.423996415210882,1.2358222826086958,1164,42,242,13,23,350,166,288,0.063,0.826,0.111,0.9138,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,3,0,5,9,13,0,0,17,0,20,3,2,6,1,44,38,12,0,3,8,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,3,12,13,0,1,8,1,0,5,9,2,1,3,10,1,20,11,43,26,7,48,1,1,1,1,28,18,0,8,23,142,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356214410619234,0.0,0.08275294290215747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901812373084518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045792074955632,0.12372243096434075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318246786341383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376484895044207,0.06976338972879656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301898250097756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114140256891244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886923037070612,0.18402578512046205,0.0,0.11860739244119,0.2507252829950946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916604238928727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818691064306614,0.07250686500674708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481846683590005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615017136481084,0.0,0.0,0.05944969407002911,0.08817638523241482,0.0,0.22908165088554694,0.11753155070985374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919658098087094,0.0976314105734918,0.10235701388227512,0.1444141950688627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475569827479637,0.0,0.0,0.08634358934401494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044752861209978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340531779312278,0.0,0.07330161622071109,0.08227132974385114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714208311059042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301898250097756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122106171507018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948279011653347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656623331268385,0.11529927070885322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383354261719548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307722763104677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677650540599521,0.12760785468638133,0.0,0.34708317237985803,0.0,0.09726156877722217,0.2005570761071541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875208309737809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898185386932347
parenting,Exiphosxiii,2020/01/21,"I was so tired yesterday, when someone asked what gender my baby is I told them they were the oppersite gender by accident Baby is 7 weeks today...first time parent and the tiredness is real.  Tell me I'm not the only one who has done something like this 🤦 I still don't understand how I said the other gender on autopilot to be honest.",2.0551172707889087,4.4518737014925405,4.1697228144989325,82.2155223880597,80.6417910447761,6.8136460554371014,21.51172707889127,7.957251820313856,1.3753428571428583,266,8,48,5,7,91,55,67,0.095,0.8170000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.1263,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,1,0,5,14,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,1,8,2,3,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,6,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392658230034973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26191161895365217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21769922358586005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503751246997785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734290108138018,0.19465103324394065,0.0,0.0,0.2841868916093147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29131145742146225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434539602859693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168539342387729,0.1970322111358034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20439100115496164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223699542878792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492384719047785,0.29416104271652743,0.242597616962576,0.24455803240546545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664386379480338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052966031291523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dhruvvbhavsar,2020/01/21,"This is for the Dads Hi(M17) i realized today that my dad(44) hates me i mistreated..like always yelled at him trying to win over him.i was angry and frustrated over too many things(since 2 yrs) and I didn't like anyone judging me even tho it was for my own good.

A few days back i got my results and the score was pathetic.i didn't even hear a word from him and when i asked mom why,she says ""why would he ever tell you something now?he hates talking to you.if he tries to,you yelled at him.he's given up on you.""

I was broken.

There were many issues b/w us too.like,sibling insecurities, POLITICS etc.

I just don't know how to pick up all the pieces and put them back...",0.8212499999999991,3.2852086250000028,1.9329411764705888,95.45323529411766,87.75,4.964705882352941,17.558823529411768,6.522977012572876,-0.18497352941176493,527,13,114,6,17,166,96,136,0.152,0.799,0.05,-0.9154,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,1,2,1,1,11,7,3,1,5,0,10,0,0,3,2,15,17,8,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,9,4,18,3,13,7,5,14,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,0,7,70,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523652697701345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204685049331047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317725405797406,0.0,0.0,0.2684307032737609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256794128884108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19466529424261428,0.23057240606932325,0.15788714606158202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640117809388895,0.1396006430990392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446567236574767,0.0,0.0,0.1967263965736868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218101720272864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592609673540936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054903774361824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539251596242623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442654902837304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546726901438808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880624529206473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438652570291885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343742903625706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029372623338346,0.15256118355211867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544950916948428,0.0,0.0,0.2370109975091433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099577404898185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750091149653528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239927029766838,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gary33uk2019,2020/01/21,"married couple in uk London or essex hi 
I am after a married couple that would like me as their kid son but i am happy to be as young as you like and be adopted and be apart of a family. I am for Real if anyone is interested message me or email fixitgary26@hotmail.co.uk.
from gary.",2.6968421052631544,4.6074481578947415,5.003368421052631,79.49557894736844,76.19298245614034,6.665263157894738,21.92631578947368,7.554174236665415,1.0052905263157896,223,6,42,3,5,78,42,57,0.0,0.779,0.221,0.9274,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,8,9,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,9,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,3,4,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21933443789042506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6941685171827702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29571240292072826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33392137240135805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064993252595218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35703991296805543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22283139384572656,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BrandanTech,2020/01/21,"Best way to communicate with my son while he’s away? Long story cut short, I’m a weekend dad. It sucks, but we live too far away to do 50/50 and I take what I can get. 

He’s 6 and with me getting slightly financially secure enough to have spending money, I think it’s time to cut out the “no communication for a week” in between visits. It’s like, I don’t exist, or at least that’s what I feel like. He goes back to his mothers and I disappear. 

I’d love to have a device that he can take home and I can communicate with him but I think a smartphone is just slightly out of his reach. 

I have 2 devices in mind;

1. Relay Go. It’s slightly new and seems like it could work but...I’ve heard of connectivity issues and that’s always been a slight problem with push to talk. It’s never quite perfect but seems close enough. No screens for distractions either. 

2. Apple Watch with cellular service. More expensive but you have no fancy gimmicks. The Watch has its own dedicated phone number, dead simple to use, and it seems like that would be more reliable. Can also be used as a GPS with “Find My” enabled. My biggest worry is theft, to be honest. A 6 year old with a $500 device on his hand seems...almost irresponsible as a parent. 

Any advice here?",1.0808132985300176,3.4802497808764983,2.9703777991482347,89.18227091633467,85.0557768924303,5.374419563126804,20.20895727435088,6.8039241337230125,0.37716474790493226,969,29,201,12,29,323,148,251,0.151,0.703,0.145,-0.1655,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,0,5,6,14,3,1,11,0,19,2,1,2,2,40,36,16,1,3,7,4,2,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,14,18,0,1,7,1,3,4,5,5,0,0,2,6,19,9,31,29,8,27,0,0,3,1,20,12,1,4,14,124,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136558193283663,0.0,0.0,0.13993545265606305,0.0,0.0,0.11175484162275948,0.11627988337452355,0.0,0.0,0.09503208562515217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625919717017481,0.10745606329375516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665482623758794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157582565059744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887899900387596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065978655799089,0.09983458453696947,0.0,0.0,0.12772533047321713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602305518379832,0.0,0.07942088355573959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401766521506601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585853761662962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730913859101555,0.0,0.12339829583479373,0.12367083005802787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612623900590525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110364298372494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077807456133976,0.1349675768290605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466399400710493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517141726911998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371806792916807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863709383802556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816585840622523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21014323071151847,0.11232255730803226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908721370601696,0.0,0.0,0.08148702800964518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413913850399049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092388595240672,0.11209582781137142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173676685205732,0.14191886663860365,0.0,0.09927156302561987,0.0,0.0,0.08999185506041099
parenting,Lizislost,2020/01/21,My kiddo is Choctaw/Oklahoma I am a single mom and I stay in touch with a few family members on her dads side. Ever since giving birth I’ve been told she’s Choctaw and can get benefits. I would love to look into this for her to have a good set up for her now and her future. I’ve slacked around on this for way too long and was curious if anyone knew how to go about getting an Indian card?? We live in the state of Oklahoma,1.4412362637362648,3.0498805274725282,3.3693269230769265,91.16629807692308,78.89010989010991,7.187362637362638,21.26510989010989,8.07648339933343,0.8544824175824179,332,9,76,6,8,112,69,91,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.9295,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,1,1,13,15,6,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,10,3,16,10,2,18,0,0,1,1,11,8,0,1,5,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18458663789512136,0.0,0.0,0.2350054036308261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387923763748478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24886451377185925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27584580349107746,0.25324146828986216,0.1500305373752722,0.22142071785553416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23310635448035102,0.23362118702985646,0.22168354133314225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382595932957292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091797062286161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183737083680019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813762208803354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522519703159711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20954148924209876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18752959272184536,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofallinvention,2020/01/21,"Hidden pregnancy. I just found out im pregnant! I could not be happier, and my husband is completely over the moon about the baby. However, getting pregnant for us hasn't been an easy journey. I have two happy healthy kids and I've also had 2 miscarriages, one was pretty early on at 8 weeks, which i kept from my family. They can be very overwhelming and we wanted time to ourselves. The second happened at 18 weeks, had i not already had my daughter it would have destroyed me. When i found out about my son we all were a little on edge the entire pregnancy but he was born a perfect baby. During my pregnancy with my son our family would make comments about ""lets not get to excited"" ""lets just wait and see"" some as far as ""picking a name probably isn't a good idea""

Now my husband and i honestly didn't think we were going to get pregnant again. We are so excited for the new addition, but knowing our history and our families we haven't said a word to anyone and its killing me. My husband is currently deployed and will not be home in time for the birth. Him being gone makes me nervous that our families won't be as excited as i would like them to be. I don't know how long i plan to keep this to myself as i am already 2 months, but it feels like a doubt edged sword, scared to say and thing bit also scared to hear anything.",3.688208955223878,4.984040208955225,4.870328358208955,84.01161194029852,72.28358208955223,8.345074626865673,28.69850746268657,8.841846274778883,2.2314128358208962,1048,41,210,20,20,346,155,268,0.131,0.7909999999999999,0.078,-0.9274,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,10,0,2,2,12,16,2,5,13,0,34,0,0,4,2,52,55,22,1,5,9,6,1,2,0,5,0,3,1,1,7,18,0,3,7,0,0,3,10,7,0,3,14,5,36,9,30,27,3,27,0,1,1,0,26,10,0,2,16,150,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522897565029486,0.18282870938085052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992881226290463,0.0,0.09406809914752656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247978545703128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198527634908612,0.0,0.0,0.0912679213964682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4310484274917433,0.0,0.05779900626199312,0.08166370233909538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25067191902454,0.0,0.0,0.1791681214753666,0.0,0.06496549691957831,0.09587852723471876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108471736038893,0.12168603773281307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883664883886364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146631144829714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904304873573072,0.12347534632749352,0.0,0.0,0.10160474602165401,0.12646803175334795,0.0,0.12564452005253526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337812014865346,0.0,0.11169302578746897,0.1145695138243064,0.0,0.10116151532786463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526067754598251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124183910822807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040214241103864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774599981816346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629524170340995,0.12324644265832355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873580626778374,0.09090458521480846,0.22889022822586114,0.0,0.0910909567864515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759430570720357,0.07324578441757533,0.0,0.0,0.13331116527886122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166510172662683,0.0,0.137501891731931,0.0,0.0,0.09431843238916593,0.06742350784058539,0.0,0.1833865560376519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436094689408637,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sophia_West,2020/01/21,"My kid is 5 and his eyesight is deteriorating. Hello parents, I have two kids, one is 1.5 and the other is 5 years old. The elder one has always been our biggest struggle. He is sick most of the time in winter and even in summer. I am giving him a very good diet. But, now he is wearing glasses for -7 (right eye) and -11 (left eye). Has anyone else been suffering through the same? Doctors have said that it is deteriorating but that it is genetic. My eyesight is normal and my husband has a minor number. Please suggest something.",1.7473948220064734,4.328624184466023,3.7963349514563127,83.13262540453073,83.85436893203881,4.986731391585762,24.11731391585761,6.42735559955562,0.91353139158576,413,16,76,4,12,140,70,103,0.055999999999999994,0.865,0.079,0.3284,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,6,0,17,6,3,0,0,10,19,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,5,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,3,8,1,5,16,2,11,0,1,2,0,13,5,0,1,6,55,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895884958983274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931721375998562,0.23345807288875894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332129528897013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033847735709067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049201661665992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185733788561243,0.0,0.1911088052729084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24755844234212626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232434962351176,0.0,0.0,0.2390890399085337,0.0,0.3087925552442862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529991839750135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25010961571633034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945816730653805,0.21673643333455125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540917651712315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23819708944425266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286049682225873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22257521884343148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799916361856664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467271891652214
parenting,hawtgawbage,2020/01/21,"Unsupervised Youtube Disclaimer: This isn’t a horror story, by any means.  

I do bedtime for our 18mo, 3yo, and 5yo by myself.  In that order.  Leaving the kids unsupervised while I put the baby down, and then leaving the 5yo (ADHD positive, god save us) unsupervised while I get the 3yo to sleep can total hours of parentless children at the end of the day, and it fluctuates from unmitigated home-wrecking disaster to where-are-my-dragons-and-who-are-you-well-behaved-children-who’ve-replaced-them.  As a result, and to my dismay/relief, I’ve started leaning on the TV to manage my kids before they go to bed.  It makes putting them down more difficult, but has really cut down on the number of pictures knocked off the wall, the pools of milk poured all over the floor, and the total amount of baking chocolate powder dumped into the carpet.

Their youtube consumption is pretty tame.  3yo likes watching anything alphabet or number related, and big sister likes to get those set up for him, so it’s not such a big deal.  Weirdest stuff they drum up is like Russian alphabet songs, or Bob the Train. (Insert shudder here)

While I’m putting him down, big sister normally likes to watch peppa pig or baby bus.  Lately she’s also gotten into watching Mario Party Nintendo playthroughs.  But tonight... wtf did I just see?

I came out of brother’s room and she’s like... big eyed super excited daddy daddy **LOOK AT THIS!**

It’s videos of cats.  Aw cute!  She’s discovered internet cat videos!

Nope.  It’s videos of cats pooping in toilets.  Internet videos of cats pooping in toilets is a thing, and my kid is really fucking into it.  As I stood there registering what I was looking at, she yelled at the TV “NO!  MOVE, CAT!  WE CAN’T SEE THE POOP COME OUT!”  This, exactly the way my dad yelled at sports on TV when I was a kid.  Ref mad a bad call or something.

But the cat on TV, as if it heard her, shuffled around to the other side of the toilet seat and I watched a bunch of cat poop drop out of the cat’s butt and plop into the toilet.  Then the kind youtuber who’s filming their cat pooping in the toilet showed the poop in the toilet and flushed it down for good measure.

I watched three more of these with her before I finally turned it off and brought her to bed.  I’m typing this in the dark, on the floor in her room, listening to the same My Little Pony audiobook we listen to for her bedtime every night.

But the poop.  I can’t get it out of my head.",3.349475146650203,5.357838683544308,4.154223525779564,85.87023000926214,74.61181434599156,6.818483070906657,26.11793763507255,7.678348718463194,1.4686913244828652,1912,69,368,26,41,612,243,474,0.075,0.816,0.109,0.948,2,0,1,0,0,0,83.0,4,0,5,1,8,17,4,0,37,1,13,14,11,2,4,47,36,32,0,2,11,4,0,5,0,0,0,6,6,5,22,26,2,0,1,15,0,8,6,6,0,1,8,16,39,11,72,28,8,73,0,0,10,2,35,47,2,5,19,227,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826259559354266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865616965863508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389347097906473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152014287462573,0.10982236713331096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030058997236554,0.0,0.0,0.20995166171309376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259710205759307,0.14109844537134053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626934217920496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956120614381748,0.12718547566715874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926612866296616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039416224786557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514200376518715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405036930140425,0.19336176084765486,0.0,0.07011204211592774,0.10347399247657996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660965126697798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374668851876025,0.0,0.12149118198735327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846725708765294,0.0,0.0,0.1391628195740448,0.2612546855983375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30135327594586714,0.12364567284684864,0.0,0.0,0.2071936294873126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234811688934153,0.0,0.0,0.13438231756463054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111909797528956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577113154854393,0.12087300643678195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550811231822095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720523108544309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806351649946512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661430455916834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345562406875114,0.0,0.0,0.09497358211902797,0.0,0.0,0.08731946506509222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412251619364633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195924095582878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134187359305835,0.0,0.0,0.14839474615368586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792260946202316,0.0,0.0,0.11092132640684317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kate_th,2020/01/21,"What is the weirdest/ most disgusting thing your child has put in their mouth, and how did you react to it? Sorry if this question has been asked before, I just joined this sub right now.

FTM and I can't help but wonder this as I sit here with my 4 month old who's teething big time and wants to put everything in his mouth. Thankfully there is no shortage of teethers in our house to satisfy all of his gummy needs for the time being. 

I know when they become more mobile and curious is when you really have to worry. Hence why I turn to you, people of Reddit, so I can have a little idea of what to expect.

Let's hear these stories! I hope this can maybe be a fun discussion for you all as well, as I'm sure some of you may have had some humorous experiences (: 
Of course it's usually funnier when you look back at it later on than when you're in that moment lol.. 😅

Thank you in advance for sharing!",3.6343035343035335,4.527089594594597,4.502702702702703,88.12698544698547,71.97297297297297,7.854469854469856,23.960498960498967,8.139509932561175,1.107898128898129,705,18,153,10,13,228,125,185,0.07,0.721,0.209,0.9862,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,8,2,1,12,9,1,0,4,1,18,3,3,2,3,25,30,15,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,13,5,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,3,2,21,8,27,23,6,27,0,0,1,0,21,10,0,8,13,108,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523279028949677,0.0,0.0,0.12529162332816932,0.0,0.0,0.17995560767203345,0.1386508474567287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644092516996468,0.15938763017398913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18364642552145616,0.0,0.10921596304534656,0.0,0.0,0.16183724568476646,0.0,0.18801211526740175,0.0,0.1839406322058837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895481495442572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661828134326107,0.0,0.0,0.16330975601422285,0.0,0.0,0.13682945913192426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369620329717488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300580057091284,0.0,0.0,0.12081873709884733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709792409388868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296282016632865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276015553757595,0.18253128666646334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438422032872473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391507815417428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239918513573367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357002800188946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000284866754865,0.0,0.0,0.10825080518738454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19002449385487186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772330919786595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945656595773807,0.0,0.09610686340132683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465035883197688,0.0,0.14702896975940813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670263734648076,0.0,0.16547456362174387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NurseNosebreaker,2020/01/21,Cancel my son's birthday party? Hey all. What do you think.  I invited my son's entire preschool class of 22 and got 2 rsvps. We are new in town and just don't have a lot of friends yet. He is turning 4 and his BFF's from school aren't coming.  I'm torn. What would you do?,-1.4799590163934442,0.46461598360656,0.7312909836065593,103.4005430327869,94.08196721311475,3.705737704918033,15.821721311475413,5.148860815047168,-1.114526229508196,209,5,54,1,8,69,47,61,0.035,0.826,0.139,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,13,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,4,11,2,5,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,2,29,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313921288870087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972246718461119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30768636463223936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32706523229239365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715536653790486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893453297812863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465055394721455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184521495870174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732857325933297,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Col_Wm_Kilgore,2020/01/21,"Would love some anecdotal advice about how people have dealt with their two year old behaving like an asshole. All the requisite pre-cursor statements: love my kid, we have a great healthy relationship. She's literally the best two year ever. I love her. Yada yada yada.

Seriously though, what did you do to deal with your two year old who was behaving like an asshole? Just bury your hurt feelings, banish her to bedroom forever, something much more reasonable in-between the two?

Please send help!",5.47909090909091,8.236038727272728,5.327272727272729,76.46090909090911,70.81818181818181,8.49090909090909,30.318181818181817,9.188382445141503,3.0705636363636364,400,17,64,9,8,124,67,88,0.071,0.624,0.305,0.9804,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,3,1,1,5,9,0,0,6,0,6,3,0,2,2,12,10,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,2,1,10,7,5,7,5,7,0,1,0,3,17,0,0,1,8,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453599102996339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610731128100322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335802260103765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455579018433406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521408997060601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640009336332241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970613771378692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924338251594478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534660427530702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4027667256166439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935072142198396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121829312840137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312674255653698,0.0,0.0,0.16328634931679142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294306952871928,0.0,0.15970527281350125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451748461614862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461492686296408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.581241066309901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056700088784412,0.0,0.0,0.28737656082135543
parenting,sweetpeach1022,2020/01/21,"When your kid makes you audibly ""awwww"" Sitting in baby's room while he falls asleep, and he all of a sudden lifts his head, balls his blankie into a pillow, and does a big sleepy sigh as he lays down on it and gets comfy. Tell me the things that your kids do that are so cute you cant hold in the ""awwww""",11.848461538461542,4.546741000000001,10.337307692307693,78.83519230769235,62.07692307692307,13.615384615384615,37.115384615384606,7.1686216300943375,2.537461538461538,235,3,58,1,2,73,52,65,0.0,0.9209999999999999,0.079,0.608,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,3,2,2,1,1,7,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,1,7,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,0,3,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523297141632984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700511788219316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5304733276889129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450248788940309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517804398620198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433955535744812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CatFarts_and_FineArt,2020/01/21,"Soul? What does soul mean? My toddler daughter called my existential bluff tonight. I told her that I love her with all my soul. ""Soul? Haha, what does soul mean?"" Momma laughed and said ""Dadda, that's all you"". I replied, ""Sweetheart, your mind is what you think with, your body is what you feel with, but your soul is what you know with."" She didn't really care, but Momma was like ""Dang, Dadda"".",1.2227999999999994,3.8520273466666697,1.1803333333333337,99.9585,88.86666666666667,4.066666666666666,16.833333333333336,5.6839178017228535,-0.7284666666666664,301,7,65,2,10,88,44,75,0.047,0.8170000000000001,0.136,0.7221,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,7,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,2,15,14,3,0,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,16,6,4,10,2,1,6,0,0,1,18,0,1,0,2,37,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27432939936644685,0.0,0.0,0.2521852742747531,0.0,0.251803664106937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322524360521228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487609207530086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572894820818612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065768491920052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229012087700914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5380482186740106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493705737270349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821611621072265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349262285553628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582492141404052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23599162711688826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChoreChampion,2020/01/21,"Chore app for kids and teens that actually works! I, as a parent and developer thought that the parenting community needed a chore management app that wasn't horribly designed and actually worked to get my kids to do their chores. So I made Chore Champion, me and around 30 other parents in my area are using it, and OMG we love it. My kids are now pestering me to do their chores, not the other way around. Thought I'd share, if you wanna check it out [click here:](https://chore.cc) [chore.cc](https://chore.cc)",8.994395604395605,9.194385142857149,7.846461538461543,71.2235384615385,60.2087912087912,12.115164835164835,34.683516483516485,11.602472056035307,4.0577103296703285,412,15,72,11,5,126,61,91,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.9278,3,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,2,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,2,0,17,12,8,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,8,9,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,11,2,10,8,0,7,0,0,1,1,12,5,0,1,1,47,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.3782406258474421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34504520701146824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125221686215173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491157526815576,0.1833777309241729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369984082930545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6455740830390572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077102405438605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738050601633678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382898736790454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28217662388155845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,not-my-mom,2020/01/21,"Failing my son Hi Reddit family. I need to vent as I had a rough day and the tears are trailing, but please delete if not allowed. I am a mother to an eight year old and two year old twins. I stay home with the twins as daycare is costly for two and my job allows me to work full time from home. My partner is deployed and I am at least 6 hours to my closest family members. 

I feel so hopeless lately. My son (one of the twins) is having behavioral issues. He constantly bites, hits, kicks, pulls hair, throws things and it’s been a battle for at least the past year. I always thought I was a patient person, but this past year I have lost my temper, broken down in pleas, locked myself in a room to just be for five seconds. His constant badgering and habits have conditioned his twin sister to be defensive, which instantly triggers his aggressive behavior.  I was using timeout outs to give him a reset, but after three times in 2 hours, it is obvious it doesn’t alter/dissuade the behavior.

While my partner was home the few days this past year, the behavior got to him. He reacted to a kick in the balls from our son to a spanking. My husband felt terrible, and set to reading for other ways to manage this. In the last few days he was home, he was trying to reinforce “do nice” by taking my son’s hand and softly pet his face with it, then ask him to do nice to me.  It worked for a few days, but now asking him to do nice results in a resounding “No!”. 

I feel like my lack of patience is failing him. It hurts me so much knowing that I am the only constant influence in his life, and I screwed it up.   I spend so much of my time focused on him and his behavior, my other two children are definitely getting crappy leftovers, and as a result, I’m failing them.  I know my eight year old gets the brunt of my frustration, because my time with her is doing homework or preparing meals, or doing other housework. Fun stuff is limited because I can’t manage the three of them by myself. 

My partner constantly says, this is boy behavior, his craziness is because he is a boy, he is just a kid...I don’t want to dismiss any signs of something bigger by just dealing with the behavior hoping it will get better.  I would feel insurmountably guilty if all this frustration and anger and lack of patience is because there is actually something beneath the surface and I created all these stressful situations just not understanding him.",5.422783650458069,6.003631000000006,6.101071881606767,79.40308069062723,67.75264270613107,9.012797744890767,32.04573643410853,9.029198982220553,2.692877998590556,1905,77,360,32,30,623,231,473,0.16399999999999998,0.7490000000000001,0.087,-0.9922,2,0,2,0,0,1,55.0,1,0,2,8,9,23,8,1,28,0,40,6,3,8,3,61,63,30,0,8,14,7,8,1,3,2,1,1,7,7,21,19,1,2,8,2,2,2,6,16,0,10,11,9,57,7,56,47,12,56,0,6,0,1,44,19,1,5,33,260,78,10,0.0,0.0,0.08004255467427167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824965440099037,0.0,0.0,0.055778409925228686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336074784164938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000168462609447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254262235580096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545506233604916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115920354060882,0.08456204655149276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464785051696578,0.0,0.12441978455803684,0.058597202664613886,0.07875488254554848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285607978136461,0.0786838752926613,0.0,0.0,0.06560123574955337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291027746753481,0.08146728391567867,0.16155214159352685,0.0,0.08780725062139251,0.0,0.0,0.08561063612100148,0.08139510874078787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015532230764288,0.06685964120510862,0.09252544573449292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05793522619144969,0.04007226393628118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953772510850623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059259292069872,0.06081896856263677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25820782428021755,0.0,0.05558086496008536,0.0623821397718055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349005236979784,0.0,0.07161926491750364,0.0,0.09003655392760912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204513368764704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522793175426098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219721794470886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629052854004513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742553746658616,0.0,0.0,0.09395699733977836,0.0,0.09389663918202414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167104083074373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05449239476973866,0.0,0.0,0.06511705001910442,0.1913129369732615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556881901747526,0.0,0.2403734734902185,0.0853887702319768,0.0,0.07084148231937205,0.0,0.0,0.04837925345202677,0.06510598962920268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942735021779935,0.0,0.0,0.05826674117415843,0.0,0.0,0.3169204936503781
parenting,hellamellochello,2020/01/21,"I threatened to throw my daughters toys away when she wouldn't pick them up For reference: my daughter is almost three. I realize she's young but she's pretty smart for her age. I'm not just being biased lol. 

She is also *incredibly* defiant when it comes to cleaning up her toys in the living room/our bedroom. When we pick her room up at the end of the night she has no problem throwing her toys in her toy box but if her toys are in the living room or our room she just flat out *will not do it*. Tonight I was at my wits end. Yesterday I tried getting her to take her toys in her room and she just wouldn't do it. I told her I'd help and I ended up just doing it for her. She'd pick something up and just start playing with it again instead of walking the 5ft to her room and throwing it in there. Tonight I told myself I wasn't going to do that so I told her to take her toys in her bedroom, she refused, I physically pulled her off the couch and stood her in front of a toy, she wouldn't pick it up, I put the toy in her hand and she just dropped it. So, I picked her more valued toys and told her I was throwing them away. I took them into the kitchen and put them in a walmart bag, tied it shut then threw it in the trash. She saw me do this and started hysterically crying, so I took the bag back out and brought it to her and asked ""do you want me to throw these away?"". She said no and I took them out of the bag and handed them to her and told her she needed to take them to her room then. She did, immediately, and the rest of the toys too. 

Could that be damaging to her, like mentally? I don't want to hurt her but it was effective. 

To note, my house is never in bad shape. I always keep it decently clean so it's not like she's just copying her environment. I don't know why she wont clean the living room. She does great at all other tasks I ask of her. She does help with the ""adult"" chores too like holding the dust pan for me and handing me dishes when I'm washing them. She's by no means unfamiliar with cleaning. And like I said she has no problem cleaning her room before bed, which her father and I help her do. 

If you have any other suggestions on how to get her to pick her toys up I'm all ears. I'm just tired of having to do it every single day or getting so frustrated and angry with her that I lose it and start yelling. I'm normally not a shouty parent but I'm very particular about my house being tidy and this just bugs me to my freaking core.",1.8368076109936595,3.170902212121213,3.2783826638477827,93.42856236786473,77.06818181818181,6.275264270613109,21.938160676532764,6.8252276405021135,0.2849922832980969,1920,51,453,18,43,630,204,528,0.098,0.77,0.132,0.9626,1,0,1,0,1,0,50.0,2,2,8,2,27,15,1,0,19,1,33,8,4,8,3,82,72,42,0,12,21,4,3,4,0,5,2,4,19,1,25,31,2,4,5,13,0,17,16,8,0,1,19,8,102,7,65,43,5,80,0,3,1,0,86,40,0,5,26,315,127,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894391164252591,0.0,0.0,0.07142760537996737,0.07431976550367746,0.0,0.0,0.06073933094891741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700062318402886,0.0,0.2517517199922397,0.0686800605072668,0.07457683369147274,0.0,0.0,0.07600307458520247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693958384386347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131318812492382,0.0,0.09811167434626372,0.05760274755910742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632563973889466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23732782085115056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525430207404303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399949703824027,0.0,0.050761501221548884,0.0,0.0,0.09847345588407172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960400107516306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20612205524455385,0.09561681056087268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938997904807885,0.0,0.0,0.04908685964507427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454513345653935,0.0,0.2366084006239535,0.0,0.0,0.09992404157543676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729353148682426,0.0,0.0,0.09001157783070643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622819589962796,0.06888757975443784,0.0,0.0,0.08381893121590397,0.0875127164852486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991771148167574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086855844565876,0.0,0.17093060577110855,0.0,0.17957860268558967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992382185642288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687613918986778,0.0,0.0,0.1896593081073469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20146815393289733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265794929141583,0.0,0.426736080645497,0.2977068910557553,0.06064108707122993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369673823728368,0.10536418985135353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059563976554311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mcbw2019,2020/01/21,"When did you stop cutting your babies’ food into tiny pieces? My baby is almost 12 months (10 months adjusted age-born five week yearly). He does fine with foods that are chopped into tiny pieces, but I am so paranoid to give him bigger foods. When I look at sample meals for babies online, I see whole raspberries, large chunks of cheese, big bites of toast, etc. I would be terrified to give those to him right now. I feel like those look like awful choking hazards, especially because my baby likes to just shove food into his mouth. How do I transition him to larger pieces of food? Am I being too paranoid? Is there anything wrong with continuing to chop things up? Thanks!",4.831428571428571,6.7703676984126995,4.495428571428572,85.27457142857145,70.42857142857143,6.944761904761903,23.711111111111112,7.554174236665415,1.0509263492063496,534,14,98,6,10,162,90,126,0.192,0.7040000000000001,0.10400000000000001,-0.9343,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,0,8,7,1,0,0,1,10,7,1,1,0,13,17,5,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,5,15,5,17,13,5,17,0,0,3,0,9,8,0,1,12,61,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934274400399046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062939707753662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873940101028186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303548162232033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405607451980296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531104527606528,0.09227739550925378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7809501800560731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24781876097871744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189314368948492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216936589862415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20620077300489756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030846798587007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029298942606922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079899397768454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892021859526468,0.0,0.0,0.08581324765951948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361049816415777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421106922672464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175699309636262,0.14122454902454998,0.0,0.08317973215930873
parenting,TillYouSaySo,2020/01/21,"How do I get a tiny dictator to eat?! My son is 3 and won’t eat anything but junk. I have bought things for his lunchbox and that it. Like he might have a cookie with his lunch as a treat but other than that he has a pretty healthy lunch of an entree, fruit, veggie, dairy and Bread. He’s very stubborn about eating anything! I’ve tried negotiating the treats for if he eats his meals but it’s no use.. what can I do?",1.3043181818181822,3.0243526136363665,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,79.68181818181819,5.3090909090909095,18.954545454545453,5.985473137389443,-0.3884136363636359,322,7,76,2,8,104,64,88,0.073,0.758,0.16899999999999998,0.8691,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,6,0,9,9,0,2,0,12,12,9,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,4,9,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,7,3,8,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,1,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33276254100113706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8275441296922889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563347175936326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877752237465344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21448664694248826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569513196432884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343229260062573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727054352949208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746231786649782,0.0,0.16682404295127112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Choppaotta,2020/01/21,"8 month old refuses to sleep Hi! I am looking for tips or really anything for my friend to try. Her 8 month old has been an absolute nightmare baby since birth. He refuses to sleep longer than an hour even overnight. When he wakes up, he is up for hours just crying and fussy. She is only averaging a few hours total of sleep per night and it is affecting her health and mental state severely. She has another child that is 2 now and had the normal amount of sleep issues which they were able to get through. She was a very health compromised baby, and challenging but nothing like her brother. This is incredibly excessive amounts of discomfort and crying and has been since birth. He has had his little rounds of normal baby illnesses which she thought contributed but otherwise he has been to the doctor several times for check ups and they can't figure out what is wrong. He is teething quite a bit now, but has kind of always been incredibly unable to be soothed. He has gone on antacids for a few months, because his doctors thought maybe it was a reflux issue but it is not helping. They have driven, rocked, cradled, sobbed, sung, read, and tried everything else they can think of. She is at her wit's end and needs help.",4.828927203065135,6.6395560689655175,4.746149425287361,83.99157088122608,70.20689655172413,8.431417624521073,27.975095785440608,8.998388855275968,2.213858429118774,976,35,185,19,18,301,141,232,0.12,0.845,0.035,-0.9712,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,4,3,5,7,0,1,9,0,30,12,6,1,1,29,38,16,0,3,7,1,1,1,1,0,6,0,0,1,8,11,0,2,4,2,1,2,2,3,0,0,13,2,17,4,25,24,6,26,0,1,2,0,30,7,1,1,17,113,25,4,0.10402400446356258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655630490293739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907823870007964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560289225390949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341206760508575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356727089326388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285309686245632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129459528858834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689870766059772,0.0,0.09213439199439452,0.0,0.0,0.06870687387443143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349006770532146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036868780584842,0.0,0.05434824889975982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22114530472603647,0.0,0.0,0.1394501949200407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073280710698129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171480687502588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832499300371172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050820874125472565,0.10425938055901253,0.0,0.0,0.08735396463440137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450609426015714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048317297923066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490929037477707,0.0,0.0,0.07713248122635713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976194814097352,0.2038428759737322,0.09981383782570316,0.0,0.21831138792695265,0.0,0.0,0.07911494289570645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106423333148047,0.10405215483651134,0.0,0.06664044094622558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350350315763056,0.0,0.17209946289332073,0.0,0.41639651742207706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665438175504633,0.0,0.16516687990002887,0.06065723354158763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125094143154235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583069795749898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137339189191078,0.0,0.0
parenting,iwine42,2020/01/21,"Winter activities with an 9 month old Hey everyone, I am a first time Mom with a 9 month old baby girl. We live in Oregon where is it is overcast and rainy every single day. My husband is military so I don’t have any family around and all the friends I had previously made have older kids and are in a different stage of life. My husband leave for long stenches of time, so it is just me and baby. I don’t have anyone I can ask to baby sit and we are trying to save money. 
I am going stir crazy to say the least. The T.V is on way more than I would like to admit (baby could care less and doesn’t watch any t.v., but I still feel guilty). I’m struggling to maintain a sense of identity and am starting to feel depressed. If you have any suggestions or if anyone else is feeling the same way I would love to hear from you!!",1.80153100775194,3.4632401220930262,3.5633953488372114,89.93819379844963,78.01162790697674,6.447131782945736,21.350387596899225,7.3011,0.5625173643410855,639,17,140,8,15,214,106,172,0.081,0.816,0.10300000000000001,0.5881,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,0,1,6,8,0,1,9,0,23,2,0,1,1,28,35,13,0,5,5,3,3,1,1,2,1,2,0,2,2,12,0,0,4,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,2,7,16,5,19,30,6,23,0,1,1,1,17,5,0,3,14,92,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080325658457078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111496776536835,0.15470580884741947,0.0,0.134411991543279,0.1411540914636013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394308498729994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205522241441454,0.0,0.0,0.09737524737920357,0.0,0.13004638193970702,0.0,0.0,0.15775109871182022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261317191988729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272145269336316,0.14427621312975758,0.0,0.0,0.1423387479765067,0.0,0.2290333334514055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284309465173566,0.0,0.0,0.11665352725729393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858103814182828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017528537035645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987527635722645,0.0,0.0,0.10664781349705196,0.07376547243569534,0.0,0.13332582512152766,0.13362028502424134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627323433583327,0.14286919810705492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768361893679583,0.24103554614151226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168745706491579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007230760675812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068706084767395,0.0,0.12057980412414684,0.0,0.0,0.1578462159461635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608549895425127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251144442104347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23969567035334866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451613998323307,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jess_611,2020/01/21,"There is exactly ONE dinner all of my kids will eat The only dinner I know all my kids like and will eat is tacos. Even then, we have to have hard and soft shells. I’m exhausted. I don’t know how we got here. It didn’t use to be like this. We have a pantry full of food they reuse to eat. We’re eating out of the pantry this week due to finances and it’s going to be a LONG week. 

Ages 7,9,12 - I have tried being more strict, eat what’s for dinner or don’t eat. They cry, threaten to tell the school I’m starving them and usually are up until 9/10pm crying they’re hungry. I have tried to let them make something on their own. The problem is they just scream at me we have nothing to eat because they don’t want to actually MAKE something. I have asked them to sit down with me and meal plan. That didn’t go over well. Just a bunch of whining and I don’t know what I want for dinner. 

Weekends are even worse. I’ll admit I’ve slacked heavily on meal times and it’s turned into a free for all. They eat all day or whine that we don’t have food when cereal,yogurt,crackers etc are gone. They’re not overweight, intact the middle child is close to being under weight. 

How can I take control of meal time and turn this around?",1.1825581395348834,3.1195663720930256,2.292939534883722,97.00438604651166,81.01550387596897,5.058232558139537,17.684341085271317,5.927762680638738,-0.5327130542635654,956,19,220,6,25,303,135,258,0.11800000000000001,0.815,0.067,-0.9199,0,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,9,2,11,9,0,0,9,0,30,20,0,6,5,41,49,15,0,3,5,0,3,2,0,2,2,1,0,3,10,18,19,1,4,1,2,3,8,5,1,1,4,4,26,5,31,38,9,30,0,2,0,0,20,13,0,2,15,138,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.08902914633152696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121570800912889,0.0852894845539914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055614102147254124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232430160936172,0.0,0.0,0.2004278540805388,0.058837009761288174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7468238457152647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174765289655452,0.12051558153466292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22063588256092312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036983501457198,0.0,0.07296646191320641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172583719294642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041595214488604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329076986530303,0.0,0.08914256833347907,0.0,0.0,0.080737335471524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179596544787652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753944134291104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182107729945846,0.06938594942176457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729657999332294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233152470219767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046950389617693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859501350102075,0.0,0.07974067699094986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639607600119164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388090440595535,0.1984681568312905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879504497850466,0.10047901743200904,0.0,0.10762184321872943,0.0,0.1463614087609562,0.1110958416065071,0.08202840908089486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297307132311317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ManilaSwimmer,2020/01/21,"I need help with my mom I just couldn’t fucking deal with my mom. She says Australia’s burning because there are a lot of gay people and that was God’s punishment.  A lot of things she uses to counter arguments are based of her religious beliefs.

My mom is so fucking judgemental, so criticisive, so homophobic, always in denial, and delusional. I’m not exactly sure what my mom’s beliefs are. I’m not too sure if she’s Muslim or not she doesn’t wear a hijab or anything; though I’m not religious.

If I’m out in the public and an argument breaks out she will shamelessly embarrass me and shout out my problems and insecurities to people who don’t need to FUCKING know.

Now she’s saying she’ll leave us with our Dad to go abroad because “we are the source of her problems” which I still don’t FUCKING UNDERSTAND.

How do I change my mom to tell her, that her point of view towards people and problems are EXTREMELY wrong?  She always sees the negative side of things, but never the positive side.

I want to change my mom’s point of view on things without causing a huge argument, but being polite and civilized as possible? I love my mom because she’s really hardworking, but her point of view of things makes me furious.

I’m VERY open to questions too. I really need help.",5.512816265060241,6.218844927710844,6.307487449799197,77.55954442771085,67.59437751004016,10.080421686746988,32.42996987951807,10.125756701596842,3.2583753012048198,1013,42,192,24,16,334,123,249,0.16,0.789,0.05,-0.9626,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,0,11,15,6,2,9,0,15,7,1,4,4,51,35,20,0,10,13,8,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,9,15,0,0,5,0,0,1,11,12,0,0,1,7,34,3,28,30,2,19,2,0,4,6,35,14,4,7,3,127,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372768163167995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612733950992243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695547824867394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254924294293367,0.17001506717001266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284500880342352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297156693380148,0.0,0.0,0.045668994166602486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077238179856154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04416235636932035,0.0,0.0,0.08508694335888953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663407121258453,0.07252574153715682,0.0,0.05363922596394731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6587957700509868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875210658195118,0.0619766240605441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671292264348789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278913096522044,0.09059095787600883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23067369906331925,0.0,0.0,0.09001874155234163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295808815596973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780694888031816,0.0,0.0,0.06403448863418154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417356828089404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514719028540972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023595857066653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21354369287501296,0.0,0.07895079266726658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365494580685205,0.09666012559214217,0.06940304150304825,0.0,0.0663033170348275,0.047396909625355615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746172016312834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785826357186374,0.0,0.0
parenting,PaleMomma,2020/01/21,"Best Sleep Training Method for a 5 month old? I have been dreading it, but I know I can't keep putting off sleep training my baby girl. 
For the first few months of her life, she nursed herself to sleep. I had heard it was best to not fall into that habit, but it seemed so easy and natural, and I was desperate for some sleep. In the last month or so, she has been staying awake through all her feedings so I turned to another sleep crutch and started rocking her to sleep. I chose to go to another crutch because if I lay her down to sleep while she is drowsy but still awake, she starts crying hysterically and she doesn't calm down if I leave her for a few minutes- she gets more frantic.
In the last couple of days, she has been fighting sleep so hard and it has been taking ages to get her to go to sleep at night and to even take naps during the day (she is a catnapper too so it feels like I spend so much of my day trying to get her to sleep)
I would love some recommendations on what has worked for other parents. And to be completely honest, I am hoping someone can help dispel my anxieties about letting her cry. I have never let her cry more than 5 or 10 minutes because her distress makes me want to join in her sobbing. How do you cope with letting your little one cry? Is there a method with fewer tears that actually works? Thanks so much in advance for you input!
Note: I have been trying a fading out method where I try to lessen the amount of time I spend rocking her but I am starting to think it's not effective",4.228791090629798,5.0125117193548405,4.517465437788019,88.96715053763442,70.51612903225806,7.324116743471582,26.37480798771121,7.2636822038024595,1.0539646697388636,1203,36,259,11,21,377,165,310,0.146,0.721,0.134,0.3436,1,0,3,0,2,0,24.0,0,3,0,7,14,13,1,3,10,0,29,13,10,3,2,36,51,24,0,5,10,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,10,11,1,1,5,3,2,5,5,5,0,2,9,3,45,8,43,37,12,39,0,1,0,1,30,13,1,8,21,182,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.06975578662670588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990950153681634,0.054683272537235865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714911021102109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003117951558986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494715817240148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909309471543169,0.3140769781443957,0.13829926718757418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04721296079499954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03614327395008733,0.051066510590878265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080226157950129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203864765863523,0.0,0.08124934680795337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640335249300407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047912648432000965,0.0,0.0,0.07099741502511031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063536181806373,0.0,0.0,0.03928444970144912,0.11653418321843703,0.0,0.07568875443780554,0.0,0.21928451428925164,0.05048960884402805,0.03492232730656164,0.0716433999870196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451498696423802,0.0,0.047714561623102565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116793176253964,0.0,0.10509448648621614,0.0,0.05513106117370738,0.0,0.0,0.06708069351327559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500797531651958,0.0,0.0484378212622153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937192166549026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185880942137716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507421656702987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7153328096455168,0.0,0.060566176658547535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178525584295274,0.07618993624155906,0.05708534422870268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749062127620976,0.0,0.0,0.0658107066075098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04580255999373945,0.0,0.0,0.04168152948373111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559406033198832,0.07775151717486793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042161733776391486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407899639244604,0.0,0.0,0.05077851876814896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DestinyBoBestiny,2020/01/21,"I wish video games didnt have such a bad wrap. I feel like I help my daughter develop problem solving skills, and its great for bonding. I also feel like it encourages her imagination. Its all about picking certain videos games, and playing WITH them. This one has a great story line with it. Today she blew my mind TWICE, right in a row!! She showed critical thinking and decision skills, in what I felt like was beyond her because of her age. I feel guilty for under estimating her. She remembers what certain people do, and how they help, and is starting to understand when is the best time to use them. I get a little caught up in my words even trying to compliment and encourage her good thinking. 

 [https://www.twitch.tv/videos/539307917](https://www.twitch.tv/videos/539307917)",7.032221462747778,9.736681736842108,4.829213943950787,81.97475734791523,66.21804511278198,8.144634313055366,29.384142173615857,8.841846274778883,2.482088721804512,633,23,102,11,11,177,90,133,0.049,0.626,0.326,0.9913,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,3,3,7,15,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,3,3,28,19,9,0,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,10,6,0,1,1,2,0,2,4,4,21,13,15,15,2,14,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,0,8,70,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432134264893457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952767676959425,0.10916795669655514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793763090446014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828330655595977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716507849065255,0.255875320049988,0.17194874380079087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356400928877356,0.0,0.0,0.15020717980820922,0.0,0.39488152963785605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400724880186091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26247421959313505,0.17948923559721786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082380958529426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135196701894227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415431103083935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135922178937796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20286728487851866,0.15293677500508707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675659144743634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294996184759937,0.0,0.0,0.10442533250673863,0.0,0.1697507116852773,0.0,0.0,0.12158629453291588,0.0,0.0,0.18643278107349148,0.0,0.154671094668409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059377855044446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SomethingCool101,2020/01/21,"My SIL lets her 2 month old watch tv all the time My SIL has a 2 month old baby that she is always putting infront of the tv. Should I say something to her or let it be? I don't understand why she does it, my baby is very high needs and I would never sit her infront of a tv even though I need a break. She has the easiest baby so it's not like she needs a break at all, before her baby was born she wad dead against it. Why are parents so lazy these days, play with your kid!",1.4133962264150952,2.2128504811320795,3.0473113207547198,96.81455188679249,77.20754716981132,6.054716981132076,20.797169811320764,5.985473137389443,-0.18459999999999965,365,8,93,2,8,121,68,106,0.098,0.852,0.05,-0.7190000000000001,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,0,3,13,16,5,1,5,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,17,2,6,10,2,14,0,0,1,0,13,2,0,1,9,58,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856709240448282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193206986593427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514935039646422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562494553560523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792994734667088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18864684836632925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36515695109453467,0.0,0.08723003495519414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850322572487735,0.0,0.0,0.3971755198628292,0.13770801559367582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747143339756152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825756286410934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949108610775802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419893514383564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745576287597724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754235109214105,0.0,0.10411337256920634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587583232033425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732164512905704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222254478145082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268361048287398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheMonkeyToes,2020/01/21,"6 Week Old Baby growth For start, I am mainly just curious about how many other parents have done with this issue with their doctors. 
My 6 week old son is my first baby. I chose to breast feed before he was born and I've done my damnest to stick to it. Even with the obsticles we have faced since he was born.  
He was born 7lbs 6oz. 20 inches long. He was born with a tongue tie center front of his tongue. Couldn't even move his tongue out if his mouth.  (Got the tongue tie lasered when he was 3 weeks old. ) 
We were in the hospital 2 days. When we left to go home he was down to 6 lbs. 14oz. 
Now at the age of 6 weeks and 3 days he is 7lbs 14oz and 21 1/2inches long. (He was last weighed and measured on Thursday the 16th)   
His weight is reported to his doctor every week by my home nurse that visits and has been helping me learn to be a mother and take care of him properly.  
He has been gaining at least 4oz a week, 1/2 inch every 2 weeks.  
The nurses from my sons doctors office keep calling me and telling me that the doctor says I need to feed him every 2 hours on the dot even through the night because he is not gaining weight fast enough.  
Everytime they tell me this it causes me to feel like a shitty mom, stresses me out which leads to a shitty day for my son and I.    
My son is a happy baby and since we have gotten home from the hospital he has gained weight and grown. Has never lost any weight.   Which many others including my home nurse tell me I'm doing a great job and not to listen to the doctors office. He is growing, happy and healthy that is what matters. 
I feel like the doctors office is trying to push me to formula feed by telling me my baby needs to be fatter. 
Has anyone else dealt with this from their baby's doctor's office?",3.4841095890410965,4.16170179452055,4.199342465753425,90.95956164383564,72.15068493150685,6.826301369863014,23.367123287671234,6.55674776486733,0.4657912328767124,1365,32,303,9,25,436,173,365,0.027999999999999997,0.858,0.115,0.9804,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,3,6,10,8,0,1,19,0,33,18,3,3,1,39,47,16,0,4,4,7,6,2,0,0,7,2,4,0,13,23,8,1,3,0,0,9,4,2,0,1,15,8,37,6,40,29,3,52,0,1,0,1,42,12,0,1,33,170,50,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04684852500960073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817047960741889,0.07058739651458673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04199556753557568,0.0,0.058621520600975134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034583787109162,0.0,0.07023938959780385,0.07077046085660771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328779149283634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4935929814714467,0.0,0.14099967353786566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057549937797994076,0.0,0.0,0.07118324817272216,0.0,0.13650639086181848,0.0,0.17413196676931916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966713938684614,0.09843208216963356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859900293404882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039152579100725136,0.0,0.055098758422720745,0.07595302893024335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667238591850093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046176463722057214,0.0,0.2764148277223201,0.0,0.06784416726780572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190473935666107,0.06836409988405273,0.061233855573311874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615569854589434,0.0,0.0,0.0748507246458065,0.0,0.0,0.06731373166523599,0.0,0.0,0.12193346987637105,0.0,0.0,0.07520311818984522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969016500894846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068479335094357,0.0,0.0732206722292434,0.0,0.10216422352606633,0.05313330674799223,0.0,0.0,0.06464992672785229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21686985573238832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649576429777445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478521880079385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397538181191715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876169855873253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789148838340886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051797770904552363,0.0,0.24085653505934024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04677274905538825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868237670153907,0.33556473908393697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StarchyIrishman,2020/01/21,"How do I give my wife a rest? We've got 2 girls, 5 and 6 months. The baby doesn't sleep more than 4 hours at a time. My oldest was a CHAMPION sleeper by the time she was 6 months. My wife is worn out. I'm working 2 jobs, 7 days a week. 76 hours a week. 40 hours a week in 4 days at one, then 30 to 36 hours at the other 3 days a week. The agreement has always been if I'm working the next day, I get to sleep so I'm on my game at work. I help with the kids after work, but on my 2nd job I don't come home, I sleep at a relatives house for 2 nights because it's about an hour away and it saves me some driving. This will only go on until April because I will have successfully gotten us out of debt by then, and I'll go back to one job 40 hours a week. Her post partum depression makes it so hard though, coupled with our 5 year old being....a bit of a nightmare frankly. She's a great kid but her tantrums are migraine inducing. What more could I do for my wife? I need to give her some relief. She's not working so she can be with the girls full time instead of paying for childcare but it's taking her sanity. The only time she gets out is to take our oldest to a childcare/ school thing we have her in 3 hours a day, or the gym for an hour when I get home. Any ideas would be hugely appreciated.",1.6996051103368153,2.3781477874564487,3.4724041811846678,94.50897793263648,76.35191637630663,6.442276422764228,21.332171893147503,6.42735559955562,0.02780185830429716,993,22,250,7,21,334,150,287,0.057,0.846,0.09699999999999999,0.9129999999999999,4,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,0,0,6,9,7,1,0,24,0,20,4,3,3,0,27,38,17,0,4,6,3,1,0,0,3,1,0,2,4,8,11,0,0,2,2,2,4,3,2,0,2,6,1,30,5,36,26,7,58,0,1,0,0,25,16,0,4,37,145,38,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387004864345351,0.0,0.0,0.052199088573364985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211807201401804,0.059023313323255916,0.0,0.0935837509944661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380148764888955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612150791126313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128621052004341,0.08493292086755727,0.0,0.2475176195499915,0.0,0.06611284028569224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031100350714174,0.14726940338396147,0.08724837949265665,0.0,0.06139158000386642,0.0846276138626059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876143012637484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145027125909469,0.0,0.15399206348878586,0.0,0.6047411218470826,0.08857015092645065,0.0,0.08665212628883483,0.0,0.0,0.2285158628380338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051237558741957685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253739264054685,0.0,0.0,0.05691619268454365,0.0,0.0,0.08163459340299019,0.0720335859205203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054617732324848,0.0,0.10402844028450814,0.11675810922934478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351437761331367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768470660365133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304447883883455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542717431532812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099559748966253,0.0,0.0754158137876959,0.0,0.17903631451102048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233222094519443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078591828296033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279409131618215,0.0,0.0,0.054527742678723526,0.0,0.0,0.04943059791099157
parenting,ugafornattywin,2020/01/21,"Best advice for my future. About a year ago I starting dating a guy who is about ten years older than me. Throughout this past year he bought us a house and we have been living in this home for a few months now. Long story short, I really love the man but he has asked me to stop taking my birth control and wants to have a baby. We are not married (clearly) and says that he will have me sign a prenup when we find out I’m pregnant. He knows how important marriage is to me and has expressed to me that he doesn’t “have a lot of time left to plan a wedding.” He has assured me that when I get pregnant all things will fall into place and we will have a wedding and be married after. Also, that he will be in his mid forties when our kid is 10 and he doesn’t want to be an old parent. I’ve asked him to go get married at the courthouse with me and he said he would after I found out I was pregnant and that a piece of paper changed nothing. I’m still on the fence and I don’t feel comfortable. 
Am I being unreasonable ? 
Do you feel like marriage is over rated ?
Should you get married before having a child?
What would this mean for me if I got pregnant and didn’t agree with the prenup? 
Do you feel like it complicated things? 
Women, if you have been in my situation, give me your thoughts, ideas, advice, etc... 
I’m still in my twenties, am I just over analyzing everything ? 
Give me your advice on my future.",2.658658170914542,4.054124982758623,3.731529235382309,90.76682908545729,75.0344827586207,6.146926536731634,23.29835082458771,6.498293943080001,0.4697601199400298,1095,31,238,8,23,354,151,290,0.01,0.893,0.09699999999999999,0.9739,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,6,6,0,3,11,6,0,0,16,0,37,1,0,2,3,48,63,19,0,7,5,1,3,2,0,7,0,2,1,5,13,20,0,3,9,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,9,5,38,6,31,43,6,42,0,0,0,1,43,16,0,3,26,166,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521210896123079,0.1064735287915965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605486534207272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22458015058255126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220789365721374,0.0,0.12605189521513946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706434540249167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471770396934252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395850220236802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795042930773936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18219925466419776,0.17161847191464152,0.0,0.0,0.10978172615367056,0.0,0.0,0.1316984488294107,0.0,0.0,0.1882633186023139,0.23044797068791484,0.06826337154184972,0.0,0.0960658813313054,0.0,0.0,0.11893142601201573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048381305827985,0.0,0.0,0.13859505827770435,0.0,0.13559372279788584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601133648805219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305038631945129,0.0,0.0,0.1173629523284017,0.0,0.10606257874592552,0.10629682576139024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211635419902763,0.10840728444419373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083900847448354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587359226878484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525231405436688,0.0,0.12603910034467508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333720255363721,0.0,0.11466209732380495,0.0,0.0,0.12549322919342748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694789816686191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142556140584739,0.09551921819451373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350128072581804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501707990074117,0.0,0.1918458776974125,0.1004204136038811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031053793928953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959638167163648,0.0,0.0,0.09535684394211358,0.07003925189222512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448196609076178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169231929601853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065062202693942,0.0,0.0,0.2320478127173331
parenting,bumchik_bumchik,2020/01/21,"Toddler crying in pain holding his penis My 17 month boy started holding his penis area and crying from yesterday onwards. He just did that, and I immediately undressed him to see if he was peeing when he was feeling the pain, but I don’t think he was peeing at that time. Yesterday my wife put him in shorts without diapers, and she confirmed that he cried when he was peeing. 

Anyone else experienced this?",5.106754385964912,7.084824236842112,5.807894736842107,75.98359649122811,69.78947368421053,7.698245614035088,31.08771929824561,8.344100000000001,2.581682456140351,326,14,54,5,6,106,51,76,0.147,0.8370000000000001,0.016,-0.8608,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,6,5,3,0,0,11,10,7,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,3,9,0,6,5,0,13,0,0,1,0,13,5,0,1,7,34,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479224548094268,0.2167605773523568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6971415943434289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672500134082114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696732066651077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885921909889007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4502136362457888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21266873390343666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857998458016452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497379766668156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555432551470858,0.0,0.0,0.12335798733435205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20392909928982525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikebwn_80,2020/01/21,"My autistic 8 year old is a very picky eater... He snacks constantly, but getting him to eat meals (especially dinner) is usually a huge chore. Right now, he’s working on his eighth taco of the night...big win!",2.527749999999997,4.906868275000001,3.3550000000000004,88.82000000000002,78.75,7.0,25.0,8.07648339933343,1.4959999999999996,161,6,33,3,4,51,37,40,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.857,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,13,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38117710164968616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609320623678421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842874860648653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33101432307666234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701320435787535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012305052637069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884835675186114,0.29104016916817643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567925041690704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271473188192402
parenting,mrsquiduardspongy,2020/01/21,"Wife wants to give birth in another city. My wife’s family is across the country about a 5 hour flight. My family is here hers is there. My wife wants to have the child there so all the in-laws can see the baby and her whole family doesn’t have to fly here. I would have to fly there and take time off. I plan on taking two weeks off but the due date might be miss and the whole time I’m there what if she doesn’t give birth. I think it’s a better idea she has the baby here where she will keep her same doctors and then fly there after a week or two. What’s more logical? I’m not trying to argue with her just want to speak to her in a rational way. Thanks. 

P.S I’m in Canada so the costs don’t change.",0.035491935483872084,1.89520901290323,1.6629637096774204,100.39444556451616,84.67741935483872,5.423387096774193,12.913306451612904,6.6274283507984215,-1.0202822580645161,547,5,139,6,16,177,88,155,0.013000000000000001,0.907,0.08,0.8691,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,13,4,1,0,12,0,15,1,0,0,1,21,30,10,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,0,2,14,2,17,26,5,20,0,1,1,0,16,8,0,3,11,89,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276202213605612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372797446089417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420249963404407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887455788819227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43898366368319947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978029179049822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286073220658444,0.0,0.0,0.175224829180617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796693770033844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466421276116486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369048545569104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334127016662806,0.0,0.0,0.14290600096499373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945890296697706,0.0,0.0,0.1810204144486356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538439715383244,0.0,0.3032553642708015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746588698857976,0.12320665201448475,0.24901672946000114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465958512608673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026405012423897,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pris_c,2020/01/21,"Mommies or daddies does your little one act out when you arrive? My mom mentioned how she noticed my son whines and acts out with me. If my husband or mom are watching him he will be fine all day, but as soon as I arrive the whining starts.

I never really realized as I just assumed this was normal behavior, but when my mom mentioned that he is a totally different kid when I'm not around it really got me thinking.  What am I doing that they aren't? Or vice versa? 

I'm usually the disciplinary, as I don't allow him to have things he shouldn't, but I also shower him with a ton of love and do not address him unless he's being bad. 

Anyone else experience this as well? Does anyone know why he may be doing this? My son is currently 1yr and 6mo.",3.5333689839572173,4.553789169934642,5.259382055852644,82.12903743315508,72.33333333333334,8.178015448603684,26.32739156268568,8.575989854853784,1.8253712418300647,585,19,117,10,11,200,98,153,0.078,0.858,0.064,-0.2753,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,9,6,0,0,4,0,17,1,0,2,3,31,24,21,0,3,11,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,8,8,0,0,4,0,0,2,6,3,1,1,2,1,21,3,13,16,3,15,0,2,1,1,23,4,0,6,9,88,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401791173976432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23435909039865715,0.17171095425651606,0.0,0.14918645591503385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399267336812887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080786608661738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509098007778093,0.0,0.0,0.29331006797359543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999602230200714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393059013259073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340332814960745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210050355882124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796450670981786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125228510653993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5888216683590531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925212226259913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419802192215707,0.0,0.1907969860116448,0.0,0.0,0.11356014309594988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21471888151343796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186177448683534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133623329065603,0.10738189975334984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457154252501748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067931974134546,0.0,0.15121967591171304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InternationalSense6,2020/01/21,"Absent Father Help I am hoping for the best but preparing for anything. I know that I need help, I'm not afraid to ask for it because I am sure that it is for the best but am unsure about how to prepare for this situation. I believe that I have a daughter who is about 9 years old. Her mother and I haven't spoken since before she was born. I wasn't ready or prepared to raise a child or support a family and only have reasonable suspicion that she exists because of a fb post and word from a mutual friend. I like many others believe I would want to provide a better or similar upbringing to my own, however there is no such thing as a perfect life but I believe there are perfect moments. I know that it is going to be a difficult challenge to even try and be a part of a child's life that I know next to nothing about. I now know that the mother got married and has been in prison for about 2 years with about 5 years left on the sentence. I don't know if the child is even mine or how to go about with most any thing related to this situation. I would suspect either the state or the mothers relatives have custody of the child and her older sister. I just want what's best for the child and to help where I can. If it means only child support payments and/or visitation then that is a possibility I will work towards. What are my options and what should my goals be? Do I talk to a lawyer? Should I hire a private investigator? I prepared a letter to the mother and will start there. Words can try to help this kid and her family but I don't know where to begin and which paths to follow. Any help or constructive criticism is welcome.",4.815238095238094,5.19941871771772,5.725216645216644,82.25891891891894,69.03003003003003,8.625139425139427,29.07035607035607,8.563005593585519,1.9918698412698417,1295,44,265,19,21,427,157,333,0.083,0.71,0.207,0.9929,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,9,18,16,0,1,24,0,34,2,0,3,3,54,55,27,0,10,15,7,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,7,23,13,0,0,9,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,4,0,32,14,39,42,7,24,0,0,0,0,31,6,0,11,13,197,55,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674789903509238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273984903611767,0.0,0.09399586726257037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258242128432913,0.0,0.08555626648632939,0.33983886413460274,0.31654686792497594,0.0889237539305064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281785749136082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956948285937886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768070588740042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428391678782245,0.0,0.08041490582899972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33696548597674303,0.0,0.0,0.09986372801320724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33154093839161763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924227960720892,0.0,0.14203560969959148,0.04912113764278917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019367022596998,0.0,0.10952282328988153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745527362968102,0.0,0.0,0.10693059439872207,0.0,0.0,0.09647550048797614,0.0,0.10550491230111704,0.0,0.0,0.15293778654757706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888028039831817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334921734713925,0.09629417832998974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337685709671904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317174340765324,0.2260332603191855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116616616982788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281942208468265,0.09476233633655363,0.0,0.0,0.08081414621745854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335950685604286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652671378894402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860792151155565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319785223128734,0.0,0.0,0.1428483610391303,0.0,0.0,0.1942427711992359
parenting,northwestwill,2020/01/21,"Story time In Frikkin’ Space! Fortunately my two 4.5YOs love reading like it’s going out of style, so we do a LOT of it instead of having screen time... but today I stumbled across an exception...  the astronauts aboard the ISS have a website where they record themselves reading kids books IN SPACE!  (So I’m a bit of a space nut, if you couldn’t tell...)

Anyway, they have recorded a ton of cool content that you can see at [Story Time From Space](https://storytimefromspace.com).  The kiddos love watching astronauts float, read, and make the tie-ins between the books and their current missions. 

Just wanted to share!  Cheers!",5.264999999999997,7.968772772727274,4.254545454545454,84.1518181818182,71.27272727272728,6.218181818181819,27.363636363636363,7.1686216300943375,1.4392909090909098,495,18,85,5,10,145,81,110,0.0,0.8059999999999999,0.19399999999999998,0.9697,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,2,3,0,6,6,0,0,11,1,6,2,0,1,0,12,13,6,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,8,6,14,12,3,15,0,0,3,2,11,9,0,2,6,55,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335853029085513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159652366471145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452843661122073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189833580522347,0.3862085516905401,0.0,0.14281775914503675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6420438013857991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049578942244553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700758697018408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3742796183873135,0.0,0.20280593500126207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900460749854172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619720552348873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JaneStuartMill,2020/01/21,How to describe being a stay at home mom on my resume? I'm looking to get back in the workforce after a few years of being a stay at home mom. I would like to list what I've been doing the past few years on my resume - how would you describe the job duties of being a stay at home mom? What could I list as valuable experience and traits?,2.974583333333332,3.6223128472222257,4.448222222222224,88.819,73.30555555555556,6.315555555555558,22.73333333333333,5.6839178017228535,0.24809666666666666,263,6,58,1,5,88,41,72,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.7303,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,2,0,7,11,4,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,2,13,4,2,14,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,6,41,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067650365237367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530312500684576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535165833429674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199421797188844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722682301042308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573787036414885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667253158885709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317893430228512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5514156366525313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498161575640003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018286933130317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297011021683816,0.0,0.0,0.2021273084645508
parenting,3Anklebiters,2020/01/21,"Advice for switching schools when kids don't want to switch schools? I have 3 young boys. Currently in 3rd grade, 1st grade, and kindergarten. They attend a small private school right now but due to better access for special needs students, I have one kid with a medical disability and one kid with a learning disability, we are transferring them to public next school year. I thought they would be pumped. We live in a culdesac and they are always running around with the kids here playing. All of the kids go to the public school so they know a lot of students at the public school. They'll also be able to all walk to school next year instead of having to be driven across town. 

They are all pretty upset about it. My oldest is worried about never seeing his friends, my middle is probably just mad to be mad, and my youngest is pretty devastated because he hates change. He doesn't do well with change. 

Is there anything I can do make the transition easier? The school is a lot bigger and class sizes are a lot compared to what they have currently. My kindergartener doesn't do well in big groups. His class right now is only 12 kids but next year they'll be around 20 to 25 students. Is there anything that can prepare them for that change? Going from knowing everyone to having unfamiliar faces in class? Thanks.",5.149473684210528,6.989984595141706,4.6719028340080975,84.72178137651824,69.44534412955466,7.305263157894737,27.574898785425106,7.85451343220497,1.6522842105263162,1053,36,193,13,19,318,130,247,0.125,0.7809999999999999,0.094,-0.8044,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,10,2,16,11,3,1,13,0,32,2,1,1,4,31,44,10,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,7,4,13,0,0,4,1,0,6,4,4,2,2,2,1,22,7,32,34,6,36,0,0,1,0,28,15,0,3,15,129,26,18,0.08684339426281322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486235978594656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944863101631757,0.07226066090592638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292942788310695,0.15461806552535878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293892709136752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680592497188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27560638832073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298258481001929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709499098309576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987102045327258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573987259108111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545371667175133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668430817880281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22149344475922925,0.0,0.0,0.057968640020435926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748558333133144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439327645722287,0.06697897938091689,0.0,0.2770768050459881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769466295438212,0.06604831465009041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670190545817024,0.09363186721864104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14832756839239564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7031212107320917,0.06920294157530381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995372965921002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894395454340163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122248397096711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616528182928752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881936823525606,0.0,0.061691055625596576,0.0,0.0,0.16777289589818384
parenting,michaelrad,2020/01/21,"What's your favorite blog or site for parenting wisdom? Hello! New-ish father here and I would be so grateful to learn about your go-to blogs or sites that have helped and inspired you as a parent.

Thanks for any recommendations!",3.024418604651164,5.919107255813959,3.1314418604651166,87.92925581395347,81.09302325581395,5.300465116279073,20.227906976744187,6.742157984588678,0.3854781395348836,184,5,34,2,5,56,38,43,0.0,0.6609999999999999,0.33899999999999997,0.9513,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,4,6,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,0,21,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23391765492879515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549130918804636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23056201032059476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33221725962962384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7638963998484164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31668983687221786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443529579647896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JaneDope529,2020/01/22,"Help me help my step son with reading. This is probs the wrong place to put this, but y’all are smart people so please help me be a good step mommy.

TL;DR version: My step son hates to read and I would love for him to be able to at the very least endure it for school. 

I am a member of step mom, but it is mostly about the family dynamic. 
My step son is 9 and has a weekly reading assignment where he can read whatever he chooses for 20 minutes and write a summary. It is always a nightmare for me to help him with this because he drags it out by “loosing” his place, coughing, clearing his throat, itching and scratching, dropping the book, having to use the bathroom and everything in between. I have started setting him a minimum of 10 pages because when he reads well he can read about a page per minute, but when there’s a time limit of 20 minutes he does everything but read and gets through about 4-6 pages. 
This problem affects him in other academic areas that he’s usually good at like Math for example, he will do the math, but on word problems he does not answer what the question is looking for because he’s not reading the whole problem. 
Anyway, he reads really well when he wants to, but he hates it so much he is sacrificing grades across all subjects.  He is also up to take a “gifted” assessment test soon and I am afraid he will ruin it for himself by not reading thoroughly. 
Do y’all have any advice on how I can do a good job as a step parent and help him?",8.364987006237007,5.882820888513514,8.279189189189191,76.25936590436592,63.08783783783784,11.134719334719335,37.63409563409564,9.265573868473778,3.277589708939709,1157,44,232,15,13,376,153,296,0.084,0.762,0.154,0.9717,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,2,0,1,16,17,2,1,19,0,25,4,2,3,2,37,34,22,0,5,9,5,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,13,11,0,1,3,11,0,7,3,8,2,0,0,2,21,9,37,29,9,30,0,1,1,1,39,13,0,2,9,150,34,19,0.07643524798551765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469163970313153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061125240198723986,0.06360024942400219,0.0,0.0,0.051978589706489504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978265317694766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377800120034616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739014463228347,0.0,0.07205634923788057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03993426232391275,0.0,0.0,0.19233077869342288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092796589486218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25616467769407203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585018947338097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03734240127221725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418635759871552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898579553825387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952003864117665,0.0,0.0,0.05618870202170799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487229738617191,0.0,0.0,0.0529905768579018,0.0,0.15971713146323907,0.08390294921391528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194146285492592,0.0,0.07683853578259846,0.08562497077205622,0.0,0.7645593244915005,0.0,0.048966377095905816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735655164447834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410126193421174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057469794001128414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0445700077763371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601551296665209,0.0841826269655508,0.063067084534796,0.04508348963084672,0.0,0.061311745430897374,0.0,0.13744893488647444,0.0,0.0,0.08533722471575893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05429740713451114,0.08356994466591446,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lili2313,2020/01/22,"Youth Vaccination Survey Please take this one minute survey about vaccination for my research class. But only take it if you have children or are planning to have children within four years.

[Youth Vaccination Survey](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdQZ8_I5Xh2SguhvB8dei7nq57ofHEL4Ebq8R4IojsQ6iPEng/viewform?usp=sf_link)",18.488211382113825,23.33664107317073,10.749756097560981,42.334065040650415,40.70731707317073,11.320325203252034,40.495934959349604,11.20814326018867,5.568115447154472,288,11,27,6,3,73,34,41,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,16,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055435661352701,0.34293207676264714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4949561290441998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6780459338382471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903667712524987
parenting,Sketched_tafook,2020/01/22,Politics and Parenting Today I learned that democratic decisions are lovely in principle but fucking useless in practice. We need an autocratic leader to bludgeon us with the way forward otherwise we are just a bunch of cunts. Apply this to your parenting.....,5.981860465116278,9.611106720930234,6.698883720930233,62.35251162790698,74.81395348837209,10.88186046511628,41.158139534883716,10.355215969177356,6.408501395348837,211,14,26,8,5,69,38,43,0.19,0.762,0.048,-0.8438,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,9,5,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,5,1,5,0,1,0,2,7,3,2,0,2,22,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29051889275129866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28362272964704205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23301225801305314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.697874467294746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29787208295567874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780038381879052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494368782010997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,classicme26,2020/01/22,"Nightmare nighttime potty training Hi,  so we recently decided to get rid of pull ups at night because he was waking up dry. Since then he always feels damp but not drenched . Maybe a light tinkle not a tsunami. 
I don’t want to go back to diapers. I really don’t . How long is this gonna last ? Is this normal? Help me!",-0.12593749999999915,2.17686078125,2.024750000000001,91.94525,97.4375,5.0600000000000005,20.4625,6.742157984588678,0.6736737499999998,246,9,50,4,10,82,54,64,0.022000000000000002,0.909,0.069,0.5952,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,1,0,9,10,4,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,7,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675630715462693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247259229341872,0.0,0.19601954589607992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259002828000815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800144628502273,0.0,0.1827495430198211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553439996296464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26211372233792263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845698343575433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32304950640981744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017615911172785,0.3150598103137493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599910184202866,0.0,0.3175009851308394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26599715037995697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966398828463368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaddyJMo1381,2020/01/22,"Did I over react to kids playing? My daughter rides the bus home from kindergarten and told me about two months ago that a boy, whose family we know, slapped her in the face. We just told her to avoid him and let us know if he does it again. Today she said that he messed up her hair when he got off the bus and he’s done it before, and she didn’t want him to. 

I texted his mom telling her about this and that I’d like for her to talk to him so that he’d stop. She was pretty irritated that I would accuse him of this and when she talked to him he said he didn’t do it. Just that he will play duck duck goose while getting off the bus, tapping all the kids. 

Was I over reacting texting her? Would it be better if I just let it go and tell my daughter to keep avoiding him? Should I have not let the mom know and just talk to the bus driver? I was just surprised by her reaction when I told her about what her son was doing.",3.146710475454196,3.3924564271356807,3.7217085427135683,95.64442597603404,72.6683417085427,6.927097023579434,22.34286818708929,6.297961479604792,0.06092856590645512,715,14,178,4,13,225,102,199,0.07,0.846,0.083,0.4012,0,2,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,13,8,0,2,8,0,20,2,2,2,1,32,33,15,0,6,8,5,1,1,0,4,0,2,1,3,15,10,0,4,3,2,0,2,3,3,0,1,14,3,35,5,21,10,1,17,0,0,0,0,50,6,0,2,10,122,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993784688194205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151327925232834,0.0,0.0,0.11966440954162468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184044694530811,0.13846183102094198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755152156085728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069017478265058,0.0,0.07689574954970113,0.0,0.10821408002964866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357198290161021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026342402666272,0.0,0.0,0.22307678701077954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4150691114051776,0.0,0.06610215687285217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169302153006129,0.10799747467807058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765167979731682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25740806188869503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131192731877802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262540096073841,0.2365213764038959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282513176778903,0.3878631245114614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217126171515364,0.0,0.16275271537317004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980514917156761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223057981892155,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,userwife,2020/01/22,"My soon to be 5 year old is out of control. Recently my son has lost his mind. He went for MONTHS with nothing, but good behavior and then it’s like a flip switched. He does not listen at all and then screams and kicks like a maniac when he doesn’t get his way. My husband and I are at our wits end. All of his actions have consequences and he still does not care & continues to repeat the bad behavior. If any of you have any discipline advice or anything that could help that maybe we haven’t thought of, please comment below.",2.914257528556597,4.680431495327107,3.4933956386292837,91.19207684319835,75.16822429906544,7.372377985462098,25.907580477673932,8.167268648758528,1.4464670820353072,418,15,90,7,9,131,78,107,0.162,0.732,0.106,-0.7846,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,0,2,3,8,1,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,2,20,15,11,0,2,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,8,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,2,10,4,12,10,2,19,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,2,14,54,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925800607695637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21353140268553686,0.0,0.26803642292973484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217648187557232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454994995663816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093177674969687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103711804694967,0.1573488837800618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449244882451455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455054566469266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102963901926555,0.0,0.0,0.1652977191550573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320956653071623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19256243228473469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151313706102524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197988996112397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198990243552552,0.0,0.1573039170614358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890994174946488,0.0,0.2067977606548073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632990148004447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945884456204872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738488211272395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564560659066314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564294912216463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826911175787868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691026806644967
parenting,dabirds1994,2020/01/22,"Daughter Is a Junior Climate Activist, Then I Told Her About Bacon My 7 year old has a science teacher who went all in on climate change. She’s asked us to stop using Kleenex because it’s bad for trees. And the other day asked “why do we have furniture made out of wood from trees?” 

A few nights later, we were talking about meat and the impact on the environment (we as a family had already cut back on animal protein) and then I realized something. 

Me: Hey. Do you know where bacon comes from.

Daughter: No

Me: Pigs

Daughter: “Really” w/ ☹️ face. 

She loves bacon. We’ll see what happens.",0.7104398976982083,3.2425698956521742,2.4395396419437354,89.62099744245525,93.52173913043478,4.792838874680307,22.41687979539643,6.522977012572876,0.8218849104859336,458,18,87,6,17,150,88,115,0.08900000000000001,0.878,0.033,-0.6486,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,5,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,7,0,8,2,1,2,1,14,19,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,1,14,1,13,13,2,17,0,0,1,1,19,6,0,0,9,55,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23268300281531476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942406815188201,0.0,0.0,0.1621339689930458,0.17605456302784447,0.12853484604371826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230559290225764,0.18163234000003425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359836030673619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987747022666497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18645779281869315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588002865574625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19030427039086725,0.1995154708083572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19787251051346572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212561559381388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507868676752666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680236062548492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232596913392802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762836661873349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947672812110612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148035385108695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25363180419572895,0.18211044652853406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546408177503272,0.19026324179400875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578327914455893
parenting,facingmyselfie,2020/01/22,"How do you expose your children to the news? My parents watch the evening news every day. As a result, I passively watched the news while I was growing up because that was what was on TV. I didn’t always pay attention to everything, but I was aware of most important stories and I often had questions that my parents would answer.

As I grew up, I realized that I prefer reading my news. I don’t even have cable anymore and I’m happy with this. Recently I started to wonder how my future children would be exposed to world news. 

It’s not like I’m going to sit there scrolling through Reuters with a 5 year old. I suppose I could curate what I feel is important and tell them what’s going on, but I think this would only teach them what I was interested in. Would this even be ethical? I’m actually uncomfortable being “the news” for my kids. I want them to be exposed to things from a variety of sources.

The only solution I see is getting cable and going back to watching the evening news. Even though I don’t personally enjoy watching the news, I don’t really see another way. I do listen to CBC when I’m in the car, but I don’t drive everyday. I don’t really see radio news being frequent enough for my future children to be adequately exposed to what is going on. 

I just want my kids to grow up knowing what’s going on in the world and I’m unsure of a way to achieve this outside of watching the news.

How do you approach this with your children?",4.0634167893961735,5.239939013745708,5.4665193912616585,80.55144329896909,71.23367697594502,8.154540991654395,31.039273441335297,8.563005593585519,2.461673735886107,1147,50,220,19,21,386,131,291,0.06,0.83,0.11,0.9559,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,4,3,1,14,4,0,0,14,0,30,0,0,4,0,45,52,16,0,8,5,2,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,7,16,8,0,0,9,3,1,11,7,0,0,0,7,10,37,4,36,34,2,38,0,0,8,0,19,12,0,4,13,159,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.12024033359613942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252497869903826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920195832984036,0.0,0.0,0.12219644306838524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474494023003566,0.0,0.07511088750569757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983773703256174,0.0,0.0,0.07946365850967793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731431576111438,0.0,0.4069126326703056,0.0,0.10381418273945553,0.0,0.11073794347862054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230134483712273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437489524334823,0.0,0.3501303991071517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311649505579871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771589233909649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019675912717661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929370322628408,0.0,0.0,0.187421536634535,0.0,0.0,0.2736319608951669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758682479132506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802930623724616,0.0,0.1232486179968656,0.0,0.15786971951189266,0.0,0.12166021846491565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945598623913329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721240525988973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769558057840767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185875316235988,0.07895137248865826,0.12105838129726655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535112223432567,0.19560509891217706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362170885144845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501143822733427,0.0,0.0,0.07934659680934153
parenting,Princess_Lil_Piddles,2020/01/22,"How to help my wife take time to herself My wife is amazing. I've been sick and my kids are now sick. She's been handling it like a champ! 

She's getting upset with herself that she wants time alone, thinking she's selfish because she wants *too* much time alone.   

She's been carrying the world on her shoulders during my stint with the flu and really needs to unwind. In my mind a substantial amount of time alone seems a good thing for her to have. 

How can I explain the necessity of spending time alone, especially after talking on a lot more stress? I recall my psychologist explained it to me in that my stress is like a limited currency, and taking time to yourself is a way to restock that currency. I'm not sure this is a perfect analogy in this sense though",3.9112000000000013,5.665209653333335,4.625,84.1675,72.46666666666667,7.666666666666668,29.16666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.094266666666667,608,25,118,10,12,195,86,150,0.195,0.67,0.135,-0.8042,0,4,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,3,5,11,0,3,10,0,10,4,1,2,2,20,21,6,0,3,1,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,8,5,0,1,4,1,3,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,20,7,18,18,4,15,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,2,10,78,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5911638702242645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698671418571831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455324786095648,0.0,0.0,0.1196874010836167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095646733396211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942900836326927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131581322019296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408320461735902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489865055805493,0.10580795347436832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914152969415974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990591099941973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269176652635956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344901525049659,0.0,0.2145806406504537,0.11469437404691885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480148885730216,0.09143442051220796,0.1401989932936452,0.0,0.4992463078389144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833267381392086,0.11326616817736325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jenterra,2020/01/22,Embarrassing but I'm new... I'm new and i made a comment which was upvoted...what does that mean? Im trying to learn and I'll get there eventually lol. Thank you for any help given!!!,-1.7023684210526326,-0.3670961052631547,1.4782894736842105,92.92427631578951,115.31578947368419,5.0578947368421066,15.276315789473689,6.6274283507984215,0.058410526315789024,140,4,32,3,8,49,31,38,0.045,0.672,0.28300000000000003,0.8904,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,2,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,12,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21252244594254374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734859505514109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327736388987715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20947372437398265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375722570688662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29571137728440505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404229016509496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6036622128612619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877238947941585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21217869784952345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crimejunki,2020/01/22,"Absent mother   

Hi Reddit world, I need a minute to vent..and possibly accept any advice.

My SIL is 34 with 4 kids and has never had a job more than a few weeks (in her life). 

There are 3 dads, none are around. 

We own a second house my mother and father in law live in, they are on a fixed income. 

My SIL has been dropping the kids off with my in laws for years and disappearing. She has a room at the house we own, but treats it like a hotel/ storage. She comes in late, has random men over, then disappears after waking up mid-afternoon. Never to take the kids, only to ‘relax’. Since she is staying in a house that she doesn’t contribute to we’ve asked her several times to leave. We’ve also asked her to let the kids with their either families who are far more equipped to care for kids (one uncle and his wife, one grandparent). She refuses as she gets food assistance for these kids. My in laws are in their mid-60s and would rather lock themselves in their room than argue with her when she’s there, or report her for abandonment. We’ve offered to take the older one before there were 4, she refused because she said we must only want him for the income tax. Now that there are 4 we cannot possibly take them as we have 3 kids and jobs of our own.

I feel completely helpless, she’s keeping the kid out of pure greed and refuses to spend even a few hours a week with them! CPS has investigated her more times that I can count and they never check into her stories. Example: she told them she lived with us in our house (not the one she is in now), they never asked us nor went inside our house, they didn’t question why her son missed nearly 2 full months of school last school year.

Thanks for listening,",4.390308924485127,5.161458119883044,4.700358504958047,87.84765446224259,70.14035087719299,7.936130180523772,23.64149504195271,8.04050195162591,0.9953141113653694,1335,30,284,17,23,420,183,342,0.076,0.88,0.044000000000000004,-0.8987,5,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,10,0,10,0,11,11,2,0,18,0,25,3,1,0,6,49,44,16,0,5,5,6,1,1,0,2,1,2,2,9,6,23,1,5,3,2,4,4,10,5,0,5,7,3,51,6,49,34,11,51,0,3,0,0,72,25,0,3,21,192,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901630338087624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284808510543946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194725311980225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109324713386545,0.25548264313891345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553024458086836,0.0,0.07751454659868401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928767180077468,0.0,0.0,0.07846968020303835,0.09551064867735537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016693122821399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587560628969061,0.0,0.04606001914516074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015159868519726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047593016091838115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970954371732487,0.5255530037261559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079408899029284,0.0809688063802223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425401912288454,0.10275834708484048,0.09645571907218632,0.0,0.09315010164222456,0.06434260363903725,0.0445040774821649,0.0,0.16087588557789198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271060746468516,0.0,0.0,0.06754527504612277,0.2810301841123449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469114422526873,0.13856265202895435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20539028994172134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204647274471948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665154718675439,0.0,0.0,0.18438460574844234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291063894798484,0.0,0.07535415282639131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970944117237699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20547474811266292,0.0,0.0,0.08386739979572698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623564697937933,0.0,0.0,0.08704451494643971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21915047248254074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05372978296364517,0.0,0.14614071812535107,0.0,0.0,0.08444533604568692,0.08219844405443663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471078269925776,0.0,0.0,0.11732349526952544
parenting,mito-power,2020/01/22,"I’m a teenager and my sister keeps taking my stuff So I’m a 16 female. My sister is a 17 female. We get along relatively well and we occasionally borrow things from on another. But...

When I borrow things, I make sure to return it in the same condition it was gave to me. I’ll wash clothes I borrowed from my sister before returning. 

My sister on the other hand literally has no respect for other people’s things. She LOST my AIRPODS. She doesn’t return things. She sometimes borrows my makeup brushes and she’ll leave them on the floor where they can get destroyed by my 4 dogs (she does me makeup on the floor and just leaves everything on the floor when she’s done). Don’t get me wrong, the makeup brushes I have are pretty inexpensive but they’re mine and she let some of them get destroyed. She’ll just take clothes from my mom’s closest and never return them. 

And what really ticks me off is when i reject her request to borrow something of mine and she always says how i borrow everything from her. Yes, I borrow things from you but I don’t destroy them before never returning it. 

I’m making her buy me a new pair of AirPods but how can I tell her that she needs to learn to respect other people’s things? My mom tells her that all the time but she never listens.",2.7833926737418686,4.85424469291339,4.047665183156453,85.71248373844573,76.48031496062994,6.149674768914756,22.460801095515233,7.079830092131019,0.7927294077370761,1008,29,194,11,23,330,119,254,0.086,0.845,0.069,-0.6504,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,5,1,10,10,3,0,11,1,15,2,1,4,5,32,31,19,0,1,7,6,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,16,11,0,1,1,0,9,0,7,6,1,0,4,5,50,4,23,24,3,25,0,2,0,0,36,12,0,1,13,143,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162680412986043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807007891145505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20785721057624573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688189785416953,0.1249873703943741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195356377430955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25524374460903565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855994762515238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25864844200496184,0.0,0.12489217277170578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332569859435658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305324504852606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28608804258088416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056217880871108,0.2825960709336999,0.11795955668540005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934722815832065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425605931524085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782433474576358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712732324238683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402613771484146,0.12079547013428955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981631764080074,0.0,0.0,0.1151115850862388,0.0,0.18366190545573427,0.0,0.21350421744971512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4868497558063152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121839130150909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981478932922302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353636934796353,0.0,0.0
parenting,CaughtMeIfYouCan101,2020/01/22,"Why am i always the bad parent. Anyone else significant other attack your parenting because they are just mad at you or because they are frustrated? 

Today my daughter (3) dropped my phone in the toliet. I freaked for 2 seconds. (She was only trying to hand it to me and its a pretty new phone) 

Anyways i yell for him and he started going off ""its not that bad. Get over it"" 
I simply said if it was your phone you'd freak out too. 

Hes gonna go and say ""well be a mom and stop ignoring your kids!"" Like dude what!? I heard my daughter say ""mom here phone"" went to grab it. I wasn't ignoring her. 

Yet he spends all day on his and i dont say anything about it. 

I know this seems like a small thing but he's always saying things like this and attacking me as a mother and it kills me. Like i do absolutely everything for my babies (we have 3) i am the only parent working, i still do drs appointments and i do dentist appointments. On top of helping him with all HIS appointments. 

I just hate these jabs !",0.6672058823529419,2.9983631715686268,2.5906862745098067,91.62808823529413,86.40196078431373,5.55686274509804,20.264705882352946,6.996647511020387,0.4866411764705879,773,24,164,11,24,257,126,204,0.162,0.7340000000000001,0.10400000000000001,-0.9272,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,5,2,2,9,17,6,0,7,0,15,3,1,0,2,24,26,12,1,1,6,8,2,4,0,1,2,7,0,1,16,11,0,3,2,0,1,3,3,12,1,1,6,9,35,5,17,17,2,20,0,0,0,0,38,9,0,3,11,111,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20367804255397898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557855288115611,0.12540392569469738,0.1007172703986568,0.0,0.0,0.27847460238797145,0.0,0.0,0.2043825542668214,0.14921669563630066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789319960111382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344120630254953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022418799914618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099970360900459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394418618350622,0.0,0.13911512147323582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208356607816932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203603067083108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540738110282927,0.0,0.06726282988026866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391760178386989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28668545178551363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820587989521385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616756715570548,0.0,0.0,0.4077017831352449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451553088523812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642175935449735,0.3893205782844116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142006549167544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662889870917531,0.0,0.0977415192701596,0.10232426059070356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262213190954994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160122486765695,0.0,0.0,0.08309537731522011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004410463145617,0.11345757705320512,0.1104387374918398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910202232253689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElleMack122,2020/01/22,"My kid lies and steals I have a 7 yo daughter, pushing 8. She lies frequently, to either attempt to keep herself out of trouble or to purposely get others in trouble. She has stolen money from my purse and when given lunch money for school, doesn't put it on her lunch account. I have given the following punishments: for one month she was not allowed to have anything bought for her.. toys/new clothes/treats.. nothing. I have taken away electronic devices. I have made her spend an entire day doing nothing but just sitting. She has been given chores. None of these things have curtailed her behavior. At this point, I see two options... Whooping her ass or taking away any sort of enjoyment she has. No toys, electronics, or anything else she finds stimulating or fun. Anyone have any other suggestions?? I'm at the end of my rope with this shit!",3.6436538461538466,6.3801180448717965,3.87019230769231,84.6810576923077,76.88461538461539,6.464102564102564,27.698717948717945,7.645422480735847,1.891994871794872,669,28,116,10,16,207,106,156,0.161,0.765,0.07400000000000001,-0.8994,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,3,7,2,0,4,0,14,4,2,3,0,20,26,8,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,4,2,2,1,1,5,3,4,5,0,2,8,1,20,2,20,18,2,17,0,0,1,1,15,8,2,6,5,80,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26901635954838304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830368254957676,0.0,0.3255387926883937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716720295526146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756216776052404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16523332117157938,0.0,0.17518869950077304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078211795514304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334033620661992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581032598217347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18715952058917115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578790175156965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103277559769127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795815235190324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403180524647362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186981316044084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988397846688986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018028603819452,0.1576179404379502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030349282931883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487181054110906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140698779043172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19321811927177968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QueenofSwords333,2020/01/22,"How do you do it all? I have a 4yera old and a 2 year old, and am a stay at home mom. 

I get that my house is never going to be perfect or even close.  But how do you deal with spending time with them and completing basic house cleaning tasks?

My guys entertain each other a little but it is so hard for me to get one whole task done. Meanwhile my floors look like a sandbox, there's dust everywhere, laundry, ugh... It's too much to handle honestly. 

Then I feel guilty when I sit there with them because I'm just honestly not into playing batman or whatever they're doing. And I can't help but be focused on all the other shit that's not getting done.  There's got to be more of a balance than I'm achieving.

This is mostly just a rant, thank you for listening.  If you have any suggestions I'm open.",2.1468846815834794,3.735614084337353,3.67765920826162,89.81445783132533,76.83132530120481,6.670567986230638,23.9053356282272,7.447530270364453,0.963056454388985,622,20,134,8,14,206,108,166,0.109,0.7609999999999999,0.129,0.5401,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,4,2,2,11,9,1,0,8,0,16,1,1,2,4,29,28,15,0,1,10,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,8,11,0,0,1,2,1,1,4,2,0,1,3,4,15,7,14,22,7,17,0,0,1,0,12,7,1,4,8,94,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162531365327555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421067569327604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792397874292716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624387565758684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498862407196872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291210051401873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643840404074396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679458952132992,0.0,0.09715588960107796,0.0,0.13672583041598851,0.0,0.0,0.1692692323091352,0.0,0.0,0.1531393007644936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458543765422805,0.0,0.17147866822005434,0.0,0.0,0.39451102039484004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351845054037743,0.1713386884509301,0.0,0.0,0.14355651885899734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021676873758948,0.0,0.0,0.1256692973898136,0.0,0.13184862410385975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587704691966237,0.0,0.11584141411479933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547964205159147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822119518497712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738951750199834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968341250785408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086166231572388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100874020006246
parenting,cozygy,2020/01/22,"7 weeks with a newborn, almost 2 year old and 3 year old at home I feel like I am spread so thin and worried I’m not helping my younger children develop as well as they could be. Seems like all they do is play (and fight, ha ha) at home and go to the park usually every other day. My moms home helping me right now and I’m glad they’re getting quality grandma time. But gahhh I just see all these amazing activities on Pinterest for 2/3 year olds and I want to do them all but I have no time or energy.",2.468808411214951,3.4732474112149525,4.183259345794394,88.8930198598131,74.88785046728971,7.592990654205607,26.45911214953271,8.07648339933343,1.423449532710281,391,14,89,6,8,132,76,107,0.086,0.758,0.156,0.6629999999999999,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,4,9,1,0,2,2,7,0,0,0,3,20,15,12,0,2,5,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,3,11,8,9,13,3,18,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,3,14,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612860339155976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859945109316342,0.0,0.0,0.10387534076562063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570648282009312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144066792903057,0.11506679602598625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415122466755695,0.0,0.09153848489175373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21592056635154647,0.0,0.4846921029050616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573790833342994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18864054186950946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5070403653706778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755093450157332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835010223802512,0.14662998347897302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783974059164835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739331447826046,0.0,0.09500190172415178,0.0,0.1291987923219006,0.0,0.14481920444818214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16357206628827278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111669511601524
parenting,wallgirl94,2020/01/22,"How to Go Back to Work I have been a stay at home mom the past four years with my two young children. I have decided to start waiting tables in the evening part time to help alleviate some financial stress. Since it would be evenings and weekends, my husband will be able to watch them. 
As my start day approaches, I am becoming more nervous and wondering if I made the right decision. I feel guilty to leave them, even if for just a short amount of time. And I am sad to sacrifice family time on the weekends.
Waitressing is not my end goal, but instead a way to ease back into working. I will be graduating from college soon and want to go into accounting. I see this part time evening job as a a stepping stone to integrate from a stay at home mom to a full time working mom. 
Can anyone give some advice on how you handled your transition?",5.0241818181818205,5.888656509090911,5.4212121212121245,82.91181818181822,68.75757575757575,9.393939393939394,31.96969696969697,9.573946990214177,2.8201515151515144,664,28,134,14,11,212,104,165,0.055,0.903,0.042,-0.0249,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,2,4,11,3,0,2,11,0,13,0,0,3,0,24,24,11,0,4,5,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,7,0,1,4,2,1,4,1,3,0,2,2,3,16,0,25,16,7,34,1,1,2,0,11,10,0,5,17,94,18,7,0.11935687232018605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663415424675727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345710031178462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355613470835996,0.0,0.0,0.13182028808443882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697530849883602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057147618790708,0.0,0.0,0.3153363539440417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251903673386376,0.0,0.06035042091783153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449798784557225,0.1356665222395275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080002395581332,0.0,0.2394493494033371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844327871025667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638169401521293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293835851779913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193679789284201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585037229609266,0.1139396401412298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193011680656827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511197405283524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873323818314382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896281710935618,0.25443708991225605,0.0,0.0,0.13672289397799622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34798976046220903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659432102495836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039977572437467,0.09473992964265794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943743660794588,0.26067967374775186,0.0,0.0,0.08478769758029607,0.0,0.0,0.07686191250542485
parenting,lilstrawberrytea,2020/01/22,"Not a parent but... Soo I’m not a parent but a nanny to a 6 month old baby and I was wondering what your suggestions were for more activities to do with her to keep her active and not bored. 

She loves to go outside in her stroller for walks but it’s recently gotten too cold to just leisurely walk outside. I’m doing tummy time and actively playing/interacting with her but I fear she is going to get bored pretty quickly. 

Does anyone have any suggestions on indoor activities for a 6 month old?",3.6311224489795935,5.423308795918372,5.322193877551023,78.72369897959184,73.28571428571428,8.16530612244898,26.535714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.169832653061225,394,14,73,8,8,134,63,98,0.08199999999999999,0.768,0.15,0.7136,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,5,0,6,1,0,0,0,15,15,7,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,1,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,1,9,1,13,12,1,13,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,1,7,49,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644357743796962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057586891300306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18845191057418945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24232563037616195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251009829398996,0.0,0.2447737147864642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19141061257826286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19435938427865665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34377638841302105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.451941621148853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4782354782918821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908566603417085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21262952096796325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557076715742518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23353500677953795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PopsicleFeet,2020/01/22,"What nicknames do your kids have? Just curious what other people call their kids besides their names. 

We call ours monkey, or play off that and call her munks or munksters. Her teachers call her Had (short for Hadley).",4.338076923076926,7.247019153846158,2.433012820512822,94.98490384615386,75.41025641025641,4.925641025641027,22.57051282051281,5.985473137389443,0.2310974358974361,173,5,32,1,4,47,30,39,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,1,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,2,0,21,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9858989637338328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673416663851381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,feedstheanimals,2020/01/22,"My son's bio mom is forcing him to wear girl's clothes.. I feel like there's got to be a word for that like munchausen's of attire. Or something I don't know it's a little frustrating. She sends him over to our house with obvious girl clothes. I've known this boy for more than half his life and he is not drawn to girl clothes are girl styles. She also makes him wear clothes that are way too small for him. This isn't because money is a factor, she's quite capable of affording properly fitting clothing. When we've addressed it before she acts like she didn't know what she bought was girls. Ask for the clothes back and tells him he has to wear them. She also makes his life difficult if he refuses. Like taking him out of sports he wants to play or other social activities and claims that he's sick and can't go. When he was little she would give him barbies and dolls not because he asked for them or wanted to play with them but because she wanted him to play with them. She's even have him a pink dresser. He just turned 11.

And as a testament to her financial capabilities she on the other hand does things like by herself new airpods and give him her old ones as well as a fitness tracker watch and over the summer as a bribe to stay with her boyfriend buy him a new Lego set every week.

I have reached out to mother to mother without bringing up any of these shortcomings and try to relate to her. I've saved her seats at school events so she could be in the front row with us to watch him. Offer to help and anyway to get him to sporting events. She's a very awkward person and I accept that she's not the greatest in Social settings. But my friends Sons and even my son's friends are beginning to notice this stuff and say things. We do teach him that people who matter don't mind and people who mind don't matter kind of mentality, but it's not him who is choosing these clothes. He's too afraid to stand up to her. She will yell and she will ignore him or like I've mentioned refuse to let him participate in activities that he wishes to participate in.",3.9903483768804406,5.065553470308789,4.373736342042759,88.69995526524151,71.3040380047506,7.323547110055424,25.90981789390341,7.554174236665415,1.1205419794140938,1645,50,350,18,30,517,198,421,0.048,0.821,0.13,0.9841,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,4,1,14,20,1,2,14,0,26,7,4,2,1,61,47,32,0,7,14,6,2,6,2,3,3,2,2,7,23,23,0,3,6,5,3,5,11,5,1,2,5,7,56,15,57,35,2,38,1,0,3,0,91,17,0,5,17,221,79,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330683818448672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368678639162594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20259918994134526,0.0,0.0,0.08332019580885944,0.0,0.19816109986952007,0.0,0.09220421487317107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651461216598665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482434069500988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313815660813614,0.0,0.09129583081256742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054788785959239236,0.07741058882249081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743340473572282,0.0,0.05661229891356458,0.20789269249259248,0.0615820398248427,0.0,0.08666335688277897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726297192475237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502995685104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283761681166185,0.1191008489818336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080284106858483,0.1530721525637819,0.3176278804139289,0.2172052765724338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465888770990987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919883055614553,0.0,0.2188202843539422,0.12690694384689938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930461408217507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233656828089375,0.11370292327496145,0.0,0.07342581707269465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15024283420331996,0.09461355177703597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525149334001175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617019883476137,0.0,0.1096635312579055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220913562958846,0.0,0.0834188641473513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549463158073366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404336379563835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147132229721092,0.0,0.09470919333270184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397575903467008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356760042898289,0.11786179742274452,0.0,0.0,0.13034067888542747,0.0,0.0,0.08940625000985601,0.19173610648015685,0.08600910562085735,0.08691781586179183,0.0,0.0974263669130643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460572777073207,0.10445272165584613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697402841694156,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,halospecial,2020/01/22,Best parenting book I'm trying to find the best parenting book. My son is 5. I just feel like I need to discipline him better and talk to him more relatable and open. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.,0.8266666666666679,3.3887541463414657,2.9042682926829286,86.4113617886179,92.90243902439023,7.611382113821138,19.028455284552845,8.344100000000001,1.4972894308943094,164,5,34,5,6,55,32,41,0.0,0.5820000000000001,0.418,0.9694,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,7,2,0,2,1,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,3,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,1,19,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064915451977794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5266962613533458,0.2219377925663273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688380724623094,0.1792730037544082,0.0,0.0,0.22935642749110546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682011224743449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259757798019978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607030171515546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5572827532599699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169766150056884,0.0,0.2310336640631128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703731351036568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782619857991964,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catfishlady,2020/01/22,"What do you think of paternity leave the year after a baby is born? Maternity leave the first year, and the father deferring paternity leave the year after. Would companies with paternity leave allow it?",6.607619047619046,9.382441,7.8400000000000025,59.63333333333336,67.57142857142857,11.523809523809526,28.809523809523807,11.20814326018867,4.373952380952382,165,6,24,6,3,56,24,35,0.187,0.762,0.052000000000000005,-0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761798156121646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8772588686248903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271688198161774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713515322014606,0.0,0.0,0.4001437565598177
parenting,eleos0000,2020/01/22,"What are your thoughts on paying siblings to babysit a younger sibling? I have a 3 yr old son and two older daughters (11 and 14 yrs old). Occasionally the 14 yr old babysits while I go to the gym or my husband and I have date night, etc. We don’t typically pay her but I do treat her in other ways (go out for ice cream, extra phone time, etc). I’m about to need her to babysit more frequently (approx 10 hours/week) so that I have time to take classes. I do not want to take advantage of her time, but we are a single income family at the moment so I can’t pay her the going rate. 
My question is, should siblings be compensated to babysit or is it considered a “family” responsibility?",2.3884292565947227,4.149076374100723,4.208075539568345,85.52395983213431,76.62589928057554,7.223261390887291,25.971822541966425,8.07648339933343,1.49892757793765,532,20,114,9,12,180,88,139,0.032,0.9179999999999999,0.05,0.6459,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,0,0,16,22,10,0,3,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,1,3,3,3,0,0,1,1,1,17,2,14,19,5,20,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,3,12,73,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3909028702632221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330422505269012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987979198503099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299465585403599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446139750726702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5516900228068183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632147378634607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635342133204281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912989240467716,0.3065711859901151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119497629689345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033677097691666,0.13910626063916365,0.1405759571638332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,workinmom12,2020/01/22,"Mom guilt! My son [7] got sick at school yesterday. I left work 2 hours early to get him. He was definitely not feeling well. I turn into a cuddle mom when he's sick.
His school has a policy that he can't go back for 24 hours after being physically sick. So he is staying home today. Luckily my fiance was able to get the day off. 

When I was leaving for work, he had a melt down. He just wanted me. I felt terrible leaving him. I didn't want to leave to begin with. Then he made that much harder. I'm trying to get through my day. Some moments are harder than others. He's my whole world and the reason I even go to work to begin with. Funny how Mom guilt plays mind games.",-0.2099290780141807,2.0232511631205696,2.1940780141843987,93.28416666666668,90.56028368794328,4.835460992907802,15.634751773049645,6.42735559955562,-0.3738482269503551,518,11,114,6,18,176,91,141,0.15,0.767,0.083,-0.8338,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,3,8,5,0,2,5,0,10,4,0,3,0,15,25,6,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,3,2,0,2,3,3,1,0,8,2,14,2,18,16,3,24,0,0,0,1,16,6,0,1,15,64,17,5,0.13214843038445973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161398592984848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044961046219356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728279194740589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681821701844398,0.0,0.12688321681032708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712630195166876,0.0,0.15020599669852347,0.0,0.1056911717673109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255565040002942,0.0,0.26027916930901146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197783211502996,0.14357965627380434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504204004514974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343224340540172,0.4643119335452062,0.0,0.0,0.09714430152585764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358705957252253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26748253323411986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085264388168695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526126029407664,0.0,0.0,0.08972010978025706,0.14373954488124188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558891361770496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881730930411133,0.0,0.0,0.1475390032317312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886168936002893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kbut84,2020/01/22,"Asked if I'm expecting I'm 15 months postpartum after having my second kid and am 10-15 pounds over my pre baby weight and very aware of my new body.
A coworker that I interact with rarely asked me yesterday if I was pregnant.

Do I report this to HR? 

He's also said some fairly offensive things to a few other women in the building when they were pregnant regarding their body and the extra weight.

He's just an old single dude that most people say is just oblivious, but saying those kinds of things is so inappropriate and offensive that he needs to know it's wrong.",8.946428571428571,6.817728642857144,8.949571428571428,70.7954285714286,61.67857142857143,12.531428571428574,34.00714285714285,11.20814326018867,3.5925121428571423,456,13,86,10,5,150,81,112,0.094,0.9059999999999999,0.0,-0.8793,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,5,4,2,0,5,0,7,4,2,0,0,15,14,10,0,4,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,9,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,5,9,1,9,11,5,8,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,4,6,57,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343091208168247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35872766274369844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262279149569119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997933681775101,0.10544160911604004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314135992967684,0.0,0.0,0.14226225908525486,0.0,0.1853002349933085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132550345024414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330120341876725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18250343710352315,0.3051506181747614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549274138026406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830514973924506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4672692279529242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976952877437788,0.0,0.0
parenting,moein1948,2020/01/22,Asking questions My almost 34 month old was just asking me what gravity is😁,1.7880000000000005,4.557609466666668,3.855,80.7825,87.66666666666666,5.666666666666668,20.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.2183333333333333,62,2,10,1,2,21,14,15,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,5,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658453221538422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6831059969125411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916189416316259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833734418094137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.409275694657195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Epicsteel33,2020/01/22,"Need more time than maternity leave allows My wife and I recently had a baby on January 1st.  She doesn't use Reddit so i'm making this post.

Unfortunately we found out that our little girl has a VSD and an ASD and will need open heart surgery at roughly 3-5 months old to correct these issues as the VSD in particular is too large to do with a cath.

I received no paternity leave, and my wife will have about 12 weeks, which is not enough to stay with her after she has had the surgery and in recovery.

Living and working in NJ, is there anything we can do or do we just have to pinch pennies and rely on single income for a month or two?",7.535674300254456,5.376001511450381,7.9677480916030525,76.82531170483462,64.41984732824427,10.870737913486003,33.283715012722645,9.2995712137729,2.62370127226463,502,15,107,7,6,167,94,131,0.055999999999999994,0.9440000000000001,0.0,-0.6124,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,7,0,16,1,1,3,1,25,22,11,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,14,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,1,11,0,18,17,3,19,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,7,75,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712322811756114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098430732550521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267432150459565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406589738271849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196997714396712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300794421847255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035464431374246,0.17932946795651636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556209373094572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242040783079045,0.0,0.0,0.3011727504961089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131055559253678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19450112755718302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052382941334887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646363136934169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842161416792504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198386407695583,0.0,0.0,0.1754018900976061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290407436802273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478496939343578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,telluribe,2020/01/22,"I think my daycare provider just hit on me Yep. I'm a married straight guy and usually my wife drops my son at day care. We used to love our son's daycare. But lately there's been some turnover and a new guy started who's nice. I think a lot of the other parents like him - he's the only guy at the whole daycare. I've never talked with him for more than two seconds and then here's what happens today:  

Drop son off and all is going well - then guy motions me over and says: ""Can I tell you something? Your son said I have a present for you. And I asked him what it is - and - can I tell you - he said my birthday present is you.""

Me: I'm sorry what? (trying to act nonchalant)

Guy: He said my birthday present is his father.

Me: Ha ha. Okay.

Guy: So you let me know - it's in a month!

Me: Ha good one. You let me know.

Guy: You let me know.

Me: (Trying more ha has) 

Then he comes up and side hugs me. I'm like a foot taller than him - so technically it's kind of ""cute"" and not creepy - but for the love of God man. He says something like we'd make a great couple. And I say yeah and try to joke it off.

Seriously. It ruined my whole morning. And now I'm like - do we pull my kid out of this daycare he loves? If this dumbass crosses the line so easily - what other lines is he crossing?

I feel like if a straight dude said to a straight mom ""You're my birthday present"" and gave her a hug - the mom would burn the house down!",-1.4572148084373635,0.5294443267326798,0.5313882910030152,102.9848826947912,99.13201320132013,3.4268618166164444,17.148012627349697,5.192301501255418,-0.8914166451427752,1073,32,266,6,46,348,148,303,0.042,0.726,0.23199999999999998,0.9952,1,0,2,0,0,0,55.0,4,8,0,0,8,25,0,0,17,7,16,6,1,2,2,37,43,23,0,3,6,9,1,5,0,1,0,7,0,9,14,18,0,0,6,1,0,7,2,2,1,3,6,8,44,23,24,31,7,40,0,1,0,5,59,15,0,4,21,154,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894596498549616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609871149431418,0.0,0.0,0.07274307815537766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343831221944676,0.0,0.05446092841053028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04269862657583362,0.060328510064193985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799282327984593,0.07082961621311061,0.0,0.09310243102096642,0.0,0.585306343279694,0.07467565410260557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743978343208527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793790881828574,0.13922856438149886,0.0,0.09525919379012,0.0,0.0,0.2590564319776345,0.0,0.2062811762544148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179329163446835,0.2286484622894089,0.0,0.05636861375059619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19780515703452112,0.06740429408967798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513025347500051,0.0815588391020615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05722305193155607,0.06422527656464405,0.0,0.0,0.09376771037624547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213113779987804,0.20146545014237605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130021896534004,0.0,0.09453080761597207,0.05977158173242859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787480070580484,0.14761971482339514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821965979566008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004529328040465,0.0,0.0,0.17200064450054994,0.0,0.0824918417898989,0.0,0.0,0.07293455804584897,0.09300575602544454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592743636546252,0.0,0.0,0.18856273290331813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059988284789842965,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chrisl182,2020/01/22,"Help with curbing my snacking Hi guys, I'm a stay at home dad to three kids, 13, 11 and a 1yo. 
I tend to snack all day on rubbish, no time to cook myself anything substantial so I end up eating sausage rolls, crisps, chocolate, biscuits and other forms of rubbish without actually feeling full. Now I have a nice belly to show for it. 
I eat breakfast and dinner as normal but it's the in-between times that has me beat. 
What are some things I can swap out to stop me eating rubbish. I'm on a tight budget so money has to be considered.",2.6445463812436287,4.250685422018351,3.9645259938837927,88.21011213047913,75.5137614678899,5.945361875637107,26.790010193679922,6.42735559955562,1.0363997961264015,417,16,85,3,9,137,84,109,0.055,0.893,0.051,-0.1116,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,0,6,8,0,0,1,14,10,7,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,5,8,3,1,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,9,1,16,9,4,13,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,1,6,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.2156860801311935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188268770086946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254122975409375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6784835969517797,0.0,0.0,0.19576033477841534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175561854273007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188470271621834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814672486319394,0.0,0.22170359166722567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21655512550210684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355805803083876,0.0,0.18478470931127935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468375300198204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577599979290286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21305780576713448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Party-Contest,2020/01/22,"Living together for the benefit of our children and affordability Our daughter turns 5 in August and we were considering putting her into Kinder this year. The school tested her and it is quite clear that she will not be ready for kinder this year and have been told that putting her into preschool for one year will ensure her readiness for kinder by next year. 

Unfortunately, my ex and I broke up a few months ago. We still live together, and aside from issues that crop up occasionally, we actually make fairly good roommates. We each have our separate living spaces within the house and never fight or argue. Our daughter knows that we have split and is ok with our living conditions.

A few weeks ago my ex and I considered separating houses. She was scheduled to move out in March. We are at an impasse due to our daughter needing preschool. If we stay living together and continue splitting bills right down the middle,  affording preschool will be a non issue, If we separate households, I will be struggling financially without the added  preschool cost. 

So I am faced with a few choices. Stay in the same household and easily pay for preschool, or, have ex move out, and forgo preschool. I looked into a second job, but it would hinder my time with my daughter and pickup schedule at the preschool. I know not every child needs preschool. However, we would be doing her a great disservice by placing her directly into kinder, which, I believe, would be setting her up for failure. 

The reasons why she needs preschool is so that she can get socialized with kids her own age, As it is, everyone that I do know that have kids, they are much older than my daughter. She does spend a ton of time with her cousins, but again, they are much older than her. I have attempted to join parent groups with kids her age, but it never works out. 

Aside from the socialization, she is behind on all other aspects of learning. It is things we can take on, but again, she can only learn so much from us. In my view, preschool is certainly not a must, but, it definitely will give my daughter the advantage she needs going into kinder next year. 

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Any thoughts or opinions on this is greatly appreciated.",7.472164179104477,8.058410507462689,6.734539800995027,76.61285447761195,63.32835820895522,9.585572139303483,34.41169154228856,9.408791572840183,3.0987094527363186,1752,71,309,29,24,538,196,402,0.03,0.845,0.125,0.9893,5,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,17,0,2,4,6,11,2,1,19,1,40,1,1,2,6,75,56,27,0,10,14,11,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,5,19,38,0,0,7,0,4,5,6,4,0,2,5,2,54,7,50,37,11,62,0,1,2,0,61,26,0,6,28,229,73,7,0.0,0.0,0.08717232180021625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836972572286598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678804927692924,0.10854464162515763,0.060746855460740636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064331276845563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817250283850638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752636247300035,0.08535778911577557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667077108133155,0.08569261845042887,0.05076778965953691,0.07492501611346064,0.0,0.1969713099520384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20614759006387912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647275694362547,0.08864535422426055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727882187517596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943961869228904,0.0,0.07501395112137453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059627872059189575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130164034194998,0.18988540585798996,0.19700151424923174,0.26494560153280866,0.13779222737578295,0.0,0.1900050357805737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605317142356565,0.06793881061022468,0.0,0.0,0.09918940107940426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332990327736966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960084924803935,0.0,0.09501250021070053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918451989442046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628656863292363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040582455629333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211954864004387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042588324692192,0.07133833962493707,0.0,0.0,0.09338617725805036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716437073915503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059346288881743564,0.0,0.0,0.07091733218718382,0.10417704041459236,0.0,0.0,0.08535778911577557,0.0,0.0,0.09716441607767297,0.0,0.0,0.10745191598975308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165442076762323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060562411727769,0.0,0.0,0.08611007068737833,0.0,0.06503265323863716,0.0,0.0,0.19037050226170327,0.0,0.10854464162515763,0.2876250782057881
parenting,spasticnapjerk,2020/01/22,"If anyone thinks maybe they're not cut out to be a parent Found on FB

When you first have children they talk about the challenges of parenting....the struggles of a baby waking in the night, 
the toddler who won’t stay in their bed, the cost of childcare, injuries from sports...

Having to take off work to pick them up from school when they don’t feel well, helping them with homework, a messy house, the never ending laundry, the cost to buy school clothes, packing their lunches....

You watch their eyes light up on Christmas morning....and try to soak in the  magic of those moments. 

You coach them in sports, rushing to practices and ballgames...and tote them all over the country to let them play the game they love...no matter how exhausting or expensive it becomes. 

Life is just so busy that you rarely even  stop to think what the end of those days look like. 

In fact, it’s not really even something you can wrap your mind around. 

You go into it thinking that 18-20 years sounds like a long time....

Then suddenly hours turn into days...days into months...and months into years.

That little person that used to crawl up next to you in bed and cuddle up to watch cartoons...suddenly becomes this young adult who hugs you in the hallway as they come and go. 

And the chaos and laughter that used to echo throughout your home....gets filled with silence and solitude. 

You’ve learned how to parent a child who needs you to care for and protect them....but have no clue how the whole “letting go” thing is supposed to work.

So you hold on as tight as you can...wondering how time passed so quickly...feeling guilty that you missed something....

Because even though you had 20 years.....it just somehow doesn’t seem like it was enough.

You ask yourself so many questions...

Did you teach them the right lessons? 
Did you read them enough books as a child? 
Spend enough time playing with them? 
How many school parties did you have to miss? 
Do they really know how much you love them? 
What could I have done better as a parent? 

.....When it’s time for them to go, it all hits you like a ton of bricks.

And all you can do is pray....hope....and trust that God will protect them as they start to make their way into the world alone.

Parenting is by far the most amazing experience of your life....that at times leaves you exhilarated....while others leave you heartbroken. 

But one thing is certain.....it’s never enough time...💕

So for all the parents with young children...whose days are spent trying to figure out how to make it through the madness...
Exhausted day in and day out...

Soak. It. All. In. 

Because one day....all those crazy days full of cartoons, snuggles, sleep overs, Christmas morning magic, ballgames, practices and late night dinners...

All come to an end. 

And you’re left hoping that you did enough  right, so that when they spread their wings....

They’ll fly...💕💕💕

Credit to the Amazing Author:
@MistyBrewerLee

If you've not yet liked Breathe it in, please do.",3.8285371702637896,5.946872543165469,3.1681474820143865,92.97971522781776,73.568345323741,5.64052757793765,24.53297362110312,6.21433560688645,0.5290175059952036,2298,72,459,14,48,671,270,556,0.061,0.816,0.12300000000000001,0.9863,6,1,2,0,0,0,157.0,0,26,24,6,28,25,2,1,28,0,32,12,4,12,9,77,62,40,0,5,9,5,2,5,0,3,3,1,3,5,30,26,2,5,11,8,7,9,9,7,1,3,9,8,51,18,78,45,16,85,0,2,4,3,69,37,0,8,42,285,81,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692568734947039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04675687006199277,0.0,0.0,0.05952823696629622,0.06251417086325932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152633357373243,0.14770472634377488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914084213389375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817814643789419,0.0,0.0,0.11520470280552425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053390038219589035,0.0,0.0,0.3018781072923961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843095053363367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768019855763867,0.34547153282754023,0.0,0.13250047813878602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541142730138585,0.0,0.0,0.06762268946559997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056879358235155976,0.0,0.0733192075184908,0.0,0.0,0.03493667401403812,0.0,0.15201443444399956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044821370510955576,0.0,0.06707579148241513,0.13283346040354366,0.0658532142353081,0.07715869039629145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03674985485067903,0.0,0.0754319681567759,0.14161077782975467,0.07265415737672999,0.13675765911406554,0.09446413583933423,0.16334586195268802,0.06702103683623671,0.0,0.05917760684221344,0.05615373168498503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070508430931327,0.0,0.08927212814428788,0.13559082133896375,0.06717963175559802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675193649511119,0.0,0.053374780565588725,0.0,0.049156945729503534,0.04958305754191583,0.10314811643259013,0.0,0.07111671654753128,0.12550542357755504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062531939216056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37125460870572335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838806900937585,0.0,0.07340288301125546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490940153246753,0.0,0.06688782596632073,0.0,0.08567692275731552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421276821561176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302721049901035,0.0,0.060875690802200136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691802258701722,0.0,0.0,0.10295917033106193,0.0,0.0,0.04733073911851971,0.07127423495145714,0.0,0.05590608856488975,0.0,0.06990676084172813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05027771497031181,0.053747356048050095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885055466477004,0.12854226883804498,0.06569917027533721,0.0,0.23395366412755106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080031454319026,0.07273506418726979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550795342997355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05307807919799711,0.0,0.0,0.060123918062586226,0.0,0.0,0.07465766556483795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736391980783292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612382750673972
parenting,Deloris_by_the_Sea,2020/01/22,"Best place to beat the winter blues with a 4 year old on vacation? We’ve been to Disney which has been perfect for all of us. Daughter loved it, myself and husband loved it, overall great experience. Thinking of maybe doing that again but incorporating a day at universal to spice it up. Before we book anything wanted to get some suggestions for other places. There’s no where else we can think of that all of us will enjoy. My husband and I love to travel and explore but we can’t really see our daughter appreciating that just yet? There’s gotta be someplace within the US we haven’t thought of yet, which leads me here. Thanks!",3.5731594634873365,5.822022426229513,4.307585692995531,83.93346497764533,74.7377049180328,6.731445603576751,25.02533532041729,7.686295010490155,1.3506295081967217,504,17,95,7,11,161,88,122,0.021,0.752,0.22699999999999998,0.9819,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,8,0,0,4,8,8,0,0,4,0,9,3,0,1,3,21,20,5,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,0,4,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,3,3,12,8,17,14,4,17,0,0,2,3,16,7,0,1,7,69,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381176406477496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383666404846139,0.0,0.17064608851183802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486810837503638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135837342183759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590609168751148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495548301729483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792748693648462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4402776893997076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16336065827066285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062876711739142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397795592050085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417025320381804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957678244169946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970674363864173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208384090080376,0.0,0.12909185065232606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5867888538718445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590986323040997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471362216954727
parenting,reds2017,2020/01/22,"Toddler class at Montessori school Our daughter is currently going to daycare, but we are considering transferring her to a toddler class at a Montessori school in September. She will be 21 months old at that time.

A few Montessori schools will be holding open houses in the next few weeks. What are some questions we should be asking of the staff, or things we should be looking for in the facilities?",7.030416666666667,8.685517875000002,5.9232222222222255,78.24400000000001,64.69444444444444,8.537777777777778,36.62222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.306152222222221,325,16,54,5,5,97,49,72,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,14,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,10,6,3,14,0,0,1,0,9,7,0,3,6,41,9,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22034489375874125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395204617135928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719627118645277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19792613213009647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18813110996618596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506664510741508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24732437041167885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640346003837549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7156138921748089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658662474175267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743682580229874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890619296883965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greenface1998,2020/01/22,"Should I discuss my parenting strategies with my kids from a psychological perspective? Say I wanted to justify to my kid that it was psychologically advantageous for me to treat him in such and such way that maybe he doesn’t like, like getting him to clean his room . And I  wanted to talk about the developmental and that psychological implications of me enforcing that behavior . Would that be a bad idea? Would it make them think I’m trying to manipulate them it becoming something?",8.748372093023256,9.416927325581398,9.092418604651167,60.5095581395349,60.62790697674418,12.926511627906976,36.967441860465115,12.340626583579946,4.980142325581396,394,17,66,13,5,131,59,86,0.039,0.812,0.149,0.8377,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,2,0,13,12,3,0,5,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,2,2,8,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,13,4,12,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,2,47,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240376892462729,0.0,0.29634060380897986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401871873524363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029029143245099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26217718313546945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179107040190565,0.0,0.2695655464915036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979398632232255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133804498328006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656740958014985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156670857958184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192992400159526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217304688780084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31652657340294066,0.21298153996706196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38121654658231946,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonmissisus,2020/01/22,"I really need some help with my daughter and her explosive behavior. Hi thank you for reading I am at a complete and total loss here. I’m going to start by telling you what we’ve done. 

I have read many behavior book. The explosive child and many on ODD. A lot of these hit the mark as far as behavior examples go but absolutely none of the techniques in the books have worked over the past 2 years. We’ve called numerous doctors and had many appointments and haven’t been able to get information. I’ve been told it’s not ADHD and referred to specialists who won’t return calls or answer in the first place. I’ve been referred to specialists who do not have opening for months. The hospital in my state known for child behavior health will not see her because we haven’t “done enough” on our own to try and figure out what she needs. She’s seen 6 different pediatricians the total amount available in our insurance network. And each one has led to dead ends.

We’ve done work books on anger and also positivity and sort of self help for kid types. We’ve tried gameplay for positivity. Emotional identification games and books and coping skills books. 

We’ve tried using a journal to communicate back and forth because speaking with her about how she’s feeling is a challenge. 

Now I’ll give you some examples of what she does. An average day involves top of her lung screaming. She wakes up gets ready for school but out on a headband with cat ears which isn’t allowed for school. I remind her and she argues back. I tell her again she may not wear it. She says fine whatever just kill me and storms off to her room throws the headband at her desk and goes up to her bed and screams and cries about it for around 15 minutes. She then will come back out and ask an unrelated question or make a statement about rabbits. I’ve tried speaking with her calmly and lovingly offering to talk during the screaming part and it escalated her. 

We have breakfast. I ask her to brush her teeth she says in a minute and spends 5-10 minutes playing and trying to convince us to turn the tv on. I say no and remind her to brush her teeth. She says in a minute I say now please. Screaming slamming and crying again. She spends less than a minute in the bathroom and comes back out saying she’s done. I tell her she needs to do it again the proper way, screaming yelling saying things like we don’t care about her and the only reason she has a cavity is that we don’t take her to a dentist(untrue). 

Time to get her hair brushed, screaming. 
Get shoes on. Screaming. 

When she’s home from school. It’s about the same she has an idea of what she wants to do in her way, and if it doesn’t go that way, we hate her she’s stupid and she should die. Those are her words. 

She does not do the screaming at school. 

With peers if she doesn’t get to control the game her way she thinks they are bullying her (her words) and says no one likes her.  She also speaks to them very rudely. What do you want (harshly when approached by a new kid) Get this do that you don’t get to do this etc. 

The worst part is she will hit herself rip her hair out and break things she loves. 

Christmas morning she struggled to open a gift, I offered to help her she slammed it down and said fine I’m just stupid. The gift broke and she spent 30 minutes screaming at the top of her lungs how much we all hate her and she would be better off dead. 

At no point during these times are we yelling at her or saying anything negative we are trying to figure out why she’s upset and offering an ear to listen but she seems to act as though we are telling her she’s awful. She will spiral into those manipulative thing about we don’t play with her enough( we try to we do) when we do play things with her if we don’t do it just as she wants she screams and runs off and starts her screaming and hurtful yelling at us. We want to play the game her way but she refuses to communicate to us what she wants done or outright wants to change the entire game without warning. 

It’s so confusing and we are so at a lost. We deal with this honestly every single day. There is screaming slamming breaking things hitting herself and those very severe comments every single day. For about the last 2-3 years it’s been this way. 

I’ve told her doctors she’s seen exactly what she has been doing as I’ve said it here. One referred her and we can’t get in that was months ago and we’re still on a wait list. One referred us somewhere that apparently can not communicate to return a call and the one time I went in had no record of a referral. Two have said they do not deal withe behavior issues and sent us on our way. One has told us we need to try different techniques such as the books and journals and we have tried those. The most recent one said well it’s not adhd so I’m not sure and then concluded the visit. The hospital nurse has said it sounds severe but will not move her up on the wait list. I’ve lost track of how many wait lists we are on. 

Her behavior continues to escalate. We have had many talks when she’s not displaying the behaviors and think it helps. It doesn’t. We’ve tried very clear cut displayed rules and expectations with consequences and she ended up with a bare room and only uniforms and did not care. We’ve tried the soft approach allowing more freedom and it did not change the behaviors. 

I am not exaggerating when I say we do this daily many times a day with her. She has bruised herself and truthfully pulled out chunks of her hair I have a photo of her bald spot. This is incredibly heartbreaking to me. 

I really feel so lost. If doctors turn us away and won’t be of help. Counselors won’t see us without a proper referral from doctors who refuse to even look into it to give said referral I just don’t know. So I’m here to see other perspectives and get some opinions and maybe hear that I’m not alone?",3.281009764836053,5.0486175000000015,3.774669558650487,89.55700477704211,74.17035775127769,7.055887880011944,24.79474525369255,7.8055440958321425,1.1420101968773595,4651,149,978,65,97,1457,417,1174,0.142,0.7559999999999999,0.102,-0.9965,4,1,0,0,3,2,86.0,34,5,3,14,45,53,9,3,57,1,85,21,13,12,7,209,167,94,4,17,34,1,6,2,0,11,5,39,4,5,53,107,1,6,21,17,3,16,39,32,1,9,33,54,151,21,139,118,24,125,0,7,6,2,203,57,0,19,44,646,204,21,0.03816962127370724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174493457887016,0.0,0.033835066235978865,0.0,0.0,0.039532216284081566,0.0,0.061048464684558684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03141034604575528,0.033979055363243305,0.07136688674158473,0.0,0.0358616156537464,0.11740033075747347,0.0,0.046535693701671765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033757928195222345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692635281985744,0.0,0.07783294552090123,0.0,0.08075679639283116,0.0657594979161107,0.04002012169804753,0.0,0.0428104758872372,0.0,0.0,0.08385507332366264,0.0984649921102346,0.0787024070214927,0.0,0.0,0.03961404067608218,0.07975826048251759,0.0,0.15627289903591368,0.06680498559431977,0.19530387386226464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04293568644235071,0.06761391020937213,0.07887884431731318,0.04256921740389778,0.025210674865011846,0.0,0.06431910433072995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0385994147695652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032467060356455316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947846550241975,0.07323155755863249,0.06507802616734579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536919745337144,0.0,0.04057252252199208,0.04301993725904442,0.0,0.12792146279340405,0.0,0.03828724229821845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040861369016388004,0.043088856395745966,0.0,0.03983916783081348,0.0,0.0,0.04222903063947664,0.0,0.020977025630196024,0.031113335769559464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037295497864582035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032052868605148166,0.0,0.1249999516209164,0.03245044704833222,0.0688991468820632,0.0,0.025478518592166214,0.2321880300755163,0.038346514915235705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060933255082489424,0.04056826678915683,0.028059063489087432,0.11320916211575563,0.0,0.03686445807611135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105306248838815,0.058059433935325165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266796047397068,0.03643722248842565,0.0,0.0,0.0398791302412588,0.04189878203638498,0.03608262961555675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04275871135475199,0.0,0.07635990103061187,0.0,0.04890487355389719,0.03924472781081712,0.03768789619036473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178483035197017,0.3035401485327092,0.0,0.1545187780312644,0.09124873895285726,0.03474818965686461,0.039819239473558615,0.08624161497708761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403330879098503,0.0,0.030482308854892424,0.0,0.0,0.03990317566856511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03597441633155612,0.0,0.028698804929849508,0.061358591480498666,0.1334477255495171,0.03514145901848078,0.0,0.0,0.12679100162660753,0.048915104180869896,0.03750145910366492,0.0,0.08902805246664773,0.0,0.0,0.10941812655063493,0.0,0.2850613405761365,0.08303517452625367,0.03728617372151969,0.0,0.36730683752607696,0.032966297546441516,0.0,0.09448180499078702,0.135080589408115,0.2120808810220841,0.0,0.0,0.03431907351229643,0.0353836213257984,0.03444214629471608,0.0,0.0,0.0735883056434845,0.0,0.05557587777050837,0.0,0.0,0.02711460381290661,0.0,0.0,0.049159969320153096
parenting,mamalopp,2020/01/22,"At my wits end! “Fed” up

My boyfriend and I share a house together with my son (17), and his three kids ages 9, 11, and 13. Now, I realize that most kids, especially when they hit the tween/ teen years are going to give the attitude, but these kids are absolutely horrible. They have no concept for rules, they feel free to say anything that comes into their mind, mostly the phrases “ I don’t care” , “Not my problem “, “Who Cares”...you get the picture. At dinner time they refuse to eat half the time making noises and complaints, and then once the kitchen is cleaned up and we leave the area they raid the cupboards for cereal, chips, any kind of crap they can get their hands on and if someone calls them out on it we get feedback like we are trying to starve them because “ They don’t like what we have for dinner” I integrate “kid friendly” food in my meal plan for the week, but I’ll be damned if we are having tacos and Mac and cheese every night. My boyfriend refuses to discipline them to any effect, and on the rare occasion he gets after them, all it takes is one tear to have him in one of their rooms apologizing. They are selfish, inconsiderate, blatantly disrespectful and I’ve had just about all I can take. I’m not their mother, who by the way also lets them get away with murder and caters to their every whim, and I don’t know if it’s really my place to discipline them....but I’m at the end of my rope!",4.884992063492064,5.438570150000004,5.142380952380954,85.90039682539684,68.92857142857143,8.65079365079365,26.62698412698413,8.680891452615391,1.5922103174603164,1102,31,235,17,18,348,164,280,0.139,0.784,0.077,-0.9651,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,5,0,18,2,5,12,3,0,13,0,19,9,2,2,3,47,37,21,1,4,8,2,2,2,1,0,0,1,3,4,9,23,7,4,4,0,1,2,6,5,0,4,2,3,39,8,34,32,4,31,0,0,0,0,42,16,2,5,14,148,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187567052475087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019724106403961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220419387619773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952217609064976,0.0,0.0,0.09052521941334933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516367745882202,0.0,0.1514073157700393,0.0,0.0,0.1279210108165585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151954247857604,0.0,0.0,0.2630567450583862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502380675502969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508688950985247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956876860477808,0.0,0.11473199616982528,0.0,0.3879298800838577,0.14245630157520078,0.08439690237997571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135095058466995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546416026154628,0.08161261589809407,0.0,0.0,0.1572417913622938,0.0,0.15185298485869386,0.0,0.14510079720591346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912599565696764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499443200477434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393587263021985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581493965572377,0.201257104612968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515260342938852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209601077450346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513395109633027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809446195360787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582495490239273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22330949914106105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318499720134034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082286344190268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787368706069097,0.11911905551087495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563018524209747
parenting,alexmrv,2020/01/22,"What do boys play? I didn't have a dad around, and no brothers, so i don't really have a mental model of what boys play or what they do with their Dads.

When screens are off (during weekdays) my son (5) spends his downtime playing with his sister (8) which i love and encourage, this is generally playing with her Dolls.

Before the gender politics brigade descends on me: no i do not have a problem with this. But I feel his sister is getting the better end of this deal (she can be a bit bossy), and I've been recently wondering what do other boys do with their downtime, so that i can encourage them to try some of his stuff together for a while.

They don't have much in the way of toys, but happy to go to the toy shop too for this little project: what should i get?",5.261474358974361,4.9939750192307715,5.768717948717949,84.57628205128206,68.03846153846155,8.984615384615385,29.51282051282051,8.515128840125781,1.9120435897435897,597,19,128,8,9,193,95,156,0.021,0.835,0.14400000000000002,0.9422,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,5,1,5,10,0,0,9,0,20,1,0,0,0,19,26,10,0,2,4,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,13,9,0,0,2,7,2,1,6,1,0,0,2,2,20,9,18,22,3,11,0,0,1,1,24,5,0,3,4,96,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134413390233401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040220265504809,0.0,0.0,0.21205231633473734,0.26176085940047866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471867884414301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21236028161194254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123219268251754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505342292196627,0.0,0.1362637552031544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552338894258315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403071311041552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163969246770384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162633712192655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625457855812762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294223541563979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359935090194649,0.0,0.2367386303665703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744731192227581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278443397216594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19031399003504335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600144956163709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,therobotantenna,2020/01/22,"2yo hates authority My nephew (M2yo) is a very bright and active child, he somewhat talks properly and is able to clearly say what he wants and refuse doing something he doesn't want to. 
He rarely throws tantrums, however, he doesn't take orders, and he has absolutely no Regard to authority, he just doesn't take orders, which is causing a lot of stress to my sister as she is unable to control her child neither in private nor in public. He had placed himself in dangerous situations while exploring his sorroundings as my sister is still trying to talk to him through any situation without having to use force. 
We went online and read about certain discipline methods, but non of them seemed to work, as he just laughs when sensing anger/frustration.
Again, the child is not violent nor is he disrespectful, he just doesn't like to be told what to do and literally just wants to touch and explore every single thing in the house.
We're also aware that it's a perfectly normal for a 2 year to want to explore on their own... 
Any tips on how to discipline a 2 yo without taking away their independence?
If you have or know someone who dealt with a similar experience, please share how did you deal with the situation.",11.411287322564853,8.28099866519824,10.46516886930984,64.95603034752816,57.942731277533035,13.789329417523248,42.40283896231033,11.855464076750405,4.868455115026921,975,39,173,21,9,312,145,227,0.06,0.8079999999999999,0.132,0.9587,1,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,1,2,3,3,11,11,4,1,9,0,19,0,0,6,3,44,32,20,0,6,10,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,10,0,4,5,1,0,5,11,5,0,0,4,3,14,6,34,27,5,20,0,0,1,0,37,8,0,5,6,113,21,2,0.13443015030072888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750374262721728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283422402154664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630155137748028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809679484800694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077484438996286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859158215196013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326319955320452,0.0,0.0,0.13149848211754314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272194226199052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15511434450956885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387929495313028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656757811077611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142877065180126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171300507124886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045089506527547,0.1475639364137096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446652900856693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690425115028776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223801599904334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533153640215698,0.0,0.0,0.11390223010748116,0.10349089736442263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735609168066636,0.0,0.15398928297741776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032242289625626,0.2160997253762723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930941852014533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845376948987647,0.0,0.09126924782737487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610448797089297,0.0,0.11091895266236024,0.3171615424498596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461809612681975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591717354776044,0.0,0.09786675047429344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656860932806343
parenting,SmartMomMitch23,2020/01/22,"Internet Parental Controls Hi Everyone,  

My name is Mitch, I am a homeschooling/ work-from-home / single mom of 2,  a 13 year old girl and a 3 year old boy. I am very happy to have found this site, hoping I could learn from others, show support and gain some advice as well on just everyday parenting. 

Having said this, due to my profile above, my growing concern is what my view online. Well, originally, it wasn't really a concern, until I read an article online, and it appears like there are a lot of parenting controls.  I am confident my kids listen to what I say, what to view on the internet and what not, but I understand they are still vulnerable to a lot of things. I was thinking, just for precaution, why not try these. 

This is the article I read, https://thewiredshopper.com/best-parental-control-devices-routers-to-buy/. There are a lot of options. Has anyone here used parental controls? Any suggestions? I am hoping to get something that's easy to use and at the same time suitable for my kids' ages. At the same time, whatever parental control I am going to purchase, I would be really happy if it would have a tracking device.

Thank you so much in advance for your thoughts! 

 Mitch",5.638218954248368,7.731023268518523,5.535664488017432,78.00519607843138,68.62962962962963,8.60087145969499,30.298474945533773,9.168548406835145,2.735349455337691,950,38,165,19,17,296,127,216,0.011000000000000001,0.831,0.158,0.9805,6,0,1,0,1,0,47.0,0,2,1,6,9,9,0,0,13,0,21,0,0,7,0,37,36,10,0,6,6,6,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,4,14,5,0,4,5,3,1,4,3,0,2,0,5,5,21,9,23,27,8,22,0,0,2,0,19,6,0,9,13,118,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033290140525944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286348562975637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463734454732319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970117987106554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184058025438495,0.07380712804810975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883319491810599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135748761681324,0.0,0.0,0.04829694187375744,0.0,0.05253671472393087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681169092474585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836308148114551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04516231623466969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23577173151694686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826653232556342,0.0,0.0,0.06795524238040855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940039030978593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5132275112914337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849333134264205,0.0,0.11844096426207562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793316922117755,0.07351330301436344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116609129494574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382401366867779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490167837471992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510784282343567,0.0,0.0,0.06141411847577749,0.05923287072583008,0.0,0.07338833687829108,0.10780692816742933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276180600147051,0.0,0.0,0.09623500809033568,0.0,0.15967979409037367,0.0,0.07627403484301919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623227355440234,0.0,0.08341420234745843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729861539868673,0.0,0.0,0.13133577853526182,0.0,0.0,0.11905877157531253
parenting,prizedkaleidoscope,2020/01/22,"What worked for your child's milk protein allergy? We suspect that my son (6 months) has a milk protein allergy. We have a pediatrician visit next week and we plan to discuss formula options. 

\*\*What formula worked for your allergic kid?\*\* Soy protein, pea protein, amino-acid based? We prefer organic but I've heard good things about Neocate. Thank you!!",4.2477419354838695,7.599502403225808,4.180887096774196,78.89133064516129,81.41935483870971,7.616129032258066,35.16935483870968,8.472884824447931,3.788380645161292,287,17,45,7,8,88,49,62,0.05,0.823,0.128,0.792,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,3,0,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,9,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,5,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,2,4,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,3,22,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32837769059219235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124973367435582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163723819293406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36044725782962334,0.0,0.0,0.2601000079692066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140434855130597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5700438542781961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pipboy407,2020/01/22,Having trouble posting it in the right spot shoo Reddit keeps deleting What would your reaction be if someone whom you know to be a child molesting predator fond of grooming spoke about how impressed they were by your child?,20.236,10.506828600000006,15.645000000000005,54.14000000000003,50.5,18.0,62.5,11.20814326018867,7.3279999999999985,184,9,29,2,1,53,37,40,0.13699999999999998,0.737,0.126,-0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,3,1,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,8,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,4,2,5,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,0,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465965545027051,0.0,0.0,0.27613084990955844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.481203801242693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290856234132522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.425720354073848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35692279390845616,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zuziite1,2020/01/22,"my (23) brother (15) is skipping school again.... help, I cannot cope. My brother is skipping school again. My parents don't know what to do about it. He allegedly faked my moms signature many times to just stay home?
We tried everything, he swore he got that it is bad for him to do this and that he will stop.

He is probably going to get expelled from school.

What should/could I do to make him realize he is screwing up his future?",2.2373255813953503,4.28259127906977,3.009476744186045,92.6330523255814,78.06976744186046,6.625581395348838,24.703488372093023,7.645422480735847,1.1194930232558136,334,12,72,5,8,105,57,86,0.11199999999999999,0.857,0.03,-0.7399,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,0,7,16,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,10,0,9,14,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,1,1,0,5,41,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708939814359212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933957825280432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906161608425245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081021554545842,0.0,0.12053774952927727,0.0,0.16963072407173976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421619506586733,0.0,0.21274729555143326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165611625088225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415742059174759,0.21502974399507935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24840160303966816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355049779288996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286729039248895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6439505073650871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22606368696216195,0.0,0.17731984795374864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367355451564953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399771458043514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,djjdkddd,2020/01/22,"I think my baby might be autistic My son has always been different from my other three since he was born. He was always a very still and quiet newborn, he almost never cried and slept through the night straight away.

Now he is 14 months and still doesn’t seem like a normal baby. If he makes eye contact it is very brief. He will smile and laugh but only at his toys and at the tv. He is in his own world, he doesn’t respond to his name. It’s like he ignores us. He doesn’t seem to have an attachment to any of us, he doesn’t seek us or want us. He is very distant. 

He also has a lot of quirks. When he was younger it was constant bouncing. Now he twirls/flaps/balls his hands, rhythmically shakes his head, bounces on his knees and he stands/walks on his tip toes. There is no sign of talking yet, he just grunts and screams.

I have told his doctor about all of this and they keep brushing it off saying it is too young to tell. But if he does have it I want the earliest intervention possible.",2.070542005420052,3.829993487804882,2.7814227642276457,95.40600948509486,77.53658536585365,5.726287262872631,21.632791327913278,6.42735559955562,0.11678319783197776,775,21,176,6,18,242,121,205,0.04,0.8740000000000001,0.086,0.66,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,1,0,11,6,0,1,7,0,23,7,6,1,2,30,32,15,0,5,6,1,1,2,0,2,1,3,0,1,8,8,0,2,3,2,0,2,6,3,0,1,7,6,19,3,18,22,3,23,0,0,1,0,40,9,0,8,14,104,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754753142902334,0.0,0.0,0.1018616362306586,0.21197218857365266,0.0,0.0,0.08661927837423232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967288177484868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376469819764861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399153118612433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307962710674434,0.0,0.13037357513048936,0.1114666056904815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072336261656847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321663554498836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445785348257107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828955813512972,0.0,0.0,0.08502371373109227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512460647618976,0.0,0.0,0.10166940472022022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982393509124278,0.0,0.0,0.11953268537197187,0.12480032677502068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687432714051387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359602568188135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129360779505216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23191459262999245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536580738617377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20344346886305856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237909433606134,0.11133124924574783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161667249130355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171214527485665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6128651336677812,0.0,0.0,0.31529281858653657,0.1502579950886424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,123abcd1234,2020/01/22,"Husband has said hard no to having another baby and I’m devastated. Throwaway account because I have friends who know my main account.

Husband and I have been married for 9 years and have a 5 year old daughter. I am absolutely aching for a second child but my husband has said maybe over and over for the last three years. Last night, after talking about it again, he said definitely no to having another baby. 

He had a lot of reasons and honestly they were all valid (environment, financial issues, my health - I was very sick when pregnant last time) but he also said at the end of the day even if we waved a magic wand to fix all those reasons, he still doesn’t want another baby.

I am completely devastated - I honestly thought with time he would come around. I’m not going to give him an ultimatum or anything like that - I adore him and that hasn’t changed. Our marriage is more important to me than this. But I’m so hurt! I feel like I’m actually grieving a baby we never had. 

How do we move forward?",3.751275510204081,5.5733049948979625,5.021173469387758,80.88186224489796,73.03061224489795,7.961224489795918,30.107142857142854,8.660442795831766,2.4509040816326526,793,35,151,15,16,263,122,196,0.145,0.721,0.134,-0.5327,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,1,0,9,8,0,0,9,0,19,2,0,3,3,30,34,15,1,3,6,4,2,2,1,1,2,4,0,1,6,12,0,0,5,0,2,4,6,2,0,2,10,6,19,6,18,23,5,25,0,2,0,0,26,5,0,3,20,100,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.12139493120740792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948138626052684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39132782754896495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236931538574633,0.11074098419427167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583213343624877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159705320402576,0.1071582397082884,0.1304293959039975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022670155483523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018009302737554,0.0,0.0,0.08216399534677106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289958821999092,0.08887026926320515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610992493959504,0.0,0.0,0.11933431744095935,0.07069849931720358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143656648083904,0.0,0.0,0.13222972290718782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317110119827094,0.0,0.0,0.1298396499814862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836612845539204,0.3042039916520189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215495868083176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575910381439747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497495167941562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322158530677351,0.0,0.0,0.09594374462994504,0.0,0.0,0.11673950747580952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053523505202344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25580462645276825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4733256075725796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934475361419656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998675267286918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875846466503913,0.14507545965684515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264173975486987,0.07337342203249687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836908148797995,0.0,0.0,0.240325547338332
parenting,lil_puddles,2020/01/22,"Crawling! Hey guys, my nearly 6 month old (5 month corrected) has just started rolling over and i was wonderong what sort of time line your little ones followed from rolling over to moving about (by crawling or other means). We're just wondering how long weve got till we get a cage (play pen) and start baby proofing stuff! I know every bub is different but i like seeing what others are doing.",3.5207428571428565,5.897896693333338,3.6925714285714304,87.67200000000004,75.4,5.885714285714287,25.380952380952376,6.868970318607317,1.107495238095238,312,11,57,3,7,96,64,75,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.5905,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,2,14,15,6,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,1,7,2,9,12,0,14,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,3,9,35,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24685388580915255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906929689477354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344233509914786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889682515362005,0.0,0.0,0.2339463638363959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298488773001039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154305336571004,0.2368065513193026,0.0,0.2090932288301645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573694044286691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37718001122679495,0.2511196768049084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479276522243023,0.0,0.16010397899323886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882781432245097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344689855943927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704748398199709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777206626911248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25622683653633793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sauls_berry,2020/01/22,"Am I a toxic parent? So I’m not sure if this is the proper place for this post but here goes. We are brand new empty nesters and it’s been weird having an empty house, so we try to have at least one a mounts family night for our 3 kiddos and their SO’s pets whatever, but my oldest mid 20’s usually won’t come. We had a separate Christmas party which they said they would come to then called last minute and said they were too tired to come and I’d have to keep watching their dog until the next day! Not even a would you mind keeping him longer with a house full of people but just yeah we’re not coming. We also lost our youngest child shortly after birth so every year we do a small family party with cake and remember him. Sometimes the kids have plans and can’t come but usually they send a text or call. I left a voicemail inviting her but didn’t here back so I sent a text the day before and told her the time. I finally got a text back that she couldn’t make it. She lives 15 minutes away and her brother would be turning 20. I was crushed it just felt really cold I tried to ask why and was told I need to accept no and move on. There’s a ton more over the last couple of years that fueled my flames so I called and she didn’t answer so I left a voicemail telling her how sad this made me and I begged her to at least tell me why she suddenly wants nothing to do with us,  she said it’s because we don’t respect her saying no and we are not allowed to call only text and she won’t talk to us anymore except in therapy. I feel gutted but angry too! We aren’t a perfect family but we are fairly average no divorce addiction or abuse. I’m so damned confused how we got here? Any suggestions?
TLDR
Adult daughter cut us off without really explaining why after I got upset with her ditching on family tubings last minute and without explanation",2.6958921370967697,4.196947255208337,3.898780241935484,89.17303427419355,75.14583333333334,6.934005376344088,23.06418010752688,7.601502580125103,0.8900027889784954,1462,41,311,19,31,477,204,384,0.14,0.7959999999999999,0.064,-0.9823,3,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,15,1,6,3,22,11,2,2,20,1,28,3,1,5,2,76,56,38,0,7,19,3,2,0,0,5,2,4,1,3,10,34,0,2,6,0,0,8,17,7,0,1,19,8,53,4,32,30,5,47,0,2,1,0,62,15,1,4,23,204,63,0,0.0,0.09148695969345484,0.0,0.08417557345142349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06174868002734848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250873932967958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657637350021973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218545260268883,0.0,0.07254588437920337,0.11874689226839337,0.0,0.04706945006861148,0.0,0.06570414209871574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315379941028588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325687399807835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854367523309301,0.0,0.09959436855826673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0509996739002966,0.0,0.06505683334520368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911651186032735,0.0,0.0390421433882784,0.0,0.07413835575569758,0.084585083503907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526728490265576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781911176801825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372641960356857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888212021329268,0.0,0.0,0.16778830019766178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818211877695486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428911964678568,0.0,0.0,0.0730625490299752,0.0515415055971573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796497739853453,0.0,0.0,0.08206715560076534,0.0,0.05725382582322471,0.0,0.07457457408258678,0.08211885882370039,0.07246089710487155,0.0,0.07408972192726006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05232277423862541,0.05872536561182624,0.0,0.0,0.08573794258225421,0.0,0.0,0.053531048127177766,0.0,0.0806730739506802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395047301746935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893160800885303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746936211956721,0.0,0.22034698592413904,0.0614043403189496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763674516037363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277407334339538,0.0,0.0,0.06206236392405829,0.1349783479062462,0.0,0.08830189941815209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045024594423678434,0.08874710035900546,0.0,0.14756417807781536,0.0,0.10484761632852226,0.08398757363235627,0.0,0.0,0.2786398376205817,0.0,0.1700824758956431,0.0,0.0455433134770659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090231505735621,0.0,0.0,0.14886470159121232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455362180483932,0.0,0.0,0.09944765135009866
parenting,MoonlightSeeker,2020/01/22,"I’m a toxic parent, please help me I grew up in a super critical home and I always told myself, I would never treat my child that way but I have failed. My health isn’t the greatest and I’m afraid I won’t be around to see my 10 year old grow so I want to make sure she has a strong foundation but in that process, I have found myself being super harsh with her. She has the tendency to get distracted and leave things unfinished. I am worried that she will lack the discipline to see things through, which will make her life hard in the future. Today,  I made her cry, not once but 3 times by being super critical. She was taking forever with her math homework and I lost my patience and yell at her because I thought she was not paying attention at what she is doing. I didn’t stop criticizing her, even when I saw her quietly wipe her tears. I kept going on and on about how disappointed I was on the fact that she didn’t make an effort. When I finally was satisfied with driving my point across and I have calmed down, I asked her why she hadn’t finished and she said it was because she didn’t understand the concepts. I need help. I want to be a better parent and prepare her for the future. How can I  give her feedback without breaking her spirit?",3.269584980237152,4.798671640316208,4.268401185770752,86.99129743083004,73.70355731225297,7.4315415019762865,24.90296442687747,8.07648339933343,1.3527677470355732,987,31,203,15,20,320,139,253,0.168,0.6609999999999999,0.171,0.7066,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,8,8,13,0,2,12,0,27,2,0,6,3,40,51,17,0,5,6,2,1,0,0,4,2,3,2,1,9,13,0,3,4,0,1,4,10,5,0,0,17,7,51,8,25,26,2,31,1,3,3,0,31,13,0,0,12,147,60,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176787466416998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590017812649268,0.13221532583890402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724253974587583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508085135166533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535112079189256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341132124666346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492656724248896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506760752712428,0.0,0.0,0.07388986648479065,0.1356698419445451,0.08037632789768967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669097779671082,0.0,0.0,0.1503304832330798,0.0,0.0,0.18959132064999015,0.0,0.14186299688991064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497509674567688,0.0,0.0,0.09989420260733577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543844779932712,0.0,0.0,0.133821821133241,0.2832112307003259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048664649705271,0.10907736306408623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840403906834204,0.15061533535053362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140763022617035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524457832251096,0.13369440225183596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452963854980046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253983101290078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823945857257978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329344726395628,0.0,0.10633564159038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18791587369311305,0.0,0.0,0.11227738658178296,0.08246732835847599,0.0,0.13405643385173224,0.13513973510766406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723068631435152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683483483289327,0.11225831582116992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761603603183794,0.0,0.0,0.1363307586026011,0.0,0.0,0.1436261704619193,0.0,0.10046581381915083,0.0,0.0,0.09107446966867982
parenting,throwaway89246,2020/01/22,"Got a teenage daughter with a huge shift in personality This is kind of a curious case.

My 16 year old daughter has started going through some dramatic changes. I was just wondering if anyone could give insight or relate.

She never was particularly girly...sure she had her couple of dresses she'd wear when she was 5 and dressed up as a ladybug once for halloween, however she usually was just absorbed in her studies, musical instruments, and drawing. However, highschool hit as well as new friends and that's when the shift started. The first hit was when she came out as bisexual in freshmen year and has since not backed down from this claim.

She was always friends with mixed gender groups. At a time, a majority of her friends were girls, then boys, etc. Now she seems to almost exclusively hang out with boys. 

Something dramatic happened. At the start of Junior year she started ""normal"". However, early I noticed a shift in personality. she started speaking out more, talking rough, etc. I wasn't too taken aback, I knew she shot her occasional ""spicy insults"". However, she became more daring. Her style now actually works on her (I shudder when I think about how she didn't care about clothes and appearance at all). Coupled with her short hair and masculine friend group, I'm starting to feel like I have another son.

Maybe I never noticed or it just started. She asserts herself in a masculine way. Not in a ""tomboy girl"" but ""I am a teenage boy"". I heard her talk with her friends the other day and found it hard to contain my surprise. She has almost a completely different voice. It can pass as male. However, when she talks to us it's still how she used to. This is what I'm most perplexed about...I've never heard about someone having a child that explicitly talked like a boy.

She listens to Korean hip hop a lot. Gets annoying to me but what's more interesting is she used to only listen to musicals.

Her friend group is not very rowdy..just normal nerdy boys I suppose. In fact she seems to be more aggressive than any of them but then still joke around with eachother is that ""guy"" way.

I have my suspicions that she has a boyfriend, possibly in her group of friends. I don't particularly mind, but if she does, I wish she'd have told me in all honesty.

However with this, I have overheard some conversations and heard some things in her voice that make me believe that she is feeling sexual lately. This is the huge shocker. She was raised Muslim (I am not the Muslim one in the family, Dad is) and never have we ever encouraged this behavior. I don't this it is necessarily bad but it is dangerous. Desire can be strong. I never had such as a teen, so I'm not sure how to open the conversation. Her father does not suspect this but gets extremely nervous when she goes to hang out with her all male friend group out in town. I'm sure he would be a lot more freaked out than me. The thought of her masturbating would be enough for him to break down.

The thing is she now has unpiercing confidence. Part of me is proud of her finally developing a strong personality, another part of me is worried since this is uncharted territory. Not even her brother was this rough and boyish. I want to raise her to eventually be a self respecting young woman but I don't know what to do with this new person in my house. I feel like nothing I say gets through sometimes...I have to admit I'm uncomfortable but only because I'm nervous.

She is very smart and has a unique relationship with her Filipino and Egyptian heritage. I don't want her to lose everything in her ""bad boy"" for lack of better term image.

She's still hitting her AP classes and orchestras and bands. I just don't know what to do and confused where this all came from.",3.75299973628692,6.039438746835447,4.5257786128692,82.40202234968358,74.33052039381155,7.875536216596344,28.83089398734177,8.70634684264109,2.3701668248945147,2963,126,559,61,64,951,312,711,0.086,0.775,0.139,0.9905,8,0,1,0,0,0,97.0,2,0,1,7,31,37,4,3,30,0,62,3,3,6,14,116,115,45,0,12,23,6,7,3,8,2,0,9,0,18,31,36,0,1,15,3,0,7,19,11,1,2,24,16,90,26,86,78,23,87,0,1,0,0,114,34,0,17,46,388,121,4,0.0,0.0,0.062407137321635886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807576006262228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321251391449987,0.0,0.0,0.043489002842948286,0.13411679948921082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044716159669144655,0.0,0.0,0.05693011840780458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049174518388527336,0.10679314644259666,0.038984052445015134,0.0,0.0,0.07205109271770918,0.0,0.056559631479194024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628625136802562,0.06520250132271725,0.0,0.06765188042649592,0.0,0.06705160701522002,0.0,0.0,0.05105982223796287,0.14152155288603313,0.0,0.04124322762900479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681538325197339,0.0,0.0,0.11192823636381648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607867550834108,0.14264496534256538,0.04223915850110297,0.05784751351188892,0.0,0.0,0.057475206851951975,0.0,0.06028749134121712,0.0,0.09700693102612308,0.09137348722153496,0.0,0.07005540380386195,0.0,0.05439685037406269,0.0,0.07011918004488119,0.3952682520774911,0.0,0.10023557338949067,0.06134780967911764,0.03634493558700632,0.0,0.051147609475379836,0.0,0.0,0.06332173345741532,0.056551826977357965,0.0,0.05728770581977105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379108813417477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659532432631021,0.07029180418373007,0.0,0.07213972893788838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372996483322547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154502462017172,0.0,0.10873803130184546,0.0,0.0,0.042687916565112616,0.0,0.06424756695892554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457247244972006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466155047298864,0.1235289174979728,0.0,0.0,0.1253171780644692,0.061362892513906475,0.14561770958191347,0.06710601718028347,0.06810593124754892,0.043334982074657385,0.09727552497541456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850581565624906,0.0,0.0,0.22335885298863065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209535898157682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865964604230418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05085655387637087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643752485021,0.06671503942368691,0.0,0.0,0.10580217205619184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418563658386672,0.049232751185251236,0.0,0.0,0.3168548748907657,0.0,0.15321451116585616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054648132582245,0.0,0.0,0.20560617951137036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497265928652263,0.04097734094102278,0.0,0.050770102216993726,0.03729045373952028,0.0,0.0,0.06110810354492852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692540864075928,0.11046659200632318,0.07043320190302542,0.10553286013020764,0.07544013871084841,0.1015229574264616,0.0,0.0,0.05749980091602805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354071353401892,0.0,0.06935233863748805,0.046557228684987136,0.0649455387000442,0.0,0.09085818243901543,0.0,0.0,0.12354741079770358
parenting,henseyke,2020/01/22,"Need Advice: is it inappropriate to bring a toddler to a visitation at a funeral home. Originally posted in r/amitheasshole but was told that it was better suited for a parenting sub, which makes sense. 

Original post:

If this post doesn't belong here, please let me know if there is an alternative sub that you can recommend. 

I just found out that a family friend passed away suddenly on Friday. ""Joe"" was the father of 3 boys I went to high school with. His middle son and his wife are best friends with my sister and brother in law. I haven't seen anyone in the family in probably 5 years, but I've known them since I was in elementary school (went to the same church, were neighbors, same school etc). 

Joe had ALS and was found not breathing by his wife on Friday. This hits close to home for me because my MIL suffers from ALS and is declining rapidly. She is close to hospice care at this point. 

The funeral is on Thursday morning and my son will be at school so I will be able to attend the service but I won't be able to see the family. Tomorrow night they are having an open house visitation at the funeral home. My husband is in school and has class, and I will have my son. 

Would it be in bad taste for me to have my son with me to go see the family and give my condolences? The ALS community is very close in this area and they are aware that my MIL has the same disease. 

Should I take him with me or skip it and just go to the service? 

TL,DR: Family friend just died from a fucking terrible disease that is also killing my MIL, who I am super close with. Would it be inappropriate to bring my toddler to the visitation at the funeral home?",4.013577235772356,5.266855073170731,5.137560975609755,82.5706504065041,71.4390243902439,8.881300813008131,26.47154471544715,9.2995712137729,2.0508593495934964,1296,42,268,28,24,428,159,328,0.107,0.787,0.105,0.3308,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,3,3,7,12,2,0,21,0,40,3,1,3,0,46,60,18,6,6,10,11,0,0,4,7,0,0,5,1,16,21,1,0,4,0,0,11,4,5,0,0,13,4,33,7,43,33,5,48,1,1,3,1,31,27,1,3,7,182,49,8,0.1815574040308099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870789697623882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259569520427764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347457915912526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528957879560949,0.0,0.07579642435394678,0.05533785417114144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526664716432308,0.08028638487965498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255493678804444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421396058329087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124224901333682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278904058127006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990683223811336,0.2104061999723855,0.0839234472247257,0.0,0.0870832028181321,0.10318325670272704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591268277586742,0.3642337590575737,0.0,0.0,0.10474643394393847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043318379638001,0.0,0.049889600559511235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282737325598536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059548850345639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731125729166616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518966232353424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007990056530194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964775448032563,0.08581521567412488,0.0,0.2608227089393973,0.0,0.09787479457175736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593644644159405,0.1446777446962142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509308038836555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825428636672475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674294001152945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490193627747968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830553248235602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897317068708472,0.0,0.0,0.05845850780126417
parenting,0x886,2020/01/22,My son has a conversation with himself My son is about to turn 4 and hell be in his room sometimes asking himself questions and them answering them. Is this normal?,3.792150537634409,6.372695741935487,4.427096774193551,81.727311827957,75.45161290322581,6.713978494623658,29.68817204301075,7.793537801064563,2.1853139784946247,132,6,23,2,3,42,25,31,0.141,0.8590000000000001,0.0,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,4,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,10,2,1,1,0,19,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080023234515969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276078852495801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.488900507701973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43163956956669663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4747095702463882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beachteam,2020/01/22,"Parent with a sad teenager w/a secret 

My 13 year old son has been seeing a therapist for about 2 years now for general “sadness”. Maybe not even depression really. He’s been bullied on and off because he’s a minority where we live and he’s adopted, which he has some feelings about that he doesn’t like to express. But recently when we were talking one night he just broke down, he spent almost two hours not being able to tell me what was wrong. He said it was “bad” and “embarrassing”. He seemed on the verge of letting me know a couple of times, then changing his mind. Lately, he’s begun to lose weight. He won’t eat breakfast or lunch. He eats a good snack and dinner. Today he told me how unfocused and upset he is with school. He has a bunch of friends. He’s normally with them a lot but lately they’ve been lighting things on fire, sneaking out at night and made a big hole in my fence. He’s grounded for a little while. I know hating school and being unfocused comes with the territory when you’re 13 but I’m so concerned about this secret he’s keeping. My husband and I love him so much and I know he will feel unburdened when he tells us but I don’t know how to get him to tell us. I’m starting to feel it’s an “emergency”.",2.090869565217389,4.006264490118582,3.438339920948618,90.00359683794468,78.01185770750988,6.455335968379448,23.25296442687747,7.423996415210882,0.8851486166007909,968,31,206,13,23,316,152,253,0.136,0.81,0.054000000000000006,-0.9496,1,0,0,1,0,0,22.0,4,0,1,1,14,14,1,2,12,0,17,8,0,3,0,46,38,23,0,1,8,3,5,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,7,17,7,2,10,0,1,1,5,10,0,2,10,8,18,4,27,23,4,33,0,5,1,1,42,13,0,5,20,116,25,2,0.11466542883649455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148208635928708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574084350031074,0.069898981132695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121300819615731,0.09877411377169587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268751160362683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876116583597397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466271991085014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573543431108948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393485839111794,0.08191700527202772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859022587918118,0.0,0.05990795392602285,0.0,0.0,0.09617592144362866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132083717189826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292234981223835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191990170808447,0.0,0.0,0.2520684837140324,0.0,0.25869519640418875,0.0,0.0,0.11725316980580565,0.0,0.05601973655497983,0.11492488338318126,0.10125167443066596,0.0,0.0,0.12828128458725815,0.0,0.09748444712224873,0.1034900263621751,0.10849920125917237,0.0,0.0,0.11519683534741748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157793956854682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429228376816289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152114746277504,0.11234777448401202,0.0,0.0,0.12032207876261287,0.0,0.07770026214423173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732238898430506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345760988876998,0.0,0.11321827763563068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907308094249818,0.0,0.0,0.2320950713552257,0.09137350099956854,0.10438709988041853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116078071019417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216372824952727,0.3006679166593682,0.0,0.0,0.13313540071632565,0.0761786158152864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686233366951219,0.0,0.10868941906032002,0.10956773113227003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201146243479182,0.0,0.27585678501686106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963160127646732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536864595212452,0.0,0.1476815534338882
parenting,Mo523,2020/01/22,"Nickname at Preschool TL;DR Don't like nickname.  Should I say anything?

My son is not yet 3 and started preschool at 2.5.  Recently one of his teachers have started using a nickname for him that I strongly dislike.  (The nickname isn't bad or anything.  I've just worked with kids a lot, so have a lot of names that have negative connotations, so I'm picky.)  His dad pretty strongly dislikes it too.

Generally, I try to let his time there be dictated by his teachers there.  If he NEEDS something special, I'm quick to bring it up - for example, particular needs when he has a rash or creating a smooth transition when he was first starting - but in general I don't expect things to be the same as at home.  I've worked childcare and I work in schools.  You don't realistically have a lot of time for special requests, and I'm hiring professionals to be able to address my child's developmental needs not make sure that he sits on the toilet the same way that he does at home.

If he were older, I'd just ask if he likes it.  If he likes it, it's his name, so that's fine, even if I don't.  But he isn't really old enough to say either way.  I'm not uncomfortable talking to the teachers.  I just don't know if I should.  Nothing wrong with it, but I really don't want it to catch on.

I guess my hands off (but know what's going on and support at home) philosophy is at war with my hatred of the nickname.  If it were you, would you say anything?",2.8088917525773205,4.449979343642613,4.263835910652922,86.08894974226807,75.15120274914091,7.186769759450173,27.5889175257732,7.937092434478242,1.625186597938144,1123,45,237,17,24,373,138,291,0.085,0.7979999999999999,0.11699999999999999,0.8132,0,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,3,0,6,14,13,1,0,12,0,25,2,2,2,1,50,45,23,1,15,20,2,2,3,0,3,0,3,4,2,15,7,0,0,2,0,0,3,12,3,0,2,3,5,23,10,33,35,7,32,0,0,0,0,30,13,0,13,16,152,38,6,0.11812186875127502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916127000404326,0.0,0.11042800200225583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862682645356073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336924335346737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205146638591435,0.0,0.07801838027634075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004744012172499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713138013088317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012455560676486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554575962780441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983337982391696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078761379963765,0.0,0.17312513551745307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30126896620300203,0.0,0.0,0.07884726462281902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627576068869185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133411188312657,0.0,0.12394903101739825,0.0,0.08004243528385506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017240609840972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134378761076128,0.0,0.11663109506345805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818057532870102,0.0,0.1195456374018908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909359854771041,0.0,0.0,0.2508218000162231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340432968514721,0.1113284633831808,0.0,0.0,0.09494188372541086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847492090940626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377556231595483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801969951590117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201936886071793,0.0,0.0,0.0696713386215918,0.18751928258868145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579823818267856,0.0,0.0,0.08391038647892511,0.1291477203979089,0.0,0.0
parenting,BABYXOO98,2020/01/22,"My 2 year old will not sleep at night she somehow gets sooo hyper that my husband and I can’t control her, her Dr told me to give her Benadryl once in a while since it can put them to sleep but I feel like Benadryl can be too strong since it’s used for when they get sick. I’m against giving children anything to put them to sleep but honestly considering it! We’ve tried about anything to try to put her to bed, it’s not always where she gets crazy hyper but it is always at night time whenever she does.... is there anything you give your children that is SAFE to help them sleep?? She has an appointment in 1 week, I will be telling her dr again but would like some recommendations, mind you I’m 35 weeks pregnant super tired and need my daughter to just fall asleep when she gets so crazy😭😭😅",5.745684281842822,5.126883554878052,5.547154471544715,87.74798102981029,67.10975609756098,8.50840108401084,29.807588075880762,7.3871296695380915,1.4529140921409218,629,19,141,5,9,195,99,164,0.063,0.758,0.179,0.9724,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,4,3,11,6,0,0,2,0,12,9,5,2,0,18,25,10,0,2,7,2,1,2,0,3,4,0,1,2,7,2,0,2,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,24,6,16,19,1,20,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,2,13,81,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19846486402944893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29441817769516115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375828756786662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436371342412662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030056328149892,0.08519813002283791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24923008994491944,0.3432101909158137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993630274744667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652713091761573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204168533117073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842849412304044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22383161026032813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514149018257295,0.12700616255756947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596624941197217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19730334226354532,0.0,0.4773775769724666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423698218367317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954045474060654,0.1370698347174869,0.0,0.1139563851524502,0.0,0.16193707042299674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300085238200683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132357703866248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847176514376653,0.0,0.0,0.07679841413667708
parenting,bananasbreadandyarn,2020/01/22,"Separate or Together Bedtimes? Hey,  we have two girls, almost 6 and almost 3,  and I still stagger their bedtimes.  Wondering at what ages should we just put them to bed at the same time?  They have very similar routines,  and honestly I’m pretty tired by the end of the day,  and not my best self,  haha.  Thanks!",3.5494915254237327,5.510178864406786,4.412000000000003,84.44783050847458,73.91525423728814,8.109830508474579,27.0542372881356,8.841846274778883,2.1667735593220345,239,9,46,5,5,77,48,59,0.091,0.7240000000000001,0.185,0.7568,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,3,1,2,4,0,0,3,1,3,1,0,0,0,14,6,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,4,5,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,4,5,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5102722349837586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26738715791822043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16431894630104985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256689660516005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592137772658249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25613506318628304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26580230526923393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034762107633769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23457707734069225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857052703743195,0.29284446960941884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488935263675781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022904090727004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763096843664903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,schnarfftastic,2020/01/22,"Raising a 15yr old girl when you have an anxiety disorder I've been a single mom since my daughter was 4. She's a great kid; responsible, kind, smart. I struggle so hard to not constantly worry about her. I came from an extremely overprotective upbringing (which I partly blame for my anxiety issues). I want to let her practice being independent, but it is so hard because I worry something will happen to her if I'm not there to protect her. Any advice on how to start to trust and let go (a little, lol) she's off to college in 2 years and I'd like to not have a nervous breakdown when she goes.",4.610021008403361,5.433076084033615,5.977636554621849,78.69990021008405,69.67226890756302,8.975210084033613,30.841386554621852,9.188382445141503,2.6457974789915966,470,19,91,9,8,159,83,119,0.11199999999999999,0.693,0.195,0.9046,0,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,2,7,1,9,0,0,2,0,11,15,9,0,2,5,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,2,15,5,14,8,2,12,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,7,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153315897334614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937148155765795,0.0,0.26857132884073376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700599676401798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076807256743875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896936164658853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011811190157454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976197485618099,0.0,0.0,0.19353065203945627,0.0,0.0,0.15522718227084314,0.0,0.3144941420451168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832154857866468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827952358059966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35899785963953545,0.0,0.08575872854489189,0.17593463452722136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055873332085016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841970192136284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900899461749699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145206387876674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513730060370724,0.0,0.0,0.1242463065599389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18350985004489684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353653266494037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565335909485712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304035890631944
parenting,throwaway739o,2020/01/22,"14yr old son drawing creepy images? So I don’t know if this is the “emo phase” era we’re in now but here we go... I found these drawings my son made and it hit me with a little bit of concern, maybe this isn’t something serious but I’d like to hear from others

Has anyones child done this at one point, I asked him about it and he just got defensive because I went through his art app and just said it was for a project, I don’t know, could be overthinking it 

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parenting,snowdaysarekiller,2020/01/22,"Kid is tall/USPS lied My kid is tall. Nearly two months and she is too tall for normal length three month old stuff. My wife ordered new sleep sacks, etc. to fit our adorable babies length from my amazon account, USPS claims they couldn’t deliver at 6:27 pm due to not being able to access our driveway/front door. This is a total lie. I was outside during this time and my driveway/porch/everything has been shoveled clear of snow for the last two days. USPS even delivered my mail today. Just wondering where I can complain to. Amazon is no help and I tried calling usps 3 times and never got anywhere. I never complain about this stuff but they lied and it just really, really pisses me off.

Tl:dr usps has a package to help my colicky baby sleep, lied about not being able to deliver. Amazon and usps are no help.",3.0641983122362864,5.393466221518989,3.454708860759492,89.05505907172999,76.65822784810126,5.9854852320675125,21.925738396624475,7.0316486544052195,0.675413839662447,645,18,123,7,15,200,100,158,0.122,0.763,0.115,-0.4779,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,2,0,7,4,1,0,3,0,14,3,3,0,4,18,16,7,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,7,3,0,3,3,0,16,1,15,10,2,20,0,0,0,0,15,7,1,1,12,77,22,0,0.3169518897656605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182165839822207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220387406161363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17674256976849734,0.10467186697287677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424279606727724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674769017587814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318669255976239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917904658210924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529879745135376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444528368514867,0.15305705509395556,0.0,0.0,0.15527277835610656,0.0,0.0,0.1662938456312002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20304749660086024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317180788629888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628340837064321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481719578193573,0.0,0.15021666564306274,0.0,0.0,0.10759476394121097,0.0,0.3096159413902027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718604020942201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aalebaster,2020/01/22,"3 Year Old Screeching Hello,

I’m struggling with my son screeching. I can deal his fits and crying when he doesn’t get his way, but the shrill screeching is killing me. 

When he’s angry for whatever reason, or if we chastise him for bad behavior, he just screech. It’s not a scream, it’s a high pitched, shrill screech.

I think he could get it from his girl cousins, who are notorious screamers. As well as him having a bad temper problem. 

Does anyone have any advice? I’d appreciate it. 

Thanks.",2.4553125000000016,4.9428339062500015,3.0269166666666685,90.45975000000004,79.72916666666666,5.506666666666668,26.266666666666666,6.742157984588678,1.075224166666667,389,16,77,4,10,121,70,96,0.345,0.552,0.10300000000000001,-0.9863,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,4,9,2,1,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,12,12,8,1,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,1,10,2,6,11,0,7,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,2,4,41,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22372440264333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569184153068674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008509714998506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823224389059591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18279558584422612,0.0,0.251487578410692,0.0,0.2360343503669997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003531019289653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392307631464365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24189512311060485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532959839689525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402414106922285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907140209398412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23539569333950106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23934516116992324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107836790331076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146700021961371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817275077155545,0.0,0.0,0.20585088889238293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743439065815625
parenting,JaguarsRUs,2020/01/22,"No laughing matter My son is 6 years old. Overall he seems to be a good kid, he loves to have fun, he does what he is told, and loves sports. However, there is this reaction which thinking about seems more of an over reaction, when he feels people are laughing at him. It could be for whatever reason, even in videos of himself, if the people watching laugh at something cute or funny throws a tantrum and is very insistent of us deleting the video. IS this normal?",5.302958801498129,6.318543584269669,5.177022471910113,84.36568352059928,68.21348314606742,8.18052434456929,30.563670411985026,8.344100000000001,2.1605265917603003,365,14,70,5,6,113,67,89,0.046,0.675,0.27899999999999997,0.9766,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,4,9,1,0,5,0,10,2,0,1,0,12,17,5,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,4,8,11,13,1,8,0,0,1,2,13,4,0,4,3,44,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379247765218004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014457451954244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15204204117046272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639382604737028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930771710857972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41552108315000813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22554284013667916,0.0,0.0,0.24155158835950805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191773280418191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236679444460919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191229081090744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772158406623478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750006343635813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21996178723078275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768969970674861,0.0,0.0,0.189935501015423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482384370774338
parenting,RedneckCaveman,2020/01/22,"Smarter than he looks! My youngest son (3rd grade) told me he was the second smartest boy in his class.  I said ""that's awesome you are the second smartest kid in your class"". He said "" no, I'm the second smartest boy"".",1.0527906976744212,3.4577742790697705,0.661674418604651,105.63623255813955,85.27906976744184,3.44,22.55348837209302,3.1291,-0.593126511627907,166,6,39,0,5,47,30,43,0.04,0.612,0.349,0.9595,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,3,6,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,13,2,0,0,0,19,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669302265284911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8312841755708241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175270390109909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stickypostit2626,2020/01/22,"Single parenting an only child I'm the single parent of a 10 year old boy. Sometimes I feel like he is bored when we are home together. He reads, plays games, we go out, eay dinner together ect but there's alot of times when I need to do things he just looks bored.
The guilt of no siblings hits with this one.
What do you do every night when you get home? Is this guilt normal?",0.6564102564102541,2.9477943846153885,1.85923076923077,97.16910256410259,85.92307692307692,5.005128205128205,15.076923076923075,6.42735559955562,-0.6172153846153847,294,5,66,3,9,93,58,78,0.155,0.8059999999999999,0.04,-0.8559,2,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,2,2,0,0,5,6,0,2,5,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,13,4,0,2,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,4,1,0,1,3,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,2,6,2,6,12,3,9,0,0,1,0,12,1,0,1,8,37,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994254023179166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398900791733932,0.16105405636725534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778285786215473,0.0,0.12812248897762166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522684907550347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013837455170418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931243983971044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167160566471894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21155974178058404,0.2208828892657574,0.0,0.0,0.2365608800139614,0.0,0.15276367046831926,0.17145693306594578,0.0,0.0,0.5006478726656773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225500552666636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22296547499743155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977201674734672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314556119318117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517567599158224
parenting,Trauma_uncle,2020/01/22,"""Trauma Child"" This is about my 7 year old nephew, he was put in a class with other children who have experienced trauma. It's an elementary school and they have around 16 kids between the grades of kindergarten to 3nd. Since he's been going there he's been getting worse with his behavior. He tells me things like, ""all the kids in my classroom are bad kids, Suzy ran out of class today and Tommy broke the chalkboard.""

I feel like he feels justified in his behavior, in his mind ""Everyone else acts bad at school and that's why he was moved to a new school because he is bad.""
He hates school says things like, ""I'm dumb, just kill me."" 

Yes he is in therapy and in another program called Wrap Around, but I feel like it isn't a good idea to put a bunch of misbehaving, ""trauma kids"" in the same classroom together. 

Idk maybe I'm wrong what do you think?


TL;DR My nephew's behavior is getting worse and I think the school he was moved to is making it worse because they have all the misbehaving ""trauma kids"" in the same classroom together...",5.3569041303524045,5.997636778325127,5.322660098522167,84.71444865479349,67.91625615763547,8.807730200833651,27.930655551345204,8.841846274778883,1.8661386131110265,818,25,168,13,13,255,105,203,0.225,0.721,0.054000000000000006,-0.9896,0,0,0,0,0,1,32.0,0,1,2,0,5,17,3,0,12,1,16,0,0,1,2,24,29,6,1,0,2,2,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,7,10,10,0,0,6,0,0,7,1,12,0,0,6,5,14,5,23,23,5,23,0,1,0,0,29,12,1,0,8,88,24,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269409976274825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134630315631165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692046979576471,0.13102825931208315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974125636343544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977933405474163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026944088053416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630237047763043,0.15355649588763465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122997044402356,0.0,0.061078997001300275,0.09014268427297494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610666740430667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213231693821315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189022003754609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100221905662983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173860912837657,0.0,0.10797039219483402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851640778620678,0.0,0.0,0.2284521389008735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379743779391884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277412260950848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160787342962696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854663036690549,0.0,0.5438386350878496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889022149218161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939355460133695,0.0,0.12290396592530688,0.0,0.14279966982826406,0.1377278481325902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187119436032756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697705389114336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285704316355797,0.0,0.11750411225762575,0.0,0.06920865141872454
parenting,letsburnthehousedown,2020/01/22,"Does anyone else have a kid that would starve themselves before trying new food? My son is four years old. He eats well but he will only eat... PBJ sandwiches; grill cheese; string cheese; fruit; apple sauce (sugar free) ; jello (sugar free); tortilla chips; granola bars; graham crackers; yogurt; mac n cheese...... that’s about it. Is this normal? 

He used to eat a lot more when he was a baby and then it’s this. I don’t know how to get him to eat better. I tried the no eating thing, he’ll eat when he’s hungry but he really didn’t eat. Then in the morning he woke up dry heaving cause he was so hungry. (That puke feeling you get when you’re suuuper hungry). Lol

Anyways, what’s normal and do you have any tips? 


Thanks.",0.39612676056338,2.8474516408450765,1.7212535211267586,95.36793661971831,92.45070422535211,3.6850704225352113,14.14225352112676,5.341637118332708,-0.96788,551,10,113,3,20,175,97,142,0.067,0.828,0.105,0.6699,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,0,1,8,5,0,0,5,1,11,13,0,3,0,13,19,11,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,2,13,0,2,1,2,0,3,0,1,1,4,4,6,7,6,12,2,10,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,1,8,54,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924806333391607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814842562913461,0.1194042815311228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916303611190544,0.0,0.0,0.103066084862714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971394964911987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10198090763595803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8347136001324655,0.0973503672643638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892379614182215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091505965655451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176986592783767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404480426838202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099074223689763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255060863089884,0.0,0.0,0.2283598844504437,0.0,0.0,0.1222842914746728,0.0,0.0,0.08863041757856235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465555674443941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072901327490507,0.0,0.0,0.07742093684129522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15823976437606785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064916309087622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047793135459262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278339954510043,0.0,0.0,0.07504497225804863
parenting,skunkinatruck,2020/01/22,"Can’t enroll at new school for... weeks? We just moved to a new house (in with my parents). 6th grade son has been out of school since winter vacation while we figure this out. New school isn’t accepting our proof of address because my parents are still paying utilities so we just have a lease agreement. Went to the bank to try to get a bank statement with our new address. They said the next one they mail will be mid February. Can the school really refuse to enroll him for another three weeks?? 

Tl;dr: School won’t accept our new residence. Son may miss 6 weeks of school because of this move. Frustrated beyond belief.",3.611856702619416,6.006877889830508,3.6936363636363647,87.68749614791992,75.18644067796609,7.002773497688753,23.43913713405239,8.00094639256281,1.3019898305084752,493,15,93,8,11,151,77,118,0.062,0.865,0.07400000000000001,0.35,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,2,0,5,5,1,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,1,17,15,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,2,7,0,1,5,0,3,3,3,2,0,2,3,1,11,3,18,8,0,21,1,1,0,0,16,6,0,1,12,55,13,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362041233241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210527331580832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661138759779635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502794418288546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303299487265477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232531120094698,0.11523752958101258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342463510152976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406323915374756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941544407535652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030710958572627,0.0,0.0,0.6579705957035594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963296515032157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865330120227215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356641617546221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607492501100395,0.0,0.0,0.1004468311166432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Infidel8,2020/01/22,"I accidentally encouraged the very behavior I was trying to stop! A couple months ago, my 1.5-year-old started throwing things when he got upset. So, I started making him pick up anything that he intentionally threw to the ground.

That worked for a while and deterred most of the behavior.

But recently he has started doing it simply to get attention. For example, if I am leaving a room and he wants me to stay, he'll grab the nearest object and hurl it to the ground while staring me dead in the eyes. 

What do you think is the best way for me to address this?

* Should I just ignore it when he throws objects?
* Should I still make him pick up everything he throws? (which may reinforce the attention-seeking behavior)
* Something else?

I feel like I'm walking a thin line between ignoring bad behavior and encouraging bad behavior.",4.018431372549017,6.700975810457523,4.815450980392161,78.70552941176472,75.20915032679737,8.263006535947714,31.115032679738558,9.029198982220553,3.130178562091503,661,32,114,16,15,213,99,153,0.153,0.77,0.077,-0.9072,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,2,5,9,0,1,12,0,9,1,1,5,0,23,22,11,1,4,3,0,3,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,3,5,14,4,14,15,2,27,0,0,2,0,12,8,0,3,13,73,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025718713267446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580560572075234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207384449712737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20156410100842004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21252020525017898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044863377424046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17261883448678306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711563349394836,0.1372138155831504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003478937574898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361477092492368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20337286947901467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938349952509366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564145066278616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330728985171524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015436412877766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964452883194127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786375889114747,0.0,0.0,0.4078413399014664,0.20471952635449245,0.15338619782055396,0.16057791401242605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127601814875277,0.12306977601363185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040194257280355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15847667466997944,0.11328701131369333,0.15245508058586407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398281971083356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368585356983415
parenting,grinder391,2020/01/22,"Is this punishment abusive? Husband has always been strict about parenting and putting his foot down when he needs to, but I think he has gone overboard. Our daughter (7) had said some swears or whatever words on the school bus and one of the kid’s parents reported it to the school.  She wouldn’t tell us what the words were and after a while of trying to get it out of her, I just explained to her why it wasn’t appropriate to say and promised she wouldn’t do it again. However, my husband would not let it go and made her sit in the kitchen chair for 3 days until she admitted what she said. He threatened that she would still be sitting there when her birthday came around and he wouldn’t allow guest to come over and no presents would be allowed.  I had to go work but argued that to let it go, but I find her still sitting in the chair when I come back.   It ended when she broke down and started sobbing, I don’t even think she remembered what she said.  I’m not sure how to handle this situation with my husband. He went  too overboard with the punishment and now my daughter will not speak to him.",5.678856643356646,5.729721368181825,5.330909090909092,86.98444055944056,67.13636363636363,8.587412587412587,31.01398601398601,8.139509932561175,1.9119020979020973,871,31,185,10,13,267,122,220,0.125,0.838,0.037000000000000005,-0.9686,4,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,16,7,3,0,8,0,21,2,1,4,1,45,41,20,0,7,8,7,0,0,1,7,0,5,1,1,14,16,1,0,6,0,0,9,9,5,0,1,12,5,26,2,27,18,1,36,0,2,0,0,40,8,1,2,16,130,40,4,0.0,0.15853346499453955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133396471830047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911212848179442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288546232009338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303381808599592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230517113585068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629120693478913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850883836999232,0.0,0.0,0.08837494484565357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229258427046205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990601126391117,0.0,0.2281282434523389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736431766404711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266066672000694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921247161740604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066768341597596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29714252533063595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450794469049987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157155844002948,0.0,0.38182896553459217,0.10640470367672984,0.0,0.2708294910637721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039902985402845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470572901756444,0.0,0.2137088656486491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610678120196195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694882672085645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17146981019945592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084276037084144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609473054648791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403577452211355,0.12073547397915067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740943388099883,0.0,0.0,0.28514725956062703,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thats-life1812,2020/01/22,"Relactation after 4 weeks without expressing/feeding I am curious to know if any parents on here have successfully began relactating after a break.

After having my baby, only a day early and weighing 6lb 14.5oz he was seemingly never, ever full and the only option seemed to be to give him formula and over a short space of time the formula took over and before I had even realised, breastfeeding had stopped altogether. I was manually expressing milk but only getting around 30ml a time and this would take 30-45 minutes a time. 

Anyway, now baby is 6 weeks old, gaining weight perfectly and I am finding my feet as a new Mummy I am hoping to try and relactate to offer some feeds of breastmilk and to save some for when he is weaning. 

Has anyone done this successfully, If so, what tips or advice could you offer please? 

I am currently using the Ardo double plus breast pump and power pumping at night just before I sleep and then 15 minutes when baby is feeding during the day if we are at home at the time. I've reached the end of day 2 up to now and I am slowly getting more milk (from one breast - the other is being stubborn!😖) instead of one or two drops I am getting nearly 10ml so I'm hoping this will continue to increase at a good rate! 

TIA 😙",5.865034013605437,6.267124755102043,6.914693877551024,74.57911564625851,66.75510204081633,9.145578231292516,31.843537414965983,9.029198982220553,2.795565986394557,995,38,175,16,15,335,152,245,0.012,0.809,0.179,0.9928,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,5,13,7,0,0,14,0,24,10,4,1,3,39,38,24,0,7,8,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,14,6,1,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,7,1,14,7,30,26,6,45,0,0,0,2,10,13,0,12,28,126,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304324452007599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076912195864174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333041194778342,0.0,0.0,0.11882307073214105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271586544823128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065707403924927,0.0,0.0,0.25824539404670543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659359137629629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822124466673227,0.0,0.0,0.08816047917361472,0.12073783406639385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219958082858576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092090963419352,0.12804356169693826,0.0,0.11195440280445734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388858669276413,0.2651460964661485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335561785225576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294590062944506,0.1289131808595906,0.0,0.12525937759139902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006194346632472,0.0,0.18089530758914335,0.3045464397736594,0.0,0.0,0.1482107143702234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465179619703451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24302539039256996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335736674952107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159297594626127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035829694654387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113266823430467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829816024202552,0.09062230587792126,0.0,0.13038789954813346,0.0,0.0,0.1152815068948325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141348324354212,0.16253935807310732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286673268732618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481842424083972,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Original-Witness,2020/01/22,How old is to old to shower with your child? My just turned 3 year old called my lady parts a front butt. I think he may need to start showering on his own.,0.8601960784313754,2.3409689411764703,2.018235294117648,100.7787254901961,80.17647058823529,5.7098039215686285,14.274509803921573,6.42735559955562,-1.010949019607843,120,1,31,1,3,38,29,34,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,6,6,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,5,2,7,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,1,5,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26204416163848804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902851619479879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8078584497663281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779012926641937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164142763224794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443578146514934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791357401965726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652589339700019
parenting,MSNinfo,2020/01/23,"Anyone else depressed because you can't spend more time with your kid? I find myself seldom as happy as I once was knowing my daughter isn't around me. I have her 138 nights a year and that's a stretch. Currently to do that once every two weeks I have to wake her up at 0500 in order to get to work on time (mom's 45 min away). Any more and I worry about how stressful it is on her. She's 3 and a half. Her mom doesn't drive so I end up doing 100% the transportation. I have had her every single day off for the past year. I thought the pain would pass but I still miss spending every moment with her. Is my situation normal? How do you work full time and split your child 50/50 if you work early? Anyone else in a similar position, how do you cope?",0.8569936708860766,2.861707405063292,2.4511234177215178,95.07769778481016,82.54430379746836,5.2158227848101255,18.10284810126582,6.322622252153567,-0.27630506329113924,582,13,132,5,16,190,99,158,0.092,0.9079999999999999,0.0,-0.8859,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,6,0,3,7,5,0,1,7,0,15,2,1,3,0,17,19,12,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,3,0,2,3,3,4,0,2,3,0,26,1,20,15,4,31,0,2,0,0,18,12,0,1,15,88,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367176453968996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19262992047776886,0.2822733900129869,0.0,0.1226228310170887,0.0,0.0,0.12941657115830396,0.0,0.0,0.08396846887061939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883454792634793,0.0,0.11864012528853755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301376285201192,0.0,0.1220017595747704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481699495705808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589702733699346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196641614546807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663280429231007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570140610427913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32265207765470866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926496005410093,0.13496148944625408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933892404300625,0.0,0.0,0.1465710818884184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131493807822673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483188032983064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000385289602717,0.0,0.15778717506407852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093546586409572,0.2409617862392268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345574834453347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049125060819796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30084141814539883,0.1398873924744473,0.0,0.09785055664148977,0.0,0.0,0.17740736304492166
parenting,Boo1731,2020/01/23,"Paging all working moms (for advice) I’m about a week away from the end of my maternity leave and honestly, I’m freaking the heck out to say the least. I’m getting pretty bad anxiety about it and I don’t know how to make it go away. I only took three months and I feel like such a horrible human for returning to work (something I loved doing before the baby came out)this is my second child so you would think that it’s easier now. It’s definitely not easier and I’m super worried about not being around the baby enough (I work a typical 9-5 schedule which does not include traffic time) anyone have any tips or things that help?",2.9231209735146737,4.83183592913386,4.615089477451684,82.53841088045813,75.53543307086616,7.452827487473158,24.14387974230494,8.296473431620573,1.5888645669291341,501,16,96,9,11,169,90,127,0.107,0.696,0.19699999999999998,0.9274,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,4,8,6,0,0,8,0,6,1,0,2,1,18,19,7,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,2,0,2,2,2,8,4,14,15,4,14,0,0,0,1,7,4,1,1,8,61,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517376171736476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219050100364514,0.0,0.13713573003623486,0.0,0.0,0.12534488116327405,0.0,0.0,0.15958210587036048,0.0,0.0,0.3368470420828135,0.0,0.14967714523052034,0.0,0.0,0.1525396382436677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20502915421646214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687428873189044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877383967850192,0.1852266337338175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064077603749424,0.12806554701923847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365753624491037,0.0,0.10187931311068467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015623271664645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851827513087408,0.0,0.0,0.1898136690391728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875788632892919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179188671626218,0.0,0.11965946692541965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099506983671333,0.14308604314701234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633761495122226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823749513907568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425571594066474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380054412614186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190943940535434,0.1148645136040976,0.0,0.0,0.1045297164848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19916782626727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379399257099784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915168704103553,0.1820503122511901,0.0,0.12734331575870889,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,copycatbrat7,2020/01/23,"What are your opinions about expeditionary learning (EL) schools? I am applying at schools for my son who is entering kindergarten this fall. My options are mainstream public, STEM charter, EL Charter, and tuition based private. This is the first I have even heard of this type of learning and I am looking to see if you guys have opinions or more information about it that would help me make this decision. Throw any of it my way.",4.913736263736261,7.475577846153848,4.337765567765569,83.8096153846154,71.8205128205128,7.021245421245422,35.50183150183151,7.957251820313856,2.8724446886446886,344,19,60,5,7,103,57,78,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,13,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,2,0,0,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,9,0,8,11,1,6,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,5,1,43,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430417112737846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20814521511073486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680556271536536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120354737023032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112298899809752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646359633947684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21035659542891816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6378715457673312,0.2511236278497357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25014132101681225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238644968252081,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwa10303,2020/01/23,"Teen wants earplugs for some classes Hi all,

My son , 14, has recently told me he wants to buy some earplugs and wear them in class sometimes.

I'm confident this isn't because he wants to be lazy or not listen at all during class. While I was also somewhat confused at first, I looked into it and apparently it's common for people with ADHD like him to have some sensory problems (not severe though) He definitely fits with this since alot of the time he becomes noticeably agitated with some loud noises (like a teacher having to speak loudly to the entire class right next to him.)

He says he wants to wear them for some of his less teacher involved classes (basically go over some stuff and let them work the rest of the period) and also for just generally bad days where the threshold is lower.

Should I let him do it? I don't want him to be sending a bad message to his teachers or anything like that, so I was just wondering what you'd think.",6.183201581027667,6.461086608695653,6.389071146245063,79.04920948616603,66.06521739130434,9.08221343873518,31.944664031620555,8.841846274778883,2.5109304347826087,752,28,143,11,11,241,113,184,0.12,0.823,0.055999999999999994,-0.8841,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,3,2,7,7,0,1,8,0,15,2,2,0,2,35,27,11,0,7,6,1,0,3,0,1,0,5,0,0,8,8,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,4,0,1,3,6,17,3,24,18,12,18,0,0,1,0,25,8,0,12,11,99,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876915876097252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497856325338756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851843524135986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607986292820989,0.095202620956452,0.17248263793029905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071973334539484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284208291816327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875765625589475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193983345700944,0.0,0.2288971452330417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114737775030766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609351880196646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780588138479042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827184249708896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494380542887044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420363210481194,0.0,0.0,0.13337230320782342,0.0,0.12419635512938107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643290833850814,0.0,0.12918928960556195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544607285159041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787826170733099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000704137394093,0.15344080693189874,0.0,0.0910666980469757,0.0,0.0,0.1492315768700786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46057929333546205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693647528578712,0.1136970098614376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,melbogia,2020/01/23,"7 month old whines and cries all day We are at our wits end because our 7 month old just whines, then cries. This happens all day long. He is not in pain, because that’s a different cry for him. This has been happening for a month now. There are no other symptoms so I don’t have much else to add. 

He is on formula because he never latched. We started solids about 2 weeks ago. We feed him purée, if he takes it, and that includes avocado, apple, sometimes sweet potato or banana. 

He goes to bed around 5:30pm, then wakes up at 2am. We feed him then and put him back to sleep and he is up at 4:30 am. He wants to sleep every 2-3 hours. 

Please help.",-0.08474509803921393,2.1635073925925923,1.3174291938997842,99.76137254901964,89.88888888888891,4.36165577342048,17.570806100217865,5.900188976854957,-0.5589389978213508,498,13,117,4,17,158,89,135,0.115,0.81,0.075,-0.6806,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,2,0,10,7,3,0,3,18,15,10,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,1,11,1,15,14,3,28,0,2,0,0,18,8,0,2,19,64,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261278770968593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666462919955154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940908453995864,0.0,0.2602085162868785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.468883183574285,0.18352528611303304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865849538224254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188616228298573,0.0,0.12602308648442118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988201869367025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516459264438224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953712484245128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012296328272925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591855579109024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34071377552012044,0.0,0.10459651790015792,0.0,0.10973966798280524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29861026187621914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514022436505838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618720514203766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303664249623432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28477734096344204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407244064919128,0.0,0.10071070177304832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478895442185395,0.10698129909879513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392391816334578,0.0,0.11413317709270415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,real_donald_pump,2020/01/23,"Posted in legal advice, but recieved no reply. Fellow parents, I need some help. My ex has been doing everything she can to avoid giving me time with my son. I would like to think that she's just stupid, but I'm not sure at this point, and she and her new husband make very little money. (40k per year, if that.) She also spends frivolously, and likes to take random amounts of time off. 

I want to know what I can expect for custody arrangements, and what points would be best to argue in court, assuming we get to that point. 

Based on the following criteria, what can I reasonably expect?

My income will be 75k per year, hers and her husband's will be 40k at best. 

She has been unable to buy diapers and too proud to allow us to buy them. 

She constantly shops on amazon, but my son never has clothes that fit unless I or someone else buys them. 

She bought an iphone xr when it was brand new, and the same week complained of not having enough diapers. 

I've spent hundreds of dollars on clothes because she dresses him in clothes far too big or small. 

She still lives with her parents, and their house has nearly been foreclosed due to financial struggles.

Her parents have one decent car, and it was given to them. They cant afford to fix the 5 junkers they have in their driveway. 

Shes had my son in swimming diapers due to not having regular ones more often than I care to remember. They absorb nothing. 

She constantly drops him off to me hungry. 

Not the least of which, she routinely violates the custody agreement. Preventing me to have my time with him. 

And the most important, this month, she took.him out of state without my say so, which is a violation of our custody agreement, and prevented me from having my time with him over the course of the 2 weeks she was gone, and is still trying to prevent me from having my weekends with him. 

The point I'm trying to convey is that she will likely continue a trend of financial dependence while I've moved into a safe place, have 2 working cars, and more than enough to take care of myself and my child. Basically I want my child to not have to go hungry, and have everything he needs. He's almost 2, I'm 23 for what that's worth, and I live in Utah. 

My other questions are, what is this process like? How do I even begin to proceed? What do I file, and where? How much custody will this likely allow? She wont be retaining an attorney for this process, and I will. I'm almost certain that she wont even show up. What will happen, and what can I expect?",4.692780312124854,5.761602628571431,5.03344537815126,84.64420168067228,69.65306122448979,7.968787515006003,27.881152460984396,8.219915518859313,1.7718919567827132,1968,66,386,27,34,623,237,490,0.062,0.79,0.14800000000000002,0.9924,5,1,0,0,0,0,64.0,3,0,8,4,14,22,4,2,14,0,49,0,0,7,3,78,74,32,0,10,14,9,0,5,1,10,0,1,1,2,25,27,0,6,6,4,10,7,11,7,0,2,11,1,69,15,63,49,12,63,0,0,0,0,58,29,0,12,29,279,94,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113777051686396,0.0,0.0,0.18678344908752528,0.0,0.0,0.0745842257066681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685366045478545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19575235403221836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018037574379876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20157330966741205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779111895556462,0.0,0.0,0.1927359699688457,0.0,0.12320170042376626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764167345292358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04872726920847629,0.08946857297764957,0.053004818573676234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824741956625294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251376379739575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761563270741932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051256169089304984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22782356976113466,0.09347633101073904,0.16470993497405842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062255311125959126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444347165152998,0.09912625263763987,0.06856072581681685,0.13831007451101365,0.07193194801168677,0.18015241339218413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949056952018422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639796030244796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106802311408756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744238667649832,0.0,0.35266341327237205,0.0,0.08932237528327686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447847935529612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589226041843732,0.0,0.0,0.10565140248916544,0.0,0.0,0.0741683089531502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902338496518928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489635760991521,0.0,0.0,0.09750114031057228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790144031311192,0.0,0.1402477952858944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976063754497609,0.0,0.0,0.21753498286016865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362117857568233,0.12664203149912154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218667093104076,0.0,0.0,0.07695363899286461,0.11002057923500794,0.0,0.14962359394649175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899044198055511,0.0,0.06789824826717113,0.0,0.0,0.13250598462570193,0.0,0.0,0.12011958913143905
parenting,dodavahuu,2020/01/23,"Discipline for a suspended child I would just like an opinion on a disciplinary action that I experienced a long time ago. In 5th grade, I stole exam answers from a teacher's computer, with a bunch of my friends. We got ratted out by a classmate and I was suspended for a week. 

When I got home, my parents didn't really do anything, but simply acknowledged what had happened and told me that they needed time to think about what they would do. I had always been a bit of a troublemaker, but nothing that warranted suspension until the exam heist. That night my father came into my room and sat me down. He told me how much my parents loved me and then brought out a stick that was often used to beat me when I was younger. Then he had a conversation with me about sin and some Christian philosophy. He emphasized how we all make mistakes, and how they have their consequences. While the consequence of sin was sacrificing the son of God.

Then he proceeded to tell me how he would beat himself with the stick, and in my place take the consequence/punishment for what I had done. He made sure that I understood why he was doing it and made clear the parallel to Jesus. While emphasizing that he was not Jesus, and in no way comparing himself as the same as God. He made me understand he was doing this to himself because he loved me, and while the punishment should have been for me, he was going to take it himself because of love. He proceeded to hit himself hard with the stick on his thigh and after that left the room.

The whole thing has left a lasting impact on my entire life. I began to appreciate my parents more and was never the same troublemaker anymore. While it worked for me, I've never heard of any discipline like this from anyone I've ever met. So I wonder if this type of discipline would work if I had a kid in the future, or if it's a good way to discipline children in general.",7.032364130434782,6.637864899456524,7.297956521739131,75.51226086956524,64.40760869565217,10.946956521739132,33.88913043478261,10.467255456243755,3.3953658695652167,1505,57,287,33,20,490,174,368,0.087,0.804,0.109,0.8674,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,4,4,12,12,1,0,28,0,30,5,1,9,6,68,58,35,0,10,8,5,1,2,1,5,1,1,3,3,19,22,0,4,6,0,0,4,5,4,0,0,32,3,43,8,46,20,9,48,5,0,0,3,43,17,0,8,27,213,62,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545188178067172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959844127799121,0.0,0.0,0.07322613762851235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678969132762978,0.0752924060819725,0.0,0.0886115196742627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312815380000694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755874356746608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315730961363185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019409360212701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740278481863747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319335215425938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061197063197899575,0.09031693081279836,0.17224317165142225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522112705923548,0.0,0.09646018893395923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801188625046453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777362594669134,0.0,0.0,0.2339894143256153,0.0,0.07605761534473672,0.10521408258204903,0.0,0.0,0.09529347023048684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915563919887907,0.3056684471417994,0.07187728044167484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915723859847949,0.07984340479339233,0.16609901087767892,0.0,0.0,0.1010504478268375,0.0,0.1033219278154942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358697911833029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125027508075904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689826078129775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148718819876187,0.0,0.16192401789937289,0.0,0.0941171241857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153785137412645,0.06899703859005255,0.0,0.0,0.12557822526402468,0.0,0.0,0.2057858358609797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112098746617516,0.0,0.09300100417132667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094284915684416,0.08637445406885821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716451132287048,0.12022094860898612,0.0,0.0,0.11677443863837303,0.15678474154032215,0.0,0.0,0.3059713185874822,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PWRGEN,2020/01/23,"My 4yo wakes up crying every morning. Help! I can not think of the last time she did not wake up crying.  She is a generally happy child with a bubbly disposition, although sometimes she can have a temper but what toddler doesn’t?  Has anyone else been through this that may be able to offer some tips to break the cycle or cope with this?  Thanks!",3.344825870646765,5.507787686567166,3.91126865671642,86.90978855721393,75.11940298507463,5.6606965174129344,21.61442786069652,6.42735559955562,0.3868427860696517,273,7,52,2,6,86,55,67,0.084,0.7809999999999999,0.135,0.6914,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,5,0,10,2,2,0,0,10,12,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,8,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,2,38,9,0,0.2712011864880087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963017533408394,0.2778776646304356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5958035374608653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226553791534566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22849869642740864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886987059820566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817804386272514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106516372790788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268224908033023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24968561548963145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377476967756172,0.0,0.0,0.15813959278332726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ForgottenLeft,2020/01/23,"Is it ok for children to wrestle? Help! I am a single father of 2 wonderful children Beth(10) and Zach(8). They have always been close and I've always felt lucky that they were inseparable. Since the time they were much younger they've done everything together. Their latest game is similar to wrestling however recently I've been catching them playing this game in their room with the door closed which is almost never closed. My curiosity got the best of me and one day I walked into their room and caught them playing together but it didnt seem like they were wrestling, my daughter was wearing her favourite costume and she was holding onto my son with her legs and he seemed to press his body closer than should the case to hers, I fear they're getting too close for comfort what should I do?!",4.626473928755806,6.9918775637583925,4.085369127516781,86.18677336086733,72.0201342281879,7.000722767165723,28.911202891068665,7.882392219407189,1.8837182240578216,643,26,118,9,13,192,100,149,0.046,0.841,0.114,0.7453,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,9,1,1,8,0,1,5,1,17,3,3,0,1,24,24,7,0,2,1,3,2,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,13,0,1,4,4,0,3,2,1,0,1,12,2,22,7,14,10,3,18,0,0,0,0,23,10,0,5,6,77,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22251458747070813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697986434333818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331992182213545,0.0,0.0,0.24682895529276103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330923786579655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22740142432839014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997110450283884,0.0,0.0,0.2500518158284664,0.0,0.0,0.21335967914202755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160973122561573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772432842814714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894493522389748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085622262339703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335239226332735,0.0,0.17138464693715622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057752778009156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21940889097964134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40458940545012817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838171927074831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129574400751364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24098091652166065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teabiscuit-crossword,2020/01/23,"Parents who had 3 year olds who were aggressive, how are they now? I’d love to hear from anyone who’s had a 3 year old who had any of the following behaviors: impulsively hurting other children, struggling with physical boundaries during play, talking a lot about hurting people, grabbing, shoving, pushing, occasionally biting other children, showing little remorse about the behavior, etc...

What was your journey with dealing with the behavior and how are they now they are older? 

(Please note: I have an appointment to finally discuss this with pediatrician next week. Just hoping for some perspective to get me through til then as feeling quite concerned right now.)",10.69636904761905,11.068442089285721,9.39,60.98833333333336,56.67857142857143,11.752380952380953,46.3452380952381,11.20814326018867,5.777852380952381,542,31,73,12,6,168,84,112,0.10099999999999999,0.8079999999999999,0.092,0.1663,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,3,1,9,7,1,1,6,0,9,1,0,2,0,12,15,6,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,8,5,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,4,0,0,5,3,6,3,15,10,3,18,0,2,0,1,16,2,0,3,13,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688196686510395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046227594512647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923575591877701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20808793698294728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434132312017184,0.0,0.0,0.20439115277632527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748124713611576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21029115730350992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853177462791716,0.0,0.0,0.3994791776529375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700389889795246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862510500001664,0.16839728574926588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984317745442334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915722546716635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071769181412215,0.0,0.0,0.12935227090641144,0.0,0.0,0.20481069767684326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984526246185024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933976829122734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19505572360321488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996731788857515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966460029279247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403050190215379
parenting,ydeine,2020/01/23,"What is wrong with my son? My beautiful wife (39F) recently became pregnant with our second child and our nine-year-old son was told that he would soon have a younger brother or sister. Ever since this announcement, he has grown increasingly grumpy and never wants to part with his mother's company. He follows her around the kitchen when she cooks and occasionally insists on cosleeping with us.

Yesterday, my wife challenged our son to a game of chess and bet him that she would win. My son accepted the bet and wanted her to cosleep with him in case she lost to him. My wife plays chess quite well but my son was concentrating so hard that he didn't look up from the chessboard for well over two hours. Towards the end, I noticed my wife looking a bit concerned and soon, she ended up losing the game. The reaction of my son was extremely weird. He gloated over his victory quite uncharacteristically and went on to kiss his mother around ten times although she didn't speak a word and kept staring at the chessboard. Later, she got up and accompanied him to his room. I badly wanted her at my bedside but had no other option but to give in to my son's whims.

I found my son's behavior during the chess game quite unusual and I also wonder why my wife kept staring at the chessboard instead of reprimanding him. What can I do in such a situation?",6.339265564202336,6.997651435797668,6.377098735408563,77.9510177529183,65.7704280155642,9.226556420233463,31.62670233463035,9.188382445141503,2.6143854085603104,1077,40,202,18,16,342,141,257,0.078,0.8590000000000001,0.063,-0.614,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,7,12,12,0,0,14,0,13,3,0,0,2,37,28,18,0,5,4,17,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,7,17,2,2,3,8,2,4,4,5,2,3,13,6,39,7,34,13,3,33,0,2,4,1,51,17,0,5,12,138,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096207223925702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24405584083938503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445387731425505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965298412234476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428197242710504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399432800649413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029825972112926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149710288358596,0.0,0.0,0.10963329417322132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227943978040878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499359624302215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302209321335613,0.15335451277716627,0.1496361409089572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572251745506744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560634930466227,0.14383963977555236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844143243735392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373959650676548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534736466153738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339181608072715,0.15408070597136098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993091615837178,0.0,0.0,0.13098330031501565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390467130426256,0.0,0.16488719690735834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425553512056972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464980339604327,0.12707209429888422,0.12369100442037285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865455925373192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19475165986350948,0.1498725841371156,0.0,0.0882733313199083
parenting,Mrs_Beardicus,2020/01/23,10 month old standing in crib Please help! My baby boy who used to be sleep trained is now avoiding all naps and screaming at bedtime because he wants to stand up. I just today started trying to go in every time he gets up and just quietly lie him back down. We’ve been going an hour and I’ve put him back down easily 75 times. Help! What do I do?,1.2693542074364004,3.1899995753424686,2.7018003913894333,94.2664383561644,80.64383561643838,5.267318982387477,21.38747553816047,6.1826913282559595,0.13249275929549942,271,8,60,2,7,88,57,73,0.064,0.8009999999999999,0.136,0.6892,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,0,5,1,1,1,1,9,11,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,0,10,9,1,22,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,10,32,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724656097817741,0.0,0.14763966523243938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040595138071009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653675517254853,0.0,0.2752897036822209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246760572894805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23851303199813165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331753040093594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541426375709241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658570942621017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24347260783925065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423696496501659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142668319169094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824514005686719,0.0,0.22957229396392576,0.0,0.0,0.1644343300442018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917849274630088,0.0,0.0,0.14285273240984794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krawler2,2020/01/23,"Has anyone figured out the right way to deal with their child’s sense of fears? My son, 6, seems very sensitive to everything. The wife says she was like this when she was a kid. She said for her, she felt pain or anxiety from stories, movies, tv shows, etc. even when she’d seen it before and knew the outcome.  For me, I confront any fear until I am no longer afraid of it. I don’t want to make it worse so I haven’t done much other then to hold him and reassure him that he’s safe. 
I am hoping to hear from someone who is like my boy or dealt with something similar. Anyone willing to share tactics to on approach? 
I keep finding him sleeping on the couch with every the light on and it’s breaking my heart.",2.0253161222339315,3.835654650684933,2.9338356164383548,94.03165964172815,77.83561643835617,5.862170706006322,22.874604847207586,6.67199483983844,0.4431955742887253,553,17,122,5,13,175,102,146,0.11900000000000001,0.773,0.10800000000000001,-0.4137,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,4,11,1,3,6,0,11,3,2,1,0,20,21,10,0,2,2,2,1,2,0,1,1,3,1,3,8,7,0,3,5,2,0,1,3,5,0,0,7,6,20,6,21,12,2,12,0,0,1,0,23,5,0,4,6,78,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211913823444936,0.0,0.1363329422387404,0.0,0.0,0.24922223317058445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164667650288813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373043134776684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823744220621076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19875531058711104,0.11770842450223902,0.0,0.1501526729590347,0.0,0.16016692298230567,0.0,0.0,0.401079769240511,0.0,0.0,0.1711130362960794,0.0,0.1628840328887781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20085971772120229,0.21118401438757886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17700635007034848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840446634535327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413235933478088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895898456479025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100752653363085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963187160052825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219346971658673,0.1695219764715437,0.14172263475003974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223899918248416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834233778249245,0.0,0.1509998337862552,0.13719756220463866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704491211416446,0.10511501870536157,0.14145768752903345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816149182905498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,astrangeevent2,2020/01/23,"What is wrong with my son? My beautiful wife (39F) recently became pregnant with our second child and our nine-year-old son was told that he would soon have a younger brother or sister. Ever since this announcement, he has grown increasingly grumpy and never wants to part with his mother's company. He follows her around the kitchen when she cooks and occasionally insists on cosleeping with us.

Yesterday, my wife challenged our son to a game of chess and bet him that she would win. My son accepted the bet and wanted her to cosleep with him in case she lost to him. My wife plays chess quite well but my son was concentrating so hard that he didn't look up from the chessboard for well over two hours. Towards the end, I noticed my wife looking a bit concerned and soon, she ended up losing the game. The reaction of my son was extremely weird. He gloated over his victory quite uncharacteristically and went on to kiss his mother around ten times although she didn't speak a word and kept staring at the chessboard. Later, she got up and accompanied him to his room. I badly wanted her at my bedside but had no other option but to give in to my son's whims.

I found my son's behavior during the chess game quite unusual and I also wonder why my wife kept staring at the chessboard instead of reprimanding him. What can I do in such a situation?",6.339265564202336,6.997651435797668,6.377098735408563,77.9510177529183,65.7704280155642,9.226556420233463,31.62670233463035,9.188382445141503,2.6143854085603104,1077,40,202,18,16,342,141,257,0.078,0.8590000000000001,0.063,-0.614,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,7,12,12,0,0,14,0,13,3,0,0,2,37,28,18,0,5,4,17,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,7,17,2,2,3,8,2,4,4,5,2,3,13,6,39,7,34,13,3,33,0,2,4,1,51,17,0,5,12,138,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096207223925702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24405584083938503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445387731425505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965298412234476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428197242710504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399432800649413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029825972112926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13149710288358596,0.0,0.0,0.10963329417322132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227943978040878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499359624302215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302209321335613,0.15335451277716627,0.1496361409089572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572251745506744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560634930466227,0.14383963977555236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844143243735392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373959650676548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534736466153738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339181608072715,0.15408070597136098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993091615837178,0.0,0.0,0.13098330031501565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390467130426256,0.0,0.16488719690735834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425553512056972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464980339604327,0.12707209429888422,0.12369100442037285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865455925373192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19475165986350948,0.1498725841371156,0.0,0.0882733313199083
parenting,VarloTheGreat,2020/01/23,"Son’s Socks Are Yellow? I was doing the laundry the other day, and I noticed my son’s socks were crusty and yellow. He’s 14 and plays numerous sports. Is this from sweat and perspiration? Or something else? Thanks in advance!",1.2481727574750856,3.8592510930232606,2.1731561461794016,90.42325581395352,96.2093023255814,4.317607973421929,20.096345514950173,6.1826913282559595,0.3523182724252494,179,6,33,2,7,56,33,43,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.6939,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,0,0,5,6,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,2,2,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,1,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32866943605945353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4257307902578595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5802175683129442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923383667560545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691991852283898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jules4326,2020/01/23,"Beach vacation rentals recommendations for toddlers I don't know if this is the right place to post this. I was wondering if anyone had any good recommendations for a beach vacation rental that is very toddler frriendly. It can be any east coast state from Maine to Florida. We are looking for this summer, and we have a 4, 2 and 1 year old. I really would like a place close to the beach (5-10 min. Drive) and access to pool and splash pad. The splash pad/kid friendly area is really important to us. We would like to spend up to $300 a night. Accomodations don't have to be crazy nice at all as we will be out most of the day. I just have no idea where to look. Most vacation rental websites don't have a check box for splash pads. Any and all recommendations are welcome whether it be an actual location or website. TIA.",3.5636479471448794,5.214587460122701,4.574846625766874,84.59557810287873,73.1717791411043,8.69636621047664,25.421897121283628,9.265573868473778,1.9046209532798488,648,21,138,15,13,211,100,163,0.027999999999999997,0.828,0.14400000000000002,0.9583,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,10,0,22,0,0,0,2,25,26,10,0,4,5,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,11,0,0,3,4,2,1,4,0,0,0,2,2,9,6,19,17,5,19,0,0,2,0,7,10,0,6,8,83,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.1842728093662252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38523674090852056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203573693557755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178102936140593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458911480112562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838333688850806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21316836261988867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377713822699172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450757058549846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171426716492962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720605623840202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814743700640652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945785340951263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084887441324668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24194125097843602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126151086253754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22714166632609176,0.0,0.0,0.1558061902152356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478026753547512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682816942180408,0.0,0.0,0.1216016279264213
parenting,throwaway34438920,2020/01/23,"What's your opinion about asking your kids what they want for their birthday instead of suprising them? Hello, I have two teens and for all their life I always wanted to make their birthday gifts a surprise. However this year for my daughter's birthday, I was wondering if I should just ask her what she wants since she's getting older and knowing exactly what she would want is hard to predict.",11.270900900900905,8.426094378378384,9.33810810810811,72.046981981982,57.91891891891893,11.488288288288288,43.58558558558559,8.841846274778883,4.057104504504505,320,14,55,3,3,96,54,74,0.021,0.91,0.069,0.3182,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,5,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,2,16,15,3,0,7,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,16,1,7,12,1,2,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,3,2,41,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092637486856637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4702272161852098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139560788805432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252898649499837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821491753801335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763815392446414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787467433599576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080390261127205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456737917509865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5933523927610128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727352890471826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17865462893281356,0.0,0.0,0.16195435009564638
parenting,fatherwithglasses,2020/01/23,How to teach my son how to share?? I have a two year old son and he never wants to share anything he has to other kids. As much as I show him and try to teach him he does comprehend or do it. Any of you parents have any ideas or how you showed your little ones how to share???,2.332540983606556,2.4047654918032806,3.5115983606557406,97.04805327868857,74.40983606557377,6.755737704918031,20.16803278688525,5.985473137389443,-0.31847868852459005,209,3,55,1,4,68,39,61,0.0,0.879,0.121,0.7622,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,4,1,11,5,10,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,8,3,9,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,3,36,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979952493091648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408085760533825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25608144257310506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33034230623608424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29329094276574397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21511584477152576,0.0,0.225693377341697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070647093733339,0.0,0.19829285413712427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32492966188955497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19867575251685496,0.0,0.2858558255703008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726000531822414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18844335865592635
parenting,lj952,2020/01/23,"Today I am in the Twilight Zone Posting this here because today is absolutely insane. Mind-blowingly bonkers. And it’s 100% in the best way possible.

I regularly care for my nephew during the work week, and he is currently going through his terrible two’s. Like any kid in this phase, every day is often full of obstinance and temper tantrums — except today, January 23rd, 2020. It is a day for the history books. So far he has:

1) Listened the first time, every time when I have said no
2) Communicated and then successfully used the toilet TWICE (before today, potty training had been met with massive meltdowns)
3) ATE A VEGETABLE. A REAL VEGETABLE. IT WAS BROCCOLI. I’M STILL NOT OVER IT.
4) Asked to take a nap. I am not kidding you. A FREAKING NAP. WHAT.
5) Has not had a single temper tantrum.
6) And best of all, hasn’t bitten me.......yet.

I know it’s not even 1 PM yet and post-nap grumpiness is on its way, but this entire morning has felt surreal. He didn’t even try and eat his Play-doh or color the walls. I think I may cry. I hope you all have a similar day today because I’m going to be riding this high for a long time.",1.4063839285714297,3.8127135133928576,3.3919,86.7031,83.50892857142857,5.905428571428572,23.24571428571429,7.24861992348623,1.0880673571428572,873,32,172,13,25,294,143,224,0.085,0.8370000000000001,0.078,0.1388,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,0,2,0,5,8,12,4,0,15,0,20,4,0,1,2,25,36,12,0,1,7,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,11,8,4,0,3,3,0,3,7,6,0,3,9,4,13,6,15,25,6,34,0,0,1,0,14,9,0,4,20,106,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302519617768375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413740722062207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884952012981434,0.0,0.10388935931563856,0.0,0.2562512574291483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447860630752705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410982443600253,0.2362133073456448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249282632059316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127821709772752,0.0,0.20573170943113456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722527734404213,0.0,0.0,0.10384945339088134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877280277378315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899449228188692,0.0,0.12126263976024505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670973171437503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05964687016093756,0.0,0.0,0.1080455601861186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327581324816216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763781488764418,0.2338564059273661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896483010555308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613528190453955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750100803453864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179627512362168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823016275527009,0.0,0.0,0.2135744925073995,0.0,0.5786338945200146,0.0,0.0,0.08289090564318446,0.0,0.11926391602766025,0.0,0.0,0.10544631829713574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938182737210623,0.09793300897813552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888277018030359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dummiefatt,2020/01/23,"Teaching my brother how to drive !! 😬 hello all, i’m 24 and my brother is 18, so i’m the one responsible for teaching him how to drive. i’ve taken him on a few driving lessons & he’s improved significantly, however he’s still mastering keeping the momentum (flow of traffic) bc he gets nervous. his driving test is coming up for him to get his license. what advice or encouragement might help him shake the nerves & do his absolute best ? anything helps ! thanks in advance.",2.1020000000000003,4.949599533333334,3.72388888888889,81.7225,87.0,6.1111111111111125,30.83333333333333,7.492282038375204,2.512333333333334,378,21,66,7,12,125,66,90,0.052000000000000005,0.735,0.213,0.9537,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,4,4,5,0,2,4,0,4,0,0,2,1,9,12,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,8,0,2,0,1,1,0,9,3,9,10,3,12,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,2,1,37,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25298221758120176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5610097697419484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130426476160095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716868337845047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300896528710648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705164401351151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470541468180039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301114224585088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27463910454243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754291119571393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20674817699987744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23834915602269735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Neetieoff,2020/01/23,"Is it okay not to play children’s music or cartoons to a baby? Please don’t be too rude with me, I don’t have a child just yet, I’m planning and willing to learn beforehand.


So, I really want to have children, but I can’t put up with all the stuff for infants and toddlers. Stupid nursery rhymes, stupid cartoons, stupid books, stupid, stupid. I don’t want this for my child and even though it’s supposed to stimulate the brain, I don’t see how it’s more stimulating than actually good stuff.

is it okay to just play musical theatre (which I am insanely fond of) or religious music for my child? I just think wiccan chants and hymns are easy and repetitive just like a nursery rhyme, except it actually sounds good. When it comes to cartoons for kids I absolutely hate most of them and I was thinking of just making my kid watch 80-90s anime like Sailor Moon, Heidi, Cat’s eyes etc which are IMO smarter than modern dumbass cartoons they want our kids to watch... Of course since it’s anime, it’s not all rainbows and sunshine like a lot of American children’s cartoons, but at least it won’t make them dumb. And for books, I was thinking of reading them books for 12-14 year olds right after they’re born.
The thing is everyone plays these cartoons or read overly simplistic  books for their kids and it doesn’t seem to harm them, but still, it really is not my thing and I was wondering if doing the opposite & introducing them to more intellectual stuff is just going to slow them down, or if I can do it.
Thanks in advance",6.957700000000003,6.356206270000005,6.826500000000002,79.51575000000003,64.63333333333333,10.166666666666668,32.75,9.516144504307137,2.7171000000000003,1211,42,243,20,16,384,155,300,0.147,0.6709999999999999,0.182,0.7922,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,8,2,14,22,8,0,8,2,25,2,2,5,2,50,41,23,0,5,19,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,11,21,13,0,0,6,9,0,4,10,9,0,0,3,6,26,13,35,35,8,20,1,0,5,0,20,6,1,10,13,159,47,7,0.0,0.0,0.26414408614050416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664052934238314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108388629724054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658318439923315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093956248451798,0.08939060819370143,0.0,0.0,0.12932290166960128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691668139644782,0.2270330708376694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361995336305488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983604517641488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506098957444776,0.0,0.0,0.1806806271568008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201626883844945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856237006196565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605379900115305,0.0,0.0,0.27075268834672805,0.0,0.17340417954007356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155793808183762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784823380808467,0.1232081974674958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195441438624618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808247467697464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647947966428291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460263008808413,0.0,0.0,0.17982739152485927,0.2601606820919293,0.13297058707778678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23948061896417205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677015240014105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871543419571629
parenting,dexdaflex,2020/01/23,"Almost 6 year old isn't listening. Getting in more and more trouble. So we have two kiddos, 3 and almost 6. We have had more and more trouble with the older one. He would destroy other students crafts so now he sits alone at school. Almost all the other kids sit in groups. The older one has trouble listening to direction and always seems to go to far with playing. We'll wrestle and he'll go too far and we'll usually have to stop. We've tried to take TV and other things away. We'll talk to him and explain why were doing what we're doing. We got a call today that he kept touching other students after the other kids have said no or a teacher has said no. We keep thinking he has made improvements but then we'll get a call like this.  I feel stupid because I am at a lose of what to do.  Is there a good strategy for not listening and always seeming to go to far? For the last few years we've been doing the 1...2...3 magic approach. Thank you for any feedback",1.9437074260189853,3.8013900402010097,3.4864907872696835,89.75732970407594,78.2462311557789,5.829257398101619,23.11585706309325,6.691623216298621,0.6549461753210499,754,24,156,7,18,249,112,199,0.115,0.818,0.067,-0.7707,0,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,8,1,0,1,5,10,2,0,11,0,22,0,0,1,1,32,44,14,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,6,0,5,0,2,10,15,0,3,5,2,0,4,4,6,0,3,8,7,12,4,21,30,6,26,0,1,0,0,27,8,0,6,13,101,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282692322841344,0.14765243816118626,0.0,0.0,0.23724793794890275,0.0,0.0,0.09694783697422713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394278098714085,0.0,0.0,0.08690517864211911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29114585017754124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208421684943757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896673323868015,0.0,0.2430657862760736,0.1195752140973547,0.11402078182725225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671668630353325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620800242239272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696491584555843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949170893252987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489670829472447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495960539053545,0.0,0.1932089725132048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712204221220142,0.0,0.0,0.14428152822278195,0.0,0.25956829172713675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191891846704923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718975353554476,0.11458686719115095,0.0,0.13125300305284016,0.0,0.0,0.09471262826519504,0.09134871598537384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513320547568144,0.0,0.0,0.09679102702441436,0.0,0.13926349132873664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570131787184572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864107692254184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127277797886487,0.0,0.0,0.18361200085239174
parenting,BadTripBaby,2020/01/23,"any one else's toddler have this? I'm sitting here watching my little dude sleep, and I've never thought much of it, but he has this super visible blue vein that runs from his right temple to his ear. I never thought it was any cause for concern, so I've never brought it up with his Dr, nor have they ever mentioned anything about it. Anyone else's kid have a noticable vein in their head? I just assume it means he's got good blood flow to his head, but I could be wrong. Just curious.",4.942633333333333,4.943788530000006,5.306000000000001,86.70633333333336,68.7,7.866666666666667,28.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.3671666666666669,383,12,82,3,6,122,71,100,0.04,0.8290000000000001,0.131,0.8872,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,7,8,7,1,4,16,13,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,8,2,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,5,3,10,2,9,6,1,12,0,0,2,0,10,4,0,1,4,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24744068786899875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721143949138913,0.1864113538779688,0.14971495214284952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868948009737383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452583033767923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039625301465837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456836900336025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259635568866758,0.14550804621972455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37343048076021257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823441680514343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19817783617464246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337413265464357,0.0,0.4209526970523642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071313658017068,0.0,0.0,0.12328217563492212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536936747199706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182063897132659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888681780338709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19891463687332714,0.0,0.0
parenting,amethyst36,2020/01/23,"7 mo old does this weird thing My son is now 7 months old. He still sometimes smiles when he is half asleep and he does this thing where when he is falling asleep he will lift his head up and look at me and smile and flop his head back down. He will be still and then move his head left to right and lift his head up and flop it down and wait a minute, lift his head again and smile, but it is creepy because it's like hes there but nobody's home lol. I'm assuming it's because he is half asleep or something. But does anyone else have a baby that does this?",4.1844273907910265,3.6744362975206637,3.9266351829988224,97.69826446280995,70.32231404958678,7.2448642266824095,22.244391971664697,5.288315135182226,-0.20854757969303472,436,6,112,1,7,131,65,121,0.05,0.847,0.10300000000000001,0.8107,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,2,1,10,8,8,0,0,15,13,16,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,9,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,8,1,6,10,0,21,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,2,12,60,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117239751945637,0.1336009570039701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002626068857221,0.0,0.1589702493565786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4564240639141965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892492349880198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.669093761808591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079277370060724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167016973141794,0.0,0.0,0.0637024413283578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949557445989036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040768277429092,0.13858496509755014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736467764484707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135317539160666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038133854181387,0.12896000278817935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20826079313189266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325193236801856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Devon2112,2020/01/23,"CPS visit Hi, so I messed up. I lost my temper and left a bruise from slapping my 5 year old son. I feel awful independently of all this, since I am supposed to be his role model and protector and I f*ed up. Bad. 

Anyway my sons teacher reported it, like she is required to, and tonight CPS is visiting my home. Most posts of from parents who got reported for spanking or something mild. I actually physical abused my son according to law I guess. 

I am terrified and so my wife is split between being furious with me (which she has every right to do) and also terrified. 

Never before in my my life have I done this and while I do spank my children, this kinda scared me straight. The moment I called down I apologized and talked to him about who I was wrong and should have never done that. 

What can I expect and what should I do to prepare. Has anyone else been in this situation. I am terrified.",3.1963825757575783,5.096732085227277,4.607590909090909,82.92680303030303,74.73863636363636,7.875151515151515,26.50606060606061,8.648137234880735,1.996642878787878,701,26,137,14,15,233,111,176,0.21,0.7559999999999999,0.034,-0.9875,1,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,5,8,2,1,2,1,22,1,0,1,3,25,26,15,0,3,1,5,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,11,11,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,7,0,0,6,1,31,1,19,16,2,18,0,1,0,0,19,8,0,4,8,105,42,3,0.0,0.2128764145545392,0.17532940328223398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436799042370826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562757928564952,0.18409041854003208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001472142451006,0.0,0.0,0.15288367039654951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346043877057305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677241291967708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008900539342365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137748014802524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084520382871036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369638207266536,0.0,0.19792382723607596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18022098787691312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19520908701065004,0.0,0.12690435329687402,0.08777638535785894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612812182729025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771410523869515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18853064655454746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949931519583528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207164390770882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534349238455928,0.0,0.0,0.17987834724462742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862267753904165,0.20195361420321845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383166935340294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444097995517682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19643802801690324,0.0,0.11569987420181715
parenting,HomelyHobbit,2020/01/23,"What's Reasonable to Expect? Parent of a 14 year old - wanting to know what other parents think of this. My child has literally \*never\* listened to me, from as soon as she could walk until now. I've taken two parenting classes, taken her to family counseling, read multiple books - idk what else to do.

That being said - here are two things that happened just this morning: I made dinner and sent her sister up to get her, twice - she didn't come down - I went up to get her and then she went to a different part of the first floor and was doing something else. I went in and asked her to come to the table - got attitude. I just wanted to have a nice family breakfast! Granted - I could have just let her food get cold and let it drop but - you hear all the time about how it's important to have family meals together and I'm trying!

Secondly - she said she left her makeup in my car - I told her to go get it quickly as I was about to drive her sister to school and myself to work. She went upstairs - as I was backing down our hundreds-of-feet-long driveway I see her chasing me down the driveway. I honk to indicate she should stop as I can't be late. She keeps chasing me. I stop and yell that it's too late, go back to the house - she starts arguing with me. I drive off.

I KNOW these are seemingly small things - but believe me when I tell you that these things happen all day every day. She never just says, ""ok"" and does what I ask - no matter how small. She always has something to say, or argues, or just goes ahead and does something completely different.

Does anyone else have a child like this and, if so, do you have any strategies that have worked for you to get your child to stop arguing and just do what they're told?",3.280106280193237,4.7554379768115975,4.100579710144928,88.42207729468599,73.57971014492753,7.429951690821258,23.792270531400966,8.045849151850463,1.1483719806763282,1342,38,281,20,27,430,175,345,0.078,0.889,0.033,-0.9527,5,0,3,0,0,0,52.0,1,5,0,4,19,6,3,0,9,1,26,4,0,4,4,49,64,28,0,7,11,5,0,1,0,1,0,7,2,3,23,15,4,4,5,2,0,13,5,3,0,5,17,9,51,3,44,40,3,49,0,0,1,0,50,12,0,4,24,199,74,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908747455363838,0.0,0.0,0.05646313538396067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058056391551849836,0.08507387852632826,0.0,0.0,0.15524337605851898,0.0,0.0,0.12768963681413534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935461918355292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430457027132956,0.0870552028586322,0.0,0.0,0.13258513496455296,0.0,0.0,0.10709475007728787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349701228659545,0.0,0.0,0.2179799058369146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20808232032240556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995621749284184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348194184528509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062513569749006,0.10040000671690562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689831070697305,0.0,0.09437553792536416,0.0,0.06640654440396307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684601872174866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358065908216504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958052824180878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380073282156188,0.0,0.0,0.09126205239383542,0.0,0.1873225420362881,0.0,0.09021215926003287,0.16980726457339365,0.0,0.0405641836475634,0.0,0.0,0.07347879165944636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856483796869568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807545559628986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712584528120823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765844193574705,0.08991322069520358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305230459618153,0.0,0.0,0.08536849953830021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796077448578197,0.1320573155955372,0.0,0.08403062632138343,0.06616402901912309,0.07558724389626621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176127161640172,0.0,0.0,0.058768944949907614,0.0,0.0,0.2082499810328816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257173595316092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548400003179384,0.053202166018457016,0.0,0.0,0.048415364813665006,0.0,0.0,0.15867713205449402,0.0,0.0563718081124901,0.0,0.162216169238059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794629646483363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078779575566043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208934183124734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346849184992427
parenting,cloud9farms_ab,2020/01/23,"Trying to teach my 5 year old to wipe his own butt! Hi all.  I'm trying to lessen the amount of butts I have to wipe in my house and it's time for my 5 year old boy to learn.  
He gets the basic concept, get the poop off of your butt. but it's hard for him to cover his hand so he doesn't touch it and reach up far enough to get it all. (Side note- this is one of those parenting things that had never occurred to me I would have to describe to someone else in detail). 
I've seen the video with the lady demoing with balloons. I've also thought about putting peanut butter on a plate and having him wipe it off. Someone out there must have some better suggestions!! 
Thanks in advance!",1.559580419580417,3.34301586713287,2.397902097902101,97.463006993007,79.13986013986012,4.95944055944056,19.391608391608397,5.369823440869387,-0.4665692307692311,531,12,122,2,13,166,94,143,0.011000000000000001,0.889,0.1,0.9289,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,6,0,9,5,5,0,4,15,16,6,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,5,11,2,26,11,6,18,0,0,1,3,11,10,3,1,6,75,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117669606893728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825153706165453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836627316836333,0.0,0.0,0.2082514537014439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158992475314409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18054611301465995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325576482266732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554451174156215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229783821300733,0.0,0.13657315228774902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379358242209504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026099412934915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415394603938144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555697637628926,0.0,0.0,0.1338985662557819,0.0,0.0,0.1600054406345543,0.11752340888644584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736737430346725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431728801162754,0.0,0.0,0.2595787289594759
parenting,amooseme,2020/01/23,"3 year old starting nursery what do we do! So here in the UK the government has something right and gives working parents 30 free hours of childcare per week. Due to shift work we haven't used childcare but now with the free hours we will be using them. Our daughter is asking daily to go to school and gets her backpack and coat ready! We do baby groups, baby gym, toddler time but always she gravitates to the adults in the room. All told, we think shes ready. 

Our quandary is, how long do we send her for? We are thinking 2-3 days 9am-3pm. Or do we use the full 30 hours and enrol her daily? Afternoons only? Mornings only? 

What do we look for in a nursery? Any help? Advice? Horror stories? Anything will help!!",1.1979603174603175,3.7885243357142855,2.024761904761906,94.39912698412701,87.78571428571428,3.968253968253968,22.063492063492063,5.46131890053228,0.1236587301587302,557,20,110,3,18,173,93,140,0.033,0.8240000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9537,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,11,0,1,2,4,2,0,0,7,0,15,0,0,4,1,24,27,9,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,14,0,0,2,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,17,4,11,23,2,21,0,0,1,0,27,6,0,1,13,64,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875332283653895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517913074908308,0.0,0.0,0.11047787764547314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336901405098937,0.0,0.1518774912943929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047727921506118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848782656820072,0.15584573957750125,0.0923293495901566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778605444421625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799689814462017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377134566274052,0.13642487419034668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17047368002645538,0.0,0.0,0.24711519794884415,0.0,0.0,0.1803917986052834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873933278518333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644174591098499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250690865742892,0.0,0.0,0.11498951068476786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208194686600096,0.0,0.0,0.09473130944060988,0.0,0.0,0.1552367988515101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4209379557284743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303150306346114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23654457347514665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461844635999296
parenting,Love2020IAP,2020/01/23,"Single mother here(25F) with a Boyfriend Involved in my son and I's life Good Morning guys,

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A little back story so y'all can understand more.

I am a single mother whos been divorced for almost 3 years now. My baby daddy was abusive I left him after my son who is now 3yrs was born because I hoped he would change after having a child but nothing changed. Fast forward to a few months later I started dating this man (28) hes been amazing with me complete opposite of my baby daddy. He accepted me from the Get go having a child from another man. He was there for my son when he was breast feeding he was there when my sons teeth started coming in he was there when my son sat up on his own he was there when my son started to crawl,walk,talk etc. hes been there for major milestones. As my son started to grow more became a toddler I gave my boyfriend permission to start teaching him manners, using discipline letting him know right from wrong.(started being more of a father figure in the discipline area)  I will like to point out he has never put his hands on my son. When my son was able to start expressing himself more with words he started saying he didn't wanna go with ""my Bf"" any time he noticed we were gonna hang out. My son laughs plays talks eats interacts well with this man I know he loves him but the whole ""I dont wanna go with (my bf) "" is what makes me somewhat sad. I guess what im trying to ask is am I doing anything wrong as a mom bringing having this man around? I feel like my son will say these things because he knows he cant act up or be disobedient or be a big baby when my boyfriend is around. 

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anyone with my same experience?

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Please advice and share perspective",3.5161055900621108,5.24914132173913,4.1620238095238085,87.16875000000002,73.46376811594203,6.435817805383023,26.23447204968944,7.021680442328713,1.1786211180124226,1376,48,268,13,28,437,183,345,0.03,0.858,0.11199999999999999,0.9804,0,0,0,0,1,0,46.0,1,1,0,0,18,13,0,0,13,0,36,7,3,2,1,40,64,15,0,4,4,15,2,2,2,4,1,2,0,7,8,15,2,2,7,1,0,10,4,2,1,0,15,4,44,11,39,41,13,53,0,1,0,2,62,18,0,6,29,173,52,1,0.07796705025252718,0.09237820528283937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618849915004001,0.0,0.0,0.07807273851083088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379090654972947,0.3789539999029459,0.05302026777579392,0.08175525026211825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451637436078025,0.0,0.06416023913461305,0.13881440939862302,0.07288866720797726,0.0,0.0,0.059951849025395264,0.0,0.0950559803398872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495760221048258,0.06716171011812072,0.08174696880456811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137680222767118,0.0,0.0,0.07977975690376919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695387069053027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626673585095252,0.0,0.0,0.039422483255419166,0.05569967627895867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040734565785618175,0.0,0.13293141422966806,0.06539506263017557,0.0,0.0,0.08588949593612734,0.07719963771218083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743887310459581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421779348572557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285459554128183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471142822788097,0.07972659131247904,0.055070433352968295,0.07618152497111387,0.07814346703206597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703683068897834,0.0,0.05204361146762914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913140669428748,0.062232555662519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060132995670933616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481148750027343,0.08876600347463184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558440811150414,0.0737040636663933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783784201475681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658343491093321,0.0,0.12400505545812936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414838357035526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533392330721654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179784375906033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04546321399665787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293450922987409,0.0,0.0,0.08116644896858967,0.0,0.06733849830502993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010174164333557,0.0,0.0,0.0870474272430624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553855555154406,0.1704894599570819,0.3789539999029459,0.05020822411247367
parenting,mpritterbusch,2020/01/23,"New Tutoring Service For Students of All Abilities I am a student at Texas Christian University interested in starting a business related to providing affordable, professional and custom tutoring options for students of all abilities and all learning levels. As part of my research, my classmates and I have created a website for our business, U-Learning, and we are looking for any feedback or potential ""pre-orders"" to gauge interest. Our goal is to eventually have this service be a nationwide way for families to be connected with educational instructors that care about helping every child learn and develop at the pace that works for them! If you have a minute please check out our site below or if you feel inclined to pre-order a session, this will not charge you! I really appreciate any feedback you can provide. Thanks!

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[U-Learning Homepage](https://nesellman5.wixsite.com/website)",11.531785714285707,12.268251795918367,10.440195578231293,52.93947704081634,54.85034013605443,13.608503401360545,50.34778911564626,12.815532586354998,7.302946258503402,742,47,93,23,8,235,97,147,0.0,0.825,0.175,0.9725,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,4,1,2,1,4,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,3,20,15,10,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,14,4,22,12,4,10,1,0,1,0,11,7,0,5,2,71,18,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26874665086200034,0.3013906068332188,0.3373456553248971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528889960637614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898083212783805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23382604733250045,0.0,0.1254143368774699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662531468355879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082875756087849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395544902203124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685985656971843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722687893812366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889806421817984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556099313350512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283580104009539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968792474228037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057299310318375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013906068332188,0.0
parenting,theothersister,2020/01/23,"Help, my 9 year old won't eat! As the title states my 9 year old son refuses to eat. He's never been a big eater, but lately he has begun fighting me everytime I say it's time to eat, (especially at breakfast) and I don't want to force him to eat. I've tried everything I can think of to get him to eat, to no avail, so I'm turning to r/parenting for help. When I question him as to why he won't eat he says it's boring (?!) or he says he just doesn't want to eat, mostly meals. He eats a snack when he gets home from school and has no problem eating that!",0.8371774193548376,1.8710038467741936,3.2347096774193567,93.95706451612908,79.08064516129033,6.572903225806452,20.464516129032265,7.1686216300943375,0.2027961290322584,423,10,107,5,10,147,75,124,0.154,0.8009999999999999,0.044000000000000004,-0.9098,1,0,0,1,2,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,3,0,8,12,0,0,1,13,15,9,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,3,2,12,1,2,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,1,3,10,0,16,12,1,13,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,3,10,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8695579854620049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486064717677183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866347704645803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657851342178514,0.0,0.09471323473206236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651243240576856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282427495776339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981605759868969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048447558279608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034935962146612,0.0,0.0,0.10577455105904997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22526513490830305,0.0,0.0955603773980058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060501977501283624,0.0,0.0,0.05505838449616104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410652274844109,0.10270431485592753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113854015453728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520141151140746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160969122232387
parenting,Fubar904,2020/01/23,"My 1 year old son is sick as a dog. What can he take as a decongestant? I can feel the congestion in his chest when he is napping and it is wreaking havoc on his sleep and our sleep. He is waking up every hour or so crying and coughing. What can I go buy to give him so he can try to sleep good?

We took him to one of those quick med centers because of his fever and other things. We wanted him checked out as a precaution. They looked him over and said he has a virus. Basically all they told us was to give it time and watch to see if his fever or other symptoms get worse.

I want to try giving him some meds and see if he can get a peaceful nights sleep. Any recommendations?",2.361958041958044,3.5101169440559445,3.6730069930069966,91.88335664335665,75.36363636363636,6.5986013986013985,22.090909090909093,6.980632752743323,0.34160699300699315,525,13,123,5,11,172,88,143,0.098,0.836,0.065,-0.7924,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,11,13,6,0,1,19,27,17,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,8,10,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,4,6,19,1,16,23,2,15,0,0,4,0,27,6,0,5,7,78,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937324271114142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402284751172291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514051146229144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161318090564399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969344353210771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402604432558958,0.3966712541070742,0.07833472379398343,0.11560933579871033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573956623097513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574656255857654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062068997548973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934867305928716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446344926970003,0.0,0.09340046409792303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111250978418929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21967306580690352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5517375857487677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432631890735602,0.1036346562639852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157135220828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803726116626266,0.0,0.0,0.13170710954506334,0.1531395941229449,0.18716163596340346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579835790842656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259713584433594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046549153655946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887611267245343
parenting,sitting_ducks,2020/01/23,"How can I help my 12yo son find motivation? My 12yo seems to not really be interested in anything. This isn't a new thing. He's always been more of passive consumer than a creator. If anything is in anyway challenging he gives up.

 I've taken away screens for months and he then opts to go nap or eat. His only go-to is YouTube or Netflix.  I have him enrolled in a sport that he likes enough to do but often complains that he's bored with it. He doesn't want to quit it but also doesn't want to add more days to really commit and get better.  

I feel badly that he is his own worst enemy. His reading and spelling are at a very low grade level. I've had him tested several times for dyslexia, etc. I've hired multiple tutors and this is where we're at.  He's now so embarrassed with his skills that when we try to work on sight words he gets mad and starts crying saying he should already know this stuff then gives up. 

I'm worried for his future. Addiction problems run in his biological family and my mind worries that he will end up with problems if he doesn't find something else to spark his interest. Can anyone relate?  Is there anything I should be trying? He's been in therapy off and on for 2 years. I've seen no change in him with the therapists. I will likely be trying a new one next month.",2.828425385934821,4.5079015320754765,4.11376500857633,87.02320325900517,75.18867924528301,7.0823327615780425,23.743567753001713,7.84624498591911,1.1355283018867923,1026,31,212,15,22,337,155,265,0.198,0.728,0.07400000000000001,-0.9906,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,6,9,15,1,1,6,0,24,2,0,2,1,37,38,19,0,8,7,1,1,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,12,13,1,0,6,4,0,2,6,9,0,1,5,5,19,6,33,26,6,35,0,1,3,0,30,18,0,6,17,127,31,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095760852623253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256459651978258,0.09606658005959026,0.09995639171702367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399651967489663,0.0,0.29656613368039825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286451802082,0.0,0.10030213565611047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624374350342992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270798419929834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195532691075215,0.07747283323586465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292126904988862,0.10035180305312524,0.0,0.1063980421429586,0.12412467458061675,0.1339748395946155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132462959713188,0.0,0.06074049181046282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959022996000666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552418595619452,0.2304760758012736,0.13654339369502586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051948569242734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601938713865857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173772657505137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212953659864991,0.0,0.191770569756982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23204137443396936,0.12775783906789945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140206362481843,0.09136300621452273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22989317136690446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277712631298428,0.12016083588020365,0.0,0.1539145652505795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955308675852516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936031760488626,0.0,0.13571081684811478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248065540911757,0.0,0.0,0.08502744846532828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375181944782748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737721172518566,0.13947824705801953,0.07980792291196788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004779378178101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446777467215529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911845100141467,0.14170959989382112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745485310415944,0.2439922953839552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735870431506542
parenting,Kyle4Prez,2020/01/23,"3yo consistently waking up between 3-5am. Any tips? Our 3 year old has always had a ton of energy compared to other kids his age, so he's never really been a big sleeper. I'd say his bedtime habits are pretty average for his age though. We'll start winding down around 7 and lights out by 7:30. He cries most nights when falling asleep, but nothing unusual I'd say. We got the stoplight lamp and he was into it for about a week, but now he says it ""takes too long"" to turn green.

He also recently got a new baby brother, who is about 2 months old now. He gets along with him really well and has never seemed jealous or anything like that, so I don't think that has anything to do with it. Worth mentioning though.",4.021249999999998,4.928946402777778,4.939888888888888,85.294,71.08333333333333,7.982222222222222,26.20555555555556,8.238735603445708,1.5274022222222223,558,17,115,8,10,182,105,144,0.023,0.866,0.11,0.9058,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,0,0,13,3,1,0,5,0,11,2,2,0,2,18,19,12,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,7,10,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,5,5,8,2,18,13,2,24,0,0,1,0,20,6,0,3,18,68,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793913305993546,0.13311948954717334,0.0,0.0,0.10879459423155237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633063722713374,0.14241966306053466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573489258314295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358502779701298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559076113509991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816009278019065,0.0,0.0,0.14158079017137085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769768855047756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467790201140287,0.15451352728858936,0.0,0.1501341300289579,0.0,0.15350894606697835,0.0,0.3357525550075167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276122555277753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497967171560816,0.0,0.15796488217557744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816770526776065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456434091527919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132374862954899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028804463971556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251127616023123,0.31436690118230426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174016632478169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832950073191232,0.0,0.1438448136335843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302443949363142
parenting,exwhyzed00,2020/01/23,"help navigating 3rd grade girl friend dynamics Hi all - TIA for any suggestions you have.  Here's the situation:  My 8yr old SD is turning 9 next month and wants to have a slumber party.  She goes to a pretty small school and has 3 good friends at school and 2 good friends in the neighborhood that are the obvious candidates to invite.  The problem is with one of the school friends - SD has been having major issues with her for the past couple of months.  The friend has been mean and exclusive and the teacher has had to get involved on several occasions.  SD doesn't want her to come to the birthday - WWYD??

We are encouraging SD to communicate her feelings to her friend and ask the teacher to help with the communication since the friend often will just ignore SD when she tries to share her feelings.  We don't want the solution to be to just drop a friend when things get difficult, but we've also never liked this friend from the start and could have predicted this coming from a year ago.  I'm afraid that if she's not invited it will be a definite break in their friendship and that is a pretty big stance to take.  I welcome any and all advice from seasoned parents!",8.411862824675325,7.289377272321433,7.786639610389612,75.50608766233769,61.99107142857143,11.359740259740262,35.54220779220779,10.436869588844218,3.440291071428572,935,34,179,18,11,293,130,224,0.055,0.7090000000000001,0.23600000000000002,0.9904,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,1,0,7,20,0,1,20,0,23,0,0,0,4,35,38,14,0,6,5,1,2,1,9,2,0,0,0,1,7,16,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,3,2,14,16,27,30,3,22,0,0,0,0,32,6,0,2,13,114,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978668165335798,0.08877819831299683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009106095241753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621281103742994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362806592333978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254317477149406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996276602640186,0.1108156503990447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127914262908018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6963907049585735,0.0,0.10464997527947854,0.0,0.0,0.1680045326532985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425878244961467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453207088886317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04892892897728392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090942657133042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987982898692762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724295557197251,0.0,0.10651218008998754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509207661833796,0.0,0.06786519969154514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120630890002624,0.0,0.09560587059269443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037800151472163,0.0,0.0958313910470742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040757765213371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314260690182305,0.0,0.08284629634809239,0.11257440148360308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088769636059626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530141001169173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653615871891506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799624563929282,0.1089359946812704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721572156932994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449423617094227
parenting,PimpestTown,2020/01/23,"Seeking Advice for Challenging Child Hi Fellow Parents,

My 6yo is an odd duck who I love with all my heart. From a young age I noticed that he seems to have serious focus issues, but also something different about interpersonal relationships. Like, he doesn't seem concerned whether people like him or not, and dismisses social cues. He is often very empathetic and expresses emotion, but completely either unaware or uncaring about whether people other than myself and his mother disapprove of his behavior. Positive incentives don't seem to hold him, since the thought of them leaves his head before long. I get pretty good behavior out of him at home even though I need to refocus him, but apparently at school he's a terror. Got this note from his teacher:

""Jack's behavior was very disruptive the entire day today. From the moment he walked in, Jack kept saying Blahh, Blahh and sticking out his tongue. Several kids were annoyed because they tried to get him to stop and he wouldn't. By 9:25 he still had his coat on and was laying all over the floor, rolling and moving from one end to the other. He needed 5 reminders to make his lunch choice. Jack was very unruly and disrespectful during the lesson. He made noises, wouldn't share the flashlight, was playing with the flashlight on the rug, responding with silly answers and not focusing at all - all day. It is negatively impacting the learning for Jack and the rest of the students in my classroom.""

Honestly, the thought of putting him on attention medication gives me anxiety, to me it's a last resort I don't want to go to. Right now the wife and I are talking about how we can have more structured time for him at home to help him get used to structure. I've considered putting him in some type of martial arts class. Unsure at what point he should be evaluated for a condition, but to me this just seems like typical 'challenging kid' situation, and looking for just some good, solid advice of things to try.",8.222451523545708,8.310827110803327,7.727616343490308,71.8084328254848,61.82548476454294,11.098116343490307,36.33254847645429,10.686352973137794,3.9535971191135744,1581,66,269,35,20,498,211,361,0.071,0.7959999999999999,0.133,0.9785,3,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,2,3,12,15,1,1,19,0,20,5,2,4,4,61,41,23,0,6,13,3,0,3,1,3,1,1,3,3,10,18,1,3,10,2,0,5,8,3,0,1,11,2,32,12,52,26,9,35,0,0,1,1,48,17,0,9,16,175,42,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079518343358684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509055279859043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139811103684418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486236668524596,0.0,0.09054123537313986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156166812545762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724244587084447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111686347851428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968921128627975,0.09424160011750377,0.0,0.0,0.07027827060921915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677374742569567,0.1020715876666748,0.06047135665336637,0.17849181152227572,0.08510031135283018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109200319181467,0.0,0.0,0.12608823348229575,0.07131978201344183,0.0,0.21346205046254116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105723399517936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673276072443489,0.0,0.11266556210171455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594959905676167,0.0,0.0,0.09416343079094852,0.08935183947656249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096032988312463,0.10068122400480832,0.07102492233666102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718996960243983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308969897954466,0.0,0.15779316050074918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114068038577487,0.0,0.0,0.0721015215539606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814809526141525,0.0,0.0,0.1475330800597552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058536005054028,0.0,0.0,0.10825024623211944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392908934898752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423715234213902,0.0,0.09086770037853006,0.0,0.08461604781929064,0.0,0.10768565850410808,0.0,0.3874616905673943,0.0,0.12020526200882015,0.0,0.0880177771369907,0.11960158773400673,0.0,0.10846460179986744,0.0,0.08191433573524183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497368523327392,0.08895778964852326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552281363660724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068951839520289,0.0,0.10454054503656343,0.16894441599116766,0.062044526738811376,0.0,0.1008577355442924,0.0,0.0,0.14448149545961347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189814998440207,0.0,0.2633812023812669,0.06275932891726041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,finallybrown,2020/01/23,"Infant in ski gondola My daughter is going to be 4 m old over Presidents Day weekend. We are thinking about going to a ski resort. We don't ski, we just wanted to take a gondola ride up the mountain and drink some hot chocolate, enjoy the view. Is this feasible with an infant? Any advise, cautionary tales? 
Thanks in advance.",2.522281105990785,5.231627403225809,4.232027649769584,80.49661290322581,81.41935483870967,6.768663594470048,26.599078341013822,7.957251820313856,2.1996239631336407,257,11,43,5,7,86,49,62,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.755,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,0,5,1,0,0,0,9,11,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,0,1,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,9,10,1,11,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,3,27,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26875488027379674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548763590548832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871532214222784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492114407644365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147041420578996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29714710794095844,0.0,0.0,0.3638542769182143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532332230820246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23310382075546074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grimetime01,2020/01/23,"Want to teach my son about hateful/racist content on YT TL;DR--my son inadvertently watched what I consider to be a racist video on YT and I want us to watch an educational video together that teaches kids how to spot and avoid that sort of content.

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I (42/M) let my son have screen time, and often he chooses to watch YT content on our iPad.  I routinely come in check on him: ""Whatcha watchin?""  A lot of the time it's ""clean"" memes, Minecraft content, etc.  His sense of humor is pretty typical for a 10 yo boy--he loves ""random"" CG slapstick type stuff that makes no sense to me. 

Yesterday when I checked on him, he showed me a video: ""Dad check this out"".  It was a series of images of black people followed by images of grotesque sci-fi creatures like Jabba the Hutt and so on.  Pepe the Frog made an appearance.  He did not pick up on the racist pattern that was very obvious to me.  He just thought it was funny.  I had him stop the video and explained why I thought it was offensive and not ok.

It worries me... he's a sweet kid and once I told him about that insidious nature of that sort of content, he felt bad.  I didn't punish him because that wouldn't make sense.  He wasn't seeking the content. We settled on The Simpsons as an alternative.  But it left me thinking about YT algorithms and how they have been known to suggest questionable or outright hateful/racist content, and I worry about the effect it would have on my son if left unchecked.

Is there a video he and I can watch together that teaches kids how to think critically about this sort of stuff?  How to differentiate between a 'funny meme' and a hateful one?  I can read websites all day, and I feel pretty in tune with Internet trends, but this one is a big challenge.  I want my son to experience the good things the Internet can offer while being able to spot and avoid traps.  I don't want to police or micromanage his screen time, I want him to develop awareness.",4.30952380952381,5.7136115661375655,4.783994708994712,84.80869047619052,70.90476190476191,7.728042328042327,29.9021164021164,8.192908349453996,1.99725291005291,1524,62,305,22,28,484,189,378,0.065,0.848,0.087,0.5927,3,2,0,0,0,0,58.0,3,0,1,2,14,13,3,2,23,1,24,1,0,9,2,63,45,26,0,8,8,6,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,22,17,0,3,11,7,3,3,7,6,0,2,14,10,37,7,46,26,3,27,0,0,7,1,35,16,0,11,9,188,59,6,0.12572255288139936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622033352066842,0.15276666277005793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497308022142632,0.07663930132195403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829884707170842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810806458412051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402138797187368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298078098449415,0.0,0.0,0.06356910027688095,0.0,0.12071336669523032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545011249079772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412499254986448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27319584312973083,0.1285598282847948,0.0,0.06142168884641151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688481857872907,0.11346951251164684,0.11896171938053599,0.16784156059991312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389041567844012,0.1703857111153574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716018822226754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558100687080305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408380321850696,0.0,0.1257565751897111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510968369211494,0.0,0.0,0.2878444883839163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352447771268405,0.16111587086442367,0.0,0.1996193272847973,0.21992949485739693,0.0,0.0,0.1201332869998176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512287513066757,0.0,0.0,0.1037342728580391,0.3707720952423727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344504908329073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25535471033801,0.0,0.08930969441068419,0.0,0.15276666277005793,0.0
parenting,myFranciscan,2020/01/23,"Depression During Pregnancy Prenatal depression affects up to 1 in 7 women. Just as you would seek treatment for conditions such as gestational diabetes, it's also important to talk to your doctor about available treatments for depression.   [\#MaternalHealthAwarenessDay](https://twitter.com/hashtag/MaternalHealthAwarenessDay?src=hashtag_click)   


  
 [https://www.franciscanhealth.org/news-and-events/news/when-depression-happens-during-pregnancy](https://www.franciscanhealth.org/news-and-events/news/when-depression-happens-during-pregnancy)",35.42227272727273,46.31716395454546,17.87836363636364,-17.442454545454495,11.727272727272736,14.429090909090913,49.709090909090904,11.979248473330829,9.544541818181818,490,18,22,12,5,112,38,44,0.242,0.7190000000000001,0.039,-0.8834,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,17,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259261278868862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8376946122572961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33183071733205544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605783286938224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303011843747404,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Egyptian613,2020/01/23,"Teenage Daughter Advice.... We took the cell phone away again last night. 

Shes up to no good talking to boys, texting, sexting. 

Who knows what else, i haven't had the balls to check the phone yet, other than the ""Hey, Babe"" text that lead to it all.

Last time (almost a year ago) it was every parents worse nightmare, sexting photos to random strangers. 

We moved to another town, new school, tried to give her a blank slate. We JUST gave her back her phone.

We don't like these secrets, we told her if she wants a boyfriend or whatever to start with us. Talk to us first!

Help....parents of a teenage daughter who wont listen-stay away from boys..

I know we can't shelter her forever, but as long as she lives under our roof, hell nawl..

Until then, no phone, close supervision and nervous parents.",3.3561840120663646,5.281508901960788,3.1908496732026173,93.14805429864256,74.359477124183,5.753443941679237,25.4947209653092,6.297961479604792,0.6645800904977377,614,21,127,4,13,184,109,153,0.114,0.873,0.013000000000000001,-0.9371,3,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,9,0,0,2,4,4,1,1,8,0,7,0,0,1,1,21,15,8,0,2,4,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,9,0,0,3,1,1,3,6,2,0,1,5,0,19,2,20,9,1,24,1,0,0,0,38,6,1,4,16,74,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169944804014246,0.13761154351494573,0.0,0.15545117007425913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278344471286954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29170755858040137,0.11937054158565395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968371274295612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307970134108785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320476885691388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892105721564966,0.0,0.13020856187246432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405459129836847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063249441812947,0.2530838349354265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584278085210341,0.0,0.13708041177981736,0.13738316396364858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499633166509373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993246773376462,0.0,0.14568291204860667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447529259915632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711191016019613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988019015669027,0.1654659664225347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495532422678037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052212008851804,0.0,0.0,0.14833917350845235,0.172478166912053,0.10539826774424008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37347097610975416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156500673844753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820356997404567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999699425754343
parenting,Retrospecxz,2020/01/23,Teach Your Kids About Cybersecurity With This Board Game Seems like gamifying educational concepts is the way to go when teaching your kids something new. This is a pretty cool concept - a board game that gamifies all cybersecurity terminology - what's better than teaching your kids about cyber safety while playing a game? :P Grab [a copy](https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/codomo/potato-pirates-2-enter-the-spudnet?ref=cqra6g) for yourselves before it runs out!,13.147916666666667,14.486315736111116,10.441111111111113,52.26500000000002,51.361111111111114,11.644444444444444,41.611111111111114,11.20814326018867,5.076127777777776,391,17,50,8,4,116,56,72,0.0,0.7290000000000001,0.271,0.9537,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,7,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,4,25,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34489155647096903,0.0,0.0,0.3584664590902205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303487491874648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980154851655811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914538734842665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123490888709153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689817821182092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120297909850944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217186367136978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PracticalBagel,2020/01/23,"Aftercare investigation So I got a call yesterday from our afterschool care program. Apparently they are under investigation by our local CPS (that's not what they call it here). They were notifying families because we may be contacted as part of this investigation. They have not been shut down.

I don't know what the nature of this allegation is, just that someone called something in, so they have to investigate. I don't know if it involves the afterschool program my kids are in, or the preschool/daycare program also at that site. I don't know if it's something that happened between kids, or involving staff. I truly don't know what this is based on, who called, etc. 

My kids have been at this place for years, since they were preschoolers. I've never had any concerns at all, in any way, and I am super super paranoid and attentive. My kids have been in therapy for other reasons, and are very well versed in ideas about bodily autonomy and staying safe and all of that. They have never said anything felt unsafe at afterschool. They've complained plenty about normal stuff like staff making them do homework or not letting them sit with friends or not giving them the snack they wanted. They know complaints can be lodged, and when it's something serious we address it right away. We are staunch advocates for our kids and they know that, I think they would tell us if something was even a little off. 

But if course I don't know. I'm incredibly stressed about this. They won't be over there for the next few days anyway. But what would you think? What would you do? Anyone ever had a similar situation? How did it turn out?",4.868914473684214,7.0068392730263165,5.0280578947368415,80.67220526315792,70.74342105263158,8.021894736842105,28.93631578947368,8.726425361277474,2.323119105263157,1305,51,236,24,25,409,162,304,0.044000000000000004,0.872,0.084,0.9363,1,0,4,0,0,0,37.0,7,2,15,2,15,10,0,1,8,0,38,1,0,3,5,54,57,23,0,9,15,0,1,1,1,5,0,1,2,5,25,12,1,1,13,0,0,0,12,3,1,0,12,2,35,7,32,36,5,33,0,0,0,0,42,22,0,9,9,178,60,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514941510903758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448156767093609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445101633758232,0.0,0.0876212893473479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003840763431923,0.0,0.0,0.06490723592911139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348986489073648,0.0,0.10856013859746808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06866869240876376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187497173703104,0.07032688636321574,0.09631431244159296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037679970746614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223437370559896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226366964115406,0.0,0.0,0.1021421967917006,0.0,0.0,0.0851591804138628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941570346238086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201992855601854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40961784400556395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887968655185112,0.0,0.052019159626347886,0.10671767168847364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107405459506769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424286081450154,0.0,0.11323922705979785,0.0,0.1043246036834359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153039395664947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124553689092882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947582831021413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093055909331547,0.10128376813976647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807866438654201,0.1196843234262267,0.0,0.0,0.09021740114573053,0.3278840034526945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349004379001534,0.0,0.0,0.12196875251176174,0.0,0.121890399548027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306536893995676,0.0,0.12176543830803535,0.0,0.0,0.13645199867089236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581612381114817,0.0,0.0,0.1280784150039671,0.0,0.0,0.08785446639246437,0.0628027433619982,0.08451628469352575,0.0,0.0,0.09573538177431824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226914075645829,0.0,0.0,0.06856753328717276
parenting,mangoatdemon,2020/01/23,Why do the doctors keep telling me all the paper for our baby is in her name until we sign the birth certificate? I’m not like mad or anything about it. I’m just kinda curious bc everyone rn that comes in says that it’s her last name and that we have to wait until we sign. I’m guessing it’s bc some fathers of newborns are dramatic about it.,0.1106240487062422,2.3793891643835643,2.282922374429224,93.14194824961949,88.86301369863014,5.436225266362253,21.80974124809741,6.937597516519254,0.6752873668188735,271,10,59,4,9,91,52,73,0.028999999999999998,0.9059999999999999,0.065,0.3664,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,4,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,1,18,11,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,7,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,9,11,2,7,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,5,36,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823035156230839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955099160684927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511294394065697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32780198975564423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37791172515725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049214055119734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279634107109592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16759844270336433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272809637113555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998435771740257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30955211287514245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crispsfordinner,2020/01/23,"January Birthdays My 6yr old daughters birthday is coming up soon and christmas ruined my brain for gift ideas, do you reckon giving her money and letting her pick her own stuff is acceptable at her age? I want to teach her to be responsible with money and it means she can pick what she actually wants, so it kills two birds with one stone, but would it come across as lazy or thoughtless?",7.67837837837838,7.390606702702705,6.9331081081081125,78.30614864864866,63.05405405405406,9.562162162162162,32.013513513513516,8.841846274778883,2.4538756756756763,312,10,58,4,4,96,59,74,0.14300000000000002,0.7609999999999999,0.096,-0.7875,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,7,1,1,2,0,18,13,7,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,11,1,9,10,1,8,0,1,0,0,10,3,0,1,3,42,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.2399583165545416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745004481767529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42363401090308106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358851529920424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775858338128314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720466882087877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25144457752739324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678520400001873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580257259721854,0.0,0.1666250014475659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28149125874277003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402039526674457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29007080700399873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467694753331495,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonymitykeeping,2020/01/23,"Lost my cool with 3 year old daughter - I bought her a small toy from the store earlier in the day.

- I took her to gymnastics (a 30 minute class) and she refused to participate 

- I felt embarrassed that she was the only kid not participating and just standing there. 

- Realizing that she was setting the class back and wasn’t listening to her lead teacher who had stopped class progress to try and catch her up- I asked her if she wanted to leave and she said yes

- Driving on the way home I scolded her for quitting and I threw her new toy out the window as she was sobbing

- I realize that I’m in the wrong here. But I don’t want my daughter to be okay with giving up on things.

- This is a bit of projection from my end- as I’ve quit almost everything I’ve ever started, am a serial job hopper, and have become complacent and okay with just quitting when things get too difficult.

- I just want my daughter to be healthy, happy, and successful. I put the first two in jeopardy trying to ensure the third, but.... I just need advice, thanks.",3.38058823529412,5.2408474876847375,4.2384873949579855,85.94327731092442,74.1231527093596,7.5350912778904675,26.719501593740944,8.313332769828598,1.7471312083454067,812,30,163,14,17,261,122,203,0.106,0.7440000000000001,0.15,0.8625,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,8,10,11,0,1,13,4,11,0,0,1,1,33,28,15,0,5,8,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,7,13,0,2,3,2,2,6,3,5,0,3,11,4,28,6,25,15,1,29,0,2,0,0,23,9,1,2,11,110,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500793313797716,0.0,0.0,0.14859416542098128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872743391618686,0.0,0.0,0.11410506588208665,0.0,0.0,0.16388842225697053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620067348104261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957012159959544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314321625707135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422997431793773,0.0,0.0,0.133366070057101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424805619126946,0.0,0.0,0.1262230195458009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752922367210523,0.1423520980897006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796711981137654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14885028949046716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472571662287096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157126772633427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619885012013829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100315375461734,0.0,0.1433188949415062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571350289476615,0.0,0.0,0.11285957188574967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917596271107106,0.0,0.473502700500348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115573533756268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503333712337083,0.0,0.0,0.12406320198763762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662034751094226,0.0,0.0,0.19717144577722687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487009556373308,0.20149822770444176,0.0,0.14495840962404086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625781282617531,0.11778746518840688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224446265505268,0.0,0.0955602339762632
parenting,DefinitelyNotACad,2020/01/23,"As a child what was it that you wished someone would've told/taught you and is it that you know make sure to pass on. There are many things our parents did wrong, if they were aware of it or not, able to do better or not, willingly or knowingly or not.

For example i never learned to learn. In Elementary i was best in class without doing anything, even homework. So i never learned that it is essential to always do at least a little bit for school AFTER school. Homework, reviewing notes, preparing for the next lessons, all that stuff. So when my sheltered elementary school life was over, i dropped dead into a mountainpile of poo. I wish someone had took my on and taught me this valuable life lessons as it still affects me and my work ethics to this day.

So with my own children i try to encourage them to keep ontop of their schoolstuff even if it is only so little as 5 extra minutes per day. (and godknows that we failed hard after my daughter expressed to be more independent only to find out that a little bit of moms help here and there doesn't hurt in this regard.)

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What were your lessons learned due to your upbringing that you now try to correct?",7.4129999999999985,6.9245918666666695,6.7216111111111125,80.26775000000002,63.66666666666666,9.633333333333333,35.194444444444436,8.841846274778883,2.8233777777777767,930,37,179,12,12,286,134,225,0.051,0.845,0.10400000000000001,0.9081,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,6,3,7,12,8,0,0,5,0,17,2,0,3,5,40,25,19,1,4,10,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,20,9,0,1,10,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,9,1,24,5,34,14,8,26,0,2,0,0,19,12,0,6,11,134,44,14,0.11906951767901085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907537716912454,0.12901177265848926,0.1446824967881645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798406766941588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249561127986553,0.10530731230536536,0.25998614914154955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357997705506873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728858691124076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882738203242467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066629002036506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980978782252812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746638132972096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583445822697198,0.0,0.0,0.1308749859589632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820464328133294,0.0,0.3580168121971059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947982764069722,0.12071780222672968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945278002670866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836675048739588,0.0,0.12663178286585464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18111546734569214,0.0,0.0,0.1322126084551438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36151412612796335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20177443186847285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508907062682427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630611060994974,0.0,0.0,0.11222161128260744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791044967486655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377602675437537,0.13229061527711156,0.16168077315126994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738481381419601,0.11477876603691943,0.0,0.08668402698143113,0.0,0.0,0.08458356908781263,0.1301838257359671,0.1446824967881645,0.0
parenting,jenniferdale470,2020/01/23,"Parents, would you allow your daughter (20F) to sleepover with her boyfriend (20M)? I’m nearly 21 years old and I’ve been together with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I currently live with my parents and they’ve allowed my boyfriend to stay over, however my parents are adamant in him sleeping in a separate room as me. 

I think it’s because they believe I’m going to have sex with him or do things they’ll never approve of, even though they know I’ve only kissed him. My mom especially is very adamant on me not having sex til marriage though I’m not sure if I want that in a long term relationship. I’m frustrated at my mom since she’s always been strict with her rules. She gets upset if I get home past 9pm, she refuses for me to have sleepovers and gets irrationally upset by me sipping/tasting wine my uncles brought out a few times they came over.

We’ve never gone past kissing, and I have slept in the same bed as him on one occasion. We have also cuddled on each other’s bed several times. I’ve more or less been the person to stop things going further. Although I have a low sexual libido, I want to have more intimacy with my partner. 

Am I being unreasonable or should I talk to my parents about giving me more freedom?",4.982621951219514,5.650813065040651,5.707876016260163,81.52449695121953,68.7560975609756,8.426422764227643,31.63516260162601,8.472884824447931,2.353667479674797,978,40,192,14,16,319,140,246,0.098,0.8540000000000001,0.048,-0.8347,7,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,2,4,1,5,7,1,2,7,0,18,8,2,2,3,35,36,16,0,6,7,7,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,2,5,14,1,2,2,1,0,5,4,4,0,1,7,0,39,3,34,25,8,36,0,1,0,5,30,16,0,5,14,128,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880082681818823,0.1028013502851739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531336026286772,0.0,0.0,0.1391956341849214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130533461501793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816019054427656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936452825289364,0.11851794264380093,0.14042969142090514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392813530031653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789843076836341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909463500103136,0.109335578536012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28939448927446665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905747729056923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964223395793045,0.0,0.08371892895375263,0.0939633798662429,0.0,0.0,0.5487391544606472,0.0,0.2358799833814861,0.0,0.10787684134916467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264369232004372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957341777388382,0.0,0.10219970219746607,0.0,0.12363664406953205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168511078704745,0.0,0.10329117487338926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644198084996188,0.0,0.0,0.09930273598192672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415883162393252,0.07916419785394146,0.24276942494625825,0.0,0.14408298782234022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193956010303733,0.14574293816745956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776454213566398,0.0,0.0,0.15912097512311105
parenting,parent1011,2020/01/23,"Toxic & estranged grandparents sending gifts What to do about them sending gifts through the other parent during supervised visits? They sent gifts before directly to me (custodial parent) but due to their harmful nature I refused their gifts. I’ve come to learn that they are now sending them to the other parent to give during supervised visitations. 
This makes me very uncomfortable and I want then to stop.",10.062571428571427,10.899774828571427,8.766428571428571,63.38107142857146,57.85714285714286,11.0,37.5,10.686352973137794,4.4311428571428575,338,14,46,7,4,104,47,70,0.127,0.848,0.025,-0.8222,4,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,6,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,7,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,1,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,0,9,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,0,4,32,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26411055016981344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20741920829917587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997502607439691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338338748793173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627096548867179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8119897286639545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379172235610107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011250095188272,0.14377416283042588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,punjindian,2020/01/23,"A year in, some respite LO turns one tomorrow. Almost on cue, has started sleeping through the night with one waking max. 11 months of three-five wakings a night, feeds and rocking back to sleep. Wife had a tougher time, with post partum SPD and kiddo not letting go before an hour of nursing. We split the nights between us and worked full days. Spoke of, and dropped the idea of sleep training. It's just been a week of this new era, I keep waking up just to check if she's alright, but we're hopefully past the worst.

To everyone still struggling, hang in there.",3.8112436289500518,5.707162275229366,3.314984709480125,92.86699286442408,73.03669724770644,5.945361875637107,27.70744138634047,6.42735559955562,1.0053906218144752,444,17,90,3,9,131,85,109,0.084,0.858,0.057999999999999996,-0.7140000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,9,1,4,7,6,0,0,17,10,6,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,7,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,2,0,2,3,1,4,2,16,6,3,25,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,4,16,52,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244079320103594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473785466360887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803803318713326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461905682934347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500901663196404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219387279383973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112195129366216,0.15975490428869912,0.0,0.0,0.18312764442945229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441893847370507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658818555495818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294831704071043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667395088520072,0.0,0.4566999613648656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21985015300688104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485819959046365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536277504777224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4870141458264355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482078415753927,0.0,0.12954981599183485,0.0,0.0,0.1695885009879352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945923081980918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644975044269848,0.0,0.0,0.19513176249446368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012381664966854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809874332400652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446493751354904
parenting,tru2deheart,2020/01/23,"What to do? Helping my son get custody of his son.    
mom admits her and her bf use meth.  They are living in temporary housing almost like a shelter.  No jobs no nothing.    
The major issue RN is she wants BF to come to supervised visits.  My grandson is 18 months and non verbal.  Has night terrors if he even sees a picture of this man.  It is far worst when he comes in contact.  It was suggested he was sexually abused by him and there are rumors with in HIS family that he has touched a few other kids however NO proof of this.  It is clearly all speculation and rumor at this point.  All we have is that he has night terrors and that he has done a humping type action when he first got back from a two week visit with him before this all went to court.",2.1478240302743608,4.15768085430464,3.62040208136235,88.3166390728477,78.20529801324504,6.168590350047302,23.36849574266793,7.1686216300943375,0.8803581835383159,583,19,119,7,14,192,100,151,0.131,0.813,0.055999999999999994,-0.9241,2,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,1,1,5,4,0,2,6,0,16,1,0,1,5,20,25,8,0,2,1,4,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,12,10,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,3,0,2,5,2,11,1,15,20,6,20,0,0,1,1,32,6,0,2,9,81,23,3,0.0,0.2275874685956693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923438203806755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770030999783973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344886119946836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33092575344021524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965680507175175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686930160390394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18107917376507152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338607731091956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035567029158084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362667541497574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287494819686282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22163850200591514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20048520820006407,0.1906131768405416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384226706315088,0.0,0.1696131980768681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249658052900592,0.15331917051329466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605145957309321,0.0,0.18430924274761426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815809391802997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306563383926436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763761164109624,0.0,0.0,0.1658984207514416,0.0,0.0,0.11329579057424942,0.0,0.15407775056808934,0.0,0.0,0.17806327477774705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hereforthememes5,2020/01/23,"Which spelling of baby name should I choose? Hi guys, baby due in a few days here and we are mostly decided on how we will spell the name but still a bit on the fence. Maybe you can help! 
Originally her name is spelled Evija, pronounced eh-vee-yah. But since American spelling wouldn’t understand then “j” we have to change it unfortunately. Given how it’s pronounced, would you go with the spelling Evia, or Eviya? 
Any thoughts?
Thanks guys!",2.9290629183400263,5.643805975903617,3.0765461847389592,89.43107095046857,79.6024096385542,6.098527443105756,23.680053547523432,7.3871296695380915,1.0287627844712175,348,12,68,5,9,106,65,83,0.037000000000000005,0.861,0.102,0.7524,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,0,23,13,7,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,1,6,7,3,9,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,2,5,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866026526119207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995757266169413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902807495347204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696647829894918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594888238842386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5434019020307183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839257610993767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756735182384497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269880276294899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191376542205802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526323360824601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178444003713357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856619801445757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492718556741112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ime783,2020/01/23,"MIL/FIL..power of attorney So yeah...my FIL causally ask if they could take the twins to their doctor appts  and I said ‘no, it’s a a parent -only type of thing” then he began to give me examples what if and I responded that iWILL ALWAYS make myself available in a cross and than my FIL matter-factor suggest that we (DH& i)  grant them power of attorney..of course my response was “oh god NO”...but the fact that they believe that we are such sh!tty parent that they even thought it necessary to make such an offense suggestion is beyond my comprehension...I’m I crazy or is this is truly some fückery????",1.5112820512820484,4.17663465811966,2.8827692307692314,88.2872307692308,87.03418803418802,5.513162393162394,20.620512820512825,7.0316486544052195,0.7622369230769235,473,15,89,7,15,153,82,117,0.04,0.882,0.079,0.6544,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,5,1,5,1,1,0,6,0,6,1,0,2,1,14,14,8,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,10,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,16,0,9,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,4,2,60,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024920090629337,0.26367654390852097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275053713781071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741793132162673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19430027312699527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908557424001135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073459862766235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334496215212646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32488455636091085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508349855987447,0.0,0.0,0.5404369375012825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314876523235029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829737171334057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167517026159128,0.0,0.0,0.19319778830160145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Britoz,2020/01/23,"I feel like I was a good mum to one... But now I've got two kids I find myself tuning out more often and getting bored (so, so bored!), letting them get away with more, being less consistent... all the things I was great at with just one I feel like I'm failing at with two. 

Youngest is 10mths. Tell me this too shall pass. Please!",0.1361764705882358,2.3354387941176498,1.0867647058823522,102.41044117647058,87.52941176470587,3.9882352941176467,15.852941176470587,5.148860815047168,-1.1008588235294121,250,5,60,1,8,77,51,68,0.07400000000000001,0.723,0.203,0.8585,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,12,12,4,0,0,2,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,4,3,2,8,4,8,6,4,6,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,42,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218454313298292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23513186713662235,0.3322157256690991,0.0,0.0,0.21251334668384533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429576657593062,0.0,0.0,0.1950214941829652,0.18596247899465426,0.2563472199982703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23776105318231924,0.0,0.22718893799404274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31511465644044545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552302647534816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032272578542708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447179770245298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4542642782467318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TrueFakeAdult,2020/01/23,"I feel awful. Had a relatively okay day. Then bed time hit. I don't know why it's such a struggle.

If I leave the room my son screams at me. So I gave up and let him fall asleep to television.... I know you shouldn't do that but he wouldn't stop screaming and I was about to lose my mind!!!!

On top of that we're laying on the couch together and he decided it was playtime. Instead of playing like a normal thing he wanted to pull my hair (and I'm talking he ripped chunks out) and bite and climb all over my face. I have really bad anxiety and this made me start having a panic attack. 

I was trying to (as carefully as my anxiety riddled mind would let me) get him off of me. First I tried letting him lay down and putting my arm over his arms so he would just stop. It didn't work he just kept biting and then laughing at me.... At this point I was in tears and just needed to step away. So I jumped up as fast as I could and he fell off the couch.... I feel horrible.",0.639417475728159,2.4484393980582557,2.403699029126216,96.17467475728157,82.20388349514563,5.867572815533983,19.52330097087379,6.961326702584282,0.06327650485436909,740,19,178,9,20,244,121,206,0.16699999999999998,0.73,0.102,-0.946,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,0,5,9,12,1,2,7,2,18,5,5,1,1,37,32,22,0,9,5,1,3,1,0,4,0,2,4,0,8,12,0,3,5,1,0,7,4,7,0,1,9,5,29,5,28,14,1,34,0,1,0,0,15,18,0,1,10,115,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23038463387546065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130504457778728,0.14147367436950198,0.0,0.12572695057059965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352505163404195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202248638700165,0.0,0.0,0.0971108243218794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227426139101827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808219152625594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867117195409283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655082649873316,0.0,0.0,0.1594411341033917,0.0,0.4619308629040688,0.0,0.07356516186117686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845908325826356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248123595879147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040831859475629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165222093901528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753518532790458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766716966365097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234557198745004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137321461510425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646459076255992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658040071047356,0.0,0.0,0.2517811228969258,0.0,0.15741758361781627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102948002534453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000378178735612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780366887277752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446614798085005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881523680769447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358738835565088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962310943292317,0.0,0.0,0.21393362014265332,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yujdbdkab,2020/01/23,"Low vaccination rates at preschool - is this an issue? I'm looking for a preschool for my daughter. She's fully vaccinated and I'm 100% pro vaccine. Unfortunately many of the schools I'm interested in for her have weirdly high MMR exemption rates (34%). I live in a wealthier urban tech city surrounded by essential-oil types.

She's in a public school preschool now. Generally we're happy with it but she hasn't made any friends yet (although I hear that is normal) and the school is run down. She's learning quite a bit, and doesn't express much negativity about the school.

Should I enroll my 4-year-old daughter in a school with such a high exemption rate? Is this a potentially dangerous mistake?",4.312128205128207,6.841881007692307,5.064230769230772,78.04993589743594,73.53846153846155,8.333333333333334,31.602564102564106,9.075114841892004,3.024564102564103,561,27,101,13,12,181,87,130,0.128,0.7929999999999999,0.079,-0.7284,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,0,11,0,8,0,0,1,0,12,14,5,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,2,10,3,14,12,2,13,0,1,1,0,11,10,0,0,2,57,14,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325945608678697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165774849147526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731467166910127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164127675088988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711397691849108,0.0,0.0,0.3208640683657697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584861908567969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340814612887417,0.0,0.12751112354646835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367892220343428,0.0,0.15394647383820026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116231671876187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877535467988273,0.0,0.0,0.1593352429626985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150529963716825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7683736219723759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778286927672727
parenting,uberseed,2020/01/23,"Middle schooler sexually harassed friends several times? What to do? Hi r/Parenting. My family is in a very difficult situation and I don't know what to do to help. My nephew (6th grade) is a very book smart kid, excellent grades and all, but he seems to be very sexually curious and has caused a few unacceptable incidents at school so far, including:
1) Touching friend's butt during nap time (he's not in the U.S. and school-wide nap is a thing)
2) Exchange pornography with his guy friends, which was caught by a teacher.
3) Most seriously, just last week a friend dared him to touch a girl's chest, and he actually did it to win the dare.

After the first two incidents, his parents already talked to him about personal space and what parts of other people he cannot touch, but according to his account, he just did the last incident without thinking. He does have mild adhd and is impulsive in general. With all of these things happening in quick succession, he will face serious consequences at school. The head teacher told him he should transfer school before the school year ends. Other parents stopped letting him hang out with their kids.

His dad were already super mad about this and resorted to talking about potential jail time for sexual predator s and such, and even told him to please just quit school already (legal here) because this is too embarrassing. My nephew cried a lot and showed a lot of remorse, ans said he really wants to go to school again. However, he did the same thing when the first two incidents happened. What do we do to make sure he understands it should really never happen again? I'm the uncle who gifts nice things.",6.537647058823531,7.629449986928106,6.38026797385621,76.57020588235294,65.47058823529412,10.564444444444446,32.94705882352942,10.577609850970193,3.5786501960784314,1320,54,238,34,20,415,184,306,0.084,0.7879999999999999,0.128,0.9498,5,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,1,0,1,7,15,17,2,1,19,0,23,4,4,2,4,43,38,15,0,3,7,5,3,0,4,3,0,1,0,5,17,16,0,1,5,4,2,3,5,6,0,4,9,4,15,11,33,24,8,30,0,0,0,1,44,10,1,4,17,146,32,13,0.0,0.0,0.07876830086366099,0.0,0.09700633603445888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267220167085363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920442923135186,0.0,0.06868435482867148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291875398372031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866400590254342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063612733593139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149144227396598,0.0,0.0,0.0533129204099748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609295122457105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731594366256067,0.0,0.0,0.24944749861727095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0458734199973499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992267497347681,0.21413374397152046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828390891636666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410300835775821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04436003811277254,0.131590510960371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253876097147919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372456794607132,0.0,0.0,0.053879328544011285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062254046918036376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688805491936366,0.08740881433761791,0.0,0.0559591128728798,0.07047910738997785,0.0,0.08860319860301467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585263129227043,0.0,0.0,0.10341895428817896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678049959114965,0.0,0.0,0.5718304995200735,0.0,0.07348186748218025,0.0,0.09118741128350598,0.0,0.0,0.09072946548763354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748315686010725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607496447234229,0.0,0.0,0.12975478528771411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144995678097136,0.0517202944785016,0.0,0.0,0.14120046867517347,0.0,0.0,0.15425740361802912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576978658962162,0.08402940624997697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19980032175398976,0.04760907003750913,0.0,0.06474643392166139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780845818056098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051979202178348616
parenting,JimmyJohnDonJuan,2020/01/23,"Have to put dog down. How to deal with 4yo? My wife and I are nearing the unfortunate time where we are going to have to put down our dog.  Our little boy is aware of death and I think understands the basic principles but what advise if any can you guys provide on how we should deal with the time leading up to it, the day of and thereafter?  

Everything I've read says you should be careful of using terms like ""put to sleep"" or ""put to rest"" so they don't associate that with death.  Does anyone have some experience on how they handled the situation with their kids?",3.548115079365078,5.2360533750000045,4.1186904761904755,87.69853174603178,73.28571428571429,7.477777777777778,24.051587301587304,8.167268648758528,1.2052646825396829,446,13,93,7,9,141,74,112,0.087,0.8690000000000001,0.043,-0.7343,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,2,3,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,11,1,1,5,0,22,16,10,2,3,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,3,9,0,0,2,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,12,2,20,13,3,18,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,3,5,64,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429105462668908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751607793579595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135510481541869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838905640007993,0.3465385798812428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470762185870651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104742754665945,0.16440138911029786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551612469890393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641236231084552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210885381451358,0.16844689085780454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6758134331965026,0.0,0.0,0.16811208617669166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336533099689579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891390569707564,0.16818798065864615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769029423047116,0.0,0.0,0.1960019778236239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749632629573144,0.0,0.14515558504540474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,valley4795,2020/01/23,Advice with Brushing teeth? I have a 16 month old and he’s pretty stubborn about brushing his teeth on his own. He freaks out if you try to take away his toothbrush. Obviously he doesn’t clean them too well though. Should I just continue to let him brush his teeth on his own? What did you do? Advice or personal experiences welcome!,2.6437723214285707,5.3093452968750015,3.094464285714285,89.16125000000002,80.40625,6.1571428571428575,23.205357142857146,7.447530270364453,1.0300919642857145,265,9,52,4,7,82,49,64,0.059000000000000004,0.769,0.172,0.8286,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,1,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,6,3,3,0,1,9,7,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,11,2,8,4,2,7,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,2,3,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5412056172362457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601752533275667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708806861355976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831692417016818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103473014473288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905807310762537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417956746688703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28172697545628084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082092149699893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720722824274123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18801035629034768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489841431362369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-Dinkin--Flicka-,2020/01/23,"A story about a “naughty bad child” So I take my daughter to a toddler group once a week and there is a young (2 or 3 year old) boy there, I will call him Pete for the sake of the story, 

Pete has been coming with his grandmother for awhile and he is such a terror. It’s so bad that I won’t even let my daughter sit by him. From his behavior it also seems like he may have a form of autism as well. His Grandmother is awful with him.  He will do something like just STAND UP during story time and his Grandmother will literally yell at him (interrupting group and taking all the kids attention to her) and yell “your such a naughty boy! Sit down! That’s it we’re leaving because your bad!” And Pete will scream and kick and yell. Sometimes she will take him out and other times she will leave him there freaking out. She sits in a chair away from him while most of us sit on the floor (if we are able to) with our children/grandkids.  

When the kids have free playtime he will hit and scream and grab toys and his grandma will freak and tell him he is bad and then he will throw. The throwing is AWFUL. He has hurt kids before.  He doesn’t speak very well and often makes grunting noises at her.

Fast forward months later and his Grandpa brings him into group one day.  Pete gets upset a couple times and grandpa speaks softly to him. Pete stands up and Grandpa reaches out (he is sitting on the floor with him) and gently pulls him over to sit down,. Grandpa gives him hugs and tells him what a good job he is doing.

Fast forward to the past two weeks... Pete is a wonderful kid. He LOVES his grandpa. When he got to try tablet learning him and his grandpa talked together and pointed at the pictures, Pete didn’t freak out when it was time to go. And today when Pete was looking forward to trying something during an activity he didn’t rush up or tell them it was his turn. I actually had to point out that he hadn’t had a turn yet, and he was SO proud of himself when he completed the task.  And told his Grandpa “I DID IT!” And his Grandpa gave him a BIG hug.  And Pete shares wonderfully. And NO throwing! 

I’m actually crying a little as I type all this. I’ve wanted to tell the Grandpa how great Pete is doing with him, and what a difference having him in his life is making.  But I don’t want to bring up anything Incase the Grandma is his wife. 

I’m so happy for Pete. It must feel so good for him to be loved like this, I knew that kids don’t respond well to anger and to verbal abuse, but to actually see a kid do a complete turn around in behavior and learning, in a matter of weeks, is amazing.  

I’m so so over the moon happy for Pete and his Grandpa.",2.8779031007751925,4.349934846296296,3.9484151593453936,89.12182170542637,74.6111111111111,6.282515073212748,23.854435831180016,6.7210904114959815,0.6709061154177434,2067,61,434,17,43,670,234,540,0.071,0.823,0.105,0.9577,1,0,2,0,1,0,55.0,3,2,1,1,28,32,1,2,33,2,50,5,0,3,3,72,82,55,0,4,6,13,3,3,0,12,1,7,0,9,16,46,0,0,8,1,1,12,8,13,3,2,15,12,55,20,62,52,4,76,0,1,2,4,101,34,0,9,31,288,71,4,0.0851888831950128,0.10093489639682293,0.249396184062586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812551911315595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010319230623294,0.07583616713562072,0.0,0.0,0.08003776000826758,0.0,0.2845166365032298,0.0519303525010529,0.0,0.07248946514123213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698737443024361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338267973328187,0.1786378464872854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425987893682723,0.09357598802793822,0.054939782160313866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900425140926052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056266453914813656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043074058982940616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0445076754279044,0.08172093925580208,0.048414805498309385,0.14290478692957864,0.06813333204363428,0.09392104446567844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137030048387484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119646137865137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453682171073393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804054539996351,0.0,0.08711140479032235,0.060171427535219466,0.12485695581714945,0.08538164088402493,0.0,0.0,0.0715372065153282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377258615911962,0.0,0.11372848207038025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799695381690579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893914026005636,0.0907233803383089,0.0577261919585665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132242833269547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610620601994789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788451046453693,0.07755275979004453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116512847158596,0.08425398375397064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19215431482597628,0.06847159741460837,0.2978353550578415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869729144745332,0.0,0.08074910039421136,0.08140162858222183,0.0,0.11567531948851445,0.27798312693767097,0.08321716045266357,0.0,0.1024717374530666,0.0,0.0,0.07028975033747119,0.10049322095254956,0.0,0.2050001507544544,0.0,0.2297851102976995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18476741982105896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485884775034061
parenting,bitchsnack,2020/01/23,"So my daughter and I cosleep and she’s such a pleasant baby she doesn’t wake me up lol My daughter and I cosleep and bedshare and she never cries so I’ll wake up at about 10 and she’s just laying there babbling to herself and smiling. It makes me feel bad bc I have no idea what time she wakes up and it makes me feel like a bad mom to have her laying there by herself.

She’s always slept through the night and when she was first born she wouldn’t wake up until about 9 so I don’t suspect it’s for long periods of time but still.

Does anyone have any recommendations? I would set an alarm but I don’t want to risk waking HER.",-0.1894117647058806,2.0328440370370373,1.3174291938997842,99.76137254901964,90.11111111111113,3.769063180827888,18.31154684095861,5.0885558068054335,-0.7253093681917209,495,14,116,2,17,158,76,135,0.105,0.8109999999999999,0.084,-0.5733,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,11,6,0,2,4,1,9,6,6,2,1,22,15,16,0,3,3,3,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,2,2,23,2,15,11,0,17,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,0,12,78,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378339873007472,0.0,0.0,0.15837340050931156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284232338217633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889073707732847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25581907559943123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20380388428268972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355126819081268,0.1663768877378974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809638316720896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629048183942345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377844427983633,0.0,0.0,0.2061006003525528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109121876852087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727583224821133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961936834210687,0.0,0.0,0.21855178442586054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18598650658372204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716004313362004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373647419058785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543859799369412,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YaYaBode305,2020/01/23,I'm a failure as a mother Sometimes I feel like a failure as a mother. I'm constantly disappointing my teenage daughters and I don't want them to resent or hate me. They are my world but I'm not doing things right.,0.218,2.597659133333337,2.5438888888888904,90.18250000000002,91.0,4.777777777777779,23.055555555555557,6.42735559955562,0.7132222222222229,171,7,35,2,6,58,32,45,0.27399999999999997,0.684,0.043,-0.7551,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,9,5,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,7,1,3,9,0,3,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548725871451898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21283335604769332,0.3007103574986305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155783017018784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20564368717443093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35946938749296165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163076001230196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796452179800073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24827367074744786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,carleysimone13,2020/01/23,"19 month old finds pulling hair hilarious Hi there,

So my girl went through the usual curios hair pulling stage when she was little, I thought she had grown out of it as she’d stopped doing it. But in the last maybe 2 months she’s started to do it again, but doing it hard and finding it sooo funny. She does it to me (Mum) mainly where she finds it funny, but she’ll also do it to other kids who (she thinks) are in her way at the park or playground. I watched her do it twice the other weekend while at a play centre, she went down the slide where another kid was playing and she just grabbed that kids hair like she’s the only one allowed there. But then she’ll do it to me while we’re playing and find it funny when I react and try and pry her tiny fists from my hair. I’ve tried tapping her hands, telling her no, telling her that it hurts me. I don’t really know where to go from here. I can see she likes the reaction when she does it. But I’m trying to teach her right and wrong, how can I not react? Like it actually hurts. I’m now at a loss of what to do. Any advice would be appreciated! TIA",2.3459132093466835,3.5149960686695323,3.3853719599427765,93.84660348116356,75.43776824034335,6.207820696232713,22.386504530281357,6.42735559955562,0.19132827849308545,856,22,201,6,18,275,129,233,0.09300000000000001,0.759,0.14800000000000002,0.9453,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,1,16,10,0,0,9,0,19,5,5,4,0,29,29,22,0,1,8,1,7,3,0,3,0,0,0,4,20,7,0,1,8,4,0,7,3,4,0,2,6,9,32,6,20,18,1,37,0,3,2,0,30,12,0,1,19,133,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.13247475863666092,0.0,0.0,0.13265567289485128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856114421439302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231628628110924,0.14234822653285678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375956778870408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49630093229034794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715121661067469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160748476907175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906515010660137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460596810732689,0.11065632359217434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19896529469553909,0.13605956695722485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363815308818153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21671253901773205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424493064504604,0.0,0.09198933867575423,0.10324581646773352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696646276207112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593180677264645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817708586151367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960862465313178,0.0,0.0,0.11349508392413395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23730716002966404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698465566136722,0.0,0.10777224089756636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765009031383699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951208824115814,0.0,0.0,0.10775393535386377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25168766732632136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964346091276436,0.14842393723721636,0.0,0.0
parenting,mther0dragons,2020/01/23,"Baby led weaning We recently started foods with our 5 1/2 month old LO. It’s been cleared by the lactation consultant as she’s hit every stage showing she’s ready. We’ve decided on the baby led weaning route and so far so good. Also recommend and approved by the lactation consultant. 

I was just wondering has anyone else done baby led weaning? Any tips to share or things that you did with this method. We follow the squish rule; anything that we can squish with our finger and thumb is safe for baby. I watch her really well while eating too. Anything else to be aware of? And just general advice from other parents who did this method would be appreciated. I’ve researched quite a bit but other people’s personal stories are always super helpful as well. Thanks!",4.817564102564102,7.044936251748254,5.3134440559440606,78.19273018648022,71.0979020979021,8.123310023310024,28.69988344988345,8.841846274778883,2.562711421911422,616,24,103,12,12,197,100,143,0.0,0.7829999999999999,0.217,0.9823,1,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,5,1,0,3,8,7,0,0,5,0,12,3,1,3,1,23,17,12,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,10,2,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,5,2,11,7,13,8,1,12,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,2,5,65,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890427236953052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640951336226998,0.15233775012767212,0.0,0.0,0.12450110624421055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801423306729093,0.18758774051400331,0.3013195173940369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998766300781928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18735504833865446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733719023101875,0.3058807473092239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425332665804314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213818240552708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535593459240008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271508686054948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461332118719577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921123233098689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032893730617469,0.0,0.0,0.1269250565777462,0.15985894403550127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472878544150207,0.0,0.0,0.11728613938231418,0.0,0.1807700347384727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958541195618886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685560460961859,0.0,0.0,0.12163063521931115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292229462570055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854313312659536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005522644249298,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toshortofnam,2020/01/23,Car seat question I have a newborn. Installed the base to my carseat and it isn't level because of the seat. What should I do? Would it be okay to put pool noodles under it?,0.7325000000000017,2.9611616944444457,2.0144444444444467,96.65000000000002,84.83333333333334,3.6,25.66666666666667,3.1291,0.15730000000000022,135,6,29,0,4,43,30,36,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.3094,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439176984035723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5671547600745472,0.6320085261907553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007758945742143,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inmyfeelings0,2020/01/23,"I wish I didn’t have a dad He was never a good dad. 

He’s an alcoholic smoker that stays home all day, thinking that it’s nice to not go to work. 

But I hate it; it gets me so angry to the point that I would repeatedly scratch my hand and cry from all the stress he puts on me. 
 
If you’re ever planning on becoming a dad, I am begging you to do your best to keep a good relationship with your kids. You would not want them to cry themselves to sleep because of you. 

Because sometimes they’ll  be better off without a father figure in their family.",4.1908074534161495,4.1281152608695715,5.387577639751555,85.69739130434783,70.30434782608695,8.310559006211179,27.732919254658388,7.957251820313856,1.4780310559006216,425,13,95,5,7,142,79,115,0.183,0.6920000000000001,0.126,-0.7331,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,3,4,2,7,1,1,8,0,9,3,2,0,4,18,16,4,0,5,5,4,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,6,2,1,1,2,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,2,16,5,15,10,3,12,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,1,4,64,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746124918386328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138581043056357,0.19372791212482487,0.0,0.0,0.1840832543226871,0.15513697024477074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853619789654997,0.11312572607254195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866949178636644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536208786605686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164512308932596,0.0,0.0996902391908912,0.2942532195245626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731822651419519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759517567198831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591355279506702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528794731717267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582030166809658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633672590924804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883260054302112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553790078635614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348618272383828,0.0,0.0,0.18696502227427805,0.0,0.0,0.20093296088880086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239642755833368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034620828351006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171424722778064,0.16909015738400765,0.0,0.12770145795307725,0.0,0.0,0.2492141970677556,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rthrowaway459,2020/01/23,"I discovered that my daughter (15) is gay, what can I do to help her? I was recommended to move this post here from /r/relationships

For reference, my daughter's father is not in the picture.

My daughter ""Jill"" (15) and I have had a pretty good relationship, but she's grown more distant and rebellious in the last few years. I've figured she's just a teenager being a teenager and haven't thought much of it beyond the usual issues like curfew and talking to her about sex. She assured me she wasn't going to have sex with boys.

I found out just what she meant by that last night. I'd expected to be out of town for a couple of days for work (Jill has a key to the apartment), but plans were changed at the last second and I came home late at night. Because I was stupid, my phone was dead and I'd forgotten the car charger so I couldn't call ahead.

Suffice it to say, my daughter was having sex with a friend of hers from the swim team and had left the bedroom door open and things are now extremely awkward between us.

I have basically no experience with LGBT issues, but I've told her that I love her unconditionally and that I don't mind if she brings her girlfriend over as long as they lock the door (I don't really want to encourage her to be having sex, but I figure teenagers are gonna teenager and might as well give them a safe place to do it). Jill just said ""Thanks"" and has been avoiding speaking to me.

I can't say Jill being into girls surprises me, it makes a number of things ever since she was little suddenly make sense, but I'm not sure if ""Relax, I've suspected you were gay since you were little"" would be the best approach.

Anyone who has experience with this, as a parent or the teen, do you have any advice about what I can do to be a supportive parent to Jill?

tldr: single mom came home to teenage daughter having sex with another girl, things now super awkward, how do I be a supportive parent to her?",5.4457566565554485,5.489187025839797,6.00421525671273,81.98442871587464,67.63049095607235,8.900977418267608,29.48758566453208,8.587818076936951,2.002688664195033,1517,49,311,21,23,493,193,387,0.08199999999999999,0.779,0.139,0.9756,3,1,0,0,1,0,46.0,1,3,2,6,13,20,1,3,22,0,47,8,0,3,3,56,66,25,1,6,13,10,0,1,2,3,0,4,5,3,17,22,0,2,7,3,0,9,9,4,1,1,19,4,45,16,48,36,5,41,0,0,0,8,51,16,0,4,16,217,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813069919183326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068290043854659,0.10530066821536488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021702741370105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061215996621409925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538613826456517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254154964804348,0.2297108203959658,0.0,0.0,0.10623260086830608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111444757503493,0.0,0.06476354111092511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083696972487447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646293594507425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010695962862503,0.07758537936074784,0.0,0.0,0.09633342545248844,0.05707183616268801,0.08422876538039123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731039519357608,0.0,0.2014618464868093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20962785073886187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245570705733142,0.11327979329906447,0.0,0.1091082220319127,0.0,0.0,0.04906085822870277,0.2012973911463795,0.0,0.08886984172395704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063429826122668,0.0,0.1340642233082728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653131121960033,0.10139705873045017,0.11761241309541487,0.0,0.10673213119469477,0.07382133580126246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884774955258789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33451847827781994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491906353707003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617601012525732,0.10216473814113168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433256573842157,0.0,0.0,0.2156301562584389,0.0,0.0,0.09552381517245878,0.1597183686669578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613935701694488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791419040391256,0.0946460479445102,0.0,0.0,0.08071497446334921,0.0,0.09245459841375284,0.0,0.0,0.2001466893853332,0.0,0.0,0.07972343075845457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595701897393293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079466500039154,0.0,0.11060006282856352,0.0,0.05923118540530941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029096253069006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310802687591851,0.0,0.0,0.0713365317402427,0.0,0.0,0.06466813485371978
parenting,blaj09,2020/01/23,"Frustrated toddler head bangs so hard he makes his nose bleed. Every time my 18mth old gets frustrated he purposely bangs his head. Recently he's made his nose bleed a few times either laying on his tummy on the floor banging his head or on the side of his cot. His childcare educators think it's attention seeking and frustration borne from not being able to express himself. He's our first and I'm worried about over indulging him by running to him every time he does it, but I also don't want to be cruel in ignoring him while he's clearly upset. Any ideas on the best way to deal with this??",6.1294505494505485,6.400717085470087,6.359340659340661,79.2392307692308,66.17948717948718,9.42075702075702,32.0989010989011,9.23628265651192,2.7227054945054947,477,18,90,8,7,153,82,117,0.179,0.75,0.07200000000000001,-0.8743,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,3,7,4,1,4,0,3,7,5,2,1,15,9,7,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,1,3,14,1,15,6,3,18,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,1,8,51,17,0,0.18467569209917029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768508425021665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558580342675846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380574527330494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039252947181656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161094266351156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31119447118167903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708504935793322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964854269137158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543314611818746,0.0,0.5685916170966275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084763775774627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474460513566398,0.123272458506447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937860730628888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234496650643064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833272661952968,0.0,0.0,0.3230576435568051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089265079822845,0.14658696844241567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18754712969812806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DiscombobulatedBank6,2020/01/23,"How much time should you spend with your kids/How long should they entertain themselves? Two part question here.

My kids are 4,5 and 6. I feel like I am constantly with the young ones. Cooking, doing washing, cleaning, day trips and being asked a million questions. The oldest one does not stop talking.

I feel guilty if I don't let them ""help"" with tasks or just hang out and make conversation but the longer the day goes on the harder they are to be around.

My question is do you constantly have the kids in your vicinity or do you send them on their way?

​

Being close in age the kids often play together but I cannot find peace without being interrupted every 10 minutes by one of them for some silly reason.

I want to pick up the guitar again so I want some uninterrupted time.  Is it reasonable of me to expect the kids to stay out of my room for an hour whilst I do this?",3.034053468208093,5.2541047861271695,3.56444725433526,88.76551481213876,76.28323699421965,6.405924855491331,22.95122832369942,7.413659706084162,0.8676476878612718,700,21,140,9,16,219,113,173,0.033,0.88,0.087,0.6359,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,5,6,0,7,4,0,0,11,0,19,2,0,5,0,38,25,10,0,6,8,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,2,4,2,10,1,1,8,4,1,3,4,0,0,5,0,2,23,4,22,18,4,29,0,0,0,0,23,10,0,9,15,101,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475550229057408,0.17355325023226428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714837123436268,0.13352612826128898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086954952699832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422618340302346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499089538906552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033985741333975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443758562690548,0.10203729062180647,0.0,0.0,0.13054340563150044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573547861305792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065810373835996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605265077834134,0.0,0.06977918834356356,0.0,0.0,0.12639944851373733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533967633375506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049959801077444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903545193140311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467022869185432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800045598723228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29370464642634514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223704492011114,0.0,0.1194117021663918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480079249671316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656984345637155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395234860878783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848886022102114,0.11337126147537142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768236203804252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355325023226428,0.0
parenting,colieeeravioli,2020/01/23,"Feeling helpless and trapped Hello,

So I want to begin by saying I am a 25 yr old single mother of wonderful four year old girl. I work full time and am pursuing a bachelors degree to give my daughter a better life and live on my own. I have about a year (slightly more) until I finish school and graduate. Unfortunately, I live with my mother and her bf and my mother is completely psycho. She is depressed and suffers from bipolar disorder and on top of it she is a terrible alcoholic who screams, yells and is violent. She drinks almost everyday and is hitting and punching everyone and obviously this is not the environment I want for my daughter. Her father is not involved and does not pay child support and says the only way he will help me is if I get back with him- but I honestly find him repulsive and disgusting and really REALLY do not want to go back to him bc he’s rather lazy and again, doesn’t help with our daughter. I want to move out badly- as my mom and I are driving each other crazy and I’m sick of her endless drama and alcoholism. My daughters daycare is $216 a week and I barely make any money as it is. So my question is, what should I do? Should I just drop out and work two jobs and try to get an apartment? Should i get back with her father even tho I don’t like him just so he can help with watching her ? I’m at a loss here as I can’t be living with relatives and I don’t have any friends I can stay with. Sorry for the long post. Thank you for reading and any advice.",2.617360482654604,4.359179333333337,4.309150326797386,85.13040723981901,75.9281045751634,7.452790346907995,25.821518350930123,8.263242389622931,1.678632378079436,1180,43,240,21,26,397,167,306,0.145,0.737,0.11800000000000001,-0.8673,1,1,3,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,0,5,14,15,2,0,11,0,29,6,0,1,1,58,47,35,0,9,9,10,1,1,2,4,5,4,0,2,6,35,3,0,4,3,2,3,8,9,0,2,0,6,42,6,31,41,5,30,0,4,1,0,41,8,0,4,16,170,48,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132858802544501,0.0,0.24350759831996305,0.11408188688129604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324237232939522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628095359262002,0.09512466407542748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075957351027713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945076637420395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812554788922576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057073076396936,0.0,0.09969868141665933,0.0,0.0,0.11160553080504952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524800789357583,0.0,0.0,0.10886256310693684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760514311536032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412762760510057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802006718371977,0.0,0.17856717522988866,0.10928959360938237,0.06474759670865939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290895097471952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305541730100667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047032892801265,0.05565919858820865,0.0,0.3018000833863676,0.10082221036489164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604745919756008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343045542334814,0.0,0.12108685213404455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23909539345375685,0.0,0.0,0.08664696138549481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911100702782804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762482031002131,0.0,0.11395828287561098,0.0,0.14596968668717367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811993658647007,0.0,0.1153006642152498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753245568349647,0.0,0.1214315058233562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928352298309956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048890916158809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643201372662699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773492618456269,0.0,0.11129056677542594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26878945294604506,0.0904303088993364,0.0913857303886603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354946240454515,0.16588108456277353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673108828929748
parenting,devilicious91,2020/01/23,"Can nanny work while we're on vacation? We give our nanny 2 weeks of vacation - one of her choice and one of ours. We're now taking an extra week of vacation and paying her.

Is it fair for her to come in our absence and work on things like planning kids' activities, meal planning, cleaning/chores, etc. related to her regular job?",4.030781250000004,5.682711765625001,5.25825,80.16175000000003,71.96875,8.870000000000003,28.425,9.3871,2.602191250000001,259,10,49,6,5,86,44,64,0.0,0.9179999999999999,0.08199999999999999,0.6322,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,1,10,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,5,32,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25219590701713784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265165560686413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28085219118214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905295977902977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303290337789568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967778062221223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22012701948620272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945037457410374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4696857546047667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262808977187493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Liliac100,2020/01/23,"What’s the process with CPS in Canada? My friend just lost her kids to CPS after what looks like repeated hounding and bad luck. They are not had people, but very young parents with 3 kids and a lack of support networks, etc.

She just called me but I’m out of town. What happens next? How can they get their kids back? They have a trumped up cleanliness issue (were in the middle of a deep clean when cps arrived and it looked messy) and a landlord who didn’t remove garbage.

I don’t want to go into much personal information but I’m hoping someone has some suggestions or information about what happens now, I want to help them as I can.",2.6973809523809527,4.947429293650796,3.2081746031746046,90.7632142857143,77.49206349206351,6.104761904761905,24.785714285714285,7.1686216300943375,0.981790476190476,505,18,103,6,12,157,91,126,0.052000000000000005,0.768,0.18,0.9412,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,5,1,7,7,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,1,0,24,22,11,0,4,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,6,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,2,12,5,16,18,4,17,0,1,2,0,19,8,0,4,8,68,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069373424435626,0.17449067175377758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133932916539069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330694117931764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614584482371627,0.0,0.1091841135065011,0.0,0.11876889925391187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696029794753432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007577262273774,0.0,0.0,0.2075656030155328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21812220141512725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209771614260277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509833484231178,0.0,0.2281277957421796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362531476254487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22225400301743928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320490228717805,0.0,0.0,0.14488133301422246,0.18247442648901024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770691929562568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23714952364119146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243147401893927,0.24652519228712466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemonsage12,2020/01/23,4 year old holding stools My 4 year old previously had issues holding her stools and had resolved that issue over the past 6 months. She started holding again this week. How do we go about helping her regain control or help her go?,3.873409090909093,6.231544068181822,3.986363636363638,86.07454545454546,74.22727272727272,5.3090909090909095,29.181818181818183,5.985473137389443,1.3096545454545458,185,8,33,1,4,57,34,44,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,9,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,2,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,9,18,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684127268612689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27201707215053944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208163230224332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4995664940291086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910193803533512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022428028071809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284537614842256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693887705444664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919644904236064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082227222232865
parenting,mummanightowl291,2020/01/23,"20 month old started waking numerous times each hour of the night, he doesn’t want anything and I feel bad for leaving him to self settle. Is sleep regression at 20 months a thing? It’s been like this for a few days now. The constant waking every hour numerous times. He’s stopped napping during the day also...he used to nap every day between 1-2 hours. We took his dummy away a week ago and all was fine until a few days ago. He sleeps with a comfort blanket and usually a teddy so assumed he’d got over the missing dummy really quickly as he’s used those for comfort at nighttime. Could it be he’s missing out on sleep during the daytime to make him this unsettled? (Will not nap for anyone unless in the car). Anyone else going through this?",3.00683471933472,5.0005311283783795,4.078378378378378,86.09988565488571,75.55405405405405,6.1754677754677765,26.249480249480253,7.010146845296331,1.288440124740125,589,22,111,6,13,191,99,148,0.08800000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.5212,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,12,0,8,5,5,3,1,19,19,7,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,2,3,0,3,2,3,0,0,4,1,6,4,21,11,4,33,0,2,0,0,11,7,0,2,24,64,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23428892674928714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568162605979912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848070114935004,0.13540498148744182,0.10874954717922718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416082451875547,0.0,0.1103411070408987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280898497014902,0.0,0.10551233854836743,0.0,0.0,0.3409075242086117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103957455142931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22268692808258936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668198445101284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510482763341123,0.0,0.10569374608777088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39042826339528414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399295152310694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456262052460307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821225196498696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096437106182575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401537050513445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867092545602885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846597303655366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786299124061696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967412623951673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353761743113714,0.0,0.0,0.11048469602723324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779568358278286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411737867983133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682534466710812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22827318903961336,0.14554637126629436,0.0,0.07794646658480428,0.0,0.10600408166309268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pissed_as_a_fart,2020/01/23,"My son (3yrs old) is hitting kids and being defiant as hell at daycare. This just started maybe within the past 20 days. He used to have an undercut down to his chin and we decided to cut it which was met with excitement from him. He was very shy and quiet before we chopped it all off down to an inch. It was shortly thereafter, like 2 days, that the hitting of other kids and saying ""No."" When told to clean up had started. My lady and I haven't really done anything except explain how this is not good to do.  he repeats how this isn't a good thing so like he KNOWS what he's doing is wrong and he tells us he misbehaves but he's still doing it. Any suggestions?",2.1762254901960816,3.9838684852941166,3.580000000000002,89.58166666666668,77.38235294117645,6.5921568627450995,23.833333333333336,7.492282038375204,1.016330392156863,518,17,109,7,12,170,93,136,0.106,0.841,0.054000000000000006,-0.6431,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,5,0,15,0,0,3,1,20,24,12,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,12,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,2,8,5,17,14,1,17,1,0,0,0,22,8,1,0,11,73,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652701641711652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773134842086866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833491344654956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779207016410111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22050066117403885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614520943624796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841669930687128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053555608822516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646861696385733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260995616885497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056905347333147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803562545912493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135042465038444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050216075651335,0.0,0.17207465278838227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833031274505074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314872069205467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205890857596393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591839287624784,0.18609693350416787,0.0,0.17778534937541776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355826643852008,0.0,0.0
parenting,Keralei,2020/01/23,"Too much TV/passive parenting caused developmental delays in toddler? So... Some context and background.

My husband has been a stay at home dad with our little girl, who will be 2 in late Feb, since she came home from the hospital. 

Now if I had has the luxury I would have loved to have stay home with her. But I'm very far in my career and make a good living and he's an army vet still finding his purpose and after getting out of the army hasn't worked a job that's paid more than 12 bucks an hour so it made sense for us for me to be the breadwinner and he would watch our daughter and do school online/at night. 

She's always been a month behind on her milestones... But our pediatrician never said anything was out of norm plus she was born over a month early... So we just figured it was just time balancing itself out. But 3 weeks she started daycare when my husband enrolled in welding school and I look at her compared to the other kids and she's... Not at the same level they are. Now this daycare transition has been AWFUL (but that's a separate post..) but I feel like I have failed my daughter.


My husband has always made excuses or denied about the level of TV he's let her watch, but looking back I just don't think he did much with her besides watch TV, snuggle her and play on his phone, or play with her outside... And by that I mean letting her run around in a safe controlled environment with her toys while he plays on his phone. 

Some of the things that concerns me... 

She doesn't interact with us. She doesn't like to mimic us, I can't say a word and get her to repeat it back to me. She doesn't get the art or purpose of conversation. She also doesn't like to respond to her name, and I think this is because my husband only uses her name when he's trying to stop her from doing what she wants to do, or discipline her. So she just ignores us. She says words, but, it's because she watches us and just happens to catch on. An example of this would be that she says ""SHOO!"" When our dogs get around her because that's what we do to them and it amuses her. But I'm thinking of these larger milestones and I want to cry. How can we potty train her when I can't get her to look at me? When she doesn't find mimicking me interesting? I've been trying to teach her to point at her eyes, nose, mouth and she couldn't care less or just doesn't make there connection that this is interaction. The only things I have successfully been able to say and have her do are give high fives, blow kisses, give kisses and wave bye bye. I've tried making it all a game, at different times, but I'm set up for failure because my husband isn't consistent and I only get a few hours a day with her...

The doctor has never suspected autism because she makes eye contact, is very affectionate, does say words and babbles all the time, doesn't have sensory issues, and up until now has met all her milestones even if it's a month late. She suspected a speech delay, but my husband brushed it off as she's always been a month behind. I am not sure if it's a hearing issue... Because she does hear us. And she also definitely understands 'no'. But she's 2 and still won't call me 'mama'... Just does her hand gestures for when she wants me. It's killing me inside.


I'm scared and I'm angry. I wish I had put her in daycare when she turned 1 instead of wait until almost 2. I'm growing more and more angry and bitter to our husband because he's been a passive parent. I'm scared that we can't recover from this. 

Has anyone ever been through something similar? Any advice or words to help set my mind at ease is most welcome right now ...",3.2653426248548207,4.557257798102982,4.259669957413859,87.99533536585365,73.32249322493227,6.897444831591174,25.37369337979095,7.310402129719878,1.0515059233449482,2837,90,597,30,56,920,305,738,0.079,0.81,0.11,0.9625,4,0,1,0,0,0,92.0,15,0,2,4,37,24,2,2,31,1,64,9,5,10,7,128,111,65,1,11,29,12,2,3,0,5,1,9,3,2,31,44,0,8,11,9,2,5,20,6,0,1,20,23,102,18,78,80,14,86,0,1,9,3,119,33,0,13,48,407,133,9,0.05992102558693201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05855413270366117,0.0,0.0,0.06000225155109945,0.0,0.0,0.09583764502599852,0.14957728038481552,0.0,0.0,0.0407483521786353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04189817432362325,0.0,0.04930989845578017,0.10668483353505008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215113994435498,0.0,0.25569110721659405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06118606669655002,0.0685336901280922,0.06109347911288865,0.06155539928393473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720652538396865,0.0,0.0,0.06582043293264808,0.0386441043608066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260471819816335,0.0,0.06133170875948241,0.15731187987536968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03957727227151698,0.054201998186836575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03029787096212226,0.04280759265209126,0.0,0.0,0.10953346365109616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783757632027195,0.11496341561199633,0.0,0.05025891332851545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298796503429802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350707015279243,0.0,0.04016380036991051,0.06330985342518733,0.18031702297645985,0.0,0.1180202800633851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508396548312908,0.059462371929103384,0.0,0.06629373677339735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518705367644518,0.0,0.0,0.12254661687265972,0.0,0.08782315912158645,0.06005660945635465,0.052911363397340455,0.0,0.15095570999128566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054081065065240456,0.1133974464802831,0.15999099949466522,0.0,0.0,0.06527156331475728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050315427853203,0.0,0.1913135637742356,0.0,0.08809769681592956,0.0,0.09242957789338943,0.0,0.0,0.056231823351741074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671792031106167,0.0,0.0,0.1330704154780029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05664473736675279,0.0,0.05738777881093145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023718101318711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117222844831852,0.05699861710996192,0.2382580230029493,0.11998279983990015,0.12128655384970742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956729157230308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04613013297326128,0.0,0.0,0.0424124103222566,0.12773568105904812,0.09570601687373624,0.05009666047658965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647485747947409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796177336754883,0.11518492107341274,0.0,0.0,0.10482129567558962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204732916231477,0.0651768690829318,0.0,0.06237990086446329,0.4324656953987665,0.05175252708486927,0.0,0.09888224309336284,0.10602892017423683,0.0,0.048065032345291234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890622223218533,0.0,0.0,0.04362322028325688,0.0,0.0,0.12769853207623127,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,somethingtellsme,2020/01/24,"Too polite? Just a little Friday chuckle:  As we are eating  dinner our family dog sneezes and at the same time my tween, teen, and I all say ""bless you"" to him.  I fear we are a bit too polite.  To be fair, we are Canadian.",1.2145652173913035,2.71715893478261,3.5167391304347824,90.33206521739132,79.21739130434783,6.339130434782609,18.02173913043478,7.1686216300943375,0.1047565217391302,165,3,37,2,4,57,36,46,0.066,0.78,0.154,0.5141,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,4,2,0,0,1,8,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,2,4,3,3,3,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325348361800039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053993748808784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734909177980795,0.4458218034612839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39708459783897104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150647101208402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102049002921865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uninspiredusername9s,2020/01/24,"Please I need advice My grandmother is raising my nephew into the biggest asshole I've ever met. His father is a woman beater and a meth head and my sister is in a prison because shes batshit. I live in this house with my grandmother, my nephew and niece and the dad of my nephew practically lives here even though he's supposed to be living at his place but he hangs outside the garage and leaves trash and junk everywhere. My nephew in particular has never been disciplined longer than an hour like once every few years and he gets everything that he wants. He's very much a master manipulater and the way he treats other human beings is absolutely disgusting, especially his sister but nothing ever comes of it, in fact he is practically rewarded. He has all the game systems he can imagine, millions of toys and he has two highly luxurious phones now. Two. Why??? Because he got one to settle him and the other is the one he wanted which was an iPhone 11 or 12 idk I'm not familiar with Apple products. I understand the whole his parents are shitty and he should get some slack argument but this is beyond just some 10 year old rebellion and bad attitude. She is doing an incredible disservice to him and herself by allowing him to act this way and she acts so incredibly blind to it and whenever I've tried to talk about it she gets angry and defensive. I'm at a complete loss as to what to do. I have tried so many times to be a kind and positive influence and his sister thrives under the the life lessons and advice I give her but he outright screams and ignores me. Ive thought about calling CPS because in all honesty the chaos they're constantly around is such a terrible environment to them mentally but it just wouldn't be enough for CPS to really do anything and my gram is really good at manipulating too. I just want my nephew's attitude and actions to be changed and for him to become more self aware but I don't think anything short of a boarding school would do anything and I know this sounds dramatic but I don't want my grandmother to be one of those old ladies that gets murdered by their terrible grandchild on 2020 and he's already greedy and self entitled and nasty as it is, I can't imagine him getting older because he's going to get worse and worse and worse. There's a lot more history but it would be hours of writing and hours of you guys reading. Does anyone have any substantial advice? All I want is for them to grow up to be good and sound adults and it's just not going to happen unless something happens.",5.490424242424243,6.470702365656571,6.017171717171718,78.63909090909092,67.76767676767676,9.313131313131311,31.161616161616163,9.496760409515344,2.808373737373737,2041,80,382,41,33,661,255,495,0.155,0.768,0.077,-0.9940000000000001,1,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,3,4,19,15,3,0,23,0,42,3,1,3,7,87,68,47,1,10,16,11,0,1,0,4,2,3,0,6,18,37,0,3,7,3,0,8,7,9,0,6,5,4,43,6,52,51,12,43,0,1,1,0,60,18,0,4,15,253,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24451646363164725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204297779395068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056720408469214924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583209242752224,0.0,0.2059134246503681,0.07425094527811282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964232900224986,0.20337935881876376,0.0921177588316591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516905617284215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823477294613437,0.0718487437200381,0.08745186805397727,0.09013458884441032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299104222648241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618292489880691,0.0,0.05509030253534435,0.15089491047527212,0.07027497152208076,0.0,0.07496187533359243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26146392394093554,0.08001270657451819,0.09480555807301408,0.1399176133903601,0.06670912442265492,0.0,0.0,0.08258719105733027,0.14751511950825186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560083463229125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812529966022824,0.0,0.0,0.2464207066644089,0.0962418171663575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685676265259892,0.04583894300517085,0.0,0.0,0.08831719744514988,0.0,0.0,0.05891364954182874,0.0407490134946284,0.0,0.2209527981453258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091063427979971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456278203866463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405580670307328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061314594105433724,0.061846093213725736,0.06432951435394395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003237831896322,0.0,0.17504566471452299,0.08882696744019791,0.16955858195855827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261489014318773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714377388152933,0.09155711184274223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343073067003723,0.0,0.10686680519116247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441351009754174,0.0,0.0,0.17402580145683372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421167593506866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670403189502576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344458056558938,0.08194809296457813,0.06621676165285127,0.048635968402088114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325733013391698,0.0,0.1629553037911475,0.08683083531305605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882046658009895,0.2459814667461035,0.13241102894511048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526289040266068,0.09312223111168236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25500012006450523,0.11850152645077355,0.0,0.0,0.10742423981017883
parenting,disneydatknee89,2020/01/24,"Bio dad has reappeared after 4 years Sorry this is long. Ok so I have a 10, almost 11 year old son from a previous relationship. His biological dad was in and out of his life for the first few years. We split when my son was about 6 months old and he moved straight in with another woman who started playing step mum. It was hard going but ultimately I respected her for making an effort to keep the relationship going with my kid and his dad. While that played out, I let him be as involved as he wanted with my son. But he ended up cheating on this woman and fleeing the country. 

He was incognito for about 4 years. Travelling and such. No contact with me or his son (he also had 2 other kids by 2 other woman by this point). Last month, out of the blue I receive a message that hes back in the UK (where we live) and hes ready to settle down and accept his responsibilities as a father. Ok. What the fuck do I do? 

He has not paid towards his son for around 6/7 years although that is not uncommon around here. We have no law enforcement for that in the UK and we do ok without it. I'm married now and my husband and I provide quite well without him. He has randomly decided to start paying me now too. So I feel like I have an obligation to adhere to his request. We put this money in my sons savings account by the way. It's not mine and i dont need it!

 Basically I met my now husband when my son was 2 and we moved in together when he was 4. Since we moved in together (almost 7 years ago now), my husband has been amazing. He stepped up and has done all the dad stuff. He taught him to ride a bike. He loves him like a son. He disciplines him like a son. He takes pride in all he does. Attends every school play, awards assembly. Hes been there through all the bad and good times. And now I feel terrible like his biological dad coming back on the scene to play Disney dad is somehow going to take away all hard work hes put in to raising my son.

His biological dad is not a nice person. He is a narcissist and will manipulate everyone around him. Why did he skip the country? He cheated on his wife with her best friend which resulted in baby number 3. And now hes back. I do not know what to do. I dont know if hes going to stick around? I dont want my son to miss out on an opportunity to bond with his father but at the same time I dont want him to be let down. Do I give him a chance to reconnect? If I do, what ground rules do I put down?

TDLR: my sons bio dad is back after 4 years of dossing around Europe travelling. Do I let him back into my sons life or tell him to do one?!",1.360808823529414,3.1401103455882327,3.4682735294117637,89.57525588235298,79.73529411764707,6.557882352941178,22.277058823529405,7.554174236665415,0.7784558529411765,2004,62,451,30,50,683,233,544,0.069,0.78,0.152,0.9944,0,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,7,0,0,8,31,30,3,0,26,3,51,4,0,3,4,81,78,35,0,6,14,28,4,4,1,1,2,0,0,6,20,41,0,2,6,7,4,19,13,6,1,2,14,5,70,24,76,58,7,93,0,1,1,2,101,36,1,8,41,303,90,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599724031853475,0.0,0.1491059247958228,0.0,0.0,0.059539268620968325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806945439448082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313904969129565,0.0,0.0,0.0699501413712175,0.2862451113749198,0.06216434262968014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813282151475863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641338390905944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515348097732225,0.07619028500510208,0.3490289404707321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594240794212923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272905387538821,0.07114211375462759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529037581705493,0.053188551476581865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633288662666442,0.0,0.0,0.057521460578904365,0.06882971027207922,0.0,0.07142117986987083,0.16925123785157986,0.06244683788823657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338880599281935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661763930515624,0.0,0.0,0.08183378699651941,0.060688348696400114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22839676220944855,0.10517535378705743,0.14549402198307895,0.0,0.06574251438589336,0.06588771157010412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719587192180944,0.0,0.04969731410483828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885381429498755,0.23739220434065966,0.0,0.05520524347657843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624978131909087,0.0,0.050450628402227415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650086486309354,0.0,0.0,0.07038124179967886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453458869994847,0.0,0.07918890786795209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598672537923803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534943818590592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06158749595603315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334296208633149,0.10539507269213623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852297720626018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195733518594267,0.0,0.06507436361753109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868271652367062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174122461236515,0.059096563032996964,0.0,0.0,0.06694132431435929,0.0,0.06718138484627523,0.0,0.0,0.1435382173723216,0.0,0.05420197104909912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33561270438370905
parenting,Cadence_828,2020/01/24,"To helmet or not to helmet? I need help!

I have a not-quite 5 month old daughter. She is amazing, and perfect in every way. And, it turns out, perfect heads are a tad misshapen. 

We went to see a specialist yesterday, who took pictures and said the words “Moderate Positional Plagiocephaly,” which means “her head is a little flat on the side.”

Now, my husband and I can barely see it, even after the doctor mentioned it. I sent the photos taken by the specialist to my family, and even with an arrow pointing to it, they can’t see it. 

The specialist recommended a headband/helmet thing that my daughter would have to wear for 23 hours a day, for 10 weeks. Also, we would need to drive an hour away into the big city nearby once a week, for adjustments. And then she said it’s our choice. The misshapen-ness wouldn’t cause any developmental issues or hurt her in any way. Also, without treatment, it is unlikely to get any better or worse, according to the specialist. 

I don’t want to do it. I think it would be putting my baby through a lot to fix a problem that she likely wouldn’t even notice. I also read a lot of information online that said the helmet may not actually make a difference. 

My husband is worried that, if we don’t do it, our daughter will grow up and become resentful that we could have fixed it but didn’t, because of just 10 weeks of inconvenience that she won’t remember. He says that, while it may not work any better than no treatment, doing it wouldn’t hurt anything. 

Has anyone ever opted NOT to get the helmet and regretted their choice?",5.684884977344026,6.266012420529805,6.316232136632973,78.08859707215058,67.17880794701986,9.13935169048449,30.13314743813175,9.134995656068208,2.4844543046357623,1229,43,230,21,19,402,162,302,0.083,0.8590000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.8463,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,6,0,2,5,9,11,1,0,24,0,29,4,3,2,3,53,48,18,0,13,11,5,0,1,0,10,1,4,0,0,23,15,0,0,5,1,0,6,14,5,0,0,8,7,26,6,31,28,2,33,0,3,3,0,29,11,0,8,15,164,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0973461351825816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23932123966169944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713462934783657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975076106382049,0.0,0.08208956597259541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372276446123083,0.0,0.0,0.06080950035760775,0.11017115839385744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644973854430573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247549008886037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964595992215315,0.0,0.0,0.06433348787410527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422236316979176,0.0,0.1021030971487098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976609892673928,0.09023377953201303,0.08404758340714331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403979310370007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423536042026936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475407197334886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686342992842725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647644529334396,0.0,0.2135788025203651,0.0,0.0,0.10411792315745004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048735076461361236,0.09998035198711544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16961564892878772,0.0,0.0,0.06658699429191008,0.0,0.0,0.10866204292970147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962319892516684,0.0,0.0,0.14793359755836633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357131451873555,0.10467571018886916,0.10623543194731684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430037478658244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545171471556343,0.0,0.10028096182797054,0.0,0.1061013346729853,0.0997816312526802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113002556846028,0.0,0.2846685079137359,0.07932889058913926,0.0,0.0,0.2384745894004237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627254776242998,0.06391874298141538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083107130217004,0.0,0.10850439895487898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883786900278903,0.15836117408874514,0.2400514562338064,0.0,0.0,0.09247354718544992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615990957458234,0.0,0.07262256324844868,0.10130567529826832,0.10165849659680036,0.21258849443537192,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,23Juice1996,2020/01/24,"My brother’s wife is pregnant with his first kid and I think I’m more excited than they are I’ve always wanted a niece or nephew or just a baby I could play with take care of before I have one of my own. I don’t know the whole just caring for a baby makes me happy. I have already decided to be visiting him more when the baby is born to help and I already plan on crocheting a baby bassinet and a play mat and a knitted baby crib bumper although his mother in law wasn’t to happy about this, they come from the richest family in Africa so she thinks handmade items are not expensive enough or good enough for her grandkids but his wife said she loves the idea and would love for me to make them anyways told my mom about it and she said I shouldn’t make them if her mom doesn’t want it to avoid any problem but like if his wife is okay with it  and he is okay with it and his wife actually wants it does it really matter what her mother likes. Her mom seemed cool at the beginning but it looks like she is going to be a problem in the future. We are not as rich as they are not even close but we are not poor either, I would say above average. He has a big house, a good job, good health, I think the whole idea of marrying a very wealthy girl scares him because he constantly thinks he has to live up to their expectations which I know is affecting him now but he just pretends it’s fine, my mom has spoken to him that he needs to slow down or he will cause a problem for himself in the future and he doesn’t need to take her to the most expensive restaurant every week or buy her the most expensive jeweries or stuffs and that they Haven’t even spent up to 5 years he has enough time for all of this, which I agree with my mom. His wife though doesn’t seem to be the kind of person that likes getting whatever she wants most of it I think it’s just my brother. I think he is just scared of what her family would say about him if he doesn’t do all this. A few days ago my brother asked me for money, something he has never done in his life, I knew something was wrong because he has never asked to borrow money from me ever it’s usually the other way round and he never lets me pay back, I felt bad so I sent him all savings that I had been gathering for a year and told he could pay me before February 2020. He is also doing what my dad does taking on other people’s responsibilities which I think is risky for him, I mean my dad is very rich so he can afford to do that but as for him I don’t think he should be doing that yet. I have spoken to him and so has my mom but I don’t think he will stop, because he got it from my dad and mom so
They can’t even blame him but I get why my mom is concerned. I know this whole post is not about me but I just needed to say what’s on my mind. I just hope their marriage turns out better than my parents and he doesn’t end up like my dad because I like his wife and I wouldn’t want a man with that attitude for her. He already has a lot of my dad’s character and I’m hoping this major one is not part of it and I hope she is Atleast half as much a my mom because if I tell you that I have met someone who is more loving more caring, more patient, more forgiving, more generous, more shady, lol or more empathetic than my mother. I would be lying to you. Sometimes it annoys me but she always says that’s who she is and no matter how bad someone treats her she won’t change. I think that’s one reason my dad gets away with the way he treats her because he knows she wouldn’t do anything about it. Okay now I’m going off what this post was initially about. lol gonna stop here don’t wanna bore you with a random stranger family issue or something",2.8246223382884708,3.725218120865144,3.9448921923128464,91.34021092808358,73.89821882951655,6.991616445694389,22.440873175304674,7.2039019648360325,0.5041750636132312,2897,68,664,29,57,943,286,786,0.081,0.7559999999999999,0.163,0.9963,3,1,3,0,0,0,35.0,2,3,9,3,32,47,1,3,30,6,75,5,0,7,7,144,140,55,0,30,36,30,2,6,0,12,2,6,0,4,44,32,0,3,24,3,13,5,26,11,0,5,16,10,113,36,79,104,29,53,0,0,2,3,134,18,0,22,32,452,157,3,0.0,0.0,0.0474276836129675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04308196162694095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089763776249955,0.038866299161062184,0.08088005258695223,0.0,0.0,0.03305042910153997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039994581763023285,0.0,0.0908709755314668,0.0,0.045662353331879325,0.037371262327435206,0.08115981246518121,0.17776075474679795,0.0,0.08271194920437497,0.0,0.0,0.042983742279927635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486562468441807,0.04992673939137442,0.05141354207858818,0.04186556258040118,0.0,0.05252054628301008,0.0,0.07760808133068796,0.0,0.0,0.03134370258140153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506233756984287,0.04973582105998545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043046167913070255,0.1506538506687937,0.0,0.0963017467926913,0.04396249670127975,0.04094854086186411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745043537637844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046664698141466184,0.0,0.0,0.04134008896749297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617623985827351,0.0,0.055242274519668164,0.1222929440976604,0.0388707565170904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034735947601275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051660719273011683,0.0,0.0,0.032576307153596135,0.0,0.0,0.14481563895920574,0.0,0.05607916869263156,0.0,0.10972950044450186,0.0,0.05072694369107718,0.048229113634750416,0.0,0.0,0.050610588913460604,0.1068396209949156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04969793937712878,0.034328409294724783,0.14246431763898956,0.0,0.04291568053999735,0.0,0.040812701404201145,0.0,0.0,0.04131893535431355,0.1315932285191878,0.0,0.09732487762637748,0.0,0.0,0.05294086902518055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04907327791160578,0.5122894130613829,0.0,0.0,0.035727416287405785,0.10811134691018033,0.11245254277984312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880013284143667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396579367170248,0.05263027824561964,0.0,0.03369389807190423,0.04243662450459604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309287926887007,0.0,0.0,0.13951412813731348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031135122820876663,0.04997004722300498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246159184156293,0.15459824952157425,0.09731640195237186,0.0,0.0,0.08848927103980875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235914475685815,0.1122465528858922,0.04806775171362647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126542727651948,0.0,0.0,0.05563665619580039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096259842469675,0.0,0.04247952221542707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31141636115036986,0.04775035493621655,0.0,0.028339704681964537,0.0,0.0,0.09288090835445344,0.0,0.0,0.0528640638336098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352726882004954,0.08020203002152124,0.14333100283291084,0.07715461581676622,0.03898488794901929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04385495257108714,0.16278424892537505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809936860772978,0.0531376966323422,0.0,0.0625950573603527
parenting,ProfessionalFondant9,2020/01/24,"Teenage son gaining weight living with ex-wife About a year ago, my son (16 at the time,17 now) started primarily living with my ex-wife. This kid has grown up his whole life quite heathily, playing just about every sport he could try, excelled on his school soccer team, you get the picture.

Anyway, after this shift in his life, things started changing. At first I just noticed small differences in what he wanted to do when we spent time together. Out went the suggestions to go running, and in came the complaints about being hungry and wanting to go out to eat, etc. It wasn't til about halfway through the year when it really hit me what was happening; he walked into the kitchen one morning without a shirt (pretty common habit of his), and I was greeted with a quivering little pot belly that led the way as he searched around the kitchen for breakfast food. I was shocked but didn't say anything--it had been a challenging few months for him and didn't want to cause a commotion.

Fast forward a few more months to the end of summer, and he tells me he quit soccer on the suggestion of his mother. That's when I knew I had to have a conversation to nip this in the bud; the last thing he needed was to lose his main source of physical activity.

I thought that talk with her did the trick, but apparently not. At this point, he's like a totally different person than he was last year. He's gotten downright fat--I'm talking at least 40 pounds heavier than he used to be. He rebuffs all my attempts to be active with him, and he recently became agitated when I started turning down his eating suggestions. I've spoken with him and his mother about this, but I feel like everything I say is falling on deaf ears. What do I do next?",8.36926646706587,6.952606008982038,7.778196107784432,76.47741392215572,62.26347305389221,10.745209580838326,37.04266467065868,9.516144504307137,3.3058389221556883,1373,54,262,20,16,431,192,334,0.048,0.893,0.059000000000000004,0.5356,2,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,1,1,0,9,14,8,1,0,21,0,22,12,2,3,2,39,43,16,0,5,7,4,2,2,1,0,3,4,2,2,15,19,7,0,3,5,1,10,5,3,0,2,18,6,29,5,52,20,9,57,0,1,0,0,44,21,0,0,29,169,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002189896588053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006454834258236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930809648086114,0.0,0.1161415866364139,0.11960024676950727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902675180818154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23624284423601874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23137287363639314,0.0,0.0,0.10013572488383243,0.0,0.1260894224066307,0.0,0.0,0.09525614057954213,0.0,0.10160913309853402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057165461457165626,0.08076857251410505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616697551061462,0.13671003803187512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906807633869776,0.0,0.12850679796700373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997671046420042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18431452470009965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597122492193976,0.1104687394061018,0.11331369776501315,0.19966435983031067,0.0,0.0,0.12648284934222953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048344337200573,0.0,0.0,0.08383098593801741,0.0,0.0,0.1202383386666741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871714644303026,0.0,0.0,0.07661094587773383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871778052281548,0.0,0.0,0.10687624073449274,0.0,0.0,0.11502050964532952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405019452451727,0.0,0.0,0.07242777334585894,0.0,0.11163101772054264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981632898051708,0.0,0.1144206110725714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24006884945284196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18174328379248264,0.09881757090087183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022126443878006,0.0,0.0,0.0897553285346287,0.1318499187687554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675887963547746,0.12297450874079778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976457090361106,0.0,0.0,0.2000534016777218,0.08974008323514017,0.0,0.13767404064037492,0.0,0.10480578802504248,0.0,0.12622508619683867,0.0,0.10898376245014044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841670513790895
parenting,MrsFire123,2020/01/24,"4 month old making grunting/frustrated noises ALL the time If this doesnt belong here please let me know. I'm not sure where else to ask! 

I am a first time mom and my 4 month old daughter has recently gone from cooing and making cute noises all the time to grunting and making frustrated noises. It doesn't matter if she is playing, in her swing, or being held. She doesnt usually seem upset and will give me a smile if I look at her or do something she likes but is constantly making that noise.  Should I be concerned or are these normal ""I'm learning my vocal cords"" noises?",3.037130434782608,4.992405626086956,3.978478260869569,87.02163043478264,75.34782608695652,6.339130434782609,21.93478260869565,7.1686216300943375,0.7402347826086957,457,12,88,5,10,147,77,115,0.057,0.86,0.083,0.4088,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,2,6,1,1,4,0,14,0,0,4,3,26,27,11,0,5,8,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,1,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,1,12,4,5,20,2,15,0,0,1,0,9,3,0,7,12,56,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16564804305105174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19147864674876736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801889364535892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071709744439335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997608769305494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737858559686884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118802738373785,0.0,0.08656572421678695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879435550665546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47310083847868895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075219244846404,0.2828615600871816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360785788072794,0.0,0.0,0.3718606522589569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19450060293874646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495302193159612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16130645118564424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364089521142784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699878437470822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099614542766676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19514894118944345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waitingforthedayidie,2020/01/24,"My baby cousin almost 2, hits him self after he falls or trips over. He does this every time he trips over a toy or falls and hurts himself, I am very concerned about this behavior and I’m scared if something is happening at day care",4.942695035460993,5.454740574468089,5.081702127659575,86.53333333333335,68.78723404255321,7.9687943262411345,26.30496453900709,7.793537801064563,1.303828368794326,185,5,38,2,3,58,38,47,0.12,0.8170000000000001,0.064,-0.4215,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,6,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,5,5,0,10,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,4,3,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32376049564751697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32964854763116996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20851608161827154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829414501571821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27241291185451866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28591276792751075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461231194663292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32370194235345395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372955853690878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489092380640051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885317843083616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667746893412936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Psogreiaj,2020/01/24,"I specialize in naturopathic medicine. My son thinks I'm in the wrong and that he's so smart, but I beg to differ. Recently it's tearing us apart and I want to fix things before it's too late, and want to know if I'm right or wrong. Posting here because no one has given me a valid argument that has even remotely changed my mind.

Around the turn of the century was when I was exposed to the wonders of naturopathy. I lived in a rural town and this was shortly after my son was diagnosed with autism, so there weren't many resources around.

But there was a naturopath. And she has done wonders for our family. She is one of the most educated naturopaths out there and opened me to a whole world of enlightenment. She's had people flown to her that were abandoned by modern medicine (told they couldn't be cured and put on some unpronounceable drug that makes their death easier) and she has done wonders from them! And she was able to educate my wife, a former nurse, into the wonderful world of alternative medicine!

Unfortunately I was not able to pass this knowledge onto my son. He's completely rejected it and I often have little debates with him over the subject. He's never said anything that's ever made me change my mind. And being the fact that he turned against alternative medicine, along with my Catholic faith, it made me think he's not ready to use the internet without getting nonsense bullshit information and he needed to be monitored and limited (we don't now that he's an adult).

He claims that ""if I can't see how nonsense naturopathy is, and if I can't see how modern medicine is ultimately better, and if I think I need to monitor him for 'misinformation' instead of letting him form his own beliefs and be grown up, I should have never had children."" Classic teenage angst. He thinks he's so abused.

Anyways, back on subject:

He thinks that homoeopathy is nonsense medicine and that ""it's done nothing for him"", but he doesn't realize that it's the very thing that's made his immune system so strong! It's helped me, my wife, and my daughter (she used to get strep infections all the time, but the naturopath gave her a nosode, and she hasn't had an infection since), and it's helped him too. If it's nonsense, then why is it sold at Walgreens? Why does the NHS fund it? Why isn't it banned by the FDA? And the best part is, you can't overdose on it!

He wants to get into anger management classes, but that's on him, since he's an adult now (he thinks it's on us because ""we never taught him and we made him our dependent"", but that's not an excuse). And anger management classes aren't effective because they only tell you stuff, and my son doesn't really listen to therapists (he thinks the ones we've gotten him are ""irrelevant"", again, not an excuse).

What will help him is Chinese medicine. It's based off of 4000 years of history, trial and error, and is the best medicine around. Acupuncture and herbs have helped my wife and I, and my children have been on them before and it's helped them! But my son doesn't want to believe it, he thinks it's ""a waste of money"" and ""nonsense"". If it is, then why does our insurance pay for it? Why do people go to school and get certified for it? Why has it helped numerous people over the years? Sure he's had diarrhea with the herbs, but that's part of the healing process. And it's natural and plant-based, unlike anything you get from a lab that damages the body and is treated as a waste product.

He thinks that ""Chinese medicine is dangerous because it has mercury, asbestos, lead, and birthwort fruit, which is dangerous!"" But I said that the Chinese were so smart that they found a way to use it to heal without the adverse effects! 

We also use essential oils and powdered vitamins to try to treat our issues, but he doesn't want them. He ""resents us for using them on him his whole childhood"", but again, they're what's made him so healthy! He doesn't want us buying from ""pyramid schemes, because nothing they sell is worth considering"", but it's our money. Not his. The oils come from his aunt who is a doTERRA distributor and the vitamins are from our neighbor who works for Market America, and they're not pyramid schemes because they make money off of them! Our son just doesn't know better. Even if it might be a scheme, it's still a good product! The oils are the purest and highest quality you can get, that's why they're so expensive. They're CERTIFIED pure therapeutic grade! (He claims that's a marketing tool, but they're CERTIFIED!) And since they're steam extracted and so pure, they can be swallowed (that's what Ayurvedic medicine does)! 

About the vitamins, they're the worlds most advanced! They're powdered and flavored and specifically formulated for maximum absorption! (Which is why you have to take it on an empty stomach.) Unlike stuff you get from the drug store, which just sits in your stomach and is pooped out (and makes us sick). This stuff is the best and has helped us tremendously! It's helped him too but he doesn't want to accept it.

He's tried to pull up ""reliable sources"" saying that alternative medicine is nonsense, essential oils are ""BS"", and Chinese medicine shouldn't be taken. But they're all biased. WebMD, the FDA, and all that, they're biased and are paid by the government to be against alternative medicine, and they're run by people who don't know what they're doing and care only about profit, so I don't trust them. If you want answers seek a naturopath! If it isn't real, why do they go to school for it? Why is it regulated where we live? Why do they get certified for it? They know the best, because this is natural healing, not artificial chemicals.

Naturopaths aren't responsible for the opioid crisis. They're not the ones having to pay the government hundreds of millions of dollars. They're not the ones killing hordes of struggling people. Naturopathy is best. 

Listen, modern medicine has not cared to study alternative medicine, and they likely never will. They're not getting paid to do it, so they won't study it. They're biased against it and don't know of the curative powers of alternative medicine. That's why I don't care about what ""peer reviewed studies"" have to say, and why I primarily trust naturopaths.

I'll only go to the hospital if I need surgery or something that falls outside the realm of alternative medicine.

My son tried reasoning with me that ""chemicals like citric acid and melatonin can be synthesized in the lab and they'll be the exact same molecule"", but that's not true. Anything made in a lab will not be the exact same thing as what you can find in nature. Citric acid made in a lab will not be the same citric acid in an orange. Ask any naturopathic doctor. And hence why real medicine is herbs and plants, not unpronounceable stuff made in a lab that damages your body as it tries to filter it out.

Anything made in a lab is inherently worse and bad for you than anything you can find in nature. Hence why I've tried to cut out red #40, MSG, aspartame, sucralose, GMOs, and all that out of my kids' diet and eat only organic food and natural medicine. Organic is organic and synthetic is synthetic. Period. And there's evidence that supplementation is needed because fruits and vegetables nowadays have less nutrition due to soil erosion, depletion, and lack of crop rotation. Hence why my son should not eat school lunches. But my son claims ""that's not true"" and ""he resents us for trying to control his diet all these years."" We were just looking out for what's best for him. If it isn't true, then why can your body tell the difference between natural and synthetic flavors and vitamins?

And we didn't want him eating anything that would make his autism act up, like artificial dyes, gluten, dairy, and sugar. That's what all the naturopaths have said, but this was recently confirmed by a psychiatrist he had (who is an MD!), and he believed it at first. But then he did some ""research"" and found that the diet ""doesn't have any effect"", but again, that's not true. Big pharma is biased, ask a naturopath, and if an MD says something a naturopath says, it must be true, right? He claims he's a ""quack"", but then why did we continue to go to the clinic he runs? (He only saw him one time, others saw him after that, and now his clinic is closed. Must have run out of money.)

As of late he's been extremely resentful of ""forcing nonsense down his throat and constantly controlling his internet usage all his childhood"", and he threatens to ""move out and never call home."" Again, we only did what was best for him, and the doctors recommended no more than 2 hours a day of electronics for kids, and no phones or computers in the room because the electromagnetic energy and blue light can cause cancer and mess up sleep patterns. He claims ""that was not our domain, we should have let him make mistakes, and because we insulated him for so long, now he doesn't have any computer science skills, like programming and 3D modelling, and he's jealous of all the other kids younger than him who can do more"", but he is our son, and it is my house and my rules. And that statement of his would never hold up in a court of law. And he's consistently proven to us that he cannot be trusted with electronics being that he's tried so many times to get past our filters he AGREED to, couldn't stop himself from watching porn or getting bullshit information (We don't want him to watch that because it's sinful, causes health and sanity problems, is illegal for kids under 18, and contributes to an inherently harmful and illegal ""industry""), kept going on his computer and stealing the wifi adapter on school nights, and continued to complain about it. If this is the kind of stuff he does, he's not ready to be out in the world. Even if he is an adult and ""we can't tell him what to do.""

I'm just at a loss. I want my son to understand where I'm coming from, but he doesn't want to hear it, and I risk losing him forever. So I want to know if I'm right or wrong, and how I can heal our relationship before it's too late.

TL;DR: Title.",6.57712735030605,6.755516612519402,6.403712876953152,79.61913427246381,65.2338334195551,9.780915537772,33.14344249161054,9.533078810221808,2.8814827051353062,7984,310,1540,142,113,2510,588,1933,0.11199999999999999,0.794,0.094,-0.992,4,1,5,0,1,0,287.0,32,13,20,24,57,66,10,2,93,0,166,43,8,32,28,346,276,168,2,45,69,16,0,4,1,15,21,10,3,9,125,136,13,8,37,0,17,19,64,30,0,8,54,32,160,36,187,187,32,148,3,6,9,1,223,71,0,31,58,995,285,27,0.05709982612360474,0.03382697846190365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02283135516072387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824475970078141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096487503770444,0.07624642667421558,0.0533806295156317,0.0,0.0,0.021953120863564497,0.02383798487593971,0.1914413821293843,0.0,0.07288161964541012,0.0643319507183131,0.2097296065809016,0.050500156038176834,0.0,0.09513755188343682,0.0,0.0,0.02915265330774164,0.0,0.08732561735540789,0.058657250299939276,0.06040404487201957,0.049186444241352274,0.029934040660473,0.030852313477377876,0.0640423102943876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.018412332049484455,0.0,0.0,0.02897756078678069,0.0,0.059657165220683414,0.0,0.058444091564309915,0.09993688525940904,0.08764942014096085,0.0,0.0,0.0662176703083702,0.08764106566750009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056570844950032735,0.02582503087776981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0269143171574735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05218820662640462,0.02428454146563925,0.03452266820003864,0.06260701212026312,0.0,0.0,0.16407766342643826,0.0,0.08112786763013491,0.023946312534789238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030347222530573145,0.03217782696513037,0.0,0.1530912393518986,0.0,0.028637890618612667,0.0,0.0281159134238354,0.032942766488617416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029798691736241258,0.0,0.0,0.03158624878135054,0.029730341074877736,0.09414171344422076,0.0,0.09661663644118544,0.0,0.0,0.05838844084296613,0.0,0.05579218164073943,0.028614513219204274,0.05042019258445228,0.0252657746463248,0.02397473649257077,0.03194004993122138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24313156242386405,0.09528644331230626,0.057890261517243365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030286946053222557,0.0576545470541352,0.0,0.0,0.03034403934985492,0.0,0.08467759512276643,0.13211671799743988,0.0,0.0,0.02679215938435065,0.0,0.054788823156425366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607695980940895,0.13028097235113048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06183354735442849,0.0272541225074897,0.09896457473877107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02734292478831261,0.0,0.0,0.02731841105016504,0.0,0.02870054816601142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649921028714849,0.018289805369695687,0.029354065608838662,0.056379189722709035,0.030651922121680008,0.0,0.07314440928211352,0.08147251555824178,0.09081614710539393,0.0,0.11557614490263105,0.04550116868110332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085034933415191,0.0,0.028570531467575162,0.0,0.0,0.043958235795056734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02279999745058152,0.023869005700149184,0.0,0.029846567982902937,0.16341409974454227,0.0,0.0,0.026907955186406183,0.0,0.021465981541955427,0.0,0.07486164721311503,0.0,0.0,0.03314864954910955,0.05690188090944461,0.16464268345535554,0.0,0.0,0.049943051695967966,0.0,0.0,0.02728066541019773,0.0,0.13568461832415754,0.062108214194651325,0.0,0.029721466364098368,0.27473624124215873,0.12328979139868228,0.0,0.023556668264763433,0.2189132195456974,0.022661592099391076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4637134059006428,0.0637499167146559,0.0,0.055042194771108034,0.12384465143108235,0.020784676736815597,0.0,0.0290948004972862,0.04056207820416303,0.09364454427793144,0.0,0.05515562389839738
parenting,slowlylosingit0416,2020/01/24,"Real talk 4 year olds So are the majority of four year olds straight up mean and complete know-it-alls? I don’t have a ton of experience with this age and I’ve been with my two year old and my four year old niece for a little over a week. I love her dearly but man the four year old is mean mean mean to my daughter but can also be very sweet and charming. She also knows everything and can not listen to what you say... especially if what you say isn’t what they have decided the truth to be... I was with another four year old a couple weeks ago. My other niece... she was kind of mean but had more patience and was super demanding of my time and I could see the jealousy with that four year old because her parents pretty much ignore her until she does  something “bad”


Basically.... give me insight into the four year old mind. Please",2.022374260355029,4.0824289704142025,3.2619193786982272,90.48921042899413,78.82248520710058,6.118491124260356,21.213387573964496,7.1686216300943375,0.4989198224852074,652,18,139,8,16,211,99,169,0.071,0.7609999999999999,0.168,0.9590000000000001,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,1,1,3,9,0,0,9,0,16,1,0,0,1,30,26,15,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,6,12,0,1,8,0,0,0,3,2,0,7,5,5,19,7,16,18,4,27,0,0,1,1,18,5,0,1,22,91,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052345421320562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724516553154666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342360325773918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642768924850108,0.04849787851988617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341515280315867,0.0,0.0,0.06352066808950613,0.08802952296317917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962182828188232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150168915206566,0.07782308650507222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631937766027161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284751703854219,0.08744610081402851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973811553345476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180429020852985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333104635571976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033100019584187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584843565972951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6678627315624666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833985351088684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733090149502977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093918800387026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055453377502454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653558658710776,0.0,0.0,0.06339750422114508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124771121601056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394578610666855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639096712589054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771670216028913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564376340389158,0.0,0.0,0.12763341577094442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098624570488724
parenting,TheAyre,2020/01/24,"Potty training battle of wills I know there are lots of these but...My partner and I have a 3 year old girl. She's very vocal, opinionated and wants to do everything ""big girl."" Her pre-school is Montessori and asked that we have her potty trained for the pre-school program, which we began in August. We've had the normal accidents, but she did quite well with it. She's not afraid of the toilet, and she enjoys flushing herself. We have made no attempt on overnight, but day-times are a usual success. Until recently.

We've tried to progress from scheduling bathroom breaks, to asking her if she needs to go. She always *always* says no, regardless if she does or not. She can be dancing and squirming. Still a no. Recently, she's begun peeing and pooping in her underwear even while we're asking if she needs to go. We tried to go back to scheduling but she won't take to it again. We have absolutely no idea what triggered the regression, or how to snap out of it. She likes her daycare, and her teachers say she has the occasional accident at day care, but she's mostly good there so it seems to be a home thing. She understands she can't wear diapers to school, and we don't want to take her out due to potty training rules as its her main socializing opportunity and we're not in an area with family. 

We're at a loss! We don't know what the trigger was, we don't know what the right response is. We did the no scolding in the beginning and that absolutely seemed to reinforce it was no issue to treat underwear as a diaper. We did a sticker chart, she doesn't care about why she gets stickers; We used treats, and it caused tantrums. We've said going back to diapers means being a baby again, so she said OK, she would be a baby again. Advice would be much appreciated.",3.253658070678128,5.208976223495707,4.297143266475647,84.97444460362945,74.73065902578796,7.518662846227317,25.386914995224448,8.344100000000001,1.6352795797516713,1398,48,278,25,30,454,175,349,0.085,0.784,0.13,0.9744,0,0,0,1,0,0,50.0,11,0,0,6,14,15,2,1,19,1,31,3,3,6,0,63,60,27,0,11,12,0,0,1,1,4,0,4,1,3,15,26,0,0,8,1,0,5,15,4,1,0,10,4,42,11,37,41,4,39,0,1,0,0,51,12,0,10,22,191,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684662025972033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196070472248452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066568248471837,0.0,0.0,0.168152740063029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229605823437232,0.11232317974056168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410316147901183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568492103111854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221860500797632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826851217418237,0.0,0.1030768291460982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057126085045583364,0.0,0.2485637157880229,0.09170992343538413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967779494935877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343251884178902,0.0,0.11412344734225915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18027262693373486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05341841984159056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295768678402867,0.0,0.10346096289923523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910424793661235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037811101298273,0.16214972042395326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713082486143533,0.0,0.0,0.11473483659185152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162974607377138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159218111476197,0.0,0.0,0.09337649467941447,0.20801638813434284,0.1739044766419099,0.0,0.3319763549579361,0.0,0.19907961980455094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145923436688132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731974985635042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442143405737755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726412070606294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484705295265302,0.0,0.0,0.11382768852944802,0.0,0.09443539428553732,0.12042350672182107,0.09021765834783928,0.12898414108234285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983105619938776,0.0,0.098663116802838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534521572285973,0.0,0.0,0.07041192720040068
parenting,DisneyMama1,2020/01/24,"It's been a longggg day My 15 month old LO has been in one of those I Hate Mama phases. I was done my math exam today, so I picked her up from daycare early. The second she saw me, she started shrieking. I tried walking her in the stroller, giving her some applesauce, rocking her, and everything else. She wanted none of it. 


My boyfriend came over to see her and she stopped. Said ""Da!"" and crawled up in his lap. Then she fell asleep in his arms, that little Daddy's girl. 😒


I hope I pass my exam, because today has been an awful day. If I was of legal age, I'd be drinking.",0.5620491273432471,2.7075976806722717,2.258991596638655,95.17073691014869,84.7983193277311,4.333807369101487,20.91855203619909,5.369823440869387,-0.13136767937944427,440,14,96,2,13,144,82,119,0.076,0.867,0.055999999999999994,-0.5197,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,9,3,2,1,0,10,18,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,2,9,3,24,1,12,8,2,23,0,0,2,0,15,8,0,3,11,63,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603060773752396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552249757167209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28782750727845136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283606628949611,0.0,0.21860275129087486,0.0,0.0,0.1864137925338439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055347834703274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406650439398894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203151370214396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216390159411546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22365564529617715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811677576859325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23415914270980154,0.0,0.15121270309762594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122674357762861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782223246545525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579472282078163,0.0,0.0,0.1865639939966608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4230415805731416,0.0,0.0,0.15150469092170935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162007632626244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LastArmistice,2020/01/24,"It finally happened... my kid likes music! I'm not gonna be coy- my son is super great. I won't bore you by extolling his many virtues but suffice to say, when I pictured parenting at it's most ideal when I was pregnant and he was a baby, that's basically what I have now. We get along super great, are bonded super close and communicate effortlessly.


The one thing that never seemed to manifest was a mutual enjoyment of music. I pictured us vibing on the couch together, sharing tunes, talking about the lyrics. Corny I know, but I *love* music and it's a huge part of my life. My son (now 11) has up until now seems to have processed music as a mere noisy distracting medium. Sure, he's liked a few pop songs, video game music and novelty tracks here and there, but he never really fell in love. Most of the easy gateways into music I've introduced him to (The Beatles, Queen, stuff everyone likes) he just could not care less about. 


...that was, until 2 weeks ago, when I got to listening to Muse's most recent album. Their song and music video [Algorithm](https://youtu.be/X8f5RgwY8CI) immediately struck me as something he might enjoy, since he's into the Matrix and the concept of simulated reality. Plus it has the right kind of testosterone-y energy that many preteen boys go nuts over. Lazer guns, motorcycles, a daring escape from a cybernetic prison. Anyways, he instantly loved it. We probably watched the video 20 times the day I showed it to him. 


Since then, he has been on a musical bender. He's probably listened to more music the past 2 weeks than he has willingly listened over the entire course of his life put together. More Muse, but other stuff too. He's even been sending me songs over Spotify that he's recently discovered! I am absolutely ecstatic over this. Sharing music is an important way I bond and connect with people. I'm just so happy I had to share. :)",3.9663615439093465,6.3356975014164325,5.192074185552412,77.48587331798869,73.98583569405098,8.491820113314448,26.611986543909346,9.188382445141503,2.536592138810198,1490,55,262,36,32,493,206,353,0.045,0.701,0.254,0.9981,2,0,1,1,0,0,67.0,3,1,1,5,16,23,0,1,21,0,22,5,0,0,3,36,39,22,0,2,8,3,0,3,0,4,2,7,1,2,17,16,0,0,3,8,0,4,5,2,0,1,8,8,27,21,38,25,8,39,0,0,1,3,39,14,0,6,23,165,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721281003677008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331420817289918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656687122415113,0.0,0.0,0.07800124005048542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988479396937387,0.0,0.0,0.11557067978563798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249225831917716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319016455163222,0.0,0.06873734691287349,0.0,0.0967328988066848,0.2666904617052397,0.0,0.0,0.10695362329625846,0.12875104150204164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594838419879995,0.06646967522809695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17085782938343666,0.17726676371318706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32747997720072103,0.0,0.0,0.24524390354552145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283063624501418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18656459535751105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195726992549153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429807202162425,0.13097453808141812,0.11545823453317346,0.08384988419659999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608040848289025,0.0,0.0,0.12158581221873298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748217310464135,0.0,0.2388424616498279,0.0,0.0,0.10328864754758828,0.0,0.09618244000528947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202124287755399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009832146633386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311142372489603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769122865599182,0.0,0.0,0.11399174564752328,0.0,0.0,0.0972131540491451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803522563068629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705255577932088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548515260114572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960026291357417,0.1940338474917189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chriscringle123,2020/01/24,"Parents with more than one child, is it normal to feel guilty for not entertaining 3 year old 24-7? I get more tired throughout the week as I get up at 6 for work in the mornings. Tonight I'm really tired and told my daughter to play by herself. I feel guilty but I'm also shattered. Am I being too hard on myself?",2.654090909090911,3.784455015151519,4.039818181818184,89.6097272727273,74.6060606060606,6.492121212121212,25.32121212121212,6.742157984588678,0.8150703030303029,245,8,54,2,5,81,52,66,0.23800000000000002,0.737,0.026000000000000002,-0.9023,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,7,10,4,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,7,2,12,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308904090192165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568162251231604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26536373544290753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22749527583711196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488235964675853,0.0,0.0,0.2664847836076179,0.0,0.17208759819228325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819888055942584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269113264043966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.583771620276073,0.0,0.24266646172866185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037087058488755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488346548950665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635397560214656
parenting,M00N3EAM,2020/01/24,"10 year old doesn't seem to grasp basic things Going to start by saying this isn't about my own children ( I have 3 with one on the way (ages 9.5, 7, and 16months) but someone else who has asked me to post on her behalf as she doesn't use Reddit. I will be posting through my point of view 

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So this little girl is 10 and from what I've seen first hand, doesn't seem to grasp basic concepts. I'm going to refer to her as Kelly, though it is not her real name. 

**example 1:** Kelly was given a gift, and when prompted to say thank you Kelly said ""Why should I say thank you? I didn't ask for it."" even though she accepted the gift. When her dad explained why she should still show appreciation for the gift, Kelly says ""oh."" like she's beginning to understand so her father nudges her to say thank you. Kelly's response is ""But I didn't ask for it."" It's like it just went in one ear and out the other. But because Kelly still didn't understand why, Dad said ""okay then, I'll keep it until you can be grateful."" But then Kelly started freaking out and crying, saying that it was hers. Still at this point, Kelly refused to say thank you. 

**example 2.** basic hygiene. She has to be reminded to brush her teeth, use soap in the shower. and when you try to explain it to her why it's important she gets quiet and asks why.  She has to reminded every day to brush her teeth and won't if you don't remind her. 

* For this one, I do understand a bit as I have a 9 year old and a 7 year old. I have to remind my 7 year old she needs to brush her teeth but she doesn't pretend not to understand why, she knows, she just forgets as kids are liable to do. They also know you can't take a shower without washing your hair. 

**example 3**. Kelly lives with her dad, step mom and step-grandma half the time. Whenever Kelly gets out of the shower, no matter who's home she walks out of the bathroom naked with a towel wrapped around her hair. She has suggested that her mom does the same thing at her house, but her mom uses two towels instead of just one. Kelly isn't allowed two towels because that's wasteful, and has started hitting puberty (she's developing) and her step mom and step grandma have tried to teach her why that's not okay especially if they have guests over. She will say, oh okay and then do it again the next day. 

**example 4**. with friendships she tends to gravitate to smaller children. When she's over she prefers to hang out with my 7 year old or the baby. She does play with my 9 year old when the former two are busy. At school she plays with the younger kids and recently she was called a rude name by her ""friends"" and thinks its perfectly okay to be called that because she wants them to like her. When she does or says something inappropriate and her friends call her out on it, she again doesn't understand  even though they've explained it. 

**example 5**. Mom and Dad have an informal custody arrangement that they've used all of her life. Mom has her after school on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. She's with Dad every night and they alternate the weekends. When Kelly is with Mom, she will call her paternal grandparents to pick her up because she's bored. When Kelly is with Step-Mom, She will call paternal grandparents to pick her up because she's bored (read: she doesn't want to do homework and grandparents don't understand the homework enough to help her). This is more of an grandparent overstepping boundaries problem but when her dad tells her she can't be calling people to pick her up because she doesn't want to be at her moms, Kelly says ""Why?"" and when they explain that she needs to spend time with her mom and siblings too, she still asks why and will still call grandparents who are more than happy to pick her up. 

**example 6**. schoolwork. She's almost been pushed back a grade but her mother refused to sign the paperwork to let her be held back. She cannot grasp the math and still struggles. Step-mom tutors her and when trying to explain the work, she will be quiet and stare off into space and you can tell she's upset. She doesn't want to sit there and do the work, would rather play. She gets mouthy and angry when her dad won't do the work for her. When she's upset about this and other things she will resort to talking like a baby. Dad and step mom tend to stay up late into the night working on homework with her. 

I guess the gist of this is that you can explain something to her until you're blue in the face and it's like she can't put 2+2 together. As a friend of the father and step-mom, they've come to me for advice and and I don't know which direction to lead them towards besides ""maybe you should get her evaluated by her doctor."" Supposedly she had IEP testing at her school and even though her scores were below the mark for what is ""normal"" they didn't see any reason to give her any special attention. They're having issues with insurance so they haven't been able to schedule her into seeing a therapist. 

I just need a general direction to point them in. Is this just entitlement and being spoiled or is this something more?",2.5875596487879378,4.662852219921107,3.3482541197429536,90.47710154609659,77.0966469428008,6.2942291785964235,22.638926003690273,7.27578935183782,0.7479207355093211,3997,119,824,49,93,1262,348,1014,0.046,0.852,0.102,0.9958,12,0,3,0,0,0,144.0,0,12,9,7,47,31,1,3,39,4,87,11,8,11,2,151,152,82,0,17,23,21,3,5,4,13,3,15,7,5,42,62,0,4,27,7,1,13,29,8,0,9,17,27,131,23,125,111,8,118,0,0,6,0,187,39,0,9,66,541,173,18,0.03576671808569653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03495082296490349,0.0,0.0,0.03581520167110182,0.0,0.0,0.028602631530972186,0.0,0.03875322410267521,0.043460477336502816,0.04864518958259535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03183996208085404,0.1671852662904465,0.0,0.0,0.0550047969203003,0.0,0.13081835622219362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039047992650812685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556527268701786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03080986062917308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039288060341442735,0.046133148517025366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03660875152632325,0.09389908807335864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029878503475576662,0.0,0.0,0.036956580828930934,0.0,0.07087073991495142,0.0,0.0602700051862025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03042315213225707,0.0,0.0,0.08289983300948645,0.0,0.07474653593170867,0.034310695086465434,0.04065410026488615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03940107234684656,0.0,0.0,0.03807433648164429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023973677202782574,0.0,0.03587693447989327,0.0,0.0,0.041269990539401176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03733116119637778,0.0,0.03179110241599477,0.0,0.0,0.05896935863823785,0.0,0.04034641588924867,0.0,0.0,0.03657389251191469,0.025263090731445392,0.08736905904978627,0.03584764777585299,0.03158266734632193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03593247569073882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5445641232717879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956170478631412,0.0,0.0,0.03803831044870816,0.06712928403899124,0.03504378973068612,0.0,0.0,0.2251869241281379,0.0,0.09694581529923013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02479613887082717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014333282478134,0.0,0.06850925818407665,0.0,0.0,0.034223918807224064,0.0,0.035955430509947754,0.0,0.0,0.035776397067566704,0.04071035551262442,0.0,0.036774143130581284,0.035315319180604716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804467879105094,0.28443129792692873,0.0,0.1085934845900118,0.057002887163398124,0.06512135368246384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030305024166623475,0.08260490095834525,0.0,0.0,0.07594760145403111,0.038122562566083575,0.17138008358994292,0.0,0.0,0.0373911395302397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026892120777456948,0.02874793317808135,0.06252337617762538,0.13171675441274125,0.0,0.04152791641704929,0.07128545465719538,0.0229178687525359,0.14056247568660102,0.0,0.041711721888194636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284976137345557,0.0,0.10481665938696703,0.22340648944962666,0.0,0.1235638427971484,0.0,0.0,0.08438454804262238,0.02838995601273467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03315610599685558,0.2904650992369677,0.0,0.0,0.03447783989630015,0.0,0.10415438698377416,0.0,0.0,0.025407650330804308,0.0,0.043460477336502816,0.13819556273563974
parenting,Tinytoshi,2020/01/24,"True terror has set in My daughter's (20 months) favorite show is Furchester Hotel on Netflix. Today I noticed it's leaving February 1st and I almost had a panic attack thinking about how she'll cry for her show. So hey, if anyone has it on DVD in the US, I'll buy it off you to save my sanity.",2.24258064516129,3.6254755161290326,4.4718064516129035,85.08770967741938,76.09677419354837,6.250322580645161,25.30322580645161,6.742157984588678,1.0698929032258064,230,8,46,2,5,80,51,62,0.17800000000000002,0.6920000000000001,0.13,-0.52,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,3,5,1,2,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,7,6,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,8,2,8,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,2,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994863421323489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20912433526797386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402477265201631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32852635004502856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166835134726083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387235392585855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405056130141623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509070224358529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916389790345437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834937442927081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35975752538330064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,happy_go_lucky,2020/01/24,"My aunt wants to babysit our kids, while I give birth but I don't feel comfortable about this. I don't feel comfortable with my aunt babysitting.

I'm sorry, this got really long.


I have an aunt that I love very much. She  was never married, never had kids. She was always the fun aunt to me and my brother. So independent, always traveling and telling us about her adventures. She's always helping everybody and likes to keep busy caring for others.  She's truly a wonderful human being. 
She also seems to like being needed. For her, it seems to be her purpose in life. 

My mother died when I was twenty and my aunt has always been there to help out. She helped me move, went wedding dress shopping with me and often comes by to play with our two kids, even though she's in her seventies and lives an hour away. As she gets older and we're among her closest family, it's natural that she wants to be closer and we always love having her over and visit her regularly or meet up for fun activities. 

Now we're expecting our third child and we don't have any family closer by. We need to find solutions about what to do with our two kids when I have to go to the hospital and give birth to the new baby. Ideally, of course, my husband could come with me. But someone would have to watch the kids and all our friends who live close by work and have their own kids and no capacity to take care of ours. Also, our youngest wouldn't do well if we brought her to someone else's place. She's a terrible sleeper and we need someone to come to our place and take care of her here. We're starting to establish babysitters, hoping that if it's necessary, we'll have someone the kids like who will stay with them. 
 
My aunt assumes she will be the one to come over when the time comes and stay with the kids however long is needed.

The thing is: I don't feel comfortable leaving the kids alone with her. 
She's wonderful for playing with them, but she has a very different sense of security. She plays quite rough with them. She forgets to turn off the stove or lock the front door. When she's pushing the stroller, she just pushes it into the street in front of herself and then stops when she's at the street to look out for oncoming cars. She's also hard of hearing and -despite her hearing device- doesn't hear if the little one is crying in another room. She's also reckless with her own health and I fully believe, she would drive here while having a stroke or something if she thought she was needed.  

She's very fun and a loving person, but if one of the girls start crying, instead of hugging and comforting them, her response is to start playing a wilder game in the hope of distracting them. If they fall and hurt themselves, she tells them to walk it off. 
Not to mention her really bad arthritis in her hands, that would make diaper changes difficult. 

It's all ok for a day of playing while I get some work done, but I don't see her as taking care alone for a longer period of time. I wouldn't feel comfortable to leave them with her while I'm in the hospital. 

But my aunt has cleared 4 weeks around our due date (in 3 months) and tells me she expects our call day or night. She will be so disappointed -or even hurt- if we don't call her.

So what do I do? I don't have the heart to tell her we won't call her. Whenever she talks about it, I mention how happy I would be for her to comeback after the baby is born to play with the girls so I can have some time with the new baby. But she always comes back to how I also won't have to worry about the kids while giving birth. She'll be there. 

How do I manage this situation without hurting her?",4.337499999999999,5.207623345628416,4.80511912568306,86.68769508196723,70.32513661202185,8.041792349726776,26.2520218579235,8.238735603445708,1.4559364153005458,2867,85,600,40,50,911,291,732,0.092,0.731,0.177,0.9974,2,2,1,0,0,0,72.0,19,0,9,4,38,42,0,1,34,1,62,9,2,5,5,124,118,69,1,26,22,10,8,3,1,13,3,3,3,15,20,56,0,3,11,9,1,20,17,8,1,6,11,14,113,34,96,85,7,93,0,4,3,4,135,30,0,22,44,419,133,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166269400089992,0.0,0.22512953666837865,0.28109425117876913,0.0,0.0,0.03828832665279905,0.05903915349606032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05012207288017861,0.0,0.0,0.05289901364775503,0.043293934097624505,0.04701109025241036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343479025328085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724765775563626,0.0,0.2296207782219651,0.0,0.059561662193084515,0.2910029998079956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04495378198808198,0.0,0.12369355332484926,0.0726222294577691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843416812560358,0.0588251983753712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761805262011424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0470343691035374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437589240985885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615590198222286,0.0,0.11387501268238458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05146040037766892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04349996252408293,0.0,0.05883253428500159,0.16203441027910415,0.031998589872379274,0.0,0.04503107110032735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993614763583384,0.0504368978414624,0.0,0.0,0.05984801251949429,0.1903744887149848,0.0667199463385642,0.1132171947547289,0.0,0.0,0.11184420575133626,0.05544762908340327,0.0,0.18082225894120185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05004515860255609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923460342056495,0.0,0.0,0.03976884368155337,0.08252117262035175,0.05643092192891463,0.09943408540895628,0.09965369290877307,0.04728077926450863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524483843571135,0.0,0.03758303908404025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044940935223508435,0.05984173494205588,0.04138956807701437,0.2087417459671342,0.08684949652069468,0.1087565875287933,0.0,0.05283704262040817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445817383946172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491620649184988,0.1176503967507424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05988572769034136,0.0,0.0,0.07213895766849199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0448666185206054,0.10251322621050027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328751934446337,0.0,0.0,0.1908231707133156,0.043345203066722814,0.0,0.06302718482658078,0.1195557709989459,0.12002412907805556,0.0,0.04707226668046018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699972764610548,0.045254639382021816,0.1968470445744768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03740555913719834,0.0,0.05531792588737575,0.044698708427513535,0.09849311185400236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612420655125885,0.1100007223105232,0.0,0.0677262061991616,0.0,0.0,0.1393689101999519,0.06641855376920418,0.0,0.04516329030793944,0.0,0.05062362933209398,0.05219393028726707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0542745873768683,0.12211753879375264,0.0819792712367927,0.057178961066763186,0.0,0.15998563043018668,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SendMeYourQuestions,2020/01/24,"Random/specific question: Does your child have to change districts if you move? If your child starts school in a given school district, but then you move and your new home is no longer in the school district, do they have to change schools?  

Even more specifically: If you are teaching at a school district you like, and your kid starts there, but you don't live in the correct location for them to attend, and then you change jobs, does your kid have to change districts?  

I am in California and am thinking about buying a home. My wife is a teacher and we are planning to have a kid. Just thinking how important the home's location is w.r.t. school district in case she wants to change jobs in the future.",5.79046783625731,6.954316601503764,4.812431077694239,86.88066833751047,67.19548872180451,7.7156223893066,29.815371762740185,7.793537801064563,1.7392279030910611,560,20,109,6,9,165,68,133,0.022000000000000002,0.932,0.046,0.4922,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,11,2,1,5,1,0,0,9,0,13,0,0,1,1,18,19,13,0,4,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,6,0,0,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,17,1,15,18,1,16,0,0,0,0,22,7,0,4,7,72,17,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5482930961165111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814272681613213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846650483599973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119385348473298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057332676852479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05064307874697633,0.0,0.09153374929607028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22034851896509344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011555068077313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612301270896057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6294572073125676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674227554206748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284238660349665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061141400600344814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wendigoblin,2020/01/24,"Am I an asshole for not letting my mother see my baby? Didn't want to post this on AITA because that community can be toxic at times, but I need to rant and need some advice.

So at my baby shower I could tell something was up with my mom; she has had substance abuse issues in the past but this was on a whole new level. Last night my aunt came by and we had a long talk where she confirmed that my mom has been abusing meth. She told my aunt she feels bad she hasn't seen my daughter much since she was born, but I don't want her anywhere around my daughter until she gets clean. 

I'm seeing her on Sunday and my husband is going to take our daughter to his parents. My mom always dodges talking about serious subjects so she probably won't even ask where my daughter is, but I don't know if I want to bring up why she can't see her anymore. She's a very loving person and I know she's going through a lot; I want her to be a part of my kid's life and I feel horrible for just cutting her away, but I don't know what else to do.",3.0278378378378363,3.4946509729729773,4.32073873873874,90.44543243243244,73.05405405405405,6.640720720720721,25.16036036036036,6.079149491110277,0.5964068468468469,804,23,183,4,15,266,126,222,0.138,0.82,0.042,-0.9543,2,0,2,0,1,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,8,4,1,0,7,0,24,2,0,0,0,31,49,14,0,8,8,12,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,5,9,0,0,5,0,0,4,8,3,0,0,10,6,42,1,25,34,5,27,0,0,4,1,39,13,0,3,9,126,47,0,0.0,0.2844682309726088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730693136607255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099887351833484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905273482087145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686581687268752,0.1122262018141645,0.0,0.11278656249395408,0.0,0.100232856967219,0.07317853407051944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729990545342186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584644763510762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028249005896077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928882467626269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213970767009438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271874319810339,0.0,0.13644908316783608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529616165767365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19792136263639445,0.0978529864089433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227545086132463,0.08479158426410781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623636139844772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205826779561501,0.10834561959818073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.421787006036034,0.0,0.0,0.0882471483797517,0.17802421900256676,0.0,0.11594055172393558,0.0,0.1126544333923566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332961601048256,0.129997420923103,0.11459687457967616,0.0,0.10481897345353257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497026630546205,0.0,0.12942919627970642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869818163735127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930275801200107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924167790169285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025916698719964,0.19297581791559065,0.10492493131576378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999941176796648,0.0,0.0,0.11470848095011706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904998988355897,0.2832234421356289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832226085410868,0.134026351576841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,winterssunlight,2020/01/24,"word for the exhaustion Hello, a tired mom here. Found this article and it helped explain the sheer exhaustion of parenting littles. Hope it helps you too. [https://medium.com/@kathryn\_17834/the-mental-break-mothers-need-a-neuroreflective-pause-da258a4356b9](https://medium.com/@kathryn_17834/the-mental-break-mothers-need-a-neuroreflective-pause-da258a4356b9)",36.544285714285714,47.794007714285705,13.986857142857144,4.7581428571428726,25.42857142857143,9.382857142857144,30.6,8.841846274778883,4.423462857142857,328,7,20,5,5,65,25,28,0.223,0.621,0.155,-0.34,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,12,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28144112280315603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441001960911336,0.0,0.0,0.2549454604536853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572651355221631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5173548706588629,0.0,0.0,0.3006255890527446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38065636165232586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28501757576589765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950208815229016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,renewedenergy,2020/01/24,"I'm inconsistent when it comes to discipling my daughter I second guess most of my parenting decisions. My daughter’s 5, about to be 6, and I’m a single father raising her. Things turned pretty sour after she was born between my ex-girlfriend and I, she didn’t want the responsibility and left, thus, single dad. Anyway, I get that, whether it’s a joke or not, the old adage is “ Parents are just making it up as they go along”, or something to that effect. I don’t like to punish very often because, 1) Guilt that she has to grow up without knowing her mom( probably not a great reason), 2) it kills me to see her sad and 3) I’m never sure how harsh I need to be to “ fit the crime”. I’m horribly inconsistent, some nights I’m tough on things like bed time or finishing carrots for dinner, then the next night she’ll get to stay up and skip the vegetable.

If it is serious enough where I take a toy away or dessert, that’s when “I hate you” comes out and, even though I get that she really isn’t old enough to fully grasp “ hate”, it stings. It doesn’t last long, she can drop an “ I hate you” at bedtime, and 20 minutes later she’s out of bed, in my room, hugging me, apologizing.

I want to give her a boatload of fun, never have her experience sadness, but, I also don’t want her to be out of control. 

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I want to have some semblance of a plan, how do I go about that?",3.3242553191489392,4.202374936170212,4.679921985815607,86.62350000000002,72.68794326241135,7.483971631205675,26.156737588652483,7.734863291789972,1.2596831205673755,1060,34,231,13,20,353,159,282,0.11199999999999999,0.8140000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.8528,2,0,1,0,1,0,45.0,0,2,1,3,13,17,5,1,12,0,18,4,0,7,3,47,45,22,1,6,11,7,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,15,13,3,1,5,2,0,5,10,10,0,1,2,2,36,7,36,39,7,38,0,2,1,1,25,14,0,10,19,154,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926265092498582,0.0,0.12549809855506908,0.14074202583960654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088229258911006,0.0,0.0,0.07060683483816968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995487609218552,0.0,0.0,0.129909407591146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393597297009092,0.0,0.07650239266933888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330066351679917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18154389118994674,0.1111114518380657,0.1316538791248117,0.0,0.0,0.12769926170406976,0.12759608458534966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430644341905074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814499815355365,0.0,0.0636552833428201,0.09441415761539973,0.0,0.0,0.12584596572261394,0.0,0.0,0.11317407557361728,0.0,0.0,0.10250291726040664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731517083170454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356547419738027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588397395468046,0.17866526560371992,0.0,0.12318292849421912,0.21739088035451948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430811152010707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572235172684387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783731688349006,0.12488069077950865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420150115173943,0.11908906021992935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229882308891277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916899382045218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234557698067726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916522223157434,0.0,0.08708720633778536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539001243769038,0.0,0.11379906985367322,0.0,0.06753943582290123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259861063019496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556909502575367,0.2732701748561593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165273211353463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074202583960654,0.0
parenting,systemd-plus-Linux,2020/01/24,"2 year 5 month old suddenly less active My extremely hyper and active 2 year suddenly isn't very active.

She's always been that kid who can't just sing a song, she has to scream it at the top of her lungs. She would literally squeal while running around our ottoman for 20 minutes straight several times a day. She would sprint everywhere and did everything at 100 mph.

This last week or so, I've just felt like something was different. She has been sitting quietly to play. She sometimes will hum to herself, but she's not constantly screaming ""INTO THE UNKNOOOOOOOOWWN"". She mostly only speaks when we ask her something. She just doesn't seem to have anywhere near the same level of energy.

She is still excitable if we do something fun and exciting, but she's definitely got a more subdued demeanor. I wouldn't say she seems lethargic or listless, just low energy. 

Full disclosure, I suffer from OCD which manifests as obsessing over health related issues. I know I'm probably way over thinking this. My wife says she too noticed she's a lot calmer, but she feels it's just normal developmental changes. In my wife's words ""she's just chilling out"", haha.

My daughter has also recently decided she doesn't need to nap anymore. We've never had a problem with nap time and she always loved it. I've been successful in getting her to nap most days, so I don't think it's a lack of sleep, but maybe that is a good indicator that she's experiencing some developmental changes.

So I guess what I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this, and if this sounds normal. My wife is probably correct in saying this is just a developmental growth spurt, I just wanted to hear from other parents to see if they experienced anything similar.",5.851986622073579,7.343456630769232,6.259331103678927,75.35414715719065,67.30769230769229,9.590635451505015,32.591973244147155,9.867487886160001,3.322224080267558,1395,60,245,32,23,450,190,325,0.048,0.7609999999999999,0.191,0.9932,2,0,3,0,0,0,36.0,3,0,1,2,16,15,0,1,11,1,25,4,2,0,2,57,44,22,0,13,19,5,2,1,0,4,1,10,0,1,16,11,0,0,9,6,0,2,8,6,0,0,8,16,38,9,27,32,9,38,0,2,1,1,41,16,0,14,19,159,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244848270759168,0.1923835894945449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464811131524905,0.08083300968813198,0.1184499667187211,0.09513224773971952,0.10291207578767,0.108074141240326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445874219251751,0.0,0.0,0.1249268625941753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911004179124965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207815823560039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657231394599168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389742738791173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058452859499182386,0.0,0.1109979759407693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060398322327897325,0.0,0.0,0.09696315635663123,0.09245908510119724,0.0,0.1273508471265547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228816536552961,0.1302941178398022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066054854360266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353293899364518,0.09423269524401813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647827848284829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828239279407022,0.10433712988535387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613976336195232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922740155369645,0.0,0.0,0.08571890644816332,0.08916093703292645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265347637973573,0.0,0.1316159282962811,0.1213069587594476,0.0,0.0,0.08792205671210107,0.0,0.0,0.12836456906754026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24928134452090844,0.11061742212808674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414501043534735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27579883934198723,0.0,0.0,0.0921214263537571,0.21048309255353295,0.0,0.13059962264539465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568749492673933,0.0,0.0,0.2669928376883977,0.11433531900413035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232150939814786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814875972299438,0.0,0.0,0.1348192524002202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538541288472553,0.0681862385813942,0.09176107990869818,0.0927305613656943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253676143581476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424353959910348,0.0,0.0,0.14889038068632848
parenting,NoDownDog,2020/01/24,"Daycare Fears...Sigh My 22 month old daughter is starting part time daycare in 2 weeks. My parents are anti-daycare for kids under 3 because they don't think it's necessary. Until now, my kiddo has had a combination of grandma + part-time in-home nanny and she's been thriving. I can tell that she's moving past the nanny and we need a new nanny/babysitter for her going forward. My husband and I feel she'll do well in daycare and it will help her progress and connect with kids in a new way. Our daughter is very connected to us and I'm sure this will be a transition. 

Sigh. I'm nervous enough about this already. My Mom is generally supportive but mentions that she's worried my LO is just going to freeze up and her personality will change and she'll become fearful and scared when there is no need to now, when we could just wait until she's older. 

So now I'm even more nervous that I'm messing up my daughter by putting her in daycare too early. I know I need to compartmentalize other's opinions (and I'm usually excellent at that)...it's just so scary when you're talking about your own kid and how you might damage them ""forever"".",3.660701754385965,5.279606824561405,4.772807017543864,83.40464912280704,72.85964912280701,6.996491228070176,29.771929824561404,7.594959193182576,1.8851035087719308,908,39,175,11,18,298,133,228,0.125,0.8029999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.9515,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,4,2,2,2,18,11,0,4,5,0,20,0,0,1,1,31,36,20,0,4,4,6,2,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,8,14,0,1,3,0,0,5,2,6,2,0,2,2,29,4,21,26,4,33,0,1,0,0,32,9,0,2,20,114,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527537042218104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129865110471803,0.16540964969045374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843723369571205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957948452249186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475286847633338,0.0,0.09892194251452682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853334858710478,0.07572841880223724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702359495981975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038794801471372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230989985896324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888273574826936,0.0,0.17540929269175295,0.11954531143587828,0.15918224231277728,0.0,0.3331585812427417,0.0,0.28929838825499105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715884997362128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630231487394329,0.3243735154884145,0.14297280210421578,0.0,0.13077374407728204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505606277396753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994630689892724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600826623466483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995768508180692,0.1411568378632603,0.0,0.0,0.12037978141612456,0.13090593871630454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596683051486866,0.0,0.0,0.08733232981109512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801553610796713,0.0,0.16495094592339493,0.12357627251169548,0.0,0.11888077929136473,0.12013678795245394,0.0,0.1346615842421088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209912019655858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SerotonalHarmony,2020/01/24,"Daughter continues to steal and act out She stole a shitload of Christmas gifts and pawned them off to friends at school in exchange for goods. She also steals from her sisters room quite often. Even steals from her moms room. She has poor impulse control and struggles to deal with her emotions properly, as well. Any tips? Oh, she’s 11, btw",3.4800000000000004,6.391074777777778,2.5295238095238126,92.95714285714287,79.0,4.8698412698412685,28.04761904761905,6.1826913282559595,1.1193238095238092,273,12,50,2,7,78,51,63,0.20600000000000002,0.7240000000000001,0.07,-0.8807,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,2,4,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,3,13,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,1,30,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322774310021675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975199319444331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32577092349327685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994472180602296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32672372668747346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19184334353807345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22440546214662346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436205787348233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34017837036199244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089355396777141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939568176542072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036475095979558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26115468328319924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nathaling,2020/01/24,Newborn nanny/babysitter/helper I’m having my first baby in a few months and looking for someone to help me with the baby and me after giving birth. Has anyone hire a nanny for your newborn that works hourly? Where should I be looking for one? My parents and relatives are nowhere nearby so I’m on my own :(,2.7239999999999998,5.15186206666667,3.6500000000000017,86.70500000000001,78.33333333333334,4.666666666666667,25.0,5.46131890053228,0.7215000000000003,244,9,43,1,6,78,45,60,0.049,0.8590000000000001,0.092,0.3736,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,10,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,7,0,8,8,2,8,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,0,5,33,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802985677772987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25306665590704386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854041168920084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39883693136915066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929929806584756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.499676421645604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23747414961438826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016043010213384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33035591550386234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520840407887275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659493317332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fillysunray,2020/01/24,"5/6 year old little brother cries a lot when told off/hears a harsh tone - what to do? I'm an adult with two half-siblings who I help raise. My little brother, let's call him S, is wonderful. He just turned 6.

For maybe the last year, half year, he's had issues with being told off. If he does something wrong, or makes a mistake, or gives someone a fright and we raise our voices, he shuts down. He sinks to the floor and cries and usually won't calm down for a while. If we try to approach him he'll run away.

We don't generally yell (and never hit) but sometimes when we're pushed or surprised our voices might go up, or be a bit harsh - e.g. ""STOP now S, that's enough!"" I've been trying to restrain my voice and stay calm to prevent him from getting upset, but I don't think his reaction is proportionate? Or am I wrong? I don't mean that in a ""Wow S, your reaction is disproportionate, don't be ridiculous and emotional"" - more that I'm thinking it's unusual to have such a big reaction for such a minor thing (really it's sometimes almost like the surprise affects him more than the tone). I might not be wording it right but I don't mean to diminish his emotional needs.

Mainly I've been trying to make him feel very loved, especially when he's upset, but I'm worried this could mean something more serious, or that we're handling it wrong. I'm also not around all the time and his parents aren't the most emotionally sensitive. What does my little brother need? What would help?

If it helps, one example is when I arrived at the house on my birthday and he ran in with my present from my stepmother. My stepmother, who was doing five things at the same time, saw and said ""No Sam put it away!"" because she wanted to surprise me. Instead of putting it away he burst into tears. My dad happened to walk in and I asked him to help Sam hide my present while I looked away, and my dad gently helped Sam up and put the present away, and Sam ran into the sitting room to hide until we could coax him out.",3.354866656020442,4.7351386658415855,4.154956882785054,88.48547588629833,73.23267326732673,7.193101245608433,26.15106994570425,7.717688229018142,1.2761965186841264,1567,53,332,20,31,502,202,404,0.125,0.765,0.11,-0.4947,1,0,2,0,0,0,60.0,6,1,0,0,12,17,1,3,20,0,29,1,0,3,2,70,61,34,0,10,16,6,1,1,0,5,0,5,1,1,19,24,0,3,7,0,0,10,11,9,0,4,10,8,38,8,43,38,10,61,0,0,2,1,48,28,0,15,22,204,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934460908507407,0.0,0.0,0.06336595947358753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053790643952629,0.07407608490057903,0.0,0.3722297843056876,0.0,0.0,0.04830226110373037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650649913652332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091003950671037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652891174547484,0.0,0.17407668498585202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868201376320544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26739355177573937,0.0,0.08187320808410957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04006470866434608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139816612250292,0.07601154152565802,0.04503232625694669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070069193458173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930608214304163,0.0,0.2655551214613637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142908914388792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270304936488601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645888928951458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102540453985146,0.0,0.038711293043084974,0.2382494695002212,0.0,0.0,0.06653929082543403,0.0,0.0,0.06736463310549122,0.07151466579302611,0.0,0.10578289134053244,0.0,0.0796044166754203,0.2589376169244525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811629293811792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750675820812626,0.061112612745904585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831461112988509,0.0,0.05369317676883103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798353248376613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389658115983116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507613787126246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766813506633387,0.07537272145743126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713742164279399,0.12200133405623287,0.15673523195249767,0.0,0.0,0.08445631137037024,0.0,0.06624584643457185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052833483980386,0.1015439954202583,0.0,0.0,0.09240769597996,0.0,0.0,0.15142907870566216,0.0,0.16139057071907134,0.08618731906035472,0.07740322988206336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726858023521655,0.06537898762862655,0.04673615298015259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592936236547216,0.0,0.08046922192700592,0.0,0.05628783279739389,0.25990031497761706,0.0,0.15307847493427
parenting,StarlingClarice,2020/01/24,"Help - my 1.5 y/o is not being very nice to others her age. Title says it all.  My youngest (of 2 kiddos) is not being very kind to other toddlers when she’s around them.  I stay at home, so I’m wondering if this is why she isn’t acting like my oldest did at this age (oldest shared easily, loved other kids).  She doesn’t go out of her way to be mean, but if a child touches a toy or snack of hers, she will push them away and get very defensive.  I correct the behavior when I see it, but I’d like to prevent it from happening because it gives me terrible anxiety thinking of her hurting or being mean to another child.  Insight?",3.32791452991453,4.0419834153846175,5.020256410256412,84.79696581196585,72.53846153846153,8.23931623931624,26.75213675213676,8.515128840125781,1.7363418803418806,484,16,103,8,9,165,86,130,0.10099999999999999,0.784,0.115,-0.2689,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,2,0,5,9,1,0,3,0,11,2,0,0,2,20,22,10,0,2,8,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,9,3,1,2,5,1,0,3,4,3,0,0,1,3,17,6,15,16,1,16,0,1,1,1,18,5,0,5,8,68,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19890207177568667,0.14510909699022015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16886055350073306,0.0,0.0,0.17821602760837196,0.0,0.0,0.1156306864920276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910298729030556,0.1819638776133879,0.10780279598591214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677385024297653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714237509547902,0.0,0.19027029613917848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20306254294428935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19752854272581225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534177437172897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119881576841744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132468297123778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084573995065764,0.0,0.0,0.1511550022124438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20217979529712207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215429840269007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695318841544682,0.0,0.1505637372933471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116190620679597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570612913552375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yeahyoulikecorgis,2020/01/24,"How to teach young kids to cope with disappointment/being upset I have a 4 year old son. 

A couple years ago I read this book that basically said that (hopefully) the seemingly unimportant things that toddlers throw tantrums about are literally the worst things that happen to them since they shouldn't have experienced any real emotional trauma or hardship yet, so when you look at it in those terms it makes sense that their emotional reaction is so intense. The book suggested mirroring their emotions to make them feel heard and understood. I really took that to heart, and I really empathize with my son when he's upset... I think though, that I may he doing him a disservice now. 

With me, if he's upset and crying I will hold him and say things like ""Wow, I can see that you're really upset!"" ""I bet it feels bad that (thing is happening)"" or ""This feels really unfair! You just want (thing)!"" And typically he calms down pretty quickly and we snuggle for a moment and then move on. I don't give in, if I'm taking a toy away or refusing to give in to a demand, once he's calmer I explain why it's happening ""You didn't treat this object in a responsible way, so I will wait to give it back until you can demonstrate responsibility"" or ""You can't have this today because of (reason)"" and he typically accepts this.

I almost feel like this has become a crutch for him at this point, however. When I'm not able to stop and hold him, or if he's with someone else (dad or grandparents or at school) no one else empathizes in this same way, so his crying fits will sometimes last hours. 

I want him to be successful everywhere of course, because I just can't be there in every situation, and he needs to be able to cope with being upset in different situations. 

I don't know if it's just his age and he'll grow out of it, or if my sensitivity to him has put him at a disadvantage... any advice is appreciated!",6.44646001796945,6.29742678167116,7.202964959568733,74.8871608265948,65.54986522911051,10.840251572327047,30.335130278526503,10.504223727775694,2.956117340521115,1500,47,294,35,21,500,191,371,0.11900000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.091,-0.9272,3,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,1,5,5,1,18,17,1,5,12,0,26,1,1,4,0,64,57,35,0,10,17,3,4,2,0,6,0,3,0,1,30,18,0,5,11,4,1,5,8,9,0,1,5,10,39,8,40,42,3,45,0,0,2,0,42,17,0,18,23,194,69,6,0.18725452528653624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149147745378493,0.08299491918748829,0.0,0.09375417910716488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273394984261254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796589527436878,0.07199358570665305,0.07817485349375562,0.11414862058100594,0.10340395566905032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359678529577952,0.20569030323214746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782056191517433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564271279010271,0.3159542057659408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888500688767935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936302870764726,0.0668873351399624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269447405208106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24838283743997616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109487570299663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929929975224078,0.09220399392777133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145509498428863,0.07631871531854474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148310246358173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862331999169178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499384968398168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951096298319774,0.0,0.06942342890324606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824606234329718,0.09970997905178816,0.06344425625968092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850802620361907,0.0,0.0,0.09525258571671416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941212589799486,0.0,0.0,0.0936525995102266,0.1065683225044235,0.2399200876494224,0.0962644195958528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906096720115766,0.07445615717708247,0.0,0.09475578831597947,0.0746088063641263,0.08523474351636841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744943917594728,0.21048193207912172,0.0,0.0,0.07933007580568985,0.0,0.09259975679709896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827658392107371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039604945113366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110089650869736,0.05999256939863677,0.09198831017543367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874769743734656,0.0,0.10402333379043344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044757061145692,0.1486339261917424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448404174642847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058577490375863
parenting,thirdandwhy,2020/01/24,"Functional Behavioural Assessment?? I have a 4 year old son and he attends ""school"" 3 days a week from 830-430p. His teacher advised us that he's extremely disruptive...he will get very close and in the face provoking other children, when they react he will then make a scene and get very upset about being ""pushed back"" or if they move him away. During circle time, hes constantly moving and during school running from one end of class to the other. They feel he's not responsive to instructions and lacks impulse control. She has asked me to get a functional behavioral assessment. Any insight to what I might be looking at? His last ""school"" he was moved out of the 4 year old class and back to the 3 year old class because of his behaviors and being disruptive. He frequently wakes up at night for no reason very upset and sleeping has been a challenge for us with him, since birth. He dropped his nap pretty early. We don't let him stay up late, he sleeps from 7:30-6:30am. I'm at a bit of a loss. He's a ""wild child"" so we figured and very smart and strong-willed. He has been a challenge with his behaviors but honestly I guess I thought it was my fault as a parent. Hearing his lack of awareness with other children makes me worry about how serious this might be. He has a little brother but has no had much experience around other kids since his father and I are working parents, he's been at home with Grandma aside from school. I know Reddit is opinions and not doctors but It would mean a lot to get some insight into what the issue might be. I thought ADHD for him was a given but am I missing Autism signs here? 

TDLR; 4 year olds teacher asked me to get him a functional behavioral assessment",4.170062937062937,5.9041951484848525,4.556969696969698,84.99776223776225,71.75757575757576,7.6223776223776225,28.146853146853147,8.263242389622931,1.9363356643356648,1349,51,257,21,26,425,178,330,0.096,0.871,0.033,-0.9494,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,0,3,5,10,10,0,2,19,0,30,5,4,7,0,56,50,23,0,4,8,5,1,0,0,6,1,1,1,4,10,22,0,1,9,1,0,6,5,6,0,1,10,3,33,4,37,28,6,44,0,2,1,0,46,13,0,9,23,163,43,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269519131806068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05810943763692249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606928071512108,0.159769825360786,0.0,0.08028378890760987,0.1314126985133746,0.0,0.05208998174938484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932900832850798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234189969253596,0.0958402778712012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05510866212564039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746245957876167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568399799494581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358722648183013,0.0,0.0,0.04320646477891347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22322244016156814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413363072537527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630920132185763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571406565179568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918837821657752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696149537334755,0.06965376310015604,0.09639216366949756,0.0,0.0,0.08737917743961328,0.0,0.0,0.08564409639413124,0.0,0.0,0.07175710547525875,0.0,0.0,0.0726471686591095,0.0,0.0,0.1140780732291628,0.0,0.0,0.09308091334039197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719492140993525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27246185994757466,0.06281613053503865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018973670257197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35866473503493823,0.0,0.0579036370978273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897658824494176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693412896819483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785759888013017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3459228685483917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137148053619106,0.0,0.17102491538443246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107912584993233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356766950602526,0.049827017277324435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055734527759953,0.0,0.0,0.2820232589157531,0.0,0.0,0.06854343428026452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062209160936346465,0.08677938062906165,0.0,0.06070175838833005,0.0,0.0,0.2201099157221847
parenting,poorboi3k,2020/01/24,"Did I set my kid up for a let down So my son is about to turn 13. Hes recently made a couple youtube videos of him playing and talking about pc games. I heard him mention his YouTube name so I decided to check them out. To my surprise they actually arent half bad, just video of the screen and you can hear his voice but not see him, so basically like streaming. Anyway, he only had like 2 views which are obviously rookie numbers, so while at work I ran the videos on the background of my computer for awhile to pump those numbers up. Just let them each get to 30 or 40 views to boost his confidence a little bit. Anyway, he was super excited and has no idea it was me. He was so proud of himself and now I'm worried I screwed up. I cant just play all his videos constantly and also eventually he'll figure out all the views are from a handful of accounts....help guys. I was just trying to be nice, now I cant tell him cause hell be crushed I imagine...",2.431893939393941,3.8725940454545484,3.8372601010100977,89.59255681818182,75.71717171717171,6.970202020202023,26.01136363636364,7.645422480735847,1.2150090909090911,743,27,165,10,16,245,123,198,0.102,0.726,0.172,0.9359,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,3,3,16,12,2,0,8,0,19,2,1,2,3,25,28,14,0,0,7,1,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,3,8,0,0,4,7,1,1,5,3,0,1,9,9,28,9,25,14,4,16,1,0,5,1,28,9,2,1,7,110,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.19510684270482287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988722913009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669366239116466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182762568986027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053873971305277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216057736364103,0.0,0.0,0.221223281048535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445731631591768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979661945684133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22534026371473045,0.0,0.13401161413632448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257012650882517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088923304766306,0.0,0.1953554063450013,0.20038649477081014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918248151070155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205889394182662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741080548890635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932159373346166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069945781328532,0.17475121759468082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574213123452614,0.21747089044639265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455544074550117,0.20304278560677552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConstantinTrautmann,2020/01/24,"seeking parent's opinion Dear all,

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Constantin",8.247065439672806,10.590574110429452,6.8645552147239295,70.04055470347653,62.49693251533743,9.359713701431494,32.6017382413088,9.725611199111238,3.4350903885480566,792,31,116,16,12,237,117,163,0.035,0.71,0.256,0.9857,3,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,5,6,0,2,0,10,0,0,10,0,4,3,3,3,2,22,13,5,0,4,3,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,2,12,9,25,11,6,15,0,0,1,0,23,11,0,5,6,67,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442111518609133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484961172044406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666952039808947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659564055178686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974239275028808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298855071548257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326036071015639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064686517752449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33081964396768465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328069868936793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338753448397725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602847499170087,0.16104117050067648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177795597770002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24161346809765785,0.0,0.0,0.3527511738587555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743611563308661,0.0,0.17907083741451854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793973935943905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017584508264148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356504643746053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242940418885468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552777231932843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262222801899993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647965037060187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936893095786594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266081676579465,0.0,0.0,0.11563909308573292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Saaraah0101,2020/01/24,"My 7 month old can’t sit still for reading! My 7 month old is a great, happy kid who LOVES to crawl around and explore. I try to read to him, but he doesn’t have the patience to sit in my lap and listen to me while I read to him, even for books that are 5, 6 pages. 

Does anyone have suggestions how to read to him that he’ll be able to listen? Did any of your kids have this problem and how did they turn out? I want him to be interested in stories and books when he’s old enough to read them, but it’s hard to get him focused to read.",4.753977591036417,3.01512105042017,5.432394957983195,91.44030112044821,69.58823529411765,8.605602240896358,26.556022408963585,6.42735559955562,0.698024089635854,411,8,107,2,6,134,71,119,0.048,0.815,0.13699999999999998,0.8714,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,2,0,6,5,0,0,2,0,11,1,0,2,0,13,18,10,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,5,6,0,0,1,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,15,4,20,13,2,15,0,0,0,1,18,4,0,0,8,66,20,8,0.12774885892666926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687360476516913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932497247044517,0.0,0.0,0.11372356877563675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179388733109684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199872069378335,0.0,0.08437691649288191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674350614947615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408435679597429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359910358078187,0.114437885165193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529833282977288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039358408001216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021528133172557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222384051325716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7667005774930457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202040375876643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673308955587257,0.13895407450391328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534958685375406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SkankinZombie23,2020/01/24,"Having Twins Went to the doctor with my wife for her ultrasound. Doctor has my wife put her feet up to begging the exam and five minutes later here is the conversation (this is first time meeting this doctor):

Doctor: Lay back, you’ll feel some pressure.

Me: *shes heard that before. Zing. <—in head

Doctor: Your daughter is a cutie.

Daughter (2 yrs): Hi! *waves at doctor*

Me: Thanks, she’s such a good baby. We really got lucky with how well behaved she is.

Doctor: Well, you’re going to have two more opportunities to repeat what you did with her.

Me: * covers daughter’s ears* What the fuck did you just say?

Doctor: You heard me. *ear to ear smile*

Wife: Holy shit

Me: Yeah, holy shit.

Daughter: Holy shit

Me and Wife: Em, don’t say that.

The end.",-0.7421790540540519,-0.006184118055553967,0.6778378378378385,97.13472972972977,126.29166666666666,2.6678678678678684,12.225225225225227,5.007439404612201,-1.2174006756756754,573,12,115,4,37,180,89,144,0.10300000000000001,0.767,0.131,0.3534,0,0,0,0,2,0,45.0,1,5,0,2,7,11,4,1,7,1,12,17,8,1,0,11,20,3,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,5,2,3,6,8,20,6,11,13,2,11,0,0,0,1,27,2,4,2,6,68,26,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795768070382164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880616871317098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8474046539152151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166071426060242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05232724918383992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802786092386886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567409809216912,0.0,0.0,0.05881529745085159,0.08680183121573452,0.08276976741348095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620977616232087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403523022953433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662978317167835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459753169205646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186905308430876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095278951441183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060345384944118986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109391114273013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609843928021647,0.09593552550965484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,w103pma,2020/01/24,"One of my new favorite parts of being a parent My wife and I have a 5.5yo daughter and 17month son. It’s been a lot of fun and we wouldn’t change any of it. I hope the kids will take care of each other through life. They already adore each other and she does a great job of taking care of him. Whenever she has a snack or food she makes sure to share with him.
She’s very attentive of her toys for little pieces that he could put in his mouth. 

But lately my son has been doing something that might be my favorite part of being a parent yet. He really loves books. He has like three bins of them and every day he’ll go to them and say “book book” and want us to get them out for him. If I sit on the floor with him he’ll back himself up and sit on my lap and look through the books with me for what seems like forever. 

Gotta cherish it now. They won’t always be this sweet to each other I’m sure, or depend on me to read them books!",2.6423550212164058,3.1938017079207945,3.589618104667611,95.02564356435644,74.0,6.563507779349363,20.864214992927863,6.1826913282559595,-0.0937804809052336,723,13,176,4,14,232,119,202,0.0,0.7709999999999999,0.22899999999999998,0.9931,3,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,6,0,3,14,0,0,9,0,16,5,1,2,2,33,32,13,0,5,4,6,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,1,10,17,2,0,2,7,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,3,29,14,29,18,7,18,0,0,1,1,34,8,0,8,8,118,39,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038842751153634,0.0,0.12093612403390187,0.0,0.0,0.09883749244352794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117589682888829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963715565084818,0.0,0.15375248415309353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604369989437092,0.0,0.0,0.09373351727215894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718969731010893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224568396850076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757480316622869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593515662824549,0.0,0.0826011649293018,0.0,0.0,0.16023998453350588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435732515868455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442294331425363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639520211471769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265929933441023,0.14201344532074378,0.1456707907427622,0.0,0.0,0.12205061102972907,0.0,0.0,0.12356450647917006,0.1311767611188508,0.0,0.09701686300260627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418481338327653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403721360760379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848744931706048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227700135359123,0.31478228088480864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610877753068688,0.0,0.0,0.14538125578967565,0.0,0.09310975833573444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155817317222008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231382913153875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189131401377683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273966087016566,0.0,0.2185580779467924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17482843933450135,0.0,0.0,0.11992230890337145,0.08572643257307078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BanginBetty,2020/01/24,"10 month old super active baby Hi guys! So I need help with keeping my 10 month old stimulated. I mean maybe he is! But I feel like since his attention span is so short and he's just a ball of energy, I might not be doing enough. Right now daycare is not an option as his dad is in nursing school and I work a low paying job for the flexibility. We have a play yard which he is quickly outgrowing as he walks already. We can't sit outside all day since he won't sit still but wants to run around, which I have to limit since there are cars. I take him to the park on nice weekends but he can only do so much there. 

What I'm looking for is maybe a way to spruce up the typical routine. I try to read to him, but he won't stay still and tries to break or eat the book. We watch Super Simple Songs but I don't want him turning into a TV zombie either so I limit screentime. You guys it gets to the point that when I put him down to play he starts crying and screaming cause he either wants me in there or idk I  assume he is bored of the surroundings at this point.

Any insight would be great!",1.8911252268602536,3.2679689655172446,3.3626225045372067,92.70252268602543,77.01724137931033,6.0911070780399275,20.400181488203266,6.5966054737557815,0.06414310344827577,848,19,195,7,19,279,141,232,0.061,0.8,0.139,0.9547,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,0,5,14,10,0,0,12,0,21,1,0,2,1,40,34,18,0,5,12,1,1,1,0,4,0,2,1,2,6,10,1,3,5,9,1,4,6,3,0,0,0,5,24,7,24,28,5,36,0,1,2,0,25,15,0,5,13,118,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533453746249625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895607087811862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724117414263922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529246937422415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466657694254564,0.08493578738093352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476226874045266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360815982656784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659162034413013,0.09408670864358844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880796225098268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452000271871208,0.0,0.2608079725432951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827592371603292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306922094035795,0.11706126298377005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434210594047146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059506833649113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646212724208786,0.1434602176818997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971318806768654,0.0,0.0,0.21024381913606308,0.0,0.09681486179165724,0.09765409123551846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763945857233272,0.0,0.0,0.10016400002687993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24899867386296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239516049314584,0.0,0.0,0.13173592318179947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247132226728676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328771775589254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268315056852827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321813831704774,0.14037497862666984,0.21035203259900387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902222267502613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883169453837328,0.14325208944931253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23304071783023686,0.10453755467228916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587937472315107,0.0,0.0,0.09355610253004464,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,erinmaiden1,2020/01/24,"9 month old suddenly won't stay asleep My baby was sleep trained pretty well around 4 months, then suddenly around 8 months started waking up 3-4 times a night. We have a sleep routine, she falls asleep easily but will wake up every 30-60 minutes until around midnight, then she'll sleep the rest of the night. If I nurse her she goes back to sleep easily, but she was night weaned and I'd like to get back to that. Our pediatrician said to let her cry just for a couple minutes at a time, then go in and ""reassure"" her and keep doing that until she eventually falls asleep. Most of the time when I go in there she's standing and I can't get her to lay back down so I pick her up and rock her or nurse her to sleep.

I will also add that if we think she's teething we will give Tylenol.  Also if my husband goes in instead of me she cries even more! Which I would also like to fix eventually.  I wake up early for work and am getting to sleep way too late. I have zero down time in the evening because if this.",4.29820879120879,4.403044080952384,4.9261904761904765,88.51598901098902,70.0952380952381,7.985347985347985,25.67765567765568,7.61054688173877,1.011018315018315,787,20,179,8,13,253,113,210,0.038,0.8859999999999999,0.075,0.6749,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,0,1,18,4,0,0,8,0,14,14,13,1,0,26,24,23,0,5,8,1,0,2,0,6,1,1,0,0,5,13,0,1,1,1,0,4,2,0,1,1,3,1,30,4,29,14,3,46,0,0,0,0,23,14,0,6,27,120,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24169032977044744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690455571148138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323934336641089,0.0,0.06141146609211073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114692483371466,0.22132099394846094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307845066689392,0.0,0.08487958769892913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15790081149501167,0.09664102877062844,0.11450814573828592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954423206792121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364150825037375,0.0,0.0,0.1030156512303387,0.0,0.09843502998718108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412342159785492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836189876282751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571191654474953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249096148782057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582883331512757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6048892957518388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130579662000222,0.10737770413786443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455148774729966,0.0,0.0,0.2349741796201387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996441193946695,0.0,0.0,0.09057927159415413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334146891894844,0.0,0.0,0.07156431720271147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crazyjane22,2020/01/24,"Pregnant with second, toddler sleep issues, SO not getting it Okay so this may just be a venting session but here I go.....

We have a 15 month girl who has been sleeping pretty well recently. She still wakes up occasionally at night, but sleeps through the night most nights. Last night was an exception and she woke up at 3am ready to play. We tried for an hour to get her back to sleep but we failed. But what annoyed me was he kept saying to our daughter ""I need sleep cause I have to use the saw tomorrow."" Granted, he does work with dangerous machines. It's true. I get that. But then why do you stay up late every night? He stayed up until midnight last night. So when she woke up he had only gotten 3 hours of sleep. Everytime she has an off night like this I end up being the one to handle it, largely because he stays up later than me. I really don't want to cause a fight and just do it. But I was annoyed last night because I am 9 weeks pregnant and really was not feeling well the night before.  SO TIRED. And nauseous, well you all know. And when I don't get enough sleep, I feel even worse. And, I work a full time job too. Obviously it doesn't come with the same occupational hazards as his, but I need to be able to focus and get my shit done. When he woke up at 6am I had been up with her for three hours and he sat in a chair and could barely open his eyes. Then he asked me is I was going to stay home or how I would manage today. I said I have to go to work, I have a lot that needs to get done. He got annoyed with my tone and walked away. He didn't thank me for getting up with her either. 

I don't know what to say. I feel like no matter what I say it will cause a fight. And if I tell him to go to bed earlier he is going to feel like I'm mothering him or trying to control him. I just think that he needs to be more aware of this how that I'm pregnant again. He has no idea what the sheer exhaustion feels like and I didn't even get a 'thanks.'",1.0796256751664366,2.733845336515514,2.6224349956035686,95.9000913829921,80.1217183770883,5.651576435121218,19.37953774651426,6.4704718818221325,-0.1727842482100237,1512,35,362,13,38,494,195,419,0.131,0.7809999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.9672,1,0,0,0,2,0,46.0,4,2,0,5,22,21,7,0,17,1,37,12,10,7,3,72,79,35,0,8,17,2,5,4,0,3,2,4,2,1,18,23,0,2,9,1,0,7,10,9,3,3,22,11,48,12,51,49,8,62,0,1,2,0,43,18,1,6,37,232,66,7,0.0601591009207485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056240638479219965,0.0,0.05652145563154772,0.04625863520836904,0.0,0.07334485908940237,0.0,0.051190963956406974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853999046978996,0.0,0.051821738592388485,0.0,0.0,0.06747354711480039,0.04803214689462317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264563462077407,0.12312729407128285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05328310724861664,0.062160432792478224,0.0,0.07946903756832167,0.0,0.0506866371664777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209124502131635,0.1289330211544184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25144517804613925,0.0,0.17094901710143065,0.0,0.048114728644779566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06034448329678078,0.0,0.1777337888366334,0.0,0.0,0.0679123023485937,0.0,0.06279047153615537,0.059698624962289615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612373713927197,0.14711308973595175,0.06786208618459923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175627918252611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05114511629301309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801842040364004,0.0,0.0,0.17842884423814045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5080971683237621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04076536371366831,0.045753707123140086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120343322358221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707892102329983,0.0,0.059399854511226986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05722508127112427,0.14352279498505485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061752452585638426,0.0,0.0,0.4214178297277579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564863886337653,0.04804313570598842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258170582444199,0.11077283499542577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038547522751986536,0.0,0.0,0.03507925553356272,0.06914403674714871,0.057023793453831816,0.0,0.0,0.08168816115618195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051958147733729865,0.0,0.0,0.03548339639161645,0.0,0.04825600201759606,0.0,0.16227076963598352,0.0,0.05428423143140515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138962588521647,0.0,0.06130726337401974,0.04273529924517197,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheRapistsFor800,2020/01/24,"Need advice Our babysitter that we have been using for our son since he was only a couple of months old is moving. Not out of town, actually they will be closer to where we live. This new house has a pool though. We are pretty uncomfortable with this as we know another couple who lost their own 2 year old in their pool. This has stopped us from buying a house in past because it had a pool. Would we be overreacting by pulling him from this babysitter and finding an alternative? 

We also have a three month old that would be going to this babysitter as well in the near future. She is a great babysitter, albeit, she doesn’t hover over the children. We usually like this, but not with the new setup she is going to have.",4.6604255319148935,5.870417773049649,4.972829787234044,84.52350000000003,69.85106382978725,7.3421276595744684,24.738297872340425,7.554174236665415,1.0882646808510636,570,15,112,6,10,180,90,141,0.035,0.907,0.057,0.4678,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,10,0,3,1,4,4,0,0,10,0,19,0,0,1,0,21,25,6,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,10,11,0,1,2,3,1,4,3,1,1,1,4,0,17,3,19,15,1,25,0,1,0,0,21,9,0,0,13,85,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.13872284830078127,0.0,0.0,0.1389122952675293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368136311550005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906199217439442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866564150444479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31458377606905336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992716433339715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158001159235935,0.0,0.0,0.15672647341380672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280557437662765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812471222892653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944978972402076,0.0,0.12552553672781713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517905828931344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22693365124361425,0.1510883489586306,0.0,0.10540618779670924,0.0,0.27458851692737457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44750351839048585,0.0,0.0,0.10811534123890144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570310545990513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462281821560474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759214806153137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884800902543405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966664065191886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709950536322394,0.12277634372346635,0.15656373296815682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781448568437867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196577507493735,0.0,0.0,0.09154320836580702
parenting,Oldfield16,2020/01/24,"Step-dad struggles Hi all!

My girlfriend and I have been together for a few years now, and I've been very happy taking on the step-dad role for her 11 and 5 year old sons. The 11 year old is incredibly smart, sort of a typical smart-assy kid, but emotionally intelligent and wants to do the right thing.

The 5 year old, soon to be 6, was recently diagnosed with ADHD, which I think is a tag thrown around all too much in this day and age, but for him, there's no doubt in my mind that that's what he has. Without his new medication, he cannot sit still for even a second (not even when he first wakes up, he immediately has to start kicking his legs and wiggling nonstop as though his brainstem was replaced with a tazer), constantly has to switch what he's doing, and if he plays video games of any kind for any period of time, he turns into a tantrum-throwing, screaming, whirling dervish of destruction, meaning that his mind literally cannot handle any excess dopamine that's associated with electronics.

Even outside of that, his temper tantrums get out of control when he's not the one in charge of everything. He's a nonstop little bull who wants to take over the world and run everything his way, it's interfering with school, every day he comes home in tears from being so exhausted from the day and from teachers always telling him what to do, but when it's 4 o'clock and his bedtime is 8, a nap seems almost pointless.

Which brings me to my next point: he's having insomnia issues now. We've been trying melatonin, but he's still been coming up 3, sometimes 4 times a night to try and sleep with us. My girlfriend is getting exhausted, and unfortunately, she's where he gets his temper from, and it's a nonstop feedback loop that clearly isn't getting anywhere. The biological father isn't much better, either. He's got a bad temper, and they're fighting it with more temper instead of teaching emotional intelligence and empathy, neither of which he has any sort of natural tendency toward. My job recently switched me to evenings so progress I had been making on that front is going by the wayside, and now I have to job hunt in the midst of all this in hopes that I can bring some sort of emotional sanity to all this. 

Therapy isn't presently an option as we just moved to a different state, meaning the health insurance coverage they were getting is all still going through an approval process/loads of bureaucratic bs that always goes into switching states. We are fighting for sanity and what's right for this kid.. But I'm lost. I think we all are at this point.. How does one help nonstop tantrums, insomnia, a ban on all electronics, legit ADHD, and behavioral problems that are getting him in trouble at school when he can't start any special needs classes yet (which is what the doctors and school have recommended but again, slow AF process)? It's better with his medication.. But he's a long, long, LONG way away from being mentally healthy and I take mental health issues very seriously.",8.95741908283064,7.534652290718039,8.404888110527343,72.4708555490692,61.11908931698774,11.54157099305961,38.6612829992865,10.421817524276454,3.886522034118181,2402,100,443,44,27,762,277,571,0.146,0.769,0.085,-0.9905,3,0,0,0,4,0,71.0,4,0,1,7,27,27,9,2,28,0,40,13,3,3,8,80,71,38,0,6,13,2,0,0,2,0,10,1,1,2,31,36,0,2,5,4,0,9,11,19,0,4,11,1,33,8,70,57,14,84,0,1,0,0,50,28,0,10,42,277,64,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016072653049708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088974204809922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781218813881313,0.0,0.0,0.2407109816844555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302147114682337,0.0,0.0,0.06651308437037508,0.0,0.05910984717263415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252226864454346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121965141651136,0.0,0.07650292355083628,0.07940124120777718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696838963539906,0.0,0.0,0.07185419398730954,0.0,0.07396442982280757,0.0,0.07246043108275972,0.061952111780168614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389004133901901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703448952450646,0.0,0.059646810872698026,0.0,0.12724976485492193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060217150995018676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22192096109833787,0.0,0.08046747041775572,0.0,0.05662025101883055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536129257689207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050095007876665,0.0,0.0,0.04745157680407306,0.0,0.07101193102615716,0.0703141947316056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477806218638455,0.14050380106261315,0.0,0.0,0.07372082524895195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095396326950679,0.0,0.18795079606957765,0.0,0.0,0.07727977092768687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047255396218488115,0.0,0.0,0.1542303552565448,0.0,0.1426345659401425,0.14268695373558302,0.0,0.14296306851914775,0.0,0.0,0.07524258186692112,0.10408314422991786,0.0524926890077113,0.0,0.06837307147449717,0.07528998553232168,0.06643516450219215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285848214180232,0.0,0.0959433916122588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338460046583986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774008417986294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980062935562648,0.0,0.0,0.1209149983859642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21494124705436424,0.0,0.06444799622750358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708449039412661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001685616125677,0.0,0.10021640020699588,0.0,0.16960800653086178,0.0,0.0,0.07400902724280638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968433090620693,0.0,0.0618768819160998,0.0,0.08095885433505852,0.0,0.047032240097715186,0.09072358821703004,0.06955452697552003,0.0,0.0825608419628705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612865582338766,0.0770033009987457,0.0,0.0,0.08515619775079547,0.0,0.0,0.11682456115928015,0.08351200837176391,0.11238561083538526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682426752491658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235548663546086
parenting,Wanthappiness1,2020/01/24,"Love my life! (Every other weekend and every Tuesday) My life was so wonderful...
I do not feel like the good Christian I know I am and know I use to be.
Oh, if you only felt my heart when I met my fiancé. He was sophisticated, super intelligent, super positive and always smiling, gift giving, incredibly inclined and athletic. Flew me around in his plane, took me to hiking trails in Alaska and Maine. Adventures I only dreamed of.
However, a birthday lunch for one of his daughters came...and went south quickly. Oh, my heart broke. I had never been so insulted in all my life. We had been dating for about five months. I was asked to join them for the get together. I had spent some time with them a few weeks prior and was concerned about the oldest who was around 15. She began challenging me in one way or the other. I walked up to them at a table in a restaurant and said hello to my fiancé and his daughters (obviously bf at the time). He says to me “wow, you look nice! Girls, doesn’t she look nice?” In hindsight, my fiancé shouldn’t have pushed the question. But his oldest daughter says, “oh dad, you say that about all your girlfriends”. Just typing that almost three years later is hurtful to me. I wanted so much to feel like the man I had met with this three pretty daughters was my prince. I was devastated. My fiancé said to her, “that’s no way to talk to her”. She loudly laughs and says, “well dad, if she wants to be a part of this family, she’ll need to grow some balls!”. He didn’t like it and continued to talk to the other girls as I sat there in disbelief. He starts to ask the other girls questions about food and I could see him texting her under the table and later found out he texted her to tell her how disappointed he was with her. I could see he was no longer going to address it so I excused myself from the table. I didn’t want them to see me cry. I knew it was going to be a battle from there.  I went to the bathroom and sat in a stall for a bit, came out and she was standing right by my door. She says, “can we talk?”. I told her “I don’t think we have anything to talk about except that I love your dad and I won’t let you come in between us”. I walked out and was upset so went outside the restaurant. In my mind all I could think is “wow, sad the youngest daughter is experiencing this on her birthday!” I really wanted to compose myself and walk back in, but I’m sure everyone who walked by could tell how sad I was. That’s when my fiancé walked out and asked me to please stay and help him with the girls. How he needed me in his life. I told him I just didn’t know how things could work with such brutal treatment. He convinced me to come back in. He asked all girls to let it out. To tell him if they all felt this way about me. The middle daughter said she was “neutral” about the situation and the youngest just agreed with her older sister that they felt pushed on them by their dad to like me and warm up to me. At this point, I was just in disbelief. Everyone starts to shed tears as I did. My fiancé then asks if I have more to contribute to the discussion so I explained how I had some tough times in my life and was so happy to have met their dad. I told them how hurtful the words were that they were saying. I told them I had to go and I got up and left the restaurant. This began many of the arguments we have had about the daughters attitudes and behaviors. Yes, I loved him that much that I heard their feelings and knew they were struggling with a lot too. The divorce of their parents, their mom getting remarried a year after and divorced again a year after, their dad ending a three year relationship with a live in girlfriend and then our relationship. It all sucked. I’ve stuck it through despite still not feeling appreciated or truly included in the oldest life. The other two girls have been much more loving and show appreciation for things I’ve done for them and their dad. Now, here I am, still resentful over the way she made me feel. Not just from that, but many similar comments that have followed. I stay because I know she’s just jealous and wants affection from her dad. She’s 18 now and has decided to defer college to study abroad. Her dad supports her wishes. It hasn’t gotten much better, but there are days she shows some acceptance of me. Tears were shed at the announcement of our engagement. Tonight I am sad again with some hurtful things she’s said this week. Should I just let it go? This relationship? My sad heart? I want and deserve to be happy. He loves me and still treats me well, but some times it’s tough with our arguments about them. It’s just never going to change. I envision weddings, births, etc. I’m just not sure what to do. We’ve done a few counseling visits with the oldest daughters counselor she’s been seeing since their divorce. I’ve been to a counselor myself. I just asked if he would do premarital counseling with me and he said yes, but he ripped the papers up last night when I was upset I found out he hid some information about a conversation he had with this daughter. He said this problem is a deal breaker and he doesn’t think we should get married now. I feel broken. I’ve continued to support him through all of it. I’ve just began to put my foot down more and less tolerant so this is what I have been met with. So the question is, should I continue to fight for this is tell him I can change my heart and be forgiving or should I walk away as he’s saying he’s had enough?",2.8444222705389035,4.6874406824817525,3.653401925764872,89.63648082000313,75.56934306569343,6.598136356577108,22.88220220531139,7.418721207797137,0.7805574933995962,4292,123,900,53,94,1365,368,1096,0.098,0.774,0.128,0.9877,3,0,0,0,4,0,122.0,9,6,21,5,62,56,7,3,48,2,92,18,5,9,12,180,191,75,0,26,30,21,10,4,3,8,6,15,2,7,46,68,2,0,29,5,1,25,17,22,2,7,80,32,168,34,137,90,30,132,1,9,6,5,192,44,1,21,60,636,214,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557351002103716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037869477174155404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03745234709229249,0.08103033143784079,0.25528442850473104,0.0,0.04275984972588366,0.06999155516901777,0.0,0.027743580891416958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040251503184410495,0.04968711612223212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041067870985263,0.0,0.0,0.09629093433609703,0.07840879998524837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18168741058389265,0.0,0.04999259331610992,0.02935135652103633,0.046920684357855916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314877921693347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04030996076483392,0.04702587248334597,0.050757705863399435,0.0,0.0,0.0766913365599614,0.08697698199595934,0.0,0.0,0.04290449011489389,0.0,0.13807285128950153,0.06502730155201351,0.13109544303576692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05503306912310164,0.09980271529537936,0.0,0.0,0.0713341370154166,0.04365908143450303,0.12932707058529322,0.03817315235700629,0.03639995721030419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689634983072684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157268865656517,0.0305056112283092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616402246941987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000484163684897,0.03709820479988159,0.0,0.0,0.04944872175457417,0.13961674756490094,0.19287805147960987,0.08893909853584313,0.0,0.0401877677533794,0.0,0.07643692677278738,0.0,0.0,0.03869251884025122,0.20538095629629227,0.04306438116849727,0.0,0.09228367706611157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459539606687728,0.05330288938571619,0.03632709769399351,0.0,0.1338256870328224,0.06749287046074849,0.07020303714398585,0.0,0.0,0.04270975669703525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167996938297238,0.0692275745246581,0.0,0.0,0.050535486223593384,0.04928486213703251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995830753615842,0.04302337727817188,0.0,0.0,0.04630187913787224,0.0,0.04354866185155855,0.0,0.04575194599498675,0.1529509509266038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029156035023892263,0.0,0.0,0.1465879756834487,0.0,0.03886684258843474,0.2597529573536657,0.2533497621424813,0.0,0.0,0.14506810115020388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03764784488565801,0.05115718857657861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442699588336644,0.09701908162281066,0.10903738625593744,0.0,0.0,0.04757883224358108,0.0,0.0,0.10329253996922216,0.085788696815338,0.0,0.0,0.1463226964691378,0.15911733441831696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907080856896356,0.0874864029117481,0.0,0.0,0.10615322470738292,0.0,0.0,0.17395396399191868,0.050565302689080015,0.0,0.0,0.044458431560342015,0.0,0.054745111484763236,0.03930759681089117,0.0,0.0,0.16106429112798154,0.14450064603568816,0.07301366787491717,0.0,0.08184117750222138,0.12656972947820758,0.0,0.0,0.05233634285766682,0.0,0.049355623551756315,0.0331331444293525,0.0,0.0,0.032330288618651136,0.0,0.0,0.11723247055876568
parenting,harveybot2000,2020/01/24,"Android tablet for 9 year old- recommendations please My eldest son is turning 9 soon. We want to get him a tablet and keyboard so he can write, make videos and do a bit of programming.

If anyone has suggestions for a suitable android based tablet (and any apps for programming) that would be super helpful, thanks!",5.0931578947368426,7.59895129824562,4.589333333333332,82.46400000000001,71.10526315789474,7.3670175438596495,28.94385964912281,8.238735603445708,2.1402028070175443,252,10,44,4,5,76,46,57,0.0,0.777,0.223,0.9098,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,11,5,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,5,9,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,3,24,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22775534835877834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23418206573950404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656431086077546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498054253476694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244881045633428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22355999614679986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35143952081540714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676387823226833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083469870646253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642940077145169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19754298729695835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379157446696759,0.0,0.0,0.21567585478006052
parenting,Jimmydeansrogerwood,2020/01/24,"Wetting the bed My girlfriend and her son have been living I. My home for a year now. She has been divorced for about two and a half years, in case any of that is relevant. Prior to that her husband lived in another state a few hours away, so he occasionally made the trip home to stay. That went on I think for about three years, then the split. Her son has been peeing the bed multiple time a week and it’s been stressing her out so I thought I’d make a post for some advice. This has been happening for about a year and a half and I think the longest stint of time had been about three weeks but that was only about one time. She texted me two days ago frustrated about it so I recommended a pee alarm and she ordered one from Amazon. I had seen that mention on this sub before. 
Here’s my issue and I’ve only brought this up to her a couple times. I think it’s more laziness than anything, it’s happened on the couch as well. One day I was bringing him home from school and he was saying how bad he had to pee, only about a five minute ride. We get home and he goes towards his room. I change an out my stuff up from the day and his mom is soon home. She walks into his room and is pissed, he was sitting on the end of the bed playing video games and had pissed himself. Right there, wide awake, pissed. This is why I think it’s more laziness. Sometimes he won’t say he wet the bed. He’s 8 years old. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated",1.1068985103418711,3.225860285714288,2.0745150573357627,97.4833319044047,82.35548172757477,4.9469938913299725,19.34422891437145,6.0311780096671335,-0.3231033972778907,1130,29,261,8,31,354,154,301,0.10400000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.047,-0.9705,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,0,0,0,16,9,4,2,21,0,25,6,6,3,0,29,40,20,0,1,2,4,2,0,1,2,0,2,12,0,15,16,0,0,6,3,0,6,1,7,1,10,20,5,30,2,37,17,4,50,0,0,1,0,33,17,3,2,22,166,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762204223435766,0.08509905330197419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305678813847816,0.10066537068378233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900060528147661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901960563850744,0.0,0.08015678657762981,0.0,0.0,0.08168974099883708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015562799966157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622322956762097,0.0,0.1857380199921952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850283505983477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050156536140556436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697866530427853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4814839212073189,0.0,0.09454160171165264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020005408281446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695412022965979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083842382427468,0.06408138221477805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124351569835197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073685206168276,0.0,0.19515819274250049,0.21903915432079893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194237676008922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819842901247199,0.0,0.1526876235389576,0.0,0.09715809063391118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494739818499784,0.0,0.0,0.10232424356699872,0.0,0.0,0.1099687683852537,0.0,0.10989812423465116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24605413974529736,0.0,0.15242806803597594,0.223915713047252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187557965030978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15401234912527587,0.0,0.08631638684341393,0.08899384609506368,0.08662592893794116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819632327726394,0.0,0.0,0.30910733411322483
parenting,YoureNotMattStonie,2020/01/24,"17yo who ignores discipline attempts I’ve got two kids who I’m really struggling to discipline (15F and 17M). 
For the 17yo, I can’t do anything with him because he ignores anything me or my wife says. 
For example, he might go partying with his friends on a school night after being told no, then miss his early classes the next morning. Wife will ground him. He’ll go “yeah, right” and walk out whenever he wants. 

I can’t do anything with him. He won’t listen to grounding, if my wife or I try to take his phone he’ll just hold it out of reach (he’s 6’4) or when it’s  taken off his desk he’ll find it and take it back. 
He’s a young adult but he’s still a kid who does dumb things and I don’t get how to do it with him. If he fights with his little brother (14M), I just don’t get what to do. Yell at him?

Any advice is appreciated.",0.3951666666666682,2.2446024055555576,2.404444444444448,95.635,83.27777777777777,5.555555555555557,20.555555555555557,6.691623216298621,0.12088888888888905,643,19,154,7,18,215,103,180,0.105,0.84,0.055,-0.7715,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,6,7,2,1,5,1,13,0,0,1,0,28,29,13,0,3,8,4,0,0,1,6,0,3,0,3,10,11,0,5,1,0,0,3,6,6,0,1,3,3,18,1,19,19,0,21,0,1,0,0,37,9,1,6,9,84,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18552156962132416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910614343691312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686970502500049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598477797795206,0.0,0.11573226189835202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661411160749431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352165564003846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667949456401835,0.0,0.19838008798436876,0.0,0.21579499001376934,0.0,0.1518423089448774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902819824668177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014033960223004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019101829812104,0.17816361799227445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162430994430605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213291367151328,0.0,0.1509782499079418,0.0,0.19214076620378373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161637319845653,0.0,0.0,0.19847495157827302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854907572328069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612949965396364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141210572062005,0.0,0.12889731848006294,0.0,0.18545820977721214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197986539811773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LateCareerAckbar,2020/01/24,"How to address culture of bullying at middle school? Last night a neighbor of ours in 8th grade took his life, and our understanding is that it was related to bullying in our local middle school. So many of my kid’s friends have had major problems in the school with bullies, and despite a lot of tough talk from the school, the school has repeatedly failed to handle each instance in a helpful way.  The administration has dismissed each concern in the several instances that I am aware of.  Have any communities had success in dealing with this issue in the schools?  What can we do as parents?  I just feel so heartbroken for this family and would like to hear about ways to bring about positive change.",8.413355481727578,8.346520457364342,7.696367663344407,72.70674418604655,61.48062015503876,10.782281284606864,38.58361018826135,10.290406445055957,3.9861796234772986,565,26,98,11,7,176,89,129,0.133,0.752,0.115,-0.6967,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,9,0,12,1,0,1,0,15,17,7,0,2,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,2,1,6,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,4,2,8,3,25,12,4,18,0,1,0,0,14,11,0,1,4,70,14,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966869979996472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948942859815908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359409272666777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430501067800713,0.0,0.0666719155653375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187400238857287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861477261684586,0.0,0.08838236555939752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762662722563482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748275370328524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931359716450873,0.06441968872945812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210187919065344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336844166238745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374081938890286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464139100084862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617133689211996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8006906050515465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489632344504974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598333821427328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650029574691986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726995829538965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932720911429448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936689111373308,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ValkyriesBaking,2020/01/24,"My ten year old has an attitude problem. Help! Hey everyone, 
I’m at my wits end because I don’t know how to handle this. My oldest daughter has become very combative and she lashes out at me. Long story short she has a problem talking back, listening to rules, can’t take no for an answer and will beg until I say yes and most recently she has been catching an attitude with me whenever I take something away that belongs to her. Her reply will be “it’s mine so I can do whatever I want with it” or “it’s my cellphone so bla bla bla bla” she feels as though because it’s hers I have no right saying no to her. Mind you she is only ten years old. I don’t know how to nip it in the bud before it gets worse. Her father doesn’t scold her at all and practically gives her whatever she asks for. He undermines me and on the weekends she runs wild. When she comes back home, I’m seen as the bad guy because I say no and I tell her her behavior is not necessarily good. She’s constantly bulking her sister and I have this feeling she is turning exactly like her father. I don’t want things to be this way. What do i do? How can I handle this?",0.6807886231415665,2.855829218487401,2.9035294117647052,90.54972850678736,84.54621848739495,6.1825468648998045,21.75888817065288,7.468242284971852,0.8582121525533295,886,30,193,15,26,301,128,238,0.122,0.8270000000000001,0.051,-0.9504,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,0,7,1,24,0,0,3,2,29,41,18,0,4,2,4,2,1,1,2,0,4,1,1,13,11,0,0,5,1,0,3,10,3,0,2,2,7,43,2,20,35,2,27,0,0,1,0,40,9,0,2,15,133,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140588048695792,0.0,0.13206200790932185,0.21616599149836094,0.11736284941114655,0.2570546685221892,0.15523895901733922,0.11960734930406655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210811500764496,0.0,0.15189687548991065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449562829327596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431238601063572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421440759337619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734374997973243,0.13483924744073486,0.0,0.11789618487464253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917782771219372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421530471078876,0.0,0.14099448680821566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449767525460548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867117172759044,0.0,0.0,0.12439236456037432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419268859972291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949909671645376,0.0,0.0,0.10690323461174922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689964423518355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878736788752835,0.0,0.0,0.12003861814830458,0.0,0.3353400628964883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821098836257108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113692723845772,0.11297788241947125,0.12285680849658158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338270992202014,0.0,0.13810080495472393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289037701083685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597782801583305,0.16581344279122692,0.11157105077544097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432440161020844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810337916691674
parenting,Sinnsearachd,2020/01/24,"Baby Won't Nap! Ok, I need some help. I'm tired. He's tired. I have to be doing something wrong. My four month old will no longer nap during the day. I can tell he is tired. He will fall asleep in my arms, but he either wakes up the second I put him down or within 5 minutes. I don't believe in letting him cry it out, but what else should I be doing? I try leaving him in the crib for 15 minutes and patting him, trying to get him to fall back asleep, but no luck. Nursery is 68-70 degrees, dark, and he is in a sleep sack. I'm at my wit's end.",-0.4793715846994537,1.0973222377049223,1.819262295081966,100.12730874316942,84.81967213114754,4.066666666666666,17.543715846994537,3.1291,-1.032674316939891,411,9,105,0,12,139,79,122,0.152,0.8,0.049,-0.8532,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,15,8,5,0,0,12,19,6,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,0,15,2,13,12,2,17,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,3,5,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441885023858464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112667189162353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059779109987656,0.1209325362050151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664585312135665,0.0,0.16608383282463354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979695560928915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568826015518558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19855274483735247,0.0,0.19174817772184627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496737656385116,0.0,0.0,0.1390410013030409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676687104192145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885057292504747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876517771791868,0.0,0.0,0.1443592513839966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389755948415366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.646567396286667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25462259244588786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050196975023265,0.0,0.0
parenting,Insomnianianian,2020/01/24,"Drinking too much soda and staying home sick from school We normally do not have soda in the house, but we are having some friends over this weekend so I got some Pepsi for mixed drinks.  Last night, my 15 year old asked if he could have a little, and he was allowed a juice glass of it (~6oz)

This morning, he asks to stay home from school because his stomach hurt, and after discussing that he'd be missing school for something that would probably clear up in a couple hours, we let him stay home.  This is the first day he's missed all year and he's got straight As.  If he came to me for a mental health day, I'd give it to him as well.

Tidying up before work (I work from home) I found that he had actually gone back and drank all the soda, approximately 30 oz.

I need to log into work, but I'm so mad, mostly at myself.  I overestimated his ability for self control and left him to do something that legitimately has made him sick.

I've taken the TV remote and when he wakes up I'm taking his phone.  There's a number of low impact chores he can do around the house.  I just can't see allowing him a chill day off school for this.  I could take him to school late, but it would be tough for me to miss work.  

He'll get his phone back at the time he's normally get home from school, and once he's done with chores he can get his missed assignments from online.  

I don't know if I'm looking for advice or support or criticism or what.  I'm just at a loss",3.068343834383441,4.03731818811881,4.07377287728773,90.38637488748877,73.38943894389439,6.9612361236123625,23.013651365136514,7.1686216300943375,0.5552587458745877,1133,28,257,11,22,367,159,303,0.12300000000000001,0.812,0.066,-0.9576,1,0,4,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,0,7,11,12,1,0,13,0,24,11,2,4,3,47,54,22,0,10,12,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,7,1,12,15,6,2,2,4,0,2,3,9,1,1,11,2,27,3,37,34,6,38,0,7,2,0,36,16,0,9,17,147,39,11,0.0,0.0,0.07911327321992673,0.0,0.0,0.07922131432364259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217007870152634,0.15158025371107506,0.0,0.0,0.12467667243506553,0.0,0.04941992414116375,0.0,0.0689851637005659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272324183972136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092764295542784,0.1294566564222901,0.08970314743230046,0.0,0.15685161389804106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296343613248247,0.0,0.15883677306933958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895866515663288,0.0,0.08888979829755321,0.06263499369592161,0.0,0.12706822719730104,0.07777036789196656,0.0,0.0,0.12967923146729488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617432451342072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066024291122444,0.0,0.07983827333575343,0.1870893223852696,0.08678782226991702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0445543166068369,0.06608341130004244,0.09145123988079468,0.0,0.08808351335586219,0.08290024637288286,0.0,0.0,0.08125410308838256,0.0,0.0,0.06807893936761944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671102223115364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170016101962367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059596265954147916,0.06011286991564028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607932603638898,0.1588640750539185,0.0,0.0,0.08507002403464352,0.0863376110157979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740788734071839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4922870391260167,0.06460282274127509,0.0,0.08457438312868236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482431539243545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592316222341728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199802847379246,0.0,0.0,0.12191009951780454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04727295597593312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728922628916041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360816349793401,0.0,0.0,0.11518054697041424,0.0,0.0,0.10441369887633696
parenting,TemporaryIllusions,2020/01/24,"Struggling with a suddenly hateful/negative 4 yo My son will be 4 in 3 weeks. He goes to daycare during the day and as expected picked up some bad habits. At first it was silly stuff like calling someone a “Diaper Head” or “Purple Ball Face” like literally any random words could be linked together for an insult but obviously bodily fluids were very popular. This, while annoying, wasn’t awful and we would redirect and it was okay. He still has his fun of making up names but we explained mean vs funny and he seems ok with it. 

My new problem is within the last month he has had some very adult expressions that I would very much put on a Negative column. When he gets mad because we say No to something he will cry and whine and when that doesn’t work he will scream “I hate you! Go away I never want to see your face again (or I don’t want to see your face right now)” kick and scream and throw an epic tantrum. The first few times he did this we were like Woah! Not cool kid, we get you’re made but you can’t say Hate or Go away like that to your parents. Try and hug it out, move on and he obviously would not get whatever the original no was for. 

This is continuing on though, this cycle of “No cookies”—“I hate you, go away I don’t want to see your face right now” except now when my husband tries to hug it out with him he REFUSES to kiss my husband. Now he will even say “Boys don’t kiss boys, boys only kiss girls”  this is why I am concerned there is no way in hell he picked that up here. His uncle is gay, we are all a very affectionate family but he also knows he doesn’t have to kiss someone if he doesn’t want too. Like at Christmas he told his Grandma, “No thanks, you smell weird” she totally does wear too much perfume he gave her a high five instead lol. 

What do I do? Is this normal for a 4 year old? I really don’t want him to continue on with this hateful stuff. Admittedly, stress has been high at home, my work contract ended and my husband was laid off last year and we are figuring out our new normal, but it’s not like some toxic home where everyone is arguing and killing each other (that’s what I grew up in).  I just want to stop this from growing too big.",3.0310031512605065,4.265667383928577,4.114448529411764,89.03275735294119,73.82142857142857,7.681302521008402,23.890756302521005,8.219915518859313,1.1394674894957983,1700,48,376,27,34,553,223,448,0.212,0.6509999999999999,0.13699999999999998,-0.9909,1,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,8,8,0,4,20,39,11,2,12,5,44,13,6,5,5,82,73,29,1,15,15,5,0,6,0,7,0,5,2,6,24,28,0,2,7,1,0,8,19,19,0,3,13,13,39,20,45,50,9,67,1,1,5,7,64,28,1,9,36,229,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538557576297692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05560141774914957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304561531000028,0.0,0.06826841224141497,0.04984176329307378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083488825263612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528083701304344,0.0,0.08981245111150439,0.05273015656406111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155106143114555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241745507392328,0.0,0.0,0.054003470846956544,0.0,0.0,0.07812773278177823,0.0,0.0,0.07707856634967168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909456663371944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281528576196892,0.0,0.13940282470514825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228948276256105,0.0839120855176693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727734948642608,0.1640292443048989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904582775845949,0.0,0.04493462385048369,0.1332949736712401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396706564703546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736581304928013,0.054577215539963364,0.0,0.0,0.08906351459548588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652621812402212,0.08690077614305691,0.120209936881047,0.0,0.06306040978415857,0.15793378778328832,0.0,0.0,0.1602201088369388,0.0,0.0,0.08579616571566342,0.0,0.0,0.06218419309886367,0.0,0.0,0.09078776644279428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782358306316181,0.0,0.08219406396760771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052379258535980126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964974282330175,0.0,0.19506286503559628,0.0,0.0,0.1954627807564587,0.07443366181852201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385544859045531,0.06294489610342864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529577198576651,0.06835725122785709,0.09365885952195027,0.08547609278437016,0.1871973857770197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527607919206543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033140581388201,0.0,0.04767646901250126,0.0,0.0,0.07812773278177823,0.0,0.11102296855543828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698510546931844,0.2893544385919959,0.06489939982508844,0.06558508012400388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377809016587142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904839164535624,0.0,0.0,0.17424555959458932,0.0,0.0,0.10530495451760363
parenting,FancyPantsMead,2020/01/24,"My middle brother is graduating from police academy!  I know hes not my son, but I have raised my siblings because of crappy home situations growing up. Hes as much my baby as my actual baby! 


As the title says, I'm not sure if it's called an academy. But he has completed all courses and is officially a full fledged cop! His graduation ceremony is Sat. 

This is the sibling that has had so much crap happen to him that threatened to kill his spirit. Sone juvenile detentions and a few close calls as a 20 year old. But at 32 he is now going to be a cop. I cant explain to you how amazingly proud I am of this kid.

 He has been married for 10 yrs has 3 kids 8,6,3 with his lively wife. He's someone everyone thought would just end up in jail or a bum on someone's couch. It's amazing what meeting the right person can do for you.  

He nat be 2 years younger then me but he will always be my baby.  One very proud parent right here!",1.59971214738054,3.4968181968911938,3.937780656303975,85.92811024755328,79.46632124352331,6.983189407023604,25.22999424294761,7.984000788550335,1.5105016695451927,724,28,153,13,18,251,130,193,0.10400000000000001,0.7829999999999999,0.113,-0.3715,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,2,5,7,2,0,9,0,23,1,1,1,2,20,30,15,1,2,9,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,4,1,19,5,19,21,5,18,1,0,0,0,26,10,1,2,6,97,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.1748031888102413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149048931197155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919482887050808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658196413980697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18781240774920335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586543310584205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116457860816853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018026288398416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584023897417263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968009233855906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19817870573097046,0.0,0.09844412070381273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817339656668455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633595326288263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879648113165672,0.0,0.12138183834076545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989005597968924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640775008708194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059488421333594,0.0,0.14244985703594254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013474927399868,0.0,0.0,0.3035493204489286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882611701131947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220770483371642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779944463683906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724746480509,0.0,0.0,0.2307052505376406
parenting,unflores,2020/01/24,"TMW you are balancing the need to poop alone with the need to show your child that you poop too. It is amazing how much children get from seeing their parents do something. My child doesn't speak yet(18 months old) but if I want her to do something, I need to do it myself and invite her to do it with me. I need her to blow her nose or be ok with me wiping it? You better believe I am going to mime the heck out of blowing my nose.

She learned the word ""help"" recently. I start clearing the table we use for dinner (it's a coffee table). I will typically say ""help"" and point to some cups on the table or a napkin and she brings them to me.

I want her to go poop on the toilet? Here I am pooping with my kid while we read stories together. Parenting is a strange very public world....",1.9164550264550253,3.5646780000000007,3.2722398589065267,92.21222222222224,77.64197530864197,5.863139329805996,22.0652557319224,6.5431188927421005,0.33338483245149897,604,17,133,5,14,197,98,162,0.023,0.887,0.08900000000000001,0.8594,2,1,2,0,0,0,23.0,2,4,2,1,3,3,0,0,10,1,12,7,6,2,1,26,25,9,0,7,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,6,10,1,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,30,3,20,23,2,13,0,0,1,0,26,5,1,4,5,91,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217879549302948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981784599648065,0.0,0.15556878098489502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919002096000883,0.0,0.19993543721461587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23580340491856303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040127344020653,0.0,0.12930634478904096,0.521708892939763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457689727572615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906310754291657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628184856486755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594706420906406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367949935535704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398823133165223,0.0,0.0,0.14016909848270792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708320010620877,0.0,0.0,0.12450254548476132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192065974034116,0.0,0.14513547891790282,0.20750012172365945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Andrew_Tefft,2020/01/24,"Internet Controls I'm taking in a foster son tonight, who has a history of accessing porn. He's been sexualized early, unfortunately. He's also rather obsessed with video games, like most kids his age. Probably more than what is healthy.

What's the easiest way to put parental controls on our internet? Maybe to control time of use (by device) and which sites he can access.",5.016078431372552,7.529072764705883,5.6623529411764775,74.65225490196082,71.35294117647058,9.239215686274509,33.392156862745104,9.725611199111238,3.7530215686274513,300,15,50,8,6,97,58,68,0.059000000000000004,0.825,0.11599999999999999,0.5994,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,3,0,4,1,0,4,0,8,7,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,9,6,2,9,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,1,5,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396610273280015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7740417170986034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123878778455512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311101168159411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554366368026021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480263390614745,0.0,0.0,0.23125775737916104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296445777345446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414050566879407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19868415405646367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259821858569056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Meadow1984,2020/01/24,"Help !!my 15 yr son lacks motivation in school,and doesn’t seem to care about anything , and no he is not depressed ! Parents who had or have teenagers",2.568160919540229,5.0633538620689675,2.421379310344829,94.91988505747128,79.34482758620689,5.2459770114942526,26.90804597701149,6.42735559955562,0.8257494252873572,118,5,25,1,3,35,28,29,0.061,0.61,0.32899999999999996,0.865,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,6,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,14,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.336128021111166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164524949372402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518062550248373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737823269043749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535468214680398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133836269147313,0.0,0.37184691341965576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DanielTrebuchet,2020/01/24,"When Are Fevers Dangerous? This will be more of a PSA than anything... I constantly hear friends and family making comments like ""your kid had a 101 degree fever and you didn't rush them to the ER?!""  It seems like there's a plague of misinformation and unnecessary fear about fevers.

Really the biggest thing to keep in mind is that it's borderline physiologically impossible for your body to get to a high enough temperature to cause you harm, if your fever is caused by an infection.  That's all there is to it.  Really the only way for your body temperature to get high enough to cause brain damage (around 108 degrees) is by being in a hot environment with a body that's incapable of regulating its temperature anymore.

Fevers are generally self-regulating and it's uncommon for them to reach 104-105, and when they do, it often isn't for a long period of time.  It's your body's way of fighting infection; let it do its job.

That's all.  Can we all just try to be better educated parents and not freak out over a little perfectly-normal and often completely-harmless fever?

https://www.seattlechildrens.org/conditions/a-z/fever-myths-versus-facts/",7.957477375565612,9.20540356372549,7.882941176470588,66.49554298642536,62.38235294117647,11.37496229260935,30.888386123680238,11.20814326018867,3.621155806938159,933,31,160,26,13,300,117,204,0.10400000000000001,0.825,0.071,-0.8283,2,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,1,7,3,1,9,10,2,1,12,0,17,13,5,4,3,27,23,10,0,1,3,1,1,2,1,1,8,1,0,1,15,11,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,6,1,0,2,2,12,4,29,16,6,18,0,1,0,0,17,9,0,4,8,107,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310530527815387,0.0,0.0,0.10214982406114392,0.11050354307026902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978441373385303,0.0,0.5515294038405885,0.0,0.13857204584552335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38255239234610455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414228442725676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565224864897268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702033268754565,0.13968268912125412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590385445203793,0.0,0.12970739462107786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990546349700902,0.0,0.0,0.2623039426665708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318157248413893,0.11033397106932052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693308792814206,0.0,0.12128897082477898,0.12441258817794895,0.0,0.1098526608504537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285888311249841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533764534596847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440776222178143,0.0,0.0,0.13783357859691472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590439093534974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300485052668355,0.1294964500087781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246759516643043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238220077810416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427728570727137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705995371789206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loving_auntie,2020/01/24,"Is it normal to feel a bit unsettled about genital touching? Hi, throwaway because I'm a bit embarrassed about this.
My niece (5 years old) who I absolutely adore and would do anything for, has recently discovered how nice it feels to touch her private parts. I absolutely understand that this is only normal and it's not sexual but what I'm more concerned about is how unsettled I was. I'm not massively unsettled over it and, of course, I still want to spend as much time as possible with my niece but I just wanted to know if this was normal?  I feel guilty for feeling like this.",4.263025793650794,6.1285307589285765,5.2776190476190505,79.38960317460321,71.76785714285714,9.620634920634922,29.408730158730158,9.994966539143718,3.1118718253968263,463,19,87,13,9,152,71,112,0.11699999999999999,0.7879999999999999,0.095,-0.5519,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,27,19,10,0,7,6,0,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,6,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,6,9,3,14,16,5,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,4,6,59,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123233896378324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202840289556563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012725167270851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716915292643463,0.13128991470120832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099871698123128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978387832250162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509681792128594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5401856310504042,0.0,0.0,0.19284244345794896,0.0,0.0,0.13977025245379374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990119593339162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718030621060515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814570486804092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676409035502475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716151127648138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913177395918133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21679219383147955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054949947793806,0.0,0.0,0.11834599231801955
parenting,MrsVygotsky,2020/01/24,"Like a pro Just pumped 10oz of breast milk onto the couch, my leg, his blanket and the bloody cat because I was singing nursery rhymes to distract him and didn't notice the hole in the bag!

You have to laugh about these things!",8.500434782608696,5.920905130434786,6.71913043478261,87.85521739130436,62.91304347826087,9.2,33.869565217391305,3.1291,1.5369043478260869,180,5,40,0,2,52,41,46,0.102,0.763,0.134,0.3786,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978354139529918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188406285862649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7430202626075989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43357643653928185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spiders_thrown,2020/01/24,"brother and sister in law advice i need some major help with my husbands brother and wife. if anyone has gone through this.. i’ll take all the help i can get. 
ok quick back story: my husband and i just had our baby boy last year and is about to be one. we had to move in with my husbands parents because of economical situation but that’s not the problem. when i found out i was pregnant, guess what? so was my sister in law 🙄 our due dates were days apart- but i ended up having an emergency csection about a month before she had her baby. basically since my son was about 3 months old, they come over unannounced at least 2-3 maybe even if we’re lucky 4 times a week. they have a house key thanks to my husbands parents so they can come and go as they please, but not only do they not give us a heads up they’re coming over, they also bring their TWO noisy ass dogs that bark like crazy at the sound of a fucking pin drop. there has been several... and i mean several occasions where my son had just passed out for a nap, and guess who comes barging in the front door with their dogs yapping away and now a pissed off baby who got abruptly woken up. or me and my husband have been spending our alone time getting freaky while the baby naps and what do you know ? we get interrupted yet again. 
i get it, i live with my husbands parents and that’s their son / other grandson.. but is it rude of me to ask for a little heads up?? i’ve had this discussion with my husband and it’s so hard because he doesn’t understand the frustration i feel when this is his own brother. i’m really trying to suck it up, but there are nights where i just want to go to the gym, or want to chill upstairs, or just go out and get some dinner without them showing up unannounced and us have to postpone whatever we were about to do. and my husband has responded with “then just stay upstairs with the baby” and that makes me out to be the antisocial bitch? i’m just in a situation where i don’t know what to do or how can i kindly ask these imbeciles to have a little respect or boundaries?
oh and one more thing..they let the parents know when they wanna come (of course they just forget to tell us .. every damn time) but we pay half the rent of the house, and it’s our home too ? why aren’t we getting a heads up? and another thing my sister in law always refers our house to her friends as my husbands parents house.. not ours. when we again are splitting the rent here. this is equally our house as it is theirs. ok i’m done.

plz help",3.36122807017544,4.5297819161793385,4.051218323586745,90.06232456140353,72.91812865497077,6.803508771929827,25.195906432748536,7.0608816371341465,0.8690421052631576,1965,60,425,18,38,625,237,513,0.113,0.804,0.08199999999999999,-0.9667,8,1,0,0,0,0,52.0,16,1,13,0,34,16,7,0,25,2,41,7,5,2,1,91,82,46,0,7,25,25,2,1,1,0,0,1,4,1,22,41,1,0,8,4,4,13,8,8,0,4,17,3,63,8,62,62,8,71,0,0,0,2,73,29,6,12,28,292,85,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933855392614706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349025890098701,0.0,0.056744446642402725,0.05904207407857572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440481033603033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04961492358615385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267080565145015,0.0,0.06666662450854646,0.05456170633356562,0.0,0.08650970018217745,0.0,0.06037935035783984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056167210766695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045761523404511166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261385069515079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284701736537471,0.0,0.0,0.046866560922979895,0.0,0.059784500767394236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03587809199030633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780090655350078,0.054821356160616286,0.06559878736183436,0.22243324789653274,0.06806861125660599,0.12097983471089273,0.0,0.05675095434204917,0.0,0.1563347096240477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356371315659473,0.0,0.2184676728964234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268334492744947,0.0,0.07117585639219279,0.0,0.0,0.4093754054691899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738910038807502,0.11698866312915307,0.057839587959023185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255854377944276,0.0,0.03466610339037584,0.14223550964322035,0.06265650697620287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04736448152303251,0.0,0.07128604399055649,0.07729319185119167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327471901683354,0.07541627335222179,0.0,0.05261386418398716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665885247685768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445764437746001,0.0,0.09616486926202088,0.05396614751991416,0.0,0.0,0.3939478630096496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788969678206073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789645674900739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04545699883316618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032287608568754,0.0,0.05869652851069033,0.15951773000190025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075630933295782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335098313961282,0.0,0.06201971975152641,0.06532785571312619,0.0,0.0,0.09428162052838808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412714059986454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817528057038549,0.0,0.06931487322973705,0.07386894690915384,0.25605832207759016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370478916708787,0.0,0.056917585204495635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402783568002432,0.0,0.0,0.0684002080096163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04569410992468676
parenting,applepineapple1,2020/01/24,"Bedtime Hello my apologies if this post isn’t allowed please let me know. But I have a little brother between my father and step mother and he’s 8 years old. He plays his game console for long hours after school. Also his parents sometimes go out even on school nights. Currently it’s 1:47 am and it’s now Friday. I’ve tried to get him to lay down in his bed since he has school in the morning. But he says tings like “to leave him alone” “I’m not his mom” “I don’t even care” “he’ll wait for his mom to come.” He tries to wait for his parents to come home. But when they go out they they spend most of the night out.  

Our home is a one floor home. I’ve tried turning off the living room lights. I played lullaby songs on the phone. I turned off his game console once. He called his parents over the phone but they said they won’t be home for another couple of hours. I also wouldn’t mind if my brother wanted to sleep in his room with the light on. Or drift to sleep watching a friendly movie on his tablet. I’m just worried if he’ll oversleep in the morning. I feel tired myself but I would feel awful if I slept before him.",0.6865924713584306,2.8938338638297907,1.6932978723404268,99.02096153846158,84.82978723404256,4.126022913256956,18.400163666121113,5.069623422648166,-0.6715990180032736,878,22,199,3,26,274,129,235,0.059000000000000004,0.883,0.057999999999999996,-0.3071,5,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,5,0,7,5,0,0,10,1,11,4,3,1,0,32,31,16,0,7,12,9,2,1,1,5,1,3,7,0,3,9,0,2,3,5,1,6,5,0,0,1,2,8,32,5,32,22,1,37,0,0,1,0,46,19,0,6,12,111,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052798836522269,0.0,0.16258069653750862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659004189789398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649759948777441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037971387883852,0.0,0.10364007155412347,0.0,0.0,0.175126844391589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247500916386542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427918624695606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279570127769992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853538801683906,0.0,0.053108504467429936,0.0,0.11554132582195747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40785736732338707,0.0,0.2002117156890884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055864786376930216,0.0,0.0,0.10763383806921348,0.0,0.10394513723739447,0.0,0.049661593062721145,0.10188110730857908,0.08975978399255563,0.08995802508529185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263863393817356,0.2381050804713404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19078534339236192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666573031997573,0.10825510439883884,0.06888141638592864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386145522108833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115823829926996,0.0,0.0,0.09735365522901424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669347435340757,0.08083703501888227,0.0,0.30862902151086163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840868406889243,0.0,0.20344902322906647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053553751295526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683298643518275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20704327386559745,0.22113441478580734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059956452708365936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323162672362902,0.0,0.07221002521552294,0.0,0.0,0.06545997589890759
parenting,daws21mc,2020/01/24,"Breaking the cycle Man, I'm breaking the fuckin cycle. If you can't feel that then don't read any further. 

I completely understand everyone has had different and difficult upbringings of all degrees. THE MOMENT you bring another life into this world, they are your priority. You're now 100% responsible of this life/lives you have made. 

I make decisions that are hard, to protect, provide and love them. No parent is perfect but I go to sleep every night believing what I'm doing is right. 

I want them to have a relationship with their mother, I truly do. ONLY when the time is right. When she can take them to HER place, not having to worry who they're around. Knowing she's doing something productive with her life, unconsciously affecting them to do good. 

If I let her have them and expose them to a different world of daily uncertainty, what did I risk? Their innocence, frame of mind, and foundation. 

I'm not better than anybody, but I know I've made better decisions and more sacrifices. When she turns her life around for the best for herself, then it will be the best for the boys. 

She's not stable enough to hold up herself so why put the boys in her hands? For her and their temporary satisfaction? The boys deserve better. When she gets better, things will be different.",4.103073411943704,6.5696054560669515,4.7422156713579335,80.41259319132752,73.93723849372384,8.362190947128186,26.34480791175352,9.095868883498916,2.4022786610878657,1020,37,182,24,22,326,135,239,0.10300000000000001,0.7440000000000001,0.153,0.9523,4,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,4,10,7,8,12,1,1,11,0,24,7,2,4,2,33,41,17,0,3,7,2,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,9,11,0,2,6,1,0,3,6,3,0,0,4,3,35,9,24,32,5,26,1,0,0,2,36,11,1,2,10,130,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000050354991675,0.12335775474534535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20945240599000076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13254209850601625,0.24691576260486384,0.4161786845537606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334525913183884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687321360994559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155549607953385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911834664896477,0.1124118451790952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948326260739014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146301992507936,0.0,0.06685858397236767,0.09867241640904843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538400545425056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930578680863866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202967793050011,0.33237571847654623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061763778512613,0.22263115769510386,0.07852685960721195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878474956292008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039892273307418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947194086306266,0.0,0.0,0.1306273711286232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122910712033152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826256905694207,0.0,0.0,0.11767370238109368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263033387263336,0.0,0.20093102296211487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772682637048072,0.0,0.0,0.09056645654055297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845204313856651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815602895571551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859791859426896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279605693889969,0.0,0.1224693322241254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938822104680714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615348678426734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947102622902785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,treslilbirds,2020/01/24,"Our 7 month old daughter may be blind Title says it all.  I've gone back and forth over posting about it.  I've lurked here since I was pregnant but never much beyond that.  

I found out I was pregnant October 2018.  I was fresh out of an abusive marriage and had just moved cross country back to my hometown to be near my parents.  Ended up connecting with old friend from elementary school (gotta love small towns) and despite being cautious, I found myself pregnant a month into it.  By some miracle we actually enjoy each other's company, decided we wanted to go forward with the pregnancy and we're still going strong.  (Note:. I DO NOT recommend getting pregnant a month into a relationship.  We just got fucking lucky that we actually knew each other going in to the whole thing and had a histo ry.  I full realize this could have gone a totally different direction.)

My pregnancy was very uneventful up until the 3rd trimester.  Practically zero morning sickness, every checkup went great, got the blood test for genetic disorders and it all came back clear.   I went in for a routine anatomy scan in my 3rd trimester...can't remember exactly how many weeks.  Ultrasound tech does her thing, everything seems groovy, baby is moving, heart beating, awesome.  I go to the exam room and wait for the doctor to come don't physical.  She comes in....all I remember at that point is hearing ""fluid on the brain...possible delays...ventriculomegaly...high risk..."". My whole world came to a screeching halt.  I'm trying not to cry now thinking back on it.  I was so scared.  Called boyfriend at work, he came right home.  We cried together.  How had I had such a perfect textbook pregnancy and then this??

I ended up having an MRI done...I don't know if any of you have had one before.  I did when I was in high school.  I just remember getting to listen to my choice of music sitting in a tube.  Not so bad.  Well let me tell you....getting an MRI done when you're 30 something weeks pregnant is fucking HELL.  I thought I was going to die.  BUT.... everything looked promising.  Ventricles were slightly enlarged, but nothing too bad.  Doctor said we'd do an ultrasound of the babies head after she's born to verify everything is ok.  Cool.

The big day comes.  Oh my God she is beautiful.  Head full of hair.  Lashes for daaaaays....nurses can't stop oohing and ahhing over her.  She's just fucking perfect.  Everything is perfect again.  We're just in love and total awe.  Everything is great until they come in to do her follow up ultrasound.  

Absent septum pellucidum....she's missing the middle part of her brain.  An important part that controls import things.  The diagnosing doctor was a complete tool....maybe it was.the fact that I had been in labor less than 24 hours before that, hormonal as hell, zero sleep...but I remember asking him on the phone, "" Can she have a normal life at least??"". All he said was ""No, not with this condition. She will have severe delays.""


I'll skip over some of this....I'm sorry this is such a vomit post.  It's been a shit week and i may or may not be slightly inebriated...baby is safe in bed.  Just thank you if you've made it this far reading.

Ok...so we get a referral to a neurologist.  She's a lot more positive...has a wait and see attitude.  Baby is meeting all milestones, gaining weight, happy...her eyes are a little...jumpy?  Seems to have trouble focusing, but she's a newborn right?  All newborns have wonky eyes right?  She seemed to gain a little more control of her eyes as she got older.  But something still felt off.  And no matter how hard we tried we could not get her to do tummy time.  Everyone she would just faceplant and scream.  And she didn't seem too interested in toys, or videos.  She loved the noise, but never looked at them really.  I was still trying not to over analyze her too much, she's just a baby....but my mommy alarm was getting louder.  Her pediatrician ended up referring us to a pediatric ophthalmologist ""just to be safe"".

Optic Nerve Hypoplasia.... possible Septo Optic Dysplasia....my boyfriend broke down in tears...I'm trying to hold it together.  Bc I'm a ""strong mom"" and all that bullshit.  Doctor is very kind, explained things to us gently...I remember she said ""legally blind"" and it just shook me to my core.  I asked if they know what she CAN see.  The doctor shined a bright penlight into my 7 month old daughter's dilated eyes....she didn't even blink.  The doctor said she'd really like to see more of a response than that.  (Yeah me too doc).

They're going to do an MRI on her next week.  They'll have to sedate her obviously and that terrifies me.  We already have an appointment set up with early intervention PT/OT.  We have to get a referral to an endocrinologist next bc apparently kids with this disorder can have other issues (thyroid, pituitary, etc) and she's going to need monitored blood work.


I don't know what I'm looking for with this post.  I don't know anyone else going through this.  All of our friends kids are healthy/normal.  No one (that we know) really understands what we're going through.  I'm mad at the universe.  I'm mad at my body for failing my daughter.  I want to scream and punch something every time I see a video of someone's baby smiling bc they see their mom.....I don't even know if my daughter can see my face or if she ever will.  And then I get mad at myself for being mad.  Maybe I'm selfish.  But I feel so fucking cheated.  I just wish I could give her my eyes, I'd cut them out in a fucking heartbeat.


She's still my smart, happy, music loving baby.  Her smile can light up a dark night.  If I didn't distrust the internet so much I'd post a picture of her for y'all to see.  You could be in the worst mood and when you hear her laugh, you couldn't help but smile.    You wouldn't even know she's blind (possibly) unless I told you.  We're going to do everything we can to give her the best most normal life possible.  But between me and you guys....I'm fucking terrified.  I doubt myself everyday if I can do this.  But I know I have to do it, for her.  And I'll try my goddamned best every day.

Thanks for reading andl etting me vent.",2.09325119277885,4.68499182808511,3.4375058027079315,86.27196212121214,82.20851063829787,6.454223081882657,23.79513217279175,7.713340915650842,1.4290099290780138,4758,175,904,85,132,1549,471,1175,0.125,0.7170000000000001,0.158,0.9938,3,0,3,0,0,0,249.0,17,9,7,15,45,64,16,5,57,3,94,45,14,6,19,181,196,61,1,20,39,6,5,1,2,9,20,10,3,4,40,57,1,10,29,5,0,27,23,31,1,4,46,37,134,32,121,126,33,142,2,3,20,10,110,61,9,23,51,581,174,19,0.0,0.046828354810884536,0.07713759669301086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043614671661188494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026877031264799997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027635437533704368,0.04049603829863565,0.0,0.0,0.07389743845438633,0.0,0.0,0.12156315222336612,0.06600019655933427,0.0,0.0,0.06726241398889896,0.0,0.0829540112477175,0.0,0.0,0.04390120192037392,0.0,0.08824159615529002,0.04035745593745843,0.13561153031586504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361824417994566,0.04143916899201491,0.0,0.08865692904708741,0.12622376683326333,0.0,0.08682843546841558,0.050978198900035986,0.0,0.0,0.04011506672419998,0.04101868900895446,0.041293178211467545,0.090593685445077,0.24272111617556305,0.03458688992051714,0.08089161042374736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033016439197754884,0.0,0.10501708137660867,0.0,0.0440786514135964,0.07831381103858091,0.035750864071653066,0.0998996300118519,0.0377659707545121,0.21312462882941116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01998404307334884,0.0,0.03794832881162809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666997498812493,0.061070825235029436,0.21923055315525825,0.16519331102706306,0.07582822741312882,0.22461861763462007,0.0,0.09483058767435984,0.08714861066793729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04207302472390002,0.035404892265914895,0.0,0.08112410932138375,0.0,0.0890907060979974,0.04683500796439937,0.02649146923838684,0.08351655067764029,0.03964484455606993,0.0,0.03892224577865478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041251798800073784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041157177608130965,0.17376668998623868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404149993433213,0.05583260217593836,0.01930896725293,0.039612482068971513,0.0,0.0,0.09956823086365467,0.0,0.0,0.033601086204789715,0.1426843932456491,0.03739766826690274,0.0,0.0400701722365984,0.07941243776401599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925778437226286,0.12618769496245785,0.08401350080207441,0.08716197435291882,0.02930584291918885,0.060965229807142925,0.0,0.08406643024418466,0.03708970776722269,0.07744840057654692,0.03792343518545978,0.0,0.1244183865280189,0.0,0.05356368699858437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043885672990445705,0.08559922956139361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03736205995566192,0.13366891103889844,0.1514086379303977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906749676814291,0.0,0.0759584391705612,0.0,0.0,0.04243296770848668,0.223859571798071,0.10125741363961628,0.15038189592540396,0.03143031799306575,0.03956947078986442,0.07999887910872593,0.22046329257515546,0.14392121185654946,0.0,0.04464979996992579,0.040569845824569635,0.03269387776614785,0.0,0.03955159596077796,0.0,0.03348775445201595,0.09128033109680812,0.0,0.044242821904375416,0.0,0.0,0.12625264435078476,0.03304304193673197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03454489027026282,0.07277503401314431,0.0,0.0,0.10502944059419313,0.02532477641755865,0.0,0.031376889222570266,0.046092419946031464,0.0,0.0,0.0377659707545121,0.0,0.1341677927367716,0.0,0.0,0.041144891908251255,0.09508273255018768,0.0,0.0,0.06522131563757565,0.046623441196723035,0.0,0.1268120361210916,0.04812843084107319,0.03553597107114288,0.07327653197720074,0.0,0.08825215419226194,0.04544956029521895,0.0,0.0,0.05754650643463732,0.0,0.0,0.02807604279747572,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flaming_jeffersons,2020/01/24,"LICE RAGING I found a louse in my kids hair. I have been preventively checking for lice every other day for months, which means in all likelihood this little shit hopped aboard from another brain and made itself comfortable on my kids scalp. 

I also found out the school shares a common policy of letting kids teeming with lice still attend school. 

Excuse me while I set everything on fire.",6.7650000000000015,8.54514835714286,5.884285714285718,77.8107142857143,65.42857142857143,9.028571428571428,25.42857142857143,9.3871,2.1775142857142846,315,8,52,6,5,95,56,70,0.17800000000000002,0.733,0.08900000000000001,-0.7785,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,3,0,3,4,4,1,1,9,7,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,4,2,7,2,10,2,1,13,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,5,32,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775567942793766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328171368994986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478581887232158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431905653825514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18706930690058404,0.0,0.19954566695508374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4868874533828395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22704005754512974,0.0,0.0,0.22253174204074144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100895433213559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418550567812413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722171218158236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4494111199185877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22790994136511045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731292901384058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,emempmpm,2020/01/24,"How can I motivate my daughter to strive to do the best in whatever she does? I don’t mean she has to be the best at everything but we got my [F24] (step) daughter’s [F9] report card back and she got “meets expectations” in every category (math, reading, writing etc). That’s fine, it means she’s at her grade level, but when her dad [M29] jokingly asked why she didn’t have any fours, just threes on her report card, she responded with “well 3 is average, that’s what I’m supposed to be getting”..... 

I just don’t want her to have that mentality, like just doing enough to meet requirements and that’s it. How do I communicate to her or teach her that going above and beyond is something you should always strive to do, whether you’re taking a math test, cleaning your room, or being a good friend? I try to live my own life in that way and have always been that way in nature growing up, but maybe I’m  not leading enough by example?",6.203548387096774,5.4956439784946225,6.63604301075269,80.61406451612906,66.20430107526882,10.020645161290323,30.965591397849465,9.3871,2.4148662365591402,724,23,152,12,10,236,112,186,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.9758,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,1,2,0,5,9,8,0,0,4,0,19,1,0,4,0,27,30,13,0,3,10,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,10,6,0,1,3,2,0,4,4,0,1,2,4,0,23,8,20,22,6,19,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,2,3,103,33,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27450090158158064,0.0,0.0,0.11217070582734028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420467663623555,0.0,0.0,0.1268352934253364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34620676298621106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443476333577796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408719992350096,0.1839612936513504,0.0,0.0,0.13897631153179074,0.0,0.148245167713732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274388808901505,0.0,0.08617883664912511,0.0,0.09374409187459153,0.13835106159533306,0.26384893104831475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650807584642488,0.08058555516117473,0.0,0.14565263774465953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571304151298893,0.3593547682798818,0.0,0.0,0.16622939469640094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499323963839455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698549263625894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402082075061738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198927338593444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729095925086792,0.2618570454082452,0.0,0.0,0.14830860291220133,0.0,0.1488404573753073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mothra3,2020/01/24,"My 13yo won’t bathe, brush his teeth or cut his nails, I don’t know what to do. Help!!! I am not asking him to do anything unreasonable, but every time it has been a few days since his last shower, we go through this huge hassle where he resists and resists, and I have to nag and nag, and it’s getting worse. it’s been over a week since he’s bathed, and it has become this huge standoff. He is being super stubborn. This is day three of having his phone and computer confiscated, and he’s getting madder and madder about it. He has stopped brushing his teeth, doing chores and joining us for dinner in protest. 

I am not good at confrontation generally and have not lost my temper yet, but neither has he, really. He’s just being very passive aggressive, keeps asking for his phone and calling me names. Asking me why he can’t have it. All I can tell him is to have a shower, brush his teeth, and cut his nails and he can have it back. I have told him all the reasons for this a hundred times but he just keeps asking. He’s trying to wear me down. Maybe it’s a power struggle. I don’t know. Tonight he found an old laptop in the basement and barricaded himself in his room so he can watch videos on it. Help!!! I am drawing a blank at what to do next. I’m not going to break down the door or anything, it’s just not in my nature. All I want is for him to be healthy and happy. 

I have tried really hard to find out why he doesn’t want to shower and he just says he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t want to. It’s hard to get anything out of him, but he says he hates being wet. He has always been very quiet when he is upset. He also spends 50% of his time at his dads house, week for week, and his dad says he doesn’t have a problem getting him to shower, but my son has a very different relationship with his dad than with me.

I’m open to ideas that don’t involve yelling, smashing, or other violent behaviour, which is more his dad’s style.",2.2304526656139565,3.69089813895782,3.5201218136702015,91.57617339649595,76.29528535980148,6.1751710654936485,22.38581848259268,6.714681859716394,0.4004646815550039,1502,41,334,13,33,490,175,403,0.135,0.762,0.102,-0.9357,6,0,0,0,1,0,53.0,2,0,0,3,11,21,13,2,12,0,47,5,4,1,3,59,70,28,0,4,17,5,3,1,0,1,0,5,9,0,21,23,1,4,6,3,1,2,15,17,0,1,6,12,41,4,40,59,6,37,0,1,1,0,68,18,0,3,17,208,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081708367543156,0.08408943118697472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494895730240508,0.0,0.3779072045301441,0.0,0.0,0.07770836173665407,0.0,0.0,0.11161205423039436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319284182419523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034977288276192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558545648164136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514681677064669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923663670444854,0.0,0.0,0.11080630347111738,0.0,0.0,0.21119724743859009,0.0,0.11486865532980607,0.08476374399235351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075795013473362,0.18105856092916625,0.0997751338811294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354758337118089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116608860799938,0.0,0.11408364586421632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965229397201102,0.0,0.0,0.1110790939216544,0.08237681564320445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049372468041791406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103181611721207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152764760191088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074777093525982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060447326916415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670009932301467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948234746160284,0.10390578920188842,0.0,0.10849986509701708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410992287151722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671945903711064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449009782112073,0.0,0.10564912004208192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833028035805149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678546715715307,0.0,0.0,0.09656648953410173,0.0,0.13722525855190468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156189175389452,0.0,0.0,0.2501535125969381,0.17882217601261793,0.0,0.2431910178839197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238059439785212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298805785975153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Vodka_fruit,2020/01/24,"How to handle ""You're being rude!"" Hello,

Any tips for handling my 7 year old step kiddo thinking everything is rude? He says it for just about everything he has to do but doesn't want to do and to anyone. Follow the class rules? ""You're being rude!"" Having him do homework? ""You're rude!"" Having him clean up? ""You're not being nice! That's rude!"" Not going to grandparents house? ""You're being rude!"".      
 
 
Obviously we're not being rude in these interactions, but I'm at a loss for what to say. If you say you're not being rude, but his behavior is, he jumps to ""well you hurt my feelings."" He's very good at mimicking so I don't want to necessarily say what I'm doing isn't rude behavior lest he start thinking he can tell people what to do.     
 
 
Thanks for any help.",2.0195886075949367,4.313063031645574,3.8701107594936737,84.90428006329117,80.07594936708861,7.241139240506327,21.26740506329114,8.278499904357787,1.2794544303797468,621,18,124,13,16,209,83,158,0.168,0.7290000000000001,0.10300000000000001,-0.8873,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,2,0,1,5,15,9,0,2,0,20,0,0,1,1,17,31,7,0,3,9,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,4,7,11,1,0,0,5,8,4,18,25,0,11,0,2,0,0,19,4,0,1,3,67,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6300868774872419,0.0,0.1977299716254868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165472193638016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261320570192108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350968622473672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262414188135597,0.12193982057003985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744672708112552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775171663139254,0.1556348163846369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255432414574688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078981863202563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462455531172309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029023781480084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707058502198482,0.1338485384480385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863102837932772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995566738135728,0.1715005577454576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307161955938122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362146916257104
parenting,Argea,2020/01/24,"Co sleeping After I seperated from my husband he started having our daughters share his bed.  Our oldest at the time was 10 years old and youngest 6 years old.
I had addressed it because I don't think it is appropriate.  I think in certain situations would be fine, like when a child has a bad dream.
He was extremely angry that I brought it up but agreed not to do it anymore.
Well fast forward to now and my daughters are 12 and 8, and my ex husband has been having our 8 year old share his bed again.
I don't know how long it has been going on but my daughter said a long long time.  I assure you I'm not worried about it be sexually inappropriate. 
Just curious what other parents opinions are on this.",3.4850483558994227,4.9933617730496485,4.723984526112186,84.02454545454547,73.11347517730495,7.113088330109607,29.8394584139265,7.686295010490155,1.8622425531914888,554,24,111,7,11,183,91,141,0.032,0.797,0.171,0.9407,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,1,0,0,7,8,0,0,4,0,19,1,1,1,2,17,27,8,0,1,5,7,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,1,10,4,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,1,1,0,7,1,17,7,10,17,0,26,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,1,20,74,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043917784581702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434961217844717,0.1047644071487122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767213490699407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444989336483783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396223226298727,0.0,0.0,0.4562727127938643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5410152355955999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083045822050249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347844382926768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931781104103323,0.17198435539978213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164356242458865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22024220474625614,0.0,0.0,0.20042617600299628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545229953359283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453241600422426,0.0,0.1220845835775872,0.0,0.0,0.3320170796824095
parenting,fathead231,2020/01/24,"Autistic 8 year old daughter struggling in school. Need advice. I prefer to keep this simple, my daughter is having a hard time in school.

She has a IEP in place and we have a meeting coming up on Monday.

I'm hoping someone can lead me to some website, article, any information on what I should be doing as parent with the school.

She was recently suspended for hitting a teacher, I am under the impression that she can not be suspended while on an IEP.

She received a referral today for ""pulling"" a girls hair. My daughter says she didn't do that. She honest to a fault, she simply cannot lie. I feel like she is being targeted by teachers and the staff now.

I'm looking into getting an advocate, but this is all foreign to me.

Any advice would be great. Thank you.",2.889482262703737,5.135897550335574,4.320445829338451,83.04323825503356,76.85234899328859,6.673250239693192,27.42138063279004,7.7094869923839395,1.857304506232022,601,25,109,9,14,199,99,149,0.07200000000000001,0.83,0.098,0.7779,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,1,1,8,0,1,12,0,20,1,1,1,1,19,31,5,0,5,2,4,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,1,3,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,2,5,18,6,18,22,2,22,0,0,1,0,19,10,0,2,9,81,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465400470360406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411603627038693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527410465030945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965571808093101,0.12667376738574612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263969300367426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549025291107103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883928132199895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761136590657628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760558968281266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662708132226422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488998197772758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147671776142492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18606211208442733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19688716197127296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18525628326583585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507702725954025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100788908618495,0.0,0.5383562970093594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023830069288674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536798496207035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324769489498628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339371750705448,0.0,0.16807374905391298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595938512740698,0.0,0.0,0.11418495271358517
parenting,booklovermama,2020/01/24,"Ssri Has anyone had experience putting their teenagers on an SSRI for anxiety? It’s being recommended for my 18 yo by her therapist and I’m reading the side effects 
Weight gain fatigue etc and it’s really freaking me out",5.867857142857144,7.425176738095237,7.289047619047621,67.73928571428571,67.33333333333333,10.361904761904762,37.80952380952381,10.504223727775694,4.599609523809527,181,10,29,5,3,62,37,42,0.14800000000000002,0.7390000000000001,0.113,-0.1513,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,1,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,5,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619715632566675,0.0,0.0,0.2394474033564249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819197221526274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349795740473665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442545364318221,0.0,0.0,0.3425403843875119,0.0,0.219380773933415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976081891489368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170090586935424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittynoismyusername,2020/01/24,"Babyproofing a glider rocker ottoman I have a glider rocker with an ottoman and my 6 month old daughter is obsessed with it! I have added corner and edge guards to the important parts, but there isn't a way to lock it and stop it from rocking. I considered zip ties but nothing lines up to easily do that. I don't care if it isn't moveable for awhile as long as I can eventually undo it. Any ideas? 

Link to the glider and ottoman:
 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B017XRDV5S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_6wLkEb801FS13",6.8535551948051925,9.307239193181822,5.806038961038965,75.82727272727277,66.1590909090909,7.301298701298702,27.34415584415585,7.957251820313856,1.752738311688311,411,13,67,5,7,123,57,88,0.095,0.851,0.054000000000000006,-0.5242,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,9,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,11,9,1,7,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,4,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302874967605696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452670751353179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822844765572912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29968663414062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703000203834733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249351787174113,0.0,0.3553467705347734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667152094685293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28311904458474624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687974683381442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wheredidthat10mmgo,2020/01/24,"How do you handle electronics in the house? What rules do you have set in your house for younger kids and electronics? My son is 6, and of course he loves playing on his older Nintendo DS or tablet. Thing is, we set rules that screen time is allowed on weekends, not school nights. If he's well behaved, does his chores without whining and fighting us on it, or unpromptly does his chores, we will reward him with a show, or 20 min on his DS. Maybe a treat of some sort. We've discussed with him how he should not expect it, especially on a weekday, and just because we allowed some screen time during the week it doesn't mean the rules have changed. We've discussed how chores are in place because he needs to learn how to do these things on his own, for when he's older/an adult.

Sometimes he gets it, but for the most part he will still constantly asks for it then gets upset when he's denied and will try to use ""but I did this so I should get that"" on us. I'm not sure how I can explain it to him so he understands, or how we can change our tactic/views on the matter. 

As an example, he's had a good week so we have given him a bit of time on his DS, or put on a show for all of us to watch. When he asked for it yesterday, I discussed with him how the rules are in place and how it's not something he should expect on a school night. Today when picking him up he asks right away for the tablet, and I bring up our discussion from yesterday. He didn't say anything, but once he got into the car he asked dad to watch a show. After I JUST talked to him. I seem to be hitting a wall, and I feel like maybe we approached it or set the rules in a wrong way. Any advice is appreciated.",4.43950351731602,4.266333434659092,4.892597402597404,89.8398484848485,69.76704545454545,8.06839826839827,26.70508658008658,7.447530270364453,1.062079112554113,1307,35,303,12,21,416,161,352,0.04,0.887,0.073,0.7653,2,0,1,0,2,0,39.0,11,3,0,1,19,12,1,1,20,0,25,1,0,12,2,66,45,35,0,7,17,2,1,1,0,6,0,1,3,2,16,18,0,0,6,6,0,4,7,4,1,0,5,6,36,8,46,32,7,53,0,1,4,1,60,24,0,12,22,191,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107178446008726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033677177572198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511507554375887,0.0,0.3867768885757786,0.0,0.09717702953808624,0.0,0.0,0.12610141509199585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292009635266995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883301812832667,0.0,0.0,0.11177239684528624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102670334409315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229792914841835,0.07389127936851593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211561977555042,0.0,0.0,0.08675319436198056,0.08272338980811761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23869146615842576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050531266251601516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093350708126946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782111149591967,0.11266691306162226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669293400725162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941263739100523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015086641630396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200592458517908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21612720714121786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397693714738312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832969092457252,0.0,0.08225265215254363,0.0,0.20935581935172112,0.0,0.09415989188226644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962640110451336,0.10229611457286288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260030046001274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974826943721882,0.0,0.0,0.0831340912563274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743020425177313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093471654628124,0.0,0.0980406962085347,0.0,0.0,0.07022300435195701,0.0,0.0,0.10767554062704827,0.3732450429497425,0.08933135922718018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209888270247202,0.16593256069068696,0.0,0.09299708224595228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970399856242322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308579471794075,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZoePantalones,2020/01/24,"My kindergartener hates school I am at my wits end. My kid started Kinder back in August and from the beginning she really disliked it. She used to love her preschool life, she was in a wonderful school with a child-led approach. She’s now in a public school program which is more academic and teacher led. She complains a lot about having no time to play, having to sit down for too long, doing too many worksheets, not being able to socialize with friends and that she’s mainly bored with the school work. She often complains about her brain hurting because it’s so much work even though she’s getting straight A’s. She goes every day and hopes for the best, she’s an optimist at heart, but just ends up disappointed. I am looking for another school but am not sure how much different another public school will be. Private is very expensive but I am considering exploring that avenue too. What has been your kinder experience? I feel so sad for my kid, this is not what school should be.",5.196806722689075,6.8870038716577575,5.016077158135982,82.89033422459894,69.10695187165776,8.551413292589762,29.39992360580596,9.04235418022936,2.403180595874714,792,30,148,15,14,244,114,187,0.12300000000000001,0.76,0.11599999999999999,-0.3349,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,3,14,13,1,0,9,0,18,4,2,3,1,25,28,11,0,2,7,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,3,1,1,3,4,7,0,0,2,2,21,6,21,21,6,22,0,3,1,1,22,8,0,4,10,106,29,11,0.10729562853116224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22501764358623053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250371537656871,0.0,0.06540641927057776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260014252922355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977740623561753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919680405671888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210109510463992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006415969763527,0.0,0.0,0.07086775071565954,0.0,0.090401194660017,0.0,0.0,0.1049557131204003,0.0,0.0,0.05425189365827411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289633644486154,0.0,0.056057537443776916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593221969193682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271458364177367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656876892983656,0.0,0.0,0.1148621894835816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578607554027207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949532548535537,0.09010130487160847,0.0,0.0,0.09121890644920808,0.096838493850398,0.0,0.0,0.10878092661578588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774926512730447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873632709865199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7601223301962945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937438123040473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594439812192594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112486009901474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541741026220552,0.0,0.0625649438451088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266897332374838,0.0,0.0885301304454589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635753221696328,0.15622499091090875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hotmessmomm,2020/01/24,"I just used reverse psychology to potty train my three year old, and it worked My oldest is 3.5, and he has been a nightmare with potty training. I tried every method, read all the books, and attempted on six different occasions between 24 and 42 months with no luck. He would just pee on the floor or in his pants and just not care. Finally got him pee trained a few months ago, and he’s done really well with that and only wears pull ups at night, but he refused to poop on the potty. I again tried everything including bribing with cookies, making it fun, using a potty chart, reading books in the bathroom, taking him with me, etc. I did it all. My pediatrician even threw up her hands and had no other ideas to offer. He has this need to be in control and this is the one thing I absolutely cannot force him to do and I think he was relishing that.

So after four months of being tired of cleaning poop out of underwear or leaving him in pull ups in the evening, I decided this is the weekend I stop cleaning poopy underwear. Last night I made a really big deal of the reward he gets for pooping on the potty (cookies). But then told him “I don’t think it’s gonna happen tonight, I’m gonna put them away” and he asked to try (which he always does but never goes). I offered no encouragement, acted goofily annoyed that I had to go sit in the bathroom with him, and only gave him two minutes to try when normally it’s 20 minutes of me begging. He said his usual line of “I go tomorrow, poop on the potty for cookies” and I just shrugged it off and said I don’t know, maybe.

So today, same deal, he came home from daycare and I got the cookies out and started eating them. He asked for one and I told him the usual, and he wanted to try. Again, I was like “I mean you can try but I don’t think you can do it, and I’m gonna put them away in a minute so it probably won’t happen.”

He went straight to the potty and went, then came back and demanded his cookies. I don’t know whether to be amused that it worked, mad that I didn’t try this a year ago, or just glad that the whole ordeal is over.",3.5223820572312436,4.322210677494205,4.632953596287702,87.4351999226605,72.15545243619489,7.602815158546018,26.43163186388245,7.793537801064563,1.3116310286156223,1626,52,353,20,30,534,199,431,0.066,0.856,0.078,0.7954,1,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,0,2,3,5,15,11,2,0,21,0,28,10,8,5,3,69,67,35,0,4,14,0,1,1,0,5,1,2,3,0,22,31,1,3,8,6,0,12,12,2,1,6,21,3,44,9,51,38,6,67,0,0,0,0,44,25,0,4,30,229,66,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341201534919388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200212919943914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179276623643696,0.0,0.16260061950962726,0.06653829646199341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794068718546484,0.08822584349065356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705376868651372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842280534921556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040824241358993,0.0,0.0,0.07572533923770197,0.08855298430849358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885445437100722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650682206771516,0.11430804989062088,0.0,0.07290752256855218,0.0,0.07777000117243253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947923310653826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045209758473769866,0.0,0.09835704255903764,0.0,0.13841619253719376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304114212798048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679934246569777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976848730346833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511220564829387,0.07053569086217262,0.0,0.09162562326902372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04227550088828398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187932256176414,0.05776124181456097,0.0,0.08693371683884395,0.09425946619863038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20720870026074545,0.0,0.0,0.06416289240814171,0.0667393442928755,0.0,0.0,0.16241013339763005,0.08478366254604193,0.0,0.0,0.09080150069282752,0.0,0.11727357903850642,0.13162401852460756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329687434547684,0.0,0.0,0.17397850577694274,0.0,0.0,0.17311221185839432,0.0,0.1108701126809514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462480596448115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124828262339675,0.0,0.0,0.07234520264339596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506181296787139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057488473502667725,0.16633995913587274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945659648057216,0.08202287112725039,0.16537138514614386,0.0,0.4112501095171997,0.0,0.08452986341720105,0.0,0.0,0.14947291989701836,0.19060706327463814,0.0,0.05103922193010688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780327952838448,0.16043333918972025,0.0,0.09661065695737316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125993656316652,0.0,0.0,0.06147033948923785,0.0,0.0,0.11144842920227024
parenting,eokic1986,2020/01/24,"Son is developing vocal tics We recently noticed with our 9 year old that he has been developing physical and vocal tics. The issue comes that he does his vocal tics at school. Kids would tell him to stop and he gets embarrassed and has shortness of breathe. 

We have taken him a neurologist and will be having him speak to a therapist. He does jiu jitsu as much as possible through the week. It helps him so far. But the school issue is the concern for us. I don’t want him feeling left out or embarrassed that he’s different. 

Any advice is greatly appreciated.",4.234818276220146,6.328987850467295,5.368161993769473,77.75095534787124,72.3644859813084,8.867705088265836,28.71131879543095,9.444778638647367,2.7779624091381105,448,18,82,11,9,148,75,107,0.065,0.853,0.08199999999999999,0.2006,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,6,0,12,1,1,0,0,15,17,9,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,9,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,11,1,10,12,1,11,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,1,5,51,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799308633509159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521552022186455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586127121611774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192377898452452,0.0,0.0,0.3222688824212405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931022598780366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620094465434956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203005281980121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234192522769614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843702376165216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005907173358148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535760769902333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20963457502880234,0.19321470491267126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20758024535676406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180733186340625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727011799061399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539419158707285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609387719790032,0.0,0.0,0.21379049819764345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22148714460106436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860534384292296,0.0,0.14769893033249895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080151114983704,0.0,0.0,0.11857444644083025
parenting,barfmitzvah,2020/01/24,"Any advice to deal with a 2.5 year old who is terrified to go to sleep at night? (Former awesome sleeper) My toddler has refused to go to sleep unless the light is on all week. Previously she has not been afraid of going to bed at all. She can’t articulate what she’s scared of exactly. This is out of nowhere!

I am just not sure what to do. I’ve been trying to keep a cheerful demeanor and reassure her that I’m just in the next room. I tried getting her a couple of night lights but that won’t suffice. It’s getting worse, she just cries and yells when I leave the room. I’m not a big fan of crying it out so I’m just at a loss here.

Thanks in advance! Sorry for rambling, I’ve always had a hard time when my daughter cries like this.",1.4718131868131863,3.1787636538461537,3.0518681318681335,93.02884615384615,79.12820512820512,5.739194139194139,22.68131868131868,6.5431188927421005,0.3798164835164837,574,18,130,5,14,189,95,156,0.19899999999999998,0.7190000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.9490000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,8,8,0,2,9,0,12,2,2,0,4,20,22,7,0,0,9,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,9,5,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,3,4,11,5,24,18,2,25,0,1,0,0,11,11,0,0,11,81,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404600863681697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117083265294538,0.0,0.0,0.10720201498695632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442795467459066,0.5194872425830206,0.0,0.16252205457080635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647229527509345,0.0,0.2687748677684378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121633278274298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011951713600476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692019291891366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701595375015294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676541323732405,0.2958728119002488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541883669890084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578272153218237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155118391738725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764673936689484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485757875891502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513564035569104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192236012150057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140572384803716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645096163005184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606507394815847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151632610635694
parenting,crazy_whitegirl,2020/01/24,My 12 year old son has a crush on a video game character. Is this ok? My son has been playing the new Fire Emblem game and has gotten a crush on one of the female characters. He has a picture of this character as his laptop wallpaper and such. I know kids do this with celebrities but is it fine if it's a character from a game?,2.944782608695654,3.8702895652173934,4.499246376811595,87.38452173913046,73.63768115942028,8.418550724637681,25.394202898550724,8.841846274778883,1.6369976811594211,256,8,57,5,5,86,46,69,0.066,0.846,0.08800000000000001,0.3421,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,10,5,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,3,7,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,3,38,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067526793690034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.53907887074588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5856998781260185,0.0,0.3782267937543066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594397168716729
parenting,jcartredsox,2020/01/24,"Teacher Possibly Pushing Beliefs Not sure if this is the correct place but searching for some direction...my daughter is in the 4th grade gifted and talented class.  In one of their recent assignments, she was given examples of pseudoscience for a test.  The examples the teacher gave was the Big Bang theory and evolution.  I feel like this is intentionally misinforming the children and an attempt to push her personal beliefs or faith onto them.  I would’ve used “vaccines cause autism” or “faith healing” as examples of pseudoscience.  I’m considering calling the school district, but my wife believes I’m blowing this out of proportion.  Thoughts?",8.111490825688072,10.401979357798167,7.586135321100919,64.9414048165138,62.761467889908246,11.321559633027524,42.982798165137616,11.20814326018867,5.861173394495412,526,32,73,16,8,165,78,109,0.06,0.8109999999999999,0.129,0.8756,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,9,0,5,1,0,3,2,20,12,9,0,1,6,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,1,7,5,12,7,1,9,4,0,0,0,10,6,0,4,2,47,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158444937737795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862560492363567,0.0,0.0,0.287983953856265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174712169198933,0.20027324865773527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695879862257787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18996402358103126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447799928881116,0.29289314156832635,0.0,0.0,0.3160385401813379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767995753045904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28371663358177185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642148851214209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22255675283642334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212169111611706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914379890177006,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ryanthescion,2020/01/25,"Underweight daughter? At my daughter’s 18mo check up, her weight was in the 14th percentile. The doctor had some concern since she was now under their line chart for growth, even tho it wasn’t a dramatic drop from her last check up. She has always been on the lower part of their graph, it’s just now she’s off of it. Her doctor wanted to do another weight check after 2 months which will be this coming Monday, but we took her this past week for something else and she hasn’t gained much weight. However she is now in the 15th percentile. Like I said, not much gain. 

Now the thing is, this girl eats. I mean throws down the food. We don’t feed her junk either. Except the occasional treat from grandma of course. She gets healthy fats, moderate carbs and protein. Should we be concerned because the doctor is? Any thing we can try to get her weight up, or is she fine how she is?",2.2155555555555537,4.640154682080926,2.413824662813102,94.87509794476559,80.21387283236994,5.231727681438664,19.43770070648684,6.42735559955562,-0.04426499678869655,692,17,144,6,18,209,109,173,0.038,0.86,0.102,0.9095,2,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,2,2,8,3,0,0,9,0,19,11,1,1,0,18,26,6,0,2,6,2,4,1,0,2,4,1,0,1,9,7,8,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,7,5,23,3,21,15,5,25,0,0,0,0,24,10,0,2,11,99,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233660450572144,0.0,0.0,0.09180936124472884,0.14156656727401132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229898870371999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162965402612204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4145560277312102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814582288735186,0.11278098996339653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917082269063631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325094989790492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107112703291094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004869017100448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659575803711847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706215625854627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776126609099056,0.0,0.19849129693256606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619937953052306,0.12887941807396525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284225336464571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167915104725062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393495235937564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793852482783838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999769824580264,0.09166086261104653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963060192790551,0.0,0.1082944384716027,0.6576084165987471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YourFriendlyViking,2020/01/25,"My Best Friend hasn’t reached out since I have given birth. So I could really use a different perspective on this situation and I’m sticking to this sub since maybe you all have previous experience. 

A little over two weeks ago I went into labor, she came early so I didn’t have a call list ready for my husband. That night on the way to the hospital I sent a screenshot to my 3 best girlfriends of my husbands phone number telling them to contact my husband for updates because I was  on my way to the hospital. All three did initially reach out asking for details to which my husband replied however after that my best friend did not contact him.

Even the day’s while I was at the hospital I received no text from her congratulating me. About 5 days after giving birth I reached out to her asking about  dog crate I let her borrow asking for it back because our dog was having a bad reaction to the baby by pissing all over the house. She stated that it was at her parents house that was an hour away and she couldn’t get it. That was the last I heard from her which was almost two weeks ago.

It has been harder for us to hang out recently because I was in my third trimester but we recently talked about hanging out more this year. 

How would you respond to this? Would you reach out, would you take this as a huge slap in the face. I dunno what to think. She was my MOH a year ago so this is hard to process.",3.865162375904422,5.1698708586572435,4.467834427057042,87.03299175500591,71.86219081272084,7.5106175332323755,27.257109204105678,7.957251820313856,1.5336254080430765,1115,39,230,15,21,355,147,283,0.027999999999999997,0.8759999999999999,0.096,0.9073,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,4,1,3,9,7,1,0,17,0,26,2,2,2,3,26,40,9,0,5,2,5,1,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,18,11,0,0,1,0,1,6,5,2,0,4,18,2,42,5,44,16,7,50,0,0,0,0,40,19,1,2,22,170,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903615993433217,0.0,0.1093344574872101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30622377432211256,0.0,0.1025842637500609,0.08395764019008227,0.09116612483068193,0.19967713902980405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34375332827151894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149157298449693,0.12488021092625524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717649555312358,0.0,0.0,0.140832454654462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407660085066315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211662030623621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068052991048528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871436047570496,0.0,0.05704541349641248,0.10474159178934976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780961258288104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075266590806988,0.2519730067452616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900152947780689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165054249051533,0.0,0.0,0.10943350697164746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969246444280688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246408660920636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123863111615599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994763559672837,0.0,0.21561689357815628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18064031909045303,0.12273014426602713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820946218001104,0.08775993240993515,0.09543376968005672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996226825223713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133185920127041,0.0,0.13133785529138411,0.09430203577606658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333424322123114,0.17516556794880234,0.0,0.0,0.10121693282212127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23268876359710555,0.0,0.0,0.14062498765742726
parenting,flashaahahaah,2020/01/25,"Searching for my ""rat park"" If you've seen the tv show The Let Down then you'll already understand rat park means finding something that makes you happy and be yourself. There's probably a better way to explain it but that's what I got out of that episode.

It's been a struggle having any time to feel like me since the baby. My friends seem to never have time for me while my DH is always going out doing something. I've given up trying to plan date nights. Inevitably some stupid sports event is on that is more important.

Where I live there are no Mommy and Me groups.. There's one Mommy and baby workout program but of course it occurs when I work. 

I love being a Mom but I just feel so alone. My me time consists of working out after baby goes to bed or the rare occasion of going grocery shopping child free.  

I miss me. And I don't know how to find me.",1.6520825396825387,3.902556497142857,2.766238095238098,92.54637301587304,81.17142857142858,4.803174603174604,21.722222222222207,5.82211442006289,0.17061269841269766,677,21,138,4,18,216,114,175,0.085,0.7829999999999999,0.133,0.8725,0,1,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,4,8,9,1,1,7,0,13,1,0,2,1,26,28,14,0,1,6,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,7,0,0,9,5,2,2,3,3,0,1,4,3,19,7,19,20,2,21,0,1,1,1,8,7,0,4,12,89,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664488721407035,0.1882131155403948,0.0,0.14191650257412175,0.0,0.0,0.11598413098512725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084318510690034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247677740862016,0.12184545307629188,0.0,0.0,0.31177073221685514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177137243401907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386214878241956,0.0,0.13640945179616853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815603502648837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937332807223542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440536982738414,0.0,0.08332519187059224,0.0,0.15060433550725075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393371753645504,0.0,0.11384765303196705,0.0,0.0,0.1857858083663096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975347438592755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154353116280953,0.0,0.0,0.16005553148675328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557336127793501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183888535733892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526804767840954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410859318457116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26260514102149696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17830247398234575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983582461045547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579653045347547,0.0,0.0,0.17755512078097171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537965028390544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483340319208842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaysundayye,2020/01/25,"Was anyone else unable to really enjoy your newborn? Whether from PPD, or another reason, or just because you don’t like the newborn stage? 

I feel like I didn’t get to enjoy my newborn because I ended up changing her name a few days after she was born. I had a name I loved the whole time I was pregnant, and I let family and friends talk me out of it. So I ended up with a name I didn’t want, and it caused so much stress, anxiety, and depression. And when I decided to change it, there was so SO much paperwork and phone calls and researching and going to different places. I feel like I didn’t get to even enjoy my newborn. And the newborn stage was my favorite. 

I didn’t do skin to skin. I didn’t take many pictures or videos. I didn’t just soak her in because I was so stressed out. And it makes me feel *really* guilty and almost sick because I probably won’t get to have any more children. I just feel robbed of enjoying my baby because I let people talk me out of name that I loved. And it probably sounds silly, but it’s a big deal to me.

She’s two now, and I still feel sick over this sometimes. Did anyone else not really get to enjoy your newborn?",3.4146418902288933,4.334767313807531,4.704656657642137,86.37282549840019,72.51464435146444,7.96662564607433,26.61112478464189,8.313332769828598,1.6101959635737142,904,30,192,14,17,300,110,239,0.069,0.7979999999999999,0.133,0.8951,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,3,0,0,13,15,0,2,7,0,20,6,2,3,0,41,35,24,0,1,9,0,7,3,1,1,2,1,0,7,8,17,0,0,7,1,0,1,9,3,0,1,14,8,36,12,22,18,5,21,0,1,0,2,26,9,0,4,12,131,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763191936630484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309431300699752,0.11270866978444274,0.08222666133831896,0.0,0.0,0.15031372336270168,0.22026466165707015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276129993124445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975544461720704,0.0,0.0,0.11041795267710684,0.2274123295612921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931971746098903,0.11081356939777924,0.09257772067862947,0.0,0.0,0.11230021885622864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958188293346514,0.0,0.1904017682507562,0.0,0.0,0.07099363220125952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132843878751098,0.0,0.27174130303999383,0.15357634893656202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304358415453336,0.0,0.2246284469425068,0.0,0.0610868937972573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21982387735264705,0.0,0.15753700797408735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19402101367441726,0.0,0.07174788408681303,0.10897415279425283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802947314358828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451740867046365,0.0,0.11230021885622864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317766417727461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065752676906483,0.1105137322565832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063066164286123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858386312574585,0.0,0.24625019544148424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081625790323611,0.17278669846317146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267607716030743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499841505835836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339815530072787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000452204926595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quazitafsir,2020/01/25,"Is it normal or paranormal? My child is 2 years. 
This night she wont fall asleep, kept crying and waking up. When she is awake she is fine. But, she would mention something about pain but wont point it.
Its 5 in the morning and we are awake with her. She cried like she never cried before, crazy, loud and unstoppable. 
Now, at 5 am, she all of a sudden points at this dark back window and kept saying a baby iz",0.9552380952380944,3.1485697619047635,2.097619047619048,96.64738095238096,83.52380952380952,4.685714285714286,15.285714285714285,5.82211442006289,-0.8067285714285708,316,5,70,2,9,100,61,84,0.14800000000000002,0.772,0.081,-0.7181,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,9,3,2,0,2,15,11,8,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,1,1,5,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,2,10,2,7,6,1,14,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,8,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506719852988735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826674948853612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7074113989329187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487642258864856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556595494504706,0.0,0.0,0.20145230009100934,0.21033002649192264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284229350389439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058631554308358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071339283752618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526267222099356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249468759641904,0.0,0.0,0.13823978796544092
parenting,pattke1,2020/01/25,"Mom left four kids at park? A lady pulled up to the park and let four kids out. One was a three year old who had been riding in the front seat and should DEFINITELY have been in a car seat. Very small child. 

She lets the kids out and drives off down a private drive. I think she’s turning around, we are about to leave and I see another couple there. Think nothing of it. We drive back thirty minutes later and all the kids are still there without a parent. 

My thinking is maybe they live in the house behind the park but idk. The kids are young maybe 3-8 and it’s getting dark. What should I do? I don’t want to cause trouble for someone if they live down behind the park but I also don’t feel like investigating to find out. Also there are a lot of homeless people that sleep at that park at night. 

Was thinking of driving back in twenty more minutes to see if anyone had gotten them. If they’re there when it’s dark I’m calling the cops I think. Unsure! Maybe I’m being too protective since I’m a mother to a one year old and I couldn’t imagine leaving her at the park.",1.6634699978646168,3.61400165919283,2.6796796925048056,94.76428998505232,79.49327354260089,4.965107836856716,19.58765748451847,5.622346879071545,-0.3166252829382876,842,20,186,4,21,267,121,223,0.046,0.9209999999999999,0.034,-0.3581,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,3,0,13,2,0,0,18,0,21,1,1,1,1,34,36,15,0,7,6,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,6,7,13,0,1,8,0,0,8,4,1,0,5,7,3,16,1,30,23,3,37,0,0,2,0,19,18,0,4,12,123,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308157132130588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658681636353492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441114482419307,0.0,0.0,0.1074675577092458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856544669339368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326995198531085,0.0,0.0,0.12401403659103187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335758301338509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104032013171624,0.08624332590294732,0.0,0.0,0.11033708762502244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307190036383087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929618002340785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556528668451379,0.1311640533738817,0.24689143122688775,0.0,0.058978332773087026,0.0,0.21319825174626747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026329382490696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363842337040902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138733581568186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328876881387193,0.0,0.1158353500199368,0.0,0.25335340855258426,0.0,0.1636077639458741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404672511465507,0.0,0.0,0.08369295410277745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19239850381322432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986191272046947,0.0,0.12080849056945178,0.0,0.10228677173786822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640819178033573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867666953374101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313101161127409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960772130336956,0.07120455470008444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116371032080274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548112751872667
parenting,tuhgttg,2020/01/25,"I got seriously stressed out and it turns out I needed to get help. Lately I have been under a huge amount of stress.

 I have a work center where I've just been slammed with project after project, and my boss get annoyed with me leaving work on time. Who wants me to keep working after hours while I'm with my family. (The boss says they do that and it's still family time as they are home when my boss does that.) Working like that before is how I almost ruined my marriage, so I avoid doing that at all costs. If on occasion I need to wrap up something small before a deadline I will as long as i know i wont spend long on it. 

My oldest is having anger issues and getting help. Hes doing better but sometimes that's difficult still when he loses control. 

My youngest is acting out as he wants more attention because we have to spend more time tending to the older ones needs.

All of this compounded with it being post holidays and big life changes around the corner for the whole family. 

Needless to say it took my wife telling me that I had changed with how I was acting or my demeanor to make me realize I needed to do something because the way I was currently handling myself was good for no one to include myself. 

So the next day I went to my Mental Health department at my work and told them what's going on. They recommend I get seen by a behavioral health provider, so I went. After explaining everything to the provider she said I am experiencing anxiety, and struggling to compartmentalize my stress. So my steps were to address my work problems to my bosses, and write a list to organize my life better before the big life changes. 

So the next day I spoke with my bosses about everything, from my workload to my personal life. They listened and offered me to get some time in to do fitness at work, and lower my workload. Now this does not fix all my stressors but it took enough off my plate to better allow me to focus on my other aspects of my life. Honestly I feel so much more relaxed about everything. Now I just need to make my lists. 

So fellow parents please take time to take stock of what's going on with you and get help if you need it. Dont let the stress of it all burn you out, and if you cant tell then ask your SO if they have noticed anything off, and make sure to be open to discussing the hard things and how they make you feel.",6.659680851063832,5.957153691489363,6.680297872340429,80.65300000000002,65.27659574468086,9.562553191489362,32.629787234042546,8.726425361277474,2.4480834042553186,1865,65,374,24,25,595,219,470,0.095,0.802,0.10300000000000001,0.7932,3,1,2,0,0,0,34.0,1,6,7,12,23,21,2,6,16,0,30,7,0,14,5,77,71,40,0,13,10,2,3,1,1,2,7,5,2,1,21,28,0,3,6,2,3,10,5,13,0,2,16,10,69,8,68,50,12,67,0,2,1,0,40,28,0,7,28,261,90,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635586660641407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050693338959115486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054531304404819736,0.058990824510564185,0.061949801821039964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807903254309498,0.0,0.16916255706978578,0.0,0.0,0.17582078107081092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21030205017992665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432299819051523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547222705155437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597971572477313,0.0,0.07766330495373705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847053299416081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17866693075314613,0.0,0.18740917398501394,0.0,0.06701220144410039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20772762414365928,0.0,0.07532103487657336,0.055580810092937055,0.0529990054312511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059361355555579726,0.0,0.0,0.140875402830345,0.0,0.0,0.13325018866080826,0.0,0.0664702407781142,0.0,0.06525870078448842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069164528943812,0.0,0.05890030078732486,0.0,0.0,0.03641808238857367,0.0,0.07475097907808398,0.07016616793547306,0.0,0.06776151521034496,0.2340283176450916,0.03237423974922535,0.0,0.0,0.11728671965073242,0.0,0.07413474817916338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769323841398471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667805820349137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048713163815791966,0.2948125725082447,0.0,0.0,0.14094936989308848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544432535730805,0.0,0.0,0.08980716689969527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358059498149501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578609498277756,0.0,0.07274021222462987,0.0,0.0,0.06346454836571523,0.0,0.0,0.06340765052715787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303417848374725,0.10539482891789548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202966958675,0.06553880763855044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058402897380688,0.0,0.3036300981478911,0.06927565254874281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062454958149908986,0.0,0.09964762982263632,0.0,0.11583887890746375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04402421224790603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320130310547384,0.0,0.0,0.06332004066055268,0.14724801660441356,0.0,0.0720784223739932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781708541666091,0.05259889784909399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285856530528315,0.0,0.0739836667798053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376972626627173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ran2019,2020/01/25,"Pristiq in pregnancy (or other SNRIs) 
Hi all

Sorry if this is the wrong place to post. I’m wondering whether anyone took Pristiq in pregnancy (or other SNRIs) and if so, if everything turned out ok with your child after birth?

I know there are “safer” antidepressants to take but Pristiq seems to be the most effective for me and my doctor is happy for me to stay on it. 

Interested in real life experiences, so I don’t have to resort to studies for info, which really freak me out.

Thanks everyone",4.136808510638296,6.263910925531918,5.437180851063832,77.00875,72.72340425531914,8.955319148936171,26.643617021276608,9.516144504307137,2.644706382978724,393,14,70,10,8,131,68,94,0.069,0.743,0.188,0.9331,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,1,6,2,0,1,1,20,14,11,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,7,4,17,12,2,12,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,8,2,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923163352902056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330876781758062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21760238851713595,0.20466585552447844,0.22276017207428386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24241904786645366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515250511998496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608499311401877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379256782961298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21809899624945045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259202563554406,0.1458873995233122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073136135029987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549211241969763,0.0,0.2427261030262391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712219546392801,0.0,0.0,0.2096599254473552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530124726964413,0.0,0.247700991747768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469596282867971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489831314605617,0.0,0.0
parenting,NeeMan,2020/01/25,"Stroller / car seat combo for the city / ubers? I'm wondering if anybody has any advice for those parents who live in the city who hop in and out of ubers / lyfts.  My little one is turning a year old in a few weeks.  We currently use the Doona stroller, which has been fantastic.  It very easily turns from a car seat to a stroller with the click of a button, making it very easy to get around.  Sadly, she will be growing out of this sooner than later and they do not make a larger size Doona (infant car seat only).  I realize that I will not find anything like the Doona, but is there something comparable?  Is there a baseless car seat, that also comes with a stroller attachment?  What have other parents used?  Thanks so much",3.506630695443647,5.545012223021583,3.783615107913669,88.56712529976022,74.25179856115108,6.647721822541968,24.53297362110312,7.492282038375204,1.1044671462829738,565,18,111,7,12,175,93,139,0.025,0.865,0.11,0.8945,3,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,13,0,11,0,0,4,0,20,22,6,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,11,9,0,0,3,0,0,6,2,1,0,1,1,1,6,2,17,18,2,18,0,1,1,0,8,7,0,2,6,71,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17577245890007004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384653775563935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223216488375536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480223803083213,0.16012751493309965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494699414077634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644031373091348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939776327167748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878781844787314,0.18028271327609655,0.1588335445966597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401368621185197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222934127585995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874929595550566,0.0,0.12188843416025673,0.13680358054542896,0.0,0.0,0.3994613711349535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847710704099192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560538377531814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913062328185951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107097149243973,0.0,0.2968325924668354,0.0,0.0,0.14428544207461189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506753106098115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583405773456094
parenting,Thaddeusrps,2020/01/25,My sons school hired a pedophile I just found out (not through the school but instead through a news Facebook page for the area) that my first graders janitor was arrested for raping a child. I am fuming as nobody thought to contact us parents (at least not me) and the schools only comment is basically taking no responsibility and overly pushing how the safety of the children are their top priority. I call BS. I am separated from my child’s father and he is very difficult to deal with (that could be a whole separate story) but I’m looking for advice on how you other parents would go about an incident like this?.,10.268706896551722,8.014625698275863,9.835586206896554,65.86803448275865,59.25862068965517,12.383448275862069,43.889655172413796,10.793553405168565,4.7644710344827566,495,24,86,9,5,161,88,116,0.17300000000000001,0.757,0.071,-0.9454,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,1,2,6,4,2,0,10,0,9,1,0,2,0,17,15,8,0,2,5,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,3,1,11,1,16,9,3,9,0,0,1,1,15,6,0,0,2,65,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913705207066972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976385226530948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453574947399126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954390620052864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463547409944376,0.0,0.21222008941270773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000022354848768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455986937680096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253517137428575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720523396549326,0.0,0.0,0.4298338125629004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5876557347465381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455272298704987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365889368766614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23281956647812765,0.0,0.0,0.15970090493411584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160942132048848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374939894387112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaeInsanity45,2020/01/25,"Can I personally request that my daughter get tubes put in her ears? I know there's usually some sort of guidelines that doctors go by before suggesting tubes,  however,  my 7 year old daughter gets *terrible* ear infections.  She's on her second one in the past 4 months. 

What kind of sucks,  is that they seem to cause her NO PAIN. I always have urgent care or the doctor check her ears, regardless of what the visit is for, because it's happened many times that she's had one without a single complaint. 

I'm 99% sure she has one now.  She's got a fever between 102-104, and tired, low appetite. (*please* do not tell me to rush her to the ER. Her fever, even at 104 is not life threatening, and is treatable at home in absence of more severe symptoms)

This happens when they get particularly bad.  Again no other signs of one until now.  Ask if her ears hurt, not one bit. I can poke them and wiggle them and she doesn't care. 

I'm tired of watching her go through this over and over again.  Can I just request an ENT referral? Is that a thing a doctor would do on request? 

Any other insight?",2.50020930232558,4.610769009302331,3.4211046511627887,89.68188953488372,77.51162790697674,6.16046511627907,24.703488372093023,7.1686216300943375,1.0009581395348843,847,30,173,10,20,270,132,215,0.138,0.794,0.067,-0.9517,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,4,0,8,10,1,0,9,0,15,15,4,1,1,22,31,9,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,11,4,1,1,13,5,0,0,3,0,1,5,7,6,1,6,2,5,25,4,24,28,4,27,0,2,1,0,27,10,1,5,12,115,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330452741673164,0.0,0.0,0.08442771363394433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606549307177327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366185238235943,0.07568199316973054,0.0,0.10564432824878124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554198348453791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531627652982098,0.12753844868583333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812249330568739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200131860802498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945931093574003,0.0,0.14111704629629052,0.0,0.0992958091369159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21957465756402986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453472075339407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329074353389523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292853504111338,0.06823077015433959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769232921423137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587078511476113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909705493004707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302767879519269,0.0,0.420643521092429,0.0,0.132106632019828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851726724743825,0.0,0.10840486125786243,0.0,0.13628176926838426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480719334127817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130234468677042,0.0,0.14025658148527825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701192416057456,0.1290416121094474,0.0,0.0,0.10851444396961686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824811662256878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239411216140516,0.28538924646084257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367360438698731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967823410532205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881941192807287,0.0,0.0,0.07994990869080633
parenting,saffwdwdwd,2020/01/25,"pls help me i’m babysitting my nephew and he cut his face and i’m having a massive panic attack hi, for context my nephew is 4 years old. i was getting him ready for bed and on his way to the bathroom he tripped and bashed his check on the radiator. A LOT of blood came, although the bleeding only lasted a few minutes. the cut is only like 1.5cm wide+long but why is it bleeding that much??? do i need to take him to the doctors??? it’s been like 10 minutes and he’s not crying anymore and i’ve let him stay up to watch dinosaur king however he’s now completely silent and every time i try to lighten his mood by tickling him or pulling silly faces he says it hurts. i gave him calpol, cleaned the wound, and gave him a cold compress. idk what to do i’m panicking so much this is my first time dealing with a child with a face full of blood",1.0946275252525268,3.1892571875000013,2.436969696969701,95.00601010101013,82.23863636363636,4.8202020202020215,23.982323232323232,5.82211442006289,0.34791262626262665,659,25,145,4,18,212,108,176,0.102,0.8170000000000001,0.081,-0.6837,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,2,9,3,1,12,0,10,9,5,0,0,16,19,12,0,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,4,1,2,1,6,11,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,5,0,1,5,3,18,3,16,13,5,16,0,1,1,0,24,4,0,2,9,82,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418756480709167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21128701578934544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124179278347517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472730057633128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20400827602610452,0.0,0.1914725220451124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900956224727426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647985351355773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797610683352334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970327359115382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448638374205867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19882058696495086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513892419429326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18991461258394549,0.0,0.1814700034551545,0.0,0.0,0.16435923735299013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789527088132754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730559257742816,0.1377114411697608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948853153508961,0.0,0.0,0.28250181067708463,0.0,0.2179062248211747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769458770335722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19795627982682992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396407751061124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659344845575626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260938997543633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741847605302916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758635130168434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959968780649295
parenting,parcy9823,2020/01/25,"How do I react? Hi all, this is a bit of a life story so I'll apologise in advance..

I had a beautiful child with my ex fiance 4 years ago, and we split when she was a year old.
I am serving in the military which means working away a lot, so you would assume that when we were together, my ex partner was looking after my child.. however she would leave her with my mother most days until 9/ 10 at night. This obviously didnt sit well with anyone, causing negative feeling across the board and then it eventually came out she had been seeing another man in my absence, using my mother as babysitter (no woe is me or anything, it's all good!)
When I found out, and we split, she met yet another bloke and created a story that I was abusive to her and our child, and used this as justification to stop me from seeing her for almost 6 months. Eventually as court proceedings were on the cards, she gave it up and allowed me to have her on weekends again.

Since, she has had numerous relationships with men where she has introduced my daughter to them straight away, naturally I'm not comfortable, and I dong believe it's best for our child, but I understand there is nothing I can do to stop her from doing so.. however, it has come to light that since we split, she has been having our child stay my ex partners mother throughout the week most of the time, (unless they have a little ""family day out""),  so that she can continue her relationships, and then takes her home so the 3 of them can feign some forced family dynamic if that makes any sense..
The guy she is seeing now has known her less than a month and I've just seen seen him and my ex partner making inappropriate jokes at my daughter's expense, about him being a paedophile - whether true or not, as the father this boils my blood.
Where do I go from here? I'm terrified because if she is investigated, she will cut all contact and stop me from seeing our child, that almost killed me first time round",8.147270089933276,6.4508918224543095,8.174651871192344,74.3524158688715,62.89033942558746,11.539831737742965,35.11589788221642,10.380263240014207,3.338545227734261,1540,53,305,29,18,502,203,383,0.095,0.852,0.053,-0.9533,3,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,8,1,3,4,19,10,2,0,17,0,36,3,1,9,5,66,59,35,1,4,10,10,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,12,16,25,1,3,7,2,1,4,5,3,1,1,17,10,59,7,42,38,10,53,0,1,8,0,62,18,0,11,29,222,75,1,0.0,0.12966772218542527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701137167224064,0.0,0.2191753809566241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442250399971387,0.2295133802552357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652253108324318,0.0,0.09005925194135514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20564372480838955,0.0,0.0,0.06671320585325022,0.0,0.0,0.1233006596019698,0.11484983540501728,0.0,0.11947941468299485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516944992802187,0.0,0.11242434858051828,0.0,0.0942723009440444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115864115189403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063393397028402,0.0,0.05533581856209616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308904665290467,0.0,0.11999458750967874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621968989231933,0.09179252603431244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836215257732557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977658110649614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107841486559415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588045921200613,0.0,0.0,0.0773002423112694,0.0,0.1096869693743895,0.0,0.0,0.09190148255448102,0.0,0.0,0.09304141323620632,0.0,0.0,0.14610321845177393,0.0,0.0,0.11921152444557055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470687406904126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270140691726763,0.0,0.105009998275707,0.0,0.1148381775972203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23499378914965735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488359391187224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105870584032316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664777501735975,0.0,0.27448856569808155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228476374721118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762991842341573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393021247179068,0.0,0.1890409034006722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778563722729693,0.0,0.09839910974987394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967314289860479,0.0,0.0,0.15548513426241484,0.0,0.0,0.14095069363399307
parenting,guapo131,2020/01/25,"Humidifier use in Summer? Wife and I have a 5mo old boy. It's winter now. It's cold and dry so we  use a humidifier (we did this before the baby came along too). But my spouse was just saying that we would also be using the humidifier in the  summer too because of the baby. We live in southwest Virginia where it gets quite humid/muggy during the summer\*. I don't think that a  humidifier would be necessary in the summer. At least not on a daily  basis as we are doing now in the dead of winter (it's quite dry now).  Maybe if/when the baby gets sick/congested, then the extra humidity might help. But I wouldn't think we would need to run the humidifier day & night like we do in the winter. What does everyone think? 

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\*How humid does it get in my town?[  Average weather in my town ](https://weatherspark.com/y/18975/Average-Weather-in-Blacksburg-Virginia-United-States-Year-Round)(Scroll halfway down to see that 80% of the time in July, it is ""Humid, muggy, or oppressive"")",4.455480225988701,7.367283841807907,5.111666666666668,75.92874293785313,74.98870056497175,6.6451977401129945,20.567796610169488,7.793537801064563,0.9976644067796604,788,19,134,12,18,253,101,177,0.025,0.941,0.034,-0.163,0,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,7,0,0,2,10,1,0,0,16,0,15,0,0,4,0,29,27,10,1,5,5,2,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,11,11,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,3,13,1,19,17,2,32,0,0,1,0,12,15,0,2,16,93,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898426676230607,0.0,0.3224195612588386,0.1807915129565649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069868377491216,0.0,0.12660609372377798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017177052282614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595478730324117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604076046163721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421715858638182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332039386278044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972825054507646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268941962556623,0.0,0.13138093648938515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494757315734168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783864090605962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032307867789254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962576539520355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612608361362448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31650486667408617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183207544782728,0.0,0.0,0.1185633343758434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860085590015534,0.0,0.0,0.08675842708538682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3855105049765636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170803331319628,0.0,0.1807915129565649,0.09581343173557916
parenting,marshmallowserial,2020/01/25,Parent to be looking for life hacks Hi Parents. I will be a Father this Spring and I'm very excited. A bit about our home. We have a very enthusiastic dog who loves People and Kids in particular. We have firearms properly stored in safes.What are some tips to get a home ready for a newborn that won't be found in the standard parent to be books?,1.3812857142857131,3.8332093428571454,2.825357142857144,90.39089285714287,84.14285714285714,5.785714285714287,21.607142857142854,7.1686216300943375,0.6518571428571431,274,9,58,4,8,89,51,70,0.0,0.821,0.179,0.9079,3,0,0,1,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,6,0,9,2,0,0,0,7,14,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,3,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,9,7,2,4,0,0,1,1,12,3,0,1,1,34,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275905396177041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22857186733790136,0.0,0.0,0.10891471809689576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182161654826057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724548079582295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505867484985474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814842284540872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6944294302275552,0.0,0.0,0.14452386007426762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440120504836401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LinksMama27,2020/01/25,"Need Some Advice My 9 year old son has turned into a different person in the last 6 months - or maybe he’s always been like this and I’m just now catching him in things, I’m not really sure. 

But he is turning into a lying, manipulative, cheating little ass hole (there’s just really no other way to put it) and I have had enough. 

In the past 6 months I have caught him in some very bad situations. 

Most recently, he came home with a referral for stealing an eraser from his art class. My son told me he lost the same eraser cap & took it because he thought it was his. The teacher wrote him up because he said this has happened before & he’s already talked to my son verbally about it. This referral will follow him on his permanent record until he graduates as theft. 

For that infraction, we’ve taken away the video games. This is his biggest joy in life (he will literally play for 12 straight hours if I let him) & so it’s the first thing we take when he misbehaves. 

This morning I caught him playing on his Switch, even though he knows he shouldn’t be on it. He told his younger brother to come into my room and get the Switch & to tell me that he (younger brother) was going to play it. He convinced his younger brother that if he did that, he would let him play with his drone. When I went into his (older brother) room, I asked him, “What are you doing,” and he lied and said, “I’m just holding it for D (younger brother).” Younger brother ratted him out immediately because he could tell shit was about to get real.

Prior to that, I’ve caught him lying about his homework. He is required to read for 30 minutes & we have always used the Alexa timer in our kitchen to track that. He would yell, “Alexa, set a timer for 30 minutes,” and then run off to his room and pretend to read. Then when I would go outside or get busy with our two other boys (we also have a 5 year old & 9 month old), he would sneak into the kitchen, turn the volume down, whisper to Alexa to cancel that timer & set a new timer for 10 minutes (or a shorter amount of time) & turn the volume back up & go back in his room. The new timer would go off and I would always think to myself, “Shit, that 30 minutes went by super quick,” but I didn’t ever think to LOOK at the clock because I didn’t realize he was manipulating it. I finally caught him red handed changing the timer, & he had that look on his face that he just knew he messed up (if you have kids you KNOW this look). He tried lying at first by saying he was just checking the timer but he knew he was caught. He finally admitted he’s been doing it for a while, I just never caught him. 

A few weeks prior to that incident, I told my two older boys (again, 5 & 9) to go clean their rooms & when they were done we could all play super smash brothers. Their rooms weren’t horribly unkept, so I said mom & dad are going to start playing and when you guys finish you can come join us. Our 5 year old came out about 8 minutes later & said, “I’m done, my room is so clean!” My husband and I were in the middle of the round (we literally NEVER play video games but the kids were begging us to), so I didn’t get up to go check the 5 year olds room right away. We all continued to play & waited for our oldest son to join us. Out of the corner of my eye I saw my oldest son leave his room, which was still visibly messy, and enter his brothers room, whose room is not visible from the play room. We finished the round (Mom won, with Kirby👊🏻), so I got up to go see how my 5 year old’s room looked. Instead I found my 9 year old actively dumping out his brothers toys, to make it look like his room was still messy. Again - same look - caught. He lied again initially, and said he was looking for something, but then fessed up when he could sense that I wasn’t buying what he was selling. 

So the obvious theme here is that my 9 year old will lie, manipulate, cheat, and steal his way into getting what he wants, and I am about to pull my hair out trying to rid him of these qualities. We do spank in our home (piss off to some other thread if you wanna argue about that bc I haven’t got the time for it) but as a last resort. This is approaching spank-worthy in my book, but my biggest issue is I can’t seem to get it across to my son that he has broken our TRUST in him. 

He is currently grounded, but continues to come out & ask when he will get his games back, when can he go outside, etc. Even though I’ve told him he’s grounded & he’s not to be on anything electronic. Presently he is banished to his bedroom and only comes out for food or water & to use the bathroom. 

As a parent, would you do? We talked to him after each one of these events, explained to him what the punishment would be, and carried on once his time was served. But after all of this in the last 6 months, my trust has been completely shattered & I feel like I don’t even know my own kid anymore. He hasn’t been through any trauma that I can think of, and is otherwise a pleasant kid. But the outright defiance has me raging, & I don’t know what to do. 

Thanks for reading my novel, if you’ve made it this far. 


TL;DR - My 9 year old has exhibited poor behaviors like lying, manipulation, cheating, & stealing to get ahead. How would you react to & discipline these behaviors?",5.7001754440928565,5.007528445471352,6.001390081142894,84.69930558601462,67.22550831792975,8.962210595570037,29.24471318023748,8.062487944422118,1.68173083116639,4126,118,897,44,59,1324,384,1082,0.1,0.82,0.079,-0.9761,4,0,1,0,0,0,175.0,18,8,3,8,48,40,10,0,41,0,88,13,8,11,8,141,182,63,0,21,28,20,5,4,0,14,1,8,22,8,54,50,4,4,16,22,5,32,17,17,0,5,61,24,118,23,128,99,15,188,0,1,13,1,164,70,4,14,86,536,172,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02975254081665742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03359911737264431,0.02434852429493894,0.07600324578995213,0.7257669276369844,0.0,0.020705063083114768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030195328706016426,0.0,0.0,0.025055358157138243,0.0,0.056927832162866884,0.0,0.05721208056666259,0.07023579103387098,0.025422045682714646,0.07424104599725255,0.0,0.02590822831289916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964671215170165,0.0,0.0,0.03220898066990432,0.10490987715459417,0.03192319120509484,0.0,0.0,0.07292856386711137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031810725349360795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231588155020501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03145997965944899,0.033956550079711004,0.060330040987695135,0.027541133117960328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01539496190679635,0.021751404876748412,0.0,0.06670659064362694,0.0,0.051796552916381716,0.0368167381864733,0.03338365911512176,0.0,0.0,0.12725876946846615,0.0,0.15573402961628424,0.0,0.0487026333789567,0.0,0.0,0.030147402792900645,0.02692425828341222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108182108109144,0.0,0.029984247376271443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03177884819318201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693169052902638,0.07445531832416345,0.0,0.03223906868403836,0.0,0.062268418164429774,0.021505677817573083,0.059499634628964376,0.03051597968675098,0.0,0.0,0.1789751921825597,0.0,0.033236591885199916,0.0,0.0,0.028809769687685883,0.020323666848818384,0.0,0.0305881910336073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713185200958626,0.09721029673140784,0.0,0.0,0.02257612905114031,0.04696534065079811,0.05881197227310379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875418623859488,0.032425153731558375,0.02063173397655674,0.023156381491805676,0.0,0.0,0.033807886695513205,0.0,0.02906518948785062,0.0,0.026585221774357376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03060773175218033,0.0,0.0,0.09136597857177184,0.03465545046725445,0.039010366862482895,0.0,0.030062825027877795,0.0,0.0,0.026001645747076668,0.14481075918584432,0.02421274546125458,0.0,0.0,0.02426238616325816,0.027717884288720344,0.0,0.0,0.06250699407937052,0.0,0.03422380121971631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023439654910625527,0.0,0.0,0.02155060473070352,0.0,0.048630165659639214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02869601896038164,0.0,0.022892420069227357,0.04894443007160632,0.053224191704670534,0.028031586808685224,0.0,0.0,0.04045538310503592,0.05852779142070522,0.059828216339219475,0.02417158592794664,0.053261823445092116,0.0,0.0,0.11637398478474545,0.033827833702303085,0.04134314664395723,0.1324707492470888,0.0594847592918003,0.0,0.10987228962364436,0.05259301447603768,0.0,0.02512203526749502,0.017958480637597796,0.04833496057590353,0.02442281647214664,0.0,0.0,0.05644950895625296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465863188787771,0.0,0.0,0.15685540509692228
parenting,suckmytentacles,2020/01/25,Reading books When did you started reading stories to your babies? My LO is 9m and if I try to read to him he is just constantly grabbing the book and biting it... And I suck at imagining stories....,1.5857500000000009,3.730898074999999,3.6500000000000017,86.70500000000001,80.75,6.0,30.0,7.1686216300943375,1.906,153,8,30,2,4,52,32,40,0.075,0.925,0.0,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,5,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,0,4,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,1,3,21,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238512236516501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8992933089521179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21211740892119355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20346531460137973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mlr1991,2020/01/25,"Getting back to being spouses not just parents after baby. My (F28) fiancé (m31) and I have been together 4 years. We have a 7 year old and an 11 month old. Lately we are realizing we need to start working on our relationship and getting back back to being a man and woman and not just always mom and dad. Our relationship had been on the back burning the past 11 months which is to be expected after having a baby. Our focus was mostly on survival which I’m sure most of you can relate. In the early days with a baby it’s all about sleep and eat and maybe sometimes doing some housework. Now that our baby is older and starting daycare soon, we are looking for ways to carve out some time for each other. We do have support in the form of our parents and we should be relying on them for help more than we do. Tomorrow my mom is going to watch the kids for two hours so hubby and I can go for a coffee (the first time we will be letting anyone watch the 11 month old)...anyway. I am just looking for suggestions and advice about how you all did it. Not just creating time with eachother but communication with eachother as well.",3.830021008403357,5.263142107142862,4.983644957983191,82.80106092436976,72.125,7.056302521008402,25.676470588235286,7.510576382923642,1.3314987394957978,888,28,170,10,17,293,129,224,0.006999999999999999,0.956,0.037000000000000005,0.6763,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,13,2,1,3,15,3,0,0,13,0,28,2,1,1,3,45,39,16,0,3,8,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,25,1,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,5,4,21,3,30,26,9,38,0,0,4,0,29,7,0,4,28,138,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707322644677676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968835109902552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377127665985172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684942727658068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726508397899476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259164637788858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190708763513392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251875833658103,0.0,0.13617724226637892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030356660676256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798496822674967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514660551658586,0.0,0.0,0.12250995074957555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20121405843586426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036142518187433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28063113347137497,0.2868844837233901,0.0,0.0,0.08883477498553825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771493419164961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26606120123864124,0.0,0.11436856877529347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572540328388794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989271686138843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849138956029327,0.0,0.16959888187365102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595464947941416,0.112915920242646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20957986598793116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703324327181495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509658048482793,0.0,0.0,0.10772015678588616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722033630668102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430252220704252
parenting,EmilyTheEmpath,2020/01/25,"Is 3 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment do-able? I already have 2 daughters, ages 10 and 8, and I recently found out im pregnant again. I really want to feel hope, and to feel excitement, but most of what I feel is crippling fear. My daughters and I and my boyfriend live in a 2 bedroom apartment that feels cramped as it is. My boyfriend makes less than 20/hr, I'm the main bread winner. I guess I just keep wanting to hear success stories of families who don't have an excess of money, or a lot of space, and who made it work, and were happy. Part of my brain keeps saying that it's totally unrealistic to think this can work, that all people in cramped spaces and with nonstop busy lives are miserable.. I just need to hear that this situation doesn't mean gloom and doom!",6.580919354838708,5.5466276967741965,6.735282258064518,81.2829233870968,65.58064516129032,9.814516129032258,34.858870967741936,8.841846274778883,2.69217741935484,603,24,127,8,8,194,99,155,0.05,0.7909999999999999,0.158,0.9515,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,2,5,0,10,4,1,2,2,35,29,12,0,4,4,2,4,0,0,0,2,3,2,1,12,11,1,2,7,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,3,7,12,4,17,26,7,11,1,3,0,0,8,8,0,5,3,77,24,3,0.1592553043223954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574218845377332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778158851514042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013172755603188,0.17920649297280564,0.32209706780758024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461522118027348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175437672312885,0.0,0.0,0.16953023279154075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589846045886142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817645098425442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202305701561593,0.0,0.0,0.2831068636419505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28125070281821074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539316471132462,0.0,0.15069121958201676,0.10630415227290373,0.0,0.0,0.17347571369935208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808579023842228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245797526504078,0.0,0.11040757590429214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202302591405454,0.0,0.15724540031529724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664621003703927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790096345940561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204436856244324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18786580930401167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318795165364481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tacoflocka7,2020/01/25,"13yr old son sent to the principals office at school today. So I was at work and I got a call from my sons school and I answered it wondering why they were calling me and as soon as I answered. She was saying that I need to come get my son immediately. I asked what for and she said he was caught in the girls bathroom after lunch with another girl. She said he was in the stall with her with the stall door open fingering her. I was shocked because my son is a really good kid. I thought they mistaken It for a different kid but nope it was him. When I went to get him he looked so mortified and ashamed. When he got in the car I asked him what the hell happened and he ignored me and go all mad because he was caught. I told him I know you’re just a teenager but that behavior is not ok especially in school. I asked him how he knew this girl and he said she’s his girlfriend. What? I never knew he had a girlfriend. He told me not to worry we didn’t have sex. I told him that I didn’t want him ever doing that again in public. We had a nice stern talk on the way home I think he understands now. 

This was crazy. Why would my 13 ye old do this in school?",-0.014352396972249437,2.1512091178861823,1.772747406784415,97.46158536585371,87.90243902439026,5.3443229604709845,18.645360246705913,6.8039241337230125,-0.03932503504345375,897,25,214,12,29,293,125,246,0.12300000000000001,0.835,0.042,-0.963,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,2,1,10,8,2,1,13,1,19,3,1,1,3,37,49,17,0,3,5,4,1,0,2,1,0,4,2,5,13,15,1,1,9,0,0,7,6,5,0,0,28,6,43,3,22,20,1,29,1,0,1,1,56,10,1,1,11,135,56,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020779208619195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215127734947192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976435133659948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23411614549449475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098750366002769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977216469080106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369650787110714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197871011092182,0.0,0.06515133789455453,0.09615279834516126,0.18337273865581055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137388135235688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499112097872255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630019700355352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626693045117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500252091385553,0.08841578513864344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24058630064726155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343994884096151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271405711323472,0.0911646278150681,0.0,0.464078539783062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214156978271514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734553120689363,0.0,0.09100965598252374,0.0,0.0,0.10866328740385577,0.3286241649228077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193420555953166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761638022712191,0.09099419763053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627044509626428,0.20688567646079054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431986947760405,0.08345772769986876,0.11642031188805227,0.0,0.0814354469056435,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Euneah,2020/01/25,"Daycare questions/tips for a first time mom Hello fellow parents,

A worried and tired mom over here. My 14 month's old baby recently started an in home daycare 2 weeks ago. She has always been a happy baby, slept on her own and all in all a jolly baby but ever since she started daycare her personality changed. She's now fussy and clingy everytime after we fetch her from daycare, will cry over the smallest things and will not nap anymore by herself. 
She has been napping crappy at the daycare too. 
She has never been sick ever in her life but that changed since she went to daycare, she had a hand foot and mouth disease, cold and now croup. I guess it all comes in the territory of being out in the public/daycare with germs all around but It's so exhausting and I'm so worried that she'll stay like this forever. It's so hard to see that she was such a jolly baby before but now all she do is whine and cry. Any tips would help.",4.375623200329084,5.378742786096262,5.038181818181818,84.56188811188811,70.33689839572193,7.037268613739202,28.28835870012341,7.010146845296331,1.418717317976142,739,26,145,6,13,238,112,187,0.142,0.745,0.113,-0.7058,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,12,4,0,0,11,0,15,8,4,0,8,28,23,15,0,1,5,3,2,1,1,4,4,0,1,1,8,13,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,1,7,4,18,2,19,11,6,30,0,1,1,0,23,11,0,1,17,102,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616978296827974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843261420781552,0.0,0.0,0.09679144842239873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115627609119533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670671340636558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211150593648162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011392796761372,0.12260743812814205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31269264638782873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574970339361509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210685367134319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679605299396304,0.0,0.0,0.15151632493991446,0.1275025790569726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954029354342816,0.0,0.14277179236266416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053413973734238,0.06953680596411167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33339781828773996,0.11360899245312366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977612888678667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493547374308495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804416090032006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427984941853365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053685161145096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342112262582113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354789673273729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148832562258454,0.15170824001331312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455984537455464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299562633825447,0.16359106115847666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417109773605555,0.0,0.0,0.13194429093685575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890925221740064,0.0,0.10110941277565808,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smandy19,2020/01/25,"Found his stash I need some advice.

just a little back story. My husbands son moved in with us two years ago after his mother kicked him out. He's always been a little bit of a non-starter. He didn't graduate high school because he didn't study for any of his exams because it was more important for him to hang out with his friends. (He live with his mom at the time and was always told us that we was studying super hard). he spent the first year after school doing nothing but sleeping all day and playing video games all night.

when he moved in with us things changed. He wasn't allowed stay up all night and play video games. He had to be up and looking for a job. he had to go back to school and finish his classes and get his diploma. We try to get him to be more responsible with housework and putting away his dishes, and making his bed, but it is a struggle and it's tiring to have to treat a 21 year old like they're 10.

Anyway, last night I found my stepsons pot stash. I wasn't looking for it, I was going into the cupboard above the fridge to get a light bulb and that's where he apparently hides it. (probably arrogance on his part, as he is quite tall and just assumes that we can't see the top of the fridge.) I'm not sure how to move forward with this. 

Now I have nothing against pot. I am not/never have been a pot smoker, my husband used to smoke pot when he was younger, and he rarely does it now. My issue isn't that my stepson is smoking pot. My issue is whenever we have asked him if he smokes pot he has not only denied it, has become quite angry that we would even think of asking him that. and that were not charging him full rent because we don't want to make him broke. We want him to still have a bit of money to be young and go out with his friends and have fun. The way I look at it though is if you have enough money to go out and get high all the time (I would feel the same way about drinking), especially when you're not working full-time oh, you have enough money to pay full rent.

I know my husband is going to lose his mind when he finds out. He's been getting more and more frustrated with his son due to his typical behavior. I just don't know what to say. do we just say hey look we know you smoke pot? Why did you lie to us about this? And then just leave it? Or I crease his rent? Or tell him it's time he moved out?

What do you guys think?",2.7512882343421268,3.7496045668662723,3.492806818794844,94.13805793817772,74.18962075848303,6.294459729190269,22.72217726708745,6.243973517019112,0.1981001348654039,1852,46,430,11,37,586,216,501,0.075,0.86,0.065,-0.584,8,0,5,0,0,0,51.0,13,5,0,7,21,13,1,1,18,0,45,4,1,5,5,85,79,32,0,7,15,7,2,1,2,2,1,2,4,1,22,42,2,0,10,7,8,12,12,4,0,2,20,10,60,9,58,54,17,68,0,2,5,0,79,25,0,6,31,268,82,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022816404779611,0.06370627037667742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195991617745222,0.0,0.0,0.04887241650322728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343729653428763,0.0,0.06752195391161056,0.11052346050373543,0.0,0.13142942285594636,0.07937209195889627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692156012303976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760263666971236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04634864142324131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289180055241364,0.0,0.0,0.07040286475408256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851683599587964,0.0,0.04746785651689107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0363384060864732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656856629825167,0.061130523906137366,0.0,0.15759817645825303,0.11104942274599733,0.0,0.1877392126319785,0.0,0.20421999973254848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116019979609499,0.0,0.0,0.06437923236476763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518640808732526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002215628665266,0.07131748038421606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848962172930985,0.058581666931929975,0.0,0.07609738671539695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035110867734424,0.14406038400058424,0.06346038677520435,0.0,0.2414026559860948,0.08040143515356893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594433082585542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256576517981947,0.08417043706959908,0.0,0.3055354412204465,0.0,0.0532888973865399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023285564678432,0.0,0.13791775597212536,0.0,0.07541293216934104,0.0,0.0,0.05465853044891576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782558196743097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748540280659415,0.0,0.0,0.07224676439800441,0.0,0.15288002804725626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430396286346832,0.0,0.21820147290858585,0.05726915378972663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191947846167326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05086824058769878,0.07660127432483424,0.057393539473855414,0.0,0.0,0.0751315951415669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773434038749625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281542960281003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04774562446320995,0.0920996823448272,0.07060952907600747,0.0,0.12571968550304508,0.08260120710510863,0.0,0.06867254921790747,0.0,0.0487933669708366,0.0,0.0702041795292551,0.0,0.345791383108868,0.062070511408615914,0.0,0.0,0.08477871735648815,0.11409027422181912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484930955657646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052320451672477016,0.0,0.0,0.10210532880971283,0.0,0.0,0.13884108909569431
parenting,jennaeatsmarbles1,2020/01/25,"Is my 4 ye old daughter transgender? Hi I’m a mom and I have a four year old daughter who has recently been showing signs of being transgender. She won’t wear dresses, she doesn’t like her hair at all. She wants it cut like a boys haircut. This started a couple weeks ago I was giving her dress to go get dressed and she threw it on the floor and said “I don’t want to wear these anymore, I want boy clothes”. I asked her what she meant by boy clothes and she said she wanted to wear a t-shirt with black pants. Of course, those aren’t boy clothes but she’s 4 so maybe she thinks they are. 

So the next day I went out and bought her the clothes from gap and she was very happy. I haven’t seen her happier. She put them on as soon as I washed them when we got home. After that, she came up to me and asked for a boy haircut so she could look more boyish. I told her it’s her hair and she can do what she wants to with it. But my husband is so pissed at my response. He thinks I should have told her no she’s a girl and that she needs to go back and wear her other clothes. But I think my husband is wrong here because if she’s transgender I’ve read stories online that if you don’t support them and love them for who they are sometimes they will commit suicide or develop depression. And I don’t want that for her. 

So I asked her if she would prefer to be born a boy instead of a girl and she immediately said yes. I asked her how come? She said well they have cool hair, clothes, they get nice toys, and she wants to have a boys penis she said. Yes, my 4 yr old is already educated on that stuff!

So is this early signs of transgender? 

My husband has been caught trying to force her to wear dresses and it’s not really helping her at all. She screams and cries because she hates them and she doesn’t want to wear anything pink or purple because she associates it as being a girl. I had to intervene yesterday and tell my husband that you can’t force something on her that she doesn’t want. 

This is causing arguments between my husband and I. He strongly believes that she needs to go back to the way she was or she’ll get bullied in the future. He is upset because he doesn’t want to have a lesbian daughter and I don’t know what to tell him. All I can say is I don’t care what she grows up to be and I have told her that I will love you no matter what you do. Her  father is not helping here. 

She is picking up on his behavior that’s why she’s asked him if he doesn’t like her wearing these clothes or if he doesn’t want her to be a boy. My husband told her it’s whatever you want sweetie and slammed the door in front of my 4 yr old. So I had to go in there and tell her that her dad is just in a bad mood right now and that we will love you no matter what. I told her that if she thinks she’s a boy then she’s a boy. 

She has told me numerous times that she’s not a girl and she has said that she doesn’t like her name. She she might change it. Fine by me 

How do I help her in this situation? Is she transgender?",1.3802945054945042,2.880923103076924,2.6429395604395616,96.78759615384615,78.73846153846154,5.873626373626374,22.222527472527474,6.5431188927421005,0.1754065934065938,2347,69,569,20,56,755,227,650,0.096,0.768,0.136,0.9564,1,0,1,0,0,2,46.0,2,7,10,1,20,24,3,1,23,3,65,16,11,4,4,87,127,52,1,24,17,12,3,4,0,8,1,8,2,14,40,32,0,0,7,3,1,12,22,8,1,1,27,17,128,15,54,86,4,55,0,1,5,4,155,19,1,11,27,379,168,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646450953660921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029242138142967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317138470078333,0.0,0.0,0.05241809699674242,0.0,0.2977455569994793,0.0,0.0,0.09795979191267952,0.0531852407814216,0.15531904696061566,0.0,0.0,0.0717659296014037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285364053021931,0.06494444349504566,0.06543548032718106,0.06738412846995133,0.054870260505926347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050857738168475865,0.07048072012795494,0.06996935596866333,0.041079995582500486,0.0,0.054863067765045716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983886200879864,0.061105007912666265,0.1448043598130501,0.0,0.05094517796241558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780779655198944,0.0,0.06288867204650465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280864521817514,0.0,0.06389437345269257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03500680198126505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124478668382684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349034910729828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247002750284168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399328856122198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757360266640695,0.0,0.07460242796377645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944626466715662,0.0,0.0,0.0677436366443549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673617025440128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403416952868303,0.0,0.0,0.06371532317812799,0.0,0.04080662469982611,0.0,0.06289417490759118,0.0,0.0,0.054397817037666066,0.363548796560128,0.05065527430043492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715993170275727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0490378982798653,0.06299903538608075,0.0,0.04508583281978108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291906834595735,0.06967536699762134,0.07228383265011498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702480318888144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326064487309885,0.0,0.0,0.037142865943198176,0.0,0.0,0.36519750291054814,0.0,0.043246818850922776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052557591599702164,0.4508493747669853,0.050560575424853885,0.051094762036195215,0.0,0.0572722287613572,0.05904876348862605,0.05747761462489194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04524929240266206,0.06964385707948037,0.0,0.04101947868429962
parenting,wleigh,2020/01/25,"Safest/best photo sharing method Any experience with the most secure and best photo sharing method? Our families live far away, and I feel uncomfortable posting my children all over social media. Thanks!",6.530454545454546,10.368468636363641,5.50628787878788,70.27943181818182,74.75757575757575,6.936363636363637,29.46212121212121,8.07648339933343,2.93379393939394,167,7,21,3,4,50,28,33,0.06,0.574,0.366,0.9239,0,0,2,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,3,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,0,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20109695079648746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778348200267362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6206711803063288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892668911383681,0.2787746300753419,0.0,0.14952284301947152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611225552151001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28321408633334555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014451170695946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722554676885161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,racinganon,2020/01/25,"Just a small tip of advice. When ever you need something from your child or teens room and the door is closed.

Just lift your arm up, makes a fist, use your knuckles, gently knock on the door loud enough to make a noise indicating to your child or teen that you wish to enter.

You then wait 5 or so seconds for a response.

If no response, proceed with the knocking steps again.

Once you hear said child or teen say enter come in 

Slowly open the door and proceed with your business.


You will then gain major respect from them instead of a massive unneeded fight.


Signed: every kid/teen ever",3.6018584070796464,5.776699672566372,3.3320442477876107,91.30001327433628,74.39823008849558,5.227964601769912,23.689380530973448,5.6839178017228535,0.3593157522123893,465,14,90,2,10,139,77,113,0.040999999999999995,0.855,0.10400000000000001,0.8126,0,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,0,10,1,1,8,2,1,0,9,0,2,1,1,3,2,24,11,11,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,3,1,7,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,1,4,11,1,13,9,2,19,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,5,8,56,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467608263509012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752468250161675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609219369057009,0.0,0.0,0.4568398247872112,0.2127600299834813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846097823146693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33711976782077496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724129461054345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689268717808035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402055193968125,0.20081501996959372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944031822615855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21809726759749687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903869556874119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alanaldasnemesis,2020/01/25,"Mom 911 This is going back now but I recall a time when my wife was in a grocery store with a baby and things were going chaotic quickly. As most of you know, this can be awful trying to manage a kid, the tasks at hand, all while facing judgements from others.  Out of nowhere, this woman approached my wife and said, ""I have two at home. Give me your list and I'll meet you at the register!"".  My wife nearly crying out of gratitude handed over her list and this woman collected all the groceries while she quieted our kid. 

That gesture was a beacon in a dark storm so thank you so much to all those who choose to help someone instead of just being annoyed and condemning.",3.974318181818184,5.4325950681818185,4.576181818181818,85.76427272727273,71.80303030303031,6.795151515151516,25.32121212121212,7.1686216300943375,1.1350703030303029,527,16,101,5,10,168,92,132,0.107,0.78,0.114,0.2741,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,4,0,0,8,2,1,0,9,1,8,3,3,0,3,16,14,12,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,9,8,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,4,4,13,1,19,8,5,19,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,1,7,80,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883572012246144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126138612780247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730091223872069,0.3234833980130088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907577959884492,0.0,0.2854716400124088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640577774161174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333138163643637,0.0,0.0,0.209209814826878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707146852176746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24113612477983995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26201651872172993,0.0,0.0,0.18907204071392655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165949430013841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932210871718348,0.0,0.2780076214202842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anewdogpanicneedhelp,2020/01/25,"Parenting classes needed useful ? if so what kind ? I have recently been thinking about my issues and how I have made decisions in life, reacted to life events etc.,. I realize that a lot of it is based on my early years and how I experienced life and early interactions.

I have plenty of love, common sense and what I think are good parenting skills... however I realize there is a world out there that I can learn from. I read something about attachment theory etc.,

I am recently divorced and realize the relationship was probably doomed frm the start and even when I realized it I did nothing. I want to equip my kids to avoid situations like mine and perhaps increase the chance of a long successful marriage for them.

Help me understand what kind of parenting classes will help 

Thanks",5.820349650349653,7.827490055944061,6.396083916083918,72.36027972027973,68.02097902097903,11.074125874125876,33.27972027972028,11.022393298168332,4.346572027972028,630,29,106,21,11,205,92,143,0.048,0.705,0.247,0.9837,4,1,1,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,1,2,9,9,0,1,6,0,12,4,0,5,0,27,22,12,0,3,1,3,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,9,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,1,19,7,14,17,4,15,1,1,0,1,12,4,0,2,11,76,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202672584990482,0.09483559032011836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043108180013877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924820736229003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986393737285186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990403748162005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304251954069087,0.07014767702984077,0.0,0.0,0.1270669364544062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206961211702105,0.12958977302470429,0.13586224063111102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646539388949257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777230280651387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4782976699135249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480736767080794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362242045876486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28354289619568257,0.15415501384626934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613939426461931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053764296973126,0.0,0.0,0.10162918612016096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219245532189391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840051012280074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947555460635806,0.0,0.12401009910386555,0.0,0.0,0.08468930658606875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924631080992174
parenting,KingofDragonPass,2020/01/25,"Right way to talk about politics with young child My wife and I have always tried to avoid expressing opinions on topics that we want our children to form their own opinions on when they get older, like religion and politics. We have explained our own religion just in terms of cultural traditions and have never brought up the idea of g-d for example. Recently in frustration over some news headline I mentioned something bad Trump did to my six year old son and I ended up telling him that the president is a villain. I regretted telling him that, but didn’t think that much of it and moved on. Now basically every day he talks to my wife and I about how the president is a villain and I think this means he is anxious about that and trying to work through it. I’ve tried to explain to him that normally some people agree with a president and some don’t and that’s ok. I also tried to explain that Trump is a special case because he is mean to people in a way that the president usually is not, but he isn’t a super villain like Thanos or Lex Luther and there are people that like him. I also made it clear to him that he shouldn’t tell other people that the president is a villain. 

I’m not really sure what else to do to ease his concerns and would appreciate any thoughts. Please refrain from debating the merits of Trump as a president as that isn’t really relevant and it will badly derail any conversation.",7.104891304347827,6.728406083333336,7.276579710144928,75.66552173913047,64.2536231884058,11.128115942028987,35.42898550724637,10.650279960617883,3.6975307246376814,1133,47,214,26,15,367,143,276,0.121,0.743,0.135,0.6288,0,1,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,2,2,10,17,5,1,14,1,20,0,0,2,3,50,33,22,0,5,6,3,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,2,20,17,0,2,9,0,0,2,8,9,0,1,5,0,23,8,36,25,8,26,0,1,0,0,34,10,0,6,15,147,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996638547422865,0.10387420091342443,0.0,0.0,0.16978658163345886,0.0,0.0,0.14103002732745878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084669926998563,0.07609934201942575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050939521363161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428511046972316,0.0,0.11056833301507024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518037079721257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522206478011132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092552873958747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182966833973271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812357908024232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719676998103256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268174014186662,0.09176939675121412,0.0,0.09628182020431636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231353843841802,0.0,0.0,0.13099520015695154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461844176339758,0.0,0.0,0.13703329598242084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994727500370726,0.0,0.12326125922047428,0.0,0.0,0.10660992749740952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961054517430703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765718718687355,0.0,0.0,0.20067814907149206,0.32733854275634244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599807350821606,0.0,0.09910645842736764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33902391480143823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137490075684191,0.0,0.07363196689014133,0.19817924960255887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088266219045923,0.0,0.0,0.08868046633225453,0.0,0.0,0.08039079298874645
parenting,skdljfoiewjmf,2020/01/25,"Pediatric/clinic suggestions for Mississauga Hi, any recommendations for a good pediatric/ children hospital/clinics  in Mississauga(Ontario,Canada) area? I'm trying to find a good pediatric for our 1yr old. 

Also, are there any forums / websites where i can look for a review of the doctors in Ontario? Sometihng that can help me find good doctors. 

Thank you for your help & advice.",7.857656249999998,10.460090703125,7.470750000000002,64.29925000000003,63.84375,10.745,36.2375,10.793553405168565,4.88016,311,15,42,9,5,98,48,64,0.0,0.747,0.253,0.9429,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,9,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,0,1,25,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203612485036046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533987885902446,0.0,0.22401621933263988,0.0,0.28119754449695616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232398362359128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779360314241593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5202424979705228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27716365049986713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362000632261226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21695194208305504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034990010206146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403713583410808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gabbidon,2020/01/25,What should i do I need help. My dad is going crazy all the times. He wont let me eat bcs he thinks im fat. Wont let me out because he think i do drugs and smoke. I would never touch drugs in my life... He always come to me for no reason and slap me. Do you think that is ok? I dont. He always act strange and seems depressed.,-2.6349090909090904,-0.9327584666666624,-0.029575757575756256,107.41854545454548,100.33333333333334,2.7272727272727275,10.818181818181818,3.1291,-2.1810000000000005,245,3,68,0,11,82,49,75,0.129,0.785,0.086,-0.4939,0,0,3,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,12,5,1,1,2,15,19,3,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,5,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,12,1,4,13,1,7,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,1,2,37,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225710121994079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181594735124583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669709213324159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669490337277158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271721317031754,0.0,0.4495720554883825,0.1983406838579656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016039083833144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992291716127696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20937409941115726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964170174560796,0.13691076327491547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372553547970074,0.1494968140625855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19929374668800925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645929258893467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37260321037898253,0.0,0.0,0.11302622750975234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769418939238218,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dammit234,2020/01/25,Our 10 yo son wants his ears pierced. His sister had hers done at same age. Mom says yes. Dad says no. How to resolve? We tried magnetic earrings but they kept getting lost. He doesn’t want clip ons because you can tell they aren’t real. None of his friends have them. He wants them because he thinks they look cool. Ideas?,0.3156250000000007,2.728096812500006,0.365375000000002,103.842125,96.5,3.1850000000000005,18.9,4.935628992294339,-0.7425762499999999,252,8,56,1,10,73,53,64,0.111,0.7709999999999999,0.11800000000000001,-0.2939,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,5,2,1,4,0,0,0,2,6,1,1,1,0,12,14,2,0,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,5,12,3,4,10,2,3,0,1,1,0,23,2,0,0,1,27,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997960983847567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25164055685381204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18998133909265194,0.0,0.12847233649328982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775905977488768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064936435989449,0.0,0.2684283454507941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287994515434302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798874584346122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910982946407289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21492699622434014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756246677571153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694961516660087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4351136778112684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jinjoz,2020/01/25,"List of things my 2 year old autistic son has started to do since we moved Been loving in our new house for almost two months. 

Wants to play with the broom all the time. Swings it around, broke our TV while doing it. 

Gets into the diapers and lines them up stretching from the kitchen to the living room. Was cute for the first two days he did it but I moved the diapers up. 

Won't sleep in his room. He will only sleep in one of the recliners. After he falls asleep I put him on his room, he wakes up about two hours later crying and banging on the door until o let him out. He runs to the recliner, jumps in and falls asleep. Me being a bit of a nervous dad I sleep on the couch so he isn't in the living room alone. 

All lights in the house must be off at all times. 

When he is angry and he does one of two things. You will either run to his room and slam the door 2 or 3 times. Now he used to so this until my wife and I got on him every time he did it and he finally stopped. 

Or he will pull at my hand until I sit down and than he will start very softly grabbing my cheeks, my hair, my nose, my lips. Very sorry which I do appreciate it. It's kinda strange to me but I'm glad he isn't aggressive about it.

Needless to say,I had no idea moving would have that big of effect on him. and all of these new bad habits are starting to wear me just a tad thin. 

Any advice?",1.2982711864406795,2.6998094033898283,2.652000000000001,97.06613559322037,78.6949152542373,5.669152542372882,17.901694915254236,6.152001189255117,-0.5002772881355932,1054,18,257,7,25,341,165,295,0.105,0.8320000000000001,0.063,-0.9175,0,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,1,1,2,8,8,1,1,17,0,24,14,12,2,5,33,33,20,0,3,6,3,5,0,0,7,0,0,10,0,13,14,1,1,2,2,0,10,4,4,0,7,6,7,28,4,47,17,6,65,0,1,0,1,30,29,0,4,25,161,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433479831628194,0.0,0.0,0.10691513177711784,0.11058193323172884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260753272181783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504829186539712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914882347151842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165656225597105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728226989328812,0.06885807454451473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934354957922302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899586662371037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169617533517177,0.0,0.09081884695682356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055783126760038805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539404184634174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514733588458113,0.24639741065708984,0.0,0.12053078448082336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917996702692323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885604371134625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636445381008568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522311393703702,0.3404401112121757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623903361764787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203757317324553,0.0,0.1447007713811157,0.08120369979728874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733374130839578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490810683869789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832157749571147,0.0,0.3205425223078864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952072040540533,0.2267179141466484,0.0,0.0,0.08926483453519618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186701778117394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24903471343148376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171966624193557,0.0,0.0,0.0922153437586505,0.0,0.17619352236708138,0.06297594773289425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758466281499876,0.0,0.0,0.06875663643507895
parenting,logical_problem,2020/01/25,Community for parents of special needs kids? I haven’t came across one even tho I’ve tried looking (maybe something is going over my head) so I thought I’d ask if there’s a community for parents of special needs kids. My daughter (18m) was born with an anorectal malformation if that gives more info on the type of community I’d fit in.,3.0636318407960204,5.156751805970154,4.439626865671645,83.1217288557214,75.71641791044777,6.854726368159205,30.56965174129353,7.793537801064563,2.077141293532338,269,13,53,4,6,89,51,67,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.7845,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,8,11,4,0,4,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,1,4,2,10,8,1,8,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,2,1,29,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344252086869886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28680075123561594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562352615352394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24055026002910146,0.14251174983955942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573504123414259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21057386008685605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519204682130215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37186828045843695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699203485982585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568749479999608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930460298665153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907412104655856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024846040261307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LockUpYourMilfs,2020/01/25,"My sons (5) friend told him that he’s only allowed to go to black kids birthdays. My son came home from school yesterday after dropping off all of his birthday invitations to the kids in his class.

His best friend is black and he was looking forward for him to come to his party.

When he got home i asked about his day per usual, the first thing he told me was that (jake) was not allowed to come to his party because he can only go to black kids birthday parties. 

I was at a loss for words, not what to tell him. I told him maybe there was some miss communication and i would talk to his parents. 

He asked me this morning if i talked to his parents to see if (jake) was coming. How do i handle this?",3.60482517482518,4.457142104895105,4.262524475524476,89.97224825174825,72.00699300699301,6.559160839160839,25.48881118881119,6.2581,0.6519040559440556,543,16,119,3,10,173,81,143,0.026000000000000002,0.8490000000000001,0.125,0.9413,4,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,3,1,17,25,6,0,3,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,2,0,1,11,5,22,3,21,13,3,17,0,2,5,0,35,4,0,3,7,75,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733615385460235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891244483849893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534318145360165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721813974922314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778247520335132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428932297985408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436083422335585,0.0,0.0,0.2259133076287577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618191966310591,0.0,0.1169324940533978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933085619728121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277432681691156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468813170043867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223890786372737,0.0,0.0,0.3246839224664308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479659994481216,0.11650545890121232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23502607071624645,0.12778852082960232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713127435120388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191118428215871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102277402918888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385894850928223,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kitchycat,2020/01/25,"Constantly comparing baby milestones I have a lot of friends who have babies that are a month younger than my daughter. My daughter is 7 months old she sits up like a champ, loves to play, says dada, and is generally the happiest baby I’ve ever seen. However, I’m constantly comparing her development to the babies slightly younger than her. One is already crawling, and another is able to sit herself up on her own if she falls over. I’m constantly just so freaked out that my daughter is behind or I’m not doing enough to get her to milestones on time. We read for 30 minutes every day, get lots of play time in, sing songs/rhymes, and we try to encourage her to do a lot of things independently (like if there’s a toy she wants just out of her reach we encourage her to army crawl for it). I don’t know why I’m constantly comparing her to other babies. She is by no means behind, our pediatrician has assured me multiple times, and she’s actually ahead in some areas. Is this a normal parenting thing? For what it’s worth I’m a first time mom, and I have an amazing support system to reach out to. It’s just some of them have no kids, are child psychologists, haven’t had kids since the 80s, or are super moms that intimidate me.",3.792446074201898,5.3664769590163965,5.087273511647972,81.46255823986195,72.44262295081967,8.57946505608283,28.41587575496117,9.134995656068208,2.3575688524590155,974,38,194,21,19,324,133,244,0.036000000000000004,0.787,0.177,0.9872,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,4,0,1,4,6,14,0,0,11,0,20,1,0,1,2,32,33,10,0,4,8,6,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,12,11,0,0,2,5,1,1,5,1,0,2,2,2,27,13,35,31,7,30,0,0,1,1,34,11,0,9,17,132,39,2,0.126629718809862,0.0,0.12357233900188315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973904355411526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278230122071807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5473669600067687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816656928170987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084234978811093,0.0,0.0,0.1145438303517392,0.10669099959229762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771117413084676,0.0,0.0,0.09783380663390036,0.0,0.1323176032584985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959238180465692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372976859267472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229681758316423,0.11428826518020692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379368865580694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296614392436537,0.2021492668720895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407023839862308,0.0,0.0,0.13287658847946038,0.0,0.08580757466844373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060731712147068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666398661015746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070103494235554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474941195492564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369790427537196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682543168921379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29535522946901605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597326687884707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468948901694054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142636252330943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FlyingDarkKC,2020/01/25,"Raising girls and confidence [Serious Question]    Its been well documented that girls/young women often have lower confidence in themselves, than boys of similar age.

I have two younger brothers, and as a parent I have two sons.  Sisters and daughters have never been a part of my life.

To those of you raising daughters, what do you see firsthand that may contributing to this lower confidence in females?  Are there one or two major influences that appear to cause this?  Is it family, media, peers, school systems?",6.067840909090908,8.971020102272732,5.729545454545455,73.5768181818182,69.56818181818181,8.49090909090909,33.72727272727273,9.188382445141503,3.698518181818182,411,20,59,9,8,127,63,88,0.047,0.82,0.133,0.8458,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,2,1,11,12,5,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,9,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,4,2,1,5,1,10,9,2,6,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,5,2,49,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407089007589805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208939445516668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655055741045479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072031333684305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877978855295974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601821595332475,0.25374331625852314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624895341771968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23714209796075084,0.18672092947542526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6866832555039596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067982018673526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lhotse7,2020/01/25,"Made a cake with my 4yo daughter. Today me and my 4yo daughter together made a cake. The idea was to do a long task with her and then do a big 'mission complete hi5'.
Gave her the task of whisking jaggery and oil and she put her heart in it, calling the creamy end product as chocolate. 
She was amazed to see the glow of the oven thinking it as some magic was baking the cake.
She just ate a bite of the final cake but the 'mission complete hi5' (basically a hi5 with a jump with feet in the air) was worth it.",2.7613571428571437,3.9523693619047653,3.6887500000000015,91.99312500000002,74.42857142857143,6.011904761904763,26.458333333333336,5.985473137389443,0.7079761904761903,393,14,87,2,8,126,58,105,0.0,0.8859999999999999,0.114,0.9032,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,16,0,6,4,2,2,0,15,12,8,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,2,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,8,3,9,1,13,4,1,11,0,0,2,0,10,4,0,1,5,55,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446369983869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5023881551683584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21219592902601486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26244714066739444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28390232985926844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704555877703546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120199216911538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533909831017097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408431191931048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091348584530327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351258258726258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22709292782165175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ggouge,2020/01/25,After a year of taking my daughter to dance and listening to all the mom's talk. Groups of moms really turn into echo chambers really fast. The strongest mom usually the craziest mom says things and shortly after all the other moms agree with her and the next week all the moms have bought the product or are trying the technique talked about the week before and God forbid someone says a opposing idea  to the group. I can really see how the terrible parenting trends spread fast.,10.281404494382024,8.569004078651687,9.262780898876406,68.28271067415731,58.7752808988764,12.944943820224724,36.85674157303371,11.698219412168324,4.308233707865169,389,13,65,9,4,122,60,89,0.071,0.846,0.083,0.2878,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,13,0,3,0,0,1,3,14,8,6,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,6,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,10,7,3,12,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,1,9,40,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116077692906762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420456927663768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8354068230983708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643354427568615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320056332352623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22847870794769484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908125348168053,0.0,0.0,0.094734452884463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072927975897138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938530925469047,0.191107493441726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898066082409312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071383316304973,0.12931069381092344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093295836488045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19072173205207624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655683000344403
parenting,Theblackholeinbflat,2020/01/25,"The most scared I have ever been I try to keep my stories funny, because I love making people laugh, but this is not funny. The story ends with everyone being fine, but it does involve a baby injury if you're sensitive to that. 

Yesterday, at around 8:30, I was holding my ten month old's hands and walking with him. He was holding a metal spoon in his mouth with his free hand. He stumbled and fell with the spoon still in his mouth. A second later, he was screaming and blood was pouring out of his mouth. Then he started choking. 

I called 911 asap l, paramedics came within 5 minutes. Baby boy had stopped crying at that point, no more choking. They checked him out and said he was ok but to take him to a doctor to follow up. 

I call our doctor's office and it takes them two hours to get back to me. The nurse on the line questioned if I really wanted to bring baby in, since he was checked out by paramedics. I pushed it and said absolutely, I'm bringing him to the hospital if you can't get me in. She scoffed a little at that, but made an appointment.

Right after that phonecall, baby boy was inconsolable. He wouldn't eat, he screamed every time he swallowed, and he couldn't get any sleep. I called back and got the appointment moved up. 

Went to the doctor who sent me straight to the hospital, since there was significant damage to his mouth and she was worried about damaged arteries and fluid buildup from him inhaling blood. So we spent three hours at the Children's hospital getting checked out. He has two decent sized lacerations on his hard pallet (which was the best news to hear. No swelling or anything there). They gave him some baby pain meds, made sure he would breastfeed, then discharged us. 

Youngest is great today, you can't even tell he was injured. But I was so terrified all day yesterday. I yelled at the 911 operator, yelled at two spam callers, yelled at my phone in general, got very snippy with a doubtful nurse, and almost murdered a late ENT doctor. Injured babies bring out my suppressed anger issues I guess. 

I am really just telling this story because I need to get it out and vent to strangers, I guess. If you want to tell me your injured baby stories that ended well, it would be appreciated.",5.133341139734583,6.3972262412178,5.104793911007025,83.81486455893834,68.78922716627635,7.660546448087432,29.690007806401248,7.908726449838941,1.9110428415300544,1763,66,333,21,30,548,226,427,0.16899999999999998,0.721,0.11,-0.9859,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,3,4,3,1,14,18,2,2,20,1,27,20,9,3,3,65,60,26,1,11,12,0,3,0,0,3,8,8,0,3,14,26,2,5,1,0,5,11,7,9,1,6,25,12,47,10,50,29,5,61,0,2,0,1,57,28,0,12,22,207,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966207421851705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089074464500027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368436451562936,0.07971020432677846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770253841183244,0.0,0.10916635597413424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396743759379696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742931895787173,0.10241070379668536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983562514762644,0.05774634224110661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36659479140098494,0.07835766761089917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162248719697016,0.0,0.0,0.15861296144069947,0.0,0.0,0.059140786087887885,0.08099468700905801,0.07544189933343252,0.08555997345195103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23390659341496514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322775065754584,0.09871893487912356,0.197278345965736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802108771950194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091887347619037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635910048011358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345722457717703,0.0,0.0795878859063174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100580667208288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974330187930246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081397521502152,0.16945114557653884,0.059769110742322384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099459529194471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147053031637521,0.09516759075194883,0.0,0.0663932924815198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395789944929044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527761501522207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207624528225542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464490105910251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030607332668648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114724127021297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764672662517107,0.17034741549036406,0.0,0.08964585849773396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813798018835433,0.0,0.08960536252022984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337736641202239,0.0,0.07150731652781071,0.0748600323093963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439104753414862,0.0,0.13464692178389684,0.0,0.2347875483172469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05221190066254895,0.0,0.08487411132099339,0.0,0.0,0.06079225586062045,0.0,0.26240475146826503,0.0,0.10770643399602077,0.0,0.0,0.07388045273251155,0.10562684637342797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050784027769298,0.08300512346649105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093292451651618,0.0,0.1272142846269011,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jburger921,2020/01/25,"The in-laws everywhere Does anyone else feel like even though they have the best intentions, your in-laws are just in the way slowing everything down and screwing up the routine?!?!?!",15.912187500000002,9.917668343750002,12.3775,63.31750000000002,53.0625,16.55,50.75,13.023866798666859,6.1666500000000015,145,6,25,3,1,42,26,32,0.051,0.7290000000000001,0.21899999999999997,0.8029,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,1,3,3,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,3,1,5,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,2,16,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24802390510540975,0.3634458672085844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722499017561072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104121471959816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963175876088551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342849009692321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187935939856397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17935378793267476,0.25340737321213097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329508374106156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34850418242858544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815550412319533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,markymark5127,2020/01/25,Wife is super nauseous after becoming pregnant She’s been pregnant for approximately 7 weeks and she is super nauseous and has a ton of heartburn this is our second child she was not this bad before any thoughts on a solution she’s tried Prilosec and the ginger gum it hasn’t really helped,3.5347878787878777,6.415211600000003,4.290454545454549,80.62901515151516,78.45454545454545,6.575757575757575,27.34848484848485,7.793537801064563,2.0449393939393943,238,10,40,4,6,76,41,55,0.0,0.77,0.23,0.9248,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,0,5,2,4,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,2,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28489155995221743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497949377237821,0.0,0.4626830574941514,0.3564845733640567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808046737897922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683818017155529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325892219641499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28443075718845834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360460316032934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thunder2914,2020/01/25,"Have basically nothing to do around the house Been at a stay at home mom for about 21 years now.  First with my son (21) and then my daughter (16).  They basically  take care of themselves by now,  my son moved out,  and my daughter is always out and being independent.  My daughter comes out home late since she has sports and stuff,  makes her dinners and meals,  and does her own chores.  She's basically  responsible  for herself by now.  It leaves me with with little do,  I do the laundry,  clean a bit,  etc  but its not much.  Husband pays the bills and does all the financial  stuff.  

I have tried to apply for jobs but they won't hire me at all.  I'm not sure what to do these days besides having the comfort to sleep in and be a little lazy.  Any suggestions?",3.8826781326781297,5.20171562162162,4.327542997542999,88.000257985258,71.83783783783784,7.273710073710076,25.61670761670761,7.686295010490155,1.1275054054054061,584,18,124,7,11,184,94,148,0.035,0.905,0.06,0.3811,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,0,8,0,13,3,1,2,3,25,18,11,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,6,16,2,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,16,3,22,14,6,21,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,0,8,87,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512216141141034,0.0,0.0,0.1104313183024586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445622482905086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728870387779455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556825190240035,0.0,0.0,0.1398853023367362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472863713539704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842185814552349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811086773922464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812953863308414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257824426432561,0.0,0.0,0.1873771898394116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114781998386848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18318390507509172,0.17194841867085414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255165031443126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839712556516187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901901520886769,0.0,0.17259572973984824,0.11937592907001372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581836032512172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433135477516867,0.0,0.16250808505905162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308699492649646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717972478219117,0.0,0.0,0.15305141506241535,0.0,0.12209767810077744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102526992633833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045743563916343
parenting,honeybriar,2020/01/25,"Help with 2 year old son’s hair? My 2 year old son has always had super thick, fast growing hair. So at 2 he’s got a whole head of hair that I’ve had to trim several times. I really want it to grow out for now though until he decides what to do with it! So I guess my question is, what are some tips to keep his decently long bangs out of his eyes until they grow out long enough to pull back into a ponytail? He’s very wiggly and hates having his hair brushed, and typically takes out clips and removes hats (I’ve tried beanies as a fashion piece and to keep hair out of his eyes and he just immediately removes it). Thanks!",3.393426632739612,4.070049190839697,4.40880407124682,89.37866836301953,72.35877862595419,7.348939779474131,24.47921967769296,7.3871296695380915,0.8135743850720951,488,13,111,5,9,159,80,131,0.025,0.8690000000000001,0.107,0.8616,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,6,3,1,0,3,0,7,8,8,0,0,21,15,11,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,13,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,1,0,0,3,9,9,2,22,12,4,26,0,0,2,0,13,8,0,3,12,62,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886289150101324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680768873132508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727407494183055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269823838203145,0.0,0.21032276050969154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18849653332786664,0.19594166113718944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797138931831742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394015452634494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379209728662876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006822885122737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138769983566304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230990164716055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21568818563889933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355002899629085,0.0,0.0,0.17577587197117256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758047782453585,0.0,0.11132849908131696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962390786100653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753113389450693,0.11261109172646334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21315825635584587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24589577993280404
parenting,bubbyandbug,2020/01/25,"Other family discipline is grounding kids from being able to play with my kids Our family friends are living with us in our single family home, between the two families there are 5 elementary aged children. This is a temporary, emergency housing set-up but could likely last another 3-4+ more months. Everyone is doing fairly well with it except they periodically ground their children from being able to play with ours, for normal reasons like their kids are fighting and not listening. Its tricky because I respect their right to parent as they see fit but it's a bit disruptive to our family (as my kids ask, want and plan to play together every opportunity) and upsetting to all the kids. They say it's the only thing they can take away that's why they ground them from playing with our kids. I parent completely differently so there's that, but generally we just accept our parenting differences and move on. I don't know... thoughts? Advice? Tell me to suck it up buttercup?",6.215453373442202,7.9677311899441365,6.853743016759777,70.449174903309,66.70949720670392,10.647357112161584,31.087666523420715,10.727762888450028,3.7848690159003016,789,31,130,23,13,259,117,179,0.081,0.753,0.165,0.9261,4,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,8,0,9,2,5,14,2,1,5,0,12,0,0,1,1,26,20,10,0,3,6,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,8,10,10,0,1,4,4,0,1,2,3,1,1,1,3,23,11,24,16,4,14,0,0,1,0,34,9,1,0,6,91,33,0,0.2404551556492452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748499758852585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606909818473885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239655573600538,0.0,0.11295776701608172,0.0,0.0,0.07328961552985745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125737631483472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605632792372626,0.0,0.0,0.0959919378859155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512244593824092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129691969015693,0.11488260285108468,0.0,0.0,0.5666993019632054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928875283899018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059806331560582,0.0,0.0,0.13872648274602425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607393254962059,0.0980015224881221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747424319116324,0.0,0.1061631538904764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596450558161447,0.1277828883244165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117797499536327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143849059777258,0.0,0.0,0.4004954915990016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361397387852255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267369454990304,0.0,0.09560979546776968,0.0,0.0,0.09580581360924947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039617601744217,0.0,0.1050842022637205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987386045155931,0.0,0.0,0.09544726724198796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744487378433477,0.0,0.1446189728918069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091334039009307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809903121597868,0.0,0.10848668878324527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OFFthePlanetNOW,2020/01/25,"Help, my kid won’t eat anything but the same stuff. Son who is 16 months old has suddenly become really picky about eating. Used to eat all kinds of fruits, veggies and try mostly anything we gave him. Now he won’t eat hardly anything but strawberries and snacks like gram-crackers. 

Is this common for toddlers as they grow, someone said this is from him teething and might not eat much. But I feel like he doesn’t eat enough throughout the day. I’ll cook something and give it to him and he won’t even try it. I don’t like giving him just snack food all the time and the same thing over and over again. He does drink lots of water though and milk when needed. 

Getting a little stressed out and worried.

Any suggestions??",3.5522340425531915,5.534142184397164,3.135762411347517,93.50875,73.9645390070922,5.834751773049646,23.09751773049645,6.42735559955562,0.39690496453900703,572,16,117,4,12,169,95,141,0.038,0.858,0.10400000000000001,0.8625,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,0,7,5,0,1,5,0,10,15,1,1,2,26,18,15,0,1,5,1,2,3,0,4,0,1,0,1,7,11,14,0,1,2,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,4,9,4,11,12,8,14,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,3,12,69,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796461281425049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28303675624683844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661977574658698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393851463822995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032929063240006,0.0,0.0,0.11231145264125887,0.0,0.7038815288960606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184620941963416,0.0,0.07572396290691759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796950434468087,0.08190459756505973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863289023895178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598988798597176,0.21996173358618584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270214332999728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684617849726741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119388312836014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680337542735971,0.11490747607841448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746968146461983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162347485831805,0.0,0.0,0.09151098834858598,0.0,0.08427951628535288,0.08501008440549604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030385396191234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344648349938301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905655999154378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714092989464496,0.0882616784247754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313289663259498,0.0,0.1312446003426635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616707728382856,0.0,0.1126411376659462,0.0,0.06685220624553456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556770152150634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901911416301044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643067092265838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,i-only-post-gifs,2020/01/25,Are nutritional supplements ok for kids (5-6 year olds)? Such as protein powders/bars and weight gainers?,5.050000000000002,8.351025111111113,4.964444444444447,75.50000000000003,75.66666666666667,8.044444444444443,36.77777777777778,8.841846274778883,4.020911111111111,84,5,13,2,2,26,18,18,0.0,0.8540000000000001,0.146,0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6059674587249869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7032143015924414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37187778234553936
parenting,hmplease1,2020/01/25,"Kid came down with the school plague and said they want to die My child is six, and recently came down with the school yard plague. They've been violently throwing up, and having intense stomach pains. After throwing up, they said they wanted to die, and said ""Please kill me"" That's a pretty intense thing to say! I understand they're feeling horrendous, but that was alarming to hear. Has anyone else's kid said anything like this in the grips of pain? Therapy is happening soon, once we move. They haven't had a stomach bug since he age of two, so this isn't a familiar feeling.",5.068851351351352,6.4867011441441464,4.8104391891891884,85.28701013513515,69.0900900900901,8.072522522522524,29.190315315315317,8.472884824447931,2.0296747747747745,461,17,89,7,8,141,74,111,0.175,0.7120000000000001,0.113,-0.8883,0,0,0,0,0,2,16.0,1,0,4,0,2,6,2,1,6,0,9,4,2,0,0,15,22,6,3,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,6,1,3,5,9,0,0,3,1,0,5,2,5,0,2,9,9,8,1,14,13,0,14,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,0,5,51,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689976147436408,0.14199364301754588,0.11404118379440195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170017946402885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28765248794134224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576748437919328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014245330758476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254761110057365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619199370283018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332045809367295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770416856412342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729074179517915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758531460899862,0.0,0.0,0.294922052374856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212142827120112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098772223209846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368330132373866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.527292894402783,0.11020597422700694,0.0,0.28050477921320377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146364682429215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848060252622706,0.0,0.09206772761378272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537448406877564,0.1442687566258197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634785165086155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,audreyt92,2020/01/25,How to conceive a boy? Or is IVF the only 100% guarantee?,-1.5524999999999984,0.3374487500000036,2.4833333333333343,87.94500000000002,103.16666666666666,5.7333333333333325,22.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.4498666666666673,43,2,9,1,2,16,12,12,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.3313,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Randomname516,2020/01/25,"Worse nightmare My wife thinks I touch our daughter(2.5 years old). I'm not even sure why I'm posting this maybe someone  can give me some advice on what to do cause I'm at a loss. I went to work tonight and everything was fine, i got a call about a hour later which I didnt pick up and then she sent a text saying our daughter told her I touched her inher diaper. 

The story goes she was standing there with her hands in her pants my wife was trying to get her to stop and she wouldnt my wife asked her if anyone has done this to her and she said daddy does, my wife asked her how and she showed her how in a way which my wifes thinks she wouldnt know how to do by herself.  

I called my wife back about 15 minutes after the missed call, i told i would never do that and she said she believes our daughter so i decide to leave work and come home.

Once there we just go around in circles saying i would not do that and she says she has a gut instinct and believes our daughter. I tell her we can go to professionals and do whatever it takes to gain her trust and to prove that i didnt do it. 

She doesnt want to do that because she thinks ill get in trouble even though i know im innocent which she doesnt believe. 

She think my daughter has been showing signs of abuse. Mainly she wakes up crying in the middle of the night hysterical. 

I have no idea what to do here i feel like my wife thinks im a monster , im afraid to lose my relationship with my daughter who is my whole world. 

There was another time we was laying in bed and i was half asleep and my daughter was in between me and my wife amd i was rubbing her and my wife flipped out and thought i was going to touch her even though i hadnt( yet i guess?) 

I was abused when i was 10 and my wife thinks it makes me predispose to do it to her. 

The only thing my wife wants to do is not let me sleepnig the bed with her at night or napping( i work over night so normally she'll toss her in bed with me when im asleep. 

It makes me feel like shit that she thinks im capable of this and I want my wife to trust me. 
Part of me wants to divorce my wife for using my childhood trama against me, but im afraid if i try ill never get to see my kids ( we also have a 2 month old boy)

Any thoughts on what to do would be great.",0.9800566893424048,2.6614601122449035,2.2627891156462603,98.23379818594105,80.53061224489795,5.2535147392290265,19.868480725623588,5.953557352011769,-0.3182553287981857,1765,44,429,11,45,565,207,490,0.071,0.885,0.044000000000000004,-0.6525,1,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,8,0,0,6,23,14,1,2,14,0,46,8,6,8,4,78,90,33,0,12,8,19,7,2,0,6,2,5,4,2,21,29,0,1,16,3,0,6,13,7,0,1,25,13,96,7,53,57,4,49,0,3,1,0,81,19,1,5,23,283,117,4,0.0,0.16747089989907035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690604265126755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056516836095601625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04805977735828215,0.07410636140283446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0494159106332546,0.0,0.0,0.06291357899238144,0.13213864300989395,0.0,0.0,0.05434285108784888,0.0,0.0430813483536751,0.0,0.0,0.23887138688411186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21649381525717049,0.0,0.0,0.0726002065511043,0.0,0.060878169248929935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763050978113811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184605035871087,0.07232258557160115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400357162035986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351595723869123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146835908780662,0.10097700947927964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077051727020212,0.06779557777500836,0.1204945663197146,0.0,0.05652331769188181,0.07791676812293664,0.0778538137445978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089035928100312,0.0,0.06959825465755012,0.0,0.0,0.07978073968111601,0.4580310784146148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767960262004046,0.0,0.0,0.07483205711441693,0.0,0.0722675005002862,0.0,0.06905410482663904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906453883882987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434899086636096,0.0,0.0710001049002658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05641017850428575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090140998929853,0.0,0.0,0.1989642844123546,0.06924412245891688,0.0,0.0,0.1483179670378866,0.07526399040134378,0.0,0.05374968115055888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653151633880192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768479521941928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587590164364166,0.0,0.0,0.13445161345547615,0.1686050148356655,0.0,0.0,0.05631689565523596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254438701130705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05988064706017245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05908544076441681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660806957065868,0.0,0.053136984287508265,0.0,0.06177094928744815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04695172135354702,0.3169889460630652,0.13887090058425827,0.11221226744689962,0.041209749296453775,0.0,0.0,0.13506135616684176,0.0,0.09596408448616467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103841741927792,0.0,0.0,0.16673807322805478,0.0560966038735153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551418900612566,0.06377101035962847,0.0789034108730546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435143820837846,0.0,0.07202139598651923,0.15061131781865994,0.0,0.0,0.04551082394762738
parenting,lovescrap41,2020/01/25,"Sons first report card and so much more I think I’ve flaired this correctly. 

Today I saw my sons first report card from his kindergarten teacher and as I’m super proud of his academics, his behaviors are really disheartening. He’s struggling to solve social conflicts with peers, he doesn’t do his personal best, he doesn’t follow expectations and needs to be reminded what they are.

What upsets me is that I have worked him so much on problem solving, especially with others. I work with him on following expectations and doing his personal best. I don’t know how to help him....

And what’s worse is that I don’t even know how to help myself right now. I’m so incredibly mentally exhausted. I made a mistake at work that, from how it’s spoken about, will lead me to
Being fired come next week. I’ve been applying to other jobs but you all know they take time.  I’m trying really hard to make sure that my son doesn’t see me freaking out or crying because I don’t want him exposed to this type of thing yet. It will just increase a chance of anxiety. 

I’m selling all my own personal belongings. I’ve told him that it’s for our vacation I’m the summer. He likes to put the pennies or coins he fines in his piggy bank to help save haha. It’s adorable. But I’m selling a lot of my stuff just so I can have a reserve in my savings because right now it’s zero. 

I hate being a single mom....I hate it I hate it I hate it. I don’t know how I’m suppose to help my son develop into a well rounded child who follows expectations and is respectful to teachers and peers, work full time, pay all the bills, help with homework, chores and errands, I don’t have any friends that are even remotely helpful and I don’t have any family around her. So it’s just me and I’m getting so worn out and I’m afraid I’m going burn out because I’m trying to job hunt, sell stuff and study while also trying to be engaged with my son. 

My biggest fear is that we lose the little 2 bdrm apt and end up living in my car and my son being forced into foster care and I never see him again. He has a specialized diet and I have medications 

I’ve cried so much today and ready for bed. I don’t know what im going to do.",3.3378747742323887,4.395052913907286,4.819707003812964,84.95744732089105,72.84105960264901,7.875015051173992,26.08930363234999,8.296473431620573,1.5637540838852089,1722,56,362,27,33,578,210,453,0.146,0.695,0.16,0.7894,2,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,2,1,2,12,24,31,4,4,11,1,35,3,0,7,6,67,74,35,0,7,7,6,3,1,1,2,2,0,3,4,28,30,1,1,6,0,7,10,11,14,1,3,5,6,51,17,43,62,14,44,0,2,4,0,44,18,0,3,17,229,79,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858036717330815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663629478207595,0.0,0.06560437273611125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634249624635707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683121486587429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799947400053081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743564657333007,0.0,0.0,0.07387262784611771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840151828866694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759558297189198,0.0,0.0,0.1132842470560422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084468661122958,0.09650120596711873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589083815874235,0.0,0.0,0.06625615292588513,0.0,0.044804836170219485,0.0,0.09747610531035678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682201598773973,0.3386717265777306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34488929802438634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263298545034557,0.0,0.17020248353504386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356508271512052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041896859334307035,0.08595170147562503,0.0757255821226736,0.0,0.0,0.09594088201935316,0.0,0.07290809310313469,0.0,0.08114596841380754,0.057243901844584076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639181708022513,0.08642354765556709,0.0,0.0,0.10043833119380999,0.0,0.0,0.18912523548925594,0.06358821589861259,0.06614159172925159,0.0,0.09120424092447207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246408343172028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205849574950405,0.0,0.08621013152501254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987710181477504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464731406999856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667549880406485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741913140873135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896525228888643,0.19634399943206865,0.0,0.0,0.08082557665000864,0.0,0.064479085254442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056973576588723776,0.054950043746033454,0.0,0.0,0.1000119586698068,0.0,0.16257646256613734,0.08194511615245749,0.0,0.17467145909527615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058208789504343,0.0,0.06878961947662197,0.0,0.07710643255919115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24973038212667126,0.0,0.08739437877829301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cheezewiz_12,2020/01/25,"What do I do when my niece has such a bad temper and my toddler is leading from her? This one is hard. I love my family to death. All of my family members. My niece is 3 yrs old and spends a lot of time with my daughter (15 months). I see that her behavior is very aggressive and controlling. I’m aware that 3 year olds go through a development phase that causes them to test ALL of their physical boundaries immensely. The hard part is, that she constantly seems to act very defiant and aggressively challenges anyone who can help her get what she wants (whether it is candy or attention). My siblings are absolutely great. Awesome people. I know that this is just a phase, but I am worried that my daughter will learn from her behavior and it will be a pillar in the foundation, which is her growth. I feel like I might be overreacting a bit, but I can’t help but feel like I want to keep my daughter from experiencing that at such a young age. I don’t doubt that, in time, she will learn more from us than she does from others. I just worry that it could be detrimental to her since she is so young. Am I crazy? Am I just overreacting? If anyone has practical knowledge, and can relate, please share your thoughts. Thank you in advance for your time and considerations :)",4.190025673940948,5.81583291056911,4.8090671801454885,83.6446405648267,71.52032520325204,8.593581514762517,27.1750106974754,9.134995656068208,2.101832520325204,1000,35,202,21,19,320,135,246,0.10400000000000001,0.746,0.15,0.9349,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,3,2,4,7,12,3,1,9,0,29,1,0,3,2,39,43,15,1,4,9,3,4,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,2,10,0,1,5,2,5,0,1,1,6,39,7,21,34,6,21,0,0,1,1,25,4,0,6,14,143,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938874300167953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576267316091728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513642866020515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424264704069771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982584727389064,0.15550200811147605,0.11069664506167556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132905785884936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614040839999527,0.0,0.1402060216383761,0.19809584208637365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243622091187203,0.0,0.07879507327138739,0.0,0.0,0.15285645587601887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24839713730197624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586146435117845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232339285791597,0.0,0.0,0.07619559330042049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354697580736015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787090835949207,0.12513240597405334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708029454873642,0.0,0.0,0.11066501048777998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909689317243856,0.0,0.09394935037407624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501388806567198,0.0,0.09611889410632836,0.0,0.0,0.152190430240587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048200898446722,0.1262170802331995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146884671109449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276455664668287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006853801149792,0.2425348115718705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667727047079163,0.0,0.0,0.2287930715021449,0.16355267003004625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28160118585265703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928274901822987
parenting,BrownSugar50,2020/01/25,"4 year old takes 1-2 hours to fall asleep It takes my 4.5 year old 1-2 hours to fall asleep at night and that is without afternoon naps. I have tried a bedtime routine, including stayed with her for a few mins. And also discussed consequences for coming out of her room

. She will stay in her room but it still takes her a while. Anyone go through this?",2.7959624413145576,4.555748056338032,2.985563380281693,94.73402582159626,75.47887323943662,6.423474178403758,23.10093896713615,7.1686216300943375,0.5731107981220656,276,8,61,3,6,84,52,71,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,7,8,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,11,7,1,22,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,11,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098433927710176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075783912627593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734072982493312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440684160408254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964917293647701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891204862496408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.422473577362469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4291308329169207,0.16076323543928875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540711882154341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366735631591687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19405180496757327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25926893397825834
parenting,gabbygirl34764,2020/01/25,"14yr old daughter complaining that we leave her out of everything Hi I have a 14 yr old daughter and her sister is 26 but her sisters dad is not her biological father. Anyways, my daughter has been complaining to me that me and her sister leave her out of everything. 

My older daughter has twin girls who are 6 years old and really girly. They love everything when it comes to hair, makeup, playing with fake makeup, to doing each other’s hair. They’re really sweet 

My 14 yr old daughter isn’t a big girly girl. She never has been. It’s always been about video games, drawing things about space, wanting to be a skater girl, dying her hair black and getting blue streaks in her hair. I’m completely fine with the way she is and she is a tomboy but she always complains she don’t fit in in this family. 

Two nights ago, we had a girls night out. With my oldest daughter and her kids and my 14 year old daughter. We all went to see Justin Bieber in concert and my daughter doesn’t really like his music or him but she tagged along anyways and on of my older daughters kids asked my younger daughter “why are you here if you don’t like Justin?” “Nobody needs you here go back home”. Said the other twin. My daughter said it’s a girls night and I’m a girl so of course I’m going and the twins looked at her with annoyed look on their face. 

I don’t know if that is causing her not to fit in. My husband and I give her a lot of attention everyday along with her younger brother who is 8. We have girl dates with me and her all the time but all she tells me is how everyone else has fun and she doesn’t. She told me yesterday that she doesn’t think anyone would care if she wasn’t in this family and that she doesn’t fit in because every one else is so girly while she’s a tomboy. And she said her twin nieces seem to hate her. 

Idk how do I fix this? I don’t want her to feel like she can’t belong in her own family. Please help... I’m so upset",1.8422855024600648,3.7569121097256897,2.8791507717193525,93.72387140257466,78.77556109725684,6.030895733638875,20.563523623374,7.001395882987947,0.2707273842420972,1520,39,337,17,37,484,176,401,0.067,0.8140000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.9768,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,3,2,0,13,16,2,1,13,0,35,6,5,3,4,60,63,31,1,7,10,18,5,3,0,1,0,4,1,9,16,33,0,0,5,4,0,4,14,7,0,2,10,15,64,9,37,51,6,46,0,0,5,1,87,19,0,6,25,212,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498526480332172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954734712242924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703634280630141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962792810307592,0.0,0.0,0.07372010245107767,0.0,0.05844303989920108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977484932256841,0.09848755738385508,0.0,0.0825857455805934,0.10052058465761522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950061020440633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017849065025627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077679049504931,0.09161036653841853,0.2584923010762813,0.0,0.27114043109143393,0.0,0.048476061234313764,0.06849139615422598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050089470330496384,0.09196972259008243,0.1089732024981878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465433226753232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426137495167931,0.0,0.09616802292064143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268906718062172,0.0,0.0,0.20303045595387373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051551162427606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610176558908567,0.0,0.0,0.0815074460370389,0.08652875395096297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108830934058409,0.07394285036435885,0.0,0.0,0.26990978826769435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030107689644856,0.0,0.06496574695492467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523931182710224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842553048439752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735903578916201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763980401160617,0.08727880355926397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379686782737142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369348753606129,0.061431283342262874,0.0,0.0,0.055904077156472484,0.0,0.0,0.09161036653841853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365358782293316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309627296695132,0.07609919799805569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887484975205466,0.08651009880804247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810513592630951,0.0,0.0,0.12347760696722974
parenting,PlainBagelNLocs,2020/01/25,"7 month old refuses to sleep! So my seven month old was sleeping through the night up until about four nights ago. Now every night she falls asleep for about two hours and then she’s up for a good chunk of the night. We’ve done the basics. Making sure that her diaper is clean, she’s fed, she has a binky. We’re not sure what to do. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you.",0.5255699855699874,2.8094741688311733,1.385627705627705,100.36669552669552,86.53246753246755,4.461183261183262,13.750360750360752,5.82211442006289,-1.1134721500721505,289,4,67,2,9,89,60,77,0.0,0.802,0.198,0.9299,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,0,7,4,3,1,2,6,10,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,7,4,11,5,0,16,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,13,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079552588183085,0.14586289398390462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189906527250174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839091166031067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386397566167132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801602082994727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102938273302924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204776777717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098378359999852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626831247855024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6176729251817314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453333075376208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293359727451017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31017125481036073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514947503132647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074061054516905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Robotgirl69,2020/01/25,"I birthed my clone She looks just like me! As a baby, of course.  

She's so happy I cant believe it. And sleeps so well. I was worried having a toddler and a newborn would mean I never slept, but I hit the jackpot. 

Far out, I look in to her eyes and I feel this crazy connection. Mum reckons she'll give me hell like I did her..pfft nah, no way!

Just wanted to share. I'm so happy!",-2.3769477911646604,-0.8163698192771099,0.3583614457831352,102.3487871485944,108.63855421686749,2.695261044176707,15.171887550200806,4.604124745555138,-1.224404979919678,287,8,70,1,15,97,61,83,0.175,0.607,0.217,0.5957,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,4,0,6,3,3,0,1,13,15,8,0,2,3,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,3,4,15,6,6,9,0,6,1,0,3,0,8,3,1,0,4,44,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27439766870288723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314629668828278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23363554001785194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185274237256351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379726466107129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090416490016212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652975620404485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784092513071396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437260844967169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436522154492691,0.19331880882631292,0.0,0.0,0.2189808749196148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473370456957017,0.0,0.1730110710570783,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,may-enero,2020/01/25,"Only parent on my team at work I’m feeling frustrated and need to vent. 

Three months ago I resigned from my position. I was the senior manager of my program but I have two young kids and needed to be more available to my parents who aren’t well and wanted to be with my youngest while he’s home. They asked if I would stay part time to help the very junior woman who was taking my role. I agreed, stating that I needed a flexible situation that allowed me to be remote. I take projects they ask me to do and am careful with my hours because we are a nonprofit. 

Well this month has been rough. The second week of January I came down with the flu (diagnosed). I was wiped out with a high fever and moved meetings that week since I obviously couldn’t be in office. The next week my nanny was sick and didn’t call out until the same day. I work from home mostly so I let the team know and picked up my work after the kids went to bed. One day last week while working my son broke a glass in his hand (while with the nanny) and I rushed him to the hospital as it wouldn’t stop bleeding. Last night my daughter came down with the flu and after spending the morning in the hospital with her, I took a meeting from the side of her bed via video (again I work from home) as she had a 103+ degree temperature and was in pain. 

Well I got feedback today that the team feels I’m getting unfair treatment because I have had so many last minute changes to my schedule recently and that I need to not have so many last minute things come up. None of my work requires me to be in office. I also gave up my pto, sick time, and all benefits with this change. Through all of this I am still online and respond to messages almost immediately. The team is very young (they’re all about 5-10 years younger than me and none of them have kids). Between the flu, my nanny calling out last minute, and my son’s trip to the er, I couldn’t have given them more of a heads up on any of it. I nodded and wrote down the feedback. I also requested that my manager talk to the team about the nature of my consultant role. But I kinda want to walk away. There have been so many instances where I just wish I worked with other parents. 

I don’t know if I want advice or to just vent.",5.109388083735912,4.959372521739134,5.496618357487925,85.99936392914654,68.34782608695653,8.380032206119164,28.341384863123995,7.793537801064563,1.4956360708534628,1760,52,380,18,27,563,218,460,0.083,0.846,0.07200000000000001,-0.8744,5,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,4,13,17,9,1,0,28,0,34,11,2,2,4,69,63,33,0,14,8,6,4,0,0,2,9,0,5,4,15,32,0,2,4,6,1,9,9,4,4,4,18,4,60,5,68,35,10,68,0,2,0,0,44,22,0,6,35,259,75,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555107280190801,0.06853485544475706,0.0,0.07741954779106595,0.0,0.0,0.12365714531486692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257667699710238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455769739785046,0.0,0.07263974681484296,0.0,0.0,0.09426070038172922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789399538538162,0.17685493997342225,0.07882753402803105,0.0,0.16357749467264318,0.06659980584001457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997232272811131,0.0,0.0,0.07847283746094819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818531499345352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04039376256989482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061835663426737464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934723240907307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05182244302217592,0.08168727166383906,0.2326589755716087,0.0,0.07613944874135982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498032243824606,0.3151091761575292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905956373592518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351550454526256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234237816982984,0.08217333699446698,0.0,0.22931161140671885,0.0,0.0,0.08222510711286378,0.07255464958096433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052390471297824336,0.05880134657059901,0.08226833846284587,0.0,0.257546620110645,0.08372433323289698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633898214973987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395555499259098,0.08690501135490257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240722980164672,0.06174365424386325,0.06463858771428167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162621307484262,0.062142662409483226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136448031501311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016569767849056,0.0,0.0732853369154254,0.0,0.08589952510350557,0.0,0.0,0.07552527038871695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275855213255598,0.1368067170891695,0.0,0.2480688955857837,0.0,0.20854571932199864,0.07167154205529397,0.0,0.0,0.08890813973311193,0.0,0.0,0.3940023799357814,0.0,0.0,0.05492217570371935,0.0,0.0,0.04978816012251133
parenting,littlewing52,2020/01/25,"3rd grade daughter cheated on test... TL;DR Daughter cheated on test. Don't know how to handle it...

Hi all.  This is going to be half asking for advice, half venting.  I know most parents would say the same thing, but or daughter (8, 9 in Feb.) is a good kid.  She has some anxiety for which she is being lightly medicated, but other than that she has friends, makes great grades, etc., etc.  Last week though, she lied to her teacher about completing her work so that she could talk with her friends.  That was taken care of and she beat herself up so much about it, we didn't apply much punishment. Today, my wife and I are 2 hours away from home to see a concert for my birthday.  My mother-in-law is watching kids.  After getting to our hotel and settling in we get a call from my daughter's teacher.  She tells us that our daughter is with her and she has something to tell us. Teacher puts daughter on the phone and she proceeds to tell us that she cheated on her reading test.  She told us it was because she wanted to make a good grade. My wife told her we would rather have the bad grade than the cheating.  Anyway, we get home tomorrow and I just don't know what to do.  I want to just love on her so that she knows, bad grade or not, we will always be there for her.  -But- I don't want her to think she can get away with stuff like this Scott free.  -But- I don't want her to beat herself up ( as she tends to do) so much that she becomes depressed, or loses self esteem... Any advice, or just being able to empathize with other parents that have gone through stuff like this would be appreciated!!",3.0217997097242346,4.6708508993710725,3.466163522012579,91.99624092888249,74.59748427672956,5.647024673439767,24.809385582970492,5.8734145424116955,0.4929405902273829,1238,40,260,6,26,385,155,318,0.099,0.7490000000000001,0.152,0.9662,2,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,11,0,0,4,14,19,5,0,8,0,31,2,0,3,1,48,56,21,0,9,13,10,0,2,2,4,1,2,2,3,21,15,0,0,5,3,1,3,6,9,0,2,7,5,50,11,43,39,9,21,0,2,2,1,66,11,0,6,9,191,71,10,0.09105374180393792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779533253488047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576400734405138,0.0,0.0,0.06191966679252825,0.0,0.06965586325496152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512295723504297,0.0,0.1710959754613848,0.0,0.15205214217790433,0.05550551587340412,0.10056170409327374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297605080045894,0.0,0.0928353581828948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546811591149618,0.0,0.0,0.07269900372004133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842445439337686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030979821620715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069579009830008,0.0,0.19028728795182184,0.0,0.05174793980148122,0.1527431172192474,0.0,0.1003870717867881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826686541953312,0.0,0.08966959429732717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016302093750835,0.07422095235123978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896851788650569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018658464334643,0.0,0.0,0.08217955695348267,0.0,0.1215581593960422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172706552798778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008049310111107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20220880957884144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153415972519632,0.0,0.0,0.0910783822396083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240959011208409,0.0,0.0,0.0725580434500464,0.0,0.0949889107847161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700976189240107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846949989728844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318554860756674,0.23875495107830425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060492060124915675,0.058343561159010994,0.08945983901727074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630830059555493,0.1740115046320878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381057609544374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148234241482629,0.0,0.07303781939808003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628820847809776,0.0,0.0,0.1940458971541174,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wheredidigowrongmom,2020/01/25,"Where did I go wrong? Hello Reddit, I made an account to post this. Am an immigrant so I apologize for the bad grammar 

Growing up, I lived in one of the villages you see on Tv to donate too, in true poverty. I worked and was one day able to get the opportunity to come to the California USA, with my husband. But foreign degrees were useless here, we were told. My husband was a taxi driver and I was a cleaner. When I was pregnant, I immediately moved to the best school district I could find within 100 miles. This city is one of the richest zip codes in the usa(and probably world), and I made many sacrifices to send him here. We didn’t become citizens until recently, so we could not get many of the free facilities Americans had. It was obvious that we were poor, but I tried to get my son to ignore it. I grew up in a village where everyone was poor, so I didn’t think this would affect him. It did, from him wanting game consoles when he was a kid that we couldn’t afford. His friends houses would be mansions compared to our 2 bedroom dingy apartment. I felt awful I couldn’t give him those things! In high school, he always wore used clothes that weren’t very trendy, and he would always want to get the clothes that his friends had, like Gucci, balenciagen, etc. I couldn’t get those things for him, so he always looked very poor compared to others. He studied hard in high school and got into an Ivy League school that starts with an H. He was a citizen and was able to get good money from them, so he went. I could only assume what it would be like at what I found out was one of the richest schools in the world.

My son has always been bright and smart, and he made a startup company their that he sold for millions of dollars. I saw his Facebook, he used to get expensive Rolex watch, Balenciagen shoes, all the things he wanted as a kid. He graduated and now works at a tech company and lives in the Bay Area.

He has never talked to us really after leaving for college. I called him and messaged him on his birthday he never responded. For me or my husbands birthday, he never messaged us, and we invited him home many times, but he never came back for more than an hour. The last deep conversation I had with him was 3 years ago. I miss him so much, I wish I could have changed him. I asked him recently why he never talks to me and he responded about the trauma I caused him in his childhood by putting him in a place he could never fit in. I started crying when I saw that, as a mother I just wanted him to be successful and something big in this world. He has done just that, and in our old village he is known as the legend who made it in america!

Was I wrong for just wanting him to get the best schooling?",4.8004726890756295,5.33943043382353,5.416934873949582,83.90936764705883,69.11029411764707,8.275966386554623,29.51344537815126,8.238735603445708,1.892864978991596,2132,76,439,28,35,689,249,544,0.078,0.812,0.111,0.9627,2,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,10,1,2,6,20,20,0,0,32,1,47,1,1,8,9,78,87,32,0,18,8,6,2,2,2,4,0,0,2,4,26,28,0,1,6,2,10,9,13,7,0,5,39,8,71,14,66,33,6,73,1,2,6,0,83,37,0,2,28,298,97,11,0.12862673717181186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700992080479449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21405549880005148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060124317961229135,0.0,0.0,0.049453010615235535,0.053698976398030944,0.0,0.0710290627583831,0.0,0.0,0.13498582502276435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567113999189016,0.07355736038539204,0.0,0.06606754547044458,0.06803501631553735,0.0554002723419238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567449579470744,0.0,0.070645215468483,0.04147680222567465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581490518802385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172640644449685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145417977269515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175091952547024,0.0,0.05878125375260751,0.0,0.0,0.07051628910106685,0.09937669806652458,0.0,0.2688086451978991,0.06169524344524465,0.036550769469530994,0.05394300224275266,0.05143727599617943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761214581999025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590120991993596,0.06451155248321516,0.0,0.06333571311556181,0.07420899246998018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242397918847309,0.0,0.06809857121513167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284052659469226,0.0,0.11357976547377713,0.0,0.05400703187638122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434194575527255,0.0,0.19561098409127248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835493274070416,0.047277725901673465,0.0,0.2976146078811607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674860616578399,0.0,0.17432161198748475,0.04891321488096277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719378176953865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061594429248200175,0.0,0.06934068893709303,0.0,0.0,0.06465269890043265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04120079075405285,0.0,0.12700338531196906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905313752148985,0.05124942808306638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049511573204334816,0.0,0.0,0.09104266660839136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338529904449488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818083306378394,0.041209409729843084,0.0,0.0,0.03750164241685161,0.0,0.0,0.06145417977269515,0.0,0.043664555629441465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472212742526167,0.11109220234665516,0.0,0.10613052904841312,0.18966845546945046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05961913700720276,0.058032811844209005,0.0,0.07395719991226839,0.0,0.0,0.09364179659812503,0.0,0.0,0.18274548721095046,0.14063314493389406,0.0,0.04141570077270716
parenting,radius1214,2020/01/25,"Advice on Sleep Issues with Sensory Processing Disorder I have a 20 month old boy who likely has Sensory Processing Disorder. He is doing great with all his physical milestones, but is far behind in speech and communication. We have a team of 4 therapists that are helping us with a lot of those issues, but we have one issue that we can't seem to correct or improve upon and it's taking a severe toll on our lives. It sometimes takes 2-3 hours to get him to sleep. Even when he goes to sleep quickly (30-45 minutes), he often wakes up 3-5 times a night and is completely unable to put himself back to sleep again. As you can imagine some nights are very rough. 

We have tried many different methodologies to get him to sleep better. We keep the same routine every night and put him to bed the same time every night. Nothing seems to work. We have tried cry it out, but he's unable to calm himself down. He would cry for an hour if we let him go that long, hyperventilating and making himself sick. We try holding, rocking, bouncing, singing, etc. Nothing consistently works.

My goal here is just to get some advice on what worked for other people. I feel like I'm at my breaking point with him as we've been struggling to get him to sleep for 3 hours so far tonight. 3 hours of screaming, drifting off, waking up and screaming more. We all live in fear of waking him up at night because of the ordeal of putting him back to sleep. There's no time for downtime because our entire night surrounds getting him to stay asleep, and I fear his sleep quality is exasperating the rest of his behavioral and sensory issues. Any advice?",5.761677316293928,6.4855303035143805,5.970369009584665,80.1323586261981,67.05111821086261,8.560319488817893,30.98546325878593,8.548686976883017,2.3152263258785943,1287,48,242,18,20,410,175,313,0.124,0.818,0.057,-0.9735,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,12,1,0,6,11,10,0,3,10,0,19,13,12,1,3,45,33,17,0,2,6,0,2,2,0,1,1,3,1,1,10,22,0,2,4,3,0,5,2,5,0,1,1,5,33,5,48,30,10,47,0,0,0,0,37,18,0,8,24,156,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538351011654054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045323052433205634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249668328103538,0.0,0.08125623203663575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05894490504626414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987935574094878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641980710801902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963316977880425,0.15276919221811672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433034584514743,0.044020498754443006,0.0,0.11230794364839612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999547871739932,0.03369932575950253,0.047613477909599695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410463379329771,0.0,0.0378777004209576,0.0,0.0,0.07347986114740522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04467287467483606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625401546568041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27825356477200297,0.0,0.0592399706558063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815228647385188,0.0,0.06512187500274573,0.0,0.11770313985002835,0.0589815479509433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05666190498750679,0.0,0.0,0.04448818216715273,0.06757080048738205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05319794677899478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.375268850187562,0.0,0.12790146533846805,0.0,0.0699360605307315,0.0,0.04516253619000134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046205460882226386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300407904800043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009995080184329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134801211783736,0.0,0.07529348034131363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.533570553945819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591676085565536,0.0,0.0,0.07103809921994693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967515563235457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022228388830157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738368169029089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658928094059698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574923164271024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016956244919363,0.0,0.0,0.05499173400664817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556202112437522,0.0,0.0,0.047344959615888096,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agul5801,2020/01/25,"Baby fever!!! Okay so I’m a mom of 4 kids between the ages of 11 and 17...I’m 35 years old. I’ve been with my fiancé for 5 years (not my kids dad). Never in a million years did I ever think I’d long for another baby. I would pass the baby isle at a Walmart or Target and would just get this feeling of thank god im done with that ugh!! but here I am now a months to a year later wanting one with my fiancé soooo bad!!! Not now but by the time I’m 40....my kids will be older and I feel it will be the best timing...I became a mom at 18. My bf and I at the time  Wasn’t ready mentally or financially and a short time later just kept popping them out became over stressed and exhausted over the years. And yes all four of my kids are with the same guy. Love my kids to death and wouldn’t change it for anything but each time I became pregnant it was always an oops a somewhat disappointment to the family like a “didnt you learn from the first,second, third or fourth one?!” I always felt a little ashamed as we struggled financially for what I think was most of our relationship. Well I want to do it the right way and actually try for one when the time is right like I didn’t get a chance to before. Am I crazy?! Would 40 be too old? Even as I write this I can’t believe I’m having these feelings when I swore off even the thought of anymore kids! It’s almost as if I woke up one day and couldn’t think of anything else but having another baby. My fiancé and I have a few things to take care of before we even come close to having another. He has one child of his own who is 6. It was pretty much a one night stand with this woman and him.  We met about 10 months after his daughter was born. He’s all for another baby in the very near future too! Has anyone else experienced this feeling? I’m telling you it literally hit me like that!! Now the thought of it is almost to exciting to bare.",1.435454221588884,3.0100384164588547,3.238385464909157,92.25138653366587,78.8004987531172,6.0791164944780895,20.18532240826505,6.868970318607317,0.15654451015318793,1459,35,336,15,35,488,200,401,0.071,0.79,0.139,0.9781,0,0,0,0,1,0,46.0,4,2,1,1,17,17,0,3,28,2,34,3,0,0,4,65,61,26,1,8,12,4,5,3,1,6,2,0,0,9,18,24,0,1,11,0,0,2,9,7,1,9,16,6,34,10,49,34,10,51,0,1,0,1,32,16,0,8,34,221,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.08284223429009538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001392112102848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127369829994324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35606617455503903,0.0,0.0,0.08418993912715238,0.05935838006433159,0.08698176858964064,0.13971757675472293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088117832242646,0.0,0.0,0.14447348368297372,0.09564408431387067,0.08908879625114473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655293485163831,0.0,0.08980435842735406,0.07312684237911997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474824311380844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687387253580812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183255422542454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821086889776546,0.07678957044212874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002851431417472,0.0,0.1716955517745056,0.0,0.08150952275170666,0.0,0.0,0.07220899430310927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870501261352169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405631316973643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169780368779352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442166136700028,0.08508397100910123,0.0,0.0751266471340016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661824091978196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855510536381325,0.0,0.0,0.1988487002068273,0.13551978592501554,0.0,0.062405303510370026,0.0,0.06547385539288451,0.0,0.0,0.07966528365750415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815950662415306,0.0,0.3451496311536067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863655665743963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114211495388752,0.0,0.1449944124778474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724336783715497,0.08874743056171064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638281328501463,0.0,0.07419924954841232,0.07815704243651671,0.0,0.0,0.0563983964893876,0.1631858770252118,0.0,0.13478934888859714,0.2475057051208709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763601769611085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004469600290067,0.10014286689280198,0.06738322719083062,0.0,0.0,0.0763280000261767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809142790349314,0.0,0.0,0.2733379543456395
parenting,OwlMakeURad,2020/01/25,"24 hours (and counting) of hell Exactly 24+ hours ago I hear my son waking up out of the blue and I walk in and he starts saying “I need water...I need water quick!!” 3 seconds later projectile vomiting occurs. “OH F**K” I think but say “Oh No you’re jokin’” let’s just say I’ve been up already since 5:50 AM, as my fiancé walks in saying “oh god, this is nasty” as it’s all over the bed, blankets, him, clothes, stuffies, and of course the floor. I instantly grab the first thing I see as a bucket, take off his clothes and change him while helplessly demanding my fiancé to get the carpet cleaner, Clorox wipes and paper towels. As a mom I was not very happy to be stuck cleaning it all up while dad got to fall asleep from let’s call it “visual and nasal trauma.” After an hour of scrubbing and sanitizing it starts all over again but luckily in the bucket this time! Finally it’s midnight and I get some Motrin to help with the fever and tsp’s of water at a time to avoid over expanding the stomach. His Fever is up there and every other hour he’s waking up vomiting in the bucket. All he wants is cuddles and his fox and dog which are in the washer and dryer until 2am since our washer takes FOREVER. I’m also not the person to leave things undone so I stayed up, not only to do laundry but with paranoia that I’m not doing enough for my child who continues to wake and vomit and repeat. Suddenly it 5AM again and his fever just won’t break. I call the Dr and he gets checked right away...great that nasty bug going around at school. THANKS A**HOLE PARENTS THAT SEND THEIR KIDS TO SCHOOL SICK!! I get it you have to work but please for the sake of someone who is an absolute germaphobe you have given me what seems to be my inception. For what he’s got he’s doing well and the Dr said he’s going to be just fine and I should continue to do what I’m doing. I had to take the day off and call the school. I clean more and keep a close eye and chart of temps each time. Finally it’s 6:30 PM Friday. And although he was only awake for a maximum of 5 hours through this entire thing; he began to feel normal (within reason of course). Not hungry, just tired. My fiancé finally gets home and I’m exhausted and dirty. I just want a shower. So there I was showering...suddenly I hear my son knocking...”MOM I HAVE TO POOP!” ok come in I say (we have a black out shower curtain so it wasn’t a big deal as a mom) until I smell it. That smell of diarrhea, the bad kind. I peek out and OH...MY....FFS you’re jokin’.... poop on the floor, poop in his shorts, poop on him....I clean him up the best I can and asking for my fiancé to grab me a towel and he’s no where to be found. I walk out of the bathroom cleaning up the trail and....OH MY FFS....that’s right....he had an accident in the bed on the just washed sheets and bed....here I am cleaning again! No big deal! It’s all good! I let my child know he is not at fault and mom is definitely not mad. After everything is clean and settled we cuddled and suddenly I smell the smell again. No....oh please no... “oh my gosh mom my butt is sweaty” as he checks his butt for god knows what and why...”did you just...” “LETS GO! Wash your hands bro” another shower scrub down no problem....UNTIL you’d never guess....he pooped as I started to help dry him ALL OVER THE BATHROOM FLOOR!!! Well good thing we are in the bathroom! Another shower no problem! Where is dad? We wonder....as he is sleeping from previously browsing Instagram feed. Well let’s just calm it a night. I’m hoping after all this we will be in the semi clear tomorrow and all the love, support, cleaning and sleep deprivation will be rewarded one day. The things we do for our children especially when they are sick. 

Anyone else have some fun (now that it’s happened) crazy stories they want to share? 

P.S. I’m honestly too tired to care about grammar and I needed to share this or I’ll forget and it’s definitely a been there saw that kind of thing that I know many other parents will get a kick out of! Happy Redditing Redditors!",0.5053045066991473,2.8543103824604152,2.171461510353229,94.11719713763706,87.68453105968331,5.232842874543241,18.319622411693057,6.742157984588678,0.06319312058465343,3108,83,675,40,100,1013,341,821,0.098,0.738,0.16399999999999998,0.996,9,1,0,0,0,0,149.0,8,5,3,4,30,33,2,1,45,1,52,38,17,1,11,109,105,60,0,10,20,11,4,0,0,5,15,8,16,5,41,55,3,2,8,0,2,9,16,10,3,3,16,22,69,23,98,72,14,101,1,2,5,5,77,48,3,5,42,409,110,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195754330333207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468171879636626,0.04687338610965973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292323248036086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04098408932790994,0.06005670252311266,0.0,0.05217865477575757,0.05479593393490824,0.0,0.05506953748107757,0.0,0.04894002398457389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061511503173027164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955354358013034,0.0,0.05976061357651302,0.0,0.062005564232605476,0.05049054635732488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560202565806735,0.12085638291280773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896425800098095,0.0,0.0,0.060563661095712075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04938460331639355,0.0,0.05267824941116103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029636867715665326,0.0,0.0,0.19262545902716166,0.0,0.049856816671711775,0.0,0.06426693973324793,0.0,0.0,0.1837395574228541,0.0,0.09993461632682464,0.09832484716252586,0.09375752350640616,0.064621854458825,0.06456964196628245,0.0,0.05183193605276972,0.12479083072064147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321238881256627,0.0,0.07857510780275957,0.0,0.058794359549959985,0.05821666847776804,0.2886136316621992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209858459292641,0.0,0.12207437942815808,0.09663773464675927,0.0,0.0,0.062063486720502235,0.0,0.2996825979784071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05290118811531668,0.0,0.0,0.05942513181948356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432385150665737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303840349078855,0.04520652913971758,0.0,0.0,0.05500502369191804,0.057429019599594414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039718186658069685,0.08915677988695188,0.0,0.0,0.13016724195969534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117925628451361,0.0,0.12868056866384697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121708650268469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060264686063766476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011162613601614,0.05575508844749112,0.2330599902139045,0.0,0.1779607001079315,0.04670756144381427,0.05335974684421087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697178162707834,0.0,0.11731213880301045,0.0,0.049663231066223126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446131899446088,0.062474447244993014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651417670801027,0.0,0.0,0.1322107120609924,0.0,0.0,0.05396365610638095,0.0,0.0,0.2336421833446447,0.03755731739874663,0.0,0.0,0.1025344281651296,0.1347357416999999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04836247341686117,0.1037157061354975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810237246551606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356409993274899,0.04267150026754396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meah_bree,2020/01/25,‘Come and see my big huge giant poo’ Our toddler son has mastered number twos and is very proud of himself and wants everyone to come join his celebration 😂😂😂😂,5.08909090909091,5.212722303030303,6.2207575757575775,79.85113636363639,68.39393939393939,9.024242424242424,31.65151515151515,8.841846274778883,2.4453151515151514,128,5,26,2,2,43,27,33,0.0,0.7390000000000001,0.261,0.8016,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,2,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7316354152089651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057927193644629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384089554953459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503992417557242,0.2504828104688261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gluuey,2020/01/25,I’m a stay-at-home dad and someone told me “Being Mom for the day?” when walking my 2 children at the park Are there really still people with this type of mentality around? I just didn’t know what to say.,3.1527131782945763,3.8767417906976753,4.54418604651163,88.01224806201557,72.95348837209303,7.593798449612403,23.635658914728683,7.793537801064563,0.8903705426356581,159,4,36,2,3,53,40,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,6,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,6,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,22,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996489985890191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21708178734291933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498880137391932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392177461152483,0.0,0.0,0.3942266344691807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333588891421919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156371951764162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26768107755514337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28520354768906103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587751664893868,0.2688124559498603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216396267041956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MountainScratch2,2020/01/25,"So here's the thing As I lay on my bed for the tenth fifteen minute interval that day.

Because parenting is hard.

I think I have frontal lobe damage.

I am a miserable twat.

But then Me Think's...

I REALLY suck! What miserable twat lays in bed needing coaching and comfort thissss much from comforters?

But then Me Think's....

As much as I suck and feel miserable....Their little mouth's are fed and they have shiny clean feet. Comfortable shoes and tummies full of meat (don't provoke me veggies, I know!!l) They have traces of my kisses all over their faces and blankets and snuggles and stories of far of place's...

I wonder what they see?

Why do I feel like such a failure when I am giving them everything of Me?",2.2489130434782605,4.8008446159420295,2.705246376811594,92.05352173913046,81.10144927536231,5.998840579710145,25.86666666666667,7.3011,1.2927327536231887,559,23,112,8,15,172,88,138,0.20800000000000002,0.6559999999999999,0.136,-0.935,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,5,0,4,10,2,2,4,0,9,6,4,1,1,18,21,16,0,1,2,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,7,1,0,6,1,0,0,1,5,0,1,1,5,21,5,13,20,4,11,0,3,2,1,7,7,2,1,5,71,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132907281537144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495192714749667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836514381656412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23445312905704585,0.1656283713339042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224045094704417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20768539542284767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741460788123515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326656409550175,0.2323671525501313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408619157932877,0.17190832072467882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574337263890832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24222613023938105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485242807345745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847485037249432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402589518571594,0.4456660535588808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20920184978047232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514233667994965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kayleighfeneley96,2020/01/25,Motherhood speech Hey guys-I’m a 23 year old mom of a 2 year old boy. I have decided to go back to school and am taking a public speaking class (as an introvert this is my worst nightmare). Our first speech is on a significant moment in our lives. Well obviously mine is becoming a mom. I’m looking to see if anyone has ideas of topics to hit on or things that will make this speech great. Thank you!,1.8328703703703724,3.997901222222225,3.363688271604939,88.98034722222225,79.98765432098766,7.012962962962964,21.23611111111111,8.07648339933343,0.9875296296296292,313,9,67,6,8,103,62,81,0.05,0.818,0.132,0.69,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,1,7,15,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,6,6,3,10,13,1,11,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,2,7,40,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438151066345996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581539796368299,0.0,0.0,0.2271556130831718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494992626860856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689176409036985,0.0,0.0,0.22676114175831166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23218585750205084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816177791040448,0.0,0.1727180390710402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729191679796132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817760692492446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43164972520057854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20815750276503175,0.16389904081899045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464454592902718,0.0,0.0,0.18936101996164115,0.0,0.0,0.13664357747551747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492956598669827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649002685645924
parenting,thinkevolution,2020/01/25,"How to handle 8 yo son's overall ungrateful behavior about a gift? My parents just came back from vacation and brought my kids t-shirts back.  My son (8) and step-son (9) each got to pick one.  My step-son picked first and when my son went to pick he got upset and said he didn't like the shirt or the colors on it (it was grey with a colorful log).  My mom, felt hurt, and went and got another shirt she had bought for my nephew (8) and let my son trade it.  This happened while I was in the bathroom so I came in on the tail end...after the trade was brokered.

I told my son I was disappointed in his behavior and sad that he'd treat his grandmother that way.  I explained that when someone gives you a gift you say thank you and do not ask for a different gift.  I told him that it was a very nice shirt and that they thought of him, which they didn't have to do.

I am planning to make him face time my mom to apologize.  I also feel like he should give back the shirt as it was not meant for him in the first place.  Does this seem reasonable?  I really want him to get the idea that we need to be grateful when someone gives us something - even if we don't like it.  It's the thought that truly counts.",2.8586904761904752,3.6686052658730186,3.6366666666666654,93.925,73.7222222222222,7.504761904761906,23.920634920634928,7.793537801064563,0.7802444444444441,925,25,223,12,18,294,132,252,0.084,0.809,0.107,0.6015,2,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,3,3,2,3,12,10,0,1,14,0,18,5,5,6,0,38,47,20,0,4,5,9,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,17,16,0,0,9,0,4,5,5,4,0,3,25,7,36,6,22,18,1,23,0,3,3,0,40,7,0,3,13,136,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424360844787348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357469720582713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017267944362988,0.0,0.0,0.2718552594416851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695751656321552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312686830434127,0.0,0.0,0.10313024147697142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437901939593723,0.0,0.0,0.07783799258380962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958787253138049,0.08419117559504577,0.11315328793610713,0.0,0.0,0.2004841851140728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061571111538766016,0.33915379881761365,0.0,0.0,0.28276325014289155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421326667171958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261595318448221,0.1330369021271869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205083385972753,0.0,0.1727248497949795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866496045196439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27604607990116903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738336010805306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985736773753732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085709826136332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312686830434127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549693146619002,0.12116814994633325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210115506332152,0.09371806172141672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728508234285886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19970573885622686,0.0907257307585345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849930202625982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871174985525539,0.06871855795962131,0.0,0.0,0.2252190753476593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175754441532235,0.0,0.0,0.09723756669949783,0.06951025027337197,0.0935428579506501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184939569521936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lilesthobo,2020/01/25,"To those who wonder if you will regret having children..... I used to be you. And my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Before I had my son, I used to read reddit posts about people who regretted having children. I was sure I would one day be one of those people. I was sure having a child would be my greatest regret. 

Before children, I worked in the bar industry and my husband traveled for work and made enough money for me to travel with him.  My life was the stuff of legends!!  I worked a job I loved, had great friends, a great social life, not a worry in the world. 

I got pregnant at 35 after trying once. I kinda wanted it but kinda thought I had ruined my life. I was sad my party lifestyle of freedom would end. 

My labour was traumatic and my son was a terrible sleeper. Terrible. I’ve never heard of a child so terrible. Sleep coaches told me I was their first failure. I spent 2 years dealing with sleep coaches and behavioural therapists for his sleep.  Terrible. 

My son is now 2.5. I’m a stay at home mom. I bartend occasionally when they need me or someone gets sick. My life is 24/7 my son. And I fucking love every second. Every waking second. He is my world, my heart, and my soul. My husband still travels so it’s mainly just me and him and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s my everything.  

Not having a second child. Happy with one.  And I still really love the nights I bartend or leave the kid with my husband and hit the bar as a customer. Still have to have a bit of my old self every now and again. 

But my son. Man. He’s amazing. If you’re reading thing and thinking you’re going to regret having children, you may I guess. But you also may not. And I’d say for me stopping at one is the key to happiness in parenting. Some moms want more. For me one is it. My heart is full.",0.8072017394592521,3.1553408943089463,2.6586412050167034,91.28585933068634,85.85636856368562,4.8417722316758045,20.50551459002962,6.270204493941655,0.2447415516480751,1406,44,287,13,43,466,173,369,0.126,0.7290000000000001,0.145,0.8343,3,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,0,4,2,5,13,23,1,0,18,0,36,17,6,3,4,57,59,26,0,13,11,12,0,0,1,7,5,2,1,10,13,18,2,1,3,9,2,4,5,11,0,9,16,2,58,12,31,32,8,33,1,6,0,4,45,9,1,11,17,209,71,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895880788307085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863995904064519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675226450510684,0.0,0.09049399418220258,0.0,0.09414179323015008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05561178736617099,0.0889002564400788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637496976284522,0.08909955556494227,0.0,0.0,0.07800077263648675,0.21795972011770468,0.0,0.0774987595788845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334794705214469,0.0,0.0,0.06662176813870622,0.0797190640267315,0.045052078561882536,0.0,0.049006999352309163,0.0,0.06896671637872523,0.19013971110380395,0.09499304200073426,0.0,0.07625368715860642,0.18358876188507564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043680287188227,0.0,0.0,0.08649660887158203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557084809457469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913060568592172,0.0,0.0,0.24362969797319445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334802221987455,0.08159374872100973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20198514153146335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393910888080387,0.06650657476959604,0.0,0.0,0.08092184448763459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048480860882116,0.09183307865677692,0.29216139802766833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574919347589024,0.0,0.0,0.11956327688127212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825853517745691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250844136206905,0.0,0.05524171324167753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857426110753696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995761970740114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25887948087886703,0.08790152833223505,0.07306314935166304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919106504294275,0.20659228935747165,0.0720928813401335,0.0,0.0,0.09871373320015918,0.0,0.0,0.16254317793782974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001207041697044,0.11457593723477022,0.055253269500194095,0.0,0.06845769090740661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239730632285938,0.0,0.058545110828233486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148951597119933,0.0,0.0,0.10172242072324404,0.06844606309636503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351371683001662,0.1883313346819781,0.08757164984896311,0.0,0.18376784066441004,0.0,0.0,0.055529862993320266
parenting,eatmyopinions,2020/01/25,"""Scared to be alone"" sleep regression at 3.5 years old. How long do these phases last? My daughter was an incredible sleeper up until Monday night. She would go to bed promptly, cry for a short time, and sleep was really easy.

On Monday she got out of her bed for the first time ever, scared of being alone in her room. She cried harder than I've ever seen. It's been a long, awful week, but we've settled into a new routine.

We go through the old routine of brush teeth, pajamas, two books, talk about her day, and song. But now we leave the door open and I lay on a sleeping bag outside her room making idle conversation for an hour until she falls asleep.

This new ritual leaves about 30 minutes for my wife and I to get acquainted. It's really hard on us.

How long do these phases last?",3.5616666666666674,4.9702852038216605,4.3188694267515935,87.40127653927816,72.7579617834395,7.271549893842888,22.637473460721868,7.793537801064563,0.8925333333333327,615,15,127,8,12,197,101,157,0.106,0.8809999999999999,0.013000000000000001,-0.8538,0,2,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,0,1,7,2,0,2,9,1,8,5,5,3,2,17,14,10,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,5,9,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,2,0,2,5,4,15,0,24,6,0,39,1,0,1,0,15,12,0,0,24,74,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26350782569328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794741874080873,0.08204161825706215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301422024170108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820699274362464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646334538259292,0.0,0.14459573134425113,0.0,0.10174355627757313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395752374101828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527880932559546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073905343375069,0.0,0.2693996009183574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377375065144089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491541415059707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245725489387974,0.0,0.1193804297351246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26697649824015585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299132843181086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547240575165739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38191348544517706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224868821191647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835740780766735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426824865035305,0.0,0.1530211230494322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204229339534422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036819797718727,0.0,0.0,0.08192075884142938
parenting,mrsamiciwalker,2020/01/25,"Toddler won't lay down/sleep with me My son was born a very ill microprem and spent the first 5 months of his life in NICU in which he was so sick all that time and recovering from surgery's that I rarely got to hold him, he nearly didn't make it home so many times that I didn't want to put him down once I got him home. 
When he came home he was also suffering withdrawals from the medication they gave him so he would only sleep on me, I absolutely loved being able to hold him while he slept. 
After a couple of months he started fusing all the time so we trialed him in the cot in his own room which he took to. 
Ever since then he won't sleep or nap with me, he's now 2 years old and I'm always so upset when I see people annoyed their child will only sleep with them, I'd give so much to be able to hold him to sleep. 
Has anyone else had a child who won't sleep or relax with them? Did they eventually want to? 
If I try to lay down with him, no matter how tired he is it's like my presence gives him energy.
I feel like this is yet another thing we've missed out on experiencing as parents.",3.5403531073446324,3.670480351694916,4.646000000000001,89.7758361581921,71.7542372881356,7.818757062146893,22.512994350282483,7.554174236665415,0.5323929943502819,857,16,205,9,15,282,133,236,0.122,0.826,0.052000000000000005,-0.9384,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,5,1,13,8,1,1,7,0,17,12,6,2,3,27,35,19,0,4,3,2,1,2,0,5,5,0,4,2,10,11,0,3,1,2,1,3,6,4,0,1,14,3,29,4,30,14,4,32,0,2,1,1,37,11,0,3,20,120,39,0,0.2093080132628748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836917712927093,0.08708051717503065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097388509039973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317651476355667,0.10723039723223253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969630344088147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157976677866662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742499363174464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466554055308828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291621025391605,0.07476484324835815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901864457817657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078731867457292,0.0,0.0,0.16740273885721893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31492950485238314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392021987045566,0.10225732272411503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445432695009147,0.0,0.06985736207816415,0.10610273662841688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542790152126574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706765927149989,0.0,0.07693273651844308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981677526088933,0.11145310152519566,0.0,0.15918817586672038,0.0,0.0,0.11620588939752895,0.0,0.0,0.0725539110299125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052061822951844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339569368534039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657087575018918,0.0,0.6283775190205514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407464454494739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952747175502064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183073778616056,0.12028438539653658,0.0,0.0,0.11627445208781816,0.07105320083332975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635051572516021,0.12345528920607235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434320364083398,0.0,0.0,0.06739374905425766
parenting,FlawlessXiaa,2020/01/25,"How to discipline a 4 yr? What helped you? Do you agree with physical? I have a 4 yr old son who’s never had issues with behavior until 3 week prior from being removed from preschool due issues in the school and system. I need help from other parents to see what works for them and when it’s time to look for help. I have not want to bring this to the doctors because I feel some refer to medication or other thing that are severe when I know I can take care of it before finding another school to put him in. My son changed my world but ofc as a mother, I feel like I am failing and sometimes it gets to rough since I’ve dealt with depression since I was 13 yrs old. HELPPP!",2.7643506493506496,4.133917071428569,3.9550649350649363,89.37538961038963,74.71428571428572,6.805194805194804,23.441558441558442,7.348242739294969,0.8092142857142854,530,15,114,6,11,173,95,140,0.09699999999999999,0.825,0.079,-0.6644,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,1,2,3,4,0,0,5,0,9,2,0,1,1,20,20,10,0,2,3,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,11,6,0,1,5,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,5,15,2,21,17,1,17,0,2,2,0,12,3,0,2,11,72,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614852350571027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658958130043208,0.0,0.13482918465731414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155022137282793,0.0,0.16761897223996006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647265671483855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621801748916589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602340489403762,0.11319663194503247,0.0,0.0,0.1448203274515603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278352692001566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186168606772436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307610338683037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707991485152297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741061186763236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305799964631465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962159280661534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748858455010787,0.12220632207311925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325330075073813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593984980723013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592859020121266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32071949262804395,0.12626404649229905,0.0,0.0,0.17900327294381158,0.0,0.2621427701493509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671099119776685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913459675781547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526706521911346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923934041563184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934578494835151,0.0,0.1270989429383438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535340589678475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vrabel,2020/01/25,"10 MO still doesn’t sleep So my wife bed shares with our 10 month old.  I sleep downstairs because I have been repulsive to her since the minute our son was born and I work a dangerous job that if I am sleep deprived it runs the risk of me or someone else being seriously hurt.  My wife has been having a very hard time by the fact that my child still wakes up 3-4 times a night.  She’s a light sleeper to begin with and has bad anxiety, so she’s constantly sleep deprived.  The idea of me helping at night isn’t even an option for her.  I try to do a good job of easing the stress around the house by doing the chores when I’m home as well as watching the kid, doing my role as a parent other than night. and letting her nap.  But over the months the constant sleep deprivation has really effected her and our marriage.  Obviously, I’m not going to ask her to sleep train our son because she does the heavy lifting at night, but i don’t know what to do anymore.  I just want my wife back.  I love my son and he’s a great kid but holy cow.  Sorry, end rant",4.5655839160839164,4.339938404545457,5.2772727272727264,87.36898601398602,69.5,8.405594405594405,26.92307692307693,7.882392219407189,1.2784930069930076,819,22,186,9,13,266,130,220,0.111,0.7929999999999999,0.096,0.3723,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,0,2,10,14,1,2,19,0,18,8,7,1,2,22,26,16,0,2,7,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,8,0,0,3,1,0,2,4,9,1,0,3,3,28,5,23,21,0,25,0,4,1,1,29,5,0,3,18,113,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896204031708637,0.0,0.10236523718608022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188654681235484,0.09649557218895448,0.0,0.0,0.07936882641830201,0.08618332197681743,0.12584235059075885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22308554015690416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032739978332986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622599804987083,0.0,0.09142115134166601,0.0,0.0,0.06817499284164491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058661578767235614,0.08657496739274546,0.0,0.1137990061328827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246370128503308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691853340454317,0.0,0.1035367947737856,0.0,0.0,0.11910054754507456,0.1104977774338828,0.11652137406331448,0.0,0.0,0.20485731067076732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05672631057419111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554813720795553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931589271336607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477639933519042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874551159743832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831068617945272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461217640782892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612455680600686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085383594021801,0.0,0.6197595959558034,0.0,0.08745688875711441,0.0,0.0,0.11554490938280434,0.0,0.0,0.16486121050755329,0.0,0.11823669807373935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037533449853648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007873723501362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851662561382153,0.06088107693303702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928060277465958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514445942958219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aliho001,2020/01/25,"How to be a parent when sick ? Was diagnosed with the flu today. My energy is nonexistent. We jus did our night routine and my toddler daughter is now asleep. But oh boy it was especially challenging. 

I’m a single mom so I don’t always have help. I’m dreading this weekend with her and am overwhelmed with my school work, work and now this flu. 

How do you guys do it ? (Single or not)",0.2983116883116885,2.7282287012987005,2.3114285714285714,90.95857142857143,93.15584415584415,5.397402597402598,19.98701298701299,6.980632752743323,0.6457896103896106,298,10,61,5,11,99,56,77,0.147,0.758,0.095,-0.7482,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,2,1,0,3,6,3,0,2,3,0,11,5,1,2,0,12,13,9,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,8,1,4,9,2,6,0,1,0,0,10,0,0,1,6,44,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546094206023645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105749071972561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029796692754392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050996364233279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35837351861279826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871522719125743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33976732258741177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30967970994410154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900441407226372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44553087792028895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,timmy911,2020/01/25,"13 month old won’t let me play My 13-14 month old is great, healthy, and the love of my life.  My wife is on call for work and stays with baby. I’m 12hr night shifts. I don’t get to see her as much as I’d like and in time I’ll be able to be day shifts.  However, my kid doesn’t let me join in on things.  She takes books away when reading, takes toys away, will not let me be the one steering any games.

E.g. if I start reading a book she’ll take it from me and give it to mom or just set it down. She’s very adamant and gets whiney if I continue to read.

Is this normal behavior? Is there something I’m doing wrong?  My whole life is working and then spending time with her, but she doesn’t want me doing anything?",0.24333333333333584,1.895687388535034,1.569707006369427,102.45082377919321,82.7579617834395,4.95099787685775,18.109978768577488,5.6839178017228535,-0.7422981740976637,548,12,143,3,15,174,99,157,0.025,0.882,0.09300000000000001,0.8095,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,3,0,19,3,0,0,0,16,31,14,0,4,6,2,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,0,8,1,0,5,1,0,1,0,1,19,4,18,22,2,21,0,0,1,1,13,7,0,3,13,81,24,7,0.13093383888881735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903950035704647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774739311940458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460333034289113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336980887862787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444149419705486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681505344899678,0.12560366908282733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443550196119782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40166616390842697,0.18496488516163107,0.0639676599574121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817290159553152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334812963497374,0.20902028203873224,0.0,0.09625143702387184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228725380956597,0.1282873622247774,0.0,0.0,0.2747860769427908,0.0,0.08872415782544706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929078143353989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433731753311992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007992660252123,0.0,0.0,0.09267564507827523,0.13955805095387294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295337855781262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698662457500254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269714879621935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803412958418072,0.07722817055541438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461829552024094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064278825110775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431555984865445,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheShaming,2020/01/25,"I found out my kid's favourite band is Limp Bizkit. Because whenever I try to change them, they keep rollin rollin rollin rollin.",4.98,7.212943666666668,2.8566666666666656,95.955,70.66666666666666,6.466666666666668,24.5,7.1686216300943375,0.6976499999999994,104,3,21,1,2,28,20,24,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069561727910415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5326835204504173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5521107682732685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44757366205613147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418737948664555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,happyredditgifts,2020/01/25,"How do you handle toddlers getting scared of haircuts? My son is two and a half years old. He is very scared of haircuts and stays away from shops that even suggests that they are in the business of hair cutting. He was able to get a haircut last year but got scared on the third or fourth visit. He says, ""It's scary."" I don't know why.

Should I just wait until he's older (maybe kindergarten?) to get him to the barbershop? Or should I just make him go there until he realizes it's nothing to be afraid of? I'm trying to think of how to make it a positive experience but I have limited ideas.

Thank you.",1.769146341463415,3.8759627642276437,2.797743902439024,93.26051829268292,79.89430894308944,5.726016260162603,22.445121951219512,6.816661863887847,0.4953853658536586,472,15,102,5,12,150,81,123,0.099,0.836,0.065,-0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,1,1,6,6,1,4,6,0,10,1,1,4,0,20,22,10,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,2,4,1,1,2,1,5,0,3,2,2,10,1,17,17,0,13,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,7,63,15,0,0.1814700751021078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704971091880108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198592731199026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775125548271767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28443187301913897,0.0,0.10313362566004967,0.0,0.14513819666600575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048576261768211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997312074236566,0.1479223316964986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24226536853776776,0.0,0.1823110816759762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412543133546302,0.0,0.19042231726729225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431228739667734,0.5450496086633149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934229546970542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670732638805135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627869668495325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320626898575153,0.0,0.17726989474153707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973181704295482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637485169150817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337215572712712
parenting,Elkay14,2020/01/25,"Me the evil sister my husband poor Cinderella. So yesterday I tripped and fell over one step while holding laundry. I sprained my ankle pretty bad, I can’t put any weight on and currently in a boot and walk with a cane. So my husband has been doing everything around the house and bringing me anything I may need/want. During dinner I ask my husband to get me a drink and my 4yo says mom why is papa doing everything today, he’s like Cinderella. And I ask her if papa is Cinderella who am I?! The bad sister of course. Bless my poor husbands heart!",2.8100000000000023,4.979037037037038,4.027555555555558,85.42300000000003,76.77777777777777,6.912592592592592,26.540740740740727,7.908726449838941,1.7437229629629636,432,17,82,7,10,141,73,108,0.159,0.767,0.07400000000000001,-0.893,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,6,0,9,4,1,0,0,11,13,10,0,1,1,7,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,8,3,1,0,1,2,6,1,3,0,1,1,2,17,2,7,11,0,14,1,0,0,0,13,4,0,2,5,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807523745004827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708592062992314,0.1807500541137741,0.3796329386610046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390624776187592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989034503223647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649613610242025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608084566939216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24060525070447986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23428272321207555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919586029038896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377998453154407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055275933842718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375862298213656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656628231021945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20411286903714745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146681444340585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19245967744902975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975918490683428,0.0,0.0,0.24724994553928306,0.0,0.0,0.18321344545966328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Phantombro,2020/01/26,"Children Bathing Together 3y/o son, 1y/o daughter have not had an issue as ofnuet bathing together. Tonight was the first time she reached for his penis in an attempt to touch/grab, multiple times.

Redditors with separate sex children when did you stop your children from bathing together? My wife and I are looking for age ranges or signs its time to switch other than the one displayed tonight.",6.898169014084507,8.616321633802823,5.404338028169018,81.60791549295776,65.05633802816902,9.060281690140846,40.960563380281684,9.3871,4.0721977464788734,320,19,55,6,5,93,58,71,0.032,0.948,0.02,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,0,0,6,6,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,2,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,2,6,0,9,3,0,10,0,0,1,1,10,1,0,1,9,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277268822817441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40214192854376174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32354597493034226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610820014651896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32211910743068073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.673995868816982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bosspeder,2020/01/26,"Im not a begger BUT Hi there. My name Is Martin i come from Denmark and i just Got my first kid , he had a rough start and Then the doctors found out he have a Big Hole in his (heart-Walls) sorry for my bad english
Even though i live in Denmark and we have a good wellfaire system.  His medicin for his heart condition is still very expensive and he have to get a heart sugery aswell soon in Copenhagen.  I just created this page so people can donate if they want to help out.   Im sorry it this post isent allowed. But i really dont know what else too do.  His my everything and he made my life so meaning full in his 4 months so far.   So please help another father if You fell like it.   Have a great Night.   Martin from DK.    

Trying to make a better life for my heart sick son.  4 month old and alot in hospitals and expensive medicin.   Donate here if u want https://paypal.me/pools/c/8m1LUmsvqH              I check before work",1.2113711702661971,3.732531646408841,2.0915645404319463,94.720782270216,86.12707182320446,5.279859367152183,18.172024108488195,6.782984794422108,0.02457790055248576,712,18,151,9,22,222,112,181,0.063,0.7659999999999999,0.171,0.9674,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,1,3,13,5,0,0,9,0,10,7,3,3,0,29,21,18,0,5,8,2,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,11,0,0,3,0,5,2,2,1,0,1,4,1,20,4,15,17,3,23,0,0,0,0,19,10,0,4,10,88,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940195796769785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303886090209599,0.0,0.0,0.10500942239938177,0.0,0.0,0.10914258442213906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630334763675384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631127699309988,0.0,0.0,0.1446309207442622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308988346486496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150850353971291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090936153511984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496908623659597,0.0,0.13530831668298327,0.0,0.0,0.0644745450931045,0.0,0.0,0.10350710344147744,0.0986990568920304,0.13605555802173638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5849468483511415,0.16543288997585553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26659932757423765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782071392322793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433062412887468,0.0602899413837094,0.0,0.1089697647977359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167697473492188,0.08237446771955921,0.0,0.0,0.13442531898066978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19700299433356666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580817751324575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949384488169535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555418676379489,0.0,0.0,0.13546273720192775,0.0,0.0,0.11818884182459034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905704786802756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27628584215035423,0.08734740669248513,0.0,0.09855219634147046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124577499262572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378457794995936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182287963021852,0.14557612015374444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984104261855516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mental_illa_thrilla,2020/01/26,"Dad was drunk? Hi there,

So my son went over for a sleepover at his best friend’s place and came back telling me that the dad was sloppy drunk and staggering around. He expressed that he was very uncomfortable but wanted to still go back. My husband and I are extremely uncomfortable with this since there is some history with social services involved for unrelated issues and it was iffy sending him in the first place. We don’t drink heavily (we’ve each had probably 5 or so drinks in all of 2019). Should I just say no more and not say anything to the parents about it? Or should I bring it up to the mom? My son loves his friend and it’s his only friend. We would invite him over but we now live in a tiny place that has nothing for them to do. My boy would rather go there but my son was expressing that the dad gets mean sometimes and his son doesn’t even really like him. I’m so torn.",2.2854509803921554,4.401592355555562,2.896078431372551,93.15794117647059,78.2222222222222,6.457516339869281,21.699346405228766,7.510576382923642,0.6137973856209142,704,20,154,10,17,219,108,180,0.08,0.805,0.115,0.8741,1,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,1,2,15,6,0,0,7,0,16,5,0,0,1,31,26,15,0,6,8,10,0,1,3,4,0,2,0,1,9,15,4,0,1,4,0,6,4,0,0,1,8,2,20,6,19,14,5,22,0,0,0,1,37,11,0,3,6,104,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183726991685274,0.12805311003848324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221216824781178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509571168191121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645210827541417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818279146420769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095008683676533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223550215862862,0.0,0.0,0.3334043367130453,0.0,0.07515340601185946,0.0,0.1635015758346456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013746814160456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027571015348981,0.0,0.12701832893950782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982629950905622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156690063668374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847026634993353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802376399564398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094010855071428,0.0,0.0,0.15972355199366806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508642101816942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550899211591914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215119560665674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287836411320793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189905937273154,0.0,0.0,0.1466325075044304,0.0,0.0,0.14226700874179762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487530798884445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572742312506222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868771160922728,0.08484388100565035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333463425264569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20436762049953552,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DamoclesBDA,2020/01/26,"Hande Hoch! Do your kids still sleep with their hands up? My eldest is 7 and a half and still often sleeps with his hands up (hande hoch) in the cute way they did when they were babies.

Do your kids still do this? To what age?

And have you tried it yourself. It's actually quite soporific. Why is that?",0.37315573770492,2.777999983606559,0.9247336065573784,102.01365778688526,90.14754098360656,4.361475409836066,12.543032786885245,5.985473137389443,-1.2761655737704918,233,3,55,2,8,70,45,61,0.0,0.9309999999999999,0.069,0.643,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,3,1,5,1,0,0,2,0,8,6,6,0,0,6,8,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,8,1,6,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,5,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.26331750496260203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869999786523789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5400545524968169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6464655251903555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831984917569371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141804046241068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434817771305737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mmmsf,2020/01/26,"Allowance Tracking App I'm looking for the best app (iOS) to track my kid's allowance for extra chores during the week. Base chores are not paid as those are considered the contribution to the household. It's not enough money to merit a bank account, but it's more than I'd like sitting around in a piggy bank and frankly it's a pain to have to keep cash around for me. So I'd like an app to track the money coming in (and going out when spent). If the app also tracks when chores have been done, that's a bonus, but the money is the main feature I'm seeking.",4.76183497536946,4.7673281637931035,5.114236453201972,87.91155172413795,69.08620689655173,7.318226600985223,26.91625615763547,6.1826913282559595,0.8930704433497536,441,12,95,2,7,140,69,116,0.038,0.8220000000000001,0.14,0.902,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,13,0,7,1,0,2,0,14,15,10,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,6,0,1,0,0,10,2,2,1,0,0,4,1,2,5,16,11,5,11,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,5,59,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278700571643279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5073221302464987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990317301060712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24545450285552856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915972097340265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29442389512194506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194055678570374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532718123157776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27841903229792303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23928166053234795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30320109591093936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285653339072679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BrianW1983,2020/01/26,"Does the life of a young parent have more value than the life of a childfree person? I just had a dark thought because of the Kobe Bryant helicopter crash. (RIP)

I'm at the airport about to take off for a flight 5,000 miles, as is my sister but she's on another plane. She's has 2 young children. I have none.

Does a parent's life have more value if they have young kids over a non-parent? I think it does. Every life has value but my sister has 2 young kids that rely on her.

What do you think?",0.688041958041957,2.7799912307692303,2.053041958041959,97.18286713286714,83.80769230769229,4.551048951048951,16.18531468531469,5.565023196281405,-0.7845846153846154,384,7,87,2,11,123,63,104,0.019,0.8809999999999999,0.099,0.8232,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,10,0,10,4,0,0,0,7,15,4,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,10,0,13,13,3,10,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,4,53,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20729459157266492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205096342921136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5189980255460666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665618608929023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5585355290593639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390214073240599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726147745128001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863783954262302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25334279333996484,0.0,0.1569433157256457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DukeAlbertTheGR8,2020/01/26,"Hi all. A full time dad and part time musician here - sharing with you my album of kids lullabies that I have recorded for my children and now hope to find some more little listeners for it you can find it on Spotify http://open.spotify.com/album/13SZD5MeOCGLJhSRXe1Wja

Itunes https://geo.itunes.apple.com/us/album/berceuse-pour-josephine/1369766428?uo=4&app=music&ls=1&at=1000lHKX

Google https://play.google.com/store/music/album?id=B6yo7nmt6qey7jjrsyolpog6z5a

Amazon https://music.amazon.com/albums/B07CBSSM3M

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parenting,Frostadwildhammer,2020/01/26,"the last two weeks have been either shut in becasue of the cold and illness. the week before last was an entire week of -35°c to -50°c so that was fun. my truck wouldn't start and the car was the only reliable vehicle so the wife would take that for work. we were at home for most of that week. then as soon as it cleared up the boy went to day care for like 2 days and on the Saturday he had a fever on and off for 3 days. as all wonderful kids do, he thoughtfully gave daddy a wonderful cold that resulted in an infection and a full 10 days of antibiotics. which I am 3 days into now. 

it honestly feels like I have been trapped at home for years now. at this point I honestly just kinda let him do what he wants with in reason that is. usually colouring, cartoon, cars and tablet for a while. 

any other parents had a rough stretch in this first month of 2020 and how do others cope with being at home for long periods of time.",4.2794158075601425,4.373033453608251,5.130463917525777,87.07428694158077,70.1340206185567,9.353264604810995,26.99140893470791,9.2995712137729,1.847241924398626,726,21,165,14,12,237,119,194,0.03,0.8240000000000001,0.145,0.9689,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,15,0,19,3,0,3,2,27,29,15,0,3,2,2,2,2,0,2,3,0,3,2,13,11,0,0,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,11,5,6,6,33,14,4,45,0,0,1,0,10,17,0,4,27,108,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180514301541323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148756995327094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764226741440086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43532159435474144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682604382269606,0.09644456660093607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483157354086398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062502947333135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200872678522862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804741893278644,0.0,0.13190909983103455,0.0,0.0,0.11947142026426445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775631494302976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267415781545554,0.0,0.0,0.14990236256085654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276193499120637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388032608502857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555422948623288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150376697660236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717552002216184,0.07872002609554937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187612160608858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486842592618608,0.0,0.07962694325808235,0.0,0.4331578513070275,0.0,0.0,0.12514705272994134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928051208743844,0.098282157750591,0.0,0.0,0.09590066324418893,0.0,0.0,0.08693606027580165
parenting,dannybeiler,2020/01/26,"0:02 / 12:57 What is the coronavirus? (china Wuhan Virus sars coronavirus🦠😷) [Coronavirus](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9rhdWJs-BSM) is a respiratory-related fatal disease, even though the disease originated in China, its fear is now increasing rapidly worldwide. Many Asian countries are very cautious about this and are trying to take all possible steps to stop the spread of the disease. This virus is found in animals",8.066500000000001,12.30888001538462,5.91413461538462,67.13274038461543,71.92307692307692,8.788461538461537,34.278846153846146,9.188382445141503,4.341346153846153,351,17,44,9,8,101,50,65,0.166,0.8340000000000001,0.0,-0.8736,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,5,8,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22555577714090125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842794576050755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744342148078769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34622471001480803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849869481400105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855070735658847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567635052860491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33551940982682976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23185428232917926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817710760022533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,basketballjunez,2020/01/26,"My wife and I met with an organ recipient family today My wife and I met with the family who’s little girl received Hannah’s lungs.  You never know what to expect in a situation like this but Emily and her family are an incredibly grateful and positive family.  They do so much to honor Hannah and talk about her daily.  They call lungs “peaches” and have planted a peach tree in Hannah’s honor in addition to picking out a star for Hannah and Emily since they are forever linked.  To see Emily in person and hear how Hannah was able to save her life and change the family for the better brought a little bit of peace I didn’t think it would.  I still have a Hannah sized hole in my heart that will always be there but Emily and her family helped me find a bit of happiness that I needed.

Not only do I encourage organ donation but meeting with the family was an incredibly special experience and I’m very happy that we were able to do that and hope more families are able to as well.",7.255670103092783,6.375333536082473,8.398680412371132,69.4017319587629,64.15463917525773,11.677525773195875,29.70927835051546,11.00357731598739,3.2073913402061844,782,20,142,19,10,270,109,194,0.016,0.738,0.24600000000000002,0.995,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,3,3,6,11,0,0,13,0,15,4,3,2,1,34,25,18,0,4,4,2,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,8,18,0,0,4,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,7,2,19,11,22,15,4,13,0,0,1,0,23,8,0,1,4,101,27,0,0.30004599699219625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322076856039327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845543378676096,0.2183816783223856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212683669420343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058029600461084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783418645706596,0.7542844334782711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914122018197707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293636208722405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272454842968037,0.11851865036696745,0.06703816902856606,0.0,0.0,0.09933779210304927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496581102206383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064378702997072,0.04886243940722222,0.2004832759319211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352277717471897,0.07416010163356349,0.07713799004312026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606616710100432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732953041998956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969927083886454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273371643390816,0.11242142401789824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987237359439425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038853561398802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408578651541494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480284056367932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252312362580577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992579512387118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104802250768044,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Butryn33,2020/01/26,"My 2 year old daughter won’t keep her clothes/diaper on So my daughter (almost 2 years old) has been, for about 2 months, taking off all of her clothes including her diaper. It’s not often that she does it during the day but almost every time we get her up in the morning or from nap time everything is off and her bedding is soaked or worse. We have tried footy pajamas which she has found out how to unzip and take off and we’ve tried onesies which she’s also figured out if she takes her pants off she can unbutton. We’re having to wash all of her bedding daily and we’re out of ideas as to how to keep at the very least the diaper on. Anyone who’s been thru something similar and has some tips/tricks would be greatly appreciated, thank you!",5.32766812865497,5.309106664473688,5.901929824561408,82.82961988304095,67.88157894736842,9.123976608187137,28.073099415204677,8.841846274778883,1.8990195906432747,591,17,123,9,9,192,95,152,0.027999999999999997,0.9129999999999999,0.059000000000000004,0.6907,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,4,0,13,1,0,2,2,29,21,14,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,6,10,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,17,2,24,15,4,20,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,7,8,83,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34539722718440113,0.0,0.0,0.13792006131500015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205914183332256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122554694368504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092513393947427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530905664633245,0.0,0.15500026756669366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18909878300237265,0.0,0.0,0.09010575484656047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19014308265246985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469179927133096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30658932830971003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765978097111972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619456523252451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277185111164552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890162633288853,0.0,0.0,0.15878244301705885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113125724619305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341845957898502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230154577255866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757563946723776,0.1225140661515737,0.0,0.0,0.2221233905852502
parenting,TerraTaker,2020/01/26,"Am I wrong for picking up my baby all the time? So I have a 6 month old right now and he is my first. I love him to death and pretty much anytime he starts fussing I'm right there to get him. Now my wife says he never fusses when I'm at work and he only does when I'm home cause he knows I'll pick him up, which is true lol but I mean I feel you can get away spoiling a baby at least until they turn one. Am I just setting myself up for later or no?",-1.5174358974358988,0.2340170000000015,1.1784615384615411,102.04987179487179,90.53846153846152,3.466666666666667,13.474358974358973,3.1291,-1.632183333333333,344,5,90,0,12,118,70,104,0.073,0.8390000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.1431,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,2,7,3,0,0,3,1,6,1,0,3,3,15,17,9,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,15,2,11,17,3,21,0,0,0,1,13,8,0,1,12,55,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837682293198645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22783703805437835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408789035843696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214251324278704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865248438165216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23174981410766005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247112305149205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121888706788548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001720372644276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415917990591989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702880745233548,0.0,0.1630394614887388,0.0,0.17105632893963235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23272885784678946,0.0,0.15028906954724305,0.16867952215935278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256378011705291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788109279099337,0.0,0.17637446230602696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569824590040772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932617777138702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24124130416271666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146407001416188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424900075056089,0.0,0.0
parenting,Idk_123456789,2020/01/26,"In-laws constantly put daughter in car seat incorrectly! This has been an ongoing battle since she was a baby. First they put her facing forward in her car seat when she was around 5 months and I gently corrected them. They reluctantly said “ok” but I don’t fully trust they followed through with my request. They’re constantly loosening her straps to a dangerous extent even though I’ve explained that if (god forbid) they were in an accident it could kill her. A couple weeks ago I found out they were putting her in a booster seat (the kind that uses the car seat belt) at 27 months, and I kindly explained I wasn’t comfortable with that just yet. I gave them an extra forward facing car seat I had laying around the house. She’s with them now and I just FaceTimed her while they were driving, and I noticed the harness for the car seat I gave them wasn’t on!!! No more ms nice mom, I was clearly upset and I told them her straps need to be put on right now. I watched them do it and I know they’re probably rolling their eyes but I’m so tired of this!!! It’s not like I’m asking them to go out and buy all organic food, I’m asking them to do really basic stuff for her safety and they’re just NOT getting it.",3.376756176154672,4.824091448979591,4.128743286788399,88.42847475832441,73.28571428571429,7.280343716433943,25.139634801288928,7.85451343220497,1.2265102040816327,955,30,200,13,19,305,130,245,0.122,0.747,0.132,0.5496,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,15,1,12,12,3,1,12,1,16,5,3,1,3,34,34,15,1,3,8,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,10,15,1,1,4,0,1,14,6,5,0,1,15,3,41,7,22,17,4,38,0,0,2,0,37,14,0,1,15,130,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683495495391127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346643198540284,0.24643507240389226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848633361807301,0.0,0.10523356346731698,0.14583694835655786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705430164281007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211113073568464,0.15937609418713866,0.14451462735495074,0.0,0.0,0.06886136112268819,0.0,0.07490639250536045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208237741800404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581992711644695,0.2745040222215598,0.07243520161828022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064392039055012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436548341837691,0.2104069802348321,0.0,0.0,0.09772987633536467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005800854375442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421053766445,0.0,0.0,0.5299916265132282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443605014463484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255860637673899,0.12537435053816734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902838180836044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088231767881422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294952773115468,0.0,0.0,0.15148757342412475,0.0,0.1259429275486482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383503321592665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572400734321816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_linzertorte_,2020/01/26,"Thinking about a second after having a preemie I’m not sure if this is the right sub to post this, so please let me know if there’s somewhere better. 

My first is 2 and my husband and I have started the ‘do we want another’ discussions. She was born 7 weeks early and was in the NICU for 3 weeks. I’ve been told that for any subsequent pregnancies I’ll need to be on progesterone shots for most of the pregnancy. 

Question is whether anyone else has experience with this? What can I expect from the shots and what’s the likelihood that I’ll have a preemie again?

Input is appreciated!",3.962714975845412,5.6075902956521775,4.887246376811596,82.78207729468602,72.13043478260869,8.241545893719808,27.560386473429947,8.841846274778883,2.1055314009661843,464,17,91,9,9,151,81,115,0.018000000000000002,0.88,0.102,0.8474,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,9,0,15,0,0,0,1,18,22,8,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,7,2,12,16,1,12,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,4,8,64,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073473891671985,0.24784689623827336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527029317582434,0.2421815147276879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20904359734033887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197450703618489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23120807172969304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104998899013807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989875663807113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416968713459021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525994459512256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25945526249162043,0.0,0.0,0.2263701266678917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647803143470038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185245144071706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729873321235786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227690443168797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145167208000734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258546857112551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941284240661253,0.0,0.379191796084198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yoshiezibz,2020/01/26,"2 and a half year old won't eat her food. How do you get your young child to eat food? We have been told to not make a big deal out of it but if we don't sit her down and tell her to eat, she will just run around and not eat.

She will enjoy something one week and then dislike it the next. Every meal time most of her food simply goes in the bin.",0.8930801687763719,1.6011831392405078,2.091835443037976,103.5164029535865,78.36708860759494,5.266666666666667,15.698312236286919,3.1291,-1.4082168776371309,264,2,74,0,6,84,56,79,0.043,0.903,0.054000000000000006,0.2263,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,2,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,7,8,0,2,0,16,10,8,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,8,8,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,0,10,1,9,5,1,14,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,7,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141544220583012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392260968965405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6507891253173143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339648408963542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5767923741960209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307123719924057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613411753756656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909891384558526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684435521762922,0.0,0.10774290363842436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240640962233475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897350956020774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927145131147956,0.0,0.0,0.1519318618945141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275406693750214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239115635970523
parenting,cubredx,2020/01/26,"School eats up too much time. I don't feel like my kids have time to be kids or for us to be a family. Is it just me? I have a first grader and a third grader. The older they get, the more I feel like the days are too short and school is too long. I whole-heartedly believe education is extremely important, but so is family time, hobbies, and cultivating things like imagination and creativity, which the public school seems to try and suck out of them at every opportunity possible. ""Here's a pre-cut shape, paint it in one of these 3 colors."" ""Here's an art project everyone in your class has a cookie-cutter copy of, just follow directions."" It drives me crazy. There's little to leisure time. I also have a good 14 month old and am a stay at home mom so I'm running around like a chicken with its head cut off all day anyway, I'm sure you know how that is.

Kids arrive home at about 3:30, clocking out of a seven hour school day. They have an after school snack and have about an hour and a half of free time, IF it's a day without errands or appointments or whatever. This is most likely their only free time. Think about that. NINETY MINUTES if they're lucky. They have to choose between watching TV, playing with toys or outside, coloring, etc.

5:00 pm, dinner prep and eating lasts until 6:00. Then it's time for any homework (why do my six and eight year old children have homework. Why. I don't care if it's just reading comprehension or a word search, they are already excelling and the school had them for seven hours!) which usually lasts half an hour. By then it's almost time for the bedtime routine, baths and teeth brushed and a bedtime story by 8:00. 

The schedule is already so tight. Where's time for us to watch a movie together or go out as a family? Where's the time for them to play outside? When can they go wild with a bucket of crayons and paint and have fun? And they really aren't even in any extra curriculars yet. It makes me not want to sign them up for anything when I feel like we're on the cusp on insanity anyway. And right now they're so young, I know it's only gonna get worse especially with the homework load.

Am I doing something wrong or is this a common experience?",3.4173961038961025,5.017620622727275,4.277402597402599,86.7868181818182,73.45454545454545,7.301298701298702,24.38961038961039,7.957251820313856,1.1986019480519476,1734,52,358,25,35,558,227,440,0.087,0.816,0.098,0.8389,0,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,2,2,11,3,28,20,2,0,31,0,30,6,2,2,2,61,49,40,0,4,16,1,4,6,0,1,0,0,6,4,18,25,4,1,9,7,2,5,5,3,0,9,1,9,29,19,50,45,6,67,0,0,4,0,21,21,1,14,46,228,47,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325780294332987,0.0,0.16146474085947404,0.05850493216815585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950075795491284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060203321222917626,0.06512669366662656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242472657721828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459010184247705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872506341029596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971909072492154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159121411275906,0.048320586947177266,0.0,0.06163930338673506,0.06990620872436949,0.0,0.07156318085761752,0.2069023439781176,0.0,0.11097360864810336,0.15679362553492912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062228695632841564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764447321875597,0.0,0.08315547385138544,0.06136199015183145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508186345404172,0.0,0.0,0.08669333203822494,0.0,0.0,0.14676814725069348,0.0,0.28818606624576376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804121425772532,0.11926810006630993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21444967541962154,0.07332416946472955,0.0,0.06474308780417913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048833955437926416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568250646321489,0.0583945226764674,0.0,0.053780012801739004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353535690129752,0.0,0.049574182902771914,0.1112808737012148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247536612421559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317843050184049,0.0,0.04686729346506705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062477072625273584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4442426524959939,0.0,0.06660087159752212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056321089688222775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797736843163773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895114555760602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860334482137082,0.04687709784164177,0.0,0.0,0.4265938707498469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049669909369530085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17600165479508253,0.0,0.08057389818583535,0.0,0.043150857062996144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202857389517536,0.08167900080527409,0.0,0.07052231128640549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455489687567841,0.0,0.07998748026315204,0.0,0.04711176088252465
parenting,Chansx,2020/01/26,I don't want to be the mom who does her kids work... but it's so hard HELP :| My son is 7 y.o. he is in second grade french core. We are an English speaking house hold. I know very little French. He has been assigned a presentation that needs to be 100% french. The only way I know to help is to use an english to french translator on google.... I feel like this would just be doing his work for him... any ideas for helping with homework without doing it for them ??,0.3508238636363643,2.552185843750003,1.7032196969696969,98.3955681818182,86.39583333333334,4.324242424242423,18.102272727272727,5.565023196281405,-0.5898625000000002,355,9,82,2,11,113,71,96,0.053,0.8009999999999999,0.147,0.9122,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,1,0,14,19,2,0,3,3,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,5,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,10,1,12,14,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,2,49,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072558218924148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396223742213026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206991192774493,0.15834258269686038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985495699488337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4456900858578457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557475221854754,0.0,0.25020919981129003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24361959153181198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082841070502632,0.22214560689320426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595868802517771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434628482670965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857031865770722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914293304532996,0.0,0.18287958729088866,0.13073142730695558,0.17593076253021314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136569940661352,0.0,0.3227190756248945,0.0,0.0,0.15744960276776604,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,007ara,2020/01/26,"I am a new dad having a hard time balancing between parenting and working. Need advice!  

Hi,

I am the father of a 10 MO girl. My wife and I had graduated from grad school 2 years ago and right after that I started a new job and my wife was pregnant with my daughter.

The job is a bit different from my background and so I am struggling to make an impact and at the same time have lots of stress as I a being the mere source of income (my wife is taking care of my daughter until she becomes 2 YO since our parents are not close by and cannot hand any help to us).

Now I have a hard time managing a few stressful issues, 1) being a new dad, 2) being the only source of income, 3) and being impactful in my challenging job (so that I can keep bringing the money). I know a lot of folks out there are in a similar situation and definitely tougher. I appreciate any help and practical advice that makes life easier and more handlable.",6.108510638297872,5.269086021276597,7.307957446808512,76.15300000000002,66.44680851063829,10.285957446808512,32.629787234042546,9.642632912329526,2.8780408510638305,724,26,145,13,10,248,109,188,0.105,0.815,0.08,-0.5739,8,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,4,5,0,3,18,0,18,2,1,2,0,23,27,15,0,1,1,10,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,14,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,3,20,2,20,21,6,19,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,2,12,100,23,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24576589902160986,0.1114711528111578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103071883097515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888269615184534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372881123350495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821207594795622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138359446663034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252973594707659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857721308915116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312519365017727,0.3743669990572592,0.11177374670119734,0.0,0.0,0.0691097577063604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882203162873824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21381892480934733,0.0,0.0,0.16788025887587682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324317353049393,0.0,0.3643548628670664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563971276420816,0.0,0.0,0.2792644069945012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739112807962267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272672720513306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402297338247178,0.14134999976189253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900758726352936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880959284383263,0.1314628132121465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945495081203973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199802027527128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512636192614945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915486188258579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097986884464096
parenting,akestral,2020/01/26,"Toddler or Supervillain This may be the influence of watching a lot of Power Rangers or PJ Masks, but lately my toddler has been saying a lot of things that sound like a supervillain. Recent examples (stated with that firm toddler gravitas):

* Daddy is staying home today. He will play with me. All. Day.

* You can't escape me!

* I built a super-canon [bunch of legos] and I'll blast you with it!

* You *will* give me a freezy pop. Now.

* I'm taking this [glasses, tablet, book, etc.] away from you! You'll never get it back.

Anybody else have a toddler who occasionally sends shivers down their spine?",0.8639189189189158,3.2351046486486474,2.0952207207207216,89.92607432432435,101.61261261261262,4.382162162162162,19.964414414414414,6.2581,0.4938609009009012,460,16,84,6,20,146,82,111,0.017,0.914,0.069,0.7542,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,5,1,1,2,2,0,0,7,0,10,1,1,1,2,13,14,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,8,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,11,2,10,8,5,12,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,5,8,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372933854932081,0.1942071030237659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288370521280934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109858749623245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816770391244775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195492954362234,0.2422836213768475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25334355913755063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849046259945811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339063355915535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4294439221709968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479390669745364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493777348314745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20085004026000472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26920097338161153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989765121476693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779314304490606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23940234466949206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Harrypotterfreak_86,2020/01/26,Relationship So I live with my boyfriend. I have 1 hour break in the morning and a 2 hour break in the afternoon. I spend as much time with him as posdible but apparently that not enough. When I want to go spend time with my mom he makes a big deal about it and when I don't spend enough time with my mom she makes me feel guilty about . I'm only one person. I don't know what to do. He also says he doesn't spend time with his family except holidays so why do I need to spend time with my mom more than once a week. A mother and daughter relationship is diffrent. His parents didn't love him as much as a child I think.,0.9169230769230764,2.844750878787885,2.4048484848484857,95.90611888111893,81.87878787878788,6.1827505827505815,18.48717948717949,7.321109707123232,0.03128368298368312,484,11,117,7,13,157,74,132,0.079,0.893,0.027999999999999997,-0.7339,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,7,0,8,1,0,2,0,19,18,13,0,2,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,9,0,0,3,1,5,1,5,0,0,1,1,2,18,1,19,17,5,17,0,0,0,1,21,3,0,0,11,71,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112889962644287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553538462563564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29172329998524305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307822672438094,0.0,0.07137749514165452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022758072575331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780390733518031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758084177930376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246516822437296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740733379502492,0.0,0.1884580735625888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4959938211414273,0.0,0.0,0.2075457029416796,0.10467239551620734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503366014773943,0.09565736509068376,0.10736268900412048,0.0,0.0,0.15674753097591554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326022951711768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031177360198659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122604350689465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045312297782528,0.0,0.0,0.4115735575490885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326304230059503,0.0,0.1132344123122894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737986544592084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaMoon94,2020/01/26,"Parents of Boys! Give me your best/worst memorable moments. I just found out that I’m having a boy (my first healthy pregnancy after having lost 9) and I’m so excited!!

Share with me the moments that made you laugh, the moments that made you cry, and the moment where you just wanted to give up.

I want to hear it all!

I’m ready. Lol",0.6902941176470598,3.0271859705882385,2.127941176470589,94.94573529411768,86.35294117647058,5.1647058823529415,20.264705882352946,6.6274283507984215,0.23281764705882324,258,8,56,3,8,83,47,68,0.07,0.675,0.255,0.9226,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,0,2,4,4,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,2,1,13,14,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,9,3,7,10,1,9,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,0,6,34,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257711110655213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697476855483051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088821591964335,0.0,0.2692554004163817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711472395782716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767758240045783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680692318857188,0.0,0.0,0.4647295280850644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27267700158454816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896877108810363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loonygirl30,2020/01/26,"Kiddo won’t go #2 in potty It’s been 2 weeks since we started doing no diaper (almost diaper free now) only put diapers for naps and nights. The first few days we had a few accidents. One weekend we took him out for groceries and to Chuck E Cheese we only had one accident (in 6 hours). He pees extremely well in potty. Even his accidents are really small, he realizes he’s peeing, holds it in and then completes in the potty. He’s been really good about peeing in the potty. 

But he won’t go poop in the potty. He used to say give me diaper before he pooped while he was in underwear, now he just goes and it’s too disgusting to clean. I have to just throw them away and kiddo underwear’s are freaking expensive!!! We have tried to talk to him. Tried to have a time during which he sits on the potty to poop, but nothing has been helping. We have offered a small hot wheels as incentive but he thinks even if he poops in his underwear he gets it (he isn’t). We told him he’ll get 10 M&Ms if he goes on the potty, but nothing has been helping. Please advice on how to go about this.",2.664369369369372,4.1807412927927965,4.368648648648648,85.70855855855855,75.26126126126127,7.996396396396396,22.693693693693696,8.680891452615391,1.4201963963963964,845,23,176,17,18,285,115,222,0.075,0.863,0.063,0.2858,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,7,0,1,1,11,5,1,0,9,0,19,7,7,2,0,27,31,15,0,2,8,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,6,13,0,1,2,2,2,6,4,2,1,3,9,2,15,4,28,19,2,35,0,0,0,0,36,16,0,3,12,105,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630336157536415,0.0,0.0,0.16016894429965742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330805644302194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502802831259938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610747407162502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770675581346864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315588563547436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21129373495561185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605519254197676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713676304520275,0.15344064960607964,0.2727134296496166,0.13416025034695211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442507032697775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575206194354545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010423024914232,0.0,0.30695674835956993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167753937747068,0.2433015917124217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17557939630654784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607960608320332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493884923873515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720034674967667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231404751816545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321493462182015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285634561048873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249086065187736,0.0,0.0,0.09326936814575694,0.0,0.0,0.15284110636016876,0.17771269200384174,0.2171939814611013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814727637284888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830394342648827,0.0,0.14381616639491562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,girafficles,2020/01/26,"Toddler YouTube Videos with Diversity As the title says I'm looking for any recommendations for toddler or preschool age videos with a bit more diversity. Right now my son loves Cocomelon, which is fine and is a great channel I think. However I've noticed all the animated shows feature little diversity in terms of the main characters. It looks like the newer Little Baby Bum is mixed race with white and east Asian, so is Super JoJo. Anything else? Are there any channels that feature more POC?

Thanks!",5.5470000000000015,8.22454008888889,5.579722222222222,75.09625000000003,70.33333333333333,8.055555555555555,32.361111111111114,8.841846274778883,3.066111111111112,408,19,66,8,8,128,69,90,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.9643,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,6,0,5,1,0,0,1,8,11,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,6,8,11,6,9,0,0,3,1,3,5,0,1,5,34,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256733458904692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970499266475005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614213353060211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003277365317465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639984616074764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116984943556377,0.4799908683115552,0.0,0.0,0.4021614660523582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611624111700328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726195336767657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449208329181429,0.0,0.19042312974143336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045672186453236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343221110577054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LM264,2020/01/26,"Public Breastfeeding We were at the rink today and the baby was in the carrier. LO started whimpering and trying to bite through my shirt. I pulled out the cover and tried to get him to latch, but he was not having it and tried to wrestle his way out. After almost 3 months of covering up, I gave in. My little guy was hungry and my mama bear feelings kicked in. 

I fed him and it was so nice to not worry about what others thought. He was happy to be close to Mama without the cover over him and fell asleep shortly after. It was one of those ""I can do this"" moments. 🥰",1.7894514106583088,3.797765500000001,3.4761755485893424,88.92274294670847,79.34482758620689,5.597492163009405,20.890282131661447,6.574015621080383,0.38828620689655136,442,12,89,4,11,147,76,116,0.0,0.892,0.10800000000000001,0.9335,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,11,3,2,0,0,18,17,9,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,11,1,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,10,1,12,2,22,6,0,21,0,0,0,0,10,11,0,1,6,69,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628359185646869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271783206505092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713502587220416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598965794971721,0.0,0.27941496169121205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630740297953435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095091224437711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786331799253371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857847753612916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083798908599408,0.0,0.0,0.2488004566685313,0.0,0.0,0.5346203023969008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20834449670679786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530214628550345,0.0,0.0,0.2665612964164055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brefromsc,2020/01/26,"When did you guys start getting rid of your swings? I have 2 different swings for my daughter and when she was a newborn, she loved one of them. Now she likes the other one. I can’t decide if I should go ahead and get rid of it or if she may enjoy it again at some point? We hardly use it but I’m so worried she’ll get tired of this one and want the original one again",1.9503703703703683,2.7685010123456806,3.223148148148148,95.9991666666667,75.91358024691358,6.387654320987655,20.907407407407405,6.42735559955562,-0.04557777777777794,286,6,71,2,6,93,57,81,0.09,0.778,0.132,0.1433,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,2,1,1,6,3,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,2,0,15,16,10,0,4,4,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,1,13,3,7,11,1,11,0,0,0,1,13,2,0,5,9,52,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24035559542846135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605783541536852,0.0,0.13074397255015327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277878567473437,0.0,0.0,0.20608159338268744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112391889464633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20763110144536326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6235573254234592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174736979819854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628321383748561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26441117345272946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869124597027985,0.0,0.0,0.1356907539590903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336291863477452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ComradeKate04,2020/01/26,"Breastfeeding after 2 years old. Help! She just turned 2 on January 9th... and we’re still breastfeeding. How do I get her off! My nipples are so effing sore... And I’ve tried so many things. Putting apple cider vinegar on my nipples helped & worked... until she got smart and would cry for me to “clean boobies” when I told her they “smelled right now.”  She was also off feeding at bedtime... until she got the flu and I gave her any comfort I could while she was sick.


...Plus we cosleep, since she just won’t do her own bed and I can’t bring myself to let her cry it out.  

I want my bed and boobs back! Help me...

How did you stop breastfeeding a toddler and stop cosleeping? I’d like to stop the breastfeeding first.",0.7905712050078222,3.264173894366202,1.4472300469483592,98.73763693270736,88.22535211267606,4.564006259780908,19.86071987480438,6.139981653823899,-0.1083017214397497,551,17,121,5,18,168,93,142,0.13,0.757,0.113,-0.5386,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,1,2,11,3,0,0,3,0,11,5,1,2,0,20,19,17,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,3,0,2,10,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,1,26,3,14,8,1,23,0,0,0,1,19,7,1,0,15,77,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818485617086013,0.0,0.1872243360890251,0.0,0.11750716920218078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286941697844398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379635029300851,0.0,0.3796164672215955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469801440160442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027875027695152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764014076209188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474644421335037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766955628154277,0.0,0.08441937131207553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751879685883728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813202786866528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737076530248058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756679436676542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429385927594463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799506626853658,0.4333954462708268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479794890215238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651139321085315,0.0,0.1173171052061152,0.18795237043749705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191952637020586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579750720953806,0.0,0.0,0.12274928279937762,0.0,0.0,0.11127492435673787
parenting,teddygraham100,2020/01/26,"Deadbeat Baby Daddy cause me to get out of character Mainly posting this because I need to vent but any kind words or advice are welcome. 

My baby daddy helps when he feels like it and it pisses me off immensely. I have primary custody because he doesn’t have a stable home and he drinks and he’s just not equipped to share sole custody. I do 99% of the child rearing and work and the financial responsibility. Yet I don’t keep him away from our child and allow him to see her when he asks. He rarely comes over to see her though because he’s always complaining about gas and wants me to cook for him and feed him when he’s here. He also doesn’t like my mom because he knows I vent to her sometimes about how he’s an asshole (even though she knows some of the crap he’s done she has never given him a bad look or been rude or treated him badly, she’s just not that type of person)

I was at his friend’s house with him this weekend so he could spend extended time with the baby since he doesn’t like my mom and it was his friend’s birthday so understandably he was drinking but instead of being considerate that the baby was there, he got incredibly drunk and even fell with the baby (baby didn’t get hurt, thank God) but I was pissed and I tried talking to him about it the next day and he basically just said “Wow, I did that?” and didn’t show any remorse or say sorry or anything like that. So I was mad because of that but decided not to say anything further and create an argument because he has been violent with me in the past. I forgot to mention the same night he was drinking he spent a bit of money on liquor. So today I asked him for his share of the baby’s nursery fee and he basically just tells me he’s broke and doesn’t have it and doesn’t offer to come over and help or any other solution.

I calmly ask him what’s going to happen and like a broken record he just keeps saying he doesn’t have any money. I asked him why he bought liquor if he was broke and he starts making excuses and getting angry so I get upset and ask him why he can’t put our kid first. He spent $200 on a phone plus the money on liquor and God knows what else but can’t find his share of the one thing I’m asking him to help with.

He started cussing at me so I started cussing back and it turned into this big row at my front gate and I’m sure my neighbors caught bits and pieces but I’m overwhelmed and I’ve had it. If it was anything else I would let it go but it’s not fair to my child to miss out on stuff and be shorted because their father is a selfish asshole. 

I asked him for help with nursery because I work from home and it’s hard to get work done with a hyperactive toddler on the loose. It’s just me at home so I can barely get personal things like laundry and cleaning done much less work when the baby is home.

I hate how this morning turned out and it made me cry because I wish I had a different father my child. 

TLDR: my baby daddy is selfish and a deadbeat and I need some kind words right now (child support isn’t an option). I really hate how he makes me get out of character and causes fights in public.",2.374229390681002,3.93664728571429,3.63056067588326,90.50552355350746,76.14285714285714,6.173988735279057,22.961853558627748,6.775458762138228,0.5368947260624677,2457,71,532,22,54,801,264,651,0.151,0.725,0.124,-0.9701,1,0,3,0,1,0,34.0,2,0,1,5,34,40,9,2,26,0,46,12,3,9,2,108,103,67,0,8,25,4,2,6,3,1,0,4,7,8,28,49,9,3,8,10,8,8,17,20,0,2,28,9,69,20,62,70,9,52,0,5,3,0,101,24,3,11,25,325,97,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913579269750077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839483437963852,0.05035437942446792,0.0,0.0,0.16461253858174646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939918661796714,0.0,0.3960217635818938,0.0,0.056857022010851084,0.0465332714956858,0.10105710518664228,0.33201137505481976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321361732151917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433374600181035,0.0,0.104258805753171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04831731247366745,0.0,0.06647427427306861,0.039027983832102035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322661554887242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578744631375035,0.0,0.17784869952918542,0.0,0.0,0.10110714642785447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994084313145794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030598841339847273,0.04323283102432228,0.0,0.0,0.05531076886316391,0.051475103161498635,0.0,0.0,0.09350943074939334,0.0,0.221320751209972,0.0,0.06878557474832145,0.0,0.04840038450947885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05351433231176085,0.0,0.054210685851848135,0.1194945637676212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622511042654604,0.0,0.2428109875587469,0.0,0.0,0.06982764347542125,0.06478391213574826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757927182344812,0.0,0.12603675272363948,0.09977446801287472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061881979943565424,0.0,0.1773911384918876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081842026834171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05726195212745992,0.08079015214404245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175183376339592,0.0,0.0,0.04448641705957965,0.08974408577117596,0.04667387343164607,0.0,0.06435973320332931,0.056790414189212726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041007386594175035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577696214538027,0.0,0.10568093483870096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579578525790559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083555992718057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038768268264028134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168055871826968,0.05756482505714194,0.1443748860029258,0.0,0.0,0.09644725452784622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0500596788587224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05985213239734054,0.0677430029003757,0.12850116919901816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927664378012433,0.0,0.0686731391274249,0.05703586254840495,0.0,0.0,0.04864068061023175,0.05289388201388984,0.055715245185793835,0.0,0.0,0.08040863345217157,0.0,0.1189138440545056,0.0,0.03528752014098527,0.0,0.057362342199430025,0.0,0.0,0.04108657079852887,0.13164863488856385,0.0,0.06299956494413073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03569406037256805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921303094023026,0.0,0.06959071692023625,0.0,0.0,0.17622624346764795,0.0,0.0,0.04298901758055298,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lapurplepanda,2020/01/26,"Input on coparenting visitation So my goal is to be fair minded and do things to encourage a decent co parenting relationship while still maintaining some sort of balance or boundaries. Balance is sort of out the window, but I can still shoot for boundaries. I'm hoping for responses that keep that in mind. We do not have a court order and I'm hoping to leave the state out of it, if possible.

Today's issue: I just got a call from ex's father saying that he cannot watch the baby this afternoon, he has things to do. He explained that my ex (currently busy at work) has planned to do a side job with a buddy and if I could please just keep her or find someone else to watch her. 

No. Sundays are standard. I have things I need to get done that are much more time consuming with a 1.5 y/o and may not get done at all. The few hours that the ex has her on sundays are used catch up on housework, run errands and prepare for the week. He keeps her 2-3x a week for a couple hours and that is while I am working. There aren't extra funds to hire a sitter. If grandpa can't watch her, ex needs to cancel his plans. That is his time. 

I could perhaps ask my mother, but that means an hour roundtrip and gas. Plus I try to be careful about asking too often. 

This isn't the first time the ex cancels for his wants. Last week we set up that he/he and his father would be watching the baby while I went to a much needed interview. Ex's father called morning to cancel bc grandfather *might* get an interview during that time. There was no one else available. It was incredibly stressful to deal with before an important interview. I ended up telling them that the ex would just have to be late to work, mostly because LO is our responsibility not grandfather's (although I did feel a little resentful that he wouldn't schedule his interview when he did not have her, considering how it would make me look rescheduling and that he had committed to watch her 4 days prior and we confirmed the night before. Did not vocalize it.) I don't resent the ask, I resent the something came up, you figure it out. 

Their stance today is that the ex needs/wants to make extra money. My stance is that this is the ex's time and if he wants to do something else, I shouldn't be SOL unless it works for me too. I wouldn't necessarily say this, but I don't feel sorry for a 2 income household (grandpa and him) vs my one. CS is expenses split down the middle and free time is incredibly unbalanced. 

So should I hold firm and say he must take her whether it is Grandpa or him, forcing him to cancel on his buddy or more likely Grandpa watching her and undercover blaming me that he doesn't get to do what he wants/needs to do?",4.801563492063495,5.398027246296297,5.504920634920636,83.07500000000003,69.12962962962962,8.31957671957672,28.021164021164022,8.329178653251315,1.7671386243386245,2123,68,431,29,35,690,237,540,0.062,0.88,0.057,-0.6718,5,0,2,1,0,0,57.0,4,1,2,8,15,10,3,1,31,0,62,0,0,4,3,91,94,37,0,21,22,18,2,1,0,10,0,3,1,0,32,26,0,4,6,0,4,5,17,4,0,3,11,12,50,7,53,66,10,58,0,0,7,0,72,18,0,17,33,293,82,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286010004123857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049687404625091185,0.0,0.13871707824266416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646052500807468,0.09322509727615963,0.08310431734513428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015732785611406,0.09018865690448154,0.0,0.05256685261588651,0.08403266464049812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668249351588541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20427206107611628,0.0,0.07219318006506832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824272547538367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449816130419118,0.0693318971566335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703412953234759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519055378334103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191455215762215,0.24081117043831995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507468974790129,0.08088555274057238,0.21734803484068452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644108127103675,0.09194621073160388,0.08630673929347388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03982140042805764,0.0816938829381672,0.0,0.0,0.06844740993821971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881638259462688,0.0,0.0,0.08878768716542547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646864639884844,0.1646026190210533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983764977663368,0.181314674753984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649109791379936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046582659930236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050659904879936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947290007908804,0.0,0.09188965868444153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751064602971355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19445876032439816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906269310016275,0.12549991473556088,0.0,0.0912431568215556,0.0,0.0,0.13018710529510202,0.0,0.09336880042601564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612849629769145,0.0,0.07124285261743901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245377170553765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28517289723362976,0.0,0.1545228572949872,0.0,0.0,0.0553395666286492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039799495338116,0.0,0.0,0.14422915764282884,0.0,0.19614589441761915,0.0,0.0,0.07556007744020331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23735940363374505,0.0,0.0,0.1737059255466775,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamahazard,2020/01/26,"Best diapers: name brand and store brand [Not my webpage! Just something I found. ](https://www.themomsatodds.com/best-brand-diapers/#How_I_tested_the_diapers)

My findings have been similar. No redness or irritation on any diapers, and IMO it's not cost-effective to buy name brand diapers all the time, but a mix works best for us. 

Huggies usually have a 3rd ""blowout"" layer in the back, which is amazing. I often use them for overnight diapers since my baby (almost 1 year, size 5) hates diaper changes.

Though, since my LO tends to poop in the daytime, I prefer Pampers overnight. They're a bit drier in the morning than the Huggies, since they have drying channels, but my boy pees *a lot*.

I haven't tried Luvs. Kroger diapers...Weren't the best. Neither were CVS diapers. 

I've found myself to like Little Journey by Aldi the best. Little Journey runs a bit smaller than the box indicates when you get past Size 3, but they're elastic free, so there are no red marks on the baby, like a lot of cheap diapers have.

I took my LO swimming last minute wearing these, and that diaper was **easily** 10 pounds, still holding up perfectly. It was about 5"" thick from front to back. While a diaper should never be that full, that's still a very impressive feat. I don't like using these for overnights, because I've found a few diaper beads on my baby's tushy.

I did not like Parent's Choice by Walmart whatsoever. I haven't tried Up&Up since the nearest Target is 2 hours away...not worth the drive. But the link says they're similar to Aldi's Little Journey. 

I personally changed my baby throughout the night until recently, but the extra sleep and less fuss is worth the expensive diapers overnight. So I find my best combo to be shoveling out the $40 every month or two for Pampers, and $11 every 1-2 weeks for Aldi diapers, since my baby gets changed every 1.5-2 hours or so during the day. I should've done this one a *long* time ago.",4.161371655271373,6.636719387186627,4.594231451000251,81.50055119439524,73.79108635097492,7.582712923102895,27.034776736726602,8.484438967287268,2.097582358402972,1536,58,275,29,33,485,195,359,0.028999999999999998,0.799,0.172,0.9958,1,0,1,0,0,0,83.0,1,1,2,7,13,14,1,0,27,0,20,4,4,2,3,38,30,20,0,2,12,1,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,9,6,0,1,7,2,7,8,10,1,0,2,10,4,26,14,27,17,15,45,0,0,2,0,10,14,0,7,27,156,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254768648839321,0.0,0.08195259251326109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867539578938592,0.0,0.05565512985522895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689292615152997,0.1258623572660556,0.0,0.04988991145521705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5153265875071188,0.0,0.1786997744454928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597328481191589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278109497314502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375242484887872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068653649289238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960357455119358,0.0,0.0,0.26920544153424936,0.0,0.0,0.08551777059979206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080168765732591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119508302281899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671186967022671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993478881569914,0.2460805077446053,0.0,0.0724272866464565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915769175396164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532522584130604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312132742901103,0.0,0.0,0.07680284633149694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055458021499109854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087546928094646,0.0,0.07812711744560469,0.0,0.07146097377933397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080875793641219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508376658348282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385013014679547,0.0,0.08190075709967094,0.0,0.0,0.06300570215970433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071769807239633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040900759393098,0.0,0.09544505091221857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092908675840393,0.11113021901245364,0.0,0.07994740198333525,0.0,0.0984454305040985,0.14136982043434945,0.09013701721763112,0.0675279340819928,0.0,0.0,0.06564843665201074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958169741256099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052703340628089033
parenting,ReddDeathh45,2020/01/26,"Son is sleeping on hard floors instead of bed My son is 2 and a half years old. For about a month now, he’s been sleeping on the floor with a blanket instead of in his bed. 

A little backstory, my husband and I have never co-slept with our son. From birth, he went to a bassinet. When he was 6-8 weeks, he slept in his own crib. From there on, he slept in it until we moved. Only occasionally sleeping in a pack-n-play or with his grandmother in her bed (which didn’t mess up his sleeping schedule thankfully.)

We moved from an apartment into my grandmother’s house while we were looking into buying a house. We all had to sleep in the same room (which never happened since he moved to a crib). There was no room for a crib, so he was sleeping in a pack-n-play. Around this time, he figured out how to get out of it and he started trying to sleep with us. But he kept moving and I would just start the day. But he started rejecting his pack-n-play and started sleeping in a recliner that was also in the room. We didn’t see any problem with it as long as he was sleeping fine and not in a weird position. 

We bought our house a month ago, and my son went back to having his own room. He also got his own toddler bed (with the same mattress we were using his crib). At first, we didn’t have the toddler bed so he slept on the mattress on the floor for a night. Then we got the bed, moved the mattress in it, and since then he’s been rejecting it and has been sleeping on the floor. 

I’ve tried putting another mattress on the floor where he’s sleeping and he just pushes it away. I’ve tried re-arranging the room so the bed was near the spot he’s sleeping (right in front of the door) and he still pushes it away. 

He’ll lay down on it, he’ll sit on it, he’ll jump on it, but as soon as we tell him goodnight and we close his door, he’ll scream and lay on the floor and bang on the door. My husband’s dad said that my husband did that as a child and it’s just because he’s afraid of missing out. But it’s been going on for a month. I even pushed his bedtime back for hopes he was too exhausted to move. Nothing seems to work. Any ideas on how to fix it? Should I even fix it? Is it just a phase or part of a tantrum?",2.3785714285714303,3.3228280764331224,3.4374789202305145,94.38619108280257,75.02972399150744,6.40196542311192,24.285168334849864,6.474141703775902,0.4536967060964514,1708,51,406,12,35,550,180,471,0.055,0.93,0.013999999999999999,-0.9421,0,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,14,0,0,2,30,13,1,1,37,0,27,16,15,3,3,66,55,38,0,4,11,8,1,0,0,6,1,2,19,1,21,39,0,1,3,0,2,15,7,10,0,2,28,5,36,3,74,21,7,100,0,3,2,0,62,54,0,4,30,257,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439275737602702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814061851119317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345506580505689,0.06434227962961102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054624232190039736,0.0,0.0,0.11530121713149523,0.0943655269095683,0.0,0.03740505012147072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039572720122158934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105662401572779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05219357114198979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03205855053915069,0.0,0.034872827528925426,0.0,0.0981518737036601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05426126300061706,0.0,0.054967335952437926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06094524341278399,0.0,0.21240680563441092,0.0,0.0692690150271395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061499766570150126,0.0,0.05430248737973123,0.05152772254341234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469331138611348,0.39130171235464173,0.0,0.0,0.09465065570762897,0.0,0.0,0.05758307105996763,0.0,0.05887746209346659,0.0,0.06438796837812442,0.0,0.0,0.04666774820844752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644790179323247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058714117894726164,0.0,0.061684677251837475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052401894361570375,0.058368290831195324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488967125025008,0.05586068122580487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151678187649196,0.0,0.7368628650422437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372631309743142,0.0,0.04900291367073533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053632152716750335,0.0564928952968702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03578004860183539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498011995578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380963715561974,0.052996137543326806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922003250234019,0.0,0.0,0.11376438375715732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04467148393397465,0.0,0.0,0.04358904032450933,0.0,0.0,0.039514423663232726
parenting,queenrjean,2020/01/26,"I'm closing the door for my teen son, who packed his stuff and left home for the second time in a year This is the second time he did it. He leaves whenever I scold him for doing irresponsible things. He went to his dad (my estranged husband who lives with his parents). I am tired of the BS, if he leaves, he leaves. He can no longer go back here, Otherwise, he will just do that again when he gets scolded. 

The first time he did it, he went back here after two months, complaining about how toxic his grandparents are.

I am teaching him a lesson.",3.74717889908257,4.953677055045873,4.121915137614678,89.77810206422018,72.02752293577981,7.2848623853211025,23.716743119266056,7.645422480735847,0.8396137614678896,425,11,92,5,8,133,73,109,0.113,0.887,0.0,-0.8885,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,9,1,0,0,7,0,10,1,0,1,0,7,15,4,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,4,4,0,11,0,9,10,0,17,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,1,11,60,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28290218766049113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564731946236312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610961097521876,0.0,0.10454664453147527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845232383208388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5843497049109658,0.1998691346063467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624368452332294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683221974665225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426177947635704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21058603284523794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222124384297743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32179931662199746,0.21143078661242926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969864390072085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34105879654113497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846187124228877
parenting,svvvg,2020/01/26,My 16 year old brother had a night terror Hey guys I know I’m not a parent but I need to know if something is wrong. My 16 year old brother had a night terror last night for the first in years. He was saying really random stuff and was in a panicky/anxious state. My parents do know about it but they don’t know Reddit exists so I just thought I should make a post about. Is it normal for night terrors to continue into the late teenage years? Any advice is appreciated.,0.4644951923076946,2.915759343750004,2.162916666666668,92.70836538461542,90.97916666666666,4.203846153846154,18.84294871794872,5.8734145424116955,-0.1382089743589745,371,11,76,3,13,121,62,96,0.16,0.7959999999999999,0.045,-0.9081,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,1,4,4,0,3,7,0,10,0,0,1,0,17,18,5,0,4,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,5,1,8,0,9,12,0,19,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,14,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164135432733949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985695035122332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329256095762656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435211529446108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186381745468262,0.11815183773485068,0.16350748005406948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675381054355596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747698873778262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5440949253672962,0.1420181105091927,0.0,0.0,0.30419675613309616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32189485180484245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881996602623886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285729963800128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115268342298859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158793082464093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593060142887311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115072396276059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584777117035853,0.0,0.3733666335994554
parenting,alcotecture,2020/01/26,"Feeling unequipped. I feel as if I've never had to parent until now My little boy just turned 3 and he's always been an exceedingly gentle and kind child. I mean, he's mischievous and cheeky, but he's so laidback that I've never really had any situations outside of early sleep stuff where I've felt like losing my cool.
For example, if he wants a treat and I say, ""not right now"", the *vast* majority of the time he says just says ""ok"" and moves on. It's just always been pretty easy.

We've just had our second child (5 weeks old) and, whilst the 3 year old is absolutely besotted with his little brother, he's started acting out in other areas.

The acting out is fine, I expected it and it's standard stuff like he won't go to bed and keeps sneaking down the hall. Not huge, but something we've never had in the past.

The problem is myself. I feel completely unequipped. I feel as if, because he's always more or less done what's asked of him, I haven't had any practise in actual parenting.

I know this sounds strange, and it's a little embarrassing to say but, what the hell do you do when a 3 year old won't do what he's asked?",3.8073275862068985,4.6136421465517286,5.120172413793104,84.17956896551725,71.5,7.868965517241381,25.27586206896552,8.07648339933343,1.3403482758620693,886,25,185,12,16,296,126,232,0.08900000000000001,0.778,0.133,0.8065,2,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,1,0,1,9,12,1,1,12,2,17,1,1,0,3,40,31,21,0,6,13,3,5,2,0,2,0,5,1,3,12,12,0,1,7,1,0,4,8,4,0,1,9,11,15,8,18,20,3,38,1,1,0,0,25,16,1,4,20,107,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.10697776170024746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736492592351093,0.0,0.0,0.14909692648572698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496833969804815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682611719680556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493927048639095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218399061485107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217178952272849,0.0,0.10525677362465226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062302166468540185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743935012874712,0.0,0.1141571147449639,0.060246793877857835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711405001027137,0.32961783997455424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264184712093185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194132885973644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651356347250827,0.0,0.0,0.253647667515429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450976197273632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24345021201067646,0.0,0.10464905136893388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152759313261623,0.0,0.10489590338198314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022830330109132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361877935115676,0.0,0.34871141571148656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232226039117809,0.10970373433840576,0.0,0.0,0.08439434574605037,0.0,0.0,0.07759283119202395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509877984715909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392296530572429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924004700394718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465940858694723,0.0,0.08793421342173137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118925108284774
parenting,2mamas,2020/01/26,All inclusive help!! We are going to be taking our 3.5 year old on an all inclusive vacation this summer to somewhere in the Caribbean. Was wondering if anyone has any suggestions of places they have been. Most important things to us are kid friendly beach. Maybe a small water park big water slides not necessary as he is too small. And affordability. We are hoping to stay under $4000 Canadian for the trip! Thanks for any help!!!,4.016867088607594,6.8064175696202565,4.84099683544304,77.94352056962029,75.83544303797468,9.013291139240506,25.064873417721518,9.516144504307137,2.7534417721519,344,12,59,10,8,111,65,79,0.0,0.802,0.198,0.9482,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,9,2,0,0,2,10,14,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,11,11,3,14,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,4,3,38,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480247094991691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789225719312618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976981386252613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454268300323297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34303215243755314,0.0,0.0,0.2541541418664254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25707350554410435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685110097736045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673480975215577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727421534640728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923956428517981,0.0,0.0,0.2355869387292352,0.0,0.0,0.17000036290990225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078012973990983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27749920588617805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478323614946302
parenting,RTHAMETZ,2020/01/26,"2.5 yealr old won't sleep through the night help So I have a two and half year old who won't sleep through the night. Screaming and crying and making up stories about why he needs someone in the room... I'm exhausted and losing my patience, which for me is a big deal. I'm a school teacher and honestly don't think I've ever raised my voice to my son. It's killing me but im lost... Please help",0.5627380952380996,2.6585821785714288,1.6761904761904771,99.66880952380954,84.35714285714286,4.685714285714286,21.238095238095237,5.82211442006289,-0.1514904761904754,309,10,73,2,9,97,60,84,0.121,0.755,0.124,0.3071,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,3,6,1,0,6,0,5,3,2,1,1,10,11,7,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,1,2,6,1,7,8,0,10,0,2,0,0,6,4,0,0,6,37,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206895444336182,0.0,0.19418228171108065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037485168548738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252496282796116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20345210441002254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20838319523776067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107173190078619,0.2056080767889401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257261896321399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966036263817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535105303879412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952867471804056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067535518835816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906219264496254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769753526648276,0.0,0.15958974268725762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068813266896175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399219448378965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995806882268244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129228790711764
parenting,Candiluvr,2020/01/26,"How do you improve your child's social skills? My 8 yo son does not have the best social skills.  He doesn't really greet people unless coaxed, speaks too low to be heard sometimes when spoken to, barely says please, thank you, or excuse me etc.

I've been working on this with him for YEARS with consideration to him being a little shy but that shy ish can't continue to fly.

What are ways or resources that will help improve his social skills? (Only child/single-parent for context)",4.800559006211182,6.489976695652175,4.798757763975157,84.0667391304348,70.08695652173913,6.561490683229812,21.838509316770182,6.868970318607317,0.5932465838509318,384,8,70,3,7,119,74,92,0.091,0.763,0.146,0.7393,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,0,5,3,3,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,0,9,11,6,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,8,2,10,6,2,7,0,1,0,0,17,3,0,2,3,42,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23108313636063885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269585351156074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455778294984241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759338834446672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206952131149504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746971916893613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265685455131353,0.0,0.0,0.24171015063530046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106381831395004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510946967859126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6733892467054338,0.0,0.0,0.2177804350893563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20272778682504372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747821065340586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603060176777115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179963010956026
parenting,Bringtnix,2020/01/26,"winter sucks So, not too long ago, the wife and I loved wintertime. We used to go out for snow hikes, do some skiing or just chill and play video games without feeling guilty for not being outside. 
Now, with our little guy, winter just sucks.
I feel like we have played with every single toy we have a million times over and everything is just soooo boring by now. Of course we still go outdoors with him but since it's cold out and gets dark super early the activities are incredibly limited.
Having to wrap the little guy up like  raw egg in a minefield doesn't help either.
Anyone else can't wait for the warmer season when playgrounds and parks become a real option again?",5.3799224806201575,6.6571364496124055,5.1844961240310115,83.42155038759694,68.2248062015504,7.283720930232557,23.635658914728683,7.3871296695380915,0.96851007751938,538,12,99,5,9,166,98,129,0.086,0.7659999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.8643,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,2,10,9,2,0,7,0,9,2,0,1,0,31,19,9,0,0,9,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,14,1,2,2,6,0,2,5,3,0,1,0,3,8,6,16,18,3,21,0,0,0,1,12,7,2,3,14,64,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933710171600134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414610339374093,0.20729222908474929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22343736095176486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900545251544474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045632000827252,0.0,0.18182469709387555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458973316111714,0.14453150798797387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569950515950803,0.0,0.2299567854023097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006407505417318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560525772073573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19767853999284365,0.4055389145527064,0.0,0.1790394746000292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259419423561266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23027498887619335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735431623190264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156637275429472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796957030788273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473233878287725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502124456107156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gksozae,2020/01/26,"My 5-year old doesn't speak in class What to do?  My son is now five months into kindergarten and he is debilitatingly shy.  Many people in-the-know say that he will grow out of it, but he seems to be regressing from his shyness which was present throughout daycare.  His daycare teacher said he didn't speak to her in two years while he was there and this behavior is continuing into kindergarten.  He does not speak in class.  His classmates say ""Hi"" to him and he doesn't acknowledge it.  They will ask him questions as simple as, ""Do you need an eraser?"" and he doesn't answer.  His teachers have mentioned that he has said maybe three words to them all year.  They are concerned because they cannot assess his knowledge of the subject matter or address his needs.  I asked him once if he could ask his teacher something for me.  His response was, ""I can't talk in school.""  I interpreted this to be a 5-year old describing his anxiety.

This evening we had a school spaghetti feed.  Toward the end of the night he spent an hour playing with a boy in his class who I would consider his best friend.  They did not speak to each other the entire time.  All communication was non-verbal and they essentially played 'chase me' for an hour straight without either of them speaking to the other.  I was a very shy kid.  But I remember often having conversations in kindergarten with my classmates.  This is out of the ordinary, even for shy kids.

He does not participate in group activities in school.  Singing, dancing, speaking in front of the class, sitting with the other children at circle-time.  He does not participate.  His Christmas assembly was 18 children singing, dancing, and wearing costumes except for him.  He stood in the middle of the group motionless while the other children performed.  We have him involved in soccer, swimming, lots of birthday parties, and school events, but that doesn't seem to help.

At home, he is quite normal, I guess.  Talks to us and his younger brother regularly.  He lets us know his feelings and if he needs anything.  He does talk to his other family members on occassion.  A cousin or two, grammy and grandpa.  But outside of the home he completely shuts down.

We have attended some sessions with him and a therapist.  He was one that mentioned that he would 'grow out of it' and that he wasn't really concerned.  This was a year and a half ago.  I was hoping there would be more working with my son than what actually took place.  Most of the sessions involved my wife and I discussing the latest situation with my son and the therapist providing feedback and parenting ideas.  I didn't feel as though it was a terribly effective use of our time/money.

My concern for my son is that he is falling behind socially.  It took me years of training in my 30s (thanks to an employer) to figure out how to pretend to be an extrovert.  I consider most of my teens and 20s wasted because I didn't know how to talk to people.  I understood my struggles with shyness and introversion and I don't want to have my son go through this as well.  Is this something I need to address more proactively with him?  Is there anything that can be done to get him to communicate verbally now so that it doesn't become a block for him in the future?",5.1174306998066035,6.8616046342668895,5.224838120478476,81.1059929446315,69.37891268533771,8.045970918988614,31.482307857603328,8.587818076936951,2.526173010529332,2571,111,467,42,46,806,263,607,0.055999999999999994,0.883,0.06,0.7506,2,0,2,0,0,0,75.0,6,1,7,5,13,9,0,1,31,0,56,2,1,4,2,93,83,37,0,13,15,10,2,0,1,5,0,10,4,6,31,37,1,1,16,9,1,11,17,2,1,6,24,12,69,7,83,47,11,62,0,0,0,0,110,28,0,14,22,333,100,13,0.0,0.0,0.07486629892459121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680064209701031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05868952850974279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626576233699213,0.0,0.21516463907109015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353390810408473,0.08472967993760551,0.0,0.0,0.08051145056776478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043800548491642,0.0,0.0,0.06125356936342829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268547898889464,0.07850977663431097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794991930950901,0.0,0.0,0.10134383989987733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232348000363226,0.0,0.07758247114726607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05927260964343016,0.0,0.040082308543116806,0.0,0.043600955416817085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451420090846046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051422868743132163,0.0,0.15391004701200955,0.07619889263937014,0.15110475888317118,0.0,0.0,0.08660597519544487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648762905545546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844997903981624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652234207920733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778063152690473,0.07707415785368897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123606449175565,0.0,0.0,0.2275435160321917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199522069056677,0.0751679512633896,0.0,0.0,0.16100655654064416,0.08170281839780755,0.05198651726600393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518694005169228,0.0,0.0,0.10637405214941542,0.0,0.0801546212498542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594240378457667,0.08159968778449407,0.0,0.0,0.049147907605681336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869072324670125,0.0,0.14595393758512248,0.12201943970479033,0.0,0.31057332630269874,0.0,0.1396834867869058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623493473882013,0.0,0.07820496395487386,0.0,0.11812347193939272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020295109323011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24665405844060134,0.0,0.07063219084149938,0.0,0.17815244420174536,0.0,0.0,0.07537564717650863,0.0,0.08947047970837396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704744024748019,0.0,0.0,0.14988587335902434,0.0,0.18456608924437207,0.06626024885345166,0.0,0.06330088986581392,0.04525062531333998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897924609644629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395400465842533,0.0,0.05585206355271149,0.0,0.0,0.16349610328623698,0.0,0.0,0.2964256264622293
parenting,Almighty-Twuntwaffle,2020/01/26,"Need advice. I think I may be pregnant. We have a 10month old baby. Soooo I'm late on my monthly and that's unusual, I'm normally like clockwork but I'm now a week late. We have a 10month old and although we love him to pieces he is a nightmare child. He's stubborn and strong willed, he's a handful and we've only just got him sleeping in his own bed and through the night. I don't think we could cope with a newborn so soon. I know I need to go buy a test but my question is those with a small age gap between kids with the oldest being a handful how did you cope?",-0.1117770034843204,1.960758780487808,1.8429326364692216,97.49798780487808,87.21138211382114,4.164692218350756,22.6068524970964,5.288315135182226,-0.010500116144017912,442,17,102,2,14,146,78,123,0.032,0.862,0.107,0.8573,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,1,0,1,5,4,1,0,11,0,11,4,3,1,0,26,22,10,0,4,3,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,12,0,1,4,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,15,3,9,15,2,15,0,0,0,1,16,3,0,2,12,63,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20286852200659625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575514289636045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798630954308632,0.0,0.16604012598961745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409389551550868,0.0,0.4683733924053498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142497586586438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737098872001395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16570777386079838,0.0,0.0,0.3078719200123465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482257470770184,0.2034081382093104,0.0,0.0,0.4356915860413417,0.0,0.0,0.15789242731274356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325643316497812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077542321777776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660489091222148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652764923420665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ham_sammich89,2020/01/26,"My poor nephew I know this is a parenting thread and I am one. But it’s not my baby that’s hurt it’s my nephew. He was taken to the hospital yesterday. And doctors found internal bleeding in his head. And said there seemed to be signs of a previous trauma. My nephew is 4 months old. His mom( my twin) was at work when the baby was originally admitted. I was there for the whole thing and the dad seems genuinely upset. But xrays are showing the damage. We won’t know until at least tomorrow if there will be lasting damage to my poor little nephew. I feel so helpless. I could kill his father right now for putting him through any type of hardship. However, the dad did seem very shook up and very upset. And genuinely like he didn’t mean to. However this is his third kid and I just think he should know better about how you play with a 4 month old. Please send all the good vibes my way. I just want my nephew to be safe and healthy.",1.561825396825398,3.8721334761904806,2.5801560846560854,93.39563095238098,81.96296296296295,6.319682539682539,20.56111111111111,7.554174236665415,0.6237701587301578,733,21,159,12,20,232,116,189,0.17600000000000002,0.722,0.102,-0.9554,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,2,10,14,1,3,10,0,18,4,1,2,1,35,32,15,1,4,6,10,1,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,6,10,0,1,11,2,2,3,3,9,0,2,9,2,22,5,17,16,3,21,0,4,0,0,24,6,0,4,12,99,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495454693381057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364986573290596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322564692639874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797060154257947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803749476661892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922270670489986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945066967752542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839443083108887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652210993254488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170751177301576,0.0,0.2544589659104968,0.12580536734994668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540133022225487,0.15468635905177372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681183898021201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18075779181651944,0.246380863699628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239017300591517,0.0,0.10458283963086903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137312823793646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941583199702648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551514528512334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180307338176622,0.14680996199317106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215082044148203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253473722293137,0.09889300678032673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25468860625741235,0.09103204329166152,0.12250563709812172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231190394365475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123592753039855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wubaluba_dubdub,2020/01/26,"I've seen a lot of posts on Reddit (mainly DIY sub) of people building awesome things for their kids. Am I jealous? no. And really it just makes me a little sad. I think most of you here know where this is going, the most precious thing you can give your child is your time. Building awesome things is great but only if you're doing it without compromising your child patent time.

So please don't come back from 5 days at work and spends 2 days in the shed building a Reddit worthy fort. Spend 2 days playing with your kids. When they get older build a fort with them, and really let them build it with you helping. 
I remember growing up with an absent dad, it was a different time back then so I'm not gonna blame anyone. But I do remember the one time he suggested we build a go kart together, great I thought until I spent the day watching my dad build a go kart because I didn't know how tools worked...

So anyway I can't wait for my boy to be older and I can help him build things or we build things together. And in the mean time I'll just sing silly songs with him, jump around like a rabbit with him, or hide under a duvet in our ""house"" together. Hell I even watch his awful children's shows on the sofa together when his poorly.


P.s. the obvious caveat here is if you have time while your kids are at school/nursery/with other parent and you build these things in spare time, then more power to you. You're awesome.",3.3994128787878783,4.764311479166668,4.019621212121212,89.5602272727273,73.09722222222223,6.903030303030302,22.465909090909093,7.348242739294969,0.667758333333333,1118,27,235,12,22,354,164,288,0.06,0.784,0.156,0.9804,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,11,4,3,16,9,2,0,17,1,17,0,0,2,1,40,34,22,0,2,10,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,7,13,16,0,1,7,4,4,6,6,3,0,1,5,4,36,6,27,26,5,41,1,1,3,0,38,13,1,7,22,148,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807924661827648,0.0,0.0,0.0994061383638422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172804538678493,0.0,0.06807036801808576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619010414952492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880605280243536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666687894097685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375413492477972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583407140543777,0.10711990468027907,0.190386554437146,0.0,0.0,0.2462236342914138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496943160333043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884721342997693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273708553492248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418573333445894,0.0,0.0545542155519351,0.11191835674224963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493417620857447,0.0,0.0,0.07453771499540747,0.0,0.0,0.12163667203847416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566756129418943,0.08492678889102588,0.0,0.0,0.12399153370562666,0.0,0.0,0.07741492923965118,0.0,0.0,0.12257539475010887,0.0,0.0,0.10694486351705862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307180041337342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529909170855878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301163955696243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451143346834345,0.07155086511829956,0.0,0.08865008446982284,0.4557921317270826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764174010367043,0.0,0.16258790411587873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ollylivmor,2020/01/26,"Telling your child about their real dad or not? My husband and I don't know how to approach this so would love to hear from people in similar situations...

I got pregnant with my ex's kid. He wanted nothing to do with him and has written a document which he signed saying he relinquishes all parental responsibility to my husband. 
Our son is 8 months old and my husband is his dad. In every way besides biology.  (I have been friends with my husband for years and we finally got together when I was pregnant)

We always planned on Telling him from an early age that biologically his dad was different. We don't want him finding out years down the line and hating us for keeping it secret. 

However my husband recently said he had thought is it necessary for us to tell him. 

Our family and close friends know the truth so someone may very well let it slip in the future 

I wish we didn't have to tell him but what if he hates us for not telling him... 

Anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do? Or have you been the child in said situation?",3.692143472022956,5.580524882926833,4.942209469153514,81.10748923959828,73.34146341463416,8.140602582496411,30.59540889526542,8.841846274778883,2.5500157819225238,831,38,163,17,17,275,118,205,0.035,0.902,0.063,0.5973,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,9,3,1,1,6,7,2,0,7,0,22,1,0,1,2,37,38,14,0,5,6,11,0,0,2,2,0,4,0,3,8,15,0,1,5,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,14,4,32,5,24,21,1,21,0,0,0,1,53,9,0,4,10,111,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059334108384262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612845187835669,0.11155606634133608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375197973768915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095171370438776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173251031696224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263836200145862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926805603973205,0.0995104578092641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823425988483953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415575735705466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149845136966352,0.0,0.0,0.12271087663653647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677376404243154,0.0,0.0,0.11967052340446048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133282506996496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826460999347426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690358033841605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044692130188706,0.0,0.11424677873629008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089362943241988,0.0,0.0,0.07548073233979759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392443290925563,0.0,0.0,0.10750166259561778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071315301842188,0.0865823617931994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671426948115879,0.0,0.0,0.09225006480195187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758109969084863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643517940903689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928923445077447,0.0,0.0,0.08983389141030787,0.12843546968341954,0.08642049805008083,0.0,0.0,0.09789236954691873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520173272477414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734220492928845,0.0,0.0,0.14022481935240325
parenting,pinkapoodle,2020/01/26,"I believe liquid nutrition gave my son autistic symptoms but I am not sure why. Any thoughts? My 8 year old son has an extensive medical history and as a result, an extremely difficult time eating.  He has been on almost exclusively liquid nutrition (different kinds) most of his life even though you wouldn’t know it if you met him.  

He’s very funny and smart and healthy looking but he has always had neurological symptoms that made it seem like he had high functioning autism. 

Over the past few months we have made a huge effort to get him off liquid nutrition.  His diet is horrendous and he struggles to eat many foods so he’s not making up for the liquid nutrition with food. He’s basically not getting what he needs in this interim period while we work on eating with him.

Oddly enough, many of his autistic traits have completely disappeared now that we have pulled the supplement drinks.  We have no idea why.  Technically his nutritional intake is worse right now so I don’t get it.  

I am open to any thoughts you might have. Could his brain have been reacting to one of the artificial vitamins in the supplements? Could he have been overdosing on a vitamin?  Has anyone heard of such a thing?  It’s such a noticeable change to us that we can’t explain!

Thanks.",3.7237005649717503,6.453747669491527,4.545000000000002,79.99145480225991,76.54237288135593,8.84858757062147,26.78248587570621,9.408791572840183,2.8234129943502824,1014,40,182,29,24,326,142,236,0.095,0.8029999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.3747,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,6,3,0,2,8,7,0,1,12,0,26,15,1,5,1,37,43,12,0,5,6,2,0,1,0,2,7,1,0,0,10,12,7,0,6,1,0,2,7,2,0,1,12,2,23,5,21,27,3,23,0,0,1,0,32,12,0,5,10,116,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688133095091542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712297544093933,0.0,0.0,0.15875143060721553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161551029777686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150697070540165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030158995892274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347757017744505,0.0,0.1223819568434298,0.0,0.0,0.1863878060414318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195080347237815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114344207819342,0.0,0.3583106349686743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206061714896284,0.0,0.0770945112711675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28228408838610936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829490173732093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332437099200283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176618011419478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154915400948893,0.06414796698390393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244498232178274,0.057025014123585065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980180123373974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22089245200679186,0.0779135802311449,0.2366778199781531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758625031657155,0.0,0.1238247708301937,0.0,0.0,0.09316727033089876,0.0,0.0,0.0865487047794709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289003085077178,0.1224812657603828,0.0,0.07909459805889071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142541303892416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996808955355638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626033271610938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202433464424925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100101468999498,0.2426400011145145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746295459727924,0.0,0.0,0.07754564569432458,0.0,0.1146798599019322,0.185330217575435,0.06806218230065654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040352587372973,0.0,0.0,0.09630878743209792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21064889773389586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497581199481848,0.0,0.11895081787367412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516585393163394
parenting,sojourner7373,2020/01/26,"Discord stole my family Discord stole my family, and I am betting that I'm not the only one. My child joined a cult that formed on Discord. They met them when they were 16, and the leader of this group drove down not long after their 18th birthday, and drove away with them. I know this only because they left their phone behind, reset to factory but easily restored from icloud, and I found the discord messages going back two years. This person used grooming techniques to get into my child's head, learn personal details, create emotional dependence, and then systematically destroyed their relationships with their family with the intention of convincing them that they had no choice but to run away. We took the chat logs to the FBI and were told that, if we had only caught this before they turned 18, this would have been actionable.

Reading more on Discord, I discovered that this whole group of people were able to coordinate their actions in secret on their own Discord server. Because of Discord, it is incredibly easy to create spaces without which these dangerous actions would have been far more difficult or impossible. I contacted Discord itself about this, but was stonewalled. They are not taking this kind of behavior seriously at all.

I am sure there are others who have had their lives destroyed because of Discord, and may not even know it. I am hoping to find others. I can't create a community yet as I haven't the karma, and since I'm not a marketer I'm not interested in spending the time 'karma farming'. I do want to connect with others who have had a similar experience, and so here I begin.

If you've had an experience with Discord that tore your family apart, please post here. You aren't alone.",8.082222222222223,8.456847101910832,7.710785562632703,70.85054493984433,62.05732484076432,10.544656758669495,34.6418966737438,10.25414643259724,3.612889455060156,1386,54,229,28,18,439,172,314,0.14300000000000002,0.742,0.115,-0.9009999999999999,0,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,2,16,0,9,10,3,0,13,0,28,1,1,3,2,47,48,19,0,6,13,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,24,17,0,0,6,2,2,9,11,5,0,2,18,0,35,5,35,27,6,33,2,0,0,0,36,14,0,7,9,174,59,3,0.12341264058063367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781827633652545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319004766424173,0.09489670279883004,0.0,0.22569360066971436,0.0,0.10501506736363678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882260976591462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151288517117462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24144248703385185,0.4653698163827287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279691768220244,0.0,0.0,0.1353155904170314,0.0,0.0,0.06447801103448474,0.0,0.07013824768739235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665697378339966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257659847939432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285152739159306,0.13564871948747428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408819509137135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897562265708896,0.10921630334454407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362759920167966,0.2815826230444308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555878587799925,0.2155183150151074,0.0,0.13547001923711965,0.0,0.0,0.11819519527147347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344603779387164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249899009218405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208821159933884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631495321863865,0.0,0.09279094682401172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196290318073319,0.0,0.0,0.11792606680731905,0.13711598462503052,0.0,0.13423751411986998,0.12055621728923815,0.0,0.0,0.10658889699740692,0.0,0.0,0.07279197292571889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778580588879866,0.0,0.11896538152938164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533759797368373,0.0,0.0,0.07947369429156739
parenting,jalzyr,2020/01/26,"Bedtime with a hyper 5 year old boy. My son is known to be the most hyper kid in any group/class. Very active, very happy, very much the opposite of me haha. His father passed away when he was 3 years old so it’s just me and him. Now, before he passed away I was able to put him in his crib, lights out, asleep within 15minutes. Easy peasy. After he passed away, we moved in with my grandmother and everything changed. Bedtime became a fiasco. Now as he has gotten a little older it has gotten better but one thing that became necessary for him to stay in bed is me being in the room until he falls asleep. 

Now my main issue right now is he constantly has something he wants me to do. Drives me nuts. Take his socks off/on, turn fan towards/away from him. He needs a drink of water. He wants a snack. He asks to be retucked in. He messes up his mattress sheet and I have to put it on again. It’s never ending. The one thing I never do is give him a snack. He always has a snack during wind down time, which is 30minutes prior to bedtime.

I say no at first but then he just whines and repeatedly says “MOM! Can you...?!” So I end up doing it just to be quiet. Now some nights are easy and he’s out within 10minutes but there are others that take 30 minutes-1hour.

Is there something I can do to make him stop asking these things? Haha
Or what can I do so he will go to bed without me being in his room every night?",0.9180400444938784,3.0959967172413836,2.4218353726362665,94.36121802002224,83.55172413793105,4.707452725250279,16.25139043381535,5.843745405466311,-0.5991468298109006,1088,20,235,7,31,353,157,290,0.049,0.8740000000000001,0.077,0.7934,0,0,3,0,0,0,41.0,1,1,0,2,15,6,0,0,11,2,29,7,2,1,2,28,42,16,0,3,8,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,2,14,10,5,1,1,1,0,9,4,2,0,3,4,4,29,4,39,32,4,60,0,1,0,0,38,23,0,3,27,157,43,0,0.11185442525539613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930718422836739,0.0,0.0,0.07606484482534849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20913757675258127,0.0,0.4203636581998627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951798774246435,0.0,0.0,0.09892614938494472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832715055270235,0.0,0.0,0.12087489668851385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957475332584912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981396412478663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942421775194745,0.0,0.10052754500457407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951433169813803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730095699064184,0.06356944755888316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907111560895528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674695927461315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121075193177828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466369742182354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310025509820664,0.0,0.1188835522566342,0.0822258726978381,0.08293863902460012,0.1725380567270976,0.0,0.0,0.20993560175123832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347448067318981,0.0,0.1515909067366699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248891835624632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552306800591198,0.0,0.17790225694196998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222200254878264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922193461740745,0.0,0.09351530802312752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820121467415672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22293332982482694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522321487588169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216654948710934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27687484553630354,0.13194927612772153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782367441172837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406116514617862
parenting,yellowflower15,2020/01/26,Told should have been drowned at birth I'm not sure if this is the right place to post so sorry if not. A friend of mines mum told him that he should have been drowned at birth. I heard as they were talking on the phone and it was on loud speaker. I was mortified but my friend seemed to not think much of it and when I brought it up later he asked is that bad. He's an adult so not a child and does have a lot of issues in his life along with struggles but I'm guessing that it all seems to just be normal to him. How can you gently help someone in that situation? He comes across as a happy confident person but I know with a lot of things he says he's really not and has many areas in his life which he struggles with. I'm pretty sure it stems from childhood abuse and he's either in denial or does just accept it. Maybe because of his reaction he doesn't consider being abused. I'm not really sure. Is it normal for someone to not think that is a bad thing to come from your own mum? How? I could never imagine saying such a thing to anyone.,1.8618075732317223,3.472134914027152,2.9888497261252667,94.35111931412241,77.68778280542986,5.919599904739224,19.776375327458922,6.5966054737557815,-0.027847058823529558,820,18,187,7,19,263,119,221,0.161,0.726,0.113,-0.8434,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,2,1,0,8,11,0,2,10,0,20,2,0,2,5,49,37,18,2,7,16,2,0,0,2,2,2,5,0,3,17,11,0,0,7,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,9,5,15,7,31,23,6,23,0,0,0,0,33,13,0,8,6,126,32,0,0.0,0.2736800785643895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075522560988545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797014353578556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192863266845169,0.07040331669083652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897357872853744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221157395751403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20213699133724114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784588452425204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722829981208664,0.0,0.0,0.12294419437090792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741236492001019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205444391770778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347180244662089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315190883466027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19637563500817706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709153492673945,0.11602800426160788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849004699719151,0.0,0.08907513914751479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263167736735112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084382636233176,0.1206653565209278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061014232579586,0.11749766092137527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14797524337395446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863018902412164,0.0,0.1836889622192452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028054864970064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981870517961686,0.0,0.0,0.1957132875238756,0.0,0.0,0.1292846932547516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414762252454097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32655168851615,0.0,0.0,0.09282870854786512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23018478069651915,0.14800619897011782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071656979828194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jamesbrown22,2020/01/26,"Do kids wear watches these days? Kind of a random sub to post this in but I thought I could get a semi accurate answer here from parents..

I was going to by my nephew a watch but I was wondering if it was something kids are even interested in these days with smart phones being so prominent.",3.0475862068965505,4.965218931034482,4.192620689655172,85.66444827586207,75.20689655172414,7.398620689655173,25.393103448275863,8.238735603445708,1.5945199999999995,230,8,46,4,5,75,45,58,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.9019,1,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,7,1,1,0,0,9,11,4,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,3,8,5,0,6,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,3,2,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666302286497137,0.0,0.0,0.4307375439626079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205694417938482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744739972335461,0.0,0.1897902903120104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477553538939692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.370809628565308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198297813774724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570894125796261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651173343220487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621522578384043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bebelexa,2020/01/26,"Bachelorette party Hey all. I’m new here. I don’t know how to feel about this. My best friend is getting married next February (2021) and she wants to go on a cruise for her bachelorette party. I have an 18 month old, who will be about 2 1/2 around the time she wants to go (November) it’s a 4 day cruise, a Thursday-Monday. Deposits to go are due tomorrow, and I’m having extreme guilt about leaving her. My husband doesn’t mind, but I just have an overwhelming guilt. Should I go? I feel like a bad mom for even considering this!",1.6133559898045888,3.8526388317757028,2.870926083262532,91.8048088360238,81.24299065420561,6.507731520815634,22.811384876805445,7.686295010490155,0.9943906542056079,413,14,89,7,11,133,74,107,0.087,0.797,0.11599999999999999,0.2481,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,3,7,0,10,0,0,1,1,14,22,4,0,3,2,2,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,2,1,6,2,4,0,0,0,2,11,3,11,19,2,16,0,1,0,0,9,2,0,0,9,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19613432846440995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839606402368612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312155692692049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209021482749454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552137285524902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280402483282208,0.15739891341232692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702211310829889,0.0,0.1151097604386134,0.0,0.5008589290734708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108384977676145,0.0,0.0,0.23329042004626496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076387696805798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22246359001909652,0.2580398285276655,0.17585984864786314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212789486101604,0.2343161859562745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311920997826645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847220955948838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599046227046973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway_updown,2020/01/26,"My daughter (14F) says she is afraid of her step brother (16M) Tried not to make it too long.

My husband and I dated for 2 years then he asked me to marry him, I said yes and we married 4 months later. During that 2 years my 2 daughters and his 3 sons spent little time together and during the 4 months of engagement the kids were kind of standoffish and didn't want to see each other, not really happy about it all. My oldest daughter is 17F, my youngest is 14F, my husband's oldest sons are in their 20s and live by themselves and his youngest is 16M. Let's call my youngest daughter Jane and my husband's youngest son John.


We tried to get our kids to interact but they weren't into it, my daughter's haven't liked any other guy other than their father and so I try not to force them. After my husband proposed they really didn't like the idea me getting married and wanted to interact with my husband has his son even less, though my oldest expressed that she was happy for me. As for my husband's sons, John was kind of just whatever and the older ones like to go for coffee with their dad and meet up with John pretty often so I see them then, but they are adults and don't really have any interest in their new step sisters.

My home wasn't big enough for 2 more people and my husband had an apartment since it was just him and John. So when we found a home that we liked, we moved in and hoped everyone would get along. Jane hated my husband and his son, my oldest was neutral about John but was cold to my husband because she missed her dad, and John was just trying to adjust to everything. I expected my daughters to hate my husband because like I said they've hated any other guy in my life except for their bio dad

Jane would come up with any reason on Earth to why I shouldn't marry my husband, most were very silly reasons and others were serious but lies which she admitted to. She started this from the first guy she thought I was dating after her dad and I split, I wasn't dating him he was just a friend. If I spoke to any adult male, Jane became upset. 

The house was a 4 bedroom 5 bathroom. 2 rooms upstairs and 2 downstairs, all the rooms had a bathroom in it except for one upstairs, John said he'd take the room with no bathroom since they girls had to deal with periods and my oldest wanted privacy so we gave her the room downstairs off to it's self.

4 days after we were all moved in, Jane told me she didn't feel comfortable with her room being next to John's. Of course immediate concern kicked in and I asked a bunch of questions, she wouldn't say exactly why she was uncomfortable but made it clear she didn't trust him and she suggested that John would do something to girls.

Without much thought I moved the kids around, my oldest daughter now slept upstairs and John now slept downstairs. My oldest was very upset about this. Jane said she still felt uncomfortable but she wouldn't say why, I installed locks on all the kid's doors so I wouldn't have to come up with an excuse of why only Jane got a lock on her door. I also asked if she wanted me to put a camera in her room, she said no. I asked if she wanted me to hide a camera outside of her door she said no. I told her the camera would have no sound because I thought maybe that's why she was saying no, but still, she said no. I told my husband about the situation and he got upset at me for suggesting his son would do something like that. I knew before I told my husband to take his reaction with a grain of salt, I'm talking about his son here.

Jane said she was afraid of John and didn't want to be alone with boys. 

Not even a week later I told Jane we were all leaving and would be back in 15-20 minutes she said she would stay home. Plans changed and I decided to stay home and just send my husband, my oldest and John. But I didn't go back inside, instead I went to the garage to try and deal with some of the boxes. Our neighbor's son (13M) came looking for Jane, she'd invited him over. What happened to not wanting to be alone with boys? Okay maybe just older boys.

Next thing is John decided to go to see the new star wars movie with his boyfriend (he's bisexual) and Jane really wanted to go, but I thought she was afraid of John, let alone being by herself with two 16 year old boys. I've now started to notice she is only scared of John sometimes, I have accidentally left her alone and she was fine, but when I wanted to run across the street she made a fuss. She's comfortable and okay with being alone with him when she wants and when she doesn't it's because she's afraid of him.

I have sat Jane down to talk and she still won't say why she's says she's afraid of him or what he did.

My husband suggested to me that she was upset about us marrying and moving in together because she misses her biological dad (who lives in another state). My husband does not believe my daughter and I'm beginning not to believe her either, but I know I should believe her. I honestly don't believe John would do something like that but I also don't want to believe my daughter would make something up like that. 

I talked to John with my husband, John was offended and said he doesn't know what her problem is because he didn't do anything.

Jane said John knocked on her door the other day at like 5am but the thing is he left at 1am to his friends house and didn't get home until 2pm and I was up all night so I know for a fact he never came home. He couldnt have, it's a 40 minute drive, When I told her this she changed her mind to her sister or the TV


What do I do?",4.3237790629057,4.779360768558952,4.82087867343326,88.05831671190843,70.13537117903931,7.6215035996695395,26.91402100790747,7.3813716822258035,1.1900461465832644,4380,131,945,41,74,1395,356,1145,0.126,0.836,0.038,-0.9985,0,5,4,0,0,0,89.0,11,0,11,2,41,45,5,10,35,3,93,3,2,6,10,176,180,78,1,32,35,44,2,9,3,15,1,19,18,17,35,75,0,0,19,1,1,19,38,19,0,4,75,27,177,26,131,79,15,119,0,2,4,0,217,41,0,10,65,598,212,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905362073980096,0.0,0.0614785563690265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069759099775385,0.04030614973829162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03163163463524462,0.03421844073080848,0.14373934519385906,0.0,0.0,0.05911371309261833,0.0,0.14059062499897468,0.0,0.032708357505823404,0.21653529930239213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03925003634409446,0.0879268753019615,0.0,0.0,0.08132573496929305,0.06622277923488974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04957934322430182,0.07925687224813592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03363781623185697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039717276279940386,0.0,0.050776572475600974,0.0,0.0,0.036729662221071095,0.03454607181854832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019435675483272002,0.0,0.0369070163233845,0.0,0.0,0.032695793589151305,0.0,0.042145863623036565,0.05939502514116361,0.0,0.08033018076835016,0.0,0.08738200861205536,0.0,0.06148560699694203,0.0,0.0,0.11418056262048325,0.033991064725738804,0.08183705891065926,0.0,0.11385026989787796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313418752797204,0.038178132962852135,0.0,0.08870580446342333,0.0,0.0433924210951171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005562686819967,0.06337443173997043,0.0,0.0,0.040700852695794536,0.08352714962648926,0.07861200148642539,0.027150270175441547,0.16901211534667032,0.038525504761657114,0.06788385161807765,0.034016889051625435,0.032278683821331644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274293210826019,0.051316033894099666,0.0,0.0772333388219778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038811957240889886,0.0,0.061362535105401524,0.16341629487181678,0.028256742004721967,0.0,0.029646163640303112,0.07424834270792306,0.08175962447969726,0.036071956074518914,0.0,0.0,0.04376252064848765,0.0403347706940541,0.0,0.05209388482455805,0.058468467641078735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026648436519794275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03910580344151083,0.0,0.03678048153157807,0.0,0.03864133897933175,0.04305995015391363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849882518876377,0.07904242058734956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022022831843187,0.18340716899192636,0.038483673723774654,0.0,0.09189159416706424,0.0,0.04009976944049391,0.0,0.0,0.06359349769417097,0.043206517712575054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836743190164935,0.03801668858427264,0.0,0.054413978098810586,0.08194071615798096,0.09209117802765558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780198095791648,0.09268630205237673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051073702055333334,0.0,0.037765660108542536,0.12206359531274925,0.02241381568838964,0.0,0.0,0.22037797332642656,0.0,0.1304861919266177,0.0,0.037548858022363435,0.0,0.04623681822355362,0.0,0.0,0.06343162495553767,0.2493924469277031,0.0,0.030833069819458263,0.0,0.0,0.03563290198137618,0.20810876506634304,0.0,0.0,0.037053370793028464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457506567600072,0.0,0.0,0.07425945829837767
parenting,Girl_on_a_Buffalo,2020/01/26,I found out I’m pregnant with my third the same day my husband asked for a divorce. Any tips for navigating this?,2.7504347826086963,4.634501652173917,3.77326086956522,88.49293478260874,75.95652173913044,6.339130434782609,28.89130434782609,7.1686216300943375,1.4434521739130437,90,4,19,1,2,29,20,23,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,4,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,12,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956271868125626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5438814168187653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751969706194148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6378866409731467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StrictlyUtility,2020/01/26,"On/Off Diarrhea My son is 5. Last week he had diarrhea in the morning before school. When my Wife picked him up that afternoon he said he’d gone a lot at school and had it again when he walked in the door. The next day he had diarrhea that morning but the rest of the day was fine. 

Yesterday, we got a call from his school that he’d thrown up. My Wife goes and picks him up expecting a sick kid, but nope, he’s fine. No issues the rest of the day. This afternoon, the diarrhea started again, sending him to the bathroom every 30 minutes for a few hours.

Throughout all of this, he’s acting fine. Not complaining of a stomach ache, appetite is fine, energy levels are normal, in fact, he finds it hilarious. Tonight he called laughing from the bathroom “can you believe I’m pooping *again*?”

My only guess is some sort of food sensitivity. He’s a pretty picky eater so he doesn’t eat many new things, but if I had to assign it something, I’d say maybe dairy? The night before the first bout he had a grilled cheese, and this morning he had a chocolate milk. He eats one of those Danimal yogurts once a day usually, but doesn’t eat much cheese or drink much milk (we got him lactose free chocolate milk on accident one time and he loves it, so he’s usually drinking that or water.)

Any ideas?",2.4489583333333336,4.5773018125000045,3.4121875000000017,89.59739583333338,77.75,6.766666666666668,25.119791666666664,7.793537801064563,1.3227635416666668,1008,37,209,16,24,322,140,256,0.044000000000000004,0.815,0.14,0.9746,0,0,3,0,0,0,36.0,2,1,0,1,7,8,0,0,21,0,16,14,2,2,2,26,24,15,0,3,8,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,13,6,10,0,2,2,1,4,5,1,0,3,11,2,15,8,19,11,8,37,0,0,0,1,36,9,0,7,24,114,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982884343050241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19977953153292236,0.13225769789042793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23973548265385355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30282590500906403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229993917617778,0.0,0.360356104748049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890566464739088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729181982466147,0.09985139616342432,0.14194777463424382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777411491358867,0.0,0.12931770077819482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560495032414762,0.0,0.0,0.13251838703484844,0.0,0.12252407474595325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568805989157643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980030247053154,0.10594855116402603,0.0,0.0,0.11901446533263473,0.11793346888353452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258948815589242,0.0,0.0,0.11337545091223104,0.12484499927849844,0.11016203557088587,0.11501672529706015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501592050484825,0.1590922427720087,0.08927995752081777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942726091294295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166423763785907,0.0933527929226829,0.0,0.3564131357403673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037212465444194,0.0,0.0,0.08308884855718937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798832659550327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845072543453941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585757630420023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416272650127054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OutrageousAerie,2020/01/26,"Tell me that you've been at work all day one more time.... ... and I'm going to get stabby. Seriously that hurts so much, and completely devalues everything I do for this family. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of the toddler, and to top it all off I work from home. I am fortunate to have a job that pays me a lot for not very much work which is ideal for being a stay-at-home parent but my plate is full to breaking and I'm about to throw it at the wall. So tell me that you've been at work all day, imply that I just live the life of joyful leisure, one more time and I'm going to lose my shit.",2.718064236111111,3.3873639140625045,4.245729166666667,89.95413194444444,73.921875,7.563888888888887,22.815972222222207,7.793537801064563,0.765533680555555,463,11,108,6,9,155,75,128,0.091,0.81,0.099,0.0387,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,7,4,7,1,0,6,0,8,3,1,0,3,13,16,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,9,5,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,4,0,2,2,0,9,3,17,13,9,15,0,2,0,0,3,7,1,1,4,70,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229694256194866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718318543344905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21796961397823472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187764599234238,0.0,0.15930907897857893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829049234105538,0.0,0.19208224077962974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695111175084607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809076838426626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769686437295345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193628943968148,0.0,0.0,0.14922159079041047,0.0,0.0,0.18905699547572527,0.0,0.14366956752766388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484547291878149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290244934158351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764380474995046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346618406190298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012124716186906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270597254543578,0.0,0.2954100599707279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707928486567364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943475151556334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4921080016165516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hennessy311,2020/01/26,"My daughter’s struggles and now a new chapter in life Obligatory parental reflection post upon our child’s last couple of months as a minor. It is a long one so clear your day! 😉

I can’t believe the time is here. Hennessy is turning 18 in March and will be finishing high school. She is graduating a little early because we started homeschooling her during her Freshman year of high school. This has been quite the struggle and to say that we are so happy it is done is an understatement. 

Hennessy was diagnosed with Juvenile Myoclonic Epilepsy (JME) when she was 11. There were many changes that came with that diagnosis and we had to adjust quickly to make sure our daughter was going to be ok. She was also diagnosed with a learning disability so her reading comprehension is a little behind and her math and science skills are pretty nonexistent. This is where homeschooling was a Godsend for us as a family. Humberto and I shared the duties, each teaching her 3-4 subjects each year. We have been able to focus on things we know she needs to know and kind of gloss over others that she’ll never need which has meant avoiding unnecessary frustration. And it meant we got to teach her the way her mind can learn. Hello, visual and sensory learning!
 
As if those two things weren’t enough, Hennessy is also an Asperger’s child (though it has now been folded into an umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorder, so it is no longer called Asperger’s except to those that know it as such). Aspie kids really are the absolute sweetest souls. She never gives us any teenage angst and is the most caring person we’ve ever known. The flipside to this is the social anxiety, self-doubt, and lack of confidence in herself. It’s a struggle every day. She feels safest in her room, reading books or watching tv. While we never ever had to worry about our teenager out on the streets doing whatever teenagers do, we do worry that she has missed out on typical experiences that teach kids things that will help them in life. She says it is too exhausting to have friends because she can’t keep up with what they’re talking about. But, we can’t dwell on it too much. Hennessy has always been on her own timeline and she will do things when the time is right for her. Plus, we don’t have to worry about bad influences. 😊 One day, we will have to worry about people taking advantage of her because of her trusting nature, but we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. I’m trying to teach her to speak up for herself. The amount of “I’m sorrys” that this kid says is astronomical. We’re working on it. 

Her reading comprehension has picked up, though she is still a little behind. I credit the Harry Potter series with this. Hennessy used to love to read, but it was about her 3rd grade year that I started to see a change in her level of understanding. The seizure activity was likely there spacing her out (though we didn’t know about it then), but it did not manifest until she was 11 with a huge grand mal (now called Tonic Clonic) seizure. She completely stopped reading as she felt dumb that she could not understand a lot of it. She was embarrassed at school that her friends were moving right along, and she struggled to understand what was going on. One day, years later, I told her about a book series I had heard of, but never read myself as it was not a genre that I was into. She picked up the first Harry Potter book and it just took off. 

In true Pisces fashion, she loves the fantasy world and it is especially helpful because she can lose herself in it and not worry about her struggles. She has found her people in the HP fandom, though she does struggle to keep in touch with them. When she cosplayed at LeakyCon in Boston, she was a completely different kid. She got to hide behind the character and just not be her for a while. And she thrived. She was happy to pose for pictures. Typically, getting her to smile in a picture is hard because she hates her smile. She has always thought of herself as a burden. She won’t keep asking questions until she understands something because she thinks she is being annoying. So, she says she understands and moves along and wonders about it later. But at LeakyCon, she was Nagini. She was confident and happy and smiled in all of her pictures that people took of, and with, her. She talked effortlessly with them about HP and Fantastic Beasts. It was like watching a different kid.

She has found other books now that she enjoys: Twilight, Land of Stories, etc. but Harry Potter remains her absolute favorite. We will forever be grateful to J.K. Rowling for creating a place our daughter could escape to and just finally relax and be happy. When Hennessy is having anxiety or just a stressful day, we just start asking questions about Harry Potter and she lights up and can talk about it forever. She struggles to explain mundane things all the time, but she can rattle off anything HP related in a split second without tripping over her words.
 
When people meet her, they don’t see a special needs kid. They just see a shy teenager. It makes it difficult to explain why she doesn’t come out of her room to say hello or why she has a hard time answering their simple questions. They aren’t simple to her. And even if they are, the way her brain works makes it take a long time for her to find the information and then bring it out to the front and form it into words. It takes a while. She just needs extra seconds to answer. But people are people and tend to repeat the question thinking she just didn’t hear them. She gets embarrassed and wants to go into hiding. And the cycle begins again. But, she is strong. She doesn’t know it, but she is. She can put on a brave face better than most. She always says she wishes she could have my confidence. Truth be told, I wish I had her strength and could be more like her in so many ways.

College is likely never going to be in the books for her, and that’s ok. School is such a frustrating struggle for her. We’ve learned that Aspie kids can be very gifted in math and science OR in the arts. She is definitely gifted in the arts. She’s a beautiful dancer, pulling in first place wins with very little time practicing. She can listen to a song and play it on her keyboard perfectly. But the social anxiety side of it, as well as having a hard time accepting corrections, has pulled her out of any dance lessons so that’s been really tough for us to see, but again, we have to let her guide us at to what is right for her and when. This is something we had to relearn: Parenting.
 
There have been many, many tears shed on my part, massive anxiety attacks that were brought on by worrying about her after her diagnosis and the realization that it was like I was mourning a child I had for 11 years and now had to learn my new child and have been learning her for almost 7 years now. My new child who didn’t want to wear her earrings or any jewelry even though she loved it before that. My new child that dresses in anything black, gray, or navy blue instead of girlie things with lots of pink, sparkles, and unicorns with matching bows in her hair. My new child that hates the feeling of makeup or nail polish on her even though her nails were always painted before. My new child that retreated into herself instead of being outgoing. My new child that can’t remember even big events from her past. My new child that cried herself to sleep at night wondering what was wrong with her. My new child that gave us a level a patience and understanding we never knew we had. My new child that has taught us more about life than anything ever could. My new child that we love more than life itself. My new child that we protect at all costs and make sure her happiness and success is our number one priority. My new child that we admire, respect, and love so much we wouldn’t know what to do without her.

Watching old videos is hard for me. Up until she was 10 or 11, she was quick to understand things and was a happy go lucky, “normal” kid. One that we could let stay up late at sleepovers. A kid that we could take to concerts and other shows with lots of crazy lights. A kid that we had absolutely zero worries about. A kid that could be in the car with us on a sunny day with trees all around casting shadows without worrying that it created a strobe-like effect. When she was 11, our new reality set in. Staying up late? Nope. Not if we wanted to help control her seizures. Giving her any over the counter cold medicine to help her with a cough? Nope. Not if we want her seizure medication to work like it’s supposed to. Going to concerts and riding flashy rides and watching 3D movies? Nope. Never again. Can’t chance it. Driving down a tree lined street on a sunny day with not a care in the world? Nope. What if the fast changes in lighting trigger a seizure? Making sure she takes her medication for the rest of her life? Yes. Worrying that she has missed a dose? Yes. Worrying that she got enough sleep? Yes. Seeing her shaky each morning and wondering if it’s the mini seizures we’ve been told about or if she’s just shaky? Yes. (Turns out, her doctor said Hennessy is just shaky at times. It’s like her computer takes a while to kick on). Watching carefully to try to tell the difference between her shakiness and an actual jerk in her arm? Yes. Annoying the ever-loving crap outta her because we stare at her so much? Yes. Putting our trust in her to tell us when something is off? Yes. That one is the toughest, but yes. It’s our new constant worry that we didn’t have for eleven years and now we worry constantly - going on 7 years this May. Her epilepsy is controlled with medication (CBD is not an option for the type of epilepsy she has). My anxiety is controlled with medication. And not to leave him out, Humberto’s heartburn is controlled with medication.

Humberto, the absolute love of my life. My best friend. Or as we call each other, my best-good friend. He has been my rock through it all. He holds me during my anxiety attacks. He lets me scream and cry and get it out of me. He offers anything he can to just help me through it. He tells me she’ll be ok and he’s always been right about that one. He tells me I’m strong. But he is the strong one. He’s the one I lean on for everything. I’m scared of the unknown. He knows to only worry when you need to and not waste time worrying about something that will likely never come. Logically, I know that. But my anxiety lies to me. And he understands that. As a family, we struggle together and help each other. I’m forever grateful that this is my little family. These are the things that can pull families apart. Instead, it has made us stronger.

When Hennessy changed after her seizure, I realized the way we were parenting was not going to work for her. I sat with a therapist and literally said, “I’ve been wrong about all of my choices for her and I need you to help me parent my child that I didn’t know I had.” And they did. And it’s been awesome to be able to talk to her and learn to understand her. As her therapist put it, Hennessy must try twice as hard as anyone else to understand the same things. That is heartbreaking to know. And we now see why she has been such an easy kid.
 
God gave us the newborn that slept through the night at six weeks old and never cried. He gave us the toddler that was never getting into everything and never went through the “terrible twos”. We never had to babyproof the house. He gave us the little girl that could not stand to be dirty. The little girl that peeled stickers off Easter eggs because she thought it looked dirty. The little girl (and now teen) that had to have everything just so. Everything MUST be in its place and God forbid someone touches it or moves it. And He’s given us the teenager that is simply the absolute best-behaved teen any parent could ever ask for (but we still absolutely cannot touch her stuff!). He gave all of that to us because He knew. He knew it was going to be difficult in other ways. We tease her that she took away our parental right to discipline her since she’s always so well behaved. 😊 She never breaks rules. Not even a little bit. But the struggles are still there, in a different form. And as parents, it is hard to “give up” certain things that I planned on enjoying with her the second I knew she was in my belly: her prom, homecoming, dating, graduation pictures, college tours, etc. We have never told her she can’t date. She says she is waiting until she is 18. We’ll never get to see her dressed up for school dances and having a corsage given to her. We’ll never see her walk across a stage in a cap and gown. We’ll never have framed senior pictures of her on my wall. We’ll never have the Class of 2020 stuff all around the house. But it’s ok. We have HER. And we are so, so, so SO proud of her and the sweet, kind, loving person she is.

She always asks us why God made her the way He did, and we just tell her He made her extra special for a reason. We may never know what that is, but it’s there somewhere. I’m a huge believer in everything happening for a reason. There is something bigger than us going on. She was made this way for a reason. She sees other teens her age on TV or in movies or just out at a store and she gets down on herself about why she can’t do the things they do. She wonders about dating and asks about it, but until she comes out of her room and actually goes places, she’ll just have to have patience. She’ll grow up. She’ll mature. She’ll date. And she’ll live her life. She will. When it’s her time. I always tell her she is on Hennessy time and that is the only time she needs to be on. She’ll do things when she is ready. 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parenting,lasersharts,2020/01/26,"My ex gf is pregnant and I don’t think I’m gonna stick around My ex is pregnant which is kind of a world turner. I broke up with her after I came in her when I found out she was lying to me about a guy she was talking too.  I’m super mad because I trusted her enough to want to have kids with her, but obviously she shouldn’t have lied about talking to another guy and her excuse is we only spoke when her and I were broken up but she always initiated the break ups and a day after we broke up she messaged him saying your super cute.  I feel fucking betrayed or used or something. I’m all honesty i was thinking about signing my rights and away I’m trying to talk to my ex about maybe adoption not just for my benefit but for hers and the babies and like I know I’m gonna get threatened with her family coming after me. I just can’t love a baby that came out of a lie. Maybe this makes me horrible but I can’t.  I’m also not gonna go into court for custody or anything. My mom and dad understand my decision but are with helping out finally. My ex if calling me a deadbeat but doesn’t understand that If I stayed I’d be the only one working and supporting the kid financially but I’m not worried because she has “ people that can support it”. Idk if all this makes me horrible, I’ve been told I’m shitty and the scum of the earth and I’m not looking for people to tell me I’m golden. ( my ex did recently say to me if I want to see her baby or anything I’d have to go to court and I won’t be on the birth certificate and I would have wanted a baby with her but after I found out what she did my world shattered.) I know everyone says but once you see the baby everything changes but I don’t think it will.",1.4888164168937337,3.072023054495915,3.640850647138965,89.38658932220709,78.67302452316076,6.440361035422344,23.457850817438693,7.292943589461545,0.86540878746594,1339,44,295,17,32,459,166,367,0.113,0.762,0.125,0.3383,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,2,0,3,11,14,2,0,15,0,29,2,0,3,3,76,73,34,0,9,24,7,1,1,1,7,0,4,0,4,9,29,0,0,11,0,0,5,11,4,0,1,13,8,57,10,44,51,3,33,0,2,3,2,48,16,1,8,11,199,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457873421059775,0.08800339392159474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109018600015478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406808334289173,0.09415160584773408,0.0,0.0,0.0993679390436174,0.0,0.0,0.1289444407565919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799597738687222,0.2419296826520695,0.0,0.0,0.11188336435815807,0.09110556874456294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820846715614941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928158214666127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106119994080133,0.09505307863192712,0.0,0.0997040631752631,0.0,0.053477014685767064,0.0,0.0,0.11585833563874755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319276188628797,0.0,0.09777630638956883,0.05525686848852682,0.0,0.12021524443131985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944424697562314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089079443579067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013602118932556,0.11624929697889727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051670521403599866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881438930364273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954553511146516,0.0,0.14119541667239735,0.0,0.2125065526005792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386849573333175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263427820014935,0.07166783182296049,0.16087524744830115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664567046803326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442832825729402,0.0,0.0,0.09032113232165112,0.0,0.252321250118059,0.0,0.0,0.16855903756299842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142162205230682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127294208301145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400374856581648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255025185015589,0.09244163443406173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330622318388614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106119994080133,0.0,0.07180622055513762,0.0,0.0,0.22020628966279876,0.0,0.09134538378630856,0.0,0.0,0.1871454970668512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699681587015288,0.10740758902790287,0.0,0.07513109071512983,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jurica87,2020/01/26,"DAE just look at the clock and count how many hours until your kids bedtime? Once 7 o clock hits, I know I have a max of two hours until they get tired. Maybe this makes me terrible, but it a time for freedom for us adults. It's time for us to play. Lol",-0.2332121212121229,1.7113308000000025,1.072272727272729,103.70174242424244,86.45454545454545,4.393939393939394,14.62121212121212,5.46131890053228,-1.2557878787878791,194,3,50,1,6,61,45,55,0.067,0.721,0.21100000000000002,0.8909999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,2,0,6,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,1,8,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,8,27,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224684260703443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616890260263901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288244232999345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19684355570519468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15646905915239614,0.2376527667215224,0.2354941904826864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24963670852259226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733702031622352,0.2694173391869781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289824072971331,0.0,0.563927559995757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,remymartinia,2020/01/26,"Sleepovers - They’re the worst, amirite? Maybe I’m in the minority, but I do not like it when my kids have sleepovers. The friend my son has over right now isn’t even that bad. For me, there’s the constant dread that the other kid will be a pill, or my kid will be a pill, or they’ll want to go home, or they’ll misinterpret something that happens and trump up some tale to their parents. Argh. Sorry, just needed to vent.",2.6765780730897006,4.216407255813952,3.0595681063122946,95.00918604651164,75.27906976744187,5.84451827242525,22.75083056478405,6.1826913282559595,0.13475282392026644,328,9,75,2,7,101,64,86,0.16899999999999998,0.768,0.063,-0.8646,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,3,0,5,6,1,1,7,0,10,2,0,0,0,10,15,6,0,2,6,2,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,8,2,7,9,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,4,4,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521745987184934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32637699080628485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948176826024955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23334037851244435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164527598274887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26707583304474386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029513028251752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755201719130356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034203028228081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22394445966868776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33535815202936714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579239556141537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325102253752135,0.0,0.3380873525090053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813958423728518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dogasaur_dogasaur,2020/01/26,"Parents, I know there’s a ton of articles about what to get a FTM but what was something you received (or didn’t and wish you had) at your baby shower? First and foremost, please let me know if there is a better place to ask this.

Second, two friends of mine are due in the next several months. One with a singleton and another with identical twins.

I’m hoping to get them a baby gift and a mom gift because I feel like taking care of mom and making sure she has all the supplies she needs is just as important as making sure baby has all their supplies.

So what was something you found that was extra beneficial that you wish you had received as a shower gift/gift in general? I’ve found some good suggestions online but I was hoping you all would have some additional ideas.

Thank you so much!",4.606363636363636,5.7205084203821706,5.158529241459182,83.49977417486974,69.89171974522293,8.256861609727853,27.011580775911987,8.575989854853784,1.81343821656051,630,20,124,10,11,202,95,157,0.0,0.674,0.326,0.996,3,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,0,8,2,2,6,10,0,0,9,0,15,0,0,2,5,35,34,14,0,7,5,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,6,8,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,9,1,17,10,15,23,8,10,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,6,5,88,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14822199447298495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214690913924096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616808674299492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501612648723506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411982432458892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147282989730627,0.10098332624629357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023564066842694,0.0,0.3099747311789589,0.10920975019145428,0.0,0.14770326224621608,0.0,0.0,0.11856102917737245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807928343318165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595714609678938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553689239662348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454404260253095,0.0,0.06905842460887257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870978601562505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311041940992986,0.11282741465380505,0.0,0.10391145481379296,0.10481220032765687,0.0,0.0,0.15033158322525325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578512905198712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569568895074099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476848449232651,0.15516424480881258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968978581992624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217642431130552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664489453500748,0.0,0.10628061670118498,0.0,0.0,0.13013977220978104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380823190107453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32510024923031705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041382635576973,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kapity,2020/01/26,"best thing to do when family member's kid is depressed? I have a 13yo cousin that I don't see often unless I'm living at home on breaks, but he's clearly depressed. And he clearly has behavioral issues, that I don't feel comfortable diving into, but let's say they're bright red flags to some deeper, potentially dangerous issues. His parents are...the problem, with problems. How can I support him without putting him in danger? E.g., sparking the unpredictable emotions of his defensive parents while helping him get the care he clearly needs but doesn't quite know it",6.749142857142857,8.042056485714287,6.4428571428571475,75.58714285714288,65.0952380952381,8.666666666666668,35.0,8.841846274778883,3.212428571428571,461,21,74,7,7,144,79,105,0.209,0.5670000000000001,0.22399999999999998,0.2321,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,3,12,3,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,3,20,17,8,0,3,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,0,5,9,5,10,16,2,8,0,2,3,0,14,4,0,2,2,45,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886587385686522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183288675968781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309673268691812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202218355406218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947224786238516,0.0,0.0908976986407837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392300989906097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049681731290195,0.0,0.18032512839827855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37526876437931855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879752662037744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838281881896024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874122544046754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329803525269224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992291913595278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440334377879265,0.0,0.1807196661954324,0.0,0.19120875423876868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296123975672245,0.0,0.0,0.1432543373037223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20400217889924965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194319688526025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329298047133795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kate_cuti,2020/01/26,"Helping your kid cope with cruel bullies in middle school. I have a wonderful 13 year old daughter who is in the 7th grade. I know that middle school is hard for everyone but she just confessed to me how intensely she gets bullied from a wide assortment of kids in her school. It’s absolutely breaking my heart. If this was just one stupid kid I could go to the principal but seeing as its random kids, sometimes new ones every day, I really am at a lose as to how to help her. She’s really sensitive and easily affected by these things. She suffers from OCD and paranoia and is also healing from having open heart surgery. It’s just been a rough year. How do you more experienced parents of teens handle this?",4.878832116788324,6.3314796934306585,5.515043795620439,79.92366058394163,69.5839416058394,8.983649635036498,29.028467153284673,9.3871,2.5924283211678842,566,21,105,12,10,183,96,137,0.17600000000000002,0.7509999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.9497,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,7,4,2,0,6,0,10,3,2,4,0,20,15,12,0,2,6,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,9,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,2,4,14,0,18,12,1,15,1,2,1,0,18,8,0,3,5,73,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360814848887046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586350096105665,0.0,0.0,0.1097428281378586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433719794471931,0.16260066174950286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889045784900906,0.0,0.09670911441958407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243508366377198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032944545530964,0.2281170240202897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351864329611928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903719420710097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434713700125206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856032453805654,0.0,0.23061742562707704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889489221911818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802506732628665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5166504563136323,0.13560006742279698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829827304486542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305055982014918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845374917917421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21916232150099174
parenting,sasquattchie,2020/01/26,"Antivaxx in laws bullying us over waiting to see baby until baby has had flu shot We have some in laws who do not vaccinate themselves (and their child has had a couple of vaccines, but not on the CDC schedule because they are very very wary -they are a family that bases their health choices on what they see on social media- but none of them have had flu shots). I have stayed out of this because I don’t know where it is appropriate for me to insert myself into the situation, but they have been bullying my spouse about not being allowed to see our baby until after our baby has had their flu shot. They send texts (and then they’ve talked to other family about it who also send mean texts) to my spouse saying things like “you’re causing a family rift” and “you’re insulting my intelligence as a parent” “and you’re making everyone cry because this is so unfair” and other things of that nature. I feel like we’ve been incredibly fair to them, letting them know we understand their feelings but also, since they are not getting flu shots and it is flu season, we will have to have them wait until our child has their flu shot, and then we will be back to our merry happy social family fun hang times. The thing I am worrying about now is, if they bring this up when we are eventually seeing them again in person, am I okay to speak to them about how they’ve treated us? Do I just let my spouse handle the heat and provide support only? I’m so angry and disappointed with my in laws, we used to be so close and now I feel like I cannot trust them and am deeply unhappy with how they’ve been.",6.659239190944513,6.039158312302844,6.981406568936722,78.22179996288736,65.24605678233438,9.982482835405458,28.426238634254965,9.325443323948027,2.163419150120616,1263,31,249,20,17,411,152,317,0.168,0.73,0.102,-0.9791,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,12,0,19,0,18,11,1,0,8,1,39,7,0,6,0,51,58,30,0,1,10,4,3,3,0,2,7,2,0,3,16,22,0,2,7,0,0,4,7,2,0,0,7,9,46,9,38,44,2,32,0,1,4,0,48,13,0,2,17,185,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950821503585454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630161269323224,0.0,0.20525182791260094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529602848944084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418564172216368,0.1232846281377387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072451354354848,0.0,0.0,0.4232198218490474,0.0,0.17024782070725394,0.16036108869065574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863803663784047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947600298758558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930031549617265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233625922320795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22953531931556026,0.0,0.16449672285299935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491758257754215,0.0,0.0,0.12225657068319395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535960245334775,0.0,0.0,0.1246234334642499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799907479483642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925359636211573,0.0,0.0,0.3577463323789503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284176413028652,0.12615658744399036,0.0,0.2288184342832413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962733483840653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736269049883894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021005925939714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369138849472756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544499877672012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684035699391078,0.2700092259300007,0.09693480842605676,0.0,0.18521088400717492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397986011291962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hitesh012,2020/01/26,"Son vomited up spinach title sums it up, pics also provided . tried using a foam cleaner with a carpet brush, no dice

anyone else have any ideas ?

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parenting,BaseballFanatic1992,2020/01/27,"New born My wife and I just had our first baby ( a boy ) and its been 14 days. He is breast feeding and sleeping through the day after feeding for the most part. I change the diaper, we make sure he is fed and comfy and then usually swaddle him and rock him until he passes out and it works 75% of the time. But come night time, he will pass out on her boob and then as soon as we set him down into the co-sleeper (the little bed thing that sits next to our bed) he will wake up and cry. Now I am trying to explain to my wife that its okay if he cries. She can’t take it though. She will feed him over and over at this point and won’t just let him cry it out. I’m not saying leave him to cry for 40 minutes straight but she gets very emotional and will even cry when he doesn’t sleep. We checked the boxes to make sure he has a clean diaper and he is fed but she thinks there is something more we can do. We have white noise in the background also. She doesn’t agree to let him sit in there and cry for 15 minutes to see if he goes back to sleep. She immediately gives him attention and this goes on all night long for the most part. Am I in the wrong here? Is there any other way to support her? She is a stay at home mom for the next 3 months while I continue to work. I know its not easy, but I just feel like as first time parents she is so overly emotionally wanting him to stop crying that she gives into his crying immediately.",2.6276870342772014,3.4445553409836087,3.6286214605067073,93.73980253353209,74.27868852459017,6.725782414307004,21.404619970193746,6.782984794422108,0.12945901639344282,1109,23,267,9,22,357,160,305,0.107,0.818,0.075,-0.9261,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,0,4,15,6,0,0,14,1,25,11,6,2,3,51,42,32,0,3,11,4,1,1,0,5,0,1,4,1,13,26,5,1,5,1,1,3,6,1,0,2,4,4,37,5,40,31,6,55,0,0,2,2,47,20,1,4,28,178,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313739131106066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053689646820630516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070873904350128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352009311335708,0.06800962438288014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6937950829997414,0.10183421924575994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761935538440282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214664291371707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03992019074151086,0.0564028827633729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431200964920134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041248838268222635,0.15147471864488432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919467300921154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04338961454966226,0.0,0.0,0.08359811339496193,0.0,0.1614662735345136,0.0,0.038571657043040115,0.07913002559761935,0.0,0.0698694882275883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540132052078396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246690387626863,0.06301823952294898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625173629011332,0.1679313799509037,0.14818104656599995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766616595890793,0.17099330495210846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463457491816991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278530749479952,0.0,0.0,0.06291402923536132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160335972235953,0.0,0.0,0.060780630742209005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415166792988436,0.0,0.06600689019496976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959309218075111,0.14882148554258198,0.0,0.05936161331421709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245178974301224,0.05058885738808826,0.0775693315269472,0.0,0.13811155649759016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360280557603785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869537926237545,0.06514315824650585,0.04656757040523394,0.06266793179987183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495509216761003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632094174291154,0.0,0.0
parenting,BBCompilations,2020/01/27,"A parent I know grounded their child for being gay       I was talking to a friend of mine and I found out that her daughter was grounded. I asked her why and it turns out it's because her daughter told her she was gay. 
      I was wondering what other people's thoughts on this were.",2.337142857142858,4.236899857142856,3.1065714285714314,92.73842857142859,77.21428571428572,5.194285714285715,25.485714285714288,5.6839178017228535,0.5683542857142854,216,8,45,1,5,68,38,56,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.4939,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,0,8,13,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,12,1,6,4,0,5,0,0,0,2,14,5,0,1,0,34,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895688408218974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881707605978645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396183239404897,0.23930745694601915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022720964757085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34393407193339354,0.0,0.0,0.21473749897345207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489605056446912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459021484590432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959736792675965,0.0,0.0,0.3369125421159895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794957951323318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359041705042926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theladywiththelocks,2020/01/27,"Am I a bad parent for shaving my daughters head? I'm a 43 year old single mother of a 17 year old girl. Me and my daughter had always prided ourselves on having long hair, longer than knee length. But recently I discovered that she'd been bullying a girl with cancer. So in a rage, I shaved my daughter bald. It's been 3 days and she refuses to speak to me or leave the house. Did I make the right decision? Am I a bad parent?",0.5369662921348315,2.7425429775280925,2.7304382022471927,91.33857865168541,85.51685393258427,5.807191011235956,20.135955056179775,7.1686216300943375,0.5488103370786521,331,10,71,5,10,112,64,89,0.235,0.765,0.0,-0.9679,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,8,0,8,5,4,1,0,8,10,5,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,12,1,8,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,7,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18016191596982867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36157017325772295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963743420129138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222119008110954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498349136654648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292633290656301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161331303601054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452872588369162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544024605839839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4808394887861309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137872968526912,0.0,0.0,0.1849068260495812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27886345529161394
parenting,squiggly-lime,2020/01/27,"What do you do when your child isn't thriving socially at school? My daughter is five and has been going to kindergarten for several months now. She has recently told me that she hates going to school. She has been mean to her classmates by hitting, poking, biting, pulling hair, and tripping them. None of her classmates like her anymore and she says that none of them are her friends. 

Her teacher and I had a conference to talk about what to do about all of his. We decided on a tally mark reward system at home for good behavior. I've also made a list of friendly behaviors for the teacher to help remind my daughter to work on practicing them a school one at a time. If she is seen using these behaviors her teacher will tell me and she will ean her tally.

But seriously, I am at a loss emotionally. I'm drained a bit from the stress of this and I wonder if she is in the right place. She is only five years old. Her class size is about 30 or so kids with an average of two to three adults in the room at a time. Do you think the reward system will work? Do you think she should change class/school? Do you think she should wait to go to public school until first grade? What would you do?",3.0631512605041986,4.861695105042016,3.627470588235294,90.25061764705885,74.84033613445378,6.776806722689076,23.664705882352944,7.554174236665415,0.9232514285714286,937,28,196,12,20,294,129,238,0.05,0.858,0.09300000000000001,0.9111,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,6,3,6,7,10,1,1,14,0,27,1,1,2,1,25,43,14,0,5,4,2,1,1,2,6,0,1,2,3,7,8,0,1,6,0,0,5,3,4,0,6,6,3,36,6,35,30,4,29,0,1,1,0,43,12,0,4,11,142,43,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888416663538206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262919424634275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349955582890696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308070326208903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13909144463198267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517801628714103,0.0,0.0,0.19106589062102697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108222186121991,0.10371312356729867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208038840392453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288108347009274,0.0,0.1240326703378634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060409942242555276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117002165388572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469287859937376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869755415384174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297515889140234,0.0,0.08378954698863512,0.09404263923231457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291896390982677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209107063646205,0.0,0.0,0.1055978193874583,0.0,0.09833274197190077,0.0,0.6257102727353223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969114981618544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604726853526946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164252839832622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993864991662046,0.10807697784485708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376929217368988,0.0,0.0,0.14420452374721615,0.0,0.0,0.11815443478303665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078967864386382,0.0,0.0,0.10679531014507036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340949219045796,0.18003972374285115,0.0,0.0,0.08783857269930638,0.0,0.0,0.07962759789557564
parenting,oprahclear,2020/01/27,Advice on conflict at school My daughter is 9 years old and lately I am hearing a lot of story’s about arguments at school. I’m sure a lot of this may be normal development for her age but I need advice on how to get her to avoid it and how to deal with it. She is very sensitive so gets upset but can also be argumentative. I don’t want to teach her to walk away from every confrontation but I also don’t want her to argue her way through everything (she can be a bit stroppy which I have seen when she with friends) does anybody have any advice having been through this or anything that could maybe help?,4.590241935483872,5.098470927419357,5.395322580645161,83.98798387096777,69.56451612903226,8.135483870967743,27.596774193548388,8.07648339933343,1.5847451612903232,481,15,100,6,8,157,82,124,0.152,0.784,0.064,-0.9065,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,7,6,2,2,3,0,16,0,0,2,1,21,24,12,0,5,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,2,14,2,20,17,3,12,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,4,5,73,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47780181420047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26067844430309856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083553911367362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341229494392265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531299800431965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793764826062314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301304365434674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803060593971994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262946501931406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732207797966325,0.0,0.14648060706544674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259219772517499,0.0,0.17030610175347385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836961891941095,0.0,0.10924555788999472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838544281463475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771284125557684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637405609493989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085147601040686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596909112993363,0.0,0.0,0.17102557211550748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298994895361715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361164170921396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447987631470953,0.19226581200362025,0.1293700818964738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495713848481857
parenting,illusiveheart,2020/01/27,"When do your start teaching a child to wipe their bum? I have a 4 year who has been potty trained for about 2 years now. He's going into preschool this coming fall and I feel like he should know how to wipe his own butt by the time he's there.
 I'm wondering if anyone has found an easy way to teach their little one how to wipe their butt without making a mess. I'm finding it a little difficult to do. He willingly tries and doesn't do too bad, I'm just wondering if there is an easier way that I just don't know about.",3.7699107142857136,3.8219468839285753,4.662500000000001,90.1325,71.23214285714286,8.185714285714287,24.035714285714285,7.957251820313856,0.9034142857142866,409,9,96,5,7,133,73,112,0.021,0.8540000000000001,0.125,0.8736,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,3,0,11,4,0,0,7,0,12,2,2,3,0,20,25,7,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,7,0,0,3,3,3,0,1,2,1,8,1,11,21,1,14,0,0,0,2,11,3,2,4,7,57,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472826652999044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587354728364474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18144558929826105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650466900410886,0.15047950042342992,0.0,0.0,0.19251889523224167,0.0,0.0,0.2309531901233485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971016793513545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315217663037021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290686216679916,0.4222283024212898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406021933531125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273344821879266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909033471974298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282444328038138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300906282071146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33438854922990324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030470716180964,0.4568548531397695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712873390413857
parenting,GK_Fire,2020/01/27,"To decorate or not decorate? My son is turning 3, and all the birthdays I've done before for my babies I've stressed over having awesome decorations. 

But this time around, I'd rather not spend money on that stuff BUT I also don't want the place to look boring... 

What could I do? I have no theme so maybe just colors? Is it even okay to not do decorations for a party?!?! I'm at a loss.",0.5591944444444437,2.773071975000001,2.7741666666666696,91.0052777777778,85.5,5.555555555555557,18.88888888888889,6.937597516519254,0.2188472222222222,298,8,65,4,9,101,59,80,0.126,0.77,0.10300000000000001,0.4958,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,4,1,9,0,0,0,1,13,13,6,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,0,1,2,5,1,9,11,1,6,0,1,2,0,1,5,0,1,1,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350355779953264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616376008242218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25009135430942153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346590831439487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007666719556619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19412136141890726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24680602658709455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29526689471319273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30706798195945223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33666697777385185,0.0,0.3364507022528108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137826378940368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31968404675797146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335267737162302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,clyde2003,2020/01/27,"Left-handed Redditors, I suspect my 14 month old is going to be left-handed. What can I do to make his life easier as he grows up? I'm right-handed, so is my wife. The only thing I do left-handed is shoot pool and swing a baseball bat. Everything else I do right-handed. Was there anything you wished your parents, friends, siblings, would have done as you were growing up to make your life easier?",2.695135623869799,4.650371316455697,3.7481374321880665,88.2913924050633,76.34177215189874,6.53960216998192,22.678119349005428,7.447530270364453,0.9029840867992768,310,9,62,4,7,100,54,79,0.059000000000000004,0.8009999999999999,0.139,0.7319,1,0,0,1,0,0,16.0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,13,2,0,2,0,6,18,4,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,11,1,7,13,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,2,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753393744736385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959035293875956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991861041629887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204860828948565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790149613145834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087963998498088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6239810675048694,0.0,0.27043110562053696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555674711958301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280085709094485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008778653630192,0.0,0.0,0.14559424497382895,0.0,0.0,0.21256489228836672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269673184441392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718029715456652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013974562518676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598927865201665,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrComedyKing,2020/01/27,"Forcing toddler to potty before Nap Our daughter shed the diapers over a year ago. She’s currently 2 and 3 months and was potty trained very early.

However we haven’t conquered the sleep time diaper yet.  My wife is forcing her to try and potty for 10-20 minutes at a time.  All the while she is screaming her head off and crying.  

She is incredibly strong willed and stubborn. Not much of a cuddle bug and very independent.  I worry that my wife’s approach is not healthy and I can’t stand to hear her scream for so long in protest... am I wrong to worry? Is this approach typical to shed the final bedtime diaper?",3.021545454545453,5.202427700000001,4.299545454545457,83.66727272727275,76.16666666666666,7.03030303030303,27.57575757575757,8.00094639256281,1.9209166666666675,484,20,91,8,11,159,80,120,0.18600000000000005,0.785,0.028999999999999998,-0.9557,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,2,2,6,2,0,7,0,10,3,2,1,1,13,11,9,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,8,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,3,13,1,12,9,2,18,0,0,0,1,12,4,0,0,11,58,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083284180734925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19278690178944896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24886684952971835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24818673017326856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23251716328645766,0.0,0.255350948446512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049954044958404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083899545873647,0.0,0.1665485570403299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267248287391204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642193257839411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538201890043378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738734495754238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460167810449959,0.0,0.0,0.2477091158053624,0.0,0.14589799045863788
parenting,SmallScience,2020/01/27,"Any advice for supporting an independent preschooler? Our daughter just started preschool (moved up from the toddler room at daycare). They really promote independence and she is ALL about it. We have another on the way - due in about a month - and this new independent streak could really be a godsend for us! I'm wondering what kind of things people have done to make it more possible (and safe) for a kid her age to do things on her own. 

She has a stool in the kitchen she just started using to get her own cups and things but she almost fell a few times because they were pretty high up. I just moved all her plates and cups and things to a low shelf that she can reach any time, and moved some snacks in easy to open containers down there too. The bathroom is already set up so she can go on her own (she INSISTS now that she needs no help for peeing). Most of her toys are in bins she can reach. Any other ideas or things she could be doing herself?",5.226853832442068,5.851394069518719,5.063970588235296,86.51203431372551,68.19786096256685,8.372370766488414,27.88279857397505,8.344100000000001,1.6326188948306588,749,23,156,10,12,231,115,187,0.027999999999999997,0.8640000000000001,0.10800000000000001,0.9279,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,2,1,9,4,0,0,11,0,17,3,1,5,2,31,27,10,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,12,9,2,2,2,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,0,23,3,26,21,9,32,0,1,0,0,25,16,0,5,9,115,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326136381970327,0.0,0.0,0.13655708836846048,0.0,0.15049014575958802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782133762724653,0.14299817257058156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313124500829346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177642562189178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955613764519426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124886107159979,0.0,0.0775034804130634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140743046377528,0.1440847472434419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394764720282858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420106909302387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102952177363326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885101208308187,0.4348262923894123,0.0,0.10111827980218116,0.0,0.13170914851165444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454333269083036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373919784023635,0.0,0.13873958354617644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747270837551772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930499311134492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475358933148506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4529982464058461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903948675745685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403900036040933,0.11778182037720784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824592773788078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788986504937784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,girlwhoweighted,2020/01/27,"It's crazy to me, now, to think about the money we wasted buying baby things new! don't get me wrong, i did it too! but when i look at how much of our baby stuff looks practically new now that my kids have outgrown it, it's crazy!  then i go online to maybe try to sell some of it.  and there is SO MUCH OUT THERE that is practically new, looks amazing, and people are nearly giving it away for free.  and yet, new parents, and many second time parents, still spend $800 on a new crib being sold practically untouched on facebook for $120.  honestly, i want to go back in time and kick myself in the ass for not figuring this out sooner lol

did you buy new or used with your kids?  how did you unload the stuff once they had outgrown it?",3.181914509331726,4.200355860927154,4.220590006020468,89.25281155930166,73.17218543046356,6.815412402167366,21.674292594822397,6.980632752743323,0.3847033112582777,569,12,125,5,11,185,98,151,0.07,0.78,0.15,0.9356,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,3,1,0,13,4,0,0,4,1,10,1,1,3,0,19,21,12,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,13,9,0,0,2,0,7,2,2,1,0,1,5,3,14,4,21,15,3,26,0,0,3,1,11,9,1,2,15,87,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611294948586005,0.09502986986478468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456849202375846,0.11855478327686612,0.14047334319731716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113428978628022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125296627586843,0.12415857088821358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169960065302246,0.0,0.0,0.7161597513749416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161486874845568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744548634637286,0.0,0.0,0.0856788491904851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869579838382868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829524007872353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210492973477558,0.07918880559771409,0.0,0.0,0.1441277752053043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390666185025163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673847153748946,0.0,0.0,0.07289412076830637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512169729891071,0.0,0.0
parenting,mizker78,2020/01/27,"“Because I said so, that’s why” This is a phrase I alway heard from my mom and vowed never to say and now find myself saying pretty often. What is a phrase you promised to never use and now you do?",6.115714285714287,4.0697386666666695,6.647619047619048,84.80571428571429,67.0952380952381,8.4,25.761904761904763,3.1291,0.6066761904761901,152,2,34,0,2,50,32,42,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.6908,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,2,8,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,6,1,3,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24346869705901994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836775143002642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674333589722206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426924794482807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.451346130405441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29768190707357955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278331956689403,0.4653784607540559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25271458953756737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26402822007537097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alexis_le_trotteur,2020/01/27,"Not sure if I want a second child and feeling depressed. *english is not my first language.

I'm not even sure what I want from this post but I need to talk. So basically, all I could think these days is having a second child even if I always said I would only have one. Our daughter is 2 and a half, my bf always thought he would like to have more, but since her birth he is feeling unsure (he had unrealistic expectations about parenthood and thought it would be way easier). When he talk about having another one, it's more about giving our daughter a sibling rather than something he want for himself or us. 

We are very lucky and our daughter is awesome. I wont brag, but life as been pretty kind to us. Now that she's more like a ""real"" person (talk, very curious, ask questions about anything, etc.), my bf enjoy being a parent way more and he's very involved, but still unsure about another one. As for me, for the past 6 months or so, the idea of a second child seem to grow bigger and bigger in my mind. I feel upset and depress when my daughter is at daycare and I'm outperforming in my work. when I have time for myself, i will do nothing but sleep (i'm not sleep deprived). I kinda loss interest for anything unrelated to parenthood. it's NOT me at ALL. some friends just invited me to a girls weekend trip and I almost said no, but I changed my mind because I can see myself falling into the path of depression. 

On the other end, I know life will be very different with another kid. having just one allowed us to have some free time from time to time when the other parent stayed home. And that kept me SANE. I also love our dynamic right now, LO is so independent and can do so much by herself. I sometime felt a bit of resentment toward my bf when LO was born up until she was around one because he wasn't as involved as I hoped and he didn't really liked the baby stage, but now things are perfect. Basically, I don't want to want another baby. 

Are there other parents who felt like that? what happened? Did you had another kid or not? did the feeling ever went away? I know those questions were asked 3632534 times already but I need some encouragement.

thanks for reading.",3.649882625904191,5.26178751972158,4.685610072335199,84.04726866384604,72.87470997679814,7.297966425549338,27.293639961785175,7.928766900206844,1.6761996178517813,1715,63,335,24,34,560,207,431,0.091,0.735,0.175,0.9942,7,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,8,1,0,4,27,25,1,1,16,0,42,5,2,2,6,84,76,40,0,16,22,7,6,4,4,6,2,2,1,7,16,16,0,1,15,2,1,4,11,7,0,10,18,9,49,19,43,48,12,46,0,5,1,1,55,13,0,15,28,240,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061637846183083,0.0,0.0778214387455379,0.05639544547993301,0.11735788316710227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697359541801216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606519293038148,0.06277844902730548,0.13185482685285618,0.0,0.0662565979627236,0.0,0.0,0.08597763074252368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699043139632693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460163874125908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630510768918045,0.0,0.0,0.04548007163593185,0.0,0.1822183437515392,0.0,0.0,0.07367920968786984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246048293925732,0.0,0.07864931547843355,0.09315662545870433,0.06379008651182833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262970919528678,0.0,0.13542202353606675,0.0,0.0,0.05998494283802335,0.0,0.0,0.05448418277783941,0.0,0.0,0.06764996192857638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062361296385646775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707380962572285,0.07004305055923206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960938130762166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343654449703378,0.07751275720833004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962183056178424,0.13781157166437255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636477608679993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241177723235182,0.0,0.05628901697487832,0.0,0.051840890459512415,0.1045805355288952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766659419637171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389335416260193,0.053634234014137055,0.0,0.0,0.2349149551529339,0.0,0.0673200679133853,0.0,0.061576028468359335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753941731912083,0.07174498999933568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579988350212539,0.0,0.07053986791766413,0.08026809114730657,0.045177420013142865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06022436421013792,0.13416282934683652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056195934484929634,0.06419947317088688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05833552125984402,0.0,0.14114342651759273,0.0,0.0,0.05429034485081268,0.06974685857985083,0.0,0.0,0.07516577264657809,0.05631798919140965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293000866649726,0.0,0.0,0.17004580467881222,0.0,0.06492606313368286,0.0,0.0,0.046850875326848576,0.04518687087761007,0.0,0.11197125048324813,0.20560618129424385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254483460441732,0.0,0.0,0.2327481293094149,0.20797492764491554,0.11195223172106884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537347327807196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05133997064464886,0.0,0.0,0.1502878248233029,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iseenollamas,2020/01/27,"Super proud parenting moment I am so proud of my 4yr old. We recently started pocket money for 'chores' and he can earn himself 20p a day, payable weekly. The idea os to start teaching him young the value of money. Well today, he was told not to keep jumping on the sofa (bouncing on and off rather than using it like a trampoline). He was told that if he did it once more, no pocket money today. He did it again and we told him he wouldn't be earning his pocket money today. I expected some sulking or grumping or attempt to change our minds but instead he calmly accepted that he had lost his 20p for the day. He looked disappointed and apologised for bouncing, but no sulking, no grumping, just acceptance. He only just turned 4 and I am so impressed with his emotional maturity (we told him how proud we were of his reaction as we are big believers in positive reinforcement). Anyway, I felt the need to share our success today! Parenting wins feel so good!",5.160494505494505,6.542122192307692,6.078791208791209,76.4162087912088,68.83516483516482,8.896703296703297,31.032967032967033,9.265573868473778,2.898107692307692,757,31,132,15,13,250,111,182,0.09,0.6579999999999999,0.252,0.9888,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,7,0,0,10,11,16,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,2,0,33,26,15,0,5,9,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,11,0,1,5,0,4,1,5,2,1,0,12,3,20,14,17,12,2,20,0,2,1,0,32,5,0,4,15,88,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047845652673686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129071695824993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722726748949945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502390929681025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753287934345129,0.0,0.1282403116083676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120253345190781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077506005690092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871590010907145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652515685115693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215830711660044,0.0,0.1457985257228756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485938410981055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990344119383479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015068346720289,0.14223900051870114,0.0,0.10157979777960148,0.0,0.0,0.2966092344869311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187620389204613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890715154565615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5064040290397751,0.5104962468088562,0.0,0.0,0.1452769285757509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535454658548586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713525165090568,0.0,0.12008813421245855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Diascha,2020/01/27,"What do I do about my daughter not sleeping properly? My daughter is 20 months old soon and she still wants to be breastfed basically whenever she is tired which is mostly at night. I usually put her to bed at 7 o clock. She wants milk then. She doesn't sleep longer than usually 2 and a half hours RARELY longer but never more than 4 hours before she wakes up just like when she was a baby demanding milk again.

My boyfriend/father of the baby tried to ""help"" and thought offering her food at night would do the trick. Yes now she wakes up always between 12 and 2 am and wants to be let out of her room to go watch TV (also what he implemented in her routine) and eat something and then demands milk after being awake around 2 hours of playing, eating and watching TV shows.

Okay so what I've tried is to not offer her milk so maybe she forgets it. This worked sometimes! Yay
but mostly it lead to her pulling at my clothes and if I didn't react with instantly breastfeeding, screaming until I fed her.

I've tried giving her the passifier but she will just pull it out and pull at my shirt and scream if I don't make any indication of breastfeeding her.

I got her a montessori bed with a normal sized mattress and made it very obvious this was HER bed and HER room, I'm even asking her for permission to enter every single time, trying to get her to maybe want to be ""like the big girls"". I've been saying stuff like big girls don't need milk, babies need milk. I'm Not saying she shouldn't like it or doesn't need it, but hoping one day she will say herself of her own accord that she is a big girl and doesn't need milk.


For the other issues I've banned my boyfriend to partake in taking care of her at night since he can't deal with her crying and bends to her every will. 

For the getting up at night and playing and eating, I've been basically acting as a broken record on repeat. It's sleeping time. I won't open the door. We will stay in bed. We will not go out of your room. We will not watch TV at night. She usually stands at the door calling for her dad for 5 minutes, demanding food or to be let out and I refuse. She will cry but eventually (if she cries I of course will get up after a while and hug her if she wants me to or try and soothe her) she will come back to bed and sleep while being breastfed.


I have the feeling that she doesn't get enough sleep. I want her to sleep through the night and rest. Of course I know when she is sick or in pain I will not do these things like ""ordering"" her to bed. I run around with her in my arms and rock her and play with her if something keeps her from sleeping like pain from growing or teething. I know though that 99% is simply because it's her routine now. But I repeat, I know very well when she does this for her routine or for other reasons. I react depending on that. 



Everyone I know has told me that I should be happy that I still breastfeed her. That it's the reason she never had more than a cough without a fever or a running nose that she is so healthy and never gets sick.

Could be, I don't know. 


That their children didn't want milk after they turned between 7 and 10 months old because they wanted only solids. Honestly I wish. She wanted solids too but never stopped with the milk entirely. I enjoy every second of it, I love cuddling with her and having such an easy way to soothe her (let's be frank it really is) but I would also like to have my body back and for her to sleep and be energetic in the mornings. I'm at a loss where to go from here. 


What can I do? Please help.",3.9735749183394304,4.617264830369359,4.514072978028421,89.2701485245261,71.0109439124487,7.390055557106564,24.904687456377893,7.290443533043144,0.8740842625422265,2785,73,610,26,49,885,285,731,0.075,0.774,0.151,0.9956,0,0,2,0,0,0,65.0,3,1,3,3,28,26,1,0,25,3,64,40,15,8,5,124,110,64,0,26,29,3,1,7,0,15,7,5,12,4,33,47,15,4,9,8,0,14,23,6,1,3,12,10,101,20,91,69,8,101,0,1,3,3,87,37,0,16,53,413,134,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877840425382334,0.04566924385677434,0.0,0.0,0.03732411287904523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771970046514204,0.05131065829350141,0.0,0.0,0.08440732852552345,0.0,0.06691554548606066,0.0,0.04670363157866085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06096556572257227,0.0,0.0,0.05604436837090542,0.0,0.055959561274691434,0.0,0.0,0.04727911334206604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043821712253922784,0.0,0.18086787346069752,0.03539669302329701,0.056584678103981524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048030787731351034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848511580878084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671153124567529,0.0,0.036251443278761786,0.0,0.1387305402297363,0.05244557486801808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027751825419284254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132735851747375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337739087725124,0.052651300872879225,0.09357831105003236,0.0,0.043897054996788684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584267774400489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357736637232451,0.0,0.0,0.054513818247850496,0.1621538793443001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728634162412484,0.0,0.048784872884878976,0.0,0.0,0.1508185439029155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837283656460655,0.0,0.1877004369857652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049536427099311164,0.05193411348354708,0.036636586545830144,0.0,0.11027999193445684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761837801806703,0.0,0.0,0.1627880071061134,0.16932473654550168,0.0,0.0,0.3090386938309621,0.05377626749287595,0.0,0.0,0.11518647917245495,0.0,0.03719192570146917,0.041742997507466136,0.1168043675079726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060247943721220165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05517522116711453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0351611422380955,0.11286314482590218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094177608825305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04540196319210147,0.0,0.4394021698727824,0.0,0.0,0.0845072842539192,0.054283294939662975,0.0,0.0,0.05850078253016248,0.08766347560115675,0.04588684721027307,0.0,0.0,0.06283091906870061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04126716578010177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03646357607112948,0.0,0.053924856230407575,0.04357306220312667,0.064008508528512,0.0630829616892973,0.0,0.05244557486801808,0.0,0.1863187117469342,0.0596998084263532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181346313302792,0.09057279142897284,0.2913567180099181,0.04356566114523112,0.0,0.0,0.04934877600350528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311576982028518,0.052907792082100426,0.0,0.03995739486254399,0.0,0.0,0.07797835856539022,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,butwhatthewhat,2020/01/27,"I hate my life, I love me life This is the response I get from my 7yr old whenever she fails at something, or she gets what she wants.  Her teacher has called for a conference with the school counselor because of disrupting the class with the “my life sucks” because she’s not doing well in a certain subject. No matter what me and her father say to the contrary, try and look at the bright side of life etc. she doesn’t want to hear it. We’re looking at family counseling but hoping someone else who has experienced this with their own kids can chime in?",6.622966360856267,6.251773146788992,6.326192660550461,82.06372324159024,65.23853211009174,9.468501529051991,32.84556574923548,8.841846274778883,2.49145749235474,439,16,88,6,6,137,78,109,0.081,0.8109999999999999,0.10800000000000001,0.4576,0,0,1,0,0,1,8.0,0,0,1,1,1,8,2,0,8,0,6,5,0,0,1,13,17,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,6,16,5,14,17,2,7,0,1,3,1,15,6,1,2,1,59,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302810534288279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19286932645410254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577864174553526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106530159462996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806084980798398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736577723015414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864815672128274,0.0,0.0,0.2128833951410278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760213940358186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5336509017090064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31722610154382025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704731020672318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19819956313526735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020630316625974,0.0,0.19115835689313312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600388452540163,0.14541035494103355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282382708021828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228146321839416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982732548863014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onebaglife,2020/01/27,"Why do we let our kids use phones for six hours per day. Imagine that someone invented awesome VR-glasses. Imagine that someone strapped them onto the head of his 8-year old for 6 hours a day to let himself enjoy life with his new girlfriend.

Most people would call that child abuse.

Today I read that the average 8-year kid old spends 6 hours in front of a his phone. Five times more than they play games. And every year this number inches up. No one is reporting the parents for child abuse. Sure, everyone agrees that this is too much, but on the other hand, don’t we deserve some peace and quiet after a long day, and how else to keep the kid quiet?

What is your thoughts?",4.283587786259542,5.863988236641222,3.931213740458016,90.21025572519085,71.21374045801527,6.461374045801527,25.31374045801527,6.742157984588678,0.8443276335877856,533,16,106,4,10,160,94,131,0.049,0.8059999999999999,0.145,0.9068,1,1,0,0,2,0,17.0,3,1,2,0,2,3,0,0,8,0,8,3,2,2,1,17,11,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,5,9,6,0,1,3,3,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,3,11,3,14,7,4,20,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,2,14,64,20,2,0.0,0.33771559357041203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455244610018052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757325038996654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190535777551972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007562150170928,0.13617985600423407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462622210570065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210477622793805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667449982894505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914639121425021,0.10066305158795062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612190727157932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476543547259487,0.0,0.0,0.13764254838038542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990925008795199,0.0,0.09657232472505152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824681609101166,0.0,0.0,0.09880244000506166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14255426392309148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24150617543100386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343193579612404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314154438039745,0.08310204908988499,0.0,0.13508821697649384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308780439929105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859824978050632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123906228127752,0.0,0.0,0.27532630921457457
parenting,SummerCouchIsBesty,2020/01/27,"What to feed my kids I need help.  I'm not very good and planning meals and find myself feeding the usual to my children: pasta with butter, PB&J, nuggets, french fries, their favorite fruits (apples, grapes) and one of them will eat cucumber and carrots.

The older child is in the 50%, but the younger one is 80% in weight.  The doctor didn't say it in many words, but pretty much the gist was, he's going to be overweight if we continue down this path.

How do parents come up with healthy and balanced meals for picky eaters?  I'm really desperate and find myself very helpless.",7.304575757575755,7.0134526090909075,6.363636363636362,82.09212121212124,63.81818181818181,8.787878787878787,32.878787878787875,7.793537801064563,2.2239696969696956,457,16,86,4,6,138,84,110,0.106,0.7979999999999999,0.096,-0.2938,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,7,10,0,1,0,19,12,10,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,3,10,9,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,2,4,8,1,12,8,1,10,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,1,3,50,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23360557222413364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857227440832964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22067862859770435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22061551661515266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39411415453744797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253205475851535,0.18083742149827026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445140297600706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185874256721124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849288491371027,0.1598667638120589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921961098992593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394014237380286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193455849679276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812069135721305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714560211419581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23745605303767564,0.3557898229133294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625461587005538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,terracottatilefish,2020/01/27,"Little kids, little nightmares My oldest kiddo has always slept like a rock but my six-year old has bad dreams once a month or so and has started telling about them if he wakes up.

Last month he was screaming ""Mom! Mooom! MOOOOM!"" and I raced in there only to have him tell me ""I dreamed I made necklaces and nobody liked them but you.""  

Last night it was ""Mom, mommy! \*sob\*.""  When I went in to check on him he told me tearfully ""I dreamed my dad gave me cookies and I dropped them on the ground."" 

Usually all it takes is a hug to get him to go back to sleep.  I know that dreams can sometimes be very upsetting out of proportion to their content (my own most memorable bad dream involved being a superhero and trying to fit change in the nonexistent pockets of my super-suit, and it definitely wasn't funny at the time) but I'm glad that his life is still innocent enough that these are the stuff his nightmares are made of.",2.6076664511958607,4.7611117252747315,3.1083710407239837,91.8454524886878,77.35164835164834,6.260374919198449,23.343244990303806,7.285733465282438,0.8159026502908855,722,23,150,9,17,224,119,182,0.098,0.736,0.166,0.9196,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,4,0,6,9,0,1,8,0,14,5,3,2,1,18,26,13,0,1,5,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,8,7,0,0,2,6,1,2,1,5,0,0,9,1,25,4,19,15,4,28,0,1,0,1,22,12,1,3,15,94,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611739786641155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654706467091297,0.25310726271920964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033971132933791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661110510511164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918845123437293,0.0,0.08614005174084731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329825808672937,0.2470976313382723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705753803731463,0.14809773613114416,0.3038235468580029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28683615930165274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35503113376360584,0.24196156773624966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223706742414938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904597707138046,0.16141584368689427,0.0,0.11527491546161915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167827842465492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990543585253008,0.0,0.1072811889611386,0.0,0.12104305323530745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735100332151482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396088759057148,0.0,0.26495565386327913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838099621533911,0.0,0.0,0.14483050020941785,0.0,0.1029052776658126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693163870592226,0.12506014779161792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405058120821829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976053489220899
parenting,kayceleee,2020/01/27,"I feel like I’m failing as a parent and I’m super overwhelmed. So I am mom (f23) of  4 ( soon to be 5 ) kids. my oldest is 5 I have a set of twins that are 3 and my current youngest is a year and half and they are all girls. I am also married ( M27) but he’s mostly works all day and leaves me home. Now my kids really haven’t been behaving the best lately my oldest daughter recently got expelled from kindergarten for slapping/kicking and bit the teacher and  my 3 youngest are following in her foot steps when comes to tantrums hitting and screaming to get there way and I will admit I’m a pushover parent, I let my oldest get away with a lot of stuff because I kinda feel bad I can’t give her the time that I feel like she deserves because I’m always taking care of the younger ones.my husband is more of the disciplinary but I feel like he can be rough with the girls, he would sometime manhandle them or litterly scream/ threaten them and I sometimes get scared myself and I will step in because then they look at me in a helpless way and I can’t help it .then my husband would say “ my mom never questioned my father “. I’m just at a lost to know what to do. My children are out of control my husband just wants to get a nanny but I feel bad if my kids behavior isn’t the best to have someone else take care of them like they can’t respect me or the teacher so how on earth can the respect someone else.",1.8173389142567231,3.734328349315071,3.0140791476407927,92.71549720953831,78.86301369863014,5.421816336884831,26.22577371892441,6.238725200709706,0.8192986808726537,1106,45,236,8,27,356,150,292,0.109,0.7290000000000001,0.162,0.9484,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,6,7,10,21,1,2,17,0,27,1,1,2,3,43,55,26,0,4,8,9,6,4,0,4,0,3,1,6,5,16,0,1,8,0,0,4,6,10,0,1,3,10,39,11,27,44,8,30,0,4,1,0,32,8,0,7,19,154,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742455905534191,0.09096444846067414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271137699336526,0.0,0.18255817947521816,0.19992456107903428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294528510977336,0.0,0.11935103019444095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22292160752289453,0.0,0.0,0.0941710023130324,0.0,0.0,0.12261363153782034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705034808172851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826485782440876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763817921924766,0.23429842693742345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22846439628003665,0.1048713782005838,0.0,0.0,0.08743458528355842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327606049530266,0.0,0.109658622625883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06008037140617405,0.0,0.12331968877624162,0.1157559419173006,0.0,0.11178888985544097,0.0,0.21363632795078213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180273144437218,0.0,0.1193375974194022,0.09294143723377647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560726102467051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431566832437158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24277771836567186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246537256191956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003430844982635,0.0,0.1079420333726925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693703855840686,0.10945013692044578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852559175934317,0.0,0.21624400002331506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514724170353905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439269222388656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374638797772401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448079694801971,0.17354902351039167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958753153425673,0.0,0.0,0.15531806046570287,0.0,0.0,0.07039961878149548
parenting,Gshaw1995,2020/01/27,"Need help with the child care conundrum Need some advice because I refuse to believe I have a unique situation. Someone has gone through this before and any and all advice is appreciated.

My husband and I are expecting our first child in April. I will be on maternity leave for at least three months, if we can afford it, it will be four months. We currently live in Point A and the original plan was to move closer to my job in Point B  (approx. 45 mins- 1 hour) to cut down on my commute. After doing some looking over our finances, we figured it would be better for us to go ahead and move to the area because rent is cheaper over there (roughly $150-200 cheaper), however husband is concerned that the cost of child care will eat up those savings plus some absolutely negating the point of moving. This is because he was originally going to keep the baby throughout the day while he's in school and I'll take over when I get off work, but that would be almost impossible if we move because instead of me being an hour away and COMING home, he will be an hour away FROM home.

I guess my question is would it be wise to move now or if it is still wise to move, how to do the childcare part?


I'm sorry if I explained this terribly. If I need to clarify please ask so I can get as clear information as possible.",7.283192307692309,6.080932319230772,7.550000000000002,76.55500000000002,64.26923076923077,10.307692307692307,35.0,9.265573868473778,2.9525769230769234,1033,39,205,15,13,338,152,260,0.044000000000000004,0.857,0.1,0.9309999999999999,5,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,0,5,7,8,1,0,12,0,29,1,0,3,2,45,47,21,0,12,7,2,1,0,0,7,0,0,3,3,11,14,1,2,4,0,3,10,1,2,0,3,3,2,21,6,39,30,6,48,0,0,1,0,21,20,0,12,18,144,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785820455177917,0.0,0.0,0.09149930434370897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062138432827347274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542370193847905,0.0,0.17170046818662174,0.0,0.0,0.22280648125599847,0.0,0.07775376960863024,0.10294883056170846,0.0,0.08081415143275217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863267025573408,0.0,0.0,0.0787118509169416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892959971657435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349988736967907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777239028725176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954797923889924,0.0,0.10386153698410937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066034929077364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061247031547086564,0.0,0.18331403391447498,0.0,0.26995920765705583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067602507393163,0.0812186898204792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675339774613176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068618789431288,0.0,0.07673235639138401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587000941081849,0.5827057934427161,0.0,0.2032611935903508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895069741462603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003027939616124,0.2591379788161469,0.10301207956913663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023614054307194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247682392420717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270982342102143,0.0,0.0,0.07742211407405518,0.0,0.0,0.10228732444114226,0.0,0.0,0.07297254468856408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870295932047489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109913403965645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652240884246018,0.0,0.0,0.19473147338041627,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fairytaleending,2020/01/27,"Handful of turds My almost 11 month old will only play by herself if I'm on the floor with her. I try to stay as uninvolved as I can to encourage self play. So I was laying on the rug an arms length away as she took the blocks out of the bag and put them back in. 

I started to smell poop. She had just pooped and I thought man two poops in 10 min! I guess I didnt let her finish the first one. So. I waited. Then everything got too quiet. 

I finally peeked. She had a handful of half squished turds! Thank god to didn't put it in her mouth. Just sitting there quietly squeezing her little rabbit turds. 😫😫😫",-0.006046511627907592,2.1359473100775226,1.7593488372093018,97.7664651162791,87.52713178294573,4.990387596899224,18.67751937984497,6.42735559955562,-0.1683978294573638,469,13,110,5,15,153,89,129,0.040999999999999995,0.853,0.106,0.8011,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,7,4,0,0,7,0,8,7,7,0,0,12,16,9,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,1,4,0,2,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,4,8,6,19,4,19,6,0,23,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,3,9,69,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20979214712260666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968398019044876,0.16109883386840826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882924145192081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22950593577375344,0.0,0.17820752390775427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756280512068691,0.0,0.23079684549836585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21423627623733435,0.0,0.0,0.20998220435149006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672274051403458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984355856587767,0.0,0.14196814339445435,0.15934038757289207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212271111395677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21856269069527565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829094569182338,0.2233078101304612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928869546375219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632606745459824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327712615541301,0.14224228021252405,0.0,0.20465901815423398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mabetown,2020/01/27,"Nap life is making us stir crazy! How long do you let your baby hang out in their crib for naps? My 10 month old will stay back there for over an hour if I let her and kind of just let out little sounds. If she's losing it I always go back there after a couple minutes..but sometimes I feel so bad if we keep missing naps and I look up and we've been attempting to sleep all day. Not fun for anyone! I hate the idea of her back there alone for too long, but have had my pediatrician tell me to not go back there unless she's seriously crying.

When I finally cave and get her, she's happy to see me, but is still blatantly tired! Rubbing her eyes, staring into the distance, etc. So then I take her out to play for around 30-45 minutes and try again. More peeps and a couple hours later were at the same place! I just don't understand if she's so tired. Is she literally wanting to hang out like I do when my favorite shows on and just won't sleep? Or am I focusing too much on these naps and wasting our days away?! Sometimes I go a little crazy because I haven't changed from my pajamas and look up to the day going by without leaving the house! Can yall relate?",2.8558515482695843,3.8731870532786883,4.0597814207650265,90.09988160291441,73.95901639344262,6.897632058287798,23.39162112932605,7.1686216300943375,0.6470216757741349,907,24,204,9,18,297,145,244,0.14300000000000002,0.7959999999999999,0.061,-0.9503,0,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,3,1,2,22,10,1,0,9,0,18,6,3,2,2,40,34,24,0,5,14,0,2,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,16,0,1,3,6,0,6,6,5,0,0,3,8,35,5,32,26,5,45,0,2,5,0,18,17,0,5,22,141,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824415893209524,0.0,0.0,0.08696335740022898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307806169657226,0.0,0.0,0.09303890889068127,0.0,0.0,0.09819359472514393,0.3214568080340489,0.08726415911212837,0.06371027858470205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056111097814153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23128374282858155,0.11480284610003008,0.2022071096135236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655984833154615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05284501578381148,0.0,0.0,0.11448910548750695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054603835023299616,0.0,0.23758904743494025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125624816993593,0.0,0.10318515067687084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584890504539172,0.12059420422562366,0.0,0.1179826849672846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289613705270837,0.0,0.10883441815732356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066439162225374,0.0,0.3206154936258324,0.07382076620855438,0.051059871894040786,0.209499372322956,0.0,0.18498179190082667,0.1755295366489382,0.1169235408845587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976337466197935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342144164144376,0.0,0.07682922975966648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966902569443747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091940527919944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832834915417545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917736267388806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067324606251265,0.0,0.0,0.11139716863538454,0.08346437904203241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785809219413462,0.0,0.09134914616035007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402451050188589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095760451306629,0.0,0.0,0.10880193033683223,0.12571651502001555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164459506250355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074699827573802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kimikokat,2020/01/27,"My friend leaves her baby to ""cry it out"" I have a friend who is very close to me, like family, but I always notice that she leaves her baby alone a lot. She cries for hours and my friend just goes and does other things like gardening and ignores her. I am a parent and I personally wouldn't leave my baby alone like that, but I don't really know if this is a normal thing some parents just do. She's a new parent and this is her first kid. I don't want to say anything because she'll probably get mad at me for telling her how to raise her kid, so I thought I'd come here for opinions on this and if it is normal.",2.9592424242424262,3.47406916666667,4.254242424242424,90.684696969697,73.24242424242425,7.381818181818183,22.24242424242424,7.3871296695380915,0.5182515151515155,478,10,112,5,9,158,75,132,0.138,0.731,0.131,-0.22899999999999998,3,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,5,8,1,0,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,26,16,12,0,6,6,3,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,3,11,9,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,1,1,22,6,10,13,2,8,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,5,6,76,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27157075223143184,0.0,0.0,0.10908997131460227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788835164460753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992047077097056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293546121413944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880256595947389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147309833345009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235942491198599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151795715658183,0.0,0.0,0.3038744961616781,0.0,0.068497019600388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291121445736923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205195111036904,0.0,0.0,0.4164642098185983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19215403338027676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146089371556933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662215215043351,0.0,0.0,0.2569103835658981,0.0,0.14926406020502264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4367301970250321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447594312375005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135350522619544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398930383371164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426006206823968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459166288144901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17420084642094572,0.0,0.0,0.10408282915162337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081754632270364,0.07732920287471651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Harley_Quin,2020/01/27,"Disney Divorce? So my husband and I (we are newly married) have decided to take my daughter (6) to Disney for spring break. He's a great dad we have a pretty strong relationship, we haven't had any major arguments or fights even though we married recently. But upon his boss finding out about our trip he said we should not do it that he was miserable, his wife was miserable and they argued all the time. Looking online it seems like this is a sentiment among many parents I can understand, it's hot kids are tired hungry, cranky, the lines are long excetera excetera. what have your experiences been with this and how did you and your significant other manage the stress?",6.61666,7.565449976000004,6.457350000000003,76.59642500000002,65.24,9.45,31.625,9.516144504307137,2.90166,537,20,94,10,8,169,93,125,0.145,0.7490000000000001,0.106,-0.6662,1,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,6,3,1,1,5,8,2,3,6,0,16,1,0,2,1,22,21,9,0,1,3,5,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,8,11,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,6,3,16,3,8,14,2,9,0,2,1,0,26,3,0,2,5,66,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862847022286322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406959595573866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281783201866646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21320034858114956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571759257207841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396169118302513,0.0,0.0,0.20643253753976784,0.19588418563404594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364945019721303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590136203135095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373147710453765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303214400075357,0.2504397412160947,0.0,0.0,0.2218888115361034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123560582686524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26720472625020897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538654969093767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22918207000761284,0.0,0.13601892993450682,0.26810426124069464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24283750673902896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dull-Boot,2020/01/27,"Spending my birthday away from my family Today is my birthday and I am very emotional right now. I am currently 2hrs away from my husband and toddler staying at my parents' house to study for my board exams for medical school. This exam actually, LITERALLY determines our whole lives as far as earning potential and specialty selection, so getting away for 5 weeks was simply mandatory when my toddler still co-sleeps, breastfeeds to sleep, and wakes up frequently throughout the night. I have about 3 weeks left of my dedicated study period and am hitting my goal score, but I have been crying on and off since they left last night (they come up on weekends) and just need to vent.

It seems like people don't understand the sacrifice medical professionals have to make. I am giving up some of my best years, my daughter's childhood, and putting a strain on my marriage to be a doctor. I want to help people and yet I see a constant barrage of distrust, hate, and misinformation online - spread even by some of my own relatives. It is truly disheartening for the public to have little to no respect left for medical professionals. People (mostly) go into this field because they feel a calling towards helping others, and when laymen with ""degrees"" from Dr. Google tell you that you don't know anything, you get ""1 month"" of it in medical school, and can't be trusted because you are paid for by big Pharma - it's an enormous slap in the face. It makes me wonder why I should even go into this profession when there is CONSTANT stress, little to no returns for minimum 11 years (seriously - 4 years undergrad, 4 years medical school, 3-6yr residency, 1-2 yr fellowship), blatant disrespect and mistrust, and there are even some midlevel groups pushing for independent practice with a fraction of the training. I will be over $250,000 in debt by the time I graduate medical school, when I will then be making $50,000/yr as a surgical resident.

I don't mean to make this a political post so I'll stop there, but I am exhausted and feel like I am failing miserably at being a mom and a wife because I am prioritizing my career right now, and I know it will only get harder. I take my step 1 exam the day of my husband's birthday, and I start clinical rotations in March and while I am excited for it, I may wind up getting sent to a rural location for a rotation that falls on my daughter's birthday.

I love medicine. I love learning about the human body and its complex physiology, the pathology of various diseases, complex human emotions, and taking part in someone's best and worst times. I love the OR, the sterile environment, and the immediate gratification of fixing someone or making them feel better about themselves. I have wanted to be a surgeon since I was 12 years old and I have busted my ass to be where I am now. 

I love my family. I have always wanted a daughter of my own and an amazingly supportive, ambitious (he wants to do med school too), and handsome man to call my husband. My daughter is so incredibly intelligent, beautiful, and so, so special. I couldn't be doing any of this without the support of my family and sacrifice my husband is making.

I have everything I ever wanted and yet here I am, spending my birthday alone.",9.102224565403247,7.874806185123965,9.339264747791393,65.26231404958682,60.70247933884298,12.510116842405246,41.85380450270732,11.549179879218116,5.004972641778284,2582,127,434,63,29,861,293,605,0.106,0.736,0.158,0.9903,3,1,0,0,0,0,80.0,1,4,4,7,30,27,2,3,28,0,48,21,5,7,2,75,91,47,0,8,6,11,3,2,0,5,12,0,0,3,16,34,0,1,12,1,4,8,8,10,0,0,5,4,68,17,75,71,12,84,2,3,1,5,38,34,1,9,42,310,84,19,0.0,0.0,0.06165488614118925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654357654960524,0.0,0.0,0.05257109406855481,0.0,0.0,0.04296478950567488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05199202653425558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807999344370404,0.0,0.0,0.11554242437521345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260771239185787,0.05587786571694522,0.0,0.07017910129178964,0.0,0.0,0.12902835750378058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05442425810198586,0.0,0.13655097843600714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940062345898587,0.04074608470592134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466774276718175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213873005571967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519003209504453,0.05715022371151004,0.0,0.0,0.05678240480948742,0.0,0.17868237066653705,0.0,0.0958376164011017,0.04513603886309036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203645458638533,0.06060832755848955,0.07181367265339555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237749352001785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469688399060779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290161562289313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944451179150872,0.05150039979004764,0.0,0.0,0.20593683332155666,0.0,0.0,0.06173343368325172,0.12664657321135475,0.0557893870372733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228090850553612,0.0,0.2530401567880423,0.0,0.0,0.06882189901154423,0.07017910129178964,0.3818852006024167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399603641569827,0.05042993494010672,0.0,0.0,0.046847412569644586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858091552936816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629712603729174,0.0,0.0,0.04805148636904647,0.0,0.0,0.07015427722550638,0.0684181382184471,0.0,0.13140385262510051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050928945545585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351368004529445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791130959995282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197093242676926,0.05034654133750978,0.0575169976168153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045268402233456,0.0,0.12645191191884947,0.0,0.10706497357339732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0447193612624042,0.06734182311234048,0.05045589146010419,0.052821583137353315,0.07237285212504704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339257471998745,0.0,0.0,0.09500748735723023,0.0,0.05522239135474412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368191454173051,0.0,0.05988756335051849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577294949933586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213038728205074,0.18632697165394346,0.0,0.10135889609698837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570104188423478,0.07053857978092272,0.0,0.060903581483209936,0.06851637049592905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034302985386874
parenting,ren0307,2020/01/27,"I read my kids messages and I'm freaking out. I read my teen kid's messages the other day and he's writing to his friends and on reddit about being bi/gay/trans, depressed and wanting to kill himself. I'm not sure how serious this depression thing is, but I'm very worried and would like to talk to him about it. But i feel bad for going through his stuff and don't know how to approach this. We have a pretty good relationship, nut now i see how much he is hiding from me and i don't know why. It sucks. What can I do?",1.9642342342342367,3.306709387387393,3.35873873873874,92.9490990990991,76.74774774774775,6.014414414414415,24.94594594594595,6.42735559955562,0.6062324324324321,406,14,93,3,9,133,74,111,0.20800000000000002,0.6709999999999999,0.121,-0.8607,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,6,11,2,0,2,0,9,0,0,3,1,22,19,12,1,2,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,8,9,0,0,3,2,0,2,3,7,0,0,0,2,14,4,12,17,1,6,0,2,1,0,15,2,1,0,3,60,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539977254606715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547784640059374,0.0,0.3618661668456688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621776274454027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229965081687067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193876882087934,0.17619684691378493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23241145930184154,0.0,0.2308980843130436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026296478138108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442570651966667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21371682993267085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42025392868190736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225536688450076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739868488844206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24048002442474195,0.0,0.0,0.1979885986142678,0.0,0.0,0.1688464022349267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395612509600681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332984633919418,0.12390479737235872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18955560572019053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213336400234123,0.0,0.14922778347315155,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,s3ttl30urargument,2020/01/27,"Fussy and awake baby at 2am! FTM here with a 4 week old at the end of my wits. For the last 3 nights my baby has been so fussy and awake at 2am. When I put him on the boob he cries and fusses while he nurses and pulls on my nipple (and hurts!). 

No amount of milk, burping, pacifier, swaddling, rocking or cuddles settles him for the next 2-3 hours. If he does drift to sleep it's only for a couple of minutes before he fusses and cries again. He grunts and strains and ends up spitting up quite a bit too. 

I just don't know what he wants! And it's always at this time that he's so difficult. The rest of the day he feeds and goes down for his sleeps well. It's hard to deal with because I'm getting so exhausted and stressed trying to figure out how to get him to settle. 

Please, any advice would be much appreciated.",3.0120327552986477,3.66103601734104,4.083367052023121,91.46451107899807,73.21965317919073,6.691522157996148,23.08718689788054,6.42735559955562,0.3477788053949897,633,15,146,4,12,206,111,173,0.121,0.835,0.044000000000000004,-0.9104,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,2,9,0,5,9,4,1,0,22,10,19,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,14,2,0,2,1,0,3,2,5,1,0,1,1,9,1,25,7,4,26,0,1,0,2,13,10,1,2,13,81,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106545563663796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714792167899414,0.0,0.0,0.11208691183779954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047602299055912,0.0,0.14025426008722164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799466277035804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18237615011282565,0.3621058849646275,0.10629873570228672,0.16992773134527836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442398024941811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29197273130729834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222891831746362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765116723414748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231979968840166,0.0,0.1764489803906729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090583719370553,0.13435468525025712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211656207940799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529366362048934,0.15467745539437927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295651175621135,0.0,0.0,0.1253571302987799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092877326176005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569503394845744,0.0,0.1753120824745956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32988883376461536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888069181514038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611100571304312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190561493042628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721828075997543,0.0,0.13221297929667772,0.0,0.14819781311704433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708722227504413,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sparklyladybug,2020/01/27,"Okay, fess up! What’s your favorite cartoon that your kids watch? Mine is Pocoyo and I refuse to watch any episodes that don’t include Nina.  It took them way too long to include a human girl!",2.0360526315789467,4.449416552631583,1.778157894736843,99.2346052631579,80.84210526315789,3.8,22.657894736842106,3.1291,-0.3337052631578956,151,5,32,0,4,44,33,38,0.057,0.8009999999999999,0.142,0.508,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,3,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,1,17,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38560814851975606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018145133916309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6300047611551146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500917138390505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rro0,2020/01/27,Is anyone else keeping there kids home? Is anyone keeping their kids home from school with the Coronavirus stuff happening? We live in Idaho. But the way the flu spread we think its best to keep the kids home. We have ask for school work for the kids for a week for now. Are we panicing to much?,2.2433333333333323,4.657846896551725,2.014482758620691,97.83712643678163,80.0344827586207,5.2459770114942526,18.287356321839077,6.42735559955562,-0.29235402298850577,232,5,50,2,6,68,38,58,0.042,0.882,0.076,0.4836,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,1,2,2,2,0,1,6,0,4,1,0,0,0,10,10,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,2,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,9,10,2,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,31,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436420132381996,0.1785123953115909,0.0,0.0,0.16287529966021155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283664119600573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554124041435665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540651196235137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5242806304609428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645731152712388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153842396589074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807419750613985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20441354492804076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35264663240952604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944403583177606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163527813981733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382903737725666,0.13975145022444535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683666275828132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weezthejooce,2020/01/27,"Is there a ""friend network babysitting app"" out there? My wife and I were talking with some parent friends about starting a babysitting co-op among other parents in our trust circles, but we aren't sure what the best way to coordinate offers and requests would be. Has anyone developed a ""trading favors app"" or is there another kind of reciprocity coordination system that worked for you?",11.721715686274516,10.131419897058828,10.255882352941178,61.90480392156866,55.911764705882355,12.007843137254904,44.72549019607843,10.504223727775694,4.890454901960784,315,15,48,5,3,98,60,68,0.033,0.763,0.204,0.9103,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,1,0,2,4,7,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,8,4,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,7,8,5,2,6,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,1,36,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726265176911657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179394291468698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272847802154743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017416443285661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27074388047943665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5773854327920448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840251854757148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24504139338954264,0.0,0.0,0.20897343565255191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063712409951393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927882529377507,0.0,0.0,0.18469237244279813,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Supermessers,2020/01/27,"Do parents have a favourite child? So, the given answer I always get to this question when I ask my mum is ‘no of course not!’ but I feel that’s because I’m not the favourite child! So do parents really not have a favourite child or is Mum just being nice?",2.879716981132073,4.043370132075474,3.603915094339623,92.82398584905664,74.09433962264151,6.054716981132076,26.45754716981132,5.985473137389443,0.7037962264150939,199,7,44,1,4,63,36,53,0.0,0.9059999999999999,0.094,0.6852,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,12,5,0,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,2,10,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,1,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763842920284433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105253945179817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024820656420679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795041855872733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354024426054246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7376502462913932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720959766843272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21279063509053275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trump_FTW_88,2020/01/27,Are there tips to keep formula milk warm while out for a long time? We have to be out of the house for 6 hours with our 3-month-old. We have formula. But how do we keep it warm? Do people carry with them warm water in a coffee thermos and mix it when out?,0.8547272727272741,2.463094109090914,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,80.63636363636364,5.854545454545455,18.272727272727273,6.742157984588678,-0.18325454545454534,196,4,47,2,5,65,40,55,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.6416,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,6,2,0,1,0,13,8,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,3,11,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,5,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319106374877416,0.38889202925832794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5991426782185509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29826451814202937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690173539592299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536605280739639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336569656840828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965272581474452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Velmaartvibes,2020/01/27,"Toddler is now demanding things My son’s (3) father and I live separately. My son has three large, plastic storage totes full of toys at my house and two at his dad’s but his dad WON’T STOP BUYING HIM TOYS! It’s becoming a real issue (a first world problem obviously). There’s no more room for them and my son is becoming spoiled. I want him to be happy but a new toys only makes him happy for a day before it gets forgotten about. He had a full blown tantrum today because he watched toy story, wanted to go buy a Woody toy, and I said no. I’ve talked to his dad about it but he won’t stop. “Sorry I want our son to be happy” is his go to. His dad is buying his toys before he even pays his bills! I want to kick this bratty attitude. How can I get through to his dad? What can I do on my side other than not buying him things? I feel like the “mean” one. Help",0.1576229508196718,2.203763819672133,2.29325409836066,94.91824180327872,85.66666666666666,5.190054644808743,17.893169398907105,6.508806274219699,-0.2049014207650268,661,16,153,7,20,222,105,183,0.125,0.7390000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.6646,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,1,6,6,1,0,7,0,13,0,0,2,1,21,25,8,0,5,4,10,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,8,4,0,2,2,6,6,2,5,2,0,4,2,3,27,4,17,19,3,17,0,0,1,0,31,8,0,0,8,93,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839503878057432,0.3202981034692041,0.24678088145896515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351764316559928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577588320326748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733199936233166,0.1035931674606688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334304405983375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152054650131855,0.0,0.16482185864192822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630885591790894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719526466699713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731883137293546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134983515950273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084318977202916,0.0,0.1280440078361944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679342714709367,0.0,0.0,0.15795534319902876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400488503363883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826062661001396,0.11028450434610992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138752299794204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504993144221575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137935046599972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232368034837022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424650122303988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165512887421564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19267267104964989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744986346276164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165095692876972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421159971176909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,---annon---,2020/01/27,"Too tired to keep helping my friend and her kid Hi everyone, 

My friend just went through bariatric surgery and is needing help after surgery. The problem is her child is.....very difficult. She freely admits to the fact she's ""broke"" him and laughs it off. However, now that her circle of friends is helping out we are quickly burning out from trying to parent this kid I'll call Tim. At this point, none of us are willing to take him next weekend.

Tim is 6 and doesn't have any developmental issues (he's been tested extensively), however:

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* He won't independently dress himself ( he's able too, he would just prefer if you did it for him) as his mom does it for him. It is exhausting even picking this kid up as it takes close to 1/2 hr just to wait out the temper tantrum meanwhile my kid was ready quickly and is now overheating while we wait for him. 
* If the tantrums don't happen over getting dressed he wants to tell an hour-long story where no one else can talk. He's so used to being an only child he just doesn't do well with other kids and unfortunately doesn't have friends :( 
* All the kid wants to do is watch tv or play on his tablet. If he doesn't get it he'll scream/cry till you agree. On Friday after school, he was at our house with other kids who were playing indoor ""soccer"" in a small space with a softball. This was ""too much work"" for him and even after continued encouragement, his whining went into a full-blown temper tantrum demanding that everyone switches to video games. 
* As a compromise I set up lego they can all sit and play, after about 10 min there is loud arguing. Tim is attempting to make the kids follow a script 

Tim: Ok now you say ""Oh no there is a giant jellyfish....""

The other kids keep building and playing but are unwilling to follow a script. This causes a full-blown tantrum where he's hyperventilating and demanding to know why they won't play with him. But unless they say exactly what he wants they aren't ""playing right"". 

I'm disabled and I just honestly don't have the energy to keep helping this kid. How do I extract my self from this situation politely?",3.7840459110473432,5.695253682926829,4.280258249641322,85.85334289813487,73.14634146341461,7.360114777618362,26.692969870875178,8.124751697461798,1.626430416068867,1670,60,331,26,34,527,210,410,0.087,0.8029999999999999,0.11,0.8349,3,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,4,3,4,2,23,27,7,0,18,1,39,2,0,6,4,58,63,25,0,10,12,2,0,0,4,5,2,3,0,13,20,22,0,5,3,11,0,4,12,12,1,1,8,4,34,15,50,49,4,42,0,2,1,0,73,21,0,4,15,208,54,3,0.11303970438214972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247847247056955,0.13735561363652368,0.07687087527649407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542617677079445,0.0,0.0,0.11612291462011735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416880732819575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989218070659445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443016807323168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493233172831344,0.0,0.0,0.2160285634945052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493367807941529,0.0,0.11811715999586007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996063726577832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030725242906054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132133870196192,0.13043264185577216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798408273775908,0.0,0.3014246493466086,0.0,0.0,0.062123665284767676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000365812261519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545488044277482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239073556998934,0.0,0.0,0.08309718923596625,0.08381750847847062,0.0,0.0,0.12021900801790243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659862917988809,0.08597178894678971,0.0,0.0,0.12551721436927313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685905830254476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816373074817892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653528990390443,0.0,0.17978742001240025,0.0,0.11440221573652955,0.0,0.0,0.11792506471406013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706136390348885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699835794611794,0.09085703251447272,0.09880168405665277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992251137500774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674653915440632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359728461600261,0.09763001059145167,0.0,0.09326959459081166,0.20002123920702986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163626976229788,0.20957787691717916,0.10200075100360874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229425108658646,0.0,0.0,0.08030016272551767,0.0,0.13735561363652368,0.0
parenting,onemorethingok,2020/01/27,"2 y.o son seems ready to read FTM He sees me reading a lot and is now following along with his own books and trying to read aloud. We do our ABCS and he’s on letter K now. How do I teach him how to read? Does learning ABCs come first? What should I focus on regarding teaching him how to read? I have lots of abc letter cards, books and etc but I just want another parents insight. I developed my love for books young but I can’t remember how I learned. 

Thanks y’all! I feel relieved to have a place to go to ask these questions when I don’t have anyone else, TIA!",0.9038795518207294,2.9068197731092447,2.2590126050420203,96.52924719887956,82.36134453781513,5.64733893557423,20.841036414565828,6.816661863887847,0.21012549019607896,439,13,102,5,12,141,81,119,0.0,0.807,0.193,0.9748,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,0,1,8,3,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,4,0,26,19,11,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,7,8,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,17,3,13,18,4,11,0,0,1,1,15,3,0,4,5,62,19,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563730863618406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427334866838248,0.1527986490552872,0.0,0.0,0.1394139925640193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846005440431132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050239670128422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457681091740133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663164761577028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540329653365742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684769415541738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475254066616282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25356557305780164,0.13459330495758062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558833474947918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580639763776685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705682254134072,0.0,0.7458388028763394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16893227874091934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883523386145023,0.13575998829755545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372964782401402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124771873104024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795920698010498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Llama_Mia,2020/01/27,"Is it normal to receive gifts for the baby on your birthday or Christmas? My wife is pregnant and due to give birth in a few months. On Christmas, I got a present addressed to me that turned out to be things from our baby registry. Then, on my birthday, I was given some baby clothes.  I appreciate the gifts, ultimately, but I’m also kind of annoyed that I didn’t get something for me on my birthday. My wife didn’t get presents for the baby on Christmas or her birthday. She got things for her. Is this normal? How would you feel about receiving baby gifts on your birthday or for Christmas?",4.085584541062804,5.760977713043481,4.476811594202901,85.72468599033819,71.86956521739131,6.154589371980678,31.038647342995173,6.42735559955562,1.632400966183575,467,21,88,3,9,147,65,115,0.04,0.943,0.017,-0.5468,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,12,17,8,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,1,17,1,20,9,2,16,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,4,6,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059790985871122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023542363115498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26913999288930524,0.2470851690046296,0.0,0.0,0.4120054423298782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682201215031406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055903784103572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5047289590810374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19829041510688936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34223689468949325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280162826179433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297074892177706,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BBQingFool,2020/01/27,"Why does my child throw up everytime we go out to eat (only)? My 5 year old son can eat everything in the house and run around like the totally healthy crazy little boy he is without an issue... but every single time we go out to eat, he throws up 10 minutes after the meal.  

It doesn't matter if it's a fancy meal or a cheap buffet, if he drinks only water or has milk/juice, if he drinks a little or a lot... each time we go out to eat he throws up.  

Maybe the excitement from eating out?  Maybe left over motion sickness from the car ride (he doesn't normally get car sick though).  

Any thoughts?  Thanks guys!",3.235340501792116,4.243427838709682,4.15268817204301,89.82958781362007,73.03225806451613,7.124014336917562,21.842293906810035,7.3871296695380915,0.5650154121863804,468,10,102,5,9,151,80,124,0.057999999999999996,0.843,0.099,0.7452,0,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,10,0,5,12,0,0,1,23,11,9,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,10,10,0,1,2,1,11,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,17,10,4,29,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,7,6,52,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730777158602826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429192323088865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235259784835036,0.0,0.0,0.2515413672882569,0.0,0.6568613367248165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817184374112092,0.0,0.11538623338436972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707706909942214,0.0,0.2188963963601517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712361929971958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481417150714842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400299280324693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949318509143102,0.0,0.0,0.06272355327758172,0.25735562104010085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915029753499288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579646133191336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579230199609429,0.0,0.0,0.13472088199360244,0.0,0.0,0.19528866518588384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820178322868655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613987761292694,0.10192518103411384,0.14972734275774766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584957551471467,0.0,0.0,0.12376078277317815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267721658986525
parenting,firasthebeast,2020/01/27,"Hello dads of this sub! I’m currently doing a project in anatomy class where I have to do research on something and prove or disprove a theory. 

Something I want to see is if penis size is correlated to sex of your child. I know it seems very out there and like a meme, but I really do need this data for class. I fully expect there to be no correlation.

If you can, answer correctly because I’d like to have results as accurate as I can get. Thanks guys!

[Poll here](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd5hjmNvBBHCjfsisRhfiTi-wQ_5oUOtsyiJfYraYHZc_i6xQ/viewform?usp=sf_link)",6.893589108910892,9.333764633663373,6.975334158415843,67.53943688118811,66.02970297029702,9.406435643564356,30.446782178217827,9.827888789773867,3.1942168316831694,472,18,76,11,8,151,75,101,0.031,0.8540000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.7772,1,0,2,0,0,0,26.0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,1,2,16,18,8,0,5,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,3,13,17,0,5,0,0,1,1,6,4,0,4,3,47,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972312223535028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690399314847817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203623560932717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781294646245646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161374010784204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399059694784801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20727246598952326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578250355130615,0.2945449987070266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981645102077944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29787856873621704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26696012467276997,0.19083637845814846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jigglywigglybuff,2020/01/27,"What triggers some parents to mindlessly inflict harm on their children? So I was reading a popular post on AskReddit about horrible forensic stories and most of them were related to domestic violence and child abuse. 

Here's one of the stories of the many stories:

""Recently read a story about a ladies boyfriend who beat her 3 year old son constantly, then finally to death after he defecated on the carpet, he wasn’t being fed and was eating out of the garbage, the mother said she slapped him to wake up and stop pretending he was dead like he usually does after a beating. Once she realized he was dead, she gave him a bath, went to put on her makeup and wig, then began to read the Bible to him, before taking him to the hospital.""

While I know that not all parents are that crazy, I've seen so many instances were a dad snaps at his 3 year old girl in a Walmart, raises her from her shirt and slaps her face furiously, or people spanking their kids the same way an mma fighter senselessly punches their opponent to submission. Dragging kids from their hair. Or the sneaky folks that squeeze their kids wrist almost to a point where they'd crush their bones to a pulp.

How do some parents have the heart to do such things to innocent children?

What goes through a parents brain when they do such violent things? 

What can we do to stop them / help them or prevent this violence from happening far too frequently than it should? 

Is there anything we can do to stop children from being such parents in the future?

I'm really upset by the overwhelming amount of violence inflicted on kids, especially by the people who should love them the most.",9.694545454545457,7.9773193636363695,8.659480519480521,72.16279220779225,59.90909090909091,12.436363636363636,40.506493506493506,11.20814326018867,4.446581818181818,1316,57,237,28,14,409,178,308,0.18100000000000002,0.764,0.055,-0.9928,5,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,2,0,12,2,13,8,2,2,25,0,22,11,8,2,1,30,33,16,3,2,4,8,2,1,0,2,0,1,2,9,12,9,2,4,2,5,0,2,2,5,0,1,13,4,29,3,42,15,7,37,0,1,1,1,55,13,0,8,21,160,41,3,0.0,0.12991187258391987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979403233308853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022882384312857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330016174069873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240053107378444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848772783257062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959514305931563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219461973660898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011117898637455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096959067299095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299303298548445,0.0734930020530682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060258245725233875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05356720524605467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895925657596548,0.0,0.0,0.22232645716636346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23010881111099726,0.1167687751969979,0.07429856236234512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6087412189493772,0.0,0.0,0.15202863286491147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036503458649062,0.0,0.1050099867823391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022391375069633,0.0,0.0,0.32902522223410313,0.0,0.07024165245644243,0.0,0.10826160722409726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429788629819876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750053981955443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243969712245924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456870667263088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075892024037377,0.0,0.0,0.08703141691122182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164238658455894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121608865627638
parenting,theindependenthinker,2020/01/27,"Parent advice: my boys are autistic I’m a father of two boys. They currently stay with their mother a state away. Even tho the relationship is already rough (do you the rocky relationship with their mother, which I understand where she’s coming from with her anger towards me. I just wish she would understand that I’m sorry for what happened in the past and would forgive me so we can move forward with the boys) I still try to do my best to be there as much as I can. 

I currently just found out that my five year boys are autistic. I’m just confused and just didn’t know what to do.

T",2.9906779661016927,4.812569423728816,3.712,89.46647457627121,75.10169491525423,6.753898305084746,23.664406779661018,7.554174236665415,0.9326210169491528,464,14,97,6,10,147,75,118,0.063,0.8590000000000001,0.078,0.4019,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,3,1,10,4,1,1,6,0,12,0,0,0,0,22,22,6,0,3,4,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,9,0,0,5,0,0,3,1,2,0,2,2,1,18,2,16,17,2,15,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,1,6,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18279137013683666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20642367110023624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574758840939628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19630632172661774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113430701722758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355035401859665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509995524206684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541518560954646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028024420903052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19881354825123387,0.1375094973089449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770629199654567,0.0,0.1785684739501813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016615802181148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20939664038471076,0.0,0.1993794381202188,0.14938513429296854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700042102935466,0.0,0.18272894271807055,0.3894689246179315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21510800674854785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657619375995255,0.0,0.0,0.12045952053186755
parenting,amandaloo86,2020/01/27,"Am I being overprotective? My daughter just turned 11. She is really into the game and anything else surrounding Undertale. She loves all the AUs and draws and paints her favorite characters. Recently she's found some fanfic involving the characters. I skimmed through it, but it seemed ok. Last night her phone went off at 2am with a notification from Wattpad (where she reads; I keep her phone during bed time). I checked it and it was a reply to a comment she had posted. Her comment contained cursing and the last paragraph of what she was reading was very descriptive foreplay.

As far as the cursing goes, I do it and I don't usually make a big deal when something slips from her, but I do wish she would understand when it is and isn't appropriate. At home because you stubbed your toe, ok. On the bus because someone called you a name, not so much. 

The fanfic on the other hand, I don't know what to do. I feel like she's too young to be reading and thinking about stuff like that. But I also feel maybe I'm overreacting by PIN locking her Wattpad app. Is this content normal? Should I be worried? What would you do in this situation? I'm at a loss, so any help or insight would be awesome. Thanks.",3.0895317986734305,5.404424072961374,3.885518923136949,86.06891825985174,76.5107296137339,7.154818571985955,28.616660163870463,8.150884317080207,2.0351562231759663,951,42,186,17,22,303,138,233,0.024,0.8140000000000001,0.162,0.9872,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,4,0,1,9,7,0,0,14,2,23,4,2,1,1,36,39,19,0,6,6,1,3,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,14,10,0,2,8,4,1,1,4,1,0,0,6,3,30,6,20,25,3,23,0,1,0,2,30,12,0,3,11,125,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406956459252192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970004383897108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173809862591354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390466233635926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456519092327676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705610284734735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191578431671437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424665580178436,0.10190240909516164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639795716731195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560892735487853,0.0,0.14308006207765744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678543953488938,0.0,0.0,0.07839149411689847,0.2325421078215764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937389661333327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873862964847105,0.0,0.0952136482805271,0.0,0.14330156483453604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485718753492908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338584562305689,0.13975741469531094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661017943667286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.428037332694451,0.0,0.09137916344940296,0.0,0.14084029569151313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985456341998666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033391003681974,0.0,0.0,0.1208588415338404,0.1098116336524668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328925790796456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132421757358184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139827946108836,0.0,0.0,0.08317482866984664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515191500744774,0.0,0.1484938017624223,0.0,0.0,0.15709837005132188,0.11769335956170413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222918214883111,0.0,0.0,0.16402954737897982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448583621958514,0.0,0.3039831779899922,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Foresight25,2020/01/27,"8yo potty training? To preface, my son does know how to use the toilet - I taught him at 2 1/2yo. My issue is that he has comprehension issues which makes it longer for him to understand things he's not interested in. In this case, I need him to learn how to wipe his own butt after pooping but he's extremely hesitant about learning. Problem 1.

Problem 2: Then I keep hearing I'm supposed to teach him to wipe himself by reaching behind himself. He doesn't have the dexterity for this. I'm a chick who grew up with my mom and three sisters (I have one younger brother but I don't remember how he learned how to wipe his butt - I think my stepdad helped him but he's not open to helping me with my son) and this seems like a really confusing way to do it. I want to teach him the way, you know, how I do it but my stepdad looks at me like I'm crazy and I just... Am frustrated and confused. My son does understand this concept better but he's still hesitant.

I don't even know if this is the right place to ask but I can really do with any tips or advice.",0.8929969418960262,3.1396668853211023,2.729564220183488,91.67137996941898,84.27522935779818,6.018654434250765,23.303516819571872,7.333567415737692,0.9569902140672784,823,31,179,13,24,273,115,218,0.135,0.802,0.062,-0.9467,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,1,9,9,1,2,6,0,13,3,3,7,0,44,32,18,0,5,11,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,12,8,0,1,11,0,0,1,5,5,0,2,1,2,31,4,26,31,1,14,0,0,1,2,30,8,2,5,5,114,43,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323281195262034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663610403672767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659608156556314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868560676075106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744507870332724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357145498629897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673614527162834,0.0,0.2102127308599097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273375742437721,0.0,0.13937983729791906,0.0,0.0,0.2585358477038848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321878525489255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168081599144835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467182079081896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365385070693008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162725482448434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625844132667203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638329622190123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30009177867629605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009128647693472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763503976825135,0.1339147912701888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427538366256123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252285825884205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417752470294113,0.10047744731042743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32648925626353736,0.0,0.1354333995689568,0.0,0.0,0.09249053731085526,0.24893678729172936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theaartzvolta,2020/01/27,"Bit of a different question for parents - what are some in-house date nights that you've enjoyed with your partner? My wife and I, like many, struggle to find the time for romance in our lives. We are working towards carving out time for us that isn't just watching a tv together. Just curious if you have any ideas for fun date-like things that we could do together?

We've had some board game nights, I got us paint-by-numbers, I turned our bedroom in a spa, etc. 

Any ideas? Thanks in advance.",4.290014727540502,5.5228184432989735,4.1689248895434465,89.85453608247423,70.75257731958762,7.192341678939616,31.382916053019148,7.447530270364453,1.816037997054492,387,17,80,4,7,118,69,97,0.023,0.79,0.187,0.9445,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,6,2,0,2,2,6,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,15,10,2,0,2,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,5,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,12,5,12,7,4,11,0,0,1,0,13,5,0,4,6,47,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23597962027640035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894232617317478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853016481669836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812765036871782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935046940340288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858104547781393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876833995979812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002022559653663,0.0,0.391733580348676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476610968272016,0.0,0.15320869158185915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759075237075447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256466485766465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265752132049546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19436606690432226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138580574480534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974071617905405,0.0,0.0,0.11526946217140585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20234511113453926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887243531906424,0.0,0.0,0.4174119325340375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631419931471552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Frenzied_Father,2020/01/27,"Best Fatherly Advice EVER! Did you ever notice everyone has something to say, ALWAYS!  These words of “encouragement” always seem to appear when you least want to hear them.  Why?  Someone is witnessing you do something that at one point in time turned out to be a mistake they made.  Then comes, the best fatherly advice.

You feel judged, or that your loved ones think you cannot parent correctly.  That couldn’t be farther from the truth.  To give advice is an act of love.  They want the best for you.  You will see this first hand when you are in a position to give someone a helpful tip.

## What was the best fatherly advice I have received?

Now…for a bit of background, this has been bestowed upon me on several occasions from several different people.  It took a long time to sink in.  What’s most important is that eventually, I let it sink in and I am much happier now.  

Relax!

Yes, that’s it.  Relax.  

You see…I was (and sometimes still am) that dad who would get obnoxiously annoyed when a young one threw a tantrum or left a mess on the floor.  If you look at it from their perspective, your children have not gone through life as you have.  They haven’t learned the lessons you were able to learn.  

With that said, yes!  To them, not having watermelon right before dinner, or losing their favorite Beyblade IS the end of the world.   

## A recent example of when I should have relaxed

My town has an annual Father’s Day fishing derby.  It has become a tradition for me and my oldest (and now his sister) to go and spend a nice day at the pond on Father’s Day.  We bait hooks with nightcrawlers and fish inside a murky half swampy local pond.  My oldest did not want to go this year and was being a little rude about it.  Rude….he’s 7.  

I got inappropriately upset and raised my voice when I shouldn’t.  You see, it hurt that my kids didn’t want to spend the morning with ol’ dad.  If only I saw the situation through their lens.  The honest to God truth is that he didn’t feel like fishing that day because there was no mal intent.  

He later confessed that he was afraid.  It turns out, last year one of the kids at the derby was accidentally “hooked” in the leg and Ethan saw this.  Being hooked was his overarching problem going.  

Looking back I would not have raised my voice.  I would have tried to understand the “why” and work through everything that needed to be worked out.  I could have bought him the “safety hooks” wink-wink, a lot sooner and saved a lot of aggravation.  

It would would have been a great time to…Relaxed.

## Do you have an example?

Moral of the story, take parenting advice with a grain of salt but do take it and store it in your memory banks.  From time to time, see if any of that advice makes sense to your situation.

While it might seem like people around you think you are not capable or you do everything wrong, they just want to make things easier.  They have made mistakes and want to help you avoid learning the hard way.  People want you to be able to tell your child that the hooks on your line are the “safety hooks” wink wink without you having to raise your voice.  

What is a situation you would have handled differently?  Is there advice that you wish you would have taken sooner?  What is the best fatherly advice you have received?

As always, a dad’s job is never done.

Rob",3.3057095024627827,5.475884440063091,3.804992528640216,87.59361586142012,75.26182965299685,6.84659914771155,22.321545187890862,7.793537801064563,0.9562317560462668,2581,71,512,38,57,809,276,634,0.068,0.8059999999999999,0.126,0.9913,6,1,2,0,0,0,78.0,1,31,10,10,16,32,3,3,44,2,74,6,2,5,6,92,123,30,0,26,15,12,4,2,0,11,1,6,0,4,38,23,1,1,12,3,5,11,14,13,0,6,26,18,63,19,68,77,11,75,2,2,7,2,79,28,0,14,37,347,101,6,0.11513903457189995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45005012805820704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437073505393571,0.0,0.0,0.03914924589731196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05124907583094011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04426740523866728,0.0,0.03509384339657432,0.06358100883506945,0.048987419015040466,0.0,0.30207828317319946,0.0,0.06285100250200469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049591041588414944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04596457507857471,0.0,0.0,0.14851030416840488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029578503333245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891360389300821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050989504777329664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414984860441484,0.0,0.0550101408541889,0.1034795400654164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058217755420453765,0.04112767465201613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896860199402752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030077696687708162,0.11045185354387624,0.09815425009095556,0.0,0.0460436020490641,0.06347059604600959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05157097968261992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488503000633772,0.0,0.07717526784685977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616293589356868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712886278406198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046926840289166175,0.0,0.0,0.06254944897731886,0.05886873187901399,0.040663052591959535,0.056251116394549175,0.057699780375374224,0.0,0.05094721119100622,0.09668779053353904,0.0644055641307607,0.0,0.09788708978218902,0.10391747402918093,0.10894733845732056,0.0768561996459992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610721602050145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04232021923873011,0.04268706760682711,0.04440116077908897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554327699824547,0.0,0.0,0.15604237929511042,0.04378421207776809,0.0,0.0,0.12784827210601274,0.0,0.0,0.11973436382353796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054421801947671516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05508625310951744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056842953081560926,0.0,0.0,0.049164053207702944,0.05476179422574543,0.04578159081701675,0.0,0.0,0.1835018069054908,0.10481825275454416,0.0,0.13007433604303806,0.0,0.0,0.1941316484928826,0.0,0.0,0.09755693035248117,0.08863965399772822,0.05693772464454989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04597509087013677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657022476841619,0.0,0.050318295587109096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03824662921072231,0.07377644424322387,0.0,0.0,0.16784624245615878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639618519619412,0.039085923274796965,0.1252382066081408,0.0,0.05993189779274665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376919500900969,0.045696003181127764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038950699699355,0.0,0.06620210373652939,0.05549496029064065,0.0,0.08382258846762654,0.0,0.0,0.28627013330856704,0.06294322973795823,0.0,0.0741457632827712
parenting,learninghowtodad,2020/01/27,"Choosing a bike for my 2 year old son Hey parents! I need some advice.

I remember when I got my first bike as a kid. Learning how to use it, learning balance, then zooming (at very low speeds I now realize) across the sidewalk was an exhillirating experience. Nowadays I pick bikes based on so many criteria for myself that I don't even want to get into it. 

This became an issue - I have no idea how to pick a bike for my son! What should I look for? What form should it be? I came across these reviews --[https://cutelittledarling.com/best-bike-for-2-year-olds/](https://cutelittledarling.com/best-bike-for-2-year-olds/) \-- maybe you can read them and give your two cents on the bikes? Maybe some of your children have these bikes? Because I want my son to have the best bike possible and I find it hard to choose using my adult brain...",3.792034313725491,6.622886091503272,3.3328390522875857,88.19965073529413,76.97385620915033,5.916503267973857,23.28799019607843,7.1686216300943375,0.8014970588235291,664,21,127,8,16,197,97,153,0.07200000000000001,0.897,0.03,-0.4178,1,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,3,1,2,6,2,0,0,8,0,9,1,1,6,0,25,19,8,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,10,4,0,0,8,8,1,1,2,1,0,2,3,2,21,1,17,13,4,15,0,1,1,0,13,7,0,2,7,81,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253988676507126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891938301151875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592363553470761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283620445771985,0.0,0.1668333895387018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634400933923652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142686258600891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333201158048839,0.12407469387267495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620967021639131,0.1399292542372092,0.0,0.0,0.11666344548144683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066849483706766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466648375090287,0.0,0.15224761646052432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249183684207827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478865986850947,0.2930867190904058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815879216411424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30612649377318313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619684305633096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444352078783173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590682433984475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16523927304750144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249120614521876,0.0,0.0,0.25196511364337243,0.0,0.12035584067939667,0.17207268530980527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818013739412357
parenting,friggabyte,2020/01/27,"Wife leaving town for work and our 11.5 month old is very attached 
My wife will be leaving for Mexico for a work related conference in Feb. our 11.5 month old daughter is very attached to her, as one would expect at this age. 

Typically, when my wife travels we arrange to have either myself or my MIL travel with her so that we can take the baby along too.  Aside from some fussiness on the flights this works out pretty well. 

When it comes to Mexico We have more concerns. I won’t go into the details of them but transportation and healthcare are some of them. 

I’d like to find a way to keep the baby here with in-laws and cousins and am wondering if anyone has any ideas as to how they would help distract the little one from the fact that her mommy is gone for 3-days.",8.338571428571427,6.364933594771244,7.742128851540617,78.48529411764707,62.72549019607843,10.572922502334269,34.27544351073763,8.841846274778883,2.668011017740429,612,19,122,7,7,192,102,153,0.018000000000000002,0.915,0.067,0.7684,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,0,3,3,7,3,0,1,8,0,14,0,0,1,1,28,20,13,0,4,4,5,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,13,0,1,3,2,0,6,1,1,1,2,1,0,16,2,24,14,4,21,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,5,8,87,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658146899224385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987112237883625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147675806895423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056119360415552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566882022648824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743028591534443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490906005005015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935288996445896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237903078768533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630491702478436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837543307849578,0.171822598431017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736750704073339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35978374070100105,0.0,0.23233716750234945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441071317877732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288975527263433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28290314922517384,0.0,0.13607687851519773,0.0,0.0,0.15414037617188256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591361005916734,0.374419491652042,0.0,0.0,0.2435645723347105,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,le_petit_singe,2020/01/27,"20 Months old baby shoving dolls off my daughter's (4) hands I met my father-in-law's girlfriend on the weekend. We stayed at her house as we were away from our house.
This extremely kind and generous lady has two grandkids who live nearby her house. Little girl is four and the grandson is around 20 Months.

My daughter (4F) got Elsa and Anna from Frozen dolls this Christmas from her dad's side of the family. She normally doesn't take care of her toys, so I am sure her aunt told her to take care of those dolls or they wouldn't get her more. For the first time, I saw a change in how my daughter was taking care of her toys.

We were all almost leaving when my daughter took the dolls out. She took them out to show them, didn't want to share one with the four years old kid and the baby, when he saw them, he started shoving them off my daughter's hand. He is just a baby, he still has a lot to learn, I know that. But my daughter grabbed her dolls hard to her body and began to cry. Didn't want him to touch them as he was treating them too rough?

How would you have handled the situation?",4.482780952380955,4.675510817777777,4.575634920634922,90.8825,69.71111111111111,7.317460317460317,25.84920634920635,6.5431188927421005,0.7344539682539688,854,22,191,5,14,265,126,225,0.076,0.867,0.057999999999999996,0.1727,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,4,1,7,1,9,7,0,0,11,0,16,3,3,2,2,28,35,14,0,5,3,10,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,5,12,0,0,2,4,0,2,4,0,0,5,14,8,36,7,27,19,3,27,0,0,2,0,47,11,0,3,13,118,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589949892098265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192552560375656,0.0,0.0,0.11812659705035275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965664967758146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845674891600594,0.0,0.1330046816445757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810747614904612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852617462275647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694508003115637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568824815158329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005570203262174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126285481892172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.435223387300652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092747541085514,0.0690974070398365,0.0,0.0,0.1331289279466313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601355519149102,0.1110210694890019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689035651916297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200711483263684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318779070133125,0.0,0.0,0.2638630115003687,0.0,0.08519726958921044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132473897719075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889916806381139,0.1340104564740282,0.10040739519470343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184981575607126,0.0,0.2835978332800675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331362996473577,0.0,0.0,0.12013951137289865,0.27937923887821303,0.0,0.0,0.1228190291613724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831652230806644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931432174480322,0.0,0.0,0.08096539685995395
parenting,Shifty_Rob,2020/01/27,What’s the Tooth Fairy pay out these days. 5 year old is about to lose her first tooth and I was just wondering what the going rate for a tooth is. Don’t want to be the cheap tooth fairy or an over the top one that sets the bar to high either. Let’s hear everyone’s 2 cents on the matter.,1.5285937499999989,2.5590409218750025,2.4926250000000003,99.98987500000004,77.28125,6.370000000000001,15.925,6.742157984588678,-0.7393712500000005,225,2,59,2,5,71,49,64,0.069,0.86,0.071,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,8,0,6,5,4,0,0,8,10,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,1,3,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,2,0,8,7,1,11,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,2,4,34,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984761528376996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940725543574018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617757680327423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490393951054314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468616189167135,0.0,0.0,0.32515946099384685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146997642003749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442984959621317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229365131655345,0.0,0.20854237216439256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815215413735178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337465604507085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981837681632062
parenting,steelcutie,2020/01/27,"How to help husband bond with toddler? My SO (39M) unloaded to me about lately he’s been missing our life before our LO (2M) and doesn’t feel like he’s bonding with him - just feels like a babysitter that’s a placeholder until he is old enough to go to school.  He says that every day he’s home with him he feels likes he’s just buying time until it’s time to put him to bed. 

I don’t know how to help him.  I think he’s also burned out. Unfortunately we only have one week off together and I encourage him to utilize our family to take some time off to recharge but he never takes me up on it. I try to suggest a gym that has a kid club so he can have some self time but he won’t do that.

Any suggestions to help him enjoy parenting and to fight burnout/this feeling? Unfortunately we got 2-3 years of this before he’s actually in school for a noticeable time.",2.4529274004683828,3.5915329071038293,4.27397736143638,87.7019262295082,75.12021857923497,7.632943013270882,24.00039032006245,8.192908349453996,1.1572095238095237,674,20,153,11,14,229,104,183,0.055,0.825,0.12,0.8559,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,5,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,5,0,10,1,0,2,1,24,21,12,0,0,4,2,4,3,0,1,1,1,2,2,7,9,0,0,6,2,1,2,4,2,0,1,2,5,18,5,27,18,3,21,0,1,0,0,35,6,0,2,16,84,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.13567598350504648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118450158583518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454709005415576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23661339118941785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966467156870782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436580761924619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171411532527591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106777576762585,0.0,0.2811966993656136,0.2979752383411179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901555964312876,0.0,0.11119725270747748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795723199193848,0.0,0.13946126160647762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640880574140174,0.0,0.15683508479153074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820299745678736,0.20377324947786812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072306873471045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828979513557068,0.14589156418307644,0.0,0.09421224182821693,0.10574073005455334,0.0,0.0,0.15437950104813325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976639234134108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056448446421274,0.0,0.2814172872295654,0.0,0.0,0.1450415605788181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20907076623281626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908662169426902,0.0,0.0,0.4053557977177721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943941632338258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152374755386624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953258227014302
parenting,Robserker,2020/01/27,"Step parenting for a newbie. I have become a step parent to two wonderful young humans. As I expected their father has become threatened by my presence. My partner and the ex have been separated for 3 years and divorced for two. There has been a custody change since my partner and I have been together. It was 50/50 when we met, it is now full time for us and every other Thursday to Sunday for the father. I view myself to be accepting of others, while at the same time having standards that are making everyone uncomfortable. The father has a home that is sufficient for what I deem ""sleepover"" worthy. 2 mattreses on the floor in the same room. We live in a 3 room home with seperate rooms for all parties. We are now also moving to a 4 room home with more space for the children to grow. These children live off of fast food when they are with father. That said. Mother was not much different before I came in to the equation. Am I elitist in trying to make a better life for these young ones, or am I overstepping my boundaries?",4.1921969696969725,6.070114116161619,4.909987373737375,81.90164772727275,71.97979797979798,7.374242424242425,26.516414141414145,8.07648339933343,1.773241414141414,817,28,147,12,16,263,116,198,0.028999999999999998,0.894,0.077,0.8481,3,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,4,0,2,1,6,2,0,0,15,0,20,2,0,2,1,22,26,10,0,1,2,8,0,0,2,0,1,1,7,5,10,11,1,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,8,2,19,2,30,17,6,32,0,0,1,0,22,14,0,2,13,116,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186727318343436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32778483901641675,0.12627460266734578,0.0,0.0,0.13124476039470145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972621203250085,0.0,0.0,0.15698395842788784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504289430901286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250305615301824,0.14179933988571022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944179470156846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465617598814667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481692876521173,0.0,0.0,0.26207388705090595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19811180641791015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772213340760508,0.10908859818731954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055739739374517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32955379333083096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411591781368162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275522627708385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306253729228788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075157113086518,0.0,0.2899238903416261,0.0,0.17850287495304626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092981565195694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556256469772777
parenting,DestinyUniverse1,2020/01/27,My daughter thinks it’s weird I’m dating her mother again.. We had her when we were 15-16 she then stayed with me once I finished high school and then her mom. We started living together a year ago because we got stable jobs and I’ve been trying to get back with Kylie and it’s been successful... I remember why we had sex in real first place lol. Anyways she’s 10 now and has grown up without us so she’s freaked out when we came out about our relationship can this effect her negatively,0.4162285714285723,2.87079868,1.9457142857142848,93.835,92.2,4.8571428571428585,19.142857142857142,6.5431188927421005,0.1617857142857142,388,12,82,5,14,125,74,100,0.044000000000000004,0.904,0.053,0.2075,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,8,0,0,3,8,3,0,0,1,1,7,1,0,1,0,20,13,9,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,15,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,7,0,19,1,9,6,0,22,0,0,0,1,19,6,0,0,13,54,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888159727899624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378760354150074,0.0,0.12984579687911876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24362083582935976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118184081802727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128625755152052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035945968315772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250513488891532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113744746954236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880872101245179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494687392855275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268432438496591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254476222996072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24244618440812435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286875246326834,0.2412930044937415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21557230880536354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076594931535098,0.2270348592544414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648492536734216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461633047771322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562186422075895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922037720350535,0.0,0.0,0.20532910175397545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716815809923116
parenting,123kp,2020/01/27,Toddler Sleeping Habits Any ideas on how to get an (almost) 2 year old out of our bed and into his own (new) toddler bed with minimal conflict?,4.241785714285712,5.395228178571434,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,70.78571428571428,7.028571428571429,31.857142857142854,7.1686216300943375,2.0204428571428577,111,5,21,1,2,36,26,28,0.081,0.919,0.0,-0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,8,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,3,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3939016646867551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26750402429044345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551877107552965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4440650810024817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799176847797976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127739997777444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936525199669029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533163743977728
parenting,spookybishhh,2020/01/27,"Worried about a friend 
So I have a friend who I’ve known most of my life who’s just had her second child( born at the beginning of December)I don’t have kids so it’s always difficult when it comes to suggesting and advice as I don’t have the experience and don’t wanna step over boundaries. I’m worried about her anxiety about leaving her baby. 

I don’t know if she doesn’t want to leave her daughter with her father or if it’s mostly her anxiety about leaving the baby altogether. I know it has to be tough but I can’t help feel it’s unhealthy to have had practically no time without the baby at all. Especially since she has the father around and he’s been able to go do other social things solo. What are your experiences, any advice would be appreciated? Thanks",4.41,5.605222857142858,5.731038961038963,78.9094155844156,70.42857142857143,8.716883116883116,26.98701298701299,9.095868883498916,2.1099558441558437,616,20,120,12,11,207,91,154,0.114,0.774,0.11199999999999999,0.5673,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,0,7,0,20,1,0,0,1,22,29,11,0,5,6,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,10,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,8,2,0,1,3,1,15,3,19,23,3,11,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,5,4,87,25,0,0.16190242012889702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164183423235271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347157832797042,0.0,0.0,0.11009919755820144,0.0,0.24770981650439003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412747922108354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946459912104633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167432670495392,0.0,0.0,0.08186272824059289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501708163505362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920128764019882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851977945585327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795467197753398,0.0,0.0,0.5142938581574794,0.0,0.0,0.11435646736043728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392735498406946,0.0,0.0,0.1650391284688746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490579961785379,0.0,0.0,0.10756077387676376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440660316193343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549424213908612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606815550292133,0.0,0.0,0.3288395331427757,0.0,0.1150108340522035,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,harryk_tv,2020/01/27,"Childsafe video channels for 2-8 year olds Hi team,

We realize how dangerous it is for children to end up with videos that have inappropriate content such as cursing or violent material via the related/suggested autoplay video function. So we decided to build a platform that will be free to use with moderated childsafe YouTube videos! (aimed at 2-8 years)  


So it would be super helpful if you could share a channel or two your child enjoys and what age they are so we can review it and add it to our database!  


We are also looking for content moderators so feel free to dm me if you're interested in helping us build this platform!

P.S. we will update you when the site goes live (projected Feb 15th)",5.9208333333333325,7.171248204545453,6.578484848484853,74.02106060606063,66.95454545454545,9.806060606060607,36.63636363636363,9.994966539143718,3.879918181818182,561,29,99,13,9,184,95,132,0.047,0.7859999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9483,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,7,3,1,2,8,8,2,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,0,21,14,14,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,8,10,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,12,8,14,8,0,13,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,4,7,64,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23075039233843875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303807617684213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25556639940029263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458976920735592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868130395167971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547916919241059,0.0,0.2423062412601877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027808300073564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28186783269640714,0.0,0.3470857019323668,0.24921138089525674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049750309121884,0.0,0.0,0.3716287466551197
parenting,Mya-Mia,2020/01/27,"No Stranger Danger for our 3 year old. So my hubby said we should research ways to help our 3 year old daughter learn about stranger danger but I thought I'd start here instead.  

Our daughter has always been a very friendly girl even before she could talk.  But here lately I've gotten more worried about it.  She'll get upset, sometimes cry if she says hi to someone or waves and they don't respond back to her,  no matter the person's age- young or old.  She'll go out of her way to try to make a friend even if we're at a restaurant.  Granted I'm a friendly person myself so I'm really hoping I'm not sending her the wrong message.  I love that she's so kind to others it's just I don't want her to be kind to the wrong person one day and something really bad happen to her.  Because anyone that knows her will tell you if somebody were to drive down the road and offer her candy if she got in their car there would be no hesitation.  I'll take any advice you all have just trying to keep our little one safe.",2.9856428571428566,4.2323622666666685,3.9135119047619082,90.38169642857143,73.95238095238095,5.821428571428572,23.125,5.602791699666715,0.27692857142857097,796,21,168,3,16,256,130,210,0.161,0.657,0.182,0.8829,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,5,2,2,0,14,14,2,1,8,0,14,1,0,1,1,29,32,14,0,9,11,2,0,0,3,5,0,2,0,4,5,5,0,2,3,0,0,4,6,6,0,2,6,2,27,8,19,18,2,23,0,0,0,1,42,6,0,7,11,102,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908830874070503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014042022573762,0.0,0.0,0.08287463447683997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521316069653859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370921314846056,0.1017549540975154,0.07428979478959148,0.0,0.10370096158388664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730193446157027,0.0,0.13386662352595913,0.07859498243135983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098574777765126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824654777914719,0.0,0.06367116560654429,0.0,0.06926057290241704,0.0,0.09746922583955234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077677500831911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168576388721542,0.0,0.0,0.1210427365244606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832215949607504,0.0,0.25381419672189515,0.06697563978969025,0.0,0.13747276957754462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214406940419285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999091398228183,0.0,0.08134804779698905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38364089411957936,0.0,0.16516225090132097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31923214068819195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561439287365527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159246768547894,0.096914576967344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032586293596978,0.09382018423143723,0.12053088149480876,0.0,0.08625902189442812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162980754570524,0.09795313676608768,0.10651828045979247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967498307280092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654811749419173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055412445498957,0.07188109075668812,0.19346679476901507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376319135448675,0.0,0.08657175569253596,0.2664877464566037,0.0,0.15695840083826176
parenting,troubledtethrowaway,2020/01/27,"Out of control, pregnant 15 year old daughter My daughter is 15. When she was 13, me and her father divorced because he was cheating on me with another woman. When that happened, I put her into therapy to help her process that change. Around that time, we started having trouble with her disrespecting me and testing boundaries, and it's been a downward spiral ever since. 

Fast forward to the present. She regularly skips school, and she sneaks out. She currently isn't even on track to graduate. I've been fined for her truancy, and as for the running away, the police won't do anything because she isn't considered a runaway until she's been gone for 24 hours, and we always find her before then. Recently, she even shoplifted from a store. Luckily for her, the police just let her off with a warning. Now today, she told me that she is pregnant, and she refuses to have an abortion. I previously knew that she was having sex with a boy, and when I found out that she was having sex, I made sure that she had protection and birth control, but apparently, she wasn't using it. I just feel so hopeless. She disrespects me to my face, lies to me, and refuses to listen to anything I say. I've been doing everything I can to help her. We've been to multiple therapists to help her, but therapy hasn't helped because she's uncooperative. I've given her logical consequences for her actions, but again, they haven't helped. I've been understanding and calm and loving, but she just spits all my effort back into my face. I really don't want to raise a baby now, and I'm thinking of telling her that if she wants to keep the baby, I won't help her raise it. What should I do? Do you have any better advice?",5.288123791102514,6.2405321215805465,6.023427742470293,78.51327922077922,68.209726443769,9.021331859629733,31.671870682508978,9.218907990703514,2.7692601823708207,1344,55,251,25,22,440,161,329,0.051,0.861,0.08800000000000001,0.9218,2,0,0,0,1,1,46.0,2,1,1,4,15,8,1,0,12,0,33,6,3,4,3,53,51,25,0,4,8,3,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,12,25,0,6,7,0,1,5,8,3,0,0,18,3,56,5,37,29,1,37,0,1,0,3,56,12,0,1,22,184,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193024690359898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015865606612212,0.0,0.0,0.08302367056928983,0.12801936410005832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093518124368653,0.1086837381217775,0.0,0.0,0.1147052030337428,0.09387773340851796,0.0,0.2232701774749245,0.0,0.10388745032311693,0.0,0.0,0.10797645161943413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291523619018349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738629723785851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127525357083344,0.11043511212265847,0.0,0.0,0.10972435162081433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061731096430175575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158574170822401,0.0,0.0,0.13386261638737246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796155225759467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4909959719751075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023157169058768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851695868256844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484271638781913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018871414307158,0.11552212220392424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811026924928345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273163465696292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821236366623747,0.0,0.12054665428825405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708886153515928,0.0,0.12355904414439295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099202216742624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641414423847038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506600174329998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670983567321116,0.0,0.2792353387845071,0.14175297009312854,0.0,0.07822872525679431,0.0,0.0,0.07119018934119539,0.0,0.11572465239598576,0.1166598157274339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709736866934107,0.0,0.10544438069511,0.0,0.0,0.14402071361925006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862033206264149
parenting,epiphanist1248,2020/01/27,"Help getting our autistic 3 y/o to sleep? Like the title says: our son is 3, nearly 4, and he's autistic and communication delayed. For a long time he slept like a rock, at nighttime and at naptime, for hours on end; but lately (past 4+ months?) he's had so much trouble going to bed at night. Good nights are when he's asleep by midnight, but some nights he stays up until 3am bouncing off the walls. Weekend, school day, doesn't matter. We're good parents, we have a bedtime routine, we tuck him in, read to him, all of which he enjoys, and a lot of the time he even seems sleepy when we do that, so we cross our fingers ... but then it's like a switch gets thrown, he just leaps back up and runs around and wants to play. 

We give him melatonin, to dubious effect. Talking to him about the importance of going to sleep is a craps shoot. We have an appointment with his developmental pediatrician in a few days to get some help, hopefully, but in the meantime, oh mighty hive-mind, what say you? Has anyone had a similar experience? What has worked for you and your kiddos?",5.1379414951245925,5.333099948356812,5.536150234741787,84.55391115926332,68.29577464788733,8.243986998916576,28.591188154568435,7.882392219407189,1.5633339833875044,831,26,176,9,13,266,135,213,0.071,0.7909999999999999,0.138,0.9462,1,0,0,1,0,0,41.0,9,3,0,2,9,10,1,0,14,0,11,6,6,1,1,31,21,17,0,2,5,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,5,15,0,1,2,4,0,4,1,2,0,0,3,3,17,8,30,18,6,38,0,0,0,0,33,13,1,6,23,102,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139746461035966,0.0,0.0,0.1290935918743974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150714920344047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18704462748462197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843974672472613,0.0,0.0,0.09578066656386654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185194338525206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22729217089886114,0.13911105977988827,0.16483009038418028,0.2432624556010763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19440023783228996,0.0,0.0,0.14403205435353175,0.1428100074074654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358259891060978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125401837373176,0.0,0.0,0.1283332115163693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328608675598238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464232402439929,0.0,0.11574913838991754,0.0,0.10660229519966014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082586707174992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102136861496805,0.0,0.1384326868028757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505367782941034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23064259811391824,0.0,0.14676235003340207,0.0,0.13201569513877354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902383251088445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456609278035194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165571096944013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911816628861182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553327087715219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557223569446804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,delavenue,2020/01/27,"Help Me Find a Healthy View of Medication In my home growing up there was definitely a ""Medicine is only a last resort"" mentality. While we weren't told to suck it up and deal with the pain, it was somewhat implied as we were encouraged to give our bodies every opportunity to heal or feel better before intervening with pain meds, decongestions, or any type of medication. It wasn't until I married my husband that I realized it's okay to take an ibuprofen for a headache if you need it to go away.

Well, my 6 month old is cutting her first tooth. And as I administered a dose of baby Tylenol to her I was struck with self-doubt on my view on the how often to administrator it to her. Do I make her toughen it out until nothing else comforts her or do I provide it for her when I know she is uncomfortable?

So, what is a healthy view of medication?

How often do you medicate? When there is any sign of discomfort? When it gets in the way of sleep or other activities? Only as a last resort?",6.2469990723562105,5.96809166836735,7.433580705009277,73.50362708719854,65.98979591836735,10.392578849721707,34.144712430426715,10.018931242160765,3.215373469387755,781,32,155,16,11,267,113,196,0.08800000000000001,0.769,0.14300000000000002,0.8547,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,2,0,3,11,11,2,1,11,1,14,14,3,3,0,25,24,19,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,12,8,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,5,1,1,7,4,24,6,32,17,1,22,0,0,3,0,18,8,1,8,11,114,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929618778845672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332977163545739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207265191091382,0.0,0.0,0.12547830473484894,0.0,0.15759289559333628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626852327102555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851967663192405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953713697729368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173706130650223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967262298521953,0.1206801457036277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741246568391895,0.13610094260539082,0.08063172944881118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509688033989064,0.0,0.1423137767451256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797165747953086,0.2312966959603277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470371823804072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759289559333628,0.5717029090749913,0.1429782220039054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324453185502333,0.0,0.0,0.10519968569004284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613440407765295,0.0,0.1488756035545798,0.0,0.0,0.21580706321606,0.3019333664071009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800821413205822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419790406673133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667353072405944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556915131598574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261502467733353,0.0,0.0,0.1275640833018619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yoshigurl234,2020/01/27,"Pregnant and struggling First off let me start by saying I’m currently pregnant and everything is a little more feely than usual. We have a ten year old who has always been “mommy’s little boy” and more and more I feel like I barely even recognize the kid. He’s more cold and shut off, he doesn’t like to talk to me as openly as he once did, and the absolute worst of all is his horrible attitude. He is constantly spewing negative comments about everything. He somehow managed to complain the entire time at a cirque de sole show we spent good money to attended. I almost lost my mind with how he was acting! Like I said, I’m pregnant and feeling so short fused with his behavior that I feel like I’m constantly snapping and I HATE that. I feel ashamed I don’t have the patience I once did and I’m afraid my son will start resenting his new sibling because of how I’m acting in response. I’m sure his behavior is typical for his age but I’m horrified to think of what the future holds heading into the teen years. It doesn’t help that we don’t have friends with kids our age so we feel blind walking through it all... parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.",4.131327300150828,5.368076205128208,5.007295123177478,83.6792081447964,71.13675213675214,8.411865258924083,30.004022121669177,8.841846274778883,2.3811596782302664,928,38,183,17,17,302,134,234,0.11699999999999999,0.7979999999999999,0.085,-0.8267,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,0,0,2,8,15,2,3,10,0,20,2,1,2,4,35,39,16,0,0,1,2,5,4,1,1,1,2,0,3,8,18,0,1,6,1,2,4,5,8,0,2,8,9,23,7,23,29,7,30,0,1,1,0,29,10,0,2,20,111,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584765099197482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288310942098775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269936400477103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932086408594401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883111969595135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960462868925266,0.12271563053733615,0.0,0.0,0.2438516652112124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429783461339839,0.19383642300340848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539551810686392,0.0,0.0,0.10481347822994826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378831861456992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393986849969122,0.13923014849656304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093255326454454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872537787175154,0.0,0.2651138262525935,0.27194143920549946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809301101139585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698171608350287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102489700998834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235628657462238,0.2889549364868638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063854182053255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904729479334728,0.10788526069685292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920470037788364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182520929917666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786148070059442,0.0,0.0,0.10904138496776096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012896864302376,0.08692785438889318,0.0,0.0,0.07910662474244642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494144563450751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472601669306012
parenting,peanutbutter1898,2020/01/27,"What toys do I get my niece and nephews? I have three nephews/nieces. Their ages are 2 years old, 4 years old, and 8 years old. What features should I be looking for when ordering toys for each of them? How is it different for each age group?",1.4448979591836704,3.619517163265311,1.9585306122449,98.47575510204081,81.44897959183673,5.552653061224492,22.044897959183675,6.742157984588678,0.2719273469387753,187,6,43,2,5,57,36,49,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,8,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,4,6,2,10,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,9,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635811314741123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180700093331704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21185345123688745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.79418297446844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873842630812698
parenting,repopkernels,2020/01/27,How has parenting changed you as a person? I’m a University student taking a course on different parenting styles. For my assignment I need to hear from various people how becoming a parent has changed them as a person. Any parents are welcome to respond. Please include your own gender and the age of your child.,5.175789473684207,7.702106578947372,6.038456140350879,72.0745263157895,70.9298245614035,9.472280701754386,35.96140350877193,9.888512548439397,4.3556414035087725,253,14,39,7,5,83,44,57,0.0,0.9009999999999999,0.099,0.6486,5,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,1,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,2,0,4,7,5,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,8,7,2,2,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,1,28,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645738112827105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913462082635046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623242800633751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892211924717122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301369658019912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698135015361478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7606212896306705,0.0,0.0,0.1187247257033052,0.29906166352913066,0.0,0.18798350993295576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287603557761985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spittingkittyy,2020/01/27,"Parents with ADHD children. How do you get your child to eat their school lunch and not get too distracted by conversation? Asking for a friend. They have tried putting notes in her lunch box, included her in prepping meals, and offered treats if she were to finish her lunch. 
She forgets to eat because she is talking. 
Any tips and tricks???",4.3239247311828,7.036549887096777,3.4754838709677434,88.5498924731183,74.32258064516128,6.068817204301076,28.075268817204304,7.1686216300943375,1.505797849462366,271,11,49,3,6,79,49,62,0.023,0.883,0.094,0.6904,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,2,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,4,6,0,1,0,8,7,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,10,2,8,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,1,1,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282587996814272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574320768127608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553471609776307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650239086193094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5589767301063627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21102574281991485,0.0,0.28540666541027804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30328742755055105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27457913326206435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764302401958744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219537979747716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854427741287224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BelindaPickens,2020/01/27,"Extremely moody 10 month old!! My son is 10 months old. He doesn't like to be set down and has severe separation anxiety. My tiny bit of time without him is typically first thing in the morning in which he's done very well all morning. As soon as he catches his eye on me, all hell breaks loose and he doesn't calm down for very long, most of the day. I've tried distractions and setting him elsewhere and keep him busy but nothing seems to work. It's every single day, uncontrollable.",4.267142857142858,5.5611941666666675,4.6314880952380975,86.28375000000004,70.875,7.985714285714287,27.255952380952376,8.418075326091056,1.658757738095238,384,13,80,6,7,121,71,96,0.17800000000000002,0.805,0.017,-0.9036,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,2,7,1,2,2,0,7,1,1,0,2,11,9,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,1,1,1,1,7,3,13,7,5,19,1,0,1,0,9,5,1,2,11,44,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633355415784395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231063552598395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635884183429384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20912951132914248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218069708258618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382708116244794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164306301612795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983915179144977,0.0,0.0,0.18085068092774104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262337199742845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608731799779652,0.0,0.4288793566050931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860401378325276,0.0,0.23086673141355346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576658612416878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916297881567915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387458837037251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33723402948906417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374267061279706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969941263122962,0.0,0.14877528962931907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,guhhyuck,2020/01/27,"Mothers who sleeptrain(ed) - did/do you breastfeed? Just curious to know if the mothers here who practice cry it out/Ferber method/extinction method/sleep training/whatever you wanna call it - were you breastfeeding your child at the time of implementing sleep training? 

If so, did you stop afterwards?",8.245000000000001,11.1831628367347,6.285459183673472,71.81757653061227,63.48979591836735,9.797959183673472,38.78061224489796,10.125756701596842,4.714628571428571,245,13,34,6,4,71,37,49,0.124,0.83,0.047,-0.5864,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,6,3,3,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,4,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,2,3,22,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37049210157521983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985539819833294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994030119754671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7261881884165877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033438497349672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115702927230677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Haliray,2020/01/27,"A very hot sleeper with a baby? Hi all. So I’m (28 f) not a mom. Not even expecting. But my boyfriend (25 m) and I have been discussing kids lately. I’m a very hot sleeper. Like have AC on in the winter and my bf sleeps in a hoodie hot. I’ve got a ceiling fan and a box fan on me and I still get hot. My bf has said “when we have kids, we’re screwed.” Meaning, what can we possibly do that will keep the baby warm and me cool? I know newborn babies can’t sleep with a blanket, so it has to be warm enough for them to be comfortable. Am I just going to have to suffer through it? Are there any parents out there that sleep hot and have found a solution?",-0.3111737089201867,1.5290353943662005,1.8963661971831025,98.32774178403757,85.90140845070421,4.913427230046949,20.030046948356805,6.079149491110277,-0.18646910798122066,494,15,122,4,15,166,87,142,0.048,0.81,0.142,0.884,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,1,0,8,7,1,0,11,1,16,4,3,0,1,21,26,10,0,1,4,2,7,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,5,11,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,9,12,5,13,19,2,10,0,1,0,1,13,5,1,0,5,76,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506922537760255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20522879191139692,0.0,0.13118742777223388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177778912746548,0.0,0.0,0.1037713779572486,0.0,0.11288100382213773,0.0,0.15885551611068685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654364651771376,0.0,0.0,0.10915701580669868,0.0,0.22405336222076105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970362844020808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163567119833572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23262274608283906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205453346983851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22391555690821613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889342427121174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5962939183540009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861914497108193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32776657862555103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MilaJayye,2020/01/27,"Thinking of another baby So I had my son at 38+2 and I had an emergency c section due to preeclampsia, but he was born with low blood sugar and was hospitalized for +2 days. He grew up to be a healthy boy, nothing wrong with him and he’s a happy baby at most. So me and my S/O was discussing about another baby but the condition I had made me rethink the whole thing. I haven’t discussed it with my OB/GYN yet if my body is prepared for another baby, so I don’t want to jump into another pregnancy and have that same condition.",2.9801785714285707,3.8202680892857153,5.252142857142856,82.34285714285716,73.46428571428571,8.814285714285715,30.07142857142857,9.188382445141503,2.5358892857142865,414,18,88,9,8,146,74,112,0.04,0.8140000000000001,0.146,0.9135,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,11,3,2,1,0,18,14,11,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,9,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,7,1,12,1,14,6,4,12,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,2,4,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8252298678370525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854271055086785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688620446909446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944193921869905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861677456155963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18878504360456336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071065045513006,0.1260681949534384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604708719389505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966215212184545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21511308762573755,0.0,0.0
parenting,yikesomalley,2020/01/27,"How do you explain death to your kids? My five year old son’s grandma’s dog died. He has lots of questions. I try not to lie or hide the truth, but also don’t want to say too much. 

He already knew Jack died. Nobody even gave him that detail. But he has started to ask “why do things die?” “What happens?” 

We are not religious at all. Can’t assuage him with the notions of heaven. We feel it’s 100% okay if he becomes religious on his own, but don’t want to influence him either  for or against.

He has mentioned it a few times. Tonight, I more or less said: “Everything dies once in a while. It’s normal, but it can be sad too. It’s okay to feel sad when someone dies. But it’s also not a bad thing, it happens and it will all be okay. I love you and I will take care of you buddy.”",-0.0381769793745832,1.9241088982035959,1.8067764471057897,98.633624417831,85.76646706586827,4.669194943446441,20.056220891550232,5.82211442006289,-0.2623783100465733,594,18,143,4,18,195,103,167,0.13,0.7090000000000001,0.161,0.5879,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,4,0,0,7,10,0,0,5,3,14,1,0,2,3,32,29,16,6,4,13,1,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,12,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,3,4,15,7,15,22,9,10,1,2,0,1,25,3,0,6,7,93,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884665365875535,0.21573164096157546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609732010979788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262160214104093,0.0,0.14896758528750975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752212397852465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6999358660637531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890888949702514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122406904705067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364017118435575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23855303716953144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467263309316472,0.12173709932364335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099154464270695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13215662090264252,0.0,0.0,0.14153693228263647,0.14364590515233894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510997371289531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830454252435866,0.10726430988729632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142858583792634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547082332286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141516765643688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922043400372897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786513139580276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157664710988092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911487900443075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171085344718133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868601766306156
parenting,hiphopottomiss,2020/01/27,"Nothing like your 9 y/o daughter to make you feel ancient af Today my daughter asked me what year I was born.  I told her, ""1982.""

Her response?

""Ohhh WOOOWW!  You were born in the 1900's??!""  

Yeah.  Yeah I was.  And????!",-1.9536692506459945,-0.6619380465116258,-0.2801550387596894,105.58090439276484,115.51162790697674,1.9111111111111112,16.405684754521968,3.1291,-1.3817369509043926,156,5,37,0,9,49,35,43,0.05,0.8029999999999999,0.147,0.6281,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,10,1,2,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,6,18,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197324341210855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270160162029119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193472465338364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29969531010122885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308050750758175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4255772387441577,0.4290163005182271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28912615536642866
parenting,goosesmama87,2020/01/27,"2 yrs + 7m suddent onset of stuttering- worried mom. Xpost from r/toddlere Our very articulate 2 year old recently started stuttering out of seemingly nowhere last monday. She gets stuck on ""I"" at the beginning of a sentence and some times and or or in the middle of a sentence. When she gets stuck on ""I"" she often holds her mouth open in an unnatural way and physically struggles to get words out. I think the physical part is the most unnerving to us. It's hard to watch her struggle. It happens mostly when shes speaking to adults and rarely if at all if she is with other children.

Everyone we have spoken to says it's common in children this age and it usually passes on it's own. Does anyone have any insight or experience here?

Our babysitter works with a speech pathologist and is going speak with her to help us understand how to decide whether or not to get her assessed, but hearing from others is helpful in navigating this. Thanks in advance!",4.8416483516483515,6.605702835164834,5.6887912087912085,77.4312087912088,70.0989010989011,8.716483516483517,32.78021978021978,9.23628265651192,3.1396439560439564,764,36,135,16,14,250,118,182,0.071,0.861,0.068,0.6375,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,2,5,5,0,2,8,0,7,1,1,1,1,35,22,17,0,2,9,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,9,13,0,1,5,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,2,7,17,1,29,20,6,31,0,0,1,0,24,14,0,11,13,95,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102342118525654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415623960528735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287124233704884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600336347562305,0.0,0.1597010783236886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411895898481254,0.0,0.09278527507745596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437160879445254,0.0,0.1462502397430073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840075804756756,0.0,0.21886148943255146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307991597036326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912099002820567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131548489113588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679629909822905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120103917049475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983210080574548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486271415545895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555733282286355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413527436758335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030925799447326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461137954292547,0.0,0.0,0.0951990958878332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996098337446444,0.3927669748700999,0.0,0.17980948122782192,0.13470783891542654,0.0,0.12958938266572104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885631933613708,0.16579998219866196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513505582760983
parenting,phrresehelp,2020/01/27,Best car seat that fits into 2009 Corolla I would like it to be from 5lbs to 70lbs or so Thank you,-1.2783333333333324,0.7440454090909085,0.14272727272727434,107.1007575757576,94.9090909090909,2.9333333333333336,11.87878787878788,3.1291,-2.0320484848484845,77,1,20,0,3,24,21,22,0.0,0.644,0.35600000000000004,0.8733,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6395859248378369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977491622737785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5611047221743923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4329396861783291,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ally862,2020/01/27,"Consequences for a strong willed child. My daughter will be 4 in April and is the most confident person I know.  She is sweet, caring, sympathetic (she'll go up and kids she's never met and try to soothe them if she seems them crying) but has no hesitation when it comes to saying no if she doesn't want to do something.  The best way I can describe it is if I tell my 5 year old son he can't do something he will get upset, cry and beg me to let him.  He would never do it anyway because then he'd feel guilty.  My daughter is the complete opposite.  She will just shrug and go do it anyway and not feel bad at all.

I want her to always have this confidence because it will take her far in life but as her parent its exhausting because she never listens.  I'm looking for advice on how to handle the not listening moments.  We've tried time outs but she couldn't care less about them.  Any advice on getting her to listen would be appreciated.  I know it's also normal at this age but she needs to learn how to and I'm at a loss.  I want to encourage her to be herself but she needs to learn to hear what other people are asking of her too.",2.502899197145404,3.9413543389830537,4.004210526315791,88.47763157894737,75.52542372881356,6.6633363068688665,22.59054415700268,7.273561745256523,0.6942152542372879,888,24,191,10,19,295,135,236,0.126,0.736,0.138,0.7221,1,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,3,3,9,10,0,1,6,0,28,2,0,2,4,43,55,21,0,12,11,4,2,0,0,8,2,5,0,3,11,9,0,0,7,0,0,3,10,4,0,0,1,9,32,6,27,40,4,25,0,1,1,0,41,10,0,5,11,137,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26065243111493164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665479110919536,0.11097332778990504,0.0,0.0,0.09069519578610898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246816023444169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135717873554818,0.2439007131392455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399620779771194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27195627568484243,0.0,0.0,0.11488520718625594,0.1398344001581239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29299820642479285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487030478021028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935913846423256,0.0,0.15159285490177904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031606267584358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465917479327985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637839097722493,0.09420215974943813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199600262501758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778219811901296,0.3085861715359228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067287425472265,0.0,0.0,0.13994787115655088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480900053603166,0.0,0.0,0.09246096845036628,0.11645228435979957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606003378557943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141373017077667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053472701574796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027656094849663,0.0,0.11657000193225965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776828121519072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810969985571008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359927005645653,0.10586175698060127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894824002940478,0.0,0.0,0.08588498147933865
parenting,Joz86,2020/01/27,"My 14 year old confided in me about a sexual experience with her ex boyfriend My 14 year old confided in me that she gave her ex oral sex!!!. I was shocked because I gave her numerous talks and she just presents herself as so innocent to me. She completely hid it from me until after the fact.

I'm torn between anger, shock, disappointment and anger (with myself) because I obviously failed her.

I cant see how she could do this!!! At 14 I didn't even want to be kissed. I didn't even have sex until 17. She hadn't been dating the boy for more than 2 months. She said she wanted to do it and didn't feel pressured. 

I remained calm when I talked to her. I honestly don't know what else I can do. The boy is now out of the picture thank goodness.

I can't talk to anyone about this, not my boyfriend, mom or friends. I feel shame. I don't know how to react. Honestly. I will say that my view of her has changed for sure. 

Any advice?",1.2360690789473665,3.259480885416668,2.7323026315789503,93.47190789473686,81.29166666666666,6.333771929824562,22.605263157894736,7.475848149327749,0.7513187499999998,718,24,164,11,19,234,112,192,0.139,0.7290000000000001,0.132,-0.3613,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,10,16,2,2,5,0,20,3,0,3,3,22,32,11,0,3,3,3,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,7,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,9,8,0,0,9,6,37,8,25,20,1,16,0,2,2,3,27,4,0,1,12,108,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717662493904993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953369129365884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290664941277668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430280694945134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185947675543164,0.0,0.18429776655595712,0.0,0.0,0.14034281381301908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683827286568651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23219674872786644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194263329135506,0.0,0.0,0.17775522988339518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580408302485414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743254903238448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320375893913427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058666986533274,0.1403027070409321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36889463621609053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672032054675304,0.13978411124464676,0.0,0.0,0.14007069507803466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566677715483807,0.0,0.0,0.4238462136945593,0.0,0.1618309024517453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735444968418168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22638793100185914
parenting,bassgrl73,2020/01/27,"Toddler bed woes We switched my 2.75 year old to a toddler bed about a month ago.  It seems every night she puts more and more stuff in her bed with her.  First just get slippers, then her basket, then a pair of shoes, etc.

Is this normal? Did your kid grow out of it?

Also, did you remove all toys from their room when you did toddler bed?  She doesn't play with toys at bedtime, but she does at naptime.

Experiences and anecdotes about the toddler bed transition welcome!",3.3045329670329657,5.375975428571434,3.1099862637362636,93.02563873626372,74.93406593406593,5.429120879120879,24.561813186813183,5.985473137389443,0.4674494505494504,368,12,75,2,8,110,65,91,0.038,0.91,0.052000000000000005,0.521,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,3,1,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,1,11,7,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,4,6,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,0,12,2,12,4,4,17,0,1,0,0,13,5,0,1,9,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436018788181923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21976491182852745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24048748555269026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064850314488999,0.0,0.0,0.2315387023272345,0.0,0.0,0.26881624417818745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23375266498299355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435765259984234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21935017530449893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578899282740165,0.26925478349648635,0.0,0.0,0.28836615069473315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27625926681672835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501760814329971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31459092085499235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696819041985146
parenting,4ckjb,2020/01/27,"Child acting out My 10 year old daughter has been acting out and I'm at a loss. Her stepfather and I have recently split up, he was like a father to her and hasn't really had much to do with her since the split. Her bio dad has been in and out of her life. She talks back, screams, doesn't listen to anyone and has had a terrible attitude. I'm honestly at a loss on what to do. I'm sure that she's acting out cause of all the change, maybe she feels abandond? I'm at a loss of what to do now. Any advice?",2.0137162162162165,2.6727437387387383,3.8536824324324317,92.14646959459463,75.57657657657657,7.712162162162162,21.082207207207208,8.07648339933343,0.5975126126126127,389,8,96,6,8,132,64,111,0.114,0.816,0.071,-0.5803,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,3,2,8,0,0,7,0,14,1,0,1,2,14,20,5,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,10,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,5,3,10,3,19,15,2,18,0,3,0,0,15,10,0,0,6,62,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782383169159418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19362856904842568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909230941314496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189425143547517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924997759001881,0.3012103277631635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396983156254975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011157177120137,0.1391064237025424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860531086450705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931191151177714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987799496824809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240759478285956,0.0,0.28114001721870097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355345241121985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26835798888323475,0.0,0.0,0.2288580314779265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335906243384426
parenting,xpen15,2020/01/27,"Misbehaving 8 year old Hello all, first post here. I’m a mom who is stumped and don’t know where to go from here. We have an 8 year old who in the last month has upped the sass and has been misbehaving way more than we’ve ever seen. She has stopped following rules, doesn’t listen to us, and doesn’t seem to for lack of better words, follow authority. We’ve tried taking things away, sending her to her room and having sit down talks and nothing seems to be working. I’m at a loss and just wanted to see if others have experienced this. Is this a phase? Are there other methods that work that I’m missing? What am I doing wrong?",3.0567441860465085,4.42224711627907,3.9851860465116284,89.46708139534884,73.96124031007753,6.710387596899222,22.20232558139535,7.1686216300943375,0.5007172093023247,494,12,108,5,10,159,92,129,0.139,0.8290000000000001,0.033,-0.9107,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,5,6,4,0,0,6,0,16,0,0,0,2,18,31,7,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,7,0,1,3,0,0,4,3,3,0,1,2,4,6,1,15,28,3,23,0,2,2,0,12,7,0,3,9,70,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811188527429929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049419314325467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437640386997744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397467365875296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955871362121028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594432924564992,0.15713769658343413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22577624185577186,0.1538715009523518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18497321454336726,0.0,0.4045707496668737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846255641838352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361705091555014,0.3509910042153817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116888291997444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494312454230648,0.15494558028526692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807142307514566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088185597819552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318850942875397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370393727594175,0.15301615533252608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806856032134101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21076965923120355,0.0,0.2482821000067434
parenting,lyssatola,2020/01/27,"Normal behaviour for 3.5 yr old? LO is 3.5 - will be 4 at end of April. 3-4 months, ago she started doing things on her own like picking out her own outfits and dressing herself with 0 assistance and brushing her teeth. We thought - SUPER. Made the mornings SO MUCH EASIER especially when we're running late.

Last month or so she has been highly resistant to do anything herself - demands help picking out clothes, demands us to get her dressed, and to brush her teeth. Cries and whines until we (as minimally as possible) help her. I would love to take the patient empowering approach and say ""You are capable person, you can do this!"", however this crying/whining can go on for HOURS and we can't be hours late for work week after week until this kiddo decides to give up and do it herself.

I know she still HAS the skill to do these things. I've certainly witness her get dressed in record time if she knows we're going out to do something she wants to do. I've tried the playful reverse psychology ""I'll bet you can't get your ____ on all by yourself!"" approach which works intermittently but rarely now. I am not wanting to bribe this kid to do things cause I know what kind of path that leads down...

There have been no big life changes for her.

I suppose what I'm asking is - is this some type of regression or is this part of normal preschooler testing limits/choices/challenging crap we've all come to know and love? 

If this is normal - anyone have any advice or tips for getting through this stage?",3.4881490384615432,5.7212590381944475,3.9306944444444447,86.61067307692308,74.9375,6.514102564102564,28.43803418803419,7.468242284971852,1.670568482905983,1185,50,226,15,26,371,173,288,0.034,0.87,0.096,0.9426,2,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,4,4,0,5,6,9,1,0,4,0,29,6,3,5,3,45,51,21,0,8,7,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,17,16,0,0,6,1,1,7,4,2,0,0,4,3,29,7,38,43,7,41,0,1,0,2,33,12,1,7,22,146,46,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557215303332165,0.10483928960672552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042770981988202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826971896117557,0.0,0.09732619829296264,0.0,0.11056655919111613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149595079947798,0.1251140622230624,0.10187920127505172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991412896695245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475218615570156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471649408108283,0.11345543729240685,0.13443122360705184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854788273418804,0.12495883263446265,0.0,0.0,0.23294440953555734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231600880714582,0.2599925709964493,0.09640590021684553,0.2668276026679341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353765492278041,0.05778078686741502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134867289233776,0.1119100090213422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880409843798784,0.0,0.08694211687689436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34763870084169723,0.0,0.0,0.12410455343008643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807497093225678,0.0,0.0,0.10326887166593288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133331744406062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405311435580978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105008547244486,0.0,0.0,0.08371217111323358,0.0,0.0944506383889237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892438100824572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357201569463543,0.0,0.0,0.09389323235072124,0.06896423455016483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029762063445993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226434361527418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395175145063507,0.0,0.18973824791752814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722040531587493,0.0,0.0,0.08401567125322051,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,outlawjosewales,2020/01/27,"Any advice? I’m at a loss Ok, so I’m new here, I don’t know where to turn, I have a boy who had his eighth birthday today, my wife and I separated six months ago.
Tonight, on his birthday, he was at mine, and when I put him to bed he started crying, and said his mummy didn’t love him anymore.
She has a new man, she brought him into the kids lives very quickly( three stepsons also) and I guess it’s what you would call their “ honeymoon “ period, where it’s all lovely and they’re all over each other, but this has left my child feeling neglected, I’ve mentioned this to her once, just asking her to pay him more attention, my son has brought it up several times since, and I don’t want her to think it’s any kind of jealousy on my part? It isn’t, I’m seeing someone else too, but my time with my son is special, so I haven’t introduced them yet.
What can I do to get his mum to pay him more attention? It shouldn’t be my job to convince him he’s loved by his mother?!
I’m sorry if this isnt the right place for this, but I need help please?",4.0698935439560415,3.5602929330357145,5.08982142857143,89.2609478021978,70.5625,8.320879120879122,27.052197802197803,7.61054688173877,1.1680381868131864,803,22,192,8,13,265,134,224,0.073,0.797,0.13,0.9275,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,2,1,11,9,0,0,5,1,18,3,0,0,2,27,39,14,0,5,5,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,14,9,0,1,5,0,2,3,7,2,0,2,6,3,36,7,19,30,6,28,0,2,1,3,40,12,0,2,13,121,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485557658517825,0.1314032433088284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854515375597588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016126198847465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470113687715761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858167614174846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136665101272598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283149153276824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383307405387906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749531308017672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744776547182444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329987590300912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936020212065423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710244645761825,0.0,0.0,0.1543661262824158,0.08146723235461201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106004076990926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089607340986908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4013693056652236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832143740107598,0.0,0.0,0.10991592990046103,0.0,0.2863366260458111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786767149037118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16052633159107976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548762168068203,0.1627198188965326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490192269039515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659367178307054,0.14100742620179035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181257748260391,0.0,0.0,0.16746572678687552,0.0,0.12262325934891125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560081213229676,0.0,0.0,0.16593929491977613,0.1049229809736983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498434688034806,0.0,0.0,0.1728764879311253,0.0,0.14051143604482208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123939532682105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231113053809466,0.08743408112212596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530338132635776,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pizza_bug,2020/01/27,"Do you think my girlfriend was pregnant and had a miscarriage or is it just a bad period? My girlfriend is 21 and I’m 19. She has pcos and used to get really bad rage right before her period. She was placed on a hormonal birth control to regulate her periods. This was when she was 18. She hasn’t been on birth control in over a year and gets her period once a month. She said it’s a medium flow and lasts 3 days and is usually a few days late. 
She doesn’t really pms anymore either. Last month her period was pretty late and she said it was extremely light and could’ve been spotting but she thinks it’s because she didn’t ovulate. Her sex drive has been higher than usual. Her boobs got bigger and she started to have a pooch on her stomach. Possibly she was severely bloating. She said she felt something moving a bunch of times but I told her it’s probably gas.

She absolutely HATES chocolate like has always had a severe adversion to it even when pmsing and she’s been craving it for the last two weeks. 
She’s also been craving banana peppers, orange juice and   Avocados. She also hates orange juice. Her moods have been a bit psychotic. She keeps going through phases of where she roasts me and completely hates me and then starts crying and says she doesn’t mean it and she loves me (she never acted like this with other pms just excessive rage) . Her period was very late this month and she is currently having to change her pads a lot and she said it’s really heavy. She said it won’t lighten up and it would usually be over by now. She said there’s a bunch of blood clots in the toilet every time she wipes and on her pads. (She hates tampons idk why). She keeps getting massive headaches (she rarely gets headaches) and she’s been very tired and irritable and sad. 

We usually don’t use condoms (she’s never had this pregnancy type problem before, if that’s what it is, it’s hard for her to get pregnant anyways and no we are not trying to conceive). 

Im wondering could she have been pregnant and just miscarried or she’s just having a heavy period this month.",2.671617647058824,5.0196458676470606,3.7164313725490215,86.58494117647058,78.06862745098039,7.217254901960787,22.945098039215694,8.238735603445708,1.4284056862745094,1646,52,321,32,40,530,192,408,0.13699999999999998,0.8290000000000001,0.034,-0.992,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,2,1,0,2,13,15,6,0,16,0,43,9,3,4,2,55,74,34,0,4,11,0,2,2,2,2,3,7,0,0,21,27,0,4,5,0,0,5,10,11,0,1,29,10,56,3,25,41,6,56,0,1,0,4,61,13,1,5,40,214,77,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028385427652195,0.06257712124153605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458379148384581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558714447209174,0.04584466316058355,0.0,0.12798892948101098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821050862525552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955760050105735,0.0,0.07885168793891384,0.0,0.16869905147447428,0.12009117599255645,0.0,0.08260986965133056,0.0970028388389761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04967261924349214,0.0,0.06336399950833471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220921302341722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645922757904336,0.0,0.04274110117026764,0.0,0.06014882447572981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736948602904505,0.2970000182727863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812350019572742,0.0,0.0,0.13369246553956934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390791472478005,0.2545057298738721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734833587297143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393715000267415,0.06787603084009221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819209946991416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401137133524059,0.07993169878934328,0.0,0.0,0.11600645941532572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800915574820131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785738923230824,0.0,0.0,0.08478306488566133,0.0,0.07651117788599893,0.0810844051736561,0.07196164552415461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445359858195562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422520991634002,0.4292267419065683,0.059806547440360326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699219448363906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057896979739090026,0.0,0.0,0.106461885229639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637748129480543,0.0,0.0,0.08770603277865395,0.08643782573423914,0.0,0.07186221666797325,0.0,0.051059696329196984,0.0,0.0734649873608165,0.0,0.0,0.12990706156499307,0.3313135719915093,0.12410506660040665,0.0,0.0,0.060325432087244564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786139712588299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155731394828136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05342393245513055,0.0,0.0,0.048429969668338194
parenting,Manic-Mama,2020/01/27,"My little girl just lost her second tooth. And all of the sudden she looks like a Big Girl. They were the first two teeth she got and the first she lost. I’m so happy, sad, and proud. My baby, isn’t a baby anymore, and it’s so bittersweet. I can’t believe how fast it’s gone. I love you so much Monkey. I can’t wait to see the rest.",-0.7018918918918935,1.1033049594594608,1.5715540540540582,100.27057432432436,87.24324324324327,4.2405405405405405,13.304054054054054,5.148860815047168,-1.3692108108108108,253,3,64,1,8,85,50,74,0.11800000000000001,0.705,0.177,0.765,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,1,5,5,7,0,0,6,0,4,3,2,1,1,8,13,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,4,5,2,11,4,2,8,3,7,0,3,2,1,9,2,0,0,5,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24356528092759736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27670263818325513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.417807737249304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642559112952807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614415545027919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998582102374634,0.2461517553774271,0.0,0.0,0.20623882108876446,0.0,0.5361941854258824,0.0,0.22166001742346475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805413501715329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570824876135096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399116474087435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chanskaver,2020/01/27,"Painting Little Boys Fingernails My wife would like to paint our 5yr old boys nails and I’m worried about how it will be received by his classmates.   He is a normal suburban boy - t-ball, bike riding, playing outside, video games, siblings, etc. Am I an ass for objecting to this?  I don’t want him to be an outcast or to be made fun of unnecessarily for something he perceives as just a fun boy thing to do.",3.0065357142857145,4.982716725000003,4.207142857142859,85.25500000000002,75.5,6.571428571428572,28.92857142857143,7.447530270364453,1.6979821428571429,318,14,63,4,7,104,64,80,0.068,0.787,0.145,0.6705,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,9,1,1,2,0,9,12,4,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,4,11,6,1,4,0,0,0,1,12,1,1,1,2,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385691249352758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895479931123494,0.34661195860526417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272321846101791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33883943157035035,0.0,0.0,0.3628898299101469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662364040414794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229753717857055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397916800537816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512065904457593,0.0,0.2456673168566977,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ginger_feline0311,2020/01/27,I'm sure your kids are awesome too but... My baby girl just took her first steps today and I am over the moon. She just got up and walked over and grabbed a fig newton off the coffee table. I'm so friggin proud of her,1.2807446808510647,2.6984693617021267,2.5499468085106405,97.70875,78.78723404255321,4.7,18.132978723404253,3.1291,-0.8655063829787233,168,3,40,0,4,54,38,47,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.8771,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,6,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,6,2,5,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062302645843964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38196525694344396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4501145623962116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4526910684519884,0.0,0.5306102071073303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Readdator,2020/01/28,"Advice on double vanity or single in kids bathroom We're currently renovating for our first home with the kid (hopefully kids in the future) and I'm wondering if any parents with older children have an opinion on double vs single vanities in the kids bathroom (like if we have multiple kids does the double help with the mornings?)

Would love any advice on what's worked for you guys with multiples, thanks!",8.824054054054052,8.82084072972973,8.527702702702705,66.87371621621624,60.62162162162162,11.724324324324325,36.06756756756757,11.20814326018867,4.334956756756757,330,13,51,8,4,106,50,74,0.024,0.848,0.128,0.8478,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,14,8,4,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,12,7,5,10,0,0,0,1,13,6,0,6,5,35,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4897346630141871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408107950908068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21928734125051025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314622794836105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481170976037815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796086229364765,0.0,0.2513557182206556,0.2488859922899381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242245836265347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261614249263557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782433624757747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230703653245953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717471559167026,0.18242779884671284,0.0,0.0,0.17800735457979952,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sguirchik,2020/01/28,"Husband calls 4 mo old ""idiot"" My husband calls our 4 month old an idiot. Nonchalantly and in a happy tone will say, ""you're an idiot,"" much like the tone I use when I tell our son I love him. It burns me up to no end and I have told him multiple times not to call him that. He states that our son has no idea what he is saying, which: fair, but why say it to begin with? I think he thinks he is being funny and I cannot get him to stop doing it. Any suggestions?",0.5028932893289344,1.9384269900990103,2.689636963696369,95.76721672167218,81.07920792079206,5.677007700770076,16.17271727172717,6.42735559955562,-0.5985454345434542,350,5,87,3,9,119,67,101,0.08,0.7959999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.6608,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,4,0,8,1,0,1,0,11,15,5,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,7,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,3,15,3,7,12,1,11,0,0,0,1,25,2,0,0,9,50,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105556294455418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5453163148175652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576674866554069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300492055853532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18949911701751945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20095603610960305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696860444340437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066450362000886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208900436078067,0.0,0.13086070616326187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373591306108476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42469141781592207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882759943395732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559200334753331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22812825088220146,0.0,0.0,0.10380134228870827,0.0,0.0,0.17009991932489027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374686251354458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062986520051906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,collateraldamage66,2020/01/28,"Male (Cheated on) with 3 year Old. Early Stages of Divorce. Question for Guys About the Quantity of Shared Parenting Overnight Stays Guys who are separated, how much access do you have/want to your child/children?

Context: my soon-to-be-ex wife of 6 years cheated with a guy from work for 3 months, found her soulmate, and is going to leave to be with him. He's already dumped his wife of 30 years. We are still living under the same roof for the sake of making a smooth transition for our toddler who is about to turn 3.

We need to work out custody and parenting plan details (amongst various other things). I need to negotiate how much time my daughter spends with me. I currently do at least half of the child-minding (to use a poor phrase) and look after her solo two days a week (she's in daycare 3 days).

However, I don't know how much I'll miss her, or how much time is best for her to spend with me. It seems that I may be 'entitled' to 4 or 5 overnight stays a fortnight, but I want the best outcome for my daughter (and me). 

I don't want to fight for 50/50 custody only to find that I don't actually want that much time with her (hurts me to write this, but it might be strange spending so much time with a 3 year old) and that she'd be better off with mum more of the time. 

Thoughts?",5.3170468948035525,4.957983847908746,5.5156806083650185,86.7466514575412,67.93536121673003,8.686337135614703,30.84131812420786,8.021203637495839,1.8317064131812413,1004,35,222,11,15,318,143,263,0.043,0.862,0.096,0.9353,4,0,0,0,2,0,40.0,3,2,0,6,8,10,4,0,12,0,17,0,0,6,0,41,32,14,0,5,4,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,11,16,0,0,6,0,4,1,3,6,0,2,2,2,28,4,44,23,12,29,0,2,1,0,33,6,0,6,19,140,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.1021260269145504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548695637139007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21965329355722352,0.09255688843651974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498478397349634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565075432183873,0.0,0.0,0.1147463827988646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947659241019825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108681474373292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203297641792316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751443660155817,0.0,0.0,0.11081219417981288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924103310979684,0.0,0.08788198631149984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985655011840072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102007228697726,0.10566948497176017,0.0,0.08353285871290758,0.0,0.46159105392497,0.15519743580447026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963099769698802,0.0,0.0,0.07959316280256673,0.0,0.0,0.2324090774475218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723507596983512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527196973825616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22309189976919874,0.08357585346037655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952666362960852,0.0,0.0,0.08308262560970907,0.30511941788249103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138321839611755,0.1022305694060874,0.0,0.0,0.0903864095724612,0.0,0.0,0.18518078140760566,0.0,0.08394615576067696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237695538716756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269571862917352
parenting,kg51,2020/01/28,"Tween loss of interest in previously-liked activities Tween moods...how do you survive this? My kid is beginning to experience that transition from childhood to teenager-ness, and with it is coming obvious mood shifts and big emotions. But what I wasn't expecting is the new loss of enjoyment in previously-enjoyed activities. I'm not talking about playing with toys--that I would expect with growing up. But it's more so losing the spark for extracurriculars, hobbies, and even some friendships. I don't *think* I'm seeing depression (which I realize this sounds like once it's typed out). Is this a normal pubescent phase? Tell me it gets better?",4.740971014492754,7.801238278260874,5.180543478260873,74.98965579710149,74.91304347826087,8.702898550724639,31.322463768115945,9.2995712137729,3.485594202898552,522,25,85,14,12,166,84,115,0.114,0.727,0.159,0.6595,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,5,3,10,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,19,15,6,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,8,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,1,2,7,5,14,13,2,10,0,4,1,0,4,5,0,1,4,52,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24842013927925205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419577341474097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24192601679688605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159580512280548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855220298198437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747596296291545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675092730117273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722632384945585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31423869845083097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712806827706273,0.0,0.0,0.2752078648206028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991335778501852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238291432720196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22576488926416785,0.2455060510215361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997989869518394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995327917267535,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LilNug92,2020/01/28,"Anxious about starting school for the first time I (27F) am a full time parental-type carer to my little sister. She is starting prep (the first official schooling year) for the first time today. I am very nervous. I am nervous that she won’t make friends. I am nervous that the teacher won’t like her or won’t be able to teach her. I am nervous that it’s going to bring out the worst in her. I am nervous that she’s going to hate being there.  
I guess I just want to know... is that normal? I’m fairly sure it’s normal but does it ever go away? Will I feel like this everyday for the next 13 years?",1.2618533333333346,3.1848240320000016,2.6325000000000003,94.74208333333335,80.68,4.806666666666667,21.61666666666667,5.46131890053228,-0.039413333333333515,464,14,102,2,12,150,71,125,0.129,0.7879999999999999,0.083,-0.5533,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,4,11,1,5,7,0,14,0,0,1,2,13,27,2,0,3,3,1,1,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,3,7,0,3,0,1,16,4,12,21,2,23,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,16,68,25,3,0.16007477078317292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808389275129835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039551649002114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140082510637199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479679462696016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093861381667634,0.11435744823195028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40847855476179695,0.0,0.0,0.12367337082444188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729225434818525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634040700689715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804069576622687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797290770551662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564088946313362,0.16043697347591954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685115249873406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024133473658495,0.0,0.3136785765511226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240084280334316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266034933213069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086857705604295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28002265839262497,0.0,0.15173216565078199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207845028229992,0.09441624720221632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20616580825369596
parenting,abitchything,2020/01/28,"Is it too early to talk about this? Long time lurker, first time poster in this sub.

I am a mother(23) to a 9F. And I really need advice on what to do. My mother isn't helpful, my oldest sister is a newer mom to a F, and my other sister doesn't plan on having any kids.(background as to why I'm asking the internet). My mom USED to have custody(between the two of us, no outsiders) of my daughter from newborn-8 as we decided that was best because I had my daughter young. I worked my ass off through school, I didn't go to college, but worked my ass off for getting her in my custody. My daughter has been with me full time for a year come June. She will be 10 in August. 

I've had suspicion that I need to have the talk with my daughter sometime soon about PMS, periods, hormones, ect. The reasons why I think that is because the past few months(3-4 months) she has been super moody VS her usual upbeat self, she's had times of attitude or complete crying over little things(such as asking her to fold and put away her laundry). My mom, sisters and I also started our periods pretty young, not that everyone is the same for sure. I also feel the need to have this talk with her because she looks confused as to why she's having these sudden outbursts of tears, or yelling. I do my best to let her talk with me about her emotions, how she's feeling, why she's feeling that way. But sometimes she's not completely satisfied with it(understandably). 

My daughter has also been through a lot since last June. She moved in with me full time into an apartment with my SO who she calls Dad. Unfortunately that apartment became unsafe and we lucked out with buying a home for the 3 of us. Because of this move, my daughter had to switch schools for the 4th time(NOT my choice for 4 times). She's not enjoying this school, or the kids as much as the old school. She's been picked on, she's gotten in trouble with the same little girl for a couple weeks. I feel like all these things are also a contributing factor of why she's been much more emotional. I know some may tell me to get her in counselling and I am working on it. She's been through a lot at such a young age and I want to help her as best as I can, I want to be a better mom than mine was when it comes to mental health. 

Is it too early for me to talk with her about PMS, ect? If I do, should I make a day out of it for her where we go for lunch and get our nails done or something special? Any suggestions on what to do would be great please!

Tl;dr- daughter has been super emotional lately, not sure if I should have the talk with her about PMS, if it's too early or see how she does in counselling for a bit once that starts.",4.094678557233703,4.873971531250003,4.6120687599364105,88.18344793322737,70.81985294117645,7.278139904610494,26.651232114467412,7.2228458231874715,1.1399463036565978,2099,65,444,19,37,667,236,544,0.07,0.8009999999999999,0.129,0.9888,0,0,1,0,1,0,70.0,7,0,0,11,19,16,0,1,28,0,49,7,2,6,3,74,77,34,0,11,15,16,4,1,0,5,4,1,1,3,25,27,1,0,8,0,1,7,8,3,0,2,16,7,77,13,87,52,16,71,0,0,2,2,68,27,2,14,37,320,102,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318483834334035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068337734185422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794180449038014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089642678294332,0.0,0.06075003953724286,0.0,0.0,0.1576641308950199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035695097879104,0.05718636584464425,0.07059178851814356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602491668098136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139743777649977,0.13558920484318296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154487296491653,0.07102578797615776,0.041700241711684814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056584253695160715,0.06616945635392632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182008201288872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061785239295241635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13077581311485348,0.046192996065345715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05499961907339945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134627861936674,0.0,0.07349534389534151,0.0,0.0,0.07128769176048573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873037654340047,0.0,0.0,0.08668024327062789,0.0,0.06485908236389734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035535352024080806,0.05270639215996367,0.07293910556141307,0.0,0.0,0.06611905786231656,0.0,0.031589527249838524,0.12961227447953055,0.0,0.057221915559262475,0.054297972903554315,0.0,0.0,0.1099429518302499,0.0,0.0,0.04316093917153944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516190132317969,0.0,0.0,0.3029152495520958,0.051610860078573004,0.13744633455415606,0.09506483103261934,0.14383333577844146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784961550289365,0.06886060956647559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06172512494059719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097707726971303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578229358396674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500098915031456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04142274333996361,0.06648107517393488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26175680329854634,0.051525513635826435,0.0,0.0674543053418988,0.0,0.0,0.05348728023969793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049778296767258944,0.12790045207899922,0.0,0.09153312212907712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218822506811937,0.0,0.0,0.3118267365068158,0.05651554214374456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042957118475382236,0.041431408746997744,0.0,0.0,0.26392567136718625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631632592810467,0.06731316424653089,0.1555556302695311,0.0558453333134648,0.07121366858830712,0.0,0.07627608700520416,0.05132396404629658,0.05186621607179506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917272006584733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412193808196139,0.0,0.0,0.04593248864119905,0.0,0.0,0.04163881109936768
parenting,califormica,2020/01/28,"My 10 year old has major behavior problems at home. I desperately need help. Background: My ex and I have 3 kids together and divorced 2 years ago, split custody 50/50, half the week with me and my new SO and half the week with their dad and his new SO. This arrangement works well and my ex and I get along for thr sake of the kids and communicate often.

For as long as I remember, about age 5 or so, my oldest son (10 years old now) has had a terrible attitude. He has a few separate issues. First being bullying his younger siblings,especially his 8 year old brother. He calls him an idiot, stupid, dumb, etc. Plays mean pranks on him (pretending to flush his pokemon cards or pretending to dump his drinks put etc) or is outright violent (pushing him up against walls, hitting, even grabbing him around the neck). 

The second issue is arguing and being disrespectful to myself and his step-parents. He mildly disrespects his dad but not nearly as bad as he does with me. So if he starts bullying I have a zero tolerance. I send him to his room which immediately turns into ""why?"". I can calmly explain (even though I know he knows the reason), and he will argue it any way he can. Once he realizes I won't give in, he moves on to ""how long do I have to be in here?"" And ""can I have another chance?"" These are met with ""I'm not sure how long,that depends on how you react right now"" or I've tried setting times, but it is always met with resistance no matter what . Which turns into him either refusing to go into his room or standing half in and half out of his room arguing until I have to physically move him into his room and shut the door. He comes right out. A continuous power struggle unt I lose my absolute shit. This is just an example, but the gist is the same. It starts with something minor ""hey please stop doing that"" and he can't just stop there,it always has to escalate to the worst situation. 

After these episodes simmer down I always talk to him quietly and calmly. Explain the situation and why it got as bad as it did,what he could have done differently, even what I could do differently.  Sometimes he acts remorseful, always says he will do better, but he never fixes it. We have taken away his tablet and phone completely for the foreseen future for behavior issues but that hasn't changed anything at all. We have tried counseling but he acted remoseful and engaged in change during the appointment then flip like a switch almost immediately after we walk out the door. His favorite response is ""it's just who I am, I can't be nice"". I know deep down he has the ability, everyone has the ability to make good decisions. 

Every day is a struggle. Literally every single day there are issues with his attitude. We can't have good days hardly ever. I'm so overwhelmed and I feel lost and defeated. I just want to get along with my child. I love him dearly but he tests me daily. I fear for our relationship going forward because it's garbage right now. Someone please give me some advice. I am wondering where I failed as a mother, but my other kids don't have these issues. So what gives?!",3.8699989795918377,5.72369478833334,5.0171768707483,80.9014285714286,72.78333333333333,8.29795918367347,26.578231292517014,8.957266950251167,2.158230272108844,2443,86,462,51,49,805,296,600,0.133,0.759,0.10800000000000001,-0.9563,4,0,2,0,1,0,87.0,5,1,1,8,29,35,9,4,25,0,50,4,2,7,4,100,82,54,0,6,21,7,3,1,0,3,0,2,7,4,22,44,1,3,12,4,0,12,10,22,1,7,7,5,67,13,64,65,10,84,0,5,0,1,82,34,2,11,38,310,89,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953163358535877,0.06307442475509137,0.0,0.07125124011762042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368259289239697,0.0,0.0,0.04838769463517082,0.07461199745791194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058554326283175875,0.06334284543173056,0.0,0.0,0.0668522639315234,0.0,0.1188225487223685,0.04337529724843407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293062608440109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265699231862809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054465807799836,0.061293547858224225,0.07460443958135116,0.0,0.0,0.11362261376739145,0.0,0.0,0.1376668518812488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868321416353789,0.0,0.0,0.06226803292989006,0.0728160507231641,0.0,0.06970460159130501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871279112024464,0.1409911956762209,0.0643635778296782,0.11990195255210001,0.06799144751018027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006891671219725,0.0359779978779029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06052422481427445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435087799502367,0.20477446392664694,0.080877809549693,0.1193625175405642,0.05690898265824355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637407122340139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04769355332867053,0.0,0.07137405219118427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713355511298003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731442895393028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03476263438287304,0.0,0.0,0.18890924009802432,0.0,0.07960400509730223,0.07767385457358934,0.0,0.06421997263716839,0.0,0.0474963723317296,0.0,0.0,0.07750842194032663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125255397408965,0.0,0.05276037238745035,0.054878957690809485,0.13744347186094033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239949358619474,0.07577752508953413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562131757894272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680855207543621,0.0,0.07153021324081489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315897105309195,0.0,0.07639361147119597,0.08060450199729872,0.18229739596120506,0.0,0.056585141950799375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303936553908846,0.0,0.15996192197307685,0.0,0.0,0.06028921946315964,0.0547784307449938,0.0703739030005451,0.0,0.1007274478446726,0.0,0.0,0.1189771747704687,0.0,0.14877286384737526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706254393556449,0.0,0.0,0.05719152187294571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990921619432197,0.0,0.04149092805993028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661885824903964,0.15479194960501744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04196893647295212,0.0564793573234069,0.11415215503968153,0.0,0.06397669816333867,0.0,0.12841225429964467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716433040197589,0.05180153182183764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328539771258956
parenting,Jumanji4ever,2020/01/28,"Question on Chiropractic Care for Children Have any of you taken your kids to the Chiropractor for many sessions? If so, have you seen benefits or improvements in your child?

It was recommended to take our kid (age 8) for his sleep issues and back aches. He has asthma, grinds his teeth while he sleeps and has some tough nights sleeping.

I am uncertain of how chiropractic services would effect him in the long run, and seeking others advice. I never even knew this was a thing for children, I just thought it was for adults with misaligned back or back pain.

Thank you!",5.721538461538457,7.7041365384615395,5.0242307692307735,82.19576923076926,68.23076923076923,7.892307692307693,28.384615384615394,8.472884824447931,2.0181192307692317,456,16,82,7,8,137,77,104,0.078,0.7829999999999999,0.139,0.7877,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,5,0,1,7,6,0,1,3,0,9,8,4,2,1,17,16,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,6,5,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,7,1,12,3,13,8,1,12,0,0,1,0,18,3,0,6,8,58,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881303816244896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092163937826432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44411286593386606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628912613979985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271590405715508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094306819076307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037601256414406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518720604590972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848492292147453,0.0,0.0,0.18066896217459427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20485710310439167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156688284252157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5779834534768872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475267004828912,0.0,0.0,0.1772484964008673,0.0,0.0,0.12790313790703656,0.0,0.0,0.15284105357979394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136762186049687,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NotARegularMom00,2020/01/28,"5 year sudden behavior changes at school Hi all.. hoping for advice, or just maybe another parent who can relate. My son just started kindergarten this school year and initially started off great. He is a June birthday making him one of the youngest in his class. I live in a community where there are a lot of people who wait a year for their kids(boys, mostly) to start kindergarten so he very likely is a year younger than some kids. We have never had any issues at daycare,preschool or pre-K with the exception of crying at drop offs and general separation anxiety. In general he’s a happy kid who is very active and loves to make other smile and laugh. 
Over the last two weeks I’ve been getting frequent emails from his teacher about his behavior. Being disruptive in class (talking over her, cracking jokes)not keeping his hands to himself (not aggressive), using a naughty word, using words for “male privates”, friendly wrestling at recess with boys and none of them stopped when asked too, etc. She asked me for consequences because hers weren’t working, and I suggested redirection and positive reinforcement for the good behaviors. 
On the one hand of course I don’t want to hear my son is misbehaving. My daughter has never had issues like this and if there were minor issues between friends at recess I didn’t hear about it. It feels like my sons teacher has been emailing constantly about every little thing he’s doing. My gut says ok- some of the behavior is of course unacceptable and we need to work on it. My gut also says it’s very normal for a child to act defiant. On the other hand I don’t want it to seem like “not my kid”! Because I’m totally open and accepting to feedback. Today he told me he gets bored at school. Last weekend at a party a few other boy moms said they’ve had a few weeks of emails from her too. One mom said “I heard she had a rowdy class last year”. This teacher is young with no children of her own and only a few years of teaching under her belt. Initially that excited me, but now I can’t help but wonder if her expectations for 5 year olds are too high? Maybe her “rowdy” class was just normal kindergarteners. I have asked her if there is a pattern - maybe he’s tired or bored or hungry or one of the million other things little ones feel and this is his way of showing it. 
I’m trying to have a balance of consequences- no tv, time alone in his room, early bedtime, but also lots of praise when he listens or behaves himself. 

I guess I’m venting but also looking for help. I’m at a loss here. What’s “normal” for little boys? When should I be concerned? The teacher has said she’s started formal paperwork to document his behavior to see what our next steps are.",5.472609890109893,6.5186668653846125,5.7031318681318695,80.63615384615385,67.84615384615384,8.481318681318681,30.81868131868132,8.676224119757912,2.410787362637364,2150,83,397,33,35,683,259,520,0.066,0.8340000000000001,0.099,0.9433,2,1,0,0,0,0,54.0,3,0,2,4,22,20,1,0,25,1,35,7,5,4,4,73,74,32,0,12,19,7,5,4,2,1,1,9,1,9,22,18,0,3,6,3,0,2,12,4,0,7,15,16,46,16,66,56,13,66,1,1,2,1,78,28,0,18,38,264,68,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975812577188759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393495296835792,0.0,0.17126343231586555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048545312602618025,0.07485503841026897,0.05461052734097332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021040725947933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703317568786156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551752095396015,0.0,0.0,0.07714351694302794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841479032937099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961489090416443,0.0,0.0,0.0601462604510526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219038505420455,0.05099857677559963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030616710325204,0.0,0.0745930683774308,0.0,0.0,0.0598756643680893,0.0,0.07870394066363323,0.07864035027382807,0.0,0.0,0.0759923265793992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091569544659812,0.0,0.09569782040358084,0.07542382602070112,0.0,0.07090296711351872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22352708323027512,0.0,0.06345165957862721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456873656770372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950348043905167,0.21464427816352435,0.06303564534571171,0.0,0.05994673599357099,0.0,0.0,0.12138061064320985,0.06442916263129611,0.0,0.09530217381582894,0.0,0.21515220065463544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721416585459214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293223390555258,0.11011544056780792,0.0,0.07592042244886855,0.0,0.20983103264935116,0.0,0.0,0.07490819215372624,0.0,0.2418669219710802,0.05429269999094713,0.0,0.0,0.07926633314177198,0.0,0.0,0.04949045622603206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20371491392263974,0.1135389245293138,0.0,0.21674104680294468,0.056885850386098676,0.06498764829055051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021111144125196,0.0,0.0,0.05968236537570615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05737781740739496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485212440112006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041626080515479405,0.08204835584518927,0.06766611723946682,0.06821292269805912,0.0,0.048466792150069035,0.0,0.0697343017821301,0.0,0.0,0.1233101448763701,0.0,0.1767041786415668,0.08421129198405695,0.05666333305465759,0.1145239940122288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741568531791239,0.10394054002968499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217942545195093
parenting,ero_senin05,2020/01/28,"Hey Mums/ Moms, what are some tips for doing my daughter's hair? She has such wild hair! It's seriously like a jungle sometimes. I will apply some spray in conditioner, brush and comb out all the tangles and I'm getting better at doing her plaits but no matter what I do it all finds a way to come loose. 

She's just turned 4 years old and last week we were informed that there's head lice in going around the daycare centre so it's important to tie her hair up and the tighter the better but I just can't do it. This morning I was rushing about and just went for a simple pony tail. I did it as tight as I could and I thought it looked good when I was done but within a half hour her hair was coming out all over the top of her head, especially near her face. I thought maybe the hair tie wasn't tight enough so I did it again as I left her at daycare and I did the hair tie as tight as I could but I have no doubt her hair would come out again pretty quick. 

Luckily, her teachers usually redo it for me when they get a spare minute and it always looks great when I pick her up at the end of the day but I'd really like to be able to do it properly myself. 

Any advice for a fat-fingered dad? This goes out to the dad's who have figured it out too!",1.288594527363184,2.940837809701492,2.722462686567166,95.43292288557215,79.48507462686567,5.6606965174129344,19.375621890547265,6.42735559955562,-0.1719631840796021,975,22,230,8,24,317,143,268,0.049,0.8170000000000001,0.134,0.9745,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,3,16,8,0,1,16,0,24,10,10,1,3,45,37,23,0,3,8,5,10,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,17,18,0,3,5,0,0,6,4,2,0,1,12,13,31,6,33,20,6,39,0,0,2,0,21,18,0,3,16,157,48,0,0.1437074941865084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042930011102078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195761473305094,0.0,0.0,0.09772602398678093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127930137584047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25419520068464657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37137384453157335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294774810453964,0.0,0.0,0.09267944512592878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706266072908292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728218520514434,0.148488256929302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134604620569856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501624688087241,0.0,0.08167228068669585,0.12053502796776253,0.0,0.1584380196726472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949706972968684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152293410343306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714078814574995,0.0,0.0,0.15613861291609446,0.0,0.0,0.140416445427225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24135620291879645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443734935104025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830848033672113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079684094621842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462021853644229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206270061657353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213038634156838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281753962024338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631248702914274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827350200458656,0.0,0.0,0.11406831985199307,0.11527348353399465,0.0,0.0,0.1332182868546685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208568070065896,0.0,0.0,0.09254291462083816
parenting,Minja78,2020/01/28,"Not sure what to do. Dad 2k miles away from daughter and mother. Little backstory,  Mom took daughter 2k miles away at about the 1 year mark - 12 years ago.  Mom and I don't agree on religion and who the dad is, which is why she left.   I've accepted daughter since day one ex wife wasn't okay with me not accepting she slept with her brother in law.   

Cue now.  Now that daughter can maker her own decisions daughter and I have been regularly  texting/calling for about 5 years.  Mom has slowly cut access to just about any device for my daughter. Password locking just about everything unless mom is there to unlock said device.   I've been texting daughter since the beginning of the month to no avail.  This wasn't uncommon since mom takes away her phone quite often.   

1 Big thing concerns me, my daughter came out as bi in September 2019 .  Mom immediately removed her from school and is now homeschooling her.  I know her mom reads all her messages and isn't ok with me being supportive of her bi choice. 

I text the mom asking about Daughters phone access saying that I can provide a phone if money is a problem.  Mom says, ""I took her phone because she was breaking in to password set areas. She's looking up things she shouldn't be.  You can send her a flip phone but I'm not comfortable  with her having internet right now. ""  

I'm not sure how to respond.  I know my ex and she's being over controlling since something isn't going her religions (read cults) way.  

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Fuck, help.",3.0960095911155965,5.580757236749118,3.6125630994447238,87.16423586572441,77.33922261484098,6.445683997980819,25.65484603735487,7.5804360353943165,1.4517694093891975,1170,44,220,17,28,366,157,283,0.085,0.8909999999999999,0.024,-0.9091,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,0,2,14,11,2,0,8,2,24,4,1,3,3,37,40,12,0,3,9,25,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,8,13,0,1,5,2,1,6,11,3,0,1,10,4,32,8,34,26,2,38,0,0,1,3,58,18,1,2,11,132,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675219832500505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815915419608649,0.0915022541310492,0.05120910735719361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703988067348114,0.0,0.21225095263698368,0.0,0.0,0.04590444471869399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612738694239025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445951773470879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04856466539456062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767812195389909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961706957077315,0.0,0.0,0.04279683567559848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047449172911615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827699029976525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181770489818692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547410377914608,0.0,0.0,0.06323615349512787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7937531906413797,0.06010670556230971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102774504619445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205548369411904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009476847257738,0.15064818322279536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430895975446882,0.07163107577945173,0.11976907066261995,0.0,0.07621137819077475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24916803942440024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05797247754886928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545376152826678,0.14194571731246158,0.0,0.056619020781784636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000568821396958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733039264538513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977258256353037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794988856144063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915022541310492,0.14547936741825712
parenting,jedimermaid88,2020/01/28,"I've missed 3 of my daughter's games this year. Am I a shitty mom? My oldest daughter is 14 and a cheerleader. Basically, I've missed 3 of her games this season. One of them because I had family therapy with my stepson. There has been ongoing issues between my daughter and my stepson. My daughter made a post on snapchat telling her friends that she feels like I don't care about her. I confronted her with this and asked her to explain. She said that she felt like I was taking my stepsons side. That I missed her game because of him. She is also in therapy for the issues going on with her stepbrother. She brought up me missing her game often. I am trying so hard to keep my family together and get us back to where we used to be. My stepson lives with us full time. Him and my daughter used to be very close as they are only 6 months apart. Was I wrong for missing her game?",2.462266949152543,4.446092666666671,3.657708333333337,88.542155720339,77.13559322033899,6.684887005649718,26.31673728813559,7.645422480735847,1.441429661016949,690,27,141,10,16,224,99,177,0.136,0.8079999999999999,0.055999999999999994,-0.9072,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,2,0,7,11,1,0,4,0,13,0,0,3,0,19,32,8,0,0,0,6,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,11,0,1,3,5,0,2,1,7,0,1,8,4,40,4,22,22,1,18,0,5,0,0,37,9,0,1,8,98,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204059664071347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426679193872701,0.0,0.0,0.11734616493216354,0.0,0.18605689279121207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559407036287862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877305618482016,0.0,0.0771632117662675,0.10902321622357516,0.14652765316407573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790459525770035,0.0,0.079731403665205,0.0,0.08673066754095014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670683101759692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185662956055808,0.0,0.1356450403003236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491131623022552,0.0,0.13475569764539422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440141994550162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17873269522623472,0.12181028374672145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034111592855274,0.1160652932829836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615632018235514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516519553268015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147422558326899,0.0,0.13338615582357607,0.0,0.3490411935842735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898697696109778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361084356315206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671373705589209,0.26360870121083513,0.0,0.12591761766487894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685293792060255,0.0,0.09827457607116764
parenting,Nachoburn,2020/01/28,"Annual Family Traditions FTM to 3 month old baby. I would like to start an annual family tradition. What does your family do for traditions whether it's annual trips, special milestone gifts, mementos, experiences, etc.....I would love to hear some ideas.",6.180581395348837,9.205257232558148,7.537383720930233,60.170261627907,69.69767441860465,14.532558139534887,29.3546511627907,12.602617957971056,6.080074418604653,203,8,29,11,4,69,34,43,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.8555,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,4,1,7,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,7,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171868466532908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570768174127658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254805861006737,0.6519059274155118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597987285253537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602149333184549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261433119479265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804203698226414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839889037961539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418788673616906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315440951700194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274918581421621,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1800dope,2020/01/28,"Traveling abroad with a 5yo recommendations. Hi there,

I'm traveling with my 5yo kid abroad in a few months, we will be just hitting a few cities and I can see myself carrying my kids for miles, are strollers for 5yo ok? I see way too big kids on strollers and I normally groan, but now I'm starting to think it over because we will be walking like crazy and this is our first long vacation in 3 years and I want it to be a good time for the whole family.


Any advise or recommendations?

Thanks.",3.264469696969698,4.9119616464646505,4.135239898989898,87.4561931818182,73.94949494949495,8.182323232323233,25.506313131313128,8.841846274778883,1.6532919191919189,389,13,85,8,8,125,67,99,0.031,0.8240000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.8823,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,14,17,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,10,4,11,11,3,17,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,1,8,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882671514074012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16876488363379002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609890666221548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354880405615003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322082228923144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525467993516416,0.0,0.0,0.24500309273493795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22097862705880209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712537261639845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412264102714146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595549878160806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548858207635338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739397886578964,0.0,0.0,0.16143316795701912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329300614412265,0.21975024428772366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30909257632750564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828199908102535
parenting,Sha_la,2020/01/28,"Introvert/ social anxiety Anyone else a parent here that has social anxiety that’s an introvert. 
I feel bad for my kid as she goes to school 4 half days a week. The rest of the time we’re at home. It’s winter and it’s cold, so no playgrounds were I can sit by myself. 
I dislike communicating with other parents in fear of a conversation I may have to remember and pick up the next time I see them.",1.730853658536585,3.8281590975609774,4.092865853658537,83.97515243902441,79.97560975609757,7.514634146341463,22.445121951219512,8.472884824447931,1.4802634146341465,314,10,65,7,8,109,64,82,0.198,0.802,0.0,-0.9269,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,7,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,7,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,3,9,0,11,5,1,10,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,1,6,44,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163958109088079,0.0,0.0,0.1445961432095174,0.21188631249663145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726655107578925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336591721630675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275101089622424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327023035374445,0.10456196145311317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074326347812354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992924070545067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592436105875493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342588617463167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928797248276534,0.16478914999089286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216037105067017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411681069735611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587878618976534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AngryEddie580,2020/01/28,"""Fragile child"" 4 year old. Academically gifted. Socially immature. Am I handling it wrong by being firm with her constantly when she is misbehaving? Im told as a dad i need to lay off and not be so firm as she is fragile but my fear is since the child is head strong and defiant, me not asserting myself leads to the child not listening.",1.677727272727271,4.310440333333337,3.8971969696969713,81.81579545454547,85.06060606060606,8.148484848484847,24.91666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.4351575757575765,266,11,52,8,8,91,50,66,0.149,0.789,0.063,-0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,3,0,7,1,1,1,0,9,10,7,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,3,8,1,7,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,4,34,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33267874428217803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34641919073635824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31594506104792713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325330863340264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22826842495079244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32303898356817123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25465843121426474,0.0,0.0,0.31381643839566903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29416586598931993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365879344521123,0.0,0.1982466534972946
parenting,colormondo,2020/01/28,"Kindergarten Registration Have you registered your kids for kindy next year yet? I'm on the fence with my daughter who will be 5 at the end of July. She's having a good time in preschool but I can tell she's getting a little bored. On the flip side of that, she will cry and be clingy and whiny at drop off a lot but come home happy as can be. Is she just in a phase or is she too immature for kindergarten?",2.1836710963455133,3.6010740116279085,3.0595681063122946,95.00918604651164,76.32558139534882,6.309634551495018,21.588039867109647,6.868970318607317,0.2089388704318944,319,8,75,3,7,101,62,86,0.106,0.815,0.079,-0.3336,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,0,0,10,14,6,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,2,13,9,1,16,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,5,51,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693757037880804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34350200516401225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769720759083149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338032947201842,0.0,0.0,0.26228994153495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328902168514091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136779679596845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134219094657031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26585853873256976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325752352910032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27332610594653595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823462393271248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137777436667967
parenting,ucimright,2020/01/28,"My 5 and a half year old son is still in pullups at night. Waking up wet every morning. When should I be concerned? My 5 and a half year old son is still in pullups at night. Waking up wet every morning.  When should I be concerned?
He is my youngest of five. Haven't had this issue with any of the others.",-0.13546875000000114,2.090863890625002,1.1737500000000018,100.89625,89.78125,3.2,18.9375,3.1291,-0.8778687500000002,235,7,54,0,8,74,37,64,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,9,2,2,0,0,5,9,4,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,2,5,0,9,4,0,16,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,10,37,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727000976454218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144855613683162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25673180643020765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616578162419697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5162143721502066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928685583852594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167969717945483
parenting,alisiagabriel,2020/01/28,"Three year boy with broken finger, dominant hand. Tips please!! My boy is baby Tarzan, it was only a matter of time. Luckily it's only his ring finger. So I am looking for toddler specific advice on how to care for his arm, bandages, soon to be cast. How to help him navigate his world (school, bathroom, playground etc), find warm winter clothes that fit, and not go stir crazy. 

Thanks!",3.272440476190475,5.7403694583333325,3.82698412698413,85.94500000000002,76.6388888888889,6.336507936507938,24.174603174603178,7.447530270364453,1.2686603174603177,299,10,54,4,7,94,62,72,0.036000000000000004,0.6659999999999999,0.299,0.9634,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,4,2,0,7,8,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,6,6,3,8,6,1,8,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,4,30,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28572909396496216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29812045073637555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261023772134333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26724755267287004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617719196928676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598900641161046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245541668043246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4447655038225395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209664931063915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29592357995461044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692018792815707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705003128939234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18829548482107525
parenting,14seconds,2020/01/28,"13 year old son said bad words on Xbox live and got banned. How big of a deal should I make of it? I'm not sure of the context, or even if it matters, but he said ""F*** you"" to someone. I got notified that he was banned for two days.  

For context, I allow him to watch movies with this kind of language but have had conversations with him expecting him to be respectful of not using this type of language. 

I am leaning towards having a good conversation with him telling him about the ramifications of using trashy language but don't intend to ground him other than to the Xbox for two days.  

How would you react to this? Thanks!",2.8184604105571864,4.809413016129035,3.6515249266862178,88.9609237536657,76.09677419354837,6.444574780058653,24.175953079178885,7.348242739294969,0.9297999999999996,490,16,102,6,11,156,78,124,0.073,0.8029999999999999,0.124,0.8287,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,8,1,27,18,8,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,7,4,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,2,6,3,12,5,23,9,0,8,0,0,1,0,17,4,0,2,4,69,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666915667254743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575033495801929,0.20582069823729335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186073717753255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674490681362398,0.3193416597120902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078949692621085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762863123758731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326165450719785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948923246681825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37980786642683984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915483731040634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815890817717806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449468885544744,0.1838022471227784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39003972561420897,0.0,0.0,0.34485076815777804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181895828614188,0.0,0.0,0.12856200456530748
parenting,Love_Lilly,2020/01/28,"Books to help break cycle of abuse? I grew up in a very abusive home and it really messed with my head for a very long time. Now that I'm a mother to a 4 month old, I really want to try and start re-programming my brain now to remain calm and learn how to get my frustrations out in a healthy manner rather than yelling and lashing out.

Has anyone successfully been able to break the cycle of abuse with their own children? Any book recommendations? 

I currently see a therapist and would like more self help resources. My son is such a joy I want to keep him happy, positive and healthy and be a good role model for him.",6.0012557603686645,5.716423249999997,6.25889400921659,81.74048387096776,66.5,9.988940092165901,29.004608294930872,9.606745405546679,2.2394092165898623,489,14,103,9,7,157,83,124,0.127,0.623,0.25,0.9318,1,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,0,1,1,5,8,1,0,9,0,5,2,2,1,0,18,12,8,0,4,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,11,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,11,6,19,9,2,16,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,0,9,60,13,4,0.1667065844289752,0.5925601274577537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336619402406807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656511995389295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609968140036892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709730980360758,0.0,0.0,0.13982557367869794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746225902098553,0.0,0.0,0.1710890504749007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22347981903751687,0.0,0.16722029660632934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481764719453437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144441647716068,0.0,0.0,0.14753008126936487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330636052176201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493051729228187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21359301350252244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328435642156475,0.0,0.17391132491453326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179957784929098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355919343091252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972079499993749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318282791967416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751007821595957,0.19665572542975449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842357453277147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RowBoatCop36,2020/01/28,"Parents who named their child after themselves or the other parent, how did it turn out? Any unforeseen problems? My son is almost 4 months old, and we named him after me. Technically, my GF had the name picked out well before she even met me, but we liked the coincidence and went with it. Should we expect any problems?",4.430499999999999,6.526961050000002,4.626666666666669,83.265,71.83333333333334,6.8000000000000025,23.666666666666664,7.554174236665415,1.1050666666666662,253,7,46,3,5,79,47,60,0.09,0.831,0.079,-0.1754,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,20,7,5,0,4,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,0,10,2,5,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,2,5,33,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398173050770761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257264436981901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037906148125554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15818264370252585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700401679070087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116075690074588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25130726043340035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5318565153883253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583242642549464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604992428245585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21533266390779848,0.2220120958702163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amiwrongeverytime,2020/01/28,A birthday party MANIA my little one is turning one soon and I have no idea what to do and how to celebrate .. we don't have family in USA and the ppl living in our building I doubt if any families will come as I haven't been so much socializing as well ... Secondly the problem is the space of my living room .. a one room house is too small for having a big grand party ... But at the same time I have this guilt of not celebrating my kids birthdays ... My partner seems of less interested and secondly  for my elder one I didn't have a party because of no friends and family around ... So we were mostly by ourselves,2.4265188470066508,4.355528089430893,4.3123725055432365,84.06106430155212,77.04878048780488,7.3995565410199555,24.189948263119,8.296473431620573,1.545413008130082,477,16,96,9,11,162,77,123,0.107,0.7340000000000001,0.16,0.8143,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,7,7,0,2,8,0,15,0,0,1,0,19,18,12,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,2,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,3,1,6,3,0,13,4,15,14,4,13,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,4,2,79,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227426046372291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067857524612922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002791104904308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548022629097788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5104630985209124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394497793085838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082666827131581,0.0,0.2037565782991996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090313537190725,0.31876030372102376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268439325256498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489231596407004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727090785887163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643156216899128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839916452126671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524792754210036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632643396886104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622864372412211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MissFallout92,2020/01/28,"My 10 year old is so hard to get ready in the morning before school.. I need some advice My oldest is 10 years old and I just want to start off and say that he does have ADHD. He was diagnosed at 6 and he does take medication for it. 

This has been going on for a long time and I just really need some advice. Googling the internet really isn’t too helpful because I don’t get feedback from actual people. 

Our morning routine is I wake up at 7 (I know I should wake up at about 645 but it’s really difficult to do so when my 2 year old still doesn’t sleep through the night), get him up and tell him to eat breakfast. While he’s eating and I’m getting his two younger silblings ready for school, his sister is special needs so she is completely dependent on me to help her. I constantly have to remind him to hurry up and finish breakfast, take his medicine, brush teeth get dressed etc. it’s exhausting to say the least. Towards the time we need to leave I have to let out our German shepherds outside and that takes a bit because they each go out separately. 

Now I’m not asking for him to be “perfect” but I just want to know some good ways I can help him be more consistently independent in the mornings. We have tried a visual chart that just was basically what does he need to do next. That worked for a couple of days then he just wasn’t interested with it. 

What have you done? I want to instill good independence in him so down the road he can rely on himself and be confident about it.",3.721215121512152,4.852347039603963,4.735819081908193,85.63984023402342,72.003300330033,8.017341734173419,26.644014401440142,8.438071523408619,1.6341366336633665,1175,39,248,19,22,384,158,303,0.031,0.8320000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9857,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,1,1,2,15,7,0,0,11,0,28,11,4,3,1,41,52,18,0,9,8,1,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,12,15,4,0,2,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,5,4,34,5,43,42,8,43,0,0,0,0,33,19,0,4,21,163,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.09522982569121946,0.0,0.11727936708315105,0.1907197527549544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122970490052154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897499800200205,0.0,0.08303846936307073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653860012707768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231702850695944,0.10545576099717373,0.0,0.0,0.10797701506022513,0.0,0.06293487486553498,0.0,0.0,0.0990477011343894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25619440891634665,0.09986432415301652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19970961078486127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883414756947277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25492319713222233,0.0,0.11092070648493846,0.16370095638267068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741785753366535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622944758696065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726138943753874,0.0,0.0,0.10332944749759633,0.0,0.09978826169791606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636050889554645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830759399491512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617937857249156,0.0,0.0,0.10378378173353338,0.09157781826331933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072001661913208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765382147754427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18754820559881508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552085536608606,0.0,0.19752441454290656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976564412330386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907184887649004,0.0,0.07793227835726774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011750471011224,0.0,0.08529443539838723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380632286524857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625446507775927,0.0,0.09532730880641714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267619300969386,0.07745919741160147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071043745356999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885264875110344
parenting,d0gg_,2020/01/28,My 15 year old son wants to quit school and join the army He is having a hard time studying and concentrating in class. His dad was a marine and my son wants to follow in his footsteps. I'm worried about him and I need advice on what to do. I know it's his choice and he can do what he wants to but I want him to pursue education. Advice?,0.10140410958904056,2.1403271369863037,2.193407534246578,95.5895633561644,85.84931506849315,4.7458904109589035,15.974315068493151,5.985473137389443,-0.7080671232876714,263,5,62,2,8,88,48,73,0.040999999999999995,0.914,0.045,0.0644,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,14,6,0,5,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,0,9,13,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,3,37,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873334616772532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337301988340275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703893661730282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489350522300452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26165603065106885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26521963908553514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523604800092392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540085251143442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5883039428138284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532320137417096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605763857692836
parenting,MCWrapper043,2020/01/28,"Mums and Dads I need your help,please. I create daft parody songs in an attempt to amuse equally disheveled exhausted parents.If you have a moment could you let me know...

What 1 piece of advice you would give to your pre Mum and Dad you?

Thanks in advance lovely parent types.
James",2.607777777777777,5.3022134814814805,2.7792592592592613,91.1666666666667,80.85185185185185,5.0814814814814815,20.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.2442444444444449,224,6,42,2,6,68,46,54,0.044000000000000004,0.754,0.20199999999999999,0.8402,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,6,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,6,9,2,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,3,5,6,2,4,0,0,0,1,13,2,0,0,1,25,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31764280569503417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595322730564839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118251453923039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178794501395788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864331403293746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323937134281228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29337743467634986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410263048701542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609383161847585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35681594754544704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992696300078555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309117969925699,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Charming-Run,2020/01/28,"My son has behavioral issues and everyone is looking to me for answers but I don't f---ing have any. It's Me v The School v His Father. Please help Notes:

* I am primary custodian, his father (F) lives in another state but has visitation and we communicate well enough
* Behavioral issues have existed since Kindergarten, he's in 1st now. The ""behavioral events"" have lessened in frequency and intensity over time but still happen
* I've sought behavioral therapy, first through the school (completely useless trying to communicate with those people), then we had an unsuccessful matching, and now I'm seeking therapists again
* The school communicates through an app called ClassDojo (Dojo); it provides a daily behavioral score percentage out of 100%. Teachers add or subtract points with a note on why
* My deal with son is that he must score at least a 70% to have access to electronics or play outside 
* Teacher (T) can also message parents via Dojo
* Son's problem has always been that he is unable to regulate his negative emotions at school and has sometimes violent outbursts and tantrums
* While he'll sometimes have a tantrum at my home, it's nothing compared to what happens at school. F says he's the picture of behavioral perfection on his weekends, so for a long time he wouldn't hear anything I had to say on the matter because he didn't believe it was really happening (????)

​

An hour or so ago F messaged me asking if I had received a Dojo message from T. I had not. He advised that T had reported that son hit a girl today, and also that he had had an outburst at a little girl *yesterday* over a game, calling her a ""cheater"" and a ""liar"". 

I'm instantly angered by this because 1) I'm hearing this third-hand, and 2) yesterday his Dojo score was a 73% so he was rewarded as if he'd had a good behavioral day when apparently he did not. I can't possibly stay on top of this if T isn't communicating with me, and certainly not if T isn't communicating in real time. I messaged T asking for a phone conference, and I'm trying to gather my thoughts and calm down in the meantime so I can handle this the best I can.

F suggested that son be grounded for **3 weeks**, because he should know better. I think this is far too long for a 6-year-old in any case, and I don't think a longer punishment will have any correlation with the emotional regulation. I countered with one week at most and behavioral therapy. 

F, however, says he had therapy and it didn't work for him and what son needs is more punishment. He asked me to meet him halfway and I offered 8 days, but I honestly still think that's too much and ineffective. Obviously I'm still seeking therapy, but it's not been easy to find someone that is accepting new patients and also accepts our insurance.

Aside from behavioral therapy, I have no idea what to do. My son understands that he should not hit people, but it's a ""crime of passion"" in that when he's angry he just doesn't care. He can't or won't stop himself. After calming down, he will express regret. He always reacts big and negatively to punishment as well.

I feel overwhelmed. There's an immense weight on my shoulders, I feel like everyone is pressing down on it, and no one is being helpful. I'm trying my best but it's clearly not good enough and I'm at a loss.

What I'm looking for now is some element to implement into his punishment for today that can help him analyze how he reacts to negative stimuli, or something that forces him to think about the breakdown in his response. In the past he's written sentences Bart Simpson-style as an example...

I need help. I'm so desperately overwhelmed and bitter over how non-transparent the school can be. I want to help my son, because he's a good, smart boy over-all. I know he can do better! I'm doing him a great disservice with my ignorance.

Please advise.",3.9290068027210867,6.038525737414973,5.2070748299319725,78.51006802721089,73.25850340136056,8.693877551020408,31.666666666666664,9.320523638119642,3.170891156462585,3047,147,550,74,63,1012,320,735,0.1,0.727,0.17300000000000001,0.9952,4,0,1,0,0,0,117.0,3,0,0,11,26,41,10,2,38,0,65,3,1,4,5,96,103,56,0,13,23,11,4,1,0,8,0,5,1,3,31,35,1,2,15,3,0,2,22,18,2,3,19,12,52,23,75,70,9,73,0,5,2,1,87,36,0,11,34,349,83,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055557848517110486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503641811792994,0.10430169704417164,0.06790863285832996,0.07615731768466209,0.1278640060089974,0.0657204892223943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05157640996796488,0.0,0.17577876108206927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282506044376512,0.0,0.0,0.07061357086435498,0.13154766596239895,0.11086237265451576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799692390762102,0.0,0.06390161861560845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571383201762858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084073306884468,0.06461545511299285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100249408146395,0.0,0.12952062375826007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977781980246273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338100311848198,0.04477522804768809,0.0,0.0,0.057284064694903984,0.05331155578355979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770713789040885,0.0,0.0690997105070577,0.0,0.0,0.16627061260902587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127917709893856,0.0,0.2100495740837588,0.0,0.06286840974114577,0.0,0.06172251961279032,0.0,0.0,0.07075275513617223,0.0,0.13083340437137714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688893826407051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03061997287487682,0.06281708962318519,0.05534341493305809,0.11093128988070344,0.10526288945815916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04607353767202122,0.0929458425721653,0.0,0.06053216988474774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013861546762535,0.0,0.06576715662245451,0.0,0.08494077500318764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959347431485506,0.0,0.05983064059273409,0.08690228644831259,0.0,0.0,0.13759725896168695,0.059248392076396074,0.07065695395325226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997177244131888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713381828235565,0.04015138521831325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952567972019154,0.0,0.38058433828842403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184563406528527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05310455600910853,0.04825048772386515,0.12397489656523612,0.0,0.0,0.06680350254368046,0.15015766359083302,0.05239933521833592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583731883474193,0.07277082345110318,0.0,0.16063913865725735,0.0,0.0497571664143419,0.10963936833059408,0.0,0.1188176620626136,0.0,0.0,0.12765719016873828,0.0,0.0,0.06524717027417495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036967500283073,0.0,0.10054864808076436,0.07632159853813121,0.11270519609128128,0.0,0.05655468599057215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045628345705675616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615731768466209,0.04036082136719141
parenting,Papahood-,2020/01/28,"Made a YouTube Channel for parents who are wondering the cost of raising a baby Hi All

Just created a YouTube channel recently to cover the cost of raising a baby from the very beginning.

Don't have a lot of content but will keep uploading more stuff as I go.

Please come check it out if you have a minute :)

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parenting,MoyamoyaWarrior,2020/01/28,"Proud day!! My daughter really struggles with separation anxiety. She has been in the same day care since she was a year old (not 4.5) and still cries or is at least whiny basically every day.  I let her pick her outfit and pick something to bring for breakfast (fruit, pop tart , etc) even though her school does provide stuff too but she would still be upset. Today we got to her school and she hung up her coat/bookbag and coat, she gave me a hug & kiss, then just walked over to the breakfast area and sat down NO TEARS AT ALL!!! I am so very proud of her!!   


She also did this on Sunday at our church when she went down to the kids program. That one took a few walks down to look around at her friends (and a noisy service due to baptism Sunday) BUT she still went down to the kids program with no tears either, something she **NEVER** does unless I am working in the room that day. She took some big steps this week and I am beaming with pride.",1.6339893617021275,3.976776760638305,2.010042553191493,97.39400000000002,81.92553191489361,4.611063829787233,18.974468085106388,5.6839178017228535,-0.4327880851063824,733,18,160,4,20,222,118,188,0.109,0.7709999999999999,0.12,0.7491,0,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,0,4,11,9,0,2,9,0,11,5,0,2,2,26,21,16,0,1,7,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,5,12,3,0,0,0,0,8,4,2,0,1,10,3,25,7,27,8,7,42,1,0,1,2,24,17,0,2,17,110,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153766399687967,0.0,0.15112050386271048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669756935647301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241618271522368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422034930813507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532061296076148,0.3597979166943614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24411005502060776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555087558514896,0.09212155610326137,0.0,0.11751323615572865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775761092235013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155045562072148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262207061733526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712340702063286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757129100625952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463549688467037,0.0,0.09451149417003972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935090149194476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28231117087566754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153747029390616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21474848512010955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341534179908111,0.0,0.0,0.14580897400535678,0.1596648715886513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703293494800325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322054663959333,0.0,0.30992248265444755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508102481455325,0.0,0.0,0.1118779875334774,0.0,0.0,0.2585884173711556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153905774908888,0.0,0.0,0.099078644651237,0.0,0.0,0.08981697031137692
parenting,pineapple_ish,2020/01/28,"Chordee Surgery? Hi all, I have a 5 month old baby boy that is obviously my everything.   At birth the doctor took him to circumcise him and said they couldn’t because he had uneven foreskin causing a bend in the penis (apparently this is chordee).  It was explained that this can cause him issues later in life and that we should schedule surgery for 6 months.  Well, time flew and we have to schedule the surgery and I’m terrified. 

The thing is, I can’t find much info about this condition and if surgery is really necessary.   Looking for some insight here from any parents who’ve been through this.  TIA.",4.8548574237954805,6.819045203539826,4.657109144542776,84.03624385447398,70.4159292035398,7.854080629301867,32.90953785644051,8.515128840125781,2.6586251720747303,480,23,89,8,9,147,82,113,0.036000000000000004,0.902,0.062,0.4388,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,13,2,0,2,2,19,19,6,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,9,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,6,2,9,1,10,11,3,14,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,2,8,58,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359727935478662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768640351222872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640551754417767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311844062390287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20299466130998847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064383111906028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23574642607499066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953651482248424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896713618920151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605697080776431,0.0,0.166038205533184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370093815314607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507985315630604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469615940450697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485120371727748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005597315123798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170484181898384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509465053201023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030815242197683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Black-Panda22,2020/01/28,"My kid is a vegetarian? My almost 4 year old refuses to eat meat (well she will eat rotisserie chicken) but she only wants veggies and fruits. I'm all for it and we encourage it. She is petite because she was a premie and her mother isnt a tall/big woman. But our pediatrician keeps trying to get us to give her meat and ensure. She takes her vitamins, she eats all day long, is in Karate and is thriving very well. He keeps pushing that kids need protein but looking at her diet she is getting 5x more protein than most kids. She is just small. But I dont want to force her to eat meat, last time she ate beef she literally threw up for hours. I just dont think her body can handle red meats. She will eat fish from time to time. But she literally asks for raw spinach, grapes, strawberries, brocolli and blueberries. If these arent in ther lunchbox she flips out. Anyone else deal with this?",2.1137853107344644,4.44396809039548,3.3116666666666674,88.83382768361584,79.96045197740114,6.419209039548023,22.262711864406786,7.594959193182576,0.9049525423728816,700,22,145,11,18,226,112,177,0.008,0.927,0.065,0.8994,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,14,10,1,0,2,28,29,12,0,4,8,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,5,9,8,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,3,3,26,3,17,24,4,17,0,0,2,0,33,6,0,3,9,85,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281509869231157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894848485023339,0.1311280795782058,0.0,0.0,0.11964169332829284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801390040782871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421541597857394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253490468403099,0.13193919021799302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999773700964751,0.0,0.0,0.6547646962765332,0.10690878536279083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337259306355026,0.1227676861274358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603206526495905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275045768216803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431874911513557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132560664557976,0.1074688739004407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948936998250336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429086543664598,0.0,0.0,0.09733266094199536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962231582481192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200281896448575,0.0,0.0,0.22387414045532408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688832657199626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394118343638485,0.0,0.0,0.1055948461433502,0.15096889879372902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301342965029068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824133185846666
parenting,designerturtle,2020/01/28,"Any tips for kiddos with allergies to everything? My 1 yr old is allergic to wheat, egg, legumes, nuts, bananas and avocados. And that’s just what we’ve found so far 😞 planning meals is impossible and I’m slowly losing my mind. 

Anyone have any good websites for allergen-free recipes? Or just any tips/ideas in general that worked for you? Appreciate any advice!",3.6719829424307022,6.4703300149253735,4.698081023454158,78.42746268656717,77.2089552238806,8.604690831556503,28.974413646055442,9.23628265651192,3.0632533049040522,289,13,51,8,7,94,54,67,0.11599999999999999,0.8029999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.3252,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,10,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,7,4,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238886643779928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6649735307860215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093437785734453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197077923988128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26804131896660616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20504416290884012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759692359734251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27349182851845244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468381785594101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565230418280114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797214651064466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,polarhats20,2020/01/28,"mild work of breathing AFTER getting over pnemonia/rsv? my daughter had rsv/adenovirus and mild pneomina December 1st.

its been about 2 months now, and our daughter has a mild work of breathing but overall very lively and functions like there is no issue (with the exception of the constant mild work of breathing).

i've seen some people call their children ""happy wheezers"", is this what they are referring to?

can breathing take months to get back to normal?

how long did it take your toddler to heal after a rough time with these illnesses?",7.82405498281787,8.79807595876289,6.529432989690722,77.04439003436426,62.60824742268043,8.940893470790376,36.785223367697604,8.841846274778883,3.339406872852233,436,20,70,6,6,130,72,97,0.067,0.8059999999999999,0.127,0.8151,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,2,3,5,2,0,0,4,0,8,6,4,1,0,11,13,5,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,5,2,15,9,1,10,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,1,10,47,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211684034373742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285626087584061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418882830383404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338911933416715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23827865423811226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336276787202145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935545428333186,0.0,0.19765217645118008,0.19808870583771052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573291239978704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193127399726823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518039567913386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365951420611329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305211577654813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468897137472187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4888680169538993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,magpiecri,2020/01/28,"Neighbors The abusive woman downstairs finally got her kids taken. Took two years, but there's no more screaming finally.",5.453333333333332,9.160359,4.710000000000001,73.16833333333331,84.0,6.666666666666668,36.66666666666666,7.793537801064563,4.103666666666667,100,6,12,2,3,30,19,20,0.366,0.634,0.0,-0.8496,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,0.0,0.3854906111508502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7128175565877846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602148587539553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614796308981702,0.0,0.0,0.31782302440789345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951694112974686
parenting,talkinganteater,2020/01/28,"Impromptu Play dates while Babysitting I had my in-laws watch my 11mo son yesterday for a few hours.  Any previous babysitting venture with them was usually just them and the baby doing grandparent stuff.  Yesterday however they invited my SIL and her two children over for a cousin play date, which I was not told about.  I am not opposed to my child socializing, however I feel as though I should have been consulted first.  For one, my son has an MRI coming up which will require anesthesia and I want to avoid an illness so I don’t have to reschedule.  Another concern is my in-laws are older and three young children running isn’t necessarily the safest, they have told me in the past it is too much for them to watch the two cousins at once and they only do one grandchild at a time babysitting. I would also prefer my child older and able to walk and better verbally communicate before being left with a group of children with no parent present.  They also have an in-ground pool and one fear I have is the oldest cousin opening the door and one of the little kids getting outside (I enrolled my son in swim school purely for this reason alone).

Anyway, is there a way to gently explain it to them that I would like to be aware of their plans when they have my child?  It is there house, but it is my child and I believe the caregiver (regardless of relation) should be upfront with these types of arrangements.",6.734029850746268,7.136941320895524,6.485037313432838,78.4016604477612,64.8955223880597,9.685074626865672,32.79477611940298,9.516144504307137,2.924928358208955,1126,43,207,20,16,353,151,268,0.027999999999999997,0.925,0.047,0.4497,4,2,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,10,4,11,6,0,2,16,0,31,2,0,1,1,34,38,18,0,7,4,7,1,1,0,5,2,0,1,8,10,16,0,3,4,4,0,4,5,2,0,8,6,3,34,4,30,24,2,30,0,0,2,0,32,9,0,0,17,156,44,4,0.1472616393605155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251864659077596,0.0,0.2355301595848787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014296458193693,0.15441666884837044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530880876355618,0.16591343913256396,0.0,0.13024095292418855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685286287241065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657102854533487,0.07445990957785817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526067521141115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693812856584838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502305117180414,0.1699201600958638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600002020469416,0.0,0.0,0.07194459851882523,0.14759484966001302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082542490713709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682883981896206,0.399153191967469,0.11199911259728768,0.0,0.0,0.16351662326979008,0.0,0.14057789777142962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140949165401113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903664095654745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501146962325076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685793450292551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446838129835247,0.0,0.08586944615785005,0.0,0.0,0.2814296143357717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28770644740424817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621878907879073,0.0,0.08685873031234499,0.1168894348592793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20922088691773366,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,i-lack,2020/01/28,"What has most surprised you about parenting? After another battle of wills with my youngest (3F) over something really petty, I (40M) started thinking about this question.  It surprises me on a daily basis how much my kids are always ready for a battle about anything and everything!  Simple things like getting hair brushed in the morning has her fully committing to war over who brushes it, what part of the room she stands while it gets brushed, if it gets brushed at all, what colour clasps etc etc.  The level of determination they show for all these wars is incredible.  Frustrating, but incredible.",6.798499999999998,8.992241647619046,6.1611309523809545,74.26741071428572,65.85714285714286,9.05952380952381,34.07738095238095,9.516144504307137,3.51302380952381,483,22,76,10,8,148,82,105,0.111,0.802,0.087,-0.5539999999999999,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,1,0,4,8,5,0,5,0,5,1,1,1,3,11,10,5,2,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,11,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,6,8,3,16,9,7,11,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,3,4,57,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888051036199034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506291806978771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668985314254364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5331321792742342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481222424942464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746280813599484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677117449099247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570430675760518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265399050673948,0.25883110268083515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677526902976326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311980936565656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400624142622185,0.0,0.0,0.16917679855266632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879165070900952,0.15315184117635178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SamTheHam74,2020/01/28,"Signs that your baby is hungry? What are some common signs that your baby is hungry? My daughter is two weeks old and I can never pick up on it until she starts crying, and then it's harder to get her to latch when she's crying.",0.9343750000000028,3.0441320208333345,2.65816666666667,93.1035,82.95833333333334,3.84,11.683333333333335,3.1291,-1.5202966666666666,179,1,37,0,5,59,35,48,0.132,0.868,0.0,-0.7622,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,7,7,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,0,5,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,8,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7366544990975613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17518799448075753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586152254366313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35185617749868764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237337339557098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275535580306977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689690780571116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toughCrowd1012,2020/01/28,"Send help! I’m at the point I gonna lose my mind. I’m sitting in my sons nursery while he screams bloody murder in his crib. (I just put him down. It’s be about 2 minutes) it’s currently 7:58am and this started at 3am. I don’t know what to do. He’s only 4 weeks and I already can’t do this. It’s been hours. He just cries. I’ve tried it all. Swaddling, feeding, diaper change, rocking, binky, skin to skin, his swing. I give up. I can’t do this",-2.599393939393938,-1.1056666464646447,0.023686868686869644,104.68886363636364,109.40404040404042,3.008080808080809,15.601010101010099,5.033348758259628,-1.1280262626262627,338,10,87,2,18,113,66,99,0.168,0.8029999999999999,0.028999999999999998,-0.9151,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,1,0,8,3,2,0,1,7,14,3,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,3,11,0,9,11,1,15,0,1,0,0,10,7,0,0,5,43,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115767136200931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29868547542122753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101447006432197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708527772552755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925110770946105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780547225171139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517041668667705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31587384649148714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850897788971884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147374636223109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669089875419413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838365176364503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19984651751552174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19169494274462207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22648157120739384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mn164,2020/01/28,"Can anyone relate? My 3 yr old up until a couple weeks ago, used to sleep till 8 830. Now she’s getting up anywhere from 6-7 am. Hyper and super awake. I thought it was a growth spurt cause she always sleeps less during them but it’s still happening weeks later. I don’t know if it the pregnancy (I’m 27 weeks pregnant) but she’s driving me crazy! I love her but man I miss sleep. How can I get her back on schedule!? P.s it doesn’t matter what time we put her to bed, nothing works. Also she no longer naps so it means by 6 pm she’s a bear! Usually bed is between 8-830",-1.3106362007168428,0.7208375241935485,1.1805376344086014,98.86858422939068,97.14516129032258,3.723297491039427,15.759856630824373,5.46131890053228,-0.8206777777777776,439,11,103,3,18,148,91,124,0.067,0.8270000000000001,0.106,0.6844,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,2,6,3,0,0,4,0,7,4,3,3,0,13,17,10,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,17,2,10,15,1,20,0,1,0,1,12,3,0,1,14,57,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772142631864022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228804603865394,0.14804940133881409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441059784968647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136814772935623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827798979172376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968726868926152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859188818756805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573401351055627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778394932766628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605859383071209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938145121037908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072562133972685,0.0,0.18670430954899792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886563850599582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5341660713772004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209262061283096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125405259397367,0.10375058319288218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367167994311515,0.1959612994957061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.428166585270803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953287352448126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaZombie,2020/01/28,"Violent, intense toddler My 3 year old boy has become increasingly violent and intense.  I understand that toddlers go through this, but I’m at my wits end.  He has a song that he sings ‘hurt you, hurt you’ over and over, accompanied by hitting me.  He also gets quite ‘intense’ gritting or grinding his teeth before winding up for an especially hard whack.

Timeout didn’t work as he’d hit someone and go put himself in timeout, come back and do it again.  Taking with him wields reasoning behind his actions as ‘wanting to make someone cry’.  He’s especially rough with his baby sister.  I’ve been told this is normal behavior by family, but it’s really weighing on me.

I suppose I’m looking for reassurance or advise around this behavior.",5.6299264705882335,7.315666845588236,6.633117647058821,71.72952941176472,68.04411764705883,9.263529411764708,36.39411764705882,9.642632912329526,3.920758235294119,585,31,95,13,10,195,97,136,0.085,0.873,0.040999999999999995,-0.7899,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,2,4,5,2,0,2,0,7,2,1,2,0,17,21,11,0,2,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,8,1,0,2,2,0,6,1,4,0,0,3,4,14,1,18,15,1,18,0,2,1,0,17,7,0,2,5,58,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089227117554274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797070532901165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508802667101145,0.0,0.0,0.20838906314695246,0.16055804306302246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162536437946409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072629103578347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671199517836839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787653927859512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858074209908617,0.0,0.2144694104430328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690257568814172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039849195935146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584488706313162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594949132382244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487239600088853,0.0,0.0,0.1979944070526951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968172788107146,0.0,0.2006909798669906,0.0,0.0,0.12087719945505505,0.19400082022170806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197463785512116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186852620338458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029773239243385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642896931765466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112919985394103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373657873739694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150771456688482
parenting,L2xx,2020/01/28,"10 year anniversary of my mums death... Gift ideas for my dad? Hi I'm gonna try keep this short and sweet. 

This year is 10 years since my (F/22) mother (she was 41 when she died) passed away from cancer. As a result of this I have grown so incredibly close to my dad (M/52) and our bond is unbreakable. My dad has got a new girlfriend now (8 years) but he has been with my mum since he was 16 and I know he still struggles with her passing. He's a man so good at hiding his emotions, but deep down i know she is the only person he will ever call his soul mate/true love.

I want to get/make him something for the 10 year anniversary (July 27th). Myself, my dad and family are going away for the weekend of her anniversary and I thought it would be nice to make him something. 

I am a graphic designer so I am naturally creative and I have all the resources but when its projects close to home I like to get different opinions so I don't over think? I'm pretty new to Reddit so don't know if I'm in the right community etc but I'll take ideas from anywhere rn!",-0.007553329023917142,2.2672230588235287,1.7977165481577266,96.23189479638012,89.90497737556561,4.96709760827408,18.30009696186168,6.5431188927421005,-0.09685274725274697,820,23,187,10,28,268,130,221,0.04,0.807,0.153,0.9790000000000001,1,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,0,10,6,0,1,9,0,18,2,0,2,2,30,35,19,2,3,5,7,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,5,10,0,1,7,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,5,1,28,5,23,26,2,28,1,0,0,1,28,11,0,2,14,106,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611102829480113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189113955737467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421594204673355,0.14518100748101495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630847957010685,0.0,0.0,0.15497433953517326,0.0,0.1256950103878902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099676010856914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519911255809662,0.0,0.07897274712105057,0.11655095465550624,0.1111370033735732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938569815582885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137321975125258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235118069488436,0.0,0.0,0.2291022168630025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788761341745787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541456519244065,0.0,0.09275520744701432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684120306211847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568343719526753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133232546314685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136972931637912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866894213403698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22989415289096535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21395253818066826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097163561812563,0.0,0.0,0.14526854548248394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447874334295293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903835242964085,0.0,0.11031672993598468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434301821611343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819607312678627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871141810745004,0.0,0.0,0.4474203568669862
parenting,heyvoon,2020/01/28,"I haven't had any contact with my daughter for 16 years. She's turned 17 now and I would like to getting in touch with her. I am a deadbeat father (not by choice), long story. I was forced to leave my daughter behind when she was a little over 1 year old. Even though she does carry my family name. I am pretty sure she doesn't acknowledge my existence, because of things her mother might have told her.  It is very hard to find anything related to her on the internet. But I finally found an social media account that might be hers. 

I would like to contact her but I don't know how to approach. Any advice?

Thank you all in advance ;-)",1.8124894003634184,4.088106275590551,3.086141732283465,90.33655360387644,80.73228346456693,5.797456087219867,22.367655966081166,7.010146845296331,0.7318012113870385,495,16,100,6,13,160,89,127,0.037000000000000005,0.856,0.107,0.8202,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,0,15,0,0,1,2,18,21,6,0,2,3,4,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,5,2,23,4,16,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,2,9,71,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356922790714502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24157680080169416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616698442899734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827613944106887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543737205123706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731702398537185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744531185465686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945751710027077,0.1623424157961046,0.0,0.0,0.19475230613188296,0.0,0.0,0.09279966414115716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911356656287334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761588026407282,0.0,0.0,0.1880750385123784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355333964494007,0.1780229482146979,0.0,0.15718903400559006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3768557156649841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638340597851916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18070445706115626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810622854064598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674057313509738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635295926279891,0.0,0.0,0.11800352873220114,0.0,0.17451177331460266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972451875654113,0.0,0.0,0.1932006900585892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655596279003955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523537860771285,0.0,0.0,0.22876425683695534
parenting,adviceaccount1986,2020/01/28,"Wife is having meltdowns during day when I'm working and I'm starting to worry Hi everyone, I'd appreciate your advice on our situation.

My wife and I have two beautiful sons (19 months and 2 months old), who we love more than anything in the universe. Due to the small age gap and the younger's recent arrival, my wife has been bearing most of the burden of day-to-day parenting, which you can imagine, is TOUGH. I work a regular 9to5 job, and while she's gotten some help every now and then from family members, 80% of the time she's alone at home with the two kids during the day.

Needless to say, she's been struggling a lot at home. Taking care of an infant can be demanding, but add to that our 19-month-old son and it's downright mindbogglingly frustrating. For most of the day we talk to each other on Whatsapp, and I try to help remotely with advice (where applicable) and just to lend a listening ear. 

However, she often says things which frankly, scare the living sh\*t out of me. It's one thing that she tells me how she's going to rip her hair out, or that she broke down and cried for an hour, or that she just can't take it anymore and that she's going to have a nervous breakdown. In these cases I try to calm her, to tell her that she's doing great, that it's hard, but if anyone, she's up to the challenge. Problems arise however when she starts saying things which are very, very concerning. These range from saying that she is depressed all the way to threats of suicide. 

Obviously when she does this, I freak out and immediately call her and ask her if she is indeed having such thoughts, in which case I'll rush home, or have her mother stop by if I can't leave work, or something. She always ends up saying that what she said was not a real threat, just an exaggeration. But I've told her many times that postpartum depression, as well as suicidal thoughts, are absolutely not exaggerations, they are very real conditions that young mothers can experience and that I need to know right away if it's the case, because to me, that's an emergency, and I need to help her immediately. She's agreed to stop saying these things (unless they are serious), but regardless, keeps doing so. 

We just got into another fight. She's having a hard day with the kids. She said she is depressed, and threatened to jump off the balcony. As usual I called her, I asked if she wants me to go home, or if she wants me to call any sort of help, and she proceeded to tell me no, it's ""just a figure of speech"". I reminded her that we agreed that she wouldn't say these things unless she feels she's seriously in danger of hurting herself, which she just blew off saying ""yeah yeah whatever"". I admit I got angry, I told her that the doubt and the ambiguity are causing me ridiculous anxiety, and most importantly, this is freaking me the f\*ck out. This blew up into an unnecessarily huge fight over phone and text. I understand that she's having a hard time and says things she may not mean, but I love her to death and would never forgive myself for not taking seriously a real, valid cry for help just because she's told me she ""doesn't mean it"". 

I don't know what to do. This is causing ridiculous strain on our lives. I want to be her #1 support, I want her to be able to tell me anything and everything, but when she crosses a certain line, I totally freak out and she doesn't take it well. How do we work on this?",6.969123809523808,6.0799140562963,7.157798941798943,78.0946666666667,64.73333333333333,10.262433862433863,32.17460317460318,9.461161749540981,2.6137047619047618,2688,87,545,43,35,871,289,675,0.18899999999999997,0.7070000000000001,0.10400000000000001,-0.9968,4,1,1,0,2,2,96.0,8,2,2,5,20,38,8,5,32,2,41,4,2,4,5,118,83,55,3,16,30,8,5,0,0,3,0,15,4,3,49,41,0,3,12,0,0,6,12,27,2,3,13,20,94,11,77,64,9,66,0,5,0,2,111,29,0,21,30,374,143,6,0.0567947811421876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109984056281009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058822264853506334,0.0,0.0,0.04725780764535691,0.0,0.0,0.03862239875271916,0.059554280055776225,0.04344785211962145,0.0,0.05632516168010409,0.039712231519054064,0.0,0.09347453130209077,0.0,0.10619090727210456,0.0,0.05336056645295489,0.0,0.0,0.06924314286835535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739814647501485,0.0,0.05790606454820154,0.11668777015103302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477280041445248,0.2197676119301792,0.0,0.1467517853266744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04970149571080452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05030331850782653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478520526511179,0.05426984726823589,0.05104348714196949,0.055556194021120886,0.05354106505477503,0.0,0.028717147837724093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683334887805076,0.0,0.0908479495628074,0.06261644671245271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263090481448716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034172308501493,0.0,0.2278791849960657,0.0,0.05593141898760714,0.0,0.06079998787031511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636005670512587,0.05048181104173937,0.0,0.0,0.06242585280780436,0.0,0.0,0.060137472710559636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030166455435564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04828489192649441,0.10251901479425274,0.0,0.0,0.05758099378478944,0.0,0.1237323332489338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599915736162702,0.0,0.0,0.08422522114574665,0.043803636504051134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919313779639758,0.0,0.038485613562435225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306388324919948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05434493525033848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939346846993603,0.0,0.0,0.056077994604460384,0.0,0.0,0.04850243277401624,0.10804968548047124,0.4064894058587851,0.05686148385300802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383971361186665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04372339726521241,0.0,0.0,0.08039927682714933,0.0,0.0,0.09496596027364712,0.0,0.059374236718862425,0.0,0.124248544807122,0.06445004459154789,0.0,0.0,0.17081042888480605,0.04564949373401722,0.19856456819833188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22639157365102736,0.0,0.0,0.0901774243765626,0.09935248084662264,0.0,0.0,0.16280954180470766,0.0,0.07711985657639679,0.0,0.11096049714289548,0.05912537014455242,0.0,0.0,0.06255142752187799,0.14058492741888856,0.13399613367880578,0.04508105369120837,0.0,0.0,0.10213065805167797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538910837636525,0.05767785713417405,0.0,0.040345383001532384,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cebsombre,2020/01/28,"Bipolar and Children Hi All, looking for some experience or knowledge of the inheritance of bipolar from parent to child.

It's a definite worry of mine that my sons may suffer from the same illness, and I'm wondering if anyone has seen or done any research on the topic. Is it possible?",5.38111111111111,7.051355444444442,6.7194444444444485,70.93250000000003,68.62962962962962,9.103703703703703,35.72222222222222,9.516144504307137,3.8155333333333328,230,12,37,5,4,78,45,54,0.156,0.8079999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.7906,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,3,0,0,1,11,8,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,8,5,3,1,0,1,2,0,5,1,0,6,0,29,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350277448814729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24165967209577105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536806686425802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380744701690061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902267061066199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38376079016801984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896251587798309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748010459354105,0.0,0.35098536418290993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bwf5029,2020/01/28,"After eight months of potty training, my son finally pooped on the potty for the first time People told me potty training would be tough, but I had no idea. We started training my son a few months before he turned three. It took him a few weeks just to get in a rhythm with peeing on the potty, but he eventually got that down. The poop was a nightmare. 

He pooped his pants everyday. We had him in underwear at first, but eventually daycare just started throwing his underwear away every time he had an accident (which again was pretty much everyday) so we switched to pull-ups. After that, he started regressing with peeing on the potty. When it was time for my son to move up to the next class at daycare, they held him back because he wasn’t fully potty trained. It broke my heart hearing my son say that he wanted to be with his friends at school but couldn’t. 

We tried everything, but nothing worked. For eight months, he never once pooped on the potty. Two nights ago, he finally did. I almost cried. And then he did again yesterday - 3 times with no accidents!!!!

I just wanted to share in case anyone else is feeling despair like I was. It will happen one day - just keep encouraging him/her and throw a fucking parade the first time they actually do it!",5.0771985294117625,6.382315087500004,5.305049019607843,82.17308823529412,68.95833333333334,8.147058823529411,28.284313725490193,8.4952907291091,1.9980122549019599,991,34,186,15,17,313,130,240,0.081,0.833,0.086,0.5279,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,4,0,2,4,9,8,1,0,14,0,17,8,7,0,1,29,33,10,0,4,9,4,1,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,9,10,0,2,2,0,0,4,5,4,0,8,14,3,22,4,29,14,3,50,0,2,0,1,32,13,1,1,34,122,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.1193088755844555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837679616884363,0.0,0.12242650102617643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548757336976948,0.12527060738652834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148680183713861,0.09401098573236938,0.0,0.0745290308537786,0.0,0.10403491068109462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342977153633922,0.07884808252828418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213318551169197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300997212769962,0.0,0.10988009701757352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181871904050664,0.0,0.0,0.2678613958328785,0.0,0.31198484654167585,0.0,0.0,0.09445836793183802,0.11302811215308868,0.06387620640797682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778310682462256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811479549433037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377967738854942,0.14487960158934532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380175281520395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867099027660808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973043678849494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927621414979061,0.1299438502666942,0.08987573375020748,0.0,0.09429504327164492,0.0,0.13002571634101096,0.11473345085080484,0.0,0.11731250659218788,0.0,0.0,0.13020373031852275,0.08284706215818426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476022413030139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438315703947188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722667181188754,0.0,0.12373442683810855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596104076903704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564561920831665,0.0,0.0,0.11682540548957818,0.13583621447406544,0.0830070376953959,0.13298461013365595,0.11943100749825755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422514010118265,0.0,0.098070215360713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900729697159851,0.0,0.0,0.08685054346090053,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stephandkdhater,2020/01/28,"My son is going through an identity crisis Hello, ladies and gentlemen

I have one child. A 16 year old son. He's my world. He is usually jovial and extroverted but quite recently I have noticed that he has been quiet and subdued. 

My son is of mixed race/nationality. I'm Nigerian and his mother is Scottish. Our son was born in Nigeria. Spent the first four years of his life there before we moved to Scotland for two years. We eventually settled in England when our boy was 7. 

My son is very good at football. His body has developed much faster than normal and he has the physique of a 20 year old. Coupled with his technical ability on the pitch, he makes a very formidable central defender. His talent hasn't gone unnoticed. He plays for the youth teams belonging to an English Premier League team. He has been representing the youth academy teams for this club since he was 12.

Words can't describe how proud I am of my boy. I'm always beaming with pride. 

Football, however, has highlighted something his mother and I thought he didn't struggle with: identity issues. He has a chance to represent Scotland at youth level and the other day, he sat down with myself and his mother and told us he wasn't sure about the prospect of playing for Scotland. He said he was only there for two years and he was little at the time. He said he ""doesn't really feel Scottish.""  The same applied with Nigeria. He said his formative years have been spent in England and he felt more English than anything else. He said he has been having thoughts on the issue and they have been making him feel melancholy and confused. He added it made him feel like a "" sellout "" to everything he was. 

He expressed a lot of guilt and shame (which I hate) when he told us about his feelings. We honestly had no idea about how he felt. I feel bad for not realising earlier. We told our son he has nothing to be ashamed of regarding his feelings. That its okay to feel how he does. My wife and I are talking to our son constantly, and he is also starting therapy. We spoke to his club and he will also start sessions with their sports therapist. 

I'd like some advice on how we can help him further. Input from similar situations would also be of great help.

Thanks",3.3237839230504984,5.768158298122067,4.029331272185964,84.68045173479906,76.34741784037557,7.254689110271385,27.99587770525593,8.25429008570747,2.1038684987976644,1769,75,331,33,41,562,215,426,0.063,0.8009999999999999,0.135,0.9858,1,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,12,0,2,7,14,20,1,5,18,1,43,2,1,7,1,58,76,27,0,2,2,11,9,2,0,2,1,6,0,3,7,29,0,0,12,8,2,3,7,7,0,5,31,15,42,13,45,41,5,40,0,0,0,0,88,14,0,3,25,196,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644678678351278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21223582562461366,0.0736098072446579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279899951206971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386441972391024,0.0,0.0,0.07527703609265672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826445901916092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559903003574906,0.0,0.0,0.09788462771786967,0.0,0.05705248282004843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774161498666763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390099574929289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950646542497203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131132559026428,0.06319927670074461,0.16988017813814374,0.0,0.0,0.07524812071808852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050276589209404726,0.07420008398842809,0.0,0.09753276342056233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734068323603436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859219244404015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986600055791027,0.0,0.18466855190018427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062485310292888216,0.08643887357659383,0.08866497842072163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752096164555699,0.0,0.08370754057008603,0.11810189291499525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402409097586008,0.06503181296620103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667672924259691,0.08488436943950706,0.10071777055070158,0.18565786978357213,0.0,0.05994604356771475,0.06728147306259878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409321293850167,0.0,0.0,0.056672821445549026,0.0,0.08734832568786885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366011635897305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317900356705605,0.09943815102022337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810453140202123,0.0,0.0,0.12523169323191854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248262536790694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337703485192448,0.0,0.0,0.07110466189616757,0.0,0.08144650982874217,0.10116721803571503,0.10271446082036807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046235229514856,0.051584541114565736,0.0,0.0,0.2535957461203359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283452647136152,0.0,0.21282454391691005,0.0,0.0974314880901169,0.14598546320596326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628428616122331,0.0,0.0,0.34181061654061123
parenting,OkBuy3,2020/01/28,"Teacher arrested My kids are in elementary school. 

A high school teacher was arrested yesterday and is charged with serious crime of rape of a child.

My heart feels such anguish for this child and the child’s family. I just keep praying for their strength. 

And I’m sleeping with my own little girl tonight and I have these thoughts that I shouldn’t send her to school tomorrow. And I can’t sleep. And then I start crying for this little one who was violated. 

Does anyone have any advice?",3.7498067632850223,6.358066347826089,3.7879710144927534,86.11161835748794,75.73913043478261,7.567149758454105,27.613526570048307,8.515128840125781,2.142199033816425,392,16,74,8,9,120,64,92,0.26899999999999996,0.6759999999999999,0.055,-0.9690000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,2,5,2,1,3,0,8,4,3,0,0,13,13,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,5,8,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,3,1,10,1,9,9,1,10,1,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,5,46,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874837852281824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047166707985275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415326901173566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074966602312908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678983494336761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808689320322326,0.0,0.09701039482698276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273555254897621,0.0,0.20271107118035012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053435976350753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845890955582029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300095882762434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5825189742312532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839979653876309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579979517603402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231574515486473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TerraLynn13,2020/01/28,"Being the primary custodial parent is a thankless job, yet I am so thankful to have this job. ""I asked for this."" I reminded myself when I get an email from my 7 year old's teacher saying my daughter got very angry, screamed, ""I hate school."" And barricaded herself under a desk. I remind myself about the months I spent going to court, the thousands of dollars I paid to a lawyer to get me full custody. I not only asked for this I fought, begged, and paid for this. I wanted soul custody of my daughter. I wanted to be her primary custodial parent. 

When I got divorced and my ex husband got remarried I needed to become really secure in my position as the mother. Christmases, and birthdays always felt like such a competition who was going to give the best, the most, her favorite gift? I learned a few years into this song and dance that there was no competing, and staying in my lane was the best thing to do. I stopped wanting to be her best friend and knew my efforts were better spent shaping a healthy, happy, loved young girl. 

Monday nights my 7 year old goes to dance. At the beginning of every class the teacher asks a question. This particular Monday was the return from Christmas break and the question was, ""What was the best gift or the coolest thing you got to do on Christmas break."" I was eager to know what my kiddo would say... Maybe she would say it was the cool band t-shirt I got her or maybe it was going to be the Captain America hoodie she got from santa. It wasn't either of those things. It was the karaoke machine she got from one of her Grandmas and the trip to go see her other grandma that made the list. Honestly I wasn't surprised. I also wasn't hurt. This is where becoming secure in my motherhood has served me. I kind of know the things I buy her would never make the list of the best things. You see as the primary custodial parent I buy her the things she need not always the things she wants. Now I'm not saying others don't buy her the things she needs I just saying that is always my objective when I buy her a gift. 

That same night I took the kids through the panda express drive through where I had a really nice conversation with the girl at the window, as we drove away my 4 year year old said, ""Mommy she was so pretty in her apron.""  And the 7 year old says, ""Yeah she was so nice I hope we see her again next time we come here."" 


At that moment I had a realization..... Being the primary custodial parent is a thankless job, and one of the most rewarding. Maybe I will not be the one to get her the best gift, but I am teaching her lessions about being an empowering woman. She is learning the power of giving a compliment and being kind to others. The Karaoke machine maybe forgotten in a year, but these life lessions are a gift that will serve her throughout life.",4.129512195121951,5.517005662431946,4.877716789872076,84.02814704971006,71.32304900181487,7.480872913992298,26.687663228719398,7.933642134475585,1.5568687618963306,2204,73,430,29,41,711,238,551,0.027000000000000003,0.833,0.14,0.9944,9,0,0,0,1,0,68.0,3,2,0,11,18,29,2,0,52,2,44,3,0,2,1,54,94,26,0,11,10,9,1,1,1,5,2,9,1,4,33,18,0,3,8,4,9,11,10,4,0,4,36,14,77,25,52,45,12,61,2,1,3,1,67,16,0,7,32,312,110,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046144140838256686,0.144037660574985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183029450491113,0.0,0.054212778387282286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274542984089424,0.0,0.0,0.3633271288251264,0.051032588652212295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049705026145589054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048616289110026176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05540281554184648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044580298677710316,0.0,0.09044048999835187,0.11070572612271312,0.13117314232042987,0.0,0.3230460299414907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142468195731264,0.0,0.05696862124420338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05731094704972934,0.0,0.0,0.06177101345557995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717805188636892,0.0,0.0,0.1201751745414196,0.0634228447872707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151303249556985,0.02819020453648638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05207816369812513,0.05459887646097073,0.03851642646025237,0.0,0.23187701693045298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605705841724458,0.0,0.0,0.1283555503281587,0.04450321644251756,0.0,0.061366561768761166,0.1082985365773882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24219349958879885,0.0,0.1173007809614444,0.043884849690228885,0.0,0.0,0.2562842603887667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870351576789418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927853363788844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393055286839864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05488766371073603,0.27532091631784705,0.0,0.05839734293460005,0.1379426881023258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150248428225026,0.0,0.04824132220550658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312410205856515,0.0,0.0,0.3066763099154119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033646407102976554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410886769579949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04761006127044418,0.13613616164075565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229691954005286,0.0,0.0,0.2601066532539851
parenting,Flimsy-Judge,2020/01/28,"Extremely shy/anxious toddler...? This is my first post here so I'm really sorry for any mistakes I'm making.

So the reason I joined is to ask advice about my baby daughter, 14 months, who has always been quite shy (afraid of strangers, cried a lot when touched by a not very familiar person or when someone leaned in too close to her). She started walking independently about a month ago and she loves exploring the world and her new abilities so I took her to a sort of baby class where moms and toddlers sing nursery songs and do some simple exercises and it was a diasaster. She was afraid, cried the whole time, had to be taked outside the classroom to be consoled, etc. She tried to befriend kids outside the classroom but refused to go back mostly and pulled me towards the exit if I tried to convince her to go back. The teacher said she's never seen such a ""cowardly"" baby in her decades-long career. 

Do you think I should be worried about her being okay, or is this just her temperament? Is there anything I can do to help her with this anxiety?",7.198055805580559,6.8642239900990125,6.935184518451845,78.04838433843386,64.04950495049505,9.325652565256526,35.1953195319532,8.575989854853784,2.8272316831683164,834,34,155,10,11,263,130,202,0.083,0.856,0.061,-0.3874,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,2,16,6,0,2,13,1,18,2,0,3,1,27,31,15,0,3,6,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,5,8,0,1,3,3,0,6,2,3,0,1,7,4,22,3,21,19,5,26,0,0,1,1,24,7,0,7,12,110,27,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616781613293662,0.14166494672890886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329775607756548,0.0,0.0,0.10867860007352437,0.0,0.1222568223893533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151282070128864,0.0,0.14940396655266336,0.0,0.0,0.24577329754165625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510950566047189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823419861971054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359372062038597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165128934423194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711956102418667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142984016631896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586764749828972,0.14423784343498225,0.0,0.10667669316552524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871715360687486,0.2551230807433987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325795515366968,0.1543487887128506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395429066544381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15305707173531086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998123498026538,0.0,0.0,0.10238056368025956,0.16431480393551212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15201915126485374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540938497241833,0.0,0.0,0.17889803008738514,0.1131167552336864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201597964435862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240198112355617,0.0,0.0,0.0931884854466081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775585805041282,0.2170056319975132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318628015239229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842596670356656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622982769329277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Owlmop,2020/01/28,"Need opinion on pacifier, nipple shield My wife is feeding our 2 week old daughter using nipple shield exclusively and we're wondering if we can introduce a pacifier. 

At 2 weeks, she still hasn't reached her birth weight and is at 95% of her birth weight.. She's eating consistently but for some reason not gaining any weight.

Few questions:

1) Could the nipple shield be the reason that she's not getting any weight ?
(She was born tiny, 6lb 13oz)

2) She's constantly sucking her fingers and crying,  would a soother be recommended for a 2 week old?",4.0935470085470085,6.288902884615389,4.6878205128205135,82.03495726495727,73.03846153846155,7.699145299145299,28.863247863247857,8.515128840125781,2.274973504273504,436,18,80,8,9,139,69,104,0.08800000000000001,0.889,0.022000000000000002,-0.7548,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,5,0,9,7,1,3,0,18,14,5,0,4,4,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,4,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,11,0,6,9,2,13,0,0,0,0,13,3,1,5,10,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938994459676035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406312569958475,0.0,0.11382729651101525,0.0,0.15660198261562794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588054070648554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448481560827039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057108326001462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991979282518616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970647229412147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931630461361903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385333795972084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313119172510816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430733751383455,0.6944275938389178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460667248372004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127474812523306,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CreauxTeeRhobat,2020/01/28,"My 2 y/o hates being alone, which means she hates sleeping in her own room. Title is pretty self explanatory, but to elaborate, I can get my 2 y/o to fall asleep in her own bed, but she will invariably wake up between an hour or two hours later and just cry. When she was 5mos, my wife went back to work and just said the ""easiest thing to do is let her sleep with us."" My wife essentially became my daughter's pacifier. Now, I can go in and comfort and cuddle with her until she falls back asleep, but then it's a crap shoot for how long she stays asleep after that.

For instance, I just got back in bed after getting her back to sleep for the ~~third~~ fourth time(she woke up while I'm writing this post), tonight... And it's barely 10:30pm. If I opt to sleep on her floor, however, she will usually sleep through most of the night and may join me on my sleeping pad at 4 or 5am.

I'm guessing this behavior is a combination of the early cosleeping habits, and the fact that when they nap at daycare, everyone is together in their classroom.

That being said, my wife and I have no idea how to get her to sleep through the night, now. The bruise on my hip just healed after I spent almost two weeks sleeping on her floor, but that solution isn't very viable in the long run. Having her cry it out is difficult because my wife physically cannot stand her in pain/distress. A friend of ours suggested melatonin, but I remember the eff'd up dress that gave me, and my daughter already had a nightmare that made her afraid of her bed for days, so I don't think that's the best solution.

Any help or recommendations would be very, very much appreciated.",7.427098623853213,6.019167602446487,7.211817660550459,79.75882740825688,64.10703363914374,10.621483180428136,34.19896788990826,9.516144504307137,2.800498623853211,1294,45,271,20,16,411,175,327,0.077,0.8170000000000001,0.107,0.9248,1,1,0,1,0,0,48.0,2,0,2,2,15,8,3,1,15,0,23,16,14,3,1,39,42,26,0,2,13,6,0,0,1,4,1,2,4,1,14,12,0,0,4,1,1,5,4,5,0,3,10,2,42,3,42,24,5,54,0,0,0,1,36,20,1,8,26,180,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569667087121573,0.08863575603327646,0.09444038859208204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819778483184119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632249859321829,0.0,0.05216917721156912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981162483997138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18801267725183266,0.0551924470651014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177598999987838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611940715316329,0.0,0.1341370910177974,0.0,0.04863746240994115,0.0,0.06844667332706764,0.0,0.0942767476192964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898637177068346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736291376176475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685594262759843,0.0,0.0,0.09661015046060306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751202514103705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147238557052936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097849161861206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322242972617213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291163359192749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062330774899722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106385823123923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196261749614969,0.08706630003625833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694620706948967,0.0,0.16281361463334448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089279294893217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6851397384787479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912175988004841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685598908309139,0.05483663260063303,0.0,0.0,0.04990277222155781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671997427943731,0.0,0.10294299909206332,0.0,0.09425500842529802,0.2118390265945992,0.0,0.0,0.06864764489380708,0.0,0.0,0.07933413105073445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230374118166414,0.0,0.0,0.06079404684091756,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FlowHuman,2020/01/28,"4 year old refuses to participate in activities I feel like there are a lot of benefits to getting kids involved in some organized activities, not the least of which is just getting out of the house and cutting down on tv time. My 4.5 yr old son is very interested in martial arts and combat, so I have enrolled him in a couple of kids classes at martial arts schools in the area. Unfortunately, he just shuts down more than half the time and refuses to participate. I talk about it with him before hand and he says he wants to do it, but once we get there he changes into a different person and will cling or sulk.

I want to give him the opportunity to do things, but I don't want to force him if he genuinely doesn't feel comfortable. I also don't want to waste time and money on classes if he isn't going to get anything out of it. Wondering if others have had success in ""powering through"", or found ways to get their kids motivated, or if it's best to just wait until he is ready on his own.",9.5803,6.123519230000008,9.794999999999998,69.36500000000001,61.7,13.4,40.5,11.45678717892309,4.311400000000001,786,31,162,17,8,265,113,200,0.039,0.789,0.17300000000000001,0.981,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,5,8,8,1,0,8,0,14,1,1,1,0,38,30,18,0,8,13,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,7,11,0,3,5,3,1,1,5,1,0,1,2,4,14,7,36,27,6,26,0,0,0,0,25,17,0,10,8,109,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605736042903487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971678593882746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13413227162993638,0.0,0.16542388697658128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675257342811078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441557419035092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469072303108406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594058217548462,0.11261153452967475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728341273803465,0.0,0.0,0.4117781527620225,0.15121390674847046,0.0895852635877152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188487540717294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770104873396605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401214005270756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33081419132115264,0.1678717462049857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376372071958621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535440524501407,0.0,0.1595308694165069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669773304932114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047229546150815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757475070684744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006198716871709,0.3718991161960579,0.12512005805432613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094396886164914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150912071730232
parenting,etthat,2020/01/28,"Trying to not be mad, but you can't forget to pick up your kid! I have 50/50 custody, so there are 'every other' days of the week. I got a call from the school the other day, that nobody had picked up my kid! There were calls made, messages left, alternate number called (the alternate has no responsibilty, it was a grandparent they had a # for). Then they called me. I live further away than my mother, so she went and picked her up. Ended up being 30 mins later than last pick up time by the time she got there. So, a $30 bill was handed out. With the alternating days, one of us will typically send a text...is this your day, or mine? Thing is, I had texted my ""co-parent"" the night before, and said ""Tomorrow is your day"". It was the first line of a longish text about that and some other stuff. (It was not a load of shit talk) So, apparently, it just got skimmed, cause who wants to deal with all that! Co-parent is saying, yeah I screwed up, nobodys perfect! I can relate with that for sure, but the notice, and not answering the phone? Am I out of line being furious, or is this just a ""shit happens, nobody got hurt"" type thing?",3.2025897969807424,4.42630950884956,4.057537740760022,89.65032014575745,73.38053097345133,7.087558563248308,21.701197293076525,7.510576382923642,0.5597233732431017,863,19,189,10,17,277,130,226,0.071,0.821,0.10800000000000001,0.7778,4,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,1,4,2,2,10,8,5,0,18,1,22,4,3,6,3,31,31,13,0,1,9,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,17,9,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,6,0,2,15,3,22,2,27,12,2,29,0,1,0,1,25,11,3,3,16,132,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406330734606525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033060912861898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4958693308677916,0.0,0.0,0.1247156268665065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914785507134656,0.1251624707548533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752814786072226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228833296769296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326640940603396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883923384463436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735739435545713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996578117668686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896068305204313,0.0,0.0,0.13190609376599008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720219397850733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487565499831505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392968254190755,0.0,0.0,0.1382195652050557,0.0,0.0,0.08226667481208601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548326135621632,0.09654554771945896,0.0,0.12286760194724593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24923947552113385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897884257617515,0.0,0.0,0.11442208700914798,0.0,0.0,0.09758015291247243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613112038998762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158361141578965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242552963632288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603438779629874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160738348076373,0.0,0.09738318180102187,0.0,0.0,0.11254297389358417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sarinaserna1,2020/01/28,"Breaking down with my toddler. I am really mentally exhausted right now with myself and everything around me. I feel like I am failing as a single mom. I have a 3 y.o. little boy who is my entire world. He means everything to me. More and more lately, I am having the hardest time keeping my patience with him. I never wanted to raise my kid the way I was raised. I grew up in a very abusive home and never want to expose my son to that kind of energy or environment. We are getting ready to make a big move to New York to start our new lives with my boyfriend who just bought us a house and has a really great paying job. My 3 y.o. is not potty trained yet and that really concerns me for when I move and he has to be in daycare/preschool while I work. Right now we live with my mom and she watches him during the day. I’ve tried different methods to get him to start using the big boy potty and he shows no interest in it. With my circumstances right now and the way they have been since he was born, he does not sleep in his own bed (not for a lack of trying either). He sobs, kicks and screams whenever I put him in his own bed, even though we are in the same room. It makes me feel terrible on the inside and worried about when he will have his own room in our own home. I feel like I went wrong somewhere. I feel like I failed and this is why we are in a rough patch right now. I know it will pass, I’m just wondering when I will catch a break. I’ve been a single mom since he was born with no help and my boyfriend is stepping into the other parenting role my son will need. I’m not sure where I was going with this. I feel alone and really sad right now because I feel like a shitty parent.",2.8836273022751904,3.8622223042253534,4.027957746478872,90.50310671722643,73.84507042253522,7.377031419284941,22.94962080173348,7.748469712250963,0.7952470205850486,1318,33,298,17,26,430,173,355,0.129,0.8,0.071,-0.9638,4,1,1,0,2,0,33.0,7,0,1,3,16,16,0,0,19,0,27,2,1,3,3,57,52,21,0,4,8,7,7,4,0,4,1,1,6,3,10,28,0,1,9,1,2,9,8,8,0,0,8,9,52,8,37,39,11,59,0,4,1,0,38,25,1,2,25,194,62,5,0.0,0.10465054211322668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147794030432864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862787089343842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053842028231746455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569622419193408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922807026396692,0.0,0.0,0.07729369940093023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058337751512860116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876141734177093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267958285062869,0.2523972532385659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229221068237692,0.0,0.0501970658570368,0.0,0.0,0.09737849415856832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059202306559116215,0.0,0.1771941163230011,0.0,0.0,0.1019150550388602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764881657753366,0.07850721335588559,0.0,0.09197677274667217,0.04854104522174592,0.0,0.09963431399500353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260430342481187,0.08852473548792683,0.15598497788854188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791508910444873,0.0,0.0,0.09621168976449708,0.0,0.0,0.08901070676660132,0.0,0.0,0.31033510270773257,0.0,0.18775074288374344,0.0,0.06549178080168923,0.136243188024449,0.17060944273928086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19614865770968487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879090185079573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263327242472656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771448329102965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612651013807051,0.0,0.0883886691184088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503361209266234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324515595110432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677874806102544,0.0,0.051502948952004635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199335940862448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624395782393847,0.0762843392674253,0.0,0.07287727773455421,0.1041926075798658,0.14021636020615652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818780504521252,0.0796994678987852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578456678212134,0.06430156600021424,0.08969820500692703,0.0,0.0,0.09656939293458136,0.0,0.0
parenting,messyslate,2020/01/28,I love all my kids the same. That's why I only have one kid. One and done.,-4.038333333333334,-2.7658059444444434,-0.7944444444444443,111.445,108.44444444444444,2.4000000000000004,6.0,3.1291,-2.9601333333333333,55,0,17,0,3,19,16,18,0.0,0.769,0.231,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45353819597387796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999971194000443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6006352907004475,0.33706667468437324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999108821310502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,neesibeneesi,2020/01/28,"Story toppers So I have an almost 6 week old boy, he has been suffering from pretty bad reflux, we’ve spent a few nights in hospital because of his breathing issues but for the most part we have a pretty brilliant kid... 


Recently I have been finding a lot of my friends with slightly older kids will down play my, umm complaints (?) about parenting... for example I said something about my son spewing all over myself and my husband just before we were due to walk out the door to dinner one night and a friend said 

‘oh is that all? You just wait until they spew all night long!’ 
Or when I mentioned that my sons poops are just starting to take on a horrid smell I got:

‘You’re going to get a shock when he gets on solids then, milk poos are nothing!’

What is with parents being sport toppers? Can’t we just support each other, have each other’s backs and have some dang sympathy when someone is having a bad day?",4.906048689138579,5.8230505224719105,5.044438202247194,85.31624531835206,69.0561797752809,7.281647940074906,28.316479400749067,7.1686216300943375,1.4709760299625467,715,24,138,6,12,224,125,178,0.11,0.733,0.157,0.9089,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,1,1,0,11,8,0,0,10,0,18,4,2,0,3,26,29,11,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,3,5,11,2,1,1,2,1,2,1,4,1,1,7,3,17,4,20,20,10,24,0,1,0,0,21,6,1,5,16,96,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537818166216483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180886494928454,0.2564551489626816,0.09361706542029156,0.0,0.13067985626076925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099042292858967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14036352458192214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373012263507924,0.0,0.1604717765840218,0.0,0.08727943862029486,0.0,0.12282686898961513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029098029641084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359078385673601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305628167366199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4323553728453336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611497011328569,0.0,0.10406547286463842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410507056285594,0.16630528629200955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312479204850851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163544206840873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921673989725839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012244666115094,0.1182284908689619,0.0,0.0,0.10870021270959884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427354654709235,0.0,0.0,0.11546826467552535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318751045104293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Meh1690,2020/01/28,"My niece You see my sister had my niece at 19 and she stayed for about a few months but then she stayed at her friends house for weeks at a time than she got a boyfriend. And she moved in with him leaving her kid with us(who i love very much) and my niece only sees her a few times a month i asked my mom if she had custody of her still and apparently she does but yet shes living with us. I've asked and told people about this but they said stuff like ""mind your own business"" or ""don't question her parenting"" what parenting? I've changed and fed her (btw shes almost 8 now but she still sucks her thumb) way more times than her and i see her every day of the year while her actual mom only sees her like maybe 12-20 days the whole year. 
And i acted upset with her and like a ""brat"" and kinda rude to her boyfriend because he basically took her away from us.but she assumed i was jealous.said something about having a crush on her boyfriend. Wtf? No i was mad that she basically abandoned her own kid.",1.4687910309754992,3.646331228155344,2.0978502080443846,97.49386731391589,81.37864077669903,5.283032824780399,19.0328247803976,6.42735559955562,-0.2383427646786869,787,19,180,7,21,242,117,206,0.13,0.7809999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.843,3,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,1,0,7,10,3,1,9,0,8,2,0,0,0,26,21,18,0,1,6,5,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,14,1,1,2,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,9,5,43,5,21,12,7,28,0,1,4,1,47,6,1,6,19,113,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.10586041546877342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862662312029864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282751530339665,0.0,0.10192013032812394,0.0,0.0,0.06612814119668027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475700499259672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992070136394438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493120588991384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913987194451927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381104946956215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676102480703164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517086319016968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486420523043048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589929204408294,0.0,0.09578945092834186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790705050098374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898231232874976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095334452875703,0.25409993102802,0.17317472138697024,0.11529661904412886,0.07974496841706402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500720800199806,0.0,0.0,0.2409074575856597,0.0,0.0,0.07520607748338465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121521949150768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063778321354872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457767010516943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351287559114763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23124958358602865,0.1732638552144097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418315826350815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976593521056,0.0,0.0,0.10365688136655243,0.12052479775279586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914627109162113,0.0,0.0,0.08950700912152404,0.0,0.08610603621661284,0.08701577055638414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111356989753845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971457751411018
parenting,m0niyaw,2020/01/28,"My 7yo step son is obsessed over YouTube and games I [28M] am the step father of a 7 year old boy.
He loves watching YouTube and that’s pretty much all he does, and play games.
I don’t like the channels he watches, they’re overly loud and annoying.
Some times he accidentally watches youtubers who swear and when I look at the content it’s something that’s obviously targeted to young children/pre teens where swear words shouldn’t be allowed.

I told him about YouTube Kids (which is a version of YouTube completely safe) but apparently he doesn’t like the content. He says it’s boring and he likes standard YouTube better. 
He can’t find any content he likes on the YouTube Kids app.
He also doesn’t like watching any sort of kids shows or movies.
Only YouTube.
And the toxic thing about it is that those you tubers are desperately trying to sell their merchandise and “limited edition action figures” to young kids.

Another thing he’s passionate about is games.
He likes to play games and I play them with him whenever I have the time.
So far so good, the problem is that I suspect he developed some sort of addiction to games lol every couple days he asks for a new game despite having the Xbox game pass ultimate which allows him to have access to over 100 paid games for free, including AAA titles such as Halo.
I also blame YouTube for this because the games he wants are always played by the youtubers he watches.
I don’t blame him, I played a lots of games too when I was younger, but I never demanded new games almost everyday. All I had was a game every moth if I was lucky since my uncles shared them with me.
Whenever my son gets a new game he gets bored with it after a few days. It’s getting expensive.
He always asks to see his mom’s bank balance to see if he could get another game.


Has anyone of you developed the same hate towards YouTube? I would like him to try watch something different like movies or proper kids shows but I don’t know how.
He doesn’t seem to be interested in anything else.",4.1651316655694535,5.9187759081632665,4.452837393021729,85.66036537195524,71.8061224489796,7.507044107965767,28.461487820934824,8.155646560271837,1.8726893350888745,1604,62,312,24,31,502,198,392,0.085,0.73,0.185,0.993,3,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,0,2,3,2,13,28,2,1,19,1,28,3,0,3,4,48,44,24,0,7,7,4,0,8,0,2,1,2,0,6,16,12,0,2,5,23,5,4,9,6,1,0,6,11,31,23,36,33,9,29,0,0,9,2,62,9,0,12,24,165,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962980793013787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988601134643644,0.0,0.0,0.1755136895117005,0.18262037734297612,0.0,0.0,0.14925019558763736,0.23013816421176456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673084159516465,0.0,0.09030441227007924,0.0,0.20517904366147688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689481330750567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705368609070313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505742609950058,0.0,0.0,0.0876162702925901,0.12142218760674313,0.0,0.14154290482409929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465207715422432,0.0,0.0,0.09603181308506173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167139702527193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18491674386087814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029786481702692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293327501245332,0.0,0.0,0.09204240470165516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834282228823187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060308726556205325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288966457198536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921516578245128,0.0,0.0,0.09329469163861627,0.0990421588484122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852294908013226,0.0,0.0,0.08066951040717042,0.0,0.08463613766634738,0.3179547798074725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515079140160925,0.0,0.0,0.08346012887959829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164224159949324,0.0,0.10500373458470733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726747127742364,0.0,0.0,0.17489277215688231,0.09990067730681547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907757929631628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689622033931667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458091148228245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797735405141866,0.0,0.0,0.10485865172635296,0.0,0.14900878828645264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472587735808669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795419883925396,0.0,0.0,0.07066719561453985
parenting,HollowGoldsmith,2020/01/28,"Lost my best friend over differences in parenting I had to walk away from one of my oldest and closest friends this week because of her negligence in parenting and I’m so mad. Mad for the loss of the relationship, mad I couldn’t do anything to salvage it, mad on behalf of her son, just pissed. 

There have been a few friends where we have extremely different parenting styles and I just learned to navigate that by not discussing our kids and only getting together as the two of us without the families. 

But then a friend of mine’s son, a 7th grader, started having unprecedented trouble at school. Cutting classes and clowning and acting out. 

At first I was sympathetic towards the hard time my friend was having. I’d been there. 

But she wasn’t doing anything about it. I was over to her house at one point when he was sent home for the day and all she did was yell at him and tell him he wasn’t going to sports that week. 

A little while later I asked her what he said was driving this and she replied “Who knows. He just thinks he can do whatever he wants.” And it dawned on me. I asked “You haven’t sat down and talked with him about any of this yet?” 

She said “He’s 12, what’s there to talk about?” I encouraged her to talk to him about what had been going on. 

Things escalated with her son and he was caught cheating. Blatantly caught. Like he looked right over at the test next to him and wrote the answers down in clear view of the teacher, who called him out on it. 

Her son is very bright and loved school until this started happening. Even she said “This is so unlike him.” I said that sounded like reason enough for her to sit down and ask why he felt the need to do that and discuss with him what he thought he stood to gain from cheating and how he could have gained that same thing a different way (like asking the teacher for help.) 

Same response. “He’s cheating because he didn’t study. There’s nothing to talk about.” Meanwhile whenever I go over there, I see a boy who’s very unhappy. Not going out with his friends anymore, not friendly and talkative like he used to be. 

He repeats the cheating. My friend continues to react solely by yelling at him, even calling him names at some points. 

Long story short the cheating persists. The teachers hold conferences with him but his mom goes to them and dominates the conversation most of the time. He is expelled. 

He has to leave all his friends in the middle of the year and just before a lot of fun school traditions like a field trip to DC and his team’s state playoff game. 

Still, not once, does she sit down and talk to him about it. At this point it was getting excruciating to see this little boy coming undone and I pleaded with her “He needs you to help guide him through processing what’s happening. He’s leaving his friends, he’s starting at a new school, he needs his mom in his corner.” 

The boy’s father is not really in the picture so I offered to have my husband talk to him for some man to man time. 

It was working. He was opening up about how he felt unhappy and felt overshadowed by his older sister and been falling behind and being teased for it, so keeping it to himself. 

My husband was just hearing him out and taking him on bike rides and stuff to just get his mind off things. At one point he shared that he was worried his mom hated him for getting expelled and didn’t think he’d do well at his new school. My husband said “Your son shared this with me and I wanted you to have that information so you could correct his misconception.” 

She asked my husband to stop talking to him. She didn’t follow up on any of this with her son. 

I tried to butt out at this point since clearly she wasn’t looking for advice, but every time I see her son he looks so unhappy and the words they exchange are so harsh, I couldn’t take it anymore. 

I said her son seemed very unhappy and as someone who cares deeply about her and her family I had to tell her I worried not enough was being done to address it and friend to friend I worried she was missing a critical mothering moment. She said “It’s not my job to address it. It’s his job to handle his business in school. Her got a roof over his head and food to eat and a ride to and from school and that’s all he’s owed. The least he could do is handle himself at school.” 

I couldn’t handle seeing her son in this space anymore and I had to end the friendship.",4.253209899378511,5.378914053899084,4.4692438591299215,88.07075466114237,70.7316513761468,7.460668836934005,27.94066291802309,7.717688229018142,1.478938014205386,3453,121,716,40,62,1077,326,872,0.10099999999999999,0.805,0.094,-0.764,9,0,0,0,1,1,69.0,3,5,2,9,35,43,13,0,35,0,62,6,3,5,7,120,128,58,0,11,18,22,4,5,12,0,0,11,3,6,46,55,2,3,12,4,2,16,18,17,1,5,49,24,109,26,132,69,14,111,0,3,9,2,190,61,2,5,35,481,155,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0438978611579316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109783968298406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365349419966593,0.0,0.0,0.07393497183464215,0.0,0.20998291269534652,0.0,0.042206277183991885,0.0,0.0,0.054768820409152943,0.0,0.03822583813382741,0.0,0.04714351475744373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174202867075013,0.0,0.045801601696081364,0.0,0.0,0.03869685659627493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760116222724228,0.0,0.0,0.028971371438266356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080371958728913,0.0,0.0,0.039312084632359384,0.04597143371858648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459670518627529,0.0,0.0,0.039788104687527866,0.09283414331784767,0.0,0.059341929355434836,0.0,0.037849242095221725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469809009318867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939827061591608,0.0,0.0,0.038211154845467575,0.05432060647045252,0.0,0.4164852270426303,0.0,0.0938808525241704,0.0,0.10212223332885004,0.0,0.035928720361558614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944984323784575,0.0,0.04024184089277034,0.044351783667054216,0.046103564944635085,0.0,0.05063105393589496,0.0,0.06022136613776445,0.0,0.04506104735078911,0.0,0.0,0.05183466828540774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891575308706386,0.03992928582300625,0.0,0.0,0.02468829532925027,0.0,0.0,0.09513312961564614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097346070368056,0.0900485271252711,0.0,0.039755102177548664,0.1131710520200414,0.0,0.0490383428067592,0.03819160229952663,0.040544415498763774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04535903690312617,0.15783847734801915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999286532882246,0.0,0.08677308634506327,0.047775712532905176,0.0,0.0,0.04310446232623566,0.0,0.0,0.04784112070642477,0.09132218311686548,0.03416567431707448,0.0,0.0,0.14964374895052615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123319654342465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02877857858933675,0.046187931854113885,0.0,0.04823007855264426,0.0,0.03836366923808587,0.2991218698302973,0.0,0.0,0.3637126915132702,0.14319003754577267,0.040895863099417715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0371604527801267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03806278737957244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538937801993436,0.0,0.03587525975292296,0.03755731909149886,0.0,0.0,0.051425648518886036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755243419112393,0.25274968384787405,0.07852869414052452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953377132961687,0.0575691978151564,0.0,0.0356635397820529,0.10477895630354184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03049950796458288,0.0,0.04388286903790214,0.0,0.05403637675545421,0.03879871742001973,0.0,0.11119759044845028,0.052993046509514065,0.03565748218799498,0.07206842690757362,0.0,0.04039082743352243,0.0,0.04053567433665035,0.0,0.0,0.04330379946455026,0.0,0.03270420000835467,0.13686329366817446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028928692331046193
parenting,ItsMeMoni,2020/01/28,"Dual language elementary - any dropouts? It's time to register for kindergarten and on the fence about enrolling in our zoned school's 90/10 Spanish/English dual language program. Have heard all the good stuff -- now, please, if anyone's ever removed your child from a similar program will you please share the reason?",10.073333333333334,10.648079666666668,7.818888888888887,71.065,57.88888888888889,9.422222222222222,42.074074074074076,8.841846274778883,4.091451851851852,258,13,37,3,3,75,46,54,0.0,0.821,0.179,0.8426,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,2,6,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,6,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,3,22,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480787908300008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21058707314231515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724281031547322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526095140904004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6611947409248483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096558703664198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048030230320418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447708808779429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756163223152005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,believeRN,2020/01/28,"2 yr old separation anxiety at night 😴 Our kiddo will be 2 soon. In December we changed the crib to a toddler bed after an escape/fall from the crib... Kiddo slept great in it until a couple weeks ago. Now I have to lay in the room next to the bed til she's asleep then sneak out quietly or she freaks out - crying, screaming, running around her room. Sometimes she wakes up crying in the middle of the night/early morning too. I'm guessing it's separation anxiety?... Any suggestions?",2.2603191489361687,4.758671840425535,3.8930212765957455,83.89400000000002,80.59574468085106,6.7387234042553175,24.293617021276606,7.908726449838941,1.5994459574468085,379,14,71,7,10,126,68,94,0.131,0.825,0.044000000000000004,-0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,9,0,3,3,3,0,0,6,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,7,1,17,3,0,24,0,0,0,0,7,12,0,2,11,43,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918143441853672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715082934367782,0.0,0.3310714859290633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926306328198692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289091416367667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23942850509116345,0.4753827222921319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23856783529383765,0.2383750797403877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230130418953588,0.4061297696378656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270621406908386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21401263831145093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357289298556314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ayeeeray,2020/01/28,"How to save my daughters heart My ex and I broke up (For GOOD) In the middle of October. He has a daughter (5) with his ex wife, I had a daughter (5) by someone else, and my ex and I had a son (16 months) together. 

My daughter was handling the break up very very well, until this last week. She has asked me when me and “daddy” will be getting married. She’s asked when we’re moving back into “daddy’s” she threw a fit today because she couldn’t go to “daddy’s” with her brother.  

I’m just so unsure of what to do. She handled it sooo well the first few months. Her therapy sessions were great, I’ve been keeping busy on our “girl time” when my son is with the ex. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t help but bawl about it and feel like a crap mom. HELP",-0.5073976608187145,1.526333672839506,1.5747693307342452,98.958567251462,88.81481481481481,4.151267056530214,18.40285899935023,5.399115186594226,-0.5754493827160494,573,16,137,3,19,190,101,162,0.045,0.831,0.125,0.8937,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,12,8,1,0,9,0,15,2,2,1,0,18,24,12,0,1,3,13,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,3,3,2,2,1,6,1,21,6,18,15,1,23,0,1,0,0,28,7,1,0,13,87,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34558389589473115,0.0,0.0,0.14212355875003105,0.0,0.11267120552574722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440250602968478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345606025679608,0.1320432370757576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15721707529236212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656652042770153,0.0,0.1050436640243968,0.155027395764637,0.0,0.20377672776187566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219025515026322,0.2477765221328517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428620283771495,0.0,0.0,0.1015782328829354,0.15066185846747912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029904511629597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164717247063152,0.2950605335665303,0.19644600355706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660662792036026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21137025062230488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777638839266207,0.0,0.17519808836943515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050097110920287,0.0,0.0,0.1482602049735492,0.0,0.3323703658482922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsmfelix,2020/01/28,My husband with severe cold sores (oral herpes) refuses to stop kissing our baby. What should I do? I literally sent him pics of what happens to babies and how it can make them very sick and all he had to say was “I got it as a child and I didn’t die.” I am so sick of him getting me sick and refusing to take his Valcyclovir.,2.603478260869565,3.4442134057971034,4.499246376811595,87.38452173913046,74.36231884057972,7.838840579710146,25.394202898550724,8.238735603445708,1.3565628985507256,251,8,57,4,5,86,53,69,0.278,0.6759999999999999,0.046,-0.9551,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,2,1,12,13,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,4,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,2,12,1,8,7,1,2,0,0,0,1,12,0,0,0,1,39,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3902919396197512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647634813147785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30077033089824873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325494952226044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510236337990732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990587965817553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248418819551257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31440383005923433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827510662804623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31028970451962096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jasslerazzle,2020/01/28,"3 Year Old out of absolutely no where walking with curls toed under his foot I just came home from a long day at work to find out my toddler is walking with his toes curled under his feet. 
My mom watches my son during the day and when I left him the morning he was asleep. There have been no injuries lately. And, he is walking on soft surfaces (the mattress, bathroom mat, blankets). But the only way he’ll walk on the floor is with his toes curled and only if we hold his hand. I’m at a loss. 
What is this behavior a sign of? I’m honestly so confused.",2.669122807017544,4.041743456140357,3.737719298245616,90.825701754386,74.96491228070175,6.119298245614036,25.824561403508767,6.42735559955562,0.7910245614035087,430,15,93,3,9,139,77,114,0.08900000000000001,0.857,0.054000000000000006,-0.4727,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,5,3,0,1,8,0,7,6,6,0,0,17,11,7,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,10,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,3,3,12,1,16,7,0,25,0,1,1,0,12,12,0,2,7,57,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012882622735286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397749348743093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24076586903870945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642369634038064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971551101941826,0.0,0.2862122607814833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331230208083379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085204214780321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27642044437218183,0.0,0.0,0.4006934842817888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090946697850357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19177668982003904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963719811685127
parenting,1965Pardner,2020/01/28,"How do I teach my tween that the old days were better? My tween has recently started listening to “Rap” music? I looked through his YouTube search history and I found these searches. I did research on all, and found out they were rappers.

Searches:

”Juice WRLD”

”Death Race For Love”

”X”

”XXXTENTACTION”

”Tupac”

”Snoop Dogg”

”Eminem”

”Juice WRLD Bandit”

“NLE Choppa”

”NBA Youngboy”

“YMW Nelly”

How do I teach my child that they should listen to better things than this foul music? We are a religious family, and some lyrics were very vulgar, and rude towards women. Some lyrics include the N Word too.

Please help.

Sincerely, Jefferson",4.697939949958297,7.645681412844041,3.9717931609674717,84.23598832360302,74.3211009174312,6.8994161801501255,25.505421184320262,8.00094639256281,1.7948275229357806,490,17,81,8,11,145,82,109,0.06,0.7829999999999999,0.157,0.8879,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,2,2,3,5,1,0,3,0,9,1,0,2,1,15,16,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,5,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,12,4,8,9,3,7,0,0,1,1,10,3,0,2,4,47,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4406239614563959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065127959527975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348328000581749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5462587021419201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696896019615284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091843708412258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248258162095781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613924309108566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734410597461198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24595985307987803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763168820106239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654934304340598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055366419400266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mollybeesknees,2020/01/28,"I need to know where the line is. My 11 year old son came out to me two weeks ago. Then over the weekend he told me that he has a boyfriend. He hasn't told any of this to his father. I haven't pressed it but his boyfriend is a kid who he's had sleepovers with and was friends with. 11 is too young to date, I think, but I remember having a boyfriend in sixth grade so I'm not going to shut it down as long as it's similar to what I had, which is where you hang out at school and call each other boyfriend/girlfriend/partner.

 Now that he actually has a boyfriend, I don't know if I should tell my ex-husband. I feel that coming out is his conversation to have. It's a big deal to me not to out him, but I think that as far as rules and boundaries and keeping their relationship age appropriate, it is problematic to me that his dad doesn't know.  Obviously, they need more supervision than two buddies having a sleepover and trading pokemon cards. Where is the line here? I'm not sure because this is totally new to me.",4.476237695953337,4.585957170616116,5.056587677725119,87.71811520233324,69.71090047393365,8.38804228946409,29.974845060153108,8.139509932561175,1.7023865111192131,797,29,183,10,13,256,116,211,0.033,0.945,0.022000000000000002,-0.2831,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,2,0,7,2,0,0,9,0,21,0,0,0,3,35,37,15,0,4,7,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,16,14,0,1,7,1,1,4,7,0,0,2,6,2,24,2,27,30,3,30,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,1,12,122,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.17329554384533508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741675328253404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076263585234573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825304379747301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813322575430895,0.20310782208502745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297216484293713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830804364684506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979137958904987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720030602336294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009246001160566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784406874964735,0.0,0.0,0.29278517546260346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715550508661205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633513204585978,0.0,0.17151091892028786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863436498075023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906578511974825,0.20116709829123056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17972363486170145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737002317808233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521550587808322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275762320938362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33937663195789874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469458796760865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142446496312284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435773034808724
parenting,Phod,2020/01/28,"Teenage years. How do you navigate this roller coaster and come out safe on the other side? Daughter 15 drinking and who knows what else. I have a honor roll all AP course daughter doing teenager things. Yes I was a teenager also and did them too but now I’m the parent and the perspective is far different and worse. A year ago she threw a party at our house with pot and alcohol. After recovering from that and her restriction it’s now a year later and we found evidence she snuck out from a friend’s house at 3 am and in searching her phone found videos of her drinking and drunk.

Her 16th birthday is in a month and we already bought her a car cause we naively assume our daughter is the little angel you dream of but she’s a teenager doing teenage things. I’m more of an authoritarian parent while my wife is a lot softer. We barely survive disputes over little things to discipline much less the big things like this.

I don’t know what’s appropriate discipline any more. Feels like you restrict and restrict and it doesn’t matter and just makes it worse. But you can’t just allow all the freedoms and expect things not to happen. I want to sell the car until I can trust she’s not drinking and doing something stupid.

For parents whom have survived this awful 4-5 years of utter chaos, what’s some of the best advice you can share? Would appreciate any productive conversation.",4.236721144024514,6.227639074906371,4.567151855635,83.93456843718081,72.10861423220973,6.951923731699012,26.36857337419135,7.686295010490155,1.4918029962546808,1111,38,206,14,22,349,153,267,0.13,0.716,0.154,0.6058,4,0,5,0,0,0,18.0,6,5,1,4,7,9,1,0,19,2,19,5,0,4,2,55,32,23,0,3,7,7,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,18,24,5,6,6,7,2,4,5,1,0,0,6,1,27,8,22,25,9,29,1,0,0,0,34,13,0,3,14,143,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277126214133824,0.10229850963789668,0.12333157049145325,0.0,0.0,0.12735096798276554,0.09228838077862636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569570888743479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211091729924784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185514966807682,0.0,0.0994101590408765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057241327337175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391553812205766,0.0,0.0,0.0964050703818512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05835163106053989,0.08244450100627594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25306863010507913,0.08916069309892599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205120320815987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26632099200427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684582578550588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276093923212395,0.2313298595881713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811218772191746,0.0,0.0,0.07703293564084968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211421574957836,0.0,0.08483507485250602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844268033925219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884348683755959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833457990428209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806815391406333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352126720529352,0.08197955163252632,0.0,0.0,0.2972650657883896
parenting,BoardGameHalv,2020/01/28,"A STORY: Teaching young kids probability and choices Hello All, I wanted to share this heartwarming message from my former 3rd grade teacher. I sent her a copy of [Machi Koro](https://boardgamehalv.com/machi-koro/) the board game and she sent back this:

*Thank you so much so sending Machi Koro, I played it with my third-grade class and they loved it. I have been teaching the kids about using numbers in the real world and this was by far the favorite. There were fun lessons about why and how taxes come out of your money, time management, differences in prices at the grocery store and more, but everyone took so much away from Machi Koro.*

*We started talking a little bit about probability and how two six-sided dice make many combinations of numbers and why the seven is most likely to come up. Then we talked about choices and using the money you have in the game that you have to make hard decisions on what to choose. Then it all came together and people could really see their choices come to life and their ""investments"" grow. I am going to recommend the game to other teachers. Thank you and the kids really thank you!!*

It felt like a warm story to share that may help others. If you are at all interested in the game, there are further resources to check out below:

[MACHI KORO PAGE](https://boardgamehalv.com/machi-koro/) | [HOW TO PLAY MACHI KORO](https://boardgamehalv.com/how-to-play-machi-koro/) | [MACHI KORO REVIEW](https://boardgamehalv.com/machi-koro-review/) | [GAMES LIKE MACHI KORO](https://boardgamehalv.com/games-like-machi-koro/)",5.688489388264671,8.888769584269667,4.486142322097379,80.51238451935082,72.25842696629212,6.8019975031211,23.372034956304606,7.921354282810032,1.4424671660424468,1257,36,201,19,27,367,142,267,0.006,0.8190000000000001,0.175,0.992,0,0,0,0,0,0,92.0,2,7,3,1,13,15,0,0,15,0,12,2,0,7,3,42,32,22,0,3,2,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,12,21,0,0,4,7,7,10,0,0,0,2,8,4,21,15,33,22,8,33,0,0,1,1,33,16,0,3,10,127,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619061543445914,0.1032776948307052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146633999015962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361723227613325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470938785699192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072372625500422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032753116101385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834094316353634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896065462801498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633264725724725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203172373231801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002655247346364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486859041850962,0.2624723812729001,0.13461598386619186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122189128208535,0.0,0.1793087055835357,0.13617136260044285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746965805388111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311508110798762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896222665638752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287654562835487,0.17208750858011004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702933406809516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506677775102218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159099159356141,0.0,0.3709695388760586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831845084846271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922565693915926,0.0,0.0,0.13120338064364892,0.0,0.0,0.2320050170715811,0.0,0.0,0.07922074154551167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423915129635188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ltlbrdthttoldme,2020/01/28,"Toilet turkey I am just beside myself right now. I have two daughters, one is 12, the other is a toddler. My 12 year old is stubborn and in the past has nearly developed an eating disorder, but we were able to nip that in the bud. But she's stubborn and fights us about food still sometimes and hates that we still enforce minimums she has to eat each meal because of our history with her trying not to eat.

Older daughter has a few special needs, most aren't intelligence based, but her executive functions were delayed. But she's a smart girl. Does great in school, just bad at planning.

So tonight during dinner I had to step away to take an important phone call. I come back and my daughters and husband have all finished eating. Great.

Older daughter takes a bath, part of her bedtime routine, and after I bring the toddler in to take hers. Take her to do potty and what do I see? An entire three inch slab of turkey breast.

In the toilet.

Just wedged in the drain.

And I lost my mind. Just, how this? Why this? WHEN THIS?!

I called my daughter in and gestures wildly at the toilet, begging for answers. My daughter started laughing at my broken mind. She started falling to the ground, grabbing her hanging towel for support, it fell with her. She literally rolled on the floor while I shouted 'what the actual f*ck?!' Over and over.

She started crying in delight, trying to muffle her laughter in her towel. My husband, hearing the shouting, poked in and then just kept walking. My daughter's towel got stuck in her braces, she laughed harder.

The world was chaos. I told her I have no idea how to even punish this. She told me I could force her to eat it now.

Oh? You'd eat it now but not before it was in the toilet? What are you trying to say about my cooking?!

My husband returned as my daughter died of laughter at the tender age of twelve. A true tragedy. All because of the toilet turkey.

She's been revived and sent to her room, grounded for the rest of the night. She seemed confused.

But, it's bedtime. That makes no sense, I'm already going to my room.

Makes as much sense as anything else that just happened, just go!


And that was my night.",2.4209934282584875,4.950011580722894,3.0161199342825853,90.23760815991241,80.18072289156626,4.640197152245345,24.853504928806128,5.712786715810287,0.6240240963855421,1686,64,317,9,44,525,209,415,0.151,0.745,0.10400000000000001,-0.9656,3,0,0,0,1,0,66.0,4,2,0,2,20,17,5,1,25,0,23,12,1,4,3,54,51,28,1,2,15,11,1,0,1,0,1,4,3,1,18,19,10,4,3,2,0,10,5,8,0,3,14,6,56,9,53,35,8,64,0,1,1,1,51,29,0,3,25,228,74,1,0.0918678977438486,0.0,0.0896498160944275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137850960032986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559945219100361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631291403661316,0.07064074269811355,0.07670585729146126,0.11200363555530288,0.0,0.0781728145896254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18761479008639773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913605936673904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334904098958822,0.0,0.10091257188747252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534437378758702,0.0,0.1052885698758546,0.0,0.08039421640247997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5640227654266299,0.07674384033382152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060677880033033274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108702661127276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442128676872693,0.0,0.0734751501179289,0.2025693631695252,0.0,0.0,0.08123847857649383,0.0,0.0,0.09070052955243488,0.0,0.0,0.10354179751275326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370767435385918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028466260424272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264507021987195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18552077625496008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067533475297521,0.06811888212315817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17242359746107289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639990483838792,0.0,0.06225206507111278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948398079530688,0.08769830346580823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784546827155814,0.0,0.07305703959332772,0.0,0.09297521710975776,0.07320682032503034,0.08363308378906133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085969992472903,0.0,0.19507371259371228,0.0,0.1467316436176776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425060167587688,0.0,0.0,0.2762929040097339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556742641302972,0.0,0.18711681660266186,0.0,0.08974158716810479,0.0,0.110505769589945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289648857640693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059159914139697185
parenting,MrDownvoteFarmer,2020/01/28,"How do I convince my son to stop trying to cut me off? My son (31M) is always going out on weekends, without so much as telling me where he is going or who he is going with. Despite the fact that I already tried to ground him for that, he won't listen. I tried to make him at the very least install a rootkit on his phone so I can watch and listen in on everything he does, but he won't even give me his password. Today, I asked him to spend the day playing Bingo with me, but he refused saying that he has a job and is trying to save up for his own place. I've tried telling him that because I am his oldest living male relative, he is my property, but he won't listen to me, and the police aren't willing to help me. What is wrong with my kid, and how can I fix him?",5.647619760479042,3.5549675568862282,6.682986526946106,84.32950973053894,68.04191616766467,9.068562874251496,31.05464071856287,6.6274283507984215,1.6006293413173651,590,17,137,3,8,200,91,167,0.081,0.871,0.048,-0.6539,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,6,0,16,0,0,3,1,20,25,13,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,2,6,8,0,2,0,2,1,3,5,2,0,0,0,5,26,3,23,21,3,19,0,0,1,0,34,11,0,1,5,94,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118944541277855,0.0,0.14416071560243715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619685502309025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056136702465571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117341161198439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161522603736366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443224286955775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570899285999976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620045724947105,0.2953917154430625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612810824766495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192727531877278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298593458653773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564799606144685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736119064911375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101293763967266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777806498057146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484760797263374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028622324122233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422397405385342,0.0,0.0,0.5881384614073921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429522072607536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670101040302022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18942540532471053,0.0,0.0
parenting,cat10800,2020/01/28,"Mom & Baby channel Hi guys! I just recently made a youtube channel with my 6 month old!! I would love to get more subscribers and likes. I need video ideas to do!? 
Here is the link [MC& J](https://youtu.be/Hru_iASejys)",3.2940000000000005,6.3721304000000085,2.2800000000000007,92.965,82.5,6.2,25.5,7.554174236665415,1.48585,176,7,33,3,5,50,36,40,0.0,0.7909999999999999,0.209,0.8567,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,8,7,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,3,5,1,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5728181800804673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810520179650332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617352447297207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29840436132274245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914173351782268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23857451370017915,0.2501221140545168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095883655265961,0.2109913163998609,0.0,0.0,0.19600257782874275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27737727428656633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610009532161525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777746058046715,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,achecheche,2020/01/28,"Toddler Sleep Apnea Hi all!! My wife and I just heard our 17 mo daughter 'gasp' while sleeping.  She did not wake up.  We checked on her and she's on her back still asleep.  My understanding, bc I suffer from a mild case of it myself,  is that sleep apnea may occur when you sleep on your back and you stop breathing.   The gasp is your response to not breathing.  

We have her 18 mo well visit coming up, but I'm wondering if this is something we should look into now, and if any  of you have had the same experience with your tiny ones.  Thanks!",2.1558333333333337,4.162391064814816,2.9349629629629668,93.25633333333336,78.16666666666666,5.431111111111113,20.985185185185188,6.2581,0.06427851851851862,417,11,90,3,10,131,76,108,0.035,0.907,0.057999999999999996,0.5308,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,4,6,0,0,7,3,0,0,3,0,9,8,8,0,1,23,16,9,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,10,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,1,1,1,3,2,20,2,11,11,2,15,0,1,1,0,20,6,0,4,7,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295382874418443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929468362763439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640884377867832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633369398828856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996183981554524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907951429804676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7625017742284597,0.0,0.0,0.14664687294898482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521238634307795,0.15925639339338524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753756428994286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19830459630245653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127147674109114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065759753018519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WAHOObyVLSantos,2020/01/28,"Kid’s honesty ‪You know you’ve been online shopping too much when your toddler tells you, “no buying” when you’re actually composing an email to inquire about school admissions. 🤦🏻‍♀️ #realitycheck #toddlers #kidsareobservant‬",5.672105263157897,9.395922000000002,6.626631578947368,61.0894210526316,79.0,8.303157894736843,33.915789473684214,8.841846274778883,4.203614736842105,188,10,25,5,5,62,35,38,0.062,0.847,0.09,0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,11,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.5155452133554062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29034021379854263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883617551899993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5346684491926661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4617580424653128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,piccyd,2020/01/28,"7 y/o back to school and is upset because she doesn't have friends This will be 2nd year at this school she is currently at. This morning she broke down and said last year she didn't have any friends and she kept faking to be sick and crying to stay home.

She also keeps asking me to home school her (not happening) 

She has friends with her extra curricular activities but at school it has been harder for her. We spoke about ways she can make friends - like take a basketball to school and shoot at lunchtime perhaps?

I also spoke to her teacher and told her she was upset. She moved her desk right away to some very ""nice girls"" She is in the class as this little girl who is just a little prat and she excludes her, they were in same class last year. 

I'm really not trying to be ""that parent"" but how do I help my child? I, along with other friends I have now also had this issue in waves where you just don't have anyone to play with at lunchtime and I think this is a normal thing and kids can be kinda shit sometimes.

How can I help her feel better about going to school?",3.23841608202914,4.68309661926606,3.43044252563411,93.30810847274692,73.63302752293578,6.230329195898544,21.08041014570966,6.522977012572876,0.09758035617916903,845,18,185,6,17,259,120,218,0.139,0.772,0.08900000000000001,-0.7817,2,0,0,1,0,0,19.0,1,1,1,1,12,14,1,2,4,0,27,2,1,3,0,31,41,17,0,1,6,1,1,1,5,1,1,3,2,4,11,14,0,2,2,1,0,2,5,5,0,0,10,4,31,9,28,26,3,26,0,1,0,0,41,14,1,2,9,127,42,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448537906602884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940479732776292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136323659387155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541300689865616,0.0,0.09588941701093127,0.07847840279923775,0.0,0.06221527471513135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902644232594296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210892130531906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05160497249975507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942593404677493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580034657822879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902519679297424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368183141426715,0.0,0.2047504707194584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652488762307806,0.0,0.09071626769022664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638623630426072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04986171819330176,0.2045833308418462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812633088519991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847440586937933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999784746343036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332636441448996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538271810387067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715930717138701,0.09708312746334363,0.0,0.0,0.6197454551010266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476387437776788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009406732794894,0.0,0.0,0.10878316031728076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673696857955765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780461508257407,0.0653963958040828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752340279992007,0.0,0.06929253734213144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421079226864676,0.0,0.08101105824091348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19717129495359034
parenting,corvidcreep,2020/01/28,"When and what to start learning. As all parents, I want the best for my son. Hes 15 months and has quite a few words. (Up, all done, fish, car, our dogs names, hi, hey, a couple names [Mimi, Papa, Bubba, Dada, Mama]and a few others) He can identify way more with pointing and showing. But as a first time mother I'm not sure what else I need to be teaching him.

I'm fortunate enough to be a stay home. Our daily routine is clean the house. I have him help where he can. (Putting silverware in the drawer, bringing me laundry to fold, sweeping, dusting etc) We go outside weather permitting, jumping on the trampoline, playing in the yard, kicking a ball. He LOVES music so we dance and sing. As well as a few other things I see online like making homemade play dough and (attempting to) paint or color, though he is not as interested , he prefers to practice putting the cap back on the marker. 

Sometimes I feel overzealous and try to teach him things that he may not be ready for. My family is/was pretty lack-a-daisical on parenting which left my siblings and I behind in school. So I may be trying to overcompensate which can be just as damaging. Please any help or guidance will help.",2.7777392344497613,5.095786399122809,3.6158532695374817,87.59748803827752,77.55263157894737,6.075279106858053,26.15311004784689,7.1686216300943375,1.3150368421052625,921,36,176,11,22,293,148,228,0.040999999999999995,0.8,0.16,0.9783,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,4,0,0,4,8,9,0,0,14,0,17,1,0,2,3,32,28,20,0,3,7,4,1,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,9,10,0,0,3,7,0,7,3,1,1,1,1,3,19,8,25,19,9,25,0,1,2,1,26,10,0,4,7,114,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139973311921673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465618236568073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156481467741256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649870858741448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259102889265233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456205040709895,0.0,0.0,0.15407021599492854,0.16629677011416466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405673879096022,0.0,0.07539436235780943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268326645790249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474249874310795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998353371966085,0.0,0.14956922205925174,0.0,0.0,0.17205261455184612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200816357205186,0.0,0.0,0.07284748478969957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457735764082215,0.0,0.0995319060947308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901796803801105,0.0,0.0,0.1105629792800537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311374299598656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367771242442958,0.140956896279314,0.0,0.0,0.15169820660466088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997929365003189,0.0,0.1585965576536049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509070126001071,0.11882115364314327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747334082798313,0.0,0.10554063803037356,0.1589311380299189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053416077440656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981237648791168,0.0,0.1464995577517215,0.0,0.08694708569743577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247144474651133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794878511450048,0.11835636730615492,0.0,0.0,0.1340675592942169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonymouself44,2020/01/28,"Putting young children on birth control, advice? It's not as bad as you might be thinking. My daughter is almost 10. She started getting periods a few months ago, and it's been...bad. I don't remember my periods ever being as bad as hers are. She has a very heavy flow, and is legitimately ill during her periods, which can go on for weeks. We've been talking to her doctor about putting her on birth control to help, and it's difficult because she is only 9 years old. During her last period, she ended up in the hospital because she passed out in school from blood loss, and we're decided that this needs to happen.

We've had the pill recommended. Any advice on how to handle this properly and deal with the social aspects of being on a stigmatised medication at a much younger age than normal?",5.568766233766234,6.370060811688313,6.50690909090909,75.84036363636366,67.5064935064935,9.536623376623377,32.28311688311688,9.642632912329526,3.0811787012987017,631,26,115,13,10,210,104,154,0.05,0.88,0.07,0.4515,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,3,3,4,0,0,7,0,13,5,1,3,1,19,19,10,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,7,7,0,2,3,0,0,5,2,4,0,0,2,0,14,0,24,13,2,32,0,1,0,0,17,10,0,2,17,75,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30063602702370984,0.13635839895734533,0.0,0.1540355708972176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460766935740023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38531748565425,0.18754308454055266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450602348387463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585889346379996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744850449192258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624510853760055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914537402599084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036828495733506,0.0,0.08742345779763151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360287528175322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310702947725772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538957725603792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496457004568678,0.0,0.1631861915916747,0.0,0.0,0.12278328418746495,0.0,0.11308058175296125,0.11406080887904305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071784900554558,0.0,0.0,0.16141561310195388,0.0,0.0,0.11699240368816236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092773463243578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742560615302099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568118763414532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568073061820376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887957815303233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364035640133796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856616275576507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692342681101024,0.0,0.0,0.12339078128084845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905957716376793
parenting,TK82,2020/01/29,"2 year sleep regression. Help!! Hoping somebody here has some advice. Our daughter is 22 months old, and for most of her life has been a pretty decent sleeper. We sleep trained her at 3 months and night weaned her at 8 and she's slept in her own crib pretty much every night of her life until now and always got put down still awake after completing sleep training. 

All of a sudden now she absolutely will *NOT* go in her crib. She screams and screams until she makes herself puke and then continues screaming. Even if we do manage to get her to go to sleep in her crib (which takes hours of soothing) she'll wake up again shortly thereafter and begin screaming again. We've resorted to co-sleeping, which even that doesn't work so well as she'll often get up and fuck around for hours in the middle of the night. This has been going on for about 2 weeks now.

We've been on a trip recently which I think at least contributed to this and I'm hoping it'll be better when we get home, but I'm not optimistic. She's always been a pretty good traveler before this. Anybody have any good tips for dealing with this?",2.971027397260272,5.123959835616443,3.336207762557077,90.64677739726031,76.21461187214614,6.023835616438356,22.36552511415525,6.961326702584282,0.6036938812785384,880,25,176,9,20,272,128,219,0.062,0.82,0.11800000000000001,0.9269,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,0,2,15,11,1,0,6,0,16,9,6,1,1,26,33,17,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,4,2,4,1,0,9,14,0,0,1,1,0,6,3,5,1,0,6,4,21,6,33,22,6,46,0,0,0,1,23,15,1,6,25,115,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601637528207514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805467904511917,0.0,0.0,0.07377775738835682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658019704773453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231804680614776,0.0,0.0,0.09595167735430082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375099154913107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118496953050852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331486971254076,0.0,0.0914085412879877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029839483541307,0.17004657112785002,0.0,0.1849742002398018,0.18199459442670649,0.08677034827623954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271938522803094,0.0,0.1088255505059261,0.215512543863348,0.21368401723954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532611298142819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241873912650479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731933310009764,0.0,0.07975353793038148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30543501262793643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384329672274032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311237556208063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906365261267092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712200211184914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428479102411583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664123720343499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157190379570332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951680012725267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702512140095044,0.0,0.09754664592291074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898290827682643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986479572555993
parenting,cw670,2020/01/29,"Sounds cliche... but New parent feeling like a failure We just had our first child and it’s been a rollercoaster. He has had some kind of health issues every month (NICU, rash/allergy, torticollis and flat head). 

On the work front, I just got back to my old job and while everyone has been very welcoming and supportive, I feel like I’m just grinding time away that I can be spending with my baby. I grieve that I only get to see him for like 1.5 hours everyday, only to put him to bed and missing out on so many milestones. I also feel not that productive at work.

We have an amazing nanny, but still not everything is done to our liking. And I can’t but find myself getting anxious that I’m not there.

But I don’t have to confidence to just quit my job and be a SAHM. I think I will go insane by myself, I’m also not confident I’d take care of the baby any better than the nanny... I think in my head I have this feeling a lot of the medical issues were due to our inexperience (what if we moved his head earlier? What if we fed him differently? What if what if...) I don’t want to mess him up again. But I feel guilty too to pay for extra hand to help if I already quit my job and our income is down.

Then we had to let go of our dog because the baby has allergy. I feel like I betrayed our dog.

I don’t know how other parents do it. Salute to you all.",2.41051076132348,3.63171891872792,4.187242210086733,87.95367410857695,75.36042402826855,7.406938644394478,23.464343077417283,8.00094639256281,1.063997879858657,1046,30,232,16,22,354,153,283,0.109,0.716,0.175,0.9674,7,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,11,1,0,6,13,14,0,0,10,0,25,7,4,1,1,48,49,24,1,6,18,2,7,5,0,1,2,1,1,1,12,15,1,0,10,0,2,5,8,3,0,1,9,9,42,11,30,36,4,26,0,2,1,0,23,8,0,7,18,161,54,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419538773768495,0.16550965561760916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037157198761954,0.0,0.0,0.11690564266044982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722510938500163,0.07957156831651492,0.0,0.0630819028642859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152176223963984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550719068391934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081170697193634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589841061770207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871883745350339,0.09888185579164484,0.0930032972034744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31394282617403263,0.22178351468500213,0.0,0.0,0.09458102733314712,0.08802206585012164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813055266672048,0.0,0.117622851012834,0.0,0.0827643184919558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186083523955612,0.10999693874121452,0.0,0.0,0.0693620629525588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190930663981608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21601745373419254,0.3080709056714289,0.0,0.0,0.1077609821681094,0.056871213811437116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581775225275407,0.0,0.25278133690786986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797702519397524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491489861073694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424761839633798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259865433531224,0.10998540094285053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994393458104846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858735795480486,0.0,0.0,0.15740603741046338,0.0,0.0,0.2298098897638993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040283813543582,0.0,0.2201325137766896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246206484014708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264116824348135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743058688865332,0.0,0.0,0.07780587677543611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261467080797848,0.0,0.0,0.06034141227055422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538380714926526,0.06103659321896015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067282097873572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WalkingWallflower,2020/01/29,"My 7year old has stopped calling me Mummy and now calls me Mum and it makes me sad From reading some posts here, a lot of kids made the switch a little earlier so maybe because my kid is older it hurts just that much more.  Parents who felt the same way I do, how did you deal with the sadness?",2.351803278688521,3.8475481147540975,2.9024262295081966,95.9831475409836,76.04918032786884,5.5357377049180325,23.67540983606557,5.6839178017228535,0.182872786885246,229,7,52,1,5,71,53,61,0.16899999999999998,0.831,0.0,-0.875,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,3,0,12,7,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,7,0,3,4,5,7,0,3,0,0,9,1,0,2,4,35,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441963226953166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4830800835987941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24386866890869235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271213760744096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532275199433774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370813608653797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20110305711508056,0.0,0.22382566359946174,0.15789637572686016,0.0,0.2376423772429745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388861974804845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24821536759867915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26265647926206925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22654580104833755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366101384580196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19776315293376984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877593042782916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,godbullseye,2020/01/29,"5 year olds chewing behavior I have a very healthy and sweet natured 5 year old son with my ex wife. My fiancée and I have noticed within the last 2-3 months he has been chewing his shirts apart (mostly collars and sleeves). It’s become such a problem the OT he sees at school has recommended a chewy necklace that he wears when he is working. When I spoke to his teacher about it she said he has massacred the thing and it had to be thrown out as it is a choking hazard. 

He has already destroyed a few shirts doing this but we are beginning to worry that there may be some underlying problem. I was going to make an appointment to see his dentist and call the pediatrician tomorrow 

Has anyone dealt with the same problem?",4.186537717601549,5.869084262411349,4.89136041263701,82.82454545454549,71.6241134751773,7.3967762733720175,31.25789813023856,8.00094639256281,2.22983120567376,575,26,109,8,11,185,95,141,0.11900000000000001,0.841,0.039,-0.9076,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,11,0,17,6,3,1,0,18,24,9,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,8,9,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,5,5,11,1,13,16,4,16,0,0,2,0,17,5,0,3,10,74,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056601192163164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031182309310618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058272093898293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19030108179745414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591640363544892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191361004127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440111746637025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875599999475078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21217954930234506,0.3911206822760375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5349828491720908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772772639689264,0.0,0.0,0.1886128954779334,0.2970200184407565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238136529011541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377191938607496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356770660314485,0.18926427520578104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400278923563417
parenting,Bangbangsmashsmash,2020/01/29,"At my wits end with my 14 month old. My second baby has been whining and crying pretty much all day every day for the last 3 to 6 months. We have had a little bit of a reprieve in there every now and then, but it is really at the point where it is almost becoming constant. I feel bad. I am sure that somehow she does not feel good or something, but there are no outward signs of food intolerance or allergies. We thought maybe it was teething, but she has eight teeth now. She wants to be picked up, then immediately put down, then immediately picked up, then immediately put down. I feel bad that I cannot seem to satisfy her, but I literally have no clue what to do anymore.",5.463722222222224,5.486180733333335,6.3749537037037065,79.4135416666667,67.5925925925926,9.416666666666668,29.467592592592588,9.188382445141503,2.181092592592592,529,17,111,9,8,176,90,135,0.172,0.7929999999999999,0.035,-0.9632,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,4,0,14,3,2,2,2,25,20,12,0,1,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,5,0,0,2,4,3,0,2,4,3,14,2,15,15,3,27,0,1,0,0,6,11,0,5,14,78,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547729022577912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638868499611509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759591741538774,0.0,0.18250926567425285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041378272696568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858008955587346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152296958234151,0.2131493904818748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461425990506546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636535727428235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784660332697109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506710726756274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998249234499406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860661179043096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470348015089506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562720124797328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601913240669508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26380718471736403,0.0,0.12148017588820917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340551991115827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15621776521200276,0.0,0.0,0.1681219964966451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322503815182017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058654834190847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044038062619072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272200493288033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574926173614906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119264621574214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747066675243043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ck357,2020/01/29,"Toddler doesn't like to eat Hi all

I have a 2.5 y.o son and he doesn't like to eat anything except milk, bread and pasta.  What's your trick to get your little ones to eat? Oh and he does like fruits",0.6620454545454528,2.222554750000004,1.8409090909090933,101.45636363636366,81.04545454545455,4.4,15.545454545454547,3.1291,-1.3446636363636362,155,2,39,0,4,49,30,44,0.177,0.823,0.0,-0.6736,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,3,7,0,0,1,5,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,3,3,5,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21426037245979845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278494651851303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7992632505510153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603133895593994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816074129794016,0.2609567635254951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643184258569908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,haircuthell,2020/01/29,"Neurotypical son's jealousy of his developmentally delayed brother My son is 6 (almost 7). His 3 year old brother is developmentally delayed in quite a few areas. That means we naturally have to give more attention to our 3 year old. My elder son has always been somewhat jealous of his brother, however, it's recently gotten worse. He's been acting uncooperatively and regressively recently. He's also been whining about how he gets less attention than his brother. I've tried highlighting how much more independent he is than his brother and how he gets to do more cool things, like playing on bigger playground equipment and staying up later, however, it hasn't helped. How should I tackle and correct this new behavior?",7.432484689413826,9.325706771653547,8.217270341207353,61.28230096237974,63.960629921259844,10.368853893263342,38.52055993000874,10.504223727775694,4.721385651793526,588,31,86,15,9,197,81,127,0.10800000000000001,0.836,0.055999999999999994,-0.6859,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,1,1,11,0,0,5,1,19,16,9,0,1,0,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,1,10,3,11,11,7,17,0,1,0,0,22,5,0,2,11,54,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414567467275186,0.0,0.0,0.1710203919236435,0.17794514258876315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346163946721695,0.20514995323091184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334302305825067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447913300924544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232951641007675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720860662783814,0.0,0.0,0.2065432472644619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488113384342731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22746194861407765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223135707381048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227941809624243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207627924872845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519403838933892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21793731247919254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27543222466046363
parenting,WiggleButtOwner,2020/01/29,"Being called something other than mom/dad I’m wondering if anyone else wanted to be called something other than mom/dad.

I’m a “ mom “ to my one and a half year old, he can say Dad perfectly and my husband loves to be called Dad. I on the other hand want to be called something other than Mom.",3.968,4.570144466666669,5.010000000000002,85.86000000000001,71.0,7.333333333333332,25.0,7.1686216300943375,1.0135000000000003,228,6,47,2,4,75,33,60,0.0,0.7979999999999999,0.20199999999999999,0.9081,0,0,3,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,2,1,0,1,7,11,3,0,3,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,2,8,7,0,3,0,0,0,1,12,1,0,2,2,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678834869511717,0.14183038248766147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5653800867757001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563437799188273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249318632097656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6484758280913487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452513059807231,0.0,0.09379878296285776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007926231676668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.319693600089687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329055324024147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011347988138715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913966051008568
parenting,PinkFigg,2020/01/29,"Looking for some in-law advice on pregnancy. X-post r/justnofamily This is something that happened recently and I'm looking for advice, since it's clear my wishes were not listened to. (Also a few flairs I wanted to use!)

I have a whole bunch of JustNoIL. Seriously all in their own way. It's painful at times, but not living so far from them it's usually fine and has kinda mellowed a bit over time. But sometimes there are incidents, like today.

Anyway, on to the story. I am currently pregnant. I do have one other kiddo with my SO, but that was about a decade ago. So this is all new all and like being a new parent (Who are mature and financially stable. Lol).

I found out the Sunday before Christmas and told my parents on NYE as well as my siblings in various order (my sister was same day I discovered it as I was excited and needed to!). 

Because of previous experiences, including my last pregnancy, I requested my SO (who is in the FOG but occasionally dips a toe out) tell each of his family members while I am present. It all went well. I stressed numberous times to each person, that we were not telling kiddo til first scan was done and to keep it quiet, but were telling them who already knew in their family set (my parents got the same warning, my siblings wouldn't discuss but knew the rules). All cool and fair? Good. 

Scan was today. I got my due date moved back a few days and some pics and am 9 weeks. We told kiddo at lunch and it went pretty well. Only a few tears, and lots of excitement. 

Sitting on the couch this evening, I get a notification from FB. I've been tagged by SIL and also BILs wife (who is much further along than me). A post that is clearly baby related, like very very obvious. I freaked out. I had a mini meltdown and asked my SO to deal with this (he doesn't use FB so I had to explain what it meant). 

My reasons for being annoyed/upset is a) I haven't spoken to alot of family members with the good news b) obviously I want to be the one breaking the news with my SO not some shrew who feels her wants/forgetfulness trump ours c) I'm still not technically out of the danger zone and am not telling non important friends/family.

I got a message a while later which I haven't opened, but checked the notification and it basically says 'sorry, didn't think, I removed the tag. How did the scan go'? All in one message. 

I haven't opened it (as mentioned) and probably won't as I don't want to deal with it right now. I want to reply tomorrow but I am looking for advice on a) what to say b) how to go forward here and c) anything you'd like to add?

My reply I'm thinking of is something along the lines of 'Hi, the tag upset me for *reasons listed*, however I don't want to discuss this any further as I need time.'

Edit: I totally forgot, the reason the title mentions work arounds is because I have my settings set so if someone reposts something to my wall/feed I need to approve it before it is associated with me. SIL just tagged me in comments there by negating the need for the filter.

I decativated FB this evening shortly after. I only use it for booking beauty apps as this is how I've always done it but I can totally just call/text the people. Slightly inconvenient but fine.",2.262196572580645,4.4664670281250025,3.9970564516129055,84.79133064516131,78.71875,6.629032258064518,25.947580645161292,7.717688229018142,1.5577323588709682,2518,100,495,40,62,844,295,640,0.044000000000000004,0.8320000000000001,0.124,0.9937,6,0,3,0,0,0,92.0,3,1,4,3,29,20,1,2,36,2,50,3,1,9,12,109,92,52,0,12,19,5,1,4,0,2,1,4,1,1,35,38,1,2,11,1,1,7,16,6,3,4,27,12,62,14,75,59,26,71,0,0,6,0,44,27,0,7,35,350,97,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588638484530514,0.06225543022362065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750151325982327,0.11232720535913444,0.058437711285191825,0.0,0.0,0.04775940103676616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057794023304495075,0.06252036557213905,0.06565638451585598,0.0,0.0,0.054003205200836735,0.0,0.08562417498895128,0.0,0.11952259804095294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667392219838744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171357223016722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058620430997844,0.14480988967438274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374113065817998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277365671477167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869926871500437,0.2648296615918045,0.0,0.0355108389045206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973834354247744,0.0,0.07700452577002935,0.0,0.0,0.036692731761382366,0.0,0.07982764565211131,0.1178126461068115,0.1685101312965143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210492785330433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062424425630345885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05724753397899924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724502554658638,0.0,0.06201514635039863,0.0,0.17692873225051808,0.0,0.0,0.059707775591540765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746443020022808,0.0516277715256108,0.2083012057259561,0.0,0.13565882693904788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277076864457666,0.10682748521827977,0.07473059907327373,0.0,0.23394921509029284,0.0,0.0,0.04868924350616121,0.06132288818807575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345235228568351,0.07145004491552426,0.07572075808633535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21662709895392296,0.0693445130324401,0.0,0.0,0.05997678064855942,0.0,0.11170081598333736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05809570276928006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950638963571867,0.1622014684832677,0.06946012785412896,0.07861771091871418,0.0,0.0,0.05608646481538974,0.0,0.08044922618224758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455395094694572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000221350165717,0.0,0.0,0.16380874414806298,0.0,0.13314130887546285,0.13421721506643847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197077159416705,0.07734938297247157,0.1158956485555014,0.2071199385722922,0.055745996932591496,0.05633496897151784,0.0,0.18943796398827425,0.13020944325298026,0.0,0.07841026010091459,0.08076203639078511,0.0,0.0,0.05112891100208981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reschuster47,2020/01/29,"Sudden Separation Anxiety My 22 month old has suddenly developed separation anxiety during drop off at her daycare. She's been enrolled in daycare since since September and has never displayed any sort of sadness when dropped off in the past - she wouldn't even look back! It seems strange that she would develop this reaction out of the blue.  I truly don't believe that anything is going on at daycare that is a concern - her providers are fantastic (and very transparent) with communication and claim that she is back to her happy self within 20 minutes of my departure. Perhaps this is normal toddler behavior mixed with the fact that I'm 30 weeks pregnant and hormonal - but now I absolutely dread drop offs in the morning. Any insight, fellow parents?",8.590996240601505,9.519875872180453,8.194501879699251,65.92303101503761,60.95488721804512,11.462030075187972,42.94078947368421,11.20814326018867,5.3837225563909765,613,35,92,16,8,195,93,133,0.11,0.8420000000000001,0.048,-0.7599,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,5,0,11,0,0,0,2,16,15,6,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,2,11,1,17,12,0,26,0,1,2,0,10,11,0,2,11,63,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28346952567841,0.0,0.3188859943927665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151434081596156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205287887008973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23482130817138225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376614022239456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845157371010655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187012108661747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502279733131235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636122161819236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074863892184665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042102526101726,0.0,0.0,0.21870484049678174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314290366394011,0.0,0.1989633029563964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18974043886251746,0.2174306071047967,0.0,0.0,0.3448192596737976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719707733506167,0.0,0.0,0.16718433006698155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805769387838688,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sharks_vs_bears,2020/01/29,Sex in front of your children? We have a 1 year old daughter that sometimes isn't asleep or gone when we do the deed. It feels weird doing it with her there. She doesn't necessarily watch or anything but just having her there is kinda strange. When did you guys stop doing it with your kid around? We were just talking about it and I was curious.,1.5859782608695667,4.11776026086957,2.138967391304348,95.08932065217392,84.07246376811594,4.6094202898550725,20.219202898550726,5.985473137389443,-0.11695797101449212,274,8,58,2,8,84,54,69,0.091,0.867,0.043,-0.3227,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,3,0,0,8,1,0,0,2,0,11,2,1,0,0,15,13,6,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,2,10,0,6,9,0,9,0,0,1,1,14,2,0,3,5,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216694321570057,0.3479752635645666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19764589368789653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870428782770392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4101736421450381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3866005273014602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326801815317426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31418283725264673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25172055400208554
parenting,Darrya-,2020/01/29,Should I be allowed to have a vibrator (teen female btw) Hi so I’m shy and just in general is a quite person. I want a vibrator or a sex toy I just don’t know how to let my mom know. How do you think I should go about asking and opinions are wanted 😬,-1.4933082706766925,0.3714842807017539,1.8699248120300784,96.15947368421057,92.15789473684212,5.3624060150375925,16.914786967418543,6.868970318607317,-0.11105814536340873,192,5,48,3,7,69,42,57,0.048,0.919,0.033,-0.1779,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,6,0,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,3,0,17,17,6,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,13,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,2,0,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203119677974341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947240200021141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765999983984223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503614804234897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012830744538256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991705244110865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36442823521673257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954289994355747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40418305444859104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,That0neGuy86,2020/01/29,"My 7 year old has looping tantrums every day and I can't take it anymore I need help,

My daughter is 7 years old and extremely defiant. She yells at everyone and if one of her siblings even plays with her toy (She doesn't mind taking other people's toys without asking what-so-ever) without asking she screams at them at the top of her lungs. 

If we tell her to stop, she wont. If we then warn she will go to a time out, she won't stop. Then, if we tell her to go to a time out, a switch goes off in her head and she completely flips out. She screams, begging us to not put her in a time out and scream repeats, ""I will stop"" upwards of 200+ times or 2-3 hours if we let it. There is no talking her out of it, diverting her attention nor ignoring it because she will follow us while screaming at deafening tones far beyond what our nose canceling bose headphones can protect us against. Not to mention it riles up the other kids who can't stand to hear that for hours. She gets so intense and worked up that she sometimes even wets herself. 

The things that set them off can be just us asking her to keep her voice down or be quiet. I cannot tell you how stressful it is to hear a kid scream at the top of her lungs that she, ""will be quiet"" for hours on end. 

She has done what we've dubbed ""loops"" for years now and lately it's morning and night, sometimes even 3 times a day. What makes it worse and a bit more dramatic, is that I grew up with a mother who ONLY yelled at the top of her lung over ANYTHING. It was so bad, that I actually have PTSD and get extremely stressed out when I hear that kind of yelling. My daughter does that kind of yelling and when I try to distance myself she follows me.   


I don't think I can take this anymore and I am pleading for any advice.",4.957584204413472,4.4891191680216815,5.301339527680991,88.35121951219514,68.70189701897019,8.329384436701512,30.03755323267519,7.447530270364453,1.5441894696089822,1379,46,312,12,21,439,182,369,0.105,0.8390000000000001,0.055999999999999994,-0.9596,0,0,0,0,2,1,40.0,9,1,2,4,12,13,1,2,13,0,28,5,5,2,0,47,47,28,0,6,12,3,1,0,0,6,0,15,0,2,26,24,0,6,2,3,0,6,13,10,0,1,2,17,56,3,50,35,2,63,0,0,0,0,59,27,0,7,28,212,82,1,0.0,0.0,0.08225525545589604,0.0,0.0,0.08236758741012044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057320351355528765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718682225470147,0.0,0.0,0.06936380377787893,0.0,0.2364003911786111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070378949576728,0.051382635547666096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202326798099293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837686361641785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872064863239043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376308279759675,0.08625832751990617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465626124567644,0.0,0.0,0.16701901041433154,0.0,0.0710182836805865,0.08054307380913657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807649305055104,0.0,0.09580833505724168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650625145114303,0.0,0.2850041654007445,0.0,0.056498067428200224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24902714681520546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492116594058491,0.0,0.17555092733695365,0.0,0.0,0.0950832242428126,0.0,0.0,0.08619262818013022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056264485644432566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851092590483095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250025147300584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910081511403523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768971570461157,0.0,0.0571173454465093,0.0641066350730136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843633890759178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853094786504614,0.08473511677738005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673068955507198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21141160513693094,0.19310869947874354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012763542120084,0.06774941755402114,0.22102053180512088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599878552638378,0.05400987437759983,0.0,0.0,0.2457520029000835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05722763756531081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40556381275326747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250584395236328,0.0,0.06136440322627192,0.0,0.08589910211790694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162840730599518
parenting,sintos-compa,2020/01/29,"a different day today have had a series of rough drop-offs of ds4 & ds2 at their daycare/school. the older has been clingy, grumpy, pushing buttons, antisocial, nonverbal.

today was a lead up for the same crap. whined to be carried in to school. fine, i gotta get to work. i sit with them being two glueballs on me in the schoolyard, postponing the tantrum when i have to leave.

ds2 gets distracted by balls and runs off to play after a quick hug. ds4 still clingy, whiny, won't look at or talkt to his friends inquiring around us. 

check the clock ""ok, daddy's gotta go to work now ... hugs?"" he dives in for an unrelenting hug and whimpers. and i try to stand ""another hug daddy"", fine. I give him a good tight squeeze and kisses. try to stand again ""another hug?"" he says. sure, another bear hug. this time i don't even attempt to stand ""more hugs"" he says as i scoop him up and hug him and kiss him. 

after about five minutes of this he looks up and says ""was that too many hugs?"". ""no"" i say ""another"", he says. he gets another. ""was *that* too many hugs?"" he has a mischievous smile now, i get it, he's trying to push buttons. i lean down close enough to touch noses ""listen: there can never be too many hugs"" i squeeze him hard and he runs giggling to his friends and starts playing happily.

never enough and never too many hugs.",1.3879284022111094,3.770406679389314,2.2555856804422203,94.98255725190842,83.35114503816793,5.598525927875757,20.866543827322978,6.953978226594392,0.37201589892076825,1018,31,221,13,29,318,145,262,0.048,0.733,0.21899999999999997,0.9934,1,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,1,0,2,4,16,28,2,1,12,1,15,16,2,1,4,22,27,13,0,0,1,0,6,0,2,3,0,6,0,0,5,13,0,1,1,3,1,6,6,4,0,2,5,15,22,24,36,16,4,41,0,1,2,14,28,13,1,1,18,123,27,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551147718396976,0.0,0.0,0.5105584965592045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668908227433343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06280221529804009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174165130714696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20123969167561984,0.0,0.06431874706936752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047150341110188,0.0,0.2035086783913503,0.0934160242304029,0.055343449117530884,0.08167794668063777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723359061970827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311164075937997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354979465649672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949132198675029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22531699259622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872034791493947,0.0,0.19710805551368896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892625326487398,0.0,0.07776800596675525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177974795941243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678321603190852,0.0,0.18461021098636785,0.0,0.0,0.1983444245734998,0.0,0.0951263696676053,0.0,0.11713646950242952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178798642317633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forlife16,2020/01/29,"Help me get this child out of my bed My son is 3.5 and I never truly sleep trained him. He has slept with me a lot over the past 3.5 years. We’ve tried a lot of things over the years. He has for the most part always gone to sleep in his bed, but he always comes into our bed in the middle of the night. For awhile I could put him back in his bed and he would stay there. He would maybe come back in around 6 or 7 and cuddle before getting up. 

Lately I cannot get him to go back to his bed. He wakes instantly when I pick him up. I lay with him again and he goes to sleep again in his bed but he always wakes up and comes back to our bed. I’ve stood outside his door and repeatedly put him back in his bed. I’m not sure what to do anymore because hubby and I are not getting good sleep.",1.6119628647214874,2.399169356321842,2.8541379310344825,98.4392705570292,76.70114942528734,5.8136162687886825,17.982316534040674,5.369823440869387,-0.7500808134394341,604,8,156,2,13,195,88,174,0.044000000000000004,0.945,0.011000000000000001,-0.6603,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,7,0,9,8,7,1,2,29,21,11,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,9,1,3,15,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,0,3,0,24,2,27,15,4,38,0,0,0,1,25,15,0,4,15,96,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29327936521836595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651695586704995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458961473658004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517067658520688,0.0,0.07161985852352981,0.0,0.0999740034068925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036176467588153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380495396360693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24553142921901536,0.0,0.06677138423358148,0.0985437237502295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875002037034166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253207033169814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997689293320544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803292288735967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061432278429976,0.0,0.0,0.11025493587824367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722852422766906,0.11215600379102864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362166522167191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4702931286389387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522703769033194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107314580781698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805409462051749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976693414765038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692082438493186,0.0,0.0,0.15131739822346074
parenting,ThrowawayRA-worried,2020/01/29,"behavior disorder, IEP, expulsion. Need advice! My son is in middle school and might get expelled.  For privacy reasons, I'll withhold some details.  He has struggled because of ADHD his whole life, but his behavior has gotten worse.  He seems to fit the description of oppositional defiant disorder, which I used to think was not a real thing, but after reading about it, I'm like well #$%\^ that's my kid.  I delayed the expulsion hearing with the school board by requesting he be evaluated for disabilities.  That was just completed and he was found to be eligible for an IEP under emotional behavioral disability.  The next step is a manifestation determination hearing, and then writing an IEP.  I need all the advice I can get about the IEP process.  

My son also started psychotherapy with an outside therapist, and we are trying to schedule a neuropsych exam to get him a formal medical diagnosis.  

The thing is, he is still at risk for expulsion.  So in all these meetings we've had with people in the school, there is one person who really, really wants to get rid of my son, and it's the principal of the school.  Everyone else in these meetings seems like they want to help my son, like they are on his side.  The principal has been opposing us every step of the process.  She just wants to get rid of him.  I feel really uncomfortable with having a person on his IEP team who is not even on his side.  I would like to request that she be removed from his IEP team.  I don't know if that is allowed or how that will go over if I ask that.  

The principal is like the boss, and like what if all 8 of the other people agree about some point to help my son, but then the principal says no.  Do all the other people have to fall in line and do as they're told by their boss?   Does she have too much power?

Or should I just verbally confront her and accuse her of not liking/being against my son?  Call her out?  Put her on the spot?  I have an even temper, I could do this with tact.  

So the incident they want to expel over was one thing.  He has a lot of difficult behaviors, but all that is not unsafe behaviors, it's just really $%\^&ing difficult, like constant arguing and rudeness.  He disrupts the classroom and is basically an asshole, but he's not harming anyone.  I feel like the one isolated incident (ok, so my son got beat up by a bully, and it's on video, then my son verbally threatened the other boy in self defense) would not be seen as such a big deal if some other kid did it.  But because of his ODD disability and all of his pattern of getting in trouble and being difficult for the adults is what is being held against him.  

I'm still getting used to the idea of ODD, but it's a neurological problem that he can't keep himself from arguing with authority any more than a person with Tourettes can stop saying strange or awful words.  I can't say for certain that his verbal threat to the other student was because of ODD.  I think anyone under duress of being physically attacked would probably say something they shouldn't.  His ODD pattern is more arguing and being rude to adults.  

My son is currently suspended from school, but they have provided him with online schooling.  It's been two months so far while we work through all of these evaluations and meetings.  The principal said that even with an IEP and documented disability, my son could still get expelled.  

So, I'd like to hear from other parents who have a student with disabilities and dealing with the public school system.  I'd like to generate some discussion of strategies for IEP meetings, and the expulsion hearing if it comes to that.  Or even just emotional support...this is really stressful!",6.362462910986366,6.9635540761494275,6.9306041165463785,74.20271451483562,65.70977011494253,10.382464581662658,34.002138465650894,10.313080822991962,3.5565799652499326,2911,124,527,68,43,956,280,696,0.172,0.746,0.08199999999999999,-0.9973,4,0,1,0,0,0,87.0,3,0,6,5,26,32,10,3,45,2,61,3,0,7,8,115,102,48,0,19,28,11,2,10,0,7,3,9,0,9,38,33,0,7,10,4,0,7,11,19,1,4,16,12,56,13,89,69,16,50,0,0,1,0,93,26,0,17,26,378,94,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423668401112178,0.12072372465917655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049398210407525706,0.0,0.06692880395011959,0.0,0.04200636762587673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638337598416873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057747504472173174,0.07027337887311635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296500251791558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307505147617411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321020817047541,0.06476567109065956,0.06675245783641574,0.0,0.09863816246076876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736628453196058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415897320614015,0.0,0.05405617899993855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05160170663843661,0.13896802049518214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319653284418414,0.0,0.052044693758803634,0.05902479465207223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624665017292931,0.044129182604476735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772866384697808,0.0,0.0,0.25818219594165603,0.0,0.03510585724671665,0.0,0.04940387560888771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784814227085184,0.0,0.08280753814017362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973188942440657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054904863020452666,0.0,0.0,0.033947701425702886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04363065231061048,0.3017816844842028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525154570027128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222773854261905,0.0,0.06552922168685818,0.0,0.0,0.049304986962949486,0.0,0.04540875939252405,0.09160476089201768,0.0,0.0,0.06569411143367626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557279328725773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858933544345787,0.0,0.0,0.1284726075545519,0.1618080459044591,0.0,0.0,0.058393518625438165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659953709712715,0.0591064615987754,0.0,0.06209687104140374,0.0,0.0,0.061787671111769776,0.07030887018910044,0.1978602775885941,0.0635108296925005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05875832362475265,0.19649097092714235,0.0,0.437608529876998,0.0,0.11246791497998604,0.06444057782439283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04755429902565175,0.0,0.0,0.04372179989232405,0.0,0.14799109340111113,0.05164328431203892,0.07075842026635308,0.06457641409294315,0.0,0.0,0.07009694773103922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172083976728473,0.12311363324521983,0.07916066754235095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05902479465207223,0.0,0.04193842370257928,0.0,0.0603412473779397,0.0,0.07430285322484671,0.10670054429513708,0.0,0.0,0.14573643879024364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553950695112445,0.0,0.0,0.06896506530523806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044969990938771284,0.0,0.06294988039966874,0.13164094244015714,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tourneskeud,2020/01/29,"For 'old' parents : your best advice for the future happiness of your child ? Hello!

A lot of posts here talk about first age child, or short-term problems (potty, tantrums, sleep...).

This is pretty normal but I would love to hear good advices from 'aged' parents (child is 25+ YO) about long-term decisions/acts you did that directly had consequence on your child happiness.

I want to continue looking at the big picture through the ages :) 

Thank you!",3.17625,6.225134125,2.870000000000001,88.73500000000001,82.75,6.2,25.5,7.554174236665415,1.64935,350,14,62,6,10,104,63,80,0.037000000000000005,0.647,0.316,0.9822,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,5,0,2,3,8,1,0,4,0,5,2,1,0,0,7,10,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,7,6,12,7,2,11,0,0,1,1,15,3,0,2,7,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36682870836947495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19697536702589105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965411762135762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743049558652206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3996117541384172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154702790495475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610504929181175,0.15761736351257855,0.0,0.0,0.15957242303552066,0.16940296379701364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390222364989392,0.0,0.0,0.19695537308370184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168283806629847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797608794237237,0.19095430503330152,0.0,0.17959971849593398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783154698979915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086293113322516,0.0,0.17280525461576438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070796099672953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333384971952328,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hammerhead_brat,2020/01/29,"What to do when your preteen hits teachers I have no idea what to do anymore. Neither does my stepsons father or his biomom. We don't allow technology in the home, we found it made him violent and so tv is not a thing except for family movie nights, and video games are allowed on long car rides or as a reward. We've given clear reasonable communication of expectations and consequences. We've begged and pleaded. We've threatened punishment and we've promised rewards. And it feels like he keeps escalating. 

It started with screaming at the teachers, then escalated to slamming the door in their faces, then he kicked his personal care assistant at school, and then he rammed a teacher with his desk in her stomach. He got suspended for those last two. 

He knows it's unacceptable. He knows what to do when he's upset instead of hitting. At home he demonstrates it all the time, I'm mad I'm gonna go for a walk, I feel like I need to scream I'm gonna go scream into my pillow, my fists feel angry I'm gonna play with my stressball. He does all of that at home without prompting. 

At home however he doesn't listen the first or second time we have to growl at him or yell him or physically guide him into listening. Hell decide he doesn't want to talk about what were talking about and will interrupt the adults and start making loud noises to distract us, and no matter how politely or firmly we tell him to stop or there will be consequences, he doesn't until we guide him to a corner and growl at him that he's being rude. 

At school he decides he doesn't want to do his work, and won't do it and it escalates until hes in trouble. It's not like the teachers are too nice or too mean, it's like they say do this, he does what he wants and gets caught, they take away the distraction and tell him to do his work again, he says no and gets rude, they tell him it's not optional he has to do his work, and he goes off because he doesn't want to do his work. But at home he has no problem doing his homework. 

I just don't know what to do anymore. Neither do his bioparents. We've been trying to get in touch with behavior programs but they won't call us back or email us back. We're all but ready to send him to military school.",4.710874628910709,5.188481194260486,5.297653954479717,84.90317880794704,69.2869757174393,8.544081601583315,28.42422166400244,8.53829466247534,1.8226954251351144,1763,58,372,26,29,568,208,453,0.11199999999999999,0.8320000000000001,0.055999999999999994,-0.9378,3,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,8,1,5,7,14,24,6,3,13,0,35,2,2,6,4,79,74,39,0,7,18,1,4,4,0,7,0,9,8,2,21,28,0,2,13,4,0,7,19,14,0,3,7,13,43,10,54,56,5,46,1,0,0,0,73,20,1,10,23,224,64,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693980527552208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381341443101868,0.13719017390515778,0.0,0.0543800845409722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109086589423672,0.0,0.09095302596396966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341983416643704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840969234925634,0.0,0.13531802825530453,0.1274597597804608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587988258215048,0.0,0.0978114562143697,0.0,0.0,0.13982176333826268,0.0,0.10139739436505499,0.0,0.07134741395248262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44741214912694177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007044471538757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929175477925195,0.0,0.0,0.14707838260684014,0.07271604632551186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743291796508244,0.0,0.0,0.07894586011528522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441032532220921,0.059546721443671374,0.0,0.0,0.0971731562693665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661462558840748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371522728083243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789257752017936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853595619975145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172020212360173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188282263165225,0.0,0.2708483599613562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12628310298409345,0.0,0.0,0.07458149261095487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707296331779064,0.14340327291197658,0.2339139492699502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059265521487148386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403526056130302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06056605963691316,0.0,0.08714279805021044,0.0,0.3219170375732624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21046765862347813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599287909563982,0.0,0.2597765879218352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,downwardogma,2020/01/29,"Nerves are shot. Toddler naps for everyone but me. How you g is too young to just sedate her? Asking for myself. My kid will nap for my mom and my SO.  100% of the time will nap for them. SO gets two-2.5 hour naps out of her AND is able to transfer her to the crib successfully. 

I’m a SAHM due to lay-off while pregnant, and a long list of other life events that have just made this where we are for the foreseeable future. Why won’t she nap for me? We use the same routine as bedtime, white noise, sleep sack, milk (yeah, I already know about that, but one shitshow at a time, please). 

I commit to an hour in her room no matter what. Sometimes it’s been hit or miss. Sometimes she sleeps and I can’t transfer her to the crib. There’s a 100% chance if I can get her to sleep that I’m then nap trapped. Transfer to crib has a 0% success rate for me and only me. I’m drowning in other household responsibilities and I think it’s shit that she later gets stuck in her PNP (she’s 14 mo and into everything) while I catch up on chores, or I’m stuck making phone calls etc while she’s in her high chair. 

At best, I could work PT from home if I had a kid that napped for me. At mediocre, u could get chores etc done and not cry literally every day from sheer fucking overwhelm.*


*no I’m not depressed/PPD/PPA. Literally just feeling feelings about why tf my kid naps for other people and not me.

TL;DR my kid refuses naps for me and only me. I hat gives? Pls halp.

Ideas I have so far: MDO and pray they get her to sleep. Or part time nanny/sitter. Pls, someone give some things I can try that are free. 

On mobile, quick post. My mom came for reinforcements. Cause my nerves are shot. Again.",0.5123126801152722,2.76598431988473,1.8376304034582167,97.33880871757928,86.20461095100866,4.507463976945245,17.896902017291072,5.838893488441508,-0.5254045533141207,1297,32,297,9,40,413,188,347,0.063,0.831,0.107,0.9479,0,1,0,0,0,0,59.0,2,1,2,5,14,8,2,1,12,1,20,8,5,5,1,46,46,27,1,4,13,2,2,0,0,3,1,0,4,4,14,16,1,1,5,9,1,2,7,4,0,1,7,3,46,5,40,33,6,37,1,2,1,1,31,16,2,6,18,178,60,6,0.10757611399661043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871291684479415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056914487889332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289449472063337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109847240121133,0.12303841580835505,0.0,0.11051030227893133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178154695645775,0.0,0.11816730984012078,0.06937769397794934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008771424755608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23995160713542085,0.0,0.0,0.09063751576189602,0.1027935869968476,0.09668247471227998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878743107449997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945238393145953,0.28102039761431463,0.20639362197453728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366007077592408,0.10790761355880106,0.0,0.2118816054573584,0.0,0.0,0.12144033849257355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05912101889410784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759841907194588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952014756641125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179112014521224,0.07180789143495271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519836890872349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289635893581611,0.16363296451955034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164944482425488,0.0,0.0745797323492936,0.0,0.0,0.11808626866754104,0.0,0.0,0.10302818042425824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042533510722333,0.0,0.0,0.4306152167183628,0.0,0.09114889229164323,0.0,0.2127910549135201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146879004599352,0.06893043011592674,0.0,0.0,0.188185491526848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303711992211716,0.0,0.10508623195396044,0.0,0.0,0.09291122270959143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414142097556356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831669221486644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Intrepid90,2020/01/29,"OT Recommended Autism Screening (2.5 year old) Hey all, first-time poster here but not sure where else to go.

We recently began taking our 2.5 year old son to Occupational Therapy (OT) to address some fine motor skill issues his toddler program teacher had observed in the classroom.  After 3 weeks of going to OT, the therapist approached my wife and recommended an autism screening based on ""red flags"" in her assessment.  We are taking our son to our pediatrician on Friday to discuss, as this is the first time we have gotten this sort of feedback, and our pediatrician has not been concerned with his development to this point.  

Does anyone have any advice/an OT perspective/etc?",8.611178571428567,9.275592141666667,8.20571428571429,66.765,60.91666666666666,10.523809523809526,36.30952380952381,10.290406445055957,3.9074523809523822,547,23,86,11,7,174,83,120,0.02,0.9309999999999999,0.048,0.3307,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,7,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,2,13,13,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,4,3,11,2,16,9,2,19,0,0,3,0,15,6,0,2,10,51,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982039195838886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376579280036306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992881943184885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175897978532764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229307108248888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497798727678369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23370336440361145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146011819679234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315017136078126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19436588125769505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301295204467434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937829700194436,0.0,0.3091830374152077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351305010352377,0.2387265668186241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119891593674729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492621916463304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648094349363394
parenting,attemptedsuccess2020,2020/01/29,"""my two year old couldn't navigate the apps"" I was reading reviews for abc mouse deciding if I should buy it for my 3 and 2 year old since it wasn't a huge cost and could help him learn more but reading that review just made me completely back out 

""My two year old couldn't figure out how to navigate the apps""

My two  and three year olds don't even know how to use a phone. We barely ever even let them hold our phones or put videos on the phone for them. Are we on the wrong side? 

Is it common for such young kids to know how to use phones? Are there kids out there who have cellphones at 5?",2.84,3.645272523809529,3.262063492063493,96.61071428571432,73.76190476190476,6.869841269841268,20.349206349206348,6.937597516519254,-0.029041269841270086,462,8,113,4,9,143,77,126,0.051,0.934,0.015,-0.6509,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,2,0,11,1,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,6,1,29,17,9,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,1,5,3,2,1,4,1,0,4,3,0,13,0,14,9,1,21,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,2,12,72,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745536229497003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465200872401711,0.0,0.0,0.11157509777619157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460065206575013,0.12640745097227896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366820036079143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360051368987102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289884120832524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223020032330854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.586555933811621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048243165105254,0.0,0.0,0.27956585052568506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559859763207456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095319950110826,0.0,0.0,0.241389810302636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278933831883793,0.0,0.35996507196350563
parenting,Tom2781,2020/01/29,"Daycare has me freaked out about Autism am I overreacting ? Please excuse my rant ... I know the daycare people are trying to help by raising certain concerns, I'm sure they are aware of some of the sighs so they are trying to help, however they have been really drilling it home to the point where it's freaking me out. 

My son has hit every milestone yet up to 12 months, he is walking and running but now he is nearly 15 months and has stalled a bit. He smiles, babbles, with speech intonations that sound like he is trying to converse,  I would say is generally curious and interactive with other kids as well as with adults.  And he requests food or milk by a particular calling asking for mama. 

Some of their observations are accurate. He does not answer to his name, when he's strapped into a chair or in the strolled and does not want to be, he does rock back and fourth, he is not speaking words yet, and does not always respond to instruction. He also sometimes does not look at you, but only sometimes, when you walk in the room he makes eye contact, it's when he's playing he tends to be hyper-focused. He also does not really like to sit still at ""circle time"" and tends to not respond particularly when it's noisy or there are 8 other kids around.

Focus disorders run in my family , so I lean toward something like that, he also has had two ear infections so I wonder if it could be something ADD or hearing related. Is it too early to start worrying?      Intuitively I feel like they are overreaction and that he is normal-ish kid,  but the fact that some of those observations  are accurate has my brain spinning.",6.644046594982079,6.778286616129037,6.923440860215057,76.09960573476705,65.09677419354838,9.727598566308245,33.02867383512545,9.444778638647367,2.917362007168458,1281,49,238,22,18,415,171,310,0.051,0.841,0.109,0.9564,1,1,2,0,0,0,35.0,0,2,5,0,21,11,0,0,9,0,28,6,3,1,3,49,41,29,0,4,15,1,1,4,0,1,1,6,2,4,13,17,2,0,4,2,0,4,7,2,2,1,2,9,20,8,37,33,4,34,0,0,2,0,44,15,0,9,18,154,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658449124941529,0.09220306094918826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986446756834951,0.10359268852393998,0.0,0.0,0.08520629420759025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209761670365532,0.0,0.0,0.12370096144824715,0.11314972345430754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847302176751251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269982239552256,0.0,0.5818251332367136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093362471662781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446210542767112,0.0,0.056029025981036436,0.07916291292837566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399227571172298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489128121652653,0.0,0.148547640013135,0.0,0.1111517833249928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06089845253124596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21654529544608367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305275836775714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396674735516365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768954763955546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857058384447063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427623972608861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682192180079518,0.0,0.0,0.12163645284805652,0.104751567051643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419758536396832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812081203799245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061439215308333,0.21918847474423767,0.0,0.07843211302982063,0.0,0.0884932626563749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443741281189813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461438721899912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225698795308106,0.0,0.10824557878134884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535879622928495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963178317313212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016906242459295,0.0,0.11253325623291636,0.0,0.07871647021429529,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pikachuichooseyou,2020/01/29,"A 3+ year long favoritism phase...is this normal? Hi all! 

I'm the mom of a mostly super awesome five-year-old. She has always favored me over her dad. She doesn't throw tantrums or scream for me or anything, but she always picks me first for whatever she needs or wants. 

My husband is an amazing father. He has been an absolute rock star from the moment she was born. The only part of parenting that was unequal was my feeding her, since she was nursing. He takes care of her, is always attentive to her, always plays with her and tries teaching new things to her. He is usually the one to come up with fresh and fun ideas for us to play together and he is the first one to want to go outside. 

I went through a year of schooling where I had my full-time job from 8:30 to 5:00 and then had class from 6-10 at night so for four nights a week, it was just them. She got slightly better during this period, but as soon as I was home more, she relapsed back to favoring me. 

She comes to me with any request, ignores him when he talks to her, and will shove his hand away whenever he tries to cuddle her. I try to call it out when I see it, and I also point her in his direction with a lot of her requests. They have special video game time that is just them, but as soon as I'm available, dad is chopped liver. 

What can we do to improve upon this? I try to tell her that when she ignores daddy, it hurts his feelings and makes him sad. I ask her how she would feel if I ignored her and always picked someone else to play with and she says it would make her sad and mad, but she still won't apply that to her own behavior. And at five-years-old, this is feeling less like a phase and more like her way of life. It makes my husband feel like crap and he does a really good job of not showing it to her, but something's gotta give because he deserves better.",4.910710227272726,4.492284218750001,5.291231060606062,88.21551136363638,68.79166666666666,8.231818181818182,28.65246212121212,7.348242739294969,1.3584260416666665,1436,43,322,12,22,458,203,384,0.078,0.748,0.174,0.9898,3,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,2,0,3,5,13,26,3,0,14,0,26,6,3,6,1,58,49,33,0,7,12,7,5,3,0,5,1,2,1,0,17,22,1,3,6,7,0,5,3,10,0,5,11,8,58,16,49,33,8,38,0,3,1,1,65,10,1,6,25,214,75,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792139985803863,0.4121071795551239,0.0,0.0,0.06736058488824219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151356860272489,0.0,0.0926027623175328,0.0,0.09306514049663728,0.07616694115086912,0.0,0.06038281869771426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521164471213965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114591190393113,0.0,0.10099285654204858,0.0,0.0,0.17065368642731052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668342539611286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274748179500638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003401069991828,0.07076468923360175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851173481753934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502228313951784,0.056295062172555886,0.08308237306909558,0.07922308318585977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935992895903592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604009270278993,0.11182068630225253,0.0,0.0,0.1965929878306428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996525586010884,0.14517935201966126,0.0,0.0,0.08766028222491537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421275390631296,0.0,0.0,0.1983593211739546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160116539547983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344779638162177,0.0,0.095667635371227,0.0,0.1859122299571944,0.0970525633969027,0.0,0.0,0.2078824655101186,0.0,0.13424404092280715,0.07533555415512619,0.0,0.0,0.10998850921166103,0.10726657480191933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363869790705054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345696987285976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877226403383084,0.0,0.10024863300704387,0.07893376205524719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193906190363635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392871609432259,0.07625713855689302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910520216470207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447679821985408,0.0796164064656667,0.08657816373315763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580753357026674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057759585422394386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690065253970122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915059394489655,0.0,0.10909474500652412,0.0,0.11685004335381913,0.07862500108966565,0.07945569620232751,0.0,0.0,0.0918246885962938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073121733962887,0.0,0.0,0.1913639152135833
parenting,babyeater01,2020/01/29,"I’m lost as a parent I have a 6 year old daughter. She’s the sweetest child or was, up until 3 days ago. She refuses to go to school. She runs out screaming and crying. If I try to take her in she tries to get physical. She had never acted this way. She says she hates school , she wants her father and I to get back together and cries about not wanting a Job or money. I feel like me working night shift is affecting her but as a single mother I have no choice. I’ve applied to different places but no call back yet. I’m shocked  by this behavior, she’s always been sweet and respectful. Today I signed  up for family counseling, i don’t know if it’ll work but it’s worth a try . I just feel lost and I have no idea what to do anymore.",0.6244230769230761,2.6109827884615413,2.735576923076924,92.81567307692309,83.2948717948718,6.207692307692309,20.006410256410245,7.413659706084162,0.4977641025641031,569,16,129,9,16,192,99,156,0.154,0.768,0.079,-0.8176,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,4,5,8,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,1,1,25,24,15,0,4,9,4,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,5,6,0,1,4,0,2,3,6,5,0,0,5,5,22,3,17,18,1,20,0,2,0,0,20,5,0,4,12,81,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306218804524814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249023530964828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886736357258942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308484454984448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327763054902924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297744256600971,0.09680760785768616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568315040447801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415089981071161,0.0,0.15179880395927425,0.1072375906064011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685106201946858,0.0,0.08531015815661737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820113332149673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694543014161051,0.0,0.0,0.14895959109971654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249574301311788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733354637979268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277224670253033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577298114624925,0.0,0.0,0.14086672195407576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575136905995054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166677800043921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568315040447801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937235778304195,0.0,0.3038357684232156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128629615091118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422853702443418,0.0,0.0,0.30574159181720784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770758445663747,0.1191491938931286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185616498310712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666499595944414
parenting,KitchenInvestigator,2020/01/29,"7yo DD lying and attitude HELP! My DD is 7 and is overall a great kid. She occasionally gets in trouble at school for talking but she’s a very sociable child. However, lately she’s had this attitude of “I do want I want”. 

Example 1: I have an alert on her lunch account at school to allow her to purchase snacks on Fridays only. Today the school called and said she’s been telling the lunch staff her parents said it was ok and they’ve allowed her to purchase them outside of Friday’s. The manager seemed irritated but I am glad she called to inform me. Our planned punishment is an in person apology to the staff, have her do extra chores to make up the funds, and removal of technology privileges.

Example 2: she is in Girl Scouts (I’m her troop leader) and almost every meeting she’s rolling around, being generally disruptive and of course talking.

Aside from taking away privileges what can I do? I know she’s a good kid but I don’t want her being perceived as a liar or being “that” kid. Any advice is appreciated!",2.5048917748917745,5.0556946262626274,4.178051948051948,81.90136363636366,80.01010101010101,7.2057720057720065,26.6002886002886,8.269060116576782,2.1127197691197703,808,34,150,17,21,270,119,198,0.09,0.716,0.19399999999999998,0.9624,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,1,1,9,2,0,11,1,19,3,0,3,0,24,30,12,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,4,8,3,0,4,0,4,1,1,3,0,0,5,2,26,6,23,22,1,13,0,0,0,0,35,10,0,3,2,95,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748603317115914,0.0,0.0,0.1613808648818027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959595926989772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434687054284553,0.0,0.0,0.1514173810135236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291296612026545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357862738384082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420070286321239,0.0,0.0,0.13517537577849048,0.0,0.17768211621088248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802376032699823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857064090602453,0.0,0.18179820822680148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757715420797416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225712683234369,0.0,0.0,0.1789517741824426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072079235246435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066046986066416,0.0,0.0,0.4893148620130521,0.0,0.14671619716202022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117406874951675,0.25907246662728695,0.14086304211734835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276311205644172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297585923312866,0.2851732792998569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChillThrillSeeker,2020/01/29,"When my kid can tell me what’s wrong... When my baby is frustrated and crying, I often think how much easier life will be once she is able to tell me what’s wrong. Then I read posts in this sub about how toddlers simply fall apart for reasons like: they can’t actually have a bowl of ketchup, or their shoe has come untied, or they can’t spell hippopotamus...

When my kid can tell me what’s wrong, it won’t be any easier, will it?",7.370730337078655,4.935388292134835,7.274016853932586,82.54113764044946,64.95505617977528,11.147191011235957,28.991573033707862,9.516144504307137,1.9775595505617976,334,6,77,5,4,107,61,89,0.135,0.778,0.086,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,3,0,7,5,1,0,1,0,13,2,1,3,0,9,15,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,5,10,1,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,5,48,18,1,0.18967737492841955,0.0,0.1850977566398617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898711926566045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633902633182624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20835168979550173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133974739338339,0.09266678441574333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943469513086545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200021389892386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165849351223665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897287043198587,0.0,0.0,0.19501993214859964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4973591581684722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153760301741165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6221473002932095,0.0,0.0
parenting,gaberodriguez92,2020/01/29,"Capturing interest of 6yr old So I’ve noticed that my 6yr old gets really hyped up over something new to try. Like an activity, playing piano, or archery. But a few minutes in and she’s not playing a whole song or hitting the target as quickly as she thought she would. It obviously takes practice, as anything else would, I know this. But she’s discouraged by this and will quit the hobby. 

I would assume this is normal for most children. How would you get them to want keep practicing? It seems like if I force her to practice it’s like pulling teeth, and it becomes less of a hobby and more of a chore. But I would like it to be a hobby that we can spend quality time in and enjoy together. Any good books that address this?",3.311875000000001,5.130496437500003,4.249722222222221,85.96750000000002,74.20833333333334,7.300000000000002,28.66666666666667,8.07648339933343,1.9136916666666668,573,24,114,9,12,185,93,144,0.018000000000000002,0.816,0.166,0.9563,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,1,1,3,10,0,0,8,0,9,1,1,1,1,29,18,16,0,8,7,0,0,4,0,6,0,1,2,1,12,6,0,2,4,4,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,13,9,16,9,5,10,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,6,9,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251901834289044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616014077106695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18273845473646447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822126748702707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728928784065545,0.0,0.0,0.13878066936090674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706916209309495,0.0,0.0,0.0909329288701598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233431578226606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980307233102695,0.0,0.0,0.16211645399454908,0.0,0.1883782182206759,0.34724655358479806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598792847674016,0.0,0.0,0.10599842577012517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506292986497612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737980803306673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440593024723355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135739357497442,0.09648152346661933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233702251740316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759306717206724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18473107499346084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5876930274405543,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chdeist,2020/01/29,"Are Utah's Free-Range Kids Law a model for the rest of the country? My wife and I are seriously considering moving from CA to Utah, for this any many other reasons:

>""Finally, one California-to-Utah transplant, Krista Whipple, told Gray that while Utah folks already seemed ""fiercely protective"" of their freedoms compared to her West Coast comrades, nonetheless, ""it gives me peace of mind knowing that I can let my kids have some freedom and responsibility without the fear of the potential consequences I may have faced in California.""  
>  
>And sure enough, when I reached out to Krista to hear a little more, she emailed back:  
>  
>""My best friend in California just had the cops called on her last week for letting her baby stay asleep in the car with the windows down while she walked her son up to the door of the building where he is taking a class only a few yards away. They showed up with two cop cars, a fire truck and an ambulance.""  
>  
>…  
>  
>Currently half a dozen states are considering free-range parenting laws. Some towns are also considering free-range proclamations, which carry less weight, but support the general idea.

More information on state and local policies [here](https://letgrow.org/policy).

Lenore Skenazy of Free Range Kids is going to be on the radio this Sunday and it's a call in format: 

[http://www.bobzadek.com/past-shows/2020/2/2/free-range-kids-skenazy](http://www.bobzadek.com/past-shows/2020/2/2/free-range-kids-skenazy)",15.664261603375527,12.946263864978905,11.160168776371307,61.95223628691986,49.59071729957807,14.246413502109704,43.63291139240506,12.06081838636515,5.042954430379745,1204,41,183,22,9,331,157,237,0.013000000000000001,0.8859999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.9543,3,0,0,0,0,0,92.0,0,0,2,1,5,7,0,1,19,0,14,3,2,1,1,24,22,10,0,0,3,3,2,0,2,1,0,2,3,3,8,8,1,1,5,3,1,5,1,2,0,4,2,5,15,6,31,16,9,32,0,0,1,0,24,17,0,4,7,113,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844886805361506,0.12207110415340106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380464464727346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341612167308052,0.1173754989383389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019276040566305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311737656676573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772432066738135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176940354915152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721644144711173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793406885939316,0.0,0.0,0.14643213611097927,0.08675234833417171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204335175196886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723189699893128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389035477840312,0.12442701944792033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121821457080094,0.0,0.0,0.15299158542675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475927936366496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412913882724075,0.0,0.0,0.16223874412339526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343700984133243,0.11609430709891763,0.0,0.0,0.16949553114692048,0.0,0.29143612403214403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694570799838162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896335970651005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270052986417502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17322108911879905,0.14386722894860768,0.0,0.11477093891784325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585997743975998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491131486880025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244356730524752,0.1858819380632832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714548136622055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tempy218,2020/01/29,"Am I the only one who thinks it's extremely rude to hold someone's baby for hours at a time? I wasn't sure where to ask this but I think it's very rude when someone insists on holding my son for a long time even if they are related to him. No one on my side of the family does this as they're very considerate and careful with babies. My boyfriend's family however is different. I've been letting them hold him however long they want because I feel like an ass if I don't. Then when the visit is over he screams the rest of the day if put down. Not to mention he's only two months old and this has been going on since he was born. I have postpartum depression and anxiety so it's been really hard. His family gets irritated with me and calls me overprotective even though I only ask them to wash their hands, not kiss him, don't let the other kids rough house next to him, and basically don't treat him like a ragdoll. Am I unreasonable? I think I'm going to ask them to stop holding him so long. Also feels shitty at get together's when I can't have anything to do with my son and no one cares about me. I feel like a human incubator for their family. I know that's probably just my depression talking but still.",4.406547619047622,4.7434036626984115,5.8175793650793635,81.40589285714286,69.91269841269842,9.792063492063493,28.051587301587304,9.827888789773867,2.370106349206349,961,31,206,22,16,326,134,252,0.196,0.7240000000000001,0.08,-0.9856,3,2,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,7,0,13,13,2,0,11,0,20,4,2,0,1,32,38,20,0,4,8,2,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,9,9,0,5,8,0,0,4,9,5,0,4,5,7,34,8,26,31,1,30,0,2,0,2,29,9,1,3,20,133,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368425253440731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005283613510425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611359333172422,0.0,0.2934857381034755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379037972071287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685384131949738,0.0,0.2133842972832479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748711296940671,0.0,0.18026048930176086,0.0,0.0,0.10933133939422823,0.0,0.0,0.09157519871988754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823354889382589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39459848054428576,0.0,0.1587343689942287,0.14951625294698526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934497376942316,0.0,0.11894388072097127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374101147452604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305385653337523,0.12074582391665907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057509938024766526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140123962943145,0.0,0.1533722040917544,0.0,0.0,0.2778215464342286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352632506671802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129072421623028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980690946670267,0.0,0.2127296770107458,0.238760811916573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282458281649678,0.0,0.0,0.10519673071058616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703801331932177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656309833694169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733006787678854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356931645128918,0.0874875751656067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862630146796496,0.0,0.0,0.0841093693533679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011561118942012,0.10281279276245668,0.0,0.12203822100623345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222257329077962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268551621753322,0.061722099072894415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CeceliaLynch,2020/01/29,"Boyfriend of teen daughter is horrible influence My daughter (17) has a bf (19).  She isn’t able to actually date him.  he isn’t welcome in our home due to his abuse of drugs/alcohol. We won’t permit her to ride in his car because he drives while high and while drunk.  Their 7 month relationship is online.  He sends inappropriate pics, is very sexual in texts and comes from a very reckless background with zero parenting.  He works basic jobs, (Uber eats, gas station etc) only for a few weeks at a time.  Has no ambition, thinks school/college, family time, holidays etc are all stupid. Her attitude is shifting and it’s concerning us.  She is nearing her HS graduation, will be a legal adult and currently plans to attend college locally.  
She has severe anxiety and currently does not drive, doesn’t really hang out with friends.  We worry he is manipulating her and she’ll run off as soon as she graduates.  Any suggestions on how to get her to see him for who he is?  He truly has nothing to offer her for a future.  Right now, his poor feelings are hurt (as he tells her) because we don’t like him.  This only makes her sympathize more.  We have invited him to dinners etc.  he refuses.  He wants her, her only, her alone.",3.521688311688312,5.7924642857142885,4.893073593073595,79.57389610389612,74.97402597402598,8.729004329004331,27.883116883116887,9.362217197678863,2.742511688311689,954,39,177,25,21,317,147,231,0.14800000000000002,0.789,0.063,-0.9652,4,1,2,0,1,0,40.0,6,0,1,2,3,5,1,0,6,0,22,3,0,5,1,25,29,12,0,1,1,3,1,1,2,3,0,0,1,1,3,14,3,1,2,2,1,9,7,2,0,1,0,2,31,3,27,25,6,33,0,1,1,0,54,11,0,0,14,108,34,6,0.13963460625625604,0.1654441751938763,0.13626323317199626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922692849251584,0.0,0.1446193404875967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495632052893102,0.0,0.10682009158931144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023991986451142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028284919675562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219518491585606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288106201781756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4671884901507881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163507961668566,0.0,0.07060345247364125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788135041496627,0.0,0.07295331856305524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475316279816021,0.14006489518491233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494817339889407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385658007361306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821841540040706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320718395653828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111455010521893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398317066903398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185952307026715,0.0,0.0,0.15504770560602404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945350431619792,0.0,0.0,0.14991531032662306,0.0,0.11924719079231615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131767626717295,0.11127070263282,0.0,0.0,0.1577473596590869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204680051237188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947221749072545,0.0,0.0,0.16284412363956174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796323857067616,0.0,0.0,0.230426347760782,0.08236010857783899,0.0,0.11200645850915897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165565639468846,0.14180572067831312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cbirdBEEP,2020/01/29,"My 9 month old is not sleeping through the night. Help. Since the little one came into the world she has maybe slept through the night twice and is now 9 months old. I’m wondering what we can do to change this? She’s being put down at 9 and sometimes will eat anywhere from 4-6 ounces at that time then wakes up at 1:30am then back at 5:30am. At 1:30am she won’t go back to sleep until she’s had another 4-6 ounces. Sometimes at 5:30 all she wants is her paci. Pretty often she’ll take a nap around 6:30/7 and we don’t let it go past an hour long, even still at 9pm she’ll fall asleep fairly easily. I just need help and advice, my friends have 6 month olds and 5 month olds sleeping through the night, so why isn’t ours?",2.948467023172906,3.823611594771244,3.0999049316696383,97.61139037433156,73.57516339869281,6.34795008912656,21.098633392751037,6.1124844417494595,-0.1655437908496733,566,11,137,3,11,172,99,153,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.9254,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,7,0,16,7,6,0,1,17,25,9,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,10,1,0,1,1,0,5,4,0,0,2,3,0,14,1,18,16,1,40,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,2,22,76,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297528767454368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122988404165552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291971892173098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777978951108209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223000666416046,0.0,0.0,0.12230279354323273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830054519198062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636102720327377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932200243966631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141060160979068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549853679451688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385511556520295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822170917293053,0.0,0.0,0.1158741905447974,0.0,0.10231350654832366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161483888976282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691234743894515,0.0,0.0,0.08572527266989707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254837597088952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4852638722216188,0.0,0.07834208498660987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103653017044731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761957039687886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622258821780593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563593150580103,0.0,0.34708826061923803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286876210525607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092328365985848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692628165186786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741463261754076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681913026767261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432238265069203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253769252332428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shzksjns,2020/01/29,"My 20F child has a 2M son and is having problems with her child’s father She got pregnant when she was 17. I think she planned it because she had an iud and had it removed for side effects however she didn’t tell the father also 17 at the time she removed it  and I’m pretty sure because of that no other form of contraception was probably used. She is actually a great mother and is also in cc rn. Anyway her baby’s father wanted an abortion but she didn’t, I also suggested abortion. He told her that he would be there but only when he could. He had a scholarship lined up to play basketball at a pretty good university and took it. To his credit he does pay child support and actually pays more than required. His university gives them stipends and since his parents had college fund set up he uses that for expenses and gives us the monthly stipend. When he does come home he does spend time with his son and during the summer he does come and see him once or twice a week but he doesn’t do any of the hard stuff like change diapers. The other day my daughter started complaining about him and how he’s a dead beat father. However not out loud I kind of thought to myself that he’s doing what he said he would do. He told her before the baby came that he would be there when he could be and he would pay child support. I honestly think she did this to trap him for a “family”. I just don’t know what to do going forward. Also thanks to his money her son is in a pretty decent day care, but I still think she wants this family.",3.3212500000000027,4.707674009615385,4.5703846153846195,85.4496153846154,73.32692307692308,7.37948717948718,24.85897435897436,7.937092434478242,1.3022858974358984,1209,37,247,17,24,399,154,312,0.057999999999999996,0.799,0.14300000000000002,0.9854,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,4,15,14,0,0,17,0,30,0,0,4,1,45,57,26,1,9,7,10,1,1,0,4,0,2,1,4,16,18,0,1,6,1,11,8,6,2,0,1,16,4,34,12,24,32,2,30,0,0,1,0,65,9,0,1,15,157,50,9,0.0,0.0,0.18994463719452745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113137531019305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618235687035558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865328255448852,0.0,0.08281392841933792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113105412904986,0.09922635446399113,0.0,0.10295386421036272,0.16766872192562327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155407535523097,0.0,0.0,0.1255293904661556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406688587296851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349320545112813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867204289811104,0.05531038515957538,0.0816291496461558,0.07783736397888127,0.10729794513307876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718147446470624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976219889998003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134597788727172,0.053485674140986976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754665606260857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768156179874043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364484702237907,0.0,0.07401783310511081,0.0,0.0,0.10806466096399862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970346529699077,0.10492967092082768,0.09312409417814964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925755918215045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755310346736546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050583654411217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888507450250339,0.0,0.07772154485671298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114105061725862,0.0,0.2208799033316308,0.0917249157836792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506379418875977,0.0896011026079748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708019208102492,0.0,0.07726286655510993,0.1134985838217073,0.0,0.0,0.1859908506564839,0.10812842024435262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706648840503785,0.16811007235131198,0.0,0.0,0.11480617756495827,0.0,0.07806590827810463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765392748362741,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jen11189,2020/01/29,"Bark app alerted about sexting 12yo I use bark to monitor my 12 year old daughter's phone. It only alerts me when potential issues arise.
My daughter let me know Id be getting an alert because her best friend told her via text a boy sent a picture of his penis to her and this boy asked for a picture of her naked.
The girl said ""ew"" and told my daughter they aren't friends anymore because of it. I do not believe she sent anything back to him.
I do not know who this boy is but he might be older 16.

I am worried if I contact the girls parents (I dont know them that well).. it will end up costing my daughter her friendship because my daughter ""tattled""... 

I am relieved the girl supposedly ended the friendship but I dont know for sure.

If it happened to my daughter I would be pressing charges. 

Really conflicted on what to do.",2.497205588822357,4.462512173652693,3.5903233532934133,89.15143313373255,76.96407185628745,5.650938123752495,30.8938123752495,6.42735559955562,1.5832598003992011,651,33,130,5,15,210,102,167,0.057999999999999996,0.8390000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.8285,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,2,1,4,6,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,1,1,17,29,7,0,3,6,7,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,6,9,2,0,1,4,0,1,2,5,0,1,0,5,2,27,6,13,17,1,11,0,0,0,0,35,2,0,3,7,85,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543525862578557,0.0,0.0,0.12807806693624688,0.0,0.14550194518400522,0.0,0.0,0.1196771869306196,0.0,0.28462922777889205,0.0,0.0,0.17535244623248705,0.16333407828214522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648167260593065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757008440786542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404934203821993,0.0,0.08131522752530998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763151709923666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244722667768394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34214164834400945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915195822906086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510893949410785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331749909172152,0.0,0.0,0.11837087141633194,0.0,0.0,0.1728192727481473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970666447642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804882845236242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466884094875519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974404700068516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442257712292713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993862366543014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580594915827044,0.0,0.11056185236038088,0.0,0.0,0.10022675063812743
parenting,DaddyOXD,2020/01/29,"What can I do to make him understand? Hello everyone, so my son is 8 and he bought a game on the PlayStation , but he is epileptic , so I always have to know what he buys, unfortunately I didn’t catch him buy this one, yesterday my wife called me and told me he had a seizure, now he is doing better but he hates me because I won’t let him play that game, I would buy him another one but I really can’t, he spent like 40€ for the last one, and it’s probably gonna be a while before I can buy him a new one, what should my next move with him be?Just wanna make him understand",10.934838709677415,4.298427645161297,10.869354838709679,72.34903225806453,62.8709677419355,14.980645161290324,40.67741935483871,11.20814326018867,3.9900548387096766,444,12,107,8,4,151,77,124,0.059000000000000004,0.852,0.08900000000000001,0.5588,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,6,0,16,0,0,2,0,15,26,9,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,3,3,6,2,3,1,0,4,5,0,20,3,6,15,0,9,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,0,7,68,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586516201333467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642124702738012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141884719079754,0.0,0.15939543745126553,0.0,0.0,0.16566922844659848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127456069694534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899219109741307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493961949517002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294611775822596,0.15269071909668833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915472882369192,0.0,0.0915150408524111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500749745491714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909140808370365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091472590535607,0.19921683789032052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5077312462827221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196253356503166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000192402357295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899219109741307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900132425031984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306668191666995,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,munchinandcrunchin,2020/01/29,"Is it acceptable/healthy to put young kids to bed late and let them wake up late? I have a sleeping disorder (DSPS) and cannot sleep until around 2:00-3:00 am. This, as you can imagine, also pushes my wake up time back quite a bit. When left to my own devices, my ideal sleeping time is from about 2:30-9:30 or 10:00. The disorder can’t really be fixed. 

Would it be healthy and okay for me to give my kids a later sleep schedule than what is “normal”? Say from 10:30pm-9:30ish am? I don’t know if this is developmentally bad for them, but I’m trying to figure out how to make our sleep schedules work with my disorder before we begin sleep training my first baby.",5.489637404580151,5.777090129770992,5.658845419847327,83.65712309160308,67.54961832061068,8.38206106870229,27.825381679389313,8.07648339933343,1.5883198473282434,521,15,106,6,8,165,91,131,0.079,0.878,0.043,-0.6747,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,2,4,7,3,0,0,4,1,15,8,8,2,0,18,20,11,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,5,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,14,2,19,16,2,20,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,13,69,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612096236420424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070002175687027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242355915576793,0.10035891566525933,0.0,0.0,0.10227822468505933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312232627239986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132662254670967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022389376284688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153032729706928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605676003586773,0.0,0.2711733931908738,0.0,0.13059366517073864,0.12290889185645193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023198418985727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776688414682646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083051096515587,0.0,0.12784359313001692,0.0,0.0,0.07700084735282971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558494662853424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7216988112850246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017489423725882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160541876058601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750436039856431,0.0,0.0,0.08538402484280412,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yerd098,2020/01/29,"Activities for 17m old?? Usually me and the little man go out and do things outside but this cold weather makes it hard to do that. I'm struggling with finding new ways to keep him entertained inside. Recently bought disney plus and hes super into toy story but I hate just letting him watch shows all day. I just think the little guys bored, I've bought a couple new toys but he loses interest quickly and quite frankly moneys just tight to be buying toys he isnt gonna play with. 

I stay at home with him during the week and only work weekends. I dont really have many friends, and the 2 friends I do have have older daughters so I'm not sure where I could even take him to get some more action in his little life. His attention span is all over the place so I struggle with finding things he'll play with consecutively, hes just a busy body. He can get mean and throw tantrums when hes bored and hes doing that more often. I've tried so many things, on top of dealing with my depression I'm just at a stand still with what to do with my son to make sure he's staying stimulated.

Any suggestions of activities, toys, or DIY things I could make for him would be much appreciated!",3.6252916666666657,4.936068279166669,4.5075,86.49416666666669,72.45833333333334,7.5,25.0,7.984000788550335,1.2315000000000005,937,28,197,13,18,303,141,240,0.157,0.726,0.11699999999999999,-0.8175,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,5,14,17,2,2,8,0,22,2,1,4,4,49,40,17,0,3,10,2,2,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,9,19,0,2,5,9,4,3,3,8,0,0,2,4,22,9,26,30,6,33,0,2,1,0,24,14,0,3,12,116,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748221676164356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656019966557894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18194154640610835,0.12607099404830402,0.0,0.07348102955224511,0.11746578702214755,0.0981352272950942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353529686288418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525543058853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20827579814914796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760574995077759,0.0,0.11905652643020573,0.0,0.06475398361075604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128172171523134,0.0,0.0,0.10206668697680922,0.11249086821029734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428979670824273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012739434103896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651003076526747,0.08047826676877702,0.0,0.3425895023779453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746825044152832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281648822585497,0.23103189785537595,0.0,0.12411263638231225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375804757661269,0.0,0.0,0.22008539484048187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955948927940065,0.0,0.0,0.08665550850828349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904168110815025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118782248982353,0.0,0.0,0.07299204279302852,0.0,0.11250071134422146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24288696840120425,0.09099158552836356,0.0,0.0,0.23822691640477905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477173504462865,0.0,0.08566771551877049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027832130080307,0.07300731232155452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735689181473418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254873706066526,0.0,0.0,0.09043922922316107,0.09139474495819944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294872379159443,0.0,0.0,0.08093877677227844,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cheeky__sloth,2020/01/29,"Children Bathroom Reminder I am designing a bathroom reminder device and I simulated how it would work by making this app. It would be much appreciated if parents could try out the app and give me some feedback on the process. The customizable part is the most important part to focus on because it is meant for the parents. Thank you for your time!

[https://xd.adobe.com/view/3f1b1e9b-2d4c-4318-7eaf-772750b540e6-492a/?fullscreen](https://xd.adobe.com/view/3f1b1e9b-2d4c-4318-7eaf-772750b540e6-492a/?fullscreen)",17.098000000000006,21.906238184615386,7.270769230769233,66.0892307692308,44.07692307692307,8.892307692307693,37.615384615384606,9.3871,3.9129076923076926,442,16,47,6,5,98,48,65,0.0,0.873,0.127,0.8198,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,2,0,12,11,4,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,7,6,5,4,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,3,1,38,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901400001039286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19517284310629351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344980046662788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317177924099402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796983328048801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428639492587971,0.529429454383953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505603582984704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425403293248179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596500148072554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779619726690485,0.0,0.0,0.3472994814484188,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sapphire1166,2020/01/29,"6 year old daughter already seems obsessed with looks Not sure how to word this, so here goes.

From a super young age, my daughter has been acutely aware of other people's sizes/shapes/looks.  One of my earliest embarrassments with her was when she was newly 2 and saw some very large women at Chick Fil A.  She started yelling and pointing ""Look mommy!!  Those women are very FLUFFY!  Right there! LOOK AT THOSE FLUFFY WOMEN!!"".  It's only progressed from there.  At daycare she would shun and be shunned by other girls for wearing the wrong color shirt that day, or make little comments about looks.  She would refuse to read books because the cartoon girl on the cover wasn't pretty enough.  I myself am obese.  Her father is overweight.  My daughter is super petite and barely on the growth charts. I almost never wear makeup.  I don't buy fashionable clothes.  She isn't allowed to watch questionable TV (and usually is stuck watching Dora and Bubble Guppies with her little sister).  All this to emphasize that looks are NOT an important topic in our house.  

When I started noticing the trend at age 3 I started making more of an effort to highlight personalities and other things. To talk about how healthy food choices make us healthy and strong.  How being a kind person is important.  How people have different colors, shapes, sizes, backgrounds but we're all the same inside and worthy of love.  How it's impolite to discuss anyone's appearance unless it's a sincere compliment.  It's been in one ear and out the other. Not only that, but she makes comments about my looks constantly.  For example, just the other day I was putting her to bed and she asked ""Mom, can you stop eating so much food?""  ""Why?"" I asked.  ""Because, well, you know...you're F.A.T"" (she spelled this out).  Feeling pretty proud with my intended answer I said ""Well, can this F.A.T. body get on the floor and play with you?  Can this F.A.T. body dance with you in the living room?  Can this F.A.T. body snuggle and hug you?""  She replies ""Well, yeah.  But I'm not talking about what your body can DO...I'm talking about what it LOOKS like"". 

Comments like these aren't irregular.  And what really broke my heart the other day was when she came to me in tears and said ""I hate the way I look. I don't like my curly hair.  I don't like my teeth.  I'm ugly"".  I'm at a loss.  I truly think a large part of this are her own insecurities, but I'm out of my realm here.  We've done therapy with her off and on for a few years for other issues, but not this particular one.  Any ideas?",2.7327964616199907,5.339388943866943,3.126488932371288,89.44552484611309,79.51975051975052,5.51891076596959,22.113285230932288,6.794906146795322,0.6285990868696754,1986,61,377,21,51,613,246,481,0.08900000000000001,0.778,0.133,0.981,2,0,0,0,1,0,97.0,2,6,0,7,23,25,1,3,21,1,32,18,11,11,4,70,65,33,0,2,13,6,2,4,0,2,2,4,2,8,30,27,5,2,6,5,1,5,12,7,3,3,13,19,48,18,52,48,10,49,0,2,13,2,52,24,0,6,23,242,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258592470158823,0.0,0.07999193977366173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04929409724622282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05068506010976196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553236149961342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837561436927842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220698142392223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290657671276218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833341309867635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024563962762293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573418069530373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418004747894254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417297686470478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489913411380811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0366519409426186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530474214616334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03787181263606615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156656105914964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589823088639781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364103190699904,0.0,0.08182974945760528,0.0,0.07565828835774831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548474738176665,0.039837324433009885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416552446008618,0.14530336509519773,0.0640079353713411,0.0,0.5478424316812894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542294689165389,0.0,0.19354431445562675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848966760195275,0.0,0.0,0.05328677359730877,0.0,0.05590695522030134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252768593965355,0.07606360965868801,0.0,0.1473585514203985,0.11026026982343157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849707626986473,0.0,0.100507638376373,0.12658686449753412,0.0,0.0,0.06852427258905118,0.0,0.0,0.1474920282020071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728701235742048,0.08120277329139924,0.0,0.07250728021827244,0.0,0.046437453728365455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190406901312453,0.13790473599527928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599004688384598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539214250706449,0.0,0.0,0.0606029329092424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831876548910804,0.0,0.0,0.1747885156827856,0.0,0.0,0.08289596117734742,0.0,0.048157583024684036,0.046447168184863004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719373465372249,0.0,0.0798349209456191,0.11961982868903626,0.0,0.05753733368153795,0.0,0.0,0.19552534613605665,0.0,0.06540884204940416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298631350408416,0.07925388130930243,0.0,0.0933593580638368
parenting,ThunderOrb,2020/01/29,"Daughter is developing a verbal tic. What can/should we do? Our daughter is four and a half. Over the past couple of months, she has started to add, ""Um, mm,"" (two syllables) when she talks to people. Like, ""I want some cereal for - um, mm - breakfast,"" or, ""Did you see what - um, mm - Daddy just did?"" 

We've tried to mostly ignore it because we just figured she was gathering her thoughts and was self-conscious of what she was saying. We didn't want to discourage her from engaging us/others.

However, now she is doing it when she plays by herself or reads. Times she didn't do it in the past and situations where she's never had issues expressing her thoughts. 

How can we help her stop doing this without making her feel self-conscious or not wanting to talk for fear of being corrected? Will it just go away on its own or is it a sign of something bigger?",4.26991967871486,5.508918903614461,5.0881325301204825,83.22187751004017,70.80722891566266,7.9429718875502,27.68875502008032,8.344100000000001,1.8594995983935747,662,23,129,10,12,215,104,166,0.047,0.861,0.092,0.68,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,5,1,0,0,8,6,0,1,5,3,20,1,0,2,2,34,30,10,0,3,9,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,10,8,1,3,4,2,0,1,5,3,3,3,10,3,21,3,18,18,3,17,0,1,1,0,28,6,0,6,11,97,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124954145971032,0.0,0.0,0.1046224373067278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18990239425792485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931284798109803,0.08677994310548211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753977604641903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503819246435375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913435933509053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384845216179207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114562586352138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369913103827565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236958994379147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276754441324385,0.1189847920144672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167379108041814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364849543815755,0.0,0.0,0.13676477432018055,0.0,0.3580895054132872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929163281260984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212711612220587,0.0,0.0,0.1214787190602643,0.0,0.0,0.14348814645649888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758951196280105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725058839762972,0.1000772858082194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652370221131696,0.0,0.16765497888977704,0.0,0.2064465656607581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036907666469072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544263728075032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lele1121,2020/01/29,My mom is a lil overbearing So my mom really wants grandkids and my siblings and I were talking about it with her in a fun manner until she said she wanted to name her first grandchildren and I’m thinking she meant middle name but no she said she wanted to give them their first name and I was a little unsettled by this because I wanted to tell her “mom that’s not your job to do so” but I don’t want to tell her that because she makes it seem like we don’t want her to be all bitter so what’s your opinion on grandparents wanting to name their grandchildren,5.005455665024634,5.071458387931038,5.521133004926113,84.99431034482761,68.56896551724138,8.697536945812809,27.778325123152708,8.418075326091056,1.7003118226600993,447,13,94,6,7,144,66,116,0.078,0.843,0.079,-0.231,2,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,2,3,2,4,3,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,1,27,22,10,0,7,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,5,3,24,2,13,16,1,7,0,0,0,0,31,4,0,3,4,67,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910335770940994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499139504430045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092427560148107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457801448407962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177016569058693,0.1472369994865512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805995927712287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5161586657806948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411084659024267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794798252556228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337364278217317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807635047763895,0.25680218584281783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413053405481593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6065369626313064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abaca09931,2020/01/29,"What is a good online high school for a student with serious health issues? My daughter has many health issues and is often too sick to study or is traveling to health clinics. She is also often hospitalized. She also has a lot of anxiety when it comes to bad grades. What is an online high school that has a light workload, is flexible, and easy to get good grades in? And hopefully has a few AP or honors courses.",4.547666666666668,6.087539100000001,5.392500000000003,80.14916666666669,70.5,8.333333333333334,27.083333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.136458333333333,328,11,60,6,6,107,50,80,0.107,0.708,0.185,0.7998,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,6,0,10,5,0,0,0,11,13,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,8,13,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,6,1,44,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763536326001618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321807352989476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442690034813683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488397474119978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027349767904427,0.0,0.0,0.28984921875123515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5509899736531978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651155653644888,0.0,0.1716153786508184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36068716246020704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689638744631822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517777580264685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34973709686657206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,callmeishmael517,2020/01/29,"Nanny of four months calls out a lot We switched from daycare to a nanny four months ago. It is a three day a week position. 

During this time our nanny has taken five days off for being sick (mostly using her paid PTO, but she doesn’t seem to mind if it is unpaid due to running out of PTO since it is accrued over time). While I understand that people are human, this seems like a lot of sick time for four months. Her references said she was very reliable and only called out once in three years, but obviously that has not been my experience. 

Should I look for another nanny or does that make me awful? I mean everyone gets sick and I would hate for someone to lose their job because they keep getting sick. Is this a normal thing for other people with nannies? She is very flexible about coming early or staying late, or even switching days, but I also sometimes wish she was more energetic about engaging my child in activities. I was thinking about coaching her in getting better at planning activities during the day but is that also a bad idea?

Side note: Would anyone be interested in a group for parents who employ nannies? I would love to hear from others and get tips.",7.559533333333331,7.107520564444448,7.508277777777781,74.62775000000002,63.35555555555555,9.988888888888887,32.52777777777778,9.2995712137729,2.794844444444444,937,31,169,14,12,301,138,225,0.131,0.75,0.11900000000000001,-0.6411,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,2,3,6,8,1,0,9,1,20,5,0,2,1,39,41,14,0,7,9,1,0,1,0,4,4,2,0,2,14,9,0,1,7,1,1,2,2,3,0,6,7,3,21,5,30,28,4,31,0,1,1,1,21,11,0,9,18,120,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019536518177257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395453607351728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060301207320885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042099968064366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603252671406433,0.07011193475530246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172121530070098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348858741316901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907503812004356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296700040479514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065019813274224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759661692207397,0.0,0.0,0.10990153922056248,0.0,0.11250651224388218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403618758912251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355327135094265,0.0,0.0,0.12963000202036193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983767289110415,0.0,0.0,0.11413440969967308,0.10223040998635724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297416674598482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619040579283683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965834375123411,0.12867210522330913,0.0,0.1955628847669961,0.10380531816844232,0.0,0.07677325042783427,0.0,0.0,0.1252847995701706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613212817648573,0.0,0.2754110704028181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269005222798713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248697373912565,0.0,0.08747391346735366,0.0,0.0,0.12771028825742567,0.0,0.0,0.15947351618532987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940538203386267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20941024940599054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514140422722447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745163928765382,0.0,0.11375254600309008,0.0,0.0,0.1225904389808286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641070091781874,0.07369681893782039,0.0,0.0,0.2011981076058079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973442920807816,0.0,0.09933583100822936,0.0,0.1897984570594764,0.0,0.0,0.09225790892543406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322613065029064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451095727464902,0.0,0.0,0.0740657393793922
parenting,lilpeeach,2020/01/29,"I cannot co-parent with me ex. My ex and I got pregnant young, and I’m the only one that seemed to grow up. We have two children together a 3 y.o and a 1 y.o and we recently separated because we were arguing constantly and I didn’t want the kids in that kind of environment. We now live separately, I live in my own apartment and he lives in a family owned house by himself. His family are the type to give financially so they can turn a blind eye.
When my kids are not at his house, it’s the equivalent of a frat house, he has them the bare minimum, which is just while I’m at work, because we cannot afford daycare and I didn’t want them in daycare originally. 
I work in EMS so I work long days but only 2- 3, and he is so frustrated by the end of the third day that you can tell he’s checked out... the house is a mess, they are barley changed,  my 3 yo is in diapers despite my valiant efforts to potty train, their bed times/nap times/ etc are not enforced...he’s not even attempting to teach them or interact with them. He’s not abusive but he’s neglectful.
He’s a child , it’s why I left in the first place, not ready to grow up and adamant that he’s doing “his best”. I know I reproduced with him, and I am responsible for his lack of parenting now....I don’t want to argue anymore, I thought leaving him and involving his family would help but they only enable him.... the 4-5 days I have the kids he doesn’t even see them... He doesn’t give me money we agreed to pay for our own stuff at our own homes despite me having to constantly make sure and pay for him having diapers, wipes, etc. I have to go to his home, make sure it cleaned up and safe for the kids after parties... make sure their clothes are washed, etc. I’m just exhausted.. I know if I tried to keep the kids from him his family would most likely involve the courts and I don’t want courts involved I don’t want my rights to my children controlled by anyone... I’m so scared thinking about the future of my babies... I feel like I’m already losing control and I need advice.",2.7983191176470577,3.927503240000004,4.249452205882354,88.25147242647058,74.2470588235294,7.853676470588236,25.751838235294123,8.376592526197632,1.4609426470588236,1587,53,355,27,32,528,195,425,0.08900000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.1,0.3665,3,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,8,1,10,11,11,16,3,1,22,0,31,4,1,6,3,65,58,26,0,10,12,3,1,2,0,2,3,0,4,8,9,25,0,5,6,0,4,3,14,8,0,4,5,4,63,8,44,51,10,38,0,2,3,0,63,18,0,4,19,219,72,8,0.0,0.09856063994780387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128743365276875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917967322875268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824971821377912,0.058164896451292025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141762577525998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729754085778785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799871565128067,0.0,0.0,0.17978689782329982,0.1865981347834356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094235834031875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367723243555932,0.0,0.2783198411884269,0.10988583539304464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31367771446524434,0.0,0.042060842880517466,0.059427391148499514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075713103929669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595972920707528,0.04727596087384529,0.0,0.06653065538003743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575716191263837,0.0,0.16688270454332685,0.0,0.0,0.38393735348557395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393866321784583,0.0,0.08662439199251873,0.09143261724558024,0.0,0.0,0.08808091963741198,0.090380761906655,0.0,0.0,0.0812799927251607,0.0,0.220361676095832,0.07361612036154147,0.0,0.09306275358679582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665799298353742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168063439319686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636831883016796,0.18979785650099928,0.0,0.0,0.0923671145814631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691063537117838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213516653677701,0.0,0.0,0.07103954806928478,0.0,0.0,0.08328271149381647,0.0,0.0662876867443711,0.07572851320493056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095226940032231,0.0,0.0,0.2352026758032033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270736940714351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05330159857910425,0.0,0.06603960984401411,0.04850585104868827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647716459791958,0.09048140885438724,0.08125967214161392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245323384703328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506153719781741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816790443695005,0.0,0.0,0.11818449554746882,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovely-dea,2020/01/29,"I quit - A rant I am done. For over a year now my son has been on medication to help with his SEVERE ADHD.

He simply refuses to take it. At first he said it was because it wasnt chewable. We tried positive reinforcement and groundings. Nothing worked. Fine, we booked an appointment eith his doctor wnd changed it to a chewable version. There is no taste or odour, its tiny granules he can chew.


He refuses to take this as well. Refuses to mix it with food, or take with water or anything. This leads to fights that last anywhere between 30 minutes to 5 hours. Which means he misses school.


He doesn't go to school without taking his medicine. If he does he simply gets removed from class.

My boyfriend has been able to give him his medicine without issue. So we did that last week. It went perfectly well. Until today. 5 hours between the two of us. 

The past few days have been especially trying for me. We had an appointment on Monday with his doctor where i told him of the constant fights every morning. His doctor actually laid into him about it and expressed deep disappointment in his behavior.


My son in the past 2 days has said things and done things that lead me to believe he has 0 respect for me or my authority. So im done.


I signed over his medication to his school who always turned up their nose at us for bringing him in late or for not giving him his medicine. Im done. They can deal with it.


To all the people out there who will say ""don't give up"" or ""try x, y or z"" or ""it cant be that bad"" pardon my french but bugger off. We've tried everything in the book and then some. Im simply done. Last night I had to drive him to his dads house for the night due to complete lack of respect he displayed to me. 


Ive reached my boiling point. I've given up and I am no longer dealing with his medicine, it starts every day off with a fight and I'm exhausted.


Im looking at flights to my friends place on the east coast. I know running away wont solve anything but I need some time away from everything and everyone. I know my limit and I can safely say its long past gone. 


I quit being a mom for today, I'm drinking a glass of wine and looking at flights, we will see what happens. All safety measures are in place for my son if i do decide to take a week off. He has sitters, grandparents, my boyfriend and his dad.


I have  had zero support system throughout all of this so I'm going to cope the way I want to for once.


Sorry for the rant.",2.1270906381486654,4.132946167338711,3.2462657784011206,90.99347475455822,78.25403225806451,5.9259467040673215,24.2906732117812,6.895973343053719,0.7966223352033661,1913,67,404,20,46,615,240,496,0.069,0.851,0.08,0.7968,1,0,2,0,3,0,57.0,7,0,2,8,10,16,3,0,19,0,38,14,1,2,4,60,72,28,0,5,15,6,0,0,1,3,6,4,0,0,25,24,7,5,4,4,0,10,10,7,2,3,20,10,57,9,75,47,8,72,0,2,3,0,66,31,0,12,29,258,82,12,0.06755142654808724,0.0,0.06592044790050454,0.0,0.0811836874791407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05620819831996279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117813658902767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693357779782335,0.0,0.05640261954268092,0.041178722634041064,0.0,0.0,0.07610732533994184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146045228836152,0.0,0.0708263855159965,0.07299909401454696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069524520029008,0.13928510919578393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074252424129936,0.059114708593261525,0.34564281356523624,0.0,0.06617468092044744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382998067180113,0.06454828291948488,0.12142173288058475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745920891314076,0.08168345311982794,0.0,0.05219006458249352,0.0,0.035292832289063325,0.1944044510928226,0.07678206486102734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059735503404461425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527829729222368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330490959024094,0.07794527660835343,0.0,0.0,0.2918685302197165,0.07050613890460364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424899481680923,0.16519028581647005,0.07620095147927759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05978088677563164,0.1134523700777532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358330689014837,0.0,0.13610191095337226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911541434387906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050088526844388866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267848755124968,0.0,0.06481741564493856,0.0,0.0,0.07194006463364737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345644073015986,0.04683165365062408,0.0,0.14115372630902465,0.0,0.06385793263859604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436985144066823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851375153651742,0.10743921141353928,0.0,0.20509695019562404,0.05382974104614728,0.0,0.0,0.07631388425022388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756182915038351,0.04781324739602049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665655832614766,0.0,0.0,0.2539513294270003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975633236621128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039389780054371895,0.0,0.1280617075732019,0.06454828291948488,0.0,0.18345193773622248,0.07347655420387457,0.06598792813130328,0.0,0.16251209749914766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03984358157517358,0.05361917813378058,0.10837135947527828,0.0,0.12147369013384675,0.06262084917885939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023432922815653,0.0,0.049178243060614725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350090393645145
parenting,zoltrules,2020/01/29,"I have a question about speech delay and an ENT I recently saw the post about the mom and her son seeing an ENT and it helped with his speech delay.

Our son hasn’t said much but also had a bad ear infection a while back before he was 1. He is 28 months now. We have had speech help but not much improvement. 

We are going to ask our doctor for a referral 

I just have a question. How do they test for healing loss? If that can’t hear well, won’t they fail the hearing test?

Is there a CT scan or X-ray that will check to see if there is something wrong with his ears? If it’s filled with fluid or whatever.

Sorry, I don’t really know much so I apologize if it’s wrong.",0.7385414585414622,2.601579902097903,2.504060939060942,95.30246503496504,82.14685314685316,6.043756243756244,17.906593406593405,7.1686216300943375,-0.012066533466533969,518,11,122,7,14,171,90,143,0.19399999999999998,0.75,0.055999999999999994,-0.9673,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,2,2,11,6,0,0,11,0,16,5,2,1,0,24,25,15,0,4,10,3,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,5,8,0,2,3,0,1,2,5,5,1,0,5,12,14,1,9,18,3,10,0,2,4,0,23,0,0,8,7,80,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120044865033956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337597116741597,0.0,0.0,0.1261536727145141,0.13698504922841992,0.0,0.0,0.13960481289185758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679245708417221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324030532738288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698199519650631,0.0,0.21993481273899992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016427155874136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214761683935752,0.13095284944275234,0.0,0.3618136905652056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712619660047222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675743291786853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510241960404873,0.0,0.16199158863085894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606068231846162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614725977959104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630306474558833,0.0,0.1836541541547256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751158330820932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587524301975967,0.0,0.0
parenting,plebster404,2020/01/29,"My little person is becoming a terror..? Hi fellow parents,

My daughter is 6 years old right now. She is taking over my house atm and I don’t know what to do anymore.

Little bit of backstory:
Her dad and I are separated from the time she was 8 months old and I have full custody, he does see her every other weekend because I believe she needs a dad. Note: he is really good for her.
Every time she went there for the weekend I need a week to get her back to my house rules.
When she is at her dads she gets everything she wants and there is no no..  in my house rules it’s a bit different because I want to teach her how to be polite and respectful towards everything and everyone.

She came back from her dad this weekend and from that moment on she thinks she is the boss in the house and if something is a no she starts screaming and doesn’t let go for at least half an hour..
I tried different techniques and even went to a bureau for children for help but nothing seems to work :(

Does anyone have any tips or ideas?? Desperate for help!

PS: her dad isn’t willing to talk with me or ajust any rules.",1.9653422619047591,3.9735671116071463,3.161964285714287,91.39136904761908,78.77678571428572,6.230952380952381,22.720238095238088,7.2636822038024595,0.750564880952381,859,27,183,11,21,277,123,224,0.057999999999999996,0.894,0.049,-0.4562,3,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,1,11,0,19,0,0,2,0,26,35,16,0,5,4,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,12,0,0,4,3,1,4,6,2,0,1,4,2,32,2,26,28,4,32,0,0,1,0,35,11,0,4,17,121,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570611548642268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624560847576664,0.07490879876449244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475494002893154,0.0,0.1306126716263207,0.11831826646630222,0.0,0.12070045471451606,0.0,0.0,0.2339195869318985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225298353751607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22385912097223945,0.0,0.0,0.18750290266154365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707593104495493,0.0,0.18052572949926596,0.10236868875136072,0.19256567361223054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194351887747872,0.0,0.060885270249943516,0.08985677503673763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361590155638532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550289543776746,0.4944612249848475,0.0,0.12093836372678965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058876641614032235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954916306947064,0.0,0.0,0.21474770893333486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551129900666032,0.0,0.0,0.1588732211805934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279551287368692,0.0,0.2248328646305052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189567938874228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354304738259084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863114828986032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148967049393474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536989300850906,0.09752844589266596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247502197070622,0.0,0.0,0.07582818968213835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054951556971432,0.0861081991371284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864550554356201,0.0,0.0,0.12493841670119307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273522030934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263778063963702,0.0,0.08593438481953597,0.0,0.0,0.19862384958969925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779929694410376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898913951015721
parenting,missye812,2020/01/29,"Big lungs? Thinking back to when my 4 year old son asked me why I have “such big lungs?”

And he further explained that boys don’t have “lungs” only girls have them. Silly kids...",1.1121428571428569,3.4972178571428607,1.3082142857142856,101.26803571428572,84.71428571428572,3.5,17.32142857142857,3.1291,-1.1031428571428572,135,3,30,0,4,40,30,35,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.1179,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,4,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274070316135831,0.0,0.0,0.3515476796766767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4797396172887735,0.0,0.0,0.3477104221361924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29294621684586786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125390971173669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944126824170177
parenting,Samiautumn,2020/01/29,"It’s Bell Let’s Talk day in Canada. Let’s remember that it’s never too soon to talk to your children about Mental Health. Today I am reminded that at Six years old I began struggling with Anxiety, Depression, and Suicidal thoughts. I was told by my mother that I would *grow out of it*. That those thoughts and feelings weren’t real because I was *too young*. 

Today I am reminded that I was Nine years old the first time I attempted Suicide. My mother still denied that there was anything wrong. 

Today I am reminded that at Twenty-Six years old I am still battling with Anxiety, Depression, and Suicidal thoughts. 

Today I wonder how different my life could’ve been had my mother believed me. 


Today is a reminder that Mental Illness doesn’t discriminate. Age, Gender, Ethnicity, and Income don’t make a difference. When it happens, it is real. 

It is *NEVER* too early to talk to your children.",2.808433734939761,5.712382192771088,4.138566265060246,80.17435542168678,82.49397590361446,6.934457831325301,26.37228915662651,8.07648339933343,2.3004708433734944,708,30,117,15,20,232,90,166,0.223,0.777,0.0,-0.9890000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,1,28.0,0,2,0,2,10,5,1,1,3,0,19,3,0,2,2,20,28,6,3,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,15,7,0,0,6,0,0,1,5,5,0,3,12,1,18,0,13,13,0,29,0,2,0,0,11,4,0,1,24,86,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529202956007342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224890449417886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060927533578643965,0.0,0.0,0.11260746627426488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980055532479333,0.0,0.0,0.0644583612697033,0.0,0.1721705853283967,0.0,0.0,0.20884932434340173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053684499827717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501594164467037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838391908990012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624033002177663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044077417089592,0.07059641414051049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671624181687204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014486825064771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541725244355986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146366674563297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275260100300653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322189848987352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963762424749972,0.0,0.0,0.10448762582231322,0.0,0.3279815331415233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24100388403356354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23804327002535186,0.05828063605193545,0.0,0.4736963344908794,0.09550484870479296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838962796525144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100037854268182,0.10927773570056168,0.0,0.19309021376237487
parenting,Somewhereinthesea,2020/01/29,"Are there any more ""send a addressed envelope to us and we send you something back"" lists? I remember having a book of places/companies that would could send a stamped addressed envelope to them and they would send back a sticker or coupon, etc.
Do you know of any companies that still do this or a list on net about it?",8.123172043010753,6.7611389516129075,7.12483870967742,80.79059139784948,62.70967741935484,11.492473118279571,36.79569892473119,10.504223727775694,3.4903053763440863,253,10,52,5,3,77,42,62,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,2,2,2,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,8,4,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,6,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,3,39,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865880058290978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4371284177307732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269437509092367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170044671551075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15621172382159987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219902696638695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188230340773677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699567117994066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419075901948582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038340875416365,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KickTheDustUp33,2020/01/29,Should I hold my daughter back a grade? So I just met with my daughters 1st grade teacher for the second time this year. (Regularly Scheduled Meetings) and she informed me that in her opinion my daughter would benefit from staying in 1st grade again next year. At our first meeting she had voiced concerns about her reading but it has improved exponentially and her teacher says she is caught up with most of the class. However she is still struggling with Math but also over all emotional maturity (needing help focusing and completing work instead of chatting with friends etc). My daughter attends a private school and is the youngest in her class. Many other parents keep their kids back a year in the beginning (they start kindergarten about a year after public school kids do) so they perform better. I'm really struggling with this decision mostly from the social aspect. She is so close to all her friends and it breaks my heart to separate her from them. There will be at least 1 possibly 2 other kids from her class staying back next year but I just  don't know what to do. If I do it I want it to be now instead of 4th grade. Any advice or stories of holding a child back and it worked out wonderfully or wishing you had when you didn't or even regretting holding them back would be much appreciated! Thanks!,5.789949908925323,7.536045053278691,5.413879781420769,80.39168488160294,67.72950819672131,8.045173041894353,33.63752276867031,8.515128840125781,2.7722675774134777,1059,49,186,16,18,325,140,244,0.027999999999999997,0.8029999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9896,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,5,5,21,8,0,2,10,0,19,1,1,0,2,42,31,18,0,8,9,5,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,4,11,13,0,4,4,2,0,2,2,3,0,2,5,2,31,5,30,19,7,37,0,1,0,0,40,10,0,8,22,142,42,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465253834107356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382795682818178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978774161237702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510937835555706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376796355736492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301722149264005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197933001975065,0.0,0.0,0.1308528466168839,0.07749469622425964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979998524791672,0.0,0.0,0.18129618468274766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903542683194944,0.07864315376575398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042874038278,0.0,0.0,0.06448094855075136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189531878457242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625031313389332,0.08699796489917687,0.0,0.0,0.24956143959926436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027996665810376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322708155587511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736074828949282,0.0,0.07516396011288036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330472797082694,0.0,0.237486418522954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196021372566812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304606824627808,0.2501142002096455,0.09369908888088936,0.0,0.0,0.2453154858706531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080207771547554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841548191670227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920368255395701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349225566433877,0.0,0.12723829275656098,0.1708338149725333,0.0,0.0,0.16669430683416675,0.0,0.0,0.3777801377053099
parenting,wowsoanon,2020/01/29,"Mornings with my 4 year old are killing me. Advice please? Hi everyone!  

My four year old slips into my bed each night, which I don't mind too much.  What I do mind is that every morning, sometime between 4:30 and 6:00 am, he wakes up, stands at the end of my bed, and jumps on me with as much force as possible.  I love my kid, but this makes me want to pick him up and toss him like a discus into next month.  

We live in an apartment with thin walls. I have tried politely asking him to stop and then redirecting. Nope. I tried putting him in time out, which results in a nuclear meltdown and I'm afraid my neighbors will be upset because he gets so loud and it's so early.  I have also tried locking my bedroom door so he can't get in and jump on me.  This has also resulted in loud nuclear meltdown mode at 4:00 am.  I've also tried talking to him about personal space and about how if you don't learn to respect personal space you can get in huge trouble with school as a kid or with police as an adult. I've also tried spanking with no results. 

How do I stop this?  Also, please go easy on me.  I'm a single mom and I'm just trying my best to set limits and discipline without abuse. This was never modeled to me by my parents. Maybe I just gotta let my neighbors deal with 4:30 tantrum sounds, I don't know. 

Thank you!",1.7313186813186832,3.5876396849816885,3.0189831501831503,92.86768351648355,78.89010989010987,5.833201465201466,23.37421245421245,6.742157984588678,0.5918496410256413,1026,34,224,10,25,332,155,273,0.096,0.799,0.10400000000000001,0.5023,1,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,1,3,0,2,15,10,2,2,7,0,18,2,1,7,1,45,32,28,1,2,6,2,1,1,2,2,0,3,6,5,9,22,0,4,2,0,0,4,8,5,0,1,1,4,34,5,39,27,5,42,0,0,0,1,26,22,0,2,15,143,43,2,0.0,0.12805600966054734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561360391564706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.432153915301324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103932895807252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588399016536542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342230266917012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142476232192358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572596518779612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106126717132597,0.10327417085888442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940053989326626,0.0,0.061423818936026366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957346363762256,0.0,0.05939742337047418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051815865067352,0.0,0.05280196810377101,0.0,0.09543578767983653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754556888483316,0.0,0.07214360998314959,0.0,0.10857993985209112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21825807595714344,0.12658088564048833,0.08626767238787755,0.0,0.1589010856754878,0.0,0.08335723183815946,0.0,0.11494330354922948,0.10142487378271904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22682157952555185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200090028171969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874092802955825,0.0,0.23727669872700835,0.0,0.12184289790832326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864930420400702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938177603453657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689295122591193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807178626946128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868698522810808,0.0,0.09950467506566926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302176744969787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.440271512391656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374782821654668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418435440937816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919873875662367
parenting,toysovore,2020/01/29,"Here are some original and free-to-use coloring pages for the kids (and parents ! ) If (like me) the classic coloring books for our kids bores you, that may interests you.

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Enjoy !",9.642601626016258,12.293994073170733,7.15219512195122,68.1267479674797,59.487804878048784,10.34471544715447,38.05691056910569,10.504223727775694,4.500676422764228,422,20,61,10,6,121,52,82,0.026000000000000002,0.782,0.192,0.9309999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,1,2,1,0,3,7,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,1,14,5,7,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,11,8,10,4,5,4,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,3,4,40,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4364797078016465,0.4894977614894065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840425473740903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236544755452492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758732773435124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988791971995969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256700639523054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422849785914317,0.3479265999652968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4894977614894065,0.0
parenting,spec_4_kp,2020/01/29,Hidden penis Hello everyone. We are working on potty training a 2yo boy. The issue is he seems to have fat around the penis that makes it hidden and hard to point. We were talking today care about working more on potty training and she brought it up as a complication (she is young maybe hasn't come across this). Any advice on this? What have others done that have experienced this? I'm sure as he thins out it will help but we do we do untill then.,1.4025331971399382,3.9956794269662974,2.6800612870275806,90.25868232890707,86.19101123595507,4.58467824310521,18.20326864147089,6.1124844417494595,-0.09354831460674128,355,9,69,3,11,114,63,89,0.013999999999999999,0.919,0.068,0.5803,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,12,1,1,1,1,13,18,7,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,10,9,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,6,2,13,14,1,15,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,1,4,50,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441227881993471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698872631027016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239420019221964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547097834634039,0.0,0.0,0.2151991982672272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25565424557991395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387152564094201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379109464294655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745016070183308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607488575342101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675786609762172,0.0,0.2509793878483755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361621730916152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274282131817435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354539130623641,0.0,0.0,0.20079714888112984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368016775728745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637462182107297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FML85,2020/01/29,Iotisascarymf You ppl are some sick 😂 twisted puppies or piggie's should I say don't even have ur kids fucked off ever relationship u ever had can't and don't take responsibility 4 and single mistake in your entire life narcissist through and through addicted to alcohol sex technology shopping money ☕  smoking eating anything but your minor children you claim to have raised but with 4 different bd and u only have custody and see the 4 y .o old and about to fuck that up cause u too busy doing this dumb shit I.e expelled 🏫 4yrs. Old,4.2296979503775605,6.5033660582524275,5.370420711974113,76.94316073354909,72.88349514563106,7.684573894282633,29.891046386192016,8.515128840125781,2.521132470334412,436,19,76,8,9,144,81,103,0.22899999999999998,0.7709999999999999,0.0,-0.9751,1,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,4,0,0,5,5,4,0,1,0,10,9,1,1,2,16,14,9,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,2,7,2,0,0,1,2,0,3,5,0,0,1,2,5,0,10,12,2,7,0,0,1,3,9,3,4,2,4,43,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280551118562569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22356748512462435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215093125781236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490247683593972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185658635783174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406029079303213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817234453028945,0.3784605020943575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867976685135559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776170591562365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390331651918459,0.0,0.0,0.1591033986971684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22459879895659496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663614885615122,0.0,0.0,0.1667025610388886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147372464884224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728976648213466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhiteTeaCitrus,2020/01/29,"What age do kids put themselves to bed? I have 2 SDs who are 11 and 8 and a newborn son. My husband and I differ on his handling of putting the oldest daughter to bed as he still has to put her down, lay with her, etc and I think she’s too old for that. 

What is a normal age to expect kids to be able to put themselves to bed? The younger one doesn’t have issues with it, he tucks her in, says goodnight and leaves. I’m not saying just spring it on her all at once but I think over a few weeks/months you can discuss it and just little by little lessen the time and need to lay with her. With the older one, he in general tends to baby the heck out of her as if she can’t handle anything. We already have issues with their Mom treating them like babies and he doesn’t see how he does it too (though far less to be fair).

I guess I can’t really do anything about it but this is NOT happening with our son. His girls, especially the oldest, can’t do much for themselves and it’s infuriating.",3.8944945054945026,3.899056852380955,4.757619047619047,89.72456043956045,70.95238095238095,7.413919413919412,25.2014652014652,6.67199483983844,0.6883992673992672,769,19,178,5,13,250,118,210,0.025,0.958,0.017,-0.4039,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,2,0,8,2,0,0,9,0,18,0,0,1,1,33,26,16,0,4,7,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,4,11,17,0,0,2,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,3,22,2,32,24,5,24,0,0,1,0,33,11,1,2,10,120,33,0,0.1397277451098245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541930412791806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299680572998467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598575410520176,0.0,0.0,0.12227669135426544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15583337115880225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392586428374608,0.0,0.12356078354265315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916789269735797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795150697760825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682639183396354,0.2800878167915701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364744631751532,0.11152935306621486,0.0,0.10271596993613027,0.10360635251510532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690352319828278,0.0,0.0,0.1466207637560916,0.1488054883216853,0.18936627253776664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5618599075901374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951317145075055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22223422234473367,0.0,0.0,0.11134492224038604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158675773839233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906379421462013,0.1372818001338912,0.0,0.08147637183429947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RustDeathTaxes,2020/01/29,"Sexual Predator moved into house near us When my wife and I bought our house 6 years ago we had first checked to see what sexual predators were in the area. There was one 2 blocks away but he was extremely elderly (and passed away prior to our daughters being born). During the fall, a vacant house on the street behind ours was occupied and then it just came to light it is by a man who sexually assaulted the daughter of a woman he was in a relationship with. He now lives there with a female (girlfriend? wife?).  
  
What are our legal rights in this case? We never let our children play unsupervised outside as is but this guy is too close for comfort. Anyone else with experience in this area?",4.1593181818181835,6.1884241742424235,4.7339393939393934,82.49590909090911,72.4090909090909,7.830303030303033,24.87878787878788,8.575989854853784,1.7160969696969692,549,17,103,10,11,175,93,132,0.045,0.887,0.068,0.4606,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,8,0,0,1,6,3,1,0,9,0,12,0,0,0,1,16,15,8,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,11,0,1,0,1,2,4,1,1,0,2,8,2,10,2,20,5,0,27,0,0,1,0,22,14,0,0,9,74,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948617303577667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580262935267744,0.18434693100559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33807717706868856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20577790217686145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029814012803902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599402041487153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303789180901642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814679576808642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6228025603334586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18397802374128105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887061299154046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122402692438045,0.0,0.0,0.1387636110243401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191688034661065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316426246027046,0.0,0.15364872079890768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337110172854556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641882358950354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586109095732032
parenting,miss-thc,2020/01/29,"Has anyone dealt with a violent toddler? How did you cope? Did you have a safety plan? I feel like I’m losing the battle. My youngest is 3 and every time she is angry, overwhelmed or sad she becomes really aggressive. This is foreign territory for me as my oldest worst moments were just general sassiness. 
It’s hard to let her play with other kids in fear that she will attack another kid for doing normal stuff like taking a toy or getting too close etc. even with her sister who is 2 yrs older things are hard shell bite her or try to hit her with things. I wind up having to put her in a separate room bc if I try to stop her she will start clawing at my face or trying to bite me. 
Idk what happened but she didn’t start acting like this until she was just about to turn 3. Any advice or strategies are appreciated.",2.9032207792207783,4.709267672727279,4.239155844155846,85.66159090909092,75.30303030303031,6.653679653679656,22.69480519480519,7.447530270364453,0.9119350649350648,646,18,128,8,14,213,114,165,0.139,0.769,0.092,-0.5001,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,2,6,13,4,2,5,0,18,1,1,1,0,20,27,11,0,2,9,1,3,3,0,2,0,0,1,2,10,6,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,9,0,0,5,3,22,4,19,18,2,16,0,3,0,0,18,6,0,6,11,89,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998049271184307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829096701977193,0.18240020313259567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162885839842467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19789156769477392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921124876561016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399859490696456,0.11489136513984408,0.0,0.14655914093329744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957404595842646,0.08795360457861194,0.12426886634349167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090880928747613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382211277744226,0.0,0.3116474362144984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787415981042876,0.0,0.2549473994354706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946039135074304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043262903691406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748663200258418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143588409837807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462433331618032,0.0,0.0,0.14542876203332755,0.0,0.0,0.1991294528409364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078764824532785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311273512879408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143078813243436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542989057692526,0.189206052734162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AudioHallucinations,2020/01/29,"Tips for baby’s first flight Hello all,

As the title somewhat indicates, my wife and I are taking our 10 m.o. on a flight that’s ~3 hours give or take weather conditions. I’m hoping some kind reddit folk can give me some tips to make it as safe and smooth as possible for the LO. I’ve heard from some sources to make sure she is eating or has a pacifier during take-off and landing to help prevent damage to her ears, but I’m unsure of the exact timing. Is it supposed to be while the plane is reaching its cruising altitude/descent? If so, I’m not sure she’ll eat that whole time, so hopefully her paci will do. Other than that is there anything that might be helpful to us? Thank you!",5.520785714285713,5.229918507142859,5.9849999999999985,83.32250000000003,67.5,8.714285714285714,29.642857142857146,8.07648339933343,1.8625714285714283,541,17,111,6,8,175,99,140,0.031,0.779,0.19,0.9661,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,0,1,3,8,0,0,6,0,13,3,1,2,4,23,26,13,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,8,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,10,7,15,20,6,8,0,1,0,0,14,2,0,10,5,70,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395216071810341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34697501299433736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421542617765706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32528723472410026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272857237024487,0.0,0.0,0.3367941323028089,0.16696829308182276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655568315288894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22634604899879965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986112024661294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19113722300945685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31958949937494463,0.0,0.3824316404048685,0.0,0.0,0.15609483683505815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977268404851386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394251716285475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892916409560924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kballs1996,2020/01/29,"Priorities? Hi folks, I am a single dad of a 10 year old father. I was engaged to my fiance for three months ago. She has a 12 year old daughter from a previous marriage. My fiance send me a post on steptalk that made me very uncomfortable yesterday. We got into an argument about it. It was mentioning about  putting her first over the kids. The certain examples made me very uncomfortable.

Here are certain examples:

-While out, spouse will rather hold other spouse's hand and not skid unless necessary (crossing streets)

-Spouse will rather watch a movie and cuddle with other spouse than the kid.

-Family wonders where to eat, child wants to go to Mcdonald's, spouse wants to go to Taco Bell. Spouse's opinion Is priority, they end up going to Taco Bell even though child is upset.

-Spouse enjoys a family vacation, but if there was only one vacation possible, spouse will prefer to go to a romantic vacation with other spouse (no kid)

-Spouse has $10 bucks, Deciding on whether to buy the daughter a doll, or the wife a rose, spouse chooses to buy the rose

I told her these examples made me very uncomfortable. I told her that my relationship with my son is equally important with my relationship with her. I find it concerning that she wants her desires and wants should ALWAYS come before the children's. I can't wrap my head around that. 

When it comes to vacation thing. I asked her would she feel if I did a father son trip only along with doing a couples only vacation, she went ballistic and assumed I was choosing my son over here.

As for eating out, I think we should take turns. Sometimes my child will get to decide, sometimes  I will get to decide, sometime her daughter  get to  decide, and sometimes she will get decide. 

As for the rest of the example, I straight up told her that she isn't my everything. That the happiness I get from the relationship with my son if different but equally  important to the happiness to the relationship I have with her.  

I agreed in which the article said that: 
""We as adults, have the responsibility to keep any child in our house: safe, fed, dressed and loved.""

That's  true  but I added  that's the basic requirements that comes with choosing to be a parent. Beyond that, if I want a close a relationship with my son he needs to come first sometimes.

I haven't said this to her but  I believe  her expectations about relationships/marriage is eschewed. I was a fulfilled person before getting married. I am marrying not because she completes me but I love her enough to share my life with her. It doesn't change the fact that I still want a close relationship with my son after he leaves the nest?

Am I wrong to think this way?",5.7046877673225005,7.071708125748504,5.7965634445394905,78.99941317365271,67.54291417165669,9.31852865697177,31.280353578557172,9.606745405546679,2.8983086512688923,2125,85,392,45,35,671,223,501,0.031,0.857,0.11199999999999999,0.9897,2,0,0,0,1,0,65.0,4,0,1,3,15,13,0,1,36,0,33,9,2,3,4,87,75,24,0,19,16,25,2,0,0,9,1,2,0,10,25,32,3,4,15,0,3,13,7,2,0,4,17,5,67,11,65,48,5,47,0,0,1,3,81,18,0,8,14,266,92,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268044050412848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058836658460985826,0.0,0.0,0.0480854486820657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629471845341769,0.06610461269932494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04310436042954,0.0,0.12033856433879946,0.07966632699940017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480215254052433,0.2436427502736284,0.07413843494696733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823963443451358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387724418832654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470863944656592,0.0,0.0,0.06262836381894593,0.0730626722256618,0.0,0.04670350561527683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354988454325489,0.0,0.13331881080500044,0.0,0.0357532670999353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462795995128863,0.12029233995426646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22165937157693752,0.0,0.16074523863729911,0.0,0.056553509849847326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054492077850626,0.0,0.0,0.07256919778860693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159022625751003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285058962202329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487202895933938,0.0,0.0,0.04994479673492415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763766581116112,0.2007234698534832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056440310228498186,0.0,0.0,0.052430813205954746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839719167778373,0.0,0.047915149128949466,0.1613351752781596,0.0,0.0,0.07851545268036124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06174153211707512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971527185948908,0.06772094932559307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108341126688766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45549858637396,0.0,0.0,0.13452343132671812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496716186629124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646936031636464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05316536762183701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04697680080474955,0.09061664771035613,0.06947253951776614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270024960191596,0.0,0.0,0.07691253329228474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503028116286956,0.25024070556287503,0.05612656810057483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554918367424188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668233582124809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05023058915370671,0.07731064479216126,0.0,0.09107026747534584
parenting,idk_556,2020/01/29,My girlfriend broke up with and I need help So basically I fucked up really bad in this relationship and I was being disrespectful and an asshole and I’ll admit that I’m not proud of it I’m willing to admit it. She broke up with me today and she said once I change I can talk her. We are going to talk this afternoon in person where everything which was behind her house. Is there anything I should talk about with her about what happened and what should I do,1.8067741935483848,4.221051021505383,3.2628064516129034,88.23420967741936,81.79569892473118,6.300645161290323,20.052688172043013,7.554174236665415,0.6858739784946241,367,10,75,6,10,120,59,93,0.17,0.7659999999999999,0.064,-0.9067,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,1,0,10,1,0,0,0,16,19,7,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,8,10,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,1,15,1,14,12,0,9,0,2,0,1,16,6,1,0,2,58,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904582113930368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932455852482983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448364461888632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800641905129366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139657089794146,0.0,0.0,0.13153462712324904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046646487183381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551316433567601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670546282717174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161236060932336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24647968490913105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020874639618261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826857895659196,0.0,0.0,0.2484836138715694,0.0,0.0,0.22015568895107612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.558076353406701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21938129672464102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,childprodigyat37,2020/01/29,"Working from home - tips and pitfalls? Hi there, fellow parents! I am a first time Mum to a lovely 7 month old boy. 

Pretty soon I'll be returning to work. Looks likely I'll get a new job where I'll be working from home 95% of the time. Three days a week I'll work from my parents' home office, and two days from my house and my fiance will be primary parent those days. I figure this is ideal as it will allow me to easily continue breastfeeding, and not have to be away from my baby all day. 

But I'm also aware it could pose challenges - distractions from work, hard to make professional calls if the baby is crying upstairs, that sort of thing. 

Does anyone have experience working from home with a baby, and can you share what it was like for you? 

Thanks!",3.9455818181818216,5.196075073333333,4.83218181818182,84.70609090909092,71.6,7.587878787878788,23.63636363636364,8.00094639256281,1.1616,591,15,118,8,11,192,96,150,0.042,0.8009999999999999,0.157,0.9520000000000001,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,9,4,8,0,1,7,0,14,1,0,2,1,16,20,9,0,3,3,4,1,2,1,2,0,0,4,1,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,2,9,7,18,12,1,16,0,0,1,1,12,2,0,2,16,72,17,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262679746577894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098892050628652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882326450366447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827230116289958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247842200431512,0.0,0.12723050339370034,0.29879529088210194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136097447041094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133010160622564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852237364151976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605148186934989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375822715890473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647356366722586,0.0,0.0,0.13364878860773108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494040948142535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317442772518445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726549500719013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453837548225896,0.0,0.07731541140498456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245199378263763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186642316216502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154093578518245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38583647646468056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783768354516233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663792526071847,0.0,0.0,0.07695030162566273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350792919561615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314613330318905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290942019757792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059405442050858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,usernamenoonewants,2020/01/29,"Any help appreciated I'm posting trying to get opinions,options, suggestions of anything I can try. My daughter is 16 months old and generally a very good sleeper. Usually she will sleep at night on average 9-10 hours, if not longer, with no problems. Tonight has been the second night ever (not in a row) that she sleeps for a couple hours and then is wide awake. If I or my wife are not holding her she is in her crib screaming at the top of her lungs. We have tried giving her milk, letting her sleep in our bed, and the first time this happened I ended up just taking her to the living room and turning on a movie for her to watch. I'm pretty sure the issue at the moment is she is teething and we give her tylenol or motrin to help that. I'm just trying to see if anyone with similar experiences have any other ideas that we could try. Sorry for the long post. Any help is greatly appreciated.",5.283235144743525,5.571903966480448,5.8524530218385005,82.08689690198071,67.99441340782123,8.296800406297614,29.680548501777547,8.00094639256281,1.8372525139664804,706,24,143,8,11,229,109,179,0.035,0.809,0.156,0.9678,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,11,0,15,7,5,0,2,27,25,11,0,5,10,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,5,10,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,1,3,21,3,21,21,0,29,0,0,2,0,24,12,0,5,15,93,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24703803871726165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466962267469423,0.0,0.09964755180333468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668128736261787,0.13398485661398946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725065891346534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953371617689728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845020551800145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299991837272614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326503468592802,0.2323229872995577,0.0,0.10156536164790024,0.0,0.13350322340434811,0.0,0.0,0.1070803460575684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434941768275111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23850042972622795,0.0,0.0,0.1366969674128052,0.0,0.12638751366953535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238237223718144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069255461933222,0.10716169913594226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665365805797464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22727134737312565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706460474012424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23194335583833545,0.12319305085507914,0.0,0.11586770589104513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649382646669458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36353526541023146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355514285648088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412680744655165,0.0,0.09104534049943834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060911918319299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110641046397176,0.13171220468330308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333645973407401,0.09991273303789153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aliebntoo,2020/01/29,"Sleeping around newborn schedule, but anxious. Hello. I wondered if anyone had any advice on this? I've been told to sleep around baby (2m) schedule, but I'm having some trouble. 

She sleeps in solid chunks at night, and I adore playing and babbling with her through the day, but I am physically exhausted and too anxious to sleep when she's out in case something happens. I can sleep fine when someone else is here.

I know it's paranoia but when my husband is at work I feel anxious at the idea of sleeping without anyone else around and so I just... don't. It's all still new etc but wondered if anyone had advice on this as it feels like a bit of a mental block? How did you chip away at overprotective instincts? Or is this a common feeling?

Thank you!",3.197780665280664,5.238903466216218,3.839189189189188,87.81475051975053,75.14864864864866,5.364656964656965,28.276507276507274,5.8734145424116955,1.1149266112266116,595,25,113,3,13,188,96,148,0.138,0.7390000000000001,0.12300000000000001,-0.5349,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,1,12,7,0,0,5,0,11,7,6,1,1,30,21,18,0,2,10,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,9,0,1,7,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,3,13,5,21,16,4,23,0,0,0,0,9,13,0,6,11,80,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071189525998753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206797909656414,0.0,0.0,0.3591714597340215,0.0,0.22230470116449802,0.10858593766722892,0.0,0.28302593634039963,0.0,0.0,0.09956885931228264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569941210090025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683463835070183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706033278035752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819234413884742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607554328771205,0.07570997420707153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371509158751837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963510851879253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824217553190291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05177499831176969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679986770034924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235322566735547,0.0,0.0994522147081994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.636321079405116,0.0,0.08979394949022908,0.08158625517578066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463335146946346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975693628202143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012655439539626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215802492545972,0.22985502377572964,0.07715250211140831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aengre,2020/01/29,"Nuk Ideas - Removing the pacifier. Son turned three on January 10, and the plan was to have him off his nuk by then. But boy, has it been a struggle. He's actually thrown his away, by himself, when we talk about the need to have him weened off of them. By nighttime, he's flipping out and Mom has relented (I work overnights).

At his three year check-up, the Dr. brought up a Nuk Fairy idea that she used for her daughter and I may try that. Looking for other things that worked or eased the 'pain' of not having his nuk for bed.",2.543511530398323,4.263477481132078,2.918427672955975,95.11640461215931,76.0754716981132,6.5979035639412995,24.041928721174003,7.3871296695380915,0.7286784067085956,407,13,93,5,9,125,76,106,0.022000000000000002,0.956,0.021,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,3,2,2,0,1,7,0,8,2,0,1,0,13,13,7,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,3,1,13,0,18,9,0,12,0,0,1,0,18,7,0,2,3,62,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.2313233940857557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227131866879813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5351937632310696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905953425157352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776262412256291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576713149594422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25223441195753066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24781268914157376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905291659367873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574833007428811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093915560465613,0.2578387502739674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473224772585394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34514565547630605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265030904471968
parenting,thePurpleMama,2020/01/29,"Fear/anxiety about potty training I am a stay at home mom to a three year old daughter. I want to start potty training her, but I'm just scared to. I don't know why, but whenever I think about it, anxiety hits me. I believe she is ready and has been for awhile. We have practically everything we need (potty seat, underwear, pull ups, potty chart with stickers). She's not in daycare or preschool (yet), but that shouldn't be an excuse. My husband has been frustrated with me for not potty training yet and I get it. I just don't know what to do about my anxiety. Anyone else have this fear? Any tips or encouragement from anyone?",2.535,4.832036097560977,3.661158536585365,87.07027439024391,78.26829268292683,7.0268292682926825,24.88414634146341,8.07648339933343,1.5473365853658538,492,18,98,9,12,159,78,123,0.153,0.7829999999999999,0.064,-0.9056,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,0,7,4,1,2,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,21,22,7,0,3,9,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,2,0,16,1,15,17,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,5,66,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157751157808234,0.0,0.44405011987323706,0.0,0.0,0.2705806356536541,0.19824986977202336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21799312162925547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616332126866681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389326497840446,0.0,0.0,0.43545239735749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108875390728024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408281897633847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126703321349832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266091478682274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346784985345848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030316212212132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19371382388540453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695079952599926,0.20623095358311525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397838992946035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412339989175364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459154651065045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459901593499705
parenting,ebsaucyresponse,2020/01/29,"Is my mom controlling/emotionally abusive? I am 17 f and have always had a bad relationship with my mom. When I didn’t listen to her to leave her alone she threatened to end my relationship with my at the time boyfriend which caused me to have a panic attack on the floor. She constantly puts me against my dad her ex, asking things like “how does it make you feel that your father drives into X town for work but he won’t take you to do your drivers test there? Yesterday she texted me saying she could hear all of my conversation to my boyfriend. She said I have to give her my phone 3very night even though I’m almost an adult and said if i didn’t listen she’d take me out of a show and take ny money to make up for the payments. Today she said she’d check on me while I was sleeping to see if I was using my iPad. She told me she thought I’d have a reaction when I read n6 deceased grandmas card to me and constantly criticizes me. 0lease help.",5.478019480519478,5.00811599489796,5.808070500927645,85.15770871985158,67.62244897959185,9.16808905380334,28.532467532467532,8.575989854853784,1.7115979591836736,749,21,166,10,11,240,117,196,0.091,0.88,0.027999999999999997,-0.8321,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,0,1,6,4,1,1,8,0,16,1,1,5,1,21,35,12,0,3,3,5,1,1,0,1,0,7,0,1,4,8,0,0,2,2,2,2,3,3,0,0,10,9,42,1,23,21,1,20,0,0,1,0,40,8,0,3,11,106,46,3,0.0,0.15554880205037644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314608885393445,0.13596952047299274,0.0,0.0,0.10923791289143274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273181571926008,0.1493532831359161,0.0,0.0,0.10961576112756784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486373052799072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28374041194921085,0.0,0.10481873536072067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148865749290469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767562371897594,0.11627770730595535,0.0,0.0,0.08671113573706968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638059297056519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259385470976885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796540112641954,0.0,0.08799617926418532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900966491644814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413820722834992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526474763996686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30751395699501904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320013451015055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540322294354476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197560315474208,0.0,0.0,0.13131845495186986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818974666589503,0.0,0.0,0.37464038384000503,0.10440145359852376,0.0,0.0,0.10461549629992324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137773888758386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961252703176333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721854382043431,0.0,0.12898481012854585,0.10422398032876744,0.07655213102363358,0.0,0.12444086516504825,0.1254464636406249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133862983281457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557553510305604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rosyrose14,2020/01/29,"My mother and I disagree about what my daughter should be playing with. My mother keeps undermining my decisions when it comes to my daughter. Lately, the argument has been on whether or not my (almost) 3 year old should have her own tablet or not. This argument has happened repeatedly and every time I think it’s over she brings it up again. 

I refuse to let my daughter have a tablet yet, I don’t think it’s necessary for her development right now compared to everything else we do. 

I feel like I’m beating my head against a wall when I try to reason with her. We keep fighting and I wish my mother would realize she is continually hurting our relationship. 

I love my mom endlessly but I am so tired of hurting over this and also, I’m so drained from this argument. She tells me, “you’ll understand when you’re a grandma” except the only thing I’m taking from this is that I will give my own daughter the room to raise her children instead of steamrolling her into my own ideations of motherhood. 

I don’t know what else to say to my mother... so much already has been said. I don’t know how to come back from this one. It sucks the worst because I have a building list of all the things I wish I could tell her as my best friend and the woman who knew me best. I’m just so hurt and upset I don’t know. 

I want to specify that I’m not trying to degrade any parents who do let their children have tablets at young ages or anything like that. It’s just not what I want for my family.",3.7571818181818197,4.960881033333333,4.635515151515151,86.11609090909094,72.0,7.721212121212122,28.303030303030305,8.150884317080207,1.7441666666666669,1170,44,244,17,22,379,155,300,0.154,0.733,0.113,-0.9179,1,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,3,1,1,3,17,15,2,1,10,0,27,3,1,2,1,50,55,21,0,8,12,10,1,2,1,5,1,2,1,3,21,13,0,3,11,1,0,3,8,8,0,1,4,3,49,7,31,42,8,27,0,3,0,1,39,9,1,4,17,177,70,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115870583300779,0.0,0.12769297572552882,0.09253622609376873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868930270830021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522253830271037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897671388290156,0.0,0.0705380142819131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24286883613103386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19935426053448574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238799571525592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332794256818794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749380613010826,0.0,0.10399603703327426,0.0,0.1090846040504765,0.0,0.05850833744402235,0.08266591006298776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940013884380715,0.0,0.0,0.11100315138897324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023252670979626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875566784959628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716218156841986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570335549378435,0.0,0.0,0.19077971541337535,0.0,0.13053012478092912,0.0,0.0,0.2366502524739337,0.0,0.11306376468299813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044361568548834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552251915397406,0.0,0.0,0.0850629039213937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142209189107572,0.0,0.0784106164642588,0.08800550404135549,0.0,0.0,0.12848640061766714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189729839875477,0.0,0.1242332387058554,0.0,0.09881889105540967,0.11007025305116293,0.09202020053507907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700232234607642,0.0,0.2022777962878524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375011776363684,0.14828936856215874,0.0,0.0,0.06747360506369443,0.13299590761049593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712405067884447,0.0,0.0,0.1204620712150207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650190906450455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661301520092748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821997120431671,0.0,0.0,0.07451584670110539
parenting,EmptyglassesAmps,2020/01/29,"Potty training for over two years!! My son peed his pants again tonight and I lost it. I'm so sick of this. He is good at school, but when at home he constantly has to be prodded and reminded. I've tried taking things away, spanking, congratulating, rewarding. It seems like the only thing that is going to work is to set an alarm and I cant be around all of the time to do that. I'm a single mom with no family, no dad, no support and I am also battling cancer. You'd be surprised how good his life is, lots of love, everything he could wants pretty much, but this is going to drive me into abuse soon. I can't do it all and every time he pees it's comforter, chair, pants, towels, clothes. I wash comforters every other day. He's known how to pee in the toilet for over two years. I started this over two years! I've seen people mention doctors, but what could possibly be wrong that he is not feeling this or doesn't care that he is sitting in a puddle of piss? I'm so frustrated!",2.325235876528829,3.947821762376236,3.6480780430984265,90.07144146767618,76.42574257425744,6.337099592312173,22.77344205008736,7.048011613610866,0.6357888177053002,764,22,164,8,17,250,123,202,0.201,0.65,0.14800000000000002,-0.9174,1,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,0,1,0,3,9,16,3,1,6,0,21,9,3,2,2,24,36,15,0,3,5,3,1,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,16,8,0,0,3,0,0,3,7,6,0,3,2,2,11,10,23,27,5,27,0,1,1,1,15,10,1,3,13,105,27,3,0.0,0.16627910862099918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222927844442686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493172057133105,0.0,0.0,0.1318533813902552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308525792008253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165691460417038,0.0,0.22409900497872545,0.0,0.0,0.0905072312110325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364320863629712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364838069729685,0.0,0.1261279035250196,0.0,0.13229939147913206,0.0,0.07095976107423987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951610374013986,0.23541987396414565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077174909995227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991257899118849,0.06856268763178908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531969116503384,0.1193114446448829,0.12666168723431234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643636787414407,0.0,0.0,0.10316552481632353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067343529623855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729359239786532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821146160731306,0.0,0.14277550946012368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203085248882308,0.0,0.12775961762807114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933287084140197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592553616843724,0.0,0.0,0.10551767963819199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647037496292024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16366593560168052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528116489256587,0.0,0.41127327879662173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277574852184139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216867358299732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343898132758665,0.0,0.2711217020931782
parenting,hayyynichole117,2020/01/29,"Been on my own for a week and I’m really fucking it up. I’m mostly venting my frustration, but kind words would be helpful. 

I have two littles. Two sweet perfect babes. And I’m fucking it up this week. 

Backstory. Daddy went to Detox for a recent drug problem. This is a first for him. And it’s wrecking everything. BUT he’s getting the help he knew he needed. So There’s hope. 

So I’m here as a single mom for the last week. I’m tired. I’m fried. I’m angry. I’m not present with the kids. My older one is getting the brunt of it. Her entire world has been flipped upside down since November when we lost our house. Now her daddy is gone and she doesn’t know why other than “daddy is at the doctor for a week.” There’s two of them and one of me. Whose also trying to cope with this shit. 

It gets better, right? I’m not totally fucking up this parenting thing. Am I?",-0.5027472527472518,1.7160007692307744,1.7074417582417605,95.78755824175829,93.50549450549453,4.450461538461538,17.719560439560443,6.152001189255117,-0.2186631208791208,668,19,148,7,25,223,108,182,0.113,0.741,0.146,0.8249,1,0,1,0,1,0,26.0,2,0,1,4,8,12,5,0,10,0,12,8,1,0,2,22,34,12,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,12,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,7,0,6,6,1,13,5,20,26,4,22,0,1,0,3,17,9,4,2,11,94,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601575446877994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117246919981089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569046641812058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373849312684032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914488836700217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276352048681852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367675006766484,0.20778622393923105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17771703790903587,0.0,0.0,0.13167139273638925,0.0,0.15296736523058346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380506990268111,0.07285671180060542,0.10806180901334383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286943268743925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471523292328686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526375693189987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829857963255192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966500285838444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472027040162291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685107554867006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492739487890978,0.0,0.13089635487502044,0.0,0.0,0.11321360004882335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608065229393493,0.10966283262878952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807326288549247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236909999224973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000596566921272,0.0,0.3885033170382815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253569182564976,0.0,0.0,0.1228932236076674,0.11962332366016044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417354540201676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jjmmss51615,2020/01/29,"Debit card for 13 year olds? Hello! Newbie here in need of some advice. 

I’m a parent to 13 year olds. They will soon be going on a cross-country school-sponsored trip. While the cost was nearly all-inclusive, they’re going to need snack/souvenir/spending money. I’m thinking the best way to do this is a prepaid debit card I can also access. They have teen bank accounts now that theoretically we could just get debit cards for. Are there any benefits to something like the [Greenlight](https://www.greenlightcard.com) or [Bluebird ](https://www.bluebird.com) cards that I’m not seeing? 

Similar note- are there any good prepaid cell phone companies that offer dumb phones/no-data plans? 

Thanks y’all!!",5.682493112947661,8.817610520661159,4.823491735537194,78.4400860881543,71.89256198347105,6.347382920110194,24.13292011019284,7.492282038375204,1.3744044077134985,567,17,88,7,12,169,90,121,0.027999999999999997,0.833,0.139,0.9219,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,1,1,2,2,7,6,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,21,3,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,7,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,5,10,17,2,14,0,0,1,0,9,3,1,2,8,47,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116058574869992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317144084343206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29451687202270577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272512510190355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728940438789414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313614021259775,0.0,0.2461357134723889,0.18162817823754246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579324370488878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211316422380361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544563678595298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24044826618713974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21915571150971644,0.17255880969609702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670738499702692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993660978376733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387536789627138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718838206506734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27889653779100165
parenting,scubahunt,2020/01/29,"Parenting style I was talking to everyone about parenting styles. Has anyone ever thought about what one they are? I want to hear some good information and perspective of other parents. Listen to the link and let me know what one you think you are.

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parenting,Farmers-wife,2020/01/29,"Work at kids school program and looking for advice for helping kid (3-5 range) that has a hard time sitting still. So this main kid some days I spend a good bit of time restraining him because some days he just runs around sometimes with his head kinda low and either does or almost hurst himself or other kids. He has literally just like knocked over kids like a plow truck. He really has a hard time staying still but there are rare occasions where he does so just he just usually has to fidget or play with something.  

We do the usually walking feet and having them go back and walk and if they don't do so then hold their hand and walk with them and really trying to make them notice when they're doing the correct thing (I try my best to try giving them a touch on the shoulder or high five while telling them what and/or why they did good). I feel like this kids bad days are like my two boys rolled into one kid with the workout just trying to keep this kid from hurting himself and others.  

I've only been around the kid for like a month and truly don't know to much since I'm just temporary just figured if I find something that might help maybe someone will also use the tactic and it might just stick.",4.498235294117649,5.631530456431534,4.3338442762997325,89.2409030998292,70.16182572614107,6.998389065169637,24.96485233097389,7.048011613610866,0.8638950939711987,964,26,197,8,17,294,144,241,0.046,0.7979999999999999,0.155,0.9824,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,8,2,20,12,0,0,12,0,17,4,4,2,1,50,26,24,0,2,16,0,5,5,0,3,0,1,0,10,10,18,0,3,4,2,1,5,2,3,0,3,2,7,19,9,20,21,7,31,0,2,1,0,32,9,0,12,20,124,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037553439211607,0.0,0.0,0.11310526300850975,0.0,0.0,0.09032779409577953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20110272271574145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685323175801121,0.09431032780902698,0.06885458267473968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185363135519253,0.0,0.12331449419948655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21853437868418985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976903764743336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057112001219659835,0.0806930390195868,0.0,0.0,0.10323621942702972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835399525030988,0.06419331021866638,0.1894778100352627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236588190399765,0.0,0.11592149330096198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514188913524786,0.11934014870404985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091761344221072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039706136829744,0.0,0.0,0.06207554806355351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759135769604083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485135885087094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539643767129135,0.0,0.1134756171658566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23964876439675445,0.0,0.0,0.0901573290518617,0.0,0.0830328271958578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285967721987837,0.0,0.0,0.07653930053004017,0.0859052004161876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447200800702165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143136067226095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343518626347448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570399073337801,0.17391216788306138,0.11171256520830132,0.0,0.0,0.12039196387031265,0.1804074668895064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872515826786853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504038994135527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19758992220789567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067483837698716,0.0,0.11033783863163316,0.0,0.0,0.09755439230983168,0.24880167244381074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192174741169972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223051095364299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beef_taco86,2020/01/29,Daughter won't study on her own Daughter is six and in first grade. She goes to grandmas after school since my wife and I are at work. Wife doesn’t usually get her till 5 in the afternoon and we are trying to convince her to do her homework while at grandmas. During discussing with her the advantages she will agree that doing her homework at grandmas is best but she just doesn’t do it.  Grandma doesn’t speak much english so she can’t help. Any advice on getting her to do homework if we (parents) aren’t around?,3.923529411764704,5.570965813725493,4.074656862745098,88.55845588235296,72.23529411764707,6.276470588235295,29.41666666666667,6.6274283507984215,1.4228784313725489,411,17,80,3,8,127,65,102,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.8606,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,2,0,15,0,0,0,0,10,17,8,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,1,15,3,15,15,3,14,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,1,6,62,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911911788326334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026425831706019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26527318402832456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31272083136682194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534690969106038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113736682747971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19973559228179866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190560341667093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33088126628818765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015805457386247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24649939121337736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20231481543190172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32819253240063523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169393747670173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hush2020,2020/01/29,"Am I wrong for not wanting to take husband’s friends baby items? Husband and l are expecting our first child. He has friends who have 3 kids of their own who want to give us most if not all of their baby stuff. Husband is very keen on the idea but I am not. I have been to his friends’ house On several occasions and each time is more disgusting than the last. Now when I say their house is a mess, that is an understatement of the century. 

They are literally living in a hoarding house. Trash everywhere, dried up, petrified food, crumbs, dirt, lots and lots of junk from the floor to the ceiling in every room. The floors are so dirty that you don’t even want to take your shoes off and the whole house reeks of animal urine. Only space cleared off is the couch so they can game with my husband, which is covered in crumbs and god only knows what. And those poor kids, every time I’ve seen them they have been dirty. 

I also don’t want to take any of their things because I know I will be the one to have to clean them because knowing him, if he says he’s going to, he won’t and I just don’t have the time or energy to do that after working, taking care of three animals and cleaning up after my husband. I’ve held my tongue because they are his friends and I don’t want to hurt his feeling in telling him how gross they are but I’m having a hard time saying I don’t want anything from them no matter how much we may or may not need something they have. Am I being uptight or snooty for not taking what they offer even if hubby wants me too?",4.488091482649847,4.79463436277603,4.773834384858045,89.0671238170347,69.72555205047317,7.854195583596216,26.8910094637224,7.554174236665415,1.1854039116719242,1211,35,267,12,20,381,166,317,0.14300000000000002,0.7559999999999999,0.10099999999999999,-0.977,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,3,2,14,2,11,13,1,1,14,0,37,3,2,2,2,52,60,23,0,12,14,5,2,0,4,4,0,3,4,3,11,12,1,2,5,1,1,1,12,7,0,3,4,7,39,6,36,50,10,25,0,1,1,0,49,14,0,11,10,184,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582879600258596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448193679961664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803009412214269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734070943197088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667693657294586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525753964849765,0.0,0.15978256837628846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04794464796951546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065520105359855,0.11465865017548495,0.0,0.29303571918398824,0.0,0.0,0.0909615150480556,0.05388929812833111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849415250886694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376455628220353,0.10150847958388654,0.10704204007424208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633440796313616,0.077292256348148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372920641335052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612278600050097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970478331704172,0.07030901189780979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425356740051527,0.14423219305041607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22621781681762695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712141350026833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299829710658415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854804146529036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.356470197209399,0.0,0.08287825426888178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299525497970067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116494047420288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405870482179685,0.0,0.0,0.07823774715844342,0.39149763813304056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586492557510156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903125115266763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367252979974892,0.0,0.0
parenting,tanrose49,2020/01/29,"Teen who wants to live with other parent when they don’t get their way I’m sorry if this is messy, I’m not a big poster and never know how to pick a title. 

My husband and I got custody of my children 7 years ago when they were 9, 10 and 12. They have had an off/on again relationship with their bio mom. The main reason we were able to get majority custody is because she withheld them from my husband and his whole family, and wouldn’t take them to school (missing 100 plus days a year) even with us taking them on the days we had them. Plus she was constantly going out to bars drinking and leaving them, often with younger siblings and friends babies to care for. We would have them most weekends to Monday, and randomly she would just ghost us for weeks or months at a time. Anyway, she messes their heads up quite a bit and had them lying to us for years, and scared of their dad to a point.

My relationship has always been great with them, I’ve always exclaimed how lucky we have been because there was never yelling and door slamming and you’re not my mom. The kids seemed to enjoy going to school, having a life and having structure. My oldest had the biggest struggle with school, they had been held back from missing so much and was a bit jaded from past experiences. The two oldest definitely endured a lot of trauma and held a ton of resentment for their mother. In the beginning they would go on the weekends as court ordered, but my oldest at 16 or 17 decided to live with her mom after getting in trouble and our whole custody agreement was basically off after that. She eventually moved back home because she realized her life was going nowhere and I finally got her graduated last year, it was a huge achievement for our family and I’m still so proud. 

The problem is, once they get into trouble and face any discipline they up and quit us and go live with their mom. I really thought I wasn’t going to have to face this with my youngest. She left today with a note, she got in trouble yesterday for skipping school and lying. Basically this means she will drop out. She said she is going to sign up for a homeschool program but this happened with my oldest and there is a 100% guarantee she will not accomplish any school if she lives there. I feel like such a failure. It’s impossible when the other parent who isn’t active in their child’s life is always there with no consequences, it really makes it impossible to get through to them and ever have them face their actions. I don’t feel there is advice for me, but even hearing from other people who have been through the same would be comforting. I’m so torn to pieces and feel I have no control.",7.058021978021983,6.5777350000000006,6.856703296703298,78.98115384615387,64.38461538461539,9.582417582417582,32.22527472527473,8.841846274778883,2.4709890109890105,2120,71,409,28,28,670,232,520,0.102,0.828,0.07,-0.9231,2,0,1,0,1,0,42.0,10,0,25,6,24,20,1,2,26,0,46,9,4,6,3,93,85,43,1,9,11,10,3,1,1,7,3,3,2,3,15,46,2,5,10,4,0,9,12,11,0,1,25,6,69,9,68,52,12,68,0,2,0,0,73,20,0,10,37,297,84,9,0.0667787774845234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525544848934965,0.05919535703915805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669587721035506,0.0,0.0,0.09082371726266056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269751575532624,0.0,0.1221231688090856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458102589227342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808541421768838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216413486544301,0.07489807726359718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613357401418713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654177789887255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821350544575518,0.06040522739191359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653224582226208,0.12590617650681898,0.0,0.10129606912180142,0.04770677197797417,0.0,0.07315288661343933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051593117832622964,0.0,0.1744457752163264,0.0,0.2656634271338998,0.0,0.16022726613537866,0.07362383792648129,0.0,0.0,0.05905225238926464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853429137689172,0.0,0.07526453555877424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698455862568306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0366998696895886,0.05443361649458869,0.0,0.0707090832618248,0.07255533712900054,0.0,0.14150347626117651,0.03262473755259697,0.0,0.23586753585101075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05677292858566042,0.0,0.0,0.04457535251662476,0.0,0.0,0.07274166555009272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128419883956022,0.05330218308144689,0.07097527223074702,0.049090085115740936,0.0,0.1030078199542229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111721859748939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829985932211107,0.0,0.06374789928515105,0.04629599607553878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312752953128029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389827138179552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205489963397575,0.0,0.0,0.08556038964982009,0.06865970524377449,0.0,0.1433908315171162,0.0,0.0,0.06352190957395427,0.0,0.06685720591393032,0.337918439815583,0.0,0.060792890986429364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475337413488592,0.0,0.0,0.053329617960803856,0.0,0.0,0.06981167745388396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041865989392487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301489006088244,0.03893924217192864,0.0,0.0632984728178261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523316226650137,0.0,0.32130658823950603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03938785313883667,0.0530058852709772,0.05356590726432129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911224050768265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18975091019311416,0.0,0.0,0.17201337308724382
parenting,np3est8x,2020/01/29,"3 yo daughter cries and say this. Picked up my daughter today. For the 4th or 5th time this school year she has cried when I walked in.  I get to her and ask what happened and she says she wants mommy. Ok, she misses her mom, that’s ok. I keep going with the routine. Today hit me differently. I literally wanted to start crying but we’ll save that for later.  Mom and me have been separated for about 2 years, everything is 50/50. After supper, my daughter says she wants to get in the car and go to mommy’s. This was random sitting on the couch. Comments like these having been building up and they hurt. When tucking her into bed tonight she says I don’t like you. My response was I love you sweet dreams sweetie. Now I want to cry and die. My daughter does not like me and I don’t know what to do besides dive into depression.",0.9927245508982026,3.435830712574852,2.3635059880239524,92.9896901197605,86.185628742515,4.537604790419162,19.727245508982037,5.985473137389443,-0.04774227544910215,647,19,134,5,20,208,103,167,0.134,0.68,0.18600000000000005,0.8765,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,2,1,0,4,11,0,0,4,2,12,2,0,1,0,23,28,12,1,4,3,6,0,3,0,1,0,4,2,0,8,11,1,1,1,1,0,4,3,3,0,0,4,5,28,8,19,22,0,24,0,3,0,1,26,7,0,2,15,84,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938473441388757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5611014359783875,0.0,0.0,0.10999010094838384,0.0,0.13253518378347,0.13342208382295465,0.0,0.0,0.11175344514578936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147709029434671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334387224808199,0.0,0.14515271203764962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292702716168936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670832259989413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135079783904114,0.0,0.0,0.07018203393745673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871671854001054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525662288790342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991275886310609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062170754091638,0.0,0.12924189438175376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038858935899946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446443921255724,0.0,0.2420943510189152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012893145500849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447263287054847
parenting,Sorrypardonmewhat,2020/01/29,I can't get my 4 (almost 5 year old) to sleep. Ever. I've tried everything. This kid doesn't sleep. Nothing works. It's honestly driving me insane. I would actually give up my left leg and wouldn't regret it or feel resentful later on if it meant he would just go to sleep at night. Please somebody help me... I am actually pretty  fond of my left leg now that I think about it.,0.5356410256410236,2.7970289743589767,2.7669230769230784,90.66141025641028,86.17948717948721,6.030769230769232,18.923076923076927,7.3871296695380915,0.4616307692307693,292,8,64,5,9,99,58,78,0.10300000000000001,0.731,0.166,0.6312,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,0,6,5,5,0,1,13,12,3,0,5,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,9,2,7,8,0,13,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,3,6,34,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.3484584321306809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787819489113716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149958743599366,0.0,0.0,0.1604601759154426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027515265590423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327974396851717,0.17127176868618765,0.1014683561374325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196715509867945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879683106426532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754762879360705,0.0,0.171313877178807,0.0,0.1873476218966805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598322757025155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18163929411419924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5360066053759074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440117741342715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121689216103253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997919475386474,0.0,0.0,0.2536592860827025,0.0,0.0,0.11497386065126555
parenting,dimpledkore,2020/01/29,"Feeling Sad I’ve been anxious about reading to my child because I have low vision. I memorize her books before hand so that we can read it together and I could engage her. I try my best to remember where things are on the page so I can ask her about them, etc. 

Some days, she would pick a book that I haven’t memorized yet but I would just say ‘Let mama have a look.’ Her books are still simple enough that I could memorize page by page and spit it out to her as I go...  

Today, it just hit me harder somehow and I wasn’t so adaptable. I just felt so emotional and inadequate all of a sudden. I just told her I needed to go to the bathroom and her dad can read to her... now I’m in the bathroom trying not to cry.",0.6965783664459124,2.598859231788083,2.7148079470198674,93.52859161147906,82.50993377483444,5.880971302428256,20.00044150110375,7.0316486544052195,0.2649678587196469,548,15,126,7,15,184,89,151,0.063,0.8320000000000001,0.105,0.6261,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,15,4,0,0,6,0,15,2,2,1,1,28,24,11,0,5,6,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,7,7,0,0,6,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,4,27,2,15,14,8,13,0,2,0,0,16,5,0,2,6,95,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222388162616225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159069609175185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037233785554462,0.0,0.14478723659681292,0.0,0.17856454059410068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717058355301501,0.0,0.18690452042906788,0.10973427963256067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19139864925825287,0.0,0.17581300671245526,0.1897650040375333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603421141261429,0.0,0.16337307379451632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934031623716641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739924491246255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428852375311351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616591527951754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5105956067935458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927496018310484,0.0,0.0,0.1353120894033369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588399824311434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304175365644853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128466503343492,0.16258799584101485,0.0,0.23104474310252565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417428938480419,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kashkeya,2020/01/29,"If your child was conceived as result of a one night stand would you expect the child to have their dad’s last name? For context: my mom never changed her name after her divorce from my father or after her second marriage so that she could have the same name as me. After my son son was born, I felt judged by not having the same last name as him (before I married his dad), I didn’t like having to correct people when they thought we had the same last name.

My close friend was debating if she should give her new baby girl her last name or the dad’s. They’ve never been in a romantic relationship and don’t plan to. Whilst discussing amongst other friends, the opinions were very strong, and I am curious. What would you do and why?",3.9173225404732257,5.328329561643837,3.9726650062266518,90.22071606475716,71.87671232876713,6.404981320049814,24.231631382316323,6.574015621080383,0.6304328767123293,580,16,119,4,11,178,94,146,0.015,0.882,0.10300000000000001,0.9152,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,3,2,2,2,4,0,0,8,0,18,0,0,1,3,31,21,12,0,7,5,7,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,9,1,24,4,14,8,3,17,0,0,0,0,38,2,0,5,15,84,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698538519735414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951634506309186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729836086949832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713705657583126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28506937099889623,0.0,0.0,0.1769773456428018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6015281675997385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013133731610017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21606968283855985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845764675201546,0.17817930292270476,0.0,0.1731291434665342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125013592843264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790049366503126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980706723336771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646257096014564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522216160742142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16647139109664838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26210943865954905,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ablebodied1322,2020/01/29,"Looking for advice from those that have gone to court, in California, and successfully got their child custody arrangements changed Looking for advice from those that have gone to court, in California, and successfully got their child custody arrangements changed. My children live with their mom approximately seven hours north. My eldest, who will be sixteen in May, is getting fed up living up there with her and her fiancé and really wants to move in with me. I know above the age of fourteen the court may take the child’s opinion in consideration but not always. 

The reason I am not living up there is my health needs require me to be near hospitals and they live in a very remote town two hours from the nearest Wal-Mart. I am also living with my father and stepmom. If he were to move down here we would be sharing a room. I know that is not an ideal placement for a kid and will not help when the judge is determining my request. 

My health issues are as follows, I have been in the hospital four times in the past year for an average stay of ten days. My last time being just two weeks ago. I am not cleared to work and doubt if I ever will be. I have an application with social security for disability pending but this is my second attempt to qualify for disability. Seriously considering the lawyer route if I get denied again. 

Any advice or experiences shared will be welcome. I do not know where to start. Do I hope the mom will be reasonable? Do we have to go through the court or is that only if she disagrees? Our old custody arrangement was written when we still lived in the same town. Also, I am worried my other two kids, once they get wind of what we’re trying to do, will want to do the same. My dad has made it clear he cannot handle all three of them down here full time. I am hoping they will make an exception for the very mature older one.

TL:DR Son wants to move in with me and I need help with the hurdles and roadblocks to making that happen",4.903288733759937,6.1506899842931935,5.434584060500296,81.29871339926315,69.31413612565444,8.172348264494863,27.76071359317433,8.515128840125781,1.8866436687996897,1562,52,302,24,27,502,195,382,0.064,0.848,0.087,0.8812,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,7,6,13,11,0,1,22,0,44,3,0,5,4,65,73,23,0,13,16,5,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,6,12,20,1,2,6,0,0,7,7,2,0,9,10,2,41,9,53,46,4,51,0,0,2,0,35,23,0,12,20,222,53,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574072878298586,0.0778341970431107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043590741916745,0.07306113408231306,0.0,0.0,0.05971068897289857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577295989821624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056627224728222986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942501923159245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589053836226593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762410622046514,0.0,0.04990183730845557,0.0,0.14045201321910275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764603303710223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666608721780845,0.0,0.0,0.11770822934600607,0.0,0.0,0.17442116610626804,0.17294128126864494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164603424596736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476666913182046,0.0715731274195419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46520270794269203,0.0,0.1474688581018445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308360087080048,0.1172215844141292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20567326717899784,0.0,0.27996976115924244,0.0,0.13021319612244975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213700609628067,0.09350989473402957,0.05949921743780735,0.06677997007034424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382019810713509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625039327564249,0.1805571684728824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950655669541836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062149120294268334,0.09358888291999684,0.07012151290597336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601873991416705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360011998480247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059614108889903886,0.0,0.2573193773746836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489731600449904,0.15536971524398413,0.0,0.07043220261423865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639233833778313,0.08917065483198339,0.0,0.06237444316498759,0.0,0.0,0.05654380446622725
parenting,emg5235,2020/01/29,"Increasing breast milk supply!! Help!! I’m looking for ways to help increase my milk supply before I go back to work full time! Any thing will help! Any mommas who have any tips or tricks or just plain old advice, I’m here to listen!!",1.805217391304346,4.246945608695654,2.363217391304349,94.50569565217394,82.04347826086956,4.5495652173913035,15.72173913043478,5.6839178017228535,-0.7004556521739134,182,3,37,1,5,56,34,46,0.028999999999999998,0.7440000000000001,0.22699999999999998,0.877,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,6,3,8,0,0,1,1,6,1,0,2,3,16,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562124854846696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5349017793806387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20161064228274828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310738472580435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901062679509652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272283941783039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22017653220545416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27512800670175025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741897325752539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288715732890265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20811702202627308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908800143993876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,50EffingCabbages,2020/01/29,"Parenting teaches you all kinds of things that you never expected to need to know. What's your unexpected ""now I know that?"" Truly, I probably have a thousand examples, but the most recent:

My college aged daughter's best friend (B) is from China. She was in the states on a student visa, and her father had a pretty catastrophic financial reverse in November. He couldn't pay her tuition for winter semester, which meant that B's student visa was no longer valid. 

Dad also couldn't afford all of B's plane ticket home, so I scraped up some and found the rest of the balance in the sofa cushions and the grocery budget. B's ticket was for Sunday, and by then, the coronavirus news was breaking. Along with news about the shortage of effective facemasks in China.

I could not send the child home without those. So now I know that N95 masks are the good stuff, that my cousin could get them for me in 40-packs after hours (on a perfectly legal emergency basis) from the medical supply house where she has plenty of seniority, and that 400 of them take up the luggage space of four pairs of jeans and two t-shirts. (I sent enough to last her immediate family long enough for me to send another ten packs.)

We gon' be eating beans until summer, but... I now know more than I ever wanted about face masks!

(On a lighter note, I also know a lot about the chemistry and biology of farts, thanks to the fact that my 8yo is a total barbarian.)",7.1483516483516505,6.889828157509161,7.198109890109893,75.87189010989013,64.12820512820512,10.21040293040293,32.48571428571429,9.725611199111238,2.9470509890109886,1129,39,208,20,15,363,167,273,0.045,0.8240000000000001,0.131,0.9788,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,3,2,3,12,6,0,0,21,0,15,4,1,1,7,41,28,15,0,7,4,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,12,10,1,0,8,2,5,3,6,0,0,4,8,0,25,6,40,15,11,34,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,3,17,150,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353039708637927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542683765494023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439359252340498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349270460837464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054071193704352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304029026461419,0.0,0.0,0.1330786602556322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869184846144345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16130972572707813,0.11366471572120215,0.0,0.07686424190549994,0.0,0.0,0.12339745904952827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951471488348075,0.0,0.14488377992717733,0.1697569791946724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320306790391702,0.4042671222938356,0.11992261379912444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019676360379195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507634854098393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482081421184582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908777772562878,0.11346818203681212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633595919326616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967415269761278,0.15862047842786858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526346686877914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684174517646265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061609483435604,0.0,0.0,0.13544853079797878,0.0,0.0,0.097740135830425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143715075888058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677531651447243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418186404565722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thewillmckoy,2020/01/29,"In a less than 20 minutes.... My son (1.5yro) managed to break his second flat screen (he broke one last year), slip on a toy from running  causing him to nearly tear his acl (cried out in agony so he definitely was in pain) and peed on the kitchen floor. 🙃How’s your night going?",1.1514880952380968,3.3935635535714286,2.1678571428571445,96.14380952380957,83.10714285714286,4.447619047619049,20.047619047619047,5.46131890053228,-0.3237523809523811,213,6,47,1,6,67,49,56,0.09699999999999999,0.851,0.052000000000000005,-0.3862,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,1,5,0,11,1,1,14,0,1,1,0,7,8,0,0,3,25,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41470638570794655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44344044819403466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294294027970881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32906563697611496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788407921196676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27355445530533945,0.0,0.42956037538096536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599666062468541
parenting,rsb1041986,2020/01/29,"Anyone else go through horrific witching hours with their infants? I'm a mother of a 3.5 year old and a 6.5 week old and I know people say to cherish this time but holy hell. Not much time to explain either of course...

Every day for the past week or more my baby has literally screamed every minute between 715 and 1015pm. I have a really bad headache, I hate my life a little bit, I cry often, I do not enjoy my baby, and I'm losing my shit. And I honestly can't even say this is PPD. Because who wouldn't feel this way in these circumstances? Even when he's awake during the day the baby cries nonstop until he's asleep again.

Please no lectures, and maybe spare me advice. I don't think there is actually a thing physically wrong with my baby. So, just tell me if you've been through this torment, are going through it now, what it's like for you; tell me I'm not alone because I feel like I am and no one shares these stories. I don't know anyone whose baby does or has done this. Tell me how you made it out alive. I know I must have with my older son but it was different then and we didn't have another kid to look after (who is also sort of unraveling and misses his mommy very much {and she misses him.})

Crying and just at my wit's end. Kind words please.",2.3312434691745025,3.963075800766287,3.6398833159178,90.0968573667712,76.43295019157087,6.278021595262975,21.442180424939046,6.980632752743323,0.4236957854406129,988,25,213,10,22,323,156,261,0.205,0.69,0.105,-0.9868,1,1,0,0,0,1,33.0,1,2,1,1,12,17,3,0,9,0,20,3,2,2,1,41,37,22,0,3,11,2,2,2,0,2,1,3,0,2,16,16,0,0,7,0,0,2,10,10,0,1,5,6,30,7,20,30,5,26,1,3,1,0,23,4,2,5,21,134,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.10958520614906288,0.0,0.0,0.10973486127191896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163053295562914,0.0,0.08980348778095545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177526942497836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570406779046015,0.1150610570053817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376290493749126,0.13690983458174996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225987170827602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700573679372505,0.14484393279197255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732596401369776,0.0,0.0,0.0982714428368555,0.11491833015351405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380933425222444,0.0,0.0994613867962806,0.0,0.0,0.1483415868941503,0.0,0.18922932557573985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113560990944542,0.08022465749489849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764140224056333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086956629519028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105894534000912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693954662990633,0.18514569445071533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931835423442987,0.10972481631020578,0.11255061603436277,0.0,0.0,0.0943007955728347,0.12563108337326598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062576839885946,0.0,0.0,0.11281694966208107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510172881216872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356726182982416,0.0,0.07609502931759846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071997365181549,0.07785226865192271,0.0,0.0,0.24653571748828101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194002727700745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860540251510246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527076571531256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29445632873909644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460481913275795,0.07195507672975097,0.0,0.0,0.13096200966169566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265639099311496,0.0,0.08913575190208466,0.1801549920697926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277861780602442,0.0,0.07231527814771002
parenting,Mals19,2020/01/29,"I just discovered my son [18M] has been impersonating me and my wife on this site for months now. I'm not sure what I can do at this point. I am insanely shocked and disheartened my son could ever do this to us, exposing us to the entire internet and making us look bad by warping the details. This is extremely immature and a violation of our privacy and as long as he is doing this, it just shows a lack of maturity and he can't be on his own.

I found out when I got a call from his school, he tried to email the threads he made to his speech therapist, but the school intercepted the emails and gave us a call, and when I found out I tried not to explode at my son and instead asked him to talk about it when he has the time.

I don't want to lose my son over something like this, and I don't want our relationship to be ruined forever.

He's been making dozens of posts here posing as us, and getting himself banned for them.

TL;DR: Title.",8.510576923076924,5.147874179487182,8.862916666666667,74.93437500000003,63.615384615384606,12.826923076923075,36.68269230769232,10.9516,3.5351153846153838,735,24,164,15,8,247,109,195,0.12300000000000001,0.845,0.032,-0.9117,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,1,1,10,8,1,0,10,0,17,0,0,3,2,30,30,18,0,4,5,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,13,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,7,2,28,2,26,20,2,18,0,3,1,0,32,9,0,0,9,116,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214209073715922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015773463914816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24497571663206866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095774612824632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850651190378824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630497728363063,0.0,0.0,0.06267173687557323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593927827597984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05860414117210538,0.0,0.0,0.10615673957546967,0.10073231056078293,0.13419939067925538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135046842180834,0.16014229984036746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574724262687186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339661036454572,0.0,0.11488409861230113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878718977381845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24280250432278055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234751466786548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305652928584305,0.0,0.0,0.09641559338612636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927744574319653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994694874401694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628836625656903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7214577828541282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150558618858805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chopz,2020/01/29,"My 7 year old demands my attention approximately every 6 seconds. Is this normal? It's been like this ever since I met her mom 4 years ago, and as an introvert it's driving me insane. She'll say something utterly inconsequential, not even directly to me, and if I don't somehow acknowledge it, she'll say it again, and then say ""Daddy, I said [thing]!"" until I stop what I'm doing and acknowledge it somehow. And then it happens next time she says or does something totally unremarkable like touch her head or see a stick, 15 seconds later, and this continues for literally all day.  


We're at the park right now, and I told her I'd like to go sit and rest by myself for a bit, she followed me over, and 5 seconds after I sat down with a book, it's ""Daddy!"" repeated every 5 seconds until I explained to her that she can't just demand my attention every 5 seconds, especially after I asked to have some time to sit by myself. She said she understood, and then did it again 5 seconds later, and I think I'm losing my mind.  What's going on here and what the actual heck do i do?",6.704848484848482,5.558523592592592,8.020033670033673,72.53742424242425,65.3888888888889,11.0026936026936,33.98821548821549,10.230975488527342,3.3097740740740735,840,31,164,17,11,292,121,216,0.039,0.9109999999999999,0.051,0.3213,1,0,2,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,6,0,11,1,1,0,3,34,27,21,0,2,5,1,1,3,0,2,0,6,0,0,16,13,0,1,7,1,0,4,3,1,0,6,8,8,30,3,19,17,5,35,0,1,1,0,22,5,1,6,27,118,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.14029948838519524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744407304846314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440622021694693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696039536573567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272022374430297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581473026688916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495920790251326,0.1300488517562552,0.3633991096796264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341643238559614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713597727259804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475502416647891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107173422278548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608426661037746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516744778360496,0.16838253545519394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290179703897186,0.0,0.14086478504619676,0.0,0.0,0.15086319100712595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277941356650568,0.273517765204649,0.4573290040923106,0.0,0.0,0.11456665373513344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892862937313313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136345615364952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201987636940234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955148812802181,0.092122475347352,0.0,0.0,0.16766773179620487,0.0,0.0,0.13737908885897074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516726633257455
parenting,gavisc0n,2020/01/29,"Hydration My 2 year old is vomiting bile every 15 minutes but asking me for juice. Waiting for dr to call me back, should  be within 10 min. but its been like this for 2 or 3 hours. Any tips welcome!",0.2463414634146375,2.5328741219512203,2.2860487804878065,93.27785365853659,88.26829268292683,5.231219512195122,20.39512195121951,6.742157984588678,0.3896985365853656,153,5,33,2,5,51,36,41,0.0,0.8270000000000001,0.17300000000000001,0.8197,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,5,6,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,5,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,6,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26871200434717946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694070339756375,0.0,0.0,0.3038419493476848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034870060039025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329265243812277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891380180285585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930477827439281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146379820523785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544602866403226
parenting,SteffyLee13,2020/01/30,"Any tips? Hello! 
First time posting here! 
I’m 27F currently 5 months pregnant with third child. I work full time (sometimes overtime) and I have two toddlers (4F) (3M).
Any tips or recipes for quick and easy meals? 
Maybe with the croc-pot?
Truth is I’m exhausted folks and I still have to come home and make dinner after being up and down all day at work. I’m also trying very hard to avoiding carry out.... so please any tips will be really appreciated! 

Thanks Y’all!!",0.7812857142857155,3.3121292555555577,1.7326984126984148,94.09,95.33333333333331,4.34920634920635,17.539682539682538,6.1826913282559595,-0.1513650793650796,363,10,73,4,14,113,70,90,0.071,0.7559999999999999,0.17300000000000001,0.8959999999999999,1,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,3,5,4,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,1,2,14,12,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,9,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,4,2,10,9,2,16,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,9,37,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17386496464470527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4435445471732851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728190527500746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021329168919522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849312453690717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19475919485659796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808279906527306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512475480310985,0.0,0.21842041382808008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353684970366615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386540036691489,0.0,0.0,0.20822139632696607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928022850921568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502685186483653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362616992021968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016452703214085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535503435586943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476090428003188,0.0,0.21238074730708434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17938835720298482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165582647686777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HotelIndiaFoxtrot,2020/01/30,"Just found out a ""weighted blanket"" was used on our 6 year old at school...?? I got a note sent home with our son today from his teacher saying ""great day today!  Stayed in seat!  We used a weighted blanket"".  I asked him about it and he said his teacher said to keep this on his lap during class time, so for approximately 2 hours total this thing was on him.  I have never heard of this being any sort of discipline option ever, nor have any of the teachers ever said anything to me that this was a practice they used. 

For context, our 6 year old has been having some difficulties with being wiggly, and gets in trouble a couple of times a month with not staying in his seat.  I am fully aware of this, and we have been working with him at home, and he has made improvements.  Other than that, according to his teacher, he is a sweet kid, participates in class, and loves math. The teacher that did this was his normal teacher who has been with him since day one of first grade.

Am I crazy for thinking this is a strange method for trying to restrain a 6 year old?


EDIT: Wow, thanks everyone for the fast and direct responses.  I admit I was probably a bit overreactive in my initial assumption as the whole thing caught me off guard. We have a meeting with his teacher tmrw to discuss the whole thing.",4.551106684373615,5.807634338645421,4.986181938911023,84.15071159805227,70.15537848605578,7.330765825586543,27.490261177512174,7.594959193182576,1.507945374059318,1013,34,196,11,18,322,136,251,0.036000000000000004,0.873,0.091,0.9395,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,6,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,16,0,23,3,0,4,4,37,42,9,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,16,16,2,4,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,18,8,28,5,38,22,5,35,0,0,0,1,35,12,0,3,19,140,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795076958856196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951818950720143,0.0,0.10169634047593544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187616003380374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036504227557893,0.0,0.14031058127645546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19679881311089825,0.0,0.10394571450878523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252978166802707,0.0,0.11927367808389833,0.0,0.0,0.05683402413510227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700277874645161,0.11993236799353807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21823411985129845,0.0,0.10712820475468507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669030193682457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981798621143579,0.10293201184299727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682863072917436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389926494526341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658311139175412,0.0,0.0,0.34244474131887626,0.0,0.07371339337447823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728522751026953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104293357655378,0.08650768921747408,0.0,0.1100930345854402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998546619006481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318939454748548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015170744675804,0.0,0.0,0.21680947216980498,0.0697030137689195,0.0,0.0,0.1268631370784188,0.0,0.20622493880303236,0.0,0.0,0.07385573203317755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28185776114796524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26493396208354064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24290208992862056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919447864474816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101558246139273
parenting,anonymouslyhidd3n,2020/01/30,"I hate myself right now Growing up I was abused by my dad, and my mom was a pill head. And I dont want to be like that, not at all. 

And right now my heart is breaking. 

My 3½ year old dropped something and it broke and it just set off my emotions. My inlaws have always had a say about her life since she was born. They fed her the first egg behind my back, they do everything for her that I wanted to do before I could do it. Like take her to the aquarium or disneyland because they had the money. Which, I let her go bc I'm not going to deprive her of fun because I cant afford it. And most recently she started calling my MIL mama instead of me. 

So I yelled at her..a lot. And I just.. felt horrible afterwards. I held her, told her I was sorry, cried and even if she doesnt understand, I explained to her why I yelled at her. Why I was sorry. And how much i love her and how i feel like my in laws are taking her from me. How i never got to have her to myself because my inlaws always had to have her instead. And if i said no, it was an arguement. A screaming fight about how they said I was a selfish. 

And now I just. I want to cry. I feel so broken. I want to move out of my inlaws house but we dont have money. I want to curl up and cry. I dont feel like a good mom today. I feel like a shit person and I just want to disappear.  That maybe I'm not the mom she needs. 

I cant talk to my husband about it because hes just upset with me and I understand and he has every right to be. But every single time I brought up how much this bugged me about his parents it's always just blown off.  

She's okay now.

And I look at her and all I see is just how i missed out because my inlaws took her from me no matter how hard i fought. I see her and i see the missing parts that I didnt get to be apart of because of them. I see her and I have so much love for her, and I want to give her the world but I feel like I'll never be able to do that because I'm stuck here.",-0.2606068811723468,1.3638631347031982,2.122284166932144,97.9893134756292,84.31963470319636,4.987660613783583,17.94860358925348,5.8840308858928765,-0.5304318360412021,1495,34,376,10,43,510,175,438,0.151,0.774,0.075,-0.9711,2,0,1,0,2,0,44.0,1,0,5,1,30,22,4,1,13,1,37,9,3,7,4,75,84,37,0,11,16,6,7,6,0,0,2,6,0,1,14,25,2,1,9,0,2,7,14,11,0,1,22,18,94,11,45,56,9,43,0,4,5,2,53,17,1,5,22,272,108,0,0.07322186694198933,0.08675593899796909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277937693159493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056303095962277165,0.0,0.31244759326927196,0.0,0.062306415722304075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476771284327839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584617026356388,0.0,0.2412923478053532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257446448184006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236474491588353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04836235254330992,0.0,0.1233851618637037,0.0,0.06580709263422425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851158799840282,0.20923886549511184,0.07030447498640817,0.0,0.0,0.06228248261544805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03825540335608075,0.07024108681956565,0.08322734876343675,0.0614150280029937,0.05856221593835177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559241053963821,0.07229143443527912,0.07514675999160522,0.0,0.0,0.08676826487580118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844882034950158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487431988144863,0.051718770048992994,0.21463503365097214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061487926832847886,0.0,0.0,0.06225061283533855,0.13217118737539466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356120703106175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572696968001439,0.0,0.07782325665748624,0.16147949165505898,0.05429308654657792,0.1129464355411497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683403211182667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813042180153416,0.0792921464793303,0.0,0.0,0.0639345099146768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229776005336735,0.0,0.0,0.187593222872925,0.13930152620128794,0.05822896750281279,0.0,0.0,0.23339339154277816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516119418945037,0.06056988498830852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056369770468699225,0.0,0.1639317705580314,0.05182681429242091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010746273320046,0.0588529630529471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0426962594485299,0.0,0.06940576825282788,0.06996663171724286,0.08135218835443453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524530915888844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023170796487918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214269196458753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04715248163743328
parenting,blurp9000,2020/01/30,"Conquering monsters and nightmares We have a 8 year old that is afraid of monsters. She won’t go 10 feet down the hall to her own room or even go to the bathroom without someone with her. It could be her 6 year old sister, she doesn’t care as long as she has someone “to scare the monsters away.” The lights will be on, her brother (12) will be playing video games in his room with the door open, and she still won’t go without a buddy.

We’ve tried getting her to imagine a dragon that would protect her from anything scary. No luck.

We’ve tried explaining that there are no monsters, that there’s nothing there that will hurt her. No change.

We’ve tried to encourage her to be brave and face her fear but she breaks down in tears because she’s terrified.

To complicate things even further. She’s been having nightmares and refuses to sleep in her own room without a buddy. I’ll lay down with her until she goes to sleep but she wants someone there all night. Her younger sister has been sleeping in the same room the past few nights but she has her own room too.

She hasn’t watched anything scary since December when she started having nightmares. She knows which videos are too scary for her.  Her mother and I are trying everything we can think of to help her but it’s getting frustrating. 

Any advice or tips that have worked would be appreciated.",4.133476917484551,5.95303930152672,3.778004362050165,90.19762086513998,72.01526717557252,6.5171937477281,27.361686659396586,7.07126945348624,1.2093014903671395,1075,39,214,10,21,322,130,262,0.122,0.807,0.071,-0.9319,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,10,10,1,3,11,0,29,5,5,0,1,32,40,15,0,4,9,4,0,0,0,7,0,0,6,0,10,11,0,2,4,4,0,3,10,5,0,0,2,2,33,5,32,25,6,33,0,1,1,0,41,17,0,3,12,145,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860734104492544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825399246937857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19976441193773076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140368614814366,0.0,0.0,0.07398975701260291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237510450276098,0.0,0.12839984250642358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690895644628268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033556687424655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908503150674352,0.0,0.0,0.13658188110772412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682802759868325,0.0,0.20694254065922507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135585565314711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993564828351264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670514204323934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741404792557656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278065353170516,0.0,0.11646366198327247,0.0,0.2547276434257733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586724183874846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151867172345855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040358186061588,0.0,0.3643913332493508,0.0,0.3085247812603553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591064342269167,0.0,0.09693112731123124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063690174581165,0.07777291761869022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32962567628004685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159078112884175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510067490410036,0.0,0.08836326193745576,0.0,0.0,0.17244422833545378,0.0,0.0,0.1563244853751679
parenting,avacodoprincess,2020/01/30,"14 year old caught vaping again My daughter(turned 14, 3 weeks ago) has been caught vaping. My husband saw her in a circle next to a convenience store with her friends and asked her if she was smoking or vaping and she said that her friends were but she wasn't. 

About a week and a half ago, I saw her vaping next to her school while on my way to work. I was disappointed in her, my husband and I sat her down, talked to her about the risks and made her watch the vaping episode of Broken on Netflix. She is grounded and her cell phone was taken away. She promised she was giving into peer pressure, wasn't addicted and that it wouldn't happen again.(shes still grounded and doesn't have her phone)

This morning her older sister(16) caught her doing it again, called me and put her sister on the phone. She didn't deny it.

 I'm at a loss here. I don't even know what an appropriate response to this is. My husband wants to cancel her phone all together and if she wants one she can get a job and pay for it herself. He want to stop giving her bus tickets to get to school(15 min walk uphill, not a big deal).

I would like to hear from anyone else that's been in this situation.",3.2413314005352336,4.863195385593219,3.8042105263157886,89.91152988403212,73.95762711864407,7.002319357716324,23.438001784121322,7.669130373188453,0.8988338983050848,925,26,196,12,19,291,129,236,0.09699999999999999,0.818,0.085,-0.5853,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,2,11,0,20,1,0,1,1,27,41,16,0,7,5,4,0,1,2,2,1,2,0,0,11,13,0,1,1,2,2,5,7,4,0,2,19,5,38,4,26,20,1,34,0,2,3,0,47,13,0,3,16,131,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933585305294615,0.0,0.0,0.2591238456846014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219839279668358,0.14975807868813387,0.0,0.0,0.13663976610863152,0.0,0.1373220270333103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492455883552051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068442773106014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209783245750112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653722823777702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258455353990749,0.0,0.15272501898276902,0.2804197675825402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924870716905792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473281751433458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504113702173071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032565259973973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140633895904612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383000209987513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31088540026304945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337021679757304,0.0,0.09904172345459812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469310581076951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903152474563268,0.0,0.0,0.29584322160547544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428983912936107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672347618203195,0.12219621183593984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174777823643682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158979988396293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586266682666711,0.11601491672941973,0.2344812935030331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640613996994333,0.0,0.0,0.10382779163505088,0.0,0.0,0.09412217649532376
parenting,kittenpanties,2020/01/30,"A stranger made me cry and it's not fair This has been a tough week for me all around. And my daughter turns 4 this weekend, she's my baby and my last. I just finished getting a few things from the store including her cupcakes. Got her loaded into the car and was finishing putting everything in my car. I put the basket near the front of my car and am checking everything is settled but I'm not in my car yet. This older guy pulls in and parks, and then proceeds to tell me I'm lazy. I'm actually still trying to decide if I'm going to leave my basket, or walk it back to the store, and I'm looking for the cart return and evaluating if it's safe to leave my child for a couple of moments. He tells me I'm just lazy, the cart thing is right there, and it's ""just lazy"". I tell him I can't leave my child. So he shakes his head, says ""lazy"" again and takes me basket. I'm willing to bet if it had been a woman she'd have said ""oh, I'll take it"" which is what happens 90% of the time. 


IDK why it's getting to me, but I'm crying and he was an asshole and I just really didn't need that this week.",2.251922224956928,2.8832559790795003,3.865326113709085,92.3903987201575,74.98326359832636,6.795077528919518,23.26384444991385,6.794906146795322,0.4451332020674377,845,22,204,7,17,283,125,239,0.098,0.885,0.017,-0.9214,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,14,0,15,1,1,1,1,33,35,21,0,4,12,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,16,15,0,1,1,1,4,11,4,2,0,0,9,3,26,1,20,24,2,34,0,0,1,0,19,7,0,5,16,124,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.13401309356397842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225174254465375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559736620831346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195169913410092,0.30169846469943085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468445310594083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349725423075718,0.0,0.07804711868604856,0.0,0.1098343822257257,0.0,0.0,0.13597709740677238,0.12143939948521147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093896256643493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194129658825483,0.0,0.43623409414745024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153216002812435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994382587450148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018275610719501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761067379805384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797634229345475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727804019387142,0.13063113159452128,0.1092093694003291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967095272242527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20650832544441386,0.0,0.3600942583448849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247029791890346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007752447098693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932372370005899,0.14937429351427708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203137508855557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239178769537467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KillerKitty10,2020/01/30,"Kids father is planning on moving out of state My children are older, they are 15 and 17. Their father recently started dating someone who lives out of state, and she explicitly told him that she wouldn’t want to live where he currently lives. He is planning to move out of state to live with her. My kids don’t know yet, and I know I can’t control what he does with his life, but I worry how it will affect the children.


Has anyone had any experience with a parent moving out of state without their kids or maybe their own parent moving when they were teens? How did you react to it and was it detrimental or not that big of a deal?",6.1847356580427455,5.717420724409454,6.351856017997752,81.83732283464569,66.16535433070865,8.831946006749156,28.37907761529809,7.957251820313856,1.6473833520809895,500,13,101,5,7,160,79,127,0.034,0.956,0.009000000000000001,-0.6199,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,5,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,13,1,0,5,1,26,18,10,0,2,5,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,7,11,0,1,2,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,5,0,16,0,18,11,1,22,0,0,0,0,26,7,0,2,7,71,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753872923275887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029104153177283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087126795616588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787217084550458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551837506617802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030409142951586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765303426980454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131031609007064,0.0,0.0,0.5066125987254234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409679753065005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.609782384512227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185286896338577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416218699066557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152953136554705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152196065244183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705549393995015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845999538040956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826340154212682,0.0,0.0,0.1456622341288389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ky_climber,2020/01/30,"Unexpected change - Emotional expansion There have been a lot of things that have happened since my 2mo twins were born. Most were expected, but unexpectedly I have experienced an expansion of emotions in depth and type.

To be clear, before their birth I was a stereotypical math guy: emotionally level, stoic, and a little detached. I never understood how people could get so emotional.

I expected to have feelings of love I've never experienced before towards the kids and wife, but I have an increase of love for people I already cared for; I'm gushing for friends and family.

Also, I tried to watch Our Planet the other day and I couldn't get past the baby flamingos who were dieing part. It was too much. I never have felt that strongly in this circumstance before.

Anyone else experience this expansion of emotions? Is this common?",7.3877702702702726,8.93748602027027,7.5630810810810845,67.1994864864865,63.79729729729728,10.514594594594595,33.71891891891892,10.577609850970193,4.0002356756756745,673,28,103,17,10,218,94,148,0.008,0.7829999999999999,0.209,0.9867,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,1,5,5,0,0,8,0,16,2,0,1,4,21,26,10,1,4,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,9,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,8,5,12,5,14,15,5,15,0,0,1,2,9,6,0,2,8,78,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238938621243582,0.09593960909253058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388550167752279,0.12292298555035308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062557631637953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231695598536856,0.0,0.1269118808724602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957859269599164,0.0,0.0,0.07737043757911588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450945643519926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021916831717508,0.6747480046685747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117353244289973,0.11309661861519255,0.0,0.06066021124900148,0.0,0.11518958570149727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268817992211574,0.0,0.1253582809425014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878872017336793,0.10608868051004708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024101036920087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199382476795736,0.2165544130496678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819142615805836,0.0,0.2775837480962872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991533617315654,0.11452451425338875,0.16634356651381876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924005490602768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970244097282868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145145224470307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikefromrsd,2020/01/30,"How to motivate myself to play with my kids more Love my kids and love being a father. I only work two days a week (from home) and am with my kids ( 3 1/2 and 2) the other 5 days a week. We don't send them to day care so we are together legit everyday. It's a blessing and I know how lucky I am. But, I am having trouble motivating myself to play with them. I can only play with the paw patrol tower so many times! Etc. Any idea on how I can motivate myself to play with them more? Looking for tips and tricks",-0.079250764525991,1.9259361743119283,2.567178899082567,92.8356001529052,86.33944954128441,5.468195718654433,16.422782874617738,6.816661863887847,-0.18672538226299684,389,8,89,5,12,135,64,109,0.035,0.667,0.298,0.9848,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,4,5,11,1,0,6,0,9,2,0,6,0,22,14,11,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,12,0,0,5,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,17,9,13,13,3,9,1,0,1,2,12,1,0,1,7,62,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919828281072284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369106202421707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244810184800808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24468696094921785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220074258640696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476738348797309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057549948608025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842392105611078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960308384955693,0.0,0.0,0.22243531403187766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333724397826628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279328404760439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432013764264946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519759649529697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597244847694304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamma_ocd,2020/01/30,Approved to rent a house (we are desperate!) But it has 3 ponds on the property and 1 pond is close to the house. We have a 5 month old baby. Is it safe to rent this place? We will suggest fencing the yard around the house. Also I will enroll my baby in life saving swimming classes this summer. I am so nervous about it though.,0.5430223880597005,2.869405895522392,2.2941604477611968,93.53138992537315,87.05970149253729,4.544029850746268,20.315298507462693,5.985473137389443,0.06485223880597024,253,8,53,2,8,83,49,67,0.042,0.867,0.091,0.5025,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,6,0,8,1,0,0,0,10,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,5,6,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,7,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,37,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19003533125748606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154409288211504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8225910592865491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784748670903055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896766998814736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24935626217472576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482763084973996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23347359316004554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tech-in-da-skies,2020/01/30,"How to adopt my 2 sons Hey guys, long story short my fiance has 2 kids (3yr and 18m) from 2 different fathers. 3yr's father is not in the picture...like his name is not on the birth certificate. The 18m's father is in the picture and has bare minimum rights, (visitation for 8 hours every other Saturday), my question is how would be the best way to tell 18m's   father that essencially I'll be taking his parental rights.
To clarify any confusion, 18m's father is not the best person in society. He smokes around my son (he has asthma), there is always alchohol on his breath, and he lives with his mother, mother's BF, sister, and sister's BF.  

For clarification on where I live in a state where the college rivals is a cowboy and a sooner scooner.",7.684685714285713,5.789074173333336,8.421809523809525,72.84900000000002,63.93333333333333,11.23809523809524,33.42857142857143,9.957137785484203,3.0690571428571434,586,18,114,10,7,199,85,150,0.016,0.9109999999999999,0.073,0.836,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,10,0,13,2,1,2,0,17,14,7,0,1,3,12,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,2,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,9,2,15,11,2,20,0,0,0,0,29,13,0,2,4,64,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488334046790027,0.0,0.0,0.1429269457746928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710127652279587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44113367099898737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21958927624661775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708241733671606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810736904939325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698110803334127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711786692136133,0.1859992223188325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333756709211467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351765148933533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23544531745865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589784582473373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802625999020778,0.0,0.1837031631137372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682799423315786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930306129971413,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wostil-poced1649,2020/01/30,"Looking for advice on how I can I encourage my 2 children to embrace their special needs sibling? Anyway I encourage my 2 children to embrace their special needs sibling?

I have 3 children, 1 with special needs and 2 without. My special needs son is in the middle and all of my kids are within 1 - 1.5 years of each other. Lately I've noticed that while my youngest and oldest seem to bond really well, they often neglect to include my middle son. Whenever they play or engage in any activity, they tend to not even think to include him. My middle son is not very expressive, but I get the sense that this exclusion is really starting to weigh on him. 

Me and my wife have sat our two kids down multiple times and explained how important it is to include their brother whenever they are having fun. They always seem receptive and promise to be more inclusive in the future, only to resume the exclusion shortly after, saying that ""they forgot"" about the things we talked about.

I really want my middle son to feel included, especially with his own family and I'm worried what this type of exclusion could do to his social development at such a young age.

Does anyone have experience getting their non-special needs children to embrace a special needs sibling?",8.747727272727275,8.319726077922079,8.723560606060609,66.80534090909093,60.948051948051955,11.336363636363638,40.02922077922078,10.686352973137794,4.561132467532468,1008,48,158,21,12,329,129,231,0.059000000000000004,0.7829999999999999,0.158,0.9522,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,10,0,9,13,0,0,7,0,14,1,0,2,1,35,34,12,0,8,5,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,9,11,1,2,5,1,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,3,32,12,31,30,4,23,0,1,1,0,35,13,0,4,10,117,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184183968160666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077893079285675,0.0,0.0,0.09870902308916353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014943583135301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589286584511573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702437565036964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587219294976944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198749470450187,0.13683733785017985,0.0,0.07339372230911115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167291163683405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637389156769471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189196917418292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6457746981481898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525766191076172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039540358610052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789662017368474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154314981409598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642836942109397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479652123171723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274004630699436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666848969815713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643320884765963,0.09300818663713764,0.0,0.0,0.08463988637478148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179339746074185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976643342314812,0.08561500502495771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050998655313706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992232011388955,0.0,0.0,0.1474099257283918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934737782566744
parenting,1nana12,2020/01/30,"How to tell my parents my sister needs therapy Sorry this is kinda long, I don’t know if this is the right place but I just want other parents opinions of how I should go about this. As a parent how would you best like to receive information about your child who is struggling and most definitely needs help? Also sorry for any spelling grammar issues. 

My parents are really strict and I don’t live with them anymore. I’m (23F), and my sister (13) recently told me some things and I am concerned about her mental health. 

Our brother joined the service out of high school 3 years ago and she can’t get over the fact that he no longer lives in the same house as her. He’s different now then he was when they lived together as he’s grown and been deployed. He’s not bad, he’s just more independent and he’s on his phone a lot. Now that he’s back home and lives in his own apartment she can’t get past the fact that she doesn’t see him everyday. She keeps saying things like “I just want my old brother back”. And I don’t know what that means because he is not mean to her at all. They talk less I guess but to me that’s neither here nor there. But to her she thinks he doesn’t love her because they aren’t in the same home. 

We have an alcoholic uncle who also doesn’t “like her” but he said that’s because at the time of her birth he lost a child (his x wife got a secret abortion, and they would have been the same age.) and he resents that she got to live. (I don’t think that’s right either but we don’t even see him anymore as he’s pretty much estranged from my family now). She cries a lot and says  he never loved her. Which I kind of understand where she’s coming from but she hasn’t seen or heard from him in 5 years atleast so I don’t know why this is relevant to her. 

She does sneaky things and when she gets caught and punished she cries that my parents don’t love her. Which they do. They have always been tough love kind of people but the love they have for their children has never been a question. 

She’s also the youngest so she’s always been spoiled to some degree. 

I don’t know I feel like she needs therapy because she can’t process things and thinks nobody loves her. I just don’t want to offend or insult my parents by telling them that I think their child needs therapy because their good parents doing the best they can. But I know she does not open up to them like she does to me and I just don’t want her to keep spiraling with no help. How should I even go about this.",2.1653625053625056,3.8996594401544438,2.8406460746460773,95.19909867009869,77.18532818532819,5.83996567996568,21.163620763620766,6.5355237356304725,0.10272727584727592,1962,50,443,16,45,612,213,518,0.08,0.765,0.155,0.9937,9,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,3,2,14,3,30,24,4,1,18,0,43,8,0,5,5,94,90,44,0,13,20,12,1,5,0,4,2,4,2,4,25,23,1,2,16,0,0,6,27,8,0,0,14,8,84,16,43,72,17,44,0,1,3,6,110,17,0,12,26,292,109,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052541053637108086,0.06334374453036706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421993961124738,0.09863810793809764,0.0,0.0,0.040306993984868617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756379853940953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115302202044284,0.04948964600121788,0.18065831183593326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244046189268499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05105758154960671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302150223237099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061926626843104814,0.0,0.0,0.1556079855226494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829719682367628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587636855295893,0.0,0.02996970521092339,0.04234393017834017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290152428351604,0.0,0.06737128949018628,0.04971454326147308,0.09481046943796884,0.0,0.06529479275171474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300336660059415,0.0,0.0,0.07945754728056173,0.06262412452913582,0.11890930179817638,0.0,0.0,0.06839193246858667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186457089392972,0.0,0.10536735778801974,0.0,0.1234453384334707,0.1628717114215566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447865315276044,0.0,0.2616913190548587,0.052453856720716986,0.0,0.0,0.06470239205824015,0.10078187328042232,0.3209717764375533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291291730461825,0.0,0.0,0.059732237242489473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357174150347909,0.17579775424263772,0.0914284441206468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219599563140511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607018081253398,0.0,0.05658183281804435,0.0410917432490382,0.0,0.061926626843104814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030093485493245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639820744180235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037971162322995286,0.0,0.05852395149450276,0.0,0.0,0.10123593195702944,0.056381247195601523,0.0942709502256805,0.0,0.05998643055594265,0.09446422348150503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13270030747099662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06196396597751101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047640590143816164,0.10361268479491736,0.0,0.20334810019071445,0.0,0.15751073801847446,0.1519164227140732,0.0,0.0,0.03456198110588748,0.0,0.0,0.05663693809920385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617042445765185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984065020837236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348376276927505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421025945963524,0.0,0.0,0.07633845215004137
parenting,JuniorPomegranate9,2020/01/30,Holy melatonin My son (6) has been having trouble getting to bed lately so I got some melatonin gummies and gave him half of one before bed two nights ago. He was zonked within 30 minutes. I was curious if it would work again the next night so I gave him another half of one and got the same result. I'm floored. I had no idea such a thing was possible.,1.125,3.451149277777777,2.5061111111111143,93.12500000000004,84.0,5.266666666666668,22.88888888888889,6.6274283507984215,0.603272222222222,276,10,58,3,8,89,55,72,0.07,0.897,0.033,-0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,8,14,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,9,0,7,0,4,4,2,8,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,6,39,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790231927656655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459318079806197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19957315570238268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253556045445113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751602817864367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26476298634003065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645672135406713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24943206432102055,0.4401929448684643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178557952774765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644044899502295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581552651751754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291079302043709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074525292392112,0.0,0.0,0.16660789075016375,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bucklax31,2020/01/30,"Hypospadias Surgery Hello!

Father of a beautiful 5 month old boy. Wife and I just met with our sons future surgeon for his hypospadias surgery at the end of March. We talked to the doctor for awhile and I have been reading up on it, I'm a lot less nervous now that I originally was. I just was wondering if there are any other parents here that can share their experience. 

Thanks!",2.110761035007613,4.876312191780824,3.0911415525114165,87.34742770167429,84.61643835616441,6.5321156773211575,24.549467275494674,7.793537801064563,1.6055613394216133,302,12,58,6,9,96,59,73,0.025,0.843,0.132,0.8306,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,4,0,6,2,0,1,0,10,10,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,8,2,9,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,3,7,41,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087173954905628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141475379702978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718416763988952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30022848124212786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260933997107875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449821073618285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220628713469069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34080041339656963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070049260801067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466921720380209,0.0,0.2825724204118797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328436741552732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aquatot,2020/01/30,"Siblings Sharing a Bedroom- pros and cons? Okay, so my husband and I have a 6 year old daughter. 

We WANT another baby eventually but life has been hectic and we are buying our first home this year (hopefully!). Our MAIN must have in buying a home is good school/ location/neighborhood. 

Unfortunately because we live in the San Francisco Bay Area buying in areas like this can be quite pricey. We will most likely end up buying a 2bedroom 2 bath home. With that said... 

What is the general consensus on bedroom sharing for siblings with a larger age gap like this?... Are there any negative implications to having an older child (maybe 7/8 years old), share a bedroom with an infant/toddler? If we have another baby and live in a 2 bedroom house they would have to share. I grew up sharing bedrooms with my siblings but we were closer in age... also does gender matter in this case? Any input would be great.",4.274031936127745,6.680659556886232,4.932838323353295,79.52628343313377,73.19161676646706,7.327584830339322,28.498602794411177,8.238735603445708,2.2599065069860287,714,29,121,12,15,229,106,167,0.044000000000000004,0.758,0.198,0.9779,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,8,0,1,2,3,12,0,0,11,1,19,1,0,0,1,25,22,9,0,6,3,2,0,3,0,4,1,1,9,1,6,14,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,13,12,16,13,2,23,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,3,13,79,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217212274693066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20701424552698752,0.3192081473909348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278499938976993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331988427493855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481171372956616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946862658472022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766542040887666,0.0,0.1678106085118109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4580331531383469,0.15117756437969992,0.0,0.17562838232779338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750949296991054,0.2230844200232967,0.0,0.26880610841602715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529140786347461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194348136025383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189266833295196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447853113835484,0.0,0.0,0.1540433115411344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977662384026057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162493602749507,0.0,0.0,0.2940522012595023
parenting,jaimbot,2020/01/30,"My MIL overrules my parenting techniques to the point where it is getting out of control, and I don’t know how to set loving but firm boundaries. My mother in law is someone who likes to have control over everything. Her heart is in the right place and she probably thinks she is helping me, but she verbally cuts me off in the middle of disciplining my 2 year old to tell me what to do or what I’m doing is wrong. She creates rules for my daughter to follow without discussing it with my husband or myself first, and will tell me to follow her rules, even though my daughter is with me 99% of the time. 

I spend so much time working with my daughter and teaching her things and my MIL is unknowingly just undoing all of the things I’ve done and sending mixed messages to my toddler about who is the main parent. 

I try to be assertive as much as possible but she just is so dominating, and I would like to have a loving but honest conversation about her following our lead as parents instead of taking the lead over me in front of my kid and I’m not sure how to go about it. Any thoughts would be appreciated :)",8.41,6.373723636363637,8.222727272727273,75.29409090909091,62.63636363636364,10.981818181818182,38.36363636363636,9.3871,3.3949454545454545,880,36,174,12,10,284,118,220,0.054000000000000006,0.8109999999999999,0.135,0.9679,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,6,13,8,1,0,8,0,20,3,1,6,2,39,33,22,0,3,10,8,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,12,0,3,3,0,1,8,3,2,0,1,2,0,32,6,36,26,4,27,0,0,0,2,30,13,0,3,7,135,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532822904544548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31445095090302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345434751250075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258856062580258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598609591035154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192383148111272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323904952156816,0.0,0.07966837861958241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611575596233358,0.09396070653884793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704008796709799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697120301593804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530385589562037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20609906834093744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709690629586247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669649090440041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645983448747046,0.0,0.1325168309688875,0.15803358193630726,0.0,0.0,0.1511393697084293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971423759424625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877533255692213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211940756551346,0.0,0.10539904442713556,0.0,0.245049624684276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626072334467625,0.0898226468196093,0.13772761492373098,0.11128845492917597,0.163481923378521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517403875839107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351299664706269,0.0,0.1020538037128918,0.0,0.0,0.19916183540648286,0.1532664674323181,0.0,0.0902722918789951
parenting,chezzer-99,2020/01/30,She has been getting worse by walking into his room whenever moving his stuff around and throwing away all of his food constantly she is going through his belongings and now has taken his tv which he owns from his room and hidden it from him she won’t tell him where it is and had no reason to do it. Hi just looking for some advice I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is struggling at home due to his mum she seems to keep making it difficult for him to live there even though we are trying our best to move out but we live in a small area so this is very difficult at the moment.,5.1964285714285685,5.012700166666665,5.354047619047621,87.21000000000002,68.16666666666666,8.523809523809524,27.142857142857146,7.957251820313856,1.369535714285714,460,12,100,5,7,145,87,120,0.085,0.894,0.021,-0.7140000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,3,0,0,1,8,4,0,1,2,0,12,1,0,2,1,18,19,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,7,10,1,1,2,1,0,5,2,3,0,0,3,1,19,1,19,15,4,23,0,0,1,0,21,12,0,2,6,77,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18569355516404534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916556617334313,0.0,0.0,0.17853793906581933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19942308411663065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535319377490505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255119673446015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297830980392271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928199693104403,0.0,0.10799752008361778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061398121150933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890597500775165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355971209599883,0.0,0.15957599783468818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684543395412534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039402359303197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940284171944556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538084647924545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299472024642928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986589453981476,0.2175370564349957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660931992208141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18670194017401956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901681119090702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679333306437845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936551762558198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223720605856492
parenting,Br45-3,2020/01/30,"No longer swimming, starting to sink, need help. Foster care, adoption, and disabilities. My husband and I adopted two children from a family member. My 4 month old daughter was still in NICU when we got custody and is currently on target. My son however is a very sad story and I feel like I am struggling. At the moment he has a regular pediatrician, ENT, dermatologist,  a neurologist, an early childhood development doctor, he also has early intervention and is doing physical, occupational, and speech therapy. How do you manage to keep it all together? I am going to have to reevaluate my current organizational method because the folders are becomming over full and I am having trouble keeping documentation seperate. My husband will be off tomorrow so he can handle the babies while I figure out a new organization system. I feel so overwhelmed with everything going on with him and it is difficult for me to keep track of everything. Also he is just now starting to walk with support, he has finally been cleared of a staff infection, he will giggle when playing but never cries. He is having night terrors. I don't know what I am doing, I do but I don't. I understand the medical side of everything but I am a ER trauma nurse not a pediatric nurse so I am under trained in this field and feel like I am failing. Am I just thinking too much? He has started reaching his goals so I have to be doing something right but I feel like it is more of organized chaos.",4.324686346863467,6.855076701107013,6.054574169741695,70.96155129151292,73.50184501845018,8.616442804428045,32.24221402214022,9.281916038205594,3.5154922804428055,1170,58,188,29,25,400,162,271,0.10300000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.091,-0.8484,3,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,1,1,0,3,14,15,0,3,13,0,38,4,0,1,3,38,57,23,0,1,7,4,4,3,0,2,4,1,0,1,5,14,0,3,8,2,0,4,5,8,1,1,3,5,28,7,25,50,4,38,0,3,0,0,19,12,0,0,24,145,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191110536386168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076722602402862,0.14632941890653942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508665290997268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553864188233742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356134136387701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572316933292287,0.0,0.1249037268879516,0.0,0.2679721658024154,0.2839616188735561,0.0,0.14514090450734102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059899847635566,0.0,0.1059677041249976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880806002372382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35330076079263123,0.0,0.0,0.07281533960779953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418990023130311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347395330794018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575559520348177,0.0,0.0973984716924626,0.09824276009734924,0.10218768425700492,0.12796371047025565,0.0,0.12433681816639265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390303602945556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314931091507426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020004974693802,0.0,0.0,0.2813402004013218,0.0,0.10581002809587002,0.0,0.0,0.13851169078774206,0.0,0.0,0.1503528321549715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151864868319076,0.0,0.0,0.08489692451330748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942756757181384,0.1379311202929759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932157937044573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hessunacademy,2020/01/30,What is your child's love language? Quick and easy quiz! Do you know your child's love language?  Take this quick and easy quiz to find out!  [https://hessunacademy.com/how-to-teach-kids-about-love/?utm\_campaign=playbuzz&pb\_traffic\_source=reddit&utm\_source=reddit](https://hessunacademy.com/how-to-teach-kids-about-love/?utm_campaign=playbuzz&pb_traffic_source=reddit&utm_source=reddit),41.88793103448275,54.52223641379311,17.189241379310342,-17.845103448275864,12.448275862068956,3.6993103448275866,16.144827586206898,5.6839178017228535,-0.8279986206896552,372,3,26,1,5,75,20,29,0.0,0.594,0.406,0.9497,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,6,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,2,13,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7485832438694368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786612528630015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492430372020104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6235587122781804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986655608821795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lightoasis1,2020/01/30,"My 2.5 year old is back to losing her mind if we try to leave the room at bedtime This happened at 22 months old and at that time we used the chair technique where you stay in the room with them sitting on a chair (in our case just sitting on the floor) until they fall asleep. Each night you get closer and closer to the door and eventually outside of the door. It worked well and after about two weeks we could go back to the old ways of saying goodnight and just leaving the room.

That lasted for another 4-5 months and we're back to her not letting us leave the room at bedtime. Instead now the chair method won't work and neither does crying it out.

Has anyone been through this for an older toddler and have a method that worked for them? For context she's still in her crib and we don't plan to transition her to a toddler bed until she's a bit older.",7.74096590909091,5.538517528409095,7.069545454545455,83.5618181818182,64.05681818181819,9.48181818181818,32.79545454545455,6.6274283507984215,1.820786363636364,679,19,146,3,8,210,103,176,0.028999999999999998,0.943,0.027000000000000003,0.1665,0,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,6,2,3,5,11,2,0,0,15,0,8,1,1,1,0,23,12,12,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,7,16,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,18,1,29,8,3,44,0,1,0,0,18,18,0,1,20,101,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387011742641045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593606717368013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31650369358152225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979098300382535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095460471637383,0.0,0.15071190039101365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006794503240985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168330772765326,0.0,0.07797606520096792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121328842007821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183938610929099,0.0,0.43583695004755263,0.0,0.14030015219033107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349592493381228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385366968081016,0.0,0.2190294828089064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875644510671438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4319168340662396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109109946046463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624096486761773,0.10957110914672087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000462252039499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315235455086322,0.0,0.13402814825978993,0.0,0.16503924364987493,0.1185000061451929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890596750033917,0.1100565894868377,0.0,0.12336266808170693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996579392052756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835473043839669
parenting,Sapio12,2020/01/30,My GF Wants To Spoil Out Upcoming Child She already has a little 4 year old boy that literally tried to beat us up and bully us into getting him Mc Donald's in the middle of the night and will fight you over YOUR phone. She tries to correct it only for him to be right back from his room doing the same thing. I don't wanna deal with two tiny terrors. Help,3.7167999999999988,4.256552413333338,4.734666666666667,87.83400000000002,71.53333333333333,7.066666666666667,23.0,6.742157984588678,0.5270000000000006,281,6,61,2,5,92,66,75,0.12,0.845,0.035,-0.7717,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,2,2,0,1,1,2,1,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,9,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,11,0,14,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,0,4,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26246281328849597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288459886053932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24520302531717236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426180083795862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941941735720935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383785797111525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22319711862685107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495735074856956,0.0,0.0,0.18088835383721427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20311441569191147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801060403831613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32295606036385177,0.0,0.23233552682884326,0.0,0.5721854717637894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028443956591785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316142997391508
parenting,jake_smith2020,2020/01/30,"When my daughter can change on her own Hi, new to this - looking for some opinions.
I'm a single dad to a little girl. My ex left us a few years ago and no longer has any contact with us, so I've raised her on my own.
She loves to swim, and I've taken her swimming most weekends for years.
She comes in the men's locker room with me.
What sort of age would she be old enough, when she wants to go in the women's by herself? (she's not asked about it yet, but I was curious)
Thanks.",0.8659047619047621,2.2146226380952427,2.333333333333332,99.11333333333334,79.76190476190476,5.047619047619048,19.285714285714285,5.033348758259628,-0.6170000000000004,367,8,92,1,9,119,76,105,0.016,0.922,0.062,0.6808,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,5,1,0,0,0,13,14,6,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,1,16,2,15,10,7,21,0,0,1,1,21,7,0,4,10,60,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19694202888868248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108454483252862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770078255988214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350284645112101,0.1913814627696599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295630150078936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626543933326373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413904741115987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226746609070404,0.0,0.0,0.18656848285072106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20051885935461813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145750540801655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331320885378947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204546082130874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5344910018984221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310427725877314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782457909741834,0.0,0.0,0.28614290365186995
parenting,FriendlyGems,2020/01/30,Counselors for Parental Advice Does anyone know of any reputable online counselor resources for parental advice? I am one of those parents that like to handle situations that happen to my child. Just needing parental advice on a situation at hand without airing it online to a forum.,7.433125,10.275366062500003,6.544166666666667,69.51750000000001,65.45833333333334,6.466666666666668,37.0,7.1686216300943375,3.2045249999999994,233,12,29,2,4,71,37,48,0.0,0.883,0.11699999999999999,0.6908,4,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,10,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4733679436062682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980701552279744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290550985134468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413059024625789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278983045830432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874120730017887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888743537120152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973000725532255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094181227041778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7171855742269448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36300430060966377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565398071919972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bodegamoms,2020/01/30,"Potty Training Troubles My 3 year poops in the toilet by himself but he’s not understanding that he also has to pee in the toilet. He’s never been in daycare, I was told daycare kids learn these thing quickly. He’s only around other kids his age a few times a week for his swimming and karate classes. How do I fully potty train him so he’s not a 4 year in a diaper in pre k?",2.604791666666668,3.662100562500002,4.655000000000001,85.4366666666667,74.625,6.333333333333334,24.583333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.8038333333333338,295,9,61,2,6,102,57,80,0.028999999999999998,0.971,0.0,-0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,4,2,2,1,1,9,6,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,9,3,1,14,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,7,40,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884602264437117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32110900921325725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27820233856947296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743367510831724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396401693586711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103333172018943,0.0,0.0,0.3446745436862308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37551257283122896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893403758113177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645717449351051
parenting,demarvelous1,2020/01/30,"Loot bags for 1st birthday? Need some advice. 
My sons first birthday is coming up. I originally wasn’t going to do loot bags but some people have made me second guess that. 
Are they required for a one year olds party? I was going to do them in the future but I just feel like first birthday they’re not quite necessary?",0.634761904761902,3.1155373174603227,1.851126984126985,93.01192857142858,96.46031746031748,3.7898412698412702,15.823809523809526,5.6839178017228535,-0.5154495238095236,253,6,49,2,10,80,48,63,0.0,0.882,0.11800000000000001,0.8095,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,0,13,14,2,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,3,1,7,1,6,11,2,11,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,7,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696447519037979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376973278679679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395232329738516,0.1971311360496039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4694277623775323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136453980155263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039783180034877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348100345173829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611004971882051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046055412361506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28955194345249363,0.0,0.18698365372342035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130161028569573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934954785788804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769590273299318
parenting,TexDad3,2020/01/30,"[Serious] I’m feeling like a bad parent but I need the experience of others to guide me about my 1 and 2 year olds flu. Over the weekend my mother babysat my 2 daughters overnight. When I picked them up the next day my mom was feeling I’ll and my girls felt hot. I gave them Tylenol and the fever was up and down in my youngest, but my oldest wouldn’t break. I ended up giving my oldest ibuprofen and Tylenol and her fever finally broke. It turns out my mother had the flu type a. My nieces also contracted the flu as they were in contact all day yesterday. Now my girls are fever free and acting back to their normal self. Should I take my kids to the dr? I don’t know what they will do for them and I don’t want to go and then tell me nothing is wrong with them. Again, they seem fine and fevers are gone. I’m still going to be giving them ibuprofen as I know flu gives aches and such. Please give any advice or share your experience. Just want to make sure I’m not putting them in any danger. Also I know fever is a “good” thing as it means the body is able to fight infection. I continuously monitored temps and the highest we got was 104 but quickly dropped back to 101 after lukewarm bath and cool fluids. 😞",2.555084485407068,4.2648624193548414,3.242327188940095,92.85075268817208,76.01612903225806,6.175422427035331,22.696620583717362,6.868970318607317,0.4448749615975425,952,27,210,9,21,299,146,248,0.111,0.743,0.145,0.6464,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,1,10,0,12,13,2,0,12,1,17,16,1,2,2,40,43,24,0,6,6,5,4,1,0,3,15,0,1,4,5,16,0,0,8,2,1,5,4,6,0,0,9,5,37,8,25,30,1,37,0,1,0,0,31,9,0,2,22,127,42,1,0.12759971600492953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468896569640085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20408289357726897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735443649281148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623261069474385,0.10654043302041798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173451918460836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458252152410294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130154747781276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496340134373388,0.0,0.0,0.12903650070915762,0.09115726260955044,0.12251573767230732,0.13977925185855605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4896210984161324,0.14503571828442144,0.10702458785741367,0.10205314934503398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21037640068634364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623387759293965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851738012613235,0.0,0.0,0.13899349786791984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944324520970673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461357260752447,0.0,0.0,0.13570374555845924,0.0,0.12502062969988414,0.1224353688901012,0.0,0.13389443736459256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168438421516447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400661706978448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827295786299892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616198914070895,0.1331143322571634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190129802880933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026122225403528,0.0,0.09593910645511623,0.0,0.11152777597345227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477158148110878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879184983252854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052323698870426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951025851239202,0.0,0.08217003358615374
parenting,lillian-gish,2020/01/30,"Opinions on raising kids tech/screen-free? My daughter is 7 years old and currently home-schooled, but we are moving houses later this year and will start at a school which fits my ethos. 

We do not have a TV in the house, no games consoles, or a computer. I have a laptop I use for work (which I’m using to post this), it only comes out after she’s in bed and even then only rarely.

She occupies herself with painting, playing games, books, etc. I can see how it would be easier on long car rides to use screens but I’m not a fan of them overall. 

It’s bad for the eyes, and don’t seem to provide very many useful qualities at all. Everything a computer does can be done with pen and paper, or book, or calculator, etc. 

I know a lot of people on here are very enthusiastic on technology, I would love to know other people’s positions on this, how it affects your day to day life and why!",3.5219102564102585,4.569099883333337,4.822222222222227,85.15115384615386,72.3888888888889,7.982905982905983,26.068376068376068,8.384062270229773,1.5554658119658114,689,22,146,11,13,229,117,180,0.055,0.8290000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.9187,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,1,1,4,3,0,0,9,0,15,3,1,7,1,34,28,14,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,10,12,0,0,3,6,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,3,14,2,22,22,4,27,0,0,3,1,12,11,0,6,11,93,24,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119282299926644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547435054219145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290553266657036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731023759222743,0.1371822395687351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29900792363563,0.08854040553902615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204777344931803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446557770493955,0.0,0.0,0.3093571510613901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734348574521813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468523827530244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186322354961722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396663345849226,0.12098760622027355,0.0,0.0,0.13590818475553032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424765823509288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406655384741153,0.0,0.0,0.20390591896190285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587023593034704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838523014029446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713365537324438,0.1068224789045384,0.1220363524752609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488304257195444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4631132438160954,0.0,0.2212146871576032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096152193057115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759180946832316,0.0,0.0,0.1904540858568284,0.0,0.0,0.17265081729062207
parenting,universeinmypockets,2020/01/30,"Different Parenting Styles I have a four year old.  He doesn't have any behavioral issues, but he does typical preschooler things.  He will pretend he can't stand up if he doesn't want to do something like get his shoes in the morning, and he has a hard time calming down if he gets upset about something.  He does sometimes still try to hit or kick if he is upset with us, but not nearly as much as when he was younger.

My approach in these situations is to acknowledge his feelings and help him try to calm down so we can move on.  Or I will explain that I need to do other things, like pack my bag in the morning, and that when he is ready he can ask for help with something.  

In contrast, my husband takes a much more authoritative approach--especially if he is tired or stressed out.  Things like telling our 4yo he is being disrespectful and/or crying about something stupid if he is upset about getting dressed in the morning.  He will also send our son to his room for whining and say things like ""I don't deserve to whined at while I am cooking your dinner"".

I feel like my husband's responses don't teach good behavior or help de-escalate minor problems.  I have tried to talk about this with him the past, and things will be better for a little.  But a few weeks later it will get more frequent again.  Does anyone have suggestions about how they have dealt with different parenting approaches?  Or is this more than 'different approaches' and more like worrying behavior?",7.634869047619048,7.246538939285718,7.030000000000001,77.90833333333336,63.17857142857143,10.323809523809524,35.80952380952381,9.725611199111238,3.2706738095238093,1173,48,221,20,15,364,148,280,0.133,0.723,0.14300000000000002,0.6309,5,0,4,0,0,0,27.0,4,1,1,2,12,18,1,4,9,0,31,4,1,1,0,34,43,27,0,8,14,5,3,6,0,5,1,1,1,0,12,12,2,0,4,2,0,5,6,8,0,1,1,4,22,10,35,34,7,32,0,2,0,0,42,14,0,10,18,145,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336663041480685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089182575734489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289222544951109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745727270264899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219837838550986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451090444783145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326749122612534,0.0,0.0,0.27368287995538204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054212636451806,0.07447438330953107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21785991366067972,0.0,0.0,0.08743779652289099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338521910193134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20962456040634705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880723037822612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30558016513715097,0.10448330952114082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079851791379636,0.15326770871418927,0.07729814686118816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939013925874448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315088636263969,0.0,0.09951596575705524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975070956176556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290173883826599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717847673696401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210190522126887,0.103103371776524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325213056958572,0.0,0.11941507642515635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838109201585063,0.08379013371030243,0.09111684686148296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462867945048297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607875135344258,0.11981708293583225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21233148165585292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539682009649758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061487833923359124,0.0,0.08362099854015863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586832330617543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713192567073767
parenting,MysteryMechanix,2020/01/30,"What is an appropriate age to allow dating? This is my daughters account I dont use reddit.  She is 14 and a boy her age wants to take her to a valentine day dance and I'm ok with it but she likes this boy alot and he also likes her which I am afraid of.

What is an appropriate age to allow daring in your opinion",0.3277310924369772,2.251735470588237,2.775042016806726,92.46911764705885,84.0,5.0621848739495805,18.537815126050425,6.1826913282559595,-0.2301831932773113,244,6,56,2,7,84,45,68,0.0,0.777,0.223,0.9331,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,5,1,6,0,0,3,0,11,10,5,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,3,7,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,7,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35611281722263666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28718695809437295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.521897909405504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43511019918037264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348163570467843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846033197828274,0.0,0.0,0.2626543216921952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,analogkid825,2020/01/30,"GPS tracking for your little ones? My first grader (six going on 7) naturally wants a phone.  He is device savvy, as with most his age, but we obviously aren't going to give him a smart phone at least for another couple of years.  I have an old smart phone that I'm gonna do a wipe on and he can use that, we will just have rules on where he can bring it and make sure he understands it is not a working phone (so no calls, texts, don't rely on it in case of emergency).  Whenever he is on wifi he can feel like his cool older cousins.  So that solves that for now, but it brings up a larger issue.

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Has anyone used more family friend devices like kids smart watches? The verizon gizmo comes to mind but there are other alternatives.  I love that he could call and text only pre approved numbers from it.  The GPS tracking is also great...I just wonder if we are inviting another thing to watch and worry about.  Why does the watch say he's here? Why hasn't he moved? Signal disappeared?  I feel like this is going to give us just another thing to obsess about.  Wife says she'll only track him in case of emergency so she won't get ""hooked"", but we (the grown ups) use the life 360 app on our phones and it so easy to get tangled up in tracking everyone just for the sake of convenience.  We've definitely lost a few degrees of personal privacy and had some needless fights based on simple application faults.  One recently that I can chuckle about now is when I magically flew over trees in straight line, completely offroad, and my location was in the woods for several hours.  After a brief heated technical discussion on the failings of application api and GPS failures (I'm a cyber security guy) she dropped her theory that I was at a mystery tryst in the wildings of the state.  But I digress.

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So the ability of my son to be able to contact us via a smartwatch would be great, the GPS tracking piece we would need to be familiar enough with how to use it if needed but not use it regularly.  I always tell my son (he can be a nervous type) that I'm never far away even if I'm not with him.  He would need some guidance on and the whole ""this isn't a toy, don't text me to tell me about a new minecraft update"" speech, and also not lose the darn thing all the time.

​

The whole thing seems like a lot to manage, but you always have that nagging feeling of ""what if"" something happens (insert nightmare kidnapping/natural disaster/school incident here) and we don't end up getting it.  And yes, yes I too will wax nostalgic about all we had to do was come home by the time the streetlights were on, there were no phones/tracking/apps back then and we came out fine.  I agree with this sentiment, but as my Mom used to say about cramming 8 people in a volkswagen bug and having open containers ""those were different times"".  That saying still doesn't make sense but it makes me feel better.

​

If you are pro GPS smart kid watch, product recommendations are also welcome.  Most seem to have pretty dodgy reviews, not to mention the added cost.  I already feel like I give a quarter of my paycheck to verizon.

​

Thanks fellow neurotic parents in advance!",5.473650729335496,6.238830058346842,5.782962317666128,81.07522143435983,67.7034035656402,9.022512155591572,30.49793354943273,9.120678840339163,2.4632010048622366,2514,93,486,44,40,803,311,617,0.071,0.758,0.172,0.9972,3,0,1,0,1,0,95.0,11,3,0,8,31,28,2,2,36,3,50,2,0,10,5,93,96,41,0,13,23,6,5,5,2,8,1,5,1,4,30,31,0,2,9,1,1,14,16,8,0,5,11,15,44,20,74,72,14,69,0,3,4,1,68,32,1,13,26,314,74,5,0.05806134922459701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640721426562528,0.1392949199937676,0.0966233875051503,0.3145472381353768,0.3527544721962478,0.0,0.18264716137286385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04059784537144947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455054885925025,0.04464559364051306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051350545083658494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185742584126477,0.06640671579301673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002942250756656,0.060876219998593835,0.0,0.0,0.04635726286085527,0.06424377857250461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066175221146036,0.0,0.0,0.05080987797497268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142512189151738,0.05999289452597865,0.0,0.038348973573220216,0.0,0.0,0.055480107348560806,0.0,0.0,0.05473507272119794,0.0,0.14678781358151535,0.12443711846177467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04938695398978821,0.0,0.0,0.044858054383519606,0.0,0.09100397572810967,0.16709321035110056,0.09899280836596927,0.0,0.0,0.1280256849893744,0.0,0.057489864124672475,0.05134345936876067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058240267305322224,0.0,0.05717873341806892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060096377837415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04101044803542437,0.14182921219553346,0.05819272518678492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495579826436906,0.06338082137865945,0.049361682817255635,0.052402634541620335,0.0,0.11626920438355222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586254112867126,0.06800075048006106,0.0,0.061710025587924336,0.0,0.129155264272062,0.0447804918906508,0.056076012884283176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06092561904100322,0.0,0.07868774574823087,0.08831654485981022,0.0,0.0,0.06447025721648812,0.0,0.0,0.04025242894668745,0.050696930612278326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590692655932481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057328577785927676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846908612612696,0.0,0.058761185162788124,0.0,0.10571374340460113,0.0,0.06559279811779467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04469846325396906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046367868491665486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472213451633908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014963567597136,0.05345508957772548,0.0,0.0,0.15429352198576646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156811894959354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060443912186263125,0.13968130842363305,0.30087818279785805,0.0,0.0,0.034246088090353975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478267362006463,0.12964684583788846,0.0,0.0,0.06296505650273784,0.04226935374283842,0.058964118502538576,0.0,0.1237353498829873,0.0,0.3527544721962478,0.03738960528453075
parenting,ParentsWithoutSleep,2020/01/30,"Survey for Caregivers of Children with Sleep Problems  

**Parent Stress, Quality of Life, and Child Sleep Habits: A Research Study**

**What**: Anonymous Online Survey with a chance to win a $25 gift card: [https://pacificu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_3CwegaUof5LrRvT](https://pacificu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3CwegaUof5LrRvT)

**Who:** Parents of children between the ages of 6 and 11 years

**Why:** We are interested in learning more about how child sleep problems impact parents’ lives.

For more information, please contact: Carly Gysler, MA Email: [gysl1769@pacificu.edu](mailto:gysl1769@pacificu.edu) or Allison Brandt, PhD Email: [Abrandt@pacific.edu](mailto:Abrandt@pacific.edu)",12.33678571428571,15.714674583333334,7.548809523809522,47.175357142857145,106.73809523809523,5.685714285714287,28.5,6.6274283507984215,2.806985714285714,571,21,57,9,24,155,65,84,0.094,0.746,0.16,0.6983,3,0,0,0,0,0,72.0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,4,0,1,4,3,1,0,11,1,4,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,12,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,1,2,26,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316246466865121,0.0,0.0,0.16455062743779436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.620759482113836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455654320620684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35662391978204416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5594542945879719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21346350729185665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815205703429226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000340940126918
parenting,curieworry,2020/01/30,"How to get a 15-year-old to get up and go to school? I’m mentoring a 15-year-old (Big Brothers Big Sisters) that has had a rough background and has had to be fairly independent from a young age. She is fairly isolated and spends all of her time home in her room. Single father, they aren’t close. Dad works at a factory and leaves for work before 4am. She is responsible for getting herself up and to school (a 25-min walk) every day, and has had this responsibility for years. Grades were never a problem. 

This is her freshman year and it isn’t going well - she still likes school a lot (it is the only thing that makes her feel like a normal person, she says), but she had a friend group break-up and is rather lonely at the moment. She stays up all night and is now missing her first couple of periods of class ALL the time. I found out because she is now failing 2 classes. 

She doesn’t talk to her dad, but she is fairly open with me. Any advice? Things that I can do, or advice to relay to dad. He means well, he just isn’t sure what to do. He has taken her electronics away to hopefully enforce a bedtime. But he goes to bed early for work. Really, in my opinion, the kid needs structure.",2.7623750000000022,4.444513820833336,3.84,88.905,75.375,6.466666666666668,22.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.6858583333333335,927,26,195,10,20,300,138,240,0.051,0.856,0.09300000000000001,0.7986,1,2,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,1,5,8,11,0,0,15,0,25,0,0,3,5,36,39,14,0,5,6,6,2,2,1,0,0,1,3,2,10,13,0,0,3,0,1,3,5,4,2,1,7,3,22,7,29,31,5,34,0,3,0,0,34,14,0,4,18,129,32,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461288501428993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856416499045704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832219381640012,0.0,0.0,0.07677017988695407,0.0,0.10716332570029533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393471739279263,0.0,0.08121910898470891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610756640467824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367765858155065,0.08996959796303207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071221621813334,0.0,0.13808369648496044,0.09729880846273807,0.0,0.1973910488407204,0.0,0.14314608502693088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632533201085744,0.1250841072224091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334936592100735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305315994181112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706734805687644,0.0,0.0,0.08406409360148577,0.0,0.0,0.1371825871539735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338087658254553,0.09713057249617088,0.0,0.0,0.11818357974019897,0.1233917679095076,0.0,0.0,0.2642999220100908,0.0,0.0,0.09578095506481113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996355078442803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050494192747065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067862841263616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015035750904344,0.0,0.3823656673548097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423235410383702,0.10057365209431557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869436956529247,0.0,0.0,0.10122359270640437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733422847971113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687004875580478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22646542793433835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27505145799496433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243978449866509
parenting,BuzzMonkey,2020/01/30,"Parenting Pro Tip - Buy a decent camera and GET A TRIPOD! Throughout all the years of school plays, concerts and other activities one thing is certain. You will record just about everything. In many cases, a quick video from your phone will be just fine. In others though, you will really appreciate having a decent, mid-range point and shoot camera with optical zoom sitting on a tripod filming your child.  Trust me, it has been a fantastic investment for me for a the following reasons. 1) I get steady, focused video of the event.  2) I can zoom in and out with the optical zoom which will always be infinitely better quality than zooming on a phone. 3) Might sound silly but your arms/shoulders don't get tired from holding your phone above your head. 4) Most importantly for me, I watch my children with my own eyes. 

If you've been through these events already, you know about the sea of parents holding their phones and iPads (yes, iPads) over their heads to film their children, all the while having to watch the phone to make sure the child is in frame.  That's not me though. I find a spot off to the side, set up my tripod, attach the camera, find my zoom and let it go. Then I sit back and enjoy the show with my own eyes and have very little concern for monitoring the video. One additional thing I purchased that made it even better is a remote control shutter adapter. I can turn the recording on and off from my seat or from behind the camera without ever having to touch the camera itself. 

My camera is barely mid-range and my tripod is likely considered entry level, but those two things have made a world of difference for me and the experience of seeing my children perform with their classmates.",6.979115131578951,7.395068931250003,6.502796052631581,78.43838815789476,64.375,8.986842105263158,30.279605263157894,8.6894789155246,2.27890625,1358,43,244,18,19,421,176,320,0.005,0.888,0.106,0.9796,2,0,0,1,0,0,41.0,0,8,4,4,10,10,0,0,27,1,24,5,4,5,5,43,35,19,0,1,8,2,1,1,0,5,1,2,0,5,14,18,0,3,4,8,3,2,3,0,0,4,4,8,33,10,42,23,5,31,0,0,5,0,24,17,0,4,10,175,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486671132468348,0.0,0.11209801558836373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359153370811433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23829817405033946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110018267647302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407539565854132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898143500049502,0.12186215223402218,0.0,0.0,0.12107784728958144,0.1317822263390935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462636815742208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21115726436788304,0.0,0.07656460588455931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27652362583903306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403870989615924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776055293776282,0.0,0.06581749470844338,0.13502505311708046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549510598907343,0.08992679323964127,0.1365851583154213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291686418925031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257981586555772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991817233919474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735415370571798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863052228995038,0.13851482419682148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634405541862926,0.10735457337662972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269722133828964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685063846238375,0.0,0.26472386507094914,0.0,0.0,0.15484107520992066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653691391492085,0.13160207972151844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111582908765476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986548496763534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675540496455245
parenting,tallandfartsoften,2020/01/30,International Schools in US US citizen married to a Thai citizen.  We currently live in Thailand and have a 2 yr old and a newborn.  Starting to think about schools and we really like the diversity of nationalities and cultures of international schools in Thailand and are wondering if there are similar schools in the US.   Anyone here have experience with an international school in the US?,7.624925373134327,9.898542537313435,8.656895522388059,56.86385074626868,63.92537313432835,12.524179104477609,44.743283582089546,11.979248473330829,6.55368895522388,318,21,48,12,5,108,40,67,0.0,0.9570000000000001,0.043,0.4201,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,6,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,7,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,11,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,4,36,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443774392625594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211550758528054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598394914821658,0.0,0.11926127732228585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417237283629139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652349142508163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6834443683443893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559682277254394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654159165724297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6498466859757128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646781936091435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The_Young_Celt,2020/01/30,"Friend was traveling internationally. Should I be concerned? I’m completely ignorant, forgive me. 

I have a really good friend who is traveling back tonight from her month long trip to Uganda. She had a layover in Amsterdam and returned to O’Hare Chicago. She is someone who is over at our house almost every day. We have a two year old daughter and my wife is due to have a baby in the next couple of weeks. 

Should I at all be concerned about her spending time in my home this close to the birth? Or with my two year old? Or wife?",2.8343689320388346,5.188564135922334,3.893019417475728,85.49700485436894,77.54368932038834,6.838446601941747,25.83398058252428,7.908726449838941,1.573664854368932,418,16,82,7,10,135,69,103,0.023,0.852,0.125,0.8959999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,0,1,13,14,4,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,1,2,1,3,0,1,0,2,2,0,13,4,14,8,1,25,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,3,15,57,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20020971547393102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374050999690894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096319109255838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212283559581278,0.0,0.12894391358352644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845696836712426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089442695698973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769908590782967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005548065946524,0.0,0.0,0.2307024022755179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693944764089664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595891536541915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21263706350115968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196040405986001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808584359174602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940740196154905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165858571431894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906220929221611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037875581886754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575079203252284
parenting,LashesandTech,2020/01/30,"In your opinion , what age is it okay for kids to start walking to school alone? My son just turned 10, and he asked me if he can walk alone to school. The school is 13 minutes from my home. What age did you let your kid(s) start walking alone? My son has no siblings.",0.7087878787878772,2.8873010000000012,0.8577272727272742,105.23992424242424,84.45454545454545,3.6666666666666665,18.25757575757576,3.1291,-1.1359696969696973,205,5,50,0,6,60,39,55,0.142,0.8270000000000001,0.031,-0.6868,0,3,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,10,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,6,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,4,27,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6216034307106658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702847874301026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067583186666615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045742316290661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.607412204284446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28320606393330955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176071156086517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allnew508,2020/01/30,"Circle time, karate, and a 3 year old Hello all! My young 3 year old son went to his first karate class last night. During the class, they had a ""listening blanket"" all the kids were supposed to sit on while listening to a story. My little man had a very hard time sitting still, and I'd really like to work with him on that. I am a SAHM so he currently isn't in daycare/school. Does anyone have any ideas on how to practice sitting still with him? Currebtly, the only time I can get him to do so without being strapped down (think car seat, high chair, ect.) is when I'm reading to him. However, when I'm reading to him, he wants to sit in my lap and won't sit for more than maybe 5 mins. I am allowed to hold his hand and help him during class, and am planning on returning next week to see if it goes better at the recommendation of the teacher.  Any help is appreciated!",3.8740823970037472,4.534768561797755,4.845561797752811,86.74208801498129,71.24719101123596,7.731086142322098,26.631086142322093,7.793537801064563,1.3044591760299622,676,21,147,8,12,221,110,178,0.01,0.8859999999999999,0.105,0.9476,3,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,1,4,7,2,0,0,10,0,14,1,1,2,2,17,23,12,0,2,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,7,0,1,2,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,4,5,15,2,25,17,3,38,0,0,1,0,19,10,0,1,22,84,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22201553499062995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414014420523033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443711745596193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285109828000905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885057196202238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528537099952066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622961926597305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883063116986096,0.17247042183144878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18427638012349987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306115243632854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975007828320338,0.1636078462722079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16399499893965794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360598071204073,0.15318826010688394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34258266070560944,0.0,0.0,0.12415022366058302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32656531933159144,0.0,0.10457475345991528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520606172039853,0.13007993799781942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260724929990978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459662991548432,0.0,0.0,0.2855570200213975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468884585323687,0.09628228782424336,0.0,0.130940066284162,0.0,0.0,0.15132371102386788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735607437404442,0.0,0.11883956125076535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21024046472940267
parenting,SavvyPanther,2020/01/30,"Halp. Baby hates her crib So my problem is twofold. 

1) My 6 month old hates her crib and she’s getting too big for her bassinet in my room. She wakes up immediately when I try to gently sneak her into the crib when she’s already asleep, and she screams her head off if I try putting her in the crib when she’s awake but sleepy. She can be walked/rocked to sleep, but the second I try to lay her down, she tenses up and freaks out.

2) I can get her to sleep in the crib if I let her suck on my finger, but when I take it away she wakes up (either immediately or sometimes when I’m lucky she makes it an hour). She won’t take a pacifier (thanks hospital advice against pacifiers: “just use your finger and it’ll be fine” they said) but I feel like if she could learn to suck on a pacifier or on her thumb maybe she could sleep better. I know there are problems that come with these down the road, but I’m not getting any sleep right now.

Any advice for 

a) getting a child to sleep on their back alone in the crib? I’m starting to feel like CIO is my only option, but it just breaks my heart. Doc says swaddling isn’t good after 4 months, but that was working really well up until then. 

b) getting a child to suck on their own thumb or pacifier—I mean, is there a brand of pacifier out there shaped like a thumb or something? I’ve tried dipping it in food/sugar and warming it up before giving it to her. She still hates it.

Please help!",2.639636708491391,3.8762655402684563,3.3617011963816767,94.0378217099504,74.80536912751677,6.256434199007879,22.016924423694192,6.498293943080001,0.1658270790779106,1113,27,257,8,23,351,150,298,0.10400000000000001,0.769,0.128,0.8658,0,1,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,3,2,16,20,6,0,14,0,15,12,12,2,0,41,42,27,0,7,18,0,5,3,0,2,0,3,1,2,11,10,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,10,1,1,2,8,42,10,38,33,2,46,0,0,0,0,34,27,3,9,19,159,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963333877485974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040445082826524,0.1108582386254687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663018576149422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438388528745244,0.07724623632346561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854826192253769,0.0,0.0,0.08884720791956469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653593535496865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041556580442368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158947580469216,0.14353486762893405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214745822641902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26242659287095044,0.0963687608886825,0.0,0.08425966078508405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975453374157954,0.10309920408539314,0.0,0.0,0.11904357619097646,0.06733508488112104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989311955364076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520925771634985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272542405121443,0.0,0.14723656176745906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705669926630925,0.0,0.10092387080042474,0.10942854549728556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603697226980891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541409314634184,0.0,0.0,0.07640306846902589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027305282585634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922500631302028,0.0,0.1009883442096056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435616314774417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857908443520959,0.09555885364078047,0.079888476960615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.502654278484435,0.0,0.0,0.07733771183812077,0.09935583325700538,0.0,0.07110490597900672,0.0,0.08022613286683596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106428770745678,0.0,0.0,0.09248851108267073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728183818254181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676372185842413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903240815704254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313484315497028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amy_apple_,2020/01/30,"Nursery Rhyme Earworms Any other parents to little ones struggle with getting nursery rhymes out of your head? I can't even do chores without singing- ""doing the washing up, doing the washing up, lala lala lala, doing the washing up and then I'll clean the floooooooors""",8.059375,9.1768111875,6.137500000000002,79.55750000000002,62.125,6.4,41.0,3.1291,2.794575,219,12,33,0,3,63,35,48,0.042,0.9009999999999999,0.057,0.1725,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,5,4,1,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,24,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580686172131826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506519008033686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826970903895044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894698508357812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803522186362103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571546407111578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213826606269164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967290397012492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658182255175813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Saxiquine,2020/01/30,"Question About home schooling I see many posts saying that the kids Are being Home schooled on Reddit.
Mostly in the US I guess.

1. Is it very common?

2. Why do you choose that over the kid going to school?

Thank you for helping me w my curiosity.",0.0880102040816304,2.408035836734694,1.4885459183673468,95.29975765306123,98.79591836734691,3.266326530612245,16.32908163265306,5.148860815047168,-0.7351857142857141,192,5,39,1,8,61,43,49,0.0,0.897,0.10300000000000001,0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,1,6,7,1,6,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,3,1,24,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727160374397425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22731419036411385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830986566631573,0.0,0.4139651957820892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20920320007164456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19762313090706796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23115556586042474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409520439777697,0.0,0.6265017309959596,0.16443163056451476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997634837924288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24820971324509844,0.0,0.0,0.1702576652740377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619583153826333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeabaSquad,2020/01/30,"Looking for TV recommendations for 3YO My daughter is 3, and so far her screen time has been limited exclusively to PBS shows. Recently with Disney+ we’ve let her watch Out of the Box and Little Einsteins as well, but those are the only exceptions. We are very strict about this, not from a religious standpoint or anything—and I would like to think we’re not the mega post-modern fart-smelling types of parents—but we just believe that any screen time she has should be at least somewhat educational and empowering. At least at this age. And I don’t see the value in shows like Paw Patrol, PJ Masks, etc. and I think that most of the Disney movies have too much violence or dark themes for a toddler, not to mention the questionable love stories (love at the first sight, etc.)

But with that said, I would love to be able to introduce more variety for her. Would anybody have any recommendations for shows I could introduce her to which would fit with our values?

Her favorite shows right now are:
- Daniel Tiger
- Mr. Rogers Neighborhood
- Pinkalicious
- Out of the Box
- Little Einsteins

We have Hulu, Netflix, Prime Video, Disney+, and basic cable. She also uses the PBS Kids Video app and is familiar with all of the shows on that app.

She loves art, dance, music, nature, and most of all she loves gymnastics. 

I really appreciate any input!",7.122560975609755,7.802742394308942,6.539333333333335,77.38900000000002,64.08130081300814,9.812032520325204,31.44065040650407,9.725611199111238,2.8255352845528456,1063,37,193,20,15,328,146,246,0.036000000000000004,0.789,0.175,0.9911,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,0,0,2,7,8,0,0,12,0,21,5,0,1,2,42,32,15,0,6,9,1,0,2,0,5,0,1,0,2,8,17,0,1,3,11,0,1,4,0,1,1,2,7,20,8,33,21,11,20,0,0,6,5,24,13,0,6,8,127,28,1,0.12829772412378074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259964362909642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617405557617835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144547600683337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024352930320123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28617175273953505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912997859876514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311931153533194,0.0,0.1253595748770305,0.2571760491870292,0.0,0.0,0.10773777565646987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5789685254964699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431358935631756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757620051300214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287375494399325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437228133321619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219080732467639,0.0,0.1266785246194682,0.0,0.0,0.10956555539485384,0.12204051552491665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022366753643149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441600236694487,0.0,0.0,0.1496228693590869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080804071035603,0.0,0.10585905882675363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535506192453004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645560887039979,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Boohoo622,2020/01/30,"Santa... Easter Bunny... and now, germ fighting ninjas. So on Tuesday I finally got the boys (1 and 4) their flu shots, better late than never right... I’ve put it off because in November my oldest had his infusion he gets it every 6 months for a bone strengthening medicine and it’s a disaster every time. So the simple flu shot throws him into a frenzy of panic. I explained to him last weekend we HAD to get his shot this week (side note: the museums in my area are free next month and I want to take them but obviously they’ll be exposed to lots of germs I just want to protect them as much as possible). 

So I explained to him the concept of a flu shot is to prevent getting sick and in the midst of this I came up with “Well when they give you the shot little ninjas get sent into your arm and go into your body so when I take you to the museums next month and you touch germs the ninjas will start fighting them and you hopefully will not get sick.” 

He was laughing and warmed up to needing it done. It was still horrible, my husband had to hold him. BUT he quickly recovered and was still laughing about the ninjas that are now in his body. His arm was a little sore later that evening but he was telling us “I can feel the ninjas fighting!” It’s amazing as parents the crap we makeup to make our children happy and comfortable.",3.371491228070173,4.918563342105267,4.343984962406015,86.47908521303259,73.47368421052632,7.021553884711777,26.576441102756892,7.62386473244151,1.4356486215538844,1043,37,208,13,21,338,144,266,0.14,0.711,0.149,0.5969,1,0,0,0,6,0,27.0,4,6,6,1,15,15,4,1,16,0,17,12,6,1,2,36,38,23,0,4,5,2,3,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,10,18,0,3,3,3,1,5,2,5,1,0,12,3,35,11,33,22,2,44,0,0,0,0,40,16,1,2,23,142,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909618538057628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475592751280148,0.0,0.2882525220827077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840279205393989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278230264782248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857005904102715,0.0,0.2186448893303284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656069830132478,0.0,0.0,0.14213799896757354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389527681747076,0.12447083929809025,0.07374158361010896,0.0,0.10377527596814194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812441297517214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887394229890073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576596062427587,0.14636696329668933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600930581136995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103113060641987,0.0,0.0,0.08661109223847419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31070266647857353,0.0,0.09538333742550352,0.09621015785100284,0.10007346315446353,0.0,0.2759874386164625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522371134067026,0.14407528005425954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462769394518185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043753854648002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110808298271388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183979584050207,0.0,0.2072417243822402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951161196379308,0.0,0.11340978503885155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565998034881198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560768057889298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306328671258124,0.0,0.10407997857509667,0.0,0.11666347204450102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,glitchy_bot,2020/01/30,"Kids being kids? Yesterday (for the second time in 3 months) my son's (6 yrs) classmates snatched his prescription glaaes off his face and ran off with them. There were three of them. Son went to the teacher and she got them back, but I was pretty mad.

I want to speak to the teacher about it, but my partner is accusing me of mollycoddling our kid ""boys will be boys, all kids act like this, etc.""

I grew up in an all woman household, so maybe he's right? 

I'd like to know Reddit's opinion before I do anything, so help me out, guys.",2.494166666666665,4.1096889722222265,3.2937037037037062,92.82166666666667,75.94444444444444,6.2814814814814826,23.11111111111111,6.937597516519254,0.5339,411,12,91,4,9,130,79,108,0.055,0.795,0.15,0.9,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,3,0,5,3,1,0,4,0,7,1,1,0,2,11,12,6,0,1,2,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,9,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,5,1,15,2,15,4,3,15,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,1,6,56,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24244904317355995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22654635688306446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507018708489292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328581735877342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23563636146619354,0.0,0.0,0.291722389896242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974791122036313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191670684747392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878751402094601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959876926123814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351647029083979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29973678996543224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516058278943652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17179662797014256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377586143968307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731178167206057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dear-Tell,2020/01/30,"My ex and I still share the house. Our daughter (5) still co sleeps with ex. Hello all. My ex wife and I separated. Until she moves out, we live in separate bedrooms. During our entire 5 years we have had our daughter, I was a huge proponent to sleep training DD and getting her in her own room/bed. My ex, however, was always the one to override me on how I felt about co sleeping. 

My daughter would rather sleep in the master bedroom with her mom (it is the room she has known since birth) over sleeping in the spare bedroom with me. All of a sudden, the co sleeping is not working out and my ex is getting terrible sleep and saying she needs to start sleeping with me. I told her that had we stuck to sleep training, this wouldn't be an issue, so in a way's, she's paying for her unwillingness to compromise on our differences in parenting styles early on. 

There is also other areas of which my ex is stubborn in as far as parenting goes. Things like her giving in each and every time DD has tantrums, or getting her to eat properly, or just daily hygiene needs such as brushing teeth or baths.  I can't help but think that once we split, my ex will continue to be lazy in regards to our daughter and her needs. 

So I am posting here. One issue at a time. Today, I need help on how to sleep train a 5 year old. Is this potentially a lost cause? IF my ex is on board with this, how would I go about getting DD in her own bed? Also, we have bought two toddler beds, of which DD picked out, over a few years' period.

Out of curiosity, if my ex decides to continue co sleeping after she moves out, what are the chances of me being successful with getting DD in her own bed?",4.737142857142857,5.029416285714287,5.540476190476191,83.83785714285716,69.17857142857143,8.423809523809524,29.690476190476193,8.269060116576782,1.9369261904761903,1296,46,269,17,21,424,161,336,0.055999999999999994,0.902,0.043,-0.5116,3,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,10,0,0,4,16,7,2,0,15,0,25,13,12,5,2,52,43,24,0,10,9,17,1,1,0,4,0,1,8,0,11,24,1,1,4,1,2,3,3,4,0,3,9,3,47,3,53,27,7,51,0,1,0,0,49,28,0,5,19,189,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668550506932385,0.06070509663804635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494573612739902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622331663819251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465202963377812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146843506398667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004903977324954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058205553415167,0.06998588191279807,0.0414624806235961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780151276453336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418123495178563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229386828644811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03564253439973389,0.0,0.06442133631570712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963990884888386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544498875350959,0.0,0.15508100734520747,0.0,0.2163833001895812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765548732478409,0.07769558011578967,0.0988735198219326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201763550871187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987152025223096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058017405881323335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06034981817910508,0.0,0.8030937187076839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05163851342880338,0.0,0.11652524343701955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04846861305846488,0.04674715135225239,0.0,0.0,0.08508226473086568,0.0,0.06915359828482047,0.06971242398025115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126724701888426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057908943669303624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311271463443566,0.0,0.0,0.1036514597709082,0.0,0.0,0.14094349167388887
parenting,Smithers66,2020/01/30,"What are some ideas for how my 15 y/o agoraphobic son can serve his community? I am thinking of things like letter writing, etc. However, it would be nice if there was some feedback involved so he can understand his impact.

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Thank you in advance",4.8884042553191485,7.202185021276598,5.311648936170212,77.90875,71.12765957446808,8.104255319148937,33.026595744680854,8.841846274778883,3.0608765957446815,204,10,35,4,4,65,44,47,0.0,0.843,0.157,0.7783,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,9,10,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,3,7,3,2,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,1,25,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397274458018099,0.3809932541287142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34968717218403494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539557751957341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318295682677102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28867144335776584,0.0,0.0,0.20830632800465865,0.20090790365962508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264129105541583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22273440082921506,0.0,0.3809932541287142,0.0
parenting,WinterConcern80,2020/01/30,"Am I overreacting? This is the first time I’m posting here and I’m using a throwaway. On mobile, etc.

Let me preface with: 

1. I am NOT a judgy mom. I have many friends/family who parent very differently from me and I’m cool with it. You do you.

2. I am very very non-confrontational.

So my daughter (7) is homeschooled, but she’s in multiple activities that allow her to make friends and socialize. She takes a drama class once a week and has made some friends and loves it. The other kids in the class are also homeschooled, as it takes place during the day. 

Normally when we go, I take my laptop and get work done while she’s in class, and I’m kind of introverted anyway, so I don’t really socialize with the other moms much. I’m cordial and if one of them asks a question I always answer, but otherwise keep to myself. However, I overhear things.

There’s a mom who brings her young daughter to class. I’ve overheard her (she was sitting right next to me, so I wasn’t trying to eavesdrop or anything, it’s a small lobby) talking about how her husband never helps around the house or with the kids. I feel bad for her. She always looks completely frazzled and lost. I’ve been there. I have a very involved husband fortunately, but I’ve been overwhelmed before when he travels for work and it’s easy to let yourself go. I only mention this because I feel really bad for her and sympathize, BUT...

She consistently, every week, brings her daughter in weather-inappropriate clothing, with NO shoes or socks. It’s winter here right now. The last class day was 35 degrees (F) and storming/windy/raining. The little girl arrived in a sleeveless summer dress, with NO socks or shoes, no coat, no jacket or anything. It was COLD outside y’all. 

When the class got out, I overheard the girl ask her mom if she would carry her to the car, and the mom said no. So the girl had to brave the cold in her summer dress and bare feet. 

This happens every week!

I’m very concerned for this little girl. This is obviously neglect. I know sometimes kids fight putting their coats on. (My second dd fights it all the time!) but this is so extreme. If it was just the lack of coat I’d not think twice about it. But no coat, sleeveless dress, AND no socks or shoes? Every week?

What do I do? Nobody (other moms in the lobby) seems to even notice or care. 

I don’t even know the mom or girl’s name. Do I report this to the teachers? (The teachers are probably unaware that the girl is leaving the building like this.) I would feel guilty if CPS got involved but at the same time if that girl needs help then I don’t want to stand by and allow neglect or abuse to be happening.

If anyone has advice on another subreddit where this would better fit please let me know.",2.513039748355734,4.771430171003715,3.44723048327138,88.77528953388621,78.14498141263941,5.922848155561911,23.91492708035459,7.010146845296331,0.8886873319988569,2144,73,426,24,52,684,245,538,0.121,0.7879999999999999,0.092,-0.9613,3,0,0,0,3,0,87.0,1,3,2,5,23,17,2,1,33,1,37,5,4,6,3,82,76,51,0,13,25,13,3,1,2,3,0,1,0,10,29,25,0,3,10,2,0,7,14,8,0,4,14,8,51,9,43,55,6,54,0,4,1,1,68,21,0,18,24,273,80,10,0.0,0.08078994388182936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663113395553236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452878105144224,0.11347338887777254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149957135991714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767764010745959,0.0,0.11222348611903707,0.060700509990246364,0.12749049010692845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386588740416195,0.041565904499761684,0.0,0.05802175491179589,0.0,0.0,0.06030548629909069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952075972471666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149232875882215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794940255670385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124046026984109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977854222124345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604605774583917,0.09007318214972514,0.0,0.17235039614496722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428023641599806,0.0,0.10343154643899502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799946762654315,0.0,0.0,0.1053615606074682,0.0,0.035624672224305716,0.0,0.07750400622358429,0.0,0.10907006929786717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059432983491593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140805060352084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867815503903075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060607362687891575,0.0,0.07100582719003655,0.11242067858149804,0.055581161057026124,0.0,0.07219973975752372,0.0,0.20917618452221406,0.0,0.03331251732161439,0.13668172697061398,0.0,0.0,0.05725955151441677,0.0,0.07443370365492423,0.0,0.06154104799155511,0.06451978791046648,0.04551506967475754,0.06913048684720327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5590150647487011,0.0,0.0,0.050124979797959233,0.05055948291185018,0.052589691809086125,0.0,0.07251719827871007,0.0,0.06680836815200594,0.0,0.07763086993704532,0.0,0.07261647921533455,0.04620498930824775,0.05185896447008915,0.0,0.0,0.07571312450400929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124046026984109,0.07484838558313545,0.0,0.0,0.0653038923266734,0.0,0.07351666278062954,0.0,0.0,0.06854634321895373,0.07638457155482986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736413458218996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646192851319688,0.0648610493669989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207449885999889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901525677888926,0.0,0.0,0.06743826825306086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380346010768425,0.05480578779094626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453001319703234,0.04369120533610719,0.0,0.0,0.119280424302416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04629420994919615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889130972498599,0.0,0.2813053358130182,0.04021820981190559,0.0,0.2187806367133398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992812804170744,0.0,0.0,0.14531336395602007,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PiotrWilczek,2020/01/30,"I've built my own baby monitor app for android. I've just released it and I'm giving away promo codes. Hello fellow parents,

I'm a developer and I've made my own baby monitor app for our 5mo. I find it very useful so I polished it and few days ago released it in Play Store so other parents can try it. 

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The app has some cool and unique features:

* pink noise to help your baby fall asleep faster and sleep longer
* background mode
* auto-reconnect
* low battery warning
* unlimited range, works with all network types

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If you're interested, please check the app in the play store (I also plan to make the iOS version soon): [https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.zzzbabymonitor](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.zzzbabymonitor)

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Initially, you get 4 hours of free monitoring time, but as the app is new, I'm giving away free promo codes with 1mln hours extra time - practically unlimited.

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I would also love to hear your feedback. What do you like about the app? What don't you like? Would you recommend it to other parents?",6.63495636998255,10.6136004973822,5.365251308900525,67.93618411867368,83.29319371727749,7.153996509598604,27.309075043630013,8.021203637495839,2.82327630017452,1009,40,135,22,30,299,120,191,0.016,0.7859999999999999,0.198,0.9874,13,0,0,0,0,0,78.0,1,6,0,2,7,10,0,0,7,1,7,3,2,3,1,18,18,12,0,3,3,3,0,2,1,2,0,2,0,0,10,7,0,0,1,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,4,13,11,15,15,7,15,0,1,1,1,17,5,0,2,11,71,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575458704572612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547266330820135,0.0,0.4192730224830375,0.4702010249044853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178170657218465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623895981020352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841903427378506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054290121318747,0.1856045421444458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903353723775183,0.0,0.06484309585579401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053974630376308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452501129260656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731204850415486,0.0915381690004607,0.06457501295164404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343254589582613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222565205585537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619198219356273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681033184894547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282028859521373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656804269095386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355270277306258,0.0,0.07982101678981553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042821217896482,0.0,0.0,0.13744330433210447,0.0,0.4702010249044853,0.0
parenting,NewDad743,2020/01/30,"I bring my girl to PT - PT has some 'standards' for parenting that make me feel wary Long story short about PT, my daughter (now 19 months) has been a very delayed walker, she is likely going to start walking unassisted in next month or two, but that is why we are there.

But the PT has some 'parenting standards' that make me feel wary I wanted to ask about.

*Thinks that when she is having a breakdown we need to NOT rush to her, and let her 'cry it out' to 'see that everything is ok'.  I understand little whines, but often during PT she makes us sit at other edge of room while daughter is trying to crawl to us, and absolutely breaking down crying on the floor.  I feel like a quick 'its ok' with a hug but she says that encourages her 'tantrums'

A recent example was my daughter was practicing climbing some wooden stairs there, and PT had stepped out, I went over to simply guard her from falling, she came back in 'I need you back in the corner' (no please, no explanation why) honestly I kind of stewed about it the whole session.

*They think that because we arent sending her to day care she will not be 'socialized' properly.

*Has really weird standards about 'stranger danger' and touching.  Specifically they think it is abnormal she does not like being held by strangers (them especially). I tell them she warms up to people, but something about 'at this age they should not be fearing strangers.  Also because she does not like her hands grabbed by them they think she has some sort of 'sensory issue'.

*Lastly the PT made specific orthothodics for her shoes to straighten her ankle caving in.  I loosely understand the purpose but worry it becomes a permanent crunch, also, shouldn't a orthopedic DOCTOR be the one determining this?

Anyway thanks for reading, the place just makes me feel wary.  She has made some progress but it just feels odd.  Am I way off here?",5.182529372644645,6.874215708933718,5.05361671469741,82.60162214586569,69.14409221902018,8.105032143648861,28.90811350033252,8.617729084823388,2.159387585901131,1469,54,271,24,26,454,193,347,0.084,0.7959999999999999,0.121,0.9452,3,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,5,1,7,2,19,18,2,1,15,2,28,5,2,6,0,61,58,16,0,5,15,5,9,4,0,3,2,1,1,1,16,11,0,3,11,1,0,10,9,5,0,2,9,11,48,13,40,41,6,49,0,1,1,1,44,20,0,8,20,189,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213702799738125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947707282525078,0.0,0.0,0.15590024100754254,0.0,0.12359293737478627,0.1119592908986644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594451044835198,0.10335724683861668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222708506126282,0.06537765226787554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376028102073896,0.17742562201421844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911081480186716,0.0,0.0,0.11407359991331055,0.25628795193757314,0.0724213939778024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761301181080651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580780865420823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556511230488684,0.0,0.08263309845426707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366148002424667,0.0,0.19810428362748012,0.10160308265307684,0.0,0.0897125374812138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19184449857691646,0.27067093684698224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183104581465496,0.0,0.0,0.15033463316699158,0.0,0.0,0.10781208364546672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869344500863292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251270017551782,0.0,0.0,0.07027976181095122,0.0,0.10591394377971378,0.11127788440202664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140113658262982,0.0,0.06494259023210305,0.0,0.100094302311343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061643780113828,0.0,0.0,0.0807817167271436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033377243439488,0.0,0.0780424295628257,0.0,0.0,0.07175282904740274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860508501486368,0.0933312861214248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25982470344007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882609027669558,0.0,0.099027378064929,0.2110672007892438,0.243880166795818,0.0,0.0,0.08364392203357664,0.059792836778487075,0.08046572721633644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397443868888647,0.18294799932908914,0.11318011960341268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102949916618439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cyril_Clunge,2020/01/30,"When do babies stop trying to fall off stuff? Whenever my 8 month old is crawling around the bed and sofa, she always tries to fall off the edge. Fortunately I keep hold of her and we haven’t had serious mishaps but when do they get the concept of height and not trying to throw themselves off?",3.3724137931034512,5.3707258965517255,3.785724137931037,88.58168965517244,74.51724137931033,6.708965517241379,23.66896551724138,7.554174236665415,0.9808993103448272,234,7,47,3,5,73,45,58,0.055,0.945,0.0,-0.2755,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,7,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,9,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,5,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574722078815929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754600789011741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616654460285843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750373746560169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469856662184414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246968266394877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25869900322866424,0.0,0.0,0.3542256032655635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6302520387714455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MichiruSedai,2020/01/30,"Just need to get this out. Advice welcome. For context: My son is 10. I am a single parent. He sees his dad every other weekend. I do the ""heavy lifting"", dad gets to have fun playtime.

These last few years have taught me how truly challenging parenting is. And these last couple months have shown me what a monumental failure I am at it. I know some of the things I am doing wrong, but not all of them. I have no idea what I have done to teach my child that I am not deserving of respect or obedience, but I may as well be speaking to the wind these days when I tell him what to do.

 I am tired of being disobeyed from the moment I wake up in the morning and screamed at from the moment I walk in the door at night. Every day I tell myself ""today is the day I will succeed at staying calm"" and then I start shouting at him and feel like a failure.  I am aware I tell him ""no"" or ""don't do X"" or ""stop X"" a lot, but how am I supposed to do it less when he is always disobeying. 

I read parenting resources that say the solution is for me to give even more of my limited time and energy into constantly redirecting and finding new ways to engage him. Okay sure, easy task for someone who is already chronically exhausted, but so far none of those ways have worked. 

Every day I want to say ""I quit"" but I don't have that option. I am afraid that I am messing him up more and more by my bad parenting but I don't know how to do any better. I am taking steps to improve myself emotionally and mentally (using my sun lamp, getting water, eating good food, taking antidepressants). I'm in weekly therapy. Son has ADHD and has biweekly therapy and medication. The meds help a lot at school, it's gone from me getting daily phone calls to me getting daily notes with praise, but they wear off in the evening.

Mostly venting, but if anyone has advice, I'm listening. Thanks.",4.235133689839572,4.923321251336901,5.483437433155083,82.39445026737968,70.44385026737967,8.443893048128343,28.06160427807487,8.608573733854374,1.9537718930481285,1444,49,293,23,25,483,199,374,0.08800000000000001,0.755,0.158,0.978,4,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,0,0,2,7,10,21,0,1,16,1,40,9,2,4,2,49,62,30,0,3,15,8,1,1,0,2,4,6,1,1,18,13,3,2,5,2,0,3,8,6,1,0,3,8,47,15,42,55,12,45,1,0,1,0,33,16,0,10,24,212,65,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300856569529988,0.18377457386275428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037669944790966,0.0,0.0782424162993094,0.0,0.0,0.06394519661948568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574957886337042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851305273136047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316393844953747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960175039258456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161552360823634,0.0,0.0,0.10404496463017564,0.0,0.2425722483895996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622770242835177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621853029937663,0.0,0.10577369452091094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421491038314815,0.0,0.2376788351505189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047545562267926736,0.06717670243313631,0.0,0.0,0.08594382956735802,0.0,0.11370424483961528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456400097209547,0.09020436192277648,0.0,0.07886984191617542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630278765723015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061510345194682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335539896141437,0.15329776910098633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04593943785468923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988581795546414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444870048972436,0.09472766157106333,0.09476245379217907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505569426395216,0.0,0.0,0.06972376781886509,0.0,0.09081699281685096,0.0,0.08824295482516598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176470177088042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001493840629644,0.0940577584115682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955653725876658,0.0,0.09516571982125144,0.07493157820575143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967327275403797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655655436749078,0.1002259331228532,0.0,0.07861522326379447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862434116969847,0.0,0.14140119221528946,0.0,0.24656515581282354,0.08657231918792611,0.21506828738416173,0.0,0.06247088976700126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483099727567358,0.10807630985454207,0.08913163680238667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121372627510394,0.0,0.0,0.05546269387099418,0.14927694473637296,0.07542704869064773,0.0,0.08454634125401407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845664300630422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280957165858337,0.0,0.060553725914094636
parenting,ZarZarLinx,2020/01/30,"My husband insults our baby I'm a mom of a lovely 6 month old baby boy and am currently on maternity leave. So, I'm the primary carer for him. I also still breastfeed.

That being said, I'm a human also and sometimes need to go out without the LO. My outings never last more than 3 hours and are never in the evening. Yes. I'm an adult and I haven't been out and about past 6pm by myself in more than 6 months. But it's fine, I don't mind. My only request was for my husband to look after the baby twice a week so I could work out.

Before baby I used to work out 4 times a week, it's a part of me, it's important to me, so I would keep my sanity. So, point is, I need this 2 workouts a week now. The gym is within walking distance, so I'm gone for a total of an hour and a half.

My baby is very sweet. He didn't have colic, he likes company and is a jolly fella. He is, however, attached to me and needs my boobs a lot. So, sometimes, when I'm gone, he would miss me and he would cry. My husband tries to calm him down but isn't always successful. Or it takes more time for him to calm baby down .

What worries me is that, after such an episode, when I come home he says (in front of the baby) : ""He was very stupid while you were gone"" // ""He's ruining my life"" // ""You're very annoying when you cry like that"" // ""He's an idiot"" etc.

The way he speaks to the baby worries me very much. I don't think it's normal, although I get how hard a crying baby can be. Anyone in a similar boat?

Thanks.",0.7718199911543557,2.1501193343653284,3.339269128704114,91.66804566563472,80.11455108359131,5.976514816452898,20.5140424590889,6.7097532225279775,0.2146692613887664,1127,29,263,11,28,395,162,323,0.136,0.787,0.077,-0.9712,2,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,1,2,0,3,17,15,4,0,25,1,25,3,1,2,3,35,49,26,0,8,4,4,1,2,0,3,1,3,1,3,10,14,0,1,1,2,0,7,8,6,0,2,9,6,32,9,35,34,8,44,0,2,1,2,29,13,1,2,25,169,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965906507650294,0.08826434727150456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417132466297473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026349482438063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137572086370184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469364722881095,0.0,0.3495609614965303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830360784831433,0.07006268789307428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055420719725337686,0.0,0.06028585722084921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502392555609424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064036215527676,0.0,0.20892844737774105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428588253861443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646670289498591,0.0,0.11231995388336588,0.0,0.0,0.0749251401885645,0.10364747634461237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907774746946105,0.0,0.0,0.09018265301153673,0.09573840148953122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071072707002612,0.12423579860052232,0.16933888743606754,0.0,0.07797861097864604,0.2359636810921079,0.16362584625857854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393268528470392,0.0,0.0,0.11130969707473484,0.0,0.0,0.08067614256341607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487077486932015,0.1012622534131386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002768085603552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090327331088288,0.08435648313080021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098252211322831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471302347104459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975650883883321,0.0,0.0,0.09766121250233033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796969331110149,0.0,0.0,0.12370840302961578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201914500001666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161624702050462,0.0,0.3500976867980515,0.0,0.08419878061688077,0.2552650928044553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225419427456464,0.0,0.1544502636072905,0.21545216190185015,0.0,0.22606162283952155,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,youngKING25,2020/01/30,"Large Lumps on inside of knee Hi All, recently had my little one diagnosed with transient synovitis causing some fluid on the inside portion of the knee. Has anyone dealt with something similar? Wish I could attach a photo but the swelling doesn't seem to be going down with Advil. My little one has no pain and full range of motion but the swelling persists. It looks extremely odd.. thanks in advance",4.037157534246576,7.053627287671237,3.971489726027397,82.84161815068494,77.49315068493149,6.389726027397263,26.93321917808219,7.645422480735847,1.9564534246575351,324,13,52,5,8,99,57,73,0.087,0.836,0.077,-0.1869,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,0,6,6,2,1,1,12,11,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,2,3,1,11,8,4,11,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,2,1,35,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594510094595453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584926698028939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20090557070221488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553985061982471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300676551932445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5043974532948722,0.0,0.0,0.211305290039888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34102113652116184,0.0,0.2677513829072233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484536386930163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290739210975177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937165767639318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316665095345713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28936134860679524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kennefy,2020/01/30,"Clever Teen too cool to apply himself at school Advice needed. My son (13) has always been determined not to apply himself at school, I thought this would maybe change at secondary school with more subjects and different teachers but hasn’t. 

Now he is starting to miss classes, not send in homework and does not seem to care about the punishment of detention at school. Punishments at home are not much better and don’t seem to get through to him, removing device time doesn’t really have an effect, again his point of view is why should a school issue affect his home life, so he doesn’t get the effect of the punishment just think we are being unfair. 

I don’t think he needs punished he needs motivated to apply himself. His mum and I live apart (have for 9 years, so don’t think it’s a reaction to that)  but we are trying to come up with something that will get through to him. 

Any suggestions welcome?",6.90398843930636,7.061967520231218,6.36740462427746,80.2246329479769,64.54913294797687,9.46335260115607,31.75086705202312,9.120678840339163,2.5704501734104053,723,25,135,11,10,223,104,173,0.168,0.762,0.07,-0.9674,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,4,7,10,4,0,6,1,19,1,0,4,0,31,35,8,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,4,9,0,0,9,0,0,3,10,5,0,0,2,2,14,5,26,29,2,17,0,1,1,0,19,9,0,2,5,87,18,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493587716080505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638343168011292,0.0,0.0,0.08694401039223124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307505037230775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035403393989334,0.0,0.13525087747117653,0.11013351436025397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357853701082142,0.0,0.0,0.11188448928966103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003927927692241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25649274602702193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13344467951968714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030592508495602,0.0,0.0,0.11289600396399542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844491168318775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398621855820456,0.2844027846173672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086183541091362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190551577363832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6469672290132372,0.0,0.23278403064750586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984270171966635,0.0,0.0,0.09049458068027699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457679498530959,0.0,0.10150051751496293,0.07455175758267786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680338130413978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536689706439385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908226705809364,0.0,0.0,0.08233274825147786
parenting,Stoner_Mom_,2020/01/30,"My daughter is afraid of monsters My daughter has recently come up with the idea that she is afraid of monsters in her bedroom. She is 3 years old and last night come bed time. We did our nightly routine. Get her teeth brushed , daddy read her a book and then it was time to be tucked in. 
But last night when it came to being tucked in , out of no where she was hysterical.  She is afraid there is a werewolf under her bed. She was screaming and crying like no tomorrow. 
I am a first time mom, and I already find it hard to understand and help her with her emotions. 
My husband said to just close the door and leave her bee. But this isn’t something she does on a regular basis. She mentioned monsters on the weekend. But nothing like this.
Long story short. I am worried I am being horrible by getting frustrated with it , because she may genuinely be afraid and be feeling very real emotions that myself and my husband don’t understand. And I don’t want to neglect her emotions. I don’t know how to handle it. 
Please help 🥰",2.7229065200314224,4.9510454278607,3.505938727415554,88.7690102120974,77.30845771144278,6.0226237234878255,27.991882691804136,7.0608816371341465,1.464496517412936,805,35,157,9,19,255,109,201,0.124,0.8009999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.8555,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,1,5,9,1,4,7,0,23,1,1,1,0,33,34,15,0,1,4,5,2,2,0,1,0,2,4,0,9,18,0,1,6,3,0,3,6,7,0,1,6,5,29,2,21,22,0,31,0,1,0,0,27,11,0,1,19,110,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368154617461787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079370152496856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891681791740286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243156150707984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302118283658566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394096600693727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4393804036531396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583422729636296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900260172702025,0.11075006416091793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605072239483526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663574364218432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454379985604254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469826204792398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155581407565018,0.21226460880088732,0.0,0.13786550356003516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272205963849939,0.0,0.0,0.11522499476117272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249143488813952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665582949167206,0.0,0.12493267967321632,0.0,0.13662547844578427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429230964506258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302375984399856,0.1481987949649857,0.0,0.0,0.12855912655310714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385226404478518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023614078922737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277661362289549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710905051625451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743058605538854,0.0767967276145717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222682064373492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384605345511681
parenting,Morning-gloria,2020/01/30,Pancake hack! My husband is a genius. Today my 2 year old threw a tantrum because she wanted pancakes. Only we didn’t have any pancakes or pancake mix and we were in a hurry to get ready. So what did my husband do? He flattened a slice of bread and handed it to her. She accepted the “pancake”. CRISIS AVERTED,0.990860655737702,3.549127983606557,2.8591598360655723,88.14480532786888,88.8360655737705,3.705737704918033,27.297131147540984,5.148860815047168,0.9635065573770496,241,12,43,1,8,80,47,61,0.154,0.774,0.071,-0.7475,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,5,0,6,2,1,0,0,8,9,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,8,1,4,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,3,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224538724914987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890514349501833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477358005315281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4975647564375491,0.0,0.0,0.36062990269334294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44946052194446345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796794968656464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053518394974901
parenting,izabella_88,2020/01/30,"Do I pull an all-nighter? It's 12am. My 5 month old is up every 2 hours to eat and my 4 year old has been puking non-stop for the past 3 hours (first all over his bed, then the bathroom floor and then our bed). If it wasn't for me watching him the last hour, our bed probably would have been soaked in vomit again. Laundry is going, everything else is clean now. 

Do I just stay up to make sure my son doesn't puke on himself? Or try and get some sleep and hope for the best that he will sleep through the rest of the night? 

Anyone go through this? Advice? What to expect? 

Pretty sure it's just a quick stomach flu. He doesn't have any other symptoms. He was fine all day. No fever, nothing then BAM, vomit everywhere.",0.9342000000000006,2.9175186866666682,1.9193333333333344,99.113,82.13333333333333,4.800000000000002,18.666666666666664,5.6839178017228535,-0.5259333333333331,553,13,130,3,15,173,106,150,0.049,0.8009999999999999,0.15,0.9386,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,8,0,16,9,3,1,4,17,21,9,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,4,0,7,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,4,1,11,5,14,15,5,28,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,4,18,77,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690409923017536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223189543617106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511663778799143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577656721148797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096952633051744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538286415338111,0.12558430008451654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666240836972412,0.0,0.13511000374693147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787354862057834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854301844802011,0.0,0.1708759185849066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931502819641151,0.4441444728081649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254181963493024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034873962119867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199947188143199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28215550213559404,0.0,0.14424899172320044,0.0,0.3154993162886485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351028058338286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294315594725466,0.16208487658944049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008840212119333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023544623656544,0.0,0.12568548865711698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833749791551752,0.1562540074611713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206653869492813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679256363005016,0.0,0.0,0.09680980750998083
parenting,jininberry,2020/01/30,"I'm done with daughter's grandma s***! When grandma (not my mom, her dad's mom) comes home drunk she always make my daughter cry by scaring her by making her do things she doesn't want to. Tonight she came home and used my daughter's hand to slap me in the face. I'm sure it wasn't an accident since it was kinda hard.  Then she tells my daughter mommy has to do the dish even though they are hers. She says passive aggressive stuff like this constantly.
I just went downstairs and now she's dragging chairs across the kitchen floor constantly as usual.
I hate it when she's drunk and even when she isn't it's still pretty much the same. 
Can't do much because my daughter's dad worships his mom even though she left him as a kid. He gets so angry if I mention something she did it like how after 6 years she still doesn't know how to say my name. We've lived with her for 2 years then moved but sometimes come over because of my bf.
Jeez, don't know how to deal with people like that.",2.1762254901960816,3.9838684852941206,2.596666666666668,96.63166666666667,77.38235294117645,5.31764705882353,22.60784313725491,5.82211442006289,0.07253137254901976,777,23,174,4,18,238,121,204,0.091,0.825,0.084,0.0823,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,0,16,8,2,1,6,0,14,6,2,6,1,26,28,18,0,2,4,10,2,3,1,0,0,2,3,1,9,9,4,0,2,2,0,5,7,3,0,0,6,4,30,5,18,22,3,25,1,0,0,0,38,5,1,2,18,104,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008146307928437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466414840586408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756672057272012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721879482851996,0.0,0.2599569582661168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212043723747344,0.0,0.1240019955284805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308680768429248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23832872031683505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284062462907287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077460355304886,0.11875025477995693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412985639417607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220398901832991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068309334821426,0.0,0.0,0.17628620271448878,0.0,0.106208241960985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057385120001785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226066653792966,0.0,0.12783715841406085,0.17683727840023966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338606388157703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236661694925545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913008029387888,0.12041990055006853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949573321572114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259637268698334,0.1189586496190678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192109353163234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769026539463722,0.0,0.0,0.11336119394333385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512883209758823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990778331575331,0.0,0.2363463045197193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388212598956588,0.13246992816651396,0.0,0.07094345767254312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149950349612274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491100022272852
parenting,IfByLand,2020/01/30,"Toddler was constipated...pooping was painful...now she’s afraid to poop. Hey all,

Not really sure what to do. 2.5 year old girl at home, she’s potty trained and doesn’t wear diapers anymore. She’s had no problem going to the bathroom and telling us when she needs to go and usually runs to the bathroom to put the toilet seat up herself. Last week she got constipated and pooping was actually really painful for her and she cried. Since then, she’s now afraid to poop and is actually holding it in until it comes out in her sleep. This morning, that graduated into her now holding in her pee as well.

She’s not interested in prune juice and I tried giving her cartoon while on the toilet—hoping that distracting her would relax her enough to let it all flow, but to no avail.

This is getting worrisome. Any advice for how to get through this or to get her around it?

Thanks!",3.165036982248523,5.508901698224853,4.0299667159763315,84.98270155325447,76.39644970414201,7.0652366863905325,27.130547337278102,8.07648339933343,1.8211091715976333,693,28,134,12,16,222,103,169,0.10800000000000001,0.84,0.052000000000000005,-0.7755,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,6,10,0,3,4,0,10,7,6,1,3,24,20,15,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,10,11,0,2,0,1,0,6,5,5,1,0,5,0,19,5,26,13,3,27,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,1,11,92,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.3343612980213448,0.0,0.0,0.16740895939531333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650141365466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990039904234133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525084237499793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757439938463954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881836460625204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701622492817307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685181364247949,0.16434284727209228,0.1947267630101744,0.0,0.1370178302422136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184488827641986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964619513679286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17518320792056885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702936179184135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17976834038871506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822933338002666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392720250680062,0.0,0.17222087194699834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195000743741984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171516712849372,0.0,0.17144069210364338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146421586475376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973858203980764,0.15772564792900254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116312976435239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607322005002052,0.0,0.18868143791567932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742013888157487,0.0,0.15403452950554344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216986594802399,0.0,0.0,0.11032251121265826
parenting,Dondonranch93,2020/01/30,"Soon to be parent of two Well I have just recently found out I'm pregnant with number 2 a little earlier then what I expected but  mostly a happy surprise.

I already have a 13 month DD who's pretty easy going and I was really enjoying the time I have with her  but cant help but feel incredibly worried at how I'm going to handle 2 kids? I sort of feel like DH and I just got our time back together and my mum keeps telling me how much harder it's going to be does anyone have any advice or anything at all to ease my mind a little??",3.0063157894736854,3.733926956140351,5.286798245614037,82.5396710526316,73.2982456140351,8.156140350877193,24.77631578947368,8.472884824447931,1.5368105263157896,419,12,88,7,8,148,78,114,0.051,0.701,0.249,0.9752,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,2,1,23,18,10,0,1,6,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,3,2,12,5,11,13,3,15,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,3,8,58,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196911989743814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054951157048003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266339614445949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302072723980839,0.0,0.15324074339281132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318939636665007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295977191571007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831384427281636,0.133033478597524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20417735431636574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31749427700967875,0.0,0.14893476471923045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19823148391100745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481734537914245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551824639485602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097623136097056,0.373276756470981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802610894781466,0.0,0.1486366513215527,0.0,0.13689093847327774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067719669888012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944965884479448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929539343523715,0.0,0.1838668450423855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276188614333473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171692875164448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18190697329586816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674314676417755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891124262710799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scaredmom88,2020/01/30,"My four year old daughter choked on a toy ring and now I’m terrified all the time. She couldn’t breathe. She was turning purple. She was dying in front of me. I can’t even relay the entire incident because I am sobbing just remembering it. By some miracle, she managed to swallow it and could breathe again but now all I see every second of the day is her face when she realized she couldn’t breathe. What if I hadn’t been there? My baby would have died. I don’t know how to get over this fear. I can’t sleep. I can’t stop it replaying in an endless loop in my head. There hasn’t been a day of her life I haven’t been scared of her dying, and then she almost did. How do I get over this",0.6438775510204096,2.6195425034013624,2.359891156462588,95.59820408163269,83.14965986394556,5.552653061224492,20.6843537414966,6.742157984588678,0.1844443537414966,536,16,125,6,15,176,87,147,0.161,0.823,0.017,-0.9667,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,6,0,21,8,6,2,2,20,27,9,3,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,3,1,1,3,1,0,1,9,3,0,2,7,3,23,0,13,16,3,18,0,1,2,0,11,6,1,3,11,90,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19309573454665085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755002256156405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539625277420195,0.0,0.0,0.24872439032033794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6003947943804979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736526152044594,0.0,0.16247124655939707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169922412771148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014959652202189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19790366339548504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597670905743756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620459564920445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20234719940121826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844371403560048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19306081246233475,0.0,0.15366400096215896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929736005548421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121814103630905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124432531634377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20974838586351344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698398095827846,0.0,0.0,0.124178991286901
parenting,GingerMommy93,2020/01/30,"Tubes Tomorrow This is my first time posting here, but I can't sleep unlike my husband. Our 4 year old is getting tubes in his ears tomorrow due to persistent/reoccurring ear infections since September. I guess I'm just worried and need some reassurance that he'll be fine. I think my main concern is the anesthesia. He isn't scared. We explained that they have to make him go to sleep with medicine so they can put the tubes in and that he'll hear much better when they're all done. All he did was ask if I would hold his hand while he's going to sleep and of course I said I most certainly would. I know it's a simple procedure that tons of kids get, but it doesn't quell my fears entirely. Sorry for the rant, but I just needed to vent. Any words of wisdom or encouragement are entirely welcome.",3.929479166666667,5.3158086562500015,4.581250000000002,85.96541666666668,71.8125,8.583333333333334,26.458333333333336,9.075114841892004,1.9106458333333336,635,21,133,13,12,203,109,160,0.046,0.7440000000000001,0.21100000000000002,0.9837,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,2,2,5,9,0,2,4,0,15,7,6,1,3,28,32,11,0,5,7,1,1,0,0,4,1,4,0,1,7,5,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,4,5,19,7,12,23,7,15,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,5,9,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729594536775337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125050825674067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254926556862958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651238753812692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940939602752358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14671594133109697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18023294122819924,0.0,0.19605478628256334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001204719654996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19440351302733508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479343149244604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513530322520525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267965706618698,0.25579138678958696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809943482367605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519327551392454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733954065738837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407305623693313,0.0,0.17268791475781278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426816549244589,0.0,0.5178297178712671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308321554871252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105216406476742,0.0,0.0,0.10057758832423423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516723450178914,0.0,0.2450572721123725,0.0,0.0,0.11107490323157736
parenting,creedthoughts9999999,2020/01/30,"If it’s not one, it’s the other Parents of more than one teen..or child for that matter..does it ever seem like when one’s up, one’s down? 

Things go great for one, the other one has a problem in school.  School turns great and that one is happy, the other one has a super bad attitude.    Attitude is amazing the next day, the other one is having major drama in their activities. 

I feel like it switches back on and off every damn day and I just would like to have a week of everyone being happy and problem-less! I know it’s a first world-not life changing issue to have, but dang it if it isn’t frustrating as hell sometimes.",4.413662790697675,4.5619029534883735,5.517354651162794,84.22626453488374,69.85271317829458,8.000387596899225,25.42732558139535,7.645422480735847,1.1920302325581391,487,12,102,5,8,162,76,129,0.121,0.7290000000000001,0.15,-0.1511,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,2,4,14,3,0,9,0,11,1,0,0,1,15,16,9,0,4,5,1,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,14,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,5,0,10,0,1,4,9,14,14,2,15,1,0,0,0,3,6,3,3,11,75,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959674696779947,0.0972893973674872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232627916063685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029162058345322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539908067610644,0.0981731904626522,0.11133992706829264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058916052040061576,0.08324196639273379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911191809348192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622104504656841,0.0,0.0,0.25692759280421473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480755776013956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161668767080085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06403638713449104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823015763941308,0.17077747210682426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392042393297872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7106131785182356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293817564457914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22298795489130774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358490775573809,0.0,0.1060755020428941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524133570503264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741076173967999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674038434908275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346537750136563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277251967801548,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Atheva31,2020/01/30,Don't Stop Believing My 16 year old and her friends are in the kitchen singing along to Journey at the top of their lungs. I'm in bed laughing into my pillow and had to share.,5.514324324324324,4.689053540540542,5.338513513513514,89.73858108108108,67.64864864864866,8.481081081081081,34.71621621621622,7.1686216300943375,2.016308108108109,139,6,32,1,2,43,32,37,0.0,0.711,0.289,0.8803,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,8,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5577084868308431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824446834243286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194313352816335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138518077735676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318771198459656
parenting,thhwawayy17,2020/01/30,"Need to vent, divorcing with a toddler I just really need a place to vent and I hope you guys will let me. I know I've seen other posts of people going through similar things.  And by that... I mean that I got tired of doing it all and it never got better until he actually realized I was serious about divorce.

I married my HS sweetheart and we've never seen other people. I came from a not great family and truly thought that things could be enough. I don't tell others what is happening. I don't open up about the fights or how I'm treated. So basically, everyone hates me and doesn't get why I'm wanting to leave. We have a toddler who is just about 3. The husband has a decent desk type job that allowed me to be a SAHM, but he took extreme advantage of it. He wasn't always this bad but slowly became this guy. I'm talking like, takes dayquil out and leaves the wrappers in the cupboard. As our child got older and started to eat solids, I would buy breakfast bars or cereal.....He absolutely can not control himself. It would be gone in less than 2 days and here I would be in the dead of winter at 6am and have nothing to feed him because the husband ate everything, left the box in the cupboard and went to work. Imagine this with EVERYTHING. Like, every little thing in life was like this with him. This is just 2 examples. The yard work and shoveling? Guess how many times he mowed the yard this year? ZERO. It's DAMN hard to mow when you have a 2 year old trying to follow you and help.  


It wasn't until the past 6 months I've been able to start showering by myself without my kid. That's right, he would never entertain him long enough for me to do something like shower. Wanted to go to the store? HAD to take the little one. Didn't matter the age or time of year. I'm sure you all know what it's like to shop in the winter time with a baby/toddler with you. Yesterday I saw a dad at the store with his little toddler and newborn baby and I wanted to cry. My husband never would have done something like that. Obviously there are a lot of other similar things, but these are the big ones.  


 I've finally had enough to say enough is enough. Slowly the past 2 years, it's started to show to others how unhappy I am but they ignored it and still do when I point it out. Every few months I always threatened divorce and he would get better for a tiny bit, but he always comes back to this. He has finally started to be the dad he should be in the last few months, but that's not enough for me. The damage was done and I can never forgive and move on. On top of it. I'm completely disgusted at the way he looks. I know this is petty, but how do you come back from that when you're disgusted by the whole package of who they are AND what they look like? He blames EVERYTHING on the job he had the past 2 years. Things were getting bad before the job and the desk job is no excuse for how he treated us..... I'm seriously blown away by the excuse. I know he was super depressed. He does and was during this time, going to counseling every other week. Nothing ever got better. I was really depressed too. I would never have killed myself. But I wanted to die so badly and I would tell him that. I would cry myself to sleep next to him and tell him that I felt like I was standing on the edge of the cliff and I had him there pushing me off.  


EVERYONE just wants me to do counseling and thinks it's so magical and it will fix everything. I go to counseling myself and am in a woman's group and just don't see me ever getting past this. I told myself, and others told me that he has a good, decent paying job and that would be enough and I should be grateful. F\*\*\* that! I can't do this anymore. I now work 2 jobs, my son is in daycare full time and I'm working on getting our own place as the husband is going to keep the house. Once again, everyone makes me feel guilty about me doing this to my son. I'm away from him a lot and he's in daycare. But since I went back to work and even though it's 2 jobs and I'm unfortunately away from my little guy. I've never been happier. I feel free. Everyone seems to think that I want to just run around and be this little hoe or something since I've never been with anyone else. No, I just want to be alone and have my freedom of just caring for my son and I. I can't care of him anymore like he's an infant. I'm about to turn 30 and still have a lot of youth ahead of me and I have big goals of my own. I don't want to sit and wait or hope for things to change anymore. It's what most women I've talked to have done. Wait till their kids are grown and than leave......Maybe I'm a terrible person  


I hope this is ok that I posted here, I just really needed to vent about getting out of a life like this.",2.1226129974443246,3.676029239393937,3.6032213703298055,90.47382803943044,76.8080808080808,6.508458074723136,21.72569064135329,7.240977022796573,0.5551112328100278,3697,97,810,43,83,1220,348,990,0.129,0.773,0.098,-0.9897,11,1,3,0,3,0,111.0,4,6,4,14,44,46,6,0,50,1,90,9,1,8,14,160,175,74,3,27,27,9,4,10,1,14,3,1,4,11,65,59,5,5,15,6,6,17,24,16,0,3,38,11,95,31,117,111,21,123,0,3,6,0,83,42,1,14,69,546,160,17,0.039971277214336735,0.0,0.03900620063513549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041398188487571236,0.0,0.0,0.09977791402375348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892229918210365,0.02794884640675085,0.040955297093092716,0.0,0.035582911123644465,0.0,0.0,0.11266299215056415,0.09220633469438448,0.10012304061781964,0.02436611958987777,0.0,0.034012612885724706,0.0,0.0,0.10605403939407627,0.04363828224802087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045716492663450826,0.0815067621319929,0.0,0.04228431129054908,0.06886343204277663,0.04190912367385885,0.0,0.044831186222567314,0.03191381236321905,0.0,0.08781314222673471,0.025778167061987482,0.0,0.06885440498844396,0.0,0.04148387509766616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03497913405194989,0.12271348296389666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04090059543056255,0.03339087311031212,0.0,0.0,0.2891071005082213,0.0,0.02640065162197577,0.0723126172783502,0.10103257500038663,0.15277707323900908,0.1436944263896504,0.0,0.03768136280510399,0.0,0.04042135752413775,0.0,0.03837869445908145,0.08757316081542205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530005554517984,0.0,0.11358298989676224,0.033526010902983135,0.12787472733587812,0.04406847423981089,0.04403286825323132,0.11873354615233468,0.03534646843346779,0.0,0.03580641322507682,0.039463360970075884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026791904558407457,0.0,0.0,0.11910149174571273,0.0,0.046121487258937416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27765727476182805,0.03552830775735265,0.044222296000247886,0.0,0.08786867447117055,0.03258192582498766,0.0,0.08464762234633738,0.04342890964775556,0.04087333908854576,0.05646579037517972,0.1952794701972586,0.2003086030003328,0.0,0.0353733225119479,0.06713161167326676,0.0,0.0,0.10194645150368783,0.0,0.0,0.02668113792262406,0.04052460135530276,0.040156520466615435,0.04354043886786011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571407637276466,0.042483141928671884,0.0,0.08891458674064845,0.2466265051101881,0.0,0.04250990678170035,0.0,0.0,0.07670703703692805,0.0,0.04194313154389009,0.042568105711902886,0.05417114381043932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526284277815019,0.05542210153452058,0.03490137749952428,0.0835229544725936,0.0,0.03778577682611559,0.0,0.07656286897956707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681987111965849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034135252341695364,0.0,0.03178676397043395,0.0,0.0,0.031851932841119826,0.03638834955974882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612930712696187,0.0,0.04000014399270759,0.0,0.0,0.09231552605854773,0.0,0.0,0.11316750297336925,0.0,0.06384222723274599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037672455733877175,0.0,0.06010685195670915,0.06425479707962646,0.10480997427206856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933084285931615,0.05122396093902383,0.03927157691782655,0.0317327292731921,0.11653786592088132,0.045941103145465366,0.0,0.07638853661950454,0.04440955971915149,0.027137873444988792,0.04347727156800468,0.0,0.0,0.04808052495529188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886087593687862,0.031727339342931066,0.0320625475510668,0.0,0.0,0.07410754886556084,0.03606786055147897,0.04462650355320421,0.0,0.03853088485626691,0.0,0.14549782933825575,0.0,0.0,0.2839444850109557,0.0,0.0,0.1287009600811582
parenting,thewhaledidthat,2020/01/30,"I feel like a failure. My son has no drive whatsoever and I can’t stick to a schedule to save my life. My 11 year old has absolutely no drive, no willpower, no respect, no pride, it’s his way or no way as far as he’s concerned. He plays video games and VR, and watches YouTube - it’s his entire life. We have a chore chart, Chores he does the bare minimum, and that’s after I remind him and remind him and remind him. 

The ONLY things he does well and completely are the things I have to hold his hand through every microsecond or he slips away to do something else. I have to be his damn puppet master in order for ANYTHING to get done.

I work 2 full time jobs from home and I have 3 other kids. So while I’m here it’s really hard for me to remember every single action that he needs to take from 3PM to 9:30PM. I have made charts but he forgets to check them. I’ll remind him but then he’ll forget again, I’ll remind him again but then he’ll get distracted, then I forget to continue chasing him and he gets away with it. I’ll take his controller but then I’ll forget to take it the next day and he’ll forget to give it to me. 

He’s not supposed to go to bed with TV on, guess who has TV on all night unless I stay up and after remembering to tell him 49 times to brush his teeth also remember to tell him to shut his TV off and then also check to make sure it’s actually shut off. 

I know I am part of the problem, I have a LOT going on and it’s really hard for me to remind him over and over and over to do something because I forget and he knows I forget and then he doesn’t have to do it - and with my older kids when I set rules those rules were just followed and that was that. I didn’t have to micromanage every second of their lives. I feel like a fucking failure, I don’t know why or how I’ve done so bad for him. I don’t know why he is so incompetent and incapable and I know it’s my fault but I don’t know what to do differently. 

Please if you have any suggestions even if it’s telling me I’m just a lazy piece of crap throw it at me. I will try anything to fix this.",0.8365642487593732,2.538293911308209,2.831116566360471,93.8906005173688,81.0620842572062,5.8916904233977405,19.16381585893781,6.868970318607317,0.008546996093337977,1618,38,383,18,42,544,199,451,0.151,0.8,0.049,-0.9923,4,0,2,0,0,0,34.0,1,1,2,4,14,15,3,1,11,0,31,6,3,4,2,69,59,48,0,4,14,1,5,2,0,4,2,0,4,2,23,25,0,2,11,6,2,7,13,7,1,1,6,7,54,8,58,48,6,51,0,0,1,1,46,17,3,7,24,243,77,2,0.0,0.0,0.09313302528898974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526423281472237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490062796328695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707351112293372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793329458093101,0.0,0.07968614837329656,0.05817768444524006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006417983301588,0.0,0.10704103276443776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061549154898345136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971165230715093,0.0,0.0,0.16703562629541374,0.19533095979757345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972560718982069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303542808884845,0.0,0.24123009186511296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651191993100254,0.13636083405473093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823023413768448,0.14958613056111764,0.09155214219846262,0.1084784193098327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051349315185796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098612703105753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573138051766833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947067813065756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146990227854491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482035669573592,0.0932516755806234,0.0,0.08427287306801907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113736868682468,0.0,0.09030506870241342,0.06370513027224854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076553915907187,0.0,0.0,0.101498637623437,0.08956142891496044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100145378610853,0.0,0.0,0.07258435746574601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334928171519804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476148203911397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132059473967348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227913995191116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243355259473545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694457262319918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172344979384153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994851370889849,0.0,0.2152708879168556,0.0,0.25024918667998386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268085857779092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130049927659803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479565332402351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150735263951426,0.0,0.0,0.08580958272809207,0.0,0.17223461471071205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947948171628338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614584839065761
parenting,Cheddar4420,2020/01/30,"Kid (s) I love my kiddo, soooo much. But seriously WhY Do ThEy WhInE soooo god damned much... like what is the reasonm Yes, baby girl i get you dropped your toy on the floor, but jesus christ i am driving and not killing is top priorty. And tellling me over and over you cant reach it doesnt make it so i can grab it any faster....",0.01597826086956644,2.1578099275362352,1.2838949275362346,101.2197554347826,87.40579710144928,4.029710144927536,18.769927536231886,5.148860815047168,-0.7275376811594203,251,7,61,1,8,79,54,69,0.10800000000000001,0.722,0.171,0.7667,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,1,1,1,6,2,0,2,1,7,1,0,1,0,7,10,6,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,10,2,3,10,2,8,2,1,0,1,7,5,1,0,2,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680949229144857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059727483918168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4361652263154756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19260445977946514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558146083119601,0.0,0.2631564982584917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5796196404033674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35573789655929783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,josuave91,2020/01/30,"Can’t deal with the fussing during feedings! We have many things to be thankful for, baby is healthy, happy (usually), growing and sleeping and napping well.  Only concern we cannot figure out is feeding times, specifically solids. 

She is 10 months old and sits in her high chair for meals. She will literally scarf down a whole plate of food, one fistful at a time, within a couple minutes if I let her. Seems like she doesn’t even chew. If there isn’t any more food in front of her she grunts and grunts, turning red, until either more food appears or I giver her some water. Is she anxious about feedings? Concerned she may not her more food?

We bought some new plates that should have slowed her down, but doesn’t seem like it’s working. Anyone experience something similar? Any advice?",4.281397174254317,6.621999306122451,4.071700680272109,86.01075353218211,72.94557823129252,5.8836211407639984,26.953950811093673,6.67199483983844,1.2117005756148616,626,23,112,5,13,190,104,147,0.01,0.87,0.11900000000000001,0.917,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,16,11,1,0,0,23,22,9,0,3,6,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,9,10,0,3,1,1,3,6,0,1,1,1,1,17,6,15,16,7,20,0,0,1,0,17,8,0,9,10,75,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401178148775658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652002910831206,0.0,0.0,0.15492935041858394,0.0,0.09589159164238216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517429835025328,0.0,0.0,0.14138548773070106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057978521130676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341493959542965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6633217248021113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598825515476738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448961132457797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023510966780872,0.0,0.13399951425382056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903860173972654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946397086056477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245082538824055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390553311845966,0.0,0.0929297246382358,0.10430127482724444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24969451015916455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723920542418952,0.0,0.0,0.10557719864625896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626023805191908,0.0,0.0,0.09110983149446254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993506547104702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491691181184866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104051611146688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330547770099914,0.0,0.0,0.15311209603690612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983967304201162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ClownzGonnaGetYa,2020/01/30,"18 month old - should I be concerned I have an 18 month old who doesn't really talk much at this point. He can say a few things, mainly just ""mama"", ""amma"" (I think this is gramdma), a few times ""dada"", a few times ""ni-nite"", and a few times ""hi"".

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Is this something I should be worried about? I feel like he should be saying more words, but I don't have any experience with young kids to judge.",2.9388888888888864,4.002543814814814,3.660185185185188,92.86583333333336,73.81481481481481,6.387654320987655,20.907407407407405,6.42735559955562,0.0351629629629624,303,6,69,2,6,96,55,81,0.023,0.9520000000000001,0.025,0.0387,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,0,0,10,15,2,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,4,9,7,10,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,9,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22089264491945698,0.2477238993815617,0.1386383305946166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19942360500683706,0.0,0.0,0.10308260398716368,0.14564449516984296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960039704825102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325453566631256,0.0,0.1498676260851954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278537371080106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927226846148289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060409707490195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242506044425664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569487913887665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386267575697872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544191473200035,0.13063141872407888,0.0,0.0,0.3566340395685455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20703949220123768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477238993815617,0.0
parenting,Smashley0227,2020/01/30,"Looking for toddler advice Can anyone offer perspective as to why my toddler cries constantly? She is 21 months old and literally cries non stop until she gets what she wants and often doesn’t even know what she wants. It’s driving my hubby and I crazy. Not teething. Not constipated. Not in pain. 

Wakes up in the morning at 540-630am, cries until I give her a cup of milk. The cries wanting cookies or sugary yogurt. Throws everything else on the floor. Then cries because she wants TV on. After work I pick her up from the day home and refuses to sit at the table for supper and cries some more. Cries if I’m not holding her even if I’m cooking. She gets all our attention. 

I am losing my mind from the crying/tantrums and we have tried time-outs and time-ins. I know I should pick my battles but how do I choose when the whole day is a continuous battle?",2.0213986928104566,4.447479741176473,3.0168627450980385,90.25477124183008,81.0,5.660130718954249,21.79738562091504,6.937597516519254,0.6008758169934647,676,21,136,8,18,215,109,170,0.14300000000000002,0.845,0.011000000000000001,-0.9423,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,2,5,4,2,0,9,0,8,6,2,3,1,35,20,17,0,7,8,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,8,3,3,4,2,0,2,5,4,0,0,0,1,22,0,19,19,4,24,0,1,1,0,14,9,0,5,12,86,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430447328755264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463464665513413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506732691149675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115347334998708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8207372716697232,0.1376761217324331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916704395687011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100068937339166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593045973905824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153382666060392,0.1023941262475357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706828728625438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732232836677595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963418460473073,0.1194140478960663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777633188072534,0.0,0.08519834374128023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200500932417437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357821131287152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892388896087145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448116560327856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246902308816791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518305748059861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963156757416675,0.11917069047053692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770752984729105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greatAF,2020/01/30,"Loneliness I enrolled in a parent Leadership training program because I felt so separated and lonely from others in my adult life. I thought it was because I'm a single parent fighting chronic illness. However. Meeting the group for the first time,  they all shared their loneliness and desire to make a connection. Some were married, or not, working or not. We all felt the pain of wanting to connect. 

In their shared loneliness,  I felt less alone and more connected. 

Is anyone willing to share with me an event,  a moment,  a gesture that made you feel less alone? (Thank you for sharing)",5.396476190476194,7.870479314285718,5.3676190476190495,77.35904761904764,70.14285714285714,7.7142857142857135,35.476190476190474,8.515128840125781,3.3646190476190485,468,25,73,8,9,146,74,105,0.201,0.7140000000000001,0.085,-0.9077,3,4,0,0,3,0,16.0,1,2,3,2,1,8,1,0,9,0,4,4,0,2,2,21,14,6,0,2,4,2,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,7,4,12,5,11,6,7,7,0,1,0,0,16,3,0,3,4,55,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051300628462847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675620014928375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384511960887111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889265516414156,0.0,0.5633711328758032,0.0,0.0,0.16636282302165453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814607618778804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850653893352532,0.1305531893822879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20811413056823544,0.0,0.4343436120269686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006657403622492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527107675970062,0.11404603599665494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535993682334772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238677318333018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HappycamperNZ,2020/01/30,I'm looking for an electronics or programming game for my 7 year old I used to play one when I was 11 or so where you dragged pictures of components around and connected them via wire.,6.66,6.119287567567568,6.614189189189191,80.59263513513514,65.21621621621622,11.724324324324325,37.41891891891892,11.20814326018867,4.024145945945946,148,7,31,4,2,47,33,37,0.042,0.889,0.069,0.235,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,1,5,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,2,3,19,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43342220497888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088525957602018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5108936841705525,0.0,0.3299192766292116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4205039021780711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135317046288995
parenting,throwwaway4parenting,2020/01/30,"Helping my pre-k child navigate the father's legal issues now and later My child's father is on the sex offender registry. Made a dumb decision on his computer over a decade ago, found something online he wasn't even looking for, deleted it, but had technically seen it, so he took a plea deal. 

We have a child together who will be entering kindergarten soon. (Not that it is anyone's business but before I get shamed by the group, the child was unplanned. I didn't intend on ever having children with my partner.) 

I want to figure out how to navigate the potential emotional and social impacts of the father's legal issues for my child through the various stages of life.  My partner has several children from a previous relationship who know the circumstances. My partner says it has never caused any social problems for those children but the ex wife also separated from him shortly after that all happened, so I imagine the public perception of her and the children might also be different? 

We have several family friends with kids, who have no issues with my husband being around their kids, even in large events where there isn't ubiquitous supervision. But I can't exactly pass out character references from these friends to everyone that meets my family.

If my child's father were truly the sort of person that does what he has been charged with rather than someone who had happenstance exposure, he would not have access to our child, or his children from his previous marriage. 

But people can be really hysterical about sex crimes and make a lot of assumptions. I worry for my child's social life. People will not necessarily seek to understand the nature of the situation before they make a decision. I don't want my son to pay for his father's mistakes. I will be mostly working from home, which I think will help reassure the neighbors as I'll be there most of the time, but I still want to do everything I can to ensure my son is minimally impacted by this situation. I want my son to be able to have as many friendships as he wants, to not be ostracized based on his father's choices long before he was born. I'm leaning toward a blanket ""no sleepovers"" rule, as plenty of families do that now anyway. I don't believe my husband is legally prevented from his child having friends spend the night but I also don't want parents to find out later and question anything. Do you think that's good judgment or am I being overly cautious?

We have a family friend who was super into checking Megan's list, saw my husband on there, and rather than making a bunch of drama she quietly modified her boundaries for social situations, and eventually as we all got closer she just asked me about it. Which was fine. If everyone would do that, I would not worry. But not everyone is like that. 

So what do I do here? How do I explain this to my child, if it does cause social issues? How do I know if this is behind social issues that happen? I'm actually pretty socially awkward and anxious, and really dread dealing with this. 

I believe the hysteria for sexual predators is entirely appropriate, but for people like my husband who are not predators, this level of punitive/shaming/hysterical reactivity just creates barriers to the kind of community integration that reduces the risk of reoffending for the individuals with real pathology behind their offenses. All this shaming, difficulty finding work, difficulty finding housing, just pushes sex offenders back into jail and then we pay for it with our tax dollars. And there are some who are victims of circumstance, while also plenty that knew what they were doing. The Romeo-Juliets, the man who was drunk and urinated outside during an event. Nobody will care what the wife of a sex offender says probably, but I do encourage you to research for yourself whether things like Megan's law, residency requirements and the various Halloween rules actually make communities safer or they are just feeding fear.

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Anyway, if you are still reading thank you and can you help?",9.41238369517058,8.857755420765027,9.261468025402452,63.8995414266726,59.68306010928962,12.339743021710234,40.27558706247231,11.581627320754905,4.958012583074879,3256,150,509,81,37,1063,332,732,0.11,0.777,0.113,0.4563,3,0,1,0,0,0,76.0,7,5,5,4,37,29,6,6,37,0,72,10,1,11,6,121,104,50,0,18,32,17,0,3,8,9,3,3,2,22,41,32,2,3,18,3,6,4,17,14,0,0,19,6,67,15,83,67,10,44,0,0,3,4,110,19,1,15,23,388,108,13,0.060399727689235023,0.0,0.11788284291845555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05354071428547515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932065616450427,0.0,0.06544307971654648,0.07339228022206222,0.041073886023595914,0.0,0.0,0.06823450018986818,0.0,0.04223289396393179,0.0,0.049703829497913035,0.05376856312931407,0.0564655920255288,0.0,0.0,0.04644366234033117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418715884017026,0.1360996195222073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061581547810009275,0.12409431641512565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453893420891685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310486000852122,0.0,0.0,0.1057124174548636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679415640692965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978690099068217,0.05463501164458223,0.0,0.17314358454159015,0.0542833806501605,0.0,0.2277579513092191,0.06796648577423951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561277062389976,0.0,0.0,0.06622518386158975,0.18665871913880144,0.0,0.031556364810797995,0.0,0.0,0.05066042594005981,0.04830717985321187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068225594448532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145399289543095,0.0,0.06058585156508022,0.0,0.0,0.06969317633070704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152081168282909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289702182782518,0.06638822149732508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532422779813031,0.0885247681226107,0.0,0.0,0.05345185833638599,0.05072055919882451,0.0,0.0,0.05134968856668566,0.0,0.057151682743873285,0.16126914897654526,0.061235843764761384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407456618845858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046583993519039316,0.0,0.0,0.05668105284658272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706674977303458,0.0,0.0,0.1256206984342816,0.05273871249213823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144823715401782,0.06512112211926951,0.057794382237197274,0.0,0.0,0.06766151813899789,0.0,0.06041607271334003,0.06874811329356494,0.07738722436228587,0.0,0.0,0.06484670357116085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606457545207346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646900037973633,0.0,0.0,0.2036754737162621,0.0,0.430989412434772,0.051176493266564094,0.04649866123888285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647060110826404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055607954296909366,0.0,0.0,0.040126895243614506,0.0774034133382993,0.0,0.0,0.035219566937336425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671063198569368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628782466352971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375194576456644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087943442230096,0.12267771068194065,0.0,0.1287187007927566,0.0,0.07339228022206222,0.0
parenting,Gabbikatt,2020/01/30,"toddler tantrums okay so i (24F) , have a 3 year old boy. I am trying to find better ways of dealing with temper tantrums or times when he just refuses to listen to me or his father. what are some ways that i can calm a situation that can lead up to a tantrum . I really want to find ways to keep calm and not yell",1.268636363636361,2.9798082878787886,3.003030303030304,93.12454545454548,79.75757575757575,6.218181818181819,21.60606060606061,7.1686216300943375,0.4448060606060613,241,7,56,3,6,80,48,66,0.15,0.6940000000000001,0.156,-0.1548,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,3,8,4,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,0,13,8,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,6,4,9,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,3,4,34,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22120500733834966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578559682640561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571982954287092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22231231237638205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624519756334091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022907049879218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28113797943511865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584315486806845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698106039763325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752338373419285,0.5955852068482596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106485136366475
parenting,blackkittons,2020/01/30,"My kids give me purpose I’ve had many successes in life, a degree (working on a second) & licenses for my career. I’m proud of the things I’ve learned and done. Life has knocked me on my ass, yet I got up swinging. Still at the end of the day nothing gives me purpose like my kids do. Things like, how they tell me “I love you” out of the blue or amaze me with how smart they are. That’s my reason for being here, to hope they have a better life than I did. When they look back on their childhood my hope is they never question my love for them and know I will always be on their side. Thanks for whoever read this. I’m just in a hard spot in life and really reminding myself there are two little ones who need a strong, loving mama.",2.3891991341991345,3.618597681818187,3.4370779220779215,93.27799783549784,75.42857142857143,6.432034632034633,21.27489177489177,6.816661863887847,0.2334606060606061,569,13,130,5,12,183,100,154,0.027999999999999997,0.713,0.259,0.9907,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,8,5,9,14,0,0,9,0,12,8,1,3,1,17,26,7,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,1,4,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,3,26,14,20,19,0,20,0,0,2,4,19,12,1,4,10,89,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320555759299982,0.16043307470147022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385618742163645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095530395059668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954924788017189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152634970046272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114549138726192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840832181230715,0.0,0.0,0.11842458251621965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132641050375659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29413254113921977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813750403015123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183430324939813,0.14467840652426034,0.1484043840651287,0.0,0.0,0.124340958556508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40091509776750817,0.0,0.0,0.15011907660322996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979154399765073,0.11420020794411405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207653109271862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033562102270767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658715549608241,0.0,0.1481094158277831,0.0,0.09485701468229456,0.15223994876709698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824837111222222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12941913496431706,0.13632236019993338,0.0,0.0,0.19674138839554609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446422358806786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107796247501767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,plays_with_wood,2020/01/30,"A friend's miscarriage (looking for advice) I just found out tonight that a very close friend and his wife have lost another pregnancy. This will be the second one for them in six months. My heart breaks for them because they want it so bad, and they would be amazing parents. I can't relate to their pain at all, since my wife and I have a 9 month old boy ourselves, and had a very easy time getting pregnant. I can't help but feel a little guilty talking to my friend and offering my support, but I know he needs it right now. Just looking for some advice on how to navigate this and walk with them through this hard time.",5.008064516129036,5.620070612903227,4.634032258064519,89.44604838709681,68.6774193548387,7.812903225806451,29.20967741935484,7.645422480735847,1.5324064516129032,492,17,104,5,8,149,84,124,0.10099999999999999,0.772,0.127,0.6505,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,6,1,5,8,0,0,6,0,9,2,1,1,1,22,19,10,0,3,4,3,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,3,3,4,16,5,13,12,2,16,0,1,2,0,18,7,0,1,7,68,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32405689650085284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738671385324084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844513780199802,0.10107675806202618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383895022626432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818030438703243,0.3843151652318657,0.0,0.08662932802234047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853395729550306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964866612407661,0.111139520803962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911253094485653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618603654574488,0.0,0.0,0.2784787149379133,0.0,0.18100213495973524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26469728468593795,0.0,0.0,0.1229466478240965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399059968443598,0.0,0.11235772640518484,0.0,0.17643444000095193,0.0,0.18411333182117307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160156399138246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716045250098188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881601930360621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327248425391502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933712856542515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27362264059181,0.09779953814956913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778727387688635,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pushedtobelieve,2020/01/30,"Hurt Soul Today I realized after living a lie for 9 months that it’s time to just stop even trying. I’m 8 months pregnant an the male I’m pregnant by refused to work the whole time. I went from making 3200 a month to making $688 a month. The deal was to take care of us while I’m down, but I guess I was in that deal alone. Some how I ended up being the only person doing things financially. I drained my savings account and now today he decides he can’t take the pressure of adulthood. Stated he needs his own stuff because I asked him when he was getting a job. Guess he plans on living in a shelter for free, or freeloading off the next female. To top it off now my child isn’t his and he wants a DNA TEST but been living with me for the past 10 months. I can’t blame no one but myself for even trying to see good in a person. I’m almost ready to just take a whole body of sleeping pills because I’m tired of always being used. My spirit is so tired of giving love and receiving garbage in return and being  expected to be okay with that. I cried enough tears in my life to supply a small lake. When does it get better?",1.9637341772151904,3.509927767932492,3.3707405063291134,92.00218670886078,77.22784810126579,5.415105485232068,20.288818565400845,5.6839178017228535,-0.10789940928270036,879,20,191,4,20,288,137,237,0.14300000000000002,0.727,0.13,-0.0757,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,4,10,9,0,1,17,1,13,7,2,4,0,28,36,13,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,8,6,0,2,2,0,2,2,4,2,0,1,5,1,19,8,33,27,5,35,2,1,1,1,21,12,0,5,20,116,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520288167535677,0.10881095915835184,0.0,0.0,0.08741872470260142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821735445710683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280877710065837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929174453495038,0.0,0.11669849457009007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711614794614048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540398966090545,0.0,0.2166254564262304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193912259865968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305239009950164,0.10855554676965108,0.0,0.13878289511412467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977951551800433,0.10078357309078427,0.0,0.08811973509908959,0.0,0.0,0.23147189788586497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246940275865268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425630233002306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420731479835582,0.0,0.0,0.27831095128313804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482117323698183,0.0,0.14025735496463146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41929131183292506,0.0,0.0,0.07790100501074719,0.0,0.0,0.11173299846290724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119169137664765,0.07990321930467584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029210352237083,0.0,0.1834694947007696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371958991708504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513634034072318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783525464808346,0.0,0.0,0.1202690991360354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369771885802009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979750591516748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252320627918813,0.2415031034293519,0.19917007649951304,0.0,0.0,0.14265832138784187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637480596024306,0.0907385113485868,0.0,0.0,0.06196738541695439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973921053980059,0.0,0.2345925187990095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648527118768436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,practicallyperfectuk,2020/01/30,"Co-parenting worries I (f32) recently split with my long term partner (m35) for a long list of reasons which my previous posts cover. Mainly because I was sick of being the default parent and him not taking responsibility, and also disrespectful towards me and taking me for granted. Our son is 2.5yrs old and I’ve basically been as amicable as I can with the co parenting, and our son goes to visit his dad every week staying away for two nights/three days and has been doing so for a month now. 

This evening my son returned to me with dark shadows under his eyes from sleepless nights. He hasn’t been eating well, has a cold virus, snotty nose and temperature...... he was I thought about to develop a cold before he went to his dad’s and I said as I handed him over that he just needs a couple of days rest and some TLC, provided some calpol and lots of books, and toys/ craft activities to occupy him for a couple of days with his dad.  

Here lies the problem - my ex is living in a house share / lodging situation and basically feels uncomfortable having our son there at home for a whole day because he is like a little whirlwind. (Like most two year olds are). When he was looking for a new place to live I expressed my concerns about this but he didn’t want to rent his own place because he didn’t want to spend the money. 

So for the past 3 days our son has been out all day long - from a cafe breakfast to swimming to a park and then soft play and then the next day an all day to the zoo and then today soft play again for breakfast before the cinema. No home cooked meals, brief naps in the car in between venues and no down time whatsoever. 

It’s all way too much for a toddler to do so no wonder he is poorly - my ex can’t cope with staying indoors and just doing “ordinary” stuff - for example he says he can’t possibly cook/prepare a meal because he can’t watch our son at the same time. He gets frustrated with toys and mess and brings everything back to me when he drops him home rather than creating a little space in his room for some of our sons possessions. I also feel like he’s trying to compete and be the super fun dad and not just doing normal stuff, whilst I’m left to be the one picking up the mess. 

He has no idea how to manage bedtime so our son has been awake until 2/3am each night and he allows him to watch YouTube on his tv in bed and then he will ask for snacks etc - I know my ex is struggling withbut not prepared to acknowledge my routine or ask for help here because he never respected it in the first place. 

It’s 1am here and I’ve just changed the bed sheets after a projectile vomit incident and settled our son back down to sleep after giving calpol for a High temp, and also having taken him to the Doctors’s earlier as he has a viral rash on his mouth so now has a prescription cream. 

Tomorrow I’m going to have to call in sick to work and keep our son off nursery and have a day at home with him to rest up. Last week on the first day back at nursery he slept in their reading corner for four hours because he was so tired as they went away and stayed in a theme park hotel for two nights and the week before he fell asleep in the car on the way home from an outing with his dad and briefly woke up getting out from the car to my door and then wouldn’t wake up and slept for 15 hours.

I’ve basically spent the last month with my son doing things like baking and reading indoors etc because he doesn’t want to go out, and just wants to stay home. He used to get so excited about going out and would try and put his wellies on himself and get me up on a Saturday morning singing “old Mac Donald” because he wanted to go to the farm. Now he doesn’t even want to take his pj’s off in the morning and is being really clingy with his blankets etc. 

I know there’s a certain transition period to expect challenges but it’s having a major impact on our son and I’m the one picking up the pieces. 


This can’t continue - I need my ex to settle in to a routine with our son and stop doing so much. I know I can’t “control” what they do and I think it’s great that he’s trying - so how do I make him see that he’s doing too much and this is having a negative impact on our son? If he gets offended and refuses to take on board advice (which I expect he will) then I’m considering suggesting we change  the arrangement (which isn’t formalised anyway) and my first idea would be that he doesn’t have our son over night to at least ensure that he gets a good nights sleep and is home for his evening meals to kickstart the bedtime routine - and maybe when he’s a bit older we can look at staying over again.",5.992448493139326,5.259561343551798,6.375407287650791,82.39188886125278,66.64270613107823,9.322356257513578,30.176926584587328,8.4952907291091,1.993362251792896,3645,110,770,45,51,1181,373,946,0.068,0.862,0.07,-0.1198,4,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,15,0,3,8,46,22,2,1,58,0,65,25,11,9,5,127,117,80,0,17,13,26,5,4,1,5,5,2,13,1,21,65,9,4,12,14,5,15,22,6,1,9,20,17,73,16,138,87,26,153,0,0,7,0,113,58,0,8,75,496,94,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796040873788186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774777669029135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176635084436363,0.0,0.09222455270729492,0.11321847323126713,0.0,0.23934970348230875,0.0,0.12529039726906305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053582649249986125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05011616827596452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384026611228386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0550473942391163,0.0,0.10861217470722198,0.0,0.3165254022006481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05023546050257841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050221093640110286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642115237673599,0.09725063290470576,0.0,0.041352017465613816,0.0,0.044109940010091636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049632646173243686,0.03506276236844807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524227078913136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385364825137332,0.04708200897243912,0.1115731819838798,0.04116597607476242,0.0,0.05411087413462359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03289728996510534,0.051855715509855405,0.3446186976919008,0.0,0.09666782872262272,0.056631731300455325,0.0,0.1108106936992225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043624559788764984,0.0,0.0,0.08091925463788407,0.0800135025227102,0.0,0.0,0.05332556446056176,0.0,0.0,0.09591203703053536,0.09838210913362272,0.08667707976336844,0.13030276871521254,0.08242967909301853,0.0,0.0,0.04172606155115536,0.0,0.0,0.032761281637370306,0.0,0.049307457590408034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835037675435894,0.0,0.10823834338580657,0.07278439738535931,0.03785352229254068,0.047401770596342666,0.05219713763679966,0.2302912798379853,0.0480879800998052,0.0,0.0,0.15450361404160584,0.0,0.06651575746652978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899506529358484,0.0,0.04685241426846015,0.0,0.0,0.15383446402833084,0.0,0.0,0.055330326481032414,0.04700507378805962,0.0,0.0,0.04696293235368973,0.0,0.049338956777505,0.0,0.0,0.09818656506327536,0.0,0.03144190526901017,0.050462415071001424,0.048460579721151614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04668631995495125,0.03903038655232827,0.0,0.0,0.03911040621763343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05516797725532933,0.09823089155198797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615637526819952,0.0,0.04103307831438346,0.0,0.05130907323258848,0.11236971722622473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476082100396267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032606571676037165,0.03144848274034876,0.0,0.03896403833510965,0.057237886298915436,0.05641024094417805,0.0465221019716403,0.0,0.0,0.09996629651429254,0.0,0.14383208749580192,0.0,0.0,0.04238936241734202,0.0,0.0,0.17369193649672793,0.07791484027649427,0.11810704851250628,0.0,0.04412881497810687,0.0909953048809488,0.0,0.05479606813013475,0.0,0.0,0.053225167240181295,0.035730825112483336,0.049843123198516005,0.0,0.06973004876927763,0.0,0.0,0.03160591135540367
parenting,Crumbsinmybra,2020/01/30,At what age should young adults move out or pay rent? Also how do you decide how much rent? I know how costly it is for school and a morgage. If a child has over 40 grand saved up is that enough to have a good start? Please give your honest opinions. Even if they arent good. Thank you!,0.20421428571428635,2.4047978500000013,0.7328571428571422,105.07500000000003,87.16666666666666,3.428571428571429,11.904761904761903,3.1291,-1.9525238095238096,221,2,54,0,7,66,51,60,0.071,0.667,0.262,0.934,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,3,0,13,11,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,6,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,4,3,35,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365650215942839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056583913399728,0.0,0.19538456453128444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837749497019341,0.0,0.4962351031743384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257347492135515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144070193610285,0.2174597836164841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32471860933526964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993829431302157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20938103729549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723488642840272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CarlaMH,2020/01/30,"Teenage daughter fights Any tips on how to deal with these? They are 14 and 16. They are constantly bickering. This week they have been fighting over a boy and I'm not sure what to do. Sending them to different rooms to cool off is all I have right now, and it doesn't do a lot of good.",1.075499999999998,3.0939142166666684,1.879999999999999,99.395,81.83333333333334,6.0,21.666666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.3346666666666667,223,7,54,3,6,69,48,60,0.115,0.802,0.083,-0.2411,1,0,0,0,3,0,6.0,0,0,4,0,2,5,2,0,2,1,9,0,0,1,2,9,10,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,1,5,3,9,9,2,9,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,3,37,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24877833217888615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953344711280146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771567697055941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822166185172559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068425584469858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110173182100799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124185633676829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447923683439215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934483959146502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momtoeli,2020/01/30,"My son is imitating his cousins bad behaviour Hi everyone. My son is 2.5 and he's always been so nice, easy going and well-mannered. Well we live in a house with his two other cousins (4 and 3) and he's starting to imitate the 4 year old boys  behaviour. This 4 year old tends to have rage problems. Like for example if he's waiting his turn to do something he'll growl really loudly or kick something, like a wall. I noticed today that my son started growling while waiting for his turn. I just told him, ""please dont do that"" but he didnt quite understand what I was talking about. He's going to preschool in July so I know he's going to come across a lot more kids like this. 
How do you appropriate address something like this? Thanks everyone.",2.5101534036433364,4.6623525033557085,3.7660834132310654,87.0177348993289,77.65771812080538,6.941706615532119,27.42138063279004,7.957251820313856,1.789653499520614,589,25,118,10,14,192,92,149,0.043,0.8059999999999999,0.15,0.9295,0,0,3,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,1,6,10,1,0,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,18,26,11,0,2,4,5,0,4,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,7,0,2,2,0,0,4,2,3,1,1,4,1,14,7,12,21,2,16,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,3,12,63,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924884032552108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196613158368661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345243672835494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796309795583014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738855936756988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443461754552779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536526916389285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876170017795715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800641876100336,0.0,0.12654900615138345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218405519504308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316409168718102,0.30076815165963244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731588294486407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713227145028412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243222262659775,0.0,0.0,0.09181070414835933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309906666489794,0.0,0.0,0.20287696366697772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519047244172223,0.0,0.13194439992700185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584504195704347,0.1369427968378494,0.0,0.0,0.3117692486797053,0.13999708477307685,0.14919506796561668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577132359956509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845792073962055
parenting,exodaieya,2020/01/31,"My 4 year old is calling himself stupid and hitting himself when he's upset Im not sure this is where to post this, if not just let me know. I have a four year old who keeps hitting himself and saying things like ""I'm stupid"" ""im the stupidest person in the world"" and hitting himself. He goes to daycare, and I'm thinking that he saw someone else do that and get attention for it. I don't know how to curb the behavior. I tried ignoring it but it's gone on for a few weeks. Any advice?",1.6231930960086274,3.2494679320388364,3.3082847896440164,91.7276267529666,78.41747572815535,6.131175836030206,26.00755124056095,6.937597516519254,1.012006256742179,379,15,84,4,9,126,66,103,0.122,0.86,0.018000000000000002,-0.7894,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,2,1,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,19,18,9,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,5,0,3,4,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,2,9,2,7,12,1,12,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,1,7,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236313515409554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082634168563596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114591013946872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729947144049153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819447204603604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4473792479352873,0.0,0.0,0.18406854572110665,0.0,0.0,0.22761932871686644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176060892563286,0.0,0.1011723055707846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43460618946452173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082048387658653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833221505445905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468398824897548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754642432150093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19517715811394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375794795046825,0.13269306352157456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059855969213042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611279490555886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667146289864745
parenting,thesandboxgod,2020/01/31,"I feel like this is a ridiculous problem.... Just snapped at my 5 y.o. ""Go play with your toys!!!"" And he's in his room crying.

This has been YEARS of trying to get him to play independently and failing. Trying any logic, reasoning and weaning in the world and he just won't play unless I do. His friends laughed at him yesterday because they thought it was funny that he only plays toys with his mum. He cried and I told him it was something he could practice and should be happy to do himself.

Honestly at my wit's end with this kid. Can I could turkey it and say ""you're playing with your toys all day and that's that!""?

Help!",2.02452380952381,4.107450579365082,2.9272222222222237,92.77750000000002,78.92063492063492,5.469841269841268,23.99206349206349,6.42735559955562,0.5457587301587306,487,17,104,4,12,154,81,126,0.08,0.69,0.23,0.9616,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,1,1,2,13,1,0,2,0,13,0,0,2,1,25,18,9,0,4,3,1,1,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,9,12,0,0,4,8,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,2,16,10,14,8,1,12,0,1,0,0,21,7,0,0,5,65,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921930926824475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376193975589015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35039255479014114,0.0,0.4820651149224218,0.1415136134764468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434904832548552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109499436307686,0.15676018944222686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953037462042403,0.0,0.1146426456308255,0.0,0.12470661153757233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23358635208898185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707869713386867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720197211434143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668857147398461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996400954283212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256096557115787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449882372793588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16892723780696606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17420219110695034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096739038739576,0.0,0.2979559038493393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130514303190664
parenting,notwherethewindblows,2020/01/31,"Help with a super picky 6yo in a new environment! My partner and I have custody of his 6 year old son every other week. We have been together over a year now, and are planning on moving in together next month. His son and I get along really well, he’s quite attached to me. 

Anyways, SS is an insanely picky eater. He will eat peanut butter sandwiches (white bread only), noodles with butter (just butter, and only certain kinds of noodles), apples (only if they’re crisp), cucumbers, waffles (plain), Cheerios, and milk. That’s pretty much it. He used to eat a few other things, but without rhyme or reason has completely refused previously preferred foods over the last couple months. It’s getting worse and worse - last week there was ONE SPEC of black pepper in his noodles, and so he cried and completely refused to eat them. We’ve taken him to restaurants, let him choose what he wants - but when it comes, he refuses it and pouts the whole time. 

We’ve tried letting him just refuse meals and go hungry - but he’s gone two days without a single bite, and would have kept going, too. We’ve tried letting him grocery shop with us, but he just wants the usual foods. Suggesting other foods makes him whine and cry.

The biggest problems are that we can’t get him to eat out anywhere (restaurants, friends/families houses, etc) without a fight, but also that he’s actually getting MORE picky as he gets older, and I’m worried he’s going to run out of options for food. 

Since we will be moving next month, we’ve agreed that it’s time to try to address this. We want to give him some time to adjust to a new house first, but we are hoping to give him a heads up about what sort of rules are going to change. 

So my question is: HOW DO WE GO ABOUT THIS?! What’s worked for those of you with picky children?? I’ve done so much reading lately, and there’s so many different ideas from people. I need some suggestions! Starting right from how firm to be (do you let your kid refuse their meals? Give options? Make them wait before giving them preferred foods?) and how to slowly start introducing food (dinners are going to be served as a family at the table with no TV/music, no exceptions). Any suggestions for food to try?? Send help!! TIA",4.342975658221558,6.010341222482438,4.544888226527572,85.5244659711873,71.20140515222481,7.049293875523384,26.054148037754594,7.5764669431780325,1.3532910226385642,1750,56,332,20,33,546,227,427,0.102,0.826,0.07200000000000001,-0.9535,1,0,0,0,1,0,75.0,7,3,4,5,20,8,1,0,15,0,27,18,1,7,1,78,58,34,0,10,15,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,19,30,17,7,7,2,1,12,6,3,1,3,6,5,31,5,52,42,9,50,0,1,2,0,58,12,0,9,26,199,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.06071087391885997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04975168105015325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04230694567590474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052938646136588836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581306176213375,0.05359095569799107,0.13045820828402846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883745612127695,0.13667602892202813,0.040122211978521116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499930108225854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06366545720985149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546375552562256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938389483754026,0.0,0.0,0.052417101406702464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729768237364975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291831137234165,0.5265971010648912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251851736313785,0.2387213577467455,0.21214235070322768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384844464873751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340007040964938,0.0,0.0,0.061791506061294285,0.0,0.14357080424825794,0.0,0.07023085842678815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478522349011068,0.0,0.10142373051389617,0.07017892786071589,0.0,0.0,0.2544678636362548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305526680663429,0.06307417598825828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489733716257614,0.13224506008336456,0.09146736675447777,0.04613012100010097,0.0,0.12017132747014612,0.13232837594552027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528203540617472,0.0,0.042157111284424766,0.1419472768411828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043130632614724634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329294553872232,0.0,0.059529399976348214,0.0,0.0,0.06969275248539579,0.06617114012664957,0.0622297949788929,0.0,0.039855214761313804,0.06396528368182554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312952728952547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05146320279794413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806930555727742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04133152573484439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883063055860827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895406230983925,0.0,0.060773021308850726,0.0,0.07483452992045521,0.05373202190782874,0.06851878525364953,0.0,0.1100844457763914,0.0,0.09980696659478727,0.0,0.055936921858492035,0.0,0.0,0.06945854727049929,0.0,0.17991321798082166,0.0,0.04529177530028858,0.06318028002614155,0.12680064099295713,0.04419430128739038,0.0,0.0,0.08012621207393618
parenting,aliana1988,2020/01/31,"Any single parents have roomates Like not a significant other that lives with you, or family, but like a legit roommate? What’s the dynamic with your kid(s)? I have 1 daughter and my boyfriend and I split and I’m selling my house but we love this house, but I could only afford it if I got a roommate, which I’ve never had let alone had with a kid. Just wondering anyone experiences and thoughts bc I’m really in the fence about it. Thanks",1.3645454545454534,3.9776795402298863,2.9566144200626963,87.95210031347963,86.93103448275862,5.922257053291537,21.70219435736677,7.348242739294969,1.0149862068965518,348,12,68,6,11,114,62,87,0.015,0.754,0.231,0.9649,2,1,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,1,20,13,9,0,2,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,9,5,5,7,1,2,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,3,3,46,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343138547157665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384928058545486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819054349179565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18063226113738232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22130371903981333,0.2132766116676335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18094282248480986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220954761395049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313432057496207,0.0,0.2210564620358188,0.0,0.1997718866713944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041882066078942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448833269840794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720638386454366,0.0,0.0,0.251210007201621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493355690527054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082891245910745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960733037596033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24534495409858506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ardeiske,2020/01/31,"Homeopathic antidepressant in teenagers Our daughter (14) was diagnosed with mild depression; before we start with medication, therapist suggested to try homeopathic antidepressant- anyone hav experience they can share? Thanks",13.714,18.871514399999995,11.91,27.48500000000001,55.0,17.333333333333336,50.0,13.5591,10.582000000000004,192,12,17,10,3,60,28,30,0.10300000000000001,0.754,0.142,0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,4,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,9,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24546429124935665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29872009005411165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30236127591660045,0.3563112185167017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433970156867934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536487793719387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24847698994034165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232022674310409,0.0,0.40759937663264334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383418182719663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,linhoff65,2020/01/31,"He left his dishes by the sink again... sort of Looking for advice, dealing with the She Divorced Me Because I Left The Dishes By The Sink issue. 
We are TTC#2 which makes me anxious because I had HG the first 17 weeks of pregnancy and still dealing with complications from giving birth to #1 - lots of PTSD from the experience. I am asking my husband to step it up with taking care of #1 because I plan on being in and out of the hospital as soon as I’m pregnant with #2, unable to do anything besides trying to survive. 
I ask him to do simple things like “please change his diaper and put his pajamas on” but leaves the dirty diaper and clothes laying on the dresser instead of putting them in the diaper genie and hamper. I tell him that I would like him to also do the implied tasks and he says I’m not specific enough with what I want him to do and he’s not a mind reader. He does whatever I specifically ask him to do without protest, but I want him to “apply his intelligence and learning capabilities to the logistics of managing our lives and household” when I will be too sick and unable to do so. Right now, I’m essentially just nagging on him 24/7 over every task I ask him to do, which isn’t fair. How will we ever get to the point of him emptying the diaper genie when it’s full without having to ask him?",9.095914275838226,6.145756482889732,9.393100587625305,70.30339440027653,62.11787072243346,12.301278949187695,38.35776011061182,10.436869588844218,3.8093680608365017,1037,38,202,18,11,349,146,263,0.057,0.858,0.085,0.5122,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,3,0,1,3,13,5,2,0,15,0,17,3,0,2,1,35,33,19,0,3,7,1,0,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,7,18,2,0,1,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,1,2,34,3,45,27,3,27,0,0,1,0,35,14,0,2,12,149,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601851958421515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494583202714436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341275645779725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770209472046176,0.0,0.5549679648684619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171243870077111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104995284958472,0.0,0.1255972818478338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448043716023097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389868072175147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267659050467775,0.0,0.0,0.1073952477439718,0.10003250544426047,0.0,0.0,0.11613765706977115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098901176130202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202988733307736,0.11389362859450818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239200021330716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571460852855565,0.2579941750921885,0.0,0.0,0.11600789942601078,0.0,0.10483799805573824,0.0,0.0997006655055907,0.0,0.0,0.10093733595354433,0.0,0.0,0.07925110513595468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198802896645373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032644610879945,0.1122352644993821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878535312213802,0.2387065862778765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013920950455468,0.0,0.09441636937143358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481542873487492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926782766212564,0.0,0.10377251418112796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788768543497093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080607748732162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400563636158025,0.0,0.09523553059337572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288969245300504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434015932767466,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,opeitsmediane,2020/01/31,HALP! How many outfits is acceptable to have for a child? I feel like i have WAY too much clothes for my two boys (6 & 4) and im constantly drowning in laundry!,0.1361764705882358,2.3354387941176498,1.9544117647058847,96.1898529411765,87.52941176470587,5.752941176470588,26.14705882352941,7.1686216300943375,1.1841411764705887,125,6,29,2,4,41,30,34,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.6579999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,4,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913360158372389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39030491141773255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262235739525626,0.25802550596093626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901340227946157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645323849909858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661776192246405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655072545151975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528182478373717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866861411680868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bbtip,2020/01/31,"Laugh it out! Baby sleep tip Personal experience! Me as a parent I feel the pain as many of parents out there.I was given tips and allow me to share some tips which will immediately help your baby’s sleep. Here’s the first tip: Laugh together. No, this isn’t a joke or some weird therapy. Laugher is your most powerful ally against the main reason why your child isn’t sleeping: Tension. You see, the world is a scary place for your baby. He doesn’t understand most things and thus anxiety and tension build up during his day. And when it’s time to sleep it keeps him awake or causes terrifying nightmares. No wonder he wakes up crying! Been practicing the habit of it and I'm seeing some improvement. I would love to hear some comment on this tip whether it works for anyone out there or not!!?? Comment "" More"" to hear more tips.",2.5868823529411777,5.162936599999998,3.4205882352941184,87.30205882352942,79.875,6.514705882352942,22.536764705882355,7.724431198458867,1.13570955882353,656,21,127,11,17,208,100,160,0.14,0.6920000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.7918,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,5,0,3,3,9,0,2,8,0,9,7,5,4,0,28,20,12,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,9,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,5,11,5,17,15,9,12,0,0,2,1,20,8,0,10,4,79,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089590346321222,0.0,0.0,0.10136113934287908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891640279914484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592344817357145,0.093488809718565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418011254500511,0.0,0.0,0.07329738753444258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330501481735542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267665099907009,0.0,0.09716529733226867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884931638322902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083430150316638,0.0,0.0,0.1469692059918903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425030356738476,0.0,0.32192736660784993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265756495457076,0.15145494206481105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490455769967406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310326627483945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5802686966000478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657772340343086,0.0,0.09630663301593136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452879016484205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509110581974174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080609431790138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720563018830971,0.10553441483065394,0.0,0.0,0.10297718944094124,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momoftwinsw,2020/01/31,"Bored SAHM. I'm so bored. I'm a stay at home mom, my twins started daycare this year and are always sick and not going to school alot of days that held me back on getting a job. I'm hoping to get a job whenever they go into Kindergarden in 2022. 

I dont have friends or family where I live and I spend time with my dog while my kids and husband are at school/work. We go on walks at the dog park and to petsmart often. I go to the library some. I feel like I'm trying to meet new people without success. Anyone have any ideas on where or how to meet friends when your a parent in your 20s? 

I just need one friend other than my dog and the nice older cashier lady at petsmart lol",1.762563218390806,3.1613612965517284,3.1197413793103443,94.21731321839084,77.41379310344827,5.6609195402298855,21.738505747126442,5.985473137389443,0.0691954022988508,528,14,121,3,12,172,94,145,0.11,0.795,0.095,-0.284,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,1,1,8,9,0,0,8,1,5,1,0,1,0,23,20,12,0,2,5,3,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,3,9,0,1,2,0,1,5,3,2,0,1,1,1,15,7,20,19,2,27,0,0,0,0,13,12,0,6,10,71,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328818117205254,0.0,0.0,0.10893246087257863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200627733686733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317369794912962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330718081028406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18773763979124108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510097809174747,0.0,0.08099521739272338,0.11443742292156138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712795815222881,0.0,0.1673818967632284,0.0,0.3641512120243913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068033838467488,0.15910155433681514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083130595695274,0.0,0.0,0.3179211996186642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825913878086757,0.0,0.14144780622607772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876087474026679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877642123791425,0.0,0.1547093298571899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854666537903736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786839285927666,0.0,0.0,0.11105330046051784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242350199508273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338098305637295,0.17073772723369735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340616310681099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875626618628613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544142793029019,0.0,0.11661783808605795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315499408154016
parenting,angryturtle3003,2020/01/31,"How to deal with daughter dating My daughter is 19 years old and she recently brought home her first boyfriend. I never thought this day would come, I’m a man and I know how young men think and what they wanna do to beautiful girls and it’s making me feel really angry and sick. How do I get over the fact that my daughter is now older and doing things (sexual) if you know what I mean with guys because since she was born I’ve been dreading this day and now it’s here.",3.5131075110456536,4.552946113402066,4.047275405007365,90.72670103092787,72.40206185567008,7.192341678939616,24.166421207658324,7.447530270364453,0.8463472754050079,371,10,81,4,7,117,69,97,0.107,0.853,0.04,-0.7688,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,1,6,1,0,1,2,0,8,1,0,4,2,25,19,11,0,3,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,8,10,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,1,12,0,6,14,0,16,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,1,13,52,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519887478835933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477500289985732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215933764121543,0.2570474263327007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606831988957615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207926468973728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302642006783876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468750778433204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500974866358517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740495826962176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664291570929383,0.0,0.0,0.2715925595545923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19229802661200102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26162902230525736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597266507836599,0.0,0.2461824761466745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20624766597656954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16564322177015212,0.1597600647087561,0.0,0.19793951069521568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711628881274555,0.0,0.0,0.16055981094566796
parenting,Msroe25,2020/01/31,"Toddler being rough I need help. My little girl will be three in April. She has always been a sweet, happy little girl. We welcomed our little boy last summer. She seemed to transition from being the only child to a big sister pretty well. Until recently, the past month or so she has become incredibly rough. She has been hitting and kicking her brother. Laying on top of him. Poking his eyes. She has also been rough with us and her grandparents. I’m just at a lost. We remind her often to be gentle. We have tried time outs. We’ve tried ignoring the behavior and giving her good behavior the attention. I feel like such a failure. Any tips??",1.917418032786884,4.70581998360656,3.3427663934426235,84.67759221311478,86.8688524590164,5.67295081967213,19.100409836065573,7.1686216300943375,0.7984245901639344,506,14,88,8,16,165,86,122,0.06,0.725,0.215,0.9607,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,8,0,13,1,1,0,0,16,20,7,0,1,2,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,6,19,6,11,10,0,17,0,1,1,0,25,9,0,3,9,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092346964095835,0.15703448005920725,0.0,0.0,0.12833960373886533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208432149641237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954251287601459,0.13482531646677626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104240313116174,0.0,0.1582937389136817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009014785882452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264985195358111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153836222113339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092201597022855,0.5674566735169376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601584332556652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063864949076966,0.0,0.0,0.1399373401930713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353401449464506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015955259309585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920013704636572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186343361324754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180832880413266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004717844314846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562640372697222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22701317153805844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968661459717205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nosolicitingplease,2020/01/31,"Being a single parent. Where do I start? I recently got out of a long relationship and we have a two year old son. 

I have no idea where to start. I’m so heart broken, and trying to keep it together in front of my son has been rough.

I’m going to have to find a new place to live with a roommate that I don’t know because I don’t have family here. 

All of it is just stressing me out. And he wants to keep the court and everything out of it. I’m trying to be civil but i just don’t know where to go from him. 

Any advice or kind words are welcome.",-0.07849862258953166,1.6257266528925598,2.4829958677685937,95.22025137741049,84.12396694214875,5.686225895316805,16.69490358126722,6.816661863887847,-0.31551294765840243,419,8,103,5,12,145,74,121,0.049,0.875,0.076,0.7236,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,6,0,14,1,1,0,1,22,27,7,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,2,4,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,2,1,10,2,18,23,2,18,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,1,7,69,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049923806299412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561105734055789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125992257105092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600797975554424,0.0,0.17413081553347065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882417874312852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20995311410312545,0.0,0.14773172265747087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188855909345326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20851829986744214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283624977318478,0.0,0.1923499863350304,0.20302667959022816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631048115156694,0.16346504050271873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839680062440094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938250412953731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510173657651806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19298559148858155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823816340591337,0.1983124507854914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261481381214403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21158792077820526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508157711419043,0.0,0.1804375934595696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894841189632573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894900539975772
parenting,Ljmrgm,2020/01/31,"Help 4 year old handle not getting his way My son will be 5 in April and we need some behavior advice when it comes to him. He does not handle it well when he does not get his way with certain things. 

For example: today at preschool they were passing out heart or snowflake shaped brownies. My son wanted a heart shaped one but was given a snowflake. This caused a meltdown. 

He is very bright (we know this by just being around him, but his teacher also tells us he is above and beyond where he is expected to be), social, outgoing and silly. 

He is not an angry child by any means. 

His teacher talked to me today at pickup about being concerned with how he handles certain situations, such as the brownie incident mentioned above. Asked if we were planning to send him to kindergarten next year or if we wanted to hold him back until he works through these issues. 

We are very against holding him back and instead are taking him to a behaviorist to help get him ready for kindergarten. 

Any advice or experience is appreciated!",6.525449050086357,7.219460538860106,6.15089378238342,79.60989853195166,65.37305699481865,8.298618307426597,32.145509499136445,8.07648339933343,2.3091074265975817,816,31,147,9,12,253,117,193,0.006999999999999999,0.851,0.142,0.9798,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,1,2,14,5,0,0,6,0,15,2,2,2,2,39,27,17,0,6,12,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,14,0,2,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,4,1,21,5,25,18,1,26,0,0,1,0,37,9,0,6,12,101,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27302606083314696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171788178214166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000131275241228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436244252019076,0.13060045747837618,0.0,0.0,0.2148410503117072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351017949970749,0.0,0.12033901019796225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24450447760307484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366532133739819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21896214311087733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310898777596739,0.18727566606754487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581029891641065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767753581225754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521740395886288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035856336048226,0.0,0.0,0.1485723250778367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659144294345705,0.0,0.09466420179857317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702843147642062,0.0,0.14240635608639968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503686580844106,0.11228540971106367,0.12210378511621706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281034144888796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648381566640479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804166191787012,0.0,0.0,0.2305339356212381,0.16479712631085855,0.2217744018550513,0.0,0.0,0.12560689993860336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170312021417367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992418545823669
parenting,joy_see_grozzie,2020/01/31,Am I “too attached” to my 5 year old? I am a first time mom. We only have one she’s my daughter she’s 5. So before she came a long I was young. Always going out. Didn’t really care about stuff. Since I had her I’m just a completely different person. I thought I’d get over not being able to leave her past the new born stage but I still can’t leave her. Every Friday I’ve been letting her stay the night with my mom (who only lives 20 minutes away). When I leave her I’m ok for the first 2 hours but when it comes to going to bed I cry and I am just really sad. I’m ok with leaving her for a couple hours but anxiety kicks in when she’s not with me. Am I overly attached? Everyone is making me feel like I am. And if I am how do I get out of this funk? I need advice.,-1.356848334709607,0.5243971907514506,1.6055161023947129,98.22477842003856,91.54335260115609,4.682521332232316,14.59647674098541,6.1826913282559595,-0.7803650426644646,586,11,147,6,21,205,103,173,0.094,0.836,0.07,-0.4466,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,10,5,0,0,7,2,16,0,0,2,0,23,30,11,0,2,8,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,10,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,1,0,3,6,1,30,4,17,22,0,29,0,1,0,0,16,6,0,1,18,94,34,0,0.12354031304241996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072216410320084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279543705943024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945080013327446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607019080177733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512370722509576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129720660560904,0.12595758267700316,0.0,0.0,0.10641904067914842,0.12952966777216174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669500660712935,0.135703232870906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907333291405335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408804198824956,0.118048063315839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246569424532233,0.08825722432202655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21016665432656853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290894292525631,0.0,0.1404216137792771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433246460915789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232454147956146,0.0,0.1263283401981658,0.0,0.06035555669027817,0.0,0.10908835977991416,0.10932928945560688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246411826206776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289377843044244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916035767473318,0.0,0.11931600416478615,0.0,0.1159342149399923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963477682051752,0.0,0.08371411336597533,0.1879159500169471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793320767678662,0.0,0.10787063617662908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582861759309675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021938235790593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316775361415296,0.09865945357920462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142410167263395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807720896880444,0.07203735001991551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955591117105168
parenting,l2k83,2020/01/31,"Coronavirus - am I overreacting? So my Dad has just got back from a trip which included a 3 hour stop over in HongKong Airport last night. Everyone there but him (idiot) was wearing face masks. 

My sister has just been to visit him and gave him a kiss to welcome him home, she sad he’s coughing sneezing, granted it could just be a cold but given where he’s just travelled from, who knows.

Anyway my sister is due to babysit my 4yr old tomorrow night. Am I over reacting if I cancel?",3.385212765957444,5.3256368297872365,4.181861702127662,86.00875,74.31914893617022,7.253191489361702,27.707446808510642,8.07648339933343,1.8201319148936173,378,15,74,6,8,121,69,94,0.085,0.8059999999999999,0.109,0.5122,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,9,4,1,0,4,0,9,4,2,1,0,12,13,5,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,5,1,12,2,8,6,0,16,0,1,0,1,14,4,0,1,9,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313537669245507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402236483521241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287498289928002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24063666527084301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018014574130815,0.0,0.2963005816601101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653526482287106,0.24525271386998104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5647003026253132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31571696819270345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25154438932818124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rwshields,2020/01/31,"Phases to Crying Sounds in Public 1. Hear crying and freak out that your kid is making the noise/annoying others.
2.  Immediate sense of relief when you realize it is someone else’s kid
3. Your heart drops as your kid also begins to cry...

Anyone else out there experience this too?",2.7153459119496866,5.478502452830195,4.330471698113207,79.74841194968555,81.0754716981132,6.552201257861638,18.26729559748428,7.793537801064563,0.9413672955974848,222,5,38,4,6,74,44,53,0.154,0.794,0.052000000000000005,-0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,5,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,7,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,2,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609268718678267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396793405901427,0.22561941879195105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7256332459189604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678952379214939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21539641794013928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481797500951088,0.2609363216747104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698423056551546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865735023360535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sea-Comedian,2020/01/31,"Help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Hi guys. I am dying here. I’m a dad with a 1 year old son. My son is a year old and sleeping in the bed with his mom. Always has done. Breast feeding through the night. I was working nights for most of the year so slept in another room. She is wrecked from not sleeping for a year. I am happy to stay up all night as long as it takes but all I can do is either I can rock him to sleep when she’s hiding somewhere and he’ll sleep for an hour or two before he wakes and won’t settle without her. He starts crying in a way that freaks me out like he’s seriously really upset and it doesn’t look healthy but stops as soon as she takes him. I feel like there’s no way for me to just take this by the horns and train him to sleep alone. I’ve read the books and watched the videos but this dude just will not sleep alone. He’s never done it. It’s scream, breast, sleep. My partners back is destroyed from all the rocking and mine is totally wrecked to the point that I just can’t do it anymore without fear of permanent damage. I want to take the weight off my partner but it seems like only she can crack the code and stop feeding him and make him stay in the cot otherwise he will always just scream for her. Will I make it out alive? Hellllllpp meee pleaseeeee!",2.0410123296560663,3.687490641791048,2.647631408176512,96.83416288124596,77.28358208955223,5.705645684620378,21.35366645035691,6.280692351149826,-0.030413238157040997,1004,26,235,7,23,311,142,268,0.149,0.7609999999999999,0.09,-0.9527,0,2,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,10,12,1,2,17,0,22,14,11,2,5,40,36,20,1,1,14,4,2,3,2,5,0,2,2,3,11,13,3,2,2,5,0,0,9,8,0,1,4,6,27,4,33,27,6,32,0,1,2,2,27,10,0,3,21,145,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830389226998177,0.0,0.0,0.14705347069011604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265837766294996,0.0,0.0,0.08763430769365177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794720890434597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519208265209572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706477227193752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917088897449011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18085609172003209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943516024975864,0.04467998483498627,0.06312795354197827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749521484729204,0.0,0.0940661556686108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059229177973808285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702169749889767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295119852684926,0.0,0.0,0.07820021939902053,0.0742043210626615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796860974311868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349198704187987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815251381431632,0.0,0.0,0.2487736202065563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544834672549199,0.0,0.0,0.06720554296599343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353346047622795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838888466098943,0.0,0.05660886367810755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044415161113211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.619001515793696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625451818836614,0.18837060530556635,0.0,0.14775414636729936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26575784668298985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631973755963394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211994985145358,0.14028000319881512,0.0,0.10760473004477387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036135909374867,0.0,0.06433075192464467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276165788342156
parenting,rs50541,2020/01/31,"Is YouTube really that bad? I have a 2 year old and 3 month old. When I was pregnant with my second I was really sick. I threw up 3 times a day, barely ate and barely gained any weight. I had zero energy so my 2 year old watched a lot of TV and YouTube. As much as I felt bad about it my son went from never talking to learning how to count to 30, his ABC and now is a huge talker and singer. Trust me I tried to teach him all these things before but he was 1 and maybe not ready. So at this point I don't really have a huge problem with YouTube. He does only watch what I let him which is learning or baby sensory videos that only have music and dancing fruit or vegetables lol. 
How do you feel about it with your kids?",0.7082683982683982,2.54587103896104,2.4360779220779243,95.88316450216448,82.11688311688313,5.665108225108226,18.058874458874463,6.742157984588678,-0.17549125541125532,556,12,131,6,15,183,99,154,0.09300000000000001,0.816,0.091,-0.3382,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,8,4,0,0,5,1,13,5,0,2,2,24,18,17,0,1,4,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,9,10,4,0,4,3,0,3,3,3,0,2,8,6,18,1,15,9,3,19,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,3,11,83,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157762509162116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28430429097949833,0.0,0.0,0.14487072702497036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979755704709954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898745350248346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608382236808151,0.0,0.16346728160040522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17409278051028507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474097786974982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103961798928188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589241023845464,0.0,0.12515378544618969,0.0,0.13130776375142947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5359481185008516,0.0,0.0,0.2589665168509597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609418534940059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290683807218195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32720069512037797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684098894493224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310693830002815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927449807293376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155889866237601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20731937357074365,0.0,0.1578240183761108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192716180719476
parenting,throwaway284219,2020/01/31,"Troubled 16 year old son My 16 year old son runs away, vapes, abuses drugs, has casual sex, doesn't care about school, and steals, and I feel like I have done all I have can. We've tried therapy, grounding, positivity, and therapeutic boarding school, but nothing has helped. Even his time in juvenile detention didn't open his eyes and get him on the right path. I feel so hopeless with him. I love him so much, but he just blatantly defies any authority. Please help.",5.599696969696968,6.770349272727278,5.550454545454548,81.39151515151516,67.63636363636363,9.503030303030306,28.303030303030305,9.725611199111238,2.392380303030304,368,12,73,8,6,115,67,88,0.163,0.6509999999999999,0.185,0.3042,0,0,1,0,1,1,17.0,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,1,0,8,4,1,0,2,13,13,8,0,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,3,11,4,5,11,2,12,0,1,1,2,11,6,0,0,6,37,11,2,0.0,0.2282863804728321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102446605427606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102292849845064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644329284955125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971717032216073,0.0,0.0,0.22343988386467395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725891207888074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948428416437808,0.13764585978153912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066385848111617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582897328023586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413045285578277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389519563284112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163706099471102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848752489500737,0.0,0.40435648073275693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114974489151978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454196429478585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899913765360348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203387354284129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234936353420164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081253827344608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24815060473435285
parenting,throw_away1312020,2020/01/31,"Stressed about unexpected lab results Obgyn just told wife that recent test for HIV is positive. Neither of us have a history of infidelity or drug use, or whatever else causes HIV, and the HIV test was negative at the start of the pregnancy. Could be a false positive, but in the meantime we are worried about breastfeeding in the case that the test was correct. Stressed and confused. Help?",5.598333333333333,8.122472928571433,5.6485714285714295,75.34476190476191,69.71428571428572,9.80952380952381,35.95238095238096,10.125756701596842,4.284238095238095,315,17,52,9,6,99,50,70,0.159,0.74,0.10099999999999999,-0.5789,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,3,8,0,7,4,0,3,1,13,10,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,9,5,1,5,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,3,2,36,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264830670876073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058315893923744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989650889181631,0.0,0.2153580526598481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279729025609789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545454920127732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247151687384072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5906159540273147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463380702499729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101005532567849,0.22265563422305812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26180748127703224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MirandaJones1194,2020/01/31,"Just found out our kid is kind of awful I'm going to admit I'm a total snoop. Whenever our middle schooler is acting up or in a funk I check her messages to see if I can figure out why. This is a double edged sword, though, because while I do often spot the problem, I can't address it directly because I don't want to reveal I was snooping. This mostly comes in the form of seeing problems where I'd like to support the kid, but this time is different. I always knew she spoke differently with her friends, more cursing, more boisterousness, more bravado. But this is the first time I've seen her mean side.  
She recently had a falling out with her best friend of 9 years. The reason she gave is that this other girl in school lied to the friend that our kid was spreading rumors about her. These that were stated as fact to us by our kid in the past. The best friend is ""stuck up"". The best friend is ""too rich"", etc. So we sort of though, maybe she \*is\* actually spreading these things. Because the breakup has been crashing our kid's mood I decided some text snooping was in order. What I found was another girl asking ours to stop telling people her questions are dumb in class. Our kid confirmed she was telling people this and told the girl she was seeking attention and wasting people's time. This all confirmed to us that our kid is, in fact, a mean gossip.

Let me clarify some things. In front of us our kid is the kindest, most ethical person around. She has real empathy. When hearing moral problems she's usually spot on in what's right and what's wrong. The media she consumes shows girls and women as friends, not petty enemies. And, most important, when the kid tells us this gossip about other kids at school we defend the other kids. We never agree that this person is awful, or that person is dumb. In fact, a few weeks ago she told us about this very kid in class who was asking ""dumb questions"" and we told her everyone learns differently and at a different so you can't judge. We're doing everything we can to build a kind person, but it seems to have failed.

So the question is, how do we fix this without revealing we know who shes fighting with and why? She's about to enter high school and with this attitude she will have a dead social life on arrival. If her friends of 9 years have had enough, why would new people want to deal with it? She's lost this friend and she wont admit it's her fault. We want her to be a kind person. And, please, no answers regarding gender reductiveness. Girls aren't ""just this way"". I know I wasn't, nor were any of the girls I grew up with. This has to stop. Thanks!",3.3269068423175128,5.119965890173415,3.8728933100327114,88.79343460142496,74.10597302504817,6.677617959403148,24.015817538199574,7.397020576406223,0.9536238831384148,2063,62,418,24,43,649,232,519,0.14,0.727,0.133,0.6228,4,0,0,0,2,0,70.0,22,1,0,6,18,32,4,0,27,2,49,1,0,2,6,86,81,30,1,9,11,0,0,1,8,3,1,2,1,24,37,30,0,2,21,1,2,7,11,13,0,1,24,5,61,18,57,52,18,55,1,2,3,0,105,27,3,15,19,285,98,7,0.0,0.0,0.06035867612956505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482810820125937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051465858413790144,0.0,0.0,0.04206151332125295,0.0648572648203862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055061435702213536,0.1156466300661116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131133022631473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472972376139408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053280062197293636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376674509484849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584889005495509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390969919871389,0.06898138285250258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05910228203147424,0.055588632081895205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052611320036597284,0.0,0.135635155222297,0.3822939079625641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03515194399544224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697117528424439,0.0,0.0,0.06535008413435361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322816837625792,0.06798453550949313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632479092095214,0.04368793035671091,0.030217786158265862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751881637455404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06213869522968659,0.1347500246305476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04770411211718832,0.0597370929343283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904477807773281,0.17152168744826427,0.27003411081671963,0.0,0.06789497437274453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775521685700951,0.0,0.0,0.20786534623761194,0.0,0.0,0.07040117123193819,0.0,0.06359420631050536,0.061071435054732275,0.0,0.0,0.05282131064150515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18779272268756012,0.09857614774847093,0.05630778107591128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305037325046738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342216258213027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018897056340613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621842473562372,0.056945055286062016,0.0,0.0,0.0821835040327188,0.0,0.12153864532733985,0.0,0.1081992789568912,0.0,0.0,0.17730684609442274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720019877175423,0.0,0.06812129196894139,0.05103441688726156,0.10944582050326457,0.049095276357877235,0.04961398167501627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674355572907599,0.0,0.0,0.059623166628797165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04393791994730861,0.06762550428302361,0.0,0.07966138142770413
parenting,jiggy7880,2020/01/31,"Is there any GOOD STEM programs anymore? It's getting ridiculous. HS info just came out a little while ago for our son, and the school has a STEM program at one of their high schools. Son is interested.

Okay, let's take a look at it.

What?

Apparently all STEM represents to our district is model rocket making for 4 years. There's some ""engineering tips/procedures"" stuff but it's nothing he hasn't learned over a year ago in a decent PLTW class.

I don't understand how schools can be so clueless about this. Sure, STEM is a diverse field, I get that. 
But, like c'mon?? This sounds like a summer camp program to me for Christ's sake.

And by the looks of it, it doesn't even seem challenging. Oh, they'll do some coding eventually? Probably just the block coding bullcrap that they've been advertising since 3rd grade.

Why is it so hard for schools to do this? PLTW was excellent. It's sad thinking a 7th grade class seemed more engaging than high school stuff
 I get schools have to make it friendly, but jeez. A big disappointment. I probably overblew some of it, but it still is pretty dumb. Any other parents with a problem like this?",2.9929702555509015,5.531850552995393,3.3738688730624204,88.44184227063263,78.03225806451613,6.526099706744867,25.99266862170088,7.686295010490155,1.4623566820276497,898,35,176,14,22,278,134,217,0.129,0.7170000000000001,0.154,0.713,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,2,2,10,16,2,0,13,1,19,0,0,3,2,27,32,10,0,1,6,3,1,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,20,5,0,1,6,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,4,9,11,20,26,5,17,1,2,2,0,9,9,2,5,10,102,29,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901457810774769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458707871957296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636568336689699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266831410246025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083928002778016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286303334581532,0.0,0.16810505000704087,0.0,0.0,0.08995832786922313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607719421327683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22663635859170644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967297151687566,0.0,0.15719449585250295,0.10749520446004876,0.0,0.0,0.18013021444062535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431837840841249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291168859326796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267708541365303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909123449424094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911437403679254,0.23127272012075975,0.10262617989916686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6512716762908838,0.0,0.19527733793253133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872039547899893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565200354322179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245556958164922,0.0,0.0,0.10108423380144424,0.0,0.08064054967880734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872308617699224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165365907804398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677872009349787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813421701219386
parenting,TheBescobar,2020/01/31,"My 6 month keeps ""waking"" up screaming From when she was about 4 or 5 month old she kept waking up at random times during the night and was screaming almost like she was in pain

Has anybody had similar thing happen?",4.74642857142857,6.025212214285716,4.760476190476194,85.86785714285716,69.71428571428571,6.552380952380951,23.523809523809533,6.42735559955562,0.6703238095238091,171,4,32,1,3,53,34,42,0.18600000000000005,0.7659999999999999,0.048,-0.7425,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,5,3,2,0,0,6,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,2,4,1,6,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,3,7,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32911499161556435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906413212367071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29213652072024715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057129819169078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5246816603530233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084340269327285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448833139205143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497274822180041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21835338736199827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164980733000586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dynimitecookies,2020/01/31,"Why do some parents think their kids can’t do no wrong? ( question from Gen Y) I know I’m not the only person that has seen this in irl. That some parents are actually enabling there kids then actually help them.It honestly could be two issues,I think somewhat the problem is that some parents try to be there childs friends first then the parents like my mom before she passed always would tell me that I’m your mama first then your shoulder to cry on second.I respected that about her and I can say now looking back my mom was my best friend.she held me accountable for my actions and I needed that, but then I know some parents literally would reason with there kids with the fear of them being mad at them.  As a person that was born in this generation I see that lot with within my friends, that they’re disrespectful and have no respect for there parents or let alone other people around them. That’s when the part comes where parents think there kids can’t do no freaking wrong , these are the same parents that talk trash about everyone else’s kids and making it seem that there kids are perfect compared to the people around them,but  little do they know, that there precious son is selling drugs to the kids at school and there daughter is making a girls life a living hell and when it’s brought up they deflect the blame from there children.I know some parents confuse defending there kids to enabling there kids.like its okay to defend your kid right or wrong which is okay I guess but to a certain extant especially you know because the proof is there and know in your gut that they were wrong.But I mean there’s gotta come a point that your kid needs to be held accountable, because my Generation( gen Y) is in trouble if we don’t shape up.",5.802213903743316,6.6342255529411815,5.256684491978612,84.90098930481284,67.0,7.828877005347593,29.86631016042781,7.686295010490155,1.7397352941176472,1408,49,274,14,22,427,169,340,0.139,0.759,0.102,-0.9378,9,1,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,6,7,6,22,22,2,2,15,2,30,4,2,3,3,57,57,19,0,7,6,13,0,1,2,3,2,1,0,14,23,15,0,2,13,0,3,5,7,10,0,3,7,4,31,12,31,41,10,33,1,0,3,0,50,17,1,14,12,181,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.13760279890130403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302052638526295,0.0,0.0,0.058664690974947524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552640564688555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05421296069078875,0.0,0.08595675044831058,0.0,0.05999341969756574,0.0,0.0739892388221788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146531624128908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562914335834381,0.0,0.0774449571732495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817618592767225,0.0,0.05889675901423869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736926611451598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933621587740675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994075011499443,0.0,0.0,0.16341285269094688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766772739510568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04725711547272138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324817980110349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209476656846965,0.049798818337104464,0.03444452577996287,0.07066318679607075,0.0622560212643745,0.0,0.059205315504864416,0.0,0.0,0.05993968837665362,0.0,0.0,0.09412347770979057,0.0,0.0,0.07679915187909797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514606312119445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455513738368058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053621208549531466,0.0,0.0,0.7045737130321894,0.07634859054735252,0.0,0.09775671775211077,0.12312214856218473,0.0,0.0,0.06664874513886984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746247850598024,0.0,0.0,0.07898023192635299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248950228338585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060209738284386714,0.0,0.05606733825809905,0.0,0.07135346540635185,0.05618228689269556,0.06418388186095478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05666816927196236,0.06162330423443544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552769075011445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047867355464712255,0.0,0.06887182880090785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361858475643095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016755088651856,0.30833872653141725,0.0,0.0
parenting,darcybono,2020/01/31,"Toddler Semantics: ""I wanna wear a taco!"" Upon my 2 year old exiting the bathtub, this dialogue ensued:

Son: I wanna taco! 😀
Me: Um....what!?
Son: I wanna wear a taco!
Me: WHAT!? What do you mean?
Son: I WANNA WEAR A TAAACCOO! Like this! *drapes towel around his shoulders*
Me: OOOOooooh! A TOGA! 😂 You mean a toga! It's a toga, not a taco
Son: It's a taco 😑",-3.261262656343064,-4.422526369863013,0.6807027992852888,95.83539606908876,148.3150684931507,2.9134008338296606,14.1328171530673,5.192301501255418,-0.6362395473496125,257,8,56,3,23,93,40,73,0.0,0.9279999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.6379,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,9,0,1,4,4,0,0,8,3,0,0,4,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,6,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,3,34,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32963609860375503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090471144857684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8067074866372931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3885564673814675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384542524938044
parenting,whenthelilacslast,2020/01/31,"How can I improve my relationship with my niece? I am a 35-year-old woman and I require some advice regarding my niece's (16F) behavior. My niece (brother's daughter) lives in a relatively small town - the kind where almost everyone knows everyone else. Her parents and the people around her believe that she is the most beautiful girl in town and do their best to flatter her about her looks instead of encouraging her to do well in high school or in her tennis classes. Her mother believes she has the potential to be a tennis champion and an oscar-winning actress too (I'm not exaggerating). She paid me a visit during the Christmas vacation. Her mother (my sister in law) was with her as well.

Throughout the week, my sister in law narrated boring tales about how difficult life is for a mother of a beautiful girl. She has to be protected from the predators (boys) in school and suspicious relatives who might abuse her. I was so bored that I challenged my niece to a game of tennis instead. Her mother warned me that I was going to get wallopped. Surprisingly, my niece turned out to be quite an average badminton player and received a thrashing instead of giving me one. She failed to win a single game despite the fact that I am beyond my peak fitness levels. She shook my hands at the net and puckered her lips to give me a kiss on the cheek when her mother arrived.

I was stunned to notice that she withdrew her hand immediately from mine and ran to her mother. Her mother was furious to know that she had lost and might have even hit her had I not intervened. The girl kept telling her mother that she had sprained her foot in the first game, although I am certain that nothing of that sort happened. She spent the entire day locked up in her room. When she ran into me in the dining space, she said ""sorry"" and went back to her room again. I have no idea what is wrong with her. Is it not my duty to ensure her well-being? Why did she not admit defeat when she lost fair and square? Maybe her mother keeps telling her I am a bad person. What can I do to improve our relationship?

TL;DR: My niece behaved quite badly after a tennis match with me. I did not gloat over my victory or hurt her feelings. Why did she not admit defeat graciously? How can I help her if she is feeling upset about something?",5.405377073906486,6.495280563348416,5.773647058823527,79.91007843137257,68.02714932126696,8.246274509803923,29.89170437405731,8.447377352677275,2.2216938763197587,1827,67,334,26,30,585,217,442,0.115,0.7390000000000001,0.145,0.9495,1,0,1,0,1,0,51.0,1,0,1,12,22,26,1,2,28,0,35,8,5,3,2,51,60,23,0,1,9,14,4,0,0,2,1,1,2,6,13,18,1,5,7,4,2,7,7,15,2,2,20,7,80,11,50,34,4,44,0,6,2,1,83,28,0,9,9,251,93,7,0.0,0.1283847475754617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588472899622588,0.0,0.0,0.1085033942318864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646026817642482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331946891846985,0.18094632214650155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441613655594255,0.11371347378548932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698809858264715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051796137965314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156845393113298,0.0,0.0,0.20707858056688885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095766159571636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216799335368343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661180502447068,0.20789087882426427,0.061581502579430764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581930529332776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262908562149335,0.11448460361701494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159978866758121,0.12232131231774147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631224612905658,0.0,0.11283663240951962,0.11909980993887798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653540857656732,0.0,0.0,0.09568078486453127,0.0,0.09099217940063367,0.0,0.2365678646545876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088586799371767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298982705921397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397099520455416,0.12336460655931558,0.11370193132383367,0.0,0.07342517650145908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203170829257498,0.0,0.0,0.07512076173790798,0.09461272636273102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305009757581316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23266868418215436,0.0,0.0,0.10307185585673607,0.0,0.0,0.2193251490933524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834181363961732,0.0,0.121296243379857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941673416802846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786076918934907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691705758554896,0.0,0.29227655087877386,0.10044757176597964,0.195549795757645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847083526817995,0.0,0.06977804081770332
parenting,ejs_md,2020/01/31,"Biting? I have two boys, 2 years old and 9 months old. My two year old went through a phase when he got his teeth where he bit us. He stopped about a week after. The past two days, he has bit his little brother on the back shoulder area (right side yesterday, left side today) and broke skin seemingly out of nowhere. They’re playing and laughing and then bang, bit the shit out of him. 

Tips on how to make him stop? Ideas on why the hell he just started doing this again?",1.944093567251464,3.987197000000002,2.065614035087723,99.0537426900585,79.0,5.064327485380117,21.08187134502924,5.82211442006289,-0.1944269005847956,365,10,83,2,9,109,71,95,0.133,0.797,0.07,-0.6632,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,6,0,3,4,4,2,0,13,8,7,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,2,1,7,2,11,6,3,32,1,1,0,0,12,12,2,1,19,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035038423963328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4700274776813082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925521218161062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477811158113313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620053991002665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592410920428906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383478996874427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579408502043606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145483674183986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517690273320529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369965987754874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255681427446433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064617639580425,0.0,0.0,0.1473110229013433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157716504464594,0.0,0.0,0.23996168624945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360307646364236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4205654519487109,0.0,0.17262494233759612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511512046397,0.0,0.0,0.13303527115805766,0.12949551515356822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483155775409585
parenting,S2bMomma,2020/01/31,"I'm about to give birth in a few weeks to a baby boy and am conflicted. I'm due in a few weeks and I've been conflicted about (Male)circumcision even since far before I ever got pregnant. My husband is all for it and said it shouldn't even be a question... I think it is because most of his family is on the prenatal, delivery, labor, and postnatal medical field. 
But I'd like to know if there are some different opinions from men that are and aren't circumcised and some men who had to be circumcised later. Or even Parents experiences with un/circumcising their baby boy.

▪Do you wish you were/weren't?▪

▪Do you have regrets or are happy with circumcising your Son?▪

▪Do you feel one is safer or more medically sound than the other?▪

▪Do you regret not being circumcised until later in life? Or are you happy that you got to choose?▪

▪Do you prefer being un/circumcised?▪

▪If you were circumcised later, did your sensitivity go away?▪

▪What are your favorite things about being circumcised or uncircumcised?▪

▪Did you or your son have complications due to being un/circumcised?▪

[Some info: I live in the U.S. in Alaska, I am 39 weeks prego with my first baby boy. I tried posting this in r/circumcision but they referred me to this subreddit] Most of the parents I know who kept their boys uncircumcised are usually considered ""Hippies"" or ""Naturalists"" since 90% of them are into essential oils, crystal's, tarot, dream catchers, vegan, etc. kind of people.  (Nothing wrong with that btw, just AK is pretty conservative. Even though I see our state as pretty neutral while leaning right. Very few people I know here are alt-right or alt-left.)

Serious replies please! 

■Please do not comment that circumcision is evil or non-circumcision is disgusting.  I am in need of real help with this conflicting situation and comments like those are extremely unhelpful. Thank you.  ■",2.84257042253521,5.627044014084508,4.4244894366197185,79.14856514084508,80.69014084507042,8.057042253521129,25.49471830985917,8.841846274778883,2.4669281690140847,1495,59,269,40,40,498,184,355,0.067,0.825,0.10800000000000001,0.9094,3,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,1,15,4,1,12,12,2,0,8,0,34,3,0,0,2,56,51,23,0,7,15,4,1,2,0,1,3,2,0,6,14,13,0,5,9,1,0,1,4,6,0,2,8,5,33,6,34,36,11,28,0,2,1,0,39,11,0,17,16,167,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063852442921428,0.0,0.0,0.0690252105560042,0.0,0.0963521400006716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183033986487802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12628367434878507,0.29915482115250225,0.1024248776068432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076267861754187,0.10674510531172092,0.0,0.057253529922388614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631512926853893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086225062472241,0.06435238704534192,0.0,0.18112403878246933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24107525900678964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589706052779495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791376204801755,0.18668813065240208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302696051361894,0.0,0.0799791500546749,0.11063892630019176,0.0,0.09998598024565003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281387682692461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396013500952841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864921193280024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672897183695376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514615968851185,0.0,0.0,0.1570017012255712,0.0,0.0,0.2485895898010609,0.0,0.0,0.1084450097315001,0.2303954178906326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684581746158155,0.0,0.0,0.12888286975395996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933991148304692,0.10770961544854994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023128869019187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733345420570965,0.1272775755506017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424886426088406,0.0,0.0,0.07522634681230811,0.07255452958536496,0.11124992043236093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687713349977625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247091127416012,0.09342830509141156,0.0,0.0,0.2724837766035176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021127660558365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380147812939793,0.0,0.0
parenting,921520,2020/01/31,"Re-defining a Grandmother's role from ""Mother"", back to Grandma, after my son's real Mother's successful road to sobriety Quick tl;dr on my situation. Looking for articles and/or personal experience.

My 3 year old son has been with me almost exclusively since he was 18 months because his Mother has struggled with sobriety and been away at treatment centers. Mother has been doing great the last 6 months and currently lives with her parents.

My son has a great relationship with his Mother and Grandma, but the Grandma has had to assume the ""mother"" role for the last 18 months which was a big help. It's a known issue that the Grandma has been a helicopter parent while raising my son's Mother, and now, that parenting style is happening with my son. Loose boundaries, inconsistent rules/discipline, unacceptable public behavior, indirect (and sometimes direct) reward for bad behavior, rescuing, etc. That said, Grandma is a wonderful person with the best intentions, but the rescuing, enablement, ""running the show"", and unknowingly undermining the Mother needs to change. Luckily, the Mother also finally see's what I'm talking about and agrees.

The problem that is obvious to me and my son's Mother is; now that she has a decent handle of her sobriety, the ""mother"" role needs to transition away from Grandma. Generally speaking, the Grandma needs to get on board with what we, the parents, allow.

Even though the Mother and I are divorced, we get along very well and there's possibility of pulling the family back together. I also have a great relationship with the Grandparents and I've always been able to speak freely in the past with them. 

Ultimately, this is the Mother's responsibility to fix and communicate with the Grandma. I'm happy to be as involved as they will allow, but I mostly plan on being in the corner, encouraging the Mother and being prepared if she needs me. 

Do any of you brilliant minds have any articles or experience here? I've already read all the boring and generic ""Grandparents who have problems with boundaries"" and ""How to deal with an interfering grandparent"" articles.

I'm just looking for articles or experience that is more specific. Thank you!",9.869842931937177,9.802105853403141,9.651670157068065,59.88410209424086,58.528795811518314,12.980314136125655,40.82774869109948,12.251624239485473,5.494331518324606,1764,83,260,51,20,576,192,382,0.063,0.768,0.17,0.9937,8,0,0,0,1,0,62.0,2,2,2,5,15,15,0,1,32,0,31,0,0,4,2,60,47,28,0,7,7,24,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,12,30,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,5,1,0,9,6,25,10,45,34,5,31,0,0,3,0,55,12,0,9,17,186,37,2,0.0928597250977717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298560112591894,0.0,0.10247301574873356,0.1485197772227868,0.07726673011882633,0.0,0.0,0.12629559472428242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448953696916786,0.1428067934228631,0.0775339917033308,0.0566064265267943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745055250034566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823327639329593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573429911895652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356313984378428,0.06133297264615292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725038885895622,0.08753988451828408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172328989710497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097030747439544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071345242317629,0.0,0.0,0.0821155482300079,0.09885090408614987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062241916334039665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692142728808424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513861395541872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199683853036169,0.0,0.1559575635254905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376185101674617,0.0,0.2223592399187621,0.0,0.0,0.27541723815477354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744066080301103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124389420540389,0.0,0.08864511490273222,0.0,0.16216306037761208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468538761765724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770843187752292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288485425816984,0.10569469674229516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993931859460326,0.0,0.0,0.08833086323106121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399717831378666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681452418679849,0.10437822167986037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184064253871876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707714668008703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463712956971902,0.0,0.08549275877249995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123420843398444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661899826280028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834920448675581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070241073786347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059798618437286524
parenting,SevereFix8,2020/01/31,"SEX TALK WITH MY 10 YO DAUGHTER - REAL WORDS USED! Hello all! My daughter and I have already had conversations about sex (the basics like fingers/penis going into vagina/butt, protection needed and why and about consent) and her period and all sorts of stuff.  She is very reluctant to have these conversations, which I get cause I'm mom and I know I wanted my mom to hush lol, BUT I now want to have a conversation about self pleasure so she isn't ashamed or confused and also so that when someone makes her cum for the first time she doesn't think it's something only others can do for her. How do I approach or even begin to talk about the benefits and joys of self satisfaction when she can barely make it through our other talks?  I'm assuming she already does this but possibly without knowing what it is.  My mom could barely talk to me about my period so I don't have a lot to go off of here. I just want her to feel power over her own body and not feel as weird as I did.",5.235795262267344,5.438777786802032,5.966814720812184,81.52335236886636,68.08629441624365,8.800169204737733,28.59940778341793,8.59863814320734,1.940983417935703,772,24,156,11,12,253,117,197,0.009000000000000001,0.884,0.10800000000000001,0.9109999999999999,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,16,7,0,2,5,1,16,3,1,5,2,41,34,22,0,5,7,5,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,11,11,0,1,6,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,2,3,26,4,25,31,4,14,0,0,0,2,26,3,0,6,9,113,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915527979413605,0.10564087599682599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673408930260948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357037999196498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547165376142202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560220614236565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725126146815783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358815853244807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236478148369523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901715953131345,0.0,0.15015173552107752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519817163836335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453772564977782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230728472493487,0.0,0.0,0.1763564759300917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4641442031431575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795098958319992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046852926604333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892368220304392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035950848924146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275619664556649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192848799944913,0.10169756687621853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512236880002949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247101307083835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464478970672834,0.0,0.0,0.07702897607224271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409258428276142,0.0,0.10899690594525972,0.2337492329901335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920032795533833,0.0,0.0,0.1273403534629132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DuckyCharms404,2020/01/31,"Five year old My five year old has recently been saying stuff like ""I dont want to live here anymore"" or ""I want to live somewhere else where I don't get yelled at"" even as far as telling me to call the police to take him away. He has also said in the past that he doesn't want to live anymore. He wants to die. Etc... 
What do I do in this situation? I am usually at a loss for words, and honestly kind of hurt. 
Any advice or help would help.",2.0638195488721784,2.877078389473688,3.4902255639097786,94.21157894736844,75.63157894736842,7.112781954887217,21.99248120300752,7.447530270364453,0.4097218045112787,337,8,84,4,7,111,65,95,0.13,0.763,0.107,-0.0941,0,0,0,0,0,1,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,17,6,1,5,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,2,3,8,3,15,14,1,14,0,2,0,0,10,7,0,2,8,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571051842161326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192448107097626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140127172277587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29575806831269963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14009563033151526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226002140027015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475471189247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747581508080698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456394046743932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629929344232836,0.09848706819007333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790486444171695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998932578610603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962747757466125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552771996604548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284859015157702,0.0,0.3950058775546746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31293591655365155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234427420484538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723010875016934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183965614246538,0.11857984551002565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760813299317232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069756266475067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211366507377203,0.0,0.13033045839091725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422579911215165,0.0,0.35180047847259577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592488495318593,0.0,0.0,0.19204647541487205
parenting,idkmyotherusername,2020/01/31,"Preschooler ""hates"" other kids I have a three-year-old who doesn't get along with peers. He has a six-year-old brother with whom he plays great, plays with brother's friends well, etc. But he has no interest in peers or making friends; if anything, he's irritated by peers and younger children. He tells me he ""hates"" other kids, except for his siblings (also has an infant sister).

As a SAHP, this is extremely isolating for me. He doesn't play well with kids at play groups, etc., so there's no ""in"" to make play dates with other parents the way there was with my first. We always had something to do with my first, because he got along with everyone, so if I also liked the parent, we'd get together! Now we are home most of the time unless I'm in the mood/have the stamina to helicopter him through social situations.

He's very intense/spirited. He's also very bright, high language abilities, extremely active. If he can find a similarly energetic/spirited kid, or an older kid, he tends to do better. But often it seems other kids are put off by his energy and intensity. He's also very tall/strong for his age, so all of these behaviors can be perceived with less compassion than they might if it were clear he is just three years old.

We do play groups occasionally, go to activities with older brother, Sunday school, early childhood family education. He was in a small preschool, but I didn't think it was a great fit because it was a small classroom of all same-age kids, and I thought he'd do better in a mixed age classroom, which I have yet to find in a quality setting. I think it's important to find a setting for him with understanding empathetic staff and mixed ages of kids. I don't want him to internalize that he's too extreme/loud/wild/crazy/naughty/whatever.

I don't know if all my feelings are unfounded in that he's a ""normal"" 3 year old and my eldest was actually the calm outlier, or something about him is triggering and hard for me to parent well. I just don't know. But I'm lonely and don't know how to navigate with him right now. Any thoughts/suggestions/commiseration? Thanks for reading this novella!",5.485479144192734,6.336215604368935,6.113538295577133,78.40995864796834,67.7135922330097,9.50176195613089,31.27867673498741,9.633347757342033,2.826323876303487,1687,66,324,35,27,550,198,412,0.044000000000000004,0.8059999999999999,0.15,0.99,3,2,2,0,0,0,72.0,4,0,1,4,21,23,2,0,19,0,35,0,0,4,4,66,57,29,0,7,16,7,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,10,17,24,0,0,13,7,0,2,9,3,3,3,10,3,30,20,51,43,7,38,0,1,1,0,56,14,0,12,20,201,47,5,0.0,0.0,0.0882290655582581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892097606681887,0.07523002304184304,0.0,0.0,0.061483257325496865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440136872676817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022862661272446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992412560153366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166654871383471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639253625782227,0.0,0.0,0.08523238293199334,0.0,0.0457150215206874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479047779118873,0.15380879443582615,0.0,0.0,0.13970416695252166,0.0,0.09447307210254996,0.0,0.051383220609687016,0.0,0.07231073212497706,0.19935908852678125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099138927659902,0.1785262550816972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955252372492537,0.0906906032684674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906420480973906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04417073413373216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070141816497107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591283957698643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858455934328482,0.0,0.0,0.37948872153122665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30117546452103583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088902747675116,0.0,0.0,0.0904364623083456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721135018698193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915017663508625,0.0,0.08230768510101877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162687109919816,0.0,0.09216364360024966,0.0,0.13920714259171785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902406917051401,0.08323921825700259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158647121291742,0.0,0.07177702533953029,0.05271996167240766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412207590567724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379809508784804,0.05332733746253701,0.07176483372633513,0.0,0.0,0.2438737260993489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328894434118848
parenting,peppermint-lemon,2020/01/31,"Chapter books for 5 yr old boy? Hey everyone,

I have an almost 5 year old boy and I’m needing some help with finding books for him. He’s too old for a lot of the kids books we, but he’s still not fully ready for the magic tree house type books.

We’ve read the mercy Watson series, but I’m just not sure what other series there are. My son’s interests are all over the place, so I’m open to everything! If anyone could offer up some suggestions, that would be great!

Thank you",1.0912000000000006,3.1135137200000003,2.588000000000001,94.31900000000002,81.8,5.6000000000000005,17.0,6.742157984588678,-0.2352000000000003,372,7,83,4,10,121,73,100,0.052000000000000005,0.785,0.163,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,2,20,11,5,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,9,8,4,9,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,5,5,44,8,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033486282999752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199360951857332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213754746805498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19404529050303174,0.18250923467309035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560536488724036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388908766465485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136115787348078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23431938323864265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264570203181753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057631749107894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6392739674211458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121684310439804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20312830668980936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217464135287046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913942311332685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696265890055816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425748291299575,0.0,0.0,0.13077258076752202
parenting,Parrot2301,2020/01/31,"Why do I sometimes not 'feel' love for my son?  Hey everyone, I am a dad to a beautiful boy (aged one). I have a history  of anxiety and being way too over-analytical but I can usually keep  things under reasonable control. But I always question myself.  


Lately,  and even before this, I find myself asking ""do I love my child enough?""  The reason I think this is because sometimes if I look at him and don't  feel that sense of 'warm fuzzy love' then it gets me really down. Then questioning my feelings for him makes me really guilty, because I should not ever think this about my son.  
I have done this same thing in other aspects of my life, like relationships, and it is very frustrating. Most of the time I feel so good about him and be the best dad I can be. But every now and then it's like this thing that grips me  and I struggle to shake off the guilt of 'why don't I FEEL love?'  


I  would do anything and everything for him and I have since the day he  was born. Like all parents, there are times when I wish he'd maybe not  wake up so much in the middle of the night or stay still when getting  his nappy changed, but that's just parenting. Am I idealising what  'love' is? Am I a bad daddy? When I get down over this, I struggle to  'feel'. But when I am fine, then it's all good. 

Maybe I am placing too  much pressure on myself, and just continue looking after him as I always  do. That's the advice of my partner (his mum), who says she sees every  day how great I am with him.  
But I can't help but beat myself up  and it affects my sleep because I can't relax. Please does anyone have  advice? It'd be greatly appreciated during this tough time.",2.6503648259037504,4.1473228233532975,4.037438456420496,88.14913395431363,75.25748502994013,6.984076291860722,23.148813484142828,7.662118739084242,0.913176225327124,1269,36,272,17,27,419,168,334,0.145,0.721,0.135,0.5142,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,0,3,18,24,1,5,12,0,34,8,2,6,3,52,57,32,0,4,14,7,8,3,1,2,1,1,0,3,23,12,0,2,13,1,0,1,7,8,0,1,2,12,52,16,29,47,8,39,0,0,3,5,34,13,0,5,26,200,75,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954121997755806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443650711254935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636313208358632,0.0,0.0,0.06065726927943491,0.0,0.07138744914447134,0.0,0.08109907465589053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243221118378547,0.15864507490739946,0.0,0.07381743735255744,0.0,0.0910382510124057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176947123036763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729694368215216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189250520418972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591507436378785,0.08877485999518166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963542584144535,0.0,0.057297228346423965,0.07846989164987735,0.1461803949163567,0.08289286735054772,0.07796485934179423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631789304251615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928747382254889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596910404316925,0.0,0.0,0.14552273404145355,0.0,0.19128326584902533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581463630254057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710694385439244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785721753181673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127373920943121,0.1271442753247883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569546761129393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914740653426697,0.0,0.057905966639948174,0.0,0.17430307067559572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754173194722962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140853166475659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587837080905624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265011316315245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063476657903076,0.09522490352321113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943585930491833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114790549139554,0.17838587366737566,0.0,0.09313650075125952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898668637753626,0.0,0.0,0.06912812211625335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717600850368854,0.0,0.08681215210355797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17159495260020916,0.0,0.0,0.09246342743652823,0.0692782648753648,0.0,0.0,0.18137883101275476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289754466399834,0.11117115701373363,0.0,0.0,0.15175299784908786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554232129179492,0.0715774248293066,0.0,0.0688577173467643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655586623966886,0.0,0.09975764682924744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061624357717890786,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pcbzelephant,2020/01/31,School gives kindergartens iPads!?!! So I just registered my daughter for kindergarten and I had to pay a fee in case she broke her iPad. I was blown away that they give kindergartens iPads. Anyone else dealing with this? We are a low tech family. My daughter gets maybe 30 mins of tv a day and hasn’t even used a iPad or my phone. She has used a computer with keypad and mouse at the library a few times but that’s it. I’m just not happy that they will be doing everything with a iPad at 5! Any insight would be great.,1.5547272727272734,3.835000057142864,2.1803463203463203,96.43207792207794,81.76190476190476,5.341991341991342,20.021645021645018,6.574015621080383,0.04519047619047578,406,11,89,4,11,125,76,105,0.099,0.846,0.055,0.3676,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,2,0,16,16,6,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,12,2,10,10,1,8,0,2,0,0,12,5,0,1,3,56,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456194654701785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892331920162506,0.2328808730850092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21354222643251936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658035658443175,0.2343213895218379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986788608381786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011994140254456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042695685921124,0.0,0.21426455896874927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187473025635511,0.436065959692976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250583086558106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419496608229729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283388526047012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300250789382756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253201363149564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392603425527405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145711121743267,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,F100Sunday,2020/01/31,I Don't Care Who My Child Looks Like! I am so annoyed by the obsession people have with who a baby looks like. She has your eyes! She has your great aunt's smile! It's dumb and boring. Please stop talking about it. My kid looks like my kid. Who cares!,-0.8771226415094341,1.2556649433962264,0.3522405660377359,104.33704009433964,97.67924528301887,3.4047169811320765,12.285377358490566,5.148860815047168,-1.567866037735849,194,3,47,1,8,60,38,53,0.22399999999999998,0.484,0.293,0.7047,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,2,10,2,1,2,0,5,1,1,0,0,3,10,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,9,6,3,10,0,1,0,0,4,0,12,0,1,0,4,26,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4960400290802796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681952597753727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565339790527929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6128319737328107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686460125379146,0.0,0.0,0.2670266802915164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20337644279281128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19552335645667035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isallaboutthetiming,2020/01/31,"Is relaxed day, they said. So, today my kid wakes up and remembers is relaxed day at school. He is in 5th grade and just getting used to the changes of elementary to middle school. 

Well, he changed into a pajama and I stared getting nervous, since less kids do that in school now so I suggest shorts or sweatpants but he is set in pjs for the day. I managed to convince him to use tennis shoes intead of sandals since it will be safe. 

Well we get to the school line to drop him off and he just said, ""I screwed up"" and I started to silently panic. We didn't see anyone in pj, I ask him if he wanted to change and he said ""Nah, may be is just for 5th graders"" -I'm crying inside-
So I just send my Kid and cheered for him to be relaxed and feel like at home. 

I just wanted to take him back home for a change but he just bites the bullet and went inside. Poor kid, I hope he doesn't let the pj day get to him and enjoy his day. So now until 4 I'll be worried about him.",1.6932654232424649,3.0851734829268302,3.042697274031564,94.72602582496414,77.58536585365854,5.604017216642755,22.790530846484927,5.900188976854957,0.15113773314203716,744,22,173,4,17,242,108,205,0.10400000000000001,0.746,0.15,0.8705,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,1,0,16,14,1,2,7,0,15,3,2,2,0,32,34,19,0,4,10,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,2,4,2,13,0,1,2,3,1,2,2,3,2,0,5,6,22,11,29,22,1,27,0,0,2,1,29,12,1,4,12,105,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587667980710648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144750321630296,0.0,0.0,0.08344185220828759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4591807621629842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191993683500378,0.3499181504149799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05486878344801294,0.07752361656351248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267798357053199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21770013032829336,0.107780545718163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096462507017,0.0,0.05301527518316392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731975812050744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292710061392945,0.0,0.3096697569561144,0.0,0.0,0.4392946069811373,0.08647293967880341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17953056772770076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680794998399318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159027914352063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286016706497453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874453954244587,0.0,0.0,0.12801070780495846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513723966274954,0.10059511356439116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020293069227154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommainpeachstate,2020/01/31,"MIL ruined my engagement, pregnancy, labor, and first weeks of having a baby. Hi y’all, posting on here to vent and hopefully get some advice. I met my husband in our sophomore year of college, I was an international student and he was from the South attending college out of state. He’s black (African-American) and I’m biracial (raised by Caribbean mother in Europe, never been in touch with father). Prior to starting college, I was not planning on staying in the U.S. after graduating, because I wanted to return home with my family. I fell in love and ended up having to make the difficult decision of giving everything up back home to be with the love of my life or go home to be with and support my family but miss out on truly the best man I’ve ever met. 

We got married in 2018 after I got my Master’s and we bought a house in the South, where he is originally from.  However, prior to moving to the South, I had only been with his family on isolated occasions (i.e, every time I would fly from out-of-state to visit them, which was twice for Christmas and twice for 4th of July) because we had a LDR. They were always fond of me during these visits but since becoming his wife, things have been different. 

Family is extremely important to me, especially considering that I left all my family and friends behind to be with my husband. He comes from quite a traditional household, his parents have also been together since college, have five children together (he’s the eldest), and I wasn’t allowed to sleep in his guest suite at their house before we were married. From the beginning, I’ve tried to be the “perfect” wife in terms of his family’s expectations (I’ve been trying to learn to make certain Southern soul food dishes so I can make a contribution to cookouts, we jumped the family heirloom broom at our wedding, going to church every Sunday, etc.). These are all things that I wanted to do because I want to be respectful of their culture. However, especially since moving close to his family, spending more time with them, being his wife, and having our first child, it seems that I always fall short of their expectations.

We started trying for a baby after getting settled into our new house and I think this is when the real problems started to surface. I’ll list them briefly below to keep this story somewhat short:

- We kept the pregnancy to ourselves until I was sixteen weeks pregnant. My husband describes his mom as “nosey” and when we got engaged during a vacation, we FaceTimed her after and she ended up telling the entire family + putting it on FaceBook before we had a chance to. My grandmother found out I was engaged through FaceBook. We wanted to wait with announcing the pregnancy until 4th of July because my closest family would be there and we wanted them to join in this special moment because they will be missing out on all the others. We took his parents and my mom separately right (minutes) before telling the rest in a toast.  MIL was very upset with this, asking us “how we could keep this a secret” for so long and that “this is not normal around here.” My husband told her it was a mutual decision but still it felt like I got the full blame. I understood why she would be hurt and apologized for that. 
- We decided that we wanted to try a home birth with a doula and otherwise go to a birthing center in a hospital. MIL did not understand why we would do this and told my husband “I bet this was her idea”. He explained why we decided on this option, research, that he also read books on it, but she did not agree. Then she asked if she could be there for the birth (I felt at this point she was seeking out a point for further confrontation). 
- She’s criticized basically every plan we have of raising our child, between us wanting to raise our child bilingual, looking into Montessori education, trying to avoid physical punishment, etc. 
- Come the day of birth, MIL is making statements such as “shoulda gone to the hospital” while I was in tears of the pain. Proceeded to spend the night with us that night after the baby was born and was extremely belligerent. I felt robbed from what should have been the most beautiful moment of my life. 
- My MIL came to our house every day for the first fourteen days, arriving most days when she dropped her kids of at school and leaving when she had to pick them up again. I was tired, peeing hurt, and now also had to spend my first days post-labor worrying about acting in a way that was deemed good enough for my MIL. Day 15, my own mother had to fly back home. This was the only time she would have with her grandchild before she wouldn’t see her again for at least another seven months. We requested MIL not to come this day for aforementioned reason. I come downstairs from a shower and see my MIL sitting on my couch because (to baby) “X was missing nana, right?” These were the last four hours I and my child had with my mother and my husband himself had left to have us enjoy that last time together. I called him upset and he came back and send his mother home. She then proceeded to call various family members (his grandparents, his aunt, his little sister) that I am selfish, want to keep my child and husband to myself, criticizing my parenting, etc. 
- His family organized a New Year’s gathering/family reunion last week to get the entire family together (about 70 people attended). Baby had not had her injections yet and it’s flu season, so the doctor adviced me to preferably not bring her to an event like that OR make sure I was not allowing her to be passed around. I was carrying her close to me the entire party, much to the disdain of MIL (and other family members who thanks to her, think I am selfish). I go upstairs to breastfeed the baby and my MIL gathers three other female family members to get “their chance to hold the baby.” I was already nervous about breastfeeding because it took a while for the baby to latch sometimes. Having four women look at my exposed and hurting breast only made this worse and my MIL said “poor doll can’t even feed her child”. This hurt me and I replied: “Unless you have breastmilk to feed my daughter or actual constructive advice to give, please leave the room.” She left and called me a “conceited light-skin” in front of the entire fam, then basically asked my husband if I could go home and leave the baby there since the baby had just been fed. Husband and I left with baby. His parents visited for the first time yesterday after knocking on the door for 20 minutes while I was trying to take a nap after being up all night with a baby with reflux. I stayed upstairs and send my husband downstairs with the baby. Apparently, his mom was talking to the baby saying things like “mommy doesn’t want you to see me” and “has mommy been taking good care of you?” She then asked my husband if the baby could stay with them today (he said he’d have to discuss it with me first) and she barged into my bedroom while I was taking a nap to ask me directly. I told her that I think the baby wasn’t feeling well and too young to spend the night elsewhere (I wouldn’t let her stay with my own mother, either. Hell, I wouldn’t let her stay with Mother Theresa) and that we could try it in a couple of months. She was pissed, saying she already has done this five times, I don’t come from a good family, and  said “X is probably better off spending the night with us anyways, you seem a little out of it.” I then asked her “could you pass me X, please” and she turned around and walked downstairs with X. This was the final straw. I took the baby out of her arms and said “when you come in MY house to see MY child you respect MY rules, just as I did when I came to YOUR house to see YOUR child. If you can’t live with that, there’s the door.” She looked at my husband, he said nothing, and she walked out. Husband is now upset with me for being impolite after I waited an entire pregnancy and the first four weeks of having this child (while navigating hormones, pain, and isolation of being without family and friends) for him to stand up against his family blatantly direspecting his wife. 

Quite frankly, I’m done. I feel like I’ve spend the past year jumping through hoops to be good enough for his family and still fell short. I’ve crossed my own boundaries time after time (out of love and willingly) to get along with them but I feel like everything I do is wrong. All the boundaries I have set pertaining to my household, marriage, and child have not been respected, yet I am now the disrespectful, conceited person. I feel like I’m a bad wife, a bad mother, and a bad daughter for leaving my family back home. 

Anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? TIA for anybody who actually read all this, I really appreciate it!",7.364177139437459,6.962495474566129,7.356086774386598,75.39234679832437,63.73369239976062,10.323135846798325,33.22854578096948,9.753039638412575,3.0664501974865352,6922,245,1260,121,90,2224,558,1671,0.087,0.82,0.09300000000000001,0.831,12,2,0,0,0,0,192.0,33,11,13,15,48,61,4,5,87,0,129,20,5,13,12,250,243,97,0,34,26,37,8,6,3,11,7,7,15,15,58,130,5,8,26,5,9,41,20,27,1,16,85,24,227,34,232,123,27,249,3,8,9,4,229,83,2,16,119,903,285,14,0.0,0.0,0.052676002213645684,0.0,0.0,0.10549587847489092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059567490807769935,0.06475083025405932,0.044915094988375134,0.0,0.0,0.018353884734512427,0.028300997009245425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01887178796215174,0.0,0.0,0.07207952099654204,0.1513900535596552,0.0,0.0,0.0830134869394495,0.0676056809346164,0.11516846347356754,0.029807943440949038,0.09186480315883164,0.0,0.02832396825575119,0.02387014851879854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267833829821478,0.092606894398638,0.02751774277282823,0.0,0.0,0.13949514075937922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929421655924067,0.029863529850289894,0.0,0.12184262170851964,0.027825139823833167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02819843552466825,0.0,0.02762504624008887,0.0,0.055239556745650537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047809630653306484,0.05577503802830908,0.0903017687475152,0.01782640657942221,0.02441367991373749,0.09095976293876408,0.0,0.04851310688647053,0.0,0.5343121591248379,0.0,0.054587103684794636,0.057844225296824564,0.07774287785141458,0.02956583785305842,0.0,0.16070165317519305,0.03263598696911575,0.029592753663951914,0.041704266961703984,0.0,0.070504880162165,0.051781855363828205,0.07669418874194281,0.09055053790342657,0.08634434154741223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21658252360713168,0.026806808236852664,0.026579364573102487,0.1868545660989096,0.11557189664745543,0.03046802504358677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196891215755646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600049103485035,0.0,0.11431255209406585,0.1172973170158357,0.055197483098826515,0.03812717017251594,0.07911466615739479,0.05410143127630534,0.023832351813476708,0.02388498731743881,0.06799351515002376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307762754496247,0.025538255544213056,0.0900789911212695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482984128236874,0.04308575574133449,0.05737144458672475,0.01984049521373488,0.0,0.02081607878617931,0.05213353640975741,0.0,0.12663977179799238,0.02644412254927788,0.025897293167280226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615805257481585,0.057437772323653886,0.0,0.1198752311038233,0.0,0.025764670965036325,0.01871122216199384,0.023566317771131447,0.0,0.05925305274550724,0.05102787842258845,0.0,0.0516972403128379,0.0,0.029099403169998418,0.025825446106426272,0.0,0.027132048731719385,0.0,0.0574136212970578,0.05399389938685358,0.03072012583324653,0.017290258280568932,0.027749851116651385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609802027975065,0.1283666691448878,0.042926499428477226,0.0,0.02731496257130756,0.10753626715289373,0.04914071995603843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930445600664172,0.0,0.027009137511435195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02669344993036582,0.0,0.057310230874244875,0.14383685727734924,0.043107932178441416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030627530339093063,0.0254374218626624,0.0,0.060878564468700526,0.02169325503439923,0.04718028028766383,0.024848439782424972,0.0,0.0,0.05379216441551677,0.051881625918698236,0.0,0.0,0.1259030366098729,0.031020627638468436,0.02558302850805417,0.07736928985416805,0.08995946905807613,0.12826938549123196,0.029356984480264213,0.0,0.028097173235313282,0.16232610442305154,0.0,0.0,0.022269284461730602,0.1432727319282684,0.02142312466028671,0.08659786384084715,0.0,0.024266933001001526,0.0,0.07306187239394164,0.0,0.0,0.02601705553134799,0.0,0.0,0.02740929553216256,0.027504754974222768,0.09586335042534726,0.029508940899107883,0.0,0.05214134123096347
parenting,Wolf_Duke,2020/01/31,"Do you let your kids eat in the car? I can't stand it. They create way too much mess and never bring in their rubbish or left over foods. I have put a stop to it if I am driving but my partner still lets them. And she is never on their case about bringing their rubbish in.

What can I do?",0.3423809523809531,2.0075037936507947,1.8034126984127,100.83464285714287,82.49206349206351,4.2,18.436507936507933,3.1291,-0.9447968253968252,221,5,55,0,6,71,51,63,0.063,0.9109999999999999,0.026000000000000002,-0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,5,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,0,2,8,11,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,2,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,13,0,7,9,1,17,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,4,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757553060708177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258680915177359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29280141636495505,0.5511430829721411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981059839307116,0.0,0.4156942379805632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27091164570994913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21521487310247733,0.22530550908938346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139084304084499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Background-Jellyfish,2020/01/31,"What are some fun toys for a 7 year old girl? She has been glued to her nintendo/netflix a lot recently and I want her to do something more engaging which will make her forget about tv and games. I've got her lego a few times and shes enjoted it, anything else?",1.625454545454545,3.4252515454545467,3.0745454545454542,92.6118181818182,79.0,7.309090909090909,23.72727272727273,8.238735603445708,1.2278363636363636,205,7,47,4,5,67,45,55,0.036000000000000004,0.818,0.146,0.6959,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,9,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,2,4,6,4,4,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,4,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31205212566879176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167758206454994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032836365031458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223852091786513,0.0,0.0,0.2531212446368998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979102274853249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744176552864616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919293387837589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22111657872139592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366401715745032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24419458642416705
parenting,Ordinary_Cow,2020/01/31,"Ferber Method and Pacifiers Hi all!

Quick question here.... Our daughter is just over 5 months old (23 weeks today to be exact)!

We have been Ferbering for about 3 weeks and it works fairly well from us. Our baby goes down much easier now for naps and bedtime.

She now only wakes up once in the middle of the night...in the range of 20 minutes - an hour. 

Its not too bad but obviously we want her to sleep through the night. When she wakes up in the middle of the night we wait 20 minutes before going in to soothe her. We do use the pacifier when doing this.... 

Is this a mistake? We use the pacifier for all her naps and sleep and I fear that she ""Needs"" the paci to be soothed.

Do we just rip the paci out cold turkey? 

I welcome any suggestions!",1.339203020134228,3.6338144093959737,2.4552978187919443,94.04589974832216,82.75838926174497,5.335738255033559,19.37961409395973,6.6274283507984215,0.06755335570469789,573,15,123,6,16,182,94,149,0.05,0.843,0.107,0.7299,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,9,0,0,1,11,5,0,1,12,0,9,4,4,2,4,27,15,8,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,12,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,17,2,21,12,3,24,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,1,13,84,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066850411268175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481589412069521,0.0,0.0,0.1509923994038401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996746585765428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084593167596533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474731969254065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163469393743408,0.0,0.13044229670868146,0.13157302203428686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4995595879045736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861983991527124,0.18897285078072232,0.0,0.13495471634459896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19877871246795573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551457653812256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819685997777392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21344416707963976,0.3065105553228468,0.0,0.0,0.10466150168084824,0.0,0.2846709249889575,0.0,0.1595441263247812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291818798728881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beingme246,2020/01/31,Birthday Party Burn-out! My 8yr old has been invited to 6 birthday parties in the last 2 months! I’m happy that he has a lot of friends but it’s getting expensive to buy so many gifts. Do you have any limits as to how many you let your kids go to?,0.7166666666666686,2.3657699259259246,2.8257037037037063,94.03966666666668,81.22222222222223,5.801481481481483,23.76296296296297,6.742157984588678,0.6037229629629639,192,7,45,2,5,65,47,54,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.7707,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,4,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,7,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,3,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043786926260746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23219780667289566,0.0,0.15702065736748932,0.0,0.1708047996795059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199322761199753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24498163495994466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30732429660449473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25550984413761874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6094043151070133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398895535358242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153680048305159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnmarkedDoor,2020/01/31,"Some Apps and Games I can recommend (Android) I can’t speak for those on iOS, but finding decent games and apps on android is a nightmare.

Most games you stumble upon are either rigged with exploitative in-app-purchases, neatly set up for kids to ”accidentally” click on, or are just low quality and not worth the time or money to investigate.

That said, there are some developers who have done a great job designing engaging and fun apps for kids without the problems listed above.

I’m a newish mod over at r/androidgaming and someone recently asked for recommendations.  They didn’t post it properly and I ended up having to delete it, but I did make some recommendations to the poster and since the post is now gone, I though some of you over here might be interested.

Before I start, I would also like to preface this a disclaimer that **all** of these are paid apps, that they have been tested with my 4 year old and that I am not connected to any of these companies.  Also, I probably got them all when they went on sale, because I am thrifty (cheap).
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So, here are some DEV teams that have made some good kid apps:



**[Toca Boca](https://play.google.com/store/apps/dev?id=8567646723268777320)** has a bunch of different apps mostly aimed towards younger kids.  Nice visual designs and easy for kids to navigate without much help.

I can recommend [Toca Life: Town](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tocaboca.tocatown) specifically.  It’s essentially a city, where you can zoom down into particular buildings and scenes (houses, parks, gardens, etc) where you have selection of townspeople that you can place - kind of like stickers.
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**[Dr Panda](https://play.google.com/store/apps/dev?id=4902729103455422060)**, like Toca Boca above mostly does apps for younger kids ad again they are very intuitive to navigate.

My son’s favourite of all the games listed here is probably [Hoopa City 2](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.drpanda.city2), which is a frankly amazing adaptation of SimCity for kids.

He also really enjoyed:

* [Dr. Panda & Toto's Treehouse](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tribeplay.pandapet)
 
* [Dr. Panda's Swimming Pool](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tribeplay.swimmingpool)
 
* [Dr. Panda Train](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.drpanda.train)
 
* [Dr. Panda Racers](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.drpanda.racers)
 
* [Dr. Panda Firefighters]( https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tribeplay.pandafirestation)
 
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Next up is **[Fox & sheep](https://play.google.com/store/apps/dev?id=8749913084192358255)** which again fits in with the description of the other Dev teams I’ve already mentioned.

The ones I can recommend here are:

* [Petting zoo](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=air.foxandsheep.pettingzoo): a fun little app where you interact with various animated animals (swipe up, down, left and right on every scene)

* [Little Fox Animal Dr](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.foxandsheep.animaldoctor) where you treat various animal ailments in a clinic and lastly 

* [Nighty Night Circus]( https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mobileventures.NightyNightCircus) which was part of our bedtime routine for a while.

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Other Random apps/games include:

* [Monster's Socks](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=air.monsterssocks): interactive story

* [3 Little pigs](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=de.deev.threelittlepigs): interactive story

* [Crashy Bash Boom](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.MolberGames.CrashyBashBoom): control a toy tank rampaging across a playroom

* [Hidden Folks](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.adriaandejongh.hiddenfolks&hl=en): where’s wally/waldo style find-it scenes. Incredibly well done. Not just for kids.

* [Incredibox](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.sofarsogood.incredibox&hl=en):  Introduce you child to music production. Seriously.

* [Endless Alphabet](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.originatorkids.EndlessAlphabet) The most expensive and most educational game on this list (free to download, <$10 to unlock all words).  A really well designed learning app that associates letters with their phonetic sounds, builds vocabulary and is a great introduction for learning to read.

I hope you and your kids find something you like.

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parenting,bangondrumallday,2020/01/31,I'm so humiliated. What should I do? My mom came by my place earlier and I was looking through old stuff. She looked through some of it and saw pictures of this guy and me that he and I took in a photobooth. Most of them were just silly pics but one was of us kissing each other on the mouth. He just laughed and I snatched it away from her. I'm so embarrassed. What should I do? I'm 25.,-0.31265060240964004,1.816095385542173,1.5795301204819303,98.52134337349399,89.12048192771084,5.247710843373494,21.55301204819277,6.742157984588678,0.2487840963855424,299,11,74,4,10,98,57,83,0.07200000000000001,0.805,0.122,0.643,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,2,0,7,2,1,0,0,14,15,8,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,6,3,12,3,11,7,3,7,0,0,3,1,8,4,0,2,1,54,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25103533199948896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055960443057728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645617217230878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487473509012844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31293160802142583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803726694427038,0.0,0.18105596360877765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791583847371758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30587049156100393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968597324261417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213986327133325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FluffyChart,2020/01/31,"Not Invited to Birthday My son is 5 and he plays with the same group of kids every day. Well today we found out that he was the only person in the group not invited to one of the kids birthday party and also one of the only boys not invited in the entire class. Another boy was also not invited but he doesn’t play with them. 

Now my son is extremely hurt by this and has refused to invite the child to his party but we already gave the invite to the teacher who handed them out to the kids, last week. The childs parents have already text me to let me know they will be coming. 

I legit have no idea what to tell him. Any suggestions?",3.79891452991453,4.629968515384618,5.111025641025645,84.14619658119662,71.53846153846153,7.931623931623932,25.213675213675213,8.167268648758528,1.4382649572649573,497,14,101,7,9,166,79,130,0.07400000000000001,0.818,0.107,0.1804,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,3,0,4,4,0,0,11,0,11,1,1,0,0,21,15,7,0,0,6,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,4,10,0,1,3,2,0,1,6,1,1,2,4,1,12,3,18,8,1,10,0,1,0,0,28,4,0,0,5,73,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349027734817159,0.3151642535311782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400187362201255,0.2066258276907832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974254127768584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270820072942174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602450699563415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21605695437040548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21094785808052025,0.2224473183993485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829442899515426,0.1606233882104221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20149865441166548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670545844590233,0.2997333061726905,0.0,0.0,0.21880252874447956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205789299554713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722318203478303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186781915795642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806294109111554,0.0,0.17717309094130784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rizaldman,2020/01/31,"Parents of reddit, what would you do if your kid was having boyfriend/girlfriend 3 years older? I mean like 13 and 16 or 14 and 17 and so on. Because I really like this girl thats 13 and im 16, i know that being sexual is bad idea, i don't want to use her, i just want to date her and she wants it too.",-0.8014285714285734,0.7970912173913052,1.9354451345755697,98.74304347826087,86.10144927536231,5.102277432712215,15.65424430641822,6.1826913282559595,-0.7576103519668735,230,4,60,2,7,80,52,69,0.092,0.831,0.077,0.0145,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,16,13,8,0,5,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,10,2,4,10,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,5,36,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23718041420017796,0.173161930594117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206721106775718,0.3068363643869647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561133816778807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775572855581085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30942745829770457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154179120654565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197778192247704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453388903699459,0.0,0.0,0.5026424618842659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20178992812000746,0.0,0.0,0.1829270075997483
parenting,01jonny01,2020/01/31,"Kids Safe Search Engine Hi all, I have been working very hard on a new Kid friendly search engine called [https://wackysafe.com](https://wackysafe.com)

The concept came from a discussion with my mother about how she regretted letting me have free reign over the household computer back in 1997 when the internet was in its infancy. That’s when I first came up with the concept of creating a search tool specifically aimed at children up to the age of 12 years old that would protect them from harmful content.   


The **benefits** of WackySafe are: 

**+** Search results consist of a combination of handpicked, child relevant websites and results, ensuring that no harmful content gets through.    
**+** Visually enhanced search results, which are appealing to children  
**+** Text-to-speech conversion of search results - just highlight a phrase and Wackysafe will speak it to you (you can also change the language of search results). This aides learning and vocabulary skills.  
**+** Child-friendly Images, Video, News & Games results.  
**+** Advanced search result filtering to ensuring unsuitable content is never displayed.  


Please feel free to check it out. Any feedback is greatly appreciated! :)",4.7046342780027,7.710951978947371,3.699473684210524,77.21644399460189,100.26315789473685,6.159244264507422,33.8191632928475,7.2200825789825185,3.510721997300946,956,55,129,20,39,280,126,190,0.040999999999999995,0.797,0.162,0.9745,0,0,0,0,0,0,67.0,0,2,1,4,7,9,0,0,12,0,12,0,0,8,2,25,16,7,0,2,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,5,8,8,0,2,2,2,3,3,2,3,0,1,4,3,8,8,26,9,1,20,0,1,0,0,17,8,0,0,9,79,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700816220016376,0.0,0.2262765483557203,0.0,0.1420174172308345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605840014389114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132475719426412,0.4777114727300838,0.0,0.0,0.22092356000151625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559507689466052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776380162937948,0.0,0.0,0.3226963864641356,0.0,0.10910955503574668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302453064919651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18707837585940312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21355162955223345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610692117145021,0.20169763238463814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191409923793455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292420824169159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231372587225474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203699645965366,0.0,0.0,0.14835295776814084,0.0,0.0,0.1344852187912898
parenting,sandwichita,2020/01/31,"Nanny expectations? We’ve recently brought on a full-time nanny. We pay her $20/hr 40hrs/week to care for our 1 year old boy, and our 3 year old girl after she comes home from preschool (which she goes to mom-fri until 1pm, so nanny has her approximately 20 hrs/week). The nanny is working out ok, our boy likes her, but daughter doesn’t like her. I work at home while she’s here and think she’s just ok, I see pros and cons.
I’m interested to know what appropriate expectations would be for a nanny in this type of situation. While our boy naps and girl is at school, she’ll just sit and mess with her phone. She doesn’t tidy or clean and generally doesn’t stay busy preparing things for kids during these down times. Would a nanny typically be expected to be productive during nap times, or is it typical that she’ll be engaged only when with kids?",5.5718604651162815,5.451446418604653,6.279627906976748,80.67583720930234,67.37209302325581,9.903255813953493,27.66511627906977,9.642632912329526,2.0639795348837207,672,18,145,13,10,221,108,172,0.027000000000000003,0.8370000000000001,0.136,0.9532,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,4,2,15,0,0,0,0,25,22,14,0,5,5,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,7,7,11,0,1,2,2,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,19,7,19,13,0,22,0,0,1,0,26,6,0,2,14,78,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892172093599762,0.0,0.0,0.1598658331806066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723156097086252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199316558956376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133580787411144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173559810680538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894823985131953,0.0,0.0,0.1411464514511017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832437021639964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187822854301062,0.14788794665056113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20860634460700309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19780989277945746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232950357419036,0.11891596093033915,0.0,0.0,0.2164332793748491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977316538600703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27021751339586114,0.0,0.0,0.2636698191000264,0.0,0.0,0.23902248963412245
parenting,Buildsomedeath,2020/01/31,What is your stance about kids eating in the car? I hate it. My partner doesn't kind it but the kids leave their food in the car and she isn't on their case about bringing it im. Especially at night.,-1.6550581395348836,0.02613823255814296,-0.047238372093023166,104.97472383720932,108.5348837209302,3.080232558139535,12.351744186046512,5.148860815047168,-1.587230232558139,156,3,39,1,8,49,31,43,0.133,0.867,0.0,-0.5481,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,6,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,1,24,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678716418080793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4347246533443267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35494474441021645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883358280524407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743775580350524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806724508517637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33737867922661763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trebond,2020/01/31,I wish there were daycare centres where I could stay with my kids. And not have to choose between being completely overwhelmed by the intensity of being the only person to look after us and being away from them.,8.971538461538461,8.462784743589747,8.353461538461541,69.90403846153849,60.53846153846154,9.851282051282054,34.884615384615394,8.841846274778883,3.1092461538461538,171,6,27,2,2,54,33,39,0.0,0.893,0.107,0.4927,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,8,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,9,3,0,4,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209215741044136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35813557802842305,0.0,0.0,0.27272036816463696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868375241830879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597836794365015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982506888488566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36407420269428403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108734587431657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927951487299952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Strict-Salamander,2020/01/31,"My son is homesick - how do I help him? My son is 16. He has been living in Germany since July last year. He is a very talented football player. He has always been several steps ahead of the competition in his age group. He plays for the academy teams belonging to a Bundesliga club. 

My family and I are from Ghana (country in West Africa). My son caught the attention of the scouts for the club he plays for. The team were performing trials for kids in my country and my son stood out. After he went for trials in Germany and excelled. They signed him on.

Words can't explain how proud and happy everyone in our family were. Letting him go so far away at such a young age was difficult. And it still is difficult to be so far from him. He lives on the club's academy grounds with his teammates. Mostly Germans whose home is too far away. He gets along well with them. 

He has excelled with his football but has struggled to adjust off the pitch. He has told me he misses his family and everything he left behind. There is a Brazilian player who also left home very young and he said the young man feels the same. We visited our son in Germany over Christmas and he cried when we left. It broke my heart. 

I can't eradicate his homesickness but I want to try and make things better for him. Any suggestions?",2.4985917625681395,4.944620003937012,3.411338582677168,88.00505754088434,79.2755905511811,7.057298606904907,23.54875832828589,8.139509932561175,1.4686909751665669,1027,35,202,20,26,327,138,254,0.07200000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.09,0.4074,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,4,0,2,8,11,16,0,1,14,0,22,1,1,3,0,30,34,17,0,1,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,5,16,0,0,4,7,0,5,2,7,1,0,10,2,28,9,36,22,2,39,0,4,0,0,48,23,0,1,11,129,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051644461108044,0.11499134269030438,0.0,0.0,0.09397899969936216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596820922878067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222440714437074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180340102274012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320535783590318,0.12420295004156935,0.0,0.3908407477926508,0.0,0.06987677915313342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722024596689796,0.0,0.07854079117287582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711374701033525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637646344211546,0.09263083244058376,0.0,0.2772466049474517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264936037325746,0.0,0.0,0.4504557759850746,0.1413162478294263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24406174674315564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224786580016103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145741444361322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612377336650998,0.0,0.11431835229435475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103646558709167,0.0,0.0,0.14447397248621133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181223987108482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320535783590318,0.0,0.09382699174656764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22805472607100236,0.08151243199148528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425609739812656,0.12811041347551333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899462180622714
parenting,unadmittedlyaswiftie,2020/01/31,Beginning to get my daughter’s stomach virus Any tips and sympathy? I want to ask my mom to take a day off work to watch my 3 year old but I don’t want her to get sick too. Good thing is my daughter is at the end of her sickness (I believe) after 2 days of suffering. My husband can’t take work off and he’s probably going to get sick soon too.,2.7169736842105223,2.9095093815789497,4.62221052631579,88.99647368421054,73.60526315789474,8.185263157894736,28.35789473684211,8.238735603445708,1.6377557894736832,267,10,64,4,5,92,50,76,0.161,0.738,0.10099999999999999,-0.8338,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,4,1,0,0,5,14,3,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,10,1,12,14,0,12,0,1,1,0,8,3,0,0,8,35,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683310455155616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156035124754914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598357244027413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974684636546991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042655522599501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614765833548698,0.0,0.13106966612734833,0.1934375499196602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701055503612125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24200244476703264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486530674983822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468030303257757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321719385051213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27205754072010996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335795913295688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851512434598665
parenting,TopAmphibian5,2020/01/31,"I came home high and blew my chances of getting a car but there’s more.. Last year my mom found out I had been smoking weed. Well we had the talk and it was over andd she caught me again one more time about 4 months after. This time it really hit her hard bc she thought i had learned. So i stopped smoking for 8 months straight and my mom talked about getting me car this march as long as i’m behaving and doing right. Well then one day after me and my friends played football we went back to one their houses. They started to roll up a blunt(nothing out of the ordinary i just never participated) remember 8 months clean i can safely say i’m not addicted by any means but it had been so long since i felt a good chill high and I had about 3 hours before i had to be home so i smoked w them. It gets dark and i head home and when i walk through the door my mom sees my eyes are kinda red and low well it’s obvious now. Even my little brother(12) could tell now that car i told you about. Now it’s out the window and my only defense is basically. I went so long with out it with no problem i got caught up in the moment and went through with it. I know it was the wrong choice but damn is it like that weed is legal in some states and my mom smoked too when she was my age(18). The only plan i have now is to tell her if she gets me the car I’ll ONLY go to work and back until she’s ok with anything else. And she can do random drug test each month, track my bank transactions, have me on a Life360. If you see where i’m going i’m willing to literally give up all my freedom to still be able to get this car and have a job being 18 and living under my mom isn’t a good plan. Please help me with any ideas or should i just accept the fact that it’s over",0.42448717948717984,2.379335404761907,1.831798941798944,99.1925457875458,83.84126984126979,4.935124135124135,17.893365893365893,6.02186152331457,-0.5595784289784289,1365,31,333,10,39,437,193,378,0.054000000000000006,0.794,0.152,0.9896,1,0,3,0,0,0,24.0,2,2,3,3,27,16,2,0,15,1,30,4,2,0,4,60,59,32,0,5,9,5,2,1,1,2,2,1,6,0,17,29,0,3,9,1,1,15,4,5,3,3,22,7,52,11,41,30,5,68,0,1,4,0,30,20,1,6,33,212,69,5,0.08144965278297132,0.0,0.0,0.08879214395373287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077711384005068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067026124280202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525951080616354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930765546791805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931567043486357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503092012863572,0.0,0.0,0.05252828788336101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445573867491024,0.0,0.06804073350900315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05379672749318217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782044396828714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930534022881514,0.06292779969552413,0.0,0.21277040934328292,0.07813392872220493,0.09257942936909512,0.13663220880350846,0.06514272789792584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296289055131944,0.0,0.08359084198072536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545939853754309,0.1721120601229127,0.2451019282202457,0.0,0.08021150120808476,0.09398196367183616,0.0,0.0919467439061638,0.0,0.0,0.08082621249950048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044762599077080405,0.06639233795846587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03979218616888332,0.08163394968008343,0.07192153563417761,0.21624113892548988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872254966457273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4769642446782881,0.2600493431054132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281899343804796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815313855454423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557717797797056,0.1858383936101129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940725988401978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793631769742276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052178733210327774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226657894221284,0.06955755844331557,0.0,0.0647720330427042,0.0,0.0,0.12980965589186666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737599445956173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576504834588493,0.0,0.06504579792528657,0.06809555680059158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093229129788012,0.1423811731421685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466192629517692,0.09498789507701504,0.0,0.0,0.07782863368231724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196990586858648,0.2265139324169017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929631728668591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905240913747735,0.0,0.0524509059604706
parenting,PM_ME_QUOTES_,2020/01/31,"Am I at fault or is it my parents? Every single frickin time I say something no matter how small or irrelevant and my mother doesn't like it she says I'm having ""attitude"" and I don't know when to be quiet. She claims that I am constantly rude. I asked her if I would be able to hang out with some friends on Friday (no homework) and she said it depended on my behavior. I needed a response by this afternoon (Thursday) so I asked again at 11 o'clock. She asked if I was going to be nice and naturally I said yes. She then proceeded to ask what I was going to do about my ""attitude"" and I explained how you need to diagnose what the source of it was. Ex. Anxiety with school or maybe her justifying every bad parenting decision with the idea that I'm ""talking back to her"". I didn't say those examples of course, I can never voice my opinion without being shut down. She said that my idea to diagnose the source was pointing the finger at her and that I, as usual, was talking back and being rude.

Am I at fault here? What can I do to better myself/ make her understand my reasoning. Please keep in mind I am extremely bias in this situation.",3.3508333333333304,4.8927745219298275,4.979824561403512,81.92043859649127,73.51754385964912,8.575438596491226,28.017543859649123,9.150863307647796,2.378349122807017,893,35,178,20,18,302,124,228,0.10099999999999999,0.8340000000000001,0.065,-0.7943,2,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,0,1,9,9,2,0,5,1,24,3,1,5,1,37,42,18,0,5,6,4,1,1,1,1,2,8,1,0,14,11,0,1,7,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,9,9,38,4,28,27,2,29,0,0,0,0,30,13,0,8,14,135,52,2,0.11737558327423725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897919999336922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389213032894389,0.0,0.0,0.18050915675103896,0.0980037092525994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038091649804624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684130707956082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23826749257346605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778798255188185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068408447495244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341449779225412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650054930230284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432881149642474,0.0,0.0,0.06450655093082984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057343781118072534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834911327189463,0.0,0.117919549749645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851587908940305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406501547446318,0.0905272857962744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606633895245282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288431432089808,0.11095786533547897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206816484817048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33495317529573904,0.2800253247918717,0.0,0.11879035665684848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193507344439942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036145845667083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886840954555187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844264651664461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219212166075274,0.0,0.0,0.12927262227907246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314587371890787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338024668801386,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fat_Knob91,2020/01/31,"Hey, I'm 28 and just need help as Google is awful. Can I wash my trainers inside an old duvet cover instead of pillow case, I only have 2 pillow cases and they are new, I am to embarrassed to call my mum and ask her as she will be worried about my financial situation I should never of left home lol
Thanks guys",12.500615384615385,5.360874215384619,12.334230769230773,64.51826923076926,60.69230769230769,14.846153846153848,41.730769230769226,10.125756701596842,4.133923076923076,244,6,50,3,2,84,53,65,0.111,0.767,0.122,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,2,8,1,0,0,1,7,12,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,1,7,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,3,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26513789246371344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895984227940386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808193650127501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009839769936607,0.0,0.2844848414911189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081440559729885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21029387732465207,0.21873819827475194,0.2739131596564876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976019149219151,0.0,0.0,0.21569885774880715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187905171422104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26111079823328875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880206201307275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mck125,2020/01/31,"Boosterthon fundraising time is back! So torn, I realize we need school funds, I acknowledge that we don’t have time to do the work, [but I hate giving 48% to a corporation ](https://thinkprogress.org/these-corporations-that-raise-money-for-schools-keep-48-percent-for-themselves-7e529b0cd81c/amp/)",19.83872549019608,26.03330973529412,9.653529411764703,46.03754901960786,39.882352941176464,9.239215686274509,28.98039215686275,9.725611199111238,2.9884627450980394,257,6,27,4,3,60,28,34,0.18100000000000002,0.75,0.069,-0.5974,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,17,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851412838267941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733271694554845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409900843238164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35094363484576696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31594960889770424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635694434409144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35974498499713337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41454373127980537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258779464470121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,influbit,2020/01/31,"How do you feel about your children’s photos being taken and being posted online publicly by your schools and daycare? I’m a new father and I work in AI. I have a bad feeling that the mass public is not aware that this is even happening, and not sure if I’m being paranoid. I actually found a boat load of pictures on Facebook today of my kid. But I realized that a lot of daycares and schools out there take photos of your child  (with or without) your consent and post them publicly on Facebook (permissions set to public). I would imagine that they should at least have it so that you would have to go to the school to see those images but it looks like this is not the case. What do people do with potential kidnapping or restraining orders, etc? I imagine this puts kids at risk? The other aspect is that your child never consented to this and doesn’t even have the option to privacy... facial recognition is already here.. imagine your child going to a job interview and employers able to match their pictures of them from birth... let alone very disturbed or creepy people out there.. or your child getting bombarded with ads because of a picture from their teens that may influence them a certain way... it’s really creepy",6.7406493506493526,7.274488238095237,6.476168831168832,78.01996753246755,64.88744588744589,9.1974025974026,32.95021645021645,9.04235418022936,2.8390813852813856,977,38,172,15,14,306,133,231,0.065,0.897,0.038,-0.7319,2,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,9,6,1,8,6,0,2,12,0,21,1,1,2,3,43,34,17,0,4,11,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,7,17,13,0,1,7,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,2,4,22,3,29,24,3,20,0,0,2,0,28,8,0,8,5,130,39,7,0.15411435232251666,0.0,0.1503933766041855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961599054931208,0.17006902008403732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867904682850434,0.0939466787381042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187824112882313,0.20358215244389752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15584969430486445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897843266415147,0.0,0.0,0.08051838825319682,0.0,0.17517347598305838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628281278833684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293471444542353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759236681660185,0.0,0.07529248792815713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294172412594482,0.0,0.0,0.13102251116321098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886248935957718,0.14884460182040118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368697418760044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951978967664187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492749075386522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987296004213328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4679158569689312,0.12280918554858675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525095319552947,0.0,0.11587481317873785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460823858835175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716048082673942,0.0,0.12232879944098275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856073605541842,0.0,0.11219708398386953,0.0,0.0,0.21895682826626486,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,memyselfandIsince98,2020/01/31,"How do I explain why she can't see her mother to my 5 year old? I've had some custody of my 5 year old since she was 3 turning 4. She still asks why she can't be with her mom after every supervised visitation. Her mother grossly abused her but I think that her brain has cut that out if her memory for the most part. It's terrible to see my child going through this. I know atleast part of her remembers because of the nightmares she has. How can I explain this to her in a child friendly way? What can I do to help my baby?

I have already gotten her into therapy.",1.4337967914438536,3.2542734033613456,3.4038808250572963,89.9268143621085,79.67226890756302,6.3440794499618045,24.26355996944233,7.348242739294969,1.0153126050420171,441,16,96,6,11,149,75,119,0.096,0.838,0.066,-0.3581,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,12,1,1,2,0,14,22,4,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,2,24,1,14,18,4,12,0,0,2,0,25,3,0,3,6,68,30,1,0.0,0.21092739684773798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645211101298413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642688377423714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852078380671216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19873183935129926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999152393565274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375396406962155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117421483745034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932464139923342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783643832263672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084976470030926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736090593876805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3855617549767099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166464070542706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28372155893981793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726194328033124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216889385501394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035840937701868,0.0,0.0,0.11406954583561488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936372170765012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130587026367322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212749968529006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292811379040551
parenting,Superdad120,2020/01/31,"Travel sports veterans As a parent of two young boys, I was hoping to get input from any parents who have went through the whole travel sports years and their kids are now late teenish years. Looking back are you happy that you chose to do that? I have a lot of friends with kids in the 10-16 age range that spend a lot of money and time pursuing their kids sports. To be honest it seems extreme to me, but I am trying to keep an open mind.",5.625,5.094887055555559,5.45888888888889,87.98500000000001,67.33333333333333,8.088888888888889,26.88888888888889,6.742157984588678,0.9924888888888894,345,8,75,2,5,107,65,90,0.0,0.903,0.09699999999999999,0.7543,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,2,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,14,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,4,0,1,1,5,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,2,8,4,13,11,3,13,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,4,8,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497719562553207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639307251525277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647108434313426,0.0,0.1113835022032618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226945791589088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211746773942762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894939628630428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24048874223146174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902675264230086,0.0,0.0,0.36249474132376175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21526214349348574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734467684030744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408108619233214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431339081935072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474269976178136,0.0,0.2082566363108051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763019967782602,0.0,0.2380201462105453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745760379764757
parenting,Patently_Awesome,2020/01/31,"Round two, here we go!!! Wife has me in charge of the contraction timer,  and it’s getting real! Bassinet is set up, pumping equipment is back from storage, grandparents are one the way to care for our toddler. We are expecting our second son to make his arrival within the next 12-24 hours!",4.884454545454545,6.315142490909089,4.790681818181817,85.20602272727272,69.54545454545455,7.6818181818181825,31.931818181818183,8.07648339933343,2.2810909090909086,227,10,43,3,4,70,48,55,0.0,0.9229999999999999,0.077,0.6562,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,9,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,6,1,8,9,0,9,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,3,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699741914604077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579698012843908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834352341293872,0.0,0.19953819417724816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457627296339821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23436194471168176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3733987827567057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379144144355545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39962861164678665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429736368942479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786868000345573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,keebler980,2020/01/31,"[advise] My 6 year old is pretty hard on herself when she gets scolded. So recently our kids been saying stuff like “I’m bad always bad” and is pretty down after getting scolded. Of course we tell her that she isn’t, but we’re not sure what to do. Recently we’ve tried a more thinking approach to scolding; “do you think it’s a good idea to throw your food?” Instead of “don’t throw your food” but not sure if it’s helping. 
Of course our voices do go up a bit when we’re late, but we never try to put blame on her directly. 

Any advice?",2.202400793650792,3.5560959464285737,3.5919047619047646,91.4753174603175,76.14285714285714,6.04920634920635,23.158730158730158,6.42735559955562,0.4567825396825396,414,12,91,3,9,136,75,112,0.121,0.77,0.109,-0.1144,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,3,0,0,4,6,0,0,3,0,8,2,0,0,3,15,14,8,0,1,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,3,2,0,3,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,1,3,13,4,12,13,2,18,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,10,54,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647221924715887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323676132429618,0.0,0.0,0.10889043696239738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673952406478144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481494136360698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38724737930643066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731732425895188,0.0,0.09100268248806327,0.1343051863693937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344047716650846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073283590260882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807615449463355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18062788504862906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782289480095158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234982101968055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802416831573938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258092205069732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096977205738494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162080830634448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733776384798567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330472459751196,0.0,0.0,0.3018316854320956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995623844339716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520316718867346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742862049680534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311519899960307
parenting,TheHoHCollective,2020/01/31,"If your Mother told you out of anger “You will never have children and if you do they will die inside you.” Would you allow her to interact with your children? To add on to it if she picked you up at the hospital after you almost died in premature birth and told you that it happened because you don’t go to church and you have to much pride. 

Would you A. Maintain a relationship with her would you B allow her to interact with your children?",6.102954545454548,5.90387156818182,6.29218181818182,81.29827272727275,66.27272727272728,9.312727272727274,30.1,8.841846274778883,2.187265454545454,350,11,70,5,5,112,51,88,0.11699999999999999,0.8190000000000001,0.064,-0.7945,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,15,1,1,0,2,1,0,3,0,9,0,0,3,1,19,13,6,2,6,3,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,20,1,16,6,1,9,1,0,0,0,29,5,0,4,3,59,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409615314488596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466890686362588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994829791467886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675860811090454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21279303481052647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17689466139287513,0.0,0.1855928074748611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583522979055669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598747555953402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5128213201575463,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautimusprim3,2020/01/31,"Coping mechanisms to teach angry 5 year old My son has childhood asthma. He's generally a great kid but his temper gets the best of him sometimes, especially with me (mom). He gets so angry that his breathing gets even worse and his heart rate gets really high. It's scary. What are some effective anger management techniques I can teach him? Obviously I refrain from trying to teach him during the actual meltdown.",5.795200000000001,8.017150053333335,6.119666666666667,73.45150000000002,68.46666666666667,9.266666666666666,28.5,9.725611199111238,2.9998000000000005,334,12,54,8,6,107,60,75,0.25,0.621,0.129,-0.9135,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,2,4,2,0,3,0,3,3,2,1,1,8,7,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,2,5,7,2,4,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,3,30,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.24119947698758856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593866672642251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632515666654333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5165385224554944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27250264740495883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928942541645509,0.0,0.2611456566818273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894791702599148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593603382764525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15834160069091988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444546241791577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781026541689298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518844344924771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916753620660876
parenting,hnjnn,2020/01/31,"My tween daughter is an asshole and I just don’t know how much more I’m mentally able to take I’m a mother to a few kids, stair step ages, all tween-teen ages. My 13f is going to be the death of my sanity though. I’ve just never encountered such blatant disrespect in all my life. I was rebellious myself. But I hid it. She’s just a whole new level. And I’m terrified to punish her or take anything away from her because if I do, she runs away. She smokes, drinks, steals money, gets suspended from school constantly, cuts herself. I’ve got her in therapy, have started treatment for her mood disorder. Our home has become an inpatient care facility. We have cameras and entry sensors and never leave her home alone. 

So.. any suggestions on how to motivate her into making better decisions? Seriously not sure how much more I can handle emotionally and mentally. I’ve just never felt so shit on in my entire life.",3.3917045454545445,5.630195670454551,4.857954545454547,79.82568181818183,75.25,8.49090909090909,26.34090909090909,9.188382445141503,2.4803931818181817,722,27,132,18,16,241,115,176,0.207,0.742,0.052000000000000005,-0.9807,0,1,2,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,2,11,9,3,0,6,0,10,4,1,5,7,30,23,14,1,1,8,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,7,1,0,4,1,1,3,5,5,0,0,3,1,23,3,17,19,8,21,0,0,0,0,16,10,1,2,8,88,24,2,0.14638371479190707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160938150589431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954594576996696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046132457290605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27506463740844644,0.0,0.0,0.08923415385262798,0.16166931220328276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294644999870377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492479531935247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15818879192264268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776841924182262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340031163381142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646619764315355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055132223217714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647944921375077,0.0,0.08319323853027198,0.0,0.11707642912592553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936696026696887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804486613847635,0.0,0.0,0.15499921782478024,0.0,0.0,0.20679029367656088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771226631177203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950407093861598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152177469962964,0.0,0.3387004353518534,0.14137830392068693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814813442295993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026077964338685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361114676255702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796491881126716,0.0,0.22012467169086164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740253533179011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438212565523334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343218990133215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dailydetailz,2020/01/31,"ADVICE OF THE DAY : BE A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR YOUR KIDS TO FOLLOW Be careful when your children are around, and think of them as a small version of you, be the person you want your kids to become. 

we know kids can develop an ability of self-learning but in the majority of time they learn by imitating your behaviors and characteristic, literally your kids are copying your own actions, so you need to be aware of what you're doing in front of your kids.",12.397241379310346,7.306609413793105,11.860229885057475,61.68275862068967,58.31034482758621,15.27816091954023,45.0919540229885,12.45797560212912,5.284374712643679,357,14,68,8,3,119,57,87,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.5294,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,10,2,0,3,2,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,14,6,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,16,10,3,10,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,0,3,50,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270568609841173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29794657660777635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696406932716044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412404997335186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158484616577335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28072352318642235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18393780836801701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24816965872388366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922398875332344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34915644232728904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21445693059007712,0.0,0.0,0.1951614249640761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974098394342324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ILoveAnimals2998,2020/01/31,"Parent led vs child led schedule? Ive heard lots of controversy over this subject. On one hand, there is having a set schedule for your baby. IE. Feeding every 1 1/2 hours, naps every 2 hours, so on so forth. And on the other hand there is baby led. Feeding when the baby shows its hungry, naps when the baby shows its tired, etcetera. What are your guys opinions on this subject? Pros and cons for each one? Thank you!",1.5181481481481498,4.1384401358024725,2.2825802469135823,93.12461111111116,85.91358024691358,3.7338271604938273,19.21111111111111,4.935628992294339,-0.3840133333333329,325,9,63,1,10,101,53,81,0.034,0.852,0.114,0.7803,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,5,5,2,3,0,9,7,6,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,6,3,2,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,3,4,1,8,6,2,15,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,6,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4559233561730414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679007085184752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5329017011301538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300236746381833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366682077939122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004290904081851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490988035862365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109732964683759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AltSpaceMonkey,2020/01/31,"How do you cope? I feel like my own insecurities and low self-esteem are blocking me from fully enjoying being a mom to my 15 months old daughter. My husbands takes care of her as she is not going to day care and I am ever so grateful for his support. But most of the time when I am back from work, I feel very unmotivated to play and care for her. I can hold her but sometimes feel so lethargic it's very bad.... I love her very much but wish that my unconditional love would take over. I probably need that push but I doubt everything I'm doing.

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope?",2.014710743801654,3.9111896446281023,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727274,78.17355371900827,6.383471074380165,21.743801652892564,7.348242739294969,0.6146958677685959,461,13,100,6,11,154,84,121,0.10099999999999999,0.66,0.239,0.9643,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,8,13,0,2,2,0,10,2,0,2,1,21,25,13,0,3,5,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,3,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,3,20,9,13,23,3,12,0,1,0,2,12,3,0,2,8,66,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115904932112004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519295380733346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081612502246738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189453080822016,0.129157784569639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4731433186361516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976078215706256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536826585878367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992389843245007,0.0,0.0,0.13902334806981376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346442766525007,0.11050893780228918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791259583810852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557260622622917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27922341273186485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811683876532016,0.12347026199117768,0.0,0.11371327251546437,0.1146989840548576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231874046255146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677952475786506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137302769838704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529901100557355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755377910886999,0.0,0.0,0.23261182805515415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019965327422824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829007066771404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778832434875378,0.0,0.0,0.11261450220285832,0.0,0.0,0.10988571780825952,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lanky_midget,2020/01/31,"I just realised something and I feel terrible. Hello,

So I am 6'5 and my partner is 5'11, our 3 year old (nearly 4) daughter is already taller than most children and at first I was happy for some reason but then it occurred to me tonight that there is a chance that she could end up in the 6'0 range, I feel bad because I know being tall already makes you stand out and I don't want her to end up being bullied about her height when she is older and it just makes me feel terrible, I feel like it'll be my fault and I don't want her to end up hating herself.

I know what I'm talking about Is years away but if she is already towering over people her own age i can see it being the same when she is older.",2.6581818181818164,3.5889158000000023,3.888181818181817,91.47409090909092,74.33333333333334,6.254545454545455,24.96969696969697,6.1124844417494595,0.5805333333333333,550,17,123,3,11,180,91,150,0.17300000000000001,0.775,0.051,-0.9646,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,1,8,7,1,0,3,0,18,0,0,3,0,27,31,13,0,4,5,1,4,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,7,7,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,1,6,26,2,16,24,4,27,0,0,1,0,16,12,0,3,15,90,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5312514946037451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507678657811784,0.0,0.13398665223889414,0.09782168335344814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812310290445525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263892501865981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245560067008237,0.11464057445659767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649662205389518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082445284088554,0.0,0.15843197299586725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763814221443944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839806592347587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21423138926567997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838740849170314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125044443565668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499100074934944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787467766815427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353848035310065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128980578763851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893000059837662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066762336596901
parenting,BrokedownHilldrifter,2020/01/31,"""Princesses Are For Girls"" - Book Suggestions In response to the ""Kindergartner being told that princesses are for girls"" post, I wanted to recommend some books that can help children understand that it's OK for boys want to play with ""girl"" things sometimes! Specifically, a few users mentioned their kids understanding girls dressing like boys, but not understanding boys wearing dresses. 

[The Prince and the Dressmaker by Jen Wang](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34506912-the-prince-and-the-dressmaker)

[Julián Is a Mermaid by Jessica Love](https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/26532714)

[Morris Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dress by Christine Baldacchino](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18406836-morris-micklewhite-and-the-tangerine-dress?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=tHfNx3sb5P&rank=1)

[10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewert](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3463007-10-000-dresses?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=Xl9KJ1Lorg&rank=1)",17.679491525423728,23.14973186440677,8.512,55.05291525423729,43.91525423728814,11.838644067796615,45.69830508474577,11.407655852321104,6.804400677966102,832,40,77,21,10,195,80,118,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7794,0,0,0,0,0,0,98.0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,6,1,5,1,1,0,0,11,11,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,5,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,12,9,2,2,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,1,1,36,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.852442649120619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789025677690568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406100298498286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834534211342905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558140836014392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129685879399403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711355738607297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529546161348734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40951693720719107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468172722806967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Allegiance_to_Mhysa,2020/02/01,"Losing SAHM friends after returning to work I was a SAHM for five years. I went back to school to switch careers and when I finished, I started working full time. Since then, I've hardly seen any of my old mom friends since our schedules are typically different. However, I have a very flex schedule and can work from home. I've told them I'm always up to meet up for lunch or coffee, as I know they do that a lot. But little by little I've seemed to get phased out and never invited to any outings any more. It's understandable, but it kind of sucks at the same time. Did any one else have similar experiences? Is this just a typical return to work thing that happens? I'm a bit bummed, but at the same time, my interests have never really lined up with everyone else's in the group. Everyone is more of a get together, have wine, talk, and occasionally do MLM parties (which I'm not into at all), and I'm more of a get together, play board games or shoot hoops (which I've NEVER found another mom who's into that) type of person. They're all great people, but I'm working on trying to find new friends who also share my interests, so in the end it's all ok, but being phased out is still weird.",6.909449035812672,5.522555000000002,7.439462809917357,77.64434573002757,65.11570247933885,11.041873278236917,32.5633608815427,10.125756701596842,2.8955443526170783,938,30,196,18,12,311,138,242,0.059000000000000004,0.815,0.127,0.9493,2,0,1,1,0,0,31.0,1,0,2,6,6,13,1,0,11,1,14,2,0,0,6,33,32,17,0,0,9,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,12,10,2,0,5,3,0,1,4,3,0,2,6,2,12,10,33,25,11,38,0,1,1,0,17,16,1,4,21,117,24,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701254411101286,0.09053575070602236,0.0,0.0,0.2959686908360695,0.11409313553156625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366550667134116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878855200075572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367966736447804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178779101667494,0.0,0.0963702916201124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793860773241565,0.0,0.10643366636509197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994471988015518,0.0,0.0,0.11930074595713125,0.2521909695170052,0.0,0.1705407660094277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995958534933295,0.0,0.0,0.09621725666670773,0.0,0.09746928064613476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914182286407004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330525919300002,0.05979722430028458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810545858305788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172667736908176,0.0,0.09250342231552568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548657898361131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517549149323033,0.10508602635792597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417415181831295,0.0,0.07373012183309108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543274907920035,0.09500566664005834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970425037451122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011801901077074,0.0,0.09905337999632052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800117748397698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701382318020454,0.0,0.08689303678795764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745456868363997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722862249127466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033789094612066,0.0,0.0,0.10396930386620784,0.0,0.07387249279401191,0.0,0.0,0.1132714367957868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977678381624535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086474499651588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960622548823708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006783906963347
parenting,EverywhereSand,2020/02/01,"How do I take a break when I’m angry without making my toddler think it’s his fault? I’m trying to teach my son that it’s okay to be angry and how to take a break to calm down.  When I get angry, I tell him that I’m angry and I need a break, then I go into my room and close the door.  He’s only 2, so I’m not sure how much of this he understands yet.  He gets VERY upset, screaming and crying until I come back out.  Often I am angry about something he did, but I know I own my anger, and I don’t want him to think he’s responsible for my feelings.  I’m worried he sees my breaks as a punishment for what he did wrong.  I don’t want him to think I’ll abandon him if he misbehaves.  Does anyone else experience this, and what have you tried?",0.7111062717770054,2.001961835365858,3.1529616724738725,93.32182926829272,80.03658536585365,5.905226480836237,19.031358885017426,6.5431188927421005,-0.12899337979094086,567,12,138,5,14,197,91,164,0.264,0.6829999999999999,0.053,-0.988,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,10,10,2,1,5,1,8,0,0,4,1,30,30,17,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,8,10,0,1,6,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,2,3,23,3,16,27,2,17,0,1,1,0,16,5,0,2,6,81,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314763284162942,0.19511005144576565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464229211096033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164031867941988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20916984997725896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663975428847042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907331731872104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862694550431733,0.0,0.0,0.09628318808328598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989754848073159,0.0,0.10822132703248656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465106355822737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127108300078544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998223048142344,0.14119565171927212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482466718670925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517418428476273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659631612149396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794706740770966,0.0,0.2863475987211048,0.0,0.16643739982946398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660445789717301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585683542690474,0.0,0.0,0.19823623036280644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711826124281192,0.224631899629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356020979335086,0.0,0.0,0.19338299186506885,0.0,0.0,0.20819678751476245,0.0,0.0
parenting,tannerec,2020/02/01,Using a boba wrap and similar wraps Any tips on using those wraps?? I feel like I’m too chunky for it like my 3 MO barely fits! Are slings easier for chunky chicks like me? Any tips? Thanks Reddit. I can always count on you excellent mommies!,0.5441964285714249,3.0362976458333333,2.0801190476190503,92.3625,93.375,5.242857142857143,13.107142857142858,6.868970318607317,-0.2972357142857147,189,3,38,3,7,61,37,48,0.0,0.667,0.33299999999999996,0.9548,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,4,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,16,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730305892484269,0.0,0.0,0.4462795383475085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591247428377787,0.2344162605986304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4809234829568267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020981769026859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.566798230134613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tez9899,2020/02/01,"Jealousy is My Middle Name TLDR: I need some advice on not being jealous of my MIL's time with my LO and not letting her under my skin. 

Hello, I'm hoping I can get some advice on how to put my feelings of jealousy towards my baby's relationship with other people into hopefully a different perspective. Maybe get rid of them if possible. It's important to me to help my LO build strong relationships and have a support system so I feel terrible that I'm constantly jealous of other people being in his life. Since I'm aware that it's an issue I try to make sure I dont let me feeling impact the time he spends with other family members or teachers when he was in daycare. 

But I have and always have had issues with my MIL. She's wonderful if old fashioned in a judgemental and the whole town will know what you did kind of way. She doesn't give me any credit for what we do with baby like teaching him sign language and we've painted the grandparents pictures and they said daycare was really good for him (?!) So minor things that just rub me the wrong way. She recently started watching my baby since I am going part time at work so we thought we'd start early (they were excited to watch him) and get a bit more in our savings while I train someone to work the days I'm off. It has been BRUTAL. He's been saying 'go go' for awhile to push things like cars or when he wants to go fast but yesterday she told me 'we taught him to say go go for his car so if he says go go that's what he means' I explained that hes been saying it for a while and she said no he hasn't. Come on woman! There have been enough of those instances that I'm second guessing my decision to go part time. The other factor being my niece and nephew are some awfully behaved kids and my LO is picking up on it. 

My little man is 18 months and literally the best to ever happen. I've gotten counseling and been on antidepressants because I am terrified of myself. My early years were spent in a very religious house with 5 other siblings where I helped take care if the younger 3. I have a difficult relationship with my mother and dont speak to a couple of my siblings. I don't want my issues to affect what I know to be good for him-being around people that love him and having an engaging environment. 

I know my jealousy is because I want him to love me and I'm afraid of losing it. I've honestly never been happier or more in love with someone (sorry to my husband) and I want the best for him so I really want to let go of this jealousy.",4.574765947411862,5.0411484280155685,5.842911213300322,80.91393290885509,69.58365758754864,8.642754392170735,28.221671972644728,8.666027191798058,2.017165499351492,1988,65,396,31,33,669,241,514,0.077,0.787,0.136,0.9876,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,5,1,3,6,14,29,3,1,19,1,43,5,1,4,3,75,99,35,0,12,12,3,5,2,0,1,1,7,0,3,26,30,0,0,11,0,3,15,9,8,0,1,19,14,69,21,60,71,12,62,0,1,2,3,58,22,0,14,24,270,95,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062845906339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059872866013475,0.0,0.0,0.04893231025429837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405578501775969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772699415979511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102603316639313,0.0,0.07855693471819697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336358195200235,0.0,0.0,0.06198342208693085,0.0,0.07775849619228514,0.0,0.0,0.07961755939194115,0.0,0.0464054422567279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517834048419779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866297452731474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434942260791666,0.0,0.0,0.06508800601443193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783338402618959,0.0,0.10914881775812577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278157361585385,0.06902641726417479,0.4089405477376348,0.12070597256319153,0.0,0.0,0.07926726210633421,0.0,0.06363014468500698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964607124271686,0.0,0.0,0.14293639483379933,0.0,0.0830271604898202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253090154428696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493073785086853,0.11863483222668507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22073858537174035,0.05082440439684775,0.07030779307444386,0.07211846589174138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080499968107071,0.0,0.0,0.19482835352856745,0.0,0.04803095589514979,0.0,0.07228912308868253,0.07838079863694129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743431426022583,0.0,0.0,0.05335420358957391,0.0554966341010043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755053516507185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15584191636197028,0.0,0.1496549653620959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111918514943743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233530370160647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219326532773124,0.0,0.07104752472763322,0.2317603220905148,0.0,0.0,0.1368926038659767,0.2288880875682375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904491642009918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219355794486032,0.0,0.0,0.08054846037947176,0.1018611604917552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165442022512791,0.06781734965964603,0.0,0.05410169468223832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956082746333908,0.0,0.0,0.05712474949807238,0.1678316753773665,0.0,0.0,0.06875670827658639,0.0,0.04885316384572775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059370948013724424,0.21220653680871332,0.11423009326439547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033591483746921,0.0,0.0,0.07803283426216782,0.1047691420666138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867220875784034,0.0,0.04633708018937137
parenting,XxDelibirdxX,2020/02/01,"Death of a pet I got the news yesterday that due to ill health my sons beloved pug will have to be put to sleep. As she is in no pain the vet has allowed is some time to make arrangements. I am yet to tell my son, he is 11 and has ASD, he is already under alot of stress with upcoming exams and I fear this will tip him over and cause a huge problem in his mental state. Does anyone have any ideas with how I can talk him through it? 
   I am going to have her cremated so we can use the ashes for keepsakes.",3.1647968545216263,3.2831508532110085,4.231480996068154,92.45935779816514,72.57798165137615,7.696461336828308,24.74574049803407,7.447530270364453,0.7785428571428574,389,10,95,4,7,127,80,109,0.175,0.778,0.047,-0.9359999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,6,0,16,4,1,5,0,16,20,6,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,0,13,0,17,16,2,12,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,4,63,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604471718329155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604975232774974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650263838721828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24245125511133814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065373260693622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655812168922627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13413211993984706,0.0,0.18876185025461475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508717048295786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26643092889524705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754108934893554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23784646755951075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511353954181877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22583339699327226,0.0,0.2372591244782603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361843140648804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703530880109256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896990067885304,0.20628652307784406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376215842129285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384020399303665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Charming-ander,2020/02/01,"How to reduce screen times Hi guys,

Me and my kids have recently been through a fair bit of upheaval. We are moving countries, changing house, getting rid of a lot etc. My husband has been gone for the past 7 weeks and I have been managing on my own with the help of my in-laws, who thankfully I get a long very well with.

As we have packed everything up and are staying at my in-laws the kids have become addicted to screens. They are 5 & 3 and can watch up to 4-5 hours or more per day. I hate it. I feel like a failure of a parent. I have become a bit depressed with this process so I feel it has affected my parenting as well. We have done a lot, such as day trips, visiting parks, playdates, using our theme park passes before leaving (we live in Brisbane so during the day it can get too hot to take the kids out as well) but when we are home it seems to be the default. 

We are moving to Japan so I know we can reduce TV time as there won't be much content tailored to young English speakers (I hope) but iPads are totally within my control and I'd just like some tips at how to manage this, and deal with the resulting fall out and crying/begging/ pleading whilst I am also dealing with a whole new environment and way of life. 
Can anyone recommend some books on the subject or share what has worked for you? We are already planning on getting out a lot, but we will need rest days and calmer days and I don't want it to be a whole day of TV etc. 

I have done some internet research but I do like hearing what has helped for others and a variety of opinions. Thanks in advance.",3.5477096989966554,4.4668526030769256,4.407638795986625,88.62983946488299,72.2,7.375250836120402,27.976588628762546,7.586124646067393,1.4406240802675594,1236,45,266,14,23,399,175,325,0.03,0.875,0.096,0.9627,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,10,1,1,4,14,12,1,0,19,0,35,2,0,6,1,56,53,29,0,3,7,3,3,3,0,2,2,2,1,4,11,28,0,1,4,3,0,8,2,2,3,0,6,8,32,10,43,42,17,40,0,1,3,0,28,13,0,11,20,186,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336535549651593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463375744048288,0.07582572949325778,0.0,0.10273500480608297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629878335726175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943753591132064,0.08068293124901188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20703287561419725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030461911966387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634618186964312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668976719505382,0.19550589703165494,0.08166639891117962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406297976513928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114937356925256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521609001500956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588541818498536,0.06773782765247413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815346738213815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388449096169343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361290914935626,0.0,0.0,0.10686650818415433,0.0,0.1271086935178293,0.0,0.09510994559972416,0.09417543135600777,0.09337639534420022,0.10940696611923163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210936193816181,0.0,0.0,0.10039831866354924,0.0,0.0,0.06697258893441041,0.13896950629348725,0.0,0.08372582041217362,0.08391073505200969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418320099484328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155254940214595,0.06970196446220651,0.070306168608028,0.0,0.09157558475673787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056780610277406,0.0,0.09051428205996608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362110043115933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863185288251244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106311769235296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129115631767742,0.0,0.0,0.1745909109624312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057799829247893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189210238346857,0.0,0.07823458323135866,0.05592597228651933,0.07526192555450989,0.07605708883414347,0.0,0.25575766382155946,0.0,0.0,0.21172128881507668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902845953540934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,euphonicstru,2020/02/01,"Is there a psychological condition for a parent dislikes their child(ren)? Is there an official name for a condition where a parent experiences a morbid lack of affection for their child?

I'm curious if there's something in the DSM that describes this, or anything similar.

Thanks.",7.138749999999997,9.907875375,7.281666666666666,64.23000000000002,66.08333333333334,11.466666666666667,39.08333333333333,11.20814326018867,5.620983333333332,230,13,33,8,4,74,36,48,0.1,0.721,0.179,0.6072,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,7,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,4,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,0,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908329059224517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34571062564488564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7848577433287935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27207844760081884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253798168861836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parada69,2020/02/01,"Single dad(32) 7 year old son Hi everyone!

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   I hope i can get some help, good advice. as the title states im a single dad with a 7 year old. Im currently having some behavior problems I could use some help with. cut a little back story. My wife and I separated because she cheated on me, and got pregnant by another man. I filed for divorce and custody of my son. Instead of going to court she took off to another state missing court. My son was 4 when I was granted full custody of him.

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  I love my son, hes my life and the reason i do things, hes my motivation to keep pushing to provide the best for him. He's not a bad kid at all, however hes having some behavior that I would like to help him over come.  Not sure if hes the only kid, but hes very, and i mean, very clingy to me. He seeks my attention for everything and anything, I.E asking permission to use the bathroom when were at home. I also have to tell him multiple times to do something, to not do something, or other type of instruction. In school hes also not listening to the teachers and has to be told multiple times to sit down and do his work. he is in Special Ed. classes for his speech delay but over all he does well in school (he got an award on Friday for doing good in math and reading) 

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  Im not sure how else i can handle this, i get mad and raise my voice and thats when he listens and tbh i dont want to keep doing that to him.

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Anyone?",1.6019631031220456,3.476241168874175,3.5422563859981078,88.87690397350995,79.36423841059603,6.433491012298959,24.36187322611164,7.447530270364453,1.1156893093661306,1131,41,240,16,28,382,156,302,0.065,0.813,0.122,0.9429,2,0,2,0,3,0,51.0,0,0,0,4,10,17,3,0,11,0,26,2,0,5,4,47,46,23,0,6,9,6,0,1,0,1,1,4,1,3,6,15,0,3,4,1,0,4,6,6,1,0,7,4,39,11,40,36,10,33,0,1,0,1,41,14,0,7,13,156,45,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055448054894544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184640187866406,0.0,0.3572729420789471,0.4006699561571676,0.0,0.17288046858737766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764043480363262,0.0,0.06783694117935858,0.0,0.07706555176104263,0.0,0.0,0.06338738930502978,0.06882974120032513,0.05025158130671985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651039577702199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101041143611013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581760098739416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213938158542177,0.0,0.096613149225816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886382416436429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877012883969915,0.07408721898050705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613771957327221,0.0,0.04684968265713185,0.1382850524530061,0.13186152259679002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576323102813484,0.0,0.08268897769927899,0.08187650717402459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26713168061733983,0.0,0.0,0.1465439451179947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058226244142405466,0.040273553357372906,0.08262147785146927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440076221283988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979582882813526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17300322911587676,0.0,0.0,0.0626954952842641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887911551134576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245725957825409,0.0,0.0,0.08475685967369682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685714383954986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692490615892926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538793244051624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205178108699263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05476611882522362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613696629918184,0.0,0.0,0.07877012883969915,0.0915882643024394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423946609376116,0.0,0.13603493656396254,0.048622270216332704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741189214468508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001362649455243,0.0,0.0,0.058559424378144535,0.0,0.4006699561571676,0.106170812072316
parenting,confused-eggplant,2020/02/01,"My son said the N-Word and I don't know what to do The walls in our house are fairly thin and while I was reading a book on my phone and I heard my 15 y/o son say ""fucking n*****"" and i was so surprised because i was so sure I raised him better to use such awful slurs. Its almost been a week and I honestly don't know how to tell him that under no circumstance is okay. I have way to much respect for black people just to let this slide. Please help please and thank you",-0.6304692556634279,1.3601557184466062,1.275946601941751,101.20252831715212,88.90291262135922,4.210032362459548,15.379449838187703,5.46131890053228,-1.0399637540453073,361,7,90,2,12,118,72,103,0.048,0.71,0.242,0.9583,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,1,5,8,1,0,4,2,11,1,0,2,1,13,18,10,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,5,15,7,9,11,1,9,0,0,1,1,12,5,1,1,2,57,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22422688745677904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650159461749134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804200445238368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20701352706130136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009110012664922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583774791777113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461248320233703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22897679469839316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460942580066326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524025499032126,0.0,0.0,0.4916011865783611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398394493338972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213002381969336,0.17807283403043586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104510555580366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19571887605633811,0.2061585338754937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933978770176709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773993094409193,0.17961780299387076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DadaLumLum,2020/02/01,"Stepdad losing bond with daughter Hello! I'm at a bit of a loss so looking for some advice.

I (23M) have a stepdaughter (2.5) who ive been around since she was 3 months old. Her biological father is totally out of the picture and she sees me as her Dad. I love this little girl more than I could have ever imagined loving anything, and I dedicate my life to her. We used to have a really strong bond, cuddles all the time, wanting to play with me and wanting time just us two. But the last few months, she's been very cold and distant towards me. Doesn't let me cuddle her, has to be asked to give me a cuddle and a kiss and will often not let me do things for her, and will often need to be told and reminded that she needs to be nice and share with me. She is the exact opposite to her mum, LOADS of love and affection, always wanting mummy and would always prefer Mum to do everything with her. All I seem to be here for is a bit of fun when she's bored. I'm not overly strict, I never raise my voice or lose my temper, I'm nothing but affectionate and kind to her. What am I doing wrong? Is this normal? Yes, I do get jealous of how she is with Mum and I wish I could have my fair share of affection and daddy time. I just want to know if this is normal, and if there is anything I can do to encourage a strong bond. Sometimes it feels like, somehow, she knows I'm not her biological dad.",2.9304270986745213,3.825541865979382,4.493323514973003,87.52876288659796,73.63917525773195,7.329798723613157,23.82277859597448,7.62386473244151,0.9244572410407472,1077,29,238,13,21,362,152,291,0.064,0.7490000000000001,0.187,0.9892,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,0,5,12,22,2,0,12,1,35,8,0,4,6,65,60,24,0,15,10,7,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,8,23,0,0,6,1,0,0,5,7,0,1,4,5,43,15,34,45,8,16,0,3,2,7,38,6,0,8,11,173,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476607210660135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954475986978993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329475480016511,0.104551111363304,0.10979539077244566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25643944033485416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18754084165965565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062358905342204,0.0,0.0,0.10555215622709077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059383812601463276,0.08390286113336523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613602599649175,0.11266411981986872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230108358532588,0.12908960059589886,0.09573349812561087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401913104853884,0.08295500496317658,0.05737778329776374,0.11771092582360175,0.0,0.0,0.09862437313885132,0.2627822335787887,0.0,0.0,0.31799658502111705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748724676876605,0.0,0.0,0.17416822788596995,0.09058096424193296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301426838022728,0.11269181916748618,0.0,0.1232389615827987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752383906274339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093588603980059,0.10691768230902618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715186778541728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615628757331825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802535997082527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544968941295436,0.0,0.0,0.11222390393009042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147268768774274,0.0,0.14127209270594318,0.1014349283453664,0.0,0.09690457459551607,0.2770888438039761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505616263355594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342968727381593,0.1284078691215412,0.0,0.0
parenting,fattire113,2020/02/01,"Soon to be stay at home dad looking for advice. My wife is pregnant with our first born child and I soon will be the stay at home dad.  Since the future of my career is extremely uncertain (hedge fund trader) and my wife has a great job with amazing benefits (director at a large teaching hospital), we have decided that I will leave my job and be the stay at home dad (and trade a small account from home). While I am extremely excited about this, I am also terrified that I will get lost in the mundane routine of it all.  Do you guys have any tips on how to keep your sanity?  Suggestions for books to read?  Anything you wish someone told you at the beginning?  Any advice is greatly appreciated.",5.20593698175788,6.170189477611943,5.8912935323383095,79.34367330016586,68.40298507462687,9.836152570480927,31.30679933665009,9.994966539143718,3.0587505804311776,546,22,105,13,9,178,85,134,0.068,0.794,0.13699999999999998,0.9008,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,4,0,2,5,7,0,1,8,0,15,0,0,1,1,13,22,7,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,4,7,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,15,5,18,14,1,18,0,1,1,0,15,8,0,1,7,71,19,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696432206955817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033367789543888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764716360999126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353664735399027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735627416972473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720830547563317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042223942680589,0.0,0.13661090047364186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5535762160196962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738256846584539,0.12263309584326393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460891418611757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585912597732373,0.0,0.15060935024165087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800623435776785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141292981688812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690059956172415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411694638124801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183519458012605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865742374397945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,erok209,2020/02/01,"Question on 24 month old that's almost potty trained. Daughter has started to really figure out using the toilet but the last three days she has been asking to use the toilet more frequently, like every 30-45 mins. Shes not peeing a whole lot when she does go. I would be more concerned about a UTI if she had any other symptoms outside of her frequency but I'm curious if this may just be a phase of her learning bladder control? Or should I be more suspicious of a UTI?",4.074179331306993,5.452740308510637,5.087568389057751,82.50500000000002,71.44680851063829,7.499088145896658,28.322188449848017,7.957251820313856,1.89610820668693,375,14,70,5,7,123,71,94,0.04,0.884,0.076,0.5086,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,7,0,11,3,2,3,0,19,17,6,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,8,1,8,9,5,11,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,7,9,50,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24174855036744675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641747570198767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256963182263584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707745070694722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569676083767126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112693992439116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203407850641243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720528360809184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19679057477613887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794624844620573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205247748865032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270017171215656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533310341681271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704470985210533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466066138497644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087923282783865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25092916059974985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170209642871283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695382504906856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17149875888234695,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beezer35,2020/02/01,"Please, somebody calm me down I don’t know what it is. But my anxiety is flaring up right now and I’m afraid to google. Looking for some first hand experiences. 

A couple of weeks ago, my son had a low grade fever that lasted roughly 4 days. Chest X-ray was clear. Cough went away for a few days. Earlier on this week (Tuesday?) his nose started to run again, and a little cough came back. Picked him up from school yesterday and he was absolutely miserable. Got him home, and he had a fever of 38.8. Gave him some Tylenol, which seemed to help his mood. He ate dinner and spent the night laying. Looked exhausted. Just before bed, he got another dose of Tylenol, plus Vick’s on his back and feet to help with the cough. I checked on him at 11 and he was very clammy. Felt cool. His temperature had dropped to like 36.8 or something (normal). He woke up this morning, nothing at all. Barely even a cough. 

Is it normal for a fever to only last a few hours like that? My head always (irrationally) jumps to some major disease like cancer or something",1.6855706075533696,4.2785260197044375,2.357025862068969,93.22910201149428,84.36945812807882,5.353776683087029,20.773604269293926,6.816661863887847,0.383519047619048,814,25,168,10,24,252,132,203,0.067,0.8109999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.8759,0,0,2,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,0,1,6,10,0,2,10,1,10,19,5,1,2,25,25,11,0,2,4,1,3,3,0,0,12,0,2,0,8,10,2,0,3,0,2,4,1,4,0,1,15,7,14,5,26,10,7,35,0,2,2,0,18,13,0,6,20,91,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837509387823154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050268780279247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185746386579066,0.11078768187815066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606411301418764,0.22271684614436926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323201919063945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563666308611094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024170115504605,0.0,0.1867951508903704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565291611836674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416627439401804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390508876216977,0.0,0.0,0.1231846833737868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316531944487357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486281446628755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414095046377086,0.0,0.14526728838337072,0.0,0.1426195301146814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958984373729204,0.23609691628355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21225670165128568,0.14514870522839124,0.0,0.0,0.2432263609330259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590471433570425,0.2837876971738936,0.13895967198919887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014290957761916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896998811206478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367635752602348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465666011806118,0.0,0.13183961509598435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229805889374566,0.0,0.0,0.10250506146812484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949250619543578,0.0,0.0,0.2323333692938461,0.0,0.0,0.1342505339806601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thewonderdo,2020/02/01,"Help! 7 year old son wants to be adopted by ex-wifes husband. Sees me, my wife, his brothers as unnecessary. I am a 35 year old father of three sons. My first son is 7 and is a result of my first marriage, my youngest two sons are the result of my current marriage and they are Irish twins just under 2 years old. I have standard every other weekend access (with special caveats for various holidays) to my oldest boy and we have been doing this since he was 1 year old. 

My relationship with him has always been great and I have always put him above everyone and everything else but now he has brothers and genuinely hates being equal to them. At his mom's house he is an only child and is treated that way along with being a little bit babied. 

Over the last few months he has become increasingly aggressive towards his brothers to the point of being straight up violent and has indicated that he doesn't want to be a part of our family anymore. He has told me and others that his stepfather is a much better father and I am only half the father that he is. My wife took him aside and had a private conversation with him and my son divulged that he has no need for us, that he sees us as extra and we aren't worth the hassle of interrupting his time at his other house. He hates having brothers and he hates sharing the spotlight. He says his mother and stepfather won't be having kids so he wants to be where he gets the focus and he wants to be where crying gets him out of trouble.

My ex-wife and her husband approached me about 6 months ago asking if I would consider allowing him to adopt my son. This means I would no longer be on the hook for anything financially but I would also be legally losing a child. It would be like he was never even mine. I was very clear with them that I could not care less about the money and he was my child and I was going to fight tooth and nail to have him in my life but I am now wondering if I am doing more harm to my son by forcing him to be a part of this family then to just let him be happy with his other family. 

Does the expression ""if you love someone let them go and if they come back to you it was meant to be"" mean anything here? Or is this a case of, as others have put it, He's just a kid what does he know? 

Do I let my son's stepfather adopt him? 

Please help I'm really chewed up about this and to make matters a little more tricky my wife and I just found out we are pregnant again. Hooray 3 under 3! 🙁",3.976196233434084,4.638217561264824,5.022418042315742,85.5614275749826,71.01581027667984,7.9292257614508275,25.356661241571732,8.027739517013583,1.2847325738200417,1930,53,409,25,34,635,227,506,0.105,0.799,0.096,-0.7795,1,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,6,2,5,4,17,18,6,0,22,0,64,4,1,4,2,73,92,37,0,14,13,22,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,6,21,36,1,0,6,2,2,8,7,9,0,5,13,3,66,9,55,56,12,51,0,1,2,1,92,18,0,6,25,293,87,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180281310406401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477675364167355,0.13479923105720845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033157759485006,0.0,0.0,0.13331442539096267,0.0,0.07572533174289887,0.0,0.0,0.0622850414193248,0.0,0.0,0.08945963169568377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163911523260058,0.08843249955531626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258627900413781,0.0,0.0,0.06977549424251897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467299014151301,0.0,0.08897618399345718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176966173478092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766623751816489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053500630468247115,0.0,0.06824713442365435,0.07740026511861574,0.07279879410457603,0.0,0.2290826032450348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779942090575806,0.0,0.08881380390709526,0.0,0.0,0.08463972866227076,0.0,0.09206987247067877,0.0,0.0,0.08930427890048967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862274476972863,0.0,0.2399162023566449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858700049106068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186929374457744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451622586754337,0.06602691473173751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24848811785684194,0.05721365192451095,0.03957317009691571,0.1623692733373466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061979593995692,0.0,0.0,0.0731068846163752,0.0,0.054069032875023265,0.0,0.0,0.17646844204070114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486780698448118,0.12930901615489834,0.0,0.05954531542898647,0.060061477731211815,0.06247323788872056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399891811068574,0.0,0.0,0.12321035977027098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543314602099944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889151625968268,0.07657246161480825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16285746727193073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518915416210175,0.0,0.0,0.08696514043701986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441552796931714,0.0,0.0,0.12909518393960345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700515719043515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863218450444475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04723254099532409,0.0,0.0,0.07740026511861574,0.08999548487712915,0.0,0.0,0.0791265530387837,0.0,0.19486931119618287,0.0,0.0,0.0668346003144927,0.1911067893806176,0.06429510461453529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784251327961701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301641517578723,0.0,0.0,0.2086488653326766
parenting,CharmingM4n,2020/02/01,"8 month y.o. keeps turning on side/front in cot, but not in our bed... Is there anything we can do to the cot to stop this? We have a plasticky under layer designed to stop suffocation (not that we rely on it), maybe she finds that uncomfortable?  In the end my wife brings her into our bed (i must disappear lol,) where she no longer tries to flip over",1.7371428571428569,3.9198932857142883,2.975714285714286,91.53928571428571,80.42857142857143,6.285714285714287,20.0,7.447530270364453,0.44357142857142895,270,7,59,4,7,87,54,70,0.19,0.81,0.0,-0.9261,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,1,12,8,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,4,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,12,7,0,15,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,4,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27169971914365904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924304047356007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017671121095817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934680429169921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316976297373724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635365472940817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5520696252794299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22416205869477948,0.35912742834739675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Westfalias,2020/02/01,"Room sharing Hi All, 

#1 is 1.5 years old and #2 is due in May. We only have two bedrooms so at some point we will be transitioning to the two sharing their room. 

Obviously baby will be in our room for awhile after birth. I don’t want them to start room sharing until #2 is sleeping decently, so probably not until #2 is at LEAST 10 months old. 

For those who have experience with room sharing - at what age did you move the younger one in with the big kid? Any tips and tricks for making it an easier transition?",3.323235294117648,4.821573039215687,4.537401960784315,85.24080882352943,73.50980392156862,7.845098039215688,25.495098039215684,8.472884824447931,1.5768980392156855,398,13,83,7,8,131,71,102,0.013999999999999999,0.8440000000000001,0.142,0.9211,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,1,2,0,2,5,1,0,4,0,13,1,1,1,2,13,16,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,1,0,7,4,16,10,3,25,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,2,11,55,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639151156172507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357828684989513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089572815681552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923954175357057,0.2561868266198278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5058607852859964,0.0,0.16333459340723286,0.1833213902449742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22786022447916926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598813332435365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412135611587588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706089883365634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4709211055112112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421713335624945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522152575944287
parenting,Grsz11,2020/02/01,"AITA SO wants to travel to a birthday party for a kid we've never met My SO wants to drive five hours to our hometown with our four month old, three year old, and dog to attend a first birthday party for the kid of a friend we haven't seen in a couple of years and aren't particularly close with any more. We'd leave Saturday morning, go to the party Sunday afternoon stay for no more than two hours, and get home after 9 PM Sunday and have to get ready for the week of work and daycare. Seems like a huge waste of time and money to me, but she thinks if we don't go we'll stop being invited to things back home (also not something I care about). Add to this we're having my kids birthday there in a month and a half with the same people.",7.1942032967032965,4.69485477564103,7.39758241758242,81.71884615384616,65.34615384615384,9.93992673992674,29.336996336996336,7.447530270364453,1.557838095238095,579,11,129,4,7,189,97,156,0.054000000000000006,0.845,0.10099999999999999,0.606,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,6,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,12,0,8,0,0,0,1,24,19,12,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,3,2,14,0,1,2,1,1,5,6,0,0,6,2,1,11,3,26,14,3,29,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,2,20,83,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599252481670765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564289363307564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076141616763426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733818996104231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881620733670253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446482735991745,0.0,0.0,0.1313836873789717,0.0,0.1776929184234105,0.0,0.19329178621857854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411570643296292,0.0,0.33493886167676024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006316501870867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308004050728411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27147176417244645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115651644043108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568871898463039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789438070053257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481123296593138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091626471961915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812554740017796,0.0,0.14217317926058487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297665567404787,0.10896405918806566,0.0,0.0,0.09916014839203699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661185397976563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200605103964064,0.0,0.1364074649843426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380170371144207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901904928496846
parenting,orihofnung,2020/02/01,"Gifted and Talented Testing Technology - Looking for parents with children between 4 - 6 years olds Hi My name is Ori, I'm the founder of GiantLeap. Together with the Texas Medical Center, we have built a platform that helps parents navigate the complex and segmented world of child development by providing them with personalized scientific knowledge, clarity, and guidance to easily manage their children’s development process from the convenience of their home, without having to depend on external support or supervision. We are currently looking for parents who would like to test their children with our product and get their feedback in order to provide even more value for parents.

For more information please free to email me at [ori@giantleap.tech](mailto:ori@giantleap.tech) or visit our website at [https://www.giantleap.tech/](https://www.giantleap.tech/)",14.640483689538813,16.27337370078741,10.997525309336336,48.53023622047246,48.212598425196845,13.556355455568054,52.001124859392576,12.785403640627713,7.614548706411696,728,43,77,20,7,210,94,127,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.18100000000000002,0.972,5,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,0,5,1,1,4,0,0,5,0,5,1,0,2,0,20,10,6,0,1,3,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,5,2,10,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,11,5,24,9,3,13,0,0,2,0,25,8,0,3,4,56,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644899123214293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211303618873648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817474446037607,0.0,0.1768501147454736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861346062151335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961066480886666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761057183400245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18500434865544987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7830714324598714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539443139747645,0.0,0.19353194343733288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000708889943225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699534820973614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524330580512238,0.0,0.0,0.11353581105993595
parenting,DeliriousCrayon,2020/02/01,"I'm getting close to reaching a new level in the game of parenting... College! My daughter (15F) is a sophomore in high school and over the past week she has been receiving an enormous amount of college mail. As a person who didn't go to college straight out of high school, I'm so overwhelmed! I'm terrified that I will miss a deadline or miss something else that will effect her future. Call me paranoid if you must but I really need guidance lol.

At this stage in the game, what should we really be focusing on? She took her PSAT this year but what else should we be doing right now to prepare? When do students typically begin applying for college? 

We looked at her credits and at the end of this year, she will be at 18 credits which means she will only need 8 more credits to satisfy her Advanced Diploma requirements. What would be the benefits of graduating early? What would she do with her time in school if she chose not to graduate early? 

Any help/suggestions/advice/encouragement would be much appreciated!",4.98499127399651,6.903435073298433,5.377047120418851,79.191294938918,69.99476439790575,8.44411867364747,31.58150087260035,9.029198982220553,2.854222757417104,813,36,144,16,15,259,118,191,0.033,0.797,0.17,0.9832,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,3,1,0,3,3,7,0,1,10,1,22,0,0,1,1,25,35,10,0,10,6,2,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,11,8,0,1,2,2,3,4,2,3,0,0,3,1,19,4,24,17,3,36,0,3,1,0,24,18,0,3,13,99,30,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720074614310432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609682760833442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633763291873075,0.0,0.1396224328799251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236050154441622,0.0,0.08959056218236351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566290751395224,0.3331110664616793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237807077192307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717163987047683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588369010303533,0.23377643135788745,0.0,0.15224989377032708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989248059429247,0.0,0.0,0.1750407938740428,0.0,0.15048541447957622,0.0,0.1376453478625326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019767058031724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346238750322113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4786209150059138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135913257879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192127212775793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514406977340194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644946495552326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359492393689624,0.0,0.0,0.20303024911672216
parenting,scorpiongrl,2020/02/01,"Would you raise your child with someone who was “just a friend” ? If you’re single, when would you introduce a new partner to your child? I dated a guy for a few months in early 2018, but he just wanted to be friends. After that, we would occasionally meet every few months and “catch up” aka hook up. During this time he got a one night stand pregnant, and she just had the baby. We reconnected in December and our relationship has completely changed. He keeps telling me he wants me to meet the baby, and how he wishes just us two could raise her. He’s from another country and has no family support here, so idk if he’s using me because he has no one else, or he has genuine feelings and that’s why he’s asking me to be apart of her life? So to all the single parents out there, would you introduce your child and raise your child with someone who was just a friend? 

I just want to state, I do not plan on meeting the baby until I know where him and I stand. I would never want to involve a child into something messy like that until I feel confident about where our relationship is. 

Also, I know I need to have a conversation with him, and I plan to next weekend. I just want to get some parental opinions on this :)",5.700917107583778,5.530044691358025,6.087104644326867,82.33601851851853,67.10699588477364,8.918165784832453,29.70282186948853,8.418075326091056,1.9329167548500883,952,30,197,12,14,307,130,243,0.044000000000000004,0.8220000000000001,0.135,0.971,2,0,1,0,1,0,25.0,5,7,0,2,17,5,0,0,12,0,18,1,0,2,2,52,35,20,0,15,12,2,2,1,4,5,1,0,0,7,7,16,0,1,4,1,0,1,4,0,0,3,4,2,32,5,28,23,6,29,0,0,0,0,50,11,0,5,15,139,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583595227597667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566262029839695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203416150089524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305331172154644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126774760430981,0.0,0.12564989121185752,0.0,0.0,0.09568243618740603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011088770144506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097031342104357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129744247105108,0.0,0.12118934328162854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777641082213229,0.0,0.06261141953485083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584694315930796,0.0,0.0,0.11866037630484325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651924004407873,0.0,0.0,0.13172178776813007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464648978401804,0.0585477386192634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913101846632488,0.0,0.0,0.08885979290215539,0.0924279453389798,0.11574215545360166,0.1274511298330624,0.11246166029364957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162413282119026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661361301946579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25732648149363235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030799751141731,0.09225863638261628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599293743686036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474538486089044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987962950012455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170662025259143,0.0,0.14415268563130898,0.1035032259926933,0.0,0.0,0.3534234913964813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813690092414416,0.0,0.1378100103267381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256542552581179,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlreadyAligned,2020/02/01,"Toddler sleep specialists... Debating seeing one but wondering if it's a waste of money.

Due to health issues my son has been co-sleeping for exactly 1 year. In the brutal transition of going to the crib, now that he's doing better but its a new battle.

The whole put him in the crib when he's sleepy does not work. The 3,5,10 minute alone rule hasn't worked. 

Just wondering where to go after not being able to start earlier.",3.622306368330463,5.577495120481932,4.53067125645439,83.69879518072291,73.69879518072291,8.11635111876076,22.70051635111876,8.841846274778883,1.6243817555938038,337,9,64,7,7,109,65,83,0.171,0.7859999999999999,0.043,-0.9081,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,3,4,3,2,0,7,0,5,2,1,0,1,9,11,4,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,2,0,1,1,1,2,1,10,9,1,13,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,3,7,38,5,2,0.20778573734252406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21520335898722467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837695991506227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818346989918172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361788459119052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22086652229597786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168743253562322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068075992029336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080099316044362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888205683498595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655783305518891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4158715954340714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707181435835942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319853552864555,0.0,0.0,0.4506695372036762,0.30254098300309085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380720232558604
parenting,Nooutingtoddler,2020/02/01,"3 year old daughter has started to become a ""sore loser"" My 3 year old daughter is generally a happy and easygoing kid. However, over the past few weeks, we've been having trouble with her being something of a ""sore loser"" and her having a tantrum when she doesn't get her way. Here are a few of points of contention:

* Not being line leader at preschool
* Losing at board games
* Sitting out at soccer
* Losing at elimination games
* Not being partnered with her friend at preschool
* Being told that playtime is over and that it's circle time now
* Getting a pinnie she doesn't want in sports games

I have no idea where this behavior is coming from, since we don't spoil her and cater to her every whim. However, she is relatively new to preschool and structured activities (she only started in September), so maybe her lack of experience in these situations is starting to catch up to her? What have you done to correct this kind of behavior?",4.977733990147783,7.027626609195405,5.329556650246307,78.9889655172414,70.26436781609196,7.730049261083742,29.66995073891625,8.418075326091056,2.349436453201971,746,30,129,12,14,237,107,174,0.157,0.7929999999999999,0.05,-0.9489,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,4,5,9,1,0,7,0,20,2,0,0,1,17,28,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,7,10,0,0,1,5,0,2,6,6,0,0,3,0,16,3,26,21,3,31,0,4,0,0,23,14,0,0,13,92,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862158725323284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524209741824842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254599060261225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206071994308314,0.0,0.0,0.16493237975557706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026723020961964,0.0,0.1761829400031469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948787743512012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903395274171824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558077886202691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772616553366562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693908387826811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284404172282266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35385447498114336,0.0,0.0,0.12823507214791094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095678300541727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593904142155965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947546590430135,0.18952406791791307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298037795607165,0.0,0.0,0.35802787496623456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831751670164326,0.0,0.0,0.16111353948254598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945021250596267,0.13383432033434894,0.13524831733615986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21715789442870725
parenting,saritakamat,2020/02/01,"My 9 MO offers biscuits to everyone Whenever we are having tea and biscuits, my baby is always jumping towards it. So one day my dad handed him a biscuit. As LO was exploring biscuit in his hands, my dad opened his mouth and said aaaaa asking for the biscuit. The baby offered him. He took a bite, and baby offered again. It was so cute untill the last bite. After that he started crying and we had to give him another biscuit to calm him.

Ever since then, whenever we hand him a biscuit instead of eating it, he offers others. My mom and dad are so proud of LO of being so caring and all I say wait for the last bite.",3.72913082437276,4.859863830645164,5.389784946236559,80.9602329749104,71.98387096774194,7.124014336917562,28.293906810035843,7.3871296695380915,1.7446121863799289,481,18,89,5,9,164,73,124,0.023,0.846,0.131,0.9368,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,7,0,8,6,4,0,2,14,15,13,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,10,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,5,16,4,13,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,25,3,0,0,9,65,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990644865098828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508610274038731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236544550138157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439182344555588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26279079248975057,0.15428818009180525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24479934583704904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21640371269848704,0.0,0.228601363831624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22949808858686296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900204407346218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28019167669687595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211329478752606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275693290634229,0.1902509962098096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19789945543483392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933329702329994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658012934461116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imamarigold,2020/02/01,"Advice on a toxic adult child I’m posting this for my mother since she doesn’t have reddit or any social media and is losing her mind.

Backstory- my sister is 22 and a complete lazy loser. She’s never had life hard but yet complains she has. She moved with my parents when she was 18 and got her GED in the town we live now.
She smoked a lot of pot and played video games, nothing too serious. Was never interested in getting a job or driving.
Well fast forward 2 years she is 20. Still doing the same things.
Well she meets a almost 50 year old man who is a junkie and befriends him. They are now in a relationship and she leaves home to be with him. Gets addicted to meth. 
She continues to ask my parents to support her and asks for money food etc. 
lies constantly about being with him so she can move back in because he got arrested. 
While he is in jail she moved back in and was just a lazy slob. Didn’t contribute anything and made the living room into her own room. 
Right when he got out and came home she was gone and with him. 
My dad got so angry he got arrested for starting an altercation with this old meth head.
Well ofcourse my dad gets out that night and my sister is back with this loser. Now she and him texted my parents saying they need so much money or else they will up the charges against him. Basically blackmail.

Well the charges got dropped eventually and my parents cut ties with her while she was away with the guy.
Well the guy had to go to rehab as part of his probation agreement. She goes with him. They continue to do drugs. She gets kicked out and he stayed. She had no where else to go ofcourse so at 2 am she knocks on my parents door. 
They take her in. 
This was about 6 months ago.
At first she was seeming to want to do better. She went to work with them (they own their own contracting business) , she did chores, etc. 
It got worse. She was stealing their beer, lazing around all day, drunk constantly. 
Has no intention of getting her drivers license so she could get an actual job. And is very disrespectful to my parents.

My issue is, they still will allow her a few beers here and there. Rather than cutting her off and dealing with the monster she is when she’s sober.

So yesterday is when I’ve had enough of her disrespect towards my parents. 

My parents were gone and she’s home alone. She drank and was drunk by 3 pm. Almost all of their beer.

(They are beer drinkers) 

I’m so beyond annoyed by her and annoyed by her actions. 
I’ve told them so many times to cut her off from beer and she can’t smoke pot in their home anymore. 

My mom is at a loss as well. 

We live in a rural area so kicking her out is not really an option. Rehab? 

Literally posting this for any inkling of advice from someone from the outside looking in. I can only type so much but she has done so much damage.",1.887920029347029,4.196374138297877,2.7850379065786264,92.415,80.66666666666667,5.591782831988262,22.312790413303986,6.8039241337230125,0.5284113230618734,2210,71,462,24,58,697,264,564,0.14800000000000002,0.7929999999999999,0.059000000000000004,-0.9957,10,1,11,0,0,0,58.0,2,0,14,7,40,24,5,0,23,0,48,15,1,3,4,67,81,46,0,4,8,14,1,0,0,2,5,1,8,5,9,42,9,0,1,10,2,12,8,13,6,1,31,3,84,11,73,45,15,83,0,5,1,0,103,34,0,8,35,323,93,4,0.0,0.0,0.057120209646243376,0.06381010706210913,0.0,0.11439643181082874,0.05188637716705697,0.0,0.11722560238062175,0.06062300780083536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960951475446285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058049460088286986,0.0,0.0,0.04816804703473001,0.05210718578357016,0.10944176012207456,0.0,0.05499410885301281,0.1350258441656767,0.0,0.035681451578895136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051768085290555065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694668034074187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137121512380396,0.12650774340581622,0.0,0.04673420182215637,0.0,0.0,0.037749236862363686,0.0603454230914152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990004801958451,0.0,0.0,0.06788022598730409,0.0,0.09779438352240397,0.0,0.0,0.060480707178247314,0.13056055244699807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04978852789622469,0.07077888751417227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348788974283425,0.0,0.06653182406395286,0.0,0.327701864092315,0.0,0.0,0.11591464840343345,0.0,0.0,0.0524344795646182,0.0,0.060072212908625126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23485531616419925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109372074741761,0.11617084672953397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061978478495077226,0.0,0.0,0.041343911116093424,0.0,0.0,0.15505834247947226,0.0,0.04915336113526962,0.06548396514949659,0.0,0.04976305123939607,0.0,0.05538577148540322,0.0,0.05934373734314079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059102104695091626,0.06855367640087279,0.046720846254242165,0.18663540159389488,0.1290864756399732,0.043401816057762006,0.0902892197062948,0.0,0.0,0.05492968342825273,0.0,0.05616442982843035,0.0,0.12284203167682566,0.0,0.0,0.044517331017823486,0.0,0.0,0.5199558086637389,0.06338602896279667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211774169287902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037498030842133635,0.0,0.0,0.06284302636669112,0.0,0.04998725172758128,0.0,0.046548153688451034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053286660112735695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048419479792276836,0.0,0.0,0.05966748724921949,0.0495952074445271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0414302815304064,0.06238887612781389,0.09348978737838798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642307238199946,0.0,0.0,0.04400987444353043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038887027357384266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03413132899250094,0.0,0.0,0.05593122574395898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482962314401439,0.034524548984651175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157716399661337,0.05426110026923617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04261305320461463,0.0,0.05965059246615239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538725332696601
parenting,WN_Todd,2020/02/01,"Surprise Twist: The sibling did it No bamboozle.  It was my sibling that did the thing. No I don't know how they accomplished it while not in the house, City, or state but nonetheless it has come to pass: Sibling did it.

That I am holding the implements of doing Thing is strictly circumstantial.  Ignore the remnants of Thing upon my cloths and person for I tell you truthfully beloved parent: It Was My Sibling.",3.5853947368421077,6.383578065789473,3.951842105263157,83.65039473684213,77.55263157894737,6.957894736842108,29.23684210526316,8.07648339933343,2.3484000000000003,327,15,57,6,8,102,52,76,0.098,0.762,0.14,0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,1,1,10,12,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,5,0,8,2,6,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,48,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854438861996526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823537738380787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211099252708565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679445567682556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893374475148693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896299286983041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6604378205979928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arraez1234,2020/02/01,"Abusive parent? I was watching a show and there was a 9 year old girl who was 200 pounds.  I think her parents were committing child abuse for them to let their child eat that much.  Having a child that heavy has so many negative consequences beyond those  associated with health.  

Before people ask no the kid didn't have a disorder, she just ate for comfort (whatever that means).  I think the parents should have gotten the kid some psycho therapy for her eating disorder.",6.383992248062018,7.91059305813954,6.0534883720930255,77.1913178294574,66.09302325581396,9.454263565891472,29.449612403100772,9.725611199111238,2.8106031007751935,377,13,65,8,6,117,65,86,0.159,0.7509999999999999,0.09,-0.8505,3,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,7,0,11,4,0,0,1,9,17,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,5,2,3,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,7,1,8,1,6,8,2,3,0,0,1,0,16,1,0,1,2,45,13,0,0.0,0.3863021474337906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524009293091296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871731705302626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37366821205557466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33361864218200965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17328176747169904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669815860401946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527586379611522,0.0,0.17757568003826613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983785608484672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106120885562826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5430405291703452,0.0,0.0,0.11301697485193507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642664201549108,0.0,0.0,0.20891221895136092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049790084906998
parenting,garrison491,2020/02/01,One time this shit went down One time my child was acting up that little shit wish I used a condom pulling out didn’t work anyway yeah so I beat them and they cried like really get a grip you’re 5 now,-0.00977272727272549,2.0846484772727294,1.2510909090909088,101.76663636363638,86.95454545454545,4.42909090909091,11.072727272727272,5.6839178017228535,-1.5675036363636363,159,1,39,1,5,50,39,44,0.226,0.63,0.145,-0.7165,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,2,2,3,3,2,0,2,1,2,3,2,1,0,4,6,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,2,3,1,5,1,3,3,0,10,0,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,4,20,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935497130509679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962145231665815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305595745409915,0.26784388505567497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621763967889498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120027482570144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5486343977558598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31165865366545786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308088658573735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477334161238212,0.0,0.0,0.307311891800868,0.0,0.0,0.19455332069317685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sabrinid,2020/02/01,"I Snapped Today I can't handle my 9 year old's attitude anymore.
I snapped today.
I told her I'm done and I screamed at her the way she screams at me. 
I can't get through to her, no matter what road I take, and I know that it's only going to get worse.
She has no respect.
She threatened to smash my phone 2 days ago and refuses to even apologize or acknowledge that was wrong.
She treats me like nothing.
I cried through my whole shower.
I made them breakfast. 
And now we are going to a fun winter event.",0.8507289879931363,2.928642820754721,2.417238421955404,94.8956003430532,83.05660377358491,5.363979416809607,23.78730703259005,6.574015621080383,0.5870490566037732,393,15,88,4,11,128,70,106,0.17,0.703,0.127,-0.6722,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,0,2,7,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,1,0,11,15,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,5,1,1,2,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,2,24,4,9,11,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,10,55,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393228662894627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169676348042434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403158604992365,0.14109283058336022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238844551474513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444999040324534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286035241451938,0.0,0.2486716066680625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023391704822638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688321298677264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20701174175814555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992208164330967,0.0,0.2295692761563401,0.0,0.0,0.1663894893086812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449280237097713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147493380455778,0.20905045013187984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365470958460832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442562999230757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229520815933367,0.0,0.2391979061524711,0.0,0.14088498001414246
parenting,four20braiseit3,2020/02/01,"My daughter thinks her stepdad is her dad  Hello I'm (23M) my daughter (5F) So my child thinks her stepfather is her real dad. I'm not sure how to take this. I have her every weekend but I wish I could have her more (court order). 
 Should I be concerned with this? It hurts me to hear her say that all the time. How should i react? She looks to me more of a babysitter than her father  it feels like. 
 So her mother and I split when she was still two years old. (Messy break up) Stepfather has been with the mother since before we split and has been there for my ex and child from what I understand. I'm happy that they are happy together but I want our kid too understand that he's her step parent. How should I talk with my kid about this? Should I wait till shes older and can understand better?",0.19470092915215176,2.531727628048781,1.5581533101045295,97.8010162601626,89.79268292682926,4.587224157955865,15.126596980255515,6.1826913282559595,-0.6638817653890823,617,12,138,6,21,196,98,164,0.034,0.828,0.138,0.9614,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,1,1,10,6,0,0,3,0,18,0,0,4,2,32,33,13,0,7,3,9,1,1,0,4,0,2,0,4,9,8,0,1,6,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,4,33,5,13,24,3,12,0,1,1,0,34,1,0,0,9,95,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599364567949516,0.0,0.0,0.1517399432792611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369848835222299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455533506791315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675107331639252,0.12256982060892999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652794421097907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337214066616315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366950071708432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382055761562424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440757986081366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18003411575231218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19050845823139034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952845055738773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364395488223427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192468344259754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137016222971791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170292981508888,0.0,0.1289994755322176,0.137901667677934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21987057650518999,0.0,0.0,0.1000439922840415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16759920374511622,0.5358320418085866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119657845697523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972973198114522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048561560282558
parenting,weasel999,2020/02/01,"What I wish I had created years ago - the red medical binder As my children have grown they’ve needed increased physical and mental health services. As a single mom I did my best to juggle appointments and keep track of information but inevitably forgot the dates of surgeries, hospitalizations, names of former doctors, medicines they reacted poorly to, etc...

Today I will be buying a large red binder and adding ALL their medical info to it. Doctors names and addresses. Meds. Hospitalizations. So on and so on. This way not only can I grab it and bring it to all appointments, but if grandma needs to take them, she can bring it too and have answers at her fingertips.",7.1080000000000005,8.490045133333332,6.878333333333334,72.46500000000002,64.33333333333334,10.0,33.33333333333333,10.125756701596842,3.547833333333333,536,22,88,12,8,169,82,120,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.6705,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,3,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,8,5,0,1,2,24,16,14,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,1,5,0,1,1,6,7,0,2,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,3,12,1,13,11,6,13,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,1,5,62,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274031042260003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21634262264433998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4220083076133561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299127168417785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191287378776507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832363679227093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22898714644022145,0.41535063261503774,0.2077515927130104,0.0,0.0,0.24144141083065965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057165203021971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678702837915118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549998006524257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19540692295097226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363296740039165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370633300163717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275440324655793
parenting,quick-simple,2020/02/01,"My [51F] son [22M] doesn't want me or his Dad [54M] to drive him to his driving lessons or teach him how to drive? My son is 22 years old and still doesn't have a driver's license. He was never adamant on getting his license as a teenager because he tells us that he had driving anxiety. His father attempted to teach him how to drive when he was 18, but he still wasn't ready. And he stated that he didn't like driving with him because he felt like he was impatient and not a good teacher.

He has recently been working at his first job for the past 6 months. He just started working full-time this month. He started out part-time. He is taking a break from school to get some work experience and to work on his General Anxiety which he is currently in therapy for.

He decided that he finally wants to work on getting his driver's license. He was going to a driving school in our area when he was working part-time. He had 15 45 minute lessons that he paid for. He went on his off days. He would take Uber because no one was available to take him because we were at work.

Now that he's working Monday-Friday, the driving school doesn't offer weekend lessons. There are no schools in our area that does lessons on the weekends. He found a school downtown that offers weekend lessons and they have perfect reviews. Downtown is kind of a distance from where we live.

He stated that he wants more lessons and he's not yet ready to take his road test. He wants to start going to this new driving school downtown every weekend. However, he insists that he wants to go on his own.

I ask him, ""How are you going to get there?"" He says, ""I'll take Uber."" I was like, ""Why are you going to spend $15.00 there and back for one hour just to go to driving school? Why don't you just have your Dad take you for free? Why are you going to go to a new driving school, why don't you just book your road test?""

He says, ""This is something I want to do on my own. I want to go to this new driving school. I'm not ready for my road test yet. I plan to go every weekend until I feel ready for my test. The lessons are $50.00 for one hour. I don't mind paying for Uber there and back. I am working full-time hours and I am budgeting.""

I say, ""Don't waste all your money. Be smart about this.""

I also tell him, ""Why don't you have your Dad teach you how to drive?"" He tells me, ""I don't want to drive with him.""

I just think my son is being stupid. Why is he going to spend all this money to get to downtown and back on Uber when someone can take him for free and all this money on driving lessons when his Dad or me can teach him.

Don't you guys think my son is being very naive? How can I convince him that he doesn't need to do this.

**tl;dr: My son doesn't want anyone to take him to this new driving school or teach him how to drive. I am getting irritated with him because I feel like he is wasting his money. I don't want him to spend all this money on Uber and the driving lessons. I am trying to tell him that one of us can take you for free and teach you how to drive. But he says he wants to be independent and do this on his own. What do you guys think about this?**",2.1948696397941667,3.5430609969697007,3.1226643796455096,94.8544682675815,76.15151515151516,5.890222984562608,23.967981703830773,6.16825346331588,0.3509919954259586,2438,76,563,15,53,775,196,660,0.092,0.866,0.040999999999999995,-0.9738,3,0,1,0,0,0,93.0,6,16,1,22,32,13,1,0,13,0,62,0,0,8,6,81,114,34,0,13,14,10,3,4,0,1,0,4,0,2,25,20,0,0,17,6,14,31,21,1,0,5,17,7,81,15,77,92,9,97,0,0,0,0,113,24,0,5,43,328,106,33,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03812063154379479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293282972414382,0.0,0.0,0.033331054103327484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044563787278860234,0.0,0.0,0.10996283301430672,0.0,0.1452919448836705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03074235939914078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04171518897794197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032584898204065,0.0,0.0,0.046629122511145316,0.0,0.0,0.0482054405738031,0.03405451931387806,0.04576941469475949,0.05221871626932675,0.0,0.04054696056825255,0.0,0.05226625454979732,0.0,0.0,0.1494295281367159,0.0,0.29800334504020604,0.0399822327910523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943989886162764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408321628657913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04730381616565227,0.0,0.0,0.04963960175856813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315404996238814,0.0,0.042092323700205214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048131784767115535,0.0,0.07609738190029085,0.0,0.0,0.03534572719146548,0.036765029875958886,0.1841548586870929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05002026797122841,0.0,0.1292061431736775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324108486555654,0.045505155293835815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706707733788658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163221182715048,0.0,0.4824325586534465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04038952356291756,0.03669768391456007,0.0,0.0,0.1012204254188666,0.0,0.07613654957356655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225682797160581,0.0,0.16665813308544353,0.0,0.05451329762588848,0.0,0.0,0.09163250900936674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032363909224736066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467912165520575,0.0,0.0,0.039331658808639,0.3092784912537759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04418935015697753,0.2580814522224226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123303449388059,0.0,0.0,0.03386246736092699,0.0,0.0,0.03069707136520037
parenting,czarinacat,2020/02/01,"My 18 year old daughter informed us that she signed a lease for an apartment yesterday. My daughter has been strong willed since she was a baby. As she became a teenager she yearned for her independence and really wanted a job which she got when she turned 16. After having a job and a car it really felt like she was living a life separate from us. She ate out all the time with friends and such. She would even buy her own groceries. If she was low on cash she would ask to be paid back for groceries and I would transfer $ to her account but for the most part she was paying her own expenses. She graduated from HS early and is adamant that she does not want to attend college, at least right now. I am fine with her taking a year off from school but I know she needs an education and a real career. She has a full time job and makes about $15/hour with tips. She has a small car payment. We pay for her cell phone and do this so that she will leave her location app on for safety. We also pay her car insurance. I don’t think she could afford to move out if we didn’t do these things but I cannot bring myself to cut her off. She is my only child. I feel like if she’s going to do this I need to support her and help her get her new apartment set up with furniture and such. We have offered other opportunities for her. She loves nature and animals so we offered to send her on a gap year trip with an organization that specializes in these things but she has refused. A part of me feels like I’m allowing this to happen by supporting her so I feel like I’m making a big mistake but the other part of me rationalizes that I really have no control. So my only choice is to support her or cut her off. I love her so much and I cannot cut her off so I have to support her for the sake of our relationship. It is torture. The stress is literally making me ill.",2.404073834196893,3.970982655440416,3.910229922279793,88.5128060233161,76.07253886010362,7.001165803108808,22.943329015544037,7.756953410329674,0.9034044041450776,1459,42,319,21,32,484,189,386,0.09,0.7759999999999999,0.134,0.9722,4,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,0,3,14,23,4,1,22,0,33,5,0,6,1,62,64,30,0,13,10,2,4,4,1,5,2,0,0,1,17,24,1,2,7,0,8,9,6,8,0,0,10,4,71,15,46,47,10,42,0,2,0,2,67,19,0,5,17,235,88,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634969592193701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925433472847871,0.0,0.0,0.07341281718371462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708104890607388,0.07622739415101347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354903538607422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630589932073208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144821999815162,0.20461771663425285,0.09166901892628136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376217622260757,0.0,0.049880683910363634,0.0,0.05425948640150341,0.0,0.07635845203673869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442642798231119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399351621130049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402163933615933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28422655926192186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052469444939775664,0.0,0.0,0.10109208513077744,0.0,0.0,0.06743537891978714,0.1865730734380498,0.0,0.08430437757743645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723361575399929,0.0,0.1911868372550904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147265289754537,0.07018361481539483,0.1415839881932601,0.0,0.09220838489489502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018281688616856,0.0,0.0,0.1452229846980274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101637532059417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866913629597699,0.1834872790446403,0.0,0.0,0.10250223505957518,0.0,0.0815333907801499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662373802416292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897622355375487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936395927471984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333663588351703,0.0,0.0,0.07178378820954083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268559918071497,0.061175221186912376,0.0,0.0,0.11134210777408912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038471705826203,0.0,0.0,0.2296844441548876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262485720217433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034637660608856,0.0,0.0,0.1844443785041557
parenting,jtesagain625,2020/02/01,"What’s the best way to help my child with a science fair project ? So. She’s 8, and in 3rd grade. Are there any good websites/YouTube channels with good resources? I’m not looking for topics, but more of a way to explain things to her, without having my (or my wife’s) input in it. We want this to be her thing. Of course we will
help her. I just don’t wanna be the parents who obviously “helped” their kid; aka the fully functional volcano with insane detail...that was done by a 6 year old.",2.6709,4.11684889,3.5630000000000024,91.78150000000002,75.1,5.8000000000000025,25.5,5.985473137389443,0.6067,379,13,82,2,8,121,77,100,0.036000000000000004,0.809,0.155,0.8321,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,12,4,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,11,3,15,7,2,6,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,1,2,55,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581681124484135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24408721427986885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380187232656356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901682904884489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4676973781968815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953157075568024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440624382597749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582619334717202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090428441784961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371866858597815,0.3692357491918861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22420695260883605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977932723460238
parenting,DemonMouse,2020/02/01,"I love the silly things my kid says when he wakes up This morning: “Mom, have you ever sharpened candy corn?”",2.66,4.900763809523814,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,77.57142857142857,4.2,20.02380952380953,3.1291,-0.3755904761904767,84,2,16,0,2,26,21,21,0.0,0.773,0.22699999999999998,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,10,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4479182640179069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.446918888428452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5799483190623129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937866633032635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289752983832397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,metaldog69,2020/02/01,Early riser Well our little one has turned seven and pretty much the last couple years she’s been getting up a little early and playing with her iPad watching cartoons now this happens a little bit more often nowadays because she is a seven like I said and she doesn’t get up too early but it’s it’s it’s early enough it’s at 5 AM today and usually it’s at 5:30 but it’s the weekend so I get it she’s excited we put her to bed roughly between 630 and eight most of the times it’s 7:45 or roughly.  I know we may be putting her to bed too early but trust me on this I don’t want to start putting her to bed too late and she’s basically playing around before she goes to bed stalling and what not any advice to what we could do? Thank you!! Two sleepyhead parents.,-0.3757241931181632,1.8843632760736213,1.7248332888770364,95.31903974393171,94.15337423312886,3.5709789277140573,19.356895172045878,5.192301501255418,-0.3304289677247265,606,20,129,3,23,201,95,163,0.013999999999999999,0.85,0.136,0.9442,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,1,0,0,8,7,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,23,20,12,0,2,5,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,4,0,12,12,0,0,1,3,0,3,3,0,1,5,2,4,20,7,15,15,5,26,0,0,1,0,17,9,0,4,15,91,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908930316358535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375259867861124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581934148321187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300504688047664,0.0,0.12982554092357218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656655038115614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181445650496425,0.16881542368290153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15764524024589716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23913404629572035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491684392288786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384829351235194,0.12436463375432324,0.17210521869875814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453782787816395,0.4587446337663367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215625287352694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338514819881142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941054883102866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155218191073677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4601239362853696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512868202180534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798958858181368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046564189693128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896459399981661,0.0,0.14461819544875368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595197546749685,0.14903838576876982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803392243975354,0.0,0.08998953671335534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717844463081416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824985699309303
parenting,Leighgion,2020/02/01,"“It’s good to get back to this.” My five-year-old daughter just tossed that out casually over her Playdoh, but she wasn’t talking about the Playdoh. She was pointing at the computer where the video for “Bette Davis Eyes,” was playing. 

“You remember this?”

“Yeah. You used to play it when I was a little baby.”

I’m so proud of my little girl.",1.7036247334754788,4.013078850746272,2.7607675906183395,92.31701492537312,81.38805970149255,5.619616204690832,23.004264392324096,6.868970318607317,0.6496712153518129,261,9,55,3,7,83,52,67,0.0,0.757,0.243,0.9463,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,4,1,4,1,1,1,0,5,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,8,5,9,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,0,2,36,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353959383210319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994087740552673,0.0,0.0,0.25676826285828364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6136476203721395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32123311826528256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28939286288692306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467868872549523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460566017560288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643990010537832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971384072137961
parenting,VerityPushpram,2020/02/01,"Managing unrealistic expectations Our oldest is 18 at the end of March and finished school last year. She has high functioning autism and anxiety and needs a lot of prompting to do basic self care (showering, changing clothes)

We’ve been asking her about what her plans are now she’s left school. She has a part time job at a fast food place but seems to just want to hide in her room when she’s at home. 

She told us tonight that she wants to do a course that is only offered in Sydney (we live about 8 hours north) and it’s something to do with animation. 

There are a number of problems with this. Sydney is horrendously expensive to live in and we simply cannot afford to house her there. The fees are $50k and that’s a massive debt to rack for a course where employment opportunities are scarce. Her anxiety may also impact her studies significantly. Finally, she just doesn’t have the maturity to cope on her own at this time - she needs too much reminding to do even basic activities like washing her work uniform 

We would like to see her get a lower level qualification in something like Hospitality where she gets skills that get her a job. She can do a course like this in our home town while continuing to work and live at home. 

But she tears up and starts crying whenever we talk about it. It’s this course or nothing and we’re afraid she’s just going to stagnate in her room
We don’t want to crush her dreams but she needs to be realistic about her options. Any suggestions or advice from parents in similar situations?",4.86495223420647,6.448880803389836,5.439545454545456,79.94680662557784,69.77966101694915,8.75346687211094,27.646379044684128,9.218907990703514,2.2152372881355924,1227,42,238,25,22,395,159,295,0.08900000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.086,-0.2263,8,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,8,0,0,5,16,8,0,1,13,0,23,2,0,0,0,37,39,17,0,9,8,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,6,1,12,16,1,0,1,1,3,1,3,2,0,0,2,1,34,6,40,34,4,42,0,0,1,0,41,24,0,6,21,153,46,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076069149291326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906429943028448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707937008210873,0.0,0.17341921687685213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596348887321733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556410589321735,0.0,0.1199053550842678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450558704163307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003911778874162,0.0,0.0,0.07486416144837603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241653301536901,0.0,0.0,0.13705879458080714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776562889837264,0.0,0.06441731374798619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197565879624118,0.34108673855513266,0.0,0.11162327257210382,0.13078641079897346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22495742413291636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239236175634748,0.0,0.0,0.12315108543344312,0.0,0.0,0.2215011052565348,0.0,0.30026057566501096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636297004765558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332257150531806,0.2521345333509377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087588307892185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862049679155517,0.0,0.0,0.12585765133082824,0.12274299622419885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842275785111195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845710032327197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22942501157302755,0.09032232525183287,0.10318621355593288,0.11824490969248942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740598902025646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451903702978033,0.0,0.0,0.08022709377233399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110346159785043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218627682489198,0.0,0.0,0.10830724597584364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363416416502171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005637514294713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650349111368223,0.0,0.0,0.08051795869516239,0.0,0.0,0.07299130030606231
parenting,shelleyboodles,2020/02/01,"What are your tricks for making stories special and funny? For example, when I read ""Five Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed"", the doctor's frustration escalates and that makes my kids laugh. The first time the doctor comes, he says calmly and professionally, ""No more monkeys bouncing on the bed."" The second time he comes, he says it in a more scolding tone and wags his finger. By the last time he comes, he is totally exasperated and yells, "" NO. MORE. MONKEYS. JUMPING. ON. THE BED!!!!!""  The kids roll on the floor laughing by the end.",2.76269759450172,5.694977494845362,3.4985824742268044,84.37680841924403,83.32989690721652,5.707560137457046,24.578178694158076,7.1686216300943375,1.3518941580756016,415,16,73,6,12,131,59,97,0.114,0.745,0.141,0.6177,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,0,1,1,6,2,0,12,0,2,3,1,2,1,11,7,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,2,3,8,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,3,0,4,4,4,9,7,4,19,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,7,45,7,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5457955811622321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4323484842601321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187062323501176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796483513148337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215785517812876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21167993354043946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819580096734526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112591989558704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359126859227268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694608320897105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,billionsandbillionsa,2020/02/01,"Parenting hacks that might develop bad habits. I have a 3 year old and I’ve come up with different “parenting hacks” that I use when she’s being difficult or throwing a fit but I often wonder if I’m setting her up for failure in the future. 

For example when we’re on a long flight or train ride I use chocolate to bribe her when she starts to get difficult. I know when she’s about have a meltdown. She screams and cries out of frustration and I think of all the people around me and the easiest way to temporarily stop the meltdown is to give her junk food snacks. 

I also use chocolate to bribe her to wash her hands and pee In the toilet But I feel bad that I’m using sweets to “train “ her. 

I also try to limit screen time but sometimes as a parent I need some time to myself so I stick a screen in front of her. 

I always wonder if my parenting hacks are setting her up for bad habits in the future. She’s not overweight but I was always overweight growing up and used food as an emotional crutch. I’m worried about the long term effects of these “ hacks”",3.1858549931600564,4.695437046511628,4.160957592339262,87.75637482900137,73.88372093023256,7.291381668946649,25.205198358413128,7.928766900206844,1.317169630642955,835,27,173,12,17,270,111,215,0.183,0.733,0.084,-0.9741,5,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,11,8,1,0,14,0,7,8,2,6,1,37,25,23,0,3,9,4,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,10,5,2,6,0,0,5,1,7,0,0,1,6,29,1,32,22,3,35,0,0,2,0,18,12,0,9,15,111,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853421609387535,0.18576320743073685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937062372055767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796086289966385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615573849270936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261569442156045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662519758551018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255639951151202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644135600440198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269956709147327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058319870777667523,0.10708163415427324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061346617744106026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757063208608475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841732856907962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827691126935627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171324945231988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4957889419383512,0.0,0.0,0.07738727135411112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040076566107516,0.0,0.07900931233735704,0.0,0.0,0.093324163012172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152530227587149,0.0,0.0,0.13017979763803667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578658759277743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820442348863904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860336043179641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421068263909231,0.0,0.11336141341322542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188335227693649
parenting,madhatter68_,2020/02/01,"Testing son Can anyone help we have a 9yr old son who is constantly misbehaving at home he will lie to you about literally everything even if you see him do it he hits his siblings hides there things and makes out he hasn't done anything wrong hes making our home very stressful and don't know what to do now. He has things taken away as a punishment time outs we have spoken calm to him to try and find out what is wrong, reward charts you name it we have tried it but we get nowhere with him. At school and if he goes to friends houses he's absolutely perfect no issues at all just seems to be at home doctors and health visitors aren't interested in helping us with him either. Please don't say it's a phase as he's been like this since he was about 3yrs old we keep saying he will grow out of it but we can't put up with it anymore.",3.699640151515151,4.398363926136367,4.410681818181818,89.5631060606061,71.67045454545455,7.684848484848485,24.89393939393939,7.793537801064563,0.97777803030303,665,18,151,8,12,213,109,176,0.085,0.782,0.133,0.8809999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,8,3,0,2,6,10,1,1,3,0,21,2,0,2,2,33,30,11,0,2,6,2,0,1,1,2,2,2,3,0,12,18,0,1,3,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,4,3,17,6,25,22,2,18,0,0,1,0,35,11,0,3,6,93,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385267473743724,0.09766871677273498,0.0,0.11494616613054935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123558793783174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509463325328628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297017444601007,0.0,0.14294291121918726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225846850192623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553693655743745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766657510950036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791776185346597,0.0,0.07297794131074972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847515233849493,0.0,0.0,0.1872514450174367,0.0,0.4203365070363195,0.0,0.0,0.16117396799398495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579144073461642,0.0,0.12415554392718273,0.0,0.0,0.07676542848336915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824144005320705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864772853243494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29314496746687035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332859923308048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140418723883341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22216104394206426,0.0,0.14136537292520074,0.1113082580242769,0.1271610053329406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554617450329492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600049553411094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855966758927229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144954288471995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966945803335347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801992847220132,0.0,0.0,0.11525205991007978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054400989157499,0.0,0.0
parenting,KCJohnW72,2020/02/01,"Daughter (20yrs) won’t stop getting high. Ok, I need some advice in the worst way. My daughter lives with me and I’m a single parent. She’s been smoking Marijuana for a couple years. In December she quit for about a month because she didn’t want to do it anymore because she was wanting to join the Navy this year sometime. She was doing so well and was proud of herself and then all of a sudden she started smoking again. She comes home high and it scares the hell out of me she’s going to get stopped or have a wreck and that’s going to be the end of it. She came home tonight and was slurring her speech and stumbling all over the house. She told me she smoked earlier. She never tells me that. I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do. I care so much for her but I don’t have any answers. I tell her so many times she has to quit to have any chance of a career or life but she doesn’t listen to me. I need help.",0.789629430719657,2.630501561224495,2.2198925886143956,97.52059613319014,81.85714285714286,4.7385606874328685,20.51987110633727,5.399115186594226,-0.3167306122448981,710,20,167,3,19,229,108,196,0.073,0.84,0.087,0.406,1,0,1,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,4,6,8,1,1,12,1,18,1,0,0,3,27,35,15,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,7,11,0,2,2,0,0,4,6,4,1,0,8,2,30,4,23,25,6,25,1,1,0,0,26,7,1,3,13,114,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897465107122142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19342744104547213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104292123347187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17339062781579634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266051997349965,0.14500163439206368,0.0,0.0,0.12250897882410178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736249418262724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596372169114942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486069978999193,0.0,0.16165254261968148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953263225731888,0.30052412640672405,0.2853142803449869,0.0,0.0,0.16410150172101176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815978132925253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045340628770877,0.0,0.0,0.125581883401173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441876299806847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135177593069098,0.0,0.10454724636717687,0.21090700634646348,0.10968797370292964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157917244309227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025345862546828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423859168633517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406581164530578,0.0,0.10066326070365544,0.0,0.0,0.23780271649834125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486111527847453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292897710610013,0.0,0.0,0.13589624184443524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776876944789484,0.11288673330407857,0.0,0.0,0.12787185983519084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316860168607346
parenting,natph89,2020/02/01,"When do children become friends? To all the parents who dislike the baby, toddler stage. 
When does this get fun? What ages do kids start to be a good companion? I’m not child person. I love older kids, and my niece (8yr) and I have such fun playing games and going out, I can’t wait to do this with my own daughter.  I dream of afternoon teas, shopping, theatre trips, weekends away, sight seeing, chatting and sharing.  Instead of endless games of tea parties, dollies and peppa pig. God how I hate peppa pig. When will I see the light at the end of the tunnel?",1.99722222222222,4.54001057407408,2.7792592592592613,91.1666666666667,82.14814814814815,4.340740740740742,25.66666666666667,5.46131890053228,0.6670222222222231,434,18,82,2,12,136,78,108,0.079,0.705,0.215,0.9273,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,6,8,1,0,6,0,7,3,0,1,1,11,16,9,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,4,7,2,1,0,7,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,4,8,7,11,14,2,15,0,0,3,1,15,3,0,0,9,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26708095885651484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139538061143741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487665332928555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517787841060484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196262444233228,0.0,0.14851930674385885,0.0,0.16155715344862792,0.23843213199866725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806577054203291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565647124118752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156481185832463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482135399580578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4530526627556997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120772111084215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bobsleading,2020/02/01,"Hanging by a thin thread, child w ADHD, ODD, Bipolar, LD, im sure my post will help others, they will read about our tragic situation and feel better about themselves and their lives. My 14 year old son John has very severe ADHD, 2nd percentile on a good day on meds. He also has chrones disease, ODD, cancer, LEarning disabilities  And bipolar...Every day is a struggle To say the least. There are a lot of behaviour issues, aggression toward other children, and toward myself and my other child, as well as self injurious behaviours and suicide threats. Even on medications it is nearly impossible to stabilize him. I need help with ideas of what to do. I am beyond exhausted.  I have tried to get help for years from our doctor, and our psychiatrist but to no avail, John seems to be getting worse not better.  
Maybe I need to send my child to boarding school for his sake as well as mine and my other son Calvin who is 13, he is dieing under the stress of having to put up with John all day, year after year. but since I am a single parent and no longer working because of the stress caused by John I can not afford to send my child to boarding school. I don’t even know if a boarding school would take hI’m with all of his physical and mental health issues. Does anyone have any ideas.  my son John has ruined my life and ruined my other son Calvins life. Calvin is a very bright sweet boy who is so stressed from John’s constant behavioural issues. Calvin deserves so much better, but He rarely gets my time or attention because I am always managing a crisis with John and doing damage control.

Any advice would be great.",6.2951657552973375,6.867022340909095,6.133403964456598,79.96183526999317,65.85064935064935,8.302392344497608,28.87286397812713,8.032893268588372,1.8728999999999991,1283,39,234,14,19,402,173,308,0.171,0.723,0.106,-0.9703,2,0,0,0,1,1,37.0,3,0,2,5,11,21,2,4,11,0,26,8,0,2,3,40,35,24,2,5,7,5,2,0,0,4,8,1,0,7,9,16,0,1,7,1,0,4,5,11,2,0,0,5,28,10,42,29,6,26,0,4,1,0,31,10,0,4,11,151,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185353679312139,0.08884557526325942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270836669465773,0.07565238585497744,0.0,0.0,0.1236568837476566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357309430406577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084748157171068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412329779055993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339946827696513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825178163540073,0.10197405603123548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590685015412855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436018450639896,0.0,0.0,0.09306005733518777,0.0795643496477923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010306907316601,0.0,0.07660367950798802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045971678694396334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425052063249797,0.0,0.0,0.0762590420282846,0.0,0.10023917366432307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966432771241308,0.0,0.0,0.1828244626224458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527431033447568,0.09820876369944533,0.2846893043177999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04996703126161677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843839649882086,0.0,0.0,0.08028366747042859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729658773851171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134095287491582,0.0,0.10099117288597008,0.09159192600723724,0.09162556651402493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668363631359028,0.1348314542362158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540481987133093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095544983560896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707583881981219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913993044084328,0.0,0.0,0.09094419841005104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230291061406281,0.0,0.2760464501202093,0.0,0.08276978392827172,0.09484896565722102,0.10271326229895507,0.0,0.0752096279227721,0.10219743334857606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31244426417582805,0.09504890069824196,0.0,0.09945127929132118,0.0,0.0856906416165009,0.0,0.06836021981289021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301594657869848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061728436394904475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003637429680475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349526851797205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661905474805113,0.0,0.09265483404610682,0.12917334232700728,0.0,0.0,0.2341969511925755
parenting,Machiavelli999,2020/02/01,"Kids spending time with Grandparents? Reading through this sub, I can see that in-law issues often trigger the most responses. So I am not going to get into the details of my own situation. Instead, I am just curious, how often do your kids spent alone time  with their grandparents. Meaning how often do they sleepover/spend the weekend/go on vacation with grandparents.

Please skip this if the grandparents are out of the picture because they don't live nearby or are too old.",6.767364341085273,8.389185581395349,6.465116279069767,74.2401550387597,65.27906976744185,9.454263565891472,36.42635658914729,9.725611199111238,3.8675798449612406,384,19,61,8,6,120,63,86,0.024,0.92,0.055999999999999994,0.3818,4,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,0,17,13,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,10,12,2,7,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,6,3,48,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29142835799409783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152871857902166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701122109511314,0.0,0.3198333593907034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936911804122745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484667113545208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306509030205812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29526456112049715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088744927193237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814595621711175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22422615157696293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31628674888758124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281538651833053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ccpandas,2020/02/01,"Real teens. Real talk. Real sh*t. Ever wonder what’s really going on inside your teenager’s head? I’m a high school senior and started a podcast where I talk to other teens about their struggles. 

It’s called “Mind in Pieces” and you can search for it anywhere you listen to podcasts.",1.6572222222222237,4.4241605555555585,2.7758333333333347,87.18375000000002,91.59259259259258,3.4407407407407407,17.86111111111111,5.148860815047168,-0.18751111111111074,226,6,37,1,8,72,42,54,0.052000000000000005,0.948,0.0,-0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,8,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,6,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,3,23,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092126600896158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853321325438297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164420734890124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21027329788613452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21647449427753374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20687758723241853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6996192035949528,0.13125593727344326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735670663261047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450201600364009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214192506470431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293610165733418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22219134473162588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,9884808598848085,2020/02/01,"My 6yo son stripped paint off of his bedroom wall and I don’t know how to discipline him. My 6yo son has a mid-day nap on weekends because he is generally better behaved in the afternoons. Today he decided to stay awake and pick at the paint on of his bedroom wall, leaving an area of about 0.5m^2 stripped of paint.

I’ve expressed how disappointed I am in him and explained that, not only does his mother pay the rent, but now she will have to pay more money to have the damage fixed. 

I feel as though there needs to be some more discipline as he’s struggling to understand why this is so bad. I have no idea what though.",6.037131428571428,5.685401856000003,6.100685714285718,83.12920000000003,66.44,9.382857142857144,32.25714285714286,8.841846274778883,2.367514285714285,492,18,103,7,7,156,84,125,0.16899999999999998,0.8170000000000001,0.015,-0.9654,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,1,6,0,10,0,0,3,0,19,15,11,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,2,6,2,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,12,1,19,13,3,14,0,2,0,0,14,9,0,1,4,66,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873456006683516,0.15239403103656327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210993905062588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122545803075655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21877144699558207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640448534186088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822128132869084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373901726032735,0.0,0.0,0.26470756534368084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536739428117732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013171338600632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664603569710706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26134802374609445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4912357004236523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369650949586855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26025258587663025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22558071423846665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Surfer949,2020/02/01,Any experience ordering a Uber and using your own child car seats? I'm flying out and need to order a Uber  and I'm not sure if they allow you to bring your own car seats (bringing 2).  I searched their web site and couldn't find anything about child seat.  I presume if you order a larger car (Comfort) it should be ok?,1.1833186813186811,3.4467665846153857,2.554505494505495,93.28692307692309,83.15384615384616,4.945054945054945,20.05494505494506,6.1826913282559595,0.003417582417582832,248,7,53,2,7,80,45,65,0.032,0.894,0.07400000000000001,0.3607,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,2,1,16,9,6,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,4,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,0,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006563423349992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638265823764558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43247759403519137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040891077049325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278259214836287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166922875613006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818491955630016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Squirto22,2020/02/01,"Bullying issue. My son (11, 6th grade) has been experiencing being bullied by 2 girls and another boy. One girl is mainly the one who acts while the other two just kind of instigate. This past week, they have been waiting by his locker and try to either shove him in it or every time he tried to open it to get his things to come home they slam it shut on him. She tries and has succeeded once in taking his backpack which contains his school issued laptop and cell phone and jumping on it. Luckily the one time she did it nothing was damaged. I emailed the principal and school board the situation and he responded with a short 2 sentence response of, ""they have been dealt with."" But today being the next day they were there waiting at his locker AGAIN! My son is a great kid. He treats everyone the same, he doesn't make fun of anyone, he likes school, gets good grades, in advanced classes. He is also terrified to get in trouble so he is timid about sticking up for himself, even though we've told him if they beat up on you and you've told them to stop than fight back. It looks like I will have to go talk to the principal or whoever myself since at this point I'm just livid! How do I tell my son to fight back against a girl?",5.365197278911566,5.64314056734694,5.469795918367346,84.93829931972789,67.81632653061224,8.655782312925169,28.578231292517003,8.447377352677275,1.7880965986394552,969,30,201,13,15,305,153,245,0.125,0.7859999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.892,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,0,1,6,3,12,13,2,1,11,0,20,0,0,2,0,26,33,17,0,1,7,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,5,12,12,0,4,0,0,0,5,1,5,0,4,8,2,25,8,31,22,3,32,0,1,1,0,44,15,0,3,14,130,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583940500147962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877941051818746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925414609229512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035363414715124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400689875821908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535412178071182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741523119986061,0.0,0.1115096959074616,0.12646509043084891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074405867262749,0.0,0.07521695649309011,0.11100801738748872,0.0,0.1459151811651335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275678479153935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762758304081577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378210617681244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931802048151214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113978244296648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834394974706322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075460647015495,0.0,0.0,0.12699238399967794,0.0,0.0,0.14094730902204974,0.2690492148653298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634204538994562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511253375927225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018326000388657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948041651324483,0.1487657614936688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064964578303284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950993702212084,0.10637707021102916,0.11567881308679415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792675944295149,0.0,0.1300321683347149,0.0,0.15434747049246975,0.0,0.1254513264835826,0.25293018086169783,0.0,0.2695687419500956,0.0,0.12928569004506413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616234201962003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deird,2020/02/01,"What age do friends start sleeping over? I can’t judge this by my kids, because they’ve been used to having sleepovers with some of our friends since they were teeny. But I want to know what age other parents would be comfortable for their kids to spend the night at a friend’s house, so I know when it’s appropriate to offer.",8.315794871794871,6.44349247692308,7.020000000000002,83.32333333333334,62.69230769230769,9.8974358974359,33.97435897435898,7.793537801064563,2.1724358974358973,261,8,55,2,3,78,53,65,0.0,0.831,0.16899999999999998,0.8689,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,1,0,8,12,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,10,8,1,7,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,5,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187080325173125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6154669549228008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063976667368125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29186783034632185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491914309941844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948508982941196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21965754587301212,0.0,0.2657319075530717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187950676150152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293414211588883,0.0,0.0,0.15662245308861605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863209506168696,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skimommak,2020/02/01,"Do we go for 3? We just had baby #2 August 2019. Our turned 3 in November, so we now have a 3 year old and a 6 month old. Part of me (a very very small distant part right now) says that we should have another. The other part of me says that we have a full house (3 bedroom which are all occupied obviously), we are financially comfortable, and overall content with the family dynamic we have. 

There have to be more people out there who have felt this same dilemma. The reason I’m asking is because if we decide to have a third I want to get working on it ASAP because I’d like to minimize/cluster my lack of sleeping years😂 

Please let me know if you had this dilemma, what you did, and if you are happy with the outcome. TIA",4.613012677106639,4.589737892617451,5.913646532438481,82.15191648023865,69.40268456375838,9.038329604772557,29.978374347501866,8.841846274778883,2.1912096942580157,562,20,119,9,9,190,96,149,0.037000000000000005,0.833,0.129,0.9329,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,9,3,0,1,6,4,0,0,9,0,18,1,1,1,2,28,26,7,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,9,14,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,17,4,13,19,8,14,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,3,8,87,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074477822086373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522270346838758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985231802197935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350462250445296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634538049024732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507361152573338,0.0,0.0925418439731586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333893915291812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18788761775007104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948885271498655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665079503556029,0.0,0.07955206267497156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997188413767144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417320444380191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5289973709467,0.0,0.11288801865345065,0.0,0.0,0.17874192465084682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16741962034152938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905863893267773,0.0,0.2589829475731533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295076787649088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771157320951817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687088398555963,0.09604322353495497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854448833661085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485922388424256
parenting,LadyJamsley,2020/02/01,"For those with kiddos 2 years or less apart... ...do they share a room? If so, how does it go? Right now, my 2yo has her own room and my 8mo co-sleeps with us. I want to start transitioning him into his crib once he starts sleeping through the night and I’m not sure how well sharing their room will go. We may possibly be able to rearrange some things to give him his own room, but I’m curious what other’s experiences have been.",1.8395454545454548,3.692517500000005,2.779545454545456,94.7268181818182,78.54545454545455,6.672727272727273,20.090909090909093,7.645422480735847,0.3443136363636369,332,8,78,5,8,105,72,88,0.034,0.8740000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.6214,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,2,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,2,1,17,15,8,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,12,4,8,11,4,14,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,4,5,49,17,0,0.2275832086019753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915959950376744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226200478066243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831855129768105,0.25868156421120586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135714243635988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24236868964867994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565658726932807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943548166525614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4554951329469283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221691328256487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144944807707195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511961712437448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273754578366786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423447291105814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462463617776666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655612473108084
parenting,teachmehowtoduchess,2020/02/01,"Saying Goodbye To Knock-Knock Jokes I have a 13 year old son. He's smart and sometimes he's a smart ass. I have watched him really come into his own this past year. Tonight, we were driving home and he says this:

Him- ""Hey, Mom. I know how to get an elephant into a subway.""

Me- ""Hmm, okay, how?""

Him- ""Take the S out of sub and the F out of way.""

Me- *furrowed brow thinking*🧐🤔🧐🤔 ""But there is no F in way.""

Him- *hysterically laughing* 

Me- ""What?"" *repeats* ""There is no F in way, son!""

And then it hits me. 'There's no *effin* way'

I laughed and laughed and laughed. 

He got me. And then it hit me...The chicken has long since crossed the road. The orange and banana schtick are lame. He won't be knock-knockin'. He's too old for that now. It will now be all about getting Mom to say dirty words.

I love this age. And I love being this funny guy's Mom.",-2.3660776242281685,-1.2232132458100526,-0.30485004410467376,105.63817333137315,117.2122905027933,2.3311379006174646,15.32505145545428,4.4396938790447145,-1.3808636871508375,635,19,158,2,38,204,106,179,0.086,0.748,0.165,0.9377,1,0,1,0,1,0,57.0,1,0,0,0,9,11,0,0,8,1,12,3,1,2,1,21,22,14,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,9,15,0,0,1,1,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,4,17,10,13,13,2,27,0,1,1,3,24,7,1,0,13,84,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262776709801387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317853243308804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724453941799118,0.0,0.0,0.14515101586393991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704564173646995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056417778770349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297309950762652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646134498132739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5150670380931637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076512922960887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994047213357005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391181088156286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497320772239518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126399512495638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498512289166893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022037458612817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654376814833308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880334029080625
parenting,lillian_42,2020/02/01,Parenting while depressed Any parents who’ve struggled with depression have any tips on how to manage it and not let it negatively affect my parenting ? I feel like I’m a terrible parent when I’m depressed. My son needs ALL of me. I haven’t had a medication that helps consistently.,5.545754716981128,7.371587679245284,6.720896226415096,70.47681603773587,68.43396226415095,10.58301886792453,34.00471698113208,10.686352973137794,4.181720754716982,229,11,39,7,4,77,42,53,0.268,0.645,0.087,-0.8934,4,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,1,2,0,4,1,0,2,1,8,8,4,0,1,1,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,1,5,1,4,6,1,3,0,3,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,25,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23529811202530146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4470258080652973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747632057022643,0.12359451600924318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596133209720325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17690891805155748,0.0,0.08452130547846445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428392672617746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282807137860153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7684045085095065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086196422364975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,helpcrushingirl,2020/02/01,"My daughter wants a boy to come to her sleepover She's 14F and we have these sleepovers often, always been girl only. This time she wants to invite a boy (14M) from school, she has talked about this boys since she was like 7 years old, my husband suggested that maybe no boys she has a crush on but it's like she has a crush on Evey teenage male at her in our city and of course Shawn Mendes. She really wants him to stay over and I don't know, when I called the boys dad he said he wasn't a fan of the idea but he trusts his son and it's my call. I still want to makeup some sort of excuse. She's put of bunch of snacks on a list for the sleepover and I noticed she dislikes pretty much everything on the list so I asked why she wanted the stuff and her response was “Aaron's coming over”. 

Okay this next part was snooping. I never like to invade her privacy like that and I felt bad doing it but I did look at her phone only for a second and the first text I read was that she planned to “finally kiss him”

Should I let him come over? And if not what excuse should I use? My husband is zero help, too busy planning his super bowl trip",1.1051885260689185,2.9674976390041508,2.157102651993508,98.2601461302544,80.90871369294607,5.021179866498287,17.532202778278908,5.7926816847441245,-0.6289268987912684,885,17,208,5,23,279,138,241,0.062,0.777,0.16,0.9735,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,4,6,9,0,0,13,1,17,2,0,1,1,33,31,15,0,8,5,5,1,4,0,2,0,1,0,7,12,13,1,0,3,1,0,5,5,1,0,3,9,3,38,8,26,19,4,25,0,0,1,1,48,10,0,4,13,134,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288450466633365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682886241187966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113274966272988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277059142153883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505912627382529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219273396198208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026008679804418,0.14861484594216934,0.0,0.11539694440580625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093367719904974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314975582694032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455817169371809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872709252985074,0.0,0.26511710308323816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392479195423907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629415787099594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972970000917944,0.0,0.1046335421746922,0.0,0.14428172258607844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445598983739373,0.14235804611107844,0.0,0.0,0.20635934379366086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469124388568097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802051365964565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638122695524416,0.0,0.0,0.13570214176027776,0.0,0.08691074758097073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904888982947255,0.0,0.0,0.13730065674533468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122238446051969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460129620759454,0.10834258666073696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530445827052333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904273272904842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910760250741558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171713719525458,0.0,0.0,0.4000949242887158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241694805602435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736408816114026
parenting,BabyLeaAnn,2020/02/01,Just me out here I'm just a 21 year old kid taking care of my baby by myself. Basically no support system whatsoever. No government help. Nothing. Shit sucks. She's 2 going to be three this year. I feel like giving up some days.,-0.3293478260869556,1.8060490000000016,2.5568478260869583,86.97266304347826,102.47826086956522,4.908695652173913,16.619565217391305,6.6274283507984215,0.2700956521739135,178,5,35,3,8,62,42,46,0.08,0.583,0.337,0.9207,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,9,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,5,3,5,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,1,5,20,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111104180775533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19678996250496367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428787881712006,0.2179919729612532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29271795299611786,0.17341801121264194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045288123398124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490759196559604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927899199750183,0.0,0.3201929471562092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313221675575658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462690907150618,0.0,0.0,0.2294271953938573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930001236755311
parenting,Reneeisafish,2020/02/01,"Son having trouble in Kindergarten At my wits end here looking for advice. 

My son who is 5, he always been high needs and has a tough time controlling his emotions. Full disclosure My husband and I are having trouble getting on the same page for parenting. He has very archaic views of being hard on my son because “boys need discipline” I have read a bunch of parenting books and I try to go for a more organized carrot and stick approach, I do not believe in spanking. We disagree and yell. (Totally acknowledge this is horrible, still not sure what to do about it, maybe separation)

Anyways my son isn’t an easy kid in school but he can be sweet and doing really well in terms of academics.  There are three boys in his class that are very high needs and get routinely sent home or they will clear the classroom when they throw stuff. 

My son is acting out he has told his teacher that he is going to leave school and walk home. He has had issues with other boys and hitting, he has been hit and he hits. He will dump all of his food in a pile. Once he got sent to the principal for trying to overflow the toilet by flushing it over and over. 

Now I know my kid isn’t easy, but He doesn’t hit his sister, he will throw things sometimes when he is angry. 

He got in trouble for pushing a kid up against the locker and now the principal is talking about suspending him. 

I feel like I have three options. 1. Keep him in there and try to get him through the rest of the school year. 2. Request that he moves to a different class 3. Pull him out and home school him for the rest of the year. 

Any advice? 

We are all in therapy. My son, my husband, and myself. We know we are a mess just trying to do the best we can. I know I will get berated anyways.",3.4141090947681185,4.856790561604591,4.125036612543776,88.51060065796456,73.1833810888252,7.348020800169798,26.392974636527647,7.921354282810032,1.4253552159609466,1362,47,284,19,27,434,173,349,0.076,0.8540000000000001,0.07,0.5731,3,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,0,2,2,15,11,1,0,19,0,38,1,0,1,5,47,62,20,0,3,6,11,2,1,0,4,0,1,3,6,11,23,1,3,5,2,0,12,5,6,1,2,8,6,36,5,43,44,12,43,0,0,2,0,55,21,0,2,11,191,47,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010138609318114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558207949215024,0.0,0.0,0.0699436847565545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269833972956353,0.0,0.0,0.11588030504198794,0.1079380597291054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153585795183218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745967480425164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569597618302233,0.09109738300944513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052005654758243966,0.07347832747982168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437046528872038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21494615153982002,0.0,0.11690765715530994,0.0,0.16452215683659474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213624075848446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734004901806445,0.3095103565419388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735199071974756,0.0,0.09142062615141903,0.0,0.0,0.1695762424313717,0.0,0.0,0.10890665958512348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024886510744698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637076124817471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332983687804577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931664582856523,0.0,0.2287929740234393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095352726856681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284125539559151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288100672196827,0.0,0.06589037645319208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.416371609358998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017244182362997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213867697246208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774227589942388,0.0,0.0,0.09693789851670932,0.0,0.0,0.08266948460324773,0.0,0.0,0.11762156728865235,0.0,0.06833107803742568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059974512411907564,0.0,0.0,0.09828061466142393,0.0,0.2793222125526542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972927907915192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247735486966754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324681427245663
parenting,bosozoku-mermaid,2020/02/01,"When and how do I tell my kid the truth about his dad My eldest son’s has never asked why I’m not with his dad. But I over heard his friend ask “why” he’s got two dads, he responded the he doesn’t know. I know one day I’ll have to tell the truth but how? I don’t want to hurt or confuse him, I don’t want to break his trust and regardless of all his father has done to me - facts are facts but I don’t want to come across like I’m throwing his father under the bus

I left his dad when my son was roughly 7months old. The relationship started when I was 17 ended when I was 21. He was highly abusive and I didn’t know how to get out (he controlled me, isolated me, had guns pointed at me, destroyed my belongings, attacked my workmates, verbal, emotional, physical abuse - I was hospitalised multiple times, fractures, breaks, concussions,stitches and more) he went to jail for one of the attacks, he got wind I was trying to leave and got me while I was walking home from work. I kind member of the public called the cops. Between that event and before he had court I fell pregnant. 

He made a big act to tick all the boxes to get help, he was released less than a month before the birth. At the birth he let it show he hadn’t changed, just spun out at the doctors and midwifes. There were a number of complications which meant I had to go into theatre, he didn’t come. My son was not well so We stayed in hospital for over 3 weeks after. He came and went. And once we were able to come home I found out the job he had been going to didn’t exist and was just an excuse to not be around. The abuse started again. 

Son still unwell and had two surgeries before 3months old. 

Flash forward roughly 7months, I’m doing all the parenting while he’s just bumming around. One night I get my son to bed, make myself something to eat and the father starts yelling at me to come to him. I came but not as promptly as he wished. He attempted to stab me with a pair of scissors, I avoided it. He went to the kitchen to get a knife, I board myself in the room with my son and call the cops. Cops arrive and he takes off. 

This was the end. I was done. Police helped me organise full custody of my son and a protection order the next day. They found the father arrested him, pressed charges. I finally admit to my parents the truth and they take us in open arms. I said the father could have the house, the police organised for him to not be there while I pick up my stuff (I let him have everything, a houseful which was all brought by money I earned, all I took was my clothes, my sons crib, toys and clothes)

He turned up while I was collecting and started smashing everything before attacking me. Tackling me pinning me down and strangling me. My mum has to try remove him off me while getting hurt during all this. He takes off. Cops come again. Sent me to hospital. Another charge added for his court date. 

*today* 
My son is 9, healthy and wonderful. He knows his father and that side of his family. I am married to a wonderful man who my son calls dad and we have another son too. The two boys are best mates.",2.0992993279718,4.094369594249205,3.0205883000991527,92.63015974440896,78.29712460063898,6.170276523080312,23.412911754985124,7.1686216300943375,0.7517314971907014,2410,79,519,29,58,764,281,626,0.102,0.8140000000000001,0.084,-0.9643,3,1,1,1,3,0,74.0,4,0,2,5,21,17,4,2,36,0,51,4,1,7,12,92,105,42,0,6,13,25,3,1,2,0,1,3,5,3,10,42,2,3,10,2,1,21,14,8,1,6,46,6,84,9,71,54,10,91,0,2,0,0,93,32,0,4,37,324,94,4,0.06561410331331484,0.2332259493861137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760421664613792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168209258931507,0.12268065869015035,0.2239365446352068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22333107685028036,0.0,0.06885795335884241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099800673830687,0.15009010878772525,0.0,0.0,0.06941102118586606,0.2826037006733134,0.0,0.0,0.07359179614633185,0.05238752242750285,0.0,0.0,0.08463133703550847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715881504879392,0.0,0.13429201683922926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713960826837079,0.0,0.07380703481061472,0.11622924047587872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793945047240448,0.0,0.061855137098140875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187704298770407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388495518373268,0.05069329345704642,0.0,0.1714033042948125,0.0,0.0745800139811221,0.0,0.15743277714620116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795950072995372,0.06932490261476762,0.13163259094046684,0.0,0.0,0.15141973141084522,0.1404825093201331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511187311623423,0.0,0.0,0.06832699163056452,0.14423918089581325,0.0,0.0,0.06947586148018962,0.07128991523419181,0.13418973225874653,0.0,0.032055736582509216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062085651037705664,0.04379792346349989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05237255126962795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050605641456390266,0.0,0.06978134324948299,0.06157439113828957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770192789424604,0.06987687861600522,0.13338544353432846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571339364764802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202653598352738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044499156582107,0.0,0.0,0.06241403772943336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051294234564335,0.0,0.0,0.18576800015640246,0.06993590389775355,0.05239950766320574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511245025706449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800091974710786,0.0,0.11469923670901624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03826011129663535,0.0,0.06219449788529676,0.0,0.07289968303705059,0.08909533825376438,0.07136930284081346,0.19228633450501986,0.0,0.07892568743446098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161026944109718,0.0,0.05263167589624081,0.0,0.0589949588156958,0.1824747933930433,0.1184130452387018,0.0,0.07545298065557242,0.0,0.1423113922660664,0.04776784867229205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m0lr4t,2020/02/01,"Is this the 8 month sleep regression or has my kid gone crazy 8 month sleep regression ???

Background: 7.5 month old, breastfed, bed sharer, has started solids, usually breastfed to sleep very easily during nap times and bed times, never slept through the night but usually falls back asleep while nursing, approx 10 hours sleeps at night followed by approx 3 hour sleep throughout 3-4 naps during the day (follow her cues). 

She has suddenly become a sleep fighter! She no longer falls asleep while being fed. For the last week I have had to do somewhat of a straight jacket hold while feeding her to sleep so she doesn’t try to roll away. And in the last two days she has been inconsolable via boob/cuddles/bum pats at nap times and bed times. So much so that I’ve had to let her cry in my arms for a few minutes before re latching and her nodding off. 

IS THIS NORMAL? What else can I do?! Will this pass?! 

I am not wanting to sleep train but any other advice/thoughts welcome please!",5.9069073083779005,6.700356513368982,5.063970588235296,86.51203431372551,66.75401069518716,7.73065953654189,28.95231729055259,7.492282038375204,1.5658274509803922,776,25,150,7,12,231,122,187,0.046,0.8759999999999999,0.078,0.7275,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,8,0,18,14,12,0,1,13,25,13,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,4,2,1,0,3,0,6,4,0,0,1,6,0,13,1,17,16,3,39,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,26,83,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565181459345124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070430963649788,0.0742347755276099,0.0,0.0,0.1066229631766974,0.08215006130700381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604676332459302,0.12452310039451628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064838424271148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19014868407491128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573890963929075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098720651754316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23117651291253705,0.0,0.07096941775846788,0.0,0.07445907854390924,0.0,0.0,0.1811960996487022,0.0945905815474118,0.0,0.0,0.10130450251837156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597403463118588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7728931128767393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683328662403698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664349880997806,0.22517747430114984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655456249344261,0.0,0.09430742549502673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21265456599496765,0.07965719278280085,0.0569429243691196,0.0,0.07744010305319245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thegrumpynurse,2020/02/01,"How do you bond with your kids when you're tired? I work full-time during the week, part-time on the weekends, and I'm in school online full-time as well. When I finally get home in the evening, I honestly just want to let my brain rest and mindlessly scroll through Reddit or social media. 

But like any other parent ever, I feel really guilty. 

Sometimes I justify it by telling myself that my 7 year old probably wants to let *her* mind rest by mindlessly watching tv after school, too. Most of the time we mindlessly watch tv together. But I know it isn't best for either of us. What kinds of things does your family do when you want to click with your kids, but you're desperately exhausted?",4.43911111111111,5.875385244444447,4.883888888888889,84.09250000000003,70.62962962962962,8.955555555555557,25.35185185185185,9.3871,1.9991629629629628,548,16,109,12,10,174,93,135,0.1,0.8420000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.8220000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,5,0,2,9,6,0,0,4,0,5,3,1,1,1,20,12,11,0,3,6,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,6,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,17,5,17,10,5,14,0,0,3,0,13,3,0,2,12,69,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284532480448305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17414446281020615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18524463288568166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521577136271194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960222697536252,0.1501028081732462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643406602389434,0.0,0.08390457299025694,0.0,0.0,0.18177985880947548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669713488218674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664519907975128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280163978928553,0.0911966354212732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393710922115861,0.0,0.08107021418506458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675527409384767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412678631403014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425744175682215,0.17969754114026126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891207500940576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063058224374337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358815714457937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915558396939145,0.0,0.0,0.16411953497126264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503943253540888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024358699734052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676132100658287,0.19072435357074752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960615687447592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936282646051057,0.0,0.13310757114704078,0.0,0.14920056304796178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080676146856888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686033087926118
parenting,PeanutNKat,2020/02/01,"How to sleep train my 5 week old baby? I just had my baby on Christmas morning, and have started sleep training and was wondering what the majority view is on how and when to sleep train. 

I started last week and have established a really good bedtime routine. I wipe her down with a warm washcloth or give her a bath if it's bath day, put a clean diaper on, gently massage her legs, arms, and belly with nighttime lotion, swaddle her, then hold/rock her until she starts to fall asleep, then I put her in her crib. She typically is ok for a few minutes after I put her down and walk out, but then she starts to fight sleep and cries. I let her cry for about 5 min, go back into the room and hold/rock her until she's starting to get drowsy again and set her down. And repeat this cycle until she actually falls asleep. Over this last week the number of times I've had to go in and reassure her has lessened, but I feel so bad even letting her cry for 5 min. I personally don't believe in the Ferber method, so this is a modified version that Dad and I have come up with. 

My question is: What has everyone done and at what age to sleep train their baby? Also, how can I get her to fall asleep in her bed without letting her cry for too long and without becoming dependent on a sleep prop?

TL;DR: How and what age did you sleep train your baby?",7.1788914027149335,5.4398180882352944,7.363382352941175,79.5370475113122,64.80882352941177,10.280995475113123,32.68778280542986,8.841846274778883,2.429184049773756,1048,32,220,13,13,341,141,272,0.09699999999999999,0.853,0.05,-0.9640000000000001,0,0,1,0,1,0,30.0,0,2,1,0,14,6,1,0,11,1,19,12,12,5,0,36,32,33,0,1,7,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,9,21,0,0,3,2,0,10,3,2,0,0,5,3,37,4,39,24,3,57,0,0,1,0,30,17,0,5,29,151,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.08539538251684856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998027799455306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728840623193033,0.0730656939417223,0.0,0.0966459345892058,0.0,0.09859177791916718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538056802459825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844946059013876,0.0564355512969073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955127344751311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057798342500497375,0.0,0.0,0.08361783765539288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04424677655627363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143884816973397,0.08394584175715479,0.09946585631725846,0.07339772853307368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426617293484443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684491980280073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744200556869099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182513815300096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640878715196238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639097405889411,0.0980292140926272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05605999535408188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6129997997642956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096937809735841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102673665194976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21058140511037374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870956911654264,0.0948989128577299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,khepera-,2020/02/01,"Child care for kindergartener on days off from school? My son is in kindergarten and in a private school that has a lot more (random) days off than the public schools around us. When he started his school year, I was looking for jobs so was able to watch him on his days off. Now that I’m working, I’m struggling to figure out where to bring him/what to do on his days off. I have some relatives around the area but they aren’t able to take off work either. I’ve looked into daycares, thinking some might have “drop-in” options (not sure if that’s the right term), but no luck so far. 

So, what do you guys do when your child has a day off from school and you have to work?",4.052753623188405,4.510766304347829,3.7291304347826113,95.63688405797105,70.73913043478261,6.713043478260871,24.02898550724637,5.82211442006289,0.2061246376811594,522,12,122,2,9,156,84,138,0.035,0.8959999999999999,0.07,0.6917,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,3,1,3,9,4,0,1,6,0,13,0,0,0,1,21,22,10,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,3,12,3,26,19,6,31,0,0,3,0,15,19,0,8,11,80,16,9,0.25468574183707793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22672430674788935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983454385890408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106280846479671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608946302699922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263681500593232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138718788999834,0.0,0.0,0.10826235503078384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509066221754687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875011597480666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6443889194048635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901339394663015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331264177856051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001914879974893,0.0,0.09574599091491597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159616980483611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317779440085685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781213800249074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200463377151516
parenting,bbo1014,2020/02/01,"Blog Hello! I know that many on here are Mom's, so I thought
that I would use the fact that I am a Dad and write about
my experiences as a new father! This is brand new for
me, so please don't be too harsh :)

I thought that there may be some Mom's and Dad's out
there who would like to see what a guys perspective
on parenthood is. I know men can feel odd because
they feel like the can't relate to people at times, and
some women want to see what a guys perspective on
fatherhood is. If this isn't allowed, sorry for that. Either
way, like I said, this is new to me, so please, don't be too
rough on me!

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parenting,yogabx,2020/02/01,"Tell me about terrible 3’s. For people that had terrible 2’s and better 3’s, what were the 2’s like for you? For people that had “moderately easy” 2’s and terrible 3’s, what were the 3’s like for you? 

I’m wondering which direction we have to look forward to-easier or impossible. I think my son is one of those toddler who will be easier in the 3’s. He’s a very strong willed, defiant, independent, and smart guy. He’s starting to really get the hang of potty training, and the 2’s have been a total nightmare.",2.165939771547252,3.746249560747668,4.92704049844237,80.91357217030117,76.75700934579439,9.241536863966768,24.973001038421607,9.725611199111238,2.3822614745586708,401,14,85,12,9,144,63,107,0.10300000000000001,0.716,0.18100000000000002,0.8312,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,0,2,1,8,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,1,1,10,17,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,5,1,6,5,10,9,1,4,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,2,4,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793995652041063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16505161538113491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31280374948129475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308678477754143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652875348283429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21407096957908886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4380288905518427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023820941898694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360499873444614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27612207331260963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242443139598298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606614865053746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425944044265939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gaga248,2020/02/01,"Daughter doesn’t think she’s going to make it in life  HS senior doesn’t think she’ll make it-in life, it breaks my heart to her this sad.  She has a hard time learning concepts and  comprehending, instead she will just remember certain words or phrases to a question.  She’s a straight A student, but by only remembering answers or objective test/quizzes.  If you handed her a piece paper with instructions about a topic she wouldn’t be able to know how to do it without somebody actually going over it step by step.  She didn’t make it very far on her SAT and ACT  and scored lower than a 50%.  She came to terms about her future, and was really upset and told me  she was never going to be successful and would probably just be working a crappy retail job. Of course I don’t want that for her, she used to have very big dreams of going to a university and a have a degree in medical field, but her does not see that anymore. I don’t know if it just her being dramatic, I don’t want to sugar coat thing, but I also don’t want her dreams to be crushed.",7.485070422535207,5.611797530516434,7.840943661971831,76.78451408450707,64.30516431924883,10.773521126760564,33.97605633802817,9.3871,2.8260783098591538,826,27,169,12,10,273,117,213,0.08900000000000001,0.813,0.09699999999999999,-0.0688,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,2,8,4,0,1,11,0,22,6,2,5,2,43,41,16,0,7,12,1,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,10,9,1,0,9,2,1,8,11,2,0,0,6,4,25,2,25,26,2,21,0,1,1,0,22,7,0,5,5,115,35,8,0.15091512451998834,0.0,0.14727139176307655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068677055450194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496672514201711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260669820295854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206684246651929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34307417242047483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519030881851424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788351491841804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975997450036235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658780113294294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21319163107786146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022110524767184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203111087754026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639504765212935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477775269341328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271202916801422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905947801116056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668009317012337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419148338716691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202598151953916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026130288944864,0.19340063621352246,0.0,0.0,0.08799982273488803,0.0,0.0,0.14420586880442907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034221281653807,0.0,0.24904156567882715,0.26704095155381563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547679461849147,0.0,0.10986800804100967,0.0,0.0,0.1072057744925462,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JohnDalrymple,2020/02/01,"Downloading youtube kids videos disabled in 2020 Has anyone else being hit by this? Recently if you hit the download button (need a youtube premium subscription to access that) on youtube there is a pop up saying that this action is disabled for kids content. It's to comply with a law apparently; described here - https://www.howtogeek.com/545240/why-youtube-videos-made-for-kids-have-restricted-features/ (although that article says downloads still work they don't).

This is really annoying for me. The only time my kids watch youtube videos is the specific ones that I have downloaded on to an old ipad that isn't connected to my wifi (expect when I download!). We do half an hour of cartoons once a week or so to give them more exposure to their second language. I specifically don't want to just watch the videos directly on wifi because they end up wanting to click on all these other random videos and it becomes a bun fight. An offline, pre-loaded tablet was working great!

Anyone else come across this and am I missing some way around it?",8.584082397003748,10.414619561797757,6.7017415730337095,73.43422284644195,61.24719101123596,9.304119850187266,33.934456928838955,9.516144504307137,3.2698524344569293,854,34,133,15,12,249,119,178,0.066,0.91,0.024,-0.6552,1,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,1,1,4,2,7,4,2,0,12,0,13,0,0,0,1,17,21,7,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,14,6,0,0,0,4,0,2,3,3,0,3,1,5,13,1,22,17,3,20,0,1,3,0,13,9,0,4,8,91,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25380991926843555,0.3719244972594593,0.0,0.16156831069504665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063717543093536,0.20044607679670945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634117659953572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30323021870354666,0.0,0.1607499845895083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410576777120226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009798841622084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17873522079717866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717341936792919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457564433964908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904476248516781,0.19328539212156212,0.12298516222377427,0.13803451215110196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626982740381625,0.0,0.17920361987798064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288662933694177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494149690509645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583072342459968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21409995466373055,0.1440616424742045,0.14558369399301954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642598680506213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HempelsRaven,2020/02/01,"What to Do When Time-Outs Aren't Working My wife and I are at our wits end. Our 3 (almost 4) year old has reached a point of such frequent meltdowns that time outs are totally ineffective. It's time to get ready for preschool? ""No, I want to play instead!"" When we tell her there isn't time to play, it's time to get ready for the day and start our routine, the screaming and kicking and hitting begins. We used to be able to put her on time out and she would calm down after a few minutes and we could try again, but now she refuses to go on time out and stay there, and my wife cannot physically pick her up and put her on time out due to a recent surgery that prevents her from lifting over 15 pounds. 

At this point, we just don't know what to do--when I'm at work and my wife can't physically enforce the rules, what are the options? We can take away toys, and she'll tell us she doesn't even care, and truthfully, she seems to have forgotten that her favorite toy is gone an hour or two later. Nothing works. And it's not like we can give up and just say ""well, guess she's not making it to school today"" or whatever the situation is. Sometimes she really has to cooperate, and we just don't know how to make that happen.

I'm sure we're not the first with a difficult 3/4 year old, but we are all out of ideas. Once she's in the midst of her tantrum, there's just no getting through to her.

If anyone has any suggestions, I'd gladly listen to them. Thanks!",5.114293153326905,4.488660518032791,5.489681774349084,87.65945998071359,68.40983606557378,8.881388621022179,29.0887174541948,8.124751697461798,1.5649286403085818,1138,34,264,13,17,364,161,305,0.069,0.831,0.1,0.7677,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,12,0,1,5,16,14,1,0,12,0,24,0,0,5,4,62,48,23,0,4,12,3,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,12,29,0,2,4,4,0,4,12,4,1,2,1,3,34,10,42,42,3,51,0,0,0,0,39,19,0,7,28,169,46,4,0.11139861944736172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154962587929283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575488124563795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789250486450998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046626699891077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357831685538215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894273304055439,0.0,0.0,0.07184289376569797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866611196834613,0.0,0.0,0.07357773751958037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475560879391476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17460354255835844,0.1068637065261,0.06331040261412825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271813851267566,0.0,0.09850943127771154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970520061258217,0.0,0.0,0.12575548186950916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244353584537393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05442373850036555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871888701114094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688997979712443,0.0,0.2337882236904136,0.1186358940538053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21061540518728386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22397276209949624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136480814265628,0.0,0.10999269747468324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858865339773052,0.0,0.11274135016918092,0.0,0.10141311930533202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521671567802378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017608308876436,0.0,0.07884851621039027,0.11873610627293535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499188048062978,0.0,0.08375789809516923,0.0,0.19473460697980316,0.10256088191059436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5196594467497889,0.0,0.10559286573741786,0.0,0.0,0.0756323502073296,0.0,0.10882026434757884,0.0,0.13399882304493468,0.09621264011582502,0.0,0.0,0.06570579198876081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001607373195459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432985651265007,0.0,0.0,0.07913438307287131,0.0,0.0,0.1434741171537912
parenting,totoredditt,2020/02/01,"21 month old climbing out of cot - any advice? Hi all
Our 21 month old climbed out of the cot twice and we just managed to catch him when he had almost fallen to the floor. So we decided to remove the rails and turn it into a toddler bed. 
Any tips on how to help with the transition? Have tried twice with same routine and then closing the door but he seems scared or something and wants us to open his door. He has always slept in his cot with the door closed. He’s not the best sleeper but we had finally managed to have him sleeping in his cot most nights
Would love to hear from others what has worked for you when doing this transition at a younger age that what I’ve been finding. Most websites seem to say this only ha opens around 2-3 years of age. 
Thanks in advance!",2.908461538461537,4.59457478980892,3.099617834394905,94.35017148456642,74.9872611464968,5.849877511024008,23.541891229789318,6.297961479604792,0.3749621754042134,610,18,132,4,13,186,104,157,0.059000000000000004,0.85,0.092,0.7678,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,5,1,0,5,6,5,0,1,9,1,9,3,2,1,1,35,17,12,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,7,18,0,0,4,0,0,6,1,1,0,2,4,2,11,4,25,12,5,32,0,0,0,1,20,14,0,6,12,82,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368373052646394,0.0,0.0,0.17797915208008286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789243650666786,0.0,0.0,0.24173616762490366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582246975865781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652529524716469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947035311216232,0.16244951215217734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032389041542076,0.0,0.11913418162421285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604156819965686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837379013432487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679527819946438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730127240745196,0.0,0.0,0.1351779247283331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134456562593697,0.17794696388612796,0.0,0.0,0.323612398365019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778665794002497,0.0,0.0,0.13683156447771785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636374721577758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206725836471244,0.19332814344034746,0.0,0.0,0.213797193108235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483460659531244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293955402724294,0.0,0.0,0.1262601312077066,0.0,0.0,0.11445758564937693
parenting,Namethislater,2020/02/02,"Baby gate idea suggestions Hello I need help on baby gate suggestions. Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit for this, please point to the right subreddit. 


The staircase leads downstairs to the den from the kitchen. The problem is that one side of the staircase is a wall and the other side is a black metal railing. If anyone has a similar staircase, what kind of baby gate did you use.

I’ve attached a picture on the post I posted on parentinglite for reference.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentingLite/comments/exx1wc/baby_gate_suggestions/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf",12.286354679802955,16.151533333333337,8.245648604269293,58.08206896551725,54.747126436781606,8.649589490968804,31.968801313628894,9.23628265651192,3.186390476190476,508,17,62,8,7,140,55,87,0.081,0.858,0.061,-0.1962,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,13,0,6,1,0,2,0,9,8,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,3,1,10,7,0,11,0,0,1,0,5,8,0,2,0,41,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893669525028255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15790349952982718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136708783156824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549312120183561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23516408477949602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674478700750658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530262297183005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478902477366071,0.2134795227847232,0.0,0.4325597117667491,0.0,0.0,0.21608595461660207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928550367926989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527948544058867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950420338865576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469063898308393,0.0,0.0
parenting,civicsaturn,2020/02/02,Advice on what a good parent is My dad thinks hes a failure of a dad I dont know what to say to him but he thinks that he makes everyone unhappy he gets mad because he cant do or get stuff for us he tries way to hard to make us happy I love him to death because of he tries so hard but he cries sometimes because he feels that way and I tell him that a failure of a parent is one who doesn't care for there kids and I have no one to turn to my family won't understand but can some one advise me on anything that can make him feel better,0.8847540983606592,2.0161191147540976,2.999147540983607,95.2897049180328,79.1639344262295,6.191475409836067,20.39672131147541,6.742157984588678,0.04803672131147518,420,10,105,4,10,143,68,122,0.22899999999999998,0.655,0.11599999999999999,-0.9359,2,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,2,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,5,0,11,1,0,3,0,16,25,7,1,0,4,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,2,0,0,6,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,0,5,14,5,14,24,1,4,0,0,0,1,25,2,0,2,0,64,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781258868222218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605542495591735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579111847557518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472930723592952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378917626123458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549145010231814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528575573721874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475992014665433,0.0,0.0,0.13295024796525187,0.0,0.14261770556765244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736439285165706,0.0,0.0,0.11828901958486487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012873597175,0.2526698167283601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750623378288321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728480862404554,0.0,0.28241525561231595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866961197532787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131935798085141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121524763777838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948197745520696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144526316561214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326617219919772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073227191462235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149981503706,0.153399813741234,0.0,0.14681688931129114,0.3392827243625958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388561978172508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ysy_heart,2020/02/02,"Book recs please! I love The Paper Bag Princess. My 2 and a bit toddler loves it too, although I suspect she is after the dragons.

Any other books with strong female characters? Thanks in advance!",2.4491666666666667,5.405876694444443,2.6235555555555585,89.07700000000004,87.61111111111109,3.991111111111112,26.644444444444442,5.6839178017228535,1.0266177777777776,155,7,26,1,5,47,34,36,0.049,0.575,0.376,0.9411,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,3,4,1,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,16,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25766969121740835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4136682083193859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6839565573095906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159260021916349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488465738227214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChaseBlocky,2020/02/02,"Child whispering to himself Lately my child has been whispering “roaches” in a really mean voice, and I’m starting to get worried. I’m not sure what I should do, the child is 3 years old.",3.4493693693693714,5.160716459459461,4.528108108108111,84.56531531531532,73.5945945945946,8.176576576576577,28.54954954954956,8.841846274778883,2.296322522522524,147,6,29,3,3,48,30,37,0.122,0.878,0.0,-0.4874,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,10,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,3,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636854428345007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239804216460261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094159046016391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.394396234612673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407821161479108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26603185915261635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542385640544316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816986463281692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420380747867115
parenting,Grimoire_idk,2020/02/02,"I fall in love to my friend 
I just want to tell you my story, and I want listen your opinion about my situation. 
So I’m a girl and fall in love to my friend (girl, and she had a boyfriend). It’s started when I just tell her that I don’t have first kiss. And she told me to kiss her, and it was like (in then time) just friend kiss. After that, I start have feelings to her. Any times I touch her and she touch me in a lesson XD. And any times she started be cold to me (like I was only toy to her). She have a friend, and I don’t like her, bc you know - jealousy. Her behavior to her was more friendly than me:( and it hurt me more and more. I didn’t think about told her that i love her, bc she had a boyfriend and she happy, you know. But an one second was that moment and I told her about my feelings. But her reaction was normal and after few times she kissed me. Now she still playing with my feelings and she still taking with her friend (who I don’t like) and yea, she know what I don’t like. A yes I forgot tell that an last her school she fall in love to one boy and she had the little same situation like me. 
And I’m bisexual (I think, if I love her. And she is my first girl who I love XDD)",0.15118320610687164,1.7759233244274846,1.8735358778625968,100.29627328244275,82.93129770992367,4.955358778625954,16.586870229007634,5.6839178017228535,-0.8944233893129772,909,16,235,5,25,297,94,262,0.02,0.701,0.28,0.9972,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,4,0,3,11,25,0,0,9,2,18,10,0,0,0,41,45,24,0,4,6,0,5,6,6,0,0,1,0,4,11,20,0,1,9,2,0,3,5,1,0,5,13,7,65,24,22,31,5,27,0,1,0,10,58,6,0,2,24,165,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751472829525634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221770613163778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949778431608835,0.0,0.0,0.4346143893211981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980511358138718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036784591340643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457770457925815,0.07642373629524721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748269727405507,0.09396824445304312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5077112532659359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186107330010997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706312179392162,0.07130574010752308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948861802571386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107715729357964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990831538983696,0.0,0.14974748775576646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049292034103916,0.0,0.2458408958974801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015024844847345,0.0,0.0,0.21867974732710105,0.0,0.0,0.2687639188340271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105995557659713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,worriedparent293,2020/02/02,"My daughter is suicidal and I don't know what to do Hello. I (39F) have a 14 year old daughter. 

She's attempted suicide a couple before, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to track her or search through her things, I feel like it will make her lose trust in me. I want to talk to her about it, but she just locks herself in her room all day and doesn't speak to me unless she's asking me for food. 

I keep pills and knives locked away, but I'm scared that one day she won't come home from school, or won't be there when I wake her up in the morning. I don't know what to do, because I don't want to invade her privacy, but I don't want her to commit suicide and have to live with the thought that not only is my daughter dead, but she told countless online friends about it and not me, and that I was in the same room as what she used to plan.

We've tried to put her through therapy before, but she just won't open up and doesn't want to go. She doesn't trust me or her father, and she's our only child. 

I'm worried about her. Help?",3.8601973244147167,3.0552208391304347,4.6491304347826095,93.24252508361204,71.04347826086956,7.77257525083612,25.51839464882943,6.297961479604792,0.5343712374581941,803,18,204,4,13,260,107,230,0.14,0.778,0.08199999999999999,-0.8903,0,0,0,0,0,3,24.0,1,0,0,3,7,6,0,1,5,0,22,3,1,2,2,41,41,20,4,5,13,4,1,1,1,4,1,1,3,1,11,12,1,1,5,0,0,3,14,2,0,1,3,2,41,4,30,33,2,18,0,1,0,0,34,10,0,3,6,135,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908469319169094,0.0,0.12972923061038666,0.0,0.0,0.08417132956484376,0.0,0.2349891486008377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894234147661938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278115692692626,0.0,0.1780983293091547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069816603195118,0.09864325825618862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696498610813726,0.0,0.10667905279684596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784731540062892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255106131845373,0.0,0.13850392390289426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273045324654935,0.0,0.0,0.2276528828295051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745814647503334,0.0,0.12192578374378454,0.0,0.0,0.1544744445058166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216842447835602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489008539664958,0.0,0.0935655179265232,0.21002973671983605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880696005497792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824059679199996,0.13974274320487093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531061754141716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098221202522077,0.0,0.0,0.15790471879940998,0.0,0.09173317369833413,0.0,0.0,0.10961885021509146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319398574536978,0.0,0.09374619052498184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925543059926688,0.0,0.0,0.4072111786482774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022534854215085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891798208856536
parenting,Denise-777-,2020/02/02,"My 12 year old hates school to the point that he is depressed and anxious Since the start of grade 7, my son has developed a hatred of school. At first, he could not explain why or what had changed. He is very open with me and I have talked to him many many times about it. I am confident he is not being bullied or anything like that.
We have been to the Dr. and even started counseling. Dr  put him on a low dose of meds for depression to help him cope. After a few counseling sessions, we determined that the hatred has stemmed from all his friends being in another class while he is left with just one close friend in his class. He also very much dislikes the teaching style of his homeroom and French teacher. While I feel that these are things he needs to be able to deal with and accept, he isn't. Monday-Friday he is miserable in the morning and before bed because he knows school is nearing. And any other time school is mentioned,  he immediately shuts down and pops into a sad, depressed mood and it takes some effort to get him out of it. Otherwise, he is a super happy kid. 
He is a very well behaved child. He never acts out or misbehaves. Principle and teacher said they havent noticed any behavioural changes but my som tells me that he had trouble paying attention because all he can think about during class is when school will be over. I have noticed his grades starting to slip a bit because he is handing in half ass work. I feel like he is going under the radar at school because he is not acting out or causing any disruption but he is super unhappy there and I dont know how to help him without being a helicopter parent. Any suggestions besides trying to get his class moved? Not only is it too late in the year for that, I also dont feel that will help him learn to cope.",5.1773124769060255,5.907414495750711,5.304434043601429,84.36857125261733,68.3484419263456,8.065476043847765,29.795418154945192,8.04050195162591,1.9123746520507447,1419,51,279,17,23,446,189,353,0.105,0.795,0.099,-0.3282,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,1,5,11,18,1,1,16,0,38,5,2,2,3,52,55,23,0,2,12,2,4,2,2,2,3,1,1,2,15,22,0,0,10,0,1,5,10,8,1,3,4,5,26,9,42,43,6,42,0,6,0,1,50,22,1,5,17,178,41,17,0.08545973391665063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668423667478813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324621984098749,0.08961198238307523,0.0,0.09654517417966914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032607937216374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20838184234807125,0.0,0.07271993915624765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329989555995337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779068769953592,0.1808101338549691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823264361060702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810523314374306,0.22081903079110915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031634335885548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644534826200145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963302773786295,0.06105245098571745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269200601237773,0.0,0.0,0.13205195686393684,0.0,0.08929836750201778,0.0,0.048568736205173504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909734758715696,0.0,0.0843737944593318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184557469136102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393286959093776,0.0,0.09640230222198116,0.0,0.0928522509522476,0.0,0.0,0.08350261850755399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732855135117043,0.0,0.0,0.09492649886347006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908301725186153,0.0628227375517504,0.0633673098428399,0.06591181522200168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945929469748187,0.08967561487092704,0.0,0.05790972741722007,0.06499597860671061,0.0,0.0,0.09489292103678876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078707157837725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591063672312661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129177703688563,0.0,0.0,0.5189388792065673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069317501237626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146651857512552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425508431020886,0.06868929696501787,0.07469557423340065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056775649851676366,0.05475914678097585,0.0,0.0,0.09966451619154833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05802154960514101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211539691645814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683856409251626,0.0,0.07711411744848341,0.0,0.0,0.08238013385793465,0.0,0.062215704111840235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100665334697713
parenting,an0n3m0u5,2020/02/02,"Nap time gone? I've always heard that kids should be getting at least one nap until around the time they start kindergarten (5ish)

My 3yo son for the last week has completely refused to nap. He lays on bed, with us laying on the got next to him and just tosses and turns until we give up (an hour or longer)

I talked to my Mom today and she mentioned my little brother did the same thing about the same age. Just suddenly stopped napping. 

Any other parents with similar situations? If he really doesn't need it I don't want to force him. But he still acts like he's tired around nap time. I'm at a loss.",1.952841530054645,4.1336387377049215,2.689754098360656,93.88632513661207,79.65573770491805,5.706010928961749,20.002732240437158,6.816661863887847,0.15970273224043652,474,12,102,5,12,148,91,122,0.092,0.888,0.021,-0.7701,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,7,0,6,1,0,0,0,20,16,8,0,4,5,4,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,4,8,0,2,0,5,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,1,11,1,17,10,3,25,0,1,0,0,20,8,0,2,16,58,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619474788932658,0.0,0.0,0.12765331564539295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.334214072513252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681665237888116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980738612241322,0.1800742900774909,0.0,0.0,0.1501336317240176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486244544862893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530135924300187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170855468524053,0.1881407446837495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198507080276396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918903392120446,0.0,0.0,0.1996380933856493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720121832272988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20843640100597066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202556750141031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110006466605951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286634950081722,0.0,0.1499102384261802,0.1569389796319453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087900857713102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471016795099668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283761238877964,0.2157519254768713,0.17793281697813176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418110173751305,0.0,0.0,0.22579923264352225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071975913043597,0.0,0.15057445068162684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwparent69,2020/02/02,9th grade daughter is jealous of 9th grade son I have a problem in my hands right now. My 9th grade son received all a last semester and is taking some hard classes including ap class. 9th grade daughter is receiving c and b on academic courses. Daughter is starting to resent son thinking only girls should be able to score good grades. She told me she hates 9th grade son and wishes he was stupid. She claims we only ever care about son because of good grades. We try to help her she refuses help and says that boys like out son should be working and mines and dumpsters. How do I help my daughter?,5.187844827586208,6.3370467500000025,4.916724137931039,85.63818965517244,68.56896551724138,7.524137931034483,30.87931034482759,7.645422480735847,1.9425896551724144,477,19,91,5,8,146,74,116,0.128,0.713,0.159,0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,4,9,4,0,2,0,11,1,1,1,2,19,18,7,0,4,0,10,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,9,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,3,14,4,9,12,2,10,0,0,0,0,28,4,0,1,5,48,15,11,0.21290352530437395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978401292646868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21706933332395748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258342759466168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571467517719363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071974015855847,0.21019815368508252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42811423559345396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354478897805714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401390829126317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238454495885165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037199204671386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181844732483665,0.0,0.1693094286438288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506942110188668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007695485824405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641998234747532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343844220846527,0.0,0.14454751832722845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448285469906627,0.0,0.0,0.15499630209033252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaymeowcat93,2020/02/02,"Am I being silly for being concerned about my son traveling with my parents to Australia and being on the plane due to the coronavirus? I'm definitely paranoid but I'm worried about the sanitary conditions on the plane, as well as people being bunched together and sharing the same air... I was going to send him with hand sanitizer and Lysol wipes and already talked to him about making sure he doesn't touch anything without wiping it down first..

But I'm paranoid and I don't know if I want to let him go now because of this.",6.648823529411764,6.900501333333335,7.0047058823529404,75.12117647058824,65.07843137254902,9.545098039215684,35.627450980392155,9.2995712137729,3.3069098039215685,424,19,75,7,6,138,67,102,0.076,0.7709999999999999,0.153,0.8544,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,1,1,16,17,10,0,2,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,1,0,4,3,0,1,1,1,2,9,4,18,11,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,3,56,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31287508173834794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333155703006865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283321074412153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24116482804801376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222657224079234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581702573387288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899218483455702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925404664719486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148191422990056,0.0,0.0,0.1965594012428868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26721741461888826,0.0,0.0,0.2278853398059587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722942555507794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25492155346039863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27330640473779544,0.0,0.0,0.2879317380579438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsmerighthere,2020/02/02,"Siblings Ten Years Apart Fighting My youngest is 7, and middle child is soon to be 18, and they fight near daily. I assumed they wouldn’t fight at all because of their age difference; I was so wrong! I expect more out of my near adult aged daughter, and I think she resents that. But I still defend her to her brother when I think he should stop being a pest, but he is 7 so he’s going to be a pest sometimes. Ugh. Can’t win! I really thought their age difference would mean no fighting! Just venting!",1.8537623762376216,4.032353831683172,2.719297029702972,93.5557772277228,79.99009900990097,5.228118811881188,23.961386138613854,6.2581,0.5314427722772277,391,14,82,3,10,123,68,101,0.209,0.742,0.049,-0.9147,0,0,0,0,6,0,13.0,0,0,4,1,6,8,5,0,2,0,11,0,0,0,1,18,16,8,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,7,0,1,2,0,16,1,9,8,2,15,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,1,8,54,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677628623665627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5716810225391477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554859744060928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29801678797113296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526703786730558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705848474809775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184871810154222,0.2287312435174692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506074055095284,0.0,0.21719776597233534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434857705935052,0.29912477755178113,0.0,0.17618125921325978
parenting,ElleJay1907M,2020/02/02,"D day tomorrow - terrified My last pregnancy ended with an emergency section after a failed induction at 42 weeks. Mentally I had prepared for exactly this the whole pregnancy (it was the exact birth my mum had with me). Three years on I am booked in for a repeat c section tomorrow and I am shitting myself. I've had 9 months of knowing this is coming but the kadt few days I've started panicking that I'm not going to survive. I have never been scared of dying, but I am absolutely petrified of the idea of leaving my 3 year old without a mum. I've just out her to bed and sat here crying, after writing her a letter 'just in case'

On top of that we conceived 8 weeks after a carribean cruise so I'm also convinced the baby will have zika and be born with microcephaly.

I suffer from anxiety so I know thsts a contributing factor to all this. No way am I going to get ahy sleep tonight!",4.031421121251629,5.3129864576271215,5.720000000000002,78.30352020860495,71.42937853107344,8.835984354628422,29.99956540634507,9.265573868473778,2.7646561495002167,701,29,130,15,13,240,116,177,0.17600000000000002,0.765,0.059000000000000004,-0.9689,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,3,6,5,1,1,12,0,14,2,2,0,4,23,24,8,1,0,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,0,3,2,0,4,4,4,0,1,6,0,16,1,25,16,5,35,0,2,0,0,7,9,1,0,21,93,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554148113258864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867070024822132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674079768316002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134749901845072,0.25066835423442924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201695773655927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721288676544373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153540214045513,0.0,0.2208974833469176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193878755705019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21360998985580076,0.15841424459501918,0.0,0.2057795666036966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19585050221532385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15512151519368975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988813013232502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039286914826615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945697246046806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948873643674814,0.0,0.0,0.19448183107203326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755589979952995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425922095635244,0.3117780254842289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21697532206264125,0.0,0.18733825160825954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502990827420573
parenting,Dewdeaux,2020/02/02,"What was your best family vacation? We’re putting some tax refund money toward a family trip this year — yay! Problem is, we like the idea of literally any kind of trip — beach, mountains, museums, nature reserves, camping — seriously, we’d enjoy any of it. I’m hoping some of you can share some of your best trips, or ones your hope to take, to help us narrow it down a bit. I guess the only restriction is that we’ll probably stay in the continental United States. Our kids will be just-turned-4 and 16 months at the time of the trip.",6.267702265372173,6.337584718446603,6.800145631067963,76.88461974110034,65.89320388349515,10.361812297734627,29.788025889967642,10.125756701596842,2.7514802588996767,418,13,81,9,6,137,77,103,0.054000000000000006,0.685,0.261,0.9769,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,4,0,2,0,11,0,0,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,12,13,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,2,3,5,0,2,0,1,1,0,10,9,12,8,6,15,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,7,4,48,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257607276460724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975431047141692,0.0,0.2067840031942897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571131880200991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865378517374789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695589726238812,0.0,0.0,0.3762488955548061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21381808440413586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723883054611252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253496817208133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118331011835287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834746692216836,0.14405298706030778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20421338876450634,0.1812374582027801,0.0,0.19040691602021076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018832611943617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241091567689448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044507344205627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22783397773153904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197226091197648
parenting,Squeegee_House,2020/02/02,"Just turned 3 yr old sounding out words. Is this advanced? With my help we sound out the word and out it together.

I use questions like:
What sound does this letter make?
What letter is this?
What sound do these letters make together?

“Buh oo ck”

And he says “book”.

I’m curious if he is advanced as I wasn’t expecting him to know all his sounds and be able to put them together at such a young age. He was memorizing books I read aloud at an early 2 yrs old as well. He’s extremely vocal and articulates well. I still have to translate his words to other adults at times, but for the most part he makes friends and has conversations with adults without my help.

Is this normal for his age or should I consider advanced schooling and challenging curriculum?",3.4447681770284504,5.60766454109589,3.9845205479452055,86.49878292939938,74.82191780821918,7.779978925184404,26.299262381454163,8.617729084823388,1.8823051633298205,597,22,119,12,13,188,95,146,0.0,0.8320000000000001,0.168,0.9640000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,4,5,5,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,4,1,32,18,11,0,4,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,6,0,2,10,12,0,0,3,3,0,4,2,0,2,0,2,6,13,5,17,14,3,18,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,4,9,72,23,5,0.19160005090618026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767049571795653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480297240456388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25685095073335257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529837720382074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360610678036227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3836835653359605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877273693453605,0.0,0.0,0.4021040456566409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20748418384273493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261097144986924,0.21463590674651306,0.0,0.19165190060104467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236805074353293,0.0,0.1939094805555792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301204815355102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172353049018767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20840583604628127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654809263836587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34454291201146553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18469561180979668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mandirahman,2020/02/02,Crayon on bedsheets. My 2.5 yo decided that while I dealt with an up the backer on the baby that he should color on his crib bedding. Any ideas how to get it out? Ice tried the brown paper bag fd iron idea but no luck.,1.6241304347826109,3.2284503260869606,3.003695652173913,94.01032608695654,78.34782608695652,5.469565217391305,18.02173913043478,5.985473137389443,-0.3869826086956518,169,3,38,1,4,55,41,46,0.055999999999999994,0.863,0.08,0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,9,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,7,1,0,6,0,0,2,0,2,5,0,1,1,22,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710649947370431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082546038240749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8999528075446793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706265559894926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ankaytran,2020/02/02,"Teenage boy stole money for game, during punishment parents found out he has been severely bullied My (23F) brother (15M) stole $200 from my mom's  purse to buy a Nintendo game switch. When we found out and confronted him about the incident,   he was stubborn at first and tried to beat around the bush - but later on revealed something absolutely horrid.

My mom and I tried to take the game switch back and resell it as a punishment for his wrongdoing, until he broke down and said gaming is the only way out for him and he doesn't find joy in anything in life anymore. Now my mom and I were very upset and disappointed but we kept asking to learn what he had in his mind.

Now my brother is a sweet loving kid by nature. He has never been good at school because he's very lazy when it comes to academics despite being smart. And he has, what I think, a mild game addiction where he can play games until forever if we don't stop him. But other than that, he's a good and reliable kid. My family has always had issues (emotionally immature parents, incompatible parents, etc) so I know how hard it is to grow up in this family and I know it's not easy for him. But this really took me by surprise. Our family also has been going thru some financial problems so him stealing my mom's limited amount is very inconsiderate, which us so not him.

After trying to get him to share more, he then revealed that he was bullied by a guy in school for not helping that guy cheat in an important exam and also for scoring well on that exam. At first it started out with him being humiliated in school, then the dude repeatedly tried to get him to quit school and do drugs (which he declined). On top of that, he claimed to have been beaten until he coughed blood and blacked out. 

The thing is, my mom can confirm one time he came home and rushed to his room while using up a whole roll of toilet paper. My mum later found out there were blood in the used paper but she assumed he got some injuries from his sport practices. But now that he tells us, it makes sense. This happened a little over a month ago.

Now he proceeded to tell us he has been feeling very suicidal because he has no friends (he's a very shy and awkward kid). He told us many nights he's tried to end his life in the kitchen but he was hesitant. He also told us that he now has other injuries/illnesses that we wouldn't know of, which got us super worried.

He didn't want to reveal the bully's identity, which makes me suspect him somewhat making up this story to get away with stealing. My mom is taking him to the hospital first thing tmrw to have a full checkup. We will also try to get him to share more. We also scheduled a session with a counselor later this week.

But other than that I don't know how I should approach this. Him stealing money was so wrong and I think he should be punished. But now that he told us what's been happening, I don't know if this justifies his actions or not. 

For the bully part, since he doesn't want to reveal much and he's graduated from that school, we don't know if there is anything we can do. We also don't have any proofs.

We have been very gentle with him since we found out he stole. I want to be firm and teach him not to steal again but at the same time him being bullied has shattered my heart and I also want to let him know that we are always here for him.

Parents of Reddit, what would you do? And what would you say? Have you got tips dealing with bullies? And how should we start helping him heal mentally?

TLDR - Brother stole money to buy game switch. When confronted he said he's been suicidal because he's been bullied severely (beaten until unconscious, coughed blood, etc) and gaming is his only joy in life. Sister and mom is worried for him and unsure what to do next.",4.754627659574467,5.532430015957452,5.339429787234042,83.5694,69.31914893617022,8.090468085106384,27.938936170212763,8.174460898885233,1.7332518297872337,2980,97,594,39,50,960,293,752,0.205,0.735,0.061,-0.9991,4,0,2,0,0,1,77.0,21,3,0,10,32,33,9,2,26,0,69,15,4,8,2,124,117,64,2,14,19,16,2,0,1,7,9,3,3,6,40,53,1,4,22,11,5,8,16,19,1,4,33,7,76,14,91,71,13,85,0,2,1,1,134,36,0,8,40,397,116,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05179809869266192,0.0,0.0,0.04211896530259579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659827386659611,0.07907216848853246,0.0,0.0,0.03231166418599559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047121871458108186,0.0,0.0,0.07820119316550345,0.04229820754237463,0.044419883878145584,0.0,0.04464167839603677,0.03653591530751322,0.0,0.08689366475668586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05434422405937299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04092975600709146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048985628215560115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05510203331187381,0.0,0.0,0.0534477064385207,0.04208397167334498,0.0,0.10598302827537268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437805289776072,0.0,0.02402488885408245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04342762719714111,0.1212480843773288,0.0,0.2083899147367956,0.036709783478584286,0.0,0.09929799796508336,0.0,0.02700373144424513,0.07970624788481626,0.1140056754522412,0.0,0.0,0.09409415959891974,0.08403428558690024,0.0,0.04256388952212307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056305215951288685,0.06369628024695143,0.0,0.04766117549892501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959306170253691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827900752300772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858705836938528,0.10068323437763237,0.0,0.04762226919989795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042883923392741004,0.0,0.09514940798938362,0.04817250597463284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047883699577847084,0.0,0.047976359747533774,0.3895409648428652,0.0379258258088547,0.0,0.03492881359468145,0.0,0.03664630987594138,0.0,0.05053248323082106,0.04458938081084715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03219722911006026,0.07227422775989628,0.0,0.0,0.21103805911791065,0.05145385167204178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045465205547208135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053779289471325,0.0,0.0,0.03043917009026122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039482956510134,0.037785641957452716,0.0,0.2404373544412408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735630199527203,0.0,0.0786093961725068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03657918138512712,0.0,0.0,0.06726237928069781,0.0,0.0,0.03972446451486456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394686464479902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145036812612739,0.0,0.083059984025591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313338665805572,0.06089107558997847,0.0,0.0,0.055412473950073975,0.0,0.0,0.13620715985951432,0.05279064344507618,0.19355640676719285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40008081726840816,0.08207498887867623,0.0,0.2352279045874581,0.11210173923613494,0.03771500256489399,0.0381134721085568,0.0,0.042721472935808164,0.0,0.0,0.053048529464742034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650708453503566,0.0,0.06750624037348839,0.05194992790945485,0.0,0.0
parenting,inaperfectworldvf,2020/02/02,"Valentines date ...with a child? MIL won’t babysit on Valentine’s Day and regular sitter is taken. Everyone else is already prepared. Ugh. 
I get that it happens, the not-having-a-sitter thing...so I pose the question:

How weird would it be to bring a 3 year old out for Valentines Day dinner with us? 
Should we order in? 

Looking to get perspectives.",2.1059090909090905,4.8449722424242445,3.0032575757575763,88.22488636363637,84.15151515151516,5.118181818181818,26.431818181818183,6.6274283507984215,1.3144,272,12,49,3,8,86,54,66,0.086,0.882,0.032,-0.4836,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,1,0,9,12,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,8,7,0,10,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,1,5,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154864132238475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687504344529092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388241750583224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731798773544423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987311562801263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25281133371265324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24007536019254624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999931675113546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202619134130304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899324254540669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438901304222689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308785329173984,0.0,0.0,0.18410360531186104
parenting,neobeguine,2020/02/02,"Tips for a toddler who wont eat his vegetables I have a 2.5 year old who was great about eating vegetables when he was a baby, but gradually has started refusing all of them.  He's not a picky eater in other respects: he'll cheerfully eat seafood, stuff with strange sauces, and even footy cheeses when he's in the right mood.  He will happily eat most kinds of fruit, but anything else that clearly came from a plant he won't touch.  I don't think this is coming from daycare, because the teachers have told me the other 2 year olds have scolded him about not eating his vegetables and he just ignores them.

We don't offer meals different from what we are having , and he will just pick around the vegetables  or even not eat dinner and go to bed having eaten only half an apple if it's a vegetable heavy dinner.  We have tried many different kinds and preparations and he refuses to even put most of them in his mouth, let alone chew and swallow.  We have tried recipes that disguise vegetables, which works some of the time (maybe 1 in 4 times at best).  I have tried talking about how much fun it is to try new things ( works for squid but not green beans) or making the food fun by playing with him ( he thinks it is hilarious to make his brachiosaurus eat broccoli trees but that doesnt mean its going anywhere near his mouth).  I have tried pointing out how pretty the vegetables are or letting him pick them and he agrees in the produce section but not once it's on his plate.  We have tried tying a special dessert on the weekends to even one bite and swallow of a vegetable and he will sadly forego dessert.    He is generally a very easy going and compliant kiddo that responds well to positive reinforcement, but on the occasions when he is stubborn BOY is he stubborn.  I do not want to punish him or make this a true power struggle.  I'm out of ideas though.  Do I just keep trying to disguise vegetables in pizza sauce and the like, and deal with the low success rate until hes older?  Do I try a sticker chart (considering his decision to forego dessert I'm not optimistic.)?   If anyone has ideas I'd love to hear them",7.642648592283628,6.764783233576644,7.115849843587067,78.90430656934306,63.379562043795616,10.164337851929094,35.14320472714633,9.23628265651192,2.953206604101496,1683,64,326,24,21,525,211,411,0.07400000000000001,0.7559999999999999,0.17,0.9941,3,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,5,0,5,6,18,23,3,1,24,0,36,32,2,8,3,76,57,32,0,3,22,0,1,1,0,6,0,1,1,1,19,26,29,6,6,2,0,6,12,7,1,2,5,4,30,15,43,44,7,38,0,2,1,1,49,18,0,9,15,206,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286300162626846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05594267261115113,0.0,0.06583884740403807,0.0712230880148568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877145307476588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396228732317006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150655969055578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689188451212567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248358293586504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718032757329745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5730691029359632,0.0668354842065855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21137516574601886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674464009539813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364092655313772,0.0,0.0,0.08820787058585751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017357148512786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18063606411221966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111379340571715,0.0,0.1666297130069025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362491631159262,0.0,0.03908732156575005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220933528125809,0.0,0.16021564632497276,0.08111442144422541,0.08037766729163602,0.08715095004215255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05881426446773876,0.0,0.0,0.07727114583106122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790752949857204,0.08520471889468223,0.054214734287333616,0.06084883951396765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563236462707178,0.0,0.0,0.08139576266252062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804290151263078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832544064463564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05662928334254508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364056511673526,0.09158873917098644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643065016782454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05315301777407483,0.10253035974916076,0.07860635599997252,0.0,0.09330531335904246,0.0,0.0,0.076450005004816,0.0,0.4345553723116552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601405719615479,0.047190132301913185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719357959550209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649192691312127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304361861349644
parenting,hermi0ninny,2020/02/02,"Question re: Moving with kids TLDR: We have the opportunity to move to a more affordable home in the same metro, but kids would be losing a backyard/their own rooms... but our financial freedom would increase dramatically...  worried about how the kids will react.  


Hi r/parenting, I'm the mom of 3 amazing kids, ages 8, 5, & 3. My partner and I  a home in the very outskirts of our metro area, but were recently presented with the opportunity (through a family member) to own a home in downtown metro area for a significantly better monthly payment. Long-term, we could potentially sell the new home for triple the price of what we could realistically sell our home in the 'burbs for. 

I'm concerned about my kids' long-term well-being knowing that this home would have less privacy and space to spread out, particularly during the teenage years... They would also be losing a backyard and trampoline. Additionally, while it's a little more conservative than we are personally, we love our neighborhood and the sense of community I feel like we have. We know our neighbors, we have excellent sports facilities next to us, and the kids really do love their school.  


On the other hand, they would be gaining a centralized park, pool, and community garden space all literally steps away from the front door. I would spend fewer hours per week (like, 4-5 less hours) commuting, we'd save thousands on commuter costs like tolls & gas, and we'd have some really great opportunities to travel and invest in the kids' extracurriculars...  


I know I moved when I was my oldest's age (almost exactly) in a similar circumstance and it benefitted me so greatly, I just have also had the opposite experience of moving as a teenager and really taking it badly, so I want to be really careful in making the decision.",8.357962962962965,8.506652450617281,8.692962962962966,64.79833333333335,61.53086419753086,12.014814814814816,35.592592592592595,11.538034831475384,4.3132111111111096,1430,57,241,39,18,474,182,324,0.039,0.747,0.213,0.9967,2,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,16,0,3,8,9,19,0,0,28,0,26,3,1,3,2,51,38,21,0,9,4,1,2,3,2,7,0,0,11,9,7,22,0,1,6,4,6,8,0,3,0,1,3,2,31,16,34,20,11,39,0,2,0,2,34,17,0,3,17,156,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537565893742215,0.0,0.0,0.13636491770874976,0.0,0.18475853209477133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010465607602514,0.0,0.07118860932841091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540561624514924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692833854077149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614647976048772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834007228704817,0.08037561981164729,0.0,0.043110060554798935,0.06090982147702545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799908854138567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131368992424905,0.0,0.1679280179979509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057013826391335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249613120531996,0.08545300340133226,0.0,0.1509049837926774,0.0,0.190768451974196,0.0,0.0,0.1539011102625165,0.0,0.05691176852872418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985558063167324,0.0680537861024342,0.3624719075819273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823447209999712,0.09067506723115938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467123410223814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444581724163576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551080744374152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847917362681213,0.0,0.08418404769342057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628775743814704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410497287392479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102557383981545,0.0,0.0,0.07034849895688224,0.050288606912190295,0.0,0.06839049706048164,0.0,0.07665905538372292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658575453857978,0.0,0.36339790722903337,0.0,0.0,0.054904699123440384
parenting,DavidDennisonn,2020/02/02,"Toddler probably faking stomach pain at night last few days. All night. Pls help. I suspect my 3.5 yr old toddler has been severely exaggerating stomach pain this weekend. I think so because a) this only happens at night - she’s not even remotely sick when she wakes up; and b) she has shown absolutely no other symptoms (no fever, stomach is soft and not sensitive to pokes, no rashes, nothing). 

Obviously, this is a serious matter either way but I don’t know if any stomach condition that kicks in only when parents go to sleep (she naps during the day and has not complained one bit). On the other hand, it’s terrifying and heartbreaking to see her in pain, even if it’s exaggerated. 

Anyone else gone through something similar? A little lost. 

Ps, called our doctor this weekend and he said that she may have a light stomach illness that we should try to manage since she’s showing no other symptoms.",4.813993115318418,7.065168265060247,5.5969363166953565,76.05421686746989,71.16867469879517,7.8753872633390705,32.339070567986234,8.634040054169528,2.935225129087779,716,34,119,13,14,233,112,166,0.21600000000000005,0.7140000000000001,0.07,-0.9753,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,6,0,10,18,9,0,2,21,18,11,0,3,7,1,2,0,0,2,9,1,0,0,12,6,0,0,3,4,0,2,8,8,0,1,4,5,13,0,11,12,4,21,0,2,1,0,15,7,0,3,11,76,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550336097728518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981982399969584,0.14389638966003362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856103334090907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533230549440889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434039587388431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18114312118608944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374530521706952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731879461767025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551731877024205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981474111046152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418977655679547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413332613136474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718162190274204,0.11447655925263595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075680967019089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533057986698702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953775676937412,0.0,0.13475504360330978,0.0,0.1473671448770802,0.0,0.0951651260196982,0.21362043203270006,0.4483111109695078,0.0,0.1559409306796005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514170348875596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358968434342874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191172973578567,0.0,0.0,0.15865613735681058,0.0,0.11617262261166968,0.0,0.1405404603304137,0.0,0.0,0.10811683186505444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29193986504982217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998766418978384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534888742006924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147397062189804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ukelily,2020/02/02,"Parents who worked in childcare previously: how did that affect your parenting experience? So I’m pregnant with our first. I’m also the oldest of 7 and spent a lot of my adolescence being backup mom to my siblings. I went on to work as a nanny during college, and I worked in a daycare and then a preschool for several years. I now teach upper elementary and middle school. I’ve sleep- and toilet-trained children, I’ve navigated most of the standard childhood experiences like picky eating and tantrums. I have generally not had many issues managing behavior and teaching children to follow rules and expectations and setting good habits. I’ve more or less done it all.

Am wondering if I’m being overly confident because....I’m actually pretty relaxed about being a parent. I’m not excited about the loss of freedom and personal space that I know is coming, but I accept it as reality. I just feel like I’m going to be able to handle it fine. On the other hand, I’ve heard that actual parenting is often a very different experience. I’m really curious to hear from parents who have backgrounds similar to mine. How different are the two worlds?",5.379342068580988,7.536251511848341,6.8107778087538335,68.33942849177589,69.42654028436019,9.893615834959576,33.264845274602735,10.194018383442646,4.05759303038751,923,44,144,26,17,314,137,211,0.024,0.8320000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9738,7,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,0,5,9,9,1,0,11,0,13,3,2,3,1,32,29,20,0,2,6,6,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,9,12,1,0,4,1,1,4,2,2,0,2,6,4,12,7,23,19,5,20,0,1,0,0,15,9,0,6,8,98,21,8,0.11493000128981605,0.0,0.22431020481372094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190948050840013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900201951338633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24015477948804184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761329416363918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760208362575834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33727078379892617,0.0,0.0,0.05811206191228476,0.0821060158855447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775940038509916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531736829592155,0.09639783226491973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953446431169072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995706159480796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631625230296862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122979865832038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770937716086217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652098233087475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346046284620442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6380808269183985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035244406946188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692512939304008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362710177713258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163152971252234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983818793324142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501300236225125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226991127780588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482928750754356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065412626300706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463668381318485,0.2510112292460853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401115270253453
parenting,padawanjer,2020/02/02,"Funny Things Your Kids Say When They Mishear You We had a good laugh this morning when I asked our son (4) to “take a guess” at what was in a Tupperware container. He turned to me and asked, “taquito gas??”

But my favorite so far is when I told him I would give him an ultimatum and he burst into a fit, crying “I don’t want an old tomato!!”

We would love to hear what other kids are mishearing around the world, so please share!",2.4873891625615765,3.9187398735632217,3.362889983579638,93.08896551724138,75.55172413793103,6.810509031198686,21.623973727422005,7.447530270364453,0.4663904761904765,327,8,75,4,7,104,67,87,0.032,0.6920000000000001,0.276,0.9719,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,2,1,0,6,4,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,0,12,17,8,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,5,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,14,4,7,12,0,11,0,0,0,1,21,7,0,1,4,48,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517652387215374,0.4309363395974759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25317202420237384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221097912478718,0.0,0.19331612167626025,0.0,0.0,0.2539002728845078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597682922509113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080176641742482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418505304578473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529983944757303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832873570668738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329266431465354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312101348265872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202340099831803,0.0,0.0,0.2506966171702921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594337983146562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274534913952245,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anunnakicat,2020/02/02,"I have 1 daughter(3y) and currently expecting, any advice for the second kid? We practically just found out that we are expecting and with that we think we figure it out with the first one, although we want to know any advices you folks might have",10.343478260869569,8.221716391304351,9.027826086956527,71.30304347826089,59.0,12.678260869565218,38.21739130434783,11.20814326018867,4.067773913043478,198,7,36,4,2,61,34,46,0.0,0.971,0.028999999999999998,0.0772,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,20,8,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,11,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,7,0,6,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6107381318411743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4250182068469081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658103232166028,0.0,0.3426375200631125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717405241394676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315106003150956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117564806168036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20023586228227244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18431919786110865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wightokami,2020/02/02,Thumb sucking Hey everyone just have a quick question. I recently just had my my first kid born 2 days ago and was wondering if it’s ok for him to be sucking his thumb already. I’ve done some research online but want to get some feedback from parents regarding the matter.  Thank you!,2.592787878787877,5.239241400000001,3.4322727272727285,86.78174242424242,80.45454545454545,6.575757575757575,29.166666666666664,7.793537801064563,2.1618484848484854,227,11,42,4,6,72,48,55,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.6948,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,3,4,2,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,11,11,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,6,2,4,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,5,6,27,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26474936882397715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295853332751732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261484764526812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056389898768958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28538814081369457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540451281221746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604064640400958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316332235840835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33457424802850283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29489662172118314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749715052959845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616093186059162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32389051265979074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ScorpoionsLair,2020/02/02,"20 Year Old Son Feeling a Sense of Isolation and Lack of Direction. Best Approach? My son is 20 years old and he lives at home with my wife and I. We live in Australia, and enjoy a pretty comfortable living and sense of stability - my wife and I have been together for 25 years. He has a part-time job at a local bar, attends University where he studies Political Science and Finance and has a small group of close friends. He works out frequently at home and plays tennis one or twice a week   
 \- he's been playing on and off for 8 years now and enjoys it thoroughly. He's a smart a kid who has always done well at school and I'm sure he's on the right track but some of his behaviors have been unsettling.

He fought with his closest friend a month ago after getting very drunk at his home. Fortunately they are still friendly and my son has not drank a drop of alcohol since then as far as I'm aware, but this engagement has put him into further isolation. Said friend recently broke up with his girlfriend and is suffering from a depressive episode, so my son rarely sees him anymore. As for his other two or three friends - they have either been travelling overseas or have been reluctant to see him.

My son is in the midst of holidays and spends the vast majority of his time alone in his room when he isn't out playing tennis or working. I worry that all this time alone without substantive social interaction, sport or work is unhealthy. He frequently comes to me during the day asking for guidance and I don't know what to tell him...

Increasingly he has been engaging in aggressive behavior, slamming doors at night, shouting at the dog and being very intolerant of any kind of mess in the house - this isn't entirely out of character as he maintains an extremely clean room, one of the things I am very proud of him for, but nonetheless he seems very angry.

My spouse and I suspect this might be him recoiling from a breakup he went through several months ago with a girl who seemed to really mistreat him, but we're not sure.

He has also been increasingly right-wing on political issues when those discussions come up at the dinner table or elsewhere. Again, not something out of character, and certainly something we respect but the fact that my spouse and I discovered a trove of Nazi memorabilia in his bedroom a few nights ago has raised alarm bells.

He is an adult and entitled to his own opinions and will certainly move out and start setting up his own life in the next two to three years but I worry that prolonged isolation and a lack of real direction as to what he should do with all his down time is leading him down a dark path. University goes back in three weeks so some of these issues are likely to rectify themselves, but what should I do to help him improve his general mood and happiness and 'bring him back to the light' per se?

Kindest regards Reddit, cheers.",8.140128805620613,7.366286826958108,7.768625422846735,74.28784836065574,62.33333333333334,11.631563882383555,36.7291829300026,10.914260884657429,3.8837150143117363,2304,94,432,52,28,731,275,549,0.10800000000000001,0.737,0.155,0.9778,1,5,3,0,0,0,44.0,2,0,2,6,12,34,2,1,30,0,40,6,0,1,7,84,58,50,0,4,18,9,1,1,6,4,2,2,8,3,17,42,5,0,5,8,2,12,7,7,1,8,12,6,44,26,78,40,14,90,0,3,2,0,72,42,0,13,35,283,61,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153663869589542,0.08654891398625714,0.0,0.1677531928996044,0.0,0.06476410782828558,0.0673864576762501,0.0,0.0,0.0550729449498928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031589514578745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571054853194542,0.0,0.0,0.124545764083344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498932880287235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952374513523608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222897413791545,0.0,0.06975272774001744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287632595809989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04094872284113545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31284614017417306,0.0,0.04231160258480125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621061424776623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054282900988332564,0.0,0.2437053021525081,0.0,0.0,0.09344644091477604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690557280688882,0.08036565310630032,0.0,0.0,0.08433397849538961,0.04450753534427058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057202482590995335,0.0395654445642812,0.0,0.21453514911456933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591286089555902,0.0,0.0,0.1292837722580411,0.08607481345568263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612904154774471,0.15199888811730833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699614039587284,0.0,0.10975579692276988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769944885173961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239140996074927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141283699848216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217927557792904,0.05188141127772515,0.0,0.07996345150712314,0.0,0.0,0.13832241892594574,0.07703579493363652,0.0,0.0,0.08196169104022466,0.12906998178738666,0.14745238973022767,0.0,0.09149060964139734,0.0,0.0669920763448196,0.0,0.0,0.08255456023591655,0.0,0.12469325201815985,0.0,0.0,0.057321982705709734,0.0,0.06467515760581254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526558278177855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078493236140636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053803194844825784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14166996056701694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822221167278452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26728621106096817,0.0,0.0,0.12992343193474842,0.0,0.07281572727510084,0.07507440780828861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806717148778558,0.0,0.17687531500646658,0.16448949590706158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607601657418013
parenting,mha3620,2020/02/02,"Advice about Son Playing up a Level in Lacrosse I'm struggling with a decision and would love some feedback...
Last year, my son was in 5th grade but helped out the 7th grade lacrosse team after his games because they were short on players, he played on a 7/8 team for a tournament in Boston and did well, and when he was in 4th grade, he played on a 7/8 team in a tournament and was fine, so talent-wise, I know he can do the job.
My question is whether to allow him to play up for the entire season without playing on his 5/6 team. On one hand, he really loves the game and wants to push himself. On the other, there's just something about no longer playing with his age group that feels off to me. Is this a ""me"" issue that I just need to get over, or is there something to my gut feeling?
A lot of this is stemming from a parent requesting his son play up. The kid has talent, but he played behind my son. It now has me wondering if I'm making the wrong choice to keep him at the 5/6 while helping the 7th when possible.",6.008564593301438,5.036044401913877,6.0477511961722525,85.54425837320576,66.70334928229664,8.939712918660287,30.483253588516746,7.686295010490155,1.7325177033492825,796,24,173,7,11,252,119,209,0.055,0.752,0.193,0.985,2,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,4,12,15,0,1,18,0,14,4,2,2,0,30,27,14,0,4,8,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,1,6,14,0,1,2,2,1,1,5,3,17,13,36,21,2,30,0,0,0,2,33,20,0,6,9,115,23,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913286085440453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798506141719588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957273636641356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112083908522383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25946228271164873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020138216252546,0.19206652027546425,0.17203435111357085,0.0,0.0,0.10636891643628202,0.15776744858252473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454758416442802,0.3493692445453153,0.0,0.12919478971075946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351338599188934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115313059879996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21491214379190407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181962834503576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21681805014671265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399180179513415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29800540518573776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20233838834243825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141596222157167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402289185103914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18657336058196533,0.20989454457335396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749094261611033,0.2116143490614253,0.0,0.12463856317881347
parenting,softdig7,2020/02/02,"Why could a child be bullied everywhere they go? My brother's 13 year old son has been having issues with bullying for the last 5 years. Him and his wife don't know what to do at this point.

He has changed schools three times and he gets bullied at every single school he goes to. 

They tell his teachers about the bullying, but they do little to nothing about it. They've brought it to the principal's attention and they haven't done much.

The bullying is affecting his mental state.

They are thinking about pulling him out of public school and homeschooling him.

I just want to know from you all why could a child always be an easy target for bullies?",5.082857142857144,6.445201571428572,4.666825396825399,86.53928571428574,69.0,8.13968253968254,29.079365079365076,8.515128840125781,2.0030222222222216,522,19,102,8,9,158,85,126,0.12,0.84,0.04,-0.8862,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,5,0,4,0,0,0,7,0,15,0,0,1,1,17,22,5,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,14,0,16,15,3,14,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,0,5,66,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908888900982234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18954458172033956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861151112961265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833593838938915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096361261895375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936121297828128,0.0,0.1018299206180486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870133224662756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19694102423138252,0.14605245571353892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795815479164239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056739073183892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171506771102304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192432377893316,0.0,0.18801520190077545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937935240971908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5440074109813363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660783024237993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480882570761393,0.0,0.0,0.1044790390401443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568272047078113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32335716643471146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23076709920108496
parenting,nastrals,2020/02/02,"Daughter wants to start shaving her legs. Is she too young? She is 11. In primary school starting secondary school in September. She has started her periods and is quite developed. She said she doesn’t like wearing skirts because her legs have hair. They are quite dark and noticeable. So my question is, is she too young? I know kids can be vicious and I don’t want her to be a target of bullying however I know that once you start shaving your legs it’s never ending and 11 is young. If I decide she can I am going to take her to choose razor etc and teach her how to be safe and do it properly but I’m just torn between what to do.",1.3964451827242534,3.7327132790697695,2.8221760797342204,91.24063953488373,82.87596899224806,6.166334440753047,23.942967884828352,7.447530270364453,1.1396595791805093,499,19,104,8,14,162,79,129,0.057,0.905,0.039,-0.4956,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,1,2,5,3,1,0,1,0,19,5,5,1,1,19,31,10,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,6,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,22,2,10,27,1,13,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,2,11,71,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153058054570672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753325794976587,0.0,0.2109553983185644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749990853454393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790688987162573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241051500739683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458863182640564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21535174307286295,0.0,0.20144158358032452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21189445180179206,0.4023746218137719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992765056021545,0.0,0.0,0.38286551122147905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355333677066159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422193827948747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231344719771315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xyhsart,2020/02/02,"First time mom, i have been breastfeedung During the day i feed my 1 week and 3 day old baby every 2-3 hours and she goes to sleep just fine afterwards, but i always struggle at night. It seems as though no matter how long i feed her for if she falls asleep and i try putting her in her crib she wakes up and asks for more food. I fear I'm not either feeding her enough or i don't know. Any ideas?",0.21614987080103631,2.160923767441865,1.5831782945736457,100.73145994832045,84.5813953488372,4.752454780361758,15.369509043927648,5.82211442006289,-0.9630087855297158,308,5,76,2,9,98,67,86,0.128,0.841,0.031,-0.8726,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,2,1,0,3,7,3,1,0,15,7,10,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,1,0,15,1,7,6,3,15,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,10,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177609633268685,0.0,0.0,0.14515506368610254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954933413971515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753184916530845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22055355893867845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798429920046002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24019347878145103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156264260381372,0.2581076886711011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020777961463646,0.0,0.0,0.24096196415985016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730794736484547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888988029158332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499930641350207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003107724215465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398256020496912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21457878365017355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194319198305382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136067177215617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22314696628296374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097160611895825,0.0,0.12446590709360042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449202801265917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121877224800675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sawamoha20,2020/02/02,"Best Food to eat during pregnancy to get a fair baby **Best Food to eat during pregnancy to get a fair baby**

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parenting,GoodJuJuz,2020/02/02,help: Building a schedule for my 12 week old She naps okay in her crib with a merlin sleep suit. she slept a ton as a newborn but not at night. she sleeps with me with no fuss and will nurse from 2-4 time’s throughout night. she has slept in her crib a few times at night but rarely goes more than 2 hrs. thinking i need to build her more of a schedule to follow.  i know wake times are important. can you all help me start this?,0.7575335775335788,2.6601318351648366,1.4500366300366316,102.67551892551892,82.2967032967033,4.484004884004884,17.803418803418804,5.033348758259628,-0.9206859584859588,331,7,82,1,9,101,64,91,0.032,0.8640000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.6428,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,4,5,5,0,1,11,11,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,13,1,14,8,5,16,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,11,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975578990425573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198655992473635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645847757675377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6248994017662067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329156942586429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4442520606148848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710848565859534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222667676000372,0.0,0.0,0.3882900052893655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780475192879424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lordkezlar,2020/02/02,"[Serious] Unwanted advice from own parents We have a 7 month old boy and he's doing alright. Grows as expected, rolling over and sometimes trying to sit by himself. Nothing unexpected from a kid that old.

The problem is that my parents are constantly giving advice we don't ask for. Ergo, we get reprimanded with ""knowledge"" from my own childhood 30 years ago. Every time we share something, it ends in reprimanding. Mostly based on crap debunked years ago, or with modern knowledge viewed otherwise. 

Let's say we share a picture of him sitting while being fed liquid fruit. Well supported on all sides ofcourse - and not longer than a few minutes. We get a lot of backfire on that. We should be more careful, we want to go way to fast etc. All with their own experience in mind, and that is divine for some reason.

It sums up to a point where we feel like they do not trust us. But we get compliments from the doctor on how we handle his growth, and letting him explore  on his tempo. It's like you are getting advice on your flu by a medieval physician with every step you take.

Any ideas on how to bring them this carefully? We are out of ideas and don't want to cause a rift.",3.8575454122030735,5.8555827610619495,4.45160223567769,84.33263856544016,73.15929203539824,6.88178854215184,27.823940381928267,7.669130373188453,1.704109734513274,928,36,173,12,19,295,144,226,0.052000000000000005,0.8059999999999999,0.142,0.9455,2,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,13,3,3,0,4,15,1,0,10,1,15,6,1,4,2,49,31,12,0,6,4,2,1,2,0,1,3,1,0,2,8,23,2,0,7,0,0,6,4,3,1,0,1,4,26,12,35,25,11,38,1,0,1,0,34,15,1,4,16,120,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35232177416093724,0.2130684226061744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172797302152862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235407283002058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450673927053856,0.12346015833848928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987419245016066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301150772637455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644569966311493,0.0,0.1340348492384945,0.0,0.0,0.20251726430223307,0.0,0.0,0.11756118917438575,0.0,0.0,0.06076769852549688,0.08585814125806625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511608208127979,0.11528965500752535,0.06830227691931769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713420035922076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457887512540824,0.0,0.11742984105449238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021745534238246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134969627522385,0.0,0.09592823355315414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531799986333093,0.0,0.25222186774428385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668960766431184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361096387472595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499807224386045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356725108709625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955736575102897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252207909145664,0.11886320456498264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638126257612368,0.0,0.0,0.09036200866932384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007916939806892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159578070298094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456431076992293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417730740703874,0.0953949847456786,0.0,0.0,0.10805817265985904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478670922882434
parenting,emptynestingmom,2020/02/02,"My son told me a huge secret now I’m screwed. So riddle me this oh wise ones....My 25 year old son (only child) got married in June and found out he and his bride are pregnant in January. My son and I are very close and it helps that he can’t keep a secret to save his life. Within 30 mins of his wife peeing on the stick and her telling him they can’t tell a soul (even her mom which was a shocker) he ran out and hid in his garage to get a sneaky call in to share the news with me. I was thrilled...I mean crying and (literal) happy dance thrilled. I danced and cried the happiest of tears. 

I texted him today to ask him if he was ever going to admit to her that he couldn’t contain his excitement and had to spill it and his answer was NEVER!  

So here is the question....When she decides to tell me do I take an acting class and learn how to cry and dance on command so she gets the reaction she’s expecting? I’m scared that the kid is going to be like 8 years old when it slips out that I new all along and then she’s going to know my reaction was staged. Then I’m the MIL that not only lies but lied straight to her face. I’m also worried that I might not be a good enough actor and then she thinks I’m not happy for them. 

We have a wonderful relationship my DIL and I and I love her to pieces but I can’t rat on my son. He was so darn thrilled and just couldn’t contain his excitement. As far as he has told me I am the only one that knows anything at all and I’m not quite sure how I should handle it when the time comes. Suggestions?  Thanks!",1.3816055437100232,2.7357267671641807,2.8486087420042665,95.94916044776122,78.34328358208955,6.099147121535183,20.023987206823023,6.7097532225279775,-0.034362473347548494,1197,27,291,11,28,391,173,335,0.075,0.769,0.156,0.9835,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,2,1,14,16,1,1,17,0,24,5,2,2,5,63,52,35,0,5,8,6,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,13,26,0,3,12,4,0,9,10,2,0,1,12,0,45,14,32,34,4,43,1,0,0,2,53,16,2,3,18,179,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485318183389577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760675490655547,0.0,0.11088528302876052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111510270299998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021728825675156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908658747814109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255688003846067,0.0,0.0783414534495588,0.10729044914202142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005085030905267,0.0,0.0,0.12393871445896296,0.0,0.2022281111028042,0.09948528771612547,0.09486406000884344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525272513885778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950245978172645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542691552345636,0.0,0.0,0.13037101828629935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377846409835382,0.057947348206279364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070510673965834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292021618852963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582753765408236,0.0,0.13891578135976246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148012303905788,0.11455525255775545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489246049244657,0.0,0.08037389004448532,0.2706270537365406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328714765906704,0.1261574092393397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734383579506914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187503128553152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178947320942044,0.0,0.08918071818815301,0.0,0.3110137521624635,0.10920108210457448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600114589721313,0.0,0.0,0.0691630337680915,0.0,0.11242936864662392,0.22667580601213105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786650518941534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128628580724328,0.0,0.12045523815757772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276320323425435
parenting,SunflowerGoddess09,2020/02/02,What are some helpful potty training tips and tricks? I have two friends and each of them are in the process of potty training their kiddos. One of the kids is a 2 year old girl and the other is a 2 and a half year old boy. They asked if I had any tips or tricks and while I had some ideas that could help I'm hoping to get more ideas from this community.,5.23671052631579,4.072480302631578,5.327894736842109,90.70526315789476,68.34210526315789,8.126315789473685,26.894736842105264,5.985473137389443,0.6975894736842099,277,6,67,1,4,87,51,76,0.04,0.809,0.151,0.8555,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,12,8,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,6,2,6,9,4,6,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,5,5,45,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939634624568585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191272832645618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871449923576528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810926643788492,0.0,0.122461489247634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142194806916125,0.0,0.0,0.232806697288904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5292058808822848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4919153464274856,0.0,0.158831827721309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289694373389638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30188483803420435
parenting,dueber,2020/02/02,"Is anyone esle enjoying their teen aged child? So teenagers are difficult. They can be rude, hormonal,  snarky, disrespectful little assholes. Also they can be insightful, inspiring, refreshing. Listen I'm not going to sugur coat my life and say my 14 yr old doesn't make me want to tear my hair out on the regular. Overall through I'm really fucking proud of her. She's smart. She's tough. She's really kind (not always to me but Its ok because Im an adult I can handle). I felt like I lost her for a minute right around 11 or 12. I got her Apple music and designated her the car dj. I straight told her that lots of music I like has inappropriate words so I dont care if your music does. The out come has been that she's fully addicted to going on rides with me. Anywhere I'm driving she wants to be in the car. We listen to her music and we talk. We get in. I learned that I like Juice Wld and we had a good opportunity to talk about how doing drugs is dangerous.",0.9036239240785732,3.2792978527918817,3.144343412050321,87.77480688589718,85.7005076142132,6.471772235709557,20.240344294857646,7.7425588080867325,0.9220789671154273,755,23,158,15,23,257,125,197,0.09300000000000001,0.748,0.159,0.9277,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,4,1,3,3,6,18,3,0,7,1,16,5,1,2,0,28,34,11,0,3,5,0,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,2,4,13,0,0,4,1,0,7,4,6,0,0,6,5,34,12,20,25,1,19,0,1,0,1,27,10,1,3,5,95,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19460827056633825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275879969871785,0.14853921618616664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482220476902366,0.0,0.0,0.1589166634613118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882140624378704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820084737100687,0.0,0.0,0.15377531670618402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562201376662544,0.0,0.20921886410345109,0.0,0.2070213324071615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140289759444752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165034724974637,0.09326699310597596,0.0,0.20290897186721926,0.14973035155432654,0.14277517189803074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928273988673984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858964470836286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260907936249027,0.26164100293879394,0.17891945232247805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487078174152586,0.15176751435907787,0.0,0.0,0.11916049817511995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873220124377284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22872323109340464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245128173190778,0.0,0.14196270942702527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28696803158673195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057923288065924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21058616195224786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catie_wolfqueen,2020/02/02,"Fussy eater- normal? Currently dealing with my first toddler... She used to eat very well, but since starting school she has become super picky! 

She currently will only eat porridge, soy milk, bread, nut butter, prunes, applesauce, and some vegetables (only carrot, bell pepper, cauliflower and broccoli). Absolutely will not touch meat, cheese, eggs, any other kinds of fruit or veg anymore. What do I do? Is this just a phase and does it ever end?",5.7513345864661645,8.629679434210527,5.102180451127823,77.82026315789476,70.44736842105263,7.50075187969925,26.646616541353367,8.418075326091056,2.1924195488721807,351,12,54,6,7,106,67,76,0.0,0.9009999999999999,0.099,0.8351,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,1,1,12,8,5,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,5,3,3,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,6,30,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278177413580224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22281003790232867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481278785457527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316225850469758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966082619703954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597823930812224,0.0,0.0,0.19898894151422927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032248422804264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110227331636034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339568887441764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201266934485069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417398954721084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273757573648763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18584748439210846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902098975691614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19404080119301384,0.0,0.18537442280000452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020032886964816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,commonyellowstarfish,2020/02/02,"4 year old still doesn't speak nor understand anything. He just doesn't talk at all. I don't know what to do. I've taken him to a doctor and they said it was just delayed speech. I'm still incredibly worried.

He only says ""mama"" and nothing else. He responds to very few commands. The three things he complies with are high fives, hugs, and kisses. He doesn't seem to recognize his name unless I follow with something else (""Ronzel, kiss,"" ""Ronzel, hug.""). Otherwise, it's like I don't exist in his eyes. He does, however, come to me when he's sleepy because he doesn't like sleeping alone.",2.119753623188405,4.528973373913047,2.923152173913042,91.17400362318844,80.47826086956522,5.5724637681159415,22.6268115942029,6.816661863887847,0.6443768115942023,458,15,92,5,12,144,78,115,0.04,0.841,0.12,0.8337,1,1,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,0,2,0,9,7,2,0,1,15,17,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,6,0,1,3,0,0,2,7,0,0,2,3,5,8,6,10,14,2,11,0,0,1,4,18,3,0,1,8,46,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21479032115155344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066177788179995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264211513385003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864548213875173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21226931681493005,0.18148570531962285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.346490347569094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21911568430155845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397443643270935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263756289996634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899335842548235,0.0,0.21761770317845486,0.0,0.0,0.15772711010219062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727246734270684,0.16492241547303255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879727769875615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075367084451405,0.0,0.0,0.15965659540346852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312389500924384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666897635436918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777866519197546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21589711435254055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111594158307866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21061150039081145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133550387387818
parenting,Glit_1995,2020/02/02,My baby thinks her twin can carry her Today i had a moment that finally clicked and it made me really happy. My twin girls recently turned one. Baby A is walking and Baby B is taking steps by herself but not quite there. Since one started walking the other has been really clinging to her sister and reaching her arms out to her/ pulling up on her .I thought she was attempting to hug her  but after today i realized she thinks her sister can carry her around. Anyone else have any cute sibling/twin stories?,4.346520618556704,6.369518329896909,5.1964819587628845,79.40235180412374,71.88659793814433,7.32422680412371,27.5889175257732,8.07648339933343,2.0625061855670097,406,15,68,6,8,132,68,97,0.0,0.871,0.129,0.9161,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,9,2,1,1,0,13,16,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,5,1,18,3,9,11,0,15,0,0,1,1,15,4,0,0,7,51,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480268044089868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220377080544614,0.2230342734475212,0.0,0.19377734488338602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18183994873749448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23845287035244964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317196174063966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205969821270667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29500510456851753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152468845383606,0.0,0.0,0.2788969983957603,0.0,0.2149282956791556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006342299415798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540718392676028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636648859476019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789553420933726,0.0,0.17281003240840698,0.0,0.0,0.4126618437382128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23676843690351165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CBH003,2020/02/02,"Daughter heartbroken about dad's custody decision My girls were seeing their dad every other weekend for years. However, he has decided he wants less time with them and has cut back to one weekend a month. My older girls are fine with it, they like being at our place better. However, my 11 year old daughter is devestated by this. She loves her weekends with her Dad. 




How do I help her cope? She's a very anxious kid and views therapy as an ""interrogation"" and won't talk to a therapist. I've tried explaining that she could get some strategies from the therapist to help her with her feelings, but she won't listen to that either.",5.852,6.922084866666669,6.190000000000001,77.40000000000002,67.0,9.666666666666666,31.66666666666667,9.827888789773867,3.0614166666666667,504,20,92,11,8,162,86,120,0.049,0.857,0.094,0.5112,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,3,1,3,5,1,0,5,0,10,1,0,1,0,17,17,6,0,2,2,5,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,5,7,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,4,17,4,14,12,3,12,0,0,2,1,29,2,0,1,11,61,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401222947371664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634387112989269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879842158791405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970479466194235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790835077872477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747224588085592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111049201076395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849371055980152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384175357787293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918357078441714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696562969060783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230366728087367,0.0,0.14403015741780018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220707083975056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693757442974133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084055988575872,0.0,0.0,0.24307075950300994,0.4935765258413051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394028254197133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443082759316902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537695563272784,0.12536817293964556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737519385623753
parenting,museworm,2020/02/02,"Disappearing socks Just got my toddlers some new socks because all of theirs have somehow disappeared. Threw them in the wash, was just pairing them and there's already one missing... 🤦‍♀️",1.6594285714285704,3.9850886571428568,1.868571428571432,90.57142857142858,105.28571428571428,4.285714285714287,27.857142857142854,6.1826913282559595,1.5087142857142863,153,8,27,2,7,46,32,35,0.06,0.94,0.0,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,0,2,2,2,5,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5799202844647477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32034984755835194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4203033771699948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5075468994063487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561034328368174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pastel-Blossom,2020/02/02,"Fellow Mothers out there Is there mom’s out there who are unable to provide shelter for their children so the children are with their father and you send money every month to your ex as best you can? 

I miss my children so much but I deal with depression after being kicked out of the home. I don’t want court involved. Just want to save up for a car, an apartment... but I miss my kids so much. Haven’t seen them for 4 months. 

How can I deal with this depression.
I know i’m a bad mother... all I can do for my babies is send my ex money to care for them.

Please do not criticize..",0.7014494596312773,2.8390179752066125,2.1804958677685957,96.00752701843612,84.12396694214875,4.714812460267005,18.3986013986014,5.8734145424116955,-0.3623902097902096,449,11,100,3,13,145,73,121,0.138,0.732,0.13,-0.4588,0,2,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,4,1,8,8,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,1,17,20,8,0,2,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,7,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,5,0,0,1,1,18,3,19,18,4,11,0,4,1,0,24,5,0,0,3,72,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328340802782064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23036437289078865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238071833718232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4526146074051118,0.3781308455917109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18494838504336766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22018850245202906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063809201598248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25708988139294564,0.3504248773426321,0.0,0.322733255205275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409583327860849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589478105216808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raincloudnoir,2020/02/02,"I silently cry while I lay on the floor next to the bed my children share. I am lost and alone. I am homeless and staying with a friend. I’m trying to maintain a sense of normalcy for my two boys. They share time with me and their dad. Their Dad is someone who constantly makes me feel like a failure and constantly reminds me how horrible of a mother I am. I didn’t get here over night. I spent the last two years after spending 7 years trying to get away from him to trying to get on my feet. My youngest son has autism. I have struggled to keep a job since he started school 2 years ago. The school calls and I must go. And for that I have been fired. It’s been two months since then. Interviews and applications non stop and I haven’t been able to again one. Perhaps it’s because I have one outfit suitable for interviews that is outdated, ugly and doesn’t fit. I am months behind on bills.. I don’t eat anymore. All I do is try to keep it together for the boys. They’re strong and sweet and wonderful. They deserve better than me. I am nothing. They won’t remember me as their mom who tried to make sure they were ok but the woman who couldn’t make the cut. For this my ex will guarantee. I have been trying my whole life to get to a place I feel I can live. To live and breathe and be happy.. it’s all delusions. People say, “stay positive!” “It’s going to be ok”. But they’re the ones who have never struggled. They have always had it pretty well. They have rich spouses and family they can count on.  I sit on a bank account deeply overdrawn. I think about ending my life every second of the day. I truly believe they will be better off without a mother than with me as their mother. I don’t know what else to do.. but to cease to exist.",1.3823339540657962,3.4951062681564236,2.6592830540037258,93.70898665425207,81.29050279329608,5.542023587833643,20.8382991930478,6.691623216298621,0.26279490999379274,1356,39,295,14,36,436,181,358,0.065,0.792,0.14300000000000002,0.9807,1,1,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,12,4,5,18,1,2,17,2,39,5,2,4,5,40,59,22,0,2,4,9,3,1,1,4,2,1,1,4,14,17,1,3,6,0,6,2,9,4,1,7,9,5,49,14,44,42,3,37,0,1,0,0,38,11,0,1,22,197,63,5,0.09336242786152933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827601591326932,0.0,0.0,0.0966953186295125,0.0,0.0,0.07768501908895145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259044120590026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771707427909728,0.0,0.0,0.05691286946566259,0.0,0.0,0.10518748507444303,0.0,0.16514296085259642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953334773918354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20178323381634405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255424304401696,0.060211042289737685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553307165801196,0.07799232847322775,0.0,0.08269139964858384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866187216183394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880137879445545,0.0,0.09441369750773967,0.06669813711897171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721315801703018,0.0,0.1951120606621758,0.0,0.106120038583403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938604052588976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264780359361978,0.16596963125553155,0.0,0.0,0.05130954871427288,0.07610283962440018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188928770722624,0.04561216633475482,0.0,0.16488146856140248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019161187742902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696043670611326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934494712938912,0.14904199837910914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200685997792024,0.0,0.09929200120438764,0.08761431400373311,0.0,0.08958376753174123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897943920727901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472575205321585,0.0,0.09754386593546724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498315353386312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057614308495054,0.0,0.0,0.074245549928954,0.0,0.18897552275601126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446073021553167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910568215454393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608240697416949,0.19902385166817874,0.0,0.07805517018502355,0.0,0.19520536151447676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799298336054251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982287396405835,0.0,0.0,0.054440382486814175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803217602835543,0.0,0.2736045777880777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839440350243511,0.0,0.0,0.10423581654288268,0.0,0.08999804881250664,0.10124757044129444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036702760616674
parenting,fastball47a,2020/02/02,"Desperate for help. My 11yo son has now been suspended twice for inappropriate behavior. He is disrespectful (particularly to female teachers), he does not understand boundaries with friends, often lies, is sneaky and has been caught stealing things. His Dad and I separated amicably when he was 4. We have a great relationship and communicate daily. I am remarried and my husband is a teacher in his school. He was diagnosed with ADHD several years ago. After I quit my corporate job to stay home with him, we were able to close his IEP and get him caught up in regular class. He is now in 6th grade really struggling. His inappropriate behavior is always  related to trying to impress his peers, giving attitude when being held accountable for his work, and he lies about anything and everything. No form of discipline seems to affect him. We started counseling but aren’t yet far along enough to have tangible results. Do you have any similar experiences? What discipline works? Any and all advice is welcome. Thank you for your time!",6.0180000000000025,8.812525188888891,6.628611111111113,67.57625000000003,69.33333333333333,10.944444444444445,33.47222222222222,10.820120047756994,4.662222222222223,834,40,129,29,16,272,122,180,0.078,0.828,0.094,0.7232,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,3,0,3,7,7,0,1,2,0,20,1,0,2,1,27,29,11,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,16,0,3,2,0,1,2,3,2,0,1,8,0,21,5,22,20,3,19,0,0,0,0,29,6,0,2,10,88,23,6,0.17749816686411796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133183034492844,0.1734491543730318,0.15734141529848505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769269391263048,0.0,0.0,0.2414096802781901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606586750520453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015690306001966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532984196182825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18340305462144552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952390722959986,0.17362726642098653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371346434159773,0.0,0.0927354662198303,0.1702724154642749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956923555912656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897327974823985,0.0,0.17804513368062658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613954219618744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879114914121214,0.0,0.0,0.11370987079347478,0.0,0.0,0.1905666043774788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796376210413545,0.0,0.16158766474816344,0.0,0.2005224057119305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256341160844738,0.1891894289945642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855596229901829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341646441767382,0.0,0.0,0.11792189501807132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350060850091372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050960401506065,0.0,0.0,0.18478185151461046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25844155894008464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430299995449705
parenting,IT_Hero,2020/02/02,"Raising a family in the City? My wife (35) and I (33) are currently debating where we want to end up long term. We met in the city (Chicago) but live in Northwest Indiana at the moment. We have a 7 month old son and plan on trying for another child soon. We can live comfortably, financially speaking, in either location. However, we’re trying to come up with a list of pros and cons for raising a family in the city. For those of you having raise a family or currently raising a family in the city, mind sharing your thoughts or experiences?

Thanks in advance.",4.537686915887849,6.05598570093458,6.1683060747663525,74.66124415887852,70.49532710280374,10.583644859813083,31.132009345794398,10.686352973137794,3.7513,438,19,80,14,8,150,69,107,0.0,0.88,0.12,0.9146,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,11,0,4,0,0,0,0,16,9,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,9,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,8,3,19,7,2,23,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,2,9,52,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770055135897832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241045165898949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669904126935883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442822546247334,0.7109546498933317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329684174848169,0.16685190137708725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903715784233141,0.0,0.1504907700424369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197840936356588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358223259028466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967964101557327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560124671408935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120573317090196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greyxllyssa,2020/02/02,Regret Sometimes i regret having my kids so young . Like I wish I would've waited so I have more freedom to enjoy my youth ! Then I feel bad about having regret . Sometimes I don't wanna be a mom !!,-0.19866666666666788,2.1045378000000032,2.055000000000004,92.20333333333336,96.0,2.666666666666667,14.166666666666668,3.1291,-1.1583333333333332,152,3,29,0,6,51,29,40,0.235,0.473,0.292,0.6044,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,8,3,0,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,8,2,3,7,1,3,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28976798270711945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547632127097065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954860078361536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4064547746424414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6864725299014095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990844902963733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465307289353124,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arniepepper,2020/02/02,"Kid came home from 4 hours day care with a black eye. None of the staff are 'able' to explain. As the title says.
I'm a first time parent, so still learning. What's the etiquette for this scenario? 

 Now I've got no problem with the kid getting bruised. It's a part of life. But it's the lack of any form of explanation. In fact we got a reply, ""we thought she got that at home"" 
She was not bruised when we dropped her off. 

 But when a 16mo old is in day care, for only her third week, I expect, at that age, she is watched like 99% of the time. And if something happens during the 1%, there should at least be a reasonable deduction of what happened. 
But don't tell me, ""uh... We don't know!"" 

Am I being unreasonable? Or what's the etiquette here? 

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parenting,silentuser01,2020/02/02,"I am just wanting to express my feelings to other parents and get some opinions on my situation. Hi all, so I am currently dealing with the fact that my daughters 10 and 12 have decided last year that they wanted to go live with their father, it's their wish to do so, so I let them go and do that. Their father was emotionally verbally and physically abusive towards me throughout our relationship much of this was witnessed by my children. He now has a new girlfriend with 4 children and has our children and I have heard that he is treating her the same way that he treated me. While my kids were living with me I was working and we had a routine and rules and it was a nice environment for them to live in. I just don't understand why they wanted to go live with their father, it boggles my mind. Opinions please.",4.947664772727271,6.015216118750002,5.643977272727272,80.50511363636366,69.0625,8.068181818181818,33.29545454545455,8.296473431620573,2.5635,649,30,123,9,11,211,93,160,0.027000000000000003,0.9229999999999999,0.05,0.3818,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,8,1,6,3,0,0,5,0,17,0,0,0,2,31,28,13,0,4,2,5,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,10,15,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,2,27,3,17,20,4,13,0,0,0,0,30,3,0,3,6,96,37,1,0.0,0.1957776460879154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035106545266995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858682652335854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354828880963296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632899263959963,0.0,0.28172228816678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468939766184534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689650099823918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5836256779836507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684126135054647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214674758210336,0.0,0.0,0.15958596307952527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347502895951465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813795138214312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774016312988453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573219250422607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720165083499117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923814302320254,0.1311566495015177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490997935089669,0.0,0.19001325086613,0.0,0.0,0.12029377944041812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640656961129134
parenting,USsee,2020/02/02,"Thoughts on allowing 14 year old to wear a political t-shirt. When my 18 year old was visiting from college during winter recess she bought my 14 year old a shirt for the political candidate they support. The shirt has a slogan supporters of the candidate sometimes use and is very obviously in support of said candidate but it is not derogatory or offensive. 

My husband and I have mixed feelings on allowing him to wear it. My husband says absolutely not because he doesn't want our son to be a walking political billboard. He thinks political opinions should remain in your head and wearing a shirt supporting a candidate is essentially telling people you want to fight with them. I think it's more along the lines of wearing a sports jersey. We live in an area split between Patriots and Giants fans. Wearing either shirt is more likely to get you into arguments than wearing a shirt supporting a democratic candidate will. 

While this candidate is supported by 2 of my kids, neither my husband nor I are supporters so this is not coming from us.",9.141052631578948,8.946567315789476,9.147368421052633,63.32157894736845,60.05263157894736,13.073684210526311,43.21052631578947,12.340626583579946,5.783589473684211,850,46,134,26,10,279,116,190,0.049,0.831,0.12,0.9294,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,3,3,2,0,2,10,2,0,14,0,14,12,12,3,1,27,32,10,0,3,6,4,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,1,5,9,0,0,4,1,1,3,6,2,0,0,4,3,19,8,23,25,4,20,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,2,10,92,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398927201770573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042311535909464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05307642918676903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484295046474387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077304034006616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128346798033804,0.0,0.09269120711634417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304478306941438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277358870795754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985134165244808,0.08347705422539582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381888096944608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8338379469383099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917491728507898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452219826226222,0.0,0.08333515059041409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626703972167833,0.09066113399487538,0.0,0.08661196656251995,0.12382908533766873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20279340860645664
parenting,titanicgirl,2020/02/02,Conflicted on More Growing up I always wanted 3-4 kids. Well after my pregnancy with my first and the birth I’m conflicted. I had cholestasis so I had to be induced at 37 weeks. To say the whole experience was traumatizing is an understatement. I lost 30 lbs during my pregnancy. I physically cannot breastfeed(flat nipples and very very few milk ducts.) and I’m already battling PPD. I know in my heart I don’t want more. But I keep some things on the off chance I do have more. In case I meet someone who wants kids. But I just don’t want to go through it all again. But I would love another kid one day with a future husband. Idk if this is the right place to post. But I’m just so conflicted. I love being a mom but don’t know if I can handle doing this all again,0.9045850914205359,3.231469810126584,2.6953586497890316,91.37239099859356,85.07594936708861,6.042756680731365,21.436005625879048,7.3871296695380915,0.7478976090014062,602,20,131,10,18,199,97,158,0.046,0.8690000000000001,0.085,0.5418,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,7,5,1,0,7,0,16,4,1,1,2,29,30,12,0,7,9,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,5,5,1,4,3,0,0,2,4,2,1,2,4,1,18,3,15,23,8,20,0,1,0,2,10,9,0,3,8,88,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19777056936259546,0.0,0.1491230164032246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879247964333424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558022836741245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530875097897844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152442006849158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018532301334936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123731725685208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929642764080726,0.0,0.0,0.196986105282396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19563667783011413,0.0,0.3235009300374902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098969471284416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144217153761802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724376579315785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164047893404366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530504574489407,0.0,0.14252066215294892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185010026209864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190639036991345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957458175639375,0.42282764766631015,0.0,0.14375717866527032,0.0,0.1611377310412415,0.0,0.0,0.20008953543963925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731071352868836,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Honest-Acanthisitta,2020/02/02,"How did you stop (or keep!) Cosleeping? Hi, looking for advice :)

I just don't sleep well when I bed share with my almost-5-month-old son. I follow all safe sleep guidelines.

He's had loads of health issues the past two months - flu, severe eczema itching, allergic reactions, virus- and we were just surviving it all any way we could. So now he will only sleep in my arms,  preferably while nursing. 

Has anyone had a similar experience? How did you get the baby back in his own space- or did you ever??

Someone give me hope, lol 

Note- I'm not against cosleeping,  it just isn't my personal preference.",1.5872426470588223,4.3301456339285735,2.256197478991595,90.62115546218487,92.66071428571428,5.492436974789918,21.76680672268908,7.048011613610866,1.0080707983193284,469,17,88,8,17,145,88,112,0.094,0.764,0.142,0.7807,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,3,0,1,11,4,0,0,3,1,11,8,5,2,3,22,18,8,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,2,4,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,6,1,13,4,6,10,3,13,0,0,1,0,13,3,0,3,8,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732661228975502,0.0,0.0,0.17755121647856764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057746687476127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397987787266765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634110865883955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156829593823314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603878265375795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173444046993531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263760751724368,0.17009273622888807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884731556050407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610969442993213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506647383539546,0.0,0.15760204169697625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889646777400814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830556779026664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605792349099168,0.0,0.0,0.1348529010058683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926328157570394,0.0,0.1548210060982595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031080530420733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.532316743410255,0.0,0.15023491855800172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823982066001798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320694856779928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407411096585065,0.0,0.0,0.15942375973290338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Luumiii,2020/02/02,"What to do when a 5 year old boy slaps my daughter who is also 5 at a kids amusement play place? The protective dad in me wanted her older brother, 9, to handle it but I also realize I don’t know the other kid or who his parents are. Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do?",1.4069354838709671,2.5822761451612912,3.9008387096774193,89.18125806451616,77.87096774193549,6.250322580645161,23.690322580645162,6.742157984588678,0.7024735483870965,219,7,49,2,5,77,51,62,0.069,0.835,0.096,-0.3591,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,10,5,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,2,5,9,0,8,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,4,36,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5152907280069189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290270885617486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770604201801909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33807126553483163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35774017219038434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366070901288143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19002873540819512,0.2557296360309617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22886577099957464,0.3522507027080439,0.0,0.20747185462132325
parenting,unsure50555,2020/02/02,"Bad Gender dissapointment depression for 2nd child me and the gf (26) are pregnant with our second baby and went for a early gender scan and found out it was a girl. Ever since finding out i have been utterly depressed and have lost complete interest in the pregnancy. 

We also have a son which i love a lot and wouldnt change for the world from the moment i had the gender scan for him.  I am completely lost as to why i dont feel the same towards a girl and it is sad. I see no situation in 16 years when my daughter is grown and i be happy with how they turned out ( i dont ever want to meet or even hear about boyfriend nonsense  at all). 

Any other dads or parents had something similar to this? People keep saying to me it will change when i see them but im really unsure. If it doesnt ,  is it wrong to love one child and not the other? they would always be looked after but i just dont want to be a dad to a daughter. 

Feel free to flame me all you want you cant make me feel worse than i have been feeling lol. thanks",3.17462015503876,3.9040899348837215,4.54418604651163,88.01224806201553,72.90697674418605,7.407751937984497,23.635658914728683,7.554174236665415,0.8459984496124027,796,20,177,9,15,265,125,215,0.11800000000000001,0.747,0.134,0.8917,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,2,3,2,9,13,0,0,14,1,25,2,0,2,4,41,46,18,0,6,7,6,4,0,1,3,0,2,0,4,9,14,0,1,6,0,1,2,8,7,0,2,9,11,24,7,26,31,4,18,0,5,5,2,24,8,0,4,8,127,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622019817666452,0.1001162299529178,0.0,0.0,0.08182201307090095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004625267641156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545661055746805,0.0,0.2523073470061798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20726360669716876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4230439162170577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947050410564901,0.21767342073957804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433504827891436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997068611844414,0.0,0.0,0.13192513258747718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808332679955692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560986046091095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996670308288144,0.0,0.0,0.10694631965626283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103885118991472,0.0,0.2626879082421923,0.10229212027019728,0.21718775734820636,0.0,0.08031481613348904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153223201149615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360158991042698,0.0,0.0,0.08341503101151858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708034345294401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956836290553884,0.0,0.0,0.19175959713934007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995302966151494,0.13524519580040256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262853934691287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077487921921844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308740684935017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21290430725536325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115382368342352,0.1085704664066839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226167895007524,0.08547217578166283,0.13155149347838535,0.0,0.07748240704799099
parenting,kitrinasmith,2020/02/03,"Struggling lately as a mom I am a stay at home mom of 3 kids. 5 year old, 2 year old and 9 month old. My husband works from 8-5 Monday- Friday. But when he gets home he expects dinner ready and on the table already played for him to eat. Than he leave his dirty dishes on the table goes to his man cave and blares his music, he will say goodnight to the kids if I bring them to him but other than that I do not see him until we go to bed. Now he says that’s how it should be because I don’t go to work I’m a lazy person who just takes care of kids and any person in the world could do that so he doesn’t feel that he should need to contribute to the house hold chores or taking care of the kids since he works all day and gets the money to pay the bills. All 3 of our kids have really bad nasty colds right now and our youngest just got her first tooth, I went 25 hours with NO sleep, I am exhausted!! And he says I need to figure it out and calm down as I am getting even more short with the kids too, I do feel bad I honestly do I’m just stressed and would like a hand. I really don’t know what to do right now. My husband is 34 and I am 27. So there is an age gap",2.8954454022988507,2.5706520000000026,4.063829022988506,94.98126077586208,73.06130268199234,7.291283524904215,21.6764846743295,6.322622252153567,-0.00034693486590064987,896,14,233,5,16,294,147,261,0.131,0.773,0.096,-0.8683,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,1,4,13,11,0,2,14,0,21,7,3,1,2,37,41,21,0,8,8,4,3,1,0,4,1,3,4,9,9,14,3,1,4,1,3,4,5,5,0,1,2,8,25,6,30,33,3,32,0,0,1,0,37,10,0,2,18,132,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795501237840434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788507797306786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19362878696715635,0.07068276417953198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364399150862808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257758359998924,0.0,0.0,0.07477891983178027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864700618238234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658466198931814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725680287976915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986280159694072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817391202795667,0.0,0.13179545737786116,0.0,0.0927367523936663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23261697876891055,0.0,0.1141885574444184,0.13379209584471696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372373710865636,0.0,0.13079798350066438,0.1227755594524327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056647890486389976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27160124536799346,0.09255112704019162,0.0,0.0,0.17195266412248406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650137804994757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248819893049486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856259226735302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198043351349157,0.0,0.276627101020138,0.0,0.0,0.09239807961077386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591601575641648,0.0,0.11603492031445192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358853195806138,0.0,0.0,0.13282168694529067,0.12121735087380042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436171675834025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748790715456423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532415238745361,0.0,0.0,0.08236839271873866,0.0,0.0,0.1493375188862643
parenting,Jujubeez4,2020/02/03,"Anyone have a kid that had a lot of dental extractions? Anyone have a child who had to have a lot of dental extractions (4 or upwards of 4 teeth)?  Did the child have a hard time eating with so many missing teeth?  Also, if anyone has a strong argument for or against spacers to put in place of the missing teeth - - I'd like to hear your opinion/experience.",5.958142857142858,5.775904671428576,6.5749999999999975,79.09250000000003,66.57142857142857,9.285714285714286,31.785714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.487,277,10,54,4,4,91,44,70,0.134,0.784,0.083,-0.3811,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,8,0,8,4,3,0,0,6,11,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,1,2,11,8,2,4,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,5,2,37,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172164861798075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5291304140258495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581114163487133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246745740708725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259635571218569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843004394025824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323502899123324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289023621349656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557386302735377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635441837656117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25357767208873944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470871184854113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,19PointsToGryffindor,2020/02/03,"Unmotivated 9yo Our 9yo son is (and has been for a long time) a negative soul. If he can't win at a game, it's tantrum and/or tears. If he can't do something perfectly and have it mastered first shot, he won't continue to try the activity. Funny enough, he plays a sport and the team frequently loses, he's always a gracious loser on the field. 

If he was allowed, he'd be on electronics every spare second. we've recently limited electronics to weekends only. We told him he can have them during school week IF he reads for 30min, practices his math for 15min and practiced his trumpet for 20min (which he begged to take lessons for). There's also a conditional physical exercise component, which he usually does when soccer is in season (3 days of practice and 1-2 game days) and we've recently been exercising at the Y and playing tennis or shooting hoops. 

He doesn't want to read because it's boring. If I can make it through the 20 minutes of whining and stalling, he grabs the same books which he has read a billion times and that are frankly way below his reading level. If he was a frequent reader, I wouldn't mind rereading of favorites but he reads maybe a couple times a month at home. 

Math he refuses to practice because he doesn't like it...because it's hard. Well, duh its hard when you don't practice!

Trumpet, I can get him to practice sparingly for 5 minutes. Music teacher wants at least 20 minutes several times a week. 

But everyday he comes home from school and asks to use electronics, knowing full well the answer is no. Then meltsdown when we remind him WHY he's not to have them during the week. It's getting to the point where I'm going to take away all electronics indefinitely. Which I have take away for weeks, but he still doesn't do the required things to make him a better student. He'll just lay in his bed or on the couch and listen to music. 

I can't figure out how to motivate him to WANT to practice these things AND to have a more positive attitude about life in general.",5.889064625850338,6.2971239948979605,6.282551020408164,79.11125850340139,66.70408163265307,9.390476190476187,33.425170068027214,9.2995712137729,2.9189690476190475,1594,67,304,28,24,515,204,392,0.08199999999999999,0.84,0.077,0.7639,1,0,1,1,0,0,45.0,3,1,2,12,12,13,1,0,24,1,31,3,0,6,2,52,50,29,0,10,13,1,3,1,0,3,3,1,4,0,15,16,0,3,5,16,0,2,12,5,2,3,5,4,21,8,43,40,6,48,1,3,0,0,45,18,0,9,28,180,36,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854873293595274,0.08172923313551607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182505335884436,0.0,0.18456709666281895,0.0,0.0,0.17962711079381855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687007936985132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846102398562271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086816534180988,0.0,0.12669115282048676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595542900795765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149040288877847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275694032371078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835482584642203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026347118171581,0.0,0.05582227741877721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597666113899232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705094211141108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05398067887639014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06937766424925865,0.04798669576074413,0.0,0.0,0.08692408186651022,0.0,0.10988618215376056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311289555169417,0.0,0.0986779986905465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991770218460174,0.0,0.07840049713163964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470286098369247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928522888149273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49124687279698404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939663189284853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988134229399792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096379929950877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561670561153139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844085022894237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22155395150364204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050971980259346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290980044508633,0.0,0.0,0.0938560889853358,0.0,0.06668682966431644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483295739679939,0.10817853086329499,0.0,0.17380304643325226,0.0779646820430842,0.3151536028018235,0.0,0.17662817591601415,0.0,0.08863079407561109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShortFly,2020/02/03,"How do you raise soft gentle kids to also be strong and not a doormat? I have the most loveliest, empathetic little boy. And I teach him how to be gentle and kind and consider other people’s feelings. But I don’t know how to teach him not to be doormat and stand up for himself. Especially when there is no situation occurring that creates a need for it.


But I worry that as he gets older it will create issues when he meets people who may not always have his best interest at heart. 


How do you teach the balance? Is it just teaching confidence or is there more to it? When I meet people who are very successful but also kind they seem to have this inner strength about them. 


I think I am very empathetic, but not strong. And people always walk all over me. I have pretty bad social anxiety and I think I bring out the worst in people because I come across as someone who people can walk all over.



Hoping that someone who has found that balance could tell me how to teach it to my kids, especially as it’s not something I possess myself.",3.9004411764705855,5.5421430147058866,4.884460784313728,82.75257352941178,72.28431372549021,7.256862745098039,25.495098039215684,7.865858978985527,1.4526333333333334,821,26,156,11,16,268,111,204,0.07,0.7190000000000001,0.21100000000000002,0.9826,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,2,5,14,11,0,0,5,0,20,1,1,5,2,38,31,25,0,3,11,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,16,9,0,0,6,0,0,4,7,2,0,0,1,2,24,9,21,24,6,18,0,0,0,0,21,9,0,5,4,123,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187927662485946,0.23086334367734435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061254945553965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583094396355904,0.08456646788018729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14558504261042055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950071065858507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107619281844798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014435392820192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521065927000297,0.0,0.0,0.07247894002682469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439172808160207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778684837422556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479456257108925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28892488093970303,0.0762405294976449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904053108883066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286404059193203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5770534801797332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113485891493385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629151650129294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593454794223452,0.0,0.141414332115825,0.2350852519604077,0.10679853967550207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125319189087184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777808498176076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22892800175387304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088362979157226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ljc2020,2020/02/03,"DAYCARE JAM UP As a father of my first child, now over 2, things have been going quite well on the parenting journey. While not perfect, we have been fairly satisfied with our child's daycare. However, we were previously annoyed by the timeframe to move our child from one room to the next. This first occurred during her move from the infant to 1 year old room, where she was the last of her peers to move and was stuck in a room of squirming babies when she was ready to walk and socialize. But, the delay wasnt too long.

Now, she is 2 years and 2 months. A month ago we inquired about the move to the 2 year old room because we feel moving with her peers is important for socialization and speech development.  At this point, all of her peers had moved on and we were told she was next to move.

Today, after inquiring and showing we were annoyed, we were first informed she cannot be moved until June because there is no room for her. We are livid. She is now in a room with kids who barely talk and walk. How does this happen? She is going to move 6 months late during a crucial period of development. 

Is this normal? Did the daycare not plan appropriately? What do we do? It is tough to find room at other daycares so we are feeling trapped.

Thanks for the support!",4.031275466893039,5.5703779637096815,4.440848896434634,86.47206281833616,71.78225806451613,7.1565365025466905,25.552631578947373,7.669130373188453,1.2278435483870975,997,31,200,12,19,314,132,248,0.094,0.8420000000000001,0.065,-0.8173,2,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,12,0,0,6,11,7,2,0,15,0,28,0,0,1,2,34,37,14,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,5,9,20,0,1,6,1,0,14,5,3,1,4,15,3,25,4,35,21,1,59,0,0,0,0,37,17,0,0,28,139,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747118383796746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275632985249744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375666493260691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523208489384385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703318068370511,0.2150733575424716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579999911281016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453122266910216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870193476955744,0.09507495138770886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458784692016536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20182177894613776,0.8062158925596641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792719594577526,0.0,0.0825794939067664,0.0,0.0,0.1768817658500329,0.0,0.05711237586826296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935863526768892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967472483575427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964539816419903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718319106971806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564340621638456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774352291677835,0.0,0.07759650855427795,0.0,0.0,0.05599391327008059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989047633781977,0.08053606604110453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578058383891571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282656240339338
parenting,TodaysTale,2020/02/03,"Sporting Mum - The Circle of Life.  To all you sporting mums out there who are also working mums, ever feel like you are constantly juggling to keep all the balls in the air? 

[https://www.todaystale.com/yvetteaudet-a\_\_DBzz/sportingmumthecircusoflife-s\_\_fuDw](https://www.todaystale.com/yvetteaudet-a__DBzz/sportingmumthecircusoflife-s__fuDw)",26.34960784313725,34.161339058823536,14.512352941176472,11.2022549019608,26.058823529411768,6.886274509803924,28.98039215686275,7.793537801064563,2.0425803921568635,304,6,25,2,3,74,26,34,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,3,6,4,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,18,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425789491312033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462931484134097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874983275021141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166040868867542,0.30603798959400097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807678480772209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30258065818920266,0.20928703992461287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118690355611945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PsychoFinkk,2020/02/03,"Teaching 4 year old Hi,
My newly 4 year old is an awesome daredevil, he is very mechanical loves building, bike riding, taking things apart and rebuilding. I try teaching him his letters/writing but I can not for the life of me get him to engage in these activities. My 6 year old daughter LOVED reading writing and learning at a super young age, so the typical approach was very easy with her. I’d love to teach him in his style but I’m not sure how. Does anyone have advice on how best to teach him and get him engaged?",3.086494066882416,5.0762177572815546,4.224789644012946,85.1567529665588,75.31067961165049,6.519525350593313,27.94929881337649,7.3871296695380915,1.6104528586839268,411,17,79,5,9,134,74,103,0.019,0.6579999999999999,0.322,0.9913,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,4,0,5,4,0,2,1,13,12,8,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,13,8,10,11,1,15,0,0,0,3,15,5,0,0,8,45,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728666505232554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369403702074384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564780321969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548081891970455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848480551903696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495116011990373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4789830611208326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568868772382729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694993720378482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672810270562652,0.0,0.1330083371408437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752587142216946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010488997348726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919254606038619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417573896797143
parenting,BooksForDinner,2020/02/03,"How to celebrate anniversary with kids Our 10th wedding anniversary is coming up and we’d like to celebrate by doing something special. We don’t want to buy anything for each other because we don’t need or want any more stuff, and we don’t have anyone in our lives who could take care of our kids while we go on a trip, so we’re wondering what we could do that includes the kids. Any ideas?",7.0465189873417735,5.9227958987341776,6.8998417721518965,80.77102848101269,64.69620253164557,10.431645569620251,33.67405063291139,9.516144504307137,2.808718987341772,312,11,64,5,4,99,56,79,0.0,0.782,0.218,0.9468,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,9,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,0,19,18,6,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,10,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,10,15,2,7,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,2,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34086423965411033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752413112450368,0.0,0.20624123609792816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277735205028647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25552668012619123,0.0,0.0,0.21588937790818424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002038756066666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243473090061134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829226711529875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244165615485952,0.0,0.2213045520765008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18583365412747044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294170022067772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28690318139008675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843717909517715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956476791838377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717897702008924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sushipoutine,2020/02/03,"My 8 mo daughter had an anaphylactic reaction. This weekend we were sitting down eating dinner and when my daughter started furiously scratching her cheeks. She has pretty bad eczema, so at first we weren’t concerned because she scratches at it pretty regularly. 

I knelt down in front of her high chair to try to distract her and noticed that hives (they actually looked like blisters) were forming along her jawline. I went to the bathroom and quickly got the infant Benadryl and gave it to her. 

While I was doing that, I noticed that the lower half of her face was swelling up. It was deeply disturbing. I can’t get that image out of my mind. Something in my lizard brain knew that something was very wrong.

My wife and I quickly strapped her into the car seat and we started driving to the hospital, which is about 30 mins away. An eternity.

About 2 mins into the drive, my wife in the back seat decided to call 911. We pulled over in a parking lot and waited, while on the phone with 911. They said an ambulance would be there in under 30 mins. (Are you fucking kidding me... 30 mins???) 

While we were waiting, our daughter threw up. This escalated the 911 call. Thankfully, her breathing was shallow, but it never became restricted. Our daughter was still alert and conscious the whole time. We were terrified and helpless, but she wasn’t freaking out. 

The ambulance got there and the paramedics gave her an EpiPen. They were calm which calmed us down. They checked her vitals and they were all good. So my wife and daughter rode in the ambulance to the hospital and I followed behind to meet them there. 

When we arrived at the hospital, doctors checked her over and then decided to keep her overnight to make sure there wasn’t going to be a rebound effect, once the epi wore off. 

Now we’re all home. This was about 3 days ago. We’re still really shaken but thankful that everything went as well as it could’ve, given the circumstances. We were praised by doctors by how we handled things (mostly about deciding to pull over and call for an ambulance instead of driving there ourselves). It all happened so quickly. From her first bite to out the door it was only minutes. 

The next step is to go to an allergy specialist and figure out exactly what caused the reaction. We have two epipens at the ready in case something happens again. 

My question for you, anaphylactic parents of reddit, is how have you dealt with this? I’m terrified for my daughter and for us. I know it will get easier, I know I’m still in a bit of shock, but I can’t help but feeling extremely anxious about everything that lies ahead of us. How have you moved forward? How do you live normal lives without being so paranoid that one bite of food will take your baby’s life from you? Any advice?",4.4239700472937455,6.603727847784202,4.402520143632863,84.50770034156595,72.06358381502889,7.261534419337888,30.48524259940445,8.07648339933343,2.231381117533718,2199,97,400,33,44,677,257,519,0.08199999999999999,0.818,0.1,0.8493,4,1,3,0,0,0,66.0,15,7,6,5,31,19,2,2,30,0,37,11,4,7,6,74,71,38,0,2,6,10,3,1,0,3,3,1,2,2,24,36,3,4,11,1,2,17,7,9,1,5,30,5,64,10,74,35,8,80,1,1,1,1,67,32,1,3,33,294,88,2,0.0,0.0,0.09060906375012164,0.0,0.0,0.09073280408920494,0.08230670170171403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314178153561603,0.0,0.0,0.10489506402451214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723645704041078,0.07139659440848721,0.07752660536424416,0.056601033869307885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136911141750808,0.0,0.0,0.10365228830329376,0.2844333856329144,0.0,0.0,0.09538342941783202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413387132925747,0.0,0.0,0.05988113542586244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900736176383446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500962919848097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668967655048797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046948194147778136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795782004698672,0.11227565113385578,0.0,0.0,0.08583914121615807,0.09702150372608784,0.0,0.10553858827475524,0.07787891180714891,0.14852265963541667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421545085038866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062235986807010986,0.09810205125597622,0.09313700197429346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825301272644373,0.0,0.0,0.10205682939067573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558332158089067,0.045362249273401774,0.0,0.16397805406904933,0.0,0.07797135305037008,0.0,0.0,0.07893849672604539,0.0,0.0,0.06197868255795156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375291871737933,0.0,0.0,0.09868578976269538,0.0,0.0,0.07161232175952323,0.0,0.0987479629104214,0.0,0.09097414705715258,0.0,0.2114226817143234,0.0,0.09888315553341584,0.06291815843396682,0.07061727730273691,0.0,0.0,0.10309991268028644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18892544834441927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401423411085126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948265050358351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883224483191844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144434282130619,0.0,0.0,0.13144065974628186,0.0,0.22245249510680293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751085436759445,0.0,0.06981230537817112,0.0,0.0,0.17096922846992785,0.0,0.0,0.06168599805042359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05414209408037921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630396517728208,0.0,0.09070181676878354,0.0,0.3350645240917777,0.0,0.0,0.07661169909131155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348409092966738,0.17214738965056686,0.0,0.10366469021735483,0.0,0.08950493371418711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595860023515919,0.10151785992723636,0.0,0.0
parenting,hippiedippie5,2020/02/03,"My son’s medical mystery I recently started a podcast and today found myself doing an impromptu one on my son’s medical journey. He has several congenital abnormalities and sees several specialist. This summer he was diagnosed with a rare disease called guttate morphea. Today I submitted his application to the Undiagnosed Disease Network, per his geneticist recommendation. It was conflicting and life shaking as a parent. My son is basically becoming a science experiment. I had to get everything I was feeling out. This podcast is supposed to be out all the topics people are interested in but today was all about my son and my perspective as his mom. If anyone else needs someone to relate to or is interested I wanted to post the link. 


https://anchor.fm/samantha-weber3/episodes/TWO-eak3rt/TWO-a1dba8k

Also available on Spotify and Apple under the podcast name WebWonders. It’s episode #2.",8.216647214854113,11.594609455172415,8.697931034482759,52.5690185676393,64.79310344827586,11.63395225464191,41.49867374005305,11.20814326018867,6.433302387267902,741,44,87,26,13,245,95,145,0.023,0.929,0.048,0.5346,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,9,0,12,4,0,0,2,20,19,11,0,3,3,6,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,6,2,14,2,16,12,2,15,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,2,6,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737213118247676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136875817028076,0.1631960228831102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590668416189406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263754627314922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166073576882692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305379472186926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431460675523691,0.15580147728114338,0.0,0.0,0.08053420748580173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17463677702415098,0.0,0.0,0.08321459486883187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250061740774042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209055393485193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865409128568524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810036765522093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792883768854042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768559986232224,0.0,0.0,0.11042120546334774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254138786473714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726481189509384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692152492497394,0.0,0.0,0.3598707470534863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495316014750247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273563931722275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4529221270752386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311176992580537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394450045112318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Princess_Parvo,2020/02/03,"Kindergarten homework made me feel dumb... I am so proud of my son. They decided to move him up to kindergarten early because he was doing so well in his preschool class.

Well over the weekend he had homework, and I sat down to do it with him. Pretty basic, for the most part, but there was one sheet that stymied me. It had pictures of trucks in rows and columns. The only instructions were ""write the ordinals.""

I had to look up what an ordinal was. I don't remember ever learning that at all, let alone at 4 years old!",2.8919607843137283,4.87737525490196,3.5221568627450983,89.99637254901963,75.86274509803921,6.494117647058824,27.01960784313725,7.3871296695380915,1.3741490196078434,404,16,82,5,9,127,74,102,0.025,0.894,0.08199999999999999,0.5870000000000001,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,1,6,4,1,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,2,13,16,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,2,1,9,3,11,3,16,6,3,14,0,0,2,0,8,8,1,1,5,62,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26245910454660165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447801371199368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292262713861853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281330619518328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591316279510641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21280282217935131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397851989864701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693375675670674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659139723032735,0.0,0.17171898597714724,0.19273175745631035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744212305828768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578117925132048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28706715929737325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556968543417237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318945331305942
parenting,4boys4chambers,2020/02/03,"How do you handle the consent talks with your teen boys (or girls) in 2020? I have 4 teens sons. Twin 17 year olds, an almost 15 year old, and a 13 year old. The 15 year old is taking freshman health and they were discussing consent last week. He came home with a paper that talked about asking for consent. It mentioned that you have to ask for consent every time and before moving on to additional activities. 

As an example it said, before you kiss ask for consent to kiss even if you have kissed this person before. While engaging in kissing, don't take that as an opportunity to touch intimately until you ask for consent. It said that silence and refusal to fight are not consent and you need a ""yes"" and to see that the person is enjoying it. It also said that consent can be revoked at any time even if the other person doesn't explicitly say the words ""no"" or to stop. It said it is up to the one engaging to make sure they have consent every step of the way. 

One of the twins said that it was bullshit and unrealistic. He has a girlfriend and said they don't ask every time they kiss each other. He said they haven't had sex yet but was honest about touching and feeling. He said he does ask before that and stops if his girlfriend isn't into it but doesn't stop midway to make sure she is still okay with it. We had a long talk about it and my twins disagreed on a lot of points. The 15 year old didn't have many thoughts about it and the 13 year old was confused. 

How is everyone else addressing these talks?",5.134971339239186,5.552804831683169,5.467097446586763,84.27020323084942,68.33993399339934,7.9631057842626385,27.828556539864515,7.669130373188453,1.454667326732673,1196,36,245,12,19,381,143,303,0.052000000000000005,0.8109999999999999,0.138,0.9478,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,1,7,5,1,11,15,1,1,19,2,28,7,0,4,3,46,51,26,0,4,8,1,3,0,2,0,1,9,2,5,24,20,0,4,2,0,0,3,9,2,0,2,17,13,17,13,34,33,2,37,0,0,1,6,51,8,0,8,25,155,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791323881381753,0.0,0.0,0.0542366720060628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046120812156864685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804225821203526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23084373644064826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077569503546005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05935087984227926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056655996539412765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895906628132444,0.0,0.17142712023969475,0.06480616203217635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03429248891516193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209087428665406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803029734735873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528341444350597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001971949650881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057659247029538174,0.0,0.0,0.09054249362200363,0.06876015690161909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208331253101866,0.0,0.05028863727760932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42700229630154013,0.0,0.09191494113139688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765683900818213,0.0,0.0,0.06411305370862813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5161087253600248,0.05393422279071404,0.0,0.0,0.0540447981356551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054162180683586365,0.1701049400033235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784155206954245,0.0,0.1019863597218311,0.2180487793150706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05384253936543107,0.11864144264532445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05383339399600008,0.05440215885031758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620481755558038
parenting,throwawaycsection,2020/02/03,"Having another child after going through birth trauma Other than therapy (tried and didn’t work, effects were temporary) was there anything that helped you overcome birth trauma and have a better birth the second time around? 


The birth is a significant reason I’m on the fence
about another child but I sometimes wonder how much of the early motherhood experience and thereafter (daughter is 1.5years) was shadowed by PTSD and postpartum anxiety. If I were to have a better postpartum experience, would I enjoy the early stages more?


A second peaceful birth would be healing but now I have another little person to think about and would hate to put my daughter through a year of seeing her mother depressed. 


Feels like a risky proposition so wondering if others were able to overcome this.",10.622153361344537,10.56237934558824,9.253319327731095,63.325294117647104,57.014705882352935,11.8890756302521,40.752100840336134,11.20814326018867,4.967060084033613,645,29,90,14,7,199,88,136,0.11699999999999999,0.75,0.133,0.5069,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,4,7,8,1,0,11,0,16,1,0,3,0,21,24,11,0,5,4,3,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,4,6,0,1,6,0,0,2,1,4,0,2,6,2,7,4,15,14,2,17,0,1,1,0,9,3,0,4,12,70,11,1,0.15168064176262205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4771511345006894,0.11603527578023234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482024414237684,0.13502792933223748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682984028848613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064231449032476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967455457541281,0.0,0.0,0.0766942899685291,0.10836068078244246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620360419545922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497532312003317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166833688277964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410349988006135,0.1520238509805092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150272429385233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244168579203164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17730655324898825,0.152480939445804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595296210718745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086983332591915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001603316720036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346003295456566,0.0,0.0,0.09719083064560943,0.0,0.0,0.08844620199519435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298119917800136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289823714571567,0.11042531371091337,0.0,0.0,0.32324872793385145,0.0,0.0,0.09767736024994368
parenting,youwalkirun,2020/02/03,"Husband can't handle toddler antics My 3 year old is an active and strong-willed guy.  Most of the time he is very sweet but he doesn't always listen, like most kids his age.  The lack of listening drives my husband bananas, and lately it has led him to yell at our son as a means of getting his attention, and occasionally he has smashed a toy or two out of frustration.  Last night while we were eating dinner in the living room to watch the super bowl (a rare treat) my son was jumping around happily and not eating his food.  I asked him one time to please sit down and eat and when he didn't comply, by husband went off yelling at our son and picked up a toy bus and threw it across the room.  He then proceeded to comb the house for toy cars and trucks, smashing them together.  My son was scared and cried.  I took my son to a different part of the house to calm him down while my husband cooled off.  

Ultimately, my husband felt like shit for what he did, and apologized to our son at my request.  The pattern of behavior isn't new, but last night reached a new level that I find inappropriate.  I know that my parenting style has gotten more lax in response to my husband's aggressive approach, which just adds fuel to the fire. Our 3 year old isn't likely to change his behavior dramatically any time soon, so we need to learn how to cope and parent in a more peaceful and productive way.  I don't want my son to learn that throwing, smashing, and yelling is an acceptable way of dealing with frustration and anger.  I want to help my husband set his expectations for what he can reasonably expect from a 3 year old and figure out a way to communicate with him in times of frustration.",7.2591309756531,6.341122803625377,7.154586813577397,78.44697529767195,64.16616314199396,10.56769148747112,33.669984005686864,9.773937934552695,2.9092134707659496,1332,47,269,23,17,425,175,331,0.126,0.775,0.099,-0.8645,3,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,6,0,1,1,6,16,6,1,20,1,17,6,1,4,0,50,31,26,0,6,5,16,2,3,0,0,0,5,2,2,8,24,5,0,10,3,0,9,7,7,0,2,10,10,34,9,47,21,6,57,0,0,1,0,48,19,1,3,27,162,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085361800118348,0.0,0.0,0.07425195618260319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720095613027258,0.10207655205781414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550700482233307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993849176059213,0.0,0.1125685974854714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407879199864933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335181427539784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483812815347393,0.0,0.09979635382426813,0.0,0.1320312244224828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057046509207031214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081138281111191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318678144626989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25197784656466515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060007169894132836,0.17800647798319044,0.12316943691408445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003202618664075,0.0,0.09641548741205308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189383373828414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096192406412546,0.0,0.2109099581443072,0.0,0.20493210941523754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437250377011605,0.0,0.07398898525683498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424819196603986,0.11824055603531865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198562358810018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226401162435423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931678362504872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120804743954793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25467487926504384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131249326471195,0.0,0.0,0.10666134468504608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009198640988814,0.12880446797541864,0.26000635885746376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121887696559034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21094153310789604
parenting,ghostcat423,2020/02/03,"Parents want to keep my 4 year-old from being gay. So yesterday before I got home my parents arrived at our house and my son was wearing a rainbow colored headband and saying he was a princess. My wife and I have no problem with this whatsoever and have allowed him to wear a princess dress whenever he wants since he started asking at about the time he turned three. My parents called me today to tell me that I should tell my son not to wear that and that boys aren't princesses. I politely declined and told them that I don't think there's an association between that and sexuality and that if he was gay that we would have no problem with it. And also that you can't force someone to have a certain sexual orientation. Needless to say they were not pleased with my response. I asked them to never speak to my son about what he should or shouldn't wear or anything related to his sexual orientation ever. My parents have a really hard time wrapping their brains around that and I told them the only thing that he needs is love and acceptance and that if I feel he needs correcting for anything, I will do that. This is not one of those things. So, I think the next time we see Grammy and granddaddy, I'm going to be wearing a rainbow headband as well and maybe even a dress.",8.14980743691899,6.655454203187251,7.846384462151395,76.06275066401066,62.745019920318725,10.757104913678619,37.25132802124835,9.516144504307137,3.304696945551128,1019,41,199,15,12,325,134,251,0.057999999999999996,0.89,0.053,-0.0513,5,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,5,0,10,6,0,0,11,0,22,9,6,1,4,47,41,22,0,12,7,8,2,0,0,5,0,3,1,1,19,20,0,1,4,0,0,1,10,2,1,2,7,7,32,4,23,27,0,13,0,0,2,3,39,3,0,4,9,140,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334893049677828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921176707755339,0.10391443892451788,0.21825356574107915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932862356583123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030927330088796,0.11919437056029597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709905721334613,0.10558895849656844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059022190077318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634034312413703,0.0,0.09335963615764796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456714256048773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708969713414308,0.0,0.0,0.13469073551129693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375497816112256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535337304244816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727096411390728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17310761639211514,0.09002936414261778,0.0,0.12414366819522643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248848797040697,0.0,0.0790992619378555,0.08877841713326187,0.0,0.0,0.5184593574795668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813447520502333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22338967060450413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478022036959077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856567458315038,0.0,0.0,0.09301868861558699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656025363814504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890494137121678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262208743337017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405431195759255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510043647604171,0.1495917279497985,0.0,0.0,0.20419858693206472,0.0,0.11064638124601016,0.2230810148022479,0.0,0.0,0.12696870880685174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770074445253427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495427934401436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292163545331249,0.0,0.0,0.07517028614892345
parenting,MGG101112,2020/02/03,"7-year old daughter started being deceitful TLDR - 7 year old daughter, great kid, started lying about little things, slowly escalating, need advice on how to handle it without making her feel like we don't trust her anymore.

My 7-year old is a model child. She has always been very mature and wise for her age and she is very self-regulating, sometimes we joke that she's like a self-cleaning oven, you just set her and go! An example of this is sometimes when she watches TV she'll turn if off and tell us that it's time to go read, or she won't eat too many sweets because it's not good for her teeth, stuff like that. She's honestly the best!

Lately my husband and I have been catching her in little lies that have slowly been escalating. She started with little things like taking something away from her sister and then telling us that she had no idea why she was crying...upon reviewing some of the incidents that were caught on our security cameras we would show her what happened and she would reluctantly agree that yes, she did in fact take something from her sister and would apologize. 

Last week she started lying about her homework. She would have 10 or so pages of math to do and she would rip off a few pages and hide them behind something and then pretend like she didn't know why there weren't 10 pages there at the end of the week (would claim it was like that when she got it). She also started sneaking the answer book upstairs with her and then would copy the answers straight out of the book and then come down in 5 mins claiming she was done. After getting suspicious on how fast she was completing her work, I moved the answer book to somewhere she couldn't access. She promptly came down and asked for it telling me that she would only use it to check her answers after she was done (this is KUMON that she's doing). I told her that when she was done she should come down and show me the completed work and then I would give her the answer book (even though it's my job to mark her work, she likes doing it sometimes and genuinely will mark herself incorrect if she finds an error - self regulating!). She got extremely upset and almost violent screaming at my husband and I that we should trust her and demanding the answer book. 

Yesterday we had friends over to watch the Super Bowl and she was playing with her friend in the basement, I saw my daughter from the corner of my eye sneak upstairs and then slyly come back down. I asked her what she was doing up there as the kids toys are all in the basement, she said ""nothing"", I asked ""did you get something up there to bring to the basement with you?"", she said no. I noticed she had something in her pocket so I asked her to show me, she said ""I have nothing in my pocket."" After asking again, she took out a necklace that she got from her jewelry box. I asked her why she was being dishonest about it as it was her necklace and she knows she's allowed to take it whenever she wants. She shrugged her shoulders and said ""I don't know."" 

I have no idea why she started being dishonest with us, especially about little things like the necklace, she knew she was allowed to have it so lying about it didn't gain her anything.

I'm at a loss of how to handle this situation without making her feel like we don't trust her now (we have been checking if she's being honest with us on more things now since this started happening). At the same time I don't want to turn a blind eye to this and ignore it. Has anyone dealt with anything similar? TIA",6.25802401746725,6.321137318777293,5.982776928675403,82.75958024017469,65.91411935953421,8.558500727802041,30.566557496361,7.993328176185818,1.956252430858807,2786,92,545,29,40,866,266,687,0.098,0.7979999999999999,0.105,0.8551,3,0,5,0,0,0,70.0,12,3,1,7,27,30,1,1,27,1,68,6,4,8,2,98,122,49,0,18,9,7,2,9,2,14,1,5,2,4,40,45,1,2,15,14,2,11,15,5,0,0,40,14,117,25,76,63,9,83,0,1,6,0,121,33,0,7,47,395,157,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193045661351102,0.0,0.0,0.05321476345071911,0.0,0.0,0.04249821863258936,0.04421900505128625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270330412993128,0.03715862951825763,0.0,0.08746387058054456,0.0,0.29808764936605403,0.0,0.049929340252721895,0.04086347584537523,0.0,0.03239531240255883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577001209494014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060781120946193624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373332581277042,0.1114382738641842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315037780053246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437827560257782,0.0,0.0,0.04706868147347471,0.0,0.0,0.03510026919839627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05374111786244143,0.0759303478782218,0.0,0.0,0.04857148863128135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211587627353661,0.0,0.05552976170417563,0.050979345017320384,0.06040447150806672,0.0445735970722608,0.12750927753876035,0.058590042818957994,0.0,0.0,0.09398787385949273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998333777575462,0.0,0.0,0.05273595531212921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761755691317061,0.0433184144025934,0.05994730945108906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336656634044819,0.2130518894378771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709463642801978,0.053878382893579865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056482307309748986,0.0,0.039404657821186406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019837573693202,0.06050334556553232,0.16729305351563634,0.0,0.0,0.04041743768360361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053157106989172885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20220360723907904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631835906190334,0.0,0.0,0.04396021195415622,0.059734650406558835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455933324699846,0.15767854405463486,0.0,0.26330286398105285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083570676994486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987014835227496,0.0,0.13934725416263322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122266263342673,0.0,0.0522124582907578,0.0,0.06197590156789349,0.0,0.0,0.05078015189565046,0.05904352375253289,0.0,0.11560805073299453,0.0,0.0,0.2556966234463958,0.04589825240895962,0.0,0.08769662870415049,0.0626899131299216,0.0,0.08525577825450678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181217689541025,0.0,0.0,0.10245538256196757,0.0,0.11606561195566953,0.0,0.0,0.33975960910334524,0.0,0.0,0.10266651921228516
parenting,Jdendrogram,2020/02/03,"Reading to baby before birth worked. I am a first time dad and I read the same few books to my baby starting about 2 months before he was born because I was hoping to instill some wisdom and a love for learning for him. Reading to babies before they were born is unexplored territory in scientific research so I was not complete certain about the outcome. 

I was hoping that he will enjoy reading, but he is 2 months old now and I didn't expect him to go nuts like he is a fanboy in a concert whenever I read those books. He also enjoys other books as well and I read to him over an hour a day. 

I wish that he will continue to enjoy books and learning in general. I could see the arguement that I am sort of molding him to enjoy reading and to develop his brain instead of doing what he naturally want to do. 

What I do is when I question my parenting is ask the question ""will my child resent me for this when he grows up?"". ""Damn you dad for making me love reading and language"". Nah I dont see that happening.",4.164684873949579,5.0251760147058855,5.652661064425772,80.48911764705883,70.71568627450979,7.985434173669468,29.76750700280112,8.192908349453996,2.123156582633053,793,31,153,11,14,269,109,204,0.054000000000000006,0.758,0.188,0.9832,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,2,9,14,2,0,10,0,21,3,1,1,1,25,34,13,0,6,2,3,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,9,7,0,0,4,13,0,2,3,2,1,1,6,3,26,12,24,24,3,22,0,0,2,2,24,5,1,6,16,110,35,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783463768242541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915884949821565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059721452674819236,0.0,0.25009513434945074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936664593150784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271942304556599,0.0,0.0,0.07822087664360054,0.0,0.0,0.06318238645088223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481982196813473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333302264703916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055678468873656094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663432985235249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461214239318375,0.09648047311932198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786307312795987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17684305583714702,0.0,0.06539557149749305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639704580575967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280277646559458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878381780323852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21949709167157766,0.0,0.7839701275134944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15613841939466575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934349608091864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057126951369881676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577850991781363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808657447969337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266038206748688,0.0,0.0,0.07132314767693508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway99qq,2020/02/03,"My son returned home and is now not getting along with his sisters Not too long of a read

We have 4 girls aged 16F, 14F, 10F 8F and 1 boy, he's 12M. He started complaining about all the girls in the house 2 years ago, he said he didn't want to be surrounded by girls all the time anymore. He asked to stay with my husband's brother (28M) who the whole family is close to, since he lives nearby and we trust him, we let our son stay with him for 1 month. That turned into 8 months.

For the first month Evey other day I would bring his 2 younger sisters because they wanted to see their brother. He complained and said only I or his dad could come and that he's sick of his sisters, so I stopped bringing them. About 3 months in he stopped wanting to come home unless we were doing something, it got to the point that if we wanted to see our son we had to go to the movies or something like that. Around Christmas time all the girls wanted to go see little women and he wanted to see 1917, no compromise would be made and he wanted me or his dad to watch the movie with him but after a mini argument with one of his sisters he called his uncle to pick him up. My husband and I got sick of needing to do an activity to see our son so we told him he was moving back home. 

First my husband's brother was a bit upset about it as I guess he started to like having him live there, What I will say is that him not living here has done wonders for his relationship with his sisters, they don't fight as much anymore and generally interact with each other a lot better now. That lasted for a few days.

Here's the problem, my son does not want to be back home at all, not even a little. He says that he began to hate his sisters before he left and he knew that wasn't good, now he says while he still loves them, he doesn't like them and that if we force him to stay home he'll hate them again. He's been home for 2 months and already it's just hell, he is in a constant bad mood from the moment he wakes up. He won't eat anything that the girls will eat, that means when I cook breakfast for the family every morning he won't come down until the girls are done eating and then he won't eat unless we make something different for him, same with snacks, lunch and dinner. He doesn't like to get in the same car with the girls, won't talk to them (except when they are arguing) 

I'm starting to think home isn't a healthy environment for him anyway, we used to vote on stuff and since the girls all have more common taste he loses everytime, my oldest teenage daughter always talks about how horrible men and boys are and I know he doesn't need to hear that constantly. His younger sisters adore him but he feels like they are brats

I also know he was center of attention at his uncle's, doesn't have to share, they played video games every night, relaxed rules, more baseball and just a lot of guy bonding time which he doesn't get a lot of since my husband works so much.

He wants to go back but I hated having him away and I'd hate to let him leave again, any advice?",6.618030426376313,5.00133617192429,6.494015467589296,84.9302406634782,65.82965299684543,9.253200366337644,30.23079271395136,7.359569317364363,1.5929639360944339,2399,62,531,17,31,758,273,634,0.11599999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.062,-0.9874,1,0,3,0,1,0,49.0,13,0,11,5,29,27,7,1,28,0,47,14,1,5,5,106,104,41,0,17,18,22,1,5,0,9,2,6,7,13,21,46,10,2,8,6,0,10,19,13,0,3,18,14,67,13,78,71,18,78,1,1,6,1,140,20,1,10,50,320,88,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05545918881866624,0.05030884867428101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626292660513474,0.04538601979071607,0.04722373555781136,0.0,0.0,0.038594552650305834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256910436443147,0.0,0.0,0.04670356886555646,0.05052294393166183,0.05305717270355252,0.0,0.05332209437855589,0.1309205832462899,0.0473870799930164,0.03459660986123035,0.0,0.04829333181379074,0.0,0.0,0.05019415328718218,0.061960486583846966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795200900966128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666520555117515,0.0,0.122661462731085,0.0,0.04531331759421682,0.0,0.0,0.07320305438800265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059295676106466175,0.0,0.0,0.04966566176510581,0.11615775145360265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23229335930716274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03748537147569405,0.0,0.09563510424575858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700492568781646,0.0,0.028696443255265925,0.04054494967554078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654956281035956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895460603189187,0.0,0.09676353365587496,0.047602422500450416,0.09078244971325727,0.0,0.06252074559548862,0.05619521755089218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241306414439164,0.0,0.0,0.06396569459766317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985010538628296,0.0,0.0,0.06548630343175496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06238084481382512,0.04626194877426925,0.0,0.06009411460029055,0.061663205675399825,0.11606927898028,0.0,0.138635280422922,0.11376450097912948,0.15034402310202907,0.0502253563160599,0.0,0.06349302212199097,0.0,0.14475023798517034,0.051222550151105065,0.05370184908836842,0.037883624265973366,0.0,0.0,0.06182156215484876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22650184041287716,0.06032034282537605,0.0834411949525598,0.08416449617242673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325962771346968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03845786607985235,0.043163847465159035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05365071669843173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05430575346252888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05676919144977386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093237717361799,0.0,0.0,0.10797178346752584,0.1353987779358552,0.0,0.0,0.22612728501261145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084207154688289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107562028500416,0.0,0.0,0.12051196544337373,0.18147610410148904,0.04532368439086384,0.09489749140736846,0.0,0.0,0.06496956061413832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123316242771144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03636556460328857,0.0,0.0,0.09928084937250352,0.0,0.0,0.05423071961760334,0.0,0.0,0.06173187309208994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049017089638549866,0.0,0.0,0.301273930600698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336362781139747,0.0,0.0,0.06154711099338034,0.041317466400047013,0.0,0.0,0.08063258931268574,0.0,0.0,0.036547607740900434
parenting,sweetprince686,2020/02/03,"Tips for a very noisy 6 month old? My wonderful little bundle is just over 6 months old. She's been experimenting with making all sorts of sounds.


Unfortunately, she's discovered yelling at the top of her lungs. Not when she's sad or anything. Just if she's bored, or wants attention, or just feels like it. She will yell so loud it makes her cough. It's so loud it gives me a headache.


Its not a big deal in the scheme of things. I'm sure I remember my 6 year old going through a similar phase and just growing out of it...but I was hoping some parents had been through this and had some helpful advice. It's making trips to the supermarket and trying to watch a movie with my older one difficult!",2.458186813186813,4.55122035714286,3.4442857142857166,89.54994505494507,77.57142857142857,6.87912087912088,22.91208791208791,7.882392219407189,0.9883296703296708,550,17,118,9,13,176,91,140,0.064,0.789,0.147,0.8873,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,8,0,7,2,1,3,2,30,17,10,0,3,10,1,1,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,8,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,5,7,13,3,15,11,3,18,0,1,1,0,11,7,0,9,9,71,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222321661623954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503347468322442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816994238082107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17240006976912894,0.0,0.0,0.0891140651015773,0.1259084707044066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690689308822231,0.10016330550053963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181323772012082,0.0,0.0,0.17504967240456906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861037257829269,0.17664239878651558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529319361034898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813519372088213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5548140662125335,0.0,0.1194272318357366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569767266528168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964965429271908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610751733413645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708842365306125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965784273578448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541943655757605,0.10395304790964137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191128677762936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349510692172116
parenting,Desblade101,2020/02/03,"My friend's kid is going to be 2, is a refrigerator box an age appropriate gift? I have fond memories of my refrigerator box when I was a kid, it was a house and a space ship and all sorts of things ( my parents would get me one every so often), but I'm not sure if 2 is too young to play with a box. 

I was also going to get him some Daniel tiger stuff for inside the box.",5.132682926829268,3.120276048780489,7.083048780487808,80.7933536585366,69.0,10.151219512195123,26.59756097560976,8.841846274778883,1.4560146341463414,284,5,71,4,4,102,57,82,0.032,0.8759999999999999,0.092,0.551,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,2,12,14,7,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,8,4,7,9,2,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,4,3,47,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24681136113800706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600341510481951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384468319640354,0.0,0.32249295407800754,0.0,0.35080317037795705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561176714860146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20913572764036809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34269717669310845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533075991606079,0.0,0.0,0.29088019516345026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050401093833208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924195172999886,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Igneouslava,2020/02/03,"Trying To Figure Out Sharing So here's my plan on sharing. If we're out and about, and they have a toy, I'm not going to force them to share it with any child who comes up and wants it. Im going to use my judgment with shared toys and stuff like slides: we can't be hogging things like this all day. By the same token, if another child has a toy, and my child takes it, we're giving it back because that toy wasn't available, and my kid can wait. So I feel good about this strategy, but it turns out it's harder to do in public than I thought. My 9 month old had a xylophone, and a 3 year old wanted it. I told her to please wait, A had it, and when he was done, I'll tell her. Well the girl's mom shot me a look that just shamed me. Predictably, my baby tired of the toy quickly, and I told the girl it was available. The mom told her daughter loud enough so I can hear, "" If the baby comes, you need to share. I want to teach YOU to share"". Is this really just that unacceptable?

I also have a 22 month old, and so far this seems to be working at home albeit she's never too happy when she wants something A has.",3.310125,3.2479614291666685,4.318333333333332,92.6,72.20833333333334,7.2333333333333325,23.08333333333333,6.42735559955562,0.28803333333333336,853,17,208,5,15,278,131,240,0.07200000000000001,0.826,0.102,-0.2272,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,1,2,2,2,16,12,0,1,14,0,17,1,0,1,2,41,41,21,0,8,7,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,6,19,18,0,2,5,5,0,5,4,1,1,0,10,4,25,11,24,29,3,25,0,0,1,0,34,8,0,4,14,132,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062751408451777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556982763222469,0.13194544211926315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675676118856444,0.0,0.07670579755926638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21678562554966185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115099561963858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876945174221124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001771721080746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362425612909815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070917143844855,0.14302603739688774,0.10554160648387767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395011666729342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418213992708163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621939088980294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359197600173177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229499629859352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566688298156536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947449832483318,0.2008752231759109,0.0,0.0,0.09330256390691086,0.09704911518610401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3961174054005518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381253501222575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806109683146723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455239577849885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968713411985086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440471186041623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460973055454117,0.0,0.10998239637693492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359694788654486,0.0,0.0,0.09989626368917816,0.0,0.1446249553412423,0.0,0.3607125626325703,0.0,0.08543142123972246,0.13686868682652414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867813262167147,0.0,0.0,0.29687503709159696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131377528024782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160692987133877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103144822263482
parenting,nieznajoma98,2020/02/03,"Period! My mum just called, said my sister got her period yesterday!! She’s only 9!

Is that normal? I didn’t get mine until I was 14, my mum got hers when she was 16.

My mum explained what she needs to do and stuff but she was very surprised! 

Thanks for the help!",-1.1615353535353563,0.8458238363636391,1.1678787878787882,97.57404040404042,101.54545454545456,4.6262626262626245,11.565656565656564,6.42735559955562,-0.8252222222222225,201,3,46,3,9,67,42,55,0.0,0.8029999999999999,0.19699999999999998,0.9149,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,13,4,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,1,13,2,3,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,0,5,30,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204218530738235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394599710620866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5019443028947224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033153519802053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23267652224185875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074544647809108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23865678217085434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984928351024259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35922252500174323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889021460140973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25891541390630124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kidsaywhatpodcast,2020/02/03,"Want your “things kids say” story on a podcast? The Kid Say What Podcast is launching their first episode soon, and is looking for submissions! Whether they’ve said or done something hilarious, spooky, or just downright crazy, submit your stories on this thread, or send them to kidsaywhatpodcast@gmail.com",10.767278911564622,12.386969673469393,7.396326530612246,71.12605442176873,56.3469387755102,8.982312925170069,40.82312925170068,8.841846274778883,3.7477700680272097,250,12,37,3,3,69,42,49,0.047,0.868,0.085,0.2244,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,8,6,5,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,4,0,4,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,3,2,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789569180079643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31498651015334755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109681354422966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35225074334380835,0.5889726450626245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28508364683710946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24601830090399235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841913506581448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamiG13,2020/02/03,"Thoughts on spanking? Im sure there are a zillion posts on reddit about it.

So here's my deal. I never spanked my older kids. They're 13, 11, and 9.

I have two younger kids now 2 and 4.

I was spanked as a kid and Idk how it affected me but I definitely was afraid of my parents and it stopped me from doing alot of shit.

Now my 3 oldest ones are constantly fighting and dont care about wha privledges they lose. They fight even more after they get grounded. My two oldest, boys, have also begun taunting me when I yell.

So at this point I am wondering if i made the rigjt cjoice in not spanking them now cause clearly they dont respect me.

I am really at my wits end with my older kids to the point that I'm sure all my younger kids will remember is me being angry, crying, or being gone at work because id rather be there then at home.

I might also add i am a single mom.",0.499728260869567,2.6172042989130446,2.299086956521741,94.9654782608696,84.81521739130434,4.984347826086957,21.156521739130433,6.2581,0.14367478260869593,677,22,152,6,20,223,118,184,0.182,0.758,0.06,-0.9739,1,0,0,1,4,0,19.0,0,0,5,2,16,9,3,1,6,0,18,1,1,4,5,27,25,16,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,6,5,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,5,0,4,5,1,28,4,16,15,4,27,0,1,0,0,16,10,1,5,15,105,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462126926072578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384084028843126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695283402517912,0.15813953481537493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635524087277956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909666359734155,0.0,0.1587061332955629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608347785485429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634579490551532,0.0,0.0,0.10167640043093007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080427677847067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441510392537733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628240495083907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722203005519482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566244102264772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330678766372134,0.0,0.18029352264704868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872858125588408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431422278393608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093296320207788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910474961131558,0.0,0.14743266635940538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861837362773264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438483833629806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801794733681962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287013434358355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29017463275230504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222117444124629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007554498358865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669421552027976,0.11207068499258874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Spartan-Beard,2020/02/03,"My son is 4 this year and still poops his pants Me and my sons mother haven’t been together since before he was born but we’re quite social when it comes to our child. We were getting somewhere slowly with our son and he was starting to use a potty when his grandparent got angry and aggressive and forced him onto the porcelain toilet and shouted at him and since that moment our son has been terrified of pooing in general and it inevitably always ends up in his trousers. Nothing seems to be working, we’re being very patient but he’s the only child in his class that does it and his school has complained about it multiple times but I don’t know what the next move is. As soon as you mention the toilet he says ”NO” and either gets angry or upset. I’ve started offering him treats for every poo he does on the toilet but instead of actually doing one he’ll sit there, have a wee and shout ”I’m finished where's my treat” and then get annoyed when he’s told no because he didn’t poo. I feel like we’re running out of options and I’m worried he’ll still be doing it for years to come. I really don’t want him to be a target of bullying for being the stinky kid in class but I say this with love, whenever he’s near, the house stinks of crap, all the time, and we all know how unforgiving other children can be. Any advice on this would be absolutely incredible, we really want to move past this and move on to the next lesson. My house always smell so damn bad 😂",4.758588276711843,5.189525073578596,5.544023939447284,83.34371061432849,69.16722408026756,8.301425805315965,27.108079563457146,8.20500826718156,1.6098454849498331,1163,34,237,15,19,380,168,299,0.19399999999999998,0.757,0.049,-0.9943,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,6,1,0,3,12,12,4,1,12,0,25,3,2,2,2,44,46,29,0,3,7,5,1,1,0,3,0,4,0,4,13,23,0,0,5,0,0,6,6,8,0,1,8,7,25,4,32,28,3,40,0,0,0,1,43,13,2,3,21,146,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.11854014263111624,0.0,0.0,0.11870202707001308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021505635381297,0.0,0.0,0.08260581755767958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014248958904117,0.07404882414897915,0.0,0.10336459119525176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20927649767216475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21260371285154636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758903862517896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234625654317828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142040763050581,0.08678034815248681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039391448232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971530690665115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803271064092788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351678752374213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059345580633814635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096341411431737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873197815969672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583758649182117,0.0,0.0,0.11655663667710844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231326057421694,0.09238570378315253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595974040140848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292015067870713,0.0,0.0,0.15563745133084794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320043857041394,0.0,0.12293717909851633,0.0,0.11058447315266336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20096747110165508,0.0,0.0,0.1238264441388996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719584543641348,0.0,0.1940170177774495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14166378702101642,0.0,0.0,0.11607267407251368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491368563274152,0.0,0.10022796132780963,0.1432958662533433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843380365909732,0.12336174596633645,0.0,0.08629094657888517,0.0,0.0,0.15644928156411916
parenting,jillybeans101,2020/02/03,"How do I show love to my kids? This question might sound a little bit strange but please don't be rude. I am trying to break a cycle and give my kids a much better environment than I had. Growing up my family never talked to each other beyond everyday logistics. We didn't hug or kiss or do anything like that. My mom was an alcoholic and my dad had PTSD from the war. I'm not looking to use any of this as an excuse but because of this I genuinely find it difficult to display affection. I have to put effort into making sure I hug my kids and try to pay attention to when people normally hug or show affection. None of this comes natural to me and I am ashamed to say that it feels uncomfortable and I don't enjoy it. I love my kids very very much and I want them to know it. I do all the other parenting stuff just fine. We read together every night, school is going well, they are in sports and it seems fine. I worry that they can tell I feel uncomfortable with physical touch. Is there anything else I should be doing to show them? Am I alone in this?",3.846805555555555,4.71117414351852,5.2130370370370365,83.3356666666667,71.4537037037037,8.908148148148149,25.974074074074068,9.21078282632365,1.922587407407408,829,25,174,17,15,278,129,216,0.174,0.633,0.193,0.5875,1,1,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,4,2,6,17,2,1,7,0,22,7,0,5,3,39,36,15,1,3,7,3,3,1,0,2,1,2,0,4,16,13,1,0,7,5,1,4,6,4,1,0,4,6,29,13,24,28,6,15,0,0,1,6,21,6,0,6,5,122,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414775130592462,0.0,0.14938822608432187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808754646151834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373930084137245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792682759978994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756777847026146,0.15747175933449287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242492284177746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049327479277973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152767796083865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359758035688988,0.0,0.14586326399919636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131831940809143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836730526895866,0.08197441479413993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927004711552671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046794729245934,0.14456548928768825,0.0,0.0,0.1211245316333314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603628710687573,0.0,0.09628073135056593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530149103593835,0.0,0.16893111181038936,0.0,0.0,0.2120646963023929,0.0,0.11124609991946917,0.0,0.0,0.13535864128811792,0.1413237108495595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016047107416187,0.0,0.0,0.09999724307493416,0.0,0.0,0.1583312374527706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860781028129485,0.14500015277770584,0.16158082291758746,0.0,0.1442781512294171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114704736027998,0.0,0.14597768805149575,0.0,0.13130987585360432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511928128990055,0.0,0.0,0.1359436617864007,0.0,0.0,0.11593393942847638,0.12607134679454607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19585778613790486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457628673386295,0.0,0.2380247567096641,0.08507596894767147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968828957165845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648182593917233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bruceaustin1994,2020/02/03,"Daughter (10M) started sleeping on stomach and is freaking us out! Hey all!  First time being a dad, which has already been stressful due to my daughter’s complicated birth and long NICU stay (5 months), but she’s excelling now and we have been really confident in our parenting.
Our daughter decided to throw us a curve ball and started flipping over and sleeping on her belly. She was getting stuck and waking up, but now there’s no warning and it’s making us worried sick. Did anyone have issues with their kids doing this? Are we worried for nothing? I can’t help but freak out every time I see her like this.  If it helps, she’s adjusted to 7 months, being that she was 3 months premature. 
Thanks!
TL;DR We’re worried about daughters new sleeping habits, and not sure what to do or expect",3.223134657836645,5.752951490066228,3.808847682119204,85.68488300220751,77.1456953642384,5.880971302428256,27.94746136865342,7.0316486544052195,1.598875143487859,629,27,112,7,15,198,105,151,0.203,0.6829999999999999,0.114,-0.914,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,7,0,1,2,4,7,0,1,2,0,15,6,5,1,2,25,22,13,0,2,6,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,13,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,3,0,1,6,1,17,4,14,14,1,23,0,0,1,0,24,7,0,2,15,75,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681314290395586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302478467262007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209208658741103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131639060768366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695080011349011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783480517402136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885937923200756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499671006705837,0.0,0.0,0.11773636957818324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880535081666445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185741985602847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849103138680354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765563736311056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772537164176394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522894368618797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601579581603876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3994087692538863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833304321091676,0.14180312647690624,0.0,0.0,0.1523970725630953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253887917852042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122485519911866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515359347179508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800928541900983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053262711547937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ditchdigger25,2020/02/03,"Son with anxiety? So my son (7) had the stomach flu over Christmas. Threw up in his bed, and then proceeded to throw up in a bucket five more times throughout the night.   He also has witnessed kids at school throwing up in class, and I feel like it really has messed him up. For the past month he has been saying he feels like he is sick when bed time comes. 
     At first he wanted a bucket by his bed, or would want my wife or I to sleep with him. This turns into him crying uncontrollably until my wife can calm him down.  We don’t want to start a problem of co sleeping, but at the same time it breaks my heart to see him so worked up. 
     I guess I’m just reaching out for parents with anxious kids for ideas to help. When does it get to a point where professional help comes in. I don’t know if I’m making a bigger deal than what it is, but if I can help him in any way I will. 
We’ve already explained to him that throwing up is his bodies way of getting a virus out of him and that it happens to everyone eventually. 
    Any help would be appreciated. I don’t post much so forgive me if this is just rambling from a over protective dad.",4.020737588652484,4.303791017021279,4.880851063829788,87.97333333333334,70.74468085106382,7.798581560283687,26.30496453900709,7.554174236665415,1.110168794326241,879,25,198,9,15,286,131,235,0.063,0.805,0.132,0.956,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,2,9,7,0,1,11,0,18,7,5,1,0,36,38,18,0,9,9,6,2,2,0,3,2,1,3,2,10,12,0,1,6,0,0,6,3,3,0,2,3,4,24,4,41,31,3,46,0,0,1,0,33,23,0,6,15,129,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397960398031578,0.10433877909973507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745149374200372,0.0,0.0998110747583448,0.14739674225705385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492549011620998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22478094288631706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331787076248526,0.0,0.1345113772027423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417732895827865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467202677592433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319415920393946,0.18641910294462424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097980779873058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633295056442452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437301242523321,0.0,0.11537636545969593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461049326504098,0.34981175870631026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728752614389995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170425184999314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748450704581046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709138016533696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414187276830504,0.0,0.09591227043171953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224395652351644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448742264222248,0.0,0.12455072630808868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333864709778328,0.0,0.12495655073231175,0.0,0.0,0.12484452350083634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358399879516057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037569369493606,0.0,0.132045095081998,0.10396965826987956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611333712407496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234907870494494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22823862192098796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191657033750282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308681119458232,0.2071259314623794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498550477777457,0.0,0.0,0.18536778425009456,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gofiguree,2020/02/03,"Going back to work. Sick kids. How?!? Hello! 

I have worked very little since my kids were born. We had 5 kids under 7 and when our last was born. So it was easier on our family and bank account to stay home. I did work opposite from my husband from time to time but his job has always taken first chair if you will. I was the one staying home and he made way more money then I do in my job. Now that they are in school I have been working around their schedule when possible. I was recently offered a full time job. I did accept the job but now in the last 2 weeks I have had to call in sick 4 days because of our kids and more then likely need to miss at least 2 more days. My husband has 2 days off so he will obviously take those days but only one is during the week so I am technically responsible for the other 4. 
My question is who do you get as back up? I am questioning even taking the full time job now. I mean my kids don’t get sick that often but their are 5 and it can get hectic over here. It’s flu season and I know they somewhat understand but it is fair to my job to be fully responsible for those 4 days a week and possibly need to call in. I have no family except my Mom and she works and also lives and 1.5 hours away. My husband family is also 3-4 hours away. We also do not have extra money for babysitters usually. I mean we haven’t set up a fund for that but could if thats needed. My income is the extra right now. 

Who are your back ups when the kids are sick? 

What is a reasonable amount of time to call in sick? 

I have really been lucky to not have to really worry about this stuff before and I am having so much anxiety about it! TIA",0.9540274064171116,2.8228348238636367,3.0300334224598937,91.77846925133692,81.44318181818181,6.300267379679145,17.455213903743314,7.39963492309942,0.10902312834224626,1286,25,292,19,34,435,167,352,0.105,0.8270000000000001,0.068,-0.9259999999999999,8,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,3,4,6,24,4,0,0,12,0,44,6,0,3,1,44,60,33,0,6,11,4,0,1,0,2,6,0,2,6,17,15,0,0,8,0,5,1,5,1,0,3,13,0,41,3,40,43,11,62,0,1,0,0,36,21,0,7,37,212,58,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840584217420161,0.06383703084204692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058690447440878535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829689968190185,0.0,0.0,0.14416158074743246,0.17697840316594227,0.0,0.04676768630550041,0.0,0.06528291072374129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350185225380624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125452844102685,0.0,0.0,0.24738966461993414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05067271334538982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169738372249812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652578342872281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120248808395267,0.0,0.04360163809865997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539124568581592,0.0,0.15110712480552946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567954618391771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042163203178389765,0.1250737755424231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03748142567552555,0.07689340828241067,0.06774500101354296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259414267074148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714073646932426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985331849282574,0.0,0.0,0.05639789051803128,0.17066030909563934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039746624895181,0.05834887539808323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298012502360913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188749885506835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982973542778266,0.07888074608567004,0.07575156041917655,0.0,0.0,0.06551830165598868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764454727593127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634634226411379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635462268818757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782583155967523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536750391269948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367970148042704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986803166557956,0.0,0.0,0.08449603582743666,0.06330188099932779,0.0,0.060896617051603534,0.18462002049514745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792646902812363,0.07791269481666699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,happybunnyEU,2020/02/03,"Exposing kid to multiple languages Hello, I would need some advice on the amount of exposure you think I would need to help my kid  to become trilingual. I have a toddler of ten months, we are Italian, living in a French speaking country. He is therefore exposed to Italian at home and French at the nursery school and in the every day life. However, I would like to favour as much as possible the learning of English as well from an early age. I read him a story in English every night, we listen to rhymes during play time and I have a native baby-sitter that comes to play with him an hour per week. I am not native, therefore I wonder if me speaking in English to him could potentially be counterproductive. I would like him to attend an English primary school in the future but unfortunately we cannot afford it, therefore he will attend the French school. Any ideas and advices? Are the efforts I am doing at the moment just a drop in the ocean ? Thanks a million!",4.826156832298139,6.5219324076086975,5.504192546583855,79.00913043478263,70.03260869565217,7.2136645962732935,29.447204968944106,7.7094869923839395,2.019985714285714,769,30,133,9,14,249,107,184,0.047,0.8590000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.7432,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,0,1,2,7,0,0,18,0,16,1,0,3,0,28,23,9,0,8,4,0,0,2,0,5,1,3,1,2,2,9,0,0,4,3,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,3,20,7,27,16,3,24,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,3,12,96,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942426247602925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023830560378939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627697012559065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969042630455435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020649588938355,0.0,0.0,0.09709598770919399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253699384104812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091432914735962,0.0,0.15101966812508769,0.0,0.14826706236323406,0.0,0.0,0.1699590882542592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634196130148886,0.14710784511976135,0.0,0.13294346382408007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017214361723633,0.0,0.1106757813220704,0.22327032537723665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141286349349675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972895895863785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059646790288858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571112956298264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861148413525934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647002965322986,0.0,0.0,0.08779025420930905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207667215228222,0.0,0.13536767813723316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163271261903221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278018706360506,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moonandbalance_,2020/02/03,"Long daycare days I'm looking mostly I guess for reassurance. I'm about to start sending my 2 kids to daycare for 3 days a week, from 8am-6pm. They have always been at home with either me or my husband, but have always been involved in activities with other kids their age. 
My son is 4 in March and my daughter is 2.5. 

I really want to do this (new job new hours) but I'm so concerned about that long day! 
Can anyone give me guidance, reassurance, advice?",2.878,4.892624522222224,4.137500000000003,85.43625000000003,76.0,6.277777777777778,25.69444444444445,7.1686216300943375,1.1961111111111116,357,13,70,4,8,117,63,90,0.0,0.9159999999999999,0.084,0.7337,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,16,5,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,2,13,14,2,16,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,3,12,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20590539388563192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35065864026879995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733477704905187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076755557138579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021342156481605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23212309848155602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113613843344828,0.0,0.20750894198988326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090992138061406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37294709841928897,0.17694506769401447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40701405606691904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349875461719467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491430860608964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428343690236456,0.0,0.1690205107685596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,badchoiceinfriends,2020/02/03,"13 year old son making bad choices in friends . . . should I stay out of it or intervene? Over the Christmas holidays we moved to another state. Back at my 13 year old son's old school, he had a solid group of responsible, mature, good-influence friends. However, now that we've moved away and he's started at a new school, his new friend group is less than spectacular. I especially dislike the ringleader of this group, a rebellious 14 year old. The blatant disrespect and lack of discipline in this teen is obvious. He is one of those stereotypical punk skateboarder teens. He swears like a sailor, is ill-mannered, doesn't place school as a top priority, and promotes views about sex and girls that we as a family disapprove of. This teen's values obviously don't line up with our values that we want our son to uphold. I've been thinking about talking to my son about this, but obviously, he's growing up and he's still going to see him at school. Is intervention necessary, or is this just something that I should stay out of?",5.3825405007363765,6.886701407216499,5.811192930780559,78.08030927835054,68.43298969072166,9.872754050073636,31.382916053019148,10.125756701596842,3.2138215022091314,819,34,154,21,14,263,112,194,0.049,0.813,0.138,0.8662,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,9,0,12,1,0,1,4,26,18,10,0,4,4,4,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,11,11,0,1,1,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,2,2,12,4,29,14,2,33,0,0,2,1,25,13,0,2,14,88,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280138770331635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147002866281142,0.0938737096937716,0.10193357408433364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508827428905848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829613158601655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938215246312321,0.10239679383617876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059643217644028336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814908456327707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595082092033956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358155833549759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5124191131443299,0.0,0.08272608782296224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754996075237976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4942149930091188,0.09728374216229067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093984875574668,0.0,0.0,0.0864104404223061,0.2602468563821133,0.09749503749359406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812508306740678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822537227772276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200727035744874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358508868964664
parenting,Qtpaw,2020/02/03,"Is it normal for me to never be able to get anything done with my toddler around? I've never known anyone could live like this but basically when my toddler is home, my entire day consists of entertaining/holding/rocking him. He's very VERY high needs and if I put him down or breathe the wrong way he freaks out and I gotta redirect/distract him. We put him in daycare most of the week because of this and I decided to go back to work (it's super lax because we own our own business) on those days just to have something to do. I thought of getting a nanny but he does better in a school type setting and LOVES daycare. Anyone else have a toddler like this or just me? 😭😂",2.443260869565215,4.251033108695655,3.687753623188408,89.1059782608696,76.6086956521739,5.759420289855073,27.44202898550725,6.42735559955562,1.0935246376811592,531,22,109,4,12,173,91,138,0.04,0.8140000000000001,0.145,0.9514,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,3,5,7,0,0,5,0,8,2,1,0,2,25,15,10,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,0,16,5,18,10,3,19,0,0,0,1,11,7,0,4,9,71,22,3,0.16870785999881371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359289167285976,0.1728611395412965,0.1388321939377443,0.15018576354234855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972593062437374,0.0,0.2056854911310676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920839227012914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346994983255431,0.0,0.0,0.21760522569241003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763738518716787,0.17264671489668518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093376890924467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628578737849032,0.0,0.0958805647114852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17824911679300895,0.16922773917691347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648442772645002,0.0,0.14897213125023076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226543044355248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250947404995884,0.2602358042814967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652978827284909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33919599344482104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707413612015806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298795529473863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339351959882272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278403306030895,0.0,0.1339124465625582,0.13532726898980685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282133138005134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18445556070514815,0.0,0.0
parenting,antomcpo,2020/02/03,"1 year old naps on me but will not transfer to bed Up until the last few weeks, my 1 year old daughter would nap twice daily for at least an hour, but would wake up every few hours during the night. Then we started to let her cry it out at night and she has been going down and sleeping her nights no problem.  However, now we cannot get her to go down for naps. She will fall asleep on me at naptime, but the second I transfer her, she wakes up and will not go down on her own. Any advice? Let me know if you need more info",2.5175892857142834,3.2427827232142867,3.461071428571429,95.18392857142858,74.44642857142857,5.957142857142857,21.142857142857142,5.148860815047168,-0.2378607142857141,403,8,96,1,8,129,72,112,0.091,0.909,0.0,-0.8885,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,10,4,4,0,0,18,17,9,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,0,2,3,0,4,4,1,0,2,1,0,16,0,19,9,5,32,0,0,0,0,12,13,0,1,15,69,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479663990966842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468347682442982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18524714966911054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208956327005742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810935567098241,0.0,0.287532247621104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321600832869615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268214915347618,0.13746709744710114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448991516127275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250471424515116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4747819726709848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35392631989596063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16136921381322916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16876545977299348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936685574272032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527577750559452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395992453007973,0.0,0.0,0.21720198512567515
parenting,jrod1718,2020/02/03,"Help Anyone have tips for baby who is spitting up? 
She’s 3 weeks and on similac sensitive. Did changing formulas help? Any time she lays flat she spits up more.  So nighttime in bassinet is the worst. Any other helpful tips?",1.4192857142857136,4.047354738095237,2.202380952380953,89.9592857142857,96.85714285714286,5.257142857142857,25.04761904761905,6.868970318607317,1.4893904761904762,177,8,32,3,7,55,35,42,0.084,0.737,0.179,0.5632,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,5,3,2,6,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,2,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669203487618135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24004786846235374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363172728025126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6903332775558583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001847654270414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753797450204384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MommaAndMav,2020/02/03,"..you don't mess with the birds! Check out our newest VLOG, when we went to the NIAGARA FALLS bird kingdom.. something went wrong!",2.3912499999999994,5.245158958333335,1.788333333333334,96.49000000000002,84.41666666666666,4.866666666666667,20.5,6.42735559955562,0.1651000000000007,101,3,20,1,3,29,22,24,0.13699999999999998,0.784,0.079,-0.3765,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367777178343125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8110587323764964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.478293321515305,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeraphsAngel,2020/02/03,"Parenting Pro Tip for Female Vaginal Health and UTI Prevention What prompted this is a commerical I just heard on Pandora about a women who suffered from chronic UTI - Urinary Tract Infections so badly and often that she created a medicine specifically to support urinary health. While there may be some flowery creative license to this or a different issue, it made me think about sharing some tips with parents of a female child.

Pro Tip #1: Something I always wished my mother had taught me was : ALWAYS wipe Front to Back. That is the front of the body to the back of the body.

Why? 

This is a serious reason why women often suffer from UTIs. They are wiping incorrectly. By wiping from back to front, you are pushing germs towards and possibly INTO your urethra (the little channel where your urine comes out). This can cause inflammation and an infection.

Teach your daughter to wipe front to back. This also applies to wiping a baby girl when you change a diaper. It is best practice to spread the labia (the vaginal lips) and wipe down the right, rotate the wipe to a clean section, wipe down the left, rotate the wipe and wipe down the center towards the rectum. 

Pro Tip #2: As long as your health isn't the cause of a UTI, these tips will help to prevent the development of one. I added some tips for good vaginal health as well.

1. Drink a lot of water. As a female you should drink half of your body weight in ounces. If your daughter weighs 100 pounds (43kg) they should be drinking 50oz of water a day.

2. Wipe front to back. See above if you skipped it.

3. Pee as soon as possible after intercourse, the introduction of anything in the vagina, a removal of a tampon, or a gynecological exam. This helps to flush the channel after the potential introduction of germs.

4. If possible, encourage your child to sleep without underwear. This is great for feminine health and allows that space to breathe. It may help to prevent odour when they age.

5. Do NOT scrub the feminine area with soap. Please PLEASE teach your child this. While it is okay to wash the outside with soap, it is better for vaginal health to let it be mostly untouched by chemicals. This prevents odour by an imbalanced PH. Letting the soap run over the body and down over the vaginal area is a lot better than scrubbing it.

If you feel you need to freshen that, please use a cloth wet with water or a baby wipe.

This got a little winded but I hope it helps some parents to teach their child good health tips when it comes to feminine health!",4.874864864864868,6.767547452229303,4.9075032994778205,82.55126699948357,70.23142250530786,7.554736902507602,28.016353933551386,8.186683628785799,1.9211815114477533,1994,72,361,29,37,620,222,471,0.017,0.877,0.106,0.9838,5,0,4,0,0,0,60.0,0,14,4,3,20,16,0,0,46,1,25,31,10,6,0,55,39,29,0,9,11,6,3,0,0,5,13,1,1,7,27,16,8,4,3,5,0,10,3,4,1,2,6,7,26,12,71,23,9,49,0,2,1,1,40,23,0,19,16,242,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055042062070616606,0.11454151722337788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056639924546613735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646240296972707,0.057468855174967776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223117971007767,0.12174628722919068,0.0,0.30581143047364695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414114926237514,0.07281134132768227,0.11857917753488265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04438863643433399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191104881681884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022769430694141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034801716875498545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546002518235668,0.05504837453340498,0.07588357529621663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5852911294804325,0.0,0.0,0.18453695454246669,0.0,0.0,0.06836215059012897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183898759504731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478227899051923,0.14076344406457791,0.0,0.0,0.13796831608500856,0.0,0.06091098520238381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703092157240358,0.0,0.06512711457093877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103540081093985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04663991823102532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292774431127565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22665880691147894,0.0,0.2327811034012348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076707842756992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877909403512651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054847338959959496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887812639058953,0.0,0.0,0.052987479852019466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781056746012165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04410247193645017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944565535482204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381447225895917,0.06188501493789957,0.0,0.12421388573780312,0.0,0.07914928544262048,0.06634814008557174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thats-so-ravenclaw88,2020/02/03,"I hate drop off at school Does anyone besides myself HATE drop off. All the snobby mom's in their little clicks looking, staring pointing when my son has a melt down. He's a young 4 (August 26 birthday young) and not as mature as the other pre-school kids in his class. I hate walking past the moms and talking to my son telling him to behave. I hate when he's melting down and knowing already that he's going to have a bad day. I hate morning assembly and all the looks you get from the other parents. I thought parents would be more supportive of each other but we definitely are not.",3.09897435897436,4.988752102564106,3.8994957264957257,87.94411538461542,74.98290598290599,5.705641025641025,27.084615384615393,6.2581,1.057393846153846,464,18,90,3,10,148,78,117,0.179,0.7759999999999999,0.045,-0.893,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,1,0,2,7,5,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,2,14,17,9,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,1,4,13,1,14,14,4,20,0,0,4,0,18,9,0,0,7,57,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182371513378662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619961897932476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487413133634992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872816477855004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039779098759212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188023330259892,0.0,0.07819027799273867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6791622512276342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756107504521473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789199744758268,0.0,0.0,0.2310662619290204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222656880746897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055341544843068,0.0,0.13133633839756034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005822425043329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784780114172816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612493923774048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058214902137874,0.12025158920060025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092237017881995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977333764399546,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nohorsesallowed,2020/02/03,"Is watching movies normal at 3k? Hello! We've been sending 3yo daughter to a new school for past 6 months. They advertise being very literary focused, with former school teachers and milestone monitoring. 

However, my daughter also talks about the movies they watch. I know she is really watching them because she talks about the plot and we don't watch them at home. This sort of surprised me as the school didn't say this was part of their daily activities.

We are trying to limit screen time- I don't mind her watching things but it means we can't really watch anything together at home if she's already watched something at school. It kind of sucks to not watch Lion King together because she already saw it today, for instance. We also try to not watch more than an hour a day.

Is this normal for schools? Her daycare also did this.

It's only 100/week for 3 days a week, so it isn't terribly expensive, so maybe we are just at a budget school?

What do y'all think.",3.5144919786096267,5.783480556149738,4.096791443850268,85.28283422459896,74.98930481283423,6.752941176470588,26.508021390374328,7.724431198458867,1.613237433155081,772,29,143,11,17,244,113,187,0.021,0.932,0.047,0.5671,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,5,1,5,2,8,4,1,0,8,0,15,0,0,0,0,21,20,10,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,11,8,0,1,3,0,2,1,7,2,0,0,5,12,21,2,21,14,2,16,0,0,11,0,24,5,1,2,10,90,32,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442718367580663,0.2655274550477744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107855854955273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493655553102488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427562997225427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22203810389605344,0.0,0.1089955295428884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152540989900708,0.060825730931845776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119092094022208,0.12056078165147988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117532230233978,0.0,0.08834211874904385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689349612359246,0.0,0.0,0.2168818695893408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417560165254857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198534818309991,0.10565466859107174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180631384476666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801558298658826,0.0,0.6720722314595939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520532689134606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791755807255408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352954117973477,0.07091798946762773,0.0,0.0,0.064537228253746,0.0,0.10490979691696573,0.0,0.0,0.15028618543860742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913209360506628,0.0,0.0,0.17755842132072347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,one_tired_mama,2020/02/03,"My daughter won't sleep and I'm slowly losing my mind! TL/Dr: My daughter (2) has suddenly stopped sleeping through the night and I'm at my wit's end. 

So, for some context, a couple months ago, she started crying at bedtime, saying she was scared of the baby monitor. We recently moved into a new house and I assumed it was because she could now see the red light from the monitor. A few days later, she told me her daddy kept talking to her through the monitor. My husband works overnight and wasn't even home. I reluctantly removed the baby monitor and it helped a tiny bit. Until it didn't...

Now, the minute I say it's bed time, she starts crying and stomping and yelling. We go through a whole routine, sit in the floor and read a book, then I rock her and sing songs..put her in bed and sing another song..all to try to keep her calm. As soon as I leave the room, she starts screaming. I've tried leaving different lights on, she has a night light that plays music, we agreed to leave the door open and even gave in and let her take toys to bed. Nothing works. 

I could even deal with all this but now it's progressed to her also waking up two or three times a night. And she doesn't just wake up. I wake up to her screaming bloody murder and hurling everything in her bed at the wall. Or kicking the back of her bed while screaming. Every time, it takes a good hour to get her back asleep. This means, that neither of us are getting any sleep. I'm sometimes up with her till four or five in the morning and then her little brother is up by 7. 

She's slept perfectly through the night since she was six months old. So, I don't know what's going on with her or what else I can do to help her sleep.",2.7039408866995096,4.189077850574717,3.362889983579638,93.08896551724138,75.0919540229885,6.235796387520528,25.072249589490966,6.7097532225279775,0.7107870279146145,1324,44,292,11,28,416,185,348,0.09,0.855,0.055,-0.8672,1,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,4,0,0,5,13,10,1,1,23,0,17,9,9,0,2,41,37,30,1,2,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,6,8,0,12,23,0,3,3,7,0,4,6,6,0,5,9,11,44,4,42,24,6,59,0,1,2,0,41,21,0,6,33,184,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260462830780155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452158803028315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337033663849698,0.09771466551212496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331005912324465,0.0,0.056805913345378274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173603846843253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880442927636287,0.1031096123355352,0.20472302655813615,0.06009788792690116,0.09607167654997252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973605521515034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784575781278215,0.0,0.08253599804310638,0.0,0.0,0.1846473488855185,0.0,0.07851404323070252,0.0,0.08375044191582401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737269368662564,0.0,0.1059206076336395,0.07816081108631795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492252638658034,0.0,0.09347413115485437,0.0,0.09177039656719788,0.10752525443893668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282886260685175,0.0,0.0,0.05121312289151009,0.0,0.0,0.29601464538669703,0.0,0.0952899927227124,0.0,0.0,0.09339782727732857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425238562868068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150793146295188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409227733954224,0.0,0.1487619043677596,0.09904300396038757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900005584711282,0.0,0.349798643142646,0.0,0.08941541312779698,0.0,0.09778405162657966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367864551247207,0.0,0.0,0.09321218995497146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920108929237928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821204114787168,0.09329641580783203,0.0,0.0742579519148021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708522640192265,0.0,0.3730170830149485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216429832695484,0.0,0.19787465573986884,0.0,0.0,0.07790848142640877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401300117206487,0.07490015842420883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301421870326066,0.0,0.0,0.0890441454122732,0.0,0.12653567439062288,0.0,0.09103013127874687,0.0,0.11209245379166707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403992660380973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568245127981912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wookie768,2020/02/03,"Rant: keep your kid home if he or she is sick Literally waiting at the classroom to drop my girl off and I can tell her classmate should have stayed home. As the mother says he got up at 3am not feeling good but her excuse was he didnt have a fever.... 

You can see it in his face that he is coming down with something.",2.4091176470588245,3.2948863823529417,3.4228235294117653,94.74570588235296,74.88235294117645,6.028235294117647,22.423529411764704,5.6839178017228535,-0.009315294117647088,246,6,59,1,5,79,58,68,0.122,0.856,0.021,-0.5911,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,9,3,1,0,0,11,15,5,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,2,2,2,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,8,1,9,11,0,9,0,0,1,0,16,6,0,2,0,36,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607262666067094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304072605467714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25386802248022783,0.2420755055522362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.607212041418907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690299558312647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406979742854461,0.0,0.0,0.2411914506007813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330127107628356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226094895711457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645498245292884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Opening-Cellist,2020/02/03,"So sad that my baby won't be my baby anymore. We are welcoming baby #2 in 6 weeks and my heart physically aches for my oldest. I know this might all sound a bit silly but I think I am almost depressed over it. My oldest is nearly 4 and truly taught me the unconditional love that comes with being a parent. I look at her and have to hide my tears sometimes because I'm so upset. Everything we do seems like a ""last time"" now, last time watching a movie together just the two of us, last time laughing over dinner, last time with our special bedtime routine. I don't think it helps that I had a lot of trepidation about having baby #2. I am trying to embrace it but I'm scared that on top of this we have somehow ruined our perfect dynamic. Do these feelings of sadness go away or is this something I might have to come to terms with for a while? Has anyone else had these feelings? It's really horrible but I want to be prepared for how long they might last. I just feel so guilty that my child won't be an only child any more- maybe it's worse because i was an only child who really enjoyed my upbringing. I appreciate any and all comments.",3.296536796536799,4.751296251082252,4.739675324675325,83.9390367965368,73.5021645021645,7.2112554112554115,25.82034632034632,7.793537801064563,1.4264476190476194,898,30,179,12,18,300,133,231,0.16899999999999998,0.6459999999999999,0.185,0.5273,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,1,2,9,15,0,2,10,0,25,3,1,1,3,36,41,13,0,1,6,1,3,1,0,5,0,1,0,3,16,12,1,0,7,0,0,3,3,6,0,1,4,6,29,9,23,28,6,27,0,4,2,1,17,8,0,8,17,125,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925231263909128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619717629894631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181061512569919,0.08327111157141757,0.12202267900601865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188980101725314,0.0,0.0,0.14519338890789607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001639555979078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517249439818366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257279954480304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948514796532848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703120298726553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18064778005189594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768209096475569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112326497075572,0.07982410584055583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544923258222621,0.4853748060114674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818178794841231,0.0,0.0,0.10539168031037828,0.10000634452417716,0.0,0.0,0.1012468065637609,0.10748416788197873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964279481988767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37900980841090703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811479597829897,0.0,0.0,0.1322363276324903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525853331191964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923074541324527,0.0,0.0,0.10841586346682587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916819768792394,0.11778392443977526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261725312043978,0.0,0.0,0.2777713969059881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085488948491386,0.0,0.1163344841648186,0.0,0.14325166411867954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024288595034485,0.0,0.09552751965261336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136377988118638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YaaaDontSay,2020/02/03,"4 year old kicked off the bus because he can’t behave My son is 4. He started school this year and after Christmas break he was able to finally ride the bus and he was super excited about it. We tried to train him on how to ride the bus with YouTube videos and telling him the rules to sit down, don’t stand up and keep your hands to yourself. 


It started with him having trouble on the afternoon bus after school and not behaving. It got to the point where he got kicked off because he couldn’t behave. Literally not even a week into being able to ride the bus. 

I decided that because he got punished and kicked off the bus for bad behavior that the time he would have been on the bus on his way home, will be spent in his room hanging out. And then he can come out and join the rest of the family and we can continue our night. I didn’t want him to think he could get kicked off the bus so dad can go pick him up from school because to him that’s a treat. 



He was allowed back on the bus. But that same day the bus driver made complaints about him again and said he should hold off another week on the afternoon bus. But he is more than welcome to continue to ride the morning bus. 



Well I just got him on the morning bus and she told me how awful he is on the bus in the morning now and the last school day she had to stop the bus 4 times on the way to school because he wouldn’t listen and was standing up and hitting other kids. 


Me and his dad have been having a really hard time because he simply does not listen. And I know I know he is 4 and a kid and does kid like things and won’t listen. But he won’t even listen to basic cues and literally does only what he wants and what he wants only. 



How are you supposed to punish a 4 year olds behavior over this? How do you teach him it’s just not okay to act that way? We’ve tried sticker charts and time outs and talking and everything under the sun. Nothing works. 


I’m at a total loss. I’m his step mom (but basically real mom) and I feel defeated. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just sit on the couch and cry.",3.8129619921363016,4.092304660550457,4.691572739187418,89.16073394495413,71.20183486238531,7.879947575360418,25.66317169069462,7.7094869923839395,1.0762951507208385,1616,44,368,18,28,525,187,436,0.075,0.879,0.047,-0.907,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,3,0,4,17,13,2,0,31,2,35,1,1,7,1,73,64,36,0,8,11,5,3,1,0,6,0,5,3,3,16,35,0,3,6,1,1,9,12,6,1,0,16,8,32,7,55,37,4,77,0,2,0,0,58,31,0,0,30,223,48,7,0.17680180489286085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926960540317576,0.0,0.0,0.08766994119577158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797483731924701,0.07381106103460741,0.32333021774299353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614954990675675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058092735657474,0.0,0.09710424035081597,0.11402253770751092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23208067636212096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677592467419992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944903099575652,0.0,0.08333650334765329,0.0,0.044698152426837334,0.0,0.0,0.09683886762808996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04618582291556445,0.0,0.05024027005990273,0.0,0.2828091090501429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918984488519842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867331292278552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857478387050346,0.0,0.0,0.1457484723037013,0.07205853420511871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04318821563326652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364707133921304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070681370568394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295825850461193,0.0,0.08482305008287339,0.0,0.18552375297026152,0.0,0.0,0.134465739615476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356742650870187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061958040456112,0.05663188174166005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840895018295225,0.0,0.0,0.44733216387362745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514122749706266,0.0,0.0,0.07390711277559918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105329681977109,0.07726628516567871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05872963153344021,0.056643728815678626,0.0,0.0,0.20618910847095812,0.0,0.0,0.08447085062501239,0.0,0.12003681994697735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642342795393027,0.2105055649159934,0.14181974336458164,0.0,0.07948302782092888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435690983066805,0.0,0.0,0.06279746475214536,0.0,0.0,0.17078184851419725
parenting,HowDaniDan,2020/02/03,"Just having a rant, we have a bully problem There was this little boy when my daughter was in preschool who was a mean little shit. I know, you can’t call a 5 year old a little shit but this kid would cut my daughter off from having any friends, throw stones at her, push her off the jungle gym, push her face into the dirt and bite her. 

We tried dealing with the school and they basically told us to suck it up because “ah shame, the poor little darlings parents are going through a divorce, so it’s only natural for him to act out...” I refused to accept that, it’s not my kids fault and yet she’s the one that was being made to pay for it. 

Met his parents, I can see where he gets it from, his father is an absolute pig and his mother is insufferable. 

Anyway, I pull my kid from that school, put her somewhere healthier where no bullying is tolerated and she thrives. 

Now we started big school and guess who tf is in her class??? If you guessed the future serial killer, you’d be right. 

Not only is he in her class, but his parents are now divorced and guess what? HE IS STILL A BULLY! 

He’s started cutting my daughter off from having friends yet again, and I’ve spoken to the school who seemed to be dealing with it, but it happened again today! 

If it was just shoving and shit kids do because they don’t think things through, I’d be cool, I’d be calm, but this is calculated and it’s malicious and the momma bear in me wants to rage.

Guys, help me to not go to his parents house and throat punch his mother.

It has been two years! Two years and you haven’t sent your kid for some help?! Why must my child be made to pay for your bullshit! 

At what age does this become unacceptable? At what age does it switch from “he’s just acting out” to full on abuse, are we going to be using his parents divorce as an excuse one day when he thinks it’s okay to beat his wife/husband??? 

Okay, I’m finished ranting.",3.7454429171439454,4.598893479381445,4.369083619702177,89.33361015654829,71.68041237113404,6.88216876670485,25.96830851470027,6.775458762138228,0.8836537609774721,1482,45,320,11,27,472,191,388,0.184,0.732,0.085,-0.9931,5,0,0,0,4,0,49.0,5,6,2,1,19,17,7,1,17,4,36,5,5,3,1,53,61,23,0,6,12,12,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,8,26,22,0,1,7,1,3,11,7,10,1,4,11,2,43,7,42,40,2,56,0,0,1,0,75,24,4,7,21,209,69,8,0.0,0.1000153064403916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057403565190638425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291445881176622,0.0932272513019482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619485649325685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544392409829145,0.1740516790772434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477403341710638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043416376928435,0.0,0.04410217829293241,0.0,0.1439211347419916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27897048540057473,0.0835818946604421,0.07464591676814805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316017505349638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740098096742382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639104026367222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338415009367088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974677167180773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195023208320166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857698222706258,0.0,0.11440052914255786,0.12839940155779453,0.0,0.0,0.4686518510214704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807716023387646,0.0,0.08485812952710617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208802797241537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417208416250971,0.06726603344371533,0.0768461980206038,0.0,0.0,0.2599454270027428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949555899353673,0.0,0.0674121318411047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608008080101026,0.1081765645692855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001341764855871,0.08066000083251801,0.0,0.0573107168047687,0.0,0.16491798378730715,0.0,0.10153814576234513,0.07290551405055781,0.0,0.0,0.04978882748953607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616937804687862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059964396258704325,0.0,0.0,0.1630771318319738
parenting,the_super_one,2020/02/03,"Is UCMAS or Kumon worth it? Hello guys, I am based out of Australia. My son is going to year 1. I see few of his friends in school are going to Kumon or UCMAS classes. I heard they give lots of homework over the weekend. I usually sit with my son to do supplementary mathematics problems like addition, subtraction, etc. I want to hear from the existing parents who are sending their kids to these classes, are they really worth it? 

Thanks.",3.391957831325304,5.858596072289162,4.663478915662652,80.10678463855425,76.22891566265059,7.523493975903612,28.44728915662651,8.472884824447931,2.4323506024096395,346,15,61,7,8,114,59,83,0.031,0.8079999999999999,0.162,0.8599,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,15,2,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,3,11,3,13,14,3,10,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,3,4,42,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948569049076146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426163155481866,0.0,0.0,0.25362024157537244,0.3005098761253924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617807126357377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979788289074854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916416765430486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22476895191086071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935660074155327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25297880248914145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937050444436924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675696866125241,0.21067900222426011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24340832347973285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911804965003148,0.0,0.15593992926888284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025396851395266
parenting,tpat93,2020/02/03,"Whens best to talk to a child about not being there bio dad. OK so back story.
Im the step father to the most amazing 5 year old boy.
His bio dad left @ 3 weeks. Around the time of his first birthday he was invited to come and so was his family.
He came back to the city we were in to visit his God daughter for her first birthday. Got her a gift and nothing for his own son. (breaks my heart)
Been given multiple offer to be in his life but only to be blocked on all social media.
And since has not tried to be in his life.
He is starting to ask questions about his surname being different from his two younger sisters.
Me and my partner are trying to think of the right time to tell him as he is a smart kid, age 5 knows the tooth fairy ain't real, knows santas not real
Wondering if anyone is able to give advice or has been in the same situation",3.4242509363295888,3.9732097584269686,4.5803932584269695,88.64321161048694,72.20224719101124,7.281647940074906,24.383895131086145,7.1686216300943375,0.8139535580524342,659,17,146,6,12,217,115,178,0.015,0.9059999999999999,0.079,0.8595,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,10,1,17,4,2,0,1,25,28,11,0,1,6,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,1,5,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,8,0,16,4,27,15,5,25,0,0,0,0,35,8,0,5,12,94,16,0,0.1499339623698666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651373275736368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048373126272767,0.0,0.0,0.13347301435514922,0.14016801521866426,0.0,0.0,0.23057992438251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573464433167932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17148451008779847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291548325213163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664907885933468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134439594137702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25506750359601665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383031883586064,0.0,0.0,0.11991588643530815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17767246731217454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195440815657489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479956921322952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290368881571313,0.0,0.21180558339177535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386568063521374,0.0,0.15733047189996655,0.0,0.0,0.1140315346653859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679603518535174,0.0,0.0,0.3413153477972985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804278463861385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402692304716954,0.16853205569049565,0.0,0.15283879300696898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612403027126074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051123955534565,0.13104889171816414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607162901855444,0.0,0.0,0.17485539838971004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20359063705073396,0.0,0.1464636949785398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026798073591345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259698643548953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655255598814254
parenting,ThrowRA2413535,2020/02/03,"this is from a 14 year old, I don't know what to do :( my grandma makes everyone feel bad and she yells at them because she's dealing with some issues, I don't like being around her because she likes to take her anger on everyone. When I tell my mum I'm frustrated with how I'm being treated, my mum just tells me to deal with it or move out, I'm 14. I get upset that my grandma treats everyone so horribly and my mum gets mad at me just because I'm not ""happy"" all the time. She says that if I keep getting upset because of my grandma I will end up like her. I feel so trapped, and scared there's something wrong with me, what should I do coming from parents because I can't rely on my own.",3.0596621621621622,3.5343796959459475,4.4536216216216244,89.49272972972975,72.98648648648648,7.271351351351353,27.63783783783784,7.1686216300943375,1.2228032432432432,537,19,122,5,10,179,85,148,0.257,0.725,0.018000000000000002,-0.9893,1,1,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,0,8,14,3,3,2,0,10,0,0,2,1,24,24,9,0,2,5,4,2,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,6,10,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,8,0,0,0,4,27,6,17,20,3,14,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,3,8,78,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208240499361654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388429897451192,0.4522305193931393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780921280890442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30592972897740456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314134218271553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253269889408805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004253295473782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325545066384948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579445954822846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548616653342979,0.0,0.13187971938659834,0.0,0.0,0.08154128963356096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746097709577808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903936337701273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769579779815987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569129990602107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474938308883355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179912519689688,0.14854610759190218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422390050938032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155716764503272,0.0,0.25936707691078514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651682011158111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16222132842512846,0.0,0.09554660816501363
parenting,Unkempt27,2020/02/03,"Help us to deal with our son's behaviour I will start by saying this - our son (7,boy) is usually very well behaved. Hyper, always talking, asking questions etc, but good. However, it seems Al least once a day he has a meltdown, and my wife and I aren't dealing with it very well. The littlest thing will trigger it - we ask him to read his school book, he doesn't want what I've made for dinner, we ask him to leave his clothes flat if he's getting changed (for the 3rd time that day) and not in a pile on the floor. He will scream at us, hit, kick, stamp his feet, throw things, slam doors - he's even threatened a couple of times recently to get a knife and cut himself.

I've tried remaining clam, taking him away to his room etc, but I'm human and sometimes I lose it and shout back, tell him that if the neighbours hear him screaming they'll call the police and he'll be taken away to live with someone else. Usually if I lose my temper my wife tries to be the calm one and vice-versa, which only seems to then make us mad at each other.

Last night my son infuriated me so much (he lost it because he doesn't like his toothpaste) that I just went downstairs - didn't say goodnight. We carried it over to this morning and I dropped him off at school where he would usually give me a hug, go line up and then wave and blow a kiss as he walked in to class. This morning he just walked off to the line without a cuddle, then when the line began moving I just left, so no idea if he even looked at me.

Now I'm at work feeling really, really shitty. 

Is his behaviour normal? Is mine? Hace any other redditors been in a similar situation, or are currently? What did you do?

Thanks.",5.106529411764708,4.975138358823532,5.477647058823528,86.0694117647059,68.35294117647058,8.564705882352943,28.470588235294123,8.07648339933343,1.5966352941176472,1302,39,282,15,20,416,197,340,0.154,0.773,0.073,-0.986,2,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,8,1,1,4,13,16,3,0,17,0,19,5,1,3,0,41,45,25,0,7,12,5,1,1,1,6,0,6,2,1,19,18,1,0,5,2,0,6,7,8,2,1,8,8,38,8,35,28,5,45,0,3,1,3,56,19,0,8,20,169,57,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808008788368916,0.0,0.0,0.06381253043987717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631754132928733,0.0,0.17632632260203895,0.07215503337398357,0.0,0.057202301057603336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581829779161186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926734109358193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038291040386894,0.0,0.12103449361756985,0.19348411605346846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838896009628782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093066200181604,0.12395720349534226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744692017380733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805215357047548,0.0900172162306375,0.05332985713323345,0.07870621178965305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576137183413947,0.0,0.06289711354339972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593080449507734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648986221227007,0.0,0.09936007166436532,0.1019544189262854,0.0,0.0,0.045844127963786716,0.0,0.08285998836484164,0.0,0.07879963502706397,0.2099597030487792,0.10243441533494882,0.0,0.0,0.08879105066144731,0.06263707597673475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973411915315034,0.06898115701838244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880598784361186,0.0919405564293724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993358152094534,0.06358653181212225,0.0713674376596473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511916703894834,0.0,0.093862618133163,0.0,0.12022905764112647,0.0,0.09265293853485622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492462544622078,0.0,0.18993656174249404,0.0,0.17085176971476085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547697190463794,0.0,0.0,0.07950797576111321,0.0,0.09280741439025147,0.0,0.0664184704415255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055391459789101,0.07542280652006032,0.08201787021025618,0.08639270884260411,0.0,0.0,0.124682564621225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943448038868148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741863152541272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386238814131192,0.0,0.31004533651731736,0.1548510751967756,0.05534762621782165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687418683519379,0.08698804717780931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045573577828303,0.0,0.06831461699377178,0.0,0.0,0.06665927192604862,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,x_Sugarcube_x,2020/02/03,"little sister possibly having a anxiety disorder ok so look i know im not technically a ""parent"" but I'm still a person of that sort for her considering im older and take care of her a lot. My little sister is 9 and for the past 3 to 4 year's she's always had this issue with sleeping. at least once every 2 months i catch her awake in the middle of the night walking up and down the hall strutting heavily and vividly to nothing and no actual destination in mind like getting a cup of water or going to the restroom; she just does so for no reason. so after a while i get annoyed of her little footsteps going up and down the hall and i confront her. she did this today and i happen to catch her in her room this time, so i ask her ""what the hell are you doing it's 1!"" and she simply is tucked in her bed covering her mouth with her blanket , eyes wide open like she's seen something horrifying, and to add to how scary it is when shes like this her eyes do in fact look like they're about to cry in fear. so i asked her my question and she just shrugs still wide eyed and i tell her to just tell me what's wrong. usually once i get her to tell me her voice is always high pitch like how kids do when they try to talk while holding back a sob, so she tells me her reason and this time it was about some pennywise video she watched with her cousin. it's always some dumb video she watched that is supposedly keeping her up at night which makes sense but i truly think that its just a heavy mind breaking anxiety dissorder she has because other nights like those i got her to confess that she's scared of mom dying and me dying and our dad dying. she also is very histerical on nights like; me slightly stuttering makes her laugh. i remember that in one summer she'd stay up late watching cartoons and i thought of it as her just doing kids stuff until my mom limited her after catching her awake at 4 which after led to me finding her absolutely shaking and just whimpering in her room because she did not want to sleep at all. im trying to think of more eerie memories i have of her when shes like this but the basic message is that its one of the eeriest sights to see especially considering that i myself remember experience the exact same situation at her age. although my anxiety is somewhat controlled it took me a devastating attack in my 8th grade summer where every night i had constant anxiety over death and my loved ones passing away. i remember myself not being able to eat a CFA sandwich because my anxiety made me want to throw up even looking at a cake emoji on my phone. i know what she has is anxiety and i don't want her to go through the same shit i had to because honestly i don't even know how i survived that summer of mine where i could have easily been vulnerable to kill myself over how miserable and uncontrollable my sadness was. i remember myself praying to god to take away this sadness and to make me happy i remember being on my knees like a fucking crack addict punching myself in the chest repetitively hoping that this strange sadness that refused to go away puffed out of me, i remember how seeing my mom and dad having fun in the river happy made me sad because thoughts in my head of seeing them cry over one another's death made me miserable and reminded me of how pointless life is. i don't want my little sister to go through that, i dont want her to feel the same  pain i had to, but seeing her how she is i fear that's exactly where she's headed and my mom doesn't understand how to deal with it and only gives you god as a choice to save you but what i think my sister needs is professional help and actual support instead of mom waking up squinting threatening her to go to sleep or else just making her more anxious. I'm sorry this is all too much and i just sound crazy it's just that i get worried for her and it's really embarrassing to share this considering how personal it is and I'm kind of scared to post this but i hope to get some advice or sone reassurance that this is normal for every kid even my case about my experience. i know the only way to make sure she has a issue would be to take her to a professional rather than to get diagnosed by random redditors. i just want to help but i don't really know what to do but tell her that its going to be ok and that everything is fine.

ok... I'm going to post this.... like i said this is verry iffy considering how personal it is to me i just hope to get advice i might just delete later once i get responses i don't want this to be a big part of my account....

(my mom is a good mom but like every parent they're not perfect and parenting is hard💙)",4.409272013366753,5.081860632631582,5.643373433583964,81.46039181286551,70.04210526315791,8.768588137009191,27.7109440267335,8.931816317955466,2.023511946532999,3691,120,751,65,63,1236,356,950,0.171,0.7,0.129,-0.9918,3,0,1,0,0,1,46.0,1,3,2,4,47,58,8,9,32,3,60,22,13,22,7,149,134,69,6,15,29,17,1,11,0,2,4,3,3,6,55,38,3,5,23,2,1,17,13,25,0,4,18,20,143,33,120,107,15,108,3,7,16,2,106,53,5,15,44,522,198,3,0.04187121900297805,0.0,0.08172053950190296,0.045645809137298,0.0,0.08183214122086478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03348439870902678,0.1045206253316922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043905623943461605,0.19218820758427185,0.04730255930471567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828787513739438,0.047634556341325344,0.11801816570862722,0.032196382857185686,0.0,0.12762153234805698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04269049834399872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045247912719152315,0.04696213249385797,0.033430761281778736,0.0,0.09198713590759297,0.0,0.043167388233013686,0.0,0.04249840590578685,0.1303671441364566,0.0,0.0479880445297058,0.0,0.03664178591467168,0.0,0.04907275683092315,0.0,0.0,0.04284471020133012,0.034978030679516506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296663576378678,0.0,0.1411132316035064,0.0,0.03763115176808966,0.08191617328382901,0.0,0.09423352454031628,0.021171346417269227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03826953560763148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03870926726441898,0.1750078700657834,0.040166688614472576,0.19037102945610396,0.03511959193316786,0.03348823884533147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037026580682509184,0.08914538244164756,0.037508387881100114,0.0,0.08594390108806058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613079098055932,0.044239241766091814,0.0,0.1247627044221001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568430498141468,0.08740534830978021,0.0,0.03721706331614905,0.04632430008958434,0.043602431274824056,0.11505663468529782,0.0,0.04723255881728645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029574880260861237,0.22501778868678265,0.16786384561960893,0.0,0.0,0.10548383527957547,0.0,0.0,0.035597413067370805,0.03779040991172277,0.11885867947301737,0.13974681909915956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044418746508288115,0.08455599010040546,0.3432734594734324,0.033421207533446386,0.0,0.03078016373139496,0.031046978342418687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646651300065615,0.04102490452135362,0.04017656390637876,0.0,0.0,0.1337744451282415,0.11349208652833193,0.06368989768230994,0.04455392915961008,0.0,0.1394791007343476,0.04534244985972018,0.0399708163655281,0.0,0.10968100015558438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047203508159596695,0.08020210706176611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04690534796197246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053647550134292815,0.08610117355347748,0.0,0.0,0.2845915729442613,0.0,0.03982911768450429,0.0,0.08384078943038932,0.0,0.13346376184149733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04298020460097185,0.0,0.04706500449465255,0.12570437368975934,0.0,0.0,0.032234510031169464,0.0,0.046871401626643626,0.0,0.04462914831421365,0.06687681916607363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047932528157031584,0.0,0.04751496312818538,0.03946312838478413,0.0,0.09444583725821944,0.033654499781007284,0.18298645478643094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048815935415872,0.0,0.06648214165563217,0.048830889040120284,0.0,0.039689019741691166,0.0,0.04652046495425651,0.05685561840804356,0.0,0.0,0.043589415649948886,0.0,0.0,0.04611523221051679,0.03454814078625232,0.17287710869683284,0.033235424699743665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04252225537486171,0.0,0.029744112635753377,0.045779604925678494,0.0,0.026963692236078224
parenting,internet_humor,2020/02/03,"Yes! One for the dads! My 16 month old has been spending a lot of bonding time with me lately. I still work full time, while my wife is home with the kids.

Maybe it's speech thing, maybe he doesn't get it. But now, the baby calls my wife ""Dada"" all the time. Especially when he first sees her and is super stoked. 

I ressaure her that he knows and used to say Mama, and he's just being funny/goofy.

But, deep deep down inside, my heart fills up and explodes everytime.",1.6466198830409375,3.6158379894736825,2.3140350877193008,97.27269005847955,79.63157894736842,5.064327485380117,16.871345029239766,5.82211442006289,-0.7061111111111114,359,6,82,2,9,111,71,95,0.0,0.9229999999999999,0.077,0.8011,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,5,1,6,1,1,1,1,13,10,8,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,6,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,3,9,1,7,8,3,17,0,0,1,0,12,5,0,1,11,47,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026990598819705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181784317293127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178191467861278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672292549270608,0.0,0.0,0.2262039173874105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393385075182728,0.0,0.2543839784250392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171969049458126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531082089651936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799991351096447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23663376447224035,0.0,0.15281073698821948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933381084918248,0.0,0.0,0.17970147903773118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180091781494288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981816153808866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944883403028095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194767374173382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641732403448376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CoPHar28,2020/02/03,"To inform, or to not inform My 17 year old daughter informed my husband and I that her and her BF are thinking about having sex. I have always encouraged her to let me know if its something she’s thinking about doing, that way I can take the proper precautions and educate her a little more.
I love that she was upfront about it and that she wanted to take proper precautious. 
However, we are aware of their plans, I’m not sure if this was communicated to he BFs parents. Should we give his parents the heads up? Or just leave it as is?",4.936994609164422,5.709252726415095,5.6779784366576855,81.32537735849056,68.90566037735849,8.321293800539085,29.293800539083556,8.418075326091056,2.057923450134771,423,15,82,6,7,138,71,106,0.03,0.903,0.067,0.7107,3,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,11,3,1,0,1,22,20,9,0,4,7,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,18,3,11,16,1,5,0,0,0,2,23,2,0,4,2,63,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871670205646126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157817007904328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23085200434800585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362042864878603,0.0,0.0,0.2381776081529043,0.0,0.23001506413259984,0.0,0.0,0.2254476741702988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301596187296855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360353302941563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4995356205080724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731688032696281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21200206576928796,0.0,0.33825182174816626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882632768267565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326746751354202,0.1785458726019806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485314998544213
parenting,luvCatsSoGodDamnMuch,2020/02/03,"LifeVac Reviews? Has anyone purchased or tried the LifeVac suction device for clearing the airway of a choking victim?

The concept of choking scares me so much (already too CPR class). I'm seriously thinking of purchasing, but don't want to buy a hoax product, or something that is actually worse for the victim.

Any real life users or opinions from medical professionals?

(Introducing foods soon and getting nervous).",7.213190476190476,10.138421842857145,7.165714285714286,64.46761904761905,66.28571428571428,8.095238095238095,43.095238095238095,8.841846274778883,4.84852380952381,339,22,42,6,6,108,58,70,0.259,0.741,0.0,-0.9425,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,2,6,0,3,3,0,0,1,10,7,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,27,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.28101282586729576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177771322475059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582644081337924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013521999222212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482090719778915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045010843038156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033985758647125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290094984341372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116878044011428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32776782628212503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28830373984780144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216899401183148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451668941354027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955096979616112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984953542811035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934614851273455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hightoproundollar,2020/02/03,"Stuck under a sleeping upset toddler So, I feel bad that my first post about my daughter on here is not a happy post, but here we are. 

Last night, my almost 2 year old daughter had her first real bad night terror. My wife is prone to them, so we knew it was coming. Luckily, we did pretty well and got her calmed back down and asleep fairly quickly, but her sleep was ruined. 

Today, she woke up very sensitive and easily upset. We did our best to make it a good day. Her grandparents are visiting, so we went to lunch and to the park. When we got home, she got to play as much as she wanted. Still, anything would very easily set her off. We could also tell she wasn't feeling great. She was running warm (no fever) and her appetite wasn't normal. 

Fast forward to bed time. She fights her mom the entire time, not wanting to lay down and sleep. When we finally get her down in her own bed, she's up again in a couple of hours screaming and wailing her head off, completely inconsolable. I take her and cuddle her back asleep on the couch (so mommy can sleep), but she immediately wakes up the moment I shift her so I can get in a comfortable position. This happens at least 3 more times. 

So now here I am. Sitting up on the couch with a sleeping toddler in my lap, unable to move for fear of waking her up and starting it all over again. 

I don't think she's sick. She doesn't have a fever. Her nose and throat are clear. Maybe stomach? Maybe teething? Fear of sleep?",2.4819873982672576,4.390736296928331,3.3032935153583622,91.4513382777632,76.81569965870305,6.145917563665005,21.50813861906012,7.010146845296331,0.4511949067996852,1137,30,240,12,26,360,162,293,0.13699999999999998,0.72,0.14300000000000002,0.6465,1,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,9,0,1,3,21,19,1,5,12,0,21,20,15,1,2,39,40,24,0,5,5,4,3,0,0,1,3,1,5,0,5,20,1,0,4,1,0,6,7,10,1,2,15,5,46,9,36,23,6,56,0,1,0,1,42,21,0,1,27,164,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728288259513904,0.0,0.0,0.07769177096061812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994715095260439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940653552942626,0.16223437006754252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019541793883184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368714720316227,0.10186117357238657,0.0,0.0,0.07756731936903112,0.1074959430837036,0.0,0.06265447996272337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186441951374921,0.098245120724534,0.0,0.0,0.10642437913425447,0.0,0.16527350392916929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151497325373088,0.0,0.0,0.08148580825393452,0.2331020429712461,0.10710952914559722,0.0,0.0,0.08591047582601075,0.10341924749847912,0.0,0.0,0.09970514831128784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974505640630553,0.0,0.09567435181556402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919118585273212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484917323003886,0.0,0.19520285526105727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378229870156267,0.0,0.10325633930150678,0.07141730247362016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233961985840805,0.09518753833542766,0.0,0.0,0.10194383055130687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860879685058203,0.09883768597206312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057932249301153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5833281041908001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876411180075706,0.0,0.07758506524748464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304560371744406,0.0,0.08491442153524696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062250559292052886,0.0,0.0,0.1699489192000477,0.0,0.09208796783893457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031981128913736,0.11460457706563787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873505865438203,0.09006012577074671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901341745464312,0.0,0.0,0.06256218066395354
parenting,dogofthecentury,2020/02/03,"18MO wakes up, needs to be co-slept We went without co-sleeping for approximately 16 months, but over the last month our daughter has woken up in the middle of the night and had a hard time going back to sleep.  Sometimes we can calm her down and she goes to sleep, but sometimes it's just too much work and we slam dunk her in our bed and she sleeps like an angel.

The problem is it's starting to happen every single night, and it's really ruining our sleep.  The even worse problem, in my opinion, is we all sleep in the same room together.  So basically she wakes up at 2am, sees her mom sleeping in our bed, and freaks out because she's not in the bed with her.

I'm not sure how to handle this.  We have an extra room available, but my wife insists on sleeping in the same room as our daughter.  If she had her own room, we could just re-sleep train her by leaving her in the room by herself.  But since her crib is in our room, I feel like it'll make things much, much harder.

We've tried rocking her back to sleep and putting her down, but recently she just rockets right back up screaming for mommy.  Or sometimes if I pick her up and do anything that isn't instantly put her in our bed, she freaks out before the rocking even starts.

Any ideas that will satisfy my wife's urge to sleep in the same room as our daughter, but at the same time will hopefully get our daughter over her co-sleeping habit?",5.655197368421053,5.232317473684212,5.641085526315791,86.34478618421055,67.24561403508771,8.388157894736842,30.093201754385966,7.413659706084162,1.5878464912280696,1100,35,237,9,16,345,140,285,0.095,0.848,0.057,-0.8494,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,15,0,0,1,11,11,0,0,15,0,15,11,11,3,2,49,28,21,0,7,15,7,2,2,0,3,0,1,11,0,8,17,0,0,2,2,0,4,4,6,0,0,4,4,41,5,41,19,11,51,1,1,1,0,43,34,0,5,15,160,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047546678347985635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753660592140621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128801691636396,0.0,0.0426214003801812,0.0,0.05949511929592621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055823881573486084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236043834779142,0.0,0.05890898103612462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03535267190559182,0.049949475987589316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03652930055434159,0.0,0.03973604472317427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182830949225526,0.0,0.06263284839487525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944440957379831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892897921069322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699255068587353,0.0,0.07403313009988627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831686477287599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667084792899929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188718676297338,0.11161585676524233,0.0,0.15419345678111468,0.05184335551300829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122672573875468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338042814343857,0.0,0.14057392346407838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04479129954837025,0.0,0.06903564920784815,0.0,0.0,0.05970964115838578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055715641446165136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057836941691222124,0.0,0.8396226470560346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20745224722653996,0.0,0.09897672537602267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589694404213857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464504522448987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153956602805416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047469773153623294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481474203847072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739851474519708,0.0,0.05090118035248616,0.0,0.07125247634035928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MagicPlants,2020/02/03,"Telling my kid how to talk politely when they are mad is manipulative. Didn't think I could feel any less appreciated then I already did, oh how I was wrong. Apparently politely explaining to your young child how to talk to people with respect, even if you don't like what they are saying, is ""manipulative"" -- See, I thought I was emparting a tool to my child on how not to be a brat, explaining what it sounds like and how you say it with respect, instead of a snotty, insincere tone that's basically her saying ""whatever I don't care"".

Meanwhile I thought it was my job as a father to give her those 'people skills' and explain how a polite conversation or exchange is to be had regardless of how pleased you are about it. I thought was my job as her Dad to correct her until she gets it right, not just give up when she doesn't do it right instantly and say whatever I dont care myself! Other people can slap her mouth and scream at her but its really my polite indepth explanation that's the problem. Makes sense.

TL;DR: Telling your kids how to talk politely when they are mad is manipulative. You've heard it all now folks. //closer to the edge//",4.3912450540754415,5.990408340807178,5.4003218148245855,79.70892904246901,70.97309417040357,9.013874967027169,29.26114481667107,9.478462496947786,2.6094813505671324,912,36,179,21,17,300,118,223,0.096,0.861,0.043,-0.8913,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,5,3,1,16,12,2,0,7,0,24,1,1,12,2,37,40,22,0,4,6,2,1,2,0,0,0,7,0,4,14,6,0,0,8,0,1,0,7,6,0,0,11,9,31,6,22,26,2,13,0,0,1,0,38,6,0,2,9,125,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946630198605085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210686034094193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761892566219371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081413600787572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873986900210355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945977186531065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848477595124032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707641269887695,0.2598612876337037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688154045005359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234261868963745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041021205999336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817003514099198,0.0,0.0,0.1486773163542449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12960203205887233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676917327003596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23133761475121825,0.0,0.4308434039960542,0.0,0.0,0.10793167859023198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32659531876158826,0.2367688121703674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678732489746993,0.0,0.3225832561360446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480872271738957,0.0,0.0
parenting,playadefaro,2020/02/03,"Any parents of older teens? Are there any parents of older teens that are more or less self managing? After about 17 years of juggling work and home, I'm FINALLY finding myself with a bit of time on my hands on the evenings and weekends. Want to see if anyone else is in the same boat. What are you doing with your time? How are you holding up with the thought of soon becoming empty nesters? Are you planning for a future with just your partner and you? Cultivating hobbies, nurturing friendships?",4.488629032258063,6.754062741935482,4.4233198924731205,84.05497983870971,72.11827956989248,6.800537634408602,30.97983870967742,7.645422480735847,2.1580548387096776,397,18,70,5,8,122,67,93,0.019,0.899,0.08199999999999999,0.7236,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,6,0,2,6,1,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,1,0,16,11,6,0,2,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,8,1,17,10,4,14,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,10,52,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30477782552980737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566889675445321,0.229606729508744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474898452523509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244648286778938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719847527594327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800935913229932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24547968730232386,0.20481423842601704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247805830603541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4976509441895674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857075023917035,0.0,0.23377478576729074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790246204886753,0.2613374108575069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217411259687942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314021929345282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443066398063267
parenting,questionclkat,2020/02/03,"How do I or should I tell my husband about our daughter being sexually active? I would rather avoid the conversation and she made me promise I wouldn't tell him but recently there have been some issues and I feel like I can't solve everything on my own.

I am worried he will get too angry at her and do something stupid. On the other hand I am worried he would learn somehow someday and get mad at me for not telling him. 

What's the right thing to do here?",3.5464055299539154,4.859358387096774,4.309708141321046,87.82741935483875,72.65591397849462,7.034715821812598,27.264208909370197,7.447530270364453,1.3193821812596007,362,13,76,4,7,116,66,93,0.217,0.677,0.105,-0.9144,0,1,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,2,1,3,0,14,1,1,2,0,19,18,7,0,5,4,2,2,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,2,17,2,7,10,2,6,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,3,2,59,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19779090865266968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127748284396184,0.15722296668599725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22996217239776545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297030844263757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751844680959632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824206461626069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172993682305804,0.0,0.0,0.1879444526106792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942593382020904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5770706788841318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620929972646307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469975078300252,0.0,0.3126726017608505,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JonathansThrowaway32,2020/02/03,"Boyfriend and son constantly fighting. Hi, everyone. I'm at my witts end here and I do not know what to do.

My son is approaching eighteen and has not looked for a job since he left school in 2018. It's been a hellish couple of years trying to get him to do something as in study and work but with me always being a single mother, he's been controlling and has went as far as stealing off of me and my disabled sister, so he could buy weed. 

I've been with my boyfriend for one year this March. He lives in the same house as me and we split the rent and bills, we'll just call him John and my son Robert. Since he moved in, he's been extremely harsh towards my son and you could call it ""tough love"", but sometimes it's been physical. He sees my son sitting on the couch doing nothing, and that's when arguments erupt. It's every day and every night but mostly, it's my boyfriend who instigates it by telling him to get a job. He is right but I cannot take any more of their fighting. 

Last week, £300 went missing from one of my bank accounts and it went towards a game console. It turns out that Robert had somehow figured out the P.I.N. of one of my cards and stole the money. I decided to not tell John and was going to confront my son myself in my own time. The same week, John got my son a job at a construction site through a mutual friend and I was extremely happy. Robert wanted it, and I thought I was finally seeing my son get his act together which I have wanted to do for years and couldn't do it. Once he got his wage, I was going to confront him about the stolen money.

The morning of his shift (which was 10AM, but my son was supposed to start work at 6AM), I was woken up by my boyfriend shouting the place down telling my son to get up and slapping him with a wet cloth. He did not get up for work and he noticed the games console and asked me where he got it. I ended up admitting the situation with the theft and he blew up at my son, literally pulled the console from the wall and demanded Robert to return it. They ended up fighting and my boyfriend punched him and pinned him to the ground.

I really really am at my witts end here and I don't know what to do. He had a job which he completely blew and this constant fighting I can't put up with anymore. Please help me. I might be a bad mother but advice would greatly be appreciated.",4.311430951746203,4.6937408615702525,4.83456944814716,88.20939082911224,70.13636363636364,8.0633431085044,28.009597440682484,7.941651935203635,1.4798575846440944,1843,60,406,22,31,588,213,484,0.096,0.861,0.043,-0.9715,6,0,1,0,8,0,47.0,2,1,2,4,8,15,7,0,26,0,40,1,0,1,0,64,70,39,0,6,11,14,1,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,22,35,0,1,6,2,8,10,8,11,0,3,23,5,55,4,63,38,6,63,1,1,3,1,62,32,0,3,20,258,77,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442847802409317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189120873719533,0.0,0.0,0.05875454383114464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856849726480801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077176091177689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213987667395796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644686203839452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058811022987692,0.18673408016218426,0.096904255762314,0.13796575536692446,0.0955992749721366,0.0,0.05572045498990239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30609683785236586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559041466591488,0.08255831390603624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464630192296906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675194969868285,0.0,0.22570056049268136,0.0,0.09820552192003867,0.0,0.20730444017987576,0.09525562579559667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197375077978544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791168582509002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969328884785494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34295222761367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949656837338333,0.07042702947226498,0.0,0.0,0.09387318343733822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629223891720026,0.0,0.07255372225738588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797881725083965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165609276460132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182887177253354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107996896024923,0.0,0.08290253908175638,0.09836627125159213,0.0,0.09201252411088293,0.17563937574670174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026896703172738,0.09484057830325897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868552445161091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069931545197596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378460179502579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744078917659168,0.1376982456469637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294092642121378,0.09711652752567744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651446683861419,0.08545119992984455,0.0,0.061153928638372074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496158417673623,0.0,0.2265506092763043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859145993281239,0.05038017557298815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058659510281588674,0.09397771950439013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019211903414082,0.0,0.1386087485106927,0.0,0.0,0.2402792834947847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18869934153058554,0.0,0.0,0.06137564342196539,0.0,0.0,0.16691511160079733
parenting,kayyxelle,2020/02/03,"Moving with a toddler- advice? Hi all!

We are moving in about 3 weeks, and our son is 2 1/2.

He’s currently still in a crib, but knows how to climb in and out. I was planning on converting his crib into a toddler bed when we move to the new house. But, a thought just occurred to me, would it be better to keep it as a crib at first? I’m afraid that the move to the new house will be overwhelming, and changing his bed on top of it might be too much. I’m not sure if keeping it as a crib will help him feel more comfortable/at home.

So what do y’all think? Keep it as a crib, or just do everything at once and convert to toddler bed?",1.4713603185136035,2.6391058905109515,3.0482946250829457,95.3907166556072,77.68613138686132,6.4416721964167225,22.67352355673524,6.980632752743323,0.3986408759124087,485,14,119,5,11,160,86,137,0.019,0.899,0.083,0.8559,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,0,5,8,4,0,2,10,0,12,0,0,1,2,28,21,14,0,2,7,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,7,9,0,3,4,0,0,5,1,2,0,1,2,1,9,2,21,12,3,22,0,1,0,0,11,10,0,3,7,79,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423005178856549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879117346905594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404918383744795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087601779305486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363105778651842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386633380511593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097607620999516,0.0,0.1460711343411029,0.0,0.0,0.3360573816982843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38830762375707417,0.0,0.0,0.08003025929730384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448234734323202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6190942353056718,0.10704921499636813,0.0,0.0,0.2812860307935095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550830968338492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629423182502666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372473828195773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330894999514447,0.0,0.11560791452603217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680950052733065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344597047004236,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amirasmama,2020/02/03,"Why ""human beings"" shouldn't call there baby a parasite I saw a post on here that was 4 years ago being a mother myself it really made me angry like you had sex to have a baby why would you think having a baby would be easy like that when it's not that's why people should have experience with kids instead of trying just because they're partner I saw a parent calling there 3 month old a parasite and that they don't love the baby I find that disgusting like someone is to watch this person because they might end up killing the kid the way they say things is just horrible I don't understand how anyone could say that to their own flesh and blood like you had the baby you did things as time for you to be the grown-up and be the parent not the child.",6.465576923076924,5.334402480769236,6.7650000000000015,81.29250000000002,65.85897435897436,9.594871794871796,27.833333333333336,8.472884824447931,1.7143102564102568,601,13,125,7,8,195,93,156,0.11599999999999999,0.802,0.08199999999999999,-0.8091,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,5,4,0,8,7,2,0,14,0,22,4,2,2,0,19,28,6,1,5,4,3,0,4,1,5,0,2,0,6,11,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,7,5,15,5,10,10,1,11,0,0,3,2,23,2,0,1,11,86,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321949309755787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427530855664137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181678067033344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045572312945711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906833587913702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208509968294935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587795880988064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630230796304538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499047915606094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914299461702017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345958347299671,0.1411106081846598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820358334052542,0.0,0.0,0.11903430886713595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564870664040901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311828941889146,0.0,0.0,0.1033881086586408,0.1302147449969761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282551541908495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955366296424188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371886533559051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635754089632928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815096670957014,0.09555661537285984,0.0,0.0,0.08695902328546314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124962175053384,0.0,0.0,0.1552498054004015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183726172993776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037004497339405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21187564135256995,0.0,0.0,0.0960349642249074
parenting,itzgtx,2020/02/03,"I’m not ok. Chocking incident(s) I don’t even know where to begin. Reliving this sucks. I hate thinking about. I was doing ok today until now

Yesterday my 10 month old was choking on food. I did everything I could. I felt helpless. I was screaming like I’ve never screamed before. I saw the fear in his face. In my moms face when she ran to the room. I was not going to let him die. I kept trying. I kept going. And then I heard it. The most beautiful cry. There was blood(ER doc says I scratched his tonsil). He started turning blue. His eyes were watery. But he cried. And I felt relief. 

We went to the nearest children’s ER via ambulance. We’re there till 3am. And then I decided to block it out because It hurts to think about it. 

But then again an hour ago he looked like he was choking again. I asked my sister what she gave him and it was a little melt Star from Gerber. I got that feeling again he looked like he was choking. He looked like he needed to throw up. Like he wasn’t breathing. I turned him over and patted his back with force like they told me to. I never saw anything come out but he started crying and breathing again. The fear rushed back. I didn’t know what to do. My sister had called 911 again while it was happening. Fire/EMT came out and cleared him. 

But now I’m a just in a horrible mood. I feel sick to my stomach. I feel so sad and broken. I’m traumatized. I’m scared he isn’t breathing but sitting here playing normally. I have to touch him. 

I’m so scared. 

Idk what I want out of this post but maybe some assurance that this feeling is normal and will go away. 

I feel so helpless and like a bad mom. Even though I know I’m not ):",-0.3525851393188866,1.9138654649122844,1.275001719986243,97.86537151702787,96.10526315789473,4.085861713106295,18.109391124871003,5.900188976854957,-0.3112326109391126,1287,39,284,12,51,413,177,342,0.21600000000000005,0.691,0.09300000000000001,-0.9939,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,0,1,0,23,26,2,4,10,2,23,9,7,0,4,55,70,27,1,5,10,4,9,7,0,1,1,4,1,1,14,18,1,3,13,1,0,9,9,13,1,0,27,20,45,12,29,40,2,53,0,4,7,0,35,15,1,2,34,169,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617219586916244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999684330142674,0.0,0.09087970007176573,0.0,0.09133347476687316,0.14949940139883375,0.08116760463479712,0.05925927386398385,0.0,0.08271989039494561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926388702957864,0.11118414439571546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373916420265776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761553249789653,0.0,0.3203470514586648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089026717135267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284146569898814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736749541451172,0.0,0.0,0.21878009671101026,0.24576546612616565,0.0,0.18667671371338584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754862241846935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574273502404924,0.0,0.07774897701219356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596387476870443,0.0,0.0,0.09597630458525994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957338196415856,0.0,0.1040670016663984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027481803202653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940542177219773,0.0,0.3324486565545807,0.09743153659509952,0.0,0.0,0.2448997190383169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976620932593795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22770604358624802,0.07759335175071234,0.0,0.0,0.07208115113462574,0.1499511191608984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190493407150482,0.0,0.0,0.10200719526571736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310181713458543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730654626501443,0.19465149063866755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761370632827416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457850411867125,0.09550987891443999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921452064942921,0.09288982586879946,0.0,0.06600027832215008,0.21147655729125575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057337905628314687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011610399050136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kitfisto1234,2020/02/03,witch sweat pants are good for a liitle boy he only wheres fleece sweat pants and he grow out of all of them need new ones any ideas,2.8734482758620707,3.4478096206896574,2.678793103448278,101.68301724137932,73.48275862068967,5.8000000000000025,14.5,3.1291,-1.4950827586206894,105,0,27,0,2,31,25,29,0.08199999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.095,0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,5,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,11,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30532873177173664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765916766290005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.506855283266275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33292054333904303,0.0,0.4336375319181099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30424737872212554,0.3414772785252446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,roblox-cotton-picker,2020/02/03,"my thirteen year old daughter with cerebral palsey is pregnant...... u/pinkrose2006...... i’m so disappointed. my 13 year old daughter had sex with a mexican who was 26 and i believed they were just friends...... she just told me she is 6 months pregnant, and i’m very ashamed....... i’m not sure what to do........ can she get an abortion at 13............. can i do it at home??? i don’t want her to be seen.",-1.4346703296703325,0.3727295256410272,0.3495238095238093,102.48000000000002,106.30769230769228,3.2542124542124533,22.23809523809524,5.288315135182226,-0.1364058608058607,285,13,68,2,14,91,54,78,0.08900000000000001,0.893,0.018000000000000002,-0.7346,0,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,11,1,0,0,1,9,18,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,1,11,2,6,12,0,7,0,1,1,1,10,2,0,0,5,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164504981091169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21700370969165472,0.0,0.1467458527503175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28174102137010465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419213936367144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5894631645912627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26472182878832223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683885708862148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317516979647119,0.16566764341799622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617492181573865
parenting,prettychickenfinger,2020/02/03,"10 year old embarrassed by her ethnicity My husband is Persian, I'm not. The kids spend a lot of their time with his family and other Persian kids, just because of where we live. They speak fluently but I don't.


Our 10 y/o daughter seems unhappy about it. She wants to change her name to something less ethnic, she doesn't want to be around her extended family and grumbles through every holiday and family event. She stormed off the other day because her cousin spoke Farsi to her in public. 


Is this just normal first generation kid stuff? Or her age? She's not that upset, just seems irritated and kind of embarrassed about it. She's not the best at talking about her feelings so it's been hard trying to get out her what her problem is exactly.",3.2070238095238075,5.658704861111113,4.236706349206351,83.00750000000002,76.7777777777778,7.7253968253968255,26.257936507936506,8.634040054169528,2.1426186507936515,596,23,111,13,14,193,98,144,0.157,0.802,0.040999999999999995,-0.9529,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,2,2,9,6,0,3,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,26,15,7,0,4,8,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,9,8,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,4,0,1,2,4,21,2,19,12,3,13,0,0,0,0,30,6,0,4,7,78,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331263355556058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366327172756112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19252327643018344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406962547125672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831242071509293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456760354128554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188312930002164,0.0,0.09275967227947383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604557201303995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584695485161247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16433842699509355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910387348979312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199292467557785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559657239103588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974561578159234,0.0,0.0,0.19250373439649088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17554035701444284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340186066672919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123157439536918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100105262906748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745308630297874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697329246812136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245529789847252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164114193547233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813812905272078
parenting,anxious-elephant,2020/02/03,"The most lame treats I have really became the lamest. In this past week these are some things I *said out loud* would be a treat for myself: making a 3 egg omelet instead of 2, opening a new body wash before finishing the one I already had in the shower, and drinking water from a wine glass.",6.751839080459767,5.782716482758622,6.598275862068967,82.19097701149427,65.20689655172414,9.11264367816092,27.95402298850575,7.793537801064563,1.5494298850574713,228,5,46,2,3,72,49,58,0.105,0.846,0.049,-0.4865,1,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,8,0,5,6,1,1,0,7,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,4,2,6,3,2,8,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,2,4,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35270987726816505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719740500063939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35502703451598266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131070373995534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334959369266446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30869208991832225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165835571807476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051145452226185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475748746089084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30403289784709703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21234208404282884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563808002720701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22704968837551864,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mr_Damaged,2020/02/04,"Stalking is stalking. Sorry to break it to you but parent or not, if you feel this urge to know where your child is and what they are doing all the time so badly that you invade their privacy then you are a stalker. Wether or not you are there parent does not matter.

If you have tracking devices, parental controls on all their devices, don’t allow closed doors and force them to constantly fill you in on what they are doing then you are stalking your child.

Now you might wanna say “it’s because I love them and I want them to be safe” and guess who would say that. A stalker, because most people stalk a person out of love. 

Anyway thanks for coming to my TED talk",4.671969696969698,5.6121968030303035,4.522424242424247,88.76196969696974,69.6060606060606,6.472727272727273,25.272727272727273,5.82211442006289,0.6449181818181821,526,14,105,2,9,161,83,132,0.053,0.79,0.157,0.9542,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,11,7,1,5,5,0,0,4,0,14,2,0,2,2,29,22,12,0,5,8,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,3,8,7,0,2,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,21,4,13,19,3,14,0,0,0,2,30,6,0,7,5,82,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149768426263559,0.21868744871954165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451340341613562,0.0,0.19383779544053112,0.20118135146469365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696995896337831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069605357274776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19759887458861405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857835678137107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237811119177552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902857255060507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.59751532770549,0.0,0.0,0.12435420772020125,0.1566210240004586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852881965921321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20079266897698644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417270658858586,0.0,0.165141967503491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045934642299168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579846392953267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274209764422763,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blurredfury22,2020/02/04,"Something to challenge my 4 year old. So today omg four year old went to my wife and told her that his little cheap remote control car isn’t working anymore. He thought it was the remote since it would go forward but not backward. Sure, sounds logical. And where it was a cheap $10 toy that lasted a few months from Christmas, it’s lasted it’s time already so she let him take it apart. By himself he took it apart carefully and identified the part of the lever that was broken for reverse. And we were amazed. So she had him put it back together by himself. And he did it with little to no issue. 

So here I am asking reddit for some ideas on things we can get to challenge him and keep his mind engaged. Things to help him experiment on his own. I found out too late in life that I should have had that growing up, so I want to make sure that I don’t do the same to him. Any tips would be helpful!",1.909176470588236,3.823798664864864,2.8779014308426087,93.8121144674086,78.56756756756756,5.4340222575516695,22.774244833068362,6.2272716619740125,0.3055023847376788,703,22,153,5,17,223,117,185,0.046,0.8170000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9398,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,4,9,7,0,0,6,0,18,1,0,2,2,28,31,12,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,17,10,0,2,4,1,2,7,4,0,0,1,12,1,22,7,19,14,5,29,0,0,0,0,23,12,0,1,12,106,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779662412124998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724032391973207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418108958397877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336794004766818,0.0,0.0,0.1099529946447732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579116407645715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037910610979894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987485181719678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678473487133218,0.0,0.0,0.07470807934190662,0.0,0.08126636800768494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916907432573561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614219914360594,0.0,0.14924781826050534,0.0,0.12709898443083734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23311719271514075,0.16130263171898396,0.0,0.0,0.14622030196122435,0.1010003721649908,0.0,0.28663363521819624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954491150151337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438243525574182,0.0,0.11413586020663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000947559611365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548477718357739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437477267315113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828550679017867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008320172348304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26953892076666963,0.0,0.10751313984904627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999674338778946,0.0,0.0,0.11352068022453847,0.08338052297588404,0.0,0.13554089583515158,0.13663619293108015,0.15887077926351995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434113276043896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325561896136491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410080025247764,0.0,0.0,0.20315662612532334,0.0,0.0,0.18416594939795491
parenting,Laureina410,2020/02/04,"My Baby Has Clubfoot Hi friends, first time poster here. I’m 20 weeks pregnant and i found out today that my baby boy has clubfoot. This is my first pregnancy and i’m really not sure how to feel about this. He’s otherwise healthy according to my doctor. I think i’m more worried about worst case scenarios and that’s what i’m fixating on. If anyone of y’all has had this issue, how did you deal with the feelings that came up? I’m definitely stuck in my head on this one.",0.4609754163362396,2.904656144329902,2.2828865979381447,91.98524980174466,90.64948453608248,5.871213322759715,20.863600317208565,7.321109707123232,0.8440125297383037,374,13,79,7,13,123,66,97,0.111,0.8029999999999999,0.085,-0.3812,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,6,2,1,2,1,15,17,6,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,8,6,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,5,2,9,2,11,12,2,11,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,5,48,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703511325474755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786467887789494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511709061053582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493647090097419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463723880811074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144615788475826,0.0,0.2671267349952715,0.188227239603282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500337453124901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542854853172716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16508938446331575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560750410104465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296175450933996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561076910391306,0.0,0.0,0.14206208839798684,0.0,0.2309319015814374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954245698800017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24741717878542624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,clyons428,2020/02/04,"Dating as a single parent My daughter is three, almost four, years old. Her father passed away before she was born so she has never met him. I have been dating a guy for the last 8ish months. She has met him multiple times but I’m hesitant to bring him around more often because I don’t want my daughter to get attached and us break up. We have never had any issues but I’m still hesitant. If you have dated as a single parent, how long did you wait till you brought your SO around frequently? Any other advice anyone can offer?",2.52542857142857,4.732768066666669,3.6764285714285694,87.40607142857144,77.85714285714286,5.723809523809526,19.07142857142857,6.742157984588678,0.2691714285714282,417,9,79,4,10,135,76,105,0.053,0.932,0.013999999999999999,-0.6007,2,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,2,4,0,0,7,0,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,2,14,21,10,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,7,0,17,0,10,14,3,23,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,3,15,60,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361979890258552,0.0,0.0,0.19840826501217773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26948354932924445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854386893545728,0.0,0.0,0.35277264065292263,0.0,0.0,0.1861587486322157,0.0,0.0,0.12078410785893146,0.0,0.16860227120694612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351980316954948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19618943142256476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20680634418539592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615102818723691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534737879997886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815319959042087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30563506721106204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079142600302728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4400213254823504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582346017713419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553683888906853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23833763479214504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686791494798802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275954555394072
parenting,Califaith21,2020/02/04,"2 under 2 What are you tips for having two under two at home? Will be welcoming a newborn and pulling my two year old out of daycare, because it’s too expensive.",2.1963636363636354,4.137960757575762,4.075757575757578,85.43363636363638,77.78787878787878,6.824242424242425,29.181818181818183,7.793537801064563,2.017836363636364,127,6,25,2,3,43,29,33,0.0,0.9059999999999999,0.094,0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,6,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990114201231186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960273315407414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30967660798369656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.864861962961975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900462616649044
parenting,littlebird827,2020/02/04,"Nose blowing Any advice on how to get my 5 year old to blow her nose consistently? She’s got some congestion currently and it needs to come out! She’s constantly sniffing and I know that’s not helping anything. She will do tiny blows that don’t result in anything. I’ve exhausted my ideas, so any advice is welcome!",2.9565053763440865,5.329496370967746,4.046451612903226,84.4563440860215,77.2258064516129,7.359139784946238,28.075268817204304,8.344100000000001,2.1827333333333327,253,11,48,5,6,82,47,62,0.083,0.867,0.05,-0.2434,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,2,0,11,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,7,1,6,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,4,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4997793623070838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34780099245888857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208766908115432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22028283158712125,0.0,0.2763458541732332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360477985069685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045251462959361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171405822354942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28868028490163816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140538743467599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961545923204526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26833840568329226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467731028594526
parenting,pranzo,2020/02/04,"What is meant by, ""she has your eyes?"" I was told by someone my daughter has my eyes, yet she has greenish-hazel eyes and mine are really dark brown. This person told me she was referring to the area/face/skin around the eyes. I thought eyes referred to the eyeball, iris color, pupil size, dark ring around the iris, etc. For instance, she has an easily visible dark ring around her irises, whereas my eyes are so dark you can't see a ring. Also, in similar lighting her pupils dilate more than mine. What is typically meant by, ""she has your eyes?""",5.179142857142857,6.082106152380952,4.981904761904765,86.06142857142858,68.42857142857143,8.285714285714286,27.380952380952376,8.418075326091056,1.6662380952380964,426,13,86,6,7,131,65,105,0.0,0.972,0.027999999999999997,0.4137,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,0,12,7,7,0,0,9,18,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,14,18,0,11,11,2,5,0,0,10,0,14,4,0,0,1,56,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010345123811056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.671364581705656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28036354091645016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21950188977417406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104528522982006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032330963673786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129998335795677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19957361405729213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4804231049417316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gothicprada,2020/02/04,"Questions on vaccinating, please no negativity I (23m) had a surprise daughter at 17, she had an extremely messy first five years regarding her mother consistently being in and out of the picture. Finally things have stabilized a bit and I have main custody over her and am now preparing to get her into kindergarten. 
Now I am hoping for no judgement here but my kid has not yet been vaccinated, I know now that this is not the best thing but at 17 with little help or resources it never happened and I very much regret not starting sooner. 

My question is, with her being 6 months from starting school, what’s the best way to move forward? I know there are a lot of shots to get and I don’t know how to space them out correctly or what is even the best option. Sorry if I sounds misinformed I just want what’s best for my kid. 

We are going to the doctor next week but I am just hoping for any direction or help.",4.385410256410257,5.647072566666669,5.281111111111112,81.86115384615384,70.55555555555556,8.205128205128206,27.73504273504273,8.617729084823388,1.9699658119658119,722,25,141,12,13,236,114,180,0.177,0.7390000000000001,0.085,-0.9636,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,5,10,8,0,0,9,0,17,1,0,1,2,37,29,13,0,5,12,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,8,11,0,0,5,0,0,3,8,1,0,2,3,1,20,7,21,24,8,27,0,1,0,0,15,11,0,10,14,113,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246421339781867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5707682014910274,0.0,0.14844394507254666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917098247135973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898068548385575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894840956421218,0.0,0.11565595098421802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207735047269793,0.0,0.07727484330195092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023775795813235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822755527384455,0.0,0.0,0.2700976358063191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22417654891859587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627758806976645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559677014280904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852989900775023,0.14451451482728758,0.09995354171052097,0.0,0.10486839047059217,0.0,0.14460556058271515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925414953790522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046348742571186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760882585241466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220720196302154,0.19248042922379205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806647563206468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218943021987368,0.08019858617719497,0.10792659967576307,0.10906687436745596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756017544635561
parenting,jwb76,2020/02/04,"Effort During today’s therapy session with my son Wade (7), the clinician asks me if there are any home issues regarding to Wade’s behavior that I feel like we should all talk together about.  I said “no” besides him wanting to put “effort”….
Wade (interrupting me): “That’s a cuss work” 
 
Me: Wade, “Effort” is not a cuss word.
 
Wade: You’re cussing
 
Me: Wade, “effort” for example is you asking me to put a dirty plate in the sink because you’re being too lazy to do it yourself”.
 
Wade: Stop cussing

Me: “”effort”... 
 
Wade suddenly to clinician: “See he is always cussing at me!”
 
Me: Wade, I’m not cussing, “effort isn’t a cuss word”
 
Wade: “It’s a cuss word to me”.",0.7476562499999986,3.193335953125004,2.64875,90.32125,87.90625,6.0125,22.0625,7.413659706084162,1.041271875,494,18,102,9,16,164,72,128,0.084,0.8959999999999999,0.021,-0.7644,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,0,6,3,1,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,0,1,13,15,1,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,3,15,1,11,12,1,7,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,1,4,52,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539770695421294,0.0,0.0,0.15969272654344227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390694535825621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431504338956456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187373074914052,0.1677628866415286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23555404085276546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451019296105397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472627303882325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4721388307000191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337748863051968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871294273921004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632873170322224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874778250793547,0.0,0.0,0.2685490312101072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222591763802875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850905578425238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095933001410987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HyPrAT,2020/02/04,"I created my first sub Reddit which might be relevant to you! It’s called r/babyActs where you can post about moments and encounters you had with little kids (funny experiences, etc) and share their thinking. And some acts etc.

It’s my first sub Reddit so it would be really helpful if you all could join and maybe post something about your kids (moments) you had?

Thank you for your attention!!  I have just created it so it’s kinda empty...
This is one of my favourite sub Reddit’s so I felt inclined to share...
HAPPY PARENTING!",2.377366666666667,5.167701070000003,3.2360000000000007,86.70466666666668,83.3,6.533333333333335,23.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.4939333333333336,417,15,77,8,12,132,63,100,0.0,0.813,0.187,0.9558,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,8,1,2,7,4,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,16,13,8,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,15,4,7,5,4,9,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,4,4,56,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072415881565062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204449273363572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527009698979568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19853069803848045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948703590978233,0.0,0.0,0.3452699065065978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21605129113790464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603766714310553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341603562714006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20389738821865414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215305095362056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752878251675674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22535951180746855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38875303034382896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001932523522886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562460627950207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868553564228657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004652455339613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441746899882841,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,javanperez42,2020/02/04,"Vacs and antivacs So I just need some opinions on this situation. 
So my girlfriend and I are expecting our first baby in a couple of months and we are getting him vaccinated. my childhood friend has a 2 year old who he chose not to vaccinate (which we respect their decision 100%) The issue here is that my girlfriend doesn’t want their baby around our baby until he gets all of his shots which she is most worried about is the measles, which he gets in a year. She wants to keep him away until then. I kinda feel like it’s a bit excessive to really keep them away for a year. I do understand that a babies immune system is very fragile at first which I agree to have no babies around in general for a couple months until he gets his first round of shots at least but a whole year like I said feels a bit excessive. Thought? 
I tried googling info but everything is so one sided. 
So any info from experience or opinions in general would help.",3.729423423423423,5.5103292216216255,4.655675675675678,83.65072072072073,73.0,7.960360360360362,25.84684684684685,8.648137234880735,1.8411873873873883,746,25,145,14,15,242,109,185,0.019,0.8859999999999999,0.095,0.8833,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,3,3,9,4,0,0,11,0,12,1,0,0,1,34,26,14,0,5,5,0,4,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,9,7,0,2,7,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,5,23,4,25,23,7,28,0,0,1,0,23,12,0,6,17,104,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917201793731387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23346470178528425,0.0,0.0,0.2463994750483033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863171738831239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901828422703452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785002739339955,0.12826903790980868,0.0,0.0,0.13260522933800115,0.09367837509333488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346140357464529,0.0,0.0,0.10130971441099618,0.0,0.2740373508684676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789280880158283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686430269418431,0.0,0.23310644108582956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281257261834787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093313671401929,0.0,0.0,0.09723027534966323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375975206723377,0.0,0.08885620608109923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400440799524506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473342934334658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473941617080313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410154681914296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902778512001883,0.0,0.0,0.1365096093807265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819491689072873,0.15468621864269816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464005194454934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316756796708,0.0,0.09315007179472903,0.0,0.0,0.3377703545437166
parenting,humancondition1,2020/02/04,"How do you express yourself creatively with kids? Hello 👋 I’m a 24 yo mother, senior in college w/ a 4 yo. I’m feeling creatively barren. I feel like so much of my time is devoted to school, motherhood, a commute, homework, a house + chores... I’m looking for ways to express myself creatively. Before motherhood, I could go sit in a coffee shop surrounded by people, reading a book & feel content this way. What ways do you return to your own being when wrapped up in parenthood? Thanks in advance.",2.372708133971294,5.097315610526318,4.173971291866028,80.51961722488039,82.36842105263158,6.822966507177035,29.688995215311014,8.00094639256281,2.6572105263157897,393,20,66,8,11,132,70,95,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.9378,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,14,3,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,3,12,12,2,16,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,0,5,37,9,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564616019408332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141210716309332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18898366371556613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590440473075055,0.16909671464498702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452062274576282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731170923424461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563842422300367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19876625488602293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399986984126828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409621764401028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23676151639177026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395504689236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21791922234418046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380201939690799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5636382855861356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mister641,2020/02/04,"Having a hard time with my 9yo’s behavior, mostly at school, but also at home. So, more recently my 9yo has been getting in trouble at school for being disruptive and not listening. She has been in trouble for this before, and has been grounded for it(loss technology/tablet). She was good for a few days, but nothing sticks. She has been separated from other students to help eliminate her talking, but yesterday she forged my wife’s signature on a sheet that had to come home. Obviously she failed, she’s 9, but why would she even try?
She’s the oldest of 4(9/6/4 yo twins), so is this an attention grab? And how do you deal with it? I’m 45, we got our asses beat as kids, and we learned respect from it, but in today’s world there’s no way this is an option. The other kids aren’t like this(yet...?). 
I’m hoping I don’t have to send her to boot camp...",3.0381344537815096,4.728602729411765,4.069243697478992,87.51588235294119,74.6470588235294,7.445378151260503,25.672268907563023,8.192908349453996,1.4884033613445378,664,23,139,11,14,215,109,170,0.102,0.7959999999999999,0.102,0.4515,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,3,1,0,2,6,7,0,0,7,0,19,1,1,1,1,23,26,14,0,2,6,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,8,9,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,7,3,18,4,21,17,3,18,0,1,0,1,22,9,1,3,7,93,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887166753576174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796891534410541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819032817088501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361864503674958,0.21770583062933904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947504580678852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032701791477736,0.0,0.0,0.17711842773305453,0.16889103447219606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18916582803537024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154204104661153,0.0,0.4236391847463635,0.20973833341626866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316644240787004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262222420909876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085037816582916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274283365938261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972953725367382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231342651710191,0.0,0.20016339564229127,0.0,0.0,0.14336979995933052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16761601840536927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905470582545383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000830517578034,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DadBodRob8,2020/02/04,"Who should change the diaper in this situation? My wife and I generally trade off poopy bum changes one for one. She changed his first this morning. I just changed one, but within 5 minutes he pooped again! Is it moms turn again? Is it on me because i might have jumped the gun and changed him too soon?",2.4863276836158192,4.909041050847456,2.4450000000000003,95.04738700564974,79.16949152542372,5.967231638418079,25.08757062146893,7.1686216300943375,0.8494723163841802,238,9,52,3,6,71,47,59,0.068,0.932,0.0,-0.6036,0,0,0,1,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,0,0,7,6,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,8,0,5,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,4,37,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869607307657144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8563726082297913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771671190998294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175612025232245,0.0,0.18962173219797235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32913401424683314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198853428138267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761066613835518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hojotoho_heiaha,2020/02/04,Au pair referral Is anyone willing to share a referral with me for your au pair organization and split the incentive?  We are looking at ways to lower costs for the process.  Thanks!,4.765454545454546,7.345152212121214,5.5060606060606085,75.17909090909096,72.33333333333334,9.248484848484848,32.21212121212121,9.725611199111238,3.5835939393939413,145,7,25,4,3,47,27,33,0.057999999999999996,0.735,0.207,0.69,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42777672343073614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5137482324364939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5632526273509347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4856092115492773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dasheekeejones,2020/02/04,"Why is my kid faking illnesses???? He’s not being bullied at all. He’s Mr. Social. However he’s getting ridiculous with these pretend symptoms. He’s at the school nurse multiple times a week. He does have reactive airway and knows that when he has a respiratory illness he can use it. Except he wants to use it every time something isn’t right (but not needing the inhaler). Sore throat? Wants inhaler. Hurts to breathe in. Wants inhaler. He has acid reflux and milk protein allergy. But now we are on appendicitis symptoms. Doubling over, right side pain. But no fever, not constant. He did it in maui so nothing stressful like a test/school should have caused it. No milk...and sometimes when he eats he presses super hard on his stomach to make it feel better. No clue what it is and it’s not all the time. The last expensive faking was some severe, doubling over head pain that sounded like a stroke and mri came up clear. 

Why the hell is he doing this?? He’s 11.",1.8320833333333333,4.594370940217388,2.5989130434782624,90.0848550724638,86.88043478260867,4.8057971014492775,24.51449275362319,6.42735559955562,0.9097471014492756,759,31,142,8,24,237,113,184,0.21600000000000005,0.71,0.075,-0.9767,1,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,0,2,4,12,2,1,9,0,15,16,4,4,3,30,26,10,0,5,8,0,4,2,0,1,10,1,0,2,12,7,2,0,2,1,1,1,8,8,0,0,3,9,3,4,14,21,5,22,1,1,0,0,19,12,1,1,11,76,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720259804196835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449887265158744,0.0,0.14774914015136328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554250417349555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586328877487818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717012279651878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117978815653704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272285510523581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514326041333261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288400370645893,0.0,0.14760718904744824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396893637482625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904312563030848,0.11723756033701704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405324460733622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600511442650723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066453149908986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800513099188572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060824636075447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456536011729336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911196134161574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624826828971875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661271233304599,0.0,0.1107244459649898,0.1422478029062819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164752441774479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29898101206925504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515986653613045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484393397297057,0.0,0.0,0.25449728162204605,0.0,0.11536871311007275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595615741282066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goodwicce,2020/02/04,"#GamerMomProblems? Any fellow gamer moms (or dads!) in here? I'm pregnant with my first baby and last night I suddenly felt kind of sad I won't be able to game like I used to. Is anyone else experiencing this?

At least I play mostly story-driven games that can be paused, but I'm very sad my Guild Wars 2 account will have to be used after bedtime only (and once a bedtime is even established, because I know it won't be THAT easy).  😬",1.0606818181818198,3.420978250000001,2.9942727272727296,89.26890909090912,84.68181818181819,5.3381818181818215,19.027272727272727,6.742157984588678,0.1640872727272722,338,9,71,4,10,113,67,88,0.146,0.8140000000000001,0.04,-0.9015,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,1,0,11,0,0,2,0,10,17,4,1,0,2,2,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,3,0,1,1,2,7,3,8,9,2,7,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,2,6,40,11,0,0.24944438051579326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963073256302527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441731072737512,0.2555852458115229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520589791033939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837877191714535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647556607646993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395057233977189,0.0,0.0,0.2121772626380129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597579367717325,0.13708810799735624,0.20333046301834148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186592439767195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921462436653459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340866532883177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656501242654278,0.0,0.18971369177654115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43087970983018,0.0,0.2058177378544003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MostAssistant,2020/02/04,"My son (14/m) just asked me how to get a girlfriend and i didn't know what to tell him. I know it's weird, but i haven't dated in years. Last woman i was with was his mother. So i don't know what to tell him.

I've already given him the talk, but that mostly covered std's and safety, but i never told him about that sort of thing.

When he told me, we were just eating dinner and he blurted it out. He says he feels shy around women and tenses up when he's gotta talk to them. I told him we'd talk about it later.

He's 14 and interested in dating, i'm happy and i know he's gonna ask again. I want him to have a better time with women in high school then i did.",0.16087111563932766,1.3552884900662292,2.537350993377487,97.55929190015284,81.31788079470199,4.911054508405503,14.926642893530312,4.713530739802397,-1.1905235863474273,506,5,130,1,13,174,86,151,0.044000000000000004,0.831,0.125,0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,1,1,10,4,0,0,3,0,9,3,0,1,1,26,25,14,0,1,5,2,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,8,11,2,0,5,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,9,2,23,3,16,13,1,18,0,0,0,1,34,7,0,2,11,77,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18267275643935352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736186472089466,0.3095070594852756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640287067377733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938434266660093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369982150432921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648556873554933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621582612749756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748975509790159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638963567548252,0.13493368569772865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767133342585346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164062928548653,0.0,0.16753096151190147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991539653127733,0.2893709885327132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099745606803324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652519532772708,0.0,0.0,0.474529353167673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763724216766724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065995606881442
parenting,sophie_jenkins,2020/02/04,"Advice for naps?? Hello everyone! I'm a first-time mom and I'm desperately looking for advice. My 5-mo baby sleeps well during the night and has no trouble falling asleep in her own bed, but needs to be pushed in the pram to fall asleep during the day. The result is that rain or shine we have to go out four times a day and walk around for about one hour. As you can imagine, there are days when this routine is just hard - maybe the weather's really bad, or I have things to do at home...I asked my midwive, and she suggested the 5-10-15 method. Tbh I hated the concept, and resented the fact she outright told me it's somehow 'weak' to refuse to let your child cry herself to sleep (which, is it?). But, I respect her, so this week we tried it out and it's been a disaster. I'm on the verge of tears the entire time and my daughter never falls asleep. The end result? She skips a nap, is cranky and tired, eats badly, sleeps badly, and the whole day is ruined. I'm looking for a different solution and would be grateful for any advice. Thank you in advance!",2.8897718526663,4.351598845794392,3.8212809235843856,90.08691313908741,74.56074766355141,6.530621220450798,23.33589884551952,7.048011613610866,0.6883043430456297,819,23,174,8,17,263,134,214,0.226,0.71,0.065,-0.9909,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,2,3,0,1,9,11,2,0,17,0,16,9,6,2,2,29,28,17,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,9,15,1,1,1,2,0,7,2,8,1,2,2,4,18,3,23,22,2,28,0,1,3,0,19,9,0,3,12,109,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778443261508024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764843151557401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473787068560197,0.12049311751979735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32284892169553475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415776933244285,0.3324890409997717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346607914717228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188485936884636,0.0,0.0,0.1141567357187759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231582487174168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963228179528277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325016416770318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545855807183066,0.1272504655976568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928542623563938,0.0,0.1269289662221982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179697070131105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646734164943227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948557346733314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095236366393966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955690061451364,0.0994065660923798,0.0,0.0,0.12095289390929174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733801559708831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256911497005164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869440023802083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186629862855896,0.0,0.0,0.08562762792086674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031155313339178,0.14813808610380005,0.0,0.1231582487174168,0.0,0.08750666304939587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338638179383676,0.0,0.1158860179192363,0.0,0.0,0.14389913113195746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915585166426374,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DoctorFincher,2020/02/04,"What kind of pregnancy/parenting blog would you like to read? hey folks!

We just found out yesterday that my wife is pregnant for the first time. There's a lot to learn. We're the kind of people who love to document everything that we're learning and our journeys. Have you heard of the [Feinman technique](https://golden.com/wiki/Feynman_Technique)? Usually, this means for us running a blog, or even writing a book. We've eventually developed this little quirk of ours into a full-blown career and a way of living.

Anyways, I would like to ask if you feel there's anything that is missing in the pregnancy/parenting blogosphere.

I've had 2 ideas for a blog so far:

* pregnancy from a man's perspective
* covering niche topics that we are sometimes embarrassed to ask and are not very popular like: ""Is doggy-style safe in the third trimester?"" or ""Can I take shrooms while pregnant?""

thanks for any tips folks and all the best!",5.834038461538463,7.879046011904768,5.4642857142857135,78.9037912087912,68.04761904761905,9.454945054945057,31.37545787545788,9.851270322608157,3.2024051282051276,742,31,131,18,13,228,109,168,0.044000000000000004,0.816,0.14,0.9516,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,3,0,2,6,12,0,1,13,0,10,1,0,0,1,25,20,9,0,3,5,1,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,8,8,0,1,6,5,0,2,1,2,0,2,3,2,11,10,19,15,3,14,0,1,0,1,17,6,0,4,8,81,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091142643427474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463158591905863,0.0,0.3324416527007143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18659218217940776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743651433433384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979693234565295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990201075842583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512382520245856,0.0,0.19495066626948548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20071676497608487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703067502939067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605951621504549,0.17820426907916234,0.1570023836769777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511608638147108,0.16047320616688668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936784533368263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326548818741892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177850070653901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585067979986765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133684942373356,0.0,0.0,0.16369615164410575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367774975916326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138738595911924,0.0,0.19582373367314332,0.14670523373590358,0.0,0.14113091581553758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25261081477540165,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EBear1986,2020/02/04,"Best recent books on hitting infant development milestones? What are your favorite books that provide strategies on developmental support for the first year of life?

Just had my daughter last week -- I'm not a type-A nut who wants to blast her Mozart while lecturing her on quantum physics. I know babies are all over the map with their milestones and I dont have rigid expectations, I just want to make sure I'm focusing on the right things and giving her support in the right ways. 

Thanks!",4.9190000000000005,7.440559955555559,4.268611111111113,84.49625000000003,71.66666666666667,6.722222222222222,29.027777777777786,7.645422480735847,1.8071111111111107,396,16,71,5,8,118,68,90,0.0,0.759,0.24100000000000002,0.9662,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,2,2,6,0,1,5,0,5,1,0,1,2,14,16,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,9,5,11,14,2,16,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,6,43,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327507488454113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25993156809247725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865107852668705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212757363369954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188779846314644,0.18078521076588064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566540275868234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480438930689558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21898694201615626,0.0,0.0,0.3788081049774628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5033603030014698,0.20903070268161086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419077280335474,0.0,0.0,0.14734477924227998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616302862047765,0.17604342238583998,0.17790337034851675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282292777303746
parenting,smarty_skirts,2020/02/04,"What's the conversation you have the most with your kids? Mine is whether dragons will ever be real. (7 year old twin boys) I'm very well rehearsed in discussing this from an evolutionary, genetic, and magical perspective. Sometimes it takes place with one of my sons almost in tears because dragons will probably never be real. Sometimes it happens as a never-ending list of what their dragon would be able to do. But it's at least a 2-3/week conversation. What are yours?",4.301590909090908,6.766075977272728,4.925000000000002,79.34500000000003,73.31818181818181,7.581818181818183,29.181818181818183,8.472884824447931,2.446245454545455,378,16,65,7,8,121,70,88,0.02,0.9470000000000001,0.033,0.2804,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,1,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,0,2,12,13,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,6,1,10,7,2,8,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,2,4,47,13,0,0.20556469436947494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584334765244866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531032970512032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206930437752225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859450348580453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178018034309806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170883299183365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157055670371708,0.0,0.13929595696086158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147713534011872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22163350858667485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4679552520627829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066174780140708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455906732397892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696124013311969,0.0,0.0,0.16489159835197353,0.0,0.184827347565494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602726094086266,0.0,0.0,0.13237692347069668
parenting,jbrucegt7,2020/02/04,"Good books on how to be a better stepfather/father? TL;DR
Looking for books or resources for tips to be a better father

Hey guys, I’m (30M) having some trouble getting adjusted to being a parent to my gf’s (24F) 5 year old daughter. I don’t have kids myself and haven’t been in a serious relationship for a few years prior to this one. We’ve been together about a year and plan on getting married, but I don’t feel I’m handling things well enough with my future step daughter. The bio-dad is not in the picture at all and hasn’t been for a few years to where the child doesn’t even remember him, so I don’t have to worry about that. Are there any good book/audiobook recommendations on how to be a better parent to her? I want to be more of a dad and not just a step dad, I’d that makes any sense lol, since she’s never really had a stable father-figure. I currently have “Stepparenting: Becoming a Step Parent. A Blended Family Guide To Parenting, Raising Children, Family Relationships, and Step Families” 5th Edition by Mathew Massimo audiobook and “Keys to Successful Stepfathering (Barron’s Parenting Keys)” 2nd Edition by Carl E Pickhardt Ph.D. I’ve looked up a lot of others online, but I’m just wondering if any of you have good personal experiences with any other books/audiobooks?",5.290461176470586,6.365208272,6.618094117647058,73.80692941176471,68.28,10.042352941176473,30.30588235294117,10.194018383442646,3.2128235294117644,1028,39,184,26,17,349,144,250,0.04,0.828,0.132,0.97,7,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,5,11,10,0,0,17,1,22,0,0,3,2,28,33,13,0,2,8,10,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,6,8,0,0,4,2,0,4,9,2,1,1,4,3,12,8,32,24,7,21,0,0,2,0,23,8,0,5,9,119,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28682919747786145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645747779427827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27977682827208145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089545185417533,0.0,0.06964648039162882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314700187336613,0.2982169910023369,0.0,0.0533169658938364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018298571506092,0.0,0.0,0.2653307987694364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440870566800386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709716195674374,0.0,0.0,0.08964692282743447,0.0,0.0,0.0703864198415309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813269133379784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064846165400946,0.0,0.07145334060704363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5854298155462164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207189801474833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755178778957663,0.0,0.0,0.2264203578609004,0.1194504346368632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722651164216359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005403112693191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621951327620514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480915101365328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143523323956202,0.0,0.10708613400710354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716165955605416
parenting,lhugh7,2020/02/04,"First Time in Daycare.. Transitioning Advice. I am looking for tips, insight, experience, etc. regarding my **3.5yr daughter** and **8mo daughter**

I have been a stay-at-home mom beginning for the last 3.5 years. Due to living away from family for the first three years of her life, my oldest was solely with me during the daytime, until dad came home from work. I don't worry about her as much because there are other kids her age at the daycare, and tons of new toys to play with. She also is very good with new people since moving back to our hometown.  


We welcomed our second daughter, now living near our families. My youngest is exposed to so many more people, even being in the care of family for short periods of time here and there. Though, she doesn't do the greatest, she cries and looks for me, sometimes even when she is with Dad.  I realize it is a phase all babies go through, but I dont have experience with it from our first born.  


I start working on Tuesday 18 February. I have spoken to our provider about starting our girls the week before on 10Feb. She said we could start by coming and having them hang out a bit with me there. I would like to work up to a full day of care that friday, 14Feb.  


My questions are this:

* How can I start to help my 8mo with her separation anxiety? Until she starts daycare, she is with me all day until dad comes home from work.
* How would you plan the week to transition them to going FULL time at daycare?
* Do you have any advice or tricks to help them transition?
* How do I **NOT** cry when I leave them?

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Thank you if you've read this far. Clearly I am stressing out about this, but if we ever want to buy our own home, I've got to start my career!! I am ready, even though I never want to leave my babies...",1.2426777792714103,3.8036550462427776,2.2810875117623333,93.04004503293457,86.6878612716763,4.9527086974055665,19.318187928485013,6.503187473535588,0.13439408522650886,1370,39,279,15,43,432,179,346,0.053,0.838,0.10800000000000001,0.9659,0,0,0,0,0,0,69.0,10,3,4,8,22,9,1,1,12,0,28,1,0,3,5,43,49,23,0,7,6,7,0,1,0,2,1,1,3,2,7,21,0,0,3,3,1,7,5,2,0,5,5,3,53,7,56,40,11,59,0,0,2,0,42,15,0,4,38,202,60,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164472298625429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729942467104594,0.0,0.09118285789312844,0.1022586022376472,0.05722888239107679,0.0,0.0643790157886984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906721696415597,0.06471067501036516,0.0,0.0513006416946416,0.0,0.07161045320790307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187642182899536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962519042481301,0.17160505120235786,0.0,0.0,0.14498567324430942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719162019690869,0.0,0.1848825591139979,0.10854715763120536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863006143374334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385604878949977,0.16675248978832147,0.07612380903152667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646411924897196,0.2380040143076552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21474883871753456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565544888354748,0.07058595712954939,0.06730714286142496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128158212470458,0.0,0.2532456197440893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859827213371507,0.0,0.17821784581968286,0.0,0.0,0.05944178492100161,0.041114310770561484,0.0,0.14862236292369918,0.0,0.1413394834631259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532085079358352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985623463808778,0.0,0.0894443792786266,0.0618642529138515,0.0,0.06490620061798544,0.16255654140699188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668617821147075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942738425517844,0.0,0.08417865107421801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005151081300177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961461134428006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832323145085712,0.0,0.35739577859942856,0.08969896790458612,0.0,0.0,0.09640027311256928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747942511789613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653654443263843,0.0,0.14721590644943494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943741228783902,0.09927463366867513,0.0,0.13500953712941513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450659238603011,0.08546437842027056,0.0,0.11956384136576127,0.0,0.1022586022376472,0.10838725164301777
parenting,amusing_racer,2020/02/04,Thoughts on RoBlox for tweens My 10yo daughter looooves Roblox. Specifically the dance games and rooms (Dance Your Blox Off etc). I'm just wondering what other parents think of RoBlox and if they allow their kids of this age to free roam within the app. I have my  own account and have gone in and hung out with her to get the lay of the land and it honestly seems pretty tame. Of course she has an 'under 13'  account and pretty much all the restrictions are on. Thoughts?,2.5903333333333336,5.280436255555556,2.211111111111112,95.24000000000002,80.8888888888889,5.377777777777778,21.22222222222221,6.742157984588678,0.3136888888888887,373,11,76,4,10,109,67,90,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.9274,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,1,1,18,12,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,8,0,1,5,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,3,15,9,4,13,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,3,1,49,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171409947316253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148568437616644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090402372619663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157525364390725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5786007762938257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588742782922803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220894983967614,0.0,0.4515064567769656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083805952721463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,malsandcheese,2020/02/04,Cant believe I’m posting about this My kids like watching Dave & Ava on YouTube. We’ve noticed sometimes there is a baby/toddler on there who wears green. What is the baby’s name? I tried to look it up but can’t find anything about the character and it’s driving me nuts!,0.7377443609022549,3.1566768596491244,1.8699248120300784,96.15947368421057,87.42105263157896,3.95889724310777,25.686716791979947,5.288315135182226,0.4624506265664161,219,10,46,1,7,69,47,57,0.064,0.902,0.034,-0.3595,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,1,1,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,6,6,0,5,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,1,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704993599967069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28139319081748776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38525709782591294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125333026766786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705799948771607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28714930292451163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893088506331282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.327490639795533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381942611692825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23215952211930396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BabyBabyBuhBye,2020/02/04,"Moving to another state with 2 young kids - tips for packing/moving/buying a house?? We are moving to another state for my husband's job. He'll be traveling a lot for work so the majority of the house prep to sell will fall on me. I have a pre-schooler and a 1 year old that stays home with me. For those of you that have been in the same position, what worked for you/what didn't? Right now we're thinking to just pack up and get out of the house before we put it on the market. Possibly hire a moving company to pack us up so I don't have to do it all.  Hire a short term nanny to watch the baby while I pack? If we clear out then I don't have to worry about getting it ready for showings when I'm alone with the kids and dog. Then do we rent for a few months in the new town to scope out the areas and wait for more to come on the market, rent long term in the school district we like, or immediately try to buy from afar (with hopefully at least one visit to scope out the houses)?  Just curious what's worked well for others. Thanks!",4.265856643356642,3.965766068181821,5.223636363636363,87.75353146853145,70.13636363636363,8.587412587412587,24.65034965034965,8.139509932561175,1.041947552447553,805,17,188,10,13,265,124,220,0.01,0.889,0.102,0.9535,3,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,1,0,3,8,4,0,0,19,0,13,0,0,0,2,29,22,12,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,9,18,0,1,1,2,4,8,3,0,1,1,2,1,14,4,43,17,9,41,0,0,1,0,12,17,0,4,14,121,23,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276942230267408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585666342014697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049131455801712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620588449537044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883086452645814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236727944108777,0.12245763245059672,0.0,0.569053641768494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234914226148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023466516511696,0.0,0.0,0.10911030407510736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048191832436102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841118707252694,0.3931224045186315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907701550308525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937511976915128,0.0,0.08354643490524527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389941780926009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394338116885276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529143145727657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24955791957063736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141378746540838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135115034569383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900108834985063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370776091316773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830613370261553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085509083675972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26927601832148546,0.12520988729247626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939656154419937
parenting,hikerkay,2020/02/04,My kid is a racist I mean not literally. But the other day her teacher emailed me that she’s been making fun of kids from China saying “they don’t know anything.” I was FLOORED. She’s 7 btw so maybe she “doesn’t know any better” could be an excuse but it’s still unacceptable behavior. My father is an immigrant from Haiti and we talk about cultural acceptance often so I’m really unsure where this is coming from. I made her write an apology note and she was sent to her room without screen-time at 4pm for the rest of the night. Anything else you might recommend?,1.6311095983662367,4.1586513893805295,3.1504424778761084,87.95744043567055,83.77876106194691,6.6627637848876775,21.08168822328114,7.882392219407189,1.1219821647379171,449,14,90,9,13,147,86,113,0.086,0.794,0.12,0.2418,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,1,1,6,3,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,2,0,19,19,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,4,4,0,0,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,5,1,16,3,10,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,2,3,59,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764967563786867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057483574112296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180368196973225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21236480668488852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968351094927377,0.0,0.0,0.1589922344099596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20594519043739368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709742095940872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23327379027795,0.16456149596352426,0.0,0.24767373489991704,0.2685447590647123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615306531249849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23135283861584235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579342049033173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960515119701317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19688014149792826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815244688814407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376472874258125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Remarkable-Regular,2020/02/04,"My kid sucks at sports So yes, my daughter is 14 and not good at sports. We’ve tried everything with her, gymnastics, soccer, swimming, running, fencing, basketball. 

We’re a sporty family, my husband played football and baseball all throughout high school and university and now plays on the Men’s League. I’ve been playing volleyball for about fifteen years now. My sons (17M and 14M) have been studs in every sport imaginable and one plays football and lacrosse and the other hockey and soccer.

My daughter, however, never found an interest. She pretty much slept through baseball camps and was benched mostly her entire soccer season. 

We want her to be physically active, just to stay healthy, but we can’t find any physical activity, whether it be hiking, rock-climbing, biking, even going for walks that suits her interests. We want her to be busy outside of school and definitely have a productive summer but she tends to lie around the house a lot. Any ideas for us? Maybe some other hobbies she could pursue and other ways for her to get active?",6.847326007326008,8.390094164021168,6.250370370370373,76.14512820512822,65.03174603174604,8.989987789987794,33.05698005698006,9.265573868473778,3.10577785917786,843,35,138,15,13,259,129,189,0.027000000000000003,0.8370000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9457,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,0,0,7,8,1,0,7,1,11,2,1,0,2,35,19,16,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,17,0,1,4,13,0,4,3,1,0,1,5,0,18,7,18,10,5,18,0,0,0,1,19,6,1,3,6,87,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611648138132944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709414196967952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533149543147061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682955741027666,0.0,0.1617878850719146,0.0,0.17257813142529393,0.0,0.181022447309948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755057880338183,0.0,0.0,0.21054360187671728,0.0,0.0,0.1003242319913676,0.0,0.10913124830563696,0.16106000660294473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028831253083785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22156906957878245,0.0,0.21677089626711424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325131552180125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19291318225184012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115919636116964,0.0,0.14810018203647085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011993590657234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19535669702965272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886755974248061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046712540353449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037119414200446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309803480402529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265205970762163,0.15241913208384886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365668877493705
parenting,talkingteapot,2020/02/04,"[advice needed] In Shanghai... 6mo sick with something and because of the coronavirus I really want to avoid leaving the house now I live here so going back to US is not an option; China medical market doesn’t use family practitioner and I really want to avoid hospitals at this time due to the coronavirus

My 6m baby has runny nose and wet cough, which came around 4 days ago. It’s been worsening into yellow snot, and he’s uncomfortable so he’s cried until his voice is harsh. And now it sounds like there’s phlegm in there. It’s like this downward spiral, he coughs awake, cries, gets more uncomfortable, can’t sleep, falls asleep, coughs awake, etc....

I searched online and can’t figure out if it’s viral or bacterial, but it seems that 6m babies can’t have medicine for that anyway. Just infant acetaminophen, which seems to be OTC in the states and China. It’s unlikely coronavirus, because he has runny nose and wet cough, not dry cough

In a normal situation, you guys probably would tell me this is not a place to seek medical advice, and I should speak with my health expert, and I would agree. But given the coronavirus, and no health expert I can phone here, I’m nervous to go the hospital and seeking advice here  

What should I do? Based on your experiences, Wait it out another day or two or go?",5.9007400000000025,6.671712624000001,6.221350000000001,78.28842500000002,66.76,9.61,27.225,9.673873057562805,2.3299000000000003,1036,29,194,21,16,333,148,250,0.094,0.867,0.039,-0.8865,0,2,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,2,0,0,13,5,0,3,9,0,18,14,4,1,0,45,32,21,0,9,10,0,2,2,0,4,10,3,0,2,15,19,0,3,3,0,0,5,8,3,0,1,3,8,15,2,22,24,2,27,0,0,1,0,13,12,0,7,11,116,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772004390628118,0.11405696220290615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492025978807615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454234509920345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893822132949673,0.0,0.15687038472451925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147162615818204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826728596271718,0.16596122208095884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349951575625158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586259330389446,0.12129731733395195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722403980820113,0.0,0.21937601419310349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740215634198865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735374380823068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846630428142002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624148312275813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572197023677958,0.0,0.11361674279477403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25924018239638325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540614635127416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260679220258828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443131510040732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872652734077065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485681675844913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342701460473593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446289122669702,0.12876153615733946,0.0,0.0,0.09905538463926998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246203925618477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502770309630086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569053883879092,0.0,0.15477249915958655,0.11112836981019314,0.0,0.0,0.1517841635362762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280498230246744,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rezlyenn,2020/02/04,Lost my temper once again... sigh... Man I really lost it this morning and now I feel terrible. I got so mad and was yelling so loud at my boys 2 and 5 - I really need help. I try to be so mindful - I get up in the morning and tell myself over and over again not to get mad. But then this morning they really started fighting over one toy and I just came apart. And this seems to happen maybe once or twice a month. And then I get so down on myself... ugh... I feel like I'm the most awful individual... anyone offer advice?,-0.6908333333333303,1.485976027777781,1.8587407407407424,94.56033333333336,94.27777777777777,4.731851851851851,15.533333333333335,6.42735559955562,-0.389215555555555,393,9,89,5,15,134,68,108,0.209,0.743,0.048,-0.9543,0,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,0,0,1,2,8,10,4,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,19,16,16,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,9,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,8,1,2,5,4,14,1,11,10,1,17,0,2,0,0,7,9,0,3,8,58,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441611467663208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319582096777211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158467092636959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084615851407466,0.13482242074204626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957970207719768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093753635385634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688548160556185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649580265072652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921996167534839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120228371978119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959575184403335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19055455392357085,0.0,0.1506354141335381,0.0,0.0,0.13993433467432104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019637116584447,0.12788232919147074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626987859568644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718046387729161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335777948464532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495059533679005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812926666613006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lucidible,2020/02/04,"using marbles as karma gives us more flexibility in rewards and sanctions What I do to reward my kids (8, 5 and 3) is give them a marble when they do something I want to encourage. Be it go on the potty, eat their dinner with no fussing, say something particularly insightful, etc. They put the marbles in their ""marble bank"" (a tupperware container with their name on it) and they can ""spend"" marbles to get things like screen time or candy. We also take away marbles for behavior we want to discourage (ie, if I have to pick up your shoes and put them away, lose a marble).

The good thing about this is that it gives us some flexibility because it relates rewards and punishments without tying them together directly.   They can do something really great and get a lot of marbles and then do some minor bad stuff and lose a few. And by using marbles, it's a visceral thing that even the three year old can understand.   It's basically a physical manifestation of karma.

We're still working out the right ""pay"" and ""price"" amounts so that there's an economy but not a crazy amount of overhead.   I have this dream that we can get more sophisticated as they get older and have a true marble economy where they can trade with each other.   Maybe have ""investments"" that earn marbles over time.   

**Reply**",6.607125,7.363857129166668,6.973333333333333,73.56500000000003,65.20833333333334,10.066666666666666,33.08333333333333,10.047579312681364,3.3235333333333337,1021,41,181,22,15,332,140,240,0.046,0.8109999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9697,2,0,3,0,0,0,38.0,5,1,12,7,8,13,1,0,15,0,16,3,1,3,1,38,30,20,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,19,19,2,2,2,1,6,3,3,5,0,1,0,2,23,8,26,29,10,22,2,3,1,0,25,11,0,5,9,132,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071185681054623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366441101755324,0.0,0.10515222169587107,0.07677008987660318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886509793357798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045316126689608,0.08318026965040175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631877565421591,0.3624310378795033,0.07157295859657635,0.10563006804313664,0.0,0.13884610209007126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061526507833142424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817828125006381,0.0,0.1070672225241555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126520748368747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132149806063838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532031477703914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067853381976607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754959896532412,0.0,0.10015024008625198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29085760686591805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057353417522603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441678542376533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468902936914853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510010484292711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686987655580935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110496698898702,0.302973660497456,0.21753844623128413,0.0,0.0,0.1485619340704485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213988744711524,0.0,0.09168371183558324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109936616038085
parenting,santaclausisreal75,2020/02/04,"Help with a Neglectful Parent This isn't for me, but a situation my best friend is in.

She (25F) has a 2.5 year old with her ex boyfriend (23M). They are not exactly living together, but she is there a lot to make sure her son is taken care of. His father doesn't cook anything, doesn't clean, and is overall pretty lazy. He works 3 a week as a nurse and will do absolutely nothing on his days off. There have been times where he has a week off of work, and in that week he won't touch any dishes or laundry. 

My friend can only work part time while going to school and doesn't make enough to get her own place yet. She is actively looking for new jobs where she can make more and get on her feet. On her time off, she is pretty much picking up the slack that her son's father won't do. 

It is not uncommon for her to stop in around 8-10am, to find her son (who is awake by 5:30-6am) still in his room with no breakfast and a dirty diaper. Just this morning she had to leave work to rescue her son while his father was still asleep. He then blamed her for not waking him up, as if he is not a capable adult. He does not recognize that what he is doing is wrong, or he just doesn't care. She threatened to call the cops numerous times. 

My friend has been conflicted on the idea of full custody and receiving child support. She values any free time and if the father becomes an ""every other weekend"" dad, she won't have any time to herself. Now that she is upset about this morning's events, she is okay with taking her son, because it obviously means she'll know he is taken care of. It's just difficult now when she has no means to get her own place and be financially comfortable while raising a child (that is where child support could help, but it's hard to tell where she really stands on that). 

She wants to sit down with somebody to help mediate this, but what if nothing comes of it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

TLDR; My best friend's son is being neglected by his father, and she can't just take him full time because of her financial and I guess housing situation.",5.9588893467957975,5.325758540284364,6.189822790026794,83.36408922316093,66.67772511848341,9.519225221512468,29.01133319596127,8.841846274778883,1.910600123634865,1632,45,351,23,23,523,198,422,0.092,0.7140000000000001,0.193,0.9956,2,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,0,0,1,6,18,21,0,1,15,1,48,6,3,4,3,57,71,27,0,6,18,14,2,0,4,6,0,0,2,4,19,18,3,4,5,2,1,3,16,5,0,0,6,3,44,17,49,55,11,57,0,2,1,0,76,25,0,7,27,232,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317318317606659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152389103115134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004221610474662,0.07577020435625098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377036630187864,0.09400259330532867,0.0,0.0,0.17864543214885056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691171226001243,0.0,0.260340588844642,0.0,0.0,0.07331885101282253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795723025993071,0.0,0.0,0.054891995189187255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448452225033926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879463258971725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171287763965169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779337183822742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630378881430873,0.0,0.13340688710822213,0.0,0.048372693993285636,0.0,0.0,0.09383935134525496,0.09376353200405306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624612943839887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711519394601843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821103458007308,0.0,0.09608423246852713,0.0,0.0,0.0844632910468074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04677686009204452,0.0,0.0,0.09012426809551932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515791485145261,0.0,0.07147498299918371,0.0,0.0,0.0723615467828339,0.0,0.0,0.17044434047256926,0.0,0.0,0.1854299070312108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625691606751673,0.0,0.0,0.08220439008822374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333986423017727,0.0,0.08931364939137583,0.0,0.0,0.06473362968834367,0.0,0.0,0.09450989649083462,0.09217101817378716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785366989327106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318467206548546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452671099273477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614070684975604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913451698374008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594555507767367,0.07115977175199588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19317449955015853,0.08021967791333805,0.0,0.12799145185578947,0.0,0.07439407399404728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474178107445141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05020290565565802,0.0,0.20482184032256245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24785830982839335,0.0,0.0,0.06046310145999938,0.09305965625253818,0.0,0.05481113117647733
parenting,JMAddley,2020/02/04,"Vetting Dayhomes Operators? I will need care for my infant and my preschooler (who has always been cared for by family until now) when I go back to work in June. So I applied to all of the daycare facilities near my home and work months ago and have heard nothing back (beside ""you have been added to our waitlist"").
So this week I started exploring dayhomes through local daycare Facebook groups. I have had contact with a few that have space or will by June. I need to start booking tours and meeting these operators, but what do I ask/look for? What have other people done to vet that their daycares are a good(safe) fit for your kids?

Note: I am exclusively exploring homes that are licenced by our provincial (Sask, Can) government. So a lot of the basic CPR and Criminal Record Checks are taken care of.",5.452781818181819,7.077627393333334,5.3828484848484885,80.75809090909092,68.4,8.121212121212123,31.63636363636364,8.575989854853784,2.5226,639,27,115,10,11,199,100,150,0.031,0.889,0.081,0.7572,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,2,1,2,7,3,0,0,5,0,18,0,0,0,1,14,28,12,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,9,6,0,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,1,16,3,20,20,3,20,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,12,85,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579583699851311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827181479774468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658748385464858,0.0,0.0,0.27404061740015784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5450424621549756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235449194575795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798559386103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127184682255977,0.1494608058752626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574865402935947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496382138845342,0.0,0.0,0.151494301364564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223287732895706,0.0,0.0,0.2642574214347459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098210110679693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353739284134475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25225348524518204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293660552887222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594549394966897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,okayellie,2020/02/04,"My 16 year old is having extreme anxiety and punching walls I’m his 21 year old sister, but I’ve been a second mommy to him his whole life as we had a deadbeat dad. Our father passed away in December, a week after our beloved cat, and my brother has been okay. Confused because they’re relationship fizzled as he got older. He’s quiet when it comes to grieving. But him and I talked about it. I told him his father loved him but just struggled to show it. He asked questions about his cremation and after a few weeks him, I, and my mom found our routine again. 

He was supposed to start driver’s ed yesterday. He woke me up the night before and asked me questions about what happens during it, where he was supposed to go, etc. He is a lot like I was and gets nervous in new situations. I answered all his questions and told him I would walk him in and that was that. 

He panicked the day of that we decided to wait until summer, thinking the extra 3 hours would be just too much for his ADHD. 

Before my classes this morning, my mom asked me to call her. She told me by brother told her this morning he has been having nightmares about her and I dying. He’s afraid when he wakes up one of us will be gone. He has been punching his walls in anger. I noticed a scab on his hand last night and I thought it was from playing with our dog. 

He has wanted to get into boxing and the company that does it said he can come try it for free. It’s about 40 mins away but I will take him tonight after my classes if he would like. I’m hoping he can use it as a healthy outlet to his anger. Besides that we are getting him into therapy. 

I’m feel so crushed and devastated. I feel like I failed him.",2.0871248246844303,3.9522347971014495,3.3207573632538576,91.07642356241236,77.84057971014492,5.611033193080879,24.46236559139785,6.3737218528115,0.6504988312295463,1315,46,277,10,31,426,175,345,0.11599999999999999,0.778,0.106,-0.6975,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,8,0,0,1,13,16,2,4,11,1,28,5,2,1,1,48,61,25,3,6,7,8,3,3,0,5,2,2,0,0,17,21,0,1,10,2,1,6,0,8,0,2,20,5,53,9,39,34,7,45,0,2,0,1,70,14,0,7,28,183,70,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190012304360614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574903147306446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777073428726033,0.0,0.18606264892160312,0.0,0.0,0.06036087807042841,0.0,0.16851523458046114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110915964886197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059167791214655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385886735753174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276577349227684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665192821248519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104320205364393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001336558312407,0.0707389762625123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856888936975284,0.0,0.0,0.15519954556330828,0.0,0.05627460686749062,0.0,0.07919429678306994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756190592691326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834790742600914,0.09751346983875532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071345315233627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993983337015401,0.14512659982754827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418215446286159,0.08936823915779192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319390002036917,0.0,0.0,0.07279013485402805,0.0,0.0,0.09563287369603082,0.0,0.1858446771162812,0.0,0.0,0.11273344177553375,0.20780692959123648,0.0,0.06709763108599216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327708032993317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630902287451216,0.0,0.0,0.09418945502277967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113011631116471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008594272996273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351584040388404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444973642137516,0.07958747714541009,0.0,0.0,0.11323650852935367,0.0,0.0,0.0634471822466401,0.0,0.07860978418971436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784664298195295,0.0,0.06722719487858766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910729953054135,0.08552036118300024,0.0,0.0,0.058403792432359075,0.0,0.158853650555112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055083800883586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21102012212445428,0.0,0.0,0.12752958763664726
parenting,tiredmom0,2020/02/04,"10 year old won't sleep in her own room My daughter is almost 10 now and still won't sleep in her own room. A lot of days, I'll try and make her sleep for an hour and go back to my room. But she follows me - if not right away in the morning. It's not just me - even if my husband was with her - she does the same. She just wants someone to sleep with her. Anyone has been in this situation and has been able to fix it? Any guidance?",0.7693947368421057,2.0085948210526325,2.207565789473687,100.38608552631581,79.73684210526315,5.171052631578949,19.24342105263158,5.148860815047168,-0.6903421052631584,328,7,86,1,8,106,61,95,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,0,8,4,4,1,0,18,12,7,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,13,0,12,7,4,18,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,4,7,59,16,0,0.18195835157099574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220500526892414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373791868602264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722951016084313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095586100360954,0.13991474073934895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734808372444484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923297965547134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018177512255808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341112442965436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791923235786887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469448361343216,0.0,0.0,0.12145861260339555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909346812844473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539143803808836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20452881092187425,0.728359038865535,0.0,0.15417272080893554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531217460978196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353777665681727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732375013490177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171752126728266
parenting,DrCamFamilyCoach,2020/02/04,"Parenting Teens: It's all about what we DO not what we SAY! Does your teen ever do something that drives you totally nuts and then you realize, ""Crap! That's me!""? Remember, our teens do as we DO not as we SAY. I just got reminded of this by my 14-year-old daughter...I hate when that happens!",0.13953389830508556,2.51086352542373,1.8862500000000004,94.67479872881357,91.71186440677964,6.339830508474578,22.62923728813559,7.645422480735847,1.2052186440677972,224,9,50,5,8,73,43,59,0.125,0.875,0.0,-0.8157,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,5,3,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,3,13,7,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,11,0,5,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,11,0,1,0,3,36,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26225366503253583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27107945098322506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396830054387868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650077294328282,0.0,0.0,0.29587384963657803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144657599010449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327613037949516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339481192391527,0.0,0.0,0.4766381773996929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307097807920256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192985329049953
parenting,atiredsingledad,2020/02/04,"I am a single dad trying to raise two difficult kids on my own. Help! Throwaway because I am embarrassed it has come this far.

The title is pretty self-explanatory. So, I have two kids, a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter. Their mother walked out on us last year, so I've been trying to raise them on my own for about a year now. Since then, things have just gone out of control. My 4 year old is extremely stubborn, defiant, and throws a ton of tantrums, many of which can get physical at times. It has gotten so bad that he's been kicked out of two preschools. My 2 year old, while not as hard as my 4 year old, is copying my 4 year old's behaviors, and that combined with toddler tantrums makes it really hard. Here are some of the issues I am having with them:

* Eating -- my 4 year old refuses to eat anything except cornflakes and pizza. I put a healthy, balanced dinner in front of him, but he refuses to eat it if it's not one of those things. He has started to dump his plate if it's not one of those two preferred foods. My 2 year old, while she does not have the same selectivity, is also beginning to dump her plate as well and act like my 4 year old, probably for attention.
* Sleeping -- This is an issue that I have only with my 4 year old. My 4 year old needs his naps, although he never wants to take them. Naptime usually begins with me carrying him up to his room, putting him in bed, closing the door, and him screaming at me the whole time from the other side of the door ""I don't want to sleep!"". The same occurs at bedtime, only it's much worse then because that is also when I sleep.
* Potty training -- My 2 year old totally refuses to potty train. She is absolutely uninterested and resists any attempt we make. My 4 year old is seeing this and is regressing in potty training as well. This is one of the major reasons he's gotten kicked out of 2 preschools, because the moment he has an accident, they send him home. This is also one of the big reasons why we barely go out in public, because it would be so embarrassing to be in the store and have my son shout at the top of his lungs ""I pooped in my underwear dad!"". 
* Tantrums -- This is my biggest issue with them. Tantrums occur here all the time. My 4 year old, I feel, is getting past the point where they are age-appropriate, and his tantrums get very physical. He bites, kicks, scratches, screams, and throws toys. They can be easily triggered by anything, whether it be him being asked to share with his sister or him being asked to clean his toys. My 2 year old has her typical terrible two tantrums as well, and having two kids tantruming at the same time is very hard.

I have no idea what to do.  Please help!",3.7897053195560666,4.951481388059705,4.60805970149254,86.50391312667435,71.8731343283582,7.66161500191351,27.36299272866437,8.055295364500962,1.5824617872177569,2088,73,435,29,39,674,232,536,0.11,0.821,0.069,-0.978,0,0,0,0,1,0,84.0,3,0,8,3,17,22,10,2,24,0,45,11,5,6,3,63,66,35,0,7,11,7,5,1,0,1,0,3,6,3,26,27,6,5,6,3,1,11,7,17,3,10,5,9,60,5,64,54,13,90,0,0,1,0,56,29,0,4,51,285,86,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045122539710293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0296244211109263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716974856007524,0.0,0.08145128880579103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03637339252639697,0.10622271477800296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037525777717356615,0.0,0.0,0.04885975267536632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038122387172446384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372786749995993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02202682661158044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526767077013286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682798096592118,0.0,0.024757929745302318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707201895241524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05839889330284349,0.0,0.04369736964009032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049177469367682636,0.0,0.1364057637761226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03550976388607508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021282744045732344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815745287330897,0.04416617462803595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032023911763800976,0.03230150767379289,0.033598570153403395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6856826262049331,0.0,0.1180780127288898,0.06626344425658358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041585935266197915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047819233149593625,0.04118123712375127,0.0,0.0,0.04431936274373785,0.0469684203673603,0.0,0.0,0.08758595238633345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027907655508868562,0.08958030271372164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034714173145525364,0.0,0.045445843618367114,0.0,0.0,0.0360358699274193,0.0,0.13078376731501154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030834206453499012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03275405100948818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057882813517472535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016080418294707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059153009160845337,0.0,0.255329078477352,0.0,0.05240107960013754,0.0,0.047978631308269966,0.07188828635202177,0.05138932354709642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750545228288987,0.0,0.039308947510912975,0.04863667705670288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04439454947524305,0.0309459964817658,0.0,0.0,0.4769048483628862
parenting,latteswiirl,2020/02/04,"Is 7 too young for a phone? Here’s my situation - I am starting a new job next week and my son will be in aftercare for the first time ever. He’s in 2nd grade. He accidentally got on the bus yesterday and came home, which was fine bc I was home I didn’t start my job yet, but made me start thinking.. if he came home on the bus by accident (he’s also diagnosed adhd and VERYYY forgetful) he doesn’t have a phone and he’d be stuck alone! I started getting panicky even just thinking about it. I made his teacher aware he’ll be going to aftercare (she wasn’t made aware by the school yesterday) and I’m sure he’ll make it there but I still am nervous. 

All that being said, is a cheapy phone okay for a 7 year old? I’m not talking a brand new iPhone but maybe an older model with heavy parental controls or something similar? I would like to have a direct line of communication to him since it’ll be a pretty long day with aftercare.",2.416275906735752,3.9862154300518178,3.910229922279793,88.5128060233161,76.04663212435233,7.3120466321243525,24.49773316062177,8.07648339933343,1.2299847150259071,730,24,161,12,16,242,118,193,0.095,0.828,0.077,-0.5158,3,1,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,10,5,0,1,13,1,20,1,0,5,3,28,41,11,0,2,7,2,0,1,0,5,1,1,3,0,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,12,1,15,4,16,18,1,28,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,2,22,89,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991015346079287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919036101545833,0.0,0.09975247953924356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853327842267751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990363695705044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044532455942596,0.0,0.0,0.1266058680762461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238789760354792,0.11283214886283564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061015961872623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517016002603862,0.0,0.07089115734802412,0.0,0.09976391958693533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753654451788157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475653085007961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060940408687847336,0.0,0.0,0.11038870232224736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3540887233850012,0.08326320465838491,0.0,0.12531551658991566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409443787956701,0.13265967436015091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089095209808108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850615688279036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269028125595448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865386269631815,0.0,0.0,0.1262409408953676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318409299478436,0.14021010019217064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960289694996058,0.0,0.0,0.3531591863913769,0.0,0.099615474560023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756355373036755,0.0,0.0,0.10025922310808548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985341987466442,0.0,0.0,0.07273539988258082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005684414044354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860989300999697,0.0,0.0,0.0803268167200733
parenting,Wakeup823,2020/02/04,"'I'm kind of happy that you guys are separated because there's no more fights' That was my 5yo this morning.

My ex and I have been separated 1.5yrs, he moved out 3 weeks ago. We didn't fight when married, neither of us are yellers. Conflicts in marriage were resolved with fierce training. 

We avoided any and all triggering topics when separated saving it for court, would shut down and ignore and soon as a jab was thrown--very much diffuse and walk away so to not fight when child was around but we had like 3 or 4 pretty good sparring matches while she was in earshot in that time but even they didn't last long. To say we were fighters would not be accurate but... It clearly was enough that she didn't like it and it's obvious she felt the tension but is too young to have the vocabulary to express that. 

My ex is a better dad now then he ever was in marriage and I'm far less tense, exhausted and bitter - making me a better mom. 

And our daughter (surprisingly as I grew up hearing divorce makes kids worse off), shes happy.",3.7769519704433487,5.415562418719215,4.2970412561576365,86.85275400246306,72.5960591133005,6.848399014778327,27.95843596059113,7.413659706084162,1.4592071428571427,813,31,163,9,16,257,134,203,0.11699999999999999,0.7190000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9301,0,1,0,0,5,0,22.0,6,1,1,3,11,19,4,2,5,0,23,1,0,3,4,38,29,22,0,2,7,5,1,2,0,2,1,2,0,3,10,16,0,3,2,0,0,3,7,8,0,0,14,4,18,11,20,12,6,29,0,0,0,0,31,12,0,1,16,110,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536099859652289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178422652708916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426369143351368,0.0,0.0,0.16281044756474228,0.0,0.0,0.10563518934085496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065195640592065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905356064667113,0.0,0.11445555877382732,0.1567495593575067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638433710733616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453463485031659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158306752741245,0.0,0.36893810863374027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19530897065482455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804535253062169,0.0,0.14125342736321722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932022132271524,0.0,0.0,0.1533550554646805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23134311935797214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20295364303231447,0.0,0.1841784747413768,0.12738714086431854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629691670694464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780613766439706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101046040478645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208444981915376,0.0,0.0,0.14298133419120634,0.0,0.0,0.13900175072251206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659600018019495,0.2461986556848737,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,summerhugs,2020/02/04,"Potentially switching schools So my boyfriend and I are planning on buying a house sometime in the next 1-2 years. Depending on where we go we may have to make my son switch schools because there are like 5 in the area and I'm terrified for my son. I honestly dont know how the school system works and if we moved if they'd make him switch but I remember switching schools in 2nd grade and it sucks so much. Hes in kindergarten so he just made all new friends this year from switching from daycare and I'm afraid itll crush him to have to make all new friends in 2 years again. Am I overreacting or is it actually rough for some kids? I dont know if all the school systems are the same but would they actually force him to switch if we went slightly out of boundries? 

And by slightly out of bounds I mean in a 20 block radius there are about 5 elementary schools. There is a school 1 block away from me that I opted out of because it is year around and now he goes to a school 8 blocks away. 

Anything really helps! Thanks",2.9936616943428085,4.60864767942584,3.4324570785251933,92.35072896144106,74.59808612440192,6.8315226569096525,26.648184632704755,7.510576382923642,1.13622240360259,811,30,181,10,17,252,113,209,0.084,0.818,0.098,0.626,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,2,2,13,7,1,1,9,0,17,0,0,6,3,44,30,18,0,5,8,2,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,6,15,0,4,4,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,2,1,21,5,29,24,6,30,0,0,0,0,18,16,1,8,10,110,27,10,0.0,0.0,0.1844578044794878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777743311615746,0.08413464469728409,0.0,0.0,0.17759200537177747,0.0,0.0,0.11522580641153185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22153189491797448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460376110165318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371266260600732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334859345691123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090527677726323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388132214596707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046173200345046614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942839908039446,0.18926006796680192,0.0,0.0,0.10294996217094313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045001768891287,0.06947630862471317,0.0,0.0,0.18255822882861372,0.1005133023199005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054603514483939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706230656867692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7651997590717041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347359255108592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701284179495923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876124535106893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880498412883335,0.0,0.0,0.0671377568775583,0.0,0.0,0.243447412405386
parenting,nochedetoro,2020/02/04,"My husband is concerned about my sleeping habits I’m currently pregnant but even before this pregnancy, even back to my teen years, I loved to sleep. I get up with the dogs on weekends around 8 but then around noon I’ll go back to sleep for a few hours. Some people like video games or reading; I like to nap! 

My husband is constantly saying how miserable having a baby will be because “you’re just going to sleep all the time and I’ll be stuck watching the baby all day.” It was his biggest reason for not wanting to try to get pregnant for the past year. I’ve told him I understand he’s concerned but once the baby is here (and even third trimester from what I’ve heard) I won’t be able to sleep. Every little noise and cry will wake me up, and I’ll have to get up every two hours to feed or pump anyway. If I do get the chance to nap, I’d then watch the baby while he gets an equal amount of time to nap or game or whatever. I’m just appreciating the amount of sleep I can get while I can get it since everyone says you’ll never sleep again. 

Sleep-lovers and chronic nappers, how did having a baby change your sleeping habits? How did they change as your child got older?",3.7360361239931663,4.6800192987551865,4.284881620698074,89.5919404442275,71.78008298755186,6.998389065169637,24.549914571637782,7.048011613610866,0.7829407371247252,925,25,199,8,17,293,134,241,0.044000000000000004,0.8759999999999999,0.079,0.8518,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,1,0,16,4,0,1,12,0,19,12,9,4,3,29,37,21,0,2,11,2,0,2,0,4,1,3,0,1,4,8,1,0,2,8,0,2,3,1,0,2,7,5,19,3,27,23,7,31,0,1,2,1,18,8,0,6,23,119,23,1,0.08426770067392943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003223877964145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959332056702666,0.0,0.05136880818630751,0.0,0.07170560666408878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782881076293059,0.0,0.0,0.09106344777940237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256411228392697,0.05434569564174368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697406464255207,0.0,0.14199834450782767,0.08052139920691698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081847690673135,0.0,0.09578255248583638,0.0,0.06739657822989911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659734214563176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823378840466165,0.08445837399456786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760548898889152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499244569869668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974235101750028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044305538234649,0.0584206133542811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842905047104952,0.0,0.0,0.08664123105852788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402611566750858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970711279586564,0.0,0.7589570201960688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827434785173204,0.0,0.0,0.08052139920691698,0.0,0.057212237280450384,0.0,0.0823172989826206,0.08772564826164095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049703273158323666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853127281783648
parenting,redvelvet8,2020/02/04,"advice for child in ""parenting"" his mum hi, not sure if my post is allowed here, but it's a reversed situation.

i'm in my early twenties, student, not working yet. educated, very, with progressist liberal ideas. my mum, with whom i am quite close, has been raised in a strict old fashioned household, and hasn;t been exposed to other ideas, cultures, ways of life. to give a bit of background, we are middle-eastern and live in a  middle-eastern country. 

sometimes we get into heated arguments, as well as her causing me problems (i live with family, the norm in my country unless my uni is very far away or so, and anyway i surely can't even afford one of those very expensive studies in my cities, or even just shared rooms).

so, i've been thinking about a solution, and no it's not about me setting my boundaries, that just doesn't work or is a lot daunting and doesn't work with my personality. i'd like to introduce my mum to a more ""open-minded"" social circle (she basically has none, and is the kind of mum who lives for her children, and who will be very sad when they leave her house - when married or working abroad, as her life will be meaningless, knowing that she used to work and now does a few things but not full time). 

i want her to understand for example, atheism, or a ""corrupted"" lifestyle (to see sex as less taboo, drinking as something ""normal"", privacy as something ""normal"" etc) through people who are mature and reasonable (usually here people who are like that are not role models, they're  a bad example). not sure how. any idea? proposition? 

perhaps some kind of clubs that include foreigners and people of different backgrounds, or ? maybe media? showing her posts on reddit, sharing youtube videos? i want something effective as she always separates between her own mindset and ""our"" culture , and the ""western "" or ""bad"" culture.

i am also talking about other diets, other life goals, other personalities etc 

thanks so much for helping !",6.325147058823529,7.5741982969187704,6.407328431372548,75.61922794117645,66.03081232492997,8.863165266106444,34.76295518207283,9.075114841892004,3.24677787114846,1540,71,257,26,24,490,204,357,0.086,0.8109999999999999,0.10400000000000001,0.8971,4,0,4,0,0,0,79.0,3,0,1,8,20,15,0,0,13,0,22,6,0,6,3,62,33,37,0,6,19,5,0,2,0,2,3,0,1,4,17,20,2,1,8,4,1,0,11,4,1,1,3,1,32,11,43,26,12,25,0,1,1,1,40,13,0,10,10,185,49,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871313303001426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130548364715145,0.0741926989655022,0.0,0.0,0.06063548325157263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377376439428895,0.0,0.14889865527355506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973454487361281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159735750693347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315879388527684,0.0,0.0,0.07802918275598877,0.0,0.0,0.08734807959367037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988858295552473,0.11778572146633827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840571393347651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04658520571602204,0.08553551112110573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976564239881312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288482136123724,0.0,0.3019704191720769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857039439328416,0.04900293449699659,0.0,0.0,0.09441321194676756,0.0,0.0,0.18894033240371091,0.08712335443115495,0.0,0.23620386476237326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580517653649929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957856045494274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003156696595796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655467783870926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472618719503671,0.0,0.0,0.09356401652871214,0.0,0.060420736462601085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900754898779426,0.0,0.0,0.18544804237872511,0.15571145696754746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079148063119187,0.0,0.0,0.08531918051691964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483830597518357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916768115827468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710532251913387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002255688540061,0.0,0.09089282694216276,0.0,0.20593148599217884,0.08818679312809721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25211181005452044,0.0,0.0,0.07166771619944746,0.0,0.08209145780575622,0.0,0.0,0.05923748444654189,0.057133544296158925,0.0,0.0,0.051993022036670236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282425501576692,0.0,0.07701021811935868,0.09820301582375854,0.29428294762354434,0.10518404581078344,0.07077529009935099,0.0,0.0,0.08017034163794162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32456711761855506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lookinforalook,2020/02/04,Suggestions for books and ideas for 6 year old struggling with the sudden loss of her mother? The father is not in the picture. She is doing amazing all things considered but the books out there don’t seem too great and she’s struggling with her sadness and anger. Any suggestions or advice is appreciated thank you.,5.240172413793104,7.702390948275862,4.802965517241383,81.28858620689657,70.55172413793103,7.398620689655173,27.11724137931035,8.238735603445708,1.930899310344828,257,9,44,4,5,78,44,58,0.207,0.591,0.20199999999999999,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,2,8,1,2,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,12,7,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,7,7,1,5,0,2,0,0,9,2,0,2,3,31,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831258213119297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970298276992927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194340099351781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270757014937257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30402828619375777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26376398582669464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6057881440971278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667491857852458,0.0,0.0,0.1924871498989656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865799280343229
parenting,PhoPat,2020/02/04,"Is it good to reward candy to a two year old for going on the potty. I get it, it works. But I’m running into a situation where my man will go on the potty and demand candy at 6;30am. Then he’s bouncing off the walls and not focusing on going on the potty anymore. 

I know that it’s probably okay till it’s not, like I mentioned above. My concern is not exactly unhealthy candy but the false reward for Barley going on the potty.  

Oh and did I mention my 5 year old helps himself be default every time too. 

I love my kids, no really, so much love for these terrorists, I mean beautiful children.",1.6731542699724535,3.8124480991735545,4.1408471074380175,83.33430096418735,80.40495867768595,6.347382920110194,23.306473829201106,7.492282038375204,1.26721432506887,464,16,88,7,12,162,76,121,0.081,0.682,0.237,0.9744,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,3,3,7,0,0,8,1,5,2,0,0,1,12,15,8,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,1,0,11,7,14,12,1,22,0,0,0,2,10,10,0,0,8,60,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20020996633318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700919724769828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547357423619852,0.0,0.4589305132440598,0.16932673418701086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353154037518242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110947554486873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862800271096166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644078044025987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199056827816021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484044749807109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236766197120793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176599728572358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932901496492905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269207319020705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771741232566825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972066899999617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469704960989184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260007232239327
parenting,kartoffelkraft,2020/02/04,"Horrific news stories about kids suffering fill me with fear and anxiety now I’m a parent - whereas I never used to care When I read a story about a child being hit by a car or something similar it just fills me with dread and panic as well as a strong desire to protect my own kids.

Some things I just can’t read. It’s unbearable. I used to be such an insensitive ass, typical male you know. All that toughness is just blasted away by the emotional intensity of parenting.",3.425080645161291,5.426354451612905,5.05772849462366,79.5065927419355,74.3763440860215,8.951075268817203,28.829301075268816,9.516144504307137,2.884291397849461,376,16,71,10,8,127,71,93,0.263,0.621,0.11599999999999999,-0.9396,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,9,8,0,3,7,0,4,1,1,2,2,16,10,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,4,0,1,1,2,0,3,2,5,1,0,0,0,8,3,13,7,3,7,0,1,0,1,7,1,1,2,3,50,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664796938424173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046690368052031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221036852505908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450420994294525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24513198353771898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971986070632484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801261095594913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555897847601989,0.4837738839668817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43580042643291456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770484646207734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472405498425295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37628981532844297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195865456471002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nicklehardy,2020/02/04,"I don’t feel like anyone respects me as a parent, including my husband. I need to vent. We live with my in laws due to a shitty financial situation, and have for the last year. We have one son who is turning 2 in June. It is clear to me they don’t respect me as his mother, as they constantly go behind my back to give him food I’ve asked them not to let him eat, and do things I’ve asked them not to let him do. I understand it’s their first grandson but my MIL goes over my head and makes little comments about how I’m raising him and I swear she thinks she is his mother. 
All of this wouldn’t be so bad if my husband supported me. He says he does in theory but he can’t hold to any type of discipline, and does the same things my in laws do. It’s currently 3 am and I’m fuming with him because our son has crawled into our bed for the fifth night in a row and has kept me up for hours crawling all over me. Finally I became touched out and put him back in his bed and he started screaming bloody murder, only because he knew his dad would save him. My husband jumped right up and when I said he was fine, he was safe, and he was okay to cry for a minute he told me “I would like to comfort my son,” as if that hadn’t occurred to me to do myself. I’m so tired of it, I’m tired of my husband claiming he doesn’t get enough time with our boy but then turns the TV on to the Wiggles as soon as he gets home instead of actually playing with him. I’m tired of sour gummy worms and snack cakes being fed to my son for dinner when I’ve finally had enough and put my husband in charge for the night so I can have a break. I’m tired of my husband telling me “I don’t know how to discipline, you do it better,” so I’m constantly the bad guy. I know he loves our son but how do I get him to understand that love doesn’t mean he gets to always be his best friend?",2.525550264550265,3.030756241975311,3.977985008818344,92.30486111111112,74.23456790123456,7.267195767195767,24.34082892416225,7.310402129719878,0.7232310405643738,1438,40,349,15,28,478,183,405,0.131,0.7440000000000001,0.125,-0.8785,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,1,5,3,14,21,2,0,12,1,35,12,1,4,3,57,70,35,1,6,8,16,2,2,1,3,4,3,3,2,11,21,5,5,8,2,0,4,10,5,0,2,10,6,62,16,55,52,6,42,0,0,0,2,71,16,0,2,23,218,73,1,0.0,0.0,0.09177573136393304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825414835241275,0.0,0.0,0.06395478487708207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575943767892384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584139902784982,0.0,0.0,0.14463177076419598,0.15704965073004568,0.11465963920863274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986959067720216,0.0831764084599017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032615206802404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330556706366664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460129711803215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623295777951324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19435016674721087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04755269148360974,0.06718677523862379,0.0,0.20604649391171767,0.0,0.07999582966359295,0.11372129421387582,0.0,0.07266002431018953,0.0,0.19654147375467865,0.09021788760889772,0.0534487430128626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312073344007676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651875069232273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943362189108083,0.0,0.09261677121933083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337089657877442,0.07666037766160083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19233765540129952,0.0,0.09189265248034084,0.09425921130233862,0.08304470445320851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16976111657267848,0.0,0.062776710025562,0.0,0.0,0.10244411288304392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973422254387625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651237281650115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372828244063349,0.0715265339156498,0.0,0.0,0.1044274104397003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908523890299103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031512164580287,0.08945967384345085,0.0747894812511303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571210702893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656653418492417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067227533836333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220070900205895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249605139195398,0.06026114312581679,0.0,0.0,0.05483921890534932,0.4323700613940939,0.0,0.08986537655452508,0.0,0.0,0.2045909794284225,0.0,0.19581126240153487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361574495498293,0.0,0.0,0.06056280563787659
parenting,Platina4k,2020/02/04,"Little ruffian, slow morning Today was the best morning ever! Why?

1. I woke up to my alarm clock rather that my toddler asking me if I am awake already, demanding to get up, trying to motivate me by riding rodeo on my hips.

2. After my alarm rang, my 2.5 year old instead cuddled close to me and said: ""Good morning, mummy. You are my best friend.""

3. We stayed in bed for 10 more minutes without him jumping around or wanting to play rough, but with cuddles, hugs and kisses.

I love my little ruffian, but I cherish this slow and peaceful morning like a rare flower! It may or may not happen again some time. Right now, I feel so full of love, I just needed to share!",1.7290294438386056,4.107757022900763,3.1020338058887686,89.48864503816796,81.82442748091603,4.96423118865867,23.860959651035987,6.1826913282559595,0.6902776444929111,514,19,99,4,14,167,98,131,0.031,0.6829999999999999,0.28600000000000003,0.992,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,0,3,8,14,0,2,2,0,5,7,1,1,1,24,15,9,0,4,9,0,2,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,3,7,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,4,19,12,17,10,5,24,0,0,0,6,9,10,0,6,12,67,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21292439078158928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176581709135405,0.18038158335170912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049768491901113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453372139325438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756098199708173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907217872362186,0.0,0.10080806461432994,0.0,0.0,0.16183674901006065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706244610136472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426529955080128,0.386771849500726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482886188147756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306948813882694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20246787105114572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477767908637414,0.18353900393448733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056583199487269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251030975192818,0.0,0.18289340999788867,0.0,0.0,0.13099993393465878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138065177937303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410676481287501,0.0,0.0,0.18599627494198426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242530465928764
parenting,snoobypls,2020/02/04,"Baby monitor fell into crib - help! 2 AM right now and I'm woken out of a dead sleep by a weird noise from the baby monitor and the baby whining. I realized that it fell into the crib from where I mounted it on the wall. I feel awful even though it didn't hit her, just startled her. 
I had it stuck to the wall with 2 velcro command strips and it seemed very secure, we've had that setup for a while now. I have removed and restock the camera at least 2 times and am thinking that's my error. 
But I'm afraid to put it back up there with new strips because what if it falls again and hits the baby? Plus we're in the throes of sleep regression and I didn't need this sleep interruption for either of us! 
I had the camera mounted on the wall because it allowed me to see the whole crib. My daughter has a tendency to scoot into the corners in her sleep and I like to see her no matter where she is. 
Is there a safer way to mount it on the wall? Other clever solutions that I'm not thinking of? Please help!",1.954096893101632,3.5504376824644552,3.4101026856240138,91.4923946814113,77.38862559241706,6.015903106898367,21.674828857293313,6.691623216298621,0.3521593470247497,785,21,172,7,18,258,113,211,0.11900000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.09,-0.7339,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,11,7,0,2,18,1,11,4,4,1,0,28,25,13,1,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,15,0,1,5,0,0,5,4,4,0,0,7,3,17,3,29,16,3,32,0,1,2,0,9,19,0,2,8,118,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891688480202793,0.0,0.20440271762144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107350088840263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477175958819795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22475216383111415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190810657552651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431457745345327,0.0,0.161922920128901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840356129247472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854028566906848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317705204555212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267199773447929,0.15262745289285715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6711071171755142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485400629036888,0.16472087436150165,0.0,0.09776138712676584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166916462171935,0.0,0.0,0.13833351111587713,0.0,0.1330772912090364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871816021129433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ApacheRedtail,2020/02/04,"Son confided in me that he was molested. Need advice. My son is 14. He’s been very depressed recently (and has been going to therapy - it has helped a little but he’s still clearly struggling). 

Tonight I went to see how he was feeling and he was more upset than usual.  He was crying and said it was serious but he couldn’t get it out. So I gently asked some questions and when I got to “did someone do something to you?”  he said yes. We went from there (mostly me asking questions trying to narrow it down) and apparently it was 4/5 years ago, an older kid (12/13) who no longer lives around here (he won’t tell me the name, yet, he said). They were in the woods, he knew the kid from the neighborhood. He said it was only once and he doesn’t think I know the kid/family. He didn’t go into detail about what actually happened but says he wasn’t physically injured. He says he only recently even realized it because at 9/10 he couldn’t comprehend what was happening. 

Other than getting him in with a therapist asap, I don’t know what to do. He cried and said he didn’t think I’d believe him, which was shocking because of course I do. I tried not to interrogate him too much even though I have a million questions.  I just let him cry and told him it was ok and that we’d get help. He hasn’t told his current therapist.

I don’t know how to approach this. I don’t want to make it worse for him. I feel like shit for somehow going this many years and not knowing because in retrospect it explains a lot. I feel awful for letting him be in that situation in the first place. We live in a pretty safe suburban area where we know most of the families. He was never gone more than an hour or two and I thought I always knew who he was with.  I feel sick and just so sad for him and needed to get that out there. Hoping someone has advice. Thanks for reading.",2.3553739522888435,4.183569946808511,3.7605512572533866,88.39515151515154,76.92553191489361,6.791618310767246,24.159896840747905,7.686295010490155,1.1313964539007095,1444,48,303,21,33,475,187,376,0.133,0.768,0.099,-0.9440000000000001,2,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,4,1,1,1,20,13,2,2,14,3,39,3,1,3,2,67,83,23,0,6,8,2,4,1,0,1,2,7,0,2,23,22,0,1,19,1,0,7,15,8,0,3,33,12,35,5,38,43,7,40,0,2,1,0,63,18,1,10,16,197,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.07832150296066165,0.0,0.0,0.15685692556540198,0.07114503024543653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678217019664286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144779633854231,0.15006322967837385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467759799614602,0.0,0.0,0.0904247512992804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26448322959841314,0.0,0.0,0.06912722075396613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060210264268303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132265744658666,0.0,0.1623260620850632,0.05733726266808223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826852280797968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772869461021073,0.0,0.13683963577011682,0.0,0.06419069707220659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194607457190325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759223908123576,0.0,0.0,0.07971559808859824,0.07903924723298306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205420720194457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414115173022387,0.0,0.03921064178046138,0.08044090727875151,0.1417408713400964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823358998708165,0.0,0.0,0.05357370850721317,0.08137033685280261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058999823043555985,0.11902251360485548,0.061900922916233336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854735391619097,0.0,0.12208163431845966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385389014427558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165256570059141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26972636536661226,0.0,0.08028102310295733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584927598870296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817248855258479,0.127650839501536,0.0,0.0,0.06395627391793261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238502198890825,0.0,0.09021482019916537,0.0,0.0,0.13600689530930746,0.06178753317659943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409518368626653,0.0,0.0,0.08390445049019128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015016908929095,0.07389198375737281,0.0917835085578534,0.18637447538378224,0.0,0.10285384228703247,0.07885435848034934,0.0637169221624078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338240842703274,0.0,0.10898159783617532,0.0,0.07840167767525502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839428418172607,0.06622233106556541,0.04733901682545208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880235740399586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179108731177835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336872047934503
parenting,bwilds55,2020/02/04,"What was the first music you exposed your child(ren) to? I saw a meme about the first movie a newborn being exposed to, being Monty Python, and it reminded me of how I wanted to make sure the song played for my son in the womb the most was “Bohemian Rhapsody”.

Am I the only one that did something silly like this?",7.515430107526883,6.0024485000000025,7.315161290322582,79.42607526881723,64.0,9.556989247311831,33.56989247311828,7.793537801064563,2.346595698924732,245,8,48,2,3,78,48,62,0.042,0.8190000000000001,0.139,0.7236,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,2,2,4,0,0,8,0,6,1,1,2,1,6,9,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,7,4,7,3,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,3,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6701178384462968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244411211240936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629374143877723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669230324668297,0.2995856565315744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30325050603256914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712547093392213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23233782074406376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,J_nunya,2020/02/04,"Teen bedtime  Usually just lurk on reddit, but I'm at a lose and thought I'd turn here for advice. I'm a 42 year old dad. I have a 16 year old daughter. On school nights her phone is suppose to be plugged up in den and in bed by 11 pm, 12 am on non school nights. I had a discussion with her to explain my reasoning behind these times, she said she understood and promised me she would do it.
 A couple months passed, and I found her not following through with what she agreed to. I cut her curfew back an hour. She doesn't feel she should have to put her phone up and be in bed at a certain time cause she thinks she's almost grown and her boyfriend sits up later and she wants to stay up and talk to him. 
 Am I crazy for being upset with her and feeling betrayed for her lying to me? Is 16 to old to have a bedtime? She says she wants rules and structure, just not these. This and a curfew are the only real rules I have though. I'd appreciate some ideas.",2.6571641791044773,3.6969086467661723,3.4907263681592053,93.90265671641792,74.47263681592041,6.554029850746268,23.35024875621891,6.742157984588678,0.4191615920398015,742,20,173,6,15,236,114,201,0.11800000000000001,0.815,0.067,-0.9137,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,1,10,0,17,0,0,2,1,37,31,13,0,4,5,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,5,14,0,0,9,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,5,4,29,2,30,21,1,32,0,1,0,0,29,12,0,2,14,111,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519708307182708,0.0,0.0,0.14878799327544162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425390577792187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263934432402784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440822095329774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025967541012525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291751200845705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463278475598714,0.0,0.0,0.1677361590705594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623037234949928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186003879208602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788768733986405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677498518726617,0.0,0.0,0.11300678714559485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937054946827935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169124054022585,0.0,0.15277174790384834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133986042247254,0.1181620096178983,0.0,0.3007550965520574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837352068581964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942826198950245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520827868438646,0.14598555718947892,0.11796114461568763,0.17328405554715584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616195277366704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364712207823232,0.0,0.17528042536261146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555164092834733,0.0,0.0,0.19136976758109356
parenting,splinter8267,2020/02/04,"Devout mommy's boy has suddenly turned on me My 3 year old son has been my special mommy's boy from the day he was born, and I feel like I earned his favoritism because he was a very difficult pregnancy followed by a very long rough patch of endless crying and sleepless nights. He's always favored me over his dad, but all of a sudden he's become super into his dad, and is (at times)  rejecting me and my affection, requesting his dad when he is upset (which was exclusively to me until recently). Today he told me he hated me and doesn't like me. I choked back tears because I know he doesn't know what it means and I shouldn't take it personally but this is my boy! Our 6 year old daughter is of course extremely special to me, but she's always been a bit of a neutral player with a little more sway towards Daddy. 

And I'm supposed to start night classes at the end of this month after 6 years of being a SAHM and now I'm very worried that my children will drift away from me in my absence. Is this all normal? Am I being over dramatic? ☹️☹️",4.2049769585253465,4.6175153732718925,5.6264285714285736,82.33107142857145,70.38248847926269,8.227649769585254,28.403225806451612,8.192908349453996,1.839411059907834,824,28,168,11,14,279,123,217,0.102,0.774,0.124,0.5923,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,3,10,1,1,9,0,19,0,0,1,2,22,31,13,0,2,3,5,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,5,8,10,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,6,2,27,6,24,21,4,35,0,1,0,0,26,10,0,0,25,104,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509400156061519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167290068705932,0.11594880136342862,0.0,0.1838413186917197,0.16653656847870435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462447630049293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563659024448124,0.09724757790526392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335558732022077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624434866553394,0.10772496271366963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488746760432051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574133734023175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733751585705196,0.15113197481052856,0.0,0.13344509438847044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425536426425635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203597612443173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830138626630777,0.1477429475975566,0.0,0.0,0.3164591138382285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166469203277528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888770281948938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673048955811226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337589973415227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792731591662159,0.0,0.1429320270774293,0.1440870514205139,0.0,0.0,0.16401706699125845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373254554519646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313535572783893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291312953598565
parenting,jbau91690,2020/02/04,"Am I the only one who dies inside every year when their birthdays come around? My daughter will be two next week and I cry every single day that she is getting so big. Of course I am happy that she is growing and I am happy that she is so smart. I mean SO SMART there is nothing that gets past this little genius, but the difference from where she was last year on her birthday to where she is this year is so big. She’s not even a baby anymore she’s an actual toddler who wants to do everything on her own. There are no more firsts. Her first time rolling over, her first time Crawling, her first  steps, her first word, her first time calling me mama, they’re all done. And I was so busy worrying about all of her firsts that I didn’t even realize I was taking advantage of all of the lasts. The last time she would fall asleep snuggled in my arms ,  the last time you would let me feed you. It feels like they just put you in my arms for the first time, but your already two and I don’t know it happened so fast. I wish it would just slow down.",3.0915277777777765,4.1930945416666665,3.496296296296297,94.04083333333335,73.49074074074073,6.511111111111113,22.296296296296298,6.6274283507984215,0.2598851851851851,815,19,185,6,16,253,118,216,0.038,0.867,0.095,0.8853,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,4,2,9,17,6,0,0,8,0,23,4,3,0,3,24,33,13,1,5,5,1,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,6,1,0,4,0,0,5,4,0,0,11,5,1,37,6,16,22,6,45,0,0,0,0,26,12,0,0,29,136,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0901790239842458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197695262537752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164608613999428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226466929357923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436114535460913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960320396123431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150826445608256,0.05959693351058901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590719697068234,0.0965489895449404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456771780897767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220721299204588,0.0,0.15571915671176778,0.0,0.08305232830163413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046725373277723886,0.06601786469717036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6288325451325403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656102987258516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171803386943757,0.19674475059242366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078622868656157,0.3013065843462684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944956895561376,0.0,0.04514695545786327,0.09261929652254652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066179779151686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827929510729938,0.0,0.0,0.08867007834752602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261954250083128,0.0702821205740259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821599146718574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289777395770638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948096912749675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233107814090125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18054267357543066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450592969132925,0.0,0.07412588761590959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626716837568607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384704287774767,0.0,0.1969366621746729,0.0,0.0,0.17852741528740146
parenting,TenthPepper,2020/02/04,"My 6 y.o. sleepwalks So, occasionally, my son sleepwalks. Our bedrooms are on the second floor of our house. One night, when we were all asleep, my wife and I heard our garage door opening. We ran downstairs to see our son, naked (this is how he always sleeps), nearly walking out the house at around 1am. He had no idea where he was or what he was doing. He thought he was going to school. Tonight, we saw his room light on (around 11pm - we put him to bed around 8pm) so we went to go talk to him and ask him why his light was on. He was conscious enough to answer our questions but obviously not awake because his replies made no sense. My partner said she had seen him walk down the hallway earlier but had just assumed he was going to the bathroom. He had brought his bedtime story book and placed it on the stairs. We're concerned about being too deep asleep to notice him getting out of bed and leaving the house. We've considered everything from putting a bell on his door (he's afraid and will cry/ won't sleep if his door is closed) to putting a baby gate at the stairs (what if he trips over it and falls down the stairs). We don't lock the door leading from the garage to the house because we have cats and keep their food/litter boxes in the garage. This isn't a regular occurrence but it's still a concerning one. Any suggestions?",3.4746090973702906,5.005278365671644,3.5207249466950965,92.55106965174127,73.17910447761193,6.448045486851457,25.44847192608387,6.868970318607317,0.7843128642501775,1054,34,227,9,21,321,152,268,0.017,0.983,0.0,-0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,12,0,1,1,12,1,0,1,16,0,21,4,4,3,2,41,37,17,0,2,8,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,9,1,7,21,0,1,6,1,0,14,6,1,0,3,20,7,30,0,32,14,2,45,0,0,3,0,46,27,0,5,4,135,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990483035695404,0.0,0.0,0.08164924247703957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206535495130899,0.11224583941858947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638267804463082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188725926638167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406064628858225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790790300757536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451847198597776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272971787112132,0.0,0.20470943902341374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5541618389798312,0.0,0.13554030661980268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672049804096856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713293968969594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360969350805092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267414592974907,0.0,0.0,0.13669634736788022,0.0,0.0,0.16272014660486026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254437920326172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362099564943224,0.13450180237930145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421060387583702,0.0,0.0,0.12151356699120068,0.09567734437529772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403061422326689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958851506924548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650479263876532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095319278794905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130271919426457,0.10834121533777367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Clasikz,2020/02/04,"Anxiety about everything This is probably going to be one of those ""it's totally normal"" or ""it will get better"" things but I just really want to put how I feel into real words. 

I have a beautiful, perfect and amazing little girl. She is just 3 months old and I love her more than words can describe. I'm a first time mom so everything is still new and scary. I'm trying SO hard to do right by her in every way I know possible. My issue is that I have so much anxiety about EVERYTHING when it comes to her. Her sleep habits, her eating, her motor skills. Everything. I am constantly terrified that something terrible will just randomly happen to her. I have nightmares about her falling a victim to SIDS and me finding her body. I can't watch movies about anything happening to babies or young children because I immediately start getting nauseous and anxious that it might happens to her. No matter how irrational it may seem.. I just can't stop myself from feeling it. My husband doesn't really understand. He tries to, he really does, but I don't think he's capable of understanding how these thoughts go through my head multiple times a day. I'm not sure if it's PPD or just...typical first time mom jitters. 

I don't know. I want to feel normal again. I want to stop having these irrational fears constantly. It's not healthy to be continuously worried about the possibility of death or some other kind of tragedy right? I had it before I was a mom but never to this extent. 

Is this something I should be concerned about? Or should I just wait it out until my hormones balance again?",3.5357753759398483,5.86382847039474,4.7140225563909794,80.60315789473684,75.15131578947368,8.158646616541352,27.962406015037594,8.942964678507748,2.5307419172932337,1261,52,230,29,28,414,166,304,0.191,0.7,0.109,-0.9825,0,0,2,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,5,21,9,1,1,6,0,28,5,3,3,4,60,55,22,1,8,16,4,4,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,21,8,1,3,11,0,0,5,9,3,0,3,3,5,36,6,31,43,5,34,0,0,1,1,21,6,0,11,22,162,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346531389850678,0.10593173125689427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077163497851681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716041612124637,0.0,0.0797900994759356,0.0,0.0,0.08293063107215459,0.0,0.10415568102916704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077327242408952,0.0,0.2026609046340886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060472934587349425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205745894807638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594859968547954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900401768284603,0.0,0.3370923784740985,0.0,0.0,0.10551564802963613,0.14223653510417109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570272350801998,0.15951890109178174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798035736409863,0.0,0.10658161539174847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24875756313444905,0.0,0.08399817099333863,0.0,0.09623354811080936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786996733011684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976454783809425,0.10306544663929484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939806854179689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462974531818628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947357578631062,0.0,0.32946165273440586,0.07484513368309416,0.0,0.06893064731303622,0.0,0.07232005904052204,0.09056221562843347,0.0,0.0,0.18374647057046375,0.0,0.0,0.09839428242291406,0.0,0.0635399721844697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21141982227784112,0.0,0.0,0.10109831812778726,0.0,0.0,0.09426325612636756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672909805989614,0.18021153443752846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601555981089104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536333391652079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383623301605937,0.0,0.0,0.14437516717955232,0.0,0.0,0.06636983719852765,0.0,0.07488365681843956,0.15678935362352514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837571522681899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622956344853727,0.06008307789537036,0.0,0.07444172648122571,0.16403152464260748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732533245923078,0.0,0.0,0.19523266107147488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592129796044486,0.07442908225794473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522647812330574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Human_963852148,2020/02/04,"My wife is expecting and she doesnt know yet She has an eye condition so I have to check the result of the test, she just gave me the thing and it's positive. 

I'm freaking out of joy and shaking",-1.087829457364343,0.9920686279069776,1.4747674418604682,97.25385658914728,95.27906976744184,5.657364341085271,18.794573643410853,7.1686216300943375,0.3676852713178298,153,5,37,3,6,52,35,43,0.096,0.746,0.158,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,4,1,1,1,0,8,7,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,6,1,4,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,26,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6374041079110586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7705296900302463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PossibleEast,2020/02/04,"Is it more common than I think to get trashed around your kids? The group of friends that my ex-husband and I used to share never seemed like a more rowdy group than others, but now with some space and distance, it seems like they’re stuck in the 21YO mindset of party-your-face-off when we all get together. 

They’re all in their late 30s, early 40s, many with children ranging from 3 - 12, and when there’s an occasion to celebrate, they all get completely plastered. 

I moved to a different state for work over the summer, and fly the daughter I share with my ex back to our hometown every month. Lately she comes back each time with stories about how drunk her dad was, and that she had to help out the smaller kids that were there because there weren’t any sober adults that could. 

Have I become a square or something in that I don’t find it fun to get trashed when responsible for my kids? Are all the other parents out there trashed too and I missed the memo? I’ll be addressing this immediately this week following a crazy Super Bowl drunken fiasco that scared the crap out of my kid, but I’m curious to here what the parents of Reddit think.",8.911199999999997,6.717201831111115,7.7645555555555585,79.46950000000002,61.8,10.955555555555556,35.388888888888886,9.120678840339163,2.8014888888888883,912,29,186,11,10,278,140,225,0.113,0.758,0.129,0.7068,4,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,2,2,15,10,1,1,14,0,10,2,1,2,5,34,24,13,0,1,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,6,14,17,1,0,5,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,5,2,19,7,30,17,8,28,0,1,1,0,25,9,1,4,17,118,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900701201643162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269773266099822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24651599100758026,0.0,0.0977151646513786,0.17703472021608307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808110839516516,0.16806766892366914,0.0,0.0,0.12798358877876606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747556414049478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505658495600528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650795615088225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384455921973248,0.0,0.33499289900638496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744326176320544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36164252041339295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662539546334736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625153352489457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794701399102618,0.17036964762302895,0.0,0.0,0.12363042392400173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559802446845353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604846061820693,0.0,0.0,0.2918555460180775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340395845435853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542285195595267,0.0,0.0,0.09347008837065572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844457604297614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285800597644881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669764894457832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Raudonis,2020/02/04,"Best Research Based Parenting podcast For the those of you who also use podcasts to put your kids to sleep. It's a good one.

https://offspring.lifehacker.com/this-is-the-best-research-based-parenting-podcast-1841387502",16.60153846153846,23.06774492307692,6.0065384615384625,63.57596153846157,61.30769230769232,5.676923076923077,25.73076923076923,7.1686216300943375,1.6791076923076922,192,5,20,2,4,42,25,26,0.0,0.7559999999999999,0.244,0.7964,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25041532223477764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6572353382869766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626442244676562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121895458393579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477012708607366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147888930250708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31336286407472513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704495867548905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chocolatecashews,2020/02/04,"My brother is 15 and still wets the bed. Any suggestions on how to help him stop? Hey guys, my brother just turned 15 (I am 25) and he still wets the bed frequently. None of my sisters or myself had this issue so I don't think it's genetic? He has peed his way through 2 mattresses and my couch. Has anyone else experienced this/have advice for this?",1.1177816901408448,3.473859140845072,2.6627992957746507,91.77898767605636,84.35211267605635,6.366901408450705,21.551056338028168,7.645422480735847,0.8983366197183101,273,9,59,5,8,89,55,71,0.032,0.922,0.047,0.2593,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,8,6,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,9,0,5,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,4,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28633552699928744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992634910070586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048862355451224,0.3002333808313831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24478041753752766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290135639828518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640497457993145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30583650992693295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.468011932090841,0.24497764745428066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775523636589111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187213659448148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325854536974969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,knaomitarana,2020/02/04,"Kid got scratched by his best friend, how to approach this My 4 yr old has a friend(B), their dynamic is pretty weird to me, 4yr old seem like more of a side kick to this B, that boy controls kiddo a lot, he doesn’t let him talk or play with anyone. If anyone takes any interest in him, he beats them away, snatched and hide their toys...recently he started to punch my kid too, kiddo used to come to me and say ‘B calls I am a punch machine and punches me a lot’, I told him to let teacher know immediately and tell B  to stop. Today I saw kiddo with nail marks on his throat and asked him about it, he told me B scratched him just before leaving the school, so he could not even tell the teachers. I feel like reporting that to teacher and also his parents, I took pictures too. But don’t know if I am over reacting or not, is there any mature way to deal with this? I need advice.",4.414650349650351,4.347320994505495,4.9967932067932095,88.70729770229772,69.82417582417581,7.9368631368631375,28.08391608391609,7.348242739294969,1.2589274725274722,679,21,154,6,11,218,112,182,0.03,0.826,0.14300000000000002,0.9674,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,3,3,9,8,0,0,7,0,10,1,1,4,0,31,25,14,0,4,8,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,6,10,0,2,4,1,0,3,4,1,0,0,5,5,24,7,20,17,4,14,0,0,1,0,30,5,0,7,7,92,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373083476988518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236874391486068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110824977685928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965008726912782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136132844130954,0.0,0.13201723340925384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956679745002215,0.0,0.14746044443423728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348018376113225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210400985427939,0.0,0.0,0.15759804695180268,0.11218874455518686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486344031380904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280796437601056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104794159715921,0.10038300534262104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171210504632677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238163085055776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444529413242886,0.0,0.0,0.1487837048819962,0.0,0.2873695280233744,0.0,0.13729577870227636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23891942201253075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418911771436347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948909529871943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602381961112916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429529342272547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174212290052232,0.0,0.14220735188303668,0.0,0.12791838239446646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945631015914022,0.0,0.0,0.11747573326862372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564880471565664,0.11293957822976408,0.2456303098820952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319054447836512,0.2685336970780419,0.15611587529675056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135870954193402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153322356003198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ravat_aishwarya,2020/02/04,"UH Industrial Design SPD Research Survey Hi everyone, I am an Industrial (Product) Design students from the University of Houston. My team and I have been assigned a project that focusses on human-centered design and are conducting research on children and parents dealing with Sensory Processing Disorder, or SPI. Our goal is understand and find more information on SPD to ultimately design a product or tool addressing an issue we find and problem solve through design. We would really appreciate if you could take some time out of your day to fill out this survey. The link has been posted below.

Thank you so much for you help!

[https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/8L3B8GK](https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/8L3B8GK)",10.750545454545453,13.638229645454553,9.18886363636364,53.67329545454547,57.09090909090909,11.31818181818182,40.11363636363636,11.20814326018867,5.547272727272726,591,29,71,16,8,181,82,110,0.047,0.863,0.09,0.5974,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,22,12,9,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,10,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,10,1,14,8,3,10,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,4,2,53,12,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607719787324585,0.0,0.0,0.15838003640230322,0.2531841992138296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28145818228583924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466407020761665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4489148926407897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646083993886744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563237437410352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18053098473175172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726896844431849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351996157618527,0.0,0.0,0.2349887523725909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732608082768915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846470576833456,0.0,0.0,0.2260988576466265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320080556862425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25565946301775144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744543658365179,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheOriginalTimberCow,2020/02/04,"I’m frustrated and hurt My 2 year old is very curious and likes to test limits. I have always used words when correcting him. If he doesn’t listen he will lose a toy or whatever item he has at the moment. My partner, his father, has decided to spank him when he isn’t listening. I don’t like this and I have vocalized it. My partner doesn’t care what I have to say and says that I’m a weak parent and that my child will step on me because I let him get away with stuff. I do not. I give a warning and then I take items away. He keeps telling me that I’m projecting my childhood onto him and all I’m doing is hurting him. Am I wrong for not wanting to spank my child? I don’t like spanking because I believe there are other was to discipline. We have always been vocal about our parenting and always try to agree, this for some reason has never been something we agree on. 


He then began to yell at me about how I’m projecting my brokenness on him and that I’m making him worse. It is because of that, that I use alternatives when parenting. 

Am I wrong? Is he wrong? How can we see eye to eye and not have to fight.",1.6529670329670338,3.404911769230768,3.4300732600732613,90.31730769230772,78.74358974358974,6.850305250305251,22.68131868131868,7.793537801064563,0.9592395604395608,870,27,192,14,21,291,117,234,0.11699999999999999,0.7859999999999999,0.09699999999999999,-0.7884,3,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,8,13,2,0,4,0,29,3,2,6,3,35,48,19,0,2,5,4,0,3,2,2,1,5,0,4,13,14,0,3,2,1,0,1,9,9,0,0,4,8,35,4,23,41,4,20,0,3,3,0,34,8,0,3,14,132,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312505295710889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23524098174875274,0.0,0.0,0.22894469629668426,0.0,0.0,0.14104669735029446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763994442914364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540681087235299,0.12009402798116348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680377999647933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112749693201222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280156540005097,0.0,0.1834851004173088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400560221072185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356555634574274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655454524141277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136625328771334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170273329512854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871656965788086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991128431870781,0.0,0.0,0.09976053106409767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637767720407818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331304312759174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412759190631256,0.0,0.1094219174113221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499605597960239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162486005740304,0.0,0.1032951813903428,0.07384053462243995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757970104704855,0.0,0.41062811084681455,0.0,0.08061850557201028
parenting,OnenightinOctober,2020/02/04,"IEPs... What should I expect? Hello all! I have a son who will be 3 in April. We've been taking him to Physical Therapy, Occupational Therapy, Speech Therapy and Feeding Therapy for almost a year (not all at once, but a couple months of each until he graduated from them). He wasn't walking by 2 so we were recommended to a place called ""Babies Can't Wait"", he has started walking 🙌 but he isn't talking or eating well so we're still working on things. They have therapy for different issues your child might be having and up until age 3 they are covered by insurance. They have helped greatly so far with all of these little issues he was having. My question is have any of you had experience with your child having an IEP when he gets into the school system? They think he is qualified for it once he starts Head Start at age 3. Any advice would be appreciated 😁",4.151895604395604,5.779099226190474,5.6047619047619035,77.89664835164834,71.61904761904762,8.502564102564103,26.613553113553113,9.057496981413335,2.2019289377289377,682,23,127,14,13,230,112,168,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.8846,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,3,5,1,6,2,0,0,6,0,25,3,1,0,3,22,32,11,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,5,7,2,1,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,5,1,13,2,21,20,4,24,0,0,0,0,27,9,0,4,12,86,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733794104378248,0.0,0.0,0.12023985891190388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331307543281354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261213265809034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286301438843684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545500025038192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286883868950516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745843342126132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273532267887487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238541384700486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323373491750066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048514122392833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506585665210309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203487879385599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738281514499394,0.0,0.0,0.09584438634172428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25575636046243555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545500025038192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451381991692835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152442404915575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549735435637231,0.0,0.09589371788922038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902830266828378,0.09651341519962472,0.0,0.0,0.6865930769159729,0.0,0.07977388195069185,0.07694054973282168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079637231311422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087417550450998,0.0,0.0,0.08529931840433817,0.0,0.0,0.07732570803397115
parenting,throwaway53083,2020/02/04,"Hard Decisions I have a child who I have sole custody of. She is 10. Her father has never been in her life, never paid any child support which I never really pursued or asked for. She wouldn't know him if they were in the same room. I have had no contact with his family. 

She has a very normal happy life. The only contact I have with anyone is that she has an older brother from a different mom. I got a call a few days ago that her father has pancreatic cancer and doesn't have long to live. He wants to see her. I really don't want to expose her to him but I also would hate for her to be angry with me later. 

He was very abusive. It would be really hard for me to see him. I just wanted to see if anyone else has been thru this or has any advice

Thanks",1.4632298136645971,3.0275858509316813,3.626677018633544,89.54386645962738,78.68944099378882,6.339130434782609,17.711180124223606,7.1686216300943375,0.07463229813664585,586,10,129,7,14,201,92,161,0.14800000000000002,0.795,0.057,-0.9443,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,8,0,25,3,0,0,3,23,38,7,0,9,6,4,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,6,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,7,5,26,3,18,26,2,11,0,0,3,0,28,3,0,4,8,97,32,0,0.0,0.16566935460315427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663503684364006,0.1239461221592532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181772792542988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017112351140086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195537302938536,0.14326688511722374,0.0,0.0,0.13071717963406762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277660843703008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017533655311287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608700671706645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116805559265878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318142428264729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183055166821963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884594772462412,0.2505108571580645,0.13804790109538548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684397492129935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975245811145262,0.0,0.0,0.12346773410223875,0.12374042168499992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376094870318436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235241868790171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699847656809802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634295261690234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687257676437711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342664461257099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867136410671082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873175840653114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23073997179021705,0.247416616822204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19865484956081386,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Osteojo,2020/02/04,"I (49F) unintentionally pushed my 15 yr old daughter away in a recent emotional day centred around her new diagnosis of depression. She won’t speak to me. After attempting to be as delicate and careful as possible (over the last 2 months) tending to my 15-year-old girl about her mental health, things culminated a week ago in a very emotional evening.

I have a lot of experience with mental illness it’s in my family. Unfortunately that doesn’t necessarily make me any better at handling it as I watch it begin in my daughter. 

Things got tense when we were making little progress in deciding how to handle it (talk therapy, meds? Or other). Frustrated, I tried to make it “about me”,,, tried  to get her to open up . I tried to appeal to her by confessing how stressful it’s been on me watching her go through this and feeling very frustrated and scared when she wouldn’t let me in. At the very least I was trying to find out if there was something specific that happened, like bullying or an extreme social pressure situation or if she may have  a need for medical intervention.

It ended up with her going to stay at her fathers, who I coparent with in a healthy manner.  We are communicating back-and-forth about our daughter almost daily but she is really keeping her distance. 

She ended up getting a prescription from the doctor. I do believe she needs to remain at her father’s possibly until the meds kick in. We need a break from each other and need to avoid conflict. Im glad she’s with her Dad because I’d been handling the front lines of this for the most part. 

I’m so sad that we just had a big dose of conflict and it’s very hard to be patient and wait for her to come back to me. I don’t blame her for not being able to trust me because I lost my composure and temper and tears when she doesn’t need to carry that burden right now. It hasn’t seemed to help enough to speak to friends and my SO about it. 

Yes, I’m already looking into counselling for myself. 

My question finally is 

Should I keep reaching out to her once in a while just sending little hellos and pictures of our cats and :-) is? Should I try to sneak myself back in with the offer of a nice day together, a bubble tea and shopping? Or... Should I just wait for however long it takes without doing anything? 

I miss my little tiddlywink and this is really hard.",4.620770257642505,5.982421568281943,5.604088906688029,79.38780069416634,70.10132158590311,8.498625016686692,29.836870911760784,8.927757054556999,2.4605530102790016,1848,73,347,34,33,609,236,454,0.11800000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.096,-0.8873,2,2,1,0,0,0,50.0,6,0,0,4,21,19,3,4,20,1,29,6,0,5,0,72,59,32,0,11,12,6,3,1,1,6,5,2,0,1,23,29,1,7,6,1,1,6,8,12,0,0,8,8,58,7,78,41,6,61,1,4,3,0,46,30,0,12,24,251,81,1,0.08325769905400933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738029267292752,0.0,0.08337055905287924,0.0,0.09187694123993853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661809038487965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851399230573993,0.07411700381531354,0.0,0.0,0.07822334893710027,0.1920600941444224,0.0,0.10150624114660063,0.0,0.0,0.09380291598205896,0.0,0.07363466894812333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488677302033007,0.0,0.0,0.0717191355945374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738865630448896,0.0,0.0717097341965167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521778291256013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873074105116656,0.1474832183350599,0.08602745930862446,0.0,0.05499092500311226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144200557471276,0.07848794892265859,0.0,0.0420975942556583,0.0,0.0,0.09120473970948836,0.07609602859497015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643246917594754,0.0,0.08699742284183216,0.0,0.09463453809364224,0.0,0.06658878766904511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736245083106868,0.0,0.14916508974737866,0.0,0.0,0.08849904078888292,0.0,0.0,0.05580588067892797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899326020712188,0.0,0.0,0.14800653675879666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786613698608303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513663816441765,0.0,0.040675506248967694,0.25033826110338564,0.0,0.07368044369580047,0.06991549821803969,0.0,0.09088561362443907,0.07078271841222541,0.0,0.0,0.16672548187553907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849610690886012,0.0838733726427299,0.16780835645327105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645550106012822,0.0,0.0,0.30867264447036896,0.0,0.08041080455792324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747298994094388,0.08866673225517231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015997467194804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772109196847853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326767736004382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066740278984509,0.0,0.08220693353217988,0.0,0.0,0.07110162007978503,0.0,0.0,0.08335548117609673,0.0,0.0,0.07579468227827882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358514209755098,0.0,0.08487073929628698,0.0,0.06409584433492779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874162940222184,0.0,0.0,0.0953714129679658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259942814012255,0.06691938475402487,0.0,0.0,0.09521243484868093,0.0,0.1106254314706142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826325623938609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27478528468471475,0.0,0.0,0.0667843041541368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025745083014574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053615228479893536
parenting,mystique_mesquite,2020/02/04,"6 yr old falling behind in reading. Tutoring/resources tips? Hi there!  My 6yr old son (1st grade) has started to fall behind in his reading and it's affecting his grades.  I took him to sylvan this past weekend and he took a diagnostic test that put him at the middle of kinder. I know it's not terribly far behind, but I want to do something about it now before it becomes a bigger issue.  

I've talked to his teacher and he seems to be struggling when it comes to reading and answering questions on his own.  She does do tutoring once a week after school for half an hour, but she is mostly focusing on students who are even further behind.  

I've talked to people from Sylvan (super crazy $$), Kumon ($), and varsity tutors ($), but I was wondering if you all know of a program or something that my husband and I can follow and work with him ourselves.  

Any help would be appreciated!  Thanks!",4.75446050096339,5.836241011560695,5.7885693641618525,79.23907755298653,69.52023121387282,8.078805394990367,30.601637764932562,8.344100000000001,2.333732562620424,697,28,128,10,12,231,115,173,0.046,0.8490000000000001,0.105,0.879,0,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,1,6,0,10,0,0,1,1,26,21,13,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,6,4,0,7,1,2,0,1,3,0,17,2,23,15,3,26,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,6,10,86,26,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292127687750274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671510769742423,0.12878530864134485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037220015304185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324449429987201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996338943121236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144482898848717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904649233807227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796714168941245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663529114875063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31762682622548644,0.16117981440601692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447801500376495,0.10492508287522448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214572501483947,0.16954348654362636,0.0,0.4541644302179394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317143298899832,0.0,0.13778079457601028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330289169644675,0.0,0.0,0.10712431773150094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582209405443053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432942714924373,0.0,0.13934015538475886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33630458643520345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926849199067613,0.0,0.1214015840554542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412956794590272,0.11018255445959828,0.0,0.0,0.10751269907432308,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,djamp42,2020/02/04,"Speech Delay but can repeat most words So my kid is now turning 27 months and ive been thinking for awhile he seems a little behind on speech. The daycare told us today he is the only one who doesn't speak in his class. (This is the first time they have told us anything about his speech). That really killed me inside, but i gotta be strong for this little one. So tonight i just youtube some speech delay videos just to get an idea of what i can help him with.   

He sat there and repeated almost every single word, did animal noised, followed the sign language they were doing. I honestly amazed and underestimated his ablity.    

The problem is he almost never puts two words together. He will rarely say something on his own. It's mostly us point at something and he will say it. When does try and talk it's all babble baby talk, i can't understand any of it.  He understand us perfectly, and we understand him most of the time by his actions and his 1 word sayings.    

For example he will point at the bread and say ""bread"" and we repeat.. ""i want bread"" and nothing, i think ive been doing that for 6 months now and no change.

I'm gonna start calling and setting up the ent apt for hearing, and ask my daycare who we should call for speech help. Just wanted to see if anyone had any advice in the meantime. Mostly for my own sanity as i feel like a failure at the moment.",3.9071978021978,5.141813300366304,4.602364468864469,86.37805219780222,71.67399267399267,7.218241758241758,24.272710622710623,7.554174236665415,1.036364249084249,1073,29,217,12,20,344,155,273,0.084,0.812,0.10400000000000001,0.7657,1,0,2,0,0,0,31.0,7,0,2,3,10,7,1,0,13,0,23,3,0,0,3,52,45,20,1,5,6,0,1,1,0,6,0,11,0,1,11,17,3,2,8,1,0,3,4,2,0,4,8,13,31,5,25,30,9,34,0,0,1,0,43,12,0,9,19,141,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719453130886713,0.0,0.0,0.1991965536062397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352771122631102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954715624755804,0.0,0.0818499437700273,0.0,0.0929848983250856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20312660441241315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521914075973744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704113457533028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380224568586375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050291708404655126,0.0710567079071562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460355898922256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05196554694963161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210253591328176,0.0,0.1333365066576171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122821272955442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004156968754628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04859281713490926,0.1993770119575212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878155226183746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671234366914888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543786195064358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347980144820417,0.07564643503136724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880502176452241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951730879516373,0.0,0.099988238329385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371883239738642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163893075632695,0.0,0.0,0.0792594913524952,0.09054778847012936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314364491548532,0.0,0.0,0.07040074120495578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988990554803453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274643240439651,0.0,0.0,0.11599587406224862,0.0,0.09427971978615374,0.19008317604535435,0.0,0.06752915298318762,0.10818767096688384,0.09716133716133572,0.3106348748242671,0.4785691305989088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733223857059337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sasiideas,2020/02/04,"TGIM vs TGIF I think for most parents who have kids, Mondays are the rest days after a crazy weekend.  
Yes it is a working day, but working is easier then getting along with kids!

Then, Thanks God it's Monday!",2.4201219512195142,4.688625097560977,3.085548780487805,91.19710365853659,78.51219512195122,5.0756097560975615,24.88414634146341,5.985473137389443,0.6566048780487805,163,6,32,1,4,51,35,41,0.036000000000000004,0.648,0.317,0.9253,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,7,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,8,20,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5040652124686719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041760086123824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339353205404055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597946158727913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25040780335668744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5690117073317155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Theearthhasnoedges,2020/02/04,"Dealing with ongoing neglect and abuse I can safely say without any hyperbole that I am as angry as I have ever been as I sit here and struggle to type this out. So here's a little backstory:

I'm a dad with shared custody. I have my 5 year old son Monday to Friday and his mother gets weekends. I'm fine with that. I provide stability and structure that she was once unwilling to provide and now has so many other kids that she couldn't provide it if she wanted to.

My son is my only, but she has 7. They range from 11 to a set of twins less than a year. She is, for lack of a less hostile term, a human puppy mill.

7 kids, 4 fathers. One of them has a decade long documented history of child abuse and neglect. He's been investigated by CAS (Children's Aid Society) the Canadian equivalent of American CPS on at least a dozen occasions over the years and even investigated by police once as the abuse in question was very public and also captured on CCTV.

Somehow he weasels out of every investigation and even though he has minimal rights to his kids, their mother still sees fit to leave children in his care regularly.

I picked my son up from school today and am the regaled with a tale that boils my blood. He and his older brother were left in this abuser's care this weekend. While under his care they were locked outside in the cold and refused entry back into the home. It was bad enough my son wet himself because he couldn't hold it anymore and couldn't get into the washroom.

I have no idea how long he was locked out in the frigid weather. I don't know how long he was forced to sit around in soiled clothes and winter gear. I have a million questions, but I won't press him. I don't want to add any more trauma or confuse him. I listened to all the info he volunteered and then excused myself to the basement to privately notify CAS of the situation.

The worst of this is that this isn't the first time I have notified them of abuse to my son and his siblings. I know it won't be the last either.

Each and every time something comes up CAS is notified and then nothing. No updates, no results, no consequences, no changes. Nothing. Life just carries on as if nothing ever happened. The police are no help either. They refuse to take any actions or do anything, instead opting to let CAS investigate and deal with it instead and in case you forgot how that's worked out so far, see above.

I'm at a total loss. I feel totally helpless to protect my son and feel like no one who matters is going to give a shity until something big goes down. When is enough enough? What does it have to take before authorities step in and put a stop this?

The worst part of it all is that I have to resort to asking total strangers for advice ((not that I don't love all you guys)) because I can't even breathe a word of this to anyone in my family and get some serious advice because they'll go insane if they hear this and *very very likely* do something stupid and impulsive that just makes this shitshow even worse.

How can I protect my son when the people who are literally employed to do so won't lift a finger?",5.018146203554121,5.645177274636513,5.714716882067852,81.65356159127629,68.66074313408723,8.193231017770598,30.17613085621971,8.158263871857827,2.047234216478191,2459,91,481,31,40,801,296,619,0.174,0.767,0.059000000000000004,-0.9977,1,0,3,0,5,0,55.0,0,2,8,3,29,22,2,2,32,0,50,6,3,7,8,95,80,53,0,9,13,12,5,2,0,4,1,4,1,8,30,40,1,10,8,2,0,6,20,13,0,5,10,12,55,9,78,61,22,72,0,4,2,1,70,32,0,10,33,341,85,4,0.0,0.4420219193034179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458222164850978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059668110409606026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221850512779686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739961972750617,0.05217125046895058,0.0,0.06140026634727501,0.06642152386646133,0.06975322474839908,0.0,0.0,0.05737290801625205,0.06229886502606501,0.13645045411672493,0.0,0.063490296527444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282192424089244,0.0,0.0789308210843887,0.06427262343800114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384576617691648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529447180941546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312859929906487,0.0,0.19712513185959812,0.1349837346840518,0.1257295965912695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033863896585132,0.0,0.0754533026872056,0.05330365044010656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634659086689306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694687656307015,0.07157573387723748,0.08480874707565657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387875078669821,0.06598016358163107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409444461708962,0.0,0.05001162276662959,0.0,0.07484307467955945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422916625765146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201087367782801,0.060819677071380515,0.0,0.07900455429826272,0.0810674075721138,0.07629700274769836,0.05270147557645171,0.07290443407098415,0.07478197952164306,0.0,0.19809087378762524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734128244713168,0.0,0.049804858100390516,0.07564602476584505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147799939795374,0.0,0.07829395136322624,0.15892114277375147,0.10111960510975967,0.056746664019684215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079877222768993,0.0,0.0517273646753212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750068256890753,0.1671676117177203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371922382131884,0.0,0.059335372936836474,0.0,0.07551249286584365,0.1189140433197178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386830861198864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232254820399684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958615928152825,0.062379935726901564,0.0,0.0780018663462989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121996086241385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733070426547445,0.0,0.08701505748883741,0.0,0.07072454346799563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846909926734024,0.08801753999487258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192441560453976,0.0,0.05431926303234656,0.0,0.07603717590114753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441452701038854
parenting,kn0ttydaddy,2020/02/04,"My son came out as gay to my mother My son (12) lives a few hundred miles away and I only get to see him maybe one weekend per month. He came to visit while his grandma, my mom, was in town visiting my wife and I. She drove him home and on the way asked if he had a girlfriend, and he said no but that he has a boyfriend. He said that she is the first person that he has told in his family and that he hasn't even told his mom but that he's sure she will love him regardless. He also said he will never tell me. I'm a little confused by this because I'm not even slightly homophobic, my best friend who is his godfather is gay. My mother told him that he should give me a chance, that I would be more accepting than he realizes. I don't want to approach the subject with him and have him feel that his grandmother broke his confidence but I want him to know that it's ok, that I'm happy for him, that I love him, and I will support him no matter what. I'm really not sure how to handle it. My instinct is to just let him tell me in his own time and hope that his perspective might change as he gets older. Any advice from parents who have been through a similar situation would be greatly appreciated.",5.101666666666667,4.441570277777782,5.945873015873016,84.49357142857143,68.44444444444444,9.422222222222222,28.714285714285715,8.841846274778883,1.8482904761904764,938,27,212,14,14,310,134,252,0.047,0.7440000000000001,0.209,0.9946,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,5,14,0,1,9,1,23,4,0,1,3,37,49,17,0,8,7,8,1,0,2,7,0,3,1,1,18,12,0,0,4,1,0,6,7,2,0,2,12,5,40,12,21,27,4,23,0,1,1,4,62,9,0,4,7,140,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562564149335665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946243132096704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046493292449243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061773099009437,0.0,0.11117006035643102,0.0,0.0,0.07212971004281545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417459512366365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706641365545189,0.0,0.0,0.12517196681635234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630485103796127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154610659792452,0.0,0.05982858261444776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064702868583564,0.0,0.0,0.09141745990778068,0.0,0.12363966615591128,0.11350794610585448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304535281960662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595896767709172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868943882146553,0.11752324142267645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502822482744641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099514188394694,0.0,0.0,0.11859255143356955,0.10448298100610533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21358553366196134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188731823670691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552393186168012,0.0,0.2771611906107922,0.09444573984951644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125939317529247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017995810374838,0.08999135506288923,0.0,0.0,0.13138570620882525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331666598982484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758019074935684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376619905341787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428955938834116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330020516484881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427359984144785,0.2230394789504513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684221044316545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899615219301188,0.0,0.0,0.3391932993250665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395820852251873,0.0939207319735193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810910983630714,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coolpinkcat,2020/02/04,Good comeback to when things don’t go wrong for the dad 🤪 My husband will often say the kids don’t do this for me... or this doesn’t happen when I’m with the kids... it drives me nuts because it’s like he’s saying he has some magical touch! I want a smart ass comeback but I can never come up with one on the spot 😂,-0.8060211267605624,1.0722298591549342,1.3332218309859163,101.31138204225351,88.43661971830986,4.113380281690141,15.917253521126757,5.148860815047168,-1.060677464788732,244,5,62,1,8,81,52,71,0.09,0.804,0.106,-0.1386,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,0,1,9,12,4,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,3,5,3,7,11,1,8,0,0,0,1,8,2,1,3,4,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632584138990065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915586436488759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235812966924384,0.2838893728026589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993045245795492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535747863341066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610459832771707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22935344268738914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383237816813871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248618899633016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996361219249916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700596337860718,0.0,0.0
parenting,Midwestmamax2,2020/02/04,"My 5 year old refused to go to his swim class and we had to cancel it My 5 year old loves to swim. We went on a family vacation last summer and he was wild about being in the pool.

We did a mommy and me swim class in fall and he enjoyed it and it was obvious he was ready for the next level.

We started that a month ago. He went to 2 classes, seemed to have fun, then refused to go to the last 3. The first time he said he was tired, the second time he refused to get in the pool and we had to leave, tonight he started bawling when I said it was time.

I don’t get it.

I’m sad because I want him to learn to swim but I don’t want to keep paying for classes he won’t attend. I’m calling tomorrow morning to try to get a refund on the future classes I’ve paid for.

Has anyone been through this or have any advice?",-0.10200000000000033,1.6239514666666683,2.273333333333337,96.575,84.33333333333334,4.888888888888889,20.0,5.82211442006289,-0.2191666666666668,624,18,151,4,18,213,92,180,0.066,0.87,0.064,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,11,0,16,2,0,0,1,22,35,10,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,7,11,0,4,2,6,3,10,3,1,0,2,14,2,14,3,25,19,0,37,0,1,0,1,23,6,0,2,21,85,21,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568676718858088,0.14229980883048396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916563604136298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224603215754912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785735708860913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391867476055175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133302461243453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136546399814598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516102786387237,0.0,0.18246534759907745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268608861336954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26170610698429936,0.0,0.1699776728110694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488423580320184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281331989892366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072505584633407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368976324494471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054008301002908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614012311639216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22724736100145645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808183104666772,0.18450516582944254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898906420187494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936904014927972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29762510380649065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067516046098812
parenting,borderproducer,2020/02/04,What is an appropriate style blanket for a 13 month old? Our kid’s outgrown the wearable blanket. Is there a preferred style blanket for one year old’s in the crib? I can’t envision her lying still for long under a normal one.,3.139666666666667,5.2192829111111125,4.268611111111113,84.49625000000003,75.44444444444444,6.277777777777778,29.027777777777786,7.1686216300943375,1.7011111111111108,181,8,34,2,4,59,33,45,0.092,0.9079999999999999,0.0,-0.5803,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,6,22,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845305721204917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566301285488859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31501634136003576,0.0,0.0,0.6747516132066563,0.0,0.4357336389760853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256762217259124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20704505657889352
parenting,JayPx4,2020/02/04,"How can I get my 18month old son to eat more proteins Seriously I’m at my wits end.  Dinosaur nuggets and hot dogs is not good food, and sometimes he won’t even eat that.  I can’t even get him to eat fish sticks and I’m sure those are terrible for him too.  It’s almost like all he is eating is his fruits and maybe some of his vegetables, corn or green beans most of the time.   There has to be good food that he will eat, I seriously just don’t know what it is.  Turkey?  Send help.",0.6851456310679609,2.505525330097093,2.174572815533981,97.81739320388351,82.10679611650484,5.673398058252428,19.03786407766989,6.742157984588678,-0.1888594174757281,371,9,92,4,10,120,72,103,0.111,0.821,0.069,-0.5241,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,1,2,14,17,6,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,4,9,0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,3,9,4,7,14,4,5,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,4,4,51,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965690687787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7646453728550932,0.0,0.0,0.1323721618468406,0.0,0.0,0.19742632976945326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361441499553471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616742117078455,0.0,0.0,0.2507103756059218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017607633777066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213618242716975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301582860984482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014694647606022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568271616609418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781413812024705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085892226142244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714801239516677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TA7891011,2020/02/05,"How to handle bad influences? My daughter (8F) is a social butterfly. We have a large trampoline in our big driveway that the neighbor kids like to use. 

This also includes a neighborhood latchkey girl (8). She doesn’t come from a good family. Drugs, a “juggelette” mom, whatever. You know the type. She’s neglected. She shows up in the same clothes from the day before, never dressed appropriately for the weather (no coat and sometimes barefoot in Boston winters, but she owns them). 

She’ll go from house to house looking for playmates. Fortunately, her home is the odd one out. We have many wonderful people in the neighborhood that feed her dinner and give her clothing. We’ve all called CPS about our concerns too. 

She’ll be out of the house all afternoon and then in the evening, strung out mom will go door to door looking for her. 

There was an incident last week where I had her ask her mom at 2:30pm if she could go for a walk. My daughter and I went inside at 3:15 and she went off to play with other kids. The mom came to my door at 6:45pm asking where the girl was. It was hours that she didn’t know where she was, and it was the 3rd time in 2 months it happened. Thankfully she was at a neighbors and eating dinner. 

That got me nervous. What if she goes missing and I was the last place she was? I need to protect my family. 

Since she’s come over to play, I make sure she asks her mom and then I watch her go into the home when they’re done playing. I told her I don’t care where she goes after, but I need to see her go inside and tell her mom, just to cover my ass. 

If it hasn’t happened already, something horrible is going to happen to the girl and it breaks my heart. 

I want to help her but keep my daughter safe. 

I eavesdrop while they’re playing. She brings up adult topics and tells my daughter to keep it a secret and not tell me. It’s nothing awful, but telling my daughter that her mom sees dead people at my house is a bit psychopathic and will give her nightmares. 



Ideally, I don’t want them playing together. But in practice, it’s hard because my daughter is very visible when playing outside (my home lot is pretty horizontal. Backyard is fenced but our trampoline is in the driveway). 

I do keep her busy with other neighbors and play dates to the best of my ability, but I can’t keep her in because of this neighbor. 

Thanks!",3.2950335050119084,5.162869600431971,3.8218574514038863,88.80672647726645,74.37796976241901,6.735758985435012,26.558619925790552,7.5161900641278425,1.3346509276180982,1847,68,374,23,39,580,216,463,0.06,0.787,0.153,0.9923,0,0,2,0,0,0,60.0,5,1,2,2,13,20,0,1,27,1,33,7,2,4,4,65,76,32,1,9,12,13,1,1,4,4,1,0,13,6,18,26,4,8,4,8,0,13,9,4,0,1,16,6,70,16,51,54,7,59,0,2,5,1,78,28,1,5,18,247,88,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749227249089954,0.054294812790974485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041519431146853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668865982951984,0.0827751128774735,0.0,0.057772799244637435,0.0,0.07125057151744114,0.0,0.0741226711445582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932737205310206,0.07765265672732245,0.06922246493606472,0.0,0.0,0.11696935040159293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05420783992649725,0.0,0.0,0.043786017721443166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947914135757703,0.0,0.0,0.07873549308698681,0.06947251881926914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044843351235863735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800885459272104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302602359807787,0.23151437244618536,0.056946271780974986,0.054301039555969335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801153382430124,0.0,0.060819694443149164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045472507706328,0.04550792168290016,0.0,0.2043096739882717,0.0,0.06686192059332803,0.3133622733692452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24138925150660276,0.0,0.0,0.07462554122453112,0.1106853546368214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0331695823140963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402773251202875,0.0,0.0,0.057721056756346985,0.0,0.0,0.045319776813418415,0.06883386661397872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5566164822065545,0.05419234856343996,0.0,0.0,0.10068509167361164,0.05236404365642526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514613073500998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04600673618824525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413831146779147,0.0,0.07093478671098175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907261335652269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820546647011776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616262410754711,0.0,0.0,0.06920938994380295,0.0,0.052268123515066205,0.06714890887242038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398929801359785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373694183311713,0.12501535941772615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03958954141433406,0.0,0.0,0.06487563312965157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058638623033163126,0.0,0.05601966613066648,0.08009128868901398,0.0,0.054460477034296385,0.0,0.0,0.1258768492002311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362815432197191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway349520,2020/02/05,"My 5 year old asked for help printing something she typed. It was a paragraph about how cute penises were. What do I do? My 5 year old was using our family computer and asked me for help printing something. It was as titled. I asked her where she had seen that and she wouldn’t answer me. She was obviously embarrassed. I told her I was going to have to tell her dad and she started crying. She then said boys at school walk around with them out of their pants in the hallway after the bathroom. I don’t see how that could be possible... I also have a 4 year old son. 

Do I let it go? Should I be worried she has been sexually abused? Please help",0.7127576335877883,3.1174305190839746,2.195491412213741,93.90484017175574,87.32061068702292,5.10706106870229,19.63788167938932,6.6274283507984215,0.1694461832061065,502,15,108,6,16,162,83,131,0.084,0.81,0.106,0.4291,0,0,2,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,2,0,6,2,0,1,4,0,21,1,1,3,1,14,32,8,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,11,3,25,1,13,15,0,17,0,0,2,1,25,5,0,0,9,77,31,3,0.0,0.17697247383591624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194467134677784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296604626670286,0.4189068528957922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192553761688972,0.0,0.1640698577411486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408075301294434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16977454191135874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003475692621821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273529131546704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4701986594117726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395733581207772,0.0,0.16838599859024206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207981600854866,0.0,0.0,0.1511648188063283,0.11902414507681995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299761340752017,0.0,0.0,0.10572094132459403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055113113001562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272415288199244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900294601902787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168687059014033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885574665870839
parenting,JayFMoney28,2020/02/05,"I snap ever so often at my child... Every little thing that my 4 year old does that annoys me, a rage surge comes within me and I snap! Raising my voice at him, telling him off and I am just not entirely sure where it comes from. Possibly stress from work and everyday life but I want to change this habit as I don't want my son to have a distant relationship with me in the future.

My mum snapped at me when I was younger but not with my other siblings and I am concerned at what I am becoming.

Another problem I have is that during weekends, when my wife is working and I am at home with my son, I don't have any motivation to take him to the park or do things with him - my biological father left my mum before I was born and somehow I think with the stress my mum went through perhaps my DNA was kind of altered to not be fatherly adept (I know that's a stretch).

I feel like I am stuck in this bubble.",4.705036075036077,4.378852211640215,5.6579990379990415,85.10021645021645,69.21164021164022,8.777489177489178,29.880230880230883,8.296473431620573,1.832561904761905,704,24,158,9,11,233,107,189,0.111,0.855,0.034,-0.9207,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,8,8,2,2,6,0,17,1,0,1,2,31,27,13,0,3,7,8,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,11,13,0,0,4,1,0,3,5,5,0,0,5,2,36,3,24,21,0,25,0,0,0,0,15,13,0,3,10,114,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521651668846593,0.1776595168479231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871193735054361,0.1441703320486901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923184024968647,0.2918935953840341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826715571627888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325688266521226,0.14274998448838488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856676397619487,0.12103904696736882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994960676286802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764326794138089,0.09311292856086173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18408348530780844,0.0,0.11967166085023252,0.08277372325149195,0.16981087518205765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778567092628347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910040605267336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211924534499286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819017392195742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881572804426744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596834230434022,0.0,0.1273884019748043,0.0,0.14808711152327406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251202183711703,0.10856230719821756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986547017754955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570609991528557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246690490242976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910576151397863
parenting,Autismpolicing,2020/02/05,"How do you teach your autistic teenagers to handle being stopped by the police? My son, 16, has autism spectrum disorder. He's got an extraordinary mind and is so smart but his social skills are not the best. One of the main issues we have is that he is a very direct and black and white. He doesn't think about what he says or how it can be interpreted differently. The phrase, ""It's not what you said but how you said it"" means nothing to him. He's all about what you say and answers exactly what you ask. 

Last year he almost got detention at school because a teacher asked him if he knew why she was upset. My son said, ""I don't know why you are upset. I can't read your mind!"" She thought he was being snarky but he wasn't trying to be. Afterwards he explain to me that he didn't even know his teacher was upset so how was he supposed to know why she was upset. He could not see the disconnect. I worry about what happens if he gets stopped by the cops. I don't want him to say something that ends up coming out the wrong way and gets him in trouble. We live in NYC and he takes public transportation to and from school. He also does not listen when being yelled at and gets overwhelmed if more than one person is talking to him. If he is ever in a situation where he needs to be handcuffed, I am so afraid that he'll flip out because he hates being touched. He refuses to wear his autism ID bracelet so that's a no go. 

It may never be a problem but he's a 6'3 black teenager who strikes a lot of people as weird so I can easily see someone calling the cops on him and having a situation fall apart. How do you teach them how to handle it? Model more at home? I don't want him to be afraid of police officers either. He is more likely to need one than anything.",1.9676240426240448,3.8408823791208815,3.267312687312689,91.28374791874796,78.23076923076924,5.950582750582751,22.294039294039294,6.850034144686104,0.4883326007326012,1382,41,299,14,33,449,175,364,0.14300000000000002,0.831,0.026000000000000002,-0.9918,1,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,9,1,2,19,15,1,7,17,0,39,1,1,6,4,62,70,32,0,10,14,2,1,1,0,2,0,8,1,1,16,14,0,3,10,1,0,4,13,12,0,3,14,14,35,3,35,44,8,26,0,1,5,0,67,12,0,8,10,193,51,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401627290445864,0.0,0.0,0.08306917142147002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548065651002376,0.0,0.19421907427764806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126643038028734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090108913727373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606846321489642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947951489376083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293610596978332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852775162380658,0.11905028165085813,0.0,0.09090211897740047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920028296645904,0.0,0.0,0.06860876462114597,0.09396130461150433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281192867906194,0.0,0.05903482027925616,0.0,0.1661573963098246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185673019229326,0.0,0.0,0.10255551577755448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419556036863037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841899723200164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712617161127141,0.08467236763086086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050748304996205,0.0,0.0917239382291797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831120528549723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315083296276797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097692151320956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540446814324775,0.08011516193200707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967130971251133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21116610916461176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201416793489374,0.09070004892702792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939479082661652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390357466340658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964280619088488,0.2478178158489199,0.0,0.2102550314154222,0.16555059278960285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335207485905715,0.0,0.10588795469928984,0.08801334397162272,0.07996840745849958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368907909388184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810142183352868,0.08349116362237864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655920333615709,0.0,0.08246551580108509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052462182243452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570813692087012,0.1225368805504032,0.08245150870527931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28119434971501794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054905764220778,0.0,0.0,0.11357151377346295,0.0,0.0668923934390591
parenting,kelkelrb,2020/02/05,"Speech Therapy Woes... Am I the only one?? My 2 1/2 year old is a late talker (and some combo of Receptive and Expressive Speech Delay). He hit all his milestones on time with the exception of speech. I’ve been keenly aware of this since his first birthday. Pediatricians were also aware at the 12, 15, and 18 month appointments... but never recommended speech therapy until the 24 month visit... and, honestly, I wish I had looked into going to Speech sooner but I just didn’t realize that was an option.

When my little dude was 11 months old we moved across the country, and four days short of his 1st birthday I found out I was expecting his little brother. I was horrendously I’ll for the first half of my pregnancy so we literally didn’t get out much at all, and we are still relatively new to the area and don’t have any friends or know anyone really with kids his age.

We started going to Toddler reading time at the Library and Gymnastics... and though those are good activities for him, they just really aren’t activities where he’s actually interacting with other little people...  even when I go to the local parks there just aren’t little kids his age there...so that has been a constant concern of mine.

Now cue speech therapy. His first appointment was in August... it’s only the beginning of February, and we are literally on our 6th (probably switching to our 7th) Speech Therapist since he started. Which has been great for his socialization, but not great for his Speech... as even though every therapist is supposedly picking up where the last one left off, their methods are different, their attitudes and expressions and how they interact with him are different... their understanding of his abilities are also different... they all come in with the mentality that “ohhh... he’s really delayed”, and after a few weeks when he is really comfortable and starting to warm up to them they start seeing what we see and understand that he knows more than he lets on... when we were transitioning between the 2nd and 3rd speech therapist I was pretty livid at that point and made an evaluation appointment at different place. They apparently were also having somewhat of an influx of therapists and couldn’t really guarantee that he’d have the same therapist for any length of time... so I opted not to switch..

Since the second switch I’ve become increasingly concerned with what I felt would be the clinical “maybe he’s autistic” label coming down the pipeline. I’ve looked into it, and none of my family (my husband, myself, or grandparents that are around feel like he is anything other than a late talker)... none of his speech therapists have been around long enough to do a re-evaluation, which is supposed to be done every 3 months... the 3rd speech therapist is also the owner apparently, and after his last session she pulled my husband aside and said they usually see more progress after 6 months of speech therapy and she was recommending that we take him to a Developmental Pediatrician just to cover our bases... which I honestly have no intention of doing at this point, because unless they are going to spend a few days getting to know my child so he is comfortable and fully himself all we are going to get is a recommendation for further testing that I don’t believe my child needs. 

Has anyone else had this much change with Speech Therapists and still had great progress? I’ve made an appointment to enroll him in daycare even though I’m mostly a stay at home parent just to get him socialized with kids his age. I feel like peer pressure will be more of the motivation that he needs than anything else at this point. I’m also tempted to start calling around to places outside our local area to see if I can find consistency in his Speech Therapy. 

So, parents of Reddit... WTF else do I do???????!",6.841001430615165,7.891555074391996,7.079158798283262,71.97510443490701,64.77968526466381,10.676852646638057,31.98540772532189,10.650279960617883,3.5732606008583687,3043,115,522,78,45,984,300,699,0.034,0.857,0.109,0.9957,11,0,1,0,0,0,106.0,13,0,11,6,34,15,0,1,33,0,63,1,0,6,5,100,105,50,0,7,15,5,4,2,1,2,1,15,1,5,24,50,0,2,12,1,1,11,13,2,0,8,25,25,73,13,89,71,19,106,0,1,6,0,81,45,0,7,51,372,97,4,0.0,0.0,0.04921175145304677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016415844617588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858734723940116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052271999695747,0.051670807933431186,0.08299808328198935,0.13467838571916546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030741251432013863,0.05569523283080356,0.0,0.05681658571310647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149398415342231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05334754433169195,0.08688080476211008,0.0,0.05449619026198977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650454917276379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107516655917001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516067131654729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263817025151182,0.0,0.0,0.05210697838459623,0.0,0.0999242903433808,0.0,0.08497777086073045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047540284123609534,0.0,0.05099716884706783,0.07205344669744021,0.048420065068102966,0.0,0.04609149391389978,0.12868548672439456,0.0,0.05529315729827289,0.03896157517662244,0.0,0.10538897389197836,0.0,0.14330075160046332,0.042297729307262784,0.0,0.166795542700287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058472963456378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314392259769691,0.08221326914452656,0.1137729613228306,0.0,0.054791614478264285,0.05156740650279508,0.0,0.04927444659951698,0.20217374723504966,0.0,0.044628370033004565,0.08469587231039942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954349025416844,0.0,0.0,0.05066304003579867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508209034228017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20126104996631344,0.053598396857321824,0.07414271988247073,0.0747854182494552,0.03889420807971365,0.048704961051519086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058341971835676,0.0,0.06834443810775248,0.07670755562593493,0.0,0.0,0.11199160586506493,0.0,0.0,0.0349613477000062,0.0,0.10537583279585007,0.0,0.14301605083414212,0.0,0.0,0.05130475816812813,0.054371346953243034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050442976781528134,0.0,0.16153160021736068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047969840924467516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074258725566665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514698841866342,0.0,0.0,0.10281270221246612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847069626767412,0.053750955825471534,0.08054585598262066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03791658006873673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883516684368486,0.4684187107280299,0.0,0.0,0.14863968171576647,0.0,0.08821724340002972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499742179988328,0.0,0.0,0.05554078227030411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404513665864015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057991240608646875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03582354906474982,0.0,0.0,0.03247483505777466
parenting,Anceint_85,2020/02/05,"Feel like I need to choose between myself, my SO and my daughter I became a father of a baby girl just over a year ago. A good pregnancy followed by a good delivery saw us bringing home a wonderful baby girl.

Here's where the clouds starts to gather.

I myself didn't feel that movie-style seeing-rainbows walking-on-sunshine type emotions and my SO was having difficulties settling into the mom role as well. Not really the baby blues depression but rather severe lack of energy. I mean beyond just ""not sleeping so much bc new baby"". Cue issues with breastfeeding and anxiety following that. She was diagnosed with exhaustion when our daughter was about 2 months. 

She got help talking to someone straight away and I got to talking to someone as well and we managed the following 4 months pretty well, with great support from my MIL.

However, during the last 6 months, instead of stabilising and maybe even improving a bit the situation has deteriorated. Often I find myself raising my daughter with my MIL rather than my SO and the hopes that my SO will bounce back gets smaller for each week.

I can feel myself getting resentful of the whole experience and how the first year of our baby's life has been. Logically I'm sure she's had a great first year but there's just not much left of the people her mom and dad used to be and I'm afraid that in time my feelings of resentment will affect my parenting. 

So, given all this, I can't seem to shake the feeling that I need to make a choice. Do I stick with this, hoping that things will take a turn for the better whilst risking to break dad as well or do I give in to the feeling that maybe dad will be a better dad if he's not living with mom?

A penny for your thoughts. Thanks!",4.937495024875624,6.283434235820893,5.49315298507463,80.54072450248758,69.32835820895522,8.329601990049749,28.585199004975124,8.72156446121922,2.175818407960199,1379,49,257,23,24,444,184,335,0.07400000000000001,0.713,0.213,0.9941,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,1,0,4,26,23,2,3,25,0,19,4,1,4,2,57,53,25,0,8,13,12,6,1,0,4,3,0,1,2,10,19,0,0,13,0,0,5,6,7,4,2,11,8,34,16,40,36,7,32,0,1,2,0,30,9,0,7,18,178,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168068091545674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049041227136987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657294077384169,0.07085355536982334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16298892646167062,0.10059810286632387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936406016693236,0.09352488971607738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365033955377716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086067853245874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901351581200131,0.0,0.0,0.2795466507433906,0.06582816312538935,0.0,0.0,0.08421854939979925,0.15675640051908887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628356286840913,0.08839355366072797,0.0,0.15457313715270055,0.14739300348057588,0.2031796246947598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176262290602975,0.0,0.09242860644877604,0.1830408760526808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617508453598753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511019583896879,0.0,0.0,0.1001154421085248,0.0,0.06508449801376212,0.0450172262027477,0.0,0.08136542246639808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150727570062501,0.0,0.1851433910113376,0.10037254727808467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237561344658499,0.22064696419482116,0.0,0.13547385399834658,0.13664819484896346,0.0,0.08899388629049541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231573973853647,0.0,0.0,0.06388150477085297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374424526787203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05903022834515623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388503725563996,0.0,0.10409723724859403,0.0,0.0,0.10357445793630804,0.09221120522517044,0.0,0.15614774186948988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522046422757813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045646675849063,0.08684525104824645,0.0,0.06928131636512985,0.14812477378309702,0.0,0.08483442239991487,0.0,0.0,0.061216817337283826,0.0,0.0,0.07315256694822272,0.05373029193541355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022692948101998,0.0,0.0,0.1108386798506183,0.07958340060796376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391288773390943,0.0,0.33139645991189715,0.0,0.0,0.10287622160501543,0.0,0.0,0.09992695254997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780144188213483
parenting,PhoenixRising-,2020/02/05,"Help my son refuses to participate in school and he’s a been a total jerk. My 16 year old step son failed his freshman year of school on purpose to “prove a point to his mom” after she didn’t switch him schools when he wanted her to. He stopped participating all together failing 4 credits. 
I decided I would take him in and help him. The first 15 weeks went good grade wise but it was so trying on me mentally and physically. I was butting heads with him over homework daily he would lie all the time saying he fishy have any or saying he did it. He lied about things his teachers said. He’s got ADD , ADHD & Dyslexia 

The 3rd six weeks I started sensing something was up when he would return from his moms. So I started stripping down his room. I found small baggies, homemade bongs, etc

After Christmas break he snuggled his mother’s promethyzine into my home. I have sat him down and given him talks 

I finally stopped fixing all his fuck ups by “saving him when he got himself in a sticky situation” 

He stopped telling us happy birthday and happy mother’s/fathers day
This makes me so sad so on his dads birthday I told him it meant a lot to us when he took 5 seconds out of his day to tell us happy birthday and he said “ I don’t know why people think those days are special.” 

I have him in therapy currently first session went well. He willingly went. I am at a loss 
I have a 7 year old daughter that I have concerns for being song this kind of behavior. He is so cold to us unless he has something to gain. 

As a back story he has not had any trauma during child hood. He was raised lovingly and family is everything to us. I don’t know why he would turn out this way?",3.0828294243070364,4.859493844776118,4.010996801705758,87.61542910447764,74.73134328358209,6.6961620469083165,26.88965884861407,7.447530270364453,1.3791897654584218,1318,50,267,16,28,424,190,335,0.08199999999999999,0.7929999999999999,0.126,0.9549,1,0,3,0,0,0,24.0,5,0,0,6,12,18,2,0,11,0,27,3,1,1,5,40,51,21,0,5,5,7,0,0,0,5,0,5,3,1,9,12,0,4,7,1,1,5,4,7,1,4,21,6,46,11,37,24,6,54,0,4,0,2,66,19,1,2,28,162,55,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971753242772692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760935801454005,0.0,0.1099721101536058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217463265946688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643971379223964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017778527918988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266974827923693,0.0,0.07622550765998908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885757327179423,0.0,0.13755515257383358,0.0,0.08865636928516686,0.0,0.07475170373510558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678196596580649,0.1293386873834046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25822379323707706,0.0,0.0,0.0829833975942912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839451517215087,0.0,0.08110693419947446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420092280542607,0.08887462952996042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874238298471236,0.07297729265844058,0.0,0.05397318811470179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148561235077892,0.0,0.0,0.18939928162716999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969325187727372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05605659549659474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643672644736665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382850751708266,0.12860268526096852,0.0,0.24549713449096036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088751921454093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449652055858595,0.0,0.0,0.11446308894632062,0.0,0.0,0.20280214424773144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079497877958075,0.06499041120562507,0.14134650663672688,0.0,0.09246790471026242,0.0,0.05371830828616887,0.05181039294050773,0.0,0.0,0.04714881485245901,0.0,0.0,0.07726306255617563,0.08983595556396387,0.054897116934332656,0.08795003286063394,0.0,0.0,0.4863096966837239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04769200661068941,0.06418113274257915,0.12971844869801602,0.0,0.07270084419943386,0.22486788347858025,0.14592311827818402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297561543000517,0.0,0.0,0.1562092549983694
parenting,cmary23,2020/02/05,"Pregnant with my 2nd child, how do I explain this to my toddler? I am currently pregnant with my 2nd child who will be due in July. My son is about to turn 2 and I feel like he is still too young to understand the concept of a new baby brother/sister. I also don't want to just bring home a new baby one day without some sort of explanation to my son, I feel like that would be emotionally overwhelming for him and I don't want him to feel like he isn't important anymore. I am also scared it might cause some behavior problems if he doesn't have some sort of explanation. Does anybody have any advice on how they explained/introduced their new baby to their toddler? Did you buy books? Did you just sit with them and talk about it? Any advice would help.",3.4024780701754374,4.957246572368423,4.4105263157894745,86.00201754385971,73.40789473684211,7.435087719298244,26.48245614035088,8.07648339933343,1.5558929824561405,597,21,122,9,12,194,86,152,0.065,0.8590000000000001,0.076,0.546,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,4,0,10,6,0,2,3,0,19,0,0,3,0,29,28,8,0,6,4,2,3,3,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,5,1,1,1,5,3,0,1,2,3,20,3,19,20,3,12,0,1,0,0,19,2,0,7,11,82,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980442064387512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439098108009929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074116672555334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512399031363294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666042074647346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835045696981803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345455517241714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154297345357106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23132709402571666,0.3268399955503425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221813095069482,0.0,0.15297082528288886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22351269294524764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177934313530207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418589250893848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033385487711955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14592275455668247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526799933386538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178740651367766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225744375092308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587717490664988,0.0,0.15875880311445928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989795034519798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470054144638289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166645113885305,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Valgal_84,2020/02/05,"Opinions on toddler sleeping with me at night. Single mom. Three year old daughter. She comes in each night around midnight (asleep by eight) and I let her sleep the rest of the night with me. I hear “they” say she should sleep on her own, and she does for the first half of her night. Or that I shouldn’t let her stay with me. But it’s just me in the bed and I like thinking I’m offering comfort. Is it a bad idea to keep letting her stay with me or should I start working on getting her back into her own room.",1.9458463136033253,3.471490168224303,2.390591900311531,99.09861889927313,77.22429906542055,5.129387331256491,22.16926272066459,5.033348758259628,-0.24568245067497416,396,11,94,1,9,121,67,107,0.034,0.9179999999999999,0.048,0.128,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,5,0,7,4,4,0,0,22,14,6,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,2,0,3,11,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,0,2,21,2,17,8,5,21,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,3,10,70,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256707055969173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855056332409847,0.11787056167896695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160494773136388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235383030411107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007862902707805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375519078516443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910818627193252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593630820142015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254778589929389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330658623329784,0.0,0.0689682435565945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533590818633048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5299117172296346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481335497747526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226358188981032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238140860994565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992043582301426,0.3009356182445456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045565850848138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277301265330363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090847237427084
parenting,fromthefutureoo00,2020/02/05,"My wild 3 yo son Does this parenting thing ever get easier? My son just turned 3 in January, and it seems that everyday he’s a little more defiant. He laughs at me when I ask him to do things. It’s gotten to the point I have to demand him to do these things. He won’t eat anything I make for him. His favorite things to say to me are “no” and “I not like it”. And to his father, my family, and his babysitter he is a completely different child who follows rules, and instructions. Does talk back. 
Sometimes you feel like you’re failing, and this feels like I’m failing.
I’m not good at discipline, as I was never given a proper role model. I was very abused growing up, mentally, physically, and emotionally. I am seeking therapy and on medication for PTSD and anxiety. I am trying but it’s hard when my inner child comes out. 
Is this just an age thing? Will this ever change? Why is he only doing this to me?",1.072224824355974,3.455819360655738,3.348462138953945,86.57688524590166,84.90163934426229,6.9829820452771285,21.28259172521468,8.11559375814309,1.330826385636222,705,23,144,16,21,241,112,183,0.12,0.836,0.043,-0.8206,2,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,1,0,2,7,7,0,0,5,0,14,2,0,1,3,24,27,13,0,0,5,4,3,3,0,2,1,1,0,2,17,11,1,1,3,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,4,4,22,5,17,21,1,20,0,2,0,0,23,9,0,1,11,97,39,3,0.0,0.16522302422633575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667730405037233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475378540261505,0.0,0.1303650140317902,0.0,0.0,0.1072268699484746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751744647394555,0.12012206584825015,0.14620852793007985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569343321089506,0.0,0.0,0.24406369065619835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426900714007624,0.0,0.15686018043043207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25227731806842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314591216224837,0.0,0.14101815219357627,0.19924329413113245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072855801095507,0.0,0.0,0.11696232876733954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491797749901712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043816813830182,0.13976348541345102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930825929342822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404791442058625,0.1405307403433191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755085975226722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605645370328497,0.0,0.0,0.15484045170863214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318233912365698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16300719728446686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108946110146646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694818112492806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791759337839635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208298420372527,0.0,0.0,0.1594708897932758,0.0,0.4632151256929102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467600798390248,0.1516793317809065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505916722015525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583008983574812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rhtpi0000,2020/02/05,"Almost 12-year-old scared of any bit of suspense My almost 12-year-old is still terrified to watch movies with any bit of suspense in them. It is like pulling teeth to get him to watch any movie at all. He has always loved sci-fi, fantasy, and superheroes but won’t watch them. Star Wars is too scary. Jumanji is too scary. Hotel Pennsylvania is too scary. His friends and cousins are watching gory horror movies at the theater. He hates going to the theater because he is scared of the trailers. He loves reading sci-fi, fantasy, and superhero stories, just won’t watch them. The only movies that he has ever enjoyed are Shrek, Wonder, and Willy Wonka.

He knows it’s all fake. His uncle literally does SFX in Star Wars. He knows all about it and how it’s made and he loves the characters. 

At his age I was watching the Blair Witch Project and The Ring. I’m not trying to force him to watch terrifying movies or gore, but it would be fun to watch Godzilla at some point without discussing it for hours and then still not giving it a shot. I don’t want to force him and push him to do anything he doesn’t want to do, but at some point, he will be the only kid out of his friends and cousins who is too afraid to watch anything. 

Anyone had any luck with something similar? Or am I being pushy...",3.778543307086615,5.412041933070867,3.85748818897638,90.02638976377955,72.58267716535434,6.812283464566928,26.87322834645669,7.365786028017652,1.2211565354330705,1017,36,210,11,20,312,128,254,0.177,0.698,0.125,-0.9581,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,3,0,11,17,3,3,9,0,25,4,1,2,4,39,39,17,2,3,9,2,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,1,9,13,0,0,3,4,0,3,7,8,0,0,3,10,15,9,29,29,7,19,0,0,9,3,32,10,0,8,7,119,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541141032032921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557852825518482,0.0,0.0,0.3451447471789444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887209789538942,0.0,0.2088311738512815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734795031824462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27705122884610994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103796453290783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147747943203813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19606215366649601,0.0,0.06629220295988378,0.12171970427872425,0.07211169942038784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527272028051695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249562176952964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394654130801671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061989627454941264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435561414965099,0.12006170465678315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26628903653547925,0.0,0.0,0.1930036002181099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398947750298987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691938942794062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540681457192555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976823124809398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026611337102648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614662171476001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968018292193538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231266273594972,0.13760142691559582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090135500807813,0.0,0.0,0.16341962747984273
parenting,Closedown11,2020/02/05,"How do you respond to your child’s fear of your death? My 6 year old has had a few dreams where I’ve died or disappeared. Last night she woke up crying from a nightmare that I went down what sounds like a meat grinder (she described it as a big metal thing with spikes)  she said she just wanted to jump in after me so our bodies could still be together. She’s woken up with similar dreams crying about not wanting me or her Dad to ever die. If I promise nothing will happen to me I’m lying, I usually just hold her and tell her I’m right here with her right now, we’re together, it was just a dream. Just curious how you would offer comfort to a child who has the basic idea of death and fears it happening to her parents?",3.2233818181818212,4.294497920000001,4.2028484848484835,89.21809090909092,73.13333333333333,7.321212121212122,24.303030303030305,7.686295010490155,1.0100666666666671,568,16,123,7,11,184,102,150,0.198,0.7,0.102,-0.9593,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,4,0,0,13,5,0,2,7,0,9,1,1,2,1,22,19,9,4,5,8,2,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,7,5,0,1,1,3,0,3,1,2,0,0,6,2,22,3,19,9,1,20,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,3,10,83,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416330969521524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237557085779286,0.0,0.36424087159444746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441426292131667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499730568616585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731358822440338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932278277151151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716485464172475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514684430807247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100013577181417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558943808483966,0.0,0.15908688220959682,0.0,0.17397626828454252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409816662380699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831798008760961,0.15771110163507288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324058557871905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491405808817212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014829064558587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18260218897360486,0.0,0.19558296503458533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369566277917548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777757187846027,0.0,0.0,0.10676795906918632
parenting,starsapphire19,2020/02/05,Does anyone know where to find a potato? My toddler is OBSESSED with the Netflix show chip and potato. Her birthday is coming up and I would love to find her her very own potato to have. Do any parents out there know where I could find one or know where I could get instructions to make one? Any help would make this mommas day! 😁,2.624545454545455,4.672492666666667,2.8242424242424238,94.40636363636366,76.87878787878788,5.006060606060606,20.090909090909093,5.46131890053228,-0.23898181818181816,260,6,54,1,6,79,44,66,0.036000000000000004,0.853,0.111,0.7285,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,0,8,1,0,2,0,18,16,3,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,7,1,7,12,1,7,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,1,35,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660317312765132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676925883744953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684935475408152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123440874855292,0.0,0.0,0.12614691683318932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117236859927856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5363292392794995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219381675484904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110769854214752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32249274194233785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653817393046686,0.0,0.2611313115045515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650895525885139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171925434929553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139189020031533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778996757200641,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,privacypirateire,2020/02/05,"A tiny proud moment Today my 14 month old son was wondering around in thenude between changes,  out of nowhere he picked up a wipe and correctly cleaned himself. I have been trying to show him how to wipe during changes and let him see me and his dad on the toilet where possible to demonstrate how its done and I am so proud he has figured it out already.  He hasn't been sleeping great lately and even though he is exhausted his intelligence and ability to grasp new things amazes me. Something small but a proud mum moment.",5.541957142857144,6.882259110000002,4.967428571428575,84.89300000000001,67.9,8.114285714285714,32.285714285714285,8.418075326091056,2.3931714285714283,421,18,80,6,7,127,74,100,0.037000000000000005,0.8270000000000001,0.135,0.8463,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,3,7,6,0,0,4,0,10,2,1,3,1,17,12,11,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,9,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,10,5,12,7,0,15,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,1,7,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373480647179055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19146836171127696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4550559554140193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22010330990381236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205947053081186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371283939218067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24262158766456254,0.0,0.0,0.21993566647089466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167620464517225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077272990008563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22569212096906954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24247236185787585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713923118104396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152370842252345,0.0,0.0,0.16558044275359698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289076080342925,0.0,0.2113167320162902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387235465750475,0.0,0.0,0.14602639314092702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332469882575396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,glitterb00ty,2020/02/05,"At a loss with my almost 4 year old My (almost) four year old daughter is honestly the sweetest, most compassionate child. She loves anything and everything she can and wants to socialize and get to know everyone. 

But lately, we're struggling. 

She cries over almost everything and whenever we try to talk to her about it, she shuts down and hides and doesn't seem to retain any of the conversation. Today, she was playing with her one year old brother and wrapped herself in her blankie. Her brother tried to pull it off of her to play and she kicked him over (not maliciously, really she loves him and would never mean to intentionally hurt him, she just didn't want him pulling her blanket) and he fell into the bars of the play yard and bit himself. As a result, she was put in time out, and she spent forever just sobbing after.

We do not yell. We do not hit. Those are not things we do in our household. We talked calmly to her to let her know what she did was wrong and that it hurt her brother and we need to be more careful. She just sobs and says that we hurt her feelings. We do our best to explain, ""I'm sorry we hurt your feelings, but this behavior is unacceptable and you have to pay more attention."" This is just one example, but this sort of explaining happens often with many different situations. We do our best to explain that we understand, but also reiterate what is and is not okay. 

Every single time we have this conversation, she refused to listen and just says that we upset her or hurt her feelings and will cry for as long as she can. We try to ignore it and let her have her time in her room but she'll continually bring it up to us and come back to us crying. We've always been very consistent but it just isn't working.

It's not just hurting her brother, though, it's everything. Not finishing her dinner then asking for a snack 5 minutes later, and she'll have a breakdown when she is told she can have more dinner if she'd like. It's not putting on the movie she wants because it's her brothers turn to watch something. It's not getting what she wants at the store. It's telling her ""do not touch that"" when she's reaching for a knife on the kitchen counter. Any kind of ""punishment"" or ""no"" she's given. 

I'm not sure I'm looking for advice, I'm just so at a loss that I need to get it off of my chest. I'm not sure how to build her up and help her understand that we can't just cry our way out of everything. I just don't want to fail her as a mom and clearly what we are doing now is not working for her. I don't want to yell. I don't want to get frustrated with her. But she starts school next year and I don't want this to lead to bigger issues. 

Sorry if this is all rambling and doesn't make sense. Also, formatting as I'm on mobile.",4.3655681436320855,4.9595276412078215,5.099564111180456,85.6029739330805,70.101243339254,8.288973164994479,28.004848543036818,8.358175599149588,1.6982987758628965,2174,72,464,31,37,704,234,563,0.13,0.795,0.075,-0.9771,1,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,22,2,0,8,21,33,2,2,14,1,47,8,1,5,5,128,95,50,0,13,34,7,4,1,0,4,0,5,3,1,32,50,5,3,14,5,3,8,24,17,0,3,9,11,86,16,69,77,9,57,0,11,2,2,106,23,2,11,26,329,118,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653495374976672,0.0,0.0,0.20089714627971228,0.0,0.0,0.10695992730369668,0.055645409594891546,0.0,0.0,0.09095467205167487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05503247865441759,0.0,0.06251915635563735,0.0,0.0,0.05142279543037162,0.0,0.040766417641104766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403625053316178,0.0,0.07301024821376371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818358363116926,0.0,0.0,0.057606945178539835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938364656044732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987020711462022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563451248037188,0.06390198848316432,0.24041197767628866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144212354194217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975784082666484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913739727746704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044824945006113545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4295468279608853,0.0,0.0,0.06980019099647215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964008701405112,0.07350557128821816,0.0,0.0754379838408538,0.0,0.0,0.13676856550949135,0.0,0.03267177775037363,0.0,0.0,0.05918232624429121,0.056158209933635655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071471051517195,0.0,0.0446396237891512,0.06780081733965747,0.0,0.07284654861094689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832326543139095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917402356128696,0.05157817123692048,0.0,0.07112238809117334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105223867986354,0.0,0.09063254674290117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344558184918314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042841877737216816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636346839701548,0.0,0.06768113395921499,0.0,0.06088054562612742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517037267178253,0.0,0.06817070486660662,0.0,0.05148369065194985,0.0,0.14972231558264962,0.0473345137353124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991233589164939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605791072709518,0.0,0.0,0.1075032847774688,0.05845175262544443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044428820239192784,0.0,0.06570440977076884,0.0,0.1169861609422779,0.0,0.06338974014757891,0.06390198848316432,0.0,0.1362113337746377,0.07274086479380609,0.0,0.13923859794060678,0.16088493315490793,0.0,0.0,0.05517893062806068,0.3155571582433139,0.05308231216398912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737168456058247,0.0,0.0,0.04750612595554079,0.07311738307432257,0.0,0.17226139172884086
parenting,throwaway6010349456,2020/02/05,"Would I be boundary stomping on my sons relationship? My son's girlfriend (17) has anxiety and has occasional attacks.  

She is under a lot of stress lately with family illnesses etc and is extremely anxious at present.  Sleep problems and anxiety attacks are happening, understandably, more frequently.

I have seen weighted anxiety blankets and was wondering if those who use these feel they help with their symptoms. 

Would I be boundary stomping if I offered to get one for her to help, I was thinking that if they do work I would get one and give it to my son to gift to her.

Any ideas on if they work and how to best approach this sensitive subject?",7.691092436974786,8.201644831932777,7.500504201680673,71.56655462184877,62.865546218487395,11.169747899159665,41.369747899159655,10.914260884657429,4.823870588235295,521,29,88,13,7,166,78,119,0.168,0.738,0.094,-0.7752,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,4,3,1,5,2,1,1,0,14,4,1,2,0,24,24,11,0,8,4,3,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,6,8,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,3,3,16,1,14,16,4,8,0,0,1,0,17,4,0,6,3,68,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444448103680967,0.0,0.35248108714208976,0.1735096834286085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494549518051815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611801647534751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129019296580308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478823000112967,0.0,0.07765824235754569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604858203179819,0.14733472201741624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581654749969382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058923643199856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17338111848932655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325291587538902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305742429793048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20814916036921485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469620930471341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648950454200238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369799862201308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593348107421555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963578342723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841239920605616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988956668369272,0.0,0.13264992434606065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870276866811273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655863653254693,0.22362644671693252,0.0,0.0,0.3273115647326049,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BoabKoyle,2020/02/05,"Update number 2 since becoming a parent! So, my little one is 3 months old. She sleeps through the night now. Has been for a minute. She's rolling over and babbling and all that. She doesn't fuss much. Haven't dealt with colic or anything. She yook to formula super well. 

My sex life is exactly how it used to be. My relationship hasn't changed whatsoever either. My cesection incision is very well healed and I haven't had any issues there. I also have no tubes anymore, so no more surprise babies. I still get plenty of sleep. I get plenty of quality time with my husband. We've managed to save up an emergency fund, as well as put aside some money for the baby when she's older (due to my husband getting a second job, bless that man). 

All in all, I feel I've had a wonderful experience with parenting thus far. I want everyone reading this to know that I am genuinely sorry if you have not had a good experience, but I simply wanted to share mine.",2.6044444444444466,4.87062652406417,4.17396613190731,83.64107991681523,77.87700534759358,7.364111705288176,24.82739156268569,8.344100000000001,1.768760190136661,748,27,144,15,18,249,128,187,0.044000000000000004,0.838,0.11699999999999999,0.8695,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,1,11,9,0,0,8,0,16,5,2,3,4,25,25,13,0,3,5,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,3,1,2,1,7,0,3,2,4,1,21,9,19,20,7,16,1,0,0,1,13,5,0,4,10,98,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659544795375652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914835395541197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445934806538031,0.0,0.0,0.1199801956203386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102359635117466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423606309159266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931724076766136,0.0,0.2852388959312803,0.0,0.0,0.07372038066910863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22852195864859576,0.0,0.0,0.12228932611225185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217632886723473,0.1446830603900151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012734514218743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298218110944396,0.0,0.1461289513165294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163754110497779,0.0,0.10717907792038338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682253213075438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299157738696126,0.0,0.0987972098809861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237851826981199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656831565088624,0.0,0.0,0.14583850572446327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565336163912414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060648116216427,0.0,0.29180868952267724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632101002131982,0.0,0.0,0.11643531001034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501659879109838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259235674366234,0.0,0.12029948591720176,0.17199211493444055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39327256829797497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811285082109494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BearClawMom,2020/02/05,Is it tacky to throw my own baby shower ?  I see other baby showers that are typically run by friends and family members of the mom to be and wonder if its tacky that I'm doing my own. No one really offered to do it and I kind of feel weird asking someone to put one on for me so I just decided to throw my own. Is this tacky?should i just ask some close friends and family to see of they'd like to help?,1.0068103448275885,2.7000577701149453,3.5707902298850582,88.83135775862068,80.49425287356323,6.648850574712642,21.219827586206893,7.645422480735847,0.7660586206896549,314,9,70,5,8,110,57,87,0.043,0.826,0.131,0.8418,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,14,6,0,1,3,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,3,9,4,13,12,4,6,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,3,1,51,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4126555432979424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4161188157534949,0.0,0.11159420846248234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410296093357873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793275463905295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298285007128699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782447320143956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584850111028829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991085052709263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22186775247613055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413881709550701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517438751315897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700117076121034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23934328980642786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,corncobbler96,2020/02/05,"Advice on letting your kids socialise away from home and Smart watches/ trackers My 6 year old daughter has been invited to a friend’s birthday party. The venue is located in a nearby city about twenty something miles away.

The two parents of the birthday girl will be driving 6 kids ( including my daughter ) there.

I’m a somewhat paranoid and extremely security conscious person (I’ve been burgled and robbed in the past).

While it isn’t my daughter’s first time away by herself (school trips and things) I still can’t help but feel sneaky about letting her go. I understand that as a parent you have to let kids go sooner or later (if you want them to be well adjusted and have a healthy social life.  The thought of it though still ramps my anxiety levels up. I don’t personally know the other girl’s parents. I’m sure they are responsible enough, I just don’t have the benefit of being able to unconditionally trust them.

So my question is do other parents find it difficult to let their kids go out by themselves and does anyone have first hand experience with smart watches/ GPS trackers?

Are there any particular ones that are recommended or to be avoided? Online reviews are all over the place, some websites give good reviews but then they have crap reviews on Amazon. Some seem too cheap price wise to be trustworthy (like less than 30% of a branded one).",6.0015722441809425,7.565779620553362,5.842654808959158,78.20813680281074,67.02371541501977,8.309969257795345,33.42314448836188,8.680891452615391,2.831531576635924,1096,49,190,17,18,342,158,253,0.055999999999999994,0.747,0.19699999999999998,0.9901,4,1,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,3,5,2,11,14,1,1,14,0,29,3,2,0,2,30,41,16,0,2,6,7,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,8,8,8,0,2,9,0,2,5,4,3,1,5,3,4,19,11,29,28,6,29,0,0,2,0,30,13,1,8,12,132,27,4,0.10881991180523816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633755838174838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400127162134099,0.0,0.08324693467781051,0.0,0.0,0.07608941252319808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067196678204036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522903814520883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124400582908305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644675464947503,0.0,0.0,0.05502261708123478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994594279510631,0.18512432278171576,0.0,0.0,0.08407399392126445,0.0,0.0,0.10438997518138872,0.18553459090430552,0.09127297909648788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293969305775751,0.0,0.1091552441739292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059804577641606814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451029303818005,0.0768627218951638,0.05316391220197825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141881919601142,0.0,0.14747837704136513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4833265363655836,0.0,0.1038809190477778,0.0,0.19003469921733285,0.11369364669889215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190320582863418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013156036472137,0.0,0.09906556071742853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092819607080606,0.0,0.08377488456754603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380744427214756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256147904567972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229511404248297,0.0,0.10691501083977624,0.08639085467125633,0.06345376568018386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630124168209956,0.1132853659295646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418480340942513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784216945893892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007645540161911
parenting,MomOfAReallyCoolKid,2020/02/05,"How to tell my 9 year old son, who is on the spectrum, that he's about to have a sibling Hello! I am about 7 weeks pregnant and have a 9 1/2 year old who is on the high functioning end of the Autism spectrum. He also has severe only child syndrome and for a kid who doesn't like much change, his world is about to be rocked. We've not told him yet because 1. don't know the best way to break the news to him and 2. we wanted to show him the ultrasound pics, which we will have next week.   


Any advice on the best way to break the news to him?",3.603317191283296,3.1729846101694896,4.3842857142857135,93.65381355932207,71.54237288135593,7.420823244552058,23.63680387409201,6.1826913282559595,0.26876852300242104,416,8,104,2,7,134,75,118,0.102,0.898,0.0,-0.8942,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,11,0,12,0,0,1,0,11,15,5,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,9,3,16,12,3,18,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,0,10,63,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877043202539114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361119005367754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062513940505327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709390770797405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031650362230619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320163107988906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701312762755064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029495178878556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556550070475207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384356904346366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120539006579189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204285753544394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031241130429269,0.0,0.0,0.14609013980500632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21700262532781267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789172371113545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18354650653088112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329736245538002,0.3049380211023893,0.3081597765273037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473943097272041
parenting,corsosucks,2020/02/05,"Is there a Shazam for toddler singing? It took me a full week around thanksgiving to figure out a song our 2 yo was singing.  I eventually made out ""tookey"" and ""fat"" and after an hour on youtube, found a song ""Mr. Turkey Big and Fat, Big and Fat.  I am going to eat you.  I am going to eat you just like that.""  It was awesome to finally figure it out.  I guess it came from daycare.

Now we hear some tune with ""Fly"" and ""Butterfly"" but can't make out the rest.

If there is not a Shazam for toddlers, do you guys have any tricks to identifying songs that aren't that clear?",2.6363409961685846,3.902384051724141,3.6780459770114966,91.64932950191572,74.86206896551724,6.879693486590037,23.233716475095786,7.3871296695380915,0.6650222222222228,434,12,99,5,9,140,76,116,0.045,0.9159999999999999,0.039,-0.1496,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,3,0,0,5,2,1,0,7,0,10,5,3,2,1,25,19,7,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,2,7,13,5,0,3,5,0,4,3,1,0,0,6,4,10,1,16,13,3,18,0,0,0,0,8,9,0,3,6,65,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880639954008502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078885819107745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670927287740618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4779129371298659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25581746462650945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560503528177848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26543760421145984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572563696888064,0.2312284910124037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26320195352892795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299771002691668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408951896748995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209689377576244,0.15588111684359568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25945714113203994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873213104930288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CautiousTomorrow0,2020/02/05,"Daughter (5F) constant coughing Our daughter (5F) had a cold weeks ago and has been sniffling and coughing ever since (especially while reading and being read to). Obviously we don't treat her like she's faking or scold her for it, but it does seem to be a habit or tic rather than lingering illness (the doctor has checked her over and says she seems fine). It is driving us absolutely bonkers. Has anyone else dealt with this? How long did it last? How do you help a child get over a persistent, habitual cough?",5.248392857142857,6.7861631250000025,5.24607142857143,81.87750000000005,68.79166666666666,7.985714285714287,31.42261904761905,8.418075326091056,2.3354244047619046,404,17,76,6,7,126,74,96,0.11199999999999999,0.852,0.036000000000000004,-0.6677,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,5,0,11,5,0,2,2,16,14,10,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,2,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,9,3,7,9,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,4,8,49,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984392774001691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565288224590262,0.2293720583005145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24191422255353526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291312284246452,0.19590227747166106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870071477287685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20249509884558886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695813763414205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500493154862082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247660059417625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936718129810244,0.0,0.0,0.19810994839204368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4478431777606559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802325940984878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.407589309764078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18518013988789145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26927723044217705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956779826135452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skoopaloopa,2020/02/05,"My toddler wont poop in the potty, what am i doing wrong? We started potty training my 2.5 year old about a month ago. She's 100% on potty in either her little toilet or the big toilet with a small seat on it. She has yet to poop in the potty. I've shown her when i poop, we've read several stories about pooping, and if you ask her where poopy goes she tells you it should go in the potty. 

Its getting to the point where she's actively avoiding pooping unless she's in her diaper in bed and I've had to start giving her miralax to help prevent her from getting constipated. I never harass her or yell or anything negative and i never force her to sit on the potty but nothing helps. I've tried upping her reward for pooping too with no result apart from a tantrum when she didn't get her favorite treat.

Ill try anything at this point....what else can i do? I'm so frusterated and I'm worried she's going to end up impacted or some other issue",3.0887692307692305,4.417450594871795,4.547692307692309,85.61230769230772,73.8205128205128,6.635897435897437,25.30769230769231,7.0316486544052195,1.090907692307693,746,24,149,7,15,249,115,195,0.127,0.79,0.083,-0.8687,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,0,1,9,6,2,1,9,0,9,7,6,1,2,22,20,14,0,2,8,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,6,7,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,4,0,0,2,1,27,2,26,16,2,34,0,0,0,0,25,19,0,6,12,100,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536404544259186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884604035579525,0.0,0.16385143385688866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641348919665595,0.0,0.15523496459347638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27471007224484484,0.16813253677441786,0.1992170951533173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23495619390729736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293371256001267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566405876538235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398968298979458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703541700022801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817387346252552,0.0,0.18391373645389134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33136883895432906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17531490925672455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19800236380348726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481104480147127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319150221168382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237990227289444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799263300408366,0.0,0.0,0.19162747476055608,0.0,0.11286651035562432
parenting,snowmama0,2020/02/05,"How can I help my kid get ready for college? My son is going to graduate from high school soon and he says he wants to move out, but he’s not ready to go to college yet.  I told him he can take a gap year and work, but I want to actively help him get ready for college at the same time.  We have a college here in our city that I want him to go to.  It has a dorm, so he might be convinced to attend college if I pay for him to live there.  (He wants to move out, but I’m sure he can’t afford an apartment in our city on his own!). Do you think this will work?  He’s not a motivated student and I really want him to get a degree.",1.4202127659574482,1.8254138936170208,3.4664468085106392,95.32350000000002,76.7304964539007,6.774751773049648,21.90141843971632,6.742157984588678,0.1443639716312055,473,11,125,4,10,162,81,141,0.033,0.774,0.193,0.9651,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,0,3,6,2,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,2,1,23,25,9,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,1,1,18,2,21,21,2,18,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,2,4,76,21,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28097931876998344,0.0,0.3056452384113365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24031820444508445,0.18940576039488466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829632317259912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017429147346734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38106557020711374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148432321719478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256056387930896,0.0,0.1814280930592044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895732252377865,0.0,0.1347867105303456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148672567360313,0.0,0.0,0.1045322128067215,0.0,0.0,0.17129760148785506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5286825342067051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610174802690873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544227313006257
parenting,BAAAMandDone,2020/02/05,"School VS “Sickness” Today I took my 6 year old into school for the day. It had been a busy morning, my husbands is out of town, I have two other children, & a preschool event as well. We did the morning routine & hit the road. On arrival at school the teacher immediately stopped my daughter due to a couple of eye crusties & redness. She said it too closely resemble pink eye, even though my child has years of history of allergies. I know it seem a little too soon for allergies but the weather here has been fluctuating up & down for weeks & even the trees have started to bloom. I forgot to give her allergy medicine this morning, which has knocked out all the redness early in the week. Her teacher asked for her not to stay. Honestly, I’ve missed nearly 3 weeks of work since the beginning of December due to actually sickness, with fevers, snotty noses, & coughs, but this just seemed a little silly to me. How does everyone else feel about the sickness epidemic, because I am not sure if the school is over reacting or if I am just being too lenient. I have no idea how parents are able to balance work vs time off for their children. I am just lucky to have a flexible job.",6.7730198186093356,6.73223029257642,6.635458515283843,78.86455492106147,64.85152838427948,9.666241182398393,36.39267719180383,9.265573868473778,3.217148202888814,943,43,179,15,13,298,141,229,0.062,0.893,0.045,-0.4123,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,1,2,15,6,0,0,17,0,18,8,3,3,2,31,31,9,0,2,12,3,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,7,6,0,2,5,0,0,1,3,1,1,1,7,8,19,5,33,22,1,35,0,1,5,0,15,16,0,6,17,118,26,7,0.09970185193069002,0.0,0.09729462531930748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6481614894714534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320777279450222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060777323537816064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031820280177702,0.0,0.06429944636687822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724976250347058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832881038258822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317042657793209,0.0,0.0,0.09526939214877314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05041225204161815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564310130310387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255125507862222,0.0,0.0,0.09893870379308084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479353039242143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998548965017248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462032194454043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070710765034608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483929268044566,0.0,0.0,0.40361438792677823,0.0,0.18152964291603846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247440220757629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056948395915802,0.10626890840460268,0.0,0.08335521256746108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396781552172427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795656330795127,0.0,0.058136951641839685,0.0,0.09450569779874053,0.0,0.11077242600188572,0.0,0.0,0.09739422209058447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399244350873976,0.0,0.0896439385967508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516827129773555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840944757949188
parenting,Uniquesmith,2020/02/05,"Help addressing weight issue I have a 12 year old step daughter who is with us 2 days of the week. When she was younger, probably around 6, we started getting concerned about her diet (she doesn’t eat vegetables or fruits, just meat and carbs). At the time we expressed a concern to her mom who was very offended by the idea and gave it no merit. 

Well now 6 years later and we are seeing the outcome. We now have an overweight 12 year old, who has virtually no activity in her life and who continues to eat poorly and gain weight. 

I’m not an athlete by any means, and I enjoy my carbs too but I do try to be active as does my husband and we do try to keep our weight within a healthy level for our age/height. We’ve tried to share our active lifestyle  with my step daughter but she would just rather not do those things. It seems to have gotten worse now that she’s carrying around so much extra weight. 

How do we address this sensibly? It’s almost certain that her mom will be adverse to anything we suggest or do to address the issue (her mom is overweight as well). We also want to be cautious about how we handle it because she’s at such a touchy age and we don’t want to create any sort of insecurity. But it breaks my heart to imagine her getting to a point where it’s so bad that she’s depressed and then really can’t do anything about it. Its possible that she might be there now.

Anyone with advice??",4.055736842105265,5.043999021052635,4.789956140350878,86.10177631578951,71.0701754385965,7.3842105263157904,27.583333333333336,7.554174236665415,1.4356701754385963,1111,38,228,12,20,358,152,285,0.11199999999999999,0.787,0.10099999999999999,-0.8127,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,14,0,0,1,24,11,1,1,12,0,25,13,1,2,1,48,37,23,0,4,10,6,4,0,0,3,3,0,3,0,19,24,11,1,4,0,1,2,7,5,2,0,4,6,34,6,31,26,2,30,0,1,1,0,42,9,0,6,18,161,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052609343068207,0.0,0.0,0.10301223273178066,0.0,0.0,0.08226732779749363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991404087519532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193104213407986,0.0,0.16931107098144293,0.18315717522207686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589447722289521,0.06271029399053045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663444349040213,0.0,0.08860417768699845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002466608770987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052907947672028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749356692167276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190474375983568,0.06895345831438532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613085085248895,0.0,0.21474491757011416,0.0,0.09143805669308072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266208929521528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205861942065284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913176644160567,0.0,0.3614500821294955,0.0,0.0,0.07562333256617683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158953624354294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724803182902574,0.11597360647573275,0.0,0.0,0.11091425993634757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590293931783456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197628946477957,0.0936515184662395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281388564412991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834410625384311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998594733946432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20953160174753874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374329215793342,0.0,0.0,0.0848808200963865,0.12135406609962725,0.0,0.08251834173251088,0.5010853448517604,0.18498997378104373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483615505357664,0.07307787383356648,0.0,0.0,0.1987400992706063
parenting,dangerous_feline,2020/02/05,Cute parenting style on bus A family next to me was telling their son that his eyes would start shutting down if he was on the iPad too much and it was so funny and cute! They speak to the little kiddos like they’re equals. 10/10 for this family they’re doing it right!,3.7711818181818164,4.9253595272727315,3.932500000000001,91.35875,71.9090909090909,7.6818181818181825,19.204545454545453,8.07648339933343,0.3925454545454548,214,3,47,3,4,66,43,55,0.0,0.789,0.21100000000000002,0.9155,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,0,0,4,6,4,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,3,6,2,2,8,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,1,3,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5903108987136035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296102764208652,0.31380062358354105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301587822502963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329770927650473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34765182163559344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673790169408684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22160826139339926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736563714830841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22241170654911235,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MoonBoobies420,2020/02/05,Showering with your babies At what age would think the bathing together should end? My bf just got upset with me because I told him we are getting to the age where that should stop. Our daughter is 5. He got pretty upset with me and said i was making him feel weird about it. Am I being dramatic?,3.070508474576272,4.912227915254243,3.812000000000001,88.74952542372883,74.9322033898305,6.753898305084746,23.664406779661018,7.554174236665415,1.0157566101694917,233,7,47,3,5,74,48,59,0.149,0.8009999999999999,0.05,-0.644,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,1,0,0,3,3,0,2,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,13,16,1,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,3,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,2,11,0,6,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,4,33,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145824088033787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29270820581604184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16710119866995302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726627601304432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5286319294115409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205987330379215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362181384255098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143632519100665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762970383452123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117589758934333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31578890011648864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347643261249689,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CharlieBk,2020/02/05,15month old son always cries for me My son is about a year and half when he was born my mom and I spoiled him always held him and cuddled him and now if I get up whether it’s a second away he will holler or if I come home from work and he sees me he cries for me to come to him or hold him. When him and dad are at home he has a great day no crying nothing soon as he sees me the smile turns into a frown I guess he is waiting for me to cuddle him. It’s driving his dad crazy and even me sometimes because I feel like he should be out of that stage but I also feel bad about him crying sometimes. I don’t know what to do. I try to stop babying him and when he reaches for me I tell him no or I ask him why he’s crying and make him lay down. I don’t know. We thought it was separation anxiety but it just seems like it’s not changing.,-0.4074269005847953,1.259861206349207,1.6503202450570882,100.9479448621554,85.08465608465606,4.402227791701477,18.4129768866611,4.9825596385082,-0.7984137566137561,644,16,167,2,19,214,101,189,0.155,0.79,0.055,-0.9593,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,5,0,12,2,0,1,0,37,29,22,0,3,10,5,2,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,7,14,0,4,6,0,0,3,5,1,0,2,4,4,34,3,20,22,0,20,0,0,2,2,31,6,0,7,12,108,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962981960671537,0.20039477207912207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921194068943905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257453381758473,0.0,0.11313663376641375,0.0,0.10054396356542447,0.0734056684203244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738623080817751,0.2074588134631642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6613673524692334,0.07765961981989407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953492438116094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177387361871372,0.08602661196976721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291341204652767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276122182298591,0.13265395479447947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415780566967825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235711905156344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176602617065994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037992082410646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103205492495005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554427666392587,0.0,0.1263583885511205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19191504105175505,0.10962398474213424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23819287552149665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067480334216396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525060135487346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559840640639104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175588781740717,0.13098015745876748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086584756553616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766570628437538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754521573488095
parenting,the_throw_away4728,2020/02/05,"TIC because my kid has manners ...so this actually was Sunday. I constantly worry that my 21 month old won’t know how to get along with other kids because he has a babysitter/nanny rather than going to daycare. 

Sunday we had friends over for the super bowl, and they also have a 21 month old. The boys were playing big with my kid’s Melissa and Doug cleaning supplies. Our friends son at one point grabbed the broom that my son was reaching for and it upset my son. I gave my son the mop instead and told him “he had it first, you can play with this instead”. It kind of worked but he still wanted the broom. 

Eventually the other boy got tired of the broom and dropped it. My son squealed with delight, grabbed the broom, ran to the other boy, said “THANK YOU!!!!” And gave him a hug. 

I was SO thrilled. I’m a teacher, and more than academics and knowing his colors and shapes, I have always wanted my kids to grow up to be kind to others and have manners. I’ve gone back and forth on if we should switch to a daycare for socialization, and it’s so nice to know that he’s doing just fine for now. 

Just had to share and brag a bit about the best kid I know 💜",2.7524232922732352,4.275569948936173,3.3434714445688702,93.12105263157896,75.04255319148936,5.628219484882419,24.70884658454647,5.750287758089431,0.3955957446808509,898,29,196,4,19,281,127,235,0.03,0.784,0.18600000000000005,0.9909,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,2,1,4,14,15,0,1,16,0,17,2,0,1,0,33,34,20,0,5,5,5,2,0,2,2,1,1,6,8,14,20,0,0,4,2,0,4,1,1,0,2,14,4,22,14,27,17,3,23,0,0,1,1,34,7,0,1,11,128,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.15776238388129352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928398650732748,0.1345187971722197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431092948881345,0.0,0.19709979694731936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696581579931607,0.0,0.17649705236175178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747031681321669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751274548001022,0.0,0.0,0.2498050078749488,0.0,0.08446364569987552,0.0,0.0918783319713386,0.0,0.12929881335652718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366998574832624,0.3553889209238815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580800080276107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392818737567771,0.0,0.10954884923364183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282632329806825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537810834851295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479780251056267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910642149875026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884003838813048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18581091806815067,0.0,0.15447848601077502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070921426855347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769454103294827,0.16417934626560113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teensarestupid,2020/02/05,"So my teenager is an idiot about sex I have a daughter who's been sexually active for a while now. I am not a deeply religious person so I am not mad at this. What I am mad about it is she needed a plan b pill.

Honestly, I provided them every opportunity for safe sex. We had the talk. I bought her condoms and her allowance is enough to buy more if she needs. I don't bug her about coming home early. If they decide to meet at home, they have a few hours of alone time before anyone else comes home. Literally the only thing I asked of her was she had to be careful.

I am not sure what's the appropriate punishment or action is here. It's kind of an important time in her life so I don't want to bug her with this stuff but she shouldn't have been so careless. Neither of them are ready to have a baby and I am not interested in raising another child.

Sorry about the rant. I am just mad at these two idiots because I was honestly more lenient with them than most parents yet they are still acting stupid.",1.909982287449392,3.8003696490384655,3.713127530364375,87.93976720647774,78.47115384615384,6.6866396761133595,22.00506072874494,7.669130373188453,0.8490538461538466,789,23,169,12,19,265,120,208,0.11699999999999999,0.75,0.133,0.3795,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,6,2,13,16,7,0,12,0,26,5,0,1,1,25,34,11,0,6,9,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,2,10,7,0,1,1,0,2,4,8,8,0,1,7,0,31,8,23,25,6,17,0,0,0,3,25,5,0,4,8,129,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170185251339218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17383860067517626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591977521171308,0.16986492979593965,0.0,0.0,0.15498532353443836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106016772692657,0.0,0.14106966644333066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16902746909605948,0.0,0.0,0.28561585142124496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849095768529765,0.0,0.0,0.1712988160854992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967986624159304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.498883521960318,0.0,0.16326349007118188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263814878503125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170978871933248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24585293570539535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260859281318414,0.0,0.0,0.18408311219472487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475587920318492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855812112123124,0.0,0.0,0.13239502844109274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18978260353097035,0.0,0.0,0.1562491180061528,0.0,0.0,0.1332506094409934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101392833878796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193339546464262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194652622344952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778348572424804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway61394,2020/02/05,"I feel like raising my stepson is a lot more exhausting than it should be and it’s really wearing me down Background:

Stepson is 4 1/2 years old. I’ve been in his life since shortly before he turned two years old. My fiancé has full custody. Biomom visits maybe once a month or every other month despite living in the same town and being unemployed. Due to the hours my fiancé works, stepson has never lived with him up until December. He has been spending half a week with my MIL and half the week 40 minutes away with his other grandma. We would see him for 3-4 hours a day then. When he started school this year, he started spending the week with MIL and weekends with other grandma. In December we finally got our house and on the first day, he said that he wanted to stay with us. We even had to say no because we didn’t have any of his stuff yet. We thought it would take a while for him to want to stay with us and were pleasently surprised when he was so enthusiastic about staying with us! So we’ve had him with us every week day with exceptions (have to go out of town for stuff). MIL still wants him to stay at her house for a night every week even though she only lives ten minutes away.

MIL:

She has pretty much been raising Stepson since my fiancé got custody when he was one year old. I’m very grateful for everything she’s done. However, I don’t think he should be spending time at her house. This is going to sound exaggerated, but she mostly just screams and rarely talks. She’s always angry and screaming about something. Then she says that she can’t help it because she’s in pain (bad hip and back). She regularly screams in Stepsons face that he’s an asshole (again not exaggerating, I have witnessed this several, SEVERAL times. It’s an extremely regular occurrence). She openly brags about beating him. I have seen the red hand marks on him before while giving him a bath and I’ve watched her beat him. She wasn’t spanking him, she was angrily beating him. There wasn’t much we could do at the time, but in our house we keep our hands and feet to ourselves. She always gives him whatever he wants when he cries so he uses that as a tool to get stuff. Every single day she rewards him with ice cream no matter how bad he was. At her house, there are no real consequences for being bad. Another, disturbing thing he does is he throws a tantrum that involves screaming, crying, and crawling around on the floor. I’ve seen him do it a lot. I thought it was a phase he went through when he was younger because he hasn’t done it at all while he’s been staying with us. Well she just said last night that every time she has him, he wakes up by screaming, crying, and crawling around on the floor. He rarely cries at all here, while at her house it was non stop. Every 20-30 minutes there was some kind of crisis.

Another thing, it seems like MIL and other grandma have been trying to exclude us. Other grandma has always been the one to take him to the doctor because she lives in the city and lives closer to the doctor. It’s a 40 minute drive for us. Other grandma will take him to the doctor then message MIL everything the doctor said. And we have to hear about it all well after the fact through MIL. We don’t even know that he went to the doctor. If other grandma gets medication for Stepson, she will pick it up and drive it to MIL instead of us. Then we have to go get it from MIL which takes up an hour or two of our time because every time we go over there she wants us to run errands for her. If other grandma takes Stepson somewhere, she doesn’t even tell us. She tells MIL and sends MIL pictures and videos and we get them through her.

We are always the last to find out what happens with him. And the worst part is that it feels like my fiancé doesn’t really care. I thought he was excited that we could finally have Stepson with us all the time and start giving him a better life. I don’t get it.",4.576552863967574,5.450159303069056,4.7558997249433,87.24489576798729,69.78005115089513,7.385262751532115,27.670318004149976,7.354871404402295,1.3335999324422136,3093,101,634,29,53,967,288,782,0.115,0.8190000000000001,0.066,-0.9936,3,0,1,0,0,0,79.0,29,0,1,7,34,24,1,1,36,0,65,17,7,3,6,103,115,48,0,13,10,0,4,3,0,6,10,12,1,0,44,55,0,2,9,3,3,12,15,13,2,8,35,22,94,11,93,68,16,116,0,0,6,0,121,38,0,9,64,425,138,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207216008354475,0.0,0.0,0.02698466076314477,0.08321865529832206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064958182591992,0.0,0.0,0.07456381946037755,0.03051248844903327,0.0993967430912108,0.120946832720028,0.0,0.0675317673934383,0.0,0.0,0.03509490603558443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04045775400866244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336461595560901,0.0,0.1743522826331197,0.10236468381351403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307758061519424,0.03472539367023472,0.08121554216175934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483655991738017,0.0,0.23403258588741965,0.0,0.07132602992956337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04012813898212388,0.056696690984683565,0.0,0.08693790074236513,0.036268010861882034,0.03375291356365606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365926891458924,0.11419782413024827,0.09020724258180984,0.0,0.06347355884535913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03509006338984175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472373562239451,0.0,0.02659755474747645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172343315891766,0.2747215181504535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035270583642208565,0.0,0.04132199217919006,0.02180781768183173,0.06469114982244754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056056184717636334,0.058158870956412326,0.0,0.17519667857161994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674712845757581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03986522306581588,0.0,0.0,0.039974758817180565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334650779501665,0.0,0.05834067724188046,0.0,0.030604683018832582,0.0,0.0,0.07447646818147405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249166219318827,0.04225931455154459,0.05377818363343796,0.030179434689475888,0.04222372602760383,0.0,0.0,0.042971006517485436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04037017177147224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04516603357830228,0.05084174396398724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323807696109492,0.0631123624007851,0.0,0.040159617945007865,0.031620877332842565,0.0361243866585071,0.0,0.08965720160534889,0.0,0.06564960183728732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030548621543888505,0.0,0.0,0.08425993520003909,0.21147505582660786,0.031689556267304186,0.033175363322691505,0.0,0.0,0.136276865467635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917708464247212,0.03189434478962889,0.06936645166342853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272501632814279,0.025426189886727225,0.038986698941634035,0.09450761542061248,0.1619694922068108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02694101395851201,0.0431618852732149,0.07752577442642981,0.0,0.5250492107411338,0.03427192297000094,0.0,0.0327412477156834,0.11702536376773474,0.0,0.15914982116593446,0.0,0.07135655086278764,0.0735699690126921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028888476166572856,0.0,0.0,0.056376947513072324,0.0,0.0,0.10221388552198876
parenting,TMLF08,2020/02/05,"School bullying question My daughter (10) attends a very small school.  In September, I was informed by another mom the friend group called her daughter’s outfit ugly.  I asked my daughter and it turns out they spent lunch evaluating each other’s outfits.  I told my daughter that was a bad idea and why, and she should apologize to her friend for hurting her feelings.  That’s the last I heard until January.  I work at the school and saw the group together behaving normally.  

January I again get angry messages from prior mom her daughter is being bullied and has been physically threatened and fears for her health and safety.  Mom doesn’t state it was my daughter.  I question my daughter who is clueless.  I forward the info to the teacher of the other child, who wasn’t very aware mom was saying that or it was happening.

School behavioral therapist is called in and each girl is questioned with three adult staff in the room, without parents.  I’m questioned separately as I’m a mom involved and also staff.  I’m reprimanded for not telling them of this ongoing issue, which I honestly had no idea about until then, except an isolated seemingly minor issue about the clothing.  As far as I know, my own daughter didn’t do what was alleged.  Another girl stated she did say something that was interpreted wrongly. 

My daughter though is attending classes now in inclusion and how to get along with others.  The entire friend group must attend.  I’m thinking that’s always helpful info though I’m not thrilled about the apparent “punishment” for everyone equally no matter who said what or did what.  My flag is my daughter states she can’t talk about the closed-door meetings or what goes on in the room to anyone including adults.  I’m an abuse survivor and disagree with that to the extreme ... telling a child he/she can’t talk about that with parents or another trusted adult.  

At this point I spoke up and am putting my own job on the line.  Honestly, am I overreacting?  WWYD as a parent here?  

And my daughter was invited to a bday party of the girl victim in this.  I’m now extremely nervous something could happen and it could blow up again and catch us again in the crossfire.  I really don’t want my daughter around the girl, which I feel bad about but I also want to protect my daughter.",5.513495588235294,7.317064404705883,5.637687500000002,78.29853125000002,68.48235294117647,8.512500000000001,33.51654411764706,9.017664075816787,3.1175779411764712,1832,86,312,34,32,578,205,425,0.096,0.835,0.068,-0.8318,5,0,2,0,1,0,42.0,1,0,2,1,18,15,2,2,26,0,33,2,0,1,1,57,59,32,0,7,9,21,2,0,3,2,1,5,2,9,26,24,1,1,15,0,1,6,11,8,0,1,20,8,39,7,50,34,5,39,0,1,1,0,73,21,0,9,11,216,65,9,0.0,0.09160585090877378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365785015377535,0.06433242705834126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432151364141841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054060574639765685,0.0,0.0,0.06882690593753057,0.07227926068437651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910989912801374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789489537244722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345976718985804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738779720179027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700107741465267,0.07818576064543696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920055916812422,0.0,0.08078798562422737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673912455564208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218242565654851,0.0,0.0,0.051822738407243066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276750403167248,0.1745588648302373,0.0,0.16139393091469198,0.07672339064469323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04249040341069859,0.06302219445249092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527530480069136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575246519966453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575480881121755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308783978777546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777231149763107,0.3464428040112096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04953008693146356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735444454174979,0.12296827576863345,0.0,0.3129883773238858,0.0,0.07038484017420941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904201254598472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242860332384634,0.1351537580398662,0.0,0.0,0.08976888822165384,0.0,0.04954044834959018,0.15192355235632585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738779720179027,0.0,0.0,0.08409671907487942,0.0,0.0,0.09300064733393933,0.0,0.0,0.12758624855599485,0.09120499791994123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976492836458953,0.0,0.0,0.07452907881755362,0.0,0.05628637510394532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453201706250862,0.0,0.0
parenting,bambrr,2020/02/05,"My autistic daughter hates touch but her step cousin has downs and its getting uncomfortable. My daughter has quite a few sensory issues and has never been a fan of hugs or kisses or touch in general. Shes 11 years old and puberty is already in full swing. Her father and I have taught her about innapropriate and appropriate touching and told her that basically, if a boy is touching her or asking to, she can say no, and it should be respected. 

The problem is that her step cousin who she isnt very close to (only sees him at family gatherings) has down syndrome and is very sensory seeking... he also likes to call girls hot because his stepdad calls his mom hot. So bacically, every family gathering, hes running up to my daughter wanting to hug, shes yelling no and hes ignoring it, trying to climb on her, trying to kiss her cheek, and hes calling her hot. Weve literally had to put our arms between him and her and move him away. Weve told him she does not like hugs and even tried switching it with a high five. He still persists. I spoke with his mom and she was mad because she thought he was just being lovable.  Now she pulls him away eventually, but only after weve had to basically human shield her away from him. Now he calls her mean but still tries. What else can I do? Is there a way I can help him understand? Im not to farmiliar with down syndrome but i know my daughter hates all touch and during this stage of her life, teaching her to be vocal about wanted /unwanted touches is a good thing. Even her doctors talk to her about it, but then every holiday or birthday were having to dread fighting this kid off of her. Its not good for her or us and a shame to miss an event over it. My other family members dont like it but they pity him to an extent and figure he just doesnt know any better. I have no idea how the school handles this with him, it cant be appropriate by this age 100% of the time.",4.184850408850409,5.200750028571427,5.111890331890334,83.81016354016356,70.79220779220779,8.197210197210197,28.02549302549303,8.515128840125781,1.8848624338624336,1511,53,308,24,27,494,197,385,0.13,0.757,0.113,-0.3164,0,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,5,0,1,4,15,22,4,2,12,0,40,9,2,1,2,56,57,33,0,6,17,9,9,3,0,1,2,3,0,4,19,22,0,1,7,1,0,7,11,10,0,1,14,13,58,12,44,38,4,37,0,2,1,5,80,16,0,6,15,218,77,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874274969402883,0.07880342371669702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701144757092252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212279201938924,0.0,0.2777483209246681,0.0,0.0,0.12013969581943727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715175174712651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4024866460888774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086117269119936,0.08623413567202436,0.0,0.11548964289602655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231859249933297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017116835528972,0.0,0.1660505520603198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786878383795473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051483750157773935,0.0,0.0,0.16530349599025904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457822019912988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605014089743727,0.10411426957650327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124110739121447,0.1064414890655081,0.10285149149332434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083114176642328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696026182467759,0.14442687147664865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734033915688744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23082070559529674,0.0,0.10473378270056796,0.0,0.0,0.07600110779759146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340249391804936,0.0,0.0,0.14989016339060388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429069392063187,0.0,0.0990612007962808,0.0,0.10481077791041264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783639787288621,0.0,0.09972903332050444,0.07852463968827783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739038240959347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920374587766597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546644588867569,0.0,0.0,0.07823076687158655,0.057460211140871624,0.0,0.0,0.1883208263775344,0.0,0.2676122350004187,0.0,0.0,0.10258494473428112,0.1185330233166726,0.0,0.0,0.1626137474148045,0.11624439673223876,0.07821747906472709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634573516672847
parenting,maria0889,2020/02/05,"Advice on transition from working to stay at home mom In June of this year I will be leaving my job and transitioning to being a stay at home mother. While I am very happy to be able to care for my children and feel quite privileged to be in a position where I no longer *have* to have a job for financial stability, I'm also nervous. I am a professional, so working has been a part of my identity. It's not just a job to me, I feel very strongly about my career as what I was meant to do. But I am also certain in my decision that right now my children need me most and I need to be at home with them because of our particular circumstances. With that being said, I know it will be a big transition for me and for my little ones (one is 4 and one is 15 months).

One of my largest concerns is having other adults to talk to about adult things. I know some other stay at home moms and it often seems like they only want to discuss topics related to parenting, children or other related things. There's certainly nothing wrong with that, but I personally just get bored of those conversations after a while. While I am working, I have built in balance because I can talk to people at work about non-child related things, and talk to other moms about child stuff. I'm worried that now that I'm not working I won't be able to find an outlet for these other aspects of myself. 

Does anyone else have any advice or suggestions about what can help me with this transition? Stories from your own transition to staying at home?",5.237165588389581,5.733758053156147,6.112673544325932,79.45426648015389,68.13621262458473,9.260430145130266,30.460045462493444,9.276330184999452,2.541906312292359,1198,44,234,22,19,396,148,301,0.03,0.899,0.071,0.8237,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,2,7,15,10,0,1,9,0,29,0,0,0,2,35,44,18,0,3,8,5,2,1,0,3,0,1,5,7,23,11,0,0,8,0,0,0,4,3,0,4,4,3,32,7,52,29,4,28,0,0,0,0,24,15,0,6,10,180,55,10,0.17076030192988725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16686499074041974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655695175933294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806143046629224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059699786742078625,0.08748205442302366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409389511663893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705075419753233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747167454761062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132416038953014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863415394287422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780359111901057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04460760494340717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088875833963853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057228515455461086,0.0,0.4282162644491659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541798763778676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384539617296936,0.0,0.0,0.09040525195128847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0417124290434631,0.08557334143734169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29998860270667643,0.0681496219260636,0.0,0.0,0.12661660018508214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819245575662688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23142319979808165,0.06493545218579228,0.0,0.0,0.0948045535869255,0.09245838326006106,0.0,0.059191846315515835,0.07455065455664389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908123002017347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729141824148427,0.08121607542549969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772688278427449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640155229522605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773984583271132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20587599360895326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016833542437826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089513255769087,0.050359425162557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107888338758457,0.08670768775605406,0.0,0.0,0.09334979187952244,0.0,0.05498201792321589
parenting,monkeyseadew,2020/02/05,"Methods for deterring and correcting baby-talk? (6yo) My SK6, a very intelligent and bright child, repeatedly reverts to baby-talk, especially when they're back with BM and younger siblings. When they come back to us, they immediately start baby-talk and we're constantly correcting with seemingly no improvement save for maybe a few moments. My husband and I believe it's in order to get attention which they may not get enough of with BM with two younger siblings. 

We've told them it's not needed at our house, that we don't need SK to convince us to pay attention or to pretend to be a toddler for us to see or hear them. Typically we say something to the effect of ""You're not a baby, speak like your own age. We know you're smarter than that."" We say that because SK is very intelligent and uses fairly advanced language, using large and complex words in the correct context when not using baby-talk. So we she is doing baby-talk (whether for attention or thinking it's funny or cute or what have you) we get so frustrated because of how many times we have to correct with seemingly no acknowledgment from SK that they understand why we're saying it. We let them know it's something that's not okay and then a second later, back at it again.

Are there helpful methods for addressing this behavior, ways to encourage SK to stop using baby-talk and acting younger than they are or perhaps they'll eventually grow up and out of it?",6.907403846153848,7.190670241758242,7.186719322344327,73.92755151098903,64.53113553113553,10.19496336996337,36.11011904761904,9.978442167317967,3.623051465201464,1148,52,205,23,16,373,141,273,0.062,0.812,0.126,0.9626,0,0,4,0,0,0,32.0,12,2,9,2,11,8,1,0,7,1,12,0,0,6,4,64,32,24,0,2,12,1,0,1,0,2,0,5,1,1,15,25,0,1,12,1,1,4,8,1,0,2,1,7,27,7,35,27,3,28,0,0,2,0,34,6,0,9,17,136,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397384441165648,0.0,0.12670486510491788,0.0,0.0,0.11708921226616373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952319875408465,0.0,0.11230727628554794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738352148490636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289141339195867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171323539769954,0.0,0.06965952540073453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199168542210042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423021733877832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627155662802312,0.0,0.0507730802966719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536483105597297,0.1044078128656781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541198859790747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24793880039902785,0.0,0.0,0.08281570725856469,0.18922097568108096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001489600060548,0.0,0.0,0.07355948259226426,0.0,0.0,0.08688693701344441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5011915438332697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659169751032927,0.0,0.0,0.0606001892367563,0.0,0.0,0.09930591525083453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015207733218763,0.10819081483182524,0.3750311825091343,0.3590353942423686,0.0,0.17149995919220984,0.0,0.08249176149603311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377720955815633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,residentevol,2020/02/05,"Unorganized Parents = Unorganized Kids Hey everyone! This might be a bit of a stream of consciousness, so I apologize in advance!  I'm feeling pretty crummy today after receiving an email from a teacher about my child (9 y/o boy) and his behavior at school. It's not the first time this has come up but lately he has been not following directions and is constantly getting zeros for assignments for losing them or placing them in the wrong folders. His work area at school is left in a mess at the end of each day and his teacher is having trouble getting him to clean. 

He is very talkative during class apparently and gets off-task easily.

On the other hand he has all A's and B's, made it to 3rd place out of the entire school on the Spelling Bee (the youngest one on the stage as well). Has excelled in math and genuinely shows interest in learning new things. He's a very curious learner and likes to ask questions.

His main problem is focus, organization and making responsible choices.

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At home we have issues with him constantly waking up early (and in turn waking his younger 5 y/o brother up) and getting into things he shouldn't be doing on school days. If we forget and leave the TV remote downstairs, he will be up as early as 5:30 eating unhealthy snacks, watching cartoons, just making poor choices. We have set rule of 7am is the earliest you can leave your room to roam the house. If you wake up earlier, try to go back to sleep or stay in your room and read or play something quietly. I know so many parents who just let their kids have iPads or whatever to keep them under control in the morning but that's not happening in our house. I would rather lose sleep than to let my kid turn into a screen zombie for hours in the morning.

Removing privileges, toys and limiting fun activities seems to have very little or a very short lived effect on him. It's always, I want to do better just give me a chance to show you and it's hit or miss on how long it lasts. We've tried week breaks on Nintendo time, TV and the things that really seem to grab his interest. His behavior during that week is usually improved. But it's not like we normally let him sit for hours and hours playing video games. We don't allow it at all during the school week and on weekends he'll get an hour or so a day (obviously there are times where he get's a little more). 

I worry that there may be something more going on in his mind that causes him to care so little about doing the right thing. I'm considering having him see a counselor but I'm not sure where to even start. He just seems scatterbrained most of the time. His little brother who is almost 5 years younger seemingly is better at following directions.

He does stay busy as well outside of school. After school he attends a Youth Program that allows him to hang out and play games/sports/do homework etc..Until the end of our work day. He has Basketball practice once and one game a week during the week. He also attends Hapkido once to twice a week.

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Alright, so that's what I've noticed from my Son. Now onto the issues I think may have lead into this. I don't know if I'm being too hard on myself or if I haven't been hard enough up until now.

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My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We aren't nasty pack-rats or dirty by any means. But we aren't the most organized people as a collective. She likes to let things pile up on counter tops (papers, mail, keys, just the most random of crap). I'm really bad about putting things back where they belong (household items, books, magazines, tools etc..) Not always the best at immediately clearing the sink/counters after cooking a meal. Whenever we plan on having friends come over there is a purge that needs to occur for me to feel comfortable letting someone in. I'm not always positive my wife feels the same way but it's embarrassing to me. I think I actually CRAVE structure and organization but lack the discipline to maintain it. I'm not comfortable in a messy unorganized environment, but I'm not very pro-active in keeping it that way if that makes any damn sense. 

I'll occasionally go on this extreme organization kick and clean up an room or an area of the house but nobody else seems to care to keep it that way. I get frustrated and let it go back to how it was...

 I know for a fact my wife does a ton of things that she gets annoyed at me for not doing more or helping with and we're sitting down this weekend to work that communication/responsibility thing out. It's obviously a problem.

So as you can see we aren't always setting the best example for our Sons. I'm a firm believer that the change needs to occur from us and trickle down to our children. But I need some ideas, help, feedback, maybe a little bit of come to Jesus to help get our family back on track.

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Side note: We have had talks about whether or not our son could have a form of ADHD. I don't consider him to be HYPER-ACTIVE. He does sometimes have a hard time holding still, but it's not like he's destructive in the house or out of control. The idea of medicating my child to change his behavior scares me and is mostly what keeps me from pursuing this, but do any of you parents with ADHD children think my boy sounds like your child?

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TL;DR- I need help getting my son to focus, stay on task, and to be more inclined to stay organized. His parents are not the best example of this so we need help to get ourselves and the kids on track!",5.094347545219641,6.010421758139536,5.666218992248063,81.031555878553,68.62790697674419,8.725710594315245,29.256136950904388,8.920646497554287,2.2380028423772607,4350,154,846,74,72,1406,432,1075,0.094,0.787,0.11900000000000001,0.9861,5,0,2,0,0,0,133.0,18,8,5,20,37,43,5,2,63,1,69,12,7,13,7,176,140,76,0,19,50,13,8,5,1,7,1,2,7,11,49,53,4,9,21,17,1,17,21,16,2,5,6,14,84,27,143,112,25,158,1,3,4,0,110,79,2,34,54,541,133,22,0.0,0.0,0.03688723030344988,0.0,0.09085622055985586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03785111976351983,0.0,0.0,0.030228550479005318,0.12581011339606404,0.20478077161246885,0.2296549587728596,0.07711564409375969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03533778530786068,0.0,0.0,0.11626309827417612,0.031561321002080304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042587520670843836,0.11900592637079566,0.06686184439124965,0.08253535802611517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707899403417214,0.038830889344265,0.07997452217339407,0.09768374909192364,0.0,0.08169648352274543,0.08479155949780423,0.030180128475336656,0.0,0.0,0.09751118229749477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923678947807676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038678714117990634,0.031576949469512894,0.0,0.06695894838331308,0.03905738071369713,0.08431371657220099,0.02496646432320709,0.0,0.0,0.036119405337430285,0.0,0.0,0.03563436287839044,0.0,0.05733826545110434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03215255872399558,0.0,0.0,0.029204093617689556,0.0,0.21723764955904096,0.036261089378013873,0.08593017189379458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03342630915825465,0.0,0.10158380381586077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266823143015646,0.0,0.0379163617789177,0.0,0.148901070867281,0.1744639462194208,0.0,0.08534292728713748,0.0,0.07890650826604098,0.0,0.13439308101766986,0.0,0.0,0.062321476692810886,0.030811947384428114,0.042639911227554166,0.0800492303604732,0.041069680356447535,0.2319176306864552,0.0,0.09233556041617452,0.1894270513488559,0.03337798667602091,0.033451704417504544,0.0,0.08457679404933445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035767160536860534,0.0756951405123586,0.038323145520664924,0.03797506023447385,0.04117515087038053,0.0,0.03807940247655875,0.0,0.040099699346787344,0.038167103391397145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014066075963078,0.0,0.03650735977040117,0.0,0.0,0.03703585684773837,0.0,0.043035414057894184,0.0,0.08051127735635757,0.0512283540821724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678891742570596,0.0,0.0,0.026205677429700053,0.0,0.07898565887188509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03845606738902963,0.0,0.07233876058804638,0.0,0.037999319922273636,0.04234451664863133,0.0,0.037810109309096826,0.0,0.04843114225826792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032280891091461206,0.0,0.0,0.03784427424723257,0.2677884770784094,0.060243220984823015,0.17205795600659265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756543574921309,0.0,0.032027715764414384,0.05820038891010626,0.03738504798376442,0.0,0.02675494970718084,0.1611585711153937,0.030187033095684393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0356259396743274,0.0,0.0,0.030382111810226393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009004858815644,0.07266191067494092,0.0,0.0,0.11020707039649316,0.0,0.035829866534247225,0.0,0.0,0.05132727471075324,0.08223083013371019,0.0,0.0,0.04546860161353576,0.0,0.04163122763052224,0.15594429913287886,0.02229534865867426,0.09001135621018727,0.1819247026945011,0.0,0.0679732636304314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255628877555217,0.03838761311648239,0.0,0.026851950309046583,0.04132823499177042,0.2296549587728596,0.04868376696511653
parenting,partynextdoor00,2020/02/05,"Should a girl child sit on a mans lap? I was scrolling my Facebook the other day and someone put up a post about “Things you need to teach your children at an early age”. And the first comment was “Warn your girl child to never sit on anyones laps no matter the situation including uncles” 

Not everybody is sadistic or a weirdo. I am an uncle of 6 nieces, they’ve sat on my lap before. I’ve carried them on my shoulders while out and about. They’ve slept in the same bed as me all the time. I feel like it’s nothing sexual about that. Yes their are some family members who do take advantage. Me personally, I would never hurt my babies. I would give my love for those girls without question, he’ll without even thinking for that matter. They made me the man I am today!",3.5387254901960787,5.090585830065366,4.344591503267973,86.62316176470591,73.05228758169935,6.930065359477124,25.8218954248366,7.492282038375204,1.2514405228758163,604,20,121,7,12,194,107,153,0.043,0.846,0.111,0.8507,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,3,2,4,4,0,0,12,1,10,3,2,1,3,23,20,6,0,4,4,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,9,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,5,1,20,3,19,11,3,21,0,1,0,1,21,8,0,3,10,82,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550780466424647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16490750408668564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498343495116017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800150285041445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826951522851865,0.0,0.09798990162115416,0.1384490612512345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484415990501647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590833989515226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074643646244401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467972995134416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490992195244812,0.18337599758386933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369848253610126,0.2989373496237114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18595404690231632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692166100843542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560455310440813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482013930276507,0.2170976914605004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21783664908852046,0.0,0.0,0.16420409785058154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457116947761602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875053002757034,0.12417769220302455,0.0,0.0,0.11300495298711533,0.0,0.18369748731502727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736279875495996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753365434149788,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,danspickledliver,2020/02/05,"How much should by 14 week old baby boy be eating? I have a 14 week baby boy and my mother is help watching him until daycare starts and is concerned with the amount he is eating.  He is 25 inches long and 15lbs 10ounces.  He is eating about 36-40 ounces of formula a day, 6 ounce feedings 5-7 times a day.  She was concerned as he looked a little bloated this last weekend before bed.  I have read multiple online information saying no more that 32 ounces to 2.5 ounces per pound.  I wanted to get some input from other parents before I call my pediatritian and sound like I am over-thinking.",5.736317733990147,5.983849060344831,6.2332019704433534,79.88913793103451,67.01724137931035,8.007881773399015,28.64039408866995,7.447530270364453,1.6758290640394091,465,14,87,4,7,151,85,116,0.02,0.9309999999999999,0.048,0.4588,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,11,4,0,1,0,10,15,7,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,3,5,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,9,1,9,12,4,13,0,0,2,0,14,2,0,1,12,46,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322630825392032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357853142133288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244521976134134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.581951447267066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904575810849596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706895395753962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452993360280254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261737236056786,0.19000519053402687,0.0,0.16776900200569714,0.15919629107011152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936034535286654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19892836805859385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105019736896314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896275366224434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075863078762552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418303459412176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214727963794771,0.0,0.0,0.11054342692754517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181697491854957,0.0,0.3041332406694796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,S0ngH3art,2020/02/05,Potty training my 2 year old she’ll sit on the toilet but goes on the floor... Another stay at home mother I look up to and is a distant friend of mine who lives in another state told me how she potty trained her daughter who is only a few months younger than mine. She said she took her to the potty every 15 min and left her with out her diaper during the day to make it easier and quicker for her little one to go. I’ve been trying this method for a few days and have been failing terribly... she loves to sit on the toilet and wipe and flush but will not go on the toilet rather goes when she has to on the floor. My friend’s daughter has regular movements and unfortunately my daughter rarely ever does. I’ve offered candy for rewards if she goes on the potty but I don’t know if she understands. I punish and give timeout when she goes on the floor but my frustrations are growing and I know the more aggravated I get the more she can tell. I don’t know how to convince her to take her time on the potty or how to convince her to actually try to go on the potty too. Please help.,3.9935416666666654,4.634836866071431,5.089357142857144,85.17230952380955,70.96428571428572,7.937619047619048,26.094047619047622,8.021203637495839,1.3773444047619043,854,25,181,11,15,282,117,224,0.083,0.7909999999999999,0.125,0.8523,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,8,10,2,0,16,0,13,1,0,4,1,29,29,21,0,3,9,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,4,11,0,0,4,0,0,6,3,4,0,1,5,2,31,6,30,22,4,38,0,1,1,1,33,18,0,3,10,123,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.15813785000403674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33984802429470484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090182509370368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181142905253202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658389741069094,0.13653448196080833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503995305706708,0.0,0.08466466470569603,0.15545354492248314,0.27629099261400264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861899173444556,0.0,0.16254980063202254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267176045807811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606827345110326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624171095877087,0.14309350436418308,0.0,0.13608155324609744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625684584649412,0.0,0.10816992473100127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934711239283625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004467332849305,0.0,0.1098095696960284,0.12324665925905988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778827164853253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541470743236735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727242038522441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218417608504912,0.0,0.14163922419583752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449291272006943,0.0,0.0,0.1548461366304142,0.18004399760192374,0.22004321827778872,0.0,0.0,0.16870021945106506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435516809784784
parenting,MotherofNugget,2020/02/05,"Parenting a toddler is hard when you’re sick I feel like my title says it all. I’m a parent of a toddler, I have the flu, and today has been REALLY hard. My boyfriend is at work until 2:30-ish and I know that once he gets home I can take an hour or so for myself, but that feels so far away right now. I can’t even keep down a sip of water, haven’t eaten in 3 days, and I’m just all around exhausted. Any advice on how to keep the little one engaged and happy without my exerting all of my non existent energy? TIA",1.6672072072072088,2.935907972972977,3.7839639639639664,89.90045045045046,77.37837837837839,7.095495495495496,21.34234234234234,7.793537801064563,0.7207369369369361,399,10,91,6,9,137,82,111,0.084,0.7559999999999999,0.159,0.9106,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,7,0,8,5,0,1,3,18,18,11,0,0,4,2,4,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,3,5,2,2,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,5,10,3,13,16,3,15,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,1,7,58,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846862952840816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852486844763114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824795927133065,0.0,0.0,0.17756949348399206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188783505835345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483115120615307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19112575951926414,0.13501994362987935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874346035004647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20119149003316916,0.3386095046024517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18958003140283172,0.0,0.1861245934903369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359795524187081,0.0,0.0,0.10386815395935724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233469469124844,0.18942527530808365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20127630623551945,0.1280696844312425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197190003808084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107672043712005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140294215235998,0.0,0.15029850006598378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421026956563486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914765299287508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218696956691136,0.0,0.137592524566116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IdBuyIt,2020/02/05,"My daughters (age 5) mom (my ex) invited my daughters whole school class to a birthday party even though I previously tried to coordinate a party for her together and communicated my desire to invite her schoolmates to a party I would throw. What do I do so I’m not excluded from her birthday party? Some background: my ex and I have a very very contentious co parenting relationship. My ex has a history of doing whatever she wants with our daughter and cutting me out of important activities and decisions. For example, she ignored my request to collaborate on a school to send our daughter to and instead made a unilaterally decision on where to send her. 

Our daugher will have her birthday next month. I reached out to my ex a few weeks ago to try to coordinate a party together. I shared that I wanted to invite her entire class to the party, as we don’t really have other child-age friends to invite. She refused to do a party together on the basis of our contentious relationship and said she would be inviting a few of their closer friends from school to their own party. I said I would invite the rest of the kids to a party I would throw for her. I also asked her to reconsider the approach, as I strongly believe our daughter should have one combined party for her friends. It should be easy enough for two adults in their 40s to get along without issue at their daughters birthday party, at least from my perspective. 

I followed up with her again today and she informed me she went ahead and invited the entire class to her birthday party, meaning I had no one to invite to a party, and that I would not be able to attend my daughters party with her friends. I asked her to reconsider and do the party together. I offered to plan it or to defer to her plans so she could run the party. I offered to pay for the party costs for all my daughters school friends and my daughter, meaning my ex would only have to pay for her family and personal friends she invites. 

My ex refuses to do the party together. And has now invited all my daughters school mates to their party, leaving me with no one to invite to a party for my daughter, and leaving me cut out of her birthday activities again. 

For those wondering, I have full equal custody of my daughter and full/equal parental rights. 

What should I do? I’ve talked with my daughter for months about her birthday party and she’s excited to our plans (build a bear party!). But I don’t have any children to invite as all her friends are from her school. 

I also need to address my ex’s purposeful actions to ignore my attempts to do a party together, ignore my intent to invite her school mates to a party, and yet another thing my ex has done that obstructs my ability to enjoy equal celebrations with my daughter. 

I’m really upset by all this, and any advice you can share would help.",7.563001017941215,7.144421075645756,7.89675149510116,71.73511070110703,63.335793357933575,10.501692327268099,36.955337829240364,9.921728534948242,3.693563481358952,2261,99,396,41,29,744,199,542,0.053,0.73,0.218,0.9979,3,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,7,1,5,6,13,18,2,1,27,0,39,0,0,2,4,67,55,28,0,15,5,25,0,0,9,11,0,2,1,4,11,29,0,5,6,0,3,10,7,6,0,4,6,2,92,12,87,34,15,36,0,0,0,0,98,14,0,3,12,311,103,12,0.07569726573454222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397049198856395,0.06710105876201086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107015211848915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295347293867303,0.07937518328885314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153345016409746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528489663355547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043810714645932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746458437574884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821551065839688,0.0,0.04999733009974909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136064525039931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093846381192461,0.0,0.03954869705687223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050738281591983785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900827865980058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030494918109908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716265831213389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164913027597569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865572274811721,0.12084167063054173,0.0,0.0,0.0561285633855917,0.0,0.0,0.08050490087544195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388327896708304,0.057571181640552686,0.0,0.0,0.16810571086154993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609593265975154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698721353763087,0.0,0.0,0.1625410689760486,0.0,0.06464505133446596,0.14401086842596295,0.0,0.0,0.5362677194524943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084259483596141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050289899782104415,0.0,0.07437217924817717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175215686738441,0.0,0.0,0.10278694906946226,0.0,0.0739452293797425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491634377997522,0.0892964171575212,0.0,0.060719780583568035,0.0,0.0,0.07017212371437376,0.0,0.08451329388741041,0.0,0.07296946290487162,0.08209045565994243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764121600201436,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,biddee,2020/02/05,"16yo daughter going to her first party So my 16 year old is going to her first party on the 15th of this month. There will be drinking (it's at a club - legal drinking age here is 16) and probably weed (also legal). I'm sure there will be other drugs available too. This was my conversation with her on the way to school this morning.  
Her: I'm going to need cash.  
Me: Ok, will you be drinking?  
Her: I might have 1 or 2, but you know how I feel about alcohol (her dad is an alcoholic - sober for nearly 6 years).   
Me: Ok, just remember that if you do drink, you may get drunk very quickly since you've never had alcohol (also she's tiny).   
Her: Ok.  
Me: What about weed. Would you try it?  
Her: IDK, maybe.   
Me: Well don't drink and try weed, I promise you will vomit. Also remember if you or any of your friends are drunk and need a ride, call me. And if you do try weed (smoking or edibles) and don't feel anything don't think you need more because it sneaks up on you.   
Me: Also if anyone offers you molly or cocaine, please say no.   
Her: There won't be cocaine!   
Me: It's very possible there will be (we live in the Caribbean, cocaine is everywhere!)  
Her: Ok, I won't do cocaine - bye! (we were at school).   


I think that went quite well! I just hope she has her head on straight.",0.31221794871795083,2.5181129653846166,2.1315384615384616,95.21679487179493,86.65384615384615,5.158974358974358,19.43589743589744,6.588339656340683,0.07287435897435922,961,28,216,11,30,316,134,260,0.043,0.8079999999999999,0.149,0.9772,0,0,13,0,0,0,61.0,2,12,0,3,19,10,0,0,6,4,31,13,1,1,2,36,47,20,0,9,11,2,2,0,1,10,5,1,0,0,11,8,10,0,7,8,1,5,7,0,2,2,4,3,42,10,19,28,1,25,0,0,0,0,35,10,0,11,10,145,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31945059795271546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31872432237035514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677577737449669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966973790011853,0.0,0.08199420993288233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073886344946562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174231452095343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4880402609813271,0.11554932870501222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076070200856092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950535717708273,0.0,0.0,0.07698065902302571,0.0,0.0520571398049688,0.0,0.16988101091945967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225811382411222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896377108230923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05475885686786892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798285078861287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010052705481537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570097886794476,0.0,0.0,0.07953070784144829,0.0,0.0,0.2216426346749702,0.07684755445800243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455411786395544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109373437822653,0.0,0.11232773121005124,0.0,0.0,0.10742743591490164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059780863287796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257425839498013,0.0,0.0,0.07923674137685158,0.0,0.2016794897135507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242221213715342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390835238191007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768898869349007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029445332980477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442482448229606,0.0,0.07908861010292757,0.0,0.0,0.17917442324068428,0.09236612901197866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078051652292572,0.0,0.0,0.1283281896626989
parenting,MyNameisCamilla,2020/02/05,"I feel horrible We have 4 kids, I had my twins 2 months ago and lately I’m so tired all the time, I barley sleep at all, I barley eat anything, I feel sadness all day long, I cry nonstop and I just can’t stop the tears, My husband work all day to provide to us all and I’m taking care of our kids all by myself and I feel like I’m falling apart, I feel like I’m letting everyone down because everyone expect me to be and stay strong and all powerful but right now I’m a complete mess and I don’t know what to do.",0.7136842105263135,2.131721421052632,3.036701754385966,93.59557894736844,80.40350877192982,5.963508771929827,22.803508771929828,6.742157984588678,0.4640624561403514,398,13,95,4,10,137,69,114,0.152,0.758,0.09,-0.6778,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,3,0,7,3,1,0,7,24,19,9,0,1,2,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,8,1,1,5,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,4,17,4,8,16,7,15,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,11,54,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066911264628314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915509229054674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048964055930012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18479866722105026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19003945186264054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909699788728832,0.23378531016812384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546621964629686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34638843180619605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665861728443848,0.2589731730429207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961145252253199,0.0,0.20446034263972052,0.0,0.0,0.18534262411762492,0.0,0.17710130980124522,0.0,0.0,0.1604024668481457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467375291174706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154788362903781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813830682301383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319069693728824,0.0,0.15153493012229105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362790747897083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568959796532527,0.20832270623628107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180240436158554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195373852158715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tacosarelife2019,2020/02/05,"Is this an appropriate chore list for a almost 4 year old Get dressed and put your dirty clothes in the hamper (morning and night). 

Help Make your bed. 

Help Clean up toy room 

Help set the dinner table. 

After every meal scrape your plate and put on counter. 

Help unload dishwasher (always begs us to let her help) 

Vacuum. (It’s her reward for cleaning the toy room right now). 

Obviously the dishwasher and vacuum wouldn’t be every day. Just a couple times a week.",2.6262068965517216,5.399115126436783,3.2650689655172407,87.14932758620691,81.64367816091955,6.238620689655173,19.044827586206893,7.554174236665415,0.6999848275862064,364,9,68,6,10,114,65,87,0.031,0.7859999999999999,0.183,0.9231,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,8,0,4,3,0,1,1,9,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,7,3,0,17,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,1,8,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669126872268946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513180214217573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062907004961776,0.0,0.12023743585066855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141650251606433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740644317644777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6248291234036218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064604069187607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444917443820032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495994188128652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956358873870924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37484445856346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921749610092475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871381308175483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22426261033520736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495497525138305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006030835680853
parenting,security-watch,2020/02/05,"securty for kids ​

Hey parents - guardians, anyone who cares for little ones!

On my downtime I have been working on a neighbourhood watch app. Let me know what you guys think / find useful.   I'm in the process with working with RCMP to get more neighbourhoods added to the app! 

What this app does is it takes all the crime data that isn't reported or advertised in the news and displays it per neighbourhood.  This will allow us to take extra precaution when dropping off kids if the area has a lot of car theft, or if the kids are walking home, what alternative route to take!  

I only support ios atm - i'm in the process of learning android so stay tuned!

Anywho - heres my app, its updated weekly based on the database released to me. 

[https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/whats-in-your-hood/id1496695806](https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/whats-in-your-hood/id1496695806)",9.523714285714282,11.989061085714289,6.642857142857146,72.37214285714288,59.57142857142857,8.457142857142857,32.57142857142857,8.841846274778883,2.734085714285716,712,26,108,10,10,199,99,140,0.024,0.894,0.081,0.8002,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,1,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,2,1,16,19,7,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,10,3,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,8,2,18,16,4,16,0,0,1,0,9,9,0,5,3,67,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057188912476746,0.23070702935766474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275817944496854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935802500686364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615233729921328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353337534831825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919674331957123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879964226647734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045030067729551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104344961892752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415005565029428,0.0,0.0,0.19029483417294726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614166240893014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865758976349742,0.14440105876534712,0.0,0.0,0.2108228625952872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237106677463335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154568065764728,0.0,0.0,0.42826505905518425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165796933540687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22838448739269385,0.16398259323652362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229843047186442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764482892070409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23070702935766474,0.0
parenting,ickmick,2020/02/05,"Babysitter asks: How to get him to nap? I'm babysitting a two year old every weekday since 6 months. Pick him up from daycare, make him a snack, go to the playground. Sometimes I am there for him on the weekends. I've known him since his first day and I love him. 

This week his parents asked me to be there for him full time. Yesterday went great, we had a lot of fun.
Today he just. won't. nap. And unfortunately I didn't sleep well, so I am tired. 
And I think he is, too, he lays on the ground and rubs his eyes. I think I tried everything. Singing songs while laying in bed together, one half song and he's running around. Ok, you need action? Let's dance! Put on some music. After three songs he seems tired - go to bed? No chance.
He needs a new diaper? Ok. Putting on pants? No chance, he fights it and I feel myself getting angry. I don't want to be angry at him so I leave the room.
He's wildly running around, half naked. I pick him up, tell him that it's too cold, and how I feel, and what I want from him - put on pants and then sleep - and ask if he wants that, too - no. He's not very verbal yet, so he can't tell me what he wants, I asked him though.

I feel defeated and like such a pushover! Help! 

So while I was typing this I didn't pay so much attention to him but made sure he was safe (sat in the bedroom with him with my back leaning a against the closed door). And he feel asleep on the floor. Picked him up, put pants on, put him to bed, he was fine with it all.
What can I do differently tomorrow?",-0.3458676955228697,1.7973294827586237,1.1015673981191227,101.73344747206819,89.59561128526646,4.4003215175628965,16.016477775098465,5.8734145424116955,-0.8664806526806528,1151,25,285,9,39,365,167,319,0.07200000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.099,0.8882,2,0,0,0,1,0,59.0,1,1,0,2,20,12,1,0,13,2,17,8,4,7,2,50,44,25,0,7,4,1,5,1,0,1,2,3,6,0,10,19,1,1,9,8,1,12,9,2,1,6,9,10,43,10,33,31,5,50,0,1,1,1,46,20,0,4,19,166,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786726347716642,0.3752696934407295,0.0,0.0,0.07716601519400086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472001423021419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484854856082658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845525553467605,0.0,0.090191685258087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296794786658293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536104307734371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486162390095907,0.0,0.11406695758859685,0.0,0.0,0.11064061587645294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726515659957799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626037354857554,0.0,0.10261874248413297,0.0,0.04902788495258067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531736405944733,0.09057338392237088,0.09495736117146604,0.06698706009151766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010158842275647,0.0,0.07377172127398023,0.14882240735711716,0.0,0.09692249804291896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530461936462526,0.0,0.06800245319707973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143121733326547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044173331023586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913584932418922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602769653868474,0.0,0.20085290642996206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992526510497919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458243735176043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542760145423805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860555496167062,0.09859727461820264,0.0,0.05851721204709055,0.23068427186281226,0.0951238377928162,0.0,0.0,0.06813376417780155,0.0,0.0980312552565031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280254240551851,0.2367655070459023,0.0,0.08049790851196285,0.0,0.09023027894409284,0.09302914372484487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646246720945301
parenting,agile_drunk,2020/02/05,"Fathers of r/Parenting who grew up not wanting children, what changed your mind? At what age did you realise you wanted children? Was there a eureka moment that changed your view?",5.098333333333333,7.884718000000002,4.42625,82.32708333333336,72.125,6.766666666666668,35.666666666666664,7.793537801064563,3.010029166666667,144,8,23,2,3,43,27,32,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,2,16,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7424598128856189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543321006773097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389658360928246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139668470278381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Icy-Zombie,2020/02/05,"Need advice So, I have an 10yr old who I recently found out he tried to tongue kiss a 4year old. he has never been molested to my knowledge I’ve asked, and he has never expressed any inappropriate behavior till now. I asked why he said because he sees moms and dad kiss and he wanted to try also, because he seen a title on Netflix. i peck my husband to greet him but never stick my tongue out, we also do not watch explicit movies either I asked if he had talked to someone about this curiosity he says no. Now idk what to do. I almost beat the living out him, I went off the wall calling him every name in the book, I feel ashamed that I would “raise” a child to behave that way. I basically feel like earth scum and I’m pretty sure I made him feel that way too. Now what.. how do we move forward with out making him feel like scum when I see him.",2.5565142857142864,3.9740525085714284,3.9170000000000016,89.24350000000004,75.34285714285714,6.6000000000000005,22.214285714285715,7.1686216300943375,0.5581999999999994,659,17,144,7,14,217,107,175,0.048,0.833,0.11800000000000001,0.8848,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,10,7,1,1,7,0,9,2,0,3,5,34,27,12,0,4,4,3,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,11,0,0,6,2,0,3,5,2,0,0,7,10,23,5,17,19,1,24,0,0,4,2,31,9,0,2,14,84,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323294041032944,0.0,0.0,0.13560208009223068,0.0,0.0,0.21658827261838126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208923286900353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797940898607359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509973782342366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382774429664234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409593816433708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738866771578335,0.1934860261842324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847941037083773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323172908716164,0.0,0.11957702839009235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813627174288952,0.09039290929372673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860052632094154,0.0,0.1439284488543013,0.0,0.10041111186792764,0.3133293176602672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28419790011481105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377693120493958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337094450559806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881401685250293,0.10769023722500784,0.0,0.0,0.2158220451081912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473966702678742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763034634803855,0.0,0.0,0.10884427157772184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18388056310427786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987334782659583,0.2149778255840445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255343187013188,0.1221941454185166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619742663331277,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawy_scum,2020/02/05,"I need help Yesterday's I slapped my 4 yo. 

I don't think I need to explain the context, because it really doesn't matter. It should have never happen, and it should never happen again. Please help me.",1.1744999999999983,3.726197450000005,2.870000000000001,88.73500000000001,87.0,5.2,20.5,6.742157984588678,0.5988500000000001,158,5,30,2,5,52,29,40,0.09,0.763,0.147,0.4741,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,2,10,11,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,20,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670313581016395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5126652841844699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3885898640802799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298724775983427,0.4471339462375416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181921481570101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18569927352480284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857381207778162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noonequestionsthedog,2020/02/05,"You guys are amazing. I really want to thank you I admit, I don’t have a child yet, but we are going to start trying after our very near wedding. I have been reading this sub for a little while now to get an unfiltered view on what’s waiting for me on the other side.    

You guys are doing a great job! Every time someone has a question, it floods with answers coming from studies to experience. It gives meaning to the phrase “it takes a village to raise a child.”     

For those of you who are running on coffee and no sleep, you got this. Anyone just sobbing a little because you lost a battle trying to feed your cub, it’s ok. You may think about it when they’re a teenager and emptying the fridge (no experience, just assuming). For anyone that made it to the end of the day and nothing is on fire, you did it. I may not know you, but I’m proud of you.    

Thank you for asking the questions today that I will need answers to a year from now. I look up to all of you.",2.0679233511586474,3.7231633383838414,3.612959001782532,89.90414438502674,77.23232323232324,5.870944741532978,22.758169934640517,6.522977012572876,0.4904690433749255,743,22,158,6,17,246,118,198,0.07,0.8029999999999999,0.127,0.8915,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,13,0,2,7,9,1,0,17,1,15,2,1,1,1,27,36,7,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,15,6,1,1,9,1,0,3,4,3,0,0,5,3,23,6,30,28,1,24,0,2,2,0,26,9,1,5,12,116,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078429548668831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894353894995576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059991637037278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802656494069414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095850296202592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163690327072405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522227584569284,0.0,0.0,0.29076591983926553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764999614678288,0.14257384950610275,0.08446654255130967,0.0,0.11886832821061535,0.16385867540252114,0.0,0.2943225958235363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748655859892956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816799586132161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29792093259913915,0.0,0.0,0.12480687335075208,0.0,0.16224084156070534,0.0,0.0,0.14063178605811325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618952950471521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102029410563935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260890239272667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329861759603485,0.0,0.14866439279436044,0.0,0.09521245095197896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487315075826711,0.0,0.1259287794643185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519695460136456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174688157622112,0.0,0.0,0.27366634038962345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952323688660448,0.0,0.0,0.0866639504699774,0.0,0.14087833781890954,0.0,0.0,0.20181211501622434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263050789305067,0.0876623879445627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570909456574746
parenting,daaanni96,2020/02/05,"Friend's rowdy kid I've been put in a hard situation and need advice! My friend has a daughter the same age as mine, 2, and she is very rude and disrespectful! She hurts my girl everytime we go hangout, and I'm at a loss. What do I do? I tried time out and just talking to her about why she hurts my lo, but she runs away and hides or just screams. She threw a toy at me today because I said we were tired and wanted a nap. I'm one straw away from not hanging out anymore but my daughter loves her! Please help!",1.6939041794087686,3.0639265045871578,2.990214067278288,95.19543323139654,77.53211009174312,5.945361875637107,22.202854230377174,6.42735559955562,0.1414456676860345,395,11,95,3,9,128,75,109,0.161,0.723,0.11599999999999999,-0.3214,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,3,8,1,0,6,0,6,2,0,0,0,20,14,11,0,2,6,2,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,11,0,0,0,3,0,5,1,5,0,1,4,3,18,3,11,10,1,15,0,3,0,1,19,7,0,1,3,57,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19125978900388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19410618517603026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677793612680843,0.0,0.0,0.11931188398632632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024326415388991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123478618246864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533077455843912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119005661342045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41905441022194223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766490701148453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512729200015131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262803709628673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21484680785209614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967572568972631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861788908587597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22000262231483092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731599909560712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412857338632144,0.22495660617920785,0.1855240111847696,0.0,0.0,0.13288413841033567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149327192651292,0.11544342510923405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17661098550713636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,centerofmydiscontent,2020/02/05,Four year old can't hear 'no' Is this the definition of a spoiled kid? I feel like a failure. I can't tell her no without her getting upset. At best she pouts and at worst she gets so mad she tries to hit me. If this happens she goes to her room but it's been at least a year of sending her to her room for poor behavior and it doesn't seem to be improving.  Any advice is very welcome. I'm so so tired of fighting with her.,-0.6417595307917878,1.3739400537634443,1.5373802541544492,99.09879765395893,89.32258064516128,4.672140762463343,20.282502443792765,6.1124844417494595,-0.1511849462365591,327,11,81,3,11,109,62,93,0.193,0.662,0.145,-0.7999,0,0,0,0,3,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,7,2,1,4,0,7,1,0,0,0,8,15,7,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,6,4,0,1,1,2,13,3,13,12,3,9,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,4,54,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574038650211223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912968495504286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764354022987236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318938779318426,0.18818210247710013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27524455239698153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329350016754595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29688528391633257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869015133209613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764073427827747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23980105060910945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302343309405215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027541763699629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883994855880694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734308390326745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539204657869954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392583155351641
parenting,coolmomcat,2020/02/05,"6 Months PP Unexpected news !!! Had my baby boy 6 months ago, was on the birth control pill and ran out so i decided to go in for a new one.. started feeling very dizzy and crampy. Turns out i am pregnant. I dont know how to feel, I wanted to enjoy my boy before having another . Im happy at the same time because He gets to have a close sibling. I go tomorrow to confirm !",0.5338461538461559,2.4979087307692325,3.3407051282051263,88.47721153846153,83.48717948717949,5.951282051282053,23.852564102564106,7.1686216300943375,1.0193025641025641,283,11,61,4,8,100,60,78,0.028999999999999998,0.845,0.126,0.8113,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,2,0,14,16,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,2,7,2,11,13,1,17,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,8,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21013416508729574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485719029890667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450598492342548,0.0,0.20171558736470507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26587634097752905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778256509027205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23972336093244714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238509881909826,0.0,0.2694466267398213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523485076165097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560591170006729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302787391067308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784286572252874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894833617857605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063399963792355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16778811884848666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822815761576532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578467993864622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559446669136346,0.13982065567127774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wyld_dear333,2020/02/05,"Weekend get-away and leaving behind 10 month old baby? My husband and I love to travel and take several trips per year. We have a happy, healthy 5 and a half month old baby girl who is breastfed. This June, we're planning to go to the States to catch a baseball game (go Jays!) and will be away for 4 days. We're not bringing our LO, who will be 10 months old by then, she is going to stay at home under the care of my mom. We've just recently started the baby on solids and surely she will be eating more and more by the time we are gone, but I'm worried about the breastfeeding, is she going to reject it when we come back? I plan to take my pump so I don't lose my supply.

In addition to that, will this be bad for her mentally and emotionally? If she doesn't see us or hear us or feel our touch for that long, will she be sad enough that it's not worth going without her?

We're excited to go and are looking forward to a break, and we'd bring her but we don't have anyone to watch her. The ball games are in the evenings and she would need to be in bed by then. Also, it just wouldn't feel like a good, enjoyable time if we had her with as we want time just the two of us and feel we need it.

Any advice would be really helpful!",4.3237861635220165,3.647531667924529,5.281886792452834,88.66031446540882,70.0566037735849,8.425157232704404,26.345911949685537,7.554174236665415,1.072979874213837,952,23,226,9,15,314,141,265,0.098,0.8170000000000001,0.085,-0.7599,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,13,0,0,3,9,12,0,0,13,0,28,2,0,0,1,44,53,24,0,8,12,2,4,1,0,8,0,1,2,1,11,22,1,0,3,5,1,14,7,4,0,2,2,8,31,8,32,35,3,44,0,3,3,1,34,8,0,4,22,149,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437083698531988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854137424995112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726326123585608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746821329323519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069790917053448,0.0821282047999859,0.08917961669675163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889713936380542,0.0,0.0,0.0920050135728393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888185906702443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092905109750724,0.0,0.12014381310900638,0.0,0.1103604706848939,0.0,0.07054520051521218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201490852201786,0.07630314152268257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05580239501641778,0.0,0.3642062284878447,0.08958487826328647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369833466411736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037956605053025,0.0,0.0715906677729129,0.0,0.10713640946005927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309348680219113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05218064151910142,0.0,0.0,0.0945210809651933,0.08969121433460936,0.119490025057294,0.0,0.0,0.09639773941291356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763661598212997,0.0,0.0,0.12509139439264524,0.2557576535052091,0.0,0.0,0.15839248818957372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33622881745881056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842347794145719,0.0,0.10545930277477844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511157304933631,0.0,0.0,0.12066182388790077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559874187363658,0.11384234834878812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066459652967953,0.0,0.16061156309091468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684055007551886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433519196585003,0.0,0.385428017733968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299770048820046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295840561568986,0.0,0.0,0.10846797646414888,0.0,0.15174565322935354,0.0,0.0,0.06878038591947566
parenting,bluemundane,2020/02/05,"How can I teach my daughter how to keep her vagina clean?? She’s 4, will be 5 in May. She wipes front to back already. I just reiterated how to wash her hands properly and if she has an itch, she needs to clean her hands first. She keeps coming home from school with a red, itchy vagina and asks me to clean it. I usually just wipe it out with a plain warm water towel and occasionally if she says it REALLY hurts, I’ll put coconut oil on it (extra virgin coconut oil kills bacteria, it’s what I use on my own). She drinks plenty of water, wears cotton underwear and mostly cotton pants. What else can I do? Thanks!!!",1.4955210918114157,3.76318098387097,3.165483870967744,89.3566873449132,81.90322580645163,6.073449131513648,17.602977667493796,7.321109707123232,0.1946694789081884,478,10,101,7,13,158,81,124,0.075,0.8140000000000001,0.111,0.5559,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,3,0,7,11,6,4,0,21,14,9,1,3,4,1,3,0,0,2,2,1,4,0,7,8,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,7,18,2,13,11,3,10,0,1,1,3,13,4,0,4,3,64,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25466861502938004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21574572945993592,0.0,0.0,0.17745358635176492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879430776071152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22607400787325105,0.0,0.0,0.1927849167136169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19629915048379695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23148856271532603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470519947743624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102511383484429,0.2553210161090338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111852833549485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319950422526553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784192082297334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352346236621744,0.0,0.2335590636195433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124688369181964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19931758933253388,0.2541687175699073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BradburySauce,2020/02/05,"Parent cuddling/sleeping with toddler in the crib? Looking for advice (x-post from r/toddlers) Hi Parents (and all other interested parties)!. I'm looking for some advice. My SO and I have a bit of a difference of opinion, and I'd like to know if anyone has more information on this.  We want to consolidate the comments/advice, so if you could visit the original post, we would appreciate that.  Thank you <3

[Original Post - Please visit and comment here!](https://www.reddit.com/r/toddlers/comments/ez3evw/parent_cuddlingsleeping_with_toddler_in_the_crib/)",7.918775252525251,11.70835948863636,6.593787878787879,65.2037373737374,67.75,8.002020202020201,34.77777777777778,8.841846274778883,3.826094444444444,457,22,58,9,9,137,63,88,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.9311,3,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,2,1,19,10,8,0,5,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,10,8,4,8,0,0,2,0,11,2,0,4,3,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5145568575777697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227296971352298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162555355084854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014075818250435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18338407884672125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646279893430626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575162597139868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947900692913681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897948312288699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19267144248278065,0.0,0.0,0.5043072754192574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564966675707944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159790979509803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352795772633104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468643657577222,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Vickij8402,2020/02/05,"Proud Mom Moment To give the introduction, my husband and I along with our kids (3 year old son, 1 year old daughter) went up north to my uncle's house to watch the Superbowl with my family. My older cousin (Ram fan) was also there along with my mother. Mother and uncle are siblings. My cousin is a die hard Ram fan. He was sporting his gear along with those Mardi gras inspired necklaces. He let my son and daughter play with them. While changing my daughter, my son went to grab the necklace my daughter had. Thus began the tug of war. 🤦🏻‍♀️ And boom. Beads everywhere. As a parent you don't want to see your kids responsible for damaged property. No matter it's worth.  He picked up the mess and ran off. A little while later my son came back with his uncle in tow to the mini trash can to show him the broken necklace. He says sorry and tries to give back the dollar his uncle had just given him. I. Was. Stunned. And super proud. This small act from my kid gave me a small ray of hope that maybe we're not doing too bad at parenting after all. Anyone else have some reassuring moments from their littles?",1.9785177865612624,4.358118409090913,3.0513438735177867,90.22266798418974,80.81818181818181,5.280632411067193,20.019762845849804,6.498293943080001,0.21248616600790493,870,23,173,8,23,278,143,220,0.099,0.769,0.132,0.8372,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,2,2,3,6,11,1,0,12,0,12,0,0,2,1,27,24,11,2,2,2,16,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,17,0,0,1,3,2,5,3,4,0,0,12,6,25,7,29,11,2,29,0,1,2,0,38,10,0,2,14,101,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290114513522254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074595186902095,0.15746755516804584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363472228810513,0.12831983114208712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757737055162426,0.0,0.0,0.1625774342633283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949986580924547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838337228163027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448797224650237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948556472467153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767079596745405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526430201807165,0.0,0.1773308547334143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571524377713114,0.0,0.0,0.3080637498186656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439636752140634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999299840427713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225312889463582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34129608342170353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222157904934876,0.0,0.0,0.12246635595066495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720368038878505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043414377907891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064688309296264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28493346081292303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793508503375726
parenting,spyder3418,2020/02/05,"Call to Internet Sleuths I saw a post on IG/FB/random social media about leaving a note in/on your kids dresser/drawer for them to bring to you when they are scared to tell you something (or something similar). It’s supposed to calm the room and make them feel more secure in the conversation or something. 

My son is getting to an age where these sorts of talks may happen and I would love to do this but can’t fully remember the idea. Anyone seen what I’m failing to describe? 

I saved it at the time but it’s since disappeared. 

Any help is greatly appreciated",4.474797297297297,5.745098315315317,5.129358108108106,83.00052364864867,70.35135135135134,7.712162162162162,29.190315315315317,8.07648339933343,1.914269369369369,447,17,87,6,8,144,84,111,0.075,0.767,0.157,0.8586,0,0,3,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,3,1,3,7,0,1,7,0,7,1,0,1,0,14,16,7,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,3,10,5,14,12,1,11,0,1,2,1,15,5,0,4,3,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790354678615025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207703514394794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22208594444853388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099716267230188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363176779799802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397881761620441,0.0,0.0,0.19232944515636755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14578180980371622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24552453241912786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302950048647841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19629705029680816,0.0,0.14517909936201656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20829936855130285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463785849319317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177496843535955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991348940904353,0.0,0.0,0.22170799606543848,0.0,0.502313093586101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481363794831467,0.19009955913552656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682264500884555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450167351276128,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PurplTreeFrog,2020/02/05,"Advice needed Hey, just need some advice regarding my currently ill 2year old.
He has a fairly bad cold which seems worse in the night. Managing the temperature with paracetamol but when he wakes up and cries for myself/my partner his face has been covered in snot (its in his eyes, over his cheeks, on his forehead, etc).
During the day hes fairly easy to manage and perks up quite a bit but the face full of snot by night is beginning to affect his sleep now (this has been happening the last 3 days).
Anyone have any advice on how to sort out the snot issue?",3.0760550458715588,5.273888577981655,3.708706422018349,87.88709633027523,76.06422018348623,6.928807339449541,20.074311926605503,7.908726449838941,0.7700488073394491,441,10,87,7,10,139,78,109,0.087,0.879,0.034,-0.5994,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,8,0,8,8,7,2,0,14,13,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,7,0,16,11,4,20,0,0,1,0,10,10,0,3,10,52,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5452496227988262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648138642077106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300503920678664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529610176479666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305581249867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430420291943974,0.2398997571787197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074309802828232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447269454658486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194128014109108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160884160293273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27582240063119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490830229068809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516800881339594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782608766835227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693207318139917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612698117537388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895424098290061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sillychucky,2020/02/05,"Is biting at daycare normal? My toddler came home with a some other kid’s teeth etched into his skin. 
His daycare provider did not notify me there was a fight. She said he had a good day. I took a pic of the bite and sent it to her, asking for an explanation. She hasn’t responded yet. 
My husband is very upset and wants to pull out of daycare right away. 

I’m trying to be rational. I know toddlers get into fights all the time. What would you do? Would you immediately start looking for another daycare, or is this normal behavior to expect at this age?",2.1959090909090904,4.492606045454547,3.864545454545453,85.16681818181819,79.45454545454545,6.545454545454546,23.63636363636364,7.686295010490155,1.2701818181818183,435,15,85,7,11,145,84,110,0.08,0.893,0.027000000000000003,-0.7034,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,2,4,2,1,7,0,11,2,2,0,1,18,22,3,0,6,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,5,7,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,7,3,12,1,15,12,2,16,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,2,5,58,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24295407923090725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21660503724355326,0.0,0.21768657563613492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649991771397649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942513437955485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210519066553618,0.0,0.0,0.1943361090159076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23241057365967985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273343878468499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945667834193286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540269336045117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19786762402355945,0.22039651745022568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639960407050234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510414633950046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574234394871461,0.15730677734152906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911739540399734,0.13666065330630375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32918122321940096,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bectherebel,2020/02/05,"How do you set out your star/chore/behaviour chart for 4-5 year olds? I have an extremely independent, strong natured and smart almost 5 year old daughter - with a terrible smart attitude and who OCCASIONALLY refuses to do anything I ask. I think a rewards system or behaviour chart or something along those lines would be fantastic!
I have no idea how to manage it, though. Would love to hear some of the things anyone else with a testing 5 year old has put on their charts ect :)

Tia!",6.028498168498168,7.060065274725275,6.14478021978022,78.02105311355312,66.58241758241758,10.022710622710623,31.650183150183143,10.125756701596842,3.1252622710622706,384,15,72,9,6,122,69,91,0.052000000000000005,0.6859999999999999,0.262,0.97,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,1,2,3,6,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,3,0,18,12,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,7,5,10,9,1,11,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,4,6,43,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189246105218505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399403483561792,0.19635034038719448,0.1576973784201205,0.0,0.1791506997210312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600845254798836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159839727861311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632998512120624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295598754080718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6032588265807003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926437860689683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752820962668445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731224631942106,0.12279049207598082,0.18827814819240127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722607342158468,0.0,0.0,0.3702155146767002
parenting,turquoise-lily,2020/02/05,"Aggressive Toddler First ever post on Reddit. I've been a longtime lurker, but finally made an account just to make this post. Sorry in advance it's so long.

I have a 6 year old daughter and 16 month old son. The problem right now is with my son. He is very aggressive at daycare (and at home, but daycare is the main issue). This has been going on since he was 11 months. He mostly pulls hair but also pushes, hits, and bites the other kids. He occasionally pulls his older sister's and my hair and hits me. We have tried separating him, positive redirection, and even smacking his hand (I have done this, not daycare).

This past week my daycare provider finally told me that I need to find a new daycare because of how mean my son is to the other kids, which I totally don't blame her. I know I would be upset if my child was getting bitten at daycare. It's just so defeating. I feel like I've failed because nothing we have tried is working. The idea of finding another daycare gives me so much anxiety. My daughter went to this same daycare from 18 months until preschool, and she is super reasonably priced. It will be virtually impossible to find a daycare for what we pay now and we already struggle financially. 

Anyway, I'm sorry for the venting. I am just so stressed and frustrated about his behavior and don't know what to do. When he starts screaming and hitting me at home, I even catch myself resenting him, and that makes me so angry with myself. He is really a sweet little boy. He loves cuddles and attention, so I'm sure some of the behavior is attention-seeking, but there is only so much individual attention he can get at daycare. And I know that he doesn't have much impulse control right now, so I guess I just want reassurance that he will eventually grow out of this. Or is there anything that isn't obvious that I could try?",4.723956043956044,6.123769899159665,5.696652661064428,78.67642049127345,69.89635854341736,8.629562594268476,31.65794009911657,9.057496981413335,2.7813168282697696,1462,64,271,28,26,482,186,357,0.13,0.7709999999999999,0.099,-0.8407,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,4,0,0,7,26,17,4,3,13,0,34,5,3,6,4,62,58,32,0,6,11,6,4,1,0,3,0,1,2,4,20,21,0,1,12,0,3,8,5,11,0,1,8,6,37,6,26,41,8,43,0,2,0,2,35,12,0,5,22,184,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115822540156267,0.0839339885515112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100564525420015,0.08029173504199275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637057914644873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796149428408793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771807895810928,0.08379953778105863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074073406924999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864607448717675,0.09493951764046014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05306935815837443,0.07498122456167787,0.0,0.2299502897001573,0.28778609329156,0.08927627865305562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967128818835492,0.10068421450884237,0.0596494204127686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562184939859195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105606405227377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848355558507673,0.0,0.10954772651175328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304468882425175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05127663581653541,0.10519437887241076,0.0,0.09288354655170858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472769275179987,0.09931274888969467,0.14011908072539947,0.0,0.0,0.1143288244721348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513267693590459,0.0,0.2314661761760781,0.07782420545748323,0.0,0.10136802024771058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070896850382967,0.0,0.2202692048486808,0.0,0.0,0.0798244458466684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019322946104957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103937939654906,0.0,0.0,0.10042957083311964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723807254114539,0.10791316544324027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926522445626975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868214255938883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349812951225806,0.07428902831376083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022776508628942,0.10972373202307324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892062852430293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029080806189633,0.0,0.2137765201946127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660042781199999,0.061906294195906576,0.0,0.0841900877990748,0.0,0.0,0.0972960903313842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640986735101142,0.0,0.0,0.07455836466226169,0.0,0.0,0.0675887972519976
parenting,pm_me_ur_fave_murder,2020/02/05,"3 year old refuses to eat what’s for dinner. Dinner is the most stressful time of my life when i have my son. He just turned 3 and is a very picky eater. Only wants cereal, pancakes, Mac and cheese, or yogurt. He’ll eat select other things, lots of fruits which I’m grateful for. But thats kind of it. Having him eat anything else results in frustration and tears. I’m at my wits end. I cook meals with things i know he likes (he’ll eat broccoli, and he likes beans and rice too). But he just sits there crying. He’ll have maybe 2 bites and say “my tummy’s full” and then an hour later he’s hungry asking for a snack. I don’t give in usually, but i feel so bad i don’t know what to do. 

Any tips or advice?",0.540618101545256,2.4041621788079475,2.245933774834437,96.89018101545254,82.84105960264901,5.086269315673289,16.02693156732892,6.079149491110277,-0.6781447240618106,543,9,128,4,15,178,98,151,0.1,0.8590000000000001,0.040999999999999995,-0.8513,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,1,1,4,0,8,11,0,1,0,23,20,15,0,1,7,1,1,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,8,8,10,1,3,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,11,3,12,17,3,14,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,4,11,65,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393042922447614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712158222531848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962866127191364,0.0,0.14726348404407502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315257889340875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303249190521888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6447446719976558,0.1315909175929534,0.0,0.13951932670580566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964876374124255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111117775261618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155129207184157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640367919311659,0.17314191610292054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126371484108524,0.15391633866792806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392109728504206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825382457310488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529472435022688,0.0,0.0,0.11980394428444036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526924421416952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804429747938146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093036196193484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918533915551752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713406547103698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349020524325034,0.129973627985174,0.0929116155087234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144015926881143
parenting,_ToWhomItMayConcern_,2020/02/05,"The birds and the bees Kids start talking about sex with their friends so young now. When did you guys know it was time for ""the talk"" and what kind of things did you say or words did you use? I'm most worried about how to phrase things appropriately.",2.2216000000000022,4.524677960000002,1.5259999999999998,101.93299999999999,79.4,4.800000000000002,18.0,5.6839178017228535,-0.8521999999999994,198,4,47,1,5,56,41,50,0.047,0.894,0.059000000000000004,0.1548,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,1,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,2,0,9,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,2,6,4,1,5,0,0,0,1,10,0,0,2,5,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23770488483656926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30464142323671306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203906980424244,0.16908724776785305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24467133333030824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177702318794569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4945865797777834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088042200970912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940470483155924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26572787865597103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124535647111149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HugsAndTugs3715,2020/02/05,"How to be a better mom? I am a single mother to a 4 year old daughter and I feel like I am a horrible mother. I love my daughter but I have zero patience for her. She is sweet and funny, although she can be quite whiny which drives me absolutely insane. I never want to play with her, which I fee bad about, but I’m literally exhausted 24/7. I know I’m depressed, which I’m sure is part of the issue, but I take antidepressants already and am not a fan of therapy after trying multiple therapists over the years. I’m scared my resentfulness towards her is going to ruin her life. Two seconds ago she asked me to find a tv show for her on Netflix and I literally responded with “You are so fucking annoying.” And now I hate myself for letting that come out of my mouth. She wasn’t even being annoying/whiny/etc. she just made a simple request. Would she be better off if I just killed myself and she lived with someone else who isn’t a horrible mother?",2.3210005817335637,4.437716984293201,4.364040139616055,82.67414630599188,78.10994764397904,7.176381617219312,24.74723676556137,8.167268648758528,1.6684971495055267,748,27,145,14,18,256,115,191,0.26899999999999996,0.636,0.095,-0.9919,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,3,7,17,5,1,10,0,17,5,1,2,2,27,32,13,1,3,7,6,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,11,0,0,3,4,1,3,4,10,0,3,2,2,32,7,21,24,2,15,0,2,0,2,24,5,1,1,8,109,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705694243608394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830705455447159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509052180071972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385163699504342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934433565900568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429048584127222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288612553980218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385849601902568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501807886687094,0.1095728536939162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838820866530256,0.11851625484639725,0.0,0.0,0.1516260911678214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336833316848322,0.0,0.0,0.0942826147799763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378811931463685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731524971618822,0.0,0.0,0.18353952921415,0.0,0.09117219481898703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964007055807215,0.11717736887866785,0.08104848745300916,0.0,0.14648935481222836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14972776772868845,0.15697496440892916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429558575282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794935115818426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740801205186089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964938238841113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645099415836196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609100397888407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056328393854495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635517408906047,0.0,0.12473327154493705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897167249491729,0.19261823632316352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263260767687197,0.0,0.16205644949489534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784985751310232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784787723724915,0.0,0.0,0.2136633848461642
parenting,PinkoCanuck112,2020/02/05,"How to stimulate the child in the womb? I have read that once children are able to hear and see in the womb they can react to outside stimulus.    If this is true, how might I go about encouraging this.  I have heard that when the child hears your voice enough it will gravitate towards the people it has heard the most.  I've tried reading to my child in waiting and also playing music for them.  Does this even hold weight scientifically?  If so, is there anything other than I have listed to create interaction between child and parent?",5.730357142857143,7.117453150000002,5.675428571428572,79.81700000000002,67.5,8.114285714285714,28.285714285714285,8.418075326091056,1.9397714285714285,425,14,78,6,7,133,69,100,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.8895,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,0,8,3,0,0,6,0,10,3,2,4,1,14,17,10,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,5,8,3,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,8,3,13,13,2,6,0,0,1,2,15,4,0,4,1,59,16,2,0.2206227759228148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764319541966615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18155374630568547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193068477960706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22796230371372184,0.0,0.1457192627540638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538500781080195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4973158056799275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23404590052592836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349560560093221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449754837170376,0.0,0.0,0.15295205382674584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413649591584945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580778828339302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978838279223142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686591049521045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Columbusquill1977,2020/02/05,"What children need My name is Mat Vandeneynden. I was a preschool teacher for many, years. I've written many essays about children and working with children. This is one.

WHAT CHILDREN NEED
by Mat Vandeneynden

Children,  especially the very young,  are at the same time so much stronger and capable than we give them credit for and so much more fragile than we could possibly guess. 

They need adults who challenge them to try and to grow and to become. 
AND 
They need adults who can support them,  step in when needed,  and protect them when things go wrong. 

They need adults with unlimited compassion who understand and sympathize with how very,  very hard it is when the berries are 'all gone.' 
AND 
They need adults who can recognize and not give in when tears are used only as a power tool for getting what the child wants. 

They need adults who understand that a child's sense of time is very different than an adults and sometimes things have to be allowed to happen very,  very slowly.  And that the more we can respect a child's pace,  the more they will learn and grow. 
AND 
They need adults who understand that,  sadly,  a child's process is slower than the world sometimes demands.  And who can speed the plow without making the child feel frustrated or disrespected. 

BUT MOST OF ALL 

Children need adults who love them unquestioningly. Who love them in quiet moments of tenderness. Who love them through their screaming power games.  Who love them even when the adult does not feel like loving.  Even on hard days.  Who love them even when the child is not showing love in return.  Especially when the child not showing love in return.  Adults who know that,  the moment a child enters an environment,  ALL decisions must then be made with the child's ultimate good in mind. 

It is by raising our children ('our' = by birth or proximity)  surrounded by love and  (hopefully)  nothing but love that we can  reach into the future and ensure that it will be a warn and healthy place.",7.008195287830943,8.08427597206704,5.708367743502553,81.85976803497695,64.41899441340782,8.907651202331795,31.487005100801554,8.964715089967882,2.477420548943405,1570,57,286,24,23,462,162,358,0.051,0.8109999999999999,0.138,0.9855,5,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,6,0,17,4,14,22,1,0,24,0,24,11,0,5,4,71,64,34,0,14,9,0,5,1,0,3,1,2,0,26,28,27,0,1,8,3,1,6,5,4,0,1,4,7,25,18,36,53,10,38,0,1,0,10,76,12,0,5,21,188,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481669744995112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05408718373736277,0.0,0.0,0.04368855849704301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077689956673805,0.0,0.0,0.059282257754392075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423061577340267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850567918489654,0.04839553268558252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03539286296813916,0.1299703018367414,0.038499844356204224,0.05681952037107145,0.0,0.0,0.0746264284752279,0.0,0.059904812087922824,0.0,0.12136864308400168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672839729929254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03722971958654255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033095753225856894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6114060123182606,0.0640999585307215,0.04521890373730715,0.13736131142475352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840100550070279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959763447645248,0.5023049304628265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500112802171239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045904334073154224,0.05152151889574988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077689956673805,0.0,0.0,0.07636992760520131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339988967230819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687382645362965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900107292591671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790028454724808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045992974156609134,0.0,0.0,0.21156820630477916,0.0,0.05850810477600939,0.0,0.33536986299658983,0.039956510469322234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530172657109236,0.0,0.04931762923990514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406621351421723,0.0,0.04362419880056255
parenting,Hibirddog,2020/02/05,"Baby is hating purées. What gives? My first baby devoured purées as soon as she was offered them. My second is throwing me for a loop-and I’m a little worried. She is 6 months this Friday, and we started stage one purées two weeks ago. She will take 3 or 4 spoon fulls and seem to be enjoying it, and then begin to flail, arch backwards and cry, almost like she’s trying to get out of her chair. She is miserable. At first I thought it was because I was taking the spoon from her (she likes to grab it when it from me and chew on it), so I experimented w letting her hold it. That wasn’t the problem-and now I’ve realized it’s more of a reaction to the eating process itself. Any ideas? I do plan to bring it up at her 6 month appt.",2.297445887445889,3.504055129870132,3.743571428571428,91.08059523809523,75.62337662337663,6.432034632034633,23.222943722943725,6.816661863887847,0.5285904761904763,566,16,128,5,12,187,100,154,0.08,0.863,0.057,-0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,3,4,5,1,1,6,0,12,3,1,0,0,14,23,11,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,7,2,1,4,0,0,2,1,2,0,5,5,1,20,3,18,15,2,23,0,1,0,0,14,8,0,3,14,86,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249445960389553,0.0,0.1948562227545999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232953403825318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862174705640928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375066117986805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911664915394345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903487485286275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310404650639395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016665199137748,0.18667080269515596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19211975077610616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21967118217225587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989839569172304,0.0,0.19013607672410696,0.1950327490652144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106436628217305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186087540807598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619868758177607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771496516445678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773353265377075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926185994805568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544846634840386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211549535271966,0.0,0.1900885413355964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609032006748924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761807151744648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FabulousTooth,2020/02/05,"What's your biggest problem with parenting? Out of curiosity, I want to know what your biggest pain is parenting. Is it sleep? Discipline? Tantrums? Whining? Teenagers? Mess? No time for yourself? Anything...

Mine is sleep, and my daughter's at the age where tantrums are all the rage. 

Oh and the fact that when i have things to do, I'm in a blanket tent talking about ""night animals"" with my almost-3-year-old.

 I love being a dad, but there are very unpleasant aspects to it.

You?",1.7838798701298693,4.548311965909093,2.0137012987012994,91.82090909090911,94.11363636363636,5.2415584415584435,29.01298701298701,6.868970318607317,1.8418805194805192,375,20,70,6,14,113,66,88,0.21899999999999997,0.74,0.040999999999999995,-0.9246,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,0,0,4,8,3,0,5,0,8,4,2,0,2,12,12,4,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,9,1,11,11,1,10,0,1,0,1,9,6,0,0,4,47,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319689062740305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063223325094106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273114672796449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20907757940774535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173924181759951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430828347550772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464971320384067,0.0,0.514450673731385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216624406314213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636443696238529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619542277599835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390121306524246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507982719273887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19113954216164647,0.13663605398367495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917815175288354
parenting,ta_dad_dad,2020/02/05,"On a scale of 9 to 11 how bad a dad am I? I have a five year old daughter..my now 10 year old daughter has always been pretty easy and it’s always been a relaxed time. 5yo has horrendous temper tantrums when she is tired (but otherwise an affectionate and lovely person). We have an otherwise calm and respectful home and are otherwise calm and measured people holding down positions of authority at work. Maybe I’m a control freak, and I’m on some neurological meds which can cause mood issues although that’s usually not the case.

Last night she scratched and bit me; called me a “fucking idiot” a few times...not something she is learning from home and I was pretty surprised...wouldn’t stay in her room, wouldn’t let us go into another room, then started punching me in the stomach- I tried to push her back to keep her out of my space, she tumbled down and landed on her butt, and suddenly was acting like a five-year-old again, enormously upset with me and with herself clearly...at which point I left the room and house and drove off for a coffee leaving my wife there. 

It gets worse though. When I came back I told her if she kept hitting me and I ended up pushing her off me she would be taken away, or I would. Which is possibly true, but not really something a five year old needs to be told now that I can calmly reflect. My wife does agree, she works in child protection...

So in future my wife and I have resolved I will literally make a bee-line for the door when this happens and come back when our daughter has had something to eat and cаlmed down. She gets angry too but only up to a point.

Having looked at this sub a bit I feel even worse (and I felt pretty bad, like maybe-I-need-to-move-out-I-am-such-a-bad-person bad) as it seems like a pretty common thing for a child to use physical violence that I wouldn’t have expected. Daughter is back to normal although last night she could barely look at me, whether out of anger or embarassment I don’t know...she was so incredibly out of control I don’t know how much she even remembers...

Not sure what I am asking exactly to be honest...",5.225921416712783,5.620023026378899,5.6908992805755405,82.82790398450474,68.136690647482,8.71754288876591,29.467718133185762,8.617729084823388,2.0507794502859262,1650,56,333,24,26,531,213,417,0.109,0.78,0.111,-0.6041,0,0,3,0,0,0,66.0,3,0,0,5,22,25,5,1,21,0,35,7,2,7,3,67,63,38,0,9,10,7,3,3,0,5,2,0,6,3,13,27,1,6,8,1,0,7,7,10,0,2,13,5,49,14,43,39,5,68,0,0,2,3,35,31,2,5,32,217,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168786436556013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297651060357827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397747848697872,0.0,0.07434685809231123,0.2433896401961033,0.26428673162295285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278269194288845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080233607137463,0.09050560954351716,0.0,0.08129007678522003,0.0,0.06816497208318012,0.0,0.0,0.17750591085375322,0.06318024136396096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924870356922863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097150731546161,0.0,0.0,0.07008721854500875,0.0,0.0,0.10453151272924452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040011376509459184,0.0,0.07597886305658211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315600228706304,0.08268611787024646,0.0,0.04497238145567599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997592081991129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875113923341655,0.0,0.0,0.09130738327091527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825929591636743,0.0,0.07033591079045286,0.0,0.0,0.08697745036281057,0.12900583072286728,0.0,0.08378906834851693,0.08597684797072877,0.08091754753630016,0.0,0.1159792874640259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290143403728644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714194690136183,0.0,0.05282103919866772,0.0,0.07949845122050131,0.0,0.08789750466443122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410449777684169,0.0581709210083624,0.11735033903429636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485195219659298,0.07753228673872023,0.0,0.0,0.3321417252621893,0.0,0.0,0.060183240729961326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054859972728995635,0.1381895355689959,0.0,0.0,0.14961011068362026,0.08920912729482243,0.0,0.3220216403695131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050693807680611006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964081572065957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203854813255589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275839788862394,0.0,0.0,0.05600984043397005,0.0843438873136545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745807119171586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257160021082665,0.0,0.0777465155266511,0.0,0.04614234371702956,0.09095027420172357,0.0,0.15122750381970532,0.0,0.053725245196186086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518571886705426,0.06834440113291856,0.08715241262554152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521767278569245,0.0,0.16128397116340806,0.11242581044709918,0.0,0.0,0.2038329392717127
parenting,ljluckey,2020/02/05,"Any other toddler parents with anxiety disorders? Hi everyone! My wife (41f) and I (43f) have a fantastic 3 year old son. Most of the time, he’s a good kid, but like all toddlers, he tests limits and tries our patience. My wife is a social worker with a ridiculous amount of patience. I have anxiety, depression, and PTSD issues. I’m in therapy, but sometimes the typical toddler defiance and not listening triggers my anxiety in a MAJOR way. 

Any other parents out there with anxiety who can help me with coping with toddler behavior? I feel like his behavior is pretty normal, it’s my reaction that needs work. Thanks in advance!",3.758014492753624,6.574138939130435,5.283152173913045,74.25400362318842,77.0,9.05072463768116,33.061594202898554,9.516144504307137,4.078463768115944,498,27,78,15,12,167,77,115,0.122,0.6970000000000001,0.18100000000000002,0.8623,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,4,1,6,1,0,7,0,5,0,0,1,1,20,10,6,0,2,3,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,10,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,4,11,10,4,9,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,1,5,48,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310943812275779,0.0,0.5199342778026875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634648165883507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947359017704712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235988932309867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591350776358114,0.12138643168206455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251560929270352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388961881873187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734583154488384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602257129876613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598890794594872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16647941909922734,0.0,0.0,0.17829591969409114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773382686712572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286338982480834,0.0,0.0,0.1986201051648241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320569140248132,0.0,0.0,0.1680490638280968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643377135284095,0.19431120483713013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907808605948984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536029681887147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486964228398102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236992486753755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094188974381686
parenting,CoolRanchCutie,2020/02/05,"""I love Nana more than you"" ""I don't love you. I love Nana more than you."" These were words my 3 year old just said to me. Obviously he is a child and I should just let it roll off my back but I cannot stop crying. I work full time and can't put in the time with him that my mom can. Plus she is a retired teacher and knows everything to do with him. I do try to do fun stuff with him on my days off, like the playground, library, toy shopping, etc. 

I'm just sad",0.25134843581445665,1.5368899708737869,1.9335275080906165,101.58393743257822,81.33009708737866,5.3544768069039925,18.240560949298814,5.82211442006289,-0.7203238403451997,349,7,95,2,9,114,66,103,0.038,0.7659999999999999,0.195,0.9434,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,12,3,0,0,1,16,18,5,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,7,0,1,1,2,1,1,3,1,0,0,2,1,19,5,13,14,4,13,0,1,0,3,14,5,0,0,8,64,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266324561744747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232369675627131,0.1364275133895015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359259815244412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012089991823608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625831206411155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21631669941339446,0.0,0.10334905686260694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5727765218274496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477562033685575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22197843339837944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21265879893330455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122550975302486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685913365017605,0.0,0.0,0.24216573132631625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467044491576689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436235781960735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400557388317174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622653552125874
parenting,PomegranateGold,2020/02/06,"My daughter came home from Kindergarten and said that she has no friends - *SOB* She's 6 and was always (I thought) a very social girl. At the beginning of the year she said that her only friend was ""Leo"", a boy she'd known before school, but after a few months she picked up a couple of others (through reciprocated birthday party invitations and the like). She's had a handful of invitations to birthday parties, but not lately. One day  some weeks ago I drove by the playground while school was in session and saw her mostly running around on her own before linking up with a small group. I'd assumed that things were normal at school. 

Today she came home sad and told me that ""Rita"", a girl she'd never mentioned before, had told her that they weren't friends anymore and that Rita had been her only friend and now she had none at school. I held her and told her I was sorry that this had made her sad. I asked, ""Your only friend? Are you not friends with Leo or X or X?"" She shook her head, indicating that they weren't her friends. She's a little perked up, now, but I don't know what I should do going forward. 

I tried a little pep talk later, saying that the world is a big place with many different people and that helped me whenever I was sad at school. She said, ""I know"". I don't know if I should drop it or look for resources on helping kids be more popular or e-mail the teacher and ask for her input or what. I was a loner at school, largely, but I had some friends. My daughter is way more charming and neurotypical than I am, and I'm at a loss.",3.6274788165022898,4.811821632587865,4.231768301152936,88.96147103764412,72.29073482428116,6.593638005278512,25.11029309626337,6.7026698264267655,0.7740160855674394,1213,36,256,9,23,385,156,313,0.078,0.7709999999999999,0.151,0.9813,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,2,2,1,3,17,0,1,18,0,29,2,2,2,1,47,51,23,0,4,12,2,1,1,8,2,0,4,2,4,16,18,0,1,7,0,0,7,9,6,0,1,29,7,46,11,27,17,8,42,0,5,2,0,56,20,1,10,16,172,62,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273205606380692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827187408661592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137119637436598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304157593303774,0.15341067670406267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094546034871384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876858618265632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907863670442455,0.0,0.05291523058161306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857244113622815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5071307921973203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04663070175690616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420660288306059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999228952311683,0.0,0.16460495947848536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527701056174918,0.0,0.09255556876346102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04008531005519245,0.16447059078724416,0.0,0.0,0.06890103362400077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763735409476913,0.0,0.0831854576699475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654912405653468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328174126025703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039122729152012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559896013371003,0.18720734760347355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05688288998524747,0.0,0.0857244113622815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23414399301739364,0.06524916767333347,0.0,0.4982317020587204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363927614032858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184785548198778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594839336845096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451013557577489,0.0,0.0,0.0651382498389861,0.0,0.0,0.07777346575837071,0.23520584411373374,0.0,0.05570632028969017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769954667417731,0.0,0.06512718584821066,0.06581527277012791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052837278635003135
parenting,ticketclosed85,2020/02/06,"First childs vaccination shots today I’ve had many shots and they aren’t fun, but it’s usually not a big deal for me. Which is why I thought today my first borns first vaccination shots would be just like any other doctors appointment. It’s been the worst day of my life!! We don’t need advice but I feel compelled to write about how I feel like the worst parent on the planet!!!",1.9740789473684224,4.372050092105269,2.709736842105261,92.55565789473684,80.97368421052632,5.905263157894738,18.71052631578948,7.1686216300943375,0.1727421052631577,301,7,64,4,8,94,57,76,0.149,0.731,0.11900000000000001,-0.7592,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,3,3,5,0,0,4,0,7,2,0,2,0,14,11,4,0,2,4,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,3,2,8,3,5,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,10,39,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20371914272146807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176999965409795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444898674300107,0.21492834461264526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338277168851788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108222259879286,0.14893442485415848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5319856254164739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725190280849038,0.20370049458207867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113607060301373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458140817649454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23148657243345444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550568886885428,0.0,0.0,0.3952194312212964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22960551764060594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881160632357361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809450264321042,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amomenttoosoon,2020/02/06,"How ""tough"" are you on your kids, in reality not in hypothetical So my household has two adults and 4 young (6 and younger) kids. I don't want to be overwhelmed with things to do as a sahp because I also work 2 part time jobs. I usually am the ""reminder"" of the two adults while my SO forgets. SO calls me tough, but I don't think that teaching your kids to pick up after themselves is  a bad thing. I am also not perfect and constantly pick up everyone's slack when I don't remind them. My house is definitely not the tidiest but I can manage to clean it quickly if an emergency comes.

My SO thinks that the kids should just play,  but I secretly think that SO doesn't want to enforce the rules. Keep in mind, SO expects me to do most of the chores since I am a sahp, which I think is fair.

 Anyway, how tough are you in reality when it comes to chores for your kids, are you always making sure they stay on task or are relaxed and only occasionally remind them?",5.524867132867133,5.114828405128204,6.209790209790209,82.11566433566433,67.51282051282051,9.347319347319347,30.034965034965033,8.841846274778883,2.0602307692307686,749,24,162,11,11,246,109,195,0.096,0.797,0.106,0.47,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,6,3,2,15,9,0,1,10,0,20,0,0,5,2,36,30,23,0,5,9,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,7,8,7,0,1,5,2,0,2,7,5,0,2,0,0,25,4,21,28,2,20,0,1,0,0,18,8,0,3,9,116,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700852924275498,0.1405106295558191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099664848579138,0.10293957846997218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243179036532366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909274347247247,0.0,0.1824849214806715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135937711674994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19484950976008186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757415216693752,0.15009648995618632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271983955931522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705072376483536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843074165439727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828661899555427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968828674280773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998944341185724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915487481991197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437507595610906,0.4328118744698227,0.0,0.0,0.09846753603449616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299164748897687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18598282270459493,0.0,0.19920392036113144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293697537787655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CenkwebmDJ,2020/02/06,Having trouble disciplining our 16 month old Our almost 16 month old doesn't cause trouble throughout the day and I know that they do outbursts for no reason. But what should I be doing when they start crying or getting mad? Do I completely ignore what they want or do I say no?,3.4205555555555516,5.7412399444444455,3.9182962962962975,86.20633333333332,75.48148148148148,5.801481481481483,23.76296296296297,6.742157984588678,0.8459451851851858,223,7,41,2,5,70,39,54,0.313,0.6659999999999999,0.021,-0.9513,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,3,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,8,0,0,2,0,12,12,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,9,0,1,10,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,7,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598858134462915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666129120386902,0.0,0.0,0.2721164633106412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850859144764022,0.16737796061133936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559580420133754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263310012733174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4143151286784097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5446745536707833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668441794365988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20639185536394128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369950246667996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307987870447687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,atlnw,2020/02/06,"Son said make him go away (2 years old) to me today and I basically lost it He's 2 years 4 months, so he doesn't mean it, but it hurt so much. I am his father, and from the get go prefers his mother since she fed him and all. I still think I end up being the one to teach him things and set restrictions.  My wife gets made at me when I try to help give him boundaries.  It's all too much.  Any advice for parents who feel like they're second best, or for two parents who aren't on the same page as far as boundaries and rules? Thank you",1.6153846153846168,2.57811258974359,2.792820512820516,98.19384615384618,76.94871794871794,5.883760683760682,18.982905982905983,5.82211442006289,-0.5292632478632475,411,7,105,2,9,132,83,117,0.052000000000000005,0.818,0.131,0.8909999999999999,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,2,5,5,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,2,2,17,18,12,0,1,2,6,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,5,1,1,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,3,4,2,16,3,12,13,7,16,0,2,0,0,21,5,0,1,9,63,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551203071858146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221404145033308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874875500159306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848877353094784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908043963754168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908158077573084,0.12831284778081234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18767678694901124,0.17229751001968235,0.20415209397764436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038826020999102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227536248651428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877479823075862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19606465786848803,0.0,0.0,0.16995056703155392,0.1198905351400093,0.0,0.0,0.19564707214650984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433623492126518,0.0,0.26406685499120897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884696410186028,0.0,0.12170784168603473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39886952074433707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084947851161306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857458559079612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343613847469708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536001934671987,0.0,0.0,0.11932437108510364,0.115086322532051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702485196688947,0.0,0.0,0.12194285638479878,0.0,0.1754520893601248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313248711042307
parenting,bobilinzky,2020/02/06,"This is just for fun. My 14 year old SS and I got into the discussion again about lame dad jokes. His dad tells them all the time, and frankly they are not funny, but all the men in the house think so. So now our boys have picked it up and they tell these stupid dad jokes. (Nothing offensive, just like; what did the tomato say to the other tomato when they were crossing the street? Answer is Ketchup). I make it known that I dont think its funny, not in a bad way I would just say like ""OMG you guys are so lame"" and they laugh their asses off at my reaction.

Anyway my step son then asked me what about mommy jokes, are they any better?
I told him that there is a reason for it that we mommies dont do as many jokes, because ours are more practical, mean jokes. Like putting one red sock in with the white laundry, so everyone will have pink underwear. Or we would put laxatives in the potato mash and then feed everyone with it 😈. ( they had mash with their dinner tonight, I did NOT put laxatives in it nor did the kids believe I did).

The kid thought it was ok that I dont do jokes to often. And I might possibly be crowned the most evil stepmother/mother after this conversation 🤣",4.7263319386331935,5.049795468619248,4.793874476987451,89.07187168758719,69.20920502092049,8.381701534170151,25.975174337517434,8.238735603445708,1.2718985216178522,923,24,204,12,15,287,143,239,0.095,0.7509999999999999,0.155,0.9191,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,1,9,2,15,19,3,0,14,1,26,3,1,3,2,36,34,17,0,2,8,4,0,3,0,4,0,2,0,5,17,12,2,0,7,6,0,5,7,6,0,1,10,5,29,13,20,19,4,26,0,2,3,1,33,10,1,4,13,138,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133563797981606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556203882430156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214352508185982,0.08187433761042003,0.0,0.0,0.151321761602127,0.0,0.11878658252319806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722321601606539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566785742670904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742024965361556,0.0,0.0,0.13298835441702214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497610134449274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19685174587203744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965319594895993,0.13616960553169422,0.0,0.14630333641857152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424820475408833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887439512661328,0.0,0.1409361100685602,0.0,0.09101216344109662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514147296443223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4050569701929994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809340051146374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21361794891125704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347863170371376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212128735536766,0.0,0.10662740861260056,0.07831744027693137,0.0,0.0,0.1283392871335452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066092975232143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908204262287334,0.0,0.0,0.08649145644715105
parenting,SavageTurtle420,2020/02/06,New to this thread need some advice I have a 4 year old daughter with my ex wife. Recently my daughter has started to misbehave and she is saying she likes boys and gives little boys kisses at school and shes gotten in trouble a few times and we've had counseling with the teacher. My ex wife says she needs a therapist but i don't think so. My daughter stayed with me for a month last year in which her behaviour improved at home and at school. If im not around she misbehaves a lot so I don't know if its me doing something wrong or ? I need some advice on what I can do before a therapist has to be involved. Any input would be appreciated,2.232045454545453,4.182505083333337,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727274,77.71212121212122,6.824242424242425,23.87878787878788,7.793537801064563,1.1813969696969706,509,17,106,8,12,168,85,132,0.061,0.8220000000000001,0.11699999999999999,0.8093,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,7,0,14,1,0,0,0,23,22,11,0,6,5,7,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,4,9,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,2,17,2,14,17,4,18,0,0,0,1,19,8,0,6,10,71,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138512556942044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920596812063034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295817998858798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664933759645648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405151900774253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108377402558102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346358395403744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825546718731814,0.13090139815368604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845563155732188,0.1609522797135956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652695168400414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281805387797221,0.0,0.0,0.3572239340033697,0.0,0.1550977735104244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851105092837967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856217865319472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25541349942672353,0.0,0.3250491081236124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123629191403713,0.0,0.0,0.11366565963862164,0.17116641493193008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729122123087861,0.0,0.1028988915803377,0.0,0.0,0.09364068697983996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407775674652446,0.17557876742256584,0.0,0.20682799057169265
parenting,mividalocamadre,2020/02/06,"SO (30F) expects me to do school pickups everyday even though I (30F) work because my job is more “lenient”. Am I being unreasonable saying no? While my job is more lenient, it’s still my job. I have things I need to do with deadlines everyday. I have set tasks everyday while also doing other small tasks as they come up. I have to have most things done before 5pm so I don’t have time to just stop right in the middle and leave. 

My SO however thinks there’s no reason why I can’t pick up my stepdaughter from school everyday at 2pm except on Wednesday’s when she’s out at 12:30pm. This is right in the middle of my day. Not to mention I’m not always working at the same location everyday. I have different properties I have to go to so I may be all the way on the other side of town in the middle of a task come pickup time. 

We have had many fights over this which is ridiculous because my SO thinks I am in the wrong and I just don’t care about her or her job. She’s mad at me right now because I was late picking SD up because I had to finish up at work because I was across town and couldn’t come back in time if I left it unfinished. I’ve asked over and over for her to figure something out, after school program is full but she could at least look for someone to babysit and pick her up for 2-3 hrs until one of us gets home but she refuses to. 

I don’t feel like I am wrong for being upset that this gets thrown on me and that my job isn’t important to consider. My job is why we even have a place to live and cars to drive, I am also a manager so there’s a lot of things I’m expected to do and I have to get them done.  

Am I being unreasonable?",2.4988667388949075,3.3818964478873283,4.127676056338029,89.78817713976166,74.66197183098592,7.489707475622969,24.35807150595883,7.882392219407189,1.0416413867822314,1289,38,297,18,26,433,160,355,0.066,0.9009999999999999,0.033,-0.8233,8,0,1,0,1,0,25.0,3,0,2,3,20,8,3,1,11,0,43,0,0,4,1,45,59,26,0,6,9,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,13,16,0,2,5,0,0,6,10,6,0,1,6,3,47,2,57,46,8,67,0,0,1,0,18,38,0,5,22,217,60,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344379041095642,0.07462597135652295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838443423347195,0.0,0.0,0.06896303013665922,0.0,0.2733588931540927,0.0,0.07631621586214972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144089685183747,0.0,0.0,0.2317697509351336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160700653838267,0.0,0.0,0.05784007740431135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370282495483062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355991813063613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847356948749672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453479574859116,0.06407172616479054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057176551905987,0.0,0.050970644356863166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899624124540562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5339973460756129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011697615721786,0.09496456859849343,0.09744414680728494,0.0,0.0,0.04381606979472928,0.0,0.07919441801253692,0.0,0.07531368708490617,0.0,0.0,0.07624786551462896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092756957983868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665010635690888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060773583000325225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370282495483062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221218813474537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297741689211245,0.0,0.07132194015429442,0.0,0.2723011871592576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599069215447732,0.0690446966226161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162338881438225,0.07498154679972949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875026299807234,0.11493438841264647,0.08811608068387332,0.0,0.15688995658663424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078812655052905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07118860542005112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185540586256164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19587751970527786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961152150623844,0.0,0.0
parenting,LifeIsData,2020/02/06,"6 yo switches from defiance/not listening to regret/""I'm so stupid""/self-hitting once consequences occur Our youngest son is on a emotional roller coaster and we don't understand how to address it. In the past few months he has been growing more defiant when it comes to listening and doing what he's asked. If he doesn't want to do what is asked, he ignores it or even tells us ""No"" and sometimes screams at us. He constantly pushes boundaries to see how far he can take something before there are consequences. But the instant consequences occur (such as time out, going to bed early, losing screen time/fun activity, etc), he suddenly changes to a moping child who is mad at himself for doing those actions. He calls himself stupid and hits himself in the head and shows regret.

Examples of defiance include not coming to the kitchen to eat when called, not sitting at the table, not turning off the TV or ending an activity he is doing to start the next activity, etc.  Similarly, he loves our cats and dogs and wants to play with them, but he will sometimes take it too far and they will growl or run away which causes him to be depressed as to why they don't like him. After he calms down and we talk about what happened, he states that he knows what he is doing is wrong but doesn't know how to stop it and feels bad about it after it happens.

Its like he knows something bad is going to happen due to his actions, but keeps escalating the action to see if the bad event actually occurs, then immediately regrets it and hates himself for causing it. 

His siblings showed levels of defiance at his age but all eventually learned that actions have consequences which mostly stopped them from doing things they weren't supposed to. Unfortunately some of those siblings are now teenagers and are showing the typical signs of teenage rebellion which the 6 yo is picking up on and trying himself (the sometime screaming and not listening). 

We don't use spankings or similar punishments, and if we did it would probably only make my son feel even worse. But this is different from how I was raised and is new territory, because I grew up in a strict household where you did not disobey dad and the fear of spankings would deter most defiant behavior. As such, I'm not sure how to handle a child who disrespects his parents and has no fear of consequences until they happen, then hates himself for it.",10.644661147250147,8.358016233707867,9.586907155529275,68.0446540508575,58.57303370786517,12.604376108811355,43.19633353045535,10.992663274268294,4.724258426966292,1924,88,333,36,19,605,233,445,0.182,0.794,0.025,-0.9973,3,0,2,0,0,0,45.0,8,1,6,1,19,24,5,2,18,0,38,4,1,10,2,78,73,45,0,9,19,4,2,2,0,4,0,5,3,2,27,26,2,4,7,6,0,12,14,18,0,0,5,10,30,6,55,62,8,56,0,4,3,1,61,19,0,10,25,233,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0899427538448315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232943212161733,0.0,0.08659494819987422,0.0,0.2308694989476341,0.05618480807515568,0.0,0.07842825034450206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822783601269988,0.0,0.0,0.1893640207267324,0.09750161102535886,0.15878928519776422,0.0,0.09960095468034368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938423504684465,0.0,0.0,0.0962960300182984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431095895057427,0.0,0.10367668816987577,0.08163356482183286,0.0,0.20558355270948947,0.12175229945567193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742943581431425,0.09320590446311282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047624914490366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260157265080383,0.0,0.0,0.1819938011816534,0.09459104390577323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819232272590162,0.0,0.0,0.15195950444952902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005733977115474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311250947259176,0.0,0.0,0.08318529361412774,0.0,0.06152291126536784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735676847142645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901650913722302,0.0980218021590435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815600061898078,0.0,0.07009798056349242,0.0,0.0,0.10234174909035164,0.0,0.08798486449683658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937278253332113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689205861441335,0.0,0.09615141194038684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191098681989067,0.2734697731940957,0.0,0.06523704370991368,0.0,0.0,0.15411328921888529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686732769738921,0.0,0.13859785628699034,0.07408121405032053,0.08055896723203156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123237906554967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748790107675556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257607845395162,0.1002524078431653,0.0,0.09595022514387842,0.2217337115827033,0.07960363124569701,0.0,0.0,0.10872624698549337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316735930361943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392715097001318,0.1309471238166856,0.1007713302442908,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wayne198732,2020/02/06,The biggest parenting mindfuck to me Is watching my kid watch a show i watched as a kid. It's really surreal and trippy to think back to watching the show and thinking of all the time that passed.,7.2807692307692315,6.352069,7.4457692307692325,76.4117307692308,64.12820512820514,10.876923076923077,40.01282051282049,10.125756701596842,4.018989743589743,157,8,30,3,2,51,30,39,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,5,3,1,4,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,2,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744499132932483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5407226168631579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119654867021461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6240614962864051,0.0,0.0,0.28395615507821603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Otterleigh,2020/02/06,"I guess we’re cannibals now? Me: we’re having roast beef for dinner

3yo: what’s roast beef

Me: it’s beef that we put in the oven and then eat

3yo: No mommy, that’s mean! You mustn’t eat the beef!

Me: *remembering that 3yo thinks thief and beef are the same word* Yup. Beef. In the oven. For dinner. 


I mean. I’m going to be paying for her therapy anyway, may as well have some fun while I’m at it.",-2.2575000000000003,-0.7259357325581348,0.2271802325581387,103.0072819767442,109.81395348837208,3.5453488372093016,8.863372093023257,5.602791699666715,-1.7386255813953486,301,3,76,3,16,100,53,86,0.07400000000000001,0.861,0.065,-0.1984,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,1,6,4,0,0,1,13,13,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,3,4,0,4,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,8,2,8,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,3,3,42,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5233423358741758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453347723239414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28171061917678497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5571203729974467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570748964028112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28968729522439346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924445518495281,0.0,0.0,0.16385866200938312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22992805847179726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautilicious21,2020/02/06,Abuse in daycare My child recently told me a relative of a home-based daycare has been abusing her. Should I tell the daycare provider? I feel like I should let the authorities handle it but there are so many other kids going to that daycare. I have no idea how long it will take them to investigate. I feel horrible for staying silent but fear backlash of ruining a family. Of course my child will no longer go there.,3.8896607142857182,6.085188787500003,4.502142857142862,83.14000000000003,73.625,8.071428571428571,28.92857142857143,8.841846274778883,2.4236071428571435,333,14,63,7,7,106,58,80,0.251,0.728,0.02,-0.9638,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,1,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,8,15,4,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,2,10,1,7,8,0,6,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,3,43,14,0,0.0,0.5256277615348696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20910694546151606,0.24960295177065955,0.22431212605016035,0.15846430481673698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25212455501191244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224980034485572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25040154222288225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22682032844260344,0.0,0.10836734789953201,0.0,0.0,0.19629882973066454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248850618615407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901503355134105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364247163327187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677687958080614,0.0,0.19387562747565765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119532359192717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theo_sontag,2020/02/06,"Wife and I can't decide on whether to have another kid. Xpost from Daddit...

I am a 39m with two boys 6 & 4.

My wife and I have put off the conversation for a long time. We finally talked about it a couple weeks ago, and are still on the fence about whether we want another kiddo. 

I love my boys so much, and couldn't imagine a world without them, and shudder at the idea of stopping at one, and never meeting my second boy.

I'm feeling those same thoughts again. There's a little human that my wife and I could create and love. To not do so, oddly, feels like I'm denying this little person life, like I'm turning away someone at my door.

That said, there's a lot to consider in bringing in #3 to the world. We're already stretched so thin. I started a new job after being a SAHD for a few years. Logistically, I'm not sure I want a minivan. I'm not sure I want to do diapers and sleepless nights again. We're financially sound, but that'll certainly put off saving for retirement and when we can retire. 

I dealt with serious depression during my time as a SAHD as well.

Additionally, things are fun with my boys now that we're out of ""toddler prison"". We are doing ski lessons this year. Travelling to Costa Rica this spring. The boys can look after themselves more or less.

So much weighing on our minds, and we've been on the fence for four years now. How have others handled this?",3.2275757575757567,4.732236053763443,4.285658194851745,86.9242448680352,73.76702508960574,7.079895731508636,25.94346692733789,7.686295010490155,1.2993068100358425,1085,37,225,14,22,353,158,279,0.047,0.856,0.09699999999999999,0.8736,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,5,0,1,1,16,12,0,0,17,0,18,4,0,1,4,52,36,23,0,5,8,3,3,2,0,1,1,2,1,8,12,20,1,3,7,2,0,4,7,2,1,4,3,6,22,10,36,29,7,46,0,1,1,2,23,19,0,2,25,148,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509131305356655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327667309778178,0.0,0.0,0.14067668082810522,0.0,0.0,0.27228762815747426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219847008729405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366306043886477,0.14366048144326793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118271027065596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129743260867502,0.09275448790451686,0.0,0.14222841444186266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465684454694404,0.0,0.0,0.12884167308115285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170663432139242,0.1268621077991826,0.2602585060402179,0.0,0.1149003079840644,0.10902909748044766,0.0,0.0,0.11038147624479566,0.23436316712438054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109681586916005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088802353686515,0.0,0.10013712093563806,0.12539590894833866,0.0,0.1218417961812948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797987672159112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133673270982372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610410224699661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350326691500772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000917500130804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189821609940434,0.0,0.10368677651008694,0.1085482691352773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447367936600513,0.0,0.0,0.10435683517443056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625691913122976,0.0,0.0,0.10307486285556523,0.15141621691422516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122371150697585,0.12683039135859225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297409778157611,0.0,0.10414618494281833,0.0,0.11673768290460695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515676285110708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508293635042348
parenting,throwaway847493937,2020/02/06,"The man (35m) I (30f) am seeing has no interest in getting to know my 4 year old child, yet he’s serious about marrying me. How do I bring up the fact that I will not marry him unless he is serious about being part of my child’s life? The title pretty much says it all. I didn’t really pick up on it before because I do not depend on anyone to care for my child. I pay all of my own bills and provide a nice life for us, so I am in no rush to introduce my partner. 
Recently, he’s been talking a lot about wanting to marry me, have children and buy a house in a nice area. It’s starting to feel like he’s going to pop the question at any moment. This is all fine and dandy, but when he talks about our future together, he hardly mentions my child. He loves talking about our future children together. 

I make time for this man on a weekly basis, but I do not go out at night as it is extremely important to me that I am home at night with my child. He seems to be ok with it, but I can tell that if I decided to dump my kid off on a family remember several times a week, he wouldn’t object. We were supposed to have a meet with my child and he canceled it, blaming it on not having money to spend, which I know for a fact was not true. Even if it were true, I have money and I could have easily paid. I didn’t push it because I will not bring my child around anyone who isn’t trilled to meet them. 

I want to bring this matter up to this man in a kind way. Ultimately, I need him to understand that there is nothing in this world he could offer me that will make me overlook that fact that he’s not willing to invest in a relationship with my first born. 
Anyone who loves me, HAS to love and want to protect my child. This is something I have said in the past. No amount of good di*k or money can overshadow that.",5.322272727272729,4.043470805194803,6.475941558441559,82.91962662337663,68.22077922077922,9.777922077922078,29.379870129870127,8.841846274778883,1.9701974025974025,1400,39,317,20,20,475,180,385,0.06,0.8029999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9839,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,1,1,13,17,1,0,16,1,37,5,0,5,8,57,62,17,0,9,14,0,2,1,1,5,2,2,1,15,26,13,0,1,8,0,9,7,14,3,0,1,8,5,45,14,57,45,8,49,0,0,1,3,51,23,0,7,19,217,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044493440850663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24814470071262615,0.0,0.0,0.1053079937869156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422356627684949,0.0,0.10066067989773313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061005310051764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888985160536492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813300174673272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151838325913736,0.0,0.059813712995815935,0.08451026358040284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062201417157532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061804468559834326,0.0,0.13446001371595984,0.09922057629302276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596945056956096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865994010005552,0.0,0.0,0.13649701894345825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231864643273127,0.13002412581029435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711109108921254,0.05779316133743818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005705261555047,0.32029867461952066,0.0,0.157926207713595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696073660634719,0.08771454660276035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22202445494585105,0.0,0.11350763505026812,0.0,0.12413113195487673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810239977105325,0.11292635296666866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034895857025996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251793087084054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578306791210518,0.0,0.1168024447833862,0.12700499807573865,0.1340056376955382,0.0,0.11252602300788384,0.09407325699330712,0.0,0.0,0.09426612494066083,0.10769169717560938,0.0,0.13364014033193294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106958497417143,0.0,0.0,0.08373009910985971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852441055818167,0.10339540124656067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795800818760687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314969232257572,0.14229481128369606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932109086102751,0.09389738919311168,0.18977888270961726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617836470715685
parenting,shadawayo,2020/02/06,homeless people’s Every day I chat to a lovely man on the way to work - I don’t know his story but he sleeps on a bench in a sleeping bag. It breaks my heart.. I take him food and drinks..,-2.505714285714284,-0.8525210952380942,0.23571428571428754,104.05928571428572,105.1904761904762,2.4000000000000004,10.761904761904765,3.1291,-2.057038095238095,142,2,36,0,7,48,36,42,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.34,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,6,3,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,5,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,19,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18403505656034425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795463858090741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404300198422748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34506118930143903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338155663625312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682764058921397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575505897406557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783426738743956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711367099466917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145569130830272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265072872111092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20774713102979436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Judaspriestess666,2020/02/06,"Great school but not walkable--factoring in commute time for decision Looking at k-5 schools for my son. We have a local school that's only 2 blocks away from our house. But we were also accepted to a fantastic and unique public (free) charter school but it's 2.5 miles away. 

I love the charter school but the commute and drop off would be hectic. One option is to ride bikes to avoid the drop off madness, although that would be longer.

If we went to the local school, my son could walk himself once he gets older. 

I know it's not the biggest factor but I was wondering how much weight other parents place on school commute time for their kids. TIA for your input",3.816931818181821,5.910924500000004,3.8825568181818175,87.95221590909092,73.53125,6.529545454545455,25.69886363636364,7.348242739294969,1.2468500000000002,528,18,100,6,11,162,86,128,0.099,0.7509999999999999,0.149,0.8793,1,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,1,0,2,6,1,1,7,0,9,2,0,1,0,24,15,11,0,4,8,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,2,4,1,1,3,2,2,0,1,3,2,12,5,16,7,1,20,0,0,1,1,14,12,0,3,3,64,17,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452726618469742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22211208791119189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437584643226296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061756430441983534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031973460349766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639092532215413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496153165372906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992611381228833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066832397976207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689314553711176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588282972450426,0.08009772525964641,0.08989905961591685,0.0,0.0,0.13125095657124225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234974598954384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8373975017944193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378507789983556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393997301896175,0.0,0.10957579388522376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818661276308824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793669654814602,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,annabadams13,2020/02/06,"Family friendly travel vs adults only vacations We have two toddlers, one just turned 3 and the other will be 2 in spring. We love travel and look forward to making more adventure memories with our kids! Our current dilemma is that our friends keep planning group trips, but they're adult only - not family friendly. And most our our friends have kids!! On the last invite, I asked if kids were invited and they said no, that it would be an adult only, party trip. The girl doing the inviting also has a toddler so I didn't think it would be unreasonable to ask or clarify. At what point do you give up the boozy vacations and focus on your family and giving your kids some great experiences?! Am I the odd ball for wanting to have family friendly trips? Sorry for the rant, but I just think we made these awesome humans so they could be included in our lives! Not left home with sitters each trip. I get a group, adult trip every now and then. But our close friend circle seems to be planning 1-3 trips per year; ranging from camp trips to carribean vacations. And so far, none have been kid friendly. We plan on having our own family vacations, and all are welcome. But I'd love to have some group vacations where we all bring the kiddos so they can bond and have memories with their friends too!",4.0155677655677655,6.107674728744942,4.380138808559863,84.60840755735495,72.96761133603239,7.619741661846925,25.527086948139573,8.418075326091056,1.7451937150568733,1026,34,192,18,21,322,144,247,0.04,0.726,0.23399999999999999,0.9961,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,13,3,4,3,10,13,0,0,11,0,26,2,0,2,2,46,44,22,0,5,11,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,1,11,7,20,0,1,3,3,0,11,5,0,0,2,5,3,25,13,19,30,9,29,0,0,1,2,50,13,0,6,7,129,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808395920095914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890062276584551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071009803919478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517053097706644,0.0,0.0,0.09888291685922583,0.4764812256895226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6247992644446828,0.0,0.05281401697520848,0.19394457390061573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111449263279873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013989479523542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985116443084146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239975837770065,0.0,0.0,0.10983180309242528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926206457915134,0.0,0.08488799297953875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247072887202992,0.09565138318985998,0.06747665346350537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849946784914401,0.23064466776803305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556030841485176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615730751794377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202621194315938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315911679770158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954550406861773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099541104896189,0.09874774367614188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05962399323548793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361923898089446,0.0,0.0,0.06509699930341394
parenting,Canyounot87,2020/02/06,"Staying for kids birthday parties I did not realize until my daughter began getting invited to her classmates birthdays that it is now common place for parents to stay at party instead of just dropping their child off and then coming back when it is over. When did this become a thing? When I was growing up, my parents would drop me off and my friends parents would do the same. There is nothing more awkward then having to sit there for 2 hours and try to make small talk with the parents. Likewise, I have had parties for my daughter and I told the parents they were free to leave ( I had plenty of friends and family there to help the kids) and they always decline.",8.920498687664043,7.478226732283463,7.809881889763782,76.76973097112864,61.20472440944882,9.411548556430443,40.851706036745405,7.1686216300943375,3.2539879265091862,533,25,94,3,6,163,82,127,0.024,0.802,0.174,0.9605,5,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,10,4,0,1,5,0,14,0,0,1,0,15,19,12,0,2,2,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,8,0,14,4,19,9,2,25,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,0,11,78,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578946103613587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700285632187743,0.0,0.0,0.1536875612315374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198711121496302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118448304916638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502412922215325,0.0,0.07270359398333551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932737535947404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370412463515459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734677506596466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288812890463836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335245364129936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7725848294814032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538905694438045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966448974107514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184882539834956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244947943450434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297012025736313,0.0,0.09447821506212448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770575004669705,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tee_452,2020/02/06,"How do I explain to my son that he will not be seeing his grandmother. Sorry in advance if this quite long.....My ex MIL is extremely toxic and manipulative. I have been dealing with this for the past 11 years through marriage and after my divorce. She has made it her life mission to ruin my life, she never liked me from the beginning. She is the most toxic and manipulative person I have ever met in my life. I have tried everything in my power to be cordial with her, even inviting her on camping trips with me and my son, which always turns into a nightmare, because my son adored her. We have managed pretty well, me and my ex's other family to shield him from all the drama that she causes not just in my life be literally everyone's but my son is getting to an age now were he realizes that no one wants to be around my MIL. She divorced her husband my ex FIL last year, her family wants nothing to do to with her...but continue to tolerate her behavior. Another major major issue I have with her is she is constantly pushing her religion on my son. I am an atheist and I feel its better to allow my son to decide what he wants to believe without any pressure from me and his father is Christian but he agrees with me in this. We have had discussions about what I believe but I never demean Christianity I just explain why I don't believe vs what others believe. She shouldn't even be discussing this with him, my son has said he doesn't believe in Christianity either, but tends to go back and forth. I let him work this out on his own without pressure from me as best as I know how to and this infuriates her and she has said particularly nasty things to him about me being an atheist. 

  I currently live in the same very small town with her, I moved from that town twice in the last 10 years to get away from her and things got much better for me, but I ended up moving back because it is easier to co-parent with my ex being closer to him, and she would be extremely nice to me during the time I was away, and I fell for it twice ( I know not smart). In the next 6-8 months I have decided to move for good because once again she is up to her old tricks and this time I am going to send her message and tell her that I want no further contact with her and I will not be telling her where I live, and I will not allow her to see my son during my time with him. She will still get time with him from my ex I am sure, I know her reaction is going to be terrible....she is currently in a downward spiral stemming from the divorce and the fact that I have been allowing my ex FIL more time with him then her, but every time I let her see him, she plays games when it comes time for me to get him back and there is always so some form of drama attached. Her behavior has become more and more erratic and there is no signs of it letting up. I am also considering court actions to keep her from seeing my son all together but I don't think I have enough evidence to prove her behavior as her own family isn't going to testify for fear or retaliation from her and besides the religious stuff she is ok with him and as far as I know hasn't tried to turn him against because she knows how I would react if I did. She is basically obsessed with him though, in an unhealthy manner. She treats him as she is his son and not ours, she steps over the line constantly. She also has threatened to sue me for visitation in the past which my lawyer says is ridiculous but just to show you how she thinks and her level of entitlement to my son. 

Again so sorry for the long post, but this situation has me extremely stressed and I just want to do what is best for my son without hurting him, but also maintaining my mental health.",6.240786852589643,5.420701802124835,6.920939907038517,78.97224651394427,66.17131474103586,10.02667994687915,31.70680610889773,9.321569398390272,2.5368162284196547,2919,97,602,47,40,968,288,753,0.065,0.853,0.08199999999999999,0.8849,4,0,0,0,3,0,58.0,3,1,0,8,33,23,2,5,20,1,70,5,0,12,8,121,108,57,0,10,28,20,1,1,0,7,5,3,0,1,31,47,0,1,14,5,0,16,20,9,1,3,11,8,143,14,108,77,18,89,3,2,4,0,116,33,0,5,40,471,174,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227932383355766,0.10563015590554517,0.0,0.0,0.0431641902678984,0.06655755102249444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650491623831098,0.0,0.0,0.11927097837319195,0.14642172475556106,0.0,0.15477154656565906,0.07010154857083219,0.0,0.35756477175487544,0.13322314840892854,0.1122743928374991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520481994119252,0.0,0.05467684257112545,0.0,0.13718471525854894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543844243112044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621872491867563,0.06558514419364846,0.0,0.08384736163676652,0.05741545946153773,0.053479203054339716,0.060651696656489985,0.057045933501939185,0.0,0.17951164043177367,0.07142538989649865,0.03209413379927938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264923938036965,0.0,0.1442939237413609,0.05323860184724922,0.05076559596264559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746941497267461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794974754216761,0.0,0.0,0.06624989474307916,0.0,0.05641820723836636,0.0,0.0,0.17441701417122493,0.10347882910571857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947180145171168,0.17933298062054515,0.031009970118003362,0.0,0.1120966142142147,0.11234418784134932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006020727305755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639664087684128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066398164629648,0.20238701391338135,0.04666036225042959,0.0,0.09790942880540827,0.0,0.06750483999613709,0.0,0.0,0.06090458264642273,0.0,0.06660481281097692,0.06759725867612723,0.04301131985668835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118537037921183,0.0,0.05542265514363303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060790114721396636,0.06457541900513754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751193301806196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075576176213773,0.05047671421248153,0.0,0.0,0.20232080404684372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134692908727612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421068840419355,0.0,0.0,0.05069005863121258,0.0,0.07270873650954095,0.0,0.07266202827585312,0.0,0.0,0.05982306923504421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095735996424176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433801175571203,0.08134257515346327,0.06236244012125386,0.0,0.25908356012235856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086188747208827,0.13808198995770005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052372325834028864,0.18719172022127176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057070343876788984,0.0,0.057275005754157164,0.0,0.0,0.18355871000767984,0.0,0.04620950000997087,0.0,0.0,0.09017957685431284,0.0,0.0,0.12262465446808915
parenting,aparentlyaparent,2020/02/06,"My son (11) was threatened by a classmate today (Thursday, Feb 6) and I'm having a tough time coping. So the long and short of the story is that today I get a call from our school's vice principal letting me know about a situation that my son was directly involved in. 

His classmates line up in the gym before class each day for announcements and what have you. One of his classmates had a comic book out and through what sounds like an accident my son accidently tore the pages of said comic. It was shortly after this point that one if the other kids involved in the comic book accident straight up said, ""If you come to class on Monday, I'm going to shoot you with a gun."" 

This same threat was issued a little later on in the day and it was at this point that my son told his teacher, who told the vice principal who then went through the protocol that is in place for gun threats including informing the police and the other kid's parents.

Despite being reassured that this situation has been handled and wont occur again, I'm a bit of a wreck right now and am not sure how to cope. He hasn't really been bullied by this kid before but even so this threat is over the top.",11.93435897435898,6.581431217948719,10.94570512820513,68.68471153846154,59.47008547008546,14.093162393162393,42.49786324786325,10.686352973137794,4.306283760683762,931,31,185,14,8,300,134,234,0.105,0.862,0.033,-0.9163,1,0,0,3,0,0,19.0,1,3,0,1,7,7,3,0,22,0,19,0,0,1,1,21,31,15,0,2,4,5,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,20,12,0,0,2,6,0,3,3,4,0,2,13,3,13,3,29,15,4,37,0,0,0,0,27,21,0,2,14,126,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26598262453377475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062824431441667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958960455274435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463003012059466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20158829178617052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103228097050465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165509497929639,0.0,0.08882323112498605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631261957591013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589291834425272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598171543120876,0.0,0.07635541876059722,0.15664367839579832,0.0,0.13831176675280427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181235109909136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354159313039572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328982658635635,0.0,0.2954892093713831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012340130705276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347083973630094,0.2973352351523198,0.0,0.0,0.15817386385070029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513531052762178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473015125652791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113397885468193,0.0,0.2962893657685021,0.2986836607145489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488243237334314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hastamanana87,2020/02/06,"I'm a grown man but.... .....I find myself getting emotional while watching my childhood faves with my boy, Mufasa's death? Right in the feels. The dinosaurs finding the Green Valley after killing sharp tooth, had to excuse myself and cry in the toilet. Toy Story 2-4 those poor toys just wanted their kid to play with them and dealt with an ever growing list of rejections but had each other. WTF is wrong with me, I can't be the only dude this has happened to?

I'm a hardened man. I've been around lost friends and family but jeez those childhood cartoons with my son. Right in the GD feels everytime.",2.2369694960212168,4.858979474137931,2.741724137931037,91.29876657824936,81.84482758620689,4.948541114058355,21.854111405835546,6.297961479604792,0.4242660477453577,473,15,90,4,13,146,84,116,0.195,0.73,0.075,-0.9546,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,1,3,6,1,0,9,0,7,1,1,0,1,20,15,7,2,1,4,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,10,0,0,4,3,1,2,1,4,0,0,4,5,10,2,14,10,1,13,0,2,2,0,9,6,1,0,5,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20729602786523893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557873288488681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26193774835761496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21063648044777966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195210168978153,0.0,0.23548345514953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.425662227344321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990815074799454,0.0,0.12166047776676525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059185792826572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25762665320097394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541957408503395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710159841460013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977247502894191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734769515443027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545974009117771,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProficientPeanut,2020/02/06,"Hard time adjusting to daycare I have a 15 month old who started daycare part time at the beginning of January. We knew it would be a hard adjustment,  but we’re almost a month in and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better. Every time we pick her up they tell us she had a bad day. She started off refusing to eat or drink milk for them, she’s just finally started to eat while she’s there but it’s hit or miss if it’ll be a “full” or 1/2 serving. She cries immediately at the end of the day when she sees us, she’s always done that no matter where she is, and when we take her home she’s not upset at all she’s her usual happy self. Based on my work schedule and the days the daycare had available she goes Monday’s and Friday’s. Now every time we drop her off and pick her up they mention that it’s probably too spaced out and she would have an easier time if she was going more frequently. I’m not 100% convinced that’ll help and I don’t really want to add an extra day if we can help it because it’s expensive and right now this is the most we can afford with me still making money above the cost of if. I’m feeling defeated to hear she’s had a bad day every single time and am just not sure if it’s worth it. Has anyone faced a similar situation and have any advice? Would an extra day help, or even if possible rearranging it so she goes two days in a row instead? I like her being able to interact with kids her age but worry they’ll get annoyed with her.",3.389340659340661,3.9179635384615374,4.992106227106227,85.73384615384616,72.26923076923076,8.250549450549451,25.113553113553124,8.418075326091056,1.3831206959706963,1152,32,255,18,21,391,162,312,0.13,0.762,0.109,-0.792,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,8,0,4,3,13,11,1,1,18,0,26,5,1,3,2,58,45,27,0,10,18,0,3,1,0,6,0,1,1,2,15,21,4,1,6,1,4,1,6,6,0,1,6,5,40,5,25,28,8,50,0,2,1,0,46,15,0,13,34,171,55,1,0.097238063507667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501991026863674,0.0,0.0,0.09736987459375612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090985841723639,0.0,0.0,0.13225043524098307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799111490215026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237944278455166,0.05927542098319859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599916520511687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068114468154694,0.43897354660711385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950829930290143,0.0,0.09525628332010806,0.0,0.19899762895502107,0.0,0.0,0.08612406248145693,0.0,0.0,0.06422482387279578,0.0,0.24578178704549916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04916648658637865,0.0,0.0,0.10651954561365452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016057496593772,0.0,0.05526263234346005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351172673835532,0.17421241080147265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959436462033614,0.0,0.19552987283633932,0.0,0.09753770600527638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750560614553954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490716245730531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552289891731616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203499044840043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052993469986888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962130631737957,0.0,0.0,0.10483907876049343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229319340592985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304077493579509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748614716108833,0.08852188101112082,0.10144050707215277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092996574977709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064768054968788,0.0,0.07765444312475009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164572409076338,0.0,0.07311092233144953,0.0,0.08499035344684032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402017807946799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498745880375076,0.0,0.2339308355854957,0.0,0.10709398926355862,0.0,0.057353529208175436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079046833332854,0.09874997353996202,0.0,0.20722539125853093,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HTHID,2020/02/06,"Evenflo, Maker of the “Big Kid” Booster Seat, Put Profits Over Child Safety Thought this might be important to flag for any parents using Evenflo booster seats for younger children.
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**Evenflo, Maker of the “Big Kid” Booster Seat, Put Profits Over Child Safety**

Internal video of side-impact tests shows that children could be injured or killed in Evenflo's “Big Kid” booster seats. But the company continued to market them as “side-impact tested.”

https://www.propublica.org/article/evenflo-maker-of-the-big-kid-booster-seat-put-profits-over-child-safety",12.630413533834586,17.217356552631585,7.431127819548878,61.1228947368421,55.84210526315789,6.974436090225563,38.48872180451128,7.957251820313856,3.7318932330827055,462,21,48,5,7,121,48,76,0.085,0.792,0.12300000000000001,0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,4,1,0,3,0,8,6,3,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,11,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,1,23,3,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746914439289299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510274990015195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28420655023348823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725156923343305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28524175557046405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7747248342660025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039389704274196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22186722161901293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RJ19792,2020/02/06,"My Grandmother with dementia. Hi, everyone. For the past ten months I’ve taken care of my 89 year old Grandmother with dementia. I love her very much and treasure the time that I have with her; however, these past few days have been the worst that I’ve ever seen. EVERYTHING sets her anxiety and anger into high gear. It can be a light bulb, me doing laundry, me cooking, me cleaning. I’ll tell her I’m going to my bedroom to make a phone call, a few seconds later, she’s knocking on my door, asking if I’m ok. We will discuss the weather in detail, a few seconds later, we talk about it again, a few seconds later, again. It’s emotionally draining and I don’t want to leave my room but I have to. I feel like a bad person for having these feelings but I’m only human. I can’t take answering the same questions continuously from the moment I wake up, until the moment I fall asleep. I can barely go to the bathroom without her all but following me. Has she become to codependent upon me? For months I felt as though I was helping her stay grounded but now, I’m not sure. I need advice, or opinions on how to deal. It’s wearing me down emotionally and physically. Thanks.",2.9317811158798257,4.800388133047214,4.602427038626613,82.8154002145923,75.39484978540773,7.23510729613734,26.67145922746781,8.07648339933343,1.7827941630901292,917,35,177,15,20,309,141,233,0.065,0.8490000000000001,0.086,0.5482,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,0,0,7,10,1,0,14,1,14,5,3,2,3,32,34,14,0,3,8,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,4,2,8,10,1,0,5,1,0,4,4,3,0,4,5,5,33,7,26,27,8,35,0,0,1,1,23,10,0,4,20,124,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14914030492122973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675529709865265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268082681733807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743286928687422,0.0,0.1685588418476841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15584397245258147,0.0,0.15560814724569025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984284668162826,0.15734642519859346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343358076624349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805520060959428,0.0,0.1458367176323512,0.13716667718818018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434038572899753,0.10903307975523127,0.14654090979138448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347702844913854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022992085678919,0.16125336348394798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160450173122812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745633264226746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774717789971658,0.0,0.10187626964797797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436426082959691,0.0,0.11219462025405644,0.11316716751609415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015095725818698,0.0,0.0,0.11607579392435273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913896496788915,0.0,0.13326351205629972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097140055529464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626745845496592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384428691819934,0.0,0.11475263677641825,0.1226716613894768,0.13339822351535793,0.1405136935979814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995019219886135,0.0,0.08899502777719588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259290096642248,0.09002032111199826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712201656375914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828346715350447
parenting,talking-cabbage1,2020/02/06,"Montessori bedroom for 2 year old? My 2 year old was evaluated yesterday and hes now going to have a team working with him- hes behind on talking and some communication skills. We don't think its autism because he makes eye contact and greets everyone and doesnt seem to have any other markers for it, but he's still behind. I'm thinking of getting rib of his noise making toys (expect instruments) in order for him to play more. I'm thinking that if he has a better playroom that inspires him to play and learn that it'll help him catch up quicker- an easel, a table to play at, change his crib to a bed, and only give him imaginative toys... does anyone have any experience with this? I want my son to catch up with his peers, and to thrive.",6.5327027027027045,5.960372675675679,6.8533783783783795,78.8777702702703,65.48648648648647,9.291891891891893,32.013513513513516,8.472884824447931,2.3010378378378378,588,20,117,7,8,191,96,148,0.0,0.831,0.16899999999999998,0.9727,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,5,0,10,2,2,2,0,25,22,9,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,11,0,0,7,6,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,14,5,23,20,2,16,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,3,7,70,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27577756780450186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417796793323585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360512386630484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933128590668812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145010211983422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17744311650770475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375293829596996,0.0,0.19834542336059668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059375965945133,0.19451296462852605,0.11523738512000775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591071279695646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27069762550044635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4255405503284948,0.0,0.0,0.1542137433083027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845918238245713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619303060525596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297675390485422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897754839523812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959746492489128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761708076902533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611511127796072
parenting,MichelleEsgar,2020/02/06,"New Children's Food Allergy Book Check out our new book! It's a conversation-starter on food allergies for little ones ages 1-7. Perfect for kids with allergies as well as siblings, cousins, classmates etc. to start introducing what food allergies are all about. Wish we had something like this when our son found out about his allergy - so we wrote one. Plus it stars a super cute dinosaur!

[https://www.amazon.com/Sneezy-Dinosaur-Justin-Michelle-Esgar/dp/1657114562/ref=sr\_1\_1?keywords=sneezy+dinosaur&qid=1581012557&sr=8-1](https://www.amazon.com/Sneezy-Dinosaur-Justin-Michelle-Esgar/dp/1657114562/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=sneezy+dinosaur&qid=1581012557&sr=8-1)",22.12375,29.66548498611112,9.22555555555556,44.95000000000002,39.41666666666666,8.044444444444443,31.222222222222207,8.841846274778883,3.1186888888888893,597,16,56,8,8,130,56,72,0.0,0.7609999999999999,0.239,0.9574,0,0,1,0,0,0,65.0,4,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,11,6,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,5,5,12,3,2,9,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,6,32,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6395167196260088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645663281065103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5352836553169259,0.16178988108151704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208945234117088,0.1478920182949341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28502513662215223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19997842507687225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359746298344232,0.0,0.0,0.20888481784406596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326724862792261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968457545714585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,So_Nothing_Matters,2020/02/06,"Nothing Matters and There's No Hope. I'm Done. I don't know what I'm asking for here, but I am hoping it will be better to get this out.

Having a hard time seeing the bright side or light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm a historian and, like Dr. Strange in End Game, I see many different pathways to different futures, but the not horrible ones are getting fewer and fewer. 

I worry about my spouse and I losing jobs due to perceived political affiliation.

I am sick with worry about the future my kids (and everybody's kids) are heading into. Authoritarianism, oppression, and inevitable scarcity of resources and the possible chaos and violence which could result. 

And I am completely powerless. 

Shame and guilt from my cowardice is overwhelming. I am afraid to speak out or protest. I fear I will be fired, or killed by police, or by gun-toting fellow countrymen.   


Nothing seems to matter anymore. If I were on my own the path would be clear. But I can't leave my kids behind. I'm scared by my own thoughts.  I wish I could be told everything will be alright and believe it, but my faith in my country is shaken, and I know better. 

Drawing of a parent in despair, Kathe Koolwitz, 1909  
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parenting,Maligator175,2020/02/06,"Kids Birthday Party? This coming weekend I’m taking my six year old to a birthday party for the first time. It’s an indoor pool party for her friend from school. What is the appropriate etiquette for a birthday present? Yes, no, big, small? I don’t want to look like a schmuck, but I also am a single dad so can’t get something exorbitant.",2.1254157782515968,4.539632671641794,3.4652452025586378,87.26626865671642,80.49253731343283,5.0226012793177,24.49680170575693,6.1826913282559595,0.7496712153518121,267,10,51,2,7,87,53,67,0.025,0.7709999999999999,0.204,0.8095,0,0,1,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,6,10,1,9,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,7,31,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775006869707057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29891506593752304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29516324773732,0.0,0.0,0.2680960850866549,0.0,0.18129638742565615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695296733802015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913977641622873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364124574078158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511887422157849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671422818592288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26090543388508425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023420723748981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046732136008492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346057887434187
parenting,jasminewiznuk,2020/02/06,Parenting posts really help me I am a mother of a 5 year old boy and he is my world however he has been getting into trouble at school for aggression . It really upsets me but I'm hopeful that he will turn around with the right parenting techniques and consequences,3.4335294117647024,5.970798235294121,5.0468235294117685,77.04670588235294,76.45098039215686,9.570196078431367,27.84705882352941,9.888512548439397,3.4027929411764712,214,9,37,7,5,72,43,51,0.10099999999999999,0.777,0.122,0.4767,3,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,9,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,1,6,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,2,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23423137118948506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746862793436015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763628759796325,0.0,0.0,0.2613361755344966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760987480582529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5843242164675038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25199492139596635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371210726113705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247018782165192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662901077286754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28619752047730473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169439775449858
parenting,dimthelights17,2020/02/06,"Do babies outgrow wanting to be held? Background: 2 month old son, loves to be held all the time. I blame this on myself, but anyways. I can’t put him down at all on some days. Some days he’ll nap laying down, but I have to rock or hold him to sleep before putting him down. It’s getting harder to put him to bed at night and I’m going crazy thinking about what to do.

Will he outgrow this? Is this a bad habit that can be broken? Is he too young to be retrained?",0.456969696969697,2.3542884848484853,1.858878787878787,99.3683181818182,83.34343434343434,3.96,18.990909090909085,3.1291,-0.8151745454545454,356,9,84,0,10,114,66,99,0.152,0.826,0.023,-0.9354,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,12,2,1,0,2,13,21,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,3,1,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,8,1,16,13,4,18,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,3,7,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513140056976705,0.0,0.0,0.1988631811961036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014369007506034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209964449306293,0.0,0.13281822702962714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109251710215797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653869940037726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931348694803127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452309264262777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7048051489964413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23387076757136224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974679922451045,0.0,0.0,0.1362735102104324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784348917688294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chai-latte100,2020/02/06,"Fiancé [29M] DOES NOT want me [25F] to WORK because he would be alone with our kids. I’ve been with my fiancé for 5 years. We have two children [3F, 2F] together. 

I have been a stay at home mom since my oldest was born. This was a mutually agreed upon decision at the time. I have enjoyed my time watching my babies grow, but I also yearn for more. I would love to go back to work. 

CHILDCARE IS NOT AN ISSUE, because my in-laws (his parents) have offered to pay for daycare and/or preschool. 

We have been struggling *a little* financially. Money has become borderline tight with only him working. He doesn’t want to admit that. 

Every job I have tried to get has been immediately shot down by my fiancé. 

His main concern is that he DOES NOT want to watch the kids alone. 

I got hired at a grocery delivery service. His response was, “Our car isn’t reliable enough and you wouldn’t make that much money. Plus, I would be alone with the kids.” Okay, fair enough. 

I tried to get hired at various grocery stores. He said, “That’s slave work and you shouldn’t degrade yourself doing a job like that. I would be alone at night with the kids.”

I’m in the process of looking for graveyard/3rd shift jobs in order to avoid too much daycare and time that he would be “alone with the kids” while they’re awake. 

It’s almost like he doesn’t want to be alone at all with the kids without me taking care of them. He said he would be lonely at night when I’m gone, but I wouldn’t be working full time. It would be hopefully part time. 

I just need to get out of the house. I’m bored, and I feel worthless. I also want my own money to contribute to bills and groceries. 

Has anyone else experienced this? What gives?",2.4401722982674414,4.490940181008902,3.1458198525892627,91.870997415526,77.45697329376856,5.772719440987843,22.44366803867139,6.6834051587181325,0.44482165214894254,1319,39,277,12,31,414,167,337,0.131,0.79,0.079,-0.9096,4,9,0,0,0,0,51.0,4,2,1,5,6,14,0,2,14,1,40,1,0,1,1,49,66,12,0,18,7,2,2,2,0,10,0,2,1,7,11,16,0,2,3,0,6,4,10,7,0,1,11,8,33,7,42,37,11,33,0,3,3,1,34,14,0,2,15,169,44,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027705304625403,0.4981815897775882,0.0,0.12822125028138498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05605559584467077,0.08214197996359149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061644536316156025,0.0,0.097739801647283,0.0885396780547618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173700714128798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031178052050491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697039515449316,0.0,0.0,0.1656707353964757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754531843575595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0405355421095074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565401037909846,0.07690481586014472,0.045561538274755634,0.0,0.06411797762568881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041542244625223,0.07962529101239814,0.0,0.09250354780001403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367496112852921,0.2386642432014495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833244276940822,0.08034977852456274,0.0,0.0,0.06732124892727365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235509363082678,0.0,0.05351301668412598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389223864390787,0.0,0.0,0.11786596832157695,0.059443838533836835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046518920214047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06097166610399483,0.0,0.0,0.08901749956097238,0.08681454402624557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251697698053102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631611301319577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544882716229249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380939800629064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060276645263736335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23373413763093456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885813630924476,0.0,0.07831285909457818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23642694035727055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727945825051087,0.0,0.29181768002031483,0.0,0.0,0.3986452229089828,0.0,0.0,0.05162580879465506
parenting,futuremrsjenks,2020/02/06,Trying for our first baby My boyfriend and I have been trying for a baby for 3 months. Me and him had sex every day I was ovulating and it has been three/four weeks since then and I am 9 days late on my period. I took a test 4 days ago and it was negative. Any ideas on what could be going on ?,-0.4832967032967019,1.3662039230769238,2.009890109890112,97.19153846153843,86.69230769230771,5.560439560439562,13.9010989010989,6.868970318607317,-0.6479670329670335,225,3,56,3,7,77,46,65,0.064,0.9359999999999999,0.0,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,0,0,7,12,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,0,9,0,6,4,0,15,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,10,38,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290670247103496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757293116141629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632129564850804,0.0,0.0,0.4999639122215308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21772361487810496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21980547828915464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468617373093285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29171617587227977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915004731671608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626233373263614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21376142987068486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287105714483524,0.3508901504207855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20728286164118892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Klunkman,2020/02/06,"Entertaining toddler while putting baby down for nap Hey All,
So I have a 2.5 year old and a 3.5 month old and I’m really struggling with what to do with my toddler while I put the baby down for nap. The baby is at a point where she has to sleep in her crib not in a common area. Right now we have a box of special toys/activities that the toddler is only allowed to play with in her room when I’m putting baby down to sleep. She gets really excited about it until it’s time for me to deal with baby. Help! I can’t have her in the baby’s room because she will yell and flick the lights on and off.",2.787596899224809,3.4209393875968988,4.36124031007752,89.3238759689923,73.72868217054264,7.283720930232557,23.635658914728683,7.3871296695380915,0.7403705426356586,467,12,108,5,9,157,76,129,0.025,0.867,0.109,0.8622,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,10,0,9,2,2,1,1,12,12,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,9,0,0,0,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,2,12,4,25,11,1,30,0,0,0,0,10,16,0,0,11,72,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195740590206483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022268395220458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248271294480804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147833265471798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656877678159686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116626341129345,0.0,0.0,0.14918445665802116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542955482431228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5915688294303652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513233937896994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751500636507707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39259263757413415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20506343853354406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143793586530104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631716872268464
parenting,jaldino,2020/02/06,"Resources to prepare older sibling for arrival of the new one My little guy is going to be 2yo when his little sister will be born.   
I would like to hear your experiences preparing your first for the baby, what worked great, what you wish you had done, what failed, etc. or if you have interesting books that you liked! Thanks :)    


p.s. I am considering buying him a baby doll to care for together. But not sure if that's a good idea. I am worried he may think we can interact with the baby in the same way (not always super safe, putting it aside when we are bored, etc). What are your thoughts and experiences?",3.5417948717948704,5.541558606837612,4.202059829059831,85.77488461538465,74.04273504273505,7.073162393162392,23.66581196581196,7.908726449838941,1.163718632478632,475,14,94,7,10,151,85,117,0.068,0.691,0.24100000000000002,0.9759,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,7,0,4,2,12,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,0,1,19,21,7,0,4,6,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,7,4,0,1,3,1,1,2,2,2,0,2,3,1,15,10,10,13,3,12,0,1,0,0,16,3,0,4,8,66,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653719582775326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955535271530987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802211427220788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928172469699985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34453772988419634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979863436793872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008707635985176,0.14771227700283265,0.0,0.19416132425775506,0.0,0.17437607384442014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848818406246485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19880616765711004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207639333063168,0.3530159306820824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700876339245675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933634191140678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703866992765502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598110144515493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621379488278388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284384428112962,0.0,0.13981125610266298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978750860481576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025172116048207,0.0,0.0,0.12820979944626196,0.17884772626827605,0.0,0.12510312230326498,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arifkaredia,2020/02/06,"Fingers are effective tool for learning math in early years Finger based Learning in Early Years

Latest Research says that fingers are the effective tool for learning Math and Calculation in early years

Dr Ilaria Berteletti Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nz8rC8kP2wE&t=50s Share your concerns and question below: https://www.ecednetwork.com/contact For Weekly News Bulletin Subscribe the channel or like👍 the Page: https://www.facebook.com/ecednetwork",16.53574712643679,22.500153379310344,9.745517241379314,42.40954022988509,49.6896551724138,8.694252873563219,42.42528735632185,9.2995712137729,5.577645977011494,408,19,31,7,6,106,40,58,0.0,0.865,0.135,0.8126,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,4,3,2,0,10,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,7,2,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,8,17,2,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.391085171371168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763401328389842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043424687718805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870389895776381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895293544477641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6973127602494336
parenting,DarklightPhaze,2020/02/06,"Car seat question, new father 😂 So my son is a couple months away from being big ol two.
He's really tall for his age, 89th percentile, and weighs around 27lbs.
He's still in his car seat from when he was a baby and when we're in the car he has to almost cross his legs to be in his rear facing car seat...
When is it a good time to turn that puppy around?
I've been reading a lot of articles but everyone is so damn wishy washy. 
Thoughts?
Thanks in advance 👍",1.0761791383219972,2.7814570714285765,2.5036054421768696,96.50726757369615,80.3265306122449,5.580045351473924,18.03174603174603,6.42735559955562,-0.3384594104308385,355,7,84,3,9,115,70,98,0.049,0.8859999999999999,0.064,0.1086,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,8,3,1,0,5,0,8,3,2,0,0,9,11,8,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,1,0,6,0,1,0,1,3,0,5,2,14,6,1,23,0,0,0,0,11,9,1,3,8,45,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23972780993690165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262393632855572,0.0,0.0,0.22492726856643874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26489518325442524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22876009988245066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008001185054328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353211324372408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910894194352148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23121718614971234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681864711647592,0.0,0.23946807266929196,0.0,0.15336787575709807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118777404032708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204103815841488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005946806486354,0.1395979817282766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26040202958865616,0.2338622244867824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,munkysmarie,2020/02/06,"Car seat recommendations for tall toddler I am looking for recommendations for a car seat for my tall little man. 

My son is 14 months old, 32 inch tall, and weighs 26 lbs. 

I am looking for a rear facing car seat but  I am struggling. Most seats max out rear facing at 27 inch. He is already past that. I want to keep him rear facing until at least 2 years old but he is just so tall. 

His current infant seat (graco snugride extend2fit) will hold him until 35 lbs or 35 inches. But his shoulders are already past the built in head support and just seems uncomfortable. 

I would like something that would convert to forward facing and even booster seat. 

Any recommendations or advice would be appreciated! Thanks!!",3.7357867132867137,6.363752613636365,4.282121212121211,82.44702797202798,75.8939393939394,5.8797202797202806,25.305361305361306,7.010146845296331,1.1653745920745922,563,20,101,6,13,178,80,132,0.05,0.8270000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.8841,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,0,12,7,6,0,0,19,19,11,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,4,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,11,3,13,14,2,25,0,0,2,0,9,13,0,4,11,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747419834079625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39466722836429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160453159364595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810970012317193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352211629672355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894447740114706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736299389675448,0.1792257961751798,0.0,0.0,0.3003295008413653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273335648204966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752854861167152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414100927065545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627920824083602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766527755463978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186942719201748,0.0,0.0,0.20292415118812354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646345133078432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547336259262992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.381088298006517,0.0,0.0,0.1151549743423516
parenting,scruggsss1,2020/02/06,"Absolutely Horrified [https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/living/story/37-pose-children-online-identify-sexual-predators-parents-68623626](https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/living/story/37-pose-children-online-identify-sexual-predators-parents-68623626)

​

I’m sad for the girls who have already had their innocence stripped from these senseless men and the parents who had no idea it was happening.

I’m angry.  


My hope is that this story reaches MILLIONS of people. And when it does...these people will have two choices

\-you can choose ignore it and say “not my kid,” “this was staged,” “this is a publicity stunt,” and that will be the easy way out (in the short run)

OR

\-you can choose to come to terms with the fact that this shit is actually happening and understand that you can do something about it 

Parents — I. AM. BEGGING. YOU. Please....don’t choose the easy way out.",13.95523679417122,17.72939330327869,9.040928961748634,54.387586520947195,50.39344262295082,8.373041894353369,29.94899817850637,8.841846274778883,2.3720626593806924,741,20,96,9,9,200,80,122,0.139,0.77,0.091,-0.8245,4,0,1,0,0,0,64.0,0,4,1,0,2,4,1,0,7,0,17,1,1,0,1,19,24,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,15,9,0,1,5,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,4,1,8,1,10,17,1,11,0,1,0,0,14,4,1,2,2,68,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.19094436559381148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21592520814645996,0.0,0.0,0.2120068880188984,0.23775881272525576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855120634559154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34605826156422564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434310795342852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208860759496652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4345337343691122,0.0,0.0,0.2713039938540551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560355486526234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008510455424412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506352773891239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19113982800752927,0.2036979532591225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106253151637928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23775881272525576,0.0
parenting,Summit_Creek,2020/02/06,"""You Are So Deerly Loved"" 🦌❤️ Plaid Baby Romper **Hello Parents!** We love this community. **😍** Most of us at our company, including myself, are working hard to make a baby. My wife and I have had a challenging start. I know most of you heard of PCOS (Polycystic ovary syndrome) and it has been a journey thus far. 

But I am here to bring smiles and not bring anyone down. I would like to share something that has got our parents up in a frenzy over, and the positive feedback is unreal. We know most of you have seasonal family photos and we would like to bring a theme to the table. We are wanting feedback really, and see how the community feels about this piece of gear for your little ones...

Introducing the **""The Deerly Loved Plaid Baby Romper""**  **🦌❤️**

* For **boys and girls**
* **Deer Print** or **Solid Plaid** (no design)
* Recommended for **0-18 Months**
* **Main Color:** Plaid
* **Material:** Cotton Blend
* High-quality for our little ones

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**\* 3M** \- 37cm romper length, 27cm bust, 23cm sleeve length  
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Here is a link so you can check it out --->  [https://summitcreekshop.com/products/baby-romper](https://summitcreekshop.com/products/baby-romper) 

Let us know what you think, we want your opinions on this great product. If you want to support us, grab one for your babies!  *They are little only once!* 😊",0.014074118160536388,-1.0029751808118057,0.8733888822759219,93.99096496448836,149.51660516605162,3.5272150140856247,12.139070745546164,5.498636772478753,-0.7396647145181126,1150,25,223,16,93,352,156,271,0.013000000000000001,0.838,0.149,0.9884,2,0,1,0,0,0,152.0,11,9,1,2,6,9,0,0,11,0,17,3,0,3,0,35,37,13,0,6,4,3,3,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,7,13,0,0,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,4,6,27,9,24,30,5,18,0,0,2,3,32,11,0,6,5,111,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960230756612922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208041652394748,0.0,0.06479421111712558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248965629862898,0.14128085736847487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479319052890495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539274801698886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127623339470425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310374477345854,0.0,0.12521082906476694,0.38530634416114395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34696892910300475,0.0,0.08553811100338726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228450916777873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364707668071814,0.2605041055150447,0.09746042115416867,0.0,0.0,0.2845808078298509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209328355428949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211536610385268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865266039542206,0.0,0.0,0.09070203882781196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541798577528472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211045701165634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624297463609536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22675059402289874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329144441125548,0.0,0.0,0.18206176174421612,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lipstickandOnesies,2020/02/06,"Closing thoughts on Pregnancy It’s been about [27 months since I found out I was pregnant](https://lipstickandonesies.com/closing-thoughts-on-pregnancy/)with my daughter and, honestly, I need to stop talking about it. Or better, stop writing about it. I guess it was such an all-consuming experience for me, I truly feel like I will never get over being pregnant. Sometimes I look back at pictures of me, or read old pregnancy posts – and I think, ‘Was I really pregnant’, ‘Did I really carry a baby inside me?’.

Yeah.

Seriously.",5.5500000000000025,8.679772666666667,5.747777777777783,71.665,72.33333333333334,8.444444444444445,31.11111111111111,9.150863307647796,3.3597777777777766,420,19,64,10,9,133,63,90,0.07200000000000001,0.768,0.16,0.8126,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,0,1,16,15,4,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,2,13,3,10,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,3,7,43,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495603144216798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20123122681644728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225673711894793,0.0,0.0,0.11504567969274546,0.1625470185290223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24947419660938466,0.0,0.0,0.11887469841593742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506492392784708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115935116957497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910673556475307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161176247635108,0.0,0.0,0.16871013564333406,0.1754846673179193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23875378623924626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21791022965324824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275909302714144,0.0,0.2915222653962145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821463582682907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250323525729488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38044946208076696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182879478976696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457916251146577,0.0,0.1806328946552688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ihaveadeadpancreas,2020/02/06,"Parents who have set up emails for their newborns for them to open later in life, what kind of things do you include? I just recently set up my 6 month old son an email account for friends, family, and myself to send him words of encouragement or stories. What kinds of things have you included in your own experience?",8.430499999999999,7.51320371666667,7.746666666666666,75.14500000000002,61.83333333333334,11.333333333333336,36.66666666666667,10.504223727775694,3.627166666666668,253,10,48,5,3,79,48,60,0.0,0.899,0.10099999999999999,0.7399,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,3,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,12,3,1,12,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,1,4,34,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714005628189496,0.2615563475112718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435814876466644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5778455664553315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19597202423725307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22145894201473576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911384162655267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30807678079737444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27394963901995345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686525663426938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dwarvenfriend,2020/02/06,"What are consequences I can give (at home) to my 3 yo who is misbehaving at daycare? My 3 yo has been sent home 4 times from school since the New Year for misbehavior. He is physically very strong (the workers can't physically constrain him), exceedingly hard headed (he'd rather stand next to the time out chair for an hour rather than sit for 1 minute and smart (he knows the codes to all the doors and knows how to push the buttons of the workers).

He's acts like a normal 3 yo at home, no abnormal problems except some tantrums that can last a while because of hard-headness mentioned above. 

He just got sent home for 3 days with more to come, probably, if he doesn't get kicked out all together (meeting pending today).

What consequences can I give him at home that he can relate to his behavior at school? He knows what he should be doing he just chooses not to, but taking TV and treats away for extended period just seems like it doesn't connect to what happened at school.",8.362187134502925,6.812242610526319,7.672807017543862,77.65353801169594,62.368421052631575,11.181286549707599,35.321637426900594,9.994966539143718,3.136988304093568,776,27,156,13,9,242,116,190,0.045,0.903,0.052000000000000005,0.5034,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,3,7,7,1,0,10,0,16,1,1,1,2,29,29,7,0,6,9,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,6,0,8,7,0,1,5,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,4,1,8,5,28,22,4,27,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,3,13,87,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615570682499325,0.0,0.0,0.07536451294748596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064974461085741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973198186684913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459226867333116,0.2371968795898213,0.0,0.0,0.09887927074736737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093267792631461,0.0,0.22149878097334508,0.0,0.25376283010941325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6200615352176335,0.0,0.12175195913555735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038336417428146,0.10077603705562488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208000486558666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194039115776344,0.13148332495982584,0.0,0.12113245668986054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332954870263555,0.11829848867753165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753645273525358,0.0,0.11254932207886664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226911603209432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295537612820916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418084870132908,0.0,0.11718804762655904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200879724967203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796145248865946
parenting,UnexampledSalt,2020/02/06,"I need some advice on estranged Bio-Dad of my step son. What a morning...

My wife and I have scheduled a meeting with an adoption attorney for me to adopt our 7 year old son. His bio dad agreed that he was ok woth the adoption as long as I didn't try to keep him from seeing his son. I never have and never would. 

That being said, he has seen his son 1 time in person in the past 6 years. That was for about 2 hours for lunch 2 years ago. He consistently sends Christmas presents and sometimes birthday presents. He has made 1 phone call last year and our son cried and didn't want to talk to him on the phone at all.

This morning he texts my wife and says ""Our family is going to Disney and we wanted to see if you minded us taking [son] and pating for everything?""

My initial, protective instinct is ""Absolutely not!"" Not because I have any intention of keeping him from you, but because he doesn't know you, you haven't made ANY real effort to be a father or be in his life at all. Then, suddenly, you have a great opportunity for a trip and you want to take him several states away from his family and everything he knows? 

What if something happens? What if he freaks out and you can't calm him down? What if you decide you dont want him to come back home with us? 

We plan on calling and talking to them on Saturday about it. Yes, my wife shares my concerns and more and we will be talking more in depth when she gets home from school.

I don't honestly know why I am posting other than to vent and get some outside opinions. I am freaking out a little about this whole thing.

In the unlikely event that bio-dad happens to see this post and knows who I am, I have tried to be as vague as possible.",3.81518304431599,4.663669569364167,4.560823699421967,88.04138969171484,71.51445086705203,7.616377649325628,26.555394990366093,7.793537801064563,1.3017094412331405,1325,42,286,16,24,426,177,346,0.054000000000000006,0.883,0.063,0.8079999999999999,0,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,8,9,1,3,5,8,0,0,11,2,28,2,0,3,4,57,54,28,0,10,8,11,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,1,15,24,1,3,5,0,0,5,11,2,0,0,8,6,47,6,49,39,7,47,0,0,4,0,63,17,0,8,22,186,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702037534020994,0.0880103637518359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503471882588625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328173961304627,0.07634421152369415,0.0,0.12104670644247265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276263629532773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552543227447243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906016045868856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116361547325639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17846232126178654,0.0,0.18719455287072292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374486716317137,0.0,0.05642608288191811,0.0,0.0,0.1094623139519118,0.0,0.0,0.17559519776885266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991823570386693,0.0,0.09777594971354063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764985443676739,0.0,0.0,0.21825825825420914,0.08093071192809252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012809247667393,0.0,0.09950988123425157,0.0,0.08786430211434718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18789216596919264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024977685311652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361873823711729,0.15314977655186252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418314480776844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947789841150917,0.0,0.08669203114265821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192917625503962,0.1901756061644948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300832532711473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444298754912044,0.07895559801577308,0.0,0.10048195093053984,0.2373524157194531,0.0,0.0,0.1121640467871789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643461885449057,0.09819562882679224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493002699331624,0.2394051152952955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596069353487119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057894014652285164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481630459259394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388558083036312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342439985527765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958947509222198,0.11084841095097347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052937706453374,0.0,0.0,0.25574572555705816
parenting,TheDanishDude,2020/02/06,"Parents of Reddit; What where some of the warning signs that turned out to prove that your kids friends where no good? (all ages of children). My daughter is currently 4 years old, and is at the stage of her life where she's working on learning social skills, it made me think about the fact that as she'll get older she'll also be starting to get friends, hopefully good ones. Id like to be able to, thoughout her life, to speak with her about what makes good and bad friends, and I would like to know what sort of experiences you've had with this and what sort of warning signs you told your kids to look out for.",9.441951219512196,6.181239373983742,7.722699186991871,83.50990243902442,61.764227642276424,10.815609756097562,36.79512195121953,7.554174236665415,2.447144390243903,485,15,107,3,5,143,76,123,0.075,0.74,0.185,0.9349,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,0,2,6,10,0,0,3,0,8,2,0,2,3,23,19,6,0,2,0,2,0,2,3,3,2,1,0,3,9,8,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,2,12,9,23,11,2,14,0,0,1,0,20,7,0,4,8,65,21,2,0.1805882449355484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444163542302222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078364134515265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766499557143392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185660902060831,0.0,0.18869980894776725,0.0,0.0,0.4544065557020692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936487450084482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924657662596673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551096360537323,0.17645258922183196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516486434341623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087696379910713,0.120544055785182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894969848472888,0.0,0.12237126842884095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005218748229972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18408697369785024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278212892479768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571365552096352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17255980697513593,0.0,0.0,0.19642815326991966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147039310869588,0.0,0.0,0.12828470787234386,0.0,0.0,0.11629290892030902
parenting,Gousf,2020/02/06,"A question for either females or those with a daughter. We are potty trained but we have a issue with ""Drippies"" after urinating what do I do?! Hey everyone let me preface this by stating as a male I am not 100% sure how urinating works for females so if it's an obvious issue please forgive me.

So to my conundrum, I have a 4yo daughter and she has been potty trained well over a year. The past few months I'd say maybe 3months shes had an issue where after she goes pee she gets drops and we have to change her underwear, this has been an almost daily occurrence sometimes multiple times a day. We have told her to not rush (sometimes she wanted to hurry up and get back to playing), before she stands up from the toilet we tell her to squeeze or push before standing up,but it still happens.

Any suggestions or advice?",4.235351966873703,5.659420149068326,4.9605124223602495,83.39472308488614,71.11180124223603,7.602691511387165,30.186853002070393,8.07648339933343,2.147148654244307,648,27,122,9,12,209,103,161,0.016,0.9259999999999999,0.057999999999999996,0.755,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,12,0,15,3,3,1,2,25,20,12,0,2,8,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,10,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,2,20,4,18,15,2,19,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,6,9,89,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16222067209306149,0.0,0.0,0.16623259750046115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289083745048235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276495711376179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825204230830569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561399289902085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706114653889301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586273433104563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346420294088538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679994227239246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5198063060236336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975398348416468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677691287477073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250565529269112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15847300579423326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222645621609904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18596646641845446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201587945537407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283714549449108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257385656432602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15646016623703352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509792967173565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680034667075664,0.0,0.0,0.1586273433104563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979155634724926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492607384466384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085548511200354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690342966442666
parenting,jweiskopf,2020/02/06,"Wooden trains and tracks My son just turned 3 and is OBSESSED with wooden train tracks. He has been for nearly a year, playing with them several times per day. He's gotten really good at creating complex tracks and I love seeing him get totally immersed in the process. 

Assuming he loses interest at some point, what are the toys you guys think have similar appeal? He likes to build and construct. Legos still seem a bit to complicated and the large ones he finds too simple. 

So... What sort of building toys are YOUR kids wild about?

Thanks in advance,

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parenting,threadinsidepinhole,2020/02/06,"Thoughts? Great parents provide tools, teach and guide their kids how to fly.
Good parents provide tools and take them to someone who knows ho to fly.
Bad parents just give the tools and leave the kid alone.",3.7713157894736815,6.615677447368423,1.778157894736843,99.2346052631579,77.15789473684211,3.8,27.921052631578952,3.1291,0.3489263157894733,165,7,32,0,4,44,27,38,0.14300000000000002,0.7070000000000001,0.15,0.3182,3,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,7,4,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,0,0,13,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373414199048784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913396494998927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983186735485946,0.0,0.19220915992131815,0.0,0.2526505296785729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594075203561328,0.0,0.0,0.24264814009051694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7633676618380805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19416715505163135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17230036036118618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819280335277872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,likeistoleyourbike,2020/02/06,"Asking the big question: Do you have guns in the house? My daughter is 8 years old and of course at the age of wanting to go over to friends’ houses to play. We live in an area of the US where just about everyone owns a gun for hunting purposes. It’s just a way of life here. I have never owned a gun and can only make educated guesses about gun storage safety.

I want to ask parents of households where my daughter may play if they have guns and how they are stored. It’s my preference that she not be in a house with guns at all, however I am realistic and understand those homes are few and far between here.

What questions do I ask about gun/ammunition storage and what are acceptable answers that tell me that the parents are responsible gun owners who will keep my daughter safe?",7.158274193548388,6.267383625806452,7.192056451612903,78.00808467741936,64.35483870967741,10.330645161290324,36.149193548387096,9.516144504307137,3.1724999999999994,622,26,124,10,8,200,97,155,0.061,0.8340000000000001,0.106,0.7319,3,0,0,8,0,0,11.0,2,1,2,0,10,5,0,0,10,0,15,1,0,2,2,28,25,8,0,4,4,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,9,8,0,2,6,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,15,5,21,22,4,17,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,5,4,90,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210321732491397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434482626570833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598409366920175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531794580249816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653766057123674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058487737135431,0.0,0.0,0.5196628325066834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343557157860547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603579918312517,0.0,0.0,0.1325607150764658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020778116954236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578354962952495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575280694363317,0.0,0.0,0.114174751361082,0.0,0.0,0.3333860308761789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363425997495813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121348118283796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628257776869045,0.18057860714970436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709200915921242,0.11916007057826282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667382014608104
parenting,miranda_098,2020/02/06,"Traveling in Asian with 4 months old baby I and my partner have 4 months old baby and we are going to South Korea in 2 weeks.
I don’t really want to go many places there since there are so many Chinese people in kr and more than 20 people have the virus so far in Kr, but my partner (dad) wants to go everywhere he wants.... do you guys think it’s ok with baby? I don’t think so. 
Can you please help me to convince him? :(",0.4213333333333331,2.2772682444444463,2.338888888888892,96.10500000000002,83.22222222222223,5.333333333333334,16.666666666666668,6.42735559955562,-0.4546666666666663,322,6,76,3,9,107,57,90,0.040999999999999995,0.8109999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.8403,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,12,16,7,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,11,16,1,16,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,5,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335300455525204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936968686596214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131121528495397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966606897833607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122877650140465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4105454695039623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712397937142169,0.0,0.2043837053656052,0.21473458099751952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125320677844683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182081811178642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506937884640089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461493670897196,0.0,0.15691643844084086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sophehh,2020/02/06,"Is childcare the best thing? Hi, this is my first post here so be kind.

So a bit of background; I’m 23 living in the UK, I have a 15 month old son and I’ve been working part time around my husbands hours since before he was born while my husband works full time. 

I’ve just got an interview for a company I’ve always wanted to work at and they do childcare vouchers according to there career site. The problem is this job is full time 9-5 weekdays and that’s what my husband works too. My husband thinks I should go for it and put our son in childcare through the week. The thought of doing this breaks my heart since I’ve been his sole carer since birth. I might not even get the job yet but I don’t want to go through all the effort of an interview if I don’t really want the job. 

I don’t have many mum friends and the ones I do also care for there kid full time with the help of there parents (which I don’t have) is it normal for people to put children this young in childcare for that long? Do any of you do it and how’s it worked out for you?",3.2786309523809507,3.7423594821428567,3.930428571428571,93.48123809523813,72.48214285714286,6.866190476190478,25.20119047619048,6.42735559955562,0.5680586904761897,820,23,193,5,15,260,123,224,0.009000000000000001,0.897,0.095,0.9554,4,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,1,8,13,5,0,0,15,0,23,1,1,1,1,24,34,13,0,7,4,8,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,13,9,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,1,0,2,5,0,19,4,24,26,7,31,0,0,0,0,21,10,0,2,15,124,32,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590756219642113,0.099790935095053,0.0,0.0,0.0815561592715257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676266413789676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10205115464985047,0.0,0.12585859068429234,0.0,0.1309319312017835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227609821225525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921229076352009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201195481527964,0.0,0.0,0.0926572191072799,0.0,0.0626582036348188,0.0,0.1363173750454416,0.0,0.0959185612922892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142117011785831,0.08038620274896935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810638030126427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570345118094345,0.0,0.0,0.12488809865586832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589992845820137,0.10613381624852833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158966951254928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722622647191995,0.0,0.0,0.09572656711107093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750542741337222,0.0,0.0,0.12584581543516274,0.0,0.08126731976064479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331674953563186,0.1298719402981812,0.0,0.08314400122274766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485929071255414,0.0,0.0,0.11475631597235572,0.0,0.2411245052188877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682989615404466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976207166665573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967581780988603,0.07684596854010323,0.0,0.09521061123414967,0.2797273780197437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21221254452718216,0.0,0.09620019519216028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365504506490819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tritonesyndicate,2020/02/06,"Getting the kid from A to B The kid (almost 3) is fine. He likes being at home, says so. But when it's time to go to daycare he makes a fuss. Once he is there he loves it, and when it's time to go home, he makes a fuss again. Same thing for going outside, or for going anywhere. Loves where he is, hates to move.

Do you guys have ideas on how to get him to also like going from A to B?",-0.4549137931034508,0.8752764252873604,1.8075718390804631,101.47273706896551,83.59770114942529,4.3500000000000005,15.472701149425287,3.1291,-1.3545160919540231,287,4,77,0,8,97,53,87,0.032,0.81,0.159,0.8909999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,8,6,1,0,6,0,6,2,0,3,0,9,18,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,14,17,1,14,0,0,0,2,14,3,0,2,7,44,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867343012737371,0.0,0.0,0.14912920113013955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948577909460995,0.0,0.5299087156195832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464601961886928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411188985861526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741123310413801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051493318010375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221089853886965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366136981875355,0.0,0.24895572023059945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982003396403699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985967286532586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829758650116015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389003314508427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21747774348011514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chevrons21,2020/02/06,"Discipline and spanking alternatives Do you guys spank your children? Those of you who resorted to no spanking, what were your alternatives to discipline them at a young age. How do you kbow it works. The more details the better. I am taking notes. TIA.",2.9269523809523825,5.990728044444445,3.4371428571428595,81.87000000000002,90.77777777777777,7.015873015873016,26.42857142857143,7.957251820313856,2.473190476190476,202,9,34,5,7,63,36,45,0.045,0.81,0.146,0.7181,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,5,1,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,4,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,2,26,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5231574863338786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5857046455133185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4447546235971696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43063863912319306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chuckit122,2020/02/06,"How to handle separating from my children’s stepmom? I’m separating from my wife of 2 years. How do I handle letting my children from a previous relationship know? 
She loves my children and they love her but the lack of trust on her end has made it impossible for me to stay, she wants to see them one last time and I’m a bit reticent as she gets emotional very quickly.",3.51301801801802,5.240173905405406,5.165945945945946,79.99234234234235,73.45945945945945,8.717117117117118,29.90090090090089,9.2995712137729,2.6888900900900903,295,13,59,7,6,100,53,74,0.039,0.809,0.152,0.8276,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,3,0,9,12,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,13,3,11,10,2,7,0,0,1,2,14,1,0,0,5,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833374602165649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919341729413766,0.2298648582550164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559271689242494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262985258996255,0.21155003443416234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653850585157768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684684729191047,0.2455717565910512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586295236188268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786360460544145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068102887940964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766224156774011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133291801639892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21413785659029447,0.15307639330994974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671275828391834
parenting,BandZdoYouToob,2020/02/06,"Joe Rogan Experience Meets Ryan's Toy Review? For a while now my son has been asking to make a Youtube channel. With the rising fame and fortune displayed in this modern day, this must be common. According to Google, 75% of  kids from the age of 6-17 say their most desired career is to become a Youtuber. So I asked him to come up with an idea. My 7 year old son's idea he presented was to be like Ryan's Toy Review, the kid that made $26 million on Youtube in 2019, but instead of opening toys we are outside, doing things. My first thought was, that's actually a good idea.  Then I challenged him to come up with a list of things we could do because if we do this, we have to be consistent. He then brought me 52 different ideas so we can do one every week. That is commitment from a 7 year old, so I figured I need to do something. When reviewing shows like Ryan's Toy review, I did not want that kind of silly/fakeness that can sometimes drives some of us parents a little crazy. I am a long time listener of the JRE and have always enjoyed real conversations, especially with my children. So we gave a couple episodes a shot. My son has been telling his friends, neighbors, family and random people at McDonalds and the feedback has been positive from kids and adults, even requesting more. So I wanted to put it out there and see what people that dont know us have to say.  If anything, it would be great to have these memories preserved to look back on for forever, also to justify doing the other 49 things on his list. Here is the link to the channel. Comments are disabled for kids content, so let me know what you think on here. Sorry for the clickbait title. 

[https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtpeuL6fFF8XXNPm1ztSm-A](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtpeuL6fFF8XXNPm1ztSm-A)",7.158636363636365,7.7962931969697,6.435303030303032,78.31295454545456,64.0,9.024242424242424,32.25757575757576,8.841846274778883,2.543739393939394,1425,52,258,20,20,436,190,330,0.021,0.872,0.106,0.9849,2,0,1,0,0,0,59.0,8,1,1,2,15,8,0,0,20,0,36,0,0,2,2,48,54,20,0,9,4,4,0,2,2,2,0,3,1,6,18,20,0,0,10,7,0,6,2,0,0,3,10,5,28,8,42,36,3,37,0,0,2,0,39,12,0,5,21,178,46,7,0.0,0.0,0.10643330006918787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722054644172254,0.09075217521529057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975254529954864,0.0,0.2039251565656484,0.0,0.0,0.08386550795351773,0.0,0.06648600672722682,0.12045552643985807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790249260526354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708083105501496,0.12068015415405507,0.0,0.07033895497298896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395141709904442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782528076399471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203748199902266,0.0,0.09189334171392163,0.0,0.0,0.10668809463053462,0.10281831424614572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927720217135184,0.0,0.0,0.08426460955973439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914799165378306,0.0,0.12024634714441156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924918089003426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135761139098066,0.11988033754110078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152802101218404,0.0,0.10656889474200727,0.1093134183921022,0.0,0.09652053745442238,0.09158850199464162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320148459849147,0.07280282397327546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087152586855542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288941672227937,0.0,0.07390637270980635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110558799801376,0.0,0.0,0.15122614012745508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964208986257684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414170527641673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346832723032246,0.0,0.0,0.08691198503472883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396482205433348,0.10786968816644517,0.12209116543768815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532904393235224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173770725191692,0.06988549405712383,0.0,0.08658672318128031,0.06359763038191049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623874592615975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866065109333572,0.0,0.08748667362930525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774778063079024,0.0,0.0,0.14047067061611446
parenting,camille1993,2020/02/06,"About to move to NYC with a baby I need all the advice anyone can give me about navigating living in New York City with a baby. any tips/hacks on navigating the subway system with a stroller in tow, shopping, must haves in housing. Just anything anyone can tell me is appreciated! Thank you in advance! 🧡",3.9408620689655134,6.080363086206898,5.209862068965517,78.3713448275862,73.3103448275862,6.708965517241379,25.393103448275863,7.554174236665415,1.43003724137931,241,8,43,3,5,80,43,58,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.7494,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,12,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,28,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906272575028134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022501452010252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159143321164093,0.0,0.2447444765081381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853043897137385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34317315445411395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626199676242887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161015546817396,0.0,0.2205269967225485,0.0,0.28724205968476874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599509225657825,0.2738167220024163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HoLeeFack,2020/02/06,Punched in groin by daughter... Me and my daughter (10) were just play fighting tonight like we've done before and out of no where she just punched me in my groin. I honestly had no idea how to react and kinda just sat there for a few seconds shocked and in pain. After I caught my breath I got serious and kept my composure while telling her not to ever do that again because it is very painful. I always tell her that if we are ever play fighting and I hurt her by accident or if I'm being too rough that she needs to tell me to stop right away and I won't keep going so that's why it was such a surprise. It's already done and over with but honestly I don't know if I should have whooped her butt seriously or if me keeping my cool and getting serious was enough to make her realize she hurt me for real.,1.9006706114398424,3.666037331360947,3.1874319526627235,92.27743984220908,78.05325443786981,6.400157790927023,26.05956607495069,7.3011,1.1151771992110455,635,25,141,8,15,206,102,169,0.158,0.753,0.08900000000000001,-0.7933,0,0,0,0,4,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,12,17,2,0,2,1,14,4,2,3,2,39,26,19,0,6,11,2,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,7,12,0,4,3,2,0,2,5,10,0,1,10,2,27,7,18,13,2,17,0,2,0,1,16,8,1,7,8,103,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485074922203772,0.0,0.13184100763015494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886663599945096,0.0,0.0,0.09658812143541834,0.0,0.13482714683494387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242935954727304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371861656233144,0.0,0.0,0.2866496584829927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278227572114889,0.0,0.09004936203057845,0.0,0.12672493507716512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33924263795216963,0.1788679339668294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28167082504902924,0.0,0.0,0.08707859871660056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740944187556452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576493233564097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174868088153776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371986091153499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803479362752606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531329378265022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246919944955418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41547027975841977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307357761748922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429742180330266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arle1216,2020/02/06,Tips for protein So my oldest is such a picky eater. Like no vegetables at all. He’s super active and is on 3 different soccer teams but he’s also very thin. Eats a lot but just never gains the weight. Any suggestions on good protein powders that. Can give him that veggie boost?,0.9331363636363648,3.5219020181818195,2.323977272727273,90.64596590909092,92.45454545454544,4.931818181818182,17.784090909090907,6.6274283507984215,0.2477727272727273,221,6,42,3,8,71,47,55,0.069,0.71,0.222,0.8517,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,2,7,4,5,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,4,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,25,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27294454464068185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321017054882473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35659507902808824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34924413658386755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32741452605645205,0.0,0.286273649751427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674625208667448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29016855833342153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632384074399763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816155259955057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156222006303261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tanman1975,2020/02/06,"Got a call from teacher about my younger son's little gang at school. To preface: This teacher is awesome and I trust her implicitly.

Apparently my younger son is the ""leader"" of a group of boys who are BFFs and have the run of the playground. Apparently his teacher noticed some alarming behavior amongst the boys and wanted to bring it to our attention.

The most pressing is that another parent had complained that my kid had told her son that he'd be out of the gang if ""he didn't do something that my son wanted.""

So I asked my son about this and he told me that the other kid (his friend) was using a lot of potty language and inappropriate behavior and my son didn't like it. He wanted his group to be ""more serious."" (  I'm assume he meant more mature. ) He asked his friend to stop, but the kid kept going and after a while my son threatened to eject him from the gang if he didn't stop.

Any thoughts on how to address this? The obvious answer is to tell my son to ask for an adults help in this sort of situation, but I'd rather teach him how to solve the problem self sufficiently if possible.

I'm not sure how to proceed constructively.",6.784985250737464,6.095559902654866,7.001017699115046,78.41297197640121,65.01769911504425,10.011209439528024,33.877581120943944,9.2995712137729,2.790482005899704,902,34,182,14,12,292,119,226,0.08199999999999999,0.855,0.063,-0.5348,3,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,0,7,9,0,1,16,0,16,0,0,4,3,38,33,17,0,8,7,9,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,7,13,8,0,3,5,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,12,1,21,5,27,18,5,13,0,0,0,0,46,5,0,8,6,116,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100781768206093,0.17116986194837436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4578180507156291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668481971386848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522354112175269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277223480792796,0.0,0.13055678760951092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941536505172704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975011433831024,0.1636079202395131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877958523736034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858481811473569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125710158168376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840269480183613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561972549358617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520613641025889,0.0,0.0,0.17029341784958868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348697953417886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256690176892575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729494890142386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385040983298467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267769543395933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129593181774171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119628767626187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098570332459248,0.0,0.0,0.2888469940607465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,highlycaffeinatedxx7,2020/02/06,"My husband recently gotten injured and I have so much on my plate. A little before Christmas my husband had gotten injured. He accidentally severed the tendon in his finger by a knife. We have 2 kids together. A 4 yo and a 2 month old. 
He has been in a cast and has been attending therapy ever since. I completely understand the toll it takes on him. 
It is taking a toll on me as well though. Ever since he’s gotten injured, he can’t help. I completely understand. Which is why it takes a toll on me. 
I clean, I cook, I tend to our children, etc. 
I am aware there’s not much he can do until he can heal. I’m trying to be patient.. I realize it’s only temporary.. but man... I am stressed. He used to be my relief and I don’t get it anymore. Everything is on my plate. He tries to help as much as possible.. but it’s limited. 
I find myself getting so overwhelmed since he used to be my relief and now I don’t have that. Side note - we really don’t have any family that can help. They live miles away. 

Can anyone give me any advice on how to cope? I am so overwhelmed and don’t ever get a chance to relax. 
I know eventually things will progress.. I’ve told myself I can wait. I’ve tried to have perseverance. I just feel like I am in this ball of stress and I have no idea how to relieve myself. Any advice would be much appreciated.",-0.14120196560196518,2.1555515127272784,2.584285012285012,89.77253562653563,92.05454545454546,5.736609336609337,19.432432432432424,7.2228458231874715,0.6569027027027028,1026,33,219,19,37,356,137,275,0.077,0.7709999999999999,0.153,0.9714,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,0,1,3,13,10,0,4,10,0,35,7,2,4,3,30,55,19,0,1,4,2,2,1,0,2,4,0,1,3,11,9,1,2,7,3,0,1,7,4,1,0,7,2,36,6,25,42,5,22,0,2,0,0,25,13,0,0,9,146,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20953598690978056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21872699144676566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632718797814583,0.07496631664795793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073080681218546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123096783700403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248230635389702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957162376229938,0.0,0.29094280774440057,0.0,0.0,0.09635676650567636,0.0,0.10107154100971022,0.0,0.05421047157715413,0.07659349357100946,0.0,0.0,0.09799138568892148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804421018496465,0.10284915699585083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558926313062107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103122489698695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892184938490895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05237920157633809,0.10745630028011413,0.09467166736388664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557695790137455,0.0,0.31525764270521284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250275001571182,0.0,0.0,0.0815408552675333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086734527854565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868384594960854,0.0,0.10586060112193338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211209715326972,0.0,0.26606485857994705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456258778387569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418340938435046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260821751025128,0.0,0.07122802281797949,0.0,0.10533692259210052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244729140428303,0.0,0.21837320770468407,0.0,0.0,0.22322649977791093,0.0,0.1851964385278171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639799827532804,0.0,0.09674369437528772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616154120991232,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dysphunktion,2020/02/06,"Child support question? (Sorry if against guidlines) tl;dr at the end.  
First, I apologize if this isn't the right place. And secondly, I'm not asking for any legal advice!  


So, I pay X a month in child support for my little Angel Bugs. I'd pay more if I could afford it, honestly.  So after our hearing with the court, my ""lawyer"" told me not to pay, since I requested wage garnishment to ensure she would get the money on time, same time, each month. (I was SO wrong there too). Ok, makes sense I suppose. Well, months pass and my ex asked if I was paying it, 'cause she hasn't gotten anything yet. I tell her what my lawyer told me and she said that didn't sound right. So I called up NM child support office and they nearly laughed me off the phone. I should have been paying since day one. Well, f\*\*\*. Now I owe a rather decent amount in back support. I immediately made a payment and a few weeks later the garnishment letter arrived. Which listed my employer as some company I've never heard of.  
Sigh.  


Long story short, I recently got promoted and with the promotion comes an insanely nice bump in pay. Enough that my ex could literally live off the child support payments (at guidlines!) So I requested a hearing to adjust the CS order so she gets more and I paid the back CS in full earlier this week. But my ex has only received the usual, late, weekly payment. Office is closed or I'd call and I'll be out of cell range most of tomorrow starting at about 5 AM. Does anyone have any experience with this? Why wouldn't she get it all at once? I can't really think of a legitimate reason the state would have a policy like this. Maybe due to some people not doing too well with a sudden ""windfall"", so to speak?  


***tl;dr***  
Paid off back child support recently. My ex hasn't received it, only the usual weekly payment. Is this a thing states do? If so, why? State is New Mexico. And WOW, maybe I should have stuck with the TL;DR.",1.718760718030964,4.250344970822288,3.1035728826105737,88.42729319597807,83.37665782493369,5.9472950465733145,20.438529393621614,7.3071595529392575,0.7350807353031898,1502,44,294,23,43,488,204,377,0.042,0.83,0.128,0.9855,4,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,1,0,1,3,21,17,0,0,24,1,27,0,0,4,2,49,56,25,0,13,11,4,0,1,0,5,0,7,0,5,14,18,0,0,4,0,11,4,10,1,4,3,14,7,36,15,35,34,12,61,1,0,0,0,38,22,0,10,32,190,50,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789466013062051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987931217809367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648992327365041,0.0,0.06648290588709428,0.0,0.15105462409691853,0.0,0.0,0.18636650316172532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649903017924943,0.0,0.0,0.08299310981356584,0.0,0.0695930332122235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900774404287854,0.0,0.0,0.052102568323366585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069946895182408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155555087740903,0.08347718894264408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902767025628757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871953957350699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266275970914788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461477363604087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211136139000014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113411757260602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039469687327408624,0.08097234103950521,0.07133864200223032,0.07149619864637302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644501406696512,0.05392764381640668,0.0,0.16232789912559342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345631486241935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062309872061293375,0.07802703902983732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603822106193272,0.054745081656723545,0.12288816801182033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600929315267391,0.0,0.08440787181480519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050277188001772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05175584664313769,0.08306510032746915,0.1595398440919245,0.0,0.0,0.1379876476936307,0.07684935105705776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336598810332086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904372732199306,0.05718325066980305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5500740605140303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061361697218768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053672979063605714,0.051766673677790566,0.0,0.0,0.09421805835614618,0.0,0.0,0.1543957310373978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795652403329662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592179762639571,0.0,0.21791849072213024,0.0,0.1457999836949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478113936302367,0.08833067702013456,0.0,0.0
parenting,RicoPerry,2020/02/06,"My daughter was being bullied by her cousin. Am I wrong for this. I have a niece (5) who is a bully, takes toys from every kid, doesn’t clean when asked, and she hits everyone without fear. My daughter (5) is a sweetheart and doesn’t like hurting anyone so when she gets bullied she get upset, whines and tells on her. Eventually I told her to handle it herself or stop playing with her. The niece hit my son (1) and took his toy so my daughter went to her and asked for his toy and said don’t hit my brother, she hit her so my daughter must have been fed up because she dropped her with 4-5 punches and she has never hit anyone before in her life, the girl fell down started crying and my daughter took the toy and gave it back to her brother. I couldn’t bring myself to yell at her or tell her she was wrong because I felt that she felt she needed to do it, and I was honestly proud as a parent for her sticking up for her brother. The girl became very nice to my kids and has not bullied them since and shares all her toys. Should I have told her not to do that after it happened. How would you want your 5 year old to handle a bully that won’t stop hitting or taking their toys?",5.679607535321821,4.70869918367347,5.8718367346938765,86.53145996860283,67.36734693877551,8.028257456828886,29.866562009419155,5.8734145424116955,1.2596279434850859,920,27,201,3,13,293,125,245,0.15,0.752,0.099,-0.9421,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,2,1,7,13,0,2,9,0,23,2,0,1,3,33,50,22,0,6,6,11,2,1,1,4,1,2,1,4,9,14,1,2,2,7,0,5,9,6,0,0,14,4,47,7,25,24,1,22,0,2,0,0,57,6,0,3,11,139,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966254099927794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26288916388222305,0.0,0.0,0.1081148281838422,0.0,0.17142025057376167,0.0,0.11964257587329136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444550771257776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184638726107306,0.13435194348424487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582171724076199,0.0,0.0,0.270001359740621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691825698953878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433453864930735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051814120318013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931187339099164,0.06869139665355599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425515015171716,0.10844150098504574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753892372113145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612270357636632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374540345960506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630803949064415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951934306232707,0.0,0.0,0.23510037285621466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21143152453169844,0.0,0.24578598418287895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687038869684897,0.31242963520912315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601198562413152,0.08293113895337591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130340148634285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553602395585973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988015241835213,0.3074540480412552,0.0,0.0905435547290052
parenting,bayfarm,2020/02/06,Why do parents have kids when they're past 40? You'll be old by the time they grow up. Michael Douglas is 75 and has a 16 year old daughter! Cameron Diaz just announced she's having a child at 48! Im not trying to be judgmental but im curious about the logic behind this.,0.7816091954022966,2.83306555172414,2.624827586206898,93.46126436781613,83.13793103448276,5.2459770114942526,23.459770114942533,6.42735559955562,0.5476459770114941,214,8,47,2,6,71,51,58,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.5475,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,6,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5935906814883108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766431620909684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050960627672404,0.0,0.2622960422280365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160218755811378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865486502762388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479343386234432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694083835319516
parenting,hiddenname132,2020/02/06,"Tween stopped doing homework, will not communicate -- out of ideas on what to do. About 2 weeks ago I started having a hard time getting my daughter (6th grade) to go to school and she has completely stopped doing her homework. So far, nothing I have tried has helped. I tried talking, silence. I tried grounding, silence. We have now sat at the kitchen table for 2 hours and she won't even log into her Chromebook to let me help her catch up. 

Her teacher emailed me saying she has changed from a ""happy, young lady"" to a melancholy and difficult child. I plan on getting her into a councilor, but that could take weeks and her grades have already dropped to failing in just 2 weeks. What can I do in the meantime?

Note: I've taken her to counciling before and she wouldn't speak to her either. After the 3rd visit the therapist said there was no point in taking her anymore, so I can't count on therapy fixing the problem.",4.767980769230772,6.268157284090911,4.775227272727276,84.94005244755245,69.9090909090909,6.779020979020977,31.720279720279716,7.010146845296331,1.9168125874125868,726,32,134,6,13,225,114,176,0.109,0.88,0.011000000000000001,-0.9294,0,0,0,0,0,1,25.0,1,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,9,0,19,1,0,0,0,19,28,8,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,1,3,9,1,2,1,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,4,4,24,1,24,19,1,30,0,1,0,0,24,14,0,0,12,94,27,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038388039754934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476327974950034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705872922942066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475969925768244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675325883364932,0.0,0.1660460759488606,0.0,0.0,0.12644414502005327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460072223023792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654817274106595,0.0,0.09000431463882183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858592555389235,0.14186682728314726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230177246081886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596080558246936,0.0,0.0,0.1787784548887726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619422448294608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195858778586868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970916637346568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515370078997621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506444525768296,0.1259407728369042,0.0,0.16027710351613075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120938482267766,0.0,0.0,0.26480586288133484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23814639940266916,0.12729038429664558,0.0,0.0,0.181107872797336,0.18387772112241907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234578840734348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225648975772725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811003241591896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LiftTheFog,2020/02/06,"Scared to Death of an Incoming Second. Hey everyone. Never posted here before but I had a question for some veterans. 

I am currently enjoying what feels like the perfect two year old and I know it sounds crazy, but my love for the kid is so huge that I have this feeling that by bringing a second child in (coming in probably three weeks), I am going to have to take some of my love and affection away from the first in order to give it to the second.  I know this sounds over simplified, but I just can't shake this terrible fear.  Can some multiple child parents calm me down here. I feel like I am doing my son a great disservice now that this kid is close...",3.708320610687025,5.145838496183206,4.651824427480918,85.04384351145039,72.43511450381679,8.5987786259542,25.31374045801527,9.120678840339163,1.9032589312977104,517,16,105,11,10,168,84,131,0.10099999999999999,0.607,0.292,0.9881,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,5,12,0,3,8,0,11,2,0,1,2,20,23,6,1,0,4,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,10,4,0,0,6,0,0,4,2,4,0,6,1,5,13,8,17,22,3,21,0,0,0,2,11,8,0,4,9,79,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975934997093201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280639453406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481249358574296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282250576482814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215297666445584,0.2902241957764625,0.2733701248317977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274385742946074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353965575897646,0.10873635099790667,0.0,0.0,0.21094025994727228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102981933672967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869468045642604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453627403922494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756427354033802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076699326427092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21244756967700976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323973955818232,0.0,0.2062843983896342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21433161943784187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915531272482088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438551617122523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869000665167584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347211882556958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320923037747322
parenting,inquiring-mama,2020/02/06,"16 year old dating a 14 year old? Is is alright? So me and my three kids (16, 11, and 4) all moved to a new state in July for my job where my husband stayed at home for his company, and we see each other once a month or so.

So on the first week at his new high school, where he was stating as a sophomore, my son (then 15) became friends with a girl who was 14 and a freshman. 

He hung out with her little group of friends, and he asked her to be his homecoming date about a month later and started dating shortly after.

He turned 16 in December and she will be 14 in April. They kiss, make out a bit sometimes, and cuddle together. As far as I am aware, never anything sexual.

So is it okay for them to continue dating? 1.5 years doesn't seem like too much to me but would you allow it?",3.1972727272727286,3.607987030303029,4.420000000000002,90.09000000000002,72.63636363636363,7.454545454545455,24.696969696969692,7.348242739294969,0.8594242424242422,600,16,138,6,11,198,109,165,0.01,0.914,0.077,0.8333,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,2,1,8,6,0,0,9,2,11,2,0,2,2,22,17,18,0,1,2,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,4,14,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,17,6,23,11,4,40,0,0,1,2,23,14,0,2,23,88,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734363053775014,0.0,0.15602800604277753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822104473816149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196417752762813,0.0,0.0,0.2578914584350653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633792383542787,0.1674132737301205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562147351515674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153840572104779,0.16727661258358645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140635760823032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26643432903671743,0.1773871907469735,0.12268994564615072,0.0,0.12872277366717838,0.3223841279942876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502647844734882,0.17774195468717094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891066664910656,0.13299686958262005,0.15193855283020746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650673476535832,0.0,0.11813194907994486,0.17789209403457315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18153815171534132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387628551165398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856023880897593,0.0,0.0,0.32243239156226994
parenting,NathanRyan1992,2020/02/06,"New here. My 4 year old locks up when I try to teach her something So me and my wife are at a loss. We have a 4 year old girl and are wanting to homeschool her. But going over letters, numbers, and writing she will act forgetful. Even though we just went over something a few moments ago she acts like she doesn't know what's going on. Has anyone else felt with this, and do y'all have any tips for getting past it?",2.2708374384236443,3.6484018965517286,2.955993431855504,96.00620689655176,76.01149425287356,5.4311986863711015,23.922824302134647,5.288315135182226,0.13489622331691242,323,10,74,1,7,101,68,87,0.054000000000000006,0.9159999999999999,0.031,-0.2263,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,2,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,15,8,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,1,12,1,9,12,1,19,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,0,10,47,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19891133259526536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259530084446274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569011794076714,0.22991769761723266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18745200772202214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820981575892553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21545298639954066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723636227395287,0.0,0.255056037964372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332082026635385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096273482709981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167206776005728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47092654283562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142090229909442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454982173605837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22046551209776372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234848294512746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132353122741196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080150581315152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28900416330250817
parenting,better_in_violet,2020/02/06,"Extremely sensitive 4 yo daughter--- help! First time poster here... any insight would be much appreciated.

My oldest daughter just turned four and my husband and I are not sure if we are on the right track with parenting her. Since birth, she has been extremely sensitive and emotional. The biggest manifestation of this is her separation anxiety. Until she was 2 1/2 we had trouble taking her out to the store because she would scream and cry if a stranger looked her way. She was terrified of her grandparents until fairly recently and I always felt like I had to apologize for her shyness (something I hated doing). 

When my husband and I are home she wants to sit on our laps constantly and will shadow us if we are walking around the house. Up until recently, we were unable to even run upstairs to grab something without her hollering. Bedtime is obviously very hard because she wants us to stay with her, something neither of us mind doing except that she won't go to sleep because she is so busy checking to make sure we haven't left yet (eyes popping open, etc.) 

It almost seems like she has abandonment issues or is very insecure? We are very affectionate towards her, but it always makes me feel like I'm not giving her enough cuddles and kisses when I see her acting this way. She does attend preschool for three days a week and does not really interact with the other kids. She just likes to stand and watch them play. Drop off at preschool is not great and often results in her screaming and crying. I am a SAHM but I enrolled her last year so that she could have some social interaction with other kids her age. She does play with her baby sister quite well (16 mos) but doesn't seem willing to have meaningful interactions with other kids. 

The other issue we are having with her is defiance. She was late to potty train and still regularly goes in her pants, sometimes up to 3 times a day at home. She just doesn't seem to care and often seems to flaunt the fact she is doing the ""pee dance"" (meaning she has to go). If we ask her (nicely) if she has to, she usually acts sullen and refuses to answer. This type of response is typical with her. She often doesn't respond to questions and is prone to emotional outbursts that leave us scratching our heads. It is literally like pulling teeth sometimes to drag the answer why she is crying out of her. Her preschool has noted this too and has asked that we tell them ahead of time when she is having one of her ""emotional"" days. 

She is due to start JK in the fall and I am so worried for her. Then again, this could all be normal 4 year old behaviour. Any insight out there? I should mention she also has some sensory issues (loud noises, doesn't like being in bare feet, textured food) but nothing too serious.",5.83951199563795,6.920564799618323,5.89962050163577,79.43098473282446,67.03435114503817,8.812998909487463,30.429443838604143,9.002800196639251,2.4970205670665213,2201,81,401,37,35,695,263,524,0.10400000000000001,0.8079999999999999,0.087,-0.8125,2,0,3,0,0,0,62.0,15,0,2,3,23,23,1,1,14,0,58,9,6,3,5,97,82,39,0,13,19,6,5,6,0,6,0,3,2,3,16,40,1,2,13,3,2,10,12,7,1,4,8,12,78,16,61,63,7,69,0,1,4,2,87,20,0,17,39,293,94,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257970663957004,0.0,0.0,0.05796339288276895,0.12062075282879613,0.0,0.0,0.09857974895000562,0.0,0.055448114212063374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452386136102768,0.1355207511408181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325520655289038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389967337855521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832670267895316,0.0,0.11574108690943385,0.0,0.23885242251647915,0.14023362550658544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028702752179305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445956413294204,0.0,0.07489271789106322,0.08083598124354599,0.04787331703069163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03664880115976394,0.05178076549325868,0.06959356281699812,0.0,0.0,0.06165268807049265,0.08764486234626426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953081562527437,0.08238576172256773,0.0,0.0,0.07991105933859703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492914631808497,0.0715604303207603,0.07438688309642755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048582791029030056,0.0,0.14540961704419306,0.0,0.0,0.08363386681093116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269554213065175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059082059292496374,0.08176223761326845,0.07674739469512372,0.07875131226433983,0.0,0.0,0.21246466458934826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086616676045253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676386725592488,0.0,0.0,0.07895355248888819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318560678618463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053282208794086384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101643602482413,0.06954791031553788,0.0,0.07605709368132561,0.0,0.04911530932429063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048207748982529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119581706837874,0.07709294865424313,0.0,0.0,0.046433475671070784,0.0,0.14313338394959926,0.0,0.0,0.061898766010622525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05775833493723099,0.2639375754267255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995740806779558,0.0,0.07253379962190852,0.07388571493806245,0.0,0.1673992941211042,0.14337202346034628,0.0,0.05130274647185387,0.07725558640725305,0.05788378309788805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662582594524822,0.0,0.054497033267261394,0.0,0.06335198587963065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267935567923621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883900879446534,0.0,0.0,0.34874506086369217,0.0,0.07982808189945832,0.17941437221235626,0.08550287944892394,0.11506480950948615,0.058140250691621924,0.0,0.06516953216250232,0.0,0.06540323881106185,0.0,0.0,0.06986953551789242,0.0,0.0,0.0736084352588388,0.0,0.10297749119745893,0.0,0.0,0.09335136044886108
parenting,doesanemailcount,2020/02/06,"Found some kinda creepy stuff on my sons phone I’ve never gone through my kids phone because he’s never given my a reason not to trust him. Sure he lies little white lies but I’ve never seen him lie or try to hide his wrongdoings. Either that or he’s really good at lying.

I was in the kitchen when I heard him laughing. He called out for me and when he came in, he was showing me a video he had saw that was funny. About midway through the video, he gets a notification for Dropbox. I wouldn’t think anything of it, but he quickly dismissed the application. When the video ended, he quickly put his phone in his pocket.

Honestly I assumed it was porn. I was a 17 year old boy once. I get it. 

Something just didn’t feel right so I finally sat him down and asked him what was with his reaction. He kinda stuttered a bit so I knew he was lying. I told him to show me the Dropbox and he did.

Three things where on there:

1) around 350 pictures of his ex girlfriend. Some private to him but a lot where screenshots from her every social media. There where tons of these things. Literally every social media post of hers, is on his phone.

2) was a list of her login information. Her snapchat username and password, her Instagram, her computers:

3) other people’s password. Maybe 20 people that he knows (most friends from school, even one of our neighbors and my colleague).

He has data on most people in his life.

Tons of data on his ex girlfriend.

They had a messy breakup but he’s seemed fine. I ran into her at the grocery store and she told me if was because he was obsessive. 

How do I handle this? I told him I didn’t know how to handle the situation.",2.036945749286172,4.304081717325229,3.2185465598231566,89.74432900432902,79.85106382978724,5.568425900340794,22.73565441650548,6.714681859716394,0.6181339412360689,1291,42,261,13,33,416,173,329,0.076,0.851,0.073,0.3042,0,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,1,0,18,9,0,1,15,0,19,3,0,3,4,45,40,20,0,2,10,3,1,0,4,1,1,1,2,2,13,11,1,0,10,5,1,4,7,2,0,2,28,5,47,7,35,11,9,37,0,0,3,1,65,20,0,12,12,172,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735410686685304,0.11613342735500655,0.12195867525385072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904943637026667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242407721329642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321008050329602,0.14920681900387406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554522404384104,0.0,0.0,0.08616490501892174,0.0,0.2198294787915769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596243308070578,0.0,0.0,0.1429080840865793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303818312133498,0.10078992043710724,0.0,0.13631566800582445,0.0,0.0,0.10942023653364234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339032419269415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214487456903897,0.0,0.13075110417070004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090895831676424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106050643902098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018469443327933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368915433385414,0.13893129753086889,0.08840030784140805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27132512767389144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249407103290816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114423209868978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835734030781954,0.1341304135021577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140864316283827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202835608321478,0.0,0.11876217028678145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466379203397906,0.0,0.2659667641501341,0.0,0.10043134096969776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934081747244193,0.0,0.0,0.12295316102868725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733382334413039,0.08359088616831709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739686673230748,0.0,0.08857100655260197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400933552720481
parenting,InferiorInterior,2020/02/07,"What do you do as a father when your 17 year old daughter is crying from her first broken heart? I’ve never seen her this upset before. Comfort her? Leave her alone? Will it make things worse if I go in there, not talk and just comfort her until she falls asleep?",2.1767924528301883,4.261703660377363,2.5704150943396264,95.51373584905664,78.43396226415095,4.24,16.260377358490565,3.1291,-1.0215479245283023,206,3,43,0,5,63,46,53,0.259,0.662,0.079,-0.8875,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,4,2,2,1,1,6,7,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,9,2,4,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,1,0,1,6,30,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086840031022633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536137421734101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273876618499251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25351632419933423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938544069957434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531839233879755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155858731210027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894688058033905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298701333616013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31274735008030285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395567137800909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19800738546098987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037325981971469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919307535540296
parenting,CINUmuiicoffee,2020/02/07,"How do I teach my sister to not touch her teacher inappropriately? (She doesn’t know what she is doing)  My sister is 6-7 years old and keeps touching her teacher from the front and because she is tiny, is is close to his private area. She also tried to hold his hand although he gently pulls away. She touch’s his butt also. She keeps going to talk to him repeatedly. I do not know what to do and how to teach her that her behavior is wrong. I know she is doing this for attention but I can see he is uncomfortable. What should I do?",1.9957798165137604,3.92529889908257,3.600449541284401,88.66324311926607,78.35779816513761,6.194862385321102,20.99174311926605,7.1686216300943375,0.4439937614678899,416,11,90,5,10,138,61,109,0.054000000000000006,0.907,0.038,-0.4039,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,17,2,2,2,0,17,24,9,0,1,3,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,3,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,5,22,0,10,23,0,9,0,0,1,1,20,3,1,0,3,66,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4205010026618442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24701432570651155,0.0,0.0,0.16026861578115134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941885596425328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673762421886081,0.0,0.0,0.4334684101855098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27588174675374033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20950669504721406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21131857592803846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849987956552738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28745282153627805,0.0,0.16930660334180778
parenting,konstantin_metz,2020/02/07,WWYD Teen misses cut-off age for medicine that would change his life I'd love to hear what you'd do if this were your child. [Story](https://www.cbc.ca/kidsnews/post/teen-cut-off-age-medicine-drug-change-life-spinal-muscular-atrophy-spinraza),6.248571428571428,9.380650285714283,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,69.95238095238095,7.057142857142857,27.16666666666667,8.07648339933343,1.6215523809523815,200,7,36,3,4,52,34,42,0.065,0.79,0.14400000000000002,0.5106,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,0,0,1,1,12,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748032399898922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108764144643587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39932272177857386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5005062287945475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31977028110824296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393222034442495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516851042650282,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,someone5793,2020/02/07,"This Little Piggy (according to my 3yo) This little piggy went to Walmart. 

This little piggy had Mac-n-cheese

This little piggy had Mac-n-cheese

This little piggy fall down go BOOM

This little piggy have special toy tickles his nose *hehehe*

(She had no idea I was listening to her)",2.173261455525605,5.031192471698116,3.615687331536392,82.62547169811323,86.54716981132076,4.538005390835579,17.005390835579515,6.1826913282559595,0.18528247978436685,223,5,35,2,7,73,31,53,0.043,0.9079999999999999,0.048,0.0609,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,3,5,1,4,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,21,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145137355351224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816527943906012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9676711396107278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916928011402786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dizzyizzie,2020/02/07,"Talk to me about 3 year old birthday parties What are some things that worked well for your toddler’s birthday? What are some things you’d do differently? What foods did you serve?

My son is turning 3 in a few weeks- I’m trying to plan something fun for him. It’s cold so we’ll probably do a small party in our house. Our friends are doing a party at a trampoline place which sounds fun too.

He has two lovely best friends and a few friends we aren’t sure we want to invite (behavior issues.) last year was chaos and we swore we would have a smaller party this year but I keep reading that the most important thing for 3 year olds is to invite lots of kids their age. Should I invite all his friends and just dealing with the chaos? Would having only two other kids at the party be enough?
We also have a new baby so going for a smaller party this year might make sense.

Any thoughts appreciated.",2.2243451272501535,4.546252815642461,2.98889199255121,91.34585816263193,79.50279329608941,5.318559900682806,21.676288019863442,6.42735559955562,0.3273200496585971,710,21,144,6,18,223,114,179,0.038,0.6970000000000001,0.265,0.9874,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,8,3,1,3,7,10,0,0,11,0,22,2,0,1,2,25,30,7,0,4,2,1,0,0,4,5,0,1,0,2,13,9,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,3,2,18,10,15,20,9,18,0,0,0,1,25,6,0,5,11,98,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339510258878208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792328009919027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568441942910248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332948091326786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508306175271545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335936332291748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634090902856024,0.0,0.3995640158413269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347986256073799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918609502901262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494769659491698,0.0,0.11492104466517004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539057977608757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991979303495254,0.11669145812199855,0.0,0.08630369517920206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371588270704545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487142614819854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713412936226864,0.0,0.0,0.09833271252615047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508306175271545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939909793723584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932740964944112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953562256064656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185657694725335,0.0,0.0,0.10392035071823837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576884189619935,0.0,0.0,0.10264374039592572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778106707443352,0.14063302710364442,0.2525998173418305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626001992445336,0.0,0.10371058155542856,0.0,0.11624941412993027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941264225600871,0.0,0.0,0.1836912529987847,0.0,0.0,0.4163004014418936
parenting,cutthefuckup12,2020/02/07,"No patience with husband My husband and I have a 3m old son, first child. He is an amazing daddy and I love watching them together. He was able to stay home with us for 10 weeks after he was born. I'm still off work until March, and exclusively breastfeeding, and just found out I have to eliminate dairy and soy from my diet to help the babe. 

Lately I have been losing patience very easily with my husband. Also, I'm not 100% happy with our marriage, but I think it's partially new parent stress. 

I think part of my annoyance with him is, even though he discusses it with me before committing, he's making plans outside the house frequently. I feel like some of it is definitely slight resentment that I have only been grocery shopping half a dozen times by myself as 'me time' , but I also feel like he doesn't completely understand that everything changes when baby comes along. Today he said ""So because you can't get any me time, means I can't either?"" Well, if he's not home to give me me time then?? 

Am I out of line for giving him attitude when he has plans?",5.442065934065933,5.831007895238094,6.1061904761904815,80.05598901098902,67.66666666666667,9.50915750915751,29.48717948717949,9.466822959209583,2.4758278388278385,838,28,164,16,13,274,134,210,0.085,0.802,0.113,0.73,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,1,5,10,10,2,1,5,0,16,2,0,1,1,32,32,17,0,1,7,5,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,5,15,1,0,7,1,1,1,6,4,1,3,6,4,27,6,24,26,3,24,0,1,1,1,29,3,0,2,21,105,32,1,0.13573530707262788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170949520523296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230466337139738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274298334190253,0.0,0.11550074894105106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358995702340616,0.11692394821760553,0.14231588699336392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965189017130122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199014173375325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137263699291135,0.19393866098776424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545638285556352,0.0,0.14882675818745852,0.0,0.0,0.0709160956772483,0.2604193497585198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449275836659148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909805151533064,0.0,0.2723071603486221,0.0,0.0,0.15662032019063776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311533859175078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262682956099187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185308886736434,0.0,0.0,0.12250641409325436,0.0,0.09060437147291213,0.0,0.0,0.14785554157089098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109400539097865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243137163641956,0.0,0.0,0.10323281749592396,0.0,0.0,0.15071799531355204,0.14698811025054262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291153600986279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467577718214486,0.10839839156464463,0.0,0.15548433564996364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17394740804131364,0.13335925003306062,0.0,0.3165933964338956,0.0,0.1286611999919773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130524162531333,0.16327286176081685,0.0,0.0,0.11199584368625162,0.0,0.0,0.10887867590615342,0.0,0.12204234221334745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881692014857804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fullpurplejacket,2020/02/07,"Partner is going to be leaving to work away in the next month. Any advice on how to cope and positive personal stories? I have two babies 1yo and 2yo with my partner of 4 years. Hes recently been offered to work away 5 days a week (possibility of weekends for double time pay) and is going to be making £22 p/h. 

This is an extremely great opportunity for us, although we have ran a successful online antiques business since 2017, online market can be fickle and its not a set income. I've just started having my oldest in nursery for 15hrs a week (split into two 6hr and a 3hr day) ; and am looking to start at college in September doing distance learning on a Busienss Admin booster couese. I want to return to work once son and daughter are in full time education in September 2021. 

I am wondering if anyone has any positive stories of being stay at home with a partner that works away? And if anyone has any good coping strategies, I feel like I will be fine however I might not be. 

TIA",6.426768723504473,6.336933834196893,7.5159397079604355,72.4273999057937,65.58031088082902,9.712482336316533,35.162034856335374,9.339509955726095,3.308703626943005,782,34,138,13,11,266,127,193,0.017,0.843,0.14,0.9722,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,6,2,6,0,0,9,0,23,0,0,2,0,24,33,12,0,3,5,2,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,4,3,12,0,0,3,1,1,3,2,0,0,2,2,2,11,6,29,23,2,34,0,0,1,0,10,14,0,4,16,93,14,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321839865376651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759641063973601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891674406237179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812710114751719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447553348423495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839642536668762,0.09663670162225936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375377705729046,0.1134578076057606,0.0,0.14913532320467596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568653960065633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323108225203834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608594330864455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359248052998168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029357599052994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349977656394186,0.0,0.0,0.10797098501309152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438608619120809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405781713723095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811228556167715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524962635465732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335625109551778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189649473694896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148918158996345,0.1441795033575228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15775370125242993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264277685387508,0.0,0.16271279532024735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978557453177662,0.0,0.21701039004767492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669422081851544,0.39391181434345335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710925263265021
parenting,Singletwin,2020/02/07,"Parents of singletons and twins, does your singleton get left out? I have a 16 month old son who will be 17 months when his twin siblings are born. We wanted kids close in age and were surprised to find out that we were having twins. We wanted to keep the genders a surprise but our doctor let it slip that at least one of them is a boy. I don't know the gender of the other one yet. 

I am worried that the twins will have their own little unique bond and exclude the oldest. He'll only be 17 months older than them but they'll be minutes apart from one another in age and will probably be able to relate to each other better. 

Am I worrying for nothing?",4.161445279866335,4.920683924812032,4.812431077694239,86.88066833751047,70.65413533834587,7.414870509607352,25.304093567251464,7.3871296695380915,1.0823857978279028,514,14,106,5,9,165,90,133,0.065,0.883,0.052000000000000005,-0.4137,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,1,4,1,2,3,0,0,8,0,19,1,0,0,0,18,25,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,7,11,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,14,3,15,13,3,20,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,0,11,76,21,1,0.1810555767034814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898525587001475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601289442688531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18531805473769766,0.15844295528521707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548151700864794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459406603422124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093051557529506,0.0,0.0,0.09950340994384113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967174138498002,0.1851415940699357,0.0,0.0,0.18146525286355303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335505018612783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372770894289735,0.0,0.1899873709240695,0.0,0.3680638335883008,0.13770092475975193,0.0,0.0,0.20104079144630074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19520853440840252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21358254025590295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36774145357844606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,captglasspac,2020/02/07,"Suicidal Behavior is More Prevelant in Preadolescents than previously thought and most parents were unaware. Something to think about. A large cross-sectional study of 9-10 year olds across the U.S. (N = 11,814) found higher than expected rates for suicidal behavior and ideation. In my opinion, it just shows that we, as parents, should not disregard our children of being incapable of having ""adult"" emotions, feelings or thoughts.

Link below to the original article and a news piece about the study.

 [https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2760445](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2760445) 

 [https://www.usnews.com/news/healthiest-communities/articles/2020-02-07/family-factors-tied-to-suicide-thoughts-attempts-in-children](https://www.usnews.com/news/healthiest-communities/articles/2020-02-07/family-factors-tied-to-suicide-thoughts-attempts-in-children)",29.469546218487395,37.72494304705883,16.632773109243697,-2.5582352941176225,18.529411764705888,11.915966386554622,42.73109243697479,11.491704259439757,6.305991596638657,809,26,58,15,7,198,70,85,0.149,0.8059999999999999,0.045,-0.8898,2,0,1,0,0,2,85.0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,20,10,5,2,2,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,3,0,15,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,3,39,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690406455752921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093449911853467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26224398074339195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25097482694361145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5311529666043683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18412925886334236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232391328472178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325423089338402,0.0,0.3797578265921352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540214094412348
parenting,helloiamjoannaxo,2020/02/07,"Should I be concerned with my daughter's development? My daughter will be five in three months. Last year in head start her teacher showed me her milestones results and she was below average. I didn't want her to fall behind the next year so I worked all summer with her on site words, reading to her, practicing writing her name, and stencils to help her with writing her letters. So, when she started school she already knew these things. But I am more concerned with her speech and emotional development. She still doesn't understand the difference between he and she and it's difficult to understand what she is saying sometimes. When I pick her up from daycare she only plays with the children that are around 2-3 years old. I took her to my company party with me and there were other children there who were 4-5 years old. She just stood there and didn't play with any of them.

She is still crying when she is upset, instead of telling me what's wrong. I feel like she is really stressed out at pre-k. She cries all the time after school. I figured it out that her teacher is being pushy about trying to get her to learn new things since I taught her so much over the summer. She told me she doesn't understand what her teacher is talking about. I had to talk with her teacher about slowing down a little bit.

I feel like her teachers are bit confused about what she can handle because I taught her so much over the summer. When she might be a little behind emotionally. She scored in the 92nd percentile for her milestones. A lot of the milestones I work on with her daily because I did the same thing with my son. 

I just can't understand what's going on. Any opinions? She seems so stressed from school. :(",4.369881118881119,6.153643372727277,4.199393939393938,87.56139860139861,71.33333333333333,6.773892773892776,27.843822843822842,7.321109707123232,1.4370326340326338,1363,50,262,14,26,415,162,330,0.09300000000000001,0.865,0.043,-0.9361,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,1,2,22,10,0,4,12,0,27,1,1,2,2,48,45,17,0,2,3,3,2,2,0,3,0,2,0,2,15,20,0,0,10,4,0,3,5,6,0,2,13,4,62,4,47,25,9,45,0,0,0,0,56,18,0,5,26,197,77,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766711759074607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269720373717586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685491764922057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895133048873135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21303481313459766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143445546127415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193628210082367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219498480478486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866516167913543,0.13940313018671935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050974497130579874,0.0,0.055449320599742564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013143152379236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539680398830508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952976288389957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533217922294128,0.1955746358983392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294759450882698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350269461960046,0.0,0.0,0.07787669191671454,0.0,0.14344528549167546,0.0,0.0,0.0942303850461774,0.10376313618553834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475937022332533,0.0,0.0,0.07420376021794882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759295608451224,0.0,0.06250363230762647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758883913105992,0.0,0.29622768197261595,0.0,0.08882092568033065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070806102336707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964958158748062,0.0,0.13811621703976526,0.0,0.15583355081811676,0.0,0.22352431407139545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684059939688086,0.08527746790760675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19445664784761202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05689184177428457,0.0,0.0,0.09322902269543144,0.10840003053268976,0.06624128517897547,0.0,0.0,0.4062808909586558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057547280933445716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205922546811825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066737096586986,0.0,0.25131864563597783
parenting,blonderaider21,2020/02/07,"Have you guys heard about the case where the father is having to battle the mother’s boyfriend for custody after her passing? It’s mind-blowing. I’ve copied the first part and also added the link to the article. Thoughts? “The case (known as In re CJC) centers around a father who is battling against a non-relative for custody of his four-year-old daughter. This non-relative was the boyfriend of the daughter’s now-deceased mother.

What makes this case especially noteworthy is that all parties in the case openly acknowledge that the father is an entirely fit parent—a good father who acts in the best interest of his daughter. Nevertheless, the boyfriend argues that he should be allowed to share custody of the daughter over the father’s objections.

The conflict arose after the child’s mother died in a tragic car accident in 2018. At the time, the mother and father were divorced and were sharing approximately 50/50 custody of their daughter.”

[source](https://thsc.org/historical-parental-rights-case/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium&utm_campaign&fbclid=IwAR0mYuG0Yr0_QFcGWlfWGarBp-gRkCzxsPLffUmE17fHNhlCIzLBbX6UR68)",9.830738095238095,12.897844216666664,7.189841269841273,66.415,59.611111111111114,9.142857142857146,36.746031746031754,9.606745405546679,4.055436507936508,949,43,124,18,14,271,109,180,0.106,0.7759999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.4761,3,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,0,1,1,2,4,9,3,0,23,0,11,0,0,2,1,14,14,5,1,1,0,15,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,9,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,1,5,1,5,5,23,7,3,19,0,1,0,0,30,12,0,0,4,80,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696539452252634,0.0,0.6786558094471021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586303238062168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910711487603832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166860039573256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759252650864352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511906286705234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067301057005924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936569676473945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081346523554412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908487445555214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318311808844425,0.2260939518500343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575207317733165,0.12174428939754972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445077963329605
parenting,HidingTurtle6,2020/02/07,"Please keep your sick kiddos home! PLEASE, and THANK YOU for keeping your sick little ones (and yourselves!) home! I’m a nanny, who had to furiously and silently watch my kids’ parents Medicate (again! Making that the fourth dose just since I left yesterday) and then dress their sick (coughing, sore throat, fever over 100° for 2/3 days now) child for school today- even after they’d “decided” to keep her home- just because she “[had] a good attitude and [wasn’t] crying”- and wanted to take a (first grade!) test. Ugh. Spreading it around for no good reason is so frustrating and so unnecessary!! Not to mention absolutely against ANY school/ daycare policy! 
I get that it’s hard to work out sometimes, but making it harder on more and more kids and parents and their teachers/childcare, and the general public for that matter, by forcing Them to now miss work and make other arrangements too, Doesn’t actually make it any easier- especially if they just keep getting sick over and over and over, from every kid at school/daycare.

Ok rant over. Hope anyone having trouble with sick and sad little ones (and/or themselves!) can make it through the season, or day or hour or minute if that’s where you’re at.",6.951976516634054,7.975066484018271,6.0285225048923685,79.70270547945206,64.52511415525115,8.631572080887151,31.62459230267449,8.634040054169528,2.453453750815396,956,35,168,13,14,288,143,219,0.174,0.7390000000000001,0.087,-0.9631,2,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,3,5,3,12,11,2,0,6,1,8,11,1,6,0,43,25,24,0,4,10,2,1,0,0,0,10,0,3,4,11,18,0,4,2,0,0,0,4,6,0,3,3,2,13,5,27,21,2,26,0,2,1,0,19,14,0,6,12,104,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.10697624627903966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909481441457476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665095876398849,0.0,0.0,0.09758772199565056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668251705541237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041573104305088,0.14139554754591507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240496546325058,0.0,0.0923621155052234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324527789872453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454699836196908,0.0,0.0,0.18389316266197456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820068648481882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298824570697557,0.10888038573123404,0.10795658482131444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897518793055216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910572315324712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21974211379174532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658710583112579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043365153685823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856677982276656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24344676335360546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406662957291122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127107138928844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328330215280452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068128823477188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841996179612493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824228621767735,0.0,0.0,0.10092614101705608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390979737381573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646584926373377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961371649547088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rx7sarereliable,2020/02/07,Need help with a teenager So my stepson is 16 years old we recently moved to orange county and he has a job lined up. I really want him to enjoy being a kid and not working how on earth do I convince him? It's at a mom and pop warehouse where he works the graveyard shift. Then he will go to school after he gets off? What should I do make him not want to work? The reason why is because he feels like whatever he does is not enough he has managed to save up $2200 and doesn't want to relax. Any tips would be helpful.,1.8793693693693712,3.2007661261261298,3.35873873873874,92.9490990990991,76.92792792792794,6.014414414414415,22.243243243243235,6.42735559955562,0.2851513513513515,404,11,92,3,9,133,79,111,0.04,0.774,0.187,0.9339,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,3,0,20,21,7,0,6,3,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,2,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,8,5,13,16,1,13,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,0,6,54,10,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366945239306806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253457521443505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590627496571198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076983260159352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163731355625086,0.14360245716301967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502006706443287,0.0,0.11423930976984133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694671699480576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19947262129778892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820392960174686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417655156484826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354219137804734,0.0,0.21364311747722475,0.0,0.14904727411141916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092746376525207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877293600175066,0.2066730145910276,0.19847433155363767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343408814419767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35568488027598183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138136256234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390156909512641,0.0,0.0,0.14279260481735784,0.0,0.0,0.12944463655826444
parenting,viscix,2020/02/07,"18 Month Old Won’t Keep Her Clothes On My daughter, the light of my life, will not stay dressed. She’s started stripping completely naked in public and the speed she does it in is astounding. She’s gone to the bathroom on the floor 3 times in the past 2 weeks. She will strip off her diaper before anything else. 

I’ve heard that kids do this when they’re ready to potty train but she doesn’t possess the ability to tell me when she has to go yet. She takes off her diaper whether it’s clean or dirty too. 

I need help figuring out a solution. I’m 8 months pregnant and I can’t keep up with her naked shenanigans anymore.",1.7012295578437318,3.9492121574803134,2.4357480314960647,94.9995457298607,80.96850393700788,6.112416717141127,23.155057540884318,7.321109707123232,0.7803051483949122,492,17,108,7,13,153,90,127,0.031,0.8370000000000001,0.133,0.8957,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,7,0,8,1,0,0,0,12,17,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,1,4,4,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,2,16,0,15,12,0,24,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,1,11,60,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23095070804680995,0.0,0.0,0.19163734772009688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816057415232746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24416636373497536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379161431595874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19453826170949806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234896458852774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609207113154902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139823004784469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644874135119268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37175927240503615,0.0,0.0,0.1726748213301657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24436449667682636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223067732458996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648310395906111,0.24821514436222436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509399137091092,0.0,0.20354414550492364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579203984684846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679931626694612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gtrdfg,2020/02/07,"My father who recently moved in flicked my 5 year old daughter in the head. Twice. I found out by over hearing him on the phone with a friend. 
My father recently moved in because he has no money no pension and no skills. It's been tough but I'm a single dad and really need the help. Kids are 2, 5 and 8. Hes ok with the kids but i refuse to leave my 2 year old alone with him because he has little patience. So I get him to drive the older kids to school and sports and watch them while their asleep if I need to go out. 
Recently we all got home and while in the kids were in their new playroom across from my father rooms my father decided they were to loud(6pm) and took it upon himself to go in there and tell at them to be quiet. Seconds later my daughter came out crying stating grandpa had hit her. I honestly didnt fully believe her because my father knows if he were to touch my children i would loose it. I calmed her and because I had an employee in the room I said we would discuss it further later. Fast forward 3 hours and the kids are in bed and the house is quiet. I then over hear my father explaining to a friend how he felt justified in flicking my daughter TWICE in the forehead for not listening. I almost puked. Instead of waking the household and potentially showing my daughter what I would do to her grandfather for his actions I left it until I could get the kids to schools and ask him to leave. Important to mention he drinks so the night prior would have most likely been forgotten by him. He denied it at first then played it off like it was just a tap. I replied that I wasn't concerned about the context it was the fact he reacted physically when angered. So now my father(63) who has no money or resources has to leave the beautiful home I provided for free. I now have no one to take my kids to school or pick them up let alone the help around my large house. So I'm not clear on who's losing more. Maybe i overreacted but I'm firm on my principles and dont truat it wouldn't happen again. But is this the right choice? Should I recommend another option that could help him with his patience or simply say goodbye you lost your chance. He does seem very regretful and that makes me sad. Did I make the right decision or should i explore other options? Hes family and the kids do love him.",3.326046793061717,4.8578684392324085,4.172703278971937,87.723133752089,73.56289978678038,7.202466432317178,26.32173111277589,7.824948511530503,1.4171661499452541,1834,64,377,25,37,589,233,469,0.12300000000000001,0.7509999999999999,0.126,0.8589,1,2,1,0,1,0,33.0,2,2,6,4,14,16,1,0,25,1,38,6,4,5,3,73,67,37,0,14,13,12,2,2,2,7,0,7,5,9,19,27,1,1,8,4,3,10,11,6,0,5,19,10,65,11,54,36,4,68,0,4,1,1,76,33,0,11,28,257,84,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972525414047687,0.1856050102102692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939573882895014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976637171452472,0.08376744961096923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848655897693026,0.0,0.0,0.1009527892246678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024828669752658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308267308126846,0.0,0.09842555770575656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841288194056709,0.0,0.10501497653094984,0.08777760334018174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447048027569991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860336917770351,0.0,0.0,0.0762169394406534,0.0,0.0982459326663004,0.1384553343816745,0.0,0.09362856579981564,0.0,0.10184779947958672,0.0,0.07166433767970501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923633707378724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195934097239887,0.0,0.20197997088833303,0.0,0.1801785984165239,0.0,0.17975981783104278,0.0,0.08824168550907859,0.20678149035864013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924390057333293,0.0,0.0,0.28463243291280355,0.09735478185250217,0.09162594784956504,0.0,0.08755177311852606,0.08980653903791795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024372314312772,0.09781312339519878,0.0,0.08087092036927823,0.0,0.1196224534809536,0.0,0.0900190523246288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904693002159444,0.0,0.1328801523509056,0.0,0.08653990037446807,0.0,0.08408708857734387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880482128050504,0.0,0.0607178482160949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740248339528362,0.0,0.2654188032470461,0.0,0.0,0.15304229703946126,0.08523372496266525,0.07125653158779002,0.0,0.2720514627368568,0.0,0.08157192667500053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737090002429386,0.0,0.0783176633873955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955310952291203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739325122156172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546078510436772,0.0,0.0,0.11540380815023557
parenting,Jiperly,2020/02/07,"My ex wants to have her son for a sleepover after 2 years So some basic facts;

- son is currently 7
- ex has epilepsy, which makes me nervous but I largely have no idea where shes at on controlling it. My son also has epilepsy, but it almost appears like he's getting better.
- Me and my ex broke up some years ago. I was given the implication that she was unstable and she had a history of jumping around cities after previous breakups, so I locked down until we had a custody agreement in place
- I sent her an agreement drafted by my lawyer,and after 8 months of whining about it's contents but never offering a counter, she signed shortly before Christmas.
- the short version of the contract is I had sole custody, and she had visitation rights every two weeks for the weekend.
- initially she attempted to fulfill the visits, with me offering to deliver/pick him up for half them(I was on rotating shift work and was unable to do it for the two weeks at the appropriate time) , but she didn't have a consistent ride and moved 45 minutes away to the next town over, so she refused half the visits immediately.
- she cancelled the first visit, the third visit, and the fourth. I don't recall the reasons, but I generally remember of the excuses included she was sick, her infant son was sick, or her place was ""too messy""
- following late January 2018, she began to cancel every visit. She made arrangements for the occasional visits for a few hours, like on Mother's day or Christmas, but the contractual overnight visits she had a right to were abandoned from that point on.
- after about 6 months I started insisting that since she has distanced herself from him, she needed smaller visits, not overnight, and more consistent, until he can grow accustomed to her again.
- As of October(?) It appears she broke up with her long-term boyfriend whom she had the aforementioned child with. She was attempting to find an appropriate residence with little luck. I've since been made aware that she lives with her former boyfriends parents while her former boyfriend has moved out.

That's a quick summary of our history. Since that January of 2018, she has seen him 8 times, none of them overnight.

She recently contacted me asking to resume overnight stays. Im conflicted. The fear of her skipping town has pretty much disappeared, and she moved even further away(around an hour away down the expressway) , so I can empathize why a short visit isn't ideal.....but I don't want my son placed in a position he's uncomfortable with, and while he knows who she is, they've naturally drifted apart. Equally, the contract is pretty clear, but it also states everything is based on his best interest, which is entire issue is about making accomodations for her benefit.

Am I being weird about this?",7.930639907319069,8.265596290513834,7.492297941938123,72.42381422924902,62.3794466403162,10.773776747989645,36.61823633637727,10.47874826744603,3.9408497478533455,2217,97,375,48,29,698,255,506,0.10099999999999999,0.802,0.098,0.4792,2,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,2,0,1,7,16,16,0,2,33,0,42,2,0,6,3,55,60,29,0,3,10,10,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,17,18,0,4,5,1,0,22,8,7,0,6,23,1,61,9,65,36,9,91,0,4,1,0,76,34,0,8,35,265,78,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714757457402954,0.0,0.09844517466076756,0.0,0.0,0.1572399944963096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750368827754509,0.09190836277741728,0.0,0.2771018211756991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365619262963246,0.0,0.10317228200410816,0.08694889332681582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026516436860058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340304747012156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649340879824842,0.0,0.16566404516852018,0.0,0.08835640365417495,0.0,0.0,0.11062822875249002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985530277266245,0.08362405865796738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051363914216220184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936348517598212,0.0,0.0,0.11098217748026476,0.10619373096662332,0.1026120896376798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402965351682721,0.0,0.1109001143041968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960604645713114,0.09853435920532556,0.08681121585503368,0.08700294481790961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605020872140848,0.13124792388823686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694325391013933,0.31346999861236324,0.07227056423765661,0.07289703402039747,0.07582420412829499,0.0,0.1045558294020454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916373932031936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30814505747460025,0.0,0.09293653020560863,0.0,0.0,0.20003710825633025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108101517158834,0.09707114863855608,0.0,0.11136822691744146,0.16791566440086714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439738784872559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958567443761507,0.10478741303200036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146529282284607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207289752671305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597382093521412,0.0,0.15771976490841974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871120546283066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157223985825027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661929084180212
parenting,Susseroase,2020/02/07,"What qualities do children develop more when interacting with other kids of the same age as opposed to interacting with kids of older age? I've heard that children develop vocabulary skills faster when speaking with older children and adults, that's why it's important to actively converse with them. Then I started wondering, why not just have them hang out with older kids all the time, what would be the downsides to that. 

I think one positive for children to spend time with kids of the same age is that they get to experience what's it's like to be treated as an equal and to have no expectation of being lead or being protected or being in a certain position on a ""ladder"" based on age. They will gain experiences of being rejected, of squabbling, of being in playground politics, and of making mistakes.

Are there any thoughts that come to you on this topic?",8.079937106918237,8.33662038993711,7.9981132075471715,69.18635220125786,62.08176100628931,11.343396226415095,37.79245283018868,10.980518767755715,4.372388679245283,698,32,116,17,9,225,92,159,0.048,0.8390000000000001,0.114,0.8738,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,4,3,4,5,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,2,2,28,22,10,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,9,12,11,0,2,3,0,1,3,2,2,0,1,2,2,7,3,31,11,5,23,0,1,0,0,19,6,0,3,15,89,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799072948664556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22789174956737066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5175734756097784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382197006065669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924880098975705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659332453421964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927013471181752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18725424715073394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695169371011516,0.0,0.2100280795799814,0.3085297071927519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774416610036313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868999246083192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793314114509133,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,olOOo00ol01o01o,2020/02/07,"Can parents share success stories of winning the bedtime battle with a 6 year old? Bedtime with my 6 year old daughter sucks. 

On a good night, I have to ask her to come upstairs and take a bath multiple times. After the bath, she will play, and we can settle with some books. But after good night hugs and kisses, she will come out of her room 3-5 times for various reasons. It could be to hug the dogs one last time, or to say her tummy hurts (which I kind of don't believe) or saying ""I am not tired"". The whole thing takes 1 to 1.5 hours. 

A bad night can start just like a good night, but after coming out of bed on the 2 or 3 time, she would refuse to leave our room. Telling her to go to her room and just play quietly doesn't work. Physically picking her up results in screaming, because she doesn't want to be carried and ends up being uncomfortable. Bringing her to her room and locking the door to our room results in her laying outside our room and banging on the door. Somedays, I can tolerate it and let her work through the tantrum, but if I am running on very little sleep, come home from a shitty day at work, and deal with other stress inducing things in my life, I may snap and raise my voice. I hate myself for doing this. 

Please help.",5.77452380952381,5.281548992063495,5.758571428571429,85.83642857142857,67.01587301587301,8.311111111111114,30.698412698412696,7.1686216300943375,1.6330126984126982,974,32,207,7,14,306,143,252,0.13699999999999998,0.747,0.11699999999999999,-0.8623,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,0,5,2,21,4,1,14,0,20,6,1,5,0,42,33,17,0,4,10,2,0,1,0,4,2,5,12,0,7,21,0,1,2,5,0,7,4,8,0,1,0,5,29,13,38,24,3,46,0,1,0,3,28,19,1,6,21,132,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236993627483464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914299068712113,0.0667516297298354,0.0,0.0,0.12337167536664224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37730639059612103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742873391387339,0.0,0.0,0.07061997116481604,0.11289213750684345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698659974462152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223272160533905,0.2755361834935796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811092220296196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339713187580539,0.0,0.109839807595921,0.0,0.10783777904544772,0.0,0.11722455422376625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402986996895915,0.0,0.08925904843125035,0.0,0.1159472012671427,0.0,0.11197359458885843,0.07734476385588092,0.0534973278792449,0.10975014425139233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41104223366838016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298086386878457,0.0,0.07420164134748568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215894255978366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202007217321604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258667621760317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416136295625262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958145350524033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750634264992423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543459738706075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466431231450784,0.0,0.09570989981664384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549702081007496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25540685530206403,0.12585686839607535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903509250824808,0.06458733623315108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225548800795386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391570933892166,0.0,0.0,0.0777873434354887,0.0,0.0,0.1410318750430937
parenting,shell89za,2020/02/07,"Valentines Day I'm having slight, minor existential crisis.

My 10 year old has asked a boy to be her valentine and I was not ready for this boy stuff.

 I'm by no means a prude and I don't see anything wrong with her having a valentine or showing interest in boys(or girls) I just want ready.

Crap",1.2247142857142883,3.678765566666669,2.3061904761904763,93.79500000000004,85.0,4.761904761904762,21.904761904761905,6.1826913282559595,0.2619761904761906,234,8,49,2,7,74,47,60,0.20800000000000002,0.6829999999999999,0.109,-0.7404,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,6,2,1,0,0,9,12,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,6,1,5,10,0,4,0,0,1,1,6,1,1,1,3,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881095150725656,0.0,0.3273042439807078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22579105851921494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813708615017152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673800408746151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789911949435904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40079054037392187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065031006736693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827887512245842,0.0,0.2254584349561079
parenting,Mortlach78,2020/02/07,"Teens and help around the house; am I expecting too much by expecting anything at all? I have a 14 yo daughter and she is a great kid. She also has a LOT of challenges going on, but she won't deal with any of them unless we force her.

But that is not why I am posting. I am posting because I need to know if it is reasonable to expect a 14 yo to ever volunteer for a small chore in/around the house - like loading the dishwasher, tidying up some toys from her baby sister, emptying the bucket of kitchen scraps - literally things that take less than 5 minutes.  


I was debating whether to put this in AmItheAsshole, because at the start of the year, I told her I expected her to come and ask ONCE during the month of January if there was anything for her to do. She had the flu for 2 weeks so I extended this period to the end of February and told her. The thing is, I have absolutely no confidence that she will. And that makes me feel taken for granted. My wife is disabled and needs extra help too, plus the 2 yo and a fulltime job from home make my days very busy.

  
The idea was that once March 1st rolls around and she hasn't volunteered a single time (in 2 months!), I am just going to say ""No"" when she asks me for help with things once in a while. But that would make me feel like an asshole and I don't want our family dynamic to become that way. But I don't know what else to do? Maybe if people say that what I am expecting is completely unreasonable, I would be able to suck it up and wait out the next... 4 years?",6.174634244372992,5.005329604501612,6.750110530546628,81.28793106913186,66.45980707395498,10.604581993569134,31.33460610932476,9.827888789773867,2.5635673633440508,1181,37,259,22,16,389,167,311,0.045,0.855,0.1,0.9519,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,1,1,10,6,1,0,22,0,28,2,0,4,2,54,50,24,0,13,11,3,2,2,0,4,1,2,3,1,17,18,1,2,6,1,0,4,7,1,0,0,7,4,36,5,41,38,7,34,0,0,0,0,30,12,1,5,17,181,53,2,0.10515701957731556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409403056379451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151037930042704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307053430676794,0.2808361260198763,0.19661523630119027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820548620432698,0.11613766635570885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905834611270072,0.1102551343307943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781757820419224,0.10841226975497767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784519640281441,0.0,0.093137907088477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512054456066972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913267932241636,0.0,0.10634109742639998,0.07512419579740026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952631514051115,0.0,0.0,0.11593598532088127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114536008235062,0.0,0.10548106461534557,0.0,0.0,0.24267416388102875,0.0,0.11870947534637435,0.0,0.0,0.10435211593618013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558309573209588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274881615849654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940073759402756,0.0,0.0,0.2105793813764921,0.0,0.10564436022950392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787065954025296,0.0,0.07730250891107489,0.1559451951536452,0.0,0.0,0.11183568330085196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33596638168796794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290263687134796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142271334006906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571184923889987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811893000235924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672501653231897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443067969703339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906499176958254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20958495361536475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061317903765883176,0.0,0.0,0.20096407722239498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676555408528702,0.062024334671131165,0.08346874748410757,0.08435061813128228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488785404043527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940105921087873,0.0,0.0,0.13543534579895192
parenting,fat_mummy,2020/02/07,"What do you do for yourselves? I need some inspiration. I need some help coming up with something to do for myself. My partner plays football (UK) twice a week, he then goes to the pub once a week, and does park run on a Saturday. I do nothing. I have no external interests besides work as a teacher 3 days a week. 

I recently found out some of his friends wives have wine nights, or go to trampolining classes, or runs. I just don’t have close friends (geographically), so looking for something fun I could potentially do on my own? I don’t like running, but have been looking into swimming, but want something non-sporty too?",4.575228758169935,6.172653731092439,5.134733893557424,81.7993183940243,70.51260504201679,7.97796451914099,33.390289449112984,8.515128840125781,2.669369000933706,490,24,94,8,9,157,81,119,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.9097,0,0,4,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,0,6,0,13,1,0,0,0,20,21,8,0,4,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,0,2,4,0,6,3,0,0,1,2,2,13,7,14,18,4,20,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,5,9,62,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625157091593376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063134945016474,0.0,0.0,0.12167145832361148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509949061792245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20685827426650505,0.29151976835992915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722102923969172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264562407036057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921707810428427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31685732628931906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797811395708508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704661718958364,0.0,0.18102639023022024,0.0,0.0,0.20091899814235886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628108091439854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357239463320036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127780511810967,0.0,0.4540001128157398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373482686797409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Outlawbob13,2020/02/07,"Lying and a 6 year old This will probably get long so here we go. I have a six year old daughter who has been going through a streak of lying. A little background first. My daughter is from my first marriage and I’m now remarried with a 1 year old with my wife and she has a 7 year old son. My daughter is with us every other weekend and every day during the school week. 

Now we have had a few issues with the lying. First I found fifty dollars in her backpack that she was taking to her moms. We don’t allow them just take their money wherever they want. She told multiple lies about how it got there. Her punishment was no tablet for two weeks. After she got her tablet back she lied again a few days later. After a long talk it seemed better for a couple days. Her punishment is she can no longer make choices. (Can’t decide her lunch, can’t pick out clothes, can’t pick out movies, can’t take a tub and so forth) Today she was caught lying again.  

I have no idea what to do anymore. Her mother isn’t very much help and fights me on the situation. My current wife has had enough as my daughter spends most of her time with her if school is canceled as I work early mornings to just before school gets out. It is causing stress on our marriage as well. 

I’m not sure if my ex wife upholds the punishments. In fact they are visiting an indoor water park this weekend. It is for her other daughters birthday but this is all she’s talking about as in she doesn’t care about getting in trouble again. Anyways what other way can I discipline her? How can I get this situation under control??",3.391347962382444,4.902180009404393,4.071666457680252,88.59770658307211,73.35736677115987,6.483310344827586,24.672225705329154,6.918507183188421,0.8670299937304078,1249,38,254,11,25,397,170,319,0.105,0.855,0.04,-0.9364,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,5,0,4,6,19,10,4,1,16,0,32,2,0,8,3,41,52,17,0,3,6,12,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,15,17,2,2,4,2,3,4,11,6,1,5,11,0,43,4,34,40,6,49,0,0,0,0,50,11,0,4,33,180,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865146727829223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648935710556133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464503773192028,0.0,0.0,0.08797665928905865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142036101796813,0.10218718771026386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115685367109396,0.0,0.11006607641081516,0.0,0.19245748019589554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027832213441506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762225142367848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538375717768209,0.0,0.10906809417076807,0.0,0.0,0.207884213719334,0.0,0.11306672025248506,0.0,0.1591168716833175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667531776743373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229402516533048,0.0,0.10382499999236157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969906937733426,0.0,0.17606269937490676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639965984909547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650273325508385,0.0,0.0,0.07312482727831845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41752487103012825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724978423095126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020189615163236,0.0,0.09055738328118793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236258620687184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139471179059695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937530570721452,0.0,0.22437617931249626,0.15990684813117018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580040827278553,0.0,0.09428971004779664,0.09505165901496963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717163277084766,0.0,0.1196549604314382,0.0,0.0,0.08207645839144588,0.05867233578533045,0.07895782205380006,0.15958406702594682,0.0,0.08943906213814301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241824846345818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25623194921966685
parenting,floridaxgirl,2020/02/07,Power out going insane My power has been out for 15 hours and I am going crazy out of my mind. Such a first world problem I know. What do you do with an eight year old with no power?,-0.9450000000000004,1.0802645000000022,1.3949999999999996,99.31,91.5,3.2,10.5,3.1291,-1.9109000000000005,140,1,33,0,5,47,31,40,0.233,0.767,0.0,-0.8402,3,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,5,0,7,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276812440914765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4378765912981418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37937951196346015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117154365185616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889781845986419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042400073616061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36861848646335066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480791258812523
parenting,Emotional-Canary,2020/02/07,"What kind of assistance is out there for domestic abuse survivors? Hello. My bestfriend of 12 years has been in an abusive relationship for the last 8 years. We will call her Brittany. He has effectively destroyed her self esteem and any way for Brittany to support herself. She wasnt allowed or able to work, and one way he used to control her was to keep her pregnant. She has since had 5 kids with him. After 8 years of terrible abuse, including tying her up, and taping her mouth shut and shoving her in a closet while pregnant before making her walk to her brothers house barefoot in a michigan winter. I dont know why she stayed, or why she let it get that bad. Thats something therapy is going to have to answer for her.
She has no mother or father, Brittany is currently living at her abusive exes parents house with her 5 kids all sharing one bed in a cold basement. His family is currently kicking her out which WILL leave her homeless with all of her children ranging ages 6-2 months old. She has no money, no job, minimal experience, she is willing to work. She doesnt want anything just handed to her. She feels so useless and her case worker today basically told her they cant help her.
What kind of help is out there? How can you access it? She needs help. Brittany needs therapy, a job, food, housing, child care, financial assistance. She has no car, no babysitter. She finds it hard to even make a doctors appointment because she has to wait til all the kids are napping. 
I understand bad choices put her in this position but there has got to be some kind of light at the end of the tunnel for her. Please, any resources or things you know of that can help her or her kids in any way would be appreciated.",4.818099194360523,6.212799141993963,5.296302870090635,81.65518945115812,69.66465256797582,7.933585095669688,30.71009566968781,8.344100000000001,2.2950452165156103,1360,56,253,20,24,435,182,331,0.12,0.836,0.044000000000000004,-0.9421,6,0,1,0,2,0,39.0,1,2,1,5,7,11,1,0,10,0,32,4,2,7,3,42,50,15,0,4,7,4,3,0,0,4,1,1,2,7,11,12,1,3,7,1,1,4,9,5,0,2,6,6,46,6,42,37,4,36,0,1,0,0,65,13,0,6,15,171,57,6,0.08909589367339693,0.4222562597385072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176478877886176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331832903107574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878269935864294,0.05431202982511568,0.0,0.07581404329341801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097686895863276,0.0,0.09083920153007044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992862073232586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119342249099133,0.0,0.0,0.10441972383362963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891251673233762,0.0,0.0,0.058846997487892974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715288017418955,0.08399167922380207,0.0,0.04504956087334147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143203270927707,0.0,0.10773510828612047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04654892714694938,0.0,0.050635249590266905,0.0,0.07125812523539768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981242051437146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23887639787377046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084140971663023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17682785349784702,0.07919252400594927,0.0,0.2783389884460029,0.09792954620796754,0.07262504481433983,0.0,0.09433968696864764,0.0,0.09110658771252876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867330642605044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894440173589023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111549230569779,0.0,0.0,0.1321269524577086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349115286772408,0.0,0.12074736674589102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893044613616013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780053625866167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956598159272045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565564659782673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294644819375053,0.0,0.0,0.07370104393819492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859037178131487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496436806997743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110496430646276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20377783839931388,0.0,0.059191352823032825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844524894929752,0.0851349445255736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275196744945807,0.0,0.07695024584974214,0.0,0.0,0.05255106648357672,0.21216051997635488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607903721209525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972574344241045,0.0,0.0,0.06329116657950992,0.0,0.0,0.17212450320614922
parenting,trulymadlybigly,2020/02/07,"Haircuts, doctors and dentists My son is a completely healthy, beautiful, hilarious asshole. I love him so much, but he’s driving me up a wall. We have worked really hard to respect his bodily autonomy as much as possible his whole life,he never has to give anyone kisses or hugs unless he wants to. If he asks us to stop tickling him, we stop. We’re working on getting him to understand that no means no. 


However, he’s always been the kind of kid that doesn’t like being fussed with. He hates having his diaper changed or his nose wiped way more than any kid I’ve ever worked with (former nanny). He doesn’t like having socks on, I’m wondering if he doesn’t have some kind of sensory issue TBH. We basically don’t force him to do much, but we’ve run into this issue with things that are just basic human necessities that he HATES doing and I’m at my wits end. 

Taking him to the barber, even the kids one with balloons and lollies and Netflix on the mirrors is a nightmare. He screams bloody murder the whole time, scares the other kids and I have to hold his head still so they can groom him without cutting him on accident. Yes, I know this has made it worse for him probably, but he has to have his hair cut occasionally or he ends up looking like Edward Scisssorhands, that’s just how it is. Next, he won’t let the doctor look at his throat or ears. He flips out and pushes and screams. I have to hold him down for shots. These are basic things that have to be done, and I’m so overwhelmed at how bad it gets. He needs to start going to the dentist soon, but I dread the thought. 


He can’t be bargained with, bribed or reasoned. No amount of toys or candy or cold hard cash makes a difference. 

Anybody else have this issue? Help please??",3.3843806771263445,5.069346806358382,4.2009620148637525,86.95319364161854,73.71098265895955,7.023781998348472,24.784888521882745,7.7094869923839395,1.191750123864575,1369,43,277,18,28,439,191,346,0.166,0.7190000000000001,0.115,-0.9735,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,4,0,1,3,12,20,5,3,13,1,32,12,5,5,2,54,56,29,1,4,17,1,3,3,0,1,4,3,0,5,16,18,0,4,6,2,2,4,11,11,0,1,4,10,29,9,40,47,8,30,0,1,2,3,46,13,0,11,15,174,45,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797837376418825,0.0,0.0,0.07190210469846227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393101207344273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884613565290278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828268636468503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118515549101054,0.0,0.1108590989133301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046854073432187,0.0,0.21644452885984608,0.0,0.10820162734142633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832640199650606,0.0,0.18729621105034008,0.0,0.0,0.06983568714806046,0.09564160365088678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048231692639958,0.10142878305347257,0.0600905330773648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894321024863781,0.20877900818350698,0.10851262076766127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087063954452552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310735245012796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22020941705334296,0.05810812312844155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811921471318038,0.07468238526216164,0.1549674930271378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775782771458914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542821229870653,0.10004717532649757,0.07057763677195103,0.0,0.0,0.11517429609707384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23317788872970202,0.07839972224208695,0.08154785201853698,0.0,0.1124483059436647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164745601296857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606314586360368,0.0,0.1191981354110792,0.0,0.0,0.1139981188536964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773530394986145,0.10871119271029968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585723562861467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483840215516584,0.0,0.08443855613302798,0.1767951406152641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949810044100315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404886901313949,0.0,0.0,0.08394023699142683,0.061653795988723524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100718415157899,0.12718384935231347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236409663889875,0.08392597940836223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23609436503902045,0.0,0.10192289413494483,0.11466299036112408,0.2309247749460185,0.0,0.1077510184066574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mandolph_Rantooth,2020/02/07,"Recommend a good book on study skills for a high schooler Hey fellow-parents! 

My daughter is a high school freshman and is currently struggling to get mediocre even grades (while dealing with anxiety issues).  She's bright and has a lot of potential (although math has always been an issue), and I just don't think she's figured out ***HOW*** to study effectively. It has been bad enough for her to go for help with her anxiety, so I don't know if sending her to a local ""executive skills"" tutor would go over too well (I'm selective in what battles I want to fight, and her anxiety is more important).

Her anxiety and grades are linked, for sure, but there's every indication she's being really inefficient. (We've had her tested for learning disabilities and none manifested.)

This past semester, she insisted that she could pull up her grades on her own without needing outside help or doing all the things that worked for me (mostly dealing with memorization). That strategy hasn't proven itself out, however. My plan is to give her a guide book and ask her to formulate a plan for herself, which will keep some of the decisions on her end. 

The way I see it, sometimes just having a plan or a method is effective--even if it isn't the best method ever. So, my ask of all of you is: Do you know of any good study skills books?",4.751817042606515,6.3744572142857185,5.4564411027568935,79.56575187969926,70.1111111111111,9.114786967418548,29.532999164578108,9.549672527348893,2.7523222222222223,1046,41,196,24,19,339,145,252,0.07200000000000001,0.841,0.087,0.5845,3,0,2,0,1,0,43.0,0,2,0,10,10,10,2,1,14,0,24,0,0,2,4,42,38,17,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,12,0,1,9,3,0,4,6,4,1,0,3,2,27,6,31,31,10,21,0,0,2,0,30,11,0,7,5,141,38,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163164062943576,0.0,0.0,0.09123321526393148,0.0,0.41052729744351385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25084247004585697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201776864481283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407923570614249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711562576858416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27662557633079754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882569788836693,0.13862286171009516,0.0,0.17722246950637122,0.12135515435413362,0.11303535671856894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009292040389799,0.128698235428343,0.15249212975232593,0.2250536285997756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798488748159404,0.283494236063683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800557995317365,0.0,0.11924733010944505,0.0,0.0,0.14746135535789176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405780276180776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994777380431497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807064043164088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594615682171676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577680672192227,0.10690793313517256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326874009977123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402528764302147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644395549634388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912976165758489,0.0859641362786969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791308832649367,0.106489747104206,0.0,0.0,0.12062570699883975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293251898526857,0.0,0.09766987948766584,0.0,0.0,0.09530322121759514,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,surgicalapple,2020/02/07,"Guidance needed on 5 year old son with behavioral issues. My girlfriend and I just received a message from his teacher that her and the daycare teacher have been having trouble with him not listening, unable to follow directions, and yelling/saying no to those in authority. The teacher further states they need to redirect him multiple times and this has been occurring the last couple of days. I have no idea how to approach this with him. I feel he has been doing decent behavioral wise, but that is an obviously biased view of mine. We have never had any issues with his behavior and the only thing the teachers mentioned at the last parent-teach conference is that he was excelling academically above his peers but would easily lose focus. What should I do to address his actions? I admit, I came from an authoritative household where my girlfriend came from a laidback household.",8.914743589743594,9.554628679487175,8.264871794871798,66.68012820512823,60.28205128205128,10.523076923076925,39.12820512820512,10.25414643259724,4.364543589743589,718,34,106,14,9,226,104,156,0.07,0.836,0.094,0.5789,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,1,3,3,5,0,0,10,0,17,0,0,1,2,26,25,8,0,4,4,1,1,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,8,12,0,0,3,1,0,6,4,2,0,0,7,3,19,3,17,16,0,19,0,1,1,0,20,5,0,0,7,85,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355419994721568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4559297686661907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22053982607798372,0.0,0.12854260093542372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078037001232636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500397567660785,0.0,0.4160691138911564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32493896706913955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229840892034888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295581197666428,0.15372510946106488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914905264845327,0.0,0.0,0.1515891178568301,0.0,0.0,0.22131729530324312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850441601432352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324169719613282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162230065226275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158866507773973,0.0,0.0,0.12835323870728854
parenting,crpav,2020/02/07,"Anyone else have kids who like their feet massaged? Father of 2 sons. 7 year old and a 6 month old. Let me tell you about what works with them. Massaging their feet. My oldest off and on goes through streaks where before bed he likes his feet massaged especially at the bunion/big toe area. The harder (to a point) the better.

Now for our 6 month old. He is and has been a pretty good sleeper but every so often he has those restless nights. My wife once rubbed and massaged his feet gently and it calmed him right down and back to sleep. I never thought it would work so well over and over. Several times after she has fed him and put back to sleep she would have me go and try and calm him down. Sure the first month or so were stressful trying to hold and rock him with minimal success. After she tried that a few months back I had duty to try and calm him and the foot rub and massage works. This morning she came up from feeding him at around 3:30 and he was fussy a bit in his bed so she asked me to go down and rub his feet. It worked and I stayed up to ride bike and exercise but he stayed sound asleep until his normal wake time.",2.7234959165154247,4.307080564655173,2.9048638838475505,95.98441923774956,75.25,5.746279491833032,19.969147005444647,6.05967700443912,-0.2290465517241378,889,18,200,5,19,270,140,232,0.03,0.83,0.14,0.9751,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,3,7,13,12,0,2,10,0,13,14,11,0,2,34,19,26,0,3,3,3,3,2,0,2,1,1,2,1,8,22,2,2,1,3,0,5,1,2,1,1,7,4,29,10,30,9,2,45,0,0,0,0,33,17,0,2,23,125,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823439068258334,0.11464203805307517,0.0,0.09960365912628263,0.10459977453643854,0.0,0.0,0.25810390550312984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520808143246008,0.0,0.0,0.0989554635001339,0.12215224816162265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796957325601685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934677079020241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427010366503523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951715101554886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717656932463356,0.09384598551369874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441262126592143,0.0,0.10932523039670093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572303646355284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629459187987315,0.0,0.0,0.10499890527243592,0.10962606293200584,0.0,0.0,0.35222155060357874,0.1191566107743935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057699192101608,0.0,0.0,0.11382988332196944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124779117248094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955513737090669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640110692968412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223936748368204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23851452569008344,0.0,0.0,0.12816683377169266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545271089058536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779466810303276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882623287034512,0.13048508405794568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038572630141805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060036287372327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32582193506684315,0.0,0.0,0.15896343948669267,0.0,0.0,0.07205192690730043
parenting,RoseStillHasThorns,2020/02/07,"Three year old tantrums My tiniest human is three. I have had to deal with this age twice before. This is not my first rodeo. He is adopted from family. He is going to be the one that breaks me. Any form of punishment is not working. I’m dealing with hitting, scratching, throwing things, you name it. Our biggest issue is that he is in and out of the hospital. We are needing to be super consistent because we have to communicate with nurses and staff to make sure everything goes the same. We are constantly trying to make sure that he won’t hurt himself at the same time. 

He will say sorry. He does show empathy and remorse if someone is hurt. But this kid has a temper. 

Does anyone have any tips? I’m out of ideas.",1.7828457446808517,4.319477085106385,2.994392730496453,89.29031250000004,83.11347517730495,5.7945035460992935,23.706117021276608,7.1686216300943375,1.0769606382978725,563,21,110,8,16,181,92,141,0.122,0.8220000000000001,0.055,-0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,1,0,3,0,8,3,0,5,0,19,0,0,2,2,24,26,5,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,8,11,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,5,0,5,1,2,10,3,17,20,3,15,0,2,0,0,18,6,0,1,6,74,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337882325886207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019259184848173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478525747274077,0.0,0.14626951104811525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575682712575825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544312473921621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30085197228776056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448764226795833,0.0,0.16204678339906267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621332608229573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976915737194381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680331145825014,0.1940479039843771,0.0,0.1794131397466007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22948175203484625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745755200965814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18037430300823726,0.0,0.11648012378072355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669736104598468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564560441152544,0.0,0.0,0.19242175662651287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324016957984942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114199030411733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023303251713664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167050438912366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514120233791814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069438602522057
parenting,gamer_guy9,2020/02/07,"What to do when your Teenager demands an iPhone ? https://www.quora.com/My-teenager-wants-only-an-Apple-phone-we-tried-to-explain-that-we-cant-afford-it-she-stopped-speaking-with-us-What-should-we-do/answer/Swayam-Prakash-43?ch=10&share=f60f1359&srid=hSuOi

A thoughtful answer on earning your own dreams and fulfilling own wishes rather than demanding it from parents who cannot afford to give it to you.",35.42918918918919,42.03405313513514,14.268243243243244,25.71695945945948,4.13513513513513,10.643243243243244,40.12162162162162,10.125756701596842,4.293605405405407,374,8,26,3,2,71,32,37,0.047,0.772,0.18100000000000002,0.6553,3,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,6,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,22,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6769020562250017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996522301345019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468481390417858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479856156732082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757407212055323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.359208241197443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AllPinkMama4,2020/02/07,"I don't want to be a full time stay at home mom anymore... Hi Friends,
I'm a millennial mom of 4 young kids and for the last 10 years I have been home. I have worked part time here and there so I do have a foot in the door.
I graduated community college at 21 with an associate's degree and a medical first responder certificate, got married and then pregnant all with in 6 months.. due to me and him not qualifying for paid leave in the USA we decided to have me stay home for the first year and worry about a job and advancing my degree ""later""... Well my husband's career took off requiring trips out of the country, we ended up with a baby in the PICU and multiple hospital stays her first year of life so ""later,"" soon turned into 10 years and counting of being home.
Don't get me wrong I have loved being home and would not give up this time for anything!

With that said, I'm so ready to have my own identity outside mom. I'm just struggling with some major barriers.
First, due to my husband's job an hour from home and lack of flexibility, he simply cannot do sick days/snow days/Christmas breaks/summers. This year he will get a total of 5 PTO days and would get paid holidays. He has a great paying job with excellent job security, health benefits and retirement but lacks in other ""fringe benefits"".
So it would be on me to keep the ship sailing.

And lastly holy crap the childcare cost!
I just got the rates for camp and dangggg it's a lot. Add in after school Latchkey and full time daycare for the littles I would be WAY more then I would ever make.😐

Ideally the perfect or ideal situation would for me to find a job that is 20-25 hours a week so I could work around hubby's schedule.

Do any of you parents work ""non traditional"" jobs and can me tips?
I even thought about taking courses at out local community college. We have no college debt so we're not looking into putting ourselves in it.
I would like to take courses that I can pay cash for.

I just need something that's mine.",3.4965879032258087,4.969897347500002,4.57575806451613,85.23872580645164,73.025,7.761290322580645,27.403225806451612,8.360895534625662,1.7802943548387096,1569,58,323,26,31,513,212,400,0.048,0.847,0.105,0.9687,8,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,3,1,0,13,18,15,1,1,24,0,32,7,2,0,4,66,54,27,0,14,8,6,0,1,1,8,4,1,7,1,10,32,0,4,3,1,7,4,7,3,1,4,8,2,31,12,52,32,12,63,0,0,1,1,22,23,1,3,33,204,41,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04806345959500078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009357833847578,0.0,0.0,0.0581619669348395,0.06291839929541652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056430627115659035,0.0,0.0,0.04558145910755272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259972437432196,0.0,0.0,0.04668214847960776,0.06393229199553299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459840610751369,0.24047466247877006,0.0,0.0,0.05460564286654362,0.0,0.11077900426886199,0.06780077212628433,0.0,0.0,0.11305529677369525,0.07792273793803671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512740260644242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253747444866694,0.0,0.13920717425209908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208220197138414,0.06282184855533557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152239968082888,0.0,0.07483779058559767,0.0,0.0,0.04992195738302156,0.034529697801774714,0.07083791779761034,0.0,0.0,0.05935171428113935,0.0,0.0,0.060087903058964075,0.06378964906906444,0.0,0.047178109841503085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120064328744778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24833163718768156,0.056414500530770476,0.0,0.0,0.052406837018811464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847954819839738,0.07653738001889128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105090539739782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723095742438252,0.0,0.0,0.07152990328071142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944502658640151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441137282196258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260000129026229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388798520237283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628211105779174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056110432454677735,0.16485162679505308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852585195275147,0.0,0.07687736181240255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0416877120851031,0.05610090187458662,0.05669362358342316,0.0,0.06354800472267498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436326428341635,0.0717769337332894,0.0,0.35145333377868515,0.07727529125910765,0.0,0.22757155444510455
parenting,Bitter-Life4,2020/02/07,"Am I supposed to give up my whole life for my kids? I love my kids more than anything else. But I never wanted to be a mom. It was never my dream. I always said I would never have kids - too painful, too relentless, too expensive, too exhausting. I started dating my now husband at age 21 and four months into dating got pregnant. I didn’t want to have the baby but he wanted it, and long story short, I did. I was still a student and finished my bachelor’s at 6 months pregnant. I wanted to go to law school but instead, at the pleading of my MIL (who also convinced my husband) I stayed home to raise the baby. 

I’ve been a stay at home mom for the last five years now, to 2 kids. I went from a scholar student with an exciting future, to a butt wiping, not sleeping shell of a person living in practical poverty with my kids. The stress of everything has been an absolute nightmare. Finally, now that my kids are a bit older, I have decided to go back to college. Law school is not feasible with my schedule around the kids and not really my dream anymore anyway, so I am getting a second bachelor’s in an engineering field that will get me a good job without further education when my kids are in school full time. And then we can hopefully finally be out of this financial nightmare. It’s a very different degree from my first bachelor’s, which will not get me a good job as it was meant to be part of graduate education. 

My husband and my MIL were angry with me. My husband told me that I’m being selfish and stupid because apparently suddenly he decided he wants to be the one to go to college (he dropped out several times, and owes one college thousands of dollars since he just stopped going without dropping or withdrawing and never paid so they are withholding his transcripts, and unless we pay that money which we cannot and will never afford at this rate, he can’t finish college) but he came around and is okay with it now. My MIL has expressed her dislike of my choices, has told me I should be a stay at home mom for the rest of my children’s lives, and even went so far as to text my own mom to tell her not to “let” me go to school. 

I have a lot of anger and resentment surrounding my situation. I try my best to be strong and maintain a happy face through the days for a “happy family” but inside it is dark and I am struggling with the anger. I feel like I was trapped. My husband and I have gone through ugly fights and although he is more helpful with the kids/house than he was in the past, the resentment doesn’t seem to fade. My MIL who can be so sickly sweet to my face is such a manipulative judgmental hypocritical person and I have to put on a happy face around her. I just want a life without the stress. I’m not really sure what the point of posting this is, I guess I just wanted someone to hear me.",5.887258597883598,5.5717461975308655,6.658231371252202,78.88538938492064,66.74250440917108,9.697729276895943,33.239032186948855,9.271962702966755,2.808386287477956,2222,88,443,37,32,737,249,567,0.131,0.763,0.106,-0.9381,6,1,0,0,1,0,52.0,3,0,1,3,26,27,6,3,36,1,50,11,5,1,6,83,86,36,0,10,19,9,1,1,0,5,5,2,3,11,18,36,0,2,5,2,6,10,18,12,0,7,20,4,66,15,74,52,10,77,0,0,0,2,49,24,1,5,38,321,84,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055148996191464884,0.057382022579499564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839190940841805,0.0,0.0,0.056749962948309786,0.1841727687501754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302762671653441,0.0,0.0420386787445255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237150834984088,0.0,0.07528879276902052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887431321660468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044474873389022736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205075551557295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760901658985364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04554884121324888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061978722197551225,0.0,0.06501136546492776,0.0,0.034869328641084614,0.04926656458420973,0.0,0.1510893008869396,0.0,0.058659158660188275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808961111565817,0.06615476588582549,0.1959638589763905,0.11568433756858515,0.05515532091792278,0.0,0.07596956896930722,0.0,0.0,0.22023443213730592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777253406228966,0.0,0.04622386689560401,0.0,0.2075239392764172,0.06849496259239869,0.0,0.0795730472776491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368685602474475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621334605956788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051845759934773,0.09741999389283176,0.033691416816463544,0.0,0.1217896611584542,0.061029321296774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586291429252753,0.06224102127100939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32307048636743685,0.1100898399277102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659392578896547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934610578213112,0.0,0.07338057615697133,0.0,0.0,0.07467927426008347,0.06583216317150108,0.0,0.12043015639251994,0.0,0.0,0.06519151017239909,0.0,0.06604666452774648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932599534096752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835782191423819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559878463339368,0.0,0.0,0.2791734581758093,0.0,0.06278053965643571,0.0,0.07790758572705239,0.0,0.057046192514446974,0.07751633159615758,0.06901194081567055,0.0,0.058431395046208284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048811755645674686,0.22051338760448289,0.055073251837919536,0.0576554346067054,0.157991790293224,0.0720941990709773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499599816343858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027594752887741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042475354271365,0.0,0.0,0.13179255477535326,0.0,0.04682076435500234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690098547684504,0.2847295868133031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785718414505925,0.0,0.07699376338708959,0.0,0.1994311179800418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048988723635806385,0.0,0.0,0.04440935533462143
parenting,hermionesarrasri,2020/02/07,"My son is lying and covering up wetting the bed My son is 7 and this morning, instead of stripping his bed as he's supposed to, he sprayed it with Febreze. 

Y'all I'm tired. I am currently trying to aim for my Bachelor's Degree and while keeping up with our home and my husband is being an enormous idiot because he's been starting projects he doesn't finish. I'm trying not to rant I'm really not but I am PMSing and trying not to kill everyone.

My son wets the bed. We deal with it factually. Enuresis runs in the family. I wet the bed later than I should have but I stopped. He will too. Meanwhile, his job is to strip the bed, take it to the basement and put it in the washer before school. He has to shower, put on clean clothes and I take care of the rest. He has been lying about doing it. Idk how he thinks he gets away with it since the smell is overpowering and I'm always going into his room. But.I'm.fed.up. 

He has wet the bed every day this week which happens every once in awhile then he goes back to not wetting it. I am losing all trust in him. He lies about wetting the bed. He lies about lying about it. He lies and then cries and tries to change the subject to something else. And as I said, this morning he sprayed it with Febreze. He is now getting rashes and I found out he's not showering and lies about that too.

I'm at the point where I'm ready to cancel all playdates with his bff and stop taking him to Pokemon tournaments. 

I need to get through to him or I'm gonna go nuclear.",0.9688348780026494,3.217257437299037,2.509185738604124,93.3648832040855,83.95176848874598,5.202231889540382,22.00879515793456,6.522977012572876,0.4090184603745035,1177,40,253,12,34,383,155,311,0.138,0.7809999999999999,0.081,-0.943,5,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,0,1,12,5,2,0,14,0,20,2,1,1,3,42,44,23,1,2,8,4,6,0,0,3,1,1,12,0,14,23,0,3,2,0,0,5,6,3,0,0,4,8,25,2,43,36,3,33,0,1,0,0,33,15,0,1,13,151,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450492612360555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929181492001898,0.10581579746992356,0.0,0.08388752413365805,0.0,0.11709841092158542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030548545457128,0.0,0.1455761624569306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116126842900607,0.08874891233942235,0.14187281940432894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495788911127447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318895448895197,0.13149498806255455,0.0,0.0,0.12972916019896066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088540157654715,0.0,0.0,0.215691123790214,0.0,0.15641712289873033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169060045916755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803692206215593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655953271832993,0.12231663574618043,0.15224824409495455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395359391979405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020381943806232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465532081158629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008863613747407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766778728987821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815832394819688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090134593702155,0.0,0.0,0.13927156436410212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383478249568353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594110525180274,0.0,0.0,0.0974030928663758,0.0,0.0,0.23010103107183816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31040324099521155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881767661782102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816574258476054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737204038838217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038473818350683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chasityyellowrobe,2020/02/07,What should I expect to happen?? Okay so I have a baby boy. He’s wonderful and Iv has zero problems with him so far but one of the things I worry about the most is when he gets hurt for the first time. When I was young I never got hurt. I never even got stitches growing up. So I have no idea what happens at the hospital when this kind of thing happens. How do drs handle littlest ones having to get stitches or having to move around a broken arm to X-ray it or anything else that’ll hurt them a lot?,1.7881341719077568,3.3204825094339654,3.3637106918239006,91.92395178197066,77.67924528301887,5.4658280922431866,21.211740041928717,5.82211442006289,0.06075387840670876,390,10,85,2,9,129,76,106,0.23600000000000002,0.7140000000000001,0.05,-0.9765,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,10,6,0,0,7,1,10,3,1,1,2,16,18,11,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,4,0,4,3,0,9,2,12,13,2,14,0,3,0,0,5,4,0,5,8,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335199125809051,0.14443904868393148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554107279251118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716618973820233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801182114447622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954038002588154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25953615631575144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4304378236895472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5210836974915959,0.1831632268804199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896092194270684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794120086397868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244863929090815,0.0,0.0,0.2502781296798364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21989287079159325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552536482989103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558658957235904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461068787079964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759558226288772,0.0,0.16477520315176158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ilovenapsandhamsters,2020/02/07,How should I explain to my children why I don’t see their half sibling. My(28) children (7 and 8) stay with their dad during the week. Their dad just had a baby with his gf and this is the first weekend I’ll get the boys and I know they’re going to ask questions. They’ll be excited and want me to meet her. I do not have involvement with their dads gf or anything with that. I don’t see her or talk to her nor will I her child. I’m just not sure how to explain in a way that’s not negative why our families are separate and why I will not be seeing their sister. Any ideas on ways to approach this without hurting their feelings?,2.749699248120301,3.8582444586466167,3.7924887218045096,91.56106390977446,74.33834586466166,6.823759398496243,26.08195488721805,7.1686216300943375,1.0049254135338344,495,17,111,5,10,160,80,133,0.016,0.889,0.095,0.8357,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,7,1,4,3,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,2,1,29,25,10,0,2,9,4,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,4,4,9,0,0,6,1,0,2,9,1,0,2,1,4,22,2,13,18,0,10,0,1,3,0,30,2,0,3,3,75,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271393251491219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538522879491217,0.0,0.17478251899874336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624940704518208,0.0,0.09453267829561617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902822310669534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767897110829817,0.0,0.10625377178243484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014472628690455,0.2110552724232891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274841871756976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094381756285582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469491434420669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19927466288840187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762077454409997,0.0,0.0,0.15027150084336505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027395085937976,0.2968005576250252,0.14996816923691625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5061074145698433,0.0,0.0,0.1802229299393431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bucket1985,2020/02/07,"New to the stay at home parent life and struggling So my husband, our kids (1&3) and I (34f) moved to a foreign country this past October. Prior to the move, I worked part time, but quit bc my work was pretty specialized and I can't get licensed in our new country (language reqs).  

So now I stay home with the kids. At first I didn't think this would be a big deal... give me time with them while they're young, give us more time to explore our new home, make friends, etc.

But it's also winter, I recently found out I'm pregnant with our third baby (planned), and I'm realizing that I feel a little lost between the move, time zone difference from friends and family, the cold/darkness, and being home all.the.damn.time. I feel like I've somehow lost sight of myself and like I don't know what to do with myself even if the kids are napping. Instead I just end up watching bad TV or surfing reddit feeling like I'm just stalling until my husband gets home from work or it's bedtime. 

Basically I'm feeling like all the things that helped me make some sense of who I am are gone and I feel trapped bc even though we're here on this ""adventure"" I'm still at home all the time because naps, freezing cold, feeling like I want to hibernate until spring, and 8 million tiny gloves and hats to keep track of every time we venture out. I'm trying to make friends and my husband is great about encouraging me to go out with new friends on weekends without the kids, but still struggling during the week. 

Any way, needed to vent.... any one else gone through the new-to-the-stay-at-home-parent-life transition who can relate or has tips?",5.842695523856372,5.949010682242992,5.6662370880472235,84.52983275946879,66.78816199376948,8.253221839645844,32.159534349893434,7.669130373188453,2.0145975077881606,1283,49,259,12,19,399,173,321,0.071,0.768,0.161,0.9853,2,1,0,0,0,0,56.0,6,0,1,8,15,18,0,2,14,0,14,1,0,3,2,52,44,25,0,4,10,4,7,5,4,1,1,0,6,4,11,20,0,1,11,4,0,7,4,5,0,4,7,10,29,13,36,34,6,48,0,2,2,0,26,12,0,6,31,147,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643529400952078,0.0,0.07646323009416421,0.0,0.09598087411187699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058923514421187526,0.0430191908930205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275520363149032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373127077440378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895269204103696,0.0,0.06250461697138154,0.0,0.07870488839834276,0.0932224491172338,0.0,0.05945878544349219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652769365440282,0.0,0.21409573515451605,0.201662641147345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002732767511719,0.0,0.07737703502906433,0.2180907233035293,0.0,0.0737404655744941,0.1353955256025271,0.04010690587432469,0.0,0.0,0.07780435036829314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04730199457218942,0.0,0.4955165542507653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272640368039832,0.0,0.0,0.03878376352304242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498461112389074,0.17238618514770895,0.0707302941545548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407232177151647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413192972277615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250161810488742,0.0,0.052327215611289335,0.0,0.3407876906940819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478204739962504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567206293400245,0.07642109721550491,0.06736763568584046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717956843831185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750605340195065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967996699322421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256566523765742,0.11271556598211988,0.0,0.0,0.14755145521873375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046883979746465916,0.04521879952620609,0.06933526932206906,0.0,0.2469017529930348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04791281409640578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848877587446296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041624376182739786,0.0560156680954728,0.05660748928560967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802755296322725,0.0,0.15412874105951824,0.0,0.0,0.05013133896289794,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MarcelQuenga,2020/02/07,I work with kids (6-9 year old) and have a question about some reoccurring behavior recently So lately I’ve really started to notice kids talking with a different voice and holding one hand about halfway up. They are also smacking their stomach and making a grunting noise. Near the end of my shift I asked on kid why everyone was doing it. They said that “a retarded guy on YouTube does it” the name started with a “L” I think but I couldn’t find anything. Does anyone know what it’s from or anything about the behavior?,4.319400000000002,6.1747967400000014,5.097000000000001,80.78350000000002,71.6,8.200000000000001,31.5,8.841846274778883,2.7747999999999995,414,19,75,8,8,134,75,100,0.027000000000000003,0.95,0.024,-0.0644,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,8,0,5,2,2,1,0,17,12,7,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,5,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,8,0,13,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,3,7,48,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799160042553495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381411159362599,0.0,0.32515614388212183,0.0,0.18469536804817965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064119922736882,0.0,0.0,0.34577860868370125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498277704777532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18878055895014245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056962081752215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561910028829366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857582966604604,0.0,0.2228604319457164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187528792566838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249275547203148,0.20730984431381766,0.0,0.13387425993564758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213165318399717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656434983766193,0.0,0.19507029592156852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18792829762881244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27967317364278005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879419929642502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659082639423264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782704886456864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382870919663654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722453004990475
parenting,RussellZoloft,2020/02/07,"My 2 year old wrote his own song lyrics Like most kids his age, he has a minor obsession with Baby Shark, and, therefore, all things shark.  

On Monday night, he went to sleep wearing his shark t-shirt.  When I was changing him to go out on Tuesday morning, it was very cold, so, I didn't want him wearing only a t-shirt.  He started to cry when I took the shirt off.  I put on a much warmer sweatshirt, and put the shark t-shirt back on over the sweatshirt.

He was instantly much happier, and sang ""my shark shirt do do do do do do"" (to the Baby Shark melody).  It was the first time that I noticed he put together his own unique sentence, and, a musical one at that!  

I was one happy/proud daddy!",4.040780141843971,4.32881165957447,4.6632624113475165,89.53333333333335,70.70212765957447,7.685106382978723,27.01418439716312,7.3871296695380915,1.165814184397163,528,16,118,5,9,169,80,141,0.052000000000000005,0.8740000000000001,0.07400000000000001,0.4559,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,9,0,13,5,5,1,1,11,19,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,6,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,0,3,9,3,14,1,13,10,6,26,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,1,13,71,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805634904801335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20368863286145766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150325429836347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377992769470162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094285952509259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406847858316593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28308761797155263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069181717771274,0.0,0.0,0.2192154305110794,0.2020451288280238,0.0,0.2609489403166892,0.14644026572661706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5806871474281612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926855231991708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628538139476928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791931792257738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227539416644916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392621114287905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887100156245293,0.1135688957943083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849250528663088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399361279296707
parenting,randolady-,2020/02/07,"Any traveling advice for single moms? Hey! My daughter (9) and I are thinking about traveling to the west coast for our spring break (I work in education). The longest I’ve driven with her is 8 hours, but this will be pushing 23 with a few stops along the way to see sights and such. Any traveling tips as a single mom? I’m a bit nervous to tour different cities and locations on my own with precious cargo, but I think some perspective would help tame my anxiety. Thanks!",2.322307692307696,4.919546780219783,3.3897692307692324,86.96773076923077,81.19780219780219,7.156483516483518,24.48461538461539,8.238735603445708,1.7557507692307692,371,14,72,8,10,119,69,91,0.068,0.794,0.138,0.8688,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,11,6,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,2,3,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,2,8,2,13,7,6,13,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,1,3,44,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22989313221475466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199694328100145,0.0,0.17997308619457392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568427457690577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457963954625857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768967009410628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316834918036255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5510668171432078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874715838370533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668770859861426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165955953849334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30148993266898194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673826129246066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127192027532304,0.0,0.0,0.16712179632025384,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deezplums,2020/02/07,"Signed 5yr old up for flag football. Unsure of what he needs? Hi reddit! So for the past few weeks my son has been asking to play football. I researched it and I found a flag football league in my area that accepts children his age so I signed him up. He’s totally excited about it and literally has been talking nonstop about how awesome it’s going to be. I’m really happy for him and glad I was able to sign him up. But now I realize I’m a little bit at a loss. His league requires that he gets nonmetal cleats and a mouth guard. I have absolutely no idea what kind of cleats to get him. Are soccer cleats okay? What kind of mouth guard should he get? Does he also need a cup, even though the league doesn’t require it? Is there something else he’ll need that I’m not thinking of? I’m just a little lost as this is the first time he’ll be in sports and I want to make it as enjoyable as possible for him. Thanks for any advice in advance!",0.3638945578231265,2.6857034846938777,1.983775510204083,95.3856292517007,88.13265306122446,4.899319727891157,19.391156462585034,6.42735559955562,0.016640136054421273,737,22,163,8,24,239,112,196,0.043,0.81,0.147,0.9661,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,6,11,12,0,0,9,1,13,2,2,2,1,28,33,14,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,4,5,3,0,2,3,2,0,1,5,0,16,10,26,23,3,19,0,2,0,0,19,10,0,0,7,96,28,3,0.16316019882933244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594382579508454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047915205566096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095453020556696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525327608975836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812867900062568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427825895127259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362994098624761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776577252629033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878398177380394,0.0,0.1788967364548549,0.0,0.0,0.25573340909838604,0.0,0.09272770102296717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368706560539354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841880045506575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398124786257886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270587658984059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810863089153886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891069967828697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629436601097325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120918217172632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575487174391686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839386089097152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452460132573686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256086923449172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114198742053165,0.0,0.15021598981800102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454646728975896,0.1603040669402419,0.0,0.09514002403694567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623611260452536,0.0,0.1308772698294122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dcwsbound,2020/02/07,"My son [14/M] has received nude pictures from his girlfriend [14/F], plus weed talk. My son had a history of getting into trouble. It got to the point where his mother could no longer discipline him and he moved in with me in October, 2019. Since then, he's ultimately been on the right track. He doesn't argue anymore. He does his chores without a fight. Everything was looking up, til last night.

He requested that I setup his Apple Watch after going to bed. I began to set it up, and decided it was a good time to look through his iPhone to make sure everything was on the up-and-up. I came across ""Recently Deleted"" in his pictures, and found two nude pictures of his 14 year old girlfriend, that she'd taken of herself in-front of a mirror. Now, I'm not so naive to believe that my son, who is now going through puberty, possibly didn't request these, but I haven't found anything indicating that he did. They were in ""Recently Deleted,"" which is indicative of him not wanting to keep them on his device.

After deleting the pictures, I dug a little deeper and found my son asking his girlfriend if she had any weed that they could smoke the following day. He may claim that his friend used his phone to ask about it, but it's his phone. I think he's going to take the heat for it.

What do I do here? I'm so completely lost. I've reached out to who I believe may be the father of his girlfriend to let them know, but aside from having a firm talk with him, what else should happen?",5.269156308851223,5.494708776271184,5.6816666666666675,83.5182438794727,68.01694915254237,8.725047080979285,30.626177024482107,8.515128840125781,2.145290018832392,1159,42,236,16,18,372,161,295,0.026000000000000002,0.92,0.054000000000000006,0.6959,0,0,1,0,1,0,47.0,0,0,4,1,7,7,2,0,13,0,25,2,2,2,1,34,52,13,0,5,7,6,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,18,10,0,2,6,0,0,7,7,4,0,1,17,3,36,3,42,27,0,39,0,1,3,2,55,16,0,3,15,152,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846609511475838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346570682752657,0.0,0.0,0.10244887660625238,0.0,0.23277226436507395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28052673742521106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238925212146772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053076536113306,0.0,0.0,0.19879844712481934,0.0,0.0,0.08028905358160053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894651902059876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399969842089993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22377637385996693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40950742175392696,0.09618462137477317,0.0,0.06504356218224737,0.0,0.2122603381346019,0.10442060055294723,0.09957012081303597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009062402112632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065698342067268,0.0,0.0,0.06841926246923874,0.10148013945536427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273046956460434,0.0,0.0,0.12477681691236045,0.0,0.0,0.2090890928627007,0.0,0.1359011305886729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310145974057763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231861095568892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683023717993085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063668676712625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768812937394665,0.14034954277404169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458478248365368,0.0,0.0,0.10631815278772297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298365028171637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733517785397332,0.0,0.09360483710437778,0.20012892434111046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977144640667108,0.0,0.0,0.07259410600224127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216136430063774,0.0,0.0,0.1075238122044439,0.0,0.0,0.07343044770457073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000885366799925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017077595246874
parenting,Space_Qwerty,2020/02/07,"My 2y.o. just won't eat anything but plain macaroni and ""I can get no satisfaction"". Pls help me... My 2y.o. daughter is great in many ways, she is even OK-behaved. But me and my wife have got a nemesis - which is her eating.

Or shall I say 'not-eating'. We read 100s of posts that all seem to suggest to keep trying with different things, making it fun, eating together with them. We have tried ALL OF THAT plus a ton of home-cooked and a dozen options of off-the-shelf baby food. Any my wife - she reads a lot about this topic - she is way better than me here.

So what do we have to show for the last 2 years in terms of what our daughter eats? Not much! The list has been the same for the last 12 months: 

* milk
* cheerios
* macaroni with butter
* peanut butter
* all types of fruits (and fruit pouches)
* all types of baby snacks. 

I am really getting worried about her nutrients intake and most importantly....this starts to affect my relationship with wife because she is always stressed about this because she feels it's her fault or something. **HOW CAN I HELP?**",0.7234108159392783,3.251316524509804,1.6107653383934242,95.2350569259962,94.5392156862745,4.3969639468690715,17.85515496521189,6.207218560251982,-0.13564750158127747,817,23,167,9,31,253,129,204,0.06,0.847,0.09300000000000001,0.8374,1,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,4,0,1,1,8,5,0,1,8,0,16,9,0,3,4,33,24,12,0,0,6,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,13,9,1,2,3,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,6,25,3,24,20,10,11,0,0,0,0,23,2,0,6,6,109,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508697529502084,0.0,0.0,0.08588445519986393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392944839265704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397566680542746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169704565169873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195066371811107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6461529944201796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341619441284008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385819308447907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527155695536095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196711887969895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100908936523666,0.13923991223024945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930481499737454,0.0,0.12668348087389458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225617721418762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058934224714038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737089801288743,0.0,0.0,0.08430242631802305,0.12804259809795535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008069057925579,0.0,0.09284084252327053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095502897148586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526569551914196,0.0,0.0809073628919162,0.0,0.0,0.13559281448355734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043429689082588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497358795158515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722752275570692,0.0,0.0,0.08939175597264816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466969459256854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390432146790408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714910798151596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004930745443489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825799269433955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132938884215024
parenting,pnsDeMilo,2020/02/07,"Single parents, what do you do when you're feeling overwhelmed? I'm a single parent of a 4 year old and a full-time student. Money is a bit tight right now (a sitter isn't always the affordable option), and my support network is pretty weak. If I'm lucky I'll get a weekend to myself about once a month or every second.

Yes I've reached out for more help! not everyone really sticks to their word when they say ""oh I can help out when you're really stuck!"" When that time comes, there is always SOMETHING that acts as a barrier.

I think it's important to find ways to help manage doing things solo, sometimes I feel like my head is so full and I can't breathe. It isn't fair for my child. I know this isn't permanent, I just want to be a good mom even when I'm emotionally drained.

So, now I'm asking for advice on how to keep myself level headed when I'm feeling overwhelmed?",4.040893186003686,4.6200246132596705,5.221781767955804,84.49005755064458,70.82320441988949,7.801289134438306,26.13305709023941,7.793537801064563,1.3699167587476984,689,20,142,8,12,229,113,181,0.057,0.743,0.2,0.9692,3,0,1,0,2,0,22.0,0,1,2,0,15,7,0,2,10,1,13,4,3,1,0,24,30,15,0,2,4,3,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,7,6,0,3,6,1,1,2,5,3,0,1,1,5,14,4,15,28,5,22,0,2,0,0,12,6,0,4,14,84,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949947236899302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545988753015965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302443821359878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670248023695122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178682265790548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209248471123878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104805671600038,0.0,0.128900169018361,0.14618792920919388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320681144231805,0.10929565889504286,0.0,0.0,0.1398295411996024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993064780206728,0.0,0.0,0.1283202513215981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31402252646230344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076367125454708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598400936059218,0.0,0.0,0.084078973964906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474289370773625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917933782817555,0.12211468055563725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605366411322118,0.16292871940662929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33975325025419123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564522185822388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960178560480082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065211283525427,0.0,0.12166331250054765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777871554714085,0.15131042986660906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736105596485284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163936024754976,0.09802943094548702,0.0,0.0,0.0892093502368907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023711273648703,0.12143586572324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985201585165367
parenting,disneyworldplz,2020/02/07,"Snow Days (A Rant) Sorry, I just needed a place to vent about this. My preschooler has a snow day from his daycare (2nd day in a row, 5th this winter). We live in New England and it's insane to me that people who have lived in snow all their lives can't handle literally TWO inches of snow.
How do they expect working parents to constantly accommodate this, on top of holidays, sick days, etc?

Today I'll have to bring him into work with me. At my public safety job. And the icing on the cake is that we have to pay for childcare even when the center is closed. 

Also- they closed today and it hasn't even started raining yet. It's not even supposed to start until about 10am.",2.086651583710406,4.1986569411764725,3.4135294117647064,89.22242081447966,78.8529411764706,5.361085972850678,20.020361990950228,6.297961479604792,0.13438981900452518,528,13,106,4,13,172,94,136,0.064,0.882,0.053,-0.128,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,3,3,10,0,0,0,7,0,9,1,0,1,1,15,13,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,12,0,21,13,2,28,0,0,0,0,10,13,0,0,14,73,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356691619320266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049074790305591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308598231620585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627295945199385,0.3309480866653962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574292170783333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442448745812368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238442174324038,0.0,0.16131026415821453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18545744761490596,0.0,0.0,0.11579157669071352,0.0,0.1745017659105617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869667312029749,0.23643714757506054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166334279850597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315559339159216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431870693847188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fakesmile2019,2020/02/07,"Lead paint in old house I am moving into an older house with my kids, and I can't seem to relax knowing that there is lead paint present in the home. What are some things that I can do to help me be at peace? I'm in Belgium and when I brought up my concern, they looked at me like I had 6 arms.",1.298181818181817,2.0917706363636377,2.6095151515151542,99.86427272727276,77.48484848484848,5.28,20.775757575757574,3.1291,-0.6085660606060603,226,5,59,0,5,73,50,66,0.037000000000000005,0.8290000000000001,0.134,0.7426,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,8,1,1,2,0,9,13,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,10,2,10,10,1,15,0,0,1,0,3,7,0,2,5,39,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741584653935693,0.0,0.2954355033512799,0.0,0.0,0.6796913172803952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618648341815423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389145734938552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24732926170175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130365521128496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090574916836317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26812714328864623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567125307279049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway48c,2020/02/07,"2yo only wants to play tennis I don't know how, but at 18mos, my toddler became obsessed with playing tennis and he loves watching Serena Williams. Now, he's almost 3 and only wants to play tennis from the moment he wakes up each morning (actually volleying across a tennis net). His coach suggested we start a youtube channel to start saving up money for his future tennis career (if that's what he continues to pursue. We do not push him in any way and his casual lessons are more for us to learn how to play with him ).  We're not sure how we feel about this, but apparently tennis can be an extremely expensive sport. I would love to meet other parents who have had similar experiences with their little ones!",5.852,6.922084866666669,6.517777777777778,75.05000000000003,67.0,9.25925925925926,29.074074074074076,9.444778638647367,2.661296296296297,567,19,98,11,9,186,96,135,0.031,0.809,0.161,0.9635,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,1,1,6,10,0,1,4,0,8,3,1,3,1,28,16,9,0,4,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,0,4,8,2,1,3,1,0,1,1,2,13,9,19,13,2,14,0,0,1,2,20,6,0,2,6,64,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.22348834806465595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293282569267702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557399653545728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240233649773536,0.0,0.0,0.11579828684292745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586220001201548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295360125249372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41339503313780507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518839627849776,0.3483567315679544,0.0,0.0,0.2542971775326015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32419997182881843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584657727261986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27548022933206456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27016127805001616,0.1817836790761767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268768263476252,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chriblabla,2020/02/07,"How did you survive sleep regression? Our 18 month old doesn’t sleep anymore since one week. Maybe sometimes a few hours out of exhaustion but that’s it. We are shure it‘s the 18 month sleep regression and she is very fine otherwise but we are very thin with nerves and thick with those dark sircles around our eyes.

So maybe you could send us some  stories? Advice and coffee are also welcome. And please nothing like „our little angel sleeps through the night since three weeks old...“, this is nice for you but we don’t need it these days.

Thank you fellow parents",2.3954312668463618,5.3085439339622615,1.61191374663073,96.99150943396229,86.07547169811322,4.538005390835579,19.8355795148248,6.1826913282559595,-0.0029250673854446236,451,13,88,4,14,128,78,106,0.055,0.8009999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.9098,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,4,0,1,4,6,0,0,3,0,9,6,5,1,0,18,11,10,0,2,3,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,11,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,3,11,5,7,9,2,15,1,0,1,0,15,5,0,1,10,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791302357878135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128635912438251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399654942232844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563782677202698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268279920640792,0.0,0.0,0.09101877237026468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389870613363068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895019961554938,0.14145181925814815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283573086227873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22530119407000546,0.0,0.0,0.10464794376164202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244326953034413,0.0,0.13542041849742215,0.0,0.29618958813552393,0.0,0.0956350192715972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671091432892625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492107897562798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23349248757363755,0.0,0.5649376066335977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395836289669559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993582350897798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697649932140341,0.0,0.0,0.2328981490046912,0.0,0.0,0.2264159208949077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cruyff8,2020/02/07,"Our Adopted Niece just turned 2, what to expect? We adopted my niece, after my wife observed how ineffective a parent my sister was. She turned 2 this past Monday. As a first-time parent/guardian, what changes can I expect from her now that she's entered her so-called, terrible 2s?",5.01254716981132,6.705944169811325,4.9397641509434,83.24662735849058,69.56603773584905,6.809433962264151,28.34433962264151,7.1686216300943375,1.5604,223,8,40,2,4,69,41,53,0.10300000000000001,0.897,0.0,-0.6072,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,4,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,0,4,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,4,25,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001944668778216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413773777599072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6301932139261043,0.0,0.27089367255763264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6173276073944991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dropperofdeuces,2020/02/07,"Dealing with Longterm Separation Dear Parents,

I’m the happy father of 3yr old twins (boy and girl). Currently our family is posted to jobs in Asia but my employer is shipping me back home to North America. 

Plans are for me to leave end of this month and for my wife and kids to join me in August. That effectively gives us 6 months apart and my wife and I are having an extremely difficult time trying to figure out how to deal with this long of a separation. 

Clearly this will be much more difficult for my wife and kids i) because my wife will be alone with two toddlers that are a handful ii) because we’re concerned how it will affect the kids’ development and iii) I’ll miss them a lot (but I can deal with it much better than they can). 

Can anyone share their experiences with this situation and how they dealt with it. How did it affect your kids and what did you do to help them get through it.",7.325349563046192,6.255646803370787,7.37052434456929,77.44594881398254,64.11235955056179,10.832459425717854,32.69912609238452,9.994966539143718,2.8571815230961297,713,23,145,13,9,230,106,178,0.068,0.8059999999999999,0.127,0.9095,4,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,2,5,3,5,7,0,0,6,0,17,1,1,7,1,28,21,15,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,12,16,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,20,4,24,14,4,15,0,1,0,0,27,5,0,1,9,100,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715759863695602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583480015241004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127383937982862,0.0,0.2019721710232357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465146751769732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5123710880766623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672745961307565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620493330518925,0.1561714951120626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655161577411892,0.1589181925851328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635039809869432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103982128850792,0.0,0.1661726050338439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439408351767834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541225629076956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660575553875166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084000301022173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26445983367990245,0.0,0.2435614264654749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17383451858604165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839481699612116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586585095190395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621115422510529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659890939808537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112473699318852,0.0,0.16182781122728407,0.0,0.19927112262042945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LoveAddies88,2020/02/07,All good and gravy until he started middle school . I literally had no problems with my son in elementary ever . He was one of the top students in his class and amongst the school all around. Since 5th grade started I began looking into middle schools and determined what was needed to get my son into the best school in our county.   I did it and he was accepted into the accelerate honors program. That’s when it all went down hill.  He started getting grades like c and bs and even a D which was unheard of. Never in his life had he done so bad in school. We sat down with him and his teachers and concluded that we would stop slacking off. Now 4 months later we recheck his school app and see a pattern of careless behavior.  I don’t believe in hitting him because I don’t think I’ll get anythjng out of it. How do I go about this ??  Taking his phone !? No video games ? I’m not sure if telling him he disappointed me is good. I feel so hurt and betrayed . My husband and I cried over this because we feel lost.  Btw his teachers all said he understands the material well and is “pretty bright” he just seems to be lazy.,2.764502262443444,4.82817281447964,3.7231199095022633,88.05092420814482,76.51131221719457,6.229954751131222,26.88710407239819,7.1686216300943375,1.2980351131221726,876,35,176,10,20,281,134,221,0.152,0.726,0.122,-0.8254,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,0,5,11,15,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,2,7,45,38,18,0,4,3,3,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,9,23,0,1,7,2,0,2,6,6,1,1,13,6,26,9,25,22,5,32,0,3,3,0,29,18,0,2,13,114,35,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316393176361872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967607408920814,0.14128718642382207,0.0,0.0,0.13056487884635967,0.12161617702279405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729634432029505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859255827395612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654222030852273,0.1048263573577496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719182151575128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816384041109425,0.0,0.06586120949182885,0.19440090717048936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240593489109973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185436156420932,0.05661649736375542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731582924423347,0.0,0.12650426703175802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249983706529244,0.0,0.0,0.08592868570560734,0.08937913994683193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852797884071709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789866375089475,0.0,0.1108881353421947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023500250803446,0.0,0.0,0.7037025236254343,0.09234687445168474,0.1054991031489316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586286102780428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460760837000349,0.0,0.0,0.09688665748902588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922205435055464,0.0,0.0871325444992536,0.0,0.10129027944882836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742556615535632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064237479619876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419626208452734,0.10742833951626274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823227458105903,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,comethobnob,2020/02/07,"Do I look like a mom? Or to get right down in it, will my looks embarrass my child when he's older. I'm mostly comfortable in my body, I've semi accepted things that I can't change and hey, having a kid is a nice way to scream ""yeah! Some one chose to have sex with me. I still got it."" But will he accept me? 

I'm overweight (I'm working on getting healthier), I have PCOS so yay adult acne, rosacea and a bad Jaw line due to a cross bite and bad acne scars. There's nothing I can do about some of those things. 

There are many times ill stand in front of a mirror or look at a selfie and say ""f everyone I don't look that bad!"" But then many nights I'll come home and see myself in the mirror, red faced, frizzed hair from fun Georgia humidity, and think ""will I embarrass my son? Will his friends make fun of me?"" 

Does anyone else have these thoughts? What did you do about them? I should get over myself because my mom looked similar to me without the rosacea and all my friends loved her. Do I just focus on being the cool fun mom who is responsible but will start a water fight in the kitchen (yup that happened)? Do I start wearing make up and actually straightenkng or styling my hair every single day instead of going natural? Doesn't that send a message as well?",2.1493537015276125,3.978753903474903,3.1530904817861334,92.51332549941246,77.53281853281855,6.203189524928655,23.229981534329358,7.079830092131019,0.6422961557831122,987,31,217,11,23,315,156,259,0.064,0.7979999999999999,0.138,0.943,0,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,0,1,1,1,10,21,1,2,13,4,24,12,6,2,1,29,47,18,0,1,8,4,2,1,2,6,2,2,2,3,12,10,3,0,4,0,0,5,4,7,1,1,3,12,27,14,26,37,5,29,0,0,7,2,22,12,0,6,11,131,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.11406368826764088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172927514268608,0.11976332389387352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29278430371278474,0.07125250406183843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983378339745455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364968705289865,0.10068677438032493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538167686142537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228755883442056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976430946727033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848133503626068,0.1116893992020837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806113716396646,0.0,0.1832040322167337,0.0,0.06642889869371606,0.0,0.09348425890402358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336173457318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724599636826293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057104501979068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4907732041393951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549400583868483,0.0,0.15604436982210335,0.2370077280481391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106857392340199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968941336181673,0.0,0.11215508583311364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920484897380255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981984193900646,0.0,0.09295228649607913,0.0,0.0,0.09314285624216127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546475394932905,0.0,0.0933451577802271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530747501167896,0.07489570654466195,0.0,0.0927942758013313,0.0681570549980809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927785143245643,0.0,0.0,0.10509437940303386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267374846456454,0.0,0.08509426080482227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sophiaraeee,2020/02/07,"11 month old son keeps bobbing his head back and forth We have our doctor's appointment next week but im just worried as hes been doing this for about 2 weeks now, is this normal should i be worried? Also i have noticed that my son randomly grunts like some possessed devil baby lol its completely random he doesnt seem to be in pain but it just scares me im a FTM and i really would like advice from experienced parents",1.8591731266149871,4.2120345813953515,3.366899224806204,87.94308785529718,81.09302325581395,6.14780361757106,21.183462532299746,7.3871296695380915,0.8082702842377256,338,10,67,5,9,111,71,86,0.198,0.698,0.105,-0.8765,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,1,1,11,3,1,0,0,15,13,6,0,3,4,3,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,9,2,6,8,1,8,1,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,9,41,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822985927650572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918731621025455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344865475653593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955985160770025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094611571338133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19145841708829653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030210703584363,0.0,0.0,0.16581793334895967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228190543011671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890577249866124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19840249464005769,0.0,0.18278349438219826,0.0,0.21239317875177044,0.19575723781417875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850680837079365,0.0,0.20714634783399855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951138939867866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677328616172728,0.0,0.0,0.16983192566294866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992850326072947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37890966558539535,0.0,0.13252274218044455,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,niall_b,2020/02/07,"Help with book project about simple, routines based stories for infants and toddlers. (Making books for young children with visual processing issues) I would like to create some accessible books for young children with complex vision based disabilities. Parents love to get books into the hands of their children but it can be disappointing for parents who don't have access to visually accessible and developmentally appropriate materials. The books will be created on evidence based research including 'routines based' and 'functional object' based approaches. 

Can you tell me about a routine your infant or toddler goes through based on the daily, recognized objects they see during that routine?

I'm trying to find the most common routines, what objects help to establish the flow of time and what is happening in the relationship between parent and baby words, phrases, non-verbal etc. What makes the routine meaningful instead of just one event coming after another?",12.504038461538466,12.872672993589747,10.698333333333338,53.09250000000003,53.03846153846154,12.928205128205128,47.70512820512821,12.161744961471696,6.533028205128206,801,44,95,20,8,247,109,156,0.026000000000000002,0.861,0.113,0.8836,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,2,0,4,3,0,0,8,0,9,2,1,2,0,22,17,7,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,6,10,0,0,3,5,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,2,6,2,24,13,3,13,0,1,1,1,18,4,0,3,7,66,12,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052087705005692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857843274734907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21825750441054154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886647869490785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224530088209503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305708051164942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26234749833364684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426021145857184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560925459868834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766271119317964,0.0,0.2612628666034443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261155090298787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6519058881631707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101088245619664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594775802037686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105064013364732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411438675004933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286762038262334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901983926873138,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grumble128,2020/02/07,"I love having a sick kid. I still get the most amazing snuggles.
We have one of those room temperature cooling pads. She comes over, puts it on me lengthwise, climbs in my lap, gets a blanket and falls asleep on me.
She's 5 y'all.
I didn't think I was ever gonna get that again. Told my boss (wfh today) that I was going to be unable to attend any phone calls for the next half hour and sent him a pic. Gave me the rest of the day off paid without needing to use sick time.
Snuggles have power and I loved every moment of it.",1.305135135135135,2.987185684684686,2.665126126126129,95.72525675675676,79.54054054054055,4.8003603603603615,19.20810810810811,4.935628992294339,-0.532863783783784,405,9,93,1,10,131,83,111,0.06,0.83,0.11,0.7645,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,7,1,7,5,1,2,1,12,22,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,1,7,2,0,0,2,7,1,16,4,13,13,2,22,0,0,0,2,13,6,0,1,9,58,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509638454503094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23288641679458105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646333102711255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470871961660438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630365412180499,0.19216000556475893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35747370643677384,0.0,0.12961824225824353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22460440437662949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41168671691029296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691120659134528,0.0,0.0,0.2425565395229508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454709477646505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292747679556057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18213812832540588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613895497151508,0.0,0.0,0.1329902774255293,0.0,0.21618503574072195,0.21793201284583136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19698047682380745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198527073580081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuperiorTroy,2020/02/07,Did anybody else not cry when their Baby was born? I (M21) have been excited for my little girl to come since I found out we were having a baby. I was honestly expecting the water works when she was born but I never (And still haven’t) shed one single tear and she is almost 3 weeks oldI guess I should also add my GF had an unplanned C section so I was not allowed in the room and She didn’t get to see her for 2 hours. I just wanted to see if anybody else went through the same thing?,1.0052427184466026,2.9051268543689304,2.7473883495145617,93.71059708737866,81.4271844660194,5.285048543689321,19.03786407766989,6.2581,-0.12274291262135904,378,9,84,3,10,125,74,103,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.5909,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,1,1,21,22,9,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,7,1,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,11,2,15,2,8,10,3,15,0,0,2,0,8,5,0,3,8,61,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310472856516357,0.0,0.0,0.1845183070142324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987573526751732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534510285260321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854981575008161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25298848452770106,0.0,0.0,0.12054926004240793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541800797633917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272270177833962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312565985713721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779566810756016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635167774474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677310677838891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908659738398429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426488046348333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328975813341228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609319413604845,0.0,0.18508130896854855,0.0,0.0,0.2138932055639527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167977473799401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thegirlwhoflew,2020/02/07,"My teenager is a chronic liar and doesn’t realize it. I need some help.  My 13 yo son has been lying constantly for the last two years.   We have even caught him red handed lying and he claims he’s telling the truth.    We have taught him and his siblings since they were young to tell the truth and we don’t have this problem with the other kids.    
 My husband and I have sat down with him and talked calmly about this issue and have tried working with him.  At first it was talking things through and listening.   Then natural consequences happened and we followed through.  We have tried so hard to help him and we are finding out that he’s lying to friends to get pity and attention from them.   His friends are even calling him out on it.   And new people he approaches seems to see right through it as well.  
He’s got a good heart and as parents we are struggling.    I don’t want him to continue in this horrible habit because it won’t be good in the long road.    We have thought about therapy but where do we go?  Therapist?  Psychiatrist?
I could really use some advice.   My hubby and I love this kid and want to help him but we just don’t know what to do.   We have often asked ourselves what did we do wrong?   The other two are turning out just fine and at the same age he was aren’t even showing the same deceptions he was.  
Please be kind and I am worried about my boy and feel helpless.    We have had suicide issues with him in the past so we have to and are being careful about how to deal with him.    He did go to a therapist when he was going through that two years ago but after about nine months he felt like he was done and we had seen enough improvement that we decided to stop.    But we thinks it’s time he went back but maybe to a different one.  Any suggestions or advice?",2.9286384976525817,4.721377661971836,3.384436619718312,91.87430751173711,75.19718309859155,6.874178403755868,25.072769953051644,7.675431598112923,1.1113643192488258,1390,47,298,19,30,432,179,355,0.098,0.769,0.133,0.8574,4,0,0,0,0,1,25.0,17,0,2,2,18,19,1,1,13,0,43,4,2,2,2,78,71,33,1,5,8,3,4,1,2,1,1,1,0,3,18,45,0,1,10,1,0,7,6,6,1,6,20,8,42,13,42,46,5,39,0,2,3,1,64,13,0,5,20,209,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20090617021493634,0.09112428733965433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990621328310785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610231953767287,0.0,0.0,0.07904537114766029,0.0,0.06266474986107858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496832386478942,0.0,0.10480948437742993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108819491951367,0.0,0.08207589482920004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598029721193257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740210459809177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519811722105077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621788685827233,0.0,0.20369146888056733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05197779336492258,0.0,0.09870226891901934,0.0,0.09395557442499153,0.08743998656191614,0.0,0.0,0.1588430690947125,0.0,0.053707749192173374,0.0,0.17526753796228228,0.17244428923742064,0.08221700805188227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090399456858612,0.0,0.09208687989465418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218162089264408,0.20671014002803506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21458895640803727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704837181079804,0.05649513134467121,0.08379414802935019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022194489268919,0.0,0.0,0.09097305784739416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277927245878996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327447918203217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082052439412294,0.0,0.0,0.07622346699552114,0.0,0.0992830174151136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696586332519663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414509236221825,0.0,0.09813239048320588,0.0712672388524022,0.0,0.0,0.11284141212660573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836387063347228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585507649008247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778899083815367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191675316696005,0.09358350288842963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503562650408655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594379023464115,0.0,0.10746686352044124,0.0,0.11244440472241443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652503908764306,0.17970008988584035,0.0,0.11755855297291032,0.2387129668658545,0.06829447049830084,0.06586885300503628,0.0,0.08161018560952914,0.05994238180058588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395862845471949,0.1118147818901378,0.3012563342686537,0.0,0.0,0.08878452754296998,0.0,0.0,0.1212659312027188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242781125812524,0.09529484158009344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483821990760764,0.1043964308988013,0.0,0.0,0.1123935529775168,0.0,0.13239717453766126
parenting,XKevDawg,2020/02/07,"Is it fair for me to take me 2 15 year old sons electrons away every night at 9 pm My sons argue this rule and say it’s unfair and that we baby them, I am just wondering if they are correct or if I should take there electrics at 9 o’clock pm.",8.46777777777778,3.5739631851851894,8.706666666666667,80.73000000000002,65.29629629629629,11.54074074074074,36.25925925925926,7.1686216300943375,2.413103703703703,188,5,46,1,2,63,44,54,0.10400000000000001,0.852,0.044000000000000004,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,7,5,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,0,5,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,4,4,28,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309616291698531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967958242815575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305739086669981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36963958305935535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801327833269267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5297141839073023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820129790936881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268450994125548
parenting,lizzymc87,2020/02/07,"21 month old son doesn’t respond to his name- autism? I have 21 month old and 7 month old sons. My older son just does not respond to his name. I’ve tried working with him and teaching him, but he just won’t respond to it. Otherwise I feel that he is developing normally. He does make eye contact and mimics us. He smiles and engages with other children. He knows some numbers, and most colors and body parts. He still babbles but also uses many words. Recently he has started putting two words together. He like us to sing to him and he likes books. Should I be worried? I know not responding to his name can indicate ASD. Would you ask for a referral to be evaluated?",2.160479825517996,4.646369328244277,3.2821864776444936,88.19704198473282,80.90839694656489,6.490948745910576,26.151035986913854,7.7094869923839395,1.6010410032715383,526,22,104,9,14,169,84,131,0.021,0.8740000000000001,0.106,0.907,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,10,2,2,2,0,30,17,10,0,3,6,3,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,9,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,14,3,10,12,3,11,0,0,2,0,31,0,0,2,12,57,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547796722611615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668627494338185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428760481899092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274619643139542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933657507078679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246327475245418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331305325741915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473622022754836,0.15907843153059806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757235021581996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373492800983826,0.0,0.0,0.4939405217821226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699143080600102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773423946124493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549261108344297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105913612449507,0.0,0.12530562959228633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652912547749926,0.0,0.15327472388996874,0.0,0.3774780869524715,0.1355167250961206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422970594728722,0.15934603493026314,0.0,0.11146178322959786,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iaminsamity,2020/02/07,"Separation Anxiety? My son just turned 2. Suddenly he’s freaking out at bedtime. Climbing out of his crib, crying, the whole crazy meltdown. He’s fine if I’m in the room with him. His routine is solid, he’s tired but not overtired.... he just doesn’t want to be alone. Has this happened with any of you? What should i do? I used to be able to just pop him in his crib after our bedtime routine and he would cry sometimes for like 5-10 min then talk to himself until he fell asleep. I have a high needs 5 year old and my husband isn’t usually home at bedtime - i need this kid to stay sleep trained! Help!",1.077698511166254,3.2415812983870964,2.4041935483870955,94.8147518610422,82.79032258064517,5.105707196029776,24.054590570719604,6.297961479604792,0.5105565756823816,467,18,103,4,13,150,87,124,0.132,0.782,0.086,-0.6979,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,10,3,2,1,0,18,17,6,0,6,6,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,14,2,18,13,1,19,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,1,9,58,17,0,0.19772750218704704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047860607711595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446148185215334,0.0,0.15126099796911807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4343887531684987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484977717890174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253257679911165,0.20890996205379347,0.19833680640870832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659966996667446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932248749512248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20748175219933968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19787029862442002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19555755554212895,0.0,0.0,0.21075120885009574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892587647328352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22725867687340764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150707434979353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077307693128604,0.2177689089279348,0.0,0.11662480373285315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075569493565075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404599444744946,0.0,0.0,0.12733002865765206
parenting,MailmetotheMoon,2020/02/07,"How to take some of the burden off my pops? He worries about me and my siblings. I dropped out of college myself, went hitch hiking and was homeless for a few years. All three of us struggle with basic stuff since our mother lost her marbles while he was deployed.

He constantly worries and is stressed. I'm getting my life together, but my siblings have yet to go through that early 20s scramble where you fall apart and build yourself back up. 

He's the stoic, army type. So it's hard to connect with him but lately I can tell it's getting to him. I never hear his voice break but he fell apart today over the phone. 

My bad if this is the wrong place to post this, but I feel like other parents might know some tips for keeping themselves together when their kids struggle. I just don't want him hurting himself too much over this stuff.",4.501808943089428,5.8763518231707375,4.20219512195122,89.27674796747971,70.40243902439025,6.198373983739837,29.52032520325203,5.985473137389443,1.2281764227642276,665,26,130,3,12,201,116,164,0.151,0.8140000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.9414,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,1,1,9,9,0,3,5,0,8,1,0,1,2,23,20,13,0,2,6,2,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,9,7,0,1,2,0,0,4,2,8,0,1,4,4,22,1,19,15,5,26,0,2,0,0,21,9,0,4,11,88,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176365154334018,0.1322181070276331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17112329362702594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006801445027448,0.11312738612340505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654657714389511,0.0,0.08999563630121635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185314829201084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847529444011154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695201186025135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075138655156744,0.0,0.0,0.08702664541984884,0.0,0.17862903602678504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184937856197104,0.07736325744259913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286096162194714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679874660398395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640764577999993,0.0,0.12213156475009106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17583222205146065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544513928429466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165836268981706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099120472305734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813927804350912,0.33108979139877265,0.3625525067205828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190617185025618,0.0,0.13840746655671846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010009016728595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19047911315686145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340067847529854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467947802074399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216302346302866,0.0,0.0,0.17313410288006958,0.0,0.10197411430715862
parenting,Shadow496789,2020/02/07,"No playdates At my kids age 6,8, and 10 school there is maybe 2 birthday parties invites a year. Each class has 35 minimum students. Big clue on just how unsociable our town is. 

This is my third school of doing this in a row. Every. Single. Wednesday. for entire school year I have each child hand out playdate invites. Old fashioned card in envelopes with short message. 
'Hi I'm so-and-so and my child is____. Since we all eat dinner at some point would you like to join us at these 3 options? Or go to playground? Or skating rink? I'm available these 2 days and this is my phone number. Can't wait to hear from you!.'  
In my nearly 3 years of doing this I have gotten 4 playdates,  payed for everything out of my pocket myself, and no second replies to do it again.  
What am I doing wrong?",0.6714010989011001,3.1703266346153853,1.7545787545787557,95.71423076923081,90.34615384615385,3.740659340659341,20.249084249084245,5.288315135182226,-0.1972377289377288,609,20,124,3,21,191,106,156,0.049,0.866,0.086,0.6859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,15,3,1,1,1,19,21,7,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,8,10,2,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,2,1,2,15,1,21,19,5,23,0,0,0,0,12,14,0,4,9,80,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003242012482708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20631425793748606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987903247933614,0.0,0.18120890807484805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458899328082064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272477328449537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850452923740896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256093179588425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21157310716278308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19060222533205967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6121703835503939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678753431575155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425318683743032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432296892105935,0.2204469390627228,0.0,0.3895225895192444
parenting,International-Grade,2020/02/08,"My 5 1/2 year-old is suddenly wetting the bed, any advice? So my child has never had any problems with wetting the bed. She was potty trained around 2-3 years old and has always always gotten up at night to go to the bathroom. No matter the scenario, location etc shes never had any major issues with bedwetting....up until December 2019. Suddenly out of nowhere she started wetting the bed. Its like she falls into a coma and just has zero instinct to wake up to go pee. 

I've considered the fact that maybe its just a phase and is normal around this age. Its her first year in school as a Kindergartener. I'm hoping its just a phase. But it worries me a little that it just started happening all of the sudden out of nowhere and now is a consistent bedwetter. Also I'm considering that it could be growth thing. Shes huge for her age. By huge I mean very tall. Shes growing like a teenager and she seems to be sleeping like a teenager as well. I believe shes the tallest in her class. Again shes 5 1/2 but has been wearing 6-8t. She has a brother that is 9 and shes just a little shorter than he is. 

Has anyone experienced something similar?",2.67525974025974,4.520583225108228,4.188093073593077,85.6078538961039,76.05627705627704,6.871082251082251,27.134415584415585,7.734863291789972,1.646679480519481,899,36,178,13,20,299,127,231,0.017,0.8959999999999999,0.087,0.8326,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,0,18,0,24,5,4,0,4,31,35,13,0,4,7,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,13,13,0,0,2,0,0,5,3,1,1,2,5,4,19,5,26,27,3,38,0,0,0,0,17,16,0,2,20,119,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378428522338838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280616526778575,0.2347475518876131,0.0,0.0,0.28777827433089176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863289891747626,0.0,0.0,0.2511478023078788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892706792133734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262546521892836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731993256823076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199861321739626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033605678302434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473948288777655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010507178378606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723068872166134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067453514643685,0.2827596946865117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171440088863752,0.1536564208474411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175893666136071,0.0,0.0,0.13237588124384006,0.13820950466353632,0.0,0.0,0.2960388842991146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497600865495524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276092692614387,0.0,0.12841633431545058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116254036747128,0.0,0.0,0.10859539385791428,0.0,0.0,0.19968693374799554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371443988223256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638982420126552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683048127317162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325395564240845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725153360863045
parenting,Shayde505,2020/02/08,How to deal with hitting ? I have a 3 year old daughter with autism and normally she is pretty well mild mannered but lately she has been hitting when shes been getting upset. We have been trying to handle it by removing stimuli i.e pausing a show that's on or taking her away from the play area to sit with us and talk about our feelings and why she hit.  For a while she would talk about her feelings and apologies but she still hits and now when we try to talk about what happened she bursts into tears and refuses to talk. This leads me to believe that what we are doing isnt working.  Does anyone have any ideas what to try next.  Note: for those who still use this technique this is a no spanking household.,4.460000000000001,5.620211347517731,4.303326241134752,89.32350000000002,70.27659574468085,6.491063829787233,27.575177304964534,6.2581,1.0213143262411353,564,19,113,3,10,172,93,141,0.061,0.892,0.048,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,5,0,0,2,10,3,0,1,5,0,14,0,0,3,0,25,24,13,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,13,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,1,1,0,3,2,16,2,20,16,0,17,0,0,0,0,23,4,0,1,10,83,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232947809883748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549915035666933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519400074281406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861036379854262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029547039494305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455195053189754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704204468250955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630081867240692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606996699471164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647046123226785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186332580009904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567301503512728,0.0,0.16184336600722332,0.0,0.0,0.1733308053618696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804955843815544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638292434309026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419636629326407,0.531068392664999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33644336654545404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869370278186133,0.14266428080955126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851852664935952,0.0,0.14905113392703134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025452086816085,0.0,0.0,0.11734060966217882,0.0,0.0,0.10637184321046524
parenting,situate1234,2020/02/08,"I cannot believe there's not a Mayor Humdinger action figure Paw Patrol was deceloped expressly to sell toys and there's no figurine for the show's main villian?!? I'm even driving my four year old crazy complaining about it.  

Also, Ryder is a fascist.",4.489374999999999,6.600459187500004,4.823333333333334,81.855,71.70833333333334,6.466666666666668,30.75,7.1686216300943375,2.053275,203,9,34,2,4,64,42,48,0.228,0.772,0.0,-0.8642,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,2,3,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069881368604719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5733856045585651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361409871754409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5340324869351639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277318180744958
parenting,Frankie_M_99,2020/02/08,Non-compliance and defiance in 8yo Who among you have kids with non-compliance and defiance behaviours? What are the strategies that work? Needing some extra advice and help in this area for my 8yo stepson.,5.050000000000002,8.351025111111113,4.63666666666667,77.85000000000005,75.66666666666667,9.155555555555557,31.222222222222207,9.516144504307137,3.8378555555555534,168,8,26,5,4,51,29,36,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6200184739356581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252867741861591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704679565997171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619179077430485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kennyv777,2020/02/08,"How can I stop getting mad at my four year old son for being annoying? He’s naughty for sure. Not over the top, but we think about discipline every day. There are good boy/bad boy outcomes set all the time. He’s a sweetheart, but this life stage has us on edge. 

He’s also extremely energetic, and frankly, really annoying at times. Gibberish, repeating the same thing over and over, spontaneous jumping and screaming. Dancing while getting dressed. Dancing why we try to strap him in a car seat. He’s usually incapable of anything serious. Many times tell him something, and he responds by falling over, crawling fast, and yelling “WABALABALABALBALABALAVABA!!!!!!” This is his favorite way to dodge correction or being told we have to do something not fun. 

I know kids age do things like this. I see his friends. But on days where he is already striking a balance between well-behaved and not so well behaved, or if he’s been bad most of the day, I find myself getting really irritated when he’s just being loud, obnoxious, and annoying. I’ll catch myself disciplining him for things that aren’t really a violation of our home values. 

It makes me feel like a pretty rotten dad. I’m wondering how I can better compartmentalize things in my head?",5.064345003477854,7.340228242290753,5.703834917690703,75.44850915835845,70.54185022026431,8.831810804544402,32.6522142360306,9.414487439383343,3.305287224669604,989,47,171,23,19,320,146,227,0.198,0.648,0.153,-0.8555,1,0,2,0,1,0,38.0,5,0,0,2,10,18,5,0,9,0,14,2,1,3,3,36,25,19,0,1,10,2,1,2,2,0,1,3,1,2,9,10,0,3,5,2,0,6,4,9,1,1,2,6,20,9,22,20,3,36,0,0,1,0,27,12,0,5,17,104,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125686236472005,0.10961244449421596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127944766596338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22889046889015746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212246384788927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26519066133950864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548487402260682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930520252720375,0.09792070479685648,0.0,0.0,0.12527677095423193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589763782739668,0.0,0.2148355784696969,0.0,0.0,0.11496531130469755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067030394504035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748939446503644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532844828856744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681448811989007,0.1339280426031635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149329862459447,0.13896444237857716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382877787014448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394464334329717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26342592392560626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922466694091028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110417733520355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459416421065285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918404201414413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980261489995855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642449440777587,0.0878270103868895,0.0,0.0,0.2397746407674244,0.0,0.0,0.130973409243123,0.0,0.0930595076694022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487474561688956,0.0,0.1509599552597153,0.0,0.0,0.10879741866651038,0.0,0.0,0.24647941990986724,0.0,0.1236816640188541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864333375453306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826666544827286
parenting,chaela_may,2020/02/08,"artist's conversation crazy mama: are you having fun painting?
5-year-old: yes!
crazy mama: what are you painting, sweetie?
5-year-old: ... the paper?",3.138749999999998,4.976662041666664,2.6866666666666674,82.92500000000003,116.08333333333334,3.2666666666666675,20.666666666666668,5.46131890053228,0.5817166666666669,115,4,16,1,6,34,17,24,0.151,0.534,0.315,0.7377,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8523013383686426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230510764877753
parenting,OkieLovesChrista,2020/02/08,"I (M32) need help/advice, I am having trouble giving advice and guidance to my teen daughter (F14) who constantly cares about what others think of her and has breakdowns/meltdowns about it. To clarify, she is a generally happy teen, she’s communicative and we spend a solid amount of time together (her mother included) and even have a lot of one on ones as well. 

She’s 14 and everything is great as of right now, we communicate and are very open with her about basically everything. The issue is that sometimes we could be having simple conversations about almost anything and then out of nowhere the conversation will slowly devolve into being about her, about how she is unhappy with the way she looks, she compares herself to everyone in her class, she constantly complains about not being perfect and how everything she does is not good enough and so on and so forth, issues that most teens go through. The biggest thing is that she starts to have a meltdown, she begins crying, not being open to any solutions presented and always adds “yeah but... (insert another off topic/different problem)” and it just cycles, even if we give sound advice explained in terms she can understand she then starts on another problem then and freaks out about that instead. It’s almost as she likes to have a meltdown, (not saying she does, I know that she doesn’t). 

It just baffles me on what to do, I am trying my best as a father to be there and I listen every time, I don’t scold her for it and I don’t shame her about it. We’ve even had conversations about her meltdowns and she’s aware of them and she says she wants to stop them but when presented with a problem she starts to have another. I’m at a loss. I just want to be the best parent I can be, I’ve tried many different methods to help alleviate this not just my wife and I but for her, I see her truly frustrated with caring about what others think of her and she’s always hyper critical about herself. I was too as a teenager so I understand, but over time I learned on my own that I simply had to ignore it and not let it get to me (I still suffer from it, who doesn’t?) I was a loner in school, so was my wife we just learned to not care and we didn’t cope in any other way. I’ve shared this with her as I do plenty of experiences and she says she doesn’t know how to do that or how to apply it. 

I just don’t know how to support her, I want to so badly, she’s my little girl, I love her so dearly and advice will help greatly please. I just want her to be happy if not happy then content somehow. How as a parent can I help more? What else can I do? 

Also, not giving away too much but I have a background in psychology, I’ve worked with kids her age in rehabilitation settings, children shelter settings as well also in therapeutic settings. This still presents itself as an issue for me, I want to help alleviate any of her suffering in some way. Yes, I know therapy is an option which will most likely be pursued in the near future. I just want to know what I can do in the meantime, anyone else experiencing this? I hate to see her like that, it breaks my heart. 

Thanks for reading. I apologize for any typos or anything like that I am on mobile.",3.779894573943324,5.316807058451818,4.901875745558886,82.92759647935006,72.41232227488152,7.631801915078827,26.030531643937195,8.225684150193146,1.6310015733307541,2520,83,493,39,49,829,250,633,0.09300000000000001,0.7509999999999999,0.156,0.9912,4,0,1,0,0,0,72.0,6,0,2,5,48,37,2,1,21,2,55,2,1,6,1,108,93,60,0,13,26,7,0,4,0,3,0,5,0,3,37,41,0,2,12,1,1,1,16,14,2,2,6,9,93,23,90,73,12,61,0,3,3,1,82,29,0,12,28,389,130,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564790378063256,0.0,0.0,0.13141104678232954,0.0,0.0,0.10494710555398326,0.10919649669858897,0.0,0.0,0.17848608930580584,0.20641410603406427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04588063617451839,0.0672319371612284,0.107993703657704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164893388878365,0.0,0.05478710083913792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772109830472667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007014195532794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141816417654654,0.0,0.05238949732197271,0.0,0.0720767285205892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711071400257566,0.0,0.0,0.11484301711641134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962846039711298,0.0,0.0,0.06779946427251514,0.0,0.13001739043642635,0.0,0.05528479599129146,0.06269945108891531,0.17691584479575928,0.06418560296469375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03428195316454247,0.1888361986013792,0.0372914127418769,0.055036071479900715,0.0,0.14468501518363389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20955019848314554,0.0,0.06478278496869916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775595946416852,0.2199070415245835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20545997543722472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18030577299494527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709739545838016,0.0,0.12822778005333366,0.06576504806770457,0.0,0.0,0.055101398572326064,0.0,0.0,0.05578486714206684,0.05922152242298896,0.0,0.0,0.06652490996733736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823573390339495,0.048653860288010345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889269812482832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571888672237204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720272970610517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835860691577155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563433359838695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603619808209363,0.0,0.1565428066333898,0.0,0.06640747884451421,0.10457583263870417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489647228731353,0.0,0.13933125240132654,0.0,0.1048029660189853,0.05485839633802017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446091378464875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06041092807148521,0.07503827413597873,0.0,0.0435927379984332,0.08408890589106469,0.0,0.0,0.11478466085625498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890986969522226,0.0,0.0,0.13661834112668156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05414054780101616,0.2322141424548128,0.15625015344034698,0.0,0.0,0.11799436559199428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776964941521344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gengar36,2020/02/08,"Brayeth for a boy name. So, we are pronouncing it Bray-Ith. I love the name, but my wife thinks its a girl name. What do you guys think?",-1.2387931034482729,0.7990471034482773,-0.14870689655172242,109.04176724137932,95.20689655172414,4.279310344827587,14.14655172413793,5.985473137389443,-1.2583172413793102,102,2,28,1,4,31,26,29,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5340682094873332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4868089641222768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6912222363792921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Darren_889,2020/02/08,"Sick of holding my 5 month old constantly Hi, I am a dad of 3 girls ages 4,2 and 5 months. And I am so exhausted with my 5 month old, she seriously must be held always or she goes into full on crying fit mode, with 2 other girls there just are times when I need to put her down and she will just scream until I come back and grab her. I just dont know what to do, she has toys, her play mat, chairs, bouncers and other things but she just wants mom and dad. I dont recall the other kids being this bad. If I could I would wave a magic wand and make her a 2yr old and just be done with baby years. Any ideas how to just get 5 min would  be appreciated 
Thanks",3.1147241647241657,3.0604504335664373,4.3870862470862475,91.9091763791764,72.63636363636363,7.474436674436674,20.084693084693086,6.937597516519254,-0.014181973581973484,504,6,126,4,9,167,92,143,0.10800000000000001,0.809,0.083,-0.3523,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,4,0,17,2,0,2,1,34,25,15,0,7,9,3,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,3,6,13,0,2,2,2,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,2,19,2,12,14,1,21,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,14,81,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494647255464925,0.0,0.0,0.11028773303220744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470615101492652,0.13541324535612256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970342033759922,0.0,0.1752586016166555,0.0,0.12948726518261672,0.0,0.17814674575101608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659661040511493,0.3801467171775828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473218082459748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18308110030282224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891297020785159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825618519780976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899428625986432,0.3883507820354712,0.0,0.0,0.12025416603165748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5105408280590568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303535684268325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493132452683331,0.0,0.0,0.10774496251698153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456826640808946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565776787411268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304155605685623,0.0,0.0,0.10443838647427164
parenting,idontknohowbutididit,2020/02/08,"first video games my son loves the idea of video games and loves watching me play them. he adores Spyro and Pokemon and even tried to play Fortnite earlier. but he’s really bad at them... as expected tbf, he’s barely 4 years old. any video game fans on here that have any idea what games might be a good starting point for him to get used to how controls work? games that are interesting but don’t require you to be pressing three buttons and controlling the camera at the same time?",4.525136778115503,6.015704765957447,4.2088449848024325,88.80500000000002,70.48936170212765,7.499088145896658,26.19452887537993,7.957251820313856,1.3418528875379931,384,12,78,5,7,116,69,94,0.05,0.78,0.17,0.858,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,5,3,8,0,0,4,0,6,2,0,4,0,16,11,8,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,3,2,10,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,6,7,10,8,1,9,0,0,1,2,15,4,0,1,5,41,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27425044805880033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836479539010776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523230686293196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331843384221504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151877041132496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053509665909942,0.0,0.0,0.16912990050332133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4552643563222418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639841989344477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139130258610432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21159205863601985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061929835717464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917867658779264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272506631852366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758057184378153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690342847243656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415616807005738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679965040063148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985249355312578
parenting,crazy_animal_lady,2020/02/08,2nd grader wants to see movie with boy from her class? This boy has a crush on her and calls her his “girlfriend”. Basically it just means that they’re friends of course. His parents have asked me if she can see a movie with him. I told them I’m not comfortable with them picking her up and taking her because she’s just too young. Would it be okay if I explained to her she’s too young for a “boyfriend” to like pick her up and take her out. Maybe meet them there and us all watching it together so it doesn’t seem like a romantic “date?”,2.6007207207207235,4.101283846846851,2.8272072072072088,96.75990990990992,75.39639639639641,6.374774774774775,23.144144144144143,6.937597516519254,0.3701063063063064,421,12,99,4,9,128,74,111,0.039,0.843,0.11800000000000001,0.8298,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,3,0,6,5,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,2,1,21,17,7,0,4,5,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,21,5,13,14,1,7,0,0,3,0,28,4,0,3,5,64,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329082684899821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187082326124549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543954264086203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19248164020630845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434302581129726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25029031808189256,0.2713818370474073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27663573518942663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970578282027578,0.2268038037149253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746381140680027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23805985810201286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299679597354782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694670325922113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697886830128845,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Terok42,2020/02/08,My 7 year old just found out that her vagina feels good when a shower head touches it. We chose to ignore it. Did we make the right decision? We are ignoring it because we didn't want to put emphasis on it what so ever. We don't want her having sexual trouble as an adult. Has anything new experienced this? How did you deal with it (if at all)?,0.7860915492957758,3.0597851267605627,2.9951936619718325,89.39588908450705,85.05633802816901,6.366901408450705,20.142605633802816,7.645422480735847,0.8077732394366199,268,8,57,5,8,91,57,71,0.146,0.816,0.039,-0.7170000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,5,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,0,7,2,2,2,2,20,12,5,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,7,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,3,9,1,7,8,1,10,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,1,5,41,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358888335827115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473940737964475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29552394878757715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592916742996532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493904195936858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31429733951519656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042873365131384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941859823283017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913413505017309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27684871741194395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007913476986511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28816279920458315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447978531395035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381476348454244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18459344263512006
parenting,throwaway358692,2020/02/08,"I had my 14 year old son circumcised. When my son was born, he was not circumcised because my husband was strongly opposed to it. I very much wanted him to be circumcised, but I decided not to fight my then husband about it because I didn't want to cause any issues between us.

I divorced my husband about two months ago and got full custody of my son. Now that I can have the procedure done without having to fight his father about it, I decided to have my son circumcised.

My son heavily protested this decision. But since I as the parent have the right to make medical decisions for him because he is still a minor, I had it done anyway. He had his circumcision at the urologist about a week ago, and he is still very resentful and bitter towards me about it.",7.010067567567567,6.556303520270269,7.49121621621622,74.30479729729731,64.47297297297297,11.183783783783785,37.41891891891892,10.686352973137794,4.027794594594595,603,28,112,14,8,199,82,148,0.08,0.872,0.048,-0.6874,1,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,10,6,5,0,6,0,17,1,0,2,0,17,21,8,0,2,5,10,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,10,1,23,1,19,10,2,16,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,0,12,88,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165697364679157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142861229748693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32655009869224105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343285838156914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654628334316395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281273045873571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863728413200315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191918446392485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988291691725064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252687115389884,0.0,0.13126397141246718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873712895289901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827250705141372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249138569846835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770873198954615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852004607830713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744296007372206,0.0,0.21478868244915697,0.0,0.0,0.2946654997741295,0.21064155893088332,0.0,0.14323205395242086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212786257165993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498838530352193
parenting,yudiudyan,2020/02/08,They grow up so fast! My little brother told me tonight that he doesn’t wants me to tell him stories about aliens invading the moon anymore. And I’ve never been more heartbroken. He’s growing up so fast. UGH WHAAAAII HSUDJSJRBROFODHEJWIRNFJDKS!!!!,4.7769767441860465,8.106958790697675,4.2291162790697685,80.05948837209301,77.37209302325581,6.2306976744186064,29.53023255813953,7.554174236665415,2.041989767441861,200,9,34,3,5,60,38,43,0.08,0.777,0.14300000000000002,0.455,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,4,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,4,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620047715076568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669109039935885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592974874922934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071793813971051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451461414228544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747744137637054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,comosedicestfu,2020/02/08,"Activity suggestions for high-energy 4 yr old Our 4 yr old is very high-energy.  He requires a very structured environment with lots of outlets.  He was recently removed from his preschool because the teacher couldn’t help him be successful.  (That’s too long of a story). We’re looking for more recreational activities for him and thought maybe karate or Taekwondo would be helpful.   

Anyone have advice on the best type of class for him? I have no experience in that area but feel like he needs more than standard soccer or baseball.  

Thanks!",4.54216494845361,7.517364917525775,4.8589793814433015,77.5029020618557,75.08247422680412,8.416082474226803,31.349484536082482,9.120678840339163,3.3218915463917518,435,21,72,11,10,137,75,97,0.016,0.818,0.165,0.9266,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,13,13,4,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,6,4,12,7,4,8,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,3,5,42,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545387650894214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985623579542067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219282440923302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099050493245732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565458483958545,0.0,0.0,0.10113438720857763,0.14289187699545233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268133780321178,0.4226569740445351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977179924797033,0.0,0.0,0.17700836957991548,0.16796354266048014,0.0,0.0,0.1700469344662266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094352780678865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830975165459018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197674859155363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974922318976889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414838383776008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879081387029373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300692340250289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208603199776249,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Julz513,2020/02/08,"My children (F/7 & F/5) never listen to me & always question me. Why!?! Whenever I give any directions of any kind, like ""Put that away"", ""Turn off the TV"", ""Get in the car"", my children ignore me. For example, I just asked my daughter (F/5) to put the new pants back in the bag. She said ""Why?"" while swinging them around. I'm so frustrated.",0.9640909090909098,3.419553818181821,2.466893939393941,92.07034090909092,86.57575757575758,5.724242424242425,21.88636363636364,7.1686216300943375,0.8198545454545463,256,9,53,4,8,83,49,66,0.107,0.8109999999999999,0.081,-0.4423,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,10,2,9,6,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,5,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662018585076439,0.4328420844384864,0.0,0.2716636582423396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781327714831152,0.1867323837542714,0.0,0.18766476392759796,0.1535897432044556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435727338297636,0.19161131910485132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080011985289061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758415334513576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405382007986268,0.19291266430851786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015929990128122,0.2237574444418415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000096949890027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172626099115585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36047328798374695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,melroserose39,2020/02/08,"Partner's (M41) son (7) has bad table manners - how to approach with love and sensitivity? My (39F) partner shares custody of his son with the mother, so we have him a several days out of the week. 

We eat dinner together most of the nights he's here,  but his son's table manners are awful and they're starting to make me resent and dread dinnertime. 

He will chew with his mouth open, full of food. He also picks up food with his hands (nails full of dirt) and fists a fork. His long hair gets dragged through the plate and uses his shirt collar as a napkin. When I set the table everyone gets a napkin, but he doesn't use it and will also wipe his hands on the table cloth. He will also tip his glass while it rests on the table to drink out of it; I know one day it will spill everywhere. 

How do I approach my partner with concern and sensitivity? His son is a sweet child but table manners will be important in the future. I don't want to come off as critical, but its seriously bugging me and making me thank the stars for days I work late and miss dinner with them. 

For what it's worth, my partner has very good manners and I was raised in a strict, but fair, household.",5.259800242130751,5.240898309322039,5.784285714285716,83.61652542372885,68.02542372881356,8.437772397094433,28.297820823244553,7.957251820313856,1.600802421307506,915,27,191,10,14,296,130,236,0.08900000000000001,0.815,0.096,0.5812,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,1,1,8,10,1,1,15,1,15,13,5,7,0,37,28,25,0,1,5,5,3,0,4,5,0,0,0,5,7,22,7,0,1,1,1,3,2,5,0,1,1,4,25,5,29,21,4,26,0,1,0,1,30,11,0,1,11,120,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020500749158453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992545978613274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443585911631066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242330307491017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416830865430598,0.0,0.17148004852330145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013348740087602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052859539994221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751112209057986,0.0,0.0,0.14056132718645878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209966507440688,0.0,0.1890418079573455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830637541884284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125090810338795,0.0,0.22372695445942767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726602898815004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113559109242644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18932197526212155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861666497056245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428863285408642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28947716576176324,0.0,0.13827417271765036,0.09884525783795632,0.0,0.13442560314731278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200299077463073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TraditionalConflict6,2020/02/08,"Older parents: How do you come to terms with the reality that you may never be a grandparent? I have 2 kids. A 23 year old daughter and an 18 year old son. When my daughter was 8 she was diagnosed with cancer. She beat cancer at 14 and then struggled with anxiety and depression for a few years. She is in a good spot now. She graduated college and is working. She plans on going back for her master's degree next year. She has always said she didn't want kids and I figured she would change her mind. Last week she broke off a long term relationship because she told her (now ex) boyfriend that she never wants kids. Again, this was not new but I guess her boyfriend figured she would change her mind. My daughter decided she couldn't be in a relationship with someone who was clinging to the hope that she would change her mind. 

My daughter says her wanting to be childfree has nothing to do with me and I believe that. Her brother has significant disabilities and will live with us for the rest of his life so she says she can't take that chance. She said that she saw how much we had to give up to deal with her health issues and her brother's disabilities and she doesn't want to commit to that. She added that the current state of the world also makes her think it's wrong to bring kids into this world. I understand that she is young and can change her mind but I don't want to bank on that hope. 

I know this is her life and will support my daughter no matter what but I will admit that it hurts to know that I may not ever be a grandmother. I guess part of it is because I feel like my daughter's childhood was ruined by cancer. I just want to know how other parents have coped with this. Do you volunteer with children? Babysit for moms with young kids in your community?",3.3847459932005823,5.119418363380287,3.8427294803302594,89.31535211267605,73.8169014084507,6.6993686255463825,25.19912578921807,7.372421405659032,1.025589606605148,1409,46,293,16,29,441,167,355,0.121,0.8190000000000001,0.06,-0.9592,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,4,0,4,12,11,0,1,13,0,37,7,0,4,4,69,65,21,0,12,6,13,1,1,0,8,7,4,0,6,22,24,0,0,10,0,1,3,10,6,0,0,11,6,59,5,39,41,6,42,0,4,1,0,71,11,0,6,28,206,81,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054286894577308,0.0733992053928898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748171319202786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782935647609832,0.0,0.10754607373207194,0.0,0.0,0.09938438468941084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732651514730652,0.07598657341188413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094239491395956,0.07597661261111666,0.0895330241485864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979253775811787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044602488720108566,0.06301845996990678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846207057662517,0.050132745023630784,0.07398779332127048,0.0,0.0,0.19435027716780487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376491788473232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522825448449436,0.0,0.0,0.09443245507849804,0.0,0.0,0.09207010232670357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145436539072603,0.07190431336803184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461307252122986,0.04309578351761605,0.0,0.07789255198973673,0.07806458342670787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058881998335798665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562747045312766,0.1033124832451275,0.0,0.0,0.06484575324471584,0.0,0.13606861058152467,0.08519541476619093,0.09381414944272594,0.0,0.0,0.0846415104230351,0.0,0.18512669204197327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19589731941092275,0.09552468079028838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941271860072628,0.0,0.0,0.16781906424297385,0.14029897740009434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747414917354614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221802730838316,0.0,0.0,0.10010159794242404,0.0,0.0,0.06632422438557235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565224989937007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429006474813419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183149628391657,0.10610782038652228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121772960211611,0.0,0.07075810923126126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421917213428142,0.0,0.0,0.1879891938158009,0.09644565215951784,0.0,0.2272217845967835
parenting,Chuck-Dieazel,2020/02/08,"Pregnancy is like boot camp and women are drill sergeants I never understood the saying a mans work is never over until my wife became pregnant.

She has me running all over the place the minute I’m home from work. She asks me to do one thing and in the middle of doing it she asks me to do another, and that cycle doesn’t stop until it’s time for bed. Then when I wake up the process starts all over again. 

I still love her though..

I figure pregnancy is like boot camp for parents. It’s all designed to break you down and build you up for battle.

I guess you can’t really appreciate what you have if you never had to work for it.",3.0404615384615385,4.357144430769232,4.003076923076922,89.51692307692308,73.92307692307692,7.046153846153848,21.46153846153846,7.554174236665415,0.5976769230769237,496,11,107,6,10,160,81,130,0.037000000000000005,0.8690000000000001,0.094,0.8122,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,5,0,3,4,4,1,0,6,0,12,2,1,0,6,15,19,10,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,7,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,2,1,18,3,19,17,3,23,0,0,0,1,17,9,0,2,14,79,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517596167664748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658481220907066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155514155986004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19627191733268048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118793713954732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659887274981095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527358857953968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259034893870073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21726722043487015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443241362347356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535054398240558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556038078582996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849549457795352,0.0,0.1562614814897512,0.16358800918626845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299937603024662,0.0,0.1922437563854504,0.0,0.11409614211648572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273479924135958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,roviuser,2020/02/08,"My favorite jeans disappeared My favorite jeans disappeared. I was flipping the house apparent. All of my laundry folded and cleaned, my wife's all done. I went through the clean clothes hamper in my kids room. I went to my gym and checked the lost and found. Checked under all furniture. Gone. The last time I saw them was two weeks ago when my 19mo threw up all over me and the couch. My wife insisted she put away all clothes from that incident's laundry. 

Fine, whatever. I'm pissed. Cleaning the whole house because I'm irritated at how much stuff is everywhere. I put away the kids clean laundry, and go to wash his dirty clothes. But wait... Those are clean... Dump them out, there are my jeans. And everything else from that incident. 

I don't blame my wife, but god am I sick of so much STUFF being everywhere. Toys everywhere, clothes everywhere, trash everywhere, dog hair everywhere. I just feel like we aren't even very far into toddlerhood and it's already driving me crazy.",2.7787630402384518,5.671784901639349,2.7426154992548426,90.21499627421758,82.49726775956285,7.043119721808248,27.443864878291112,8.150884317080207,2.113614207650273,779,35,150,17,22,234,108,183,0.109,0.8029999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.6036,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,2,1,6,5,2,0,7,0,10,4,2,1,5,22,22,12,0,0,3,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,7,2,6,10,0,1,2,2,2,10,2,3,0,1,10,3,25,2,16,11,8,26,0,1,1,0,10,11,1,0,6,88,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450359311129994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805545973729392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074457003442689,0.0,0.0,0.09973894566865543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743622724443502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668037976641542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806698818121292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704773295662305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827292907079895,0.11688747969953026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793967699661594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298688382784416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775823634870224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333690790464887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993463381136554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786064615723171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24055353525338397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328959039115313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746029164245696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540594951567456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982929915447253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350005392285803,0.0,0.0,0.1312430843326816,0.0,0.0,0.3033478007310592,0.0,0.18267169693791285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CharleyXC,2020/02/08,"Designing around single parents Hiya all, thank you so much for you previous support for our uni project based around single parenting and helping you guys out in six different areas!

There is just a short five min survey from some of the team linked below, just to gain some better understanding around some things brought up in previous questions. Any help to fill this out would be greatly appreciated and hopefully you’ll see some of these ideas on the market in the next couple of years so please take the time to help us get these right if you can.

Many thanks in advance from the whole team! 


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parenting,DrinkinTheGoKu-laid,2020/02/08,"Watching the baby during night time Hi everyone,

I have a newborn (10 days old) & my wife and I have been struggling to find a formula that will be successful.

I currently go “on call” from 11-4 & my wife does 4-7/8ish. 

I’m looking for feedback if that’s a good method, or if you have recommendations that might have worked in the past in your experience.

For context: she wakes up at 2am to pump fresh milk, and then pumps at 6am. After her shift ends she sleeps for another couple of hours",5.178133333333335,5.237781079999999,5.896000000000001,82.47633333333336,68.2,9.466666666666667,29.66666666666667,9.2995712137729,2.2381666666666664,388,13,83,7,6,127,76,100,0.028999999999999998,0.877,0.094,0.7351,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,2,0,3,0,1,5,0,8,3,2,0,0,7,11,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,10,2,14,7,0,17,0,0,2,0,10,6,0,4,10,46,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4576766651829468,0.0,0.0,0.22146473191594845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21566184895051072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336920720566061,0.0,0.1362084449523532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184825144609357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870631453756925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20181349124064524,0.0,0.2065970338930259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303569070800308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003151651298224,0.17714703297445758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079923844292631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735730417087145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22405297781824246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981996825198566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162199159806328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016171354779605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113555008785348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207952040616024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231541517826229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537582794808587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xsvbbcc,2020/02/08,How do you teach kids to talk louder for people with hearing problems? It's a source of friction between my niece and mom that she always talks too quiet. I have trouble myself remembering to talk louder for certain people.,6.196260162601625,7.991664073170733,6.144878048780488,75.34869918699188,66.8048780487805,6.442276422764228,30.739837398373986,6.42735559955562,1.9429934959349588,181,7,27,1,3,57,36,41,0.127,0.8240000000000001,0.049,-0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,20,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228417773289588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093974111606095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32150766823091353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806271101397524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626729786663891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109710317108044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6619322539528989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AKKaleb,2020/02/08,"Baby Monitor for Twins with two camera, two monitors? I have searched the internet for such an item and have come up empty! I know was looking for a basic system not internet connected.",4.73901960784314,7.183199176470591,6.182941176470589,70.91990196078433,71.94117647058823,10.415686274509804,31.92156862745098,10.504223727775694,4.323756862745099,148,7,23,5,3,50,28,34,0.065,0.935,0.0,-0.2714,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,5,5,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,19,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651157098838632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329410000663825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35593355318838865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8280943874938199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kaynixx420,2020/02/08,Rules? Why? Who they apply to? I’m due with baby number 2 in April.  I honestly can’t even remember what we did the first time around but wanted to know what kind of rules you had set in place for hospital visits and home visits shortly after the hospital (and why you had those rules in place).  The baby will have a 6 year old sister who is so excited to meet him and not sure if the rules should apply to her at all.  I probably won’t get many visitors but my father will be visiting to help out around the house and to help with my daughters school and extracurriculars as my husband works a lot.,5.546824085005902,5.375219644628104,6.267131050767414,80.91809917355373,67.4297520661157,9.889492325855961,27.20306965761511,9.606745405546679,2.0922788665879577,471,12,98,9,7,155,82,121,0.02,0.8590000000000001,0.121,0.9104,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,1,2,4,4,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,0,2,22,15,10,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,11,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,3,0,11,4,19,7,2,21,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,2,7,67,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452771687223944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808876447442916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495653803169727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132028515286018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599740341216937,0.0,0.1945273415872757,0.0,0.0,0.22376888280298832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019479818119064,0.10657871356903796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487213021148958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661431818973574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034966399531344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40523060554851065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090890602310718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196845914184687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626725060017475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827764851702864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308199111166675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143847853763446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499828535617941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118316063180414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488439451809764
parenting,relapzed,2020/02/08,"If you do your child wrong, they will remember and it will manifest in their personality and behavior I guess I hadn't really thought about it until now but one thing previous generations suffer from is a lack of information. So here it is... your child is DESIGNED to interpret your messages. So if you talk to your child like you would say an enemy, or someone you would insult imagine what message you are sending to your child. And yet somehow, parents think because I'm mommy or daddy, surely my little kid isn't smart enough or developed enough to understand, wrong. They do understand HOWEVER the information they obtain isn't a logical realization like say an adult would have, no they are just sitting there blank staring while their subconscious is like ""hold on... did my own mother just talk to me like I'm garbage?"" And then as the child gets older, their subconscious is still completely aware of what this person has done in the past. They will likely be unaware of these feelings or not yet able to understand them. Now this can be applied exponentially especially when you have repeat abusers. 

I've seen this play out before but I guess what I realized is... this really starts as soon as the mind is capable of making memories that we can utilize. So if you are some demented human and accidentally raged at your child like a psychopath, they are going to subconsciously remember that and their overall trust level will go down. Just like any other relationship you can permanently damage your trust with your child by being a degenerate. Imagine that one stupid person who thinks its acceptable to talk trash to your baby because ""their brains haven't developed enough to able to remember."" Your parents are supposed to be your safe zone where you can develop yourself in an environment suited for growth. If you attack your child, the child's brain is going to work to keep the child alive and adapt to it's situation by going ""oh, so you are willing to do that? Alright.""

I honestly don't feel like you should be able to have children unless you have a legitimate understanding of how child development works. Some people are seriously just sacrificing their child at the alter of ineptitude. At least know what's at stake when you bring life into the world, as if that is something small.

It's so sad to think we are almost a whole world of children being raised by crazy people and the cycle just continues. A person gets messed up as a child and then has children so they can mess them up too. I'm pretty sure that's not how this is supposed to work.",6.525363924050634,7.854763316455699,6.592360232067512,74.18132515822788,65.62447257383964,9.975632911392406,31.057225738396625,10.125756701596842,3.1845402953586497,2068,77,360,48,32,659,226,474,0.134,0.743,0.12300000000000001,-0.7911,3,0,1,0,1,0,47.0,2,26,15,4,27,30,4,0,20,1,54,3,2,3,2,75,81,40,0,10,19,3,2,8,0,9,1,2,0,23,25,14,0,3,22,1,0,7,8,12,0,2,5,6,51,18,53,61,9,44,0,3,2,0,82,19,0,15,25,266,76,3,0.24148612899469554,0.09537385825155943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060449186304199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547396162095353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915751112669878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813846856130186,0.0,0.06849563649355317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971892281062635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439787059502281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237471738492108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495197245627941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140176177735886,0.05750591293500686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411102361820985,0.0,0.18298950954361604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734946431638055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154798902262755,0.0,0.0,0.0442381536958728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056856264834078116,0.3146077991767336,0.08067751397835549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053731288758160765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127738344250429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909150047796408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876117886132492,0.0,0.07684194495016325,0.1116107172704333,0.2811418310452751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189273633936438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313479855982384,0.0,0.0,0.08642190962646297,0.2735567092435387,0.0,0.0,0.1280263082133877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048017562073864,0.0,0.0,0.06820347114836572,0.061969273348312384,0.0,0.0,0.056975041674910076,0.0,0.06428371151850447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517318791377026,0.0,0.0,0.194097403153948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347755126100887,0.15473456067728025,0.0,0.06390433738647444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351941023323058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898702130185787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580477799405364,0.0,0.0,0.17154481746231046,0.17601811528538353,0.0,0.0
parenting,puns_within_puns,2020/02/08,"Thinking about having my two kids share a room I have two girls, 3 years old and just turned one year old. The one year old has been in the master bedroom in a pack n play for the past year. I'd like to move her out, but that would mean moving her in with the three year old, which I'm nervous about. They get along great, but what about bedtimes? What about night wakings? Last night the three year old woke up in the middle of the night and called for me, which woke the baby up, so I had to deal with an upset three year old and then a screaming baby at 3am (my husband is away for work, and is often away for work). 

Currently, the three year old plays a little bit in her room before she goes to sleep, and sometimes also plays in the morning a bit before coming out. I'm pretty sure this would wake the baby...

For naps, I could have the baby nap in the pack and play in my room (the three year old does quiet time in her room, but she would definitely wake up the baby if they were in the same room).

I'd really like my room back. The baby is sleeping light enough now that me getting up and using the bathroom in the morning is waking her up. But I'm nervous that it will be a disaster and the kids will just ping pong off each other and work each other up. 

Has anyone else done it? Tips?",4.46938888888889,4.244878855555555,4.845324074074076,90.38020833333336,69.7037037037037,7.342592592592593,23.171296296296298,5.985473137389443,0.2884629629629627,1001,17,228,4,16,317,126,270,0.062,0.821,0.11699999999999999,0.9332,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,2,4,11,13,0,3,27,0,20,6,6,1,1,34,32,17,0,5,7,1,0,2,0,5,0,2,7,3,12,17,0,0,2,6,0,3,0,4,0,9,6,3,18,9,39,19,6,61,0,0,0,0,16,31,0,2,29,151,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142015537307013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053703163847709665,0.07869480543893675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431982961494852,0.059057558558042636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070914599534925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677002182839292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842550225748267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615987150753352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06132176868427173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918158290256487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721172458800047,0.07859718890271712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415991213247499,0.0,0.0,0.0793590944285122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025387184310367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467671467282803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626055356843134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504513947712863,0.07697781561699353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836621049932525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326105904749574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622613908582852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6447432807225983,0.0,0.1040887974241104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331813758678496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813731047778567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920262856242587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371899473128076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596114995283261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238688972627227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0492129214780868,0.0,0.0,0.044785047775709436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835407302572586,0.15005275530359255,0.0,0.0,0.06633402257827595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774274661764432,0.0,0.0,0.1636781387711981,0.0,0.0,0.44513349720465495
parenting,sdemat,2020/02/08,"Wife comparing nephew with our son I am back again with a rant/ vent. This happened last night and is one of those things that makes me upset - probably more than it needs to be. I've posted here before about various issues and they kind of all tie together. 

I have a 5 year old son and 3 year old daughter. Life is stressful, depressing, and extremely busy. Finding time to have one on one with either kid is unbelievably hard. I work from 4:30 AM to 3:30 Monday thru Friday. Wife works Thursday thru Sunday from 11 AM to 7 PM. We barely have time for each other. My son, whom this is mainly about, loves animals and sciences and I'll be damned if he's not incredibly smart. He's an absolute shit head - definitely my personality, but the way he talks and carries himself is not something a five year old would typically do. 

That being said, my wife came home last night to tell me that her Nephew, who was born three weeks before my son, is now doing addition and can spell out and sound out words. She was raving about how he makes up Pokemon names and tries to spell them out; etc. She never out right compared him to our son, but I couldn't help but get upset. I felt like she was trying to compare our kids. I said this to her and her comment was along the lines of ""you're the only one comparing. You should be happy for """"nephew"""" that he's learning this stuff. 

I'm not happy. Not one bit. I know this is petty and mean and I am an asshole for this, but I don't like him. I think it's because he is, by and large, an extension of my sister in law and her piece of shit lazy husband. Her husband sits on his ass every single day and plays on his computer, barely interacting with his kid. To an extend, so does my sister in law. She's lazy and only thinks of herself. Except when she actually spends what little time she has with the kid - she focuses on the spelling and math. Which, I guess it's good but it's almost like a band aid fix for always dumping the kid off at her parents, because ""Daddy and mommy need a break"". 

I don't know. Maybe I am just a complete asshole (which admittedly I am) - and I should be happy. But I can't help but think my wife (and her sister) are comparing my son to her nephew. My wife and I are constantly running on empty. We're constantly encountering problems on a week to week basis between car troubles; school; weather; work - and cleaning the house and making sure our kids are taken care of. One of us is always with them - and yet, these comments make me feel like we're pieces of crap because my kid can't spell or do math. 

I'm sorry for the rant",3.7267591093117436,4.900623080769236,4.632995951417005,86.21937246963564,72.03846153846153,7.3967611336032375,24.838056680161944,7.7627490962704995,1.1550769230769231,2022,58,419,25,38,656,256,520,0.11199999999999999,0.8009999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.7968,1,0,1,0,0,0,73.0,6,1,3,3,12,25,5,3,19,0,43,7,5,5,3,88,69,37,0,8,16,22,3,4,0,3,1,3,2,8,24,40,0,0,11,2,1,3,10,11,0,8,9,6,62,14,59,51,11,53,0,1,0,2,83,17,5,4,33,273,86,8,0.0,0.0,0.07960921781871676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168946307835333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576032462659582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272912223720227,0.0,0.14918918199483924,0.0,0.13883523458905292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906300691044647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330450449137373,0.08317510388873098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553390232368575,0.17631557312063026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052611627976822124,0.0,0.07026376877585032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139022659242132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098201427004596,0.0,0.0,0.06873372386121468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04124873229474083,0.05827996731836176,0.07832851692914901,0.0,0.07456161730156291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04262159713144148,0.0,0.0,0.06842449305775579,0.0,0.0,0.08986833228757947,0.0,0.07213993310867764,0.26052670032231023,0.07307865168427778,0.0,0.0837234651608038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093612057077561,0.0,0.08183026697639646,0.0,0.0,0.09413107315077944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514715461407432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495184857907763,0.0896672366382222,0.13299534882760594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057621574673880925,0.15942127790271174,0.08176346810282442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362812317338836,0.0,0.2178181402902508,0.0,0.08195694870596927,0.08886331468622301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209794099030409,0.06291866051259425,0.0,0.0,0.15311250290694692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25680993078333203,0.0,0.33167975733655924,0.12408882683219995,0.0,0.0,0.09058369070328884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123153032828666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813001541003656,0.0,0.08795582914433671,0.07805996954793312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966791675985665,0.15520039023722648,0.0,0.0,0.08256218063891002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747909354622426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06280340648733049,0.0,0.0913208758607654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344833004460908,0.0,0.0933882986557142,0.0,0.0,0.07688712782712619,0.0,0.0,0.06557001263027089,0.07130353581000788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05419738215929326,0.15681735458204113,0.0,0.0,0.14270790081308762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077340746039456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981293466597271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475351681098092,0.19631296744523147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781711861088997,0.0,0.0,0.05795129489053352,0.0,0.0,0.15760236984501122
parenting,yazshousefortea,2020/02/08,"Difficult birthday party! I’m a close friend of the family and it’s the 8 year old’s birthday party today. It’s a small affair. Just a couple of kids round to bake cookies together. 

However there has been some troubles at school lately. The girls in the class (in general, not just these ones) have been mean and teasing each other. The parents and teachers have been dealing with it as best as they can. The birthday girl will have an assessment for autism in a few months’ time - but is dealing with everything as best she can. 

There was a misunderstanding with the sweets used to decorate the cookies. Now the birthday girl is sat crying and screaming in a corner that she hates her friends and does not want them here! Why are trying (with quiet space, talking about feelings, etc) but can’t calm her down. Yikes! 

So we are now having a birthday party without the birthday girl! 😂

The other lovely girls are quite shocked by it all, but the mum is doing a great job at keeping them entertained and answering their questions about what’s happening and why. 

Nothing is the end of the world here, but it sure is a long and trying day! 

I would love to hear from others about difficult/disastrous birthday party stories! What happened? How did you deal with the situation? 

Thank you. :)",4.342024307631,6.668799719665272,4.400872683801556,83.78124128312412,72.72384937238493,7.062841203426977,28.117354054592546,7.957251820313856,1.9365981669655312,1019,40,181,15,21,315,143,239,0.087,0.6859999999999999,0.22699999999999998,0.9927,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,2,4,3,13,18,2,0,25,0,24,3,0,2,2,38,38,17,0,2,9,2,2,0,2,2,0,3,1,6,12,16,1,1,4,1,0,0,4,6,0,1,6,6,12,12,28,30,7,23,0,0,1,2,31,12,0,2,11,133,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720907203136728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434401647873677,0.14239945238911214,0.08360472658509405,0.4009481794252899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344565079295252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148193353852123,0.0,0.14457880737998352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650879988111933,0.0,0.1222096213085665,0.0,0.06554803791669041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031345776310244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292454273347352,0.0,0.0,0.2292740071101776,0.0,0.0,0.12798906516892164,0.0,0.0,0.14610959753995512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864408244057687,0.11522675172916395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623545877707753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472409771828612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340037494979861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121199843996166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034745044291089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438958214530647,0.0,0.1360315509018663,0.0,0.08784495143085648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394583451501536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452223900223488,0.13788422435617656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119891560143568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457166983318678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221807335582155,0.0,0.0,0.10419679430087243,0.0,0.11935174157134755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559200305977412,0.0,0.12288010973088614,0.0,0.0,0.17602915552633128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196419087943534,0.0,0.0,0.0764628829149452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339532995239429,0.0,0.0,0.12496482336171072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920899495204684,0.0,0.0,0.08348156448012982
parenting,STELLAWASADlVER,2020/02/08,"My daughter still ends up in our bed every night. She just turned two. So, my toddler will let me lay her down every night just fine but she wakes up around two in the morning and will be inconsolable unless we bring her into our bed.

We won’t let her cry it out but we do try to get her to self soothe. We do this by waiting five minutes before going into check on her. We then try to lay her down again, if she still refuses to, we give  her another five minutes, etc.

We were doing this for a while but there will be nights where we were spending hours trying to get her to go down before we finally gave up. It’s exhausting for us abd it's hard listening to her cry to the point that she gets horse and loses her voice.

Obviously I would love for her to sleep through the night in her crib but I’m not really sure how to move forward.",2.9027120879120893,3.9751269371428566,3.887428571428572,91.1681098901099,73.91428571428571,7.213186813186812,22.60439560439561,7.61054688173877,0.6806835164835165,654,16,148,8,13,211,103,175,0.1,0.845,0.055,-0.8135,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,12,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,4,0,14,4,2,1,2,30,27,12,0,2,9,1,1,0,0,5,1,2,2,1,6,15,0,2,0,0,2,5,2,2,0,4,3,3,32,3,30,15,1,33,0,1,0,1,35,17,0,1,13,110,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368282960978395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349181232717387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169666818417481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800803066063264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291698851183128,0.0,0.14218340035856392,0.0,0.0,0.21482915401031213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965744255192553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982247010515988,0.12229860568551205,0.14490932827985362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420467301646232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555051202618833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607312995220197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262704407132273,0.0,0.0,0.11506336718089287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550012122627295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785573604933383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051785974690547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167241072374079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299833103166508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758059112436493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20362499421338784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015642174965048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596690104366435,0.13867090098805215,0.2490755193258675,0.0,0.15335299284133155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056418709594,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,badnewparent,2020/02/08,"Vacation with 1.5 yr old, somewhere sunny, resort Hello guys, my wife and I are thinking about our first vacation with our son, and since you guys have probably all done that at some point I thought I'd ask about recommendations.

We are on the US east coast, don't mind flying a bit (not too far), and are looking for somewhere warm, maybe with pool or beach. Ideally of course something with daycare where we can drop the little one for a few hours every now and then; and something that offers activities and trips for adults

I've done a fair bit of googling, but it's hard to distinguish ads from real suggestions. 

Do you have any recommendations? Concrete hotels/towns are also welcome (DM since I think it probably breaks the rules otherwise). 

Thanks in advance for all your help!!",10.987540229885056,8.359630800000001,9.459827586206902,70.2837643678161,58.24137931034483,12.701149425287356,40.0287356321839,10.864195022040775,4.120011494252874,626,23,114,11,6,192,104,145,0.021,0.85,0.128,0.9406,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,5,3,0,3,6,4,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,2,25,17,10,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,12,0,0,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,3,12,4,17,14,6,17,1,0,1,0,19,8,0,2,5,70,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593814687784882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709303135132657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472242342394212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34385869904439964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32231713710566084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268521739423833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395394747404565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118635030959286,0.0,0.0,0.14107276953573838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555673793499892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508786094603422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783814597381265,0.0,0.0,0.13224505792600408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582116455377484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901173548318887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525066871971422,0.0,0.10671375038627666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887121344469742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395840543914497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924877738772427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605411618650038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424743830174576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498809266503115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018159705311581,0.0,0.12502296656627504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18943122768367304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Koevis,2020/02/08,"I feel like an awful parent, my son spent 45 minutes alone, confused and scared My 4yo son is on the spectrum, but normally he functions well. He also follows swimming lessons. Normally, I help him change, put him in line, and go drink something in the cafeteria (can't see the pool from there). After 45 minutes, I go wait in the dressing room and he comes with all the other kids. This time things went wrong.


For some unknown reason, he walked with the kids from the earlier lesson to the dressing room, immediately after going in line for the pool. He spent 45 minutes in the dressing room, alone, wet from the shower, naked (he undressed himself), and scared. I only saw him when I went to the dressing room after his normal lesson...


I didn't understand what happened at first, I assumed maybe he had hurt himself during the lesson. I hugged him, comforted him, he was crying quietly and kept saying ""you weren't here"". Finally he said he didn't even go into the pool in the first place... I took him to one of the teachers, who told me they unfortunately don't have enough people to check the dressing rooms. She agreed to let him follow along with the next hour (now), agreed to keep an eye on him for every lesson from now on, and agreed to let me stay in sight during the entire lesson from now on. 


I'm watching him swim right now. He's having fun, although he regularly checks to see if I'm still here. I'm mostly writing this so I don't get a panic attack, he needs me to be calm and reassuring now.


We will talk about going to an adult if anything like this ever happens again. We will go pick up ice-cream after his lesson as a reward for being brave enough to go into the pool after being so upset, and he's chosen pancakes for dinner. I need some advice on how to handle this situation once he gets out of the pool. How do I acknowledge what happened, without making too big a deal out of it and making it worse? Is there anything else I can do to prevent this from happening again? What do I do with separation anxiety (should it happen)? How do I help him get over this, and get over it myself? Please help",5.095185185185186,5.793644433734944,5.64492637215529,81.96756804997769,68.51807228915663,7.786702365015619,27.177599286033026,7.662118739084242,1.5054078536367697,1660,49,319,17,27,536,205,415,0.08800000000000001,0.767,0.145,0.9803,2,2,2,0,0,0,62.0,2,1,1,10,24,18,1,5,27,1,26,5,1,7,2,61,67,22,0,8,4,3,2,2,0,3,0,3,6,3,16,22,3,4,12,8,4,17,7,8,1,3,14,11,40,10,60,45,6,67,0,1,6,1,51,28,0,7,23,215,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634240726189935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830244648762041,0.0,0.07065985435848418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759362210906228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454221978168132,0.0,0.0,0.10051997178619444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347103978879463,0.07611258644174722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705710534877222,0.0,0.09109321006736826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655719401783475,0.0,0.0,0.07381176454857302,0.0,0.0,0.18259485083616356,0.0,0.05835962045713524,0.07992486244380757,0.07444541919212362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04467645566572394,0.06312296721008814,0.0,0.09679186143961588,0.0,0.1503145258829424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465361611978295,0.0,0.35151118184301217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906734030307461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17767349879170558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701482385511505,0.0,0.09458905800514074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853664318184825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807040667161234,0.0,0.08633450360972249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795929167389906,0.0,0.08876747918449583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103266312229853,0.0,0.0,0.09396972699655544,0.0,0.2597162162360793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409837789223274,0.05987366216890249,0.06720023455469093,0.0,0.1036690659349318,0.09811109376224678,0.0,0.0,0.06125630641251153,0.0,0.09231529570318918,0.096990541917352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882418670038897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084673188028876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545724247244136,0.08404868426248041,0.0702658217470254,0.17692352853433801,0.0,0.14081975990975942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931808517370896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802229909852044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417786317230188,0.07056280662671023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710188071076976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058701123805123136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051522255748914496,0.0,0.0,0.0844298479488938,0.09816898033383477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198378588672408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944444626501282,0.16381748779271488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851739513208664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004434258304514,0.0,0.09660559368997566,0.0,0.0
parenting,VioletDawn9,2020/02/08,"Unpredictable Kids Favourite TV, anyone else? My daughter is just about four and she's so into her cooking that this morning when we went out I had to record Saturday Kitchen for her! Does anyone else have children who like really random programmes?",5.800227272727272,8.636937659090915,4.522727272727273,82.22909090909094,70.13636363636364,7.127272727272729,31.45454545454545,8.07648339933343,2.558290909090909,203,9,32,3,4,59,41,44,0.0,0.929,0.071,0.4857,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,6,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,6,1,5,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,3,22,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174811888302263,0.6117628567020046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612474635935708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987705467086904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584771082429426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19124731574534265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767422593353929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommyof4boyss,2020/02/08,CAN YOU JOKE ABOUT RAPE?!?! I have a son he is 3 years old. I am married and I have a brother in law that is a little on the “shy” and doesn’t talk much side. He is my husbands brother.  About 2 years ago when we went to visit him he said something in my opinion extremely inappropriate. As a “hello” he hugged my son and proceeded to say “hey (my sons name) I’m gonna rape you I’m gonna take your manhood.” In a “joking” way. No one said anything and I didn’t either. I was very disturbed. A reason why I didn’t say anything is because my husband can be very defensive towards his family. He defends them so much god forbid I start anything. I kept quiet for a while. (I suffer from bad anxiety) and never wanted to mention it since I feel like this will mess our marriage up. I finally told him hold it hurt me we talked about it. (I cried so much in front of him) he acted like he understood and we never said anything about it again. (This was about a month ago) now he’s always wanting to hang out with him on Saturdays for “brother time” I am obviously so disturbed and angry with him. We have been fighting about this and he says I’m ridiculous because I said I would put a restraining order on him. I’m soooo over this!!! Someone please help!!!!! I need advice!!! My SO DOESNT CARE!!!,0.5571804974144285,2.8712841984732838,2.5687244521053927,91.69936099482894,86.78625954198473,5.060034474267422,21.810391529180002,6.532088108194933,0.487117311007141,988,35,208,11,31,330,146,262,0.191,0.742,0.068,-0.9887,0,0,1,0,2,0,42.0,5,3,1,0,13,18,5,2,10,0,21,3,0,1,3,34,42,15,0,4,1,8,1,2,0,4,0,8,0,0,9,15,0,5,3,2,0,6,7,12,0,1,13,9,39,6,28,24,4,38,0,2,0,3,51,13,0,1,19,131,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121195799282656,0.20341469466775086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547029998396292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777342162478961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776748007965506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580052676601504,0.1398851100136421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698192592416372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603310732059825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081637468373432,0.0,0.058014428839478716,0.0819680709845555,0.0,0.12568867592684602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690573180525515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228282345334442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121093166730464,0.11499652566353125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158190641087556,0.0,0.25303449057060634,0.08507596447705801,0.1769843556355119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039708556571108,0.0,0.07774869920851178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594667164888035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534228447105233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179686522449836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.436564301222168,0.27373018661713794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491155709528584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972162109799163,0.0883300783767513,0.0,0.0,0.08121137500477943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626787666706326,0.18444236320094504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06690401454760049,0.0,0.0,0.10963603385209893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933993291474846,0.1353496037629209,0.09107281810005123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063622644925254,0.10353221452824787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150580845877671,0.0,0.0,0.14777361568309108
parenting,Zil_of_Green_Gables,2020/02/08,"Do any of your young kids try to gaslight? What are some tips for working through that? Background: My son is 5. He’s a newly minted middle child. His younger sister is under 1 and his brother is two years older. I myself am a middle child so I’ve put effort in to make sure he feels loved, not replaced, ect.  Even before the birth of his sister, he would lie. We’d do the time out and then I’d ask him to tell the truth. He got better. For reference, my older child rarely lies. 

But now he’s outright lying about things I was a witness to, even when he’s knows I witnessed them.  I would like to squash this gaslighting in its infancy. I talk to him and give time outs. What other tips might you have?",0.5986274509803913,2.9190236666666682,1.7260294117647064,97.77485294117649,86.63888888888891,3.9437908496732033,17.498366013071895,5.0885558068054335,-0.7213565359477121,544,13,119,2,17,171,99,144,0.024,0.858,0.11800000000000001,0.9076,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,1,3,6,5,0,0,6,0,13,1,0,1,2,17,20,7,0,2,2,4,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,4,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,17,5,17,14,1,18,0,0,0,1,28,7,0,2,11,72,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676247071716126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21550640987181152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961567499664628,0.0,0.0,0.20387746312671007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045144480115556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655855649500985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211371516867063,0.0,0.0,0.18436903834269328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266885439383575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262112186959905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20805458197368956,0.0,0.15387483807530364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24454679793537776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23173769784033355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21726371051940807,0.0,0.0,0.1852843856371892,0.20148588198101805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314818853477966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26883778795673563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650891255709398,0.0,0.2251859315561048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782233947187206,0.0,0.0,0.3275116059902983,0.0,0.0,0.1484482367285529
parenting,imyourbossclifford,2020/02/08,"Beyond frustrated with chronic head lice I am a mom of two girls, 7 and 9, and since right before Christmas my girls have head lice that we can’t seem to entirely get rid of. This has been something we have dealt with three other times before this outbreak over 2016 and 2018 as well. 

A big part of the problem is they live with me and their stepdad during the week and go to their biological dad three weekends a month. His lifestyle isn’t the greatest. His apartment is filthy, he hangs out with filthy people and his family members are filthy. It always coincides with their visits to them. There isn’t much we can do in the way of actually proving it, however, and certainly not to the degree of reducing his time with them anymore, which could do more harm for them than the lice; he might make poor life choices but he’s still their father of course and they need him. And who knows, correlation isn’t always causation. They could be picking it up from school for all I know. 

Anyway, I’ve tried every method known to man over and over to get rid of this. It was this way in years past as well to the point that Invermectin (a medicine that poisons their blood to the lice essentially) was the only remedy. 

I’m frustrated with the lice and honestly frustrated with co-parenting with their biological dad who like I said in general is just a piece of work. I’m wondering if there’s anyone who can commiserate with me and has been through this.",6.7702553763440845,6.822678344086023,6.521019265232978,79.36819556451616,64.84229390681004,10.129121863799284,31.057571684587806,9.827888789773867,2.6840625448028663,1154,38,226,22,16,362,156,279,0.079,0.866,0.055,-0.84,2,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,12,1,8,11,4,0,15,0,25,6,3,2,3,46,37,16,0,5,4,4,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,3,17,26,0,0,6,1,1,3,5,6,2,3,5,1,26,5,42,28,6,26,0,0,0,0,35,13,0,4,9,156,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.14248026142713308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429764677286164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447981773930168,0.10209040813458907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24847977484957615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23314694867010735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301589204037852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376409477462869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256364697762373,0.0,0.0829782641254667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996874364690016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16048155813759055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312796995535113,0.0713308897355027,0.0,0.12892549070202342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974597742022732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488871349458164,0.0,0.1709998229327196,0.1165401602975229,0.0,0.10733080818970832,0.10826119400857223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104372691802368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810967840243315,0.13937872657053998,0.10122179790521114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802234703071214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397075008764712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468785983592932,0.13888462153307427,0.0,0.0,0.1477653141651694,0.0,0.13291788161251414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077722021146516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240213156227682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166001440552823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702739085806856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912811912102867,0.0,0.14262611299871036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23178466655869315,0.1171167681730306,0.0,0.2625528751399241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833668653515698,0.10629370932641752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402272530880007
parenting,mrpomodorolono,2020/02/08,"Your Teens Going to University/College? Dreaming of Making their life Better Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of university/college students a lot easier ;)

Which is why I have two very simple questions:

1. As a student, what are the 2 biggest issues you see them dealing with?

2. Regarding university life, what would you wish for them more than anything else?

Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!",4.574725568942436,7.698211746987956,5.0669076305220875,75.16119143239627,76.10843373493975,7.062382864792503,33.3186077643909,8.167268648758528,3.2179194109772418,377,20,56,7,9,120,68,83,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.9191,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,4,3,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,5,2,0,3,0,12,13,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,8,2,11,11,3,7,0,0,2,0,10,4,0,2,2,38,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356738112188705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865396573603576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840070375377364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174469942930684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619476064884454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015410001637913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19277505152620755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986944847189165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201433889456965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979549647334641,0.0,0.0,0.18624428490155068,0.0,0.1771178341408733,0.0,0.0,0.1793147742533271,0.0,0.0,0.2815785436088954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504885426729656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292336241436598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362762110032189,0.0,0.21097488109973955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807418196593898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418477598925046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319934373569124,0.0,0.206036046704887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402927719029762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903205117155541,0.0,0.2425450651975781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982995625416615,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anijapeters,2020/02/08,"How do I deal with my strict parents ? My Mom and Dad have been strict always but I’ve always been able to manage. But these past couple weeks have been unbearable. My parents don’t let me see my friends I’m 17 years old and I’ve never been to a sleepover, or a birthday party. My parents don’t let me leave the house the only time I’m away from them is if I have school which isn’t very often, I go to a public charter school so my school days are selected. A few weeks ago my Grandmother came in from out of town so my parents have been making me miss the very few days I have school so that I can spend time with her and it’s really making me feel smothered and trapped, I haven’t been out my house in 2 weeks. I want to go to school I miss my friends, being in this house is making me really depressed. My friends are what bring me joy and it feels like they’re taking them away from me. I’ve been trying to communicate with my Mom but she doesn’t listen. I won’t even talk to my Dad, he will only get angry he’s so abusive towards my Mom and I but that’s a different story. I don’t know what to do please help.",0.6719121715076071,2.5763539004149396,2.3295695020746905,96.24602783540804,82.60995850622406,5.178492392807746,18.34042185338866,6.21433560688645,-0.3256183955739971,874,20,204,7,24,286,112,241,0.11,0.7609999999999999,0.129,0.6976,5,2,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,0,7,9,1,0,8,0,30,0,0,4,1,28,49,17,0,2,6,9,2,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,9,12,0,0,3,0,1,4,8,4,0,0,8,4,36,5,23,36,2,25,0,3,1,0,23,9,0,3,13,128,45,6,0.08902872115722213,0.1054844764870908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891858962022479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815805588992415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729082834699904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182513948192566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850858660712658,0.0,0.11483231996814007,0.09178470227506844,0.07668030707765239,0.0,0.0,0.0930160648119195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05880263067447861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003119286171042,0.06360213618349911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206350107362335,0.0,0.04651383227969142,0.0,0.10119414780266704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059674075146786514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081815729715691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048927856845807166,0.0,0.0,0.0942685609729642,0.0,0.1820757985273256,0.0,0.043494936143011344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828208807538587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128080866439708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686644382030147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342066661163208,0.0,0.0,0.1354207084557794,0.0,0.0,0.3954234360251175,0.0,0.08498798815434616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977268010074298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406815696802018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45050909413844,0.0709443641749209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693851854917622,0.07155791371815537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382672651357304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060444657667013735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691603759331434,0.05251144639315694,0.0,0.2142404099479412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057331577503970624
parenting,xarvh,2020/02/08,"Suggestions for a musical toy for a 1 yo My son will be soon one year old, and I was thinking to get him a musical toy for his birthday.

If someone got a musical toy for their toddler and the toddler really liked it, I would really like to know about it!

Thanks!",3.1133333333333333,4.2203160740740735,5.189814814814816,81.8991666666667,73.44444444444444,9.844444444444443,30.16666666666667,10.125756701596842,3.0899777777777766,204,9,43,6,4,71,38,54,0.0,0.8240000000000001,0.17600000000000002,0.8545,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,9,3,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,6,3,7,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,5,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817130360742035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781703269036249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911437733746458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398385604039346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649613916995501,0.0,0.23568073373737375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4456238092232565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29469287805661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32021084385833043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228585156202151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470697122521034,0.0,0.0,0.2239741277073531
parenting,thewhalejoke060507,2020/02/08,"Should I keep the baby 
My boyfriend and me met four months ago and my entire family loves him and he really is the best guy I’ve ever met and treats me amazingly. But we moved in together and are 9weeks pregnant and I don’t want the baby but I know he is so excited,he wants it,his family wants it and my family but I feel like this all happened to fast and I’m only 19 and not ready...
I do love him and always wanted to be a mom but I’m from Texas and moved to Oklahoma (where him and his family are) to live with him but I feel totally alone here without my family or any friends...
I want to make him and everyone else happy but at the same time this baby has only brought me extreme depression, made me feel crappy and brought drama and hate from people, I tried talking about adoption or even letting him have full custody but he’s against it , he wants to raise the kid together and/or at least have full custody so he doesn’t miss anything 

What should I do",2.0620491345616965,3.949124989949748,3.5457872696817425,89.33220407593521,77.99497487437186,7.236292573981018,22.613344500279172,8.167268648758528,1.1718305974316023,759,23,162,14,18,250,109,199,0.11800000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.076,-0.9154,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,7,11,1,0,6,0,15,2,0,2,3,47,39,26,0,8,11,1,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,5,17,0,1,4,1,0,4,4,3,0,1,5,3,25,8,15,30,7,15,0,2,0,2,22,6,0,2,6,105,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573629535966443,0.0,0.0,0.12354017775768232,0.0,0.0,0.09925217894084096,0.0,0.0,0.08111584991196735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815892197993104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517909920315706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027374112544274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964480452497664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787846355952683,0.10789739743530924,0.0,0.1139790620965946,0.0,0.0,0.5622422658049232,0.0,0.180937688683094,0.08521508416922602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921569768059259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810793284560595,0.10548067809024814,0.1269779063477144,0.0,0.11776627932940704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602332169898518,0.0,0.0,0.06555426734891652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197392593796595,0.0,0.05827515971583694,0.0,0.1053281907734796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21531332298690786,0.11286751190294457,0.07962166080595083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970163599157076,0.09520975386442128,0.2535557761011047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18143867111666856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826951193448306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641510317368994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095874352755605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955429306134492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809846476824932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221336822395848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498359078521292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mornom__,2020/02/08,"I hate my mom’s boyfriend I hate my mom’s boyfriend. They have been dating for 7-9 years (unsure) and I am 18 atm and the more I grow up the more I want to throw this man off a bridge. I’ve never had so much hatred towards a person EVER. In fact, he’s the only person I truly am mortified and disgusted of. There are people that I dislike, or people I feel uncomfortable around, but this... this man is different. And I am not alone here.

Let’s call him Dick. Off the bat, Dick has the biggest ego in a person I’ve ever seen. He often, I repeat, OFTEN, brags about how he’s the best at everything and he’s always trying to be a smartass in restaurants by complaining and yelling at tired waiters or waitresses for not being “smiley” enough which is something you can easily brush off. He often says stuff like “I am the greatest,” or “I am one of the smartest people I’ve ever met,” and he brings down people around him all the time. And that’s only the beginning. 

Dick has a hobby of selling and collecting antiques. Not just any antiques, antiques that holds “spiritual” stuff inside them. I’m not sure how to explain it, but you get it. You know, those stuff that like determines your luck or holds weird ancient magic stuff that can be dangerous when in the wrong person’s hands. Stones or necklaces with curses or scary or sexual energy inside them. His whole house is FULL of it. His house always makes me feel tense when I enter it and it gives me chills thinking about it now. He has full knowledge about these creepy stuff and he’s very open about it. But instead of being careful with these items and belongings, and knowing the warning signs of how dangerous these things could be, he would often tell us how good these things are and how he often uses these stuff to “put a magic spell” on himself to make people like him. 

Let’s just say he committed something AWFUL a few years ago that involved sexually harassing an underaged family member of mine and the event has truly traumatized everyone in my family, except my mom. Now, I am not saying my mom is a cold hearted prick, in fact my mom is really caring of everyone and she’s one of the most sensitive, loving and nurturing people I’ve ever met in my entire life. 

I don’t know what happened but when she found out about this at first, she was mortified and disgusted and she couldn’t stop thinking about it. She truly wanted to leave him. But a week or a month later, she started to blame that one particular family member of mine and saying that they have seduced Dick and she’s been saying that my fm LIED about this whole situation. Which really hurts me, scares me deeply, and breaks my heart because my fm truly doesn’t deserve this. They have been truly traumatized by this and have to live with seeing my mom laughing and being together with Dick till this day. It sucks even more because my mom told us before that she had a close family member before (who passed away) who was a victim of being drugged and raped. Dick has been playing the victim in this ever since and won’t leave my family alone. 

Till this day, he’s still a deluded, disgusting, scary, big headed asshole who everyone in my family DESPISES and somehow my mom still wants him around (???) despite all the things he’s lied about like his jobs, life and everything else. There’s so much more horrible things he’s done and he doesn’t deserve anything and everyone in my family has a HUGE gut feeling that he’s “done something” to my mom’s thoughts and emotions, if you know what I mean. I’m pretty sure he casted something on my mom. My mom isn’t like this, really. 

I am just truly horrified because my mom has been talking about moving in with him and I am scared and I feel nauseous when I think about it. He often asks me to do chores for him and will randomly want to enter the bathroom when I’m showering inside (Wtf.) 

I have talked to my mom about this dozens of times but she keeps saying how amazing and wonderful he is and I just can NEVER see it no matter how hard I try to accept or like him. He’s just disgusting.

Help.",5.108780695932495,5.9849685829145765,5.610323314686641,81.58959277519675,68.57286432160804,8.7211150090073,26.953541291362466,8.895488261720299,1.966217531051484,3216,95,616,54,53,1035,311,796,0.19399999999999998,0.665,0.141,-0.9946,3,2,5,0,1,0,82.0,2,5,5,2,54,40,15,2,32,1,61,19,12,10,14,139,107,68,0,8,27,13,6,6,0,3,4,7,2,6,57,47,0,4,18,1,2,8,14,21,0,5,17,18,84,19,76,76,18,79,0,1,3,9,95,34,8,21,42,433,141,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03618208773488656,0.0,0.0,0.08454885874726999,0.0,0.0,0.06792655320674487,0.0,0.0,0.0277571744708988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033589173092918735,0.10900819466942024,0.03815868039743808,0.0,0.038349211875308015,0.0,0.0,0.07464557068875725,0.0,0.0694650589207322,0.0,0.04283525476787682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04167904314360594,0.0,0.0832319477036313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032589305379808774,0.0,0.0,0.05264758399614156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04264540755193972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354057119041121,0.0,0.0,0.04733512775865812,0.0,0.03409762983831258,0.045913986483135064,0.0,0.04217519844073265,0.0,0.026959452168933182,0.18460799515865847,0.0,0.15601077797141225,0.07336794316033918,0.0,0.26935252921983577,0.0,0.0825538452898069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034719188019852805,0.0,0.044754080043886896,0.0,0.0,0.021325362864800773,0.03915568868801684,0.0,0.03423562797979395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03609461761464911,0.0,0.03656429767358417,0.08059729795551797,0.041890341869323146,0.0,0.0,0.0967374316460574,0.027358986429553648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419540453178632,0.04369578083303415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04050488777690925,0.03628030577965729,0.0,0.0,0.08972851732876279,0.0,0.0,0.08643928788335024,0.0,0.08347694185131409,0.057660954608162826,0.11964767260461152,0.0,0.036042437713178097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03683922117898472,0.0,0.05449175057777311,0.0,0.0,0.04446202297883233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6214617112173916,0.03257999210036233,0.04338234711823054,0.06001084731682025,0.0,0.06296166059945606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297660876360469,0.06208681602201128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978552463204466,0.14256042325032411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152588432059723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04103267625861932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844585318303796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947574071587139,0.08173050763042106,0.0,0.06505223221107582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033764505474744015,0.04588037320628719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569265561378173,0.0,0.0,0.028890706252005623,0.0,0.0651935223449826,0.034125103738235366,0.0,0.0,0.28035636722168084,0.0,0.0,0.0769396742918504,0.0,0.0,0.06561482471329459,0.03567613315855832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846884384035464,0.07846226361830033,0.0,0.032404389455229075,0.04760181024544609,0.04691350011252141,0.0,0.03900269449285306,0.0,0.05542455630131027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819641055453483,0.035253055566693635,0.0,0.03367856032047555,0.09630044174008316,0.0,0.03274118872117603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114215097690058,0.0,0.0,0.044264637901159726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028995450081668633,0.0446273272844403,0.0,0.052570026332465145
parenting,Soggy-Rub,2020/02/08,"Why does my 20-year-old brother act like a 10-year-old? So my older brother is 20 years old and is currently in university, it's his holiday period and all he does all day is literally play video games, he does no physical activity and he has social skills I compare to an 11 year old, he does not uptake any responsibilities, all he does is play video games, this has been the same behaviour since the start of high school.

 I'm pretty sure this isn't normal, I believe it's cause my parents have an extremely sarcastic attitude on controlling his decisions, from the simplest things, from what he eats to where he goes. My parents aren't really aware that this is unhealthy behaviour. 

Over the years he continued this behaviour, unable to be conscious to break out of their grip like I did and I don't know why but I got so sick of it and I haven't spoken to him for a least 2 years even though we live in the same household. I've just always thought an older brother would just be like an older version of me. I've always envied my friends older brothers as the way they acted, more civil and mature. Shouldn't a 20-year-old be acting like an adult by this time?

I feel sorry for him, but maybe that's the way he is? 

Anyone with advice please help me out, I appreciate it.",4.8965266106442575,5.8159636666666685,5.6435574229691925,81.00340336134457,69.07936507936508,8.9452847805789,28.7124183006536,9.168548406835145,2.268573482726424,1012,35,200,19,17,330,140,252,0.059000000000000004,0.795,0.146,0.9658,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,2,2,7,8,0,0,15,0,20,2,0,2,4,31,26,12,0,3,5,6,2,4,1,2,1,0,0,1,13,10,1,1,5,7,0,3,7,0,0,0,4,2,22,8,22,17,8,30,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,0,20,116,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372296430049913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961100679969906,0.0,0.0,0.06522266115477125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706309042715104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805867458329524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852685409565397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075721642262228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061854558272813075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196611187184348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981407350401984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334820626559451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04849540326957254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410047823926247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670866158363053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428701535538467,0.10133506993380263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052710090212799064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18742877008679174,0.0,0.0846910302279929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963553315975822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397226088728702,0.0,0.0,0.5032114711622535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21299527844458435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528130250101714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757580639319444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144294101354358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706689205112193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933843921853395,0.0,0.0,0.09776902458997372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736433474255004,0.0678861872764522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039483307202288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371890135167065,0.0,0.09423191482496658,0.07614249481990634,0.05592638298338864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225912342871892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308923298483314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813230999752835,0.0,0.0,0.4323440616375037
parenting,RagnaroFirelord,2020/02/08,"How to tell my parents i can study I am 15 and my parents are always trying to get me to study this study that and they make up notes of what i must study

How can I can I tell them I can study on my own?",1.7793750000000017,1.3370098541666664,3.4333333333333336,98.945,75.45833333333334,6.4,20.166666666666668,3.1291,-0.6568833333333335,155,2,44,0,3,52,28,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,1,6,9,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,6,8,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,33,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649958044171319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638947274845606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125838070202692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7072551734393303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5567204669472983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622287880301186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheVirtualMoose,2020/02/08,"15 months old needs mother (and rejects everyone else) during the night My daughters sleep patterns have always been changing  and now we are in a rough spot. When she wakes up on the night (several times), she requires to be held and breastfed by her mother in order to fall back asleep. It can take a lot of time and attempts to put her back to sleep, which is a lot of burden for my wife. Me trying to soothe her merely aggravates her crying. It doesn't matter if I come the moment she starts waking up or wait until she starts crying. She seems unresponsive to anything I do (holding her, singing lullabies, giving her her favourite plush toy, moving to a different room etc.) 

She sleeps in her own room and has no problem being put to sleep by me in the evening. Teething might be a problem, but it seems she has gotten through the worst part and her sleep hasn't got better. 

I have scant idea how to deal with this situation and would be grateful for suggestions. The number of wakeups would be manageable if we could split them between ourselves, but we can't. My wife can't get proper sleep and I feel awful about not being able to help. I take pride in being able to handle every aspect of baby care, but these wakeups truly stump me.",6.458099222952782,6.625102953974898,6.077062163777647,81.8991317991632,65.48535564853556,8.334847579199044,29.623729826658696,7.7094869923839395,1.8048658696951592,982,30,185,9,14,304,143,239,0.113,0.795,0.092,-0.3603,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,1,4,7,8,0,0,11,1,24,10,10,1,0,39,40,17,0,8,7,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,13,0,4,4,2,0,5,6,5,0,0,4,2,31,3,32,25,6,30,0,1,0,0,29,10,0,8,14,132,37,2,0.20338985180431834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846183249612563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368625904822913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639424153121367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899408978099644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036847545687748,0.0,0.10757974733851836,0.08760117398058416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119512334144027,0.0,0.22341420175536747,0.0,0.10484300319591457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624955290612123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495306138337858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134167242205342,0.06716853945068753,0.0,0.08568236113875824,0.09717385973982057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142001012676525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05313140148059912,0.09755503946740518,0.0,0.0,0.08133472225223662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816396519518066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148011929946133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291477871410205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788224566631012,0.0,0.0,0.08117191962891697,0.10808561226003564,0.0,0.0754054989847238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086759791193364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671171780646828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012569465385406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461661977725647,0.0,0.20446297771735647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851584822940428,0.0,0.11488631995962224,0.0,0.0,0.11430935756439432,0.6106102125685994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439603839489187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292385637747793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859825820495933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690441792573103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448231518185695,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thowaway1-,2020/02/08,"Advice on getthing involved in my sons 19 year old gfs situation I’m sorry if this isn’t the right place to post this 

I’ll call my sons gf Alice. My son is 18 and a senior in a virtual highschool (completed at home) We don’t want him to get a job until he graduates hs so he can just focus on his classes. His gf recently turned 19, doesn’t have a job and didn’t finish her sophomore year. From what I understand is she didn’t complete her classes that year (also online but she went to a physical school building that could’ve helped her) She admits blame for being kicked out, she says her “teachers” were nice and offered her help but she was so shy she refused. The school was/is fairly new and were already on the verge of losing grants (my cousins daughter went to school with her and explained to me some of the situation) so they kicked a lot of students out instead of letting them repeat the year there. The problem is Alice’s mom didn’t put her in any school after that. For a while Alice was fine with that because she didn’t like school but when she was 17 she decided she wanted to go back and her mom refused. She also asked if she could get a job and her mom refused every time. She has two younger siblings. 14 and around 3 I believe the youngest is. She’s been raising the 3 year old since she was born.  She has no money, car or even permit for that matter so she’s in no position to get away from her mom and start her adult life. She’s been dating my son for 1 year and 6 months. She really is a good person so it breaks my heart thinking about her situation. Lately I’ve been thinking about what it would be like to have her live with us. 

In my mind I’d help her find a job and drive her to it in the beginning since we our town doesn’t have public transportation and look into getting her into a ged program. I’m not sure if I’d pay for it or have her use her own money she’d get from the job for that (since she could only get a minimum wage job and I want her to be able to save and have some to have a little fun). I’d pay for her to take drivers ed and get a permit since she has no driving experience. We have a car that we let our son drive so they’d share that when she gets a license until something more permanent comes around. I really think this could work out 

Am I crazy or is it a good idea? What do you think I should do?",2.042302227342549,3.6247173508064483,3.3374884792626744,92.16849462365595,77.10483870967742,6.175422427035331,22.091781874039945,6.868970318607317,0.419169316436252,1850,51,412,18,42,602,221,496,0.08199999999999999,0.828,0.08900000000000001,0.6661,7,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,7,1,3,2,19,12,0,0,27,0,49,2,1,3,1,73,80,37,0,12,11,11,0,2,2,2,1,1,1,2,19,30,0,3,10,0,5,11,12,2,0,1,15,2,71,10,53,53,5,63,0,1,1,0,89,23,0,9,29,267,90,22,0.06556756441602622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407186509686748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723554377738599,0.10486871514917524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458819221048632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673806692233855,0.061296821758399664,0.0,0.0616028851210924,0.05041740979170967,0.0,0.03996937869187925,0.0,0.0,0.07387219207289117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695181416194329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648065099548414,0.1374926876301742,0.0,0.0,0.2094014596196897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043306757914357716,0.0,0.055243500926367005,0.0,0.0,0.06413765942806461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992756601966422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740507696476108,0.0,0.037263557862742616,0.10998992440027894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769787952850515,0.13184566896936648,0.0,0.0657696131617032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401779931432301,0.0,0.0,0.3903941426504697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396306858336059,0.0,0.0,0.1340945539075778,0.04631230981028667,0.06406600005612903,0.06571592476208282,0.057897360632817585,0.0,0.055060240496390835,0.07335333304809168,0.0,0.05574319854821335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620454884863622,0.3071677559673848,0.05233540436581916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332556229035295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760425840620755,0.0,0.0,0.049867087325997886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725106818921745,0.06850414947003937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627956021617064,0.0,0.0,0.06273930405314164,0.0,0.06591351212091627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400852143669517,0.0,0.064740059730916,0.0,0.0,0.05599434175620098,0.0,0.05214195891295923,0.0,0.3317893783710894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21695266736580826,0.22110206873061494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050477114428825784,0.0,0.0733975202681778,0.04640905956806535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061796653501853226,0.0,0.0492986484567788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805219110230465,0.0,0.0,0.038232974091370456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131868188454422,0.06404998309472193,0.0682581469214376,0.07886970687120606,0.05662932368215906,0.0,0.0,0.11602034486876554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156357821394925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047733967800790346,0.0,0.0,0.04657731653581879,0.0,0.0,0.2533401706012746
parenting,Cochy115,2020/02/08,"Best movies for 3yo? Hi Reddit. I’m looking for movie recommendations for my 3yo for our new family movie night tradition. I need movies or even nature documentaries that are 100% toddler friendly. No darkness whatsoever. No dying parents (*cough* Disney). No rudeness or violence. No scariness. I don’t trust the rating system.

We have been mostly screen free until recently introducing my son to Mr. Rogers and the animated Grinch movie at Christmas.

Thanks! 😊",3.972692307692309,7.2349662692307755,4.601282051282052,72.76038461538462,91.43589743589745,7.015384615384615,26.512820512820515,7.882392219407189,2.7994820512820517,371,16,53,9,13,118,63,78,0.185,0.638,0.177,0.4199,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,1,6,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,8,4,1,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,2,6,6,7,7,2,6,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,3,4,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282027133209922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32457610734234954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656268766088506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948246765723081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416231625862491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626239369541564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318937208115109,0.0,0.3020475088483912,0.0,0.2934865365132082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34726221757669073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087943171315224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879301828312571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shannjl,2020/02/08,"Have I damaged my son? He’s 10. A few years ago I went through something very traumatic and started drinking heavily. Before that I drank too much at family bbq’s and things like that but always had a sober driver and was never out of control but would get sloppy, slur my words. But then the event happened and I leaned on alcohol heavily. I kept my job, barely, but got him to school late almost every day for a year because I was always so hungover. I screamed a lot. I had freak outs over money and life’s stress but really it was about being emotionally unstable, not coping with a significant loss, and feeling very abandoned and isolated. I should add his dad left when he was a baby so I shoulder... all of it, every single piece to raising a child. It’s been so stressful, he’s a very stubborn kid and I have the patience of a toddler. I love my son so much and I’ve apologized a million times but I’ve lost my cool with him more than once, basically bullying him (standing over him /puffing up/screaming/ordering/threatening/even name calling like brat,spoiled, even asshole). I am so deeply ashamed of this. A couple of years ago I stopped drinking, went through therapy and went on medication but was still heavily depressed and suicidal. I found another med to help pull me out of that, but still have low frustration tolerance and find myself nagging constantly and occasionally yelling again. When things cool, I go back and apologize for my behavior and explain why I’m so frustrated. I can’t believe I would ever be such a monster. I was raised by an alcoholic narcissist. And here I became one. I have tried to rationalize that I am not all bad. I put a lot of effort into him: doing fun things, planning cool parties for him /his friends, sports, a lot of outdoors stuff like camping.... but at the end of it all I can feel and see is the bad. I’m scared to put this out there and hear I’m a monster. I know I have been. I wish I could change it.  Anyone have a parent or situation like this and have the parent try to get well and change? I need to hear from you.",3.0589002795899347,5.2249757487684745,4.209656503794438,84.42551125016644,75.99507389162562,7.443376381307416,28.2143522833178,8.358175599149588,2.12017369191852,1638,70,317,31,37,534,221,406,0.19399999999999998,0.664,0.142,-0.9824,3,0,5,0,1,0,57.0,0,1,0,5,20,29,4,4,22,3,29,9,1,1,5,68,55,39,1,6,12,5,2,4,1,3,4,4,0,2,16,28,5,5,6,3,1,7,4,18,1,2,18,10,46,11,38,31,12,43,0,6,1,1,29,13,0,5,26,218,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536518426353521,0.18524339336126056,0.0867854473238187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422937864391527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087891753770592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060600255935901626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666423150359607,0.144728260532785,0.05283198675973683,0.0,0.07374805442509429,0.09764511736832863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849768185320371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18336642943958287,0.0,0.0,0.09365728030769796,0.09720549175659096,0.06919731744757363,0.09589645431087504,0.0,0.05589366726554914,0.0,0.07464699086124113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980322081815855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748979491675633,0.07676209216641063,0.0,0.0,0.11448674638534395,0.0783961357597293,0.14604299616477753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170284371562839,0.0,0.0876438539033103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921294946567245,0.0,0.0,0.0950269497241163,0.06695945441330269,0.0,0.09056086876614343,0.0,0.04925540151128485,0.0,0.06931628851071359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664019481609192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19536218974149674,0.0,0.058091709747904764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600458171819986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04763044674730455,0.0,0.09776523899030587,0.0,0.09416499705817698,0.0,0.06121614642979217,0.169366358822205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460832125035748,0.22104601252480385,0.07822122173929381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626857070830468,0.08730885634027986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127421852159288,0.0642631975395441,0.06684367716266608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229855369718364,0.05872845575587375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19246903631590934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425048442734614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055521717343461036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676975185174643,0.08771260709481167,0.06906314679802944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097418423386698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672123331542483,0.0,0.0,0.0613440313779515,0.0,0.1384262968681205,0.07245829908878869,0.19855572111684694,0.0,0.09921408426779324,0.09480068642531783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911237063783787,0.0,0.17273503376914456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505367870877373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768371777414015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145304420434577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792490852426871,0.24102621424925266,0.07820435765649666,0.0,0.09966388202485857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313287076561015,0.0,0.0,0.1674339829259767
parenting,JenSickReaper,2020/02/08,"My dad is being super controlling. My dad goes on business trips every month for like 2 or 3 weeks (safe to say he’s not around most the time) and since he’s paranoid (I’m not sure if I’m wording this correctly in English) but he put my phone with his personal police so they can track me and see some things I do. He also doesn’t trust me whatsoever so when he is here (like 1 or 2 weeks outta the month) he takes my phone at night and during school hours. And I’m a very social person and I like talking to my friends, he doesn’t even let me be on a call with one person over an hour and its horrible because whenever I ask to go to their houses he says no and I can’t even talk to them on the phone and it really affects my social life and I hate it.",2.88289911308204,3.2602475670731716,4.47088691796009,89.56324833702885,73.32926829268294,7.670953436807093,23.44567627494457,7.686295010490155,0.7993243902439019,587,14,138,7,11,198,103,164,0.094,0.81,0.096,0.1202,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,3,2,8,9,1,0,6,0,10,1,0,2,2,26,18,17,0,1,6,2,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,3,5,12,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,3,18,8,15,15,2,19,0,0,1,0,29,7,0,5,12,80,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602611730922045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915829690404484,0.13563687171918953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844376159818164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815017105852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272754189713468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916573485965055,0.0,0.12224215601262844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120939488762083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245635373316583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432434933525616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28576317491496506,0.16741105651379984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14836140997890895,0.1024793234715538,0.21264671434577245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316143096722885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13615443348906506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831478728072973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800534302924125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585262876016658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294652413088916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307582021182088,0.0,0.1468359110992316,0.1156156500114849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001756481199495,0.0,0.0,0.2957960948289379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674289340388968,0.0,0.10908745779703057,0.23323106223326756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638943553778363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460146633236637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971206861183865,0.0,0.0,0.2327602720143376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gtbx2,2020/02/08,My mother is addicted to pain pills and idk what to do ... My mother has been addicted to pain pills since early 90s and I’ve witnessed a lot of bad with this addiction and I’ve grown to accept it but now I have a child and I want her to grow up around her but I’m not exposing my child to that life .. I’ve currently cut her out of my life for 3+ months but idk if I’m doing the right thing ... any serious advice is appreciated...,0.5508602150537669,2.326346666666666,3.158279569892475,90.82408602150541,82.33333333333334,7.1440860215053785,18.935483870967747,8.167268648758528,0.6471419354838708,332,8,79,7,9,116,59,93,0.142,0.8009999999999999,0.057999999999999996,-0.7166,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,3,0,7,9,0,0,0,15,10,8,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,5,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,9,1,13,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,4,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6719286276008068,0.0,0.20076818800889493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971640349719314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182898454198463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154629174865135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902377981056279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467044153350264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16399217171769254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372370803256396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545739485103426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995444819999234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649513181503495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118264585271132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_fro_dude,2020/02/08,"Son said the ""N"" word for the first time Context: we are a white family, living in Alabama. The school my 9 year old goes to is pretty diverse, and he has had lots of friends that he plays with of many different races. I've always tried to shield him from any type of prejudice, hate, or racism, including racial slurs twords ANY race, and even do my best to make sure he doesn't overhear it in music, youtube, etc. 
   When he said the word, it was in a very innocent way...playing with a toy and saying ""what's up my n*****"". We asked him to repeat it to make sure we heard what we thought we heard. Unfortunately, we did. When asked were he heard it, he said he hears it fairly often, on the bus a kid says it a lot, and his friends do too. I asked about who he heard saying it, and he informed us it was a brown kid on the bus, but his white friends also say it. Obviously, I'm going to explain to him it doesn't matter who is saying it, he shouldn't be, just like all the other bad words he can't say. 
  The only issue is, it isn't JUST like all the other words he can't say, and I don't know if he would understand the weight the word has, the feelings he could hurt, or the ramifications saying it could bring upon his life. I do want to explain it more than ""it is a bad word you don't need to say"", though. Keep in mind his school is only k-6, so none of these children are over the age of about 12. Has anyone else had an issue similar to this, or have any insight on what you found best to explain it? They haven't even touched on this subject in school, not even the civil war yet. I want him to be educated on what's what, without overwhelming him.",2.7809565217391277,3.665773008695652,3.9177971014492776,91.55321739130436,73.98550724637681,7.0272463768115925,22.78550724637681,7.24861992348623,0.5213455072463771,1268,31,296,13,25,413,168,345,0.09699999999999999,0.825,0.079,-0.8845,1,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,7,2,1,3,15,17,3,1,23,0,34,2,0,2,5,59,63,16,1,8,9,1,3,2,3,2,1,17,0,3,29,14,1,1,10,2,0,2,12,7,0,1,15,23,26,10,38,42,9,24,0,2,3,0,67,13,0,7,11,185,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612424150144669,0.06880166423546846,0.0,0.0,0.1686886533688389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057816216095322635,0.08472193351101755,0.0,0.0,0.23190171670118506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380792911982799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354843882686927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203663902004714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863896333041649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907383250319041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922171336064706,0.16384065628534775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794932867711926,0.0,0.041808701287172886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033296417674903,0.0,0.09066131116575002,0.1916497988100525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04699255627980305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163564865927768,0.0,0.0,0.09319352207766997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851744419390073,0.0,0.0,0.1726061265241085,0.0,0.07349542406530495,0.0,0.0,0.04544225365601906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058403811928638825,0.08079274459913109,0.0,0.07301355893099053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059394997342606,0.0,0.0,0.11038755684964052,0.08383097731608194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348963883717378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131087828824708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676541141498964,0.0,0.0,0.12577338515599995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412174076935026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359609517954145,0.5917995144220148,0.0,0.2510489915145757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586180623363538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123891571198133,0.06564372304504468,0.048215073647847925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056138601666364536,0.0,0.0,0.08607940290016737,0.09946149405723803,0.0,0.0,0.06822489555890629,0.09754109910688934,0.06563257319763502,0.0,0.10068969432608386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970668745225327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05873800823673065,0.0,0.0,0.05324729623137799
parenting,NevRRedditB4,2020/02/08,"Sleep-Training Documentation Videos: Why aren't there any? Curious parent here...

As many of you know, there are many websites, book, and videos of professionals in different fields who support/encourage sleep-training (e.g. using techniques such as 'Cry-it-out', controlled crying, extinction, Ferber, etc.) as a positive, non-harmful, healthy parenting choice. There are also tons of parents who have done blogs/vlogs and websites about their experience as well as the benefits of sleep training their child/children. 

And then there are many, many more videos of people documenting all sorts of random, important, and otherwise things they do in their lives.

So, what gives? What do you think is the reason for the lack of sleep-training documentation videos, i.e. baby monitor or other video recordings, that show the full process?",8.573676470588236,10.990573720588236,6.7198823529411795,71.10747058823532,61.79411764705882,9.851764705882351,35.65882352941176,10.125756701596842,4.0378170588235305,670,30,98,15,10,196,93,136,0.053,0.85,0.09699999999999999,0.7165,4,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,2,4,1,10,2,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,3,1,14,13,13,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,6,2,16,12,6,4,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,3,1,64,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365648316568914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814554824439719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537903274225875,0.0,0.0,0.14238068133645315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542454880313914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264551577375386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455974904541008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267925177749099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434261455216575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123536080187869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445618989870288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5256543797927784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43178057885619947,0.0,0.0,0.08986168103640302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332701973320207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188515168294726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470904112214903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611328323212403,0.08305479424046426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194943179372496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654329012762853,0.0,0.11696122993545024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KeyboardMuncher32,2020/02/08,"Teen doesn't know what he wants to do with himself going into high school Hi y'all,

My son is going into 9th grade this fall. While it's typical for kids that age to have some problems and struggle a little bit, I believe it has become an issue.

To provide some info about him, he's 13 and turning 14 next month. Dxed with ADD. Not evaluated, but would most likely meet criteria for ""borderline"" giftedness (>90 percentile on tests, although tends to finish tests first every time even without rushing)

He struggles with school quite a bit even with medicine. Often fails to turn in work, unorganized, you get the point. He gets bored easily in a lot of his classes and zones alot. Takes mostly On-Level classes since he tends to fear failure alot, i.e. having a high grade in a class, failing one test, and completely shutting down. 

What can we possibly do for him? One of his teachers suggested he should go to an accelerated H.S. since it would be more suited for his academic needs and how he tends to be reserved (it's much smaller than his middle school, with only around ~150 students). Kid still is  terrified about advanced classes and might have some other possible trouble though, so not sure on it yet.

I just don't want him to suffer either way. I would've absolutely hated spending high school either being a total bimbo barely getting by or struggling with suddenly doing all advanced classes.
Any advice would be appreciated :-)",6.9231149732620345,7.996030446969698,6.6467736185383295,75.0681016042781,64.60606060606061,8.787522281639928,32.57486631016043,8.841846274778883,2.824926737967914,1154,45,190,17,17,362,176,264,0.172,0.767,0.061,-0.988,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,2,0,7,12,13,1,4,11,0,21,0,0,1,3,49,38,13,0,8,8,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,2,10,17,0,0,2,0,1,7,5,11,0,3,0,0,15,2,35,29,16,34,0,3,0,0,24,16,0,11,11,128,25,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880104543322717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875654388573597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000708061442858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166525239680238,0.0,0.11391349064384645,0.0,0.0,0.22076633216009411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600925427055738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356105522426626,0.0,0.08518740068928264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377400860515485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600195878247219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584734335150187,0.0,0.17238510855744654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982269016178556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204767664968819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552992578006476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055566019030370416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939600066816383,0.10133624264392642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595795180972023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725904336310843,0.0,0.0,0.08070301460237057,0.0,0.07432562095765692,0.07496990478336922,0.0,0.0,0.1075289369472045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702607105358805,0.07689678383905052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557923602847304,0.2279669520902089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674618993581567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754023547198242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093046131514208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727428109718806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074455281603017,0.0,0.0,0.3170984282032814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952925899851244,0.0,0.07602023132323382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099337571825307,0.0,0.058956576408973185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995177816221334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927160589885835,0.08025440020906427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746398902980136,0.0,0.07360743930684588,0.0,0.0,0.28729537123702203,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lefayof2day,2020/02/08,"Toy Story 3 is terrible My son (6) and I tend to watch a movie on Friday night.  Tonight's choice was Toy Story 3. I'd never seen it before,  and neither had he. 

I was not prepared for Big Baby.

Idk if it's just that time of the month, or the fact that I had a baby in the past year, but hoooooly crap. I was in tears trying to hide it from my son. After the movie was over and I got him in bed, I had come back out to the living roomand I heard him crying. I went to console him and when he finally calmed down enough to talk... he wasn't prepared for big baby either. Poor thing couldn't calm down until I showed him that Big Baby was happy because Barbie and Ken were taking good care of them.

Never again. Oof.",0.917387218045114,2.5950955131578937,2.61796992481203,95.63078947368422,80.71052631578948,4.869172932330828,17.43609022556391,5.288315135182226,-0.6624488721804513,546,10,126,2,14,180,94,152,0.154,0.7440000000000001,0.102,-0.5461,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,0,4,7,1,0,7,0,12,1,1,0,3,17,20,10,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,7,7,0,0,0,3,1,2,6,2,0,0,14,3,16,5,20,5,3,27,0,0,2,0,12,11,1,2,14,80,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764981092402127,0.0,0.14083533042846888,0.0,0.1965917288071829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355531362856497,0.0,0.0,0.19901413046933808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537784659524105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387184378180973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530849238142329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19377918613809805,0.18477787785791108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459385019391049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040060211722974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844080195438516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35637317230069915,0.0,0.0,0.21680844734817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205467614580208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370776510213826,0.18569525494085465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348779561696588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471696873074615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685597206617585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141695376078863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877742163771446
parenting,anon33312,2020/02/08,"Texting, internet and privacy for tweens and teens Okay, so I need some advice. A little back story is needed to understand the whole picture.
 
My son is 12, high function autistic and does not understand danger. He is relatively naive and doesn’t understand how adults can hurt kids. He was diagnosed at 22 months old and I was told he would never talk. Fast forward many years of therapy he’s a pretty cool 12 year old kiddo who has so much to say and is hungry for adventure. He started public middle school this year after being homeschooled for 4 years and has become quite frustrated at our no phone policy. He does have an iPad that his father and I text him on, but we feel 12 is too young for a cell phone. 

This week he came to us and asked if he showed responsibility if he could start texting his friends at school. As a survivor of childhood abuse myself I want to shut it down and say no. But I also understand my son isn’t me and isn’t an abused child. He makes meaningful relationships and really enjoys the company of a few select kids. He’s never felt like an outcast until recently at school when the other kids found out that he also can’t play certain games (I don’t like first person killing games) and isn’t allowed on social media or the internet. 

So this is where I need advice. I want to give him the opportunity to grow up feeling connected to others, but also as safely as possible. I know I can’t protect him from everything and he needs to experience so much on his own. But how? What rules do I set? I don’t want to invade his privacy and I want to give him the room to grow, but I’m also very aware he could fall to predatory behavior. I want to be up front and honest with him and lay rules that he knows he needs to follow, but again, my first instinct is to say no. 

What’s your advice?",3.937594123048665,5.274924173553722,5.126611570247935,82.25335169880627,71.72727272727272,8.352984389348027,25.29017447199265,8.841846274778883,1.7812031221303957,1437,43,285,27,27,476,190,363,0.09,0.769,0.141,0.9342,2,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,3,1,0,4,15,16,3,0,14,2,27,1,0,4,3,64,57,41,1,15,10,3,3,2,1,1,1,3,1,6,12,21,0,2,11,4,0,7,14,4,0,2,6,7,32,12,40,46,6,48,0,1,0,0,56,18,0,4,26,180,44,3,0.0,0.1979072013232023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448345785724083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26715301263834074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807681525714133,0.0,0.0,0.06421916629815287,0.0,0.0,0.09223760366729324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552082472381047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336253502459816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476766500063575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617200656069615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505940043344422,0.08169533170786683,0.0,0.0,0.08445707844618787,0.0,0.08018910316550686,0.0,0.0,0.14207847864078646,0.0,0.09157172111812524,0.06452477432515838,0.0,0.0,0.16023360557120742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823995032245603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940632569270911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923988245603374,0.0,0.09179715857319544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160405559625844,0.0837056468820627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055748027691029114,0.08467279787972204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666221152841273,0.0,0.12278872829403358,0.3096327736676096,0.12882641358941244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752733984238778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292353740462895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941525001054833,0.0,0.08496648114452009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883026191983201,0.0,0.0,0.05350291923854628,0.0,0.08246263898102292,0.08966565147268933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924743125697386,0.0,0.25356999520920315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851347305383019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182270619000559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712753813695249,0.0,0.0,0.09550859403309923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980376000249899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477752075293917,0.10046027438484954,0.0,0.0,0.06891000173173707,0.2463014876500543,0.0,0.06699203736757335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324338276173344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932784823125325,0.0,0.0,0.21512799663263546
parenting,dad0rex,2020/02/08,"Transitioning son is going through a rough time and I think his girlfriend is making it worse My child is transitioning, and lately we have been running to issues with how to communicate and on my wife’s and my part, be accepting in the manner that we should be (we’re working on it).

He and his girlfriend live with us, rent free, utility free, but they buy their own food that’s not dinner related. 

For the first time in about six months, my son’s girlfriend is visiting her family. Leaving me, my son and my wife at home. So today, my son started confiding in me. He told me his girlfriend tells him no one will ever love him because he’s trans, and that we don’t even love him. She tells him he’s ugly, and stupid, and that I’m ashamed of him. 

My son is incredibly kind, quiet, helpful, and probably the best person I know. He’s not ugly in the slightest. He’s insanely intelligent and talented. So hearing this makes my blood boil and also wonder if the girlfriend is the major source of our issues. 

Lately, our son has been eavesdropping on our conversations, screaming at us and screaming at our dog to the point where I think he might be abusing him when we’re not home. The dog will do everything he can to get away from our son recently, even to the point he knocked our barstools over to get out of the room when he came in.

I don’t know what to do. I want to Kick the girlfriend out, but I don’t want to alienate my son, or make things worse.

What should I do?",5.240238095238098,5.487144520408165,5.67047619047619,83.49952380952381,68.08163265306123,8.982312925170069,29.59863945578231,8.841846274778883,2.080627210884353,1155,39,241,18,18,371,143,294,0.113,0.755,0.132,0.7604,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,11,0,2,3,11,12,1,1,12,0,25,6,1,4,1,44,45,23,0,5,7,10,1,0,6,5,0,4,4,2,10,21,3,0,6,0,4,4,7,4,0,3,4,5,44,10,33,33,4,35,0,0,0,2,61,19,0,4,12,161,54,1,0.0,0.1396915126118244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428410938243216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107703694236814,0.0,0.0,0.07187038130814047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372814884496545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484550741341492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574288649908855,0.10664675920214356,0.0,0.0,0.10596038054381994,0.0,0.1111450636620138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028517132383598,0.14256442518774504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319514311317595,0.0,0.06700494729074682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288119500187995,0.0,0.07902548411458855,0.0,0.2365254267703133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461126894426595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277408459322987,0.1295888562803277,0.0,0.26599132214613563,0.12483844365161093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410733220281332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128176272589472,0.0,0.23609629951467756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507263429786358,0.0,0.0,0.0941061780490312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989168622425524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767356342250286,0.0,0.0,0.10294521045165514,0.0,0.0,0.22290608715926832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271154964660066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164114362307581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344980373654738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20609854838380376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832712405031134,0.15109035278355554,0.0,0.0,0.13749617914622908,0.0,0.11175484771653764,0.11265793131655115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836369286694226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908024422897014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785687248696742,0.08583216901218241,0.0,0.24029912663836825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dymba,2020/02/08,"Two sick kids, one humidifier I have twin toddlers. They have separate rooms. One has a wet cough, the other had a cold and is sneezing a ton.

I only have one humidifier. Who do I give it to?",0.10230769230769,2.417704871794875,3.4878974358974415,83.94876923076926,90.02564102564102,6.196923076923077,20.620512820512825,7.554174236665415,0.8973651282051278,146,5,32,3,5,53,30,39,0.09300000000000001,0.907,0.0,-0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,7,2,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,4,0,1,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373814280271548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7921669193838842,0.2963673890471372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806584117135651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Justforthis66,2020/02/08,"PSA: If you're at the park with your kid get off your phone! I see this every day at the park with my 2 year old.  Multitudes of parents on their cell phones, grinding away some game or flipping through Insta.  I constantly have to step in between my kid and other kids because their parent isn't watching their child.  It's not my job to parent your kid, that's why you're their parent.",2.498351648351644,4.460269641025644,3.1275091575091603,92.48653846153849,76.94871794871796,5.995604395604397,22.68131868131868,6.868970318607317,0.5457780219780215,304,9,64,3,7,95,58,78,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,5,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,4,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,12,0,13,4,1,11,0,0,2,0,20,6,0,3,4,38,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916905071173672,0.0,0.0,0.11624902995509134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060790943470512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298580838539523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606730853516655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963294768594222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18924045468707487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20010770846259626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8469997113630092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196331452436534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720772068855289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280463213304475
parenting,relizabeth8986,2020/02/08,"My 3 month old is obsessed with our smoke alarm We recently took off the cover of our smoke alarm in the living room because it is Very sensitive. Since then , every time I walk my daughter underneath it, she stares directly at it (literally captivated) and starts laughing and smiling. It’s really weird because no matter what is going on, if I stand under it and she looks up and sees it she gets immediately happy. She even starts reaching her hands up towards it. She could be bored or mid cry and we bring her under the exposed smoke alarm and suddenly she’s happy again. It’s just super weird and I’m concerned maybe the wires are emitting something harmful?? I have no idea and neither does anyone else I’ve asked. 
Family members think it’s a ghost 🙄 so I want to know why she’s so entertained with it. Hoping for a simple answer lol",2.219596383597029,4.919084650306751,3.5373845657087517,84.98135615111399,82.86503067484662,6.130965450435907,23.302873748789157,7.475848149327749,1.3073754601226997,670,24,123,11,19,218,109,163,0.145,0.682,0.172,0.8393,0,0,4,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,1,5,14,0,4,6,1,7,1,1,0,0,23,21,13,1,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,12,0,0,4,1,0,4,3,8,0,0,1,4,19,6,15,18,1,26,0,0,3,0,15,12,0,3,9,77,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703733742027976,0.1861562305736636,0.0,0.0,0.1698495602245285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150516775637052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505950229754308,0.0,0.1995708090531094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899246754432844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517732629225036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000024757394236,0.0,0.15307619658634225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127504768753976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492213741380023,0.0,0.1032549279689334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868109583300969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180452723927145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050985728408082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984850792241076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042987155851096,0.0,0.15256839369305858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825255098510825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501804760357173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064628560545235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639111141337652,0.0,0.17939055172463275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477823810459856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502904803403261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986884541798306,0.0,0.0,0.2571930528189149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641545978517012,0.0,0.0,0.10594111813970512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185706918354973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990792658050306,0.10716164388168352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394111242455747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sarifina31,2020/02/08,"Tantrums My 18 month old just threw a tantrum, flung himself on the floor and bit and pulled back a few times on the shag rug.... The sound is the equivalent of nails on a chalkboard!",3.148333333333333,4.926334944444445,2.2011111111111106,100.655,74.55555555555556,5.911111111111111,25.88888888888889,6.42735559955562,0.4727888888888887,142,5,33,1,3,40,28,36,0.153,0.847,0.0,-0.68,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,1,2,10,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,19,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913090969091431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5555818981549636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40619539764875057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5340000439356121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967409596338469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dexxa,2020/02/08,"Dog barking and a two-month-old Hi, everyone. My wife gave birth to a baby girl two months ago. We also have a two-year-old small dog. We live in a condo. The dog likes to bark at the door bell and people walking by. We were wondering if the barking, though not super loud, can somehow damage the hearing of the baby? I am doing some training myself to have it under control but I don't think I can turn it into a completely silent dog. Thanks in advance.",1.6144086021505366,3.654054956989248,3.41204301075269,89.0047311827957,80.07526881720429,5.423655913978496,22.161290322580648,6.42735559955562,0.5145612903225807,353,11,71,3,9,118,66,93,0.048,0.88,0.071,0.4538,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,1,0,14,14,6,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,2,6,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,2,2,8,3,10,12,1,11,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,4,4,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751139613352814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511200462827018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981325058540912,0.0,0.21194705324342564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056989567154866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129840592472786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232168888364546,0.0,0.16686486157538252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016697103129792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965865676805995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310087028088334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397911448730402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121084991177607,0.18566305523644505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554619157643744,0.5537916467792312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493099647810026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169113305804086
parenting,WVOHMI,2020/02/08,"Parent of a teen who is placed currently in a psychiatric hospital Our 2nd daughter, age 15,  yelled in school that she was going to kill herself during an altercation with a friend in a very public setting.  Fast forward, she was admitted to an emergency room for suicide ideation.   She spent 17 hrs in an ER room until a bed in a psychiatric hospital opened up.  She was transported 24 miles by ambulance to the hospital. She has been at a psychiatric  hospital now for 4 1/2 days.

Visitations at the hospital are strict and limited.  My wife and I have been in a situation where we were able to talk to our daughter 3 distinct times over this time. Each time, with increasing emphasis, our daughter has passionately demanded to ""just go home"".  Her home is in a great place with siblings and a dog and a comfy  room with lots of pillows.  The Pysch hospital is not comfy.  Beds are simple with a something hardly called a pillow.  She is housed  with other teens who have a wide range of mental diseases.  She is depressed and filled with hormones .  However, she is not suicidal.  As a parent , I passionately argued that my daughter was not a threat to herself nor others.  Social workers disagreed.   I know my daughter for 15 years.  They know here for 10 minutes.  Today, our daughter again begged to go home and never stopped begging / demanding.

Her medical plan and path to discharge is not clear.  Maybe in 3 or 4 days if may daughter "" cooperates"".  Tomorrow, I will visit with my daughter again.  I can demand her discharge.  If she is discharged without doctor consent, children protective services will be called and I will be investigated for endangering my daughter.

I tell you this story as suicide is real .  A small but growing # of teenage girls (mostly) end up in a psychiatric hospital because of suicide ideation and a poor social worker interview.  Once this occurs, your rights as a parent are surrendered unwittingly.  I am not yet sure if I will remove her tomorrow evening. If so, I will invite  an investigation of myself and my family by other social workers even though my daughter is begging to just go home.  Thank you for reading this",5.601547549224971,7.810366706493511,6.110691244239633,73.37221198156683,68.94805194805195,9.123586091328027,34.237536656891486,9.618343705623,3.7314901550062833,1702,84,272,40,31,550,200,385,0.09300000000000001,0.843,0.064,-0.8979,5,0,1,0,0,3,50.0,5,3,1,5,12,10,3,0,27,0,34,4,0,0,4,48,43,23,5,4,14,14,1,0,1,6,2,2,11,2,11,21,0,3,3,1,2,12,8,4,1,0,8,3,42,6,51,27,4,58,0,1,0,2,56,26,0,8,21,203,53,8,0.09703339544815022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915065723377741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816389147311367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515702538307386,0.0,0.0835747213150646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931779189820007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594278732942356,0.0,0.0,0.12817928509951074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147444947747203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496776062149628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205852590746375,0.0,0.0,0.10697966103956397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692286302031313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893296290158699,0.0,0.0,0.1119635103941113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073530753697836,0.0,0.10665403299156692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249432286295914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974830879024612,0.0,0.0,0.09775093748306224,0.09778684011355876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483813648869543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333739932483853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232323075510586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027584914757271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705965406301932,0.11044524733375012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286598953125504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820297655927183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090696020236185,0.0,0.2967399808672794,0.0,0.0747010484387705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112426346248605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42455514185162335,0.0,0.0914528268668158,0.0,0.0,0.07799176770153028,0.08481146454171279,0.08933531368083243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953348183623495,0.0,0.16974285962313646,0.0,0.0919763130677196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006271340398181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353673056722536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06248632530377271
parenting,boymommiller,2020/02/09,"I don’t know who needs to hear this... I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you’re doing a great job! Parents have become so judgmental in recent years. Let’s just support one another. Is your kid happy and thriving? Then, you’re doing a great job! 

Also- I’m not implying that if your kid is sick, you’re not doing a good job.",0.17014285714285649,2.321247657142859,2.31964285714286,94.01660714285715,86.71428571428572,5.214285714285714,17.32142857142857,6.6274283507984215,-0.1337142857142859,256,6,57,3,8,86,45,70,0.094,0.65,0.256,0.9425,4,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,10,17,6,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,3,16,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,3,34,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404410111597557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414994624220168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193955399537626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472993750155787,0.0,0.3872371653280517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694777468040727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958666950861173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.522818917602702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930292403487092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795804851333178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26043585669578523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900275953269975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500211738414244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340079809730238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19928831707352515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309171877751015
parenting,oh_ya_you_betcha,2020/02/09,"How do you feel about your kids using the word “hate” to describe how they feel about things (not people)? My 3.5 year old has recently learned the word “hate” and is using it to say things like “I hate socks.” Or “I hate radishes”. 

In your opinion, is the word “hate” appropriate or in appropriate for a kid this age and in this context?",5.317615384615387,5.626466569230771,5.270576923076924,86.21817307692308,67.92307692307692,8.346153846153845,28.55769230769231,8.07648339933343,1.564461538461538,257,8,55,3,4,80,42,65,0.244,0.7240000000000001,0.032,-0.9542,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,1,0,4,6,5,0,4,0,4,0,0,4,0,16,13,6,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,3,7,1,8,13,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,3,5,35,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347305914195876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8468085154505796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380650516873515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800039331822864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892526731107875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169376522514587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641667484526668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279290818801027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29631353315099385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104670927811046
parenting,sub-parmom,2020/02/09,"I love letting my kids date So a lot of parents seem to bash their kids for dating someone, but I love when my kids get into a relationship. I’ll help them with valentines gifts and let them go on dates alone. I let my 13 year old daughter have a sleepover with a boy (obviously telling her some limits.) It’s fun for them and I’m not going to interrupt it. Would it effect them later on by supporting this?",2.65760757314974,4.37318828915663,3.9619965576592087,87.77590361445783,75.74698795180723,6.670567986230638,25.110154905335627,7.447530270364453,1.1193215146299489,320,11,67,4,7,105,60,83,0.027000000000000003,0.723,0.25,0.9694,1,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,5,2,2,4,0,0,4,0,5,2,0,1,1,14,13,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,4,11,9,2,12,0,0,0,2,17,3,0,3,7,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093145890417351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558887796592008,0.0,0.22971610808052684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354633305747687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6199826480318806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181814293769612,0.3648061750778275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21206989153326253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22440806790688034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21697970317305207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839841962237677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123862443109836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293406184035636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664425661861402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356599977455242,0.0,0.0,0.13014573609544358
parenting,SuburbanSuffering,2020/02/09,"How to talk to young child about aggressive special needs kids? My almost 3 year old has had his fair share of run-ins on the playground but most of them have been with kids close to his own age. I only intervene if it gets physical and then explain to my son that it wasn’t ok for the other child to hit him and that he/she is still learning and to find someone else to play with. So far, this approach has worked well. 

But today was very different. I take my son to an indoor swimming center for lessons and let him play in the kids area after. This center is 99% children ages 10 and under all taking private or semiprivate lessons. The kids area is a quartered off section of the pool for kids to play. It’s about 3ft deep and monitored by a lifeguard. 

Today, a young boy of about 10-12 swam over to my son, hooked his legs around my son’s body and pulled him under. At first I thought they were playing but before my brain could make sense of what my eyes were seeing the lifeguard jumped in the pool and grabbed my son. She then had to shout at the older boy to let go for what seemed like forever but was probably only 45 seconds. After that I fished my kid from the pool and the lifeguard chased down the boy (who was alternately shrieking and splashing and lunging at her) and essentially had to tackle him and haul him out of the pool and into the arms of his father who was waiting on the deck. 

It was explained to me by the life guard that this boy is on the Autism spectrum but it was pretty apparent from his mannerisms. I understand that this kid wasn’t sincerely trying to hurt my son or if he was, he didn’t really understand the severity of it. 

My question is: what do I say to my son when he asks WHY that kid did that and then acted the way he did. My toddler is pretty smart- I can’t use the line of “he’s still learning” because he knows bigger kids are held to a higher standard. So far he’s asked once and I said, “that boy’s brain works differently than ours so he didn’t really understand how dangerous that was to hold you underwater. It wasn’t ok that he did that and I know that must have been scary for you. I’m glad the lifeguard was there to help.” But was this the right response? I know he’ll ask me again (and again, and again) so if anyone has a more age appropriate suggestion I am all ears.


TLDR: preteen boy with Autism held my son underwater in a pool and then had an aggressive meltdown when the lifeguard ejected him. What do I tell my son when he asks WHY that kid acted like that.",4.597224195075757,5.09959413671875,5.003487215909093,86.82423058712122,69.546875,8.159185606060607,27.42921401515152,8.101407402915765,1.5012427083333335,1986,61,424,25,33,631,227,512,0.032,0.863,0.106,0.9890000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,2,2,5,20,18,3,0,30,2,46,9,8,4,3,71,75,44,0,6,11,10,1,2,0,2,1,4,0,19,33,27,0,5,16,10,0,8,6,4,1,3,30,7,47,14,63,39,6,62,0,1,2,0,74,28,0,9,27,279,80,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545020043863776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363341818392312,0.0,0.0,0.09374595777004298,0.3937930044926032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641944446353816,0.0,0.0896088844488953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697283807565002,0.0,0.2351158849211235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407943059204608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004774526764534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797086246336264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962491023100173,0.08957446393245404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055018796686354364,0.0,0.05984865115311853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058536454715574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273380420045973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362266294754594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21536800667044512,0.07438176687637937,0.102895802442111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029354119621074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808414049060082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050245509126166,0.11214899833665017,0.0,0.1601821234777868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21427107253842767,0.11353924317167692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796844574143656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492529918569618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993198767168717,0.10017150096195876,0.08374471168095424,0.0,0.0,0.08391640415934676,0.09586794822088147,0.0,0.1189674449338586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922666140525169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819733262716546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583561947937316,0.08464214005169897,0.09204335369345017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836023530518879,0.0,0.0,0.1996383003372824,0.0,0.0,0.07149684659308793,0.0,0.0,0.32888631073609137,0.0,0.09095182619368716,0.0,0.08688967567439684,0.0,0.08358815285975411,0.0,0.0,0.09468404526839833,0.0,0.1900471898078044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333015691021998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781454573409003
parenting,0611023005,2020/02/09,"10/10 Parenting skills. Okay so basically I have a normal life consisting of a slightly over religious family who tend to use ‘God’ and ‘Christianity’ (A religion in which those are obliged to follow ‘Gods Path’ for you and of said path is not taken then you will be severely punished with hell or unimaginable pain during life. Most likely Hell.) And being a Christian ((Protestant I suppose)) for me is extremely difficult due to the fact I like girls as well as those of the opposite gender. Recently I told my parents and they accepted it, which sadly was short lived. After explaining and poring my heart out and saying that I respect them all but I chose to become an Atheist or some sort of free-floater until I figure out what religion I want to peruse or if I don’t even want to. This all backfired when apparently my Mom and Step-Dad had a sit down in which they discussed my ‘atrocity of behavior’ and recently being diagnosed with Depression they refused to accept it and said that currently I’m confused and can’t think straight and therefore when I say I’m a free-floater and Bisexual my parents flip their lid and get pissed. But there’s more. As the title suggests, literally my parents think that I’m being ‘sad on purpose’ because my ex left me and haven’t paid attention to me long enough to realize I’ve always been like this. But sure. Go ahead and yell at me that I’m straight because I’ve always been straight and that I’ll always be a Christian because I was born into that religion. I’ll definitely not move out at age nineteen despite my lack of adequate money to provide food and shelter for myself. Great parenting skills.",7.723200302629088,7.557071919614152,7.821876300359374,71.5674352184604,62.92282958199357,11.304785322489126,37.908265557026674,10.843485225782073,4.238181615282769,1321,61,230,31,17,429,179,311,0.091,0.78,0.13,0.8199,7,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,5,3,6,21,5,1,11,1,18,7,2,2,4,55,37,32,0,5,9,7,0,3,0,1,4,5,0,1,17,23,1,1,8,0,2,3,5,11,1,0,10,5,31,10,38,21,7,33,5,3,0,0,25,16,3,8,16,155,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796889468160673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049030908122074,0.1237438817975664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965034005936438,0.11372238112267727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577148431428495,0.0,0.07400405710677062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056251854999164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548414441451306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058538406544029274,0.0,0.0636772318428759,0.0,0.0,0.12352899204717245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277277244058408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173621907809415,0.0,0.1582800922998966,0.16421723150456455,0.0,0.09893697401859347,0.09915548361129804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312246705174886,0.0,0.11908512359397555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977940767570167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922279917120415,0.0,0.6220584480087491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22126002075228332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21315915289332776,0.1782038966151388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657791657537049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560021795679804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358664266495152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070629185074143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677010945912673,0.0,0.0,0.13217300086966793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074108248407856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gt031799,2020/02/09,"Parenting Parents of reddit with more than 1 kid. Do you actually have a favorite child or is it true when you say you love them equally? If you have a favorite, explain that dynamic please.",4.3258333333333345,6.396297694444449,5.151111111111113,79.50500000000002,72.05555555555556,8.133333333333335,34.22222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.1736222222222232,151,8,27,3,3,49,30,36,0.0,0.601,0.39899999999999997,0.9509,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,4,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,1,5,6,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,3,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,12,0,0,2,1,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.3340089516117352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089146320503261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7601070427252415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757128330857817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721891272673921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RealisticVegetable6,2020/02/09,"Little brother getting into trouble not sure how to proceed I’m fostering my little brother who is 15 currently. Me and my partner are in our late 20’s and work full time. He has his own bedroom in our house, cell phone, computer ect. Let me start there. 

Our mom is an addict and can’t support or take care of him. Last year she was hospitalized due to her addiction and when I went to go pick up my little bro to take care of him until she got out Discharged I found the house in complete squalor, no food...pills needles ect. I knew it was bad but didn’t realize how bad. So I called CPS and the police and started this process. 

The first six months were rough CPS wasn’t doing much and him and my mom started butting heads. She was insisting on keeping him locked in his bedroom with no contact with anyone for months. This was in the summer so there was no school. To make a long story short I started sneaking him food and books and phones so he can contact us all while making statements to CPS. Our Mom started instigating fights with my little brother and would end up calling the police on him with false claims that he hurt her. She ended up getting him arrested eventually after doing this many times ( but the assault charges were thankfully dropped in court a year later because there was no evidence.) The police would book him, charge him with disorderly and assault and then bring him home.

At the end of the summer he threatened to take his own life and ended up being committed to a mental health facility for a month at a time. This happened twice. I was still fighting to get him to stay with me in the meantime but there was nothing anyone could do. 
 
They just kept bringing him back to her and she would start the cycle all over again: abuse and neglect him, lock him up, refuse to take him to school, cut him off from all of his family, and call the police on him to get him arrested. He finally got tired of this and started running away. Well more like walk down the street and hanging out with his friends in the ghetto. These were all trap houses where he would smoke weed and drink with all kinds of sketchy people. 

Finally someone in child services got enough sense to put him into foster care and me being the one who wanted to take him, he went straight to me. 

So needless to say he’s been though hell in a year. He’s medicated and sees a therapist, psychiatrist and social workers multiple times a week.

He has multiple breakdowns with anxiety and panic attacks. Once a week he has some sort of episode where he cries and screams and can’t control his emotions or anger. He’s never done anything other than this, he’s not violent or threatening he’s just really really sad. He’s left the house in the freezing cold in the middle of the night because he was convinced we all hated him. 

I’m doing everything under the sun for him we are extremely caring and understand so are his therapists but he’s Basically self destructing. He’s a completely different kid than he was a year ago.

One week he’s doing great getting all his school work done and then the next day he’s smoking  weed and sneaking around and lying to me and neglecting all this classes and schoolwork. 

He doesn’t shower he struggles to take his meds and I have to hold his hand to get him to do anything.

This last week he did excellent in school and he wanted to stay at his friends house.  I want him to live a normal kid life so and I put trust in him and he said he could go. He promised  that they were just gonna play video games and chill . 

Well that was a lie, he went in a trap house in the ghetto with a bunch of adults and he called me from the street the next morning. He was covered in bedbugs and had been smoking weed and god knows what the entire time. 

I’m completely out of ideas. The cycle won’t stop. He fucks up, apologizes, deals with the punishment (take his phone away, extra chores yadada) and then gains trust back again and does something else to screw up. 

he says doesn’t want to live a better life. I don’t know how to get through to him that he’s only hurting himself.  He says he doesn’t care anymore and doesn’t care if he’s in jail or the mental health facility’s he just wants to smoke weed and be miserable. 

I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid his social workers are going to have him committed again. And if they do Is that a bad thing? What’s the answer here?",4.119480680609712,5.5436068041474655,4.449566820276498,86.94605352711805,71.3963133640553,7.415271180432472,27.17873094647288,7.882392219407189,1.5169220630981926,3478,120,700,45,65,1091,353,868,0.16399999999999998,0.727,0.11,-0.9956,3,0,4,0,4,0,71.0,7,0,3,9,31,51,14,4,47,0,64,15,2,7,12,131,129,72,0,14,17,7,3,1,3,6,9,5,5,6,22,64,2,8,10,6,0,13,18,28,2,5,34,10,82,23,106,83,17,132,1,6,1,2,137,56,3,8,61,440,104,14,0.0,0.054797517529994406,0.0,0.1008365012294032,0.0,0.0,0.04099695938374345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035380368239386416,0.0,0.045866593264459465,0.06467677025246432,0.0,0.07611799380477266,0.04117142679459439,0.0,0.05261492883855208,0.08690493998966604,0.07112527219740115,0.1158479817158523,0.05638593792829824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040903493477639385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890165226858052,0.0,0.28292370560023433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547363013960934,0.0,0.05187220054209585,0.07385214688494654,0.0,0.05080236892687686,0.02982678720140476,0.04768070145865397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04832037482525717,0.05300537555004525,0.0,0.04047282280963235,0.09465759491500372,0.0,0.04530642540767806,0.0,0.0,0.03863511569055683,0.05202391450673252,0.16385159179514822,0.0477875934121096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041565630593961816,0.0,0.04359945325608858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132706588156487,0.0,0.039339386701946484,0.1118489798315458,0.05070965543115825,0.07146374520101442,0.04275646713104729,0.16914240248723958,0.0,0.07885313943082582,0.0,0.1109686815061366,0.05098969993796315,0.0,0.0,0.040897849321523135,0.0,0.0,0.045661325224413546,0.04746483002228432,0.09832107591155742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463915308002705,0.0,0.0,0.3201909078896081,0.09902104959662704,0.0522095060558774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041108247632827374,0.0,0.048161229891049616,0.07625174383478002,0.07539823648880759,0.05217090095742682,0.0,0.050249687781826674,0.04729274910327624,0.09800113656043033,0.02259493154951889,0.185414643700147,0.08167745133145222,0.0409289209986672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061743150410639165,0.046889239957977946,0.0,0.0,0.0513722271801945,0.046591014801146295,0.09321625413316532,0.0,0.0,0.16249885463947605,0.11074656244117567,0.0,0.03399834592269172,0.0,0.035670089869359954,0.0,0.09837269969431042,0.04340156556352796,0.045314212995551474,0.04437717517015597,0.0,0.0,0.049253689278322924,0.06267905607894275,0.03517445833102268,0.0,0.05426325167029876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03206324221481214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298606395003174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059256603807804786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04399340213555147,0.11033721394786196,0.0,0.18722588047536445,0.03685447535974923,0.0,0.048247806935076576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429008864544054,0.039186638502148784,0.03560474961250338,0.0,0.0,0.22914702535182374,0.09859058813739356,0.0369345214024699,0.038666245634398126,0.0,0.04834950996569893,0.0,0.0,0.05248283170398774,0.04358914727438586,0.0,0.2434145133057059,0.0,0.0,0.04257987727933472,0.0,0.1073973371170999,0.030725789083177763,0.0,0.0454394203038151,0.0,0.13484085658105646,0.053156436763814464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04814685343351133,0.05563186796504355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639433024093015,0.0,0.14839267363594452,0.0,0.08316683366649942,0.12861989477658978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733966435244089,0.0,0.0,0.13141588711204935,0.0,0.0,0.1191313917619162
parenting,Jack_Val,2020/02/09,"Roommate of an expecting couple As the title states, I'm the mid-twenties roommate of an expecting couple.  I'm not related to them, and I have only known them for about 6 months - which was when I moved in with them.  They're expecting in April, and I have two questions, if I may:

1) any advice for supplies I can buy (brand of earplugs or something) to help me survive this? Do noise-canceling headphones help with baby cries from a room over?

2) should I consider moving out? I've never lived with a baby before, so I wonder if it's going to be awful for me as a student, or if things likes earplugs can make it manageable.  I'll have a window during the summer to do so, but if I don't move out then I'm going to be locked in for another (school) year, basically.

And some more context: I'm a graduate student (so a tight budget), and I really love living with them right now (I get to play with their dogs and cats).

Thanks!",4.4460516934046375,4.876659411764706,5.631885026737969,82.44037655971479,69.85561497326202,8.586274509803923,27.88279857397505,8.59863814320734,1.910961140819964,718,23,146,11,12,240,113,187,0.022000000000000002,0.866,0.11199999999999999,0.9499,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,5,1,6,4,0,0,11,1,13,1,0,1,1,32,24,19,0,8,8,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,12,0,1,3,1,2,5,3,0,0,1,1,1,17,4,28,19,2,22,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,10,9,97,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033043419342152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157540374701093,0.17204505822202393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961421043623296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630877548327943,0.18022670823763395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572147623261356,0.0,0.186493163659046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21994961772401148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015787889509343,0.0,0.289759286853243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808247075292308,0.0,0.109520136460049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096166457733274,0.5231515441477296,0.0,0.0,0.12654336826199125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478506362895625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379953628340587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510949460835356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011761812417506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605083998905776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263115668783666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510565605761938,0.0,0.0,0.10900294496966463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027567769617088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779303887978629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565776280985173
parenting,pissedoffgifts,2020/02/09,"Trying to stay strong with a child that is frequently ill Cross post from r/therapy.  Really wanting advice, so hoping to find some help here from fellow parents. Also, NOT asking for medical advice for my son.

I'm not sure if this is the best sub for this. I also know that there are much worse situations out there (but also much better).

My son is 13. Since he was an infant he has struggled with asthma, allergies, vocal cord dysfunction, and is very frequently ill. Whenever he is sick he gets a crazy asthma cough. He is on oral steroids several times a year. He had a great year in 2018, I actually thought he had outgrown his issues, but then it came back. He is sick much more so than other kids. His growth is also delayed from meds. Also, he doesn't respond well to medicine. He doesn't have the typical bout of illness like other people. I'm not asking for medical advice, we have been to all kinds of specialists, etc. And am trying to get this under control.

The reason I am posting here is, I am at the point where I feel like I'm just trying to survive. I'm always worried. I am concerned about his quality of life, and want him to live a full life. He misses out on so much school, sports, etc because he is always sick. Everytime he comes down with something I start panicking. How bad will it get? How much of his activities will he have to miss? I start having bad anxiety. I feel  so bad that he has to go through this all of the time. I know I should probably talk to someone professionally. I'm just wondering if there are any coping methods to stay strong mentally during these frequent episodes.",3.419814814814813,5.417904149681535,4.503517338995049,83.48825076669029,74.38216560509555,7.581788157584336,25.64236848313281,8.401726058763845,1.7840919084689781,1269,44,242,23,27,414,171,314,0.172,0.7490000000000001,0.079,-0.9836,1,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,1,0,0,6,22,17,0,1,11,0,31,13,0,4,3,40,57,19,0,6,9,3,2,2,1,3,13,0,0,3,12,11,0,2,8,1,0,5,5,6,1,0,6,2,19,11,37,48,13,32,0,2,0,0,33,11,0,5,14,155,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.08768606614317741,0.0,0.0,0.26341744406484835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592873000912917,0.14953405059116315,0.0,0.0,0.061104863056513525,0.0,0.06873925855478373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800564067119314,0.0,0.0,0.06909338029322498,0.2250769215949216,0.05477511624359648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429786808185976,0.07946994205739577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277082449067164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740260982391038,0.0,0.0,0.1007806527264838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004254064972638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086734344143982,0.06419283104548486,0.0,0.0,0.08212635528382227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408374665998828,0.0,0.05106698628759053,0.0,0.0,0.0990660737036827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060228288758122785,0.0,0.0,0.08924684719278939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937858609337788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935707398916166,0.09876453328105103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693528077699695,0.0877977770780237,0.0,0.0793441069801854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980927227160256,0.18104004972907503,0.09055327167616843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33027088285266154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977396728842457,0.0,0.0,0.06229453243098443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494254944332141,0.0,0.1721135789730428,0.0,0.09687949289479204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756377354049999,0.0923864825811584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093862533499668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151120805653234,0.0,0.07432944896348183,0.10100141585704887,0.0,0.0,0.07613432561432162,0.06917520114071744,0.0,0.0,0.12720045774007765,0.1915481456606236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093936542549307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468780325867292,0.0,0.0,0.07222249661590244,0.0,0.0,0.10275766549448292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133527881836985,0.10479100094786913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183018083827856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741402486222349,0.1059982764272151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079094095210781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744452339816777,0.0,0.09125268433330352,0.0915704936809656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572807107187433
parenting,Soulgangster,2020/02/09,New parent What’s the best options to help heal a baby’s diaper rash? Best products? Best techniques?,1.2723684210526294,3.3464940000000034,2.4098684210526318,86.24532894736844,109.0,4.0052631578947375,20.539473684210527,5.985473137389443,0.7481473684210531,82,3,13,1,4,26,16,19,0.091,0.3720000000000001,0.536,0.9342,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8895216840241584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18937992247965735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728779072822065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137261008104167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jayrud1989,2020/02/09,"Need help with my son and fiancee. So, I met an amazing women, my soul mate to say. She has a daughter and i have a son. Her daughter is 4 and my son 3. We've been together for almost a year now and it's been rough and amazing and I need some advice. 


So, when me and gf met my son loved her so much, she was so good to him and her daughter loved me too just as much, the kids always wanted to be with her or me. They where fine being with whomever and showed tons of love towards eachother and me and my gf.

My son has never had a mother before, I've had full custody him since he was 2 months old.

About 4 months into our relationship my sons feelings changed towards my gf and became distant he was suddenly afraid of my gf and didn't want just her around or to do much of anything with her alone. But he still loved when all 4 of us where all together doing stuff he would even say he loves my gf still. But when I wasn't around he was cold or scared of her. 

Her daughter loves me so much and constantly wants me still, she calls me her daughter even though we aren't married. My son and her daughter love eachother so much.. and it makes my gf hurt seeing how much she loves me and how my son is scared of her now... we've broken up twice because of it but got back together and are now living together and currently as of christmas I asked her to marry me and she said yes. 

Me and my gf are incredibly happy with eachother and love eachother more then words can explain, and my son and her daughter see our love for eachother. But my son still remains distant and scared of my fiancee and each day I see her cry and hurt because of it and I feel so helpless and scared. I love her daughter and can't wait to be her stepdad and I love my fiancee so much and I hate seeing her hurt. I've explained to my son how much we love eachother and he tells me does love her, hes just scared and I asked why and he doesn't say, and shes never hurt him and continues to try and love him and play and do things with him, but shes gotten distant towards him the last month and I feel it's making things worse.. because shes giving up on him and she wants to break up because of it. My son says hes happy and cannot wait for her to be his mother but I feel its because hes never had one that hes now scared...

Idk what else to say, but I could use some help or advice for my family. 

Thank you.",2.2935502958579903,3.42471835502959,3.3979487179487187,93.85538461538464,75.50887573964496,6.06785009861933,23.256410256410252,6.163053881298487,0.2817558185404341,1854,52,429,11,39,598,179,507,0.092,0.737,0.171,0.9939,2,1,0,0,0,0,41.0,5,1,1,0,35,36,1,7,7,1,39,15,0,6,5,100,85,72,0,8,14,22,5,0,11,1,0,6,0,2,12,55,0,2,6,2,0,0,9,13,0,2,16,16,93,23,45,63,16,41,1,5,4,15,123,13,0,7,27,297,105,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098484859617575,0.0,0.0,0.05046025829342499,0.052190862235401134,0.0,0.0,0.041930138774975916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041468280742468784,0.089719037486203,0.09421934068491243,0.0,0.0,0.038748298633974346,0.0,0.15359232338250886,0.0,0.04287983745756969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145581456784632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053308000806518784,0.0,0.0,0.05445579531038585,0.0,0.040233871222535834,0.0,0.05535319027050109,0.032498638586982175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04409833456763532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04209600762949473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656681473591669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750504519282964,0.0,0.10191873504530423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048340549697000516,0.0,0.042266376386625434,0.040303045384340715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728633449325152,0.0,0.04975161742532496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755332302772916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21578249656019652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04107616454296098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444970146064152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6822105274628361,0.0,0.06727403514390372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066711990210308,0.0,0.2963510482670341,0.07472998403769944,0.11659613399208882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052877874131755334,0.0,0.0341468891156137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410209507147653,0.0,0.0,0.0479342835874633,0.20036850402140147,0.3027067942042285,0.0,0.16062343784353958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041684741338645484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097230376666186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05768672597628539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04404478495294331,0.046394136701185834,0.0,0.0,0.06695634417286536,0.0,0.04950983450158914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034212825876532835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061531061681062,0.0435224648497732,0.0,0.0,0.11888990963410816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04547089643144759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135370161587589,0.03579699508870498,0.0,0.0,0.03245076329451565
parenting,autism1013,2020/02/09,asking for my son from his account  i need dental work i can be put too sleep but would it be better too get gas and pre meds and be put in the papoose board its safe also will i need too dress comfy for a mild sedation vist it could take a while i would be in papoose board the whole vist for this option any ideas im scared so im getting advice,0.8554135338345858,2.51772905263158,2.462706766917293,96.74394736842106,80.84210526315789,4.869172932330828,17.43609022556391,5.288315135182226,-0.7054751879699257,272,5,64,1,7,89,52,76,0.05,0.8490000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.5927,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,1,4,0,9,1,1,0,0,11,15,6,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,6,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,39,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945707548553353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923045970673444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540355353965275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861436195393017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609911905390754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897539428739066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20805647314310904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477415108090332,0.4301520527001944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116946942966964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952792837600303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4003267827194871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993466802134556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925662877312447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970806966648184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230236605059356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449565130217214,0.0,0.0,0.2828880858644844,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m_collins_singer,2020/02/09,"Dad to be looking for community My wife is being induced in a week, our first baby. Of my close friends, I'm going to be the first dad. So... 

I'm wondering where there are places to find a dad communities? I'm a reddit newbie, is there a place they/we congregate other than this subreddit? I don't mind if this is an online community or irl. (I live in the UK)",-0.284399999999998,1.9704750266666693,2.9110000000000014,87.5505,92.06666666666666,6.2,19.5,7.554174236665415,0.8673999999999995,277,9,60,6,10,99,52,75,0.0,0.9490000000000001,0.051,0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,1,0,7,14,3,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,1,8,11,0,10,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,3,3,39,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25024584013982903,0.4657838139549864,0.0,0.0,0.21153517244327585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560535765629627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417680979848893,0.0,0.2299208370451613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764572975026051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5721199633427221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962373871256816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29692157335518865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Smallviolinforyou,2020/02/09,"Neighbours reported us to social services! Why?? Neighbours reported us to social services!

So, to cut a long story short to ease my typing thumb I’ll keep this brief. We have received a call from social services about an anonymous complaint. The reason for the complaint is that someone has heard our 3 year old crying for long periods of time and being sent to bed early. Yes, that is literally it! Our son is very emotional, has frequent tantrums that words can’t describe and constantly prevents his younger sister who will be 2 years old in a few months from using any of her toys and pushes her over etc.. so at times we simply have to take him to bed early to give her a chance to play without being bullied by her big brother. The person from social services who contacted us dropped the ball by saying that our son can be heard crying/screaming the place down through the wall and basically confirmed that it was our next door neighbours who called them. We live in a semi detached house and we’re not stupid so naturally I went round to speak to our neighbour to ask them if they knew anything about it, apparently this didn’t ring any bells. Now, I’m no phycologist however I know when I’m being lied to and the look of panic on our neighbours face when they opened the door confirmed it was them who made the call before they denied it. Any who.... am I right to feel confused by this “anonymous complaint”? And is it fair enough that I feel pretty annoyed that after contacting social services about how we raise our kids with no actual reason they point blank denied it when confronted?",7.989838039867108,7.6109333720930215,7.231924833887043,76.72037894518273,62.455149501661126,9.518355481727577,34.7593438538206,8.660442795831766,2.8369616279069767,1279,48,227,15,16,395,170,301,0.126,0.7979999999999999,0.076,-0.9366,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,14,0,7,0,12,8,5,2,15,1,20,1,1,5,0,29,37,15,0,1,3,4,3,0,5,1,0,5,4,2,22,13,0,2,6,3,0,5,6,7,0,0,9,9,32,1,38,22,3,39,0,0,2,0,61,13,0,2,20,149,54,8,0.0,0.0,0.09915576726199457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20729289770786904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361558353549582,0.0,0.0949907376269684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864618104904931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31126257595085843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980327663076273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116127609380058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429649552872047,0.0,0.10498930171909024,0.11332094045354567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027531688248302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747265136077343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724319164540342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031478477366292,0.0,0.0,0.055841671924048236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972264524322265,0.17984160862459225,0.08532600400205467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614493190841847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110336754994288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806236840658973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324319323010332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192163173554637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872109582876382,0.10615982202658704,0.0,0.09605338719939574,0.0,0.0,0.10337292435538532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089420353289374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677356629227223,0.0,0.08080358812042901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5178881096054189,0.08609301116252625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639735383638081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849809847977573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366669498541758,0.08775758797229165,0.0,0.08383810062968289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094192599484445,0.09168635571389333,0.0,0.0,0.09794749011687336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086578273616828
parenting,iceebooo23,2020/02/09,"How to maintain sanity whilst studying and caring for an EBF 7month old I (23f) am currently studying a masters degree which is very challenging whilst looking after my daughter. I'm finding it hard to juggle watching her and also finding time to study. The only time I seem to be getting to is when I'm in bed at night because I'm too tired to move to the living room ( or anywhere else for that matter)

This means not only am I shattered when I'm studying but I also dont get any time to myself.

How do i juggle all of this? Probably the most exhausted I've ever felt in my life 

Any tips would be great",3.745528455284554,4.932229406504064,5.0895934959349605,82.91455284552845,72.00813008130079,7.0926829268292675,28.300813008130078,7.3871296695380915,1.6754325203252027,479,18,91,5,9,160,81,123,0.055999999999999994,0.8540000000000001,0.09,0.629,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,0,5,0,9,3,0,2,2,17,20,10,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,9,3,15,16,2,17,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,3,12,58,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817038495098743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395502866705805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736784391802363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957732831793907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20642426082458426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713487878816198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932060451002308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911341427430165,0.0,0.3219611495283839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18404239210201426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418508747084406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777881136278174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440655856890487,0.0,0.0,0.15552693044370194,0.0,0.14790570935010414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918583312883636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719941576744797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528704455172585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848198924094715,0.0,0.0,0.2679111772008614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989904513806186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034307890324176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30811026809366954,0.202436714379144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532654949949442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511843355108818,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,practicalmailbox,2020/02/09,"when should I stop showering with my son? i still shower with my two year old because it's easier that way. if i didn't, then i'd have to wait until he was asleep to take one and every time i've done that, i swear i hear him crying most times. i know that if he was crying, he would be fine to cry to himself for 10-15 minutes but then i would be stressing the entire shower. 

i don't know if there's a point that i should quit bringing him in with me or when that would be.",2.5325714285714302,2.7781898761904777,3.858095238095242,94.11857142857146,74.04761904761905,6.761904761904763,20.714285714285715,6.1826913282559595,-0.09128571428571464,367,6,91,2,7,121,67,105,0.127,0.8390000000000001,0.035,-0.7783,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,0,14,1,1,0,0,19,20,11,0,8,5,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,0,6,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,4,1,15,1,10,8,1,15,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,5,11,62,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098771014084256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5999834856798162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632003107610268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340117531591052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520524986232347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001209699536579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105102513435765,0.0,0.1233748193891446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211426835340915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936530329798797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540071891047798,0.15221802528716816,0.2085596830036035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368933990051724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21233205944917605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785517791116376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451807681335635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880102625562733,0.0,0.0,0.11724661203969235
parenting,vvitch-mist,2020/02/09,"I have an expressive child My daughter is 2, and I baked some cookies which she got excited about. When I had given her one she took the TINNIEST bite and went ""EW. YUCK."" Like damn okay lol.

She also gets super hyped and pumped for food she likes including going ""om nom nom"" while eating it.",1.3987969924812025,3.98191910526316,2.4909774436090224,91.70684210526319,86.01754385964912,6.064160401002509,18.669172932330827,7.447530270364453,0.5706962406015039,227,6,46,4,7,72,49,57,0.040999999999999995,0.7120000000000001,0.247,0.9118,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,6,1,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,0,4,9,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,5,0,9,5,2,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,4,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846644688151416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642402773000192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43043336394464826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18597662005095,0.0,0.20230267701994156,0.0,0.2846971153730461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478122879477699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24121057695445694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954893608905346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299824105818078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Missxpandaxchan,2020/02/09,"Everything changes when you become a parent. It really does.
I mean it's such a beautiful thing.
I love being a Mum.
My son makes me feel so much pride and love.

But your social life changes, and you find people just don't invite you out anymore.
I am currently on maternity leave and all my work friends went out last night and I didn't even get an invite... like even if I couldn't make it I just would have liked an invite, to know that I'm thought of... I just don't feel like part of the team anymore.


Does anybody else feel this way??",1.8991891891891903,3.7287885135135137,2.8777387387387385,94.20093243243244,78.27927927927928,6.241801801801803,21.009909909909908,7.1686216300943375,0.33920828828828764,419,11,95,5,10,133,75,111,0.036000000000000004,0.735,0.23,0.9754,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,4,0,3,8,7,0,0,6,0,8,3,0,2,1,23,21,8,0,3,5,3,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,7,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,3,14,7,6,15,3,9,0,0,0,2,12,3,0,1,7,57,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106188428469449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295718639421198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313332470188295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740910212230387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082282850029806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20687137518253212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074588015352302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375515746021207,0.11187816961510297,0.0,0.0,0.1431335268544749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099212226128267,0.0,0.08181930245584831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860656480358729,0.12765343632465287,0.0,0.16582138095923207,0.0,0.0,0.11061427453516604,0.22952690594384606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826830566954953,0.0,0.2090692219465368,0.0,0.0,0.17058803308376655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512220679140413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696256156804133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389058332007054,0.16958723594622713,0.0,0.10856972892298407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032474833967328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963839988132028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040409628370123,0.0,0.0,0.12432635067188852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430523334680875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517378931344302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400982245538135,0.0,0.0,0.11124722777830497,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YourLocalHealer,2020/02/09,"Male role model to 7yo nephew who has abandonment/anger issues Hi all, not really a parent but I figured I could ask for advice about my nephew. His father is in jail and his mother has flings with teenage boys who just graduated high school so he doesn't really have a male role model except me. 

My nephew is living with his grandmother since his mother usually throws verbal and emotional abuse at him constantly, he is also the oldest child out of four being 7 years old. 

My problem consists of many I will list below to make this short and sweet.

* Nephew sees everything as a competition, I have allowed him to win some board/card games on his first few tries to boost his self confidence but whenever he loses he throws a tantrum, kicking over chairs, throwing things across the rooms, and kicking cats. This is every single time we play a game and I've tried telling him that playing games is about having fun and not about winning all the time.
* Nephew still sleeps with his grandmother and refuses to sleep alone
* Nephew constantly lies and tries to bargain with adults to get what he wants
* Nephew screams and sobs until he gets what he wants
* Nephew tries to get sick on purpose in several ways to get out of school so he won't have to leave his grandmother which has included him eating too much candy on purpose to throw up
* Nephew tried jumping out of a moving car on the way to school begging and screaming not to go
* Nephew has run away from his grandmother to avoid going to school refusing to get in the car while he sprinted around the backyard

His grandmother always gives him what he wants and spoils him rotten refusing to say ""no"" firmly to things and when I come to visit and try to teach him things that he can and can't do he throws a fit. Last time I tried calming him down from one of his tantrums he said he hated me and only liked me coming over because I brought card games to play. I honestly don't know what to do about this, I'm just about to give up on the whole thing and let his grandmother turn him into an entitled little shit.",5.191690595836324,6.479172027638192,4.836988513998566,85.70096733668342,68.67336683417085,8.198277099784638,26.27458722182341,8.527137837955566,1.6439401292175173,1649,48,321,25,28,502,209,398,0.15,0.736,0.114,-0.9666,2,2,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,0,0,4,14,21,4,1,15,0,24,5,3,2,2,52,47,25,0,5,8,14,0,1,0,2,1,4,2,6,16,28,1,4,2,7,1,16,8,11,0,3,2,7,36,10,65,40,7,60,0,2,1,0,75,27,2,1,16,197,52,6,0.0,0.10750852636745777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886671617476281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397618357875327,0.0,0.07256235880085582,0.07550046598630318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077518147988554,0.0848268612323145,0.0,0.08525041328037603,0.0,0.0,0.055312442677719474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563238095178462,0.0,0.1961089584584251,0.0,0.07244612382602625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092846619745616,0.0,0.1020669299740446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764498493174488,0.0,0.08154857909840446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718085933748436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23703172877312856,0.17408642731875545,0.10313587429717064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958401781932747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586863906394638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470587034101753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049866690938684205,0.07396277843407638,0.0,0.09607739840491604,0.0,0.09278474633775363,0.0,0.04432952264548695,0.09094232736108436,0.0801224473835674,0.0,0.0,0.10151151111754926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060567662671020886,0.09199309234424803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643908805550076,0.06670214699195016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521323453609076,0.0,0.06148575023915931,0.06900958932805476,0.0,0.0,0.10075271811065876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682306987635209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625691162798245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631168065040974,0.07215771692901088,0.0,0.367322817073576,0.07230565387936884,0.0,0.09465849654982028,0.10250700065706216,0.09314024285432836,0.07505859716983629,0.0,0.18160509009537054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246269807557236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930815125749953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411265659253013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872845090714366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43123134344350256,0.0986958174656552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993400374073974,0.0,0.16055712860772306,0.14404563945844376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130463780203562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058431663283913436
parenting,dustinmachat,2020/02/09,"Not parent, but guardian big brother - I hate the Peppa Pig show, and the character Peppa Pig especially. Okay, so about a year ago, my little sister (4 years old now, as of January) started watching the popular (and poorly animated) *Peppa Pig*. At first, it seemed like a light-hearted and cheery kid's show - which it is, but it still has a lot wrong with it. The worst of it all is Peppa Pig herself.

Peppa pig always acts like an jerk to her friends, her parents, and most of all, her little brother. She whines whenever wants something and screams ""YAYYY"" as if she didn't already know she would get it. But she is so picky, yuck this, yuck that, I hate this, I hate that. She also makes her annoying whiny little brother cry. My sister has been whining and talking in a high-pitched (kinda) British voice when she doesn't get what she demands. My sister sees no problem with this, or Peppa.

The running joke of the show is poor daddy pig's obesity and suffering. He gets hurt and laughed at, he also gets called fat and big-bellied 24/7. I seriously am upset because my sister has been picking up on calling people fat, even when they aren't. 

So why don't I just turn it off? My mom INSISTS that this is what my sister watches when she goes to work or is eating snacks. When my little sister sees me turn it off, she screams, whines, and ""hits"" me (waves her stiff little arm around in hoping that it will get me). 

TL;DR: Peppa Pig is a jerk and my sister is getting a bad example from it.

What do I do? I have to convince my mom first if I want to phase this show out.",2.5658755760368632,4.572018983870969,3.5349539170506965,89.43814516129034,76.90322580645163,5.847926267281108,24.29723502304148,6.7097532225279775,0.7937880184331791,1215,41,245,11,28,389,161,310,0.222,0.68,0.098,-0.9940000000000001,2,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,0,0,1,3,15,28,6,1,13,2,23,7,3,2,2,39,44,29,0,7,9,14,0,2,1,2,4,3,0,1,23,15,5,1,2,5,2,2,6,19,0,2,3,7,36,9,24,38,5,31,0,5,4,0,37,16,0,9,15,159,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965986720879046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116171772068101,0.16177291330665874,0.0841616131315077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004142538101333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445272375629262,0.06165769099816466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656284408055445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110418236728876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034976564650121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680600962552127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206955056137205,0.0,0.0,0.07814518443905052,0.0,0.3170678071393444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995823410617401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985855182068507,0.0,0.1068663511799746,0.0,0.10046084616783868,0.0,0.0,0.10827893447665192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555872218284238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882969823976208,0.5068745518756813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599075151581953,0.0,0.0,0.06751577129236358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692205385575124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613576095649134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22462142909463398,0.0,0.0,0.07012193300372617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678310620160976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120060689744906,0.0920795617378585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786716796185472,0.0,0.0,0.0715916921406779,0.0,0.08077536320117462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129736064193009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22003570703124584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931711737903106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126857449110708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363552632294104,0.0,0.0,0.07185124924327899,0.11058732341605974,0.0,0.1302694751797528
parenting,Trash555254,2020/02/09,"My kids get into fist fights often and I have no idea what to do. I have 2 kids 13yo and 15yo boys, I know brothers fight.  I have a twin brother and we would fight all the time growing up but not like these 2.  I mean they get into full on fist fights, and while its only happened twice my oldest got a broken nose and my youngest got a busted lip from those fights.  I have had enough of it, they fight like animals and then act like nothing happened 10 minutes later.

I need advice on what to do, as a single parent this is too much for me to deal with alone cause they are starting to get stronger than me.",3.2138095238095232,4.111927365079366,3.6366666666666654,93.925,72.96825396825396,5.917460317460318,22.73015873015873,5.033348758259628,0.0007206349206345664,472,11,106,1,9,147,84,126,0.235,0.73,0.035,-0.9762,1,1,0,0,7,0,10.0,1,0,3,0,2,9,6,0,5,0,10,2,2,1,1,20,21,10,0,2,2,3,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,10,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,6,0,1,3,1,16,3,15,17,5,14,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,1,9,72,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185531427325112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139415731438752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21220166526174494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129619630656498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213439387255048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237688891435287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304217084256637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3653338147395869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23318949931953165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135240642961536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30275525511880963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22501250240844106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185083833046986,0.15316714134679996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982070324141456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157103848449904,0.0,0.0,0.2293686994966357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462094991315598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045113700290845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673958457628952,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SystemOverride646,2020/02/09,"Children's short stories subreddit or equivalent? Is there a good subreddit with short stories for kids aged 3-5? My boyfriends child just turned 3 and loves books but has a short attention span. I'm looking for about 5 minute stories with capturing content. This kid means the world to me and I want to help him learn too. Or does any parent on here have any experience with writing their own stories for their kids? I'm also an artist so I would illustrate the ones I write too. Any and all help is welcome, I'm brand new to this parenting thing. Thank you!!",3.4205555555555516,5.7412399444444455,3.4812592592592613,89.3396666666667,75.48148148148148,7.282962962962964,27.46666666666667,8.238735603445708,1.8310377777777784,446,18,89,8,10,136,74,108,0.0,0.807,0.193,0.9649,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,2,0,8,4,0,0,5,0,5,1,0,0,1,18,14,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,6,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,4,11,13,2,8,0,0,1,1,17,6,0,2,2,49,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295297947978153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44121799421978203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926145583418635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21155593027269995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813990484266344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899256942018041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816143667094221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519430666176912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355840723658862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088772549519537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655179179879238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4802898658724269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911459106850188,0.0,0.0,0.143681788663191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352422933180116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756307920673898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363372497858074,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontdropthatdinosaur,2020/02/09,"Still toe-walking at 5 years old? My son will be 5yo in April and he still toe-walks at least half the time. It doesn’t seem to slow him down (he’s a pretty fast runner for his age), but it concerns me that he hasn’t outgrown it. I mentioned it at a check up maybe a year or two ago but his doctor didn’t seem concerned. He is an otherwise regular kid, and I tend to over-worry, so I guess I’m just looking to see if anyone else has had a similar experience with their kids.",3.935566343042069,3.4262021844660215,5.196262135922332,88.38364886731395,70.84466019417475,8.420064724919095,26.875404530744337,7.793537801064563,1.212159870550162,367,10,88,4,6,123,78,103,0.0,0.976,0.024,0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,6,0,8,1,0,0,0,11,15,7,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,2,2,9,0,11,11,1,18,0,0,2,0,12,6,0,5,11,52,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541757268291887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414530298945944,0.2258793292417688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22564216656717895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841595240735382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156445516343741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24285295069458845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851243244702748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22147386422481208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313274983184291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22427913991315826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756718601955748,0.4013828038941175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35210682105063656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854744979943233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153497650181921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238799086237244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28392797610355125
parenting,Fligadaburg,2020/02/09,"help, i think something is wrong with my son my son got sick today, i think he got food poisoning and a huge stomachache. when i came into his room to try and give him some tea he started getting aggressive and murmured something about ""striking me with a sword and banishing me in the depths of hell"". i only tried to give him tea and i dont see any reason for this, is there something im missing?",6.9978750000000005,5.7247490375000005,6.812500000000004,81.84250000000003,64.875,9.5,35.0,8.07648339933343,2.524125,313,12,64,3,4,99,56,80,0.16899999999999998,0.7709999999999999,0.06,-0.8402,0,0,3,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,3,0,3,5,0,1,0,13,14,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,9,3,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,3,1,12,0,9,11,1,9,1,1,1,0,10,5,1,1,3,36,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323001982562398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22251257551298526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280103356298277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352497909166353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164398173370844,0.3732588402840047,0.0,0.0,0.3111977020196369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040229770197198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21014663339651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796351259424131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002908688919824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550306070878978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4493206776456378,0.0,0.0,0.13770299887369492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493186771878311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440999235688596,0.0,0.0,0.2641724140407449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127091233139613,0.0,0.0
parenting,rataktaktaruken,2020/02/09,"Which school my kid should go? My kid will be 4yo this year, I'm in doubt to choose between a private school or to keep in a public one. 
We are testing the private school for a month now, they will teach how to read, write, they seem to be more rigorous, but my kid also looks more introverted now and she told me that other kids dont like to play with her. The market for private schools is very competitive in my country, I wonder if its too soon for her to know such things and private schools are just pushing things too early to atract the parents, making kids that are prematurely educated but also stressed children.",12.924256198347102,7.226446198347112,11.128161157024795,69.15769628099176,58.09090909090909,13.75289256198347,45.12603305785124,9.516144504307137,4.263378512396693,494,18,98,5,4,153,80,121,0.095,0.884,0.02,-0.8061,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,2,0,11,4,0,2,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,19,19,9,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,6,8,4,0,1,4,2,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,1,12,2,15,13,2,11,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,5,7,70,20,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445804526047793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922133200850754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690807200955444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592249736338524,0.0,0.0,0.08404094106945005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470908396282132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841445155477507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207541895066652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205944231163647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362268310150796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979978189722264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529615793896211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7738170169819005,0.0,0.13921280407928566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516956901446049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031867679181302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612180149656434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261751776339546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583543052123687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847559319048113
parenting,ReleaseTheHouseTiger,2020/02/09,"My daughter and her phone Yesterday my eldest daughter (13) hit my youngest (11) in a moment of anger. Being angry is not a problem, hitting someone because you're angry is. So my husband and I told her that she wasn't allowed any screentime today. That means no tablet, no laptop, no tv, no phone.

This afternoon I caught my daughter on her phone, which she had smuggled upstairs. My husband told her no screentime for the next couple of days. I know that that won't work. She needs her phone for school (homework is assigned digitally) and me and my husband are working tomorrow, so no one checks on her for 2 hours. 

What would be the best approach in this? I hate being lied to, like everyone else. Doing chores, meh, she already does chores. She lives in this house and I want her to be a responsible adult who can take care of herself. I can't take away her phone. She needs it for school. 

Let's just say, I am not mad at her. Just dissappointed. What would you do?",2.4325279955207137,4.822223579787238,3.144479283314673,90.14184210526315,79.15957446808511,5.447256438969768,25.32026875699888,6.5966054737557815,0.8915276595744679,755,29,150,7,19,237,110,188,0.16899999999999998,0.741,0.09,-0.9354,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,3,4,7,3,0,5,0,19,0,0,1,0,18,33,7,0,6,4,6,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,1,12,5,0,0,2,1,1,2,11,4,0,1,5,1,32,3,16,18,1,17,0,0,0,0,33,7,0,0,9,103,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051391091790386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123958619157047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368821002493005,0.0,0.0,0.09971647033882576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171666464819206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667800775287373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099747006252015,0.0,0.10549516601296732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314941574111226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664957999611607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156307105404044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150076950610115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109273644870978,0.18874863924368654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989894799720519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727099650963287,0.0,0.07991662121610818,0.0,0.14444358739585925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818589722058445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425840716712797,0.0,0.0,0.17396852391977186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084561977685498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652337255281773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130084886718761,0.0,0.3311021265767153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860027586476434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459826686064232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505412319669862,0.312614210808088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648335514538244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23817547032969305,0.0,0.0,0.23240419315047905,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trinity0519,2020/02/09,"Pros & cons of being an older parent? What are the pros and cons of being an older parent, for example having your first child at age 40?  I'll get started:

Pros: kids keep you younger, more financially stable

Cons: less energy, kids graduating high school when I'll be 60 

Any other thoughts based on your experiences?",4.746949152542372,7.005056237288137,5.412000000000003,77.27833898305086,71.37288135593221,8.109830508474579,23.664406779661018,8.841846274778883,1.8379600000000007,254,7,44,5,5,82,46,59,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.5893,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,9,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,5,5,2,9,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,6,23,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054426510533581,0.0,0.1917042518544337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27575601088083423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397872294716955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728310108822748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978468437860612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505690513935829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6260416208080285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28530169715612963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995329615913751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22380012936213095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lashermosasestrellas,2020/02/09,Kid #2 When do you think is the appropriate time to have another child?,0.91,3.4918457142857164,3.1542857142857166,84.91571428571432,91.85714285714286,8.514285714285714,21.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.109685714285716,56,2,12,2,2,19,14,14,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7709110128848125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4710801857855466,0.0,0.0,0.4286953099500477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittenmcmuffenz,2020/02/09,"Help! My child rages and I don’t know what to do. My 3 yo son experiences rage over the simplest things like wanting a toy another child is playing with.  It can be that simple.  He clenches his fists, turns red, screams, and lashes out.  We’re currently doing time outs and talking to him about his behavior when it happens.  If it’s a special case he may get a swat on his behind followed by time outs and then taking about what happened.  The only reason I’m pulling my hair out is because this happens almost constantly, like every 5-20 minutes.  He was so angry the other day he bit me (he never bit anyone before). I watch others’ kids and don’t see this kind of anger displayed so I’m at a loss at how to tackle this.",2.4347161803713533,4.3765854689655175,3.8151724137931033,87.57591511936344,77.06896551724137,5.840848806366048,24.94694960212201,6.67199483983844,0.9428885941644564,563,20,111,5,13,185,103,145,0.131,0.7879999999999999,0.08,-0.8686,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,6,10,3,0,7,0,10,1,1,2,1,18,22,11,0,2,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,12,10,0,0,2,2,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,5,10,5,17,19,2,18,0,1,3,0,15,8,0,3,10,68,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526064725477706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399896646298795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293631937691127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278029168121112,0.0,0.1574297617617248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039656936136297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19992992955587535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931605233792265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558787840060366,0.0,0.0,0.1809751408399291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666001432803598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4908108168544719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400820736542732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265929607291254,0.1016765790296045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18077294192833504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426910072818875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407083331785972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902209464342718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474289027918976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910438776909573,0.14870391507820838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291232822419933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157614709553152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20123759759349494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912360715039576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beyondmeatdick,2020/02/09,"Almost silly to ask but humour me My baby loves baby shark like all babies. She is fixated on hearing them a lot. Do you ever wonder if this Pinkfong thing does some mind control tactic on babies like it could have some decoded inner message?? 😭

It was funny at first but now any time she gets access to iPad which is not a lot, she wants to watch baby shark and no other educational nursery rhymes. Now she like frozen which makes me feel a little better. But I want to get rid of the baby shark obsession, she is 20 months old.",3.063904761904759,4.958553104761903,4.46857142857143,83.80476190476192,75.09523809523809,6.19047619047619,20.238095238095237,6.937597516519254,0.4953809523809518,416,9,78,4,9,138,77,105,0.057,0.72,0.223,0.9706,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,3,3,8,0,1,4,0,7,1,0,2,2,21,17,5,0,4,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,3,11,7,8,15,5,12,0,0,1,1,11,5,0,7,10,53,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072140011899158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072187090579474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193454881456091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830158577844937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320935076748567,0.1652195553756763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18108889372771905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871831910710552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463179142953476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760175229509064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622841786191005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23322908543935475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30329175536395553,0.2074017227962398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518549105084792,0.1867655561431229,0.0,0.13812971306347546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20894383724898186,0.0,0.1651723393987999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217141890347507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747741738092098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066458355234914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441094705969937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22441054535105384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,proteamom,2020/02/09,"10 month old hitting My ten month old slaps me (pretty hard too) and slaps my cat. I’ve tried stopping her from the activity immediately. I’ve tried saying “OW!”, making a sad face and noises, I’ve tried “No Ma’am!”. I’ve also tried putting her down. Is this just normal and she’ll grow out of it if I keep trying to teach her not to? Or is this abnormally rough for her age? I’m a FTM and an only child so not sure.",-0.00977272727272549,2.0846484772727294,2.323818181818183,94.07572727272728,86.95454545454545,4.883636363636365,15.618181818181819,6.2581,-0.6465945454545454,318,6,75,3,10,108,62,88,0.134,0.866,0.0,-0.8585,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,3,1,1,1,1,15,7,8,0,2,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,9,1,7,5,0,10,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,2,6,39,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402242407107858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17253207604674406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119203359667254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285622239832698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30746351125584365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887074424293011,0.0,0.0,0.4042033205437603,0.0,0.0,0.14648123914531933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959437890881627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361654048036253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531635225274661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102251014988855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815235431901026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6538149486693909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FaithyAnn,2020/02/09,"My child was hiding under the bed..... My boyfriend and I have been together around eight months and have been living together for three. This morning we decided to have some morning sex and I got up and locked the door..... not knowing my oldest son was hiding under my bed THE ENTIRE TIME. 

When we were finished we got dressed and unlocked my door and my youngest came in asking where his brother was, to which he then popped out from under the bed. 

My son is almost 9. I don’t know how to handle this situation. I briefly asked why he was under there and he said “I wanted to prank you”. Please help.",2.7281818181818243,4.936889914529917,3.182113442113444,91.19293706293706,77.2051282051282,5.622066822066823,22.602175602175606,6.574015621080383,0.489724786324786,468,14,94,4,11,145,73,117,0.038,0.919,0.043,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,1,0,21,21,10,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,3,13,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,11,1,17,0,14,10,1,16,0,0,0,1,16,9,0,2,6,66,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421002254522609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522877545000446,0.4520492837975208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27652332041167343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867350942685516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205500415753582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657436759618914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21348953874794893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19298049541679746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653935918504897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299810039801085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717624093947645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097948359846915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260367911239466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816206753353626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dreamerxara,2020/02/09,"Send a Free Valentine Ecard to a Sick Child - Direct Hospital Links for Ecard Below I stumbled across a Facebook post about one of these hospitals when I couldn’t sleep this morning. I thought it was sweet and figured many more hospitals would be participating. So I googled and sure enough found several. Below you can find hospital sites offering to print and disperse your free ecards. Feel free to add more in the comments if you stumble on some and I’ll be happy to send an e-card there as well!


https://secure1.chla.org/site/SPageNavigator/2020_Valentines.html?utm_source=valentine&utm_medium=webcontent&utm_campaign=vday20&s_src=vday20valentine

https://secure2.convio.net/cchmc/site/SSurvey;jsessionid=00000000.app20067a?NONCE_TOKEN=69DA73F50E3F195651C45158FF35FF9A&SURVEY_ID=2169&ACTION_REQUIRED=URI_ACTION_USER_REQUESTS&fbclid=IwAR3i1gH5p9t5glMbmqw4o7bVSH7VLVcPjVeDEd6bXPjNk7F40-cXgNfafIk

https://secure3.convio.net/cmf/site/SPageNavigator/_Donation_Forms_/Landing_Pages/Handfuls_of_Love_2020;jsessionid=00000000.app313b?utm_campaign=valentines_2020&utm_source=2020-01-28&utm_medium=Email&s_src=2020_HOL_Email_1&s_subsrc=2020-01-28_Email&NONCE_TOKEN=872A895C90D6C233E042DABA6CE10F9B

https://www.mottchildren.org/valentine

https://secure.childrenshospital.org/site/SPageNavigator/happy_valentines_day_2020.html&s_src=VDY20WH_BCHX&utm_source=VDY20&utm_medium=hospital_call_out&utm_campaign=WH&utm_content=VDY20WH_BCHX

https://www.stjude.org/get-involved/other-ways/valentines-day.html

https://secure2.convio.net/dayton/site/SPageNavigator/ValentinesDay2020.html&s_src=FB;jsessionid=00000000.app20013a?fbclid=IwAR03-HhvTIvG8an5359um_Nyz3KJqFy4I_wy6drIBzni4q3wBRKjFCUJ2dM&NONCE_TOKEN=AA2C406F18A3323AE8CA097B513633FF

https://www.balladhealth.org/valentines-cards

https://nortonchildrens.com/prevention-wellness/campaigns/hospital-valentines/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=Norton_Childrens_Heart%2CNorton_Childrens_Heart_Month",71.70097087378642,91.15997778640778,32.53379611650486,-119.84280097087375,-68.66990291262138,10.333592233009712,35.54271844660194,10.355215969177356,4.74589786407767,1924,26,75,16,10,385,81,103,0.03,0.767,0.203,0.9596,0,0,1,0,0,0,175.0,0,3,0,0,5,7,0,0,5,0,6,2,1,0,1,16,9,8,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,6,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,3,2,7,10,13,2,4,10,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,1,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9856880243393676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029334908947074075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046999520668387945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02299924660346055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041573666100040096,0.0,0.0,0.049873394501586385,0.0,0.0,0.023764721205367857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04842102608700568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461159821028263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03082270293727342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04356331435128033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138658661484877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551916275017967,0.04636756795742437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042870311768425685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0361110517141428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040897658144493566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032312171745146674,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nebexpat,2020/02/09,"Is 14 months too early for discipline? If not, where do we even start?? Hello all! I'm sure a lot of people have seen the gif of a little girl trying to get a straw into a Starbucks cup and then throws it angrily after not succeeding... It's been crossposted to death on Reddit. It makes some people laugh, or empathize with that mood, but personally it reminds me of my baby girl, and not in a good way.

I'm a ftm and my daughter is funny, smart and adorable, but she has quite the temper. She's what some would say ""a lot to handle."" She throws everything either in frustration or as a power move. She does it with a mix of defiance and impatience. My husband laughs and says to not worry because she'll grow out of it. I'm over here, a ball of anxiety, thinking we should nip it in the bud before it turns into tantrums!

What say you, community? Is this normal for a baby her age (almost 14 months)? Or is there a way to sanction her actions so that it doesn't sound out of control? I assume I'm overthinking this as one does, but maybe someone has been through this and can assure me that there's a light at the end of the tunnel?! Parenting is hard, y'all!",3.5401051314142724,4.602438514893617,4.764580725907386,85.52411764705883,72.36170212765956,7.742177722152691,25.31289111389237,8.124751697461798,1.3948047559449308,901,27,187,13,17,298,137,235,0.114,0.7809999999999999,0.105,0.6073,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,2,0,4,7,12,3,0,18,0,16,0,0,2,3,43,26,18,1,4,12,3,1,0,1,3,0,4,0,3,17,15,0,2,2,1,0,5,5,3,0,1,3,7,17,8,31,20,6,27,0,0,1,0,22,12,0,10,8,131,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789711405010404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062734363316008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612231654196067,0.0,0.134176930805961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768553034118478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27597955294465243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966065965299002,0.0,0.0,0.10414837630427604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171564216239993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238305075901671,0.0,0.0,0.1322573264289694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125332404930327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804015795501974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681135184621405,0.0,0.0,0.10525487144713823,0.0,0.15841413554906936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517227172122577,0.16759246383495752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449621964068602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068503298931162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175088717725293,0.0,0.0,0.2186355840318108,0.13768303333590287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771566970596333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761884255234385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360460457743106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160909827008736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861470664656246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103713415982986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705665512035546,0.17151422263299732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25032343324969464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013511262634414,0.0,0.1120137392738784,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bakingsometimes,2020/02/09,"15 month old tested positive for flu b. 15 month old has flu b. He was running a temp all day yesterday, slept a lot and threw up twice with medication (once with tamiflu). When he went to sleep last night I checked on him multiple times and he didnt have a temp. (Gave him meds anyways for pain). This morning hes a little whiney, but doesnt have a temperature and has been up playing and being almost normal. Slept all through the night as well (doctor also prescribed benedryl). 
Is this normal behavior for a baby with flu? Yesterday was the only day he had symptoms. Hes always drinking alot and eating okay. 
TIA",2.764131652661064,5.229113865546222,3.746407563025212,85.8653816526611,78.41176470588233,6.655742296918768,25.04271708683473,7.793537801064563,1.5176885154061628,486,18,92,8,12,156,79,119,0.069,0.8079999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.8199,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,9,1,14,12,3,0,2,16,19,9,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,8,2,0,0,2,1,3,2,1,1,1,10,0,5,3,12,8,4,20,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,13,54,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446499931530365,0.0,0.0,0.1393307271111459,0.14497233823355107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247263549804276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783305834384715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706779173081806,0.0,0.17827958259284396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201974506731305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462305258260566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812311515737348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193528945700324,0.17551720975512305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781355691665599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270038963189546,0.3414145092642562,0.0,0.0,0.3656476833925947,0.18554801068776824,0.0,0.13250887123319427,0.18539175212345885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435464935419595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109045851850603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159422802490864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665263626060008,0.16151186479865454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greeneyez428,2020/02/09,"How do I help my boyfriend get his daughter (6) to stop being so disrespectful to me, my things and my pets, and get her to stop sleeping with us? So to start, he already knows it’s a problem, so he stopped letting her sleep with us all night when we moved into our apartment together. She threw many temper tantrums but eventually got over it. The last 6 months she’s been waking up on the weekends we have her at 430/5am and climbing into our bed and getting right between us and going back to sleep. Then she kicks me in my back, punches me in the face, lays on my hair (that’s in a bun already) and then rolls over and pushes me off of the bed. Now, she does all of this in her sleep so I know she’s not consciously doing this. But it’s now causing me issues at work on Saturdays. I work as a vet tech assistant so I kinda need to be on my game at work. I’ve proposed to my boyfriend that maybe when his daughter comes in at 430/5am that he should take her back to her bed and they cuddle and sleep in there (my issue is not the co-sleeping. It’s sleeping in my bed that’s my issue). And sometimes he does, but not always.

On top of this, she’s constantly going through my stuff on my dresser that look like toys, but aren’t. My mom gave me a Garfield figurine that my grandpa had in his pocket when he was admitted into the hospital two months before I was born. He was holding that same Garfield figurine when he passed away two weeks later in the hospital. I keep it on top of my dresser with a keychain of his he got on his 50th birthday. That’s all I have of my grandpa, she *always* asks to play with it. It’s literally like 2 inches tall and like an inch or two wide, but I have a lot of sentimental attachment to it, so i always tell her no because of this reason. One day she got her hands on it and lost it. It was missing for 3 weeks. I was distraught. I cried and I cried and I cried. My boyfriend felt terrible. He finally found it in her room between her bed and the wall when he was tucking her into bed. My boyfriend then let me handle the situation. I yelled at her. I told her to leave my stuff alone because just because something looks like a toy, doesn’t mean it is a toy. The next morning, she climbs into our bed, and the normal routine of kicking, punching and pushing me until I got out of bed, when I noticed Garfield was gone again. I took behind my dresser to see if it fell, not there. I looked on my nightstand to see if I put it there for whatever reason, it’s not there. So I go into her room to look for it, there it is!! Sitting on her nightstand. I pick it up, and put it inside my dresser. She wakes up around 630 when I’m getting ready for work, and I hear a bunch of chaos in the living room. It’s her with my dog and my dog is barking as she has my fucking cat pinned to the ground. I lost my shit. My boyfriend comes out asking what’s going on and he sees what’s happening and straight up picks up his daughter and puts her in her room and yelled at her and put her in a timeout. After that I told him about Garfield again. He just sighed and he’s like “idk what to do” and starts to break down. I went to work that Saturday and got stuck there much later that normal and when I got home, she came and apologized to me. I just sighed and said thank you.

I’m at my wits end with this kid. We’re away visiting my boyfriends family this weekend and she’s been straight up disrespectful to us. She’s challenging us and I understand that. She’s pushing her limits and neither one of us have any idea what to do. Last night, I went to get her PJs out of her bag and Garfield fell out. This is a never ending battle with Garfield. I showed my boyfriend and he pulled her into the room we’re sleeping in and said something to her. Idk what because i wasn’t in the room, but she came out and just glared at me. This morning, she climbs into bed as per usual, and just sits in the middle of the bed saying my name and asking where Garfield is.

Please, parents of reddit... HELP ME!!!! Idk what to do here...

TD;LR: my boyfriends 6 year old daughter is extremely disrespectful towards me and my things and we don’t know how to rectify this.",2.7512393793546863,4.076086955762514,3.586633537782564,92.18360710996821,74.66938300349244,6.432199885323094,25.62648341528677,6.8221615863531175,0.8156036731360663,3241,110,721,28,67,1032,302,859,0.078,0.858,0.064,-0.8425,3,1,2,0,0,0,103.0,12,1,1,14,42,21,5,1,29,0,36,15,13,7,4,125,98,75,0,7,19,8,3,5,0,1,0,6,22,1,52,70,0,6,12,8,0,29,12,11,2,5,34,16,140,8,124,59,8,165,0,3,7,2,104,83,2,5,55,492,192,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052604333184962784,0.1120986358090096,0.0,0.1267869640088697,0.0,0.0,0.03453973656829403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04521490869101863,0.14244865990625724,0.0,0.09543995028482023,0.11716582124079708,0.0,0.12384730058566658,0.0,0.043219543803685666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618313264301798,0.0,0.052176521551170765,0.0,0.08750418933248331,0.0,0.05488720970807419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737514226379213,0.032756102104166726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889538839327134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899718000891384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478813937585279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876748728112887,0.05563924289800559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568989511856983,0.0,0.046955617227593074,0.1326814471598571,0.0,0.11546316711838488,0.0,0.2437340258764829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491446293463156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05724533876139455,0.0,0.06808849978898555,0.0,0.05094768368450648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573370473871851,0.0,0.15903835317431805,0.0,0.04514552464842223,0.0,0.0,0.08374049440213208,0.08280316335194061,0.0,0.05378051421934178,0.0,0.10387482285324356,0.0,0.12406999786383982,0.0,0.04484953269279957,0.0,0.17060715923665498,0.0,0.11088912151916104,0.043180835505517344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514942732946431,0.05102655597620685,0.055326472894147466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059486003173797326,0.08108205291020583,0.05398297448282936,0.037337353262238734,0.03766100818084978,0.03917328064655011,0.0,0.054016984358570164,0.09532814268461684,0.09952912310866224,0.0,0.0578260824558453,0.05329678778620784,0.0,0.06883482109055125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639758235491904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055753451171257434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860028915825783,0.0,0.20423661351420136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044435618118728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04337538073856604,0.09662806540517514,0.04039117613261002,0.0,0.0,0.12142195702082717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213640500661027,0.0,0.057091401931475536,0.4066227975498213,0.0,0.0,0.07820304653164409,0.05023376478768513,0.0,0.0719005015631137,0.0,0.0,0.127391074482754,0.0,0.0,0.11628747346303896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038188637988099836,0.0,0.044393720346568216,0.04676168433183068,0.0,0.0,0.06748679149675635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706627701959862,0.05643085751844223,0.0,0.0,0.14884677536500995,0.05287539809142334,0.3665731347470096,0.0,0.05593929684194706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148322406142958,0.0,0.0,0.0941678448856588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488287946455256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03270784752992963
parenting,OidaOudenEidos,2020/02/09,"How to encourage our children (4 & 2) to play with each other or on their own instead of only wanting to play with us? The title basically says it all. Our daughter is 4 and our son is 2 years old. They have a ton of toys (much more than I would consider ""normal"" tbh) yet they are not",1.7615000000000016,3.1950454833333346,3.84,88.905,77.5,6.8000000000000025,23.666666666666664,7.554174236665415,0.9415666666666662,219,7,49,3,5,75,49,60,0.0,0.867,0.133,0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,11,6,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,3,9,5,6,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,3,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904557305120162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649100129365254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530815522071613,0.0,0.0,0.3781428384265984,0.0,0.0,0.2740741044489249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865770081949732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4334751724632127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255283342756728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559932212149345,0.0,0.0,0.2320634848277414
parenting,mjoels,2020/02/09,"Watch your mouth! In 2015 , 2 weeks after something very heartbreaking happened in my life, my mom and I had a fight. In her usual fashion she said some very hurtful things.

The next day I bought a huge traveling bag on my way from work and packed out of the house. Initially she thought I was bluffing and I would return after cooling off. After a month of not returning she grew worried and started calling my siblings. When my sisters heard what she said they told her ""Joe is not like your husband. You've burnt the bridge""I got visits from even church elders. My host (a very rich family) told all the visitors that ""Joe can stay here as long as he likes"". 

Even I knew I was never setting foot in that house again. 
It's been more than 4 years now. We rarely talk but I'm no longer angry. I however won't let anyone alive talk to me in a manner that diminishes myself esteem. I don't care who you are. There is no one I cannot walk away from in this life. 

No one. Watch what you say to your loved ones in anger. They won't forget. And one day they will act accordingly.",1.8363171247357288,4.1167533441860495,2.6008985200845696,93.82172832980976,80.67441860465118,5.583509513742072,20.470401691331922,6.782984794422108,0.2340232558139537,839,23,179,9,22,262,141,215,0.152,0.7959999999999999,0.051,-0.9657,1,0,1,0,1,0,27.0,1,5,3,1,7,10,2,0,9,1,15,5,2,0,2,17,29,9,0,1,3,3,0,2,0,4,2,4,0,0,9,7,0,0,2,1,2,5,10,4,0,4,13,7,32,6,24,11,3,38,1,2,2,1,32,12,0,1,20,115,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244949092429702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242226139228881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500876372474274,0.0,0.13480446663749285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053858947584927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465671155084495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464281201331305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574634523582438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691942361730273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051222906094827,0.14154147757013166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520126505827812,0.18677814099556267,0.1291895010260051,0.0,0.0,0.11700825182325425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933137934142085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485143871139728,0.10553467939454357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197422155663698,0.0,0.14061472105189465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583757694451624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515380787001897,0.10514459539509258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178742578870753,0.0,0.0,0.09358416700639534,0.14092617252918227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21254270008155432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878393756490608,0.0,0.0,0.10496585884977844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252678812575943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561880332035865,0.32727964343352217,0.0,0.104948029981227,0.10605683525156938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625585297619256,0.13427320313390784,0.0,0.09392345826367957,0.0,0.0,0.08514368047832832
parenting,LOLizzard,2020/02/09,"Star Trek for Kids? My daughter is almost 5 years old and loves Star Wars. I would love to introduce her to Star Trek but I’m not sure where to begin. 
Which series or episodes should I start with? Is Star Trek too cerebral for a child that age?
Thanks!",0.4063865546218501,2.850562411764706,0.6710364145658296,103.22823529411764,91.54901960784315,3.698599439775911,15.128851540616246,5.288315135182226,-1.1454560224089634,197,4,45,1,7,58,40,51,0.086,0.74,0.174,0.7086,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,9,10,3,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,6,8,0,6,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,2,5,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430922745827173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6184699788902934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35953026648154285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425137382654085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229226705412276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31544566806518776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24339297664297666,0.0,0.0,0.22064108601900376
parenting,angrydeuce,2020/02/09,"2-year old son thinks spitting is just SOOO much fun... So, we've been starting to teach my 2 year old son how to brush his teeth, and he's really taking to it, and especially loves the part where you spit the toothpaste out.  Except now he loves spitting *everything* out, and it's driving my batshit trying to find a way to curb it.  Like we'll be eating dinner, he'll take a nice big knock of milk or juice, turn his head to the side, and just open his mouth and let it pour out all over himself and the floor.  Take said water or juice away, and he loses his little mind.

And now he's not just doing it with liquids.  Yesterday he chewed up a fig newton nice and good and then just opened his mouth and let the fig newton/saliva paste mixture roll out of his mouth all over the couch.  He does it with almost anything he eats or drinks now and I don't know how to stop it.  It's not like I can rationalize with him, the kid's barely putting sentences together.

The best part of all this, the real salt in the wounds, is that he *knows* he's making a mess, because he says ""mess!"" right after he does it.  He will kinda help clean it up (as best a two year old can) but of course Mommy or Daddy have to do the bulk of the cleaning up.  So it's almost like the spitting in itself isn't the fun part, it's the making of a mess that is the *real* bee's knees.  I'm getting really sick and tired of spraying the couch and carpet down with resolve and scrubbing stains out of the fabric so I need a way to stop this crap but I'm at a loss how.  I'm afraid to take food away from him because getting him to eat at all is a real struggle in itself, so I don't want to stop him eating, but at the same time, I can't have the kid spitting 90% of the food on the floor because I'm going to have a psychotic episode if this keeps on this way.

Anyone else deal with this and have any advice as to how you managed to stop it?  Or did your kiddo just kinda grow out of it?  This is all new behavior for us.",3.2720851713607035,3.68377390023753,4.2601518493383095,91.29964073634208,72.46793349168647,6.86939260264676,22.87419409569053,6.367922702773337,0.3196840176450624,1536,33,354,9,28,499,189,421,0.11,0.833,0.057,-0.9732,0,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,2,3,0,5,18,21,1,2,32,0,24,28,12,6,5,79,49,36,0,3,17,2,0,3,0,3,3,2,5,2,24,29,11,6,5,1,0,4,6,8,0,1,3,4,23,13,58,40,12,57,0,2,0,2,39,31,1,10,22,219,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806285615278555,0.0,0.0,0.16524521865884256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05611014746681394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057693443150355926,0.0845420261773506,0.06789932662303078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504315367658153,0.0,0.0,0.15089338374414987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731799080863929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506497242320574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441144743544046,0.0,0.0,0.08082913442957894,0.0,0.3377164327925748,0.06892715396887449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415535241851567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541334151465733,0.0,0.19954468147211551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621693511216691,0.0,0.0468927674157848,0.06920611233608091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467984600476021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530522441015258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333935626524002,0.0,0.0,0.0906915137305116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874568851619198,0.0,0.1209317713685942,0.08269745972009436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230843706515568,0.0,0.0,0.14893836799437565,0.0,0.11015314847155216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331234828572454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065490376344863,0.061180684415415035,0.0,0.07968940794363419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597434942457045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680533433779445,0.07876585846503255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294610527606099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817459326408373,0.10571701368896012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046373978150901,0.07848662928561981,0.06561586955585581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058401541911983636,0.0,0.0,0.27593076594740423,0.0,0.08625816328382087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481512972552343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052869564549501306,0.0,0.0,0.04811268876375634,0.09483398291341763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0560193911417337,0.0897480153218556,0.0806010250365472,0.0,0.09925028721319164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04866698511424911,0.1964796065698772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594026762130337
parenting,lizabella96,2020/02/09,"Any one else... 

I will try and not make this long. 
Me 23(F) and my was fiancée 25(F)  have been together just a little over a year. Starting this relationship she told me she was not a kid person and never wanted kids but would at least try for me since I have 3yr old special needs kid ( 2 when we started to date). I worked nights since it was what I could do and she was in school. It was amazing seeing them bond and I thought it was working to where she was at least getting a little soft for him. Well after our first family trip and then me leaving for my personal trip for 3 weeks is when I started to notice us drifting apart a little and just being off. A few months forward and my son “chocolate Picasso” her living room one morning and that really threw her over the edge to kinda be like not I don’t want want y’all to be here in my house. Since then we made a decision to see each other on the weekends while my son was with his grandparents and he wouldn’t be around. We would bicker here and their and it always hung above us that we would have to have the talk. Well the last month now we have been getting into it and just not talking for days. Today we really got at each other and finally said it was time to talk about this issue. 
We cried ugly and like banshees for hours because we have came to the dead end road of what do we do next in our relationship. I can’t keep seeing her only at night before work and on the weekends. We love each other and my son hasn’t been around her much lately but when he does come over to play he hugs her and wants to ride in her truck. Her and her parents bought him a matching truck to hers. 😭😭😭 he looks up to her as much as he does me. 
We called our therapist and she knew this would happen and I knew it would happen. I just had hope that the small sliver of a chance that she would love him or at least like him and this could work out. 
Is there anything that anyone could say or help. I am her very first real serious relationship and she is mine 1st fully committed relationship.
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parenting,podotash,2020/02/09,Do you have a gay kid? Do you have questions with no one you can ask? Well over at r/mykidisgay we are requiting LGBT members to help. Drop in and ask anything you'd like. Moderating it to be a very judgement free zone. We're here to help support you!,0.6564102564102541,2.9477943846153885,2.0861538461538487,95.54217948717951,85.92307692307692,5.005128205128205,24.051282051282055,6.42735559955562,0.5467589743589745,196,8,44,2,6,63,40,52,0.071,0.648,0.281,0.9123,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,0,0,4,11,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,6,5,7,9,0,4,0,0,0,1,12,3,0,1,1,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515735280451851,0.0,0.5715957238111319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098223389294559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493546101709138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071572105902368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424655002052848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469164247139164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522430134218103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748702733218446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twilighter9871,2020/02/09,Bi polar dad I have a dad who has a big polar depression disorder. He’s very aggressive and has abusive behavior. I don’t know how to deal with it. He does things that are completely unnecessary,1.7057894736842132,4.444468526315792,4.142421052631581,78.89994736842105,87.42105263157896,9.355789473684213,26.02105263157895,9.3871,3.3446673684210517,156,7,29,6,5,54,32,38,0.309,0.691,0.0,-0.9099,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,5,1,0,1,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,17,6,0,0.0,0.42393039047710657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751428629678964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688725201196461,0.3081696340912479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4100658308474773,0.0,0.313110161751518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19663562022217945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23770412147993694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295219615522788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isitembarrasingilike,2020/02/09,"How do I talk to my girlfriend about setting healthy boundaries with her son? way tl;dr girlfriend and son have few boundaries with one another and I think it majorly contributes to bad behavior in his part. Very little structured discipline in the house


So I have lived with my girlfriend and her 8 year old son for the last year or so. She’s a single mom, her exhusband isn’t really in the picture outside of a once or twice a month, but plays more of a Disneyland dad role than being actually paternal. He worships his dad, like any 8 year old boy would, but I would say I am the first true father figure that he has had in his life. 

Living with them as a unit has had its ups and downs. She really struggles with discipline and setting boundaries and I really struggle with that. Because she really has not tactic for discipline he completely has her number, although through course of the year I have talked to her about how I think she could be better about standing firm when she doles out consequences to his behavior, such as when he is sent to his room that she should not rush in there a minute later when he calls for her or “injures” himself in the room. Or when he has temper tantrums that involve falling on the floor and “crying” when he is told no. Those are the two big tactics he uses with her to get his way, but generally he just does not listen to her when she tells him to do or not do do something like coming to dinner, putting on his shoes, leaving for school, brushing his teeth...etc. usually she will end up putting his shoes and socks on out of frustration or even feeding him his dinner when he won’t eat it. It drives me batty that she will do this. Lately I have become more vocal to her about this, sometimes I will interject “are you going to listen to your mom” and he will immediately begin to do as she says. He knows I am much more no nonsense than she is and he has access to some things that are mine (Nintendo Switch, Disney+) that will be taken away if he has tantrums or does not do as he told. I tend to pick my battles as to when I want to full on discipline him because it can be a tight rope to walk in the house and I don’t want to usurp her, although I believe I have a better, more fully thought out idea on discipline not only when it comes to consequences but as a practice in the house when it comes to day to day behaviors (that sounds so egotistical, I know). She tends to give into his impulses in part because she is a people pleaser and also because she knows it’s an uphill battle to get him to change his behavior and I don’t think she wants to or can handle being the bad guy in his eyes. I’m more of the opinion that a few weeks of tough love and strict discipline will do worlds to change his behavior but again: right rope.

There’s another component to this that I think plays into his behavior: they have virtually no boundaries with one another and he is completely codependent on her. Examples:

She still bathed him ever single time he needs to bathe. I don’t think he knows how to shower or even wash his hair. I told her once he’s getting to the age that she shouldn’t be seeing his penis unless it’s for something health related and she was not happy/embarrassed.

She still takes him to the bathroom every time he needs to go at the house. Her reasoning for this is that he wants someone to talk to. It recently came out at dinner the other night that she still wipes for him. I’ve gotten increasingly more visibly uncomfortable when she takes him to the bathroom, so to her credit she has started telling him to go on his own, the exception being when he poops. The other night he had to poop during dinner and she told him to go alone to which he said “I can’t because I need you to wipe”. I couldn’t believe what I heard and she was mortified. We could hardly make eye contact. To her credit she sent him back in, but we sat there in silence until he came back out, but he must have called for her 10 or 15 times before he finished. I asked point blank if she wipes for him to which she said “only after he has to make sure he got it all”. After she didn’t that night the kid smelled like poop and I honestly think he doesn’t know how to wipe properly. 

She will get home water when he asks, usually through a demand.

She will get home food when he demands it.

She doesn’t correct his back talk and generally does what he asks without a please and thank you.

She will get him dressed in the mornings. Like full on gets his clothes on for him.

She still gets completely naked in front of him.

She puts on his shoes and socks for him.

Until recently he slept in our room every night from start to finish.

She has to be in the bedroom at night (our or his) until he falls asleep, sometimes upward of an hour.

The list goes on but he is basically not expected to do anything you would think and 8 year old can do. Except here is the thing: he can do most of these things alone, he just doesn’t want to. I know he listens at school. I know he can go to the bathroom (at least pea) alone. He can get his own water. He can put on his shoes. Put on his jacket. From time to time he will stay with me and I don’t do anything for him that I wouldn’t expect an 8 year old to be able to do and he does not protest at all. 

I know this is a long ass rant but I am at a loss and near my wits end with this kid, while also realizing he is completely enabled by his mom. He’s just so strong willed and fully a little person that it makes it hard to not see him as responsible. 

I’m convinced that her setting strong boundaries between them will lead to better behavior but she can be very defensive when it’s brought up because she’s embarrassed, I think.

Any advice?",5.2999094202898585,5.3747930277777805,5.630332125603862,84.4326630434783,67.94097222222223,8.90048309178744,28.84842995169082,8.630970670014445,1.888144987922705,4496,140,944,64,69,1436,394,1152,0.078,0.847,0.075,-0.2816,1,3,2,0,1,0,94.0,4,5,3,9,49,35,8,3,44,0,102,27,13,11,7,161,185,90,0,22,40,10,4,4,3,20,4,9,9,5,49,51,9,8,21,5,2,26,28,15,0,5,24,19,152,20,164,128,24,166,1,1,4,2,205,61,1,16,76,649,201,5,0.044300142137112634,0.0,0.043230548353492465,0.0,0.0,0.04328958618580877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376447610906409,0.0,0.07085361532369693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060251231539680074,0.1393576848939335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291048472421505,0.0,0.12424395845577466,0.0,0.04162144180932211,0.10219222445657326,0.0739775365326316,0.16202973280638233,0.048926026505037294,0.03769615809904001,0.09982218000488298,0.0,0.11753962712223236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047079634962576,0.1013351218246652,0.0,0.0,0.09372735278368184,0.1144819495453927,0.1857914247411508,0.0,0.0,0.07074011752222195,0.0,0.04866162596319962,0.05713985363823607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506941167030805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533010494887501,0.0,0.0,0.07847355390933478,0.0,0.0494063686965988,0.05851965215394366,0.04007201479401986,0.07464956079996153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03768167827108991,0.05356790771668785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20830496261132608,0.0424967330106086,0.12588395836848645,0.0,0.03543087056204994,0.0,0.0,0.04386410557416669,0.0,0.0,0.07936845184032051,0.0,0.0,0.04708897952371228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887330915266434,0.0,0.043626716420972184,0.2044656647011634,0.0,0.050009468240966484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476959655801826,0.036110528502954785,0.04997248990903518,0.046907454087636434,0.0,0.0,0.03129050050229145,0.08657124704632391,0.08880076097261587,0.07823567424659678,0.03920423174716963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03998260787176983,0.0,0.08871206661829198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565137317309444,0.035359950805834234,0.0,0.032565701710461636,0.09854398220881863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20786341210875492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594218834753595,0.09435641115158326,0.06003784561759475,0.06738450867226525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959454738343129,0.0,0.030712140649787976,0.03868117537798839,0.0,0.04862825298354028,0.04187795339093503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22266939314579592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351922169201785,0.045547924295205836,0.08748209190285973,0.0,0.0,0.037832079333229886,0.08427915960573458,0.07045850220988198,0.0,0.08966821782894165,0.07060295544908263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037535366673380616,0.06820882745254805,0.08762794665061152,0.0,0.06271173723245715,0.047218057196694654,0.14151260294209847,0.0,0.0,0.09262425430756276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041752359693581424,0.0,0.06661638733279057,0.14242710476100634,0.0774405536712812,0.04078561896805049,0.0,0.0,0.08829313794058594,0.22708593856097686,0.0,0.035169364482972074,0.12915884566228225,0.0,0.0,0.16932273701158174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043274801805545035,0.0,0.0,0.03826109922782223,0.09758069577418077,0.0731045134986446,0.1306468580478713,0.07032678165310784,0.0355349018790107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04270375616591787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440864982310007,0.0,0.0,0.1711670345945269
parenting,K1mm13STud3r,2020/02/09,"Advice is appreciated: 8 yr old son who does not wipe! I have a stubborn 8 years old son who does not wipe his butt. I know he doesn't do it or do a good job because he is rushing to play with his friends, he is scared of being in the bathroom alone, and/or he is lazy. 

Things I have tried: 

I have lectured him on the importance of proper hygiene. I have explained (multiple times) the seriousness of pink eye! I have also pointed out the social issue when it comes to friends and the slippery slope of bullying, ""you don't want kids at school to smell you, kids can be mean and start calling you names."" These do not phase my kid. 

My boyfriend and I have had to stand and watch him wipe. When we stand there, he will do it right, but we don't want to make this a habit. 

He has had time outs, technology taken away, gone to bed early, and we've had him clean his room/messes throughout the house. Still does not phase him. 

My next option is making him hand wash the worst pairs of his underwear. When he finishes, I hope to create an open conversation with him and let him help come out with ideas that he thinks how he can do to be better with wiping. If that does not work, I am at my wits end! I am sure I am not the only parent out there that has experienced this issue. If anyone else has suggestions on how to get an 8-year-old boy to PROPERLY wipe, I am open to suggestions. how to get an 8-year-old boy to PROPERLY wipe, I am open to suggestions.",4.725228978978978,4.787104908783785,5.214549549549549,86.96618618618618,69.16891891891892,8.604804804804807,26.24174174174173,8.344100000000001,1.3418759759759764,1127,29,252,15,18,361,149,296,0.055,0.8170000000000001,0.128,0.972,2,1,0,0,0,0,42.0,2,3,0,2,10,11,1,1,14,0,37,4,3,5,1,48,53,17,0,5,10,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,5,12,21,0,1,5,1,0,4,9,4,0,0,5,6,33,7,33,43,1,35,0,0,3,1,46,15,1,5,14,156,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110195692647073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766696053438686,0.0,0.09085485156084468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943960659322395,0.11640812080880875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674148101147277,0.0,0.0,0.06925634519054061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047989154277127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600975808199282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957320123529689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976877768217811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949075960089268,0.0,0.10062581929393843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755514934430627,0.0,0.11871434660494525,0.0,0.0,0.09529170106032776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615120592200922,0.0,0.0,0.11284157625268088,0.0,0.1310920941073044,0.0,0.12825323853729126,0.0,0.2371611930474417,0.1127416053182206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062437755303666284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617516981170414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167274306683684,0.0,0.0,0.12375592481425875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208268213258782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768634555635415,0.0,0.0,0.08640645230239287,0.0,0.0,0.12615181479171492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739932526019906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970233610904855,0.0,0.0,0.11374465082433395,0.11498062001995392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581233135785116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041460624623925,0.0,0.09073006702308006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707723028514636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547824628552832,0.07279748233472408,0.0,0.0,0.13249523199973726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713456072111388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402168220325344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271032123892777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21948570230536385
parenting,d2020ysf,2020/02/09,"Besides birth, what physical pain has your kid put you through? I'm curious about what other parents have gone through. Earlier today, my overactive and beautiful little girl was trying to sit on my feet to go for a ride. She accidentally ripped off my pinky toe toenail right off while trying to move.",6.254636363636365,8.0256446,6.2925,74.43875,66.63636363636364,9.863636363636363,33.75,10.125756701596842,3.691272727272727,243,11,41,6,4,77,47,55,0.094,0.805,0.102,0.128,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,4,3,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,10,4,0,14,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,3,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18631515344740526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32857497534414026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484347926816649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488376218492487,0.0,0.3640199545105428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295628981618144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799677479783513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107475260065389,0.0,0.0,0.4451544249482273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momoevelyn,2020/02/09,"My 13 Month Old Hurts Himself When He's Mad My son is 13, almost 14 months old. He's very active and independent,  runs around everywhere,  and loves getting into things. Recently, when he's told no, or if something he shouldn't have is taken from him, he throws a fit. The screaming and crying I can handle, even the hitting me. What I don't know how to handle is that he's started slamming his head into things as hard as he can when he throws these fits. The ground, the wall, the glass door leadingnto the patio. He will inevitably smash his head into whatever hard surface is closest. I manage to stop him before he does damage most of the time, but even now he's sprouting a goose egg in the middle of his forehead. 

Is this normal? I have 6 siblings, most of whom I helped to raise, and none of them went through this phase. I'm so terrified that he's going to hurt himself seriously bad one of these days. Is there anything I can do to discourage this behavior?",4.682174788562224,5.6124523926701615,5.090785340314138,84.7327788964962,69.57591623036649,7.761739830849779,27.781312927909788,7.882392219407189,1.6057946838501804,761,25,151,9,13,242,117,191,0.191,0.778,0.03,-0.9838,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,1,0,10,9,1,0,10,0,15,5,3,2,0,21,25,14,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,11,8,1,2,1,0,0,5,4,8,0,1,3,3,17,1,19,19,3,30,0,4,0,1,25,12,0,5,13,93,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266841252840736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368103190107286,0.14461334419446464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563746638893265,0.0,0.0,0.13823145827233851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784417261070293,0.10476565374552728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215951962732082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459101570978484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487248273558691,0.0,0.09232305898469463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910433686605525,0.0,0.3334374509481696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888560809617633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478083283160421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927728552798972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661584814890127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25932921606953324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916475067819005,0.0,0.0,0.3409241305453392,0.0,0.11007910845244727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039800534414406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506056533718946,0.0,0.0,0.11498167619175785,0.0,0.0,0.13581397400998232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584673926896805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472485518424148,0.0,0.0,0.15522622222057872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340367827492856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059111428887792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeyyyGirlWassup,2020/02/09,"Trying to make a decision on circumcision. Are there any families where sons and dads don’t “match” that can weigh in? I know this can be a controversial/touchy subject but I am genuinely trying to make a decision to circumcise or not.  I’ve thoroughly looked at the pros and cons, and I’m stuck on the fence.  My first was a girl, and I hated to see her in pain. I don’t know that I could willingly let my son have his genitals cut.  My husband wants it done because he is, and he wants his son to match. 

I’m curious to hear if there are fathers that decided not to circumcise their sons, and how you handle the conversations around it looking different? And hygiene?  Are there families with dads that are intact but decided to circumcise the boys? Why?  Anyone that didn’t do it but wished they did? Or vice versatility?

I’m struggling because I also feel like this is a decision dad should make. I guess I am looking for a bit of perspective from families that have been there.  I’d like to add that I am in the southern US where circumcision is very common.",3.0393974065598783,5.230099942028988,4.4492855326722625,82.56814645308927,76.14975845410628,8.80233918128655,26.83676582761251,9.414487439383343,2.5419623188405795,836,33,166,23,19,277,111,207,0.098,0.846,0.057,-0.8862,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,2,1,9,6,2,1,11,0,27,2,0,4,0,37,47,15,0,6,8,9,1,2,0,2,1,1,0,2,12,10,1,1,8,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,6,6,19,2,20,36,1,11,0,0,4,0,22,9,0,4,4,113,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959889314148572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170237001508488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457217041163724,0.0,0.0,0.1331354500865951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233439569853405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327507122472562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940731207158005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625290041097714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304645095246294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229607728975479,0.0,0.07561938381583536,0.10684195543103853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721120841461622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475143680985216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765436999868214,0.0,0.0,0.16855909172435782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164382777502124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292988190838652,0.0,0.14612980971142667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767650138616661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994869048634983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913681648872008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191757863822626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634711429516926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030757395277213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798959705145937,0.0,0.0,0.12339834542162782,0.17642255282024968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349499154663285,0.0,0.1719806013032766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squidknee420,2020/02/09,"Babysitting Not a parent but a frequent babysitter. I’m a grad student and I have one family I babysit for multiple times a week and have been doing so for about 3 years. With this family we have a deep understanding of what my role is and how their family functions. But I also take all kinds of babysitting jobs from people I meet through various connections, I’m probably up to 15 or so families that I babysit occasionally. I’m curious to know what all of you parents think about the occasional babysitter? Do you worry about it or do you see it as only 1 night so it’s all fine in terms of exposure to new adults/ breaking routine/ other concerns? 
For the record: I think I’m a good babysitter because I’m always mindful of everything the parents say to do and have a general positive regard for the well-being of children. I just am curious to know what parents think of the babysitter.",6.8041279069767455,6.989779529069767,7.51451162790698,71.8223488372093,64.75581395348837,10.833488372093024,38.13023255813954,10.577609850970193,4.232526046511628,717,36,126,17,10,239,99,172,0.024,0.8740000000000001,0.102,0.9173,5,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,3,1,0,9,3,0,0,12,0,11,0,0,1,3,24,24,14,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,9,6,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,13,3,25,23,5,11,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,2,7,90,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705418219297824,0.1113888905339324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160468338977707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031191637993058,0.0,0.5047953031771621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228211759235966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284332260873072,0.0,0.0,0.13940291006311148,0.14714069127112972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516850710650805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929053766436946,0.0,0.12562603892254678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071241366945862,0.1018126377239689,0.0,0.0,0.5945782369428171,0.0,0.0,0.09280720780832626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443323334903173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645719767666333,0.0,0.0,0.10667545504175477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065206742072094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573316054068696,0.0,0.0,0.07805950074499754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393612973380675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738082573728368,0.0,0.12036339873454277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359494406250039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620659568416686
parenting,Galletoza,2020/02/09,"Had some me time, SO is mad Rant, on mobile, English not my first lenguage

So my sisters came to town for this week (they live in a different country) and today we had a little dinner without my 2yo. I usually go everywhere with him and I don't really mind but today that I decided to do something without him and my hubby had to take care of him.

They're usually good for 4 hours top and I only took less than three but baby got to his nerves and SO started calling me like crazy and so I took a cab and paid overprice because I just HAD to get home as fast as possible because baby was hungry.

LO still breastfeeds at night and I left some milk in the freezer but my hubby couldn't, for the life of him, warm it up and give it to him. One of my sisters leaves tomorrow and we couldn't spend much time together during her week here and on her final night I had to run.

Now I get home and baby is crying his eyes out, I take him out of SO's arms and he just says ""I'm really mad that you let him cry like this"" and leaves to play om his computer.

I'm annoyed, tired and a little wet because it's raining and little baby is happily watching Paw Patrol with his boob",1.916843537414966,3.526589391836737,3.697959183673469,89.3296598639456,77.53061224489795,6.6258503401360525,23.50340136054421,7.447530270364453,0.9426462585034012,911,29,196,12,21,306,133,245,0.11699999999999999,0.7809999999999999,0.102,-0.6068,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,1,2,10,9,3,0,6,0,14,7,3,0,0,37,29,26,0,2,8,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,7,23,2,0,1,1,2,5,6,3,0,3,11,5,35,6,30,15,4,37,0,0,2,1,23,14,1,2,20,129,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807458160191925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618036252726155,0.13013206101155889,0.11600455683135615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24996023351988195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887410400560655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246385630466183,0.0,0.09677976139952414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888892842963675,0.10914651018029142,0.06466282827045305,0.09543183744253296,0.09099889804545684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282578178366316,0.0,0.11204870376237268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409495767041525,0.12362045272264355,0.11634601751216847,0.08036497607397744,0.11117265760997844,0.34210723301114904,0.1004683208646472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488364553623175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364013987573894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135464485721739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709911872834721,0.0865335219998598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826793449013674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457785811790941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048106858966327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759209182123269,0.0,0.0,0.08053286430932778,0.0,0.09086349504680484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710942390883928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269008005329574,0.13077141506622192,0.2156970438295695,0.0,0.25282374907510513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506214395835511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253217388380852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21935643645531555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nonnasbutler,2020/02/09,"Parents of reddit: how do you get a picky eater to try new foods? 4yo is beyond picky, we use a 2bite rule and most times he goes along but many times will gag or vomit as soon as he begins chewing! Help! Child cannot live on chicken nuggets alone!",1.4941176470588218,3.549683117647064,1.8076078431372584,100.27023529411764,80.56862745098039,4.08,18.04313725490196,3.1291,-0.9734815686274514,193,4,44,0,5,58,46,51,0.11800000000000001,0.818,0.065,-0.4453,1,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,2,0,8,7,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,5,21,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33088623231594383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863180047750081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691577096733104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414155255999476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821078035847684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239038505896809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085569893556738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547461284516711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3725841809554344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21690680257603853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759292297239793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,baseball_suckss,2020/02/09,"It’s kinda easy... I mean there are tough times but overall it’s way easier than what everyone makes it seem to be. She eats like a pro, she sleeps at night, she has periods of time where she’s happy and flailing around each day. We aren’t sleep deprived, we’ve gone out with and without her, we still have time to keep up with chores and errands. Maybe she’s an easy baby but part of me thinks people live to exaggerate sometimes. I’m loving parent life!",2.060350241545894,4.248989358695649,2.890144927536234,92.54857487922706,79.32608695652175,5.828019323671497,20.004830917874393,6.937597516519254,0.2429599033816432,359,9,76,4,9,113,70,92,0.07,0.723,0.207,0.9531,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,5,5,2,1,0,19,13,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,10,1,1,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,10,3,13,11,2,14,0,1,0,1,10,5,0,2,8,44,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694029332110495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128185027508827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338311633200515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18992558013112826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21158581307229649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17666877153317642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039145752964216,0.0971050587070515,0.0,0.17551046103416695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793904381472852,0.0,0.13267515841425706,0.0,0.1996831143305892,0.21651005444266602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865246443782241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22070164583706767,0.21523984434165425,0.0,0.13779652356034866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18094543254766188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978110271170646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19658067070081167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873156602592398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273586447455819,0.0,0.0,0.3476991093967196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776800021025025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915994462819351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hotsexyhot,2020/02/09,"How do I pooty train my 7 year old So most of my kids are in diapers right before they enter kindergarten. However, my 7 year old, Mason, still wears diapers and my SIL is making a huge deal about it. She says its not normal and that there may be something wrong with him. However, i don’t really think its a big deal. He will learn when he is ready and he’s still young, it’s not like he’s about to start middle school. I know its caused problems as he can’t go to public school because of the diapers, but homeschooling is an easy solution. So is my sister overreacting, or should i be concerned?",4.388615702479338,5.033509049586783,5.229411157024796,84.50957128099174,70.07438016528926,9.02520661157025,25.868801652892564,9.188382445141503,1.811172727272727,469,13,99,9,8,153,82,121,0.047,0.866,0.087,0.6951,2,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,9,3,0,0,4,0,13,1,1,3,0,19,18,10,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,12,1,9,13,1,16,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,10,59,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781809345299242,0.0,0.16446201820397735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985457337575388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985142073900388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984212130261613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621838719793128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442395940102533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901195816611646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893675755911937,0.0,0.0,0.4056172977171196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493720518128987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381633332077832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16505501976219744,0.0,0.15369931655398175,0.0,0.3912074019361979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879183964450987,0.0,0.0,0.13680039810993452,0.0,0.3086978813598024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384223500760995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113148804962135,0.0,0.2489243588647725
parenting,hibiscushunter,2020/02/09,"All the vomit Has anyone ever figured out a way to not get a sick toddler to vomit all over ? Or is it just a lost cause and it’s going to get all over them, all over you, bedding, floor, etc. I’m wondering if there are any methods for getting them to vomit in a container or any other tricks people might have short of wrapping their bed in trash bags??? Sick of being sick over here!!!",4.2368354430379735,4.506274455696205,5.209974683544306,85.85116455696203,70.26582278481013,7.332658227848103,25.92658227848101,6.742157984588678,1.0037220253164558,298,8,62,2,5,98,56,79,0.109,0.826,0.066,-0.5472,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,3,1,4,2,1,0,5,0,6,6,0,1,5,17,13,4,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,2,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,14,10,5,12,0,1,0,0,4,9,0,5,1,46,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795665658955235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513851843127814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866909981550249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112468445924761,0.0,0.2524429236581459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4374217605013084,0.0,0.15860702116202802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30464768431989103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29605870546832475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19347823206008832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22151991187910072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026492594980614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DestinyH23,2020/02/09,"Birth/Water Birth/Pregnancy I am 7 weeks pregnant w my first baby. I am planning to do a water birth w no epidural. I wanted to come on here & ask if there is anyone who has done a water birth? What was your experience like w it & how was it for you? How was the pain? I know I am still early in my pregnancy but I’m just wanting to get information early & also give people time to reply to my question, since this is my first ever post on here. Thank you very much to anyone that shares their experience or helps.",1.676111111111112,3.563517351851853,3.809037037037037,86.9896666666667,79.18518518518519,6.171851851851853,20.059259259259264,7.1686216300943375,0.4539081481481482,406,10,85,5,10,139,70,108,0.036000000000000004,0.85,0.113,0.8398,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,1,3,9,4,0,0,3,0,11,3,0,2,1,13,20,6,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,4,0,13,3,10,16,1,15,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,3,11,59,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349850914689854,0.0,0.5486670862315479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360504117948032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578002949696814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540172119031114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727356218621704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268450473855302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302272870298259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871534368367955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818828416894058,0.16192329400166858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313955523852262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276517396695383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246458312497608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408355463742048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960950277692658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702101850075833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165870039678126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908873771487436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962875204085265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479969628144509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540351700812055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842556948492527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927333695433705,0.19911902028608924,0.0,0.13539695775764982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,superbowldad,2020/02/09,"Apparently my son was gay for his friend when he was younger My son and his friends were hanging out at our house and one of his friends says “Yeah but you were gay for me when we were 14” my son says “that was supposed to be a secret! (laughing)”

My daughter was talking about this mean girl at her school and that she feels bad for all the boys at school, and she jokingly says to her brother “good thing you're gay, or else you might fall for her” he said he was just gay for his friend for a while when they were 14 to 15. I asked if he was serious and he said yes and that was also his first kiss and first sexual experience. He then said he isn't gay or even bi, that he was just gay for him.

This was all news to me. Unfortunately my shocked reaction may have come off as upset or concerned he was gay, I told him whatever he was I would continue to love him and he said he wasn't anymore gay then he was at the dinner table 15 minutes ago, that he was straight. Then left with his sister to the movies. 

I kept thinking I upset him with my reaction, I feel/felt bad. Is it even possible to be gay for someone? I mean only be gay for one specific person then not gay anymore? I tried texting him, telling him I was sorry about my reaction and he told me to stop texting him because he was at the theater. I went to pick them up when I knew the movie would be over and he insisted they walk home, my daughter got in the car but he wanted to walk, in the dark. I made him get in the car. My daughter went to sleep and he didn't talk to me, at this point it was clear I upset him. 

I've apologized again, and made it clear I love him no matter what and that him potentially being into the same sex isn't a bad thing, he ignored me and went to bed. 

I know some will say he's just being a typical teenager but he's really not like this usually. He's not a moody teen, my daughter is a different story but not him. I've messed up as a dad before, but this one just feels like my first **BIG** fumble and I can't shake it",1.224469206805658,2.934391420560754,2.8334579439252363,94.29462377186675,79.88785046728971,6.258902468248262,21.488377665947766,7.2200825789825185,0.4161978672417921,1560,45,368,20,39,513,179,428,0.10400000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.12,0.7638,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,2,3,3,14,24,0,4,16,2,39,18,1,3,4,65,65,36,0,4,17,10,2,2,4,5,0,8,2,3,18,21,1,3,8,1,0,11,10,12,0,6,36,10,62,12,44,18,4,47,0,0,0,16,88,19,0,7,19,235,80,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122635097547692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327817809484648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181748893505782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566366842714955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295269933209673,0.055858093540243486,0.0,0.07797219024190269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893296292745712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957360688163444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654688333554106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104431010314196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963380210143237,0.0,0.0,0.13899586850165974,0.06546200915768803,0.08798121084238468,0.0,0.0,0.233826718818522,0.0,0.0,0.2831790131256129,0.0,0.04787400388357221,0.0,0.0,0.07685667987232632,0.07328658195464066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091914493653074,0.0,0.0,0.1057311706947014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05035862008888375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955857306318347,0.0,0.0,0.0895336565392141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540314263083622,0.17340906647755835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962849628912813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720720523217004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627690020465096,0.06969036096127805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800096380492876,0.0,0.0,0.0866219772359952,0.10330145413923728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870188632106354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486525416696704,0.2914781779105678,0.0,0.18547320713270934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169830167360994,0.0,0.07763960304302048,0.0,0.0,0.10257466307813226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660856039116441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730086390834887,0.0800905170154354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175262583294473,0.0587141664285028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511684649480144,0.0,0.062212198695897385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091984115266399,0.0,0.054047002049659267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25483169660857524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018566658079667,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KaleMunoz,2020/02/09,Four year old is ok with being bad Is this out of the ordinary? I know four year olds are naughty. I would expect them to try and justify it. But when he says “but I want to keep being bad” or “good boys do bad things” I get kind of creeped out. Is he still young enough that moral ambiguity shouldn’t scare me?,0.5311648351648373,2.6326333692307697,1.828351648351649,98.49307692307691,84.53846153846155,5.560439560439562,16.978021978021978,6.868970318607317,-0.39981318681318667,239,5,59,3,7,76,50,65,0.215,0.695,0.09,-0.9102,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,1,1,1,9,0,0,0,0,14,13,5,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,1,6,3,7,9,1,9,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,7,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5520839686051088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277360712744699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515190294023038,0.0,0.0,0.18486427336409586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590504866281466,0.0,0.2295166694951173,0.1211281794349552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625534817078996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752739698437379,0.2206626809020989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17601478120197306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642650932988252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963973106052558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999988781737154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565685552307151,0.0,0.0,0.2838656771366472
parenting,whosthatgirlitsjbd,2020/02/09,"Potty Training woes I swore my DD (now 28 mo) was ready to potty train and I didn’t push her to train. She showed all the signs plus when she picked out her own undies she wanted absolutely nothing to do with diapers ever again. 

At 24 months, we ditched diaps and did the 3 day method where kiddo only wears undies, you encourage them to keep them dry, to let you know when they have to go, and remind them that pee goes in the potty. Then when accidents happen you catch them in the act and rush them to the potty to finish. Idea being they make the connection of going to the potty every time they feel the urge. This was hard, it took closer to 5 days, but it worked. For awhile, LO took herself potty without telling me and was accident free for at least a month or more at home and on the go. I thought to myself, “wow that 5 days was hell, but damn it was worth it!!”

Well, LO is having a major regression now. I guess you could call it that. She can go 4 times a day totally fine and then once just flat out pee her pants without warning. Other days it’s flat out pee her pants every time and no times on the potty the entire day. She appears to not care about “keeping dry” or “pee goes in the potty” in those cases. No pattern as far as time of day, amount of liquid consumed, mood, activity that she’s doing, etc that I can discern. I am now scared to leave the house not only for fear of accidents (which yes, I can deal with) but mostly because I’m afraid it’s solidifying the regression since she doesn’t want to potty in public. I’ve offered bribes (M&Ms) which works mostly, but it doesn’t feel right. I’m not into bribing my kid and also it makes it that much worse when I don’t offer the bribe. 

Any ideas? Is this “normal?” What was your experience like? I’m at my wits end, because it felt like we had it down for a good long while.",2.401102453580904,4.084270472148539,3.465164953580904,91.20276069297084,76.3740053050398,6.091810344827588,20.26931366047745,6.770275591412753,0.17410881962864755,1436,32,310,13,32,462,201,377,0.10400000000000001,0.789,0.107,0.311,1,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,2,5,8,2,15,16,2,3,19,1,25,5,5,3,3,55,49,26,0,4,12,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,25,18,0,2,8,1,2,11,11,6,1,0,13,4,40,10,46,33,11,60,1,1,0,0,35,20,2,6,31,200,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808755441550517,0.0,0.10957691370714216,0.0,0.0687735003291204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329874535591602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326748820775736,0.0,0.10311122244791772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074599259423501,0.0,0.0,0.4565542230095285,0.1042630642238828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957328917097082,0.0,0.11278935971884445,0.0,0.09148004620652687,0.17041681847992668,0.0,0.0,0.09892689349149336,0.0,0.11380206706223404,0.1022711607797313,0.0,0.09710296417425007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229903495242834,0.08482505935914023,0.0,0.0,0.1114087409367632,0.0,0.08943104778201022,0.0,0.09059476643506036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144404355013842,0.0,0.0,0.11669321190022887,0.0,0.22833234061044436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978224866466785,0.0,0.0,0.05557972248319888,0.0,0.0,0.10708460978128558,0.0,0.10341473145806497,0.0,0.09881636499515664,0.0,0.0,0.08949899200620386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501332530167562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614458344660507,0.0,0.07434395082289674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990882800645623,0.0970392658516708,0.0,0.0,0.10770270594575944,0.0,0.15383149558686204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636651746318842,0.0,0.0,0.10125117560710296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365776678078078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839417564256152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028782941147754,0.2948555801324603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472363623523825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193010201497572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093017357752606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949760503598844,0.0,0.14725118411442645,0.0,0.1030625561091787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a_junebug,2020/02/09,"What information do I need to leave for a babysitter? I'm having a babysitter tomorrow for my 2.5 yo son.  Previously all our sitters have been family or close friends of the family.  Tomorrow we're having a local teen sit for a few hours in the afternoon and it occurred to me that I've never had to had to brief someone watching my son but should probably consider it ahead of time.  

He's got food allergies, so I know I need to go over that.  She has my cell number.  What else do I need to go over?  Do I need to leave info in writing?  

Thanks!",1.6492383292383297,3.7800662252252266,3.8661752661752686,85.31705159705162,80.44144144144144,7.63996723996724,24.505323505323506,8.575989854853784,1.8325603603603609,425,16,88,10,11,146,72,111,0.023,0.898,0.079,0.7771,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,0,2,15,21,4,0,5,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,1,11,2,17,16,2,17,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,1,7,58,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240067405219716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665360111152289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23507564804747516,0.0,0.15019704462507774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209700124840571,0.0,0.15548366948193146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914500504496757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106840063114314,0.0,0.0,0.4116942638949916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5765962362249786,0.14993734416854326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20960178297826645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471897114427986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789822716362139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335928782473695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigmomma3915,2020/02/09,"The fighting is killing me... How do I get my 3 year old and 7 year old girls to stop arguing?! Over everything! I don’t understand what happened they have always been so close and as of late everything has turned into some type of competition, which is truly annoying in itself. I have always encouraged togetherness, teamwork, and respectable alone time when needed. What the hell is going on because honestly I’m at my wits end!! Is this normal? Will it continue? I’ve done everything from timeouts, sitting together saying nice things and so on!",4.310606060606059,7.16507566666667,5.077060606060608,76.29559090909096,75.16161616161617,8.80848484848485,30.102020202020196,9.3871,3.40078505050505,437,20,71,12,10,141,76,99,0.17600000000000002,0.7,0.12300000000000001,-0.7909999999999999,0,1,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,4,9,5,0,2,0,12,0,0,1,0,12,19,9,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,1,7,4,11,16,1,19,1,0,0,0,6,7,1,1,10,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918553645333085,0.0,0.0,0.30827320013688553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129221090816974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956739306164408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406987275293428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994520454319119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678156102523476,0.0,0.10527758207569284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380933161614045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494338108960067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20896160941036188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735496708651912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149832000105448,0.0,0.0,0.3887616867311697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731227166407904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487102521410478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306688631778664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801639185201097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014906470629136,0.0,0.19284397617977345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385801941026529
parenting,Thin-Woodpecker,2020/02/09,Is it relaxing to shower/bath with clothes on What can I say I have seen people posting this kind of things so I thought why not try it for myself just to see what it actually fills like and the only reason I can think of is the clothes stick to your body and when you come out the floor is already flooding so the very next day I did try it again only because I felt like it don't know why buy this time I only had my white T-shirt my other T-shirt was in the washer but I only had my white T-shirt on nothing else just my white T-shirt so I went in my shower didn't have a bath I got the shampoo and started to clean myself and when the water washed of the shampoo it felt relaxing it really did and the floor isn't that wet because I only wearing just a T-shirt so for now on when I had a very hard day work and if I'm cross/mad I just take of my clothes get a white T-shirt put it on and just relax in the shower and I do fill better and my wet T-shirt I just leave it hanging on the door of the shower. So anyone done this before if so do tell your story it might be stupid and crazy but what's the point it's what you felt like doing.,2.092156862745096,2.6325150196078444,3.678529411764707,93.92171568627457,75.27450980392156,6.294117647058822,21.225490196078432,5.82211442006289,-0.08280392156862737,890,18,218,4,18,297,112,255,0.045,0.855,0.1,0.924,4,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,0,2,17,9,1,0,17,0,22,4,2,1,0,32,37,23,0,2,11,0,6,3,0,1,1,1,6,0,21,13,1,0,7,4,1,6,4,1,0,0,15,13,28,8,21,20,0,29,0,0,6,0,6,12,0,3,13,141,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.12368986773772055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987194832284178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862665574147045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453143655517654,0.0,0.10785504665276316,0.0,0.0,0.11210021220650247,0.0,0.14079084886890228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918403564873323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348672890463484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970941568511538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588349060947114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651000787793351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622172477517987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013736781180156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354324296795322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199078200653466,0.06965857060324633,0.0,0.0,0.13421011328773086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577117058794385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446188471522647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480022821384646,0.0,0.0,0.12162019257399415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4819960238007502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787259841934562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198198661209606,0.0,0.1213916118912229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741891480179188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811993951705237,0.13032026995666318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007968109503998,0.0,0.0,0.10100346345345057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971441236944966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530034260705793,0.0,0.11078522255620196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420717116300562,0.08121638163142281,0.0,0.1006254652554522,0.07390903490972597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211007083166552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20916430510526385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749866390846507,0.2287446010405051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092275622716064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SkylarShayXD,2020/02/09,"VIDEO GAMES DON'T CAUSE VIOLENCE Parents, you are wrong. video games don't cause violence. Having kids does. First of all, the frick you doing to the kid? You smack them if they don't behave. I understand that it's for discipline, But they're KIDS. FRICKING KIDS. Why y'all gonna need to have such harsh punishments anyway? Second of all, like I mentioned in number one, they're kids. They want to have fun. Just let them have their fun while their kids. Why, have you had fun while you were kids? Reflect on yourself first before doing what you WANT to do to your kid/s.

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So please, don't stop your kid/s from having fun, because we can never be kids ever again.",1.6835209923664145,4.329308206106873,1.9252624045801523,95.8422447519084,85.2595419847328,4.8017175572519095,17.34780534351145,6.322622252153567,-0.2752866412213741,529,12,108,5,16,159,80,131,0.06,0.715,0.225,0.968,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,9,6,2,6,7,1,0,2,0,19,0,0,2,4,17,24,5,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,3,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,5,2,0,4,2,0,18,5,11,19,2,10,0,0,0,0,28,2,0,1,9,70,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900563071047012,0.23439300050564865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758924013773896,0.0,0.16414256236323022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.396320145418986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880692794242053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744878926405817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32815902402112784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19725196158484215,0.0,0.0942405475368968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430319212082958,0.14877534780805188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071313252332467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21419114743266374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21174481566515307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612719273698979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20081432067225896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22755326936331924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34812209633939645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090441628357331,0.23439300050564865,0.0
parenting,5oco,2020/02/09,"Am I kind of a jerk for the way I deal with my son asking for stuff? So like the post says, my son asks for stuff a lot. It's not horrible though and I don't mind getting stuff for him, but I hate wasting money. I was wondering what random teenagers might think of my process, so here's a few examples. 

He wants a guitar. I bought him a cheap one, like $80 or something and three months of lessons. I told him if he learned three full songs start to finish, I'd buy him a nice guitar/amp.

There were two different computer programs he wanted, a video editing one and a game building one. I told him to use the free versions, and if he made at least 1 video every other week I'd buy it, and if he completed building one video game I'd buy it. There's been other things too, but I think you get the point. I have followed through when he completes the task as well.

My second tactic, I guess you could call it, is to randomly say no to him when he asks for stuff but not give a reason. I only do this with stuff that I have no problem eith. For example, he wanted to download a game on my computer last week and I said no. The next day I asked him more about the game, looked at his grades on his school website, and downloaded it for him. I do this because he gets pretty much whatever he wants, which he gets because he's a pretty well behaved kid that does great in school and does his chores for ther most part. He only has two chores. I want to see his reaction when he's told no because I'm worried about him getting spoiled. If he gets super pissy about not getting his way or something, I know it's time for a sit-down heart-to-heart talk. 

Anyway, I don't want to make this too long, but there it is. Got any comments, criticisms, or death threats for me?",3.4945901639344257,4.155354928961753,4.176430601092896,91.19507213114755,72.11475409836065,7.276765027322407,26.11540983606557,7.24861992348623,0.9877260327868846,1368,42,309,13,25,436,180,366,0.105,0.778,0.11699999999999999,0.6624,2,0,2,0,0,0,46.0,0,2,0,2,18,13,3,0,19,0,15,0,0,4,0,49,53,26,1,12,14,2,0,2,0,1,0,4,2,1,22,10,0,0,7,9,7,1,9,4,2,9,10,6,41,10,32,41,9,24,0,0,2,0,53,7,0,14,15,187,63,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339948052525474,0.0,0.05234381958120645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287834928483013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076484221277374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859734847700388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614080337923285,0.0,0.0,0.06145613714630783,0.0,0.0,0.04964078099825432,0.07935508584849231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041969549912442,0.0,0.0,0.13471799828172498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485250247135836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28150403537234475,0.07383886664733254,0.0,0.0,0.06156179878526241,0.08486225856963632,0.08479369244630518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599423398335119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242514828515088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015483027000557,0.0423019760825266,0.0627427171408392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520957863456297,0.0,0.0,0.06811808425997691,0.06463736589803054,0.0,0.0,0.06543911701808879,0.0,0.07283307375856989,0.051379623741917166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165547156619199,0.07772010455210128,0.0,0.06143857438538757,0.0,0.05658351443804668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186093944275555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086337542814908,0.11708184129602014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335352562393955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276372551095958,0.0,0.07371820894933134,0.15661705042105512,0.0,0.07365211840178085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914036844330911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321830628396307,0.12242296243213625,0.0,0.155800201797215,0.0613369763154614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851411055956565,0.0,0.0,0.054481406859840494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4405744756092884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186743809687855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051136991610170636,0.09864151398827838,0.0756249171846132,0.0,0.044883180920283566,0.0,0.0,0.22065106149639452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15038155139651402,0.0,0.0,0.06647937390759592,0.0,0.0,0.2724016246674281,0.12219409550667328,0.12348511027966858,0.0,0.13841472594683285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347320158811221,0.0,0.07816913100068011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weasley24601,2020/02/09,"How do we handle our excessively whiny 3 year old? Our 3 year old girl frequently whines/ has meltdowns about anything and everything lately. If you tell her anything she doesn't want to hear (no, you can't have marshmallows for breakfast...no, we're not going to carry you around the house because you ""don't feel like walking""...no, we can't play a game with you right this very second since we're busy, but we'll play with you in 15 minutes, etc ) when she starts using the whiny tone, nothing helps to deescalate and when we don't give in, it deteriorates into a meltdown pretty quickly.
We've tried:
-Asking her to use her big girl voice and talk nicely -Talking to her in a cheerful, upbeat tone and pretending like she's not whining
-Acknowledging her feelings, telling her that we know whatever is happening is really frustrating for her and making her angry
-Suggesting she goes in her room, or any other room to calm down 
-Physically bringing her to her room when the whining escalates and telling her we'll wait til she calms down to talk
-Ignoring her until she calms down 

Lately when we acknowledge that she's whining a lot, she cries and says ""I'm trying to stop but I don't know how!"" And it breaks my heart because I know she really doesn't know how to regulate her emotions. I just have no idea what to tell her, and how to help her in these moments. I've also tried hugging her, and encouraging her to take deep breaths to calm down but that doesn't work either. 

Every day has become a struggle, and the husband and I are out of ideas. Help!",4.548096201068901,6.200084710963459,4.802949588328758,83.93712119023543,70.6611295681063,7.759699552217247,28.3693485483172,8.321376580360154,1.9419763397371088,1242,46,237,19,23,390,155,301,0.11199999999999999,0.741,0.147,0.9289,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,9,6,0,1,13,19,1,1,9,0,18,3,2,7,0,53,38,28,0,2,9,1,2,2,0,2,0,3,3,2,9,22,0,3,10,4,0,2,12,7,0,1,0,5,47,12,34,36,3,39,0,4,0,1,62,18,0,3,20,151,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731865407622924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425247703232672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17970700196676287,0.09720163795865434,0.10207726808667926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312158336920218,0.12059101752818975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993933308428895,0.07041807381330355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282328053151985,0.0,0.0,0.12177494677362233,0.0,0.0,0.09199670541376376,0.0,0.09813231386598216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041879474689108,0.07800486695202254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474433837061084,0.06205480278914175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655574879324394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306429127459195,0.12938986151122753,0.21956188447257213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598980704754542,0.0,0.2465228873880013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24003036328801625,0.0,0.2463406018033082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668876583433202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282884917985544,0.0,0.0,0.07288471422891835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477009057853763,0.0,0.22915163253589646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108478548473663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989893959035446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324707661538133,0.0,0.08683172415531312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032252796118684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772847576641428,0.0,0.0,0.0912871547572558,0.0,0.11414837738344448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209677452231008,0.2632867010713945,0.3817450887496335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239712825082156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886090172131628,0.0,0.09009261837150404,0.06440268574531265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949112022883134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062867518927916
parenting,Throwaway420187,2020/02/10,"3 Year old was potty trained until the toilet overflowed. Basically as the title suggests. My 3 year old daughter was over the hump with potty training and doing great for more than 6 months. She was recently in the bathroom (after using it) when she flushed and the toilet overflow. She now is terrified to use any toilet and had accidents at school. Really not sure what to do but would love any thoughts. When I say terrified, I mean screaming like Someone is trying to kill her.",5.248940609951845,7.241351325842698,5.411268057784913,78.91202247191012,69.4494382022472,7.782343499197433,30.69181380417336,8.418075326091056,2.535547672552166,384,16,64,6,7,121,66,89,0.19699999999999998,0.696,0.10800000000000001,-0.8631,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,5,0,9,2,0,2,1,12,14,8,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,2,7,4,12,8,1,16,0,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,12,44,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870008564277317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23264963354548415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334617010566544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309341987453267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045324731420485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22986198913749095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843367189653913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428587261875641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351844311479432,0.0,0.2083562000029418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781109663736782,0.0,0.2135628986629615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879605289884465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988832872577031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752583256301734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326832097301725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36450601807266253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499021273701886,0.0,0.0,0.2717791502096891
parenting,larryhotdogs,2020/02/10,"My daughter drew a ""troubling"" picture and I was called to the school counselor. My seventh grade daughter had some friends that were being mean and she wrote a note about dying and drew a, I'd say mildly violent, picture or her hurting herself.  The teachers found it and the school counselor wanted us to come in and talk about it.   It felt like a cliche out of a movie or TV sitcom.  Has anyone else had this experience?   I'm still trying to figure out how to respond.   My daughter is a creative type and likes to write and draw so part of my thinks it just her outlet.  And the counselor, well intended, is just exemplifying the ""when you're a hammer everything's looks like a nail"" adage.   Anyway I'd appreciate to hear from anyone else who has had this experience.  Especially if your kids are older now.   Thanks.",4.6524458874458885,6.443980629870134,5.046168831168831,81.74163419913421,70.62337662337663,7.2112554112554115,28.417748917748927,7.793537801064563,1.7916424242424247,643,24,118,8,12,204,99,154,0.040999999999999995,0.823,0.135,0.9169,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,0,11,9,1,0,13,0,11,0,0,2,0,27,22,14,1,2,5,3,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,8,11,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,8,4,11,6,14,13,2,8,0,1,1,0,19,3,0,4,7,79,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295039966720752,0.3363074178792095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675782665258627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136927736090418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703239374141019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741915970218982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749466165784378,0.3210690530351793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757472843831027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799420185313163,0.12679370875173473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849678794744132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17568693170964106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24053274807498445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781403495003472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876774933036935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17771896385239655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050966874118303,0.0,0.3321833146724513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106127971370318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190824158278575,0.0,0.15109369214430526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051573255456496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142231643774596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19740837383301774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679841399474226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755777570924747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lisb1120,2020/02/10,"Do you give a gift to your child's friend if they gave one at your child's party but aren't having a party themselves? My daughter received a gift for her birthday from her friend. When I asked if he (the friend) was having a party too, the mother said her son only wanted a couple of friends (my daughter was not included in this party) to go out instead of a big party. Should I still give the friend a gift in this situation?",7.635344827586207,5.547251356321841,7.676408045977013,78.76564655172416,64.17241379310343,9.619540229885061,32.0948275862069,7.1686216300943375,1.9922896551724136,336,9,68,2,4,109,54,87,0.0,0.631,0.369,0.9894,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,1,0,4,5,0,0,10,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,14,4,0,4,4,4,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,1,11,5,10,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,25,5,0,2,2,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616875552539133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22034431154883227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7692742651649543,0.0,0.0,0.3820659288457549,0.1131756915733493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494222747698145,0.1514547299980504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18942747545479768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238413879592246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590332369577574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174577658908011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pateridactyl,2020/02/10,"""Spiderman shoes are not girl shoes"" And they are not boy shoes either. They are *just* shoes. *Anyone* can wear them.


I was so disappointed today when my daughter came home from 4k to tell me that the kids at school made fun of her because she was wearing Spiderman shoes and ""those aren't girl shoes.""


She was so confused, she really didn't understand why the other kids were making fun of her shoes. She said it really hurt her feelings though. She was so excited when we let her pick out her shoes and super excited to show everyone at school her cool light up Spiderman shoes.


I'm hurt for my daughter, and also so disappointed that this is still an issue in today's society. Things are things, they are not boy things or girl things, they are *things*.",2.8641666666666663,5.45323763888889,3.3137222222222213,88.40350000000002,78.8611111111111,7.173333333333334,20.71111111111111,8.238735603445708,1.1268561111111108,596,16,117,12,15,185,80,144,0.111,0.774,0.115,-0.0842,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,5,1,10,11,0,1,3,1,16,11,11,3,0,19,23,13,0,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,11,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,9,4,21,6,11,13,1,11,0,4,0,0,28,5,0,2,5,81,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875017119166313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125736575710153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814298462002922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841390057945308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384064226847582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140550765949954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614942824794463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447037224060669,0.0,0.0,0.1680402514577247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463152759058214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234035271915627,0.10746752264454873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20627908907145745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531461193272199,0.0,0.0,0.3258774684449004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857333935138976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071948900284292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5348001214883024,0.0,0.1581798757587843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052148632308861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760476351521128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527579864836884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,islandnector,2020/02/10,"When your fiancé won’t let you work. This has been my struggle for the last year. Every time I say that I want to go back to work, he always has an excuse or reason that I can’t. 

He’s a teacher and gets paid summers off. He doesn’t want me working during that time because it’ll ruin his “relaxation time”, since he’ll have to watch the kids alone. 

Daycare costs were also an issue. My future mother- and father-in-law offered to pay for most, if not all, of the childcare costs. He doesn’t have that excuse anymore. I have a reliable babysitter that I plan to use. 

My mother-in-law told me that her ex-husband (my fiancé’s father) wouldn’t let her work either then they were married years ago! It must run in the family. 

Why doesn’t he want me working? He knows that I feel lonely, isolated and depressed from staying home 24/7 with the kids.",2.8836340852130316,4.505392438596496,3.8028111946533016,89.55328947368423,74.90643274853802,5.821386800334169,23.325396825396822,6.1826913282559595,0.4985151211361738,661,19,134,4,14,212,105,171,0.11,0.8290000000000001,0.061,-0.8748,0,3,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,1,6,3,5,0,1,9,0,18,0,0,2,2,19,29,8,0,6,4,2,1,0,0,5,0,1,1,2,10,4,0,0,3,1,4,2,7,4,0,0,5,3,19,1,12,17,3,17,0,3,1,0,22,2,0,3,12,80,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340180326490342,0.0,0.0,0.15658399530529102,0.0,0.1209040803438507,0.12579958199344676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993674374919014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162533660399033,0.0,0.09216210889553876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021702423882614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738145337198015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252551988700635,0.0,0.07644462098496531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898889631821109,0.0,0.08592297878973673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165275139635548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779980620764547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308834645631086,0.12323747262392645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091976228802325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544527610410894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202298622755228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250633360420965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114508073889033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580533362119837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644748282508411,0.0,0.0,0.14446552731404666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057690829045185,0.0,0.0,0.2675217881249081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642262895054544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5503291872993762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19471876683864853
parenting,uhhhno87,2020/02/10,Toddler is too funny! Just wanted to share My two year old son has taught himself how to burp on command and gets a kick out of doing it until I cant stop laughing.. Hes the funniest little guy i know. Hes channeled his ability to toots as well and lemme tell ya.. Potty training has been a trip lol,0.5642857142857167,2.751167015873019,2.7168253968254,91.61428571428574,85.19047619047619,4.8698412698412685,21.698412698412696,6.1826913282559595,0.34773650793650823,234,8,49,2,7,79,55,63,0.0,0.73,0.27,0.9440000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,1,8,1,0,1,0,8,12,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,8,3,8,10,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,4,33,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890513115707788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35801063313278914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870913149264274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36238760875592796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794063489100469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022882770290655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160276641584732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532008458921705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21326304847339456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250943871396156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23283889193878302
parenting,Discouraged_1980,2020/02/10,"Parental Abuse This is a difficult situation that I imagine few have experienced but I'm looking for thoughts on ways to make things better.

Our 12 year old son abuses his mother.  He has autism / aspergers, high anxiety and is prone to quick rage.  Things are getting progressively worse as he is becoming much larger and heavier than she is.  He usually doesn't rage on her when I, the father, am around - because I try to step in between them and if necessary put him into his room and hold the door shut.  The abuse to my wife from him is becoming more frequent (seemingly daily) and includes everything from name calling to hitting, shoving hair pulling etc.   However I work full time and just cannot be home all of the time.

In the past we've set boundaries but he will quickly escalate things.  Taking knives out of the kitchen to threaten us with was shocking the first time - but after several repeats now we try to quickly hide them when he's angry.  The autism / aspergers complicates setting boundaries because we try to have an open mind to his dependency needs and limitations.

He doesn't do much and he is almost certainly depressed.  He is now home schooled because he absolutely refused to get up and go to school most mornings.  When he did go it was coupled with a tirade of verbal abuse.  He acted like a obedient model student at school though - and typically acts quite well with anyone other than his parents.   Never really had friends and mostly avoids everyone - but that seems like textbook autism.   Most of his day is computer and youtube.  

My wife has been unwilling to call the police when she is being abused and hasn't discussed it with many people.   Much of the time she doesn't tell me what happens, or if she does it is days later.  I see a lot of it as control on his part.  His rationalization regarding the abuse on his mother is ""If I'm unhappy I want you to be unhappy too, and I know you'll be unhappy if I attack.""   After an especially bad episode of physical abuse on his mother he'll often be a little remorseful and nicer to her afterwards.  During these episodes my wife doesn't fight back - sometimes she'll try to get away but he is big enough he can literally push her down and keep her from leaving.

We are middle class and our son has all he needs.  We have been a loving family and I have never abused him, my wife or anyone so I do not know where this is coming from.  We love our son and want him to grow up to be a functioning person - but it seems likes things just keep getting worse.   Unless something changes I don't see how my wife can keep dealing with this.",5.454299098671726,6.626948203629035,5.729653700189754,79.96705407969641,67.97177419354838,8.980455407969641,31.32210626185957,9.247498795725024,2.7178021347248578,2063,83,385,39,34,657,250,496,0.185,0.745,0.07,-0.9971,3,1,1,0,9,0,45.0,9,2,2,7,21,18,4,1,20,0,49,4,1,4,5,85,81,41,0,8,16,14,1,3,1,4,0,0,5,1,17,34,1,8,7,0,0,10,10,9,1,1,7,5,52,9,57,63,15,66,0,1,3,2,76,24,0,16,32,262,69,8,0.0,0.6182307107140727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531162365241258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04989557736349269,0.0,0.0,0.09121117032807463,0.0,0.0,0.058062485299635376,0.0,0.07420081765616374,0.06127935310318399,0.05015262274000644,0.054458656233666164,0.11927839087536135,0.14406782292036846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057684629211368264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320038023750674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899750821908733,0.056184020424473874,0.0,0.0,0.0731533764049833,0.0,0.0721682416429015,0.0,0.08412714973697713,0.06724226588821752,0.05617665546763169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707727087387615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739301151350592,0.07274112047283457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623235725306273,0.05861841580989007,0.0,0.06148663796334977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05547882937052687,0.0,0.0,0.05039129049245848,0.0,0.13630574159330444,0.0,0.07413570697746699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05767666947431167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891190269541596,0.13084839583319693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392015844747394,0.0,0.0,0.07168994130430557,0.0,0.0,0.0690619622303392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559429801780324,0.06537079148293201,0.0,0.0,0.05477106977525817,0.0,0.0,0.05545044100162245,0.11773298757812695,0.0,0.043536999348557925,0.06612609806684239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585684936602902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383969277018502,0.09672436800936844,0.1006083213491309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684407874955893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484531280577004,0.0706303808104542,0.062262934401123377,0.0452175616610063,0.056950391466329235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556734113327517,0.0,0.06937291264850062,0.0,0.0,0.04178365866043676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19802811280466884,0.10394890827937824,0.1781302831617094,0.0,0.07368366260176702,0.0,0.0,0.07331362113400287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05021201381450796,0.06450742274991422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903973702456217,0.0,0.05700796064044138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332561107121394,0.0,0.06408147297340246,0.0517799434829748,0.15212871377206233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17712911374651372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784554912810478,0.0,0.07183415149089221,0.0,0.07694067863207889,0.05177114845365693,0.0,0.0,0.05864349906149417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04748327391047973,0.0,0.13293604696159098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04200160901279199
parenting,EtherealFlower-,2020/02/10,"Do you think this is normal? I have two boys. My oldest is 5 and my youngest is 8 months.

I am a little concerned about my youngest, and Dr. Google is not helping. I have pretty bad anxiety so I keep overthinking things.. and I worry a lot. Anyway, my son is 8 months and he doesn’t necessarily respond to his name. He does sometimes, but not always. Sometimes I have trouble with getting his attention, especially if he is playing with something. He only says “dada” but not very often. He can’t crawl yet (only scoots across the floor on his belly). He shakes his head once in awhile, which I’ve read is normal sometimes. He also waves his hands around a lot. I can’t tell if he is just really interested in his hands or if he’s flapping them? He makes eye contact, is social, and smiles back at you. Dr. Google points out the possibility of autism, which worries me. I know it’s not the end of the world if he is, but I like being prepared for things. I also know how cruel this world is and I worry if he’s different in anyway he will have a hard time. 

Really my main concern is the fact that he doesn’t always respond to his name, and I have double getting his attention a lot of the time. Is this normal for 8 months? When should he know his name by? Obviously I will bring this up to his pediatrician, but his next visit is over a month away.",2.2216974169741737,4.229755774907755,3.7468250922509214,87.50693874538747,77.96678966789669,6.254819188191882,21.910110701107005,7.24861992348623,0.6830568560885606,1049,30,217,13,25,347,135,271,0.10300000000000001,0.838,0.059000000000000004,-0.8667,1,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,1,0,13,7,1,1,12,0,29,6,4,2,2,48,38,22,0,9,15,1,3,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,10,11,0,1,6,2,0,3,8,4,0,1,0,5,33,3,23,34,5,31,0,0,1,0,42,16,0,10,13,145,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645599710973553,0.18360083971947266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439940964922983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821390473861592,0.0,0.0,0.10365530371394407,0.08483420726411217,0.09211795271808502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526762756361687,0.0,0.0,0.09654739399145652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977164618809867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152820022350582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988308023843055,0.0,0.11322673653018235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394947403044333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806319166748023,0.0,0.0,0.18189754614298906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05389991621741313,0.1105760570574978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813867320082725,0.0,0.0,0.07364374233307755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522459848344754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733339974904625,0.0,0.3242894025014531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749403708889007,0.0,0.16781642846582384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429412795314373,0.12437646218108335,0.0,0.11224163263738632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103562763222564,0.0,0.14135585998874733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773599770105933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246389189061112,0.0,0.08493466850519261,0.32734695252186274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643015428618304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465919428583046,0.07069271542340005,0.0,0.0,0.12866444594399168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777288170036044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103085116893922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33612550594360585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InternetWeakGuy,2020/02/10,"Just realized my kids daycare lists rates by classroom but charges by age - is that common? My 2.5 year old changed classrooms and I mentioned that we were still being charged the old rate, only to be told we don't get the new rate ($50 a month less) until she turns 3. I was surprised and looked back at my payment summaries (from a more sleep deprived time) and sure enough they move her each January and charge the higher rate until June.

This seems backwards to me, or is it common?",7.160744680851067,6.582669755319152,6.052638297872343,85.15300000000002,64.21276595744679,8.371063829787236,33.693617021276594,6.742157984588678,1.9679344680851063,383,14,76,2,5,114,75,94,0.1,0.846,0.054000000000000006,-0.6681,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,0,1,13,12,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,11,2,8,7,4,17,0,1,1,0,8,2,0,2,14,48,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830514178232407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518331248846073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459768928312614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437514676674838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19990822872876468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001511603023893,0.2530173026421023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299172847155893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.499602314038627,0.0,0.0,0.18105335191654887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216718482561005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382292852850435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19011291768643607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436624743276348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881316283279982,0.0,0.0,0.2274740121704638,0.0,0.0,0.2589380511649604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330113682202196
parenting,TheKeenJew,2020/02/10,"I don’t know if I’m my dads son Late last year of 2019, my dad was murdered in the streets of Brooklyn. I loved my dad, but I found out my moms blood type O+, and my dad was bloodtype B-. 

And, well. I’m bloodtype A-, isn’t this impossible? Unless my mother had a side hustle",0.054999999999999716,1.8199465000000004,2.0766666666666684,97.985,84.0,4.666666666666667,20.0,5.46131890053228,-0.4175,210,6,52,1,6,70,43,60,0.048,0.863,0.09,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,5,2,1,0,0,8,10,5,1,1,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,0,9,2,5,6,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,1,3,28,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189153746336143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997334441483936,0.3114345800308393,0.4309868078126369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34482925637777545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4474707889456632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435229936613408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460378165964749
parenting,EntitledKiddy,2020/02/10,"My son’s poop is white!? I have a 3 years old son, I’m a single father and he just pooped white, the poop is completely white. I’m going to check with his pediatrician, but I would to like if any of you has already had this experience, it’s completely new to me and probably something related to his eating habits.
The only thing new is that he is drinking a little bit more milk now, but I don’t if it can change his poop color.",2.5302380952380967,3.784075166666668,4.502063492063492,85.685,75.1111111111111,7.80952380952381,22.857142857142854,8.418075326091056,1.1730476190476185,335,9,74,6,7,115,61,90,0.0,0.956,0.044000000000000004,0.5487,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,10,7,4,0,0,9,13,6,0,3,5,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,9,1,6,11,3,7,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,2,6,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382991844346037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468490851009803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357545337988881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284397456034735,0.0,0.452825611122612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154256362466486,0.0,0.22096426144882286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21123432327257444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227257511118438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549915827389504,0.21643226489920672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171194401398695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22659653207691766,0.0,0.0,0.16423487446865498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328237751468233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624396964601024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346336382884545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340017122594055,0.0,0.0,0.1390606287889751
parenting,rbaxter1,2020/02/10,"My partner has taught our 4 year old to compromise about everything Everything, like whether or not to wash her hands when told to, or pick up her toys, or let her baby brother ride in his stroller.... and of course I can't, say, punish her by not giving her a treat because he'll just give her one later. Is he an idiot? Anyone else have a partner who does this, and how do you deal?",6.193846153846158,4.995180307692311,6.23551282051282,85.08865384615387,66.43589743589743,9.338461538461539,31.038461538461537,8.07648339933343,1.9011692307692307,296,9,65,3,4,94,63,78,0.099,0.835,0.066,-0.3975,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,0,4,4,2,0,3,0,6,2,1,2,0,11,11,8,0,0,7,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,2,11,2,8,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,3,5,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397324068351294,0.2549345205432297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516718338295763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565114528275033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21773468638944785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078482352978196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472274931019632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773610854635198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25442435638677485,0.0,0.12155565125926104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26108349564448924,0.0,0.16859961415005614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978631338945918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377479390984167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022502523746562
parenting,StillDollgirl,2020/02/10,"I'm thinking about going self-employed as a parent I'm having a difficult time find any part-time weekend, evening work to work around my son and full-time working husband. I was considering taking a course to teach English as a second language to foreigners who moved to the UK but want to improve their English. 

I'd be happy to hunt down my own clients or go through an agency that allows me to be flexible. I don't have a Bachelors's Degree (yet). 

Would anyone be able to advise me if this would be a good idea; specific courses, or personal experiences, etc? 

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Thank you very much",5.2786842105263165,6.570697175438597,5.907850877192985,78.0870394736842,68.47368421052633,8.50701754385965,33.54824561403509,8.841846274778883,2.9590035087719286,474,22,84,8,8,154,85,114,0.016,0.809,0.17600000000000002,0.9587,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,1,3,4,4,0,0,8,0,10,0,0,1,0,13,18,7,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,8,3,14,11,3,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,3,3,54,11,5,0.18061837584259405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956999347638903,0.21947109631515804,0.1228266892409838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262925679755571,0.0,0.0,0.1607886478193109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014372333759216,0.1192967337915608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667942952309762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650819233423583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20529917068690176,0.15149412427596845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227161966949302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20389616138202027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19196874932720231,0.13277528846098954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005553316295189,0.19559209990529375,0.0,0.0,0.15770899901022675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842435740790706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580254039941111,0.0,0.0,0.16628913363175754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573296218956565,0.0,0.0,0.10532002744831906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902907595669376,0.10653339773271643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39447698630364747,0.0,0.0,0.2566122240084222,0.0,0.21947109631515804,0.0
parenting,SmarterTogether,2020/02/10,"Baby Safety Cabinet Locks - Outlet Protectors Hi, my coworker recently had a baby and I wanted to get her some cabinet locks & outlet protectors. In lieu of the virus going on in China, does anyone know of any non-China made cabinet locks & outlet protectors? Just want to play it safe, would feel awful if the baby got sick.",3.805956284153005,6.447022737704923,5.784836065573771,71.69616120218579,75.72131147540983,9.31256830601093,23.281420765027317,9.725611199111238,2.9192928961748628,261,8,40,8,6,90,45,61,0.09300000000000001,0.768,0.139,0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,2,1,0,1,0,11,10,2,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,2,7,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6262680460186484,0.0,0.19653156952427367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20207722569799086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25290798280779164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461283172219119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099184677057098,0.0,0.1642467467228029,0.0,0.2311416521531249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588281829639766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734610965262504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285355043997945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409222538284996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052990414996135,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grt3,2020/02/10,"Can you help me to decide if an antibiotic is right? 4-year-old with no prior ear issues, few symptoms now other than what the doctor found beneath her wax-blocked ears. My 4-year-old has never had to take an antibiotic. At her 4-year well visit, her doctor couldn't see her ear drums due to wax blockage. My daughter does, I guess, have a few minor speech-related issues (e.g., an 's' sound often sounds like 'f'), but I've always thought she was pretty normal for her age. Her vocabulary is really incredible, so maybe I've not paid enough attention to her speech not being great.


In any case, through a combination of Debrox at home and the doctor manually removing a lot of earwax a week later (today), we got her ears cleaned out. The doctor found some fluid and redness and prescribed an antibiotic. She seemed fairly certain that it is probably not viral. 


There was one night, probably three weeks ago, my daughter complained of ear pain, but it seemed transient. She never brought it up again. I assumed she just ""slept funny"" on that side.


So, should we just fill the prescription to be safe? My wife seems to think that's the right thing to do. Given that I strongly value healthy gut bacteria, I'm hesitant to nuke her entire system just for something that's mostly a speculation. Any thoughts?",6.270212655601661,7.413344348547722,6.2951633817427375,76.75735088174277,66.0954356846473,8.846576763485476,30.000259336099585,9.017664075816787,2.5034914937759334,1032,36,180,17,16,327,157,241,0.065,0.818,0.11699999999999999,0.9022,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,2,1,0,1,10,8,0,0,14,0,14,13,7,0,3,39,31,8,0,4,9,3,0,1,0,1,6,8,2,0,11,7,0,1,11,1,1,4,7,2,1,2,12,10,24,6,23,15,6,28,0,0,2,0,22,10,0,10,14,116,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002953113799586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938953732973712,0.0,0.0,0.1534757843927527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620030802101833,0.0987506768876146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659817301285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24745557393505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025177597652102,0.12441107473165547,0.12431055436797918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075637055689308,0.0,0.113191884092874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355599513977963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055129952146883064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959360617421036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336711685429987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174064731576025,0.0,0.0,0.1058965913383372,0.11056330879088733,0.0,0.0,0.2368219078604959,0.0,0.07646611707300106,0.0,0.12007413265172308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480306966020952,0.2433301609701485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229085260009664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927365765810912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992217827828375,0.3081872305224793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687294042193547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728828002894198,0.08484475784182248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496863967560373,0.0723059754435424,0.0,0.17917130198621714,0.0,0.0,0.10696306052398426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18103354238025676,0.0,0.10146044368829972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800380029805394
parenting,xoxosayounara,2020/02/10,"How to deal with the ‘threenager’ phase My daughter turned 3 last month and we’re really struggling with her behaviour. 

It’s gotten to the point where we dread taking her out because she doesn’t listen. She has meltdowns over EVERY LITTLE THING... like wailing on the floor in a grocery store type of meltdown. She tries to run off aimlessly in public and won’t hold our hand or stay by our side. When it’s time to leave, she protests and then cries, throws her head and body back and we have to pick her up and carry her out. She’s insanely impatient and we can’t reason with her when she’s in one of her moods.

We’re exhausted. I get down to her level when we’re out and explain to her that I need her to listen to me and that she needs to stay with me, and why, etc., and she’ll respond “okay” but then do it again.

At home, we do time outs but to be honest, I’m not sure if it’s really made a difference.

I’m a first time mom and I KNOW I shouldn’t compare but I can’t help but notice other toddlers so well behaved, and who just listen to their parents without negotiation. Someone tell me this is normal and that it’ll get better?

Does anyone experience the same thing with their toddler and have any tips?

Sometimes I feel like we’re (my husband and I) are the only parents in the world going through this.",3.0443529828288187,4.4470523271375475,3.969283058948488,89.4199504337051,74.05576208178441,6.7594972561515325,23.961940166401128,7.2636822038024595,0.8301352805806341,1032,30,220,11,21,332,150,269,0.054000000000000006,0.851,0.095,0.9429,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,0,2,2,10,12,1,2,9,1,15,4,3,4,1,52,32,29,0,5,9,5,2,2,0,4,1,3,1,0,14,29,0,1,4,0,1,3,7,4,1,2,2,5,38,7,36,25,2,39,0,0,0,0,41,21,0,2,15,149,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093730555071126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350334128313446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282595395795972,0.0,0.08151726774696856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118268531201632,0.0,0.1485378713796062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689018085532746,0.0,0.13786417855142968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397137327846964,0.0,0.0,0.11702328824054695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913826428111404,0.0,0.0,0.11266873300708875,0.0,0.0,0.1308083069433273,0.0,0.0,0.06761516974085426,0.09553287249084484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374606636363853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397311560547599,0.0,0.07599876512764041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724000698227554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963277264083576,0.0,0.13413666514677142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349153644486364,0.10900338732190848,0.0,0.14159503054021735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066215815643506,0.13402716803198014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265334386288954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566166214357254,0.10673769045104367,0.0,0.0,0.19831017538411574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102170396451596,0.0,0.1522463299246742,0.0,0.0,0.0906152417471836,0.10170357514565877,0.0,0.0,0.2969706597958564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641295940455144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133479076004246,0.13749114841265836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113304409583304,0.0,0.13225703700512936,0.0,0.0,0.2850652366817717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979797425097318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603384176198618,0.0,0.10054424805535972,0.0,0.11688118418930075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776813487515488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23392764819752235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079021743854114,0.1454539519205602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023446442055565,0.0,0.12066564127250864,0.0,0.0,0.12890573099956135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Itsmaybelline,2020/02/10,"Daughter won't stop screaming My daughter of 1 year has a very bad habit of *just* yelling. When she's bored, she yells. When she wants something, she yells. When she's excited, she yells. Especially when she's getting her diaper changed, she yells and yells and yells. Its really wearing on my family because no one can think straight. Our house has very thin walls, so *everyone* hear's her yelling.

She started doing this a few months ago and hasn't stopped. Is there anything we can do to fix this?",2.521444976076559,5.2829951157894754,2.4350239234449766,92.98698564593302,82.05263157894737,5.980861244019139,26.5311004784689,7.348242739294969,1.3927894736842106,396,17,79,6,11,118,62,95,0.084,0.8109999999999999,0.10400000000000001,-0.0142,0,0,1,0,2,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,2,0,9,1,1,0,0,9,14,8,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,3,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,11,15,1,4,13,1,14,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,0,10,46,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21117795464439046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19604432237114008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19891344948649506,0.1452237827072275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520174626958018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276405195015639,0.0,0.0,0.22458356669947208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446618738077594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685043468197654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27488730075052903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901542040497317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16143190935082893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261727429799676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18340233792498295,0.0,0.0,0.16862156488133834,0.0,0.0,0.3983445987015145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264920098115675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39313206777663295,0.1405151802394039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341335079716262
parenting,grandma-shark,2020/02/10,"Going back to work after being a stay at home parent I’ve been out of the workforce 2.5 years and I plan to stay home until my child is in kindergarten. 

I’m getting increasingly worried about this 5 year gap of employment I’ll have when I re-enter the workforce.  I have done some contract work here and there so I can definitely add something to my resume, but it is not much. 

I’m looking into the idea of getting an MBA or masters during this time (online degree or nights & weekends etc.) but I’m not sure it will make a difference after being unemployed for 5 years. 

Does anyone have any advice or experience?",4.365775941230488,5.80945608264463,5.451680440771352,79.92277318640956,70.81818181818181,7.361248852157942,27.49403122130395,7.793537801064563,1.7494400367309455,490,17,89,6,9,162,84,121,0.037000000000000005,0.945,0.018000000000000002,-0.2626,4,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,1,1,16,19,10,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,6,1,15,14,4,19,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,4,11,59,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129352844185675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899290469271952,0.0,0.11920472049675555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256839583786865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478889689045742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18314306065370176,0.0,0.0,0.15339940282865086,0.17938480102383805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549716149317348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714694269134432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831658998617197,0.0,0.09962260812848647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516647778456796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197883579522512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720131616622958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700891788918502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128859950941242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449987367051658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946412656627545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494851481230966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37367636588971137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521084267217295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221430303356548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552296474830452,0.17801775810330675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386473271282681
parenting,awkwardlypanda5,2020/02/10,"Parents that live near mountains or other areas that like to go hiking with their kids, what is the best way to do so? We’re moving close to mountains in May, my daughter seems to love the outdoors and I enjoy hiking but haven’t gotten to do it since before I had her. What’s the best way to take a toddler (shes 14 months currently) hiking especially if it’s in a Mountain-ish trail. I obviously won’t go anywhere dangerous I just don’t know the best way to take her out. My mother suggested one of the backpacks which she apparently used for my sister and I well past the age of 14 months but honestly I’m not too sure how long or we’ll I can carry 20+ lbs on my back. Any other suggestions?",1.5816059113300511,3.604825510344829,3.585837438423649,87.8011206896552,80.10344827586206,6.349753694581281,22.081280788177338,7.447530270364453,0.8514729064039409,549,17,115,8,14,186,96,145,0.044000000000000004,0.772,0.184,0.9685,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,3,6,10,1,0,8,0,11,1,0,2,2,19,21,9,0,1,7,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,1,1,1,2,0,16,9,16,16,3,20,0,0,0,1,14,7,0,5,8,76,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650737218772665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173891194365125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14578557846738285,0.0,0.5393873546346789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473672242457085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941561412819168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370109824011779,0.0,0.15128375943324976,0.15161788075628882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546281613607977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735011281130011,0.18209213864256735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609474936809774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023694940233454,0.0,0.16354979628772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596851108924403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417224152337561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614724740466859,0.0,0.25763125614027577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479704236455876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079711724777366,0.0,0.0,0.15404240769181324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RandomAnonHere,2020/02/10,"AITA? Trying to set neighbor kid (parent) boundaries... Hi there!
Need some advice on taking in neighbor kids. We have various kids in our neighborhood that come over and play with my kids, which is cool. 


First, I’d like to say I think kids need to be social. As a kid, we played with the other neighborhood kids “till the street lights came on”. 


Here are some of the issues I’m having, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not, because these are not issues my parents dealt with when I was a kid. Our parents all knew each other, had each other’s phone numbers, we didn’t go INSIDE the house unless specifically invited, and if you did something shitty, your parents knew about it before you even got home, and they BACKED EACH OTHER UP. 


First, usually these kids show up and I have no idea who their parents are, or even where they live. I usually send home my phone number to give to their parents, and some respond, some don’t. Never has a parent willingly contacted me about their kid coming to my house. Ive never actually seen or talked to any of these kids’ parents. They could be being raised by otters. 


Second, from the few that do communicate via text, no one ever ASKS if their kid can come over. They just show up. At any time. Every day of the week. Year round. 
And there is no reciprocating. I’ve actually had one kid tell me her parents told her that she can come to our house, but NO KIDS are allowed at her house. Wth??


There are more issues, like them showing up at mealtimes, or coming over sick, that irritate me, but I’m mostly losing it over the issues above. 


Am I running a free daycare without realizing it? Am I going to be sued into oblivion if/when someone gets hurt? And if they do, who do I call? While the kids are all generally nice, clean, and well-behaved, their parent’s lack of involvement or courtesy has me feeling pretty scorned. 


Any advice is VERY MUCH appreciated!",3.998006934032983,5.690572959239134,4.718204647676163,83.83706521739133,72.125,7.1410794602698635,24.917916041979012,7.753152298057669,1.2815201274362815,1491,45,287,19,29,479,188,368,0.092,0.805,0.10400000000000001,0.5983,11,0,1,0,0,0,60.0,6,3,11,3,13,10,0,0,12,1,34,1,0,1,6,65,59,25,0,8,17,10,2,2,2,1,1,1,5,15,17,25,0,0,6,5,1,10,12,2,0,5,11,6,40,9,40,42,15,44,0,2,2,0,68,18,0,14,17,203,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.12556393782248484,0.0,0.0,0.1257354143128019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312506233251147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060144817605966364,0.0,0.0,0.04946987183184763,0.0,0.03921819961109902,0.0,0.05474459880766274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656935308494495,0.07358244008370446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277095806514971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136649924889264,0.0,0.0,0.04149094391973944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849857131624564,0.05819495895443015,0.0542052620644409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032529858972533784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109447140683696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03361253708266608,0.06171627870378048,0.07312646322309231,0.0,0.05145481375660529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290670959488546,0.0,0.0,0.2969371773802152,0.06887226552335297,0.0726267188354662,0.0,0.2685973388676982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286195234244248,0.0,0.05680924549159831,0.0,0.0,0.07197474045809912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04729384544560896,0.09540761433844218,0.0992386936204766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719052384532837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7143673320029048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545212550265396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051162010010869466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558173285239015,0.054511087953153146,0.04952845438811348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060635255579441986,0.0,0.04837213634567125,0.05171027435337508,0.05623188483875665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041223460255286656,0.0,0.0,0.03751442876308681,0.0,0.0,0.06147513283953525,0.0,0.04367944324743638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417124797570859,0.05308335735432123,0.0,0.0,0.0516058942114221,0.0,0.057845157916916176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620169300208597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041429821633968834
parenting,Janacious,2020/02/10,"Really talkative toddler won’t try to say real words. My daughter is almost a year and a half. I’ve read that, by now, she should have at least said a word or two.

She will talk our ears off all day with her baby gibberish. There’s even one weird word that she repeats a lot that she made up but it’s not a real word.. “Mbuckwah”

It’s like she’s telling us a million stories.. but when I try to get her to actually say Momma or Papa or pretty much ANYTHiNG... she doesn’t even try.

Are there any different ways I can go about this? I’m going to go try and get some first word flash card stuff too, but I’m starting to get real worried.",0.5218730158730196,2.5161213407407423,2.505529100529099,94.27416666666667,83.74074074074073,5.3386243386243395,20.01322751322752,6.5431188927421005,0.08610052910052922,491,14,112,5,14,164,89,135,0.033,0.907,0.06,0.6597,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,6,0,8,1,1,1,1,24,19,9,0,1,7,2,0,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,5,2,4,13,1,11,14,5,14,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,6,8,71,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.14099247961126793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467671298765453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825194056005823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889543878635625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317820332978717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095174951418475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19085649332289434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289534733430685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264558613641447,0.0,0.2463354101621614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705860511199992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283246211310901,0.0,0.1367112849422749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621005768639442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790397122570073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698897837201433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445199604851891,0.493352555226096,0.09255813978476757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374343854628247,0.2297939608592709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226429770026384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539602014593724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612824396712645,0.1262826415629001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923720850616972,0.0,0.14113680819773955,0.0,0.17379268742087528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468218315522308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672732853961912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304093808022977
parenting,pigpogpig,2020/02/10,"Part time daycare question So my DD just started daycare once a week at her grandparents house in January. She is 1 as of end of December. She is with her 4 year old brother so it’s not like there is no unfamiliar people there, plus it’s her grandparents who she knows. 

It is really really not going well. They say she cries all day except when she is sleeping or eating (some times). 

It will be moving to 2 days a week in April and I and they are very overwhelmed at the thought. I don’t know how to make this easier for either of them. She’s not a very fussy baby usually. 

How long does it usually take for a child to adjust and do you have any ideas how to make the transition easier?",1.9979705400982013,3.948167978723404,3.787517730496457,87.22615384615385,78.43262411347519,7.742716857610475,22.193671576650306,8.617729084823388,1.4132286961265692,539,16,114,12,13,181,93,141,0.068,0.875,0.057999999999999996,-0.0921,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,3,0,10,3,0,1,6,0,11,2,1,5,1,25,19,12,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,5,1,0,6,0,0,2,5,1,1,0,1,1,16,2,17,16,4,21,0,1,0,0,18,4,0,3,16,79,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202697764647768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18095613134249194,0.21248379303377365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416267577369993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16856733129100354,0.0,0.0,0.1459083050252849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362397434753868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008466601935167,0.0,0.18596830098164446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18107056637878674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048229811949269,0.0,0.0,0.14578728040422134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992678434520624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508962362005054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286402987321542,0.1754397925612327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839438593779738,0.0,0.11420806533334953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845434195276724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21106979867394013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100567159149984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485621916076454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660187195485767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386190861019625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078297349590268,0.1921192280536104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36286960929661793,0.2718509643798981,0.0,0.0,0.2642845669202961,0.0,0.14811857000168674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608538651865013
parenting,callmegoddess618,2020/02/10,"Homeschool is Best for everyone but our bills What do you do when, as a parent, you know for a fact that homeschool is the best option for your kid? Our school district is a great one.....for your standard or even smart but normal kid. My son has severe ADHD and anxiety though and his teachers......well, one of them has repeatedly said she's going to call the superintendent down to ""give him lickings"" even though I've never signed anything giving her permission to that and she damn as well knows it.
It is a school that has fought me every step of the way with his 504 plan, a school that has had repeatedly exacted vengeance on the kids of parents who have called them out on their favoritism bullshit so much so that I (who only know a few people in this town) personally know of 2 families who have moved to change school districts. 
We cant afford to move. No way, no how. Not even in the slightest. So we are, for the next year or so, stuck at this school district. And I cannot afford to quit to homeschool my 9 year old son who would do much better if he was homeschooled (his rejection sensitivity dysphoria is strong, to the point where he ran away from the daycare in town by parkouring over the fence because the newest employee was left alone with him and was screaming at him). 
So what do you do when you're stuck between a rock and a hard place?",6.438842767295598,6.287917588679246,6.172452830188679,82.27540880503145,65.56603773584905,9.17987421383648,30.49685534591195,8.648137234880735,2.0875081761006293,1071,34,217,14,15,334,151,265,0.15,0.748,0.102,-0.9035,5,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,5,3,6,15,11,2,0,18,0,24,0,0,1,3,31,36,23,0,3,6,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,15,11,0,1,4,1,1,5,6,4,1,1,9,4,26,7,34,26,5,34,0,1,0,0,41,17,1,4,10,153,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442231443360635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722531695800362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919976774565111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519593959301673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726935311358796,0.0,0.0,0.06311060922015106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21729560102954001,0.0915634105754852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114303458518892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952046082502427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051407325888716,0.0,0.08722805089850842,0.09892685344726518,0.0,0.0,0.09759837852324944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986298191360076,0.05883818851819801,0.0,0.0,0.11414161563223907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274207755106928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22758837560439504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248508140686256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007090286287767,0.15221215803039287,0.0,0.079848316275433,0.0,0.11010477499254524,0.0,0.10143690762464723,0.0,0.0,0.10863677224318824,0.0,0.14030850810768722,0.07873883368163588,0.0,0.0,0.22991446816400066,0.0,0.0,0.07177430487449662,0.09039794738315572,0.10816626999610744,0.0,0.0978688209485548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011634417163077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984802421473365,0.0,0.0,0.5238867975205485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695884230770963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343437412575624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643537624020084,0.0,0.0,0.09308543463936238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073544371181646,0.0,0.0,0.1333391797242013
parenting,StrangeInTheStars,2020/02/10,"What would you do? Trying to transition 1-year-old to sleeping part-time in another room. I have one crib, one pack and play and two neighboring rooms. 

Baby currently sleeps in our room in her crib. We want to be able to transition her to a different room on the days that stepson is away. I have her pack and play what she is not accustomed to in the other room set up.  

SO and I are currently sleeping on our very large couch. It's been very good for all our sleep but not so great for my back.
In a week stepson is on vacation with his mom and we won't have him for 10 days or so. I feel like I could use this opportunity to put her in there at night, but I don't know if it's too soon. I've been adjusting heer to the room, doing changes and pre sleep routines in there for the past couple weeks.
I'm trying to set her down for naps in there but it's slow going. How would you approach this? How would you organize this? For the good of all our sleep, advice is welcome!",1.7375490196078438,3.4362353039215705,3.0015686274509825,93.72872549019607,78.31372549019608,6.886274509803924,21.13725490196079,7.793537801064563,0.5925313725490198,758,20,177,12,18,245,110,204,0.027999999999999997,0.858,0.115,0.9442,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,3,0,1,11,8,0,0,7,0,19,6,6,3,2,29,25,16,0,6,7,1,1,1,1,4,0,0,8,0,10,9,0,0,3,3,0,3,4,0,0,3,2,1,24,8,32,17,2,37,0,0,0,0,20,21,0,2,12,121,34,0,0.11593033495287365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132857815886728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156306435020182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892036588148844,0.08914327162624579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263892256629445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256093912265888,0.12827471059514295,0.0,0.14953095073456651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211225255117491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05861786066899024,0.08282065445430915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658858809693355,0.1944737293619665,0.0,0.1278136035555784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371228024991729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663770579056679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577620715814465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879276601700673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216493849516413,0.0,0.1571147905294356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255412554252928,0.11066862250334533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654200680100897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6960843507259014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574181751319077,0.0,0.11324709191244693,0.0,0.0,0.10012658730118623,0.0,0.1913093350859646,0.06837871520661189,0.0,0.18598464377837828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470607512401517,0.0,0.0,0.07465533478431619
parenting,MrsKittenpants,2020/02/10,"So... What do I do all day? I recently converted into a stay at home mom, quit my high stress job and my husband found one that works better for our family, but now I don't know what to do all day. Our daughter is 6m and is super fun but she naps a lot. I've got the house clean dinner prepped and laundry almost done and it's only 12. How do other SAHP fill there time?",0.8697883597883589,2.2580444444444474,3.053721340388009,93.77888888888893,79.8641975308642,6.110052910052911,18.978835978835978,6.868970318607317,-0.008034920634921061,284,6,68,3,7,97,63,81,0.022000000000000002,0.792,0.185,0.9409,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,4,4,4,0,1,3,0,8,1,0,1,2,14,11,8,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,5,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,8,3,4,8,3,10,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,5,42,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103530896421714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522313375760175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28471303413546056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258896580968899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080903407290801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420257294270169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765428158715427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23321979843370003,0.2214162960821944,0.0,0.0,0.25469981137052256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219046509278096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213107823666732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18766193019828506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25852344088964546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957648734073173,0.1678797432635509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347800027544187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179502591647634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527530216592385,0.0,0.0,0.2528524454101072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871298924481198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606985025405618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Quackels_The_Duck,2020/02/10,"Is there a alternative for this site? I was told I might get better answers here. 
I'm a teenager, almost adult, and I find the website kidshealth.org on the teen section very soothing. However, I'm struggling to find a app that does the same thing on my phone. Any apps out there? Or do I have to use the website in the browser?",2.6092820512820545,4.7160887230769255,3.339615384615385,90.41455128205128,77.15384615384616,5.564102564102565,27.756410256410252,6.42735559955562,1.110641025641026,257,11,52,2,6,81,48,65,0.045,0.857,0.098,0.4995,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,8,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,7,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,3,0,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29366610573247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19943268110737705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593722139152216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25664129791924684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5360843116097542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322072122916613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31111160308560576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30658798003096954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483460362994626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28023068202697154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532898799286683,0.0,0.2419772800574781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,irksome_ramble,2020/02/10,"Is “turd” a rude word I’ve been told by my husband that I mustn’t say it in front of the kids, as it’s a rude word we could get in trouble with if the kids say it at nursery. I never realised. I’ve been calling the kids tiny turdmongers during nappy changes for years now. Have I made a terrible mistake? This isn’t a joke, I really am curious. It might be a regional thing.",2.310416666666669,3.2946098750000026,4.3599999999999985,87.55166666666668,75.25,7.833333333333335,27.083333333333336,8.344100000000001,1.6493333333333338,290,11,66,5,6,100,56,80,0.182,0.757,0.061,-0.8563,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,8,0,10,0,0,1,2,11,13,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,2,6,1,8,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,3,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166803555286432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32807947536561843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476158768460748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203163471228765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29345523912751503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290019862948235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391936037808049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986790706795397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4932602437501018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060385114456141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963452667570803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997154129925027
parenting,pinkjinx4256,2020/02/10,"I'm a mother of 4 teenagers, one of which is severely autistic. Depression has been hitting me hard lately. 

With Two of my teenagers getting ready to graduate high school and making planes to leave home. I can't help but feel down, unmotivated and definitely super jealous.

I had my first child at 16. (I know,I know dumb teenager blah blah blah. I've heard it all.)  I met a wonderful man some years later and fell in love and got married. He had two children from a previous relationship (one is severely autistic) and we ended up having one together.  I love my husband and my kids. This amazing man is my best friend and has given me the best life. 

Our 17 year old autistic son is a handful. He has to be under 24/7 supervision, he's no-verbal and still in diapers. He can be aggressive at times, towards himself and other people, but it's hardly ever towards familiar faces.(still happens more then we care to admit though) So it makes ""babysitting"" near impossible. These past couple years for him and us have been the most difficult. His hormones are betraying him and he's beginning to lash out more. His energy is through the roof, topped off with anxiety and lack of communication it can become a war zone pretty quick around here most days. He screams and bangs on the walls for hours,  destroys anything he can get his hands on, and only sleep more then 3-4 hours a night. If we're lucky. We do have good days where he's just happy to hang out on the couch and watch movies with us, but those days are becoming less frequent.
 
He does go to school for 5 hours, 3 days a week. I hate to say it, but when he's gone. It's my favorite time of the day, and I know I'm not the only one that feels this. We  often just crash out of exhaustion. 

 I'm always telling my other three to leave the home as soon as they can. I'm sure it sounds awful to some parents that we want out kids out of the house as soon as they are able. I just want them to enjoy life, to know a world without autism. To go through a day without wondering if your little brother is going to have an anxiety attack because you entered the room, or kick you just for sitting next to him on the couch, or scream in your face because your not paying attention to him. Not gonna lie. It sucks most days. 

So with my kids making plans for their futures. I'm starting to think about my husband and my future. What are we going to do? Sometimes we feel like we're being held hostage in our own home. We can't take him anywhere, we can't travel, it's difficult to have friends and family over, and we definitely won't be able to ""handle"" him forever.",3.8188172521120483,5.1893901791907515,4.583044315992293,85.9068830591374,72.0635838150289,7.635215651400622,27.180524677634505,8.139509932561175,1.6342080035571365,2049,72,418,30,39,659,265,519,0.149,0.688,0.16399999999999998,0.9643,1,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,14,5,4,6,18,29,8,0,21,1,36,9,4,3,3,84,79,37,1,5,17,6,7,4,2,2,3,5,6,7,19,39,0,1,11,1,1,9,9,14,0,8,10,13,53,15,70,62,14,78,0,1,1,2,67,31,2,13,38,269,72,5,0.1543498011166944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421569961692859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807717538028728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350836743183112,0.06870202352600344,0.0,0.08779759071550568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409020613767824,0.17046722868539366,0.0,0.0,0.1619805936459883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868495455673405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539255957774262,0.0,0.3483999843793457,0.0,0.06647062876541487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753627555108695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835405517061997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980911590146567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275362785615103,0.0,0.11706584570581978,0.0551337643791575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656449309901139,0.0,0.0,0.11925027346152185,0.0,0.08064140053036409,0.0,0.17544109793436,0.06473064504998507,0.06172381803784645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824550968972333,0.08215411670580529,0.13826710440992573,0.07619423673235512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05172870906717495,0.08153951963595774,0.2322381531503757,0.0,0.22800519405027705,0.08904947354383995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965322819542264,0.0,0.08705664933187418,0.16343415303066675,0.0,0.0,0.1090218291946387,0.0377037581580072,0.07734952493330599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930672172639402,0.0,0.15454453618686242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207638227396011,0.07242341620286939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098207592036548,0.0,0.20918283968184434,0.11738997901766328,0.0,0.0,0.08569359403631857,0.0,0.07367217510496142,0.05350335882095757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851461874541311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285696129939521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061372578497692114,0.0,0.15621023907269616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437134133769114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723063534856328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632795000930294,0.0,0.05462479183223138,0.0,0.061631975276779175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273643044880998,0.0,0.058025920684997775,0.0,0.06745426470943153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049450560091884005,0.07582394796020375,0.0,0.09000261027936486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077732778772507,0.0,0.18566380615362849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103951176407787,0.0,0.0619050501096658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878770029099592,0.16738577518935474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909431704320894
parenting,captnsnail,2020/02/10,"Hey y’all I need some advice on flying with kids! I’ll be flying next month with my 3yr old and almost 1yr old, I’m planning on having the baby on my lap and my toddler either on the seat or with the car seat.  I’m flying southwest and know their seats can be a bit thin so I was wanting to know if anyone has recommendations on car seats that fit? I know I can see seat measurements but wanted to hear from others. 

Also any tips on just flying with kids in general? It’ll be their first time on a plane and I want to be as prepared as I can.",2.9109615384615384,3.434056965811965,4.535972222222224,88.59062500000003,73.35897435897436,6.875641025641028,21.46260683760684,6.6274283507984215,0.27021452991452977,423,8,96,3,8,143,70,117,0.0,0.9420000000000001,0.057999999999999996,0.6372,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,23,22,11,0,5,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,12,0,18,16,3,18,0,0,1,0,7,10,0,4,6,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21698744744787032,0.0,0.0,0.2223538254949512,0.0,0.0,0.17757556130881122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100353328939478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552644959360906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24242417014819045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887801672440316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502696683927221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366103270912911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17724044379420506,0.0,0.0,0.1646493536887449,0.0,0.0,0.2361556950399445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4660141661925795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694734963988115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948078604992316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929175223326827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Careless-Speech,2020/02/10,"My son's birthday was yesterday, and his father didn't say a word to him. To be fair, I don't think my son noticed. He's still little. We had a party at a place he loves with a bunch of his friends. He had a blast. And his dad has always been very much a ""weekend dad"" - that is, if it's not his weekend he's completely radio silent. Doesn't check in or ask about anything. 

But a friend of mine sent a screenshot of a Facebook post... one of those typical, over-the-top posts that keeps me off the platform. It was posted by the my son's dad's SO, and was wishing our son a happy birthday. Super long and gushy. And my son's dad ""liked"" it.

But he didn't attempt to express any of that to our *actual child*. I mean, neither of them did? No calls, no texts, nothing. I just don't understand. Clearly he didn't forget?

And... I don't know. I'm not angry. But I feel heartache on behalf of my son. I feel disdain toward garbage social media practices. I'm tired of the facade, tired of being portrayed as the obstacle to their father/son relationship (again, mostly on social media, and one of the reasons I took a step back from it). 

I'm emotionally fatigued. I couldn't help but ponder on it last night when my head hit the pillow.

On the other hand, my son had a fun time and I don't really care what a handful of people think of me. It is what it is, I suppose.",0.972238430583502,2.9175074612676037,2.9079678068410466,92.27943661971834,81.78169014084506,5.324748490945674,21.410462776659962,6.367922702773337,0.2587730382293758,1045,32,229,9,28,350,151,284,0.07400000000000001,0.8170000000000001,0.109,0.882,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,3,0,2,2,7,9,0,0,20,0,23,7,3,1,1,35,41,17,0,3,9,12,4,1,2,0,3,1,1,1,14,10,0,1,9,3,1,3,14,1,0,2,13,5,30,8,30,24,4,28,0,1,0,1,41,11,0,3,12,147,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.1310340712104544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117284438416714,0.0,0.0,0.0913123296462906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049776155071286,0.0,0.1255299961086236,0.0,0.0,0.10325000666275053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711087671625236,0.0,0.13690339868319285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078590086781176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104250158887306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578802739044835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20748271156477774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293936949192598,0.0,0.0,0.13780598272989794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000241686209709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935073739200427,0.0,0.0,0.07379461444812163,0.10945291567001517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560050347666606,0.13457989407955612,0.0,0.11883009330587807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118939237618795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462660006421259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987083587757062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600899216725395,0.0,0.12884150711651182,0.1528741915249218,0.0,0.0,0.1819778753128545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930901174794998,0.0,0.14028991014073622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857980627152576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602068644443607,0.1380581598638044,0.0,0.14416224385400228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678171741494663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737550797374325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723304004535986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207736298519574,0.0,0.0,0.07829745411315993,0.3086611709435376,0.0,0.0,0.1491856503815066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978612057901296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079181727304124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441084958632526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ooh_shinyobject,2020/02/10,"Middle School ""mean girls"" Any advice or thoughts welcome!

My daughter C (12F) has been dealing with some bullying this year and it's really starting to affect her personality. Just wondering the best way to help her with this, it was easier when she was little and if she had a fight with a friend I could just talk to the other parent or something!

C has had a good group of friends from an activity (outside of school) for the last few years. Some of them were a bit closer than others, and they've had minor drama, but mostly they've just all been friends. This year, for seemingly no reason, they all decided as a group that they're no longer friends with C. She has other friends there, it's not like she's all alone or anything, but this group of girls that used to be some of her closest friends have been having parties where she's not invited and then posting about it all over instagram where she obviously will see it (one of them even ""accidentally"" tagged her in one of these posts, and then acted annoyed when she lightheartedly commented on it that she wasn't there), they have a stupid clique name for their group and everything.

C has been handling it WAY better than I would have at her age, but I can tell it's really taking a toll on her, and I'm kind of out of advice for her. She doesn't care so much about being part of the group, but is really sad about losing a couple individual friendships that were important to her. The other day, she wrote out a long, heartfelt message to the girl she used to be closest with, basically just saying she values their friendship and asking if there was something she did that caused them to push her out. The other girl basically responded by telling her that she's being annoying for complaining when they exclude her.

Because of the activity they all have in common, she has to be able to coexist with these girls, so even though she's tried to move on and focus on her other friendships, she's basically reminded of all this crap several times a week when they have practice, and this year I've had to watch my formerly confident, happy kid gradually retreat and turn shy and insecure. It sucks, and I have no idea how to help her.

TLDR: How can I help my 12-year-old cope with ""mean girls"" who she's forced to interact with several times a week?",8.608541466024612,7.075495791011237,8.160128410914929,74.30104868913861,61.87640449438202,11.622257891920814,35.123060460139115,10.504223727775694,3.3883622257891925,1837,62,355,35,21,584,204,445,0.125,0.72,0.155,0.9489,1,1,2,0,1,0,50.0,0,0,10,3,24,25,6,1,20,0,39,1,1,7,7,68,55,34,0,4,15,2,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,8,30,24,0,0,8,1,0,3,7,10,0,2,17,3,49,15,58,30,15,46,0,2,2,0,81,18,2,11,22,261,79,2,0.09240457663159704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059336566803214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957032736281192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283828079743649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760410931876158,0.0,0.08638580544960653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05632897224634955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969729022655242,0.08172433885237766,0.1008818651061815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421262431811518,0.09492495421275596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737775354114968,0.10224390647972507,0.0,0.05959330748748653,0.09526506103583253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206470275370394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304727519498252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283492801166529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750457477313988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983663900804556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18581051973384205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431351949334844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622514696244837,0.0,0.07532206302930469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514420860674436,0.09261366133816464,0.0,0.08177514251651427,0.0,0.1033770850754478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013113465634004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982114412518933,0.06792799603108036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696305905197376,0.0,0.1252314651496198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260434700501224,0.1000651517317626,0.0,0.0,0.08068411210403707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769960828577122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759021383384332,0.09500729473778724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348382818557855,0.0,0.18703672959215512,0.07363448391451602,0.08412165609221814,0.0,0.2087817393533435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227511514032254,0.0,0.0,0.06540443494359019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947674173550862,0.07427129847332531,0.16153134574519465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907870273768828,0.07335891215411737,0.1077637034636102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273664193714107,0.10050964473303003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961577119386064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669290370231192,0.14824275523145491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020882164163077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564156002226358,0.0,0.0,0.2975275887384934
parenting,tercerero,2020/02/10,"One small way in which having a kid has improved my life experience I enjoy singing.  I'm not great at it, but for over six years, I've sung my daughter to sleep, and she's my biggest fan.  I've got three songs I nail on repeat and will throw in one or two others on request.  For someone who was once told they shouldn't even hum, her requests for me to sing make me really happy.  She thinks I'm good!

So thanks to my kid giving me regular daily practice and a huge boost of self-confidence, I signed myself up for voice lessons for fun.  Now I get to explore something I never would have tried myself.  My voice teacher wants me to choose a song to perform at the end of my lessons, and I'm going to nail one of my three lullabies to surprise my daughter.  She'll get to see me living my best life, and I get to know my best life comes in part due to her.

What are some ways, big or little, that having a kid improved your life in a way you couldn't have predicted?",6.21805970149254,4.696187547263687,6.455965174129357,84.57678358208958,66.56218905472636,9.23402985074627,31.0452736318408,7.554174236665415,1.766068258706468,751,22,167,6,10,242,121,201,0.01,0.748,0.242,0.9949,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,1,5,3,9,0,0,6,0,12,5,1,1,1,24,29,9,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,4,4,4,0,3,6,6,0,0,6,4,0,4,4,0,0,7,3,5,31,9,29,21,4,28,0,0,1,0,18,15,0,3,6,107,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053900210658758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533679247211446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887127944546006,0.0,0.0,0.09610247108847836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232853849409813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22805582865598614,0.13957844604965144,0.0826919438125567,0.12203988521381902,0.11637096559876114,0.16041608867030815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488921769398434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996390457385066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.411088488626682,0.0,0.14583088329978372,0.1284806273727055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712348477347124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221984648513077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549545142690415,0.2957870617976973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756411369254922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321208618896856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594598113736973,0.0,0.15178995924395952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560673488810147,0.0,0.1232830803927088,0.11201428284285797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395837546647565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323158563787516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390330670068838,0.0,0.09878607299143026,0.0,0.1421339750426647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582064613314673,0.3464773243756233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336020130194078,0.0,0.0,0.09369829557512477
parenting,FeistyFaustFan,2020/02/10,"What age would you let your child play Fortnite? My husband plays it in front of our 6 year old and she is starting to get interested in having a go. I said in passing she couldn't start playing it until she was 12 and he just laughed at me. 

I'll admit I don't know much about the game except its free and you play it online with a group of friends. I've watched a few minutes here and there and it seems to have less graphic violence than adult games but its still not what I would call 'little kid friendly'. I've also heard it can be addictive. How old is an okay age to start playing Fortnite? I'd appreciate your thoughts.",3.0932558139534865,4.467827356589146,3.710767441860465,91.43452325581396,73.88372093023256,6.4003100775193795,26.853488372093025,6.742157984588678,0.9539730232558136,495,18,108,4,10,156,92,129,0.043,0.797,0.16,0.9004,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,4,0,0,7,11,0,0,5,1,12,1,0,1,0,18,23,9,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,2,1,2,0,3,9,6,0,0,4,7,1,3,3,0,0,0,4,3,13,12,14,14,3,18,0,0,1,0,22,5,0,1,10,69,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22684399303113306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640596039287955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124786390262433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215328005377191,0.0,0.10871612533525243,0.0,0.11825982849097763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435839096742235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21278160025803214,0.0,0.0,0.20855641375189696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296684140223368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4367016176685756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793703442266755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894332937492212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418521262915469,0.0,0.1661774102330128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519670440130302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956360466375765,0.0,0.0,0.1340002889486869
parenting,Amylou77,2020/02/10,"Young parents or former young parents, how do you deal with the ‘FOMO’ of life? “Fear of missing out” So I am 24 and have a 3 year old and love him dearly, especially at the age he is at we have a lot of fun now and we are like little best friends. I am pretty adamant that he will be my only child. Most of my friends are now emigrating to countries like Australia or New Zealand or Canada, and I can’t help but feel a tad bit envious of them and that I will never be able experience that. I was at my friends going away party last night as she’s going to Australia tomorrow and everyone else there was talking about their big travelling and emigration plans and I was the only one who couldn’t join in and I kinda felt embarrassed in a way? How did you or how do you deal with the feelings of missing out? And did anyone go travelling after their kids had grown?",3.4834353146853165,4.664561556818182,4.775227272727276,84.94005244755245,72.63636363636364,7.688111888111888,27.174825174825173,8.139509932561175,1.6369830419580418,678,24,141,10,13,225,108,176,0.064,0.767,0.16899999999999998,0.9471,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,3,3,2,8,14,1,2,8,0,21,2,0,3,1,32,30,20,0,1,5,2,3,2,3,2,1,0,0,2,4,16,0,0,3,2,0,6,3,5,0,1,7,3,20,9,21,18,4,31,0,2,0,1,25,10,0,7,16,101,24,0,0.15426100077417745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786287848822501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493328818896414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188740316506256,0.0,0.16841305959648514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180726364407269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886527180754714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740299694968362,0.0,0.15089685912243975,0.0,0.17358651298202354,0.15599799403176975,0.0,0.14811475209855945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575449996115161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26301024505836884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033978971365917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574330457246094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895910688658086,0.15072826590827834,0.15461004859472302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114718643261475,0.13922657595027566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897559368608827,0.14898623580883955,0.0,0.14476349929978682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187097081908491,0.0,0.10453124643066178,0.234644884711365,0.0,0.0,0.34257717160216833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693889561818716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398914911942913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244520215598753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933902685299202
parenting,legitimate-pryncss,2020/02/10,"I feel like you can die from your kids talking about youtube About a year ago now, after years of fighting in court.. my 7 year old sons father was granted joint custody with primary residancy (this was a huge slap in the face)
My son is constantly glued to a tablet while he is there and when he comes over all he talks about is youtubers ... and I mean, if listening to your child talk about YouTube videos 24/7 could kill you..I'm sure I'd be dead by now.
On another note, while he is here I limit screentime and make sure he's reading for at least an hour a day, but not sure if there's anything I can do about what goes on at his dad's house as he will not even consider limiting screentime for.him (all he does is sleep and ignore our son)
What would you recommend I do in this situation?",5.769013888888887,5.3928322625000025,5.5770833333333325,86.74180555555556,67.0,9.361111111111112,30.902777777777786,8.841846274778883,2.0678194444444444,622,21,138,9,9,193,107,160,0.08,0.823,0.09699999999999999,-0.0644,0,0,0,0,2,1,19.0,1,4,0,2,12,7,2,0,6,0,15,2,2,1,5,24,20,11,3,4,5,5,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,4,6,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,2,13,4,22,14,3,24,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,2,15,81,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469678280456271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17385118065068084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643568197296466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281826012542062,0.0,0.1791661828638025,0.0,0.13237432467358928,0.0,0.0,0.1069244694841391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206969472647438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508887860512473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950645412171107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383125531586799,0.11844443570182026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327530476997673,0.1913059041444953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834283069012166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099937323618145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066987465592787,0.0,0.0,0.18060005258937106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739746304711913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584050295599193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636124176851493,0.1659153719279092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4687812753121671,0.0,0.0,0.3997807566978561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777646311988305,0.0,0.0,0.3203008618654568
parenting,ekakkub,2020/02/10,"I cannot stand my 8 year old stem son’s recent behavior to;dr just a long ass rant about the difficulties of blending into a single mother/son dynamic. Mostly looking to hear I’m not alone/crazy/selfish. I love my s/o, I love my stepish son. I’m just frustrated and need to let it out. 

She’s a single mom, dad has had very little involvement since he was born, especially after the divorce. Her and I have been dating since 2017, I moved in with them last year. I’ve pretty much taken on the role of step dad and generally I’ve felt like I’ve done a good job. It hasn’t been easy, it’s taken some adjusting, he hasn’t had a father figure. I don’t take the lead with discipline but have had an influence on it, which he has taken notice of and usually is better behaved for it. I’ve played football with him, video games with him, talked to him about how a man treats a women, given him some general life lessons, for the most part he has globbed onto me. Ups and downs, some rejection/push back here and there but honestly he seems to be thrilled to have a father figure 90% of the time. Some of the problems below he has had in waves since I’ve moved in. 

In that month I swear this kid has immatured. He seriously acts like a 4 year old, mostly because mom allows it and does everything for him to avoid the shit storm temper tantrum that will hit if she tells him to do it. 

He’s so fucking negative. I mean so negative. Nothing is ever good. Nothing is ever right. Being told no means he is the worst kid in the world. Being told no means he HAS to drop to the floor and start “crying”. Going to the store automatically means he’s “injured”.

It’s her fault. She is a total enabler, but she has gotten better about it, mostly through my prodding and pushing. The better she gets the worse he gets. Lately he’s doing everything in song and constantly repeating himself. Everything is a demand “mommy come!”. He won’t speak like a normal human “me hungry” “me can’t have socks because mommy hasn’t gotten them”, “me need water”. I know it’s a tactic. I act like a baby “mommy” will treat me like a baby. Even when we do what he wants to do, which has to be constantly from the time he gets home until he goes to bed, it’s still a stream of negativity and back talk. I DREAD when he comes home from school.

It’s to the point that I’ve emotionally checked out a little with him. I can’t interact with a person, child or adult, who is this negative and selfish. Again, I know it’s from years of mom enabling, but he is so strong willed, so resistant to change, so confident that everything he says and does is right until he’s corrected that I just can’t with him. Mom gets frustrated too but goes more into auto pilot mode than emotionally isolating. 

Again, I swear it’s gotten worse since since December or so. He used to act his age, he’s always had trouble with back talk but I loved interacting with this kid and playing with him and putting on the fatherly role, even when it was difficult because I know kids aren’t easy, but this is just too much. Until he starts to act his age I literally don’t know if I can interact with him in any real way. 

Mom knows how I feel and is working to course correct his behavior but the more she does the worse he gets. 

The thing is, it’s all manipulation, too. He stays with me on occasion and is totally normal, holds normal conversation, gets his own water, ties his shoes, goes to the bathroom alone....he can and does act like a normal 8 year old when his mom isn’t around. Outside of being very energetic, all his teacher has to say about him is how well behaved he is. He also spends a fair amount of time with grandma who absolutely enables all of his worst qualities because he is her baby. Not to mention she may be one of the most negative people I’ve ever met.

Mom has implemented some good changes lately as he’s gotten older. He’s codependent which is a streak she is working to break while also lamenting letting go of the care taker role. He sees dad a little more frequently because he asks to but infrequently enough that we’ve noticed anxiety about when/how he’ll see dad next. Dad also never initiates so it’s on him, which I think affects his self esteem. In fact I think the situation with his dad in general plays a large role into why he seems so negative and prone to tantrums when his behavior is corrected. 

As I write this I’m calming down. Just needed to get it out. He’s a good kid with some troubling traits and I’m just not used to it. Fuck it can be so hard adjusting to this. I don’t regret it, I just feel isolated sometimes because I haven’t been around the entire time. I stepped up to the plate and I don’t regret it but I don’t know how to navigate it sometimes. 

Thanks for reading. Maybe people have had the same feelings I do. Let me know.",3.0318181818181813,4.738838338842979,4.378793388429752,85.22023553719009,74.70247933884298,7.52595041322314,24.6,8.278499904357787,1.464184049586776,3784,121,771,65,80,1251,369,968,0.152,0.733,0.115,-0.9909,2,3,0,0,2,0,108.0,1,0,2,11,53,50,8,2,52,0,84,12,3,11,13,151,152,62,0,13,24,18,5,6,0,6,2,5,3,12,43,47,2,3,24,7,3,16,28,21,1,1,24,13,79,29,104,111,30,108,0,2,3,6,134,36,4,18,57,485,122,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603342019293662,0.040243901656110935,0.0,0.0,0.03289014227642114,0.0,0.03699941184307326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611095089984612,0.04521513631252472,0.0,0.0,0.11157006142545334,0.0,0.17689865680181954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832584365090435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049311766310835066,0.0,0.10232839692969306,0.08332504885315688,0.0,0.10453166791732063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053127139825435085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692996103888247,0.0494946139994692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880916928279047,0.0,0.0499744049491171,0.0,0.06388980394673943,0.13124786672718994,0.0,0.0,0.17387087375207155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336502459645401,0.0,0.04643838530639695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894260978649373,0.17688254026665182,0.0,0.05497436245208512,0.16226646935675454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04332591395361347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451134037462601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702891402916583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799521375166392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860625793344516,0.0394242703356782,0.10911659469949576,0.0,0.0,0.14837074810165382,0.03416192456557569,0.14177339913088433,0.14542456251970462,0.0,0.04280187232863464,0.040614769380005515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130955032242169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858956241935528,0.2107364729366777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965149452663958,0.038604814645995036,0.1028095687837126,0.07110829340530105,0.10758703224841562,0.03730239144562313,0.0,0.05143716997909744,0.0,0.18955135996585976,0.09281584462000957,0.11012869629160292,0.15225410851341484,0.0,0.032773658460940124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05237503374700229,0.0,0.0670609811465671,0.042230816834453434,0.0,0.0,0.04572095242123245,0.0,0.0,0.04920501706290651,0.0,0.046279172451987774,0.0,0.04862060299196645,0.0,0.0,0.0483785056564364,0.05505043341070542,0.0,0.0,0.04775501472412367,0.0,0.0,0.0826076041989823,0.0,0.07692424214566873,0.0,0.048948384401482935,0.07708195137312146,0.08806011884125561,0.050455678336573,0.0,0.049646405816036666,0.2000418648738225,0.05436475546285036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566926879598044,0.0,0.06846658258325136,0.051551099605082834,0.0386246847220629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03636477464985431,0.11662287109907045,0.04227350650145384,0.044528378139711104,0.0,0.0,0.03213183415163952,0.06198121297592332,0.0,0.0,0.11280905505921453,0.0,0.0,0.09243045774552038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354438341573671,0.05326767412764514,0.07981306899712003,0.028527176221000445,0.03839021701805703,0.0,0.0,0.04348631859469517,0.0,0.0436422663426645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042119962947818,0.0,0.14786547656789356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572871505371896
parenting,SocialWorkingMom,2020/02/10,"Advice needed: 8 yr old son who does not wipe I  have a stubborn 8 years old son who does not wipe his butt. I know he doesn't do it or do a good job because he is rushing to play with his friends, he is scared of being in the bathroom alone, and/or he is lazy. There are rare occasions he does an okay job at wiping and we praise him for it. BUT I'd say 85% of the time, it is a battle. One positive is he ALWAYS flushes. 

Things I have tried to improve this poor habit:

I  have lectured him on the importance of proper hygiene. I have explained  (multiple times) the seriousness of pink eye! I have also pointed out  the social issue when it comes to friends and the slippery slope of  bullying, ""you don't want kids at school to smell you, kids can be mean  and start calling you names."" These do not phase my kid.

My boyfriend and I have had to stand and watch him wipe. When we stand there, he will do it right, but we don't want to make this a habit.

He has had time outs, technology taken away, gone to bed early, and we've had him clean his room/messes throughout the house. Still does not phase him.

My next option is making him hand wash the worst pairs of his underwear. When he finishes, I hope to create an open conversation with him and let him help come out with ideas that he thinks how he can do to be better with wiping. If that does not work, I am at my wits end! I am sure I am not the only parent out there that has experienced this issue. If anyone else has suggestions on how to get an 8-year-old boy to PROPERLY wipe, I am open to suggestions. how to get an 8-year-old boy to PROPERLY wipe, I am open to suggestions.",3.9550990502035255,4.4416183999999985,4.649531886024422,88.84916892808685,70.97014925373135,8.00135685210312,24.779511533242875,8.00094639256281,1.0619253731343283,1264,32,284,16,22,406,165,335,0.061,0.8109999999999999,0.128,0.9734,3,1,0,0,0,0,46.0,3,3,0,3,11,14,2,1,17,1,39,4,3,5,1,52,56,19,0,6,11,3,1,0,2,1,1,1,2,5,15,23,0,1,5,1,1,4,9,5,0,1,5,7,35,9,37,46,1,37,1,0,3,1,52,16,1,5,15,174,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223814719756368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083597433414729,0.0,0.08366841764034227,0.08705621791484491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315609532612784,0.10720047527716503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829844702168304,0.0,0.0,0.06377830918325028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253213654118177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068336222315986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802500083791957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.457789353429585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740059824761152,0.0,0.0926665217041116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166572745918228,0.0,0.10932428330468523,0.0,0.0,0.08775432137088206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012780045798071,0.0,0.0,0.10391603713953672,0.0,0.12072297616128562,0.0,0.11810866829140365,0.0,0.21840222516556065,0.2076479474052165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05749905588447452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069859502300086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967573765803695,0.0,0.0,0.11396708293438693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757796617455366,0.0,0.0,0.11126966557287724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43914452637444,0.0,0.07089647463168025,0.07957187771327097,0.0,0.0,0.11617346288890006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890425712867404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893490106155978,0.0,0.08320184315616365,0.10474768034981527,0.10588588689655623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665181155968542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405397449015952,0.0,0.08355350330564926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986076392108679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950807055965524,0.06703934958352932,0.0,0.0,0.18302269305152224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103337389304404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123420839798891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616810309740098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20212482978160826
parenting,S4491,2020/02/10,"What do I do now? I guess I don't know if this fits here. I'm (25F) kinda still in shock. I drove 2 hours with my 10 month old see my boyfriend (32M) he's been working out of town the last couple months. He's renting a cabin. I  went to take a shower and there's long female hair that's not mine on the wall. I made a joke about it & said he needs to call about them not cleaning it. He blew it off as not a big deal. This morning I thought more about it. He's had this place for a month. He hasn't had anyone in here to clean because he was sick. There's no way he would have showered in an unclean shower. We had a talk on his lunch.  I don't know what to do now. I left a lucrative career to work part-time to take care of our child. I only make $800 a month and have bad credit from a car accident with no insurance a few years back. I'm not prepared to be a single mom. Anyone have any advice for doing things on your own?

Tl:dr boyfriend cheated, I'm a single mom now, any advice?",-0.6613939393939425,1.1767988909090903,1.4477272727272743,101.00992424242423,87.36363636363636,4.212121212121212,15.984848484848484,5.148860815047168,-1.0479696969696972,756,15,192,3,24,251,130,220,0.11,0.8370000000000001,0.053,-0.8871,4,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,2,1,1,2,12,6,1,0,15,0,17,3,1,2,0,20,34,4,0,3,5,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,11,6,1,0,3,1,2,3,9,3,0,0,10,3,18,3,26,22,5,32,0,0,1,0,20,14,0,3,14,110,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683323710547789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876251297330162,0.0,0.1867349314523227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920041496647652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055738200487573,0.11463823942200213,0.08369569184355359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401967853856927,0.0,0.13998463771389796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191781685956027,0.0,0.0,0.14154838751614324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124941658093247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521104369451728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509109703355418,0.11191633585556768,0.0,0.0,0.1491748665836009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150456249391985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991485092780305,0.09164759654774793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32160392141578925,0.4383603668274507,0.0,0.0,0.1018048555056438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407133641867947,0.0,0.0,0.10442144738217504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868054164014666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344736825278828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060200339201045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940886774599066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096464982322784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20646227810293946,0.11035507061371733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121480529510036,0.0,0.0,0.10899941292692808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898089894317607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727678180873986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999094101673773,0.0,0.0,0.09753268275029707,0.0,0.0,0.08841552184942011
parenting,myhusbandfrustration,2020/02/10,"My frustrations with my husband Me and my husband have 2 year old twin boys. Before we had kids and even well into the twins' first year, my husband was wonderful. He was helpful around the house, he was involved with the kids, kind to me, etc. However, after that, things have just gone downhill. I stay home with the kids, and he goes to work and makes the money. When my husband comes home from work, he just parks himself in front of the TV and expects me to serve him in addition to doing all the other household chores. Sometimes I am even up past midnight trying to get all the chores done! He doesn't get too involved with the twins either and doesn't support me with their discipline either. For example, if I put one of them in time out, then my husband will go ahead and ruin the time out by telling them that they don't have to be in time out. If I try to take a break while he is home or try to get him to help out, then I'm made to feel ungrateful and like a bad mom. He says that he's done his job by making the money, and that it's totally my job to deal with the kids and chores. I mean, I am grateful that he provides for us financially, however, he's not bringing anything to the table emotionally. What should I do?",6.294483604045353,5.2257373266932285,6.372669322709164,83.76279190928597,66.17131474103586,9.476064970885687,31.658289917254056,8.384062270229773,2.0933258351210537,963,31,208,11,13,307,132,251,0.06,0.86,0.079,0.6038,4,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,4,4,8,7,1,0,15,0,20,0,0,3,3,45,36,17,0,4,8,6,1,1,0,2,0,1,6,5,9,25,0,1,3,1,2,6,4,3,1,2,8,2,28,4,38,25,6,33,0,1,0,0,38,11,0,4,15,142,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344319735881922,0.11190268725107592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495709829127947,0.0,0.0,0.1069643450227447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082823588005704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295946980380144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572764673072597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139941915707308,0.0,0.0,0.14019253245116536,0.1660518360295407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635594220153878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692325793613353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970245334831194,0.0,0.07144014581209282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685126945483642,0.0,0.3782723140595354,0.0,0.0,0.1450448600553609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494824798879597,0.0,0.0,0.13090075971894408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061412337523781224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189436077095697,0.16781600707617553,0.0,0.0,0.13692786676374982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472223167465162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319045851863384,0.0,0.08517988512503384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999813028442514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636664846255855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996439849868367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243238885849401,0.0,0.0,0.13398311170123098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264674215743442,0.0,0.0,0.09451332175698396,0.0,0.10987032259208199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351176128704864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21989601105548667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25603309584942346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512057270481279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302246365999695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631998804375606,0.18302716194943708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189775181497265
parenting,derpyderpkitten,2020/02/10,"How to approach in laws about safley using the car seat? Unfortunately my husband says this is my problem and he doesn't want to insult is parents. 

FIL picks up my son from school but on multiple occassions I have not seen him install or use the seat belt correctly. My son is 3 and is rear facing. We bought a car seat for FIL's car. I installed it, read the manual, watched videos online, etc. I think I have a very good handle on how to install rear facing using LATCH and the seat belt and can secure the seat belt tightly. When he first started school, I installed the car seat and assumed he knew to pull it tight--he did not until weeks after when I found out that he was just clicking it shut and open every time without any adjustments. I was shocked, mortified and so regretful that I let my son ride that way. I told him it needs to be tight so you cannot pinch the seat belt, I handed him the manual so he can read at least the relevant parts (manual said that any caregiver using the car seat must read the manual), sent him a youtube video of how to secure a child in a car seat and thought (hoped) all was well. It's just as annoying to me to have to keep reminding him to remember to tighten, remove overcoat in the winter, make sure his butt is all the way back, chest clip needs to be armpit height, etc. I don't want to feel like I'm nagging but nothing that has happened gave me peace of mind that he can correctly secure my child. Over the holidays, they removed the car seat to accomodate more people and I didn't know. It was installed back incorrectly!! It was via LATCH and he said that he had to really use muscle to attach it back to his car via LATCH without loosening or tightening the seat belt. (???!!!!) I said, I wanted to check it, when I did, the car seat shook half a foot left and right. I was furious and told my husband, he agreed it was wrong but never said anything. I reinstalled it. This morning, I wanted to hand him the manual again to have him read because he clearly didn't before. I don't like nagging or pointing out where someone did something wrong so I asked my husband to tell him. And that's when he refused, told me I could do it, it's my problem and he doesn't want to insult his dad by telling him to read the manual. I told him it's not my problem, it's our problem and this concerns our son's safety. Didn't care, and left. This pissed me off....

I'm asking for advice on how to approach this topic with his dad in a gentle way. I'd like to:

\- have him read the manual (at least the relevant parts, no need to read forward facing stuff, I know reading the manual is no fun). At least know something is incorrect so he can ask me to adjust--I'd be happy to. I know I've mentioned the seat cannot move more than an inch left and right, if he knew that, he would know his install was unsafe!

\- I will install the car seat if it ever needs to be removed

\- want to watch him secure my son it it so I know everything is done correctly so I can have peace of mind",3.2463895993179865,4.476313911764706,4.290852514919013,87.99579283887468,73.28104575163398,7.4786018755328225,25.232452401250356,7.967736418589885,1.2737189826655295,2342,73,499,33,46,762,235,612,0.107,0.779,0.114,0.8737,1,0,2,0,0,0,83.0,3,1,1,1,25,30,7,1,32,0,52,10,10,11,10,98,102,42,0,21,15,11,5,3,0,3,0,5,0,2,33,22,0,8,15,11,2,21,17,16,1,2,32,14,65,14,60,61,11,67,0,1,4,1,70,27,2,7,21,310,98,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06081864325516687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464849123222916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051216899382801113,0.0,0.17455350470429448,0.0,0.0,0.1435724614229216,0.0,0.03793995039971016,0.0,0.05296029353746643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345619582802632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04969229727614013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636914909635429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882453389109695,0.0,0.0562981951782252,0.05243853554017207,0.0,0.05593585993277035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031469604626577934,0.044463124734443464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293995045803127,0.0,0.06824119213166388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052202616262612835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05503721075586398,0.06625393313283616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061816773528450275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055320348778865984,0.0,0.0,0.20522757873863895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028666081037164,0.06364297983393997,0.0,0.09121961401408564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04154461467113158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568608178354193,0.0,0.0,0.06614956852905045,0.0,0.18459593717457415,0.048002090241635695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05971942249062029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910837675397301,0.13479624221933426,0.0,0.04314826937279181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883540435354706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382149697385363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4980419333513216,0.0,0.03987151215223639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050397350029128,0.10630250548909898,0.2368118798782497,0.04949447301024298,0.0,0.12597716522531155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052734393564348316,0.09582832060080247,0.0,0.0,0.04405265920401545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124807653346499,0.0,0.0,0.058658954566255014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879820811870536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039879853050351945,0.0,0.04941033676829205,0.0362917110081252,0.0,0.0,0.23788582993366025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687699686593789,0.0,0.05135319736867948,0.22025892189175145,0.14820583267829426,0.049923889574980326,0.0,0.055959795298968856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999119145019704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044212372995420184,0.13609583808018058,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheCuritibaGuy,2020/02/10,"Being a parent in my 18's Recently i discovered that the plan b failed and now im gonna be a dad with 18 years old. Still shocked with this idea but I got accept my responsibilities. The girl is now moving to the 6th month of pregnancy and we alredy now thats is gonna be a boy, probably will have the same name as me: vinicius.
I need some advices...",2.027200000000001,3.3132692533333348,4.074333333333332,88.11550000000004,76.46666666666667,7.666666666666668,23.166666666666664,8.344100000000001,1.0980666666666659,274,8,64,5,6,94,56,75,0.057,0.893,0.051,0.1531,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,11,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,1,6,4,2,10,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,1,8,39,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28355750506705363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320809724492611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32757439591296433,0.31344084303375025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316164304911519,0.3084121185450172,0.0,0.21516249207963856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044918400711112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222071036569161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128597735233408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865146782825288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23173564453568565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868644076469255
parenting,sag_explorer,2020/02/10,"Constantly SICK after mat leave Am I alone in this? I returned to work in January after 18 months mat leave and ever since it feels like either me or my daughter are sick. I feel like we’ve been in a bubble and are now catching EVERY bug we come across. 

I have missed so much work already and feel so awful about it.  Tell me it gets better!",2.3686190476190454,4.0905751000000015,3.457142857142859,91.0561904761905,76.57142857142857,5.80952380952381,20.238095238095237,6.42735559955562,0.1242380952380948,267,6,56,2,6,86,50,70,0.226,0.675,0.099,-0.8478,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,1,1,5,2,0,0,1,11,11,6,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,8,3,8,10,2,13,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,9,36,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243521685154785,0.23904468043487445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915820843628652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18659826522184175,0.0,0.2340884063385544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959444735401698,0.18251102379229808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32858753774705796,0.30950560814465106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317459452406847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4587369236888614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116584044176812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290338358752744,0.0,0.15924004095933034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17918964571135998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893347339505744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315402723828197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ted125717,2020/02/10,"Parents enforcing screen time on a 16 year old Hello I’m 16 years old and a A B student in school, I will turn 17 this year. I am very involved in school activities such as marching band and running concession stands after school. When I’m at home I like to play my Xbox, Pc, or call my girlfriend. And Every Sunday and Wednesday I go to church. I haven’t had a bed time since I was around 10 years old, but a few days ago my mother got mad at me for being on my phone at 10:30 for some od reason and yelled at me to get off of it while I was on the phone with my girlfriend. I have always been able to stay up as late as I want. My mom stays up past twelve every night and her room is right beside mine and her being up makes it hard for me to sleep because she leaves her light on and she’s in and out of the bathroom / kitchen. But last night she care in my room and told me that I needed to get off the phone. I got off of it when she said At around 11:20. Then at 12:00 after I had already went to sleep she came in my room wanting to know my iCloud password and asking why I had changed it (I haven’t changed it). But I gave her the code to reset it and went back to bed, then she came in my room about 15min later for the same reason. Turning on my light blaming me for something I haven’t done. Then this morning on the way to school, she tells me that when I get home that she wants my phone so she can put screen time on it. She won’t even give me a reason for why she wants to do it. She just says “because” she will not tell me what I have done. I wake up on time for school I have good grades. I really don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m in need of some advice on what to do. I almost feel like I can’t do anything right anymore just because I have someone to care about (my girlfriend). But any advise helps.",2.6619540553211465,3.120952448101267,3.5287201125175827,95.82035630567276,73.88607594936707,6.256915142991092,21.971401781528364,5.3279370663704135,-0.14510314111579925,1407,29,346,4,27,449,175,395,0.038,0.899,0.063,0.8248,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,0,0,13,8,1,0,12,0,29,4,3,4,0,43,62,28,1,6,8,3,2,2,3,3,0,3,9,0,16,18,1,0,6,3,0,7,7,2,0,0,17,9,63,6,65,40,4,81,1,0,2,0,41,38,0,4,34,220,79,9,0.07821827736514488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764339953768967,0.0693357834634024,0.0,0.07832430617443628,0.0,0.08631581409311792,0.0,0.06508387270335758,0.0,0.0,0.053191110827318734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757151326811708,0.0,0.0,0.06436697764236014,0.1392617001855644,0.07312353064510747,0.0,0.0,0.06014502716767409,0.0,0.14304340765796875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798696065174949,0.17892174343775188,0.15949749349736653,0.0,0.16548913215772892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05044431806388143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008890910079668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516624345055352,0.0,0.1318045444135499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0395495112320888,0.05587915297841031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259746474883272,0.0750340989753073,0.04445324956752107,0.06560578001284967,0.1251166035690556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006821288376297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052428062547332274,0.0,0.1569186194515097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597343931042171,0.06375833570700551,0.0882336238162368,0.08282186190201425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642699872562066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052211307516111964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160830110083172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599572313212235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680510931153148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24623077309268745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685214050494712,0.0,0.07466819632759637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863097278514301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010863137357165,0.2412642491012041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335959629848542,0.07440349357953911,0.062202313612536225,0.0,0.3958053628402827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470296732182347,0.0,0.15654953133922528,0.0,0.06627409258358326,0.06021625131497201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674055279656752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673244405453408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824388261853607,0.0,0.0,0.07474091599303276,0.0,0.0,0.17015804965902678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453827050693127,0.18454066622259646,0.062086027811324086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450182535057543,0.14115965849452838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551940738789555,0.0,0.20148002454478006
parenting,Lunenoir_,2020/02/10,"Mum guilt... lost control at bed time. Im feeling so terrible. After a week of no sleep with a teething 14 month old who is also going through a leap.... I lost it and yelled at bedtime. 
Baby was overtired and I just couldn’t get her to relax. Im trying so hard to be patient but tonight, I just snapped. I think I frightened her because she paused slightly and just kept screaming. She is asleep now and I am just sitting here racked with guilt. I know she needs me. I know she is just expressing frustration. Im getting all the right help etc.  i just cant believe I snapped like that.
Please tell me I am not alone. This is the hardest and most beautiful job ever!",1.2088308457711463,3.5728808283582083,2.1596716417910464,95.4900547263682,84.0,4.767363184079602,25.35124378109453,6.079149491110277,0.6413399004975129,517,22,110,4,15,162,90,134,0.18100000000000002,0.695,0.124,-0.738,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,3,12,9,1,2,5,0,10,3,3,1,2,26,21,9,0,2,8,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,7,0,2,4,1,0,1,4,7,0,0,4,4,19,2,9,15,3,13,0,2,0,0,11,3,0,1,9,70,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747233050655992,0.0,0.13491008753741085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283853235861376,0.0,0.0,0.19006819879422465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892124586362032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814615162014173,0.0,0.15259966619807955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853002684401991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627856539608214,0.0,0.0958766367274887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112291358130986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130766896926528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5466779207105984,0.0,0.16740966036803634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854272587307223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241876200589753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683140272784046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465548756375673,0.0,0.0,0.12508961568477106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770232668598493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851829814704359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406968822270702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882278227232095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745206475362382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809675593056947,0.0,0.0,0.09837087970697647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453687018657716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532172497420286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sansasan,2020/02/10,"Navigating not having more kids My only son is 8, I’m 35 and husband is 40. When my son was 4 or 5 I shared with my husband that I didn’t want to have any more children. 

I always thought I would want at least 2, as I had a great relationship with my brother — but I kept waiting for that desire to have another kid to appear and it never did. In fact, I was really averse to it. I liked having my body back, I liked that my son was becoming more independent every day and that we were getting to do things as Mom/son and as a family that I really enjoyed, like hiking and games. Financially just making things work, and working full time, I didn’t see any way in which having a child would make me feel happier, only more stressed, set back. The only reason I could think of to have another kid was as a playmate for my son, and I didn’t feel like that was a good enough (or good at all) reason to create a human being.

I knew that my husband was open to having more kids (our first was a surprise, and he had been not interested in having kids but found being a dad was really fulfilling to him). But he of course respected my decision. I’ve only learned within the past year just how significantly he wanted to have more children, and how much of a loss it’s been to him.

I don’t know that it would have changed the outcome, but I regret that he didn’t share that longing with me, so I could understand, so we could have talked about it more than just my one-time proclamation. I also feel slightly open to it now: but as I’m getting older I think my window where I would want to make that choice is quite slim, I know we have this and other things to work on in our relationship and I don’t want to get his hopes up.

I would like to hear how you’ve navigated a similar disconnect in number of children. I feel guilty about it, and strange because almost all of my mom friends and acquaintances wanted and had more children. I feel for my husband so deeply, I can see that he feels loss. And I’m the only one who can give this gift to him, and I “don’t want to”.",6.0605967914438486,4.928043291764709,6.798208556149732,80.73057486631019,66.67058823529412,9.986096256684492,30.141711229946523,9.095868883498916,2.173964705882353,1609,46,348,24,22,535,177,425,0.053,0.773,0.174,0.9943,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,5,0,0,7,17,20,0,1,14,0,50,1,1,9,4,87,88,36,0,18,12,11,6,5,1,5,0,1,1,11,27,24,0,2,18,1,0,1,10,4,0,2,23,9,51,16,47,55,14,29,0,3,2,0,46,14,0,5,17,246,78,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382007799866821,0.0,0.0,0.06694014535810094,0.06965060468331799,0.0,0.0,0.11384672973552197,0.1755473571052135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873043157762118,0.0,0.051026772201822335,0.09244737367540193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297917282700646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855049372860012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049874920085886,0.0,0.0,0.053983838239019054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864913037791022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052642872263654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891114171946441,0.0,0.25394746112911204,0.059800018537267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120079926141279,0.0,0.09177997675267928,0.06467151884035871,0.0,0.13119974576985258,0.08029900724128969,0.0,0.1404182651958259,0.0,0.09228683246103964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943434324940594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313955047004938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200592690555273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044741060367186,0.0,0.0,0.07407771529565138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676244354593973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607233868107646,0.0,0.0,0.06153398937309487,0.0,0.06455969757909792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344352985428775,0.3183132423658445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990743034812521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903228283128622,0.0,0.0,0.1608737923877122,0.17212867172134974,0.0,0.17973914451299666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340666044721794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588563834323977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728020194931797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683285562392375,0.10727163085895884,0.0,0.06645369780742323,0.04880999713800679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714153253991841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34560628923984515,0.0664424103825791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281822592515745,0.0,0.0,0.2973138685701261,0.0,0.0,0.053904312075569435
parenting,franziska_kafka,2020/02/10,"Is it possible/worthwhile to test for 'giftedness' in a toddler? My son is just over 19 months old now. At his 18 month check-up his pediatrician and maternal health nurse suggested that he do an assessment/screening because his verbal development is atypical for a child his age (his language development appears to be accelerated, and the nurse suggested the screening test as a way of assessing what 'age range' it is most similar to). I am unsure if there's much utility in doing this at such a young age, as my understanding is that speech and language development is something that kids learn at their own pace, i.e. it's normal for a child to have ten words or over a hundred at his age, and they will all catch up eventually providing there is no physiological problem or developmental delay, however I am inclined to get it done because it was suggested by his doctor. If it is relevant, there is a strong family history of neurodiversity, e.g. ADHD/dyslexia/high-functioning ASD, but no other aspect of my son's development seems to be advanced or delayed in any way. With regards to his speaking, he can have a basic but 'meaningful' conversation (e.g. Where did you go today / To the supermarket with grandma / What did grandma buy there? / Dog and cat food) and recites short rhyming story books from memory.

Has anyone else had experiences with screening for 'giftedness' or accelerated development in particular areas with toddlers? What was the process like? 

Can anyone else with kids between 1 and 2 share what their language trajectory has been like? 

Thanks in advance.",7.82731182795699,9.139551318996418,8.303028673835126,63.14120967741938,62.691756272401435,11.648028673835125,38.439068100358426,11.429527900616536,4.983194982078853,1274,64,200,38,18,422,162,279,0.042,0.89,0.068,0.8753,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,1,3,3,8,6,0,0,13,0,29,3,0,0,1,33,35,17,0,4,9,2,0,2,0,1,2,3,0,4,15,12,1,2,4,1,1,5,2,1,0,1,7,5,17,5,37,25,4,34,0,0,2,0,26,15,0,9,14,141,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049775987097053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598530404697704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385162701370095,0.34951369952206923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079411750205971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745733632860599,0.0,0.17454007359316462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849586846978449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683847361445653,0.1607869244252949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623943793044788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910952728200865,0.0,0.09693205475071638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129520236354804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020391515463305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665206924079345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27227557283039794,0.0,0.1253797712633812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671106492439784,0.0,0.0,0.17897195376368352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632009932573134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526961805723358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130389850307758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570269120105228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166906259194014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755691657093586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27076203902352264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Daniel_128,2020/02/10,"Help parents of Reddit So I’m not the parent, I’m her 19 year old son. I want to ask for some advice here because it seems like a good place to. I’m sorry if this isn’t allowed, I jus thought here was the best place to go. 

I wanted to ask how you would react if your son told you they were molested when they were 12. What would you do/say? How would you react? I’m thinking of telling my mom, but I’m scared to because I don’t know how she’ll react and I don’t want to make her sad. It’s also embarrassing to talk about, especially because it was by another guy. Thanks for reading.",-0.3593438320209934,1.7239452440944874,1.9277480314960656,96.32164829396324,88.68503937007874,4.6465091863517065,18.70288713910761,6.079149491110277,-0.2773260892388452,454,13,107,4,15,153,78,127,0.114,0.769,0.11699999999999999,-0.504,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,5,2,1,9,8,1,2,3,0,11,0,0,8,0,24,29,10,0,8,4,5,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,6,0,16,4,13,19,2,6,0,1,0,0,22,2,0,4,4,62,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925436449964752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214498057627132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601597099104385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855798926273305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27932404685346923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028970773968254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680485013805868,0.1281098672787857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123519947076575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237744499504613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394112452745497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462035099146364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195418261974616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888556912765868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027343756743484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391962168817425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191585972807737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277990489004406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146384266408615,0.15291795569429542,0.0,0.0,0.13904745918276493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097832608610092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227654782687522,0.13350024385884507,0.14062115571335107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786870940867187,0.0,0.12125736483670205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594825069204131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702675006609753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32550329707785136,0.0,0.0,0.0983586324204314
parenting,WouldYouStillBeInLuv,2020/02/10,"Mother in law came into my room while I was sleeping, and grabbed my 2 month old without me knowing. I'm a mother of 4 and have been extremely exhausted, to the point where it's taking a big toll on my mental health. So an hour ago I was woken up by my husband asking if I was ok because I didn't wake up to my 2 month old screaming his head off to be fed (breastfeeding) I responded with I'm tired and I guess might've not heard him, which was kinda weird cause when he starts fussing I kinda take a few minutes to get up from out of my sleep and feed him, but never do I not wake up. So apparently when he came to ask if I was ok she had my two month old in her arms, he was still crying, he handed him to me I fed him and put him back to sleep. At this point I was weirded out and irked that she came into my room and took him without me even noticing, if he was crying and I didn't wake up right away I would've rather have been woken up to feed him and not keep him crying so i don't actually know how long she had him for. The whole thing was creepy and rude it reminded me of some ""The hand that rocks the cradle"" shit. So I fed him put him back to sleep and locked the door, husband asked why I locked it, I explained that I was weirded out, and then he called me rude for not seeing that my mother in law was only trying to help.",3.4053951890034355,3.2819270824742297,4.583041237113402,90.999029209622,71.98969072164948,7.4288659793814436,23.72680412371134,6.691623216298621,0.4760391752577324,1035,22,249,7,18,342,140,291,0.111,0.846,0.042,-0.9636,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,13,10,3,0,9,2,22,20,12,2,1,45,47,25,0,4,11,5,3,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,10,21,5,1,3,1,0,6,10,8,0,1,27,6,48,2,38,19,3,49,0,0,1,0,35,25,1,7,18,167,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.09448687346387223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582919397959334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27155388095633504,0.0,0.09096992879813033,0.1489043303709687,0.0,0.059023396819134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988687746563392,0.3322247530265145,0.0,0.09946556837632904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190719343183862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395175609393808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058687379842373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666324797465042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937000607919423,0.10292005582298906,0.0,0.0,0.06489950968426571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953527584338314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606218151969029,0.0,0.0,0.10642457085037288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568675220248233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757645540438577,0.10271563321372107,0.0,0.0,0.231853491898376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467712505237192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023548499311686,0.30480349008636465,0.0,0.0,0.0736394955284804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830611469750441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467099609662328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268770647100256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715669557490062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993890930807866,0.0,0.0,0.3875782293516885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853297270405878,0.0,0.07732427598650296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560014619905187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432598297623637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128567071426616,0.0,0.0,0.10757572851096954,0.06573756922035398,0.0,0.09458359604740832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873691700434526,0.10810124353840453,0.0,0.1866709796178269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878144035855632,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amebuu,2020/02/10,"Am I wrong for not terminating? Hi everyone I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and my baby has been diagnosed with trisomy 13/ patau syndrome. At first I was going to terminate without a doubt because baby has a less than 5 percent chance of surviving and she would need countless surgeries (she has a severe heart defect, facial deformities and extra fingers and toes) I do come from an extremely strict religion where it is pro life all around but I figured it isn’t always so black and white. After countless day of thinking I’ve decided I don’t want to terminate and I want to give her a fighting chance for as long as she can hold on and I do not want to be responsible for taking that chance away and it is devastating to feel her every kick knowing that I thought about terminating. This was to be my last pregnancy as well and I was so excited to hear she is a female and I am so angry at the universe and feel god is punishing me for something. All I know is I love this baby and I am willing to do everything I can to try and make her survive but I also don’t want her to be in pain. While she will never be A normal baby and will always need around the clock care I am willing to do that for her because I love her so much and it breaks my soul to even think about terminating her and I want to try and give her the happiest life while I can. I suppose I’m here looking for advice on what I should do, am I making the right decision? (Doctors did say she will more than likely be stillborn but I feel I rather suffer that heartbreak than know that I took her life away)
Thank you for any inputs and advice.",4.424111759799835,5.206563795107037,5.543209619127051,81.79428065054212,70.07033639143731,8.514261884904087,29.236725048651646,8.710501217029153,2.1570501529051995,1279,47,256,21,22,425,160,327,0.11199999999999999,0.736,0.152,0.7879,1,0,1,0,2,0,16.0,0,1,0,3,14,15,2,1,11,0,42,12,4,2,3,58,73,31,0,11,7,0,4,1,0,7,6,2,0,0,12,22,0,1,12,0,0,3,7,8,1,1,7,9,46,7,43,54,7,26,1,2,3,2,24,11,0,1,12,197,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22482932489301916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199655103586224,0.19144312801083854,0.0,0.0,0.0782303834743054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048179863016713,0.0,0.0,0.21616562983296955,0.0,0.0,0.14025326739127472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117289805433816,0.0,0.0,0.0990958091639334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419056088241126,0.0,0.0,0.11676204198346628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774716863040065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598209549909364,0.0,0.09692521826252573,0.10992458003627174,0.10338952788894082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745013432762493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785201283931856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071155293385966,0.06537924676241384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296571789007598,0.13632162707923895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896670803048421,0.09377204150210763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24376608983852185,0.05620218608994352,0.0,0.0,0.10180578902779064,0.09660368619311546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20765416182747415,0.0,0.15357869182090986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456681358426504,0.1705997442216364,0.08872507643093364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271367765438302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224094795130753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824257523830963,0.0,0.09148353495935077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299611902551514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856255036764507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649492124131837,0.0,0.0,0.1059123450449702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742453889550905,0.0,0.09132802101276784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781242887370606,0.15620769678450389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33926456086020723,0.0,0.09227725076079277,0.0,0.10343376902895524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089337546413006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172031995825713,0.12577695653263832,0.0,0.0
parenting,WannabeI,2020/02/10,"Rant: Parents Without Borders I've absolutely had it with parents who don't set borders for their kids. It's not even about how me or my kids are impacted by *their* kids' crappy behavior, I'm just so done with their self-righteous justifications. 

*You're so lucky your kids listen to you!* and *I just love Baby too much to let him cry!*  and *My booboo is just too strong-willed to stop hitting!* 

You know what? It's not luck, we also love our kids, and it takes immense energy to be stronger-willed than a toddler (or two), but we f\*\*\*ing do it because we want our kids to be normal adults in the world. No one likes ego clashes with their kids, and no one likes being the ""bad"" parent who puts a kid in timeout, or who doesn't give in to a tantrum. Trust me, it would be much easier to just let the kids shout on the tram and to push their way through other kids in the playground and to wander away from their supper when they finished the ""tasty"" parts, and leave a mess of their toys at their grandparents'.  

And it's bad enough these parents don't teach their kids these things, but then they justify it at MY expense, like I'm starving my baby (sleep training at 7 months, yes?) or breaking a 2yo's spirit because I won't let him run around butt naked in a wedding hall (true story).

And that's my rant (which I allow myself to post here because I actually haven't seen this mindset here, but more in rl). If you don't want to set borders for your kids that's fine, but don't pretend you're making the hard parenting choice while the rest of us are skating with on our miraculously well-behaved kids.",4.338632115548005,5.232879018691591,4.5104233928065725,88.71307774001701,70.33956386292834,7.207080147267064,27.05196828094025,7.1686216300943375,1.1341638629283488,1259,40,266,11,22,392,174,321,0.102,0.778,0.11900000000000001,0.6906,6,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,7,5,11,0,17,14,1,0,14,1,21,5,2,4,1,46,34,25,0,5,16,5,1,3,0,2,0,2,0,14,20,17,1,1,2,2,1,3,12,4,0,3,3,4,37,10,38,21,6,29,1,0,1,3,52,15,1,7,9,177,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.10758446568745288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816390997742732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814256242616784,0.0,0.0,0.10358000878412596,0.0,0.18410207697710654,0.20161532635344345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110036139087227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282022073712038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391387753071673,0.0,0.07281662792844278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575827715679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875901195909068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060588472087245486,0.0,0.0,0.11673489180641868,0.0,0.33820287096167245,0.0,0.16158229039597902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19900314330978408,0.0,0.07359024771956682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799752857802846,0.0,0.16208740123343565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080179465214084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941146452686396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6120772337257913,0.11938597740178955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558546098495927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082796124007308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414972041598108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501091345887368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110325898159901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217082625996577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289148195187869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324272943547737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769459577312684,0.0,0.132612700110759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005222419936513,0.08750836521665972,0.0,0.0,0.0991246454200222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627347940143328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831579391838027,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hereforthelolsnz,2020/02/10,"Daughter witnessed a strangers domestic we helped the woman and her young child now how do I explain it to her as she processes it... daughter is 4. So as the title states, my daughter and I witnessed a domestic incident at a popular eatery. Without giving away too much detail the man was violent with the mother and tried to steal her wallet and belongings, throwing the pram his daughter was in during the process, and verbally and physically abusing the mother in front of everyone...leaving large bruises, luckily staff intervened quickly and chased the man off even when he tried to come back they held the doors shut. My daughter went over without being asked and tried to be friendly to the young child who was about 2 1/2... they wound up playing together while I waited with the mother for police. Apparently the man is an addict and isn’t meant to be near his family but he stalked them to this eatery and that’s when we witnessed what we did. So far I’ve just explained to my daughter who was full of questions along the lines of ... that the Daddy was sick in his head, he was making bad choices because of that and he was hurting his family who loves him... that when people are sick in the head the way he is that he’s not a safe person and that’s why it was important we help the woman and her daughter. I tried to explain that they will be okay but she’s still worried about them. The saddest part of this whole thing was the little girl was just happy  because she “got to see my Daddy”... made me feel ill. My daughter is 4, I was really proud of her and the way she gravitated to the little girl who was upset at the time by the incident. Some of my daughters questions are very detailed and I’m not sure how much detail I want to provide her with but at the same time I don’t want to overly shelter her from the realities of the world either, and of course I don’t want her feeling anxious for them.",6.552091428571429,6.328265565333332,6.604152380952383,79.51960000000003,65.34666666666666,9.382857142857144,33.323809523809516,8.841846274778883,2.662820952380952,1517,58,291,21,21,484,179,375,0.11900000000000001,0.792,0.08900000000000001,-0.9458,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,4,0,6,1,17,14,1,1,31,1,28,8,2,4,1,56,49,29,0,3,10,12,2,0,1,1,5,0,1,10,18,25,0,3,8,1,0,4,7,5,0,0,18,3,42,9,49,26,8,38,0,1,1,1,70,19,0,3,12,213,60,1,0.0,0.14448994640397125,0.0,0.13294270721502455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776796623875998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114006107675421,0.0,0.11457535566710612,0.09377146293301623,0.10182254856082616,0.14867828902537314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504849997523187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054634423490471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299258414677797,0.0,0.12332243249902396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421770528445582,0.0,0.0,0.11698485414529736,0.0,0.0,0.09753397335055436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981726801976542,0.0,0.0,0.2503102715278849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348005330852514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054921823100948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912667129963915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444504161715115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006397948425796,0.11539135007711805,0.08140208622372692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929349363333838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320591780503058,0.0,0.08454427057977396,0.10648140078516204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27322218879594945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812382653634369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717778121174656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738884640126412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493574594913705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101767777012894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221920275711736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33118220377316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062092122313222,0.21578652122914405,0.19359531218889747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304819719604653,0.11004025027085866,0.13615200748319936,0.0,0.2351094934887891,0.0,0.0,0.12384540559723717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gitabear,2020/02/10,"My SO is in the process of a divorce and custody battle. How can my role positively (or negatively) affect the outcome?  I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. We live on the opposite ends of the country from each other(OR, FL) and will continue to be long distance as I finish my last two years of school. Our relationship is committed, and /very/ serious. We have been able to see each other fairly often by visiting each other's homes and supplementing with Facetime and (6 hr!!) phone calls.

 My SO is currently in a custody battle stemmed from a divorce filing over two years ago, and expecting to go to trial in July. His son is 3 years old, and the parents have split custody between them (MN, FL). Currently the arrangement is three weeks, three weeks off. He is attempting to win 50/50 joint custody, with preference for the primary residence being his own. This would mean one parent has the child for the duration of the school year, with the other parent having holidays and summer breaks. His son has never seen his parents together that he can remember, and his father has not dated women (or brought them around) in the entirety of his son's life. I was the (unexpected) plot twist in this whole scenario. 

I have spoken with his son a handful of times briefly over Facetime, always at his request, never by suggestion or of our own accord. We are careful to limit the time and interaction style. We asked his ex if she would like to meet me in preparation of me meeting the child for the first time. She declined but suggested it was fine and would likely happen in the future (in a very vague, nondescript  way). 

One month ago we picked his son up from the airport and spent the afternoon/evening playing etc. Overnight he had difficulty sleeping, etc. and was eventually pulled into bed with us. I left the next day for the airport and we shared some incredible experiences together in between. 

I am currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Development, and work as a Lead Teacher in a preschool. I am intimately involved in my community, and specifically focus on supporting families and volunteering my time in the Early Elementary and Environmental Education field. The experience I've gained from my professional development over the years has allowed me a fairly keen perspective on how best to fully engage and support the healthy development of children (and adults!).   
 

A few questions for you, friends, as I navigate uncharted territory! I'm consulting with an attorney, but want to hear from you parents on what your experiences were like, or how you view the circumstance.

How would you feel if you were his ex? 

How could my participation in this narrative influence a judge's decision?

 Would I be a viable character witness? 

\*Are overnight stays a negative? 

\*I do recognize the implications of co-sleeping with a new partner. It is something I will always push away from, but with an open heart. I want to be able to handle this situation from a loving parental standpoint, but with my professional experience to guide me. Of course there will always be exceptions.. (lucky me!)",7.080789473684213,8.636373269784176,7.328186293070811,68.58358765619086,64.50359712230215,10.960545248012119,36.57402499053389,10.9378642563037,4.518126618705036,2502,122,403,71,38,811,286,556,0.026000000000000002,0.863,0.111,0.9935,10,0,1,0,2,0,87.0,9,6,2,8,11,19,2,0,44,0,45,5,3,10,3,85,62,40,0,12,12,14,2,3,2,8,1,1,2,6,11,41,0,1,6,2,1,6,5,3,0,7,11,6,57,16,80,37,11,76,0,0,3,1,74,30,0,10,40,299,68,7,0.15134061885927136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415432724832316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889127780267487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673626184296068,0.07074152457579479,0.0,0.07109474662340791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941132125930735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726784637544659,0.0,0.07715092362527047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06041658473044593,0.0,0.0,0.04880108953360607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702143401688855,0.0,0.1687847951139765,0.04997952571458929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960803304646147,0.07133523324518312,0.0,0.038261182086024935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436512654465262,0.0,0.0,0.05846269335701808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043005180671827084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691500472359224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528593827777398,0.08966968101245308,0.0,0.0,0.07590349013783214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168140176681529,0.0,0.0,0.08221601260363637,0.0,0.053448177387064436,0.11090607279705668,0.0,0.06681826957070362,0.06696584263945721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829540862637523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242715048022971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207986380997452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167232151174784,0.07308285637868582,0.08047623253936123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940326063025306,0.0,0.1025523200650434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041375418654391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476806452505585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124159350467015,0.08571970953853897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316478597561065,0.06029943954743119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850565982605916,0.1514499152442653,0.0,0.0,0.058254701115766486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065448159695225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173954081402762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764958638117176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783779397350622,0.0,0.09102206520439377,0.0,0.0,0.12487186023069415,0.08926461810342587,0.06006356946226207,0.12139631572350253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448319813564739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05508888649381042,0.0,0.0,0.26877008365785965,0.0,0.0,0.2436459916206866
parenting,default71,2020/02/10,Crap parents When I see parents buy 2 year old baby a tablet all I can think of is wow they must realy hate the baby alot .It's almost like  they don't want to talk or teach it anything. Children learn from us the most the first 4 years they are here . And if you really love your child why would give any of that time up to a tablet ?,-0.4216666666666669,1.7335812777777804,0.9688888888888912,102.365,90.38888888888887,3.7555555555555564,13.555555555555555,5.033348758259628,-1.4093444444444447,260,4,63,1,9,82,61,72,0.099,0.763,0.138,0.6096,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,2,3,1,2,5,2,0,6,0,6,2,1,0,2,12,12,4,0,4,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,8,3,6,10,3,7,0,0,1,1,13,1,1,5,7,37,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293560675147042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575885190636268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848500026262585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482605734107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21972139570771554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261350954411465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190010314691322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067225827318661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403448115321514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5086560321922341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673246660865222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251967637711752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840981648923768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676316222284302,0.0,0.0,0.13355832237659185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755136367596733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350970202247788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667801443347197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270741173471875,0.0,0.0,0.2949956939895577
parenting,LoyalBeast,2020/02/10,"Advice: Impossible in-laws, first time parents Not sure if this is the place to post this, but I need some input.

Soon-to-be first time parents. No idea what to expect coming home after delivery except what I've been told about pain, exhaustion, bleeding and hormones everywhere, and the desire to begin family life as three.

Quick background: My husband's family lives 500 miles away, knows no boundaries, has essentially intimidated my husband and I into doing this and that during our previous visits and our wedding, treats their 30 year old son like a child that needs to be monitored, and has given me the notion that I'm more of an incubator for their next grandchild than a person in their family.

His parents are coming to stay with us in our two bedroom home right after I give birth for a few days. No problem, we agreed to it, they won't see our child as much as my own parents. However, his brother and sister-in-law requested that they come and stay with their 11, 5 and 2 year old during their break which is two or three weeks after our child's due date because they want everyone to meet our child and they can't afford a hotel. We initially spoke to my husband's parents in hopes they could book a hotel for them but the conversation kept circling to ""I understand but you have to bite the bullet for a few days, and you can't say no to your brother."" We spoke to the sister-in-law and said we could see if someone has points for a hotel room (to which she responded don't worry, they'll come at a later time.) We made another suggestion that it could be just the two adults and no children (sister-in-law was fine with it but wanted to run it by my husband's brother.) Today, my husband receives a call from his mother saying that we can't say no and that his brother/sister-in-law are disappointed. My husband hasn't finished the conversation with his mother and plans to tomorrow.

I can't at all comprehend how anyone could have no acceptance of what someone wishes after the arrival of their first child, and have no understanding of what it's like to give birth and to start a life with your small family. I want my husband to enjoy his time as a family of three before he has to go back to work. I worry for the safety of my child with their two cousins going to school during flu season and one being a pistol of a toddler in a 1100 sq. ft. home with 8 people in it. 

Has anyone dealt with family like this? I don't want to create a feud but I am trying to be as accommodating as I can be within my boundaries. My head hurts trying to understand why they're being this way and why this conversation is happening in the first place. In the end, I am uncomfortable with the idea of so many visitors staying overnight with us practically back-to-back shortly after I have given birth, especially with children who have no mannerisms.

Please help.",7.737599028878101,6.6678487495527765,7.922368387426528,73.82169722719146,63.293381037567094,10.77641196013289,32.84442882698697,9.871247098662263,2.9857477127523637,2277,72,427,39,28,745,245,559,0.10800000000000001,0.8,0.092,-0.8856,7,0,0,1,0,0,63.0,14,4,14,6,6,15,1,0,29,0,40,7,1,2,2,80,74,35,0,17,11,19,0,3,0,2,6,6,5,10,26,41,0,1,7,4,0,9,18,6,0,12,10,8,63,9,77,52,7,71,0,2,2,0,92,20,0,5,39,295,89,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062393128104771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695191347445352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089290304107481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998883749010338,0.1472892931908114,0.0,0.038922147204864976,0.0,0.05433133990322441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519762007142167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22000324090296505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20391496447972293,0.0,0.0,0.0823554698036604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05655182843381922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061011066126091536,0.0,0.0,0.36115054214610093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172418807127901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250078323152792,0.07257444233454405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646202475797861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552815006927744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042797067020644085,0.0,0.19213918120825893,0.06341709816843942,0.0,0.0,0.06835235894596872,0.14415694088722802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035090091693180614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019777633919172,0.09358112509958183,0.0,0.056380400873770185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060416072088416664,0.0,0.06473351218487873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046936831179704944,0.0946873963254268,0.0,0.0,0.06790481526281998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339989105907934,0.0,0.04326616771842755,0.0,0.0679405174581369,0.0,0.3544873391726884,0.0,0.0,0.04426530015115148,0.055751041838166586,0.13341856576613112,0.07008772975769105,0.060358546729254725,0.0,0.061150304336671124,0.0,0.0,0.06109548128611021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545272426993511,0.06073562795533102,0.15232738662304188,0.0,0.06461924327382136,0.10175979102692714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081991835754498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04519310300198859,0.2041656586103538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060177528975596827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489249514870698,0.0,0.060521991876334585,0.061011066126091536,0.0,0.08669942714158275,0.0,0.2494872777182684,0.19940917742716474,0.15360650784743538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064068509555562,0.05068087135373292,0.05121632892518628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115228735750964,0.0,0.07342393358820498,0.0,0.0,0.0464832975197617,0.1296848151508993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223414803836508
parenting,FenderES6137,2020/02/10,Has being a parent changed your view of your parents? Maybe you've realised that they tried their best to do a good job. Or maybe it gave you the realisation your parents sucked. I'm interested,3.05337837837838,5.7912942702702725,3.6445270270270282,85.4084121621622,79.27027027027026,5.8621621621621625,25.466216216216218,7.1686216300943375,1.1694378378378392,156,6,30,2,4,49,31,37,0.07200000000000001,0.6940000000000001,0.23399999999999999,0.7783,4,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,4,2,1,0,4,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,3,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,10,0,1,1,0,18,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376308723984959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953952613884544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18992398173034225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470303657557075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549712926793185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7542919698510658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373534880965442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parikshith_mo,2020/02/10,"What are parents looking for in a video game, when their kid asks to buy it for them? Back in the day parents would look at the pegi symbol for the 'E' symbol. Are kids on steam? if yes what do parents look for to buy it for them? Talking about teens mostly.",1.4658490566037763,3.37417898113208,2.347773584905664,97.10996226415094,79.94339622641509,4.24,20.033962264150947,3.1291,-0.5938120754716985,198,5,44,0,5,62,36,53,0.0,0.94,0.06,0.5007,3,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,8,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,12,7,1,7,0,0,3,0,11,4,0,2,3,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20660347212112426,0.0,0.0,0.1699339642661554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252554777970858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5567484513576586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7361769992984221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762997130917246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699077117430066,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HmImThinking,2020/02/10,"I almost lost my daughter today Today, my daughter could have died. She’s fine and maybe I’m being dramatic or something, but I need to tell someone that isn’t my husband or my mom. It’s been eating at me and I might go crazy. I have three kids. My husbands been gone for the last 4 months and it’s starting to really affect me. 

It’s been a rough day of me trying to clean what I had been putting off all weekend and my 3year old twins were being normal toddlers but because I was stressed by my own procrastination I was short tempered with them. One of my daughters pooped her pants and I lost it and sent her to her room to play so I could calm down a little (the potty training thing is a whole story on its own, she’s just a little rebel who doesn’t like wasting time on a toilet, even though she knows when to go and whatnot, anyway). I thought she was upstairs playing in her room when all of a sudden there’s this blood curdling scream. I figure she fell down her stairs to her bed and meet her halfway up the steps. My daughter starts grabbing what I thought was her chin saying she hurt herself. 

Eventually she calms down enough where she walks me to my room where she tells me that she was playing on the chaise next to the window when she fell. She fell and the cords to the blinds wrapped around her neck until the whole thing broke off the window. I don’t know if she hung there for an amount of time before the blinds broke. I don’t know how bad of a fall it was or how tangled. I didn’t even know she was in my room. I thought she would be playing with her toys. She seems super shaken up about it, so I know it scared the hell out of her, but she bounced right back and has been mostly acting normal, if only the slightest bit more cautious. 

All I can think about now is how if she had fallen a different way or the window was a little bit stronger, I could’ve lost my daughter. I never even would have noticed until I called her down for dinner. Then she wouldn’t have answered and I’d go up there angrily looking for her...and then finding her. All because she pooped her pants. Because I couldn’t keep my cool for her going through whatever she’s going through. I keep having these pictures in my head about what could have happened. I’ve never been so scared of anything in my life. Now I’m terrified that her daycare is gonna call CPS on me because it looks like I strangled this poor girl. I’m terrified that I should’ve taken her to the ER when it happened to get it checked out. I just feel like I should’ve done something more.",4.457023822964884,5.020332460652597,4.496349215309927,90.1188537315118,69.88291746641075,6.820390651462121,27.03178277068985,6.068283710208149,0.8347908546912048,2016,61,431,9,34,623,230,521,0.156,0.768,0.076,-0.9934,1,0,2,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,1,4,29,26,3,3,24,1,45,10,5,4,6,67,81,36,1,13,12,8,3,3,0,5,3,2,9,2,24,16,2,2,14,6,2,16,9,14,1,2,28,10,88,12,55,41,15,76,1,6,4,0,58,33,1,11,29,300,112,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300105505857337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821033362681997,0.07378851220788205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063736290243358,0.0692085982814098,0.20211271714884488,0.0,0.07053217462785298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18098597448646814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927725075026234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647195138116351,0.0,0.0,0.053456351233902834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602537924561124,0.08660104459025106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482391359426432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481582843940738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564617975148055,0.0,0.16424160443773236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041911014851551534,0.059215700457762276,0.0,0.0,0.07575876581496623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04330592217013282,0.0,0.23553777844319826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659639895373028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506771472890068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873406262370936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735056171032582,0.0,0.0,0.22776729594919354,0.06756534964605138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058546736774131525,0.12148568890720365,0.24922874488499716,0.0,0.0,0.13921125593897982,0.0,0.2714484071897479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327283538945685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793180688204373,0.0,0.09707823809582858,0.0661609657545686,0.0,0.0,0.061460917258598466,0.12785774342545211,0.0,0.08815306776384274,0.0,0.16242664484252586,0.0,0.0943693289393881,0.08697774229907215,0.0,0.05616752508643726,0.0630405878550966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332603275046901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531006206717606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078649285838262,0.0,0.06591641738168165,0.16597208801593474,0.0,0.0,0.07545875508566872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702313225122747,0.1276235343772799,0.0,0.0,0.11733809026571175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949487203719871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489674625381854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101351320260072,0.053111729025645066,0.08143772224690947,0.19741309584491326,0.0966661295620574,0.0,0.15713758237697328,0.0,0.0,0.05627598312665594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579318814850538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508453627014168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776350184383545,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,step_mama,2020/02/10,"Young adult stepson keeps breaking rules... my husband (his dad) is ready to kick him out tl;dr - my stepson (21) frequently comes home high, although denies it and claims to be sober (when he’s clearly high). My husband (his dad) said that was a deal breaker and now wants him to move out, but he really has nowhere else to go. How do you kick an adult child out when he has no other options, but doesn’t respect house rules? 

DISCLAIMER: We live in a state where recreational marijuana is legal (in very small quantities). So, this isn’t a matter of legality, as long as it’s within legal standards.  

Throw away account, for privacy. My stepson is 21 and lives at home rent free — which we agreed to, as long as he’s in school (he took a year off but is back in college now). Together, my husband and I have a 2 y/o and have another on the way. My stepson smokes pot, according to him, for anxiety... although, it makes him really disengaged and at times pretty careless (with legit safety concerns — leaving doors unlocked and stair gate open — not petty stoner crap). But, when my husband calls him out he COMPLETELY DENIES he’s high! I’m not sure if he’s in denial or just doesn’t realize how high he seems. 

My husband made it very clear that he doesn’t want him smoking in the house or coming home high. As noted, we live in a place where weed is legal, so this is a point of contingency between my husband and stepson. This is boiling down to my husband (and I) not feeling comfortable with the way my stepson is when he’s high. It’s creating a pretty unpleasant dynamic and overall atmosphere in our home. 

So, stepson comes home high as a kite and my husband is livid and ready to tell him he has one week to move out. But, I know that he doesn’t have any other place to move to (his mom doesn’t want him to live with her) and would likely have to drop out of school to find a job to make enough $$ to support himself.

We keep giving him 2nd / 3rd / 4th chances, but things keep going back to him coming home high and there being issues. My husband feels taken advantage of... and it’s starting to come between us. I love my stepson and just want him to get his act together...",4.80721778221778,5.458552764568765,5.3760331335331335,83.80822552447552,69.13986013986013,8.273093573093574,30.239843489843487,8.306716005460428,2.0750878454878454,1692,64,339,23,28,545,201,429,0.071,0.777,0.152,0.9855,2,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,6,1,0,1,18,11,1,0,14,0,27,3,1,5,3,74,57,42,0,6,14,12,2,1,0,1,0,1,9,3,16,35,1,3,6,0,3,13,10,2,0,1,5,3,42,10,57,49,1,71,0,0,0,1,58,37,1,5,17,207,58,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04540189712088697,0.07000801046854915,0.051074375900064584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272709688283526,0.10267498810711866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817364032808672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875569269227527,0.07000091895619973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883088533733937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557728627461059,0.0,0.0,0.06898519237491871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751589926256757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102120431987529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03488150178500198,0.06404623609563143,0.07588718611671234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5643197426679459,0.4018191896659917,0.0,0.0,0.15407368175374694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968440475140457,0.06625309610199517,0.17802907629333176,0.0,0.0,0.0366918192343507,0.0,0.0,0.07069357257160909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032617581015215856,0.0,0.2358157961294395,0.11816830634017325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025723301683397,0.06317383309512672,0.08913114900304102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819334090430492,0.0,0.2128791094485704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0452411016411268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950860945024482,0.0,0.06311368192486999,0.0,0.0,0.13584624254563465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554162118843757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350797545664061,0.0,0.0,0.13513772571442806,0.0,0.060779555504537786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047255994099058285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576314233398107,0.0629244014079224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058354791444429024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044355120637589424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03893070048966235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417740382674519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030902666825017,0.0,0.0,0.1101747969666672,0.15751685219845246,0.10598851588136142,0.05355415708803031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04742732164478501,0.0,0.0,0.042993910091447714
parenting,BiggerThanTexas,2020/02/10,"Mom's Porn Talk with 13-Year-Old Son **TL;DR - Teens are hard, and open conversations with opposite sex children is hard. Good luck to any parents going through this!**

So—I accidentally walked in on my kid messing with himself, and had to fast-track a conversation I've not been looking forward to since he was young. I was flustered when it happened, and reacted by just shutting the door and said ""all electronics out of the bedroom, good night."" Kid has attended health classes, and a city-sponsored, health focused ""teen relationships"" class.

For context, I was raised half in a conservative Christian household/half in a bachelor pad where playboys were often tabletop reading. Kid's dad has not been significantly present for most of his life.

Boy is very private, quiet, and we talk peripherally about girls and dating (*""What are her interests?"" ""What do you appreciate about her?"" ""What do you respect most about her?"" etc.*) I'm completely flying by the seat of my pants, but this is how I approached the conversation and the bullet points (for any other parents who might be facing this conversation.)

**Location/setup:** A few days after walk-in, in person on an evening drive about 15 minutes long (so long awkward silence and eye contact wasn't a stressor, but there weren't a ton of distractions.)

**Opening line:** ""As you're coming to the age where people start exploring their anatomy, I need to touch base on a few things with you...""

* Don't stream porn. That's not what our internet is for. If I find out this is happening, you will lose home internet privileges. 
* Porn is illegal to view until people are at least 18, though it's probable you'll come across it before them
* There's ethical porn (consent, fair wages, they're actors) and harmful porn (filmed/shared without consent, forced sex-workers, scarring content, underage people.) If you view nonconsensual porn or underage porn, there can be big legal trouble, and that stuff is monitored by the police. If you receive pictures or share naked pictures of other people your age, there are big legal ramifications.
* Porn ads often are attached to computer viruses and paid sites. 
* Porn is not an accurate representation of what sex is going to be like. People who base their expectations on it are not very successful with it in real life.
* Be discreet, and leave no trace (clean up after yourself.)
* It's natural, but also triggers powerful brain chemicals that are the same as addiction. If you start noticing you are preoccupied with it, start choosing it over social interactions, gets in the way of homework or chores, or is making you late for events, then it's getting out of hand (no pun intended, but noted) and you need to talk to someone about it. 
* On the topic of chemicals—obviously your body is changing, but experts generally say, your heart and brain are not ready for sex yet. Sex at this age can be physically and emotionally damaging for you and especially the girls you are with, so please hold off on it. Talk to \[insert male family friends names that I've vetted and asked permission from beforehand\] if you need advice or are in a position where you think you're going to start getting physical with other people.
* If something makes you feel gross, you can talk about it. I'm around to answer questions, you can text me, talk to me, or talk to \[group of dudes above.\] 
* Google is a source of information as well, though not everything is from reliable sources. Check your source, and look at multiple sources. 

At the end, I asked if everything made sense, and he said yes. Then there was silence, then I changed the subject.

Of course, I immediately started mentally second-guessing myself. (Did I miss anything big? Did I just encourage him? Should I have talked about morality more? Sex more? Was there better resources I should have referenced? Is this a super awkward position to put the dude family friends in? Will they give him good advice? How do I add followup thoughts I might have? How TF do I talk about this to friends?) But I think these are pretty normal to have, and questions mean you're doing hard work.

Ugh. Okay, that's it. I'm glad it's out of the way, and hope this may be of use to other parents out there. 

**Solidarity ya'll! Good luck!**",3.8420203892493054,6.778328559322038,4.229360518999074,81.19935910526071,77.61799217731422,7.294821005010919,28.406544037951022,8.337813077883139,2.419593719859883,3363,147,581,69,83,1054,370,767,0.062,0.8059999999999999,0.132,0.9961,5,0,1,0,0,0,177.0,2,22,4,6,35,33,0,3,28,2,69,26,7,10,1,117,109,57,0,15,29,6,6,1,3,8,5,4,6,9,41,42,0,2,12,2,3,13,13,11,1,1,18,15,56,22,97,77,11,81,2,3,5,14,88,40,0,25,29,381,97,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920474283314469,0.0,0.12406773799630265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05076652699069345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633986447149422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05224027135025349,0.056512432872129925,0.11869418832165393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054018500505233255,0.0,0.0,0.05614466413620129,0.0,0.07051418340434397,0.0,0.14173379823340326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431106269231266,0.10936823204653263,0.06655966202762346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04094063385075593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140869785676593,0.05622620348155323,0.0,0.07079920307493959,0.04192925776598416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410704421044872,0.0,0.11969034678777625,0.0,0.032098403159674285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580213916704552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713809131313269,0.0,0.09950016390263626,0.06089771237623243,0.1082348389593902,0.21298273590281544,0.0,0.0,0.06993257248349638,0.0,0.1122738337890449,0.0,0.1706021901982016,0.0,0.0,0.13495678034400796,0.0,0.07522646754263257,0.0,0.0,0.06367761513987295,0.06305194305080937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161045335990687,0.06721826467500737,0.0,0.0,0.08967841830200075,0.031014095256232582,0.0,0.0,0.11235913256081637,0.10661777180345597,0.07102011227554474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600681968537032,0.08474944675352347,0.0,0.0,0.06915050092986896,0.0,0.0,0.06397491797616732,0.13468872552266414,0.0,0.07434934313730658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412132806411996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595735501878757,0.06219887478858816,0.0,0.07227466996285968,0.0666136729955734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114677224339416,0.0,0.0,0.2640625255521118,0.05543002780838013,0.0,0.06968416519950019,0.06001100272507528,0.0,0.0,0.06458400922720459,0.06844432560848203,0.0,0.0,0.06381693696500321,0.14222872174063614,0.0,0.06349917228397962,0.07225640618746686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815590317581331,0.0,0.0,0.12077182544124955,0.050483428937542235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05251296074268658,0.0,0.0,0.06471189754568152,0.053788086793432735,0.04887153978034524,0.0,0.0,0.2246644074759048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267169422875512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592197929859155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0421746154601153,0.0813533958464582,0.1247414719183354,0.05039761155767596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482805973326839,0.0,0.104758585450169,0.0,0.10077810264586566,0.0,0.0,0.05707793572729336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061194376041274576,0.0,0.09243129416755418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04088032225296012
parenting,420Randybobandy69,2020/02/10,Can I home collage My son has been home schooled all thru kindergarten to high school and I was wondering what permits I need to home collage my son. He just graduated high school this year at 20 (after being held back 2 years)and I don’t feel comfterible with him going to collage. Thx,2.8496969696969683,5.559960545454548,3.003181818181819,89.85810606060606,79.9090909090909,5.848484848484849,27.34848484848485,7.1686216300943375,1.4553030303030297,230,10,44,3,6,70,42,55,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,9,11,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,7,0,7,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,3,26,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065780228731876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906791507721836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135133193475323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140208525225213,0.5896002244362807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527934847460205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5948737799999017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247734121271092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617226698596518
parenting,clemitorclover,2020/02/10,"Ex won’t stop smoking weed around our son My son is 6, and my ex will not go outside or even to a separate room to smoke pot when he has our son (approx 3 days a week) Whenever I go to pick him up/drop him off, house reeks of weed and more often that not I can see visible clouds of smoke in house despite the fact there is a patio out back.

I am not anti-marijuana in any way. I worry about the smoke inhalation and contact high, his dad probably smokes 5-10 times a day (bongs, joints, blunts etc). If it were cigarettes, I would be posting the same question. I am at a loss at what to do, I’ve brought it up numerous times and he doesn’t believe it’s harmful to him, and I hesitate to call CPS because “it’s just pot”. 

At a loss, any advice?",5.3924056603773565,3.789238955974845,6.484520440251576,83.97130896226416,68.24528301886792,10.214150943396227,31.824685534591197,9.188382445141503,2.3168421383647804,570,19,135,9,8,193,105,159,0.08199999999999999,0.9179999999999999,0.0,-0.8689,0,0,5,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,2,8,4,0,0,9,0,13,0,0,1,1,20,17,8,0,2,6,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,7,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,2,3,15,0,18,11,3,24,0,2,1,0,17,11,0,4,8,80,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880354817353776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627802041740501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199874865930045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856732895168118,0.0,0.11777962923210653,0.0,0.0,0.21768262799331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729002817881489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492102156557967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21548133244447149,0.1276140399809109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196125220147434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041380242367519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4458790944494599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850427247575738,0.0,0.208314131230658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164405328129634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396414790279164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153304323528572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253257698918024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336189459908958,0.15498220588107914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621514410692667,0.0,0.13725154735341902,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Medical-Librarian,2020/02/10,"Video Game Addiction Warning Petition Hello All,

I just started a campaign to put a warning on all video games saying that **excessive video game playing can cause addiction** (in the same way as the photosensitivity seizure warning before video games)...

Please sign and promote this petition so that we can all make video game playing safer: [https://www.change.org/p/prime-minister-trudeau-put-warning-excessive-video-gaming-causes-addiction-on-every-video-game-now](https://www.change.org/p/prime-minister-trudeau-put-warning-excessive-video-gaming-causes-addiction-on-every-video-game-now)

Thanks :-)",24.567669491525432,33.0063619322034,9.28625,41.62056144067799,39.84745762711864,7.695762711864407,34.49364406779661,8.472884824447931,3.8987779661016937,530,16,41,7,8,110,41,59,0.102,0.665,0.233,0.8074,0,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,2,3,10,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,12,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,5,4,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,1,22,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.488876860795464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079902526007705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303409193452852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967197979085456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24613180061965526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6762244002030439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831278067661782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587076633231706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20643632497740186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797942901551236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thecolormarie,2020/02/10,"New mom with broken leg I need some advice. 
I am a 23 yr old mom to an amazing 7 month old boy. The other day I was out running and badly broke my ankle, and it will require surgery. Obviously I am currently very incapable of doing things for myself, let alone my sweet boy. My husband has been at home with us since the injury, and has been awesome help at home but is currently looking for a job and won’t be able to stay home forever. We have been staying at my parents for the time being and plan to stay there for awhile post-surgery, but we won’t be able to stay forever. My son isn’t crawling yet but every day he gets closer to being able to move around on his own. We live with two housemates in our home, and my husband/mine and my son’s bedrooms are on the second floor. There are no other rooms up there. Getting my son and I up and down the stairs doesn’t seem feasible but setting up sleep arrangements in the living room is out of the question since we live with two other non-family member housemates. Additionally since I won’t be able to bear weight on the leg I won’t be able to retrieve him easily out of the crib or carry him anywhere, or easily save him from harms way should the need arise. I don’t know what life will be like post-surgery and into recovery and I’m feeling very scared for the upcoming several months. Has anyone been in any sort of similar situation that can offer advice, or does anyone have any suggestions that might make the recovery process easier on me and my ability to take care of our son?",6.778435483870967,5.793202093548388,7.1159274193548425,78.55389112903228,65.16129032258064,10.45967741935484,32.27822580645161,9.673873057562805,2.743403225806452,1219,40,247,21,16,398,164,310,0.07,0.82,0.109,0.9262,4,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,7,0,0,2,5,9,0,1,15,0,37,5,3,1,1,47,49,19,0,3,7,8,2,1,0,8,1,0,7,2,8,26,1,1,4,0,0,2,8,4,0,3,5,4,30,5,43,28,2,43,0,1,1,0,26,24,0,8,12,162,38,2,0.431087835524248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16850161746047165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929539766285426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726180431530267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205706551559919,0.0,0.0,0.07675191390902923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198806722236555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790455576302653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120639636252408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754495739833857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264201881901365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127824909948017,0.0,0.04359419247624724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009024062686297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778981784206544,0.0,0.3459329982275897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555763176271572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047382920096652965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816330378359769,0.060898017402534615,0.04212154826989808,0.0,0.2283950739979076,0.0,0.0724010419189281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057550895532867664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146321384909407,0.0,0.20195394512847686,0.1376360789990411,0.09163562926496532,0.0,0.12785846709883994,0.0,0.08326946356553001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18094166664135616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957344051087724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514519309925849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658340697461068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631882544814415,0.0,0.0,0.07848923498689424,0.0,0.09740130997369302,0.0,0.2139601873706596,0.09691215780030536,0.08627983240070049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675858196857682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482488055423052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057279120547959216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05027415672214603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844407031791184,0.0,0.10370911753809113,0.0,0.0,0.1422770445911616,0.0,0.06843549167041256,0.0,0.10498976958589516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tampora88,2020/02/10,"Expectant father vancouver Hi guys me and my wife are expecting our first child here in vancouver canada we are slightly nervous about raising our baby in an apartment downtown.
I'm trying my best to sound proof the apartment but I know when baby comes it's going to be a different kettle of fish,does anybody have and advice on whether our neighbours can complain for crying baby during the night and or suggestions on how to soundproof our bedroom 
Thanks",10.22512048192771,9.338894855421687,9.136234939759039,66.51832831325304,58.27710843373495,11.191566265060242,42.436746987951814,10.125756701596842,4.639098795180722,375,18,55,6,4,117,66,83,0.1,0.8270000000000001,0.073,-0.3299,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,5,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,1,1,13,10,8,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,9,2,10,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,3,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151464522845506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33844727356035026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778080013284792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542546865400032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369472644446086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743211074434983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328603423966128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31932893040371185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723935701502105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026474616997393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969176713041488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189585432621015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lonestarhwy,2020/02/10,Sleep Nightmare My 7mo has always slept at an incline due to severe reflux. We’ve finally got that under control and he needs to be on a flat surface now. But how in the world do we get him to sleep like that? Literally his whole life he’s not slept flat. Do we cold turkey it or ease him into it? He’s such a good sleeper and I’m afraid that’s about to end. I work full time and have two other children. How am I going to survive??,-0.5382258064516137,1.6248150967741957,1.7701344086021498,96.17520161290324,91.58064516129032,3.9602150537634415,17.427419354838708,5.46131890053228,-0.580167741935484,336,9,76,2,12,113,69,93,0.027999999999999997,0.875,0.09699999999999999,0.7399,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,4,0,6,5,4,3,0,13,13,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,1,8,2,11,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,1,6,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125252428539268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847534351330867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22486661028496827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27811843126181746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326443496339161,0.0,0.14428860474590208,0.2129465574151624,0.20305489851877095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932637000739654,0.12403530808570752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882523911081448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868176025517151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5081363830613053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804229127154106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480085967308073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834533559220661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848311864994561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isaacseoma,2020/02/10,"Am I weird for being jealous? Background; My husband is Korean and we live in South Korea with his parents and two younger sisters, 24 and 12 years old.

My son was born almost 5 months ago, and we've been living with his family for the last 2. This is their first grandchild, nephew etc and the excitement of having a baby in the house hasn't worn off yet. They all spend lots of time with him, playing and talking etc and I love that they're bonding with him and I appreciate getting a break for a little bit. However, I can't help but feel a little jealous lately. My son seems to react more to Korean than English nowadays and smiles more when his family talk to him. He still smiles at me but not as much as them. 

I also admit that I don't speak much Korean yet, and his family have a habit of holding him when he's crying and upset and just repeating 'why why why why' in Korean to him. My father in law yells about 'why is he crying' even if my son isn't crying and is just yelling in effort when trying to wriggle on his tummy. But because we can't communicate very well, I just have to hold out my arms to him and hope they get the message to pass my baby back, I've only had to take him back a few times. But more often than not they ignore me and try to soothe him themselves. Which only makes him more upset and they keep going. 

We also had a hospital trip the other week, my son had a rash which turned out to be a soy allergy, but it was what happened at the doctors that upset me. My mother in law came along, I can understand why, she raised 3 kids and this is our first child so she can help us. But when we all went into the doctors office, she took my son out of my arms and sat down on the only chair and started telling the doctor what was wrong. Not once did she, my husband, or the doctor even look at me during the discussion. I wasn't introduced as the babies mother and just stood there awkwardly as they all chatted. I understand enough Korean to get the jist of what was going on but I was ignored the entire time. I understand that its easier to talk to the native speakers as it's an important situation, but to completely push me aside felt horrible. Even afterwards I got a stripped back version of what the doctor said. It's my son and I couldn't even ask questions about anything. 

His family are so eager to take him out of my arms at the first chance they get, and I rarely get to actually sit and play with him anymore. It feels like all I do is feed him nowadays and that he's drifting away from my culture and language as I can't speak much English to him if I never get to be around him.

I've brought it up a few times that while I appreciate the help and excitement, he's my son and I would like to help primarily take care of him. My mother in law has already raised her children and now it's my turn. My husband keeps saying that the excitement will wear off but it's also the fact that my son seems to prefer them now over me, wiggling out of my arms when I hold him but snuggling into theirs. I have taken him out of their arms a few times, mostly when hes upset and they won't understand that he needs me. But then they get upset because I 'stole' him from them. I feel disconnected from my own son and I'm not sure what else to do. While I'm glad he's happy, it does hurt a little when he smiles and reacts to them all the time and not me, it makes me feel like I'm not being a good enough mother and he loves them more. 

Tl:dr; Family in law want to parent my 4 month old and push me out of important situations. My son reacts more to them than me and I can't get them to understand that he's my son and I want to care for him.",5.165540301960307,4.64495370026178,6.042967247047365,83.38324546450751,68.28010471204189,9.148861560939975,27.453305734810662,8.569652575389874,1.6732293680750026,2873,74,623,39,43,952,289,764,0.096,0.782,0.122,0.9649,3,0,0,0,1,0,58.0,6,0,18,4,36,32,2,6,36,0,44,15,7,5,8,130,101,71,0,9,24,23,5,3,0,3,5,7,0,3,30,57,1,7,15,3,1,11,17,13,1,4,22,13,117,19,93,71,26,89,0,1,1,2,112,35,0,11,44,438,147,5,0.0,0.0,0.05524679839481432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501846235603622,0.0,0.05669043637569007,0.0,0.06247461874943335,0.13582185111292172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614557156367737,0.0,0.0,0.046588246088040686,0.05039819016307413,0.052926161291107325,0.0,0.05319042880832089,0.13059730762387636,0.0,0.06902236437933643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06180749066549119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647509834941632,0.1154428675953678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059358380688516336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18656245235452104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897325719752995,0.04954302484032607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047293476547689214,0.0,0.0,0.11699415870306352,0.12627846718397445,0.14957124292051233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668517594943921,0.0,0.11450233827537673,0.08088966813430752,0.05435802413237741,0.0,0.0,0.14446673673430135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366265463728381,0.0,0.0643497335472787,0.047484880228787316,0.04527914258427858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05006330233951226,0.06026632963512973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178786199629588,0.0,0.0,0.056230171920153706,0.0,0.06532460139089527,0.06060612998203443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064170434540254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04614771646707023,0.06386271237450825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297577317168478,0.17022538201382315,0.09998185743658088,0.0,0.047541244156591375,0.0,0.0,0.048130937830242006,0.1021921377600168,0.0,0.07558016026957895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037702031659084,0.0,0.12485273669943076,0.04197833650405184,0.04366397067895587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188130961088886,0.06029173608352573,0.0,0.12917179543188134,0.0,0.0,0.12572561407496274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063420293558717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05385258708204936,0.04502148151071808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307796090432997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727232740339658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04007146376608748,0.0,0.04521176889279454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053357736284941545,0.0,0.12769935592783965,0.13651182744110513,0.04948286361390136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19807140031249454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289989675119526,0.07687396355792618,0.1231588833551004,0.055303352420542434,0.29468425847878954,0.06809930282030972,0.0,0.0,0.04671222634033879,0.0667844466692134,0.0,0.0454120901737443,0.0,0.05090250963728215,0.052481461216983626,0.30651031702251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04021674365431351,0.061898186657573726,0.0,0.0364573625682377
parenting,pinky117,2020/02/10,"Injuries and Stubborn Streaks I'm a single mother, but I have a supportive ex-husband who's a great dad. My son is about to turn 4. He's a great kid overall. When he's good at daycare or gets ready without an issue I let him start the car. Problem is, he's hit this stubborn streak. So he'll be good until I let him start the car then he won't want to leave the front seat. He'll mess with all the stuff in the front seat and won't listen to me when I ask him to go to his car seat. As a result, I have to pick him up and take him to the back, but he grabs onto the steering wheel and won't let go. I've strained my back twice this month because of that. I also reinjured my rotator cuff lifting him into his car seat. (He's 32 pounds.)

Overall I'm having issues with him thinking it's funny to tell me ""no"" and not listen to me. I've started smacking his hand, but that makes me feel like a horrible parent. He doesn't seem to understand yet when I explain things to him and he just looks at me confused and hurt when I smack him on the hand. He's a sensitive soul and cries easily when he sees I'm upset, so I try to find ways to appeal to his sensitive, helpful side (""Oh, no! You dropped that! Help me pick it up."")

Advice on how to handle this stubborn streak and on how to avoid injury in the future? Thanks.",1.6697964847363558,2.970193078014187,3.2513135985198893,93.59021739130436,77.43971631205673,5.8972556275053964,22.5445575084798,6.280692351149826,0.26413086648165285,1016,29,235,7,23,336,144,282,0.156,0.669,0.175,0.8518,1,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,0,0,15,17,3,4,17,0,13,2,2,6,1,39,41,26,0,2,7,4,4,1,0,5,0,2,0,1,11,12,0,4,6,0,0,8,8,10,0,1,0,8,32,7,34,31,2,37,1,1,2,0,39,12,0,3,16,141,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117333308032272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734804489592413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549203000605078,0.0,0.0,0.2064375581280961,0.0,0.08182868746269352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745134414783062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787347939132919,0.09589783590063224,0.0,0.0,0.12268877402438487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013248489324525,0.0,0.15257820511069822,0.2251806618556307,0.0,0.2959901261442783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995039189998782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370183094185546,0.0,0.0,0.2802138791870479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213596481558802,0.0,0.4117945425199421,0.0,0.0655806628368108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112723974168638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960320859323075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714545953035799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905258712457706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844520157713885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069682781423044,0.12220291673545315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850376379458948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366748046722578,0.0,0.15232880361496787,0.0,0.0,0.10092835638004463,0.0,0.11732770437035996,0.12358597189679425,0.0,0.0,0.08918007163875424,0.08601265939821376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911370625240889,0.14600962840003662,0.0,0.13974384276210325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791755493021047,0.1065498560630084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939818845321166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CheeseFryConnoisseur,2020/02/10,Three Years olds are insane My 3 year old keeps licking her hands and wiping them on her face. She keeps telling us “she’s putting on make-up.” She won’t stop. We explain that it’s dirty and explain about germs etc. but she won’t stop. What am I supposed to do? Ideas?!,-0.4357142857142868,1.8118882857142853,0.20428571428571551,106.06571428571432,94.71428571428572,2.8000000000000003,17.714285714285715,3.1291,-1.2346,208,6,50,0,8,62,44,56,0.16399999999999998,0.836,0.0,-0.7815,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,11,9,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,4,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,11,0,4,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,6,28,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26139018878911946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26458095767013123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166467123896481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644719802303952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918744789208761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23561170856074296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918961534900759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048541663563268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28192438532968145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018597579453165
parenting,unrelatable-bs,2020/02/10,"Help!! Baby won’t sleep unless I’m holding or cuddling her. This is a bit of a random one, but does anyone know how to help a baby be a bit more independent? I love my babe, she’s my favorite person in the world, but she can’t even sleep unless she knows I’m right with her. I can’t so much as set her down while she’s sleeping, or she’ll wake herself up in a fit. 

I’ve heard about the cry it out method, but it’s absolutely not an option for us. She was a preemie born at 33weeks and still has an issue with rapid breathing when she’s upset or frustrated, which is extremely bad for her lungs. 

Anyone know any methods to help her sleep without me, other than cry it out?",2.329020979020978,3.4689991048951043,3.8380419580419587,90.70013986013987,75.43356643356644,6.318881118881119,22.79020979020979,6.574015621080383,0.4113272727272723,524,14,118,4,11,174,92,143,0.136,0.716,0.14800000000000002,-0.2537,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,6,4,1,1,10,0,9,9,7,2,0,23,16,14,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,2,1,19,1,20,11,4,15,0,0,0,2,21,10,0,5,4,80,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239653543049752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105718470673006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572429221858786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287789972465701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33080033584142365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176967590967698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945372869624003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027828455176594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571617503357078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482571482576543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590031004923445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069035250568107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203388758790877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147675969003128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128590694425996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6027371635251413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024982635815057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811238431893878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514945402830365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,that-1-chick-u-know,2020/02/10,"Taking a Child to the Cemetary? The 10-year anniversary of my father's death is coming up and I'll be going to the cemetery to visit his headstone. While I'm there, I'll likely visit my grandmother's grave as well.

My son is almost 5 and obviously never met my father. My grandmother died when he was a baby, so he doesn't remember her. But he sees pictures and I make sure to tell stories and we see my father's side of the family.

Lately my son's been getting curious about death. What is it, where do we go, where is grandpa now, that kind of thing. I'm wondering if I should take him with me when I go. He's never been to a cemetary before and I'm not sure if going will make it easier or harder for him to understand.

FWIW, I'm reasonably certain I'll be able to hold it together, so he won't see me get hysterical or anything. I'm also not religious, so there's no talk of heaven or the afterlife. 

What do you think- should I take him with me?",2.4453329145728624,3.8623737185929663,4.559117462311559,84.5285254396985,75.63316582914572,7.990075376884422,24.49780150753769,8.660442795831766,1.6474645728643225,746,24,157,15,16,258,108,199,0.091,0.8220000000000001,0.087,-0.4095,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,0,13,8,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,3,6,35,40,19,4,4,8,6,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,10,0,1,5,0,0,7,7,1,1,0,4,3,22,7,17,30,0,18,1,1,3,0,25,4,0,7,8,99,29,0,0.15391995950218246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412860574935058,0.0,0.0,0.12308973600414558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666301183979806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097454879566384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258841610649985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597446171356304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451020392930642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083365205567995,0.0,0.3499050402877958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602839519800051,0.0,0.0,0.173628418599996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519751741530244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054855363515601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23742512326519635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825535370129834,0.0,0.0,0.174361309213088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679628389167111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29013548052581795,0.0,0.3471859619109945,0.12371503306341328,0.13453282890174353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225758173320806,0.0986256950334324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602361061206921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839252863647902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669196302942322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911940745530452
parenting,throwaway19875252,2020/02/10,"Difficulty with mother after birth of child It has been a very hard year for me and my wife. In April, our son was born almost three months early. He was in the NICU for almost two months. That, by itself, would have made everything tough. Unfortunately, the following has also taken place. I’m having difficulty reconciling the person that my mother has been compared to who I thought she was. 

In August, Wife and I went to the beach with my mother, stepfather, and stepsister. I had work so I left with plans to come back and Wife stayed for an additional day/night. 

The night that I left, wife told me that my mother fell asleep holding son. In addition, we had strict rules about showering (after applying sun screen) before holding the baby because his skin was so sensitive. My mother was holding the baby and when asked if showered, said she washed really well instead. I talked to my stepsister and she confirmed that my mother did fall asleep holding him. Wife came home that night and we decided we needed to address some stuff lol. 

The night before we planned to return (together), Wife called my mom to explain that we just wanted her to be more careful with falling asleep and if she’s tired to pass him off. She also brought up that wanted people to shower before holding the baby. She also brought up that if she needed any help, she would ask (because my mother would continually ask to help). My mother at first denied falling asleep, which is when my wife brought up that my stepsister mentioned that one of her friend’s baby got hurt from someone falling asleep while holding the baby. 

My stepsister called me and explained my mother freaked out, was crying in her room, and kicked her out of the room. I explained we didn’t say anything about her (huge mistake obviously since we did) but I wasn’t thinking straight due to the last four months we went through. 

Due to the reaction of my mother, my wife was upset and texted her saying we would not be coming back down the shore. My mother tried to call to talk but my wife said she didn’t want to talk and hung up. 

Looking back, we could have handled everything better, but we had gone through hell and back and were crazy new parents. 

This led to my mother calling me the next day, explaining that my stepsister told her that my wife had told my step sister that she (my wife) thinks my mom makes things about herself and that she felt like my mother was critical of her as a parent. I guess this was said during the day when I was away. 

My mother then gave me a verbal list of five years of issues she has had with my wife, attacked her as being mean, attacked her as saying she was turning me against my family, and saying I had a rough road ahead with her. She also brought up that my dad would fall asleep with me (I guess to make it less of a big deal). She brought up instances of my wife “being mean to her” such as not liking her posts on Facebook and not talking to her at all (supposedly) on our wedding day. 

Due to the fact that my new-mother wife was attacked, the next two months involved arguing conversations with my mother, and not seeing her. Due to everything that had happened, I didn’t want to see her. 

After that time, the two apologized to each other. We saw each other several times with no issues. I thought all was well. 

While all this happened, it became clear that my mother was telling many members of our family members what happened, but obviously only her side. We saw everyone on thanksgiving. The next day, my mother called me to tell me that she felt like kelly was avoiding her and keeping her away from our son. I spoke to a family member and they admitted it seemed like that, but also understood that it’s natural for my wife not to want to be right next to my mother after everything that occurred. To be honest, I don’t blame my wife for not wanting to spend much time with my mother. 

After this conversation, my mother and I did not speak for about 3 weeks. I texted her and her husband on their anniversary at the beginning of December, reached out later in the month, went to a large family party hosted by her around the holidays, took her out for her birthday (When we went out for her birthday, our son put her necklace in his mouth while she held him. When my wife said something my mom explained “I washed t before we came.”  It was another instance where I felt like responsibility for something we requested wasn’t taken.) and reached out on NYE and Christmas Day. 

When I have spoken to her since everything in AuGust, there have been constant guilt-tripping, manipulative statements made, ranging from “you used you son as a pawn against me” to “you were my beat friend and I’ve lost that” to “I almost drank again (she doesn’t drink) because of all this, to “I wanted to slit my throat during this time.”

Since NYE, I haven’t heard from her until today, when we received four books for our son for Valentines Day. Two were “regular” Valentines Day books, one was “I love my Grandma” and one was “I’ll love you where ever you are.”

Based upon the inability to take responsibility when my wife or I have a concern, I don’t feel comfortable with her being with our child in a one-on-one setting. More so, I don’t feel comfortable knowing the emotionally manipulative things she’s said. 

More than that, however, is the difficulty in understanding that someone I thought I knew so well could act as she has. I don’t see things ever being “normal” (in the sense of not being strained) again, and I don’t know if I even want them to after everything. 

Any advice is welcome.",6.420914548022598,6.826952251412429,6.3037847222222245,79.4228522245763,65.56308851224105,9.048046139359695,30.623881826742,8.841846274778883,2.3388723634651605,4409,149,827,64,64,1388,377,1062,0.07,0.846,0.084,0.9633,6,1,3,0,0,0,123.0,24,5,3,8,40,31,5,3,38,1,77,16,9,8,10,169,171,65,0,23,19,52,8,5,2,5,3,13,7,3,49,71,2,9,27,5,1,28,21,13,3,12,81,28,175,18,141,74,12,154,1,2,7,2,197,50,1,12,78,589,224,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04279288355235394,0.0,0.0,0.13155361944305774,0.0,0.0,0.1751016108583296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059559911801805886,0.045919567169457005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03603695666155193,0.0389840259557137,0.1228183892417158,0.14945863511604962,0.08228775876870263,0.13469290103954995,0.0,0.08008530571580702,0.0,0.1490545367635933,0.0,0.0,0.03873032769466764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235818469400976,0.10017240750220127,0.04464870397307662,0.0,0.0,0.0754455927685821,0.0,0.0473234264945291,0.0,0.06992844881018169,0.0,0.048103284803264056,0.2259369348040721,0.04514746871718451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04289933581523158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049259930766221864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02892410023740198,0.07922446084046157,0.0,0.04184498401417959,0.2361437163727392,0.0,0.1651322142290627,0.0,0.04428494468624506,0.0,0.12614111440238995,0.0,0.0,0.037249320503798915,0.0,0.0,0.06766694075743418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03502433845434556,0.0,0.09648330755871423,0.0,0.11617495022245315,0.0,0.039228891017291136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870550046221095,0.0,0.0439267905352381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04688007519020149,0.0,0.0,0.09141461621976202,0.0,0.03892420344593104,0.0,0.0,0.04813370488962157,0.03569619803266855,0.0,0.0,0.09515993421974094,0.0,0.0,0.1069724158927702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036774120066029606,0.0,0.04780397126366368,0.0,0.07904769869742799,0.08287380409037512,0.05846279241680104,0.044398056853485066,0.0,0.09540431321370624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386543679051753,0.17477116214003816,0.0,0.03219204441259648,0.06494219552553156,0.0,0.08458887247566323,0.18629249344937152,0.1643827178386085,0.042906709655572466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869794851909075,0.03330567102752911,0.0,0.0,0.09725132165534547,0.0,0.0,0.03035975102253888,0.038237349428881184,0.04575315681371928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04194048178312243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044022899043950944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028054176898166246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03739799587137302,0.20828036143717826,0.1393001294768289,0.0,0.0,0.10468929079212612,0.03986645046532492,0.0,0.049472319356563516,0.0,0.1086751987427105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420937535667389,0.06742620264123368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667627947547663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050131184769018136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03292601705147663,0.1407929029992596,0.07655200447657133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872800667150297,0.056120091351222805,0.0,0.1042974986503904,0.10214150661471358,0.05033228313539704,0.041509548076696864,0.12553495204253878,0.04865435047619848,0.029731787797972618,0.04763295159862432,0.1711130752294381,0.045588854457295235,0.0,0.03782209321229313,0.0,0.036132857910345706,0.20663651563409915,0.0,0.03512717612097031,0.0,0.11812238200359215,0.1623819140851367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03188098430571365,0.0,0.0,0.15554234917970813,0.0,0.0,0.05640102408591536
parenting,MommySj,2020/02/10,"Suggestions for a teether/chewer My 3.5 y/o is constantly chewing on things. It's somewhat absent-minded chewing, and sometimes she does it on purpose (She has a camelbak for water around the house, and she likes chewing on the rubber spout). She also likes to bite on marker caps, pens, pencils, etc.
Does anyone have any recommendations for some sort of teether or rubbery thing for older kids to gnaw on? Somerhing she won't be able to rip to pieces and that won't damage her teeth?
Thanks.",4.388695652173912,6.679667217391309,4.286304347826088,84.81467391304348,72.47826086956522,5.9043478260869575,27.80434782608696,6.6274283507984215,1.3409521739130432,392,15,69,3,8,120,66,92,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.8882,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,6,5,1,0,0,8,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,15,4,4,8,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,4,4,46,12,2,0.25193525382668625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014725314635008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132461183011788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761589872620407,0.0,0.0,0.22427578928131928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722525077480214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4409404767708977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809744040934975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29069945744132963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461656785570069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25438278769716843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491704080023525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319481331547716,0.0,0.0,0.33474917603903875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yonce23,2020/02/10,"Need help with dating and 15 year old daughter. My 15 year old daughter has recently started “dating” a boy the same age. Neither of them are old enough to drive and even though we live in the same community, they go to different high schools. For them, dating means FaceTime and Snapchat and hanging out on the weekend or after-school activities such as football games, basketball games, etc. Our town basically has everything, movie theatres, bowling alley, mall, coffee shops, mini golf, parks, you name it. We have plenty of expendable income for these activities and are almost always available to give rides. 

Recently, my daughter asked to go to his house at some point during the weekend to hang out. I told her that if 1) his mom was there to supervise 2) they only hang out in common areas, not bedrooms and 3) I was able to formally meet his parents and talk about my rules, then she could go visit for a couple of hours. 

So over the weekend, they tried their best to plan something but timing just didn’t work out. His family had other commitments and so did we. We just couldn’t find a mutual time. 

So tonight, my daughter asks if she can go to his house after school on Monday. I told her no and she got upset. I basically said that if his family is having family time over the weekend and they invite her to participate, that I’m okay with her going. However, I’m not okay with just dropping her off at her boyfriend’s house after school to hang out. This probably sounds contradictory and confusing since I told her that she could go over the weekend.

She’s upset and she’s probably confused. Heck, even I’m confused. I basically reversed my stance. I just don’t understand why they can’t find other things to do, or why they can’t hang out in groups of friends. Am I being unreasonable? Should I be okay with potentially allowing my 15 year old daughter to be unsupervised at her boyfriend’s house? Even if the Mom tells me she will supervise, I can only assume that at some point, they will be alone. Under what conditions would/should I allow her to visit his house? My other fear is that, as soon as I allow her to go over there, that’s where they will ask to hangout all the time. I don’t want this, I want them to hangout in public spaces or with groups of friends. 

Did I handle this wrong?",4.944960407239819,6.361401468325791,5.3878252262443445,81.03612697963803,69.38461538461539,8.420927601809955,27.839649321266972,8.841846274778883,2.1096988687782816,1827,62,344,32,32,584,205,442,0.075,0.856,0.069,-0.8223,4,1,1,0,0,0,57.0,5,1,12,3,17,13,0,6,12,3,33,0,0,3,2,67,58,28,0,11,14,8,0,0,2,4,0,2,1,1,17,27,0,0,5,12,1,16,10,7,0,0,11,2,65,6,59,36,9,77,0,0,0,0,73,29,1,14,31,235,82,6,0.07415785298548433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425837768529267,0.07680517085467416,0.0,0.0,0.061705274345664786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798274590137644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782409153231783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841802265898405,0.08205425382353182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747917267540176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662488577765343,0.08270560882195421,0.14694168749263128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664829653738909,0.0,0.20972827174444106,0.08344820171903496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355578682918997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458834652015433,0.0,0.0,0.07113896992045847,0.29501931774030393,0.0,0.05931080948128704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04970644567571834,0.07835184322782192,0.0,0.0,0.07303054722877544,0.42784102860658657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548274282103139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077964202074887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737055622836492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054987108337993376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112647680587,0.0,0.0,0.11280077775259788,0.0,0.0,0.08234351975016252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020628201534424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990941632113584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644386670624207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054110016665499,0.0,0.0,0.30020682528051323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613441423157005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709033825312244,0.0,0.0,0.05248931003150041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960527318018721,0.06481723214899465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04926718235470215,0.0,0.07285971403825321,0.0,0.17296816174996885,0.0,0.0,0.21258301947780914,0.0,0.05034831432782757,0.0,0.0,0.07720094027504124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748044610911444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383185560646385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053987800189198916,0.0,0.0,0.05267961106814213,0.08107997074483454,0.0,0.14326567788580866
parenting,LoogieHouser,2020/02/10,"Keep Childcare Safe Hey Everyone,

Please help sign this petition. 

There are 35 categories of serious crimes where Convicted Felons may work in Licensed Childcare in Washington State within 5 years of their conviction. 

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Thanks!",55.81333333333333,71.72275255555556,26.27,-77.24999999999997,-32.111111111111114,12.488888888888884,39.55555555555557,11.20814326018867,6.7128555555555565,556,11,24,8,4,117,33,36,0.031,0.708,0.262,0.8687,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,11,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9223503759267448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268493779423188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411762862231893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513295264767105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868877021785514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567469555907943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239468975979628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963795674815974
parenting,shannobananno,2020/02/10,"Question for parents of teen boys I have 3 kids and two step-kids aged 5 to 9 (and baby). I recall when my kids were toddlers I would ask if it got easier once kids were school-aged. People always said no, it just got different.

They were full of it! It got sooooooooo much easier. 

However, they are still kids, lol. I know attitude will become a bigger problem once they be come teens. But, when will the exhaustion end from them being hyper? What age did they happen for your kid(s)?

Thanks in advance:-).",2.061874414245548,4.6664265463917545,2.811977507029052,90.60825679475168,82.50515463917526,6.0014995313964405,19.127460168697286,7.348242739294969,0.5376474226804122,393,10,77,6,11,123,72,97,0.07400000000000001,0.805,0.12,0.6759,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,5,1,4,3,0,0,2,1,11,1,0,0,0,10,20,6,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,8,1,11,1,7,7,2,11,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,2,6,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629350761880988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18306206348702292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162640215641798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867863980087774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458664249897104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343536321224567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469837207471565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315994978055727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761566807835173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394771290570302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170765213051521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174311322064733,0.0,0.0,0.13575455687340632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873700158056565,0.0,0.0,0.21935937771784286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626640351131904,0.0,0.0,0.19817682713497345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637936902111949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028159264285976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128433963253574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910247598713074,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Good2Go5280,2020/02/10,"How do I get my 3 year old from playing super rough with my 10 month old? He punches him, kicks him, pulls his hair, drills his elbow into his back, jumps on him, steps on his hands. I’ve played rough with him (3 yo) in a lot the past but never taught him those things.  I’ve tried yelling at him to stop, distracting him, putting him in timeout, leaving the room with the baby, making him show me “gentle hands”.  Nothing works.  I’m afraid the baby is going to get injured.  Got any ideas?",3.4968367346938765,4.465251744897961,3.716938775510205,93.34948979591834,72.36734693877553,6.0081632653061225,23.18367346938776,5.288315135182226,0.11824897959183645,373,9,82,1,7,115,68,98,0.08800000000000001,0.818,0.094,-0.2755,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,2,5,0,2,5,4,2,1,11,9,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,4,0,1,1,3,0,5,1,2,0,0,2,6,17,3,12,7,1,20,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,1,8,43,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165198450957874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278548518380588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24838891516830197,0.0,0.13509693440729345,0.0,0.1901196172392063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26834737079513343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517021759651369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209383295227965,0.0,0.0,0.15867428490484922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18973906669973206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18333777803269066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280906137568381,0.0,0.4988765039705056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269225426649213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389657331260096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19873747404169287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792497073717054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139051772115706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305681708484616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307842466590635
parenting,lilamoon135,2020/02/11,"Head lice won't go away :( My sister (who me and my mother care for I am a guardian, where I am from it is possible to have a parent and guardian if needs be) has had headlice for nearly a year now. I remember as a child having them for that long as well at one point. She showers regularly, is a clean person and we comb her hair after every shower. 

We are DESPERATE. 

I'm not asking for medical advice or whether or not to see a doctor, I'm asking if anyone has any tips or tricks. We've done the traditional treatments, the conditioner comb method and teatree route. She has long hair that she refuses to cut (which we will make her do soon because it made a difference in my experience). She doesn't have them as bad as I did when I was a child as mine were so bad you could see them. I'm embarrassed posting this because she's had them for so long and I feel awful I can't get rid of them but she is clean and well groomed. 

I keep getting them from her as well. They don't seem to like me as much, I can easily get rid of them after a week or two of the conditioner combing method but with her it's a nightmare. She's really embarrassed about it and even had a friend cancel a sleepover because she heard she had headlice. It's really upsetting and I just don't know what to do at this point.

I can't remember what got rid of the when I was young and neither can my mom.",3.3507291666666674,4.09188428125,4.735027777777777,86.76275,72.50694444444444,8.26,25.85833333333333,8.548686976883017,1.5032008333333344,1075,33,240,18,20,359,144,288,0.09300000000000001,0.823,0.084,-0.1576,3,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,8,0,13,13,2,3,16,1,34,5,3,2,0,36,55,29,0,4,12,4,3,1,1,2,2,1,4,3,13,13,0,2,5,0,0,1,9,7,3,2,12,6,44,6,32,39,2,22,0,0,2,0,38,8,0,7,13,175,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069103275753425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398998466080455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635998342533928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23092746595064997,0.0,0.11604025908825745,0.0,0.20624880188640965,0.2258688233457904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592510124267192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861145131418636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904004800259464,0.0,0.12641613715684685,0.0,0.12639203064767646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157616966764235,0.0,0.1040612001830271,0.0,0.0,0.12081496836905062,0.0,0.0,0.06244958584356944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954223259291016,0.0,0.19358421028536804,0.0,0.0701927012094178,0.0,0.09878099414667424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267553069830303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977998964258567,0.0,0.0,0.0678770168229905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06033999244230283,0.0,0.0,0.3279032881757644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686668639630325,0.08244285274724059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442177462760436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446516097255394,0.0,0.0,0.09079292546339654,0.09157995438574476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369252550744308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714152299714746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784281893124556,0.0,0.0,0.2335108228029556,0.13923722548537795,0.11828695896505335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824535772915882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27982200587932643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19684049582523785,0.11243745874592916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064981401926655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990710326568422,0.0,0.3331468013449471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953539561296105
parenting,throwinawaemyshot,2020/02/11,"Can I let a newborn alone for several hours? Please, don't call me a bad mother. I'm not here to get judged, but to get informed so I know if I should save money for a baby sitter.

I'm a prostitute and the condom broke,  I got pregnant. My future spouse studies abroad and won't be able to join me until our child is 2 or so. She is aware (and quite happy) and suggested she could get a part time job and send me money to get a baby sitter while I work. The thing is she studies pharmacology and it's difficult as hell, and I don't want her to fail college because I got pregnant too soon. I have enough money to raise the child, but to work after giving birth, I will definitely need a plastic surgery or two. The thing is I can take care of my child during the day but I can't just receive clients at home, I'll have to leave eventually. What do I do? Is it imperative to pay a baby sitter, or can an infant stay alone for a few hours each night? I used to be a med student and should be able to identify if there's a problem before anything bad happens but there's still a risk and I don't know how high it is. What could go wrong? Is it necessary to watch over the baby 24/7? If it's for the child's safety of course I can pay for a baby sitter, but I will earn a lot less if I don't get post-partum surgery, which will have consequences on the baby's quality of life. Help me, please.",2.466495700245701,3.4337874493243237,4.168083538083536,89.14350122850125,74.8445945945946,7.003439803439803,23.25184275184275,7.348242739294969,0.7231810810810808,1079,29,245,12,22,364,147,296,0.131,0.75,0.11900000000000001,-0.3905,2,2,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,5,10,12,1,1,23,0,33,2,0,2,0,38,52,27,0,11,14,2,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,6,10,10,0,0,3,0,5,3,7,9,0,1,2,1,28,3,26,38,6,20,1,2,1,1,20,4,1,8,12,160,38,9,0.2457242761889093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25449624356741435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110507111912384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20516950670786605,0.07489561901724273,0.0,0.10454663029432244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545597980498352,0.0,0.12526613811956158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19619083977051227,0.0,0.0,0.07923591493983695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694943177128695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209519810330421,0.11786055817952887,0.06982538443816205,0.0,0.1965281510080975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864658295848413,0.13078903061372166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235190134199287,0.12981059449625665,0.12324074207516175,0.0,0.24198891465996775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219217141198364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504363594843385,0.0,0.0,0.13009326434974064,0.0,0.12563486036611274,0.08678116160120526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445299621626948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647213813655934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110071861653912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529779369215774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304772272834012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697314656401781,0.0,0.0,0.11766796606265635,0.0,0.0,0.11756247326220623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067900726296133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387992447295064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095469188104664,0.09811786218972524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237703746528483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324829045881156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164190075401848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001845635138107,0.0,0.0,0.10611343960082192,0.0,0.0,0.07246727229634292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889019962753075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343304607847277,0.0,0.0
parenting,moarkaiGF33,2020/02/11,"Them/they advice My 13 year old came to me today and asked to be referred to as them/they. I am 100% supportive and 100% ready for this before anyone gives me grief. I am just worried sick I’m going to mess it up. I have been practicing in every text, conversation, or phone call and I’m still having a hard time trying to fit this into a sentence.  

They have been incredibly understanding and haven’t gotten mad at me once for slips. But I worry I will slip later and upset them or make them feel unsafe or unloved. I want them to know I support their choices. Coming to me as pansexual was easier for them I was told today. This has been something  they’ve wanted to do for awhile but weren’t sure how to go about doing. 

Any advice to help would be so appreciated. They go to counseling weekly and this has already been discussed in their private sessions. I listened to listen and took it all in when they told me. But I want to be sure they feel loved and safe and supported. Anyone had any experience with this? 

Thank you in advance!",2.4890487804878028,4.774671697560978,3.833841463414636,85.83222560975611,78.36585365853658,6.246341463414635,21.469512195121947,7.365786028017652,0.7800682926829263,818,23,160,11,20,268,119,205,0.075,0.726,0.19899999999999998,0.9827,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,10,1,6,13,1,1,2,0,23,2,0,2,3,35,51,20,1,4,7,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,7,13,0,1,5,0,0,7,2,5,0,0,13,5,27,8,28,33,1,24,0,1,0,1,23,8,0,3,9,108,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492034585527875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071094474217555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342294769585065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783165332041826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920505168214444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085019955158753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302024189581106,0.1458379777712746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983895621040483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743304781748772,0.0,0.0,0.12472968071703545,0.0,0.0,0.12894622261350386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231963592793373,0.21740136993057635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422431144116685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546756222536964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007640485816881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508315326506045,0.0,0.08511421092420797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380076049984904,0.1357944604429582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816376871822323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183000459570993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340920193910151,0.24035416725215575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739448446594646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435236480102447,0.0,0.2417299813652554,0.24368338550174756,0.14166879403527788,0.08657122088007521,0.0,0.0,0.1327428681958112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256268891195201,0.0,0.10228118616766084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25898608900578424,0.0,0.09057976034633544,0.0,0.0,0.08211254478173641
parenting,orforeverok,2020/02/11,Mom? I am 35. My mom is 60. Every time I call she drives me nuts. Disagrees with almost everything I say. Doesn’t live nearby which is hard I have a 4 & 6 year old. She is a stay at hone wife and it drives me NUtS. I take breaks from talking to her a lot. How should I move forward in the sense of not being bitter about her not being here? They moved away 4 years ago,-1.5990740740740748,0.3590783827160529,0.5906481481481478,102.85041666666667,98.5061728395062,3.193827160493828,11.688271604938276,4.7782277997778095,-1.6929432098765431,283,4,70,1,12,93,64,81,0.11699999999999999,0.851,0.032,-0.6517,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,8,10,2,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,3,14,0,8,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,6,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801790795923098,0.0,0.20109571755096767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21759216882000545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886802806943952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20506323793508768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920245278835355,0.0,0.18048720472370916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798984023681418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733082199301595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707329507084909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704040914826385,0.0,0.4268871787020881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21073047187474755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597029006728169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21405112121130185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099427259608178,0.1614143151738308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710179270274727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586474881614918
parenting,Mallory_Bluth,2020/02/11,"3.5 year old obsessed with friend My son has become close to another boy in his daycare class, he refers to him as his “best friend” and while he used to play with and talk about the other children in his class, he now only mentions this one child. I love that he’s found a friend and it appears to be mutual, but lately I’ve noticed it’s at the detriment of interacting with any other children. He tells me that he can only play with this one child because that child is his best friend - and therefore he cannot play with others.  We were at the park the other day and he refused the advances of another child playing there because he said he could only play with his friend from daycare.

I did ask his teacher about it - she said other kids try to play with him but he only wants to play with his one friend.

The other thing that makes me uncomfortable is that the two boys are very aggressive with each other and can egg each other on and fight like siblings. I think part of this is influence from the other child - my son often comes home saying the other child has been mean to him, but when I suggest he play with someone else when his friend is mean, he says no, he doesn’t like anyone else or no one else likes him (the answer changes).

Should I be concerned about this? I know that kids this age can be obsessive, but I am  starting to worry about the way he is closing himself off from others, and after a few months it only seems to be intensifying.  Has anyone experienced this before? Did it work itself out or are there things we can do to help him branch out. I like this boy and his family, and am glad for my son to have a close friend but I also want him to be kind and friendly to others.",5.603504398826979,5.569444504398827,5.627828445747802,85.08174266862173,67.2991202346041,8.110322580645162,27.020674486803518,7.365786028017652,1.236874369501466,1340,34,277,11,20,421,153,341,0.062,0.708,0.23,0.9969,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,2,0,0,4,11,30,2,2,14,0,31,2,0,4,0,57,48,23,0,4,7,3,0,4,9,1,0,4,1,13,33,31,1,1,8,8,0,3,4,4,0,5,7,5,33,26,44,34,6,27,0,0,0,1,73,11,0,5,16,194,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687185731982296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584356725613441,0.18021119978835665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016917812824107,0.0880459307702611,0.0,0.0,0.08033339832249388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476484512730352,0.09490346309994056,0.07312050874994805,0.0,0.1803574729352739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090305305546784,0.07402149905614366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860849544224124,0.0,0.0,0.05541805025525656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153516671272014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100760820574834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421833515405632,0.5975070758732153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05759738889431295,0.0,0.08619527701550736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948337078461635,0.04722514411126126,0.0,0.09693332344505826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792516655180964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775556124592957,0.0,0.057359262150324934,0.0,0.0,0.18720696653976626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858888870061214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097832420152183,0.09016958289442192,0.0,0.2329148665110869,0.3267700081687369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305433514719966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347912726804698,0.13667073216878065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822788097225274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280861620068735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060822035484129386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906766422021765,0.07510702639038888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417678424740045,0.05506078137297277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834115477561923,0.0,0.08394159202540077,0.0,0.0,0.07421634410382667,0.0,0.07090164473650255,0.1013680460692452,0.06820761468199481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625584123099909,0.08726657282764676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055336411285771936
parenting,Your_Mother_Trebec,2020/02/11,"Anyone else get resentful that their child has a favorite parent? So my daughter who is 3, is doing a Valentine’s Day project at school where every day they add a heart with something they love. The responses vary from “I love my mommy and daddy”, “I love playing with my toys” etc. 

Everyday since they started, my daughters heart revolves about her daddy, and I feel jealous and almost mad(?) at her. Then I feel like a complete ass because I’m mad at a 3 year old for having a relationship with her dad that is wonderful and amazing. I should note that dad and I are very happily married, so this isn’t an ex type of situation. 

But I get mad/resentful because I feel like I am the one always discipling the kids and therefore am the least favorite. I’m home more with them so I carry more of the teaching/discipline role. Additionally, the days I do work, I work 12.5 hour shifts and I’m freaking tired when I come home. I don’t have the patience to read endless stories and such. But dad always does! Dad always lets them watch a movie! Dad always gives them a snack or juice! 

My husband is wonderful. I cannot say enough good things about him, but on the days I work, he is solely responsible for daycare pickup/drop off which is stressful with a 3 & 1 year old. Our center doesn’t provide food or drink, so you need to juggle all the lunchboxes and nap sacks and it’s endless. So his mantra is that of a “pick your battles” to just make it as seamless as possible when he’s trying to get to work or prepare dinner for them before I get home. 

I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he says I don’t know what it’s like trying to get them there and get to work on time, and he’s right. The few mornings I’ve had to do it, I’ve been so stressed trying to get to work on time and look presentable and also remember all their crap. 

I think this post is more of a vent than anything, but please tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way!",4.017803030303028,4.795550830808082,4.760808080808083,87.05287878787884,70.99494949494951,7.482828282828282,27.54545454545455,7.526774132740827,1.3705242424242423,1523,51,322,16,27,491,199,396,0.077,0.8270000000000001,0.096,0.6754,1,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,1,2,10,6,16,18,6,2,23,0,26,12,4,3,2,49,54,34,0,2,10,10,4,3,0,1,1,2,3,2,17,22,4,0,9,5,0,1,6,9,0,2,2,8,44,9,37,50,9,30,0,0,2,4,47,10,2,6,20,195,61,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818828675298742,0.0,0.0,0.06539305600353883,0.2721634898383358,0.0885999510681315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717689868626196,0.08378509933747749,0.06729140621877565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969493058083938,0.0,0.06958196745295334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043935588245019,0.08573640870384748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109447559974825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155924701559163,0.0,0.0,0.08010545007920493,0.0,0.0,0.06831003115795843,0.0,0.0,0.08449235718848723,0.09119741936520842,0.0,0.0,0.06889645486302838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165385564061102,0.1168358969135976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988790529122994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990575433130987,0.07844317411424268,0.0,0.06858649193804879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380047825078026,0.0,0.0,0.24607201436747075,0.0,0.0805289694007469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04493976446126883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361743214813055,0.0,0.11984903763625775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06866790320119832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22140732583211448,0.0,0.05458345928251168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060632917769525965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161196193702635,0.0,0.11082167601093816,0.062191307094849775,0.0,0.0,0.09079815274474458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976112386585225,0.0,0.09218566770356454,0.07831499266668962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179415011205833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779254870369163,0.09263175979057917,0.06983285951650836,0.0,0.13005678707816914,0.0,0.08275765129890836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764266114535783,0.0919151782139042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295209712535897,0.0,0.0,0.05787865765474546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873391485653753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572525336574751,0.07147235098781858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432569754508948,0.05239620953035413,0.0,0.0,0.09536384659170682,0.09398490949697677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222071339609914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747048154830687,0.0,0.06490682444615124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773565381853301,0.3571860330579536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531700161488708
parenting,summervijx,2020/02/11,"X-post - Taking pets to shelter, should kids be involved? Ok, due to medical reasons, and after a lengthy search of attempting to re-home them, I am having to take my cats to a shelter for adoption. This has not been an easy task, however I am not able to keep them any longer. A bit of backstory, my two children, age 13 and 17 now, and ex were initially the ones who requested to have the cats in the first place. I grew up with cats, and had no intention of caring for them, and I set this expectation up front. However, after the divorce, and lots of prodding and continued repeated requests to take care of the pets they requested, the responsibility has fallen on me. 

I am no longer able to care for them as their presence has recently begun causing health issues due to repeated sinus infections, and constant migraines. I have tried many different remedies, air purifiers, steam treatment, and medications, with no relief. They will be going to the shelter on 02/17.

My question is this. Since the kids originally agreed to be their caretakers, would this be a valuable experience to see the outcome of being irresponsible, and having to give something up(loss), or would this be unnecessary trauma that I am inflicting, and I should just suck it up and take them myself?",9.660799373040753,8.444666396551725,9.318213166144199,65.82083072100315,59.60344827586207,12.746708463949846,41.349529780564254,11.741389052700956,4.953856896551724,1012,47,171,25,11,328,135,232,0.084,0.833,0.083,0.33,3,0,1,1,1,0,39.0,0,0,9,2,2,8,1,0,14,1,26,6,0,4,0,30,38,14,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,5,6,0,2,3,8,14,0,1,2,0,0,4,5,2,0,3,3,1,22,6,34,24,2,27,0,0,1,0,21,8,1,3,14,128,30,0,0.28224137816417016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596690781044627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540672425396105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43164584316025456,0.1449698211701874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250133085446255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744108408320236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804311285944698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003718604168412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537582402405707,0.08020213973290505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000469339332884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472933350956244,0.0,0.12543455256014865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199757633339907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307422896123784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843284952014433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562703115416044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744108408320236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515461077914406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808746875885646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450955719939601,0.1393396555417746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245491824121367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673649230966353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864160098846126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42442078201310335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958116844814158,0.0,0.1378544075950726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004961771470817,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawehhhhhh123456,2020/02/11,"She didn’t cry when I left today And I should be happy, right? My baby is so happy and has such a great time with her caregiver while I’m at work. But her caregiver is my mom. And my mom is AMAZING. Not only do she and my daughter adore each other but she also cleans my house and makes me food, and she won’t accept any payment (for the record she is getting an amazing spa vacation for her birthday this summer). I am so. Damn. Lucky. 

But she didn’t cry today. She didn’t get sad when I left today. She didn’t miss me today. And I’m only two weeks in. Will she forget me? Will I no longer be her favourite person? I love my little one so very much and I hate myself for feeling as if I want her to be sad. I know this is super common but I would really appreciate any advice if people are willing to share.",-0.2473200442967887,1.9183480000000013,2.148471760797346,94.24724806201552,89.34883720930233,4.438981173864893,15.748615725359912,5.916634753146586,-0.5863663344407533,624,13,138,5,21,212,97,172,0.152,0.625,0.223,0.9323,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,7,16,2,0,3,0,22,2,0,1,0,26,33,22,0,5,7,3,1,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,3,10,1,0,3,1,0,0,7,5,0,2,4,1,34,11,9,20,2,17,0,3,0,1,20,6,1,3,11,99,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060223843524632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688067937154624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177456522192714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936187585353253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757797587919875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161135442744431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965429251500716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473507309809016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845480105823447,0.0,0.13195272099188554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154215342799214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345111010193117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29042446749923023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339534421511613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062527149413275,0.0,0.08921309948029145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130609390238688,0.0,0.0,0.09824888418534004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056539596881256,0.2032952597579258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265679507269914,0.11669892310792568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562027132096224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413724826040016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793298963313443,0.0,0.5067421912449153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055763479436067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027609575270753,0.07883083951113122,0.0,0.10720679352432884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729954067598988,0.0,0.0,0.09494185615930126,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,k9noe,2020/02/11,"Turning 18 (or “age of majority”) does not mean freedom over residency. Turning 18 (I did last year) does not mean you get to do as you please with your living situation. I’m speaking to those of you that don’t pay rent..

Turning 18 gives you the right to vote, buy a house, get married, and also means your parents are no longer financially-legally responsible for you. Now you can pay taxes and rent! 
For a rental lease, a minor is anyone under the age of eighteen (18).  Read the law: Marylad Code, General Provisions 
Different US state “age of majority”: Alabama (19 yrs), Mississippi (21 yrs), Nebraska (19 yrs)

I KNOW some of us are just finishing up our senior year, getting into/ or enrolled in collage, starting a new job. Whatever it is, some of us still need our parents help (which is understandable). 

However! 
Whatever a parents rules are for their house, respect them if you’re going to proceed living there as you did while you were an “occupant”. If they want you home by 12 because they don’t want people coming in and out their house late at night, respect that. If they don’t want your girlfriend/boyfriend spending the night, or if they don’t want you to change the light fixture. Then respect that. Everyone’s different. People have different rules. But whatever the home owner set in place should still be acknowledged. Legally, the homeowner can evict you after the “age of majority”. 

If you don’t pay rent in the home you live in (and therefore abide by rules that apply to an average tenant), then you have no right to do whatever you want in/with their property. 

If you want to be an adult. Respect the spaces of other adults. Or you should find a way to financially provide yourself with your own space like everyone who is “legally responsible”.",5.7394718591624425,7.182280202453987,6.153777007201924,76.18835556148308,67.52760736196319,9.473246198986397,33.19231795145372,9.761364909221204,3.33405004001067,1390,62,246,31,23,448,164,326,0.036000000000000004,0.857,0.107,0.9566,13,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,5,21,8,0,6,5,0,0,19,0,25,0,0,1,0,44,48,21,0,15,14,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,2,9,9,0,0,7,1,9,2,9,0,0,0,3,2,36,5,38,41,6,43,0,0,0,0,44,16,0,12,23,158,45,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877533225948138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601342167660977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242568855408828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097813569639322,0.07408263814275938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26955964708368146,0.0,0.0,0.15052090513920258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643561509720392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860377155649415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479663151925195,0.08250043189453378,0.048876608615542654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057644962258718575,0.0,0.25879941361001435,0.0,0.0,0.2977023958742541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534317355672807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04726415037583405,0.0701026640492565,0.09701338687167924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042015966669644834,0.0,0.2278225803837569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28104238910610285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376898894639965,0.0,0.08306074086713479,0.0,0.16141307869254634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864833136057601,0.0,0.0,0.1192451602046992,0.0,0.08985321569456049,0.0944037715185596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602472792423525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468895448353917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966692384128463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087227229023336,0.0,0.13736174564675788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806346603526415,0.0,0.08953054735648275,0.310347482806044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043553172500835,0.06826395170995382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076423432855348
parenting,amandabole,2020/02/11,"14yr old son keeps skipping school I’m a single mum, he has recently cut off contact with his dad because his dad was mentally abusive. His dad broke him and I have been trying to hold his pieces together. But he has been skipping school on and off for a while now. I have a full time job to support us (my parents can’t help much). I have already changed my hours to start after him but there are some days I have to go in earlier and he skips school. I have explained to him the importance of going to school, I have punished him by taking away his Xbox and grounding him. But he keeps doing it. I am at my wits end. I really need help to figure this out.",1.2545396825396793,3.4307648296296307,2.5929365079365105,93.64750000000002,82.18518518518519,5.634920634920635,22.235449735449734,6.868970318607317,0.5418783068783068,512,17,111,6,14,165,85,135,0.075,0.847,0.078,0.1154,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,4,0,15,0,0,0,0,16,25,8,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,22,1,19,22,5,21,0,1,0,0,25,9,0,1,10,77,24,5,0.0,0.1845585837215863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718929068462593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634835085478964,0.0,0.0,0.0949541997058882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478097482443171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045691576891698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796344745766775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705210492900067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20881485429439936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533992510559508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457484620500786,0.2769059732765469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697663523928446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145067670069906,0.1154993568699026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345140530966495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729609695983326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978841531400964,0.0,0.1538012539061437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6305786264431855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102527798683014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676269885190424,0.0,0.0,0.11711750004626502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082906905329606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575565982853788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873686842801722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FO1102,2020/02/11,"Why is bullying a norm for humans nowadays? I'm so saddened that our world is all about the bullies, whether you were once one or you were the victim... what do we do? we can talk and talk and talk but no action, whether or not we like it, we have to look at their parents, guardians, older siblings and media... 

I have been bullied almost all my life, at school, at work and even through social circles. I try and try to ignore but there are times where I have to say why? Now, my 11 year old daughter is being bullied to the point of crying out suicide... I'm scared...

Everyday the news spews that someone committed suicide because of bullies or some sort of assault or abuse all because of bullies... what do we do as a society? I'm stumped because I am human that loves love and all the good things in life.

I know I'm ranting and raving and I don't know if this makes sense but I just need to let it out to the universe...",2.422573529411764,4.1494472566844935,3.292189171122996,92.27593081550806,76.43315508021391,5.5306149732620336,27.195521390374328,5.985473137389443,0.8639628342245995,715,29,151,4,16,227,110,187,0.215,0.708,0.078,-0.9868,1,0,0,0,1,2,32.0,6,2,1,1,7,8,2,1,8,0,19,4,0,1,5,41,30,20,2,2,12,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,2,9,15,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,2,18,4,20,25,5,16,0,0,1,2,20,9,0,8,7,106,27,2,0.0,0.1781995266982752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15060397642573306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27504751777563136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520744927843348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933784859886884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614846947309272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653119249892817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379429372600936,0.2124640791303805,0.0734778926016177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262982060459074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271483927273218,0.0,0.10039323564259862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151976956661336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781960652824134,0.16017119959379214,0.10191500117727496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670015140893861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421767095482929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960419734922575,0.1505767391344722,0.15221293221958296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331396317140458,0.12743351795374724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290266002840176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626577136490366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991914449511867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769950868369829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422359282447214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271425396770551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949306516538204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968527343198536
parenting,foreverboomy2,2020/02/11,"My sons are being worked too hard by their dad My husband has my sons (14M and 16M) playing baseball, football, hockey, martial arts, lacrosse, swim team and boxing. I think this is simply too much, as they have zero free time. I've brought it up to him but he always goes back to “but they like it!”, I can't ever get a truthful answer out of the boys because they will say they love anything if it makes him happy. On top of all that he doesn't think our daughter (15F) should do anything. Okay to be fair my daughter doesn't like sports at all but he's always preaching about the importance of sports and physical activity, just not her I guess. 

The boys always come home exhausted and still go down to the basement to workout more, I mean they are they are in amazing shape but I don't think any of this is fun for them, more like a job. My oldest son has a boyfriend, that is the absolute LAST thing on his mind. My youngest son had this girl try and set a date for Valentine's day in the most sweetest way possible, and he responded with he didn't have time for girls. 

This was/is my husband. He was always the athletic teen so he wants his boys to be the same, I met him he was a workaholic but has always made sure to be a dad first and spend as much time as he possibly can with our kids. 

Parents usually have to tell their kids go outside, I have to tell them to come inside. Video games? No, just sports. Friends? If they'll hold the stopwatch. Junk food? Nope. Seriously I can barley get them to eat a potato chip.

I want them to enjoy their youth but I all I see is them doing this to please their dad. 

Oh and no I didn't have 3 kids back to back, he had 2 sons before me. I already had my daughter and he adopted her",1.5385714285714265,3.50079928571429,2.5856722689075617,95.22623949579834,79.95238095238095,5.43249299719888,21.984593837535016,6.37848985222837,0.20931148459383755,1343,41,301,11,34,426,184,357,0.035,0.7959999999999999,0.168,0.9942,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,2,0,16,4,11,16,0,0,16,1,37,4,0,2,6,46,56,21,0,5,11,14,1,3,1,3,1,1,1,8,11,14,2,1,5,11,2,6,10,2,0,2,10,3,47,15,36,39,9,33,1,0,1,1,67,10,0,4,18,188,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511041016723035,0.0,0.4716789208756416,0.0,0.0,0.07709782689041504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865933620315051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615315315342734,0.0,0.06911139668450668,0.0,0.09647244702838934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953223594511947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731164896014301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160093327543382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255276716476218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643539008398598,0.1370916135814759,0.0,0.08759203845164942,0.0,0.11846588609005895,0.0,0.12886547720349306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489362591283887,0.0,0.0,0.12068813497149958,0.10156033336041193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372280415078193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250564531753353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241448529093384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616560810219766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023239559276044,0.1072766901128316,0.07567765150962043,0.0,0.0,0.12349691264193978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144748551902439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668504652121813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588778819549154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244499916334226,0.0,0.2556230376878015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015910990562716,0.0,0.0,0.09034395311206547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054017557513876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685312541046113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818676726348075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532027579189267,0.21793536745665554,0.0,0.0,0.1983268936372552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697312368152782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486482679925635,0.0,0.13374118454548545,0.0899905595138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253721453709148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Senladar,2020/02/11,"7yo trouble sleeping My 7 year old has always been an amazing sleeper but recently he's been struggling a lot. 

A few years ago, the house beside us caught on fire and burnt down. The house was very close (like 10 feet tops) to ours, so when we first noticed 40 foot flames coming off it we panicked a bit and got out of the house. 

Since then, he worries about fire often. He doesn't like when we test the smoke alarms, he wakes up every now and then saying he smells smoke, etc. This is mostly pretty rare and only comes up once every few months.

Recently though he hasn't slept through the night at all. He wakes up saying he's scared and can't get back to sleep. He says he hears noises he doesn't like. It doesn't SEEM to be related to the fire but its hard to say.

We've tried limiting some things like screen time to see if that helps. We've tried giving him reasons to stay in bed (i.e. Sleep through the night X times and get something). We've even put the dog in his room to keep him company and calm him down.

Overall we haven't had any luck. He's been waking up every night for about 2 weeks straight. We think the trigger was the fire drill they had at school. 

Curious if anyone has any advice here on things to try.",2.9156374501991986,4.400594059760959,3.0319900398406405,95.67762649402391,74.53784860557771,5.976175298804781,20.91653386454184,6.2581,-0.04297466135458095,963,21,216,6,20,292,153,251,0.162,0.7609999999999999,0.077,-0.9702,0,0,3,0,0,0,28.0,7,0,1,3,11,11,0,3,14,0,17,9,9,2,1,32,30,17,0,2,4,0,5,4,0,0,0,5,2,0,7,16,0,2,3,0,0,4,6,4,0,1,10,13,13,7,29,19,8,43,0,0,2,0,31,18,0,8,24,110,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736992877652513,0.08832745513571197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291090918873867,0.0,0.0,0.1355212336411704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967266120060805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661927108089853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878428433842192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716671414627179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112821870012726,0.06581322281297829,0.0,0.2518604262151832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475623476019169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411864818277457,0.09558658862473612,0.0,0.0,0.07969356251892361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926050331856146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230483639924987,0.0,0.06678856300723987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449237269861626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856722432776551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947220313637201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471286522109682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953404490233258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805244505512497,0.0,0.0,0.11344414882199635,0.10455850489214223,0.10611648023156696,0.0,0.07578294675649397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013726933385818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100168677326954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244953891466477,0.19677076655898587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169602644123161,0.09975996684934818,0.10084397603209462,0.07940252320710553,0.09071119121085787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242567052382675,0.0,0.2991447059911166,0.0,0.0,0.07671000413907991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620611725124884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416843679442116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239668490292425,0.06384717322350275,0.09789868367334294,0.0,0.11620520047491108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029530487291576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198581893794474,0.0,0.0,0.08221586182474333,0.0,0.0,0.07992755694611722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011922434265186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283335742367043
parenting,mrjmoreno,2020/02/11,"My child and her phone Hey guys. 

Quick question ,  i got my 8 year old a phone and I’m having a hard time trying to find the best option with locking down her phone.  When she goes to moms house. She seems to not answer ... or her mom takes her phone. Is there an app I can get that will let me lock out her phone through mine ?  I did the screen timing through the iPhone but that doesn’t help.  

Thanks !",0.5456894243641237,2.6684596867469916,0.8018473895582332,105.7395046854083,84.66265060240964,3.6888888888888887,14.041499330655956,3.1291,-1.7022010709504691,306,4,76,0,9,90,62,83,0.013999999999999999,0.862,0.12300000000000001,0.8777,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,13,5,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,14,2,8,9,1,8,0,0,1,0,19,2,0,4,6,46,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23597094669774826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551295802717326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174772063607238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983670078432146,0.0,0.0,0.22264132673506906,0.0,0.0,0.2014254843149517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507152452683455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594519269512064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299289814293292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5266937932929904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359469945176465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25188852317916605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046991103917932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906261582140453,0.0,0.0,0.20701583219117692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622289581097137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266145948699686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479893896767668
parenting,notafurry4747,2020/02/11,"Bitch when angry Not like a pimp named slickback, but what are your guys opinion on cursing towards your child? Specifically addressing your daughter as a “bitch” when she’s done something bad?

Here’s an example;

Daughter: I lost my phone at school

Dad: Bitch, do you know how much I paid for this? 

Is this bad? I know in media it’s cool to call your subordinate girlfriend a “bitch”, but I mean, in times of anger is it okay to call your daughter a bitch?",3.9098051948051946,5.63233231818182,3.928766233766236,89.28636363636366,72.4090909090909,6.846753246753247,27.34415584415585,7.447530270364453,1.3098974025974024,356,13,73,4,7,109,60,88,0.396,0.5579999999999999,0.046,-0.9923,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,6,0,1,4,12,6,0,5,2,5,0,0,1,0,9,10,6,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,9,0,0,3,1,12,3,10,7,1,8,0,1,0,0,18,5,5,1,4,45,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4267931637171216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5219465152240133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615445720671976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530619600094768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809174791669254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486228301728887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789930908570483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27839888110737177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787890910026744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586581289795258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19675608722836632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490293268631392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MiracleMint,2020/02/11,"Military family and Preschool? It's been a while since I've posted here, but I'm a long time lurker for general useful advice and amusing parent stories. Quick info: We're a military family, so we move a lot, and likely will be moving sometime in Summer to Fall. Our daughter is turning 3 in just a few days.

In general, what is readiness for preschool? Can anyone better explain things such as what counts as ""potty trained,"" and such. My daughter is mostly potty trained (in my opinion), but she does have accidents still (often waiting until the last second to go then not making it to the bathroom in time) and tends to sit too far forward on the seat causing messes despite us reminding her often (she's very independent and often wants us out of the bathroom when she goes which is how that happens so often). She's pretty good at taking direction, but also is definitely a ""selective listener"" and tends to ignore us when she doesn't feel like doing what she's being told and it happens on average several times a day (we are trying to work on that, and admittedly I feel like we're struggling).

I'm also unclear if preschool is like a regular ""school schedule"" in regards to the year, if they're off in summer and start in fall, or if it depends on the school (most of the ones around us aren't clear on their yearly schedule). I'm wondering how preschool ""works"" for military families who might be moving soon. Or if I should even hold off on preschool because of potential moving in several months and maybe just try to find some preschool alternatives?

Any advice is definitely welcomed, especially if anyone here is also military with toddlers or who have done the toddler thing with moving around and such. Thanks for your time everyone!",9.634594871794873,8.089850756923084,9.198461538461537,67.70487179487179,59.8923076923077,11.989743589743593,40.12820512820512,10.793553405168565,4.405328205128205,1396,60,233,27,15,450,176,325,0.057,0.8340000000000001,0.109,0.9664,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,7,1,1,3,27,12,0,1,16,0,23,0,0,7,1,66,46,37,0,7,14,3,2,4,0,3,0,1,0,0,14,19,0,3,7,1,0,9,3,3,0,2,3,3,20,9,41,37,5,57,0,0,0,0,26,23,0,21,29,172,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828246760910218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065754539877057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05855464797275298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041384336062055,0.0,0.0,0.15330418379352048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248907351848694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615325931231033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845399981064365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110617635358398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535144576851427,0.08811575440839241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687182724398665,0.0,0.0,0.08227743239544116,0.0,0.0,0.2435176206771385,0.0,0.08707498947361747,0.12302747886911768,0.0,0.0,0.07869880697518146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04893570258612212,0.07222115300621425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228550228358093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018742125488535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826706328886576,0.0,0.0,0.07620059973333228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320376104188116,0.0,0.0,0.05747604598309901,0.0,0.0865044820634641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134425861280086,0.0,0.0,0.06872853612646602,0.4575822489430618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583472706755467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560989484610118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246520427331898,0.08760018209703234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428659282623812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945492635354343,0.0,0.0712273050025508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085160476185828,0.0,0.060945869546051974,0.0,0.06876391102085129,0.0,0.0,0.09001609537468525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474057060425728,0.0,0.0,0.07927431522963069,0.0,0.0,0.11440924892665807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083508461642247,0.0,0.0,0.08227743239544116,0.0,0.11691987549639675,0.0936579866686794,0.0,0.0,0.41429694209235735,0.07436744906567587,0.0,0.07104600094876716,0.05078721603691192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337767043476232,0.125371563292968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089815316191924
parenting,KirbySkywalker,2020/02/11,"How do I not get worn down? I love my kid. She’s 4.  Every day I think about doing things with her.  But then I pick her up from preschool and I’m instantly hit with a long chain of questions and demands that just wears me out and stresses me out.

It goes like this: I go wait for her at the school, when I see her I’m so happy and can’t help but smile ear to ear.  Then, as I’m strapping her in the car seat she starts the wear down process, it’s “daddy can we go buy new toys?” “No.” “Can we go to grandmas?” “No.” “Can we go to (her cousins)?” No. “Can we just get some new LEGOs?” “No.”

That’s the car ride, then we get home “daddy can I color?” “Of course sweetie” I get her papers and markers. “Daddy can we play my music” “sure”. “Daddy I don’t like this song can you skip it?” “Ok”... “daddy can I play LEGOs?” “Ok”...  “daddy can I have cookies?” “No, want a sandwich?” “No, I’m not hungry daddy”.  “Ok” “daddy can you skip this song?” “Ok...”

Then finally she’s content enough for me to use the toilet, the second I start to go she’s at the door “daddy I have to go poo!”... 

It goes on and on...
Anyone have any advice?",-2.1402320675105457,-0.32342857805907244,0.569905063291138,102.70228375527428,100.60337552742615,2.970886075949368,12.912447257383967,4.475607210031448,-1.5909755274261603,805,15,203,2,36,273,114,237,0.086,0.779,0.135,0.9008,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,6,2,0,0,6,12,0,1,9,4,17,6,4,3,1,31,41,16,0,1,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,1,10,16,1,1,2,5,1,9,10,1,0,1,1,6,37,11,25,39,2,31,0,0,2,1,24,10,0,2,14,126,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560132587090884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857104216005199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163466024288336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029644257858944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649665477593214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451643071402392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489451821638785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336531062410719,0.0,0.5444145336932341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995597825128514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701354607305516,0.0,0.16014722933194486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559989774935083,0.0,0.0,0.14128986874139512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409509296273545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083920631174619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885041445219296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157963264055866,0.12722456050775233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226009609862038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828845449894231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504731800075519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606785130444424,0.10230063510495054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789087164527286,0.0,0.0,0.09416880067490206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crimson_dancer,2020/02/11,"Do you think it's bad to have/be an only child? What's your experience being an only child or having siblings? I grew up with a sister 1.5yrs younger. It was great to always have a friend. But she grew up a bit rebellious, which caused anxiety on my part about her choices, especially in boys/men..

I now have a 5 yo boy. I always wanted him to have a sibling 3-5 years younger, but circumstances didnt allow it. Now I feel like I missed the window where they could be friends, and it seems difficult to have a second child finances & care-wise. I miss having a baby too. But its a difficult desicion. So I wonder what peoples experiences are being an only child or having siblings.. Thanks!",2.2325105042016844,4.629616389705884,3.7294537815126065,85.62647058823529,79.95588235294117,6.238655462184874,22.94957983193277,7.447530270364453,1.1034932773109245,543,18,104,8,14,179,89,136,0.141,0.741,0.11800000000000001,0.2853,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,1,0,6,10,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,2,0,15,23,7,0,2,5,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,8,2,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,5,0,1,2,1,14,5,10,17,2,10,0,2,0,0,14,5,0,4,4,72,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31188992371657154,0.203064944503362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337257649497626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564843673376899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20460951686488435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19108290200635106,0.19252765598108634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963626872024674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666572356733705,0.0,0.0,0.0947630613303034,0.13388988727835746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28959396934834225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662658470222556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915618947226178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276144909187097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029530513665408,0.0,0.12993052011263714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061630841961947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254729151128784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008847919437428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054269652388417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032444439851765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068963261470655
parenting,KVAFILMS,2020/02/11,"I wanna be a mom Hey y’all. Just a place to blow off steam. 

Recently I feel into a situation-ship with a guy who I actually got along with, we had sex a few times and hung out all the rest. Because of lifestyle difference we decided to part ways. Well, i was about a week late on my period this month, my cycle is regular and I track it on two apps. I had a few mishaps. This time, I was excited about the possibility. The chance at being who I know I can be. A wonderful mother. 

Regardless of what he said, I was going to keep this baby. Today, I woke up and there she is, Mother Nature shining red and bright and I want to cry. 

I just wanna be a mom. I won’t tell him about it because it truly doesn’t matter now but, man. I did want that baby.",-0.39050645481628976,1.7053400188679255,2.7390930155577635,90.32973187686196,89.062893081761,6.114664018536907,17.802383316782525,7.475848149327749,0.41287924528301895,569,15,130,11,19,203,100,159,0.015,0.879,0.106,0.765,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,0,8,3,0,0,12,0,15,1,0,0,1,27,25,6,0,5,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,10,12,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,9,5,22,3,21,11,5,19,0,0,3,1,17,8,0,1,9,97,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.17977571428713304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246020623567336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236103632955127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924745111698579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314901609273593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469854949761744,0.0,0.14734048735685082,0.0,0.0,0.18241038366391604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16374645057683085,0.0,0.0,0.10124450381799784,0.0,0.2078123088942399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315210402168548,0.1470455651243939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949626766401604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924745111698579,0.0,0.0,0.20768449273520528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189863601277545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523888424626233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101959587936773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21484459133456754,0.0,0.17462248577672454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995974378144738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731977149929715,0.14622816372604852,0.14777310514744474,0.0,0.16563919168045446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19978269715818345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mmmiked19,2020/02/11,"Bedtime battles Hey folks. Trying to figure out how to deal with my daughter that is refusing our bedtime routine. She will hide, and refuse to pick a book, basically anything to prolong the bedtime process. I have used tactics like "" if you don't pick a book then you go to bed with no story"". Then when she doesn't pick the book I pick her up and take her to bed.  She cries like I'm the worst person in the world and after a couple mins I try again and ask her nicely if she would like to pick a book and continue bedtime routine. ( I forgot to mention is a very much a creature of routine, and if one step is missed then she gets upset).  After a try or two, she calms down and we resume proper bedtime routine with her a little pouty.  Is there a better way to handle these problems?  My technique seems a little harsh on a 3 year old.  She needs to know that mommy and daddy are the boss and when we say bedtime or story time that she has to listen. How can you get toddlers to respect authority while still being their best friend?",3.854927536231884,5.006492657004831,4.556251207729472,86.97582608695654,71.70531400966183,6.292946859903383,26.360386473429948,6.079149491110277,0.8920218357487926,808,26,161,4,15,259,119,207,0.11599999999999999,0.759,0.125,0.4684,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,3,1,2,7,14,1,1,16,0,13,0,0,9,0,38,26,22,0,6,5,1,0,3,1,2,0,2,2,1,4,15,0,3,3,4,0,2,3,5,0,2,1,2,25,9,23,22,3,26,0,1,0,0,30,8,0,6,18,112,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823052165233025,0.0,0.16839596155670916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903389320683947,0.15930914288529266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930891256216185,0.1978628513651899,0.0,0.18570471702374655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13916693939076707,0.0,0.18821955831601375,0.0,0.1023712564095663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989939890298808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264005262582778,0.3610724348324911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241527527282207,0.13356310315554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890147053622392,0.0,0.12205982731345705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728137938164613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235878028178145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14324552328677595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398234746628038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385096350566176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354343189773594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050344577515852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668865650621293,0.0,0.1759595062438725,0.0,0.0,0.15557330935280564,0.0,0.14862499148143699,0.0,0.1429777290605159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795821675216967,0.0,0.0,0.11599693753968675
parenting,haku_vg1527,2020/02/11,"UPDATE: Struggling with what I think is anxiety and depression. This is the first post, if somebody want to check it: https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/dt6r9h/struggling_with_what_i_think_is_depression_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Well, it took me a while but I looked in my area for several therapist and found one that had a rate within my budget, so I made an appointment and went.
It was hard to try to be honest about it, but I didn’t hold back anything because I knew it was important to get the help that I needed. My therapist congratulate me and actually made me feel a little better, based on the data I provided she give me a referral for a psychiatrist since everything pointed out to clinical depression. I’m sort of glad? I don’t know, it’s weird but know that is not myself “playing the victim”, that is my brain lacking some chemicals to be balanced, made me feel like a weight was lifted out of my shoulders... I’m not broken for not being able to enjoy, it’s something that it can be better and hopefully it will. 

Right now I’m checking with my insurance for the psychiatrist and I’m trying to stay in the positive side. I’m still scared but taking steps to regain control. I thankful for everybody who lent me kind words in this subreddit.",7.093066666666665,9.637375662222228,6.381888888888893,71.57150000000001,65.71111111111111,9.088888888888887,28.5,9.586721724236666,2.7830000000000004,1064,36,171,23,18,326,131,225,0.08900000000000001,0.6890000000000001,0.223,0.99,1,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,0,4,6,17,1,2,13,0,16,4,2,4,0,37,41,13,0,5,8,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,18,10,1,2,7,1,3,3,5,6,1,2,12,5,23,11,26,24,2,23,0,2,1,0,4,12,0,4,7,120,41,0,0.1277912771274679,0.0,0.12470585236306482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769235907539597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977599772224059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516133255342937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826360402624153,0.0,0.07790037642115318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260419995425239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14265732838705147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332878361130666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013287947099086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485055985305133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923021882780386,0.0912941139137676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869919504242002,0.0,0.14011653938602578,0.0,0.0,0.06676566790864677,0.12258903748801055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447588354132485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565579933403013,0.0,0.0,0.12692557255014866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307495007671288,0.14046148775727765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062432363017742715,0.12808043165480934,0.0,0.0,0.10731248773150248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627575888454773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475561275262452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659467664581905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080406267655755,0.0,0.12238871871640572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913305242718208,0.0,0.0,0.12794136177313747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436776881316668,0.0,0.10571026499846173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837996844964893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620849824742165,0.10205427898871808,0.0,0.0,0.13359518931460354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608313657918928,0.0,0.0,0.11765303867941855,0.0,0.2967510445136287,0.0,0.08188349039766862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198081093949588,0.17352377745962208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753746062076028,0.0,0.0,0.15561534837075516,0.11489970525300568,0.1184637941831827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dad608,2020/02/11,"Career advice for adult son with lots of issues, some arrests? Something like Job Corps? You can glance at my posting history for more info, but my son (21) just got out of jail for the second time. He was the victim of a robbery likely related to his possession of drugs but was locked up due to warrants on several old driving citations that he never cleared up. As a result, he lost a decent job (cooking for a corporate hotel chain, a job with benefits). He's a daily pot smoker who struggles with anxiety (exacerbated by drug use, in my opinion). He rents a room in a not-great house with other guys in various stages of making not-great decisions. The ideal situation, in my opinion, is for him to get out, have a change of scenery and a job that helps teach him some discipline and open his mind to new possibilities.

Military? Probably not for him, but also I'm skeptical that he'd be able to get a decent role due to his record. No felonies, but a decent list of crappy misdemeanors, some of which are drug related.

I've glanced at Job Corps, but I don't know much about it.

Is anyone familiar with programs or companies where you basically sign up and go live somewhere with some structure while learning skills around positive, goal-oriented people who are unlikely to score a bunch of Molly and blow a few days off?",7.176309523809526,7.031504646825402,7.584761904761906,72.74357142857143,64.03968253968254,11.16825396825397,35.063492063492056,10.7630783206399,3.8019015873015882,1049,43,190,25,14,345,159,252,0.11800000000000001,0.826,0.055999999999999994,-0.9326,6,0,5,0,0,0,35.0,0,2,0,3,5,8,2,1,17,0,11,4,0,3,2,42,20,13,0,1,8,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,2,8,14,1,1,4,2,1,2,4,4,0,1,4,2,14,4,45,14,10,29,0,1,2,0,22,17,0,8,10,122,22,11,0.1185004048653992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579722416232135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476473095784267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090652485372159,0.0,0.0,0.08285823835353744,0.0,0.0,0.105490483874981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535771575463733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642295784428321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122685447657551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382314123665415,0.0,0.06734651092790812,0.0,0.09477559898885964,0.2612942294145633,0.0,0.11733403142385836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942832349994748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673355704576087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368363530774586,0.5879668345823847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512472346070651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578662426116215,0.0,0.10463802852420666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935719018549602,0.10074480660198283,0.0,0.0,0.07909994041837802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965162824588504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711143240740514,0.0,0.09139481755043,0.1144484294417638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434624099254332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215326014121374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335914014727286,0.11349063132364758,0.0,0.12776347893697393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338717276986774,0.0,0.0,0.13319942004104265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122740107135817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388235236164945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909853903202676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234630252560308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dinnerisnotready,2020/02/11,"My son was cuddled up with another boy My son (13M) asked to invite some of his friends  for a sleepover as long as they got up early enough, I said yes. He then changed his mind that he only wanted one friend over. 

I remembered he said to turn his Playstation off if he falls asleep playing so I sent his dad up there, my husband came down laughed and said “well they're comfortable” I asked what he meant and he said they were all cuddled up. Indeed my son's head was laying on his friend's chest and they were under the covers.

His friend came down stairs just an hour later saying he heard me in the room and knows what I saw, he asked me to please not tell his mom because she wouldn't be okay with it and would think something's wrong with him. He said they're “in like”

My son doesn't have any female friends and I can't tell him he can't have sleepovers with his male friends anymore right? I asked my husband what he thought and he just said “We'll give him the talk and let em be” I'm not sure that's a good idea. 

Do we continue to let him have sleepovers but make sure him and his friends sleep apart? But he's gonna know something is up, he doesn't know we know he likes boys.",3.5006611764705897,4.130864892000002,3.4556941176470595,96.47972941176472,72.08,6.5223529411764725,24.30588235294117,5.900188976854957,0.2347835294117644,933,24,222,4,17,282,132,250,0.037000000000000005,0.833,0.131,0.9595,0,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,3,0,5,18,0,0,6,2,20,6,4,1,3,42,49,16,0,4,7,8,0,2,7,4,0,8,1,3,6,17,0,0,9,1,0,4,7,1,1,1,18,9,36,17,25,23,3,27,0,0,1,2,71,17,0,2,8,116,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060921850245635,0.09345712563756528,0.0,0.0,0.08838974640888311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33328576731013826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05433081464948476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387442326715893,0.0,0.0,0.09428424049360347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209171561604013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820135207696902,0.0,0.0,0.08549846072388521,0.0,0.07475525504123652,0.07128277118164066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146971663712676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777185529766328,0.0,0.0,0.10061320608234267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592683392115898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822761972364152,0.0,0.0870856162467851,0.0,0.0,0.07887433293775148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05949277043332029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999256906584895,0.10438412455953976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039456473279022,0.0677848785067286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978343623907863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096318724564736,0.07611372262822191,0.5086794612372314,0.07087713639483252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919107538663272,0.0,0.0,0.1372281900709437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800173719236575,0.0,0.0,0.07163667274956012,0.15580134441974935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571087964401744,0.0,0.07075665150967635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096944266168991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256924224606397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801356152071989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633130570051143,0.09744606510288252,0.0,0.0
parenting,Workin_Them_Angels,2020/02/11,"Heartbroken Son - What To Tell Him? My son is 18 and about to graduate high school. He has had 2 GFs and this most recent one I knew was serious (as serious as it could be for high school seniors). 

She broke up with him a few days ago. He went to her hockey game the other night, and last night went over to her house to try and talk to her. He was really trying to win her back. 

Just now he called me crying, and I mean sobbing, that today would have been their anniversary and he just found out she's dating someone else. 

I would be heartbroken for him, but here's the thing: My son is kind of a shit to be honest. He cheated on her FOUR TIMES. We were talking about it just a few weeks when things were starting to crumble and I totally him point blank, but calmly, ""Son... if she would my daughter I would have told her to dump your cheating a$$ 3 girls ago."" 

I just... I love him and I hurt for him, but not because he was wronged. He got what he deserved in my opinion. And I hope he's hurting bad enough that he learns not to do people that way, no matter the relationship. 

I just don't want to go all ""I told ya' so"" on him in the midst of his pain. For now, all I can do is listen to him I guess. But if any of you have any greater words of wisdom or support, it's welcome!",1.5244060126070806,3.0248725315985148,2.8330143850008085,95.58250040407309,78.33085501858736,6.016550832390497,20.98933247131081,6.7026698264267655,0.1130780992403424,977,25,232,9,23,316,149,269,0.183,0.701,0.11599999999999999,-0.958,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,3,1,1,13,22,4,0,8,0,26,3,1,0,3,45,42,20,0,9,14,5,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,12,12,0,0,4,2,0,3,4,13,0,2,14,1,41,9,33,20,8,31,0,4,0,1,51,10,2,7,17,160,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739108995622446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910056682755536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995025451998091,0.0976732565797971,0.07130980748898412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944946694646613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339886096619657,0.0,0.1284968302829923,0.07544230109470706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772162221409332,0.0,0.0,0.12087141623547093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826232566094514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648232283096969,0.0,0.09355944178341724,0.0,0.12886645108768746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471911875493684,0.0,0.11618734799235783,0.0,0.13497899677496247,0.25045861587233986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218164726223295,0.0,0.09535415968184884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557884732120504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127425308826885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195552578368973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926854791817674,0.0,0.12447476741561013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109907235092538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058373334141287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494026286055422,0.0,0.11550345157541635,0.1255925393709182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367796295351388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007809573911275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911661490075988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279891286416034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274730412562175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18804788317198307,0.10224551158283247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543237799855208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821186897110505,0.0,0.11088318346968888,0.2235584464161045,0.0,0.15884322687363722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899772382566592,0.09285312962273924,0.09383414889019848,0.0,0.0,0.21688291496685289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323964078728641,0.12789906037441434,0.0,0.0
parenting,phileo56,2020/02/11,Plants Vs Zombie's kids birthday ideas? My 5 y/o son is wanting a plants vs zombie birthday for his 6th birthday coming up in May.  I've been to pinterest but i wanted to see if you all could give some other cool ideas.,0.8836956521739125,3.096539978260872,2.6197391304347843,92.66656521739132,84.0,4.5495652173913035,20.069565217391304,5.6839178017228535,-0.06545565217391314,173,5,36,1,5,57,38,46,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.4497,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,13,9,2,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,5,6,2,3,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,3,0,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28060661644273616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600865695880056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124911265224988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7354690095123122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25958227281370105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842740931432331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cjcasper44,2020/02/11,6 month old screams until he gets his way He will scream in a restaurant or anywhere public to leave- as soon as we leave he’s all giggles and smiling and it’s not a cry it’s a scream. Any suggestions? It’s my first kid it seams to be a attention thing but I don’t know how to stop it,-0.3735714285714309,1.5425657500000014,1.619464285714287,99.73625,86.8125,4.9071428571428575,20.080357142857142,6.1826913282559595,-0.1842830357142855,224,7,56,2,7,74,47,64,0.17300000000000001,0.74,0.087,-0.4807,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,1,11,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,3,4,1,7,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,6,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054039096079181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317870179678139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25692301517097593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780831405696574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599841855276656,0.0,0.0,0.6396532793198804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410929022846184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169499732340123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525267739682279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066816075622468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23975270766336695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adorablefuckup,2020/02/11,"Am I in the wrong for being SO worried? Let me preface this by saying I have a blended family. My husband and I each had a child  before we met, and one together. He also maintains his relationship with his stepchild from his first marriage. It’s awesome. However, we recently found out that his biological child from his first marriage has been showering with the  step dad at moms house. It was immediately addressed and my husband flat out told step dad this is inappropriate. For context, the child is 4. So they are still really young, but I think that it crosses a major boundary. I (step mom) will give baths but at this point I make them wash and dry their own privates. We don’t not shower together, and the only person they ever take a bath with at our house is our baby. Am I crazy or is this completely wrong on the step dads part? Help. I have such a bad feeling about it but don’t even know what to do moving forward.",3.6254880294659273,5.494013022099452,4.697215469613262,82.87794106813998,73.47513812154696,7.478600368324125,26.983793738489872,8.238735603445708,1.7947566114180469,731,27,142,12,15,239,116,181,0.091,0.866,0.043,-0.8649,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,4,2,8,3,0,0,10,0,19,1,0,1,1,25,28,12,0,0,5,8,1,0,0,1,1,1,5,4,11,14,0,0,4,2,0,7,3,3,0,3,6,2,25,0,17,19,4,21,0,0,0,0,35,9,0,1,7,105,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622874482419513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179414401140674,0.0,0.0,0.134314634469889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654976830542252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425526213720654,0.14278001501876736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880240128858238,0.0,0.07981127293678042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685260832096463,0.0,0.17306910828335226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141949334698168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580030648056978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.364264322956018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674759075847367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140740547298524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536289285854986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369732767594918,0.0,0.16776446133242726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695998869832077,0.12004838301384965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093096348489978,0.0,0.0,0.13782433525745666,0.0,0.0,0.1492147286541047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111967330205174,0.0,0.15585308674855486,0.16946666672351726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255248339201067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605537603535344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867994200894667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011408269741089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082784742545768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602994567621037,0.0,0.0,0.34515788194566593,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwistedEvanescia,2020/02/11,"How specific can we get when talking about death with our 3.5 y/o? **tl;dr: Our 3.5 y/o seems really curious to know exactly what happened to our cat that died and generic explanations don't seem to be detailed enough to satisfy him. Should we tell him in more detail what happened to our cremated cat?**

So, here's the background. One of our cats, Titus, died in January 2019. He was sick and his body was shutting down, so we made the hard decision to euthanize him. Our oldest was 2.5 y/o at the time. As we were making the decision, we did some research on how best to talk about death with a young child. What we saw was basically to be honest but be rather general about it.

So, before we took Titus to the vet, we had him say goodbye because we weren't going to see Titus again because he was very old and sick. We had a friend come babysit while my wife and I took Titus to the vet, and then afterward we explained that because he was so old and sick, he went to the animal doctor and his body stopped working. We were open with our grief and encouraged him to express his emotions, and things seemed okay.

Over the past year, sometimes when he gets sad or out of the blue (not often but sometimes), he will add that he misses Titus. We have always empathized and affirmed his feelings, and that we miss him too. He usually gets over it pretty quickly and moves on.

About 6 months ago, though, he started asking more pointed questions. ""Where is Titus? Is he in the sky?"" We are not religious and responded that no, he's not in the sky, he was just old and sick and his body stopped working. That would usually be enough.... kind of. I always felt like he wanted more info but he never pressed for it.

So about a week ago we were reading *The Rough Patch* by Brian Lies. It's a great kids book about an anthropomorphic fox who loses his pet, goes through a period of deep grief, and then starts coming out the other side and moving on. We have had it for a while and read it regularly, but this time he noticed the page where the fox buries his dog and wanted to know more. So we told him that sometimes when pets and people die and their bodies stop working, we lay them to rest in the ground and put dirt on top of them. He immediately responded ""Oh, well we need to get Titus and put him in the ground and put dirt on him."" And then again a few days later, out of the blue, he mentioned that again.

My interpretation out of all of this, and knowing him, is that he gets that we're not telling him all the details. I can still hear the tone in his voice one time when asking where Titus was, it was like ""Okay, I get what you're saying, his body stopped working, but where *is* Titus, seriously? Like physically, where is his body?"" Not in those words, but that was totally his tone.

The truth is that we had Titus cremated and we have his ashes in our bedroom closet. We are not planning on living where we are forever, so we wanted to hold on to them so we could properly bury/scatter them in a home we actually own instead of dumping his remains and then potentially leaving the state.

So my question to you all is this: **can we actually tell him what happened to Titus' body**? My gut says that he can handle it and would appreciate the honest information and actually knowing what happened to his body. We have always aimed to be fully honest about everything with him and he's very curious and seems to really love understanding how the world works. I would hate to send the impression that we don't want to answer all of his questions.

However, I worry that it might be too much for him. While we want to be honest, we also know that you can't tell children *anything* because some stuff is just too adult for them. I don't know child psychology so maybe that would send him into some deep existential terror of death or something. What say you all?",4.020330196351806,5.46928256688742,4.767312652492159,84.47520506564426,71.67549668874172,7.73533170675032,26.35819681654468,8.261097354062574,1.5989779249448124,3018,99,605,46,57,972,299,755,0.12,0.792,0.08800000000000001,-0.9741,1,0,1,0,0,0,113.0,40,3,6,9,47,28,2,1,34,2,57,15,9,5,9,155,107,67,10,13,17,1,5,3,1,7,5,6,5,5,41,77,0,5,23,3,0,13,13,10,1,2,26,15,90,18,81,66,21,101,0,6,4,1,134,44,0,14,46,420,131,10,0.0,0.0,0.1571151204111198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095145943928739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04291785449230244,0.13396689689460475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044163753113534585,0.0,0.10034367535924883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308607606305205,0.0,0.04566706217663796,0.0,0.056320696281823276,0.0,0.0,0.4768996647804485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245954268082858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04284910595905336,0.0,0.0,0.03461107683713492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670950752691024,0.0,0.0,0.05493092722780648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060368677665566785,0.0,0.110905680607155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048232859427911265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02713588417215745,0.0,0.051529185129339405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04146335238052809,0.0,0.16823422083281084,0.0,0.03050045863427856,0.0,0.0,0.059168572549851375,0.0,0.0,0.1898318576228198,0.0,0.04807550965184057,0.05298551349684595,0.0,0.0,0.0604871364772798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053832845833454414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055886408987808465,0.17696542017819492,0.0,0.0,0.0568260992735606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865764153975363,0.0,0.047389357170877236,0.0,0.0,0.06004016869673945,0.0,0.0,0.048436984874348415,0.05078145551801906,0.0358234513928601,0.0,0.05391618465501753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05693270217987391,0.0,0.0,0.04283686066283805,0.11408004968238455,0.03945176378266968,0.03979374724642677,0.041391659548158766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110076762812298,0.16894493838504654,0.0,0.07273293001283099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051231670474997035,0.037206264705984315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05073310379030057,0.0,0.0,0.054599108405639286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161851884134828,0.18035953844380012,0.0,0.10736398166315676,0.0,0.06876150802467251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071409732725018,0.0,0.0,0.04276602336870194,0.19542738776740454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04131583855425319,0.15923549334619722,0.0,0.07597221965897195,0.0,0.04285890899250066,0.17947362411096784,0.0,0.0,0.06143641063314355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862717552233134,0.1876309288712225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035654280820073735,0.0,0.05272801448411255,0.0,0.0938817959118084,0.0,0.0,0.05128156521090767,0.11925306248863896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05586972651131029,0.0,0.0,0.11821426707334907,0.08856256265066148,0.1582723144883688,0.0,0.043048805379210166,0.0,0.048253498623493415,0.0497502801853574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19535277813792135,0.05450191848213967,0.0,0.15249531690229007,0.0,0.0,0.03456008961126317
parenting,dandylion1999,2020/02/11,"Are high water pants a thing again?? Our 7yo son insists on rolling his pants up like high waters- it almost looks like how in the 90’s tight rolled the jeans...He somehow finds pants that are too small and tight then we ask him to put on the pants that fit and then he rolls them up to be difficult maybe- but he claims it’s cool- Capri pants in 30 degree weather, no that’s not cool- any advice would be appreciated! Thank you in advance!",1.0320837589376914,3.5332192359550585,1.6193871297242095,97.86317671092957,86.97752808988764,4.58467824310521,17.079673135852914,6.1124844417494595,-0.5332112359550556,348,8,77,3,11,106,63,89,0.046,0.755,0.19899999999999998,0.9354,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,1,1,4,6,0,0,4,2,5,2,0,1,0,12,8,6,0,1,2,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,5,6,5,9,5,0,16,0,0,1,0,10,11,0,2,5,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605324871019325,0.0,0.0,0.2669757898633565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130692144538435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492484556211318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24368071379635425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5633854626247937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605086383557124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388893120666448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26784998078123984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680210919492225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24546270093987105,0.0,0.0,0.17712674762747593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939520648048253,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ganked420,2020/02/11,"What is your hourly rate What is everyone making hourly. If your salary what’s that break down to. 

I finally landed a job at 32/hr with overtime, benefits, pto, 401k. On paper before taxes I should make 71k a year. After taxes I barely hit 50k. Why is this world so fucked up.",0.8247532467532429,3.3115078909090947,2.4924675324675327,91.18727272727274,88.27272727272728,5.324675324675325,15.129870129870133,6.868970318607317,-0.11910389610389682,214,4,43,3,7,70,45,55,0.10400000000000001,0.848,0.048,-0.6144,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,2,0,5,8,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,7,6,0,12,0,0,0,1,2,6,1,1,5,25,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25019595756665736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809561137047203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220930262101289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718239153276122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5791162092304637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29177717088063143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925316101969181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653143096761433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893442297740568
parenting,planetnaptune,2020/02/11,"My 3 year old says the sweetest things The other night she woke me up that she had a bad dream. I told her that it's okay, I'm here and that even mommy has had dreams sometimes too. She said ""okay I'll keep you safe"" and it just melted my heart. I always tell her ""Mommy and daddy will always keep you safe"" so I love that she thinks she's doing the same for us.

This parenting thing is no joke. I have a 3 year old, 1 year old and am 6 months pregnant with my last. Some days I just want to scream at the top of my lungs or just go in my room and shut the door for the day. But it's times like this that make it worth it. The tantrums, the sibling rivalry, the headaches from it all, it's okay. Because I get kisses and cuddles, the oldest telling me ""Mommy I'm so happy"" and ""I love you"" and it makes it all okay.",0.6527754237288121,2.1871668587570667,1.9910416666666684,100.49130826271187,80.9774011299435,4.876977401129943,17.277189265536727,5.148860815047168,-0.9011692090395482,622,11,157,2,16,199,102,177,0.055999999999999994,0.7040000000000001,0.239,0.9857,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,3,0,1,8,15,1,0,12,4,8,6,2,2,2,26,23,12,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,2,0,19,9,0,4,1,3,1,1,1,3,0,0,5,3,25,12,9,17,4,20,0,0,0,4,19,6,0,2,14,96,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24708278393525754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396871519094077,0.0905077349161634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915055454328616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806498608865068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757099067027777,0.0,0.0843806015368325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805222078481582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594116581408656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26393916755281555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102527424395992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725363858532674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680052762048999,0.0,0.19821369992500865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850969567445815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933180985533813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673921693594403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16486164525356686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123177958334054,0.1180716525939501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684354832909138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595438126834396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727766713512787,0.09513547409393501,0.0,0.0,0.08657577368900561,0.0,0.0,0.14187227058230242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859468313088775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757319529710858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28683514423823675
parenting,ThrowRA551199,2020/02/11,"Situation with a babysitter, need advice Should I ignore this situation, call the police, or CPS?

I am currently looking for a sitter for my child and found someone, went to her home. Nice home, clean, set up nice for the children, organized, lots of toys, etc.
I asked several questions as expected. How many children do you currently watch? 
“No more than 7” 
I say, “don’t you think one more would be pushing it, that seems to be quite a bit for one person?”
She says “oh no, trust me, I can handle it.”
I ask some more question and tell her we will discuss it and let her know Sunday if we decide to use her services.
We decided to try her out. On Monday I went to drop my child off and she had 13....yes...THIRTEEN children in her home. Two little babies in a completely separate part of the home all alone in a crib, one in the living room, and the rest in a 10x10 room all under the age of 2 except 1 who was around 4 years old. 

I was shocked!

So, what should I do? 
There is always that domino effect, while what she is doing is wrong, it effects the parents and I don’t want to do that. But the children...ugh...the children doesn’t deserve this. 

Please someone point me to the right direction.",1.6756862745098005,3.8703247689075617,3.0522899159663868,90.84185224089636,80.72268907563027,5.815406162464986,22.521708683473392,6.996647511020387,0.6880246498599439,917,30,191,11,24,298,145,238,0.076,0.856,0.067,0.335,3,1,0,0,0,0,47.0,3,2,0,3,5,6,0,0,15,0,22,0,0,4,2,39,34,13,0,7,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,7,7,12,12,0,1,10,1,0,3,5,3,0,4,6,4,28,3,29,21,11,29,0,0,2,0,32,16,0,7,8,135,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344195252950533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023438606040855,0.0,0.0,0.09659630588776404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334484743161948,0.2170572413839688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674037842010505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854102440190654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171831520524047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947120603735765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728685916056487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4657915497164848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380011127875145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871004532059705,0.0,0.0,0.11635282984227067,0.10250973069945576,0.0,0.09748648926032427,0.0,0.0,0.09869569543494336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769719261412752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607937641028576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181708559891738,0.0,0.2359970734055323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890437496645968,0.12571432123900853,0.0,0.0,0.10136544253808852,0.0,0.1274321251968902,0.10974271687920807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600950764575767,0.1234761660054428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914035512817324,0.0,0.18463909607927212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056841139409146,0.0,0.13114882751721202,0.0,0.0,0.26098038868483153,0.0,0.0,0.1967256173834764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146790934578166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743858816060868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881759255294221,0.0,0.113403209517344,0.0,0.0,0.10026461753871377,0.0,0.0,0.06847297918340563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152334671109467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246711288050873,0.12692635659579155,0.0,0.07475825144082801
parenting,anonymousuuuu,2020/02/11,Having my son take a break from his dad My sons father and I have been together for 1 year an 1/2 I left because he was a cheater (just to clear the air lol) He now has this new girlfriend and ever since he has gotten with her he barley makes anytime for our son he doesn’t text or call to check up on him no more he barley makes an effort to see him. I asked his mom about it and she says it’s because that new girl is very jealous and when it comes to my sons father she wants to be all about her. I was just thinking of having my son take a small break from his dad when he makes the small effort to see him because as a mother something doesn’t sit right with me and the idea of having my son around her something just feels off about her.,4.591513888888887,3.9228695125,4.839583333333334,92.02930555555555,69.5,7.3611111111111125,24.652777777777786,5.033348758259628,0.2896944444444447,582,11,138,1,9,183,89,160,0.057999999999999996,0.925,0.017,-0.7501,0,0,2,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,2,11,1,1,0,9,1,13,0,0,3,3,23,26,9,0,1,4,12,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,9,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,4,4,23,0,22,21,2,20,0,0,2,0,37,9,0,1,7,88,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116797372279373,0.1692521525993866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310891097253475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848666593515541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595379151759073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376510006230646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915415304927227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437718474207636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967053607445867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625457951429648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203711063322306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497077801016679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461099945730966,0.0,0.14397383964785732,0.0,0.0,0.2885380264318299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976186737940433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787537764276857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722458402309205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600599458980475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493806591663866,0.10678472690236944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658671141538655
parenting,SilentDegree4,2020/02/11,"Daycare asking parents to organize and help with special events I have a 2 year old spending 2 days a week in a daycare center.
Now, I of course bring my child there because I have to work (I also have 3 other children).

But this daycare is constantly asking the parents to organize all kind of things...
Like... let your kid wear a Christmas outfit (fair enough thats a special day) but then 1 week later they want them to wear new years ""festive"" clothes.
Then they are organizing a benefit to raise money and they want us to donate and AGAIN wear special clothes.
They also organized a christmas lunch and every kid had to bring something from home.
Now a teacher is leaving and they are asking to decorate a gift at home.
And this kind if stuff is happening all the time... 
(all I mentioned above happened between Christmas and today)

I don't want to spend time at home decorating presents, baking cakes, online shipping for special ""costumes"".
The whole idea of going to daycare is that I can spend my time on other things... like work... and then come home to be a mom.

Should I say something? And to who? The boss or one of the teachers?
All other mom's are super active and helping out all the time (they even volunter to do extra's?!?!) so I feel as if saying something about it would make me the ""party breaker"".
But I also believe that it's their job to organize fun things and make presents for leaving teachers there instead of letting the mom's do it all the home?
They could make like paper Christmas/new year/carnaval hats for example.
I even think the kids would love to craft their own outfits for festivities.
What are your thoughts?",4.676690782422296,6.4184634469453385,4.716483118971063,84.32795083065383,70.47909967845659,6.726741693461951,30.964764201500536,7.1686216300943375,1.9027908896034305,1296,56,235,12,24,402,158,311,0.0,0.8059999999999999,0.19399999999999998,0.9961,3,0,3,0,0,0,54.0,1,2,10,3,13,15,0,0,20,0,23,6,3,4,6,41,42,25,0,9,6,5,1,3,0,3,0,2,6,5,17,14,2,0,4,0,5,4,1,0,0,1,2,3,27,15,34,33,10,34,0,0,0,1,33,6,0,3,27,164,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628767582978424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411544544682497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05241595152554651,0.0,0.0,0.0968761928632439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406887876673705,0.0,0.09291975876182762,0.0,0.06865241039532582,0.0,0.0,0.11090704452586607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884598791269091,0.0,0.11358519936306892,0.0,0.07244647681366778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04347684309696473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04886753075798389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207335490363172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526851170786677,0.0,0.43125224461372463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706714259422408,0.0,0.0,0.08532732276030201,0.0,0.0,0.17908129467244616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209241948814733,0.0,0.17585196136379855,0.0,0.12602448911946662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760525428660356,0.0,0.17218793006905278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021154706540738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609062797433513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022729867694916,0.0,0.05826598768789922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095340335358624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675821242545355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858747393451648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984328046431779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137479985339513,0.0550960246998408,0.0,0.06826286775871775,0.2005553033085215,0.0,0.08150418258587126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342994731201886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214939465281138,0.0,0.1379447336309062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959997195438174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519690944690975,0.0,0.0,0.1221632382405555,0.0,0.0,0.16611549311383292
parenting,Thedarknessdisguised,2020/02/11,"My child loves sleeping in... Its currently 730 am... Trying to bribe my daughter to wake up with a shopping trip before school and it was an utter fail. 
The conversation:
Me: (after she rolled over) But i thought you like shopping.
DD: I do but I like sleep more. Sleep is important.
And she proceeded to throw the blankets over her head and turn into a mini human burrito. 
I envy my DD sometimes.
At least she technically is never wrong in the points she makes and that's the only difficult part in being her mom.",1.6117817896389326,4.3337430510204085,3.1234693877551045,86.09570643642077,87.87755102040815,5.872527472527473,21.824175824175825,7.321109707123232,1.151247095761382,401,14,74,7,13,131,71,98,0.091,0.782,0.127,0.5757,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,7,0,6,6,5,1,1,11,10,6,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,1,2,2,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,15,3,13,7,3,15,0,1,0,1,13,9,0,0,6,54,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708951494155212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135847989660364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20334778025707084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187830829218915,0.0,0.13891757709650224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437403665274471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051019186776475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827992237291366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22536696415474436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673480871077087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106222756080427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6247922899419931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058298690135771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521911014721638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129560881032255,0.2263680523113105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275397693380701,0.0,0.0
parenting,briaairb,2020/02/11,"Can anyone describe to me what a “mother’s love” is like. Child-free and just wishing to understand? Hopefully I don’t sound too aloof, but being that Ive never had children.. what is it about them that makes them more lovable than a parent, spouse, sister, best friend ect. It’s like you have to do everything for them & it seems like a very time demanding job. Sometimes I’m afraid my freedom in life won’t be the same, HOWEVER I hear all the time how a mothers love for a child just doesn’t compare to anything. I don’t get it? I even once told my mom I would risk my life for her & she nearly cussed me out! So I guess I’m honestly just trying to understand, what is this love like or comparable to & what exactly makes you love them THAT much?",3.092640692640696,4.496757246753248,3.9734415584415568,89.4325432900433,73.93506493506493,7.470995670995673,24.52164502164502,8.07648339933343,1.1996294372294378,592,18,128,9,12,190,95,154,0.03,0.633,0.33799999999999997,0.9961,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,4,1,8,14,0,2,7,0,15,6,0,3,3,21,32,5,0,3,5,6,0,4,1,2,2,2,0,2,12,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,2,20,12,14,26,5,6,0,0,0,4,23,3,0,4,7,83,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332460261069936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319668104517834,0.0,0.10968303399707817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987545010356425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803415614334052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978887633955615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297644489350592,0.0,0.06963644188648054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682957279802195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022302632586226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323830875007544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226580394797458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828770887260746,0.2604672584160666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811833310481,0.0,0.17793890056919034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610297037536458,0.0,0.0,0.09798055742896383,0.0,0.10279839192436864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194525645149333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799834680219465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133858257782072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182327737811714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544029491379294,0.0,0.0,0.12736049959321946,0.0,0.09049245535537148,0.0,0.0,0.2775108852997146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997492157322944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327233988284694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468256120120787,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Uglybabies09,2020/02/11,"Did anyone else think their babies were not cute or am I a terrible parent? We all know that parent think their kids are the most beautiful things on the planet. I did not get that feeling when I saw my son for the first time. I was overjoyed and so in love but his face was red, his eyes were swollen, and his head was shaped like a cone. I knew that was all temporary but now he's coming up on a year old and still isn't cute. I love him to death and would kill for him but he's still funny looking. I think it's because he takes after my side of the family and we aren't exactly super models over here. 

But it feels so awful to not feel like my son is the most handsome thing on earth. Is this normal? Maybe he'll get better looking and maybe he won't. My love for him is not based on how he looks but I can't shake this feeling of being an awful mother for thinking that he's just not very cute.",1.7573639896373052,3.163645601036272,2.9931314766839385,95.08793555699484,77.44559585492226,5.861269430051812,18.79825129533679,6.322622252153567,-0.261880569948187,703,13,164,5,16,227,106,193,0.171,0.6509999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.3631,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,2,3,9,14,1,1,9,2,19,7,3,1,3,39,41,16,2,2,12,5,4,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,10,9,0,0,10,0,0,2,9,3,0,1,10,10,22,11,16,27,4,20,0,0,6,3,26,9,0,3,11,107,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959819225205629,0.1406486727640523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367812283076984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140358668084685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824539200360915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467092949474288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940532831276774,0.0,0.2776300352146657,0.09806525242576553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676124060288312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343514156938214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408779572593762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186819973191995,0.0,0.07543964590108564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412574319205198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458150502813405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716728483318227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27581102847887856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449481981990544,0.0,0.0,0.14404109362964745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048427411069177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192469634923284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320946924790243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823913158095496,0.3518266320185695,0.0,0.0,0.08004286298434121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326159132780406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975122091403378,0.0,0.0,0.08839696207173695
parenting,webdotorg,2020/02/11,"What Would You Have Done Differently? I'm a soon to be parent...

Everyone and no one is an expert on parenting, but a little guidance can't hurt. What did people do right and wrong? Registries. Education. Money. Sleep. Anything else?

Any advice, large or small, would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!",2.128636363636364,4.39967780769231,3.4997902097902127,78.39066433566434,107.46153846153842,5.737062937062937,22.034965034965033,6.980632752743323,1.6940538461538461,234,9,37,5,11,76,47,52,0.09300000000000001,0.693,0.214,0.8593,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,10,1,1,0,0,6,12,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,6,0,5,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,25,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388158412393365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884213482443956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801150270312712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22867722026763804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398455890152494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284152167249088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914392127008455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24130985916937805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23430963078854875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21936970414445908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831499512334073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4860683601361873,0.0,0.0,0.15173998813061154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691758853417104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190325233659946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015101913175939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109642658243724,0.2393048568934533,0.0,0.0
parenting,LordZeBun,2020/02/11,"someone help me My mother insists that I sleep at 11 and she doesn't care and she thinks that sleeping early by 1hr would make us healthy, and she doesn't allow us to plan our own time (me and my twin brother, we are 15 this year). Can you guys give any advice that I can at least try to convince my mother that she needs to see society now and she stays at home and doesn't work btw.",1.6588501742160275,3.1851025853658532,2.5054006968641107,97.96451219512196,78.02439024390246,5.173519163763067,20.25087108013937,5.288315135182226,-0.4045421602787456,300,7,71,1,7,94,55,82,0.051,0.86,0.08800000000000001,0.4777,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,2,2,2,0,12,13,6,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,17,2,7,12,2,8,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,0,4,45,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095234521675605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458092712570119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21860996069127692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20568600882456065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230415062629068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371757751517714,0.0,0.21507531233141527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312340129565565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589856988861596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708606649117579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4291388678514993,0.0,0.18167278314986687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22853742020153606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738820920400735,0.0,0.0,0.12502686953385547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455734295381902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5158286942362346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609637247419142,0.0,0.0,0.15231397023532375,0.0,0.0,0.13807596370327646
parenting,ElephantRattle,2020/02/11,"7YO always negative, fighting with us about everything I'm venting and also asking for any help. maybe this is just how a lot of 7YO are? 

But she fights with us about everything. Things she hates: waking up, brushing teeth, what we feed her, taking showers, going to sports, going to bed. Basically the only thing she is happy with is screen time (which we don't allow during the week, and limited amounts on weekends) and this thing called ""Special Play time"" which is one on one child -driven play for about 15 minutes. 

It's exhausting. Everything is combative. She has a very intense, fiery personality so that doesn't help. We have 2 other kids and one is a 2.5YO that needs a lot of attention as well. We think she might have ADHD.

Help!",4.676958796599081,6.561590992805755,4.958325703073908,82.02060170045783,70.72661870503597,7.932243296272074,27.02485284499673,8.575989854853784,1.9788791366906469,584,20,107,10,11,184,94,139,0.131,0.721,0.14800000000000002,0.4099,1,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,6,0,0,2,8,9,3,0,6,0,13,4,2,2,0,22,22,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,12,11,1,1,2,4,0,3,3,4,1,3,1,2,12,5,16,20,3,10,0,0,1,0,22,3,0,3,4,75,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886509620955549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901953562201463,0.1238387305682451,0.0,0.0,0.10120970631838523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391362381128116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197237458799134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40127722590570253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916737641493185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843261981872644,0.0,0.14693910694486526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992734348310794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530603944505862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495200385961026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788542683023413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035578022146952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30255378525882226,0.11319214825737088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995287565127656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190186201427696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966287105686878,0.09536444552031713,0.0,0.0,0.17356828737075325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35804904725312403,0.0,0.0,0.1228005827046624,0.0,0.0,0.11938268783298647,0.0,0.1338163117947978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,egorl21,2020/02/11,"struggling sorry just have to vent
I have a 9 month old and I am struggling to enjoy or appreciate my baby. i feel so guilty for feeling the way I do but it won’t go away. I don’t feel like taking care of her anymore and I just have no patience. I love my baby so much but I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I keep thinking about how her life would be much better if she wasn’t with me, i’m a single mom and can’t provide everything I want for her. sometimes I think about giving her up for adoption to a family that has 2 parents and a stable life. I don’t have family close to me and i’m just struggling so much. thank you for letting me get this out",0.3941071428571412,2.1471271805555574,2.6797619047619072,94.17000000000002,82.75,5.2253968253968255,20.007936507936503,6.1826913282559595,-0.059048015873015995,510,14,119,4,14,174,84,144,0.11900000000000001,0.6579999999999999,0.223,0.9489,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,9,10,0,3,5,0,16,3,0,1,0,26,33,13,0,3,7,2,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,9,0,1,6,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,1,3,24,6,16,28,4,8,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,2,3,86,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485474612912765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407288757495184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247354297742886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527168076473106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346179967215581,0.0,0.2824098165537024,0.0,0.2272089034230164,0.10700714688083084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825700175200376,0.14368837790407624,0.08512683446794228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313667724961345,0.0,0.0,0.0823184672439018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316633123961693,0.2115965601336258,0.07317787262678567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518771120676984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754275505068501,0.11955775454056465,0.0,0.3303298293247241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571752081561307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631962477166082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814218201371074,0.1676731615709103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4697665413258697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262042937852235,0.0,0.0,0.13790282255038155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195363881563585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834766242608116,0.11889315322693908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064036753900496,0.16376747498398622,0.0,0.0
parenting,always_zoe_koe,2020/02/11,"Toddlers + YouTube I would like to start a discussion about iPad/tablet/phone use in toddlers! 
Do you restrict amount of time they have access? 
How do you monitor what they watch? Are there any shows or channels you have blocked, if so why? 
Wanting to hear everyone’s opinions on frequency, content, ads, online safety, etc.

Do you purchase app subscriptions, if so are they worth it? Most apps I download seem to require payment to do just about anything so it’s hardly a “free” app to use and enjoy.",2.8527565982404686,5.736410150537638,2.9330791788856314,89.09234604105572,81.90322580645163,5.532355816226785,28.884652981427173,6.980632752743323,1.7322559139784943,396,19,71,5,11,120,68,93,0.049,0.795,0.157,0.8882,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,4,3,1,8,3,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,3,0,16,15,8,0,4,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,4,10,14,3,4,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,6,3,45,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968987229130714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23826867870271534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229162508894438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766701179856358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593730685264877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263352652547879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145576404680815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635884757459191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493956151915174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883446936404248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001432423997553,0.0,0.0,0.17077957641605926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612669302456358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20568257397221296,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeachBean84,2020/02/11,"Is there such a thing as the perfect mom suv/van? Ok fellow parents........I’m having the most difficult time finding a vehicle that will meet our needs.....at any given point in time I need to fit 4 kids, grandma, myself and my love plus the occasional dog, or a ton of wood pellets or firewood, the weekly garbage etc...........what are your go to kid, pets & stuff hauling vehicles??",4.6099999999999985,5.663927777777778,5.267666666666667,82.944,69.83333333333333,7.982222222222222,31.06666666666667,8.238735603445708,2.2260133333333343,288,12,56,4,5,93,64,72,0.038,0.784,0.17800000000000002,0.8846,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,7,1,4,1,0,0,1,8,8,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,6,6,2,7,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,3,3,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205729877681512,0.0,0.20120046945931688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32997116646451063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704181044118438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681486726421928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26703253256192555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465171699025956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193824643484364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796910093597817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33869821512302434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656163422964207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34504616377788483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23732756186200524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cupcakeann,2020/02/11,"4 almost 5 years old son is perfect at school, but terrible with me and family members/sitters At school he is quite, calm and often the example of how his classmate should behave ...... at home he screams, refuses almost everything and is very disrespectful to adults. I just don’t know what to do anymore. When Family members and I try to interact with him he blows us off, runs away, hides, but then seconds later starts doing over the top attention seeking behavior, licking weird things (like the clothes I’m wearing), doing a weird crazy laugh, talking super loud and saying nonsense and making loud noises anytime one of the adults try to say anything. What do I do?",7.822974238875879,8.141571180327873,7.4563231850117075,72.64663934426231,62.606557377049185,10.250117096018736,37.1007025761124,9.957137785484203,3.844712880562061,532,24,87,10,7,168,86,122,0.141,0.7290000000000001,0.13,0.1128,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,4,4,9,0,0,5,0,10,1,1,2,1,21,14,11,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,5,1,2,3,8,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,0,6,7,5,14,13,0,14,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,3,7,54,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771183299219032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867468794938075,0.0,0.0,0.15495807301852582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691772159850208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16923541198838993,0.0,0.3550323345910972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18888417463096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034869041105224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199577860338744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569432182178386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19759327693519294,0.0,0.1275996024477999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028438658219014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299493653663469,0.0,0.3811472190408705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328247636732907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135154966294773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510075030391438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556919879688391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265064179277853,0.0,0.0,0.15537044615127174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126154395758745
parenting,1nsaneMfB,2020/02/11,"I(32m) learned today that my 6yo son got his first run in with bullies. And i'm livid. So I'm going to start off by saying that I've already reported the incident with my son's teacher, and I will know what happened by tomorrow.

I've been trying to make a habit of regularly checking up with my son when he gets back from school, mostly to fish out any social problems as he's doing wonderfully on the academic side.

So when i asked him today ""Are there any kids at school who aren't nice to you?"", and after fishing some information, i found out that one kid held him, while the other kid took the equivalent of his lunch money.

I myself had been a victim of bullying my whole school life, and never really stood up for myself.

I'm sitting here, finding myself enraged at two 8-year olds.

It seems to me that i might be doing the right thing here, and using the right channels to tackle this problem. So its not that i need particular advice or anything, i just really needed to vent.

Any other of you have any bullying stories from your kids, either where it went well and things got better, or where you did something stupid and it went horribly wrong?

I'd like to hear from you parents of reddit.

What's your bully stories?",7.588471645919776,6.416158493775934,7.714699170124482,75.52261583679119,63.64730290456431,10.356984785615492,32.53146611341632,9.2995712137729,2.724925034578146,971,30,184,14,12,316,148,241,0.149,0.8059999999999999,0.045,-0.9788,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,6,0,2,13,10,3,0,8,0,12,2,0,2,1,35,36,16,0,4,5,4,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,4,17,12,1,1,7,1,2,5,3,6,1,3,12,2,25,4,33,21,4,32,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,7,13,127,42,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962469928699225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509045619931306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329916540975369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007389487689569,0.0,0.11444358391957316,0.0,0.0,0.09413129266713348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826809084022164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188712944855726,0.10412803237389287,0.0,0.13422417289854016,0.0,0.0,0.06395794952062943,0.0,0.069572532295645,0.0,0.19581648197187013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825315123591996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797311399465698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727730752176754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646690908662846,0.05980687451230099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171445088272128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986533443913592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18154164818723525,0.09441571371809418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845628894652655,0.0,0.08295308249213583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359298456021354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23427351051777565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684722302396084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209087289225364,0.0,0.09735109389694367,0.0,0.3716783136022692,0.0,0.11144404752999948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478894850849136,0.0,0.09424276357952624,0.0,0.0,0.08664754470044846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16265713467303408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320744382714384,0.0,0.13601004563290314,0.08311326275187399,0.0,0.11958384472590675,0.0,0.0,0.10572918091368666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006779050816932,0.2269639952904292,0.0,0.13667446430662766,0.0,0.0,0.1327562627834217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384402243443402,0.0,0.07883268181147024
parenting,been2thehi4,2020/02/11,"How we raise our kids I am atheist. My husband and I never really talk about religion much. He comes from a Lutheran family. They all attend a very small Lutheran church. We got married in that church, mostly out of convenience as I was very pregnant when we got married and we were very young. I was 20 and he was 19. It just seemed like the thing you do. You get married in a church. That apparently then meant I was now Lutheran in his family’s eyes. I am not. I never said I was nor gave the impression I would be. I/ we don’t go to church. We only got on Easter and every other Christmas Eve. The year we do Christmas Eve with his side of the family. I had to baptize all four of our kids in his family’s church. Our oldest son had to have first holy communion in his family’s church. I don’t like it. I don’t like phone calls from the church randomly to tell us activities that are coming up. I don’t like his parents hounding us about things our kids need to do in this church. My husband will not come clean to his parents that he is not a real believer. It’s one of the biggest issues in our marriage. I had the seriously uncomfortable conversation with my mother about my views and how I will raise my kids. She hated it. Still makes snide comments but it’s my life and my kids. Husband doesn’t talk to the kids about religion, doesn’t teach them anything. I feel like I’ve had more conversations about religion and how people view it and feel about it then he ever has. He just makes them do these ceremonies to appease his family who still think we are god believing Lutherans. I try to start a convo with him on this about how he puts me and our kids in a position that isn’t fair to simply save him the uncomfortable talk or “come clean” realization with his family. He’d rather make me deal with this than be truthful with his family. I feel it’s a giant farce and wrong to make our kids do these things when we don’t enforce it or believe in it. It’s just wrong to me. I had the conversation with my daughter because unfortunately we didn’t really give my son the choice on this first holy communion stuff my husband just took him to the classes and it was done. This time around I talked to my daughter asked if she was interested. Explained what it was and what it meant. She told me she didn’t want to, she also doesn’t believe in god. I asked why she felt that way .I’ve never pushed my atheist views on my kids I’m honest, and explain why I don’t feel god exists and stuff. I explained I don’t feel heaven is real etc. she said she felt the same way. Unfortunately I told her though there is a good chance she will have to do this communion stuff solely to make her grandparents happy. 

Only because her father won’t back us up and tell his parents the truth but he said that will break their hearts and their would be no good to come from it. 

This aspect of parenting is infuriating to say the least. Not feeling like you and you’re partner on the same page. Or feeling like your partner has your back over their families views on how to raise your kids.",3.64109951956074,5.020479019354841,4.514035689773512,86.19467055593687,72.51612903225806,7.7927247769389165,24.64310226492793,8.332992426153591,1.3485041180507893,2432,71,509,39,47,786,232,620,0.068,0.821,0.111,0.982,6,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,20,6,6,2,30,21,1,0,24,0,57,3,2,10,8,101,103,36,0,6,15,14,9,7,2,7,1,4,2,12,41,41,0,0,16,0,0,10,23,4,0,4,31,18,101,17,65,61,10,60,14,0,5,0,119,25,0,7,29,355,142,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04567263061674266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04699849995915471,0.050841994219841334,0.10678445308190544,0.0,0.0,0.08783156085374468,0.0,0.06963017202520816,0.0,0.0,0.2573837077412317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05831797353461302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459856503667857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058880202526212885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844564140979165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369523466898278,0.0,0.051661282812305837,0.04811951797438389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4845629580301076,0.0,0.20214362070060232,0.12240296803582155,0.1096733965961032,0.0,0.0,0.09715926928114474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02983878355557358,0.05478725624217277,0.03245819711454805,0.09580605963468598,0.13703360565728953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079703205702217,0.0,0.05638650427909709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767826889767127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059610331097331985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04034005787072916,0.19531505902837085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061428888254275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04198406131294456,0.042347995731427966,0.1321454205612322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03870072590354242,0.08687285073087171,0.0,0.0,0.2536654956617338,0.0,0.0,0.039594429979018464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574135668100531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300124450151367,0.07317511543416795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629804311795577,0.04541793852775528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05199283025376114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404243311631596,0.0,0.0912198031428695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19613952205621216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836185921026942,0.0998372146975412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382848586428575,0.03659521163023505,0.05611247713044599,0.0,0.033302601268084465,0.0,0.0,0.10914636870984626,0.06345379023939578,0.03877545600568024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060969460904678,0.0,0.0,0.1413707159269086,0.033686273659279536,0.0906660614629909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030698107475429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114178075829251,0.12488651826901495,0.0,0.03677840436268435
parenting,CEFan4Ever19,2020/02/11,"Did anyone else's child's behavior change after being hospitalized? We had to take my 2 year old to the ER this previous Saturday night because she wasn't able to keep anything down and her fever was spiking. We got the unfortunate news that she has RSV. They had to keep her for a day because her oxygen levels dipped in the ER. Yesterday, we came home and she wasn't satisfied at all. She did nothing but scream, flail around on the floor, and hit and bite herself. She did have a window where she was playing and laughing. But if she wasn't sleeping, she was screaming. I am worried about her. I'm scared all this may have traumatized her. I'm beating myself up that she was even sick in the first place. I just want my sweet girl back.",3.057644889357221,5.124389116438358,3.5804109589041104,89.39604320337199,75.64383561643838,6.6840885142254995,24.929399367755533,7.61054688173877,1.1744969441517386,585,20,119,8,13,183,94,146,0.159,0.7490000000000001,0.092,-0.8974,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,1,2,6,6,0,1,7,0,18,3,1,0,2,21,27,8,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,2,4,10,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,3,2,1,14,3,24,3,14,10,2,21,0,0,0,0,21,11,0,2,9,82,28,0,0.2043374333524526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287748448200674,0.2093678479502796,0.16815229697139228,0.1819036377352996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712287325101065,0.0,0.2491244055603369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337075876418372,0.0,0.0,0.21616191031013327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178074009824112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069770555921482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349629475770633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380931642376998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342731203173805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204967106308455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36324899900319263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19175683900392315,0.0,0.19606727831273135,0.0,0.21441776304733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134891268475911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20457741773926755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20448500340306228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363631977369618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052351239162057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075145823444688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158660761306729
parenting,TAnieceisannoying,2020/02/11,"My Niece Annoys my kid My niece is an only child and on her mom’s side the only grandchild. I have 2 kids and on my side they are 2 of 6 grandchildren and on wife’s side 2 of 3 grandchildren. All are around the same age, my niece is 6 my daughters are 4 and 7, my brothers girls are 12, 10, 4,  all are girls. 

Well my niece wants my daughters to play with her but only if they play her way, she will literally take her toys and put them in her room if they don’t.

We were all at my house and the girls were playing. According to the oldest niece, She tapped my older on her head and daughter tapped her back. Well she told my wife “Em punched me” my wife asked the girls what happened and they all said they were playing duck, duck goose and no one was punched. Niece got mad and told her mom they needed to leave because her cousins weren’t playing her. So SIL got her ready and they left. 

Once they were gone all the other kids said she was annoying and spoiled. Welp guess what SIL had walked back in and was pissed. She demanded that all the girls apologize. My brother and his wife said no as did I but my wife was quiet and after SIL stormed out she said we should have the girls apologize and we really hurt SIL and niece. 

The problem is the girls all agree that she lies and is mean to them if they go over. 

Should we just have had them say sorry even if the girls weren’t really sorry?",2.3306250000000013,3.905527479166668,2.733750000000001,96.83625,76.29166666666666,6.188888888888887,20.680555555555557,6.816661863887847,0.04518472222222236,1086,25,254,10,24,333,126,288,0.127,0.7929999999999999,0.08,-0.9564,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,12,0,8,13,4,0,12,0,29,2,2,0,7,47,46,26,0,9,7,13,0,0,0,3,0,6,1,12,5,25,0,0,1,6,0,4,5,6,2,1,22,6,53,7,19,21,8,26,0,1,0,0,70,15,1,5,6,160,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334046093229733,0.11902561375123227,0.0,0.0,0.19580014010704566,0.0,0.07761217781906347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409267058982732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235803942085653,0.0,0.20365647554072056,0.0,0.14025568528248067,0.0,0.11258733189809388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066551566547058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469084585757086,0.1362970909324318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481191154118075,0.13833192624852225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868717467578404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982277843271433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440505687099664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559005067451824,0.08627431279259691,0.2904943766101467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218266128166271,0.0,0.127990261315894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312698664455613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4844362087230831,0.10124878392991156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850452812112149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572766941819877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433165718317304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509575189212872,0.10105950164638776,0.0,0.0,0.22894924941679115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raelynnx44,2020/02/11,"My 2 year old doesn’t sleep in her bed and won’t take naps or go to bed at night without a fight. She’s been fighting sleep heavily lately. She rarely ever takes naps even though we try everyday. Won’t go to bed without screaming and crying her head off, just for her to fall asleep on the floor by her door. Bedtime is only peaceful when we get her to fall asleep before leaving the room but we don’t want to create a habit of that (just easier sometimes than your child screaming bloody murder and getting up to chase you as you’re leaving). 
She used to be a really good sleeper. I don’t know if it’s the terrible twos or what. But I hate seeing her sleeping on the floor. We’ve made a floor bed but she never even uses that. Just runs to the door, crying, turning the light off and sleeping by the door. Granted she does sometimes take a blanket and pillow with her which I love. Is this something I’ll just have to wait out? I cuddle with her in her bed and sing her songs before leaving too but she makes it a battle to leave and I end up staying in there longer than I should. She used to stay in her bed no problem but I guess that’s when we had a tv in her room. I know a lot of people don’t like that but I’m a “it’s the little things” kind of parent and don’t see a problem with a movie to fall asleep. 
We’re not able to put another tv in her room yet so I guess I’m wondering if there’s any tips or tricks to combat this behavior or will I just have to wait it out until she finds her bed desirable again? Anyone else currently dealing with this?",2.1223838383838363,3.5516849757575777,3.3009090909090912,93.16580808080809,76.51515151515152,6.101010101010102,21.919191919191928,6.605766666666668,0.2876161616161621,1222,32,275,10,27,395,161,330,0.12,0.765,0.115,-0.679,2,0,1,0,3,0,22.0,4,2,0,0,17,15,6,0,19,0,16,10,8,5,2,59,43,26,1,7,20,1,0,1,0,4,0,3,14,1,14,18,0,2,4,6,0,7,12,11,0,0,3,6,39,4,46,35,1,45,0,0,2,2,34,22,0,10,15,175,53,0,0.09440679625203108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064199858798368,0.09899375735045758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601142700676703,0.09673091923923308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606664604427553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074028653624431,0.0,0.09732926154733153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261602359632561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886476425306711,0.0,0.0836164000576072,0.0,0.0,0.1247095971055314,0.08539635210104947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628610145103609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986473090897308,0.0,0.1073071158310053,0.07918394159609349,0.0,0.0,0.20799945917586646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320716619948344,0.096888609315962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831015058727406,0.10376701253819937,0.0,0.10649497824289494,0.3998526638625025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612239197726893,0.09462041139980716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026128215449478,0.08520581950487277,0.08932999327450944,0.06301726957901779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281234126394423,0.0,0.0,0.08859438299076401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990640517340265,0.0,0.0,0.07180062268283724,0.0,0.0,0.10482757494678728,0.0,0.0,0.06544978559694599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18066910819372906,0.0,0.09490490556538284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06047941110322801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045998744750766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778999028449346,0.0,0.0,0.07267896405357165,0.18674147093757654,0.0,0.0,0.20125016716145655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129464851323064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271968050885246,0.0,0.092754197988135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409601763026812,0.10268748472822477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24461148147109654,0.0,0.0,0.05568357442519623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200956534515486,0.10238014341102072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060794881537909365
parenting,R3d_Man,2020/02/11,"Should a 9 year old be on ADHD medication?      Hello, everyone! First off sorry if my post looks weird I'm on mobile, no glasses and at 5 am.  
So I have a daughter to whom I've been estranged from for 8 years. Basically, her mom and i didn't get along. That's another story for another time. I had no say. I did not abandon my daughter. Had to clarify that. Either way, its not the meat of the post.  
     So about a year ago, her mom and I talked on the phone and she told me that our kid was on adhd medication. I was pretty shocked at first, to be honest. I was upset that she would give her meds like that at such a young age. I obviously didn't have a say in it at the time but I made my opinion known. She has been off meds for a year and her mom said that my opinion helped her decide to take her off the meds. I felt good about that.  
     Fast forward to recently. Mid January, her mom has a big falling out with her boyfriend of about 8 years. They break up. Guess it's for real, this time. She calls me, basically out of the blue and asked if I could give my daughter and her sister a ride back and forth from school.  
      Anyway, I am now finally getting to know my daughter and it couldn't be better. We are so similar in our looks and mannerisms its freaky! Shes been staying at my place almost every weekend.    
     This last weekend, I took my daughter, my niece and gf little sister to the zoo. My kid was the only one bouncing off the walls. Wouldn't sit still. Wont listen and if she does, she said she ""forgot"" to do whatever it is I asked. At the zoo she kept running off down the path ahead of everyone. I had to tell her 10 times that day to stay with the group, she never really did. We got ice cream, she ate hers faster than everyone else then started jumping and skipping around everyone else eating. I asked so many times for her to sit down I finally popped off a little bit.  
     I was really disappointed about her attitude. I had a talk with her mom, just to see if she was acting like this because she doesnt know me yet or if she was, ""showing off"" to the other kids. We had a good talk and she said we will work together on this (yay co parenting!)  
     Next couple of days goes by and I get a call from her mom. She tells me she got done at school conferences and she was acting like that at school. Teacher says it looks like adhd. She wont stay in her desk, wont stop talking to other kids. Something has to change, right?  
     She has a conversation with our daughter about these issues. She says she liked the meds and didn't want them before because she didn't want her mom to spend the money. Crazy, right?  
     Well, her mom actually calls me and asks my opinion about putting her back on the meds. I'm conflicted. She obviously needs some help with these issues but I know she is going through some life changes with where shes living, etc. Anyway, I just want to know your guys experience with this sort of thing. I just feel 9 is so young to medicate like this. So Reddit, what do you think? Meds or no meds? Thanks for reading! Peace!",1.7798579466324966,3.7399193586429713,3.0982510723636563,91.85839660743136,79.16155088852989,6.336816890423932,21.1732215475461,7.372421405659032,0.5352595732828247,2349,65,518,32,58,762,264,619,0.052000000000000005,0.8640000000000001,0.084,0.9787,1,0,1,0,0,0,82.0,7,2,2,5,26,18,0,1,29,1,52,6,0,1,3,84,95,34,0,14,15,17,2,6,1,7,4,8,0,5,29,33,2,5,9,4,2,10,16,5,1,3,35,16,95,13,81,48,5,96,0,2,6,0,110,40,0,15,45,344,124,6,0.0,0.0,0.04875064972590158,0.0,0.18011516780314651,0.0,0.044283706493426174,0.0,0.05002453873995325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476816266319497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04447216104544485,0.1868115311950117,0.0,0.0,0.07682742148686535,0.0,0.0609064272840545,0.0,0.042509574120404264,0.0,0.0,0.04418274737803638,0.05453990847283413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530344954405721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569538253206412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039886455553325775,0.055276270868306235,0.0,0.06443603183862667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04371754962327523,0.05112317124976624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0511182983461378,0.08346502517738473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571505951906471,0.0,0.0,0.042090775266066194,0.1909435285249097,0.0,0.04886735568544813,0.0,0.0,0.02525966910411744,0.0,0.047966381243159516,0.1094505083496159,0.0,0.08498649073136799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830112929554048,0.09584626725318736,0.028391611923822738,0.08380282045546687,0.07991006480558385,0.0,0.05503306914507428,0.04946510576041335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697000647841594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428388127617036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098198466211224,0.04072147575066594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035285979193741206,0.14643827230387918,0.10013971504989652,0.044112787097661865,0.0,0.12585343995041876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0472703507603687,0.0,0.05064837420168028,0.0,0.0,0.3884353535458541,0.1509787205465024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4680705881634033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037042348849976967,0.038529779137601895,0.0,0.05312964456037449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052421278694386654,0.0,0.033852033960664114,0.037994412566457685,0.0,0.0,0.05547113635020797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05219424388001141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568964797537516,0.05082404549476065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050220402022972746,0.0,0.0,0.04997033878288873,0.05686179782429515,0.0640072359088807,0.0,0.04932633267536272,0.0,0.0,0.08532570222777719,0.14256112675935767,0.15891067276587645,0.0,0.15167690598717887,0.0398091174158516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0384592005190815,0.0,0.05592256969398368,0.03535969415103793,0.15974196868689616,0.0398955807905771,0.041766138235982964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03756131125507107,0.16061359756305693,0.08732892480887347,0.04599352772273791,0.0,0.0,0.03318909123972502,0.032010312932941994,0.0,0.0,0.1456511167149011,0.0,0.0,0.04773588213122743,0.0555038649008975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839747988947479,0.03965339822532746,0.0,0.0,0.04491718053528687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036369159766660636,0.0,0.0,0.03548789142488738,0.0,0.0,0.16085277012732546
parenting,Scar_,2020/02/11,"Partners son (13) is being bullied and confiding in me, and I have no clue what to do. So to put things in context. My partner of 6 months has a 13 year old who's been struggling for several years with depression and anxiety with school. He's never really opened up to anyone but over the past couple of months, a few of us have been actively trying to support him and show him we care and he'll never be alone. I've tried to be that friend to him and just support him best i could as someone stepping ing into a new potential step dad role would, carefully with lots of shit in my pants.

Well today he opened up to me and told me there's a couple of kids who just won't leave him alone, constantly calling him names and just being little assholes in general, and we're the same kids doing it all year last year too. I asked him if he wants me to tell his mum for him or just keep it between us, he asked me to keep it between us. So I offered what advice I could in the moment, told him straight up I'm not completely sure what to do, but I'll always be here for you after school to take your mind off things, always be here if you need me, even if that means coming in school and cracking a few fingers (joking obviously), which he loved the idea of.

But anyway.. I feel beyond blessed for him to trust me like this, and I want nothing more than to reward this trust with some solid advice that will help him in life. But I honestly don't know what to do. Things were different when I was a kid. I've got no neices or nephews, no friends with teenagers, no experience in a fatherly roll at all.

I'd greatly appreciate anyone's input on this, can't imagine anything better than helping him get through this.",6.955035496957404,5.411542066091953,7.143529411764708,80.30735294117648,65.1206896551724,10.142258282623397,32.826910074374574,8.841846274778883,2.455124881676808,1341,43,281,17,17,435,188,348,0.084,0.6990000000000001,0.217,0.9954,1,2,0,0,0,0,34.0,4,3,0,3,15,22,1,1,11,0,25,4,2,0,6,60,48,24,0,9,14,5,2,1,4,4,1,0,0,5,20,21,0,2,5,2,0,4,10,3,1,0,7,2,38,19,53,29,9,42,1,1,0,1,52,21,1,7,18,197,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775549423939794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18818619580070106,0.0,0.0,0.15118878990479545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949992512584803,0.0,0.0,0.12704872542632134,0.0,0.07476172710198466,0.0,0.16986478604598607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534136545847656,0.08034935404987895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276790591879816,0.0,0.18525505653776814,0.0,0.0,0.07825914477997566,0.09525439205984082,0.09817646729557243,0.0,0.14507250586422754,0.20104737356203484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824888607617596,0.0,0.0,0.09491880948457103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060005502377124764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886863530363695,0.0,0.0,0.045936439367698784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038081534589816,0.0,0.047465323258736224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726609646325935,0.1001623359005309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217895463859694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255847924447484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615031315222891,0.0,0.0,0.049928729320318534,0.07405479438678657,0.0,0.09619692681549387,0.0,0.0,0.06416997139123085,0.04438467232138843,0.09105546730892004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723733648240617,0.08199558211254508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989621750779691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173250099140402,0.0,0.1450310474541337,0.0,0.0,0.06736404997905322,0.14013808778807554,0.08774339991141986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717292965280822,0.0,0.09533168785371818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672650979603283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132924279573017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820077252997378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27583484829674426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263452803670667,0.09325611719495416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697682577540765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497604150843048,0.0,0.0,0.2061907806690985,0.08562495594652744,0.0,0.06830781867837615,0.0,0.07940681730615462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810699108272329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861150827630148,0.1736219462057249,0.0,0.12336223763188447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278437323224969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717125017124167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168497107869291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645371626210689,0.0,0.0,0.2340174288625447
parenting,FireTeam18,2020/02/11,"$50k+/yr and struggling to afford a family. I’m just wondering how everyone else is getting by. Because I’m over here struggling to make ends meet at $50k+/yr for a family of 3 people and a small dog. 

A part of this is just me thinking that I am a part of the disappearing middle class, if that was still a thing.

People might say “well you gotta give up luxury”. I gotta say, I don’t have any. My car is all paid off late 90’s model worth at least $1k. 

We don’t go out to eat anymore, in fact we even gave up eating vegan meat alternatives for the sake of cost saving. 

If there is one luxury that I have, it is gonna be taking one class towards my bachelors degree.

Daycare costs here is $150+/6hrs. That’s like about as much as I make in an 8hrs shift before deductions.

My partner works retail and she has cancer as well as seizures. So she’s limited in her capacity. Hell, she doesn’t even drive.

I’m also paying $5,500/yr on child support. But on paper, we don’t qualify for any government services. They calculated our gross income as above the threshold. 

Because of that, my partner got dropped from the state insurance. And if I put her on my insurance, I might as well file for bankruptcy the next day due to the rate increase on her pre existing condition.

We live in an apartment that cost around $1.3k/mo after taxes and util etc.

The system we currently have is ironclad, to the point that someone is gonna get a talking when they leave a light on in a room when no one’s in it.

We’re in our early 30’s so we got some fight in us and we’re slugging it out. It’s just that I’m not sure if it is supposed to be this difficult.",2.5946506856710907,3.9324661953352797,4.295056689342406,86.8958427815571,75.0932944606414,7.7636972249217155,25.531692041896118,8.401726058763845,1.550516985206782,1287,44,279,23,27,434,188,343,0.094,0.858,0.048,-0.9434,4,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,9,1,2,2,20,13,2,2,19,0,23,3,0,3,3,37,45,23,0,4,9,0,0,1,2,6,1,2,1,3,16,15,2,1,2,0,8,6,6,6,3,3,5,3,31,7,48,32,8,48,1,0,0,0,28,28,1,8,12,178,47,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434061632706484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044737567589026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699460245794112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050183666941797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438269102329665,0.0,0.10038383424695953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608093086629816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24142565030790406,0.09854884959672253,0.0,0.1044864599690481,0.0,0.1315678036194847,0.1558362273040448,0.0,0.0,0.11272545017555123,0.0,0.0,0.22242335163933769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326897720013408,0.1131676334592534,0.06704510511661457,0.0,0.1887028714375471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307536886800664,0.12491326261176933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763421361945156,0.0,0.1041697264630463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574918654878809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25029518722926203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672156971673355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546249976634175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398187022343263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555001630888994,0.0,0.16357117498592713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151984031774784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859249632119875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762905727801327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995565109420117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421104426791158,0.0,0.0,0.2466558466576305,0.0,0.0,0.13387102887000166,0.11118538774927963,0.0,0.08869880541375916,0.0948198675780126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837406755426911,0.07559045260139144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190345986751682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31820776135680434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793350047085414,0.08588361048682584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aktemajo,2020/02/11,"3 (soon 4) years old think women are least advantaged than men. She's not wrong? But also not right? I don't even know. 

I'm 27, my partner is 35. We grew up VERY differently. 

He was encouraged to be independent and I was raised by narcissistic family who infantilized me so I'd stay easily manipulated and pay everything for them. Therefore, he can do so many more things when I'm right now learning to do them. 

For example, driving. I never learned how to drive (thanks, narc mother) but now I've saved up enough money to get the lessons so I'm learning how to drive now. 

Another example, women have to find a toilet seat to pee in whereas men just stand and pee. (We explained to her that sometimes we have to pee before we leave so we don't have to go insane finding toilets.) 

Also, men can carry SUPER HEAVY STUFF whereas women cannot as much. Ahem, I'm pregnant, I told her that. Otherwise I'd carry things with similar weight as well. 

So... I don't know. She's been observing and I don't know. Should I do more to show equality? Or I should just keep explaining? 

What's your take on this?",1.0797434590553865,3.5955998761467924,2.9854943934760456,88.03889738362217,86.93577981651377,6.532381923207612,21.83554196398233,7.793537801064563,1.2475539925246344,855,30,174,18,27,285,130,218,0.045,0.865,0.091,0.9144,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,1,2,3,18,7,0,0,2,0,21,4,3,5,1,39,37,19,0,2,7,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,7,8,10,1,1,12,1,2,5,8,1,1,0,4,1,22,6,22,30,6,21,0,0,0,0,27,6,0,1,8,109,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668227986427075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749325343804148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195739139227614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17429858708799112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723767674027302,0.0,0.11018758387965263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993324679596715,0.0,0.15726953956435305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049535003545465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716016166445155,0.0,0.0948115630307658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828340024216544,0.0,0.0,0.2750510785866376,0.0,0.0,0.1766455828638783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913627644364684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263695550963455,0.0,0.1286671779350796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750567520583729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28493849580006536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649960545965975,0.0,0.0,0.17781526193314556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19097686985538925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543305533808824,0.0,0.0,0.15359178141740742,0.0,0.0,0.22166473847641568,0.10689593146099652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941023742003488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764965129872625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20315020198739556,0.1499974043359014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239900935915654,0.0,0.10743104403173173
parenting,Leon-Naej,2020/02/11,"Do you still manage to see your friends? Hi everyone,

Future father here, next year hopefully (yes we are planning a bit in advance)! :D

I'm wondering about the social life of being a parent. Do you still manage to see your friends, and have activities with them?

I'm super happy to start a family of course :D, I would just like as much as possible that with my other half we stay in touch with our friends. Even if obviously it will be less often, of course, with one (eventually two !) babies to rise.

Thanks for your help!

PS: sorry, not a native speaker",3.5745379023883714,5.504709672897199,4.8167601246105916,81.70422637590862,73.76635514018692,7.746209761163032,24.038421599169265,8.515128840125781,1.629364278296988,433,13,82,8,9,143,79,107,0.01,0.7240000000000001,0.265,0.9857,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,5,1,3,7,8,0,0,5,1,8,1,0,0,1,15,16,4,0,3,3,2,1,1,3,2,1,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,11,8,17,12,3,11,0,0,2,0,17,2,0,4,7,58,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004605300500008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127628186021687,0.0,0.0,0.17545244395113954,0.0,0.0,0.17309631754032012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4255825546461821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546207511011834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307357467240755,0.0,0.0,0.1823715854914995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296930319572114,0.08970524064429962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497849266855352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527712840306075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442259000866132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038832426859906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069988462586184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926355031189382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18717284170067972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554247846231388,0.1299639700615479,0.19570965317476774,0.2932710925217338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904844918765854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936562737619158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912313755127448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304351570177861,0.0,0.0,0.1182423383632753
parenting,maawen,2020/02/11,"Need help with brushing a 11mo's teeths So everytime were brushing our 11 mo's teeth he's screaming, kicking and flicking his head away from the toothbrush.

What's the trick to make it more comfortable for him? It seems like singing or playing with him doesn't make any difference.",5.634622641509434,7.482528264150942,4.4944811320754745,86.43908018867926,68.24528301886792,7.564150943396226,34.00471698113208,8.07648339933343,2.536249056603774,230,11,42,3,4,67,44,53,0.069,0.74,0.191,0.7778,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,3,0,2,3,3,2,0,8,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,4,3,6,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,1,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25102573775723064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34681625154247275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856694745319588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788409365540493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474246706907837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034163454447394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4928034697771441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737103204185166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360483532320088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrnnvlch,2020/02/11,"[Academic] Impact of joint art-making and reading activities on the caregiver-child relationship and the Are you a parent to a child aged 1 to 4 years? Come and take part in my master’s research study exploring the impact of joint art-making and reading activities on the caregiver-child relationship and the development of the self-concept.The survey has to be done on computer and it only takes 20-25 minutes!

Please feel free to share!

[https://research.sc/participant/login/dynamic/E90555F0-2A05-4EAE-A647-A54B9666EFCC](https://research.sc/participant/login/dynamic/E90555F0-2A05-4EAE-A647-A54B9666EFCC)",14.650899470899468,19.462052925925924,9.609276895943566,46.7788888888889,50.60493827160494,10.060670194003528,31.32451499118166,10.290406445055957,3.9483848324514974,521,16,57,11,7,142,52,81,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.8118,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,8,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,11,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,33,3,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19967569942524352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372125022223023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720535262222168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629480830372246,0.0,0.0,0.25738714428454995,0.25101747049158074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25444746001113666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.463726674609975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49773420972186794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24181858877958826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34857041970403485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927199216525966
parenting,jennifersjasmine,2020/02/11,"Antibiotics didn’t work at all for ear infection for 5 year old? Has anyone had this happen?

One month ago, our 5 year old got an ear infection. We got her antibiotics because she had a fever.  It seemed to go away.

One month later she got another ear infection. Dr said, maybe the first one never fully went away.  He gave her a stronger antibiotic (augmentin).

One day after we finished the full course (not skipping a dose) her nose started running, she complained of an earache and threw up.

I am taking her back to the doctor in the morning but I am at my wits’ end.

What happened??!! Did the bacteria evolve? Did the antibiotic not work? How could her symptoms possibly come back 1 day after we finished a 10 day dose??

If you have any similar experiences to share pls do.  We are really struggling.

Background: this issue aside, she has been a healthy energetic kid who is strong, eats well, sleeps well, and is tall for her age. The ear infections took us by surprise.",2.322737262737263,5.111321813186817,3.2616383616383655,86.41290709290709,83.61538461538461,6.605794205794206,25.305694305694303,7.84624498591911,1.7608373626373623,758,31,142,15,22,241,120,182,0.031,0.8270000000000001,0.142,0.9657,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,6,1,0,4,5,7,0,1,14,0,16,17,6,1,2,16,31,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,5,7,1,0,1,0,0,6,4,2,2,5,14,6,20,5,16,16,2,36,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,2,22,90,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150705259728026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554290002160655,0.13190392076078275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795671838560172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23637152267038036,0.19345262641737174,0.0,0.07668165933314179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083587030946204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043470724303574,0.0,0.0,0.2433763756582699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875348204429904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871665977671526,0.0,0.0,0.11141440937992186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304875161062155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699864399841624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714905145661472,0.0,0.3018221544074364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247496906900172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129420677825002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637501063995998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20081201059336648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970185752065706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639951685823493,0.0,0.34095976423626984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181162322011884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058560118672088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965703504849312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451634776491453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588288437193898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903625255733368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150515140241684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074609329308315,0.09457995821473923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975958366934507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513123343904104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262042999139325,0.11661048028517045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831562049406111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201189755124498
parenting,Mfriedman88,2020/02/11,"Need some advice on something My fiancé and I have a 6 month old daughter together. We live in California together, where his family and friends live close by and get to have frequent contact with her. This includes his parents, siblings, grandparents and aunts and uncles. My family on the other hand live in Vermont, save for 1 of my sisters who lives here with us. I was very lucky to have my mom stay with me for 6 weeks when our daughter was born and my other sister stayed for about a week to meet her. Since then, they have not had a chance to visit, nor I visit them. My father and grandmother have not had a chance to meet her yet. My closest friends from Home haven’t either 

So, I have the opportunity to take 2 weeks off of work. My initial hope was to use that to take her to Vermont so that my family could have some more time with her and have the chance to meet her now that she’s a little older and is developing such a sweet little personality. I wanted to take her to my home where I grew up and have my friends meet her. I feel like this is important family bonding time for her and I and my fiancé. This way my family would get to bond with her as well. All of us together. 

My fiancé can’t take a 2 weeks vacation, though. He is a business owner and the company tends to fall apart when he leaves for more than a few days. I completely understand this. So I suggested that he stay for a week and while I stay for 2 weeks in Vermont.  He doesn’t like this though and wants us to stay only 1 week. Naturally he doesn’t like the idea of missing her for a whole week, which I get. Normally I would be okay with taking a 1 week vacation back home, but I do feel bad for my family that don’t get to see our daughter. I know it would mean a lot to them to see her for a decent amount of time knowing they may not see her for another 1-2 years, as that is typically how often I am able to make it home and they make it out to CA even less than that...1 time in the 7 years I’ve lived here to be exact. 

Am I being selfish for being adamant about wanting to stay for 2 weeks? I would miss her too if it were me in his situation. My mom misses her so much and asks me for pictures of her every day. Is 2 weeks really so selfish in this circumstance? I would love more than anything to let them see her as long as possible and I have the chance to! Especially when making a trip across country for it. My fiancé just doesn’t agree and thinks I am being selfish. Just want to know if most people would agree with that? I am open to hearing honest feedback (as long as it’s respectfully given). I just need to know if I am acting in the wrong for wanting this.",3.2204401088929195,4.2261273575317615,4.516188294010892,87.2185292649728,73.06533575317604,7.833049001814882,24.30131578947368,8.238735603445708,1.2050765517241384,2078,58,457,32,40,688,219,551,0.062,0.845,0.094,0.904,2,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,6,0,6,2,28,24,0,0,23,1,47,2,1,5,2,82,89,43,0,19,11,10,3,3,3,7,0,1,4,1,24,30,0,0,10,0,0,6,10,8,1,0,7,9,77,16,82,68,14,68,0,3,4,1,65,21,0,11,37,321,101,2,0.05461248306845853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053366686393371165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057265950247397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04494142028021293,0.0,0.051055299525701134,0.0,0.0,0.04199362845224552,0.04559914219722115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05726014945130719,0.0,0.0,0.04360362387197198,0.0,0.0,0.07044106720231293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036071030004122144,0.0,0.046013372402257016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089027319025086,0.0,0.05522742472185253,0.03901516881619686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658040683970828,0.0,0.11413107342462148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06155223753252406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21912309338942929,0.05424251825056274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06165084593000372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005436981842325,0.0,0.0,0.0578267341494473,0.0,0.0558449640464312,0.0,0.08004270193252795,0.10947211049737056,0.24111911548260456,0.09666065792193293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046429580143927576,0.04928989818298052,0.0,0.10936276956323113,0.0,0.0,0.059489004259573326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792296024225172,0.0435911629517632,0.0,0.04014645884815608,0.08098892840600341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350863807901558,0.0,0.0,0.0573066141718693,0.0,0.0,0.04153525430630072,0.0,0.0,0.060640699495888475,0.0,0.0,0.037861419406768126,0.04768551371370727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156736898332165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0349861550862057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174076313214171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045176010344057084,0.061386719142290186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04204335759061832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34925784317333103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053089533005176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034993473994851934,0.10731297466407756,0.0,0.12737991223669295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685352088692529,0.1970762786210143,0.04716765077847318,0.0,0.045061018013393225,0.161059287372113,0.04334884705789637,0.481875237176524,0.0,0.04910318097409394,0.0,0.0,0.060972887021726624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039758538105371936,0.0,0.0,0.23277084637887485,0.05971017702413961,0.0,0.07033729711099239
parenting,anon3104570,2020/02/11,"I am a yeller.... I hate that I have to say that.....I am deeply deeply ashamed of myself and I’m officially tired of being this type of mother! I understand I am not alone in this type of struggle but it’s eating me up inside and I need to do better for my sons. I have to do better! 
Please, fellow parents who have had issues with yelling senselessly at their children just to get them to do the simplest tasks....I need recommendations for any and all parenting books or anything that you have heard of and/or used yourself that made ANY improvements. Thank you in advance.",3.2570270270270285,5.423880693693694,3.834495495495496,87.34147297297298,75.39639639639641,6.602162162162162,24.613513513513517,7.554174236665415,1.1576767567567567,451,15,89,6,10,142,73,111,0.071,0.767,0.162,0.9103,2,1,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,2,2,3,1,6,1,2,2,0,12,2,0,2,1,14,22,5,0,2,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,7,4,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,3,14,3,17,18,1,5,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,0,60,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20686060246578414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716472306722134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436121516668092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532908610171848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437420382574434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435096287225966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971925565787853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846679073077992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18898986495593975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961953272695941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4435542533171825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924415348600615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158833740933755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20880172514944964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18388504534760325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22956087263255134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079265346136284,0.0,0.17250305731705645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ttoc,2020/02/11,"4 year old becomes a different child at daycare. My child recently turned 4 and for the most part is well-behaved and agreeable. He has the occasional tantrum and is sometimes defiant, but nothing that sticks out beyond normal four year old behaviour. He is a very active child, but is very capable of sitting for stories, meals, and activities that he is engaged in. Back in September, his daycare went under new management and became a revolving door of new teachers. It seems they had a problem with teacher retention that set off some red flags. I’d always receive feedback that my child is busy and requires a lot of teacher energy. I kept my child at the centre because he was happy there and always excited to go. I kept receiving feedback that behaviour was escalating and my child was having a difficult time at transitions. My child was even sent home early one day because he was not listening. I tried to offer suggestions of strategies we use at home such as providing a quiet area to refocus, but the daycare workers said they didn’t have the staffing to make that work. I decided to pull my child out of that centre and enrolled him in a Montessori preschool program that is highly structured and requires a lot of self regulation. I knew it would be a big adjustment for him, but I was also optimistic that he would learn some skills to get him ready for kindergarten. He’s only been at this new school for a month and I’m hearing reports that he is very defiant and I’ve been told that there are concerns in my child’s ability to be successful at kindergarten. 

As someone who has actually taught kindergarten and works in the school system, I’m actually shocked that my child does not show “kindergarten readiness.” He won’t start until September, but he can write his name, dress himself, he is potty trained and never has accidents, he knows the alphabet and letter sounds, he can count past 20, he knows his shapes and colours, and he is engaged when I read stories or activities with him. We even practice doing our own calendar at home because of concerns that he doesn’t sit still at his daycare. When I observe him on play dates or at birthday parties his behaviour seems appropriate and comparable to the other children, and he takes dance classes where he is able to focus and follow directions.
I find myself so frustrated picking my child up each day and hearing negative reports about his behaviour and I’m so terrified when daycare and preschool teachers suggest that my child will not be able to handle the expectations in kindergarten.
Has anyone else been through this? Am I blind to my son’s behaviour or does it sound like daycare/preschool may have some unrealistic expectations for a 4 year old? How can I correct behaviours that I just don’t see at home? I’m trying to offer special rewards for good days, but even with incentives, the bad days outnumber the good days. I just feel so frustrated. Has anyone had a child that struggled in daycare but was successful in kindergarten? Is the Montessori school expecting too much? Is it maybe not a good fit?Is a month enough time to come to the conclusion that a child will not succeed in kindergarten? Please share your stories and experiences so I don’t feel so alone.",8.325253540429422,8.417334417085431,7.712690726359067,71.98830516217456,61.613065326633155,10.988457438708696,40.033957667123495,10.570968289372207,4.3898837520938025,2625,131,442,56,33,822,273,597,0.092,0.773,0.135,0.9804,1,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,3,1,2,11,24,23,3,1,29,0,52,2,0,4,2,88,83,47,0,7,17,1,2,1,0,6,1,7,5,16,25,33,1,4,12,4,0,9,12,8,0,2,21,13,44,15,62,53,11,74,0,0,4,0,70,31,0,12,31,288,69,21,0.1613989952404002,0.0,0.15750213726966575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358034183944166,0.0,0.06453535909094857,0.13429689344394788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128539301856459,0.08268617193731237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062052932387225486,0.06738070969259959,0.14758099417085244,0.08912625488398587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951547157794616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26022249931080904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431379900059309,0.0,0.0,0.14124134838350974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741407512831585,0.0,0.0,0.0833841533771511,0.0,0.15990377124916086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893959369207865,0.0,0.0,0.08160818149074348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375787883019516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042162156757621166,0.0,0.04586338421821217,0.20306072952627705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590611581776376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18190839775760884,0.0,0.0,0.08526344994561215,0.323792703791636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870066683574736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039425698248154166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721565407069966,0.0,0.0,0.05386754130335236,0.0,0.08107349210919934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882713816465405,0.0,0.05932341615405105,0.0,0.06224042753091993,0.2338202330159645,0.0,0.0,0.0790683735420849,0.07743334444406863,0.0,0.25404164290721154,0.0,0.05468406810686153,0.06137560439879719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873896918140425,0.07703680181697052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885838147826645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721852051731835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072133605034419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968101824001382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676370223581781,0.0,0.0,0.24501659979659926,0.06430705140412099,0.1469315835445308,0.08418717592432949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837642245382748,0.0,0.07981386662718898,0.0,0.05711951977361239,0.0,0.06444672304328254,0.0,0.0,0.08436463665207952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067597903399466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941130520610152,0.0,0.0,0.07711182827709608,0.0,0.10957932325993623,0.08777787996668115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969845551568075,0.0,0.19975661121527505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255853998061025,0.07480924278759535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750039078776715,0.0,0.0,0.11465321545538106,0.0,0.0,0.15590349189134714
parenting,sk1ttl3s,2020/02/11,"Needing advice regarding 5yr old twins. Today we had our conferences regarding our daughters. We'll call them A and B because it's easier. A isn't having trouble at all in class except; she's a loner. She would much rather play alone than with other kids. She's a perfectionist to a tee, never gets reprimanded but on the off chance she does she melts down within seconds to a complete puddle of tears. We've also seen this behavior at home. 

B on the other hand is very strong willed and demanding. She wants her way and no other option to it. Also seeing this at home. For instance she doesn't get whatever toy she will instantly start throwing a temper tantrum. 

To be honest I'm more frustrated with B, I think A being a loner is just who she is but they (her teachers) seem to think it's an issue. She has 3 sisters (yep 4 girls total) around constantly so I can imagine if she gets that little breaks she's using it. 

Back to B, I can't stand this behavior. It's insanely frustrating. No I don't spank regularly in fact I try not to because I understand that it's not actually teaching them anything other than hitting. I've had conversations about what it means to be a 'big girl' (they turn five tomorrow in fact, so still very young and immature 5yr olds still) we play, we practice sharing and rules. But she doesn't seem to think any rule at home or school applies to her. How do I curb this?! 

Thank you!",2.559784946236558,4.8342401039426575,4.004157706093192,84.75956989247312,78.06810035842294,7.1440860215053785,24.31182795698925,8.167268648758528,1.5905827956989254,1115,39,216,21,27,368,163,279,0.114,0.768,0.11800000000000001,0.2647,0,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,6,1,4,1,12,11,4,0,13,1,21,1,1,2,5,41,41,15,0,5,10,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,19,11,0,1,8,3,0,1,10,5,0,2,3,3,34,6,31,30,4,30,0,0,2,0,36,15,0,5,11,148,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.1308106204579137,0.0,0.0,0.13098926208449307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883235572076993,0.0,0.21439481420388626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115661587973184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030933110858064,0.11933032712727222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307393572581404,0.0,0.1634277201985461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687706326376065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405458204428854,0.14485728002517675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117305509224462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010221121756648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033804735952005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991033237704167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435039667990173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601657507202276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985400326537538,0.09939421655973343,0.10338537729104844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813197374707651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566280854972804,0.10681817326185758,0.24406286722847645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487921816643627,0.0,0.21410035378344688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341254798216607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576758824355965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706096483017246,0.0,0.0,0.0910091730402902,0.14580473814476005,0.0,0.13954774506683065,0.0,0.1157736443328944,0.0,0.22120577076277295,0.07906444499558782,0.10640033833977564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522320465743783,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nintendofan63,2020/02/11,"HELP NEEDED IN BANNING A BORDERLINE-CP TRENDING(CHILD P$RN AND CHILD ABUSE) VIDEO ON YOUTUBE(13M VIEWS)  

People,the world needs your help!

Please help me in banning the video below as it contains borderline-CP(child-p$rn) stuff and child abuse  and is trending with NEARLY 13 MILLION VIEWS!

Please try to spread awareness to ban the account pertaining to the video below, I have reported and asked my friends to report this video, but to no avail! [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g6X6nyYidBw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g6X6nyYidBw) 

If not possible plz help me to spread the message in any ways possible!

P.S:-I am really new to reddit and have not been able to find the reddit for reporting child abuse or anything of that sort, so I am trying to literally post this on any group with large number of members!, If you could help me, It would be appreciated",8.441869398207423,11.140849000000001,5.482573623559542,78.74776568501923,62.521126760563384,8.262227912932138,29.810499359795127,8.841846274778883,2.4413577464788734,706,24,110,11,11,193,90,142,0.09300000000000001,0.745,0.162,0.8386,0,0,0,0,3,0,45.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,23,12,11,0,6,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,7,0,4,1,4,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,8,1,23,8,0,12,0,0,2,0,14,9,0,4,1,66,14,3,0.14287302126776644,0.507843502298924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943171075734814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757232293301265,0.0,0.1335669884451854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407248179876214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058335307571994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038334181962346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788238726087496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118770698651396,0.0,0.13798765423855588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136633467778985,0.0,0.32213572882698155,0.13683286062367092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152811589692712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355542728073694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400280601877565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134059540906129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149289508138233,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redcanoelake,2020/02/11,"Separate Bedrooms with Newborn? We are contemplating if we should change our guest bedroom to something more useful...ie an exercise room.

 but I'm wondering if once the baby is here it would come in handy for my husband? I will be on a long maternity leave and my husband will continue to work full time in a stressful job, and he does poorly on little sleep night after night. 

what did your families do? would you suggest keeping the spare bedroom he can get good sleep for the first while?",5.2101242236024845,7.001268086956525,5.311801242236027,80.38847826086958,69.21739130434783,8.300621118012423,31.62111801242236,8.841846274778883,2.7033552795031057,392,17,70,7,7,123,73,92,0.071,0.888,0.040999999999999995,-0.4329,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,2,0,2,1,2,0,1,6,0,11,3,2,0,0,14,16,6,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,5,1,0,4,1,2,6,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,8,1,10,9,2,16,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,3,8,47,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135853250070537,0.1739205164403969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668561901399252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903350409596404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173756136945315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548535327569876,0.0,0.0,0.1693456441965073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035637487754984,0.17945958980301166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378484570420014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20235863736580398,0.0,0.17867673268648887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789423096993997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501881941360887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040952066740144,0.0,0.0,0.15543386372413284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231277820898644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177305587280699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218953881170844,0.14698690941658069,0.0,0.0,0.2868504807766869,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katdays,2020/02/11,"My 3yo hates pooping So my 3yo is pretty well potty trained she asked us to help get her on the toilet. Accidents here and there but over all we are good. Accept she hates pooping to the point where she will hold it and refuse to poop and cries while sitting on the toilet. 

My husbands approach to this is to force her to sit there for 10 min or more and sometimes will yell at her to push it out. 

My approach is to try to get her to relax and sit for 2-5 min and just keep trying. 

Neither approach is working and we can’t seem to unify on this. So I try to be proactive and get her lots of water and healthy foods (another struggle is selective eating) 

Can anyone help, tips or suggestions?",3.084197292069636,4.4929489219858185,3.803417150225663,90.62454545454548,73.9645390070922,6.2620245003223705,25.58413926499033,6.574015621080383,0.8290510638297865,542,18,114,4,11,172,85,141,0.1,0.736,0.16399999999999998,0.8922,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,1,9,7,2,1,3,0,11,6,3,0,1,23,19,15,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,12,3,3,2,1,0,4,2,3,1,0,0,1,16,4,21,16,4,18,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,4,3,80,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970774350668061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314159909451422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570384204966652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20644950664127648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923153535759329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272646649390437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945815853239262,0.0,0.0,0.15763992120222062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37111490130452746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519520580999968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705475791690347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15978469800053444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766941908688402,0.0,0.0,0.1912083264841831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109869032367495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858830854489735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19648163441223335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828083433943415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260755145384505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898573966185956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682669505984033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,duderUP,2020/02/11,"Dear grandma I get it, you are grandma. But I’m dad my work is law if I tell my little girl no.. it’s no! I don’t compromise. No candy means no candy. I know I’m fighting a battle as old as time but. She’s my kid end of story. 
Thank you for your time all.",-4.128807692307692,-3.493855649999997,-0.02333333333333165,103.45038461538459,122.16666666666669,2.5128205128205128,11.28205128205128,4.713530739802397,-1.6956410256410257,191,4,51,1,13,70,41,60,0.152,0.758,0.08900000000000001,-0.1511,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,3,0,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,9,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,11,2,4,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,4,29,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31018566242120044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297236484102405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19246846013135724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35100644094214994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814857239067621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674906894828882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061024796524921,0.32243000620259954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084252092938222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25495996914693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monduras,2020/02/11,"My 8 yr old still constantly wets the bed We’ve never really tried to take him out of diapers when he sleeps. Every time we have tried he would be drenched by 10 pm. I’m getting worried and it’s costing us a lot to keep getting large diapers. Have you also went through this? How did you deal with this? 


Every night his diaper is full. He’s never had a dry diaper. It’s very frustrating! I’ve tried waking him up and going middle of the night but he still goes in the morning before waking up.",1.1690106951871684,3.4325485392156883,3.1812655971479518,88.77024064171125,83.21568627450979,6.454188948306596,20.057040998217467,7.686295010490155,0.837360784313725,389,11,80,7,11,131,72,102,0.046,0.9540000000000001,0.0,-0.5185,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,5,0,7,3,3,1,2,12,14,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,3,1,8,0,11,9,2,18,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,10,47,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623778694346826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560540450872448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761306384385613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852670397881885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30814480017188944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19107976104414012,0.0,0.10392689998605777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253960607694487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546604115908605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820748968859037,0.0,0.0,0.3432145020059242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191886991222274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714857230604525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299795453247397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920738734970517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749239207075492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663057159488708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37246180901494813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199651511572074,0.0,0.0,0.15088351131809094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951851298692072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857091888046483,0.0,0.1299026822684805,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,easpina2021,2020/02/11,"Shower time is my least favorite time This may be silly but I need some help. I am 23F and am a step mother to a beautiful 5 year old girl. Long story short, I came into hers and her fathers life a little over three years ago and don’t have any kids myself so a lot of parenting things I don’t know rather I’m doing them right or if I’m being too hard on her etc.  

Right now, our biggest daily obstacle is shower/bed time. When I was her age, I was able to completely bathe myself from start to finish. However in the last 6-8 months of trying to solo bathe her, she just can’t get it. She can’t wash her own hair and she can never seem to get all the soap/conditioner out without help. Despite showing her numerous ways. 

I don’t know what else to do .. are your 5 year olds able to handle bath time by themselves or is it normal to have to still bathe them at this age?",1.5618445945945965,3.1255894918918936,3.270726351351353,92.20717060810811,78.4054054054054,6.138513513513514,19.130067567567565,6.9077264865688965,0.06754729729729725,676,14,153,7,16,225,121,185,0.037000000000000005,0.8859999999999999,0.077,0.8364,4,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,2,0,7,1,0,0,6,0,21,3,1,0,2,24,31,10,0,4,7,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,5,2,6,7,0,0,3,5,0,2,7,0,0,1,3,2,24,1,20,25,6,35,0,0,0,0,21,11,0,7,21,100,30,0,0.3047542413166217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507312355423173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103621667281766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427883230498425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597645119141992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729153170495716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994076860678234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922151282048408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364999701931442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20427034401082966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748496101566926,0.12420769083990005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762846664779037,0.0,0.15272190580556042,0.0,0.13484895675425487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295455789262954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162596394693452,0.0,0.0,0.11298570420465236,0.11752262920320668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929722551906996,0.0,0.0,0.31978831108045663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919675987459507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602584569355103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871840776290906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078533102826883,0.0,0.12168856539127802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012325881606485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554092977608216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345406263009864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094986580741415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688610672438052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943776094714291
parenting,TitansAllTheWay,2020/02/11,"6 yr old has two modes on the weekends: Glued to a screen, or begging us to play with him . Most of the week, this is not a problem, since his schedule naturally limits screen time or gives him something else to do. School, extra classes, eating time, some errand with us...

The problem is the weekends, when we sometimes stay at home for like 4 or 5 hours before doing something else outside.

So, he can play an hour or so of iPad, or watch a show. We then play with him for another hour or so... then, his mom and I have to do stuff around the house, and the drama starts: ""What can I dooooo? I wanna play with yoooou....""

Now, we do give him a lot of activities to choose from: play with his sister, draw, sing, read, WHATEVER he wants. But he'd do it for like 10 minutes and the drama starts again. Also, we don't want to turn these other activities into ""iPad alternatives"", but actual things he could enjoy.

My ""nuclear option"" is to just go ahead and fill his weekend with other stuff to do, baseball team, art classes, whatever...

I'd appreciate your advice on this. Also if you have some reading material on the matter, I'd love to read it.

Thanks!!",4.115625000000001,5.2377321696428565,4.988750000000003,84.23125000000002,71.05357142857143,7.564285714285713,25.607142857142854,7.865858978985527,1.3229875,882,26,178,11,16,287,130,224,0.005,0.846,0.15,0.9824,0,0,2,0,0,0,56.0,6,2,0,3,10,12,0,0,13,0,17,2,0,0,0,41,27,21,0,7,11,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,16,1,1,1,17,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,3,21,10,30,25,5,28,0,0,3,1,26,6,0,12,21,122,32,7,0.0,0.0,0.1163815579698051,0.0,0.0,0.11654049453586365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19074599914250065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505558454022325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616759813158014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148234931394157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522022506959704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203380335930085,0.1992545683134154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288120870436248,0.06777878956581387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962853323700227,0.0,0.35234426253370243,0.1376112119529174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652982659686888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139145966795388,0.10763773241466287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967707250206407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514438514202267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282333910565845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578798998082899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069852556548726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986539532892502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836259290840073,0.1179522044169172,0.0,0.16882713636725766,0.12711638575398138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730506841167873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979952970874313,0.0,0.0,0.07923172650617989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908412690808394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972174984924986,0.11650069330099055,0.0,0.2869126606123517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068648640902914,0.0,0.09566400151038837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deekinator,2020/02/11,"Need some advice for how to handle the situation with my son's (2) mom Okay so I'm more of trying to figure out what is right and wrong in this situation. I've been personally all around this situation and I have no handle on how it should really be handled. 

Quick background: my youngest one's mom and I are very cordial and have remained good friends since our breakup last year so I care about her and her needs as much as I do for mine. She's a dispatcher that works night shift (5 days one week, 2 days the next) and also has class on Wednesday and Thursday. I just have a regular job from 8-5 every day (no weekends) and have my older son (7) with me on the same days I'd have the youngest (different moms). I live with my parents still and she lives with her best friend. 

The dilemma is that she gets our son on her off days, but she asks me to watch him on nights she needs to study and sometimes when she goes out to dinner. I'm her main source because her dad is unable to watch him, her mom lives in another state, and her brother is usually busy. So I'm pretty much the only stable person for her to go to if she needs a babysitter. 

Usually on her long work weeks, though, she only sees him once as she has class that comes right after work until it's almost time to pick him up from school. So I pick him up that day. 

Then on her weekends she will sometimes ask me to watch him for the night to either study or go out. Now it's mainly studying, she doesn't go out much, but nonetheless she asks me to watch him. One of the times coming up is her birthday. She is gonna spend the day with him, but go out at night,  when I will be watching him. 

To clarify, I don't mind watching him at all. I didn't get to spend much time with my oldest one when he was this age so I enjoy it alot and bond with him well. It's just my parents telling me she is taking advantage of me and her father tells her she doesn't spend enough time with him. To kind of give a picture, in the timeframe of February 7 to March 15 she would only see him on 11 of those days. Unfortunately I have enabled this and just don't know how to handle it. She isn't a bad mom at all. She loves him and takes care of him and makes sure he has everything he needs from clothes to medicine to school stuff. She's on top of things but I don't know how to approach this without making her feel like she is a horrible mom that her father seems to make her out to be. 

So help please?",3.386152565880721,3.9838188330097104,4.148183079056866,91.52990291262137,72.32038834951456,7.28377253814147,24.22884882108183,7.225922671290522,0.6827431345353672,1909,49,443,18,35,611,220,515,0.025,0.858,0.11699999999999999,0.9937,4,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,2,0,0,7,24,16,0,0,17,1,35,2,0,9,4,74,70,42,0,8,11,15,1,1,2,5,0,0,0,2,20,33,1,0,5,2,3,7,10,2,1,4,3,9,80,14,78,59,16,78,0,0,8,1,84,29,0,6,42,296,100,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166582906258089,0.0,0.0,0.06319090415438304,0.0,0.0,0.05046533492215833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617147396097063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561771509932291,0.17698498367036447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05269034107546603,0.03846844274666654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622518377336735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868024393359986,0.0,0.0,0.10871936268329722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255819015679534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593167164574194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652047077238429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05316898891258325,0.0,0.05671503000504116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03190796696052069,0.04508248298073415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751009176165204,0.0,0.06593989378180491,0.0605364131295257,0.1434569251857052,0.05292978334889617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229819371843696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262233413298303,0.0,0.0,0.06571452325680248,0.06936211284385026,0.051439292315357175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030830092133354338,0.0,0.16716957147541273,0.05584625926138551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695505269821734,0.0,0.1263699567926391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371842596267559,0.4434494213111503,0.0,0.0,0.18555880727163454,0.23395913033803045,0.0,0.0,0.06711326804278296,0.2368804281832626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720515063435259,0.17104730496841314,0.14398341354249686,0.0,0.0,0.1401420722202937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020233543284358,0.0,0.06927073692097271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420083959779505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04042691058613092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077832681158658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773199007382652,0.10057360593258356,0.05744875118590469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052201407280030115,0.2127992115589548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482563256825488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050396023340187585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224054127805746,0.0,0.0,0.05947605654562304,0.0,0.09489475682207413,0.0,0.11031373514885516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041924398231892576,0.0,0.06200069742998007,0.0,0.14718897546110624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04284439822410272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390032808257929,0.05206853229967335,0.0,0.0,0.10123862933783408,0.0,0.056739298783848924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060831316722563124,0.0,0.13782436461457984,0.0,0.0,0.04482823834375861,0.06899580653230139,0.0,0.040637783920093484
parenting,m0rdecai665,2020/02/12,"How do you Parents with kids with ADD or ADHD help your child cope if you don't put them on medication? Need some advice, meds are LAST resort. The title pretty much sums it up. Im a single father with sole custody of my daughter. My 6 yr. old is struggling with not listening/focusing and talking most times the teacher has asked everyone to not talk and she tells me over and over ""she can't stop talking"". I see it in her at home. New therapist is going to help with this but im at my wit's end helping her try to focus and be quiet when she needs to. Anyone else have any strategies or anything you do with your kids to help with the ADD/ADHD? Some of the pro tips I see on Reddit are amazing so hopefully someone has something effective. Everyone I've asked just tells me to spank her but I feel like that's unfair if she really can't control her talking or focus. I also grew up and still deal with ADD myself but I don't have the hyperactivity she does. Thanks Reddit!",1.5327183536731257,3.82810248241206,3.2856137832017254,88.38450586264658,81.96482412060301,5.800526441732472,21.536491983728165,7.07126945348624,0.6825848767647766,770,24,156,10,21,256,119,199,0.028999999999999998,0.802,0.16899999999999998,0.9824,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,5,1,2,6,5,0,1,6,0,15,1,0,3,0,37,25,17,0,5,11,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,4,15,0,2,2,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,4,26,4,25,24,5,20,0,0,2,0,34,9,0,9,9,102,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28528052420688105,0.11598082509254255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491498406521967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071210841355568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298961326125434,0.1216101808743908,0.09767035124701433,0.0,0.22191506216781834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311901151510386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223624172522204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038649239735246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914883804331474,0.0,0.10512259797637433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22682349816465394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001236651421892,0.08479093937129689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745329139819109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31821704058563405,0.0,0.11905403391924395,0.11788425414734012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564074442971273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674679892582178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798510419241721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183593582090464,0.11956596733892053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724955091705508,0.17601172893987074,0.0,0.11462989180634005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454339671610135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178930222273805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207486619636572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931451517719174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603475890940482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891584038666791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056420447735624,0.09137204560683412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947846231410638,0.09922872644807426,0.0,0.1240787725720312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38158861243951386,0.20747759684898265,0.10927223280723478,0.0,0.137806254669884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920809740991518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058155922272663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Im-a-bum-throwaway-,2020/02/12,"I’m worried that I’m a bum and a horrible good for nothing son I’m worried that I’m a moocher, lazy, and a good for nothing son. And I would like to know you’re guys opinion. Cause this has caused me a lot of worrying. 


Some background. I’m almost 21 years old will be 21 in a month. I’m a full time college student at a community college. I’m currently taking 16 credits. I currently live at home with my mom and my siblings. I only go to class twice a week Tuesday and Thursday, because I take lots of online classes. I don’t currently work either. I used to have a job last semester that was actually my first job but I only worked a measly 4 hours per week. I know that’s horrible. It also didn’t pay well good too. But that’s neither here or there. 


I don’t really contribute to house work at all, other then occasionally cleaning the dishes. But to be fair no one really contributes the house either.  My mom works full time 7 days per week mostly. She’s a radiologist at a hospital. My gpa is currently a 2.8 which is pretty bad right now, but that’s mainly due to two D’s I have on my gpa. Which I plan on retaking hopefully. Despite my bad gpa I’m pretty confident that I’m moving through my eduction. I’m almost done with my time at community college I only got about a semester or two left and will hopefully transfer to a 4 year university. It has guaranteed admission as long as you complete the credit requirements for you’re degree. So it’s pretty set in stone for me that I will be able to transfer as long as my gpa stays above like 2.7 and I don’t fuck up. 


However I only have a vague idea what I’m doing, I’m majoring in business but I’m not sure if I even want to do that, or what I’m gonna do with the degree. But it’s still something at least,  I do have some ideas. But I admit I need to work on it.

I also don’t have my driving license either. I take the public buss to class, using bus money that my mom gives me. 


My family has been through a lot. My dad is kinda crazy and is very violent. He has hurt us in the past and almost hurt my brother so much that he could have died. I don’t want to go to much in to my family because I just feel uncomfortable by typing these words out. But it’s definitely a lot of stress that my mom and my family has gone through.  


That’s pretty much it for my living situation. I fully admit that I’m depressed and maybe have some anxiety as well. I admit that I have thought about suicide a good amount of time. I have quite a bit of free time as well but to be honest I don’t use the free time at all. I just sit there and freak out about everything just worry all day about things. I wish I could do things I like, like playing video games and stuff like that but I just can’t. I can’t focus on anything. 

Every single time I do stuff like I just think “you’re a bum” “you’re a loser with no job” and “you’re mooching of you’re mom.” I cant stop thinking about stuff like that 


I feel like I don’t deserve anything that my mom has provided for me. I feel like I deserved to be kicked out and thrown on the streets. I feel like if this was any other family they would have had enough of my laziness and kicked me out a long time ago. 


I want to know what you guys think. Are my thoughts correct? Are they rational? Am I truly a bum and a lazy good for nothing idiot? Sorry for the extremely long post, I just felt like I needed to explain everything and not lie and hide stuff. I want to know the honest opinion, to truly see how bad I’m doing.",1.2773635307781641,3.1594173170731743,3.3596546651180823,89.75351219512197,80.43631436314364,6.54776616337592,22.331475029036007,7.606543801992383,0.8767901045296163,2732,87,602,43,70,928,282,738,0.134,0.675,0.19,0.9897,8,0,1,0,0,1,65.0,1,2,2,10,26,42,3,1,36,0,58,2,0,6,5,114,115,46,2,15,26,10,5,11,0,6,0,0,2,2,41,27,1,2,20,3,6,5,16,13,3,5,11,6,80,31,76,91,27,73,0,4,1,1,27,27,1,21,48,380,121,26,0.04886084925144357,0.0,0.04768114060716893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04331219476645865,0.0,0.14678124777080814,0.0,0.0,0.07814800698688162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033227053000895936,0.0,0.03737841593932882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041663143954289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223903046177561,0.05957024038734706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053343392533569664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038710304319896,0.0,0.0,0.05122967082357969,0.0,0.0,0.07802282456757753,0.0,0.0,0.06302241121995124,0.0,0.04208377786376459,0.0,0.050709847389759324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05000161290874775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048631860504173,0.0,0.032272130112934214,0.0,0.041167372845489485,0.0,0.08782596148290063,0.0,0.18424664068014976,0.0,0.09882205394313524,0.1047186014042718,0.046914077685758726,0.0,0.0,0.041561013412701485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04517106779972405,0.0,0.04687177885080998,0.0555374932566165,0.2049108108240988,0.039078484669904164,0.0,0.0,0.09675984530141077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04901141566933469,0.09705969618474006,0.048118094244099734,0.11275771970594063,0.10461309937558247,0.1103159028837364,0.0,0.0,0.1454605605880092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074105797079738,0.039828113510604383,0.0,0.0,0.05308745567660887,0.0,0.0,0.2625803717617129,0.0,0.08629005012256066,0.17296125610507704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615898701229265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049087290417581496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34335141665468466,0.03900026371280926,0.051931350163611785,0.10775503860354343,0.07245940121274516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064990792345508,0.0,0.05127124200986049,0.0,0.03310937598149585,0.1486435104396592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04664320933083645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467951871966562,0.1988361979244178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0519695275797259,0.0,0.0,0.0626030223680497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041726898289588185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03893577081792244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492164174795516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037615468878875874,0.0,0.05469572044034388,0.0,0.052079164159180936,0.03902033732833485,0.040849857818208365,0.05596993773395119,0.0,0.22373593014855575,0.05344583864434084,0.0,0.046050772175086664,0.0,0.11021183348810593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492195426821959,0.09392417785711007,0.0,0.07758011299164526,0.22792923301646315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545989991916752,0.0,0.058773585571795676,0.12660025756434246,0.0,0.04031531775453357,0.11527757931781385,0.0,0.11757967808554387,0.0,0.13179531428743416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05618756528272,0.0,0.0,0.17785640092478452,0.19848225670761885,0.0,0.0694186908439488,0.0,0.0,0.0629295699041212
parenting,lauriscristina5,2020/02/12,"Might go crazy soon I have a 4 year old and he is amazing but I’m struggling right now. I’m in my first semester of nursing school (currently taking 15 credits) and I’m overwhelmed. Not to mention this past weekend he caught the stomach bug (woke up at 2 am throwing up allover) and today I picked him up from daycare and he had a cough. (I’ll be applying Vick’s, have the humidifier out too). I pick him up from school and I make his wash his hands before we leave and the moment we get home he gets in the bath (I know getting sick is normal especially in the daycare and school setting but still) I’ve got 2 test next week, and I’m just overwhelmed and needing to rant.",1.1567391304347865,3.4374009057971016,2.6197391304347843,92.66656521739132,83.42028985507247,5.1292753623188405,24.417391304347824,6.42735559955562,0.6604139130434783,527,21,113,5,15,171,91,138,0.107,0.856,0.038,-0.882,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,1,5,5,0,3,7,0,8,5,2,3,0,23,23,11,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,12,0,0,1,2,1,3,1,3,0,1,4,1,12,2,14,17,0,27,0,2,0,0,11,10,0,1,13,60,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161823977538206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155615906414889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976950710756616,0.0,0.10794279732177994,0.0,0.1519060621218516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905173963687396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438172265050352,0.0,0.0,0.2011106845973625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678116088130742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148795813439574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083225584246314,0.0,0.0,0.20199495787509825,0.0,0.1860931452247019,0.0,0.0,0.19930180352700602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131169399281485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220098750686568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766643178026464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516800315130585,0.0,0.0,0.1985582841408561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428053123163611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18003343580658987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15235208524931565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231005418844815
parenting,shutupyabitch,2020/02/12,"Anyone else find Mr. Noodles on Sesame Street, creepy as fuck? lol I just hate how he doesn’t talk and lives in Elmo’s window. In general he just looks like a creep",0.8288235294117641,3.2001227647058816,1.6073529411764724,98.67808823529413,86.05882352941177,4.576470588235295,14.382352941176471,5.985473137389443,-0.9108588235294116,130,2,29,1,4,40,31,34,0.187,0.675,0.138,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,6,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,4,0,4,0,0,1,1,4,4,1,0,1,11,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259309811982622,0.3799838545871818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30980101654854714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33895393204706675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34284864285939165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661416490836255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118058242534807,0.0,0.3274709677880311,0.0,0.3114240449809842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980784807217463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jellyfish070474,2020/02/12,"Anyone else’s kid(s) been sick ALL WINTER LONG? Cold after flu after upper respiratory infection after ear infection wash rinse repeat.  Endless rounds of antibiotics that are useless two days after they’re done.  5yo son and 16mo daughter just keep bouncing this shit back n forth, week after week after week.  And finally...finally...now I have it.  The constant illness and inability to get away from it is really suffocating and triggering my anxiety lately.  I know it will all pass eventually but we’ve had a grand total of about 10 days combined where neither kid, wife (and now I) have been sick and miserable, for pushing 3 months now.  Daughter is now coming out of her latest bout and son has started with the coughing fits again.  Another week down the tubes.  Another weekend spent cooped up comforting at least one constantly crying, miserable kid.  

This shit’s for the fckn birds.",6.471666666666668,8.60305938853503,6.5736464968152895,71.23567144373675,66.57961783439491,9.819320594479832,32.19161358811041,10.125756701596842,3.7182658174097662,712,30,110,18,12,227,114,157,0.179,0.777,0.044000000000000004,-0.9646,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,9,7,2,2,5,0,11,11,3,1,3,18,17,8,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,8,1,0,2,6,10,0,1,1,1,1,3,1,5,0,2,5,3,5,2,20,11,5,38,0,3,1,0,8,8,2,0,27,69,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361753674875264,0.1226284461769829,0.0,0.0,0.11208492498074347,0.16424546957811328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506063713629329,0.12326018704029078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808356348773632,0.0,0.34645296707302103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608113972871384,0.20675944038864075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640417321936626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390940910916652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374971380137883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424812907023514,0.0,0.0,0.08809624593199329,0.0,0.18082447522240572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418597441328974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794928889863086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862288378112744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269176964906304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32908964225236803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134605959797712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658902210166814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5143293837107784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tdg0420,2020/02/12,"Going to be a Dad! My beautiful wife and I just learned we are expecting our first child and we couldn’t be more excited!

But, like I’m sure with every other first time parent, we are scared out of our minds. We’ve been wanting this for some time but now that it’s real, it’s a combo of excitement/anxiety/nervousness/etc.

So, for all you parents out there, what’s the one thing you wish you knew before you became a first time parent?",3.0791653290529686,4.532655921348319,4.218009630818621,87.46707865168541,74.05617977528091,7.782343499197433,22.82664526484752,8.418075326091056,1.2215027287319415,343,9,72,6,7,112,64,89,0.023,0.8340000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.8407,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,4,0,3,4,4,0,1,4,0,6,0,0,0,2,22,11,5,0,4,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,2,0,11,3,8,6,3,10,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,8,51,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536150707096249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013351811846073,0.0,0.0,0.15210167479932873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4606681925141511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102597580979877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819631036073755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228067719012625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232967979879135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6013611786825922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20547910145406156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073889094526568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014443938218046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199340314052073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31580001055370616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647942575095032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20759699227041392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scidad18,2020/02/12,Help!! How do you trust anyone to watch your children if you dont have family or friends around to help. My (37M) and my wife (37F) have a daughter (2F) and have yet to get a night away or even a couple of hours but every situation we consider is either really expensive or involves trusting our child to a young inexperienced stranger. I guess my question is how do you interview a prospective babysitter too make sure they are not really stupid or make really bad decisions that may harm your child in an emergency,6.4898299319727855,7.047104989795918,6.914693877551024,74.57911564625853,65.42857142857143,11.02312925170068,32.65986394557823,10.864195022040775,3.6095047619047613,411,16,76,11,6,134,71,98,0.11900000000000001,0.7120000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.3887,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,5,1,0,6,7,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,4,1,21,14,10,0,1,8,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,12,4,8,13,1,7,0,0,1,0,19,3,0,8,4,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871198168438407,0.0,0.0,0.1893317938882204,0.0,0.0,0.19982144738486368,0.0,0.17758032616503722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353282430384515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24926135493403226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047424939566538,0.0,0.17919349543474694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049736771825152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16431734494388758,0.0,0.1111174041205166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342928578119688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851121053080231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944862169419504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28393335712842865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995873571906148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23825216559437304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4087480070084038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23906312887073886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004499744128582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AirCatcher,2020/02/12,"My 7yo just pulled a uno reverse dad joke on me. Homework time.. complaining etc.

Me:  Nicky, I’m getting upset.
Nicky:  Well, hello, Getting Upset!
Then he dabbed and walked away.
Nothing in my life has prepared me for this.",0.4919241192411938,2.2277082195121984,1.152520325203252,94.91355013550137,113.14634146341464,2.7978319783197843,21.628726287262868,5.033348758259628,0.1005913279132793,171,7,31,1,9,52,35,41,0.157,0.71,0.133,-0.2714,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,2,4,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,17,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905775071868041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.463631615960687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4343873920887993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29363148304187703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39888932564737295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24240649903964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737773086080437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,howl86,2020/02/12,"Sleep help Very recently my twins are going through sleep regression and are very stressed out . They are crying, screaming and not settling for almost 2 hours each night . We will lay with them in their beds until they fall asleep but is there anything I can do to help this process ? The stress is causing one of the twins to grind Thier teeth quite badly so second question is what can I do for the grinding ? I do it myself and it's not nice and can cause a lot of pain . I hate to see them so stressed out and its also putting a lot more pressure on my wife and me . Thanks for the help",4.385847457627119,5.2143902542372915,3.9625000000000017,92.92476694915257,70.1864406779661,6.5779661016949165,26.614406779661017,5.985473137389443,0.6867932203389828,462,14,100,2,8,138,79,118,0.23600000000000002,0.674,0.09,-0.9675,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,5,1,4,10,1,4,6,0,13,5,4,2,0,20,17,11,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,5,11,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,8,0,2,0,2,14,2,15,16,4,11,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,4,4,72,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009040810837673,0.0,0.0,0.1198647624235218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334441777918664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514957494618673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079509438718905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464408226944555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518436606988276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798260682688255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013987491904101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760872752160753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254857523188081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065901024319674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156746509681966,0.0,0.15949057888596324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067806370345702,0.16790799914644375,0.15942351742002064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799555554565955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944071509463833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999909503896547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5150859412549484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799602195504668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24734532183205374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mar9a7louwa,2020/02/12,"Browser for Children Hi everyone, we are currently working on a project that aims to design a web browser for children. I won't take much from your time we have a small [questionnaire](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSenhoMgFdmF1TxYPikyhkHIzJGmTwR3kpXw7e8CKFiknxBmqA/viewform?usp=sf_link) (less than 5 minutes) that will help us collect more data. Please be advised that everything is anonymous and we do not collect any e-mails and no personal Information is shared with us.",9.697065637065638,13.6601222972973,6.232857142857148,69.20500000000004,62.51351351351353,8.552895752895754,37.5984555984556,9.23628265651192,4.1036239382239375,406,20,54,8,7,111,61,74,0.033,0.852,0.115,0.6682,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,9,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,7,6,3,4,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,2,35,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193403632350822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717590291582342,0.25560286621022865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062917799720785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20906875560572485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24832952391272756,0.0,0.3121888307195031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21383548443762468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583753900448311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6842030158714734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070485996743069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MlntyFreshDeath,2020/02/12,"Advice Request: Bringing my 4 y/o son home after two years and I need help preparing. Hi everyone. 

I've been locked in a battle with immigration trying to get my SO and our son here from abroad.

We finished up recently and we are looking at flights and getting ready for the big move to the US.

I've been here building a life for us the last two years while we went through the process. 

Well now the time has come and my boy is on his way. I've gotten him furniture, some clothes, and some toys but now I've hit a mental block. 

A few things on my checklist to get are:
Booster seat
Bedroom heater (we will live in the Sierra Mountain area) 
Training potty

I don't know my son very well, we FaceTime almost daily but he's he's own little person now and I missed it all. 

I was hoping some folks here could give me a little advice on 4 year olds and the things I might be overlooking. I want this to be perfect for him.

I have an okay job but I'll be supporting everyone on just my salary for a long while so I gotta budget and keep costs low. Just a bit to keep in mind.

Thank you in advance ☺️",1.2652292490118562,3.1756861869565256,2.6985770750988145,94.33581027667984,80.6086956521739,5.5731225296442695,21.758893280632414,6.574015621080383,0.2824782608695653,853,26,192,8,22,277,142,230,0.049,0.828,0.12300000000000001,0.9412,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,8,1,0,2,12,10,1,0,15,1,15,1,0,0,2,37,35,16,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,4,16,0,3,1,1,2,5,1,3,2,2,5,1,27,7,23,22,7,36,0,2,1,0,23,15,0,6,15,118,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518265415418753,0.0,0.0,0.12902726754839475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406736681605614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109951066878014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287831735919233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462483649243649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019604980562904,0.12360715640657112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086367182599397,0.0,0.12924966516909212,0.12797970699243172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278663245732484,0.2290602250271112,0.0,0.0,0.07081401992413693,0.10503206784094284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101240296897922,0.0,0.2582883147235009,0.11377920769531345,0.11403049745405495,0.10820373279057173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298531157216994,0.13669224764163193,0.13010439563204876,0.0,0.0,0.13694992337520487,0.0,0.09554257122754266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520912979308589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250912143631027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722639895531998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622040505778425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186301634448966,0.0,0.0,0.17120788568734685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513498806171533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748245822065566,0.0,0.2517405370387444,0.0,0.3099876284820113,0.0,0.0,0.10631689066307172,0.07600060274148145,0.10227719736945944,0.0,0.0,0.2317079264068163,0.119447652385301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489305520437659
parenting,physicsgal89,2020/02/12,SO as the flu! How do I keep my 4mo from getting it? We just got confirmation that my SO is in the early stages of the respiratory flu. What do we need to do to minimize the risk of spreading it to our 4mo? He has been in close contact with LO as recently as this morning. Is it already too late?,0.865714285714283,2.6608205714285766,3.4891269841269827,88.74892857142858,81.38095238095238,6.73968253968254,24.785714285714285,7.793537801064563,1.2110761904761909,228,9,53,4,6,80,44,63,0.145,0.855,0.0,-0.8744,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,4,0,7,2,0,1,0,8,11,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,12,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4615018464351484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849590732321905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344783581866108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717216152215802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717557348752877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31009520657653683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129289798165457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PeachPancakes,2020/02/12,"Advice on iPad Case Hi parents!

My son has asked for Osmo for his birthday. We were excited that he was asking for something rather educational, so we are more than happy to oblige. 

With that being said, we are in the market for an iPad case that is heavy duty enough to withstand the terror of a 6 year old, but also is easy to get the iPad in and out of so he can play his Osmo games without frustration. 

Any suggestions?",4.185714285714287,5.325229952380956,5.181904761904762,82.84642857142858,70.90476190476191,7.504761904761906,24.714285714285715,7.793537801064563,1.246514285714286,332,9,65,4,6,109,62,84,0.024,0.8140000000000001,0.162,0.9179,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,4,5,1,1,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,13,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,6,3,16,9,2,6,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,2,47,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26894160879000706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220093179130344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871589055195544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.514586732647628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28437563011008954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379098916454736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929766007875675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887968890570867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055990240870826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617970598580875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21187765239924936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26530207138831696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723253139172515
parenting,radlebaby,2020/02/12,"Daughters first job My daughter is getting ready to turn 16 and start a real job.  We explained that when she starts working she needs to put x amount aside, just to get use to saving, and that she'll also need to make sure she puts enough aside for gas money and car insurance.  She says there's no point in working if she can't spend money as she sees fit.  Are we being unfair or no?",3.1586497890295355,4.429465898734178,3.5855063291139264,92.80754219409285,73.55696202531647,5.772995780590718,22.02742616033755,5.46131890053228,0.030137552742615537,302,7,65,1,6,94,60,79,0.091,0.821,0.08800000000000001,-0.0516,2,0,0,0,0,1,6.0,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,1,16,16,8,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,0,2,10,2,8,14,2,10,0,0,1,0,13,3,0,2,4,38,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141054209207867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855359895847694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168411488642082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109050503129013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4005880438549468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472907202217815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29932206028952035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19080305578357426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058078029275281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22973692280510954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605104409243796,0.0,0.0,0.16083951764883206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857253071980223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023082960483714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195428271987812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432405500234585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938823311784227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,egyptian-god2,2020/02/12,"Are my parents too controlling? As you can probably tell by the title, I (17m) believe that it parents are too controlling and they have been this way since around when I was middle school. 

So back to my current situation, I will be attending a college and living on campus so I won't be around them as often, but here are some examples on how they control us.

There is an alarm on every door and window on the house. We are question everything the alarm beeps and the alarm is set at 10:30 each night. There are 3 cameras in the house. One in the living room, one in the kitchen, and one in my dads closet, which used to be in the basement where I sleep. Our dads room had a lock as does his closet where he keeps anything electronic such as our phones(which I bought with my own money ), PlayStation(which I payed for as well), and a couple other devices. Our laundry room is locked with all the treats like chips and cookies because they don’t trust us and the garage is also locked every night, dad put the bolt on the outside  for some reason.

As soon as my sibling and I get home from school, we have to surrender our phones. Which is understandable for my younger sibling, but for a 17 year old with all A’s, it doesn't seem fair. We are rarely allowed out of the house and if we ask to hang out with friends, they make a tremendous deal about it and 9 times out of 10, we won't be able to go. Since last summer, I haven't hung out with one person and it is hard to foster relationships when you don't have a phone to talk on and being able to hang out.

Also, this recently happened. I got a really high ACT score and I was told if I got that score, I would get a car. He upheld his promise and got me a brand new 2020 car, which I am grateful for. But he won't let me drive it to school if I am paying for insurance and gas. I told him multiply times that I didn’t want to pay for insurance if I can drive it school. I would be able to drive it to work but I only work one day a week. As a senior in high school, this is extremely embarrassing, especially since I told all my friends I got a car. My parents think I want to drive to school to show it off, but this is not the case since I go to a relatively rich high school and many people drive way more expensive cars.

I have tried to talk to my parents multiple times about given me some responsibility so I can be somewhat independent and I got yelled at for even asking. Also, as a result of so much yelling all these years, I also struggle with social anxiety issues which I never had until high school.",5.661091954022987,5.1399433850574745,5.987854406130271,84.19258620689656,67.25670498084291,9.115708812260538,28.919540229885047,8.433251757073789,1.7525885057471269,2005,57,435,25,29,644,234,522,0.047,0.892,0.061,0.8740000000000001,6,0,0,0,1,0,53.0,11,2,5,5,28,13,0,5,30,0,47,2,1,10,5,76,72,48,0,8,10,7,1,1,2,6,0,2,9,1,21,37,1,4,5,1,7,16,10,5,1,5,16,3,62,8,71,42,12,73,0,0,0,0,48,32,0,11,23,301,83,16,0.18169169103030414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19373170623137906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04633121544205169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049838926860853366,0.1078294172616047,0.11323813635861907,0.0,0.0,0.04656989841450999,0.0,0.036919189483589236,0.0,0.0,0.0682347723674095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037826810485593,0.0,0.0670128000979456,0.0,0.03905870324532496,0.062438718465620935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05299987440643948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04000188278345557,0.0,0.10205539066093937,0.0,0.05443092545005626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935830331895242,0.0,0.06328427301022366,0.0,0.06883971673278982,0.0,0.24219240528130784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053556454110691216,0.0,0.05425335575934183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559563295194245,0.06075052677945743,0.0,0.0,0.2096478170555756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321297348411406,0.0,0.05383197440555432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049367659418887516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061930688022392065,0.0,0.02958846087853283,0.0,0.10695806128389897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04042687154061028,0.06140228568872608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04452143287372826,0.0,0.04671061102000905,0.0584929891298856,0.0,0.11367022926616199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355162196804086,0.0,0.2051983201000948,0.04606157278990334,0.0,0.0,0.2689961615029096,0.0,0.0,0.041987380481004026,0.05288205881081283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529812441383914,0.0,0.0,0.060883444355750875,0.0678454253502823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038798783251885634,0.0622697730291873,0.05979954181449886,0.06502295998311809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.490351177010947,0.0,0.055135097217102136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20039632582719508,0.06807635776716606,0.06060763553221291,0.06173726601040345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331453498679784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735793259414953,0.05293551544864627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03880689974109417,0.0,0.0,0.10594588616564493,0.0,0.0,0.1736141970058186,0.0,0.04111891055124842,0.0,0.0,0.06304915268806105,0.14570182213439314,0.052307761585844124,0.0,0.0,0.07144431122604364,0.09614560485851112,0.04858070502355124,0.0,0.05445421684371207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818247667177176,0.0,0.0,0.08604570954576214,0.0,0.0,0.07800232801828695
parenting,Expensive-Candidate,2020/02/12,"Sharing photos of your baby without consent? What’s the consensus about family sharing photos of your baby online? We don’t have social media and would really rather they didn’t. 
Also, sending photos of your baby to other people who we don’t know? (Eg If in-laws send photos of the baby to people I’ve never met, I feel weird about this!)
Firstly, is this reasonable, and if it is, secondly - how do we communicate this in a nice way to family?",3.0588372093023253,5.308146686046513,5.479244186046512,74.92607558139538,76.32558139534882,7.555813953488372,22.377906976744185,8.472884824447931,1.8382139534883724,349,10,57,7,8,123,55,86,0.019,0.85,0.13,0.8592,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,3,1,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,2,1,15,11,6,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,1,0,2,2,1,8,3,11,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,2,2,47,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256172428916668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.531929356679372,0.0,0.1426521302794355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399774893691493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504988409478354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175941042821947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3911833413185784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073808722640505,0.2900740365039856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875934355174855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22393966074320795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27196082185096604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004152663290549,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whateverislovely,2020/02/12,Does anyone else outsource their toddler to flirt with their spouse? My three year old comes up to me and says “sweet bootie” and pats my butt. I hear my husband laughing from  somewhere. This has now become a regular occurrence 😅😆,4.099418604651163,6.607183534883722,3.4211046511627927,89.68188953488372,74.11627906976744,6.16046511627907,27.02906976744186,7.1686216300943375,1.3482139534883726,184,7,34,2,4,54,38,43,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,3,5,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,1,1,0,3,19,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415040457808155,0.3538918852031077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814550561839888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975220730517477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30225227433411805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28852822155645064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892785474790323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36242769426503774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746672255955945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224192161860916
parenting,Laetiporus1,2020/02/12,"Parent posing as a teen on SnapChat. Were parents always this crazy? My 17y/o son told me he was called into the high school office today to get more info regarding what follows:

He’s friends with a group of kids: two girls named Kristy and Sarah, and two male friends are Bob and Nate. They are/were all friends with each other for several years. 

Last night, Kristy and Sarah had a huge fight and are no longer friends. Kristy tells my son that Sarah’s mom has a fake account (Liz) on SnapChat. Sarah’s mom (posing as Liz)  has been asking sexual questions to Bob and Nate. Questions like are you a virgin, do you like oral sex, etc 

Bob and Nate mentioned last weekend that they were getting really sexual questions from this person named Liz on SnapChat and it was really odd and they weren’t comfortable with her so they blocked her. Kristy’s confession came out and they believe her as Sarah’s mom has always been “crazy”. 

What would possess a married mother to do such a thing? The inappropriateness of it all is staggering and disgusting. Bob and Nate are 16!!

Were parents always this insane or are we in a downward spiral? Do we just know about this kind of behavior more? It’s more out in the open? 

Of course, Kristy could be lying to get back at her friend Sarah. If she is lying, she needs serious help considering her accusations. However. this is just one of many stories I’ve heard re: of out of control parents. We are middle class, living in the  suburbs of the USA. It’s a public high school that’s known for its high scores in academics. People actually move into our school district because the schools are good. 

WTH is going on?!",2.9349162552037966,5.576018568690099,3.151263433052573,89.36315035337402,78.96805111821088,5.9664633556007365,23.22286765417756,7.229369725052465,0.9318251331203404,1304,43,250,17,33,399,165,313,0.121,0.785,0.094,-0.8579,6,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,4,2,5,1,6,14,2,0,15,0,29,2,0,1,2,46,40,18,0,4,4,10,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,4,17,26,0,2,7,1,1,4,2,4,0,3,12,1,21,10,36,25,7,32,1,0,0,2,55,21,0,5,9,148,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.08687547671821626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222758704047435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322627965101663,0.0,0.0,0.0684546657760398,0.0,0.054268762931936,0.0,0.0,0.1003005953575328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909043935515502,0.10182078821705602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984901404163984,0.07107915197597989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992863148146078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439021491026547,0.0,0.13953553385177914,0.0,0.05059491175089314,0.07466987638455651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05967152511142064,0.28217913695923313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270575123859516,0.04892576602554683,0.1451343782451696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698615497242786,0.0,0.0786106324741435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025729253892946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127947195045269,0.0,0.0946193976199905,0.0,0.06601084771582917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354385362666475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06032558755112165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.395406538507328,0.0,0.0,0.06171866796993077,0.07773312342710986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29918484310069554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114063282525749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36039187412864904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005728159563405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781170114363885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914419888774442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438521163844799,0.08506712300311334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392881561444878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324074658687788,0.0,0.0,0.05732912756989361
parenting,magic_pennies,2020/02/12,"Is a 16yo with a 19yo appropriate? (She’s almost 17 and he just turned 19) 
I’m kind of hesitant of letting my daughter date a guy she’s known for quite a while. They had met through mutual friends, she mostly has older friends (18yos) anyways.  She came to me and said she wanted to go get coffee with him. They hang out together but in a group setting as far as I know.  He just turned 19 like 2-3 weeks ago and she’s going to be 17 in 3 months.  She’s a HS junior while he just works everyday (he doesn’t go to college).  I already gave several talks about safe sex, consent, healthy relationships, etc. I still feel hesitant about letting her date this boy, even though there only 2 years and a few months age difference, it still doesn’t feel right.",2.210208136234627,4.235559675496692,3.2296736045411545,91.11796357615896,78.0728476821192,6.698391674550615,24.030747398297066,7.7094869923839395,1.0709542100283826,585,20,126,9,14,187,100,151,0.032,0.85,0.11800000000000001,0.9102,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,2,11,5,0,0,7,0,8,1,0,0,0,20,23,10,0,1,4,1,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,8,0,1,4,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,5,3,16,5,17,15,3,25,0,0,0,1,26,5,0,2,15,69,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083535998447294,0.0,0.15909291428765968,0.0,0.17532532471596854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171358919890085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599322206803066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719046315801576,0.10493712189899393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066652378771162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454967986043972,0.0,0.08300696128620297,0.0,0.27088131521406894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731375099489453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544651727734036,0.08731494525317879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32492611377693337,0.0,0.07761954463049384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536290857158964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083353438335133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898582868817594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057502805352787,0.0,0.13568055771213308,0.1511289305313434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794864062956232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25375962977555344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769975473119155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609638402869355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456262982970972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937100940560948,0.0,0.12744198548334126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566474700645984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023119317654427
parenting,Kai_Halo,2020/02/12,"Should We Switch Schools? We're moving in mid March and we're going to leave my boys in the school they're already going to until the end of the school year. 

The home we're buying is 25 minutes away. We've had good experiences with the school, the class sizes are small, and they take care of bullying instances immediately. It's a charter school so they have uniforms.

There are a couple well-rated public schools much much closer to our house, the class sizes are larger but they don't have any homework which I think is a big plus.

What have you done/would you do in this situation?",3.4876521739130446,5.554826156521743,3.5680434782608725,89.9642391304348,74.39130434782608,5.991304347826088,21.93478260869565,6.742157984588678,0.3729304347826092,468,12,95,4,10,143,76,115,0.034,0.925,0.042,0.2168,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,3,0,2,2,0,0,10,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,17,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,5,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,12,15,2,15,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,0,4,54,13,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459084997250471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991440631203618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422541861809153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480751024951354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629935818554204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353073755657196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710802967249798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933692271026254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028780115084944,0.1109001987125972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262784220742746,0.0,0.0,0.15256458982662793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000231291940554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405293607837478,0.1943944155566429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8028846247736401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862126988260355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941328607923614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472149375932146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888201900364465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392557886527184,0.0,0.0,0.08514560285030794
parenting,Nina93e,2020/02/12,"“Good words” for bad words.. 
I’m driving to the store with my daughters (5 & 6). 

We start talking about a kid in my first graders class, who got in trouble for using bad words.

My second daughter in kindergarten, proceeds to tell us. She has “good words” she uses for bad words. 

I ask her ok, tell me one lol. She says ok...”hmmm, beach ball”. 

I ask what is beach ball in a bad word? She says “I can’t say it”. 

I told her it’s ok, just tell me once. She said “ummm, are you sure?” Lol she couldn’t do it..

So my first grader goes, “ohh, I can tell if you want”..I said ok, go ahead. 

Tell me why she said “beach ball, means asshole”...who tf taught her this??? Lol..I was dead, I couldn’t even drive straight from laughing so hard...

Anyways have a good day, this was my story time! 💛",-1.1971109871723369,0.8394083435582829,0.3302203011712201,105.89145984383714,94.39877300613495,2.963636363636364,14.771054099274965,3.1291,-1.6103104294478523,572,12,146,0,22,180,96,163,0.11800000000000001,0.715,0.166,0.6759,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,2,2,0,3,6,13,0,0,4,5,11,0,0,2,1,16,25,3,1,3,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,7,2,0,0,1,6,1,3,3,5,0,4,8,7,28,8,13,15,0,15,0,0,0,0,33,5,0,1,7,73,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745964249564218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199494340441008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928879318052551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586613440986581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769813034590645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001239475762912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685581917023871,0.29600500802979635,0.09408505682696802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053796475108822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281411816235992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125279567850842,0.07971387701027062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356991824522587,0.28064899673084365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326407547481167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087148218814012,0.0,0.0,0.09455216617999823,0.5140996239504205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859508186545862,0.0,0.0,0.11240719661356467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150282911828746,0.2032011992935712,0.0,0.0,0.06938535163663008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614909702054784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubbabrowned,2020/02/12,"Anybody else get crazy nostalgia for your own childhood as your kid grows up? I've recently started going through something I'm trying to find out if it's parenting-related or something else. But I do realize it started around the time my kid turned one. So this may not even be parenting-related, but if it is, then great.

In the past couple of weeks, like a switch that turned on, I've suddenly felt extremely nostalgic about things from my own childhood- places I went to when I was growing up, things I used to do, things I used to watch (VHS tapes!), and the people close to me at the time. It's not an obsession just yet, but I do notice myself spending a lot of my waking hours and free time thinking about these things. And while it does bring me happiness and warm and fuzzy feelings, it is puzzling to me what's going on.

Anybody else start feeling these sorts of things as their kid grows up?",7.455391414141418,6.539696534090911,6.9207575757575786,80.2747474747475,63.77272727272727,10.549494949494953,34.89646464646465,9.725611199111238,3.0654275252525256,714,27,142,12,9,222,107,176,0.009000000000000001,0.8370000000000001,0.153,0.9797,2,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,1,0,8,6,0,1,7,0,8,1,1,2,0,29,25,17,0,2,9,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,16,8,0,0,6,0,2,7,2,1,0,1,3,5,16,6,25,20,3,35,0,0,1,0,6,11,0,7,18,96,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069351083040447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500149090998948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864556218762758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397750418485169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954824751113037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710501468434932,0.0,0.13017651532946042,0.0,0.12391619167800473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083411265613322,0.0,0.15410464617264316,0.0,0.0,0.14947565291833992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432571655828244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351740334635048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623675271905215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526389831649267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435689490954926,0.0,0.0,0.09187142543596097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942491367178766,0.09399298428053024,0.0,0.1416505605063726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386730320783033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087497358014674,0.0,0.0,0.2878892454506805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4503612876940829,0.08687315749528643,0.0,0.0,0.2371705474091101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920488267855762,0.2949407106481826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23419239572291614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875280599325776,0.0,0.0,0.1256825252512421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,icansee2020,2020/02/12,"At what point are my kids sick Too much? I have a 6 month old, who is sick with the same kind of sickness/symptoms for the 2nd time, which isn't terrible I suppose, but I also have a 3 year old who has these symptoms a whole lot. About 10 or 11 times a year. He goes to the doctor and they give him 7 days of amoxicillin and is usually diagnosed with a sinus infection. This just seems like a lot to me. He is on antibiotics every month. I dont even think they work. He takes them for a sinus infection and then I have to take him back 2-3 weeks later for more antibiotics for a sinus infection. This seems like something else might be going on, but I just get told 'well some kids just get sick' and really idk why the 6 mo is getting the same stuff twice in six mo this seems like a lot. They dont go to daycare or school or anything..",3.2446969696969674,3.830423772727276,4.343636363636366,90.0437878787879,72.63636363636363,8.139393939393939,24.32575757575757,8.344100000000001,1.1425507575757576,648,17,150,10,12,212,103,176,0.064,0.851,0.084,0.5248,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,4,1,9,6,0,0,14,0,14,12,0,0,0,25,27,11,0,0,8,0,0,3,0,1,12,0,0,2,9,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,1,1,2,1,0,14,5,17,24,9,21,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,11,17,97,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104517850341883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397850427351632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715835966592153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148782082830118,0.0,0.0,0.12824656187430142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932858393672803,0.0,0.0,0.2961716897904909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555248085601747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345556780467596,0.0,0.1064586212259403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804411328953855,0.12121018675621265,0.1436196810672155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157815643139864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851904183949328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222647348912447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404153405383146,0.0,0.0,0.2017089755956409,0.0,0.09288466445613112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651743531654239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944528889352643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094555208675992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787690557800746,0.0,0.3450835703755177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727341525149434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464500037271766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26266019112455496,0.19000483513911667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096248544510071,0.0,0.0,0.1473559654577116,0.0,0.0,0.12073657856313053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391609839235997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013534873855682,0.0,0.11360734220066535,0.0,0.11401475330699745,0.1410696314052314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198715346604952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273555447607804
parenting,xwvutsrq,2020/02/12,"Been potty trained for 4 months and now we have accidents daily. My 3 year old has been fully potty trained since October. But a couple of weeks ago she started pooping in her undies! She will poop a little bit then come tell me. I will clean her up and sit her on the potty for a few minutes, tell her she needs to poop in the potty to try to finish. She wont continue to poop but will say she is all done... But then a while later she will come back to me with another accident. Even if I'm watching her I cant tell when she is pooping because she isnt squatting or hiding like she used to.


I'm afraid to put her back in pull ups because if she has them she will just use them but I cannot keep up with this never ending train of poopy undies. 



What can I do? I'm worried that perhaps this is because she actually cant hold it and something is wrong with her tummy but besides a daily juice box at school nothing else has really changed about her diet or lifestyle.",3.481760961810469,4.241695945544554,4.524271570014147,88.32465346534653,72.21782178217822,7.157567185289958,26.309759547383308,7.1686216300943375,1.0941403111739745,759,24,164,7,14,248,115,202,0.066,0.8959999999999999,0.038,-0.7657,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,0,7,3,0,1,7,0,23,6,5,2,2,26,33,16,0,3,10,0,0,1,0,6,0,1,1,0,5,9,1,2,0,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,3,2,30,1,23,24,3,32,0,0,1,0,27,9,0,4,19,112,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.15001840857918974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362724642950154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611994211448176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23641792615080964,0.0,0.2811373390335574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783346107492167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262606930143544,0.26484974994085697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700994393814137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731927339496565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284217781663801,0.0,0.13615924527222192,0.0,0.0,0.10153728579796227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366423825567038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510476506340796,0.1540779535434303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270590472168147,0.0,0.0,0.11398892641950227,0.11856613566443715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750818377244576,0.0,0.16131388708938146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454121805664126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848344301656864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222523513461968,0.0,0.15558307552376005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127167133098002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834894692767818,0.0,0.0,0.1088109609658642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031006682911436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437265153103603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655469076965641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233130189632716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561203858764566,0.0,0.0,0.1680797390275281,0.0,0.09899714865639908
parenting,fghtffyrdmns32,2020/02/12,"How do you pick a mattress for your child? Hi there! I’ve been researching a mattress for my four year old daughter. I’m currently looking at the tuft and needle original mattress and the nest love and sleep because they are in my price range and greenguard gold certified. However, while researching I see people often recommending innerspring mattresses. Does anyone have any insight? Also am I right to be looking for greenguard gold certified mattresses? Why is picking a mattress for your kid so hard?? Thanks in advance!",5.7263247863247875,8.863051571428574,5.469816849816855,73.85573870573872,71.74725274725277,8.87960927960928,36.48473748473748,9.444778638647367,4.347336019536018,427,24,62,11,9,132,67,91,0.02,0.8590000000000001,0.121,0.8849,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,1,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,7,2,1,4,0,10,13,8,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,8,2,8,11,0,10,0,0,3,1,9,4,0,1,5,39,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201929579017004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724375360850892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19252732957903887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784749783839234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409558939213492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24665465685776905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624401929758797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24850922995779326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28892781450818666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088925984298002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23514276339741266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941397804348944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27554342650195657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535002918170965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248455652678678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773128793802295
parenting,mindlesspool,2020/02/12,"Phone / sleep overs When is a good age for kids to have a phone?
And when did your kids do sleep overs at others home?

We got a birthday invitation from my sons friend who’s 2 years older than him (10 y.o) and the parents are doing it at a hotel overnight?? Shot that one down pretty quick. The sleepovers I feel like there’s really no reason for them to sleepover.

But now that my boys (8 and 6) are getting older, they are getting more requests to do sleepovers and tbh it worries me. We don’t have internet at home because it was just more effort to keep the kids off the devices than it was worth. 

My kids cousins are on their phone/ipad all day (10 and 11).

I was looking into after school programs and one of the reviews for one popular program said their young kid was shown a pornographic video from an older child. That scares me.

My kids are defiantly not ready but I want to see other parents opinion and experiences and when you have given your child a phone. When I was younger I didn’t get a phone til I was in high school probably closer to 16-17. Now at 8, my sons classmates have phones.",2.3269588744588745,4.493460704545459,3.0311688311688307,91.98984848484852,78.31818181818181,5.645021645021646,23.2034632034632,6.655083550727371,0.5555281385281385,865,28,180,8,21,271,127,220,0.039,0.892,0.069,0.7411,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,3,4,1,9,5,0,1,13,0,22,2,2,1,1,21,33,15,0,1,4,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,9,10,11,0,1,2,2,1,0,4,1,0,3,11,4,23,4,27,22,3,29,0,0,2,0,33,13,0,1,17,122,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767484168127644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333522239048294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673587970274486,0.0,0.0,0.0810172026396968,0.11446848568164678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379345373905762,0.0,0.2511409960639526,0.0,0.0,0.13439348826449934,0.12815072688838164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929200175320247,0.3214479065351773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424199623827133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828038134986623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455301156609306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257283874763783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558333464951439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163011715468078,0.17275525420299587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264756796025044,0.16474333015513384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241561093033346,0.0,0.16041838088326307,0.32432302992500256,0.12768272297208386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206918292676387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450792237914037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627215441334441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318299435235156
parenting,AgelessRelic433,2020/02/12,"My 7 year old son told another child to stab another classmate with a fork. Looking for Advice. Like the title says my son told another boy to stab another, And the little boy listened. The little boy who got stabbed happens to be my sons bestfriend. When asking my son why he only said he didn't think the boy would listen to him. I need advice, I've never had to deal with this before. My son is normally a well behaved goofy little boy. He has had some angry issues but he's in therapy and has come along way. However he's never used his agression to hurt others. How do you Discipline for something like this?",3.4989256198347114,5.321964057851243,4.732305785123966,82.68573140495869,73.71074380165291,7.484628099173554,26.149586776859504,8.238735603445708,1.8174588429752068,485,17,90,8,10,160,79,121,0.10800000000000001,0.84,0.052000000000000005,-0.7876,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,2,2,17,22,5,0,3,1,5,0,2,0,1,0,4,0,6,4,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,7,5,9,3,12,13,1,11,0,1,1,0,28,4,0,1,7,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607923145983933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.559694473162949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247485148101281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135477280831386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494686225277766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757092170019744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672426738445212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800067227611136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285042631494782,0.0,0.0,0.13927683397935078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038422103398034,0.4012262191548569,0.0,0.0,0.11205610715162397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989441706205912,0.2058345196415344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307430020366371,0.0,0.0,0.14002297652056642,0.0,0.0,0.10148723707641076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269321275770951,0.10611695267529984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272873660099703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526004258497573,0.0,0.0,0.08550305158247272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550155383205152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524943416961585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591856946176048,0.0,0.0,0.11997870849602145,0.0,0.12040896817306172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479204459549967,0.0,0.0,0.08593107309005174
parenting,0trashthrowaway,2020/02/12,"How to become a stronger parent Throwaway because this is embarrassing.

We have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. However, she has recently begun throwing tantrums when things don't go her way, and I'm not handling them properly. I often cave when she's throwing her tantrums, all because it's too hard for me to watch her cry. I hate seeing her cry. This attitude has already led to an unhealthy cosleeping habit, and I'm just having a hard time being strong and ignoring the crying. How can I overcome this?",5.583924812030077,7.2714933473684225,5.726015037593987,78.18210526315791,68.15789473684211,8.375939849624057,35.67669172932331,8.841846274778883,3.311932330827068,408,21,69,7,7,129,69,95,0.272,0.637,0.09,-0.9493,2,0,0,1,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,1,7,6,3,1,5,0,8,0,0,3,1,12,13,7,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,0,4,12,1,4,12,1,12,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,7,46,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204362463506651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435393960394001,0.2206153415043177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6582693505012934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352621273063987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578851453554793,0.19721817134004566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961082634683365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218059348867056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972354282507945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918005446456826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13270933128161488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647961168951315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855739837878075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863662583711974
parenting,Mrsparker9619,2020/02/12,"My two year old is misbehaving at daycare and it is interfering with my job. TLDR my two year old is supposedly acting aggressive at daycare and today they sent him home. 




My husband and I are busy parents, i work full time and we have two other children. The oldest are 6 and 9. They are good kids, good grades, good behavior, been in daycare since a young age and I never had a problem with either child. My two year old just started going to his new daycare about 5 months ago. He’s not new to the daycare setting however, he’s been in daycare since he was about 3-4 months old. When he first changed daycares it seemed like a smooth transition and he started learning a lot.  He knows how to count to 10, his colors, and the talks in complete sentences so I feel that they’ve done a great job. However, the past month, maybe two, I am getting accident report after accident report on him about things he’s supposedly doing to other children which really upset me because we don’t condone this behavior at home. I was told he “pushed a child and she fell, hit her arm and this resulted in her arm getting fractured”. Then I was told he “hit a child with a Toy in his eye causing him to have a small cut”. And “he pinched his friend on the play ground”. These things seriously upset me and his dad because we can’t understand why this is happening. Yesterday I got an accident report that said he “spit on a kid”. When we got home I had talk with him and sat him in time out for two minutes (they say time out one minute for every year of his age so I’ve heard). He was upset and he cried as I expected. Today I got a call from the assistant director and she said “I need you to come get *****, he has been spitting at his teacher and we cannot have this here”! She was very upset and seemed angry. I sent his dad to get him as I was at work and then on my break I called the assistant director back to get more information. I explained that at his pawpaws house, his pawpaw was making car noises with his lips (like blowing his lips) and he did it back, when he did, he did spit a little so I immediately told him not to do it again. But this is the closet thing to him spitting ive ever seen him do. I also explained That I am concerned and would like to know what we need to do in order to fix it. I cannot leave work I could lose my job if this kind of thing becomes habitual. She said that she wasn’t in there and she was just told about this and I could speak with his teacher to get more info. I spoke to her and she was very vague. Just said “yeah he kept sitting I told him stop and he kept doing it”. I told her we needed to figure something out together to get this stopped and she said “I’m willing to do whatever it is you allow me to, but all I’m really allowed to do here is use timeout so idk”. 

Maybe I’m crazy but I feel as if it is the daycares responsibility to know how to handle these kind of issues. Or at the least, know what actions to take in order to minimize risk to other children. I am so upset because I don’t want him hurting another child. And I’m even more worried because this is only at daycare. At home he does have him toddler moments for ex he may tell me no if I ask him to clean up, then when I sit him out he will say “ok mommy I’m sorry I’ll clean up” and he will begin to pick up his toys. If he is playing to rough and hurts his sister in the process (like spinning around with a toy in his hand and accident hits her) he will immediately tell her sorry and give her a kiss. 

Can anyone help me on providing advise to figure out what actions I should take? How should I respond to the daycare? Why is this only happening at daycare? 

I’ve never dealt with this kind of situation so I appreciate any feedback or suggestions. 

Thank you",1.6721715901948464,3.6819655956072346,3.4145121866052115,89.21167190446262,79.73643410852712,6.250967246316082,23.379356100286326,7.329194593529364,0.9090283399678744,2937,100,625,40,74,979,296,774,0.08199999999999999,0.846,0.07200000000000001,-0.6328,7,0,1,0,0,0,68.0,7,3,3,5,31,30,2,6,27,2,65,11,10,10,4,114,131,59,0,15,15,6,5,4,1,8,0,10,7,9,37,52,0,4,16,5,0,10,11,13,0,8,41,18,104,17,90,77,8,101,0,3,3,1,132,39,0,10,50,410,141,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965144484962212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04479294434210788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03809022374610888,0.0587336862965623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03916503979213748,0.0,0.0,0.04986274244725217,0.05236385554007041,0.0,0.0,0.08613986459015206,0.0,0.13657809405500745,0.0618610856230415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438945851841732,0.0,0.0,0.05753996925390933,0.059253491545807474,0.0482495595153983,0.05872773682508165,0.0,0.0,0.08944238434273102,0.0,0.06152678288632293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04901666269518102,0.05731993816331446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03699553664094303,0.050666250978003036,0.04719270296652248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056642913014924384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047643957469299066,0.0,0.0,0.04327489473527415,0.0,0.20484847644964355,0.05373201600988645,0.03183302991669912,0.14094115356079373,0.1343942441746548,0.061753659598776475,0.0,0.0,0.09906282517434553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03754380387892235,0.0,0.2247392555587962,0.0,0.0,0.06463057034556298,0.11992445920143488,0.0,0.0,0.058462195126518526,0.1667504276976444,0.0,0.0,0.1749842929161451,0.12313138374521705,0.0,0.0,0.05930884318544465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945894667074067,0.05613894965854886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626633359597734,0.0,0.0476195781834336,0.0,0.0,0.03738858531873698,0.0,0.11254358760287823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412523562695433,0.0,0.0,0.12459703263308285,0.08640013925676031,0.1081938834883026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23510156977735264,0.0,0.03795532330824568,0.08519961988354822,0.0,0.0,0.06219493094253702,0.0,0.053469992647263896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0535961206450818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176571238855803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664021933229928,0.08908631559581104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10198282517546307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266775835257214,0.06296007119941806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04312093599972719,0.0,0.12540216729248554,0.07929146149048702,0.0,0.0,0.09365743174697652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422842268352145,0.0900409858723699,0.09791428128465827,0.05156851776858583,0.0,0.0,0.14884809459595788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798351079663124,0.0,0.10618605206150132,0.3211324037664117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282947434373016,0.05831068630140308,0.0,0.04837656569393207,0.0,0.09243187914524062,0.033037452862633834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108461531168857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233266860687313,0.05688311845939185,0.0,0.03978946712994185,0.0,0.0,0.14428010800896146
parenting,jesslees24,2020/02/12,"Kids bedroom is a nightmare TLDR: kids refuse to clean room regularly. Biggest issue is clean clothes ending up on floor. They say any mess is the others fault. I’m at my wits end!! 

The story/details:

So my two girls (age 9 and 11) share a bedroom. Basically they “split” the room and have their furniture and stuff mostly on their own side. But there’s a shared walk in closet. And their room is always insanely messy! And I can’t figure out how to get them to clean it regularly or properly. And if I clean it (fed up with the mess) I can’t even get them to maintain it for more than a day or two. 

The biggest challenge is their clothes. I wash, fold and put clean laundry bins in their room. I even separate each girl’s clothes into different baskets, so the font toss the others clothes on the floor while getting their own clothes out. But they still whine and fight and often just stuff clothes in toy bins or shelves to get it done. They won’t hang up the shirts that need to be hung vs put in drawers (not enough room if we don’t hang some). So many clean clothes just end up back on the floor. It’s like a carpet of clothes in there. 

They also sneak food up there and I find empty containers and silverware and cans and wrappers tucked away all over. No matter how loud I scream— NO FOOD IN ROOM. 

Right now we have them doing chores based on a list. They get a small allowance if they do them without major complaining and on time. I only ask that they clean their room once a week— on the weekend. But when I send them up to do this, they fight. They say it’s the other girls mess. They kick or push each other when they get mad at each other about it. 

On the odd occasion they do actually try to “clean” their room, it’s really just putting all clothes clean and dirty in laundry baskets. Pushing all toys and stuff under beds or into toy bins (including random socks, garbage, etc). 

Everything has a place to go in there. I’ve culled the stuff they have in there to keep it easier. Huge beanbag that stores stuffed animals. Book shelves for books and special things. Toy boxes. Trash bin by door. Chest for extra blankets. Shoe organizer for shoes. Hooks for hanging robes and coats and bags. 

My MIL says I need to have them clean up every night before bed. But we pick them up at 6. Eat dinner. There’s homework. Kitchen chores. Pet chores. And bath nights. And after school activities. And after all this, getting them to clean their room at 8pm is always a failure. They are tired. 

Please give me some advice! How do you handle this? Especially when kids share a room. TIA.",1.8299798904375564,4.362405015810282,2.237322654462244,94.83334477498093,82.83399209486166,5.210956244365857,20.734900492337566,6.5966054737557815,0.21019552042160727,2022,60,424,21,57,616,244,506,0.078,0.812,0.11,0.9282,1,0,0,0,2,0,69.0,3,1,32,1,28,15,3,0,25,0,24,12,4,5,4,73,39,45,0,5,18,0,0,1,0,1,2,4,35,6,25,33,6,3,2,8,1,11,8,9,0,2,2,4,50,6,61,35,17,85,0,1,0,0,55,56,0,13,19,266,75,5,0.0,0.0,0.09488409487710138,0.0,0.0,0.09501367341580123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775614021579005,0.16180909542095084,0.0,0.0,0.06612087733801969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089849648007058,0.0,0.09135236502819953,0.07476516098255934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273699913136935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270639050818423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158641200054246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950176784421128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949228364137896,0.0,0.0,0.2583552285848505,0.10046631820288528,0.10843902641735548,0.1284412166541761,0.0,0.08192188486206514,0.0,0.0873855654028049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886799498949854,0.0,0.2351458693790731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555967818537891,0.09327348832066523,0.05525900505204023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014846134440676,0.0,0.08642398565306451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750248800457778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985776634802438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441921189774215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182490692042418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035485670313772,0.0,0.07394907487438276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158641200054246,0.10673118767935244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932340851110038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228910464728098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303532436137173,0.0,0.23196760612131376,0.0,0.09840365218562573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764934609474422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4452280493566943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459640845364352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669657514324281,0.1117535140217302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601392898537406,0.0,0.18996244816188526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799338962269144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372787082235133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,proteusspade,2020/02/12,"How to help a 5yo's confidence? My roommate has a 5yo son (just barely turned 5 if that helps), and me, her, and my spouse all co-parent him. He's generally a pretty good kid, but he hasn't been to preschool yet (not by roommate's choice, she was living out in the boonies til recently). We're trying to get him caught up on the skills he'll need for kindergarten, and that means using pencils/markers/crayons, drawing shapes, and learning letters and numbers.  


The first time I tried to draw with him, he'd barely put the pencil on the paper, do a line, and go ""Oh no. It isn't a dinosaur."" I tried to explain to him that you have to make a dinosaur, and i made him one to copy out of simple shapes, but he'd give up almost immediately, or just glare at the paper for a long time, make a couple marks, declare it wasn't a dinosaur, and say I should make one instead.  


This absolutely broke my heart; I had extreme confidence when I was little, and a very clumsy collection of ovals could make an entire cast of characters for me. This kid, somehow, is so petrified of getting it wrong that he won't even begin. My roommate has no idea where he got this, though I'm inclined to blame his grandmother, who would do everything for him where he was last living.  


My spouse suggested we should get him a tracing book so he can get confidence in making shapes, so we got him a dry-erase tracing book geared to pre-K level activities. It took some doing at first, but I got him to do a number of pages in the book, and kept encouraging him, saying ""I bet you can do it!"" and ""See! That's a great line! Look, you did that diamond perfect! High five!"" and such. He was into it for a while, but when we got to tracing letters, he started back in with the ""It's too hard, I can't do it."" and we had to take a break.  


Seeing this just makes me so sad. He just needs a little confidence that he can do things, but I've never met a kid so insecure in his own abilities. How do you help a 5 year old's confidence?",4.8707882882882885,4.702576393120391,5.694020270270273,84.44391328828831,68.85257985257985,8.748935298935299,28.997645372645373,8.344100000000001,1.789303112203112,1540,49,334,20,24,506,200,407,0.084,0.79,0.127,0.9520000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,71.0,4,4,0,4,23,8,0,1,28,0,34,1,1,10,3,63,69,32,0,7,12,3,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,3,21,22,0,1,4,3,1,4,9,4,0,5,18,6,41,4,41,43,4,46,0,2,3,0,54,23,0,6,18,219,62,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604007588844223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814278932898378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845497605841512,0.11717249384698195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994365789015633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517297095570512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801510649302406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22130626026858066,0.101585598879641,0.06018343714567509,0.08882098330739663,0.3387805085133852,0.11675129576744235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486248872750043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254878953367836,0.21294063118114015,0.11188549576303368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954429013738001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631980399333937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122722817803224,0.18701714835606426,0.0937150947499488,0.08892641264546178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020185509275653,0.42412052771304265,0.0,0.0,0.1153523634252238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704186713472051,0.08167393056746138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112059223211412,0.0,0.1435164557469461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077348392803411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645525927480216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456004576842802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842633859328912,0.0,0.0,0.16877164440328254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495410743634723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962100993399103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035294762084525,0.0,0.10404280091560313,0.0,0.1234982339365307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765493884488973,0.21569037347426684,0.11518501331302974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146059952141317,0.0,0.08737572583180386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752258550424242,0.1157812292540531,0.0,0.06819389196104635
parenting,ILikeTewdles,2020/02/12,"What type of doctor to see? My 6 year old son has had what I can only describe as a chronic barking like/alternating wet cough for the past 2-3 years. It seems like every other week ( sometimes he's good for a few weeks, usually its every few weeks especially in winter) he has a cough that keeps him up at night. It ranges from a wet productive cough that he almost throws up from, to a barking dry cough. They typically last 3-6 days. Rinse and repeat... 

It usually is not accompanied by a fever but he regularly misses school because he's exhausted and coughs on and off during the day. 

He had tubes when he was 8 months old and his adenoids out when he was 4 as they were swollen and making his body create lots of goop. He was scoped a that time and the ENT said his airways were a little inflamed but his throat etc was the correct size, no abnormalities noted. He figured the inflammation was from his constant runny nose irritating his throat/broncial tube.  Over the past 3 years I have had him in a few more times for the cough. They thought it was Asthma induced coughing and tested him positive for it as well as some lite allergies.  He takes a daily inhaler and allergy meds, ( tried a few, they don't really help him) as well as flonase. He also has a Albuterol nebulizer which does help the cough a little when that flares up. 

Yet, even after the meds etc,  the stuffy nose and cough every few weeks that takes him out keeps coming back. 

At his 6 year checkup I mentioned all this and his pediatrician seemed to think getting sick every few weeks was ok. I disagree and think there is something else going on. 

Now, i'm trying to figure out who I would go see to try and figure this out, back to the ENT? More allergy testing?  Has anyone been through something like this? How did you find a solution?",5.316406867588932,6.1027185482954565,5.698582015810278,81.4652915019763,68.0625,8.394466403162056,28.656620553359684,8.456263369488248,1.9232619565217384,1427,47,279,20,23,457,189,352,0.085,0.8440000000000001,0.071,-0.7747,0,0,2,0,0,0,40.0,0,1,4,0,13,8,0,0,25,1,24,22,4,3,2,40,43,25,0,1,3,1,2,2,0,1,18,2,0,0,19,17,0,2,10,0,0,4,3,2,2,0,16,9,24,6,39,26,13,54,0,1,2,0,36,17,0,5,35,173,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420210716704687,0.0,0.0,0.07523141110536442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577913671083309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467509695383415,0.0,0.05734699344256072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449565560046603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103692447257557,0.0,0.10166120505895547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134064860119542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628932334945024,0.08232530270995381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858724382580494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20983605805610409,0.062135375715455465,0.0,0.3170475788268515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598246577839731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915008753033026,0.0,0.10692950845569976,0.07890529800269434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261124217467089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723562604794734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668334220143012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378802700474446,0.18857489556967585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997884746357692,0.0,0.0,0.06279551554546302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089913112009321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508943569318424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828262461231086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743090242462305,0.0,0.0,0.07154796055072599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960967101980088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060266587643107425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948647256667347,0.0,0.0,0.09520850175048624,0.1499305276767499,0.1712839367705813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484642218055746,0.09304216938929133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146475938853664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055839015468454,0.0,0.07468471172981841,0.10971129330828877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161140263893234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721972777808725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773047853148214,0.0,0.16916869844308094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668278855806775,0.0,0.0,0.2423237918241695
parenting,Tarynl4,2020/02/12,"Is pre-k absolutely necessary? My older son is in his second year of pre-k.  He is borderline special needs and while he doesn't have an IEP, he is in a 5 day per week (3 hours per day) program in our public elementary school that has two categories of children: special needs children with IEP's, and ""community peers"" who are accepted via lottery and pay tuition.  He was accepted as ""borderline"" special needs after having an evaluation by the teacher and we are required to pay the monthly fee as he does not have an IEP (which we are fine with).  It is a wonderful program and he has thrived and greatly benefited from being in this class, as it is highly structured and he receives speech therapy several times per week.  I don't believe he would have been prepared to enter kindergarten without being in this program.

We entered our younger son into the lottery for this same program to enroll in the 3 year old class this fall as a ""community peer"" but he didn't get a spot.  There are other programs in the area that I've looked into, but they don't seem as good and cost an absolute fortune for less time in the classroom!  His behavior is more on the ""normal"" spectrum than our older son, so I feel like he might not need to be eased into a classroom structure the same way our older son did.  That said, we're considering forgoing pre-k for him as my partner is home during the week.  What concerns me is I don't know anyone who has opted to skip pre-k for their kids!  I'm worried that he might fall behind, be unprepared or have difficulty with the transition to kindergarten, or even just be robbed of an experience that other kids his age get!

When I was a kid in the early 80's, there was waaayy less pressure- not everyone went to preschool and there was less focus on academics (and packed schedules/ activities) at such a young age.  We will probably seek out some paid activities during the week as a substitute, is that enough?  Is pre-k absolutely necessary? Advice?",8.080066833751047,7.133608037037039,8.152016151489839,72.051365914787,62.54497354497354,11.13249791144528,38.148705096073506,10.307518312809881,3.880526984126984,1570,69,286,30,19,512,191,378,0.037000000000000005,0.903,0.06,0.7494,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,8,0,2,1,8,11,0,1,25,0,43,0,0,0,0,48,58,24,0,6,9,4,1,1,1,4,0,2,1,6,18,21,0,1,6,0,6,6,9,1,0,2,10,4,21,10,46,39,8,49,0,0,1,0,40,18,0,7,25,189,39,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277277102505445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139504972464464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726473047715488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16859349585687858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143846743968215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505774821693248,0.0,0.08633232415527099,0.0,0.0,0.124898430531396,0.0,0.12785887170898766,0.0,0.0,0.06609059864388307,0.0933788195354446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365805304971531,0.0,0.0,0.1096328409750396,0.0,0.14410757194843965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810165467263688,0.13111218286697165,0.0,0.12872242692001834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183446640029721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638580091254491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976297371421674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27732402936348605,0.0,0.0,0.10433099387033842,0.0,0.0,0.3876774474882526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806745710385145,0.0,0.0,0.13715752476049298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092683772270667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433456896626074,0.0,0.0,0.1322848882913593,0.0,0.11899292618416232,0.0,0.14766441397824326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947758722923338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243540138487072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768408832654518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037510355410394,0.4193887769222168,0.0,0.0,0.12116892080210293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599919460441378,0.14174876566306122,0.0,0.132741737725303,0.0,0.0928522055935253,0.0,0.0,0.1683451327477441
parenting,princessrescuesself,2020/02/12,"4 year old with a broken leg. Daycare doesn't want him back. I'm wondering if my experience so far is typical.
Over the weekend, my four year old broke his leg just below the knee. We brought him into urgent care Sunday evening, who applied a splint and recommended an orthopedic PA at the children's hospital. They had us wait until yesterday to have his cast put on, which went well. He's been home with either mom or dad this week so far and daycare (a center, part of a chain) told me Monday that they would have to make sure that their risk management department is ok with him returning. I was instructed to share his visit summaries with the school so they had as much information to work with as possible.
Today, the director reached out with the information I gave her, which was basically that they gave him a walker to get around with, and that he's not able to get the cast wet and no playing in the snow. I got an email from her at midday asking for a note from his doctor releasing him back to school, including details about what his restrictions will be. She also said not to expect a decision to be made today.
Now, when I told his teachers about his injury on Monday, they said it was no big deal, kids break bones, they have had kids in casts here before and he would be just fine.  So now we're looking at me possibly having to take a leave of absence from work for another 2 weeks or so, and I'm not sure if this is something that happens or what.

Can anyone offer any insight?",7.306122448979592,6.329041857142857,7.385972789115647,77.0185510204082,64.10204081632654,10.833197278911566,32.865306122448985,10.047579312681364,2.967936326530612,1182,39,234,22,15,382,172,294,0.06,0.863,0.077,0.507,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,7,2,19,10,0,1,18,1,22,6,4,2,2,43,45,21,0,6,11,3,1,0,0,3,2,2,1,3,13,17,0,2,5,2,0,5,6,2,1,1,17,4,32,8,41,22,3,42,0,1,1,0,48,16,0,6,20,162,45,8,0.12314492665697745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847895335654827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374277294621407,0.1291281928037935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610579598071949,0.0,0.0,0.10962509296528752,0.11512388308111292,0.0,0.0,0.18938169463306545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047872625326675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555445990592326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269570121077597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126044050530749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133606264946983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045936792931572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867628311771814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849024735072502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889665195039942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352440206054212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039269660600722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341072354955898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652270712259324,0.08220019477955927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422584976614733,0.0,0.0,0.09052569032974177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584397706402892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335395518400806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776548038810208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379466414723295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342780503104797,0.0,0.0,0.24925848034144915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480298085731964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23212527202771366,0.0,0.09258965927083113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334539830249637,0.2353405093612747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481281843334422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263406831731785,0.0,0.19755886435351624,0.0,0.11072207817577563,0.1141565807472446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335454199486166,0.17930194651055495,0.0,0.0,0.17495724539312835,0.0,0.0,0.15860259060415707
parenting,dontbreakmystar,2020/02/12,"Starting at square 1 after 10 years We recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy! (Yay!) We also have a 9 year old son who until I got pregnant was my WORLD. We would spend weekends out on walks or doing things together, movies, games, etc. Since our youngest has been born I feel so detached from my older son. Hes such a family orientated kid and I know he feels it too. He adores his younger brother and I love their relationship, but I'm worried that he might start resenting him. The baby is 5 months old and is breastfed, so hes pretty much attached at the hip to me. His father takes him out for their own outings sometimes but I feel like a crap mom from not being able to spend as much time with him. He doesnt have friends that live close. I cant keep telling my oldest that he just needs to be patient, he has been SO patient already about doing things together. Idk why I'm writing, partial vent, partial reach to see if anyone has advice or has experienced the age gap and how did you deal with it?",3.7822331691297184,5.039946467980297,4.452532019704433,87.24447947454846,72.00492610837438,7.1867323481116605,27.3264367816092,7.554174236665415,1.3928472249589492,795,28,164,9,15,254,138,203,0.076,0.843,0.081,0.2789,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,1,2,0,9,7,2,0,7,1,22,3,2,1,0,29,37,16,0,3,7,5,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,8,12,0,1,4,2,2,1,3,2,0,0,6,6,24,5,19,27,4,25,0,0,2,1,36,7,1,4,18,100,32,0,0.1588560392939801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523228306736955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530158956656314,0.12703711723028968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107583626123817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637736011668156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716647551034945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497553360209195,0.0,0.2409671596708694,0.11348678621255688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273178189908568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705168639875994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411985467185998,0.0,0.0,0.0873031247516382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760903667055384,0.0,0.14027279307414026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433737776166792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685211538791859,0.0,0.1860502732806704,0.1267973749894364,0.0,0.23355493418244405,0.11778974027892115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333853815538799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616137017389936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685117426742906,0.17055193598863513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265876961565614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314073572769952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711268480015328,0.0,0.2248782444796524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943997167105375,0.0,0.13884718020629838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21107378762905088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263023399874763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433428669865087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132601895868498,0.0,0.11284677251201465,0.0,0.0,0.20459616201097847
parenting,atxtopdx,2020/02/12,"Some of my best childhood memories are of my dad making me feel special on Valentine’s Day. Consider doing the same for your teen if you can. As an example, in middle school I was having a rough time, feeling fugly because no boys liked me, and just generally insecure. That year on Valentine’s Day, my dad gave me a Beautiful perfume set, complete with the bath gel, powder, lotion, the whole shebang. I can clearly remember standing at my locker, putting that lotion on my hands, and just feeling so ... happy. I felt more mature, prettier, and almost rich (we definitely weren’t—which is maybe a reason the gift made such a lasting impact).

In high school, he gifted me a pair of Tony Llama rodeo cowboy boots. I love them and still wear them today, nearly twenty years later. 

It hasn’t always been gifts, sometimes a meaningful card or a shared meal, but it has always been.  

My dad wasn’t perfect, and if you ask him he would admit some regrets about the way we were raised, but boy did he nail Valentine’s Day. As a result, I never wasted my energy crying over some fuckboi who couldn’t be tasked to give me flowers or candy. Instead, I have always cherished the holiday because it reminds me of a special connection between my dad and I. 10/10 recommend.",6.816495157384987,7.184238894067796,7.034285714285716,74.65466101694919,64.72033898305085,9.115738498789346,33.80629539951574,8.841846274778883,2.9757600484261504,993,40,167,14,14,321,158,236,0.051,0.727,0.222,0.9891,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,3,2,2,7,12,0,1,16,0,18,4,2,4,3,40,29,15,0,5,8,4,6,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,9,1,0,8,2,1,1,5,2,0,0,9,7,29,10,19,17,7,26,0,1,0,1,24,10,0,8,13,115,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425109444279558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845265570323739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400873984646326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18780549114114087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165787170507873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151040229921487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920821392699134,0.2980335856066789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336652192733417,0.0,0.14790474814130491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477713937445358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398087399897682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275412884350626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556501988991356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525727819503393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902917406092774,0.1457585321752938,0.10282441964711847,0.0,0.15475617734152766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188069045775641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485504055660124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838112199337695,0.0,0.0,0.17449987718915602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31179802738868423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15235175612558516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301836569384507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982329363147208,0.0,0.1460140720056992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227159367583774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719827071111291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942721771433356,0.0,0.0,0.1983963587572586
parenting,TaurusWoman33,2020/02/12,"Because of me my kid is always late to school. Help everyone!

I’m a mom to two daughters. One is 2 months old and the other one is 7 years old. 

On top of things I have sleep apena (untreated at the moment) but I will be going to a pulmonologist next week. Anyway... 

My 7 year old is smart and she’s an honor roll student. But she is late to school maybe 2-3 times out of the week. Today I dropped her off at 8:30am when she’s supposed to be in by 7:44am.

My husband leaves for work at 6:30AM so he can’t help. And the bus doesn’t stop close to our house so that’s not an option. 

The problem is that I have a newborn, sleep apnea, deal with neuromuscular disorder, and some days all I can do is breathe & survive. I meet all their needs and they’re clean, well-fed, house is immaculate, etc., 

BUT sometimes I simply cannot drag myself out of bed on time. It’s more than laziness or sleepiness. It’s exhaustion and fatigue that cannot be scared away with coffee. 

I feel like a terrible mom for this. My daughter desperately wants to have perfect attendance but man, this is HARD.",1.5750454545454566,3.717534777272729,2.8990909090909125,92.08863636363638,80.77272727272728,5.8181818181818175,21.81818181818182,6.980632752743323,0.4893181818181813,841,26,183,10,22,272,137,220,0.11199999999999999,0.7490000000000001,0.139,0.7503,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,1,5,4,9,0,1,11,0,22,5,3,0,3,27,27,14,0,3,6,5,2,1,0,1,2,0,2,3,9,11,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,5,0,3,0,2,20,4,27,23,5,33,0,1,0,0,19,12,0,3,19,113,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291810968154684,0.13401561667549194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620870506916645,0.0,0.0,0.07539889943583304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976836109572126,0.12751663079126613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175686802402876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794452759960885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181889379098579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254023870687248,0.08836254752934031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702945941084924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079992199648367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658105723434918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854380950434399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790503206503671,0.130967459575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042758298454087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426096150382132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897231768431378,0.09872637553692544,0.0,0.0,0.0917128933792399,0.0,0.0,0.13154331672046676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893684358278506,0.0,0.16762802995451656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835246460656365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238330071457378,0.25035719635804143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24755413542153834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233033942924115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340849060120233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217263971435923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424663394799014,0.0,0.11724151689580165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082495130720992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295423481316254,0.0,0.19842969164969346,0.0,0.11121013427126117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004614921913526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930170104698374
parenting,fly-away-home,2020/02/12,"Opinions needed about puberty I just wanted to get everyone's opinions about pubic hair. My 10 year old daughter is at the point she is growing pubic hair. She lives with me (father) and has always had a close relationship with my mum where they can talk about anything girl/women related. She has never had an issue with her growing pubic hair and accepts it's just one of those things. She has spent the night at her mum's and has come back shaven. I'd just like everyone's opinion as to me, my partner and my mum, we don't agree as we think it is slightly sexualising her very early. Thanks",3.461282051282048,5.441048333333335,4.403769230769231,84.3287307692308,74.21367521367522,6.731282051282051,25.375213675213672,7.554174236665415,1.3318382905982906,473,16,90,6,10,153,74,117,0.018000000000000002,0.883,0.099,0.8057,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,4,0,11,6,3,0,1,22,18,6,0,2,3,5,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,11,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,3,3,17,3,13,15,0,14,0,0,0,3,18,5,0,3,7,60,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527490447914406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19312396279815489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045660080177106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20215846731960024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44849897908642017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261208613757706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449478892992714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465417050239017,0.0,0.207229227728207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740143357622133,0.1810018568436096,0.0,0.0,0.22023392667889527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24626013940839045,0.0,0.15902715099743234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22185111903522248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519615187515014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862915934077015,0.0,0.21606440802249932,0.0,0.0,0.15591283614391624,0.1503752735855451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936379026787693,0.13842200637545993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511280403010185
parenting,PositiveSeaweed3,2020/02/12,"Eldest Daughter (8) behavior issues are tearing family apart Throwaway account, thank you for everyone reading!

My Husband and I (38F/45M) are at our wit's end on what to do about our eldest daughter, and now that it's effecting my youngest daughter (4) I'm really concerned about the long term effects. She's mirroring some behavior because she realizes that if sis is behaving this way to get attention, then she should as well, otherwise she's being completely neglected.

She has been in therapy for past 6 months and recently has reached the wall, as in she's over it, and she's resisting against the therapist now and will do everything to resist. For example, if he asks ""how are you feeling"" she'll respond with ""I want to throw this tissue box across the room"". He's suggested moving over to Occupational Therapy for the time being but I want to reach out and just get some other insight.

If she doesn't want to do something, then there is nothing you can do to convince her otherwise. She will run away (if you're lucky) because the alternative is throwing a full blown tantrum. We're talking screaming/yelling so yard, she'll pop blood vessels in her eyes. Kicking, screaming, and scratching herself until she bleeds. Having to constantly make sure her nails are trimmed down to nothing is part of maintenance. This is not limited to just at home. She does this at school. I have gotten calls where I've been told half the staff had to chase my daughter through the school grounds, until she locked herself in the bathroom and it takes half the day to coax her out.

To accommodate her the school has set up her own ""time out space"". If she feels overwhelmed in any way, she is free to go into this tent set up with her favorite things, a weighted blanket, etc so she can calm down. But that's not enough. She needs the entire class to be out of the room.

I have quit my job to be a SAHM in large part because her behavior has been escalating. My entire life revolves around her. I can't leave to do anything because i'll get calls where i have to drop everything to handle her because of something that happened at the school. I've left carts full of groceries. However, she'll say things like how I hate her, and never spend time with, or can't stand to be with her. But the teachers have to literally pry her out of my hands when i drop her off for school.

Today, i was at the school for my youngest daughter's school event, and i was surprised to see my eldest daughter in the classroom. The teacher pulled me aside and said she didn't want to say anything, she will occasionally ""drop in"" on my youngest daughter's class to visit. At first the youngest was happy but it's become disruptive and is upsetting her.

I see my youngest withdrawing, and i don't want her to suffer for my oldest daughter who clearly needs more attention. I dont' know what else to do. I am in tears every second i get because the fear is clearly i'm not doing something right?! What am i missing?? Do I ignore the behavior and not feed into it? Do I set up more boundaries? Do i get a different therapist?",5.0870308123249295,6.371243806722692,5.245252100840336,82.68911064425772,68.91596638655462,8.42296918767507,32.317927170868344,8.77342768361299,2.6147086834733893,2455,108,467,41,42,772,265,595,0.077,0.8320000000000001,0.09,-0.733,3,0,3,0,1,0,76.0,2,3,0,5,16,20,2,3,25,0,60,7,3,5,4,72,90,35,0,13,16,10,5,1,0,7,2,4,4,0,21,26,2,3,9,2,3,7,11,10,1,4,11,12,76,11,86,67,12,86,0,4,3,0,68,47,0,9,24,324,97,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05156154429686679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479005297469492,0.06749763457926376,0.070883313129918,0.0,0.0712372431470542,0.0,0.0,0.2773222399613089,0.08373941638845225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484543151559993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949790014217277,0.08193662071216154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04889890246548872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921782791157693,0.0,0.0,0.0663523228870594,0.0,0.08886279216264395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633395323853866,0.0,0.06715576632427807,0.0783443705666403,0.08456154680985424,0.0,0.0,0.06388328566187021,0.07245114814906035,0.13628780750713554,0.0,0.0714782117806406,0.08532080370816619,0.07667573937055044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644941347655448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806926730834826,0.0,0.04309137675572307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704912371276868,0.08071390424900357,0.0,0.07485850465612331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605562491558941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791384446518509,0.07524161248971308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04166977555469256,0.0,0.0,0.08028452564326632,0.08238079968764042,0.0,0.05355530456360858,0.037042787967531465,0.0,0.0,0.06710006352401444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506117583073052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060520378529004014,0.0805867619913499,0.0,0.11244207017861804,0.05847858281480954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455064634140122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642156242377802,0.07238065632829685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064600547984267,0.0758424953427108,0.0,0.04857349989571598,0.0,0.07486505489703098,0.0,0.0,0.0647515539362291,0.07212406303183863,0.12059335850730747,0.0,0.5371512195222485,0.12084059767243445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511438629179132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146131585448237,0.0,0.057008690421453165,0.06094283289771998,0.0,0.06980668926945661,0.1734180769323112,0.1760703181767744,0.10074550459680257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263721331695075,0.0,0.07187036841228604,0.07245114814906035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360883209649832,0.12036791198449424,0.0,0.09233074123036526,0.0681730630315783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dylan784,2020/02/12,"Should You Search Your Children? I can’t find one single article or post about whether parents feel like they should search their children/make them empty their pockets. I don’t have any children so it’s just a random question, but let’s say your 14 year old came home with bloodshot eyes and smelt like they just smoked. would you have them empty their pockets?",5.733823529411764,7.445369441176473,3.943411764705882,91.01335294117649,67.82352941176471,6.028235294117647,28.30588235294117,5.6839178017228535,0.945978823529412,294,10,55,1,5,82,50,68,0.055,0.862,0.083,0.4137,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,7,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,8,1,1,0,0,15,10,5,0,3,5,1,1,2,0,3,0,1,1,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,13,2,2,5,1,4,0,0,1,0,16,0,0,3,4,34,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893694878898553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31849606447554524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080305095768328,0.198939379506353,0.0,0.0,0.2545169903739754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793286147227224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847549512931873,0.0,0.2720932385979833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29220794400942857,0.0,0.1886988164072053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092085334136773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666977608547394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119506888749564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22145091710174253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978174521638784,0.0,0.0,0.17932587078292728
parenting,clyft,2020/02/12,"Vacationing without child Husband and I have a 7yo child(F). We take multiple family small/moderate vacations a year. Our 10yr wedding anniversary is coming up and Husband and I have been talking about taking a bigger trip to celebrate. We like to travel and visit different places but do so on a smaller budget. For our trip I have been thinking of increasing and going somewhere more exotic (Amazon River eg.).

I am having some mommy guilt over such a trip and not including my daughter. She would be happy to stay at home with the grandparents but I  want her to experience adventures as well. I would not have such guilt if we were to decide to do a more couples only trip to the Caribbean or something. 

I know ultimately this is up to me and my husband and what works for our family. 

Would you do an exotic anniversary trip and bring her back a nice souvenir? Or plan a family trip for another time?",4.269605522682443,6.6233588402366905,5.631218934911243,74.7567297830375,73.02366863905327,9.4770808678501,29.01814595660749,9.888512548439397,3.374348796844183,720,30,121,21,15,241,105,169,0.031,0.8490000000000001,0.12,0.9338,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,6,1,0,2,6,7,0,2,11,0,18,0,0,0,0,30,26,16,0,5,8,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,14,0,0,3,1,1,12,3,2,1,0,3,0,20,5,21,19,4,23,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,4,4,96,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732089862765067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736407384015895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388359588357267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197663115752512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18664205648476406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474539493419855,0.5052211399490778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152592398045997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901669040050368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919171246810953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817654444486217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727507817945074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586470018871125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18664205648476406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752674130394374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904077750488309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686319354688676,0.14358504846578254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446608266344002,0.0,0.0,0.10416713389110832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536722192694112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061991368005862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17220376441810506,0.0,0.13005293815688482,0.0,0.0,0.38070479865992973,0.0,0.0,0.11503909081182187
parenting,Parajurist,2020/02/12,"Cuba for a week, without our toddler.. never again! My SO never had the chance to travel. While we're working the idea of having a second child, I realised that we may not be able to travel for the next few years (home,budget, project, job, etc). I convinced her. 

Cheap destination for canadian, Cuba won. 

We managed to find the perfect environment for our nugget (20 months) a friend is on maternity break and was happy to take care of him.

Oh boy... what a crappy week it was. Beach was great. Cuban people, amazing. Food, ok. We tried taking time for ourself, our couple. We failed. A part of us was missing. Every child, toddler even teen we encounter was a reminder of our kid back home. We nearly took a plane 2 days earlier. We stood strong, finished the 7 days. 

I'm writting this in our bed while he's napping.

Home sweet home.

P.s. for all travelling families here, I tip my hat to you. We're not made with the same material. You impress me!

P.P.s. not a native english speaker",1.2007569558101494,3.84567275,2.544893617021277,89.69576923076927,90.11702127659576,4.594435351882161,22.124386252045827,6.297961479604792,0.5844101472995087,759,28,144,8,26,244,129,188,0.053,0.7509999999999999,0.196,0.9838,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,13,2,0,5,5,14,0,0,14,1,10,1,0,1,4,22,19,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,4,4,9,1,0,2,5,1,4,6,2,0,1,10,2,23,12,20,7,5,23,0,2,0,0,23,3,0,1,15,90,27,5,0.14244232418116134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952935485536844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522944278595512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760972241014892,0.0,0.18372703027476608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886084438991366,0.09408181171610272,0.0,0.12001380160969477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428194619579015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301897037412985,0.0,0.17224182380883685,0.0,0.11005058631890267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570431652753096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163250279510174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5715250607636757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080004586124175,0.0,0.0,0.14135202753861612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347823712515282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369610418236092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21972060339850705,0.0,0.15148902773960027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425115618503846,0.0,0.0987515724259853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21419780123652735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830592647208626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825866329808214,0.09670898795928222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134057752914733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285172809391671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730931744444744,0.0,0.10369970848377863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172818661762264
parenting,stratusphero,2020/02/12,"Four year old enrolled in girls-only dance class. Any reason for concern? Me (M37) and my wife (F37) took our son (M4) to a “dance and acrobatics” class. 

He’s an active, playful little boy with pretty normal development. Loves ice cream, trucks and Paw Patrol. 

When we got the dance class, there were 9 little girls dressed as princesses, and him. 

I was immediately intimidated. I’m all for a gender-neutral approach, but I didn’t think any class could be gender neutral in that scenario. 

I brought my dissatisfaction to my wife. I was upset and said it was a “no” for that. She got furious and said I’m regressive and incompatible to her values. 

I then took back my “no” and said I had a theoretical question: could it be, in any way, detrimental to his development to attend a 9x1 gender imbalanced dance class?

I think it’s fair to raise questions, and my wife said I should browse for an answer. Yet, we are still talking divorce for incompatibility of views. 

I’m trying to remain neutral and calm, and get some answers. Any advice from Redditors concerning child development issues concerning gender and strategies to have parents discuss the issue agreeably?

Thank you.",5.120681341719081,7.480754443396227,5.868427672955973,73.96640461215935,70.60377358490567,7.9186582809224335,29.230607966457022,8.680891452615391,2.5033010482180296,930,37,156,17,18,303,128,212,0.092,0.795,0.113,0.3523,1,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,3,1,0,0,5,6,1,1,9,0,13,1,0,1,1,29,30,16,0,4,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,5,15,0,0,7,5,0,9,3,2,0,1,15,6,22,4,20,10,2,22,0,0,2,1,27,5,0,3,7,93,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763368502025288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552857574295235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043347093397934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20856798767660165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823999418441921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089265789651967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726524450862484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618174335714285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788349182849585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797318177296646,0.0,0.0,0.1370565578847341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503047616288614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288055741446314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29263330120548386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342920996719159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969721662258009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430785196688327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498192422876598,0.0,0.1202510650570903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738329993739762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902320913217596,0.08867777358945217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367466045382764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411060374319453
parenting,fairlyoddmama,2020/02/12,"Do you fear being “that mom”? 
I don’t want to be that mom, but I don’t want to NOT be that mom. 

I’m a shy, non confrontational person but when it comes to my kids I can force myself to voice opinions or cause a “stink” if need be. I never curse or yell. If necessary, I will even make phone calls to bosses or costumer service representatives. 

I feel embarrassed for having to be confrontational, even when they are in the wrong. Sometimes I even fight tears as a I talk. 

Please tell me that some of you feel this way too?",2.410209643605872,4.0970666037735874,3.4750314465408785,91.12583857442348,76.35849056603773,6.5979035639412995,20.26834381551363,7.3871296695380915,0.3009425576519917,404,9,91,5,9,130,69,106,0.244,0.6759999999999999,0.08,-0.9645,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,2,1,0,6,7,3,2,4,0,12,0,0,3,1,20,20,10,0,5,8,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,0,5,14,0,10,14,1,6,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,7,3,62,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470357139735227,0.0,0.0,0.18581848287322306,0.0,0.15581621027445125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35841804822829537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354565201109087,0.1829215465080926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074198667097387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6355501593435791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341237628648421,0.13950948362416468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794160163134974,0.0,0.1985571556629941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889965993044504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538832404812546,0.1581012593146379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338104446460585,0.14357790867687592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19776909712043556,0.0,0.0
parenting,babyblanka,2020/02/12,"Disney with a newborn? So, I am hoping for some words of wisdom here. 
Long short short, my husband's family is planning a LARGE trip to Disney World later this year. I am pregnant and will have a 5 week old during the trip. 
Is it possible to go? Or is it more reasonable to stay home (by myself)? 
Background; I have a 3 year old. I do not want to take the opportunity for her to go on this trip away from her. I could send her and her father and be by myself with the new baby for a week. Not ideal, as it breaks my heart to miss this with her as well, but I'd rather break my heart than hers. 
Alternatively, we could all go. In reality, I know that people in Florida have babies, and that they deal with the heat and activities, etc. Although I'm worried, I also know that it's almost easier to travel with a newborn than, you know, a toddler. I'm slightly nervous about my body, and recovery. I'm also slightly nervous about breastfeeding/privacy and of course, sleeping arrangements. All of that could be worked out ahead of time. 
What I'm really looking for is, has anyone had an experience like this before? Is it impossible or worth the trouble? ",3.487317670092999,5.087545370044059,5.027011747430251,81.48318037200198,73.27312775330397,7.863827704356339,25.38644150758688,8.515128840125781,1.7190843857072928,897,29,176,16,18,302,128,227,0.068,0.853,0.079,0.5329999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,1,5,8,10,0,2,13,0,19,4,4,1,2,35,34,16,0,7,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,14,14,0,0,4,1,1,8,2,4,1,0,1,1,22,6,35,27,5,30,0,1,1,0,15,8,0,5,12,127,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120289855480025,0.0,0.0,0.2255340911134369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859869431085548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248518098069126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199906132735051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566322654651984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377592245168639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537692248075285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726537606156654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793654956747578,0.13293332820847575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042068148556084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341992054727781,0.0,0.0,0.1414462826802711,0.14005648516696206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324891101298823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889121828840339,0.0,0.0,0.12479096139983825,0.11841435531250928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361900268834791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959362218640343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977597924390086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589695607595064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033573788453984,0.1449835645096181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411135870342949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029976332678632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602328689737828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222508543176933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317238365901201,0.0,0.2262222403606116,0.0,0.1267864981117003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265823346719988,0.14320427703361366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161388754121327
parenting,ThrowRaDaterz,2020/02/12,"People offering unhelpful suggestions. Am I wrong? I'm a single father two two boys - J and L - who are 4 and 2. Their mother isn't in the picture, by her own choosing. My ex lives a ways away, and her family see our kids every couple of months. My parents split their time and help out as much as they can. It means I'm alone most days, and in addition to work, I'm undertaking professional certification, which means I study every evening. I like to make sure the kids have a homemade dinner (the eldest is difficult to feed while the youngest eats like a starving wolverine) which involves a number of steps. Some evenings (not every), I have a lot of dishes and two rambunctious kiddos so I'll bide them for 15 minutes with some TV - usually something innocuous like Ben & Holly or Paw Patrol. It usually keeps them centralized and calm while I get the food away, dishes cleaned and prepare baths. I would say, on average, it happens 1-2 times a week - usually Friday and maybe 1 other night/a week. My kids have very different appetites and I like to make sure the eldest has a good meal (he's also struggled the most), so for me food is more important than a bit of TV. 

However, I've been getting a lot of flack from friends, my ex's parents, and even our pediatrician. My oldest was singing a paw patrol song while we were getting his brother a booster shot and she made some comment about how she was surprised he watched TV. I said he doesn't get huge doses but *"".... sometimes after dinner.""* You would have sworn that I had said "".... *after dinner, I put the kids in the car and rob banks...""* Her face was flushed and she admonished me for it. 

I've been getting  a lot of this recently and am starting to date/ see someone and don't want them to also think I'm a heinous dadbeast. Does anyone else do this? Sometimes I just need 5 minutes to order my thoughts after a long day at work, studying, kids and then more studying.",3.5933810591685362,5.4548367165775415,4.385749525616703,85.1071631878558,73.54545454545455,7.178747628083491,28.10729687769536,7.941651935203635,1.8081229256511988,1508,60,292,22,31,484,210,374,0.057999999999999996,0.878,0.063,-0.5964,4,1,1,0,0,0,69.0,3,1,6,2,10,13,0,1,24,0,24,12,1,4,2,49,49,30,0,4,4,7,0,4,1,2,1,4,2,6,11,21,10,1,5,6,1,3,4,3,0,3,11,7,36,10,34,36,14,36,0,0,3,0,43,9,0,9,26,178,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311550108921296,0.0,0.1437955903858293,0.0,0.0974131127264346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286436515963449,0.09211932092694937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689392918156215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981540658335063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947927823422913,0.0,0.11596386367770915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393263379751517,0.0,0.0,0.07867734589140123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199628238582,0.07510492596569779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781461939282727,0.0,0.2272490461827555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475537475208839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174293825562504,0.0,0.06946115207137253,0.0,0.23486086961869676,0.0,0.0,0.07540888668814415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950357830040156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026209622286885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991258314771138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569411980732366,0.0,0.07938864457464229,0.07956398024225741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293045967188399,0.0,0.0850712304150125,0.12002590538672625,0.0,0.0903226605282676,0.1958679802640272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176211092277564,0.0,0.06609125423439734,0.06666415931848024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437068998452286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965994522670255,0.0,0.0,0.06232949972380411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038036154393768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877132801120369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710423872848583,0.07149685924059494,0.0,0.0,0.14328688261571015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617706148781637,0.0692140307044007,0.17783866448249408,0.0,0.06363592907902202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398927119918377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947068077504515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057608134134220286,0.0,0.07137532088121988,0.10484982244426724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634752925180764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29705626935910456,0.0741818651764031,0.05302888779696238,0.07136319749912448,0.144234339254271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309052765948148,0.0,0.0,0.12773328480907564,0.09829809660197553,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fluffy_Run,2020/02/12,"How to talk to other parents. I have a teenage son (15) who is dating a girl whose parents will not communicate with me. Recently he came home with a hickey and scratch marks on his neck. I reached out to the mother who forgot to call me back. After he got out of trouble, the mother sent me a text promising she would watch them better and that she was sorry.I went to pick my son up from the house when I was informed there was no parents there. The mother was at work asked me to reach out to the father, who laughed at me and told me he cannot babysit them and it's not a big deal. I just asked for communication on my child from the parents.  am I in the wrong and how should I try to approach talking to them without ruining my child's relationship with his girlfriend.",4.594556962025315,4.952845417721524,5.0606075949367115,86.92205063291142,69.50632911392404,7.5858227848101265,29.09113924050633,7.1686216300943375,1.39176,608,21,131,5,10,194,92,158,0.052000000000000005,0.865,0.083,0.4291,4,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,3,2,7,6,0,0,12,0,11,1,1,3,0,23,19,8,0,2,4,10,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,7,12,0,1,1,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,10,2,22,3,27,6,0,19,0,1,1,0,38,10,0,0,5,94,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916765462842291,0.0,0.0,0.1199538209224315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796869045649515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929271177541232,0.17842162338399115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082841295435574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476687903976667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648000228353284,0.0,0.0,0.18000223005301996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6928749789947549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403047406744766,0.16748485101335706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507726323091583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906400204313774,0.0,0.10591327446943992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461290010741332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037774391588365,0.0,0.11356933744015235,0.0,0.0,0.11081741624306386,0.17056072899595628,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kojiro12,2020/02/12,"Off formula but not 100% solid feeding yet, DHA whole milk? Our son is 20 months old now, we extended formula as per doc's recommendation while working in solids. He's a pretty good eater but not yet fully on solids so doc asked us to try working in milk. It seems whole would be best, however we do know he doesn't handle lactose, so either have to buy lactose free or buy regular milk and add lactase to it.

But, that's also the problem-I never really paid attention much to kinds of milk offerings in my grocer, but after looking last night there were TOO MANY to choose from. The most expensive top shelf stuff seems to be with DHA (algal oil) added, but I have no idea if that is necessary or something toddlers should have. The fairlife brand looks good, more protein per oz, but also has less carbs, in which as an adult I probably wouldn't mind but for a growing child, not sure that's a good idea. 

Any advice is appreciated, thanks!",7.834043715846995,6.584791202185798,7.686448087431698,76.17043715846997,63.20765027322405,10.974863387978141,33.994535519125684,9.994966539143718,3.0801978142076503,742,25,145,13,9,238,125,183,0.034,0.773,0.193,0.9886,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,0,4,9,8,0,0,7,0,15,6,0,0,2,33,23,18,0,4,14,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,5,6,0,7,0,5,1,7,0,0,0,2,3,7,9,19,16,8,18,0,0,2,0,11,7,0,6,10,89,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409733014158765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307360487706977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981045994302613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486754781553265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513963719506667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630058858536664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257134318503885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022895881413315,0.07928382857591063,0.1175945733711462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422911793747002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626125027139664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566571155421565,0.0,0.11515030385380673,0.0,0.1060507823600639,0.0,0.11126544056293657,0.0,0.0,0.135382174007227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138100449455208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467685499304225,0.15554120192790938,0.1380413510287884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241933722463437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626654093526357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106162519571244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514798803244102,0.0,0.0,0.13596729621400008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281908797966147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979459184550772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353206344979574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32213164283618445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21005210384879394,0.0,0.0,0.1024811447773462,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NAlex5456,2020/02/12,"My 9 year old Daughter won’t stop taking and hiding food On mobile sorry for and spelling or grammar problems first post.


My 9year old has ADHD and is constantly taking food and hiding it and it’s not just little thing this whole boxes of snakes or even meat/dairy things I find rotting in her room I’ve talked to her about it and she always answers she don’t know. What should I do to help her stop and understand how and why it’s not good besides it’s gross.",2.8021315789473675,4.546214726315789,3.449671052631583,91.48082236842107,75.42105263157895,5.592105263157895,21.348684210526315,5.985473137389443,0.13060526315789422,369,9,76,2,8,116,66,95,0.18899999999999997,0.7829999999999999,0.027999999999999997,-0.9119,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,22,10,11,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,8,2,2,4,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,9,1,7,8,1,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,7,48,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212034893790912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680411460755655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906584392361368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653052655031565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125406655839822,0.15007149388647828,0.426680355242247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479813362032415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182574881173851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696145998609153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17682947613881692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37026777020232376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897142472357055,0.0,0.0,0.16881993685999475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749923790768428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29500720432169475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653072055981701,0.14180796452084307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344248578905873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367012875528246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920087283408718,0.19697809098112085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361530662602735
parenting,MyThrowAwayATX7788,2020/02/12,"Kid's mom won't take him to school on cold/rainy days My 1st grader son's best friend's mom is a single mom with 4 kids ranging from 6 to 18 years old. The kids' school is about 2 1/2 miles from our houses and we take our son to school, while her son rides the bus. We would sometimes get her son from the bus after school to the point that it was almost daily (that's a whole other story to tell) and we started noticing that he missed a lot of school. This was particularly true on cold (we live in Texas, so when I say ""cold"", I mean 50 degress or lower) or rainy days. Fast forward to this year and the same thing is happening, but now it's at the point that she's asking us to come pick up her son to take him to school in the mornings when it's ""cold"" or rainy. Here's where the problem is.. On days when we have reasons that we can't take her son to school, he just doesn't go to school. Her work schedule is such that she works in the evenings and on weekends, so she's off 2 days during the week and in the mornings, but if it's cold or rainy she just flat out isn't going to take him to school. It kills us to see that she doesn't value his education enough to make the effort to get him to school. We feel guilty when we're not able to take him because it's not fair to him that his mom doesn't care enough about his future to make sure that he gets to school as much as possible. 

What would you do, if anything?

TL;DR: My kid's best friend's mom won't take her kid to school on cold/rainy days. What would you do, if anything?",4.74538487282463,3.758987882530121,4.860562248995986,93.06629852744312,69.27108433734941,7.859705488621151,24.468540829986612,5.82211442006289,0.28824846050870123,1195,20,298,4,18,373,144,332,0.081,0.878,0.040999999999999995,-0.8765,1,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,11,2,0,5,15,10,1,0,15,0,20,0,0,4,2,43,43,23,1,7,13,11,1,0,2,5,0,2,0,5,21,15,0,0,3,1,0,5,9,3,0,0,2,8,37,7,45,36,9,43,0,1,1,0,57,18,0,9,22,177,58,14,0.05959901239060299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059679801849685785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808981806500773,0.0,0.05571703130992784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036331004775278265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509097307415093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060765165198176686,0.0,0.0,0.05133927191729585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19218216244330727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316342323947285,0.0,0.039364585592320464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03013505141464434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209209826247483,0.0,0.09341407234670386,0.0,0.06774298440271839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270320982824917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876925838217954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593747688188355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052627019845426684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066894905363875,0.0,0.0,0.07956560712928648,0.0,0.0,0.06492079654255167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349008214979144,0.0,0.0,0.043812131657349714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678538706262959,0.0625391378709407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268066162471713,0.06718893155424112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057028205835369564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061277710939036514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04739552678220571,0.0,0.723808588544456,0.04749269656516415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05894494719710716,0.0,0.0421844877245021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05617136385280363,0.0,0.3136772809038751,0.0,0.052092163762193534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03959493557860605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338054734609942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780673278273267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654016893067248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677758168234137,0.0,0.0,0.12701228526924474,0.0,0.0,0.0767596198983428
parenting,7182ivan,2020/02/12,"6/m and 9/f don’t listen and don’t get along More times than not if I get a call from my wife at 8am and I’m at work it’s because the kids gave her a hard time in the morning. While I admit they’re not perfect, for the most part they’re amazing kids. They are super loving and outgoing. But when mom is getting ready for work and they’re left to their own devices it usually ends up with some tattle tailing and them screaming at each other and mom having to diffuse which isn’t how she wants to start her day. How many times can I take away their prized possessions and put them in their room before they get it. It’s frustrating, annoying, upsetting you name it. I know that everyone goes through this at some point or another. Just looking for some advice. Thanks !!!",2.7714800389483933,4.3910616202531685,3.563924050632913,91.15833982473222,75.20253164556964,6.886854917234664,24.17916260954236,7.61054688173877,0.9853509250243424,608,19,131,8,13,193,107,158,0.09300000000000001,0.755,0.152,0.8966,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,7,5,4,10,2,1,5,0,7,1,0,2,1,28,22,15,0,2,6,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,9,11,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,4,16,6,19,21,8,21,0,0,1,1,22,11,0,6,9,82,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685620799438196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087815332037446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206661739677047,0.0,0.0,0.1051525750995306,0.0,0.1467822489175992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761387316271678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112462999254073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527811493827265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482828346953024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36049026879556495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452343742328334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479984448430917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741850405771784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485404235145835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568528457435393,0.0,0.0,0.17488489177251834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040528222431081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679745009908266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630654286476049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340713716865122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209427019492496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969628259970986,0.0,0.0,0.15881206938643438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017531778825019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18998108426655666,0.0,0.10174320464118204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511597527029353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ameagan_213,2020/02/12,"Husband doesn't want Daughter to take ADD medication Our daughter (11) has been having difficulties in school. Going from advanced placement back to regular course work. Teachers have said she's just staring into space, struggling to start work, and getting distracted easily. She's gone from an A average to a C. Her teachers have all said the work she submits is 100% correct (the parts she's actually completed) but large portions are incomplete. 

I brought up this issue with her Pediatrician and she recommended getting our daughter tested for ADD. After I received the take home packet I gave the appropriate portion to her teachers. One of them even said that she was glad I brought this up with the pediatrician and she was thinking my daughter had ADD but they aren't allowed to say that to parents. 

All the packets have been filled out and now we're waiting on her official testing.  My husband has made it clear that if she is diagnosed with ADD we are not starting her on medication. I'm not sure how I feel about this. His reason is he doesn't want medication that effects her brain. Especially since it's still developing. I understand where he's coming from but I also don't want my daughter struggling in school. 

Parents with children with ADD what did you decide to do? Those that didn't choose medication what alternatives are you using? Pros? Cons?",4.966384992987379,7.677453120967745,5.316023842917254,76.15436185133241,72.2258064516129,7.861430575035063,32.960028050490884,8.716276077567194,3.1210376577840115,1106,55,182,22,23,351,138,248,0.066,0.8809999999999999,0.053,0.3899,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,2,2,5,9,5,0,3,9,0,24,6,1,6,5,46,49,10,0,4,7,9,1,0,0,0,5,4,1,1,13,18,0,1,7,0,0,8,7,3,0,1,15,6,32,2,28,34,5,24,0,0,1,0,40,10,0,2,6,128,45,7,0.0,0.0,0.11737877763798693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619020663261844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249013986387328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342755172261064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361308388821533,0.12611435178553848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220846305516156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944573339046224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06081865779536533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568572105958106,0.0,0.06835955462189022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065357473241373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554411664628795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381460599945575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4846895447680568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150681866197197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671198933998248,0.1302546794743501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367087352217017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34324980060351473,0.0956538047583106,0.0,0.2434654706591901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949927332345578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027373790658334,0.0,0.09605809425484302,0.0,0.0,0.25149164570736793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133652273910659,0.0,0.1808755709468102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707243749577919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521876037849689,0.0,0.10388582216733973,0.0,0.0,0.2128379456282865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26270219214308105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eggplan,2020/02/12,"Need advice on teaching humility to a precocious preschooler who receives constant praise I apologize if this post may come off as humble bragging but I can't figure out a better way to explain. TLDR at the end.

Our 4.5yo has always been a friendly and extroverted kid. We, the parents, tend to be the opposite: surly and introverted. We've always taught her to mind her manners, treat others the way she wants to be treated, be inclusive, etc. We've been lucky to have an easy and outgoing kid who surprsingly follows rules and directions. 

Our kid receives a lot of praise from other adults regarding her manners and how friendly she is. When she receives compliments, we thank the parents and let her know so-and-so's parents said ""you were very nice to [other kid]. Thank you for [doing a good thing]."" She is also an advanced reader for her age. Not all kids in her class know how to read yet. She showed an interest in books early on, and we encouraged her by reading books and going to the library regularly. Her preschool teacher was surprised to see her reading level and often gives her more challenging books to read to encourage her more. Again, she receives praise and positive reinforcement for this.

The other morning when I was waiting in line to drop her off at class with other kids and their parents, she was reading a sign on the wall with directions. She turned to one of her classmates, also waiting in line, and said ""I'm a great reader!"" This classmate responded and said, ""I don't know how to read."" I pulled her aside and said she is a great reader, but does not need to brag about it when other kids are still learning. She seemed a little sad about this and asked for a hug. Another time, we were out shopping and she had to use the bathroom. She was washing her hands and looking in the mirror and said out loud and proud, ""my eyes are so pretty!"" (this is another random thing she gets complimented on). The other adults in the bathroom chuckled at this. I told her quietly, ""yes, they are but you don't need to make announcements about it...""

We want to continue to encourage her curiosity, and continue to provide positive reinforcement but also don't want to inadvertently raise a narcissist who toots their own horn.

TLDR: preschooler receives regular praise, but has begun repeating it out loud. How do we continue to provide positive reinforcement and teach humility at the same time to a 4.5yo?",5.437623371496247,7.2833693914988835,5.71945584945388,77.47328562968814,68.73154362416108,8.838241873930784,31.715291485721806,9.325443323948027,3.0196759310435586,1926,83,334,40,34,613,202,447,0.018000000000000002,0.738,0.244,0.9990000000000001,5,0,0,1,0,0,70.0,8,3,3,8,18,28,0,0,28,1,30,4,2,6,1,72,65,39,0,7,8,4,1,0,2,1,1,8,0,9,21,34,0,2,7,11,1,10,6,1,0,1,16,12,51,27,58,44,7,54,4,1,3,1,85,23,0,7,17,240,72,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232679908963528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021208286153771,0.1402032403409935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668409636466045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876110867238785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451107852766431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257274624247465,0.0,0.09104285343336978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737265554164299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461929156372192,0.0,0.09395950730447812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301805855156283,0.0,0.04401643884376684,0.08081897538852349,0.047880445448137854,0.07066376477644201,0.0,0.18576885313018876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389025530508924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614994570450829,0.0,0.0,0.08443927341116356,0.0,0.0,0.07074764173510828,0.0,0.0,0.07162518369887093,0.0,0.0,0.05623662354546188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506711305565061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874079042931012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057089061012491164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741925925288907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068691172113583,0.08571115808059103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5056286525482185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006987621990239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713526093137569,0.0766968006224755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728107529753123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15512966301488235,0.0,0.0,0.11194211000352114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825212273314564,0.0,0.0,0.08050318898537659,0.0,0.0,0.09163833120777286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276377777226542,0.0,0.06951395388160837,0.14907609772058975,0.13374530306030202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DepressiveFart,2020/02/12,"Toddler not talking much still Hi all! My oldest is going to be 3 in June. He’s still not talking much, he has a few words and puts a few words together, “okay bye!” or “mom bath” but in general he’s not talking like I think he should. He finds ways to tell me what he wants or gets it himself. If we’re in the store he’ll point to what he wants, and at home as much as we discourage this, he’s a climber. He can climb on our counters if he wants, uses anything he can as a stool, and if he feels the need to ask he’ll point and say “that” until we show him what he wants and he says yes. He’s very good about listening to instructions for the most part. 

Due to some unforeseen circumstances, we went without insurance for a little while, starting next month he will have insurance again so he will immediately be going to the doctor so we can explore options. I feel like I should have had him in speech therapy months ago but I just couldn’t help this situation so I’m in an autopilot mode to make sure I cover all bases. Currently I’m thinking ENT (he’s had a few ear infections to check hearing plus in our area this will be the quickest to get into and cross off our list), speech therapy, and maybe just go ahead with a developmental specialist? I know the medical field around our area enough to know it takes a while to get into the last two so I feel like having the referrals in and possible appointments made may be better than waiting for one to say to go to the other. 

Does this sound good or a little too crazy? Does anyone have any stories of similar situations? Any tips to help him at home?",3.5659611451942768,4.746795815950925,4.584187116564419,86.38963445807772,72.43558282208589,8.378118609406954,26.16002044989775,8.841846274778883,1.7335566462167689,1260,41,271,24,24,411,174,326,0.044000000000000004,0.868,0.08800000000000001,0.9489,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,0,3,12,9,0,0,19,2,22,4,1,3,3,63,55,27,0,11,14,1,3,3,0,8,3,9,3,0,11,17,0,2,9,2,2,9,5,1,0,2,4,12,21,8,44,38,12,47,0,1,0,0,47,20,0,10,21,162,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752965309804132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429716218818394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904335527313196,0.0,0.08125702115962931,0.08790214589209841,0.09231131388381328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733010077853379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010675769469425,0.17282121375227416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202784637269513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497821828249353,0.14108394342134473,0.0,0.0,0.09024925270902982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547673225013573,0.0,0.22447153947742174,0.1656417762635419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112904629274689,0.0,0.13237061436805225,0.0,0.1980944274245344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108533068245472,0.08048867017545629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472242942150534,0.19793272094230244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934329515640706,0.06591167513225903,0.0,0.09920054905878464,0.0,0.0,0.09947311762459958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564653077712897,0.15763133555900555,0.0,0.21776225378073535,0.07321663432252283,0.0,0.0,0.1050142304208922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691076750045534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692897498919153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668797815187274,0.11131782157812947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926392155470366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23557303287448986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22198238974932816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989075684422758,0.0,0.1577124691341038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306404662974416,0.0,0.07424239758593787,0.23809748986813697,0.08630567650294073,0.0,0.22584230090211616,0.0,0.0,0.12654096996131464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645749851458817,0.0,0.0,0.08528219120488911,0.0,0.08147326166727417,0.23296456303073645,0.07837754482761376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915356889919796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518466463348553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,widaadk,2020/02/12,"Confiscating child’s belongings. I’ve had my PC confiscated for over 2 years now and I feel it’s unfair. This all happened when I came to school late. So late in fact, to the point I was sent home. My dad keeps blaming it on the PC but the only reason I was late that day was I had a headache that morning and decided to get 5 more minutes of sleep, which turned into 2 hours. 

I guess this has taken a toll on our relationship, we are no longer close anymore and I don’t respect him the same way I did maybe 3 years ago.

Now, I still feel it’s very unfair for him to do whatever he did but it’ll be appreciated if someone could give me suggestions on what to do next as I feel depriving a teen is not a good form of punishment.

If you read all the way through, thank you.",1.3985480572597129,3.1922088957055266,3.1989202453987744,91.48263394683028,79.67484662576688,6.800654396728017,22.52310838445808,7.793537801064563,0.8322747648261761,602,19,140,10,15,201,107,163,0.138,0.79,0.073,-0.8644,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,2,0,0,5,5,1,0,9,0,16,1,1,1,3,24,29,10,0,3,5,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,10,7,0,1,5,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,10,3,19,3,17,16,5,25,0,1,0,0,13,8,0,3,13,89,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737551221712144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369302597250686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17724950179956767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373449957213918,0.0,0.0,0.09994570893003432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350792372446232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096776140264843,0.14866562784170215,0.0,0.12998522816759056,0.0,0.0,0.1707218446994074,0.0,0.1370434072081635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554520238091277,0.0,0.15261863037275494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774842475628193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5244538387422818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569267964430192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481710121709267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786506372226513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465009611923516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501640286098184,0.0,0.0,0.1593395605385178,0.0,0.16638457737379814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684243183656454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508638527484125,0.0,0.13130936091895878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123762807594226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267966550002875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16856771541431806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787016350910016,0.0,0.2460230330161055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959694829125935
parenting,Claka2m,2020/02/12,"Gotta love being a parent I smacked my 6-year old across the face this morning.. Wasn't hard & obviously no bruising or red marks but I feel awful. She was rolling her eyes & yelling at me. Refusing to do anything I asked and smacking at my hands. I don't know why I did it.. I just did and then walked away. I feel awful & I'm sure my 6-year-old will pull out the tears when she is at school and tell her teacher about it. I hardly ever smack my kids.. I genuinely love my girls. Now I'm petrified that her school will call CPS.  

I feel awful.. A just lost it and now I'm afraid I'll lose them.",-0.08958333333333357,2.0463965,1.4739375000000017,99.69397916666668,87.90625,4.663333333333333,17.908333333333328,6.079149491110277,-0.4888516666666671,464,12,112,4,15,149,80,128,0.198,0.71,0.092,-0.9355,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,1,2,7,6,0,1,4,3,10,5,3,0,3,17,22,8,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,5,5,0,1,4,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,5,9,22,3,8,13,0,14,0,2,2,2,15,6,0,1,6,63,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5124492504375286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973457382304046,0.0,0.14738380505279244,0.0,0.14811971242428235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098082809688996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426057111318624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391415212834805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824513460154985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664169048771903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637282044645375,0.17209632592413254,0.0,0.2845750710448947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308595554156193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750544432369435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31910549132985605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148585614577709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779523295128007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225685908034258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20304608104646085
parenting,essentialcitrus,2020/02/12,"Has anyone taken their kids to a fire station to see the trucks? How did it go? Did you call first and ask them would be a good time?

My daughter loves big vehicles lately (garbage/construction trucks, busses, etc) and I figured I could take her for a ride on a public bus, but sitting in a fire truck might be more fun. 

I'd really appreciate any insight; thanks in advance!",2.6242857142857154,4.881463561643837,3.348375733855189,89.63082191780823,77.76712328767123,6.36320939334638,24.127201565557733,7.447530270364453,1.0627667318982383,292,10,59,4,7,92,60,73,0.06,0.716,0.22399999999999998,0.9332,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,2,2,1,4,0,0,6,0,8,1,0,1,0,9,15,4,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,3,7,4,6,7,2,11,0,0,1,1,10,4,0,1,3,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18850075738529928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381980303010096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591380532367182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830450631025587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213160692272668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091434873935413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357802392461217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753517987091534,0.2324963519078076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126857976364734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501775208065086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29405798732363336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757694506744248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088694680087667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20841465220895225,0.0,0.0,0.25520208863589866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163347774438175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19690996671338032,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwtruerateme,2020/02/12,"My son [12] is being verbally abused when he stays with his dad The same abuse that caused me to leave his father 4 years ago is now being targeted at our son.  It is breaking my heart to send him there knowing he will come back broken and quiet.  The abuse takes the form of long, longgg rants from which there is no chance to defend yourself or escape.  Usually triggered by something small and applied inconsistently so it’s impossible to do the right things to prevent them.  The rants are a form of torture honestly.  I remember how they physically pained me and affected my health.  Please help me figure out to proceed with this delicate situation.  My son has now asked that I stop bringing my concerns up to his dad bc it just gets him into more trouble.",6.40843045843046,7.172234349650352,6.367505827505827,77.71057498057498,65.64335664335664,9.432478632478633,31.97280497280497,9.444778638647367,2.817915928515929,604,23,111,11,9,191,103,143,0.21600000000000005,0.701,0.083,-0.9727,0,0,1,0,3,0,11.0,1,0,2,0,9,4,1,0,6,0,10,3,1,4,0,20,16,7,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,8,8,0,2,3,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,1,18,1,17,13,4,21,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,1,10,77,26,0,0.0,0.6204467225155113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547298139848645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631825549444625,0.0,0.0,0.13421971168294292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931298406958585,0.0,0.1503610900202443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119621436462436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554061100223349,0.0,0.20684495756080687,0.116998524575949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592921293780536,0.0,0.0,0.1848253621125225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544730250223432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857356322500833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19160567635562886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19773338637349894,0.14906645219265666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620375871567253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134378655571829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860492045320601,0.0,0.1459332858932917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124137891184653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596459105363455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224436480777274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240576352589596
parenting,sianbethany,2020/02/12,"16 week jabs So my little girl had her 16 week jabs today, she had 3 of them. However on the NHS website it says she is only meant to have 2 on this one and no more till she is 1, has anyone else had this?",1.936312056737588,1.7016441914893647,4.07744680851064,93.73333333333336,75.17021276595744,7.117730496453903,19.921985815602838,6.42735559955562,-0.14446950354609944,155,2,41,1,3,54,37,47,0.048,0.9520000000000001,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,6,0,5,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,4,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241494556780385,0.3538779803418447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28851688491647964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34615695114471123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340353547048129,0.2626736057314732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27465643357174463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32737555885235103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5540787335125678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hhh99jjj,2020/02/12,"Don’t take it literally! 😂 You know how sometimes kids leave bits and chunks in their plate? And you tell them to finish it? And you tell them “clean your plate”?

Well in my language it’s a very similar phrase but it’s literal meaning is “wipe your plate”.

I made the mistake of using the phrase with my 3 year old and came back to her wiping her plate..with a tissue....surrounded by many other tissues soaked in gravy. 

Kids just always find a way to surprise you, don’t they?",1.7137894736842119,4.047110957894741,2.5234210526315834,93.89144736842108,81.52631578947368,5.484210526315789,20.026315789473685,6.742157984588678,0.1741368421052627,371,10,79,4,10,116,65,95,0.047,0.871,0.08199999999999999,0.47700000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,6,4,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,3,0,15,9,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,15,2,9,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,0,4,46,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19540642604803626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057814194561486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563854192501321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26859540601408555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21464031111200754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906240680604567,0.0,0.0,0.2486625850720422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222121202098187,0.0,0.23809179402094785,0.0,0.25581056582439937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246426000556688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322636365852061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657111651576765,0.0,0.4105225627750822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282712048096124,0.0,0.19376832169408129,0.0,0.18640576072394585,0.0,0.0,0.2111501556481246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122982807050694
parenting,redeveningstar,2020/02/12,"Who pays for condoms I am the mom of 3 girls who live with their dad and his partner in a big house in a great area. I live in the same city but in a small apartment in an area where the schools are not as good. The girls have always lived with their dad ever since we separated 3 years ago. Before that we all lived in the house together.

Right after the divorce there were some disagreements between me and their dad, but those are forgotten now and we get along just fine with each other. His new partner is kind to the girls and the girls excel in school. Of course I miss them a lot, but I see them on a weekly basis and once a month they come over for a full weekend at my apartment. I feel very close to all 3 of them.

So to the reason I'm writing. My oldest daughter who is 13 is a year ahead in school which means she is in her freshman year of high school. She's in a gifted program and also in the math club and in the chess club. A few months ago she made friends with a guy who is 16 at a chess meet. They started chatting and playing chess online, but as of recently they have started going over to each others houses. This weekend she asked if he could join us at my apartment and I said of course. I was really happy that she asked because unlike the other 2 kids, my oldest daughter almost never brings anyone over and has difficulties relating to other kids, despite being well-liked among her classmates.

So while he was over I couldn't help but notice that they seemed very comfortable touching each other. They spooned under a blanket while we were watching a movie and my daughter sat in his lap for a few minutes during breakfast. He also did her hair-do in the morning. I decided to call up their dad to discuss their friendship. Their dad had already noticed the same things and had 'a talk' with my daughter about birds and bees (not the first one but perhaps the most concrete one).  Apparently he told her that if she is mature enough to have sex, then she is mature enough to pay for it. He won't be paying for any form of birth control or condoms, because it is his firm belief that no one should be having sex unless they are able to pay for their own protection. I offered to pay for the birth control or condoms, but he asked me not to, because she needs to learn that with sex comes responsibility. I tried to reason with him that we don't want to risk a pregnancy, but he told me to have a little more faith in my daughter, saying she won't have sex without protection just because we aren't paying for it, she's already started tutoring some other kids to save up some money. 

I decided to talk to my daughter about all of this. She said she is fine with the way her dad is handling it and that it makes sense that she covers her expenses if she wants to have sex. I tried to find out a bit more on how close they are to actually having sex, but I didn't get many answers on that front. She told me not to worry because she is making some money and they have a plan should it come to sex. When she saw that I looked worried anyway she assured me again she won't have sex without protection. I know she always keeps her promises, but she hasn't felt how powerful the force of teen love is yet. 

I guess I have 3 options:

1. Leave it up to her to buy her own birth control or condoms
2. Tell her dad that I will be providing birth control or condoms despite what he thinks
3. Give her birth control and condoms without letting her dad know

​

Which one would you do? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What do you make of her dads attitude towards it?",5.85645546497074,5.603883518723993,5.948736510943473,83.73453604411219,66.79472954230236,8.421108893474509,30.761510097763942,7.590005382236693,1.823719772673455,2831,95,578,25,41,897,296,721,0.045,0.857,0.099,0.9935,2,0,0,0,1,0,59.0,7,2,18,10,18,17,0,1,41,0,58,16,0,13,6,121,100,46,0,11,27,16,3,0,3,7,0,3,0,10,38,40,1,9,15,9,10,6,17,2,0,5,18,10,98,15,97,68,25,88,2,1,4,15,127,47,0,17,34,419,136,15,0.0655739657242538,0.0,0.06399073138859628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625472821572184,0.0,0.06566285453311621,0.0,0.14472500355333529,0.10487895339692896,0.10912558500689916,0.07104936446571547,0.0796795457831855,0.04459254531959128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917016830100872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183908418352438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986640434979988,0.0,0.055798615080552255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158978706266281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695835061335281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16945849546713487,0.0,0.0,0.3677338921361572,0.05235547582866295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551087123820116,0.0,0.0,0.059315406177974726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033156167347398575,0.0,0.06296129046631406,0.0,0.05993341669941475,0.05577718174657436,0.0,0.0,0.05066228325530346,0.0,0.06851938125059201,0.06290452308720383,0.03726719587372655,0.055000331313772736,0.0,0.07229552870742491,0.07223711611953018,0.06492853559121624,0.0,0.06980470585640616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043952846985093316,0.06928249504821808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269906569498661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05828515367744525,0.0,0.06828519450809607,0.072075473309388,0.0,0.0,0.06943336156878432,0.0,0.06705382272515349,0.0,0.0,0.06572234055461086,0.2316120524210397,0.0,0.05506561598309132,0.0,0.0,0.05574864071155548,0.059183064244691774,0.0620476718804498,0.13131339393338445,0.06648170900349767,0.0,0.07142927234048864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679943612667586,0.10468102765794872,0.0,0.0,0.04862226469983149,0.0505746848733025,0.06333174471372821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493127891967628,0.0,0.0698341333936044,0.17773846496930432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04200836156031304,0.13484191618620406,0.06474638025053114,0.0,0.0,0.05599980843845117,0.1247517153816418,0.052147049490191485,0.0,0.26545741655957483,0.05225396079226795,0.059696075609445065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0542434620697672,0.07370788491552374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924077134092852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054117395029611,0.057314536332532924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043564429079279945,0.042017149475414885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797620308027035,0.0,0.08904083667722056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887740685683152,0.0,0.0,0.10821077836751186,0.07735444789406665,0.05204956177504655,0.0525994799433581,0.0,0.05895887030279926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963288883727064,0.0,0.0,0.13318709045804614,0.0,0.046581863841521146,0.0,0.0796795457831855,0.12668245199850758
parenting,adanina,2020/02/12,"Tickling Babies My husband once read somewhere that you shouldn't tickle an infant, as they cannot yet protect themselves.

Now anytime I see someone try to tickle my daughter (3 months), I feel uncomfortable.

Has anyone else heard this before? What are your thoughts?",5.286521739130436,8.592922434782608,4.158869565217394,81.63178260869569,74.65217391304347,4.5495652173913035,30.93913043478261,5.6839178017228535,1.6997617391304352,216,10,31,1,5,63,43,46,0.114,0.8859999999999999,0.0,-0.6303,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,2,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,3,19,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407928834889831,0.3528497719609538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930351762128528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876785861367333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412481164920726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748744152664543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667449013765773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444651548186458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744198684228381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917852466145149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733928718010184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338059576226218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Corsair_Kh,2020/02/12,"After I became a father I love my parents more. and I hate them more Parenting is hard. And now I understand that my parents went through it. I think I was not thankful enough for everything they did for me. For their time and effort to make sure I was growing as happy kid. But when I see how they behave and talk with my kid I see the mistakes they do and I remember they did the same with me. For example, when my kid shows new skill to his grandpa, my dad always asks if he can do it better and never just says words of appreciation. I've read several books on parenting and continue learning. Many things that I though were obvious or undoubtedly right are, in fact, not the best practices, so I learn from this and try to reevaluate every decision I make. I try to be a better parent. And I see that my parents didn't do that. This makes me sad.",3.021353383458649,4.677317906432752,4.42386382623225,85.10065789473686,74.6140350877193,7.926649958228906,25.66457811194653,8.634040054169528,1.7629595655806185,666,23,137,13,14,221,105,171,0.099,0.7829999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.5255,6,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,6,5,7,10,1,0,5,0,13,1,0,4,5,35,26,18,0,2,6,9,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,9,11,0,0,6,3,0,2,4,3,0,0,7,5,31,7,17,18,5,13,0,1,3,1,24,3,0,2,8,102,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187596183481804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322518362418306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587604689022772,0.1953100938445916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409049154968365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303125942880602,0.0,0.09923586620363196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754117040011113,0.09891212961595028,0.10901413249119994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965584058897126,0.0,0.2211130298849956,0.11194571756444954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516055729614136,0.1066416268903954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7356314504523748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104470877922778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508117135427044,0.09429569174860288,0.0,0.08780819508928728,0.0,0.0,0.2639646554287869,0.0,0.0,0.12474001527193825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406691117251422,0.0,0.0,0.08874916872064,0.0,0.10165732948781377,0.0,0.0,0.07335628621263314,0.07075088800425679,0.10848434558081843,0.0,0.06438516154452227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993207159951316,0.0,0.0,0.11494820690024335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023578574155691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,x1243,2020/02/12,"Activities to tire out 4yo My kid's almost 4. During the school holidays I brought her out and she was basically very active. This resulted in good naps and night sleep. Clocking 11.5. since school has started her nap and sleep isn't as good. School doesn't tire her out sufficiently so her mind is still very active while trying to nap. (She gets distracted easily).

So is there any activity I could introduce to her that she can do either before school or after school (but before her nap) to help her nap and sleep better?",2.956666666666667,5.737758000000002,3.772525252525252,84.04545454545458,80.1111111111111,7.236363636363637,20.11111111111111,8.296473431620573,1.2536383838383838,418,11,78,9,11,133,64,99,0.022000000000000002,0.7929999999999999,0.184,0.9484,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,1,0,9,5,3,1,0,14,12,10,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,0,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,13,3,10,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,6,47,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365898275215266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907696488086714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271599729763256,0.0,0.0,0.11805048519172415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657135895964996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973677021718735,0.0,0.0,0.22391010523987206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946752100345816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477477669780813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526010463276915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6754345457878501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041441942709868,0.0,0.4007233283853157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447644835314256,0.0,0.10659574039242484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068267581820079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062283187578826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202667347050208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sitting_Duk,2020/02/12,"I never thought it would be my kid It's 3:00 AM and I'm up. Again. I'm worried about my son (16). He's the most sensitive, loving, funny kid I know but he's heading down some really dangerous paths. It started years ago with lying. It seemed that he not only lied about big things but small ones, innocuous ones as well. We talked and talked about honesty, character, consequences, but the lying didn't stop. Recently, it's moved into riskier behaviors. Cheating at school, skipping classes, stealing from siblings, vaping and most recently smoking weed and being expelled from school.

The progression has happened over years. He's been punished in every way I can think of. Grounded, no devices, physical labor, the list goes on and on. We've talked until blue in the face. I've yelled, reasoned, cried. He's been in therapy for years with multiple therapists, trying to find someone who can help get through.

Honestly, I'm brokenhearted at this point and feel like he's lost and I don't know how to get him back. 

I don't know. I guess I'm just venting and hoping for some encouragement.",2.953017902813301,5.766273568627452,3.718150042625748,84.20297953964193,80.47058823529412,7.077237851662406,27.00682011935209,8.18289091462,2.1992167945439047,864,37,154,18,23,274,131,204,0.185,0.6679999999999999,0.147,-0.9034,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,0,2,8,11,3,0,5,0,12,3,2,2,1,36,31,14,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,9,12,0,1,9,0,0,1,6,5,1,2,5,3,10,6,26,23,4,29,0,1,1,1,18,15,0,7,13,87,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256147312352034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089639583691905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565851748000015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939428383920685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165133176182771,0.10123552994448824,0.0,0.0,0.12951765741062235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807214798566046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610626880866638,0.0,0.1253110578892858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454322943944493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498323458826616,0.0,0.0,0.14074705421599082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336354317978903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692308965478081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546899619639593,0.0,0.12789612642640635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506121458092229,0.0,0.0,0.10929319684746992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204870072766145,0.10777458123753728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395894631345104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907811514941265,0.1456984272462408,0.27983719125921497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868301577691266,0.0,0.1290047572011394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006790594841975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030096459972213,0.0,0.0,0.1184734215963647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34169622680969897,0.0,0.0,0.16205433773159833,0.16453278292012197,0.09414385348790956,0.0908001424050439,0.0,0.11249955232225964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620977090421777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248044382591207,0.0,0.0,0.12741163754259713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391036673228105,0.0,0.10066460774016417,0.0,0.0,0.2737640421898479
parenting,JE5T0R,2020/02/12,"Savoring a sweet moment. Parenting win. Each night, my wife and I put our kids to bed. On our way out, just before we close the door, we sing a brief song that ends with the line “goodnight goodnight sweet dreams.”

As I got into bed tonight, I noticed that my 6  year old kindergartner had left a note on my night stand. It took a minute to understand what he wrote since he is only 6 but we can see that he wrote me “goodnight goodnight sweet dreams”. 

Parenting isn’t always easy and half the time I wonder if I’m doing it write but these little things make me think we’re doing something right.",3.070508474576272,4.912227915254243,3.312000000000001,92.3342711864407,74.9322033898305,6.4149152542372905,21.969491525423727,7.1686216300943375,0.5210955932203389,466,12,98,5,10,143,80,118,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.9562,2,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,5,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,0,21,16,6,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,8,10,0,0,3,4,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,6,14,4,8,11,1,21,0,0,1,0,15,8,0,2,8,51,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230026599929465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659762936325764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275964293002122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600222602563754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21192636637639264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549500428218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019982902152635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660892829766708,0.0,0.0,0.2220698785000705,0.2046759988827641,0.0,0.0,0.1483470937315441,0.0,0.0,0.4331680006446154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608279699301984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657475522162027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543250898614885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135039866387474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501618327238255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958498095982768,0.12498250590749775,0.0,0.0,0.11373735454188635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167117871480244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305773331214674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482451197311234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211527367916184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560815843813206
parenting,thatoneduderino199,2020/02/12,Co parenting experiences. Me and the mother of my son split about 3 years ago. It has not been an easy road at all. I had a lot of animosity towards her because she cheated. With that being said. I wasnt the best dad either in my standards. I worked all the time and she didnt have to. Naturally we started resentment. For 2 years she held all the cards with visitation. I took her to court just to get visitation. 2 years of just trying to be the dad i wanted my son to have. But in the last year we have made a strong commitment to be better parents for OUR son. So i ask you all how are your co parenting experiences are going.,0.7972093023255837,3.1387125968992287,3.22291472868217,87.27344186046514,85.82170542635659,6.54077519379845,21.0031007751938,7.793537801064563,0.9846254263565896,491,16,106,10,15,169,82,129,0.113,0.82,0.067,-0.7248,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,2,0,4,5,5,2,0,9,0,13,0,0,2,5,22,22,5,0,1,5,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,8,1,20,3,18,11,7,17,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,1,8,77,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508307245378336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355511158386746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664820792266208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835997681343784,0.15472951013828048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422703410572088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140442139485316,0.0,0.09942840736954857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260801713160545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873666850998474,0.0,0.16554240402108752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5827855167658588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641799961344295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383087244025245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020150501170204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943764554389477,0.11877991319316893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319034444016363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273660559558974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4506495734768883
parenting,k9335hhTAC,2020/02/12,"Coparenting and custody battles. I need help Long story short, had a baby with a man I barely knew and we tried to make it work to our best ability, but he cheated on me while I was pregnant and I will finally admit that in my heart, the day I found those naked pictures on his phone my heart just wasn't in it anymore. I still tried after my LO was born in october, but my breastfeeding didnt go the way I wanted on top of a lot of other family stuff (literally too much to name in this post) I spiraled into a deep post partum depression. I was drinking alcohol every day. Starting jan. 16th I went to a mental health hospital for treatment and got started on medication. It has helped so much and I am so so proud of myself so far as I haven't been drinking. I genuinely felt so much better. Like the clouds were parting and the sun was coming out again. Then my SO found a stash of alcohol I had hidden from when I was drinking heavily, and he has photos that I know he intends to use as ammo in a custody hearing. I'm scared he is going to try to take my baby from me because of something I could not control. Basically I'm asking if anyone has been in a similar situation as mine and how did it turn out? I purchased a breathalyzer because now he accuses of me being drunk all the time which I swear on my daughters life.. I'm not drinking any more, and I intend on abstaining from alcohol completely forever. I dont want to lose my little girl. Someone please tell me it's not too late and what I need to do to prove I'm a good mom still.",4.140426618596965,4.738395946372243,5.856764308246963,79.95875920084124,70.60883280757098,8.940303439987986,29.921736517951032,9.107695989026183,2.4485768063692355,1213,47,245,23,21,418,180,317,0.077,0.816,0.107,0.8532,1,0,8,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,7,15,10,2,1,15,0,24,13,2,6,2,45,51,26,0,6,7,2,1,1,0,1,6,1,0,2,13,16,8,2,7,5,1,4,7,5,0,0,19,2,39,5,40,29,8,44,0,2,0,0,20,20,0,2,18,172,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144770295661001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670284405128298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727641464648212,0.06858504058496404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169854483645654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195864241871678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293674962032773,0.08675039737698773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449367127247405,0.1028428474728606,0.0,0.11001343961746396,0.07831486438823512,0.0,0.0,0.1265166088375903,0.0,0.08448259530749934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495778585410983,0.3843535183610192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264292505386088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246813838658376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941793546240336,0.10745003033879323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21509569894844985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149074074054596,0.08227111720352241,0.078449511265016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426239522210154,0.11055170894294876,0.2324682515424513,0.13149192884347574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539063090211889,0.0,0.11064694002350628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928208177508798,0.04792058389091225,0.0983094147526383,0.0,0.0868043254737328,0.0,0.10973479058875067,0.0,0.08339046046380683,0.0,0.0,0.06547414875893368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881280801616793,0.09884910065771052,0.0,0.0,0.11487886090533395,0.0,0.0,0.2163167324986157,0.14546123422419555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062191728708788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767058837996478,0.0,0.0,0.18788136726088747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820267027574796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025442745269956,0.0,0.0,0.08310919613230949,0.0755125275321856,0.0,0.0,0.13885363408868293,0.0,0.1566655625805992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228668742429132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374957128623343,0.0,0.08573277330237798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05719559331749841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19978486315964028,0.1066910022552791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471608197231019,0.0,0.0,0.11570906387090968,0.07785726912729572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909280685976544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140884732743809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kathy578,2020/02/12,"Tantrum mode My husband and I are at odds on how to handle our daughter's tantrums. She will want something, then not want it once she has it, then wants it again. 

For example, she was in the middle of a tantrum and asked for potty. I walk her to the bathroom, but now she says No Potty. From prior experience, if I walk out with her, she will then scream Potty. And repeat. Or if I put her on the toilet, she will scream and kick her legs until I lift her off.

So instead, I point to the doorway and tell her to walk out. She then cries Potty. I then move her  stepping stool to the toilet which again she says No Potty. Every time she says No Potty, I point to the door and tell her to leave. Everytime she says Potty, I tell her to climb onto the toilet. I make her make her own decision.

My husband doesn't like this because she will scream and eventually have a coughing fit. Her crying and screaming escalates when she is forced to make her own decision. I totally understand where he is coming from, but I feel like a bad parent giving in to this bad behavior. 

Potty is just one example. Another is during a tantrum, she will want to be carried, gets picked up, screams to be put down and repeat.

This may seem like a no brainer to other parents, but I could use advice.",3.2964173228346425,4.810167421259845,4.229141732283466,87.36182283464571,73.60629921259844,6.969763779527558,24.90472440944881,7.554174236665415,1.145014803149606,991,31,202,12,20,320,125,254,0.23800000000000002,0.727,0.035,-0.9955,2,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,0,1,9,14,4,0,12,0,18,2,1,6,1,39,33,24,0,7,8,5,1,3,0,6,1,9,1,0,8,13,0,0,5,0,0,9,6,11,0,1,1,10,42,3,31,23,3,39,0,0,0,0,42,16,0,5,17,149,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155828820796903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304400058374425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162934263623355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077308539783904,0.07583061999483537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715610106718186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993200484375478,0.0,0.2732862323106309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480895783308232,0.0,0.0,0.1216831143896639,0.0,0.0,0.06289833288353414,0.08886849560948043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499175260091794,0.11933193579231158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317173557310699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823207414217002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491057991458925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221321433216912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247763297855014,0.0842939189767723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762539750779683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351887729305199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501045877494061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956986274513468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324540608636112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576608413644924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32618264477349923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253628213600799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129500576945491,0.0,0.1074381655469369,0.0,0.0,0.2934878306460679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kfer26,2020/02/12,"I need advice. I have a 6 and 10 year old and every time they come back from their dad's house it's like they are completely different girls. They hate helping around the house and cleaning up their own beds. It's like all their good habits go out the window. It turns out that at their dad's house they never have to do anything. They get to pick what they eat, when they go to sleep, even be on phones the whole time. I have tried talking to him and he responds with ""I'm not going to force them to do anything"". What should I do?  The situation is getting worse as they get older. He gets them to school late, never comes to Dr appointment or teacher conferences, and apparently the house is always a mess. Where they literally have no clean dishes. Should I get the Court's involved or should I call CPS? I don't want them to go over there anymore. We have been divorced since 2015 and things have not improved.",3.2696336996336965,5.0216329230769245,3.405736263736266,92.25593040293043,74.16483516483518,6.391794871794873,22.572893772893767,7.0316486544052195,0.4850120146520141,720,19,154,7,15,220,109,182,0.086,0.8440000000000001,0.07,-0.4284,2,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,0,16,0,6,5,1,0,8,0,18,4,1,1,3,26,34,10,0,5,4,2,0,2,0,3,1,0,4,1,7,13,2,0,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,0,1,0,25,3,19,29,3,24,0,0,0,0,30,8,0,2,12,98,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857985394692486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097125083424802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034460148809155,0.0,0.0,0.19971811679343707,0.1080254406888963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330911595041867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390986797094253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090611014911501,0.12723106150653732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678282467092922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416929099679147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801492046569195,0.0,0.10224091746762147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169965884179953,0.0,0.27585944265716944,0.1017809388824553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980601994716188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133700153874272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5600771639016741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368858212075066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856899932808225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997799892345139,0.18718210553033648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733430531180806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281064697867924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038031346027994,0.13640022797214255,0.12143562867626828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753491987745116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061821424804612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151798068799856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238732148889323,0.1319917700034288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157419005783812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354807001593558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366397151583745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814412868885696
parenting,TotallyNotTheFiveOh,2020/02/12,"Nightmares So, my son (almost 9) had a nightmare about a week ago. It apparently involved some monster tooth fairy that came out of the bathroom (attached to his room) and attacked him.

Since then, when we could get him to sleep in his room, he would wake up throughout the night screaming and crying.

More recently, he's now been refusing to go to sleep in his room at all. He wants to sleep with mom and dad (which is NOT okay long term).

He shares the room with his brother which doesnt seem to help anything. We have tried leaving the lights on, giving him a tablet, sitting with him until he falls asleep and leaving, shutting and blocking the bathroom door, letting him sleep in his brother's bed. I have also tried helping him overcome his fear of the bedroom/bathroom by talking to him and showing him there's nothing to be afraid of.

He just cries and says ""I want to sleep in your room"" over and over. This will continue for HOURS if we let it.

Any advice.",5.514516129032259,6.252312655913979,4.856075268817207,87.85411290322584,67.60215053763442,7.060215053763441,31.62903225806452,6.42735559955562,1.5875677419354837,758,30,150,4,12,227,118,186,0.122,0.8370000000000001,0.040999999999999995,-0.9405,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,1,0,0,7,6,1,2,9,1,12,8,8,0,1,29,19,14,0,5,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,7,0,6,16,0,2,1,1,0,3,2,4,0,0,3,3,21,2,29,10,4,32,0,0,0,0,37,16,0,4,12,97,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219861289981696,0.11085036863205568,0.0,0.12522074142090042,0.0,0.0,0.10000342200465896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503912335928299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029065057460992,0.0,0.0,0.1422638250488302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430252910233116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984323019954572,0.0,0.2747258044292445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071739802589295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533410543074425,0.1199605328722828,0.07106949478768712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763840457947193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231502701165603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26482238936486296,0.0,0.2557467066106504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066640181646246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464584870832761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735210645483013,0.0,0.1199900260996361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234730015461344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944575584634233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138419415495077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034436682034144,0.0,0.6257076934628004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051144036367238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980315072710744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751690870542694,0.0,0.10030855228109592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883280461194244,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PerfectAvocado23,2020/02/12,"5 year old marrying teddy bear So my 5 year old had had a teddy bear her entire life. His name is Sampson and he’s been her favorite lovey her whole life. 

A few months ago she told us she wanted to marry Sampson. She then put on a dress, walked down and aisle and asked us to turn on wedding music. She professed her love to her teddy bear. 

She’s still talking about how she’s married to Sampson, he’s so handsome, her whole world, etc. and she keeps talking about how her and Sampson have a lot of kids (all her stuffed animals). She tells me about once a week that her and Sampson need a date. She gets a couple snacks, takes her bear to her room and they have a date. Lol

She’s my first child and I’m a little weirded out by all of this. Is this just normal, cute, 5 year old behavior? Is she just mimicking what she sees me and her dad do. Or is there something weird going on? 

Thanks.",2.3402355072463763,3.8046750163043512,3.1103043478260908,94.61150724637685,76.01086956521739,5.776231884057971,22.59275362318841,6.079149491110277,0.18131275362318844,689,19,155,4,15,217,100,184,0.009000000000000001,0.878,0.113,0.9622,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,1,1,11,6,0,0,9,1,10,4,0,2,2,23,23,15,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,10,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,4,1,32,4,16,19,7,25,0,0,1,1,41,8,0,2,14,98,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263814517304628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332855489180936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577531763205023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900543705197331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127164736879292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448797143161515,0.0,0.08102693780687242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267245203553361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20140560171483932,0.0,0.14289457190941687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212095929905334,0.1286767719799267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379958860253175,0.0,0.0,0.10571531142862403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969026260694056,0.0,0.0,0.4488159073098755,0.15183449815899974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332421147026062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136114035953751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975887022275392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385816177540566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719638036667828,0.22918790267346684,0.124614188483119,0.13126111755500394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623362995313765,0.0,0.0,0.15507736601031485,0.0,0.0,0.34299305809920977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840926435656016,0.0,0.11436263690150647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31835303254741354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27543502854589075
parenting,ImmediateBattle5,2020/02/12,"Mothering difficulties with a controlling man I find Mothering  my daughter to be difficult because my spouse is always there. Right between us so to speak. Day in, day out.  I never get one on one time with our toddler.  She's  2 1/2. And since I am the only person with a driver's license,  I am always  running  here and there,  meanwhile, he gets all the time with her. He puts her to bed at night,  and she prefers he tuck her in at night over me.

It's like he purposely controls the entire situation each day. If he can keep her clinging to him, he has that control. What do I do? I feel like he is trying to put a wedge between me and baby girl? I don't get the warm hugs from her unless we are at someone's house and his attention is directed towards someone else. I  notice that she doesn't go to him when we are at someone's house.  She comes to me. 
He told me I don't need one on one time with baby girl. I beg to differ. I am her mom, he needs to get out of the way and let me parent her.  All day she sees us fight. She has never used the words I love you and her cousin has with his parents.  She doesn't say please or thank you. Because she never hears these words.
What do I do? I can't get him out of my way? 

I am sorry if this sounds bad. I am not good at explaining myself,  plus, I am using my small galaxy s9 phone with the tiny screen.  I feel like my man is a full time job. He is a manipulator with lots of problems.  I am also going to school online. I just need some advice.  He overwhelms me. I am tired of taking care of a fully grown man. I am trying to leave  but that will take a while.  My daughter is a sweet girl,  I want a good life for her.",0.8310939907550079,2.5354404350282493,2.826969696969698,93.9010554699538,81.09039548022601,5.533846944016435,19.766820749871602,6.42735559955562,-0.04193672316384145,1270,32,296,11,33,427,170,354,0.071,0.871,0.057999999999999996,0.4086,3,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,5,2,0,3,7,16,1,1,16,0,33,4,0,6,5,57,59,17,0,8,7,9,3,3,0,1,2,4,1,7,8,23,0,4,6,0,0,7,9,5,0,4,1,10,65,11,44,55,6,41,0,1,2,2,64,17,0,5,18,199,73,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541965330731006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990470214408945,0.14547039742732926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298678596768153,0.10657315705129468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912409020847882,0.0,0.0,0.0752991600808154,0.0,0.0,0.2941256833573724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254984127988091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132870861486757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730229274082578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883979836788627,0.12489672562543327,0.0,0.0,0.07989453569380996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283502448433184,0.0,0.0993584372429322,0.14663692395039105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852158988403087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201727340578594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674460640925437,0.0776973105714382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255848389255307,0.0,0.08938642794201809,0.061742879528706475,0.12811775118393273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431599949572454,0.07889427466618547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237786578496698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944484467850719,0.20225649670925805,0.0,0.0,0.1640636666878098,0.0,0.0,0.09952107374298566,0.0,0.0,0.2369351342819696,0.06648205580393432,0.0,0.0,0.19412513226209893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763262687733936,0.0,0.09595398978786918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364310283240509,0.0,0.17574981921077618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465081986850995,0.0,0.06951488061687065,0.0,0.0884673284558155,0.06965739925355471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072309513709589,0.0982566582484868,0.0,0.0,0.22219602614639994,0.0,0.0,0.0978524774555148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144844319204574,0.0,0.0,0.08047878806744094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038865194172038,0.10046918596478842,0.0,0.08352753379585083,0.0,0.1186963249532938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102958297593548,0.15099473657101228,0.0,0.0,0.05155886347463834,0.13876984827812194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DonCartegena,2020/02/12,"Please help a broken man, with no where to turn I'll keep it brief, but I'm completely lost and broken, and have been reduced to a pathetic mess.

I had a beautiful daughter with my girlfriend 3 months ago. We live in Florida and are unmarried. My name is on the birth certificate.

She was an absolute ungrateful terror pretty much our entire 2 year relationship. She has no job, and I support all three of us.

I attempted to have her served with paternity paperwork when I was out of town for work, so I could solidify my parental rights, and she refused service. That night, she got a uhaul, took all of her stuff, the baby, and left.

I believe she is in Pennsylvania, where she grew up, but I cannot be certain. She refuses to tell me where she is and tells me that I'll never see my baby again.

I'm totally broken and missing my daughter. My attorney says we can't do anything without her being served, and the police said she is allowed to leave with the child since paternity was never established in the courts, which is what I was trying to do.

Please, someone, anyone help. I don't know what else to do, or where to turn. How do I find her? She definitely doesn't have anything in her name as she has no money, and has about $40k in debt.

Please, someone help.",4.203724444444447,5.400160608000005,5.261066666666668,82.08097777777779,70.92,8.755555555555556,28.68888888888889,9.150863307647796,2.3118622222222216,992,37,199,20,18,327,141,250,0.179,0.7040000000000001,0.11800000000000001,-0.9465,4,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,4,0,0,3,9,6,0,1,10,0,29,0,0,2,6,37,42,17,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,7,17,0,3,2,0,2,3,10,4,0,1,10,3,38,2,27,29,4,27,0,2,1,0,38,15,0,1,9,142,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432591034120852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901802322439334,0.0,0.21226595986354585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453072965743903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352247048427529,0.0,0.0,0.1029736601224889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773956993045423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787808597866475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031507029078464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25934167086955945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798482504089145,0.11463625361002773,0.0,0.0,0.07087964701168087,0.0,0.0,0.13656274271566432,0.14012847260806474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388465288868195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407881905909802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294423260136908,0.0,0.09480927137363064,0.0,0.1989423390206033,0.0,0.0,0.12103150008855378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320816081283202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247176315621309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312109064148473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846767861314624,0.0,0.1101413968605091,0.12268192138532533,0.10256372357624163,0.0,0.0,0.10277399858394667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668698428639556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21855514103060475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476421018848896,0.0,0.14635591521994876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22545445308141746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432926551257072,0.08756353282919163,0.2805690360363629,0.0,0.0,0.15513745518423785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243244209200388,0.0,0.09389316360150593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305374970562385
parenting,AndrewIsMyDog,2020/02/12,"I let my 17 year old girl have boys over even when I'm not home. Is that so rare? My daughter will be 18 in a few months.  I put her on birth control at the age of 16 under the guise of 'hey, it regulates your period'.  It is just her and I and after she turned 17 I stopped having gender based rules - just so long as whom she has over is within her age group, I'm met them, and they aren't strung out on drugs.  I've always given her a lot of room though.    


The result of this is she tells me EVERYTHING!  I mean, sometimes more than I would like to know at times.  Intimate details of even her friend's relationships with each other of which  I can never tell anyone else.  Every time she smoked pot, etc.    


I have gotten some negative feedback from other parents about it.  I know there are some parents even more liberal in that area than I, but many more who are on the opposite side.  The funny part is that I'm kind of a conservative person but I can tell you I was way more out of line as a teenager.    


At the end of this I just want her honesty and for her to feel safe in her own home.  It would also be great if she feels comfortable coming around me more often as a free adult.  


So I ask, is this so weird?",2.892599912165132,3.684613150197631,4.023682476943346,91.24924352217829,73.62450592885375,7.203249890206412,21.56543697848045,7.3871296695380915,0.4350888888888891,929,19,215,10,18,303,151,253,0.026000000000000002,0.853,0.121,0.9804,2,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,2,1,17,8,0,0,11,0,22,1,0,2,1,35,37,17,0,4,7,3,2,1,1,3,1,0,3,4,15,10,0,4,5,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,4,2,35,8,37,27,13,37,0,0,0,0,35,19,0,5,16,158,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588156617132123,0.11016879436394593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257832485138416,0.13566115550849564,0.0,0.11786555542295997,0.12377768679384303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405231345250608,0.0,0.0,0.14849972915458992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354390028778608,0.0,0.11060460431494404,0.0,0.11726857906954352,0.0,0.14766285876972154,0.2623501592778226,0.0,0.11155411583998176,0.0,0.1189940820099566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389252326706685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229320036375776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597330653663845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26561933702104085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787596284388984,0.1455289884073295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353896761544395,0.0,0.06468476718366893,0.0,0.0,0.11717130986103552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256316351903294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423451022428834,0.0,0.14422423147693678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568174831892972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211632876883953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893327834871486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940327675634593,0.14337810414070642,0.0,0.0,0.11560802964416078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310024606075035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214984163480324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309486352863726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069372311423767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34717468136649293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008396670162706,0.0,0.15440895486984285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440149948336459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809393427434286,0.10509428137436462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881086925058472,0.0,0.0,0.08526233331906337
parenting,mydadisindianajones,2020/02/12,"How to not shower. I told my seven year old to take a shower before bed. He did, then dressed himself in his own Pajamas. I found some shampoo in his hair and told him to wash it out. He came back downstairs when he was done... and found he had showered in his pajamas. He was SURPRISED when I told him you are not supposed to be fully clothed when you go into the shower.

My son is smart, like really smart. But his comes from books and the like, not that wonderful common sense or street smarts like you'd hope they have. Of course he's seven so there's room to grow, right? Right????",1.1501564537157734,3.4623994915254244,2.0500000000000007,96.53209256844852,83.74576271186443,4.986701434159062,18.39895697522816,6.297961479604792,-0.2358130378096477,452,11,99,4,13,141,78,118,0.024,0.8029999999999999,0.17300000000000001,0.9516,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,1,0,7,8,0,0,3,0,10,2,1,1,0,18,21,11,0,1,5,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,2,7,0,0,3,1,0,4,3,0,0,2,11,1,16,8,12,8,2,21,0,0,0,0,21,9,0,4,11,62,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668014827830694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231992469757905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181748774050604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432002947194613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952103609426746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183098101693268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841144388943054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894644714740259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279582303810942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200167096149274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222036438591694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258104049961048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342531866342498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5468286817670658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20686753318904744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284107792052452
parenting,thishasntbeeneasy,2020/02/12,"Valentine's banned at preschool Our preschool sent an email today that we are not to bring in any Valentine's cards ""out of consideration and respect for all families and for developmentally appropriate practices.""

I just wanted to have a fun day making cards, talking about friendships, and have her feel loved in return when she gets a pile of them. Apparently that is not developmentally appropriate?",9.996617647058825,11.079807191176474,8.913529411764708,61.435882352941206,57.970588235294116,10.917647058823533,39.058823529411775,10.686352973137794,4.367841176470588,331,15,51,7,4,103,52,68,0.040999999999999995,0.785,0.175,0.872,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,1,14,11,4,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,6,3,11,10,1,10,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,4,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29134152794668594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27629663062820925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038779621333816,0.0,0.2166229441853188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238327178280474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3866674181085616,0.0,0.2859748907523449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34434922956526365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4060937901078153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25269428871363925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LiSolo,2020/02/12,"LO hid our sitters car key.. How to address it? I'm looking for guidance on how to address an incident from today.

Once a week, our daughters stay with a babysitter in the late afternoon. This is a sitter that has stayed with them many times and the girls love when she comes. Our oldest (6), as a joke as she explained, hid the sitters car keys but forgot where she hid it. We looked for the keys with her for an hour (literally) and could not find it. The sitter was very understanding and I let her borrow my car so she could leave and we could keep searching. Through the whole search, I told my daugher I just wanted her to retrace her steps and think about where she had been, and try to keep her from getting overly frustrated. There was no blaming, yelling, any sort of disciplined, we were solely focused on solving the issue. Eventually, I took the girls to bed as we were past bedtime, and told her that maybe with a good night of sleep she might remember it in the morning. Eventually, we found the keys inside one of her coats. 

We haven't addressed it with her, to be honest, I'm not sure how to. I would like for her to understand that even though we got it sorted and and eventually found the key, there could have been serious consequences like the sitter being stranded/not being able to use her car, $250 replacement cost for the key, etc. 

In the past, we would have grounded her by taking away electronics for a few days, but that hasn't been very effective and seem to only lead to more confrontation and meltdowns. 

Thoughts? Any guidance would be appreciated. 

TL;DR: kid hid sitters car keys as a joke but couldn't remember where, after over an hour of searching we eventually found it. Now what?",5.166860789788593,6.4466912996941925,5.110745911447946,83.74379736737137,68.72477064220182,8.133439702167266,28.896290386916643,8.456263369488248,1.9694872756282416,1353,48,262,20,23,420,165,327,0.086,0.8190000000000001,0.095,0.8103,0,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,12,0,1,2,15,11,2,0,24,0,28,2,1,6,1,67,54,24,0,9,6,1,0,2,0,4,0,1,4,3,13,26,0,4,13,2,2,9,6,3,0,1,17,3,37,8,44,23,4,38,0,0,2,1,38,12,0,4,17,182,50,1,0.10414598362153377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416456803611904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784857988857018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971254317434277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326083739439162,0.0,0.0,0.06716554365363071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615030148548422,0.06878743995785852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518754226650572,0.0,0.0,0.3425720865465812,0.0,0.0,0.054411977975295664,0.0,0.0,0.08735270988901729,0.08329505701880438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051256305127513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870134892487113,0.0,0.18513947092343155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748120580483648,0.11027555916228568,0.0,0.10649632435928948,0.0,0.10176093396130402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491279281172242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399581634911086,0.0,0.0,0.10558768103373896,0.10462863871945234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110482430569127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773395058639636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091207359972573,0.07057201382119231,0.0792077135419349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988382514608685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23595419479405425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481059203945004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422119660537953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220115229530105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981563570462063,0.0,0.07830481855581177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667325410741717,0.1023229001301162,0.08268027777623937,0.060728360569531015,0.0,0.09871821500298114,0.1990319008569079,0.11571001983122448,0.07070828655711138,0.0,0.0,0.2168392837107955,0.0,0.0899486913877059,0.0,0.17186268707503208,0.06142799946937269,0.0,0.08353962607230284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627527144595008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221946956011472,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deadhead7889,2020/02/12,"Our daycare keeps putting our baby into different rooms when they are understaffed, and he keeps getting sick because of it. He's 18 months, but he goes into the Twos and Toddlers room frequently. This is a problem mostly because the other rooms keep having breakouts of bad stuff (Pink eye, RSV, Influenza, Whooping Cough). He got something on Monday from an older kid in a different room. We feel like they should be quarantining the rooms to prevent exposure, but they are moving kids all around. Should we be complaining?",7.7900362318840575,9.17630025,6.807391304347828,73.56731884057974,62.80434782608695,9.611594202898553,35.98550724637681,9.725611199111238,3.739602898550725,421,19,65,8,6,128,69,92,0.126,0.83,0.044000000000000004,-0.85,2,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,3,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,8,3,1,0,1,19,14,5,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,5,2,4,7,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,3,7,1,9,9,2,17,0,0,2,0,14,10,0,1,6,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18993990661457608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815069448022414,0.26013040155029105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4458416040658413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788365300819096,0.15242785466899048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147430090038432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064732059262014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5689453092376141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423926306682754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703057465306987,0.22677301423108664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041612966033598,0.0,0.21449055422879992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425864593359624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24425164718293504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,paper_swan,2020/02/12,"Struggling! Am I the only one that feels like I can’t do anything right? The only thing I want out of my life is for my kids to be normal functioning adults, but everything I try to do to set them on that path just doesn’t seem right. I say the wrong thing, or I say too much or not enough. The world’s most awkward person couldn’t possibly have normal kids, right? I think I have too much anxiety to have success in parenting. I worry so much about them, and then I worry that my worrying is affecting them negatively. I’m seriously drowning. I didn’t know parenting would involve so much self loathing. WTF, am I the only one?",2.7634632034632003,4.668928650793653,4.0487012987013005,86.43720779220781,75.98412698412699,7.756421356421356,24.946608946608947,8.575989854853784,1.6786920634920643,494,17,102,10,11,162,76,126,0.258,0.684,0.057,-0.9833,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,3,1,6,6,0,2,5,0,15,1,0,1,0,18,21,7,1,5,5,2,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,5,5,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,1,3,18,2,10,17,6,9,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,4,2,73,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087813002090107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085155590243394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625417997334985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851383397390955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667607331721442,0.09420603149880062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247082409129445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314177973171016,0.064423706029388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38775057820532705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584039283837213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871340190518584,0.3008730907143218,0.0,0.0,0.2928460811604833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514144737174806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486605768403915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33784188269442034,0.0,0.2097323528774636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004704501522033,0.13756636189562724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378563422451031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521356053479806,0.08449524668064291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952924643418232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777787550828323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017529581408588,0.0,0.09367475245878958,0.14417620090368172,0.0,0.0
parenting,thesimpleinvestor,2020/02/12,Is it OK to have a Birthday Registry for a 4 yr old? 4 yr old child's birthday party. Is it ok to give a link to a Birthday Registry with the invite?,-1.387647058823532,0.43313405882353,1.9544117647058847,96.1898529411765,90.76470588235294,3.4000000000000004,23.20588235294117,3.1291,-0.1432117647058826,114,5,27,0,4,41,20,34,0.0,0.701,0.299,0.8313,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,15,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41572465390152574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9094905233912316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,diexliebelle,2020/02/12,"Moving 2 Year Old to Daycare Center Advice Hi everyone. 

Our little girl will be two very soon and we want to switch her from an inhome to a center. We do not have the option to transition her slowly. 

What are your tips for a smooth transition? She’s pretty independent but it’s hard to tell how she’ll react to this big change. She’s been in her current setting since 6 months. 

Please help this nervous mama. Advice?",1.6823170731707289,4.325511621951222,3.0055609756097565,88.11931707317076,85.21951219512195,5.231219512195122,17.956097560975607,6.742157984588678,0.2328692682926823,331,8,62,4,10,107,65,82,0.052000000000000005,0.826,0.12300000000000001,0.7059,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,3,0,10,8,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,10,0,9,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,5,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4731486228379074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561064438309394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313339849458945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21687129049835496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227246443163165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426447181823899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19323945435266404,0.2573107157251737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540399958043043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657497213234863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462996063014642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002650766251876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21160338172384408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23649351590001216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997553160744812,0.14279503781376932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590248107638074
parenting,dearestthot,2020/02/12,"I LET THE INTERNET NAME MY BABY?! hi all, i’m not pregnant or anything, but i really want to know what you guys think are cute baby names. i don’t feel like thinking of a sentimental name for my child that honors someone, so reddit can name it for me. drop a boy name and a girl name down there. thx guys",1.197864583333331,3.0154663906250008,3.135625000000001,91.58020833333336,80.40625,6.1416666666666675,20.041666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.32346666666666657,235,6,53,3,6,79,51,64,0.037000000000000005,0.6829999999999999,0.28,0.9547,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,16,10,4,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,3,5,9,1,2,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,1,1,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593260745511484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933977132218938,0.2251297469899803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6240587402633404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318783131243784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222429380138496,0.0,0.15395715547934574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20188107553285434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670095894455895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038466158573147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858725091632441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dances_with_cow,2020/02/12,"I'm about to go round and round with 12 year old stepdaughter I know my stepdaughter and that she does a lot of things to get attention. Usually it's tame stuff, but she crossed a line the last weekend she was with us and taught the four year old, her half brother to say, ""in the ghetto"" in a very racist way. Today, something triggered him and he's been saying it all day, despite my best efforts, and I do not want him saying that garbage.

Two questions:

1. How do I get him to stop saying it?

2. What do I do about her? I have to walk a fine line because I'm stepmom and only get her every other weekend and bio mom won't always back us (me and husband) when it comes to discipline.",2.637291933418691,3.894553753521127,3.737503201024328,91.25903329065304,74.84507042253522,6.572087067861714,25.585147247119078,6.980632752743323,0.9145267605633798,531,18,117,5,11,172,89,142,0.107,0.877,0.016,-0.9298,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,2,1,23,18,11,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,10,11,0,2,3,2,0,4,2,0,0,3,3,6,19,2,13,14,3,20,0,0,2,0,20,2,0,2,13,76,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127185101371981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753374622015313,0.0,0.09317715509694828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604087345155054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166845595355925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985768891755612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376180752512795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878439501388422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395765699606833,0.0,0.08686930905799445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400345692266824,0.12459477368785946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994929685464798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790184046841941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207849045229409,0.0,0.0,0.1162508270600567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712292119330432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4862161536354948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767293047606713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277911088780482,0.0,0.0,0.17497896037229996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154807102862996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488581511588874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493141851110726,0.0,0.3677242504188495,0.0,0.16834487350819402,0.12611890067157808,0.09015606465118596,0.1213267959169787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686334172947206
parenting,renekbob,2020/02/12,"Is it ok to smack your kids? Are there other ways of disciplining your kids? Would I be an A-hole if I tried to tell my sister how to raise her kid? My sister and her husband smack their first born 2 year old.  I see on the news that they're thinking about banning smacking country-wide.  However, I feel if I were to say something, that would be interferring.  

Even if I offered an educational book, I feel like that would be patronising.  On the other hand, I want my sister's kids, as well has their parents, ""to be their best"".",3.4790714285714266,4.848346657142862,4.58779761904762,85.54741071428572,72.90476190476191,7.154761904761906,25.505952380952376,7.645422480735847,1.1373095238095234,409,13,87,5,8,134,69,105,0.0,0.88,0.12,0.8702,2,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,3,2,5,4,0,0,4,1,11,1,1,1,0,15,16,6,0,7,3,5,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,4,6,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,18,4,10,8,1,7,0,0,1,0,19,2,0,3,5,59,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575351071962016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16208624045546244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248166066845864,0.17531581530746054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873950340464065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198914163772424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575089661506348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724907771903041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19515416293452864,0.0,0.0,0.19555426583333013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889230711518131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144928710503544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724421064919294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666123981952372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447449345227926,0.19478932669486584,0.0,0.0,0.2206465963845652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5229813422693531,0.0,0.0,0.15803136271984414
parenting,kiah_progressiv,2020/02/12,"Baby refuses to eat solids. I’m a first time mom to a 10 month old baby boy and we’ve been trying solids out for about 4-5 months now. I started with blending him purées, slowly making them thicker and thicker and he seemed to hate the change. I offer him chicken, he spits it out. I offer him roasted veggies, and he vomits. I’ve tried pasta, toast, rice, beans, every fruit and veggies out there cooked in several ways and I still get the same result. I’ve brought it up to his doctor and she says to keep trying so I do. But I feel so useless now and l don’t know what to try now. Does anyone have any tips of some sort? Please helppp",1.3094230769230748,3.334738462121216,2.5836363636363657,94.6243006993007,81.04545454545455,4.667599067599069,19.244755244755247,5.369823440869387,-0.3556860139860141,495,12,107,2,13,159,91,132,0.059000000000000004,0.922,0.019,-0.7198,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,1,8,2,1,0,4,0,4,7,1,2,0,23,14,11,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,12,4,2,3,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,3,12,0,15,12,2,17,0,1,0,0,15,5,0,3,10,57,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885315594589036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248908732070186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004451178176757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939411978812976,0.16581555740676038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388573254886132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964539235542302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580697336658656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611719144153911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899567802557732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870726469865984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684188678243154,0.0,0.0,0.1041334614972989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647962497630613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22191713096582014,0.30248286310446826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988277847589402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079925573284835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068240334614058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249582154894558,0.0,0.2140588959321758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341151882004237,0.0,0.15131927621428246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048753332753274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5145789607520709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040070604287267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acatandcounting,2020/02/12,"Something’s really wrong with my daughter (16F) I just got off the phone with my daughter’s guidance counselor and she’s been skipping class, not participating in group activities, and alienated her friends. 

My daughter (16F) is a competitive figure skater training 8 hours a day. I’ve taken out loans and she’s babysat since turning 13 to pay the astronomical bills, but recently her coach told her she should find sponsors because the costs have risen to around $40k just for training. 

My daughter took initiative and would attend networking dinners and retreats. She’d eat right so she could jump better. 

Within a month, she met this wealthy couple that agreed to sponsor her. When I asked her to introduce me to them, she got mad and said they told her kids whose moms tagged along never seemed to last long. 

She got sent state of the art equipment from her private sponsors and they paid for a designer dress and makeup for upcoming shows. Ballet lessons, personal trainer, and most of her coaching/ travel fees were also covered. 

But she started getting distant and would never be in the mood for popcorn and movie night. I tried to help her brush her hair and she freaked out and said not to use that hair brush ever. She said she hated hair brushes with thick round handles and cried. 

I also started seeing g strings, push up bras, and totally sheer spandex dresses in her closet that she only wears when she claims to be going to a party with friends. I never bought her those clothes, and they are from brands like La Perla, Wolford, and Cosabella. She claims that she has babysitting money but blanked when I asked who she babysat for. What’s worse- I called her friends’ parents and they said she hasn’t come over in months. 

Her coach called me in and said her muscles are getting smaller and she needed to eat more protein and carbohydrates, and that he’d take fat and muscle over skin and bones any day. 

I called up the couple that were sponsoring her. They said they were glad to hear from me and had their assistant arrange a dinner meeting.

I asked what their intentions were and brought up my daughter having new clothes that I didn’t buy her. 

They said they have no idea what a skater gets up to in her private time and that the only thing outside of skating they talk about with her is the fact that she feels suffocated living in a studio apartment in the bad part of town. 

They asked if I was a single mom and the husband said they’ve always been for women and it’s so noble of me to raise a daughter all by myself. The husband said when he sees families like that, he just wants to help them out. 

Then he frowned and said it’s troubling to hear she’s been acting up and if this insecurity thing is really such a pressing issue, then as a sponsor it would be his ethical responsibility to recommend her coach to put her on leave and cease funding until this issue is cleared up. 

I said that wouldn’t be necessary and he shrugs and said he’s only trying to help since it must be an urgent issue for me to take off work just to meet them and he’s guessing I’ve exhausted all other avenues like school counselor, psychiatrist, etc. 

His wife offered to keep an eye on my daughter and says now that she thinks about it, my daughter did mention a name of a few friends. The husband said that’s why he and his wife always checked in with their kids when they were teens. He said 
“ Teens and the crowds they get into when unsupervised- I’d never let a daughter or a son for that matter hang out with other kids without meeting the parents first. That’s where bad behavior comes from at that age. “ He then slapped down a couple hundred dollar bills and said it was for my troubles. 

My daughter got wind of this and said she couldn’t believe I’d try to talk to them and that I have always been the cause of all her problems. We haven’t spoken in a week, and I’ve been looking at her Facebook history and search history to see if I can find anything. She cleared her search history but in her Amazon account she gets ads for ropes and gags/ BDSM material and I don’t know if I’m looking to into it since she hasn’t bought anything? 

I tried to suggest therapy but she said that all smart adults know that therapists have a financial incentive to covertly exacerbate your issues so you’ll keep coming. She said someone also told her that therapists will get you on drugs that will affect your skating or make you crazy enough to attack your loved ones. 

When I suggested her school counselor or her friends she said friends are all superficial and school counselors must be horrible if they have so many guidelines to follow- why would a profession that attracts good people have that? 

I don’t know what to do nor do I know where this twisted logic is coming from. I also can’t get over my mom instincts that go off when I think about her sponsors even though they were perfectly nice when I met them. But should I check into possible new “ bad crowds?” Should I follow her when she claims to be seeing friends?",6.7073271628603255,7.046652723204996,6.063723095459776,81.61756540153716,64.95213319458897,8.700155174617084,32.884623108238856,8.31658001898498,2.3860769337495658,4021,154,759,47,57,1228,394,961,0.073,0.815,0.11199999999999999,0.9898,2,0,2,0,1,0,69.0,1,6,22,5,34,32,3,1,37,0,66,15,8,5,17,143,151,85,0,20,21,21,8,3,7,13,3,22,2,6,47,67,5,2,14,8,16,18,18,13,0,2,51,40,133,18,108,75,13,100,0,0,8,1,191,44,0,11,40,503,180,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468784932257762,0.09730241907364996,0.0,0.0,0.02650745641347248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415375906928868,0.03470009735009138,0.14576261117516598,0.044344908469521375,0.0,0.0,0.0976389830599575,0.02376159496548042,0.0,0.0,0.0439166473109288,0.0,0.034474277821706915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940755216018198,0.0,0.0,0.04004277415635709,0.0,0.1343098538195718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031122029110214857,0.12939051769849028,0.0428172469264373,0.05027721894083567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045203946720307225,0.07977169929607833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04027633416251941,0.043472544255316894,0.025745650157883382,0.03525926884508445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03674648634221416,0.0,0.01970925082881146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125327426296292,0.03315601752304738,0.0,0.0,0.2108087302262304,0.0,0.14255658084470754,0.0,0.04430599613434233,0.032694228924982555,0.12470214906679873,0.0,0.042940410628054884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038484273045144124,0.0,0.0,0.08786565694221682,0.0,0.07838158826920705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038387042204448336,0.0,0.0,0.04400321008493676,0.0,0.1627382500540361,0.0,0.06929369739200104,0.0,0.0,0.08568864833959709,0.0317735666441653,0.0,0.04127375533813317,0.0,0.03985926953720721,0.0,0.05713037308363806,0.0,0.034419690221676534,0.03449570864215038,0.06546607308874673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03518059991055671,0.0,0.02601917757962924,0.03951918400426325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369572665868482,0.062226270289655126,0.0,0.0,0.028902870491424062,0.1202538446994808,0.0752934577094333,0.0,0.03657970265918813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026413577535242403,0.08893719917062529,0.0,0.0,0.08656443879601243,0.04221109512189927,0.0,0.027023538235979225,0.03403547260867679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043943628524186235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03729820127601245,0.0,0.03918525203614713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994264422812261,0.0,0.03848764048162659,0.0,0.0,0.033288355053661664,0.7044917715664384,0.030998132794298024,0.0,0.11834827181295388,0.1242467392883989,0.03548555281901604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673295365123467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03302727830228937,0.03000839110685641,0.0,0.0,0.0551799058317248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05861559800595977,0.06266063240654385,0.0,0.0,0.044576555825450635,0.09051661171949588,0.05179261227277306,0.04995309195093628,0.038297247164655546,0.0,0.022729311148122263,0.0,0.0,0.11173999990826244,0.043307756360194634,0.10585832588495887,0.042398598323891236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033665848620707824,0.0,0.0,0.022991170847555847,0.0,0.031267074170743134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034603031758094,0.0,0.0,0.03757493170954145,0.0,0.028377604208496537,0.0,0.03972353015116712,0.11075992335382116,0.04261806020934547,0.0,0.0
parenting,revelrebel1,2020/02/12,"Mother in law not respecting my parenting I had a baby in October. I returned to work one day a week in December. MIL watches her other grandson before school and after school. Other grandson is sick often, snotting, sneezing, coughing. His mother does not take him to Dr. I requested that MIL keep newborn away from the 11 year old after school while he waits for his mother to pick him up. MIL is unreasonable and reacted like it was a personal attack on other grandson. MIL did not listen and is constantly pushing infant onto 11 year old. Lets him hold baby after school and lets him 'watch' baby. 

There is a small dog there. Dog bites everyone. If you stare this dog in eyes it will come after you. Dog has bitten infant. MIL still brings dog on bed with baby and leaves room. 

I quit my job and wont allow my baby over there any more. I do not trust the woman. We have had issues since the beginning. I told the family if they wanted to see the baby they needed to be vaccinated against the flu and tdap. MIL lied and said she and daughter went and got it. I contacted daughter and she said no, she didn't get it.  MIL is extremely controlling and has a horrible temper. I feel like this is an unhealthy environment for my newborn too many boundries have been broken. Now I am getting back lash from the rest of the family for not bringing my son over there. I do not wish to visit as she berated me, called me names, and insulted me when I informed her I would not be asking her to watch the baby again. 

Am I wrong for not wanting to be around that or having my son around her? I just want to do whats best for me and my baby and I think staying away is what's best for us",2.6946307385229535,4.70897299401198,4.1202634730538925,85.35203193612777,76.54491017964072,6.9683033932135725,23.10938123752495,7.908726449838941,1.2402657884231534,1316,40,257,21,30,435,178,334,0.122,0.835,0.042,-0.9772,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,2,2,5,15,10,3,0,15,0,31,5,1,4,0,51,55,21,0,8,12,11,1,2,0,3,4,3,2,6,13,20,0,4,3,0,0,6,11,4,0,1,11,10,46,6,39,36,4,42,0,0,6,0,50,16,0,4,21,189,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749230840083478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19615901792352808,0.10299917306289036,0.12534047970426151,0.2070269238679172,0.08471812024752103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375119305856204,0.0,0.2312446747674093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250145270044927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490639448678102,0.0,0.11906052079496098,0.1235711354701676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105405059717043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641527866569853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052773638434867,0.0,0.0,0.2077272176013098,0.0,0.055708017870704285,0.07870936342180156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512425049625245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811737200296436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499454521382345,0.10933213367375584,0.09792900212619482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665989336371205,0.0,0.2253237242732743,0.0,0.10765231928724152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170061347673804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169370007190674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312212023265216,0.0,0.07465773621448454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233679872718307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620095318642666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718515273156968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20960416555584752,0.0,0.0,0.4460137491365407,0.0877955691057621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113827067797542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174323702820601,0.08798625660861559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283822681998253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059597960546897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052773638434867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252750068291427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495300469337412,0.0,0.08837610022812993,0.0,0.0,0.1021337458567906,0.0,0.0,0.12669633005937192,0.0,0.0,0.0802090397096047,0.0,0.0,0.0782654785200249,0.1204595588324622,0.0,0.14189875498162702
parenting,islandtaco287,2020/02/12,ADD/ADHD Does anyone have advice or experiance with a child with ADD/ADHD? Our 5 year old has been displaying signs and his Doctor informed us he may have ADD/ADHD.,3.184895833333332,5.496028531250001,4.795000000000002,79.68333333333338,76.1875,6.766666666666668,20.041666666666664,7.793537801064563,0.9834666666666672,131,3,23,2,3,44,26,32,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,13,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8026745952932525,0.21755162362088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566818992923065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278714106755793,0.19482516036310246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177750237600104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336129109723792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677966804679865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336652902531846
parenting,pawhisker,2020/02/12,"STMs+, can you drop some encouraging stories of your kids playing? Just had my second baby 1/28 and I have a 2 year old and right now all I feel is guilt about changing the dynamic of our family and being really tired with a newborn. I need some encouraging stories of siblings who now play and make the addition of a new baby (or babies) all worth it!",4.446521739130431,5.7450246666666684,6.038376811594201,76.3497391304348,70.44927536231884,8.998260869565216,28.29275362318841,9.3871,2.5777223188405807,278,10,51,6,5,95,52,69,0.09699999999999999,0.696,0.207,0.8126,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,0,0,4,6,0,1,5,0,5,1,0,1,2,15,8,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,5,6,6,4,7,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,5,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701437305526897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32985094885790306,0.0,0.17691800589090415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23355839612027102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594435606040821,0.0,0.3379318805743605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36715714899648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415243234009705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988093990296722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021541509124492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253216478462553
parenting,wezli333,2020/02/12,"Toddler won’t eat warm food. My (almost) 2-year-old has this habit of almost exclusively eating food that’s ice cold. Even if he hasn’t eaten in a few hours, he’ll avoid food I’ve prepared for him for a good hour and then start chowing down. 

I can’t tell if maybe he’s just not hungry even after several hours, or if he really has an aversion to heated food. Has anyone else experienced this?",3.5467916666666675,4.838070762500003,4.655000000000001,85.4366666666667,72.625,7.333333333333335,22.083333333333336,7.793537801064563,0.8407083333333332,311,7,64,4,6,102,59,80,0.071,0.841,0.08800000000000001,0.0865,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,6,8,0,0,0,10,9,6,0,3,6,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,8,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,3,3,2,7,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,6,6,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28186508953402684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840991255955572,0.14420656749569324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880279179596628,0.11757168275393745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859172131702995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6807419901848635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180475127100903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4158068565797937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139401713772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476848041467346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016277678275247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899813076898525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996177436996336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301450363251475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063308047561057
parenting,proudowner84,2020/02/12,"My son keeps fighting the parental controls I've set on his computer and phone, and it's really stressing me out having to come after him all the time. I'm a father of 2 sons. My older one is in college and has always been the obedient and studious of the two, and has shown demonstrable growth and potential. My younger one however is more of the rebellious and problem child that loves to wrangle out of my control.

At around 11 or so we found him looking at, you know, and since then we've put parental controls and time restrictions on the computer. the doctor recommended limiting screen time and exposure because it could have negative health effects.

This worked well for a while, but then multiple times he found a way around the filters and kept violating our rules of usage, and used the computer at night. Every time we took it away for a week and tightened the controls and there was a password. Everything went well for some time, until I checked the browsing history and found that he had violated the rules again, and was now going on troll forums that perpetuate misinformation and aren't good for him.

This was also the time where he got his first gaming computer that I got from my coworker's son who moved away to college, so before giving this to him, we made sure that he couldn't bypass our restrictions. We put Windows controls on it that can't be bypassed, and keyloggers software so we can know what he looks up and what sites he goes on. He also must fill out a form that logs his hours and what sites he goes on, because now there is a zero tolerance policy. He must report everything he does to us, because he's consistently shown he can't be trusted with any semblance of privacy or autonomy, so now I've imposed a policy similar to my work; everything must be transparent to the authority of the establishment, and if there's any pushback or resistance, there will be consequences. His computer is now out in the open so there's peer pressure to stay obedient.

He recently bought his own cell phone, but it's on my service, so if he doesn't periodically show me his apps, texts, downloads, and browsing history, I call the service and have his phone turned off. If he wants to turn it back on, be can get a job and pay for his own service. If he doesn't obey, I'll hit him where it hurts, which is his phone that be values very much.

Around this time my son was 15 going on 16, and started to express discontent over our ""draconian"" rules and being monitored and controlled so much, because the controls often filter sites that are totally safe and locks him out in the middle of games, and when we're away he can't get the password to allow more time. I said that as long as he lives here then he will abide by the rules, and this inconvenience and restriction will teach him not to be so rebellious and deceitful. Plus I'm paying for the internet and electricity, he has no right to complain. He complained about me not giving him time extensions to learn skills and ""catch up with his peers who know more about computers and programming then he does, and he hates us for it*, but I said it before and I will say it again: Time extensions will not be honored unless it's for homework, but if he wants to learn skills on Khan Academy, he's out of luck, use the time he has instead of playing games. There are people in China who are much less fortunate and more censored than him. Even if he pays for his own tech, it will still be locked down, because until he's 18 he legally doesn't own anything, it belongs to us.

Recently this, along with my older son telling me to let up or he will ""help his son escape"", have left me asking what I can do.",9.392317128577922,7.089279436619723,8.881694684234445,72.17836665152204,60.971830985915496,12.597910040890506,38.959563834620624,11.142724829203436,4.111024988641526,2920,114,562,61,31,935,298,710,0.09699999999999999,0.8370000000000001,0.065,-0.9776,5,0,0,0,2,0,72.0,11,1,0,15,38,20,4,2,32,0,56,3,0,13,6,119,94,74,0,14,18,9,0,0,0,10,2,3,2,1,37,59,0,14,9,5,5,11,13,10,2,5,18,6,54,10,87,52,16,98,0,1,3,1,98,44,0,13,40,382,91,26,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821501429072772,0.05109590887303066,0.0,0.0,0.08351832915891445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050533090417601526,0.16399692074142266,0.057407666494374524,0.0,0.17308293232862398,0.04721853048500122,0.0,0.1871670256391666,0.0,0.10450641620723357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270386144572805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289707170322575,0.0,0.0,0.4821156544965411,0.049028843635090566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285311633704299,0.10747612816702903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04055903461192716,0.0,0.05173841622103288,0.0,0.16556714101975695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05223313662945772,0.0,0.20199026339452467,0.0,0.0,0.06416570523210208,0.1178152228613304,0.0697985259532649,0.05150564675767565,0.09822627801522582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06062713323924001,0.0,0.06527323659813886,0.0,0.0,0.04116011225266016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06047395827535509,0.0,0.06573793399424058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093740833461812,0.05458175368801087,0.0,0.0,0.10124376834170128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671936264237377,0.06279326732289564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422389407421206,0.054343651537248926,0.103133566564851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05542261161362491,0.05810520398102299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526638995812276,0.13542460088740954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762672207342654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322254042193461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637138886603148,0.0,0.0,0.042572186599615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058758626301507424,0.0,0.12346287499945137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03933917814150322,0.0,0.12126487642400545,0.0,0.0,0.052441617769057064,0.11682507416554296,0.04883366056786388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05079686848321212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04346450170780623,0.06545215993802295,0.04904006047108468,0.0,0.07034201442032847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057875784958078574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05367280872513919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296860612531883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682259247059718,0.0,0.13358732107134935,0.05998614549649564,0.0,0.22159676629322936,0.10607262283715012,0.0,0.05066756865675946,0.07243939760357651,0.04874236715745108,0.04925734389024741,0.0,0.1104253256120718,0.056925311588548265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894106945629844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Leiruc2019,2020/02/13,"My 13 year old brother stole $700 from my dad and my mom is rewarding him I got my first career job and decided to take my mom to Europe since it has been a life long dream of hers to go but hasn’t been able to fulfill that dream due to finances. Since this is my first job, I am only able to afford to take her. However, my younger brother wants to go too but my parents don’t have the money to pay for him. They’re barely able to pay their bills. So today my mom got a call from my younger brother’s school informing her that he had $700 on him at school. My mom went to pick up my brother and it turns out that he stole the money from my dad. His reasoning was that he really wants to go to Europe and he stole it to afford the trip. Now my mom wants to do whatever she can so he can go because she feels bad that he wants to go on the trip so bad that he has resorted to stealing. I think this is a terrible idea! I personally think this is rewarding his behavior and sending the wrong message. There is also a chance that he could be lying about why he stole the money to manipulate my mom. I would appreciate any advice on how to properly address the situation.",3.757256097560973,4.1210957317073165,5.180233739837399,85.30742378048781,71.35772357723576,8.751626016260163,27.163617886178866,8.841846274778883,1.7715130081300816,914,29,204,16,16,308,117,246,0.11599999999999999,0.807,0.077,-0.9223,6,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,4,9,7,0,0,11,0,21,1,0,4,0,24,39,12,0,6,2,13,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,13,6,0,0,7,2,7,9,2,5,0,2,7,1,31,2,31,29,0,23,0,0,0,0,38,6,0,0,8,124,44,8,0.2808081320495037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914674855625287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485405391560146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365305303827197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156308707265216,0.05705934364350895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955788330179584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473414795862104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04732834296818128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923683578027142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659828877827925,0.0,0.14972527700736116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566606700019396,0.0,0.0,0.18577249443569693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661143627165437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283545344907466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6577581807961466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822029919125624,0.0,0.0,0.07118907937423335,0.0,0.0,0.10393473307967624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173027654368402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059964293298026536,0.09623917609174658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894618808431829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485825908167886,0.10521336860772144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075517886533484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199536749879385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887244250499569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181287052828523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22083721569416798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677065056872643,0.08446188742125113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649268007635421,0.10233987013235127,0.0,0.0602770767945424
parenting,heathermarieB9,2020/02/13,"One year old never stops screaming. Ever. I'm about to lose my mind. My One year and 2 month old child will.not.stop.screaming. I feed him and he's content for 5 minutes. I change him, he kicks and punched and just thrashes as hard as he can, most of the time it takes me and his dad holding him down to change him. I tried being sweet to him, talking gentle giving him space and watching his body language to try and see whats wrong. i really think he's teething but the last two days he just won't stop screaming and throwing things and being an absolute handful. No matter what I do its wrong and I'm about to lose my temper since I'm mainly the only one that deals with this behavior. His dad is gone most of the time and I don't have any friends so its just me and him in the house all day and idk what to do.",2.8402262443438886,4.072548941176476,3.2535294117647062,95.02780542986427,74.29411764705883,5.936651583710407,23.07692307692308,5.8734145424116955,0.1608144796380091,640,17,145,3,13,198,100,170,0.138,0.779,0.084,-0.9102,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,7,9,1,0,6,0,9,4,3,0,3,29,17,17,0,0,4,2,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,9,14,1,3,1,0,0,2,4,7,0,4,1,7,21,2,16,13,4,19,0,2,2,0,22,3,0,2,14,90,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514155673932824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540513579348414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960061072618218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180456879903571,0.14423797237600405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655389016151836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809180015029816,0.0,0.0,0.13421154162806245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532919031049886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16143389224001822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140428770883592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31304028946805057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412661856966426,0.0,0.11167243158100584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079049023993022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936177205149936,0.0,0.284413809445782,0.1064055769710184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962800589812514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114877641529919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573251509330212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509055466309124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051926513903323,0.11245194598149692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929479932432066,0.089646755577411,0.0,0.0,0.16316179210207615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997533677722545,0.0,0.13666880845925725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30593268024514897,0.0,0.18019104027832472
parenting,Kfryfry,2020/02/13,"Any parents of ODD children? So, I think that my 4yo may be displaying symptoms of ODD, but my husband thinks I’m overreacting.

I’m a SAHM who stays with my 4yo son and almost 6mo son.

Ever since my older son, H, was little-he was impossible to discipline. There is nothing we can take away, do, threaten, etc that will make him listen to us. He just doesn’t take consequences seriously. If I try to put him in time out, he screams, and I mean screams in my face that he will not be going to time out, and if I physically put him there he’ll just get out.

We bought a behavior chart and he knows that if he gets enough stars he’ll get to do something he wants. There are a few chores, but most behavioral requests. Like no arguing, whining, interrupting, etc. this works to a certain extent, but he fails at the no whining, arguing, and interrupting every day. If he doesn’t feel like doing something he’ll just say “ok, just take away  star-I don’t want it anyway.

He says purposely hurtful things even mad. I turned off the tv so we could listen to music (trying to limit screen time), and he spent 30 minutes saying he hates music. He’s told me he hates me. He’s told me he wishes his dad were dead.

He’s recently started lying and blaming others for things that make no sense. Like his friend broke his toy-a, she didn’t. B, I didn’t even ask about the toy. There was no reason for him to even bring it up.

If I tell him something he did was wrong, he’ll tell me that I’m mean and I broke his heart, things like that. 

If I tell him no to a snack, he’ll go open it before I can get it away from him thinking I won’t make him throw it away and once it’s open we can’t save it. 

The most concerning thing is that today he told me he doesn’t feel bad when he hurts peoples feelings. 

His tantrums are epic. Top of the lungs screaming in my face, no calming him down. 

He’s in preschool 3x a week and I haven’t heard about this behavior in school, so it seems like it’s just at home behavior.

I’d like to hear from parents of 4yos, and parents of kids with ODD. Is this just typical behavior or more serious? 

He has a psych evaluation next week. 

He is aware he’s being mean, it’s not like he doesn’t have social awareness. He seems to just be mean for the sake of it. 

Thanks guys. I’m a wreck.",1.7851752021563314,3.4863021132075502,3.1130802635519643,92.97165094339623,78.18238993710692,6.3877208745133265,22.048966756513924,7.2636822038024595,0.5198262353998202,1776,51,406,22,42,577,212,477,0.22399999999999998,0.684,0.092,-0.9972,3,0,3,0,0,0,66.0,5,0,0,4,22,33,6,0,14,1,37,6,4,4,2,71,90,25,1,10,19,8,3,7,1,9,1,10,2,3,28,22,1,2,14,2,2,6,18,20,0,0,14,14,43,13,44,62,8,40,0,7,1,0,82,20,0,13,20,222,71,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558463924515038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513305654310909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056577905500899,0.0,0.2836724943253958,0.0,0.06302458360404373,0.0,0.0,0.06422989407375672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060266489800894676,0.0,0.0,0.048679851364844116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799341339303004,0.16836547743746466,0.1495660797529634,0.06827807912890342,0.06359710942208849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449838567897035,0.053924583893425235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058317452544748585,0.0,0.15774558538313166,0.0,0.08579668294418569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473936328648187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904632604490312,0.0,0.0,0.08507405958660619,0.08944691164350421,0.0,0.0,0.07571492057442898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161076765678728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04148310857979857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581379386930157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115510251698694,0.0,0.0,0.328889495882427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027630276002269,0.0,0.0,0.07242732100804676,0.0,0.0,0.08038620643412954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514425481069174,0.0,0.0,0.052329935998555656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176115823417435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760839566393543,0.07452968392042086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007970951494082,0.0,0.07639213680348682,0.0,0.13743253690000648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243975442589971,0.0,0.0,0.07694471867593307,0.0,0.17432993107660538,0.0,0.0,0.05342677401022156,0.08045410898755538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845503127606121,0.17025993036424786,0.0,0.1979246219038221,0.0694939781175525,0.0,0.0,0.20058839532890735,0.1450980668350518,0.0,0.0,0.1320430419532066,0.0,0.07154841265232689,0.21637977205711764,0.0,0.10249507984670116,0.08210308795773058,0.0,0.0,0.09079593606244678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904285504572525,0.0,0.12109472682142215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680094187349631,0.0,0.0,0.054952027342068624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825280665937499,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ispitoutabulletonce,2020/02/13,"I never realized how many people I don't like until it was time to start choosing baby names. Has anyone else had this epiphany other than myself? I've always thought that I liked just about everyone and before now if you were to have asked me how many people in this world had ever pissed me off or that I viewed in a bad way, I probably would've struggled to name you more than a handful. Boy, was I wrong! Once we started choosing names for our unborn girl, I realized that there are an awfully lot of people that my wife and I don't like. Settling on a baby name is not as easy as I first thought it would be.",7.125,5.32970673809524,7.209523809523812,80.77714285714288,64.95238095238095,9.987301587301587,32.111111111111114,8.344100000000001,2.2239777777777774,483,14,101,5,6,156,85,126,0.161,0.8170000000000001,0.022000000000000002,-0.9461,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,2,0,1,7,7,1,1,4,1,13,2,2,2,2,23,18,9,0,2,4,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,7,2,17,3,15,9,2,14,0,0,1,0,12,5,1,3,11,73,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478325919706472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422840607539268,0.1820401172976551,0.0,0.0,0.16609400486326034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14834393718624928,0.0,0.0,0.15118093332941074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841739381979716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607093375678557,0.0,0.1697677608686679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511228617907093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603963358859019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104553262570916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602514794309333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370272013194029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920880830921144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369514320991029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155431805423684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515062394582082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857353895106176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28209438920372903,0.1035986467568981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102323717494816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524180803275592,0.19425020566260964,0.0,0.0
parenting,marciaribeiro-,2020/02/13,"I NEED HELP I created this account because i really need help, i live and rise my 4 year old sister alone and work 2 hours away from home because i take the bus and train to go to work, its the only job that gives me enough income for me too make it through the month but its still not enough to save up to buy a car, which would be a 40 min ride instead of 2 hours, which would help me spend more time with my sister. Pls if you your kind enough to share this i would be extremely greatful


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parenting,account-name-unknown,2020/02/13,Just Some Great News! My son is 16 months and has had a g tube since 6.5 months and ng tubes on and off before that. He has trouble gaining weight. We have had 1 week with no tube feeding and it has been his biggest weight jump EVER! He gained 7 ounces in 7 days and I’m about ready to throw him a dang party because it is THAT exciting! I just have to share everywhere because it is so amazing that he picked up his eating so well!,3.5958608058608057,4.023219153846156,4.070054945054949,92.8957783882784,71.74725274725273,6.945787545787545,25.05677655677656,6.42735559955562,0.5660315018315023,337,9,78,2,6,106,64,91,0.046,0.6809999999999999,0.273,0.9749,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,2,0,11,4,0,1,1,13,12,7,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,3,2,6,5,8,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,9,5,1,1,5,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30176279062348144,0.0,0.21061500874058456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962516315103328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532672009952669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388933439639455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728835364217928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951244224130667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047449962951753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19853969336026972,0.6028073797016085,0.22254356969671507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nicolejade25,2020/02/13,"No advice needed. I’m just ranting. This is late in the day of Day 3 of my 10 year old daughter having the flu. Her fever broke last night and she’s barely been able to keep anything down. When she would eat or drink, she’d get stomach pains that left her in tears. 

This brought back memories from when she was four and the flu destroyed the good bacteria in her gut, making eating painful. She needed to be on meds for 6 months afterwards. It was soul crushing to hear her cry in pain. 

However, In the last hour she’s eaten some dry Cheerios, toast, and broth - and NO stomach pain! I hope she continues to get better and history doesn’t repeat itself.",3.1641014799154337,5.058912922480623,3.619295278365048,90.00158562367866,74.81395348837209,6.551374207188162,24.13037350246653,7.348242739294969,0.9582031007751932,513,16,104,6,11,160,91,129,0.243,0.6990000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.977,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,4,9,1,0,5,0,9,14,3,1,0,14,20,8,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,5,5,4,1,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,1,5,1,13,3,15,12,1,25,1,1,0,0,13,8,0,3,16,60,18,0,0.14362255439428384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034629792911513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818912483177516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043687903799633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702247799865965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776263200652224,0.1852493319736752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069542562888268,0.0,0.29392345711072826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500737137373707,0.0,0.0,0.1204637844999857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618730569716675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264960298836438,0.14143928551791005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765832540339825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341431017566477,0.1620124971148906,0.0,0.156046325583312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586917030559663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595322805448302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463815267842227,0.0,0.0,0.21298860849716533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478003804037855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070771092268972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6112980960740645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202534190930428,0.0,0.0,0.09248821617950599
parenting,coloredpeopletime,2020/02/13,"What would you do? I’m a stay at home with an almost 2 year old. 

We stay busy during the week by taking music, zoo, library, tumbling classes and we do a biweekly play group. I love doing all these activities with him; however, I don’t have a car so we use public transportation. In the winter we’re limited on what we can do depending on the weather. We live in the Midwest and the winters are brutal. 

I’m deciding if for the next school year I should put him in a Montessori toddler class for 2.5-3 year olds. It goes from 8:30-11:45 M-F, September to May. The cost is $6300 for the year. 

The good: 

he will be an only child and the every day socializing with the same kids gives him something to look forward to daily and gives him more stability over our laissez-faire dynamic we currently have. 

Signing him up for this toddler class guarantees him a spot in the 3k-8th grade school, otherwise there is a lottery to be accepted (although I’m not 100% sold on Montessori and might opt for a different school anyways). 

I wont have to use public transportation for 30-60 minutes each way going to each activity. 

The bad: 

I won’t get to do all the fun activities that we do now because all our classes are in the morning. 

We take 2-3 vacations a year (almost all during the typical school year) and we would either have to cut vacations or he would be taking weeks off from the program. 

These classes aren’t just for him, I enjoy going out and seeing the other moms. 

I’m stumped on what to do and would appreciate any advice.",4.882019867549669,5.661828956953645,5.889066225165564,79.73565231788079,69.03311258278146,9.08635761589404,30.66291390728477,9.255337874911486,2.6081968211920534,1203,47,234,23,20,399,164,302,0.039,0.8809999999999999,0.08,0.8957,4,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,11,1,0,1,5,10,2,0,28,0,31,1,0,3,4,49,49,12,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,2,9,23,0,1,2,1,2,7,5,3,0,0,1,2,25,7,36,35,9,41,0,0,2,1,31,15,0,7,18,155,34,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059483511502866,0.0,0.0,0.2171371796869336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373041877789882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052752299537807,0.06609281253954072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699229746844335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327751537013235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134989009714453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056645820930400326,0.20801579263993686,0.12323700917967816,0.09093890989232313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875572390065046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573827585207036,0.0,0.09104685318136703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785474410682084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501820391119767,0.0,0.1269820896507238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153076217012184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275405010819395,0.0,0.0,0.08245952682771424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899367323204294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43891386666456345,0.08639799285745581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052218659738204,0.0,0.08346825921912952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23112603955312025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24455869249490744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872829349297017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606003446038481,0.1739385655574876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080784291522829,0.0,0.0,0.4189198069192719
parenting,givemeathrowie,2020/02/13,"Do you allow your kids to go to friends houses? Me and my SO are having a disagreement over this, so looking for outside opinions. Our daughter is 11 for reference, and she is neuro-typical, no behavior issues, straight A student, with a cell phone if any of that matters. 

Do you allow your kids to go to their friends house after school to hang out (being picked up at a reasonable time) and/or go to their houses on the weekends (sleepovers etc.)? Why or why not? Obviously this is being comfortable and familiar with the friend and their family of course.",4.412610571736785,6.7317097864077695,4.912168284789646,80.22859762675297,72.49514563106796,8.072923408845739,29.891046386192016,8.841846274778883,2.7089965480043148,440,19,76,9,9,140,71,103,0.049,0.774,0.17600000000000002,0.9084,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,4,3,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,4,1,18,13,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,11,4,18,11,1,13,0,0,1,0,17,6,0,3,3,58,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348030563639355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025091720497888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117701879136116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208636786104691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095874907152269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6285551877762184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952185134208974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248107150907791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669399676490647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376817635829554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588048297415484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.327694562180136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jonnytekno,2020/02/13,"My son thinks he is being teased a lot at school; how can I help him? My son is 6. He was assessed for autism when very young. He is not autistic and would never come close to a diagnosis, but he does have a few traits which mostly need no attention (this for context). 

He is generally happy and does well at school. His teacher says he is popular and has friends. He is academically on track. 

However, he regularly talks about being teased by almost everyone. Whilst I don't know for certain as I'm not there, I imagine this is partially a misinterpretation of jokey sarcasm which he is not quite getting. In addition I imagine if he gets upset about something he might cry a bit which others might pick up on.

He still isn't great at being able to explain these situations to us and also doesn't want to.

I don't want to be dismissive of it, but I also want to educate him how to deal with the situation an be strong in these moments, and with how to react so as to come out confident.

Any ideas? Any books or techniques which might be appropriate?

Thanks",4.446521739130431,5.7450246666666684,5.582338164251212,79.61930434782609,70.44927536231884,8.805024154589374,28.775845410628023,9.21078282632365,2.357335845410628,834,31,165,17,15,277,123,207,0.12,0.737,0.14300000000000002,0.8867,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,2,12,11,2,1,7,0,26,0,0,5,2,45,39,18,0,6,7,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,10,12,0,0,7,1,0,2,9,3,1,0,1,1,12,8,30,28,4,18,0,0,0,0,26,10,0,8,6,112,22,4,0.1342354727675598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441743570284367,0.0,0.0,0.21469611814855405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825694492248825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655036957953993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312639475363893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474513636229612,0.0,0.13839087816352458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349407336315588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826774676421102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370999327472924,0.0,0.1402649883124566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799508261908326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428961568595409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997520783376954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153550955667294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377230527215786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412219864104672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272078706515591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953390216564616,0.10353067195274272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277594865924553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674943576212767,0.0,0.2717069298612645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30177259127314465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334102508830532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072006219512023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789338826122873,0.0,0.1235859882198258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860126707586241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146874576154716,0.0,0.0,0.11075832330921513,0.2375266792784424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069381105023233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535702845020884,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wildflower2,2020/02/13,"Bubble Guppies question!!! Okay, in the color song (Red orange yellow green purple blue white, I like them all but one's just right blah blah blah)

WHY is the lyric ""maybe blue like the sky, or just like Mr. Grouper"" WHEN MR.GROUPER IS ORANGE.

Please help me make sense of this madness.",2.8042138364779885,5.589443037735856,1.8814150943396264,97.30690251572331,80.88679245283019,3.5333333333333337,18.26729559748428,3.1291,-0.8275006289308178,223,5,43,0,6,63,43,53,0.11599999999999999,0.628,0.255,0.8524,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,3,5,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,3,3,0,0,4,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,9,3,4,2,3,1,4,0,0,8,0,4,3,0,2,4,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22970357868994604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022755256297459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287539077703806,0.0,0.3442867019329931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23222137059832215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37618003915617776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839007467503491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29266264386983404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092320901003207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Waffle_Twat,2020/02/13,"The hand and foot prints How, how do you get the perfect little foot print? Heck, how do you even get something that looks vaguely like a body part?? Do you wait til they're sleeping? Are they usually drugged beforehand or do y'all like just take the whole foot off to stamp it, because no matter how hard I try I cannot get anywhere near a clear print!!!",5.886971830985915,5.554822169014088,5.1268661971831015,89.92015845070426,66.74647887323943,8.226760563380282,30.426056338028175,7.1686216300943375,1.4725183098591548,278,9,61,2,4,83,52,71,0.047,0.727,0.226,0.9305,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,1,1,6,3,0,0,5,0,6,7,6,4,2,11,12,7,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,7,3,4,12,2,5,0,0,1,0,5,3,1,1,4,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452428982405264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815686752180636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29396628359112176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674268209892872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973119730167587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270759836970544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476834387859131,0.2540621579903342,0.0,0.0,0.2128665703271233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745034374116199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25367165340109005,0.0,0.0,0.19514789858533607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059187036142552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210211112827206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791818659553133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283010954758432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zim3019,2020/02/13,"Family parties. How to handle different ages and bedrooms. Not sure if this is the right place but I am looking for advice on how to deal with different ages kids at a birthday party. We are having a birthday party for my 13 yr old son this weekend. My nephews will be here. They are 1 and 2.

They are the youngest in our family. I provide childcare for them during the week. During the week I don't let my daycare kids in my children's bedrooms. It gives them privacy and allows me to keep things such as Legos and other age inappropriate toys out of their reach. I have a fairly large toy room they have full access to. I also have toys in my living room. Heck, I even have a slide inside.

Sometimes during parties the older kids want to go in their room and play with their older cousins. My sister in law wants my bigger kids to be forced to stay out of their rooms because she feels like her kids are being left out. At the parties the only reason her kids aren't allowed is because I feel like it's not safe. Not sure how to handle this as I don't feel like it's fair to the older kids.

I would also like to note that they have no problem keeping them out of my sister's toy room because it's in her attic and there are quiet a few stairs. Several of us also get the feeling that neither her nor my brother want to watch their kids and just want to have the big kids watch them.

Sorry I got so wordy.",3.514851190476193,4.6220512986111135,4.467599206349206,87.45875000000002,72.47222222222223,6.457936507936507,24.4781746031746,6.42735559955562,0.7183757936507931,1106,31,226,7,21,359,143,288,0.062,0.7979999999999999,0.14,0.9662,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,13,0,12,9,0,0,15,0,24,0,0,6,2,42,39,19,0,7,6,6,4,4,0,2,0,1,7,10,11,14,0,3,5,6,0,2,9,1,0,0,1,8,41,8,36,32,3,38,0,0,3,0,39,25,1,1,14,156,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210119358438618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970968507895205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264693816545625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767035390902426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587663002528085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179307099012681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23348472053296535,0.0,0.2504625274276974,0.2654072095232897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469964255063299,0.11879558992733795,0.07037933524461593,0.0,0.09904364104899922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014376312873304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454909904139842,0.12663156855151722,0.0,0.2420017171919089,0.0,0.10935020667550373,0.0,0.10399176425445757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994594167751403,0.0,0.0,0.09418350414945144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938315012640425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849514019123665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732490601722174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575599261823188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990039088389944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247781039876708,0.13862521405242384,0.0,0.1319936042731534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23342952972028375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227170000393022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896048200708922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921687287364076,0.0,0.19866890147406605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797014464758128,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,M3102,2020/02/13,"Daughter's cousin said his mom told him they don't get to see each other because I am mean. Okay so I have a daughter with a man that has chosen several times to do meth rather than see his child. He pays zero child support and the last time he was supposed to see her he never showed up. I have not even heard a word from him in a month. My daughter is in Kindergarten and she has a cousin in her class. Her cousin is her dad's brother's child. None of his family have even tried to get to know my daughter, even when I used to take her to their house regularly when she was younger. Today my daughter comes home and says that her cousin said, "" My mommy said that we never get to play when we are not at school because your mommy is mean to us"". 

Now I am sorry but I tried for years to let them have a relationship with my child and they never wanted it. I stopped putting my child through that and they have not talked to her in 4 years. The whole thing makes me so angry and I really am just posting here to vent because I am so sick of being turned into the bad guy, and how dare they say things like that to their child? Why do people drag their children into things like this.",4.0089030612244905,4.466402918367346,4.204732142857143,92.18995535714286,70.83673469387756,6.941326530612246,23.88392857142857,6.322622252153567,0.3890051020408167,925,21,210,5,16,287,128,245,0.087,0.865,0.048,-0.9134,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,3,1,8,0,14,6,0,0,9,1,22,1,0,3,3,33,43,15,0,2,6,12,0,2,0,0,1,6,1,9,11,15,0,1,3,2,1,2,8,1,0,1,7,9,42,5,29,34,3,26,0,0,3,0,59,8,0,0,17,145,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967768003639867,0.2119659539881621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984289191667813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296647722801924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926601019496436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166855080908528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476531896742675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626332668918235,0.0,0.0,0.13374014424869382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369899312190247,0.09447898840013434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852189923837735,0.0,0.11325178811500265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773682603611089,0.0,0.0,0.2525115698089569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574789117512226,0.0925151893509498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681819228622894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035473587591442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100605975620324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116517702089933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425245263687312,0.0,0.0,0.12443983681424148,0.0,0.0,0.33075989494774555,0.18434645763862395,0.0,0.11730321963341085,0.2770866040499763,0.0,0.0,0.13094096694384247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974745428613754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690273785942814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315289343273519,0.0,0.0,0.08714700597027504,0.09316097919668187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310087030328979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517162541781128,0.0,0.10986548504812517,0.11075330083224356,0.0,0.15738534573957347,0.12607261640110745,0.0,0.0,0.13942083669098498,0.1001057060083187,0.0,0.0,0.06836445489856964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458727936970053,0.12940508594210245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927953098792626
parenting,thomasbce,2020/02/13,"How I Reasoned* with a Toddler Little bit of a brag here, but this is mostly just me being lucky (with my kid) and patient.

To set the stage, my 2.5 y/o kid usually goes to bed just fine. We give him a 10 and 5 minute warning to prepare, then tell him it's time to go upstairs. He gives the most exaggerated sigh and then races upstairs with the first book he finds. We read, change into jammies, brush teeth, and then after a little bit (probably too much) haggling, I get to go downstairs.

Last night, however, he was having a particularly whinny evening, and our usual 10 and 5 minute warnings left him sobbing ""I want to stay down here. I want to sleep here!"" for a minute straight. When actual bedtime rolled around, it was obvious he was not going up willingly.

We tried distracting him, offering him different books, and I even asked him why-like I thought he could give me an answer. In retrospect, I think I was being tricked into thinking he understood his own motivation better than he actually did because he's really good at using the right polite works (""Please, let's stay downstairs).

Finally, I could see this was going nowhere, so I picked him up and just carried him to his room, all the while he was just sobbing again and again ""Please, let's go downstairs!"". There wasn't any anger, no tantrums, just him saying the same thing over and over.

Once we got to his room, I tried more techniques, asking him how he felt, pointing out his doll, his books, if he wanted to go brush his teeth (which he actually enjoys, somehow!), but nothing was working. If this had happened a year ago, I would have just closed the door after 10 minutes of this, waiting for him to calm down, but it seemed odd to me that he was upset in this particular way. He wasn't screaming, just sobbing, and it looked like he was trying to speak as clearly as he could through the tears. There must be something else going on.

""David are you scared of something?""
""Please, let's go downstairs--YES MICE--Please, let's go downstairs""

Well, now I have something to work with. About 6 months ago, he said he had though there were mice in his room after a rather traumatizing encounter with a Beatrice Potter book, so we told him his doll would look out for mice. That solution had been working fine, but now he though the mice were back.

So at that moment I became the pest inspector. I showed my son all the things we could do to keep the mice out of the room. We blocked the closet door with a chair, and we looked in all the boxes and shelves for mice. 

As soon as we were done, something clicked, like the last 30 minutes hadn't happened, and he agreed to go to bed with a smile on his face. I even got to go downstairs without any haggling. 

The morals of this story here:

1) I'm very lucky to have a kid that I can communicate reasonably well with

2) That being said, you can't expect toddlers to explain their actions but

3) You can see how they are feeling by watching their moods closely and guide their thought process to get at the root of the problem

4) You can show them you care by taking their worries seriously",6.4625797898458215,6.343487914858103,5.996408229401947,83.45025017185506,65.51085141903171,8.716507905332417,32.14185407050967,8.027739517013583,2.1034752626927227,2427,87,487,25,34,747,282,599,0.086,0.7929999999999999,0.121,0.9659,3,0,4,0,0,0,102.0,10,5,6,7,39,27,3,3,32,0,49,4,4,9,6,103,97,39,0,15,17,1,2,2,0,4,0,5,9,3,18,40,0,3,14,7,0,12,7,12,3,1,30,16,65,13,73,51,11,77,1,3,7,0,79,33,3,8,29,312,83,10,0.0,0.0,0.19138181650883795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589720667802356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891081714308945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058195210476198515,0.12222855963942605,0.0,0.0,0.050267266742479284,0.0,0.039850349879859054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057816490645778915,0.14273924982803524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665142097315499,0.0,0.0691552297911753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20877786206101934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830014410901711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689856398142406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054610171772804236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953337116046887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03305420122424678,0.0,0.06276766378352475,0.07161216388409833,0.05974910172464552,0.05560564856170891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830866160999907,0.18813321294834612,0.4086784568383623,0.054831187199576144,0.10456840709349656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561702542707998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05810590765375603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657430610533146,0.0,0.0,0.07102719979601507,0.2673904406368119,0.0,0.06387521150431406,0.1310404454687992,0.0,0.0,0.16468881329117271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05217954952863787,0.0,0.0480561654247412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134747905549048,0.0,0.06272648898593508,0.0,0.0,0.06961937045761114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870366363323235,0.06179795767022785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704824006373901,0.06255246640209912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538999487939245,0.0,0.04187917202753672,0.13442723293021108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558275906032628,0.12436806281285355,0.05198668015634758,0.06544908080034254,0.0,0.1041865253419915,0.05951249053661399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541951530174428,0.0,0.0,0.20130717431673065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935635644235492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915183707886755,0.0,0.05713827527651767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686090825385631,0.0837758658338167,0.1284559139370977,0.10379661476379501,0.03811911629234945,0.0,0.0,0.062466038136870024,0.0,0.13315051021428126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646068155300923,0.14399671470548825,0.053938997311049945,0.1156748362751404,0.051889492248000685,0.0,0.0,0.1175551047576613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301656843794969,0.0,0.19036726416784688,0.06638874816780695,0.0,0.0928772185690462,0.0,0.0,0.042097620593133225
parenting,megatronwashere,2020/02/13,"1 year old sick with daily fevers for 7+ days, tested negative for flu (x-post on /r/askdocs) I have a 1 year old baby boy that's been having fevers on a nightly basis the last 7 days. We have been to the pediatrician and pediatric urgent care that one day when he vomited 3 times. He was tested negative for the flu, and negative for UTI. he had x-rays done on chest and doctor said nothing out of ordinary (saw white streaks that could indicate a viral infection or that he didn't take big enough breath when taking the x-ray?) that was how the doctor explained it. Doc rules out baterial infection. Blood tests shows his whiteblood cell are good, little low on potassium (could be dehydration from not drinking enough?). He's refusing to eat or drink much. We've been trying to syringe in whatever liquid we can to keep him hydrated. Every morning he wakes up with a fever between 101 and 105. sometimes during the day. We have given him daily doses of Motrin (ibuprofen) and the fever subsides usually after that. He had one day where he has diarrhea but then because of his lack of normal food intact he hasn't had a poopy diaper in 3 days. 4 days ago he started having a little cough. He's been playing normally, his usual babbling and interest in grabbing everything insight. Just lower energy. Pediatrician said to just try to give him as much fluids as possible. As a first time parents, we feel so powerless and just trying to see what else we can do or what questions we can ask. We've been desperately trying to get him to take in more food / water. pedialyte, white grape juice, soup and almost everything else.",4.411071428571429,6.36700845779221,5.420644155844158,78.1425376623377,71.56493506493507,8.694233766233767,27.904415584415585,9.281916038205594,2.596852051948052,1287,48,229,29,25,423,180,308,0.10099999999999999,0.846,0.053,-0.9292,3,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,6,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,14,0,27,26,4,1,0,39,43,20,0,5,8,1,2,0,0,0,16,2,0,1,9,18,6,2,4,4,0,0,6,1,0,3,16,8,14,4,36,24,6,40,0,1,4,0,34,16,0,5,24,134,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564966275851935,0.0,0.09675307719247757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032862147972297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058899936001065585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985126715708724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428977099205374,0.0,0.0,0.43619283292224015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977936293573643,0.0,0.09887795587613056,0.0,0.18930574926980406,0.0,0.09886853113313863,0.16143073434098265,0.0,0.0,0.1996729182511728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140828743227176,0.0,0.17367542843334408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488550374725434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218670981450323,0.23367165629983344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048105988124416,0.09268872365185887,0.0,0.08104203417671234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085882162952346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875990835571804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368145762665756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420567235423173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067329649773907,0.18933828847686165,0.09271151189341048,0.0,0.20277728298154465,0.0,0.13094727257535396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728740878843204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892690122398267,0.09253726401367243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823886621002292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838194887206217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699530485073877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556172858335736,0.0,0.06838962045172008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794338571742106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126822483017306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26240025675304923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21283118733177248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244429304238499
parenting,can-we-not-,2020/02/13,"Goal board fail So we have custody of my husbands niece. I’ve only been in her life for less than 4 years, the last two have been spent as her full time guardian. It’s been really rough. She’s 12 now and is already getting into a lot of trouble (stealing cigarettes from her grandmother, disappearing from the park when we dropped her off with friends, bringing alcohol to school) she is currently only allowed to have friends are our house and can only go out if we supervise. We made a goal board to help her get back on track and regain privileges. We started it Sunday. She asked if she is good all week if she can go to the park with her friends Friday. 
She has two chores a day she is supposed to do after school. (She has therapy after school some days so we let her skip chores those days, but she is supposed to make up for it on the off days) She hasn’t done a single one all week, even when reminded. She was late to school this morning and she lost a library book.
We have tried everything with her and nothing is getting through. I really hoped this would work because it’s a step by step instruction on how to get the things she wants back. Grounding her doesn’t seem to do much. Taking away time with her friends seems to be the only thing that semi works. 
I just feel like we are constantly losing this battle. I’m supposed to be the fun aunt. I wasn’t supposed to have a teenager for another 15 years. If anyone has any experience and can offer words of wisdom it would be much appreciated.",3.8724555004377024,5.4152869429530215,4.272439451415231,87.50829150860812,72.18791946308724,7.464487890283048,27.050481470674058,8.04050195162591,1.5566995622993869,1191,42,243,17,23,374,159,298,0.046,0.8370000000000001,0.11699999999999999,0.9684,2,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,9,0,0,7,10,16,1,0,14,0,35,2,0,4,2,42,55,17,0,8,6,2,2,1,4,2,2,0,2,0,12,20,1,0,3,1,1,6,3,6,0,3,9,2,36,10,40,40,9,42,0,3,0,0,41,12,0,9,24,170,48,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671720528962787,0.0,0.0,0.11019513770800016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790646469642951,0.10470920364168533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982262455863703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335320084497994,0.0,0.09381932606565388,0.15356837262852605,0.0,0.06087215176308484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791038782120496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575990800313277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218880265008327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595487912013907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974540343237415,0.09767971047364392,0.0,0.0,0.05049090809480769,0.07133815537926191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085983564885513,0.0,0.208685506089302,0.0,0.11350253737690574,0.08375565982796132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693231863554372,0.0,0.0,0.0991809419908155,0.0,0.11522204681009306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139711890670281,0.11264351068295513,0.0,0.0,0.10211096973748647,0.07053224352080179,0.04878528771155046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171490195164713,0.10900616165340536,0.08489520109743479,0.0,0.09448749807502638,0.0666555981902212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468133757272348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581588037818288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676659669802084,0.3037842475452727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279424307720316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042441299731885,0.0,0.1818128757546924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067959046817232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750803467251723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419565375238662,0.0,0.13268165537940393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164553204184205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779662821473638,0.0,0.19509236415311496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058898489056672436,0.0,0.1601991858605544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539477106329265,0.0,0.0,0.141871681456067,0.0,0.0,0.1286097992783312
parenting,pr1m3r3dd1tor,2020/02/13,"Soon to be first time dad - what little things can I do to be a better father? My first child (a son) is due on the 20th. I am so excited I can barely contain it but I am also incredibly nervous. Beyond the nerves typical how will I afford all this, oh crap diapers, etc. I have a deeper fear that I have discussed lightly with my wife but mostly have kept to myself - that I don't really know what a good dad (or parent) looks like.

My dad died when I was 12 and if I am honest wasn't the best parent before then. This wasn't entirely his fault as some of it was due to his disability and the poverty we lived in but he probably could have done better regardless. I don't blame him for this but added to the fact that my mom was never in the picture and it leaves me with a large gap in my understanding of the role of a parent in the younger years. 

After my father passed I moved in with my cousins and they were excellent and supportive and when I think of how to deal with a teenager I certainly want to emmulate them. 

Are there any tips you guys can give of little things (or big) that I can do to show my little man how much I love him and also raise him to be a good man?",4.820335454019664,4.280013384615387,5.9571110468478885,83.77689271255062,69.0,9.32434933487565,26.54973973395026,8.841846274778883,1.6261407750144592,914,22,204,14,14,307,134,247,0.096,0.727,0.177,0.9685,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,2,6,11,16,1,2,16,0,29,2,1,3,4,36,38,24,1,4,7,12,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,14,12,0,2,3,1,0,2,5,4,0,2,8,2,35,12,28,25,6,25,0,0,1,1,31,11,1,5,13,156,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120755996668344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017052976807956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128303093281392,0.0,0.13915240613628055,0.2345426016036252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058679417803122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670171928605482,0.0,0.0,0.13761478646540726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569280204051368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788074286433187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920852692674635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255739380209556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271991569651344,0.0,0.2224322014560545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129191010214436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287186193358297,0.0,0.0,0.14040111304176353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478021286344456,0.3986911863587059,0.1170856099253766,0.0,0.11134811277569127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967399972339275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529604313458426,0.0,0.14092966221525138,0.0974740764781776,0.0,0.10226700663072097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4416999419083688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296202889624365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494505504080913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046954234004106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618315442499652,0.08496282507287639,0.0,0.0,0.07731839658700829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803818822342667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820916586545308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538814224931411
parenting,bonzombiekitty,2020/02/13,"I take 5 minutes to use the bathroom... My daughter (3)  is happily watching some cartoons, my wife is sitting with my son (7 months) on her lap playing together.  All is well with the world.  Good time to go use the bathroom.  I come back five minutes later, my wife is nowhere to be found. My son is on the floor crying his head off and my daughter is running around naked like a crazy person.  


I was gone for five minutes... if that...",2.1129705882352923,4.172992929411766,2.99139705882353,92.54003676470587,78.52941176470588,5.191176470588236,28.27205882352941,5.985473137389443,1.029617647058824,329,15,68,2,8,104,58,85,0.06,0.799,0.141,0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,8,1,1,2,1,11,15,2,0,1,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,2,3,1,11,4,10,11,2,15,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,2,5,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473760960060082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21367600704413614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23937286801974794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30524304527230434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046859816871057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579281499240813,0.23307631191321698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28518963909317546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576031707934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218047352715713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24263800342426756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089345406365798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620366709637925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800059271590502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24985151391815355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsB16,2020/02/13,"Having my daughter has made me want to become more spiritual...? Okay so I’m not religious at ALL. I did grow up with some knowledge and participate in church activity here and there but it’s never really been apart of my life. I couldn’t really tell you much about the Bible. I know a few things. But every since I became a mom, I, for some reason have felt compelled to seek spiritual guidance or faith or something. I’m not sure if it’s because having a baby put into perspective the fragility of life and just how fleeting life truly is.. maybe it caused me to go into an existential crisis and it’s made me desperate to believe in something? Maybe I just need something to cling onto as I navigate motherHood.. maybe I just want to become a better version of myself. Has anyone ever felt this ? My baby is 4 months old so idk maybe it’s just being a new mom.",2.1599281045751617,4.620416535294119,4.127450980392158,82.29241830065361,80.70588235294117,6.601307189542485,22.38562091503268,7.793537801064563,1.324816993464052,681,22,126,12,18,231,106,170,0.079,0.8190000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.2702,0,0,3,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,1,11,4,0,0,8,1,11,3,0,6,4,38,22,13,0,5,11,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,5,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,6,3,16,4,20,14,7,16,2,0,0,0,5,8,0,5,5,90,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882814516235442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744137902772816,0.280607680869892,0.0,0.1431286803336829,0.0,0.11235506788902253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050334606195788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491343097294247,0.10703526134437123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24395341352833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219880325426824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981693678476396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691927611872034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24041345475312415,0.0,0.0,0.5105082588828398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975714833891071,0.10140077275922907,0.0,0.09338778034562517,0.0941973024945237,0.09797978187536374,0.12269439836120352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330534373842606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770859698756645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627679979789112,0.13061654826597466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508740875152596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934009092943129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973211050825053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103708865843273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439861304930905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498609818476744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsNaldym,2020/02/13,"Illness and school Before I get blasted for asking the school board rules are if they can participate they should go.

Daughter has a stomach virus. Mostly it's diarrhea, but she did vomit last night. Otherwise she's normal, maybe grumpier.

She's been out of school the last 2 days I'm just not sure if she should go tomorrow. I'd feel bad keeping her home on Valentine's Day but on the other hand I don't want to be the asshole who keeps this shit going.

Thoughts?",3.313586956521738,5.337527315217397,3.77326086956522,88.49293478260874,74.76086956521739,6.339130434782609,25.630434782608692,7.1686216300943375,1.1271478260869563,371,13,73,4,8,116,71,92,0.17,0.785,0.045,-0.899,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,5,0,9,5,3,0,1,18,20,5,0,6,6,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,3,2,9,1,6,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,3,1,3,6,41,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298421236995393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449780475308078,0.0,0.0,0.1574524902260779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386665564924773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356004817797008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667396933670423,0.0,0.315481636179877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560676400966494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32893800595140393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016589977807204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18589410250621344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364428373535726,0.1812965490179508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5618006543614111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18993737733590088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439477490775734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689836568924916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913936155405772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,subwayne78,2020/02/13,"My wife has trouble to bring our son (2y) to bed TL;DR: Son does not want to fall asleep when my wife brings him to bed. Everything is fine when its my turn.

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Hi there,

since our Christmas holidays, where our son of 2 years slept in his own hotel bed with just a minimal bed rail, we also removed the bars from his bed at home. He can now freely get in and out on his own. Interestingly enough, he does not go out of his bed to come to our room next door at night. He rather sits in his bed when he wakes up at night, is a little bit teary and mumbles ""mummy"" or ""daddy"" until we pick him up. But this is another story ;)

Since he has his ""new bed"", we changed his bed time routine to incorporate reading. The whole procedure from brushing teeth until he falls asleep takes usually one hour. This is completely fine with me. When I bring him to bed, he usually falls asleep within this hour. He gets a small tantrum when our reading session is over every other night, but he calms down in less than in minute or two due to distractions (switching on a bedside lamp or some starlight lamp). So, actually everything is fine at my side.

My wife and I usually alternate when its time to bring him to bed. Then, the other one has some time to do sports or do something else. However, every time my wife brings him to bed, he cries much more and opposes to go to bed. Sometimes it feels like they are debating over sleep the entire time. I never have these ""discussions"" with him, when I bring him to bed. When I basically say ""no"", he accepts that at some point. Not so with my wife. Often, she leaves his room after more than one hour, also exhausted and crying.

I don't know why my son reacts to her differently than to me. She tried to ""copy"" exactly the steps that I do to put him to sleep. No success. I don't want my wife to go through this struggle, but I don't know what we can change. I proposed to bring him to bed every night, but she refused saying that she needs to ""learn"" how to put him to sleep. I am often on business trips, sometimes a whole week (next one in two weeks from now), and I have the feeling to she now puts uneccessary pressure on herself.

Maybe someone else went through the same phase and can give us some hints what we can try out.

Thanks",4.249397849462365,5.157711733333336,4.598401433691759,87.94912903225809,70.55555555555556,7.939784946236559,26.51612903225807,8.155646560271837,1.4009634408602152,1760,54,377,24,31,554,205,450,0.067,0.865,0.068,-0.1609,2,0,1,0,0,0,75.0,11,0,1,1,22,15,1,3,12,0,23,11,9,3,2,56,49,31,0,4,13,10,2,1,0,0,1,2,19,0,15,20,1,2,6,6,0,21,9,6,0,6,2,5,60,9,69,47,15,91,0,0,0,0,64,31,0,10,39,243,75,5,0.0,0.0,0.07648142950773416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535084545855998,0.0,0.0849178754803592,0.09523262872271193,0.0,0.08218166211559946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556378609672352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581797358331635,0.06751200626671812,0.08217333746435042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217966727620804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188383963009332,0.0,0.0,0.13717071294690564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094234590423914,0.0,0.0,0.08098098678696374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809967741171405,0.0,0.14087446308055646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925619916194954,0.05599018975820638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189405111198042,0.07518319831345112,0.1336247462241983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861521525818724,0.0,0.23154693361655704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614427607762737,0.0,0.0,0.0829864362083905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03828943293889057,0.07855104086381083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873691975467287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761369019362339,0.05811310840571606,0.06044663206807278,0.07569381164766639,0.16670264655186007,0.2941936478887807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243220048247868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408848284799108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363616582814083,0.0,0.0,0.15678982596494695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246518301346108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966307558983994,0.0,0.23529091349044085,0.0,0.06640578502042514,0.060335906289699134,0.15502719442430596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193321211894837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589272716389351,0.0,0.0,0.0721559767534676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22850168517518066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642120078740204,0.08524808431666969,0.15311944121960594,0.0,0.0942739159463444,0.0,0.2589526870262013,0.0,0.09245368235897472,0.0,0.12573331575167254,0.0,0.0,0.07265320874967432,0.07072007756064147,0.1750028831368226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523262872271193,0.05047009575784395
parenting,robinbiro,2020/02/13,"What to do when nothing is good enough... Background - I’m a new parent to my half brothers, 8 & 11 y/o boys (I’m their 44 y/o half brother - dad died, their mom isn’t in the picture (as in, in rehab and only allowed supervised visitation). The boys are transitioning fairly well to the move and to their new schools and I’m working my tail off trying to provide a comforting, nurturing environment for them. 

I suspect that my 11 y/o may be high functioning on the autism scale (his former teacher told me they wanted to address this with our father but were afraid to - seems like Asperger’s to me). So I’ve been keeping this in mind as well with their living environment and my parenting style. 

Here’s where I’m stumped - nothing ever ever seems to be good enough for my 11 y/o, no matter how hard I try. He will always find the fault with what I’ve done and complain about it, sometimes with a ferocity. Whether it’s the meals I cook, even if it’s one of his favorites, or their bedrooms which I have taken painful detail to make super cool and comfortable. Bear in mind that they didn’t have bedrooms before and our dad was an atrocious cook (like used to make me eat trout pancakes for the protein kinda thing). So I just don’t get it. I’ve tried bringing them in on as many decisions as reasonably possible, but even the stuff he picks out he’ll find fault with and sometimes even destroy. I’ve been super patient, communicative, loving, and empathetic, but I’m not exactly sure how to handle the nothing ever being good enough thing and could use some advice. 

I do have them each in children’s grief therapy & a lot of anger issues are coming out, so I feel like I’m trying my best, but I’m at a loss at the moment with this particular behavior. They chose to come live with me, and are super sweet and cuddly so I know they love and respect me, and they too know they are deeply loved and appreciated, sooooo hmmm, pointers?",6.5061529808773875,6.1186703989501385,6.81642294713161,78.50661417322836,65.48293963254594,9.566854143232096,32.57855268091488,8.976282227363876,2.581897787776528,1526,55,299,22,21,495,200,381,0.11800000000000001,0.6940000000000001,0.188,0.9895,3,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,2,0,14,6,20,32,3,1,16,1,24,9,0,9,5,69,52,33,2,3,9,8,2,3,0,3,2,0,3,3,15,27,4,1,10,2,0,5,5,10,2,3,8,4,37,22,44,37,7,29,0,2,0,3,38,16,0,8,11,189,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753270944464192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745344750170819,0.19411129224790374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622264717199465,0.0,0.09400457039617988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154323724004521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151921164797792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296582963267774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166743081093318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165869335303906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277668109991112,0.0,0.1774924696717899,0.2430800802371404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529235791332759,0.06399317002275065,0.0,0.0,0.16374183009011015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04679980510239904,0.0,0.0,0.2253965000038321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024257386280252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464204743490788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349415576036496,0.0,0.07961933638868776,0.0,0.0,0.09845734278324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128704525103002,0.0,0.1581946409152321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615438062648656,0.2425377306211801,0.0,0.1195854590093582,0.09081608641091507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808926126785906,0.10491042321464396,0.0,0.0952051978148968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302627404398888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25785199622794197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606990705982999,0.0681266459023458,0.09531526555609528,0.0,0.1989272742312432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098357205025113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920991299391492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065577600985067,0.0,0.1630933994387737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718606873431028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254318162816917,0.0,0.0,0.08442439606605727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243805502938487,0.0,0.1190207356281386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559378390445918,0.0,0.2432651157434357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472994670665072,0.0,0.0,0.052834293292961146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107930859079606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521245366947738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,judyokech,2020/02/13,"Poor feeding habits My 11 year old son has never liked food. In most cases, he eats very little and tops it up with tea and a snack. He loves tea more than anything else. 

I intend to take him to a boarding school next year but his poor feeding habits scare me. Sometimes he doesn't really get enough of all the required nutrients by the end of the day. 

What can I do to increase his appetite? I'm afraid this habit will gradually lower his immune system and lead to other health problems as he ages.",3.549924242424243,5.268316252525255,3.8968560606060616,89.16528409090913,73.34343434343434,6.162121212121212,23.48611111111111,6.6274283507984215,0.612180808080808,395,11,79,3,8,123,78,99,0.166,0.743,0.092,-0.8509,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,2,5,0,5,10,0,2,2,12,9,5,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,4,7,1,0,0,2,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,12,8,5,15,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,1,9,43,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18552028471616205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539200988310955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306843524120964,0.1883286015482071,0.0,0.1996754804060948,0.2329427640579483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726064304424637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177846021814503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23963524371773204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014000565911147,0.22595299593694898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20347100486637887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387545040630908,0.0,0.2397610649381261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365643833905569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21571839345074476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442448441208744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257076559111358,0.2281602346293438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229687770312533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695049922036366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18601398975202146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903556519761766
parenting,wonttellyouanyway,2020/02/13,"I know this is a weird question, I don't worry about my kids being cute or whatever (in my eyes they are beautiful)  but no one ever tells me they are. Is this normal or are my kids not as cute as I think? Lol real question. Please don't be rude. I'm an over thinker and I've been stuck on this one. Thank you.",-0.7642647058823542,1.2113496323529418,1.4338235294117645,99.92220588235297,89.44117647058823,4.576470588235295,15.852941176470587,5.985473137389443,-0.7682117647058826,237,5,59,2,8,79,48,68,0.086,0.645,0.26899999999999996,0.9346,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,0,2,5,1,0,2,1,10,1,1,0,1,13,15,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,2,1,10,3,6,11,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,4,1,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376256189287105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437209536535847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25738852192712464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35602228381479795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883638063130314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5885643524715858,0.0,0.0,0.29900813562257994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22960986103282255,0.24185726623658296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832643984191487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667828380745313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jimbrownie808,2020/02/13,"Raising a Clone Just a theoretical question. How many people out there, given the option, would choose to raise a clone of yourself vs having and raising a traditional child? Why?",5.615376344086023,8.648767096774192,5.949677419354843,70.81118279569894,71.58064516129029,6.713978494623658,29.68817204301075,7.793537801064563,2.396281720430109,144,6,21,2,3,46,26,31,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,14,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017873870489994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431262811192638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544415542172046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466027276590615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35158831039796856,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aeroartist,2020/02/13,"Evenflo BIg Kid car seat First time poster here and wanted to share some info...Been seeing evenflo's Big Kid booster car seat in the news for it being dangerous for under 40lb. Now there's a class action filed.  (don't want to link and break the rules, but you can look it up!)

Wouldn;'t want anyone using one of these and not knowing the big picture. The videos of the testing are just terrifying.",2.466153846153848,4.9101552948718,3.0381410256410284,90.64644230769231,79.38461538461539,4.925641025641027,21.28846153846154,5.985473137389443,0.1905846153846152,315,9,61,2,8,98,60,78,0.125,0.8540000000000001,0.02,-0.804,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,4,2,1,0,6,0,4,0,0,1,0,14,11,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,9,10,1,13,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,1,3,35,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547971064724256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099586408823148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002648309610904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060044081648983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469270197475423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903797961947741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124846986453065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31472479091829314,0.0,0.0,0.6447980729212613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omnificunderachiever,2020/02/13,"The futility of rushing and shushing your kids As a father I used to get frustrated and irritated when my young kids couldn't get ready as fast as I would like or if they couldn't be quiet enough in certain situations. Then it donned on me, kids suck at rushing and being quiet. If I'm in a situation where my kids are unable to go fast enough or be quiet enough, it's because of *my* bad planning. Any anger I feel should be focused on ensuring I plan better in the future, not on them.

Anyway, this helped me quite a bit, so I thought I'd share it here.",6.0423684210526325,5.078244289473684,6.93228070175439,79.20263157894739,66.63157894736842,9.705263157894738,31.280701754385966,8.841846274778883,2.2740807017543867,435,14,92,6,6,146,74,114,0.152,0.728,0.12,-0.7137,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,2,4,5,8,3,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,1,16,17,13,0,6,5,1,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,4,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,4,13,4,14,8,4,17,0,0,0,0,10,8,1,4,7,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401654994541452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209769977323586,0.1256459984018271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229226878006224,0.22502456828911974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6389167341460557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421810916883402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153735165025168,0.0,0.11714009786746615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815476793136985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069754402136004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21922903573217395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4633645569612322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163632556954265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780174760212308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464184240674702,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lliivvv,2020/02/13,"Boyfriend who stays home with baby during day doesn't think I do enough  Okay so, we just had a baby in November, she's 11 weeks. When she was born I got 6 weeks of unpaid maternity leave and I've been back at work for a month. My boyfriend is a tattoo artist that works for himself so he doesn't have to go in and report to anyone every day which is why he can stay home, because he has his studio at home. Because of this, he stays home with her while I'm gone from 7-3:30 M-F. When I get home, I take her so that he can get a break. The thing is, he doesn't think I need a break, as he sees my going to work for 8 hours as a ""break"". I have to wake up at 4 am every morning just so I can get an hour in at the gym because it never ""worked for him"" if I went after work. I was supposed to have a nail appointment today and I asked if he had anything to do around that time to see if it was still okay and all he said was ""I'm not helping you this weekend I'm tired of this....watching the baby all day every day"". It set me off because while I appreciate him being able to do this so we don't have to pay for child care, he gets so much free time to himself while I collectively get my commutes to/from work, my showers, and a gym sesh before anyone wakes up as my ""free"" time. I am also the one who does most of the housework as every afternoon when I come home he's laying in bed asleep. He doesn't help much during the weekends anyway because his logic is that he already takes care of her ""all day"" during the week. He spends hours downstairs when I get home watching sports or playing the game. I just don't know how to handle this at this point because he will never understand where I'm coming from. Our relationship has been the best/healthiest one I've ever been in but lately I'm feeling resentment and it makes me sad.",3.51923076923077,3.711263743589747,4.684256410256413,89.26407692307693,71.8205128205128,7.2656410256410275,24.57435897435897,6.742157984588678,0.6684482051282048,1420,35,325,10,25,469,178,390,0.039,0.917,0.043,-0.3789,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,3,1,0,6,21,9,1,0,18,2,35,4,3,2,6,38,68,30,0,4,9,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,10,1,17,13,0,0,6,8,4,6,9,2,0,2,13,5,38,9,44,53,7,63,0,1,3,0,39,16,0,5,34,198,55,8,0.07242595527333229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992384262958954,0.057919010265306915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012838238289034,0.0,0.0596003900986259,0.06447445538747205,0.06770849139526927,0.0,0.0,0.05569108901777525,0.0,0.2649011406072634,0.0,0.0616291535139413,0.0,0.07600657173301195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768617667609865,0.0,0.0,0.12477709487124924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335437475075655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338044152959288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748353724755598,0.0,0.0,0.06551342300892114,0.2440879640944781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0366207391426628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270374341555008,0.0,0.08232267887725797,0.0,0.05792565266901211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970911822921996,0.0,0.5085439687341373,0.0,0.21397493053959915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03980341091586004,0.0,0.0816996322008805,0.07668862915207053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834488754170888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057809706515255375,0.0,0.10648282112623952,0.05370292812922887,0.11171872325061716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815540338333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846593787087656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775837130644878,0.0,0.0,0.06889366884181296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542821866561202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23158929522416746,0.057839461437703577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891060968839893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811658647079775,0.09281525541450528,0.0,0.0,0.1266964708619517,0.08324298129827053,0.06865133705444973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539797367803766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428719796197184,0.0,0.0,0.06713958614297508,0.06535315949747161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31636174816770024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tstein26,2020/02/13,"I feel like baby wrestling should be an Olympic sport. Hear me out. Not babies wrestling other babies. That would just be too entertaining. What I mean is adults wrestling diapers, clothing, creams, and ointments onto babies. And wrestling babies to wipe their face or suck the snot from their nose or dig something out of their tiny clenched fist. Babies are so wild and unpredictable I feel like it could be a fair fight. Sincerely, a mom who just broke a sweat trying to change a diaper. 😅",3.765168539325842,6.77255321348315,2.7304382022471927,91.33857865168541,78.66292134831461,5.807191011235956,23.50674157303371,7.1686216300943375,0.9492597752808988,392,13,72,5,10,112,65,89,0.08800000000000001,0.772,0.141,0.6124,0,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,3,0,4,7,2,0,6,0,8,3,3,0,0,16,13,6,0,3,5,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,7,4,7,7,0,3,0,1,1,0,8,3,1,2,2,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31663346025844896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389770704593093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026832863202447,0.4276585255641257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373474977430333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924584200562096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32603959717284986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505517611671097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23042576595881306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321387556484174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126233632908124,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zombiewifee,2020/02/13,"We wanted her. We Had Her. But how much do i love her? I just had my 2nd child 4 months ago. Its a little girl. I came to the realization when i was 4 months pregnant that i might not be a attacted to this baby. I even had the convo with my mom that if my husband was to leave(because while i was pregnant i couldnt take my meds for my emotions, so i was outta control with them) i would willingly give him the baby and tell him to go. I have another daughter with another man, but he isnt in her life. And my husband has been there for her since she was 8 months old. I still love my new daughter. All my children(including stepbabies) are a blessing in my life, i just feel im not as attacted to her as i am with my oldest. Is there something i could do, i say to my husband? I dont wanna think im a bad person, i dont think i am.",0.19987722529159047,1.9824772044198904,2.674208103130756,93.79988182934315,83.58563535911603,5.790178023327195,21.10527931246164,6.937597516519254,0.3486093308778391,638,20,152,8,18,220,93,181,0.028999999999999998,0.8909999999999999,0.08,0.8523,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,1,1,9,4,0,0,7,0,26,4,0,2,1,28,36,11,0,6,7,6,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,4,4,9,0,1,3,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,10,2,42,3,17,20,2,15,1,0,0,2,28,3,0,2,10,115,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761567846649532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30191827239972624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020418918762507,0.0877593098714389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16465682322079048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146822021036478,0.1149437906200783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374502087332383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194047670989506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508707194654707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279268303884281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810368860849848,0.08181823757128226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31101232805239026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033725056791436,0.0,0.14429006387971538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598668290995541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991189894280475,0.0,0.0,0.15272338715893422,0.0,0.16860926514685345,0.3447328269268401,0.0,0.1058303358805518,0.0,0.0,0.13904163201194106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106633063017147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570408643127656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144862011696954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190887686143814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108307627377613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497008750069662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824324790018816,0.0,0.12583115632934125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184493039374138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491388266019337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102268118460333,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kalma09,2020/02/13,"Worried about daughter's (19mth) socialization - daycare despite stay at home parent? Our daughter (19 months) is lovely with adults, but is a bit of a bully with other kids. She doesn't share toys, and if she sees something interesting other kids have, she will try to grab it, if they go on her tricycle she will try to push them off. She doesn't seem interested in playing with other kids, just adults. We are really worried that she isn't going to socialize properly. 

Unfortunately, there aren't a lot of opportunities to interact with other children outside of daycare, although we try to set up playdates for her at least once a week. We live in a gated compound, and there aren't any playgrounds in the area (or the city for that matter). 

At the moment, she has a nanny looking after her from around 08AM to 6PM. In addition, one of us is a stay at home parent (works from home, but spends a considerable amount of time during the day with our daughter too). She is never alone, and usually has at least 2-3 adults around her.   

The daycare would cost around 2500$ a month. We are not sure what to do - we don't want to cause any damage to her by stunting her socialization, but it is also a considerable amount of money for us, and would require some sacrifices (the cost of the nanny is a fraction of that sum). We are not cheapskates, and put the development of our child first, and would like to hear other parents opinions. Is daycare necessary for socialization, or can toddlers grow up ok surrounded mostly by adults?",8.611846689895472,7.463580620209062,8.316498257839722,71.9501480836237,61.613240418118465,10.987456445993033,36.1794425087108,9.957137785484203,3.439429268292684,1206,45,219,20,14,387,149,287,0.09699999999999999,0.848,0.055,-0.9074,3,1,1,0,0,0,45.0,11,0,2,4,10,10,0,0,19,1,26,1,0,1,2,47,34,15,0,6,10,6,1,1,0,5,0,1,4,9,11,21,0,1,3,2,4,5,9,1,0,2,0,4,27,9,50,29,8,36,1,1,2,1,50,18,0,9,11,162,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797532954933353,0.0,0.08337159805849748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417921001068708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784235273521915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381797317318608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070972060308524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723497296340686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867809273061124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849949201505305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750142894486315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31372470303543193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05093306233701169,0.0,0.09205787393238804,0.0,0.08754680045692169,0.0,0.0,0.08863271638726115,0.09409298022653913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642852125380786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040683402387222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102672388463343,0.07064496441375187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472839881353417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048037030176612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678755120386258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307665313267734,0.0949085981539946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.425093827101489,0.0,0.08025954526717481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22224101721394385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825782169234992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060791135735617986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123441340461429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25080858446312043,0.0,0.11482065536368795,0.0,0.06149149785518315,0.0,0.08362598134111549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589789140762734,0.2117492635576608,0.0,0.22217638352928168,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,belax3031,2020/02/13,"I really need to watch what i say! So i was brushing my daughter’s hair this morning and she said she wished she could have Belle’s updo because it was so beautiful..and I stupidly said that belle had her hair up and was going out with her prince that’s why she had her hair up and fancy...and i added when you have a boyfriend you will enjoy doing your hair like that... THEN she replied but i don’t need a boyfriend to put my hair up fancy! ...you are absolutely right i said. i really need to think about things before i say them,but i’m so happy and proud she corrected me!!",1.2325000000000017,3.2899092500000044,2.4700000000000024,95.165,81.5,5.666666666666668,19.166666666666664,6.816661863887847,0.012666666666666604,450,11,102,5,12,144,67,120,0.019,0.84,0.141,0.9436,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,4,0,1,5,5,1,0,2,0,12,5,5,0,1,14,22,10,0,5,1,1,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,8,12,25,4,9,12,0,9,0,0,1,0,19,5,0,0,3,65,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090805739909086,0.0,0.16877529209815753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836075345533754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127229028926142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21113982136891984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969003755578819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412064841757059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938950686042586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541272209954167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938384605059126,0.5660088652618155,0.31546064349656755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177028197439214,0.12709019149682646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789737154385566,0.0,0.22808467194841955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Livinlearn,2020/02/13,"What is the right age to have the prep talk about getting your period with your daughter? I have a 10 year old daughter. I got my period for the first time around 11 or 12. My grandmother got hers at 9. When is the right time to sit down and have the full talk? I've already talked to her about it happening but not the ""prep"" talk. Like showing her how to put a pad on or having her carry one in her bookbag in case it happens at school. Would 10 be too soon or should I go for it?

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On a side note, my daughter is a little awkward and suffers from anxiety. I don't want to scare her or worry her. Any suggestions?",1.4861282051282068,3.3139704076923078,2.8857692307692315,93.66839743589745,79.53846153846155,6.17948717948718,22.371794871794872,7.1686216300943375,0.5841794871794872,483,15,109,6,12,157,81,130,0.10099999999999999,0.8490000000000001,0.05,-0.6923,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,1,7,4,0,2,10,0,11,0,0,1,0,14,18,9,0,3,6,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,2,2,0,16,1,19,13,1,26,0,1,0,0,17,13,0,4,11,75,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18155588452024427,0.0,0.0,0.17826125263034293,0.19991418286621496,0.11188169023639168,0.0,0.12586010422104627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646088565941656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994369071566495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859567909089499,0.0,0.09350255373046344,0.0,0.2631691060069581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29097535351784776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037792089806617,0.16489586981057786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263984309495062,0.0,0.11148544974428098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539166043539788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810045121266244,0.0,0.0,0.16471682568333335,0.16650666741276393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5289513528248002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187006927366276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704028235733812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708170268503053,0.0,0.11687284553055452,0.0,0.19991418286621496,0.10594780473809096
parenting,LuckysGoods,2020/02/13,"Kids With Allergies My stepson has been having some issues lately that we suspected were related to allergies - super stuffy, breathing issues, tons of bleeding noses, sneezing, etc. We took him to get tested and it turns out he is highly allergic to cats. They are now also testing him for asthma, which I’ve been told can be made worse by the cat allergy. I am also highly allergic to the cat, but I’ve just been dealing with my symptoms and not complaining much. We’re conflicted as to what to do - my partner has had the cat for 11 years and his son is very attached to it. The best thing for his allergies would be to get rid of the cat, but we’d feel so so bad taking our sons best friend away. We’re installing an air purifier in the furnace, but the reality is that the dander will always be there. I am not super attached to the cat and can see how he’s affecting our quality of life, but do feel bad. I’m like the Yoko Ono of cats. Any advice or has anyone had to deal with giving away a pet?",5.290379537953797,5.291451816831682,6.2799504950495075,80.02045379537954,67.96039603960396,9.505610561056104,29.704620462046204,9.2995712137729,2.3923056105610563,785,26,158,14,12,262,121,202,0.08900000000000001,0.772,0.139,0.925,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,1,4,8,9,0,0,12,0,26,8,2,3,0,27,38,15,0,1,8,2,2,1,2,2,6,0,1,2,7,10,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,9,4,15,6,26,23,6,11,0,0,1,0,22,7,0,2,4,110,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412828097742095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23589991675613656,0.12272584529741318,0.0,0.0,0.10030017833057302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031304121934088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771487273650998,0.0,0.24630069517476375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30956923922915786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041172511185802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449348716370527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915360735155633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395259025298254,0.0,0.1541178264052923,0.14148855684795927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116685337748739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078883776515269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637833024867005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041785437486306,0.0720575438472812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956127666638962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842419666952063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753268507955365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330151853642626,0.11089624823381487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798767875225267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093571437205965,0.16386995486359807,0.0,0.16042983930707275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169702682101835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030778871928796,0.10477467067174503,0.0,0.0,0.09498054316582667
parenting,throwupzebras,2020/02/13,"Is something wrong with me? Hi everyone!

So just a general question here. 

I am a first time mom. My daughter will be one in a couple of weeks. I had 3 months of maternity leave and went back to a full time job. It was a very stressful job and I have to admit it was a hard transition. I also have a background of mental illness and after being pregnant PPD and other things hit me pretty hard. 

About two weeks ago I quit my job. It was too much and I was having break downs pretty often. My husband has been a huge support but I'm back to looking for work and I'm a complete wreck. I hate the thought of leaving my baby again, I can seem to get things organized or understand how to balance life with a baby and work. I mean I get it is hard for all mom's out there but am I struggling with something beyond just like coping with the stress? I can't afford a therapist right now so I am doing as much self help (and I see a psychiatrist once a month for medication) so I really just need advice or reassurance. 

I mostly struggle making sure I'm keeping up with simple things like making sure we are weaning off things on time or making sure I'm helping her eat the right foods and hit correct milestones. She has hip dysplasia pretty badly and it has made for a lot of appointments and worry of her walking and developing correctly. 

I just feel crazy. I feel like I can't cope. I can't keep up. And I feel like other moms do it with ease. With multiple kids even. And I am just wrecked with anxiety and pain of going back to work and I'm worried that I just can't. I'm worried it's just who I am and that I'm wrong for not handling the stress better. Or that it won't get better and I'm just not functional. Can anyone give me some insight here? I just feel like I'm completely fucking crazy and not capable of being a mom.",1.8712050018946584,3.817635082228119,3.666029556650248,87.96406896551727,78.81432360742706,6.430587343690793,23.503524062144752,7.447530270364453,1.0190863054187198,1434,48,298,20,35,481,182,377,0.16899999999999998,0.685,0.146,-0.8502,4,0,2,0,1,0,29.0,1,0,0,7,27,23,2,5,19,0,33,8,1,5,6,77,71,31,0,1,18,6,7,5,0,2,4,0,0,2,18,29,2,2,11,0,0,3,8,11,0,3,9,9,36,12,38,55,7,31,0,0,2,1,20,12,1,10,20,207,54,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070780248656931,0.06414136613174709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057864995708941123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055353986910999665,0.0,0.0,0.050594683890474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691745658006096,0.06041625137210301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799027004217964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517328360209891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006320628757617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404071948535376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779204851166082,0.0,0.0,0.06914156324867493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634634836760926,0.15507859136885455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061548028043477074,0.08749607866873102,0.0,0.0,0.06689418566587609,0.11341285091888335,0.06941278189033914,0.04112295287989784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19445677277794904,0.07143895116380848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700063625015708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154136756336796,0.1286309620072582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532342205601266,0.0,0.0,0.05110888608926503,0.17675332500562646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06076284191190416,0.0,0.0,0.06151653408181165,0.0,0.06846727872128341,0.14489940508319915,0.0,0.0,0.07881952295676115,0.0,0.07289348731542684,0.07292026013222097,0.0,0.0,0.3389811891123868,0.11551158778844413,0.0,0.1063835165573706,0.053652845439190536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705934695715351,0.049031932430895785,0.0,0.07699445171587603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22084355410900008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105798112522875,0.07696207763561635,0.0,0.0,0.046354651389920135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358737649597434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766028586452888,0.06587238043667037,0.07548560420565552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114100809061626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486589484500958,0.15128944524750154,0.0,0.0,0.08211146813222424,0.204590840154283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401369302931916,0.19228685413703367,0.0,0.0,0.0574444963914985,0.12657831529203825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068365416057037,0.07532765845544591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059703267653704525,0.0,0.0,0.11608310657699887,0.0,0.0,0.06707697259099131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580333565468609,0.22045043838319411,0.0,0.0,0.15822512840090355,0.0,0.0
parenting,imthrownaway93,2020/02/13,"My 3 year old son keeps pushing me, I’m pregnant and already off balance. Idk how to make him stop pushing. He’s done it randomly the last couple weeks, and I always firmly tell him to stop and it’s not nice. Today he has done it 3 times, all when I was either on one leg or reaching for something. I’m not sure why he waits until I’m off balance, but I’m afraid I’m going to actually fall or hit something! The last time, I got so frustrated I screamed at him and spanked him. I know it wasn’t right, but I’m at my wits end.",0.9893043478260886,2.435948669565221,3.055,93.64250000000004,79.69565217391305,5.643478260869566,23.67391304347826,6.2581,0.4018000000000006,407,14,96,3,10,138,71,115,0.157,0.83,0.013000000000000001,-0.9307,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,1,2,0,5,1,1,2,2,21,18,12,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,4,1,0,0,4,3,3,0,1,5,1,12,2,10,12,2,23,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,3,13,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.18623242122300931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105968101815557,0.0,0.15879426185800594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111609551434176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905913876419185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16902769572814266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845883410223177,0.0,0.15263227190308226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696274609644515,0.0,0.0,0.10488073517779617,0.3111203262914186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273872572926141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025459577977414,0.0,0.12931819951659984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297641372756694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29383608510818904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31910175936339963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798645479564333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680267033772198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256080911462775,0.0,0.18089411272892647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308042731120247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17220351865762945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228947758016202
parenting,son-of-mysterio,2020/02/13,"The leaps and bounds we have made with our autistic 5 year old Our son is 5, and he has autism. You may remember that I posted here a long while ago about his food selectivity, sensory issues, and lack of social skills. We were desperate for answers, since we were frustrated and disappointed with the therapists we had at the time.

What we did is switch to a brand new therapy program, with different therapists and a totally different approach. Instead of weekly therapy appointments with homework that's not too specific, our new program has therapy appointments once every 3 months, and the rest of the time, we have a very specific list of exercises (our program) that we do daily with our son. We can also email or call our therapist any time if we need help with the program exercises.

The exercises themselves are very different from what we were doing before (and much more helpful). While we do have some overlap, we have gotten completely fresh perspectives. For example, one issue we had with him was his fear of cartoons or fear of faces that showed lots of emotion. At this new program, we found out that this was due to how he perceived faces and his lack of central macular vision, since he skipped crawling as a baby and went straight to walking. We got some exercises to build up his central macular vision, and while we still have a little way to go with this issue, he is now able to actually start watching and enjoying a few cartoons!

Another issue we had with him was his limited diet. He was down to only a couple options for each meal. This is something we had worked on with our OT until we couldn't stand it! However, in just a few months of being on this new program and doing their oral motor exercises, he has added a few new foods to his diet. 

Finally, another struggle we had with him was his lack of social skills. This is perhaps our most frustrating issue, because it is an issue we had worked on tirelessly with various kinds of therapists, but we made no progress. In addition, our son was watching his peers bond and make friends, and he was being excluded from that, and that made him feel bad. With our new program, we have been doing specific, targeted exercises to help him understand social cues and convention. We have also made progress in this area, as he is now understanding and doing things he couldn't do before, like making eye contact. 

I think the reason why this new therapy program has been so helpful is because of their fresh attitude. With our old therapists, they had constantly put him behind a whole alphabet soup of labels, and it felt like we were getting more labels than progress. However, this new program has put his labels aside and is treating him as if he has unlimited potential. I'm not saying that they think he doesn't have autism, but they're not being as obsessed with the labels as our old therapists. When we first started this new program, they made goals for our son that we at first thought were unrealistic. However, they just said ""Trust us, we have gotten kids like your son, and we know what they can achieve."" After the progress we have made in the short time we have been on this program, I can definitely see us on our way to achieving these goals.",9.910088418969892,8.142033671118533,9.274910035243927,68.0803091572374,59.53422370617696,12.947529833673409,40.88301490137884,11.715833242495528,4.76795227848884,2575,112,451,61,27,823,248,599,0.061,0.857,0.081,0.9557,7,2,1,0,0,0,68.0,47,2,7,15,14,16,2,4,23,0,67,14,3,10,1,117,96,40,0,8,11,5,2,3,1,1,6,2,1,1,28,69,5,2,13,7,0,6,7,8,0,3,37,8,75,8,69,53,18,68,1,1,4,0,102,20,0,10,41,329,103,18,0.05318733724094807,0.0,0.05190316878152975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0471473653238068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506778875106098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03616921319535385,0.11154312117299696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044409204959630896,0.06484501423013159,0.0,0.09051701311911026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054310218023809545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557659111656965,0.05747661640974362,0.0,0.0,0.058850777017786626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670834120735142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982859557618842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044812625576543925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970108271202905,0.02689311580969608,0.0,0.05106818463960213,0.058264128170953174,0.0,0.0904822437727732,0.12862867862595798,0.05831717000469106,0.04109240481546192,0.0,0.027788188482006,0.0,0.030227589456698494,0.0,0.04253877234731044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260140404662391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33308256945307696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538642704847893,0.029230369578589294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795393913925205,0.05330768473027722,0.0,0.047069119750343516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045217972125075265,0.0,0.3019628670803923,0.0710059212295502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490725029785727,0.0,0.0390988126855553,0.039437736629859915,0.0,0.4623179556472558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674334900836878,0.0566427783147053,0.03604111621357334,0.04045136668494848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05093876673885922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693592873654473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05468544102220303,0.0,0.0,0.06025088484224975,0.0,0.050593337493815706,0.04229670535740327,0.0,0.0,0.04238342159326921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879942299769796,0.0,0.0,0.16265337683348416,0.0,0.0409462107062752,0.0,0.0,0.07529254210573091,0.0,0.0424754762255055,0.0,0.0,0.055602953093242265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24329742182971004,0.3705275877024025,0.03533530350890478,0.0681605961868992,0.0,0.042224804686091126,0.12405585626573093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073978764003968,0.12795563583350775,0.0,0.0,0.08777024690470382,0.0,0.08443526527019311,0.042663673723962604,0.0,0.0,0.049305194483488655,0.0479932990988572,0.0593817626002028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744202993907888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034250901367820816
parenting,_hexagram,2020/02/13,"How do I teach my 9 month old to hit back? My cousin has been coming over a lot. She has a 2 year old daughter who lacks disciple. My cousin lets her daughter do whatever she wants and ignores the bad behavior or simply laughs at it. Her daughter takes my son's toys away from my son while he's using them and doesn't let him use them, she throws hard toys at him or me, she randomly smacks him. She will literally go out of her way to go hit him real quick. My cousin will occasionally tell her ""no"" but that doesn't work. I've tried telling the toddler not to hit my son but she doesn't listen. One time after she smacked my son I slapped her hand and told her not to hit him, which just resulted in a tantrum in which she just started kicking and hitting her mom.  I want to teach my son to start hitting her back when she hits him but Idk where to start & google wasn't very helpful.",3.9981171171171153,4.400974032432433,4.327364864864865,91.4962725225225,70.83783783783784,7.68018018018018,26.768018018018022,7.492282038375204,1.0436396396396397,696,21,162,7,12,218,106,185,0.075,0.882,0.043,-0.5822,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,2,1,8,4,1,0,5,0,13,1,1,4,0,26,33,12,0,3,9,12,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,0,2,0,4,7,3,0,1,3,3,38,1,17,19,2,27,0,0,0,0,44,8,0,4,14,102,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587602872689767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525070440152513,0.24963149434072734,0.13553225128297952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398261966212533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845028864465424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454088019546103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088011446282451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319708808246449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800052412857694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19010979107269296,0.12956402612450274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406596728739282,0.0,0.1099937191764058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847581929351339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34467745185996185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204608818745274,0.0,0.2837535033365022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465137632961564,0.0,0.0,0.15510581195450365,0.0,0.11020611420716206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803885156473592,0.0,0.1339328093068877,0.19148367057576,0.12884380164143294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817249004016506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453017060476147
parenting,helpwithissuesplz,2020/02/13,"Daughter was sexually assaulted by another student during class My daughter (14) was working on a group project yesterday. Boy (14) was sitting next to her at a table. He kept putting his hand on her thigh under the table and she kept removing it. He ended up grabbing her breast and she pushed his hand off and when she did, he grabbed her wrist and put it on his penis. All DURING class. 

My daughter is very open about all things sex/boys/girls/body related. After he did that to her, she said he held her hand there for about a minute and then the bell rang. She went straight to the guidance counselor office and told her everything. The principal called the boy to the office, where he admitted to everything. Principal then calls me and explains what happened. 

Daughter comes home and she is shaking and crying still. This is two hours later. I had a very long talk with her about her feelings and what she wants to happen to the boy. She said she doesnt want him to he able to do it to anyone else and doesnt want to have to see him in school anymore. 

Currently, the boy is suspended. I called the principal this morning and set up a meeting with the schools officer as well as an emergency counseling session with daughters former counselor. 

I have questions... do I call CYS? Did they already? Should they have already? Daughter wants him to go to alternative schooling (which is an option for kids in our area who get in bad trouble) how do I make that happen so she doesn't see her abuser? But she also doesn't want to ruin his entire life over this. (She doesn't want to press formal charges, just doesn't want him there anymore)

Any advice on what to do next? I'm in Pennsylvania. I'm a sexual abuse survivor but mine was way different in that it was my stepfather and he's in jail and it was years ago. I don't know how it works now.

Thank you.",2.7109248999692213,5.126396792243773,3.324157433056328,89.09060056940598,78.30747922437673,6.448784241305018,25.26323484148969,7.594959193182576,1.348154139735303,1466,55,288,22,36,459,183,361,0.063,0.882,0.055,0.4684,2,0,0,0,2,0,45.0,1,1,2,2,16,7,1,1,18,0,30,7,6,3,2,44,60,25,0,8,3,6,7,0,0,1,1,3,1,5,18,19,0,3,5,0,0,8,7,5,1,1,17,12,45,2,45,42,2,48,0,1,2,1,67,20,0,2,17,189,63,10,0.09390378728426836,0.22252126534185632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176169413259444,0.0832400415971929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072503286675671,0.07509482476472551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385779545137685,0.09846630858959853,0.0,0.0,0.18625464857128216,0.06565971144096626,0.09621552710891047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840574001854883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043059385793252,0.0,0.0,0.383545063560256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088979793583098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314890094961568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981094713097499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844456480520233,0.0,0.08317088341314098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878933811988514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047480576344037344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049060853120138914,0.0,0.053367686327276884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491164269203757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419315509294154,0.0,0.09247631499750944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051607065695238236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632702202379387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310189676672045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268150718710752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19973548618411868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879848524154436,0.10519373264968428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864801091650906,0.0,0.0,0.2851069380468532,0.14965832140247504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499168582568375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547630720685232,0.0,0.08645399095964748,0.0,0.0,0.06238550370163465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897290929085155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173035542277456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549609178193954,0.3877082069244776,0.07453645548473463,0.0,0.0,0.08443078216004651,0.08704975159430392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672615106331235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06047096025446697
parenting,gracieears,2020/02/13,"Advice Needed: Soon to be first time parent (24/F) - trying to figure out the least tacky way to share our registry with family, details below. My husband and I are expecting a little girl this summer and have had multiple people ask about our registry. Up until this week we really hadn’t finished it and tried to put a wide array of things on there so that anyone who looked at it could buy whatever fit their budget, prefacing by saying we do not EXPECT gifts from anyone, but we wanted everyone to be able find something that they could purchase if they decided to do so. 

The issue is, as much as we want to have a baby shower, we decided against it. We live upwards of 6+ hours from all closest relatives whom all have said they will not be traveling to us for a baby shower and prefer to wait until well after baby is born. Everyone except for my parents, whom are 3+ hours away, has regretfully said the same thing - just can’t do the travel and we totally get it. My spouse is foreign, so his full immediate family is in another country entirely, which is hundreds of dollars worth of flights per person including hotel stay etc. as we don’t have the space to host more than his parents if more of his family did decide to come over. I would still like to involve everyone with the baby, we have open invitations to visit, and plan to take her overseas next year when she turns one, but don’t want to be tacky by how I release our registry. I hate sounding like, “please buy us all of these expensive baby things” (honestly can’t understand how some of this stuff is priced the way it is and we even tried to go cheap on most of it because she’s a baby and will grow out of all/most of it), especially when we can’t return some sort of favor by hosting everyone to celebrate with us. I planned to just write a Facebook post with a link as I have multiple friends, family and the like on there rather than trying to individually send each and every person the link. Is that too tacky? How should I word it? What should I do instead?",8.042290789473686,6.4455008475,8.344026315789472,72.73707894736845,63.025,11.521052631578947,34.55263157894737,10.426177893888326,3.402200000000001,1609,54,305,31,19,533,213,400,0.022000000000000002,0.887,0.091,0.9747,5,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,17,0,4,3,20,10,1,0,16,0,40,0,0,3,4,76,56,28,0,16,10,5,0,3,1,5,0,4,2,3,24,30,0,1,9,3,9,8,8,2,1,2,5,5,38,8,64,40,15,48,0,1,1,0,48,18,0,6,21,234,62,0,0.09154502707796952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945674095826395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599294284920312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280208229216312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558224264762544,0.0,0.08600956641776739,0.0,0.0,0.05580499881650873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885793487700675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618251007021793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020969040269782,0.06046462700328591,0.0,0.07713063361783175,0.349900785795796,0.0,0.0,0.3452020169213679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367049627126373,0.07786815326672211,0.0,0.0,0.07072746083318104,0.0,0.047828498266585064,0.0,0.05202714854438696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038176161399973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180306822660732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955492241246796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417282833710087,0.09175216687365984,0.08083593609249205,0.0,0.0768747665412687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729612820812493,0.06787947761548818,0.0,0.0,0.0973591748531094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203327955195461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049497568396213,0.0,0.0,0.0634657951819948,0.1598671731763627,0.0,0.10048894927592424,0.0,0.0,0.0876748305579232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202803711950128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864608849053642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416056870282426,0.07280027988074105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704758343299871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757481841168328,0.07310797687799872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047971540484384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883046744344255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824553446928658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053380641474770486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486122568501701,0.09957470164455108,0.0,0.0953016016969467,0.3303521877987271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619868864613563,0.1453283628484498,0.07343189881103727,0.0,0.08230997345887106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503096068104806,0.0,0.0,0.058951996016601664
parenting,thcharmed1,2020/02/13,"Parenting win with my speech delayed son. So my son is 2.5 and has a speech delay. He has been doing better lately with words but still is very behind and needs alot of prompting. Since he is delayed he gets frustrated easy bc he cant voice what he wants so he resorts to whining and screaming. I've been working hard with not giving into the screaming and whining and helping him voice what he wants with words like ""help"" or ""more"" etc.

Anyways he wanted to play with his play dough this morning so I got it out and set it down for him to play with while I drank my coffee. He had trouble getting the playdough out of the container so he  brought it over and said ""help me"". I almost cried. I praised him for using his words and I could tell he was proud too. These little moments make all the work we put in teaching him how to talk so worth it. Multiple syllables are especially tough for him too so it was pretty amazing.

Any other parents of speech delated kids have have any ""wins"" this week?


Tldr:speech delayed son said ""help me"" instead of whining/screaming.",3.1304118993135006,5.343720251207731,3.480203407068398,89.51597254004578,75.95652173913044,5.710551741673024,26.353674040172898,6.5966054737557815,1.0468415458937192,840,32,162,7,19,260,121,207,0.14300000000000002,0.655,0.20199999999999999,0.9641,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,7,12,17,1,0,6,0,16,1,0,3,1,40,30,18,0,5,3,5,1,1,0,0,0,9,0,1,11,18,1,5,0,3,1,2,2,7,0,0,10,10,18,10,24,19,4,19,1,2,0,0,35,7,0,3,10,102,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539141425907438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21105688236957332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724503561371368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389944803754517,0.0,0.17045910605268486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730679005198172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215139643855045,0.14886381159203782,0.0,0.0,0.1241124685649182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390117477755262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160583698219684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505099323156392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581362669910778,0.1555321881726428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035845615686039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150647886070103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34462040211207035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787492512131407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599982511735416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952254455313407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128367375211788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392779379659966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472865669138085,0.1356350850361474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402661012395842,0.0,0.12804062516138773,0.27458942676852377,0.0,0.12447688477460313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594731761282436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sharkitect210,2020/02/13,"How do I tell a good bedtime story? 
My two daughters (4 and 8) often ask me to tell them a story before bed. I feel like my mind always goes blank, and the story I come up with is either super short and boring, or I end up just rambling. Sometimes I tell them a true story or just read them a book instead, but they're always a little disappointed when I do that. Any tips for how to tell an interesting story that they'll enjoy?",5.145730337078653,4.602946943820228,6.4666067415730355,80.40395505617978,68.32584269662922,8.018876404494383,25.665168539325844,6.742157984588678,1.0576768539325836,334,7,68,2,5,114,59,89,0.059000000000000004,0.74,0.201,0.8968,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,4,1,7,8,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,2,1,17,7,9,0,0,6,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,13,6,6,6,1,7,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,3,3,46,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312137037446311,0.0,0.0,0.13534554791865144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18606387734668894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935777218039488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144459725344294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762793204316159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063430118990327,0.14218530990348796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693485254136115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723479973823504,0.19947787526163005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20096107275052194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908139346207926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968433200340912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6958353480864927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442098067606206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thebesthrowaway0706,2020/02/13,"New partner So there’s a lot of good reading information from reputable sources about a timeline as to when you introduce a new and I intend on being compliant to those recommendations;however, there are not many discussions on actual tactics. My daughter is 1.5, her mom cheated blah blah we are here now. I have a girlfriend now. I’m not even so much thinking of her specifically, I just know I won’t be alone forever and I intend on having a plan of action in place for when and if the time comes and I need to introduce my daughter to my partner. Is there anyway I should be doing it ? Thanks",3.292577075098816,5.7065785739130455,4.699446640316207,79.99059288537548,76.30434782608695,7.312252964426879,27.84584980237154,8.296473431620573,2.1407391304347825,476,20,88,9,11,158,76,115,0.075,0.871,0.054000000000000006,-0.0772,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,1,14,3,1,0,6,0,12,0,0,2,0,18,18,10,0,3,4,3,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,14,2,15,13,2,14,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,7,71,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.24517148877206746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602062066722292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164187985624224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593995204142276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107260351388589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380735202720559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21359307736724667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547153192158011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942462397825933,0.0,0.0,0.18468841768961566,0.18628936980788469,0.0,0.4852933479914665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624896396118362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513054169068069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313056693410965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609827996540412,0.0,0.0,0.14649856495075073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,state_is_yours,2020/02/13,"My Teen Boy May Have Been Watching Inappropriate Content Online A few days back, I walked into my teen's room and saw him closing all the tabs of his browser, all of a sudden. His face turned scarlet because he thought I'd caught him doing something wrong. However, I didn't make him realize anything of that sort and walked out of the room after having a small general talk with him. 

When he went to school the other day, I went to his room once again and inspected his laptop. To my surprise, there weren't any suspicious links opened in his web browsing history. Perhaps he might have erased the history already. 

In an attempt to keep him away from watching inappropriate content online, I enabled the Google SafeSearch setting on his browser. Right now, he is only allowed to use his laptop and not any other device. Although I have promised to hand him over a cell phone once he finishes school, I'm having second thoughts now. 

What should I do to make sure my kid stays away from harmful and inappropriate content on the internet? What internet safety tips would you suggest? I'd be really grateful!",6.918506787330315,7.908377607843143,6.668235294117651,75.20436651583715,64.58823529411765,9.022021116138763,35.79034690799397,9.057496981413335,3.2950283559577667,888,41,149,14,13,279,125,204,0.015,0.8909999999999999,0.094,0.9307,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,2,6,5,0,0,11,0,16,2,2,4,3,29,28,7,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,5,10,0,1,4,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,9,4,24,3,24,14,3,33,0,0,3,0,25,16,0,3,10,97,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18190523564019956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419394755563893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356494213545803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097455472273251,0.12675192204894314,0.0,0.10048504263165904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126165560860103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651752432140924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006419788974715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486937957919532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35109881993573416,0.0,0.12536838349422846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560083912067507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077261150038142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33365412144496875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690202253091887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756976972638845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535991713799696,0.0,0.0,0.13249229119184616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617293773080097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929877881885106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236898822647734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056169932851007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709773308837923,0.18022685780293987,0.0,0.0
parenting,Spydee112,2020/02/13,"Toddler selfies If your phone's photo album isn't full of selfies of your toddler, are you even a parent?

I've noticed this a lot lately from my 2 year old where she'll grab my phone and instantly turn on the camera to take countless selfies of herself. I'm not talking instagram style filtered poses, I mean random forehead shots, and countless blurry face snaps which you could turn into a flip book.

I find it amazing how toddlers in the 21st century adapt so quickly to technology!",7.838695652173913,7.6444698260869615,7.618608695652174,73.21334782608697,62.69565217391305,9.099130434782607,39.052173913043475,8.238735603445708,3.4465886956521743,392,19,64,4,5,125,73,92,0.017,0.935,0.048,0.5707,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,0,4,2,2,1,0,11,9,5,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,10,1,9,7,2,9,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,3,4,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056055268042022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008685214200542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536490727322715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904892011308078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893084650072756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805103561061848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931836087391473,0.2702196640987464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859409805532661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936199414292544,0.2069815610384372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5602067984238345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658318247693302
parenting,vjbmx,2020/02/13,"Daughter being bullied because of her snake phobia My 15 year old daughter has a snake phobia. She doesn't even like the word snake to be said but she can just about cope with that. She can't look at pictures of them and totally loses it when people start hissing and saying there's snakes around. She knows there won't be but she gets irrational. At school some girls found out and have been totally nasty. Daughter has to leave lessons, she cries, has panic attacks and it breaks my heart to hear it. She was really down last night and is now saying she doesn't want to go to school. She's in her final year and in the run up to her GCSEs. I'm also worried because she has self harmed in the past and I don't want her going back there. She's a normal teenage girl, happy but moody sometimes, she does well at school, she competes nationally in a sport outside of school and keeps herself fit and healthy.

Last night she went to the gym after school and one of these girls messaged her a picture of a snake. She burst into tears in the gym and had to leave. 
I have emailed school. They are aware of it but they told my daughter there's not much they can do. I'm furious and sad. I don't know if there's anything else I can do. I'm not feeling very well today so going to wait till I feel better before I ring to speak to the headteacher. Thanks for reading.",2.41804347826087,4.399478514492756,2.86704927536232,94.1707043478261,77.26086956521739,5.430492753623189,21.909565217391304,6.152001189255117,0.1582793043478259,1074,30,229,7,25,331,147,276,0.195,0.7240000000000001,0.081,-0.9836,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,4,4,16,13,2,1,11,0,25,1,1,0,2,39,48,21,0,4,8,4,2,1,0,1,0,6,0,4,6,16,0,2,6,4,0,5,8,7,2,1,7,9,34,6,35,37,4,37,0,2,1,0,41,15,0,2,17,149,40,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119935941227291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355656414986827,0.09038974340094684,0.0,0.11551336174242625,0.0,0.07807593279824937,0.0,0.12379241764411646,0.0,0.08640078211851235,0.0,0.0,0.08980150962685511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115339799703892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885599439451486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848214032260315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067064443306396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102680641328891,0.0,0.0,0.11122917272577994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133043227383692,0.0,0.0,0.053049059746207286,0.0,0.17311799940941666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808836693956346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443994096952713,0.12032221499866808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025103681084257,0.0,0.0,0.11160451306010176,0.16553293824643533,0.0,0.21502672551997853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049606006493588935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526577732992824,0.1135942906478338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464161442207333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905717960205228,0.09948501676948264,0.0,0.0,0.1065463386205395,0.0,0.06880431693386264,0.0,0.0,0.1191321694788408,0.0,0.0,0.09692886267034924,0.07039319406777991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156479905773184,0.0,0.06504740823922925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658524466995802,0.16149310711819634,0.0,0.6165671417685658,0.0,0.0,0.10592557091299516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042300738128693,0.0,0.07186863884986883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348192377506333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962455084450296,0.09702326209086813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377892418215807,0.11977868606137668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825884925506423,0.0941261143973694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311607884041364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307734121783108
parenting,MummyCroc,2020/02/13,"Potty Training Regression My 3 year old has been fully potty trained since October of last year. He has had 0 daytime accidents, and maybe 2 night time accidents in that time. Then yesterday when he got back from nursery school at around 4pm, he had peed in his pants. I thought it was odd, but chalked it up to an accident. Then at 5.30pm, he deliberately peed in his pants again. And again at night, he woke up, stood beside my bed and peed in his pants again.

I am worried that something is causing his regression. How do I tackle this? Do I talk to his teacher and the babysitter to find out what's happening? Please help me map a plan of action, and the questions I should ask.",3.5616951469583062,5.404159947368424,4.030717703349281,87.69956937799044,73.58646616541353,7.54313055365687,27.88038277511961,8.296473431620573,1.8239684210526312,535,21,109,9,11,168,88,133,0.092,0.86,0.049,-0.5803,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,0,14,17,10,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,13,0,17,8,0,29,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,1,16,65,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880737149593268,0.19750748470027807,0.0,0.0,0.16245239977224765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170308981235053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930955388748488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689706818527327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18682399553749576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160879090601294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722119870727158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122475577603352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39652226342834496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169070257001466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319093190088577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366690187644511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21381495383441432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476344776621755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264477700100874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980958006402316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677235530131227,0.246384668202237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21455336955135404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720999144469806
parenting,AudiRS3Mexico,2020/02/13,"Child walked in on wife and I...feels weird Wife and I were hugging alot heard door make a noise but didnt think much of it. Then went open it was dark and our lock is broken recently rented house. Kid went to her room and asleep by herself. She usually needs bed to be put asleep by her mom singing a song at 12 year old. 

Today though she seemed happy. I think my wife explained to her she should be happy her parents love each other since half her class room is divorced. I remember at around 14 15 this thought of my arents doing it was disgusting and saw it as them being too old but they were 55 and not as hip as us. We do babh her but always let her be up to date with trends since  we are 38 we dont feel that old.",1.3042857142857152,3.0513168562091515,2.245999066293184,98.4248529411765,79.78431372549021,5.417180205415501,18.11811391223156,6.1826913282559595,-0.473298412698413,561,11,134,4,14,176,103,153,0.061,0.8320000000000001,0.107,0.8658,3,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,5,0,2,0,3,6,1,0,3,0,18,5,3,1,0,28,31,14,0,2,4,5,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,2,7,13,0,0,7,2,1,4,4,2,0,1,10,4,23,4,18,15,3,22,0,0,1,2,29,9,0,2,9,85,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668691238685387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553768450953554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843969146256622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396764993500606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241528612913842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756798247195286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568927789478682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741451510713626,0.0,0.10163023597327406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831718263549004,0.0,0.0,0.11192366751110172,0.11289386604779315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4792925663769134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905923169186782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530565829345709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033173021058965,0.0,0.17247326809043906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860565329559776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518909466137669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951154876833218,0.14958805882926776,0.12087208474627754,0.0,0.0,0.1443182917470879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183141930119172,0.0,0.16768546009593344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822806021410936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980461101844088
parenting,Scarlett_Silver,2020/02/13,"5th grade son two years behind??? Need advice on how to catch him up Obligatory apology for formatting because I’m on mobile. 

So a little insight into our lives:

I’m a single mom with sole custody to an amazing child (10M) I’ll call him M in this thread. We live with my father partly for financial reasons partially so we’re not alone. I work about 50 hours a week 2 pm to midnight 5 days a week. My commute in good weather is about an hour each way. So on average I only actually get to spend 20-25 hours a week with M. About 20 minutes each morning (our commute to school) the 4 hours after school and before bed on the two days I’m off and a few hours on Saturday and Sunday mornings.  

This school year M has been sick a lot he’s missed probably 15-20 days so far and I’ve probably had to pick him up early a handful of times. When M started the school year he was exactly where he was supposed to be in every subject except for math. I was told he was at a 3rd grade level. I told his teacher to send extra homework if needed instead it was decided M would stay after school 2 days a week to get extra help. Everything seemed to be fine until two weeks ago when M missed 7 days of school due to the flu. While M was sick my aunt died and he missed an additional 2 days of school to travel for the funeral. M’s teacher called the night before to scold me for taking M to Vegas for a fun vacation while he was so far behind. The funeral was in Arizona we fly into Vegas because it’s cheaper than Phoenix and closer to my mothers house. (M didn’t mention the funeral to anyone just the Vegas part) Teacher was a bit more understanding when I mentioned the funeral. Once we got back I told him he really needed to buckle down and get his missing work done ASAP. M has been coming home talking about all the work he’s getting down and how he is just about caught up. Yay!!!

Fast forward to tonight when Teacher informs me he’s essentially not applying himself at all. Shows me his work(she’s absolutely right it was completely wretched), explains he’s nice, loving and sweet but still miserably failing. He is now at a 3rd grade level for everything.  So we went straight to Target got M a journal (so he can write a paragraph daily) some playing cards(for math), and 7 5th grade workbooks on just about every subject( Brand: Scholastic success). Came home wrote out about 250 spelling words, a reading list, and made some daily lesson plans for M to do everyday after school.  Downloaded a bunch of learning games on M’s phone. 

This is where hopefully all of you come in and tell me what else I’m forgetting or any tips to help. 

Also is there anything I can get this teacher as an apology for my son who only wants to talk and play with other kids. She’s been very accommodating to moving him around and trying to help.

Thanks all!",3.95342890975218,5.312946484902311,5.04283049987313,82.78334073416225,71.71758436944938,7.777535312526433,28.680072739575404,8.269060116576782,2.006915622092531,2233,86,432,34,42,735,279,563,0.059000000000000004,0.856,0.085,0.9349,0,1,0,0,1,0,57.0,6,1,0,7,32,19,0,1,32,1,29,5,1,5,5,72,66,35,5,7,9,6,1,0,0,1,3,0,4,2,10,32,0,0,9,6,1,10,3,6,0,3,26,2,33,13,83,37,18,90,0,6,0,1,62,36,0,7,44,252,43,22,0.0,0.0,0.062291518714926185,0.0,0.0,0.06237658717638889,0.05658384754482449,0.0,0.0,0.06611143846229227,0.0,0.05104699654590073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04340843292528036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04463331625891564,0.0,0.0525288828928985,0.056824646802270014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049083415198320116,0.0,0.07782365725083283,0.0,0.10863387244161422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968878873302194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036067129857978,0.07300761704437768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997245812253584,0.06692738382996494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24700091008584996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624827693898151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532302639197897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332403985496519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756362550872346,0.0,0.11473745077620788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674978652717204,0.0,0.0,0.05353985011600554,0.10210570167443928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835716350481394,0.0,0.12805882902693674,0.06340028577722154,0.3143118148983903,0.07365437904665975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397714665558382,0.11273090793707327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05426828887338542,0.057611514574154137,0.06040005529374875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476010054845461,0.0,0.06784407062027455,0.0,0.14199344088375584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990267585618024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797975476810354,0.0,0.09709530743704796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382492128041613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376449192028908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384998581530084,0.0,0.04089286969431258,0.06563065902983495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451278708150086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5168168974728591,0.0,0.058110903412741374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04518112194088735,0.06803717754167103,0.05097688608114491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799425517726588,0.10261263157232474,0.0557926036337121,0.05876858480891601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037221367566207836,0.0,0.0,0.18298467478091887,0.0,0.043338221207299764,0.0,0.18706585245086704,0.06645210414129145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052668672318361975,0.037650187254577465,0.05066743544037405,0.2560137552882368,0.0,0.0,0.059173563329803086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588389767018104,0.0,0.0,0.04534492699637058,0.0,0.0,0.12331852064006983
parenting,xRear,2020/02/13,"Paternity pay in the UK is awful. Before I start, I know other countries have it worse so I apologise to those I have it better than.

On my current salary in earn roughly £100 a day at 23, and I have no savings at this point I’m still learning about life. However, for choosing to support my partner at her most vulnerable and look after my new born baby girl, I lost out on nearly £700 this month. My baby girls first month will be a financial struggle. Women are paid 90% of their salary for 6 weeks and then ~£150 weekly for about 8 months if I remember correctly. So why as a male am I given less of a platform to support my baby and my partner? Is it not sexist? Am I not equally a parent?

On the best of days I can struggle with anxieties, and this has really hit me hard.",3.681852272727273,4.4350061625000015,5.422727272727271,82.09136363636367,71.75,8.068181818181818,28.29545454545455,8.296473431620573,1.9150000000000005,606,22,123,9,11,208,106,160,0.138,0.765,0.09699999999999999,-0.4079,5,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,1,5,5,8,0,2,7,1,12,1,0,0,1,17,22,10,0,1,3,1,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,6,8,7,0,0,4,0,2,0,3,3,0,1,3,3,19,5,25,16,4,27,0,1,1,0,9,12,0,2,15,89,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299502203761539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454700901527098,0.0,0.17826827050328106,0.1502363671177549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219104422187462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444914856960048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217031260253386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335620673731712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998432960499088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426481657017602,0.0,0.18543336459926674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067662636453626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406167538159466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862072867138352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605822240674108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882318509893804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924297962198675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023498552938924,0.0,0.13565854270548924,0.0,0.0,0.35517038333858725,0.0,0.0,0.3855333273951296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725192190019459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532814130396993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311222268001264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shouldhegotola,2020/02/13,"Should I let my son go to Los Angeles with his friends? We live 40-50 miles away in an affluent neighborhood.

​

He is 14, and he wanted to go with his 3 female and 1 male friends. He cannot drive, neither can most of his friends so they were planning on taking an amtrak in the morning, and coming back ""late-ish"" at night time. We used to live in LA many years ago, and we visit around once a month for doctors appointments at UCLA. He is fairly familiar with the area

I just don't want him or his friends to get lost or anything. Him and his friends are pretty street smart, so I am confident in them. But the motherly instinct in me is telling me no..

He doesn't smoke or vape and neither does any of his friends. 

I asked him for a schedule, and it's just going to be mainly going to the beach, ""trendy"" restaurants, shopping on Rodeo Drive, and a lot of Instagram photos. 

  
Here is a pro con list I made:

Pros:

\-Boost independence and courage

\-He is a good kid and I trust him

\-Good to explore on his own

\-Good friends

\-Good grades

\-Street smart and smart in general

Cons:

\-Expensive(he plans to bring $400, knowing his spending habits I have no doubt he'll spend it all

\-We busted him not too long ago hacking and brute forcing accounts and having a shady secret life online

\-Timing(he will leave at 5 and come back 11 ish)

\-He is alone

​

Reddit, what do you think? All the other parents are on board",4.89617105263158,5.8578879892857145,4.780939849624062,87.03353383458649,69.10714285714286,7.609022556390978,29.73684210526316,7.669130373188453,1.7127499999999998,1127,42,227,12,19,347,172,280,0.039,0.8029999999999999,0.158,0.9889,1,1,1,0,0,0,64.0,4,1,2,3,9,18,0,1,13,0,21,2,0,3,2,47,39,20,0,3,7,3,0,0,7,3,2,0,0,2,4,24,0,0,4,2,4,11,8,2,0,0,3,0,30,16,31,31,8,40,1,1,0,0,44,19,0,6,10,136,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781484592623268,0.0,0.0,0.10407255261621703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21775174232307906,0.24420147952445814,0.06833350664696956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826909088033286,0.08945329555339014,0.0939402691477728,0.0,0.09440932568027872,0.1545341148105365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311852079606832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285104805743467,0.08793543635814385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5434433067984524,0.0,0.052499465556146534,0.0,0.2284326367736976,0.3371294891089357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055224138913491434,0.0,0.11335188954986815,0.106399512301386,0.0,0.10275311283657383,0.07097579815118549,0.0,0.0,0.1774608694143998,0.08892640240623953,0.0,0.0,0.109691666400287,0.08542907975582477,0.0,0.09508169960885662,0.0,0.1018764071782311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020647451283018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429872545354316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701365405891493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157712685801237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222976028117804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555250291613398,0.0,0.0878286543496866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643869763967825,0.0,0.0,0.05859383526636105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678710829945085,0.0,0.0,0.11853776548206045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24420147952445814,0.0647092925035851
parenting,paintedpanda713,2020/02/13,"Toddler issues after new baby My daughter will be 3 in April and we just had our baby boy 3 weeks ago. She absolutely adores him and I try to involve her as much as I can like during diaper changes she passes me things, she picks his outfits sometimes, she gives him his dummy when hes crying and i dont have a free hand, she asks to hold him a lot as well (i sit her on the couch with him in her lap and supervise of course). I also try to spend as much as possible one on one time with her. 

She has always had a strong personality but has been an incredibly good kid especially compared to other kids her age. We found that giving her choices worked really well for her. But lately even choices dont work. Shes resisting pretty much everything. If the answer isnt “no” then she just ignores us or looks at us and laughs, or she stares at the ground. Or she runs away and hides in her room. 

I expected all of this but im at a complete loss as to how to deal with it. 

Everything is a struggle. Even getting dressed she makes her whole body go limp and she thinks its funny. She holds her poos, and then when some of it leaks into her undies she runs away and refuses to let me clean her up. She fights going to the toilet but doesnt want a diaper. And usually when she does something good like use the potty I try to give lots of praise and attention but she immediately follows it up with acting out. For example she will pee on the toilet, but then make her body floppy the second i try to get her pants back on. If i try to give her choices she’ll just respond with “no”. Or ignore me. 

My hormones are crazy right now and Im getting incredibly frustrated having a constant battle over everything all day long. I hate being on her case all day because i really want to have good moments with her and give her attention and I really dont want to make it worse... but I also dont want to reward bad behaviour with attention. 

Please help I have no idea what Im supposed to do. What do I do if she simply says “no” or doesnt respond when I give her choices? How am I supposed to deal with her tantrums? At the moment I just want to cry",2.7372827855515784,4.181056291571753,4.246589000976247,86.95684738041004,74.92255125284737,7.386163358281809,23.70458835014644,8.052868069273773,1.16410193296453,1668,49,356,26,35,556,208,439,0.129,0.735,0.13699999999999998,0.7806,0,0,1,0,1,0,34.0,5,0,0,6,18,23,5,1,16,0,31,4,4,7,3,76,57,46,0,9,19,1,2,2,0,3,0,1,3,4,11,26,0,5,7,0,2,7,11,10,2,3,4,5,75,14,57,47,10,54,1,1,2,0,74,22,0,11,26,254,86,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459001270709418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653948250679876,0.06062912907237353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681185029956149,0.0,0.136917255879898,0.056028328735610165,0.060838842063697066,0.0444175434231637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187214155575805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708101513409492,0.0,0.07639707725080985,0.07874067530114043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600765375706672,0.09398319257376188,0.15024026949270866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376424444303329,0.0,0.34158676319405096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625267457901436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964578336002366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989220024862746,0.0,0.0,0.11420613441491295,0.419389801126736,0.08282118730087885,0.18334594143262808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193864181149749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883956100283962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225518941576475,0.2361185999521314,0.07605164235487881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219436773930475,0.0,0.0,0.0745089224042622,0.0,0.07119586124614148,0.0,0.0,0.06448281938781626,0.0611878568839292,0.0,0.0,0.12389364173751127,0.0,0.0,0.14591292608814438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069144845197506,0.0,0.0,0.07037302066943292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874978753211908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362250028754475,0.0,0.0799833771646105,0.0,0.08214381361941349,0.0,0.07412942601857042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400366582226229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622259136320487,0.0,0.05794480174533561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056094677860827065,0.07206488694430956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076173831181846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0484079584717908,0.046688651037006285,0.0,0.0,0.04248789554602644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473511770532104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529412487143556,0.06293156226088009,0.08024998961748843,0.0,0.21488694907775524,0.0,0.058447533791896024,0.0,0.1310279329022154,0.0,0.0,0.0813506497038563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060924966533082,0.0,0.07425518480447445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,veronicaanne1293,2020/02/13,"Traveling with child under 12 months old Hello fellow parents!
For those of you that have traveled with your very young ones, would you rather travel 4 hours by plane or 14 hours by car(all at once, no stops other than to feed the LO and change her diaper)?
I feel as if flying would be better since the LO would have more to look at besides the seat of the car and my face in her baby mirror. On the other hand, driving ends up being cheaper than the fare for two adults and a child on a plane.
Also, I’m terrified to be “that person” with the baby on a plane. 
Any advice?",6.3458045977011475,5.275832775862072,6.3948275862068975,83.64959770114946,66.06896551724138,8.767816091954023,26.229885057471265,7.1686216300943375,1.1308091954022983,446,8,93,3,6,142,80,116,0.071,0.878,0.051,-0.3296,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,10,0,8,3,2,0,0,14,11,7,0,5,3,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,5,6,1,1,1,3,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,3,7,1,23,5,1,20,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,2,7,64,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20614872944556534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687055024378269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346077109773106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18657793498533545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22316885414102625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868489036144988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666826260337832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155083451924372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771541784235211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838712434423872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136816989681973,0.2246666691436156,0.14295269004873867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23424731791705414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420308116152564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745091884701291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763729122072556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607832495627487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740649877062368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4495821033300499,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mitcheski,2020/02/13,"I saw his son stole a chocolate! It was a cold night in Toronto and I was in the convinience store to buy a mint. 

I was in line for a cash register and in front of me was a child (I'm guessing 4 or 5) and his father.

While his dad was paying at the cash he quickly grabbed this piece of chocolate and put it in his pocket. He acted as if no one saw him. BUT I did. 

Now, here I am so stressed if I have to tell his dad or secretly tell the kid to put it back. 

Then I realized, no one's gonna get rich out of $2 chocolate and they say that you live longer if you mind your own business. So I did...

I confronted the dad outside lol. I told him his son stole a chocolate and you know what his response is???

""Oh I bought it for him!"" What a lie! I was next to him in line and never saw him paying for it. The person working in the cash didnt even scan it! 

So my question for the parents out there, will you deny something just to protect your kid even though it isn't right???",0.2141549295774645,1.7934891361502352,2.136269953051645,98.71539084507042,82.52112676056338,5.011173708920189,20.978638497652586,5.6839178017228535,-0.2314561502347421,738,22,185,4,20,245,113,213,0.079,0.863,0.057999999999999996,-0.5299,1,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,6,1,1,12,3,1,1,14,1,14,0,0,0,1,23,24,20,0,3,7,7,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,11,9,0,1,4,0,9,4,5,2,0,2,14,8,33,1,23,8,2,23,0,0,4,0,38,11,0,7,8,129,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496810059716494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571412976894996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170146348658778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144391935046356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069796747032056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188775104524542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196550427967296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501332724583942,0.0,0.20702240139798544,0.18267459072109488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638123940309471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21614614497270768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996901496757705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39137277548143945,0.21806299482587252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623800067108302,0.0,0.15480090896513096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985825922963375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229816000701565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402816614911241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912517993032624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18600532778697412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417143075964898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BelugaHBSB,2020/02/13,"Since sleeping is not an option, can I just whine here? My 4yo has a cold. Nothing major. We are in the second day of it.z She is active, playing, eating, drinking fluids, jumping around the house and all. Just a runny nose and a few sneezes during the day. 

But at night, from the moment she lays down, her nose becomes extremely stuffed and she starts coughing non stop. It's now 2:30 in the morning, I brought her to my bed and I am sitting here waiting for the moment she is going to cough til she vomits, which always happens at least one night, with every single cold. 

She does not get sick a lot. She usually is completely recovered in 5 days max, but there is always one or two nights like those. 

Vick, humidifier, nebulizer, saline drops, nose bulb, honey, propped bed, all kinds of tea and all... And she coughs. All night long. She is also constantly chewing and swallowing something. Post nasal drip, I guess.

Her pediatrician says she is not old enough for decongestant or nasal sprays with anything other than saline.

So here I am... I slept less than 3 hours last night, I am awake for 19h and I have to get ready for a 12 hour shift in less than 4h. Can I cry? Parents can cry like babies too, right?",2.3139224137931045,4.8597899267241385,2.931786206896553,90.57183448275863,80.76724137931033,5.436137931034484,21.78,6.742157984588678,0.4961849655172421,941,29,187,10,25,293,146,232,0.05,0.883,0.066,0.41,1,0,2,0,0,0,46.0,1,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,12,0,16,18,7,0,4,30,25,15,0,0,9,1,0,2,1,0,6,1,2,0,4,12,5,2,0,2,0,3,3,1,0,4,2,9,25,4,24,23,12,36,0,1,0,0,17,9,0,5,23,121,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603058269758348,0.1998378735868289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988183355336554,0.10689960846373384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262258567587226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590506988667244,0.1297674018885163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638117631632008,0.2323314095575557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050857171736353,0.0,0.0,0.11763593137384402,0.0,0.12287520889642445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407816349588695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117537106594822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254771504568599,0.0,0.06824611457962419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228530851366427,0.0,0.10618927785261073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365157503931641,0.13856002148372062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504829245220722,0.0,0.09788392809072853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173332830051722,0.0,0.0,0.10626995395202267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209053921176256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5634502768875831,0.0,0.1152231782999334,0.0,0.1260072376935276,0.0,0.16274312248501244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333830912368047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500662057041948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255049390023732,0.0,0.09549507096148134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933415811997492,0.0,0.1201700365789369,0.0,0.0,0.09244600173840996,0.0,0.0,0.08499558760548477,0.0,0.0,0.1003950273499488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173039488394054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225480495835998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,idiotland1,2020/02/13,"Wife wants a 4th child, but I (really, really) don't? So we've got 3 kids already, aged 7, 2, and a newborn. During her last pregnancy, my wife was insistent on not wanting a 4th child, which suit me down to the ground, but now, a few weeks after his birth, she's already asking me about names for a 4th. Just last night I told her I didn't want a 4th, and the conversation mainly hit brick walls with neither of us wanting a late night arguement. I'm the sole earner, currently in the navy working a job I hate and want out of. At the end of this draft there's likely a deployment coming my way, and due to another issue entirely, I'm not really mentally stable to deploy so want out. That said, the money is good (certainly more than I could get as a civvie). We're already struggling, but a 4th child would totally trap me in the navy for the foreseeable future. I'm not the best father anyway, and I struggle with the kids if left alone and find it all very overwhelming, as due to my work i'm already away weekdays and never get into a patyern of being at home and parenting properly. She's absolutely amazing with them. She takes it all in her stride and I'm so impressed, but it's like we each do half of the 'being an adult' thing. She does parenting, whilst I do all the worrying about finances and work and so on. I don't see how we could ever afford a larger house, or the increased cost of children as they grow older, and I want to be able to support our children through their lives, but the idea of a 4th makes me feel like we're always going to be struggling month to month, unable to pay for things like school trips or driving lessons when the time comes. She's rather stubborn and is probably assuming I'll just roll over at some point, but I get this feeling of dread surrounding the idea of a 4th and just don't know how either of us could ever compromise. I'm coming up to 28, my wife is 26. I know there's no easy answer, hence I've added it S more of a rant! I just would like to know how others have coped with a similar situation, as in sure so many have before us! Thanks in advance.",7.9590452876377,5.454070023255817,8.137246022031826,77.03185434516526,63.88372093023256,11.564259485924113,34.49204406364749,9.93914555978268,3.023488372093023,1650,51,347,27,19,543,221,430,0.11900000000000001,0.777,0.105,-0.2964,5,1,0,0,0,0,50.0,6,0,3,6,22,20,2,5,34,0,21,0,0,4,9,84,57,36,0,14,18,6,2,5,0,2,0,1,1,9,11,27,0,1,11,0,4,9,10,7,0,1,5,4,38,13,55,42,14,56,0,1,1,0,38,22,0,5,29,221,49,7,0.08014856522846216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300974203411708,0.3537837389997479,0.0,0.06669002683777425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404275892418081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492808922760137,0.0,0.07530221536157174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682005257886572,0.0,0.08411097443374893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071226763160552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19197632276045404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013854954307712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709878394379063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499793168219988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105104554888569,0.057258151013653925,0.0,0.0,0.0732543366051285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125622951965502,0.0,0.04555027664374554,0.06722481389071285,0.06410212932397479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913011495439548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039554583871435,0.0,0.0,0.09248068332129153,0.0,0.1809559488520888,0.0,0.0836542788475375,0.07953508386275325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214266615050385,0.13066355589539652,0.09041107260347997,0.0,0.08708165063226098,0.0,0.0,0.19578270255110514,0.0,0.070772651486517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349978965380714,0.08125806532691764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077090260656412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794764020688684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181551450650701,0.0,0.0,0.15042799810840612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177990993485987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576630044660662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864137091938771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540356696199749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623963936902678,0.0,0.0,0.08111462693888431,0.06386802961736306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009034541003526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513660474879647,0.0,0.0,0.0909516420177899,0.0755390742085175,0.0,0.06026174643978986,0.0,0.0,0.07379003056302738,0.0,0.0,0.1064942907489866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04673527292240428,0.0,0.0,0.0765853887671015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28922656661186635,0.0,0.0,0.06613096015026686,0.33091590244627384,0.06361820046972096,0.0642903445393442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504733015337573,0.08139475849344227,0.0,0.11387048232724485,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katiopeia,2020/02/13,"I’m afraid of forgetting I don’t have the clearest memories of events. I can recall facts well, but after even a few months I have a hard time remembering experiences and feelings. I’m so afraid I’m going to forget how perfect and sweet my babies are. I watched a video of my son from a few years ago and I’d forgotten how sweet his little two year old voice was and it made me cry. 

How do you hold on to the precious moments?",1.9669943820224705,3.803820123595506,3.5981882022471936,89.08020365168541,78.10112359550561,6.6971910112359545,23.484550561797754,7.645422480735847,0.9930775280898878,337,11,73,5,8,112,62,89,0.10800000000000001,0.69,0.20199999999999999,0.9042,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,6,7,0,2,6,0,7,0,0,4,2,16,13,9,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,2,1,1,2,6,9,5,8,11,2,12,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,9,45,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24171196486464874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29952319873662137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010077813017564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667307119430658,0.0,0.0,0.1378738306806691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549687875562205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24426529224449256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732942791192253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580138445237415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176484111020578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861289462258203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30889021390767263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900032040504666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663660904239521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451696306174382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511904689113516
parenting,don51181,2020/02/13,"Advice to Step-Father of 20 yo daughter I appreciate any advice from men or womens perspective. My 20yo step-daughter and I are kind of distant. I am at kind of a loss to how to build our relationship. 

I helped raise her since she was three so it was pretty close growing up. As a teen she grew distant and rebellious. At 18 she moved out and now she lives in an apartment in another's state. 

The challenge is how to find ways to stay connected. She lives a very different lifestyle than what she had grown up so it's hard to find talking points or conversation ideas. 

What things have you seen help? Thanks for the advice",2.3339470365699886,4.855030049180332,3.1585245901639354,89.13256620428754,80.47540983606558,6.376796973518286,23.319041614123588,7.61054688173877,1.1167306431273645,494,17,99,8,13,156,84,122,0.053,0.828,0.12,0.807,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,2,5,5,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,2,0,12,9,10,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,4,2,14,4,20,5,0,18,0,1,1,0,17,10,0,2,1,63,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4941384863233886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462515189506693,0.1767476546731603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610712947000612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081177332903913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099476998875214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259616142464744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028135182721095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510542283055505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976794271241795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915037185089513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934169794783745,0.0,0.0,0.17148398165727652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809681032485844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943283646402888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966029374176742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548045492193145,0.0,0.15518546757897306,0.0,0.0,0.11198237877308287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907792006672068,0.0,0.1337934150602342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andestella,2020/02/13,Grandson name My son is expecting a boy in a couple months. I’m so very excited and can’t wait to meet him. But they want to name him the same name as my daughter’s boyfriend. My daughter committed suicide and her boyfriend found her dead. It was not his fault at all as she had serious mental health issues but I will be tortured by calling my grandson Charlie every time. Do I have any say in this child’s name?,2.961428571428569,4.693007523809527,3.6995238095238094,89.91214285714287,74.95238095238095,6.704761904761906,28.66666666666667,7.447530270364453,1.5673523809523808,328,14,68,4,7,104,64,84,0.134,0.7929999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.7984,0,0,0,0,0,1,6.0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,3,0,8,1,0,0,2,16,12,7,2,2,3,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,1,13,1,8,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,0,2,42,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987160239318448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983838914679344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323330019680284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462034971128761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32039834783517684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106105731896162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049962384916736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944836990284393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332429944086191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23238086680634826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31963546543895943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703927478974934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24110773975392275,0.17235580755466146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RanierMT,2020/02/13,"I am so excited to be a father Ever since high school, I realized that becoming a father will become the best and most important part of my life. I will be anticipating that day every day until it comes. 

I am only 20 years old, in college, and still single. I don't even care much about the ""college life"", becoming a parent is the only thing I am eager for. Though, I don't plan on getting married until my early 30s because I'm planning on going through a doctoral program, setting up my career, and becoming financial stable before I support a family. It's a long road that requires a lot of patience, but doing this will set me up for a good future.

I just can't wait to raise children and spend time with them. I have so much knowledge to share and I can't wait to see them grow to become amazing human beings. I just gotta stay patient. 

I love reading everyone's posts in the subreddit. It makes me so excited!",4.751885245901639,5.4250168251366135,6.4132377049180365,76.24477459016396,69.27322404371584,8.94153005464481,31.096994535519126,9.075114841892004,2.746056830601093,721,29,132,13,12,249,113,183,0.01,0.805,0.185,0.9832,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,4,10,10,0,0,12,0,16,4,0,1,1,19,28,12,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,8,7,0,3,2,1,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,20,10,20,21,7,27,0,0,1,1,9,8,0,2,12,98,28,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526764651677348,0.6818279839142675,0.1050659426648338,0.0,0.12957669629592988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588837008388734,0.0,0.0,0.10636056434445096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925900380773267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637926276753908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155237467195417,0.11168788070527752,0.10403084651700248,0.11798319693462762,0.0,0.0,0.11639881703047535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450924786853451,0.0,0.07017222666361081,0.10356281509886027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045540004719178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174424455833945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092692139645891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497184348011128,0.111438687603363,0.0,0.08241880494831066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815328840547588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956354364129125,0.0,0.0,0.18781269184136076,0.0,0.0,0.13710152011442225,0.13370860800112874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825245577999326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350584211064265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496068974086424,0.09839153965891873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213766896430723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316051804838728,0.09860524106994173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011504889457754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202959520164033,0.0,0.12131103431156053,0.0,0.07199776612436826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951219589172658
parenting,kalola,2020/02/13,"Lack of birthday party invitations My son is five and in SK. He has been invited to very few birthday parties, maybe a few each year starting around age three. From hearing other parents talk, it seems like some kids are at birthday parties every other weekend. What's the norm? How many birthday parties do your kids get invited to? 

My husband and I are on the introverted side, but we always attend school functions and are sociable with other parents at pick ups and drop offs. My son is pretty outgoing and seems to get along with most of the kids in his class. It just feels like he's not invited to parties very often. 

My husband wants us to arrange more play dates with school friends to see if that helps to get my son invited to more parties, which leads me to a follow up question: how do we do that with parents we don't really know while at the same time not coming off as a couple of weirdos!",5.811420454545453,6.370518664772727,5.936363636363637,80.99954545454545,66.89772727272728,8.445454545454545,33.04545454545455,8.296473431620573,2.4922454545454547,719,30,135,9,11,228,106,176,0.034,0.7509999999999999,0.214,0.9886,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,4,0,36,24,11,0,3,5,8,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,9,16,0,0,5,2,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,3,13,4,30,23,9,24,0,0,1,0,24,12,0,7,9,95,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954248694784565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859275907603294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410894084929778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226261802848433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311714236196504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871907171117422,0.1112214769141873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028193327776042,0.0,0.24401713999796024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546843890364405,0.0,0.10435245055551612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556046741789194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211976598260996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784027036943882,0.1564066230281892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5186096867207848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838773126691089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440295846485634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973587090109412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151232950339141,0.1240608796457339,0.2834597622541125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019472535794314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513379779681116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078124225803083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872700237544662,0.0,0.0,0.25691304827192235,0.09182711420095853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025610940825797
parenting,TheCat1219,2020/02/13,New talent Baby girl is 24 weeks/5 months. In December she had her top lip and tongue revised. At this moment. She has fully healed. And she has any Talent. Her new favorite thing to do. Is to smack her lips Even when she's not hungry just to smack them. And sticking her tongue out. And wagon get around. Also her new favorite hobby when breastfeeding. Is when she's full but still wants to comfort nurse. She'll pop off and lick my boob. Before waiting to latch on again. While I'm typing there she is saying hello to you all in her little baby voice. She's fussing at me for telling her little secrets to the world.,1.4380601092896157,4.0326241721311495,2.186918032786888,93.86983060109293,85.96721311475409,3.9090710382513683,17.969398907103823,5.2151,-0.4684673224043716,487,12,95,2,15,151,81,122,0.0,0.899,0.10099999999999999,0.8573,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,1,10,3,0,0,1,0,9,4,3,0,1,14,13,11,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,19,3,16,11,2,24,0,0,0,1,22,13,1,0,11,65,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824990688925492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519029770586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031548540223575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418949117760212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073023417675538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923005402238115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4574517791481592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215465981995807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6612185229110684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148136817185856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18224841566310684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19946517725265026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161226321003482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460388627197867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dummythiccgoldfish,2020/02/13,"my 12 year old son's best friend has suddenly been using him as an emotional punching bag. Did I give him the right advice? My son is super kind and the kind of person who doesn't like to offend or upset the people he likes. So I guess he's a bit of a people pleaser. Lately this school year he's been complaining about one of his friend's behavior. At first she was saying she was just venting and taking out her stress on him because he's the nicest friend in the group. Then when he tries to console her and offer advice, she doesn't take it, and instead changes her reason why she's acting that way towards him. Now he's reporting that she makes mean jabs, snaps at him at PE when they're partnered up, or shoots him dirty looks from across the classroom. I asked him why he hasn't tried partnering with other kids during PE and he says she always looks to partner with him and he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. 

I've asked about the rest of his friends, and he says they are all fine and one of the other girls in the group even tries to back him up whenever the other girl is targeting him. He says she only seems to do this to him and no one else in the group. No, she does not have a crush on him.

I'm hoping this advice I gave him today is the right one. I have even asked him to have a sit down with her to address this issue, but he says she just makes excuses that are not consistent. Whatever she's going through, it sucks, but I'm not going to allow my son to take her crap anymore. So today I coached him on how to distance himself from her without removing him from the group of friends entirely. I'm having him pull her to the side to talk, and to ask for some space to preserve their friendship. He'll tell her she's one of his best friends and he wants to stay friends, but in order to do that he needs some space from her. I emphasized no finger pointing as I'm worried she'll get defensive/stop listening. He is instructed to basically not react/respond when she targets him, and to focus on the other people in the group. If she starts cleaning up her act and treats him as a friend, he is more than welcome to respond and go from there. He is very forgiving, and I know he wants things to go back to the way they were. 

Fellow parent-redditors, do you think this was the right, last resort advice? After advising him through this whole ordeal, I'm done with my son being her emotional doormat. But I've never offered advice about this stuff at all, and personally never been in this situation. I'm actually scared my advice will backfire and his situation will be worse. Just...looking for some reassurance OR better advice. Thanks.

TL;DR: Told my son he needs to distance himself from his friend who has not been treating him like one after trying previous mutliple solutions. Is this advice sound?",5.338002033553637,5.75042738078292,5.6427483477376725,83.20639501779361,67.8967971530249,8.558088459583121,28.51265887137773,8.418075326091056,1.8572809761057447,2236,70,447,30,35,713,243,562,0.063,0.794,0.14300000000000002,0.9935,1,0,0,1,0,0,56.0,0,1,3,5,18,34,3,3,24,0,37,2,2,6,4,64,80,35,0,7,16,5,2,3,13,4,0,7,2,8,23,22,0,0,7,1,0,8,15,8,0,7,12,11,72,26,76,62,11,62,0,1,2,0,132,28,2,10,24,299,95,5,0.0,0.0,0.05828202234805613,0.0,0.0,0.4668929219012477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049695164019098965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059230173542975426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22333556367347265,0.0,0.0,0.09184816040845503,0.0,0.03640720458155772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535333597808151,0.05282103694132072,0.06520315487786801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318008766503858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226488710348892,0.061118402032277176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498917500589213,0.13436295418113606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889429592121007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030198255972135126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080121577802059,0.0,0.0,0.415283625414822,0.0,0.0312033322847256,0.05729271631696922,0.13577013393217674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579273473951673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059319421789209924,0.0,0.0,0.06393579220282337,0.0,0.0,0.062336353805050634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438673995438815,0.032822756163348656,0.048683042648458685,0.06737128915995133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753440935671114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045938958784602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973248618719472,0.0,0.0,0.06505695991459846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856919920604903,0.09212568289403862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267030600736098,0.0,0.2428232252389033,0.04542280389594538,0.0,0.0,0.06631644965989424,0.0,0.0,0.12421533400903395,0.10429741068259528,0.0,0.0,0.05645849771471032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06140623338788384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301194482729294,0.0,0.2374746653008367,0.05979415692852631,0.06044389065671597,0.0,0.054370499246722964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426458809439587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04227296449007705,0.06365785236557675,0.0,0.04993194994831512,0.06841365622321124,0.0,0.06836970715744947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347150772942765,0.04800390012852623,0.0522014206575618,0.05498584789482978,0.0,0.0,0.039677981077606124,0.038268736605879004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132227638073202,0.05706885477052824,0.0,0.1621947404100524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158237230819162,0.0,0.049278566334997324,0.10568031251679756,0.09481228474036152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778326627456043,0.06667972873678522,0.0,0.05757181821652507,0.0,0.0,0.0606526352653296,0.060863872606877326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692061374375161
parenting,bumble_bearbee,2020/02/13,"HELP!! Since my daughter turned 4 months and hit the sleep regression, she has been refusing day naps. Now as you know, babies without naps are not fun. She’s now 6 months old and still refuses them. How on earth can I help her sleep better? ❤️",1.7332653061224477,3.979508040816331,2.440163265306122,95.02269387755103,80.83673469387755,6.3689795918367365,20.00408163265305,7.554174236665415,0.4688661224489801,190,5,42,3,5,59,42,49,0.1,0.722,0.17800000000000002,0.6387,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,1,0,8,7,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,2,3,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,7,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331705796006909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700277572422987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534283437113021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489115552960966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208742409302121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766487070619717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808799965775366,0.0,0.5276662810117356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210545433421132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286767595149267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541421940869061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,R3p_TaR,2020/02/13,"Can I ask a favor? Tomorrow (Feb 13th) marks the second anniversary of my son's death. He was 4 months and 2 days old. His name was Trip.
Trip was born with a genetic disorder, a partial chromosome deletion which came with a host of medical issues. We found out during my pregnancy that he had an omphalocele, where parts of his liver and intestines were herniated through his belly button. We were monitored very closely for the duration of my pregnancy and I had a scheduled c section in october 2017.
After Trip was born, the doctors noticed he had a narrowing aortic arch, which meant he would need open heart surgery. Throughout his short life Trip had 3 surgeries, a tracheostomy, g-tube, and was hooked up to many machines. I think I held him maybe a dozen times in his life. 
Through all of his struggles, Trip was the happiest baby. He always had a smile on his face and loved loved loved music. He had a mobile that played music and had little woodland creatures who became his little friends. 
On his first birthday we set up a fundraiser collecting mobiles to donate to his hospital. On the first anniversary of his death we collected gift cards to local restaurants and coffee shops to give to the parents on the ward.
This year, I'd like to ask you, the parents of reddit, to do an act of kindness in Trip's memory. Compliment someone. Hold a door open. Pay for someone's coffee. Donate blood. Just a simple act to spread kindness in honor of my baby gone too soon. 
If you do an act of kindness, please comment here, as I would love to see how much kindness we can spread for Trip. Thank you.",4.653024282560708,6.554945003311262,4.946639072847682,82.00993653421635,70.82119205298014,7.947240618101546,29.80187637969095,8.59863814320734,2.413867108167771,1269,52,227,22,24,400,169,302,0.044000000000000004,0.774,0.182,0.9921,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,5,3,0,3,6,16,0,1,24,0,21,14,6,1,1,32,37,10,2,4,2,3,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,0,6,19,0,2,3,2,4,12,0,1,0,4,20,1,29,15,40,15,4,47,0,0,1,4,40,21,0,1,14,142,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493884903140784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133328441655944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049795351066054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358390486360984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076643104057634,0.11678435034601438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19410375438172933,0.0,0.12510279554135303,0.08815199224375454,0.0,0.0,0.10945339757658452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520692549757146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908888520403416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4752629016980454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118187678063,0.05574262096392565,0.22871275759980544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119123485981897,0.0,0.0,0.11567767419590945,0.11462698548595768,0.0,0.0,0.11494194052737672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107210083356987,0.0,0.08387531097474757,0.08460237528368089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990156571544312,0.11972687560701713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533851140984245,0.12355724016054713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252455690166462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092149919996467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335008225967973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928022007514727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504630008153153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310952441674083,0.0,0.0,0.06653158246906869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414297069156452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16210418623908135,0.0,0.0,0.07347550490843187
parenting,Shyronnie135,2020/02/13,"Just got the news! My wife just told me that I am going to be a Dad! I can't tell friends or family yet, but I am so excited, I had to get it out somewhere. 

Also, first time on this subreddit, but I have a feeling I will be around much more often.",1.373363636363635,1.9319808363636355,3.932500000000001,91.35875,77.0,7.6818181818181825,22.84090909090909,8.07648339933343,0.8641818181818177,186,5,47,3,4,66,44,55,0.035,0.838,0.127,0.6938,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,13,5,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,8,2,5,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,3,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28838218015200434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210221294111025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399539538733461,0.0,0.1823368276557856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067373339231415,0.0,0.0,0.2786088004015228,0.0,0.1884054703800152,0.0,0.2049447452730157,0.0,0.28841525307319515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26509213438264323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31519175976943137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21027640906023293,0.0,0.0,0.34458128795280685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Janisneptunus,2020/02/13,"How can I be an advocate for my kindergartener? My son is a bright, kind and reserved little boy. He went to a magnet preschool last year that focused on fostering kindness, friendships and using peers as a support system for emotional growth. He flourished there and absolutely loved it. For kindergarten, we enrolled him in our public school and their focus is strictly on academics. Since he’s started, I’ve watched his personality and behavior take a turn for the worse. He is no longer happy, he is easily angered, hits, yells and complains about school. He tells me regularly who doesn’t want to be his friend, who won’t sit with him and has begun to be bullied. Last week another boy punched him in the face on the playground and I was never notified. I found out when I saw dried blood in his nose at home and asked him about it. I wrote his teacher a letter for more information and although she was apologetic she put the blame on the nurse and that was that. Today he came off the bus crying because a few older children held him down and covered his mouth to try and have him miss his stop. My husband is speaking to the driver tomorrow. 

Every day seems to be a struggle for him. Our family is very positive and constantly gives him praise, reads books, plays games and talks to him but he’s slowly shutting down. His school does nothing to instill a supportive environment or strengthen relationships and I’m incredibly concerned about his wellbeing. I wrote his teacher a kind but direct email tonight to let her know my concerns and arrange a meeting but I’m wondering if this sounds like the type of experience that many students overcome. Right now, I’m planning on enrolling him into the local highly rated Montessori school for 1st grade. It will hurt our finances for two years but we can make it work if it’s the right choice. What should we do?!",6.081120689655172,7.452190905172419,5.7983333333333364,79.31750000000002,66.67241379310346,8.558620689655173,32.89080459770115,8.841846274778883,2.7790839080459766,1497,64,265,24,24,464,211,348,0.071,0.812,0.11800000000000001,0.9314,0,0,0,1,0,0,32.0,6,0,1,3,7,17,1,1,21,0,23,5,4,3,1,46,49,28,0,4,7,2,0,1,1,3,0,3,1,4,13,24,0,2,5,4,1,4,4,5,0,1,10,7,40,12,37,30,2,43,1,2,3,1,63,20,0,5,18,168,53,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558289190744707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304760753794844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719351396733729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607061936917408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911650798061856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210794680901727,0.0710874631532045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646061712105587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399083014239733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287121973338644,0.0,0.0,0.10782341021196784,0.10391244976918218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085850003329825,0.0851613068391061,0.0,0.0,0.1057400308075576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733896682654248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646115098380412,0.11056692811452587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800056048712368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344354183926161,0.06057801883052761,0.17969985577133402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127148404081066,0.0,0.05385147093214093,0.11047667121417258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948440476758644,0.0,0.07357755128202939,0.11175313972929456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501405740207224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576602781419203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624619085707116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080884022430143,0.0,0.0,0.11025708801802148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834282471898132,0.0,0.18826695375435407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462234832651335,0.0,0.10034675670750083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118112766572324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780194212258637,0.0,0.0,0.09215492413740677,0.0,0.11523346396491005,0.0,0.0,0.25016917442300635,0.0,0.0,0.08287718078350922,0.08859649541472113,0.09634348279091777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448255295548692,0.0,0.0,0.07483707332402671,0.11989560519025155,0.10767601535315646,0.0,0.0,0.09520096074375864,0.0,0.09094903257138033,0.06501489322223397,0.0,0.08841765832898593,0.0,0.0,0.10218177337215008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195367603580534,0.08024675732051094,0.0,0.11233099385466384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196548165043954
parenting,rsekeet,2020/02/13,"I have created the Toddler Tornado Scale! EF-0: 0-10 min cleanup,  usually contained to a small part of a room. Few toys scattered on floor, tables.

EF-1: 10-15 cleanup, one room needs to be cleaned up, toys are more widely scattered, but still a small amount. Small amount of crumbs on floor, may require light sweep/ vaccuming.

EF-2: 15-20 min cleanup, one room needs cleaning, with possible light mess spreading to a second room. A moderate amount of toys are out and widely scattered. Crumbs and larger bits of food are on the floor. Light Sweeping/vaccuming are required. May be isolated sticky spot.

EF-3: 20-30 min cleanup. Mess has spread to at least a room and hallway, possibly two room. Widespread cover of toys everywhere, bite sized to whole pieces of food are found in floor. Possible lost toys or objects under furniture. Moderate Vaccuming/sweeping needed. 1 or more Sticky surfaces, better break out the fantastic. May be light stains on carpet.

EF-4: 30-60 min cleanup. Mess is in 2+ rooms and hallways, Heavy and widespread toys on floors. Whole pieces of food are on floor. Lost toys, food and remote are under furniture, better move cushions. Heavy Vaccuming/sweeping required. Widespread sticky surface, may need some good gone. Stains are apparent on carpet, time to spray and scrub.

EF-5: 60+ min cleanup. This is the big one. Many rooms are messy! Toys and objects are all over, careful don't trip or get legoed. Food will be found in unexpected places. You may have to rearrange rooms to find everything, there are no cushions to remove as they have been thrown. Sticky surfaces are everywhere and Goo gone and scraper are needed. Vaccuming/sweeping is an understatement, definitely rent a rug Doctor for the stains. Weird colors and shapes appear on the walls, praying that's not shit. It doesn't snow when it tornadoes, it powders! Toddler tornado may reappear without warning with a vengeance, sticky and wet. Bath time is required.",4.375278463033567,7.560081682215742,3.4930612244897965,85.68371533228677,77.65889212827989,6.66663676459595,29.20303506017792,7.882392219407189,2.277368453315392,1559,70,261,27,39,455,174,343,0.07400000000000001,0.83,0.096,0.8767,2,0,0,0,0,0,82.0,0,1,1,8,3,11,1,0,15,0,35,7,1,0,1,45,49,18,0,5,6,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,17,0,5,16,5,5,4,9,1,6,5,7,0,5,7,6,3,4,39,31,15,62,1,2,1,0,2,45,1,11,10,134,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685836690862616,0.1091584353200093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019420353413664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233955100760543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986065640571746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138507402688298,0.0,0.6045152330392305,0.21925821203894333,0.0,0.0,0.05223837612383871,0.0,0.0,0.08386322064400664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182922994117209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136975719553218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626892401618362,0.0,0.3706904681601599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20325859520206985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827471698309457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044637248977208,0.0,0.0,0.33815639664828656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263383437470144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984867039979676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660487484044707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976714529772681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012006919897394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326081828720645,0.0,0.0963825999955874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ahviaa224,2020/02/13,"Teaching our kids that parts of our anatomy are bad words..? Why are parents still teaching their kids that their bodies are dirty and something to be ashamed of???!My 8 year old son told his little brother (5 in 5 days) that penis is a bad word tonight. He’s delayed so it took a lot of pulling to figure out who told him that. Turns out it was a little girl in his class. So her parents must tell her that. 

I then had to have a conversation with him about how there are words that little boys and little girls shouldn’t say until they’re older, but the world penis is the name of a body part, a body part he has, and just as a boring word has hand and foot. Along with how we maybe shouldn’t be talking about penises at school, though I have no idea who brought it up. 

I’m furious that the little girls parents may be setting her up for all sorts of body issues.",6.4919823232323255,5.336999738636365,5.848030303030303,87.96565656565657,65.81818181818181,8.276767676767678,30.351010101010104,5.82211442006289,1.2463934343434349,678,19,149,2,9,206,107,176,0.124,0.852,0.024,-0.9403,3,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,2,0,10,5,1,1,10,0,19,7,7,2,2,29,25,13,0,3,2,5,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,6,12,10,0,1,2,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,6,2,14,0,22,12,5,26,0,0,0,1,34,13,0,3,9,97,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785546985494039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4750753048319676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895734718762854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207045536376164,0.0,0.11160122065312422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5358313431885192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090324167194082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741986103995776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219909767259492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561804442992308,0.3473658889028169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503051880335744,0.0,0.10821313032535644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231557304443253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538990801661205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859417261909235,0.09345657725555158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505261128986702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434155881445845,0.11879686482903667,0.0,0.11630296688963113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648257676283166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885576283493368
parenting,mrfishman3000,2020/02/13,"Family Help isn't that helpful...? My InLaws are visiting for a week. We have a 16month old girl. I LOVE my inlaws so much. They are wonderful and supportive...but...damn it's like they forgot how to be a parent (they had 3 kids, 30 years ago). 

Grandma is trying to help with my girl while I work from home...but she's more interested in playing dressup and she's not picking up on my daughters cues (hungry, thirsty, diaper). My daughter isn't in any danger, she's just whining a lot more since grandma doesn't understand what she wants. 

Grandpa...he just isn't that into kids...he'd rather talk about his retirement hobbies, and I enjoy talking to him...but I'm usually in the middle of cooking dinner or feeding my kid and having a conversation with a babbling 16 month old is pretty challenging. 

And then there's my wife (She works full time, I stay at home). She's a great mother, but her parents live out of state, so when they come to visit, she gets very focused on reconnecting with them. That's great, but the three of them get into long conversations and don't see our kid who's about to break into the pantry and make a mess! 

So I feel like I'm running around, trying to host, work and watch my kid. I know I'm probably being a super tight-wad and I need to go with the flow...but I've been the primary parent for over a year now and I have a damn good routine set in place...I'm just exhausted...

Tomorrow my wife and I get to take a trip to Hollywood. Our first trip without our kid. I know our daughter is in good hands and I know she'll be just fine...but I am so anxious...

One more thing....since this has turned into a rant....

I'm a stay at home dad, right? I find that even though I'm the primary, most other moms or grandmas will ask my wife about my kids routine...I get that I'm not the norm, but I kinda feel like I do the daily work and the boss gets the credit...

\*SIGH\*",1.5890400504131108,3.5877277331606234,3.1216538299958003,91.26317952667696,79.95854922279794,6.1418848900714185,21.831396163002378,7.2228458231874715,0.6232146198011481,1459,44,316,19,37,479,200,386,0.023,0.8290000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.9916,3,0,0,0,0,0,91.0,5,0,6,7,19,20,2,0,24,0,23,6,1,4,0,56,52,27,0,3,13,12,3,3,0,2,1,0,2,8,10,25,3,1,8,2,1,7,8,5,1,3,3,5,47,14,40,44,7,48,0,1,2,1,53,20,1,6,19,190,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762249086548418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721980180770258,0.0,0.0,0.11166972554229797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799537874164391,0.09240922328922464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514851079774366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528795045547173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318478131299143,0.0,0.0999606988935872,0.1412335832047288,0.0,0.0,0.09034497500242802,0.08407977332367493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582191257889281,0.0,0.056177405945476364,0.16581746315546128,0.0,0.21795979917572092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19876651862195144,0.0,0.2974568025204135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629722747265403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448759283418238,0.0,0.08728429913809757,0.0874770729402414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840367499280915,0.0892138769022655,0.0,0.06598158392946223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157691905312792,0.07889926311408009,0.0,0.07266440730806732,0.07329429107802908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744799282949625,0.0,0.06698173597859694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32927590233660714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327477123637027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056361164738332,0.10657450137144978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441536578644669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876879112752802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635356198468199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21071691750674096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432114231069721,0.1589000176332425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656699963544883,0.0,0.0971173289520278,0.0,0.05763886835350392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422215196146692,0.10751787466140386,0.0,0.10290390527968067,0.0,0.0,0.10886673786706437,0.08155967576183258,0.05830291385160021,0.0,0.07928963443643962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952856216400153,0.10719607609647773,0.2878491094608465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273093107801324
parenting,ConstitutionalDingo,2020/02/13,"To continue or not to continue music lessons. My kiddo is 8. He wanted a guitar for Christmas like mine, and got one, along with his first 4 lessons. The lessons seem to be going well. He gets a positive report from the teacher and he always walks out enthusiastic and excited to do it again, but every time the day rolls around for lessons again he complains and says he doesn’t want to and all that. Thus far, I’ve told him he has to do his first 4 weekly lessons and then we will reevaluate. 

I’m a bit torn. On one hand, he seems to enjoy the lessons when they happen, and I don’t want to just let him quit because he doesn’t feel like it, but I’m also hesitant to drag him through it if he feels like it’s a chore. Part of me feels like I should keep pushing him through it and he’ll appreciate it when he’s older. 

Anyone have any thoughts on kids getting through their extracurriculars like this?",3.907969735182853,4.942034366120222,4.472677595628415,88.06823455233294,71.45901639344262,7.597982345523329,27.73812526271543,7.882392219407189,1.4503555275325768,711,25,154,9,13,226,110,183,0.055,0.754,0.191,0.9741,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,2,9,9,9,0,0,8,0,12,1,1,1,1,38,31,16,0,5,6,0,4,5,0,3,0,1,1,1,8,13,0,1,12,1,0,3,4,1,1,4,3,5,14,8,22,23,3,21,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,4,18,91,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527937290742908,0.13035203360659192,0.0,0.0,0.10653283491191076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095389396057414,0.0,0.0,0.13945886337648228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549728326308328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710299986660507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103147170566976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199114995203914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23763302657542534,0.3357495916145997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665064867803744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369471351590692,0.0,0.08903237070661887,0.0,0.12529374049014455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385321817817376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924485830609534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019345330917706,0.0,0.38267601068164137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123110758801252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964538422429365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662510220065693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458075614807113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852311803334506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243689798424716,0.0913485592293069,0.0,0.0,0.14969346458095234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772029013416767,0.0,0.12566162512361134,0.0,0.14085438612093204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boundless_ness,2020/02/13,"Bio vs step parent My fiancé and I have been together for almost 3 years, living together for almost 2. My daughter is 4. We have totally different parenting styles which wasn’t so apparent when she was a toddler who’s “misbehavior” was often chalked up to age. 
I try (& fail, & try & fail) to be a peaceful/positive parent and set boundaries without trying to control just “because I’m the adult”. 
His parenting ideals came from Jordan b. Peterson’s 12 rules.... 

This has set us back quite a bit. Especially because he refuses to yield to my parenting, will defy me in front of her, and basically makes me feel like I need to protect her (possibly not rational of me). He has clearly stated that when she’s with him, he will parent how he wants and when she’s with me I can parent how I want. This has led to her never being left alone with him, which has just killed our relationship, to know that I’m with someone who I don’t feel comfortable leaving her with. 

They have a great bond and relationship, it’s the discipline that we disagree on. He’s more stern and controlling while I try to understand what she’s going through. Neither approaches are perfect, but he can be pretty harsh for a 4 year old. 

I’m at a loss, because I refuse to give in.",5.768911564625846,6.1471277959183706,6.625714285714286,76.65095238095239,66.9591836734694,10.28843537414966,33.06802721088435,10.203070172399654,3.3203823129251706,990,41,189,23,15,329,143,245,0.078,0.845,0.077,-0.473,9,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,1,8,10,9,1,0,8,0,21,0,0,6,4,45,35,14,1,4,6,8,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,11,14,0,7,4,0,0,6,6,4,0,0,5,2,31,5,28,25,4,25,0,3,0,0,38,6,0,3,11,122,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072296138209526,0.09346055192008064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933222666420349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693883415828858,0.0,0.1650268575668009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851778767973726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320955559345787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242177547701065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942807126131612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125525829950283,0.06446687177343594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656562205131065,0.05128499247096952,0.0,0.0,0.09948898913693063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983625714920312,0.0,0.049593080715518635,0.0,0.0,0.09555023773064833,0.0980451080893341,0.0,0.0,0.04408629394200693,0.0,0.07968282886674734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060235337999219186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691119148061077,0.06959800092653481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469081538496306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7013993331539772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173109080660672,0.0,0.0918056642059111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598045120009296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937661670583821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645934486761845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450658565282313,0.0,0.0,0.09394214486556844,0.10854659498634556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645078559935443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698732713188469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622211696959205
parenting,throwRA2928382910100,2020/02/13,How do I raise my kids to not have to “come out” if they’re gay? I want my kids  to grow up and if they are gay I dont want them to have to come out to me. I want them to just bring the person they want to date to my house and I never want to go thru the “mom I’m gay” conversation. I just dont want it to not be normal because it is. I have family members who described their coming out as nerve wrecking and anxiety ridden experience and I never want my kids experiencing that. Any advice is appreciated.,0.9155045871559616,2.5767092201834885,3.600449541284401,88.66324311926607,80.65137614678899,6.5618348623853215,19.156880733944952,7.554174236665415,0.3235350458715596,391,9,92,6,10,138,57,109,0.017,0.862,0.121,0.6908,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,1,2,27,23,8,0,10,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,10,0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,0,0,1,18,0,17,22,0,14,0,0,0,3,12,4,0,2,3,64,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342359009901255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676886827962953,0.0,0.12010849014565912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570886634350367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40573803651988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680176721142143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358113822852568,0.14801045784298647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922963017419286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116283322614166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838825037008234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421840614309612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538316862111009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709081833833736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6482398301327262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KiwiWisper,2020/02/13,Recommendation for resort in Cancun with 1 year old Single momma here and I've decided to take my son to Cancun to celebrate mother's day. He's 1.  Can you recommend a child friendly resort that's all inclusive?,3.339146341463416,5.835913097560978,5.963597560975611,70.56295731707318,76.5609756097561,8.978048780487804,24.88414634146341,9.516144504307137,2.8634341463414628,171,6,28,5,4,61,34,41,0.0,0.773,0.22699999999999998,0.8555,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,3,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666473537243341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392359272263152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5965644551258984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42745510488845057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661072280435415
parenting,Youfollowrafiki,2020/02/13,"Is it better for the child to not see their father at all when their parents split up? I’m just having 1 of those random thought moments and I was thinking about if I were to ever get married and have kids then split up with my wife, my children probably wouldn’t want to see me on the weekend because their mother is their primary carer and they would love her more.

This thinking comes from first hand experience. My mum and dad split up when I was a child and we lived with our mum. When it came time to see our father on the weekend we would dread it and not want to go because we wanted to stay with mum.",4.5065800000000005,4.931276728000004,4.758150000000004,88.77882500000004,69.72,7.21,26.825,6.6274283507984215,0.96006,481,14,103,3,8,151,76,125,0.023,0.8759999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.836,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,5,0,5,2,6,3,0,1,4,0,10,2,1,0,2,30,25,11,0,7,4,9,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,5,14,0,0,3,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,5,4,18,2,19,17,2,20,0,0,3,1,25,6,0,2,10,74,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23902656149200535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733946753072285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242346386857317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888398369103888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734293099866266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917793658167417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667642444207966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243062202705548,0.0,0.11142254891617093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312011700518026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694725122750835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21769582579531252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113804009356024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686912470287198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20896849590338012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512481974015683,0.0,0.15564573458136466,0.11432122079158012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469148758963832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27854362963474016,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Reganato,2020/02/13,"Help with a ... confusing and questionable term So, I'm finding myself a little disarmed on this one.  My four year old came home from daycare with a new word today.  It's one I'm unfamiliar with, but immediately understood a general meaning to.  

I'm struggling with the term ""melenated.""  I can easily gather that it's a term to refer to people with a complexion other than mine and my daughter's pasty white hue, but beyond that I don't know much.  I don't have context here for the appropriate use of this term.  I have no idea what to do with it, or how to advise her in it's use, or avoidance it it's somehow offensive or inappropriate.

In short, I have no clue whatsoever, and I'm looking for guidance.  I've done some googling, but that did little to help on usage and context.  Especially when the top hit was Urban Dictionary.  

So ... Help.  Please?",2.7375227272727294,5.06334318787879,4.737329545454545,79.46599431818184,77.72727272727272,7.761363636363638,26.676136363636363,8.660442795831766,2.233613636363637,666,27,126,15,16,228,97,165,0.11800000000000001,0.778,0.10400000000000001,-0.324,0,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,1,7,4,1,3,9,0,10,0,0,3,0,33,22,14,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,13,11,0,1,7,0,0,1,4,4,0,3,5,2,10,0,22,16,6,19,0,0,2,0,8,9,0,7,9,87,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143615833084304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179844420030065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713009079886167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37687635772505895,0.0,0.1880002009252796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115773603370148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300258771771338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756934689242191,0.0,0.0,0.15738782362708412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415821227511247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137777213951214,0.0,0.0,0.18101396468642936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666854482583965,0.0,0.2540048783339436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993526781111178,0.0,0.0,0.20573378933931205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20995626332621653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593484912847944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765475883052154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237459890278879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069404264850135
parenting,stevehrowe2,2020/02/13,"How do you handle children when they don't want to eat the dinner that's prepared for them? I am a picky eater, so if I don't like something, I don't eat it. My mom went as far as making separate dishes when I was a kid. I also try to have quick foods (sandwiches, fruit, microwave stuff) if my wife made something I didn't care for.

We've fostered and adopted our children, and they occasionally don't care for a specific dish or food. My wife is of the opinion that they need to eat what's prepared for them, up to the point of not allowing them to leave the table, storing it for the next day, and even punishing them for not eating. Furthermore, she just gets so aggravated about it. She says they are just being childish and unnecessarily difficult.

What do you all do in this situation?",6.012222222222222,5.872708764331215,6.696135881104034,78.12506723283795,66.45222929936305,9.780325548478416,32.09412597310686,9.444778638647367,2.6731760792639765,624,23,126,11,9,206,95,157,0.145,0.831,0.024,-0.9490000000000001,0,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,8,0,11,5,1,0,8,0,14,11,0,4,1,19,22,15,0,4,7,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,9,4,11,0,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,0,4,2,22,3,18,17,1,10,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,4,6,91,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278943372579518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313097580917197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099023461814337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6284571808480932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014146549471843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713330942596456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802206329344284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258139259728854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501405787968894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452874623065693,0.10249210643607028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17982939316270938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385125719862207,0.0,0.0,0.16329625457102542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514912637770125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122104702039468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259038456743905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23641202385329035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17577164937595213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104246596289805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056448930355268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233723479246455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leelooh,2020/02/13,"At a loss over recent bad behavior with my 4 year old. My oldest daughter is 4.5. She’ll be 5 in July. She’s strong willed, stubborn, smart, very verbal, and high energy. Occasionally, like once or twice a month, she would get in trouble at school for hitting or pulling hair, but it was pretty rare and corrected quickly.  Well over the last three weeks, she’s gotten in trouble for pulling hair, hitting, punching, kicking, and even throwing her snacks all over a girl once. Twice she has she wanted to kill someone or the world. Honestly, that last comment is what really freaks me out. She is usually the instigator. 

It’s not every day, but it’s easily 3-4 times a week, so almost every school day. She does not do this at home with her younger sister or other play dates. She acts up at home, but it’s very rare she hits. Of course at school, there 25 kids in her class with two teachers. They used to have three, but one left. They have a teacher rotating in, but it’s a different teacher almost every day when I pick her up. I rarely see her regular teachers in the afternoon when I pick her up. I’m sure this is part of the problem. 

So I totally broke down crying and have been super stressed because I don’t know where this behavior is coming from and I don’t know what to do. We have tried being very specific with what to do in specific situations, even role playing. We have tried taking things away (usually her tablet) or giving rewards. We don’t double punish on the same day but we do talk to her about it a lot when we get home. So if she’s on red three times, she doesn’t get tablet time on the weekends. But she could earn it back by being on green the other days. 

Anyway, I’m rambling. Her teachers all say that this is a phase, she’s 4, not to worry about it. Maybe that’s the case, but we are a month in and the behavior is not getting better. Today she told me that she doesn’t know what’s going on but maybe she has a problem. Those were her words. A kid in her class told her she had a problem, and I keep reassuring her that is not the case. 

So what are the red flags or at what point do you seek professional advice, like play therapy. 

I really hope I’m being extra here and someone can talk me down. But if that’s not the case...tell me what to do because I’m at a loss. 

TL/DR: 4 year old is getting in trouble for fighting almost everyday at school over the last few weeks and I don’t know what to do about it. Is it a phase or do we need to get her checked out by a therapist?",2.26125928546162,3.950381657587549,3.566687301025824,90.29779890343124,76.78210116731519,6.696073576229218,22.965864874425183,7.520522993642371,0.8231027237354085,1948,58,424,26,44,636,214,514,0.11,0.7809999999999999,0.10800000000000001,-0.4834,1,0,0,0,2,0,70.0,7,1,2,7,19,31,4,1,29,0,46,3,2,3,5,76,76,35,1,10,25,2,2,2,0,3,0,1,3,3,32,23,1,2,4,4,1,6,12,16,1,7,7,7,57,15,59,58,9,80,0,3,4,0,57,40,0,14,36,288,89,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532123503138773,0.0,0.0,0.2315520775125525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241876573754105,0.059269408918467964,0.06435819682245035,0.09397394509924342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681705898964188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639719917509683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061541741184233986,0.0,0.08466825602008607,0.2485496354176033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053171442812299,0.0,0.0,0.06745282544666162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018206192806529,0.0,0.19482851221549705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162527187189986,0.07394171894873662,0.0438060792462022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143876664990858,0.2319511918399717,0.0765573758079996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685118373145773,0.08527709143757499,0.0,0.16944359893331906,0.18849033988019412,0.0,0.0,0.08374714644045331,0.0,0.0,0.07531434024049531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553026906433171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548735175408902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304830791926814,0.0,0.0,0.05715350271556807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176402346121965,0.16417439036172848,0.0522310915739762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346963117010826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286508021705608,0.0,0.0,0.07841760342912933,0.0,0.22126413172839332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987582549408579,0.0,0.07610674744002123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061296744465645016,0.0,0.3120344408445032,0.06142241437080623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664063318903295,0.0,0.0,0.1306184893087215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829435338212241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264655485725642,0.0,0.057954221896442636,0.12390723009568333,0.0,0.0,0.08814717227399645,0.08949528759175047,0.051208221810643634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483710001876625,0.0,0.07306239185556328,0.1473056085113156,0.0,0.104663896925509,0.0,0.07529551111303337,0.0,0.0,0.06657197495786606,0.16978444860586042,0.19079608035933665,0.04546351013335388,0.0,0.18548567441310096,0.0,0.06930376391886868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827801505303937,0.0,0.054755094152819817,0.0,0.0,0.09927339404433537
parenting,countesslathrowaway,2020/02/13,"I need advice on changing my 5 year olds pre-k mid year. I have a 5 year old son and he is enrolled at a fairly nice pre-k. My work schedule is varied and my husband is away often, so he goes full time. It’s a chain type of school and it isn’t inexpensive. The quality of the school has been declining. Over the past six weeks I’ve had mounting concerns and my sons teacher (who I loved) was suddenly fired. Staff turn over was high and there were other issues. I scheduled a tour with a great montessori school and we managed to get the only open spot. The cost is only slightly more and it’s a few minutes more of a drive, but it has everything we want for our kiddo. 

So, the day I went for the tour, the school director was fired. The regional director was amazing and spoke to me about all the changes that would be implemented, they wanted to hear all of my concerns and they have started a new program. When I went to the school today, the atmosphere was better, everything was changed, new room, new permanent teacher. I sat with the director and told her of my plans to leave for the Montessori school and she offered to let me out of my contract immediately. She said she understood, but she was working hard and wanted us to try to stay. To be honest, I couldn’t have asked for a better outcome, but to be fair, they knew the school was declining and said “we should have fired her sooner”. 

Now, my husband is on an international flight home and I have to make a decision on what to do without him. He will support my choice, but feels the same way that I do and likes the Montessori school a lot. He’s willing to try, but then we’d lose the only spot, which is highly desired here. 

My son says he wants to stay at his school, but then likes the idea of a new school as well. I think it would be good for him, but I’m worried about the stress of a mid year change. The director of his current school said it could be hard on him and it gave me pause. Help me Reddit parents, I need someone to work this out with!",4.060787815126052,4.895473419117653,4.640406162464989,87.74647058823533,70.93627450980392,7.691316526610645,27.561624649859944,7.83500028581142,1.4383036414565833,1577,53,338,19,28,503,192,408,0.063,0.818,0.11900000000000001,0.9775,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,6,0,3,7,10,14,0,1,35,0,41,1,0,1,2,57,69,29,0,12,8,6,6,2,0,5,0,6,2,0,14,25,0,0,6,0,2,3,3,2,1,1,22,12,46,12,47,33,8,48,0,1,0,1,44,18,0,2,26,224,60,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142853874211082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876798161660207,0.0,0.05906141813673906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111936021967684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660008943931799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501906166437301,0.0,0.0,0.040541132662589234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299358075244655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0317851849948728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03284307842286185,0.0,0.0,0.052726109362116164,0.0,0.06930616347151274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262496245281213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085064229132876,0.0,0.04213543012480122,0.1328354329341236,0.06305624510928827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096414699199965,0.0,0.06561215122580763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656234477151833,0.0,0.06428119805287545,0.0,0.06142291566743239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032709371258743,0.0,0.0534434767343071,0.05673588946125779,0.0,0.041961228256022685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322354192274124,0.0,0.2428521005678721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192730546872153,0.0,0.0,0.1434293648763028,0.0,0.0,0.0698014025243019,0.0,0.06000939985272191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179389989965667,0.0499908085761478,0.0,0.6998226231730024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053263219380252885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04449442371237,0.13400619000535602,0.0,0.0,0.07200881803362806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133565637667813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04027977223785094,0.0,0.0,0.03665564794543018,0.0,0.059586330027919375,0.06006784325560233,0.0,0.08535906566733402,0.06837638340256763,0.0,0.0,0.07561588595543592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483118003795495,0.04989735190402575,0.05042453137349467,0.0,0.056520965768687426,0.11654839394257452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059723760842255,0.0,0.13729401598965846,0.063839952681835,0.0,0.08931147825955793,0.0,0.0,0.16192563835609047
parenting,triptrapfun,2020/02/13,"Not saying ""thank you"" to mom I'm mom. I teach my kids (12) to say thank you to everyone else in the world. At this age they usually remember to say thank you without my prompting.  However, I notice that often they don't say ""thank you"" to me. Should I remind them to tell me ""thank you""? Seems a little self-centered on my part. At the same time, I would like them to recognize my efforts for the same reasons I want them to acknowledge other's efforts. Because when someone does something nice you can return the kindness by being polite and showing appreciation.

It is our tradition that near Valentine's I set up a ""candy bar,"" meaning I place a variety of dishes of candy on the breakfast bar and they are allowed to get a Dixie cup full each day. They asked me for weeks if I was going to do this again this year. All week I have. I refresh the candy and swap it out every night. Nothing... No thanks all week.

I'm not incredibly hurt, or anything. I just don't want to raise brats. I mean I do all the parenting stuff and don't expect them to express appreciation for cooking, cleaning, chauffeuring. 

Do your tween, young teens show appreciation appropriately? Should I remind them, or is that worse than their offense?",3.685851063829791,5.700946468085108,4.759308510638299,81.86875,73.68085106382978,7.253191489361702,27.49468085106383,8.07648339933343,1.8621106382978725,960,37,180,15,20,314,138,235,0.076,0.809,0.115,0.8855,3,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,1,7,10,2,4,11,1,0,11,0,16,5,0,2,3,32,32,8,0,7,7,3,0,1,0,3,0,4,1,1,10,6,5,0,6,5,0,1,7,2,0,0,1,4,39,9,28,27,8,27,0,1,0,0,29,12,0,5,14,126,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862361316307807,0.0,0.1006800650019284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656497274955966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945421230134953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424441220818837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899651547898781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073748205286936,0.10290696051046984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05626606835078083,0.0,0.061205415227094426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528947041038813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214752239186927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05261422097452168,0.10793844422776598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346223358356289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25226160794425656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106423895089313,0.0,0.10333602894571986,0.1226112006450467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958228868944465,0.11662293276478995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251810491463646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072815215501768,0.0,0.0,0.1219971718172369,0.0,0.0,0.3425727900461816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980412668418659,0.11234912440671817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124942259206166,0.08290868948857942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232847370576194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412996906628507,0.594905207125702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279768194031599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118610565643419,0.0,0.12704232212858355,0.0,0.25915872674488943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038139077355986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975016337816408,0.0765032692057811,0.0,0.0,0.06935189599298912
parenting,throwawaycat9420,2020/02/13,"Argueing about when to cut 1.5 year olds hair Wife won’t give a timeline for when is acceptable to cut hair. Husband (who successfully cuts and styles his own hair) is tired of having an unkept wild haired child and wants to at least Cut his bangs because putting them up with a hair tie is unacceptable to him. 

What did y’all do about a babies first haircut? If anyone did have similar fights about it how did you resolve it?",8.23897590361446,6.859439614457834,7.2880421686747,79.76893072289158,62.49397590361446,10.709638554216868,34.003012048192765,9.516144504307137,2.7605445783132536,340,11,69,5,4,104,63,83,0.187,0.727,0.087,-0.8105,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,2,1,3,6,9,6,0,4,0,10,6,5,1,0,9,12,6,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,6,0,1,3,5,6,3,12,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,5,45,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27014256445288115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355133351831384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286262677058299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706189161346897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4054058243246192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883850983249132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44404864647696624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22787726724319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487945791957559
parenting,conflictedmomof1,2020/02/13,"Daughter is in kindergarten—her mid-year interim report indicates she’s in doubt of promotion. Made a throwaway for this so that I could... vent more fully.

My daughter, aged five, is in kindergarten. Among other, slightly unrelated life stressors having to do with parenting, her father and I just learned her promotion is in doubt. She’s in kindergarten.

Her father and I literally sit with her all night working on homework. I’ll admit we’re not the most consistent when it comes to reading together but I’m making a change to that, ordering a ton of books this week, planning a trip to the library, etc.

Otherwise, I’ve bought her practice workbooks, when she was younger I tried ABC Mouse, but despite that nothing seems to help. She was diagnosed with SPD (sensory processing disorder) with some speech delay when she was almost two. Now we think she’s also dyslexic because she writes all of her letters and numbers backwards unless corrected.

Aside from making an appointment to meet with her teacher, as well as potentially hiring a tutor, what can I do?! I feel like nothing I say gets through to her, and I try to be reasonable with her. Also, I feel like they overload her with homework, because I don’t think a kindergarten student should sit and do homework for more than an hour a night, but that’s just me...

I feel like I’m failing her, tbh.",6.729700000000001,7.7065664000000025,6.457350000000003,76.59642500000002,65.0,9.29,36.825,9.354420925462401,3.5510200000000003,1080,53,184,19,16,338,143,250,0.08,0.863,0.057,-0.6648,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,1,5,10,7,0,2,11,0,15,2,0,4,3,45,30,17,0,2,7,5,3,3,0,1,2,2,3,0,9,14,0,1,9,2,1,2,2,3,1,2,5,5,33,4,33,22,8,23,0,1,0,0,31,8,0,6,13,130,42,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512381697242716,0.0,0.0,0.24156276889164285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184137161859085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977334929116693,0.1301019319619172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058790918656928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532957586201971,0.0,0.0,0.17309740292822046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684422053653518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22910113032764498,0.32369495122150105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890873679389608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123452870669793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487375113909808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667938265121793,0.2213619239544824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291148926702074,0.201631983054198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834692973723931,0.0,0.2898413110569179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770475741399715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510743080973172,0.0,0.0,0.15528752710430874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010785058758075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749516799244366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355225504209625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20508357831122068,0.0,0.14753772125285378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114991240702133,0.0,0.13579719762425166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995414042921194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726058115436978
parenting,Meghannann,2020/02/13,"Parenting Win!! So ok, for the last 4 1/2 years my MIL has been asking me what size clothes my DD wears and I tell her and she’s totally in denial. No, she’s not that big. So then she comes back with clothes for her a size smaller than she actually wears and wonders why she never wears them, I tel her they don’t fit her and she says, I bought her the size you said. I politely tell her, actually she’s such and such years old, she needs that size. She never understood the baby sized. When she was born I explained baby sizes to her 3 months is 0-3 months old, 6 months is 3-6 months old. If you get her 6 month size and she’s 6 months old, she won’t wear longer than a couple weeks or 3 maybe. So anyway, last night she asked me what size shoe she wears, I said an 8. She looked shocked and was like, no!! Let’s measure her feet. So she traced her foot. It was 6 inches long. She said it’s 6 inches I’ll get her a size 6. I said, that’s not how shoe sizes work. I proceeded to text her a shoe size chart that showed at 6 inches her foot wears a size 8. So anyway, she bought her a pair of shoes. Size 6, came over and I put the shoe on her foot and right away she said, ow!!!! I shoved that shoe on. It was soooo tight. So she said she was gonna go to target and get her a new pair and I suggested she take her to get the right size, what size do they come back with that fits her perfectly?!!? An 8!!!!! Maybe now she’ll even listen to me on clothing sizes. But not likely. Regardless,  haha!!! Parenting WIN after almost 5 years!! Justification 😁😁😁",-0.4757885387704661,1.5687162018072307,1.3426506024096412,100.59870404695707,88.78915662650603,4.850911337658326,14.536916898362682,6.297961479604792,-0.8962046030274946,1177,20,297,12,39,383,144,332,0.031,0.912,0.057,0.8723,3,0,0,0,0,0,61.0,0,2,3,4,16,8,0,0,14,2,14,16,16,2,4,35,40,23,0,3,6,2,1,2,0,3,0,8,0,0,12,16,0,1,4,1,2,5,9,1,0,0,16,10,62,7,20,20,1,49,0,0,1,0,62,15,0,4,31,160,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.17101491192806054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774182636492794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638314449862967,0.0,0.08232473882979427,0.13475343193483236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021742491189327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095899593014184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695323700714213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787419741553499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18311770619992346,0.0,0.04979819797220585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284895951613902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960050415852465,0.0,0.08561639137717189,0.0,0.0,0.07754364095300509,0.07358129265960356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605825994623292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196392900266164,0.0,0.0,0.06497138050266417,0.1351605942253471,0.08462688665564125,0.0,0.08222829565837116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677826002107116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459005266221227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808536580782611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965921001797866,0.5000975099653556,0.06968136542867025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658816279609046,0.0,0.1531728137874118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028592449857679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906617275214299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950234587990244,0.06379062319541227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692791119997759
parenting,Erikt311,2020/02/14,"Favorite fun lies? One of my favorite parts of being a dad is telling my 4 year old things like “tacos are scrambled cows.” and “you don’t need to put a blanket on Pepper (the dog) because she grows her own jackets!”  Things that blow her mind and can’t possibly be true. 

However, she also believes that Yogi and Pepper (dogs) talk likes humans after she goes to bed. 

And that I can tell when she lies because her eyes glow. 

What other fun ones are your favorites?",3.8385714285714254,5.417367111111113,3.977619047619047,89.44500000000002,72.33333333333333,6.0317460317460325,26.190476190476193,6.1826913282559595,0.8543809523809522,360,12,71,2,7,111,68,90,0.054000000000000006,0.713,0.233,0.9555,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,8,1,1,0,1,7,9,6,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,12,5,6,7,2,7,0,0,2,0,14,1,0,0,6,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748688027145424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858329715080033,0.0,0.0,0.2641410607702854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290775559690627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23672425671952224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17383920081283338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460122934084579,0.0,0.31773419949390724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538828468128362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26430334197176764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356836114127307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884393154515985,0.40983336553799626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311511838527572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097593902975215
parenting,JRP_EMPIRE,2020/02/14,5 year old Autistic sex offender Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: 5 Year Old Autistic Sex Offender https://anchor.fm/JRP_EMPIRE/episodes/5-Year-Old-Autistic-Sex-Offender-eaqsm6,18.63212121212121,25.599779181818185,8.724545454545453,45.57348484848487,52.63636363636364,8.387878787878789,39.15151515151515,8.841846274778883,5.03567878787879,170,7,14,3,3,40,16,22,0.217,0.7829999999999999,0.0,-0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,5,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8233877731769266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582583525374164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5053070337204913
parenting,wildfire6994,2020/02/14,"HONESTLY how much screen time does your toddler have? HONESTLY!?

My 4yo has about 3-4 hours a day of TV. 50% of that she is playing and it’s kind of on in the background.

I’m fully aware it’s too much but I don’t know how else to entertain her for the entire 14 hours of the day that she is awake!",-1.4210606060606068,0.5658681060606057,1.0366666666666688,100.69166666666668,95.21212121212122,4.751515151515153,16.424242424242426,6.42735559955562,-0.4638666666666662,229,6,58,3,9,77,50,66,0.0,0.88,0.12,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,5,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,9,7,2,7,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,5,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907752014409143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651270379796661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530886919654444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5967197257993303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154918125313664,0.16650184477939006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44542881494028375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17666154432632322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,killaxjules,2020/02/14,"4 week old activities Hello!

First post here - I was looking for some activities to do with my 4 week old baby. She’s not awake for very long in the day and mostly sleeps. When she’s awake we usually try to do tummy time and put her on the play mat and jingle different toys and rattles beside her head to get her to turn. Doing claps and bicycle feet. She doesn’t do much on her own yet, she doesn’t really reach up to grab or touch stuff yet. We read in the evenings. Other than those things are there other things we could be doing with her?! It seems very limited! Looking for any suggestions :)

Thanks everyone!",2.261693989071034,4.519202737704919,3.3668032786885256,89.03222677595629,79.0,7.017486338797814,20.002732240437158,8.07648339933343,0.8477355191256826,482,12,100,9,12,155,82,122,0.018000000000000002,0.895,0.08800000000000001,0.8257,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,3,0,11,3,3,0,0,17,17,7,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,14,2,16,14,4,19,0,0,2,0,14,5,0,4,12,69,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994901535043052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083043990521749,0.0,0.0,0.11375483962780628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842865760863356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650176228999475,0.0,0.0,0.16854506590129506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003445041259475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215477894932364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810236580523075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609669297949935,0.2962408344039902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966453148076004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701763737344125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689297160126308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731736778808382,0.0,0.0,0.17643444862124852,0.0,0.11299784682689222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057584150712073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651410024762215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019205895201444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239318967127206,0.0,0.0,0.2343669927299493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285251248871813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975500174822715,0.1918580961470284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426504780428344,0.2910750266095303,0.0,0.0,0.2829735679779022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BHC_News,2020/02/14,Anderson Elementary student reunited with father returning from overseas deployment WATCH the reunion **[here!](https://www.heraldcourier.com/video/news/anderson-elementary-student-reunited-with-father-returning-from-overseas-deployment/video_23176609-fcc2-5a28-ab8f-de4334527cb6.html)**,22.56068965517241,30.394571965517244,12.713379310344827,14.24455172413795,53.48275862068966,17.49241379310345,71.31724137931035,11.602472056035307,14.804415172413796,253,19,10,11,5,64,19,29,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sadmamabear__,2020/02/14,"My son's father is refusing to take him for the weekend because he is avoiding his landlords, to whom he owes money. I'm so frustrated. My son's father hasn't been working lately so I understand that he is struggling financially, but the fact that he is refusing to take our son because he is trying to avoid alerting his landlords that he's home  really makes my blood boil. He owes his landlord $350 of his monthly rent of $1300 and is literally hiding from them. I offered to send $150 to help and cover some groceries for our son while he's there but he refused that offer. 



I'm at the end of my rope here, I've had less than 24 hours of time away from my son in a month and it's starting to affecting me, my patience and parenting in general. He's only 3 and breaks really help, but on the other hand I feel awful for even feeling like I need time away from my child, like I'm a failure. Everything just sucks right now. No advice needed here, I just don't have many people I can vent to",4.441377893950708,4.738265878640778,5.7123300970873805,82.3317363704257,69.8252427184466,8.66855862584018,29.438386855862586,8.617729084823388,2.0930206123973107,785,28,162,12,13,264,117,206,0.158,0.7509999999999999,0.09,-0.9175,4,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,1,1,9,7,2,3,6,1,12,3,2,2,1,25,27,11,0,2,5,8,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,7,5,1,5,3,1,4,1,3,5,0,0,2,3,22,2,25,25,2,20,0,0,0,0,36,7,1,1,13,93,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683110501290594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236505218018943,0.0,0.0,0.20999195482964486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255362120058027,0.0,0.0,0.11376297367386712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479831218294615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741795580550263,0.12304837489839525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23089784120432766,0.0,0.17277088221315848,0.0,0.16962182135396914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429435564599626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682956431924227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497161640335075,0.17462444575761005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749608382531896,0.0,0.0,0.2554277304827161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099637137184822,0.0,0.0,0.19125226808126294,0.0,0.0,0.11940961094637945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22068286043215335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709211988792872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121912442217716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006276894184736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25900626676495625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20086919614863205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693973415857495,0.0,0.0,0.17930803748012747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539285746140275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thesesharpobjects,2020/02/14,"When does it get easier? Don’t get me wrong, I love my little one to death. She’s been throwing mini tantrums since a year old, but after she turned two it has been wild. Usually 10+ tantrums per day, and it’s very hard to calm her down even with the “distraction” method (oh look, it’s your toy xyz) and I’m starting to lose it. The screaming, kicking, screeching, throwing herself into things...and to top it off most people tell me that there is worse than two, so I’m pretty scared to see what 3 holds if the tantrums are this bad now. She can communicate very well and most defiantly hates the word no. Any suggestions? When does it get less stressful?",2.5730512820512854,4.670859100000005,2.976538461538464,93.01762820512822,77.23076923076924,6.17948717948718,23.14102564102564,7.1686216300943375,0.6587948717948722,513,16,110,6,12,158,95,130,0.301,0.5920000000000001,0.10800000000000001,-0.986,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,2,7,14,4,3,5,0,7,1,0,0,0,11,18,8,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,11,1,3,2,4,10,3,11,16,3,16,0,1,2,1,9,5,0,3,9,62,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175749745234398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436065041098378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150339443873808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30260430634507285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419594978053155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27099253184009725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154880547079687,0.17069866501925804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17328686803922572,0.0,0.0,0.14518880566086564,0.19342601340788265,0.0,0.0,0.1560450793045809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814249061730487,0.0,0.1171585706805354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986407786805195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589703866207065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17309871295634427,0.0,0.13777545248578868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302107280954168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237643478823987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805138911869133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511184235128135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806082484879325,0.337787865228481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904201379198855,0.2853140456221532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545395814705545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619544375184856,0.0,0.18903425757612327,0.0,0.11133913347729886
parenting,mommingcanbefun,2020/02/14,"My son won't take his sister on a trip with him My son (14 years old) and my daughter (12 years old) have been super excited about a mini trip they are going on, actually it's my son's trip but I just expected him to take his sister along. Well his friends have decided they don't want a girl tagging along, so my son told me she can't come. She didn't think he was serious at first because this is pretty unlike him, he's always wanted to include his sister, he's always been the one to stick up for her. 

My daughter cried and said she knows this wasn't his decision and it was his friends, she has since changed her mind to just hating at her brother (I know it won't last but still). He said maybe it was unfair and considered changing his mind. Before he officially changed his mind, she went into his room and deleted some of his video games which he spent a lot of time working at. That of course just eliminated any chance of changing his mind.

I told her I can take her on her own trip with her friends but she really wanted to go with her brother. I asked my son why he didn't want her to come, he said he's her friend everyday and that she doesn't need to come, that it's boy stuff and she wouldn't be interested and this was a boy only trip but he still loves his sister.

Then I found out they actually planned to take two friends from school who are girls but they got kicked as well. 

Yes it's his trip we promised him but I think it's unfair for him to decide his sister can't come after months of her getting excited about it, I considered making him take her but his father is leaving all the planning up to the boys",4.14197908286404,4.5843530088495585,4.760548404397962,88.37707361222851,70.53392330383481,7.933547868061143,26.02855993563957,7.84624498591911,1.176178761061947,1286,36,286,15,22,412,149,339,0.064,0.792,0.14400000000000002,0.9848,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,4,5,10,15,1,0,8,1,25,1,0,1,1,53,59,18,0,7,10,15,0,0,5,3,0,3,1,5,17,20,0,0,8,2,1,13,10,2,2,3,18,3,62,13,37,37,4,37,0,0,0,1,90,11,0,2,13,180,79,2,0.0,0.0,0.16644665550487395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419235900282904,0.0,0.0,0.05799496167517008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972753889430108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051987364154017904,0.0,0.0725690475825446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608699170920639,0.2938529711551213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367872027407882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725411723990647,0.0,0.09350775813560933,0.3294448830752308,0.0,0.04455653810692672,0.0,0.09693591522743956,0.0,0.06820813211131613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419872150447258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373796185752274,0.06951654474381289,0.0,0.09030175591682917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250405327477549,0.07697070257126755,0.0,0.056926669349651335,0.0,0.08567764124097374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444436818674696,0.0,0.06807160416197341,0.0,0.0,0.0632358246791495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789790816128082,0.0,0.05778956656444593,0.06486111400684806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676286818117909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0546340941353866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433692975120922,0.0,0.0,0.08631034957427337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054648891016757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621328186089618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976279531468992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206087852128897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929104656674547,0.0,0.0,0.04972885773636115,0.0,0.0,0.16298199045532288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330852027681197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120709454319416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533582530046754,0.07905764631960657,0.07695410809380666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062086608493617725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983814889409653
parenting,tay0213,2020/02/14,"My daughter’s dad forgot her first birthday My daughter turned 1 yesterday!! Yay!

Her dad whom I left a few months ago asked to FaceTime her. When we got on the phone I was like “baby, tell daddy you’re ONE!!” And he goes “oh shit... is that TODAY?” He straight up forgot her birthday. I was shocked. He didn’t get her a gift, has no party plans, literally nothing...

Meanwhile, the guy I have been seeing brought her a birthday present last night when he came over to see me after he got off work. 

Guess I’m movin on up! But I do feel bad for my poor baby that her dad is like that....

Will it get easier for me to come to terms with her dad not being the kind of person I hoped he would be?",0.03490333196215545,2.2275747692307704,1.6360427807486635,98.31524064171124,88.02097902097903,4.203866721513782,18.20197449609214,5.5289334501034215,-0.5597417523652819,524,14,121,3,17,169,96,143,0.07400000000000001,0.775,0.151,0.894,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,3,2,8,1,0,6,1,13,1,1,0,0,13,30,4,0,2,2,6,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,2,1,0,1,3,3,3,0,2,10,3,20,5,15,16,2,23,0,0,2,0,27,8,1,2,14,68,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985723134849867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179136368573105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999249478786912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191592165712265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506139182639593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688749652067903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16298963163571167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022432758762995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065078205856709,0.0,0.21108812919669367,0.1897313160557539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19031927795810427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953999737053854,0.0,0.1561937262062726,0.0,0.0,0.20819282627413724,0.0,0.0,0.18722912982819756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294715153177033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981991527241048,0.0,0.1838620283742066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984488470781766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731289091578805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053884600959333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966924701745944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748202171015725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181630855513074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20842466734365464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949972289138068,0.0,0.0,0.13611947736855146,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonjane199701,2020/02/14,"Vacation Help! So every summer my husband and I like to plan a siblings retreat with his older sister and his younger brother. 

Last year we did a local water park. This year we will have a 3 month old in August and still want to do something. 

So we are thinking a trip to Schlitterbahn in Galveston Texas. We bought season passes last summer before finding out we were expecting and we would love to use them! 

So we'd be doing 2 beach days and 1 park day. I'm not a fan of water slides so I am fine watching the baby at the park. 

We plan to ask the doc before taking baby to the water park and if it's a ""no-go"" I'll happily relax at the Hotel and maybe let baby splash around in the pool while they are at the park. 

Any advice on taking baby to the park though? I tried to do some research but couldn't find much info on taking a 3-4 month old! 

I know some of the lazy rivers are a little rough so those are a maybe and I know they have a heated pool and some kid splash areas. But advice welcomed!",1.5906015037594017,3.3616981904761936,3.2738596491228087,91.27657894736844,79.0,5.18295739348371,18.671679197994987,5.750287758089431,-0.2395238095238099,780,16,165,4,19,259,120,210,0.024,0.8809999999999999,0.095,0.8772,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,8,0,3,2,8,5,0,0,19,0,18,4,0,1,0,37,30,19,0,5,4,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,19,3,0,6,5,1,3,2,0,0,0,3,2,19,5,21,21,4,33,0,0,1,1,21,13,0,4,18,104,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905543059919995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109968879139998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234649860038955,0.13898499348037438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530119139513007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19175778727800208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525963656561093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271760660132314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449174358537008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964937232987907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340865651081368,0.2423693657672308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202362998571392,0.0,0.07263192727357508,0.14900490943257208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417913989832356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987150130164564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23733158183130046,0.0,0.10928846511736268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120051971509889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445228673437872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118726868745288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33534066552566844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526078194060612,0.14606606192309454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093616335730823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840186419101504,0.0,0.0,0.08768854247578511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560984810239403,0.0,0.0,0.19147529974782154
parenting,discoduck007,2020/02/14,"Parenting videos from the 90's Looking for a popular pediatric doctors show that aired during the late 80's early 90's if I remember. This show was all about baby driven parenting and was a real source of calm in my new mom life. Unable to find any reference to it but would be thrilled to death with anyone who remembers or could point my way to a source to watch it again! My daughter has become a mom and I know it would do her wonders, being able to share this with her would be amazing.",5.422121212121213,5.628469343434343,5.982373737373737,81.5602272727273,67.68686868686869,9.42828282828283,29.631313131313128,9.2995712137729,2.378749494949496,391,13,78,7,6,127,70,99,0.051,0.8,0.149,0.8534,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,6,0,11,3,0,0,1,19,15,5,1,5,3,5,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,6,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,7,5,13,5,1,9,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,3,4,51,14,1,0.17279593060869775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175071582388574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082293238710586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083952947051994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379634900582024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768639569685142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793235011412127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496412445855457,0.0,0.194921336187575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205087597169904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510506194411996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047530110207685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668873865414775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837388638425152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334800700587396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966795988762543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914882096522284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715736672866016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873898157642295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682478140409079,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2ffish,2020/02/14,"Grandma can’t handle my toddler So I’m a single parent who’s in nursing school and my son (2.5 yrs old) goes to a head start program from 7:45-2:45. Then he spends evenings with grandma. Today his teacher called  me to talk about his problems with biting/hitting when he’s exited or frustrated (he is speech delayed and we are thinking this is why he acts like that). Does anyone have tips on how to deal with this? 

It’s also become a huge problem because my mom (grandma) will not help me reinforce that this behavior is negative. She’s very easy on him and gives him whatever he wants (candy, not enforcing brushing teeth or toilet training, etc). It sucks that I have to rely on her to help me so much but at this point idkkk what to do. How can I manage a toddler with a full time demanding program and a support system that isn’t consistent with what is good for my child?",4.0910715873721655,5.529265959537575,4.8104046242774565,84.27682525566921,71.485549132948,7.4040017785682535,28.914628723877282,7.882392219407189,1.8858843041351718,693,27,132,9,13,223,115,173,0.10099999999999999,0.8240000000000001,0.075,-0.1334,1,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,8,7,2,0,6,0,12,2,2,2,0,22,19,14,0,3,5,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,13,10,0,1,1,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,0,2,16,3,19,18,4,18,0,0,0,0,23,9,1,2,8,88,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518435382392562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276551261956104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574647163677795,0.20970280606211603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938843312693445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19575352159695225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616151506967886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176161019226755,0.12541111697674318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214608455644066,0.0,0.1592587385842307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194867259596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545393746120513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276368186184956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238013898021394,0.0,0.0,0.1395804956562853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924261914971886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108345078352714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949392103839495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633708261056141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216435746506152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439500619698155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546870778200586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526149048942843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166468936677095,0.0,0.0,0.11071805457300216,0.0,0.1799799733361028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566673477447964,0.11199361441304387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133329674928202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FailureToLaunch33,2020/02/14,"My Adult Son REFUSES to move out. HELP!!! My 33 year old son is living in my husband’s home that we intend to rent out in a neighboring town. My son has lived there for almost 10 years rent free (until about 6 months ago, he is now late on payments). He has been off and on attending online university for computer science and hasn’t had a job in 5+ years. We live in an expensive area. I have tried to ask him to leave and told him that this is an extreme financial burden. He is resentful of the fact that his father died when he was young and I didn’t do enough for him. I went to therapy with him as a teenager. I paid for his education and first few years of university.  I feel guilty and I have enabled him but I am fed up. He doesn’t answer my phone calls or texts and he has a temper. What specific actions to I need to take to get him out? How can I keep myself and my family safe in the process? I am afraid of getting him in legal trouble. We love him and want the best for him. All advice welcome.",1.5004096325719942,3.2086550141509456,3.400258192651439,90.55785004965244,79.04716981132076,6.915988083416088,22.006951340615693,7.85451343220497,0.8541377358490561,781,23,177,13,19,263,129,212,0.075,0.7979999999999999,0.127,0.9403,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,3,5,10,2,1,9,0,19,2,0,2,2,30,32,15,1,2,2,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,5,16,1,3,2,0,5,4,3,5,0,1,8,1,31,6,33,24,4,32,0,0,0,1,35,15,0,2,13,117,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156819715519086,0.14225630603774905,0.0,0.16069806833907235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002763125193186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841441422929926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638685628159743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655345240069847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581928551355524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128676025510496,0.0,0.08114377731730807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650465590939775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768890553189955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756671574406064,0.0,0.16097505527933956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925216239141782,0.14264246773017847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102902665039372,0.16992570855665026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42512174150155735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483994291951838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809402710247228,0.1705654050011167,0.0,0.11899427874542595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839731936046987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206613856921336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352347082545314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334602261556118,0.0,0.10895574491136208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946555738582966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876705808526333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133767962290932
parenting,MisguidedSpacetuna,2020/02/14,"My fiancé’s little sister needs help and no one will listen to me. We are all very close and I am considered family. She is 8 years old, she’s been exhibiting very weird behavior.

Meowing, constantly purring wanted to be pet and treated like a kitten and called one too. Routinely practices her “jumping” and “raming” asks people to watch her “ram things”.  Her teacher in school condones it and pets her like a kitten. 

Has a friend (boy) who she only talks to, they only talk to each other and the boy has no other friends, his parents are “poly” (which is fine) and very open about it even to the children. She came home after a play date and told us “Blake asked me to lay my head on his lap while he pet me like a little kitty while I purred” and everyone seemed to be okay with that? 

She doesn’t have an attention span, her father was speaking to her about a very important topic and she stopped listening to him like a light switch and was almost seemingly hypnotized by me cutting something with a knife while I was cooking. Complete shut down like I’ve never seen it before just one second listening to father next second turned him off completely. 
 

She cannot remember anything, she can’t remember where things are put down or what she was just talking about just a mere few seconds before, she cannot have a long conversation, she almost nods off it seems. She has no concept of time or where she is at any given moment, yesterday I parked the car in the driveway and I  was talking to her sister about unlocking the front door, sister gets our unlocks the front door. For 2 minutes we sat in the car and I said “are you going to go inside?” She looked around and said oh I didn’t even know we were home... after we pulled into the driveway into the garage and sat there for minutes. 

She will not play with toys or watch tv, she can only be satisfied with her cell phone and will have a mental breakdown if her phone is apart from her for more than a few minutes. 


She was born with FAS and has a bio mother who was a drug addict and I understand these are reasons for these behaviors but I’d like to know if I’m being too critical or if I need to speak up. 

A concerned uncle who just wants answers.  Thank you.",5.818694960212199,6.004232468965519,5.908793103448279,82.49878647214854,66.83908045977012,8.89920424403183,28.91467727674624,8.617729084823388,1.9918099027409368,1744,53,343,24,26,552,228,435,0.028999999999999998,0.9,0.071,0.9304,1,0,2,0,0,0,36.0,6,2,1,0,16,16,1,0,25,1,39,4,1,1,2,68,69,30,0,7,13,7,0,6,2,3,2,7,9,3,16,35,1,1,11,5,0,10,10,2,0,6,18,12,55,14,47,44,5,49,0,0,4,0,76,22,0,12,23,239,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975691992768793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326352310890698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062228386336298874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530305514829587,0.08146126999613522,0.1710947278401598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557326567199804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343961149888594,0.10466045173181636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918882031340652,0.09888733470453892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106119901380166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087996973483164,0.0,0.0,0.08743954625505893,0.0,0.0,0.08626533277793583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139727223442222,0.0,0.04780900593840641,0.0,0.1040118901435266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391331889118856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061335694636093625,0.0,0.18357940495523647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058049762182322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682362933909129,0.18342954723247512,0.0,0.08098145106209123,0.07684343651351562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221825714049736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570362716916262,0.07057639357827276,0.0,0.09731949648025184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602195703740098,0.0,0.1860239943525605,0.20878722965079172,0.0,0.0,0.10160849189674276,0.0,0.0,0.06343992993109543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199053143217714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408517493926773,0.0,0.0,0.20732081280380152,0.0,0.17408959020498366,0.0,0.0,0.09261069622239976,0.0,0.24991556968738904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044711216347108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650454989269752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29420175068094473,0.0,0.08424801250535241,0.0,0.0,0.12158732379309595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335888639109186,0.0,0.0,0.08743954625505893,0.0,0.0,0.0995341203419158,0.0,0.09526276188044497,0.11007251799407562,0.0,0.0,0.3020138040448085,0.107947246201895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058927970347914825
parenting,Greasfire11,2020/02/14,Irrational Fear: Learning her name Anyone else have that irrational fear that your kid will never learn their name because you call them 90 different nicknames- none of them their actual name?,5.9728125,9.716295656250004,4.123750000000001,79.74625000000002,76.8125,8.200000000000001,26.75,8.841846274778883,2.962912500000001,159,6,23,4,4,45,25,32,0.28600000000000003,0.7140000000000001,0.0,-0.8807,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,1,14,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.2896008516673871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750571936568524,0.30407188409339203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090582702642904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30303131317742943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100573544101021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479099510643856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6678886147554064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22888426955420385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alexzandria1111,2020/02/14,Needing Ideas My overly active 3 year old son broke his leg. He is in a cast but cant walk on it and cannot use crutches. I'm looking for ideas to keep him busy since he has the attention span of a gnat but cannot run around for the next 6 weeks.,1.7185714285714262,2.2453080000000014,3.145000000000003,97.45000000000002,76.14285714285714,6.314285714285715,21.142857142857142,5.985473137389443,-0.18187857142857133,192,4,50,1,4,63,48,56,0.038,0.925,0.037000000000000005,-0.0129,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,1,0,10,10,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,8,10,0,11,0,1,1,0,5,5,0,0,4,24,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502386719440469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6346555597141844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498546709325204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23605327417153124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084321509007436,0.0,0.0,0.2989531289487257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949672526299619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325288947625605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427802194247465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22548153214452485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810192382333345
parenting,probably_not_serious,2020/02/14,"When the hell is my kid going to talk? He’s 2 and a half now. He has had Early Intervention coming 4 times a week for the better part of a year now, and while he’s certainly better than he was I can’t say for sure if it’s anything they’ve done or just his natural progression. 

He will sometimes copy words we say (though not well enough for us to be sure) but anytime we try to get him to do it on purpose he stops what he’s doing, scowls at us and then walks away. Even if he wanted us to give him a cookie or play with him - if we try to get him to say even a single word half the time he scowls and walks off. 

If he’s excited and happy sometimes he’ll stay, but he won’t ever make a proper attempt at the word. If I say to him, “son, say cookie,” he’ll cut me off before I finish and just go “duh-duh.” He sort of matches the syllables a lot of the time but not always. It’s like he knows we want him to talk but he doesn’t want to try and actually do it. 

The worst part is our other son is over a year, and although he’s a lot further along developmentally than his brother was at that age I’m worried bad habits might rub off. 

We’ve had his hearing checked - he did better than I did (he was on my lap during the test and he heard sounds I didn’t). We’ve also had people tell us it’s because we’re a multi-lingual family, but that’s mostly just my wife when she talks to her family on the phone. I don’t really speak her language well so they don’t hear much besides English.

I know I’m probably worrying for nothing. He seems bright. I’m sure once it starts I’ll forget all about the worrying. I just wish I was there already.",1.9408628064684381,2.9176039042253517,3.863974960876373,90.778080333855,76.1549295774648,6.8367240479916545,21.880542514345333,7.242747475848597,0.4741027647365681,1266,31,298,14,27,431,173,355,0.109,0.7959999999999999,0.095,-0.7907,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,9,0,1,5,18,18,2,0,20,0,26,0,0,1,6,58,49,29,0,9,18,4,1,1,0,5,0,10,0,1,10,16,0,1,3,1,1,5,8,4,2,2,12,12,35,14,35,31,10,36,1,0,1,0,63,12,1,13,19,181,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.08377368664654854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473361871715036,0.06865132173858897,0.07143106794618091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064425889986324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065550303458084,0.0,0.07167814427997662,0.052331158484481236,0.0,0.07304894933428738,0.0,0.0,0.2277724494858175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394905788595296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785065538070737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887022621711503,0.0,0.11340145311419456,0.07765296852587524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618566601539877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897023842288108,0.08235167330337946,0.09757695596139053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138507136849497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19351022629020068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435785440949616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04194020662979737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596705043359298,0.0,0.0,0.0573031274850665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910694465283394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310696936363948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237192010093451,0.0,0.0,0.09142359653028838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592653496843767,0.0,0.059515073137678814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255692081103024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549953913875054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34134244825273835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815132322468712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698085364118624,0.0,0.060762511974337886,0.09150082241173196,0.0,0.07177142041572981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427276010327199,0.0,0.0,0.20700021336751856,0.07503352286843053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434363576201202,0.0,0.15017314944515855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485217754222976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130505166686751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519032632845281,0.0,0.06886079053835545,0.0,0.15437241671100546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871910418853032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615435080818497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056451256867147
parenting,Yana_Go,2020/02/14,"*****When do Toddlers Stop taking Naps?  There is no way of telling how well a toddler will nap or a specific age, although there are some things that one can do to promote healthy napping.  [READ MORE](https://medium.com/toddlers-life/when-do-toddlers-stop-taking-naps-9659981492da)",5.1418333333333335,8.599816822222222,2.5993055555555564,86.44562500000002,91.88888888888887,4.916666666666668,32.29166666666667,6.6274283507984215,2.4161666666666672,227,12,33,3,8,61,36,45,0.105,0.718,0.177,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,4,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,22,2,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502952429495293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401237901886828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544563130092161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5925223533937365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664349336735556,0.0,0.3097266244411774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354213159144673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812748057263269,0.0,0.0,0.31861257280006633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DontknowwhtIdontknow,2020/02/14,"Request about Facebook to co-parent’s mom [Co-parent’s Mom], I know [child’s name] is currently your background Facebook picture and I wanted to ask if you would mind changing the picture to one that doesn’t show her face, pretty please. Posting kids pictures as a profile or background sets those pictures as public and puts the child(ren) at risk from human traffickers, pedophiles, and potential abductors. 

I love that you’re proud of her and involved in her life. That’s why I’m asking you to please help me protect her. You can still post pictures of her, just please do it as friends only so you know they’re only visible to people you trust.

Thank you! 🙏🏻 
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Figured I would pass it along in case any other parents are dealing with Family members posting their child’s pictures as public on Facebook.",6.301258278145696,7.433572139072852,5.771847682119205,80.57604966887419,66.01986754966886,7.629403973509934,34.96754966887417,7.554174236665415,2.613296158940397,647,30,110,6,10,198,98,151,0.013000000000000001,0.7829999999999999,0.203,0.9814,4,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,7,1,1,4,6,0,1,3,0,7,3,1,0,0,17,15,11,0,4,3,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,7,6,0,1,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,18,5,19,13,0,12,0,0,0,1,31,4,0,2,2,64,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877301415516627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715728780672661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365218115304313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497433905379686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692604673254918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221755531659787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735607479466192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964802400056724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259232782651537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109118576864046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466581737535625,0.34022331478424217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984231993851766,0.22093394139308972,0.0,0.0,0.16127972456434722,0.0,0.0,0.100696056349957,0.0,0.0,0.4783131229894593,0.0,0.0,0.4173197382787164,0.14776852608338747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601346103026902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159945280481858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337240224543918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567050750351457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106292320048282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063587563175579,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stepstumbleskip,2020/02/14,"Difference of opinion on parenting an intelligent toddler. I stay home with my 2.5 and 1.5 year old boys. My 2.5 year old is seeming to take after his father. By this, I mean that he is highly intelligent. My husband was a member of Mensa, before leaving it about 10 years ago...well before we met. He felt that there was a stigma attached. 

My 2 year old can read and do basic multiplication. My husband could do much of the same. My in laws put my husband in gifted programs, and pushed him hard to reach his ""full potential."" My husband said he despised it. He didn't learn to swim or ride a bike until he was in his 20s, because his parents didn't want to waste time with trivial things. 

He seems to be going in the opposite direction of his parents. He gets upset with me for buying our son books on his reading level. He is also upset that I printed multiplication worksheets for our son to work on. My son requested it, and I don't see the harm. My husband has no issues with me working with our 1.5 year old. He also doesn't mind me teaching our 2 year old to finger paint or how to stack items or anything else my husband seems (age appropriate.)

Hubs wants our two year old to be more than his IQ. He wants him to be a kind and considerate human. He wants him to be like the other kids, and not some ""ostracized outcast with poor social skills and an inability to relate to others.""
What is the compromise?",3.3687660306537417,5.1649787949640285,4.659164842039413,83.18688301532687,74.0,6.9930559899906175,26.115733500156388,7.7425588080867325,1.4923420081326246,1107,39,214,15,23,366,152,278,0.068,0.858,0.07400000000000001,0.5362,4,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,0,0,3,6,6,1,2,11,0,20,1,1,1,0,36,35,14,0,5,4,13,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,11,14,0,0,7,5,2,5,6,4,0,1,8,5,34,2,37,22,6,33,0,0,1,0,47,10,0,8,18,136,45,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171819135130537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474437816672963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586202582480299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619632448857439,0.0,0.1568886521614614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360379844708508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963157681811624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701038868098757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885139531272083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04816388971224397,0.0,0.05239198250732164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258142249307135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974006008106687,0.09247105268298857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621925127527388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599854865118622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976126960843037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0450378995829967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041864162932468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308256549090506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776803400790912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5804083382944353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070881794016199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267337238047113,0.0,0.0,0.18442384479067228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769092410627588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346108381867412,0.25177068001170083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939730119292092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825904979240936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931313260789249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124493009875756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375496663996037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005327956749043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21749706603424174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422643190625258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155577273290132
parenting,elynn1620,2020/02/14,"Aggressive and tantrum prone 4 year old (almost 5) My 4 yo daughter is a very sweet and calm child that listens and behaves at school, out in public, around extended family, etc. She's very intelligent and very loving. Home is a different story most mornings. 

Over the past 6 months or so my daughter has had trouble getting dressed in the morning. It really became unbearable after she has a small surgery with anesthesia to remove a cyst on her face in December about 2 months ago. She screams that her pants don't feel good and will throw a tantrum about it most mornings while pulling her pants back down. This has become such a problem that we recently saw her PCP who said it could be a phase, but gave us a referral for Occupational Therapy to evaluate her, which we are on a wait list for. I am thinking SPD, but her actions seem to be isolated to getting dressed only. 

This happens almost every day. Some days are better, some are worse. Today she screamed and cried for 15 minutes while trying to get ready to get out of the house. She punched me, told me she hated me, and continued to hit me. Sometimes she even throws things. It's like this rage takes her over and she can't control it. The kicker is that this happens nowhere else but home with my husband and I. We try empathy and just trying to help her, but she won't have it most of the time. I try not to give her a big reaction when she uses hurtful words and hits me, because after she does it I can tell in her expressions that she's waiting for me to react. 

This is kind of a vent, but I'm also wondering if anyone has been through something similar and if there are any resources you can share with me to help while we wait for her appointment with OT. 

It's hard when I say something to other parents about it and they say ""oh that's normal"", but no one else sees it in action. I'm just so tired all the time from this.",5.1345800000000015,5.7152568613333345,5.3874833333333365,84.26682500000003,68.38666666666667,8.596666666666668,30.825,8.59863814320734,2.210700000000001,1493,57,302,22,24,473,208,375,0.129,0.799,0.07200000000000001,-0.9699,2,0,2,0,1,0,37.0,5,1,1,2,15,18,5,0,17,0,25,4,1,3,1,58,53,30,0,5,12,4,2,1,0,2,2,6,2,1,26,24,0,4,4,0,0,6,5,10,0,1,6,11,45,8,45,40,7,43,0,1,2,1,50,16,0,12,22,204,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933889070774162,0.0,0.21099123672810047,0.0,0.0,0.08425060196250915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716435216891866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366513246309027,0.0,0.0,0.09378633461996844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100980579956023,0.0,0.06422209350173005,0.1163538985512982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317599668232188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816213175672233,0.0841156440206737,0.0,0.11572511187027228,0.13588769022096742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007126046258063,0.0,0.0,0.09219495165849444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17601750390207502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749622893492545,0.06958453563847236,0.0,0.08876428400867001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931725059526156,0.0,0.05326954488601556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22016997422211412,0.10106401264711062,0.0,0.08836493636212205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632627918588535,0.0,0.09437542197148853,0.10401408598378513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123153202894564,0.0,0.21135491139879534,0.0,0.0,0.12156299472538165,0.11278235921021168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970873671213767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147006008780556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950850218676408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681832113800346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322338266885857,0.0,0.0,0.11055004904786256,0.0,0.0713897888019672,0.08012555735723392,0.0,0.0,0.11698182488083453,0.0,0.10057117551944633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008084084117368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749170609131458,0.0,0.10402318738547772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002146453252717,0.16756156188896665,0.0,0.10662266554049923,0.08395254737167958,0.09590923902264033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622114763172046,0.1041966203181663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921219979692681,0.0,0.09208299722333796,0.0,0.12048011677524607,0.0,0.06999172389128452,0.0675058249800591,0.0,0.0,0.12286413836320607,0.1210875540070146,0.0998621427727163,0.1006691222035236,0.0,0.2861105625610089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672645547441927,0.09099099959725596,0.0,0.2607812984686448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425062550442798,0.0,0.0,0.107363511216027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784375379597347
parenting,got_h2o,2020/02/14,"I don’t want him to starve Hi everyone, 

I (29F) have a 1.5 year old son who is beyond what I would consider to be a “normal” picky eater. I cannot get him to eat more than a handful of goldfish or Cheerios for meals or snack... and it’s a battle to get any protein or fruit&veggies into him. This has been going on since Day 1 with him. I have anxiety over meal times. When I went to his pediatrician with this concern, she said, “kids will eat when they are hungry, and stop when they aren’t, and the formula will take care of the rest”....I’m about to get a second opinion. 

What do you think? Any tricks to get your little ones to eat the good stuff? Help!

Thank you!",1.9838077858880787,3.7106989562043817,3.0741788321167896,93.35657238442823,77.68613138686132,6.318491484184915,20.175790754257907,7.1686216300943375,0.22474257907542586,515,12,117,6,12,165,93,137,0.081,0.818,0.10099999999999999,0.5638,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,3,2,0,5,5,2,0,8,0,14,7,1,0,0,15,26,9,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,7,6,6,1,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,2,3,2,17,3,19,19,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,4,8,77,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895996625273733,0.0,0.2379959794829944,0.0,0.13386550881842366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17841215195346274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285292504926565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5371699026734146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720874251870455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656964888958448,0.0,0.09944983764646713,0.14677181610846127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117290914818981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538416681652771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145130141983853,0.0,0.0,0.18362069999282465,0.0,0.11857654614410668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645386847537388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475206330250834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462979868079695,0.0,0.0,0.2003196455603832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156936337844535,0.0,0.0,0.1611056419440769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212538522768953,0.0,0.0,0.10203703790533668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321258554524797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221583244454946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430661034991038,0.0,0.0,0.11268667603000368
parenting,midlifecrackers,2020/02/14,"Out of my depth with 21 year old and yo-yo relationship Pardon, but this is a long one:

Backstory- Oldest daughter, 21, has been something of a challenge emotionally for a few years. She's got mild Ehler's-Danlos, so struggles with pain, fatigue and weakness. Staying active and healthy keeps it under control. Also has some generalized anxiety, depression etc. She's on meds for the mental, and has access to therapy but flakes out of it most times (and in our state i can't make appointments or anything for her) None of these things disable her, but of course make life a little challenging. She's a bit dramatic, a bit clingy, and has very little verbal filter.

She's struggled to hold down a job because of not only the physical/mental stuff, but also because she simply won't set a sleep schedule, and just doesn't care about being late to work, calling out at the last minute, etc. She's lost 3 of the last 4 jobs she's held (4th one was a contract that ended and did not get renewed). When she is employed, she spends all of her money very fast without saving, and then when she's unemployed, she can't pay us her portion of car insurance and call phone. We put up with it for a while and then insisted she have a savings with the new job.

She was in a long distance relationship for 3 yrs (LDR due to our moving cross-country in 2017) and was struggling with the lack of direct intimacy as well as some other things with him. When we moved here she made no attempt at putting down roots or making friends, although we tried encouraging her. She started crushing on a guy (her weekend shift manager) at work late last year, and that situation made her realize that she wasn't as devoted to LDR as she thought, so she broke it off. 

Her and I had a long talk afterwards, about how she hasn't been out of a relationship, more or less, since age 14, and that maybe it was time to evaluate herself, spend some time just being single and finding herself, etc. She brought up many of those points herself, and it seemed like all was going to go well. Also the crush is a guy- also 21- who has a 1 year old child, and at the time lived with his ex (the child's mom). We advised her that maybe the situation was volatile and complex, and did she want to be with a dude who'd flirt knowingly with someone in a long term relationship AND someone he's ""above"" at work. Again, she agreed.

And then, she hooked up with the crush that night. She came home late, covered in hickeys, telling me far more than i'd ever want to know about my child's sex life. She's on birth control, but i asked her if she used protection and she just sort of stared at me. Not how she was raised.

So for the next few weeks, she and he waffle between ""we are just casual, don't want a relationship"" and ""we want to be together"". She took to hanging out with the kid and even babysitting her. The situation with sleepovers was awkward to say the least, since the ex still lived in the apt and there's only one bedroom. This whole time, we'd hear how wonderful this guy was, how awful the ex was, etc etc. We tried so hard to validate her emotions while also cautioning her against the whole situation. We even wondered if he and the ex were \*truly\* broken up, and that set her against us all. He doesn't have a car, so she drives him around. She'd leave and come back at odd hours, and we had to institute a curfew simply to not hear the door shutting in the wee hours of the morning. We've never had a curfew before because all of the kids have just been basically responsible. She also was neglecting her chores (we only ask our full-time employed kids to do 5 chores per week unless they are also going to school).

Although we are not in support of this dude, we offered to meet him or have some sort of event where he could come mingle with the family, whatever was comfortable. Supposedly he's still too raw from ex drama, doesn't want to meet us yet since we resent him, etc. While i know we haven't been as much of a cheerleader as she'd want for this, i think his perception of our perception is colored by her bias discussing us. 

Early January, we told her that she needed to begin paying a small amount of rent. She said no prob, gave us the money, then announced the next day that she was moving out. She took a bin of clothes and shacked up with the guy. Things got super weird with the ex, cops got called, there's now a restraining order against him and he hasn't seen his kid since January. We've of course only heard one side of this story and how he's just a total victim, etc. 

She lived with him, slowly moving her stuff out instead of the fast move she'd promised us. During this time they again vacillated between the titles of couple, FWB, and roommates. She also lost her job due to flaking out on shifts and timeliness, but never slowed down spending on meals out, clothes, etc. The apartment is in the ex's name, so ex starting calling the cops when our daughter was there alone, which led to daughter randomly showing up at our house odd hours, which led to fights with our 18 yr old. Her and the guy started apartment hunting together, although she had no money to put towards a deposit. To be fair, she's happy spending time with him, i'm happy to see her get out of the house and hike and stuff. So it isn't all bad. But i also know that things progressed the way they did because she pushed hard for what she wanted, and he capitulated.

This week she showed up unannounced (as usual) and says the guy isn't ready for a relationship or a roommate, and can she sleep here again (since her sister already took over her old bedroom). She said her only intention was to have a place to crash while she saves up enough to get her own place. Oh, and she can't afford insurance or cell bill this month, no apologies or anything. We asked her how she plans on saving when she isn't employed, and she said she starts a temp job next week. She doesn't want to ""move back in"", just sleep here 4 nights a week and she'll store her clothes in her car. Her idea, not ours. Our house is very cramped.

We agreed to cover her insurance for this month only, and let her stay here again, but we laid down some boundaries:

* 12am curfew. Once you're here, you're here, no leaving in the middle of the night.
* One chore per day or more while you're unemployed, back to the 5 per week after.
* Communicate with us when you're coming and going.
* Get a job and stay employed. AND/OR go to school and keep up classes.
* Stop spending your money and sit down with us to work on savings and a budget.
* Stop getting in the middle of any drama with your sisters and us parents (she's kind of a busybody)
* Get into therapy (we pay of course)

She was here 2 nights and then left last night again at 1:30. We've asked her if she's ok being just this guy's booty call, and how that makes her and him feel, and she just shrugs us off. She claims to have all of these lofty intentions, but that she can't fulfill any of them when we treat her like a child. But she's acting like a child!   


I'm at my wit's end. When she was gone, the household was so peaceful. Now everything is just in this weird emotional limbo, with everyone resenting her and vice versa. She's a very ""huggy"" person and constantly hovers around me wanting hugs, but it's hard to dole out lots of affection when i feel so trampled (but of course i still do, within reason)

We can't kick her out (i think) she has no friends other than this dude, no money, nowhere to go. I want to cut off her cell phone but then she'll struggle with work stuff and job apps. I have no recourse for anything disciplinary, and shouldn't have to at her age. Are our stipulations out of line? Am i overreacting? Should we abandon the rules or maybe make them even tougher? It's like i can't make a decision. My husband wants a resolution as well, and we're having a family meeting this weekend to deal with it.

I want to write up a contract with our rules and have her sign it, but it seems petty. But i'm also tired of being taken advantage of and simply being used and not listened to. I know i should just be happy that she's not on drugs or in jail, but that seems like a low bar.

Of course most of us did dumb shit in our 20s, and of course i want her to be happy, but this is all just ridiculous. Help. If you've read this far, i welcome advice (and criticism, but be gentle)",4.834892594811706,5.427065969442784,5.0720552892617015,86.22318756518654,69.05392450569204,8.02689789849766,27.796423895435282,7.952779237769534,1.5202073719015603,6569,206,1369,77,108,2070,564,1669,0.10099999999999999,0.8029999999999999,0.096,-0.8339,20,1,2,0,1,0,236.0,46,2,5,16,87,62,8,5,89,2,105,16,4,26,11,294,199,156,0,23,54,16,5,5,2,6,8,9,8,17,60,133,2,12,23,9,18,33,40,26,3,5,55,18,200,36,215,120,44,246,0,8,4,2,267,91,2,30,118,917,260,29,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02767665606685424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02933381942220888,0.0312548505152178,0.22649686855288145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03852087210468148,0.0,0.02166682040438026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069921611194839,0.050426490991549736,0.10591176337593064,0.0,0.0,0.06533532191440852,0.023648306852584167,0.06906112351114174,0.0,0.024100567703992257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061842198324360914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460343325503094,0.03239367202767863,0.02887692347681616,0.0,0.0,0.07319260410184948,0.0,0.030606822683303208,0.06353272784054427,0.022613405154623654,0.03133857574560807,0.0,0.03653165151701724,0.029199503755007936,0.024394336517418347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03284538929496783,0.0,0.0,0.09557781915017356,0.050171086241623454,0.02926496403350268,0.2526987563353002,0.0561207126882028,0.025619541997921786,0.0,0.02706359409658796,0.02545465459773301,0.0,0.053400321728546606,0.0,0.028641659109542476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025886473433267325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04376416102337391,0.0,0.0887847835191758,0.0,0.09657880318313433,0.0,0.06795685325931,0.0,0.0,0.1963077750182009,0.0,0.1206003437268774,0.07611484207938712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638435782119157,0.0,0.018984137205166084,0.0,0.02841001991083765,0.0,0.08367658821178015,0.09804192609613034,0.0,0.031972928700465024,0.0,0.0,0.19674166084758407,0.05034910957245069,0.0,0.029493777776506806,0.0778271925648392,0.09234726093050498,0.0958478611978585,0.05997938941633312,0.030772742476235494,0.028961923016657457,0.040010381103876135,0.06918530647000147,0.056773657049179874,0.07502850127698849,0.1002589429960743,0.0,0.0,0.06183523807997391,0.02407898274777547,0.0,0.053599327326354015,0.1134339028437842,0.028714815351651005,0.08536200469343583,0.0,0.031460181888304725,0.0,0.028542662747415605,0.0,0.0,0.033171253575511886,0.04521388551941296,0.1806155572528788,0.02082047451198972,0.021000954604841846,0.043688489943253854,0.027354281088907164,0.09036467353374927,0.13289487548168655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887981495420336,0.03016279628934353,0.0959611162036116,0.12924433114823494,0.030137394803085294,0.0,0.0314490536517485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02473032619446034,0.05918247521492394,0.0,0.026774146276422918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541653668287945,0.0,0.0,0.02833040692473978,0.0,0.0,0.029120496321371207,0.0,0.18244815500826014,0.0,0.0,0.08082424156237697,0.045046763077810664,0.0,0.05732825475224671,0.022569558725745818,0.07735188282779681,0.0,0.0,0.029072888052960395,0.1171443259141927,0.12734379648385125,0.0850295902027241,0.0,0.047995535429857066,0.021804230814597567,0.0,0.0,0.08018793135549243,0.09056482477578257,0.06785573597209113,0.04735816169033098,0.0,0.1184363194841366,0.12969105551193594,0.0,0.0321403124226877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022764747485391937,0.02475532522287581,0.0,0.06477904854524798,0.0,0.0752654861412065,0.03629613940056151,0.0,0.022485093775374276,0.11560653196500754,0.03255282593176136,0.0,0.02706359409658796,0.0944028267671056,0.03845856585618741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747564898656544,0.04892351151258454,0.031193499333930882,0.0934769146719155,0.21717133460928506,0.02248127459277832,0.13631277325499574,0.0,0.07639664049540681,0.0,0.0,0.06324266082644024,0.0,0.027302112963010158,0.061429611905861874,0.10309646890498897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295567000220879
parenting,DrDoozer,2020/02/14,"Need some help in Ireland Hi folks. I’m looking for help sorting a part. We have an icandy orange twin with a broken front wheel. We bought it second hand. I cannot find a replacement anywhere. Icandy are not answering calls or emails. No supplier have any spares. 

We’re a bit lost without it. The twins nap in it during the day. We don’t drive so have no way to get about without it. 

Can anyone help? If someone has a broken icandy I could maybe buy a front wheel with postage and packing. We’re a little desperate.",1.0971695294996238,3.6417675145631137,2.2786407766990315,92.8377371172517,87.44660194174757,4.722628827483198,20.54443614637789,6.297961479604792,0.26663166542195604,406,13,81,4,13,129,71,103,0.14400000000000002,0.7490000000000001,0.107,-0.4377,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,10,0,9,1,1,0,0,17,15,4,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,1,2,3,7,1,0,1,2,2,5,0,9,12,3,8,0,1,1,0,9,3,0,4,1,47,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172276746985575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560040252044241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24357884345643885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22782073074020076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813555220935054,0.0,0.0,0.1438877929176635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039189236763357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165660097910425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4486387266053411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236152998685407,0.0,0.0,0.18735659939367447,0.0,0.24355142903192134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22414445089521406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654335833049937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416068924128398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904077357922636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709470274695824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301410544668432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,27andtryingmyhardest,2020/02/14,Leaving my 3 yr old for 7 months So I decided (at the great age of 27) to join the national guard. i am married and we have a great support system of family and friends. I know that my son will be taken care of while I have to be away for basic and training (which will total 7 months for my job). But I am worried about not being here for him. Im concerned that me being away could potential cause him harm (mentally). My husband says since he is younger it will be easier on him but if anyone has any advice or suggestions for preparing him and myself for that time apart? Anything is appreciated. Thanks in advance!,2.1903658536585344,4.4018030975609745,3.853028455284555,85.69466463414636,79.0,7.0268292682926825,24.88414634146341,8.07648339933343,1.6005073170731712,483,18,96,9,12,161,85,123,0.03,0.79,0.18,0.9541,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,3,0,16,0,0,1,1,16,21,10,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,16,6,17,11,1,15,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,2,6,70,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838277849816392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279274233393592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153723272900034,0.0,0.15480597170947166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534881309656912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917999366326905,0.1932501120167489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019777571486567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773419237669736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534033235578353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148038933509487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320088471665249,0.0,0.1866791568206084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033853250622124,0.0,0.0,0.1991909404503596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895797836870592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003097052393223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739932643299127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959984069578086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556140445865714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134752994367822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319477164370994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096937466991366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19104405436213576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FiannaTheBard,2020/02/14,"Help! My 6 Year Old has GIGANTIC meltdowns Hey all!  I'm at a loss as to what to do with my 6 year old. Every new boundary I set with her as she gets older is a major fight. We're talking screaming, hitting, complete meltdown.

Our new rule is that she must get ready for school on time. She gets around 10 hrs of sleep so I'm pretty positive it's not that. She has about 45 minutes to get ready in the morning from the time I wake her up until we have to leave. Her clothes are laid out ahead. She's bathed and teeth brushed night before. It takes maybe 3 of those minutes for me to brush her hair and stick it in a ponytail or braid. She has granola bars in the car even if she doesn't have time to eat so she knows she will have food. So that's 42 minutes simply to dress. She will refuse. I have finally gotten to the point where I have advised her that she will be leaving at the appointed time regardless of her condition. I finally had to make good on that threat and I stuck her in the car as gently as I could and was treated to being hit and kicked in the back of the head the entire ride to school while she screamed that ""I hate you!"" and ""Do what I say!"" and ""You do what I tell you! You're not the boss of me!"" and so on. I walked her about halfway into the school without any socks and shoes. Guess the concrete hurt because she finally decided she COULD put her socks and shoes on herself about halfway down the sidewalk.

I bring her in and they immediately start trying to appease her. I get it! I do! You don't want her throwing a fit because it disrupts the others. I have told her that myself! Thing is, I brushed her hair and did it and she threw a giant FIT otw which is why it looks like that. And now she's crying because she doesn't look pretty. Well DUH!? That doesn't mean YOU need to do her hair again. No. She needs some sort of consquences and I'm not willing to beat the crap out of her back so her consequences are she looks like a wreck then. Want to have pretty hair? Don't throw a giant fit. Put your socks and shoes on.

I've brought her to a counselor. My advised tactic is pretty simple. She gets very little reaction from me. I tell her ""You may not hit me."" ""Put your clothes on."" when she's screaming at me I say things like ""It's not my job to convince you to adore me, it's my job to make sure you get to school."" or ""Hitting me while I am driving is dangerous and not Ok."" Her screaming at me to do something gets met with a simple ""No.""

Dressing herself is something she does without issue and is perfectly capable of doing. She doesn't really have any barriers to success here.

Any punishment I devise seems to have little effect on actually changing her behavior. I have taken away toys. Deprived her of privileges. Tried time outs - these are especially ineffective because she pretty much just refuses to cooperate with them. The only thing that is effective is refusing to redo her hair after a fit or refusing to do her hair if she throws one. But some other adult will do it anyhow because I guess a little girl can't go around looking like a crazy wreck in the opinion of the world. So basically she is beating the living crap out of me with no consequences whatsoever because the ONLY thing I can do that she gives a crap about someone else will do for her the second she's in school.

I have been told repeatedly that if I don't set boundaries, consequences etc. she's just going to keep doing this stuff but all boundaries and consquence seem useless in actual practice. At a loss. Any ideas?",2.0128069823434984,4.2068883103932615,3.1102841091492794,90.87982022471913,79.51966292134831,5.978683788121991,23.514125200642056,7.110495986334442,0.8256488121990371,2775,95,578,34,70,889,293,712,0.08800000000000001,0.833,0.08,-0.5897,2,0,2,0,2,0,80.0,2,10,2,10,23,32,8,0,35,2,66,19,16,5,5,87,113,42,0,11,18,0,6,4,0,8,0,6,1,2,36,32,3,6,8,3,0,16,19,18,1,2,12,19,110,14,92,85,7,90,0,5,4,0,90,43,3,16,33,403,146,11,0.0,0.0,0.12394663889953822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274677105264813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306874712796296,0.0,0.0,0.05966657855268015,0.09766537186842608,0.0,0.23227834885326976,0.0,0.05403947293932665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718160417198436,0.0,0.06658550350993225,0.0,0.0,0.10140976851071336,0.0,0.06975906171957955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055575088405947666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498314691077102,0.053051648514264235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082669053953906,0.04194553660724886,0.0,0.05350708300542798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870525898713824,0.0,0.0,0.07679248086414461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654367850216633,0.06092135563265946,0.07218457375816646,0.0532663563673381,0.0,0.0,0.1399194469655182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269965892953644,0.0651761340460278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04256716195963706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798517132430608,0.07169126621916005,0.0,0.06628443235245908,0.1260410814264766,0.0564476193606206,0.0,0.0,0.0349015883626236,0.0,0.0,0.13448872371352294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410454534364662,0.1909510104569581,0.056077526391828884,0.0,0.213318331324876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478235033599736,0.0,0.06380095549801054,0.06917734829345204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046684687381377786,0.0941787373647954,0.0,0.12267021680438404,0.0,0.05959667934443021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327907089478358,0.0,0.043033742657054834,0.09659932249216224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600343017205631,0.0,0.0,0.3230454183570524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152514079080588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04068397960212453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010060577927534,0.0,0.3213605494062365,0.0,0.11562811936545565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355250348232792,0.0,0.05380896977046346,0.09778102786127267,0.0,0.0,0.04495032647952837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726999086794232,0.0,0.0,0.059854256390965886,0.0,0.04774908959061422,0.05104423143956315,0.11101520461397488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687639582415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515616171557064,0.0,0.0,0.1213666315902776,0.0,0.08623367940525667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239962874430498,0.07491572304569455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057100095973024574,0.0,0.057304864545384526,0.0,0.0,0.12243626895200715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179238769968343
parenting,dadadvice23,2020/02/14,"Need advice on how to deal with my son, who continues to lie and make bad choices Hello all,

I come here because I am at a bit of a loss, my 7 year old boy is in first grade. My wife and I have been very structured with all three of our kids, and are constantly told that our kids are very well behaved and very caring, sweet, etc. I take a lot of pride in that and have been very firm with treating others how you want to be treated and things like that. But since he started school dating back to kindergarten, he does things he knows are wrong, and even with consequences like taking privileges, he doesn’t change. 

The specifics are we have our kids on a particular diet. We don’t give them cows milk, they get almond milk for the most part, and we don’t let them have tons of sweets, or at the very least we like to be able to regulate it. So he goes to school in the morning after I feed him breakfast, and he takes advantage and goes through and gets a free breakfast which is typically cows milk (chocolate or strawberry) with a sugary cereal or a pop tart or chocolate muffin. Things that we don’t give them for a reason. He dealt with consequences and still kept doing it, so I had to resort to dropping him off at the last possible minute to avoid him doing it. To be honest he has always had trouble refraining from doing something he knew he wasn’t supposed to do - like playing on his tablet without asking (even waking up super early on the morning to take if off the charger on the kitchen counter to play it). Fast forward to first grade, we find out early in the year he is going through the lunch line and getting a free lunch and throwing his packed lunch in the trash. So he has his privileges revoked and take him off of the free lunch list - the whole time lying to us until we figured it out when he forgot to throw his lunch away. 
Fast forward a bit and we get an email from his teacher letting us know he was going and playing video game’s on the laptop instead of doing his tasked work. We give him the chance to tell us and he doesn’t and denies it until he knows he is caught. Then he’s been telling us he has gotten ice cream for “being good” from his teacher, which we assume is probably not true but we give the benefit of the doubt because we hate to assume he is always lying. Well eventually I catch him in his room with the lights off and ask him what he was doing. He lies to me and gives and excuse but finally admits that he was taking money out of his piggy bank for him to buy ice cream. I tell him thank you for telling me the truth and told him he lost privileges for the day, until I ask if he’s done it before and he tells me he has to which then he lost them for an entire week. I take him to school and specifically tell him he is not to get anything else that I don’t pack for him. Well he tells me he got chocolate milk that day. So then he loses his privileges again. 
So for the past few days I’ve been noticing he hasn’t been eating his breakfast, so I ask him to tell me the truth and ask if he has been getting breakfast at school, to which he says yes; which I appreciate him telling me the truth but I’m just at a loss because nothing seems to be working. He knows he is making bad choices and yet he chooses to do them and I just don’t know what to do. Anytime he has been grounded he has been without tv, video games, and things like that but we have allowed him to play or read a book in his room, and to play with his sisters in his bedroom. That clearly is not working and I just don’t know what else to do. 
I feel like I’m gonna have to find a way to remove the choice all together, by setting up something with the school to make sure he is not able to go through the line ever. But I don’t want to have to resort to that. I want to find a way to for him to start to change and make better choices, but I don’t know how. My daughters do not do this and me and my wife think that maybe it’s just a boy thing but we don’t know for sure. Any advice is greatly appreciated. 

Sorry for the wall of text and thank you for your time!",6.420098386462022,4.911661389610393,6.4154958677685965,84.98566804407714,66.15466351829988,9.200078709169619,30.67434081070445,7.447530270364453,1.6669138921684366,3195,89,710,24,42,1015,302,847,0.057,0.81,0.133,0.995,1,1,2,0,0,0,62.0,21,4,6,14,26,54,1,2,44,1,75,18,1,9,11,140,141,67,0,7,27,5,1,6,0,1,0,1,4,5,35,62,17,4,21,12,6,11,20,12,3,3,25,8,93,45,116,108,13,84,0,5,2,0,143,35,0,14,44,462,128,13,0.10098700386650633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868333139868933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402927711714125,0.0,0.0,0.034337312810572486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041551849765876704,0.0,0.23602304092932844,0.0,0.04744030721073363,0.03882638620880461,0.08431992999856322,0.092341110344311,0.0,0.042966251123052315,0.0,0.0,0.04465739914905173,0.11025165281753688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05148149043644815,0.0,0.10683085969190974,0.04349568091528505,0.0,0.054565537444651147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769239457126913,0.052056583330954365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04418720381149474,0.05167238344714276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051667458194294885,0.08436168336116215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05631360201002116,0.06670096362271054,0.0456742633061689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025531031737430984,0.0360725678701948,0.0,0.055313163265002976,0.13845043800023138,0.08589949389961543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828462430612505,0.2421898403606303,0.08608986231562936,0.042351553773639805,0.040384266165208176,0.055669264139132695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985187945709376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22199926514687754,0.04115894335352988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326605353234737,0.0,0.1480114471157293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564893129257226,0.11023924416343868,0.04292776967893526,0.0,0.0,0.13481921851565906,0.0,0.05072750947989471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037440291882667384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04844987692223432,0.05748718661968616,0.05298443635767739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054679542037870385,0.04820176105412534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569238366416656,0.0,0.0,0.05444053527100588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05050716619198113,0.0,0.0,0.051915729668255715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04015445939809209,0.0,0.25551059837931994,0.0,0.04596738775672763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0417687465846386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777447293550522,0.0,0.056523341450385914,0.07147912111396952,0.0,0.04032417586901142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517905601208272,0.0,0.2657538062196934,0.0,0.3972019165276545,0.09297526512841164,0.0,0.0,0.16772819514880147,0.032354197200581025,0.0,0.0,0.05888633407053226,0.0,0.0,0.09649740989742188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24294986289916,0.0,0.0,0.20831213601123733,0.08934712704527141,0.08015878311112165,0.040502841529770635,0.0,0.13619916679138871,0.0,0.0,0.05637419168156638,0.0,0.09734786799767522,0.0,0.1102796123463416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055206717761283816,0.0,0.06503231950105033
parenting,SilkyLent,2020/02/14,"My ex-wife and I separated but until now, still lived together. we have a 1.5 year old. Today is moving out day for my child’s mom. She is moving about 10 minutes away so i’ll still be close to my son.

up until this point, I have been his primary caretaker. I work from home at weird hours so while my son’s mom got up and went to work every morning, my son’s day was spent with me. routines, meals, activities, attempting potty training, etc. the big exception is my son is still breast fed (sparingly at this point but still every night while falling asleep)

We have an unofficial scheduling agreement that (hopefully) will be followed and things will remain cordial. 

Because i’m home during the day, she will drop him off at my place in the morning and return to pick him up late afternoon when she gets off work. 

I’m unsure if this is going to be harder on me or my son as we’ve grown extremely close over this past year and now i won’t be there when he wakes up and goes to bed or during other seemingly trivial events that i’ve cherished with him every day. 

is there anything i can do to make this transition easier for him? for me? just keep being there when i can and being a good dad? the thought of him being confused and without me at times is painful but it may just be my selfishness projected onto him. 

my son’s mom is a good mom. my son and her are close but most of the discipline and educational day to day stuff has come from me. 

thank you for reading. any helpful advice or suggestions on how to handle this situation properly are welcome.",3.756043689320388,5.306386970873785,4.782706310679612,83.70473907766991,72.49514563106796,8.127346278317154,26.46723300970873,8.72156446121922,1.8881854368932045,1230,42,245,23,24,402,167,309,0.063,0.8390000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.9436,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,0,4,18,11,0,1,9,0,32,6,3,3,0,42,48,29,0,2,12,12,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,1,12,19,2,2,2,1,1,8,2,4,0,0,7,0,36,7,41,28,2,65,0,0,0,1,31,24,0,9,32,169,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694451728319932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746456910285008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163940071099864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932088047115186,0.0,0.0,0.06047603136783152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545856185581466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838841636056609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064269691674014,0.0,0.0,0.2507600421297457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05183187568835849,0.0,0.05638196459236159,0.1664212538667295,0.07934537948268623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649676221532183,0.0,0.1990266208178728,0.09853553037310388,0.0976995008898618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818027205580208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191049253455587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760212723687709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622184250496596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647629623735984,0.0,0.21088395420579867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930996108913047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410168634184662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556387969344676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470487855164486,0.0,0.0,0.10365082540095734,0.0,0.1875664950395584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923444570475794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031487189750048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151349759628056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169092659566268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356896532390845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133702793976667,0.0,0.0,0.06590912034693946,0.0,0.0,0.07875975178705498,0.05784874861977739,0.0,0.09403720354614367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196643793147463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563258493428378,0.0,0.21667294027401324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777288185307142
parenting,jodie-92,2020/02/14,"Baby shower planning Hey guys first time posting here, I'm planning a couple of games for my sister in-laws shower and had an idea for a game were people guess if a man or woman said it but need to gather answers.

In 3 words or less describe what it's like raising a child.

If you reply to me if you could also say if you are male or female. Thank you to anybody who responds 😊",1.7112857142857152,3.365757700000003,3.4696428571428584,90.54250000000002,78.25,4.571428571428573,21.42857142857143,3.1291,-0.16051785714285716,296,8,61,0,7,99,62,80,0.0,0.914,0.086,0.7579,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,3,2,2,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,15,9,10,0,6,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,5,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,2,7,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,8,3,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347556761100397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343796296232015,0.3248128146093223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496975720738465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233837197192381,0.2906654152785828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313876497388895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341605251335712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176671725624693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035139437864728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811443626679047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792378484124167,0.2334465679473889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702658294194035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711741708621075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sicktiredmama,2020/02/14,"Difficult child Throwaway account because obvious.
Sometimes my child makes me contemplate suicide.
He’s so difficult and defiant and frankly hard to be around that I feel like I can’t parent him.
Obviously you can’t just get rid of a child, plus I love him, I really do-so sometimes I think of getting rid of myself-so that Maybe he can have a different mother who is better with him than I am. 
I’m in therapy but my child is driving me to my limit.",2.305333333333333,4.629208644444447,4.305555555555556,82.00500000000002,79.22222222222223,8.0,28.88888888888889,8.841846274778883,2.7112222222222213,358,17,68,9,9,122,61,90,0.11,0.815,0.075,-0.2212,2,0,0,0,0,1,9.0,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,1,2,13,15,5,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,15,3,10,14,0,3,0,0,0,1,14,2,0,0,1,43,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21798767603589214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492714793613566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165690669265456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25583874627157704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238144591133194,0.17493634905199046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25587065113504426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21935689238559108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963191470732235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22100621616932084,0.0,0.1634537216344043,0.0,0.2460064760802707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27190097840524186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687104333652746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4843686280307035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678498306628846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800320619287428,0.0,0.0,0.1569038598844616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,useruseruseruser123,2020/02/14,"I just found out I’m pregnant the first week of my new job and it’s making it difficult to be as excited about the pregnancy as I want to be. Any advice from other parents who found out they were due at an inconvenient time? How did you make it through? We had actually decided to stop trying about a week before I found out I was pregnant - whoops!

This job is a big step up for me and whenever I get excited about it, I get disappointed that my pregnancy/future baby will distract my focus and interfere with my performance.

I’m also concerned I won’t be able to form the kinds of relationships with my coworkers that I’d hoped to - going out for drinks post work is a big part of the culture that I’m worried I’ll miss out on, especially as a new employee.

Ultimately we want this baby and I know I’ll figure it all out, but wondering if anyone went through something similar. Thanks!",3.2035593220338967,5.078325401129948,5.145333333333337,79.19020338983053,74.6497175141243,9.013785310734463,28.18418079096045,9.558583805096642,2.7690899435028253,704,29,137,19,15,242,107,177,0.075,0.857,0.068,0.4007,4,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,1,3,6,9,0,1,9,0,11,1,0,3,1,33,30,11,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,14,1,2,7,1,0,3,1,4,0,1,8,0,18,5,30,17,3,23,0,2,0,0,8,11,0,3,8,93,30,3,0.1475332833806032,0.0,0.14397120264748586,0.0,0.0,0.14416781703346998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179823134171612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032769183066692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103158702059417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553995781712338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445264512054011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549173547612832,0.0,0.48528789075944,0.0,0.0,0.15416010270930147,0.0,0.0838465648510465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653383927455418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928080379923418,0.0,0.0,0.15363321160758098,0.08108043421729506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695922454254614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28497712885412985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381825180719506,0.15976416888768166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129610351233676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839553356077746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357832937047233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334443100931215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358288256151154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602784397046652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001654150763647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740379059868932,0.0,0.23668460171490144,0.0,0.0,0.13676483176653614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999355247774286,0.10740598741400373,0.14982721070899938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Numbskull79,2020/02/14,"Validating your teenagers feelings when you don't necessarily agree with them. My daughter is 13, 14 so soon, and has begun seeing a boy. Now there is drama much of the time. I am grateful that she talks to me about her friends maybe not liking this boy or someone else that likes him also and is mad at her ect. But the dynamic is so catty.  I just dislike the shift I see in her and want to support her seeing the bigger picture and not get too involved or bogged down in it.
When she tells me some dramatic middle school saga I listen. I tell her I understand why she feels that way. Then there is usually a but involved.  But you should do this or shouldn't do that.  So my question is how do I really validate her feelings without over correcting her emotions?",4.29098181818182,5.6272641466666675,4.989515151515153,83.57809090909093,70.86666666666667,7.854545454545455,28.96969696969697,8.296473431620573,1.982333333333333,602,23,118,9,11,194,97,150,0.048,0.845,0.107,0.7859999999999999,0,0,0,1,0,0,13.0,0,3,1,0,14,6,1,0,6,0,14,0,0,1,1,26,25,18,0,3,10,1,3,2,1,2,0,1,0,2,7,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,7,26,5,11,23,2,16,0,0,3,0,26,7,0,5,10,92,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181328395011046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585851891715051,0.2135420633801518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879632081657705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666827507879235,0.0,0.09918245696554204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549039805119416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907176662805179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955268473509852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126618719006594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161500692514444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921260693949752,0.4538286356034594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084901957152867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154257764023588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258449691305462,0.33185334890935425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069599439134707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976279279430852,0.0,0.0,0.20907960458949945,0.0,0.11197130008059206,0.15068447281941194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129915919453154,0.0,0.0,0.18299694181969392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sharkdinner,2020/02/14,"Screw the ""respect your elders"" thing I just remembered this kid from my elementary school who was always being a bully towards younger students. He'd always be cool with older kids and teachers though.
I remember he would always tell the younger kids ""I'm older so you have to do what I say"" and I remember his mother saying the exact same thing when I once saw her on a picnic meetup with the class.

Please teach your children mutual respect and don't justify yourself with ""I'm older"", they might turn into brats like that kid!",4.095955555555555,6.4669090400000036,4.673333333333332,81.34722222222223,73.6,6.844444444444445,25.11111111111111,7.793537801064563,1.6051777777777776,424,14,72,6,9,135,72,100,0.046,0.818,0.136,0.8398,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,1,0,4,5,1,0,6,1,9,1,0,0,1,15,13,6,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,5,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,13,4,8,6,1,7,0,0,1,1,18,3,1,1,5,49,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540874254040913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887132260054878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929762109403461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372665500348601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19968094746694848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6182007342563036,0.0,0.0,0.2893219397195593,0.0,0.18410115103061891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589960792410183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24170389786603744,0.0,0.17872421395710153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19786425185447132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292226054411406,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankv1971,2020/02/14,"How do other parents handle this? Lets introduce my family first (and bare with me, it is a long story).   


We are a Dutch family, my wife and I have 3 kids. An autistic son of 18 that does not live at our place anymore due to the fact that he did not want to live with us anymore when he was 16 and he kept running away, so he was placed in group home for children with  behavior issues and autistic children. He is my stepson since he is 3, father was never involved in raising him, he sees his father a couple of times a year. Then we have a teenage daughter of 13. We suspect she is also autistic but has not been diagnosed and an 8 year old son who is also autistic. My wife also suspects she is autistic but has no diagnose either. If I look at how we raise our children I think we have thought them to respect themselves and others. Be open minded to other peoples opinion. 

The problems we are having are with our daughter right now. To explain a little bit. My wife had a stroke 9 years ago. That took a hit on her. She started to develop dermatillomania (skin picking). She would create wounds in her face, arms, legs etc. With some help from a psychologist this got under control but kept resurfacing whenever she was in a lot of stress. Unfortunately she will have the scars on her face, legs, arms etc for the rest of her live. She also has a eye condition that can make her blind (she went from -2 to -6.5 in a couple of years. For this reason she should not look at a phone screen for more than 45 minutes after which she should let her eyes rest. Same goes for laptop screens etc. For that reason we have put an app that will restrict the time on her phone, in the past this was 45 minutes as advised but do to all the complaining we stretched this to 1.5 hours (side note, apps she needs for school are not restricted!). This app could also monitor her behavior on the phone, what sites she visits, what she is doing on social media etc but that is not the intention and not enabled. Should our daughter need some more time on the phone than was that possible.

2 years ago our daughter went from primary school to general secondary education. There had been some issues with her before but that had been minor stuff but all that changed after the school switch. No more respect for anybody (especially us parents). Yes we know puberty is a thing. After half a year the skin picking resurfaced on a major level. She created huge craters on her arms and legs. As the disrespect to us started getting more and more, she started lying, she started hitting and kicking us. So we looked for help and did a parenting course to handle the situation better. This course also involves help from a professional at home. At first we had a somewhat older woman and she really saw the problems, she also recognized our concern about the skin-picking. She also recognized the signs of autism. Unfortunately she found another job and we got assigned a younger woman. This one did not see problems with our daughter, or at least, the problems she saw had to do we us restricting our daughter. Our daughter is old and smart enough to know what is best for her and she could handle the phone without restrictions. Our objections that she could not as she showed us multiple times in the past (and present). For instance this week she secretly got an old laptop from me and used this to be online during 8 hours after school, only moment she was not online was when she came down to eat for 15 minutes. Unfortunately this is not the first time, she has done this multiple times in the last year. 

The problems have been going on for more than a year now and escalated in December when she had stolen an iPad I had received from somebody to repair and locked it down so we had no more access. When we found out and confronted her she wanted to leave the house just like her brother.  She then was told by youth care that this would not happen. After a couple of days she turned around and everything was back to ""normal"". 

3 weeks ago we had a meeting with the care worker without our daughter and she kept telling us that we needed to remove the app. In fact she was upset and almost crying when I told her that we would not. We are the parents, we decide what rules are in our house and we have an obligation to do what is best for our daughter. Again we told her that our daughter is not able to restrict herself and that she is showing that every weekend by using the 1.5 hour phone time as soon as she gets out of bed. I had to leave that meeting and after I left she kept trying to convince my wife that we need to remove the app. That went on for over an hour. 

2 weeks ago our daughter had a meeting with the youth care worker. I happened to be at home that day and the youth worker was speaking with our daughter and asked her what she wanted to resolve all tensions in the house. Our daughter replied she wanted the app removed that was installed to restrict the time on her phone. She wanted to do with the phone whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted. We have tried that last summer and she would be on her phone for 5-10 hours a day. She would not listen to us when we asked her to stop on the phone as it was bad for her eyes, reply was, when I get blind I just get me a dog that can help me. So we applied the restriction again after a week as this was not working. The care worker turned to me and told me again that she agreed with our daughter that we should remove the app. I was told I am of an older generation, the youth nowadays lives on their phone. So in fact she was undermining us and our policies at home. 

Come last Saturday. Again she uses her time on the phone (1.5 hours) at once she gets out of bed. She then asked for her laptop. We told her no, she had been on her phone for 1.5 hours her eyes needed rest. She also had a couple of other things that needed to be done. So we asked her to start with that and then she could have her laptop after that. She immediately goes on ""strike"" as she calls it and refuses to do anything, during the whole day she keeps provoking us with remarks like ""hell no"" when we ask her something. For one, the cage of her rabbit had not been cleaned for over 2 weeks, she refuses to give the rabbit food. This goes on all Sunday and after a stressful day my wife had enough and leaves the living room angry and crying. So I ask my daughter if she was proud of herself for making her mother cry. Without any emotion her reply was: ""It is not me that is crying, mam is crying, that is her decision."" I had enough and told her to go to leave and go to her room. She gets up and walks away. I ask her to come back and take her plate from breakfast and put it with the dishes. Again I get a no. So I stop her and bring her back to the living room. Again I ask her to take her dishes, after another no I order her, this time I get an Hell no. At that point I lost my cool and gave her a slap around the ear (for which I apologized the next morning). However it worked as she took her plate and went up. This constant provoking, for instance we ask her to close the door next time, she than deliberate opens it and  leaves it open again, leaving her dishes on the kitchen table after dinner even after asking (and getting an Hell no again with I am on strike) etc is taking a toll on all of us. 

Her younger brother is upset does not understand what is happening. My wife has been diagnosed with a burnout now and I am trying to keep the family together however my limits have been reached also.",4.790905405405403,5.695622225675678,5.083486486486488,84.97691891891894,69.31081081081078,7.757837837837838,27.43513513513513,7.839951260653429,1.5246478378378376,5914,187,1178,68,100,1869,448,1480,0.115,0.8240000000000001,0.061,-0.9978,8,0,1,0,0,0,155.0,61,0,2,19,50,33,4,5,95,2,127,30,15,15,9,241,231,98,0,34,35,32,3,2,0,11,7,3,12,7,75,107,8,19,16,3,0,23,32,17,0,6,77,22,215,16,196,130,36,215,3,1,15,0,276,76,3,10,117,885,290,19,0.029701474324535182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531425961714994,0.0,0.02974173616694483,0.0,0.0,0.23752258286483674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0201980210476371,0.062289171097057,0.0,0.0,0.05891176301141625,0.0,0.0,0.024441782639467988,0.05288121845413893,0.27766869089127233,0.0,0.05581102568129544,0.06851580117891416,0.024799490429575532,0.0,0.0,0.025273767033227642,0.0,0.062339729736508566,0.026268540375342188,0.032426317347986164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03032852610925956,0.03397057406422477,0.1211305302934416,0.0,0.03142022156040672,0.05117038036463562,0.0,0.0320967421027586,0.03331272902259032,0.09485684166871704,0.13145646563611105,0.16312837435856475,0.0957749689883039,0.0,0.0,0.09043911368484103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0519839206722083,0.0607898407312534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030392023215193437,0.0,0.0334101609059511,0.0,0.09206868804538723,0.16562497551008892,0.019617543670079673,0.0,0.02502477313250441,0.0,0.02669376996077202,0.0,0.08399971988895047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579217666233333,0.035915140649929615,0.06513226709309165,0.0,0.0,0.1396601500628235,0.028492360599759594,0.05064009698813327,0.0,0.07126494689594093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879474696368349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963308863811003,0.0,0.1191720018307997,0.0,0.2047497851229279,0.10281454072270907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062001245019051125,0.02947413025442932,0.0528000701599149,0.0,0.0,0.03264630705621197,0.07263199733240039,0.0,0.1886974365320697,0.03227073875894846,0.0607435396665799,0.0,0.029021280151099893,0.029768680130461113,0.15736167590879738,0.0262848701263237,0.07482527377545364,0.0,0.03242266781579895,0.02525113133594673,0.0,0.0,0.03965192949471031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02999002212921268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213960119376925,0.022907608036892846,0.0,0.06317570980004564,0.0,0.029101138617932933,0.0,0.0,0.0935001029335103,0.031631100804372,0.040252975365004606,0.022589309623501263,0.0,0.0,0.13191988921955625,0.0,0.05670683606928214,0.020591262532248057,0.0,0.06206343806515326,0.0,0.028077493601604227,0.0334839495723908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210149828427382,0.0,0.05971637059682576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0190275250020137,0.06107612475837094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02536489678705449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023791080986015,0.04733645914762085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024569366487822288,0.03338570158376883,0.0,0.030276912679003436,0.0,0.02286564601777313,0.0,0.0,0.10511428199777692,0.0,0.0,0.04966352495858766,0.0680458769758968,0.0,0.03400108208611926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699543689388927,0.0,0.0259603977051174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039464679540730685,0.019031505454192868,0.0,0.0235796529268043,0.1905108538472244,0.0,0.0,0.1986672208206888,0.06599886166705654,0.06049605423114034,0.06461335014407607,0.0,0.0309202822505924,0.3929993822297276,0.07695761242659456,0.0,0.0,0.12263089366692807,0.0,0.11912365568914444,0.0,0.0,0.11013425706072803,0.0,0.03316063538254558,0.0,0.08589348404780688,0.0,0.04324605410222705,0.0,0.0,0.10549537591610092,0.0,0.0,0.15301420531130666
parenting,MediocreAnchovies,2020/02/14,"The fights worth having I am a sibling parent - i am the current parental figure for my much younger brother who is 19 years old. It's been incredibly tough, because i wasnt quite grown myself when i inherited a moody, gross and very dependent teenage boy. You do learn a few things, really quickly.

I'm proud of him. I've taught him to cook, to clean, to care for his finances, to care for his car, to care for others beyond his own needs. We spend our evenings together, hanging out, as he speaks of his new job and talks about making payments for our rent (currently my responsibility).

Next week is his first day of uni, and i feel very much like a proud hen clucking about a duckling. Yet i feel like i am pecking at him a little too much. 

Lights left on all night?  I have a go at him, because bills are paid by me and we are scrapping by as it is.

Garbage not taken out in days? I have a go at him, because we live in Australia and the wildlife is bonkers here, flies and maggots are very very common due to the heat.

Loud noises at night? I have a go at him, because i need to be up at 5 to work and im so so tired.

And so on, and so on. Basically it feels like all i do is nag and nag and nag. I lost that feeling of being a sibling and hanging out, i am being a pain, and i dont know how to let go of the little things (eg. Shoes left in the living room - but good lord do they reek). What are the fights worth having, and can i ever be a friend to my brother as well?

I know they say that parents should not be friends with their kids, but this is not the same relationship, although the goal is the same, to raise and nurture independent, kind and successful adults. I just dont want to nuke our sibling relationship into the dirt either.

Any help would be appreciated, as well as any advice from parents of teenage and young adult males on how to get them to not smell like a pack of buffalo in high summer. 🤮

Thank you!",3.62530303030303,4.305563247474751,4.4926262626262625,88.97560606060608,71.82828282828281,7.2808080808080815,26.78787878787879,7.242747475848597,1.0671909090909084,1490,48,335,14,27,482,205,396,0.07200000000000001,0.769,0.159,0.9897,8,0,0,0,2,0,52.0,6,2,4,8,19,29,5,0,24,0,37,4,1,5,3,56,61,32,0,5,8,6,4,4,2,2,2,3,3,5,11,25,1,0,8,1,8,8,7,11,2,1,6,10,46,18,57,46,10,54,1,1,0,0,46,26,0,1,24,226,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609741911986987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198319501622014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483753244846746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694937470918002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136438196942612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065221635022884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819403073779871,0.07969808345798805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819876235669846,0.12588772391976066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494401155328367,0.0,0.0,0.13614293955733542,0.0,0.04603241988273813,0.0,0.20029360183947134,0.07390021037889691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059056455867866585,0.09309018395596633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517098701224844,0.0,0.08743288511762883,0.0,0.0,0.09175017894207747,0.0968429191878077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19145764575347488,0.09009566829386058,0.0,0.17217907578706726,0.17661329223167885,0.15560069358997514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617950948424617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058812296856195226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943069765368257,0.13066087074701607,0.0,0.08509456481828724,0.09370309708022624,0.1653654367144822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245377429521212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375236319281058,0.0,0.3913308524898865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371294286494417,0.0,0.0,0.05644378284322288,0.0,0.0,0.1891885015714929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006644934516773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081729818347117,0.0,0.08111735037806189,0.0,0.0,0.11706913020682624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126636292379183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907909496400004,0.05196795943375947,0.0,0.07067434942271618,0.0,0.1584380608262954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414315278298259,0.0,0.0,0.06258888729398478,0.0,0.0,0.05673820278521303
parenting,TakeMyUpvotePlus1,2020/02/14,"Gym wants to charge for parents to see progress. Is this reasonable? So my daughter attends this gymnastics class and has done so for a few years now. As of when she started school child age classes, parents were no longer allowed to go in and watch. There are some screens but they frequently change angles so it's impossible to get a good idea of how your kid is progressing.  

I got an email recently  saying they're putting on a showcase day where we can see our kids progress. Awesome I thought. It went on to say there will be certificates and prizes! Even better I thought. Then they mentioned the cost. A little more than the coat of a class. 

I'm a bit miffed about this. 
On the one hand, it's on a weekend so they have to pay staff and fund the prize giving. I get that.
But I don't really want all these extras....I just want to see what she's been learning. Find out if I've been paying for her to learn gymnastics, or just funding a really expensive play-session.

Opinions?",2.283808290155441,4.7134917202072595,2.724795336787565,92.71486139896376,79.98445595854922,6.139792746113992,25.194041450777203,7.365786028017652,1.1465110880829013,774,30,160,11,20,238,131,193,0.033,0.79,0.177,0.9872,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,3,6,14,4,0,0,13,0,13,1,1,3,1,27,29,16,0,4,6,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,9,6,0,0,7,2,6,4,2,0,0,1,8,8,15,4,23,19,5,22,0,0,5,0,20,8,0,4,10,101,24,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243285652878412,0.17582145564958412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036621927485845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386189884965877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648068476505418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636992931782632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471939084959229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828067027414073,0.15449081873164694,0.09152663941801448,0.13507846174109345,0.12880388240996493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180229738960269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614112579339689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912951734467463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576469492789126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189657141402147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20634147919795606,0.1655829899709425,0.15901434116189764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25614184719312233,0.0,0.1629880158451558,0.3850004795479183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398979336491195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557064286278062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849688242081249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929204868915907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037088949393489
parenting,ylihououin,2020/02/14,How to deal with a loud happy baby? My kid is howling with joy at 3am. He doesn’t want to sleep and is in a good mood but I don’t want him waking everyone up. Is there any advice you can give?,-1.5440000000000005,0.11923371111111435,1.5555555555555571,99.94000000000004,89.66666666666669,4.488888888888889,13.444444444444445,5.6839178017228535,-1.1977555555555557,147,2,39,1,5,52,38,45,0.0,0.779,0.221,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,2,2,1,0,7,9,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,7,9,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343234857534688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326587468730368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527189070119238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32691793016946985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328200317098405,0.0,0.28696070317031863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642015784027744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423750436721361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035918735543066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eneed,2020/02/14,"Lg wont poo on the potty Anyone else experienced this?
My lg is 23 months and we have been taking the gentle parenting approach to potty training. Making potty available but not forcing the issue. Positive reinforcement when she uses it etc. For about a week she has been asking to use it for pee pee and will even get it out herself and undress to use it.  The only thing is she still poos in her nappy and doesn’t say when she needs a poo. She is our first so i don’t really know what I’m doing in regards to potty training a child. Any tips or advice on how to encourage her to poo on the potty?",3.4391869918699167,4.549800073170736,5.185528455284555,82.22674796747971,72.65853658536584,7.417886178861789,24.235772357723576,7.793537801064563,1.2523430894308936,471,13,93,6,9,161,81,123,0.0,0.9059999999999999,0.094,0.9129,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,8,0,12,2,2,5,0,16,22,10,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,2,12,1,15,18,1,13,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,1,6,69,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079411486140328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470813185872272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879145316314185,0.21803397823738255,0.0,0.0,0.19893492258358544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776320568527526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373230599045794,0.1405493186416025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100361199487605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117678510865997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22210305451363616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694675669088235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204254536224928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985121442235593,0.0,0.0,0.15778505221054795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184044901654104,0.0,0.0,0.2362840483103282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632214712731264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922339955227156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16993863762543926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999561694861894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137177194917294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5513605664780181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069159037216114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Claire_Lightning,2020/02/14,"""There is someone else in the house"" My 2.5 year old said this as I was picking her up from the bath to get ready for bedtime and I have been up ever sense. The adrenaline is finally exiting my system and, despite knowing how ridiculous this is, my door is barricaded and I do have a weapon with me *just in case* she did actually see someone.

I didn't really do anything different until she fell asleep, because I didn't want to scare her, but she absolutely confirmed that it wasn't daddy (he works 3rd shift) and that it was a real person. She actually said it was papa (grandpa) several times (papa is a black haired guy that kind of looks like every 40-50 year old guy). I asked if if was grandma, mama, etc... and she kept saying papa and describing the person.

To be clear, it is just me and her. There shouldn't be anyone else here. She also is also above average in comprehension and speaking ability...but I am not sure if she comprehends ghosts or not...I probably asked her if it was a ghost to ease my own mind (her answer didn't though).

Needless to say it freaked me the hell out. Probably not my proudest moment...but what would you do?",3.47937069813176,5.101920575221243,4.865958702064899,82.53889872173059,73.3362831858407,8.031071779744346,26.714847590953788,8.680891452615391,1.9697313667649952,894,32,176,17,18,298,130,226,0.092,0.8420000000000001,0.066,-0.8004,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,1,0,1,10,8,3,1,9,0,28,2,2,2,3,33,38,20,2,7,10,1,1,1,0,2,0,5,2,4,12,10,0,1,2,1,0,1,7,5,0,0,14,9,28,3,17,20,2,17,1,0,3,0,26,7,1,5,9,122,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.25162894012971226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20620626856818325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014898252925428,0.13210127918674447,0.1060962021894852,0.0,0.24105928773721655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859289994463038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470161261687782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540447092878884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437880464657419,0.0,0.11662214562988273,0.10862683091391633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123358133440106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735920542042251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25531664102691604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876482158222046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425796789443747,0.07085508543437555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629873780510759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826648083822568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017984401637495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705750768918359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251487324136248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27801092225548835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674752029812824,0.08259414501621931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24527881803864046,0.20505636534179295,0.12907874270406638,0.0,0.10273838481303188,0.0,0.0,0.14565117822051696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847940618684888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151247691450642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667044106000305,0.0,0.07517855932945063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604467598479353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938606272628887,0.0,0.0,0.0915862717408898,0.0,0.0,0.16604993899214582
parenting,thatgirlcami,2020/02/14,Tips for dealing with a pregnant teenager My younger sister is 15 and pregnant..it has been taking a huge toll on our family my parents even asked me for sister to stay with me and other words kick her out. The father of my sister baby is overage and she won’t even tell me who it is. She’s a freshman In high school and It’s hard for me to be supportive or accepting because I feel like she’s throwing her life away I don’t think she is ready to be a mom and I feel like I might be stuck with it. She cried to me today upset saying that no one wants this baby but me. Which is partially true I honestly don’t know what to do for her to show I’m supportive. So any tips would be great to how I can deal with the situation.,1.2604670329670355,2.9149241858974366,3.2031501831501856,91.94423076923078,79.57692307692308,6.252014652014653,21.399267399267398,7.1686216300943375,0.4825728937728941,567,16,129,7,14,191,92,156,0.05,0.782,0.168,0.9615,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,4,9,0,1,6,0,18,1,0,1,1,23,29,9,0,2,2,6,3,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,9,10,0,0,5,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,2,4,24,8,20,20,0,9,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,2,3,90,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409619023758676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685170197730106,0.0,0.15763488384504076,0.0,0.0,0.10227716372484576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429851112706386,0.0,0.34594773723927474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216342867745874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816810299962367,0.0,0.16966927319827296,0.2397242084015826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849781020036394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029797314718982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726883896181705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922075299271952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185080140839128,0.1639377191086531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798812337915682,0.0,0.19650197161091132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369210686637404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18629989469038472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334254332494397,0.0,0.1698023721380454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18859181056069915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883121386540646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807896343062061,0.0,0.0,0.12614972022699994,0.0,0.14664716252253826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075066840304777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903587331677202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896102296236693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918613661527305,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rainbowsoreusrex,2020/02/14,Help! Private Part advice My husband loves my long cooter flaps and I sleep without underwear so he will flick them and pull on them when he’s bored. Anyways today I was at work as an office assistant and wore a skirt but didn’t have any underwear on. My cooter flaps dangle a bit and there was a big commercial fan in our office and I walked over it to get to some papers and it sucked up my cooter flaps and they got tangled around the blades. Luckily I was able to get to the bathroom dangling the fan from my cooter flaps and have a friend untie it. Can I sue the company?,4.2394230769230745,5.092476478632482,4.939391025641027,85.69831730769235,70.53846153846155,7.901282051282053,25.73611111111111,8.07648339933343,1.4044880341880344,456,13,93,6,8,147,75,117,0.045,0.799,0.156,0.9273,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,3,1,5,4,1,0,9,0,8,2,1,0,0,12,14,12,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,6,0,14,2,14,7,3,13,0,0,0,1,10,8,1,1,3,63,17,2,0.2741115313818108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678586160186602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640524102456305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24401737794925005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992587980047406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211777889182534,0.0,0.2864239232215147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21923203221097454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837311814621295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425800794860494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24739635910079255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968360765127684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743094914515594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598256807298615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26423373455925736,0.0,0.19955645949854064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TLRoyalty,2020/02/14,"How to process your toddler growing up? Hi everyone, first time posting here and this thought is complex so bear with me as I try to get through this, as I could really use the help. 

To start with some background, I’m 27 and a single Dad to an amazing little 2 (almost 3) year old boy. His mom and I split time with him which is tough for me and for all parties I’m sure. 

Watching my son grow, learn, discover, and explore has been a pure joy that I’m sure you all can understand and appreciate. As I’m sure you all know around this age, toddlers get really wild and can be more of a handful. While dealing with this most times to help keep my cool; I remember that some day I’ll look back and miss these days when he was the way he is now. That helps me get through the hard time and maintain a calm, welcoming demeanor for my son to deal with the conflicts as they come. 

Recently I’ve been thinking more and more about this and it’s really starting to eat-away at me, causing me to have a lot of anxiety (which I’m prone to in general). There’s going to be a day where he wakes up and no longer says “daddy, I wanna snuggle” or “daddy lets play trains” or trucks or dinosaurs. I’ll no longer be his source of comfort or his super hero. He’ll no longer want to spend every waking moment doing things with me, or give me hugs every 5 seconds or no longer be over the moon excited about showing me the littlest things. 

I know this isn’t necessarily a bad thing and am in no way saying that I expect him to dislike me or anything like that, it’s just something that is hard for me to process. I know that I’ll miss these days and want them back which makes me appreciate them all the more, but I’m struggling to process that I’ll essentially be losing my son in his current state, who while is only two, is my best friend that I love more than anything or anyone. 

Has anyone else dealt with anything similar to this/have any advice on it? 


Going to try and get some sleep now as I’ve been dealing with an anxiety attack due to this for the past few hours. Will answer in the morning. Thank you for any and all advice.",6.007223616829003,5.1285393418013845,6.222843659001911,83.97917762827596,66.6674364896074,9.193252334571744,31.2972185962446,8.18289091462,1.9910127322020281,1657,54,358,18,23,531,210,433,0.078,0.7809999999999999,0.141,0.9778,1,0,1,0,1,0,40.0,0,4,3,5,14,26,1,1,18,1,26,6,4,4,9,74,59,35,0,5,10,5,3,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,28,26,0,2,11,2,1,6,6,7,0,3,5,8,38,19,55,45,18,49,0,3,2,2,37,12,0,14,28,229,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772602873795342,0.0,0.0,0.09082208088705893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335704217468038,0.0,0.13876917797453178,0.0,0.0,0.12683788621497086,0.09293198075143594,0.22391297677902555,0.08074145828087004,0.0,0.10318335827814128,0.08521482169641996,0.1394840705058098,0.07572998809181893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518314507307014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317299448404262,0.0,0.07812927258872769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241587796328812,0.0,0.0,0.2339737514067211,0.2805204726204915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280785678676856,0.07576748790535605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283586384218026,0.08666690902788521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714863674841753,0.0,0.0,0.07007392566851749,0.0,0.18954621545226816,0.0870068735910126,0.1030928156305005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16249721724870642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238115228831905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932037669537835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806175573609558,0.0,0.0,0.1495376155991714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274600921071753,0.0,0.0443110153108447,0.09090435943395199,0.0,0.0,0.0761644291048871,0.1014691306136734,0.0,0.07710915999691903,0.0818595092490919,0.0,0.06054237600122037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622572913670204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517348352843788,0.0,0.0,0.06898077819978181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658258588914416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686469847979493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743125624993676,0.0,0.08955445245366707,0.0,0.10274443768522376,0.0,0.0,0.14425518294916784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076463547890863,0.0,0.0,0.06982462424198063,0.0,0.0,0.12839462724570172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481842738344308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564485802529156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350357645135968,0.0,0.0,0.1807694226714484,0.058116342571966365,0.0,0.0720049809260003,0.2115495768560655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315751620075273,0.0,0.08859987447579233,0.09442099680566383,0.0,0.07833493043188272,0.0,0.0,0.10699339791975522,0.14398550118728454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840726838224156
parenting,germanbean,2020/02/14,"How to help poor grades How do I motivate my step kids to do better in school? They live with us full time- mom has been out of the picture half their life. There is nothing more we can take away from them or punish them. They do not have cellphones or are able to game (another long story). DH doesn’t care to work with them or try to problem solve to help their grades. We talk with the teachers and get them extensions but they still don’t want to do the work. Teachers don’t give us good input and I am at a loss at how to help them anymore. 

The oldest (16/m)  tells us he doesn’t have to try because he has decided to join the military so his grades don’t matter. 

The middle (12/f) is starting to get into popular circles and is worried about other people.",1.9971428571428584,3.806900292993632,3.0638262056414938,93.07033439490448,77.9171974522293,6.014376706096451,22.042311191992717,6.868970318607317,0.4362706096451317,594,17,130,6,14,190,98,157,0.07,0.768,0.162,0.9118,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,10,5,7,7,1,0,7,0,20,1,0,4,0,23,27,11,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,10,0,0,2,1,1,1,6,3,0,1,1,0,19,4,23,26,2,14,0,1,0,0,28,8,0,3,5,87,20,7,0.15520741938178687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627485120059962,0.0,0.0,0.1539240545490399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582247962500866,0.0,0.0,0.09461300227195367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726834964603868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824430809199105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621789413539728,0.14888909932430416,0.0,0.13018061961130675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120967847388728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096275903380588,0.0,0.0,0.13705099484585806,0.1373536820602244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817770537368758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892570486407342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760128216272018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485125391285283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707819454302374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985661028663224,0.0,0.12394884560789188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669666357343512,0.12474984454652588,0.13565812558360907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050269438652367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21075129935530254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5600862459923487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154535723695248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22598569964276816,0.1576206683296276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hachi6,2020/02/14,"Five month old frustrated, how to help? Hello! My baby is five months old and desperately wants to be under her own power. She wants to move, go places, but can't yet. I'll help her sit upright, bring toys to her, but I want her to be able to branch out on her own. Is there anything I can do to lessen her frustration while still encouraging her to try? Toys or activities we could do? Thanks!",1.6916772151898734,3.903706316455697,2.899224683544308,91.86503955696205,80.77215189873417,6.481645569620253,18.735759493670887,7.645422480735847,0.3353405063291137,305,7,68,5,8,98,54,79,0.08900000000000001,0.732,0.179,0.8509,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,4,4,2,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,15,6,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,0,2,0,0,12,2,11,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,7,45,12,0,0.23133418277029025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19036832147014576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847015211083034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314725471666899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101168527912724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692974752608084,0.24587162593990275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4854926204385786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416949840240201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847437771868998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21298143476722853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706072492645556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093406839797595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bby_redditor,2020/02/14,"Taking that extra step I was waiting with my son in the emergency department, a porter was supposed to take him for a chest x ray.  After 30 min I asked the nurses at the station around the corner who imformed me that Imaging operates with their own queue, and that I should wait.  

I decided to call imaging directly.  They had no requisition from the emergency department.  

If I hadn’t called we would have waited until god knows when.",6.789259259259263,7.489221259259263,6.898370370370369,74.45866666666669,64.80246913580247,10.430617283950617,33.48395061728395,10.355215969177356,3.5642572839506164,346,14,60,8,5,111,63,81,0.095,0.877,0.027000000000000003,-0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,7,0,7,1,1,0,0,13,14,4,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,11,0,11,8,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,4,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983150639840415,0.3132785352191965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6843606460900153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416529465489828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.503915470126619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23804943029991005,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mercfh85,2020/02/14,"1 year old Lunch/Breakfast food ideas for Lunchbox/Bento box? So we are very lucky and have a babysitter that's a family member that watches our kid everyday. He literally just turned one and we've started to transition away from baby food w/oatmeal to actual foods. He's got 8 teeth so he chews/eats most things pretty well and so far has enjoyed eating everything we've given him.

However im having a tough time with things that would fit into a lunchbox that wouldn't ""go bad"" as we'll be sending the lunchbox over with him in the morning. Breakfast im less concerned about (I was thinking Yogurt + maybe toast or some sort or fruit with it (She doesn't mind making minor things, but I don't want to expert our babysitter to make stuff obviously).

Lunch is where I am having a hard time. I mean he loves all kinds of fruit and avocado too...but I feel like if I slice it up even if she keeps it in the fridge it's going to go brown and oxodize (especially the avocado since I know they brown quick). Bananas are similar.   


Some other ideas were: Multi-grain cheerios/Hard boiled egg (maybe sliced?)/Carrot sticks/peanut butter (for dipping or spreading over toast). But im all ears for ideas (This is our first kid)",3.1540851553509768,5.418672396624472,3.7970176448024553,87.02726409666283,76.08860759493672,6.503183736095131,23.852896049098586,7.520522993642371,1.1039637130801678,966,31,187,13,22,305,152,237,0.019,0.8859999999999999,0.095,0.9469,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,5,0,1,1,9,8,0,0,9,0,17,13,2,2,3,40,33,16,0,5,8,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,14,10,10,1,7,0,0,4,3,2,1,2,4,9,17,6,22,25,6,22,0,0,3,1,18,10,0,10,9,106,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.11031191157162357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062059349978728,0.0,0.09438468605054068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313387509112521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466265105895299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159414784781708,0.0,0.1065651894819686,0.0,0.0571570307310472,0.08075666081608869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615279286585847,0.4100696283656631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273176879851314,0.0,0.09040937969112628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20252543570335693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828292895962589,0.3663117043523306,0.0,0.0,0.10047621864735606,0.0,0.1177150217659584,0.06212449104469076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05522622377312362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202410267593237,0.0,0.1509117668076402,0.0,0.22713017226021284,0.1231350135099971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413939457154225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861773109321715,0.0,0.07659964734386554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150035464932775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350885450647037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001114808356155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940513706079235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225298664852495,0.07243224099560226,0.0,0.0,0.1318304736260846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229563725379873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932708343485256,0.06667463264283552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163762073149643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803012300910038,0.0,0.0,0.07279483106010261
parenting,Jackalope-n,2020/02/14,Teacher gift ideas? My kids preschool teacher has really been going above and beyond for them lately. We want to give her a present. Looking for recommendations for the best gifts for teachers. What are some gifts you have given/received that were great for teachers?,5.3889130434782615,8.7207452826087,3.902347826086957,83.47091304347828,74.43478260869566,5.419130434782609,28.76521739130435,6.742157984588678,1.6251965217391304,217,9,34,2,5,62,39,46,0.0,0.757,0.243,0.9163,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,9,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,2,7,7,2,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,2,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814151033461826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486513884056711,0.206555251445885,0.0,0.0,0.40070149525532595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102873162341611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4099839388718223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052038633104866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328333935915325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21437040083932155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,4catsinacoat,2020/02/14,"How can I be helpful to a new parent? Someone very dear to me just had their baby. I’m not able to visit them for a week or two— what’s the most helpful thing I can do for them on my first visit? 

I was thinking of bringing them a freezer meal or two (don’t want to bring too much because I don’t know how much space they have!) and some diapers. Is there anything else that would be helpful? What did your friends do that helped you a lot?",0.8283924349881815,2.6339174893617034,2.166312056737592,98.13388888888888,81.55319148936171,4.6033096926713934,22.14657210401891,5.033348758259628,-0.1880505910165482,340,11,80,1,9,109,66,94,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.9427,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,5,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,2,0,14,20,5,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,3,0,13,2,8,14,5,9,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,5,3,61,18,0,0.20340022354878165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738105315842164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399088838271753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991478702838306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301212624354131,0.0,0.0,0.1571465081577188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5453395294081923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178344348701956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292359640034766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29904513567606195,0.0,0.0,0.19644520337043075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258518774573337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172340349354209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351300705338181,0.1303306503089983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973849263974744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782648622240273,0.11997072176714675,0.0,0.16315539041848062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444896829715438,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofspiders1,2020/02/14,"Navigating political bias in the classroom My 2nd grader has been learning the basics of US History.  I know they have been covering the president's but today she came home and had some out of character things to say. She told me ""Did you know people BULLY our president?! They make signs and boo and hiss at him! They make up lies about him and his family! Everyone just needs to get over it because HE. IS. OUR. PRESIDENT. Its ridiculous, mom!"" 

I asked her if she realized that has happened to all presidents. She was adamant that it has only happened to Trump because her teacher told her so. We did have a mini discussion on adversity that past presidents have faced but it was cut short.


We dont talk politics around our kids, however we have had debates on tv in the living room while the kids play. I cant think of a time my child has ever spoken about Trump before this. We dont say anything positive or negative of our current president because it's just not something that has come up with the kids. Honestly, I dont care which political side her teacher leans but this seems like extreme bias, no? 

We have a conference coming up soon and I'm not sure if I'm going to bring it up. Parents of older children, what has been your experience?",3.433670454545453,5.7169146625000025,4.5945454545454565,81.55227272727275,75.29166666666666,8.363636363636363,27.99242424242424,9.095868883498916,2.5790833333333323,989,41,185,24,22,324,142,240,0.156,0.804,0.04,-0.9841,3,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,10,2,3,0,8,8,2,0,9,0,25,1,1,2,3,40,46,13,0,3,10,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,5,15,16,0,0,6,2,0,5,8,3,0,0,12,2,33,5,25,34,2,28,0,0,0,0,41,15,0,5,9,130,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177212321283,0.12091274502941185,0.12697772330455528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483923584910972,0.0,0.11557678278051198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534722838856505,0.13848229440240908,0.0,0.0,0.2340018378908193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775564743122551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286118222599032,0.0,0.12978628448006027,0.0,0.132862581429723,0.12804340255867336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709627795566461,0.0,0.07719228507944997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402185987838485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624320971829162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929136342283708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635706872715648,0.0,0.11993566432325745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18132803218504026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907620169541256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071226530257747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330077538835797,0.0,0.0,0.1508172125737396,0.0,0.12966000806157887,0.0941637182038313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21602644448690209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364967040134582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456446003707376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801313582674506,0.0,0.0,0.10917071778091404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902358696427188,0.08703095858142337,0.0,0.0,0.0792004522586689,0.0,0.12874589732177585,0.2595725689601205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338034385658906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dexinthecity,2020/02/14,"Disciplining a 15 month old Our daughter is in the stage where she likes to mess with everything. Messes up the books case, throws things, likes to mess with her little sister(York is). 

I’m trying to do the timeout out thing where I sit her down by herself near a walk or corner and wait 1 minute. Then I tell her why she got timeout. The thing is she’s not understanding it yet and she goes back to doing it again and again. 

Any help to be more effective or different methods that helped you guys would be greatly appreciated.",4.292941176470588,6.032130598039219,4.537401960784315,85.24080882352943,71.45098039215686,7.845098039215688,25.495098039215684,8.472884824447931,1.5448392156862738,419,13,84,7,8,131,73,102,0.046,0.813,0.141,0.883,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,1,0,14,12,6,0,1,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,2,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,12,3,13,8,1,20,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,2,9,59,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649318320054306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695225026807204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404320938244052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068218972013077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405232809789132,0.2537140981190097,0.0,0.22786035518710585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30849644872824633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22485532125592425,0.2306461361886545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18368392207137904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24147792669281046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113976831909328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4586553289616061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624006060421075,0.0,0.0,0.23956868761756897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20765240614193686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347450229021235,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marieennui,2020/02/14,When is the correct time to start giving allowance? I want to teach my daughter to be smart about money. I remember my parents doing it and it really helped me be responsible. What age do you start to do this?,1.6248780487804881,4.2538061219512215,3.4372682926829263,85.02419512195122,85.34146341463416,6.206829268292682,22.83414634146341,7.554174236665415,1.3375034146341465,165,6,31,3,5,55,32,41,0.0,0.794,0.20600000000000002,0.7941,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,5,10,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,5,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,24,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36288988987990906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25355956963885795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200458742637359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423420280847572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285284154976853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355107041471435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22058372942551308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231250290148794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joygirl007,2020/02/14,"Stories requested: Hawaii with a 1 year old We’re taking a trip to Hawaii with our 1 year old in a couple of months and I’m low key freaking out. All the logistics fall on me and I’m getting more and more anxious as I research flights, sunscreens, drowning statistics...

It would really, really help me if you lovely of parents of reddit could share your travel tips/stories here. So much of what I found in search was negative :( Please tell me this is doable - that she’ll have fun and is super unlikely to be eaten by a shark.",3.1424893162393173,5.101625278846157,4.120512820512822,86.10226495726496,75.05769230769229,7.314529914529915,25.97863247863248,8.167268648758528,1.6833388888888892,415,15,81,7,9,134,78,104,0.12300000000000001,0.7120000000000001,0.165,0.6922,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,0,1,2,6,0,0,5,0,8,2,0,0,1,12,15,7,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,7,1,0,1,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,3,0,9,4,14,8,4,13,0,1,0,1,10,5,0,1,5,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25896261105024465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302005976373847,0.2536366357323637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25133688211035377,0.0,0.0,0.11976226987695765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364682594660445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20688739398553346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829677568091029,0.0,0.16850909730039593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4810728567601824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25453078116716826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516237201460105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936989005125645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235107344940026,0.0,0.2003555444561227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283713153675775,0.0,0.0,0.2952308816962435
parenting,putterpuffpuffs,2020/02/14,"Gift culture creep - question on buying presents for teachers I am really confused and stressed out about gift-giving etiquette in schools these days. When I was young, my parents sent a box of chocolates to my elementary school teacher around Christmastime. That was about it. 

It seems like you give gifts all the time now. Is that your experience too or am I living in some Pinterest-neighborhood-hellscape? I just read a whole discussion on our neighborhood FB group on what people are gifting to teachers for Valentines Day. That was news to me! We never did that when we were kids, aside from giving your teacher one of your cardboard valentines. Parents around here give school supplies (some give a new year cash gift as well), Thanksgiving gift, Christmas gift, Valentines gift, birthday gift, Teacher Appreciation Week gift, and a year-end card/gift. I was already surprised about the rising expectations for Valentines just for the kids (the card now comes with a sweet, pencil, game, etc).    

I guess what I'm asking is, do I need to go out and get some Valentine chocolates for our teachers tonight? We literally have 7 teachers who work with my son so I feel like I need to get a grasp on the new normal.",7.948365827720668,8.682794981566822,6.363317972350233,79.17157036511877,62.317972350230406,8.888904643743354,36.50797589507268,8.617729084823388,3.0244791917759666,969,43,168,12,13,284,127,217,0.024,0.812,0.165,0.9823,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,5,4,0,1,15,7,0,2,11,0,13,0,0,0,2,32,29,8,0,4,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,13,0,0,4,2,2,4,1,2,1,1,7,2,22,5,29,22,6,29,0,0,0,0,26,10,0,8,17,107,32,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389052975048478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22410942998739636,0.1176753748496865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842946807004956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235687704997945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148716992168786,0.0,0.14038299395628745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312911010177767,0.0,0.0,0.0636457720011544,0.08992454569693795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152813686342768,0.4829999670711216,0.07153720232045037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866461024860458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299154108576488,0.0,0.11114921491570937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666823223813014,0.09708193437288204,0.2431401520116599,0.0,0.0,0.12332997949555947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085295608044389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27953678112234626,0.0,0.0,0.08726531354085618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410078992230468,0.0,0.12590825223746735,0.0,0.08063822859850285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38217419778974615,0.0,0.1145911340654551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418845809392614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339825179767744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096868171697553,0.0,0.11317601269834385,0.0,0.0,0.1405340366740456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163790866940248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621177014010699
parenting,Astars26,2020/02/14,"2 year old pooping often My daughter can pre on the potty but the pooping on the potty thing has not been successful as of yet.  The last couple weeks she has been pooping in her diaper it seems every 20 minutes (not every day but at least one day a week it happens).  We are getting a Dr appointment set up tomorrow.  Is it something I am feeding her?  Breakfast could be yogurt or small pancake pieces with some syrup and light butter, Her normal lunch is some Mac n cheese or white rice, yogurt and dry cereal or a banana for a snack dinner is usually  a rice or pb n j (just common examples not a definite menu) any ideas would be helpful since her but gets diaper rash from going so frequently",4.348529411764705,5.7160015000000035,5.505176470588236,79.81629411764708,70.76470588235293,8.381176470588235,27.57058823529412,8.841846274778883,2.229287647058824,548,19,100,10,10,182,99,136,0.073,0.899,0.027000000000000003,-0.7335,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,10,0,14,10,4,0,0,23,19,11,0,3,11,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,5,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,3,8,1,10,13,4,20,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,8,12,67,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774395387971018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346408353106224,0.2403935755676841,0.0,0.28022889109117005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36610110652117295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270183105898233,0.0,0.1234736171468323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921219152099026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562450632291254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452596031825913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709554216162138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21286824445199407,0.0,0.0,0.22797736575241964,0.0,0.14722070349916996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977849476505815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971935669683703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725702694892794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433760070334636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239280715889034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348545035191522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433496100544458,0.0,0.0,0.13990803628196852
parenting,jmitsue,2020/02/14,"Bath time trouble My 2.5 year old son pooped in the tub last week. Not a big deal, just picked him up, quick cleaned the tub, and gave him another bath. I told him that accidents happen, but poop goes in a diaper or the potty. He’s not yet potty trained, but we have been talking about the potty a lot.

My problem is he’s now terrified to get into the tub. He throws a fit telling me he needs a diaper. I can sometimes manage to calm him down long enough to wash his diaper area, but that’s it.

Has anyone else’s child gone through something like this or have any advice? 

Thanks!",3.1273352165725044,4.415528889830508,3.8233333333333337,91.00349340866293,73.66101694915254,7.278342749529191,23.280602636534837,7.793537801064563,0.8765845574387949,451,12,99,6,9,143,83,118,0.1,0.7909999999999999,0.109,0.2598,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,10,0,6,3,2,1,0,15,13,6,0,2,8,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,11,3,10,9,2,19,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,3,10,55,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238636303051443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578873132368104,0.2402203393472908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601847209438322,0.23472928866374165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361812387275057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191374900180292,0.0,0.0,0.2367107165498705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968982034563963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258310843904467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673853725954295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192156908505396,0.0,0.0,0.20273701865791155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476371997220965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986697837907536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403909171809551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920773411107108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763643069587744,0.2265753958607044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413348067590396,0.20023434046334826,0.21091485345321406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335839430382864,0.0,0.0,0.218904856458538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376179672930748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752614169308953
parenting,silverframe,2020/02/14,Technology in bedrooms overnight Just want to share. We don’t allow our teenagers to keep their tech in their rooms overnight. The 13 yo isn’t happy about it so as an act of solidarity I no longer take my phone in with me. Bought an alarm clock and am reading more than I have in years. So is she! Win win!,1.7628571428571431,3.7807921904761934,2.36531746031746,96.80607142857143,79.47619047619048,5.469841269841268,21.61111111111111,6.42735559955562,-0.022574603174603247,240,7,57,2,6,74,51,63,0.062,0.6729999999999999,0.266,0.9343,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,2,2,4,5,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,9,4,11,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,2,35,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5162645192608742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43106774069403175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4851058781254911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646405712617583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860506062218131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31230776577505964
parenting,selfishhoneybadger,2020/02/15,"Trying Step Dad and Rejecting 3 Year Old? Long back story short: I had my daughter in May 2016, her biological dad was never in the picture so its always been her and I. I married my husband who was in the military at the time May 2018. We dated before and were very close friends in high school.

 My daughter and I stayed in Ohio while he was stationed in Hawaii, so they never had any time to get to know each other. 

In July 2019 my husband came back to Ohio to stay home for good and ever since then my life has been hell. It is a constant battle on whos side I'm on. My daughter hates my husband because when he came home he played the more authority role while I continued to baby her. We did give spankings RARELY at first, shes probably had a total of 3 in her life time, hes probably spanked her 2/3 times and that was months ago and she still talks about it to this day, I was there and it was not a hard spanking. Ever since then we talked and agreed that I am the only one who should punish her and I do that by time outs strictly now. My husband isnt used to children but I can see that he trying,  my daughter just doesnt accept it, she says things like ""I dont like daddy"" ""daddy mean to me"" ""daddy says no"" and ""daddy smacked my butt"" when I know that didnt happen. She thinks anyone who says no is mean. And she knows when she tells me he spanks her it gets him and I fighting. I just dont know what to do at this point, I dont know how to make then get along better or to get to the source of the problem. I wish I could go back and do it all different but I'm just kinda stuck in the same situation over and over. Any advice?",1.645955811719503,3.2289129279538926,3.0333919308357338,93.91615898174835,78.22190201729106,5.664130643611911,20.500384245917388,6.2581,-0.03217725264169058,1274,31,292,9,30,415,173,347,0.081,0.85,0.068,-0.6821,1,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,3,0,1,2,18,14,5,0,11,0,33,3,1,3,6,57,59,29,0,4,7,10,1,2,1,3,2,3,2,1,20,24,0,0,9,1,0,4,11,7,0,2,17,5,47,7,35,38,5,60,1,1,1,1,49,22,2,4,34,196,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159526619348743,0.08308906935648659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799375939686909,0.0,0.0,0.12748395347728214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554062459802185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162257675974956,0.0,0.05713905589194364,0.0,0.07976028277870795,0.0,0.0,0.08289964079223491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21441224728829725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012925862229233,0.0,0.07483855201566475,0.0,0.0,0.06045033650572147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793153042416243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295648011442209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957458757925714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972964530183689,0.0,0.0,0.07241824967921788,0.0,0.19588748632845915,0.08991768957441088,0.05327089349738945,0.07861919103504962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288820170782348,0.0,0.08396678178529607,0.09254240010747744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903456185575303,0.188044634439194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25756733049139985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241344976286198,0.09158688170262136,0.0,0.0,0.08295117507892352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256782190524908,0.0,0.0,0.2042064647063397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481716486610245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445860676332301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983575135437272,0.0,0.06351622798406235,0.07128853094900732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860843048988573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021210775594044,0.08969027586216792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236218626972302,0.0,0.0948632801187411,0.0746934432527059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15507459700693094,0.10536035232049436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199814823801128,0.07485567360576881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067883206087027,0.08192718795285396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06227235528050575,0.060060625498971836,0.0,0.0,0.2732837130598059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727775235954067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095562645449064,0.0,0.07733993280869987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077888694840148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036128423566515
parenting,Standard-Swan,2020/02/15,"Traumatized kid won't sleep... it's driving me crazy... First post here, thank you for reading me!  
My 9 years old son went to his friend for a sleepover last weekend and since then, he just won't sleep. During that sleepover, the older brother of his friend played a video game with zombies all night and that's that... now he just can't sleep in a room by himself. It's been a few nights and I'm considering taking him to see a doctor since nothing really helped (putting music, a small light etc.).  
Have any of you had a similar situation? I'm really out of option and super worried...",3.6760193236714973,5.24968632173913,4.374202898550728,86.46033816425123,72.73913043478261,7.1980676328502415,25.82125603864734,7.793537801064563,1.3467487922705312,457,15,92,6,9,146,81,115,0.024,0.836,0.139,0.9151,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,0,2,4,5,0,0,8,0,6,4,3,0,1,10,12,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,5,6,0,0,0,5,0,3,3,0,0,1,3,2,9,5,11,7,3,18,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,1,10,52,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584383287703387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436043029297152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899852657644216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489961212784455,0.0,0.0,0.26322395514919755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418200562716074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885797591515506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197238464109175,0.0,0.16345540712679307,0.0,0.1787536556620921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314819869558653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124878816410066,0.0,0.0,0.17039608637152664,0.0,0.21826112778060736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574688454760878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818305395956453,0.19148052304882074,0.5114190359075462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808199009126053,0.0,0.0,0.15683538101323635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791614484023708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729986810331475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969980664249802
parenting,Throwawayslums,2020/02/15,"Bleeding gums in my 16 month old daughter(cross posted) For the past few days my daughter has had bleeding gums. To our knowledge she didn't hit her mouth on anything. She has been waking more in the night and somewhat fussier during the day. When looking in her mouth it looks like it is coming from the labial frenulum(?). We were never told she had a lip tie, but thought it could have been possible. And if so, maybe it ripped. We sent in a request to the pediatric dentist for an appointment, but are still worried and wondering if there is anything we should do before we are able to get into the dentist.",5.431465517241378,6.641176974137935,4.916724137931039,85.63818965517244,68.05172413793103,7.179310344827586,31.74137931034483,7.1686216300943375,1.9157793103448275,483,20,90,4,8,146,80,116,0.024,0.961,0.015,-0.2617,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,9,0,16,9,4,0,1,20,25,9,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,9,2,12,1,12,13,3,18,0,0,2,0,14,6,0,4,10,68,16,0,0.2107283288842034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468229189088665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931428700565286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152379617232128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824942349385405,0.0,0.0,0.27180467802124875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009685435096644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102951217193783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539174459538351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117049301766876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820134164984296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252667822489722,0.0,0.0,0.19775426152933487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211239328435589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116403432739868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375645283037065,0.2018194883807405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828791565580425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729475455130444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013599488129976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228525883606238,0.0,0.2140048469784132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,natty_disaster,2020/02/15,"Jealous of partners freedom since having our baby Myself (22F) and boyfriend (25M) have recently had a baby, he is 9 weeks old now and the sweetest little boy I could ever ask for. 

His dad is good with him and does help out with the nappies from time to time but apart from that he’s exclusively breastfed so the rest is down to me. Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love spending time with my son but right now, apart from the housework, cooking and a trip to the gym 2-3 times a week (baby comes with me) that is my entire life. 

My boyfriend however, obviously doesn’t have this and continues to flex his freedom which frustrates me. He is in his final year at uni and I really want to help him do well so I’ve been taking on as much as I can. Allowing him to spend all his time focusing on his assignments, spending time back at my mums so he can sleep well when he had exams and even sending him home to do his work when I was stuck in hospital for 5 days with mastitis. As well as this he’s been able to go out with his friends on a few occasions, has been on a lads trip for a weekend a couple of weeks ago and is also training a few times a week. And it feels so unfair.

Tonight he has just sprung it upon me that he’s going out for ‘one’ at the pub and it made me feel deflated. We’re not exactly having the easiest time with our relationship at the moment which is stressing me out, and I’ve been stuck in all day due to the storm with a rather hungry baby. To be honest I’m exhausted, bored and have been looking forwards to my boyfriend finishing his work so I could chill with him for a bit. 

When I told him I’d rather he didn’t as I’d like the support he got angry and told me that I was trapping him and that he needs to be able to do things that don’t involve me without a problem. And I agree, but at the same time I will admit I’m jealous. Jealous how ever since I’ve been pregnant my life has gradually grinded to a halt whilst his has carried on as normal and I’m fed the fuck up of being left at home all the time. Ugh.

Has anyone got any opinions or advice which might help me at all? because I am struggling🙃",4.0853125000000015,4.215686906250003,5.189285714285713,86.35571428571428,70.5625,8.185714285714287,28.276785714285715,7.957251820313856,1.5629678571428571,1666,55,369,20,28,552,207,448,0.11,0.7659999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.6558,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,0,2,22,20,5,1,26,0,44,8,1,3,8,63,70,36,0,8,9,3,2,1,2,2,3,0,2,2,15,30,2,1,3,4,3,7,6,11,3,1,19,3,46,9,63,44,10,70,0,0,1,2,46,28,1,3,38,247,61,4,0.1818824759183089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888667252193505,0.08061392037047714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272567513977149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184316032015427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358822807014383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501778132707312,0.0,0.0,0.06992819852297864,0.0,0.05543693457384705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992842782772675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833782401428986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521835710900574,0.10062475007181372,0.0,0.11729915020549793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958329018024403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006582998477935,0.16452311243637174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196524478122473,0.0,0.0,0.09962168101166023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702609748577482,0.0840737090856528,0.04751304337248105,0.0,0.1033680025476773,0.07627719572232809,0.14546803127225327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828679845349933,0.0,0.18244295313669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880792113309236,0.0,0.12846897164494722,0.044429295247480335,0.0911470115555142,0.0,0.0,0.07636773574963941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207801784112223,0.08605079822409556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647428214999626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685227373292943,0.06743177563447095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910310454688831,0.0,0.0,0.0954275312753055,0.0,0.0616241364188603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701848284445225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582592857201195,0.0,0.08979350125197044,0.0976368557599101,0.0,0.07766332032263565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045506360127045,0.0,0.09100691463360397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417288082384142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319903913362123,0.0,0.0,0.0683764931685766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060417317569496275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5302856718404595,0.0,0.0,0.1737965001422139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053639498354538316,0.0,0.2917903023996882,0.0,0.24530128358669465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876641081469804,0.0,0.13241260867836213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994299675136303,0.0,0.058563175620088614
parenting,chasingshoesales,2020/02/15,"What is a good STEM camp for my boyfriend's 8 year old son? My boyfriend's son LOVES sensors. He's actually somewhat obsessed with security and fire systems, and it stems from his fascination with sensors. He even makes up games related to it and proudly says he will be a fire inspector or security consultant when he grows up. I would love to suggest a STEM camp or something similar for him to meet like-minded kids and dive more into his interests. Does anyone have any suggestions?",6.442564102564102,7.576975252747253,6.66346153846154,74.3023717948718,65.7032967032967,10.462271062271064,37.14468864468864,10.504223727775694,4.122405128205129,392,20,70,10,6,126,65,91,0.061,0.693,0.24600000000000002,0.9639,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,1,3,0,5,2,0,1,0,12,8,7,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,7,11,5,2,8,0,0,0,2,18,3,0,3,3,38,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.2815084135283067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961717957539136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20170729996255168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524450054919885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053395186408933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24195779100644305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093352583630214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5207169901557366,0.0,0.1925582262672928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912758869748537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027042938576774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294056163074576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22208090732258315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049232178576896,0.0,0.0,0.1857674036541853
parenting,cassielee1981,2020/02/15,"17 Year Old Smashed Up A Car My 17 year old daughter was driving her father's car. (My ex-husband)  She hit another vehicle causing $2,000 worth of damage.  My ex-husband made an arrangement to pay out of pocket for damages as he didn't want his auto insurance to skyrocket.    This all happened 3 days ago and no one informed me about the accident or arrangement until he requested $1,000 from me today.  

Now... I'm a little ticked.  I'm cool with having to pay 1/2 the $500 deductible, but....  1/2 of the arrangement he made without me seems unreasonable.  What do I do?",3.5766666666666644,5.319631351351358,5.165945945945946,79.99234234234235,73.32432432432431,8.536936936936938,31.25225225225225,9.150863307647796,2.9390252252252256,444,21,83,10,9,150,81,111,0.163,0.8009999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.8999,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,6,1,5,0,0,3,1,13,13,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,3,3,3,2,0,1,4,1,10,1,15,8,1,15,0,2,0,0,10,3,0,2,9,45,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074935765998537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454482981004384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404597500455241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509591649705683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069919613192024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23460488383552236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4429753027946989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4912451765007826,0.0,0.1586154402572562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309330686653208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187595742671387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13806364098726004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256401779650315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30147355966842976
parenting,ZenGenius,2020/02/15,Discipline How do you displine your children & or get them to respect you? Having some minor issues with my 8yr son. Rather not whoop his ass but finding it harder & harder not to. Squats is the discipline of choice rn but he's not finishing them lately. I've already limited screen time recently maybe that's what's causing the extra lash out. HALP!,2.0253731343283583,4.8822495223880615,2.873746268656717,86.39270895522391,91.08955223880596,5.665074626865673,23.117910447761197,7.1686216300943375,1.4271802985074626,286,11,49,5,10,90,55,67,0.035,0.9009999999999999,0.064,0.2304,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,2,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,2,0,16,4,4,0,1,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,5,4,2,5,0,0,1,1,9,1,1,2,4,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30888683680262946,0.0,0.0,0.606563148255559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875439220288893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558319992886879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624103931266413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29215255230528714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31574984545507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812064813219799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27637663291038017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321734470808252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Watching_kid,2020/02/15,"We need to secretly respect the relationship and teamwork of siblings My kids fight a lot, and they were arguing for awhile so I go upstairs and sent them to their respective rooms.  I didn't check up on them for a bit cause I do work from home.  A couple hours later and the younger one comes in through the front door..........It all clicked to me.  They had a fake fight for me to ground them so the youngest could sneak off to do something.  I was pissed but I respected the plan  

Parents really need to respect their kid's relationship with each other.  They may butt heads but when they do work together its scary",3.056569900687549,5.280104420168065,3.2055614973262045,91.34866310160429,76.22689075630252,7.016348357524827,25.94423223834989,8.00094639256281,1.421110924369748,482,18,101,8,11,147,82,119,0.11800000000000001,0.784,0.099,-0.0772,1,0,1,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,9,3,3,9,4,0,9,0,9,3,3,1,1,18,14,9,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,8,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,5,0,1,5,1,18,4,17,7,4,13,0,0,1,1,20,6,2,2,3,68,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24082507750407914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22660474636642464,0.0,0.19001711919642195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761216514467967,0.2440765411740079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536530283005526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22638703414240666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22126785374072852,0.0,0.21723484812840504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875361175240802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271265677745747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494762079827894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449369843998198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131438775934071,0.0,0.0,0.4736581413216288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698194992455115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211815334793557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,regretmoore,2020/02/15,"Planning first birthday party We're planning our kids first birthday party in a few months and we want to make it enjoyable for him and not overwhelming. We were originally thinking grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and godparents but we've had a couple of comments from friends who are expecting to be invited to a big party. My partner and I have thrown some really fun big parties in the past but I'm worried if we make it too big the little fella will feel overwhelmed by the attention and spend more time in tears rather than having fun. 

What do you think is a good size of a party? How big was your kids first birthday and did they enjoy it?",6.147580645161291,7.0426152096774235,6.061451612903228,79.21217741935486,66.25806451612904,9.103225806451613,32.435483870967744,9.188382445141503,2.8386967741935485,522,21,94,9,8,164,86,124,0.038,0.68,0.28300000000000003,0.9882,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,4,2,1,5,3,8,0,2,8,0,11,0,0,4,0,25,18,10,0,4,5,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,5,9,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,2,0,3,4,1,10,6,12,12,3,15,0,2,0,0,16,8,0,2,7,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26526474288912144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121837318461115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.611761229333337,0.0,0.0,0.18522042954122347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010802580592372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240279738018031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32005299493104705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135601143274825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22885636270813545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358184180752826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30722794054567026,0.0,0.0,0.13979273717266788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140326042612145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434648472086252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shakis123,2020/02/15,"It’s one of those days... Where my toddler took a completely unexpected 3 HOUR NAP! Normally it’s only an hour ish. I went through several emotions (shocked, excited, worried, relieved, ecstatic). I’m super grateful for the two hours of peace and quiet to chill and get chores done but now I’m getting kind of bored haha! I Never have this much free time. I don’t know what to do with myself.",1.8181432748538,4.446942539473684,3.384912280701758,85.83494152046785,84.13157894736842,6.5356725146198835,26.86549707602339,7.793537801064563,1.958226900584796,307,14,58,6,9,101,63,76,0.057999999999999996,0.7040000000000001,0.23800000000000002,0.9266,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,1,7,11,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,2,0,2,3,1,5,7,8,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21463391231174525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320206285341946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948879092860206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23027052312441335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139044260292822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6047925735944484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317333973190228,0.11250293324051497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048496398651134,0.0,0.15788451007563828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20057174917328408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871638811776427,0.1556907241083191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312633550477008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936769802066947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22743967687659164,0.0,0.0,0.19997133945186368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976766573110967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20789233366502635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,comfused98,2020/02/15,"Gender disappointment I am pregnant with my fourth boy and feeling a little disappointment that I will never have a daughter. This is definitely our last so I'm finding it hard to accept I will never have a little girl of my own. I don't want to feel this way and I hope these feelings go away, I know I will love my new little boy with all my heart but I'm terrified of this sadness staying with me now. Anyone been through this and gotten over it? Any advice appreciated.",2.6823286052009467,4.948326925531916,4.30035460992908,82.83388888888891,77.61702127659575,6.305437352245864,24.274231678487002,7.3871296695380915,1.1896089834515364,377,13,72,5,9,126,62,94,0.161,0.698,0.141,-0.4698,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,0,9,2,1,0,3,18,20,5,0,2,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,8,6,0,0,6,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,4,13,3,10,15,2,13,0,3,0,1,6,5,0,1,5,53,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279715917970705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416929221810325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795523238798868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536780895427885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992791378323296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18032664520812405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112128905347203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17674010531800266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23379888231340545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959612659548768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842972935161012,0.16082406706234156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5932327826500109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806899749945945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30433650400410944,0.1905514767609682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21029323889660956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163713738415975,0.1566058365489249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jackmacleod,2020/02/15,Bathing with children Is it acceptable for step fathers to be bathing with they step children? Children over the ages of 10.,5.6931818181818175,8.503304681818186,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727276,70.36363636363637,6.218181818181819,42.81818181818181,7.1686216300943375,3.443745454545456,101,7,17,1,2,28,17,22,0.0,0.9009999999999999,0.099,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,11,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,equal_dad_rights,2020/02/15,"Extracurricular activities can I do with my 16 month old daughter? Like tumbling... swimming classes... socialization groups?

I have a lot time on my hands... and want to do some activities that will be helpful for my daughter and a fun bonding experience for us... any ideas or experiences would be helpful...",5.689615384615383,8.718187192307695,6.392923076923079,67.7520769230769,71.30769230769229,8.775384615384615,37.32307692307693,9.3871,4.19888,242,14,38,6,5,79,41,52,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.8504,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,8,1,1,0,0,9,9,3,0,2,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,5,5,2,5,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,3,4,27,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834611127195996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5277974182203389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361658575768127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045512085163232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318019309047825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293591357982811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215337537665976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28309098340413313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750089267014573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731214076297134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245147081575815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912450144689153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164549840494916,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chocol8wasted,2020/02/15,"Do you let your kids play nerf guns? My teenager asked for nerf for her birthday so I bought one each for three kids (14, 7, 5). 

They were still sitting in the box when the 7 year old pointed finger guns at another one making gun blasting noises. 

I was about to remind ""we don't play guns at each other"" when I realized wow I'm an asshole I just bought them nerf guns. 

I honestly wasn't thinking GUNS when I bought them, even though like duh they are shaped like little guns. I can't even defend what I was thinking.  I don't know what I was thinking.  I just heard nerf request for birthday, I searched nerf, bought nerf, complete mental blind spot. 

I'm debating whether to return them but I feel so dumb for glaringly contradicting myself. 

Discuss?",2.4379680365296816,4.880175719178087,2.9155890410958922,91.49539269406392,79.4794520547945,5.53716894977169,24.11689497716895,6.742157984588678,0.7926873059360733,589,21,117,6,15,182,85,146,0.091,0.828,0.081,-0.6621,0,0,0,7,0,0,20.0,1,2,5,0,12,7,1,0,3,1,11,2,1,1,0,14,25,8,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,6,2,4,0,4,1,0,3,10,4,24,6,11,14,2,14,0,0,1,0,15,6,1,0,9,70,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381559634711308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21232729041116727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381318392895587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000222948162204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148391014891086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481965281945905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322464075079767,0.0,0.22191950266223248,0.2276347099461992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160489866830568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22888434859751536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23832507541408085,0.0,0.3078058661495112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21470256941211724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813789655157913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365895167255031,0.2231450343848798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625834976155835
parenting,agentcall,2020/02/15,"Personal routines with a toddler My son is almost 2 (next month), which means his schedule is relatively unpredictable. Some days he wakes up at 6, other days at 8. Sometimes he's willing to play on his own in the mornings between breakfast and lunch, and sometimes he insists that I stay in the room with him.

I really want to create a routine for myself involving things I need/want to get done, but I have no idea how to fit that around a kid that I can't control. Any suggestions?",7.110638297872344,6.52011814893617,7.182425531914895,77.05300000000003,64.31914893617022,10.073191489361703,36.88510638297872,9.3871,3.344423829787233,382,17,72,6,5,123,71,94,0.032,0.878,0.09,0.4816,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,6,3,1,2,0,13,9,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,5,2,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,10,1,15,7,2,15,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,5,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277403941392364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546616259522143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024627860611168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550844374004688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933497770760442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327419994933535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188238845473618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567431560651073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477402292600228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18153413118598205,0.0,0.0,0.16863801924872535,0.0,0.0,0.2418766169050843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858493593653795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569882602444958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498723216607442,0.0,0.0,0.2424123561868101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109578039989574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268290688503848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OccamsToothpaste,2020/02/15,"Any advice for hand foot and mouth? My daughter caught this at daycare a few days ago. This sucks so bad.  I haven't slept more than a few hours in the past 3 days. I feel like I'm losing my mind.  She's in so much pain and it's killing me to see her like this. Is there anything to help besides tylenol, motrin, and the lidocaine mouthwash? Does benadryl help? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",1.056750000000001,3.579201175000001,1.6900000000000013,97.195,87.25,4.2,21.75,5.6839178017228535,-0.0497749999999999,314,11,68,2,10,96,61,80,0.19,0.63,0.18,-0.4435,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,8,2,0,4,0,4,6,4,0,0,6,10,5,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,3,7,3,7,6,4,9,0,1,1,0,5,3,1,0,7,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059229498028878,0.18411300895351226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824854634884609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091893015434947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734203447890714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26789789397134106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175916702931227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050190702672891,0.14838051116937487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289893499989097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784330937657113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20454209638091345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22978864122797465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029428961178103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232362529822866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097172114342094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268297603922418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22100683276715435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198272603442372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550955129070186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754371277890854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LancelotTheBrave,2020/02/15,"Steps to get 13 year old into therapy My only child,daughter (13) is self harming (superficial cuts on arms/legs). We have talked about anxiety, emotions and healthy outlets, and have a fairly close relationship. Nevertheless, I know she continues to hide this and pretends to me she’s “all better”. To complicate matters, she has expressed she is gay. Her father, step father and I have expressed we love her and accept her unconditionally, and have no issue at all with her orientation..but I think she still struggles with how her Mormon grandparents will react. 

My first step I think should be to get her in to her pediatrician.. so I guess I just need some advice on framing this next step in conversations with her, her doctor and whether I should disclose anything to extended family (I’m thinking initially no).. Thanks in advance for any support and advice",5.275462184873953,8.008838287581703,5.7165873015873006,73.54250000000002,71.35294117647058,8.292997198879553,31.19000933706816,9.04235418022936,3.1262440709617185,690,31,110,15,14,221,98,153,0.095,0.7859999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7003,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,3,5,8,1,1,1,0,11,3,0,2,2,32,23,11,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,15,0,0,5,1,0,5,2,3,0,1,0,0,26,5,19,19,3,19,1,0,0,2,25,8,0,2,6,78,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550813482334256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355216584888105,0.0,0.13898868025340333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951143853110951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068579438588074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859625002558968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043713951755081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712766364338664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454133780312096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18984603582196796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014673051919152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963214488597332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984943411657812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397798593014162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471727323675536,0.0,0.0,0.1932242707448104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064805403926705,0.0,0.0,0.13817978119896346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506191037718293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895372870529397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450940349401349,0.0,0.0,0.1899368185080204,0.0,0.0,0.20617421122198126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603168117168455,0.0,0.16727132143917,0.20777285954599425,0.0,0.0,0.3492496189628541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169993116359595
parenting,throwawaywamtup,2020/02/15,"My daughter is being homophobic to her brother My son is 15M and my daughter is 17F, my son has a boyfriend, yesterday was Valentine's day. He went all out, like he was making up for every Valentine's day where he only got a card from me, his mom😂. Valentine's day candy, cookies, cupcakes, strawberries, huge balloons cards, everything, his boyfriend didn't even know how to react.

My daughter never seemed comfortable around her brother when he was with his boyfriend, she would stare a little. In the last few days it got worse, she started making comments and randomly leaving the room at the slightest physical contact between them. When my son's boyfriend came over today he was here for maybe 30 minutes before she started calling him offensive terms, she asked her brother why he was “wasting all your money on him”


At that point I told the boys to go outside so I could talk to her, she said nothing was wrong but that it's “gross” and “just weird”. So I told her how it was normal, she had no right to judge, she was being immature etc. She got upset and left. My son and his boyfriend came back in and when I apologized for her behavior my son said she's probably mad because her boyfriend just broke up with her. Now I get she's probably hurt right now especially after seeing all that for Valentine's day, but that's not an excuse for being homophobic, let alone to her brother *in his own home*

My husband wasn't home when this happened so I told him about when he got back, he tried talking to her this morning but she told him “you should have stopped after me, now you have a embarrassment. Killing himself would do us all some good”. She immediately apologized for the killing himself part and said it wasn't right. My husband was still really upset, went in her room and took everything and hid her stuff and grounded her. He even said all she was allowed to eat and drink was a sandwich and water, although I'm not sure he meant it. That just made her more angry and now she's yelling swear words at her brother while he's trying to play online with his friends

I don't know what to do",5.694830316742082,6.38076925980392,5.511372549019608,83.49848416289596,67.18627450980392,8.237707390648566,32.60407239819004,8.139509932561175,2.29397443438914,1670,69,324,20,26,518,192,408,0.156,0.7929999999999999,0.051,-0.9929,1,1,1,0,1,0,38.0,1,3,1,0,26,18,4,3,11,0,32,4,0,7,7,55,64,28,2,5,8,15,0,1,1,3,0,5,4,1,14,20,4,1,4,2,1,6,8,12,0,0,34,7,65,6,37,22,12,58,0,2,2,0,91,24,0,3,29,216,79,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871463594389195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625273282442563,0.08007756673989055,0.0,0.0,0.131729619305908,0.0,0.05221560429945663,0.0,0.07288764750089244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746519335115586,0.19593717268509356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839000325424045,0.0,0.0,0.2762078233074898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839110767056301,0.0,0.08764831423964667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553000007044556,0.11315104756471482,0.0,0.07216956777649176,0.0,0.15396565876489285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617824901517927,0.0,0.04475215469382738,0.0,0.04868074650723052,0.07184487922224049,0.2740303452029727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574604574590972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718415551191728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169740068222704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18953316720333566,0.0,0.0941494996685975,0.06982174325773867,0.0,0.09069820775160134,0.0930663888831153,0.08758990500611448,0.0,0.041847597053834944,0.08585063956090347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105055707465958,0.11435318905729402,0.0,0.08605379182325278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032023591602468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606382251947293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392549993318597,0.08219003190331323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514587378136523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275799217745202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097338452363423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470508554394394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05487395422051095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21945137661679756,0.32591701578048465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825739795251178,0.07797875466848933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125668047016,0.0,0.06840564954310357,0.07161293953675868,0.0,0.0,0.0980565691882726,0.0,0.0,0.08073054202713917,0.0,0.0,0.13769541950559258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119265267139772,0.3273950607051593,0.09516788214285928,0.1163107203923376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030346114946678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880946627112005,0.07729195974505411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729162056520813,0.12169629897494424,0.0936522893826967,0.0,0.0
parenting,lunamartha,2020/02/15,"How do I explain this to my 3 year old? My daughter's father is a twat (shocker). Anyway, long story short, he's decided to take me to court. And In the meantime I have been advised not to have contact with him at all. 
This obviously means my daughter, who used to see her dad once a week, hasn't seen him since before Christmas.
I haven't said a lot to her, and don't ever mention anything related to him in front of her.
But a couple of nights ago she had a proper little cry about it?! It was the first time she'd even mentioned him in over a week, so came as a bit of a shock, and I really didn't have anything prepared to say to her. (So I just cuddled her to sleep and she again, hasn't mentioned anything for days).
I was thinking of saying he's on a holiday or something, that way she'd understand he's gone for a while, but will be back.
But NOTHING is progressing with this court, so I need to tell her something. I didn't realise this was affecting her at all as I've kept a lid on it. But now I know it is I feel awful for not explaining in an appropriate way. 

Does anyone have any advice? Should I just carry on as I am and hope she forgets as she is young, or do explain? Please don't judge me, none of this was my choice and I'm just coping the only way I know how?",2.45796703296703,3.332628377289378,4.126906593406595,89.78684340659342,74.75091575091575,6.925201465201465,25.371611721611718,7.1686216300943375,0.9413093040293044,989,32,225,10,20,333,142,273,0.053,0.912,0.035,-0.5169,0,0,2,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,0,2,15,2,0,0,15,1,29,2,1,4,4,44,49,22,0,3,11,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,11,9,0,1,10,1,0,3,10,1,0,1,13,6,36,1,36,31,5,34,0,0,2,1,37,12,0,4,16,159,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575408950269027,0.12314698594017215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447250250877204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713829314003024,0.0,0.34296573406078296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068233233262347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182133642608539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166809361089548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889106838426353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371581763272135,0.15260055150446847,0.08959393572949675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157258041612776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175742708736116,0.12566393819407373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702437163086139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181679562070304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798202914754826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269705472610826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923748775560485,0.0,0.12294261170909933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118107489979254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513280316703937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300975176267672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303699607135402,0.0,0.1333005044493802,0.0,0.1457764713371901,0.14794861551279767,0.0,0.10565731192399708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249589542279102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899772404677017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214772401865887,0.22095452181433498,0.0,0.0,0.1107037601612748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491866117404965,0.0,0.13902347367970513,0.0,0.0,0.2138996484540724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445291587571427,0.0,0.12142495205550542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901634187460565,0.0,0.0,0.08100720306654068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462389338052314,0.0,0.11998499285141764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308121785916464,0.22287153448160915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946195063526594
parenting,Anonymous110518,2020/02/15,"Advice on naming last child? Not really sure how to phrase the title, so sorry that it’s awkward.
My husband and I have two girls already (7, 2) and are expecting #3 in June. And surprise, it’s a boy! We agreed that we’ll stop after this baby, since we’re finally getting a son.
I’m not sure about my husband, but I feel so much added pressure and stress about choosing a name since this is our first boy and last child. We have a good list of names, but nothing really feels “right”. Ya know?
Anyone else experience this? How did you deal with it?",1.6820909090909095,3.851167754545454,3.0063636363636377,91.31954545454546,80.54545454545455,5.8181818181818175,20.909090909090907,6.980632752743323,0.4457272727272725,423,12,89,5,11,137,78,110,0.14,0.7979999999999999,0.062,-0.7682,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,2,0,1,6,7,0,3,5,0,6,0,0,2,2,25,11,11,0,1,4,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,8,8,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,2,10,4,8,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,7,52,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185829118163859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098541563531562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296927864406272,0.19484869721873108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605396043902046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588602350936814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18601994299045116,0.0,0.0,0.19230842924880465,0.0,0.0,0.2083187952150059,0.0,0.16175606331728815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935447637342193,0.0,0.0,0.15950316591620997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451088114516392,0.3100231838360604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979472118923192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247048971688615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436518654986673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240168964941376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146164295274765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21287653240979695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589882354919898,0.2178358044847589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584605382835461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576565328491065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cheukchalk,2020/02/15,"kids raised by domestic helpers My parents ran their own small company together, right before I was born and continued doing so after they had my brother 4 years later. Since they were away most of the time, we were mostly raised by our stay in helper, who was with us almost all day everyday.

Often after a long day of work my dad would be quite snappy and would be quick tempered. He was always a little rude and aloof to her but was never over the top. My helper quit her job after my brother and I got much older, and didn't need round the clock care anymore. After she left, I soon realized how often she'd had to bear snappy comments when my brother and I were now on the receiving end instead. 

I happened to be doing a topic on transient workers in Singapore and wondered if there are many young adults who grew up with years of domestic help at home? Were there any quirks or habits they adapted from your helpers or your child as a result, and you recently took notice?",7.33142105263158,6.687466668421056,6.973684210526319,78.90578947368424,63.89473684210528,9.705263157894738,32.1578947368421,8.841846274778883,2.514063157894737,777,25,146,10,10,244,128,190,0.02,0.89,0.09,0.9256,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,3,4,5,11,7,2,0,8,0,20,0,0,2,2,29,27,16,0,4,4,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,11,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,14,1,25,5,24,7,5,42,0,0,1,0,32,13,0,9,24,107,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515383022383331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723518774390547,0.0,0.0,0.11215823179368656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356649880761806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549574074668673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034350268904178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681573910372441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127327453811124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607925554585702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319097947577522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584728330949634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105492760015368,0.0,0.1654384973301646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16366783286327571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919720894156965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653034482135548,0.0,0.14595808912873895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721339575964478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124271745584328,0.12229369719655347,0.12720438333939238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777419297856174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313553439701172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35084726414576184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284873339021594,0.0,0.0,0.14084953998986974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643201455558351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757937113841955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617216033471412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18324358627795265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19839079420404165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885983039040632,0.12007119283419412,0.0,0.0,0.23432344777251046,0.0,0.0,0.21241935864107814
parenting,pepperspraytaco,2020/02/15,My son has a speech issue My son is twelve and he has kind of an unusual stutter that happens at the end of words. It’s not all the time. No one ever talks to him about it. He’s not being made fun of. I’m not even sure he is aware it’s happening. I don’t know if this is something he can grow out of? What should I do?,-0.6776640926640916,0.7085586081081097,1.9274517374517368,100.0725675675676,84.54054054054055,5.3096525096525085,17.328185328185327,6.1826913282559595,-0.6246193050193051,243,5,66,2,7,84,53,74,0.13,0.87,0.0,-0.8033,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,1,3,13,15,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,1,1,5,3,8,12,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,3,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615870140424852,0.0,0.0,0.19507184659230856,0.2671554472668538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5223432335354828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30826227687554725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30755520118630675,0.1623132719614565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794615193791554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001326559364877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273701472124699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27835811065956,0.0,0.0,0.2373862224730719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221739090856486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ohjay1982,2020/02/15,"My wife wants me to play 1v1 with my 4yo son for hours. So to begin with,  my wife is a damned amazing mother,  without her  my son wouldn't be the kind, caring beautiful child that he has become so far.  I agree with her parenting 99.9% of the time.

When it comes to 1v1 time with my son is where I find we differ a bit.  When she's home with him she plays with him pretty much all day.  The days I'm off of work I make sure to have good 1v1 time with him for at least one or two hours a day, like full on playing. The rest of the time I prefer being a bit more productive and doing things around the house and absolutely love my son tagging along helping me do things like take out the trash,  yardwork, running to the hardware store etc.  These type of things is exactly what I cherished most about the time I spent with my father growing up.  Helping him work on cars,  hang Christmas lights, fix fencing etc.  We had great 1v1 time, we talked about anything, and most importantly I learned a lot about everything from him.   Truth be told my wife does have my son help her with things like laundry, vacuuming, cooking too but when she's done that its 100% 1v1 play time.

My son has been pretty much been conditioned to always have an adult play buddy and it's to the point where we could have just spent 4-5 hours doing things together then I just want to sit down for awhile, watch the news or whatever but my son is asking to play, I say ""not right now little buddy"" and my wife then scolds me for ignoring my son.  

She makes me feel incredibly guilty about it.  I could have a horrible day at work, just want to sit and unwind and the second I walk in the door my son wants to play cars or something and my wife will say something like ""you were gone all day, he misses you and just wants to play"".  Look I get that,  I love that he wants to spend as much time with me as possible (I know it won't last forever) but man..  it's tough sometimes.  I feel like it's a bit unfair to keep using guilt to force me to play with him every second.  I know having a 2nd child would have made this much easier but that ship has sailed.

Anyways, looking for advice from parents of an only child.  How do you balance your 1v1 play time with your child?  Should I just suck it up, make the best of it knowing I'll miss these days at some point in the future? Or is giving him THAT much attention potentially creating other issues in the future?

Another side point:  he's in preschool and won't really play with the other children,  he only wants to play with the teacher and other teachers aids.  I feel like us giving him so much attention is partially to blame for this... but that's just an ignorant theory of mine that is based on having zero education on the issue.",4.768542908996629,5.198916043557173,5.048080891884887,86.91008348457348,69.14519056261344,8.257215452424164,25.36173191599689,8.146662555663855,1.2348826652838991,2144,53,458,27,35,677,245,551,0.064,0.757,0.18,0.9956,2,0,2,0,0,0,59.0,5,5,0,4,23,37,2,1,30,0,38,3,0,6,5,93,77,31,0,13,17,18,3,6,0,6,0,2,3,7,30,33,1,4,11,14,4,8,5,8,0,5,10,9,65,29,72,56,22,65,0,2,3,2,67,27,2,8,34,300,95,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595154075727676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056158017935228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077032334191374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553944064378951,0.06008140520737493,0.06309508600036477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453863886082526,0.0,0.0,0.0708277659310299,0.0,0.22104846698911151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688116942677486,0.0,0.0,0.05813762328433161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777233406474074,0.0,0.0,0.2611571316421363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051385501242054,0.0,0.0,0.05906193339481434,0.06906684755446206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505408771881935,0.0,0.0,0.05686417895610905,0.0,0.060656666257283234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237661353792944,0.09643133835842033,0.0,0.0,0.06168566041982616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03526132428924158,0.12948726315702472,0.0,0.05660834885177581,0.0,0.07440919739457394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571362403072482,0.0,0.0676990956399748,0.0,0.19939547265206645,0.0778756902475489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088638780446966,0.0,0.05998920794547957,0.0,0.0702816150337934,0.11127406251822868,0.05501427022442056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783651096169186,0.06764383218431601,0.0,0.0,0.1133510844334924,0.0,0.0,0.05737853620204982,0.12182674056152926,0.06386172903597531,0.13515253881443925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976824302863272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04573372918410947,0.10266007512829596,0.0,0.0,0.14988180209928234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914027686500964,0.07608609638776817,0.0,0.13732546383470798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04323653929157776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763704719579831,0.0,0.10734329407184398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391592205188313,0.06675044282242204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063609581302637,0.0,0.050744922409553285,0.054246805249352055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241905039425446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35419153020160543,0.0,0.0,0.06449065684770737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592901680305485,0.0,0.08118350666656536,0.05829065758011667,0.0,0.0,0.2786560759652293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650590306679487,0.0,0.14740301619880308,0.0,0.0,0.047943754801463054,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CuriousAboutLife8,2020/02/15,"Toxicity? Toxic parent.

My mom is very much a popular lady. She’s kind (i think), she’s outgoing, she’s popular for being generous and loving, she’s successful, and she’s my mom. I lost my dad two years ago and I’m curious now about a lot of things. My father was an alcoholic. My mother and I were very Codependent when he was alive. We latched onto each-other. This is where it comes to questioning. At my fathers funeral my mother clutched my hand in the pew and said ‘do not cry today. This isn’t about you. This is about you being strong for me. And i am your parent. Do not cry today’. At first i nodded my head like a child. A child and i was 33 years old. I wasn’t sure what i was agreeing to other than thinking that she just needed me to be strong. I agreed. Fast forward. My mother has done some weird shit. Last night she received a phone call from a friend of hers at work and they asked if she was leaving her job. She said no not yet and sugarcoated the convo. She does that. I asked her when she got off the phone is she was leaving her job as she’s been there for nearly 35 years and she said shut your mouth. I’m not discussing this with you. You cannot repeat anything you just heard. I was again like okay and i agreed with it. But this is where I’m a little upset. 

My ex narcissist/abusive ex partner painted me a painting when we first started dating. I threw it out when we broke up. I wanted no memories of this part of my life and my anxiety levels were elevated when I saw it. 

My mom decided to take it out of the trash and bring it to work. She’s had it in her office for two years. I haven’t been there so i didn’t notice but i did notice it in her car once. I said throw it out. She said okay. she never did. 
Yesterday for Valentine’s Day she posted a photo on fb of her office decorated in balloons and there’s the painting. It’s of hearts all over the place and very Valentine’s Day decoration-ish.  I texted my mom to please get rid of it again. I believe i said this verbatim: 

‘Hey mama. I'm so glad you are enjoying that painting that was given to me by someone who hurt me to the core. Would you be so kind enough to get rid of it please and thank you. I don't want to see it or be reminded of it. It makes me sad when i see it and makes me cry. Just thought I'd share with you how much it upsets me because I'd definitely do that for you and wouldn't do that to you. Thanks so much. I love you’

I got no response for an hour and a half. I called. She called me back. I asked if she received my text. She said no. I repeated the text. She said you are being too emotional and too sensitive. I’ll give the painting to someone else. I have meetings. Goodbye. 


Now here i am wondering. Is this woman toxic.  Am i toxic.  Am i being super sensitive. 

Help?",-0.3210422910422892,1.9145106837606851,1.8960639360639355,95.00055944055944,91.73504273504274,5.021867021867021,17.853812853812855,6.634992312820077,-0.0318424908424908,2150,60,486,29,77,720,245,585,0.059000000000000004,0.775,0.166,0.9959,4,0,1,0,0,0,72.0,3,15,1,9,31,29,1,2,21,2,49,9,5,3,3,61,93,37,1,7,12,14,1,2,2,2,2,9,0,4,35,30,1,0,6,0,0,8,16,8,0,5,34,13,106,21,55,50,8,65,1,4,3,2,97,23,1,7,37,341,141,5,0.0,0.07875294270201913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891929669145511,0.07103338473776859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05084734196594945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05469696689652685,0.0,0.18641400364992916,0.0,0.0,0.05110929051632185,0.0,0.04051788054482813,0.0,0.0,0.07488594398897011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20361179212107527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057255737893021436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903379365873135,0.0857318860173477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058166027210471614,0.06801917755281373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055524943271360136,0.07476682417302682,0.0,0.06867854193926361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113074190456718,0.0,0.0,0.051352510887072635,0.0,0.06945289563667989,0.06376154012647248,0.0,0.0,0.10632002580029136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821467846713995,0.0,0.0,0.0787641315515881,0.0445516646367012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545695239602646,0.0,0.07115467448784042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191718056007815,0.0,0.0,0.1384310366246983,0.0,0.0541797627491626,0.0,0.14075865621448452,0.0,0.0,0.046947856035338346,0.06494518109150872,0.06661774779961667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255696584725227,0.05650816534763985,0.11997875956913975,0.0,0.08873494650318167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113830349841811,0.0,0.0,0.1465834535450044,0.049284698930162116,0.05126371905661515,0.0,0.0,0.0623751067579209,0.0,0.0,0.15134704044360814,0.06974630438395038,0.07078556008446274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760825591305185,0.07197766447497025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944423545958313,0.14592238434499152,0.0,0.0,0.06365734946101419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445864544447044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5058053771507519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593174717196364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822778115001077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126351424571468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04704593349505163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264469217698762,0.0,0.04997517636167498,0.0,0.0,0.12238841417598778,0.0,0.0,0.04415795488942234,0.08517919001031715,0.0,0.052767652613290736,0.0,0.0,0.12600655479119474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298578886570221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645275780272264,0.07840833204507645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208100739094722,0.09677804702408603,0.0,0.0,0.04721649946188399,0.0,0.0,0.1712111805850074
parenting,BreachNClear91,2020/02/15,"Pathological lying Alright, so my son is 7 years old. Super smart, very independent, hes a great kid... 

Up until a few months ago. 

Now Ill be 100%, my anger issues suck. I lose my temper and I yell far too often and I am actively working to better myself for my family. My son has picked up some of my issues, it seems. He sees a therapist every month, but lately he lies about anything so he doesnt get into trouble, and when he doesnt get his way, he whines and complains incessantly. 

Now I know, hes 7, its a phase, its a kid thing, but god fucking damnit Im losing my mind. Its to the point where Id rather be at work half the time. Im so sick of his lying behavior and whining everytime he doesnt get his fucking way. 

I dont know what to do guys, I miss my son.",0.9362167689161572,2.6150456073619672,3.4160981595092035,89.92557873210637,80.65644171779141,6.309856850715747,20.069120654396727,7.3011,0.4169986912065444,586,15,133,8,15,204,100,163,0.254,0.65,0.096,-0.9847,0,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,6,11,17,5,0,7,1,12,5,0,2,0,17,23,12,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,6,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,12,0,1,0,2,20,5,12,21,2,20,0,5,1,2,18,7,3,3,11,75,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259745351957197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309513067856465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229515448748302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17531168154790225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603122138779127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101476215563855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27657654364085565,0.23445486329913895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491721506014853,0.0,0.1481119712253712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231534182045496,0.3122542848216707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441523486784554,0.0,0.1687376019773722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346931313871168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510374978577599,0.0,0.2387935168279676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696355647527646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140551018709427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919931763135412,0.13617592561458985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367889753986607,0.09937715994187524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872238062617673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342271041464987,0.0,0.2374661041011311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177982989035282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632738268472912
parenting,scotwegian-,2020/02/15,"I (23F) am struggling with not having any friends while raising my son (almost 2) I got pregnant in the middle of college and decided to get married to my partner months after. I had a group of friends that I was with almost nightly, we were so close and loved to just chill, laugh and drink. But once I got pregnant, I dropped out of college (I had SEVERE morning sickness, hospitalized and almost airlifted to a major hospital). A little over two years later, my husband and I are now separated and we split custody 50/50. I don’t have my little guy on the weekends, so I got a job at a retirement care facility in the evenings that I LOVE. But... I don’t have friends. They either moved away or kind of just disappeared off of the map, with no luck finding them. Either way I’m sure they wouldn’t even want to hang out with me anyway. I just dropped partying and hanging out, including all my social media just to please my ex and focus on my growing baby. Now I’m as fit as ever, I go to the gym daily, I joined tinder and bumble and get super likes every third swipe, I have a TON of matches and it “helps” to feel like I’m not just a divorcee with a toddler. For the first couple weeks it was fun on the weekends when I was free and my toddler wouldn’t be anywhere near (for his safety). But now, I have plenty of “guy friends” who would want to take me out on a date but no girl friends. The people I match with all have their solid group of friends that hit the gym together and travel together, and I want that again so badly. I joined the bumble friends and haven’t matched with anyone yet. I feel like I should just go out and meet people but it’s so awkward to just be alone doing it. I’ve joined local communities to make friends and didn’t work either... idk. I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or to hear stories of something similar but I just needed to say it. I feel great having my little guy. He’s the light of my world. As he gets older and more independent though, I’m seeing and feeling comfortable with my independence as well and realize that I’m alone.",4.352572451414936,5.067820315035803,5.228410330719402,84.23049821002387,70.19331742243436,7.704091374019775,28.80676781452437,7.7094869923839395,1.6782457551994554,1628,58,330,18,28,532,203,419,0.106,0.764,0.131,0.6847,1,2,2,0,1,0,49.0,2,0,4,3,24,27,0,2,20,0,27,4,0,3,4,85,59,40,0,9,22,3,4,3,9,4,1,2,0,5,11,36,1,0,8,6,1,8,11,3,1,3,10,9,46,25,55,42,8,55,0,0,2,2,35,25,0,7,22,227,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531650850486631,0.0,0.0,0.26227948575440635,0.18084981423838264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059372532299337664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061047884768623134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202887592568209,0.0,0.07289865393567062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890164722737108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660480144971734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552874321861377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533241226340166,0.07897521533947764,0.07356087745373611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765824850451672,0.12474591199424047,0.0,0.0,0.07979806250782281,0.07426426325477281,0.0,0.0,0.5396324479575626,0.0,0.13684470623761738,0.0,0.09923846126569813,0.0,0.20948489712980212,0.09625753772331697,0.0,0.25934636937025474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984026244055774,0.0,0.058520808995484765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663986171708203,0.0,0.0,0.0909179973343502,0.04798227300530007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279630481428438,0.26251709289527964,0.0,0.0,0.07331685240453506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759801860415293,0.0,0.058278864525967075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968852810717273,0.0927947406245783,0.0,0.06473788299519635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193277935671632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929803246437792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105694878687752,0.0,0.0,0.09583812470369757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943094093378235,0.0,0.0,0.06957328747825982,0.0,0.0,0.09863335220156104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899965851697411,0.0,0.06721407525685677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127342943946463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228689310186638,0.0,0.06564485915904479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577980885044717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528737097282581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448981740688406,0.06930114137928843,0.07003332730803663,0.0,0.07850050734483381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356136915462217,0.0,0.0,0.0620212009804022,0.0,0.0,0.05622358265740746
parenting,PatSmiles17,2020/02/15,"Feeling Kind of Helpless with our Newborn We welcomed our little boy into the world this Tuesday. We were expecting him in March, but due to complications (HELLP and Preeclampsia and an emergency c-section), he is here a lot sooner than anticipated. We were finally able to go home yesterday and we are starting to settle in.

My husband has been really good with the baby and doing a lot of the feedings and diaper changes while I'm recovering (on top of helping me when I need it). He does really well with our little boy, but I feel like I'm not much help at all. I'm still so tired and it hurts to move too much. I've been able to breastfeed a bit and hold him some, but I don't feel like I'm doing enough. 

I'm trying to learn what to do with diaper changes and other baby care, but I don't know that I'm even catching on with that all too fast. I've never had much experience with babies and now I have my own, I want to do everything right, but I don't know most of it at all. My husband is trying to be patient, but I know none of this is easy on him at all. 

I'm just feeling kind of helpless. I just want to make things better and pull more my own share of taking care of our son. I'm not sure what to do and I already know I need my time to recover too. I guess I just sort of need some advice or suggestions of where to go from here. 

Thank you in advance.",3.5334265350877168,3.949624100694447,5.0306067251462,85.99348684210527,71.88194444444444,8.146491228070175,26.26900584795321,8.20500826718156,1.4173861111111106,1063,32,237,15,19,359,141,288,0.078,0.762,0.16,0.9692,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,8,1,0,3,15,16,0,0,7,0,20,2,0,1,6,64,50,21,0,6,12,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,11,22,1,1,9,0,0,6,7,3,1,0,5,4,31,13,41,44,18,35,0,3,0,0,25,16,0,8,15,164,42,1,0.2289960923158794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188616555495087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126351441109568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012642172416706,0.12500221167050848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23347677790555665,0.0,0.24224750187194224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019801178153012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830708893815907,0.0,0.07562487963052762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290346101012042,0.11200105959497564,0.0,0.0,0.23157460967523424,0.16359485410604702,0.0,0.12542701294574146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014375648013254,0.09603552879427424,0.0,0.0,0.12613250646683435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349125364887614,0.0,0.11485087589646545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225725265169914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384641912788887,0.2517005271432382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187592366612717,0.2295142439325237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946842887092052,0.0,0.0,0.0764283349023241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169330290348318,0.2525077147203817,0.2546965512799121,0.08830795177764947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670076051761854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097780705812185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810423063887991,0.0,0.09143828756488637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791305347514107,0.0,0.08608828125311044,0.0,0.0,0.10541441760458324,0.0,0.0,0.07606741420122409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066764731483591,0.13159866071553664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547331498419886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350678283320735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294749415853954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Herr_Poopypants,2020/02/15,"So the wife, kid, and I all have the flu right now..... this is horrible. So it's flu season and my family got hit hard.   My son (3) was the first to get it, followed by me, then my wife.   He is actually doing better now and has his normal ""crackhead gorilla"" level of energy while my wife and I are swapping parenting duties while the other can sleep.   

This is the first time we have all been sick at the same time and it's god damn awful.   That is all and that you for reading my half delusional rant.",2.538235294117648,3.841597872549016,4.306029411764708,86.89963235294121,75.17647058823529,7.845098039215688,21.573529411764707,8.472884824447931,1.0682705882352934,381,9,83,7,8,129,68,102,0.18600000000000005,0.753,0.061,-0.9246,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,3,4,2,1,0,6,1,12,4,1,0,3,13,16,11,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,8,7,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,1,11,1,5,12,4,14,0,0,0,0,10,3,1,0,10,62,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.2654306576086412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240559987558028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564153582274114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627224508700743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210764613578825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21754152170433447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436566405900577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665001345269151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30202141474047817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720714484554175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23228467087695984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27219427556502473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172082580103843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puneet_king,2020/02/15,Why should not send your child to study at your relatives home You may find your relative good and perfect and they have also really tried to maintain that in ur mind.so just don't send them .they will just give opinions which are ideal (which they have heard never applied in their life) and make ur child feel worse .they will just force you to be like them (the ideal side of them which by the time they will think they are the ideal man who all should look up to as motivation).ur child may do wrong things but aren't u the parent to help him how can u believe in others words and just ignore him .and let u know he have only few who hear him act to it .,19.25794486215539,6.653333090225567,15.629323308270678,61.97050125313285,56.4436090225564,18.936340852130325,51.10025062656642,9.725611199111238,5.194300250626567,523,9,114,4,3,157,85,133,0.052000000000000005,0.8340000000000001,0.114,0.7814,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,5,10,4,6,8,0,0,4,0,18,1,0,2,3,30,26,9,0,5,6,1,1,1,0,7,1,2,1,4,9,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,4,18,6,14,16,2,11,0,0,1,0,34,6,0,3,3,79,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828746093678325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25764305873793697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562703393582005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900857249221824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21936984903930304,0.0,0.19180519595845008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257737987742264,0.0,0.1532787935551313,0.0,0.2293838023687185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567606368621453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338398933306175,0.16152282505665502,0.11172106683445213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19203286620138546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264508809152655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23090072176140616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637143469773114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739207751726741,0.0,0.0,0.2539211000265437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649769971388502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192424585044048,0.14652834621614985,0.0,0.0,0.13334463365902738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525811135343087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20634733672603173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330435595312048,0.0,0.2500247186920587,0.0,0.0
parenting,CougFanDan,2020/02/15,"Are we selfish for only having one child? My wife and I welcomed a healthy baby boy into our lives 11 weeks ago, and are having the time of our lives with him. Unfortunately, we’ve already been getting questions from family members (mostly the older generations) about when we will have our second baby!

My wife and I just aren’t sure we want to have a second, which has been giving us some nasty looks from these family members. We just don’t know if we can afford a second child in our area with daycare costs and future expenses, and don’t want to compromise our own happiness and the security of our son just to appease family. 

Are we selfish? Has anyone else experienced this?",7.646611295681063,7.389335410852716,7.9707862679955745,70.73930232558142,63.10852713178295,10.472203765227023,32.38205980066445,9.957137785484203,3.133233887043189,544,18,94,10,7,179,79,129,0.087,0.7609999999999999,0.152,0.7296,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,13,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,6,0,16,0,0,0,1,26,22,8,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,15,0,1,2,0,2,0,3,2,0,4,2,2,18,4,13,19,3,9,0,0,1,0,23,3,0,4,6,74,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748782293360692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177051441305668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794387719167894,0.20213830618761072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480345673727936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5579385861822381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307149009949786,0.18925048096637168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21000992470330476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084208044210998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484065228308424,0.0,0.16566685189016972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368311343460446,0.15004154169598616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210005347192067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859355671298008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503648365885635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373054663230116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23272359045701474,0.0,0.15824739445304695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Psy1ocke2,2020/02/15,"Cracking Passwords For the last month, my 11-yr-old stepdaughter (who lives out of state with her mother for most of the year) has been cheating on her homework. How, you ask? By using answers that she had obtained by cracking the teacher's login and password to their database of information.

And how did the school find out? Because a slip of paper fell out of her backpack that had 3 things written on it: her name and the login and password.

Me: So now she's going to learn how to better hide the evidence.

My husband: I mean, if you're gonna be a criminal, you may as well be a good one and not the sidekick. 

I say the latter not to be derogatory but help bring levity to the seriousness of the situation. If you were her parent, what would you do as far as repercussions go?",4.395329768270944,5.629840333333334,5.1822578728461135,82.68197860962569,70.5032679738562,7.916577540106951,29.59536541889483,8.296473431620573,2.080011764705884,613,24,119,9,11,199,99,153,0.047,0.889,0.063,0.5252,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,4,1,2,6,5,1,0,13,0,12,0,0,4,0,27,20,15,0,3,5,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,6,9,0,0,5,0,0,4,2,2,1,1,6,1,17,3,24,8,1,15,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,4,4,90,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22538906519772395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469678303290172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21322684024269087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035429729105172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274036996754206,0.2022170606125275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159930877820178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196522672753714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21288921050230572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26262055426506714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19243783818433371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529861604541607,0.0,0.1633706065279427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677048357229611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172653719782093,0.0,0.2439986142457581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709982190207512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017123143163522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20822662515535936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677122964315254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126528802430308,0.0,0.0,0.1552557500558845
parenting,Gizmottto,2020/02/15,"Good advice for new parents If you are a new parent or upcoming parent, the combination of a swaddle and a snuggle me organic is the best things ever invented. Not all babies will be the same but my son, since he was 6 weeks old, has slept thru the night every night. He is now 4 months old and has a bad cough from daycare but that combo puts him right to sleep after I change and feed him from a bad cough fit. He is able to roll over on his own now but he cannot with the swaddle. Besides pacifiers, I think these two things are the best investment ever",6.0836842105263145,5.129821929824561,6.414736842105267,82.91315789473687,66.54385964912281,9.35438596491228,29.52631578947368,8.344100000000001,1.848115789473684,436,12,93,5,6,141,78,114,0.078,0.809,0.11199999999999999,0.4767,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,11,0,11,5,2,0,3,15,13,8,0,1,6,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,8,3,11,9,5,18,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,13,64,12,0,0.1481761786318368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479604683238548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474418396689349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110035154607391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675074953234922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680676736376403,0.12484482128350352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428314846520652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827281210072772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862189533336804,0.0,0.27810661183271285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109719471159117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4935963327064993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489579860601532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654164693070358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225728661746354,0.0,0.14828318969594334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19688333789023185,0.09494531217542147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447465956824515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885799264914655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Knit_AllTheThings,2020/02/15,"Things that niggle my brain **TW: miscarriage**

I have two wonderful little weirdos, aged 6 and 2, who I love with all my being, despite the youngest's penchant for calling regular middle-of-the-night meetings and the oldest's inability to flush the toilet. However, today marks the third anniversary of giving birth to my middle child, a girl, who passed away when I was 20 weeks pregnant and so I'm feeling reflective and a little sad.  

For some reason this year has hit me harder than previously and so, after some introspection, I've identified these things that niggle at my brain. I don't really discuss these things with people in real life (because that sometimes leads to me trying to make them feel better and I don't always want to do that) and so I thought I'd type them out for you lovely internet folks, see if anyone can relate. Here they are... 

~ I always answer two when people ask me how many kids I have but feel bad for not acknowledging my lost little one. It makes people uncomfortable when I bring her up, particularly because these are obviously people who don't know me well enough to already know how many kids I have, so its just easier to name the living kids. But still, it doesn't sit well in my brain sometimes. 

~ I often feel a bit of a fraud telling of my grief out loud, because I know it is dwarfed by the grief of losing a child that you've held and lived with, or that of having multiple miscarriages. Despite my loss I think I've got off lightly when compared with others who struggle with infertility or infant death, and so I don't like to bring it up too much. 

~ I feel so conflicted about grieving my girl because if I hadn't lost her I wouldn't know my son, and I love him so very much, the little oddball. The conflict is very confusing and hard to resolve in my brain.

So, there they are, the things that circle my brain, particularly on my little lost girl's birthday. I'm spending today on the couch with her big sister and little brother, cherishing the babes that I'm lucky enough to know. Thanks for reading my ramblings!",5.608632692307693,6.4275107825000015,5.956500000000003,79.7591153846154,67.425,8.553846153846155,28.884615384615394,8.617729084823388,2.0831826923076924,1643,54,309,24,26,527,201,400,0.141,0.7490000000000001,0.11,-0.9364,1,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,0,1,4,8,23,23,0,2,16,0,21,9,5,6,2,65,55,32,4,4,8,3,6,1,0,1,1,1,1,10,26,20,0,3,18,1,1,4,8,12,2,4,8,9,45,11,42,44,8,38,0,9,1,3,36,20,0,10,14,202,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822058252495042,0.0,0.12396971568248867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05208783792383558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964170175529573,0.0,0.06998943223807479,0.0,0.06219926022758136,0.18164305883104886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658837641541251,0.08132799972955124,0.0,0.0,0.41579891335822017,0.07606655842972979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539441385649758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883316657096569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146129701637045,0.0,0.0,0.059579543776957435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673186512095854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469938221363787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052617215295748566,0.03639393642748127,0.4479744986674406,0.13155888367269086,0.0,0.0,0.08333957285790357,0.2439565391644812,0.0,0.20170084716161787,0.0,0.09945045799110032,0.1510501604683905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952311472493097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990743983934883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050478966428206505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065786472983856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451401758484058,0.08479031974135923,0.04772267327217488,0.07659209346107441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936196046318396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473526616968605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059490891616777564,0.0,0.0,0.07787715524320703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651109157689149,0.06858393633093605,0.0,0.0,0.19796163792338284,0.047732656589437726,0.0,0.05913980259534931,0.0,0.0,0.1412229350182306,0.0,0.0,0.0505764400085831,0.0,0.1455393507250844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293046976245878,0.04393840780600192,0.0,0.059754479879421625,0.0,0.13395785026832435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078541183582677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04797160248968383
parenting,ramblin11,2020/02/15,"Kindergarten daughter has ""zero"" friends My poor sweet daughter confided to me last night that she still hasn't made friends in Kindergarten. She has always been a bit different than other kids - she's quite shy and very sensitive. She's very smart and can do the math stuff to a much higher level than other kids her age. But, she lacks social skills big time. Her teacher called me in for a meeting about it, saying that my daughter doesn't seem to know how to interact with the other kids. They get 2 report cards a year - 1 in the middle and one at the end. She failed the 'social skills' aspect of the first report card. She's good at math/numbers but not with letters or language. Anyway, my heart is just a little broken for her. She is so incredibly sweet and sensitive. She doesn't like large groups, even when we go to the park she wants to go to ones that don't have too many people. Last night, I asked her how her day was, and who she played with at recess. She said she didn't play with anyone and she has no friends. I said, all you need is one. And she said, ""I have zero friends."" Then, she turned around and rubbed her eyes, like I could see she was crying a bit. My partner is highly introverted, the most introverted person I've ever met. I'm also quite introverted and had the same sorts of issues that my daughter is having now. But, I always had one friend (the other weirdo in the class usually). My poor sweet girl. Her birthday is coming up and we rented a rec centre with bouncy castle and invited the whole class. I'm hoping maybe she makes some more connections there. The school she is at is tiny and she will be with the same group for many years. I should also mention she's in school in her 2nd language, so that makes it more challenging. Thanks for any advice. Thank you :)",3.704818401937047,5.345143666666671,3.9073809523809535,89.56690677966101,72.78531073446328,6.5260694108151736,21.682405165456014,7.021680442328713,0.4615693301049229,1414,32,288,13,28,437,182,354,0.085,0.792,0.124,0.9424,2,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,2,2,1,7,17,19,0,0,21,0,30,2,2,5,2,48,53,24,0,6,6,4,1,2,6,2,0,4,1,6,13,22,0,0,2,2,3,3,7,1,0,7,11,10,48,18,34,38,12,37,0,1,2,0,65,17,0,6,19,197,61,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947593712521458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509605497721127,0.1613760166693842,0.0,0.0,0.0659439061551851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780468725602169,0.0,0.0,0.08632514291590797,0.09065520850375217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117353995335107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990186847937791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353231122821843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742380615440178,0.0,0.10651857609790502,0.06253855812987517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131451803580037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588791535743118,0.0,0.0,0.06404872317559646,0.08771622141153218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248385940599894,0.0,0.0,0.37459947942547256,0.0,0.05066357632892577,0.0,0.11022221089874536,0.08133504514410529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491162619684818,0.0,0.102455653044984,0.0,0.09631452263438303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121299194109062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329296874557053,0.1580893363976959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475069712393204,0.09719086064208766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917567235130323,0.12945838165551818,0.19662764473939465,0.0974208477839436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128516787439051,0.07190309585242677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820022594183021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628414361660817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722778834821531,0.08467172318024511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062821309825063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767261440067787,0.07711558318112396,0.0,0.19628055362553734,0.07727368469384388,0.08827915920943356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770034734234607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744151919985187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100910138541008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785565513587203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654482791347638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547708332969412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680034383118622,0.16002319137660162,0.0571962691976162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826515244020483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248928592021577
parenting,EebamXela,2020/02/15,"TIFU by asking a little boy how fast his toy car can go (just a funny story, didn't know where else to post this cuz it's too short for r/TIFU) 

I was in the waiting room of my kid's dance school. A little boy and his dad were there too waiting for his sister. The boy was playing with his matchbox cars. 

I asked him ""which one is the fastest?""

He holds up a red one.

I say ""oh cool can you show me how fast it can go?""

He winds up... Spins around... Releases it...

And it hits his dad right in the sweatpants'd nuts.

I fucking died. It was so perfect. Could not have planned it.",-1.0865188042430065,0.9932252950819702,0.6530858244937328,103.16235776277729,95.22950819672131,3.198457087753134,15.373191899710704,4.514644488427479,-1.2945203471552555,434,10,106,1,17,139,83,122,0.051,0.85,0.099,0.7103,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,2,9,4,1,0,8,1,11,1,0,3,1,15,20,6,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,8,4,0,3,1,4,0,5,2,1,0,2,5,3,13,3,11,13,0,20,0,0,1,1,19,11,1,0,3,65,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080553813608334,0.43698286131926617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866019443669272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24255866597814546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523840572787984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21606521238559434,0.0,0.0,0.2656505781323962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844333135957514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684864893968412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167418749149029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22383380674323874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959083502531333,0.0,0.18585908491621128,0.0,0.2365314673041289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,123_fear_the_reaper,2020/02/15,"How to explain things to kids at the store without being offensive This is an ignorant post but I’m hoping someone has a good take on it.

I live in an area that from time to time has people of perhaps Mennonite faith (appearing Amish, all though I really don’t know the different denominations if that’s even the right word) come into the grocery store. It’s frigid so no obvious horse and buggy outside, just women and girls with bonnets and long dresses shopping for some eggs. I was with my four year old daughter who loudly noted that they were wearing “baby doll hats.” 

Now in the moment, I didn’t stop to google correct wording but they were clearly offended (two women and two little girls looked right at her with furrowed brows and hustled away from the eggs very quickly) I said I was sorry to them and then at an audible level attempted to explain that they were not baby doll hats because they weren’t babies. Sometimes we call them bonnets but everyone can wear what they want to to the store. I also said something along the lines of some people go to a church where everyone wears those type of clothes and that usually they don’t have to buy them, their moms can make them their clothes and isn’t that so cool? 

Now after the event was over I thought maybe we should have asked them more about their faith or something so that it was told from them and probably correctly but I don’t really know if that would be appropriate. 

How do you go about explaining things in public so as not to appear a jackass as I clearly did?",8.02453828828829,7.152869584459463,7.374243243243246,77.34012612612612,62.614864864864856,10.460900900900905,34.936036036036036,9.558583805096642,3.0863390090090093,1231,45,231,19,15,383,167,296,0.04,0.853,0.107,0.9701,3,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,15,1,16,8,2,0,15,1,26,5,3,3,6,55,47,27,0,6,11,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,5,17,17,2,2,6,1,5,5,10,3,0,3,14,6,30,5,38,29,4,36,4,0,1,0,36,16,0,8,14,167,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940551555031884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789725470621366,0.0,0.12853586308315104,0.0,0.0,0.08339704507279583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969652884555536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178482015725768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429355128351585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036056501108794,0.0,0.0,0.2614523091378167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550257303765802,0.11474827709327333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135881470426128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503724829538152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371178166574148,0.12080419942259507,0.12107100439287714,0.11488448178779005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132057542929113,0.0,0.1374422847662702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022817984487606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355725452948714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896912424916267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102449513224987,0.0,0.1475024425260094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752857481914888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336670119023993,0.26027196677793724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591719416180653,0.2106433637418911,0.1353068666450903,0.15314564565098748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437783065941873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286278501029644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177865696411444,0.0,0.13441342016790858,0.10861047626880274,0.1595479923841239,0.0,0.0,0.13072615456890835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26728358067510344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506749695151058,0.11288114165854735,0.08069305592639951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187827996985207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718466219983476,0.0,0.0,0.08810003356676692
parenting,SalmonBarn,2020/02/15,"When does one take off child safety locks off of knobs? For safety... My son just turned 3. My mother recently learned that we still have a knob cover in his room to make sure he stays in there until we come to get him and was appalled at us, saying it was super unsafe.

Her argument was that if there was a fire he would be doomed, but I think it’s fine considering the kitchen is directly outside of his bedroom (no way to block it, not at all) and the last thing I want is my son to get into stuff in the middle of the night when he wakes up and plays, which he does and does quietly. He’s speech delayed, so he never calls out to us when he wakes up. We wait till we hear him stir or play with a toy to go get him (soon there will be a morning wake up call since school is just around the corner)

My thought process is that he’s in a safe space in his room. Baby proofed and safe. And if there was a fire I’d be in the home, obviously and would go get him. Like duh. Im just so confused why she got super upset with me on safety problems. I’m just trying to keep him in his safe space since he does still wake up at night sometimes and fart around with stuff. I’d like to keep that contained to his room. Ya know. Where there’s a lack of access to knives. Or even the bathroom and water works. He’s quiet and we still have a baby monitor in his room to know if he’s awake or asleep. 

But so I’m wondering what the normal age is to remove these things. Idk, maybe I’m in the wrong, but I was planning on changing our morning ritual soon anyway so I could remove them soon. We’re also expecting #2 in a month and there will be child safety locks around the house so I guess I’m being ultra conscious of where they are placed and how safe they really are because my mother has got me questioning myself. 

TLDR: I’m curious what age you removed the knob covers off of your child’s doors or what level of child safety locks you think may bleed into the unsafe because of over caution.",2.6386775362318846,3.8835837705314016,3.621325483091789,92.14256793478262,74.82125603864735,6.431038647342997,21.150060386473427,6.770275591412753,0.2280292270531401,1547,34,346,13,32,497,196,414,0.086,0.787,0.126,0.9636,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,8,4,3,4,33,17,0,2,21,1,27,8,5,2,5,79,56,34,0,11,15,4,2,2,0,5,1,5,8,4,16,27,2,10,9,3,0,6,3,5,0,1,9,7,41,12,55,36,2,69,2,1,0,0,52,41,0,12,22,218,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806947560324558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694840825483127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302312496999825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607329085869225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674551795125664,0.08692186885577036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056549406948607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532152392129779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666476796151193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087757169297805,0.0,0.1146947860039254,0.0,0.16140802091525294,0.0,0.111159699309592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372876810539034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121727687581712,0.0,0.0,0.1164323574365027,0.0,0.0,0.10899615253712101,0.0,0.0,0.1793803658019097,0.0,0.0,0.11091096061214414,0.08225212713385473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859547219875114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735575914928038,0.0,0.10137397170489518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054247029063391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077825182748038,0.0,0.0,0.1893875111558907,0.09886677943280413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837674101304092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054256385392396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655373057660936,0.0,0.0,0.11303818364187752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464317916299718,0.0,0.09963282792359013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024476408527202,0.0,0.1021225935827661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669415186289914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979894101792178,0.0,0.0,0.10755272228259846,0.2417517776141884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310272135546973,0.0,0.0,0.09510302230480734,0.0,0.07586900257699697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407536449915244,0.12931340431156949,0.0,0.08010835505865249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850877473386809,0.10975711158553053,0.0,0.0,0.2427557826095223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951716811296672,0.08009474833597273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105226828707616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094286110351812,0.0734610103817253,0.0,0.0,0.1433619240650695,0.11032523184428443,0.0,0.0
parenting,LatinaMermaid,2020/02/15,"So how do you help your kid how to be more assertive with friends without a big lecture? BONUS how do we navigate Middle School years! HELP! So I have a stepson I adore the kid like my own. I have been in his life since he was 6 he is now 12. He has always been a little awkward and for some reason always has had it rough making friends. I am not sure why but his dad and mom have said he is bossy and that is why, so they kinda don’t think much of it. He will grow out of it when he is older. 

Recently he started Middle School, he was starting to get friends a group of girls and was having fun. I was really happy for him. He has also identified as gay, so he has a lot of things he still doesn’t understand yet. However everyone supports him and we don’t have an issue. 

The issue I am seeing and I need the parents help, is my stepson let’s people walk all over them. He told me how this week the girls and his group didn’t want him sitting with them, he said a girl got a bf and now everyone ignores him. He felt bad because he bought them all Hot Cheetos last week and now they are rude to him.  It broke my heart he has to sit at lunch alone all the time like he did in elementary. Plus I think the kids use him, which is why we limit his student store money. In elementary he would buy things for kids to hang out with him. So we are trying to break that habit. 

Now he was pouring his heart out to me,about his week, he has been in a bad mood last couple of weeks, he was telling me about this group of girls and how they are. They seem toxic but then he started almost defending these girls for the action, like they were the victims. These girls purposefully leave him out sometimes. Then he said he hopes they invite him on Sunday for a sleep over and he was going to bring his new make up pallet we bought him to show them and do their makeup. I was telling him, you sure you want to bring your pallet over? Last time he brought some face masks and the girls made fun of him. Well he took wrong blew up on me, telling me I judge him and his friends I think everyone is wrong and they are good girls. 

Then he proceeds to tell me, we make big things out of stuff and he shouldn’t have said anything. He basically had a huge meltdown. 

Well I felt terrible, but this isn’t the first time. I am trying to be like Dr.Phil with him, just listen and be quiet. However in this case, I really didn’t think I was in the wrong, these girls are toxic but you can’t tell him any different. So I am struggling, his whole family is too! 

My SO gets to him for the most part but he blows up on everyone lately so quickly. I really don’t know how to help him? I just feel he has so much anger and his parents don’t believe in therapy, so I am kinda at a loss? I only see him on weekends and we have a good relationship, however I just don’t want him to be the enemy. He shuts down so much and just doesn’t speak up for himself. So any advice on how to get through middle school?",2.3458266452648497,3.617173502407709,3.460385232744784,92.89886035313006,75.6131621187801,6.6908507223113975,21.86356340288925,7.209633053413488,0.4216150882825036,2304,57,532,25,49,744,241,623,0.099,0.777,0.124,0.9272,6,1,0,0,0,0,59.0,7,6,12,4,36,36,3,2,26,0,70,7,4,13,5,92,113,51,0,7,11,4,5,4,5,3,1,7,0,13,18,37,1,2,11,2,6,9,14,14,2,1,31,14,85,21,67,74,14,80,0,2,2,1,130,35,0,9,37,345,103,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399525303376223,0.0,0.0,0.06557793776984712,0.06782702331656046,0.0,0.05237166072152562,0.10898446120814692,0.0,0.0,0.08906975436142267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053892001862909766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936143276814513,0.03992158647359452,0.0,0.0,0.07378386155477291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246251424715061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842223763222673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503108103855604,0.0,0.0,0.06173735535188653,0.0,0.03311328900417747,0.0,0.12575973485974085,0.0,0.0,0.055705049370181836,0.0,0.0,0.2023870623485664,0.0,0.10264615553867487,0.0,0.03721900105075986,0.1098584071576272,0.052377666931086704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971443275261831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552099491124869,0.175584024477181,0.0,0.0,0.06504551650530067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367073450147562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03599113179759452,0.1601472279367991,0.07387462940230666,0.0693435686962503,0.0,0.06696710712877675,0.0462569332172006,0.1279787900119502,0.06563734686260574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05567654524510743,0.0,0.06196743035726394,0.13114357633306867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670011727154631,0.0,0.0,0.14442621226993008,0.048559385232125135,0.0,0.06324984259705188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04980746021142401,0.0,0.0,0.14543593281316253,0.07091838264653944,0.0,0.04540194040330157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258621060477696,0.06733376770854634,0.06466264869357467,0.07031085340833335,0.0,0.0,0.24918076699979674,0.0,0.0,0.1988355905420082,0.10437276945781164,0.05961887522641781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054173313136093436,0.0,0.06553645940507011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477045766463399,0.0,0.1390607018678386,0.0,0.05229973089760505,0.0,0.0,0.06846349334495584,0.07496942453645729,0.0,0.07431632712802118,0.1234455239132464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28620207906335393,0.0,0.07489256637300658,0.0,0.13052427157423302,0.16785124759847128,0.0,0.0,0.11456177438465814,0.0,0.0,0.0625777025963901,0.07276087076741053,0.08892568695211096,0.0,0.0,0.06817652923399421,0.0,0.056561610820780914,0.0,0.0,0.11588161692680325,0.0,0.2101258281856886,0.0,0.11776524658237295,0.0,0.1772813527339302,0.07311631275722356,0.0,0.063129217026932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652162306867342,0.2148063602366657,0.0,0.04217287441410252
parenting,lizwhittech,2020/02/15,"Feeling guilty, looking for encouragement I was getting ready to give my 3 month old a bath, and I made the water too hot. I thought it felt fine, but as soon as I set him down he screamed his actually hurt scream. At first I wasn't sure because his skin wasn't red or anything, and he calmed down soon after I picked him up. But today he has little rash areas on the back of his arms and legs, although that could be something else. He doesn't seem painful anywhere I touch or rub him, but I'm still feeling guilty. Can I have a few people tell me I'm not the worst mother ever?",6.350250000000003,4.916269525000004,6.271666666666667,85.72000000000003,66.25,8.666666666666668,31.666666666666664,6.42735559955562,1.5524166666666668,453,14,101,2,6,143,86,120,0.171,0.6829999999999999,0.146,-0.7394,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,5,0,9,6,4,2,2,19,20,11,0,1,6,1,7,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,3,1,0,5,1,0,0,4,5,0,1,6,11,16,4,11,12,2,18,0,1,2,0,14,7,0,3,10,62,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.21320582532484256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17979115073154944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679983128202682,0.0,0.1331839182625806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443920693043033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251274268913326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19762846672052675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094099787615445,0.0,0.2097759098246509,0.0,0.0,0.1858397272623047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414724377477126,0.2095867709345009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338883037207312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897524151010586,0.0,0.0,0.18346891569968926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067318939116524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743893561876291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22925893401338865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324790633012901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146713479524254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889679009410574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819725755670925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744791151932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591564638366586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909619214645519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344941635783118,0.0,0.0,0.2070943305547852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,helenfelen,2020/02/15,Saturday morning conversations Love Saturday morning conversations with the science child (12F)! Started discussing weight & healthy eating and it evolves into how the body works including the full nervous system.,13.820322580645161,16.621082161290325,10.248548387096774,49.19282258064519,49.96774193548386,12.651612903225805,57.435483870967744,12.161744961471696,8.483374193548388,181,13,17,5,2,52,26,31,0.055999999999999994,0.7509999999999999,0.193,0.7263,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,6,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,3,9,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160153407529735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264877137203485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928820637548317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465345935703809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717654941823596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675540426338829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795239866828315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway17262663373,2020/02/15,"Toddlers Lord help I am at the end of my rope with my 2 three year olds. 
They are so bratty and bossy! 
I remind them all the time to say please and thank you. 
Always “I want this I want that”
They whine all day.
Cry about the silliest things.

I’m sure I’m too harsh but I just wasn’t raised that way.   I get so upset with them and snap because of their poor manners and the whining. 

Should I just let them go through this stage or should I be actively reminding them of their manners? 
What do you do if you have three year olds?",0.9703194103194122,2.932520135135136,1.7400491400491411,100.56029484029486,81.88288288288287,5.117444717444719,18.1990171990172,6.1124844417494595,-0.5296918918918916,409,9,99,3,11,126,72,111,0.15,0.733,0.11699999999999999,-0.836,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,8,0,6,5,0,1,4,0,10,0,0,0,3,18,17,9,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,2,1,1,21,2,9,12,2,11,1,2,0,0,13,1,0,2,7,66,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611635669203567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436769243206966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588988809550618,0.15200318394686285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20875499831281855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314042955929275,0.0,0.1339503779690463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798077447033265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24101316688106345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4946425806026135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587213236516032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743339350912191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22213888229045728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169954435528589,0.0,0.0,0.15658467465456072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743511420148904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27803695153522706,0.18708299107113727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035585216328542
parenting,ckviana137,2020/02/15,"Teasing by parent So I need advice. 

My story is my eldest son was crying about my family dog he and I grew up with. My eldest son saw the remaining days of my poor dog that died last year. Today I painted a nice picture of my dog and showed it too my son. He started crying and in mid cry my husband arrived home. My husband began teasing my eldest about crying for my dog, and shot my husband a dirty look. My husband then gets mad that my eldest shot him a dirty look. Then husband says he was only teasing him. My response was don't tease your son then for crying about my dog whom he saw the last days of. Or am I and my son the sensitive ones here?",1.829901960784316,3.5515265000000014,3.4932352941176497,90.20372549019608,78.11764705882355,5.415686274509804,22.362745098039216,5.985473137389443,0.32860980392156897,508,15,106,3,12,169,69,136,0.23,0.7390000000000001,0.031,-0.9805,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,6,6,5,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,14,10,1,1,1,11,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,6,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,5,0,1,6,5,24,1,12,8,0,15,0,0,4,0,24,3,0,1,11,65,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288165772648073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8030630918305249,0.18859586633692652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175026494792992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784046875590228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639239978668685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666767296950373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383729034385141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455710763234098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084181268333198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908049099093273,0.11120469323559784,0.0,0.0,0.16235678576330245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627770653041135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349321585358943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859671394706113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415901839154593
parenting,Quindino13,2020/02/15,Terrified to hold my newborn son Any advice on how to feel more comfortable handling my son ? He’s a big baby but I’m so scared to hold him unless I’m sitting down so his mom is doing it most of the time. I’m scared any slight wrong movement I make is gonna hurt him and I’d just rather not even take the risk.,0.9756521739130442,2.418905623188412,2.7471739130434787,95.84945652173916,79.72463768115942,5.759420289855073,20.195652173913047,6.42735559955562,-0.059591304347826224,244,6,59,2,6,81,52,69,0.3,0.6709999999999999,0.028999999999999998,-0.9745,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,3,3,0,3,0,0,2,0,12,10,6,0,1,5,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,6,1,7,9,2,6,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,1,1,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27562010373260537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3836130614810033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18629414159603844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261508030047368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019448589181346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18827337132706626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303384747542701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5647709258262822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21206965929572935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446807454626042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083819944145868,0.0,0.0
parenting,iluvthecolorpurp,2020/02/15,"I love my son, so much! I had my first child in October. 
He’s the most precious little human. 
So smart, curious, happy and overall the sweetest little thing. He motivates me to be the best mother. At times, I feel like I’m not doing my best. 

But, when I see him smile. I melt on the inside. I’ve never felt this amount of love before. It feels so good! I can’t wait to see what life has in store for us, in our journey. It’s scary, being a single mother with barely any support from family or friends. But, it’s SO WORTH IT!!! 

Just wanted to vent.",-0.17120300751879824,2.0219687719298283,2.180451127819552,93.93315789473688,89.35087719298247,4.660651629072682,16.037593984962403,6.1826913282559595,-0.4208827067669172,416,9,91,4,14,141,83,114,0.023,0.622,0.355,0.9932,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,4,6,11,0,0,5,0,6,3,0,1,1,15,17,9,0,1,5,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,7,2,0,1,4,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,2,5,13,11,12,13,6,12,0,0,2,2,13,7,0,2,5,61,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933516043508406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183697929277285,0.0,0.3991836095197231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929342719131536,0.0,0.1923307222117365,0.13587118417025942,0.1826114330388552,0.0,0.0,0.16177481455943404,0.0,0.0,0.14693968433225116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952165599581378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20245991266831084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343362384183867,0.0929168237700478,0.38123903441167095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433063106969225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981092660752648,0.0,0.1466856160634688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031122961921346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582442122938592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635323648493535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090083703494194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287741593895904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217850267397744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaybause123,2020/02/15,"Thoughts on single parents by choice? My son say isn't sure about marriage or kids, but he believes he doesn't want to wait for partner to be parent. He said he would be fine raising a child by himself as long as he can financially and emotionally needs of hypothetical child and make a relationship with said child a priority. He obviously would make that decision when he's but he wouldn't give up on that option if he couldn't find a life partner. Any thoughts?",5.642666666666668,6.660758155555558,6.124444444444446,77.87000000000003,67.44444444444444,9.111111111111112,32.77777777777778,9.2995712137729,2.7914444444444446,374,16,73,7,6,121,60,90,0.038,0.9359999999999999,0.026000000000000002,0.1891,2,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,2,2,23,19,9,0,7,4,3,0,0,2,3,1,3,0,6,2,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,3,2,2,13,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,25,3,0,3,2,38,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744713403412698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22771771139107835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22735548464433494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847321407461464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388995075643706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427618824256221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886802171369567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698305965281081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986789575127568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488561194327684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169990332128876,0.0,0.0,0.38452090191663785,0.1607323028859188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19049377190789413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32091814427412085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921440110260477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28715757923655105,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angjade,2020/02/15,What's the scariest part of parenting? I have a little one at home and so far the only thing I stay up at night worrying about is that she accidentally suffocates herself. It was more worrisome when she was a newborn but now she can lift her head up and is a very loud crier so I think we would hear her if she was uncomfortable. What has been your scariest moment or biggest worry?,3.743333333333332,5.382762105263161,4.876315789473686,82.66254385964915,72.6842105263158,8.224561403508767,27.14035087719298,8.841846274778883,2.023129824561403,304,11,61,6,6,100,58,76,0.16899999999999998,0.831,0.0,-0.9002,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,0,8,12,8,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,12,0,6,7,2,12,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,4,50,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569180393085085,0.0,0.2821480534304576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511084760680697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509034936823887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23492436657344296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963486634155886,0.1903926099367133,0.0,0.0,0.2779696727090638,0.27109063395824834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668259908087712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663128148515572,0.1604058758253875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065542866960068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084588593059727,0.0,0.17783226040715056,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shark_mark,2020/02/15,"Shocking experience at the movies Soooo... my wife and I just took our eight year old twin girls to watch “H is for Happiness” at the movies. Only instead of showing this, they accidentally put a horror movie on instead! The advertisements at the beginning raised suspicion, my wife even went to the desk to ask; nothing abnormal apparently, “you have the correct screen”. To make matters worse the entire movie theatre was empty, enchanting the mood. We got them out within about 10 seconds of the movie starting, but one of them was freaking out at this point.",6.8602164502164475,8.596191818181822,6.374199134199134,74.5527272727273,65.16161616161617,9.293506493506491,34.34487734487736,9.606745405546679,3.4247362193362187,446,20,74,9,7,138,73,99,0.14400000000000002,0.825,0.032,-0.8687,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,3,0,5,4,0,0,10,0,4,0,0,1,1,9,11,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,3,5,2,9,1,17,6,0,16,0,0,2,0,10,9,0,0,4,51,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544654475237008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978213580000985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662588000698206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21769909247383545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897564865296752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169218055629985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26117830625646743,0.0,0.2856227141312128,0.0,0.18444627944076133,0.20701645418303685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573121208495833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736310118298985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266092063775805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024185012767359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523273592774496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27738981335867113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528456353435126
parenting,Careless_Hotel,2020/02/15,"Purpose in life? I'm having trouble with what my purpose in life is? 
I have reached the top of career, started my own business, feel financially stable etc blah blah. 
But I don't feel satisfied. 
Good partner. Good relationship with parents etc. 
Tried filling time with hobbies, (gym, baking, more time with my pets) volunteering, but it just doesn't do it for me - I don't get a warm feeling from volunteering, I just have a competitive and ""must advance further in organisation"" attitude rather than just doing it to help out. 

Will kids give me a purpose? I'm leaning towards yes.",3.7833704974271,6.589682122641512,4.7549742710120055,78.13522298456263,76.83018867924528,6.873413379073758,32.277873070325896,8.00094639256281,2.7269547169811323,459,24,78,8,11,149,71,106,0.121,0.7490000000000001,0.13,0.6142,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,4,1,11,3,0,0,1,16,19,3,0,2,6,1,4,2,1,2,2,0,2,2,4,6,1,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,4,9,3,14,17,4,12,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,53,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194875904794696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532819874683035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216800428845244,0.22341781046995032,0.0,0.390689031382057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561071979469133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290067078326085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25860662460449435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500462178951263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484701329564375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716103987898536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812303946140085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeadManMau,2020/02/15,"I am not able to like my dad Hello people,
I have a issue with my father and i want your help so that i feel less frustrated.
My dad is a nice person and a person who loves his family but the main issue i have with him is what he says and how he says it.
He keeps shouting at me for the whole day and sometimes he abuse me.
I feel like mentally frustrated and now i have started crying in alone.
I feel depressed, i have a fight with him everyday because he shouts at me. Now i have also started shouting and crying. So we have more fight now .
I need your help people please, i cannot take this anymore, i am not able to calm my self anymore.
I am not able to respect my father anymore.
I am not able to like him...anymore... please give a some advice please...",2.5624472573839654,3.685180962025317,3.9589240506329126,90.1303270042194,74.82278481012659,6.532489451476795,23.29324894514768,6.816661863887847,0.6031122362869192,584,16,128,5,12,193,75,158,0.262,0.645,0.094,-0.9861,0,1,0,0,3,0,22.0,1,2,0,0,7,12,4,0,7,0,13,1,0,1,0,23,24,11,0,2,5,4,3,3,0,0,0,5,0,3,5,10,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,8,29,7,11,24,5,10,0,1,0,1,28,3,0,1,10,88,34,0,0.43950028196768,0.13018399162843836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736864723842614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379743644214092,0.0,0.08786705417561884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358661824632468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697882314834101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24138521119907566,0.0708603307294984,0.0,0.09463523721317277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358043782892704,0.0,0.16666841105157687,0.07849477231350481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540217954075523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472938873672996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293620543081125,0.0,0.09766201110775603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610382283145011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991665409281198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072822816347402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147097254779573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523470786350464,0.19187734694901834,0.0,0.3618294976071369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747541322351717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462366138554456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866925421478657,0.0,0.1555402808361304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261237888868403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480716334104898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267159233924907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dadugooba,2020/02/15,"Grandpa Drifts Off While Watching Kids My father in law sometimes nods off while watching my two kids (age 2 & 3). They are always behind a baby gate with him in the room.

I’m a little nervous leaving my kids with someone that could fall asleep while watching them. Am i being overprotective?",3.277878787878784,6.094492454545456,3.4322727272727285,86.78174242424242,79.0,4.393939393939394,25.53030303030303,5.46131890053228,0.7536666666666663,235,9,40,1,6,72,42,55,0.036000000000000004,0.9640000000000001,0.0,-0.204,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,1,1,0,0,4,5,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,7,0,7,3,0,12,0,0,3,0,8,6,0,0,4,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083928971946726,0.4015762087330291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29591698177446163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3924424420690872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37146747965236493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31403262547013155,0.0,0.3665614138087457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620505361236409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BankruptDragon,2020/02/15,"RIE and self-soothing at the daycare, what do i need to know? Is this a cult? The daycare that all of our coworkers recommend uses RIE for infants. Our baby is 3 months old and she sleeps through the night every night already. We talk to her like a little person but she does have toys. 

Once we turned in the deposit, they told us that they do RIE and self soothing for infants. My partner looked into RIE and is convinced that it is similar to a domestic cult.

I am terrified that she is going to cry herself to sleep and play with pots and pans every day that she's there. Ironically, i have been crying myself awake all night since. 

What do we need to know about this? Should we run for the hills and let them keep the $2k deposit? (It is an entire month of daycare here, and it would hurt us but not break us.)",3.114582551594744,4.620359079268297,3.79219512195122,90.343799249531,74.0609756097561,6.509568480300188,24.81050656660413,7.010146845296331,0.852097185741088,635,20,134,6,13,201,97,164,0.109,0.8170000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.8823,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,9,0,3,0,3,4,0,0,10,0,16,2,2,1,2,27,26,10,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,5,12,14,0,1,2,2,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,23,3,17,21,2,14,0,1,1,0,25,4,0,0,8,93,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458106907438906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28783314302125895,0.08449544861543504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465429705656785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207757887751096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446026448142204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402569433902051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164543737840646,0.0,0.0,0.14400758306112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397427033476594,0.0,0.06400853249195168,0.13131395441223642,0.0,0.0,0.11002170229888557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20915383684912844,0.0,0.0,0.1942956320890014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688531448063365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374808266086222,0.13952936142385233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114399427314891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733596524602013,0.0,0.0,0.1083790297984384,0.0,0.2622242383035625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530690354906468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519283576719878,0.0,0.0,0.14250941724754346,0.0,0.0,0.4727937617900344,0.11315705371744858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930710728392246,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Concenssion-902,2020/02/15,"I believe that my oldest son is radicalized, what steps do i take? I'm so sorry if this is'nt the place for this but i have no idea who else to ask anonymously. 8 Years ago my Son converted to Islam at the age of 15, we only later found out when he turned 18 that he was Muslim as he told us. This past year hes completely been away from home since he got married last year. I only met his wife once and i was shocked by what she was wearing, all black burqa (i think thats what they are called). Very nice lady but my son hasnt been the same since then. Hes still the happy person hes been since he became Muslim but now hes always visiting warzone countries with his wife and im really worried about him. He's doing very well for himself financially so i wouldnt see why he would be visiting countries like Iraq, Yemen, Sadi Arabia, and even Afghanistan. I know he had a terrible childhood where my alcoholic ex physically abused me in front of him multiple times. I still talk to my son but its not the same, hes always smiling and laughing like hes always been but i dont know. He's always on instagram with guns, and arabic clothing. Been months since we last seen him. As a parent is there anything i can do? I just want the best for him",1.847824254215308,3.8116456420233455,3.2788570038910514,90.62752026588848,78.96108949416342,6.30667963683528,21.21416990920882,7.333567415737692,0.5848496757457844,978,27,210,13,24,320,153,257,0.071,0.8,0.13,0.9567,1,0,1,1,1,0,23.0,3,0,1,1,12,9,0,0,8,0,28,2,1,0,1,29,42,17,0,4,8,8,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,1,11,10,1,0,5,0,0,4,5,2,1,0,14,3,36,7,20,25,4,29,1,0,3,0,44,7,0,1,20,126,47,0,0.0,0.1373131307407477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273131151884247,0.12385335850065925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857258845323627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536928410413008,0.0,0.10834342428719032,0.0,0.1088843977310286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057065634371684,0.12162155853999487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183387425392987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151061152090475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582462175513269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681293845286873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765456073026321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270696531503552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926894608771284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336924429445845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624917735651333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308280202116171,0.12518330327154506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738248181484996,0.1889349804750271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323800528880085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250393018412273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342125300907238,0.0,0.17628225559301872,0.0,0.0,0.12868440878008594,0.0,0.11063207703608427,0.0,0.10119246958949007,0.12108252791179225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424341605858342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235096080191768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834684118419309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297316639251877,0.0,0.0,0.1851030847668698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713640011532751,0.09314964143675394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425894736742195,0.0,0.0,0.06757758746561562,0.0,0.0,0.11073982207378814,0.0,0.0,0.1260572732706405,0.0,0.0,0.1394038690722568,0.0,0.0,0.191246160096668,0.06835613489395045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420087277029627,0.0,0.10457455102060806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769400427950445,0.0,0.08232638859301815,0.0,0.0,0.22389204533823848
parenting,poiuytre7,2020/02/15,"are fathers usually harsh with their daughters or is it just mine? I'm F15 and my dad gets really irritated whenever I make a small mistake like how I answer his question vaguely,,or sometimes my voice is too quiet for him to hear(well I admit that is my fault and I deserve to get scolded for it)But when I come up to him and tell him about my struggles,or ask for any advice he just straight up raises his voice,he sounds stern and strict always,very stoic.He's sometimes irrational when giving me advices.He once called me ""useless"" quite a few years ago,he was mad because I was being a timid little girl,with a shy personality and when I get so anxious I would cry and he would get mad at me for it.He told me I needed to be strong.

I know he's trying to make me become a better person but his way of parenting really stresses me out,I just wish he would stop shouting at me,sometimes I get so hurt I have to hold back my tears because i dont want to show him that I'm weak..",5.8252037617554855,5.1015809605911375,6.429932825794897,81.83270040304525,66.98029556650246,8.958172861621136,31.26242722794447,8.00094639256281,2.0247871921182257,777,26,162,8,11,255,119,203,0.188,0.741,0.07,-0.9658,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,3,12,12,2,2,5,0,13,1,0,3,0,29,31,14,0,7,5,4,0,1,0,3,1,4,0,2,3,8,0,2,4,1,0,1,1,9,0,0,3,4,33,3,18,23,1,16,0,2,0,0,25,7,0,2,8,92,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788910471119327,0.1160124003443625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889991882375918,0.0,0.0,0.14785100010277558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235004622499415,0.0,0.0,0.10063445773540217,0.0,0.15955983329153922,0.14454066850970596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574791233645935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363755774888067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273684445422807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437595580496605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533840088548653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34188277805963163,0.12554680274719304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475051400602417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401039225957582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192523515312248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393869896887219,0.13117069044868188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471956924692314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704182745220298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937713442376473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453207101978322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285492343139693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466094585215171,0.13920120353622778,0.0,0.0,0.16768318790793724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38831485695169415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941699179110334,0.14991636555597926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439013340125136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505624996456324,0.0,0.08885523496667329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413983730510166,0.10798521775606493,0.07719320594729986,0.10388213350239836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049928439557778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789085959622058,0.0,0.0,0.08427892533016028
parenting,bakerbabe126,2020/02/15,"Finally realized I'm a good mom. Share some of your pride with me! So it's Valentines day...every night I seem to find myself looking around my house and wondering if I was a good enough mom today. Did I do the dishes? Pick up toys? Make my kids feel loved and teach them something? Did I do everything right and on time?  

Then I go over the little things I did wrong and decide I was not, or I did just ok. Which still isn't good enough. But today. I did a bunch of stuff wrong but dammit I'm super mom!

I delegated tasks my husband couldn't do, made my son's mailbox and showed up to my son's class party AFTER they passed out cards, brought him and his overwhelming friend home, we did crafts and passed them out at the retirement home. I taught my daughter more about being social, I taught my son about being a part of a better world. Then I planned their birthday tomorrow, had dinner with my husband and I'm now in the jet tub.

I did damn good today. For the first time in my life as a mother, I feel proud of myself. What have you done lately that made you think, ""I am an awesome mom!""?",2.0217410714285715,3.843159834821428,2.9485357142857147,93.87146428571432,77.88392857142857,5.908571428571428,19.682142857142857,6.742157984588678,0.04438107142857106,849,19,188,8,20,269,134,224,0.032,0.769,0.19899999999999998,0.9901,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,3,4,6,7,16,1,1,12,1,20,4,0,4,0,34,37,16,0,2,6,11,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,6,14,2,0,8,2,0,4,3,4,0,1,16,3,38,12,23,18,6,32,0,1,1,1,26,13,1,5,15,125,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721314070310932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658050197115224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042640701761056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175179984651827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256701991607604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200759221171592,0.0,0.0981439267456916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043186159643884,0.0,0.0,0.11962570986088698,0.09980886374176713,0.09288736466943297,0.0,0.0,0.08436937529584844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062062146292334475,0.3663746121053029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907748952297426,0.0,0.0,0.12600471655508907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318487675166515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713276754648521,0.0,0.1094493271775915,0.0,0.0,0.09170237348685154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855927995302118,0.20665958889909788,0.07289333933298095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5115853477371858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024788992840158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182553780157253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932581113810088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994136127146496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131792565908044,0.0,0.08406921506625352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872090453365519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501043181379934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254911208831831,0.06997238231622623,0.0,0.0,0.12735340194780992,0.0,0.31053284816862137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842516479170985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387910006029868,0.0,0.0
parenting,Willis8604,2020/02/15,"2 year old snuck out of house. I was taking a nap with my Son during nap time because i work midnights.. My fiance left to go to the dentist so it was just me and my Son.. I wake up and see the front door open, I've never jumped up so quick in my life! I go on the porch and hes across the street in a parking lot.. Thank got someone saw him and got him.. They did call the police wich is understandable.. When the cop arrived i explained what happen.. He proceeded to tell me when he was younger his baby brother got out as well and sometimes mistakes happen.. I was so shaken up.. I couldn't even say my son's birthday and I've never been like that in my life.. It felt like terrible anxiety.. He said i wasn't in trouble but he had to make a report and let child services know. So now im really starting to worry.. I think im a good dad but my fiance blew up on me and all the sudden im like the worst person ever.. I love my son to death and it was just a bad mistake.. Does anyone have any insight on what might happen? I feel absolutely horrible it makes me tear up just thinking about it.",-0.05995370370370168,2.070308633620691,2.155076628352493,94.91610472541508,87.66379310344826,4.643933588761176,18.93742017879949,6.037888025583468,-0.19077541507024293,841,24,190,7,27,283,133,232,0.135,0.8029999999999999,0.061,-0.9559,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,1,1,15,13,0,0,13,0,15,5,1,2,4,37,39,18,1,3,5,6,2,3,0,1,3,2,2,2,8,13,0,0,8,2,0,4,4,6,1,0,15,6,28,7,25,21,3,35,0,0,2,1,23,18,0,2,16,118,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866195043049522,0.0,0.09744167983485276,0.0,0.0,0.08906370189608652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635297205398944,0.07764674004552423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006432123661904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146689643096028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413011870694359,0.11521816133078636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440472863122115,0.0,0.12230016769633065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478052375267922,0.10683627500657776,0.3056207516511771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33791240774188896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697387979641102,0.0,0.0,0.4127612230989615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000207911277427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839352817100534,0.13024977257024115,0.17993774226356565,0.1866872671625548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828984058885463,0.11496109162154305,0.0,0.17004787100014074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351249589242843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647921430401008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365884623814234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112191120929266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159981514710442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116298441931304,0.10129387200110604,0.0,0.0,0.101501543573206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792459413917953,0.0,0.12597733039096431,0.0,0.0901568225970688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577029882871096,0.0,0.1113315396331738,0.11726997133516015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323377074726172,0.0,0.0,0.07427350380712977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260207597559914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452560250613765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273066308439852,0.1293556991713848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820254530408074
parenting,Home_Skillet77,2020/02/15,"Does anyone else have a child that is like their clone? My 5 year old daughter is just like me. So much so, that what happened recently blew my mind. 

I have an issue with seeing blood. Whenever I get blood drawn, I can't stand to watch. I don't like gorey tv shows and movies and I can't eat (anything) while watching a show or movie if there's blood. 

I've noticed that my daughter is super sensitive when she gets hurt a tiny bit or gets a scrape. She will complain about an owie that is so small it's almost invisible. If there's even a tiny bit of blood, she really freaks out. She cries, she doesn't want you to touch it, she says it hurts and she insists on having it bandaged. Then she doesn't want to get the bandage wet when she takes a bath, washes her hands, etc. 

She was hospitalized last weekend and they ended up needing to put in an IV because she was dehydrated. I warned them ahead of time that she would lose her shit if she saw blood. The nurses did a pretty good job of shielding her view but she did see a little bit of blood and from then on out she asked just about every nurse that came to her room if they had a needle and were going to hurt her. 

A couple of days ago I was looking at the bandages on her arm and trying to get her take them off and wash up in the bath. That's when it hit me that she has my ""issue"" with blood. I've never said anything about it in front of her. She's never been with me when I've had to give blood. She's certainly never watched bloody stuff on tv with me. But she has a problem with the sight of blood, just like me.",2.9255614300100703,3.8502004018126885,3.6207741691842905,93.6678782729104,73.68277945619334,6.483434038267875,21.64665156092649,6.42735559955562,0.10187301107754276,1227,26,285,8,24,388,164,331,0.078,0.856,0.066,-0.2639,1,0,0,0,1,0,32.0,0,1,5,3,16,15,1,0,19,0,25,17,12,0,4,38,46,26,0,9,11,2,3,4,0,2,4,2,3,1,16,16,1,0,0,7,0,4,8,8,0,0,12,14,49,7,38,31,5,41,0,4,9,0,41,16,1,7,24,184,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529722332224304,0.0,0.10765132409594498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517041155196649,0.11015218635203544,0.17693588899012108,0.0,0.10050321900055932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553441279254846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35210479762902835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295776069648393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895289591759335,0.11808984787401818,0.06933221496529797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407887052473714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000506233750093,0.08980712968444303,0.0,0.09521804769013502,0.0,0.1198971560835486,0.07100643149209394,0.0,0.09057810034334184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280836180908835,0.10312916260054132,0.06109790702331209,0.09017059239569293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950668424873015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452608883265562,0.0,0.0,0.2244158203957196,0.10668271450783977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763140838715908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008721331456795,0.10774884877751162,0.0,0.0,0.09027762370198143,0.12027126177619618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855000440305752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902898197046203,0.07971403638628835,0.24874482678484586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239583228432185,0.11280903741239667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937183892619824,0.0,0.10286833532819364,0.0,0.10807281607348096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887083690198323,0.0,0.10614880534738212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226243924029466,0.08549276398705284,0.0,0.0,0.17133608060576286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035294822140423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306818562037053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166165618870032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268737689684804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298924205373468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681917043839888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636889009855223,0.0,0.0,0.06923007837702426
parenting,nwtay,2020/02/15,"Ideas?! How to teach kids non-vegetarians and smokers aren’t ‘evil’ people Our family is vegetarian and non-smoking. Have two quickly growing and questioning toddlers. 

(Note: nice vegetarian - the non preaching not so crazy ones.)

Not sure how to teach our kids that our family doesn’t eat meat, or smoke, because it’s bad. (Smoking is a very very clear example) 

But then other people including our lovely grandpa eats meat and smokes a pack a day. 

We are lost on how to run this line that it is bad, but they aren’t bad because of it, but we still can’t/won’t because it’s bad.",3.466636363636365,5.723738754545457,4.46909090909091,82.61363636363639,75.0909090909091,7.309090909090909,26.45454545454545,8.238735603445708,1.7896545454545452,453,17,87,8,10,147,68,110,0.162,0.7559999999999999,0.083,-0.878,2,0,3,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,1,1,6,9,1,0,4,0,8,3,0,3,2,19,10,13,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,6,2,0,2,0,0,2,5,6,0,2,1,0,7,3,5,9,0,7,1,1,0,1,12,1,0,2,4,51,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5663300965026247,0.31010195296262844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935758455140647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470215948438161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197079768365561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142207420261065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185103930311969,0.0,0.15304209382842854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490393062569786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23511474419433304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995540616309847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541753658758476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981620234169427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16564367936107094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798233634490022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zombiemommy,2020/02/15,"Better to beg forgiveness than ask permission Hey all, I’ll try to keep this quick and concise.

My (32f) dd (12) changed elective courses at school without requesting permission or even mentioning it to us. We only found out because she felt guilty and told me this morning because her new class starts Tuesday. I had no idea she could do this without the school contacting us, but the school apparently marks all electives as the same credits and as it was the same class period they really didn’t care. 

My wife (31) is going out of town this weekend and has left punishment to me. To be clear, the thing we take issue with is that she did this without discussing it with us beforehand. She won’t get electronics (iPad, tv) this weekend, but beyond that I’m lost. Help?",5.067537878787881,6.846758708333336,5.002954545454545,82.51022727272729,69.55555555555556,8.56969696969697,31.146464646464647,9.095868883498916,2.7247722222222235,610,26,112,12,11,189,98,144,0.068,0.816,0.11599999999999999,0.8256,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,1,2,3,6,1,0,5,0,11,0,0,0,3,27,23,9,0,1,6,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,10,0,1,4,3,1,1,6,2,0,0,8,1,16,4,18,12,4,14,0,1,0,0,21,6,0,1,7,76,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158374806950462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160174069110418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448335416599475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350563913504866,0.0,0.14889653222413515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237870136475724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296510585116913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514361099512787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432686697343526,0.0,0.0,0.07353690288726834,0.0,0.07999237920215048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434283209712573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588914266391046,0.0,0.14690810437423513,0.0,0.12510649125894646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292702771941302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364700067267914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593877456838432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704793605004367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016908057637507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42734440765424897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962470854388353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058276881674528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350911032970308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449418776347402,0.0,0.09556109877564484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.507920541793882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070385656186304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Phuntymzyyc,2020/02/15,"Children of parents with depression - how to help? My brother has been struggling with depression for a number of years now and recently spent two weeks at a voluntary inpatient program in a psych ward. 

His son (my nephew) is 8 years old and we are quite close. My husband, daughter and I just went out for dinner with my nephew and he told us that he wished he lived with us. He adores my husband because he plays with him, reads him stories and really engages with him - all things my brother doesn't do with his son. My heart aches for my nephew - I would like to talk with him about how he's feeling about everything, but I don't quite know how to go about it. To my knowledge, he is not in counseling, but I think it would be really helpful. Any suggestions?",5.8231681681681655,6.157745851351353,5.573333333333334,84.39388888888892,66.83783783783784,9.280480480480481,31.984984984984983,9.150863307647796,2.5241057057057046,598,23,121,10,9,185,87,148,0.055,0.841,0.10400000000000001,0.6537,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,0,2,8,7,0,1,3,0,11,2,1,3,1,31,19,10,0,3,4,11,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,16,1,0,4,2,1,2,3,3,0,1,4,1,22,4,24,12,1,13,0,2,0,0,33,5,0,0,7,79,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189665176757788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030547163111547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834457715259185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788297698173608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319920033785146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351505748662473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949873304492408,0.2205828968961712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042995953788567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038866954485241,0.0,0.1452967810493253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17266292959275906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270841819606165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500290037733603,0.16459013022740582,0.0,0.21082425195296914,0.0,0.16246893089823006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201878973476595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225552189095788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931678636419698,0.10543417760571692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723037401517936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073714359703975,0.0,0.3958561981215625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131988556566916,0.0,0.0,0.15253542142742366,0.0,0.0,0.18921932155521096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23377694902154084,0.0,0.0,0.2119239455047376
parenting,TouretteTV96,2020/02/15,At what point in a conversation is verbal abuse? Answer below.,2.7290909090909103,5.546285999999999,4.791363636363638,70.50704545454549,98.0909090909091,5.836363636363638,14.590909090909092,7.1686216300943375,0.9018727272727278,50,1,7,1,2,17,11,11,0.318,0.682,0.0,-0.6369,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,6,1,0,0.0,0.781687491658697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.623670317863801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mama_plantmama,2020/02/15,"When life gives you lemons.... Currently pregnant with #2. And we also live with my MIL (which was always going to be temporary) since we are neither in the best financial situation or the worst. 
Well, we told her we're expecting and she is less than thrilled. It's understandable on why she's upset but we also told her we don't expect her to pitch in for this one. 
Originally we never expected her to pitch in for our first child, but she did. For that we are forever grateful. 

But you see, we were not planning on having #2 ... Not for a few more years. Life found a way in the end. 

I personally did not want to be pregnant due to us having so many things to take care of this year. And quite frankly I'm still a little traumatized from my first child's L&D. 

Abortion was not an option. Especially knowing some women in our family have had devastating miscarriages...and you know the guilt of the deed. 

Now with her being so upset about it kind of puts me in a weird mood. 

Did we make the right choice in carrying out this pregnancy or should I have just terminated it?",3.3106190476190456,5.266545300000004,4.4123809523809525,84.20761904761905,74.57142857142857,8.095238095238095,24.523809523809533,8.841846274778883,1.7546666666666666,843,27,170,18,18,275,130,210,0.113,0.835,0.053,-0.9075,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,12,3,0,5,10,11,0,3,11,0,19,2,0,2,1,40,33,13,0,5,10,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,9,16,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,5,1,3,10,1,28,5,29,19,7,27,0,0,1,0,30,12,0,4,12,128,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513808210332721,0.13077971445305106,0.17029582194330642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494234206220154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024735306268026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920776181289454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816779593167742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26738088602601306,0.0,0.17233101143625654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507737267411628,0.0893244830627712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636704763337628,0.1727552675731238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220304968454395,0.0,0.15752765825493226,0.13878577639512155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491354623747373,0.1593477628418409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122075397562143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650383085937024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723654863097193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580012949579156,0.0,0.16717179382317193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422404941138572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524575370700985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001432212217814,0.17666793981596735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551778110270473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817380147422518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441810863947673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003692080856782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362161957369653,0.1890585923526804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270413172694444,0.12475583660635906,0.0,0.0,0.14131652484954976,0.0,0.14182330478662694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242726026812424
parenting,EngineerVsMBA,2020/02/15,"Handwriting book for 1st grade? My kid is having issues with neat handwriting. I also struggle with it. Any suggestions on a book or program that we can do to improve our handwriting? I thought about calligraphy, but thought that might be too advanced.

Any ideas? In a perfect world, it would be a single book he could complete on his own (So I can incentivize the completion), but also something I could get value from.",3.9572368421052633,6.847776828947371,4.262368421052631,81.4240789473684,76.76315789473685,7.484210526315789,30.552631578947373,8.472884824447931,2.8166894736842103,333,16,56,7,8,104,56,76,0.021,0.79,0.19,0.9259,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,5,3,0,1,4,0,11,0,0,0,1,14,14,6,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,2,9,6,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,0,45,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591813176276634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30543419180861303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4709202800561165,0.0,0.0,0.35860595828014985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173299353373434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25351517511967525,0.0,0.2343954900192696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382360817773187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288698964984486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347720829380419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565711817925157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952995992273036,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yanadalo,2020/02/15,"Parents of kids with depression/anxiety: Do you have similar mental health issues? My oldest (19) is away at college. He recently informed me that he started seeing one of the therapist on campus. He has always struggled with medical related anxiety but it has gotten worse since being away at college. Stress is a big trigger for him and makes things worse medically so he's been seeing the therapist to help him manage. He says it's going well and he feels like he is in a good place. 

We were talking the other day and he asked if my husband or I struggled with mental health. My husband had (and still has to some extent) work related PTSD but my son was young when my husband was at his worst and doesn't remember it. The therapist my son sees told him that mental health issues often run in families so he was just trying to see if there was a link but it made me curious. Neither of my other kids (16M and 12F) show any signs of mental health concerns but it's something we'll keep an eye out for. I was just curious as to how often it's linked to a family history and whether that is genetic or learned behavior. Do anxious and depressed parent raise anxious and depressed kids even if they think they are hiding it?",5.778711484593838,6.397371100840338,6.513126050420167,76.62697198879553,66.98319327731093,9.708011204481792,32.6733893557423,9.725611199111238,3.1656377591036424,974,40,176,20,15,321,136,238,0.154,0.774,0.07200000000000001,-0.9708,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,2,1,12,9,0,3,9,0,22,7,1,4,0,42,36,24,0,3,12,7,1,1,0,1,6,1,0,3,13,14,0,1,7,1,0,2,2,6,1,1,11,7,20,3,24,23,4,20,0,2,5,0,34,11,0,8,8,122,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684963648112282,0.0,0.0,0.06280691915396243,0.0,0.14130793651433987,0.2086775395186185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634269158975312,0.0,0.17354762476965133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956356536152214,0.0,0.1590964106212793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061001891045665724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741346707045506,0.0,0.04669921187765018,0.06598090148747937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052489440590593316,0.07746589340231308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926908917094102,0.0,0.0,0.06190592816343275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279647120736707,0.0,0.08209244187923231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04512167780931839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739180693897018,0.06164998848647685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860828614646784,0.3723024144924032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258448200181589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051062774286405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649493204758916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796209601611842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119283594964996,0.0,0.10462412972057628,0.0,0.0,0.07344715350906895,0.0,0.0,0.2943909361919668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639987160253274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711020538821256,0.0,0.0,0.06537179257106991,0.0,0.07375758457648911,0.0,0.1057963026156366,0.1931062288132622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423423078220585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217058679082201,0.061358856184618074,0.05917957118771901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825246540736953,0.0,0.06270533102009776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304134635010357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723805805827232,0.0,0.18824232003235866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Khaza_,2020/02/15,"My first baby (boy) was born yesterday! My wife gave birth to my handsome baby boy yesterday. Im in love. And I'm curious on something we just tried..

So she decided to breastfeed, when we tried he didnt latch and was crying.. i held him for a bit and my wife put one of those 1 piece rubber pacifiers in his mouth and he went to town on it. We took it away and tried to get him to latch and he latched instantly after a pacifier. He is eating like he should be right now.

Was this a good method to try? Are pacifiers bad for newborn babys at all? It seemed to help so much just now.",0.5966519546027769,2.686232549180332,2.1913114754098366,96.06699243379572,84.1639344262295,5.7210592686002535,20.040353089533426,7.010146845296331,0.24025523329129905,449,13,104,6,13,146,79,122,0.027000000000000003,0.8270000000000001,0.146,0.9374,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,3,0,8,3,1,0,1,16,16,9,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,9,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,8,0,12,4,17,6,4,20,0,0,0,1,20,8,0,1,10,63,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19580159985884868,0.0,0.1740079076676946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275222408748629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289210512931665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324842881274994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177267595021019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888203335378024,0.0,0.0,0.17479865694272967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968822438492706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22511114142112834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181524195570586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809196047764296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320027894868085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121935369104266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20950270592394885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797513342688173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972238152081167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043891032042296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23154354440763186,0.5659681784621406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931917884370954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,endless_sunset,2020/02/15,"5 yo son hawking (hocking) every minute. Hey parents. I searched the internet and reddit and no one has mentioned their kid 'hawking'. So here goes my description of my son's 'hawking'. He first does the nose snort, kinda of sounds like someone snoring, he may do that a couple times. Then he hawks. I guess this is when he pushes up the phlegm from his throat to the back of his mouth. At this point I guess he swallows the phlegm. He waits a minute and then has to do it all over again. When people ask, he says he has allergies.  

I hawk too. I usually do it when I'm alone or in a private bathroom But my son does it about every minute. The teachers have started to mention it and it's kind of embarrassing going out in public when he does it. 

Any suggestions? We plan to take his to a ENT doctor. But wanted to see if anyone has any experience or advice. 

Thanks,",1.244476744186045,3.6970705406976765,2.514,92.35600000000001,84.87209302325581,5.067906976744187,21.390697674418604,6.508806274219699,0.3857688372093024,671,22,138,7,20,215,105,172,0.043,0.9259999999999999,0.031,-0.2398,1,1,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,1,2,11,4,0,1,10,0,10,5,3,0,1,18,21,16,0,2,5,4,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,9,6,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,5,13,3,18,20,1,21,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,7,13,84,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545303462440944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535967599573313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302805357230687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183892539600802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828702906378467,0.0,0.0,0.13019307983823014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734425305546354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330147103899213,0.4445071031890301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28531102872454595,0.0,0.0,0.16562293559016394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440195799731694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962258351613752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730399706918413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763159185081302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271894465307496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473248678222805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800469790059696,0.0,0.0,0.1173819691532394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600577663794161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346463899617644,0.0,0.0,0.13492244049600244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346037624833266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984230095366467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273040979488327,0.0,0.0,0.15588285825451015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872916258282824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647697586321785,0.0,0.09986660087432718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,butcherwithasmile94,2020/02/15,"Valentine's day card choice. My bf let our 5yr old daughter pick out my Valentine's day card this year. She was so excited. I open up the card and read ""Happy Valentine's Day Grandma"". And apparently she told the clerk that ""that card is for my step mom."" I can only imagine the confusion in the clerks brain lol.",2.3487634408602176,4.5708059193548385,3.0948387096774184,91.2789247311828,78.51612903225806,6.068817204301076,24.849462365591396,7.1686216300943375,0.98192688172043,245,9,51,3,6,77,44,62,0.034,0.818,0.14800000000000002,0.8134,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,1,4,1,1,1,0,7,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,2,4,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,5,26,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31514392990700785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5461869676291661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300517192169346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886743276454178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33063030094925305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29622990359426915,0.0,0.0,0.21470443781616225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823797703701034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26975297272241305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179411786378696
parenting,TheCraziestBean,2020/02/15,"My 7 year old is bossy with her friends Any advice? She's 7 (today!) and is a very confident little girl. Along with this confidence comes a bossy side. 



We've talked about how to play nicely with others, but she still struggles with controlling her inner bossy boots. When she gets bossy and the other child won't  give into her demands, she pushes them. I've tried timeouts for when she's getting physical, but she actually likes sitting in the corner. 



Any advice?",4.038534482758621,6.484789448275862,4.113318965517242,84.9417025862069,74.0574712643678,6.648850574712642,23.518678160919546,7.645422480735847,1.214564367816092,370,11,66,5,8,114,63,87,0.037000000000000005,0.7979999999999999,0.166,0.8586,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,6,5,0,1,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,13,7,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,9,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,11,4,10,6,0,15,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,0,7,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.22745687742526005,0.0,0.0,0.4555350081771641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170109450146456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078168299128632,0.0,0.0,0.26142411881741273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800805288895159,0.0,0.24355409235325584,0.22359591907853055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387332729944895,0.23361193152881146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24458300411387984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18614160592141796,0.0,0.0,0.2436705577543224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734451529945564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22093687960306124,0.0,0.0,0.15824909509896934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192319146985226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009879467893786
parenting,lFuhrer,2020/02/15,"I’m worried that I may be stressing my nephew. My nephew, a five year old, is having behavioral issues in school and I’ve been teaching him math, science, etc. to ensure he has an advantage in his education but I think that me trying to assist him is causing him to not want to go to school.

He’s like a little brother to me and the only experience I have with a younger brother is my biological brother who’s the same age as my nephew so I don’t know if I’m doing anything right. (Sister had a kid when she was 16 and then my mother had a child a bit later — it’s wack, yo)",1.3725856929955285,3.0748789262295126,3.82397913561848,87.40067809239945,79.40983606557377,6.075707898658719,23.38599105812221,6.980632752743323,0.7671868852459016,447,15,97,5,11,156,82,122,0.042,0.898,0.059000000000000004,0.4342,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,13,20,9,0,2,3,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,4,0,16,2,10,14,3,11,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,2,7,65,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098272103854425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25337212149074845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23841090770856896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588314359999361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270195518907437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189686501333406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24223205516923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754553637563365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113382954366204,0.23260592800874605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24352975584237024,0.0,0.0,0.17650790377752698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981957322307215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4697563127285202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658477683891568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487080034511249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756762670959862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688726684233424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23568931441992874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945242394429084
parenting,AlohaStaceFace,2020/02/15,"Public or Private Schools? The public schools where I live are terrible for junior high and high school.  Nearly everyone that can scrape up the money sends their kids to private schools, do.  The two best private schools are charging $25,000 a year (starting at kindergarden).  My father is a huge public schools advocate as he is an AP English teacher at a public school and my sister is a public school administrator.  Every child should be given access to a good education.

BUT you want to give your child the best possible education. Every dollar taken away from funding public schools damages public schools more, exacerbating the problem. 

For those that sent their kids to public or private, what informed and ultimately persuaded your decision to do so?",8.0741452991453,9.967064038461539,7.471025641025642,67.22619658119662,62.46153846153847,9.47008547008547,38.29059829059829,9.725611199111238,4.230726495726496,615,31,87,12,9,192,81,130,0.071,0.8290000000000001,0.1,0.4524,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,2,2,2,6,0,0,11,0,10,1,0,0,0,11,16,8,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,3,0,1,3,0,8,3,14,11,3,13,0,1,0,0,24,9,0,2,2,59,12,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480491677114882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945057996353276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210068453769066,0.08625001919391811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658834844119236,0.0,0.07570819423550726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19073530893140606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970374829171988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175779864255796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636935507237696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9135082086821744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388850824698644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817368658731191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323936625703488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05812631459386415
parenting,WeathersRabbits,2020/02/15,Toddler won't leave their bedroom door alone! My toddler opens and closes their bedroom door constantly. If it's bedtime or nap time they will try and rush out. If it's a timeout time they refuse to stay inside and just open and close the door constantly. It doesn't matter if I take plushies or privileges away they keep doing it. Any ideas or help? I don't want to use locks or baby gates. Bringing them back into the room constantly does not seem to help much either.,2.419565217391302,5.013882695652175,2.6197391304347843,92.66656521739132,80.73913043478261,5.419130434782609,22.243478260869566,6.742157984588678,0.5660660869565213,376,12,74,4,10,114,62,92,0.071,0.8270000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.6052,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,6,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,27,11,11,0,4,10,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,4,10,0,2,2,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,6,9,2,17,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,8,6,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060989145531796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532349494191578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696245126374555,0.15301495218118205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6451290412091267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741419570153753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667644479157796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22464125129450452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768759922164237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070708311699746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462842985306718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811576694689785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121023043326801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961955339187832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320712915044437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510461362271758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186787839908213,0.0,0.0,0.11737246846199273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Embarrassed_Scratch,2020/02/16,"Are we being too protective ?  

Disclaimer: Throw away account, wish this wasn't true.

My 36 yr old sister got engaged a few months ago after a dating a guy for about a year and we recently found out she was pregnant as well.  We were very  excited for her as she has had some non-legal issues in the past and had trouble staying in a relationship.  My wife and I joked that we didn't  know how to congratulate them on the baby though since we didn't even  know his last name (assuming baby would take his last name).

Well  the other day we found out his last name and I doing what I always do, I  went ahead and googled it.  I was shocked, there were numerous articles  about him being a serial peeping tom since the mid 1990s, the most  recent case in 2016 he had video taped unknowing 18 and 21 yr old girls  (he was in his mid 40s at the time), in one case he was caught masturbating  on a porch while looking through a window.  Looking at his record, I can only see back the last 15 years, he has 5 felonies with the most recent  being in 2016.   Charges include  Interfere w/Privacy-Previous  Conviction,  Stalking - Third or Subsequent Violation in 10 years,   Racketeering, Harassment-Stalk/Follow/Pursue and  Stalking.  At first we  were terrified for my sister, she must not have known (we have a 2 yr old daughter and recently she suggested that her fiance should change her  diaper for practice, so glad we didn't let him). Well come to learn my  sister did know about all of this, this really made us angry that she  would allow this guy around on young daughter and even suggest that he  change her diaper.  She failed to tell anyone about this guys history (my parents either) and now I feel like my parents are stuck and they need to give him a chance.  We feel the opposite and feel like with his  history and repeated patterns he cannot be trusted and would have trouble now believing anything he says.

Today we informed my sister that he is no longer allowed to be around our daughter at all (we had a family vacation upcoming) and she was upset saying we were taking it too far and he should still be able to be around our daughter with guidelines.  Are we being overprotective in this case ?",8.005410943223445,7.087201036057698,7.708310439560442,75.08073717948722,62.677884615384606,11.193040293040292,34.47298534798535,10.398101306919678,3.3815273809523814,1725,61,323,34,21,549,216,416,0.092,0.8320000000000001,0.076,-0.8294,3,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,17,0,2,3,22,17,1,1,20,0,46,0,0,4,4,77,68,23,0,8,3,11,3,2,0,6,0,2,2,4,15,39,0,2,12,2,1,4,7,6,3,3,25,8,53,11,44,28,7,60,0,1,3,0,74,24,0,6,33,223,68,2,0.08767064595546979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771473789544009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294900058396801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061301354096115715,0.0,0.07214547159819751,0.23413638647006235,0.0,0.0,0.0823694578163513,0.06741331515374137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877479596594436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854878374161613,0.07552049860112288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056540313829698034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158112696240669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264808251913894,0.0,0.13298673840976544,0.12526385397602194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457260666315235,0.0,0.19225267628814569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410167223630546,0.0,0.0,0.0701182244365145,0.0,0.0,0.2604231691657115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150537682860684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454448269497674,0.2858531107958012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964917535746099,0.0,0.08566289839692659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724252437237795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295608499060281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997787317490473,0.0,0.0,0.06500667310525958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27598678542069466,0.0,0.059407898633577226,0.06667747683974466,0.0,0.0,0.19469575442419568,0.0,0.08369155170486138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616406073426453,0.0,0.34625674486196445,0.09412546393284152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943843301171532,0.0,0.0,0.06986215406971337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504412859564414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344524363791012,0.07001389110882833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318348300240054,0.0,0.07662800880522136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613596452306664,0.0,0.05112145868529325,0.0,0.08310152130622173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545699248250727,0.0,0.0,0.07233746452607047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23647931860582905,0.08127156713533691,0.0,0.0,0.10081691617047883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18683613447914765,0.0,0.0,0.16937106480085987
parenting,WaterWorldBottlingCo,2020/02/16,"Nanny for a kid who cries easily He lost his mom a month ago.  I acknowledge that’s a traumatic event and that’s likely why I’m reaching out for help.

The kid makes a big deal sobbing over everything.

At times it reads like an attempt at control or behavior modification efforts on his part.

I know kids cry and everything but my directions were to help raise a young boy into a man.

I acknowledge his suffering I just feel like he can’t cry at everything and be healthy, stable and accepted in this world.",3.2906060606060588,5.503986747474752,4.671717171717173,81.16090909090913,75.46464646464645,9.248484848484848,28.171717171717173,9.725611199111238,2.9604626262626272,404,17,78,12,9,134,72,99,0.16399999999999998,0.63,0.205,0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,4,1,7,0,0,8,0,3,0,0,2,0,16,8,6,0,0,3,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,6,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,8,4,11,5,1,15,0,3,0,0,15,10,1,1,8,43,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379232953489252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458873729629267,0.0,0.0,0.5717263997573584,0.0,0.17886512222884196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677767756723197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772398840145539,0.12394444368718235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23257929655936474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534799240175512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542818207191139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18938964699575028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580886823329582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031945602585886,0.13848158564139385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878775429390342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354136357599326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011659877308075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655172287540556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FinSpades,2020/02/16,"Should my money be taken away for this? (I know that this probably isn't the best place to ask this but i couldn't find anywhere better and it also might help to have the opinions in the situation coming from parents anyways)

  I'm a 14-close-to-15-year-old living with my parents. We have this very old gas oven that came with our house, but the situation lies within the fact that it doesn't have any beepers, buzzers, lights, or general indicators that tell you to turn the oven off. Considering that i have been living with ovens that did have those things for.. Well.. 14 years of my life, it may sound a bit reasonable that i have an issue remembering to turn the oven off once im done with it. Anywho, i do my best but about 50% of the time it slips my mind.

  My parents have gotten quite fed up with it and i understand why, but it has taken a bit of a turn today. I was forced to give my mom 10$ of my money (worked for, not from birthdays or christmas) for leaving it on. She said i would have to do that from then on if the oven wasnt turned off.

  Ive been sulking for a bit because, lets be honest, no child wants to lose a 6th of the income they make every other week, but i dont know if im being unreasonable. I need some advice as to whether im being a brat or my parents are just taking it too far.",5.2991666666666655,4.616985779411767,5.971705882352942,84.5458431372549,68.04411764705883,8.723921568627452,28.059803921568626,7.793537801064563,1.4387683333333334,1020,27,226,10,15,334,150,272,0.10099999999999999,0.8690000000000001,0.03,-0.9592,5,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,1,1,6,6,6,0,0,18,0,32,2,0,2,1,42,53,16,0,7,13,5,0,0,0,4,1,2,5,1,24,10,1,0,6,0,2,2,7,1,1,0,12,3,25,5,37,31,6,19,0,1,0,0,16,11,0,9,6,159,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895318779547272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327001478581938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230604614327598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565412535421914,0.0,0.08608180804448562,0.0,0.0,0.0558518708571598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923031008018803,0.08103214096482238,0.30008221402113416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479106592508346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789241696661404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376103264549693,0.10738020562433934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719541760261893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374077325335665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789209250116907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141224038131837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057193920691594,0.0,0.0,0.2969021817767272,0.09562947835301633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100706020112295,0.0,0.0,0.0970143820852228,0.0,0.09368961881081417,0.06471527032133832,0.0,0.0,0.16180766451050868,0.0,0.0,0.10250149035157853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061158341773694926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719637619033793,0.09251201878706776,0.10730648310815244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793649131859081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228358111706748,0.0975743525383827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069411892157172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572540366151784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987839241053116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745118784200768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942025913942872,0.0,0.0,0.10378977255818887,0.0,0.08715342530140921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20597374945772626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888827990713688,0.0,0.08008159480069786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060869531195533226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05342547723590746,0.0,0.08684686526936022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.398633347896171,0.0,0.0953816479408959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559767783881012,0.05404098112513316,0.0,0.07349357613420099,0.0,0.082379107703182,0.0,0.08267453018871754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670184757340837,0.0,0.0,0.06508558184218531,0.0,0.0,0.1180030226007995
parenting,throwsway00001,2020/02/16,"Should I call CPS? I recently went to visit my uncle and in Philadelphia, PA. I noticed that the neighborhood he lives in is completely chaotic, terrible infrastructure,run down homes etc. He lives with 6 people, and his son my young cousin who’s 14 years old. I noticed this boy has no space for himself as every room in the house is being rented to someone. He shares a twin bed and very small room with a man who’s ~25 and who’s been part of this dynamic for about 6 months. 

My uncle works 3 jobs, one full time and two part time jobs, my young cousin literally stays in a house full of strangers all day. He has no support after school, his dad basically works all day and leaves him with strangers. He belittles my little cousin calling him names and has become physically abusive. My little cousin says his dad “punches him out” my uncle also mentioned he does this as a means to “correct his sons behavior”. He also makes him kneel on the hardwood floor when his son doesn’t “behave”. This form of archaic behavior is fucking sickening. 

After seeing this I decided to ask my uncle if he would let my family and I take his son to NYC for the Presidents’ Day weekend. He agreed and my little cousin has been here in NYC for today and is leaving back to that hell hole tomorrow.

During this time I had the opportunity to talk with my cousin and I asked him:
On a scale of 1-10 ten being the most extreme and dangerous, 1 being safe and comforting. How safe do you feel around me and family in NYC? 

He replied “I think a 2”

I then asked him the same question but in regards to how he felt when he’s around 5 strangers all day and sharing a room with a complete stranger. 

He replied “7, I don’t fear something bad is going to happen to me but I feel uncomfortable in that house”

This young man is 14 and in the 7th grade, he is very underdeveloped in terms of verbal communication, education as well as human interaction. He has no support from his father to play sports or stay in extracurricular activities to help him grow. This kid is in an environment where he’s being setup to fail.

During this weekend I brought him to a martial arts school where I train. I taught him a couple of moves and had him interact with other people. I wanna build up his confidence and be a positive mentor in his life. He loved it by the way. I gave him some old but very new clothes since I noticed the clothes he was wearing were worn out. I also gave a him a Gi for jiu jitsu. He is now at my Aunts house in upstate New York and will be going back to Philly tomorrow. I don’t think this kid is safe at all, I am on the verge of calling CPS or speaking with my uncle to see if I can get custody of this child. What do you guys recommend I do? I cannot let this kid go through the same shit I did with my family. I can fully support this child with my income and my family is very very supportive of the idea of taking him in and helping him. 


If you would like to talk one on one I can give you my number through DM.",4.703356295445847,5.258939011608625,5.605837479270316,82.41019517795637,69.33167495854063,8.771680061232301,28.39686184462304,8.841846274778883,1.9930050516647533,2356,78,488,39,39,775,268,603,0.073,0.8170000000000001,0.11,0.9682,4,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,0,4,0,4,17,25,4,2,27,0,46,5,2,3,5,71,78,41,0,7,8,15,3,1,0,4,1,2,6,10,22,34,0,3,9,5,1,8,7,9,1,5,14,7,74,16,80,52,15,83,1,1,2,2,99,41,3,8,32,315,96,10,0.0,0.0781911258453271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832416424086262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749584137513867,0.1850841418570784,0.0,0.0,0.1014893622895604,0.05510154793851227,0.0,0.07288428139855857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021592427545364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838518524367574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730201973670104,0.0,0.17024056393432535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05775107567402811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735998391079868,0.0,0.0,0.05560209958050686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248849983721854,0.07426067358495117,0.06673626836377604,0.0,0.06336380096445708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610096305971409,0.03447871226601653,0.0633066706724225,0.11251633333864014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534362265520359,0.05835755025493701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846767363114164,0.0,0.06619653930446381,0.0,0.0,0.3045890726664389,0.0,0.0744982663877601,0.0,0.0,0.13097609451067982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397544958228426,0.0,0.1349649934299179,0.04661293398669817,0.03224093382128005,0.19842750720216104,0.11654637223825735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956142060451746,0.0,0.04405095943627995,0.0,0.0,0.07188591850798018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267512587612791,0.07014030538175774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747324703960794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22540101511674496,0.1384974802520524,0.0,0.13415605804730954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292836376438886,0.0,0.0915027220222265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392746374253151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516030279841066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052480424722997694,0.0,0.1335772407366652,0.10517603901455252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774104990887089,0.05459023963383867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591580642133459,0.050804773338842486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406798963109258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995531099553478,0.0,0.0,0.09923731532988056,0.10608563502611848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457152884687036,0.0,0.0,0.11544346015583636,0.0,0.06255381732397035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446574671126139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722564202506493,0.0,0.05238231377048745,0.0,0.0,0.0593357933944285,0.06117633810196005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608764059214364,0.0,0.0,0.09375932186735504,0.0,0.0,0.04249744361268835
parenting,gokux295,2020/02/16,"Nanny Hi all

So this past sept my daycare had an open house my wife and I went and one of the daycare ladies was talking to my and went into her life story and had a rough upbringing (my wife is an early childhood special ed teacher) when we left my wife started bawling.  She went into what she told her and my wife wanted to Careful",1.6437605042016834,3.894635014705884,2.9485714285714306,91.22500000000004,81.20588235294117,4.473949579831934,24.420168067226893,5.288315135182226,0.4405521008403359,263,10,52,1,7,85,47,68,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,1,11,11,7,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,1,12,2,5,4,1,12,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,5,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584464711681674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292489489590979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27541392030681483,0.0,0.17904507408298212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176907278293127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24198163151294694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941911216529666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20374291809020104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422172984253787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495129576222468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7049538218759234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xoila,2020/02/16,"Children's Aid called over weed I was shocked the other day when I recieved a call from CAS. I was told that my kid's school reported us because our kid smells strongly of weed. We've been renting our place for years because it's a great location and it's the only place we can afford. Unfortunately a stupid asshole moved in the downstairs apartment recently and decided to set up a grand GrowOp. You can smell the weed from the street outside of the house. We have been actively trying to get him to cease the pot farm growing and get a real job (and move the hell out) since he first moved in. It's just a shitty predicament that we can't control. 

Apart from that I'm a bit pisses off that the school reported us instead of just bringing it up to us because it's a waste of resources. Children's resources are under funded and overflowing with actual cases of child maltreatment. 

This whole situation is embarrassingly fucked.

The CAS worker is super chill at least. She's going to work with us and hopefully use this to our advantage to get these plants out of the house. I'm telling him his precious plants aren't worth my child's life. If my child ended up in ""the system"" because of his stupid weed fetish, I'd be getting an assault charge.

Rant over.",5.173392557022812,6.361587424489803,5.250180072028812,83.09032412965188,68.63265306122449,8.050420168067228,29.92196878751501,8.313332769828598,2.0760756302521006,1009,38,193,14,17,316,139,245,0.152,0.7509999999999999,0.09699999999999999,-0.9368,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,10,1,0,7,4,15,6,1,21,0,13,3,1,2,0,21,25,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,13,13,0,1,1,0,3,6,2,8,0,1,5,2,22,7,33,19,3,33,1,0,0,1,28,19,3,2,6,116,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.1079952628399366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698468906636221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081996412163468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22600725189105525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412272050847192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137121488534498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801832735413238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413349828137274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231008062458853,0.2312762622715143,0.0,0.06289474313474927,0.0,0.0,0.12201102340114706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099175404274978,0.0,0.25539027426378474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982016001510878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816754482285296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528652884013949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416742329863798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23124742411622665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596354789346398,0.0,0.0,0.1092705490523067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22400231136653914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154508499048966,0.12439461515900642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672804610081467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057472908903431,0.0,0.07513579194812857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5324762571570916,0.09558096357849566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355602192422845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056706916423617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712660745491681
parenting,nicole26c7r2,2020/02/16,I need advice on my 9 year old please! Okay so I need some advice about my 9 year old son and I didn't know where else to post it! Okay she he stayed the night at my sister's all weekend and when we went to pick him up me and my (SO) my sister said she was in the bathroom with her 3 year old daughter to make sure she wiped her butt after going poop. Well when she was in there helping her I guess she had seen that the 3 year olds PP was really red. So she asked her why it was red. And I guess said 3 year old told her that my 9 year old son touched her. Now this isn't the 1st time this has happened while my son was at her house a few months back him and my sister's 5 year old had pulled thier pants down and was looking at each other. No touching that time. I told my sister and my (SO) that it's normal for kids to explore. But I need to know what's normal and what's not? Please some one help me!! Do I need to get my son help? Is this normal for him to touch? Can he being doing this because it's happened to him? Like me and my (SO) are very private when it comes to making love. We kiss in front of the kids but that's it!! No make out  Sessions or anything like that!! We kiss each goodbye.,0.22169811320754806,1.821010792452832,1.76890566037736,101.26015094339623,82.58490566037736,4.390943396226415,16.260377358490565,4.2716492549557765,-1.1829818867924529,920,15,234,1,25,297,124,265,0.023,0.867,0.11,0.9552,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,0,0,14,9,0,0,6,2,17,5,2,4,2,41,42,21,0,7,4,9,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,19,17,0,0,3,1,0,6,5,0,1,1,15,9,43,9,25,26,6,45,0,0,4,4,42,11,1,5,28,146,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339163765134584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687980906649799,0.0,0.07815745705845879,0.0,0.0,0.06428549519786958,0.0,0.05096357215838443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201652431854569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698395230685719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436790820594944,0.0,0.04751347361828925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841961129909604,0.0,0.14785959560843884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811185172753187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646656027040604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918919714596943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168834051510945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020540802566781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545491136944225,0.0,0.16741682147275544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673106373248576,0.0,0.0,0.24796206281842895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845568947337242,0.24573937211818805,0.0,0.0,0.6140905047152249,0.0,0.05665151125730385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18354183052249354,0.0,0.0,0.08006850010524537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355817984015932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905106887316914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910960316146434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879477522447076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749908543517508,0.0,0.0,0.15977237096458988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898117557060507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516907733514612,0.07750075674051872,0.07543864368856881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3768628360563385
parenting,420BAXTER,2020/02/16,"Parents make me wear car seat harness This is pretty embarrassing, but I figured that I would finally get some advice. Until I was 13, I wore a Careva Combi Kit car seat. It had straps over my shoulders, and connected to a pelvic area belt with a crotch strap. But, I would unlock myself out of the best by undoing the crotch strap and then the shoulder straps and my mom would be pissed. So, my mom got me a new car seat harness.  I wore an EZ-ON car seat harness vest every time in the car, with a a crotch strap. I even wore upper and lower arm restraints. But, my little sister would always unbuckle the back so I could get out. The arm restraints didn’t work because of this reason. Finally, now, I wear a Houdini 31 Harness. I think it’s really dumb and overkill, especially considering I’m 16!!!! But she says it’s for my safety. I can’t even escape out of the Houdini 31. Am I right that it’s kind of overkill for my safety? Does anyone have any experience with a parent like mine? Every morning and afternoon at school my mom has to strap me and unstrap me from
My harness. It’s super embarrassing. What do I do? I can’t escape.",1.6826908957415585,4.020576026431718,3.4855341409691647,86.91937316446403,81.68722466960352,6.250293685756241,22.23366372980911,7.492282038375204,1.0070500734214392,886,29,177,14,24,296,121,227,0.081,0.7909999999999999,0.128,0.9005,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,0,3,6,8,2,2,16,0,17,10,10,2,0,28,26,15,0,6,4,6,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,10,13,0,0,3,0,0,5,3,4,0,0,7,1,29,4,20,13,2,24,0,0,0,0,8,10,2,1,10,112,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376727228788432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390340225615862,0.0,0.0,0.09308985838366443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571663406711034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525991983316248,0.0,0.08344684136431628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365755435051386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929548415704278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11979331544883295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082903842668388,0.0,0.23067136938751656,0.0,0.0,0.133904635671999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999124924828845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303869517741144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948339606499226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254981501733008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687751371797364,0.13719968956747966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137510285279782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4809715557884912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220916420756998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30400017349407205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926628932327542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876952055674932,0.14074566490871412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690326711979528,0.0,0.10886038052721682,0.0,0.13853993496737865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877135509157225,0.0,0.0,0.07982162916474897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965751205362687,0.0,0.0,0.3889707642545566,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spunth,2020/02/16,"Why did you decide to become a parent? Yes, I realize this may sound like a strange question. It's common to ask people why they 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 have kids, but almost no one asks why you 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 them. But I am writing an article, and eventually a book, and I would genuinely like to know. 𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗺𝗲𝗻. 

Do you believe being a parent makes you happier? Does it give your life meaning that would be missing otherwise? Did you want someone to love unconditionally? Do you want to ""live on"" though your offspring or carry on the family name? Or was is a vague drive that you can't put into words? Did someone pressure you? Did you just panic because you were almost past child-bearing age? Whatever your reasons, good or bad, just lay it all out. 

And yes, I am aware that many people's ""reason"" is ""Oops!"" I realize [nearly half of all pregnancies are unintended](https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/unintended-pregnancy-united-states). If that happened to you, let me know. 

But I am willing to bet that most people who have a child by accident (a) were still planning to have children anyway at some point and (b) probably had one or more children intentionally in addition to the ""accident."" So, even if you had a child by accident, I'd like to hear what reasons you think there are. If having an unplanned child changed your thinking about the reasons for having or not having a child, I'd love to hear about that, too.",4.876566416040099,6.797463097744366,5.2312030075188005,80.1181829573935,70.2781954887218,8.074185463659147,28.832080200501252,8.704169506293173,2.2865884711779456,1128,43,204,20,21,358,158,266,0.1,0.768,0.133,0.8858,2,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,0,17,2,1,11,10,0,2,14,2,32,3,0,6,2,51,49,17,0,7,14,2,0,3,0,4,1,3,0,7,12,7,0,0,13,1,1,2,3,4,0,3,9,3,26,6,24,33,5,14,0,1,0,2,39,8,0,15,7,142,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21743830839464406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030002892321251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906530677595273,0.06618447092461177,0.11990922120011822,0.0,0.12232344130430432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148547580936591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501207084246227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171076843894884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235199953669208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041521358438292,0.0,0.09106502517325273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600984283498264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24473702315068846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933664097128682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102220493169733,0.07668759991791645,0.1591283548835552,0.0,0.09587104695708024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959809007159014,0.0,0.07247263933683774,0.11007494608397646,0.0,0.11826671455276967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714236623727284,0.0,0.0,0.12738582470738266,0.24111266903266085,0.0,0.10364423953014726,0.22581042012427135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263561411521666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705895706677001,0.0,0.0,0.10914482709715397,0.12162546481307895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465203099178931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398537166318008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670572301146066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913708093350444,0.10667141852826244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280771329276024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29390797240123284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425283819273689,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mjhmom,2020/02/16,"Cross post from r/babies: Nap time woes We are first time parents to a wonderful 6 month old little boy.
Overall he sleeps really well at night. We have a routine, if he wakes up it’s usually only once and he goes right back to sleep when he’s done eating. 

Naps are a different story. The boy will only nap if he’s being held. We do a smaller version of his bed time routine before naps. He’s got a sleep sack, white noise, pacifier. We sing two songs and then it’s in the crib he goes. I try to rock to drowsy but not fully asleep. Even if I rock to sleep he wakes up the second I try to put him down. I know he’s ready for a nap every 1.5-2 hours. Our schedule is sleep, eat, play. He’s getting enough to eat according to his pediatrician. I’ve tried to start out with just doing one nap in the crib and then I’ve also been holding him for part of the nap if he wakes up. Nothing I’m doing seems to make the transition any easier and I’m actually worried I may just be confusing him. He’s in daycare during the week and doesn’t nap very well there either. 

It’s overwhelming how many different recommendations are out there. Some say to watch out for sleep signals and then others say by that point it may be too late for him to put himself to sleep. Some say to not pick him up if he’s upset and others say to just get him to sleep by any means possible after a certain point. 

So has anyone had any success with a particular program or set of steps? I’ve heard good things about taking cara babies, was that helpful for difficult nappers? I really hate the idea of letting him cry it out but honestly he’s just crying himself to exhaustion every nap right now. Ugh any help or tips would be greatly appreciated by this mama.",2.326482507950935,4.1245814338028195,3.9335938209904633,87.25724670604271,76.91549295774648,6.946842344388914,22.719218537028624,7.831003766801068,1.0113434802362558,1359,40,286,21,31,453,189,355,0.091,0.789,0.12,0.8944,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,0,2,17,16,1,3,16,0,23,16,12,3,1,50,38,23,0,6,16,1,0,0,0,4,1,6,1,2,11,17,3,2,5,14,0,4,3,8,2,4,7,8,22,8,47,22,6,44,0,2,2,0,40,18,0,14,20,165,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.07531444982870959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06171909980003941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20993434169782432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396454810252595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059345003744302786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567266703791175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955249131799424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126885627782692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789797374562856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369166280510329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974535133171656,0.0,0.05097524290118876,0.0,0.1300513367452974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564744088841304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064448381053484,0.0,0.0,0.06473311999105766,0.061726178014520565,0.08508885351864749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619714997763233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034613737725674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600463723503076,0.0,0.0,0.08712439999596809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042414928698625384,0.0,0.08705997789560016,0.0,0.0,0.07891958191240077,0.0,0.0,0.07735248235040038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151681503776818,0.07824622767420181,0.0,0.08406930552676366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160262458702995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242618527287076,0.0,0.07405422981933317,0.0,0.08098517222607482,0.0821918928206113,0.05229770941853965,0.11739446735978247,0.0,0.0,0.0856968704843653,0.08357609202986614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591603112690166,0.08700643115412239,0.0739150476156551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551701144416638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988842155876441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181892663307462,0.0,0.24549970017965236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025981722502438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6178687057598314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05462688038149243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580281392745741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0512735350418657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500907722046254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571960848339655,0.0,0.0753915463384996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500049960089615,0.06367981003994244,0.0,0.0,0.061907417015649786,0.0,0.1387843140098536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369608754679944,0.0,0.07837785429595763,0.0,0.05482493122191809,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,clicktoreadmore,2020/02/16,"Help! I think my son has ODD. What do I do now? Background on my son. He is 7. I separated from his father when he was 2, divorced when he was 3, and remarried when he was four. He has one bio sibling now and 2 steps. Ever since he was two (I think this predates the separation but can't remember for sure) he has had bad tantrums. The last couple years they have gotten less frequent but more severe. At school he is literally perfect. Perfect grades and very smart, perfect behavior, helpful with his classmates, lots of friends.   


At home he gets in rages. Some worse than others. A mild one was when he threw his cereal bowl off the breakfast table and at the window because I said he didn't need more milk. The most severe one was when he was taking glass picture frames off the wall and throwing them at his stepdad, yelling that he wished we were dead, and trying to break everything in his room. He was six at the time. He got mad in the car once because he didn't want to do his extra curricular activity and so he started repeatedly kicking his stepbrother in the backseat on the way there. Today, on a bus, he was elbowing and then lightly kicking his bio sister over and over and when I told him to stop and started counting off days of missed electronics he said he didn't care, smiled, and continued doing it. I moved him next to me and he did it to me the whole trip over and over and nothing I did would make him stop.   


He seems to get pleasure out of these interactions and often smiles while doing it which is really scary because it makes me think he has sociopathic tendencies. He also is in complete control of himself during his rages. He was having one in front of the school and then he saw a teacher coming, immediately stopped, picked up his things, gave me a hug and walked inside.  


He used to do this at his dad's but now it seems all his anger is directed at me. He hits people and destroys things he knows I care about. I sat with him in his room while he raged today and asked him over and over why he was so angry. He said he didn't know then he said it was the divorce, then it was remarrying and his stepbrother. I think he doesn't really know.  


I finally got him in with a therapist last week and she said she would come up with things to help him calm down. Afterwards he told me they wouldn't work because he would just destroy her calm down stuff. He now says he doesn't want to go back and nothing she can say is going to help.  


I get really scared because his dad was very emotionally abusive to me when I was married and I see the same behaviors in our son. I just really don't know how to handle him. Normal discipline techniques (rewards for good behavior, lost privileges with bad) don't work. I try to give him extra one on one time and that doesn't seem to help either. I don't know if the therapist is going to be any help or if I'll even be able to get him there. So what do I do?",3.4707312925170086,4.864282297619049,4.376408163265307,86.9590680272109,72.9625850340136,7.607619047619048,25.651700680272107,8.167268648758528,1.4133010884353738,2293,74,482,35,45,741,259,588,0.158,0.74,0.102,-0.9908,0,0,0,0,3,0,56.0,2,0,3,8,25,28,8,1,20,0,58,4,1,6,6,87,111,50,1,11,9,7,0,0,1,4,0,8,4,0,20,35,2,5,13,0,0,13,12,13,0,9,38,11,63,15,65,66,12,91,0,2,2,1,103,37,0,10,39,309,83,5,0.06909709823041879,0.08186876256192911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0552569244907719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046988396237144965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459645942281449,0.0,0.0,0.053131403429857234,0.11538638166935693,0.21060474872592247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089819345221402,0.0,0.0,0.11904206370060225,0.07244699286728673,0.0,0.07749827111093309,0.0,0.07645462494414564,0.0,0.044561912098306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772493529405726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0456379817109378,0.0625022812329435,0.0,0.0,0.06210001648288655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756924936719449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05338424669005848,0.0,0.14440152779134197,0.06628423281842971,0.11780841980280175,0.05795536770605435,0.11052652318983204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27788597063717874,0.0,0.06931002335813577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898697907110369,0.1126467146492831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542764505497516,0.058743881979886274,0.0,0.0,0.0922456992331311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343928029223405,0.0,0.051234622811702935,0.0,0.0,0.07348554785753886,0.0,0.06770048556274197,0.13260105862226296,0.0,0.0,0.0735861545300639,0.2809318920473364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047903227776938034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706148183490422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827354262076934,0.0,0.3286358174670487,0.10989757173455668,0.06917824941489567,0.13985990465440062,0.05506144125817819,0.18871020937036384,0.0,0.1561201065866118,0.0,0.05715783368591364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781456353660647,0.0,0.0,0.17330480425163658,0.0,0.0,0.07909964613791548,0.0,0.0,0.06512319735160127,0.0,0.05195241862929908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604541134077941,0.13771512530298655,0.1770985221100394,0.0,0.0,0.08058214728460364,0.0,0.13099193962161046,0.13205047690051486,0.0,0.0938247880916096,0.0,0.06749782477006158,0.0,0.0,0.059677707659855014,0.0,0.11402468494725355,0.08151051756077024,0.05484606037012059,0.055425524327726884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062349383786833364,0.07714444257462667,0.07945825291920132,0.0,0.0,0.10060702090842596,0.0,0.0704158462270465,0.1472537882708728,0.0,0.0,0.044496265823036237
parenting,Imlistening2,2020/02/16,"My heart hurts My 2 yr old daughter has always been sick. Its like she'd get over the flu just to catch strep a month later. Luckily it's never been anything life threatening, but it's enough to make her miserable. This on and off cycle of sickness has gone on as long as shes been around. In Sept 2019 I had her allergy tested. My baby is allergic to dogs and we have an inside dog. We have put all kinds of interventions in place recommended by the allergist, friends, internet, etc, but my daughter keeps getting sick. We have had our rescue dog for 11 years - I love her. She was so close to death when I got her that the vet didn't think she'd survive. But, she did! It's taken a significant amount of patience, love, doggy prozac, fence reconstruction, and a few new couches, but shes alive and happy. I cant believe that after all of these years we cant keep our special dog. It's just not fair to my 2 yr old who, at the moment, cant stop coughing. I have found a family member to become her new guardian, but I am SO SAD! I love this dog more than I ever thought I could love a pet and I am heartbroken. Thats all. Thanks for listening. I just needed to get all these feelings out of me. *Please dont beat me up about this. I've already been crying for days. Re-homing her is not a choice. I have to do this for the health of my young child.*",1.5666510989010969,3.4382485607142885,3.1071428571428577,91.96708791208792,79.46428571428571,6.3076923076923075,21.12637362637363,7.321109707123232,0.5036510989010989,1047,29,234,14,26,344,159,280,0.149,0.6779999999999999,0.17300000000000001,0.8625,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,0,0,2,9,13,0,1,12,0,30,14,1,1,6,40,50,15,1,2,10,2,1,1,1,0,9,1,2,1,15,12,0,4,5,0,0,3,8,3,0,0,14,2,38,10,34,33,9,32,0,3,0,4,28,12,0,0,18,153,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422276319827036,0.0,0.10724251624245897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606124618230796,0.11473483770836194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423431859354917,0.0,0.14520908546965547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290406171168894,0.0,0.1415739508641668,0.0831200629987479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105207909352578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331724985380264,0.1437406719520408,0.0,0.11658372159136356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150116192153496,0.0,0.0651680504634413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413155807100859,0.09957611195474356,0.0,0.20201103681300628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308098483638282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720031468573435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699856388636494,0.0,0.15272916252617888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379738928148141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291175452411993,0.0,0.13421373329986694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910351779855594,0.06296662530786934,0.0,0.0,0.11405903253702655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652944204157867,0.0,0.08603163520796141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287465408020598,0.0,0.0,0.09556647987705456,0.09940393838235984,0.24895557391773404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704859292679377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465723185262565,0.14147685701477394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295648680050968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775350195628394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865984955196808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258420488273445,0.0,0.10232017078512096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599522974959607
parenting,didgeridont_pls,2020/02/16,"Any one have some good advice for colicky babies? Our new little one is having a hard time right now, we’ve been through a bunch of formulas and nothing seems to stick. Thanks in advance!",2.564166666666665,5.247770416666668,2.6700000000000017,91.95000000000003,80.94444444444446,4.711111111111111,22.88888888888889,5.985473137389443,0.4253555555555559,149,5,28,1,4,45,34,36,0.037000000000000005,0.8,0.162,0.69,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,5,5,2,7,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,3,18,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035430042311145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112383305268743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605408164499189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782625157165535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113318021560724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000073650607385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980568448016151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4209804165857975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652754167671633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28278491977458664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859853928344101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113023241697934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chloedogreddit,2020/02/16,"Theory on emotional outlook and parenting— would love your opinion!! I don’t have kids yet, but wanted to run a theory by those of you who do: I’m wondering if people who tended to be  happy/stressed/angry/etc before kids are just as likely to be that way post kids. So if you are an anxious person before kids, you’re likely to find parenting really anxiety provoking. If you’re good at finding the joy in the everyday, you’re more likely to find joy in the little things of parenting, etc. Does that hold true for you, or do you feel like the stresses and joys of parenting have changed your emotional outlook? Would love to hear your experiences!",4.36967741935484,6.280892096774196,5.51858064516129,77.58287096774197,71.58064516129033,9.476129032258065,27.72258064516129,9.888512548439397,2.9441670967741937,516,19,92,14,10,171,75,124,0.078,0.669,0.254,0.9824,4,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,7,0,0,3,12,0,1,6,0,11,2,0,1,1,20,19,9,0,6,6,3,1,4,0,2,0,1,0,5,6,2,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,8,11,16,15,2,10,0,0,0,2,20,5,0,6,6,59,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262261413369304,0.15154870380698313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22829960407016955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191046654436515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173935457650359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017961864062971,0.0,0.0,0.29922026489658565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122217977701375,0.0,0.0,0.06782910173458431,0.09583513510376224,0.0,0.0,0.3678256695967119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251671609174813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119419392129954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621511371611091,0.13445122522773914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421470517721103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4468653966117799,0.0,0.0,0.09300111608286832,0.11713258683500205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847640324809909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593844397402092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536657233543867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912176311172486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912378202302862,0.10648019066525682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454774452674958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058933732526198,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pandaB71,2020/02/16,"Woukd you consider this typical 13 year old behaviour?! My son is 13. His body is starting to change (he loves showing everyone his new armpit hair 🤦🏻‍♀️) yet I still need to bath him, wash his hair and brush his teeth. He has no friends. He stands alone at school away from everyone. He has no road sense. He likes to hold my hand when we are out and about. He cannot grasp stranger danger and says ‘clean and smiley people are okay to accept a lift from’. 

His paediatrician has put him on the waiting list for an autism assessment. 

I have no doubts my son is not like a typical child his age. However I have been told by DWP that his needs are that if a typical 13 year old. 

So I am after you lovely people to describe YOUR 13 year old sons to me. Are they safe to go out without you?  

I really appreciate any responses. Thank you.",1.049143568981627,3.383250893491123,2.5416692619121757,92.68258175023358,84.44378698224854,6.634817813765182,20.13734039240112,7.85451343220497,0.7725550295857997,647,19,144,13,19,210,110,169,0.08199999999999999,0.743,0.174,0.9598,1,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,5,1,0,5,11,1,1,5,1,15,9,6,0,0,18,24,7,0,3,3,3,3,2,1,0,1,1,2,1,3,7,0,3,2,2,0,2,6,2,0,0,2,5,25,9,19,22,0,22,0,0,0,2,31,6,0,2,15,80,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550774108070254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086715377009094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014020351664234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177505137103938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905041260327405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053972795005375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346342163998553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908197424563602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614337328546635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884569405593785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23698383815332136,0.0,0.15433875850766007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030591827295157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215745945907208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606461792313463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237391057938458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708178046465626,0.0,0.16172919399919253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310940445189573,0.0,0.1276189031559315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712515631891954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269863975026873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540444146805112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087237285903743
parenting,postpartumpoopoo,2020/02/16,"How do you clean your house with a baby My son is 9 month old, and I absolutely cannot get anything done. 

He hates being worn in a sling. I've tried different kinds from our sling library, and nothing has helped. 

We've got one of those huge pens that keep him safe, but as soon as I'm out of sight he screams to the point of vomiting and my mental health can't take just letting him cry like that. 

We live in a 3 storey town house so we've lots of area that is easy to make a mess in as we're passing through but I just find it impossible to get it clean. 

The bedrooms aren't so much an issue, but I can't bring a baby in the bathroom with me when I'm bleaching it down, and when I cook I don't have time to clean straight after because then we have bath and bed time and I'm the only person around to do it. 

My partner works all day, and to add to the pressure I'll be going to work too and I just don't know how I'm going to cope. 

Does it get any easier? And how am I meant to get past this if it doesn't. 

I'm sat crying on my bathroom floor at toilet roll tubes because my kid is screaming so loud it sounds like they're being abused even though they couldn't be more safe.",2.4583760683760687,2.9564724615384605,3.613333333333333,94.88388888888893,74.38461538461539,6.547008547008548,22.52136752136752,6.139981653823899,0.09226495726495763,920,21,228,5,18,299,148,260,0.091,0.774,0.135,0.8941,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,2,1,2,16,10,1,1,11,0,23,3,0,4,1,36,44,26,0,2,7,1,0,2,1,0,2,4,6,3,12,16,1,3,3,2,0,4,8,5,0,1,5,5,21,5,31,33,4,30,0,0,1,0,15,15,0,2,13,132,33,3,0.0,0.16939165110769222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722196564888333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764905812145506,0.12727029028967282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430182160537114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140834673028907,0.09220141639661338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936932260321162,0.0,0.0,0.1251107457004794,0.14630413032633238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442787252818902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306685800913622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987758999843902,0.0,0.16250205100868456,0.0,0.11434318577953305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411495925393888,0.0,0.15196645886583424,0.0,0.0,0.09582727671474696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299277595157709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921964135034332,0.0,0.1270749890605349,0.0,0.14887736923769487,0.0785705227184434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619269662427373,0.0,0.13969219535331318,0.0,0.12624183505876674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154480963995495,0.0,0.0,0.09543109491158933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440763734328671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411431218055637,0.0,0.1050966578481026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717999121864174,0.0,0.15001905011930586,0.0,0.09687764407641432,0.10873229011239954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364774810210818,0.0,0.12483263189003975,0.0,0.0,0.13514933527417292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074928421447443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046363371162773,0.0,0.16672956267070524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706471230492113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081622935464925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theoddman92,2020/02/16,"DCFS, custody, and mental health issues (Urgent advice needed) So I’m the last few weeks my gf has been experiencing some pretty severe anxiety and depression, one episode ended up with us in the ER for suicidal thoughts. Things have been up and down for almost 2 weeks, they’ve prescribed her medicine for hyperthyroidism, and anxiety medicine to help but it’s not doing a whole lot.

Her mom is putting it in her head that DCFS will take our son (19months) away if she does a 10 day treatment program and she’s getting to the point that she doesn’t see a way out of this.

Obviously our main objective is to get her healthy, but is there anything I can let her know about the child/dcfs thing so she doesn’t worry so much.

We’re not married, I am on his birth certificate, and he’s on my insurance. I’m on all the paperwork from the hospital.

She however did sign some waiver that would give her mom custody in the event she died during a surgery she had to have awhile back because I have to work so much and we had kind of a rocky relationship at the time, so I’m unsure how all of this would work out.

I just want to get her the help she needs, without putting our son through having to be moved around to our house, his gma, or whatever.  

Urgent advice needed please.",5.272514940239045,5.855983948207173,5.336889940239043,84.74087275896416,68.08366533864542,8.665438247011952,29.63172310756972,8.660442795831766,2.016117330677292,1005,35,207,15,16,315,149,251,0.085,0.845,0.069,-0.614,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,0,0,2,11,2,0,0,14,0,23,2,1,1,3,37,38,17,2,7,8,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,9,12,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,1,1,1,6,2,29,1,33,27,10,28,0,1,1,0,33,15,0,6,9,141,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333539812377912,0.0,0.0,0.1195625623347762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826824306344396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825660963438748,0.10629194513514817,0.0,0.0,0.11218089622494866,0.0918117748001053,0.0,0.07278556376695022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700357931694769,0.0,0.10283965541652633,0.0,0.12391908465702993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448836478289936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575358787227676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18714582659018794,0.11454003966519676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253957419907,0.12691736988566218,0.0,0.0,0.16006355632302735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777238675732906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462331857181427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243374642020622,0.06561950688586088,0.09732751376504993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209531425895995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015102127001311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032783099136275,0.0,0.0,0.2796813338214029,0.0,0.1269040572695168,0.1755465185857977,0.2656023376702125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090901030834062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106612275803645,0.11287226341134372,0.0,0.0,0.12147344604538175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400613818175432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819167664205675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514690594685588,0.0,0.0,0.13488881473478662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306049957640282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977447331710392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864905065141258,0.0,0.0,0.09479082549413352,0.06962351341961179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362435110659302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042563153831577,0.09477472489546136,0.19155209270814816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330662718314554,0.0,0.11509802233211892,0.0,0.1738502759323538,0.12125721550109014,0.0,0.16963767532869134,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,intro-vert123,2020/02/16,"Help with encouraging an almost teenager to to clean his arse after using the toilet. Hi all, I have a 12 year old that very rarely cleans his butt after using the bathroom. Its disgusting. I know this because when I go to wash his clothes, his underwear is caked in shit and end up throwing them out.

This has been going on for a long time and thought that he'd eventually grow out of it, but it seems to be getting worse. Today was the final straw when I found shit in the bath and in the sink. Obviously an attempt to get rid of it to make it seem like he made less of a mess than he did to his underwear this time.

He stinks of shit a lot of the time and when he sits anywhere like the sofa for example it stinks for hours after he has got up and left.

I've tried taking away privileges and grounding him but he just doesn't seem to care. Today I've locked the door of the bathroom so he has to come to me to unlock it when he needs it, in the hope that he'll get sick of coming to me every time he needs to use it. I suppose the rationale behind it would be to nudge him into better hygiene habits.

He has very high funny autism and I'm thinking maybe he can't comprehend the impact of what hes actually doing.
Can someone please give me some advice, I'm actually at my wits end.",4.167576821773487,4.437651402985079,5.264205443371377,85.39949517120283,70.41791044776119,8.09692712906058,25.839332748024567,7.928766900206844,1.2618289727831429,1008,27,219,12,17,334,150,268,0.11599999999999999,0.78,0.10400000000000001,-0.6659,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,2,6,14,4,0,18,0,18,6,4,6,2,38,47,14,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,5,0,17,13,0,0,8,1,0,6,2,7,0,0,7,2,19,7,43,35,4,42,0,0,0,1,26,15,4,7,22,132,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.2212068623478916,0.0,0.0,0.1107544768366069,0.0,0.0,0.11349357718597013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064866037986735,0.0,0.0,0.06909097495149613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023996574769972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555762172279735,0.0,0.0,0.19526464362910087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20077109010542654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549378708536337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415836337836875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242713932558289,0.0,0.0,0.1776463208916008,0.10872599732537692,0.12882739873169285,0.0,0.09064830317670693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596937214068275,0.11974986855659572,0.0,0.11257213323792577,0.1116170095173551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228866648744937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314417556623836,0.0,0.0,0.11074433854084118,0.0,0.0,0.10030227958987237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635756323110872,0.0,0.10724499091372933,0.07565528951336316,0.0,0.1138652028471016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680802575795393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893120035781428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441321789386264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095412716848816,0.0,0.0,0.349025456542538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603256268001244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521752894702732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726236565715769,0.0,0.08997925152872985,0.2643577200067684,0.0,0.2148660197359218,0.0,0.0,0.07695037888607845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29366795122380673,0.0,0.18703463951317006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155030809441204,0.08051344092416407,0.0,0.0,0.07298720484729762
parenting,arachnikon,2020/02/16,"Distracted 11 y/o Obligatory on mobile, sorry for format. 

I know it’s got to do with tweenage hormones, but my wife and I are at our whits end trying to get our daughter to understand the concept of ‘Do what you’ve got to do before you goof off’. She has a chore list, and chart for keeping track of what’s got to be done and what’s already done. She gets rewarded for accomplishing her chores, and I won’t say disciplined, but there is a negative for not doing her chores. Her chore board has things like vacuuming, dishes, dealing with the dog, simple things like that. It’s set up into daily items, every other day items, and weekly items. She gets $10 a week in allowance, and $.50 taken off for every chore she doesn’t get done. Generally she’s fairly good, gets over half her money, and there are more chores than $.50’s in $10, but she tends to ‘forget’ there is more to do than just one thing. She gets distracted by....  ....anything really, it’s not ADD or ADHD, she’s been tested more than once. I’ve tried to make what my father drilled into my head friendly and non aggressive for her, I was always told ‘Do as your told to do, when your told to do it and don’t ask any questions, or else.’  Or else meant the belt. I’ve re-worded it to ‘Do what you’ve got to do, before you goof off, and there will be no reason to get in trouble.’ No belt. I have already removed the number one distraction from her life, she is banned from video games until April at this point. They drove her existence for awhile. Now it’s other things. I get that she’d rather have fun and goof around than do what she has to do, hell I’m 40 and feel that way, but she needs to grasp responsibility as well. 

Does anyone have any ideas on how to help her grasp this concept? The ‘Do what you’ve got to do before you goof off.’ concept. I’ve explained it like this; ‘If you have these things done after school, before mom and I get home from work (she’s alone for about an hour) we can do something tonight instead of having to wait for you do do your chores.’ She still comes home and goofs off. I’ve tried to set examples by being productive as soon as I get home from work by preparing dinner and such. Any advice? 

Thanks, Frustrated Father.",3.2740470588235304,4.542340462222222,3.9939869281045763,90.00117647058822,73.26666666666667,6.9830065359477125,21.901960784313715,7.39963492309942,0.5540078431372546,1728,39,375,19,34,550,208,450,0.085,0.833,0.08199999999999999,-0.1556,0,1,1,0,0,0,70.0,3,8,1,4,16,15,3,3,9,0,45,4,1,4,0,55,79,30,0,3,12,5,1,3,1,2,1,1,10,0,28,23,2,4,10,2,1,3,8,6,1,3,17,2,45,9,67,56,6,36,1,0,0,0,50,17,1,5,16,244,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572482329571964,0.07783387259639375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249424201242872,0.1757933506955847,0.0,0.06627587411980604,0.0,0.0,0.1624958942540998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569371471746663,0.0,0.0655458492327448,0.07090612872159717,0.07446277719704451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711079707956216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861214024435855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136819822168927,0.08211651182337101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970298110346211,0.3260418271635553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653805076991164,0.0,0.07054699681060589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342185249760064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04027385462854533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153803633562504,0.0,0.4161427300705082,0.0,0.0,0.06680734008379009,0.3185202387323758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174473437852055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053388274689331085,0.0,0.2396888408259737,0.0,0.07844002650277375,0.0,0.0,0.08991609582437647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079732049886726,0.0,0.0,0.043774015011020885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056259739215782624,0.11674012170374047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05316754982205914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328609346528326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590600837459371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482553809480439,0.10794693224149428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752957830282123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892271624057377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051026363479739184,0.08189432260697886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334153970423574,0.0,0.08061089579936273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131910297206095,0.0,0.08916258692965508,0.0,0.0,0.06360925847675418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333178600734629,0.0,0.0,0.2645823724635278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283293541487902,0.0,0.16223306246931699,0.0,0.0,0.08291932665167333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632231241459271,0.1277821882475266,0.0,0.07161566494580075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597351076670072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jrfish,2020/02/16,"Is anyone still rear facing their child's car seat at 5 years old? My son is almost 5 years old and weighs only 35 pounds and is very short for his age (5th percentile). His car seat rear facing limit is 40 pounds, and I read that kids are safer rear facing up to the highest weight limit, so I just kept him that way. At his current growth rate, I feel like he's going to be 7 or 8 before he outgrows rear facing. He has never complained about rear facing, but I noticed that not a single one of his preschool friends are rear facing anymore, despite the advice. I'm wondering what are the benefits of forward facing that I'm not seeing online? Should I turn him around soon? I would definitely want to keep him safe, but worry as he goes into kinder next year, that he might feel weird about it.",7.051273584905663,5.86012987421384,6.707161949685537,82.37508254716981,64.72327044025157,8.704716981132076,28.68003144654088,6.6274283507984215,1.3638861635220128,626,14,126,3,8,196,102,159,0.035,0.794,0.17,0.9658,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,2,7,6,0,0,4,0,12,9,7,0,1,25,23,8,0,3,6,1,3,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,7,5,2,5,3,1,0,5,3,2,0,1,1,4,15,4,14,18,1,23,0,0,1,0,18,7,0,4,13,67,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533857708912914,0.0,0.0,0.17967492512199662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794802812562824,0.1254628141401375,0.0,0.0,0.15973225155341322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268315789489553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814521140707255,0.12818603978331033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862848356394836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197516808748497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948713617738675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766126343170033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034867455869944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838878590172,0.0,0.19082764476385655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428417565333373,0.3765667634908428,0.0,0.12158756123126012,0.13646589063859327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948025319752758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298383095641096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329438455212445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951701606095374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804994116399525,0.1058334634706614,0.14242452876987954,0.0,0.21849946707395676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945860207369968,0.0,0.1822215975487104,0.0,0.12746312899856127,0.0,0.0,0.3466443888092504
parenting,tod-stark,2020/02/16,Infants Found out most parents go years without communicating with their children. Got me scared cause I don’t expect anyone to be comfortable with not talking to their own child that long.,9.085454545454548,10.201686787878794,7.293484848484847,72.16022727272728,59.90909090909091,9.024242424242424,37.71212121212121,8.841846274778883,3.4295575757575762,156,7,24,2,2,46,30,33,0.08199999999999999,0.8240000000000001,0.094,0.1027,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,6,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,2,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368210129052408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34792952780256897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713578125934656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19248621803338356,0.0,0.2708825796594362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997313715631503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760768946375495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390893356094412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722274455796915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264865764760964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810625944786632
parenting,Matip41942,2020/02/16,"11 weeks in and I’m really struggling with fatherhood. Hey Reddit. So. Apologies for being on a downer 

Maybe I had too high expectations but I haven’t connected with my child in fatherhood at all and it breaks my heart. 

Our boy has a lot of reflux and gastro related issues and subsequently he criers a lot. It feels like he cries all the frikkin time ( he doesn’t )

The first couple of weeks I struggled badly and just found the crying irritating and my wife would take him. I made a few choices in terms of food and my mood has been a lot better but I am still really struggling.

My wife is amazing and has been doing a wonderful job with him. She is incredibly supportive but understandably frustrated, she has told me that I need to step. The truth is I just want to be in my own.

When I am at work, I am happy. I feel I am of use and when the evenings/weekends come and it is time to come I dread it. We row a lot at the weekend because I am find it so shit I’m sorry to say 

I have spoken to lots of people, for a guy I am good at asking for help.

But I all I hear is give it time. 

I don’t want to walk away. My dad was awful and that’s partly why I was desperate to have a son. I am just miserable 

Everyday feels like an absolute battle and our boy deserves better than that. I don’t want to mess him up like I am. 

Thanks.",1.0812566137566149,2.975588750000004,3.2465873015873017,90.25693121693124,81.14285714285714,6.719576719576719,20.37037037037037,7.793537801064563,0.690425925925926,1030,28,232,18,27,351,143,280,0.184,0.647,0.16899999999999998,-0.7888,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,0,4,9,22,3,5,16,1,32,3,2,2,4,49,55,20,0,6,7,4,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,4,9,18,1,0,7,1,0,4,4,10,0,1,8,5,38,11,31,44,12,29,0,1,0,0,27,12,1,6,15,163,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843217423858247,0.0,0.09892365946376043,0.0,0.08791296401321295,0.06418396149663047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624134647081267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813964613633244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650166326592346,0.23131279967616494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971374794010476,0.15043875682015642,0.0,0.0,0.0962333845528201,0.0895598361630373,0.12731739293002833,0.11544532879242607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100400567387888,0.0,0.08831246949254087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425390505163697,0.0,0.11208343311990128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866976838567128,0.12476945780096975,0.07057383775267143,0.11124493406061947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989566978428307,0.10448433042350808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431849888929464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44757004316963206,0.0,0.09962818403337977,0.0,0.0,0.10577821199476546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780713891242844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401908449203345,0.0,0.0729950047612784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349032654935218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373103592696632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080789325465295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786381897895302,0.0,0.0,0.08408493275777806,0.0,0.0,0.33021670296224115,0.0,0.0,0.11948213235741242,0.0,0.0,0.07916516738421787,0.0,0.0,0.09693711958124564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418678127819665,0.0,0.0,0.10060934969733563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961086754963792,0.0,0.09093697349702357,0.0,0.0,0.18630875914505035,0.0,0.16891498130514412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500807727561414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141827889516652,0.07665255882573434,0.0,0.0,0.07479517543160498,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KingJaphar,2020/02/16,"2 year olds suck The tantrums. Oh lord the tantrums. We can’t go out without him freaking out for no reason. Any thing we tell him to do that he disagrees with he freaks out. God, when does this stop!?",-0.2072357723577234,2.0980551463414656,0.02621951219512297,107.04550813008132,95.09756097560977,2.7333333333333334,19.028455284552845,3.1291,-1.101734959349594,155,5,37,0,6,45,34,41,0.285,0.626,0.08900000000000001,-0.8253,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,7,4,0,8,1,0,0,0,7,3,1,0,4,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25780918664083824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317634998818789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154581082495228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978143111359075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897903168333426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169546398900381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331360631887844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25186519286817394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654504766892081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441357232644405
parenting,RH_C,2020/02/16,"Kids Room Sharing...Advice? I have an 18 month and a 2 month old and the plan has always been for them to share a nursery, but I’m getting anxious about this actually working...Our baby is a grunter and is so noisy even though she’s sound asleep. Our toddler is a diesel sleeper, always has been. 

I’m looking for advice/ideas from other parents that made the transition? 

Should I put toddler down first and then sneak baby in? Should we start with naps or make it strictly for bedtime at first?",3.7043750000000015,5.620484020833337,3.84,88.905,73.375,5.633333333333334,27.625,5.985473137389443,1.0064000000000002,390,15,75,2,8,120,71,96,0.07200000000000001,0.91,0.018000000000000002,-0.6929,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,7,0,10,1,1,2,0,12,17,9,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,4,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,6,1,10,12,0,12,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,7,49,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.21693206097015733,0.0,0.0,0.2172283144096202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369941670401652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511349470201702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682659869599055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3781753616133138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614221519696355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509488643268172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866754341540786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21034498352092235,0.14838651661372593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3548743791723522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23326573265796585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468370780792641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22347220754690889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734459685331334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21840794488090445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,balticvoda,2020/02/16,"I told my parents that my 13 years old brother should live with me because he has diabetes and I would take care of him better, did insult them? I told my parents that my 13 years old brother should live with me because he has diabetes and I would take care of him better, they thought that I think they can't take care of their son, and that I don't like their parenting?

I'm almost doctor so I thought I would help him with his diet and teach him better about his conditions.

My brother this year will start high school, he is 13 while next year I will graduate from Medical faculty, I'm 24 so I will be doctor. My parents live in small town but still 1h far with train. I asked them that I want to take my brother with me to live in city. He will start high school, and will play volleyball which is his favourite sport. They were upset when he was diagnosed with diabetes, he felt in school and he was in coma three days. But now his Better, but he has to take his conditions seriously.  asked my parents if they would let my brother to live with me, because he was diagnosed with diabetes and I'm almost doctor so I thought I would help him with his diet and teach him better about his conditions.",5.174499999999998,5.575402450000002,5.301666666666666,85.55,68.25,8.9,28.916666666666664,8.841846274778883,1.9871166666666664,948,31,198,15,15,298,92,240,0.037000000000000005,0.8370000000000001,0.125,0.9614,5,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,8,5,8,13,1,1,0,0,26,13,0,0,0,36,49,17,0,9,4,11,1,1,0,12,11,0,0,0,7,17,2,0,5,2,0,0,2,3,0,1,11,1,48,10,23,24,0,23,0,0,0,0,48,9,0,3,15,124,55,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165553218036834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158552429680762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384839851945153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348635607436059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316204104372207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488364358084195,0.0,0.0,0.1537187992748386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23252359764023456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270798749402514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151389926255597,0.16001548717353034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743406254888435,0.0,0.036995467086771656,0.0,0.33433332779099245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762850885756191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053452089026633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892154367079012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204189041888018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299135831769871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719725497294463,0.0,0.0604741761627436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846793189534557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852159725391185,0.0,0.18035185268793724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447171886250439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04466463590909209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689647518779628,0.0,0.0,0.1950579701146789
parenting,Glittering-Half,2020/02/16,"Is spoiling and coddling your kids too much a form of abuse? Little background info. My parents did almost everything for me as a kid, even in teenage years. I'm talking stuff that almost every kid does and should do independently. But I was always denied the milestones** (jobs and the whole process of applications, interviews, etc; relationships and everything that goes with THAT; the learning processes of driving cars, drinking alcohol, paying taxes, paying bills, knowing how to do ""adult"" things, the list goes on). I feel like what that did to me was made me careless. While everyone was getting jobs in high school, I was always home writing songs like a loser. I didn't even drink or ask girls out. Never went out of my way to make friends because I DIDN'T CARE. I figured friends would come to me. Or more accurately: I didn't need friends. I didn't need friends, I didn't need money, I didn't need booze, I didn't need romance, I didn't need anything. Nothing seemed to matter. But now that I realize my extreme lack of experience compared to my peers and even people 10 years my junior, I'm mentally a 14-18 year old with DESIRES. But I'm not a teenager. I'm 25. The age at which the frontal lobe supposedly fully develops. Although if I handed you a resume of my life, you'd think I was a fucking 12 year old. I'm the definition of a loser. I never blamed my parents all these years but I'm starting to wonder if me constantly being denied opportunities to gain Independence resulted in an utter lack of achievement.  Parents, childless adults, and teens are all welcome to share their opinion(s). 

Q2: Am I a broken adult?

**I know reddit often trivializes the importance of these things, especially the relationship and drinking part, but people who underrate things typically either don't know what it's like to NOT have that thing or don't care about that thing anyways.",4.589047619047619,6.8625048571428575,5.2102857142857175,78.48704761904763,71.85714285714286,7.6380952380952385,30.523809523809533,8.447377352677275,2.5390666666666664,1500,66,259,26,30,482,191,350,0.099,0.8009999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.4235,5,0,4,0,1,0,57.0,0,3,1,5,9,17,1,0,19,0,27,8,1,6,4,62,56,21,0,13,13,3,2,3,4,2,2,1,1,7,20,12,5,0,11,4,5,4,14,4,0,0,17,3,34,13,31,35,11,28,0,2,0,1,27,9,1,10,17,172,54,10,0.0,0.0996711248440655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990111499812119,0.16847258816526614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999292196388596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922545404764502,0.0,0.07864295941624456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128015019681235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715365053826948,0.0,0.0,0.07246388012657867,0.0,0.0909062803760369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361595847553754,0.0,0.0,0.24722337360858995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381855898515228,0.16668588227290562,0.0,0.07087663400375581,0.08038242644081481,0.151207329926411,0.08228771415482095,0.0,0.0,0.04253474332158182,0.06009696087054666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259970604174029,0.07776967580652068,0.04395040994200139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887978856778007,0.08438148782141634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695672976222098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386941858301156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059418041529760525,0.12329366428410768,0.08431260636049638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959851841391226,0.05615226318853059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477545445482343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061839541893435074,0.374253548738396,0.12976054904757198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071757929892542,0.0,0.1765443264251935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802234506739395,0.09109621222681097,0.0,0.1166395691537955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18063165528906133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851362203437669,0.0,0.07658174802742115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059542170107005674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629986405828243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761428780144704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794354651162377,0.05390214886165154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677233610585345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798217977478608,0.0,0.09391950148342727,0.0,0.0,0.09122700485914556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975804142801296,0.0,0.0,0.2708598937590969
parenting,Darth_Kahuna,2020/02/16,"What ""offensive"" games do kids play these days? Not including video games. When I was a kid (I'm 34) we played ""smear the queer."" Had nothing to do w sexuality but was an offensive name to be sure given the double meaning. My dad played cowboys vs Indians. Not trying to start political banter but there are plenty of native Americans who find the name, game, & wearing of traditional clothing offensive. I have a young child & I'm curious what (if any) games are played by kids today that may be ""offensive"" to others.",3.867136311569301,6.306962907216494,5.1576632302405505,77.28112256586486,74.56701030927834,8.847193585337918,27.27262313860252,9.444778638647367,2.7998279495990843,410,16,73,11,9,136,69,97,0.092,0.762,0.146,0.5789,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,2,9,4,0,6,0,11,2,1,0,1,13,16,4,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,0,2,9,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,4,5,7,9,1,5,0,0,0,1,13,0,1,2,5,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6456276756662517,0.0,0.2026068889090645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214425469026308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272308364820434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245399548786587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28587789864029595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21088083436739585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28080142051727663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282408759228075,0.0,0.0,0.20227917890466288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spooky1289,2020/02/16,"When is it too scary for a 3.5 year old? My child has always loved ""spooky"" things. Cartoons with silly looking zombies and random Halloween type monsters. Then he went to Spirit Halloween and fell in looovveee. He's asking to watch videos that I think are pretty creepy... Like homemade ghost sightings, alien sightings, weird creepy pasta remakes on YouTube.
There's no bad language or anything, and he enjoys it but it's not typical kid stuff so I'm wondering if it's okay for him to be seeing all this?
On one hand, he's very smart and can tell you how he's feeling, what caused the feelings, yadda yadda. A super verbal kid. But I just have that mom gut that I'm going to cause nightmares.

Has anyone else had a spooky loving kid? How'd you handle things?",3.204970645792564,5.60637669863014,3.1867318982387483,90.78972602739726,76.53424657534245,4.719373776908023,23.442270058708417,5.288315135182226,0.3131091976516638,602,19,112,2,14,182,106,146,0.055999999999999994,0.7240000000000001,0.22,0.9797,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,0,1,6,10,0,0,4,1,8,5,2,3,1,20,21,12,1,1,6,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,12,5,1,0,4,1,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,8,6,8,10,18,1,10,1,0,5,2,17,3,0,4,5,59,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034307153316504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474135802038026,0.19744544258250732,0.15857690195424026,0.0,0.18014987458454032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089768984425915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959150119019724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609773628181991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487132050337816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095166940629665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414421126706488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182071330085232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478412254335613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256896488534342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20220779139156608,0.0,0.1305795125907748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960466864800172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355813346019834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22059709554908175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842959052135212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560446065042897,0.1234753298876739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899890548439638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786362060957096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20897653910902528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409343761446495
parenting,jatti_,2020/02/16,"Anger managment I am in a bit of a pickle and could use some help. In short, I an angry and could use some help managing it. 

Everyone is safe, I am just struggling internally with an occasional verbal outburst rarely at the kids. Most recently I was so angry I was probably going through an anxiety attack with sweats and shivers.

My 10 year old son was diagnosed 4 years ago with a rare degenerative nuerological syndrome. Most of my anger centers around this (at least in my opinion)  I got a divorce 3 years ago mostly related to this. Since then my life has settled into a fairly stable day to day routine. 

Everything is actually fine in my life, I take care of everything that needs taking care of, I have everything I need, with very little drama. I feel like I am complaining about my feelings is pointless when I see and experience issues that others have and I have been through and resolved. Such as divorce, dealing with a waiver and paying for thousands in medical bills, and navigating a rare disease for a child. I think that this is why I am now angry, as I now subconsciously have the time and energy to be angry.

I have tried some support groups, but I struggle with this as I can relate to thise who have lost their kids, but for me I just see this as my future and depresses me further. Maybe other groups, maybe mens groups may be better.

I tried therapy recently, he gave me a workbook that seems peripherally related. 

Alcohol helps numb the pain and get me through some things. Probably not a good idea, but no worse than a prescription.

Should I start running every day? Find a new group? Quit alcohol? Use my sons Drs and the hospital as my resource? I live near a bigger city so I have good access to things.",5.115527522935778,6.6618906483180425,5.962282110091742,76.58360665137616,69.1223241590214,9.364373088685015,30.75038226299695,9.725611199111238,3.04784006116208,1370,56,247,32,24,450,179,327,0.155,0.765,0.079,-0.9809,0,0,2,0,2,0,36.0,0,0,1,4,10,20,3,2,20,0,27,10,1,3,0,51,49,24,0,5,6,2,2,1,0,2,9,0,0,4,15,20,2,1,7,1,2,2,2,10,0,1,7,4,38,10,38,36,9,36,0,2,2,0,21,15,0,10,20,173,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.09491772637900893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244113707711745,0.20789585623810786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440833443645788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658749036840016,0.0,0.11065428134835352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602400070317777,0.106189438259121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983386338610673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553182037870393,0.0,0.0,0.18818585003673294,0.1002771242033279,0.08377518787097181,0.0987230893945726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195092193124494,0.09294196947256524,0.2622496171920635,0.09514495338823488,0.0,0.0,0.09836137052241446,0.06948695318045536,0.0,0.0,0.08889949409529578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081754607325604,0.0,0.05527859150998373,0.16316445476120495,0.07779262131675115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955863394516384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980163804635884,0.0,0.10152058448826684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740390895128687,0.047519325178584745,0.09748622968329286,0.08588778773396971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617748680102884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19543383154061636,0.0,0.0,0.09798540782846796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424322762245548,0.0,0.09394024861722658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206445689498024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349803569231553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097387099863754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345451757328814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207716715506645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550170484091024,0.08854744503838731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045955998411748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884547781709778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336738628749615,0.0,0.0,0.11037646830524847,0.0,0.0,0.14626407172790512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123231324832274,0.0,0.12923860907586793,0.062324218063931625,0.0,0.0,0.056716671145397336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207465501468835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520201583683926,0.0,0.08025475587998572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776756677546732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912251108868944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790862449743986
parenting,FightDragonGetGold,2020/02/16,"Children book on teaching temperance Hi all,
Any recommendation on a children's book that deals with the topic of temperance (i.e. happiness by limiting good things) ?",9.218888888888888,11.842345148148153,8.467592592592595,58.3991666666667,60.48148148148147,12.807407407407407,43.12962962962963,12.161744961471696,6.628496296296296,137,8,18,5,2,43,23,27,0.0,0.78,0.22,0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,10,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34869467877875965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528633492755959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300791247221213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5458430172890711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406552484301833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SirNamesAlotx,2020/02/16,"Can I put a bandaid on this problem? My toddler just turned 3 and won't give up on sucking thumb. I've read so many articles on the matter and at this point it just seems like it's out of habit instead of for soothing. We're worried our child will reshape their mouth. We've tried everything from reminding our child to talking and nothing's working!

So back to my original question, can I just wrap a cast around the problematic thumb and be done with it?",5.045091575091576,5.832404076923082,5.107417582417583,85.45841575091575,68.67032967032965,8.264468864468865,33.84798534798535,8.344100000000001,2.4878996336996337,365,17,74,5,6,114,66,91,0.099,0.81,0.091,-0.3973,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,1,1,8,3,1,0,4,0,6,2,1,1,0,15,10,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,5,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,7,1,14,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,8,8,1,2,3,47,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218493062374195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191626736324484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25502786030181285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22397344538474928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390644775934929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175118228841385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25265933596557005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391232534493594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23558354585961516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384598519567325,0.0,0.25052439741742616,0.27917169409951365,0.0,0.24927695733302302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268709852576042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20030517043712429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691969039747589,0.2710683929412525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814274969553782,0.2530843621404636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rolands0122,2020/02/16,"Does anyone else have to coach their child into taking appropriate size bites in order to divert them from death? 
Back story: My 3 almost 4 year old son will take bites of food until his mouth is packed. He was standing in his chair, I left the room for 1 minute, and he is choking on chicken nuggets. Choking to the point his blood vessels are showing in his eyes. 

Before I can get to him he dislodges it from his throat but is left terrified and crying. I console him and we move forward.

Unfortunately, now I am hyper vigilant to his bite sizes but I feel like a helicopter parent. I am just looking for how other parents deal/dealt with similar situations?",4.4202380952380915,6.257047373015876,5.057333333333336,81.24600000000002,71.30158730158729,7.262222222222222,27.679365079365077,7.908726449838941,1.79703746031746,523,19,95,7,10,168,95,126,0.14800000000000002,0.8109999999999999,0.04,-0.9356,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,10,5,4,1,0,12,15,7,1,0,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,6,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,18,1,17,13,0,18,0,0,2,0,18,10,0,1,7,59,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900803533874428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272868227187484,0.1944961354078044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596219969146915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152542481521512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085116946202825,0.0,0.1956992178088753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611542037045054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857279128231228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959802319161774,0.13560961678322406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295347718902048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917470306924343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41248657394736615,0.0,0.0,0.09273794838191028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940354436288445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20175184924983725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19918734745458952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215520408918581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794441278097999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21336904878416071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28544660268331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222398133367764
parenting,thkoog,2020/02/16,"My daughter is three and uses the toilet but sometimes the pee goes everywhere. Does anyone have any idea how to remedy this? I'm male but my wife doesn't have any ideas either...
This is the worst when I take her to a public restroom and she squats on the toilet seat. The pee goes on her shoes and everywhere...",1.6106682027649768,4.093591725806455,2.5191244239631345,92.77725806451612,83.35483870967741,5.478341013824887,16.921658986175114,6.868970318607317,-0.048924423963133463,245,5,50,3,7,77,41,62,0.09,0.91,0.0,-0.7684,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,5,3,3,2,0,10,8,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,6,0,4,8,2,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4198981525938564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21587334278475295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701743923744379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6970441197622185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30534490311581897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23212884831319802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666462489051736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yumyum667,2020/02/16,"Toddlers and cats Hey folks,

Last week my husband and I found a litter of kittens in our gardening shed. The mother goes to hunt and comes back ever so often. We put out water and cat food before work but we pick up her movements on the motion sensors. 

We were told that when her kittens reach 6 weeks she may abandon them which leaves us with 6 kittens. I'm a dog person but my husband always wanted a cat so we agreed to keep one when they get older. 

Our 16 month old loves animals and will try and play with anything if he is allowed but as a kid I always got scratched by cats and I'm concerned about it happening to him. How can I avoid that with our soon to be cat? Any tips on helping a toddler plat safely with kittens?",3.424069554606469,4.587214067114097,4.185344722391702,89.18166564978647,72.75838926174497,6.223550945698597,26.297132397803537,6.1124844417494595,0.8436255033557045,572,19,118,3,11,183,105,149,0.043,0.83,0.128,0.9213,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,8,0,2,1,10,5,0,1,7,0,6,3,0,3,1,33,17,17,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,17,2,4,1,2,0,4,0,2,0,1,4,1,19,3,17,10,0,20,0,1,0,1,24,5,0,3,11,74,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313373278695945,0.0,0.0,0.1353960650764259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638438332662502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309700974011975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694209842581406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150858822988965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800989949631633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407547110282737,0.2183048689055371,0.0,0.0,0.10402248331321116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923991373269808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606508186146413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334537530440846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697084577125002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229455704686366,0.0,0.2108200793219108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969716598294488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589211731631725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089238675343573,0.0,0.13491654601175695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738480294883801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001523213681785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025032130870534,0.0,0.1351770663774129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394949746713668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743541197248755,0.0,0.3194149406971932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494849623420825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MFaith93,2020/02/16,"I'm not sure if my nephew (who is in my custody) will be ready to start kindergarten this year. (He will be 5 in June) So I don't have ""legal"" custody of my nephew, but he does live with my husband and I. My mother has technical custody but she couldn't handle him anymore. We will probably end up adopting him because his mother and father are not fit to be parents. 

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So my nephew is 4 years old right now and hasn't been in pre school. He is very hard to teach at home. He doesn't like to sit still and can't seem to stay focused on anything. I believe he does have the potential to be smart and i don't know if i'm just not a good teacher or if he just has some sort of mental issue that's preventing him from focusing. My mom is insisting that he starts school this year but as the person who is taking care of him i don't know that he's mature enough or ready. 

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Has anyone had this reluctance of starting their child in kindergarten? IF so, how did you decide? Should i talk nearby schools and have them see what they think? Or go to a doctor? I'm honestly lost. I'm 27 but I don't have any biological kids yet so this is all new to me and my mom isn't exactly helpful. Any insight or advice would be great. 

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Thanks so much for reading.",1.8930681818181831,3.759333988636364,3.092424242424244,92.48363636363639,78.43181818181819,5.915151515151516,23.12121212121212,6.816661863887847,0.5690484848484845,999,32,218,10,24,322,146,264,0.08199999999999999,0.795,0.124,0.9496,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,3,1,11,9,0,0,4,0,36,1,0,1,3,42,53,26,0,7,17,10,1,1,0,5,1,0,1,3,10,9,0,1,6,1,0,1,12,1,0,0,4,2,27,8,23,38,4,25,0,1,1,0,36,9,0,11,14,137,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823477795340382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267660708757199,0.3664574947365979,0.1367249464181732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969674284103072,0.07029150055324422,0.0,0.08272596146583487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128092314459928,0.0,0.0,0.11326060782280015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249497478561884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289464659962202,0.1759454243500189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903795141873039,0.10387227549098356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057132367332620476,0.08431809956084244,0.0,0.11083245212797344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005332378985928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738178551923632,0.0,0.10083775983816423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492509245208337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104950968336076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049112892845882564,0.0,0.0887680475237336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973816467945363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130855875140253,0.0,0.0,0.23547430885835602,0.0,0.0,0.073899631719573,0.0,0.0,0.09709054888541717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548720370118808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162442438355387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777715402322388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083861644760554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055518364858987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858503450890856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305219046103673,0.08010778414033849,0.09151689683309833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21346266359513624,0.10714945031350297,0.08028177416594498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474643083731274,0.0,0.0755845296095704,0.08080058186910022,0.0,0.0925526570252134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441427002538201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294611110518284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141219224138465,0.0,0.3664574947365979,0.1942101682857863
parenting,unique74739282614273,2020/02/16,"Should I give in and play Pokémon? My kids and my husband are really into Pokémon. They play the video games and the trading card game. They constantly ask me to play the card game with them and I decline. I really don’t want to learn or play it at all. My husband plays it with them though. Am I being a lame parent or should I stick with how I feel and don’t play Pokémon with them?

I do other things with them: read, color, play with toys, etc",1.3948067632850254,3.418140847826088,2.5053623188405787,95.30727053140095,80.73913043478261,5.393236714975847,18.917874396135264,6.42735559955562,-0.14388792270531425,346,8,77,3,9,110,51,92,0.03,0.775,0.195,0.9107,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,6,0,2,8,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,21,12,9,0,3,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,12,0,0,2,13,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,17,7,11,9,2,4,0,1,1,0,15,3,0,2,1,55,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942923135033845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401832759402121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35108140612001243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917061246547254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019815698759969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495443550992167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31488177443635035,0.0,0.40333350764986176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20913686390841807,0.0,0.3092860474447268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18567518252668475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Think2Panic,2020/02/16,"First cold, need help! My daughter turned five months on the 11 and has her first cold. For about a week before the 14 I think she had a clogged milk duct so she had a lot of eye boogies, but that's seemed to be cleared now. 

Right now she woke up crying with a raspy voice and clogged nose. I have the nose frida so I suck out what I can and I noticed this morning it's turning greenish. Yesterday it was clear but it's turning green and her nose is still closed. 

How can I help her?",0.18235294117647166,2.393084392156865,0.9132352941176478,103.65455882352943,87.43137254901958,3.7921568627450974,19.284313725490197,4.7782277997778095,-0.7827215686274509,376,11,91,1,12,114,69,102,0.09,0.8059999999999999,0.10400000000000001,-0.2855,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,7,1,1,0,7,0,9,5,4,1,2,16,17,9,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,7,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,8,13,0,8,12,1,13,0,0,2,0,9,5,1,2,8,59,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469601456199027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255134885508063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492578208458966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752178413698649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453955327560558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386928515785773,0.0,0.0,0.15222807680399222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337365287485456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532591689434288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868983034597939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639536294343717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315485795841683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6699255443101415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468006420719675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,A_Useless_Caduceus,2020/02/16,"Everyone Will Be Sick 1 year old caught some kind of GI bug at daycare and now it is attempting to run though our family like some unstoppable rebel force.  

The virus has taken the baby and the toddler.  We have barred the door but cannot hold it out for long.  The toilet shakes.  Vomiting, vomiting throughout the night.  We cannot get out.  A toddlers shadow moves in the dark.  We cannot get out.....It is coming.",1.4688750000000006,4.093688137500003,2.427500000000002,91.90750000000004,86.375,6.2,19.25,7.554174236665415,0.7161000000000004,321,9,65,6,10,101,59,80,0.063,0.914,0.023,-0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,1,2,4,1,1,8,0,9,4,0,0,0,12,14,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,0,2,8,1,1,0,1,0,5,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,2,7,10,2,14,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,6,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692795182675885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987052450317699,0.0,0.0,0.2946939739373322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266439830760397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32552757354407513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272187314045885,0.0,0.0,0.27664352365198513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33224716380502634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933564271068376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32802391404938797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30713053358920234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013058687502095
parenting,ch1ch4rito,2020/02/16,"Our two-year old is using the toilet at daycare but unwilling to go at home. Pretty much the title. She uses the potty 2-3 times a day at daycare, most days without ever going in her pull-up. But when she is at home refuses to go on the toilet. We don't want to be too pushy and have tried a lot methods to get her to go on the toilet with very minimal success. Has anyone had anything similar happen?",3.0642857142857127,3.9252654285714317,5.3223809523809535,81.83928571428571,73.28571428571428,7.504761904761906,25.904761904761905,7.793537801064563,1.517704761904762,312,10,62,4,6,110,61,84,0.045,0.843,0.111,0.8309,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,2,1,13,16,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,14,14,3,17,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,2,6,43,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153513091378886,0.0,0.166572483072359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610852839317649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309835769711527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575487032629027,0.0,0.4601544725147512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899726393940124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4060828244500767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208825187009574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488002669965452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21240327874730625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059315257307026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803136250762356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742830079135446,0.0,0.1977326366291401,0.0,0.0,0.3496477263901433,0.0,0.1670157643763644,0.11939117745795635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512339625719266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035033338204008
parenting,DPRJ222,2020/02/16,"Is it fair of ex f 28 to cut me off from son Me and my ex were together for 4 years she broke up with me on Valentine's Day, I helped raise her kid since he was about 7 months old me and him have such a special bond he calls me dad and I love him like my own. She said she would never cut me and him off I'll always be his dad, she left me before this for 4 months no word just before father's Day it broke me she finally called 4 months later I took her back and she promised she would never do it again and has left and not doing the same thing. It's gonna scar the kid he always asks for me, when I'm not there.",0.8127079303675053,1.6572760992907796,2.4644100580270814,100.22454545454548,78.78723404255321,5.694648613797551,16.36428110896196,5.565023196281405,-0.9659134751773056,474,5,128,2,11,156,86,141,0.084,0.816,0.1,0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,7,8,2,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,2,17,16,8,0,2,3,6,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,6,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,1,27,4,12,8,2,21,0,2,0,1,30,6,0,0,15,78,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800872222332272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734286949720674,0.0,0.0,0.12941649667435026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864310711623654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437173496467728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21708617414883905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437038593382507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281159061386528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657287122166699,0.0,0.0,0.08222553793874489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190223325261765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030193962586432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25961506645006394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176608250245054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009701770609133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392240015434876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181465765540244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699353976336774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391187153588813,0.0,0.0,0.10838318708276302
parenting,wow-another-teenager,2020/02/16,"I am asking for a parent’s opinion/advice Keep in mind I am a junior in highschool i am almost 17 and my parents take away my phone at 8pm every night. And I realized I am seriously fucked. Tonight my parents went out of town for tonight so I get my phone. Problem I can’t sleep it’s like 3:30am. They started doing it randomly last year and know I can’t sleep if my phone isn’t taken away. I am really fucked for college.

How do explain this to them? Whenever I ask for anything like this I get yelled at and they don’t even listen to the argument I am making.  I am very concerned to what’s going to happen when I live on my own.",1.465,3.128669222222221,3.6567592592592617,88.8829166666667,79.0,6.277777777777778,23.842592592592588,7.1686216300943375,0.9074814814814812,495,17,107,6,12,170,80,135,0.127,0.833,0.04,-0.8934,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,3,0,4,6,2,0,3,0,13,4,2,2,0,16,30,8,0,2,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,5,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,2,23,2,17,28,1,18,0,0,0,2,13,9,2,3,9,71,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513078754813923,0.0,0.0,0.15504991342360488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274201432255315,0.0,0.2895090336453615,0.0,0.2909545916013135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227037287117778,0.0,0.13045939503533488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862942068404426,0.16179503931534422,0.0,0.08799915164893768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692451830851948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762892423465453,0.0,0.0,0.08509602556914304,0.1262152825125296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129402498941105,0.0,0.1367265744502251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335691569456323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563442802600881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530686960828118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5157945543477548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481609875272085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991944817097326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309903687197616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095965631048356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164204249528536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775923264896905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353824980481178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971189624291232
parenting,kj8909,2020/02/16,Baby sleep programs Does anyone have any programs they would be willing to share with me! I’m flat broke and I need to get my child sleeping at night 😣😣😣,0.2504545454545486,2.5286673030303035,1.5729545454545466,98.47943181818184,88.0909090909091,3.3000000000000003,20.37121212121212,3.1291,-0.5989333333333331,123,4,27,0,4,39,28,33,0.096,0.836,0.068,-0.2244,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,4,7,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,13,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414720286887912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482857983539879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107399173985865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551883365819075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26329326600142416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33322605051828164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7106889165275169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25224433997436274,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wayfaring_Scout,2020/02/16,Need encouragement or support Four weeks old and our third child; but she's been awake for the past two hours crying nonstop. No fever or anything; tried feeding; tried burping. She just will not go back to sleep at 3am! We're so tired.,3.467173913043478,5.529261586956526,3.003695652173913,94.01032608695654,74.43478260869566,5.469565217391305,24.54347826086957,5.985473137389443,0.3878000000000004,187,6,39,1,4,55,43,46,0.228,0.7020000000000001,0.069,-0.8911,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,0,0,7,5,5,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,3,2,3,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,5,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249564999089181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020118225440187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30027914635225805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535990345624215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692099350512577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20269704152641171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868510889365565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260958285065008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735629038552005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102119100962857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31419340853062977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711944369710029,0.0,0.26703835491562355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21927730096832507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jusgetnby,2020/02/16,"Confronted my son over blatant lies and need help how to address this. My son (Danny) is 15 and has a pretty active social life. He gets decent grades with very little effort and beyond the normal fighting with his siblings is in general good. 

He has one particular friend (Steven) that is well known to make bad decisions and smoke a lot of weed. So I haven’t allowed my son to hang out with Steven much.   Pretty much only in public places in a group. Steve had a birthday party tonight and my Danny asked to go and initially I said no. I was totally honest about why and my concerns because my son is a major follower.  Usually this would have sent him off into a fit (me not letting him go). But we had a very grown up conversation about it and he expressed that Steven had changed and I should trust him that he can make good decisions. 
So, I took a leap and let Danny go. When it comes time to pick him up he asked to stay longer. He goes back and forth about trust and he’ll just walk home. I refused because it would have been 1 am and he is 15. 
So I pick him up and he’s acting all pissed off and staring out the window.  
I’m not stupid and realize immediately he’s hiding his eyes from me. So we get home and I corner him.  He copped to having had edibles. 
And.... he’s all mad at me for confronting him like I’m the one that did something wrong.  
My heart is broken and I’m so pissed after that big song and dance he gave me about trust.  He manipulated me and I’m just dead inside. 
How am I ever going to trust him again?  He’s mad and raging at me saying it’s not going to kill him.     He’s the one that fucked up and he’s mad at me.  
I just feel like I’ve done all this so wrong and I just am at a loss. And he’s gaslighting me.",1.6612087912087894,3.3244889532967044,3.2720741758241765,91.86355082417583,78.42307692307692,6.088461538461537,20.166208791208803,6.9077264865688965,0.18934505494505505,1345,32,303,14,32,445,173,364,0.155,0.7070000000000001,0.138,-0.7713,2,0,2,0,2,0,37.0,2,0,0,2,22,27,12,0,13,0,29,6,4,8,6,69,54,35,2,5,8,4,1,2,1,4,1,3,4,0,13,34,0,1,5,2,0,14,5,16,1,3,12,6,39,11,38,36,8,46,0,1,2,1,50,23,3,1,10,189,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21989817680148935,0.0,0.0,0.09043451335820096,0.09819909319925876,0.14338742613564853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244153493441175,0.10131024596529138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035544142506445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063846053782632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05946694132929041,0.08402031297422101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086487573743658,0.1087281687212569,0.12289231086499305,0.0,0.334201195106459,0.19729068447860132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936792772880402,0.07883122755208609,0.0,0.2359440115867985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301175835137592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24052754349571714,0.08307112994281983,0.11491620775082333,0.11787570405333153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998746572986733,0.0,0.0,0.15701062612713293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291315862913464,0.08720601907653745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523242509607713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390859012188508,0.08944739116008849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287698725369985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393024642639885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187365025636012,0.0935278646665453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988816376668456,0.0,0.09054160651957376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535617206720212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857909639694215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066857938659673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953034512781472,0.19408045390030773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574514371344837,0.0,0.10612435992566686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709295347974368,0.2571752430419645,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beckerness11,2020/02/16,After bedtime. Sometimes the best part sleeping children is getting to watch Frozen 2 by myfuckingself.,7.88625,12.104985125000002,5.967500000000001,66.5275,72.75,5.7,45.5,7.1686216300943375,4.696350000000002,86,6,9,1,2,25,16,16,0.0,0.769,0.231,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4932554518805695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245565283862459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5089842675823053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4703579741303476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4648603468541329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SlapTickle49,2020/02/16,"Help with toddler dinner time! Hi everyone,

I have a two year old son and dinner is becoming a bit of a nightmare. One day he likes something and the next day it all goes on the floor. We've tried a few different things, trying to keep it healthy but some nights all we can get him to eat is plain multi grain bread.

We don't let him snack too late and after a lot of fuss over him not eating, we give up and give him 200mls of forumla after a brief play. This way he gets some nutrients. 

Has anyone else had a fussy toddler, is so what did you do to get him to eat? 

Thanks in advance!",3.6040853658536602,3.9298810650406537,4.4127540650406525,90.80986280487808,71.6829268292683,7.776016260162603,24.318089430894307,7.645422480735847,0.8507406504065047,453,11,105,5,8,146,87,123,0.0,0.892,0.10800000000000001,0.9029,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,3,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,9,0,11,7,0,0,2,16,18,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,8,7,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,10,3,14,15,7,18,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,3,11,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337990871615508,0.1661430950773072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908329158472458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702714401175898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914825505298648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694135209730672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4977635615651165,0.13545654407709146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494244704833518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541519720186048,0.3111004662662911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086865500262812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441274617114474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291364782449815,0.0,0.0,0.1658106165578415,0.0,0.07921889935234093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378551753347995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724496703834354,0.15216794291126567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015043685550044,0.0,0.10987786849753092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483193719072198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928706489922816,0.0,0.0,0.10772607067062978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455168494463173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220180079647237,0.0,0.158398188113962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870809714847872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442007439819492
parenting,nav5our,2020/02/16,"Daughter (possibly) shoplifting? I'm a single father. My daughter is 16. She's into cosmetics, clothes, goes shopping with friends a lot, etc. Her scores in school are average & haven't changed at all recently, she has a good teenager job to support her hobbies

Over the past several months, we've had several instances issues with her being suspected of shoplifting - but she's never been actually caught. 

The first time, each of the friends she was with had stolen & she was suspected to have too. Security detained them, the police searched them - everyone but her had stolen property. This was at a clothing store. 

The second time, she was apparently observed live on 2 different cameras by 2 different operators concealing product off the shelf in her pants. The police waited outside the store, and when they caught her they had her searched. Nothing was found. The manager ""had a bad feeling about it"" - the police banned her from the store for 6 months. We got a letter from the local court saying the store filed a long-term anti-tresspass order, and the store produced ""beyond sufficient"" evidence to prove their case - so she got banned for 3 years. 

The third time, she was detained by police with a friend after being suspected of shoplifting from several stores. Neither were found to have anything, but her friend was bad news. The friend was known to the police for serial shoplifting, suspected to be an organized shoplifter, and was previously banned from 2 of the stores they went too. 

The fourth time, we got a letter from an out-of-town store saying after an internal investigation they'd found evidence she'd stolen a large amount of product, with a court order attached banning her from the entire chain for 2 years. 

The most recent time, her friend & her were stopped on the interstate by police.  The police had a court order to search her friends car (they drove separately) for stolen property. Her friends car had several devices used to conceal stolen property & was arrested for that, my daughter wasn't found with anything particular. 

I'm kind of at a loss. I want to believe she's not doing this & it's just surrounding herself with bad friends. I don't believe this is randomly happening over and over by error, but police can't find anything, I can't find anything, the court / stores won't release what evidence they've found or had, I don't know. What should I do?",7.530723672981738,8.479141087557602,6.801930363543267,74.92580559822497,63.23963133640552,10.11626557433009,36.12015702338282,10.082433333333334,3.754774125277351,1928,87,324,40,27,593,191,434,0.161,0.743,0.096,-0.987,4,0,0,0,0,0,73.0,2,0,8,3,7,17,0,0,40,0,42,0,0,2,3,53,63,11,0,2,7,4,1,0,9,2,0,2,0,0,8,15,0,7,15,1,10,6,10,4,0,3,34,3,42,13,54,22,8,42,0,1,0,0,52,15,0,4,18,210,50,4,0.0,0.0,0.06831295639057962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792418082276969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304264439421087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534906748278295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773911017104328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405402900468723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627674199468554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807199396569739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689099022538372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03539568567089767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127963184432525,0.0595446262538296,0.0,0.3837740917246424,0.4867581983216946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587153038099946,0.16796369288177582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619035362926753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306507989035484,0.06946730444128622,0.0,0.0,0.07289748707865397,0.03847188927342104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618140459299031,0.06195056680224174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951415742751245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175166031299487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053990729082882716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716989082030908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682590819681516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891801043026178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382392904260707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133859671295104,0.0,0.07084690441677714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163344432762196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852575085582325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943872186502496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20409693902187784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060460227837815635,0.0,0.0,0.04128965954080695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489360244567974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015944060473706
parenting,Sawnox,2020/02/16,Attitude I need your opinion on this scenario. Lets say a parent forces their child to do something they dont want to do and go somewhere they dont want to go. Should said parent expect to receive an ‘attitude’ from the child or would the child be in the wrong?,3.819423076923077,5.329581326923076,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,72.26923076923076,6.7384615384615385,26.461538461538463,7.1686216300943375,1.1476384615384618,207,7,42,2,4,64,36,52,0.11,0.89,0.0,-0.5489999999999999,2,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,14,2,0,6,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,7,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,0,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5444509250640501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26401533606997674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23751770325761026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222953396742552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5158294902374031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094743976303866,0.1847150083797533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881722913921794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27400452433365924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500203662432575,0.2539570818970792,0.0,0.0
parenting,goodvibestoday,2020/02/16,"Family in for dinner I’m a server/bartender in a restaurant. Today, I had a table with a little girl probably about 4. She was very verbal, and lets just say, not shy at all! Her parents said to me when they sat down “hey, sorry if she’s bossy, we’re working hard on it with her.” And from that point on, where I would have probably seen her as irritating (interjecting, talking over her parents, a little demanding of me of what she wanted to drink and eat etc etc,) I now saw her as a little girl who was smart enough to ask for what she wanted, talkative where a lot of kids that age are shy/have their parents order for them, and funny. I had so much respect for the parents for letting me know she was a different kind of child, for their parenting towards her during the meal (kindly correcting her but always giving her attention and showing love,) and overall letting her be the unique kid she was. Those two sentences at the beginning giving me a heads up was a game changer- I was now on their team, and I found myself respecting their style of parenting so much, especially in a world where most parents set up Netflix on the table as a distraction, or get frustrated, or let their kids be the boss and do whatever they want to the point it disrupts everyone else. Just a little posi post!",8.152976190476192,6.613007551587303,8.192857142857143,73.72714285714288,62.76984126984127,11.415873015873014,35.682539682539684,10.317481424215053,3.495049206349206,1021,37,193,19,12,333,142,252,0.055,0.8590000000000001,0.086,0.7608,8,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,8,2,11,8,1,1,20,0,18,6,1,1,2,29,34,18,0,5,7,7,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,6,8,10,4,0,3,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,13,5,34,6,36,14,8,33,0,0,2,1,47,24,0,5,6,148,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006088807405371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871534503573294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797075618646813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248364209989423,0.0,0.08615730444937797,0.07033803762783364,0.0,0.0,0.08700078888041593,0.1878098254717022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804564131241376,0.0,0.0,0.07937597516834388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232061527599064,0.0,0.0,0.04399086337450233,0.16154403208324372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754263847016749,0.0,0.08641317465815629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536204252171456,0.04627394820466922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34439955532608857,0.0,0.0,0.3375608420533331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158356634561894,0.0759935085739011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379292216686145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6544565480684161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591918476292517,0.0,0.08064002910898048,0.0,0.1815630160900414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009318775103781,0.06695897387388056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425466063230446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676765222614051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079811461931095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225086349021052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947356324489047,0.14898947801087498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061298377918735936,0.0,0.0,0.05981304473511492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elsynkala,2020/02/16,"Anyone have Graco Nautilis? Can not tighten harness tight enough... Im active on asking for help on Car Seats For The Littles on FB, and I’ve been told it’s installed correctly, but I CAN NOT tighten the harness of the car seat tight enough. My husband, who is not a weak man, also struggles. It’s like a full body workout to get it tight enough to be safe for my 3year old

Are we doing something wrong?? I’ve uninstalled and checked the harness and it isn’t threaded incorrectly. I’m at a loss. I might just sell on FB and get a new one because we can not deal with this!!",1.9230536130536109,3.9317871794871806,2.980404040404044,92.63909090909094,78.91452991452991,4.938306138306139,26.02097902097902,5.565023196281405,0.6023743589743593,448,18,94,2,11,143,74,117,0.085,0.7909999999999999,0.124,0.5695,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,8,0,11,2,1,0,1,19,16,6,0,0,6,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,7,0,4,0,1,2,2,5,4,0,1,2,3,6,2,12,12,4,11,0,1,0,0,9,7,0,1,3,59,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579218102867972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138080094415998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461378196812486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120379784001001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21935176885648766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035895031100783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6121377475560632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20634654287352125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323642721123451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133084052702872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647699690328013,0.19792323741807002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949125950313627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19072394317211253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721826866829346,0.0,0.1338151232274355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520269849270995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064452159553088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886971683055472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159094492602777,0.0,0.0
parenting,RottenMuppet,2020/02/16,"Blasphemous 4 year old We are a very secular family. Husband grew up Anglican but definitely not practicing since he has been an adult. 4 year old son has asked some questions about god and heaven since his great grandma passed away. We always try to give him all the choices and he can choose what he believes but we have said that we don’t believe in heaven or god etc but that lots of people do. Fast forward to a vacation in Mexico, go see a really old and beautiful cathedral in mazatlan. Son asks what the people with their eyes closed are doing so I tell him they are praying and then explain they are talking to god. Son then giggles and says realllllly loudly “that’s so silly because god doesn’t exist!!” I hustled him outta there so fast. Not sure how to convey to him that we need to respect other people’s beliefs even if we don’t also believe that",3.4305357142857176,5.601865267857146,4.722047619047622,81.15628571428573,74.89285714285714,7.099047619047619,26.67619047619048,8.021203637495839,1.8388304761904768,687,26,125,11,15,227,107,168,0.015,0.743,0.242,0.9925,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,6,0,3,0,8,7,0,0,6,0,14,1,1,1,2,30,22,17,0,2,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,8,13,0,0,4,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,2,5,16,7,14,20,4,19,4,0,2,0,31,7,0,5,10,83,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341785827170968,0.11801023688030347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651755285763163,0.0,0.13324979301698672,0.0,0.0,0.08645555199632872,0.0,0.0,0.4793665564887726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817300209595853,0.09367445237315837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370052663791998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605201144890305,0.08060274064317903,0.0,0.0,0.15636319324401526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057502914114335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516186418649977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464662389149633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949719812764568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887709836348562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085709274085556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490859620574766,0.11278538690184058,0.0,0.0,0.11301661825024392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346391566251409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366892268240518,0.0,0.0,0.1139940220977768,0.12396180068788368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629025335932806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702094964572007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266203619711965
parenting,jwiggs152,2020/02/16,Help please So my 3 year old had no problems sleeping in her bed before I left for deployment in april. Once I left she refused to sleep in her bed. I got back in december and she has only slept in her bed twice the rest of the time it's been on the couch or an ottoman in our room. We've tried getting her new bedding that she wanted new night light I've tried laying on her floor till she falls asleep. The only way she will stay all night is if I sleep in there all night as well. How do I break this habit. I try laying g her down and leaving and she works herself up until shes going to throw up. I'm seriously at my witts end with this.,2.496330935251798,3.2634589568345334,3.5835179856115116,94.12793884892088,74.53956834532373,6.423309352517986,21.8136690647482,6.2581,0.07008719424460441,501,11,120,3,10,162,93,139,0.065,0.882,0.053,-0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,5,0,7,5,5,1,2,12,13,10,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,1,4,1,23,1,21,8,3,36,0,0,0,0,17,17,0,2,13,74,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421728036547348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639570225214888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156141706182026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760546833060918,0.0,0.08441810583699944,0.0,0.11880016404667346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995625241350906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728129600608362,0.3227759979167639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869196784325017,0.0,0.4181812142816165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558666364138489,0.15818912922323214,0.0,0.22594112302292904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305115680492266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421317102678822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459386557979483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583227522199495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661425366834305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025445810264938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761211859634066,0.11790330105821152,0.0,0.0,0.13355435085902356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813812145017923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095654210893108
parenting,sepva4,2020/02/16,"Son doesn’t know many words, is that normal? My son(first/only born) is almost a year and a half, and doesn’t know many words, he knows “mama” pretty much, he’ll say other words that sound similar like nana/tata, but I don’t think he knows what it means so it’s just like syllables he says. Last check up they said if he knows 3-6 words and he doesn’t. Is it normal that he still hasn’t said many words. Lately he seems to be wanting to talk and babbles as if he’s making sense in his head lol is there anyway I can teach him to talk if this isn’t normal, I’m not trynna rush him if it’s just not time to talk yet but other babies his age seem to know more words and sometimes even sentences. I’m kind of starting to worry if it’s normal or if I’ve failed him as a parent...Any help will be appreciated thank you!",1.8491801948051927,3.059897505681821,3.1912662337662354,94.57386363636368,76.7840909090909,5.710389610389612,17.685064935064933,5.773587663045528,-0.5669207792207801,635,9,150,3,14,207,100,176,0.047,0.8170000000000001,0.135,0.9238,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,1,1,8,5,0,0,3,1,14,1,1,1,0,41,33,17,0,11,13,1,0,2,0,2,0,5,0,0,12,5,0,0,10,0,1,1,8,1,0,1,2,5,10,4,11,27,2,12,0,1,0,0,25,2,0,10,11,77,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071083519794824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197638417342143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962043868775244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253757990708563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237164381351528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080039935245935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255315949837285,0.39749828006985777,0.09826224233488004,0.13598274844183358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778676758777674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046634365340609,0.3666485112287568,0.0,0.13131148779792307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861622928107954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47244353565157704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338536519651101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264007094004857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293364165047067,0.19172830489405845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219483700368882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922448778873122,0.0,0.08532408935350799,0.0,0.09626933099717937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29067436693573,0.0,0.1109838748133726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772419237920338,0.0,0.0,0.07029217415703044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110199577799116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242176372843447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762859074786614
parenting,WheresYennefer,2020/02/16,I think my 11 month old twin boy may be autistic. To start off he’s a very distant and to himself.  I always catch him in the corner fixated with random objects. He’s constantly high pitch screaming throughout the day and no he’s not upset. He also makes noises but will not say dada or mama. He barely laughs and it’s takes forever for him to acknowledge his name being called. He’s very very attached to me and only me like it’s different he can be very aggressive no matter his mood. Even though he can walk he just will not. Something just said is my baby autistic if so I just want to know so I can nurture his needs.,1.3523284589426332,3.7162414488188986,2.9998256467941498,89.71253937007873,83.33070866141732,5.518335208098988,21.66985376827897,6.868970318607317,0.6666247469066366,492,16,98,6,14,162,83,127,0.066,0.8140000000000001,0.12,0.7959999999999999,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,1,3,0,10,0,0,1,0,24,18,11,0,3,9,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,3,14,3,9,11,0,11,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,4,6,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560323323279805,0.16235020462914307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923287326286435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21084856311422864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583217654204276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20385225852629127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887073963532975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20614830605645176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722937100205868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532268415287204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023989057674193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573787082087578,0.0,0.0,0.14467431488318594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047389762222289,0.0,0.0,0.14839273907018438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559778184708647,0.15516222258975101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150208036444661,0.0,0.0,0.13810246068625293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670119851065785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250209621297449,0.1916981912610572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6439568506298027,0.11508309846661648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dhsni76,2020/02/16,5yr old daughter walked in on my wife and I Yesterday evening after I put my 5yr old down for a nap my wife and I went into our bedroom and started having private time. We forgot to lock the door because we’re stupid and we were caught in the moment because we haven’t had sex in weeks due to our 5yr old having really bad separation anxiety. We finally got her down for a nap so we did what we could while we had time. Well about 20 minutes later my daughter came walking in right when I was c*ming on my wife and she saw all of it. I immediately jumped up and put a cover on my wife and I and told her to go back to her room because mommy and daddy are having private time. She said ok and left. We put our clothes back on and went out. I feel so bad about this. Honestly idk what to say to her. Do I just leave it alone? I don’t know how to explain that to a 5yr old. 😬😨,1.3724404761904765,2.7872515449735467,3.3142294973545003,92.34055059523813,78.52380952380952,6.206481481481483,22.394510582010582,6.9077264865688965,0.4382510582010579,678,20,159,7,16,229,103,189,0.094,0.867,0.039,-0.85,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,11,0,0,0,11,6,1,0,6,1,13,1,0,1,1,30,27,16,0,1,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,6,22,0,1,3,2,0,11,2,3,1,0,14,4,32,3,27,12,1,46,0,0,1,1,27,16,0,0,19,106,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801584514542856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019425560198522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049354601498785,0.22253092988271087,0.2436998364641868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241247509961092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639624452274472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801612773686818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737961278540351,0.0,0.0,0.14597841407511905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075734001498412,0.0,0.10657917176316208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323550747026078,0.0,0.0,0.14110174339135947,0.144785989140055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5593304402499467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018854595783624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536894828723933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380221872766184,0.12675955861631585,0.10597268272100384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432120786249222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331126937307015,0.0,0.0,0.12733441759328015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689210710523027,0.0,0.11981559296777805,0.2470643369191681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twohappyigloos,2020/02/16,"Neigbours won’t let their kids over our house. After people’s thoughts on following.

Wife and I have 7 year old boy. Neighbours have 8 and 4 year old boys.

My wife isn’t 100%, suffers from anxiety and depression. At one stage I was primary parent for our boy, all school drop offs etc.

Our boy is super well mannered, doing well in school, into sport and happy in all areas of life.

Ok will get to point. When my wife was all over shop emotionally and I had in house help when our son was toddler was sort of out of picture having other kids around ours for play dates.

He would go to other houses but never other way round. I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way either back then. Was very messy at times, wife crying etc 

Now days wife is semi stable most of the time but not 100%

Neighbours 2 doors down (only ones with kids same age - the ones mentioned earlier with 4 and 8 year old boys) still don’t let there boys over ours and ever increasingly don’t have our boy over there’s.

They are in same school and really like each other.

Should I be offended and not let our boy over there house any more ??? (not that he gets to often anymore anyway - they always make excuses why he can’t)

Is bit hurtful. Am trying to explain to our son it isn’t him - just they are bit weird.

What makes it worse is other parents starting to notice from school who drop there kids off at ours - they ask why they never see the neighbours  oldest around our house as they know they are friends at the school...

Meh... trying to let go of and largely out of my control.

Interested in people’s feed back.",2.954814814814817,4.837409305732487,3.5264472753007787,90.49334630809156,75.36942675159236,6.053125737202171,20.54682708185893,6.775458762138228,0.25874158999764063,1238,28,254,11,27,388,165,314,0.096,0.8220000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.7499,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,11,0,8,2,18,14,1,0,4,1,35,2,0,3,6,46,49,16,0,4,7,9,1,1,4,5,1,0,1,12,12,18,1,1,3,3,1,4,12,5,2,3,7,2,28,9,44,32,14,58,0,3,2,0,54,25,0,3,25,171,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630195099377523,0.0,0.0,0.1083732198743428,0.0,0.06095664410921866,0.0,0.07902330420098615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418680548266879,0.07449207528601205,0.0,0.0,0.1225413448264177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398459043984552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937033233267988,0.0,0.0,0.08752712525850656,0.05138840952857645,0.0,0.0686301386922545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963171949762355,0.0,0.0,0.17773337145558962,0.0,0.07207708720808813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156224906218876,0.0,0.08326129307830672,0.0,0.09057043018240042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848231546531225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05340928081454627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597126455170398,0.08530141403196945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04379123831418705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32592168137196026,0.056281875146067264,0.03892868473886935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637693820194566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291160786110175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071868188786138,0.2508391091777878,0.0,0.16198410748531542,0.06060188304744099,0.0,0.0,0.17695524633912618,0.0,0.0,0.11048317142726694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532540887125873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104644028849106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032130646207848,0.06349637525353136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639945204538448,0.0,0.06363428614539833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325874463568304,0.09292663151926764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081979297420414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574613757046481,0.0469986100243925,0.1264959997726815,0.0,0.0,0.14328768562266694,0.0,0.14380153440561086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120294154420471,0.056603929379603984,0.0,0.0,0.1539381204443543
parenting,TwinkleStars90,2020/02/16,"Living apart Me & my boyfriend have a 6 month old together. We have always had a semi rocky relationship with fights, over nothing. Very petty fights. But lately the fights have been over our needs not being met. We have not had sex in about 5 months. He is not romantic or loving or shows any effort really ... we fight about everything & anything at all. We have 6 months left on our lease here at our current apartment. Our fight have been so so bad the last few months. I suggested that since there is 6 months left on the lease here maybe I should move out & sign a 6 month lease on my own apartment. We will continue to split our sons daycare etc & we worked out a 50/50 schedule where I drop him off one day and he picks him up etc... I am feeling so scared, MAD, upset, emotional etc. BUT i feel like this may be the last hope for us to make it work. We talked about trying therapy while I live on my own & just seeing what we need to do to help our relationship. I am not sure that , that is the best decision for me to move out ???",3.729020537124804,4.7235079052132765,4.100739336492893,90.71657503949447,71.8436018957346,7.711974723538706,23.071406003159556,8.021203637495839,0.8485580410742495,812,19,181,11,15,254,123,211,0.122,0.787,0.091,-0.2668,1,0,0,0,5,0,37.0,15,0,0,4,11,14,6,2,9,0,21,2,0,2,2,35,30,9,0,4,9,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,13,0,0,3,1,0,2,4,9,0,1,5,3,29,5,25,20,8,38,0,0,1,2,32,20,0,4,16,117,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899921001741206,0.5143471775822192,0.0,0.06456370158639954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812903832768622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927246415941322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963559544254448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061229627423632374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679678239753933,0.0,0.0,0.31765571891031663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853275968917213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960108860808032,0.06782646389001372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363750883203129,0.0,0.0,0.09429866170149344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478052991209132,0.107098522090506,0.0,0.2063091569507152,0.0,0.0,0.046383783513041586,0.0,0.1676707544854562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568871033213353,0.0,0.06337441022522664,0.0,0.0953818314889438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546899879583317,0.20181628475157545,0.0,0.1407963311372432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109924858598067,0.0,0.0996254819528968,0.0,0.06433504260891153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060822168828341024,0.0,0.0,0.20386399357611112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950533367632175,0.0,0.07565634809855101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853686469309915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948155325286884,0.0,0.0,0.07631064838524051,0.0,0.0,0.10857425937711286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445927191451133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420333425049205,0.0,0.0,0.0783369546734823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823756917869529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hackermanfasho,2020/02/16,"Experiences with Pedia Lax? Is crying normal? First time daddy here. My little girl turned two years old a couple of months ago. She's been pretty constipated lately. It's been a few days since she's gone poo poo.

Tried giving my two year old little girl Pedia Lax, because the internet praised it. This was my first time attempting this, and I failed miserably. Half of the contents inside the bulb didn't even go in, I don't think. Anyhow, shortly after she began crying, saying ""owww owww"". She's not crying hysterically, but she's got tears in her eyes and the short ""wahhh's"". I'll be honest, it's got me a little worried! I'm not sure if it's just her body trying to go, or it upset her stomach. I just don't know. Like I mentioned before, I know I probably missed half of the dose! Anybody have any similar experiences with Pedia Lax, and how far apart you can give the child suppositories? Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated!",2.665297860034701,5.2113417472527495,4.2249103528050895,81.83324754193177,79.32967032967035,6.468941584731059,20.56795835743204,7.669130373188453,0.9662153846153844,746,20,137,12,19,248,113,182,0.149,0.772,0.079,-0.8745,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,0,5,5,8,0,2,9,0,12,4,3,1,1,21,26,8,0,3,8,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,4,0,6,8,2,19,4,9,15,1,26,1,3,1,0,18,9,0,4,15,77,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193094206276447,0.10822948758587107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605701648998109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442772904090453,0.0,0.10389350370272048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356195656320336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350953419543301,0.4023455231622259,0.07874091014712938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064232542961045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388638749693493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770719237204704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342485129010336,0.13877833874219153,0.0,0.19530039492394255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419998762216806,0.0,0.1377280159892667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05964924961269085,0.3671125648139119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745473717300404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962677541423415,0.0,0.0,0.256235468118814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421409219112013,0.1316386187977605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970945187702952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099790683439236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507270648180158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823328353759154,0.0,0.0,0.1423886749922683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578842470666186,0.13280385396473005,0.23853734748281336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239929831204749,0.0,0.08673249392502305,0.0,0.0,0.1572498263236631
parenting,anonymoussuomynona00,2020/02/16,"When is a line crossed when hugging a child? I have a coworker who I think crosses the line of what is appropriate touch with children. I do not believe it is sexual in nature, but it makes me cringe. For example, he insists kids (that he doesn't know) hug him in a tight squeeze and when it's a baby, he wants to kiss and ""eat"" their feet. While in a long embrace with a young child, he said ""if noone was here, I would lift up your shirt and kiss your belly"". The parents just smiled and laughed. I personally will never hug a child who is not a family member. What do other parents think crosses the line in child contact?",4.6196199999999985,5.072393152000004,5.135749999999998,86.07162500000004,69.48,8.17,29.225,8.07648339933343,1.7357400000000005,484,17,103,6,8,155,79,125,0.052000000000000005,0.7829999999999999,0.166,0.9403,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,1,0,5,6,0,0,12,0,11,8,2,1,1,19,17,10,0,3,5,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,7,9,6,1,1,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,4,10,6,10,13,0,16,0,0,0,5,21,5,0,1,8,67,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29664743052009923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26942026627012994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24821454782016256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470206010213904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330110324728127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575390303809485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307216183705976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5847240150516033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299022378556806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25045732463678433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33742230523348443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530037409934086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703981678570492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pantsmithiest,2020/02/16,"Back talk, attitude and anger issues- please help. My 8 year old daughter has been giving us a LOT of back talk and attitude. I know it’s developmentally appropriate, but it’s becoming a real issue. When it happens we tell her that it is not appropriate to be rude to us and we speak to each other the way we want to be spoken to. She invariably continues and we follow it up with a consequence- since you have chosen to continue with this unacceptable rudeness, you have lost privilege x for the next 24 hours. This isn’t stopping the problem. The real issue that we are having is that she will instead ramp up and begin screaming and physically fighting us at which point we bring her into her room and shut the door until she calms down. 

Her teacher sings her praises, her grades are great, she has friends, she can be the sweetest, most thoughtful kid in the world, we spend lots of time together playing board games, going places, etc. She just had a physical and is in good health- I can’t figure out what is causing this anger and defiant behavior. 

When she finally calms down after these episodes we calmly talk about why her behavior isn’t right and that it’s okay to feel angry/frustrated, but they way she’s expressing it is not okay. I try to intercept her when she starts ramping up, telling her that I see she is getting angry and to go to her room to punch it out on her pillow (something we’ve said is an acceptable way to express her anger) but it’s almost like she can’t stop herself. 

I’ve spoken to her pediatrician about it and she said that these things aren’t considered a problem that needs professional help until it starts happening outside the home (at school, in public, etc). 

I really don’t know what else we can be doing to help her. Ideas? Thoughts?",6.241453634085211,6.761464532163743,6.460258980785298,77.75236842105264,65.95906432748538,9.789139515455304,32.075187969924805,9.725611199111238,2.9271819548872178,1418,54,267,28,21,455,179,342,0.122,0.722,0.156,0.885,1,0,1,0,2,0,37.0,12,2,1,2,9,23,6,0,14,2,30,1,0,1,0,55,52,20,0,4,6,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,5,1,28,27,0,2,9,3,1,4,8,10,0,0,7,6,48,13,38,40,6,49,1,1,1,0,63,21,0,4,22,188,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977814186176856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017218451081266,0.0,0.0,0.10784570429060816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003124734483554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157325157190598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21780900715399684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04937429391710239,0.0,0.0,0.10696976168522576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544341412413302,0.0,0.051017598527565655,0.09367386703899117,0.11099241135178847,0.08190339056294126,0.0,0.1076584228174604,0.0,0.0,0.17270146558768731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379637431905336,0.0,0.0,0.19635630042496696,0.0,0.09794995938633226,0.0,0.09616464475859234,0.0,0.0,0.11023389203884258,0.0,0.3057607158503837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733072873307246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04770639359025911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659547366714693,0.16603546140487466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240553357844569,0.0,0.0,0.10385087292404438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246625207553038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202247414605027,0.10718933389965407,0.0923099156075889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18687390691573386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229199494731036,0.06255648214471743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339175551176774,0.18577321671043984,0.0,0.0,0.09882605225717896,0.07781365051810213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077630358335172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517500971286985,0.0,0.0,0.13823300096576566,0.0,0.0,0.1632779571692495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354598235375019,0.17069914824319732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487369010881452,0.0,0.0,0.1550448770544945,0.05693994657169502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629729538192135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3523793533277872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057595939936292,0.23252781309832185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811307966420273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288278691942242
parenting,nickslavsky,2020/02/16,"Britax B Agile replace lost adapter for Britax B Safe 35 Hi all!
We've got a Britax B Agile stroller and a Britax B Safe 35 car seat. The only problem is that we lost adapters connecting them together. I couldn't find any on the Britax website. Neither on Amazon.
Can someone help me by pointing out to which ones would work?
Any help will be sooo appreciated!",2.188714285714287,4.841183800000003,2.6567857142857183,91.5994642857143,82.42857142857143,5.214285714285714,25.892857142857146,6.6274283507984215,0.9779999999999992,286,12,57,3,8,88,53,70,0.11599999999999999,0.685,0.19899999999999998,0.8056,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,1,3,1,5,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,10,9,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,3,0,4,2,6,2,2,5,0,2,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,27,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573218095032234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401244058985897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101238839104632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521958817325432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.573587199733042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780281588155238,0.19981296610843774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483585098851576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513907891287995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226046637945712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126574664464266,0.0,0.0,0.186631148307343,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MoviesNMusic,2020/02/16,Wanting To Be A SAHM I know for a fact I don't want to go back to work. The idea of leaving my little girl w a stranger makes me want to vomit and it's not like my salary pays any bills I just don't want to let go of any of my benefits so is it wrong to wait til my maternity and LSD run out to tell my employer I'm not coming back??? We plan on having another as soon as she is potty trained so. . .,3.333478260869562,2.0202645217391364,5.438173913043481,88.84595652173915,72.26086956521739,9.099130434782607,27.09565217391304,8.238735603445708,1.2915886956521732,304,8,81,4,5,108,62,92,0.111,0.8590000000000001,0.03,-0.6224,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,1,1,17,18,7,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,2,0,2,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,11,2,16,16,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,50,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979567259811485,0.2297190086145829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369099667255576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18871352501190364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24901049243662035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24730876107193545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039776994615692,0.0,0.0,0.23196856042450625,0.0,0.22401880561558168,0.0,0.10702887175443124,0.21957048285901032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623411698619565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148101408405568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5168639257842371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948904921814874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23952388131043156,0.0,0.0
parenting,puka0804,2020/02/16,"Niece is causing issues So many flairs I felt were suited for this post. Trigger warning drugs and uncaring parents. 

My niece is 13. She was recently suspended from school for having pot in her locker and faces charges and expulsion. Not even 24 hours after suspension started, I found more on her. I have reported that to the school officer and have disposed of it per the officers recommended method. My sister(her mom) has given no sort of punishment. She just doesn’t care. Her father is not in the picture, but uses a variety of substances. My sister is in county housing and her home is now in jeopardy as the biggest rule is no drug charges, which is inevitably going to happen. Last summer I let her use my extra SIM card as long as she behaved, she has since lost that privilege as the only punishment. She cried about it for awhile, but my only reply was, she knew the rules of keeping her phone. Sorry this became a rant/vent, but basically I just need assurance I did the right thing by reporting she had more and taking the phone privilege away, and if there’s really anything else I can/should do as her aunt/godmother. My sister is already firm on not going to the court date, should I show up and say I recommend they remove my niece into foster care?",5.053951650395167,6.744965527196651,5.535613668061366,79.02416434216643,69.4602510460251,8.658391445839143,29.17735936773594,9.150863307647796,2.604751557415156,1007,38,177,20,18,323,150,239,0.12,0.799,0.081,-0.7935,1,0,3,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,1,7,8,2,0,11,0,22,3,1,4,1,30,38,18,0,3,9,5,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,8,9,0,1,3,1,0,3,6,3,0,0,10,2,31,5,28,26,3,24,0,1,0,0,23,11,0,2,9,126,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690038211340904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700293270334555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358382606980415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899262196481221,0.14605915780590162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617926473383253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297698786647495,0.0,0.11877406681847565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390927722795736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651615532871555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589424011986072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160959417708592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257302793384369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426192384983456,0.0,0.14001974571362727,0.16405790262994713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840013115028625,0.0,0.1263770966868175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158965751577356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538981032208678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258258014920867,0.0,0.0,0.15520746896705995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441493216803706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665207887858725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054254858983152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162702706819492,0.0,0.0,0.1578752882744369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361701936626642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910848549862684,0.0,0.14038668581582914,0.0,0.0,0.1214218846300828,0.0,0.11306811940180934,0.0,0.2877897327374143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761367720767345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916010365725744,0.10063651611799196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690249438774953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445880671991194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24559764401742465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,M4RSH1N2020,2020/02/16,"HOW DO I CRIB-TRAIN W/O WAKING THE OTHER CHILDREN?!?! Sleep deprived parents are one thing. Sleep deprived children just seems unfair and unhealthy. 

We're on week 2 of crib training and we've had some success. However, my 2 year old and my 6 year old are having a really really tough time getting adequate sleep. Its effecting thier behaviour and mine as well.

We started camping out with the older kids downstairs to reduce the noise while we took shifts soothing the baby at night. Its helped the kids, but not us. Sharing a bed with a 2 yr old is like horizontal kickboxing with a blindfold on. Do you have any idea how hard it is to fall back asleep after a 3am crane-kick to the nards?!?! 

Im aware we may just need to ride it out, but I work long hours in the ICU so its critical I get adequate rest. 

WE HAVENT SLEPT IN DAYS!!!! 

My anxiety is through the roof! Please help!!!",1.9977520873474648,4.368254057803469,3.1641136801541414,89.4959071933205,80.67630057803468,6.3877970456005135,24.06197816313423,7.594959193182576,1.2281627488760436,684,25,138,11,18,220,118,173,0.124,0.769,0.107,0.515,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,1,0,3,7,7,0,0,13,0,12,6,6,3,0,26,19,11,0,1,5,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,13,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,3,1,1,3,1,13,4,18,15,2,26,0,2,0,0,14,7,0,3,17,81,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310160606108112,0.0,0.11598304295177787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658054891363018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777743175784599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842240452114015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581489782378087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032451425520737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493076378766234,0.0,0.0,0.17115190385805187,0.16376736918825838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407014247757245,0.0,0.0,0.1341721705675686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241864632197196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227793246440126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4772750140513923,0.0,0.1027364611384693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834758734355446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642484657747406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942535243871814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802220139637306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45516556784035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731201109621603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072451736085372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840638828108713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684469141810479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823710055254411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216142927314639,0.0,0.1363177225296208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037560618508288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952667823316447
parenting,nicknackpattyslap,2020/02/16,"Advice? I need desperate advice! So, I am married and we have two boys, a one year old, and a three year old. They are my stepchildren. The 3 year old has not seen his biological father in 2 years. In those two years, only one attempt at contact was made. Now another year has gone by, and dad wants to FaceTime. 

Now, I am not trying to intervene in that relationship. I genuinely want what is best for my son (he is my stepson, but I love him more than anything). While all this is going on, I am paying for daycare (outrageous prices, by the way), I am buying diapers, I am teaching the child how to use words, how to use silverware, etc. I’m basically being his dad. And I don’t mind, because I love him. I just don’t want him to be hurt in the long run by this sporadic once a year visit or call and last time he saw him after that long of a time, he acted as though he wasn’t aware of who he is. I know kids are extremely smart, but I’m just worried about my son. I really want him to know his dad (the one year old has an active relationship with his father, while he’s not the nicest man to us, but he loves his son and I really respect it. We work together well.) The other guy is hardly involved. He comes around once a year and tries to act like he’s some amazing father, but he’s never here or paying for anything or doing any of the actual work it requires. He pays garnished child support, but nothing else, and definitely not enough to even cover half of his expenses.

What do I do about this? How do I support my wife and my son? And what should my stances be? I just want my son to have a healthy, happy life. I don’t want him to feel like his dad doesn’t want him or anything like that. 

His dad is threatening us, saying if we don’t allow it, he will sue us, etc. I’m just so worried about my son...",2.256595932802832,3.5705860344827585,3.9592758620689668,89.05914367816094,75.92307692307692,7.042581786030063,23.441998231653404,7.675431598112923,0.9143429531388154,1393,41,311,19,30,468,174,377,0.055999999999999994,0.762,0.182,0.9943,0,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,6,0,1,5,19,16,1,0,15,0,34,4,0,7,2,59,61,29,0,10,18,15,2,3,0,2,1,1,0,6,15,16,0,1,3,0,6,7,11,2,1,7,6,5,49,14,35,50,7,39,0,1,2,3,66,7,0,6,27,204,64,8,0.0,0.0,0.07506931725397904,0.0,0.0,0.15034367145210698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052312762475401176,0.08066430381235717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18991224437457266,0.06848103123263155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04689377411685906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072977711022311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785507143913144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626550065171541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426234819310983,0.0,0.0,0.07948579711152116,0.1715871071412123,0.050809329287422704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0388964275218684,0.05495641680761525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04371919009991999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616948160092286,0.0,0.081889853359124,0.06891117182274695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235157387118894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455375418724116,0.06270549006760795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054335570533019684,0.11274743191641814,0.0,0.0,0.13615533565116278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082879252715876,0.07278985978419925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776739909606671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057040139019399715,0.05933057774755408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381319899368699,0.0,0.3228863306063671,0.1638487512526048,0.15638247436948818,0.05850618662246417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856236841990484,0.0,0.0,0.1651808742558272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117516266950741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745909101002842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558004672859166,0.0,0.0897131008554166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445629659224667,0.0,0.1502923256619335,0.0,0.2775998781861974,0.13287985953512993,0.0,0.0,0.3176133343664713,0.061060797103467235,0.0,0.0,0.06916630023837787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200704023985628,0.15624550197767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4458441858635811
parenting,jipcomet15,2020/02/16,Help please I'm a step dad of a lazy 16 yr. old girl. Seriously lazy I'm 64 now married 2 years to a Filipino woman. How to put some fire under the girls butt without making her hate me?? My wife tells her over and over to do something without a response. Teens are the same anywhere in the world. The internet is her full attention now so I'm considering cutting off the wifi perminate. Please help,1.1156250000000014,3.6526993125000047,2.7225,89.79250000000002,87.125,5.7,24.25,7.1686216300943375,1.1636000000000002,315,13,64,5,10,103,59,80,0.126,0.7190000000000001,0.155,0.5415,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,9,0,3,1,1,2,0,8,8,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,11,8,3,13,0,0,0,1,11,7,1,1,4,36,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24967100010697865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390061789689196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880230739051966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653596486148824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5551822849519069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542186792467769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946827736738439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103212071856249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4875430941812405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284926893356452
parenting,Assholecasserole2,2020/02/16,"Disciplining a three year old My son is just over three years old. He’s a sweetheart most of the time, especially when he’s not with me or my wife, I.E when he’s with Grammy or auntie, he always uses good manners and behaves with them. 

Like all three year olds, he throws tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants. Throwing things, hitting, the whole bit. We don’t know what to do about the hitting. Hitting back (not to hurt him) is not something I want to do. I’ve spanked him before, and always felt incredibly guilty afterwards, even though it didn’t even faze him. I’ve put him in time out and let him calm down, but that doesn’t seem to work either. We tell him we’re going to take whatever it is he threw and throw it in the trash, and it makes the tantrum worse. 

We’re at a loss, what should we do? Is it just a phase?",2.885168690958164,4.093870877192984,3.3411695906432755,94.53647773279354,74.14619883040936,6.431129104813316,22.510571300044983,6.67199483983844,0.2352587494376963,644,16,150,5,13,200,99,171,0.107,0.846,0.047,-0.8825,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,2,10,8,2,0,9,0,13,0,0,2,1,32,27,12,0,3,9,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,1,3,0,0,6,7,4,0,3,3,1,14,4,16,19,5,25,0,2,0,0,22,6,0,4,14,89,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715982782760964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549411357298204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388749282316379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817694088093375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558994080158805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670182283660605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526756569061086,0.0,0.09275282450804054,0.13688811188037284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174713691213811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969287292034636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688756172835995,0.0,0.07973342859565707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089402077573994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5137667078861154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406550456022348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857516094268736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564272454966724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270940165289525,0.0,0.14264784364844016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842575488842048,0.0,0.1603474994505764,0.0,0.1903316022253996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095620554665236,0.0,0.0,0.19252437330529093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822118900127575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881475072260587,0.0,0.16631923181590158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31529485819859404
parenting,Fkds1997,2020/02/16,"Becoming a parent at 35 So recently I had quite a lot of people shit on me for waiting till I was 35 to adopt my son"" 

The photo underneath was one of the comments directed at me: 👇🏼

Here was a post I made on my Reddit 13 years ago. 

I don't regret a thing. I achieved all my goals and dreams and I am so happy I waiting for parenthood. All my friends around me have kids going to college but they also are constantly having a mid life crisis trying to make up for their lost youth 🤷🏻‍♂️


There's nothing wrong with me wanting to wait until I'm much older to have kids. I literally just turned 22. I have my entire life ahead of me. It is a fact that having a child would be detrimental to the lifestyle I want to live. I want to travel to foreign countries, I want to go hunting on the weekends, I want to have spontaneous sex all over my house, I want to get my sports pilot license, I want to get a street bike, and a boat. The Reality is you have a lot more time to be old then you have to be young. You have your 30s or 40s and your 50s to be able to raise a child. But you only really have your twenties to do all the young dumb shit while you are still Hot and full of energy. When I'm 35 with my kid I won't have to be upset that I had to turn down fun social events with my friends or parties because I couldn't find a sitter. Honestly I don't care if I'm 40 years old at my child's fun run or at the wiggles reunion show. Because I'm going to be 40 years old and happy knowing that I live my life to the fullest and not sitting there having a midlife crisis realizing I never got to do half the things I wanted to do because I had kids way too young. I don't understand the mentality of thinking you're better than someone because you'll get to travel when you're 40 like what's the fun in traveling when you're old full of wrinkles and have absolutely zero energy???",3.2258623548922074,3.698311818407959,4.893283582089552,86.49889718076288,72.60696517412936,7.846102819237148,26.33167495854063,7.921354282810032,1.3450441127694857,1469,46,328,19,27,500,194,402,0.087,0.7609999999999999,0.151,0.961,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,9,2,6,13,18,3,1,24,0,40,6,2,2,6,49,71,24,0,12,8,2,1,1,2,3,3,0,0,7,7,12,0,3,5,8,0,7,7,7,0,3,9,1,51,11,54,52,10,55,0,2,0,1,24,17,3,6,29,218,58,3,0.09422193458177636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352205998052425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753492470435992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387749798794675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297472671386889,0.10406072410413132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333164427328396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606554186888117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182043832740263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861171412334748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455912658605321,0.0,0.14768121585612415,0.0,0.1606454903044741,0.0,0.07535788842257743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060200282411053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087194620282774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05178191112967802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965521660627145,0.046032077902906116,0.0,0.16639938892314493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285437189167826,0.1602082387463202,0.0,0.08915507269234622,0.06289387297864837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495354882290684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926396323234799,0.0,0.07266976454748329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040848741084268,0.0,0.395480282032697,0.0,0.06384722135544485,0.07166002705242262,0.0,0.0,0.10462230793887313,0.0,0.0,0.06532162579104638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023856798099048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002166254348943,0.0,0.0,0.060360983983609236,0.0,0.09303279338062002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19343492368522175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960473966581072,0.0798339394094045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524575866844127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519373325875086,0.0603736111650324,0.0,0.0,0.05494156776736017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639705086908039,0.20497281663070516,0.0,0.09808835681462323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44459630577983417,0.07478898600095871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693255896752406,0.10301689425808352,0.0,0.18202751004957976
parenting,Coolquayla,2020/02/16,What should I do Okay I have been in many online groups about this situation and I'm currently in an online therapy session as well.  Okay it started in July when the police came to my door and I got arrested and didn't know why but I had a feeling my upstairs nieghbor called because she had called before . Well I was right she called again in this time she said some very crazy stuff where the police believed and arrested me . She claimed to see me choke my child outside my door saying I threaten to kill her cops said I refused to open my door then the cops said they asked my oldest child did I do it she said yes . Well now Ofcourse my kids was with cps while I was in jail I ended up going to a mental hospital . Now I'm fighting in court trying to get this felony charge off of me because I was falsely accused . My daughter was only 7 at the time I just don't know what to do . I can't stop thinking about what this nieghbor did to me I am sitting here stress wondering why she didn't knock on the door if she felt this way 😭I got my kids back but I'm just very stressed out on why I still have to go to court for this criminal part 😡 she told them she been calling for a whole year I'm so hurt 😭,1.62359590792839,3.389750149019612,2.8476385336743384,94.39350383631714,78.88235294117645,5.689684569479966,22.851662404092075,6.498293943080001,0.3674450127877241,948,30,214,8,23,305,134,255,0.20800000000000002,0.73,0.062,-0.9937,1,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,16,10,2,2,9,3,22,0,0,0,0,23,46,12,1,2,5,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,4,4,12,8,0,2,6,0,0,3,4,5,3,0,22,8,40,5,29,23,3,36,0,1,1,0,31,15,0,3,16,138,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978437746455564,0.0,0.0,0.08207391027988735,0.0,0.1301313659012905,0.0,0.09082504410201396,0.12025567535930885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43596029318480295,0.12207831477980992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453700793501564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539692671087604,0.0,0.10248394113487178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05576550434937904,0.0,0.12132181789469987,0.0,0.17073413014218472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426381213498958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180883102985768,0.0,0.11731936415533532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821422975288963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756545798684668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117804679022309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558541150924365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115253243802053,0.40612406006788543,0.08488128357485519,0.0,0.0,0.08505530624032959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997648845682347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554876394680766,0.0,0.08524004203185763,0.08923663494038997,0.2445329882629206,0.0,0.1221879498979302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206268361126694,0.0,0.0,0.06839254789095206,0.0,0.0,0.12447802051998233,0.0,0.0,0.10199146167724628,0.0,0.07246719211949962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613786118802807,0.0,0.08472259995852059,0.0,0.0,0.28790725295203856,0.0,0.2889397268236573,0.11916767955923815,0.0,0.0,0.11575136484430798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873491557156307
parenting,luvyaemcreel,2020/02/16,"Feeling some guilt? So I have a grandma Toni, for the past 10 years anytime I saw her it would be less than five minutes, and it would be once every year or couple of years. Mind you she'd tell me she'd come and see me many times and never did, she taught me not to believe people. Well 6 months ago, I was in my 3rd trimester and just had my baby shower. I asked her why she didn't come, she stated that her car was broke down (she owns a taxi company) and I had messages from my aunt showing Toni telling my aunt how she went to see my cousins (who are in foster care because of Toni)! I sent these messages to Toni and asked why my cousins have always been more important to her than me, no answer. So I sent her the screenshots I got from my aunt of Toni calling my aunt vulgar things, and asked her what was keeping her from calling me these things, no answer. And at some point in this mess she compared me to my cousin! Saying how he would graduate ""like I didn't"" when I plan on going back to school next year! I told her she would not be seeing my daughter. Fast forward to today, it was my little brothers birthday, we showed up a little early and played with him. We told my mother that if she showed up, which we doubted, that we would walk around the pond. Well SURPRISE she came to a birthday party for my brother for the first time in 5 years!!! So we walked off, and she stayed for 30 minutes trying to wait us out so that she could see my baby!! Meanwhile I missed out on watching him open gifts I spent 12 hours making, and all she could talk about was how she wanted to see Sammy. We avoided drama, but my mother wanted to make me out to be the bad guy. Saying how it was supposed to be about my brother, how we missed cake and presents like I wanted to. Am I in the wrong? I'm standing my ground on something for the first time, and I genuinely believe it's best for my daughter.",4.211005154639175,4.615016935567012,4.4220783505154655,91.00127216494849,70.3659793814433,6.620371134020619,26.08701030927835,5.414198509911553,0.5846347216494849,1473,41,321,4,25,459,188,388,0.069,0.8690000000000001,0.062,-0.5476,3,1,1,0,0,0,45.0,8,1,0,4,17,17,0,3,11,0,30,0,0,7,2,64,63,26,0,11,6,14,1,2,0,5,0,2,1,1,17,29,0,3,3,5,1,11,7,9,2,3,22,10,75,8,48,27,7,58,0,3,7,0,67,23,0,5,25,224,92,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954477556854242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466681399875995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988328777161244,0.2516706905178921,0.0,0.0,0.06900077346269239,0.07492508260917638,0.054701700383989575,0.0,0.0,0.2022015177484276,0.09417147932143173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832591948293293,0.10263307930745856,0.09149094226857457,0.0,0.0,0.15459773203206587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329239381463846,0.0992902109749575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560571454293717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04537277633074683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526573059684654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050998540486779015,0.0,0.07176937833299307,0.0,0.0,0.08885188363287504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837102409774371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976070374784802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768010048109796,0.1798763425623437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11979778783927447,0.0909773340536046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906068974224785,0.0,0.07162572205996373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920926175547254,0.0,0.09543432533631276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556498136592244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566233223745938,0.06221103819197831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482869974819983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427219490139583,0.0,0.09081673901492486,0.3575363899243332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908248464455083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564570549187254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721256957867005,0.15686491205507294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923206176880025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697582214055558,0.0,0.08505840771928684,0.17149151827472067,0.0,0.06092426070432212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794030870233054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878430816708705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613653114326142,0.08318536152797629,0.16194398899676551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187262971328426,0.09811127426021714,0.0,0.28893239777153346
parenting,mytoenailfelloff,2020/02/16,"Nothing we do seems to help our 17 year old daughter’s anxiety/ depression Our daughter suffers from anxiety and depression. Over the years, we have tried it all: therapy, medication, mindfulness classes, RET therapy, talking, etc. 

We have seen through observation that the BEST she does is when she’s on a very full and routine schedule, which includes going to running practice. Her older brother used to motivate her to go as he was also on the team, but has since moved out and she is not as good at sticking to a routine on her own. 

At this point, we are at a loss. She turns 18 in less than 2 months. We don’t think 18 is some magic age where a child is miraculously an adult, but this year we have been trying to step back and let her make her own decisions as she will be going away to college in the fall and we want her to learn more independence. 

She is a 3.9 student, so even with all this going on, her grades haven’t suffered, but basically all she wants to do when she gets home from school is go into the basement and watch TV and lay around. She has friends at school but never hangs out with them outside of school. 

We had another talk with her a day or so ago and mentioned that she is much happier when she goes to practice and is social. She blew up and said it’s so annoying that she has to exercise etc to feel better and that it’s annoying that we point that out. 

Honestly, I’m just exhausted from years and years of trying to help her. I’m worried about her going away to school and I think that her attitude that lifestyle modifications are annoying is the thing that’s most keeping her from being healthier right now. But we also feel like she’s at a point in life where forcing her to do things isn’t going to change her attitude so we have been taking the “let her make her choices in a safe environment” approach for now. 

Should we be doing more? What even more is there to do? I wish her medication was working better (she just switched to Wellbutrin from an SSRI in early Jan).",6.469469696969696,6.149102765151522,6.656767676767675,79.39681818181819,65.54040404040404,10.02828282828283,33.15151515151516,9.573946990214177,2.8420242424242423,1589,60,318,28,22,511,191,396,0.09,0.81,0.1,0.655,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,14,0,1,7,21,17,3,0,17,0,39,5,0,5,4,67,65,31,0,4,9,3,2,1,1,2,5,1,1,2,19,33,0,2,8,3,0,13,5,9,0,0,7,5,49,8,58,51,16,63,0,5,2,0,62,30,0,4,21,238,68,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806018691404076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408436599726373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233895497595336,0.13473185325784098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839238127445552,0.0,0.0,0.1654711949695669,0.06771297341922776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241390431064088,0.15576444664663958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315617379079084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056791640623724174,0.0,0.15169250063672232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706220561107074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642113564413205,0.1163260611619134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905191763688225,0.06291033155189417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803520787666761,0.0,0.046007898257099035,0.0,0.3503270833315312,0.07386084348708072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804999258848645,0.0,0.08833171093497152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827208510491665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800953480537604,0.06219962937649045,0.043021838852878136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756193469380505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774230761774232,0.0,0.0,0.08891585019817523,0.0,0.07028893113207826,0.09359421572442027,0.06473448951791998,0.0,0.0679175705783433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449628071376243,0.0,0.09240452385719557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24973648278058205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752030576467308,0.08376555835619963,0.0,0.0,0.3564871015982725,0.0,0.08016683521828244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284443141398328,0.0,0.0,0.08976643700463242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621042386645222,0.14155914713880055,0.0,0.0,0.20140936925420905,0.0,0.11700676708552744,0.11285103296822364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793615914126695,0.09578437350695844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605586850019833,0.0,0.07265901107959824,0.10388055185228454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126505645496768,0.0,0.0,0.06410898350872192,0.08942955985756061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835398907642069
parenting,riverofchex,2020/02/16,"When do you reckon it's safe for a baby to share a room with their toddler sibling? I'll be weaning my daughter (6 mos) in a couple or three months, at which point I'd like to move her out of my room and into the nursery that she will share with her brother (2 years).

My son is very gentle for a toddler, but two year olds are only so coordinated and I know for a fact that he can climb into the crib. He hasn't done so when she was in there as of yet (naptimes, during which I monitor constantly via a security camera,) but I can't exactly stay up watching the camera all night.

How old/big do y'all think she should be before I put her in there for the night?

I tried Googling, but the only things I found were about how to introduce a baby sibling to a toddler which is great/helpful, but doesn't actually answer my question.

Other potentially relevant information: He's around 40 lbs; she can roll over and sit up with assistance, and is roughly 18 lbs. Crying does not seem to interrupt his sleep- we've had several sleepovers with other toddler friends.

Basically I don't want him to climb in there and hurt her accidentally.

Thoughts?",4.358507709251104,5.451835960352426,5.537838656387667,80.62852009911894,70.45374449339207,8.494383259911894,29.165473568281946,8.841846274778883,2.225123568281938,901,34,179,16,16,300,140,227,0.06,0.853,0.08800000000000001,0.4866,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,1,2,12,7,0,0,13,0,20,1,1,2,3,36,26,17,0,2,6,3,1,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,9,13,0,2,9,0,0,4,5,1,0,2,6,2,24,6,30,16,1,31,0,1,1,0,24,15,0,3,11,120,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.15825223463067287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436359112886984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799272698057935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524561986066564,0.0,0.0,0.17943542160243586,0.17813355006439988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191400441551116,0.16595381060908426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778084592373361,0.1252903250621803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787904079776595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869755826873713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360382466749824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891231000627908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922692298406858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294406720381529,0.172358549022292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043667102733797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34033534085090794,0.0,0.0,0.24667161262169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330084762478466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302328048693962,0.18166488318248486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763133908420736,0.0,0.18320328669751051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622847667632798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728491391132721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773698163159484,0.10391048286221613,0.0,0.12874300077022546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010119021757307,0.0,0.15841423136548588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380529583097547,0.09565068231146627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20886130102720327
parenting,ksugar21,2020/02/16,"If you only have one child, do you regret not having another? I currently have a 14 month old. And am debating having another child. I am leaving more towards yes, however my husband says no. I feel like she should have a sibling growing up. 

When I was pregnant, I got really sick. I was hospitalized for a bit, and was sent home with a PICC line for fluids because I was throwing up so much. My husband doesn’t want me to go through with that again. I will admit, it was awful. But...... part of me wants another. 

So I’m wondering how other people feel about having an only child.",1.8294736842105264,4.1915283508771966,3.951842105263157,83.6503947368421,81.28070175438596,6.957894736842108,25.28947368421053,8.07648339933343,1.8507684210526318,448,18,85,9,12,153,79,114,0.10300000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.091,-0.513,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,5,2,17,1,0,1,0,16,27,8,0,5,3,2,2,1,0,2,1,1,1,3,3,4,0,0,4,0,0,4,3,1,0,1,7,3,15,1,11,18,4,12,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,2,6,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6095218511091584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811412092802323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21153542021829175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594146261451625,0.13842197568508036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011810850346328,0.0,0.15496734053688185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943567875361806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051635564129456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466120722489244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465715210972972,0.0,0.1424356812782655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20331822196805813,0.0,0.1312965941752497,0.29472598151483936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982288440549968,0.0,0.13432858643304355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412743185790705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408549849989475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285689944391449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21012414048085765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhymeswithfondle,2020/02/16,"My 15 year old stepson is about to go on his 1st date And my husband is talking to him about condoms (again!) Life is weird, yo.

Love this kid, and my husband for being a good dad.",0.17684210526315525,2.1284227368421083,1.778157894736843,99.2346052631579,84.78947368421052,3.8,22.657894736842106,3.1291,-0.3337052631578956,136,5,32,0,4,44,30,38,0.039,0.789,0.172,0.7712,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,6,5,0,6,0,0,0,2,8,1,0,0,4,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26785649775754017,0.39531270802152735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329003943890326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42537593568500104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4945608638468523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37882135620645385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30350837265954644
parenting,BallsOutKrunked,2020/02/16,"Online math course recommendations for algebra / middle school I'm looking for recommendations on online courses hopefully with real teachers that help pursue a real curriculum. We're in a rural school district and I'd like something online and structured to assist in this area, fine with paying for it. 

I know of Kahn academy which we use for specific questions, but I'm looking for a holistic and managed ciriculum (like a real school) towards algebra, and then trig, and eventually calc, etc.",9.456352941176467,10.405353694117649,9.364705882352943,58.201176470588244,59.11764705882353,11.505882352941176,41.70588235294117,11.20814326018867,5.409282352941178,404,21,53,10,5,132,57,85,0.0,0.9129999999999999,0.087,0.5927,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,16,7,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,13,7,1,7,0,0,2,0,3,6,0,2,3,31,6,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20284670227293986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191178724933127,0.0,0.0,0.1806500379138455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999576861422542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777168858820795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054704357495104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20374966045200954,0.0,0.0,0.6210651988995232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5522234106190622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002178342248642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708780079268914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rlhagy,2020/02/17,"3 year old regressing? Since my 9 month old has started eating mostly finger foods my 3 year old will not eat ANYTHING unless I feed him like a baby. Full dinner routine in place with whole family eating, house cleaning, bath, book, and bed. I've tried restricting his fluids before dinner, getting special place settings for him, everything. Is this a normal phase or a regression? How do I stop it or do I wait for it to pass? Finally thought I was done shoveling food into other people's mouths 😬",5.126413373860185,6.766324042553197,5.8407598784194565,77.10500000000002,69.21276595744679,8.350151975683891,28.322188449848017,8.841846274778883,2.4469592705167167,396,14,66,7,7,129,75,94,0.055,0.88,0.066,0.2359,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,10,2,1,0,14,11,5,0,1,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,3,8,3,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,9,2,7,7,3,16,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,3,10,38,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309118198722395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728113588434395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307175951115368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4591715075438628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443240800532705,0.0,0.14101023863170092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385702884719353,0.0,0.0,0.3617442458307907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814911412297235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259465794986573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307698724913876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939292836040286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655614946313844,0.0,0.0,0.4708755640199653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369959020954704,0.0,0.3125574784097199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373370659060742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058731386797601,0.0,0.0,0.12505515818910035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874941334770095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155466059514263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700016790484568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19264858531830947
parenting,RightMeow0129,2020/02/17,"My 6th grader wants to start college early and study programming and security, but his school has been very discouraging towards him. Is there an accredited online source where he could get ahead with his classes and graduate early? My 6th grade son is very into school and reading and regularly makes straight A's.  He has expressed interest in trying to graduate and attend college early if possible.  However, we have gotten a lot of pushback from his guidance counselor and she said I should just let him be a kid even though the whole thing is his idea.

Is there an accredited program online where he could earn the extra credits he needs to obtain his diploma and apply to college early?  We don't want to take him out of school unless that is our only option",8.077642857142859,8.421837621428573,7.8392857142857135,70.02821428571433,62.07142857142857,10.142857142857146,35.35714285714286,9.827888789773867,3.5750714285714285,617,25,99,11,8,197,93,140,0.038,0.882,0.08,0.7217,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,7,0,15,0,0,1,0,28,24,12,0,7,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,13,0,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,15,3,15,16,3,14,0,1,0,0,20,7,0,3,6,74,17,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29877222640063456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357942971138045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775332839504858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112159364560252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132497209871316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906784572743565,0.0,0.0,0.1248923646181506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873412519972342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229987442840475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092994424943065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871531220942592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797731355669388,0.0,0.0,0.5680731249078185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243210508172393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067778691442376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430258021610092,0.0,0.18382724596584848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703030864282688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087582975963261,0.22071579193488525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889324771541926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,i_R_Batman,2020/02/17,"How to get a toddler to stop scratching My 2 (almost 3) year old has always had really bad eczema. He has a cream that was prescribed by the dermatologist that we put on him religiously. It’s really bad around his ankles to the point where it is open and will bleed because he won’t stop scratching! At this point I’m worried that he will get an infection. We put bandaids on it, socks, shoes, anything we can think of to get him to stop scratching. So far nothing has worked. If he would stop scratching, the skin would heal, but he won’t stop! Any tips on getting him to stop scratching so this will heal and not be open?",4.033001792114696,5.239209056451613,4.24784946236559,89.14732974910395,71.33870967741936,7.124014336917562,26.681003584229394,7.3871296695380915,1.1398541218637992,489,16,104,5,9,152,75,124,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.9322,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,6,0,15,7,2,1,0,22,21,7,0,3,3,0,6,0,0,7,5,0,0,0,8,8,0,6,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,7,8,0,13,11,0,21,0,0,1,0,12,11,0,2,8,59,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885883577130653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538526458119874,0.0,0.0,0.09430094032897668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411430262312408,0.12344646572567862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315687523716109,0.08453246943083607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897992046151137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305843057069758,0.0,0.14551174108742074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26217757100731953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27880503179162264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17767220814268012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6956102916123517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885468808917747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095403796588527,0.14082699002557575,0.0,0.1970156011974454,0.0,0.0,0.08929948762378485
parenting,account184628,2020/02/17,"ADHD? Parents of kids with ADD/ADHD. I need help. 

Our son is 6 and in kindergarten. He’s always been a busy kid from the time he was a baby. I’ve suspected for a long time that he may have some form of ADHD. He’s a smart kid but extremely impulsive and can be intense. 
His behavior has been mostly manageable until this school year when he started kindergarten. His teacher has struggled with misbehavior due to his impulsivity. At home he’s been more defiant, rambunctious and quick to anger. He takes up a lot of our energy and his behavior intensifies if his dad and I aren’t on our parenting “A” game 100% of the time. It’s exhausting. 
Those of you who have kids with ADD/ADHD how did you go about determining your child diagnosis? What advice do you have?",2.321418918918919,4.877533641891894,4.122905405405408,81.97868243243248,80.82432432432431,8.024324324324324,24.114864864864863,8.841846274778883,2.1284918918918923,601,22,116,16,16,202,97,148,0.111,0.836,0.053,-0.8855,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,4,0,0,4,4,1,1,8,0,16,1,0,1,0,17,20,10,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,6,8,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,14,1,18,13,5,15,0,0,0,0,31,4,0,5,10,77,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.758375642945793,0.15415884600512622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312669141527938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965724767775651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057415562372172,0.0,0.15824367921681476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961046194159388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341198222938469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697521980502887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35034216613422664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965905662061336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116616014904473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492243763720849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186140397851627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27596907736455384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159068593677142
parenting,rabblerabble106,2020/02/17,"First time mom with friend who won’t stop discussing fitness and diet routine, which makes me feel insecure. Am I being too sensitive? Advice? First time mom here to a beautiful, 2 month old baby boy. So, there are two things things that will help with this story 1.) the hormones are real and 2.) I am insecure about my post pregnancy body, and haven’t had time to hit the gym since my son has been born. 

Enter our couple friends. They’ve always been nice and come over pretty much every Sunday since we moved closer to them. Ever since my son has been born, however, the wife has been making a point of discussing how much she works out. Like the ridiculously high amount of miles she runs every day. I counted one time and between her and her husband they mentioned that she ran 18 miles that day 10 times in one night.  Or, for example, during the super bowl when she pointed out to my husband that she burned 2,000 calories that day, which is why she was allowed to have a mini pig in a blanket. She simply can’t have a conversation without mentioning her workout and diet regimen. 

So here’s where I am at a crossroads. Her newfound constant discussion of her fitness and diet make me feel so insecure. Try as I might, I can’t escape the guilt of not working out and eating like her, especially since she can’t go too long without discussing it. So since I also have a ton of hormones, I have to wonder if she knows what she’s doing hurts my feelings? Like I know she’s a little jealous that we have a baby and her husband doesn’t want one yet, so do you think this is her way of overcompensating? Or am I just being too sensitive? Any advice on how to handle this??",4.648328679696848,5.799368253822633,5.182917165270577,83.2263661747108,69.82568807339449,7.6441430660816385,27.67304879670257,7.893859768569023,1.6741355936710547,1317,44,252,16,23,422,178,327,0.063,0.8220000000000001,0.115,0.9481,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,3,1,2,5,20,14,2,4,15,0,34,5,1,6,1,43,49,23,0,2,7,8,3,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,16,18,4,1,7,2,0,6,9,7,0,6,7,3,42,7,29,36,4,48,0,1,0,0,45,18,0,5,25,178,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457247959501087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961593558915889,0.08283964766655433,0.0,0.0,0.06770237690082033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058571497458466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575979719582925,0.0,0.10758607122966664,0.0,0.0,0.11015825710790238,0.0,0.19261866396170807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187197080548743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005527619707758,0.16776263560459442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101748435207907,0.07112375389423004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693667743793525,0.0,0.0,0.15383544361616686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658070699927601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673115856298796,0.1051877518712285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657814706735624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942817514283862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459160015454027,0.09978256767230252,0.0,0.08810507622922116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993658093407388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561456072979092,0.0,0.2332006093464388,0.07946568577853723,0.10581365255746636,0.14637213911814226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934277803846012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044686373670018,0.0,0.20238780594743905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822765356693816,0.0,0.09534837172129088,0.10128556400293803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331800148511365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41177413030954463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323435937212642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322828905978001,0.0637922968894281,0.0,0.0,0.2902633066792628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759287052444965,0.0,0.09725301432943513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058721474057437474,0.07902394948665449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983497669012103,0.0,0.0,0.19193936596111966,0.10796564332239876,0.1449577979643092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,confused123456,2020/02/17,"My kid is 10lbs overweight putting him barely in the obese category He is also tall for his age. The average height of a 9 year old. He is about to turn 8. I honestly don't know when it happened. He looks fine just a little tummy weight on him but this is obviously very serious. He tends to binge on candies and cupcakes ever since little even with me trying to teach moderation so we don't have it in the home. Kids trade food at lunch and he doesn't get cooked lunch because it's all nuggets, pizza, quesadillas at his school. I usually make him a sandwich, popcorn, some carrots(varies but right now it's carrots) and some fruit(varies). I noticed he does not eat veggies at school at all and sometimes he does not eat his fruit at school. When he comes home we have a snack.   


I just am at a loss. I don't know how to stop him from trading food or how to help him scale back at parties(It's embarrassing to tell him to stop at one slice and it's important to note there are a lot of heavier kids in his class so he looks slender so just bad eating habits. He is the leaner one in the friend group. )  


I'm just at a loss what to do to help him. Do I count calories? I don't even know how many calories he needs at this age. Do I tell the lunch ladies to not allow trades but that seems like it's not their job?",1.6308742548963977,3.643246542435429,2.7133763837638405,94.17365810388876,79.88560885608857,5.7928470053931305,21.862191314220837,6.844919456158928,0.34947277888163475,1027,31,231,11,26,327,142,271,0.095,0.831,0.07400000000000001,-0.7018,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,1,2,20,9,0,1,13,0,17,17,1,5,4,40,31,18,0,1,12,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,2,3,10,9,16,2,4,1,3,2,9,5,0,2,0,4,24,4,33,31,5,35,0,2,2,0,34,21,0,5,13,136,34,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301928811053344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944119436441393,0.0971204892368409,0.07090624018517258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019746957223488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035809494743885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570663887557388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365359576832566,0.10521609299018628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28130384701544203,0.0,0.08986682970847648,0.0,0.060771240170393724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285943033302086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593071458336288,0.0,0.2333524383093357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154274503449765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19177563277434487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05682699276741721,0.2331619503566464,0.0,0.0,0.195355282722154,0.0,0.0,0.09888921855451392,0.0,0.0,0.07764302259852726,0.11792797398487533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624816137481939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242856557040852,0.1220559452808742,0.0,0.15763987860111306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693149793303005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933475013917334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531594153869011,0.0,0.1058913399939736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621927113029743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504126047470105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944937479623306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333373647848124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897213856754466,0.12652034514669222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810760344093666,0.09597435179904652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141643722084504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490483787470148
parenting,Cas_Castle,2020/02/17,"I made a mistake and gave my 2 year old some of my Ramen And now it's the only thing I can offer him that he'll eat. I'm a little mortified...I know ramen is the devil's soup but he begged me for a bite, so I cut up a few noods and put them on his tray, and now I'm in it deep my friends.
Is this even safe? I've given it to him a few times since as a side (maybe half a cup prepared) as a last resort when he absolutely won't eat anything else I give him. I don't want to feed him crap, but it breaks my heart when he won't eat, so what do I do? Are there any healthier alternatives that taste similar and will trick him into eating if he thinks it's the same stuff?

I'm trying to metaphorically replace his dead goldfish with a new one before he wakes up here. Please help 

-a desperate mom of a self-starving toddler


TL;DR: kid tried ramen and wobt eat anything else now, need help",1.7201727115716745,2.7685676839378246,3.612455958549223,92.07999654576858,76.8238341968912,6.597443868739205,21.156822107081176,7.0316486544052195,0.27470044905008617,685,16,164,7,15,232,120,193,0.109,0.795,0.095,-0.1864,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,10,7,3,0,14,0,10,10,3,1,0,20,22,15,1,4,3,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,11,8,7,1,2,0,0,1,3,5,0,2,3,1,19,2,14,15,4,20,1,0,0,0,22,8,1,2,10,93,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088726445815874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21996677370945114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372715885309866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6837917053514836,0.22329652492260826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827522633810678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325843262093293,0.0,0.0,0.1282102195437865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837708089193656,0.1791668988165207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345109543163159,0.10894340480361768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395341539680558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646380965237064,0.0,0.0,0.1342703954394292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653043824829682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910052450822257,0.0,0.12908097057793094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024424409600209,0.0,0.09056537788029777,0.1016476095770072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467086655695184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435617167925615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942714330182251,0.0,0.0,0.1105574899779285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529984215847822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879178702000833,0.0856381655001034,0.0,0.0,0.07793297406767455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148051457163247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788308237663449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606686337725812
parenting,HughesJu420,2020/02/17,"HELP, I just caught my Daughter... Let me preface this with I AM BEING %100 SERIOUS RIGHT NOW!

I am a father of 3 daughters... (My wife will not stop laughing at me right now) I was looking for my 2 youngest daughters (5 and 7) as they were being very quiet. I walked past their bathroom which was closed and the bath was running. I said ""Hey what are you guys doig in there?!?!?!?"", so from there I escalated and opened the door. The curtain was shut, water was running... still no answer. At this point it worried me bad, so I wooshed back the curtain to find my oldest daughter (12)  with her legs in the air, biting her lip and the water was on to say the least... I AM MORTIFIED TO SEE HER!!!! 

   Does my wife talk to her? Do I talk to her? Do I move out? WTF  do we do?!?!?!?! LMAO I am mortified of dinner tonight...",-0.21162430616418604,2.030961153374236,1.5537072743207716,97.7480777096115,90.84049079754601,4.086356996786445,20.03184341221151,5.622346879071545,-0.23929541338007576,600,20,136,4,21,195,100,163,0.114,0.8270000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.8507,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,1,1,2,0,9,3,0,0,8,0,20,5,2,0,0,15,24,7,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,5,10,3,1,2,1,0,5,2,2,0,0,9,5,29,1,18,11,1,26,0,0,2,0,23,13,0,0,8,96,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312486826785814,0.18798912542169505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19702847949457802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057811382145565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229318582582209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150911918232939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23022902283750366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890675645995143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392966288395573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149291847017649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128375774973196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845502210580341,0.2141672492509786,0.17904667862406715,0.0,0.0,0.1794137581373149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17980343567873558,0.18823375925477065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619307713572666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857706298577096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22864866195930944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chicagoant,2020/02/17,"Wife works so hard and is exhausting herself My beautiful wife made the decision to continue working after giving birth to our first child 1-year ago.  She is a wonderful mother that is always alert and ensuring that our baby is well cared for.  This oftentimes comes at a cost as she doesn’t give herself any leniency or any breaks from being a mom.  

In the entire first year of motherhood she has spent less than 18 hours apart from our baby.  On top of this, she still continues to work full time.  Yes, full time!  She works from home 40+ hours a week.  I have done everything that I can to shift my work schedule and be more available to her when she needs me.  The challenge is that she likes things to be done her way.  Remember I mentioned that she doesn’t give herself any leniency?  Well, that also applies to me as well.  I of course, want the best for our baby but my wife’s insistence on having our baby be within her sight or earshot at all times doesn’t really make for a good handoff.  Day care is also out of the questions as she doesn’t want to be apart from the baby for that long.

I have a decently paying job and am confident that I can provide for my family.  However, I don’t want to insist and push her to make a decision that she is not comfortable with.  I know that in a few more years she will want to get back to work and that it may be difficult for her to get back into the workforce.  

My question is: how hard can I push her to quit her job and take care of our baby full time without intruding upon her values?  She is very stubborn and it takes a lot to convince her things but she will budge at times.  For those that left their jobs to be parents, did it take much convincing from your spouse?",5.244487818383167,5.467992424418603,5.582873754152825,84.2124031007752,68.06976744186046,9.343078626799556,28.299557032115175,9.23628265651192,2.08860454042082,1350,41,281,24,21,431,168,344,0.045,0.795,0.161,0.986,5,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,6,1,1,12,13,16,1,0,16,1,35,1,0,4,1,38,58,20,0,5,6,7,2,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,20,12,0,1,7,0,3,3,7,3,3,2,5,3,49,13,51,43,11,47,0,0,1,0,47,18,0,7,25,208,69,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740640862639507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966405061628182,0.07265957913526055,0.0,0.0,0.17814753022144295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342917125107266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163990918580993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26709429546706465,0.0,0.0,0.07522087486485128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056315993010934665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17872311951232114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848011742660638,0.0,0.08232018045627176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855348727984574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124513566569603,0.2513040093905502,0.0,0.07324223600370097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644818439427055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759190544637499,0.0,0.1719907700575162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25996326560249633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047990336604415415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487649631233903,0.0,0.0,0.04266151760271799,0.0,0.0,0.07727794526919353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423873642846232,0.0,0.08262696094359899,0.11657731701102822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227142803288156,0.0,0.0,0.06419231808095882,0.0647487624367766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696165446160394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956430798970628,0.09287856479330957,0.0,0.0,0.0559412326805163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891972923980327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973611455764668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19696767306400972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602679910373966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545931844932187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205046931556228,0.2060210399923348,0.06931278769338149,0.07004509666869327,0.0,0.23554109893959155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417607958908763,0.09469787023298,0.3814323052721018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869909371761846
parenting,DMX8,2020/02/17,"Child keeps asking for help at meal time Meals with my five-year-old are usually a struggle. She's a picky eater, keeps making excuses to stay at the dinner table(has to go to the bathroom, etc) and takes forever to eat by herself. But more often than not, and if the food is not her favourite, she keeps asking to be ""spoon-fed"". How would you deal with this scenario?",6.41,6.074862222222228,5.688333333333336,86.34,65.66666666666667,8.866666666666667,30.5,8.07648339933343,1.8371000000000004,288,9,60,3,4,87,57,72,0.033,0.9279999999999999,0.039,0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,5,0,4,5,0,2,0,15,12,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,12,10,2,6,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,2,38,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897999451760657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149329706176352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21332633767685052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325094923968224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25209395793591965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848357219248308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973925852829988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5559178563010838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391615300013748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876392137485792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222111602288914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794779621365065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567504636818565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156593749244365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296104595493721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809769015163074,0.0,0.0,0.13425381308308446
parenting,WhittyWhippy,2020/02/17,"Meeting 3 year old son for the first time tomorrow. I'm gonna keep this short. I'm meeting my 3 year old son tomorrow, for the first time since the birth. The plan is for me to be a ""normal"" part of his life. 
Any tips? Anything I might not have thought about?",0.1949696969696965,2.245862709090911,1.5013636363636391,100.6253787878788,85.54545454545455,5.121212121212121,20.075757575757574,6.42735559955562,-0.137060606060607,199,6,49,2,6,63,39,55,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,5,9,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,4,0,6,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,11,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340903559585299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19774254715048795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40879009763356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21358549245680766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697276679572465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25491532651825805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23543836225747344,0.0,0.0,0.5042989644857746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602163797884665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987747449865043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907676170534929,0.28023622912268503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094845735556801
parenting,throwawaywtf98765,2020/02/17,"HELP! 2 year old only cries. Literally So I recently hooked back up with an old flame from years ago. We started dating, and she moved in with me. She has a 2 year old son living with us as well. 

I've become concerned with the little guy. He literally ONLY CRIES.  He is not speaking at all yet.  He can (sort of) mimic ""Mama"" - but he isn't truly saying it. This part doesn't severely concern me yet.

What truly concerns me (and is driving me batshit crazy) - is that he is almost always crying. From the time he wakes up, until the time he goes to bed. He cries all day.   


Typical Day:

He wakes up around 8-9 am. Starts crying (this part seems normal)

He gets fed within about an hour of waking up, in which he is generally silent during this time. As soon as he is done, back to crying.

She or I wipe off his hands mouth with wet wipes (to which he cries as though he is being murdered during this time)

We turn on children's educational programming for him, to which he is mildly content. But this only for a small period of time. He will most certainly start wailing like a banshee within the hour

My girlfriend will dance with him in her arms, read to him, play with him with his toys. And during all of this, he will still belt-cry at the top of his lungs.

I get home generally around 6:30 pm. By the time I come in the door, he is just walking around the house crying loudly. She goes to give him a bath before bedtime, and he is also scream-crying at this time. Drying him off also makes him scream cry. 

I would estimate that roughly 85-90% of the day is spent with him crying.  Enough to where my roommate that lives upstairs stopped me and said, ""Damn man, that kid is perpetually pissed off isn't he?"" - he laughed about it.  But he has been staying at his ....ex-wife's house a lot. Which I believe to be because of the kid.

This is becoming more than I can handle. Any parents who might have experience in this area, or ways to stop them from this behavior - I will gladly accept any and all advice.

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parenting,tokki0,2020/02/17,"Choosing a mattress for toddler’s first bed We’ve just ordered a twin sized bed for my 2.5 year old. I’ve been researching mattresses, but Googling hasn’t really been any help. I thought I’d get some advice from real people! Our budget is $300 (is this too low??) and my daughter sleeps in a trillion different positions. Any recommendations on a mattress for her to use for a few years? TIA!",3.33436090225564,5.612387473684212,4.325864661654137,83.38605263157895,75.57894736842105,7.50075187969925,29.27819548872181,8.418075326091056,2.3186037593984965,312,14,59,6,7,101,60,76,0.0,0.8540000000000001,0.146,0.9121,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,5,1,1,1,0,8,8,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,3,0,5,0,8,5,2,8,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,32,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745722782948675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821546790240462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935663003442123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23900307590048314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146801455047477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883362567823849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948432566817482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479748300964614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198189374401808,0.1800042116159995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811848397682835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22306825689726387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426781614395068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618862856597944
parenting,dDoubleThinks,2020/02/17,"Gender Identification, Nature Vs Nature Story 
Just wanted to Share this just to see some thoughts out there.
 I have a Nephew that his parents went through a divorce when he was about 3. The mom, my sister is a girly girl that likes Britney Spears as music for example, growing up she was a very feminine girl, pink rooms unicorns etc. fast forward in her life she is a die hard feminist that fights for woman’s and LBGTQ rights through her profession. Very proud of her.
So after their Divorce, the father is a bit distant The mom is still somewhat of a girly girl and really spends a lot of time with the kid doing things she knows and loves and sharing it with her son including for example listening to Britney spears, watching make up tutorials on YouTube and watching Princess themed Disney movies over and over again. 
  An insight to her parenting style, my sister never disciplines her son, she can’t even tell him NO on standard matters of child rearing- like no ice cream after 10pm, getting him to go to bed or even just correcting for talking out of place or being disrespectful to family members like grandma and grandpa.
During the divorce while watching these movies my nephew that is around 3 yrs old tells the mom the dresses the princess wear are pretty and that he would like to dress like a beautiful princess like In the movies they love. My sister goes ahead and buys him an excellent princess dress and he begins to wear them inside the house.
Fast forward 3-4 years later to today.
    My nephew unfortunately is a spoiled brat with no manners, he has 20-30 princess dresses on his specialized princess dress rack. He now tells me and my family that he is a girl and asks questions frequently about gay marriage and homosexuality. 
    My sister is now getting remarried and having a wedding, and of Course without asking her son has already planned it so that her son is the flower girl wearing a dress at this wedding. (She’s has gone through multiple marriages already)

     The point of this post is from the observation of this situation and what the boy is today- was this nature or nurture?
Was he really born this way (gender identity disorder) and it’s just a pure coincidence? It could be.
Was he really just so affected socially by the trauma of divorce and circumstance of the situation that led him to the person he is to today(some kind of general personality disorder)? Would he have been different with other parents?
Is it normal for a 6-7 year child regardless of how cool the parents to have 20-30 princess dresses and not give them some sort of discipline structure, girl or boy? 
How much influence does an Adult have on a child’s personality during these formative years?

 His Reality- parents divorce, wears a dress once, years later he hasn’t grown out of it and thinks he’s a girl and has social problems at school with other kids. 

As a note, I have a son that is gay and I really can care less about the actual gay straight or gender “identification” lol - I love my nephew and just want him to find happiness. To me it was interesting and complex observation of human development. Your thoughts?",6.659176320350268,7.8386920502599695,6.590074340965064,74.8597680835538,65.23916811091854,9.747860986956127,34.248335309678005,9.87579492184292,3.4428814558058924,2511,110,436,53,38,795,269,577,0.043,0.84,0.11800000000000001,0.9919,7,0,0,0,6,0,53.0,0,1,4,4,23,23,1,0,42,2,41,11,4,6,3,84,63,38,1,8,14,23,1,6,0,2,1,1,2,20,28,33,0,2,10,0,2,8,8,3,0,0,11,9,40,20,70,47,8,56,0,0,6,6,107,23,0,11,33,282,68,2,0.0,0.0,0.07553485758486911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083384257612966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890571448680145,0.1447240445344196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450480644565675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891824337664695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06180056587399576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803328328970389,0.08087040481292122,0.17742272047742802,0.0,0.06773651024796619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632559996157525,0.10224884392444017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593866240453585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074559075553358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808804899124681,0.07425269394065416,0.04399031346922549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239769105931738,0.06933852258209708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931349157262243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060405515607699,0.042539055998013366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467253109707359,0.2268932641029172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580586821434285,0.20957961717979126,0.0,0.051667579009791915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719628770234923,0.0,0.0,0.05690063472563669,0.0,0.05969851471310615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583920368957278,0.0,0.0,0.08122217535274091,0.0824324274153975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.429738311985782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275780793946308,0.08087040481292122,0.0,0.07317152721414684,0.0,0.07413136002088998,0.07874740254577513,0.0,0.07406489907122406,0.0,0.0,0.08670987244752143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19834720053832106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661023473773293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833668923437277,0.06168073721052489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17401003142677596,0.0,0.15780667402060905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181470462907045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06221417194606744,0.20296276877023745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142358705492092,0.04959717341679288,0.0,0.1228998029749506,0.04513472710617803,0.0,0.2201090060450634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277323380397316,0.09130942995090956,0.0614394639773351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175401677652297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461441649909109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099707527935554,0.0,0.0,0.199381811762707
parenting,Jakeevans18,2020/02/17,"4yr Old Son Forcing himself to Poo constantly Apologies if this is the wrong place for this but I just want to try and get some advice.

Since having our baby girl now 8 months old our 4 yr old son has been very jealous, totally normal I know and we have learnt to deal with the severe jealousy.

However the past 2-3 weeks he has been literally forcing himself to Poo constantly, every 30 minutes or so. The only time he doesn't need a poo is when he has his tablet and is watching YouTube or playing games, when he doesn't have it he says he needs a poo constantly.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Literally he will make himself poo and the smallest amount of poop will actually come out in the toilet, he wipes his own bum usually with no issues and is quite good like that but now he refuses to wipe his own bum, because he is forcing himself to Poo so much his bum is now sore but I know his actions and know he isn't in as much pain has he makes on. 

Just after some insight lol",3.3447298994974872,4.98515933668342,4.440524497487439,85.37877669597991,73.72361809045226,7.387060301507537,28.01538944723618,8.07648339933343,1.795555025125629,784,31,158,12,16,256,115,199,0.109,0.82,0.071,-0.8415,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,1,9,6,1,0,8,1,21,3,1,2,1,33,31,17,0,5,8,2,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,11,0,1,4,2,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,3,15,3,16,27,8,24,0,0,1,0,32,5,0,5,18,93,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.1360324933104298,0.0,0.0,0.136218266191772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974704329043494,0.0,0.11471280614354873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497582297532237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007916954431815,0.0,0.4519196585188232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371337944726664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744895990114035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282978385575233,0.0,0.0,0.11692056082430625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549545966921928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22982874538341316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810289848979696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609870517379629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126627939391333,0.0,0.20494737026484844,0.20672393498213665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658059733519265,0.0,0.0,0.4388247510594455,0.0,0.0,0.10601858031308074,0.14832946789874996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307131458008806,0.0,0.0,0.1456414052196365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826709937749147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085500988971796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748023988596171,0.0,0.11531159639871127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128418665833481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464219861853013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352737648140374,0.11501807890742614,0.08222064498513337,0.0,0.111816793592737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241000215524678,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yenn3fer,2020/02/17,"Advice on my sister's behaviour Hi everyone! I'm not really a parent, but I figured it might be the right place to ask.
It's about my sister(15) - she is coming to visit me(30) for few days. We live in different countries, and situation is quite difficult.
She always have been very negative human being, but now it got worse when she entered the teenager phase. She is rude and very retracted socially, almost never keeps an eye contact with anyone during a conversation. I know she had depression episodes and it does not seem to get better (she is seeing a psychologist but the situation seems to improve only temporarily after meetings). She does not do any sports and she is addicted to computer games and her mobile phone.
When I try to connect with her or have a conversation to get to know her better, she seems only to wait until I stop talking, like she closes herself and don't even hears me. I understand some reasons of why she is like that- it mainly has to do with very little knowledge and involvement of my parents. My mother is too tired to deal with my sister and taking care of our grandmother. My father does not understand that he is spoiling my sister with giving her everything she wants.
I'm really worried that she will go into adulthood in this state, severe social anxiety, very shy and unsocial. I understand some of it might be just a part of her personality but she behaves sometimes in the way I think is not normal. Like freaking out when she fails in something, and she never continues on the activity. F.e. she never learned how to ride a bike. She is also a little germofobe and she is collecting many things in her room. For any activity proposal she says no.
I'm desperately looking for a way to connect with her and show her that life is not only living in a small village and there is many wonderful activities to try. The nice feeling after doing sports or creating something. Warm and caring that she could receive from a family member.
I'm not fooling myself I could do that during only few days but maybe there is something I could do to start. Would you have any advice for me ?
My idea is to take her out and to try to teach her snowboarding, which will keep her away from her phone and computer and spend some time together.",5.206980386416864,6.905840847775174,6.084320111241219,75.20772138466046,69.09367681498829,9.084572599531617,29.503000585480088,9.516144504307137,2.8905714871194377,1810,69,310,40,32,596,213,427,0.11199999999999999,0.78,0.10800000000000001,-0.499,3,0,3,0,0,0,44.0,2,1,0,4,12,15,1,0,17,0,38,4,1,2,3,80,72,30,0,6,15,7,2,3,0,5,3,2,1,2,15,29,0,4,16,5,1,6,13,6,0,0,3,7,57,9,51,58,7,44,0,2,3,0,66,19,0,12,19,232,72,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478723463800733,0.0,0.1520034607723623,0.0,0.0,0.07788135071575135,0.0,0.0,0.062197376357493575,0.06471579722213848,0.0,0.0,0.15867088109571592,0.0,0.059498367097592965,0.0,0.0,0.05438273272243562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270998766414026,0.0,0.07307303851551307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375729644214011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859547101109162,0.0,0.0,0.06699706965771861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862932340009236,0.0,0.0,0.10031807030631093,0.08018355998057666,0.06698828725797479,0.0,0.0,0.0812592842503524,0.0,0.0,0.2041866991923458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137026265632386,0.0,0.0,0.0743182260473026,0.0698999832616036,0.0,0.07332021695006789,0.0,0.03932584283661577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126941784585831,0.0746097509618746,0.04420184855915001,0.0,0.06220450942280804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765911615966758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779954850324273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826162530857464,0.0,0.0,0.08548722492686044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549354334923955,0.11399215995567387,0.15590381170566456,0.1373551272850971,0.0,0.06531218572892115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770515406005164,0.07813636698334267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650159238582545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995675628005706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620388971945301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366083721998558,0.0,0.0,0.17272191342531695,0.08422374382179153,0.0,0.0,0.06791093473335631,0.0812592842503524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272426618736314,0.0,0.0,0.09965049381222998,0.07996660090664598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642021203647676,0.0,0.0618505345071313,0.0,0.0,0.061977339786488964,0.21241283373760875,0.0,0.08786465330658381,0.0,0.0,0.1748467889932203,0.0,0.15856551491868526,0.0,0.17962711257236025,0.07692237513023037,0.0,0.055050197577918944,0.0,0.0,0.06502415298436755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169556273334834,0.06251333963593621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05167086633651808,0.049835670070063225,0.0,0.0,0.04535176530854964,0.0893919805123054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841423614439035,0.0,0.0,0.2429024317213332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566931225024425,0.04587425363013083,0.12346981269780588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018067192094843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434466921364094,0.0,0.0789852236590035,0.0792603086341953,0.05524978316325285,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MagaroniPenguin,2020/02/17,"My 10yo told me she’s trans. Backstory: about 6 months ago, she came to me and told me she’s gay. Told her “ok. I love you no matter what. That doesn’t change who you are as a person, as a soul, and that’s what I love”
Fast forward to this week and she tells me she feels like she’s trans. 
I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. 1. I want to fully support her in whatever decision she makes. 2. I don’t want her to be making a decision like this because of peer influence. She has a friend that identifies as trans and I think this has had some influence on her. 
I just told her that I love her no matter what and that i will fully support her no matter what. 
I don’t know what else to do. Is there anything else I should be doing? I’m so confused. I don’t want to say the wrong thing.",-0.7110476190476156,1.312198771428573,1.415428571428574,99.75723809523814,89.85714285714286,4.933333333333334,16.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,-0.5289809523809521,615,14,153,7,21,204,86,175,0.091,0.6920000000000001,0.218,0.9617,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,0,4,12,0,1,7,1,15,4,0,4,0,27,37,10,0,4,1,0,3,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,15,7,0,0,6,1,0,2,7,2,0,0,7,4,34,10,14,26,1,9,1,0,0,4,29,4,0,2,8,98,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228265060291545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351951682439612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840918698636204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777585501439906,0.0,0.0,0.14593077856331352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23047584133104995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950138938178444,0.1971002734324768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657834527914543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235743849199946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581265773016306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20218339322712384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735105871933817,0.0,0.18416283066546868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010884224939384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045094352940455,0.14412638401914832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970185093804502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31308369539498954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205727032076346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164657543961556,0.08839156028301293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272612125853889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440960570702801,0.0,0.11065362977535873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082457125334472,0.0,0.0
parenting,35andclueless,2020/02/17,"When I was little the internet made this noise weiaiaiaiaaaaaa lol So I overheard my 16 year old telling his brothers 9 and 7 that he remembers me using the computer with him in my lap and he dancing to the modem Dial up tone and they even looked it up in YouTube ,he sounded so cool and grown up in front of them it made me smile ... wanted to share, sometimes I forget how technology has advance for this generation...",3.6027513227513204,5.669809839506176,4.656190476190479,82.29,74.06172839506173,7.591534391534393,28.855379188712522,8.418075326091056,2.191471252204586,331,14,63,6,7,108,61,81,0.023,0.853,0.124,0.8220000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,1,5,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,4,0,12,7,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,3,11,2,11,4,0,14,0,0,1,0,10,7,0,0,3,41,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594456012485453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973364571914833,0.0,0.0,0.2491240426210052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5614235518159204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31130021252147394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33606382892617936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934094586879937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592984521682909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562234730434504,0.0,0.0,0.1749808154330206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910426558544294
parenting,HeliaxPrime,2020/02/17,"Am I spending enough time with my son? TL;DR
Play with my son a bunch and constantly seeks attention.


This is gonna be a little long winded. I have 50/50 custody with my sons (5m) mother. So I have him Fri-Mon and every other Thursday plus any days his mom says she can’t watch him along with most holidays. This is important because I usually spend 1-2 hours a day playing with him one-on one. Sometimes it’s rough housing/wrestling or it’s board games, going on walks with our dog, or playing the SNES I got for him. None of this includes daily happenings like eating dinner or in the truck driving to and from places. My concern comes from my son CONSTANTLY asking me to play with him usually twice a day even after already having played for an hour or two and I just don’t have the same energy level as him and like to relax after work. I know he watches a lot of tv at his moms but idk what they do over there because my son never has much to say about it. He used to cry when I wouldn’t let him watch tv and I’m pretty sure it’s because that’s all his mom would do with him but again I’m not sure. Sorry for the rant but I wanted to paint a complete picture because I really don’t wanna be a shitty dad.",2.5732283464566947,3.9073556535433056,3.950401574803152,89.36024803149607,75.14173228346456,6.654803149606299,23.32992125984252,7.1686216300943375,0.7626525984251971,952,27,204,10,20,314,154,254,0.055999999999999994,0.823,0.121,0.7923,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,1,1,7,10,0,0,12,0,18,2,0,1,4,40,29,17,0,4,9,10,1,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,10,17,2,0,2,10,2,4,7,0,0,3,1,6,31,10,32,22,8,28,0,0,3,0,30,7,0,6,19,135,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337211912266014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240412000079074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328359382684995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954720803691218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438275497655332,0.12705116948028575,0.2618973197059393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310660588453715,0.23444629606941106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239937280085468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520763296750495,0.0,0.08003588167857242,0.0,0.10209635901160233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886735123241187,0.0,0.09691585167366522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715590682396604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386687264858087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665953906548055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391109802668568,0.0,0.1184013545934775,0.1214506056781562,0.0,0.10723731730877513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301985782941382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42576107095160093,0.0,0.0,0.0890786104477056,0.0,0.0934587243547818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642245546998655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660356640683956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327998147942053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762871668892593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272870355705007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119846576521251,0.1356470798230065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284146810337103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065894419176436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837175340212155,0.0,0.0,0.10465751924274662,0.2669174109425662,0.0,0.07147299129454593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821787598388277,0.0,0.0,0.08608025109010277,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,borisvonboris,2020/02/17,"I'm going to have the house to myself for a full 24 hours... I'm a dad of two girls, 5 years and 2.5 years. This weekend my wife is going on a trip with her friends and she arranged her sister to come take the kids to her house from Saturday morning to Sunday afternoon. Needless to say I'm elated, almost overwhelmed, as I have no idea what I'm going to do with this precious time. Honestly this is the kind of thing I've jokingly thought about asking for my birthday before. 

Before kids, I was someone who generally needed at least two days a week with minimal human contact, and I valued my alone time greatly. I loved going to movies alone, concerts, restaurants, you name it. I haven't had more than a few hours of solo leisure time in the past five years and I keep daydreaming about this coming weekend. Do I want to spin records as loud as I want all day? Movie marathon? Maybe I can finally finish Red Dead Redemption 2? Perhaps I'll just sleep through the whole thing with our cats, one blissful nap after another. I thought about inviting friends over but I don't want to squander this perfect and very rare opportunity for solitude. I'm sure I'll miss the kids, but I'm also pretty sure I'll miss the silence once they're back.

Anyway, I just wanted to dump these thoughts here among you fine people who will definitely understand where I'm coming from :)",5.18843776106934,6.202756699248122,5.300401002506267,83.38217209690895,68.47368421052633,7.8659983291562225,30.567251461988306,7.984000788550335,2.0324233918128662,1086,42,208,13,18,341,159,266,0.055999999999999994,0.747,0.19699999999999998,0.9898,0,2,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,2,0,2,10,17,1,1,12,0,12,2,1,0,4,34,41,11,1,5,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,5,12,12,0,1,5,6,0,8,3,4,0,4,5,4,23,13,37,35,6,36,0,3,1,1,24,7,0,1,21,121,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045145006992296,0.2284790688457796,0.0,0.08820841377421704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566119127520673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311741512267153,0.0,0.0,0.08481537583454153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18771763705253536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28504603834383824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227123992737273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083037307898407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043799539903687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507485154923923,0.0,0.0,0.1216082675065492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172503653393394,0.2545472361880814,0.0,0.1245174532612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804142367851784,0.0,0.11486248664261375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995517985303371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081311452859012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178748365366181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746795585638062,0.07474344257742019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529567335229667,0.07646947013083194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221671732942187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771652213436515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038158899023742,0.0,0.0934584675620688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20791652779189249,0.0,0.08293332430743358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465594024959132,0.0,0.0,0.2627022353327436,0.1929538276695697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21549791672431948,0.11482819940232328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101064421330388,0.2602357451563105,0.0,0.08847755514097684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314816602108244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309248008083104
parenting,Tiger-eye224466,2020/02/17,"11 year old in a men’s size 9 shoe... Let me rephrase this, my 11 year old son is OUTGROWING his men’s size 9 shoe. He’s only 5 feet so not like he’s hit his major growth spurt yet. Is he destined for giant feet or will they slow down?",-0.4172222222222217,0.9502502407407434,1.9516296296296325,100.30633333333336,83.62962962962962,5.060740740740742,16.355555555555554,5.6839178017228535,-0.8970177777777777,179,3,48,1,5,61,39,54,0.049,0.898,0.053,0.0546,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,4,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,3,2,1,10,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,7,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632179508413112,0.0,0.17353367889217086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7454491671569153,0.0,0.0,0.2701470081396066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4574766831818522
parenting,LosingDownward,2020/02/17,"Grandpa’s a cheater My husband’s dad lives two hours away from us and has a 2 weeks on, 1 week off work schedule in North Dakota due to working on the oil fields so we rarely see him. A few weeks ago, FIL found out he was being sent to Dubai and would be gone for 6 + weeks. He came to see us and have lunch before he left. We had a great lunch with him and spent some time shopping so he could have a chance playing with our daughter and spending quality time with her. On our way home, 3 yo blurts our “Mom, grandpa is a cheater.”
I was a little caught off guard so I just said “What do you mean baby?”
3 yo: “Grandpa’s a cheater. Him cheated on grandma (his ex wife)”
I was completely floored. I called my husband (we drove separately as he came from work. I told him what she said and where it came from, but it never went anywhere from there. I honestly don’t know what to do for about it.",1.3483957219251332,3.0793779572192537,2.3299465240641735,97.9502139037433,79.58823529411767,5.255614973262032,22.764705882352942,5.900188976854957,0.05366524064171152,686,22,163,4,17,216,115,187,0.051,0.894,0.055,0.1406,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,8,1,0,3,7,4,1,0,9,0,15,2,0,0,1,26,32,11,0,2,2,10,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,6,16,2,1,3,2,3,8,2,1,0,1,17,5,24,3,24,11,2,34,0,0,2,0,36,14,0,1,11,95,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444650530124333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213012723960137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986144984604328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183376445926362,0.4429956777584713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536734458056526,0.0,0.0,0.10308228033281608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156032389630233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423420919984836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950591105962045,0.0,0.12714543231269626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709544133369447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027628501125028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940019407616982,0.11400478239495655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063652672105514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120979952737024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995760951712993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245622661114844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20576481636863025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056789615131658,0.0,0.0,0.1233682841837561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261198145356469,0.0,0.3106021991720725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247996858350007,0.4142507923813512,0.0,0.0,0.1196844651462234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819766161616202,0.0,0.0,0.09171466156951512,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Happy_and_Catlike,2020/02/17,"18 month old keeps waking up screaming? For the past 2 weeks on and off my daughter has been waking up screaming/crying multiple times throughout the very early morning. She's 18, almost 19 months old.

I think its nightmares, but I'm not sure.  Her vitals all seem normal and a little ""sssh mama is here"" and cuddles/boobie seems to settle her right down for it to happen again 20 mins to an hour again later.

Its so weird and random. Mama and daddy are just getting a little worried bout their girl. I did have a history of night terrors as a kid and wonder if its similar?  She doesn't have molars coming in yet. Just a little confused.

Thanks for your input.",2.2758035714285683,4.849981937500001,3.3710267857142884,87.17843750000002,81.1875,4.5946428571428575,20.080357142857142,5.773587663045528,0.1754825892857146,520,14,92,3,14,167,97,128,0.15,0.8240000000000001,0.026000000000000002,-0.9328,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,1,0,7,7,0,2,8,0,8,2,2,0,2,23,18,10,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,1,9,3,14,16,1,26,0,0,0,0,9,10,0,7,15,60,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029921065985948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649910375688366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18681245259895235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885386284868857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039116677360476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748338618204525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116485165066235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5113604700290906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714943861025829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959792979786416,0.16663119153901831,0.0,0.0,0.3569169295030225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234979302166286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523771837183608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096482669864009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602877125817834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657638558871698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897313923858894,0.0,0.0,0.09916841147588322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032446709716406,0.0,0.0,0.13641883191287882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844322223284829,0.0,0.17271299379506386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mclick84,2020/02/17,"Help Needed >>>Parenting Controls (Firestick) I need to be able to block certain apps on the Firestick (Youtube and browser, specifically). Is there an security app I can sideload that will allow me to password protect the launching of only certain apps?

On my kids' Fire tablets I use an app called Security Master and it allows me to password protect whichever apps I choose. I need something like this that works on Firestick.

FYI: I'm aware of the built in parental controls on the Firestick but setting a pin to be able to launch ALL apps makes it completely useless.

Thanks in advance.",6.069333333333329,8.710458028571429,5.142857142857146,78.9704761904762,68.71428571428572,6.571428571428571,38.333333333333336,7.3871296695380915,3.1200476190476194,483,28,75,5,9,144,67,105,0.069,0.7440000000000001,0.188,0.8123,2,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,5,1,7,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,8,3,19,12,3,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,7,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,6,14,9,1,8,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,44,13,1,0.3961988813638683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20228167778152134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770349455542675,0.0,0.4443707349242673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278187933210753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678138032793726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223291492255795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.440664675470267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066355134129064,0.0,0.0,0.43993197077811697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250662769996484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823833494806907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109431237146766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421875216939947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KeMi93,2020/02/17,"Dealing with a kid who is scared to try new things. My 7 year old son is scared to try new things. Scared might be an understatement. He's never really thrown tantrums or cried much, but the thought of trying something new brings him to tears. I signed him up for gymnastics (without telling him) because he's always shown an interest in it. He cried on the way there, but ended up loving it and says he wants to stay in gymnastics forever. He does play baseball but he's played with the same coach/group of kids since he was 3. At this point they're like family and its nothing new.

He's shown an interest in music for the past few years and mentions various instruments he wishes he could play. Almost two years ago, his dad decided to sign him up for group ukulele(he mentioned a desire to play) lessons during his visitation days. They couldn't actually go because he cried so badly and basically started hyperventilating. I talked to him about it afterwards. He told me that he was scared because it was a group class and the other kids were going to look at him. Sometimes when he mentions an instrument I'll ask if he wants private lessons and emphasize that it'll just be him and the teacher. He because he might mess up and get embarrassed.  

Its not only new hobbies, but new situations. We have some kids in our neighborhood that play outside. He would always look outside longingly like he wanted to join them. I told him to go outside to introduce himself and he cried because he was scared. There are lots of other examples but this is getting long haha. 

He's my only child so I'm not sure if this is normal behavior. Is it? I'm pretty shy so I get being nervous with new situations, but his reactions seem pretty extreme. I don't want to force him into situations that make him uncomfortable, but I also don't want him going through life scared to try new things. Any suggestions? Should I just leave him alone?

I should also add that he's not like this in school according to his teachers.",4.617275892080071,6.429648608355091,5.070984334203658,81.44497954743257,70.74934725848564,8.344264577893822,28.954656222802434,8.936278230431713,2.3725370583115746,1599,62,299,31,30,509,189,383,0.14300000000000002,0.72,0.13699999999999998,0.5589999999999999,0,1,1,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,2,2,11,24,1,8,13,1,25,2,0,1,2,60,51,25,0,15,16,2,0,3,0,6,1,1,0,5,23,15,0,0,5,5,0,6,8,11,0,1,8,3,32,13,39,32,6,44,0,0,2,1,67,14,0,9,25,171,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.06446215549531266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058555592385701925,0.0,0.06614659728571487,0.06841518579244239,0.0,0.10565160383935393,0.10992952067563487,0.0,0.0,0.04492106165918173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061754428094381614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055154880573489405,0.20133883385777093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0527411822097067,0.0,0.2902422864354995,0.04260133482565245,0.06810192173384419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780697277953041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850694274115855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062272711232221965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353625234713457,0.0,0.15016698344626522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994488190530157,0.0,0.0,0.04665805051584359,0.0968164191943292,0.0,0.0,0.11691682753111125,0.11094257630503614,0.0,0.0,0.05615934477099964,0.05961906993784227,0.0,0.044093596237384514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015218997703602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04855953503777742,0.0,0.0509472720452489,0.5103865121633326,0.0,0.0,0.06472188731388075,0.06338352452360024,0.0,0.06931576578896928,0.0,0.0,0.1004787318561942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305893219829417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244526720406088,0.0,0.0,0.13440754295602428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04231784004092185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253122038010555,0.3968078065602349,0.06685326488820538,0.0,0.06013586069250275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464307737492998,0.22275268787606814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05085394713763668,0.06533211511149317,0.0,0.04675552255090998,0.07040802999562233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062257991290236264,0.0,0.0,0.05309415750858422,0.05773677645240821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131656113648055,0.0,0.0,0.05244192193526781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624069110669442,0.0,0.1793936132551411,0.0,0.06452814292818286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948108085419544,0.05243301446627728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596235165593246,0.06367664244487722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046925035627092986,0.0,0.0,0.12761573031044576
parenting,QueenTaggart,2020/02/17,"Feeling Helpless When I picked up my two year old from the babysitter last night I was informed that she keeps hitting the other toddler Boys. The babysitter claims she has tried Everything. My daughter will stop but then a couple hours later will do it again. I just don’t know what to tell her... if she has tried everything what help am I?! My daughter acted like she took in what I said last night when I talked to her a few times about the issue but she is only two. 
A few things to know about my daughter she is extremely verbal. She can tell you pretty much anything she wants or needs besides emotions. And she is extremely high energy. Honestly I think she’s bored and needs a learning type of environment (no daycare in our area offers the hours my husband and I work) and I think she needs physical activity. On my days off we always do something that meets one of these categories and I have not ever experienced what I would think was “Problem” behavior like this.",3.6909108159392834,6.025973505376342,4.0297469955724265,85.6587381404175,74.6989247311828,6.9571157495256175,26.53257432005061,7.928766900206844,1.6757625553447184,776,29,145,12,17,242,113,186,0.051,0.8270000000000001,0.122,0.9388,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,1,7,6,0,0,9,0,16,0,0,1,1,30,30,12,0,7,6,4,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,11,6,0,2,8,0,0,2,3,3,0,3,4,3,33,3,13,22,3,26,0,1,0,0,29,7,0,2,19,105,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441091395035315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315068440763608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214100047387766,0.0,0.0886760466697497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466885654130416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437651228590375,0.0,0.0,0.24715204983486386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952407007150338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216327030854636,0.1452761710963805,0.0,0.0,0.270819366523914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351414975564716,0.0,0.1222162099117582,0.0,0.0,0.1511326747840119,0.2241615059828982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435099067529274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010782317712353,0.3058632533676873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25806864329459817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428299270920653,0.0,0.09317347632081563,0.10457485372068602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398868087198751,0.0,0.1315688141359405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079387178346494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585412424689182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149560554164683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051719408301776,0.2403619090438321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134880965578596,0.2643131107760053,0.0,0.0,0.08017728500512207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276742449410174,0.1867067837941189,0.0,0.2686348039200993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110099094658332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010154929728887,0.0,0.0,0.09767596875255977,0.0,0.0,0.08854541376161337
parenting,BlackmeetsBlue,2020/02/17,"First time dad. How to spread 5 weeks of PTO after child is born? First time dad here.  I have 5 (25 work days) weeks of sick time saved up and wanted to know how to best spread out across the first 16 weeks of the kid's birth.

We have 2 family member who will help taking care of kid for the first 4 weeks, and my partner will travel abroad to be with family for 4 weeks when the kid is 12 weeks old.

How should I use up my 25 days of PTO?

I was thinking to use 10 days the first 2 weeks and then, another 5 days on week 5 when the family member leave, and then 2 days each week from week 6 through 12, since my partner will then leave to be with family for a month.

Does this work me like a good plan?  Priority is to help partner since she too is also a first time parent.  I know I'll be a very involved dad.

I don't know if it matters any, but week 17 through 20, I'll be taking 4 weeks off of PTO, when my partner returns to work, and take care of the kid by myself.

Can any one give feedback? 

Originally I was planning of just taking 4 weeks at the beginning and 1 week right before my partner returned from work for her to transition, but since I'll be with the kid for 4 weeks once she returns from abroad.",4.257441860465113,3.810557767441864,4.976139534883721,90.02118604651164,70.16279069767441,8.275348837209302,24.95193798449613,7.554174236665415,0.8421965891472869,936,20,224,9,15,303,115,258,0.018000000000000002,0.898,0.084,0.932,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,13,10,6,0,0,13,0,19,1,0,6,0,30,34,19,0,3,4,4,0,1,5,4,1,0,0,11,3,12,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,7,2,0,17,6,39,23,2,55,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,1,47,122,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050032409528323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509133308744188,0.0656038108023013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323735736106607,0.0,0.06565705985600655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757633874066476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20174302641833766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054750179469036514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23591909086752444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31930144713614506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600170912913589,0.0,0.05247571626824993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387066304795136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315061737644897,0.0,0.0,0.1324924884705901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03056561098407832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049937989234182786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565039535029248,0.06662861990586308,0.042394986697779725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946991989936124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05342931557862531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526076608930672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816137226617172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040088486043726605,0.0,0.0,0.14592628999061436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807041965746923,0.0,0.05162185360652618,0.0369018691598289,0.0,0.7527760250075011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218935338522332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Soylent7762,2020/02/17,Would you let your teenage daughters topless at a beach? My two daughters ages 13 and 15 go to the beach topless regularly. I'm big into feminism so I was all for this but my husband thinks it's dangerous. I've noticed people looking at my oldest since her breasts are quite big but I'm always with her. Thoughts?,1.512903225806454,4.185395370967743,2.6583064516129045,89.80745967741936,87.22580645161291,5.035483870967743,28.717741935483872,6.6274283507984215,1.544993548387097,251,13,48,3,8,80,49,62,0.076,0.924,0.0,-0.6715,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,9,10,4,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,8,0,6,6,1,8,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,2,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27957005181344263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909504884798693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435718707464502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821464299606493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38252609788538144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23293270784244635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573660277234226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779338594230963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21528840656665896,0.0,0.2667380107277933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32821277034560536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386771917312968,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LetsGetKashyyyky,2020/02/17,"Toddler suddenly actively hates books? Hi everyone,

We have a daughter who is turning 2 within the week. She has always been interested in books and very tolerant and patient during story time, sitting in my lap or at my side as I read to her. She has primarily had books at bed time, but we've intermingled during the day to try and break the association of books only with sleep.

Mama and baby went international for a month (family in Europe) and did not exercise a lot of reading during the time. For 10 days of that period, daughter stayed in grandma's care and likely didn't receive any story time at all. Since coming back home, our daughter seems to actively hate books:

1. If I ask if she wants to read, she says no.
2. If I bring out a book and start reading, she says no and tries to take the book away.
3. If I read anyway, she will start crying and try to get away.
4. She may even pick up a book and hand it to me, but if I start reading, see #2.

My wife and I are honestly perplexed and worried by these reactions! As always, we assume gentle but firm reinforcement is the key, but would love to hear from any parents who have experienced something similar?

Thank you!",4.6083603896103895,5.643810688311689,5.876122835497835,78.64846996753245,69.82251082251082,8.891883116883117,28.29031385281385,9.188382445141503,2.30955606060606,923,32,179,18,16,310,139,231,0.08800000000000001,0.777,0.135,0.92,1,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,3,1,0,0,3,8,2,0,11,0,14,4,2,1,1,36,33,24,0,7,11,5,1,1,0,3,1,3,2,0,5,17,0,0,2,15,0,4,4,2,0,0,5,6,22,6,30,25,2,34,0,0,1,1,26,13,0,10,15,112,27,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410101020124802,0.0,0.0,0.14228757054718089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780364955248247,0.0,0.19658399293694334,0.08044473656477241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666496010856602,0.0,0.0,0.09011908999509312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491789230265514,0.13493983023818662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909916130732552,0.0,0.0,0.0999669229661738,0.0,0.0,0.09862448109357984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054658554606320436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065771091142797,0.0,0.0,0.11791201941282647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049403217384284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05111104000151797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889424296292625,0.09442177351126932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835050399180056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956665603737613,0.0,0.0,0.1161658393391206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6278774939954209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639276654842822,0.0,0.0,0.0833669515757931,0.09524024148871588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654103932237787,0.0,0.10469349172304628,0.0,0.0,0.08053999976501104,0.0,0.0,0.22214734473243844,0.11150880194126547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865966943738173,0.0,0.0,0.09631814135458812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440142436173947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130861375958034,0.11379427463749554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632075524386004,0.061706370330410425,0.0,0.08391819932621633,0.0,0.0,0.09698187655507323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624459421246098,0.0,0.07431758144850349,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChineseGamer,2020/02/17,"Is this weird? So my older sister has a friend who visits. They’re the same age (17), however, when the sister’s friend, Let’s call her A, brings her younger brother (B) with her.  And A takes B to my sister’s room.  

Now B is young. He’s about 14ish.  I’m older than him and I don’t interact with B at all. We have different friends.   I have no younger siblings who would “play” with B. So it’s a bit weird.  I have a 5 year old brother and a 9 year old brother, none of them would want to play with B and neither would B.  My younger siblings are annoying.  

My sister is a bit weird about how A always brings B with her.  I wouldn’t find it weird if like B would walk with A to make sure she went to my sister’s house safely.  However A is close to being an adult.  


However, B is known to be a troublemaker at school and is known to be a sexual deviant at school based on other parents who know B. And it’s weird how B is in my sister’s room. Often my sister will just hand B her iPad to keep him quiet so her and A can talk.  

One, my parents also find it a bit weird too.  But haven’t said anything to the parents or to A. My parents think maybe B likes my sister (despite the age).  What could it be? 

Their parents seem like nice people.  There are some weird things going on like but they are strict.  A and B are not allowed any electronics or have phones. Unless they have a job.  A passed the criteria of owning a phone and was given it.  However without warning, A’s phone was taken away and was given no reason why.  

Another case A’s car headlights broke down.  She had 0 phone to call and 0 flashlight so she had to use blinkers to try and find her way home.  When my parents inquired about what if the car broke down, A said her parents had told she would need to walk or knock on every door nearby.  The issue is they’re in a rural area. Houses are a half a mile apart at least. And it would be unsafe since the road isn’t active.",1.1511693025667604,2.9507771477832527,2.7310292973813866,94.51220119263678,80.47783251231526,5.455950220378534,20.04381643764584,6.339386263674448,-0.02505320197044325,1486,38,338,12,38,487,181,406,0.067,0.848,0.085,0.7239,14,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,1,0,4,0,17,22,1,0,34,0,44,1,1,6,2,64,64,30,0,12,11,18,1,4,3,8,0,3,4,1,15,21,0,2,10,2,0,10,10,10,0,2,13,4,34,12,40,36,10,42,0,2,0,0,57,19,0,8,16,213,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404900498760549,0.0666423997570795,0.0,0.0,0.05446484857214751,0.0839827392862996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590833761150587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524843783504229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26231695569755964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356439851818924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394640724125843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367838978167802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748039701511488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21960606475030614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856350808892089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551774664182102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033813087982591,0.0,0.0,0.1848292753786835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359453664502163,0.07947828340792049,0.07118885110269141,0.0,0.0,0.0440160985589335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189880785532568,0.0,0.15651430653246493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534615824597211,0.0,0.08046250262816006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059386703879128734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680847490204853,0.0,0.054271955719390585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6225235805448758,0.0,0.0,0.05552524146217908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234722299013097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237038475109504,0.0,0.0,0.16211339688787302,0.0,0.07291213576434831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662523730476746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548512752782885,0.0,0.06021871015390747,0.06437437455754609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053209118607827184,0.051319288172732964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653069485462607,0.0,0.05437675346412122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917319106663733,0.0,0.0,0.047239939554217736,0.06357276715216065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424546220730198,0.07226996489469717,0.0,0.0,0.07720518082711299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413674831280203,0.0,0.0,0.103152376933516
parenting,Zialeska,2020/02/17,"Hair pulling, scratching.. just overall only ever rough behavior? When do I start teaching my baby to be gentle? AND HOW?? I don’t like the “do it back to them” approach that I see people talk about. 

My baby is almost 9 months old, so it’s understandable that he doesn’t really get it. No one is ever rough with him but it’s getting out of hand, I feel like he only ever want to pull my hair, grab my eye socket and dig in as hard as possible, scratch my face.. he does it to his dad too and it’s constant and it makes the baby smile 😒 

I’ve tried acting really sad when he does it but that also just makes him laugh.. I just want to start early and teach him to be gentle but leading by example doesn’t work and I’m wondering if it’s because he doesn’t know it hurts us but how do I show a 9 month old it hurts? Is it too early ... ahh 

Please give me advice :(",-0.3536166007905166,1.7523563260869572,2.101166007905139,94.89482213438735,89.0,4.86719367588933,16.515810276679844,6.351523495107088,-0.3666543478260871,660,15,151,7,22,225,101,184,0.102,0.769,0.128,0.4747,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,2,16,6,0,0,3,0,12,5,5,5,3,31,27,19,0,3,8,1,10,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,0,4,1,0,5,5,3,0,1,0,12,18,3,14,25,0,22,0,3,2,0,14,2,0,3,17,90,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811694128459565,0.0,0.0,0.1415327504954841,0.0,0.0,0.11303047094814292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868262407212824,0.0,0.0861602564810924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273957667597313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24737719523091564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3835535011149256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714663350220205,0.10097414969471648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476898401630417,0.13558731545319128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266139130508993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026172603928821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767740264472339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810429827059753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18869263758975272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256343236136829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966275330063662,0.0,0.09577642487071547,0.21499263559210446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798816067781174,0.0,0.0,0.15515014473161834,0.0,0.15934091587093024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181093526856689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263060139249613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20008399461276705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360466684282855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959613666733789,0.0,0.0,0.14714112748692912,0.17001600712878606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673335101484638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327845387540304,0.10289804453257397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CouchTurnip,2020/02/17,Attempting to have a life with toddler that won’t nap in the car So my daughter is almost two and terrible at napping.  She always wants to be rocked or nursed.  I’ve gotten her to fall asleep without either but it takes hours.  I want to make plans for spring of doing things and going places (like the zoo) but I just can’t figure out the logistics.  She also hates the car and has gotten carsick on occasion.  Am I just condemned to basically stay home?  I wish she’d nap in the car bc I could go places and she’d nap on the way back.,1.4680000000000002,3.583901800000003,2.8990909090909125,92.08863636363638,81.0,5.8181818181818175,20.0,6.980632752743323,0.2980909090909094,418,11,90,5,11,136,78,110,0.08900000000000001,0.865,0.046,-0.6827,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,5,3,1,0,7,0,11,2,1,1,0,20,21,9,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,1,5,0,6,3,2,0,1,2,0,11,1,15,14,1,19,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,2,4,59,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199546702264344,0.0,0.0,0.17565955495036184,0.1827721489883888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689026084311931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753781723673581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24967217270566155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168657270913132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203337947033693,0.0,0.21631781400124495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515017454778482,0.10731327299377127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662269591282484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4589894475599408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341250442874181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515466286115196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593029346452266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21457288780533967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591186782552425,0.17435343432848874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525946109659281,0.2117414268430448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Suburbs2282,2020/02/17,"Picky Eater We have a 3 year old who refuses to eat almost anything except her preferred foods. When we put something on her plate, even the smallest piece of something, she starts crying and pushes her plate back. Sometimes when we get her to try a new bite of something she gags on it like she is going to throw up.  We are lost and not sure what to do....help!!!!",4.217500000000001,5.173940194444448,4.120444444444445,91.169,70.66666666666667,6.315555555555558,25.511111111111113,5.6839178017228535,0.5629577777777772,282,8,59,1,5,86,53,72,0.114,0.853,0.033,-0.721,0,0,3,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,12,7,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,2,1,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,11,2,10,6,1,14,0,1,0,0,13,3,0,1,8,38,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22105290759065027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166145677661974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697459419930661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24248753509268334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258861103995589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580571368517822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26693620784713035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533467863567183,0.0,0.1254593950295414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796652829099494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784908996895408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409787025309487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132052651579116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23164383654294554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219184057899796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5098408688513231,0.21833101923689605,0.0,0.1562505802249472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080577166504109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987724781198086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215812249861842
parenting,thisissotandem,2020/02/17,"Is there a three year old sleep regression? I’m so tired. My son has been waking up anywhere from 3-6 times per night for the last three weeks. He had previously been sleeping through the night since he was about 18 month old. He’s three and a half now. 

When he wakes up he says it’s for things like, “my blanket came off” “I can’t reach my lovey””I don’t want to sleep anymore”. And he’s cranky AF. If we try to soothe him, he gets upset. If we try to let him self soothe, he gets upset. It’s a lose lose situation. 

It’s so frustrating for me and my husband. And when we get up in the morning, everyone is tired and no one is rested enough to be their best. So we’re in an ugly cycle. 

Anyone else go through this? Anyone have any advice? Some words of encouragement? We live away from our friends and family so we have no one to considerate with. Any and all feedback is appreciated. Thank you.",0.2836956521739147,2.6141386739130468,1.8952173913043493,95.72369565217392,88.8913043478261,5.156521739130435,17.782608695652172,6.7026698264267655,-0.14783478260869565,692,18,159,9,23,224,114,184,0.146,0.716,0.138,-0.5836,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,6,1,1,3,9,10,1,2,7,0,15,7,5,0,1,21,23,15,0,3,2,2,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,5,14,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,5,0,6,5,1,16,5,22,16,5,21,0,2,0,0,24,7,0,3,13,95,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283003876618659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857080754862786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020979964139456,0.18360965348938332,0.1345276974652011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335639098653245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778646748555906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016700965980895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968049543560952,0.0,0.0,0.13566329044012004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545842264066126,0.0,0.0,0.12377365897258875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143853382128253,0.0,0.20578935035484994,0.0,0.07461822614687695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702331008012153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425848633933668,0.0,0.06414432162010172,0.0,0.11593628190093885,0.0,0.0,0.2937720340162299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047987702312632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464237587285054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755449629997294,0.0,0.177938380701034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441140634610346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369697818612787,0.0,0.0,0.1086089474889889,0.14758157936191835,0.3941707899750284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087920411550282,0.0,0.0,0.0872268584953837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655942885340994,0.3018095955266849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828197511828522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744145422134621,0.0,0.105317285017107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454996081177996
parenting,TheGuacIsStillExtra,2020/02/17,"Hey Dad.. I’m 15 now. I know you’re out there somewhere with a new family and little girl to take care of, but it would be great if you could say happy birthday to first baby girl.",1.8569230769230745,2.8796434102564104,3.3979487179487187,93.85538461538464,76.43589743589743,6.225641025641028,18.128205128205128,6.42735559955562,-0.30704102564102564,139,2,33,1,3,46,35,39,0.0,0.7140000000000001,0.28600000000000003,0.93,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,7,3,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,5,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,3,18,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294135545252514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579624584275669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045821312563875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748216628685539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562097760264848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34393715743241243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775627667683355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32382279550975795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120440088506711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569355138754993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24292477380365415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22951509702674505,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,20ClassAsmokes,2020/02/17,"My wife is driving me crazy and I just need her to leave me alone so I can continue playing video games! It's true too, I just want to be left to play my damn video games! 

  My wife (40) is pregnant with our 5th kid and was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and is on a sugar withdraw. Given that this is #5 for us and her being a medical professional it's not something we are terribly worried about. However! She has become a monster because she can't eat anything she wants or craves.  The cravings change by the hour so I can't do much for her on that one but, man, my life would be so much easier if I just knew what to cook and what snacks I can have on hand for her. 

  I've been reading different articles and recipes for three days now and all I can come up with is ""meat on a plate"" or ""shit my kids won't eat"", neither of which work for anyone in the house, except for me who happens to love ""meat on a plate"" and ""shit my kids won't eat"". 

  Please, please, please can I trouble those of you that have dealt with gestational diabetes and feeding the whole crew (ages- 13, 7, 4, and 2) for some mommy and kid-friendly meal and/or snack ideas?  If I could just get make her something to eat she will enjoy then she will stop nitpicking me and in turn, I can continue being the Domestic God I am and when the nights' dishes are done and everyone is in bed I can play the game in peace.",5.865011737089205,4.8929658063380295,6.253154929577466,83.95287793427231,66.99295774647888,9.967699530516434,30.905164319248826,9.21078282632365,2.2382941784037556,1075,34,240,17,15,348,160,284,0.11,0.7709999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7681,2,1,2,0,0,0,37.0,3,1,0,1,11,11,3,0,12,0,34,20,3,1,2,43,45,24,0,7,11,2,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,4,11,20,11,1,2,10,0,2,6,5,0,2,5,2,36,6,32,30,6,23,0,0,0,1,25,11,3,5,10,164,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523185902997386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454683939398522,0.0,0.09950304834461443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370888836121821,0.13354152832901836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791243057186832,0.10415788623806926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654108541922242,0.0,0.0,0.07798041174016905,0.0,0.0,0.1227265571414788,0.0,0.12633082801943174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373840628497992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4949064476809144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115539819481616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934189163190726,0.0,0.06317329117429397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692506396497048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907728468882466,0.1395201046634697,0.0,0.13649873690708533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803191994839996,0.131374905268283,0.0,0.08540610300380108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913084391241662,0.0,0.08071194960833843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180951615917204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777342196690454,0.0896572160861278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134708854144523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193538525481722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981863041375446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094809322971033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24823578313065006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18617312122425805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109066506750253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152120280931853,0.0,0.0,0.14544630437382472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263803820897472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499769449219626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802783077489501,0.12279542944778833,0.0,0.08589481090436164,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MitonyTopa,2020/02/17,"How to teach perseverance? To this point, it seems like we haven’t properly taught our daughter (6) how to try things outside her comfort zone, and/or be OK with failing. My daughter is struggling with learning words and simple math, and I can tell she has anxiety every time she’s wrong. 


Without a lengthy story time or delving into my various failures as a parent, does anyone here have some less obvious tips on helping with this? If I’m doing the obvious stuff (being encouraging, expressing pride at effort not achievement, rewarding courage) is that just it? Her anxiety feels like an innate personality trait - she’s naturally apprehensive and shy.",9.884736842105266,9.874964842105264,9.20947368421053,62.876315789473715,58.47368421052632,12.161403508771933,42.6842105263158,11.538034831475384,5.314168421052631,528,27,79,13,6,168,91,114,0.159,0.7,0.14,-0.3576,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,6,4,12,0,2,4,1,9,0,0,2,2,22,13,8,0,1,5,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,10,8,11,10,3,6,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,4,4,54,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631784384165129,0.0,0.0,0.16597628565638228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077261673317935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999646598190896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002260639681595,0.16957887404367275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910570116377568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319363071848171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635739342864104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20726440431055013,0.0,0.0,0.22439362244034594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21609489755664246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248153148219617,0.27173458159954605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074739207031821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769966020197038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768274846463405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116026291247004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22881850143024904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595294316527066,0.0,0.0
parenting,Realistic-Smoke,2020/02/17,"I'm going to see my son for the first time in 8 months today I used to see him regularly and when he was a baby I raised him in my own for awhile.

His mom and I were fighting really badly and I had a mental breakdown.

He is 3 years 4 months.

I know he will remember me.

Will he be really shy at first most likely?

Now I plan on getting back dual custody slowly.

I wonder if he is mad or something...

I said up all night excited. Its 5am. I got him a hot wheel car",-0.651871138570165,1.1336374757281575,2.7258958517210954,92.19692850838484,86.8640776699029,5.687202118270079,17.1306266548985,6.980632752743323,-0.02949708737864043,352,8,84,5,11,128,74,103,0.12,0.855,0.025,-0.8396,0,0,1,0,2,0,11.0,0,0,0,3,3,5,2,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,11,18,6,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,0,2,5,4,16,2,9,10,3,18,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,4,12,51,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278525389668086,0.17676176633525886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36014608335798043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106052063711005,0.0,0.12031474351500035,0.0,0.16931689150209353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634551354928835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034265755457018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334514621259046,0.0,0.0,0.24794203703938855,0.3379559609536393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866735554034173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271242583624474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398163362226257,0.0,0.2013764423013681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33739709913602034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297802529354372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344474697135988,0.0,0.200668105613598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284197604918226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22958105993501685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632871450534206
parenting,GirlCODGod,2020/02/17,"Liking things your kids like How do you like something your kid wants you to like when you have no idea how to play?
In short, my son likes Yugioh cards. My husband has learned how to play with him but I just can't grasp this game.

I learned how to play pokemon cards a few years back when he was into that. But this is just so hard my brain isn't getting it.

He really wants me to learn and I'm trying but I just don't get it. I feel bad because I genuinely try to take an interest in our kids things so I can join them. This is the first thing I'm not getting.
I don't want to let him down but I'm not sure what to do now.",0.2825567238516875,1.863465014388492,1.7382733812949631,101.64417819590484,82.30935251798562,5.1402324294410615,17.886552296624238,5.8734145424116955,-0.7006993912562258,483,10,126,3,13,155,81,139,0.077,0.757,0.166,0.8348,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,5,1,1,13,11,0,0,3,0,13,1,1,4,1,26,24,13,0,3,9,2,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,3,10,3,0,0,6,4,0,0,7,1,0,1,1,2,20,10,13,22,1,11,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,0,11,82,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730160786825214,0.1599487162844718,0.1167762043137921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21384981808717488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686098534213147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294503303030988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002543107633746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160455160257276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21625349050879256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19588812156917051,0.0,0.4679447465142836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272140053786075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747604342693568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805476810353124,0.0,0.14403298807725198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818016855453171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601200279235551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33896987995223155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336153530217422
parenting,Jeseluk,2020/02/17,"Struggling to stay on top of homeschooling and housework since adding our 4th child. I am a homeschooling mom. My two school aged kids are 8 and 6. I also have a 3 year old and a 23 month old. The youngest was adopted internationally last month. The older two do grade level (2nd and kindergarten) curriculum. The 3 year old does his preschool work in the morning but that's it. The youngest obviously doesn't do any work. 

I am really struggling to keep up with everything. We have a dedicated homeschool room. My 8 year old is pretty independent. We have a board upstairs that details his schedule and he can follow it without me needing to stand over him. He starts his morning off with math and will just show me his work before moving on to reading and writing. Then he does the same for reading and writing. He knows his schedule and we have a clock with a buzzer so he knows when to move on the the next thing. My 6 year old is still very needy, which I get but it is hard to help and watch the little kids. I used to just let my 3 year old play while I helped the 6 year old but I can't do that with the 23 month old. He's very attached to me and needs to see me and the 3 year old has regressed a little in independence since we adopted the youngest. 

It just feels like I can never catch up. Homeschooling gets done but then the house is a wreck. Dishes pile up with 4 kids having 3 meals a day plus snack. The playroom gets destroyed by the youngest. The kids do have chores but I have been struggling to stay on top of that as well. Does this get easier?",1.896250000000002,4.179017872611468,2.55470939490446,94.22372014331215,80.46496815286625,5.453662420382166,22.23288216560509,6.6274283507984215,0.34593662420382154,1228,39,266,12,32,381,151,314,0.07400000000000001,0.8370000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.5692,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,5,0,0,5,8,7,1,3,27,0,28,3,0,3,2,45,42,25,0,2,9,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,5,11,22,3,1,3,4,0,4,4,4,1,2,3,4,28,3,33,37,1,58,0,0,2,0,27,17,0,0,35,159,39,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761215791574776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899119755885471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130264498987521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646128861666966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891339642776977,0.0737242299582749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474692518907905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03642672408962503,0.05146699477426125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055639992738618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453570167256757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657679751125517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312707904385543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640344581834267,0.0,0.0,0.07918506841763193,0.058724045654662674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366807731338819,0.0,0.03519620228982121,0.1444105128812495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437500754274295,0.1725102997563598,0.15313901207518854,0.0,0.1068368247919608,0.05556342120296564,0.0,0.07661774568001525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6803659631483648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329286360502707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441234828537534,0.0,0.04615210738869655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291059887323631,0.057408342539306566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191881803333026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050991872356848524,0.15357489693435414,0.05753303053430766,0.0,0.0,0.2259425919884277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786166692808288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074961194308538,0.0,0.0,0.062221369528511886,0.0,0.11888479527252085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477463087495731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944615409070362,0.0,0.15734283882313674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247499099556617
parenting,dsmith1980,2020/02/17,"Half Term Activities in the North West Found this for anyone looking for ideas in the North West during the half term holidays. There's a few we hadn't thought of or visited before, just hope the weather is OK. Does anyone have any other ideas?

[https://www.bestkidsdaysout.co.uk/top-10-february-half-term-activities/](https://www.bestkidsdaysout.co.uk/top-10-february-half-term-activities/)",13.493571428571427,16.9449355,7.57,65.72500000000001,51.14285714285714,9.885714285714286,33.64285714285714,10.125756701596842,3.6925857142857135,332,11,41,6,4,84,40,56,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.8143,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,1,1,2,5,4,3,9,0,0,1,0,2,6,0,2,2,22,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921155422935264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950731772418464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24039401919312306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472251882234099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30975610887532845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805947937494405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6378356667844585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372360806161676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242802796591845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bwhalen1974,2020/02/17,"Single Parent I understand being a single parent is hard, but it really angers me when someone uses being a single parent as an excuse why they deserve something over a married parent who worked just as hard to get it. I just want to say ""So you made a poor life choice with a sexual partner AND birth control, and you now feel you deserve more because of it."" 

Maybe I'm wrong, but that is just how I feel.",7.244259259259257,5.894545987654323,7.749475308641976,75.5701388888889,64.4320987654321,9.58148148148148,31.36111111111111,8.07648339933343,2.2867259259259254,319,9,59,3,4,106,54,81,0.19399999999999998,0.7709999999999999,0.034,-0.9381,4,0,1,0,3,0,8.0,0,3,1,2,7,2,1,0,6,0,4,1,0,4,0,16,12,9,0,1,5,4,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,5,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,8,0,7,9,4,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,3,45,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025481245359954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867813772686556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011877455535654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789038438542976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30139230902551034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882197495703888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917813711274978,0.0,0.0,0.16900417181952218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7471738208599297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776895463883443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377891453797566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425361156668328,0.12950747762603113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512768975110501,0.0,0.1452919992105637,0.0,0.0,0.09922319838919262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179649110466076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224694762550109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839271375587202,0.0,0.0
parenting,shesinherworld,2020/02/17,"Moving kids away from family - a mistake? We have 2 young kids (2 and 5) who are very close with the family we have around. They see their grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins several times a week. But we live in an expensive area that we can barely afford and my husband and I have always wanted to relocate to somewhere we like better.

Now we’re considering finally doing it and I’m suddenly having a lot of doubts. On one hand if we don’t move I think my husband and I will forever wonder if we would have been happier somewhere else. On the other hand I feel awful ripping my kids away from everyone they love and have built solid relationships with.

It seems there isn’t a good answer. Anyone have experience with leaving family they’re very close to? I understand a lot of people don’t have great attachment to their family, but I do. My husband doesn’t care as much.

Part of me is telling me that family is the most important thing, but another part is telling me that our quality of life (other than family connections) would be better elsewhere.

I’ve been up all night upset over thinking about my kids missing out on these relationships, but is that a good reason to stay put in an area we don’t love for the rest of our lives? 

Then again if we stay our own kids might be in this position when they get older and can barely afford the area as well so that’s another thing to consider.

I’m so conflicted that I can’t sleep and we aren’t even close to actually moving yet.",4.590865353037767,5.920753748275862,5.664679802955664,79.04591954022987,70.13793103448276,9.661740558292284,26.91297208538588,9.957137785484203,2.5981247947454844,1177,38,225,30,21,390,152,290,0.039,0.8140000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.9838,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,13,0,5,2,11,14,0,2,13,1,32,6,3,1,1,52,47,21,0,7,7,4,3,1,0,4,1,0,0,5,15,26,0,1,8,0,1,4,7,4,1,1,2,4,33,10,34,39,9,36,0,1,1,2,34,18,0,10,13,162,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.09067685723828434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731717451879494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948701767533661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497206891041979,0.0,0.0,0.08271881135674881,0.0,0.0,0.17460345430434784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436099616800726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473848918189884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762302876938278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137301452444476,0.0,0.0,0.08878937600819486,0.0,0.09089393187610267,0.5255822151329419,0.0,0.046983320676102,0.0,0.0,0.10178970102015623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04854704749337137,0.0,0.0,0.15587436125120094,0.0,0.10244501341545392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838923353310566,0.0,0.0,0.06563239086768438,0.04539618920150466,0.0,0.1641007420630245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799511664687702,0.16772848664131665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857380679044074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29627887871473313,0.06830714847098447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871994534546566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296523365196903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012473670792725,0.0,0.0644192706141779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934106160695303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553759519876416,0.0,0.19952336189119566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740454881523636,0.08459119638517107,0.0,0.10497354626444436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298745551419847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19808145834670773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243296227208676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346430273785575,0.11907921606349453,0.0,0.0,0.05418260306769492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967333608926704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333803956838546,0.0548068296472588,0.0,0.07453509953914762,0.0,0.08354655352994124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076815536918478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320159006091169,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StrangeBeau12,2020/02/17,"I told my kids tutor that I don’t care if he will be in the honor roll or not. My kid has a tutor for reading. You see, he’s 6 and he’s just starting to learn to read long words. My MIL hired a tutor (without consulting me first) for him to catch up with his peers, she’s insisting that my kid has autism and is very delayed and that my hubby can already read by age of 3 so my son should too. We have regular checkups with my kid’s neurodev and he was diagnosed with Developmental Language Delay, he went through a year of therapy when he was 2 and now he’s all good and talkative. 

Now today, while his tutor is prepping for their session, she told me “don’t worry mommy, soon he will be an honor too” and I said “it’s ok if not, as long as he grows up to be a kind kid”

I have never compared my kid’s development with other kids. I have never pressured him to learn how to write, do math, read, etc. I know he will learn and be able to do all that in time. I don’t want him to hear and feel that he is being compared because that may affect his self esteem. I want him to learn at his own pace, i want him to learn and enjoy learning at the same time. 

There was a time when I applauded him for being able to read CVC words for the first time, and he asked “are you proud of me now mommy?” I was taken aback and hurt at the same time, did he think i wasn’t proud of him all this time? I hugged him and said “i’ve always been proud of you because you’re a good kid”

You see, he may not be good in reading, but he’s good in math and science, he can add, subtract and multiply, he knows the solar system and dinosaurs and random facts about animals and plants and the weather. He may not be an honor student, but he’s caring and sweet and compassionate (per his teachers observation). I would rather have a kid who is loved by everybody because of his character, than have a very smart kid but hated by his peers. 

Yeah i know he can be smart and be kind at the same time, but he’s a different kind of smart and i’m already ok with that. ❤️",2.251945552522919,3.31814573210162,3.7799286164182253,91.33267408496047,75.51270207852194,6.726544894674226,22.8209811743299,7.106945922332613,0.5430237105465743,1574,42,364,16,33,523,180,433,0.028999999999999998,0.78,0.19,0.9966,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,4,1,8,14,28,1,1,18,3,45,4,0,2,6,80,69,37,0,8,14,1,1,0,0,8,2,3,0,11,11,30,0,2,11,6,0,3,11,3,0,2,13,7,49,25,47,38,8,40,0,1,2,2,67,10,0,7,26,230,60,22,0.17264598122974004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905191334013032,0.0,0.07182764338217057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807003434777329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786508157338008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602408411520198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761601838941566,0.0,0.09018915228055156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096272952987624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04364749777053562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468525834377765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28961451584481385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522608172823719,0.0,0.0,0.09729228418681928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924105468277761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696763329570927,0.14232257430209164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527862605361242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790986930449087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315522401151164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5180781050524973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642258636813741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137576494489561,0.0,0.09005370555602085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109985705919936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987178628913336,0.0,0.0,0.055312286816417096,0.0,0.0,0.3523494101304265,0.0,0.08182410162053606,0.16497063364600228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245101546438158,0.1527466092486498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002227713301982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321228250963103,0.0,0.0,0.08766518718708005,0.0,0.061321375805207815,0.0,0.0,0.055589175745556316
parenting,Derekn210,2020/02/17,"What lessons can I teach my kids? For kids about to go into elementary school in the coming years, what are some lessons I can teach them? I know the easy ones like having manners, treating others with kindness, but what are some unique life lessons that kids should learn at a young age?",7.543888888888887,7.490381907407412,5.415185185185186,88.29833333333332,63.25925925925928,7.9407407407407415,30.962962962962962,6.42735559955562,1.388674074074074,229,7,46,1,3,64,41,54,0.0,0.883,0.11699999999999999,0.6416,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,12,9,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,7,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,4,30,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819205269674655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519750995214129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616974333222352,0.243662343441698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131624982374832,0.21660621886325984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004362573399143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487100343083008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285513149939326
parenting,vertesteleweerd,2020/02/17,"Change in child's eating behaviour after newborn First off: English is not my native tongue.

My 3,5 year old son got a baby sister last week. We've since been to a pediatrist (for the  girl) and have asked about the appetite of our son. His eating behaviour has had it's ups and downs, but we've been worried lately because he's quite skinny as a result of being sick more than a week.

He said something along these lines:
'you shouldn't underestimate the impact of a sibling on the boy. He might be very happy and enthusiastic but that's probably about 90% of his emotions. He might be struggling with a bit of jealousy and it's possible that can alter his eating behaviour.'
He also said that the change can manifest before birth, reason being that 'expecting a child influences ones behaviour and the kid senses it'.

Then it hit me like a truck. I have a twin sister that needed lots of medical attention when we were young. I also have two other sisters. My parents were self-employed and working a lot when I was born. It must have been an incredibly hectic period for my parents but I developed a severe eating disorder basically as a result of not getting the attention I needed when I was a kid.

Anyone have any experience with this? I'd hate to see history repeating itself.",4.793255360623784,6.639234078189304,6.005302144249513,74.78701754385969,70.35802469135803,8.901797704136886,28.42733376651505,9.414487439383343,2.7816304526748974,1023,38,174,23,19,342,144,243,0.106,0.83,0.064,-0.8788,3,0,1,0,1,0,24.0,2,1,0,3,7,4,1,1,21,0,25,7,1,4,1,30,35,17,0,5,5,7,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,7,14,10,5,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,11,3,17,2,25,15,4,22,0,0,1,0,28,5,0,4,18,125,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18561378977884127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891946920302155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114639001107095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849313231110164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074433822853718,0.0,0.09875186654766313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669893487467052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24553565935398605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300586471085796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4750014537547122,0.0,0.13054309422029553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352131107025705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871393403386147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063247970777363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928175383872922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353971486889592,0.0,0.11457751185222287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459802461355314,0.13091192586751058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669723830159412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973268447546085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691037271365122,0.0,0.24622606928899102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210245766678225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217772519485476,0.0,0.07863996780070942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25772444760737434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083140773253946,0.0,0.0,0.12512388987507742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343578984308858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932098039555325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078441787802908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247857057555116,0.0,0.1210677448317204,0.13110594242834256,0.0,0.09599957130950107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893426461162118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132294724074533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133661271673886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575521120856394,0.0,0.0,0.18618013426836372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448737692726048,0.11785663285546848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473380582192725
parenting,queenofcysts,2020/02/17,"my mom wants to claim me on her taxes but doesn’t provide financial support and i can’t get medicaid if she claims me kinda a complicated situation but i turned 18 in october 2019. i moved out of my dads house in june 2019 to go live with my mom full time. i started paying all my own car insurance, my own gas, my own dr appointment co pays, my own phone bill, my own medicine prescriptions and everything else when that happened. all that my mom did to financially take care of me was food and utilities (although arguably, i did eat out or buy my own food quite frequently).  my mom and i used to have a fantastic relationship. this didn’t change because of this, i fully understood that when i moved out of my dads house i would have to take on more financial responsibilities. anyways, her and i have had a lot of issues since then. she went from being the “cool mom” to making a huge deal if i got home at 9:31 instead of 9:30. just an example. i definitely wasn’t right in some of the situations, but it doesn’t really matter at this point. the point is, our relationship very quickly deteriorated. fast forward to october, i turned 18 and did not ask her for anything, havent really since june. or ever, for that matter. i’ve been working since i was 15, so anything ive ever wanted, i’ve been able to purchase myself. anyways, it got to a point where i still felt as though i was being treated and looked at as a child, when i am not. i was working 2 jobs, 5 days a week while also going to college classes and maintaining an almost 4.0 GPA. (i’m still in high school but take college classes through the local community college.) so we decided i would start paying rent. for the 1st month, i paid her $100 a month and after that i’ve paid her $200 a month. this seemed to be working. then tax season rolled around, and i started worrying about medicaid, as i am currently still on my dads health insurance but he has made it very clear that if him and i do not have a relationship by the time i graduate in may, he will be removing me from the policy. so, from all the research i’ve done, if i apply for medicaid as a dependent i will not get it since i don’t qualify for it under my mom and i’s annual income as it stands. so, i told her i need to claim myself as an independent in order to get health insurance (side note: i see someone for depression and anxiety, ADD, and i have very debilitating migraines and headaches, so i’m no stranger to the doctor.) she told me no, she wasn’t going to allow that to happen, and long story short, it resulted in a huge argument. my question is: if i claim myself, and she also claims me, what will happen? do i have a strong enough case that if the IRS does have to get involved, they will side with me? basically, what should i even do about this? another side note: she has also made it very clear she will not help my financially in any way whatsoever, i tried to buy a new car as mine was having issues and asked her to co-sign (since i just turned 18 and don’t have established credit), she said yes and then when we began to go through with it, she took it back, lectured me and told me to do it on my own. yet, she wants to claim me as a dependent.

tl;dr: my mom does not financially support me since i moved into her house in june, i began paying her rent in october, she wants to claim me on her taxes but if she does so i won’t qualify for medicaid, which i desperately need. what should i do?",3.9257935692262538,4.913471863309359,5.391992365291442,81.66734840698871,71.37410071942446,9.01159888415798,27.27719864924387,9.344382777155033,2.170035383937748,2695,91,561,58,49,910,275,695,0.043,0.882,0.076,0.9726,5,0,0,0,0,0,92.0,3,0,1,5,32,8,0,0,28,2,57,8,0,9,7,93,111,63,0,17,23,10,1,0,0,11,5,1,3,1,28,32,3,0,5,0,16,13,18,1,0,0,31,5,104,7,81,65,15,93,0,1,2,0,54,39,0,18,40,390,132,25,0.0568285564230233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056905590389690126,0.0,0.0,0.13633732811969942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03864536710189117,0.059589696382653434,0.04347369011701375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353011965866548,0.05058946357010992,0.10625405792861177,0.0,0.0,0.04369765207186119,0.0,0.0346421605318843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05794050069801801,0.0,0.06011707749788309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036649717583676286,0.058587746338598215,0.048946352375450516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816643553108339,0.14919315806001435,0.05815534367411738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814980048541692,0.04747296681034692,0.0,0.0,0.05871909001566485,0.0,0.0375347255545266,0.10280936556176053,0.0,0.0,0.051073842186541936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456432607381402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743463200271855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876230087544315,0.0,0.12918791291920334,0.0,0.09090197591783726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075991429706942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208121961091426,0.0,0.0,0.03809098347579479,0.0600424899651789,0.05700367560956272,0.0,0.0,0.19671757249239305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862849676631265,0.05639357345974399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050180656468947565,0.05029148414399468,0.047721674757673034,0.0,0.0,0.04831360646244545,0.0,0.1075451082889498,0.03793350269334065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4658984291530871,0.13608003468241125,0.18119928581528302,0.0,0.08427530903129593,0.0,0.05488537391450512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116406329746855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636609890199019,0.060444164921162585,0.0,0.0,0.07281165684588246,0.0,0.0,0.18303780631436087,0.0,0.04853127667930493,0.05405697076677187,0.0,0.0,0.057513533031928986,0.045285001851146436,0.05173458343620743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820550147393394,0.12775535688530956,0.0,0.0,0.04815065144159168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067063419357175,0.0,0.13615007570359605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897674475997012,0.0,0.0,0.1281840060870132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583376815127969,0.0,0.0662743765068196,0.0,0.0,0.16290636298944675,0.0631386171797438,0.03858285948681818,0.1854394519724225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049081626635541664,0.0,0.1875580424675435,0.13407581982170275,0.04510786293702583,0.045584440116868095,0.0,0.0,0.05268064114508635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411559770240407,0.05771215757135385,0.0,0.08073875198395583,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fokken_Prawns_,2020/02/17,"My kid just had his first playdate, and I hated every second of it. We didn't host it, we went to the other family.

My son 3 and the other kid is 3 and a half.

The first 30 mins was great, they shared the other kids toys, I withdrew myself because I think it's important for kids to play themselves.

After that the other kid became so God damn controlling, every single thing my kid showed any interest in was promptly taken by the other kid. I could see him growing meeker and getting sadder by the minute. The playdate kinda ended when the other kid had a meltdown and hit my son 3 or 4 times. 

I was ready to punt the little fucker in the next week, but my heart ached for my son and we kinda ended it after.

I've been feeling pretty sick about the whole thing, the other parents obviously tried to calm him. Just without any luck, he was still massively controlling.

I don't know if any of this makes sense, I just hated the whole thing and needed to went.",3.87464285714286,5.071206583333336,4.938779761904762,84.08062500000005,71.70833333333334,6.9440476190476215,23.089285714285715,7.1686216300943375,0.8699035714285714,752,18,145,7,14,247,109,192,0.127,0.759,0.113,-0.8335,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,4,7,10,4,0,16,0,11,3,1,3,1,29,24,12,0,3,7,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,16,10,0,2,3,3,0,3,3,4,0,4,11,2,21,6,17,11,3,18,0,0,1,1,21,3,2,5,12,104,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909566458160001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693898379074809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199178070145342,0.11386935886580353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526355223758285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403246679717544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444813721948365,0.0,0.07211225680864915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426226416357649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451233982114802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723752620870798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816127112116073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690037451164245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837946084711328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294131919657613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951990327724302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574989569557304,0.0,0.0,0.15167651471988028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836109386332964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509440348033814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364857103174072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389540993754932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842484112748666,0.09138424962064397,0.0,0.0,0.08316206114750256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682867765819288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144000501003151,0.0,0.0,0.26441776934689115,0.0,0.3184571802447798,0.0,0.13747925522592308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Largezambonidriver,2020/02/17,"Everything is a train smash On a mobile, so please excuse my formatting. 

Guys. Please give a confused mama some encouragement, advice and/or similar anecdotes.

My 5yr old son, has some mild sensory processing issues and is on the sensitive side. He goes to a normal school and is generally a happy gu, has friends etc. .
He has always struggled with frustration and not ""getting things right"". I always chat to him when he's ready and calm about how failing is learning and we can't always win or be good at everything automatically.
Lately EVERYTHING has been a trainsmash. When I say that, I don't mean tantrums or bad behavior. He just cries like his heart is breaking over seemingly no big deal things. Yesterday it was that his balloon MIGHT blow away.
We have moved recently from his childhood home to a smaller place. But he says he likes it and is adjusting at his own pace. I'm normally a patient mom and believe in letting boys cry - I mean we all get upset. But it's getting harder when each and every stumbling block breaks his heart.

I guess what I want to know is, is this a phase? Has anyone else been through this? And how do I go about trying to teach him to have a thicker skin without subscribing to a toxic boys don't cry mentality. I'm for real at my ropes end.",3.708282414307003,5.990706676229513,4.50102831594635,82.54657973174369,74.45081967213116,7.7150521609538,27.89418777943368,8.575989854853784,2.2253426229508197,1015,41,188,20,22,326,154,244,0.132,0.742,0.126,-0.5793,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,0,2,9,15,2,3,12,0,25,3,3,2,1,41,38,19,0,3,7,2,1,2,1,1,0,2,1,3,10,14,0,1,6,1,0,2,6,7,0,0,3,3,20,8,22,32,6,25,0,1,0,0,29,12,0,8,11,117,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535055948832464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26911935072171306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538316943181493,0.11046395457499814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012909239303441,0.0,0.09001674016735704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146480758351698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552722471518044,0.0,0.11114724444820424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006131446423139,0.0,0.09548754721171017,0.0,0.12023650589155865,0.0,0.0,0.09083446723281174,0.0,0.2906776848665044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329363992189855,0.0,0.1689786257993213,0.10342105327311356,0.061270834919981525,0.09042580589880812,0.0,0.0,0.11876472895497965,0.10674872344259773,0.0,0.11476561380302346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25551043557134284,0.0,0.0,0.10814209221849028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252549681981698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924948635634299,0.0,0.12161423184653515,0.0,0.0,0.11024289879140188,0.0,0.105340915858905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348731130111104,0.0,0.0,0.10864699414782204,0.11436923748061655,0.0,0.1262656194689082,0.0,0.11458483256866618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112615693442332,0.0,0.0,0.11312832542921185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263837041468155,0.2366857302246604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271123728703955,0.0,0.0,0.10644924263790488,0.0,0.0,0.0920690418997127,0.0,0.1714694752834987,0.0,0.10910934648408303,0.0,0.09814605870616844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270628658364815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432481773806661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319582648064528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358905595289338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039248697139836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jackal_Legacy,2020/02/17,"Anyone here ever have trouble with a 4yo who doesn't know how too clear their throat? My boy is about 4 and half and just cant figure out how to do it. Anytime he has a cold or anything that would cause mucus he just coughs. During colds he just keeps forcing himself to cough, sometimes even too the point of throwing up(from a cold!). My wife and I have tried to explain it but i must admit were a bit at a loss on how to even approach this. Anyone had a similar experience?",2.7441494845360808,4.3691566494845375,3.6150386597938144,90.74049613402063,75.28865979381445,5.674742268041237,24.496134020618552,5.985473137389443,0.5263206185567011,373,12,78,2,8,119,73,97,0.06,0.897,0.044000000000000004,-0.35100000000000003,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,1,13,2,0,0,7,0,11,3,1,4,3,23,15,8,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,2,3,6,0,10,11,1,7,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,1,1,57,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982646997078668,0.0,0.23435856356686255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109177946442406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925586019793676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762032764178237,0.2576095841874864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27858005055844737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531351493758428,0.0,0.0,0.15651357636864865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692193595733969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28166538438237043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335425979635326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20230721406318625,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thatshitproper,2020/02/17,"She spied Yesterday while playing “I spy....” with my 6 yo when her turn came she said “I spy with my little eye something beautiful.” My guess was the mirror and she said well yea but no, that’s not what I spy, it’s you mom! You’re beautiful.” At that moment it reminded me when I was her age being in awe of my momma’s beauty. I wish I saw myself the way she sees me. I hope she never has the internal struggles I do. I tell her every day she’s smart, strong and smart. I really hope it resonates.",-0.8842857142857135,1.2519024761904802,1.7495238095238081,94.98714285714287,95.66666666666666,5.085714285714286,15.571428571428573,6.742157984588678,-0.16545714285714253,380,9,86,6,15,130,66,105,0.05,0.63,0.319,0.9867,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,1,3,8,0,1,3,1,5,1,1,0,1,12,15,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,6,5,27,7,5,8,0,13,0,0,3,0,15,3,0,3,8,56,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24596276997358135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869107199637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119100684004605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369045745739199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4271913134050981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553910185629424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518668894948877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658617459796472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776813857748588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091283490740606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136899998625033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555792142734918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22481956646427345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18796536429129668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339153667033053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069866505568584,0.0,0.0,0.193358024749098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472997624521065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,niknikando,2020/02/17,"Parents who had very very active babies, did they stay very active? Everyone who meets my 10 month old daughter says the same things. Wow she's very active. Wow she's very strong! Wow she NEVER stops moving! (even our midwife) 

She was an early roller, early crawler, early stander, early walker and loves to climb. She's EXHAUSTING but she's very entertaining.

She's my first, so I'm curious to know how other very active children changed or didn't change as they got older? Did they chill out or will I be carting her around to every sport under the sun?",2.9835591766723866,5.591216858490569,3.3078044596912552,88.51069468267582,78.52830188679245,5.363979416809607,20.957118353344764,6.574015621080383,0.4359169811320753,441,12,81,4,11,136,71,106,0.018000000000000002,0.71,0.273,0.9809,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,3,3,4,7,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,1,1,11,11,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,3,0,1,1,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,6,1,15,6,7,3,1,16,0,0,0,1,20,3,0,2,10,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493501096661312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969285383336764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269521789423088,0.0,0.11824501768838268,0.1341037363008181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937567122820282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224510556870017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712883419326794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666502319267575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202043156557633,0.14916238259179246,0.0,0.0,0.10824116179509403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726635438009372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558342762152228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116063745161209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495869486331151,0.0,0.11733301948635755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323764306775643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.810583622914846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angie29m,2020/02/17,"3yo doesn't like school Hey guys.
Our daughter is turning 3 in march. 
We are from Belgium, and here kids start school or ""kindergarten"" when they are 2.5 years old.

Our daughter started in November.
We are in February and she still keeeeeeps crying every morning when we drop her off and it just breaks our hearts.

She is used to going to such a place as school because she went to daycare before that and to be honest we were never had a problem.

The teacher said she stops crying after a few minutes but is still really introverted in class (but she isn't at home, trust me). 

This morning they had a trip to a playground. She thought she could get on the bus straight away but when my husband told her that she first needs to enter the school, it started. It's like she really doesnt like the place, and maybe the kids?
A kid this age won't tell you everything, and the teacher doesn't seem surprised by this behaviour.
When does it really get worrying?

What do you guys think? Anyone can share their experience ?

Thanks",3.455209750566894,5.751381811224494,3.4668707482993177,89.60114512471658,75.27551020408163,6.396371882086169,25.174603174603178,7.3871296695380915,1.149703854875284,809,28,158,10,18,246,117,196,0.11699999999999999,0.821,0.062,-0.8436,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,7,2,3,1,9,9,0,0,12,0,18,1,1,1,1,24,34,15,0,3,5,3,0,3,0,1,0,1,1,5,10,10,0,1,3,0,0,4,6,1,0,1,7,1,25,8,18,24,1,34,0,0,0,0,36,11,0,2,20,105,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498030024630893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418640517115013,0.0,0.0,0.0740867844221697,0.0,0.10341757985732836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703603923973207,0.0,0.267001617290267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063563508428954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023987231677744,0.0,0.10922808155119508,0.11888483391299245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337785515224264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699434514688485,0.0,0.06907130579793001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24067808868841675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401990321299699,0.0,0.0,0.12190980473836086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812801037786075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209853374398165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011687718736144,0.09373550766615572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753084188151925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539570200945885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629285834073895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335758556050635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156078916044304,0.0,0.0,0.4920008056855558,0.0,0.11064116300371438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580699103151281,0.0,0.1941164783574532,0.1016089440020696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062271998973206,0.11189336577953138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787490612406818,0.0,0.09648544422997518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613217738628523,0.0,0.0,0.13219549522612556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496746842016344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266443096542635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342498593850296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826474173934618
parenting,lonleygirl85,2020/02/17,"I feel scared I’m going to lose my kids I share 50/50 custody of my two boys (preteens) with my narcissistic abusive ex husband.  This is only because I took him to court for child support after he hadn’t paid me in almost a year and he was working. I’m a student working part time and In school full time, I want to get my degree so I can provide financial stability for my kids and myself. I endured so much abuse and it was so hard for me when the court allowed him to get 50% when I had proof he was using steroids, not showing up to get them on the times we had agreed because he had dates( he flat out told me) or he just couldn’t he would say. All because he didn’t want to pay the extra child support. I wish I could say he was and is a good father but he’s not and never has been. Treated oldest like shit because he was chubby. Now that he’s hitting puberty and has slimmed out he’s more accepting of him. He talks shit about me to the boys and buys their love. So because I can’t afford to do what there dad does for them, they said they want to stay there more with him. He lets them do whatever they want, no structure or any discipline so of course they come to my house and I’m always the bad guy. My oldest has been a completely disrespectful to me more recently and today he told me he doesn’t want to go back and forth he wants to live with his dad. I’m completely crushed and don’t know what to do I’m so scared that my ex husband is going to use this in court and take them away from me. The system failed me the first time when they looked the other way and granted him 50% custody. It terrifies me it will happen again and he’ll get away with it. We are currently in court because he still has not paid back pay on child support and hid assets he cashed while we were still married and didn’t tell me about it. They are my life and  everything I do and have done has been for them.  I’m trying to protect them but how can I do that without telling them the person their dad really is and bringing them in the middle of it all. I have never in my life felt this scared.",2.9926324031890665,3.9680413917995487,3.925688354214123,91.35192660876992,73.57858769931663,6.854242596810932,24.652690774487468,7.04035,0.7494811503416856,1637,48,369,15,32,527,190,439,0.115,0.795,0.09,-0.9573,3,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,3,0,16,5,21,17,2,3,14,0,44,5,2,4,5,64,86,35,0,10,9,8,3,1,0,3,2,3,0,9,15,30,0,2,4,1,6,6,14,8,0,2,23,7,59,9,47,56,9,49,0,2,1,1,73,15,2,3,26,240,74,7,0.0,0.2038161436697569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612683284057505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156741117444937,0.0,0.0,0.05848991372647745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161890659417236,0.13227313343894792,0.07181495911235163,0.3145862698832335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409020729851919,0.18036020387521087,0.0,0.0,0.06867217922592536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526814206476959,0.08801833930738658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730045920625694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04348936248763488,0.0,0.08258332017357357,0.0,0.0,0.07316026759364831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797472052432048,0.0,0.14664480727842752,0.07214130995247099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516366172639832,0.07605857262180685,0.0,0.07704828236891963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924427088699317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04726897943868897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795129944066374,0.12150315457914,0.042020259516175336,0.0,0.07594861914154552,0.0,0.07222694073781276,0.09622345981821212,0.0,0.0,0.07762760113672568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322742406460741,0.0,0.13267280141928264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541466453090185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931407100503685,0.0,0.0,0.0751008254232042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05510036320743268,0.0,0.0849247372585275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818154359389815,0.13679759268783567,0.258333769444171,0.08704695639901988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657655406929693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167547355269254,0.13737578014221194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928102088088349,0.0,0.0,0.06466899760046323,0.06913177421358531,0.1503534844820845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006130542861509,0.0,0.08152765215335499,0.16437294353420998,0.09556054318013144,0.05839530820744517,0.0,0.08401950829734622,0.0,0.0,0.14857046641057906,0.0,0.0,0.3043864137776957,0.06827092636010433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989075331416992,0.08291080365041541,0.0,0.12523296056995392,0.0,0.0,0.061099207900834486,0.0,0.0,0.055387775654331006
parenting,spinwheel,2020/02/17,"How do I bag/package my stroller at gate check so it doesn't get broken? I'm flying solo with an infant - literally. I plan to walk the stroller through the airport and check it at the gate.  It's a 3-piece travel system: car seat, stroller, and attaching frame.  The car seat will go in a specialized padded bag.  But what to do with the other two folding pieces?  I see that you can buy a designated red ""gate check bag,"" which seems to be little more than a big nylon laundry bag nicely labeled ""stroller."" (Please tell me if I'm missing something here or if I could just use a big plastic bag.)   Once the stroller is folded and bagged, is there any way to help it survive the usual tossing and banging of baggage handling from gate to plane and back?  It'd be really nice to to arrive without the stroller getting busted. TIA!",4.859352272727271,5.904968912500002,4.9802272727272765,85.26386363636368,69.25,7.0681818181818175,31.42045454545455,6.980632752743323,1.7956875000000003,646,27,125,5,11,202,106,160,0.013999999999999999,0.884,0.102,0.9314,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,2,6,4,0,0,14,0,11,0,0,2,0,17,20,11,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,9,7,0,0,1,1,4,5,2,1,0,1,0,2,7,3,17,15,2,15,0,1,2,0,4,6,0,4,2,75,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779599071029487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012254168222105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089402062166236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27344711172496583,0.0,0.14872590627299406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540699931611392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622846831429561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786940239062962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28725983394481386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676469478752982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20853508006118815,0.2382350680753834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20146370931957489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287308223445368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25563559490535864,0.0,0.0,0.2260183398825876,0.28821737101884504,0.0,0.0,0.2077193645675791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252262278663261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InvincibleSummer1066,2020/02/17,"I know it's not reasonable, but I feel guilty for giving my daughter faulty genes re: mental health I've struggled tremendously with mental health throughout my life. When doctors ask the standard question, ""Any history mental health issues in your family?"" the answer is that there's no history of LACK of them. Still, I'd been hoping that maybe being a good, supportive parent could help my daughter avoid that. 

My daughter does think I'm a good, supportive parent and has expressed that without any prompting (spoken or unspoken) on my part as I've gotten her a therapist. But no matter how good of a job I have or haven't done, it wasn't enough to prevent her inheritance of bad mental health from rearing its head. Though she is still an optimist, so that's good -- she feels bad about some things, but expects to feel better, and feels empowered to ask for help, and expects at least some of the help to work (even though she knows some things she tries won't turn out to be the right things).

I just feel really guilty. Like this is what she got from me. Then again, she wouldn't be the person I love so much if she wasn't exactly who she is. 

Obviously I have not mentioned or even indicated any of this guilt to her -- it would be crappy of me to make her own emotions and experiences about me me me. Her dad kind of does that (she feels he gets so upset that he's the one who needs soothed when she is anxious or sad), and she thanked me for NOT doing it. 

(Her dad and I aren't together anymore. He does want to do his best for her, and is a good dad, and I gave him a parenting book about how to be a more receptive, less needy listener -- he was glad to get it.)

Does anyone else feel irrationally guilty for similar reasons?",6.371221362229107,6.082486855882355,6.3471826625387004,81.42890092879259,65.73529411764707,9.863777089783284,30.54179566563468,9.414487439383343,2.4022058823529417,1361,43,277,23,19,431,173,340,0.149,0.6609999999999999,0.19,0.9578,5,1,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,1,1,3,19,22,0,4,14,0,27,8,1,5,2,58,56,27,0,10,13,9,7,1,0,3,6,1,0,1,21,10,0,2,14,1,1,0,12,7,0,1,8,8,41,15,35,39,12,11,0,1,0,1,50,5,0,10,7,189,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599497525746846,0.0,0.0,0.08857283365037026,0.07775449795461394,0.05482105212513149,0.08033292122562763,0.0,0.0,0.14659204582814425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309261057088532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227888863806747,0.0693408943979297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259824629660228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024857543568996,0.27444323150178035,0.08023327269773925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549546870893111,0.0881925834513451,0.0,0.08101103809462508,0.0,0.10356860370138088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669297069958089,0.07391117058719225,0.0,0.2774996364581366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819244412495083,0.07521109811454177,0.0,0.3288026926965089,0.0627058715657212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046387939920392,0.333353988240693,0.0,0.0,0.15765520783425616,0.0,0.0,0.07787165872190863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183214068951071,0.07780266905738135,0.0,0.0,0.08164443845793529,0.08617624343498351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537820760818191,0.038303641799205534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076157696094544,0.0,0.05233446960661295,0.0,0.07876613830946867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160462779323183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763507011004833,0.058134673651697215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312775803499304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611710522355396,0.08490257879820211,0.0,0.0,0.06845829009522768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782906556039871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022683342760388,0.16122224747136565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695555232206618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522513509056604,0.0,0.0,0.08196361678876977,0.0,0.0,0.17794110876519464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218275318017042,0.0,0.09103167943010453,0.15626198509971242,0.050237340601214125,0.15406068171230566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053230346363548016,0.08527971910541435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04624399553980839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557748954613866,0.0,0.057078163228371184,0.0,0.0,0.05569509090603942,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fuzzybunnyslippers08,2020/02/17,"Weekend Activity Ideas for 2 ADHD boys? I have two boys, ages 7 and 10.  The older one has more ADHD symptoms than the younger one and has ASD to boot.  My older one is on meds but we give him weekends off, and my youngest doesn't take any; he's on the mild side.

The 10 YO doesn't seem terribly interested in much other than video games and Pokemon Go.  The younger one is more motivated; he's always working.on something; he loves crafts.

Maybe wheat I want is the find the thing that they are passionate about but will burn energy, so they can stop trying to rough housing so much on weekends.  

We used to go to Tae Kwon Do, but they didn't seem too into it.  

I think part of the problem is I don't know if I should push them to do activities that they may not want to do, or go with the flow (in part because my mom didn't push me).  

The oldest I think does best in somewhat solitary activities: swimming, climbing, but not so much group activities, especially since this is an age where they have teams and competition is more intense.  

What do you do?  Do you push your kids?  And then there is the issue of this balled up energy?  

Sometimes I wish I could just take them to a track and have them run.  But I don't think they are that motivated and therein lies my problem.  Any tips?",3.66000614376408,4.890607206225685,4.377870161785786,87.76726807290598,72.26848249027238,7.43387261929142,25.977677657177964,7.85451343220497,1.2320085603112845,1000,32,216,13,19,320,141,257,0.06,0.787,0.153,0.9797,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,2,3,9,5,11,7,0,0,13,0,31,3,0,3,0,43,48,19,0,8,10,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,9,12,0,1,10,8,0,10,8,3,0,5,2,1,29,4,23,42,10,31,0,0,0,2,27,11,0,6,10,145,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017018935706889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044429022251964,0.0,0.0,0.17071614692346482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651597863613004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172575713935974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021770499706316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984361559733903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472323341887572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041046018500745,0.214008150037452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483351445247922,0.0,0.14169708252629873,0.0,0.13101052857042564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898264610642173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132869251863359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610196099510645,0.0,0.13942469991041667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700779836042133,0.0,0.0,0.27681547625499797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34022307632571996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718523951988082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402118524575016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22853784060671103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038316469038983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966316198964145,0.1241427356149172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494054842763012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046359935572258,0.18875121183083954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339007587516856,0.24128492145071806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522000957466283,0.0,0.12261504427928367,0.0,0.0,0.10840919380923326,0.0,0.0,0.14807018972816088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434209151527752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontbotherthislady,2020/02/17,"My Daughter Doesn’t Want to Be an Adult?! My daughter’s 18th is coming up in just a little over a month from now, and she just admitted she doesn’t want her birthday to come?! This is a first. She loves her birthdays. I asked her why, and she said she didn’t want to turn 18. She’s not being made to move out. She isn’t being told to get a job. All we expect of her is that she attend college while living at home so pretty much only a little different than being in high school.
I couldn’t wait to turn 18, and I’ve never known anyone who felt this way at that age so I’m wondering if anyone has had a child feeling this way, too? I get the simple explanation that she doesn’t want to grow up, but her circumstances are basically the same after 18 as before! I just don’t get it. 

Added info: She has her permit and also doesn’t want to drive at all. I didn’t drive until I was 22, because of severe anxiety so I understand to an extent, but I think her reluctance is different than mine.",2.1463489819004518,3.5760294663461565,3.9317647058823546,88.66617647058823,76.45192307692308,6.817194570135746,20.408371040723978,7.510576382923642,0.5199238687782803,771,17,168,10,17,260,114,208,0.044000000000000004,0.878,0.077,-0.5511,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,1,9,1,0,0,10,0,22,1,0,2,3,37,47,14,0,8,7,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,8,8,0,1,8,0,0,7,11,0,0,1,8,3,29,1,26,34,5,29,0,0,0,1,28,12,0,2,8,119,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829947571608864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359989986710046,0.0,0.0,0.18938488363226172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660427182795378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255393900594331,0.0,0.1152368623671753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23331362007108256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829810000600617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847504526267152,0.0,0.13002942014693766,0.0,0.0,0.1151925976456564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122622173129122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308414885925502,0.13584250771701076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343886048746296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27146323621139434,0.11958292409628647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222652155412135,0.12814258945977194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809509482680618,0.1439355451993004,0.09955309705671367,0.0,0.10444825541986087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029969596788076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777610472017335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882036798538582,0.0,0.0,0.13705752254003292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299191773597154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677499368343633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940457280402518,0.0,0.0,0.29460743734188466,0.0,0.14098239907732066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39938642977916206,0.21498842499527726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220017016080807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686284197554753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,owlhelper,2020/02/17,"Your thoughts on active shooter drills in our children’s schools. How do you feel about schools conducting active shooter drills with your child present? Are you comfortable allowing this to continue or would you prefer they change the way they practice lock downs? 

As a public school employee and a parent, I’m curious how others feel.

Thanks!",6.9822033898305085,9.795494000000003,5.212000000000003,78.71223728813561,66.62711864406779,8.787796610169492,35.52881355932203,9.3871,3.7601633898305082,282,14,43,6,5,81,48,59,0.0,0.775,0.225,0.9267,2,0,0,2,0,0,6.0,1,5,2,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,0,11,8,5,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,8,2,7,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,2,27,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712881673689847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259335807314918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847553518765642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7786177384802347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361030264108452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20359120693694596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20355662616081088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217342702793266,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greeneyes_84,2020/02/17,Who here celebrated 100 days ? (Asian families? ) My husband is Chinese and we live in Australia. His mum told me we should celebrate the 100 days of our daughter which will be soon. My husband does not know much and I’d like to hear how you celebrated it!,2.694489795918365,5.1794776326530645,3.644244897959183,86.39004081632655,78.79591836734693,7.185306122448982,28.16734693877552,8.238735603445708,2.0560089795918364,200,9,40,4,5,64,42,49,0.0,0.755,0.245,0.9355,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,7,3,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,1,3,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,4,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4753627430994682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225166683533962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347431916778405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153775863919612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025429796302469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005272523985008,0.0,0.3254324464458564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27092336277328244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521610382681937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,malibu_and_sprites,2020/02/17,"Tantrums and Running I am desperate for any and all advice. I’ve read articles, books, and tried all the approaches from positive reinforcement, chore charts, punishments, etc. 

We just moved around 90 minutes away from our home town this December. It was for the better in so many ways, but we started a new daycare and are now away from grandparents we spent quite a bit of time with. 

My three year old started these tantrums where it’s like she just snaps. She will take off when we are walking out of the daycare door. I’m also walking out with my 5 and 1 year old and it’s extremely dangerous and it gives me nightmares. And when you get her in her car sear it’s another fight to buckle her in. I’ve asked the daycare manager to hold back either my 3 or 1 year old while I load the other two just to avoid any danger. I’ll do what’s best for them always, but it deep down it really pisses me off that it looks like I can’t handle my kid. 

The tantrums.. 😭😭 It’s like i mentioned earlier, they come out of no where. You can see it in her eyes when she decides to have a tantrum. We were at my husbands barber shop waiting for him to get his hair cut she says she needs to go to that bathroom. We go in and she changes her mind. I said hey let’s just try since we are here. She lost it. I told her if she can take a breath and a moment to talk to me we can go sit back and watch dad or we are going to have to go. This ended up with us outside on the sidewalk screaming. We go to the car and she is screaming so loud people are looking in my car because they think she’s in danger 😢 we got yogurt at Sams with a pizza we picked out to make at home later for dinner. We go to leave after yogurt and she decides she wants to eat pizza there. I tell her no we are taking it home for later. She starts screaming, taking her shoes off, throwing things out of the buggy. I have two other small children and if I’m alone this can be a serious issue. Especially today when she took off away from me in a store. 

She doesn’t act like this with other people. Honestly not even when my husband is around. No behavior issues anywhere! It isn’t all the time, but probably 3 times a week, but it’s enough to be a major issues and makes me question going anywhere. 

I know this is a novel so if you’re still reading, thank you. It’s honestly the worst seeing her so upset and it makes my blood boil when she puts all of us in danger when she runs away from my in a store or parking lot. Any tips?",2.02813189700473,3.6128209807321774,3.379398756349623,91.84296045717292,77.15028901734105,6.2596076370642875,22.392757050271502,6.980632752743323,0.520687475915222,1935,55,428,20,44,632,241,519,0.145,0.7879999999999999,0.067,-0.9912,1,2,0,0,1,0,46.0,17,3,3,4,27,29,12,2,23,0,27,11,6,4,4,79,68,39,0,5,16,3,1,4,0,1,0,6,5,2,29,43,5,3,5,5,4,22,7,20,0,3,8,13,74,9,69,56,12,92,0,1,6,0,67,36,1,8,36,291,103,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568697450846291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802187965728812,0.0,0.06193979025139181,0.06444778125127326,0.0,0.0,0.15801375668297113,0.08121708146968662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790063832167507,0.0724088643098453,0.0,0.291081646445522,0.1191144101679794,0.0,0.047215128537272257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128300344403648,0.06850160778121894,0.08455950886582704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193586940789215,0.06671960595580664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925459215538012,0.0,0.0,0.06860109321478544,0.08003049867890194,0.08638148103437064,0.05115751628819713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809328462070845,0.07430075987007949,0.3521503174334688,0.0,0.06194689377561261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330774838819857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24252498849702275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042566592766781035,0.0,0.0,0.08201240978717626,0.0,0.07920177653625657,0.0,0.15136009247667398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300833997131111,0.0,0.08454999182304884,0.06584846626768608,0.0,0.0,0.15510307481139268,0.07852601456931188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820627655329486,0.0,0.0,0.0823211508681381,0.0,0.05743102461477082,0.0,0.07480538004563808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243824258490856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739345007750864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350831588035393,0.0,0.0,0.07786247995304509,0.0867660022710787,0.08238166939542044,0.15494955615646952,0.0,0.04961889911320589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367631764016523,0.061594384822417365,0.0,0.0,0.12344132989306895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407059861467095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446663304616202,0.0,0.06185471908608831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329425274827729,0.062254444989903464,0.0676980508254541,0.07130906934284077,0.0,0.0,0.05145687503916771,0.04962927911034593,0.0,0.0,0.135491832385152,0.0,0.07341716300316832,0.07401044228565505,0.08605404166589023,0.1051721164059017,0.0,0.15132225136348368,0.0,0.1863348127739383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04568426860093937,0.061479235530160166,0.06212878083734369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963315805837046
parenting,daughterlifestyles,2020/02/17,"How to help teen daughter adjust to less money/income and environment change? Hello Reddit, I need advice!

My daughter(17f) is a junior in high school. I should add that she isn’t spoiled, and she’s a good student. 

I grew up surrounded by wealthy people, while being a son of two poor immigrants. I vowed to work hard, be successful, and get my future kids the things I wanted but couldn’t. I started a business that was extremely successful until last year, due to a variety of reasons. I had to close the business and take a lower paying job.

We were the 1%, and now we are upper middle class. Me and my wife are honestly fine with how it is like, as we’ve lived with way less. However, my daughter is not handling it well. 

We live in LA, and while the public school nearby was 10/10 rated, we decided to enroll her into a public Ivy League feeder school, costing us $50,000 a year. After I closed my business, money was a little more tight and we had to switch her to public school. She lost most of her friends, and is having adjust to the new school with larger class sizes, along with a stressful workload. 

She is often missing her old friends, and crying in her room and I try to comfort her but I feel awful at the same time. I had to sell her AMG Mercedes, as I couldn’t afford the costs and needed money. She had it for not even 7 months. I was able to get her a 2019 Camry, but she seldom drives it and cries because it’s not as nice as her AMG. I know it isn’t as good, but I honestly couldn’t afford another luxury car for her and I feel awful. Additionally, she used to go shopping whenever she wanted using her debit card, but now I had to take it away as I couldn’t afford it anymore. She used to go shopping weekly with her friends on rodeo drive and eat with them at fancy restaurants, and they stopped inviting her as she couldn’t come because of her lack of funds. She just sits around at home and mopes all day.

On top of that, she loves Instagram and has created a very sizable audience(80k+). She tells me that she’s getting less likes because she can’t post in “fun clothes” and go to “fun places.” Last year we traveled 5 times, this year we had to cancel our London trip and even one trip seems unlikely. 

My wife and I love our daughter and we spend time with her and take her to local places, but she doesn’t seem to recognize that. 

Reddit, how do I help my daughter adjust to a lower class lifestyle?",5.147950310559008,5.491325399585925,5.542830227743268,83.99909006211182,68.29606625258799,8.096314699792961,27.69420289855073,7.793537801064563,1.5424893581780543,1900,56,381,20,30,608,232,483,0.091,0.752,0.157,0.9902,9,0,0,0,0,0,63.0,11,0,2,5,11,22,0,1,20,2,33,4,0,7,1,89,60,42,0,11,10,7,4,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,15,46,2,2,10,3,12,11,12,3,1,2,12,4,74,19,59,40,8,63,0,2,0,2,65,25,0,4,26,255,89,15,0.08924569502011008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720986028279287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358189270408213,0.0,0.0,0.08850774842632557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944758975401058,0.0,0.0,0.08384926826002555,0.0,0.0,0.16321004200699854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441011177441704,0.07687726390593519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19606441064919966,0.057556090175832936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132062621775948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789187972917367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025060987053296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20685300776705584,0.0,0.13988157650335326,0.0,0.1521611554433321,0.14971010949909508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994661309704329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963901630693513,0.09429297671741384,0.08952070875436241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856258147080931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049047100006493635,0.14549430581126085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720187722529048,0.08944763209547912,0.1576111675193721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742221857441127,0.0,0.16109544828043718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123506231145599,0.0,0.0,0.13234910405863226,0.0,0.08619404837554796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364834418180064,0.0,0.06047519264236766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187172784598088,0.0,0.1864855126362095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547270604058017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175943833018917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4516070398030614,0.0,0.16249185782483316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316856228030528,0.0,0.0,0.07461339719450276,0.1022306421158077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130496767401265,0.0,0.07800467111081466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059290874181437574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611964738328216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059196867737623,0.0,0.08718007612797021,0.0,0.10735158257659323,0.23123887834841256,0.0,0.07363704495688089,0.10527884639817438,0.07083907866179376,0.07158751332779413,0.0,0.08024259780017635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497192888573781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298852062316117
parenting,Melissa_R-,2020/02/17,"Fear of the dark A is seven and afraid of the dark. She starts crying every night when it's time to go to bed and takes forever to fall asleep. She won't accept a nightlight though, because ""nightlights are for babies"" in her mind. 



Anothe issue is E, my three year old. They share a room and E won't go to sleep unless the room is pitch black. Even the tiniest bit of light disturbs her sleep. 


Any tips?",2.4629965156794427,4.188979585365857,2.937108013937284,94.86939024390249,76.3170731707317,5.173519163763067,19.031358885017426,5.288315135182226,-0.4430787456445993,314,6,68,1,7,97,59,82,0.136,0.8370000000000001,0.026000000000000002,-0.8475,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,3,7,0,6,3,3,0,0,6,10,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,3,0,2,0,2,6,2,10,8,1,13,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,6,38,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634343214831986,0.24107566706707376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014808709949644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509969533231991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525400866534658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518502283201953,0.0,0.1937050620474775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587072879079455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26132086731915305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399613165291108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321387317513314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157504730554156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24124685225959006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46014250595825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272809674353073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728601120139965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258807095693869,0.0,0.13405958156959902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480514227693114
parenting,natbug826,2020/02/17,"Push back from in-laws for raising kids bilingual? Hi there! I am bilingual and want to raise my child to speak the same languages I do. My husband, who is not, and I agree on this and he encourages it, however, I’ve noticed that his mother seems to not be as supportive of it. She’s never said anything obvious but it’s always small things. For example, when she was preaching to my husband about reading to our child, he responded that I read to her everyday in French. My MIL said that it wasn’t good enough and that he needed to be reading to her in English. Also, I’ve noticed whenever she visits, all of our child’s toys which are in French are switched to English and I have to go and switch them all back. 

Has anyone else experienced this? If so how did you handle it? It’s not really a big deal at the moment because she’s not here very often but she’s planning to move closer so that she can spend more time with the kid and I could see it becoming an issue later.",3.0028030303030318,4.58530325757576,4.135239898989898,87.4561931818182,74.50505050505049,7.1722222222222225,26.01136363636364,7.865858978985527,1.428342424242424,767,27,158,11,16,250,120,198,0.016,0.9420000000000001,0.042,0.6987,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,1,1,12,3,0,0,5,0,14,0,0,1,4,26,22,16,0,4,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,17,8,0,0,1,4,1,4,6,0,0,0,5,5,23,3,24,14,5,20,1,0,1,0,33,8,0,3,8,113,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948801738257296,0.13473108941865705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321879880591053,0.16590701004743946,0.1332470343285847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490142241642425,0.0,0.0987054260264846,0.17882881887117053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292805952881162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669332505101811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526406384046566,0.0,0.0,0.1673074862218601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202333072172247,0.13581149747464238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900326267790428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209620134816894,0.0,0.1200622327494775,0.1248833147525308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686958425257706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858938996946323,0.0,0.1037306204105295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30804754942027945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902992572341224,0.1474066288005799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374582219438654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757299471763893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441732945213403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360163022607374,0.09550509200466084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,illsquee,2020/02/17,"My uncle/aunt have a 1.5 year old and 3 month old. The 1.5 year old never makes eye contact Hi. I wanted go see other parent’s opinion on this topic. My 1.5 year cousin runs around and always seems to be in his own world. He never looks at anyone in the eyes.. is constantly hyper.. doesn’t respond to any cues when we saw his name. Play with him. Etc. is it weird for me to be worried for him? I can only think that he has ADHD or some sort of problem :(

Other issues I noticed: 

1.	When he eats.. he take a couple of bites out of the food he is eating then throw it his booster chair seat? This is to the point where we had a small pile of food on ground me to him. (Fruits, salad bits, crackers, pieces of meat, etc) it was just so strange. 
2.	He never responds to anyone calling his name. 
3.	he doesn’t talk/say much. He is 1.5 years old with minimal words. 
4.	he is obsessed with these YouTube videos with like animals singing and can be entertained for hours in front of a TV...

Sorry for the rambling.",0.7885657546337157,2.9318443349514567,2.1530803177405144,96.3037246248897,83.80582524271844,4.5221535745807575,18.586937334510147,5.565023196281405,-0.4359533980582522,767,19,170,4,22,246,130,206,0.076,0.887,0.037000000000000005,-0.7361,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,2,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,9,0,17,8,2,1,3,27,26,8,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,11,6,0,2,5,0,4,5,3,0,0,3,6,16,3,28,20,7,34,0,0,5,0,27,13,0,5,18,98,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282066351744285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888306910473524,0.0,0.0,0.08081418743577701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661891454242137,0.0,0.0,0.10579137158798542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974075439527805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134729377021275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284220927511895,0.0,0.0,0.13149242973489564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432027033611256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650724599870472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873997310350615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753860159720433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703188625215134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403641486469552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805843969133685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979432614645932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932555508329392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485567743990762,0.0,0.08735989803871902,0.0,0.2749665017031968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352983065468178,0.4988036419285484,0.0,0.0,0.09038195859153222,0.0,0.0,0.13195598010260706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234070037333303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371229973634968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945050658472191,0.0,0.0,0.09469881908429242,0.10818601649461143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302985983986068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893516875030343,0.09551780474819596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614684851217553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700939675712533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068616419136695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061121344313835
parenting,aaaahhhkyleswife,2020/02/17,"Inside dogs! My husband (27m) and I (26f) have three dogs before we got pregnant. They are large (shepherd/husky mixes). My problem mainly concerns one of them, but I would appreciate any advice! Our son is now one and wanting to be included in all the areas. The problem dog sheds giant tumbleweeds of fur that scream choking hazards. We are brushing her daily and sweeping daily, but little to no help. In addition to all the extra housework, she chews his toys and takes his stuff. And he in turn finds their chew toys and gets in their water bowls. I don't know what to do! My husband is opposed to locking them in the basement (it would be unkind) and she wouldn't make it outside. Our house isn't terribly large to allow sectioning off a big enough space for them. How have you coexisted with dogs and toddlers??",4.0704416873449185,6.109580212903229,4.514193548387098,83.93436724565758,72.6774193548387,6.575682382133995,28.052109181141443,7.321109707123232,1.6371191066997528,643,25,116,7,13,203,103,155,0.1,0.823,0.078,-0.5615,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,4,1,6,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,14,3,0,3,2,28,21,11,0,6,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,5,12,3,1,2,2,0,0,4,5,0,3,1,2,22,0,16,15,6,13,0,0,0,0,21,12,0,0,1,84,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177777533892173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433716592884636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19312196809056145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345051585367148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20743273593212885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185746074553906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18151662660496096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212313604362152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618755701196981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472851912608778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22746850861981915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151494208452168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30758113002190696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4343305211478298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598091483967246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064189664886953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468618415359939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386392472550487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224446058173417,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CyssiP,2020/02/17,"Has anyone else resented their hubby for sleeping ? Hello there,

 So it is almost 3am in France and i was able to sleep a full 4 hours before my lo had to eat. (breastfed baby, sleeps in an attached bed).

Baby boy eats, starts getting reeeal sleepy and tadaa... Cries when i wanna put him down.

Now my husband is a great person, however he could sleep through anything. The most well rested dad in the world... And I know it's not fair but as much as I love him, I can't help but resent him for his full nights of sleep especially since he is basically taunting me with his full fledged snoring abilities..

Now i know once my lo is back to sleep i will get 3 more hours of sleep (if i can fall back asleep with the snoring noises oc).

I'm sorry i kind of vented, needed to get it off my chest.

Anyone (moms or dads) ever felt that way towards their fully sleeping SO ?",1.76971602434077,3.881705816091959,2.9822244759972967,91.91169371196756,79.91954022988506,5.243542934415147,20.580121703853948,6.2272716619740125,0.10306531440162248,668,18,140,5,17,215,118,174,0.055999999999999994,0.872,0.07200000000000001,0.6923,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,2,0,10,6,2,0,6,0,11,13,10,0,1,19,21,12,0,4,5,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,5,2,0,3,0,1,2,2,2,1,0,3,1,21,4,21,16,7,23,0,0,0,1,18,10,0,4,10,88,25,0,0.09873848497985058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887232996271536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808048896407585,0.1011692462361752,0.08125336007426125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184760037311756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401917828480197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788346458327642,0.0,0.10845958934829852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206824044837104,0.08248333435500299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931461254922203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948044298428148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476034936387606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885952826775848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618232516405721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447503670393965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282093781907753,0.10852817822092478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911533770214917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156413202511258,0.0,0.0,0.07258414745588193,0.07321333550175889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265937942518077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051532640279971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621463656349806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992594491572961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167749511068254,0.0,0.790478341862783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052965009611336,0.0698876078729314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837401347883359,0.0,0.0,0.08877775601222644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pegpegpegpegpegpeg,2020/02/17,"Nap time SOS My daughter (2 yrs) will not nap on her own. The only place she wants to fall asleep is in the car. We have fought with her for over a week trying to get her to nap in her room/ toddler bed all to no avail. By the afternoon and evening it is apparent she is missing her nap and it is affecting us being able to get her to sleep at night. She used to put herself to sleep no problem but now she continually gets out of bed and laughs when we go to put her back. My question is should we be fighting to get her to nap during the day or should we just put her in her room same time and just let her have quiet time? Could this be a phase or is this something we caused with the change in schedule? Any help, advice or words of encouragement welcome!",4.880691823899376,4.342759333333333,5.252201257861639,88.87314465408804,68.87421383647799,8.324528301886794,27.729559748427675,7.3871296695380915,1.1544012578616356,590,16,138,5,9,188,92,159,0.066,0.841,0.09300000000000001,0.8642,1,0,1,0,2,0,12.0,6,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,7,0,16,3,3,3,1,31,25,9,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,0,4,12,0,0,1,5,0,6,3,4,0,0,1,1,24,3,25,16,3,29,0,1,0,0,29,11,0,4,12,96,28,0,0.16226830177930465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585667064759868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110348009627095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247743078437782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669424478825132,0.17165834727352314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295580350788864,0.0,0.0,0.10464963052598134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071766829364284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391139612100627,0.0,0.0922208153756608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876502221366732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659303325831453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227780886365264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341235559288412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695358383118761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526884998995574,0.0,0.4893733862816672,0.1817776348382716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247709800124293,0.0,0.0,0.1249220664216584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838598550838852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016952533707247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518878747147766,0.14014771277013413,0.0,0.0,0.09571004861616322,0.0,0.13016184381428064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mazurke,2020/02/17,"What is sleep? Me and my wife had our first child this September and everything has been going great until the 4 month hurdle. After getting over a cold our daughter doesn't want to sleep any more. I keep seeing article on self soothing but as soon as we put her down in her crib she starts losing it. No amount of talking to or gentle rocking will calm her down. The only way to do so is to pick her up. 

Even after she calms down and starts to fall asleep, as soon as we lay her down the whole meltdown begins again. Eventually she will just tire herself out so much that she will sleep for a couple of hours. The whole process can take anywhere from 30 minutes to 3 hours. We have the same routine every night but nothing seems to help.

Does anyone have any guidance on what to do. Me and my wife are slowly loosing our minds.",4.056636363636365,5.281714133333338,4.147045454545456,89.82056818181817,71.3030303030303,6.469696969696972,24.65909090909091,6.42735559955562,0.6523636363636358,652,18,134,4,12,201,111,165,0.059000000000000004,0.861,0.08,0.5792,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,6,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,7,0,15,5,4,1,0,18,25,14,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,5,8,0,1,1,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,2,2,21,3,29,20,6,28,0,1,1,0,23,10,0,2,14,98,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077941340969218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682879660571776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905048756925772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337006451964793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091113605680793,0.0,0.12872550859751178,0.0,0.13731069993686207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995637611993446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982234134529398,0.0,0.08682958823387889,0.0,0.0,0.16844280449986435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240662104961087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009191855677713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579975029805905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092408963226144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426636761070964,0.0,0.12194921450807393,0.0,0.11231242275483544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337565100598668,0.0,0.14659854540303882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619767159347115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358820909128054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174755284930372,0.1390870856479146,0.15938505072593193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4586773118940853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21627991333837088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487312515235493,0.12280046461064435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756005486717966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011484096441102,0.12127131947341788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411515167336612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,warnerbros14,2020/02/17,"Anyone else struggling with dental problems? My daughter is 3 going on 4 soon. I've had her to the dentist several times for cavities and crowns already. I brush her teeth twice a day and always help her do it after she has her turn. I even got an electronic toothbrush to help her with the brushing. Well, tonight while brushing her teeth, I noticed a cavity in the back of her mouth again. She just had fillings in November, and she doesn't do well at the dentist. We barely got the last two cavities filled. I feel like the worst parent ever. 

I've cut back drastically on sugar filled beverages, but she does occasionally get candy or popsicles, if it's a holiday or she sick or something. It seems like there's sugar in everything these days.

Any advice from anyone going through this? I'm at a loss and silently freaking out that she has to get another filling. She is very emotional and gets upset easily when sick or having to get teeth worked on or when she gets a cut, etc. Anyone else have a child struggling with cavities/not doing well at the dentist?

Thanks!",4.241176470588236,6.290614098039218,4.9390196078431385,81.02558823529412,72.23529411764707,7.937254901960784,28.176470588235286,8.671277953709913,2.2946352941176467,852,33,153,16,17,274,120,204,0.168,0.7290000000000001,0.10300000000000001,-0.9384,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,3,13,15,2,3,14,0,12,11,4,0,1,22,26,15,0,2,8,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,6,10,2,0,2,1,0,6,1,9,3,2,4,6,21,6,22,22,2,30,0,1,0,0,21,10,0,7,16,105,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373794930510247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973549041649638,0.0,0.10536339100732192,0.0,0.0,0.08611036152929258,0.13277892497183594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656205769456481,0.2594876245105669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473592309102786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633272326152853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081170259790367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21156038311805986,0.14243776791686494,0.0,0.0,0.14122201859099912,0.08363560834811926,0.11454091785153685,0.0,0.0,0.1138037323795519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402616259619212,0.09046199618847313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33078559706367017,0.0,0.14392951498373754,0.0,0.20254955760606447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697501462185094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321749730062936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372662252208358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416510838899727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060374190630354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116445826304816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527600893306475,0.0,0.14305190107273247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748326534304788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647550206356401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165806674747166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738369298716199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377332692000551,0.12369568997539375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448012307674666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415572895029745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218559938805908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MomGoneMad85,2020/02/17,"Always stuck to my hip I love my children, but my 2 year old won't let me do anything without her. She follows me to the bathroom, to load the washer, anywhere I go, she goes. I know it's just a phase but sometimes I want to scream. There is no mommy time. I can't get away. The older kids just ignore her and do their thing. I feel bad for my 2 year old because she has nobody to play with but me. I desperately need to be able to accomplish things and it is so difficult when she's right there ""helping"". Ugh, mom life.",0.6972727272727289,2.621744363636364,2.4700000000000024,95.165,82.63636363636363,5.090909090909091,20.909090909090907,6.1124844417494595,0.00472727272727269,400,12,92,3,11,132,74,110,0.22399999999999998,0.688,0.08900000000000001,-0.9549,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,0,4,0,9,3,1,0,0,14,18,7,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,4,3,0,1,2,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,2,21,2,11,14,0,11,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,0,7,61,25,1,0.21638227848136024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800473897194122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806417822516646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032982735022769,0.0,0.1806701642381255,0.13190462857453994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940938156018508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113050809657317,0.0,0.12297503539252146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503648012338213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891804136789773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22126554009508986,0.15283720247560512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529345445762056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25342430935250443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044471772403351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541136036981623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847892835303985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400760629859947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875095419591993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617424668267008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276278741198268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858479483641687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786861859406481
parenting,Maaaggieweber,2020/02/17,"SOS infant with lice My one year old nephew has lice. How do I handle this? I ordered a kid safe lice kit but I'm concerned it isn't ""kid friendly "" enough for a noggin so young. I ordered treatment for the whole house and know to wash/vacuum everything but what do I do for him specifically?",0.5386864406779637,3.0091559830508494,2.08625,93.24090042372885,90.86440677966101,4.983898305084747,19.239406779661017,6.6274283507984215,0.22047288135593224,229,7,48,3,8,74,45,59,0.071,0.893,0.036000000000000004,-0.4314,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,7,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,5,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817196432302365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33201960065530906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28542047605095644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42627228253981214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302890613807875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3876543338618595,0.0,0.25033513110956424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124550759734904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23790061977339844
parenting,carimoo,2020/02/17,"20 month old hitting 4 year old to get his attention The two brothers love each other and play a lot. They get along well most of the time. The 20 month old adores his big brother. He hits not when he's angry, but when he wants to play with his big brother. He is usually smiling or laughing when he does it. It doesn't usually hurt my older son but it hurts his feelings and makes him frustrated.

We have tried saying ""No hitting! Hitting hurts."" And redirecting but it is still happening several times a day. I don't  want this to affect the way my older son feels about his brother. 

We have also tried encouraging my 4 year old to ignore the hitting and walk away since little brother is trying to get attention. But this , I think, might have been to big of an ask since he gets upset when he is hit, understandably, and wants some kind of consequence for his brother and acknowledgement of what happened. Also, little brother chases him when he walks away, thinking that's the game now.

If he was hitting me and my husband I would be more willing to ignore it or redirect as we wait out the phase, but since big brother is the target in hoping we can help stop this behavior more quickly. Any suggestions would be much appreciated!",4.956917349218166,6.315781092827005,5.381236038719287,81.31255398361878,69.29535864978902,8.276892529163566,29.5529908165798,8.671277953709913,2.2622094316207493,977,37,183,16,17,312,129,237,0.094,0.754,0.152,0.9420000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,1,0,12,16,1,1,11,0,19,1,0,2,0,48,45,23,0,7,9,11,2,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,11,15,0,4,8,3,0,2,4,7,1,1,2,3,21,9,20,30,7,37,0,3,0,1,40,10,0,8,24,118,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907707750956905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188837223436935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988272571928873,0.0,0.19864143024191394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817605155601952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251003924275103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690320021215056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209224321827241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869630721570414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085710407825692,0.0,0.0,0.10499672613299846,0.0,0.0,0.3395034203740621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008367981043783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190412200256792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987329622719889,0.09540998662222126,0.0,0.07056415726579747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214464251727953,0.0,0.0,0.16875799818596018,0.0,0.07771111815675713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4437114697380958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406711206565698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942544579437743,0.0,0.26234031930259377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442242935280342,0.08838068740183615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547306887587407,0.0,0.0,0.12328404166433288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215316285443102,0.0,0.10326610696801368,0.11005081907677232,0.0,0.0,0.23285556830761864,0.0,0.18705655746958474,0.08390995052431882,0.0,0.0,0.09504855989871956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019077037249848,0.0,0.0,0.13615123633426798
parenting,BRREHLife,2020/02/17,"How are the “golden years” better/worse? We have three young children and they are adorable.  We love them.  But sometimes they kill me...diapers, noise, crying, waking us up in the night, every meal being an absolute battle etc etc etc.  You know the feeling I’m sure.  

My question is about the golden years (post diaper, pre-teen attitude—essentially mid-elementary age).  Are they really that much better?  I’m sure there are new challenges...but I am exhausted out of my mind.  A life of full sleep and no diapers sounds aaaammmaaazziiinnng.",3.6870738636363636,6.717080302083333,4.4073863636363635,79.0080681818182,79.3125,7.657575757575756,23.310606060606066,8.575989854853784,2.0387833333333334,423,14,72,10,11,135,73,96,0.141,0.7,0.159,0.23199999999999998,0,0,0,0,0,1,25.0,3,1,4,1,3,8,2,0,6,0,8,6,2,1,2,13,13,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,2,11,5,6,12,5,11,0,0,0,1,11,4,0,1,6,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991263340674053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575829454938705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.565803707169527,0.0,0.0,0.1424816251880731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550659100283133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870940517047863,0.0,0.09293788321533593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194466870732614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526274739671381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075188133659086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243145721253588,0.0,0.0,0.1633265249265116,0.0,0.1586973397137997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195967490527408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944078118519528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833555498140454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16923112740072516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725312402212192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187664602887547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034173038398599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233651726930269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21780130167592265
parenting,Nikkerdoodle71,2020/02/17,"Should kids have to earn their birthday party? I (26F) have a younger sister who is going to be turning 10 soon. I wanted to give her a big party because I feel like hitting double digits is a big deal. However, my Mom has been telling me lately that she isn’t listening, won’t clean up her messages, talks back, argues, and has an all around bad attitude. I don’t want to reward that kind of behavior, but I’ve personally always put a big emphasis on birthdays. Thoughts?",4.1350155279503085,5.659128184782612,5.183540372670809,81.30804347826088,71.5,7.86583850931677,29.447204968944106,8.418075326091056,2.246616149068322,371,15,69,6,7,122,71,92,0.046,0.826,0.128,0.6261,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,2,3,5,1,0,5,0,12,0,0,0,1,9,21,2,0,3,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,2,10,3,8,15,2,11,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,4,44,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043974575308685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186773486812424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888868951027156,0.2051044576625471,0.14974374668361354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532506203940756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420618513702007,0.17548981526995558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23564638091797446,0.13960649256382907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558028924852637,0.0,0.0,0.2770998041092829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001040793494375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28769805876604354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144889346011845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469424490720728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974412466787627,0.21470575402073994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501577821355529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26719271060618754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897771861154588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautyinboots,2020/02/17,"Why is it so hard to make friends as parents? I have 2 toddlers, ages 3 and 18 months. I have never been someone with a lot of friends but after I had my kids my relationships with other women basically dissolved and I'll have a quick convo with someone here and there but nothing that ever sticks and/or is really meaningful. I've recently tried bumble bff and peanut but it feels weird to me. I always try to be friendly with the moms at my daughter's gymnastics and when we go somewhere like the park but it's usually not returned or they don't act like they want to be my friend.  I just get really lonely even tho I have a great husband. I just want a mom friend I can have a genuine connection with but it seems impossible. Anyone else feel this way?",2.0351738410596028,4.4667057417218565,3.407181291390732,87.4440169701987,80.98675496688743,6.424006622516558,24.007036423841058,7.645422480735847,1.2970559602649012,601,22,119,10,16,196,101,151,0.044000000000000004,0.706,0.25,0.9882,1,2,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,2,0,10,10,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,2,30,21,15,0,2,9,5,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,7,11,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,3,16,8,13,17,1,14,0,1,0,0,16,1,0,3,12,80,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124203794789795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188352191369413,0.14929667751360515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172165186145716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623979927177503,0.13180265152796805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735027718700452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5628742763283535,0.0,0.0761272383669288,0.0,0.08281010866605558,0.0,0.0,0.16064531950879896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305271578431492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14237267536259596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387706901670795,0.0,0.0,0.0972622719614417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413065835535789,0.11630399165262276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238020602087513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981226586508955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179323813368796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18669056815970295,0.0,0.1438706255884472,0.15643755196993167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264852351395584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469184980618641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978544719581507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047850984149148,0.0,0.17188656365815932,0.11565747745595467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148022667544046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,random78452,2020/02/17,"My wife says I'm not doing enough Before (and after) we had our son (3 years old) we talked long and hard about what roles we would take on. She wanted to be a stay at home mom more than anything, I wanted to make sure she wasn't giving up on wanting a career and she insisted this is what she wanted. I was upset at first because the schedule I had only gave me an hour to see my son before he went to bed but the schedule we have now I thought was working much better.

My wife wakes up before us and makes breakfast, I then get up and get ready for work. When I get home from work my son knows it's “daddy time” and just follows me While I'm doing stuff, I of course play with him until he gets bored of me and goes to his room every day and that's when I rush to do things around the house before he wants me again. 

He'll usually entertain himself for an hour, then he'll come out while I make dinner. Then he's tired so I get him cleaned up and he'll fall asleep on the couch or something (we find it easier to let him fall asleep on his own and just carry him to bed because he doesn't like being made to go to bed) So once I get home from work our son completely off her hands for at least 6 hours.

At that point I relax with my wife and watch Hulu or Netflix. 

My wife told me that she felt she was overworked and I needed to do more, she said that I didn't pull my weight. I asked her what she wanted me to do and she said she didn't know. I told her just to ask me what else she wanted me to do and she sort of just started crying saying it was too much, and that it wouldn't be so bad if I did more. I couldn't get her to tell me what more she wanted me to do. We have the same discussion (minus the crying) every weeknight.

We've discussed more date nights, so I called up the 16 year old boy next door to babysit and we went to dinner. She was ready to go in the middle of it. I didn't think this was it anyway, we have always carved out time for one another. 

I asked if she didn't want to be a stay at home mom anymore and she said no that was still what she wants to do. I've asked if she wants to hire some help for the house but she says no that I just need to do more. So recently I've done all the cleaning, all the cooking, all the chores, ran all the errands. So *nothing* was split which I don't think is exactly fair,  she had to take care of our son while I was at work though. She said I still wasn't trying.

I don't know what to do, I thought we found a schedule that worked for us but now, even when I do all her duties, (expect for taking care of my son while I'm at work) I'm still not trying.",2.3366884816753952,2.8620368726003527,3.464812827225135,95.73596269633512,74.6893542757417,6.3582722513089,20.258682373472947,5.838893488441508,-0.2654446422338572,2020,34,501,9,40,654,224,573,0.055,0.873,0.07200000000000001,0.9135,0,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,14,0,0,9,26,11,0,1,19,0,47,10,4,4,7,89,113,43,0,20,15,12,4,1,0,5,1,7,13,1,26,32,5,1,10,5,0,11,15,3,0,2,35,13,93,8,67,67,18,76,0,0,2,0,90,24,0,7,40,332,119,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05068399635956967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387196241085714,0.0,0.0,0.060408733112845774,0.0,0.0,0.05012571509644636,0.05422495014551047,0.2277794855821056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05085930965618835,0.07426326729758265,0.0,0.20732786383196508,0.0,0.0,0.053872067773308746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219837077648481,0.0,0.12420850272119675,0.0,0.0,0.0524706390153535,0.06386549245395955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381882226609712,0.03928345881880572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233453349537445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088449406036944,0.0,0.0,0.06293879207231629,0.0,0.040232065696821535,0.0,0.10264264819764593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848545630406875,0.0,0.055672830044717035,0.051812056291138345,0.0,0.06678730254768815,0.0,0.0,0.2227695043973224,0.058432724442223825,0.06923584125119364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456554595189274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04082829771669681,0.0,0.24440041462433504,0.0,0.17995933228391955,0.14056946260312198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042758606782252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062287055903197136,0.0,0.029758721817596742,0.0,0.0,0.053905557165525725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763678564490021,0.12197849990287102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267973329317227,0.0,0.0,0.08955524528626868,0.09033154550821383,0.0,0.0,0.06478102839641711,0.05716216104583492,0.0,0.058447090580699385,0.0,0.12783463438452267,0.0648697179945725,0.04127581864001089,0.0463266249894809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575819065923476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014364643645693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317665646549691,0.14531995588510618,0.0,0.0,0.04853929641524423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046893341401878896,0.0,0.0,0.043114110207984176,0.12984902741501864,0.1459341638818435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973012479325433,0.0,0.0,0.05740921609617908,0.0,0.1373956323906717,0.04895907976929709,0.053240122390086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040467491921740616,0.07806041272234318,0.059846123694182365,0.09671528317852733,0.07103702052556225,0.07000984318107879,0.0,0.1164088170157812,0.0,0.08271104235942407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654023441821434,0.0,0.06708640291984086,0.0,0.3952048285223559,0.0,0.0,0.07417489325844749,0.0,0.11293281004124425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31041466845207283,0.0,0.0,0.043270421271351965,0.0,0.0,0.07845117696896693
parenting,mpdmonster,2020/02/18,"Hardest to bypass parental control What is a Windows parental control that is near impossible to bypass? I am not looking for hardware but software. Hopefully, it can block all browsers, VPNs, and Tor.",5.261764705882354,8.734100176470589,4.73088235294118,76.28397058823529,76.64705882352942,5.752941176470588,43.79411764705883,7.1686216300943375,4.1462,162,12,22,2,4,49,29,34,0.10300000000000001,0.802,0.095,-0.0772,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,1,8,6,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,6,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6570537888706066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909287522275024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459731914293311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6504905600823109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mtrlkr,2020/02/18,"Is it normal to feel like my 3 year old hates me sometimes? I'm 28/f and her father and I have been divorced for over two years. He recently bailed, about a month ago now, and moved across the country with his 20 year old wannabe amateur pornstar girlfriend...but I digress.

My daughter just turned 3 in January. I was always warned about the terrible twos, but she was never too bad at all. She's a really loving, sweet kid, always has been, just a sweet disposition. And she's been that way until literally about a week ago. I've never really had to spank her, but lately she's been throwing nasty tantrums when I tell her to do something she doesn't want to, refusing to listen, saying some mean things,  etc. When I discover her, even if it's just a stern look and talking to, she says things like ""no, you don't love me and you're being mean"". 
(It's worth mentioning that she has been pretty sick, so a lot of the tantrums are not wanting to take meds and getting upset that I make her, things like that.)

She is my first kid and I know this is normal. But it hurts sometimes. It really cuts deep when she says that I don't love her because I'm mean, it cuts because I hope she's just being shitty and doesn't actually think that.

Anyway. I know it's normal. But is it normal? Lol.",2.373789297658867,4.241900853846154,3.5233110367892984,89.93647157190638,77.0,6.521739130434782,22.073578595317727,7.423996415210882,0.7130484949832776,1002,28,212,13,23,324,137,260,0.175,0.6759999999999999,0.149,-0.7498,0,0,1,0,1,0,41.0,0,1,0,1,15,18,5,1,9,1,23,4,0,1,3,41,45,19,0,8,10,2,1,3,0,0,1,4,0,2,18,10,0,1,7,0,1,2,8,9,0,2,8,8,33,9,18,35,4,27,0,1,1,3,35,5,0,4,22,137,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.09957287445190506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089834583649295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980503175369352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519618924553682,0.12440096842539232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379763465233796,0.06739412520571285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051592704395580974,0.07289487358193852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679216809705809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05330984346276183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073988810343222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134523649681837,0.0,0.0,0.109232150044072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215314935713157,0.0,0.11510158101798555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954959354440056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568493511356078,0.0,0.0,0.08674775677630908,0.2762756901431158,0.0,0.06811013514118898,0.0,0.0,0.3334428820836032,0.11333951418015073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144453578115278,0.10844861813523343,0.0,0.0,0.15739362992283126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3998962994815777,0.0,0.0,0.21414021890548068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380777137620234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610152380540133,0.0,0.10074870300748512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434304859117201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785526586073889,0.20183335309496905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671872581962705,0.08201304841747578,0.08918437102791868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336548746119373,0.06538084905039858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109863773672115,0.0996748033793215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203675057513871,0.08099179939717012,0.08184750039548479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197124421215083
parenting,machinegunkelly3909,2020/02/18,"Daughter doesn’t want to drive! SAHM here with just my 16 (almost 17) daughter to take care of.  She has been holding her permit since August and is eligible to get her license. She turned 16 in April and would not get her permit and would just be lazy about it. I literally had to take her down to the DMV to get her permit that she had no interest in. I’m tired of driving her butt around to school/work, I’m only responsible for driving her to school. If she keeps refusing to get her license then she will need find a friend or somebody else to drive her to work, I’m tired of being  her chauffeur whenever she feels like it. My son was ecstatic to start driving and got his license the first day possible, her on the other hand doesn’t really care at all. She doesn’t have any anxiety or anything like that , she’s just too lazy to get her license. She has done all her road/class hours, she just needs to schedule a day to take the test, but she will not do it!",4.877165820642978,4.99107339593909,5.3079314720812185,86.24721023688666,68.84771573604061,8.597123519458547,28.09179357021997,8.344100000000001,1.6275316412859562,757,23,165,10,12,242,105,197,0.061,0.8420000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.7379,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,6,0,19,4,2,3,2,32,40,9,0,6,10,3,2,2,1,4,2,0,0,0,6,6,0,3,2,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,6,2,28,6,27,28,2,20,0,0,0,1,30,6,1,4,11,107,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165599749881938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620053123143182,0.0,0.10821975303846212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641301237455047,0.12593316185420791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884644326068111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246545785091384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447670283645152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817521655950362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715285680500651,0.10106207818703104,0.0,0.0,0.12929574850856065,0.12032940654444252,0.0,0.0,0.10929491751654373,0.0,0.3695461219310579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314187222269688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393137762774712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257399125008563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822455977085085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20978787643880373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758992580544624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947967026043394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062561173175966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286338717708665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117020677549237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001291140785265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190904992164069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251846572122842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538724658678827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343927137585888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20597529671275314,0.0,0.0,0.2009842683429776,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oddrababy,2020/02/18,"Son’s (10) Phone Was Stolen at School - What Do I Even Do? Last Wednesday, 2/12, my 10-year-old son’s phone was stolen.  I had actually gotten worried about him when I was waiting outside the school to pick him up because he was like 15 minutes late coming out. When he finally got to my car, he was hysterical.  He and his teacher had spent that time searching the classroom high and low for his phone.  He had just gotten this cell phone for his big present at Christmas and had to endure a long speech about responsibility from his stepdad.  I think was more concerned about his stepdad being disappointed that actually losing the phone.  

Before I even left the school parking lot, his homeroom teacher, Mr. G called.  Mr. G said that my son had left his cell phone in his locker unsecured (they can bring their own locks but I didn’t even know this was a thing) when they left the classroom for specials.  When they returned, the cell phone was gone.  They were opening an investigation, would be interviewing students and someone would be following up with me the next day.  I asked Mr. G, if he really thought it was stolen or if it was possible that it was just lost.  He said that he had a few things go missing from his desk lately and he thought the phone was stolen.  I told my husband that night and he was irritated, but more at the situation than our son.  He is letting me handle it. 

Nobody followed up with me the next day or at all.  I have been asking my son if they have been conducting interviews and he said, “not to his knowledge”.  I called the school today and the secretary took my name and said Mr. G would call me back.  Mr. G has not called me back.  I planned on going up to the school physically tomorrow, but what do I even say?  I want to be reasonable, but what the hell?  Why is no one following up with me?  How do I get some traction here?  Do I demand to see the footage from the hall cameras or is that karen behavior?

If the phone is truly gone, and I am starting to accept that it is, do we get him another phone?  Do we punish him?   I want this to be a teaching moment, but I literally have no idea what to do.",3.4781832254432885,5.213512734449765,4.166428370391221,87.08852800450327,73.56937799043062,7.21429777652688,26.648184632704755,7.928766900206844,1.4622032648466088,1665,60,344,24,34,530,189,418,0.121,0.852,0.027999999999999997,-0.9897,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,3,0,6,3,17,10,2,0,22,0,51,0,0,3,1,54,85,27,0,9,16,6,0,1,0,3,0,6,0,5,22,18,0,1,8,0,1,11,5,7,0,1,38,7,53,3,35,38,7,55,1,5,1,0,74,20,1,9,25,231,75,12,0.0,0.0,0.16718845593839832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982458411142018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016571895752474,0.0,0.0,0.1317383259949978,0.0,0.05221905549771156,0.0,0.07289246502096591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34988389750529875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379064537421241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049043172212036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22631705260059706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383906468698168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895102251885061,0.0,0.09736792813705124,0.0,0.06851211432000989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905071181350456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670251819547064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04707786124700112,0.069826358136408,0.1932620275591259,0.0,0.2792176203604472,0.08759569427411898,0.0,0.041850362977084575,0.0,0.0,0.07580860319495474,0.0,0.09583440860837464,0.09351072107859434,0.07282718105399319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822060482998139,0.0803884388242838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988836756543228,0.0,0.05804711650079435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657158031726877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054877581122805545,0.08807530119496304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259385573148824,0.06812224596296809,0.0,0.4334750383856049,0.0682619094355418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628822176353234,0.0,0.0,0.0725815451829348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606323474743876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382069674078853,0.054889061206912365,0.0,0.13601288829749086,0.04995048362674393,0.0,0.08119801911204266,0.08185417498278989,0.09517417227840752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105190566458368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729706836881077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869944112272514,0.0,0.1825565137653164,0.0,0.0,0.05516383150215403
parenting,myrie55,2020/02/18,"No boy children Can someone explain to me why a man wouldn't want a boy and prefers to have all girls???? 

Usually you hear about men wanting a boy, but why would a man not want one and hope to have all girls??? 

Thanks!!!!!",1.5696666666666663,3.2593325777777795,2.1708333333333343,99.53625000000004,78.7777777777778,5.388888888888888,24.583333333333336,5.985473137389443,0.25866666666666704,166,6,40,1,4,51,30,45,0.134,0.782,0.084,0.7126,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,2,14,12,3,0,7,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,9,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,4,10,2,1,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,1,23,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202340621236701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822042326246319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925331813063614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24074160166096475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615878331639053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129279806466832,0.0,0.5027599831183615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5127645049689522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018371079808012,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blueeyedblondie04,2020/02/18,Dating question So I'm a freshman girl (age 15)and I'm dating a senior boy(age 17) and he is graduating this year and I wanna know... Should I break up with him after he graduates? Should I try LDR? I don't know what to do😩,-1.4543749999999989,0.4599456458333364,1.5,94.995,102.95833333333334,4.066666666666666,16.416666666666664,5.985473137389443,-0.3713833333333332,173,5,39,2,8,60,35,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,8,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,6,21,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6015453808246636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6130827544120657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715695613820459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35243262066014763
parenting,LaTaina87,2020/02/18,"Teen daughter doesn’t want to talk to me She’s almost 15, and we’ve been arguing a lot (she has a lot of attitude and is just super defiant, disrespectful,etc) so there are days when it’s probably best that we don’t talk a whole lot but it’s upsetting me that it’s always the same response when I try to have any kind of conversation with her - she’s too tired to talk, she’s listening to music, she doesn’t want to talk to me, etc. If I ask her a question it’s always “I don’t know” or she ignores me. I’m honestly so over it and sometimes want to not even deal with her but she’s my daughter (I’m a single mom) so i do what I can. My thing is, should I just let her go about her day without talking to her like she wants? Or force her to engage in conversation?",0.5134805389221562,2.2432388922155724,2.9656549401197587,92.39063809880241,82.23353293413173,6.5702095808383225,21.215943113772454,7.645422480735847,0.6463176646706583,593,18,142,10,16,205,88,167,0.08800000000000001,0.789,0.12300000000000001,0.5733,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,11,9,1,1,6,0,14,1,0,0,0,28,24,13,0,6,9,3,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,9,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,1,28,6,18,21,8,7,0,0,0,0,31,2,0,8,5,102,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353552600522052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494791068683187,0.0,0.0,0.09192161399378283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636759889530108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185470348310347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743495505593469,0.13935642504062906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015050837042117,0.08927984937208495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682137830850308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076086588190118,0.07428701129843343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822255637516048,0.0,0.06603822486775059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447552721271301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831184499519807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573830795680395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514236064499308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368859160630656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5432307776759352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980228881273923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536036108292126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177293379495688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189118561885113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15091474151025944,0.0,0.1303010109522143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thedapperpappy,2020/02/18,"Heading to the daddy daughter dance with my girls. One of my absolute favorite memories I have had. [https://imgur.com/a/W30b9cJ](https://imgur.com/a/W30b9cJ)

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Each year, the local YMCA hosts a daddy daughter dance. My oldest daughter, who is six, has been to four daddy daughter dances with me. This was the first year that my youngest was able to go, and she was so very excited for it.

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The girls each picked their outfits out days ahead of time, and even picked out my outfit as well. My oldest picked out my shirt and suspenders, my youngest my boots and trousers.

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I gave the girls pedi and manicures on Thursday/Friday of last week, and they did my fingernails and toenails on Friday. It is a weekly tradition of ours.

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It was an amazing event. We danced the night away. My youngest wanted to dance to her own beat, and got on stage and danced around. I got down on my knees for one of the last slow songs of the night, and danced with my oldest daughter. She put her head on my shoulder, and I teared up. The entire song I had tears in my eyes. Tears of joy, and happiness.

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Such a lucky dad to be able to call these two fierce, beautiful little humans my daughters.",5.4456762192056285,7.676680085972855,3.988378582202113,88.33595148315739,69.40723981900453,6.540070387129211,26.75741578682755,7.1686216300943375,1.2396996480643532,973,32,176,9,18,277,120,221,0.016,0.872,0.11199999999999999,0.9725,0,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,2,0,2,3,5,6,0,0,13,0,13,7,7,3,0,27,18,14,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,7,22,0,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,1,6,11,3,30,6,34,6,3,42,0,0,1,0,22,15,0,1,17,122,37,0,0.17081457302100014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626937962566972,0.5188960070180711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603059239059623,0.0,0.0,0.08024295711256538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721038863431069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05508063423074768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05641070724488227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264739427549884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0485389291356072,0.0,0.13661601825310404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909176446324668,0.0,0.0,0.1753050319250558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923667532947798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560053838275287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602979054836927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574837539492586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585791259387453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049801675591476906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834305087566517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046995594579375,0.05037543041038396,0.0,0.13701714710123425,0.0,0.07679140757570664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188960070180711,0.10999898464976088
parenting,jeremymg,2020/02/18,"Our 8mo made it through a trip to brunch and a stroll through the Target with no fuss at all. Our little man is 8 months old and the most amazing thing in our life. He is happy most of the time and when he does get upset, it is one of only a few things. Even going out and doing things, he is just so happy and smiley. This weekend my wife and I took a trip to the mall for brunch and Target shopping. We brought his little ""highchair to-go"" thing that straps to the restaurant chair, a few snacks and a puree pouch. This happy baby does not say no to food, especially his favorite peanut butter puffs and toast. He enjoyed quietly sitting at the table munching on his food while staring out the window or at the people walking past our table. Ironically, he didn't drop as much food on the ground as he does at home, so I was able to get that cleaned up quicker than expected. He didn't fuss or get frustrated a single bit at the table. After brunch we headed to the Target. He got strapped to my wife facing forward in the Ergo carrier and he really liked people watching as we strolled through the mall and Target. Every once in awhile he would get happy and excitedly kick he feet out. When we were leaving, it was getting close to his nap time but we rode all the way home happily playing in the car seat. He was such a good boy that we took a little father-son nap together in bed to give Mom space to do her workout. I love this little man wit all my heart.",5.0775630885122425,5.2555283966101705,5.521666666666667,84.6653625235405,68.42372881355932,7.911487758945388,27.91431261770245,7.3871296695380915,1.4110866290018826,1147,34,235,10,18,368,157,295,0.023,0.8440000000000001,0.132,0.9853,0,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,10,0,0,0,7,13,1,1,24,0,13,13,4,1,4,37,26,23,0,2,5,3,0,1,0,1,1,2,5,3,13,23,7,0,0,8,1,11,5,2,0,1,11,5,21,11,38,14,10,47,0,0,2,1,36,24,0,4,12,145,34,0,0.09890969616170127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798377082186833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596696249553549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532892147524237,0.0,0.08333568495644876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588059916293294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583811694866404,0.09488319330747408,0.1124253194070747,0.08296076040168564,0.07910711959321348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211648431298308,0.0,0.0,0.101509883709939,0.0,0.0,0.11720846618323533,0.0,0.0,0.19842897970773665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473108680254603,0.0,0.0,0.06986284350623817,0.04832228142287385,0.39653400025419255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926986247830025,0.09359074604460434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584184071804413,0.07894877582272518,0.0,0.07271000737435324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378908771993003,0.10533559834893956,0.06702376992222521,0.0752252809725825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442049685174804,0.13714305885267544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336408408870464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865696033229709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628448284985037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153500784851888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21978462359069695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850991294576212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026261029545236,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SharingThoughts1997,2020/02/18,"Anniversary 
It was almost a year ago,
It’s been almost a year, 
A year without you, 
A year of grieving and pain,

A year of accepting that I will never meet you, Accepting I’ll never hear you say mom, I’ll never get to tell you I love you, or hear it back, I will never know if you were a boy or a girl, It’s almost been a year that a grieve your loss, 

A year of almost nobody knowing,
Feeling alone, 
I don’t want to lay here anymore, I am drowning, but I can learn how to breathe again,
I just have to get up and try, 

If they knew what they would say would go to my head, and destroy every last inch of who I am, would they say it again, would they say something else,

About a year ago I had an abortion, I did it for you, you convinced me I would never be enough for this baby, my own family, 
Three of you guys told me to do this, 

I will now carry this weight the rest of my life, the weight of never being good enough, questioning if I’m doing right for my two children I already have, 

I will now question the rest of my life if I can just simply forgive myself, 
Forgive myself and just accept what is, if I have the strength to carry on everyday, or if I simply just want to join you in heaven,

-ER 2020",11.570156250000005,4.497180703125004,10.9946875,73.23156250000002,62.28125,13.7375,40.59375,8.07648339933343,3.335556249999999,924,22,212,6,8,306,121,256,0.08,0.794,0.126,0.9121,0,1,1,0,0,0,33.0,0,11,4,2,12,15,1,0,16,0,28,8,2,1,6,49,42,15,3,13,15,1,3,0,0,9,3,6,0,4,14,4,2,0,12,0,0,1,8,5,1,2,8,9,41,10,24,23,5,29,1,3,0,1,35,5,0,15,23,161,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277233914872432,0.0,0.34515474892658904,0.08924807640882261,0.09509280897858742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545934682869606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626085427749669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198554583133819,0.0,0.0,0.17807716810215618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726035228660768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123517645773658,0.0,0.043571090144990915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004249815329704,0.0,0.04897346348423995,0.07227688196189483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532370607211018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884372063050649,0.0,0.19424393613590446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471561992983564,0.07024158089545646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217314901448302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777348329328468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092346076973248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39876638284166427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169295260992204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930644470175247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359031205292244,0.0,0.2741093408446323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633932082855484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531801860564209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234092120990362,0.0,0.05850504795683181,0.0,0.08417740248554684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016528112852833,0.0,0.0,0.20986826249488796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306661429845101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060701448534361,0.0,0.0,0.4439349078343565
parenting,IncelGenocider,2020/02/18,"Technically, From an Objective Standpoint-The Age pf Consent Should Be Around 12 Now don’t lynch me just yet. I’m no pedo or anything. I don’t think you should be fuckin 12 year olds but there is no objective basis for the claim that 12 year olds cannot consent to sex. All of their neurological foundations have been set and they just need to grow. But that is no basis for saying you psychologically cannot consent. Biologically too-this is the time for sexual urges to truly emerge meaning that they wanna fuck. Now that doesn’t mean there are no concerns about adults having sex with 12 year olds. There are. But they can consent.",4.472066115702479,6.536809305785128,4.829826446280993,81.9865578512397,71.64462809917356,7.484628099173554,24.49669421487604,8.238735603445708,1.3868803305785122,510,15,98,8,10,161,75,121,0.162,0.797,0.040999999999999995,-0.9253,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,4,0,10,2,2,0,3,0,18,5,0,0,1,17,24,5,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,1,1,8,0,12,19,1,14,0,0,0,4,8,1,2,1,11,63,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729274714312178,0.1870693215868305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942712196873584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4578085436742774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558162883577179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6615203406948579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671119136578602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464934879212387,0.0,0.0,0.1225344348091294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40597017831895893
parenting,Sheshirdzhija,2020/02/18,"Activities for an infant of 3 months There are some obvious things that are commonly mentioned:

1) speaking A LOT. Speaking in different voices and speeds, exaggerated speech, narrating what we are doing -> basically expose a baby to as much speech as possible

2) Exercises -> rolling, grabbing, letting go.. Don't let him go at his own pace, but nudge him to do some stuff. We went to a baby physiatrist and we know and do a lot of excercies. We do it often, as long as he is engadged. He does seem to like it :) (until he gets bored).

3) facial gesticulation, peekaboo, bright and noisy toys and similar games

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Our boy is still too young to understand and do much.

But, I am curious if there are some other power tips? Something we could do with him?

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We have the time and will to do as much as possible in the first few years, because today scientists mostly agree that those years are likely most important. Asking directly here might seem lazy, but reddit was often very helpful to me, as least to pint me to some studies, or books and such. Google is full of info, but it's hard for a layman to parse all of it.",5.299596899224807,6.556859920930233,6.0809302325581385,76.99457364341087,68.3953488372093,9.454263565891472,29.68217054263566,9.725611199111238,2.817951937984496,893,33,164,20,15,293,136,215,0.040999999999999995,0.852,0.107,0.9586,2,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,7,0,0,2,8,4,0,0,8,0,24,2,1,0,2,40,33,22,0,2,6,0,2,2,0,2,1,5,0,2,11,15,0,0,5,4,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,8,14,3,28,26,16,19,0,0,1,0,22,4,0,15,14,124,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28847138568754177,0.3235112538426838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444942724137495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114884495975298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628565627714308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390822871503235,0.0,0.0,0.11649439360000848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323198334831253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954981583737167,0.0,0.15131056717010533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924956145145407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922767128213101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315938649133702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722488695378229,0.0,0.13007162172382278,0.0,0.0,0.11780719755745893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263480856893456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121950690409965,0.0,0.0,0.10625528226313692,0.0,0.2935760159574056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30014607211835964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423752806328704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248244198083392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630997234675836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239079269694925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843915295857932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762346547361358,0.0,0.1261823945523291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858283423587914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983811543123162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234037691364069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235112538426838,0.17145010254543622
parenting,redditact_1,2020/02/18,"toddler not eating I am at the edge of loosing my patience because my 2&1/2 yrs old daughter wouldn't eat. She barely used to feed herself the meal and used to depend on family members (very normal in our culture) till a month ago. I have been been training her to feed herself, and no doubt so much encouragement while she puts food by herself. It works for few 3-4 bites and she is done. She does for every meal not just one. If I let her stay on her chair, to finish on her own pace, she would spend time in playing with her fingers or tapping the table or whatever those little mind thinks of while buckled up. She says she is hungry and wouldn't eat enough. She has lost 2 pounds over 2 pounds because she would not eat. I am so tired and frustrated because of this. She was not a picky eater before and now after she started to use her spoon by herself, she would plainly say"" its not good"". I am so lost here, suggest me please",4.274874537227479,5.252970572192512,4.470267379679147,88.63354586589882,70.55080213903744,6.609461127108188,27.75359934183464,6.297961479604792,1.0549740024681205,735,25,150,4,13,229,117,187,0.08800000000000001,0.8740000000000001,0.038,-0.86,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,3,6,7,1,1,5,0,17,11,1,4,0,29,24,15,0,7,9,1,1,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,4,7,9,0,1,1,1,1,8,4,0,1,6,3,31,3,23,12,4,22,0,2,0,0,29,9,0,5,11,108,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126874794506621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773846313341026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324802613576619,0.0,0.1081728956193078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124679628019496,0.13009166950638862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5203170782724194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135275229116233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710719017075446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984089958641628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371846846455034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066253183818841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299925841537895,0.0,0.0,0.12741133224197854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775410453635102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283586862670293,0.0,0.10146891514975827,0.0,0.09345053792060024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124554223594054,0.0,0.0,0.13339492633770486,0.0,0.08614230116152849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954363519797938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277944185139026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20218771857380416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997880086253142,0.13549693735539142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145572641656904,0.0,0.0,0.07412684493432316,0.14610997902122486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32938215206259386,0.0,0.10489035629589194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254755909945817,0.0,0.0,0.2709150623796344,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DriftingThroughLife1,2020/02/18,"Allowance Hi, 
I have an 18 year old who wants to get a job to make some extra cash. Where we live its terribly difficult to get a job even at walmart or mcds etc. so I want her to focus on finishing school to work towards a career.  What's a good amount for an allowance so she can focus on school? TIA!",2.190937500000004,3.385894968750001,3.7832500000000016,90.73675000000004,75.875,6.995000000000001,23.7375,7.554174236665415,0.8828162500000003,234,7,53,3,5,78,48,64,0.091,0.775,0.134,0.4341,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,3,0,8,7,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,10,7,4,8,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,3,34,8,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773115261244434,0.16423160085633712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25981970703131724,0.0,0.0,0.20855661139593773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4934953811690398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195633356089184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597643332613102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609173340497073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5032960524523358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933215335950227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102084581468067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16012305308617467
parenting,pushmykee,2020/02/18,"remember that story my son is a hateful incel that came out around November 2018 My story has a Similar feel to it

Two days before my 18th birthday I quit my only part time job of 15 hours a week because it was getting unsanitary and I was fearing for my health. That’s not the point of the story. What led to me being kicked out was 3 and a half months of screaming at video games at 2am preventing my mom from sleeping for her job in the morning. But what made my dad decide that it was time for me to go was when he found out I destroyed my younger brothers area to get get stoned in the garage with his group of friends that continually stole the food my dad has bought for his family. We will refer to this loser as Con. For context con was 16 at the time and was always a problem in the house. And he is a neck beard. And a horrifically ugly looking person that looks like he could be an Scp. Now con age 16 at the time is a bad person who punched my other siblings who were age 9 and 12 at the time. What provoked me to destroy their stoner space was when my sister had to get to her volunteer work and my mom was going to drive her but then con was screaming at my mom to drive him to the vape shop and buy what he wanted for him with his good boy points, well more like you do this and I won’t terrorize you tonight points. He slapped my sister across the face and I got to see the red mark and even a nail scratch because he lets his nails grow long. My mother drove him immediately to the vape shop after that and bought him what he wanted with my fathers money. My sister missed her volunteer work that day. The next day I destroyed cons stoner area which is not his property I broke everything I could made the drywall looked like it was just played in rainbow 6 siege and I threw paint cans across the place. I forgot about my dads security camera and he screamed at me when he got home that night. Since I had surgery the next day I stayed the night. My dad has told me that as soon as I can walk after the surgery I no longer get to live at his house. 18 days after the surgery my dad gives me 10 minutes to get everything I need for the night at my grandpas 5 miles away and once we are there he makes me give him my key and tells me that grandpa will get all your other stuff tomorrow. And like that I wasn’t allowed back at my parents house. I was back just over a month later for Christmas and my grandparents came with me. We were having a good time and I was taking with my dad who noticed that I was being more mature since I moved in with my grandparents. My little brother opened his Xbox one s and was setting it up. He wrote the Xbox live email and password on the Xbox itself and we all laughed like crazy because it was the funniest thing we had ever seen. Con had come home shortly after that and angry that I was here started screaming at my mom threatening to kill my little brother. My mom cones downstairs and tells me and my dad to get Mack and leave to my grandparents so we have to leave early and my grandparents are disgusted at how my parents put up with con.",5.532085524009816,5.1853375835962146,5.646787592008412,85.94521118121278,67.4858044164038,8.55864002804066,29.125306694707326,7.793537801064563,1.5721803014370843,2444,73,528,24,36,772,280,634,0.11199999999999999,0.815,0.073,-0.9702,9,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,3,1,4,18,29,6,2,36,0,47,5,3,7,3,78,88,38,1,6,6,25,2,5,1,3,1,4,2,3,37,48,1,3,5,8,6,14,5,17,1,3,39,12,91,12,75,40,5,98,0,3,6,0,78,40,0,0,47,343,128,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055111774428891834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05896206762458719,0.0,0.0,0.06222877548239536,0.1018593096139906,0.055302403178627536,0.1211264125648642,0.0,0.0563600311983581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515074987886629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057054499038294175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576449780513524,0.0,0.0,0.2135764024850727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04374675812383811,0.059912206385550525,0.0,0.0,0.11905322272006202,0.0,0.062439271879157834,0.07453136734913858,0.03348976714600693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800900967735537,0.07262187311769418,0.0511720203221341,0.0,0.27683514792620817,0.1270748701771383,0.07528431732889393,0.1111074310460676,0.1059463388823688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653921021280619,0.0,0.07040336439810442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287567564274,0.0,0.0652268884300581,0.22927451674135055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145352637777835,0.0,0.0732778158094129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026392657144895,0.0,0.06772848278229025,0.0,0.16179228966757214,0.1327672078864192,0.11697120512328993,0.05861477232170275,0.16685897115637432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253439253974053,0.044211533256179804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878607569262382,0.10573427272632202,0.07039597964874808,0.0,0.04911147618021144,0.0,0.0,0.1408806598014399,0.1864676240056136,0.0,0.0,0.07540754770790388,0.0,0.07053676746442453,0.04488169382141915,0.05037374101993192,0.0,0.0,0.14708945172920335,0.0717246819216417,0.0,0.0,0.11566548746770593,0.06920015724269929,0.0,0.18783686815791914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633767405239259,0.0,0.06658319880580148,0.0,0.07044773136710977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502991166907952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277971247563184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957846212296264,0.0,0.06628156945607683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04688057941658689,0.0705963501569498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582178171668029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04979952676521693,0.0,0.11578240969449573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04400275129593012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317285454484189,0.0,0.0,0.06328917336543614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470073617198124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781327473871456,0.0,0.05312870805745692,0.0,0.05955208323519608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964378976510702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tor3800,2020/02/18,"Tik Tok My 11 year old daughter has a tik tok, of course I monitor it and don’t let her respond to any private messages but I recently had a family member call tik tok the “devil”. Thoughts? Is she too young? Am I being too lenient? I saw nothing wrong with it everyone else has one, and she is limited to an hour a day.",0.649147121535183,2.6966942985074627,3.289125799573561,88.52895522388063,83.6268656716418,6.8136460554371014,25.989339019189767,7.957251820313856,1.7120592750533057,246,11,53,5,7,86,51,67,0.128,0.7859999999999999,0.085,-0.6135,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,11,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,8,0,4,6,0,6,1,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,6,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523526396340696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29315732400700084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515330098347554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23983203942421802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27433272657415825,0.0,0.0,0.2706487506324297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827319302409874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935753203966432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754765511817956,0.0,0.3012591717735823,0.0,0.19454381823259284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834728663343192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22792231736330015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138946304312697,0.0,0.1848805428366381
parenting,nuance-and-context,2020/02/18,"Most common items unearthed on cleaning day My son is finally down for his nap and I decided to finally clean the playroom. As I moved about the room (but particularly when I moved the couch and armchair to vacuum) I found countless broken crayons, used tissues, and ripped coloring pages. It was like the room was magically spawning them like a video game.

What items do you find most often when doing a good deep clean?",5.600562770562772,7.627587000000005,5.505909090909089,78.44553030303031,68.6103896103896,8.769696969696971,31.01515151515152,9.2995712137729,2.8824216450216458,337,14,59,7,6,105,58,77,0.038,0.799,0.163,0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,11,7,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,8,3,7,4,5,13,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,3,8,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712866800503949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5818922633840855,0.24274884427448626,0.0,0.0,0.291210999919344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276832519148773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595124164697657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5645705004218325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22938864013564564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HumanLevelHard,2020/02/18,"Having a hard time making friends with my child’s friend’s parents. Help, here’s my problem, I don’t seem to click with some of my daughter’s friend’s parents. I’m sorry for bringing up race but I’m having a hard time in particular with Caucasian parents. My husband is Caucasian and he is charming to everyone and could start a conversation with anyone and most if not all the parents love him. He is the head of our household, he’s loving, smart, and also the disciplinarian. I’m a dark skinned Asian and I’m not as intellectual, accomplished, or have half the social charm as my husband. I’ve tried my best to start conversations with the parents and I get along and are pretty close with some of my daughter’s friends’ parents, however, I am having a hard time with making friends with Caucasian parents. I have been extra nice trying to make them comfortable, but we have nothing in common. We seem to just keep the conversations short and they continue to talk to my husband. I see the social cues, their feet aren’t pointed towards me, they don’t look at me when we talk and I have to repeat myself a couple times just to get a response and we just end the conversations feeling uncomfortable. It’s gotten to the point where our talking is just greeting each other now.

I’m what the kids call a fun dad. My daughter is 4 and thinks I’m the bees knees and so does her friends. I’m the caretaker of the house, I cook, clean, and the nurturing one. All the kids know who I am and they think I make up the best games, drawings/paintings, and tell the funniest jokes. Lately I’ve been refraining from giving too much attention to the kids whose parents are uncomfortable with me. When I see a kid that gets hurt I usually go check to see if they’re ok and console them, now I just flag down their parent. When kids ask me to pick them up or push a swing, I’ll ask them to ask their parents first. I’m doing these out of respect in case it is my interaction with their kids is what’s making them feel uncomfortable. I also don’t want the kids to think that I favor the other kids whose parents are cool with me over my daughter’s other friends’ parent who are not. 

My daughter is also Caucasian and she loves her friends, she is pretty much the boss of the house, and the unappointed leader of her friends. I want her to continue having play dates with her friends, but how do I make it work with their parents?",4.976134453781512,5.890123325630256,5.333098739495799,83.32090861344538,68.89495798319328,7.966806722689077,29.790966386554622,8.07648339933343,1.9118268907563023,1917,71,380,24,32,610,197,476,0.054000000000000006,0.705,0.24100000000000002,0.9987,15,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,6,0,13,5,19,30,0,0,33,2,32,8,4,9,2,83,76,35,0,6,15,22,6,0,10,0,0,0,1,9,15,39,1,2,9,4,1,3,7,2,0,3,3,12,61,28,52,72,11,39,0,1,5,3,96,16,0,9,20,253,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174352090272628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03548244714743258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423206318566802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650858399382528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05181684912928386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04051616814415216,0.056148952164671764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04440774610867235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044945468235347785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048489518562322434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051316918813195125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043164112988806624,0.0,0.0,0.3920586250912811,0.0,0.0795373185309416,0.04867972631496068,0.0288398481798216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637405418898138,0.0,0.052079543120457664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03401365207127581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710703262736065,0.05432412820059992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04510494937399232,0.0,0.0,0.02788841042366945,0.0,0.057243156349023286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04261345581947349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739943783939412,0.0,0.2032381699899132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460759141763575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04869169460320788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034386477337855464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7325096234383919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959418367144831,0.0,0.0,0.10325287341106264,0.0,0.04855660885804365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213128270624026,0.0923936302232654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034573332536221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680545451689273,0.07183587981809486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236197917615052,0.044353820768480365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754703970154097,0.0,0.0,0.11836048209026513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890575347488709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588902048923093,0.0,0.059862044379668085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03694334259401726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chromaticpeach,2020/02/18,"Sports / Activities and ages My eldest son is 6.5 and has only played soccer (he wasn’t a fan lol).
My question is at this age should he be involved in more sports? He doesn’t really voice a desire to and I don’t think he is interested in team sports. Any suggestions? Or should i wait until he is a little older and not pressure him?",1.5052310924369756,3.721698220588237,3.4691596638655464,87.49264705882356,81.5,6.238655462184874,18.537815126050425,7.447530270364453,0.4351109243697477,261,6,54,4,7,88,48,68,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.8958,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,13,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,2,6,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,5,2,5,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,4,32,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349763003020782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49370194790169397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746348885473515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5518105836395173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31556407996839325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156300942151039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Canuckgal46,2020/02/18,"Estranged from my adult daughter for years, but not able to get passed this.   


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Hello, i'm so sad and mad at the same time today. I'm 47 y.o and my only daughter has decided to have no contacts with me, whatsoever, for years. That nearly drove me to suicide. The reason of estrangement is that i deserve it. When she was a baby, i've had a postpartum and i felt no connection to her, i felt alienated and i moved away 6 hours from her, leaving her alone with her father. The most horrible decision of my entire life. Feel free to judge me. She was 1 y.o. To add to the horror of it, her father who was supposedly a great dad, revealed himself to be a pedophile when she was 5, and abused her for 8 years. Those facts all came to me the day the police called to announce me of it. At that time, she was 14. We were seeing each other rarely, i would come for a visit now and then, feeling as if i was a stranger to her. And i was. And it was all my fault. But when she revealed the incest, that's when i became a human being, a mother. I took her full time with me and discovered what a beautiful person she was, and that she was mine, that me, broken as i was, created her. And that she needed love, and i had love to give her now. Some tragedies are life-changing and it was one of these. I hurt so much for her, all she endured and the guilt and the shame were now my most faithful companions. Day and night. I was determined to do good to her, to be that solid person she needed to heal from her trauma. So i did all i could to repair the damage that my actions have caused. I became a mature adult, i devoted all my life to her at that time, and nothing else mattered. I was learning to be a real mother. She lived with me 5 years.

But it was all too late. Inside her, she had anger against me. With her counselor, she realized that while i was not the pedophile, i contributed to her pain when i moved away. Why did i do that? I will ask that to myself like a mantra for the rest of my life. It's a loop. I know i was sick, still, i did not seek for her and i should have done it for her. I ignored all my symptoms when she was a baby, i just kept on going and going and drowning. I see myself every day leaving that house like a thief, tiptoeing to the door. I see myself taking that bus with just one luggage not even knowing what i was doing. I told her all this, and she held my hand saying she understood, that she was not angry at me. But she did not admit it to herself. And when she did, then she started to plan her next steps, to move away from me, so she could live her own life. She told me straight ""I don't have that feeling daughters have for their moms, i'm so sorry, i wish i could feel that for you but then i don't"" She's been honest. And i was grateful that she finally was, even if it was hard to her.

Now, i live without news from her. I asked my parents lately if they had any, they told me no. But i've discovered today that they do. She talks to them once in a while. My mom had left her computer open and it was messenger opened. I saw my daughter's name, i nearly had a heart attack. While i was anguishing, in the hospital, because of my feeling of guilt......they could have told me that they knew bits and pieces about her. But they choose not to. I didn't want to get mad at them, but i finally did. Because i asked my mom while ago to let me know if EVER she had news from her. I don't even know where she lives. Even if i did wrong, i am still a mother, my heart may have realized it too late but now, all that keeps me alive is my love for her. I can't think of anything else. My father said they decided not to get involved because they didn't wanna ruin all the contacts they had with her by bringing me up in the subject. They even talked about my time at the hospital with an aunt i never see, the time where i begged them to find my daughter somehow just to let her know that i love her. They talked about it with everyone but me. And they knew all along that i could die from my broken heart, because i can't forgive my shitty self for my actions, and because 5 years together was the only chance i've got to be a mother. But with my daughter suffering so much, she had a broken relationship with love altogether, It was the worst time to love her mother, a mother who has been away. We had no luck, nothing. That tragedy took all the place and there was nothing left for us to become mother and daughter, even despite all my latest efforts.

Now, i still have another reason to hate my guts. I just took a piss at my poor dad in the car for not telling me, for talking about it with an aunt i never see, and for letting me despair in the hospital while one word could have make all the difference. I got mad and i didn't have to. Now here alone in my place, i understand my parents. But then, i also i don't.

My dad said they would finally accept to tell my daughter that i love her, through messenger. But i feel so sad now that i got my parents into this. They are all i have :( :( Nobody else knew where she was except them..........how was i supposed not to beg them to tell her i love her? I couldn't f...ng help it.

Now if she doesn't respond back, OR if she stops talking to my parents because of it ( it seems i'm never mentioned in their conversations since the estrangement) i'm gonna have just another reason to hate myself even more. I cannot unlove my child even if i made mistakes, terrible mistakes. It's right there in my heart. I tried to die but couldn't, it seems that it's not my time. But what am i supposed to do with such an empty and meaningless life? Therapist tell me i have to choose myself, to do good things for others etc. But everything i touch turns to shit, i don'T wanna hurt more people. I already did today. Maybe i'll even lose my parents to this. Maybe i'll never see my daughter again. Maybe she'll never love me. Why would she anyway? She saw what she saw. A useless human being.

Why do i even exist?????",2.0470060728744954,3.603534161133602,3.363679149797573,92.09734058704457,77.0242914979757,6.272267206477733,22.40131578947368,6.9695064914056655,0.5034878542510115,4599,130,1023,47,104,1499,385,1235,0.17,0.72,0.109,-0.9981,5,2,0,0,1,1,187.0,3,1,19,3,60,54,9,3,51,0,117,27,8,6,22,199,202,83,4,28,43,32,11,2,1,8,9,3,1,8,64,55,0,5,38,0,2,18,35,33,0,3,82,23,240,22,134,95,31,122,1,10,9,10,181,36,2,17,70,780,304,2,0.03949485893084142,0.04679494958592192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03500980945876361,0.0,0.0,0.0818095256522135,0.04358355893206537,0.03158402441789437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026857858409393184,0.08282760641834942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032500903720010334,0.0,0.11076708505883737,0.04493110369679123,0.14842688022711994,0.030369108645665874,0.0,0.14445419655728195,0.04361896873563846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043118156873697584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0403286667583392,0.04517159706641107,0.0,0.040572099481568535,0.041780323917421085,0.034021323855114874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920058678213955,0.0,0.0,0.07641275004670267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197885627228922,0.04126372153050691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040416953008388136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897866030133204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04404720770235635,0.2608598183893496,0.03572536102629211,0.03327612204853199,0.03773903022341549,0.035495432563835264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198187241789954,0.0,0.07584251638912454,0.12979406239585087,0.0360975855530912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061903301103529526,0.037887067497003116,0.044891676979556816,0.06625282770059926,0.0947629398330596,0.04354322140035302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03537963602115258,0.07798599309661226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720639197351485,0.02647257142544696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03889448041338545,0.045571764524926985,0.0845601266751346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03510484529688415,0.0,0.0,0.10852670794299052,0.0,0.13365576344687174,0.08363870600063357,0.08582255957751361,0.12115850734603666,0.16737832118756765,0.038590386222454164,0.0,0.1394987360611658,0.0,0.0,0.04418464474994736,0.0,0.0,0.3208108695059503,0.03737099046610068,0.02636312501894233,0.0,0.11903368279762433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387677043300745,0.0,0.12593035407009712,0.05806653130176044,0.058569874919357036,0.15230434994143188,0.0,0.042003230532355496,0.0370632496514771,0.0,0.11368914697913432,0.0,0.0,0.04206073578859111,0.08028821563956344,0.060075239846818125,0.04202531449701402,0.0,0.21927183470631206,0.0,0.0,0.02738076231614084,0.06897077486137203,0.08252744306101382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04495379598830173,0.0,0.1218218785211135,0.0,0.04240269795338087,0.0,0.03372839373069563,0.07513731014984286,0.031407897029368755,0.0,0.0,0.18883373490754293,0.07190927249494809,0.04120175137354316,0.0,0.04054090513613544,0.032670555436202904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044211261081351316,0.02795466443017288,0.0,0.09462193607927716,0.033019470528900044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043200965395344425,0.0,0.0,0.04105028074054052,0.029695218720153037,0.15872235784971767,0.138080990047715,0.0,0.0,0.04585657528469304,0.026238629338417776,0.02530671087037526,0.0,0.0,0.1842381588145264,0.0,0.11230952476138692,0.15095612089366195,0.1316407244294585,0.026814416703412936,0.04295906528251578,0.0,0.04111554100801552,0.04750745242008307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02329509107392064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691390145824436,0.0,0.0454171386397445,0.03807163463200352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416804386482647,0.04318142823405091,0.0,0.1271669713082382
parenting,TibbySixx1016,2020/02/18,"ADHD help! Please help me. My daughter is 4 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD very early. We thought she was autistic, but that was ruled out as a diagnosis. I am really struggling. 

She seems so distracted and unable to focus on anything at all. She's not absorbing any information. Shes staying back in preschool because she's just not ready for kindergarten. She struggles with speech delays so making out anything she says is a challenge. 

The smallest amount of sugar messes up an entire day for her and causes complete meltdowns. I feel like sometimes I talk and she's not even there. She's off in another world and I can't break through it to get her to focus. 

She can't count to ten or do her alphabet or identify numbers and letters yet. I have a son who is two years old and seems to be on track with all his milestones, but is very loud and constantly yelling or whining about something. My marriage is failing. Everything seems to be falling apart around me and I don't really know what to do or where to turn for support. 

How can I help my daughter move forward with these basic skills? How do I take care of myself when everything is just crashing? What am I doing wrong? I really need support and I don't have anywhere to turn.",3.176806783330328,5.553656170124484,3.870795598051597,85.9738390763125,76.5103734439834,6.514955800108244,28.32058452101749,7.586124646067393,1.8185834746527143,991,43,184,14,23,314,141,241,0.11,0.7909999999999999,0.099,-0.7105,0,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,1,0,0,3,14,12,0,3,5,0,25,2,0,4,2,44,40,22,0,1,11,3,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,6,18,1,1,7,0,0,3,7,7,0,2,4,6,32,5,31,34,3,29,0,2,0,0,27,14,0,7,13,133,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837492661031623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027888195892796,0.12378700373730672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429220107770628,0.10509061962336998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077410607357328,0.0,0.07196293177417581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203610928035342,0.1212711280050386,0.0,0.0,0.1237744646427113,0.12757143704605406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613327475893003,0.0,0.0,0.1198195096250908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779717215315349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121936602269548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969024700464595,0.08433581957861146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167689330012744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373817455083636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487786660830215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057673866119168214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880011016529702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254697709616297,0.0,0.08753348839898199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477498070675262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295847962398428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268799151171159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387907329636658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224082078909554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088160138293272,0.11675568126495145,0.0,0.0,0.12582689990417698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246825546568074,0.0,0.0,0.26792626502248257,0.0,0.0,0.08875983043927195,0.09488510391136652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371948714574008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568116696657262,0.11531889447456095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194809249864296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290704838479195,0.0,0.1520422384110571
parenting,emoseaharpy,2020/02/18,"Welp...my mentally unstable 15 year old is sexually active now. S.O.S. Yesterday, as I'm sitting at my desk, I get a surprise barrage of screen shot conversations via text from my son's  (15 yrs old) now-ex, basically tattling on him for cheating on her. If that wasn't alarming enough, she says ""he broke up with me by sending me a pic of him and X f***ing"". 

Immediate panic attack. My kid acts like a complete goblin towards this girl AND isn't smart enough to not transmit what is legally classified as child porn? (and yes, that was an adamant part of the conversation when he got his phone).He swears it isn't true, she obviously can't share the evidence, so fingers crossed that was a dramatic embellishment of a scorned teenager. The phone is out of the equation now, just in case.

I have long suspected there is something psychologically off with this kid. For background info, I have been raising him since I got together with his dad when he was 2 1/2. At the time, I had no other children and really wanted to do well by this little guy. His biological mother was a drug addict with diagnosed borderline personality disorder,  in and out of facilities until the courts finally agreed her involvement was more damaging than good when he was 5. Around this same time, our second child was diagnosed with brain cancer, so he had a double whammy of chaos that we immediately started counseling for. 

Years of various therapies, activities, parenting plans, school behavior plans, dedicated time to make him feel special, etc followed. We suspected an attachment disorder because everything would progress nicely until he didn't get exactly what he wanted, or plans changed slightly, or he was in any way inconvenienced or disappointed. Then it was total meltdown, theft, cutting the cords to our electronic devices, screaming like he was being beat so ""someone will call the cops and take you away"" when he was put in time out in his room by himself--I would stand outside the townhouse we lived in and chat with neighbors while he did it so people didn't think I was lying. When he was mad, nothing but time would stop his rampage.

Flash forward, his brother is diagnosed with brain cancer again in 2018, and we lost him a few days before his 12th birthday this last December. Through the whole thing, our eldest broke his little brother's heart by either ignoring him or being mean to him. He would scream at us whenever he didn't get what he wanted and say things like ""I wish I had brain cancer so I could have all the things X gets."" Some people mailed our youngest presents when he lost the ability to walk and I guess that was too much. He started making things as hard as possible in the house, calling girls who would then contact me over social media to tell me he was suicidal, etc, but he refused to try medication and skipped his counseling. It took stress to a shocking new level.

The short of it is this: there is no doubt in my mind that if he fathers a child at this point, that child will immediately be weaponized against us if we don't do everything he wants. Under normal circumstances, I'd take a kid to Planned Parenthood for a talk and a checkup, continue to remind them finding a spot for sex that wasn't in my house was their problem, hope for the best, and know that we would all be there to support if things went haywire. But I cannot handle loving another child who gets ripped away from me. I  am afraid to be a grandparent on the level that others fear amputation and every fiber of me knows it would be heartbreak right now.

Aside from my own issues,  how do I handle a perfectly normal situation with an abnormal amount of baggage attached to it? I don't want to be a psycho mom, but I also understand this is too high risk to leave to chance. I just want him to get a few more years of experience in and have a chance to find his spot in the world. I love my son, pity him that he can't form healthy, lasting relationships, and worry about him a lot. He's smart, musically gifted, funny, and a ton of superficial charisma. Once he gets some of the psych kinks worked out, he has the potential to be a cool adult.

Anyway, I'm rambling. If anyone has advice for curbing your probably sociopathic teenager's sexual adventures, please do share. I am very concerned and struggling.",7.771086515714773,7.591771355638169,7.603351075813903,73.2174902838797,62.82899628252788,10.954703165483837,36.308690999211436,10.487442992203412,3.756073358116481,3432,145,621,73,44,1097,401,807,0.155,0.753,0.092,-0.9946,5,0,2,0,0,0,106.0,12,2,2,11,28,47,5,8,44,2,71,20,5,3,7,105,111,53,1,24,17,9,3,3,1,9,11,4,2,14,38,37,0,4,11,1,0,9,15,26,1,1,32,9,71,21,97,61,26,90,0,8,1,4,112,42,0,15,41,410,109,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897312195331462,0.0,0.06182624826684888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05059661684918982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043025447085202485,0.06634361427529747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044239523464038526,0.0,0.0,0.05632329179758334,0.0,0.07197821937693784,0.11888760421419475,0.0,0.0,0.03856851562444438,0.0,0.0538377063558454,0.0,0.06639746380989528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21188914553216887,0.12921051940767095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693076895821774,0.0,0.0663368939506262,0.0,0.0,0.050515567988828655,0.0,0.0,0.04080360992370838,0.0,0.0,0.1926517103384719,0.0,0.0,0.1450247157495966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337256307505917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074866613113872,0.14112449141409225,0.0,0.0,0.05330730420036498,0.0,0.11372514012565853,0.0618897366115224,0.0,0.07119580639549862,0.031990973233969495,0.0,0.0,0.06930867282196837,0.11565440054408165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23139001079952576,0.0,0.0,0.05306747636066595,0.1012048389780172,0.0,0.06969851563559416,0.06264677767053209,0.0,0.0,0.05667706763207325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749746925936129,0.0,0.0668477276473895,0.0,0.0628409149344325,0.0,0.14600907587336218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603694689920964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954255337498241,0.1031462158445253,0.0,0.0669932923253201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273088317967136,0.12682537251829545,0.055868150350673516,0.05599153927477775,0.0,0.0,0.13813232248641036,0.05378948821639009,0.11420643431544154,0.0,0.08446579941060231,0.0,0.0,0.06891906159189347,0.0,0.06373739085804593,0.0637608007613339,0.0,0.06388418484965605,0.074100503829952,0.0,0.0,0.046510381279532456,0.0,0.0,0.06110610218513182,0.0,0.0,0.12398140360107153,0.06070881630435341,0.0,0.13278144829927474,0.06737997998395126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423315623623747,0.07025332085399771,0.06851473077034516,0.0,0.08772624549793663,0.05524450942792842,0.0,0.06945093974423554,0.0598101523110483,0.07132688381365103,0.0,0.0,0.06821524976385336,0.06054039136545281,0.0,0.06360334849573407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04053207827666272,0.0,0.0,0.06792779265024923,0.0,0.05403182925491146,0.0,0.10062893258994776,0.0,0.06403213781419123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523372054740191,0.07111759778381115,0.0,0.06449531373897419,0.05360806381411889,0.04870797195855785,0.0,0.0,0.08956499188366747,0.0,0.0,0.05289615651282639,0.07247502793188616,0.06614304555570487,0.0,0.06920659206383281,0.07179750799443435,0.0,0.0,0.09514161868398394,0.05085364815620008,0.0553003541850953,0.0,0.07235421663972673,0.0,0.2101673076423524,0.0405405573615298,0.0,0.0,0.1844648461988224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029477104817007,0.0429558548342697,0.0,0.0,0.06586580758059085,0.15221089850843708,0.0,0.0,0.052203984828989684,0.2239080331130372,0.050220404552156435,0.0,0.0,0.05688690197511375,0.058651484200587,0.0,0.07063816596677522,0.07275683211667444,0.0,0.0,0.046060968251066585,0.06425327453126044,0.0,0.3146139903958485,0.0,0.0,0.12223050054715852
parenting,DahliaSoSunny,2020/02/18,"My 13 yo wants her septum pierced. Here’s why I’m considering it. Okay so the title is a TAD clickbaity but hear me out. Apologizes for formatting, on mobile, yadda yadda. 

I am a somewhat heavily tattooed mom with a septum ring. I figured it was only a matter of time before she started wanting these things. I’ve been brutally honest and open with her about the processes, the pain involved, explaining why I chose this piercing over another and why I waited so long to get my first tattoo (I was 27). Etc. 

I’ve always explained to her why she cannot do things, if she asks for something and I say “no”. Sometimes she’d test this when she was younger (“Hey mom I’m gonna go down the slide head first!”) and my response is usually to explain why it’s a bad idea and sometimes I add a “But go ahead if you want!” if it won’t result in permanent damage. The result so far is that she trusts my judgement and is an appropriately cautious kid. 

So when she asked me if she could get a septum ring, my brain immediately went to **“Um of course not, you are a child!”** But, as I do, I started trying to come up with good reasons why this was a bad idea. And I couldn’t really come up with any. I’m kind of in a neutral place about it. 

**I’m not about to rush out and get her pierced right NOW.** I told her to look up the laws for our state about getting pierced with parental consent. **I also told her that even though it appears legal here, a lot of professional piercers may decline to pierce her based on age**, so she plans on calling around to local shops to ask at what age they’d pierce a teenager’s septum. 

I told her to ask her dad (we’re divorced) and if he says “no”, that’s the end because I’m not going to argue with him about this. We also discussed (and have several times in the past) why you should NEVER pierce yourself, so I don’t see her going rouge and DIYing this. 

Here’s why I don’t find this all that problematic: 

 1.) I encourage her to express herself in any way that is safe. This includes things like dying her hair wild colors and cutting it all off. She’s gone through about six different colors in the past year. Hair grows back, no big deal. 

2.) Kind of adding to that, a septum ring will not leave any visible holes or scars in/on her face if she decides later she doesn’t like it. 

3.) A septum ring is very easy to hide for school/work, which is why I chose it for myself. If you wear the horseshoe style jewelry, you can simply flip this up inside of your nose and it’s hidden. 

4.) We waited to have her ears pierced until she asked for it and could take care of them. She got them done around 10 years old and took care of them fabulously. The aftercare is not all that different for this piercing. The risk of complications here is *extremely* rare. 

I figure, if she really pushes this and doesn’t change her mind soon, it might make a good gift for a future birthday (she turns 14 this summer) or reward for continued responsibility. I feel like any reservations I have about this come from the more conservative way I was raised but I can’t come up with an honest, logical reason why I should say “no”. Maybe someone else can? I’m open to being told I’m 100% incorrect on this. Thoughts and feelings, anyone? 

Disclaimer: As long as kids are healthy and happy, I am not concerned with how anyone else raises their children, so I hope none of this sounds judgmental.",1.6724621959237354,4.028015795857994,2.891489151873768,91.05468606180143,81.8698224852071,5.708218277449047,21.66699539776463,6.996647511020387,0.5762275476660097,2642,83,549,33,72,849,317,676,0.067,0.804,0.129,0.9925,3,0,1,0,1,0,99.0,3,6,5,5,31,26,3,1,31,1,45,9,8,6,4,103,101,49,1,17,20,4,4,3,0,7,1,10,0,4,39,39,0,4,15,1,1,16,20,8,1,3,16,19,80,18,80,72,8,77,0,1,4,0,82,29,0,16,32,348,119,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611248413405997,0.05000207724185169,0.0,0.0,0.1634608342555053,0.06301260807058118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403665623947468,0.0615722411742629,0.0,0.10699077974736054,0.28089358205361903,0.0,0.0,0.04620770352524155,0.1003500636317059,0.03663205246585585,0.0,0.051134601680618376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708351073762292,0.06136153348720527,0.0,0.12253736076964625,0.0,0.06357028266090625,0.20705872728440847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959585250792725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061953104678804674,0.0,0.0,0.062366905959700285,0.12556850667409394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061495864228196535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003997547615931,0.0,0.05322444148119376,0.0,0.06701942880090718,0.039690770283781984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060769515806712776,0.042930354439273816,0.0,0.0,0.05492378952163705,0.1022299197699123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558416593649893,0.0,0.13660863904995196,0.100806087390224,0.048061753365633016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639699717322219,0.0,0.0,0.061672615816740224,0.0,0.06772902576047891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968577363193967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567505908919028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515494217246378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636296668302722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807501462902895,0.0,0.0,0.10636058822329826,0.05046287144453978,0.0,0.0,0.05108880449641942,0.0,0.0,0.0401124537136528,0.0,0.060371359467116935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374903288739325,0.06067666264210155,0.14076007334463025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046347321745992036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630573526338743,0.0,0.0,0.04570333137593944,0.0639430447396485,0.0,0.06672601456803727,0.0,0.11473087771833256,0.0,0.0,0.06278425333704697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699405558869105,0.12357094641289845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131897798103542,0.0,0.1433647735154887,0.0,0.060817187126167925,0.047886232794307294,0.0,0.0,0.06788783218390748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050916489121689966,0.0462624229997711,0.11886675921447835,0.0,0.08506807764484002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04518235548983951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197690870210652,0.0,0.059040934308979665,0.047707022011961,0.07008126514237492,0.0,0.0,0.2296852291899696,0.06676538361460438,0.040799110427971616,0.06536378052634355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661838004422181,0.04958290668490933,0.10633298538620553,0.09539783756910417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05570668747942435,0.5422446340622175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04374832109254916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739566909221847
parenting,qwerty410,2020/02/18,"Unloading Car... baby then stuff or stuff then baby? What order do you unload the car?FWIW, we have a garage so I’m not concerned with a baby snatcher! I just feel weird leaving her in the car but it’s so much easier to get her last so I can just settle down and keep holding her after I already have everything inside the house.",1.1781818181818196,3.6868197727272762,2.8244696969697003,89.50670454545454,86.12121212121212,5.118181818181818,20.37121212121212,6.6274283507984215,0.4787939393939396,259,8,50,3,8,85,49,66,0.021,0.903,0.076,0.6619,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,8,8,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,0,5,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,4,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153766117281368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25684981970508497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445041210458159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493135931315175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32976354016307696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540234766561568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329571712433597,0.0,0.30261057557186954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100886933682905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6543228488468589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Poopoooeater,2020/02/18,My butthole 29/m here. My butthole stinks. It smells musty. My butthole eats turkey. I like chocolate milk on my filth-hole. Anyone lick buttholes? I like Swiss cheese with my butthole.,1.7653246753246739,3.936992545454544,2.6970562770562765,84.1227272727273,108.3939393939394,7.946320346320348,22.8961038961039,7.957251820313856,2.725955844155844,146,6,25,5,7,46,24,33,0.061,0.7879999999999999,0.152,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,11,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430546457253402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6483701886910905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6191273530687146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Januaryken,2020/02/18,I’m so confused I don’t know where else to discuss this so here we are. My mom was cleaning my 14 year old sisters room. I was just there as well talking to my mom (I’m 17 and a female btw). And my mom found a bra in a shoebox under her bed. This was like a real bra and way too big to fit my sister. I’m really confused and nervous. Where did she get it from? Is it someone else’s? Why was she hiding it? I know that this isn’t even something I have to care about cause I’m not her parent. But I can’t just ignore it. Is there any reasonable explanation behind this??,-0.7971733333333333,1.2046814960000027,1.8200000000000005,96.85666666666668,90.03999999999998,4.293333333333334,17.933333333333334,5.6839178017228535,-0.4927866666666669,437,12,104,3,15,150,76,125,0.10800000000000001,0.8079999999999999,0.084,-0.4422,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,13,7,0,3,4,0,12,0,0,2,0,18,21,8,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,6,0,15,3,10,15,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,2,3,68,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258722707244492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837934492129977,0.18518308854489335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30117863012344626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906415360276093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19765263134078245,0.0,0.0,0.09418167193676057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981392259537625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806898090226807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6333769365275718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891590983521641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016433017111587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051824502380648,0.11548317147245235,0.1853437214665961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527390030063317,0.1387777611444176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489117804264134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308695327009344,0.0,0.0,0.1620810018792246,0.0,0.16266224600492907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160855504579324
parenting,8Ariadnesthread8,2020/02/18,"I want to talk to moms who still do their high school aged kids' laundry. I just dated a guy who's mom insists on doing all his chores at home. He basically can't take care of himself because his mom did everything. Currently a new boyfriend has a sister who still lives at home at 22 because her mom does ALL her chores. She has no chores at all. 


I really wanna know what these parents expect their adult children will be like?? Like....what is going on??? I get that sometimes cultures are different but like....is the plan for the spouse to just.... take over babying her kid?",2.0766666666666684,4.548534285714286,2.694642857142856,92.36702380952384,81.14285714285714,5.519047619047619,22.72619047619048,6.816661863887847,0.629551190476191,448,15,91,5,12,139,78,112,0.042,0.93,0.027999999999999997,-0.3557,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,2,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,0,3,10,17,1,0,3,3,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,5,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,13,2,13,14,3,15,0,0,0,0,27,8,0,0,7,56,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695335606518298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479810423656287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164157599949485,0.0,0.0,0.12701396994944128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044347759046265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583024337710666,0.0,0.08248704181235067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371252530709389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533495593623497,0.2911767497260793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976576236995465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212725855842004,0.0,0.12816226579692652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6799500901984661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401781956429242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116203460990847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298111637470477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689055955096375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435482763844538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23181976772788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21825611454093147,0.11665893234032446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560799153536007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maria_nik,2020/02/18,"I can't imagine giving all of my me-time up. Selfish? I'm in the process of trying to conceive with my fiance. We've been waiting for many years for this time to come. Our financial situation is good and stable and the time is just right for that first baby to come. 

The thing is I was thinking about our life and how it'll be from now on. And a friend of mine mentioned that I'd have to give up all of my free time and hobbies when that baby comes. I tried to reason that after the first couple of months I don't see how I won't be able to find a couple of hours for my interests and hobbies (I'm a teacher and school counselor professionally, but I'm also an aspiring writer devoting about four hours a week to writing). My job is only five hours per day. 

Am I too selfish thinking I want these few hours to myself every week? Is it too much? Does that mean I'll be a bar parent? Of course i understand the challenges that come with raising children, the unexpected things that come up and I wouldn't neglect my kids to get those hours in, but still... After the talk with that friend  I felt lousy for even thinking about it. 

When I think about this logically I'm saying to myself that to be a good parent one needs some balance and to feel good with oneself and their life. Writing is more than a hobby for me. It's how i cope with daily challenges and basically how i breathe and exist. So getting that part out of my life would leave me half a person. 

Again I'm getting that the kid will be my top priority. But is it bad to want and try to figure out ways to have other things in my life too? 

Did you guys quit everything for your little ones?",3.3702654867256636,4.5133102979351065,4.352677286135695,88.00788318584074,72.86430678466077,6.839929203539826,24.7694395280236,7.087006719466742,0.8687511740412988,1297,38,276,12,25,421,168,339,0.055,0.8340000000000001,0.111,0.9338,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,2,1,6,20,14,0,0,17,0,25,6,1,5,2,58,53,24,0,5,4,2,2,0,2,5,4,1,0,5,24,25,1,2,13,1,1,5,4,4,0,7,4,4,33,11,52,39,7,40,0,1,1,0,21,12,0,1,22,196,57,5,0.08759401784120395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004890442076381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313734609283577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772724513289989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19384222935289133,0.0,0.0564908950352823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665411529850723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785502266525783,0.0,0.07380173793022568,0.0,0.07872385514079866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04429016732626512,0.0,0.08410399370388692,0.0,0.08005934540742751,0.14901485365660666,0.0,0.0,0.1353498417955163,0.0,0.13729277703680268,0.16805632713334448,0.0,0.2204091188855222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673184917465902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313123155117774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692354672871459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927494173161062,0.0,0.0,0.2474809810564242,0.0,0.08779221765105127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880658566624113,0.0,0.09541556449532818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991670934517258,0.0,0.06439168181015288,0.06494985432948278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871194688039904,0.06661919770585042,0.0,0.0,0.19452558151906316,0.09485578534729884,0.0,0.0,0.07648371772016825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316702013489783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006123910382799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480481263080592,0.0,0.06965827875376616,0.0,0.08864982247672315,0.0698010913837189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984593460989928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995269579779105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040475353833567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458071976578182,0.2245068389648875,0.0,0.0,0.15323032864691366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17841176487550936,0.0,0.0,0.09118846174164917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333044241097653,0.06952805419642258,0.1405252750450145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062224277079242774,0.0,0.0,0.05640767560705084
parenting,xhendersonx,2020/02/18,"Daughters and makeup I’m a mom-to-be, and my daughter will be born in May. My husband and I like having ongoing conversations on just about anything and everything to get an idea on each other’s perspective and opinions.

As we got ready this morning, we had a discussion about makeup, and frankly, we don’t know where we stand with the topic. I’ve always been minimal with my makeup, and I don’t put it on unless I have to. I’ve heard MUA say makeup can be artistic, and while I can definitely see that, part of me isn’t sure where the line crosses between that and our society’s views on looks. We know we want our daughter to have a healthy association with makeup and her looks, and I guess we’ll cross the bridge of makeup as art if we ever get there in her teens, but for now, how have you approached makeup to your daughters? Maybe we’ll get some ideas for future reference from other parents’ your responses.",7.5696439533456115,6.377350740331494,7.573775322283613,76.58244321669736,63.696132596685075,10.47538367096378,34.47575199508901,9.444778638647367,2.9612241866175566,728,26,142,11,9,235,107,181,0.0,0.9390000000000001,0.061,0.7184,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,11,3,0,0,9,2,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,1,2,39,30,18,0,2,4,6,0,1,0,4,0,2,0,0,6,22,0,0,5,2,0,4,3,0,0,0,4,6,25,2,24,20,3,18,0,0,4,0,26,8,0,5,6,101,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665122130707313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646780907576625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101602023502494,0.0,0.0,0.17985100093173326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136564301456508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005072905796866,0.0,0.2204498985302101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4518123164798082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219956604459126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776637565930016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33609341313928826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104302111961656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343729762590245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22220469564440626,0.21670569750891214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011714538566965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913995998595146,0.0,0.0,0.1594662269655951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18860658806407885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803336778346965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jc11686,2020/02/18,"My 21 month old son is in a habit of screaming at the top of his lungs at every diaper change, at every nap, and when he needs to eat normal, healthy, food. My approach is what my parents had other friends have advised - let him scream and give no attention to it as long as he’s safe. However, I’m in an apartment... so we’re kind of in fear that a neighbor might call CPS or something. He already screamed for 30 min straight. He needs to learn that screaming won’t accomplish anything, but how can we break him of that while we are living in fear of CPS preventing us from parenting him? 

We are normal, good, loving parents, but obviously we’ve let him get his way too often. I already know that apartments are not great for raising a child, but that’s where we are right now. 

If a neighbor calls CPS, from tv shows it looks like the parents are automatically guilty and the child is removed. Even if said child is just being a toddler and screaming for the sake of screaming. Obviously we just want him to learn not to scream, and not to grow up a spoiled child. How do we prevent that without having him scream for an hour?",6.596351351351353,6.039830121621621,6.348423423423423,82.49804054054056,65.35135135135134,9.021621621621623,34.265765765765764,8.07648339933343,2.381398198198198,885,35,181,9,12,277,128,222,0.156,0.741,0.10300000000000001,-0.9325,5,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,7,0,0,2,11,17,0,2,12,0,19,4,1,2,2,41,29,18,0,7,12,5,0,1,3,2,0,9,2,4,10,11,2,3,4,3,0,3,6,10,0,0,2,10,19,7,29,22,0,27,0,0,1,1,37,14,0,5,9,116,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648009057167368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873297354038904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24502513667143075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269224896447374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276906591498507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924538273970849,0.0,0.20217594600125915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700207734240269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507978750137665,0.0,0.09269592787909836,0.0,0.06268437992340617,0.11509534826877585,0.0,0.10063318147537872,0.0,0.13227791335960393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181557207948538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494027230148695,0.06593764084882134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24537450410697814,0.0,0.058615963645791025,0.0,0.10594416954600623,0.10617815504603344,0.10075263173718926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828625759411864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727937690118252,0.0,0.0,0.095766558143383,0.0,0.0,0.17792668045462387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23510903370197936,0.0,0.0,0.12589838917956087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5328925113151652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246190796603293,0.11412805808155052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236614434215576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432066514739555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076706636948951,0.09523420806213503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156560361257477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bestofmedadx3,2020/02/18,"11 year old 5th grader not completing homework. I'm on mobile, sorry for any bad formatting. A little background. My vstbxw and I have been separated for a year. We split custody 50/50 with Friday exchanges. He's in counseling 1 day every week and has tutoring weekly. Diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and on meds for depression and anxiety.      


My son simply doesn't do his homework unless his mother or I am hoovering over him to get it done. We have 2 younger children who also need homework assistance and attention, in addition to needing to cook dinner etc. We've taken away technology, his counselor encourages him to do his homework, his teachers have given him extensions on his projects etc. We are all bending over backwards to help provide him with the time, resources, and atmosphere to get his work done, he just doesn't do it.      


Does anyone have any suggestions who has gone through or is going through a similar situation with their 5th grade sons?(or daughters)     


Thanks in advance.",6.531207563386339,8.361911145251398,6.590055865921787,72.33967769660508,66.0391061452514,9.530038676407392,36.67425870219167,9.851270322608157,4.078556166738291,801,41,124,18,13,255,118,179,0.057,0.895,0.048,-0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,5,0,17,3,0,0,1,23,27,10,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,4,14,2,0,1,1,1,3,3,2,0,0,6,0,19,2,25,21,4,24,0,1,0,0,26,12,0,2,9,85,23,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19184488508207267,0.0,0.141502839880615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765648311382075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21710847884030768,0.0,0.12211692420975714,0.0,0.0,0.11161738336939699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499781446361169,0.0,0.13328483098619678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673695814024971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294849074068507,0.0,0.13748954798382176,0.1620216353000792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396937590405509,0.3267149246695877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560604913337815,0.0,0.0,0.13449561259758744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680073460461844,0.0,0.0907217131114722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069969843753458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999173495673213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731354096158033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367280416736696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750539629129824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179431412334241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786933175138581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469663518310361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308185009310788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560919767294957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621293244318312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083904972461031
parenting,up_from_the_36,2020/02/18,"3 year old - The Bathroom Hype Man My 3 year old is the greatest bathroom hypeman I didn’t know I needed. Anytime I go to the bathroom with the door shut, I get a request about to play by play of what’s going on in there. Is it #1 and #2? Just #1? Constant and consistent chatter.

Last night he reached a new level of hype-ness. During the typical play by play, he’d interject some enthusiastic  praise. “Congratulations for going poop! You can have a M&M now! I’m so proud of you!”
 
Now I realize I don’t even deserve this hypeman. 🥺",-0.1985294117647065,2.0813677962962984,2.511721132897605,88.3700980392157,97.88888888888887,5.504139433551201,23.945533769063182,7.048011613610866,1.3286932461873642,414,19,85,8,17,143,74,108,0.0,0.72,0.28,0.9836,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,2,7,6,0,0,8,0,7,1,1,0,0,8,14,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,2,4,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,10,6,12,12,2,17,1,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,10,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27654360594159394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27581496016729035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857823166663588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334810881432374,0.0,0.4351624314060604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026875144353584,0.2080480254244141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925118486635384,0.0,0.24650451394478226,0.0,0.2395178040314148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5356457899201602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287218902766801
parenting,arkatie29,2020/02/18,"Best monitor that cycles Hey guys we need advice. What are the best monitor you guys use the cycle (automatically flip between camera 1 and camera 2 with sound and audio). We have a Nest in B1's room and a regular baby monitor in B3's room but we are about to get B3 a big boy bed and will need to be able to ideally see the whole room. We love the nest but there is no way to cycle through the camera so at night and during nap we would have to have 2 devices running the Nest cameras. Plus we are tired of carrying around 2 devices to view the kids during nap/night time. 

Bonus points if it has a phone app so we can all have it on our phones/tablets.",3.7490673154906737,4.186921116788324,4.989002433090025,86.40634225466343,71.4087591240876,8.132684509326845,25.441200324411998,8.167268648758528,1.2632212489862122,511,14,114,7,9,170,84,137,0.046,0.8190000000000001,0.135,0.93,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,8,1,0,4,5,5,0,0,11,0,13,2,0,1,1,24,19,11,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,4,4,15,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,9,5,17,16,4,14,0,0,2,1,16,10,0,1,2,70,13,0,0.20327702341832507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986399546445292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18095964807396456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42665338976362827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620385478633664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025524247044739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834654500999124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30145467430175377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3815234322297669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216249207085428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619854692994621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185324670657448,0.2336370351612096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556608147379188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613518394228565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269515372055441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440216513365187,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dualvansmommy,2020/02/18,"How to handle sports approach with your spouse for your child? So my hubby & I are a bit at odds over soccer with our oldest son who will turn 9 this spring. Currently he's playing in our town travel soccer club for the past year, and try outs are approaching soon. So far, our kid wants to try out playing u9 and one up u10 as well, in addition to trying out the neighboring's town travel club. 

Hubby already made his mind up, more or less that if our son makes the try outs for neighboring town, to switch over for the new soccer year this fall. I'm hesitate because it'll take him away from local playing, his friends, despite the fact our town travel club is shite. I'm still ok with him playing there for another year or two until it become really obvious he's superior in soccer to justify the switch to a better club that is outside of our town. Hubby feels by giving our son access to a better run club, better leveled teammates with similar soccer ability, better coaching will foster our son's love with soccer more. Also it isn't just hubby thinking our son plays really well, we've had several different coaches and other relevant people in town soccer telling us our son is quite good. 

How do you handle the differences in opinion?? 

I also admittedly know nothing about soccer beyond the basics & club levels whereas hubby grew up playing soccer competitively and was at D2 division college playing soccer, so while he does know and understand soccer more, I also don't want his experience to color our son's and get him burnt out sooner than later.",9.111385281385283,7.689939390572393,9.052594997594998,67.94492424242426,60.81818181818181,11.583357383357384,35.692400192400186,10.451354775682146,3.736203655603655,1257,43,210,23,14,412,161,297,0.012,0.8270000000000001,0.162,0.991,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,12,3,0,5,16,18,0,0,11,1,13,1,0,4,2,37,30,20,0,3,4,8,1,0,3,3,0,0,2,2,9,17,0,0,6,30,0,8,2,0,2,2,3,2,25,18,44,24,5,50,0,0,1,1,42,29,0,4,13,131,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942095250175756,0.2813653559389775,0.0,0.25414479041028193,0.0,0.0,0.12297788407794305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110188042730749,0.0,0.0,0.07149255426211085,0.12952610156756633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148970944746739,0.12803894563572527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450644359984308,0.0,0.0,0.1026321663581403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472195082775513,0.0,0.0,0.05930008849958815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060992632691646,0.0,0.061273749307697425,0.11250527683164943,0.0,0.09836856233231947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289075996364144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584941590549647,0.11097279112969513,0.07828504221494847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841896111138064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326936635974208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253293712648636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947169068145969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195664655239868,0.08130690622816578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247412884793056,0.0,0.0,0.15026462691832873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249256319090846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365963829027568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817966191105871,0.0,0.10250753777483056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514803072038477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185005938541223,0.12756652470980082,0.11456512564747585,0.12209219738518212,0.14107291588378118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383490907707352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089688625100103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265726474397753
parenting,UmaPurman,2020/02/18,"Uncontrollable Outbursts Since birth, my son has always had a different attitude compared to children his age. As an infant, he advanced VERY quickly, and was extremely independent and self sufficient. As a toddler, this trend continued with him wanting to make his own decisions and taking care of things on his own (which I understand most kids are this way, but his decisions very typically based around logic and reasoning, not emotions). He’s a smart kid, but has really bad attention-getting distracted easily and not completing a lot of work at school which leads to discipline issues even though he’s only in kindergarten. 

Like I said, he typically isn’t extremely emotional but on some occasions he has extreme outbursts over seemingly small things. The most recent about strawberries. I work from home, and he is on a small winter break from school. He decided he wanted to get a strawberry, which was fine, but took one bite and said he didn’t want that one anymore. Nothing was wrong with it, so I told him if he wanted more he would have to wait until lunch since that was wasteful (and lunch was only 30 minutes from then anyways). He lost it. He threw himself to the floor, screaming that he wanted strawberries and wouldn’t stop saying it over and over again. I tried to tell him he needed to go to his room until he could calm down, since he was clearly not listening to me. Again refusing, I carried him there in a plank form since he turned into a log and was trying to grab the walls and pull himself away from me. I got him on the bed where he screamed, hit, cried, and continued to just say “strawberry”. This went on for about 15 minutes, while I tried speaking calmly to him, shh-ing, and telling him to focus and talk to me. Evenly, he seemed to “come to” and settled a little. He was uptight and sensitive for a few hours following, and I’m just wondering....Does anyone else seem to have a child that reacts like this? It’s so out of character for him, but could be completely normal. Any advice for how to handle these outbursts is welcome.",8.26109375,7.739431255208332,7.7235208333333345,73.88606250000002,61.96875,11.43,35.86666666666667,10.793553405168565,3.815891041666666,1638,64,293,36,20,515,210,384,0.08800000000000001,0.823,0.08900000000000001,-0.3412,1,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,0,0,0,5,17,16,0,3,16,0,24,2,0,6,1,70,54,34,0,12,11,1,1,2,0,2,0,8,3,6,18,24,2,5,9,0,0,9,6,8,0,2,18,9,27,8,54,30,9,49,0,1,0,0,55,23,0,8,17,193,45,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458815989984272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054222113877599,0.0,0.0,0.06582475862180888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959958545212364,0.06768217766098968,0.09917918091044256,0.0,0.08616917053807255,0.0,0.0,0.09094324848068784,0.0,0.08082081247566775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098690212019933,0.0,0.0,0.08338138494222264,0.20297802011787974,0.0,0.0,0.15456783344625974,0.0,0.1063261181993549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113146283596494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086083315273536,0.217765470385754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786599972246848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114407462976494,0.0,0.05501153063406712,0.0,0.07741679108987302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709451530534788,0.0,0.09532479268847313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103012017873203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457950144405483,0.09701525607166736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056645241539508,0.08229269695264216,0.0,0.0,0.06461223804357889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177318124753865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483975784693684,0.09287859743877408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118326696273147,0.14723579601123613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062010146314532576,0.0995226502708684,0.0955746038061352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18415076990560175,0.1539525012950231,0.0,0.1959259136720113,0.0,0.2643589689374333,0.1009795828698963,0.0,0.0,0.3202833811762686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092598613985634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277872176853346,0.077801146570108,0.16920835052456046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286142339751418,0.0,0.09510180875792927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924929500041102,0.10754417792470773,0.19715486769445315,0.10528650720160007,0.0,0.1007682936295163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973406127122622,0.2854646345290129,0.0768323453092534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973107897447674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409376228448779,0.0,0.0,0.06876126764118519,0.10583148690132603,0.0,0.0
parenting,arandomguyol,2020/02/18,"Parents So,everytime i come from school i do my homework,and I learn,I want to play a game I have an eye disease PHPV and it's hard to make friends at school.I want to relax for a little bit I open up the PC and they start shouting at me in my room,that I need to close the pc,and they start throwing bad words at me,and they said that they want to kick me out of their house,when I finish highschool.Also my dad was alcoholic when I was little,do you think that what they are doing is ok?",1.2294444444444466,2.5308400925925945,2.747407407407408,96.73833333333332,78.62962962962962,5.540740740740741,20.333333333333336,5.82211442006289,-0.24526666666666674,382,9,93,2,9,125,68,108,0.05,0.8009999999999999,0.149,0.765,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,6,0,1,5,0,0,5,1,7,2,1,1,0,13,17,3,0,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,4,6,1,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,4,20,4,14,14,1,15,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,0,4,53,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414408886470437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18066897695535653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886346346896713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466472665895585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461097465742933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454603787505352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023808796631072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22643223728929346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15080405091822094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751759120487808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508585829807596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490264787565108,0.0,0.0,0.4572883149731609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198161549589086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476108245614486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399762254808409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AbusedPlatypus,2020/02/18,"Wanting to create a will, but don't know where to start... I want to see about creating a will. We're broke so not so much about assets, but more focused on my children's custody if something happened to me & my husband. Would anyone here mind to explain how they decided who they would want to be guardians and how do they ask their potential gaurdians. Also, did you see a lawyer, notary, ect? Estimated cost? I'll take all the info you can throw at me.",3.7339047619047614,5.286703755555556,4.502063492063492,85.685,72.55555555555556,7.365079365079365,28.41269841269841,7.957251820313856,1.7876031746031749,358,14,71,5,7,115,68,90,0.04,0.81,0.15,0.8017,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,4,0,9,1,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,1,18,20,9,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,11,0,10,14,3,5,0,1,2,0,11,3,0,1,1,50,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053291262614456,0.0,0.278196977652211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17953102924191272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400338906861253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270500816232068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411073764579551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25925219261600885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874653178251016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092054607970711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976647046190366,0.0,0.0,0.18173449799916205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19304991768234067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543272225004005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647867600665524,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,keelykeelykeely123,2020/02/18,"I don't know what to do anymore Bit of background. My partner works night shifts so sleeps through the day to catch up so I'm the main caregiver of our two children. We have a 4 year old and a 6 month old. My 4 year old is nonverbal and autistic with sensory processing issues. He eats the same foods as he is extremely fussy. He is constantly making noise constantly on the go. It is impossible to potty train him. I am a full time university student who has to take time off all the time because my partner is the only person who can look after our son on a regular basis because of how challenging he is and if he is exhausted from work I can't expect him to stay up all day looking after the kids 3 days a week straight off night shifts.
My 4 year old today has been ripping up the flooring, dismantling and trashing the house, breaking his brothers toys, aggressively rocking his brothers chair and frightening him, chewing everything, not listening to me and laughing in my face when he's told off. He is driving me insane. Nobody else can look after him. There is no respite in our area. He has been refused a special needs school place so we are waiting on the education boards decision on where we can send him to school. He has turned me into a miserable, angry person who spends all day everyday waiting for bed time. And even then, he doesn't sleep till very late at night. The help we get from doctors etc is minimal. We were told to self refer him to children's occupational therapy. I have been trying to sort this for weeks on end now and they are just not getting back to me no matter how much I call or email and try and get the ball rolling.
I feel like I cannot parent this child anymore. I don't know who he is. I'm tired of not being able to go  anywhere. He doesn't enjoy anything, he meltsdown in public. He is obsessed with picking food to as many bits as possible and clambering all over furniture so we can't even go out to eat. He hates the park. He won't walk for very long. He doesn't understand crafts. He tears up books so won't even go to the library. He hates soft play. I am in this house all day every day going mad and I can't take it. He is impossible to engage and play with for longer than a minute, he is constantly bored. He destroys everything he gets his hands on. I got up this morning to his sheets ripped off his bed and his mattress on the floor where he had made a make shift bed to sleep on instead of just sleeping in his actual bed. Telling him no or to stop it's like he's deaf like we are not talking. But I know his ears are fine because his hearing has been tested. I'm so fed up. I'm going crazy here.",2.9844805194805204,4.6160565250463845,4.0743274582560325,87.67026669758816,74.65862708719851,7.274768089053802,26.72124304267161,8.00094639256281,1.5477269016697588,2093,78,437,32,44,680,256,539,0.1,0.845,0.055,-0.9742,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,10,0,1,3,21,20,5,2,24,0,49,17,7,6,5,63,88,32,0,3,10,4,3,3,2,2,4,4,5,9,12,26,6,4,7,6,1,10,18,9,0,1,11,10,48,11,69,74,12,87,0,1,3,0,81,35,0,4,43,260,60,9,0.07072451896646811,0.0,0.06901692837676007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027943713915916,0.0,0.0,0.05820025298984537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054382789521192194,0.0,0.12933903096212102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442571444313316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221764134002864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22928423897124955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27366878303939673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238954201664896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473767859642608,0.059081260424427136,0.0,0.06264093165490504,0.0,0.07887653382989039,0.14013863327558362,0.0,0.05958845755274025,0.0,0.1271252746075057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03576044182347134,0.0505256104810719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104073813474366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780256845242978,0.0,0.241166243854938,0.0,0.05656485862524821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396516406740005,0.0,0.0,0.07971167297668197,0.0,0.047405154254346826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632131984632437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381802299410169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660503805403295,0.0,0.0797803379373886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365728260072338,0.0,0.0,0.06258897371450345,0.1781723505197097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692124989340043,0.0944183311900152,0.07170356157980548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564516362877656,0.0,0.05199065910780401,0.052441334666510235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991105101191703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29685394204265675,0.0,0.0,0.05378918364288092,0.0,0.0,0.07853120862973262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350784397930716,0.07389206937342567,0.0,0.0,0.07973126858044867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431539779918574,0.0,0.0,0.07378109772647758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28310238147296546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538292702157602,0.0,0.059128864690292826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063520729755972,0.056845689348083164,0.061816346886051914,0.0,0.08087965114110215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496014304345225,0.08128743055492198,0.067038574379268,0.13516061741027205,0.0,0.0960346117977591,0.0769279675786476,0.06908757835570004,0.0736267184782179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167102700363096,0.0,0.0,0.11346188615536022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029765842650886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366328142599018
parenting,shbam-mam,2020/02/18,"Period rage = mum guilt Does this happen to anyone else? Please tell me I'm not alone!

I'm usually a pretty chilled out person when it comes to kids being kids and the mess and chaos it brings with it. However, every month when I get my period I just flip out. I can't stand mess and clutter and arghh stuff everywhere!!! This afternoon I flew into a rage and chucked out a bunch of my kid's old toys and pictures etc whilst he was there crying his little eyes out. I'm a horrible horrible person!!! I honestly cant help the rage it just boils over and I flip out. This only ever happens on my period. I'm so worried that i am messing him up and that he will grow up hating me. Does anyone else struggle with period rage and raising kids?",1.3489486754966895,3.6100387086092742,3.2508899006622545,88.56454677152321,82.44370860927151,6.688907284768213,20.033526490066226,7.865858978985527,0.9098374172185432,579,16,119,11,16,194,91,151,0.278,0.662,0.06,-0.9893,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,7,11,5,2,6,0,6,2,1,0,1,22,17,12,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,10,18,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,10,0,0,2,1,14,1,15,13,2,28,0,0,1,0,13,11,0,0,12,70,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17107836649078945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23099769160210545,0.3384962280624827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422893596946238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18144427905442528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891031387359635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759761350006146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422119630015865,0.0,0.14941625337504694,0.1391726588762336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630059110883645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29213916365598397,0.0,0.0,0.1630826752968641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071777375972787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555540156370474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184641191842894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333034831201133,0.0,0.0,0.1256280832531383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884604795057451,0.0,0.18131984144852267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804911531423006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268371856808815,0.18909346244773428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437603709632854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819242436305478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774997708398226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The_Wicked_Ginja,2020/02/18,"Update: I'm a failure Original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/dsd21h/im_a_failure/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

I've never posted an update before so I don't know if I'm doing it right.  But, I was reading through all of the kind things everyone said on the initial post and thought I'd update.
My daughter is doing really well now.  She hasn't self harmed in a few months.  She started therapy and an antidepressant. She distanced herself from an incredibly toxic friendship.
She's my happy girl again.  I still worry nonstop about her.  But, the twinkle is back in her eyes.  She's learning to self regulate her anxiety attacks and not turn to self harm to fix it.
Her self esteem is up.  She's social again.
Thank you to everyone for the encouragement and kind words. 💜",5.711985294117646,9.296144757352943,5.2514705882353,72.55161764705886,75.69117647058823,6.6352941176470575,26.14705882352941,7.865858978985527,1.9956852941176475,661,24,100,11,16,202,90,136,0.09699999999999999,0.725,0.17800000000000002,0.8985,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,0,9,9,1,0,9,0,8,1,1,1,2,15,16,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,3,2,17,6,13,13,2,20,0,0,1,0,21,5,0,1,12,69,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001414971632704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591643578922516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575106763778499,0.0,0.10646208194776337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781360550658905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26459622342901884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738616839141674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288355721951295,0.07609034173083354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051214513759797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678376091739276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978001192991493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849082006145194,0.0,0.08869676298775794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823840663944565,0.13170084383837685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5777481693388498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141135757152147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799799559846567,0.0,0.11056902624816517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746924529601664,0.1583334750479303,0.0,0.091982255370616,0.0,0.0,0.10991649658907372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059748976726126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448619158272113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060610026917658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Risingsea,2020/02/18,"My 7 wk old has not woken for 6 hours already. Is this normal? Should I be worried? I wanted him to sleep throught the night but I never thought it would actually happen. He is still breathing.

I’m worried this is some medical emergency I do not understand.",1.2640285714285715,3.9291718600000043,3.2437142857142867,84.52900000000002,90.4,6.057142857142857,27.142857142857146,7.447530270364453,2.0414857142857143,203,10,37,4,7,68,41,50,0.16899999999999998,0.831,0.0,-0.7998,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,3,2,0,1,11,14,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,2,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.23805328947363724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26919729168070583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21571808955634936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402348281133233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457470226461427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814396767979127,0.0,0.0,0.22892408677812134,0.2390124571172883,0.0,0.0,0.2559772618780673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24411928621179116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481328548555032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936635833394985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539533841785845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438839686389431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954721459022266,0.0,0.17329018869853613,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ecofriendly133,2020/02/18,"I don't know what to do with my teenaged daughter anymore My daughter has just turned 18 and lately she's been showing me a terrible attitude and keeps talking back. She asked me her friend wants to have a sleepover and I told her no because her friend lives an hour away and I don't know if my daughter will be safe. She used to always follow my decisions but this time she glared and asked me why not and was just showing an awful attitude. She acts like my father and I are her enemies and have her locked up in sooner cage. She thinks we don't trust her but I do it's just a matter of her safety because she is a young girl. She doesnt drink or do drugs or go to parties or any of that because it's simply not acceptable in our culture. 
I simply don't know what to do with her anymore and in all honesty I'm getting tired of the constant disrespect and on top of this she keeps going in about how she wants to live in a dorm when our house is perfectly fine. I don't know why she's constantly arguing I'm afraid she might have some bad influence in her life",2.9550118702189394,4.1974492914798205,3.971622263255078,89.95197836982328,74.02242152466368,7.220152993933,26.12213136375627,7.724431198458867,1.2613199155895538,844,29,184,11,17,273,117,223,0.14,0.728,0.132,-0.6054,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,2,7,12,1,1,8,1,22,4,0,3,2,44,42,18,0,3,11,4,0,1,2,2,3,0,1,1,7,13,1,3,7,3,0,4,9,4,0,0,3,0,39,8,22,36,2,22,0,0,0,0,37,10,0,6,9,125,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562791154857358,0.0,0.0,0.09449924846888062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27562687044565265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598223118064611,0.0,0.13055981996258031,0.10685356590760473,0.11602786245636908,0.254130705523135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003381370735824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613032228266667,0.16115235374772632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472412749852035,0.0,0.07260215790921579,0.0,0.157951154273425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685004636732556,0.16034403910254635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470324660741871,0.0,0.0,0.305480569093402,0.0,0.15675572498173768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981533059530678,0.0678900461935259,0.0,0.2454128233010657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741722629556991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111692773886702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890415431497446,0.0,0.0,0.08103013688711481,0.1597169232165894,0.0,0.1327846003093778,0.0,0.0,0.15115126910876595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200189616121386,0.0,0.0,0.16392733671793652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507840395580848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KarrMadhe,2020/02/18,"Any good books or resources on Bully-proofing your child? My kid is 1 now, and I want to prepare them the best way possible to avoid getting bullied. If (or when) they get bullied, I want them to be able to put a stop to it immediately and most importantly not let it affect them. Ive been looking it up and mostly find short articles on how to avoid your child becoming a bully, which I would also want to avoid, but I have not found many resources on how to prepare a kid so that they can react to a bully

My kid appears to be sensitive as of now, and its a trait that seems to run in my family",11.694516129032259,5.2467907096774224,11.535483870967742,67.57322580645162,61.25806451612904,14.658064516129036,43.903225806451616,10.686352973137794,4.4369903225806455,464,16,100,7,4,158,75,124,0.142,0.78,0.078,-0.8444,0,3,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,5,1,7,5,0,3,6,0,9,0,0,4,0,28,18,14,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,7,4,0,4,3,1,0,3,2,3,0,0,2,1,15,2,18,12,3,14,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,7,4,74,22,1,0.22361625077328676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788258349530712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206671865381294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469665803425337,0.0,0.0,0.2346714591602378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21080549989238453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20438120205682786,0.0,0.0,0.2451836769545514,0.0,0.0,0.23366052321730585,0.0,0.0,0.1875587017474749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286627668802025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778133145767706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267117803257122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520937237878007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22479609525005104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035718362649731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695319851935868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956839752100929,0.17749617138411886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588505686856752,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Umklopp,2020/02/18,"Will teaching my baby an alternate melody to ""Baa Baa Black Sheep"" create problems down the line? MY QUESTION: Will it cause problems once she hits preschool, kindgarten, etc if my 10 month old only learns a ""weird"" version of this extremely common song?

CONTEXT/BACKGROUND:
So, for people who might not have noticed, the standard melodies for the American English ABC song, ""Twinkle Twinkle Little Star"", and ""Baa Baa Black Sheep"" are all variations of an old French lullaby ""Ah! vous dirai-je, maman."" (Relatedly, the ABC song can be turned into an endless loop if you drop the last coda and go straight back to A after Z.)

Somewhere along the way, I stopped being able to remember the standard melody for ""Baa Baa Black Sheep.""  (I suspect this is either the fault of Little Baby Bum or one of the VTech toys.)  It does not help that the alternate version I accidentally keep defaulting to is so much more upbeat, energetic, and pleasant to sing while also better mirroring the lyrics.

I'm just worried that if I don't make a deliberate effort to sing this super common song in the common fashion, I'm unwittingly putting my preferences ahead of my child's needs.

It might sound silly to think this far ahead, but I had a number of unpleasant social interactions growing up which stemmed from learning things at home which were contrary to the culture at large.  I'm not certain exactly when I acquired the ""weird kid"" label, but it definitely started somewhere in elementary school.  While my son is already doomed to nerdom by his personality, my daughter is outgoing, spends 90% of her time in a fantastic mood, is clever at quickly figuring out how to enchant/manipulate people, etc. I know, I know: things change.  But growing up is so much easier if you can be in the upper levels of the social hierarchy.

Also, I don't want some evil teacher punishing her because they strongly disagree about The Proper Way To Sing A Stupid Song About Sheep.

(Anecdotes about your own experiences with vaguely similar conflicts are highly welcomed because I always find them entertaining.  I once got banished for insisting that Mexico also had states.)",8.422132405852723,8.995357474934039,7.910166706644282,69.0342786039818,61.321899736147756,10.373758695130727,38.59930438954186,10.125756701596842,4.15851345646438,1709,81,267,33,22,539,228,379,0.11199999999999999,0.76,0.128,0.8177,0,0,0,0,0,0,64.0,0,3,2,7,14,19,3,0,26,1,23,0,0,3,3,49,38,21,0,9,13,2,0,0,0,4,0,6,1,3,16,7,0,3,11,10,1,4,5,9,1,1,4,9,27,9,45,26,11,45,1,1,3,0,22,19,0,9,18,174,43,4,0.11555156708713568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751402765239322,0.2772196393558532,0.09614816045953828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885202251743833,0.0,0.14087832557089588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219597089007423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870328954256452,0.12223823638717035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111995504622176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577410839589189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303160521854608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056120389244994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656706184625277,0.0,0.09241714403612464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745177969601004,0.12208657484882378,0.11590764328729505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027075421008475,0.0,0.0,0.12700823867308625,0.0941899496382308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23162605341439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771315683032865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451639044334425,0.0,0.0,0.09223215842269704,0.0,0.16988739468551606,0.08568002284652095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315562249993339,0.2425038635843247,0.24611729550523195,0.07830073235630433,0.08788217372280002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021781463813714,0.10089517134877088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211344882447646,0.0,0.1161612404795558,0.12944420035604434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089740007793646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116944354895925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355805417867225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178799392492647,0.0,0.0,0.09660628414151436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353465338776304,0.07404077842165402,0.0,0.0,0.06737904800959606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256869235230234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681553081058626,0.1834389109420832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734822538353085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bdot821,2020/02/18,"Mom(37) feeling helpless My son is almost 16 years old. He moved out of my house to go live with his dad when he was 14 and just starting high-school. We got into an argument over him not cleaning his room and I took his phone away. My son didn't speak to me for 18 months. Over those eighteen months I learned that he stopped going to school. My son has anxiety issues and he simply shuts down and refuses to do anything. His father could not get him to go, and he did get him into a month long program designed to help those with mental health issues. My ex and I do not communicate well, he no longer offers me information. I took the issue to court as I was really concerned for my child's well-being under his care. My ex disclosed that he had to quit his job and was suffering from his own mental health issues during this time. My ex and I largely disagree on how to parent children. My son reconnected with me this December, which is when I learned he still has not gone back to school - he should be in grade 10 now. I don't know why I'm writing this, I just feel totally helpless and sad and frustrated. The court system has made me realize that I really can't do anything about the situation - he's old enough to choose. Maybe some of you have gone through similar situations and can offer advice",4.531703131703132,5.5715326486486525,5.147535392535397,83.78549013299016,70.003861003861,8.226598026598026,27.516302016302014,8.515128840125781,1.8153395967395969,1032,34,207,16,18,332,148,259,0.109,0.863,0.027999999999999997,-0.9594,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,1,10,7,1,0,5,0,21,2,0,2,1,42,38,15,0,2,6,10,2,0,0,1,2,1,2,2,9,18,0,2,8,0,0,8,8,5,1,0,12,3,35,2,32,23,4,36,0,4,0,0,42,12,0,2,15,131,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227416585942108,0.0,0.0,0.104803537235078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006588578949465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225526193686905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833307772090276,0.0804783585344984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670954085073436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356382157742147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814347579427934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584016317514958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936279842356296,0.0,0.1784449051828492,0.0,0.08370749299504017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225009073215772,0.0,0.0,0.07015250659361343,0.11058079337478413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076550705778526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369583372336674,0.10386055105366547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057519312893309214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241816599581093,0.092622278320961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903339622545672,0.0,0.0,0.10514670805389964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21094867941035195,0.0,0.0,0.12257847486170033,0.2506198228350629,0.11123878437874377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196496188447489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621439098463825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132056175109928,0.0,0.0,0.1340978827763414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31776957198873285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352881889216989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408006382314795,0.0,0.08358293933774745,0.08750183677924196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610290574124546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325659173819056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882068089501412,0.0,0.09444087185511976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739867956019999
parenting,Throwaway129512,2020/02/18,"Is it ever ok to cancel Grandparent visits if they overstep with the parents. throwaway...Wife is a redditor and without providing too much detail.   

If a Grandparent says nasty things to one of the parents, such as ""i  think you're this, this, and that"". My wife/Mother said visits are canceled for now. As the father/husband. I'm expected and want to side with my wife. At a certain point consequences need to occur, but is taking away a visit with a grandchild appropriate after many incidents have gone without any repercussions?   

   

If this is the wrong place, please point me in the right direction.",5.3288888888888915,7.6484881851851885,5.478888888888887,77.155,69.92592592592592,8.503703703703705,30.51851851851852,9.150863307647796,2.9935296296296285,476,20,77,10,9,150,76,108,0.075,0.857,0.068,-0.4019,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,10,1,6,0,0,0,2,18,13,9,0,6,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,2,2,5,2,17,11,1,15,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,3,3,57,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742269635243753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986270034152705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18279474727889408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20487943991313107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855352905819091,0.14984124969599358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693599976504406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487763141822032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21113268927932036,0.22182536267347647,0.38206563588091297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257693221317294,0.19222626763587275,0.1607037251721473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194052195433438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425430789435056,0.1294859921669043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919320514528332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895996922706968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094495435262165,0.0,0.0
parenting,5_by_Five,2020/02/18,"Keeping them busy I found that giving little ones paint brushes and a little bowl of water and letting them ""paint"" the shower door, or Windows keeps them busy for a good chunk of time! Don't forget to put towels down !",8.470714285714287,7.009664166666667,7.4904761904761905,78.76285714285717,62.0952380952381,8.4,30.523809523809533,3.1291,1.4578666666666664,173,4,31,0,2,53,34,42,0.0,0.823,0.177,0.7615,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,4,1,5,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30575477531799616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26750720348817203,0.0,0.2338939093501089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4957258301924373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285152477438404,0.0,0.0,0.558980456908913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896224541081927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803305686955778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260507178400038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BERDM4N,2020/02/18,Taking my 4 month old swimming for first time Maybe this is a lazy post and I could just find the answers on google or YouTube but I’d rather hear tips and advice from parents themselves. Step by step checklist of putting my infant into a pool for the first time? Help!,4.301603773584905,5.8184194905660425,3.38127358490566,94.42021226415095,71.0754716981132,5.300000000000002,26.45754716981132,3.1291,0.3387018867924527,215,7,44,0,4,62,44,53,0.034,0.892,0.07400000000000001,0.4753,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,4,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,7,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,6,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533667733093807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070150918421964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369784930051857,0.44108923543177936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922289703099369,0.0,0.1737908501705134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604830058485976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069559316552121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720722027780926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879012994969368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24831989943912205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606494107564508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949473371677798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023781269643511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imtk,2020/02/18,"Almost 3 year old will not nap My son will be 3 in May and recently he has been refusing to take a nap. It is clear that he is tired, I have tried different methods and he just will NOT nap.
I understand that all kids stop napping at some point, but it has been very difficult for me. I am a SAHM and I have lost 1-2 hours a day that I had to do whatever I needed, like shower or housework I cannot do with a toddler about. Not only that, but I have to plan all our outings before noon, because if I put him in the car in the afternoon he will fall asleep on the way to our destination and be a terror!
My husband acts like it's no biggie, but for me it's a major strain. Doesn't help that my son is in the 99 percentile for weight and height, and has some developmental delays.
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We have a regular routine for nap and bedtime. I have tried earlier naps, later naps, eating before laying, laying down with him, leaving him in his room alone for 30-45min. Nothing works, and lately he will start destroying things in his room if we leave him in there. He is not locked in, and does not cry to leave, but when we check on him he's ripped apart books or taken his lamp apart, etc.

I feel like most of this is pretty normal, just very difficult.

I would love some tips for getting him to nap or helping me to cope with this transition.

Thank you",3.52287580461946,4.194759205035975,4.590416508898149,88.21200492237791,72.05755395683451,7.867020068156003,24.703521393411584,8.032893268588372,1.1232705035971216,1041,28,232,14,19,341,149,278,0.127,0.767,0.106,-0.2918,2,1,1,0,0,0,31.0,5,1,0,3,5,11,1,2,11,0,30,5,1,0,3,48,40,19,0,5,16,3,2,3,0,7,1,0,3,1,12,15,2,3,2,9,1,4,8,6,0,0,5,2,33,5,30,26,8,36,0,1,0,1,30,18,0,11,16,151,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879659945427025,0.14355681968048614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449458210779942,0.0,0.2358916036320808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225515758986566,0.08939115009156033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448165988954246,0.0,0.0,0.12129741476931775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183131237282454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545853493989793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008472768168635,0.09902208896067667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241732926411595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18581299095938986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650165715438306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635666042092608,0.4402998259647267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031516405517972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130777883336247,0.0,0.1250997709565611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277660095782834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580710479523248,0.1329987939863682,0.0,0.14544652294843435,0.0,0.0,0.10541816866919193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103003171122596,0.0,0.0,0.14101488715073146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393400359021778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368593776442445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810795720515823,0.0,0.0,0.11588308669124225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421649863376917,0.0,0.0,0.12761227600731884,0.0,0.0,0.09208546683454433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593103201159688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882124289483698,0.0,0.0,0.14429655372029698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22873340138046494,0.0,0.11002114100625868,0.0,0.1687880654011343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009087905210393,0.0,0.0,0.09846364955370956,0.0,0.0,0.08925946373051179
parenting,Albatraous,2020/02/18,"34 month old son makes dinner time so stressful I come home from a busy day at work.   
Toys are all over the living room.   
Wife starts cooking dinner.   
I spend time with my son, either reading books with him, playing toys or watching a bit of tv with him (trying to reduce this all the time).   
He asks for food constantly, sometimes we give him some fruit or a small yogurt.

""Dinner's ready!"" My wife calls out.

He runs to the kitchen,eager for dinner. I pick him up and put him in his chair.  We all sit down to eat. 

He now decides to grab his spoon and drop it on the floor. We pick it up and ask him not to go it again. 
He refuses to eat, even his favourite foods.   

He will only eat if we feed him directly, or if we remind him that he may get ice-cream if he eats his dinner (Only a small lolly or bowl of).

This helps for a while.   

He drops his spoon again, then spits out the food onto the floor for the cat to eat.    

He starts banging the spoon on the table, then spreading food across the table.

Eventually he eats a good majority of it, enough for my wife to give him ice cream (I still don't think he should have it so often, but she has grown up with desserts with every meal).

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Does anyone else have any advice (other than offering treats like Ice-cream) to help make dinner time easier?",2.3398507980569043,3.9549676832061103,3.06141568355309,94.32513532269259,76.36641221374046,5.832338653712701,18.779319916724496,6.351523495107088,-0.2465099236641226,991,18,222,7,22,311,146,262,0.016,0.9229999999999999,0.061,0.895,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,5,0,0,1,8,5,0,1,16,0,8,22,1,4,3,40,20,16,0,4,10,5,1,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,9,16,21,1,2,7,1,5,2,1,0,0,0,4,27,4,37,17,8,43,0,0,2,0,45,18,0,10,18,126,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572959187144127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661909148644275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849892472078521,0.1003760145112654,0.0,0.0,0.18316681498428766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695165614883996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003251559924964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438758041859089,0.0,0.1058646187919772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631788768423871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572922958437472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6014516878428321,0.08183661215412791,0.0,0.0,0.10122332178758922,0.0,0.06470450413998424,0.0,0.0825391580100773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4738353396232403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051182309682176685,0.18795258931390785,0.05567537608722729,0.082167817004317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313268266435162,0.0,0.09826619243865654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786041446535644,0.0,0.08650428226857182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078387790526208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819417918913772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027970660529642,0.0,0.0,0.14901254740495115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848119146538016,0.0,0.0,0.09799082251504994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688920949012704,0.0,0.13867928847932073,0.0,0.07823442609364431,0.0,0.11221778838731372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277157549184413,0.0,0.0,0.22849511249687185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651133728873601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131918587145343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LilSeaBassTion,2020/02/18,"Walking dead Our son has never slept well. He gave us 3 months of normal sleep, but is back to waking sometimes 4 times a night. He is two. I didn't believe in zombies before having kids. Now I am one. Will it ever stop?",-0.292536231884057,1.9420468478260915,1.7652173913043503,96.06202898550728,91.3913043478261,3.066666666666667,16.36231884057971,3.1291,-1.0244376811594202,169,4,36,0,6,56,43,46,0.156,0.8440000000000001,0.0,-0.7056,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,7,3,3,0,2,5,9,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,3,0,4,1,3,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,8,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21194160075249266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345398820374445,0.31053936931124604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493221085846277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22000434816357056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212581989842245,0.0,0.0,0.2586590390872201,0.2700577879677346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867732673438089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758279431530518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726040173194904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23043809159981976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072142071420076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692493724161455,0.0,0.33154761409246225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478234713516955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adigman95,2020/02/18,"Sick kid Looks like I’m spending the day covered in vomit, applesauce, and juice! My 17 month old son is sick, puking up boogers and coughing. Lowgrade temperature, not quite what someone would consider a fever but high for him. Already called the dr and they won’t see him, they say to keep fluids in him and rest. Anyone have any advice for what this could be? Should I take him to med express? The dr didn’t seem too concerned on the phone.",3.0588372093023253,5.308146686046513,3.1466860465116286,91.64933139534887,76.32558139534882,5.695348837209302,24.703488372093023,6.6274283507984215,0.7455395348837208,349,12,70,3,8,106,68,86,0.08,0.9,0.02,-0.6251,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,8,7,0,0,0,11,14,5,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,3,7,1,0,1,3,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,8,1,8,8,1,8,0,0,2,0,12,5,0,1,4,40,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438582386891161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27538560940028056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970316069841646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449178261348355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548193571997444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924607721573948,0.0,0.0,0.1609396773552665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26366421352470937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22181229463279376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191795813907293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20955989417429124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27719477835724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19918913723576467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26186167704286445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265428086265887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984528816679656,0.0,0.0,0.1988597475633014,0.2271817551478429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21144365682389896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763121011458972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17727379023723044,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hegemony_123,2020/02/18,"I’m in my 20’s(Male), live on my own, and my mom still controls every aspect of my life! What do I do? I feel like my mom won’t let me have a say over anything that goes on in my life, despite the fact that I’m an adult and live away from home.  She still forces her advices on me on many aspects of my life, such as how I should dress, what I should eat, how to spend my money, what to do and what not to do, etc... and if I don’t take all of her advices, she gets upset and emotional and thinks that I’m ‘’disrespecting her’’ when my only intention is to be able to make my own decisions like an adult such as myself should.  This has been occurring on and off for years now and it’s really taking a toll on me.  Not to mention, my mom has gradually become more and more rigid towards me as I get older.  I don’t know how else to cope with how my mom is treating me as I cannot communicate these things with her.  Don’t get me wrong, she’s a loving mom, but if I dare to disagree with even one of her advices, she goes 180 degrees.  There are some things about me, however, that I do agree with her on that I need to change, but there are some other issues about me I disagree on.  In regards to clothing, for example, I feel that my mom overthinks too much about what other people think of me based on how I dress.  My mom has said that she gets very offended if anyone makes a negative statement about me and therefore, allows other people’s thoughts to convince my mom to change who I am.  My clothing, for example, is closely-knitted with my identity.  Is there an alternative way I can deal with this issue?",8.047082616179,4.947849680722896,8.159776247848537,78.79873493975906,64.24096385542168,11.292943201376936,35.16006884681583,9.04235418022936,2.740209294320138,1242,38,275,15,14,408,151,332,0.065,0.895,0.040999999999999995,-0.8696,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,0,1,20,9,1,2,8,0,28,5,0,11,2,51,48,25,0,7,7,8,2,2,0,4,3,2,1,2,22,16,1,2,8,0,2,0,8,4,0,1,3,4,54,5,51,39,9,23,0,0,0,1,26,16,0,5,8,207,76,0,0.08021408387662407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23515282320395295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056087552516882896,0.0,0.06600935634757188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536377228826187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859015354122712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971172946701993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996691580962883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082697198288196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207903327377956,0.06700857423248921,0.09023004784067763,0.0,0.0,0.08945990715791174,0.052980645883467715,0.0,0.06758382527112519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111730194313725,0.057304957548992064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763419244526453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804612663848848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744532658787872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0440835627190704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202433543430397,0.16997273896304105,0.0783770992244764,0.0,0.14166101130640252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239634246558085,0.0,0.10708704772043176,0.08132449095259538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7515661245254313,0.0,0.0,0.058966581200101516,0.059477726805550524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054355139191608004,0.06100642537322661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122069172996724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513871961303717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630196260704822,0.06378945905627226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811814200125649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062201661862253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658134610608434,0.10279589209078402,0.0,0.06368102259792333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618501989666838,0.0,0.06367020612298985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770150850124303,0.0,0.05165524009450082
parenting,Personplacething333,2020/02/18,"How do you guys deal with three year olds? This is my first kid and my kid has so much energy! She never wants to sleep at night,throws tantrums at times (in the middle of stores -_-) and is sometimes just completely rude or mean even though we try to teach her to be kind to everyone. I have asked a friend but he said it's just their age but I need more opinions,how did you guys (who have gone through it) deal with it. Also M25 if that makes a difference.",3.0219452887537983,4.139156574468089,3.07905775075988,96.90500000000004,73.68085106382979,7.073556231003039,20.875379939209726,7.447530270364453,0.202597568389058,354,7,85,4,7,107,74,94,0.042,0.8909999999999999,0.067,0.3367,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,1,1,7,4,2,0,3,0,8,1,1,2,1,17,15,10,0,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,6,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,2,3,1,10,2,11,11,2,11,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,2,6,56,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580703769338256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214157014530066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20427758968616966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017263648060011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20355791683818453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868466354607744,0.0,0.0,0.1861702747798029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572395466092882,0.0,0.0,0.15052667901666966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858285180993418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202887491341698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300518375743944,0.0,0.0,0.21222910731851916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322389875894925,0.14446542005721613,0.150266408600838,0.0,0.0,0.1828365840616307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044433542049986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18532979774520472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949726523875476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269377750748728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142139879561829,0.0,0.11360807514253456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227810296612147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491693031267942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546538610672012
parenting,tiny1310,2020/02/18,new mommy hello. new momma here. i’m in 19. i was 41w3d when i went in. i was in labor for 24 hours and pushed for about 5 hours all together. then they kept saying katelynn don’t give into a c section bc of your emotions. so i kept trying. then they had to do one bc i absolutely couldn’t do it. my epidural didn’t work 3 TIMES. then when i got in to do the c section the spinal tap didn’t work so they had to do emergency and put me under and i woke up like RIGHT as they finished stitching me up. any advice about recovery will be greatly appreciated.,-0.012239709443097269,2.165245669491526,2.4971428571428578,92.1715254237288,88.06779661016952,5.06634382566586,19.445520581113804,6.5431188927421005,0.12273171912832925,431,13,96,5,14,148,75,118,0.024,0.919,0.057,0.5413,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,4,2,8,2,0,0,3,0,14,1,1,0,1,8,21,11,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,11,1,15,2,17,7,3,25,0,0,0,0,9,11,0,0,12,65,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21894981831071586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236916497638453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520384698560336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214939730112782,0.0,0.0,0.17920205194048314,0.24702804609444384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413099073234545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946488798926474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4327990245620171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182953393590615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524319342471225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134687175740936,0.0,0.17818230221794176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306517723204711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212271284440645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770679394851874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262381565272581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inquestforccna,2020/02/18,"Parents of reddit, seriously how do you tame a 5 yr old kid? I recently moved back home with my mother and she has a 5 yr old daughter. This kid is not but annoying! She always wants my attention, sometimes she will hit me with her hands when I'm not paying attention to her. If I'm doing something or holding on to my things (like a mirror), she will forcibly take it.
If only I'm not on my right state of mind, I would have kicked her. Lol
I was an only child before this. I will never understand how it feels like to have a sibling.",1.6870270270270282,3.463930360360361,3.6218828828828817,88.8657972972973,78.72972972972974,6.602162162162162,22.811711711711716,7.554174236665415,0.9239830630630624,414,13,89,6,10,140,71,111,0.013000000000000001,0.8909999999999999,0.096,0.8683,1,0,1,0,1,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,4,4,1,0,5,1,11,1,1,2,1,21,19,8,0,4,7,3,2,2,0,4,0,0,1,3,5,3,0,1,4,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,2,17,2,9,13,0,11,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,3,8,60,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883777084119662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526678790113156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288836548094664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867433256227772,0.15354499878489214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155908594598605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100064657564217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21701656586207266,0.0,0.0,0.2284350342014109,0.0,0.0,0.16576614738267992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510627158805503,0.0,0.0,0.3269256940568994,0.0,0.0,0.23865271926097065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122160135647275,0.0,0.0,0.18354780701580614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546249794731893,0.2125698312713473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159952111737844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427889781120581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374820000460344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677042716565293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526790750403602,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,friendlymountainman,2020/02/18,"Is this just a stage? My wifes starting to feel pretty bad about it.. I have a 16 almost 17 month old baby girl. And she is obssessed with me (Dad). Since she was born she's always sort of leaned towards me when times were hard for her (having trouble sleeping, teething, etc). 
But besides those trying times. Never really chose favorites. Her first word was dada. And she hasn't stopped saying it since. She tells people all about dada all day. But, still she didn't act like she had favorites too much unless she was having trouble sleeping or in pain. 

Until a few weeks ago. Things changed fast. I started working a lot of overtime for a few weeks. And with her being home with my wife all the time. My wife was the favorite now! Which was a little weird haha, since she did a 180. But it was fine I understood. I was never home for a couple weeks until way after her bedtime. 

And then... My overtime stopped. And mom got sick. When Mom got sick, baby girl went to stay with Grandma for a few days. Since Mom had a really bad respiratory infection. And it was right in the middle of my work week. THEN! when baby came back home. Baby got sick! And was diagnosed with RSV. when I had happened all at once. Baby only wanted strictly dad. I mean strictly dad. Didn't even want mom to hold her. She was in constant pain at first. She fell asleep in my arms at the doctor from crying so hard (never had issues at the doctor before that). 

And since that happened. Even now that she's better. Baby ONLY wants me (dad). It's so bad that if I go to take the dog out to potties. She will scream bloody murder and bang on the door till I come back. She does NOT want to be with mom. Unless I'm at work before she wakes up (usually am). And mom's the only one home. But my hours have been cut short cause it's slow right now. And mom is VERY jealous of this. Cause baby litterally follows me around all day. Doesn't leave my side. Doesn't want to go to mom for nothing. When she wakes up at night she comes to our room and goes straight to me. If I leave the room even to go pee. She will cry and stand at the edge of the bed waving her hands for me to come back.

 The other night I told Mom to put her to bed just to see if she would let her. And baby cried for about 30-45 mins straight for me until finally ""accepting"" that mom was putting her to bed. Then still layed awake for another 30 mins or so. 

She gets so bad that if I'm cooking. Or doing dishes. Baby will come and push me away from the counter and try to get me to pick her up. If I'm on my phone on the couch. She will crawl up. And litterally put her face right in front of my face to make sure I see her lol. That parts pretty funny but it can get annoying sometimes when it starts to feel like you can't sit down for 5 mins without baby litterally holding onto you or playing with you. 

So... Is this a phase? My wife is starting to get hurt feelings about it. Saying baby doesn't love her.",0.892460425146993,3.1248027048092872,2.1410093472033798,95.98547150610584,84.14096185737978,4.58323533845922,17.925750037690335,5.760197766056111,-0.4750285240464343,2273,53,501,14,66,724,253,603,0.11199999999999999,0.8440000000000001,0.044000000000000004,-0.9890000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,88.0,1,3,0,6,31,24,4,0,25,2,45,23,11,4,9,84,87,51,1,11,20,18,6,2,0,5,9,3,11,2,23,31,2,4,6,2,0,17,12,15,0,3,27,11,69,9,83,52,12,116,0,1,2,1,64,36,0,12,60,323,92,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484638485653816,0.0,0.050660161360607366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042096248970047816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05304968481131442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045037233952899366,0.0,0.0,0.04753245659306559,0.11670541100868215,0.16896743078764126,0.0,0.0,0.08609941994689108,0.0,0.0,0.04474414293276833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578632919728059,0.0,0.10394298146245504,0.05351918547395778,0.17432067257977996,0.0,0.05467152707388774,0.0,0.0,0.0559786231344999,0.16671743144604806,0.09788215501650156,0.0,0.0,0.051349390711051233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356525570148277,0.04427303427460953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564229871288624,0.10024578816581108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674187178710208,0.03614263623702894,0.0,0.05542060510358667,0.0,0.08606634748406453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572805386440544,0.0,0.08625708567702517,0.0,0.12138812908696255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947593763282938,0.0,0.09064024041362964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20298992663127632,0.0,0.04982251729956627,0.0,0.05415933481239558,0.0,0.0,0.05280446742572152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713836082499276,0.0,0.05173332020447916,0.0,0.049432982899637434,0.05070605597589704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043011153781892915,0.04566087791597855,0.0,0.033770273786067916,0.0,0.0,0.05510906414851214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5925224930053639,0.0403817180219549,0.0,0.03719063385806458,0.0,0.11705804056163292,0.0,0.0,0.0949535449407039,0.0,0.048543987321069015,0.0,0.05308735481184925,0.05387838362119835,0.0342821652338859,0.11543153339748514,0.10766602028325926,0.0,0.0,0.05478575311282405,0.0,0.03507383283366243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293965364270463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257553997472895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482052570732785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296148036127909,0.0,0.08046491309086579,0.0,0.0,0.08062988136259189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20924939684327015,0.0,0.10125623712401424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050036368148793565,0.0,0.14323592832432222,0.053923894909572605,0.08080500535676391,0.0845936556634128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768196723902832,0.0,0.038038573408736565,0.0,0.04421927251807392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033610799019192734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885010748043504,0.0,0.0,0.04834242458546605,0.0,0.06869672641899087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055719479967276636,0.041743353468514745,0.1492011290149486,0.04015724288902035,0.16232606153731227,0.0,0.0,0.04689890330131515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876847961241754,0.0,0.11049382255616133,0.0,0.0,0.035938808257249086,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sagar700722,2020/02/18,"Best Baby High Chair in 2020 Parenting is a difficult job yet the most beautiful feeling in the world. Agree? However, your baby always need something new to pass his/her time from your long boring hug 🙁 Is that right? Oh, we are just kiddin’.

Ok, no worries! Today in this post, we have listed the 7 best baby high chair for your kid/infant. These are the most portable baby high chair, foldable baby high chair and also the most affordable seats. Moving further with the baby chair, you’ll notice whether he is curious about everything around him.

# How to buy a baby high chair?

There are various things that you should consider before spending the bucks on these amazing and space-saving top baby seats. Do consider these important features before buying a high chair for your little munchkin. Are you ready for the guide? Here we have:

**Food Tray:**

Always, I mean always check whether the baby high chair has the food tray available or not. The top tray easily pops out for its mess cleanout. Simply clean it in your sink or dishwasher. If your chair is a booster chair it will give you another extra tray so that when one gets itself washed you can use the other.

**Easily Cleanable:**

Babies are notorious eaters. They mess with the eatery a lot. So cleaning up the high chair after a messy meal needs to be easy. If your chair falls among the best high chairs it’s sure to have a vinyl seat. Can be wiped easily clean.

**Comfort:**

Comfort is something that we all look for. Babies also look for it. If your baby finds the booster high chair comfortable he will merrily sit there for a decent period of time. Comfort related judgments are based on whether the high chair has:

* A well-padded seat
* Footrest

**Safety:**

Safety is a key factor when you buy a high chair. Therefore, the following points should definitely come to your mind before buying. The seat must provide seat straps. Hence, these straps can be easily buckled and unbuckled. So always aim for the best high chair for Baby and go for a three or five-point harness straps. Baby should not fall under any unbuckle feature.

**Easy to fold:**

Of course, you should not ignore this. Always check the dimension of the seat if space really matters to you. Because there is no point in spending your money in a good baby high chair but there no space to keep it.

**Other important things are:**

The booster chair must have wheels. Note it down! The chair, when in use, must be adapted to be locked that is the chair should be stationary.

It should be convertible so that you can use it during food time and for study time as well. We suggest you go for 3-4 in 1 convertible seat.

Lastly, you can also check the [best baby high chair](https://thebabycart.in/best-baby-high-chair-india/) for your little munchkin.",2.4318335529205086,5.3910341936758925,2.612098155467724,88.85239844093105,88.48616600790514,5.577909530083443,19.67599912165129,7.112122041532452,0.7779891084760648,2186,64,387,35,72,663,225,506,0.036000000000000004,0.8390000000000001,0.126,0.9866,4,0,2,0,0,1,107.0,5,22,1,7,21,20,0,0,39,1,46,6,0,5,5,59,62,28,0,15,15,1,1,0,0,12,1,0,3,0,26,15,4,2,3,0,11,8,6,5,1,2,0,3,30,15,47,43,12,66,0,0,2,1,34,42,0,11,14,242,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157756011610336,0.20077241106719468,0.0,0.0,0.03281706242902235,0.05060267072014247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0429598088654152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029417599834248374,0.0,0.12319188923357845,0.0,0.303862462230286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04156995289247701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043371135875269265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024400670693911955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044106894175094204,0.0,0.17506112258365175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02521278832575139,0.04629342519978778,0.054852212843090435,0.04047648084237091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8157948191351709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788857137634776,0.04289388536154129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03933667206274505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673429213355794,0.0,0.04270676923446525,0.08104905178470499,0.0,0.0,0.04102718536141686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256705740516677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04872677507073253,0.0,0.0,0.051290566162961085,0.0,0.07156532037626441,0.0,0.04660783108732343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05494199859420058,0.0,0.0,0.03270083743332351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053584745133414345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685808993878373,0.0,0.046217778614583885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030915279986497343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121202762405556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430265876794619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045482548973986785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412087843531739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125584003657917,0.0,0.045742896167020916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503812949969734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677938940711401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049008293101193284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hericane825,2020/02/18,"Looking for some advice or insight. *tried to cross post from r/beyondthebumo but it wouldn’t let me.


My son is 4 almost 5 months old (in 6 days), and is such a great baby. He’s chill, happy, cuddly. Everything I hoped for in my first baby. We’ve had our road bumps, but who hasn’t?

Recently my SO and I discovered a new “road bump”, if that’s what you want to call it. It’s nothing severe or damaging health wise, but it’s weird and we want to figure it out.

My LO is great with people.. he’s wary with strangers, but generally comfortable and happy with family that he knows. Except for my MIL. 

We’ll go visit her a couple of times a week, and because of her work schedule, it’s usually anywhere from 6pm - 8pm. The last few times we’ve gone over, he has absolutely lost his shit as soon as she picks him up or holds him. Since it’s later in the day, we assumed it was just because he’s tired/cranky and wants to be held by me or his daddy. Totally normal.

But yesterday, we went out to dinner for my BIL’s birthday. He was great with my BIL, my SIL, but as soon as he saw my MIL’s face, he lost it. I told her he was probably tired of being in the car seat so I took him out and held him until he calmed down. A little later on, she asked to hold him again (to which I said of course) and as soon as it happened, hard core crying. What’s even weirder, is that he stopped as soon as she passed him to my BIL (who he sees even less). 

Anyone can hold him without a problem except for her. She’s never been with him unsupervised, and I know she would never hurt him, but I can rule out some sort of accident happening that would maybe cause him to be scared or nervous around her.

I apologize for the long winded post. Hoping the details can help paint a picture of what’s going on, and help find a solution.",2.677222222222224,3.675885425925927,4.128439153439157,89.50869047619051,74.37037037037038,7.3047619047619055,22.75925925925927,7.7094869923839395,0.7795544973544972,1393,35,315,18,28,463,192,378,0.09300000000000001,0.731,0.17600000000000002,0.9896,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,5,1,0,4,12,19,1,2,13,0,22,5,2,2,3,72,46,34,0,11,17,1,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,20,23,1,6,6,0,0,9,5,9,0,1,15,5,48,10,55,23,5,54,0,4,3,0,51,17,1,13,26,199,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204776591777613,0.0,0.0,0.10457153813232492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301986876652937,0.0,0.0,0.09296482090051504,0.09762793246064937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731909066362598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663468355477096,0.0,0.0,0.107278354012909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554978441612733,0.11471142722770745,0.13469739312412798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795003119140484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385493058239054,0.0,0.09844728927016007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544710802395172,0.08882808597643085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869992622476605,0.0,0.0,0.3454032583922586,0.0,0.0,0.18469416939861025,0.22233530699148796,0.09354874818961033,0.0,0.0,0.11100418329519697,0.0,0.0,0.13999442598731027,0.0,0.0,0.20744506280276329,0.0,0.0,0.1117944513686381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478396970659913,0.08512437018963083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067867278978128,0.0,0.0,0.1046662727400312,0.0,0.09241724434947196,0.08769488019518971,0.0,0.2279953143838144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491394928859928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335501215488082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108567394344991,0.1008591235395992,0.0,0.0,0.10231920589966856,0.10020338042562066,0.0,0.1095816949443882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239859781544426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003010370855934,0.0,0.11259317903099955,0.09992538541182876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031120047923556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933682334450587,0.0,0.10455262597934396,0.0,0.08321717190649734,0.0,0.0,0.11797615037863815,0.10719587176339927,0.08638555698788909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873081377099396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178792000257613,0.12002689749159688,0.0,0.0997873192697525,0.11602554808446472,0.07090110012830872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501486705966404,0.0,0.18478652021394484,0.0,0.0837674292679931,0.0,0.0,0.09680763588627662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066677224228034,0.0,0.0760262677713103,0.0,0.0,0.14836812032049876,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZiggyPiggie,2020/02/18,"Recommendations for capturing moments on video? We're mostly in the moment, so people keep telling us we need to get cute behaviors on tape, but when I do remember and whip out the phone, she stops doing whatever because I'm menacing her with the magic thing. I'm looking at video glasses fir something that records continuously and can be tapped when something worth keeping happens. *But that seems kinda extreme.* 

Has anyone else figure out good ways to capture memories without getting in too deep?",6.692987012987014,9.10678972727273,6.476493506493507,71.02045454545456,66.5,8.664935064935065,37.57142857142857,9.23628265651192,3.998988311688312,408,22,60,8,7,128,72,88,0.021,0.884,0.095,0.7691,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,18,15,7,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,3,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,12,14,1,15,0,0,1,0,6,8,0,3,6,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584465520967283,0.23218223464601645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813549156219013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892982858337362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23678212557480066,0.0,0.0,0.1900644039409048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003848735139941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028315003816576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029000788662884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680237470881602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709844997356465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566977798849406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062914669293849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34890114595068444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945081145458476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980615920847072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505454066947728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725763092793189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986744257451878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21843784769724495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MeganTravels,2020/02/18,"Waldorf Education - what do you honestly think about their system? I got into Waldorf philosophy through my personal handmade crafts and while I find it to be earth-caring (sustainable materials and all), I am having second thoughts about sending my own kids to a school built upon the strict philosophy of Waldorf - no gadgets, beliefs in supernatural fairies, writing off kid's speech issues as karma - are just some of the things that worries me. However, I do like the idea of my kids getting excited to go to school everyday because of the school's focus on arts and lots of playtime. I just think that Waldorf methodology can be adjusted in a way that prepares kids to not be behind times.",12.165,9.465490016129033,11.306193548387101,58.174290322580674,56.096774193548384,14.113548387096774,48.99354838709678,12.340626583579946,6.14381806451613,558,30,87,13,5,181,86,124,0.040999999999999995,0.894,0.065,0.4404,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,1,18,15,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,4,0,0,7,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,1,11,3,21,10,4,13,2,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,4,66,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475509795344834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020432964781697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549384652927093,0.0,0.1256325355617325,0.0,0.1768005297720366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495479320254432,0.0,0.2307274496794394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799792735836723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879358755738976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193019595357008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6711684541355237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686132286619838,0.2832904865479401,0.0,0.1754956108528527,0.12890088205902114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546580222544245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244954508387188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,so-much-thisss,2020/02/18,"Help on inappropriate grandfather (65M) touching toddler (3F) Father in law (65m) is too touchy with my(32f) 3yo daughter. I need the words and help with next steps on all these yellow flags 

I have always gotten some weird vibes from my father in law. I've know him for about 8 years now. He is always really touchy, squeezing my shoulders, patting my arms, rubbing my lower back. It creeps me out. I've even caught him staring at my breasts a couple of times. My SIL (26f) says that he is always like that with everyone, even her male friends. He is definitely a self described ""very affectionate guy"" because his father was never affectionate with him at all and he didn't want his children to feel unloved. “Just that standard typical pervy old man. “ he also immigrated from Asia 40 years ago so idk if that culture was more normalized

Now he seems to be really focused on my 3yo daughter. He pulls her into his lap to play ""horsey"", tickles her all over, and tells her that she has to give him kisses. While I felt uncomfortable with these behaviors, I kinda wrote it off as being affectionate grandpa stuff, and that I was maybe being overly sensitive, but tonight I feel like he crossed the line.

He was tickling her and she specifically told him to stop many times. I should have spoken up to tell him to leave her alone, but instead I just said, ""OK, time to go"" and picked her up to got to bed. She told me later that he wasn't listening to her and that he didn't like it when she said stop. 

The real key major concerns tonight also was he took her off after dinner and just cuddled her in the dark in a separate room. When I came over he was like “oop! Time to turn the lights on!”. 

The biggest flag was later tonight my daughter saying grandpa accidentally touched her vagina today while we were going over a lesson about personal space especially with privates. This made my stomach drop and kicked everything into overdrive. I asked has he accidentally touched your vagina before and she said yes. I’m telling myself she is 3 and this understanding can still be difficult and she doesn’t know how to give more details like when or how.

My husband is also concerned and remembered excessive tickling when he was younger in the sexual areas. He has the mindset that there wasn’t sexual intent behind it. Just his dad being overly affectionate with touching. He recognizes this may cloud his judgment. I know this is confusing to say but besides these issues my FIL is a good person, is kind and well meaning in general and besides that one incident with my husband was a superb father. 

I'm worried about his behavior and I need the next steps to diplomatically but firmly set some boundaries or do something more extreme. My daughter is beginning to know what is wrong and right but she doesn’t quite get it yet. I think our current plan is to talk to his mom who is a saint (poor woman) and then approach my FIL address the behaviors and concern and tell him no more physical activities AT ALL unless my daughter initiates (eg no hugs, picking her up, etc) but idk how that story ends. When do we feel comfortable again? The other option is to just say as diplomatically as we can without ruining the relationship we aren’t comfortable due to our daughter being uncomfortable and avoid any unsupervised time with him and her

We are a close knit family that depend on them to help raise our 3 kids. It’s irrelevant but just additional context. This isn’t someone I would in any sense of the word think of as a bad person but I am worried to become another one of those stories. My husband believes with all he knows of his dad to give him the benefit of the doubt as an overly affectionate inappropriate person (who also immigrated from Asia? Culture?) but said if I wasn’t comfortable he’d understand as this issue takes two to be comfortable. 

Please advise

TL;DR: Father in law is too affectionate with my daughter and I need help to know how to talk to him about it.",5.723136569313041,7.060946147058825,6.126684491978612,76.75787741670095,67.475935828877,8.962402303578775,31.09584533113945,9.265573868473778,2.775334965034965,3170,125,566,60,52,1021,338,748,0.08,0.789,0.131,0.9936,3,2,1,0,0,0,78.0,8,1,1,4,37,33,0,3,25,2,56,10,6,9,6,125,102,60,0,9,21,20,10,5,1,3,0,9,3,11,34,45,1,3,18,1,1,10,13,9,1,3,29,22,87,24,92,62,13,87,1,1,2,6,132,36,0,13,44,383,121,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062107319932552224,0.0,0.0,0.07256495339109162,0.0,0.22411994119421647,0.1748960508928491,0.0,0.0,0.09529155575097373,0.07346798983769179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550018310199993,0.0,0.0,0.05387472756583856,0.058500335733190474,0.04271023435945949,0.07737994831371932,0.0596191224527336,0.07893789544247339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013430733384536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752424788575324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205571941217222,0.0,0.07813964323707676,0.09255294129685307,0.0,0.0,0.06694895117297499,0.06296881418286653,0.0,0.06604990304071166,0.0,0.10627906794608843,0.0500535835644231,0.06727222316672872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413110817844903,0.0,0.03660543702802733,0.20163470684815932,0.07963772975577306,0.05876618053697188,0.05603641106066996,0.0,0.0,0.0693741647261522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784911867562476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625678135566342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296065264719861,0.23103135066351216,0.0,0.0,0.07418743421675097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17114813680018218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629604950601868,0.0,0.07103368325942509,0.07038849144046988,0.07632000414758504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205786075742623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558542312681243,0.054037511972599886,0.0,0.14902726505532232,0.0,0.06864763549080434,0.0,0.0,0.07352015865313948,0.0,0.09495407092334036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447079859350105,0.0,0.07690899856879653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745214619933595,0.0,0.07974792873170744,0.0897693123131264,0.0,0.0,0.07522228679638768,0.07936861276164361,0.059834091434023476,0.26658682423531793,0.22287014289629326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637834404414742,0.07309181037823584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936481951632956,0.05393852638200814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595303095108314,0.11715292667087238,0.0,0.0,0.08020627371268896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267924841727459,0.11262923634054632,0.2449553527447233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897880915529267,0.0,0.0,0.204273788728338,0.0,0.06641227790784521,0.13389790234594998,0.07784344554367703,0.0,0.07620928113439747,0.06844213941336028,0.1458777467836565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780996210107419,0.04132543697188761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299575900195689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753899061433456,0.0,0.0,0.14230635372721098,0.0,0.04977130418801653,0.07660375248930174,0.0,0.09023756363138297
parenting,ravimilk,2020/02/18,"How do I explain to my son that his dad is probably never going to come see him? My son is 7 and hasn’t seen his dad in over 3 years. His dad doesn’t contact me to see how he’s doing, doesn’t pay support, and doesn’t show any interest in trying to have a relationship with him. He also has another child that’s 4 and it’s the same situation. 

One of the last times they talked he told my son as soon as he saved enough money he was going to come visit him, that was 2 years ago. Since then every few months my son asks “Does my dad have enough money to visit me yet?” He’s even asked me if I can let him borrow money so he can see him. It’s just breaking my heart and I’m at a loss of what to say to him about it anymore. Just to be clear the money is not the issue here, he’s been back here to visit his family/friends and doesn’t reach out to me when he’s in town. 

We have had lots of conversations about all families being different and not everyone has a mom and a dad in their life and he seems to understand that but he remembers bits and pieces of his dad so he’s not realizing that that applies to him. The disappointment in his eyes when he starts thinking about it is crushing me and I’m just looking for something I can say or do to help ease that for him. 

I’m hoping some parents who have been through similar situations can give me some advice, thanks in advance for anything!",3.314256756756756,3.8522094797297335,4.772540540540543,87.20624324324328,72.44594594594595,8.082162162162161,24.93513513513513,8.238735603445708,1.2203032432432424,1090,30,248,16,20,366,146,296,0.036000000000000004,0.882,0.08199999999999999,0.9012,4,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,2,2,19,7,0,0,9,0,30,3,2,2,3,41,54,23,0,2,9,12,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,13,15,0,0,6,1,6,8,9,2,0,1,7,8,32,5,37,44,10,33,0,2,6,0,59,10,0,7,14,165,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143976388801805,0.11016199181092967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938240433380403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845110334473431,0.13031282147828274,0.0,0.0,0.12324707362561617,0.0,0.0,0.1022674600291308,0.0,0.23236007099752484,0.0,0.0,0.09555954601437086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567574682225655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410323894156424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984057393075338,0.0,0.0,0.10875359641153988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568178983642549,0.0,0.0820822438666965,0.0,0.1047067647976664,0.11874976764215572,0.0,0.0,0.11715509356683608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601429754732298,0.0,0.0,0.11921558225733896,0.1412563115382201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472660758396223,0.08329868804396881,0.0,0.0,0.12343278277547437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297104622087452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130043831899582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707926435874511,0.08777887080338673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435941883992543,0.0,0.0,0.10565387568823716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455489851212217,0.09919485158673423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584828258365227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421172894621154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799230805717924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339891074924955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342448122157338,0.14077896902632836,0.0,0.0,0.19765640252473587,0.0,0.0,0.2970924532310587,0.1131349871676528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280128672681474,0.2793798596956088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567270827402162,0.0,0.0,0.0879622471999237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102541659910722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988726791699336,0.0,0.11441541428110062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963018704650496,0.0,0.0,0.07246555628391937,0.0,0.0,0.11874976764215572,0.0,0.08437433961974357,0.0,0.0,0.12937430856805654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005761891825618
parenting,sdm404,2020/02/18,"Non-acceptance at school This is 3rd grade. My daughter feels like she’s not accepted by her classmates because she likes to read. There’s only a few, mostly not in her class, that she feels accepted by. She feels bullied. I’m not a novice, but this is new to me. I don’t remember being significantly impacted by what others thought (large fam, homeschooled for a few yrs, etc). I knew I had advantages and disadvantages from my upbringing. I do what I can to make sure my daughter feels loved, but I just want to make sure she’s alright. Of course day to day I do, it just the one term development that I’m concerned about.",2.6091530054644814,4.952962237704924,3.656967213114754,86.95189890710384,78.2622950819672,7.3453551912568305,25.740437158469945,8.344100000000001,1.7505224043715848,491,19,100,10,12,158,77,122,0.07200000000000001,0.75,0.17800000000000002,0.9214,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,4,1,8,1,0,2,2,23,20,3,0,1,7,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,9,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,4,18,9,14,16,5,6,0,0,0,1,10,2,0,1,6,66,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226578898132266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279861517741424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419841922778394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4388357961476311,0.15500679920817853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120057984794998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958281761289989,0.0,0.28966465056022994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20955555810831691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702770069069482,0.1650190687280737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170334586843552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457900862570851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959002287313967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089922535367653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225370902279644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279773245934914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,billbobb1,2020/02/18,"8 months pregnant wife won’t stop giving our 4 year old son an iPhone. So my wife has this habit of keeping our four year old occupied with YouTube and games on the iPhone when I am not around.  I hate the devices and think it distracts from real life interaction and socialization.  But I’m attempting to be realistic and just set limits of an hour a day, except, I’m the only one who enforces it. If it was up to me, it would no screen time at all. Well, since my wife has become pregnant, it’s gone way overboard. It’s just constant iPhone and iPad.  I pull him away for activities like drawing or painting for twenty minutes at a time, but as soon as he’s done, it’s right back to the iPhone. It’s the first thing he asks for when he wakes up and the last thing he wants to watch when he goes to sleep. It’s just constant. I’m attempting to lay my foot down, but my wife just says,”that’s what kids are into. That’s the way they are these days.”  

I feel like she’s just completely giving in.  He is just turning into a monster with these devices. And if he can’t get them, he just hounds and hounds until my wife gives in.  He knows better than to ask me. I’m extremely worried that this is just going to continue you and before you known it, he’s going to be a spoiled 18 year old gamer living in our basement with no social life, yelling at his mother to by more Monster energy drinks so he can keep gaming. I’ve seen videos of adult kids acting like that and I swear to God I can see it forming right now before my eyes. If she can’t say no to him now when he’s 4, how is she going to say no to him when he’s 15???

At the same time she’s 8 months pregnant and I am feeling like an asshole asking her to not just keep him occupied with the phone.  I try to spend as much personal time with him as I can without devices, but I can’t be around 24 hours a day.  As soon as I’m gone, it’s right back to the iPhone or iPad. 

Am I being insensitive?  Thoughts?  Suggestions?",2.851244979919681,3.7378794457831326,3.965,91.27416666666667,73.81927710843374,6.979116465863456,23.953815261044177,7.1686216300943375,0.676367068273092,1530,42,352,15,30,498,190,415,0.05,0.87,0.08,0.9184,0,0,1,0,1,0,42.0,3,2,2,5,26,8,1,1,18,0,24,7,4,1,1,59,54,35,0,5,22,7,2,4,0,2,2,3,0,4,23,20,1,5,6,4,1,7,11,2,1,3,6,10,37,6,56,42,5,64,0,0,5,0,58,19,0,5,39,216,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417593763353994,0.25861649378268564,0.0,0.08663593369603133,0.14181022084449876,0.0,0.0,0.1018405851416544,0.15693074106491342,0.0,0.0,0.08155376090901628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668221988143863,0.19929619187092976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784067666570264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943645909870856,0.0,0.0903323670228765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325001893305136,0.1317521231203451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784352304565804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048176810757048966,0.265373613937162,0.15721811349884787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103996953649852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161991256998533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458860048716101,0.0,0.0,0.05067714235701914,0.07516484814348612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026371067352072,0.1801999280430555,0.0,0.08142462625086627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472050087809814,0.0,0.06778621430457939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902820229313399,0.0,0.062485038793316364,0.07013115802444979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051570535889954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495710972750932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362448805867125,0.0,0.14666090025766054,0.0,0.0,0.07348079140377814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627847651994843,0.0,0.09227830070816828,0.1879964445991373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709311561470532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252272085269113,0.05908553819026825,0.0,0.07320579482654767,0.21507755046673485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260569578933108,0.10029985743187472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05438885362637823,0.14638672106234651,0.0,0.0,0.08290939833911044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888879449950528,0.0,0.0,0.09364546403027846,0.0,0.06550455062622727,0.0,0.0,0.17814394715125387
parenting,PinkTeaTapioka,2020/02/18,"Questions for parents who co-slept with their toddlers I currently co-sleep with my 21 month old toddler. He goes to sleep in his own bed but around 1AM he wakes up, walks to our bedroom and cries. We got a giant beanbag in his bedroom so I end up going to his room, give him some water and we snuggle and sleep. This is the ONLY way I can get some sleep. I'm a SAHM and my husband works so I try to take care of my toddler at night since I can nap when he naps. Before this I would keep putting him back in bed and wait til he goes back to sleep.. he would wake up every hr or two and come back to the bedroom until 5AM when he's fully awake. I was a mombie guys and it was exhausting so I caved and started to co sleep and it's honestly refreshing. I didn't nap when he napped and my son also slept better too.  

I am perfectly fine with co-sleeping but my husband hates it. He thinks my son needs to fall a sleep on his own and he wants to do sleep training again. My son was sleep trained before preschool but once he started he had major separation anxiety. 

My question is for those who co slept with their kids, at what age did you stop? My husband thinks my son will still want to co sleep when he's much older (5+) while I read that after a certain age they don't want to co sleep anymore. (I know it all depends) 

It's heart breaking to hear my son cry at night when sleep training and honestly I can't take it. If we sleep train we will be taking turns but I honestly hate it. Any advice for sleep training or results with co sleeping would be great.

Thank you for reading.",2.735105740181272,3.867396250755288,3.6195214501510575,92.69428519637465,74.40785498489427,6.3836132930513605,25.02247734138973,6.55674776486733,0.646643407854985,1233,39,278,9,25,394,164,331,0.071,0.807,0.122,0.9578,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,5,2,3,3,16,13,2,0,7,0,21,21,19,2,3,52,49,31,0,8,7,9,0,0,0,5,1,1,6,2,14,23,1,3,5,6,0,5,3,3,0,1,9,1,41,10,36,33,7,46,0,0,0,0,45,13,0,8,26,161,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360836405836046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043871364221644484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037306546908071295,0.0,0.04196759873806352,0.0,0.05440618278986528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883685515928534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655140543703294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336330258741628,0.0,0.0,0.048519037157549336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055933224840862425,0.0,0.0,0.0472568622162233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205218340092217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048589501743771385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622174967189844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028661982540097143,0.05262652141661002,0.03117808999309672,0.0,0.043876395580276534,0.06048312590450899,0.0,0.05431982949943632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832539457478743,0.0,0.0,0.061830984482111224,0.0650091300765081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048761913098431,0.0,0.0,0.0301495127343268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04378857094518245,0.0,0.040328267071370334,0.040677848411671436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029644166420064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756613428895905,0.0584238992091894,0.0,0.04172335186217089,0.0,0.0,0.06091531843230616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055149253869870435,0.12291106806274635,0.0,0.10974929664005248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04538059551565657,0.0,0.8783907451459082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766010111207518,0.0,0.0438111091245148,0.0458652513312553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374323223120927,0.0,0.0,0.05050753547516208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030389257279455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037246204790795406,0.059671711707608266,0.05359005558028554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970731986106239,0.043545157693705885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039938589581340805,0.0,0.0,0.11691248902799975,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madeofstone_kv95,2020/02/18,"My Daughter’s hair came out and I’m not sure what to do For background: my daughter is just about 3 years old. She has very fine hair about shoulder length.

This past weekend my daughter spent the night at her babysitter’s to spend some time with her kids and have some fun.
The next morning I got a text from the babysitter with a picture of a handful of hair, and two pretty prominent bald spots on my daughters head. 

The story is that she put her to bed with a pony tail and she took it out without issue and then she put her hand through it and it just came out. 
The pony tail in question was kept in place by those tiny rubber band type hair ties. From experience of taking out previous pony tails after picking up my daughter, the sitter does them pretty tight.
I’m just at a loss because we have never had this happen at home.
My daughter eats healthy and takes vitamins. 
The sitter doesn’t think her kids pulled her hair.
And the areas don’t look actively irritated so I don’t think it’s an infection?

We did just recently have to treat for lice, so I’m just trying to figure it out.
Anybody dealt with this previously?",3.9982352941176487,5.4731367857142885,4.193466386554622,88.46623949579832,71.76785714285714,6.877731092436974,26.569327731092443,7.285733465282438,1.1857398109243698,896,30,182,9,17,278,127,224,0.032,0.857,0.111,0.9523,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,1,1,9,5,0,0,14,0,13,13,10,1,2,39,28,11,0,0,7,6,8,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,11,21,1,2,4,2,2,6,6,1,0,1,9,9,21,4,34,19,2,31,0,1,1,0,23,14,0,3,11,114,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689674769219016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636015524460026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910152226828532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264939771295958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548729568897382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271298569430352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056230090204827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313243435873734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944359959834215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659064467080448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334811399591273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259495275663435,0.0,0.1690491461576876,0.14916735279647197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679525107136878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517393670630224,0.0,0.0,0.1660728663869655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234262742113928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195849003669491,0.17806460960248874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694767941435178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981205459186578,0.0,0.23902691797673675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20370232529619192,0.0,0.0,0.09268722620415054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660349598774416,0.10791918123861008,0.0,0.1552747441850844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311535138079198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322576968002372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236102150551073
parenting,eugene_hicks,2020/02/18,"Grandmother acting crazy My mother has always acted weird with us about our son. She always been fixated on having a granddaughter, and so when we had a boy she was understandably upset. Over the years there have been weird comments and weird things she said to him that pulled from her continued disappointment at having a grandson. But just recently one incident has stood out as especially weird, last week when we were hosting I heard her talking to him in the kitchen when she thought no one was around and she said exactly “mommy and daddy don’t won’t ever love you because you’re pretending to be a boy, you know you’re really a girl and you need to stop pretending so mommy will love you again. Why do you have to hurt them?”

This is not the first time she said something like this, but it’s definitely the first time she’s been this direct and it’s the first time we’ve felt weirded out by this. She has dressed him as a girl before and done other strange things under her care, but this is the first time I felt alarmed at her depth of feeling on this. We have not confronted her, and I still feel ok having her around him, but we’re very confused about how to approach this it her.",4.667233021964151,6.064579656652362,4.6445645039131565,86.17503155768749,70.03004291845494,8.05746023731381,26.15223428427165,8.4952907291091,1.5960655894976017,952,29,191,15,17,294,126,233,0.10400000000000001,0.797,0.098,0.3608,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,5,1,4,15,16,1,3,12,1,24,3,0,1,2,36,40,20,0,1,7,3,4,1,0,2,0,4,1,4,14,16,1,1,7,2,0,4,5,11,0,6,16,8,34,5,25,21,0,36,0,2,0,2,45,12,0,1,21,141,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21620382359376444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23130854703068554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919660788188615,0.0,0.11055037121578208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245972663967354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295088639048236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751797356123732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138055856963493,0.0,0.24948268064458246,0.0,0.0,0.44203162666688256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907955644772851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139935568654597,0.1059002437413216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347121285171507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345115452235845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633230868111338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607115564888134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322858834319,0.0,0.12827802914537062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707443748918292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001697222381456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375242183737926,0.10861699233117786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442290472380604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262305881841047,0.0,0.0,0.10314012077306936,0.3030241606320265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524887985260553,0.1562749648171859,0.0,0.0,0.1071956866743686,0.0,0.0,0.10421212112703516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723049288573067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083662722182518
parenting,SledgeHogg,2020/02/18,"Emotional Three Year Old My three year old has always been emotional and sensitive and seems to be an ""old soul."" When he was 1 certain songs would make him cry--rockaybe baby, hush little baby, a Hap Palmer song about mommies and babies. The other day I sang ""Jesus loves you"" and he started crying. He also seems to get emotional when I tell him I love him. Not every time, but during more emotional moments. For example, tonight at bedtime I was hugging him and I said "" I want you to know that I always love you, and I'm always here for you."" He started bawling and I had to talk about something different/lighter to calm him down.
I'm just curious to hear from other parents who've had this experience. I don't sing the songs that make him cry, but I'm not going to stop telling him I love him of course. I'm not sure exactly what my question is but I'd love to hear from others with similar children.  Is this a common experience?",3.3984504504504507,5.097150502702707,4.591891891891894,84.10801801801802,73.70270270270271,7.527927927927928,27.46846846846847,8.238735603445708,1.8776738738738743,733,28,143,12,15,241,105,185,0.044000000000000004,0.737,0.21899999999999997,0.9854,2,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,4,0,0,7,9,0,0,5,0,11,6,0,2,3,27,33,13,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,1,8,8,0,1,4,5,0,1,4,0,0,2,6,8,24,9,18,25,1,19,2,0,0,6,30,3,0,3,15,87,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275585280998983,0.2583201078425164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273439026255864,0.06673840559394477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4656207969689073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871894544501229,0.0,0.0,0.20245377072298054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05406594598579973,0.0,0.058812153944653736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23326723213106226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687191821821441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371782259651464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669902582781971,0.0,0.13815230540683587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257661087530206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490636809444145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592539276794347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843666685769194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884152915894341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966678424547805,0.0,0.0,0.1464925472654681,0.0,0.0,0.08651698107874063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753213346944543,0.0,0.0,0.08317625334929665,0.18089857608158766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06034215965920495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061037349218121165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351182945341615,0.0,0.0,0.13328018013960688
parenting,A_botello,2020/02/18,Morning sickness cures Hey there everybody this is my first post here. I don’t know if this is the right sub for this question. But my girlfriend is about 6 weeks pregnant and she is going through morning sickness. We don’t know what can help with it we’ve read that sucking on lemons can help with it but that sounds like it would just be an awful experience. We’ve also read that ginger ale and peppermint tea can help and I’m going to pick that up from the store now but dose anyone know any other solutions that can help? Thank you.,2.3176550552251487,4.731868887850467,2.6503653355989836,93.38611724723877,79.74766355140187,5.386236193712829,21.876805437553106,6.574015621080383,0.361213084112149,429,13,88,4,11,131,71,107,0.035,0.7979999999999999,0.168,0.9239,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,1,6,3,1,0,3,1,12,4,0,1,0,17,20,8,0,2,5,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,0,0,13,6,1,0,4,2,1,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,6,2,9,18,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,1,2,4,56,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458813582793108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995951844021687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390884510253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013240609769196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17506395836465688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339359079290975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5518069671979499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393274076452217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054956336778703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971114280037776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305570378762784,0.0,0.41173627633628573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576270126806606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18948444518665625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650903268767642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620325403229992,0.0,0.0,0.0
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parenting,kenicolo,2020/02/18,"My daughter seems to only befriend Asperger kids All of her (9f) friends have the symptoms often seen in autistic or Asperger kids.  Speech, awkwardness or not looking in the eye as an example. 

I am worrying about her incapacity or disinterest on befriending neurotipical kids.

Would this self exclusion hold her socialisation skills back?

Would this be an indication of some other deficiencies?

Any tips on what to look for?",6.528048289738429,9.8532471971831,6.979798792756545,63.086478873239486,69.98591549295774,11.381086519114687,36.90342052313883,10.914260884657429,5.5318716297786725,345,19,50,13,7,112,56,71,0.09,0.8690000000000001,0.040999999999999995,-0.4098,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,4,0,5,2,1,0,1,11,9,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,5,1,11,5,2,5,0,0,4,0,9,4,0,6,1,37,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20414009372399775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308282585581094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23192673075482936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041694716995341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283086928578789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273282504565018,0.31316455909404683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120132674033148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048584122533479,0.0,0.4264939793095349,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mtnbiker98,2020/02/18,"Toddler has B.O. Hi, all. 

Not looking for medical advice here just curious if others have had any similar experiences. 

My 5yo girl has had periods of noticeable B.O. since she was about 4. My understanding is that it is not normal for kids that young to experience this. What we've also noticed is that she seems to have a very hard time controlling her emotions when she smells. She is much more prone to emotional reactions when she has a strong body odor. 

We've been to the endocrinologist who's  said that while her DHEA levels were slightly elevated, it's nothing to worry about...everything else appears normal. When I mentioned that the smell appears to be followed by significant changes in behavior he kind of made me feel like I was making stuff up or just putting two unrelated things together. 

Anyways, like I said, wondering if anyone else has been through something like this...am I crazy to make the correlation? 

Thanks.",7.317256493506495,8.616265779761907,7.083030303030306,71.48318181818183,63.82142857142857,10.870995670995672,36.10606060606061,10.832165505486646,4.212290476190476,753,35,127,20,11,238,116,168,0.024,0.847,0.129,0.943,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,9,6,0,0,5,0,18,2,1,4,1,20,32,8,0,4,7,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,13,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,10,8,14,6,16,21,3,14,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,7,10,84,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300304723269818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884542422115358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255802723435748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516979590033707,0.1394586097995743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118517379889032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398409210678045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265656337576686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274013411927357,0.3062060957104561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232498823471875,0.2662792516936627,0.0,0.0,0.0688202348247467,0.0972354982395325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219259281388654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173541446639454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994863085051344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429634140216766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878856908883415,0.1817061365274482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711437204135066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005495419086252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667136522332278,0.1305991838210669,0.3099194520040131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682601486061416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589395287277728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390750410059626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258984665613088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047824973472742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581096159382485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530985125934865,0.0,0.0,0.0904240290450006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936560066158721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295762366089312,0.1416931054727838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230325718580203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760319227268404,0.0,0.13822416120822656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zagrigri,2020/02/18,"Is it weird for a babysitter to invite her sister to babysit too? Settle an argument between my fiancé and I: 

I’m a babysitter for three kids, oldest is 9. Been babysitting for this family for a year and we have a good relationship. I’m 26, my sister is 23. This family has never met my sister, and I invited her to come sit with me one night. She said no, so I never even brought it up with the mom or dad. 

My fiancé said I dodged a bullet because he said it would’ve been really weird if I had asked them if my sister could join. He said if he was a parent he wouldn’t feel comfortable having a new person at the house. 

What do you guys think?",1.2416410256410266,3.1708308962962946,3.3192592592592614,89.76128205128207,80.77777777777777,6.227920227920229,18.532763532763525,7.321109707123232,0.30545584045584073,501,11,108,7,13,170,85,135,0.062,0.8590000000000001,0.079,0.504,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,10,0,13,0,0,0,2,17,25,8,0,5,4,7,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,6,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,10,5,17,2,12,13,0,11,0,0,0,0,27,2,0,4,6,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740049960592084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263501425631323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450333382666553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442741979453302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112048738660498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31744301298642363,0.0,0.08513145867249318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121832548234034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670988798054825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427301441588124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971894988400057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597101558846925,0.16260998297128754,0.0,0.15800110680161014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408989635704905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695172657444675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701164721840773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078602680038509,0.0,0.0,0.18076324313190767,0.0,0.0,0.6406226263161949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788283177075048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960314878864613,0.0,0.0,0.10842288468631073
parenting,torpid_tapir,2020/02/18,"Dentist Anxiety help needed! My 4 year old brushes and flosses every day.  He does great at home.  However, the last few times going to the dentist he gets super worked up (any doctor actually) and won't let the staff take trays, or do a cleaning.  Luckily on an examination the dentist said everything looks great.

The dentist recommends reading books a out dental visits, and watching videos.

He specifically mentioned a good Berenstain Bears to look into.

What strategies, books, videos, other have been successful for you all getting your littles more comfortable with the dentist or other medical professionals?",7.894705882352941,10.528487245098043,7.429558823529415,64.50551470588239,63.80392156862745,9.805882352941175,39.220588235294116,10.125756701596842,4.882682352941176,497,27,65,12,8,156,81,102,0.013999999999999999,0.7290000000000001,0.256,0.9832,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,3,0,6,0,0,10,0,5,7,0,0,1,11,13,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,2,0,3,6,0,0,1,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,3,6,9,9,3,13,0,0,3,0,9,6,0,2,5,38,6,8,0.0,0.0,0.19087056395871496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330099545482262,0.0,0.14962811793873987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261413109922704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019773459062634,0.17116476187299332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479554749862382,0.0,0.17578638624195606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437855073076056,0.0,0.1111600155088354,0.16405413765354776,0.0,0.43128396993252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110187224912567,0.0,0.19619573756199946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943440929426506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000071054261863,0.0,0.0,0.19603558099948254,0.0,0.0,0.32849773551110617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703938100312984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502973919533346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20524196260134064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564594109666766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605374366727806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706160230876092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140518575440408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239404140041426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595548621872793
parenting,happylizard87,2020/02/18,"Second dinner. So my toddler has been feeling a bit under the weather today, which, to my Daddy brain necessitates a bit of pampering.  While preparing dinner, I allowed her to play one of her alphabet and reading games on my iPad and, being in and out of the room wasn’t supervising her screentime with complete diligence.  My wife returns home and we all sit down to salmon and green beans which she happily gobbles up.  As we’re finishing dinner, I hear some urgent knocking at the door and see a Domino’s driver who gives me pizza and bread-twists.  Utterly shocked, I check the iPad, and sure enough she had placed a delivery order.  I mean...who am I to deny the breadsticks at that point?  Now she’s happily resting with a double dinner in her belly and I’ve learned a valuable lesson to never underestimate the wandering fingers of a motivated toddler in the presence of today’s tech.

TLDR:  I was cooking dinner and let my sick kid play a reading game on the iPad.  While I was running in and out she ordered pizza and bread-twists for delivery which arrived at the end of the dinner I cooked.  Lesson learned.",5.441714285714286,6.8931902190476215,6.165238095238094,75.79642857142858,68.23809523809524,8.266666666666667,32.57142857142857,8.648137234880735,2.8443714285714297,886,39,149,14,15,290,120,210,0.04,0.835,0.124,0.9359999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,18,0,9,13,2,2,3,28,13,16,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,5,17,10,0,6,8,1,1,2,1,0,2,5,5,23,4,29,6,7,30,0,0,2,0,16,17,0,1,9,108,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217102511183032,0.0,0.0,0.21560429956486304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025000316030152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710616856378684,0.19956171782261856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765565894163916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527420820767507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176789646029796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937317390956308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749524045319103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103823576786088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895883849662167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087434634702055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20178662111738774,0.0,0.18257649720806846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.386377694914816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390485034090873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820289428154224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661417936519221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayallthe7s,2020/02/18,"Teenager: ""Stop thinking everything's a big deal!"" My off the cuff, ill conceived response: ""Stop thinking nothing is a big deal!"" I hope he's as done teenaging today, as I am done parenting.

I'm not sure what's wrong with this, I'm pretty sure neither one of us is right and I'm positive we are in for a long, awesome, painful and beautiful haul.   

I'm so tired, and fascinated.  Mostly tired, though.",2.1642307692307696,4.533241769230774,3.4919871794871824,87.39259615384617,80.02564102564101,6.464102564102564,28.98076923076923,7.645422480735847,1.9325076923076927,310,15,61,5,8,101,55,78,0.222,0.527,0.25,0.6903,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,6,4,0,0,2,14,13,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,5,3,7,11,2,9,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,4,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520207140223057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494226503620995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343695156374593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695688114406738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108657751823376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381559427389605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568792719149967,0.0,0.18166382768636416,0.0,0.18957031624065865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368907527410468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457985307228644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854681030350542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218132761838341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187878433695548,0.1677368064098129,0.0,0.0,0.3924473896573365,0.1618276856697859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20536159582751776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666138806692556,0.0,0.0
parenting,texas_bred,2020/02/18,"Needing advice or concerns I’m a single father of four. I have two full-time. One of those two is my only non-biological child. I’ve been dead for six, going on seven years now.
Biological father has been in the penitentiary the whole time. He was released less than a week ago. He wants my son out of my house. The mother and I are not together.
When she moved out, my son stayed. No fighting, it’s just agreed that he’s in a better situation.
I have zero legal rights. I’ve just met with a lawyer who tells me I can open a suit for partial custody, which could keep him in my home. 
Son is 13, father has only been in the free world for four years of the 13. This was not his first stent in the pokey. 
I have to ask my son if he wants me to move forward with legal action… I’m asking for help here. How should I go about doing it? I’ve been studying CBT and psychology for the last couple in hopes of strengthening my mind. I’ve become a whole other person, and I’ve never been as happy in my life as I am now. 
It’s a tough situation for my son, I know that it is going to cause some issues in his head, having to choose something like that at such a young age. 
Any help, questions or concerns are welcome, and very much appreciated.

Thank you in advance.",1.8846739130434784,3.6313009423076927,3.6594648829431438,88.96031772575253,78.03846153846155,5.906354515050168,19.765886287625424,6.7026698264267655,0.11604849498327766,975,22,212,9,23,327,147,260,0.052000000000000005,0.8170000000000001,0.132,0.9586,0,0,1,0,2,0,33.0,0,1,0,3,9,9,1,0,15,0,23,2,1,2,1,31,38,11,1,7,7,9,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,12,9,0,1,3,0,1,7,4,2,0,9,8,0,24,8,34,28,6,37,0,0,0,0,30,17,0,6,15,142,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637165277622978,0.11463586993717992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794317966902533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417966345705034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282563955859806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143745201781548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328489926437797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325284157831116,0.14309198347731222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000095824572298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204894795079574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766533721896232,0.0,0.0,0.13272135696928122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336319744354384,0.0,0.12972019317889438,0.12844561177251332,0.0,0.14921986013778815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497823914416496,0.0,0.11494705460646495,0.0,0.0,0.0710718154071458,0.10541443269877022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134372982216904,0.06318004245400746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057803525241596,0.0,0.0,0.2748969677070328,0.09506631759667501,0.09589038996914072,0.09974085503845706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763171986969437,0.19670993610051887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291870619558042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448698826051806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044001143325748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29072598209826345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955815033793136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783970822028715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303285179651687,0.11906203160204208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540851384882623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526569879535257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670393286474099,0.15255455952538827,0.0,0.1037340542461422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887660834205744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655784888366096
parenting,amebz,2020/02/18,"Ruining my relationship My 3 year old son has recently been diagnosed with autism. His dad and I are not together - I live with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for nearly 2 years.

I do all of the parenting. Daily care, getting up at night because my son doesn’t sleep, playing, making appointments etc etc etc. I also work full time, and study. 

I’m at my wits end, and I keep lashing out at my boyfriend. 

I know it’s unfair - my son is mine, so my problem really... but it’s so hard! 

I also get the impractical element. My son’s autism means he only wants me, but I can’t help but feel that this becomes a convenient excuse for why my bf doesn’t do things - “e.g I’d get up and make him breakfast, but he just tells me to go away.”

I’m just so sad. My son has just been diagnosed - I knew my life was hard, but I am only just realising this might be permanent. It might always be all on me. Obviously as a mum it always is - but simple things - will I ever get to have a shower again? 

My boyfriend says things like “I don’t know if I can cope with this” and I feel like screaming/crying - how can I?! What about me?! What if I can’t cope?! I don’t have a choice?!

TL;DR: stress of parenting is making me lash out at my boyfriend.",0.17841207349081145,2.395266814960632,2.4387716535433093,92.6578687664042,87.54330708661419,6.063832020997378,19.49028871391076,7.42949916751922,0.5361778477690291,937,28,212,17,30,317,133,254,0.08900000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.062,-0.8153,3,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,0,0,1,13,8,0,1,6,0,28,5,1,4,4,42,47,20,0,4,13,9,4,2,1,3,3,1,1,0,13,10,1,1,6,1,0,1,7,4,0,0,5,5,39,4,22,37,6,22,0,2,0,0,19,12,0,4,11,140,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848902290710288,0.19237658039049813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860981299592684,0.0,0.0,0.07046856225573171,0.12767089169303353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786169562976916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698094698769227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346627177437188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238710679779606,0.0,0.38677298755255257,0.0,0.1045666330610808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690145977672185,0.08258451685950094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415844873524085,0.0,0.0656980276667212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071094209480927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748410604978193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275040955146032,0.0,0.0,0.12706124860095885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165155411174786,0.11295244162372475,0.0,0.10207673713540102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314912830275117,0.0,0.0,0.1259220663218075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452662294560297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848257694316933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130253918760275,0.0,0.0,0.17583770690226214,0.0,0.0,0.25671978473209145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061339200772607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740561889704394,0.0,0.1141408517944952,0.12411091813537956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192959705776488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568328008860795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324191749440082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010393163585108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303981021244395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740717026774584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818375435474043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431083485935133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415802776455253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488849561687148
parenting,throwaway1212ba,2020/02/18,"My son is out of control I have three sons, 23 years old, 14 years old and 4 years old. And one daughter who is 17 years old.

My oldest son moved out years ago so it was just my two sons and daughter. My 14 year old who I'll call Tim, decided around 4 months ago that he wanted to live with his brother, his reason was, it was cooler to live with his brother and he knew rules would be less strict. I thought it wouldn't hurt for him to stay with his brother for a little while but that it wouldn't be permanent.

My son ended up staying 4 months and he only came back home because his brother made him, his brother said that he couldn't control him that he caught him with weed, swearing, and that he tried to leave in the middle of the night and he ended up having to physically stop him. He said the last night he threw an controller at the TV screen and damaged it.

Tim has been living back at home for 1 month now and it's been bad. He's swearing non stop, he refuses to get along with his sister (although I acknowledge she is 100% antagonizing and gaslighting him), his friend found and disposed of weed in his room which he told me about this morning saying. 

His friend said “I don't like it when he smokes and stuff because he gets super aggressive, he likes to fight when he does that. He keeps sneaking me beer which I've been drinking. We fought yesterday and it was pretty bad, I thought I hurt him pretty bad”

My 4 year old cried when Tim was in the room with him, I went in there and the first thing he said was “I didn't do anything to him, I just punched the pillow and started fucking crying”

My husband works and is gone from home days at a time so I don't know what to do. 

Just today 2 of Tim's friends were surrounding him and yelling at him, it was just a bunch of screaming and then his friends put him in the ground and started going through his jacket. I ran to stop it because I didn't know what was going on but they were taking **pills** from him. I don't know what kind of pills because they got rid of them. 

On of them said “I didn't know what they were and he didn't either, he offered me one and like didn't know what was wrong with him. We don't do drugs

Tim said they were tic tacs and his friends were stupid.

I'm freaking out. I've put him in counseling and just sat down with him asking why is he doing this and Tim cried saying he doesn't like it either. He said his friends don't want to hangout with him anymore. Tim then went on for 20 minutes about how it's his sister's fault.

This is not my son, this couldn't have happened in 4 months",2.8010151246763897,4.014281914338927,3.2517545532997225,95.07728845891813,74.36312849162012,5.983903347413362,23.339646636689828,5.950424286874398,0.1903498115092881,2016,55,462,10,41,625,210,537,0.147,0.77,0.083,-0.987,0,0,4,0,2,0,45.0,2,0,6,6,18,27,5,0,12,0,49,6,0,6,0,80,91,36,0,7,10,16,0,4,6,3,3,11,6,0,33,41,2,8,12,4,0,12,16,15,0,5,45,12,66,12,59,39,4,85,0,3,1,1,104,27,1,0,48,274,99,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058899989224574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923382592705495,0.0,0.0,0.04915080534706121,0.05317031317015628,0.05583733387323542,0.0,0.0,0.09185382415614887,0.1496103960325014,0.14563779841772406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060988656402351814,0.06831257351345878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009690721729255,0.0,0.0,0.19682421105570072,0.03851942329495663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052268109978421684,0.0,0.0,0.05851040430454193,0.0692651660137047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580202251237612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080434839676251,0.0,0.06548833669226653,0.2768728223780488,0.055217293263826406,0.0624105128294595,0.0,0.06788925304765782,0.0,0.04776969536985851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052817005037502286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973524940485133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787946951067294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053088721248804135,0.0,0.062197205084551836,0.16412390076953814,0.04868604465164855,0.0,0.06324300692577656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671974280025675,0.05986284323503298,0.15822195164257838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651579087923314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19069631104092805,0.06348108936198603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210079478668146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760450231477209,0.0,0.0809460662501193,0.04542560485896597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152908030573367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200856643941352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141001995705616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977030202151042,0.09499572359894703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084551142441242,0.1273235555582779,0.0,0.1498050868933014,0.0,0.0,0.06837392312399164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044907794799380604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039680427790450716,0.0,0.0,0.09483423924122146,0.03482770032875434,0.0,0.05661487280192388,0.0570723738785121,0.0,0.040551185506666185,0.0,0.0583452810119799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045788614249478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073634666266044,0.053894956324283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0434824746328999,0.0,0.0,0.04242884214422577,0.0653028602534888,0.0,0.2692387494842979
parenting,MissLanieis,2020/02/19,"Secret tracking app? I have a teen son, and he's being very strange, I know that he's hiding something, hes been sneaking out at night, his grades have taken a toll, and he won't talk to me, when ever I ask him what's happening with him, he gets mad and defensive. I've even tried taking him to a therapist. I would never have resorted to this before but... I want a way to see his texts, and what websites he visits, and I don't want him to know that it's on his phone, I don't want him to be able to know, and I would like the app to be free",3.4694285714285726,2.8567548000000014,4.960714285714289,90.03000000000002,71.83333333333334,8.19047619047619,24.642857142857146,7.447530270364453,0.8022857142857149,416,9,103,4,7,141,69,120,0.069,0.831,0.1,0.079,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,5,0,13,0,0,0,2,21,25,8,0,5,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,1,4,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,2,1,18,3,12,17,0,9,0,0,1,0,20,3,0,0,5,64,24,1,0.2233367120605045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20878967753656047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004309243738413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751179197726652,0.20202084232679612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668421416875913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974959168942858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682200485665352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091110363396896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225104061262794,0.0,0.0,0.2095863750249933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797044401063547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193551218871145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792141287274193,0.17950958930993974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259311136377824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516309672822759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184276177162557,0.3951893376839012,0.17727428656536842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31730398480894445,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Its-nice-to-be-nice,2020/02/19,"Sons dad have him lollypop How do single mums cope with having an ex you don’t feel like you can really rely on and knowing you are going to have to put up with this for the next 14 plus years.

I do not like lollypops and hard boiled sweets. I don’t care if anyone agrees with this but I personally think should be banned. They are just unnecessary and dangerous. The amount of horrible stories you hear of children choking on them terrifies me and there are a million and one other sweets he could give him that are not a potential choking hazard.

My sons dad knows how I feel about this, we’ve discussed it a few times. Because he has given him one in the past and then sent me pictures. The last time he did this (was probably the second time i had to say please don’t give them to him) he agree he would for my sake not give him one.

Son gets home today and the first thing he said - daddy let me have a round lollypop! 

So upset and frustrated my 4 year old knows he’s not allowed them. to top it off when I phoned his dad he said it’s a lollypop, I’m his father and I can make decisions too! He would have been the only one not having one.

Maybe I should have put this in ‘off my chest’ as I don’t really know what I’m expecting. I’m just pretty drained as I feel like I’m doing this parenting thing on my own.",2.249185972707078,3.840141040145984,3.5692256426531266,90.69143605204701,76.55474452554746,7.246969216121867,21.40209457315137,8.04050195162591,0.803247730879086,1031,26,230,17,23,337,147,274,0.134,0.7659999999999999,0.099,-0.9461,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,4,4,2,9,9,2,1,13,0,32,2,1,4,0,42,56,19,0,7,9,10,5,3,0,4,0,4,1,2,14,13,1,1,9,0,0,4,9,3,0,8,8,11,33,6,24,41,4,26,0,0,1,0,46,9,0,1,16,152,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354169336003536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283259070971305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181563470819272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953933442402748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18123477833393944,0.1707100052235903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162780138826258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06242224733243607,0.3438421328515233,0.06790201767024863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070286891429461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466022459370608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984602896806415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626476152822609,0.09739039732577542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217420036024305,0.0,0.17511253288925385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975239515754301,0.0,0.1200315630350187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706605293958373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537190920169514,0.0,0.4048064291556041,0.09086829167644386,0.0,0.0,0.1326660173697332,0.0,0.1140551306320344,0.0,0.1043234534432814,0.0,0.13115080492210984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215519303559886,0.12881733418495167,0.0,0.0,0.2402164861030365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308114507094178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273015981921533,0.09501358481416217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875155421720552,0.07655658439664102,0.0,0.0,0.20900549206017124,0.0,0.11325103520277248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974727867357506,0.0,0.0,0.15387964119542655
parenting,AlteredMirror021,2020/02/19,"Things to do with your kids with your free time? I am currently taking a vacation and am just looking for ways to bond with my children that isn’t expensive. Besides the usual Chuck E Cheese, John’s Incredible Pizza, and park outings which I’m doing right now, what do you like to do with your family?",7.562655367231642,6.612796000000002,7.680000000000002,75.02926553672317,63.57627118644068,11.256497175141243,33.22598870056497,10.504223727775694,3.262249717514125,240,8,46,5,3,78,47,59,0.0,0.892,0.10800000000000001,0.7319,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,8,10,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,5,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930828427831961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20371080971608974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501503501031941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560906780096041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135100548259845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770167884590564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431389536785122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592342891440855,0.0,0.0,0.3309719132869897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tiana1609,2020/02/19,"What to do about oldest son's bizarre behavior? Over the past year and a half, my oldest son (21) has been showing symptoms of paranoia. He graduated from college in 2018 and has been unemployed since then. My husband and I have been encouraging him to get a job but to no avail. He no longer hangs out with friends and has over time become increasingly aggressive, mainly towards his father. Over the past year, he did not want to complete any household chores and stays at home (little to no social interaction) and watched television all day. Situations have led to us having to call the police and him being arrested (including getting in a fight with his dad and damaging property). He was sent to an inpatient psychiatric unit (after he had a sudden outburst) and had stayed there for a month. He left after a judge had ruled that he didn't require medication. He now stays with his grandparents and is exhibiting the same behavior. This includes attempting to start a fight with a family friend. What do we do?",6.358465696465693,7.9278682810810865,6.416216216216217,74.40806652806656,66.18918918918922,10.232848232848234,33.149688149688146,10.389873798559362,3.697735966735967,812,35,139,21,13,258,120,185,0.152,0.795,0.053,-0.9509,4,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,3,7,3,0,13,0,20,2,0,1,1,23,25,12,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,4,16,0,1,0,1,0,4,5,4,0,1,10,1,10,3,27,14,4,32,0,1,1,0,29,10,0,0,15,96,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230232233909793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823865258495634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16862859520538362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731483982645224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650302238990776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568131810395736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551768249062989,0.0,0.17255991073240792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16565103744363738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387809819045154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942742497796435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655158148283859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636333839875675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318148854991031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152937294234533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660728981692186,0.1856266914434153,0.0,0.16834162114649046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688846101819625,0.5280586647630858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716459216354474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629571345082874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19864566838745454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740511647746024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269225542941933
parenting,alwe9504,2020/02/19,"Verbal rewards and punishments 
A recent episode of hidden brain podcast talks about clicker training (do it right, get a click) instead of verbal rewards and punishment. It’s used in the classroom to change the learners focus from the teacher to learning and to account for the misalignment between what a teachers acknowledges and what is needed to master the material. 

How do you think this plays into parent’s acknowledging their children through verbal praise? In what ways should praise be used vs not so the child doesn’t simply seek parental approval?",9.29298245614035,10.801383157894735,7.353421052631577,70.54311403508774,59.526315789473685,8.85964912280702,41.09649122807018,8.841846274778883,4.102543859649123,460,24,63,6,6,135,70,95,0.057,0.763,0.18,0.9203,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,1,6,4,7,2,0,9,0,6,1,1,3,0,16,11,6,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,5,14,9,0,6,2,0,1,0,9,4,0,0,1,45,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29321867983940364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778625351280947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723053154096765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476122252419945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5833121638224504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593479396621735,0.0,0.0,0.2243126933705235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21111850076031424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683037894127994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4537128474231787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848959516260535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jedrekk,2020/02/19,"I thought I had a great immune system... Turns out that I just worked from home without a small kid. Now that boo is in preschool and my wife has a full time job, I'm laid out for the third time this winter.

I need this plague to stop :(",0.5259999999999998,2.4079316000000013,1.054000000000002,105.317,83.0,4.0,16.0,3.1291,-1.4332000000000005,180,3,46,0,5,54,40,50,0.10099999999999999,0.774,0.125,0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,5,1,7,5,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,5,28,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657200430381472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33273999771566803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291787293278633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24596454381843802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27733093222239763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26334687814141783,0.3868546308930839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608137087411928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197641196118774,0.0,0.2414945074702556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reeduceddadstairs,2020/02/19,"My wife dresses our daughter(12) in a bodysuits and hosiery and sends her to school My wife is closest with our middle child who is in seventh grade right now. My wife was a former model and through her connections has gotten our daughter to work shoots for Janie and Jack, Abercrombie Kids, Gap, and she recently did a shoot for Ralph Lauren Kids. 

We also have an older daughter(15) and a son(7) but she’s always missing their games and performances so she can go to my middle daughter’s shoots and kids runway shows. She’s also entered my daughter into pageants but says that the investment into a “ talent” is too much for it to be worthwhile. 

My wife would take our daughter out of class to go get her nails, hair and skin perfect. She also takes our daughter to the dermatologist when any trace of acne pops up and works with a dietitian for herself and our middle daughter. So while the rest of us eat whatever ends up getting cooked, she and our daughter get specially tailored meals delivered every day. 

Recently she’s been going to stores like La Perla and French lingerie boutiques to get bodysuits for our daughter. Then she’d buy pencil skirts or spanx pants or hosiery and send our daughter to school with full makeup and the bodysuit tucked into a skirt or stockings. Her outfit is often complete with high heels. 

My wife says that she’s just trying to give our daughter the attention that middle children don’t get and that our daughter is suffering from drama in school, as well as self esteem issues. But meanwhile our older daughter is often angry and withdrawn and while our son is happy and healthy, he often calls his soccer team his primary family. 

Our daughter needs to take summer school because she’s fallen behind in all her classes due to traveling for modeling. She’s also been hanging out with 20 year olds who are the sons of some of the modeling clients. 

I also realized she was missing school whenever she finds pimples or if she feels bloated and has been using money to buy stuff from Christian Louboutin that she got from modeling and says she gets anxious because money goes so fast so she had to work more. 

What can I do to address this? My wife claims that all kids dress like this and it’s no big deal to use her looks until she loses it. And that life is better for pretty girls.",7.851643625192011,7.830134698156687,6.987384792626731,77.17488671274964,62.617511520737324,9.168817204301076,34.673195084485414,8.472884824447931,2.825468817204301,1865,72,320,21,24,571,224,434,0.059000000000000004,0.8590000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.9239,0,0,0,3,0,0,31.0,16,0,1,8,17,12,0,0,15,0,26,7,3,2,3,58,48,47,0,3,9,21,3,2,0,1,1,3,1,8,16,34,3,0,4,7,6,9,2,4,1,0,9,7,54,8,52,36,7,47,1,4,1,0,86,20,0,9,20,221,70,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849310741045341,0.08010344742860744,0.0,0.0,0.06546616193608205,0.0,0.0,0.10875646965790682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117369271468771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514203020091632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830132352415563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093612352495457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062085484656379725,0.09924902198910857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850713140056763,0.0,0.0,0.08526568265322552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111071111582516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907537633161491,0.0,0.04867645489146361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798804228164955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017792016510428,0.09234991331902387,0.16413552506283133,0.0,0.07699504393446098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248004783634422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171339195050956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047973356109433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799758015219967,0.09406425617061004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084164084429094,0.10770028883898887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707687277839349,0.07138217905538008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101802985630637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794009366196127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19010787493192,0.0,0.0,0.08221312556497103,0.0,0.2296707103360109,0.0,0.4871463967540126,0.0,0.0,0.100429471566773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020487307157774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714672493556086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06536027256414732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579964887357305,0.1662908627022175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655731407903615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102547453244809,0.0,0.0,0.0683866735948299,0.0,0.0,0.061994023571697865
parenting,sonaked,2020/02/19,"A sweet moment from my toddler. I just had to share this moment with everyone. It was a normal night in my house--my seven year old daughter was playing dress-up with my 2 year old daughter--and the 2 year old comes downstairs dressed as Tinkerbell. She walks up to me while I'm sitting on the couch and says ""I'm a princess."" The way it was uttered was almost as if she didn't believe it herself, so I said ""That's right, you're Daddy's princess,"" and she gave me the sweetest hug. Then she sat in my lap for roughly half an hour while we watched Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. 

It was such a sweet and tender moment that I'm still glowing from it a day later. Thanks for reading!",4.2991403081914035,4.873619043795621,4.558345498783456,89.49393349553934,70.24087591240877,6.672830494728308,29.820762368207625,5.82211442006289,1.1966519059205187,527,20,111,2,9,165,85,137,0.0,0.873,0.127,0.9359,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,10,0,7,2,0,0,0,11,15,10,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,8,7,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,10,7,14,7,14,5,0,26,0,0,2,1,11,5,0,2,17,66,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19571246627129524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22020243403482176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836073867694182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604748614904585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18675848807131054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924764445011133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834142644085395,0.19149707933151716,0.0,0.0,0.615267906319304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19550041819376995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691112042169756,0.18591535551201305,0.15542771841192934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560846477853371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994182395019198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513714985078725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775853987800469
parenting,IMissJJ9294,2020/02/19,"My daughter stresses herself out, worrying about me I have been a single father since she was 3. She's 17 right now and in her senior year. I'm not married and I don't date much. This, combined with her going to to college in the fall, somewhere, has her convinced I'm going to be horribly depressed, alone, and my life will take a nosedive. I've assured her otherwise. It doesn't work, she's putting herself in this box of feeling that she needs to stay very close to home, and visit every weekend. 

​

I've reiterated that I'll be fine, I'm not sick, I'm fine, and she should do and go wherever she wants. It's just this dynamic where, I'm the reason she's holding herself back, but I'm telling her constantly to not allow my situation to hold her back. It's very sweet of her to think about her situation as it relates to me, but, I'd be just fine, even if we weren't a 45 min. drive apart.  I can't think of anything I've said or done that would give her the impression that I'm headed for some disaster if she leaves. If anything, jokingly, I've said the opposite. "" How many more days until you leave? Hot tub goes in the day after."" "" Can't wait to hear what peace and quiet sounds like."" 

Have I gone about this in the wrong way? I just want her to be happy.

TLDR: Daughter is worried about me when she doesn't need to be",2.9642372294372272,4.21909368,4.1920519480519465,88.33169696969698,74.01818181818182,7.129004329004331,26.549783549783548,7.62386473244151,1.2988510822510821,1042,37,225,13,21,342,150,275,0.092,0.7929999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.6859999999999999,0,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,1,1,0,1,14,14,0,1,9,0,22,3,1,3,1,40,46,17,0,9,12,3,2,1,0,3,2,5,1,0,13,11,0,3,4,2,0,8,9,3,0,0,7,8,35,11,30,31,4,34,0,1,0,0,33,10,0,5,15,139,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083421936516318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687268403660194,0.15349825260470162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079088141861059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942716861292065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365120475919397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629378717975765,0.0,0.10880321888022276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292739556625915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834362268467336,0.0,0.1064339492745068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387352865619307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118209610647045,0.21537959547334695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447491783775528,0.0,0.0,0.12964551523505152,0.0,0.1423770392223568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126713903964685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675190870761199,0.0,0.0,0.08922682216869879,0.06171583340892198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280733475813142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286313829034024,0.1873362252695568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699114444127885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988275917619366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788054395905253,0.240327302726192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449703949863308,0.2839883542636585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464524775921655,0.0,0.0,0.14470443708008818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498040061118193,0.0,0.11041329477243372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618874445257636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084620993900408,0.14901907969267508,0.1002706115199281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196583529982978,0.2565775878096012,0.0,0.089737392858639,0.138116152343734,0.15349825260470162,0.08134892012881527
parenting,poppingearthrowaway,2020/02/19,"Please help me find these shoes for my autistic daughter. Hi, I'm desperately searching for these adidas neo qt comfort jelly shoes (UK size 4). My autistic daughter wears these shoes pretty mich exclusively and her pair is wearing out. We don't mind if they're second hand or used. I've made a post before but I was unable to find them. Any help would be greatly appreciated, even just sharing it would be utterly incredible. Sorry for posting this in so many places. Thank you so much.",3.7595115995115975,6.407729175824176,4.302783882783881,82.22277167277169,75.92307692307693,6.242246642246642,26.5946275946276,7.3871296695380915,1.5372261294261285,389,15,69,5,9,123,75,91,0.035,0.703,0.261,0.9701,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,7,6,6,2,0,14,11,6,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,8,4,6,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,0,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080373781653585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618760068571696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675713422674568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784869883929261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282776324265089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27756770100586503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195919386546948,0.0,0.20992013479013308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20906539323998632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220842489938266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632723425498587,0.22728298189427976,0.0,0.0,0.3966007619716397,0.210648232031228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317798656522761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906273931041711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788280719440162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941702697767077,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fanxious,2020/02/19,"4 month old milestones questions ? I'm not sure what's going on I'm a FTM 
A background /random info of child 


My daughter has always been a ""high needs "" child. She had colic the first six weeks of her life cried non stop didn't sleep ect .. my mom thought I was being dramatic till she came to help me when my husband was away for work stuff . My mom and my MIL were shocked they said they had never seen a baby cry and scream so much pretty much inconsolable. When she was first born  the nurses would  even comment it was crazy how ""alert "" she is . Well colic did stop around 6 weeks .We still get comments from random people saying how ""alert ""she is .It scares me she also loves tv , I have it turned of for the 8 hours my husband is working, but when he comes back it's on -_- .Sorry if I'm rambling just trying to give full context . 

Anyways on to the Milestones:

*rolling to sides at 3 months 
*can track with eyes well 
*3.5 months rolled to stomach a handful of times 
* 2.5 -3.5 months babbled 
*sticks hands in mouth constantly 
*lifts head really well /on stomach as well 

Why I'm worried 

So I'm worried because she has stopped rolling altogether for about 3 weeks almost now , every time I put her in the play-mat she just cried and wants to be held . She also stopped babbling instead she makes a weird sound kind of like a cat hiss ? Been doing it same amount of time . She still hardly naps as well , not a good sleeper been like that since birth . 

Just wondering if this is common and any other moms experienced this , it's kinda hard we moved away from our families so it's just been me in her talking and staring at each other all day every day lol . 

Sorry for grammar .",2.1623386375826925,4.553716638297875,2.5661943500804583,93.8990966386555,80.1854103343465,4.843232612193813,21.834525299481488,5.900188976854957,0.1365532987663145,1310,40,267,8,34,401,201,329,0.107,0.7959999999999999,0.096,0.2374,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,3,0,2,4,28,15,0,1,13,1,25,10,8,3,3,44,45,21,0,5,9,6,4,2,0,1,1,4,0,2,14,12,0,5,4,2,0,5,4,4,5,3,18,12,31,11,35,24,7,53,0,0,3,1,37,15,0,8,35,164,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340977399124427,0.0,0.0,0.1332249391452237,0.06930966104662131,0.0,0.0,0.05664472178749961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415186616683711,0.0,0.0,0.15652028557331454,0.06405014442873293,0.0,0.05077699327509968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526941834010882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175287006284231,0.0,0.09001431488797172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744930711596319,0.10743916861466084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055016791037347024,0.0,0.1403623957557801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852486723188389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170453466971847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04351917187250365,0.07990593907373454,0.04733952563008447,0.06986545493558555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923525240272256,0.0,0.08548661043503614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583213004316508,0.08800770686274215,0.0,0.0,0.08203062911803287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674086256783002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588350362391058,0.08138927750391928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751786690947071,0.0,0.055601301465822976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926688302935569,0.26594703870868464,0.08853138079948569,0.12246555405188288,0.061763566911487586,0.06424367421969228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740604348118984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057747555299681584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474285330397159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373635195840484,0.09331154759745944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05336210203473615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923438951130954,0.0662410070840501,0.08339468902229379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890402410787781,0.0,0.08335701690327788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864880323407913,0.0,0.0,0.13304196143776664,0.2785596220175091,0.0,0.0,0.09535497713858837,0.0,0.0,0.07850630562653194,0.0,0.0,0.06695086156764311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612840321011973,0.14571320835059753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056553100805970986,0.09060306537054677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049130646709910686,0.0,0.2004471522900273,0.0,0.3744694075289834,0.0,0.07516246097021094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033189244691926,0.1212822136015343,0.16918401115282464,0.0,0.059171700084294225,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,soobak4u,2020/02/19,"1yo boy trying to rip his thing off... My son just turned 1 last Friday (yep Valentines day baby). He does seem to have eczema so he does scratch his body and face quite a bit but over the past month or two hes been going crazy about ripping his little thing off whenever his diaper is opened. Also when hes stressed then he starts ripping at his diaper as well. Even when hes fully asleep if we open his diaper, his hands go directly there. He cries a lot, squirms and fights us when we try to stop him. 

I'm told boys do tug on it but he is pulling it really hard and claws at it as well. He has ripped the skin and bled a few times now. 

We've tried giving him things he likes or brand new things to pull his attention. It works for a few seconds and he goes back to fighting us so that he can pull. We wash him often and put lots of aquaphor on him. At the doctors suggestion, we put hydrocortisone around the area when its really bad and us bacitracin when it bleeds. When his eczema gets really bad and hes constantly scratching we give him benadryl but still it doesn't seem to change that ""habit."" The doctor says he'll grow out if it soon but I'm scared hes going hurt himself before then.

Anyone with any experience? Any suggestions?

Thanks",2.8566948993035983,4.5422827628458515,3.473788819875775,91.6153623188406,75.12648221343873,7.190589121023903,21.138528138528137,7.957251820313856,0.6739073593073592,981,23,216,15,21,308,152,253,0.146,0.797,0.057,-0.9791,0,0,0,0,3,0,25.0,8,0,0,2,21,11,2,2,9,1,13,9,5,0,0,34,28,29,0,2,9,1,5,1,0,1,4,1,0,2,14,18,0,1,3,0,0,9,1,7,2,2,2,6,29,4,22,25,5,44,0,1,0,0,49,14,0,9,22,125,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851770268251974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486263662512394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447515884435457,0.0,0.0,0.09481761499243394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819005946659431,0.1778649285548752,0.0,0.0,0.09063324870410526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628272433208996,0.11831001345610567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267480432491582,0.0,0.0,0.11510084767998048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699763240278675,0.06869095985994271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180376031078169,0.18641746616974514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034969152308886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418846325786416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564774424034726,0.20435063764020747,0.1815984336126628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541317998513436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140225210513279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682090365936604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052036028071875504,0.1067522774230653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811041514644061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501628221979776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286925152564956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167706242471093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414649667748564,0.0,0.11328784995103525,0.0,0.0,0.20470154727593706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470203962601708,0.1066363656760668,0.0,0.0,0.19392772596808175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538922749531513,0.0,0.08506004049218435,0.08904819378877102,0.12200830377080925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806127026977668,0.0,0.0,0.2830454289730845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210758003767437,0.0,0.0,0.1017760861366222,0.0,0.21694248908520428,0.11585367993450273,0.1040460373802048,0.0,0.38435984239768817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915328524821804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754147554983189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gg_snow,2020/02/19,"Nanny wanting a parents perspective on some thing I already posted this to r/Nanny but I wanted parent input as well. 

Background: Since October I have been studying like a crazy person to prep for the LSAT. On top of the time spent studying, I have spent hundreds of dollars on study materials and paid $200 just to take the exam. I take the test this Saturday, Feb 22. I requested Friday the 21st off months ago so I could take the day for myself to relax before the exam. (My NF happily gave me this day off when I requested).

Starting last week one of my charges started coming down with something. Turns out it was ringworm which I now have... Now, since Tuesday the same charge has a high temp and bad cough etc... I have always nannied when the kids are sick, granted the parents have never asked me if I'm comfortable with it.  And honestly for the most part I have been comfortable caring for them through stomach flus and such.  BUT I have put so much time, energy, and money into getting ready for the LSAT, and the last thing I want to worry about is getting sick from my charge, and that impacting my testing experience.  Is it reasonable for me to ask for tomorrow off as well on such short notice?

All input is much appreciated. 

Thanks.",4.688902953586499,6.339797236286921,5.22854430379747,81.02779535864978,70.30801687763713,7.967088607594937,28.77848101265823,8.515128840125781,2.1879012658227843,983,37,179,16,18,315,140,237,0.085,0.7140000000000001,0.201,0.9848,3,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,1,1,12,10,0,0,16,0,16,4,1,1,2,26,37,16,0,5,4,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,10,12,0,0,1,1,5,2,1,1,2,1,7,0,22,9,33,29,8,35,0,0,0,0,11,13,0,3,20,128,32,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099258926094244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817418974458046,0.0,0.10418613866659764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341120153776389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454651307949976,0.0,0.0,0.10654590759479522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766164092778484,0.0,0.0,0.10785876539008228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997132870895344,0.0,0.0,0.16150233532352104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964410855641693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248103800138077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083585771150405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322930023386387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412844316742296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061172096529902825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999427591856068,0.0,0.18408996673275693,0.0,0.09657095778036368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425543144530853,0.0,0.0,0.084846667060293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170982201097153,0.13559203516750262,0.0,0.0,0.10932999927083216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199181666944662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587231050957035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128738449163479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20715277212396346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639405967863858,0.0,0.0,0.17725092681125554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824307757203251,0.0,0.0,0.11527808161110985,0.0,0.0,0.16637013762439176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602386162354722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619433986215915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215592585623199,0.0,0.10043724779708008,0.0,0.225160654546962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271585272526639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,penelope_pig,2020/02/19,"504 plan for ADHD I'm starting to explore the option of a 504 plan for my son with ADHD and depression. He's in 6th grade, at a school where they change classes throughout the day. He is struggling. Can anyone who has gone through this tell me about how it works? Do I have to request specific accommodations or will the school suggest them? It does it need to come from his pediatrician? I have a letter from his pediatrician requesting that they make any appropriate accommodations, but nothing specific. Is it going to be a fight for me to get them to make accommodations for him? Several years ago he needed an IEP for his speech and that was a months-long process of back-and-forth with the school before they finally agreed that he needed services (he no longer needs speech services and his IEP was discontinued last year). If your kid has a 504, what accommodations do they get?",6.308727272727271,7.492252236363638,6.4224242424242455,75.73363636363639,66.03030303030303,9.393939393939394,30.75757575757576,9.573946990214177,2.7025757575757576,709,26,132,14,11,226,101,165,0.071,0.9129999999999999,0.016,-0.8299,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,1,6,3,3,3,1,1,11,0,13,0,0,3,0,18,26,7,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,10,6,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,3,2,17,0,21,21,0,14,0,1,0,0,26,3,0,3,7,81,27,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656219738366737,0.0,0.13483952829524734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344246412448238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636136586217798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696596890514238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943746981247073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091601914267184,0.1310323972487436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810068788650014,0.0,0.1310152206931434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311563634136134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663301342817902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894615537301784,0.0,0.08644966427817607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123992886244092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134615749169001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307401821937007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4511612275833647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459571016233012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4618412521460877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184507046369035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076667889282925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902216201102848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295399098433255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074051238594942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959123421809523
parenting,miniatureduckling,2020/02/19,"She's accusing me of what?! Hi everyone. So i'm really frustrated here and would like to vent as well as hear your thoughts. So I'm a nanny as well as a new mother. I have a 3 month old who I've been primarily taking care of and only recently have been looking for work. Long story short I started last week with a mother needing overnight help with her now 7 week old baby so she could get some sleep. The baby is MOSTLY formula fed. So while I worked that's what i'd feed him. Now the relevancy of me being a mother is that I breastfeed. So to keep my supply up I would bring my breast pump and pump about twice per night (since my son stayed home with his father). Anyways so the mom sent me a text last night saying that her babies poop which has been primarily a dark green had a ""mustard yellow/seedy"" colored poop yesterday (I had cared for him the night prior) she also informed me that he had a bit of yellow last week after I worked also. Now I never saw the poop for myself (he never poopee at night) so I'm not sure what the actual color was. But long story short she fired me under the accusation that I breastfed her baby! I absolutely did not and would not do such a thing. So naturally I'm livid and am trying to find the REAL cause. Any thoughts would be welcome. 

Ugh I'm so pissed I'm not believed and she thinks I'm some weirdo who would do that ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh",2.4320212765957443,4.324144372340427,4.458845390070923,83.18580000000003,76.90780141843972,6.6396595744680855,20.854468085106387,7.554174236665415,0.6614415319148939,1091,27,226,15,25,374,152,282,0.1,0.8340000000000001,0.066,-0.8891,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,0,3,20,10,2,0,18,0,24,8,6,1,3,35,47,23,0,7,5,6,1,1,0,5,0,2,1,0,13,9,2,1,5,0,0,2,6,3,2,1,13,9,31,7,22,26,4,35,0,0,6,1,29,5,1,3,28,145,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.10220965681719403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751866405385274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122576433831533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180044106498016,0.0,0.0,0.1143473032501508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135757405269451,0.1075952800233031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362516103233936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008211496525952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572908169355186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054721537720988964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804788956696728,0.0,0.07020400156397673,0.0,0.10506124459057856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309638170459696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561275440409496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116993531107068,0.0,0.0,0.1853805341488912,0.08795395192282737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266845275752587,0.08360126287052302,0.0,0.0,0.07766226265590366,0.16156155969360225,0.10115708560221064,0.0,0.3931599079940044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21981085115364196,0.0,0.0,0.07965834078566643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119215330960851,0.06709815820760208,0.0,0.10341662240700177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329225056132968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866407606604636,0.0,0.10481413015268888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741344417901846,0.11163729366062762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871478660631526,0.0,0.07875030906398081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958359826504032,0.06711219476832278,0.0,0.1663013221525786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111055899820817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520446950883699,0.0,0.1883449608782712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287526028502385,0.0,0.0,0.3720160884108608,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BoondoggleAficionado,2020/02/19,"PROP65 Warning on Stuffed Animal I just started hearing about/seeing Prop65 warnings.. (yeah, I’m late to the game.) So on a whim I looked up my son’s stuffed animal on Walmart’s site, (purchased on Amazon), and discovered that the fucking stuffed animal has a cancer warning on it. Wtf. Is this a legitimate concern? Is this common for children’s stuffed animals?! 

This is my son’s favorite, and he goes to sleep with it every night. This makes me sick with worry and I don’t know what the chemical warning is for, so I don’t know if my worry is warranted. If contact with it can make him sick, I’ll obviously have to make a permanent change. I stashed his stuffed animal in the closet while I figure this out. 

Fellow parents, what would you do in this situation?! Any wisdom, experience or suggestions would be wonderful & welcomed. 

Please help talk me down, I’m sick that I’ve given my son a cancer toy to cuddle with every night. (Forgive my anxious hyperbole.)",3.0236583261432277,5.6427369453551925,4.3510152430256,81.02288179465056,78.45355191256829,7.349899338510211,28.757262007477713,8.371475516178862,2.4955092896174857,763,35,135,16,19,251,105,183,0.19399999999999998,0.718,0.08800000000000001,-0.9687,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,9,1,14,8,1,3,1,23,27,9,0,4,4,4,0,0,1,2,5,1,1,1,13,8,0,0,5,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,16,3,20,23,0,17,0,0,1,2,18,11,1,4,6,82,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18502955320816256,0.0,0.11612966279072295,0.0,0.0,0.1929218358640511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065233846494572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287762693031955,0.0,0.0,0.1670461257188103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578743944380921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247054399378125,0.0,0.11446373519361858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877017862719683,0.0,0.1926363413211612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340404589262976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419715122359173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32051272430932903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962021346453656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874545126056517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195297686890692,0.17089363242939415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087210023299624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725870181808456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519311028593616,0.0,0.3468510665206446,0.0,0.2426206488689757,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yardgnomefriend,2020/02/19,"The tragic loss of the mall train So my three year old, Owen, loves the little train at the mall.  His first sentence was about the train at the mall, I took him there after a doctor's appointment and he said, ""We at the train!! Thank you mama!   Thank you, the train!"" If you ask him what he'd like to do today, that's pretty much always his pick.

Last weekend I took my kids to the mall, and Owen was so pumped to ride the train, and we race up there, and the train is gone. No more train station, no more train.  It seems the train owner closed up shop.  Owen was very upset, but recovered when I got them tickets to ride the carousel instead.

Over the next days he kept asking about the train, and I explained about how sometimes things close and that's sad, but there are still other fun things to do. He asked if it was coming back and I thought honesty was best, so  I told him it probably wasn't coming back.

Then last night he woke up screaming because he had a nightmare.   He was shaking and hysterical, and it took a long time for him to finally calm down. He told me the nightmare was about going to the mall, and when we got there, the train was gone.

Poor guy. It seems the loss of the mall train was a pretty traumatic experience for him. Does anyone have any advice about how to help him process the loss of his beloved train? I'm worried it's a bad sign that he's having nightmares about it as far as him processing his train grief in a healthy way.",4.1191836734693865,4.905880136054424,4.030074829931973,92.35123469387756,70.76870748299321,6.96843537414966,24.223809523809518,6.742157984588678,0.5417515646258506,1136,28,252,8,20,346,142,294,0.142,0.726,0.132,-0.3811,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,3,3,1,5,21,17,0,2,27,0,18,2,0,3,0,30,44,24,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,14,17,0,1,4,9,2,11,3,10,0,2,24,2,28,7,31,19,4,45,0,6,0,1,39,13,0,4,21,155,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498524536666692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979104263136628,0.0,0.0,0.08001927544995936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227723018969714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300152139834162,0.0,0.0,0.18096112004502785,0.09824909336526257,0.07173021745333368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348685035768088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20272366048237114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588707434863252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204396898192822,0.10297334717662612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510332180013738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289011540223975,0.0,0.10008959206104563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687427215681188,0.0,0.18822205080202312,0.0,0.0,0.11651127642075675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887136615556474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19183264826834714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057487359896403675,0.1179357229860779,0.0,0.10413377913826673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620129184884217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650060052878646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514281751448986,0.11042482753929912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347431585154207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394243102255804,0.1268675918679502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193061311520157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424373438378866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637811578227633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397099167182127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21666847931247107,0.0,0.0,0.15634873610964686,0.0,0.0,0.09341641629713658,0.06861401490884002,0.0,0.1115368999338184,0.224876444624168,0.3922053362552905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708963705465157,0.0,0.09340054914733226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949905977960368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757752814847824
parenting,Lulubell111,2020/02/19,Son is obsessed with looks My son is a mix of Chinese and Korean and recently he’s been very obsessed with his looks and trying to look like some Korean actor.He is like trying to replicate everything and I mean everything like the smile the hair the clothes and recently he talked to me about getting a nose and eye surgery to look better.I don’t know what to feel about this I tried talking him out of it saying that he’s good enough and that I love just the way he is but he won’t listen.Im worried because he’s barely 16 and considering all this stuff already please I would appreciate some advice,3.537851239669422,5.370557867768596,4.342223140495868,85.48242561983474,73.62809917355372,7.484628099173554,26.149586776859504,8.238735603445708,1.6553100826446283,486,17,96,8,10,156,74,121,0.046,0.8029999999999999,0.151,0.8898,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,2,6,0,8,4,3,0,1,20,17,9,0,1,2,2,2,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,11,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,9,8,5,12,14,4,4,0,0,5,1,14,1,0,2,5,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500969994414818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695023874630769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363366903899734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584749359651782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871076619881933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760931282818305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766521867713375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025011866859598,0.0,0.0,0.1288331282093772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591530536512927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441502507180966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22512488968686764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5159442057470983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863078860673805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731638485676334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860763763326134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033246712759696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214958259766415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17583625564915287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24691713351111635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128547388759273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673681003415274,0.0,0.12192122674954288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598914671009062,0.0,0.10911365610307973,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bjhoneycut2478,2020/02/19,"Need some help with teenager  I have a 17 year old daughter and the past two years have been a nightmare.  It started with lying  about going somewhere and ending up in another place.  So we  would take her phone away and ground her.  Well somehow her boyfriend at the time got her a phone that only hooked up to the internet and gave her it when at school.  After that she did nothing but lie and keep things from us. 
 Fast forward two years until last night.  We actually found a boy in her closet..  yep that happened. Turns out he had been sneaking in the house either before we got home from work or waited til we went to sleep.  
We have done everything possible to help her. From therapy to out patient care.  Everytime we think she is moving forward, something terrible happens, such as running away, finding pills, or stolen money
   I believe our society makes it hard to nearly impossible to be a good parent.  For example our insurance doesn't cover mental health outside our network, and the therapist in our network can only see her once a month.  School is toxic for her, it's a full day of her and her friends snapchatting screwing around, and failing classes.  I one time grabbed her phone out of her hand and accidentally scratched her wrist.  Well the next day DCFS was at my house along with the police investigating abuse.  Nothing happened because our account of the situation mached the injury compared to hers.  It's such a slippery slope with her she never holds herself accountable and lies to everyone.  
She is on meds, and currently is in a outpatient program where she can get therpy twice a day.  This has been going on for a month and yes last night we found a boy living in her closet last night.  We just dont know what to do anymore.  We have a 13 year old son who follows rules does great in school and is such a joy to be around.  However, she makes things so toxic in our home I'm just so lost.",4.4730834995725255,6.359149977961433,4.6349748266362685,84.12669421487605,71.25895316804409,7.320946138500997,28.770684905481144,7.990435384864732,1.905045293055952,1514,59,282,21,29,472,202,363,0.098,0.794,0.10800000000000001,0.6203,3,0,1,0,1,0,33.0,16,0,0,3,16,11,1,0,23,2,25,6,3,2,1,53,52,23,0,2,6,3,4,0,1,1,2,0,4,2,13,32,0,3,5,0,3,8,3,4,2,4,14,5,44,7,52,35,3,65,0,2,1,1,54,29,1,4,32,194,57,7,0.0,0.10085430168360167,0.08306568188699906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925664499444146,0.0,0.0,0.08441702184338568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515512266194723,0.0,0.0,0.15994770257093388,0.0,0.0,0.05188888704146749,0.0,0.07243158359715594,0.09590206191407817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678639119746591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646877411745794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744898394237538,0.08710819453615239,0.09976101560466576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753918179833644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133663083470809,0.07650114159456152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779892521812527,0.0,0.0,0.1866612619568442,0.06576416636025563,0.0,0.04447213684347714,0.0,0.09675229428051582,0.07139534000393645,0.13615785758817087,0.09384605018803643,0.0,0.0,0.225816289839716,0.0,0.0762515723664081,0.0,0.0,0.09047949522907453,0.0,0.0,0.11410943824099948,0.0,0.17076632861456045,0.0,0.0,0.19643609100216936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565933267279891,0.0,0.0,0.046780199318361367,0.20815458889423494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516328009586402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291947540924013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363767190734694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455008788224548,0.0,0.08578180764316183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588531892587366,0.09047000465430058,0.0,0.06311604015986327,0.06565045584038487,0.0,0.09052700176581656,0.2396404865141222,0.0,0.16335152445645487,0.0,0.17864005032220578,0.09065093933839864,0.05768009862462217,0.12947650156350432,0.0,0.0,0.09451664320134373,0.0,0.08125749382516738,0.0,0.0,0.08893318310311596,0.0,0.0,0.09596098157536316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25844056834469725,0.06783030589457786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567941462921822,0.0851823346603894,0.0,0.0,0.06553019772881094,0.0,0.0,0.06024898380813075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400029434509427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734312335871063,0.09883188076626516,0.11310103600825808,0.05454201095043718,0.0,0.0,0.09926931760335547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258705412414492,0.1663014260707122,0.0,0.1023899155996925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306775399232053,0.0789078913000691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06196900087815205,0.0,0.0,0.06046741769625801,0.0,0.0,0.21926017575827333
parenting,adrionallama,2020/02/19,"Early Intervention Evaluation with a very anxious toddler. I’m afraid he will cry the whole time. Tomorrow a developmental therapist and occupational therapist will be coming over to evaluate my 17 month old. He doesn’t speak any words, respond to his name, point, wave, clap, anything. I originally reached out to EI for evaluation of a speech delay. 

My main concern is - my son is incredibly shy around new people. I am afraid he will cry the whole time and put his head on my lap and they won’t be able to do the evaluation. What happens if he doesn’t cooperate? Does anyone have experience with this? 

Thanks in advance!",4.2857655502392324,6.978370271929827,5.634274322169063,73.12643540669858,74.35087719298245,9.057735247208932,29.661881977671452,9.573946990214177,3.212887719298246,497,22,88,14,11,166,80,114,0.11800000000000001,0.841,0.040999999999999995,-0.8386,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,2,6,0,13,1,1,1,0,13,17,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,2,8,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,2,9,1,13,11,3,18,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,1,9,50,11,0,0.17637393751511718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994032563030747,0.0,0.0,0.19925234654672136,0.0,0.1233247580088786,0.0,0.14514072254152546,0.1570101978346747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519305299535541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874769769565695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434602128246974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252755439496495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559668904607445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101054377271525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077999421905027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034304790766966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507477813235956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227548072319228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673038004647756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17730452201111327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238142507809047,0.0,0.4095674709501948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569012265339687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552696982298394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.393830405118397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SplendedTrepor,2020/02/19,"A Vintage Approach to Parenting To the parents that absolutely do not allow any form of tablet screen time or internet access, read books together every night, review school work together and have family time and raise your kids like it's the 70s/80s with old toys and cartoons: How do you find that approach? Is it working? What are the challenges you've faced? What are the positives you've seen? 

Disclaimer: Because I'm eager to hear how this has worked (or hasn't) I'm only interested in hearing from parents who have actually tried this approach (which I'm sure is a small but mighty number). Please no negative comments or judgement. TIA",5.353333333333332,7.803039760683763,5.210606837606843,78.54411538461542,70.1965811965812,8.098803418803419,32.212820512820514,8.841846274778883,2.992009230769231,520,24,86,10,10,161,85,117,0.087,0.77,0.14300000000000002,0.7198,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,4,2,5,0,0,6,0,10,1,1,3,1,14,16,9,0,0,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,10,4,0,0,1,3,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,4,2,5,7,15,1,9,0,0,2,0,10,2,0,3,5,48,12,8,0.0,0.0,0.16758997204408235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678665427500615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468892725768546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469534026345396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189781204688636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696397605093212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.387118852140846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839017397702213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116299584934385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020848297001515,0.0,0.0,0.1306132856822395,0.0,0.0,0.5720789102783332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18851501700661866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178289369973665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380642498814147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161859542853948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028177442296213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659775568822765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750784760509385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fdesdd5332,2020/02/19,"My (24M) gf (22F) and I are having a threesome with a friend (24F) but difficulties are arising. How can we work this out? OBVIOUS THROWAWAY 

NSFW

I have been seeing this amazing girl for 2 years now. We met at school. She is great and is also very understanding of my child situation. I had a kid from a previous relationship. He lives with us. 

My gf and I have been seeing this for a bit. Who we engage in threesomes with. She moved away couple of months ago but it coming back to visit us. 

Anyways we want to make a weekend out of it. How can she stay the night without our kid knowing?",0.1621136590229355,2.5590993389830534,2.317058823529411,90.81343469591228,93.74576271186442,4.8103688933200415,19.653040877367896,6.522977012572876,0.3132765702891325,454,15,94,6,17,152,80,118,0.023,0.8220000000000001,0.155,0.9525,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,7,0,12,0,0,3,1,23,20,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,13,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,2,17,4,17,16,1,16,0,0,2,0,22,5,0,0,7,70,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647920852056382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486668257689631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466229801967625,0.1429481855778313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029582877281784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013925771701973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056984986144302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362845154010853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049590775290198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216760832985293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164156046222897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409191628207915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838626431788907,0.19758581912438766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445768168941506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959060395095485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814409478030208,0.29628176991590005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089631318699986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814821446555564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19353192267582495,0.4472376324318111,0.0,0.0,0.1533897165525856,0.10965060057376852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920417606341965,0.0,0.13533983827696786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971564938594335
parenting,callrocks,2020/02/19,"That Autism Thing Podcast Request I Host a podcast called That Autism Thing were I  interview people who help and support people on  the spectrum about how Autism has changed their views on life work and socially,  

I'm hosting an Ask me anything episode AmA this Friday 21st and would love this community to take part 

Whether you be someone with the condition or not please drop me a comment below with a question about Autism and Aspergers and lets try and answer them together   


A bit about me 

My name is Callum,  I am a BBC Radio Producer in the UK and run my own business making podcasts  and have had Autism for 26 years  and started this Podcast back in January 

you can all the most recent episodes via this link [https://podfollow.com/that-autism-thing](https://podfollow.com/that-autism-thing)",8.957111111111109,10.798431081481485,6.255555555555558,76.93000000000002,60.407407407407405,8.666666666666668,35.0,8.841846274778883,3.022111111111112,656,27,103,9,9,183,96,135,0.015,0.9,0.085,0.8574,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,2,2,5,2,0,0,10,0,10,2,0,3,1,24,17,12,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,9,11,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,12,2,12,12,5,11,0,0,1,1,15,5,0,3,4,71,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368941170990034,0.0,0.18595789567679355,0.0,0.0,0.15295271698252685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21716275317985245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031136055042305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104248147069542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332797390528536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20340321366624925,0.14049895947618993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795278027820873,0.0,0.1327767517593155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540465994118232,0.0,0.2758040769763725,0.0,0.0,0.21834802370233752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228293918486975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964037437536692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276794446307084,0.1685393290778789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079247194303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257254406501923,0.0,0.0,0.14955869919106124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964492037649442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504966302901292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481188338810444,0.0,0.0,0.14130291784803484,0.0,0.0,0.12809420255941525
parenting,youre_a_wizard_baby,2020/02/19,"Split on 4yo's birthday Tl;Dr: Would it be a horrible move if I threw my soon-to-be 4yo a backyard bday party when he requested a party at a popular bounce house location like his friends' birthdays?

My son is turning 4 in April and currently goes to a daycare facility where a ton of the kids this year have hosted bday parties at indoor bounce house places. All the same place, basically all the same party. There are a bunch of pros/cons for the place but the standouts for me are that it's an awesome indoor location to burn a ton of preschool energy BUT it's a pretty cookie-cutter party each time. It seems pretty impersonal for something that can cost quite a bit of money (not out of the technical budget but beyond our idea of what feels reasonable).

My kid has requested a bday party at one of these places but we'd really rather do a backyard party at our home. When I tell him maybe, or maybe we'll do something else, and that we have to look at the budget and the options, he's not bummed or anything. The alternative we're considering is a classic backyard party with pizza, cake, presents, games, a pinata, etc., at our house. My husband and I feel it would be more personal, memorable, and cost-effective, especially since we have no idea how many kids will show up. We'd send out roughly 30 invites per school rules that everyone gets one. We're cool with this and would also expect 1-2 parents, as well as siblings, as we've seen with the other kids' parties.

I don't think it would totally break son's heart to have a different party than he requested. He's a pretty awesome guy who's laid back and can have fun doing just about anything. I honestly think he'd have way more fun at a backyard party but since it's not what his friends had, he may convince himself that the bounce house party would've been better.

Is this an age where I cave and just do the bounce house thing because it's what he requested or would it be horrible if I told him maybe another year we'll do that, and did a home birthday party this year?",8.674568513923353,6.484624977667497,8.484594706368902,74.10928522194655,62.250620347394545,11.734711883098981,36.780948442238774,10.25414643259724,3.5154197408326446,1618,58,316,28,18,524,194,403,0.03,0.736,0.23399999999999999,0.9981,3,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,9,0,0,2,14,11,0,0,32,1,38,2,1,2,3,56,49,26,0,9,16,4,3,1,2,9,0,0,6,6,26,17,1,0,9,2,4,3,5,0,1,2,6,6,27,11,35,28,13,35,0,0,2,0,42,19,0,8,12,202,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739838502156126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883745344471593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870989925076718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480582873734589,0.0,0.051376076655766115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453847869190723,0.09201152139266522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805426928304666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040481149206082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399405929303067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053279264491102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522862062750987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022845718108866,0.0,0.04403262513012236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345007837942582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987176046491801,0.0,0.0,0.16907866962176574,0.0,0.0,0.4862368536263502,0.0,0.19028287433631744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04117476725477272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077365796036826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854463107264443,0.2540106313742373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957590264852618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114220109060444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358254885053316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358971703283776,0.35221707713218664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572280306428585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964175451832035,0.0,0.0,0.05399168536420268,0.08665349042688854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529547916252896,0.0,0.07672500454832769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943395211598958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976514447466886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366410632365117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055991637392060124,0.1080059602477088,0.0,0.0,0.04914412662849962,0.0,0.0,0.08053279264491102,0.0,0.0,0.09167202962384273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689724279458431,0.0,0.0,0.07577750372975628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592189615772481,0.0,0.0,0.16281994430201627
parenting,fshlash,2020/02/19,"Online school lunch packs Hello, I have a 5 year old daughter that stays with her mom during school and with me during the break/summer. I see that her mom doesn't pack her good lunch for school after I asked my daughter because I noticed her getting thin (she packs a PB sandwich every day). So I'm trying to find school lunch packs online that I can subscribe to and they send them directly to her mom to just put them in her bag. Anyone know of any place online that does so which have good food? I looked online but unfortunately couldn't find anything and wanted to see if anyone know of any. Appreciate your help.",4.48255280073462,5.955237512396697,4.4764738292011055,86.91450872359967,70.5702479338843,6.369513314967861,22.535353535353536,6.42735559955562,0.4373739210284669,493,11,96,3,9,152,73,121,0.055999999999999994,0.883,0.061,0.3806,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,3,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,5,0,0,0,14,14,7,0,3,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,5,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,19,2,12,13,0,10,0,0,3,0,20,3,0,1,4,52,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817383061615219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868665314232708,0.0,0.10996147013582454,0.0,0.12492074703172602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145617507320929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617666352339458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693558577248946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258429403681022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442605048749916,0.0,0.16157911737681402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698132176492245,0.0,0.0,0.2241555618691288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895655978459925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687291722371476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221081578529156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4694977378771657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213222973925086,0.14021629720544668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396090250861607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432939812252614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5409399810864268,0.2129626433422078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242579804387365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072217520297796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881511491199306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604971257562091
parenting,MommaMoonFlower,2020/02/19,"Call me a bad parent IDC anymore I wanna quit. I honestly just wanna be done with this shit. I'm so tired and sick of the same shit day in and day out. No matter how many ways I try to curve his bad behaviour, I still fail him. Why else would my three year old be so destructive and disrespectful. I can't get him to listen and I can't keep up with the extra B's he does. I know it's normal three year old crap but maybe I'm just not cut out for this shit. I don't know what to do anymore",-0.6613939393939425,1.1767988909090903,1.7159090909090935,99.08719696969698,87.36363636363636,5.121212121212121,14.62121212121212,6.42735559955562,-0.8147878787878797,378,6,97,4,12,128,72,110,0.252,0.7020000000000001,0.046,-0.97,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,6,10,6,0,3,0,8,6,4,1,0,22,15,8,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,9,0,2,1,1,13,1,13,11,2,12,0,1,0,0,7,4,4,0,7,58,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156421371918617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657453710541112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16249659337390335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20526030358381397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926179579287354,0.16285232581010503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329384811392958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314247536952123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414482111656221,0.0,0.0,0.17491498478237066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133986479334197,0.15987443098701895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559203988904719,0.0,0.0,0.3339748669194541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767027230338754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926170867840348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49005530108835293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708695416308188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290448572115225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804352630159528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263154841416141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359632297775268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130463059187827,0.0,0.0,0.20495792485371614
parenting,throwaway_february20,2020/02/19,"Tracking app for stroller? Hello reddit, I'm looking for a cheap or free tracking app, maybe you can help me? My husband (30M) and I (29F) have a young child (1M) and our closest relative is my grandpa (75M). He's amazing and he loves to spend time with his grandson, so he's often joined us for walks. Unfortunately, now I have to go back to work (part-time), and my grandpa's offered to take care of our son during those afternoons. This is great and we're grateful, but the problem is that he can be a bit senior sometimes and I worry about him wandering off with the stroller and getting lost. Since he doesn't have a mobile phone (and doesn't want one), my husband bought a cheap one: the idea is to place a tracking app on it so I can see in real time where they are and go find them if necessary. My grandpa says I worry too much but agrees with this plan. Can anyone give me some advice on a good app? Thank you!",4.188492063492063,4.471188338624341,4.8498544973545,88.34398809523809,70.37566137566137,7.3582010582010575,28.448412698412696,6.816661863887847,1.2182412698412697,712,24,156,5,12,229,116,189,0.08900000000000001,0.778,0.132,0.743,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,2,2,3,8,9,0,0,10,0,15,1,0,0,0,23,29,15,0,3,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,12,0,0,2,0,5,3,2,2,0,2,2,3,21,8,17,26,3,17,0,1,2,1,29,7,0,4,7,92,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769529373121614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999369345218534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319574876024829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187353659848521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496781955165389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684841967798085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965913557347192,0.1646239373655019,0.19505982139946507,0.14393831560774106,0.0,0.18920061715177372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150265572966627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372678754688635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441091684937558,0.0,0.187332573482016,0.0,0.154884713899032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17240529848178554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615308657511035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325747377814501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18583689328613084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929591170504322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420758168624086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532973608224274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647115005018332,0.0,0.0,0.13675094168730134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195755510111874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972666578012818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902935353938488,0.0,0.0,0.1579954200416644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20013432762655164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20642568528738608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122001694061224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493411482883947,0.3485565450844189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mkjohnson1127,2020/02/19,"Setting Realistic Expectations Hello fellow Redditors.  Just need some opinions.  My step son will be graduating in May and has chosen to go into animation.  His goal is to either work at Disney or Pixar.  I love and care for him very much and want him to succeed as every parent wants for their children.  I just worry he is setting himself up for disappointment.  He struggles in school.  He will graduate with barely a C average.  He only scored a 12 on his ACT (equivalent of about a 630 SAT).  It’s not enough to get him into a university.  He is currently taking prep classes that would be related to the animation course of study and he is failing art and has D’s in computer graphics, digital imaging, etc.  His dad wants him to shoot for the stars.  I think he doesn’t want to give him the hard facts because his son does struggle with depression and anxiety and he feels that it could take an emotional toll on him.  What’s worse, setting realistic expectations up front or letting him find out for himself?  Thanks in advance for any advise!",4.663134615384617,6.738273682051287,5.804150641025642,75.15699519230769,71.15384615384616,8.9775641025641,31.161858974358967,9.516144504307137,3.1935705128205125,828,37,144,20,16,275,125,195,0.127,0.7859999999999999,0.086,-0.8255,2,0,0,1,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,5,3,9,0,2,8,0,15,1,0,0,1,34,31,10,0,9,6,4,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,5,12,0,0,3,1,0,5,2,5,0,0,1,2,18,4,31,22,5,21,0,3,0,1,32,12,0,5,1,94,23,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441037235453387,0.0,0.1287047179756189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255880026106584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715339963465885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343275976158391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490664264895742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472297634141658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18924967652323216,0.0,0.1738390253946598,0.18763437343319966,0.0,0.0,0.14175119460589475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506824234584595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377019795384786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789953417324185,0.16139311756284666,0.0956158417503288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071184266621507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720389085394786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518450307958234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367727475335788,0.12474935819786967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795567046698278,0.0,0.0,0.18681290126123484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026995014069282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517662677952147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529941873350425,0.0,0.0,0.15489468791261735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780272088766217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388173220105666,0.3969341118974579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248222588318725,0.17085798201148425,0.17145303589074984,0.11951433471404005,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whimsyNena,2020/02/19,"12F suddenly unable to read or remember things This morning my 12YO daughter complained of pain in one of her eyes. 

By 11, she was having difficulty recognizing letters and words. 

Now she is having difficulty recalling certain things. For example, I asked if she’d like to watch our favorite show (by name) and she was very confused and asked me what I meant. 

I want to take her to be seen by a doctor, but I don’t know if I should go to the optometrist or her primary care physician. 

Has anyone every experienced this before? Which doctor should I take her to see? 

**Please don’t arm chair diagnose my child.**  
I have anxiety and your non-professional opinion of what might be going on would be unhelpful and cause me a serious amount of physical and emotional stress. There’s a reason I didn’t just google.",3.9231109022556434,6.347368848684213,4.8692857142857155,79.49000000000002,74.32894736842105,8.553383458646618,27.962406015037594,9.23628265651192,2.7001827067669177,643,26,116,16,14,209,103,152,0.111,0.804,0.084,-0.4778,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,0,3,8,0,2,4,0,18,7,2,2,1,27,30,11,0,6,6,1,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,4,2,0,2,3,5,0,1,5,5,22,3,16,17,1,6,0,0,4,0,17,2,0,7,3,81,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698409760154295,0.0,0.0,0.12520628599553818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348028704873319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237097354390056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256851859910075,0.18394889638349726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817470235770507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665608629254821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142382165687045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508698343187976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035333281420485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984093424266416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874820264090376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899594772284296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133895664110507,0.0,0.19053759407760013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655940081145332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911327803711433,0.0,0.0,0.18410845873285786,0.0,0.0,0.20284553508663716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269147838075472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20511814694728134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692689203288693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379254202317166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477472301418081,0.10561707057204267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720251090059398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway-skills,2020/02/19,"My 5 (almost 6) year old son has poor social skills, and I fear for his future Throwaway because this is embarrassing.

My 5 year old son (he turns 6 in March) is generally a great kid. He has very few tantrums, is good at entertaining himself, and works at a high academic level. However, in spite of all this, there is one thing that we are concerned about with him: social skills. Having been in structured (non-Mommy and Me) activities since he was 18 months, and having attended full-day preschool since he was 2 and a half, his social skills are far below an age-appropriate level. We have been working on them for YEARS, but the progress we have made is negligible. He knows the names of only a few kids (4-5 out of a class of 15 children) in his kindergarten class, and many of these kids he has known for at least 2-3 years! He steadfastly refuses to make eye contact, make small talk, or even say hi to people at an audible level. If we run into one of his classmates at the store or in the neighborhood, the other kid will recognize him, but my son won't! This isn't a memory issue, as he does remember things he cares about. He just doesn't care to recognize his classmates. He constantly walks around with his head bowed down, oblivious to his surroundings. When I ask him why he's like this, he says that he doesn't want to have friends and that he's happy on his own. I have told him so many times that it's fine if he doesn't want to have friends, but he needs to do these things because it's what we do. He doesn't live in a vacuum, and these are things that will be expected of him for the rest of his life.

I am seriously running out of ideas here to fix this. We've tried social skills workshops, private speech therapy, and roleplaying social scenarios at home, but nothing has had an impact. We've had him tested for autism, and while he did exhibit a few of the signs, they didn't think he had enough to warrant an official diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder. We've also ruled out anxiety because, looking at how he acts in these situations, he's not scared. He just doesn't care about this. He is due to enter first grade in August, and I have no idea how he will make it without these crucial social skills. Help!",7.348893459481694,6.112901651583713,7.275771287535997,78.68299876593994,64.15837104072398,10.93229123817359,32.986836692719045,10.018931242160765,2.8795619909502266,1758,57,362,32,22,563,219,442,0.067,0.843,0.09,0.9472,2,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,5,0,2,9,14,17,2,3,19,0,44,3,2,6,1,57,60,26,0,6,12,3,0,1,2,4,1,4,2,5,25,23,0,1,6,1,2,6,11,6,0,4,11,6,32,11,57,44,8,53,0,0,2,0,74,31,0,5,17,221,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746540041315143,0.0,0.0,0.06985136207525226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682021375198277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775734611564403,0.08165765137138423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973775623880831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671682549457627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09439107334613336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056331587134643535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010722614004004,0.0,0.07643794584012108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025279739557017,0.0,0.05769186783833478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982896557213423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429731116731762,0.0,0.0,0.1349681466721736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326251707179356,0.0,0.09630037273640456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298250269295852,0.0,0.0,0.08964321870058557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058546851004022564,0.09228689818774756,0.08761615999532989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972082557725052,0.0,0.09116757157795544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800362532056563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169576725523624,0.042673330747573235,0.0,0.07712899876786951,0.0,0.0733494787152279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264984067956305,0.1749143966045652,0.1771122909440038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971953979814394,0.0,0.0,0.06476669162806761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381179954136142,0.0,0.18331196035644715,0.0,0.1183771716741212,0.06643132735042184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605554098216051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894712050847387,0.0,0.0,0.1389236759947349,0.08744958196902505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450867734770775,0.09818168450918263,0.0,0.5342355824579463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020620767578249,0.0,0.0,0.09988890362446676,0.0,0.23211785477695565,0.05596842886617024,0.0,0.0,0.05093273647285761,0.0,0.0,0.08346379896449012,0.0,0.05930287746755925,0.09500845059387976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207042037869227,0.10303904402116017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881707898510151,0.0,0.0,0.08419938828220054,0.0,0.12717930846767556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22499440956187447
parenting,Jstahl8,2020/02/19,"5.5 month old twins do not sleep!! : ( **Hoping for some suggestions-  I have twin girls who are 5.5 months old.  They have to be up for daycare at 5:50am to get to daycare by 6:30am.  I know this is early but unfortunately, that's what we are working with.  They go to sleep around 6pm but wake up every three hours and by 3:30am they appear to be up for the day.  I am only getting at most 4 hours of sleep a night. They are most certainly not getting adequate sleep as they only sleep around 1.5-2 hours at daycare.  Does anyone have any suggestions for us?  We are desperate.  I have talked to our pediatrician, a twin group I am in, and a facebook group for sleep and nothing has helped.  Thank you in advance!**",1.2610410495133308,3.8039041942446055,2.370046550994502,92.63372407955991,86.19424460431654,5.284976724502752,19.687261955141768,6.794906146795322,0.2305950909860339,549,16,116,7,17,174,84,139,0.085,0.89,0.026000000000000002,-0.7935,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,4,1,5,2,2,3,0,0,4,0,15,7,7,0,1,19,23,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,15,3,26,21,3,23,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,5,10,75,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136729692970211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366328964806863,0.0,0.0,0.2130308604894605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716548390285004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470805775797727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081176474014646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875393117739444,0.0,0.06800085015695785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020004971482597,0.0,0.0,0.11884119122989135,0.3534986321488229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575747578527713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19100977975815492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228506732006233,0.0,0.11480908664830475,0.0,0.2511087800930432,0.0,0.0,0.18200110389403024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7184290007800849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617154892754684,0.0,0.11015926095550398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439263298106698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710790321672443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jdlong55,2020/02/19,"Parenting Help First of all I want to say that this community is absolutely amazing!

Now for the actual reason for the post, 

I'm 29 years old man and I do not have any kids and I really have never had to be fully in control of a child before. 

I am watching my niece for the first time completely by myself this weekend and she is three and a half and will be four in July. 

I'm truthfully lost on what exactly to do with a child that age and what they actually like to keep them entertained for two and a half days. She really likes to play with slime and putty and act like we are at dinner but beyond that I don't know what else to do with her. 

Hoping to get some good ideas from this community to ensure that I have the best time with my niece this weekend. 

Thank you all in advance!",3.2192126789366067,4.313923349693255,4.765168711656443,85.0920884458078,73.1717791411043,8.378118609406954,22.785787321063395,8.841846274778883,1.3260106339468307,618,15,134,12,12,208,98,163,0.009000000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.214,0.9857,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,2,6,2,12,0,0,8,0,15,1,0,2,5,29,24,10,0,2,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,4,11,14,1,2,3,4,0,2,3,1,0,7,2,2,16,11,26,19,4,21,0,1,1,0,14,6,0,2,15,100,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.34674238770348603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081535327354047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117615163737896,0.0,0.18644392075169205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862738407306564,0.0,0.1992615571534326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145764397986701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841269953557906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022361638708369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282037157270924,0.0,0.0,0.14901334763942847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908220752648865,0.0,0.0,0.17645713995258153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055728051219016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791297360748388,0.0,0.0,0.09763766239203278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603880998269161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393761680898225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702286729485194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864249958016878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727115817779015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701498195615793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276279591567552,0.1826647663119614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128290191056606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356608282304988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20719074008390534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354866728445734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478887090456626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144076517877369
parenting,theweekendhomestead,2020/02/19,"I need hair cut HELP We have a great three year old son. No issues brushing teeth, taking a bath, taking his vitamins, eating, listening, and sleeping

If you want to turn our son into the demon spawn, just mention getting a hair cut, going to the hair cut place or the act of walking into any and all places. 

For first 2 years no issues at all with hair cuts and then one day he just decided it was super scary and has an epic meltdown every time. 

We have tied videos, candy, bribes, doing it at places, have people come to our home, sitting on our lap, and everything in between. 

His hair has not been cut to completion for the last 12 months and hair looks really bad. 

The issue is they start doing a hair cut each time, we get about a minute into it a he flips out. 

I need help and suggestions. My wife breaks down in tears every time we try now, help! Help! Help!",3.559861359570661,4.9012040290697705,4.11418604651163,89.13135062611809,72.66279069767442,6.920214669051878,21.37030411449016,7.321109707123232,0.5377660107334519,671,14,139,7,13,212,110,172,0.138,0.741,0.121,0.3434,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,7,1,1,2,4,9,6,0,12,0,10,11,9,0,2,29,23,10,0,4,5,3,7,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,3,18,1,0,1,2,0,4,3,7,0,3,2,10,14,2,20,21,3,32,1,0,1,0,24,13,0,2,13,81,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745481475302487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737858111805793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078055927054688,0.13483836112741618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293864187084506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159352364202612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21670805207876312,0.0,0.11558056610958345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939010236200557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438007970425794,0.0,0.07308835340398376,0.0,0.0,0.14178585288788328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43100119800300013,0.0,0.12899983269745854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026860392517782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482904664877843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799458094505106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265011580265283,0.0,0.0,0.19071578541752904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494777800513788,0.0,0.08714508454818108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915749944222016,0.0,0.4030899710017967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238671849756933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869641233280246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102624498045296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338770892568835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496926882572535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873133594556163,0.13988371816464587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585369776959079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656329220140002
parenting,antky2218,2020/02/19,Laryngomalacia Is anybody else dealing with laryngomalacia with their little ones. It's been rough on us and now his sleep study is tonight. We have had 2 hospital stays and 1 surgery already. I'm hoping things start slowing down soon!!,5.3514285714285705,8.260678666666667,4.800238095238097,79.3489285714286,71.85714285714286,7.057142857142857,31.92857142857143,8.07648339933343,2.472742857142858,192,9,33,3,4,58,38,42,0.0,0.9159999999999999,0.084,0.5242,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,6,8,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,1,4,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,5,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349744700965828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267451784539325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647578031511555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147871096636285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31765126660474635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476277337905114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171630227892581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224327613239903,0.3378096203425718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21055695763676008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38123274343449465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kellygirl888888,2020/02/19,15 y/o gets Uber... punishment? My child was supposed to go to a sports practice after school yesterday. I was there to pick her up at 6. She wasn’t there! She left school when it let out and went to a gas station where an Uber picked her up and she went to some guys house. I have put parental controls on her phone so she can’t only make calls and text. I am so upset with her..... she did this on a visa gift card. I’m so upset with her and not thinking clearly as far as punishment or how to handle this. Any advice is welcomed and appreciated.,0.3485627530364397,2.5393945175438617,2.0107017543859658,96.2658097165992,86.28070175438597,4.911201079622133,19.29554655870445,6.297961479604792,-0.14694251012145765,421,12,97,4,13,137,76,114,0.13,0.7979999999999999,0.071,-0.7954,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,8,5,2,2,4,0,9,0,0,5,1,18,16,13,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,1,1,1,1,4,3,4,0,0,6,0,14,1,17,9,1,16,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,2,3,63,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181552137394314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181619244620773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279610138812008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503914451952505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663778660404014,0.0,0.12687689702723715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210504689499272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25759804329037306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24255944056375556,0.2282860505525659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901967239351496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979004868546946,0.0,0.0,0.2478903161107152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244257491695542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4518774825461223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304820693870926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139059842896747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maxi-Cat,2020/02/19,"Social Media ""Black-Out""   

Good morning everyone, 

Does anyone on here not allow their children’s information or photos to be posted on social media? We are currently expected a baby soon and have decided we do not want anything regarding our child to be shared. Most of the family has accepted this and moved on but some people are very bitter about it. We already had someone post due date, gender, name, etc. We asked them to take it down and they did, but they clearly knew we didn’t want it up the first place. Now the family is pitying them because they were not allowed to share information about a baby that isn’t even theirs. I got a feeling this is going to be a very long battle as the child is born and grows up. We made it very clear as soon as we announced the pregnancy that nothing is to EVER be posted on any form of social media. I do not see anything wrong with this myself but would love some non-basis input from people outside our family. Thanks!",7.188181818181818,6.6709244224598905,7.478401069518718,74.75289572192513,64.1336898395722,10.046844919786096,30.99946524064171,9.3871,2.675436791443849,765,23,138,12,10,250,114,187,0.084,0.7809999999999999,0.135,0.909,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,9,0,7,1,8,10,2,0,9,0,20,1,0,3,3,40,32,11,0,4,8,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,12,0,0,6,0,0,3,6,4,0,1,7,3,19,6,22,20,5,24,0,1,1,1,29,8,0,4,10,103,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478305362102564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922086331440426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173846510561563,0.0,0.21593372369432876,0.0,0.12265479008201145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997862878574251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481447291056568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632327856857974,0.08665671642902345,0.11867839588691055,0.0,0.12536773430914813,0.0,0.0,0.3710525654461112,0.0,0.06633893297030742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159910861799197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456428793940315,0.11004478455364486,0.1049330537731874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610834542881852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841360585405693,0.1241451191482101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944540596348215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589045247441152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191586349254174,0.0,0.13707663516572166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769615379852295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454984033923073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012272709308131,0.11116578811227132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864647471652126,0.0,0.0,0.12079182589804136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247625470808703,0.15477095045493106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320109621346552,0.14344718955118133,0.0,0.0
parenting,OMYachingtentacles,2020/02/19,"Adult child Parenting the parent Slightly long read, thanks for tuning in. Questions/discussion at the end

Background: my mother was hit by a car as a child and I believe it had lasting affects in regards to her brain and behaviors. I believe she is undiagnosed bipolar (or whatever they call it now). She has a poor memory (as do I), she often has a difficult time verbalizing what she thinks. I can be talking to her sometimes and she will be looking at something else clearly not paying attention and then will look up at me and say something completely unrelated. Recently this happened and it was scary because i was continuously asking what was wrong and why she was acting mad at me and that we needed to communicate etc, I’m asking her if she’s hearing what I’m saying and after sometime she looks up and says something about god. Other times she seems normal! 

Slightly more background: starting when I was in 6th/7th grade, people started dying in the family and my mom went on a downward spiral. Her mom died, her dad died (who we lived with at the time bc my parents separated, my dad was verbally/borderline physically abusive), her grandma died (who had dementia-I fear my mother will get), we moved to a shitty apartment where I went from a class of 9 other kids my whole life to a school of thousands and I acted out, then my dad died, and my mom was grieving and couldn’t handle me, so she constantly left me alone, even overnight. I basically raised myself.

So now, as an adult with my own child, I have done a lot thinking and trying to identify patterns of her behavior and *trying* to understand her. All I know is that she is not really all there (I could never say that to her, it would hurt her feelings and I’m the only person she has besides her verbally abusive husband) so I parent her a LOT. She’ll come to me and tell me some awful shit her husband says to her and I try to speak sense into her, get her to stand up for herself. She’s worked at fantastic sams for 12 YEARS and only ever got a raise when the minimum wage was legally raised. 

She is not able to support herself, and has no savings whatsoever. I recently had to spend a day begging her and trying to explain the importance of saving for retirement. She thought I was being ridiculous and said she was worried about me. It makes ME feel like I’m crazy when I talk to her. 

So here’s where I’m lost (besides everywhere) and I would like to start the discussion with your thoughts/experiences. 

Do I start an account and start saving to take care of my mother? Has anyone gone through this? What would you do as a parent/child? What do you think is expected as a child to take care of your parents? 

She also has a higher chance of dementia, I’m sure if that happens I’ll need a LOT of money to care for her. But I also have a child who’s education I’ve been saving for and don’t want to sacrifice their savings, or my own retirement savings. Plus my husband’s parents are likely going to need our help in the not so distant future, as they also don’t have money and have a history of medical issues. 

If you’ve read this far, I appreciate you! Have a great day and thanks for any input.",4.9960652841781865,5.970358414516131,5.925852534562213,78.86973118279573,68.88709677419354,8.743471582181261,31.21351766513057,8.976282227363876,2.6265937019969288,2507,102,469,44,42,828,278,620,0.11199999999999999,0.8140000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.9797,8,1,3,0,0,0,71.0,4,5,3,2,22,26,3,1,30,1,52,5,2,2,6,89,105,54,6,14,10,18,2,3,0,7,3,8,0,9,22,38,0,0,11,2,7,9,9,9,0,1,23,13,93,17,71,69,11,62,1,3,3,0,98,23,1,11,32,341,115,9,0.05940787916842093,0.14077724473257522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06152864633955269,0.0,0.14252537852253194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040399395017507285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04153937041655178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107669509655207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03621449173707051,0.0,0.0,0.1338646722555407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631884051721443,0.060662086830041165,0.0,0.1817108764194017,0.0,0.0,0.0511746275704781,0.062288031025888965,0.06419881234533605,0.0,0.047432357452859925,0.0,0.0,0.07662633474482193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082799964115321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079488636438876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496276599926609,0.0,0.052617747750483605,0.0,0.06625548903643537,0.03923834390168955,0.053737827873106415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811230530497598,0.05600446131413904,0.0668503804380208,0.060076817429196676,0.04244100074817544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207632979142131,0.0,0.033762866786526284,0.0,0.0475139079840301,0.06549739651142136,0.0,0.0,0.10506838270220148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695699745595443,0.0,0.0398198491422448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359736335277674,0.0,0.0,0.06200639120026396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032649016740702815,0.04842535058627194,0.0,0.0,0.0645468345415978,0.0,0.041961541956368587,0.08707106686141326,0.0,0.05245824570851697,0.052574103607118235,0.1496629687343216,0.0,0.06485071787590388,0.15151936326938478,0.0,0.0,0.03965522065466291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059847188236308725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087333702281588,0.0,0.06314117381988928,0.0,0.1321505689466414,0.04581901879426571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820710809798104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036473825829268,0.0,0.0,0.461757935576205,0.0,0.0,0.041185943265803514,0.05187266862114424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884791156846007,0.0,0.03805820862097653,0.0,0.11731622731774195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651049735661042,0.23621764986200364,0.0,0.0601239453537407,0.0,0.05408270199102997,0.0,0.0,0.060981334252220826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372052633706771,0.11751182310621053,0.0,0.21024601323042166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741535726510486,0.055991223052865816,0.0,0.08933466346573417,0.09549960589021914,0.05192510490146863,0.10938958687599026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419851055829976,0.0,0.04716322013522858,0.10392363626584562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133620127900586,0.0,0.0,0.061845697345712825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03504030633860918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014339834239747,0.053606370644998486,0.06632677551386706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043249643579036455,0.06033158502261068,0.0,0.12660495859777046,0.06495318986555709,0.0,0.038256726420635004
parenting,Blumenwasser,2020/02/19,"Advice for brushing my 16mo olds teeth? Seriously, I‘m at my wits end. 

DD has had her first teeth with 2.5 months and all her primary teeth around 13 months, so we have been brushing for a while now. She never had issues with it, on the contrary, she seemed to have fun. Until her canines came in (3 months ago) that is. 
Ever since then it has been a struggle and constantly getting worse. She won’t let me get near her with a toothbrush anymore. 

I tried letting her brush on her own first, but she just throws the toothbrush to the ground and has a meltdown. I tried brushing teeth together, letting her brush my teeth... she won’t have any of it. I tried distracting her with videos or songs, makes no difference. As soon as she sees a toothbrush it’s tantrum-time. 

I’ve resorted to pinning her down and brushing her teeth but even this became increasingly difficult. She thrashes like crazy now, throws her head around, bites down on the brush... it’s a two-people job at this Point, DH has to pin her down and I brush her teeth as fast as I possible can while she’s screaming and crying. I feel so horrible. 

Today, our neighbor came round to ask if everything is ok, if something happened... no, just force-brushing my daughters teeth. I can’t keep doing this... 

Anyone got any advice what do do? Anything else I can try?",3.2840619650804537,5.479268224409453,3.4437281752824376,90.04240499828826,75.41732283464567,6.3071550838753865,25.61040739472784,7.255503002510835,1.1358002738788089,1035,37,205,12,23,317,140,254,0.129,0.84,0.032,-0.9747,1,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,2,0,0,2,11,8,0,2,10,1,24,9,9,1,3,29,37,21,0,2,7,1,2,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,10,15,0,1,2,2,0,5,6,5,0,2,7,13,36,3,29,25,3,39,0,0,2,0,26,14,0,4,21,139,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357194068965732,0.10691440159650868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403927381474176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961373345372155,0.08433403711738506,0.0,0.09925260166478386,0.21473877696227284,0.11275503255360475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27589377629731904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303376764965674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324855539324671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601285649027688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075503980682277,0.0,0.10682557408367303,0.0,0.0,0.07966244836756724,0.10909958251684077,0.0,0.0,0.10839741748499353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06098456115441546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518336245590188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602857116618124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646365939914599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665593625776748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378171393668748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258865804791907,0.11968783753256156,0.10720462596276373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699988520784473,0.0,0.05892445737546075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050879965325312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28881172238748426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302266242672944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265609879192508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361650244724908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401640908488987,0.13597081514446166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611137602568892,0.10979975265351193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977069108020653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285226407116867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608883690815625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432515456936933,0.0,0.0,0.3275478913281768,0.0,0.11781945167350474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229129445261215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,backyardgirl,2020/02/19,"Seeking advice on how to help a 7 year old muslim boy living in Europe Hi everyone! I really puzzled at the moment with the situation of a 7 year old refugee boy who lives with his parents. He attends a western public school and we (employees) try to offer him a safe surrounding to grow and learn in.

I understand that it's very difficult for young children to grow up amongst two very different cultures (and by culture I also mean a culture amongst family, school, friends etc.). In my culture we are thought in university when studying pedagogy that children are aloud to have own opinions, study different habits, culture in arts etc. in a safe environment. We are thought that this will raise up understanding, emotionally stable and self confident adults.

At the moment I'm constantly getting critique from a muslim father that his son is not allowed to listen to music, attend school's Valentine's day disco (A disco where small kids play around with colorful light, play games etc. and looked after by us employees). He also complains that his sun is bullied in school. I work very close to this boy and seen with my bare eyes his son being the one being aggressive. He might go around the school yard shouting to his friends ""F\*ck off!"" or ""Fight me!"" pushing and showing friends. And once his friend does fight back he runs to an adult crying about how he got hit. Talking about these incidents has not gone anywhere with his parents. The boys mom doesn't share a language with us employees and is never accompanied by her husband. The fathers view is that we are stupid and ignorant, sometimes shouting this to our faces.

What can I do??? The boy seems to be at lost with what he is between two very different cultures and I really want to help him to lose his agresion and find interest in studying.

Thank you very much.",6.3684549689441,7.7582279107142895,6.051438923395447,77.69645962732922,66.02380952380952,9.057763975155279,34.549171842650104,9.318704503766252,3.265996532091097,1462,67,251,27,23,454,188,336,0.09300000000000001,0.79,0.11699999999999999,0.8636,9,0,0,0,2,0,44.0,7,1,0,3,12,20,4,0,18,0,19,2,2,3,1,48,37,18,0,1,3,8,0,0,4,2,0,3,1,11,14,26,0,3,8,6,0,8,4,9,0,3,6,9,28,11,48,25,5,42,0,2,5,0,67,21,0,5,13,158,42,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266763845836861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530508307256234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061931311152893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505020882983847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914197779468338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292631453337588,0.05455834969009588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651589548419809,0.0,0.0,0.07403178910564039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951607325569509,0.0,0.0,0.2830455209772976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083647846605857,0.0,0.0,0.07975093666577134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773205267852555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614390865843725,0.0,0.04419867033333398,0.0,0.048078674226393225,0.0,0.0676603002236363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134077604700394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940217735979566,0.0,0.07104054248935858,0.09464289523909014,0.0923480982174058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921514118401328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974451413193217,0.0,0.09907949830237436,0.0,0.0,0.062188851692605365,0.0,0.06524676035097841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754156316595895,0.09009351174931468,0.057325414177344436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878708895222457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083905715410548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280856243850637,0.0,0.07701433135848247,0.08825357906533647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509106611555712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366903048540457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679962171070306,0.0,0.07788595595900791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343218341431973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743610807149111,0.0,0.16527881115163487,0.17613783532002994,0.20352060621582066,0.0,0.0,0.34900873535966165,0.04989776146376647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061587943262979415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895595437292553
parenting,wheresthehummus22,2020/02/19,"2 year old is suddenly scared of everything? I'm assuming this is 'normal' and I know children get scared of things, however I didn't think it started this early and would become a focal point for her conversation and thoughts. I've worked with toddlers for years before becoming a parent, but you know what they say, when it's your own it's different. Anyway, our little girl has always been a brave rascal but quite recently she has developed fears that are starting to take over a lot of the day. She will bring up the things she's scared of constantly and it makes my heart hurt that she's worrying so much.

We've talked about the things that scare her openly, by explaining it's okay to be scared of x,y,z and that everyone has fears. We talk about details of the 'fear' and try to explain it more and then focus on the positive nice things involving the fear. 

For example, we went to a science museum which has a giant moon installation, its huge and it glows, basically taking up the entire gallery area. We talked about this for the whole week leading up to going because we had a music class there (just for that week) and she loves the moon in general so we thought this was going to be awesome. The minute she saw the moon she started crying, shaking and hiding behind her dad. We didnt force her to do anything or move closer but we did try to talk about it with her. Eventually after sitting there talking and trying to encourage her (with words not physcially) we just left. That was a week ago and she talks about it every day and how she was scared. She's also acting scared of many other things, including our cat for no apparent reason. 

I just want to find some strategies and ways I can support my little one without reinforcing her fears and making it worse, and being able to work through her feelings together so she doesn't feel alone. 

Like I said at the start, I understand fears are a normal part of development but it's hurting my heart and I want to do the best I can to make her feel safe. I do also understand that while certain things may not seem scary to adults they could most definitely be scary to a small child so I'm not saying her fears are irrational. 

Any advice appreciated",5.8594794094794125,6.486937030303032,6.009930069930072,80.27421134421134,66.80885780885781,9.339238539238538,29.175602175602172,9.348350401419415,2.3642795648795647,1762,57,339,32,27,560,228,429,0.159,0.7020000000000001,0.14,-0.8192,4,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,10,2,2,5,19,27,0,15,23,1,31,3,2,6,1,76,66,32,0,6,12,2,3,1,0,3,0,3,0,4,32,29,0,1,16,1,0,8,8,17,0,1,13,8,47,10,49,45,9,48,0,2,2,1,56,17,0,7,22,234,79,4,0.06203108815223617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061606142153,0.0549868169052678,0.0,0.0,0.06424549972834867,0.0,0.0992124775682568,0.051614834549526055,0.0,0.0,0.04218326708017064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104630015804314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037813575585858766,0.13701692665812384,0.052783887212028466,0.0,0.06509780000175899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703356934477586,0.0,0.0495267763739787,0.0,0.0681382375797298,0.08000984030861423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648092844749824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052263867147153316,0.059273363013344425,0.05574954224357604,0.0,0.0,0.4886155388822529,0.09409434598627886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056695290783229615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03240868332079605,0.0,0.07050739380780653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701427625688926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328111256488993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681813275907322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739695877791897,0.0,0.0,0.030305256359892705,0.1243428929602304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273661289432702,0.0559854789127703,0.0,0.12421869906273356,0.0628897872220951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592922982746711,0.04559998718037383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155459188423252,0.0,0.0,0.06509119226359593,0.0,0.0420338707091347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887818250870269,0.0671736235834597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863942852345986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659776978074691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377828988364154,0.06124821606409873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05900576980903165,0.09865922208845944,0.4347275845584719,0.0,0.0,0.05647077292905608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17562369386564528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039214373350555,0.0,0.0,0.0932793168526202,0.2991494337654601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472641918790469,0.03974701658239238,0.0,0.098491510106182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634511108340593,0.0,0.0,0.12915310082059614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317508592452926,0.049237390465755856,0.14927279177449904,0.0,0.0,0.0575034401800017,0.0,0.0692554946641033,0.0,0.05979575539421289,0.0,0.09031874192304436,0.06299558107926931,0.06321497829124907,0.04406510526448327,0.0,0.0,0.07989197400185429
parenting,Reaper02367,2020/02/19,"My 6 month old is wonderful except when it’s time to sleep Shes great, I couldn’t have gotten a better baby; but when it’s time for bed she doesn’t want to sleep unless she’s being held. 

She falls asleep nursing, I pop her off, sit and pat her, she passed the limp noodle test, and the second she feels her little head leave the crook of my arm when I put her in her crib that’s it. Wide awake. No amount of patting, rocking, soothing etc does anything. And she refuses pacifiers so that won’t do the trick either. And if I do get her down she wakes back up in less than 2 hours. 

I don’t want to co-sleep but I’m getting to the point now that I’m afraid of accidentally falling asleep trying to get her to sleep and dropping her or smothering her. 

Any advice?",2.2391586538461543,3.660925406250005,3.296250000000004,93.35144230769232,76.1875,5.9230769230769225,20.43269230769231,6.297961479604792,-0.03865384615384615,595,13,135,4,13,191,98,160,0.079,0.831,0.09,-0.0983,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,6,5,2,1,6,0,10,8,8,0,0,19,21,14,0,4,7,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,2,2,1,0,4,5,3,0,1,2,2,24,2,18,16,4,24,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,3,10,83,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934396695175582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110888912243849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341875366799001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253859251248188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421659733818792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269814859377214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185913690664726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824499096200448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555821696220245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977831229423494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673504069473031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16058490441001055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726609208470931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343267247897478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015589496366295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711079299061298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414790967255473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392406372423424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6527258774063887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901675173922953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070955306156653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235839808471306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683563407628472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aam3r_kahn,2020/02/19,"Is it okay to let a baby sleep on his stomach. So my kid is 4 months old now and after putting him to sleep he almost always rolls over onto his stomach. I have heard that you should not put your kid to sleep on his stomach, but i have also read that if he rolls over then he has enough control over his neck and head and you should let him sleep.

It is all so confusing what is the right thing to do.",4.202674418604651,3.742187406976747,4.5645116279069775,92.97234883720932,70.27906976744185,7.345116279069767,24.17674418604652,5.6839178017228535,0.27897953488372096,311,6,75,1,5,98,54,86,0.038,0.945,0.017,-0.4189,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,1,12,9,9,1,1,12,13,9,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,12,1,11,8,2,14,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,3,5,56,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205804776508524,0.0,0.0,0.137408494509023,0.14297227291604056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19271649406010344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775412912062157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634215509384651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35140567419156005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371491795851323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180301570003323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34546342845733163,0.0,0.0,0.17187162847894347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673772231877702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6877968808501864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141529815095246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tmcmac0708,2020/02/19,"Needing some reassurance! Please! Tl;dr:  new to kindergarten, feeling overwhelmed! Teacher wants my child on medication, very confused. Lol. Looking for any words of encouragement or advice from experience or even just from any parent! Thank you! 

Hi! First time posting here. I have one son who is 6 (will be 7 beginning of August). I am kind of venting but also reaching out for any encouragement. New parents, and experienced parents...am I crazy for feeling overwhelmed with kindergarten? It was nothing like I expected...and I feel like I am overwhelmed with the involvement and the “goals” of kindergarten. And please, understand...I love being involved. I make goodie bags for all the little class events (Halloween, Christmas, this past Valentine’s Day), and I do my very best to be involved, but the academic part, I feel like I am failing him. His teacher is very very persistent he should be put on medication, but I don’t really feel comfortable with because sometimes I feel their “expectations “ for 5&6 yr olds are a little extreme. And his teacher was very clear that kindergarten curriculum is more like a 2nd grade curriculum. They think he should be put on medication because he has a hard time “focusing” for 6 hrs a day. So I don’t know if he really should be put on medication, or if he’s just not “mature enough” (as they say) to do the work they are expecting of him. Me and his pediatrician talked and I scheduled an appointment with an AHDH specialist. Still waiting for an opening to schedule the appointment. Because I don’t think he is ADHD. But I don’t want him to have a hard time focusing in school. I just don’t know how to handle all this. Has anyone had the experience? 

I take care of him by myself and sometimes with the help of my mom and grandma, (when I have to work late they pick him up from after school care). I am 27 and trying to build a career at a very high stress job. A job I have worked hard for in the past 5 years. I love my job. I love being mom. My question is, is anyone else overwhelmed with the academic expectations for kindergarteners? Is the first year of school always this hard? Will we survive? Lol....ok that last one was dramatic. But that’s how I’m feeling! Has anyone put a 6 yr old on medication on the recommendation of a teacher? Or even been approached about it? How did you take it? Sorry for the long post but I’m just so overwhelmed. Thank you to any words of encouragement and any advice!!!! ♥️",2.957727272727276,5.674665889610393,3.874638961038961,83.7408155844156,79.4978354978355,6.812883116883117,26.55601731601732,7.9765259561132025,1.896789471861472,1939,80,357,36,50,621,201,462,0.07200000000000001,0.762,0.165,0.9926,7,0,0,0,0,0,81.0,1,3,5,10,16,26,0,7,26,1,45,8,0,5,3,71,74,31,0,11,17,5,11,4,0,5,5,1,0,1,10,20,0,1,12,0,0,5,6,8,0,4,6,14,47,18,53,56,7,48,0,6,1,3,45,15,0,9,30,231,57,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664088101230558,0.1246334307655787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0509979993920098,0.053062948643016465,0.06909633112207125,0.0,0.21683383800464928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377142571290118,0.06534137882837172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662343801931276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692419434091575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003847120031622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822546092472349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053272857094692296,0.0,0.0,0.06589294710886065,0.0,0.08424087243348667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476141475995173,0.0,0.0,0.2257133015195524,0.09111666228662146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848791253796446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22850674536257284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042744653550071066,0.06737803011770728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898499492552372,0.0,0.0,0.06640814377366062,0.07009423387549975,0.05198223696068567,0.07193696463773389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462202201155367,0.1278314771491093,0.0,0.05643571969256145,0.053551950309766665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17266864952085506,0.0,0.04256793294922143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212150952617463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937668502743076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047285716443328935,0.0,0.12318171277632928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119041884178121,0.0,0.1338348024299776,0.0,0.08642635948259526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162127973409014,0.06905825756264428,0.12175411518784797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000378694915636,0.0,0.0,0.12215082739625915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564316533323452,0.07143861019077577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170723783652495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050713610539781816,0.0,0.1936203127009766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614317419357854,0.07138690864452718,0.0,0.0,0.05092795622236365,0.0,0.07304997172879964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589637635778676,0.05125706972625185,0.0,0.11742435226955784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172433053527929,0.0,0.0,0.1115569225784553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04329662327524622,0.0,0.0,0.06638832048714327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157087116521628,0.07522809789569047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927910859325907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821334360644294
parenting,TinanotBelcher,2020/02/19,"Getting past breastfeeding disappointment Hi all,

I'm a new mom, and breastfeeding has been really disappointing. I had wanted to exclusively breastfeed before my son was born, but my milk supply is very low (maybe a few ounces per day) so we supplement with formula after every feeding. My son is one month old and healthy and happy, so things are good.....but I'm sad that I'm not able to breastfeed the way I had hoped. I've been working with a lactation specialist who has been great, but I'm teying to accept that my milk supply just isn't going to be sufficient. 

Any advice for coming to terms with reality? Thank you!",4.9235216572504665,6.657844949152543,5.823333333333334,76.66451035781546,69.84745762711864,9.312241054613937,27.517890772128066,9.725611199111238,2.6871777777777783,496,17,89,12,9,163,81,118,0.08800000000000001,0.726,0.18600000000000005,0.9428,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,3,9,0,0,4,0,13,3,0,0,1,16,23,7,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,6,0,8,5,10,16,3,12,0,4,0,0,7,1,0,1,8,51,12,1,0.22386174276833676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875510415477167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223366162872615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904898548994105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928370693215626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437230446566826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18861317336011926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169585210437581,0.0,0.12722578731113232,0.18776460878563406,0.0,0.2468083617034682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23830498786908666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234522192468084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248992096741055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262184167528307,0.17868430731208096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21620706613647364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23490524143694505,0.0,0.15169451048726476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137013639565608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341156472492875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20610181596740595,0.0,0.0,0.14872379470543595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470938248218247,0.13203945594252306,0.17769103150307775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297401491583755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xtina_2020,2020/02/19,Potty training help My son will be 3 next month. I have started trying to potty train him but we are getting no where. Any tips / pointers / suggestions / words of encouragement would be appreciated,3.1524509803921568,6.128987970588232,3.972941176470588,76.671568627451,95.76470588235293,5.79607843137255,26.25490196078432,7.1686216300943375,2.1418784313725494,157,7,24,3,6,50,32,34,0.069,0.6859999999999999,0.245,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,8,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32348072096368874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485247106671609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31884025747456474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796855960488989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5058942186789704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366908435635996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229575014963664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379115229080123,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justanothername0,2020/02/19,"Struggling with my mom having a baby (18f only child) I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, but I (18F) - am struggling with the thought/reality of becoming a sibling. My Parents (38F & 39M) are split and have been since I was about 4. My mom recently has met a man (26M) and they began dating. I met him in July 2019 and they have basically been dating since and are now due for a baby June 2020. 

I want to put that this guy is a nice guy and he basically has been living with us since I met him. He works a lot but has done a lot for me personally since I’ve met him and him and my mom are really happy together. Which makes me happy, I have never seen 
my mom have a stable -lasting- relationship with a man growing up. She’s been single for the most part of my childhood.

I know this is going to sound selfish, but as an only child, I am 18 now and graduated high school. I feel like my life is just beginning and now my mom is replacing me. I know this isn’t true blah blah but I just feel like since I have been trying to move away it hits differently. 

A lot of things are concerning me like the fact that she has only known her boyfriend for less than a year etc. To be honest though, I do trust him, I like him, and I have met his entire family, etc. Of course the age gap in their relationship is a bit odd for me too. But there is not much I can do about it/talking about it saying it’s weird has no effect on anything so YEAH i’m just saying that is a factor. My mom has talked about wanting other kids before, but she was never going to do it. Until she met him, and since he is young he has no kids and of course he wants them. He is excited to become a father. 

Anyways, I am currently abroad from my country, moved in with my long distance boyfriend of 3 years, and I just feel like my mom replaced me. Me moving has been a plan that we’ve all known about for like a year and in January I took the big leap and my mom is planning for me to come home in June for a baby shower and the birth. 

When she told me she was pregnant I was highly upset, crying, etc. She told me she didn’t understand why I was upset and that I was being selfish (which I know is true) but I just couldn’t/can’t stop feeling upset for the fact that I don’t want a sibling (even tho it’s not my choice) and I am just so sad about it.
We’ve got into fights about it and she gets mad at me for crying and being sad because it’s affecting her pregnancy but I don’t know how to change my emotion. She tells me it’s not going to subtract love from our family but only add to it, and although I know it’s true she says it won’t change anything. But it will change EVERYTHING. It won’t even feel like a sibling to me. Especially that i’m not even in the same country as the baby while it grows up and we have almost a 20 year age gap. 

My mom has always told me she wants more kids, and she tried with my dad when I was younger, etc. But I never thought she would actually do it. She always is babysitting my cousins and has them over, and yes I love them bc they’re my family. I am not personally a kid person, yes I want kids, But i am not all over them. 

While raising me, she has me at 20, and she was almost like a kid raising a kid. She grew up while raising me and now that she is 30 she is basically financially stable, works from home and has good income etc, and with her boyfriends income together they are def financially fit to have a kid. But I just wonder like why my mom has to do this, she is almost 40. This pregnancy has been extremely hard on her and she is feeling sick all the time which she says she never had with me. I just feel like she is almost 40 we are so close and we could have done so much stuff together like travel the world, and she says oh we can still do that with the baby. But it’s just not the same. 

I know I’m being so selfish but I keep crying and just being so upset about the fact that my mom is having a child. Today I found out the gender from my aunt (she is doing a gender reveal) so they decided to tell me first since I’m abroad and although I would prefer a boy so much more I knew in my heart it would be a girl and yep. It’s a girl. 

I don’t know how to stop being so upset about this. I feel like I won’t but I just don’t want a sibling. I will barely know her, and it’s an 18 year difference which is just crazy. Please can someone help me. Everyone’s says when she’s born I will love her and stuff which I’m sure is true but I just can’t get over the fact that my entire life and my families life is about to change and never gonna feel my normal life again. Like I can only look back and see the memories of being an only child but then when someone will ask me if I have a sibling I will say yes. 

I know I am dramatic. But I was raised as an only child with a lot of cousins and family surrounded around me. But at the end of the day it’s always been just me and my mom. And now that’s changed forever...",1.9515746444424311,3.0785235319548896,3.6937285986049484,91.41290741915032,76.3684210526316,6.781846181719358,20.99596883775704,7.288514752622937,0.36925719268049617,3834,87,898,44,83,1288,323,1064,0.08900000000000001,0.777,0.134,0.9939,6,1,0,0,1,0,102.0,6,0,9,6,56,43,2,7,56,5,121,9,1,5,17,183,187,92,0,15,43,18,10,15,0,12,5,8,3,23,50,63,0,3,30,1,0,13,25,15,0,1,37,21,162,28,87,128,24,96,0,2,3,3,131,31,0,12,64,630,212,4,0.0,0.0,0.03588495764373507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729062803664267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179377022681398,0.03984332385550539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06052177813518945,0.032735596846686726,0.0343776130266247,0.0,0.03454926512117781,0.028276020744691294,0.0,0.02241636342908356,0.08122535825607609,0.03129095253787845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04014638402656991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19450378336631247,0.031676519397166404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02936009624768845,0.0,0.12117961393545165,0.023715420063734543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683951871049034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526270296810278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413644613332296,0.03256979457169367,0.0,0.20505701587578584,0.07286428181638117,0.0,0.0,0.03513799545230053,0.03304903015848098,0.0,0.17333066104897174,0.0,0.1673409369707285,0.15762301522369515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031278933074039374,0.0,0.04031948770468032,0.0,0.0,0.038424550565312215,0.0,0.06269650540364571,0.030843288031832974,0.029410575110068126,0.0,0.0,0.07282172586562305,0.0,0.07829067924786755,0.03294121450010056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357595644923029,0.02464803914809953,0.07770498465346977,0.07377225263311482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032685362795313304,0.0,0.0,0.20209374472944924,0.02997474783862498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389489173206727,0.2335493850567357,0.0,0.032471064600102066,0.03254277933739653,0.03087989860874693,0.0,0.0,0.12505171090990133,0.09956668915456528,0.0,0.02454613596427993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5168144422164803,0.0,0.11725103115861675,0.0810967386045672,0.0,0.14180728873862625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036029545817004016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957716513150534,0.0,0.0,0.04083185331003816,0.03982136933007768,0.0,0.0,0.09632579689011947,0.03841975935524517,0.04036550229097896,0.0,0.0,0.035218186668759865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036966830382328716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041855507935668286,0.023557603461666108,0.0,0.03630871319107206,0.07896047137569111,0.0,0.03140377848891438,0.0,0.2047024991144783,0.0,0.037216046538082255,0.029303168272305342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129319367990571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623149645108544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02936681326077635,0.0614874308329196,0.0,0.07688584968737541,0.08419213838558487,0.0,0.0,0.03465793787482965,0.0,0.0,0.059113182880267935,0.06428211286329465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02443022072665443,0.0,0.03612909874204657,0.058387006544948265,0.021442521006237843,0.0,0.034856323784274265,0.1054139863569016,0.04085594453060319,0.04993264779739976,0.0,0.0,0.038281791673124094,0.044233162251517584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182689103546046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636348206772588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03987854340560214,0.053542086725110384,0.0,0.0,0.07836704666343815,0.0,0.0,0.11840241874416943
parenting,ThrowRA-i,2020/02/19,11 month old has started to slap and scratch.. New parents to our 11 month old daughter. She has recently began to scratch and hit. Any advice on how to calm her down or make her be aware of what she’s doing? Sorry first time posting on here,1.6371428571428552,3.859511081632654,2.440163265306122,95.02269387755103,81.04081632653063,4.736326530612245,24.08571428571429,5.6839178017228535,0.341927346938776,189,7,40,1,5,59,37,49,0.026000000000000002,0.8959999999999999,0.078,0.3818,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,5,8,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,1,8,5,0,14,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,10,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466890018656307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167311447494493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147319117678308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685108213137098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40300274217768345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24381559254392224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5298028566417882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280313331069634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417751441354555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492616797028716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825945676311273,0.17868380396075548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472043025857822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KirschTheFirst,2020/02/19,"Being a dad.... The true story of being a dad:

Me and my baby boy went shopping today. 
We bought a few new superhero films and he spent his pocket money on some toys and Lego (surprise?!!). 
We had a dinner date out at a restaurant. 
We got home later n pottered about playing with things. He sets up his Lego and (the superhero film buff) says 'start the film daddy' (one he hasn't seen for once but wanted to for ages). Later, Half way thru a movie we've never seen I say... ' shall we start this film again? We've been talking so long I have no idea what's going on!' 
He says 'yeah me neither, start again but let's keep talking'
We talk about the most random shit... which super hero is best... which of our family members is most like which superhero and y.... why marvel is better than dc... the origin stories of ALL superheroes.... how our lives can relate to that and why we are all our own superheroes. 
Shit gets deep n meaningful (to me, he just takes it all in his stride as life!)
The film is restarted 4 times.
Eventually I say.... shall I restart the film again for u baby??
He says 'no dad, I love just talking with u. We cud  start it again but I will probably won't pay attention coz I will just love talk with you thru it again...... so, are all superheroes that troubled??  Which ones??....(like, let's discuss...)' so we start comparing all superheroes lives....

And so I have spent my evening having the MOST amazing conversation with the MOST amazing boy and knowing that just talking and connecting with me is the most FAV thing my boy wants to spend his time doing!
I truly love his company, as he does mine!! 

Now tell me parenthood ain't worth it??",1.8088655462184848,4.174487909937891,2.7619145049324096,92.12918523931313,81.3913043478261,5.900036536353673,20.65071245889661,7.1686216300943375,0.5092898063573266,1265,36,263,17,34,400,170,322,0.048,0.748,0.205,0.9963,1,0,0,0,0,0,88.0,11,1,0,4,18,16,2,0,16,1,25,7,2,3,7,54,47,19,0,2,7,3,0,1,0,5,1,5,1,3,15,23,1,1,4,9,8,2,7,3,0,2,9,7,35,13,28,29,15,33,0,0,2,3,47,7,2,7,23,167,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693129912318744,0.09011682149658803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916798636264471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729992058399863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960564443859948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323532608277173,0.0,0.057908617629591264,0.0,0.0814938123273586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220782981206417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502574322250934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056792706447424,0.0,0.0,0.05599818991596965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20838671060469185,0.07197063281572734,0.04978018355055014,0.0,0.17994825566565578,0.09017284231971937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27588950741874146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858681125321516,0.09840970597489296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085136145441824,0.06904590327142268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985879367540638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051503579274944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20918512578223367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606049233107527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661148711711144,0.49139045534015297,0.08905970764057057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538747988184516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883023546245393,0.0,0.09658344654147474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201992540631074,0.08087858772180707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445661085833823,0.18388668473082276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,susannah_m,2020/02/19,"15 year old daughter has no interest in learning to drive My 15 year old daughter has no interest in learning to drive. I'm wondering how normal this is these days? Many of her friends seem excited about it. However, I've read statistics that many young people don't know how to drive these days.",5.361315789473687,6.673852456140352,5.493815789473686,81.0554605263158,68.2982456140351,9.910526315789477,33.54824561403509,10.125756701596842,3.4658456140350893,238,11,45,6,4,75,39,57,0.069,0.7509999999999999,0.18,0.7964,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,8,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,7,8,0,12,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,7,22,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31115829027265984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638058989623066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257860058101026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4891567985177349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23636292010831916,0.0,0.0,0.506279328103318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724469116957455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413042010248133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196148509633868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26161331638452123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310699908174274
parenting,tdutko75,2020/02/19,"My 13 year old just told me she had sex My daughter who I have a very good open relationship with just told me that she and her boyfriend of 7 months had sex. I am beyond disappointed as I made sure to discuss with her my experience of losing my virginity at 15 and that is was definitely too soon. She was worried I would be mad and I’m not but I’m disappointed and feel like I am a horrible mother. I told her that I wished she waited and we discussed going to the doctor for birth control but I don’t know if that is just encouraging her to have sex. I’m worried, confused and concerned for her well being. I don’t want to lay down the law and say she can’t see him again as that will encourage her to hide things from me but I really do not want her having sex at 13!! What do I do??",1.84,3.2930430000000013,3.910238095238096,88.40142857142858,77.33333333333334,7.180952380952381,22.714285714285715,7.957251820313856,0.9089,616,18,142,10,14,211,92,168,0.141,0.728,0.131,-0.4113,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,8,11,1,1,4,0,21,6,0,2,1,32,36,13,0,5,9,2,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,8,11,0,2,2,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,8,3,32,6,18,24,0,12,0,3,1,5,26,5,0,2,7,103,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010978869614653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351904022417975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753877909771423,0.0,0.0,0.09065842632250262,0.12809048495008438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018991518520489,0.15038660626479552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853745938448058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759591733456096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005885334581756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965604711540713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311390598703508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814302802849314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486285225736435,0.0,0.0,0.19249888836435164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258491925826727,0.0,0.0,0.14287724527715806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898618758649914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911758505090507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5139805991078629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793957901019947,0.21150914222515926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121038186953449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061837836463276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641715250404728,0.0,0.1273681130510017,0.0,0.0,0.11546199555703245
parenting,Dandelionsandlions,2020/02/19,"Book recommendations for joining into play for 5 year old I have a very enthusiastic 5 year old who struggles with joining into play with kids at the park and at pre school, he tends to overwhelm the vibe with his enthusiasm. We try to do role play, show him how to not yell so much and ask questions and things like, but he really responds well to books, plus I’m socially awkward my self so I feel like I’m not a great teacher. I would also appreciate video recommendations as well. Thank you!",3.2339583333333337,5.557276979166666,4.42625,82.32708333333336,76.08333333333334,7.183333333333334,25.25,8.167268648758528,1.5539875000000003,394,14,78,7,9,129,67,96,0.087,0.6609999999999999,0.253,0.9440000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,6,12,0,3,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,17,9,10,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,10,0,0,2,7,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,8,9,15,8,1,8,0,1,0,0,14,4,0,1,6,45,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662715751258621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437482550406712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512935134133533,0.14853632631892474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292298129110146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031560075126928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284330922959924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363489484290917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23291521986809136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319729495497604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104236424497685,0.0,0.0,0.21690333087957675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21194574007941025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21736054805697552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191422528753672,0.0,0.0,0.13813116946460471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116235608124988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17155373868641802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738856621036763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769864920209927,0.0,0.0,0.26778414737327155
parenting,Bunchwacky,2020/02/19,"My child has a bright future. My 4yo spent this evening running around the house shouting, ""ALL WILL KNEEL BEFORE ZOD!"" so I'm doing something right.",3.654444444444444,6.608847037037041,2.342222222222226,94.30000000000004,78.62962962962962,3.6,23.814814814814817,3.1291,0.007948148148148705,118,4,21,0,3,33,26,27,0.0,0.883,0.11699999999999999,0.4926,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41478491511339854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964801727314448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077486269717566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5376315926239671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979097633615532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35870296940000723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Icy_Pause,2020/02/19,"Disciplining toddlers? First time father of a three year old boy.. Everybody has different methods. My wife thinks I'm too soft. I'm not a yeller and refuse to raise my voice, yank him away from stuff or anything like that.

I often let little things slide. I feel like kids should be allowed to be goofy, run around, and mess things up a little within reason.

When something isn't OK, I try to address it immediately by taking him aside and explaining the problem. Taking away items or removing him from an area or person. If he does something extremely inappropriate (hitting, biting) I will punish with a time out in his room with me in there for 10 minutes speaking with him and trying to make it clear how bad what he did was.

I don't know if this is working because stopping him from being bad or acting out is basically 75% of how I spend my time with him. Temper tantrums happen multiple times per day and it seems like he really doesn't care what I say or fear any of my ""consequences"".

Sometimes, I admit I give up and let him get what he wants. Like when it's something trivial that I initially forbid or say no to, and then he has his third tantrum in a row and I'm just so exhausted I just give him that extra cup of juice or let him stay up for 20 more minutes.. 

Another big problem is in public. How are you supposed to discipline in public? What about when your running errands and can't just leave the store? How do you get them to stop without being a weak parent and giving in?",4.442040816326532,5.645221843537418,5.081564625850341,83.56581632653062,70.36054421768708,7.77687074829932,27.605442176870746,8.11559375814309,1.7142013605442172,1178,40,231,16,21,379,171,294,0.156,0.773,0.071,-0.9783,3,0,4,0,0,0,32.0,0,3,1,2,16,19,4,1,9,1,22,2,0,7,1,56,43,28,0,6,14,3,2,4,0,2,2,4,2,3,15,17,0,6,7,0,2,5,7,13,0,3,2,6,31,6,38,31,3,40,0,0,0,0,37,20,0,11,18,157,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750302393264739,0.11569379504648585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079467719534222,0.09821978269880456,0.0,0.0,0.2073230146679871,0.0,0.18424693168871906,0.06725798693127724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124918705677214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115567240701264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152745261644582,0.0,0.0,0.09655317221338658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241553256220027,0.05578769171830572,0.07882193389308685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093849213257694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152889016962028,0.31752446881813473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756712812624367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063614414937181,0.0,0.0,0.11682674084671947,0.0,0.3384689748543828,0.0,0.215612568197854,0.22116534974925592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364814980457282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577594794403424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251176534474355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963385402048892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114760500097385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068215996628882,0.11344072389434035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548249714732406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044304059629756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548192551668804,0.10912218125455067,0.0,0.0,0.11760032256489028,0.0,0.184486695733742,0.0,0.0,0.12630491473713254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591340481904118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660071617412368,0.07069694628020176,0.0,0.0,0.2573442926500845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981776074545386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650772757740427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063570972207622,0.0,0.0803237550243896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105084959672722
parenting,Fl1pbv,2020/02/19,"9 month old has pneumonia. Feeling pretty bummed and need advice. Hello all,
First time poster and first time dad here. Just found out that DS has pneumonia. I’m feeling anxious/afraid/sad all at once. I feel like I’ve failed as a parent for letting this happen. I’m also super anxious and just worrying about anything that can happen. We’ve been given amoxicillin and just started treatment today. I already suffer from anxiety and you can bet that this has my mind thinking of all the bad things. I’m just coming here for any advice and maybe words of encouragement from parents who’ve experienced the same with their children. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks all.",3.462926829268291,6.548382121951221,3.725073170731708,82.96078048780487,81.4390243902439,5.881626016260163,24.46016260162601,7.3011,1.4708367479674802,543,20,90,8,15,168,84,123,0.12,0.7020000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.7845,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,1,4,8,7,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,4,28,24,8,0,2,4,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,3,4,5,4,11,18,5,11,0,2,0,0,9,2,0,1,9,54,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929232633790532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539701883108818,0.11985949769615267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038479565207271,0.0,0.11465828322193512,0.338644934154201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333900021760323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514407809807948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910890437134676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273524726404339,0.1070747627713365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549768002260473,0.0,0.16433639116395235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650779188586845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046183702865602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153263114288078,0.0,0.07322411240765264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505752532807174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133672533147938,0.0,0.11963330093420058,0.0,0.0,0.1111345991738668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727452434177505,0.1596179954032349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328494382992189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524824990804574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608629199788358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798996086237084,0.0,0.0,0.09957404069623484,0.09603746543288562,0.0,0.0,0.1747932188738263,0.0,0.14206932642363265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221107042798646,0.0,0.10647090995777976,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoodByeTexas,2020/02/19,"Taking son to psych hospital. My wife and I have made the decision to take our 11 y/o son to a psych hospital tomorrow morning. We expect he will be admitted. We are at wits end with his behavior lately, and this has even led to him being arrested at school last week.  He has never been an easy child to raise, but it’s at the point where I don’t even recognize him at times.  I’m devastated right now. 

Not asking for advice, just need to tell someone.",2.3920652173913006,4.1871216847826105,4.286304347826088,84.81467391304348,76.71739130434783,8.513043478260869,23.45652173913044,9.188382445141503,1.8612782608695653,353,11,74,9,8,120,72,92,0.10099999999999999,0.8859999999999999,0.013000000000000001,-0.8423,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,1,15,16,3,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,9,0,12,11,0,16,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,0,8,46,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465493430586856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23587094137607134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346717615620668,0.0,0.0,0.3332898986987176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20566209715407366,0.28461081852795345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387369144014164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708082179154484,0.19459302577443774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385096002733801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546693161067096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25534594052340504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21377704917453413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794036390956924,0.0,0.22052552722269175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712096535906827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023837020829969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hsvakr,2020/02/19,"It’s the little things that mean the most sometimes The three year old and I had one hell of a day. Left the house at 8am to get to airport number one for our first flight at 11. Flight one was an hour long and absolutely fine. Layover for 4 hours at BWI, for the most part - completely fine. Flight two was a little over two hours long and I’m anticipating an amazing flight, it’s not full so we got a whole three seats to ourselves and I was wrongly assuming he would nap since it’s 4pm and it’s about thag time. WRONG

Everything that could go wrong - goes wrong. Fights me tooth and nail at take off and landing about the seatbelt and I have to hold him down to get it on and hold it on. His “excuse” was actually cute though - kept saying “I just want to cuddle mommy I want to cuddle mommy!!!!”

Attempts to leave our row multiple times and crawl out into the isle like a wild man.

Bangs the tray table and kicks the seat in front of us.

Stands up and makes faces and shit at the people behind us - they were not amused.

Spilling drinks and snacks and having a grand old time doing so.

Won’t watch his damn iPad because it doesn’t have Tom the tow truck on it only because I just bought a whole damn season of his favorite show PAW PATROL. Wouldn’t even entertain the idea of watching his favorite show that mommy just spent 20 bucks on for even a SECOND.

Throwing metal cars up and down and all the fuck around. Here there and every fucking where! I had to take them away so many times and explain that THOSE COULD HURT SOMEONE, like BADLY!

Right before the flight I was getting all dreamy getting my hopes up thinking about the “glorious” two hours I’ll have to “relax” while he “naps” just to not even be able to read two sentences in a row in my book without doing or saying or reprimanding some shit.

The whole flight I was so embarrassed and couldn’t stop thinking about all the people around me and how they probably think I’m the worst mother in the whole world and how I just can’t wait to get off this damn plane. 

Then it happens, it’s time. We’re getting off this damn plane! And the stone faced older man diagonal from us the one I was probably most worried about annoying turned to me and said to me “your doing a remarkable job.” Funny thing is almost the same exact thing happened a year or so ago. A terror of a flight without daddy, just him and I and an older man at the end of the flight says something along similar lines.",3.3517461066540832,4.950054286298567,3.6820040899795536,90.99680509674377,73.62167689161555,6.405977662419381,22.354412458706946,6.900799576094004,0.4589767815007075,1922,48,405,17,39,596,242,489,0.133,0.7709999999999999,0.095,-0.9778,1,0,2,0,1,0,36.0,6,1,3,2,27,31,11,2,39,0,27,11,5,3,4,79,58,39,0,8,14,1,0,2,0,3,0,4,0,3,20,32,2,5,7,10,3,4,10,20,0,12,15,6,34,11,63,36,15,66,1,1,2,4,29,36,9,10,27,264,54,3,0.06953002080121316,0.0,0.0678512704759031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061634168238880786,0.0,0.06962427224171913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379291946704797,0.0,0.0,0.06532574333106346,0.0,0.05805466309810391,0.08476971065219745,0.0,0.0591649265738203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290090394606806,0.0,0.0,0.11102812780096724,0.0,0.0,0.04484111134167768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811295002981159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061582960826328324,0.0,0.0,0.13777176895787244,0.0,0.05858204133022954,0.0,0.06248909937450803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914220017408432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855876767778576,0.21795939673713235,0.0,0.0395155131412876,0.0,0.055609509323009766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12297033553618565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690589991585648,0.2738922589322897,0.08022830872531124,0.0744333253217936,0.07849093026135018,0.0,0.0,0.06899781698699256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736222526860246,0.07554457104261328,0.0,0.0,0.06793771213292757,0.1393746940693668,0.0,0.12306376085383595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04641182879426966,0.07049252792413746,0.0,0.07573857607658381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14592012124489676,0.0,0.18846136618393547,0.05288071396205573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529423687664981,0.0,0.0964067235549833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993024468082658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954883661230199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059378257858656774,0.06613897199650635,0.16587918981544106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274313435839653,0.05751595171017315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058912560991422135,0.0535276069422464,0.06876696845042816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813021073805246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045558450493155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385779688609696,0.13365608949068292,0.0683128924139942,0.0,0.20271757137401555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562869658363308,0.2716829088624712,0.0,0.2509081620545984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202121545855337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105111406574492,0.0,0.13404891773558214,0.0,0.0,0.07061111119115854,0.0,0.0493921318634279,0.304080650962405,0.0,0.08955010752940758
parenting,Dominant_Des,2020/02/19,"My 5 year old throws huge fits during time out and cant wipe his butt yet. Ok so me and my husband use ""natural parenting"" for our son. Meaning we dont spank. Lately our 5 year old son has been a little shit. He wont listen. He lies all the time. And when we put him in time out he gets violent and starts punching and kicking the wall and even threatens to hurt himself if we dont let him out of time out. He is also starting to do this at daycare. We are at a loss completely at this point. We tried spanking him 1 time to see if maybe that would get him to stop but no luck. So we didnt do it again. He starts kindergarten this August and we are really worried about how he is going to handle actual school. Is there anything we can do? We praise his good behavior all the time. He even gets an allowance if he does what he is told like picking up his toys without throwing a fit. We tried ignoring his bad behavior but it gets so bad that he was screaming at the top of his lungs and our neighbors called the cops because they thought we were abusing him. We dont know what else to do. Should we put him in a behavioral daycare? Actual therapy? 
Also he has to wipe his butt once he is in kindergarten and he struggles real bad. We are doing our best to teach him but this is our first child. Any tips on teaching him to wipe his own butt?",1.3949462365591394,3.3800834050179285,2.7353405017921157,93.85634408602152,80.54121863799283,5.853763440860216,22.51971326164875,6.937597516519254,0.546425089605735,1046,34,232,12,27,338,146,279,0.156,0.7490000000000001,0.096,-0.9601,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,19,0,1,5,13,16,2,1,10,1,29,5,5,4,2,49,44,22,0,5,7,4,0,1,1,3,0,2,1,1,10,27,0,2,3,1,0,5,8,10,0,1,6,3,39,6,27,34,4,45,1,2,1,3,59,20,4,4,21,148,49,3,0.0,0.12357752762138767,0.20356199837629865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668161066283593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092705022245868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582937609121716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612564912732866,0.06357984007193435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094556028892026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065011710529064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935575403831588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127295549356217,0.0,0.3667137481185228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871286199012925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777731014809436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871686831629251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179681630793744,0.0,0.05927565368700141,0.08748124228804577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116544785530472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057320126924628526,0.0,0.1176540698320892,0.0,0.0,0.10665302502804956,0.0,0.05095533344436013,0.10453522479701194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478259124088847,0.11361243343114805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21888898524362974,0.11107527168389628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581194744213888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859648101687264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20969905944916886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871535314361932,0.06681675488128057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555638493668336,0.08311297942006657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706165662296296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214705868689902,0.0,0.0,0.08719882310881544,0.0,0.10903619675829736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927525464755785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280193507191369,0.3649063044401482,0.0,0.0,0.09966238004542197,0.0,0.14162465608529315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900810435621058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054073189434988,0.0,0.0,0.10592092676251352,0.0,0.0740911776276597,0.0,0.0,0.13433056386153097
parenting,fshbl_787,2020/02/19,"Potty training my 3y/o is draining the life out of me. Between me and my husband, I’m usually more patient. But also, I find bathrooms..icky. So potty training a three year old boy is testing my limits on being a normal, compassionate human. 

I ask him not to do something/touch something. Its like he never heard me, genuinely. “Don’t touch that, don’t touch that, don’t—” Too late. He’s done it. I lose my temper. This happens nearly every day. And then I feel bad because i see his face fall. Why am I not making this a happy experience? But also Ugghh. I feel my soul is slowly being sucked out of my body. It makes me irrationally angry. The energy of this kid is like, a hyper, manic, can’t focus or listen energy. I can handle it outside of potty training, but i hate who i turn into during those 10 minute sessions so many many times a day. Help.",1.2741547987616073,3.6508644588235306,3.7253560371517014,84.28989164086687,83.82352941176471,5.2260061919504635,20.712074303405565,6.5966054737557815,0.5969411764705885,658,20,122,7,19,228,109,170,0.10400000000000001,0.805,0.091,-0.47,0,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,2,5,9,3,0,7,0,13,3,2,2,1,19,26,11,0,1,6,1,4,2,0,0,1,2,0,3,11,5,0,1,3,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,2,7,22,4,11,22,1,15,1,1,1,0,14,5,1,1,11,81,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782948877060963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266616887342109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528242580189732,0.10606856142860308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932743671415263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22443073764335308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780620362064964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660219556352447,0.0,0.0,0.1702050292394134,0.0,0.0,0.17595888535972007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903251252977035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386730104849924,0.18522584511445436,0.0,0.1717886145881232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662828641878828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962791652069413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290108675146699,0.17001486349896794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946610822345629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23229221265962585,0.3528166356049757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341992439066336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048269697382387,0.0,0.0,0.1825833452167425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865517989912346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395341853588374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146058542142547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926163573352536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916360135519861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700760510475795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205005901686127
parenting,mystikhybrid,2020/02/19,"Sharing a poopy win Been potty training our 3 year old daughter, was going well, then she regressed a bit, getting back on track and today she says ""I gotta go to the bathroom like a big girl I want you to stay here"" me: ""ok just yell if you need me""  


She did a # 2 and even wiped, came to inspect and it was a clean extraction - no cleanup neeed. Job well done!",1.0715428571428554,2.8403741733333336,2.276571428571433,97.824,80.6,4.819047619047621,22.714285714285715,5.288315135182226,-0.05957142857142905,273,9,64,1,7,87,60,75,0.027999999999999997,0.722,0.251,0.9392,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,1,6,6,0,0,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,12,5,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,6,2,10,6,4,5,1,11,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,6,38,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942032401366055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757303769198893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888616394638299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25845681946934873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681366102553713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195230488677334,0.0,0.2870716169616655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506270742133606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338817925091088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18727022278538535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650194937570399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008460452411326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691956188247109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23939758282386955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489665771431308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541639861879213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264051839363505
parenting,Bittersweet2018,2020/02/19,"Sleep questions 16 mo old I apologize that this is so long. It's REALLY stressing me out at the moment & I feel like every detail is important. 

So, ever since my 16 mo old was about 3 mo, we've had the same sleep routine - rock til she falls asleep (20 min tops), then put her in her crib where she sleeps through the night (8p-8a). Up until recently, this has worked well for us. I really enjoy the bonding time with her & the calming association with bedtime. (As a life long sufferer of anxiety, that's always been really important to me.) 

However, lately she's starting to fight bedtime more & more. (FOMO, most likely.) She'll babble, become restless, etc. There have been 2 nights in the last month, where Daddy & I had to switch off because it took a little over an HOUR to get her to sleep. On top of that, we just found out Baby #2 is on the way. While we could potentially continue the routine for bedtime between the 2 of us, I highly doubt naptime will work with just me at home during the day. 

My question is - wtf do I do??? I would've LOVED to co-sleep, but she made it clear she prefers/sleeps better in her crib. When I put her in her crib & walk away, she'll stand up & cry immediately until I return. & she's not a crier, so when she tries to cry hard, she throws up. This happened once putting her into her crib to get Daddy to switch out w/me, & another time after she got shots at the drs. CIO wouldn't work for us anyway. Since she's not a crier, I feel absolutely awful making her get so upset like that. 

Should I try laying next to her crib? Convert to toddler bed, & stay in the room or lay w/her til she falls asleep? Maybe once #2 arrives, she'll be more inclined to co-sleep? I've read about modified CIO, but feel like - regardless if I leave for 1 min or 5 min, she's just going to stand there & cry until I come back. Obviously, especially as a FTM, seeing her get so upset when I could easily avoid it, makes me feel like complete shit. I just don't know what to do & its REALLY stressing me out!!! If anyone has any advice or has experienced something similar, I would really appreciate some input!",2.7622828048466097,4.456016617169375,4.164549497293116,86.52867008249548,75.40371229698377,7.201881928332044,22.645076050528488,7.984000788550335,1.045618664604279,1666,46,347,26,36,551,214,431,0.127,0.785,0.08900000000000001,-0.9685,1,1,1,0,1,0,97.0,5,0,0,6,22,20,2,7,18,1,27,10,7,3,3,49,48,24,0,8,13,0,5,5,0,7,2,0,3,0,13,11,0,1,8,2,0,10,4,10,1,0,9,7,55,10,57,29,7,77,0,1,1,1,37,28,1,10,40,205,68,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345160075540139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551426576879906,0.6519343053183427,0.0,0.03719745390331294,0.057357068920111075,0.04184487573558058,0.0,0.0,0.03824707809542008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051391867801807975,0.042060446581875535,0.0,0.033344234150977266,0.06041116734335403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048377156228056134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04711867217930234,0.05735125889408903,0.0,0.0,0.08734600748915289,0.0,0.18025410027686728,0.035276574726120856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610042674700015,0.0,0.04947872051816129,0.04608658654438299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063059959248744,0.11723174331619984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599750464934032,0.0,0.0,0.11431267299436505,0.0,0.031086918019224287,0.0,0.04374809081265454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048370480802585165,0.0,0.0489999001391916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057792897835108825,0.054867937732757326,0.0,0.053867870632761335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0300613485591676,0.044587295067265637,0.061703282815087725,0.057918745113036026,0.0,0.0,0.038635789520054566,0.13361676969362773,0.054823148480916975,0.0,0.09681445945347944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936832576658373,0.05175787562785556,0.07302452136663412,0.0,0.05495287898379937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04366052299718405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05817341083945421,0.10266332478211523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479559509391107,0.11650610832681735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496395394204527,0.122551647563013,0.0,0.05471418210788815,0.0,0.17520911639988102,0.0,0.05400903845059047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043588323651530994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614812718919431,0.09049578423637572,0.0,0.3831721804171927,0.0,0.0,0.042110254846728624,0.0,0.0,0.038716502472895084,0.05830226075366854,0.0,0.0,0.12531590922455907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379129634306377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077302347446222,0.07427457648079562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973898563902436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043417821542568964,0.0,0.0,0.04918131146275377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946539961814412,0.0,0.0,0.07771373984405087,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shield_Maiden600,2020/02/19,"Anyone else find it challenging to be the favorite parent? My LO is 21 months old & has been all about mama from day 1...I think breast-feeding might be partly why this is, plus the fact that I only work part time so I’m home more often than not with her. Being the favorite has some perks, I get all the cuddles & kisses but it can be challenging sometimes!
Like today for example, I just needed my husband to watch her while I made dinner and he ended up having to literally pry her screaming from me...she tried to lunge back to grab me & clocked me in the chin w/ her head, ouch! 
I’m usually pretty good about setting boundaries and I will tell her, mommy needs to do this now so you can go play with daddy or play by yourself. This will often lead to a tantrum, as she does not want daddy (I feel bad for him too, although he takes it pretty well, I’m sure it hurts his feelings).
Sometimes I just need some time to myself or time to get things done and when she is lunging at me screaming, my husband has to resort to watching TV with her so then I’m annoyed that their quality time is just zoning out in front of the TV (and I know some people have very strong opinions on screen time, but I do let her watch a little TV while I’m making lunch, but other than that I try to avoid it)... but on the other hand I know he comes home from work & after I give him a good hr to decompress I would like him to spend quality time w/ her but I know it’s difficult when she just wants me (she might play with him for five minutes or so but then start saying mama mama & goes to look for me).

Well, I know there probably isn’t a solution to this problem, I just needed to vent and I am hoping someone can relate! I love my husband & baby girl but they can drive me nuts sometimes lol",3.443357588357585,4.288717256756758,4.375135135135135,89.04158004158009,72.37837837837839,6.881496881496881,24.23076923076923,6.844919456158928,0.7253035343035346,1395,37,300,11,26,452,191,370,0.08900000000000001,0.73,0.182,0.9897,1,1,0,0,0,0,51.0,0,1,2,6,21,25,2,1,11,1,29,9,4,3,4,62,59,28,0,9,17,4,4,2,0,5,0,3,2,1,16,12,2,1,8,6,1,5,3,9,2,1,3,12,49,16,44,46,8,37,0,1,5,3,32,8,0,12,25,199,65,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.546782046263967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05880985502023778,0.08617797848621662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467340483880661,0.07022617221507325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245108430760629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424231989899843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360295922023287,0.0860710794893729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026094666083571,0.0,0.0744941987725546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505446490061744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687264685365403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788529817888853,0.0806834893634116,0.047800178020802025,0.1410906061679246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863184652317858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687331751341959,0.0835376334837152,0.0,0.0,0.09003871943509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848929265725194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600552276854558,0.0,0.08218126189248122,0.08429771826940613,0.0,0.0,0.07062903943015886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591021917233255,0.07958446274603588,0.05614234770797124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17844933625652326,0.0,0.0,0.06713373035101519,0.0,0.0,0.2494583081916325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825657593492411,0.0,0.0,0.06396747353920383,0.0,0.0,0.0933913227494944,0.1821602525456676,0.0,0.058309486351014024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17113494146828967,0.09068201089558714,0.08047943016305077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688558638370863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126393355902087,0.0,0.2495531303461824,0.0,0.05953165602980499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927023633542528,0.0,0.0632383032532451,0.0,0.07351358146605966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587722436697398,0.05389263071084521,0.0,0.0,0.2942622346310296,0.0,0.07972398802671428,0.0,0.0,0.11420681767186318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926324269162646,0.06939741974768804,0.0992174563539948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512453207334577,0.0,0.07589385332949852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246238896035873,0.0,0.0,0.059747489231816435,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rwilmoth,2020/02/19,"Helping struggling kindergartener My son is about to turn 6 and is really struggling in kindergarten. Things just aren't clicking with him like they did with my daughter who's now in 3rd grade. His teacher says he's at risk of being held back because he's not reaching most of the benchmarks required by kindergarteners. He had a hard time in preschool also and we tried to sign him up for the special pre school for kids like him that are behind and struggling but after they did an interview and even came to our house to watch how he acted at home they said he didn't qualify for that. I have been printing out kindergarten work sheets to help with letters and numbers and he does them but it's a fight and he's so sick of anything school related when he gets home that he probably is gaining anything from me forcing extra work on him. His teacher is an older lady that is retiring after this year and I feel like that doesnt help at all because she seems to be to impatient and just ready to retire at this point. Half the time he comes home with work he wasn't able to finish in class which is then added to his daily homework list. 

Any tips?",6.4520027109454405,6.412710682819385,5.827048458149779,84.3864283293799,65.51982378854626,8.570518468315825,31.99898339545917,7.882392219407189,2.0754943409013893,923,33,182,9,13,281,136,227,0.09,0.809,0.10099999999999999,0.5334,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,2,0,4,5,10,9,1,4,7,0,18,1,0,1,1,30,26,16,0,0,5,2,2,3,0,0,1,2,4,1,11,17,0,2,2,0,0,3,5,5,0,1,9,6,19,4,37,15,3,26,0,0,2,0,37,12,0,2,14,118,30,11,0.13368268692674865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069059964370964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090881128485548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22001892167518008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279373450686416,0.0,0.1629834503054119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289738037004855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151557977133393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698662020132755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829615392366964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759398322547631,0.0955029382515331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984368636979868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975342953066467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688140614106978,0.0,0.4022839044227318,0.0,0.0,0.15425187213234928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959318247772032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637334920881196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413254684491658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564055238611079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127162848294613,0.10630983827431564,0.0,0.2705880322958077,0.0,0.12169969740752284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192625099970561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881283706765164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590289958935555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076176926122677,0.1454083754263954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29196776470737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860872674217695
parenting,Rich-Guidance,2020/02/19,"Our Adopted 6 year old keeps lying My wife and I have six children who live off and on at our house. I have two bio kids (17m and 13m) and we have four kids from her brother (14f 8f 6f and 4f). Our six year old who has been living off and on with us her whole life (and every day for the past 18 months)  is kind of a wild child. She is extremely creative, a great artist, she is extraordinarily kind and thoughtful, but also completely devious and destructive. In the recent past she has told the following lies 1) Her dad picked her up and spent the whole day with only her and she had the very best day (couldn't have happened she was with us the whole time) 2) One of the other kids hurt one of her sisters in the bathroom (that child wasn't with us at the time, and the other sister denied it, and it wasn't possible) 3) Her father gave her $20 for cleaning his house and that $20 bill was stolen by another child while they were waiting for parent pickup (we don't think this is possible because she didn't have $20 never mentioned it and hasn't seen her dad for months). The problem is that she tells her lies very persuasively. When confronted she will look you dead in the eye and continue the lie.  So far, her lies haven't gotten anyone else in trouble but we are concerned (based on our occupations) that she will make something up about us and get us into trouble, or that something real will happen and we won't be able to tell if she is telling the truth. It doesn't help that she has an explosive temper and will throw fits if she doesn't get her way. Does anyone have any advice for handling this sort of situation? Please let us know.",4.40500949796472,5.003275808955221,4.860875169606516,87.33394504748983,70.01492537313433,7.8819538670284945,25.67503392130257,7.84624498591911,1.1691194029850749,1296,35,279,15,22,412,176,335,0.156,0.795,0.049,-0.992,1,0,2,0,0,0,38.0,14,1,1,1,4,12,3,0,17,0,37,2,1,2,2,46,54,28,1,4,5,8,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,7,16,28,0,2,3,1,2,2,11,7,0,6,14,3,44,5,31,32,4,37,0,1,3,0,65,16,0,4,18,184,60,0,0.08257309800677591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068947570709847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603367664318008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615253819679072,0.08658509294115005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154740600929912,0.08460589694520937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050335794129144025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665537200280381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657632224117216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597584513372315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226027451601758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689792278361494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957139641922326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628207125920569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103713206111434,0.0,0.0,0.14603823573109598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534700702773816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905565372469272,0.08839620923368771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339476351309923,0.0,0.1719743497667782,0.04538001519145258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443658721048146,0.05832382109880933,0.0,0.0,0.14582711669853538,0.0,0.06934060575954328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055118184110137136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181811807140298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368546365284722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329315213587926,0.0,0.11190733643592886,0.06280056192045501,0.0,0.0,0.09168765346920124,0.0,0.15765073077651973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906404653754882,0.0,0.1861775223333623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901130305201218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398626308347133,0.0,0.0,0.08153097258892263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281562183680116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713761000437301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165175816436264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05290950704717757,0.0,0.06555381631282851,0.0962980749660303,0.0,0.0,0.0789021337378499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066191841220972,0.0,0.5959516196685181,0.0,0.0,0.13626290721997875,0.0,0.06554268173643488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27656974520769845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634873570200447
parenting,rebelkid4life,2020/02/19,"So odd question i suppose Me and the wife just had our first baby. So she's a few days old and we are planing to give her a bath. So the wife asks to go to her moms to do it, they have a better bath area. So of course her mom says yes but she wants to be there, along with her little sister who is 13 btw. Is it weird that i want to do it privately? Like i dont want all these people watching my daughter butt naked getting a bath. Im just looking for opinions. I just dont feel comfortable with it...",-0.4044848484848522,1.497518036363637,1.6086363636363643,99.8562878787879,86.81818181818181,4.393939393939394,18.25757575757576,5.46131890053228,-0.6355151515151514,384,10,95,2,12,127,74,110,0.069,0.838,0.09300000000000001,0.1407,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,2,8,4,0,0,6,1,10,1,1,0,1,17,19,7,0,3,4,6,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,7,6,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,4,15,3,11,17,2,6,0,0,2,1,20,2,1,2,4,63,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599460672002924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595814711908345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283085077645857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4663438925333929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005968355560237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692296917538277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394495925668422,0.1908542654653368,0.1130698230486986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490385238504986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719859972129972,0.199403610672387,0.0,0.0,0.16707077925509414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4660237213718081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087681644094108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792926254166785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228733819111176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821575839368568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520436752894316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Original-Pay,2020/02/19,"Help With a Bedwetter. Sorry if I tagged it wrong I'm new to reddit

Hi everybody! So my 6 year old has been having some issues with bedwetting, and I'm not going to berate him for it for obvious reasons. I've tried everything, bedwetting alarms, plastic sheets to goodnites but even with the goodnites he seems to pee through them and I'm getting desperate because I'm tired of cleaning wet sheets. 

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Please give me suggetsions",4.216944444444444,6.974122098765434,4.529120370370372,80.6247916666667,74.92592592592592,8.000617283950618,31.112654320987648,8.841846274778883,3.0692580246913583,354,17,59,8,8,111,62,81,0.14300000000000002,0.799,0.057999999999999996,-0.722,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,3,2,1,1,1,12,11,5,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,5,0,11,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,3,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514519067455201,0.28199511517751885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414700577438084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532825813998977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208573001579334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124900197241399,0.2226263724122068,0.1318929104007567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555420184833454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24222479241941475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22413835909076915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435224541840988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547473838933956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23861055752723803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127130622629325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25978766171567064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667347375863325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756290242052398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25373631052562245,0.28199511517751885,0.14944794297019506
parenting,mamabean36,2020/02/20,"Our Chihuahua/Pomeranian mix typically doesn't like kids - I'm 4 months pregnant and worried! So my husband and I have a 7 year old Pomchi. He's not very well socialized but once he gets to know or decides he likes someone he's extreeeemely lovey and snuggly. With strangers, though, he turns into a tiny ball of rage. Even just on walks and whatnot, and he always barks at kids. Typically won't bite or anything, just puts on a big show and is very over protective. It stresses me out a lot! Taking him on walks and stuff can be difficult because of it, and I'm super worried about how he's going to react to the baby. 

He's never been around a baby before. My partner has kinda raised him like a human baby himself. We got together 2 years ago and Boobs (dog) warmed up to me immediately, so I'm kind of hoping as long as we get him used to the smell before baby comes home he won't freak out (like won't our child smell like us and he loves us therefore he'll warm up to the baby? Hahah, probably just a pipe dream), but we still want a backup plan in case he does. 

Has anyone else been in this situation? We love him very much, are very excited to be having our first child, and really want to find a solution that will put our minds at ease. Any advice/input would be appreciated!",3.6984149563096977,4.889742861003863,4.988864052021949,83.57423694371064,72.12741312741312,7.769233895549686,25.214590530380004,8.20500826718156,1.4389490347490344,1007,30,205,15,19,335,158,259,0.08800000000000001,0.737,0.175,0.9811,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,10,0,0,3,12,18,1,1,12,0,18,3,1,4,1,44,36,21,0,4,8,1,2,5,1,6,0,0,1,6,5,21,0,1,3,3,0,6,6,4,1,1,3,4,20,14,29,24,2,30,0,0,0,3,37,15,1,5,14,114,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295289296928263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966394644403486,0.0,0.0,0.0789805561627885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120920070039639,0.1190012243429828,0.09557498637724238,0.1033910211852763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079909729606193,0.0,0.1976566092198017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000460661648125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163666421898307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702175454804557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671070873509876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615170203294688,0.09879034273475187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135882355036424,0.0,0.06600618636230561,0.0,0.09288938303209772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649991552923104,0.11535523155567465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094404123561367,0.06382861672139979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837056216403576,0.0,0.0,0.10278203277179844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873979198006637,0.2096454147644355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727033165839038,0.0,0.09270345216742626,0.0,0.08537774804585813,0.0,0.08957588561997364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187151261914556,0.12368746065163592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522074098297098,0.0,0.0,0.2335096171370833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440355188837737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054849644685484,0.0,0.11839216310548517,0.09840675650539704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275116706162304,0.0,0.1330402913103642,0.0,0.13295482596858088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732434485815449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410894479603632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263291665526095,0.0,0.0,0.27940909932737623,0.10030941506723874,0.0,0.38331731893848603,0.1370071448613785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044256239214712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358957176068308,0.0,0.08250395860866615,0.0,0.0,0.149583305807426
parenting,SoftGarbage0,2020/02/20,"What is your weird parenting confession only other parents would understand? Mine is that I sometimes put my 1 year old and 3 year old in the tub just to keep them contained and busy. 

I justify it that they are clean by the end.",5.014666666666667,5.876778022222222,5.468888888888892,82.57000000000005,68.77777777777777,9.555555555555557,30.555555555555557,9.725611199111238,2.7545555555555548,181,7,36,4,3,58,38,45,0.039,0.899,0.062,0.25,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,6,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,3,5,0,7,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,5,24,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657319892064772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173416710652229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131677175122963,0.0,0.0,0.1859693855296725,0.0,0.0,0.5430236945307053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458113357833684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418377118856764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545551850139032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737008395770374,0.0,0.0,0.3149272622020517
parenting,overzealoushobo,2020/02/20,"Watching a 24 episode of Seinfeld... I started roughly when I got home an hour and 15 mins ago.  Chatty babies, potty breaks, juice breaks, messy hands, sibling arguments and lost toys.  I got a really hearty laugh when I un-paused and saw that I had watched a full 11 minutes and 22 seconds of the episode.

Ah, parenting.",4.116499999999999,6.134970983333336,4.233333333333333,86.08500000000002,72.5,7.466666666666668,32.0,8.238735603445708,2.4539,249,12,47,4,5,77,46,60,0.128,0.805,0.066,-0.3862,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,6,6,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,5,5,1,2,1,1,9,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,6,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012869547541107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5436731020483123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34093169960154185,0.0,0.33471760462720745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710239007229529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37740133044611296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21773860767591105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24057188106836624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pixelgd89,2020/02/20,"9 mths old sleeping issue Hi guys,

My 9 mths old is having issue sleeping by himself. He will wake up and crawl to my wife. It's taking a toll on us. Any suggestion?

We are Co sharing bed with the little one.

Thank you so much in advance",-0.6199714285714286,1.57723146,1.8277142857142863,94.681,94.4,3.6571428571428566,19.142857142857142,5.288315135182226,-0.2879142857142858,183,6,39,1,7,62,44,50,0.0,0.898,0.102,0.6151,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,6,5,1,7,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,2,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570536701826745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22671326320875795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4779639841206258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294850200636415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683170420739179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4805245625853414,0.0,0.1551539204757524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4582645832091296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215463939939732,0.0,0.0,0.2108019905387392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27541903015561553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ReigningQueen16,2020/02/20,"General question pertaining to surgeries correcting/changing non-life threatening cosmetic things. I know a bunch of parents out there don’t believe in circumcising boys or getting girls ears pierced, which is fine, we all parent differently. 

My question is, WOULD you use surgery to correct or change other purely cosmetic things on your child? For example: Strabismus or a pigeon-toed gait?",8.667187499999997,11.47069009375,7.470750000000002,64.29925000000003,62.125,11.37,44.05,11.20814326018867,6.195784999999999,322,20,42,10,5,98,56,64,0.062,0.9079999999999999,0.03,-0.4515,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,1,3,14,7,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,7,6,2,3,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,5,0,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495700852681753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686642472652788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314346704046904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573176595544353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173813680049594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4919295004137615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4962920810684137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943277197292077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913167153086541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735697741224666,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LegendaryAK,2020/02/20,"Looking for your experiences with 2nd children. My[32/M]  wife[33/F] and I are expecting our 2nd child in the next week or so. We have a 3yo son, and are about to have a daughter. I'm not really nervous like I was with the first - since I have a general idea of what to expect this time. I'm curious what people's experiences were like bringing a 2nd child into the house with an already established routine regarding the first child. 

We're wanting to make sure he's involved / doesn't feel left out and/or ""abandoned"". I don't think he's fully prepared for the division of our attention haha. 

Any general tips and or advice regarding having a 2nd child and/or tips for having a daughter would be greatly appreciated.",5.935261437908494,6.971175794117652,6.528333333333332,75.17222222222225,66.79411764705881,9.86797385620915,34.22875816993464,9.994966539143718,3.5282689542483663,572,26,102,13,9,187,86,136,0.036000000000000004,0.843,0.12,0.8685,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,1,0,2,2,7,0,1,12,1,13,0,0,1,1,25,21,6,0,4,3,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,9,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,2,8,5,15,17,0,10,0,1,1,0,15,4,0,2,7,60,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057320201924387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23233021799223805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317077934790126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4118865659553109,0.0,0.0,0.10645264326795327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581613259908788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321151913224195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429287154559933,0.0,0.2376679898440896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22874650973748145,0.0,0.0,0.20571318779731784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679607878556713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405335115508715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239059853090784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595821528981315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487388577202575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415643541757966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984264130105677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490210063720012,0.0,0.0,0.1227644456094876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417878943270927,0.0,0.16887819438905946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955777253509625,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thing1nthing2mom,2020/02/20,"My autistic son Every single day, many times a day my son would ask what’s for supper. Absolutely drove me nuts. He moved out about 3 weeks ago. Every morning at 5:50 a.m. I call him before he leaves for work to tell him to have a good day and that I love him....and I always ask “what are you having for supper?”",1.3774358974359018,3.1782815384615404,2.7950000000000017,94.31916666666667,79.76923076923076,4.94871794871795,15.448717948717947,5.46131890053228,-0.8839743589743594,240,3,54,1,6,78,47,65,0.04,0.848,0.11199999999999999,0.6743,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,8,6,1,10,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,0,6,28,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388835005001728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18199844384797445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089605683649699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612062630208293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334479331289414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231825953463153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685739796814489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345788862615134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316003851132359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19740972007632526,0.0,0.0,0.22175491810147893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324722599116547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911770997008576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754151329671035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544966189732114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923591176610508,0.0,0.0,0.15537743472640428,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shakethecryingaway,2020/02/20,"Disney What are people thoughts on going to Disney? I am planning a Disney world trip/universal/NASA trip for my daughter once she turn 7 or 8, as Disney world is pretty far away from where we live (outside the US, it's an expensive trip no matter how you do it).

But we often fly to LA or go to Mexico for a winter vacation. Is it worth it to go to Disneyland when she is a little younger?

What are people experiences for something like this.

Currently my daughter is only 7 months old, so it's not a pressing matter. But I freaking love Disneyland and love Disney world even more. It's something I want to share with her as she grows up.",5.042031250000001,5.410031640625,6.1374999999999975,79.5575,68.53125,8.9,29.28125,8.841846274778883,2.25410625,502,17,97,8,8,168,81,128,0.038,0.79,0.171,0.9363,1,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,0,1,6,5,0,0,6,0,8,2,0,1,0,15,16,10,0,1,5,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,1,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,1,1,13,4,16,15,1,20,0,0,0,2,13,9,0,3,6,66,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19654309732694675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381695730475098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20463025740618312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566664969685495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220081461792298,0.2096656897003352,0.1847206760440024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776085233340644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669753365235551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21951217949752735,0.22278302353564086,0.0,0.15910020737598785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900552689406445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128238241283315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32209297971894096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607535746047775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22754120374898054,0.0,0.0,0.25163263771273725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338706695649082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluebelle236,2020/02/20,"FTM query about bedtimes So I'm a FTM and baby is 11 weeks old. She currently has her last feed at 10pm and will then sleep from around 11pm to 7am, with a few stirs during the night. At what age do we need to be putting her to bed much earlier?",1.5503571428571448,2.035313321428575,3.145000000000003,97.45000000000002,76.5,7.028571428571429,21.142857142857142,7.1686216300943375,0.1052642857142856,190,4,51,2,4,63,47,56,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,5,2,1,0,0,6,7,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,9,5,2,11,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321242006500532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30411356824239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742599502157775,0.27663734374021703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501144213841085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914893019396035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750528529782917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37335382153815067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29926578910870505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisHurts_much,2020/02/20,"My little girl hit me And I was shocked, then I was livid, then I broke down crying once I got her inside my office.

My sweet little girl, is 6 years old, I do not hit her. She has always had a temper but she never uses physical violence, not in school, not at home. 

I was walking her through my office and two of my coworkers saw, I was telling them that she was a bit cranky but they were complimenting how alike we look. My daughter was upset because my ex was supposed to pick her up today and was late. And she hit me on the side, and it hurt, but not as much as the shame that filled me as I heard my coworkers suck in a breath. 

I was ashamed, that she was so upset she thought hitting was okay (I don’t condone hitting kids) but I was even more ashamed that this was witnessed by coworkers. I already second guess every decision I’ve ever made when it comes to her because I don’t feel like a good mother but I try my damn hardest to be and this just killed me.

I explained to her (once I calmed down and we were in private) how she made me feel and how surprised I was that she hit me since she’s never done that before, she cried her eyes out and apologized a thousand times but I’m still a bit hurt. 

I told her I forgave her and we had a long talk about hitting, but today I feel like a failure of a parent.",1.3012792642140454,3.1631764021739173,2.744202898550725,94.2951672240803,80.26811594202898,5.405574136008919,22.209587513935343,6.297961479604792,0.2513778149386847,1021,32,229,8,26,332,137,276,0.193,0.6920000000000001,0.115,-0.9784,1,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,3,0,2,0,10,21,4,5,11,1,25,2,2,7,3,44,49,27,1,0,12,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,10,15,0,0,6,0,0,3,8,13,0,3,26,8,59,8,21,15,4,29,0,3,3,0,37,12,2,1,16,165,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783677814982562,0.0,0.10393172348772936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228296733571206,0.0,0.10628573002717123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27272980770079525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759538191661426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744065549714221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782211278323255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249917582816511,0.11298454698890045,0.10523861669120163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946854395941234,0.1784656147476321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476515155405833,0.09989866694881007,0.0,0.13759794236358694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125290812374086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674287209773151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818988354866155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089930749182933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220454371968937,0.2503770724365455,0.0,0.11053780017726636,0.10488950640996453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363779851087559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182021602969828,0.0,0.1926702766688054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310677415682775,0.2660414362556842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869323192275115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641144977088767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033234598558305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997500214228011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039463945773737,0.1091732711730916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916134076166098,0.07283364084273619,0.0,0.2367923964596717,0.11935295014807493,0.0,0.08480291414765741,0.0,0.1220149249586428,0.0,0.0,0.1078786027049978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043531112051029
parenting,squiiiishy,2020/02/20,"I'm new to all of this: How am I supposed to get my son to kindergarten in the morning if I have to be to work before his day starts? New mom, bear with me.


My son will be 5 this September and attending kindergarten. We live too close to the school for him to be bussed. I am a single mom, and I have to be to work at 8 am. His kindergarten doesnt start until 8:55 am. It also ends at 3:55 and i dont leave work until 4. 

I didnt see any mention of a before or after school program option...


What am I supposed to do here?",0.5797391304347812,1.9246572782608704,2.7471739130434787,95.84945652173916,80.56521739130434,5.2956521739130435,20.195652173913047,5.6839178017228535,-0.2460260869565216,397,10,97,2,10,135,68,115,0.0,0.985,0.015,0.1301,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,4,0,16,0,0,1,1,11,21,9,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,14,0,20,15,2,14,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,3,9,69,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473117859021403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526836464680952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134964021722567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187994973464718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21589145173916294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315440390246014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624154412309284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950506209797124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16265982818056315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4314864603684824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.355820195221396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.372858470148544,0.14679063883554755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26076800644636433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023188060382176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,satirerocks,2020/02/20,"3.5 year old addicted to videos I am his Dad and struggle to get my son to play outside with me. He prefers to watch his favorite cartoons on the tablet or phone. I try and get him to play in the park, kick a ball around, play tennis, etc... But it all falls on deaf ears. He will throw a tantrum if I use force to take the videos away. Eventually after 1-2 hours of video he sometimes get bored and will agree to play outside.

His Mom is more strict and does a much better job than me in limiting his video. She is also much more gregarious so can engage with him better. I struggle in that area.",2.5062295081967183,4.040330114754099,3.1925901639344265,93.90281967213114,75.72131147540983,6.191475409836067,22.85573770491804,6.742157984588678,0.3669711475409829,462,13,105,4,10,145,81,122,0.071,0.753,0.17600000000000002,0.9198,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,3,11,1,2,6,0,6,3,1,1,1,14,11,9,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,7,0,1,1,9,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,3,14,7,19,9,6,14,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,2,4,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170600489299742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159228751982692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725073372430022,0.0,0.0,0.1870710536009048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521944608317837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424311221205527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22206105903321732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120813626505211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960839281687556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19758664290286576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331960411760391,0.0,0.0,0.29273854366401963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089331818584468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969255699972201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163074629104522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970646406871874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518309289329436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196771263398106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822076038769412
parenting,eleven8ster,2020/02/20,"Problem with my son's counselor My ex-wife has been doing a great job of initiating some extra care my 6 year old son will need emotionally. She picked a counselor for him so we can help him learn how to deal with the big emotions he has. We met with the guy two times, he seemed like he'd do an alright job. I was happy to be helping my son and happy my ex and I were coming together with it. At the end of the second appointment the guy(who I barely know) says he'd be willing to charge insurance company an extra visit after every 3 visits and waive our copay. At first I thought cool. I'm broke. But the more I think about it I feel more and more uncomfortable. Why is he willing to risk his license trusting people he just met? He's in his 40s, it's not like he young and naive. I just have lost trust in him. My ex is all for not paying but will compromise with me and pay. I don't even want to have my son go to this guy at all. I guess I'm just looking for some perspective. I'm not good at sticking up for my boundaries on much of anything.",1.2317953667953638,3.092281986486487,2.9905148005148017,92.45094594594595,80.48648648648648,5.850193050193052,21.83268983268983,6.868970318607317,0.427317631917632,819,25,184,9,21,272,128,222,0.076,0.816,0.10800000000000001,0.7151,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,2,7,15,0,1,10,2,21,0,0,2,2,38,39,10,0,3,8,6,1,2,0,4,0,1,0,2,4,14,0,0,6,0,2,4,4,4,0,3,7,4,29,11,28,24,10,20,0,2,1,0,33,9,0,4,9,120,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112829367076823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500743078185647,0.0,0.0,0.12679477907728026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175076798595122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33114735054298405,0.13037038114988472,0.0,0.0,0.09722038796513302,0.0,0.12401747097380796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442581563598398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520332045226634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365386204945956,0.12345952037782973,0.0,0.16228213697042276,0.16215101794053235,0.4372362313889783,0.0,0.3133819487734367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973223534622936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921350834193245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089408875573302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382331259126932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360606520346205,0.0,0.1606798688423057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820468126909452,0.1091426421648097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445556342917394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204593224024837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084498065570178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705474431507334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400008122015072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431610679369326,0.0,0.11685576156628932,0.08583012798082469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378735572732906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681895915872254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281988058841254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947882457579954
parenting,lteagler21,2020/02/20,No diaper potty training method Hi all.. so I’m ready to potty train my toddler and I’ve read about the no diaper potty training method. I tried it for one day and wanted to get others feedback. I know accidents are bound to happen but my toddler hasn’t given me any signs that she needs to go. I’ve been taking her to the potty every 20-30 mins and she will pee afterwards. I’d love to hear others experience with this method or anything else that has helped.,2.9186290322580644,4.794112408602151,4.296438172043016,84.96465725806455,75.45161290322581,6.800537634408602,21.302419354838708,7.645422480735847,0.8677322580645153,366,9,71,5,8,121,65,93,0.052000000000000005,0.8640000000000001,0.083,0.7040000000000001,0,0,3,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,1,0,1,12,16,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,8,1,9,13,1,4,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,1,3,40,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20037500722407736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424753574323893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19002762753494865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461458327589841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482589301882661,0.0,0.0,0.2882284150603308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394469428329244,0.0,0.16745881153230188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26056179719835265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320967762790826,0.0,0.19750054564137096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193428051193146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659369820803458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848240710761554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996653585648428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29473400689263674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215433403093012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005090721517368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737947222400243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shamsonian,2020/02/20,"Have any parents of toddlers worked at home before? What was it like, and any tips? I have two toddlers and was just hired at an at home job. I've never worked from home before. And these kids keep me pretty busy. It helps that they like to play in the backyard during the day. But it also seems this job might keep me busy. Any tips from parents who've had at home jobs before?",1.4273051948051965,3.651894766233767,1.8027110389610392,99.28120941558443,81.85714285714286,3.85,16.118506493506494,3.1291,-1.1838818181818185,295,5,65,0,8,89,48,77,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.9143,5,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,10,9,5,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,7,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,4,3,9,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,4,37,11,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000308843587264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806273831398832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511488124452397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871192167490573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220055611369543,0.0,0.5519175523589407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095078435712487,0.2445313080199437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344053440510262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14592465412988276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609128624079484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054782215914024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994340168012262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522536642194626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343717417470477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028409326522525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WFH669,2020/02/20,"Suggestions for getting 3yo to go to sleep on her own? Any tips or advice for getting my three year old daughter to stay in her bed and go to sleep on her own? Or any books/methods you suggest on the topic?

Right now she has to be rocked to sleep or one of us has to be laying in bed with her. She is currently not taking any naps either, which I really feel like she could use in the afternoon but I’m breastfeeding right now, and it makes it hard if my infant starts crying to eat because she just gets out of bed and I have no real way to stop her while I’m feeding him (and since my husband is at work and can’t lend a hand). 

We already have a bedtime routine that we’ve been doing for forever: dinner, milk, bath/brush teeth, a book or two and then bedtime (at 7)... but are willing to try a different routine or adjusting ours if anybody thinks that could help.",5.2548603351955325,4.686049486033522,5.893793296089385,84.68884636871509,68.10614525139664,8.947709497206704,30.19050279329609,8.238735603445708,1.9096118435754188,674,22,146,8,10,220,113,179,0.067,0.903,0.031,-0.7544,2,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,3,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,0,15,9,5,2,0,30,28,17,0,4,12,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,5,9,4,1,3,3,0,2,3,0,0,3,1,3,19,1,25,22,3,25,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,7,11,98,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482845878021377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745565700825213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095777698734902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925030484920694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24231391639627625,0.0,0.16668602736840984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854243592789466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527420147931806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672741614392907,0.10840748446130212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378433109014569,0.0,0.17248167536137632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593475016277598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171224997150613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413550702864809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129173773346263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923206470370824,0.0,0.10282712280640724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272034745876735,0.09721247348016124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25918077689847785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552598868581252,0.0,0.4555672370151593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074067105418456,0.16174121226700328,0.0,0.1268665815038237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409422457991378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972328097877927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302567932467548,0.0,0.14823394523595776,0.0,0.1825319421526252,0.13105995754965685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204490357579426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047300915619468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771954953638956
parenting,ahdn,2020/02/20,"Nighttime diaper recommendations My 21 month-old has been waking up in the morning with very leaky diapers. He’s on the higher end of the percentiles, so we’re already in size 7 of pampers cruisers and, of course, they don’t make an overnight version past size 6. Does anybody have any recommendations for a good overnight diaper that comes in bigger sizes?

Thanks in advance!",6.495735294117647,8.396521808823532,6.025764705882356,76.08394117647059,66.20588235294117,8.381176470588235,34.188235294117646,8.841846274778883,3.0395082352941185,305,14,51,5,5,94,57,68,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.7263,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,5,0,4,1,1,1,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,11,6,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,2,25,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36186954600014143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22299787505404206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824753489489938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28696632753129264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29044112995758004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750450085846777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21889015756193414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617438246560483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440984675731588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130381910847444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30190607329409563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27056959252892704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RogueSnerf,2020/02/20,"Help! My nearly three year old will not even sit on the potty! How do we do this? Bribing not working. Little guy will be three in a few weeks. We've had the potty in the bathroom since he was about a year old. When he was younger he would at least sit on it, but he won't now and screams and cries when we ask him to try it. How do we start this process? He doesn't have any delays, he speaks in full sentences, he's been walking since 10 months... he just refuses to try the potty.",0.639417475728159,2.4484393980582557,1.7163203883495155,101.1028300970874,82.20388349514563,4.508349514563107,19.03786407766989,4.935628992294339,-0.7207040776699029,370,9,91,1,10,116,66,103,0.034,0.903,0.062,-0.2528,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,2,0,14,16,7,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,4,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,4,2,5,0,10,7,3,23,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,0,11,56,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653163831293135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151890771422999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528440943144631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203302556773432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791634737403915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428612782216716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307028129263096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372905877141105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4830745302585727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808178216647192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292398876497213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125569070334294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463809838468045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757522143445813,0.0,0.0,0.16351467292403565,0.0,0.0,0.2964592940323242
parenting,PeterPenishood,2020/02/20,"Parenting a child with debilitating anxiety I don't feel equipped to help my child with and through their anxiety.

My kid has missed a lot of school recently because of panic attacks.  They just had an intake appointment with a prescribing therapist. So medical intervention is on the horizon.   


What are some things I can do to encourage and motivate without being controlling and compounding the issue?",8.22735294117647,10.558231735294116,8.281647058823534,59.910411764705906,62.529411764705884,13.675294117647061,43.01176470588235,12.688352899677879,6.985390588235295,330,20,46,14,5,107,54,68,0.159,0.726,0.11599999999999999,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,2,2,2,4,1,1,6,0,8,1,0,2,0,13,10,4,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,6,1,10,8,2,2,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,2,1,39,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810246070776265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833150640417736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181038887489734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793157026528829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592037853946592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692397140661716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599294898071251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117219963305115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508781563244481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29219077097413104,0.2765256527487107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458935806658231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520383163489566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891506661218972,0.16544883921720974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24006237809625375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lavander_Moody,2020/02/20,"Why do people ask who is looking after your child when you're out? In the past few weeks I have been treating myself to different beauty appointments and me and my other half have been attending a few social events. Every time someone will ask who's looking after my/our child. 

Like nah, no one, we put the TV on and left some pizza on the floor, he will be fine.  

Not mad, just wondering what makes people bring that up.",5.653253012048192,5.865392156626508,5.811710843373497,82.96190361445784,67.19277108433735,8.567710843373495,26.23855421686747,8.238735603445708,1.5223272289156635,331,8,65,4,5,105,67,83,0.042,0.8340000000000001,0.124,0.7979999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,4,0,9,1,0,1,0,10,16,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,5,1,0,1,1,0,3,2,1,0,2,2,2,6,3,8,11,3,17,0,0,2,0,10,7,0,2,8,44,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4287525457476011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395828008450433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320570772451254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24914874902969897,0.0,0.0,0.1120305255311512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851295647162616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306790315547789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538811385489618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890476963710875,0.3179528884772817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305224423575893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23375525967354524,0.19429577361514289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371398795999448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394069014961734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691890285675246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486796711658847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Salty-Stacey,2020/02/20,"Am I crazy for trying to minimise the sugar intake of my 7 month old? I’ve been doing a mix of purée and finger foods for my little one. I’m against her having processed foods. It was my birthday last weekend and after having told all the family I don’t want her having processed or sugary foods, on more than one occasion may I add. She was given a couple of tastes of my birthday cake. Her dad and grandad thought this was great. But I was really annoyed! I’m tired of being made to feel the villain because i say no to the chocolate biscuit! And no the salty chip off your plate! Am I being unreasonable? I’ve no doubt it was a small amount. Me and dad argued all the way home about it! He thinks I’m being crazy because it was just a little bit and it’s only once in a while. Do I need to calm down and be lenient on what she is eating?",1.3286864973262027,3.290550244318183,3.063556149732623,91.538128342246,80.64772727272728,5.050267379679145,20.58021390374332,5.900188976854957,0.039704946524063985,657,18,139,4,17,218,105,176,0.155,0.7909999999999999,0.055,-0.9514,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,2,6,3,1,11,0,21,8,1,1,2,21,32,10,0,2,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,7,8,6,0,3,1,0,0,4,4,0,2,11,5,18,2,20,16,5,15,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,3,6,96,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611465195209035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756148840871019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798592210949507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645975266580859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164226959374627,0.0,0.08133445739109836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5835291002542164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734611897723854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613533311796471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112044820117236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32244323365086763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220739091767352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839503574845235,0.0,0.0,0.11927390385781222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879303686763214,0.1713081396723027,0.21800260347249314,0.12233948581229195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304952492240364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279204538447431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030710823086636,0.0,0.12770300034740156,0.0,0.18488219719259,0.0,0.15370637102272788,0.0,0.10921178043455852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948780053546439,0.1276813094849462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maudyindependence,2020/02/20,"Almost 5 year old is aggressive at school and at home Our boy is almost 5, and his teacher has consistently reported aggressive behavior.  Yesterday he spit in a kid's face, squeezed a kid, had to go to time out several times and then visited the director.  It's been a problem for a while, and he treats his little sister the same at home.  Lots of aggression, hurting her whenever I turn my back.  I've tried the positive parenting techniques I can find online, seems to work initially then he's back to his old ways. Today I told him if he can use gentle hands the entire day at school I will get him a special surprise (probably a matchbox car), and if he can't do it today then he will get another chance tomorrow.  Not how I typically handle things, we'll see how it goes.  Any other parents dealt with aggression, what has worked?",6.76400966183575,6.5759440621118035,7.510890269151139,73.07529330572808,64.90062111801242,11.876052449965494,35.28019323671498,11.429527900616536,4.1570160110420975,658,28,123,19,9,220,107,161,0.08199999999999999,0.8340000000000001,0.084,0.3182,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,4,9,4,0,10,0,13,3,3,3,0,20,21,13,0,3,3,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,6,7,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,0,0,3,3,14,3,13,15,2,27,0,1,1,0,22,7,0,6,16,73,20,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902283025827013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854901091316416,0.15195885249693675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22286554450656315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345993294863413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245215975099167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142704239538438,0.0,0.08236007311404504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907285540813174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513740372560594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524561471285852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320385307683765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041335136296908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218279298674746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562457998428156,0.13866667503876232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933289146652112,0.11548065075600995,0.13192763867918622,0.0,0.1637157609095618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962768858783564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900536192122487,0.0,0.27473008489491263,0.13847508035260486,0.0,0.09838961111696758,0.1576288521896944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516237059383867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502893128508886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21100363484224816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332225266975594
parenting,huligoogoo,2020/02/20,"How to improve Pencil grip (writing letters numbers )for 5 year old My daughter is in pre school at this time. She turned 5 (12/19 )and did qualify for Kinder at school due to being 4 last year August. 

I guess I want some advice on how to help improve writing letters and numbers. Her teacher says she’s timid in class during interactions. 

She’s an only child and can be shy on the playground sometimes. She has friends she plays with and eats lunch with her buddies daily. She enjoys getting ready for school each day. I see that as a positive thing. 

She loves to play with LEGO’s and play dough. We do sticker activities to help her with fine motor skills too. 

She very athletic kid and is well like by her friends. I guess the fine motor part she needs more practice to strengthen her grip. What alza can I do to help her?

Any advice  on how to improve tracing/writing for my little girl.

Thanks",3.306307803468208,5.593980566473992,3.428031069364163,89.74354949421968,75.70520231213872,5.4810693641618515,26.41943641618497,6.322622252153567,0.9456823699421966,710,27,136,5,16,217,106,173,0.02,0.6759999999999999,0.304,0.9942,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,5,13,0,1,4,0,10,3,0,3,0,22,19,10,0,2,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,4,12,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,23,12,25,16,4,16,0,0,1,1,32,8,0,3,9,81,27,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044830506189157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594625866834023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047518630122602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594176550968479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407343796155523,0.0,0.08139670025272715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432525385130818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31327924852812755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269940977357435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611379467629817,0.15614798488814705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061148984241445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552036323581792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634811329213362,0.0,0.0,0.11848947156091172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871130646038507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389480695669802,0.0,0.473019984372152,0.1241488147147926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408569858538199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343553241037654,0.0,0.0,0.10350358426264107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084558852762033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946072814874014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285475748632589,0.09189220179063047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007883333695176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200654343036972
parenting,Onescaredmama,2020/02/20,"Schools becoming a dumping ground for behavior challenged kids and staff just aren't equipped for it. My husband and I have 4 kids, 3 whom are in elementary school and one who is home with me.

I am a classroom volunteer. Field trip chaperone etc.I have helped in some avenue with all of my kids classes.
This past week I helped in my daughter's Kindergarten room.
Holy crap the behavior problems. There's 30 kids in a class, 1 teacher and 1 para. 
The para tho spends most of her day dealing with the kids with massive issues.
She will take kids for walks to get them out of the class. 

When I was there you had a kid screaming and throwing themselves on the floor, a couple of kids pushing, kids hiding under tables etc 
There was a long list of kids names on the behavior board. I'm pretty sure at least half the class was on the behavior notification board.

It was insanity. Several of the kids had such significant behavior problems that it caused a massive disruption in the day. Not much learning really went on. 

I also noticed at pick up, many parents were like unconcerned with their kids behavior. One of my others kids teachers tracked down a parent at dismissal and told the mom her child was hitting other students.
The mom was like ""Well what do you want me to do about it?!? You're the teacher.😱

I'm in the process of searching new schools out.
I'm not sure by switching schools will do much in terms of behavior tho. 🙁

I don't blame the kids, many of them can't help it. Teachers aren't counselors and don't seem to be getting much support from the parents or adminstration..

I just wish I knew the right thing to do for my kids. I send them to school to get an education and it doesn't seem like much is actually going on.",3.155618041678561,5.3598723893805325,3.7468151108573617,87.67707679132175,75.84365781710916,6.852069654581787,28.04462841374061,7.831003766801068,1.7281326672376052,1376,58,274,21,31,433,173,339,0.08,0.835,0.085,0.1852,3,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,2,4,1,13,13,2,0,26,0,28,1,1,2,3,36,45,13,0,4,5,7,0,3,0,2,0,1,2,16,14,15,0,0,4,0,1,7,8,5,1,3,12,1,25,8,48,29,10,39,0,0,0,0,41,24,1,5,11,175,39,14,0.0,0.0,0.09490094723651536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776995048002093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740382522748622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990146049166533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760411388563183,0.0,0.12543505557422274,0.10025939764981634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169165725349843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524256883060081,0.0,0.05526881960120363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955517645499351,0.0,0.09754862642113753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150263812125887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253277475739215,0.0,0.0,0.08606226083610842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971903437083906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277935906496185,0.0,0.0,0.2859566725338515,0.0,0.0,0.0939236422689968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071857456394173,0.0,0.0,0.1317968111937937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239503522631223,0.0,0.09283512708129138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893714416039684,0.0,0.18610822350300052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062300167812086936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305007226123846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4921056482671989,0.0,0.17706358401299874,0.0,0.10986363311085158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035695643364887,0.1833119696692664,0.0,0.0731191079009954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646078814185648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292553959577717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057359950564753424,0.0,0.07800724202477778,0.0,0.0874384855167889,0.0901507512934122,0.0,0.0,0.1118314935495054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rawketgirl,2020/02/20,"Six year olds other parent letting him play GTA I found out yesterday that my child’s dad is letting him play Grand Theft Auto when he’s with him. When I confronted him about it, he told me it’s ok because he turns the volume down so our child doesn’t hear the cussing. He kept saying it’s not a big deal because he’s with him when he plays... a game with the title of a literal felony, with murder and theft and prostitution and drugs. 

Our child is SIX. Aside from berating him and telling our child that he can’t play that game anymore, I don’t know what to do. Has anyone else had to share a child with an absolute idiot before ? 

Please tell me what you did and if anything helped.",4.48127777777778,4.934582921428572,4.72095238095238,88.92182539682541,69.78571428571428,7.936507936507938,25.555555555555557,7.793537801064563,1.096031746031746,539,14,118,6,9,169,84,140,0.092,0.7909999999999999,0.11699999999999999,0.1531,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,0,0,5,10,3,0,8,1,11,1,0,0,0,16,17,10,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,5,9,11,0,1,2,6,0,0,4,3,0,2,5,2,16,7,12,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,34,3,0,1,6,69,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577883577082625,0.13803448087408218,0.2022710737686604,0.16245257329648527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406800352011799,0.0,0.16798236658948842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035222491125126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289342845815113,0.0,0.16491170220896806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164511596797556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224967372408031,0.0,0.13232054674193827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849201689047257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037325949392299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20714981594001572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920174347367746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669818440981856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569892867659117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450921295884898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886348338594976,0.0,0.0,0.2147266661160452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712632181131878
parenting,megahurtz83,2020/02/20,"Tech advice - best way to limit YouTube time Our 2 girls have Fire tablets, but end up spending the majority of their time on YouTube, watching garbage content (just blocked fucking Ryan's World).

Looking recommendations to give them a daily allowance for YouTube, so they are forced to do something else.

I tried Qustodio last year, but found it just didn't work that well. I've seen the timer option in YouTube kids, but haven't tried it yet and from what I've seen and read, I don't know if it will do what I'm looking for, which is a timer that restarts each day. Does anyone have any experience with this? Are there any no-cost options to do this?",6.895952380952384,6.681513515873017,5.664920634920637,86.50785714285715,64.63492063492063,8.46984126984127,34.66666666666667,7.447530270364453,2.107695238095239,517,21,108,4,7,152,89,126,0.09300000000000001,0.8859999999999999,0.021,-0.8283,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,3,3,6,3,1,0,4,0,12,1,0,1,0,17,21,7,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,10,4,0,2,2,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,4,6,6,2,12,16,3,12,0,0,5,1,7,4,1,3,7,58,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20852528395690506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29022927388674674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920942886006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22394291070708056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762090672369595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18674175448795105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826256702763169,0.0,0.18900296299685926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087394150981617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339745381545321,0.0,0.19727849785308094,0.0,0.2047061221662352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172752762468853,0.17394387134107184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35839294725967696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134508639456276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164280446709061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24886248486341636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897598375455886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938152343434776,0.0,0.0,0.1918660394302106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535273048476025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741817081088933
parenting,Stevensst,2020/02/20,"My dear dear friend keeps casually saying my child has ADHD. Ok so my friend is great!  But I vent to her, we talk about things.  Last year my child was really wiggly in class (preschool) and the school they were attending then had the talk with me about suggesting an eval.  Although I’m well aware of my child’s strengths and weaknesses, I decided not to do it.  After doing some research I figured that most children at their age at the time are in fact wiggly and that they were too young to be evaluated.  

Since then my child has been better with maturity and me watching the electronic usage and sugar intake.

My friend was privy to all this and was and still is supportive. Anyway now she causally throws out the word ADHD.  Even though my child not been diagnosed.  She’s told me before that it’s not a bad thing having ADHD, she actually has it, her son has it and that she’s never understood me being stressed about it should they in fact have it.

I was telling her how kiddo was excited at an event and she said something like well they can tend to be ADHD and hyper in new environments and tend to lose their mind at first but with continued exposure it will get better.  Something like that.  

I feel like it’s not her place to make that call and label him.  I don’t know if it’s me but I certainly to not feel comfortable to call out her kids’ behavioral patterns or anyone else’s for that matter.

Am I being too sensitive?

Thanks for reading.",3.845106775234292,5.6671866678445255,4.427776924258718,85.23301275157479,72.78091872791519,7.88993701029344,24.318482101705328,8.587818076936951,1.5534530342602553,1149,34,227,21,23,365,154,283,0.03,0.8079999999999999,0.162,0.9837,0,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,6,5,14,25,0,1,8,1,30,3,0,2,5,48,44,23,0,2,10,1,2,3,3,2,2,2,0,7,19,18,1,1,6,2,0,2,7,4,2,1,13,6,39,21,29,25,3,28,0,1,1,0,38,11,0,4,18,166,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.11125526312866674,0.0,0.5480613557650368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079716973468184,0.11681456487460133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519183315984446,0.0,0.0,0.0970123245709352,0.0,0.0,0.2016614429932068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328296224936617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571561716102227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523897004819867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530114174528021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529163810214907,0.0814472654900273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697506024906093,0.0,0.0,0.26424665878747705,0.0,0.059564421479690724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569411061308822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133545856040256,0.0,0.0,0.06265575946822337,0.09293165373385544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670955013817934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275456763645619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610115755493338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511547751720963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792991971070672,0.11010953882891608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911398862007848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403875068694976,0.0,0.07303637913770873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844761904854952,0.09066365685341682,0.0,0.1153820799040544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430851178952568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553770042146605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104685503644436,0.0,0.13059566257417932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937481219766214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18327046059270974,0.09964792841717446,0.10496315552262524,0.0,0.0,0.15148356379402686,0.0,0.11201218145647504,0.0,0.06647892246035411,0.0,0.0,0.10893943274702704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20501358515417206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341734875784603
parenting,A_Harmless_Twig,2020/02/20,"First child due in 1 month, and I (29M) am terrified Like the title says, my first child is due in about a month and I find myself having panic attacks at night over it and I am just completely scared that I will screw it up or not know what to do.  Any words of wisdom or tips?",1.2905000000000015,2.6070603833333337,2.8566666666666687,95.955,78.5,6.133333333333334,17.0,6.742157984588678,-0.4091,213,3,52,2,5,70,47,60,0.222,0.69,0.08800000000000001,-0.8357,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,2,6,2,2,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,1,6,2,8,6,0,12,0,0,0,1,3,5,1,2,8,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462712355353456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088667870377522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28465921321692034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481431425509339,0.4618700525833597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920753256515196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263961512619793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4334122864842157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25478134065616903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185429794850473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21590514020171908,0.2718156443876369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,supermomgi,2020/02/20,"AUsome mom trying to keep her 9 year old son safe in stores as he starts to look more like a man than a sweet baby. Last night, while my daughter was at soccer my Sonshine and I, went to Publix Supermarket. It was raining a bit and we had our hoods up.  


We walked into the store and as I grabbed a basket for the few items we were getting for breakfast I noticed his hood was still up. Instantly my eyes scanned around us and I looked for the police officer and made eye contact smiling as I instructed him to put his hood down and take his hands out of his pocket.  


My beautiful black boy is 9 and in a matter of months, he’s had a growth spurt that tells me there’s a lot more growing about to happen as he approaches 10. That’s the age I’ve feared since I heard the words “it’s a boy”. I feared 10 because that’s the age a black boy becomes a man. Nothing matters about the education he has or how smart he is or how sweet he is the world sees him as a threat.  


After quietly instructing him he replies “oh like at school? I thought that was only at school” I then proceeded to explain to him no not just in school but everywhere, you never have your hood up in buildings. As we wound our way through the aisles I explained to him what racism was and how it made people view him as a threat just by the way he looked. He then replied, “Oh so they might think I’m a thief?” That’s what he has been taught is the worst thing to be. I replied yes. He looked at me with the 9 1/2-year-old innocent wisdom and said: “People shouldn’t do that but ok mommy!” Because he has been taught not to make assumptions. I could have cried in aisle 6 but I held it together until now.  


My son is on the autism spectrum and since the 1st grade when he gets a haircut people often comment on how handsome he is and how nice his haircut looks and he gets embarrassed by the attention. He wears hats and hooded sweatshirts to keep people from seeing it. That’s him, it’s who he is and he doesn’t have the privilege to be comfortable. I hated having that conversation but I am not being a good mother if I don’t. We talk about race and racism but honestly in their world they so rarely encounter people who are not Black that they have no idea what I’m talking about. I didn’t want him to build assumptions that it’s only this or that and if you behave a certain way you’re fine because I hate respectability politics but I also understand that that is what will give him a better chance at surviving. Not just eating well and exercising but understanding racism and oppression. I’ve held these lessons off as long as possible but now his real education has begun. Much like I taught him to speak and read, I will teach him to be aware without being afraid and I know that I can.  


If my sweet AUsome son who loves the concrete facts (mommy how can something be real if you can’t see it was the conversation last night on the way home from soccer) can understand the abstract nature of racism, don’t tell me you don’t get it when it comes to racism. You just don’t want to! I’m mad because I’m hurt that this is the beginning of a new set of conversations and fears as he starts to venture into the world more often without me than with me. What other lessons should I be teaching my son that people found helpful for their kids?",4.193489292667096,5.064145819402989,4.690733290071382,87.37458792991566,70.65671641791045,7.8559377027903965,26.505515898767037,8.04050195162591,1.387050616482803,2609,80,554,34,46,829,290,670,0.124,0.748,0.128,-0.9083,0,0,1,1,0,0,45.0,8,6,5,4,27,35,5,5,40,2,55,9,4,9,3,103,105,61,0,9,26,7,2,3,0,5,2,4,1,6,39,33,2,5,13,4,2,7,18,13,1,0,24,24,73,22,77,68,9,65,0,1,15,1,89,26,0,11,30,361,112,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016059914594655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696975393659839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343558543073052,0.08308451318754602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653393157859723,0.08213057706860452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480311691066146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060064230093961175,0.0,0.0826355171853294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697804157527262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539605987213705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248470871260255,0.0,0.0,0.15721617715021385,0.07216650577344573,0.0,0.0630985107667755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652475075160835,0.0,0.0,0.14854611330105566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504244087712407,0.0,0.07546081455802628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805341937639685,0.08492437707241472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373397246930774,0.0,0.0,0.04134388757303742,0.12264334122061228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025925919217136,0.0,0.0,0.0665752921764445,0.3158670393425559,0.0,0.0,0.06395700029702038,0.06789710402197742,0.14236698575019394,0.0502159375104992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980607406069806,0.0,0.08810728829387733,0.0600470651082985,0.0,0.05530196638686709,0.0,0.05802123772307612,0.07265663097373336,0.0,0.14119462902044635,0.0,0.07218424846857309,0.08564870803232766,0.1578803481853512,0.0,0.0,0.11443007943513896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31292587243793785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848093871223185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562591713586225,0.0,0.0,0.07524935181357216,0.17125412928750386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156000035049864,0.0,0.0,0.22840727396732535,0.17984330433471074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446040209867985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791495476752859,0.0,0.0,0.10649493799721424,0.0,0.06007797160952884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056562840958360526,0.12093243115258387,0.1315069128307403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04997880070258828,0.04820370160024445,0.0,0.05972341790074168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05107554861540806,0.0,0.0,0.2349481068521337,0.09049121681499407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874401929428906,0.2388530945628181,0.0,0.0,0.06763990004668413,0.06973803092059568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503613090099024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096890011029051
parenting,ourcityofdreams,2020/02/20,"To folks who either have a 5yo or whose kids were recently 5, what are/were they into? (shows, toys, activities, etc..) My 5yo son recently told me that the kids in his class dont know anything about the stuff he is into - but then wont really explain what other kids are into.   I want to make sure that I am at least exposing him to some of the stuff his classmates may be into so that he has things in common with them. 

Apart from Marvel, he has shown an interest in more seemingly random things.  Since we have a library near by and of course Youtube, I can give him as much of what he is looking for as he would like.  

I guess the real question is, is should I be concerned about his comment and try to expose him to more of the trendy stuff other kids around him are doing?  Or do I continue to nurture his curiosity whichever way it goes (within reason)? 

Looking for an opinion!",4.297952380952381,5.1857707142857175,5.066642857142861,84.71177380952379,70.42857142857143,7.890476190476193,26.583333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.5175619047619042,685,21,139,9,12,222,110,175,0.025,0.867,0.107,0.9406,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,9,0,22,0,0,2,1,29,32,9,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,4,16,9,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,19,4,30,24,7,18,0,0,2,0,28,12,0,9,6,110,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473481704846005,0.14575330692559385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918888847154676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826008446533934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706354357674301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803656856243786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998104339214254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998960078624731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27498184076686266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929021718451297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035947583150595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341367978621684,0.0,0.0,0.18635917112632536,0.10488883474037464,0.1683404319711917,0.32332479182198365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490525118495322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354381203516568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5622907676454159,0.0,0.0,0.15431241654570566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175482229029508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644984448871113,0.0,0.11116107908627608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657146339716964,0.12996026696955268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630821191055125,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chippedcup0707,2020/02/20,"Online language lessons for kids?  I’m looking for a good method for my 9-year old to learn a language online at home. It’s more convenient because of my tight work schedule, but I’ve never tried it myself or know anyone from my close environment who has, so I’m not sure if it’s going to go well?   I have already done some research online, but I still haven’t reached a final decision. Has anyone tried a similar method for their children before?  Is it helpful?",3.453666666666667,5.61127297777778,4.268611111111113,84.49625000000003,74.7777777777778,6.277777777777778,27.91666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.5933333333333333,368,15,67,4,8,118,63,90,0.033,0.8420000000000001,0.125,0.7918,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,2,14,12,5,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,1,4,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,2,7,3,9,11,2,9,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,3,5,42,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616091081751684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33152523643352205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451372053857864,0.0,0.20172638549292848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426016436189427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596950910069672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694610506089081,0.1988403837769784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890087848285855,0.0,0.2377973290415919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028571311676165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907640469525253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284053040038686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487617270402218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18932185223096026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234326528623432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32190559063574703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131515232369158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258745341374215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526632462720221
parenting,MrsDowner,2020/02/20,"When to stay home from school I keep my son home from school if he has a fever in the last 24 hours, doesn’t feel well, or has a nasty cough etc...

But he has had this lingering cough for weeks, he coughs maybe once a hour and it doesn’t sound nasty or nothing. Just a regular cough. 

His dad is saying we should be keeping him home till the cough is gone, but I think him going to school is fine since he’s not contagious. 

Just wondering what others opinions are :)

Do you keep your kids home from school for a simple cough?",1.8356074766355164,3.799444196261682,2.0372056074766363,99.51468691588785,79.0,5.775327102803737,17.242056074766353,6.742157984588678,-0.4479226168224297,407,7,96,4,10,122,72,107,0.043,0.861,0.096,0.6912,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,7,0,13,7,0,0,0,18,21,8,0,2,8,2,1,0,0,1,7,2,4,1,4,2,0,3,3,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,2,3,9,2,9,17,1,10,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,5,6,54,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104441431445753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847936551701747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697011241654983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5434043133826193,0.0,0.2667498949673792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611391782174548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039656975821847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606138988691038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995232096899362,0.0,0.0,0.14423250721709255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077023416264366,0.0,0.5482646793074702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120321847535706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443543409988008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678046852528776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863677261928344,0.0,0.1217711922983341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687210790343225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beetlejuice250,2020/02/20,"Has anyone had success sleep training a one year old? I just need some motivation over here... My baby has always slept with us at night and during the day napped in my arms/stroller/baby carrier/etc, but we think it's time for him to learn to put himself to sleep so we are starting to sleep train just for naptimes. 

I just started today and it is giving me so much anxiety. All I hear is phantom sobbing, even though in reality all he's doing is fussing. And this is day one 🙃

Does anyone have a success story doing this? I need some motivation to keep me going..",3.312645034414949,4.893784256637172,4.865958702064899,82.53889872173059,73.69026548672565,7.146116027531957,26.714847590953788,7.793537801064563,1.5995101278269424,443,16,86,6,9,149,76,113,0.051,0.8140000000000001,0.136,0.8687,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,4,8,3,0,0,3,0,11,4,4,2,2,21,21,7,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,6,0,1,4,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,1,13,2,12,19,5,15,0,1,0,0,8,4,1,2,9,62,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331746712787238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317631186926695,0.0,0.0,0.2408684075240073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22216108524640096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507283734191415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19209311520488945,0.11376288704791428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652282903074445,0.09788795394303022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941269834867124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309481448703596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661620870805712,0.2554275359847189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163556004000448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073689258077047,0.0,0.2334285457345893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731487600427625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5170931302871548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24382469877253785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036442899012112,0.16922491281909618,0.0,0.10043452159738794,0.0,0.16326336828112836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071834971353615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091690458491184
parenting,PurpleBicyclist33,2020/02/20,"Pink Eye Help! I am hoping for some advice from veteran parents! 


Our 15 month old son has had pink eye four times since December. I am going crazy. We do the drops in his eyes per doctor instructions, it goes away. Then it comes back. He does rub his eyes a lot and has been snotty, so I think that is part of it.


Today when dropping him off at daycare the teachers asked me how often I change the sheets. They suggested I change them every day when he has pink eye or a cold. After I thought about it, that made sense to me!


Are there any other things I should be doing to keep pink eye at bay? Last time I did wipe down his crib with Clorox wipes.",1.889260651629076,3.7227887969924818,2.5731015037594,96.35534147869677,78.32330827067669,5.636340852130326,17.850250626566414,6.42735559955562,-0.36509974937343337,502,9,114,4,12,156,101,133,0.019,0.932,0.05,0.6093,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,2,0,8,1,0,0,5,0,14,7,6,2,0,15,22,7,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,12,18,1,14,15,3,22,0,0,10,0,15,6,0,5,12,73,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418673653238053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513631170471682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577623359449533,0.0,0.18670383958011127,0.15280329762628447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204385018318528,0.1711795540438176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815786291327924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033981859185429,0.1739010789974059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743004348782767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293706967967285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319772594092716,0.0,0.0,0.19737364847301495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766313324046145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619831997088261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894450931916616,0.0,0.1880335259558427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586162875629758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20852305323453316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206548753907652,0.21519423134432586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643831125957856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202063764476685,0.12733165527464868,0.0,0.1577613628726483,0.23175028401329525,0.0,0.1883631811370262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pilotpen,2020/02/20,"My brother wants me to go see Sonic with my almost two year old and I said no which pissed him off So, my son turns 2 next week and my brother has two kids, one is 7 and the other 9. My son has never watched a movie at home. At most he has seen like 5 videos of CocoMelon in a row! I don't think he has the attention span to see a full length movie and I also just think he's too young. Am I being unreasonable here? I'm not sure",-0.6048453608247435,1.0919607319587676,1.81774226804124,99.30702577319592,86.01030927835052,5.1171134020618565,15.885567010309277,6.2581,-0.7516136082474225,329,6,86,3,10,112,70,97,0.095,0.878,0.027000000000000003,-0.7314,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,5,0,8,1,1,0,2,15,18,6,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,1,0,3,2,5,11,2,8,15,2,13,0,0,4,0,10,6,1,2,7,51,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23046911273785595,0.0,0.0,0.1840565682540853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080359707654693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23086636041496345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244314470071852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775113621334904,0.0,0.24477471157825226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415111841826941,0.0,0.15596042318037204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893212959567665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36681085726356943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21692036480009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949507823936869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25034485873887913,0.44966013241898334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575263441738605,0.0,0.1846181613518574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821364133064124
parenting,bwmarija,2020/02/20,"Cry It Out Emotional story Hi. Today I cam across a [link to an article](https://aftermilk.app/parenting/why-cry-it-out-cio-is-not-a-good-idea) on Facebook about **Cry It Out method** being mentioned as **dangerous and hurtful**. What really stressed me in this article is the story about a couple who went to orphanage in Kazahstan to adopt a baby. When they entered this huge room with many cribs with very small babies and toddlers- no one was crying. An author said that the reason why no one cried is that babies have lost the hope that someone will answer their call for help. In this case lack of food.

This really bugged me, so I started digging up about research on Cry It Out and I found ambiguous results. Some say it's ok, some not. But what I haven't found is the honest parenting opinion. I say HONEST! If you are a parent who used this method and have a grown up kid (let's say 7 years plus), can you be honest with your experience: how is your child coping with independence, emotions, attachment and social skills? 

Please be honest!",2.704185891748004,5.536590576530613,3.3263354037267088,86.39257763975156,82.01020408163265,6.265838509316771,21.27684117125111,7.586124646067393,1.0670796805678795,827,25,151,14,23,259,123,196,0.114,0.727,0.159,0.8461,3,0,2,0,0,0,48.0,0,4,2,2,6,10,1,1,11,1,15,1,0,5,0,31,23,12,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,2,16,13,1,0,5,0,0,3,4,4,0,2,6,4,13,6,25,12,3,21,0,2,0,0,21,14,0,6,4,98,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157679824821526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544666493272708,0.6226825107507808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550619775291464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090196025390177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709282668819436,0.24861845012487505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950931039029458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599249941494683,0.0,0.0,0.1126064034513884,0.0,0.0,0.1213696862615888,0.12798594633539828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593304947775855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376159745455245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494389053492697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365091366862146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517778043218921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244510928759933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526114280504487,0.11656781004841048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784505792501052,0.2704797231372907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557096721447327,0.09606179776979663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802470143989452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987004157981902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746571558362257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791911741413004,0.0,0.09354578913367093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509924465302783,0.10230280067926496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300942426357956
parenting,OMGTwins,2020/02/20,"How to Handle Teasing, Social Exclusion etc. Hello all,

I have twin 3 year old toddlers that are currently in preschool. A few times now after school they have individually told me that they were ""sad today"" because ""insert child's name here"" wouldn't play with them today. 


I usually follow this up with ""I am sorry you are sad, it makes me sad when someone doesn't want to play with me either. Sometimes ""child's name"" may want to play with someone else and that's okay. When that happens can you try and find someone else to play with?""


Yesterday, however, my one daughter told me with tears in her eyes that she decided to just go sit by herself in the chair instead of find someone else to play with. This broke my heart.


To provide some background I (female) was heavily bullied and excluded from social groups in school. This is a very touchy subject for me and I don't know how to help them because it's a sore spot for me. I want them to be stronger than me and have a better experience than I ever did and I don't know how to help them do that.


If anyone has age appropriate advice (I will take any age, not just 3 as I am sure this issue will not go away) to help my kids cope and not let these things crush them I would really appreciate it.


Thank you in advance.",4.609160660311557,5.428395166007906,5.139018832829574,84.72545919553596,69.67193675889328,8.008277144850036,27.530574285049987,8.124751697461798,1.5984677516856551,999,32,205,13,17,320,140,253,0.161,0.7509999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.9134,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,3,7,2,11,14,1,0,5,1,24,3,2,4,3,42,38,14,0,6,7,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,15,14,0,0,5,5,0,4,7,5,0,1,5,1,34,9,34,26,5,27,0,4,1,0,29,7,0,3,15,140,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706016236246895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146322901194407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837619287068306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254930262088096,0.0,0.0,0.14604918873907238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594701903513178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30021460194320104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360066590934094,0.0,0.10835946866863276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718036949364613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189769440188326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616204638404303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059323997088922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195507465055895,0.24088381683611934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250325863632937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316700077617537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224962799866376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996264103237316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257024187328154,0.0,0.081174718623118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674235129836486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424734690868941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24422739886518066,0.4060002882227738,0.0,0.11847816722458128,0.13409826023646632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290332006798168,0.0,0.09006929615481023,0.0,0.0,0.11028913877718984,0.0,0.0,0.07958503013060357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985215972673016,0.0,0.22709918257815345,0.2289343561885458,0.0,0.08133146490815757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193487276292012,0.0988416265155476,0.21197073609694786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509738600316827,0.0,0.0,0.07714265187141843
parenting,januarynine,2020/02/20,"Raising child bilingual? Hi everyone,

I'm not sure if this is the correct subreddit to post in, but I am needing some advice.

My partner and I are wanting to raise our son bilingual (I am Danish speaking, she is English speaking). But the problem is we live in rural Canada where not only are we surrounded by English exclusively (naturally there is no Danish anywhere here & all my family is 7,000+KM away). 

Our son is now 16 months old, (he still has not said his first word yet) and I try to speak Danish to him as much as possible, but honestly sometimes it is easier to just speak English to him given our environmental circumstances (I almost always speak to him in English in public due to being embarrassed to speak Danish in public). As well as this, we all cannot seem to find many Danish children resources online (there are not every many books on Amazon, and what little there are will take *forever* to get here due to where we live). Everyday I say at least a few sentences in Danish to him (i.e. goodnight, love you, etc,.) but I have never really had a \~conversation with him in Danish.

Am I doing him a disservice by not speaking Danish to him enough? Will he be able to pick up the language by hearing me say only a few things to him each day in Danish? Should I be speaking to him exclusively in Danish?",4.345476190476192,6.163716404761907,5.525587301587304,77.88885714285716,71.46031746031747,7.897142857142858,28.473015873015875,8.548686976883017,2.2979501587301585,1042,40,183,18,20,346,137,252,0.043,0.879,0.079,0.8854,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,7,1,0,1,12,6,0,1,7,0,25,1,0,1,5,35,35,12,0,5,11,2,0,0,1,3,0,12,0,3,5,9,0,0,2,1,0,0,8,2,1,1,3,12,31,4,38,26,10,30,0,0,0,1,43,18,0,4,11,144,36,1,0.15478351797199189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512526623651132,0.0,0.0,0.15499333481610222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879228640179755,0.16770787705478246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14542421029652516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982256417097972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993275030749307,0.17262453771393896,0.0,0.0,0.13041178964979314,0.14790228452417786,0.0,0.0,0.14591612536366488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146933128654096,0.1316587813157795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086799968625398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445227407786976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513374809712627,0.2733533642695505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396981681217366,0.0,0.0,0.31385238597962545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235467273243452,0.0,0.11378369532925163,0.1147700173213972,0.11937859116120622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241926472133764,0.0,0.0,0.2354396804602941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744951598624904,0.14823982410093625,0.0,0.0,0.14810692272849038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915828507135237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472345706603282,0.24618013209367334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409091014993218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308485707860636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361031739445386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458816339009097,0.0,0.11637794246845062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283129160874044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050878484460198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129532920254856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13916897141004073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,David_Croll,2020/02/20,"Do I need to give a present to my wife on our baby`s first birthday? Hi!

What do you think if I present this shirt to my wife on our daughter's first birthday?  Is it okay or it\`s better to have one more gift? I\`m not sure because of our limited budget but the first birthday it\`s a really important day, so I would appreciate your comments.

 [https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Mommy-Birthday-Girl-Onederful/dp/B084PGMTFD?customId=B07537H5TD&th=1](https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Mommy-Birthday-Girl-Onederful/dp/B084PGMTFD?customId=B07537H5TD&th=1)",16.880434782608695,22.27405465217392,10.100797101449274,43.127717391304365,45.95652173913042,7.498550724637681,28.89130434782609,8.344100000000001,2.0517130434782604,477,12,56,5,6,124,51,69,0.040999999999999995,0.775,0.185,0.8866,0,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,3,2,0,5,1,3,0,0,3,1,5,1,1,0,1,9,8,4,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,10,3,7,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,6,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5268095842878303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819490389590942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150071279344124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678298615717728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6203564412494923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332090223930503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18025970567274607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647346312429351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573965831095013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22912413018460584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557722381794428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726952275382112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DCD4,2020/02/20,"How much pressure to put on adult children? Looking for perspective. We have a 23 yr old daughter. Fulltime employed for last 8 months earning an average salary.  Although a relatively good kid, she is a terrible house guest. She leaves her garbage lying around. Makes messes and doesn't clean up. Drops her stuff under our feet and is buying stuff and putting in our living space. Her spending is creeping up and is now carrying a credit card balance while living paycheck to paycheck.  We don't ask her to help with house chores as they never get done.
We started charging rent to help ""adult"" her but it is making no difference. My partner is more frustrated than I and thinking it might be time to push her out. Is it time to kick her out? Are there strategies you have used to help them be more considerate? To be more respectful and to help her act like an adult?",3.5728911042944813,6.149017220858897,3.585578987730063,87.50082246932516,76.17791411042944,6.283588957055216,27.978911042944784,7.413659706084162,1.6565095092024529,689,29,127,9,16,210,108,163,0.084,0.7659999999999999,0.15,0.9212,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,1,2,1,5,8,1,1,6,0,17,1,1,4,1,22,25,11,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,6,5,13,0,0,2,0,4,4,4,4,0,0,1,1,20,4,22,20,4,23,0,0,1,0,31,9,0,1,10,88,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864449144349106,0.1455988933832414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271852387895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937939403617854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136940800289114,0.0,0.0,0.13063002955607972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175656083219872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35941354676760884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695151671424829,0.0,0.16490958976527126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608827378056379,0.0,0.2750482454432813,0.0,0.13078508568172362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079196266748272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521895186776725,0.0,0.0,0.1243127578532821,0.0,0.11448919183413787,0.0,0.12011877786879002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342631782552386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131299192520757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023585762244358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565774671736548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979397117670144,0.0,0.0,0.1816302561458943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451214311994714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AllisTresMal,2020/02/20,"Daughter asking about sexuality My daughter (13) recently told me she thinks she has a crush on her best friend, who is also a girl.

She told me she got certain feelings in her vagina (""down there"" as she worded it) when thinking about her best friend.

She wanted to know if I'd ever experimented with other girls.

She asked about porn, masturbation, what sex felt like. Idk I just wasn't sure what to say! Like what am I supposed to do? Describe why sex is amazing to a 13 year old?

I mean I understand logically that she's a teenager and it's extremely normal to have these thoughts and questions (lord knows I had plenty of questions at her age) but she's also my little girl and I am having a really hard time being okay with her newfound sexual inquisitiveness.

My parents avoided talking about anything remotely sexual at all with me. Most of my sex ed comes from the internet.

So what do I say? I don't want her thinking I don't want her to have this information or that I don't support her being gay! I love her regardless and I really do want her to be more prepared than I was but I'm just so overwhelmed by this sudden interest in sex.",2.8326337968815882,5.021373548672571,4.479709228824273,82.11343657817113,76.78761061946905,7.31361146228403,25.80615254951538,8.269060116576782,1.813549768225874,906,34,174,17,21,304,127,226,0.07,0.777,0.153,0.9676,1,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,13,15,0,2,6,1,20,8,1,0,4,41,43,14,0,7,6,3,3,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,13,8,0,1,14,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,8,5,39,13,26,32,5,16,1,1,0,8,39,7,0,5,10,126,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131434811316756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096655015705288,0.0,0.24916902916772116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797061830623589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479574773693035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054555988621288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035845802715587,0.0,0.0,0.0673826416122099,0.0,0.12795502044860904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059199689807464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658396267600788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937900444453277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647759905874472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021281184499053,0.13356624947347584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202766039189192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516433725014713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057112117737765,0.0,0.0,0.13983889577325667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14797468981487236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29857394887644184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074557152980466,0.0,0.13158282410622793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21195489274229634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512272138286069,0.1256004122004973,0.0,0.0,0.107113126047196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561719358275592,0.0,0.10579729405257758,0.07770772417932073,0.0,0.0,0.25468028297859824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387332631065138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144119152821936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025067291756245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581810408635955
parenting,No_you_choose_a_name,2020/02/20,"Just what the fuck is wrong with our toddlers? Sorry for the explicit title but hear me out. It's more of a philosophical question, really. 

So our babies are born and they're completely dependent on us for the first few years, in fact, well into their childhood. A little giraffe is born and within minutes it's walking on its long clumsy legs, it takes a human baby give or take a year to do that. So first of all, human babies are basically the most useless babies in the entire animal kingdom (correct me if I'm wrong, I'm not exactly a zoologist). 

But then they become toddlers and they still need to be looked after - they can't feed themselves, they can't dress themselves, some of them can't toilet train until they're 3-4. But, unlike any other species, our toddlers actively fight back. As if it's not enough that they cannot do it for themselves, it's like they don't want to survive at all. Most mothers have to practically beg their toddlers to at least try a little bit of this soup, a tiny bit of that stew. They have to cut the food into all sorts of fun shapes, make it all kinds of interesting colours, just for the child to eat at least enough to stay alive. We have to change their diapers/nappies because we don't want them to get a rash or an infection from all the shit festering in there - they will run away and scream at us. They don't want to get dressed, they don't want to take their medicine when they're ill. This should be survival 101 but it's like toddlers go against any logical instinct to stay alive.

So how exactly did we manage to overpopulate the planet, and in fact we have driven many other species into extinction, when our younglings are so fucking stupid?",7.458440822111977,6.557796566265062,7.131892274982281,78.71445428773922,63.759036144578324,10.100921332388381,33.68603827072998,9.168548406835145,2.7335706591070164,1348,47,264,19,17,425,174,332,0.11800000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.091,-0.6529,0,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,10,0,16,5,13,16,6,0,18,0,24,10,3,3,11,52,44,23,0,8,12,1,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,3,17,14,3,0,2,0,0,4,10,10,1,2,2,4,28,6,47,38,16,40,0,1,2,2,34,19,3,10,17,179,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608748300301131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113204171226293,0.09095336487865414,0.0,0.07210504266590413,0.13063577286155628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582717524432945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251291597111753,0.0,0.12401889186530925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210344210822446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24443870854912175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122521754990785,0.14302990708688673,0.0,0.0,0.21870395350329067,0.12359738307665795,0.11346912793665123,0.06722372269755474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331506053971126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317494977391275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557551852612505,0.23710398879740696,0.0,0.1046779286931828,0.09932906440183993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895572297383323,0.1199217667369874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770634770009418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250554408143314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577598427522146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141718679925985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240964717782286,0.0,0.25215076046595764,0.09446203572799973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668053344849464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030731013179923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845630212486189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790687001121665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063518371821128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25865073907683245,0.0,0.15234248824174446
parenting,Colorado_15,2020/02/20,"The Worst things you can say to your children We’ve all said the wrong things at times, leaving our kids feeling angry, hurt, or confused. Words can be eternally damaging, especially coming from parents who are supposed to be safe and supportive figures only their child’s lives. The words you use can be constructive or destructive to children. 

“Hurry up!” 

Your child may be slow as molasses getting dressed in the morning when you’re trying to head out the door to school and off to work. Pushing them to get a move on, will only make them more stressed. 

“Leave me alone!” 

Every parent needs a break at times. Yet, you shouldn’t be telling your kids that, otherwise, they’ll think that you’re brushing them off and that there’s no point in talking to you. Children like to be acknowledged and heard; therefore, children will then act out just to get your attention.

“Why can’t you be more like your brother / sister?” 

It’s natural to compare your kids, but you shouldn’t let your kids hear you doing it. When you compare them, it promotes unhealthy competition and kids may not feel like they’re good enough. This will not change the behavior and you’ll be pressing a child to do something that they don’t want to do or isn’t ready for and you’ll be destroying their self-esteem. Besides, you’ll want to stop sibling rivalry before it starts. Instead, you should encourage and inspire them about what they can do and praise them when they do something good. Each child is an individual with their own strengths and weaknesses. Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool, and this will help them succeed. 

“I’m on a diet” 

If you’re watching your weight, keep it yourself; talking this way about physical appearances can lead to your child developing an unhealthy body image. Obsessing about your weight or appearance isn’t delivering a good message. 

“Don’t cry” 

When you tell a child not to cry or that they need to stop being a baby, you’re invalidating and discounting their feelings and they will start to brush off their emotions and this will lead to a more explosive outburst later in life. 

“I could do that when I was your age”

Children all develop at different rates, so expecting your child to do certain things will only make them feel like they’ve disappointed you. Every child is different, and the environments and society has changed since you were a child, so you can not compare yourself to your child’s life. 

“I do everything for you”

You may feel like you do everything for - because you’re supposed to especially when they’re young. As they get older teach them how to start taking on responsibilities and guide them on becoming an adult.",7.296543463381248,8.105446679671461,6.466256673511295,77.61607221081454,63.722792607802866,9.860889801505818,34.71382614647501,9.80755857964246,3.3069340725530454,2131,90,381,41,30,649,222,487,0.111,0.7440000000000001,0.145,0.9652,5,1,2,0,0,1,49.0,1,32,22,8,17,27,2,3,20,0,56,8,2,7,3,75,86,36,0,10,12,4,8,5,0,17,3,4,1,21,20,22,3,4,10,0,1,8,12,11,0,0,4,15,59,16,49,53,9,48,1,3,1,0,93,17,0,12,26,252,79,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258425741038737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05449318365413039,0.0987276187510011,0.07606691552595864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992955447158432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891320226304339,0.07700421143216549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137308966236904,0.0,0.1963881720664136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186793456406632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055516789406413,0.0,0.09236693402196967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063502812413115,0.0,0.16068144823887034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259991020510247,0.191587273820662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18681675084428095,0.0,0.0,0.22493598899747536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174307618348006,0.0,0.10075248289516983,0.0,0.05991828818535954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569712661613262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945666491541648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930870027908175,0.0,0.09141046711577942,0.12628193314657093,0.21836468449742755,0.0,0.07893571552300775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934113214504087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095010682631851,0.0,0.13256765230691014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039623659577378,0.0,0.0,0.19852084290135796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450534228498506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503327709795787,0.07108895449774165,0.0,0.09047055581946777,0.0,0.0,0.0932564643179468,0.0,0.0,0.07394686841492276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376382999648389,0.0,0.0,0.18981861782894455,0.0,0.0,0.14947321278935524,0.10239945570856793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144219256833197,0.0,0.0,0.06721246094329393,0.14370152149189755,0.15626696065206785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816634383808466,0.0572794675131985,0.0,0.0,0.10425163197385204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060692024274339576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720690780334966,0.0,0.0,0.10545269349464467,0.07095605532484921,0.0,0.2177133448578915,0.0,0.0,0.0806633383618375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507921711671008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773728511678192,0.0,0.0
parenting,BattleGrown,2020/02/20,"My 4-year-old daughter remembers memories of when she was 2 years old. Recently my wife and daughter were watching some extreme sports on tv. When it came to zip line guys, my daughter said to her ""mommy, we did this right? You held me in your lap and we did like this"", which happened when she was 2 years old when we were on vacation in Cuba.

Now I don't have any memories of before I was 6. My wife is also the same, cant remember anything before she was 5. I heard somewhere that human brains don't even develop the memory forming capabilities until 3 years old, so it got me thinking.

It can't be that she saw the pictures, because while we have many pictures from that vacation, not for the zip line activity. Because I was so occupied with ensuring my daughter's safety that I forgot to take pics or videos of them doing it. We had a huge fight about it with my wife too, because it is a moment which will not happen again.

Could it be that my daughter was traumatized by it, so that she remembers it? (she cried a little when we attached her to the line, but didn't when her mother attached herself too.) Or is it normal at this age and children tend to forget their early stages of life later on? Anyhow, seemed appropriate to start a discussion on the formation of memories.

Also please don't say doing zip line with a 2 year old is not good parenting. Please don't.",5.861369926199262,5.950052653136535,6.560274446494463,78.19620502767529,66.74907749077491,9.727029520295202,31.69764760147601,9.516144504307137,2.777503505535056,1083,40,209,20,16,357,141,271,0.053,0.909,0.038,-0.6073,1,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,6,2,2,0,17,3,1,0,11,0,30,2,1,0,0,32,44,19,0,2,6,10,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,3,21,13,0,2,5,3,0,1,10,1,0,0,19,5,34,2,26,21,3,36,0,0,2,0,38,10,0,5,25,151,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348086661153506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376077998394068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925849455414883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836008604267813,0.0,0.1845936059880842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210842242083192,0.0,0.12405651195083678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660148699464121,0.0,0.1191450994314876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164094537090185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097635732618052,0.08675038107547113,0.0,0.0,0.10739865585378654,0.19183272067334406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661293102753929,0.05299113846423112,0.10871169310778214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996776872947307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627391058841508,0.0,0.0,0.5690854980865625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043895168343555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23812677534799265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709735168038986,0.0,0.3686134036162397,0.0926295980587744,0.1031762569834936,0.08625672781606844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987436143726573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677298096998424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155313283750729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950080323508281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34924359377107106
parenting,SeriousPuppet,2020/02/20,"Kindergartener Threatened To Bring Gun - Would you be concerned? I am wondering if I should be concerned. There was a kid, let's call him Mike, who threatened another kid, Joe, to bring a gun to school and shoot him. Mike seems to have problems (from what I've heard) playing nice with other kids. These kids are in my kid's kindergarten class. I know it's probably not a serious threat, but in this day and age it makes me wonder if I should be concerned that this kid might go through with it. Is he too young to pull it off? Could he have access at home to a gun and actually carry though on his threat? Or is a 5 yr old not capable of this? Obviously 5 yr olds are watching stuff on youtube and TV, movies, etc and some are playing with toy guns and any talk of guns usually relates to toy guns, so I'm trying not to overreact. But even if there's only a .001% chance of this happening... I just wish there was a way to know. I'm tempted to keep my kid home until the principal addresses this. idk",3.467145214521455,4.677387727722773,4.2075445544554455,88.88217491749177,72.7128712871287,7.9609240924092415,26.833003300330034,8.447377352677275,1.6035573597359738,779,27,170,13,15,249,119,202,0.092,0.804,0.105,0.5729,0,0,0,7,0,0,28.0,0,1,0,0,8,7,2,0,8,0,19,0,0,1,1,35,34,15,0,9,10,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,3,7,15,9,0,1,5,5,0,4,3,4,0,0,3,2,12,3,25,22,2,18,0,0,1,0,17,6,0,9,7,104,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.16107156569651473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224424126990612,0.17307638041941875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685413830364646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178437379153954,0.0,0.0,0.10644794063127873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18408189265305827,0.1090184181724547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380554743228896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595912751606846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33113073044546704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467100118402635,0.0,0.0,0.1814217322155716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878169662867384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017665370593928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509911437136216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3463985601255309,0.0,0.0,0.12553308631181526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795907937036207,0.1579370060127859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704622991159634,0.0,0.15026145436531738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18895047450991367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266635304906732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216740616945913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206268988733134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817866768839264,0.0,0.0,0.13101435515735116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18980710187545574,0.0,0.3579939810885168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172515703321494,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forksorsporks,2020/02/20,"How to handle an overly attached kid? Hey guys

My boyfriend (37M) and I (30F) need some advice regarding our mutual friend's 7 year old daughter. We plan on bringing it up with her when we're able, but for now I thought I'd ask here. 

So my boyfriend goes to visit our mutual friend on occasion, and sometimes her daughter is there at the same time (her mom and dad have shared custody). However, recently, she has been making unsettling remarks in regards to certain body parts, saying things like ""My daddy pees from there!"", as well as telling my boyfriend she loves him. 

Neither my boyfriend or I have kids, and therefore no idea how to handle a situation like this. We think she may have a schoolgirl crush on my boyfriend, or is otherwise getting overly attached. If he just stops visiting while the daughter is there, will that make things worse? How do you handle something like this?",6.916,7.493391781818186,6.006212121212126,81.3893181818182,64.51515151515152,9.024242424242424,35.28787878787879,8.841846274778883,2.9367696969696966,704,31,129,10,10,212,114,165,0.059000000000000004,0.785,0.156,0.9617,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,4,1,0,1,12,9,0,0,5,0,11,3,2,6,1,28,20,16,0,2,5,5,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,3,6,7,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,2,1,21,9,17,16,4,19,0,0,0,1,31,8,0,6,11,86,27,0,0.18496074874084112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807415030142887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729133322069278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054496954350236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858004313243978,0.0,0.0966343572437098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18314022074092526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20879817182869545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710874373194512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669342970883749,0.0,0.2469254720565268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166237934822725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714605156219625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408519205663394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20029446659294556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262642555059108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708821117957901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790363113629054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239182074530018,0.18293090993879105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463546794143154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616638468744993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457594056413944,0.11851537940542965,0.0,0.14683817418410733,0.10785210000572476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663019260109571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884908046057539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910865801274907
parenting,redbootlovarrr,2020/02/20,"5yr old daughter rubbing herself raw My five year old daughter has recently discovered that her privates feel good. So she’ll sit on the carpet with no underwear on and run herself raw for hours. I’ve figured this out yesterday and told her she needs to go do it in her room and not in front of everyone. She agreed. So now she does it in her room but with no underwear just on the floor. She will stay in there for hours. Even when we call her down for dinner she’ll still stay in there masturbating. I literally have to go knock on her door and tell her to come out or we will put the dinner away. She can’t handle not doing it. At the dinner table she tries to rub on the chair. Sometimes I even catch her doing it and I have to tel her to do it in private. This problem has gotten bigger. When we are in the car, she uses the seatbelt for pleasure and when we are on the couch watching a movie she will literally spread her legs out on the couch and start rubbing on it. She never does it in her room and it’s constantly. I don’t know how to handle it anymore",2.236064593301436,3.960638113636364,3.461244019138757,90.87055023923449,76.95454545454545,6.4497607655502405,22.942583732057408,7.273561745256523,0.7092272727272726,835,25,182,10,19,271,109,220,0.036000000000000004,0.925,0.039,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,0,13,3,0,0,10,0,17,4,1,2,1,31,27,16,0,2,5,2,4,0,0,5,0,0,7,0,12,18,3,0,3,0,0,8,7,1,0,1,2,5,33,2,36,20,0,53,0,0,1,0,33,27,0,1,15,135,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672471685065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794939716971546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17166401647439974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448160221547041,0.0,0.18167238477903824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942368047339217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222076491790984,0.0,0.0,0.16064090451640456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500389877609595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910870404608295,0.14100672573708964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311184456682286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239150251048424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246550007877584,0.12966050474288182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528164244340642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086316792731215,0.0,0.169001816787844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599309248469532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626984490460514,0.0,0.11899252717758665,0.358376036270452,0.13425670372629622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693975313138097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064090451640456,0.0,0.11413892004684904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519721795729915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826042521300508
parenting,robinbanksgreyson,2020/02/20,"Self harm One of my worst fears has come true. My smart, beautiful daughter who has always been too much like me had started hurting herself and having suicidal thoughts. 
I don't know how to cope with this. She is only 12, she gets bullied at school and on the bus. I've started her seeing a councillor but I don't know what else I can do. I'm not the best when it comes to being calm and rational, I just shut down when I'm stressed so I think she feels like she can't talk to me. Has anyone that's been through anything like this have any tips for me? 
I thought I would have longer before we went through anything like this.",3.0567441860465085,4.42224711627907,3.344875968992252,94.05777906976743,73.96124031007753,6.4003100775193795,26.078294573643408,6.742157984588678,0.8027327131782949,494,17,110,4,10,152,90,129,0.153,0.6990000000000001,0.147,-0.2148,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,6,13,0,2,3,0,17,0,0,1,1,19,32,8,1,1,3,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,0,6,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,6,2,19,8,11,24,3,11,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,0,8,72,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685878492233034,0.0,0.0,0.12002331115686747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341008519077068,0.0,0.2904822879475689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018506999180162,0.0,0.1852216304249102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040712983729865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743973454813106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19860703381301792,0.0892416649864934,0.12608875544793766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221185914793184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18894258508422745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399513747851846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449080609957653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974484502818254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195982362784216,0.13423313756163713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862334319717674,0.1406444362034146,0.0,0.18412378790354908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498495104148001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021755360576631,0.0,0.0,0.19305794352199948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186077425358462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309149027644147,0.0,0.2802361690316051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361353140802626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537767239004,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gndmajne,2020/02/20,"Prematurely born 15y/o development problems as she ages. Anyone with similar experiences? 
15 y/o daughter was born 7 weeks premature and has always been slightly behind in growth and development. We considered holding her back a year and not putting her into school until age 6, but she seemingly was really eager to start so we sent her to kindergarten at age 5 like *normal*. As she got older we started to notice that she was much more immature than kids her age and struggled to keep up socially as her classmates did not accept her as easily because of this. She looks about 12-13 even though she is 15 and probably acts around 12-13 as well. 

We were told about adjusted age when she was born and that until she was a toddler she would be 7 weeks younger than her age, but would eventually catch up. Don’t get me wrong, she is healthy and gets good grades. It’s just that she is a bit behind growth and socially/maturity wise. It’s never been enough of a concern to bring up with a doctor, but I do wonder how common this is? 

Do premature children normally continue to be a bit behind full-term children even as they get older? 

I really hope this doesn’t violate the whole no medical advice rule. I’m not looking for advice, but rather if anyone has seen a similar situation with their own kids or the children of others",5.176745098039216,6.4832409686274515,6.084803921568625,76.66995098039217,68.72549019607844,9.588235294117649,29.85294117647059,9.861636050157227,2.9502941176470583,1057,40,193,25,18,349,147,255,0.071,0.804,0.126,0.941,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,2,0,13,11,1,1,9,0,23,2,0,1,1,42,40,26,0,8,11,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,5,9,17,0,2,4,0,0,7,7,4,1,0,13,3,27,7,35,23,7,37,0,0,3,0,33,7,0,5,24,137,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25880913549945705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018854075502196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18518983673759495,0.0,0.0,0.11788668136307047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182695807736204,0.0,0.08072529440228078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28914847673527144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554300772482988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683083721599335,0.0,0.17493145486172476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295374511452107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20756041673350245,0.0,0.0,0.1110721422134728,0.10591268926432207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152830168490118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770577964817068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469636112655308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22240796676854985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340465812969998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973479056884672,0.0,0.10213463185525126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594975498554379,0.0,0.1507671950314249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277697833986852,0.12671322287311593,0.0,0.1331241026303553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967020372161512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402157414069435,0.0,0.12055511014745712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488516974358888,0.0,0.13499101805842853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746275870063647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843978018598332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301072826405374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653814418054907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124473353912466,0.0,0.119066337794557,0.0,0.0,0.14784822934930486,0.0,0.0,0.14360969685986996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814240865776186,0.14478638585715758,0.0,0.08527761553566106
parenting,throwkickpunchaway,2020/02/20,"Personal experience with physical discipline lead to some interesting insights for my parenting I feel like every few days someone asks about spanking.

Here’s my story.  I, as an adult person, enrolled in a martial arts school. They are very traditional. They use occasional physical correction (in their adult classes).  That includes things like doing push ups but also includes things like an instructor smacking a student. The smacks are not hard but they sting. Generally it’s for a performance-related things, I.e.“Move your leg faster!” 

Being in an environment with discipline like this was a totally new thing for me.  And it changed the way I parent.

Some observations:
1.  A decent percent of the time when someone smacks me, it is because I have misunderstood an instruction that was given to me.  I would put this % at 10-20. You would think adults would be able to communicate with a better success rate.  

—> conclusion for parenting: I have become super careful about escalating with my kids.  I may think I have given very clear instructions, but upon further probing I discover that even “put on your shoes” carries ambiguity.  Because I am on the receiving end of this now, I have a lot more empathy and I stop to ask.

2. The physical discipline makes me more anxious than I would have thought.  I had an instructor stand in front of me and hit my leg each time I did a kick incorrectly.  Took three tries to get it right and I was super focused on it. When he said “good” the fourth time and stopped hitting my leg I was really relieved.

—> conclusion: punishment carries some level of anxiety with it, physical punishment has an immediacy that everything else doesn’t.  I did not spank my kids, but would not have said I was against spanking children as a whole.  Now I am because I have had a recent reminder that even light physical punishment escalates anxiety. 

Overall takeaway: having an immediate recent experience with physical discipline makes me never want to use it for kids.  In the best of circumstances you will mess it up.  You can’t take it back unlike loss of privileges and you can’t make it up.",4.635499042349436,7.437984797900263,5.4910378094630055,74.03521174718026,73.7244094488189,9.473249627580337,32.344541391785484,9.836113211274913,3.9018262183443273,1692,84,279,51,37,551,199,381,0.08800000000000001,0.767,0.145,0.9779,3,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,0,6,4,9,12,19,3,0,24,0,36,4,4,6,4,56,58,15,0,6,7,3,2,4,0,7,0,2,0,9,22,13,0,6,7,1,0,7,7,5,0,1,15,5,43,14,42,32,12,42,0,1,0,0,28,16,0,6,21,202,65,7,0.09608988700244127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684304791953231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701700109456206,0.10855422141383383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966214633202854,0.0,0.0,0.07388719183012729,0.0,0.17572650972780604,0.1061237307951874,0.0,0.0,0.1008404081341437,0.08498369639181873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797004385425187,0.0,0.10165035938425253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061970027798560874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027077060554685,0.0,0.08510711889466897,0.0,0.0,0.1269329282396094,0.0,0.08095987412240042,0.0,0.08635939452611283,0.18798869538418955,0.0,0.0,0.04858593404649261,0.06864663447421131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0502029999949458,0.0,0.0,0.08059563826383775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607766477690329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877786604068868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816921857225987,0.0,0.0,0.19242223717299134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411044460991405,0.09280421164094316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320089344134269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678039659416214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319375328465926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06155764213594255,0.0,0.18975434208913491,0.0,0.0,0.08206023847386218,0.18280697380407046,0.0,0.0,0.09724809564070253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628332988673983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067089630872364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224763649184891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553514048643586,0.12314103930316304,0.0,0.07628463693540463,0.16809235753657598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067594000651761,0.06523872576881817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598162100751468,0.0,0.1585684402481478,0.05667630495716582,0.07627167968645415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072809272705296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412974938649562,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fireyqueen,2020/02/20,"Middle school academics My daughter is 12 in 7th grade. She’s a great kid.  She has lots of friends and her teachers always have nice things to say about her. 

In elementary school she had average grades and performed at average grade level. 
Then something clicked when she got to middle school. In 6th grade, she achieved A/B honor roll for the first 3 report cards and then achieved straight As on her final report card.  She is determined to finish this year with perfect attendance and straight As. She is on track to accomplish it.  It doesn’t come easy to her either. She struggles at times and works hard to get the grades she does. 

We have never asked for perfection. I tell her, if she puts in the work honestly and fails then it’s ok. It just means she need help and there is nothing wrong with that. If she doesn’t try and then gets a failing grade, that’s when we have a problem. I don’t want her to fear failure as it teaches resiliency. I want her to put the effort in and see what she capable of. 

Its why I give minimal help on homework and projects. I don’t give answers and I don’t check her work. If they’re wrong, she will learn the correct answer when she reviews the next day. I’d rather see an honest C over an A that I earned for her. 

She is currently signing up for her 8th grade classes and 2 of her teachers want to put her in advanced classes. I am so proud of her as this is 100% her doing.  I told her the decision is hers but she is fully capable of being successful. 

My concern is, she puts so much pressure on herself and has been struggling with insomnia and showing signs of anxiety when she struggles and feels like she is falling behind and this is with regular classes. I worry that she will put way too much pressure on herself. I know she is capable of doing well but don’t want her to cause herself so much stress. 
 
I want to do whatever I can to help her achieve a balanced perspective. Yes good grades are important but so is her health. I will take a B and a healthy kid over an A from a frazzled stressed out kid any day. 

How do I help prepare her for next year?  Not just academically but in taking care of herself too. Thoughts, suggestions?  
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parenting,edpanes,2020/02/20,Any experience with using the lowest settings of an adult electric toothbrush to brush a 1.5yr old's teeth Toddler wouldn't allow a normal brush or even cloth to be used to brush his teeth.,7.849166666666665,7.871483361111113,6.835555555555558,78.11500000000002,62.611111111111114,8.311111111111114,31.88888888888889,7.1686216300943375,2.020988888888889,155,5,27,1,2,47,30,36,0.124,0.8759999999999999,0.0,-0.505,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,2,2,3,0,7,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,14,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588771260989068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25143717369401136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37238049188150135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729879830231054,0.0,0.0,0.3994622027621988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6575748349947379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tygold2001,2020/02/20,"Should I let my son play his Switch past 10:00 PM? Last month, I came upstairs and caught my 18 year old son playing his Switch at almost 10:30 at night on a school night. It’s the only electronic we allow him to have in his room overnight so this doesn’t happen, and as such, we’ve told him he’s no longer allowed on his Switch past 10PM. However, he’s been asking for his time back, and says that at his age we shouldn’t be restricting him like this so he can learn how to put his devices away on his own before college. Is this true?? Or should I just take it altogether??",4.880924369747898,4.693498436974792,4.823193277310924,90.76151260504204,68.83193277310924,8.14453781512605,25.403361344537807,7.447530270364453,0.8499210084033608,450,10,104,4,7,139,82,119,0.04,0.853,0.107,0.7912,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,3,1,18,16,8,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,6,6,0,1,1,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,1,18,4,12,7,1,23,0,0,0,0,21,9,0,2,12,60,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21111202235706167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970940719474343,0.0,0.19807818943830194,0.16211236256354214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939759942111047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411290501359299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18643294492789664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718515215857674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558411103098984,0.0,0.1029990500503944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827949080510587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956922829304589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122667071943225,0.0,0.0,0.1603428532718728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025149970014772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119385985699617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676574854398986,0.0,0.2133674071057524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851509241619302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293447409116855,0.0,0.0,0.2014535040114828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576518428222484
parenting,bridgetlk,2020/02/20,"8yo boy acting out I am at such a loss, my 8yo is acting out more and more and I just can't get a handle on him. In the last year, life has been a little hard on him, because his dad and I split up over 3 years ago, but just recently told him, and then we sold our family's first home and moved in with my fiance, our routine has changed a bit, but I felt like he liked this neighborhood a lot better because he has a few friends here, our last neighborhood it wasn't like that. I didn't change his school even though we further away, so I drive long distances everyday so he could at least keep one part of his life the same. So the problems I'm having with him is constant lying and now acting out in school he's starting to be a bully and he's even threatened some kids by saying ""I'm going to kill you if you don't leave me alone"", it's getting more serious everyday and I've tried every kind of punishment, I've tried reasoning with him. I know broken homes are hard for children, I came from one. But I've done a lot to make him feel as normal as possible transitioning by letting him pick out the color of his room, going out around the neighborhood to play with his friends etc etc... 

I just don't know what to do anymore, and now I'm in limbo on whether or not he's going to be expelled from school or not, I find out tomorrow.",5.46926453143535,4.507078370106765,6.0355729537366525,85.1566097271649,67.79003558718861,9.343867141162516,29.409489916963228,8.447377352677275,1.8024090628707,1046,30,235,13,15,341,151,281,0.138,0.7709999999999999,0.091,-0.9311,0,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,2,0,3,14,13,2,0,13,0,20,2,0,3,0,51,38,23,1,4,12,1,4,3,2,0,2,1,3,3,5,23,0,1,6,1,1,9,7,5,0,3,8,6,32,8,39,26,13,47,0,1,1,0,33,22,0,6,19,156,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629508884875644,0.0,0.0,0.11250926044932448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773305484070278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670488399165587,0.0,0.0,0.10206267786067952,0.0,0.0,0.1324412586748807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960755528668712,0.11859723921199425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242452621192842,0.0,0.0,0.22983501286955985,0.0,0.0,0.11739183824779775,0.0,0.08673324989044559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116753107505188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24230521929769025,0.1434998920428857,0.0,0.09152655152207198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240791727391016,0.0,0.054927246910379084,0.0,0.10430307915280397,0.0,0.09928703588503507,0.09240172429035454,0.0,0.0,0.1678565385589387,0.0,0.1135107364088315,0.0,0.18521300558952372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462460646101828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179320928865413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655648657176924,0.12018443318728195,0.11312277742390316,0.11940183788937855,0.17709800899547393,0.0,0.1150248566050102,0.0,0.11108285944268728,0.15345899296307036,0.159215291119023,0.10887709635879753,0.0,0.09613527791559144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470888514934894,0.0,0.0,0.07251223315054224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545787520131613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643560478898294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472227541945785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763710677063186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224654633020117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394547862802224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169106408810216,0.10726029873453527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638796616582517,0.0,0.32982201118391163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688978993762664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672969608392274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380185795384328,0.0,0.1475070375303845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990998511634306
parenting,infosecki,2020/02/20,Worst thing I’ve heard from a teen So I keep my house stocked with food because I generally starved as a kid with a single parent raising me and didn’t want my family to experience that. My teen says “I’m getting fat!! It’s all your fault because you keep so much food in the house!”  First I thought it was a joke then realized it’s just the worst spoiled attitude ever.,2.1568609022556373,4.142424723684211,3.3942857142857146,90.06500000000004,78.07894736842105,6.974436090225563,26.646616541353367,7.957251820313856,1.507551127819548,293,12,64,5,7,95,55,76,0.2,0.754,0.046,-0.9309999999999999,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,6,0,2,3,1,0,2,12,9,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,5,3,3,2,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,2,9,1,6,5,5,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,40,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525400417001093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736909785283354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262170337165802,0.1952722282884776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619234020367985,0.5009466379133752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822158590498704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4780212242117435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682293477006268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522710096260066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300033627272288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472525854998468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376139573345688,0.0,0.0,0.16444524012841422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221759577379174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katevonnegut,2020/02/20,"Recently became a caregiver to my nieces Does anyone have any resources or recommended subreddits for childfree adults who become caregivers/guardians? I recently shifted roles from ""cool auntie we see a few times a year"" to ""auntie who makes dinner every day"" and I would appreciate being able to read about/talk to others in similar situations.",8.801551724137934,10.848311741379316,8.375344827586208,60.8416379310345,60.89655172413793,11.317241379310346,36.91379310344829,11.20814326018867,5.0394000000000005,283,13,37,8,4,90,49,58,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,3,1,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,7,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,5,23,7,1,0.2652572341479109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038401527872144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547402565411186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929557749138961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106897184193573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321283931397937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22349066022031394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706126354991014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653290165226342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5238190356997888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21137567264600732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981602450246933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132037170426429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546736263738177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884311285368289,0.0,0.0,0.17081696199121665
parenting,penis_rinkle,2020/02/20,"Picky eater advice My son is 5 and he is the pickiest eater of all time. My ex wife was a stay at home mom while we were married and only fed him junk food like chewy bars hot Cheetos and fruit snacks. Even when he tells me he wants something that he likes he'll take 2 bites and then say he doesn't want it anymore. Then 20 minutes later he says he's hungry and I tell him to finish his food from earlier and he just starts crying. I've been telling him recently that he's not getting anything else until he finishes the food he asked for earlier, but I usually cave in and give into his demands. He's a stubborn little guy and if I don't give him what he asks for he won't eat and I feel like it's my job to make sure he doesn't go to bed hungry. How do I get him to eat real food? And if I stick to my guns and don't give him food until he eats what he wanted earlier would you consider that some form of abuse?",3.7886833333333385,3.503225035,4.952000000000002,89.24433333333336,71.15,8.266666666666667,25.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.073466666666667,717,18,170,8,12,238,120,200,0.066,0.883,0.051,-0.615,1,0,1,1,1,0,9.0,1,1,0,0,4,5,1,0,4,0,12,12,0,2,2,30,29,21,0,6,5,4,2,3,0,3,0,2,2,1,7,13,12,1,1,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,4,5,21,4,15,22,3,19,0,0,0,0,43,4,0,3,16,84,28,1,0.0,0.12132935876143693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006582958142653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155504483031416,0.0,0.0,0.0842679358009691,0.0,0.19146367319527208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248354165106184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31434774201255583,0.08554354327900644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763540675194239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517774143751635,0.07315584867073703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6191231652809022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070014021394444,0.2946993411963585,0.058197288701576026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139385704188524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271732986585252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161796104262028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008500456217475,0.10263348067184527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835398011537043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993172149379296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778811644477848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655563879043015,0.0,0.0,0.10110939917748613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628680035063008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883388945460859,0.0,0.0,0.07248050355255455,0.1091466673839313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651246126002402,0.0,0.0769933908996176,0.0,0.268510995222983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059711298618107776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278108817978498,0.0,0.18119766047178534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274328305859278,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrincessRapBattles,2020/02/20,"Help/advice! Adolescent daughter aggressively apologizing/asking for forgiveness? Hi everyone,
I have a wonderful 13 year old daughter. Emotions are strong. She can be happy one moment and in tears the next. For several months now, she has been doing this thing where she’ll get upset over something and then ask why me or my husband is mad at her (even if our voices are calm/even with no indication that we’re mad. She’ll apologize and ask for forgiveness in this irritable and almost hysterical manner. We’ll thank her for apologizing and either say of course we forgive you or that it’s ok there’s nothing to forgive...

And then it keeps going.

She goes through this cycle of asking if we’re mad at her, apologizing, asking for forgiveness, saying she didn’t mean it, she starts calling herself stupid, she says she ruined the morning/afternoon/evening, insisting that we drop it and start over... and then it starts all over again. 

It’s incredibly annoying. You’d think it would end after the apology and sometimes hug and kiss, reassurance, but it doesn’t.

At first I thought it was some sort of insecurity so I tried very hard to keep irritation out of my voice and reassure her but it doesn’t appear to help. She just goes through this cycle. 

I didn’t know whether or not to ignore it (she keeps going and gets louder/more hysterical in her “I’m sorry’s” until I respond). I try to say that one apology is enough. Let’s drop it and move on, etc. it keeps going. Eventually she just stops when the cycle runs it’s course but it could be about 10-15 minutes until the whole thing ends.

I don’t know why she does it. I’ve tried talking about it with her when she’s calm but she gets upset when I ask and the whole cycle starts. 

Has anyone else experienced this? Anyone know why she’s doing it? Is it a phase that I need to just wait out? Is there a way that I can respond better so that it stops sooner or happens less frequently?

Thanks for your help!",2.7287896624044383,5.24802102110818,3.860686015831135,84.69212637845884,78.89445910290237,6.947865503010623,23.17441309789595,8.055295364500962,1.3959887828969628,1553,51,299,29,39,503,185,379,0.11699999999999999,0.748,0.135,0.7101,0,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,4,3,0,3,16,27,6,3,9,1,29,2,0,0,1,64,62,35,0,5,16,3,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,34,20,0,8,12,0,0,6,7,11,0,3,5,8,43,16,37,48,8,48,0,1,0,2,61,13,0,11,26,203,77,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217947999641996,0.0,0.0,0.08421188400209065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760639325461053,0.08616822150173345,0.0,0.0,0.4717210210680885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437774521889277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587334338288907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714531813620785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359462596684678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025299178676712,0.09459880145901224,0.14897152922783655,0.0868955960784368,0.0937913721459621,0.16663757986530475,0.0,0.0,0.08035913313802906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153361809510013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181302184006746,0.0,0.14338429839744501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436748204648623,0.08952376247083572,0.07533518653149703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691071190030395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29900025732531066,0.0,0.0,0.1386539948853008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599578530932618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916072510015124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671261295372477,0.08938274273724582,0.0,0.062357516192904965,0.0,0.0,0.08943905486163298,0.0,0.0,0.08069418887519733,0.0,0.0882465836137179,0.0,0.1139738068130738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675120546582111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950066726390438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474266059227761,0.08317495873016678,0.09414069716163832,0.238099663661138,0.0,0.0,0.1406191951764978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759469446310011,0.0,0.15485206736511992,0.0,0.0,0.1117417960070985,0.053886529041128194,0.0,0.06676432693557773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129083093538516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693895626412724,0.0,0.06675298674914089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22765578211012186,0.1877845707860308,0.0,0.0,0.09120056900319404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059740724680876815,0.0,0.0,0.054156280739711
parenting,socks12nine,2020/02/20,"My daughter hates having a little brother My son is 3 and my daughter is 7. My oldest wasn't happy when she found out she had a baby brother, we of course thought she'd grow out of it. 

When her brother came home she would do her best to not let him sleep, she'd run around the house screaming. Then when her brother was just one, she scratched him really hard on purpose.

Our youngest got out of the house a month ago, my fiance was cooking dinner while listening to music and when he went to check on him, he was gone. After panic we immediately found him sitting by the car outside and was confused at how he got out. Since then we got a lock at the very top of the door. He got out yesterday. Turns out my daughter got on a chair, unlocked the special lock and took her brother outside and left him on the sidewalk a good distance from our house. She told her brother she would be back and just never did. 

She's been doing all kinds of stuff recently, we gave her piping hot cocoa and told her not to drink it & leave it there and we'll bring it to her when it's cooled a little. She grabbed it said “woah that's hot!”, then gave it to her brother to burn his tongue. She scares her brother with the light off and monster noises, she knocks down his legos, pushes him when she thinks we can't see, takes things from her brother and hides them, yells at him and makes him cry, and I'm almost certain she hit him in the face this morning

What can we do to stop this?

When my brother was born I just saw him as a pet and adored him, still do. I wanted that for my kids",3.788494230227976,4.501911684210531,4.091327047565438,91.87970377146077,71.47678018575851,6.4919223191669015,25.51773149451168,5.852544927426893,0.5411931888544887,1226,35,271,5,22,382,165,323,0.081,0.8690000000000001,0.05,-0.8011,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,9,0,1,2,16,13,1,3,17,1,25,5,2,2,3,48,54,26,0,3,5,14,5,0,0,3,0,4,3,1,14,28,3,1,4,2,1,9,5,5,0,1,27,13,58,8,37,19,2,53,0,0,2,0,73,21,0,2,22,185,72,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000031966005962,0.0,0.11296736833011738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222344015088667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004287720347256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674734279986689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839179749316478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902966831384607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392136792430075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051520491812064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24739042689304735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946234020738146,0.4511400780276528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009307200738753,0.10105958162520674,0.1113809060988913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316208433403208,0.0,0.0,0.3905181602822089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747888169557635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945420567701948,0.12257322206088304,0.11536041105119045,0.0,0.0,0.22613941796288176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530451650645721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004741183347915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700945298350618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644598601973153,0.0,0.0,0.13236344125375038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227182075880144,0.0,0.11139065210932543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731236923475768,0.0,0.11294693775990798,0.0,0.08989850467969752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332127277600603,0.0,0.11289591591988846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900937596514716,0.0943179255756451,0.0,0.0,0.12914554624804042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482242096367128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494890285965668,0.07228693962089207,0.0,0.0895620659912625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21559806907222973,0.1253409967975773,0.0,0.12270971815157625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308373009405377,0.06654088121324922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458011860258136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028028654875362,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hyperbole1981,2020/02/20,"Celebrating Holy crap. This evening, I successfully navigated a seventh grade math homework meltdown and actually got her to understand it. I’m calling this a parenting win.",7.291309523809524,11.058369321428573,8.278571428571432,52.33309523809528,70.07142857142857,12.304761904761904,48.61904761904761,11.20814326018867,7.82517619047619,143,11,18,6,3,48,25,28,0.078,0.601,0.321,0.8442,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,10,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.4204252336378392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4399227761544224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845573253900125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445718965264637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4783826593351381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4485063454173576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cooperton1oooh,2020/02/20,"12 yr old son spending way too much time on video games. Hi I have a 12 old son who spends the rest of his day when he gets home from school behind the computer screen. I’ve told him that if he doesn’t start getting up and going outside for some exercise than I’m gonna take the game away. He’s obsessed with Bo4 and is nonstop on it. He’s very good at the game and has tons of followers on YouTube but honestly I don’t like him playing it for several hours. He’s a good at school, comes home and does his homework than he will get on his game and never get back up. He goes outside at school he says and runs track but I don’t think it’s good for him to sit hours and hours when coming home from school. He is obsessed over how many followers he has on YouTube and he loves his friends to watch his streams. I can understand that but he needs to get up every once and awhile. He was prescribed glasses last year because he couldn’t see due to too much computer time and eye strain. So I made a schedule last year. When he can play and when he can’t. Well he keeps going behind the schedule and getting on when I’m at work and stuff. I don’t know what to do. So I said screw it with the schedule and here I am. I need help. How do I get him off this game?",1.836808080808084,3.1736164518518533,2.7008080808080805,97.55818181818182,77.07407407407408,6.094276094276093,22.643097643097644,6.574015621080383,0.20081481481481456,982,28,239,8,22,309,133,270,0.025,0.8340000000000001,0.141,0.9881,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,14,14,1,3,9,0,18,4,1,3,1,34,47,27,0,4,4,2,0,1,1,2,1,2,4,0,10,18,0,1,3,9,2,7,7,4,1,0,4,6,19,10,34,40,5,49,0,0,4,2,41,16,1,2,25,128,29,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968829960513828,0.07929157383082867,0.0,0.06285993180951997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765449383153775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650274442402815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023948081478893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688157821818047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796689088669781,0.0,0.3771252293423418,0.0,0.1172089626055666,0.25947210241250995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911799342429101,0.0,0.31030805585100185,0.0,0.30465213200287383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165624401936336,0.0,0.0,0.05667109677719509,0.1681102834636326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503783712261606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306825213577946,0.09757298721695967,0.0,0.10454572663513263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516075663442545,0.152921760582966,0.07953115614317448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641052683841666,0.10981757733070684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808907539415714,0.08200377611447189,0.0,0.41744472157666346,0.08217189934608893,0.0,0.0,0.1164942779483666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298763241434254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804573240789698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753209536189841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607401477620148,0.0,0.0,0.12025816877393615,0.0,0.0,0.09853391273934813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073497412607398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508336069993051,0.0,0.08185047193245558,0.0,0.0,0.09271569623862112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750713185733142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280955212716228
parenting,Birdhouzz,2020/02/20,"Lack of respect for authority - turning the tide I was talking about this with a friend today and she made a comment that a colleague of hers who never complains or says a mean thing is ready to retire after a long career in education. In her 2nd grade classroom only 4 students have any respect for her as a teacher and that it’s a growing trend. As a parent, I’m wondering if other teachers feel the same thing? We empower our children to be independent, resourceful and confident - are we making them “know-it-all’s”? Or is this our doing - as parents? Are we trying to micromanage our kids’ educational experience so much that we’re not respecting the teacher’s role in this? I want my children’s educators to feel supported and valued. Realistically, what’s a good way to teach respect and self-confidence? And people will say karate - but there must be more to this?",4.892850401132609,6.873931914110429,6.2398773006135,72.6581547899953,70.34969325153375,8.69636621047664,32.17036337895234,9.265573868473778,3.1811240207645115,694,32,118,15,13,234,109,163,0.023,0.8220000000000001,0.156,0.925,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,6,0,1,0,3,8,0,0,12,0,11,0,0,3,2,27,21,14,0,4,5,2,2,0,1,2,0,2,0,3,13,10,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,4,14,7,19,15,4,9,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,4,4,87,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211439736076214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900392862636792,0.0,0.0,0.19646364819501144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500972185647822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294955970967978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676905357741498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192821852472548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382872561711552,0.12968079291109386,0.0,0.0,0.21162360662636215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281527351933113,0.0,0.14983769071399702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775571431804535,0.0,0.0,0.4314411947347456,0.0,0.0,0.13468657320086536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30899227519590416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026723229362126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22046219489376287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615175517986105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581367918303653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18415100905854967,0.0,0.0,0.13190070665175546,0.21131658877895776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458906632774335,0.1542073106058137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106841230124208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OriginalPangolin5,2020/02/20,"Do you have moments when you can't tell your twins apart? I have identical 8yo boys. They have polar opposite personalities, but sometimes I can't tell them a part. The other day one was calling me from the other room and I realized that I had no idea which one was calling me because they sound the same. Tonight one jumped on my back and I couldn't tell which one was on my back. Their handwriting is the same too.",2.4840060240963844,4.725130819277113,3.0996234939759044,91.31883283132534,78.1566265060241,6.559638554216868,23.62801204819277,7.645422480735847,0.986446987951808,330,11,70,5,8,103,53,83,0.037000000000000005,0.963,0.0,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,4,0,4,0,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,12,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,4,1,16,0,3,7,3,11,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,0,6,56,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30316131546774594,0.0,0.12016850402190912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025831580428461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713242093553342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22253556361643528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5343210509038505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347237680358236,0.0,0.0,0.17212614864469647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949664251825675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5169004349827391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mom219982irock,2020/02/20,"13yr old daughter has 876K followers on TikTok and IS ALWAYS ON HER PHONE. Hello, I have a 13-year-old daughter who got famous on TikTok for dancing to some song a couple months ago and ever since then she’s been earning followers left and right. She is always on her phone never looks up from it. I’ve scheduled phone time and time away from the phone and she still finds a way to see who’s viewing her videos. She has an old iPad That she logged onto to see her TikTok and who has been following her. She’s overly concerned over if she can beat other peoples followings. And she wants people to like her. Shes  putting herself out there too much. I’m glad that she thinks this is fun and she thinks it’s great but honestly it causes a lot of problems in our family and I’m wondering if it’s time to take TikTok away. If I take it away she’s concerned about her fans on the app but I want what is right for my daughter. She is always obsessed over who is following her and looking at her posts. Even when she’s off the phone she still talks about it. It’s nonstop. I’ve told her that, I think it’s great that she finds this interesting but she’s spending way too much time on the app. I think we need to take the app away because last night she cried because she thought I was gonna take away the app because I told her she needs to take a break from it. She cried and told me that she doesn’t want time to take it away and she needs to post for her fans or she’ll loose followers. What do I do here? This is insane. I can’t take this anymore",1.516454599761051,3.4903462746913583,2.4348944643568338,96.22105734767028,80.08024691358024,5.415213062524892,20.328156113102352,6.3737218528115,-0.034836001592991384,1219,32,276,10,31,383,140,324,0.059000000000000004,0.861,0.079,0.6471,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,2,11,9,0,1,12,0,21,0,0,1,2,41,57,21,0,10,7,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,26,14,0,0,8,3,1,8,3,2,0,0,8,6,50,7,39,47,4,55,0,0,5,0,56,24,0,7,19,180,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697118499485061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19631063246118655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799224906833074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4433234240351369,0.0,0.0,0.14381925281105026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078753226253213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701645380691822,0.17277023334874014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051942643499880106,0.0711366627160454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413716990022845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375567913583975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289760826512135,0.1734073143192244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410415098459664,0.0,0.0,0.08544532929422634,0.0,0.0,0.03842076342865116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207982221977918,0.0,0.0,0.06685905916713608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277171005901032,0.0,0.1156226034850722,0.17493729878865136,0.06065396044001675,0.0,0.0,0.07380067867410321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24756629043648745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904164424583697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063559285117606,0.0,0.0,0.0752502718007089,0.0,0.07905745492868439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432056667019768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533581489111692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505390613409408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560803789511502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139057208614522,0.06320987954490492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015638083336351,0.0,0.06243337730889965,0.2292854324370707,0.0,0.0,0.2254388972241313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915618952979786,0.12484554550296025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528445948173748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05064320520046015
parenting,therealmomstuff,2020/02/20,"Looking for Feedback I recently launched my online store, and I would love to get as much feedback as possible on products and user experience. Any comments would be much appreciated![Mom Stuff Store](https://www.therealmomstuff.com/store)",12.358137254901962,16.694722852941187,9.306470588235298,48.52578431372552,55.764705882352935,10.415686274509804,43.68627450980392,10.504223727775694,5.945815686274513,203,11,22,5,3,59,27,34,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.7177,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,5,6,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,5,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,16,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374194175804665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27868711561010817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488486234235806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23924445864676705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25713360167669624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33367173312190823,0.0,0.0,0.41886893415235776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211822283273851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813046293195475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261426280180118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047699312378237,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tammicus,2020/02/20,"Hotel stay with toddler This will be our first time staying in a hotel with only one room with our 1 year old. She sleeps in her own room every night and puts herself to sleep (we put her down awake every night). When we have traveled in the past we have stayed at family or Airbnb’s that have multiple rooms. This trip we have to stay one night in a normal hotel room. 
Any advice as to how to help her go to sleep? She sleeps fine in her pack n play but we’re worried about her knowing we’re still in the room while trying to go to sleep. Thanks in advance!!",2.113706896551726,3.7993864051724167,2.7684827586206917,95.8747931034483,77.1896551724138,5.329655172413793,18.49655172413793,5.6839178017228535,-0.4699627586206896,437,8,98,2,10,136,70,116,0.024,0.895,0.081,0.6792,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,6,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,0,6,5,5,1,0,13,10,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,3,8,0,0,1,5,0,7,0,0,0,3,0,0,14,3,21,8,1,36,0,0,0,0,15,14,0,1,11,59,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149922020071344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002411663917454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19829520518879645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093501629355164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009564751019724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375663613908248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887613789593692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646719764659875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33129452481952304,0.11529807329152622,0.0,0.0,0.12348178608321925,0.0,0.15948140602912114,0.08949834955840727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233562073096412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365949512894288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5888078741374997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017103511446094,0.09397667694388682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834079390894163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861816607650705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798946802524985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950628950714337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577986591114014
parenting,anthonytanwj,2020/02/20,"Baby Car Seat Hi, I am intending to buy a baby car seat. my neighbour is offering to give me a car seat that was bought about 7 years ago and it looks like new, very low usage.

My wife was saying that car seat has an ""expiry"" so should buy a new one instead.

Any advice pls?",0.3755747126436759,2.3261818448275875,2.421379310344829,94.91988505747128,84.0,5.2459770114942526,16.563218390804597,6.42735559955562,-0.4032160919540231,209,4,48,2,6,70,43,58,0.043,0.89,0.068,0.1045,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,3,9,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,0,1,3,2,4,1,3,5,0,9,0,1,1,0,6,1,0,0,5,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30923965982725465,0.28052143534236496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21520268483892105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30357590399601425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460567625039234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657455033557809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6112753331413726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144405224371558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516605629099837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26111146903927657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20378894870333936
parenting,ShredderRedder,2020/02/20,"Trauma - In Utero - ?? I left a Domestic Violence relationship while pregnant with my son, who is now 17monthes old. 

I experienced a lot of stress due to the trauma of that relationship, especially what I experienced while pregnant and the fear of what the future holds in terms of coparenting, not having a lot of support from family (who let me down majorly) and experiencing homelessness, job loss and financial pressures.

We were lucky to have access to services that helped us with housing and heaps of other stuff that we owe our lives to. 

My son is intelligent, active, eats heaps, loves being outside, reading and cuddles. He points, makes eye contact and is very verbal. He likes talking to the kids next door. 

Potential problem 1: He rarely throws tantrums, except, over the past couple of months and this has occurred maybe 3 or 4 times, he wakes up and is absolutely inconsolable. 

Potential problem 2: He doesn’t settle very well at daycare and the educators say that he is ok so long as one of them is with him or close by, otherwise, he becomes very upset. I read somewhere and spoke to the doctor who said he is at an age where separation anxiety is common and really, being away from the primary care giver would be stressful for a little one. 

Potential problem 3: My social worker has noticed that my son doesn’t like me talking to others and is a little aggressive about it (he tried to ram her with this toy trolley thing, but he seemed like he was just playing and I think he was, yeah, just playing, then again he never rams me with it, idk). 

Does anyone think these issues could be related to experiencing stress while he was in my belly? The doctor seems to think he is ok, and I think so too, although, should I consider taking my little one to a paediatrician or child psychologist or anything like that?",7.303447761194029,7.847788979104477,7.532947761194032,70.88867537313435,63.6865671641791,10.52089552238806,33.764925373134325,10.355215969177356,3.5600179104477596,1448,57,248,32,20,471,192,335,0.083,0.805,0.11199999999999999,0.8845,3,0,0,0,1,0,46.0,4,0,1,2,10,28,2,6,16,3,28,7,2,1,1,49,42,27,0,6,9,3,0,4,0,2,2,3,1,2,20,22,1,1,6,5,1,1,4,14,1,3,6,8,23,14,40,28,4,35,0,1,1,2,42,16,0,9,22,167,43,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337919343320444,0.0,0.0,0.06707009382829432,0.0,0.07893469272784392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012080313375116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593705097908453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779770700147386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658499955485344,0.10613460436923207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963581243122948,0.08394098878907899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815098388097812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904256477042242,0.10793763226244436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429372885090016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106797909630442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001164541987984,0.0951866502280812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042182923239336,0.09808557562083467,0.0,0.18744834328054627,0.2884136955563607,0.08469987451557562,0.0848869404256271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309696575198504,0.0865723188853756,0.0,0.06402791721249056,0.0,0.09636539398861092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656311331045676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398007862986966,0.0,0.10201292013941632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920653201195474,0.1006528043111542,0.0,0.19499536646034524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156731214582213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067621468950576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27534991867056896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918936300733451,0.0,0.06144935750226487,0.0,0.0,0.20596620713170932,0.0,0.0,0.0912427011286914,0.07628011585765826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464549224755285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777923461301666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32963105451742913,0.0,0.1098064329623889,0.0,0.1088498523664891,0.0,0.0,0.07212054733475741,0.15419510366651878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372555551901864,0.24584884946144805,0.0,0.0,0.05593222337774015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512396582551375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538098113724485,0.0,0.0,0.23743425922325004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624437051572979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813942505731299,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gabriel-Anthony,2020/02/20,"New Dad here, just sharing some info So I'm new to reddit (coworker got me hooked lol) and recently we just had a daughter. My little Maddie was such a blessing, but man did I lose sleep for a bit. Trying to adjust to the life was hard, and I set out to research ways I could get her to sleep through the night. I know its expected for the first few weeks, but I was super desperate to get at least one more hour of sleep. Finally I found something on the internet about ways you could help your little one to relax and fall right back to sleep. So I'd like to share what I found because holy moly did this work for us. My gf is sleeping loads better and so am I! If you want to see what I found, comment or message me and I'll send you the link",1.9484615384615367,3.3961338216560537,3.2499363057324864,93.27246447819698,77.02547770700637,6.3594316511513975,22.268005879470852,7.010146845296331,0.4562360607545322,578,16,132,6,13,188,102,157,0.048,0.782,0.17,0.9653,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,4,0,5,9,8,0,0,8,1,10,6,5,0,0,25,20,12,0,5,6,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,10,2,20,7,19,8,5,20,1,1,1,0,17,6,0,3,10,85,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926643821000994,0.0,0.07346148472738259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065808771408651,0.1315651839049468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924340911867724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201228845735585,0.0,0.1025053359603434,0.0,0.396397404905166,0.0,0.0,0.12592250047337955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638247172013026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795285923857384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077499087513977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867760218656087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622888047345038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511943770868319,0.05887486419227265,0.24156439560750104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481932748956715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327776902867316,0.0,0.11309002077234152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16332073882410905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898861240339467,0.0,0.0,0.10291447143707397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603048484246884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6029827515568172,0.0,0.0,0.09277411588709343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181805347622388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449581143464063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107963705870785,0.19130969508574974,0.096665467743257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877323656594038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheBananaKing,2020/02/20,"Why aren't basic emotional/cognitive/social/relationship skills taught in schools? Okay no seriously. 

I spend some time in some alternative-relationship communities, and there's a huge focus there on people learning to actively reflect on, acknowledge and manage their emotions, to proactively set boundaries, communicate their needs, and take responsibility for their own behaviour. Ways to manage anxiety and insecurities, techniques for self-motivating, approaches to resolving conflict without it turning into a shitfight, being clear about expectations and responsibilities, the whole works. 

And when you think about it, it's just nuts that people are learning this stuff from scratch in adulthood, *after* getting themselves into a hideous mess. 

People go through life trying to navigate all this stuff completely untutored, flying blind by the seat of their pants, ending up reactive and with terrible coping skills when anything goes wrong. They all have to learn the hard way after making all the mistakes themselves. 

Sure, there's school counselors and the like, but they only come into play *after* kids have blundered into a crisis, which is the worst possible time to learn. You don't wait until they go to the dentist with a mouth full of cavities to teach them to brush their teeth, after all.... 

Why the hell aren't all these things taught in schools as *basic life skills*? Humans don't pop out of the womb well-adjusted; you have to *learn* to manage your feelings and ways to effectively interact with others. 

Sure, you can say that it's the parents' responsibility, but look how badly so many people clearly fail on that account. And if the parents lack those skills themselves, they'll pass on that lack (with whatever maladaptive overcompensations) to their kids. 

How many grown-ass adults do you know that you just cannot even with them? How many do you know whose relationships are codependent or just a dumpster-fire of toes getting trodden on? How many go to pieces under stress, or just *react* their way through life? How many people do you know who blame everything they do on external factors, and generally have the emotional self-awareness of an angry goldfish? 

Too damn many, right? And frankly, I don't think it's their fault, they were just never given the right tools. 

So. Let's say that the education system actually recognized this as a problem, and set out to do something the hell about it. 

What should go on the curriculum? What subjects should it be broken down into? What skills and practices should they teach, and how should they go about it?",7.457610565110568,9.664575502252255,6.4802457002457,72.56647420147422,64.24774774774775,9.345782145782149,32.823914823914826,9.725611199111238,3.4107936936936945,2089,86,325,44,33,633,227,444,0.177,0.767,0.055999999999999994,-0.9961,2,0,1,0,1,0,76.0,0,9,18,9,24,21,3,2,24,1,28,9,4,9,10,87,51,33,0,11,11,2,3,1,0,5,5,2,0,4,29,28,0,2,15,1,2,8,9,15,0,0,4,8,29,6,65,39,14,51,2,1,2,1,39,25,3,5,12,230,58,17,0.0,0.0,0.07853388087363808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156463598069194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622566148074471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719488027162104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932375469204048,0.08437853655392204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105144283558602,0.07127867872567521,0.0,0.0,0.05315425741821839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232748114748143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04069155704557307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409175528861577,0.0,0.2286844874040109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209152762746833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268405858069204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229311982762708,0.17052972024526356,0.0393169660203318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758035784257754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371897988190685,0.4895458922121649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05967262853356845,0.062068774506452026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061206336472120995,0.0,0.0,0.17872022787577327,0.0,0.0,0.27896287313343937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072565377611698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700555937425503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25920633574277496,0.0,0.13745372773268907,0.0,0.12799697967834853,0.0,0.2443408679279672,0.0,0.0,0.1679099918195881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203610183996764,0.0,0.061955077297281065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218605860788046,0.0,0.18425367620922106,0.0,0.0,0.15169712008078726,0.0,0.06050864060579121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053465300511472656,0.10313274250652264,0.0,0.0,0.09385349744885976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05463855709066071,0.08753579714084943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555153845105154,0.0,0.0,0.07235843060905334,0.0,0.14523583521566433,0.08984962536180506,0.0,0.07757689474970883,0.0,0.058588168089003176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798889634329275,0.0,0.0
parenting,asheyjone,2020/02/20,"My Sweet Baby in Labour Room The emotions you feel when your newborn baby is born are those that are life changing. The first look and touch of your newborn baby will only remain as the most beautiful memory that's cast into stone in your heart and mind. If you were able to share the memories of these beautiful moments with your loved ones, be it family or friends wouldn't that be even better? [Here is my sweet baby video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vhb1Xg3UgHs)",5.974957983193277,8.394862764705882,4.6939495798319335,83.03705882352945,68.41176470588235,7.680672268907562,26.26050420168067,8.418075326091056,1.8516386554621849,385,12,65,6,7,112,63,85,0.0,0.728,0.272,0.9795,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,6,0,2,3,6,0,0,4,0,9,3,1,0,0,10,12,6,0,2,2,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,8,6,8,7,1,8,0,0,1,1,11,4,0,3,4,45,14,1,0.282304998530868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24967582992818574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986412561386876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31755512613322745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864597890477866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661320281134405,0.0,0.14274188957332706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24012848753478094,0.0,0.0,0.21810814157712152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345327825046511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940036921301965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370650984352195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254791283097132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850475724073531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129717311530334,0.21470567253316453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheSparkHasRisen,2020/02/20,"Simple phone for 5-year-old. Recommendations? I want to get a simple phone for my children to call family.

It will stay on the coffee table.  Maybe go in the oldest's pocket for chaotic outings.

There will be no games or internet.

I want only icons with parent/grandparent pics for her to push-to-call.

What phone would you get?",2.120645161290323,4.944085822580647,3.2292741935483886,85.71391129032259,85.93548387096773,5.680645161290323,17.427419354838708,7.1686216300943375,0.4454774193548383,259,6,47,4,8,83,47,62,0.099,0.857,0.045,-0.6322,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,9,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,10,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,1,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119451025279793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879940064642102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31921762130602976,0.0,0.1736201553841979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30691133106460144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205661790805541,0.0,0.0,0.23234312413183755,0.0,0.0,0.33921664392644313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256175978925344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603783689154641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21701526633916104,0.0,0.0,0.1967291115306615
parenting,DisastrousOcelot1,2020/02/20,"Is it me or...? Is having thee kids five and under really hardcore or am I just not a good mom?
I have a five month old a three year old and a five year old and it’s like we have a good day and then a few really tough days. The baby is pretty easy but she likes to be held when she’s up and my oldest kids keep waking her up from naps/ being super loud/ trashing her bed and I don’t know it feels really overwhelming some days!",0.3273286052009432,2.0084014255319147,2.668439716312058,94.53388888888892,82.61702127659575,5.879905437352246,13.635933806146571,6.937597516519254,-0.639539952718676,330,3,79,4,9,113,62,94,0.051,0.785,0.16399999999999998,0.9136,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,1,2,7,0,1,7,0,10,1,1,0,0,17,14,11,0,0,5,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,4,1,2,11,5,5,11,2,15,0,1,0,0,9,3,0,3,14,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712050277761632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701110702464433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218492035925822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053561173421086,0.0,0.0,0.10544224520596672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746799952682894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470625870157596,0.15314228377442113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6039801539159001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519245864206214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687348073037062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24710545864575684
parenting,PghMe101,2020/02/20,"Present ideas from my 5 yo to my wife I need some help figuring out a birthday present from my 5 yo girl (and 2 1/2 yo boy as well), to my wife.  She is great at thinking of things from them to me for my birthday and I am usually terrible for the other way around.  The only good one I came with in the past was transforming a picture that my daughter drew of my wife and she wrote mommy and I turned that into a necklace pendant.",3.497,3.982159366666668,4.551111111111112,89.15000000000002,72.0,7.777777777777778,29.44444444444445,7.793537801064563,1.6414444444444456,333,13,75,4,6,109,59,90,0.035,0.856,0.109,0.765,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,15,8,5,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,3,0,15,3,17,5,1,11,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,1,4,52,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475824451813877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31809092289846513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23327073290029016,0.0,0.3066241705124405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864154739500556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31395941742596445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062196908795964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884587828727306,0.21151995642445956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654934500934164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847680924271375,0.17820567655483727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30251063964997305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063057804340492,0.0,0.0,0.2207557505996991,0.0,0.0,0.2500599279674362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofplants81,2020/02/20,"How to support young teen daughter through her heartbreak? How best to support my daughter (13) after a recent breakup? (Obligatory I’m on my phone pardon my formatting). 





She and her now ex (15) were together 18 months, quite serious (they talked of one day marrying, etc) and just the other day (5 days ago) he ended it with a ‘you deserve someone better than me, I still love you’ and no further explanation. Now he won’t answer her texts to try and ask what was going on. I know it’s probably normal for a young relationship, but 18 months and talk of marriage is pretty big in my book, and my girl is understandably upset. She’s mopey, not wanting to eat, doesn’t care about things. This is my first time with a kid going through a breakup (& haven’t really been through one myself as I married my first boyfriend, her dad). Help, oh wise people! 





Oh and they did nothing more physical than cuddle and hold hands - his family are very conservative, even got cranky at us for letting them go for a walk down the street on their own in the middle of the day.",4.487058823529414,5.888938294117647,4.926745098039216,83.96335294117648,70.47058823529412,7.9890196078431375,28.30588235294117,8.447377352677275,1.942596470588235,828,30,162,13,15,263,139,204,0.040999999999999995,0.821,0.138,0.9674,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,4,5,8,10,0,1,10,0,12,4,1,2,0,22,25,12,0,2,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,10,1,2,3,1,0,4,5,3,0,4,5,1,26,7,27,18,4,33,0,1,0,2,30,11,0,0,18,107,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249252390671313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149723217437215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291841727066793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501646525070944,0.12221326234902664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088865488625624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35647116266649426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139759017606848,0.0,0.0,0.12239075364866447,0.0,0.15411262517323582,0.09126978419575406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026836991254442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23507991024204625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356008887498099,0.0,0.11051904073384236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926223860779118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594277474078609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130336218164405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471721405452575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22059564337335047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353918047120461,0.13259208175809778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872752489601596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579996962121017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058366159406768,0.14898663035189674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697658785949946,0.0,0.0,0.08852474753818412,0.0,0.13644085969552458,0.1483588049481224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708356731088596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035459248397424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31362103989311546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221354816150779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180386815018753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805766920114872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381843631443093,0.0,0.0,0.1438552927799809,0.1662193494131508,0.0,0.0,0.11401696567171472,0.08150499943857893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lethologica5,2020/02/20,"Seeing the forest through the trees My son so desperately wants to go to a game tomorrow all the other kids are going to and I have to tell him no. The reason, I just can’t afford it. Not in the it’s not in the budget way but  the I paid the light bill way.  He so young to understand and I make sure it’s not his burden to carry. I keep the lights on, food on the table, a roof over his head and love him more than the world.  I keep tell myself one day he’ll see the big picture and these little things won’t matter.",0.850884955752214,2.342450415929207,2.809920353982303,95.04337610619469,80.23893805309734,5.5819469026548685,15.724778761061945,6.2581,-0.6760824778761063,399,5,96,3,10,134,73,113,0.045,0.848,0.107,0.8699,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,14,0,4,3,1,2,2,18,16,7,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,2,2,1,3,2,6,1,0,1,1,4,12,2,13,13,2,15,0,0,2,1,12,8,0,0,3,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736641065151975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575586299447306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421039105793291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859790960115924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786457044377463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21348045228049284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223946097604214,0.0,0.1421781517559316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443332950755115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21899793137981607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394644527034541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074856416854905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37234015207808857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150673796314864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22173894880688866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563203305740014,0.3381365878016905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonnymomma,2020/02/20,"Should I find my son’s father? Hey guys! I just posted this situation in amitheasshole and it got deleted for lack of interpersonal conflict, but someone dmed and suggested I post it here, so here I am. 

So here is a quick run down and I’d appreciate any thoughts/advice. 

About 8 years ago my (f/25 at the time) girlfriend (f/26 at the time) and I decided we wanted a baby. She had always been the one who planned things and took charge. We (mostly she) spent several months going over our options and decided that we would do this the old fashioned way (it wasn’t unusual for us to add a male occasionally). She found (honestly not even sure how) a few guys who would be willing to help out and stick around to be an uncle type person to the baby. She was supposed to vet them etc. 

We picked C and after a bunch of convos, time spent together etc we decided to go for it. The next day C ghosted. I later found out his info was fake (possibly a friend of his info). We waited and tested (negative). GF deleted him from our lives. 

We tried again with M and it worked! Baby! A few years later M asked for a paternity test (I wasn’t asking him for anything and he was able to spend time with the kiddo whenever he wanted). Surprise to us all, he wasn’t the father! 

Basically at this point GF “tried” to get in touch with C but couldn’t. Now a few more years later I’ve found out she was quite the gas-lighter and manipulator. I’m not sure she even tried to find him. 

So now I have a 7 year old and I’m single. I’ve been told I’m basically a bad mom for not trying to find this guy. That he probably had no idea I would get pregnant after one time and that he should be able to know he has a son. 

I just...don’t know. I’m worried if I did find him he could want partial custody, which I know would be pretty traumatic on my son even if the guy was a great dad. 

So reddit...advice/comments/questions?",1.9405869324473959,3.796887901808791,3.723836101882615,88.05851162790701,78.25064599483206,6.696758951642673,22.16825396825397,7.6583078777640585,0.8447878774455521,1466,43,316,22,35,492,193,387,0.078,0.855,0.068,-0.4242,0,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,11,0,1,3,18,8,0,0,24,0,31,0,0,3,3,75,56,23,1,14,8,7,1,0,4,7,0,0,0,6,16,29,0,2,16,0,3,4,9,2,0,2,21,1,39,6,40,22,11,44,0,0,0,0,56,13,0,4,24,202,55,4,0.1673403831291786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176154283451002,0.07416857645153045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962030206103588,0.0,0.0,0.056898599437044936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885343849530755,0.07448420960322047,0.15644066893453826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698611150501956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680383965887253,0.0,0.0,0.05396035169691458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866287616216024,0.16579011724812245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058921571068334,0.0,0.0,0.2752201391672966,0.06464338244991757,0.0,0.0874284434653872,0.0,0.09510339609295472,0.0,0.06691869561166389,0.09224668158168407,0.0,0.3313865770308884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056082365713800784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445346190570104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794884735805482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388231206050265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799351711916814,0.06678474864666506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898419794656846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559558241172826,0.0,0.11339417441148646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305758396446325,0.0,0.0,0.07909537562447316,0.0943255693117796,0.16026582988339536,0.085122664798029,0.09021061801229624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899354789639488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945235006948188,0.0,0.0,0.09404880096220156,0.0,0.0,0.07089348179264222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771633070716312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055586757430428325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439438077958441,0.0,0.0,0.07995045364725213,0.0929606614538632,0.22722627126694586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20128987682647115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480525404141229,0.0664135035371254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091289596619302,0.08497114098158971,0.0,0.23774761388964574,0.0,0.0,0.2155234405304354
parenting,HohmannTransfer,2020/02/20,Appropriate curfew for 13 yo on school night? Basically what the title says. Looking for what people think is a sane curfew for a 13 yo on a school night. Personally I think 8pm is sensible but lately her mom has been letting her go out and do stuff where she gets back (or needs picked up) as late as 930-10pm.,3.1119047619047637,4.623755428571432,4.495428571428572,85.27457142857145,74.07936507936509,7.5796825396825405,22.123809523809523,8.238735603445708,0.9964819047619042,244,6,52,4,5,81,48,63,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,12,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,9,10,0,11,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,5,31,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247765662136568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039620795569724,0.0,0.12008739806202125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767141394053069,0.0,0.0,0.21606989504817065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743987415897433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474735284171161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566772363413068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39658391165880136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648971589978044,0.18450014463027084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803527453761055,0.0,0.4276963922764521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24188943476779334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27078668175529913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sahlos,2020/02/20,"Any of y’all had any easy babies? I mean fuss free babies? My 6 month old needs to be held or entertained at all times or else he is fussin. 

I just wanna live vicariously through stories of infants who like(d) to chill on the bed and entertain themselves.",3.848399999999998,5.5868116400000005,4.3889999999999985,85.85950000000003,72.6,7.4,26.5,8.07648339933343,1.5103999999999995,202,7,41,3,4,64,43,50,0.0,0.784,0.21600000000000005,0.89,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,6,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,4,8,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,3,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5006272170521204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074917000634291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798300274451239,0.0,0.32502993608085473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009575767832016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938056752477572,0.0,0.0,0.27293383780846825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38624820566407303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146360557592547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Picie7O7,2020/02/20,"House cleaner or no? Please don’t drag me... My Niece has lived with me for a few years because her parents stepped out of her life.  It has been a constant battle for her to help around the house.  I only ask her to keep her room, do the dishes and take the trash.  I work 2 jobs-65 hours a week.  I do the rest of the cleaning.  I try to get her to help more but she can’t even complete those tasks.  I am struggling whether to hire a house cleaning service every other week because I can’t stand the house a mess & I cannot battle her every week.  She is turning 18 in March.  Should I ask her either pay 1/2 the cleaning fee or do the cleaning.  I know someone else doing it is not teaching her a lesson but I am constantly texting her to do her part.",1.6071428571428577,3.320033649681527,2.7631892629663355,95.22574840764334,78.74522292993629,4.740491355777981,23.953139217470433,4.65589566412798,0.08869099181073725,581,20,129,1,14,186,90,157,0.113,0.8420000000000001,0.045,-0.8779,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,2,4,2,1,14,0,17,2,0,0,0,15,24,6,0,1,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,0,4,4,1,1,2,0,2,1,6,4,0,0,1,0,26,0,14,22,5,14,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,2,8,89,30,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184232452856574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653880003594227,0.2447687628232942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15960461068907536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372579934940742,0.28293718783825256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109359581932644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646567026236297,0.0,0.22059681053400487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839574417680276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549415207006855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289212474046186,0.6042161938187205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635996669756085,0.0,0.0,0.07194541958664119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246651335719216,0.0,0.0,0.1155970646299203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956393268230967,0.0,0.0,0.14536149165941015,0.14176416636756792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370128095938134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092070846284756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685690082686622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842899554553748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888017047893344,0.14239388789089913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150274134159119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953049759194518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430257658916186
parenting,sahm2019,2020/02/20,"Advice needed! My husband is in the military and we recently moved over seas so I don’t have “girlfriends” to talk to about this and need opinions to see if I’m being over dramatic or reasonable. We have an 8 month old daughter and other than her struggling to sleep through the night she’s an angel. My husband was away with work her first 6 months of life so I handled everything on my own. Now that we’re able to live together again I thought some of the work load would be shared that is typically how parenting works. I do get the luxury to stay at home with our daughter which I truly do appreciate, so I wake up mornings get her up, make my husband breakfast and then he leaves for work. While he’s gone I tidy up around the house (mopping, vacuuming, laundry, etc.) he works all day so I feel like the least I can do is have the house not a mess when he gets home. That being said I am taking care of our daughter during that time as well, I’m not sitting on the couch watching Netflix. When he gets home he typically plays with our daughter for maybe 30 minutes then pops her in her walker or jumper and showers or plays xbox, so most nights I’m watching her while I try and cook dinner for all of us. I then feed her while I try to eat dinner, the wipe her down, give her a bath, read a book, and put her to bed. Now here’s the part that really puts me over the edge. She wakes up 1-2 a night and I’m trying to not feed her in the middle of the night because she’s old enough to do without so MAYBE one night a week I ask my husband to go in and comfort her, GOD FORBID he get woken up and have to help out cause the next morning he gives me so much attitude barely makes a word and when he finally does it’s to complain that he had to wake up and “deal with my daughter” when he works. I am so beyond over feeling like the bad guy for wanting a little help. I am working 24/7 I need some sleep once in awhile, and no I’m not one of those wives who doesn’t let her husband have a life outside of his family. He goes out with his buddies 1-2 nights on the weekend comes home at 2am then sleeps to damn 11 the next morning while I once again take care of our daughter. PLEASE tell me if I’m being unreasonable or how to handle this situation! I’ve tried reasoning with him but he doesn’t see what I do as equal to what he does.",3.090904858888564,3.9449664175152783,4.1324666860634265,90.42125458248474,73.21588594704684,7.159290078556883,25.23020075647367,7.33818517376401,0.9150170613907482,1825,55,414,19,35,593,230,491,0.025,0.909,0.067,0.9112,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,7,0,0,8,23,15,1,1,27,0,28,15,6,7,2,61,62,44,0,7,12,13,2,2,1,1,2,1,10,1,15,25,7,2,5,9,0,6,9,6,1,3,6,7,54,9,67,50,12,71,1,0,4,0,67,28,1,10,37,259,69,9,0.07019995892271454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859858739548402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249284669679006,0.06562748529486097,0.0,0.06595517224922841,0.0,0.058614033446223526,0.04279324338682512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314707340742927,0.07211469528228343,0.0,0.06047104868275448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527316600744808,0.0723730751794664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286491424488515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183208341689462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253532319903952,0.0782915107199198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309119656025401,0.0,0.06617827363598539,0.0,0.07099041700816748,0.1003017293620046,0.0,0.07690062365295014,0.0,0.05971204919799535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18338290570331794,0.1346843945764699,0.039896254414466883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950899615530698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410710542853994,0.0,0.28166513021709144,0.0,0.0,0.1620026547398197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433162042526614,0.0,0.07178421419120788,0.0991686140930836,0.06859230798549545,0.07035880103148726,0.06198784985162501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371803538505316,0.0,0.14105058850731175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206587493087247,0.07461144667228528,0.051605047118992935,0.15615714012222945,0.0,0.0,0.1493169054309543,0.3952674358399956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732609597048393,0.14952133034775925,0.0951386179104961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794874677864015,0.07601971457724244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705847424512109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114069615217226,0.0,0.0,0.07021895602857345,0.0,0.04497189125857271,0.14435449911839776,0.06931399045003335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677623656434031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188055688416544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890769509211071,0.21075196948049288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748238158098694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338823911120941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556326523439767,0.056424067854895336,0.061357858286891435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557309259731312,0.040934160580950216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064465624878588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444190709106036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0414057545908364,0.0,0.056310172651555065,0.0,0.06311819374766449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767025531012079,0.0,0.3577448432124821,0.0,0.0,0.049868036683478736,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anxietyattacking,2020/02/20,"Abiie Beyond high chair for older kids? I’ve been trying to decide on what high chair to get my 5.5 month old. My husbands aunt got us a Baby Trend 5-in-1 high chair, but I don’t love it. It seems like a lot to clean to me and I don’t like that the footrest is so low. 

I’ve been interested in the Abbie Beyond chair. I know that it can grow with your child, but it seems like the seat is pretty small. All the pictures of children that I see in it are of younger infants. Has anyone used this chair for an older infant or child and liked it?

Should I just scrap it all and go with the IKEA chair that everyone seems to love? 

Thank you!",2.024640434192669,3.4468550597014933,2.8101628222523765,96.61224559023066,76.76119402985073,5.469742198100407,18.151967435549526,5.565023196281405,-0.6058119402985072,494,8,116,2,11,155,81,134,0.023,0.7170000000000001,0.26,0.9905,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,2,0,0,4,9,0,0,8,0,10,2,0,1,2,19,22,7,0,1,4,2,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,6,13,5,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,1,11,8,16,18,3,16,0,1,1,2,13,10,0,5,8,69,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792967038365328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611600495691991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881169001542244,0.0,0.0958522893201028,0.0,0.1348912959201522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5345896521982938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269008518837048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32959132864238144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338709187545154,0.3044410540601895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462129245507998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697831265888722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158592919108684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439867557926172,0.4606200206191488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527772561701236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450778410331099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20287493720960909,0.1456664534711864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,srmacman,2020/02/21,"Daughter will not mention her grandparents or stay at their house anymore and I don't know what to do. My daughter, who is 3 now, since she was born will stay with my grandparents twice a week. It gives me time to go out with friends and work on school. Recently she got into an argument with my parents. My dad yelled at her for some reason and made her scared. She was just having one of those moments where children cry for no reason. It's been a week and she hasn't even mentioned them. She video calls them at least once a day but hasn't said their names all week. She takes a blanket with her everywhere now and has started to cry at day care when she never has before. I don't know what to do to get her to stay over there again or even spend the day with them without her crying for me or to go home.",3.4376147704590814,4.430681179640717,3.615943113772456,93.92515219560879,72.53293413173651,6.7642714570858296,24.09630738522954,6.816661863887847,0.5318666666666663,635,17,144,5,12,195,97,167,0.068,0.8740000000000001,0.057999999999999996,0.0467,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,5,1,9,3,0,1,6,0,15,0,0,3,2,28,27,10,0,0,7,4,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,1,6,12,0,0,4,1,1,2,8,1,0,2,6,2,26,2,25,19,3,30,0,0,0,0,31,9,0,4,16,104,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865363567785826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038753043156513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324650612798997,0.0,0.1322646133575927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274947624170963,0.2509882034572613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713660014374932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022622114373153,0.0,0.06777663990434722,0.12444529217342495,0.1474528969104791,0.0,0.1037539765222052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012606076285355,0.0,0.0,0.14968673813595249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258836875832334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275016607532495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005292349028748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815428060391546,0.08790590134869243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404570919925858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26676049405468205,0.1280890755070055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339942271148426,0.0,0.12987866185409225,0.1312899460248786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073109397302377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182094610246863,0.414812940249122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975380364309144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564445145095089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31217584977063234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250515283526319,0.0,0.09444229479084998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teenagermoney,2020/02/21,"I take all of the money that my 16 year old daughter earns at her job. My 16 year old daughter works in a job at a restaurant. The original agreement we had before she started working was that she keeps half of her paycheck, and the other half goes to me. I think that this is fair because I have been providing her with all of her needs for her entire life, and still do to this day.

When she first started working, she suddenly decided that she is not going to follow this agreement anymore. She deposited her entire paycheck into her bank account. But since I have access to this account, I took half of the money myself. She threw a huge tantrum, and started crying about how it's *her* money.

So as a punishment, I took away all of her money that was in her bank account, which was about $1200. I revoked our original agreement, and told her that she is always going to give me her entire paycheck from now on as long as she lives in my house. I told her that as long as she does cooperate, she is free to live at my house for as long as she likes. I also told her that if she refuses to cooperate, I will kick her out the moment she turns 18.",5.08909090909091,5.212722303030303,5.7610173160173215,83.14724025974027,68.39393939393939,8.331601731601731,29.91991341991342,7.957251820313856,1.8856614718614724,896,31,182,10,14,292,110,231,0.04,0.856,0.105,0.9263,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,5,8,7,2,0,9,0,13,1,0,3,3,22,31,17,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,15,8,0,2,2,0,11,6,1,2,0,4,11,0,48,6,35,19,3,36,0,0,0,0,38,11,0,1,20,140,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066833832194023,0.10474447880384596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248417985870005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827092707593875,0.0,0.0,0.07673691683831971,0.0,0.1071168938836728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382762193115848,0.08118391830030285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101607866168394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707574820007527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075814273540153,0.14308406256983774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905034360677581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24983828319905674,0.11189031506332993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889146637454367,0.061499921682167766,0.0,0.22231343560721425,0.3342066468009187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933404164371628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264185405915784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413145849627736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267301238686216,0.0,0.1005300754570604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946481133978199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066054211480063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608589024823832,0.2797205914076379,0.0,0.1369242139834607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749322834660299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212864480666012
parenting,redcamaro1972,2020/02/21,"Why did my son cut off the top of his usb cable? Yesterday I walked into my sons room and I found a usb cable on his desk with the end cut off.  The USB port was still on at the other one end but where the other one should have been, there were two wires sticking out. I asked him about it and he got all secretive and at first wouldn’t tell me what it was but then after a bit more pressing, he told me it was for a project in his engineering class.  By the way he responded I’m pretty sure he is lying so I wanted to ask you guys so I can get the real explanation.",1.4539024390243895,2.683928414634149,3.309439024390244,93.24318292682928,77.86178861788619,6.546016260162602,18.804065040650407,7.1686216300943375,-0.006326178861788101,437,8,106,5,10,147,85,123,0.062,0.867,0.07,0.2382,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,2,6,3,2,0,10,0,11,0,0,0,2,16,19,8,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,9,1,14,1,16,8,3,21,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,0,7,74,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008092777258706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23403374708611624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797318862089196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234085309721806,0.0,0.23504285670843625,0.0,0.0,0.11199815085398973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714492416654889,0.0,0.0,0.21225748952048068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905218793407701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180887746655946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439971020028638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119413152749008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203879536837133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736660983032555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048372958160888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20940586090853755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643948276155678,0.17015491281936684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19343329112421626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Local_Journalist68,2020/02/21,"Police in schools? [Do police belong in schools? A suburb wrangles with how to keep kids safe.](https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/md-politics/do-police-belong-in-schools-a-suburb-wrangles-with-how-to-keep-kids-safe/2020/02/21/f12abc72-4dee-11ea-b721-9f4cdc90bc1c_story.html#comments-wrapper)

 Across the country, the idea of armed officers in schools has grown more contentious as calls for stronger protections against external threats rub up against concerns of police brutality and racial inequities. A spate of horrific school shootings has led to calls for greater police presence on campuses, including from President Trump. 

What do you think?",11.676763157894733,15.625091873684212,6.927565789473686,66.54608552631578,56.57894736842106,9.381578947368425,45.55921052631579,9.827888789773867,5.4825,548,32,65,11,8,144,65,95,0.16899999999999998,0.7709999999999999,0.06,-0.8788,0,0,0,1,0,0,45.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,4,0,4,1,1,2,0,7,6,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,18,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,32,2,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051852507927987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239739203015684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527011103762601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8031815966061918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712924595546585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Toliotte,2020/02/21,"How do you prevent on child from feeling inferior when your other child is more ""successful""? I feel awful for how that is worded but couldn't think of a better term at the moment. I have 3 kids but this is about my older two. The older one just turned 16 and the younger one will be 15 in May. 

The older one is more successful by most definitions of the word. He's an accomplished athlete. He was always picked for all star teams growing up and plays varsity sports as a sophomore. The younger one has played sports for fun but was never very good and has since quit. The older one is also a musician and plays in the advanced band. The younger one plays music as well but his sensory issues prevent him from being as good as he could be. The older one is popular and has a lot of friends while the younger one hasn't had a friend over since 5th grade. The older one gets a lot of attention from girls and the younger one isn't quite there. The older one also gets better grades than the younger one. 

We don't compare the boys and never have but my younger one wrote a story for English class about the a boy who feels overshadowed by his brother. The details made it very clear that he was talking about himself. We found out about it because his teacher was concerned. It was a good story but the ending was tragic and I worry that he truly feels like we favor his brother because we celebrate his accomplishments and allow him to have friends over. We are taking a trip for spring break and told the boys they can bring a friend. The younger one said that I was really only giving permission to his brother since he doesn't have any friends that are close enough to come on a trip. I didn't mean it that way but can see how he saw it that way.",5.282790149331934,5.825804579250723,5.217847786219547,85.7461429132827,68.04899135446686,8.038197537332985,28.45284254650249,7.84624498591911,1.5952259365994244,1387,44,281,15,22,431,165,347,0.08800000000000001,0.7190000000000001,0.192,0.9909,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,2,1,10,13,23,0,0,34,1,38,0,0,6,4,55,58,28,0,2,8,3,4,1,5,2,0,1,0,7,15,18,0,2,8,8,0,6,8,2,1,15,15,7,24,21,35,36,8,34,0,2,2,0,47,10,0,4,16,197,39,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247871038570204,0.06491991609687811,0.0,0.0,0.05305711397581192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951220390719804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800688071228606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720838385079646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062293605991556276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910365460517694,0.08061679019125244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779951894148966,0.055738384522036416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554625501455904,0.3013950557976515,0.0,0.08152574818301696,0.07484507616939183,0.0,0.19632152591703672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143389681245226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038117233492065535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326617246461633,0.0,0.07382557724168458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498799556332104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034956965933412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7401688946351076,0.0593386635503691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597037046844135,0.0,0.0,0.049982399777108624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742160593687152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062172821344309376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361991082939028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866225743526885,0.0627105117807667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049992855816561564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455263176158825,0.0,0.0,0.08486469726088194,0.07621540781835663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875137671798242,0.0,0.12385924650398585,0.0,0.0,0.07015045853788472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923434946238336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrisDarkblade,2020/02/21,"What does your 8 year old do? My daughter's awesome, let me just say that I love her dearly. 

What an earth do 8 year olds do for fun around the home these days!? 

I'm really old fashioned and she doesn't have a tablet or access to YouTube etc.

She loves the TV (too much in my opinion) and I'm wanting to encourage her to enjoy her life and do things with her time!! But she just wants to play the switch or watch a movie! 

When I play with her it's great and she'll engage, we do a lot together, but I have a 5 year old and I'm struggling through my 3rd pregnancy so what I'm wondering is: and do your 8 year olds do to entertain themselves in the home? I really want to encourage my daughter away from the TV and I'm not sure how best to get her passionate about something that isn't tech....",2.2099408284023667,3.320342301775149,3.4444970414201173,93.52165680473374,75.68639053254438,7.3301775147929,23.650887573964496,7.882392219407189,0.8661739644970412,615,18,147,9,13,200,93,169,0.06,0.722,0.218,0.9731,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,1,8,16,0,1,10,0,14,4,0,1,1,26,26,14,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,8,11,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,22,15,17,24,4,16,0,0,1,3,20,4,0,5,12,92,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140921227811994,0.0,0.0,0.12041323140270135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449902077072584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265444587405403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121561876477056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293547383306338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695980772004341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130001214003154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571156085738175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105521371097795,0.09052522243102296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895948546433457,0.2313439806243609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421445306526807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6724268423830098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420882742214318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192025506653686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986660356623091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398365460925948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207919843917085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514571326654674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473279778094974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267813367286676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898716103683478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33013073469147464
parenting,nosleepnocoffee,2020/02/21,"What's the most bizarre parenting decision you've ever seen? For me: Giving a toddler Red Bull and coffee. Not 'oh she wants a sip' as in the kiddo got Red Bull *in the sippy to drink all day.* And then she went to her dad to slurp down his coffee.

I had that guy's coffee and it was freakishly strong. I like a good espresso every now and then but he liked instant coffee with loads of instant and several tablespoons of sugar. And then he let the kiddo drink it.

My 15 month old likes to try and sample my coffee. But he is a baby and simply moving the coffee away and giving him a drink from the nice cold glass of water or juice is literally all that is required for him to not have a caffeine addiction.",1.8332738095238101,3.943748319444445,3.4992063492063497,88.29500000000002,79.69444444444444,6.0587301587301585,20.007936507936503,7.1686216300943375,0.5030353174603177,554,14,112,7,14,184,90,144,0.022000000000000002,0.831,0.147,0.9556,1,0,3,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,12,0,7,7,0,0,3,22,13,16,0,1,5,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,10,6,1,1,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,6,11,6,17,7,3,14,0,0,3,0,14,4,0,2,11,74,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20280070539765765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478177958941554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997428332880115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467172057559012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682752387463785,0.15673872065699654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569148159911573,0.0,0.15603355821563453,0.14878558598732464,0.0,0.0,0.18419944382209572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19022879138813664,0.0,0.2726553183095605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848777119137846,0.19772098203072105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952077172687806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656485631261212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101615148338397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630249892480952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972560946823487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245213833512724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krazyk850,2020/02/21,"Potty Training Troubles So my step son is 3 years and 3 months old as of yesterday but he still shows no interest in potty training. We have tried toys, candy, stickers, setting reminder alarms but its like he doesn't even understand the concept yet. But at the same time if you set him on the toilet sometimes he will go pee and understands how to do that. But he has never gone #2 in the toilet. He is starting to get pretty big and his poops are like grown man sized messes. It's starting to get to the point he NEEDS to use the toilet for that reason alone but also because they won't accept his pre-k application unless he is fully potty trained and the deadline for that is in a few months.  


Is there anything we can do to help it click or is he just a late bloomer?",5.593589743589739,5.4085798974358985,5.920000000000003,83.49166666666667,67.33333333333334,8.215384615384616,30.153846153846153,7.3871296695380915,1.727876923076923,608,20,123,5,9,195,105,156,0.075,0.816,0.109,0.8236,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,1,0,8,7,0,1,9,0,15,2,2,3,1,24,25,16,0,2,9,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,4,2,0,4,4,3,0,0,1,1,8,4,16,22,2,25,0,0,1,0,18,7,0,2,14,77,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20720177858148087,0.0,0.15998787383194096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463229685305975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219546917534202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321377135481604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20904613876292494,0.0,0.11369868287969742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409597083587266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225676343376673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954783773085581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31937189499124474,0.0,0.0,0.1483419217729848,0.1542985706956344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992926919447705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891213226831072,0.0,0.0,0.20353289721191886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569495380459496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19786441113614295,0.0,0.2832069318775502,0.0,0.15976813858895622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665656867157967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582757724795105,0.0,0.0,0.41653893755195626,0.0,0.17278756738006368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288320518757301
parenting,heathenofthecity,2020/02/21,"Baby Poop To all the parents out there.. If your 18 month child poops in her diaper and sticks her hand down her backside, pulling it out with baby poop on her hand and fingers, do you wipe it off with wipes or do you immediately stick her in the shower? Asking for a friend.",3.8568181818181806,5.03226590909091,4.361590909090912,88.28238636363638,71.72727272727272,6.954545454545455,22.84090909090909,7.1686216300943375,0.5718181818181813,215,5,46,2,4,68,40,55,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.8625,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,6,6,0,1,9,3,4,0,1,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,1,11,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,1,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5114637935395309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.422687397596037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4366892717353515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6074887914709949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mummylloyd,2020/02/21,"This week I've cried because... - I had to put away my LOs 9 to 12 month clothes
- He had his 1 year vaccines yesterday and wasn't very happy about it (not a comment to start a debate.)
- I just put him down in his cot wide awake and other than a little grumble, he went to sleep completely on his own. 

This week its been confirmed that he's not my tiny little baby anymore 😭

Please tell me I'm not the only one. What have you cried about this week?",2.520881458966567,3.5136405106382997,3.581185410334349,93.30500000000002,74.74468085106382,6.222492401215807,23.003039513677805,6.1826913282559595,0.2755762917933131,344,9,79,2,7,111,69,94,0.095,0.882,0.023,-0.7490000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,0,6,8,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,5,0,10,1,11,3,1,17,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,7,46,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031793463036253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082715515580665,0.0,0.0,0.11083661490622357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063623916655384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3994444578172925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355222121542226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644655425950468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451280767802963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320686072725295,0.1382833392796675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995852559705055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655613771923363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819526716004049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869409612691185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891988482715885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500216658427446,0.0,0.0,0.4375383888339398,0.0,0.0,0.1685502245229996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170869961296791
parenting,savemefromthem,2020/02/21,"Please tell me I’m making the correct decision re: my 3 year old My son is now 3, and I’m debating whether or not to start him in a Montessori preschool. Montessori is the method of education we have chosen for him since his older siblings are in a Montessori school and we love it.

The dilemma is I’m not sure if I should wait a year (when he’s 4.5, Sept 2021) to start him or to start him in Sept 2020 (he’ll be 3.5). 

My older two started at 3 and they loved it. However with my 3rd I feel I’m not ready to part with him for 3 hours a day, 5 days a week.

Also, if I kept him home it’s not like we do nothing. We’re always out exploring in nature, walks to the library, I read to all of my kids every day. And I would likely put him in a class or two (maybe sports and art, will see what he’s interested in come the time).

If I listen to my heart, it tells me to keep him home and enjoy my time with him while he’s still so little. School can wait. But I also don’t want to hold him back. 

I’d love and appreciate any input or advice.

Thank you",1.7173145780051158,2.4639657391304333,3.5899488491048617,93.42177749360614,76.3913043478261,6.6291560102301785,21.355498721227626,6.794906146795322,0.16181329923273635,800,18,199,7,17,271,127,230,0.035,0.843,0.121,0.9644,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,3,1,1,0,7,9,0,0,11,0,12,4,1,1,3,43,35,21,0,6,13,1,1,2,0,4,0,1,2,1,5,15,0,5,3,3,0,4,5,0,0,2,1,3,32,9,24,29,2,34,0,0,1,3,28,9,0,7,23,116,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385572496612104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20271909864696236,0.10546367748445147,0.0,0.0,0.08619232268031064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746063785134776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918133825241444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452240349368989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678983429867857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408710367097635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019583373738615,0.0,0.0,0.25427519884331723,0.0,0.1248202874247442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265857863087107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238443874020979,0.12703381571492245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431824131608991,0.0,0.08460462274606904,0.0,0.1273344215949642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161718794188113,0.0,0.13299968057398992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725467561598506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391301709667705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741576691199566,0.0,0.0,0.12678132357366415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565495100358428,0.10100096815852136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048464480443212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588487838840612,0.0,0.10122033711529337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194575701578323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215649712049828,0.11669163072609527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781441796764952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476268508266799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475867867440875,0.0,0.1016688174133587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900374493203629,0.0,0.0,0.16324185582040407
parenting,scarabic,2020/02/21,"navigating the briar patch of iPad games DD (8) and DS (4).

I’ve shared some of my favorite video games with the kids. In general I support games over TV because it is more active and encourages problem solving, not mere consumption. It is also more social as the kids tend to play together and I can even play with them. We observe a limit of one hour screen time per day and the kids choose to spend it on games now. I’m fine with that.

There have been a number of games - Monument Valley was awesome for example and they loved it. Then I tried Angry Birds, which they also loved. Specifically, though, I could only get Angry Birds 2 as the original game I knew  from years back is no longer offered. 

Number 2 includes many more tricks and schemes to get your money, like “10 gems to keep playing!” and then when you run out of your starting gems you have to pay real money to buy more. I educated the kids about that and we have passwords in place to prevent purchases. So no disasters happened, and I actually liked teaching them to watch out for these tricks, which they learned to avoid by just never clicking on anything with $ signs. I try to raise my kids to be wary and so this actually seemed like a positive to me.

But then I found out that the game will also offer you the option to watch an ad to get gems, and the kids were doing that sometimes. This already didn’t sit right with me, especially because there is NO WAY to just pay $20 or even $50 on a one-time basis to turn off all ads and gems from the game. Which seems annoying - microtransactions are mandatory apparently.

But then the final straw came. DD called me over to see “how high this guy’s feather power is.” What I saw was a photo of a real man in a hat and sunglasses. The game had eventually matched her into a “clan” or other players and oh shit you can actually text chat with your clan mates. She had exchanged two lines of chat with this guy. Completely harmless “hello” and “nice score” type of stuff but still I freaked out.

Despite the fact that they really enjoyed playing that game I explained to them that it was coming off the iPad for good because it was just not safe for them, and too spammy with regard to money. We had a good long talk about NEVER chatting with a stranger online AT ALL and never under any circumstances divulge your name or location.

And I have to give the kids credit. They didn’t complain at all about losing the game, and they seemed to absorb the lessons. They haven’t asked about Angry Birds once. 

They are on simpler stuff now like Tetris, and I’m reminded to be more vigilant. Sometimes the sequel to a benign game can be malignant, unfortunately. I should have learned that from Plants vs. Zombies 2, which was a very unworthy successor to a great game.

I probably didn’t review the age guidance on the games closely enough either. Facing facts: a lot of the best games out there are not the ones made exclusively for kids, though many of them are perfectly kid safe. Monument Valley again is an easy example.

But I’m reminded to be more vigilant. 

This is gamer dad, signing off, and reminding y’all to choose games carefully.",5.31743721023987,6.3743874181818185,5.5146301148961925,81.80764362023787,68.20661157024793,8.679298528522475,28.97097359403346,8.9110942124816,2.1902195121951213,2488,86,479,42,41,787,291,605,0.081,0.769,0.15,0.9908,2,1,0,0,0,0,65.0,3,9,13,6,27,36,4,1,38,0,41,4,2,3,9,98,69,43,0,3,15,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,12,28,42,0,6,11,25,10,3,13,9,0,3,18,6,47,27,82,44,14,53,0,1,6,2,75,26,1,9,26,317,75,8,0.0,0.0,0.2707296337023433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204953735572624,0.22185901004794384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288683375573732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609984750074843,0.0,0.08645255276281359,0.0,0.0,0.0711083161434041,0.0,0.16911748706366125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704782986093677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944283093373977,0.10576787887909364,0.0942854191425738,0.0,0.0,0.07965986359800191,0.09695929977168702,0.0,0.0,0.07383454075210948,0.0,0.0,0.05963935316755178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095552401983072,0.0,0.12215901791235555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013029098095054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139513279932713,0.0,0.0,0.1449446395200118,0.08871138118529777,0.0,0.15512891973538515,0.0,0.1019550882893768,0.0,0.1831315074959132,0.08177619879102363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770594427956553,0.0,0.0,0.0910702069572648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219689509696501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071635987867293,0.0,0.0,0.08183832733052038,0.0,0.10345696096061263,0.0,0.07861976649706197,0.16692635487106425,0.08750300299099745,0.0,0.18751224680881634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139695173542067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848389468968394,0.18799234073347296,0.07033214568890596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661771078234888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970474131298283,0.08848701838628642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051580896092265,0.05924247720915982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897397689193611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369137872420264,0.25255996192743274,0.0,0.0,0.09492525884757873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426761016788868,0.0,0.0,0.18292220665213926,0.0,0.06545497068012224,0.0,0.07385143264416552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21172573210236395,0.0,0.10494063990505458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432868532751613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171435072299166,0.0,0.05392348436826662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557023272524534,0.10058730504657816,0.0903355897436065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630236378082386,0.0,0.07340312410846554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955149559567939
parenting,Antrinhy,2020/02/21,"Wedding vacation Hi all, first timer here.... 

My hubby and I have a 2 year old daughter. Later this year my sister is getting married, but she lives in another state. I want to go, husband doesn’t want to go and I don’t mind and my daughter would be staying with him. However he also doesn’t want me to go because I’ll be away for the weekend and his reasoning is that our daughter expects me to be there... My mother already booked a flight when I told her not to and that she doesn’t want to refund it.l also, I’m still nursing my daughter and that’s how she sleeps.... HELP , also, HYPOTHETICALLY she stops nursing, my husband will still refuse to let me go because I should be around since my daughter expects me to ...what do I do mamas and papas!!",3.157599999999998,4.724433493333333,4.389000000000003,85.85950000000003,74.06666666666666,6.333333333333334,28.5,6.816661863887847,1.4064,584,24,116,5,12,192,86,150,0.033,0.89,0.077,0.6523,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,1,10,0,0,0,3,0,17,1,1,2,1,25,28,13,0,8,2,9,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,2,1,2,1,4,5,0,0,1,1,0,25,0,13,19,1,19,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,0,10,83,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800467053306171,0.3914273875422245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108329392386068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524343285519795,0.0,0.0,0.15329043463987174,0.0,0.0,0.1989167689117204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878041194722518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524227702585703,0.0,0.3709012634573525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936002895519603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683806619549288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406973891661498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474105146528736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120477829830202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775154364287972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349643308564674,0.0,0.16327383130669576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390258952803767,0.2605931878981101,0.13640572330856535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559025518014654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849345488076065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590134264165998,0.0,0.0,0.2101342320080825
parenting,monkeywrench101,2020/02/21,"3YO afraid of fingers and toes wrinkling in the bath Hi! She used to not notice it, but now is afraid of how her fingers and toes wrinkle after being in the bath-I've tried to tell her its normal and happens to everyone, and it doesnt hurt and its because of being in water, but every bath she freaks out about them and I can't seem to calm her. Any tips on how to help ease her mind on it?",6.196084337349397,4.309142795180726,6.43503012048193,85.88459337349398,66.83132530120483,8.781927710843375,29.183734939759034,5.985473137389443,1.2029542168674698,304,7,69,1,4,98,53,83,0.046,0.833,0.121,0.8277,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,2,2,0,5,5,4,3,0,16,8,10,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,7,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,8,1,16,6,0,8,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,1,2,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058860946612576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18455871110586453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550870106474141,0.2892986265161316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26772825406861045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029325742710853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241091299951873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30569967822222016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29663895121760203,0.0,0.3446924461295012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756198773975805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646241870306882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20555308064899488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614860508627208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mWoody1976,2020/02/21,"Guilt over Phone? I’m a stay at home Dad, and don’t misunderstand, I am presently engaged in my daughters activities through the day, but I also normally have my phone on me. While playing with dolls or whatever, I sneak some peeks at my phone. She’s starting preschool in the fall, which doesn’t seem possible, I worry sometimes that I’ve let the phone get in the way too much of my time with her. On the other hand, I feel like there’s only so much I can devote to toddler activities without sone outlet. Can anyone relate?",4.95005547850208,5.936157708737862,5.500027739251041,81.8378640776699,69.0,8.215811373092926,30.248266296809987,8.418075326091056,2.155616920943133,416,16,81,6,7,134,76,103,0.068,0.784,0.14800000000000002,0.8521,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,6,0,7,1,1,0,0,10,12,6,0,1,3,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,13,4,14,11,3,16,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,3,6,54,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856832307824487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736196713353071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013529960391695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554977593945704,0.17738816277541972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297283982401696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24906878617606446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539072846031951,0.0,0.12130861124197087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650634762373222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24328483739665346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884609948799733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27992503434545896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22604629897969064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455786390251053,0.0,0.17575058721679376,0.2646586315666665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447878433681205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19709186378915844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23935583843588495,0.0,0.0,0.2521643890536682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hipstaman,2020/02/21,"Could my 4 year old boy be trans? My 4 year old boy has always gravitated towards girls and women. I’m going to try my best to jot down the situation. Firstly, even is he his I will support him but like all parents I’m just worried about how society will treat him. 

He only wants to be friends with girls. He just thinks it’s not possible to be friends with a boy

He only likes all the girl characters in the cartoons he watches - Gloria from Madagascar, Owlet from pj masks, sky from par patrol, etc

Even while pretend play he always wants to be the girl.

He is drawn to pink and glittery stuff and if it’s toy shopping he is always happy picking toys from the girl section. 

I’ve tried subtly asking him if he wants to be a girl but keeps saying I’m a boy. 

I’m just curious on how to approach this since as a parent I think he would be happier if we treated him like a girl but he just doesn’t know it yet. 

So I just want to know from other parents out there if they’ve experienced anything similar and if this is something they grow out of and by what age. 

All I want is to raise a happy child and my wife and me have never discouraged him from expressing himself. 

Thanks in advance!",2.748456790123459,4.363950049382717,4.00775925925926,87.96941666666667,75.2551440329218,6.835308641975309,25.730246913580245,7.554174236665415,1.249319506172839,934,33,195,12,20,306,131,243,0.017,0.765,0.21899999999999997,0.995,3,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,3,13,14,0,0,11,0,18,0,0,3,4,46,36,20,0,12,14,4,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,13,8,12,0,2,4,5,1,4,3,1,0,1,0,4,18,13,29,26,6,22,0,1,2,0,42,9,0,5,12,121,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30656887904217184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106401357466084,0.0,0.11481287089174715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888387449607738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805558452369638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696811742548776,0.16223265946019302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044640330868801,0.0,0.0,0.18976887209128135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979702919549735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26147183754587605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916116647662068,0.0,0.0,0.13498879636396965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999957865646718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472037468597423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577415843323325,0.0,0.0,0.1868084933171176,0.0,0.0,0.409105393564591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384523536615094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976652267602442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159155839298213,0.13804610931336844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454686647127117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059063826039778,0.0,0.13936588053995413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306901509787973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573862556541126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667629058598667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621892210751313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472179651860167,0.0,0.08724229538341759,0.0,0.0,0.15817411879081378
parenting,peacelovewine,2020/02/21,"Working remote and being SAHM? Possible or impossible? I have a job that allows me to be home 3 days a week and I can really set up my day how I want to (within reason of course). My job requires me to be on the phone some of the day.

Has anyone worked from home and had your babies at home too? Was it possible? Tell me about your experiences!

I’m trying to decide if this is something I would be able to do.",0.12174418604651295,2.295478151162793,2.8570232558139534,89.8966976744186,87.25581395348837,5.765581395348837,16.73953488372093,7.1686216300943375,0.12001302325581432,315,7,69,5,10,110,62,86,0.0,0.968,0.032,0.3720000000000001,2,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,3,0,13,14,6,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,11,0,13,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,3,4,51,14,5,0.1791196931687447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524465420389386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465521516740298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521343029341455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390149703260223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554973136958322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038610816386281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474866206577272,0.1841648769202399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789509079774434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565585068495412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216105139361201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564943586215092,0.0,0.14367901352663015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608025398641913,0.0,0.0,0.12724149083201508,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tcharper100,2020/02/21,Been think about putting my son 2 1/2 in day care a few hour a week I've been thinking about looking into daycare these last few weeks my son is 2 1/2 will be 3 in July. I've heard it helps with making the child more independent and making friends. The only problem is I'm (25m) the only one working and my wife (23f) is in college so I can't afford the high cost of daycare right now my sister watches him while I'm at work then we come home around 630pm. He also has some disabilities and a heart condition is there anything in California that could help us. Thanks in advance,2.6475630252100832,4.342884722689078,3.8257899159663857,88.82876890756303,75.72268907563027,6.104537815126051,25.345378151260505,6.742157984588678,0.8709825210084032,458,16,96,4,10,149,87,119,0.023,0.853,0.124,0.8957,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,7,0,11,1,1,3,0,16,22,7,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,3,8,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,3,3,8,3,12,16,4,21,0,0,2,0,13,10,0,1,8,55,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838420600150187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269177635553846,0.16517876991036665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918051226271504,0.0,0.0,0.15983482853758912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481465147972092,0.0,0.0,0.11966434986297746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335540986208034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198775515736498,0.2487404036806321,0.19604368053950955,0.18612170110300064,0.0,0.1827292974960892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512479518716526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558152029742485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477120282010523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257334295689503,0.28223815455162266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775462167867601,0.0,0.18652892136458016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584586200040989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082943923765878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377857963459968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22319371063157628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29767391129269816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701651069662119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Buzztom060,2020/02/21,My mum wont let me have a pc in my room and wont tell me why. Any parents on this subreddit i would like to know the concerns for letting a child have a pc in their room and how i could convince her. She says i was going to get groomed even though ive tried convincing her i wont. Suggestions on how to convince her let me?,4.055,3.1349367222222284,5.196666666666669,89.86500000000002,70.66666666666667,8.866666666666667,30.5,8.07648339933343,1.70085,252,9,63,3,4,84,46,72,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.802,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,2,0,7,15,5,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,4,0,1,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,15,4,8,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,1,45,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627545030294145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19108775667081976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807704938772574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504150372443126,0.0,0.13601833894562282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153104128736012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7342019736016392,0.0,0.11692591113579028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26575073814144856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19032703927079156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20918740588383655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23514324922213975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16249125295341094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21596061549328746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001514592574318,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hotwater3,2020/02/21,"Help with a 3 year old that doesn't want to sleep in his room My 3 year old son has always been a great sleeper. He doesn't nap any more but he goes to sleep around 7pm always sleeps a solid 12-14 hours with no fuss. He's slept in a bassinet by our bed for the first 3 or 4 months but once he moved into his crib he has never slept in our room. I wouldn't imagine he even thinks it's an option. 

So 3 nights ago we put him to be as normal and we go downstairs to find a show to watch, within 5-10 minutes of being asleep he starts screaming bloody murder for my wife. We run up there to calm him down but he can't really verbalize what happened, just that he's scared. I imagine he had a nightmare or something. 

Long story short, he hasn't been able to sleep alone in his room since, and last night he slept in our bed with us for the first time. We got very little sleep. 

Right now it doesn't seem like there is anything we can do about this. He's scared and he wants to be close to us and that's fine, but is there a strategy here? Has anyone else dealt with this?",1.844573754789273,2.913960823275861,2.7116666666666696,98.57777777777781,76.54310344827586,5.6727969348659,18.49233716475096,5.46131890053228,-0.6465295019157087,829,13,206,3,18,261,136,232,0.133,0.818,0.049,-0.9701,0,1,1,0,0,0,19.0,10,0,0,2,10,8,1,2,10,0,19,9,9,0,1,34,30,12,1,4,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,0,8,16,0,0,5,2,0,4,8,4,0,2,7,2,19,4,30,19,1,38,0,0,1,0,32,17,0,4,18,109,27,0,0.11360190738835693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070123655291036,0.0,0.0,0.11765731551164918,0.0,0.0,0.18905177481234456,0.0,0.0,0.07725319259947754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943309502185011,0.11639857897168684,0.09348469027079673,0.10112978257863932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489981654460372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503298842490423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383008528087916,0.19325944878195025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456258192578634,0.0,0.09085782307020827,0.1252465039456273,0.0,0.0,0.10045779152746344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614496389698129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187499541590444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926007167661125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05550015369596313,0.11385895549503795,0.0,0.10053411319514842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067595865197038,0.12074084921200308,0.0,0.0,0.0876167943133445,0.0,0.0,0.21321538895943346,0.1113057492718214,0.0,0.0,0.2384121838127128,0.12098232380342573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420129398266103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277629081606991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701540819938036,0.0,0.0,0.2274706546174451,0.0,0.0,0.10341890989710616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939726717213681,0.0,0.5684197466362986,0.0,0.0,0.08745629839459716,0.0,0.0,0.08040801475528749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279151521048484,0.0,0.0,0.06624218576049021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273298214308526,0.0,0.0,0.09373347094959453,0.13401069660316384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631180754652762
parenting,UpperComfortable1,2020/02/21,"Is there a high chance i’m pregnant? Okay, so Tuesday, around midnight, my boyfriend came over. we of course had sex and i’m pretty sure he pulled out but i’m still scared he may have slipped up and came a little bit inside of me. then,  wednesday he came inside of me (for sure) because our condom ripped. today, is friday and it’s been 3 days since the first slip up and 2 since the other one. i haven’t had the money to buy plan b until today. i’m buying it asap. & getting on birth control tuesday. should i be worried? any advice? i’m just so scared.",0.05559420289855055,2.3766445304347883,1.5599999999999987,97.53333333333336,90.65217391304348,3.066666666666667,17.231884057971016,3.1291,-0.9685246376811594,431,11,92,0,15,138,80,115,0.099,0.841,0.06,-0.8095,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,3,6,5,0,2,5,1,10,2,0,1,2,17,19,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,1,0,0,3,4,1,2,0,2,6,0,7,3,12,10,1,23,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,1,11,50,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734826364951374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446663643656118,0.0,0.10950008420987588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334319833096884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815716035125302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757936815614927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5524968082641347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059920942904226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384549203788863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369647337793057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412704369279524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012796618086665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613857601897929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091122784200115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381666782266407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224210546873151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663971577269525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859191043019125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30352155702558564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052589483367489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635250636210833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,highson23,2020/02/21,"No eggs and hot sauce sandwiches Google and other sources say that whatever a mother eats while pregnant, such as healthy foods and or unhealthy foods, will have a direct impact on what types of foods the developing child will enjoy eating.
 I've never understood this because for some reason that's not the case for my children. 8 years ago from my wife's first pregnancy she craved normal things such as buffalo chicken subs from Subway and big Macs. When it came to breakfast foods however eggs were not an option. Sometimes the thought would make her sick. Fast forward a few years and we notice that my oldest son loves eggs. Could probably eat them more than once a day daily and he would be content. Although when it comes to anything that has a general spice level higher than white milk my oldest hates it, he can't do spicy foods at all. So seems that that fact is not the case for me and my family.

This is just 1 example, I now have three children, and so far there eating habits are all different. Does anybody else have this happen to them or I can somebody on here explained to me why this happens?",5.0305746445497626,6.756878037914696,4.708575236966826,84.79281546208533,69.56872037914692,7.5498815165876785,27.405509478672986,8.07648339933343,1.7328883886255917,890,30,164,12,16,271,145,211,0.055999999999999994,0.899,0.045,-0.29600000000000004,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,2,1,10,3,1,0,10,0,17,17,0,2,4,34,28,18,0,4,6,3,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,3,16,11,15,0,5,0,0,3,6,1,0,2,4,4,14,2,17,18,5,22,0,0,1,1,16,7,0,5,14,108,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790126543094876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090885373300481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732517189897108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631764019017186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513706896848377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817993753087418,0.0,0.0,0.07122675082862498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538967554179826,0.0,0.0,0.09664962056178156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4520440126669686,0.09226115236430107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411605421550213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394296058271064,0.6677420000939798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953291786594824,0.0,0.0,0.10903983095138507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099679332971042,0.0,0.07372171799760227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518063263078843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821092249175847,0.0,0.1257403568159622,0.0,0.1176184424399688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190764887402595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355404146029414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782889456516133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054337459000492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092311849663293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337357886595695,0.0,0.0,0.0876795931851489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965784263265287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691141293641914,0.0,0.0,0.1422436466186622
parenting,ContextualGangsta8,2020/02/21,"Toddler Sits on Potty but Won't Go Our oldest son is 2 (will be 3 in May) and has expressed interest in potty training for a few months now. We didn't want to push it because we've heard how that can lead to more accidents down the road if they aren't quite ready... We went ahead and purchased a little potty he could use wherever in the house - let him pick it out - and then bought some little seats in his favorite characters for our actual toilets. He will (usually) go sit on the potty when we ask him if he has to go, or starts behaving like he is going to poop (starts hiding and when you ask what he's doing just says, ""no! I'm just lookin' at stuff."" lol) We'll have him sit for a while with books, even gave him his tablet to watch or put his little potty in front of the TV, and after so long, he'll just say ""I'm done!"" without having done anything. I try to ""encourage"" some activity by asking him to toot, which he finds hilarious, but somehow nothing will come out... then we put his diaper back on and - ta da! - he poops within minutes. Any advice on how to help encourage a toddler to actually USE the potty? We've got a chart printed with stickers so he can earn new monster trucks (his favorite - and he really enjoys sticker charts) but he just won't do it when the time comes. He's going to be starting preschool in the fall, and while they are somewhat lenient where he'll be going, I would prefer if he's potty trained by then (I know accidents will happen, but just for the most part, if he can be potty trained). Any thoughts??",4.895910931174093,5.0122180512820504,5.6020310391363015,84.14647773279356,68.80769230769229,8.491497975708503,28.280026990553303,8.20500826718156,1.7083243589743595,1200,37,251,15,19,391,170,312,0.034,0.857,0.11,0.9807,0,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,7,1,2,4,18,5,0,0,13,1,31,2,2,6,0,53,60,30,0,8,16,1,0,1,0,11,0,3,0,0,7,18,0,0,4,2,2,15,6,0,0,0,9,4,23,5,37,34,7,59,0,0,1,0,47,20,0,12,22,158,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.22199836871322676,0.0,0.0,0.11115077047991924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15470165917628614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936028415515042,0.0,0.31901001895836034,0.0,0.0,0.08746325607156916,0.0,0.06933819127146415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959633254272915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081651338368074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328022433486685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512781939297004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103961311661545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38786507878348575,0.0,0.09097265436640173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058475581104437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624120024303745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124701672288894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251154328019333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163124638361514,0.0,0.05557029795401914,0.3420085708007442,0.0,0.10066117393840372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079056009754477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985609719656776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091418595873452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317527470660865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22869125617620056,0.0,0.12098232339435235,0.0,0.0,0.07286826964105347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090994850065836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24152891696410744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021136575969414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030120876629996,0.06632590641102447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722571715568191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964791550710284,0.12527458073533626,0.0,0.0670900334804401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544320319338568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964658751541484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080152828415875,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaiyajinPrime,2020/02/21,"I feel really bad for messing up my daughter's breakfast at school this morning Dad here. My 15 yr daughter was making pancakes that fit the autoimmune protocol for a breakfast at school today. We found a recipe online and she did all the work getting it made but when she mixed it was way too thick. Finding a random recipe online it's not always 100%. Because we were rushed for time I jumped in and started helping. I added more coconut milk I kept mixing till it was at a pancake batter consistency. She asked me why I was adding so much milk and I kind of got annoyed. It was early in the morning and we were rushing because she didn't wake up soon enough to really have enough time so I was easily annoyed at the moment. I told her it was fine and she took it too school. 

I felt bad right away that I got annoyed. It's her fault that she didn't get up soon enough, but that's not a reason for me to be that annoyed. She didn't make this recipe, she just found it online. 

Well, I texted her a little later and asked how breakfast went and she said they were too watered down. I feel awful. It's 100% my fault. I don't know if I ruined her breakfast. Other people were making stuff, but she wanted to make these pancakes. I don't know if they were still edible or not. 

I seriously feel terrible. She is an awesome kid and my dumb ass just had to jump in and ""help"" and I ended up messing it up. And to add to it I got annoyed with her when she asked if I was adding too much milk. I'm a fucking idiot. I hope this didn't ruin her day. 

I don't really think I can do anything to make it up to her. It's Friday, so I always encourage us going out and getting dessert or something after school if she wants. So I'll do that like normal, but I dunno, I just feel really bad. 

Parenting can be hard for the dumbest reasons.",1.4176715176715147,3.4579199018567657,3.0320596458527516,91.47228331780056,80.75066312997347,5.454986020503262,21.329772743565847,6.5153245180268975,0.33001174277725953,1421,42,301,13,37,468,166,377,0.15,0.742,0.107,-0.9662,1,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,2,1,19,25,8,0,13,1,30,12,2,9,1,62,67,30,0,8,16,4,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,26,18,9,1,13,0,0,7,10,19,1,0,31,8,57,6,33,34,7,44,0,2,0,2,39,20,3,9,17,210,83,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532239676398835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576810728751626,0.0,0.2582270467604327,0.0,0.08650546983464137,0.0,0.2306309420135705,0.11225350487864956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937936878668114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154921304288695,0.2854075881674564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621919002328088,0.0,0.08840437127888841,0.0,0.08415291336415924,0.0,0.0,0.2019062469289658,0.0,0.08511986264717425,0.14431278588034774,0.0,0.05232712030111055,0.0,0.22091719830335305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247918522319513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342897595827618,0.0,0.0,0.09144911123699412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587970074048333,0.10120165669021383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0449821418622489,0.09228118027243963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712155327954563,0.3072966988975764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536827195291007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021184033573497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022359995911714,0.0,0.0,0.06383171848560157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23593689167998466,0.1893324411585842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862970755639423,0.08758236118252265,0.0,0.0,0.3727305434570623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088217525817557,0.0,0.0,0.06516963441935883,0.0,0.07352949389109989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054013806355004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589965620906783,0.0,0.0,0.10737683407030088,0.0,0.08727429237905124,0.08797955021583179,0.10229631990034607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075229731858924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861390039899606,0.07308313965588947,0.0,0.0,0.0827845462160781,0.0853524508430635,0.0830814226582848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670301285980709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Motleybird,2020/02/21,"My Niece is Playing Favorites and I don’t know what to do Hello, my niece will be 2 years old in April, since she was born, my family has been very involved in her life. My mom and I babysit her typically twice a week, and my brother brings her over for a dinner visit once a week. Recently, she has started throwing a tantrum if the “wrong” person does something for her. For instance, if my mom and I are watching her, I can’t hand her juice, it has to be her grandmother. She is doing the same thing to my brother when her mom is around. 

If she is only with me or her dad, she is perfectly fine. She is happy to see me and will come running if she hears me. But as soon as her mother or grandmother are around, she will have a complete meltdown if we try to help her. 

For example- she wanted to watch Finding Nemo, my mother didn’t know how to work the remote so I put the movie on. She screamed, threw stuffed animals, and grabbed the remote to turn the tv off. The she handed the remote to her grandmother and asked for “the fishies”. Once my mom turned the tv on, she happily watched it. 

I know she is not being malicious, and I hope it’s a phase-but I can’t help but have hurt feelings that my niece seems to want nothing to do with me if my mom is around. My brother is also having a hard time with her “favoritism”. 

Can anyone offer advice on how to handle this? My mom and I are watching her tonight and I’m dreading it bc I hate this dynamic.",2.829301138021596,4.113038063758393,3.876466297052815,90.34721768310476,74.40268456375837,6.7933469506857325,26.043770061278092,7.255503002510835,1.0795183542456959,1125,39,245,12,23,364,145,298,0.071,0.8390000000000001,0.09,-0.0644,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,2,9,12,2,1,17,0,34,4,2,2,1,42,53,27,0,9,11,12,5,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,9,18,1,0,6,3,0,7,5,6,0,1,4,12,55,6,32,43,1,29,0,1,5,0,49,10,0,10,12,176,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710324823208026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946618116636922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948183900883523,0.0,0.0,0.2653811967239092,0.09289756884780406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559848641259744,0.10418759120609254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869593873570037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367722538363328,0.0,0.05024447548096876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908224118394883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578125013998692,0.08901603318366952,0.09810733701724647,0.0,0.0,0.11199725154948093,0.0,0.13321127979133346,0.0,0.0,0.0986968663482877,0.0,0.0,0.10637767779222987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638335176166055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018799451070043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6982859046985262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534822870108214,0.0,0.1042721359961048,0.2116516885842631,0.0,0.0755753894772128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676608176653708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989433146122802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811592156879774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918505249119523,0.090462747875597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219991989457473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649990779901658,0.0,0.0,0.07033462229704272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601703585888137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057943466578227465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674657310110447,0.2161721267251902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819906858277089,0.11722204257912368,0.0,0.15941729649480246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234256904266216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086455340100838,0.0,0.06399104462845802
parenting,Birdinhandandbush,2020/02/21,"My Son (11y/o) is heading to secondary school this year, might be gay, so I've got a lot of work to do and wanted some advice. My son is in his last few months of national school / junior school, and will be starting second level education in September. 

I guess even now he's no longer a little kid, but he's about to step into a more adult or at least a teen environment very soon.

We're very close, and we talk about lots of things, but up to this point we haven't really talked about relationships that much.

In my heart I'm pretty sure that he is most likely gay, but I'm really unsure how to approach this with him. 

I've always been an equal rights advocate, and my kids have heard me talking about kindness and not labelling people, that sort of thing.

I also know that he's only coming on 12YO so relationships, sex and sexuality might not be even that high on his radar. 

Its easy to say he's from a family of late bloomers, in that yes, I did have my first girlfriends early in school around his age, but I didn't have a clue what I was doing or why we were together apart from she read the same comics as I did.

So at the moment I'm kind of floundering about what to do. At the end of the day I want to protect him, make sure he's happy, supported.

I know its 2020 and all that, but he's still a boy who doesn't play football, not your classic guys guy, and while he isn't obviously outwardly gay either, I still worry he might be an easy target for older guys.

I was the second oldest in my family, but my older brother was pretty much not there as support so I grew a thick skin myself, 

I also was more of a jock from an early age, got on the football team so that meant I was never bullied or scared, but thats not my sons path, so yup, I'm just a worried dad. 

If there are any gay parents on here, or parents with gay kids, can you offer me any advice?",6.375505344337706,4.686356619537278,6.985482343390611,81.4459843052361,66.35218508997428,9.937545663644977,28.699905290217828,8.532816995589336,1.7623902313624678,1451,32,321,17,19,481,201,389,0.042,0.83,0.127,0.9887,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,3,2,0,3,25,10,0,1,19,2,32,9,3,2,5,58,50,32,0,3,19,7,2,1,1,4,0,2,0,8,19,17,0,1,3,4,0,4,11,1,0,3,14,4,35,9,45,28,14,52,0,0,0,6,46,26,0,14,23,214,54,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347072274463374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196287077584974,0.0738555297364698,0.0,0.0,0.12071984976457112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901532447281437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764589834747379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057242934048863665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861512035806237,0.0,0.0,0.11725044344772495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735028217770964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549931218861576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197915169457614,0.0,0.097779278384725,0.2636594190518752,0.0,0.0944867975515988,0.0,0.0,0.09109348976339564,0.0,0.0,0.10518116881066288,0.0,0.09377993937768106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848600110866565,0.09756048065052936,0.07235134393767635,0.10012528076222467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04336371087486026,0.08896095772360954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092135878418428,0.0,0.0,0.05924806890966164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824813800022666,0.0,0.0,0.07084748045609159,0.0,0.13049780120679144,0.0,0.06845727594196419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750607046113248,0.0,0.0,0.1971152170054644,0.0,0.0,0.061535090826302284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390700260577998,0.0,0.0,0.180601902465944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878413911371727,0.0,0.1137240105957526,0.0,0.0,0.1905903013009547,0.0,0.07580065696053154,0.0,0.07058560948925974,0.08886436381223531,0.35931991789537954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282486933226998,0.0,0.14176789196178347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014478632004648,0.16731072413701728,0.0,0.0,0.21402606531571175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793655858481487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464727883753942,0.10470603619357002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009220197336793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461842402553236,0.18028041946746454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057158606756140436
parenting,Weak-Fact,2020/02/21,What was your final straw in mom/parenting Facebook group? I am part of this one breastfeeding group with a large following of members. While I do appreciate the information they give it’s sometimes upsetting to read their responses to woman who are struggling and maybe wishing to end their breastfeeding journey to switch to formula. It’s very hard to see them be dismissive of it even when it’s effecting(affecting? 26 and still can’t figure out the difference 😩) the moms mental health by continuing to breastfeed. Although I chose to breastfeed my child and still do at 15 months my stance has always been fed is best so it’s really hard for me to see people trying to shame woman into thinking that breastfeeding is their one and only option and that they are letting down their child if they choose to stop.,7.837307979120062,8.61487079194631,7.180760626398211,73.06735272184939,62.55704697986578,10.649067859806117,33.334079045488444,10.504223727775694,3.559263385533184,664,25,112,15,9,206,102,149,0.09699999999999999,0.846,0.057,-0.6305,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,8,1,5,4,0,3,4,0,13,2,0,0,0,16,20,10,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,10,8,1,1,4,1,0,2,1,3,0,2,3,4,15,1,22,15,2,16,0,0,2,0,19,5,0,2,9,81,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872720730643526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749659003047178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419044585167953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766742772339594,0.0,0.0,0.11011921946117964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263731238200664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993625718990193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298702799651188,0.0,0.0,0.1772191556003711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048595093979513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749604340749388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801795233169645,0.0,0.0,0.3905288130510957,0.13307701052907814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22595215296729335,0.12680064261565988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18054517244350304,0.0,0.11558499860661613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676849677066266,0.0,0.1068072658197029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657138947187497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489368499263965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662910117597744,0.13938821026996284,0.0,0.17429547531641054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682960930441454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131942303693334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375642484063793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172365786531734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,prouddadof3werkseff,2020/02/21,"How do I help my daughter deal with colourism? 
I have a 15 year old daughter who is struggling to deal with colourism. For those who don't know what that is (I sure did not until I was way into adulthood), colourism is the act of favouring people with a lighter skinned tone and being discriminatory towards those with a darker skin tone. It usually happens between members of the same race.  

My daughter is mixed race. Half black/half white. I'm white and her mother is black. I'm from Germany and her mother is from a country called Malawi (located in South-East Africa). 

When I was in my mid 20s to mid 30s, I spent a lot of time posted in Sub-Saharan Africa. I work in professional football (soccer for Americans!) and I used to be a talent scout for a professional club in Northern Europe. My job was to identify exciting, young African talent for the club I worked for. I had a great passion for it. I met my wife on the job.

These days I'm not a talent scout anymore. I still work in football but statistical analysis is more my thing now.  I sit behind a desk - certainly not as fun as being out in the field I'll give you that! When I was a young bachelor I could go from one country to another every week and that would be fine. But being a dad of 3 (17 year old boy, 15 year old girl and 6 year old girl), that's just not possible anymore. My family and I live in Europe.

However, over Christmas, we visited Malawi in order to see my wife's family. We hadn't been to Malawi for a few years so it was time. This is where my daughter's concerning feelings arose. She is my baby girl, so of course I will be biased, but she is a beauty. Things like the contrast between her caramel skin tone, sapphire eyes, freckles and curly red hair (yes, daddy's a ginger too!) give her a very unique look.

In Malawi, my daughter said she experienced a lot of colourism and she hated it. For instance - during the Christmas visit - her maternal grandmother would favour her over her maternal cousins because she is light skinned. Her grandmother would come out and say it straight (not when her mother and I were around though).

It wasn't just her grandmother, but sometimes people she met and other extended family members. She said she has experienced snippets of it in Europe too, but here it tends to be subtle. Whereas in Africa it is overt and it is true. 

She said being treated better because of something as insignificant as skin tone made her feel shitty, insecure and prompted her to start asking questions and looking at her place in the world. She said she has always gotten comments about her looks, but usually it's innocent things. But having her skin tone and other features highlighted so candidly made her feel alienated to the core human being within herself.  

My son has also commented on it but with him, it just slides off his back. He is one of those chilled people who don't seem to be fazed by much. He takes everything in his stride.

I hate that my girl feels this way. I know that growing up these kind of trials and tribulations are something we all face. It is part of life. But still, I wish it didn't have to be like that. She is now seeing a therapist, and I am also talking to her constantly about it. Sometimes I feel powerless, however. I feel like a clueless white guy when it comes to this issue and I sometimes feel inadequate. Would this lovely community be so kind as to shed advice on little things I can do to help her?

I do realise that colourism is a complex, systematic thing that won't be solved right away. As a mixed race young lady who is growing with each day, she will face more of these things throughout her life. I want to help her make facing these things easier.

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parenting,mt_bjj,2020/02/21,"My wife is driving my crazy with our 5 week old baby where do i start? my wife is a lovely person who loves to excessively worry about everything. this isn't new. she was like this before. and now with our newborn, my patience is being tested. every sound our baby makes she worries about. and i'm like, she's a newborn, they make all kinds of weird sounds and movements. i just need somewhere to vent because it is mentally affecting me, i love my baby and i see her as a perfectly normal healthy baby. wife on the other hand... not so. compound with our newborn not gaining the correct amount of weight at the correct rate. sigh. this shit isn't easy. i can go one but i will leave it at that.",0.902028985507247,3.433313405797108,2.3637681159420296,91.77072463768118,88.85507246376812,4.515942028985508,21.43478260869565,6.139981653823899,0.3582434782608699,542,19,107,5,18,175,91,138,0.102,0.78,0.11800000000000001,0.4864,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,1,2,6,10,1,0,6,0,11,6,2,3,4,20,21,7,0,2,4,3,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,8,7,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,1,1,1,5,21,7,13,18,2,12,0,0,1,3,20,4,1,0,7,72,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236397105771703,0.0,0.15684862071663486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553033682877449,0.0,0.16566113767566598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475722851422467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919481076456852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19517557878562736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801056311529099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990866878951946,0.0,0.24607928219888756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857581671310846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366760652263166,0.0,0.17802407446109658,0.0,0.0,0.18060123160530148,0.0,0.0,0.19342008075941344,0.0,0.12490468194632558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094714452850947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688467922396373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920892019487984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046753281610193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785592559273894,0.22446051359156247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743858410365309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trekkiechick89,2020/02/21,"My almost 4 year old lashes out when other kids get into her personal space. My almost 4 year old was born 6.5 weeks early and the doctor advised us that it could take up to 5 years for her to be completely caught up physically and emotionally with other kids her age. Just wanted to put that out there, I'm not sure if it has any bearing but I wanted to include it.

Recently, her preschool has been giving me incident reports that usually involve personal space issues. I know it's normal for kids her age to have difficulty with respecting others personal space, however, when she is the one who's personal space is invaded is the issue. When her personal space gets invaded, she lashes out and hits or bites and even scratches to get the other child to back up. I know that I need to teach her what an appropriate response is to someone being too close to her, I have the same problem as I have severe anxiety. I am just wondering if I should be worried about this behavior? We haven't talked to her doctor about her possibly being on the spectrum but I really don't think she is (of course, I am willing and open to discussing it with her doctor and have already considered doing it). I just can't find anything online about this kind of behavior in a child her age, all I can find is how to teach your child to respect others personal space.

So my questions are: Is this a normal behavior in children her age? Should I be concerned about her reaction to a violation of her personal space? Is this something I should discuss with her doctor at her 4 year old checkup?",8.116237623762371,7.010695673267327,8.449716171617162,70.46071287128716,62.56435643564357,11.908382838283828,37.031683168316825,11.072351349416056,4.109271683168316,1251,51,225,29,15,415,149,303,0.07200000000000001,0.889,0.039,-0.8439,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,0,0,16,6,1,0,10,0,34,5,0,1,2,49,49,17,0,12,9,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,14,21,17,0,0,7,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,3,1,41,4,40,35,2,42,0,0,0,0,45,20,0,7,20,173,62,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18459737747217,0.0,0.10171601699527998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626813057346898,0.0,0.07051266079204485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585113644113939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087591850745789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664241542858858,0.0,0.0,0.07359323321379906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773749251141198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368305416911597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060879887670566915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684902617213963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447092851974574,0.08842145285641695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241087955125213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598476883162503,0.10131255675359224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683456622025156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806213948026,0.0,0.0,0.2901625126727924,0.0,0.06245931345536351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5633778970687588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391204541285977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819782332443979,0.0,0.09266006986321984,0.10325568665471233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059048859747831674,0.0,0.09101045088617117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041300929159182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809851298287172,0.07095985024874013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687266156126816,0.0,0.06930318326517869,0.07408576281591751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059061212440177924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087366328426244,0.0,0.10151635525652287,0.0,0.1087329230398496,0.0,0.07393621647264008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999584919721149,0.0,0.09360690982183988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374274727768601
parenting,borrowedcats,2020/02/21,"Quick trick for calming your child I learned this short activity from a teaching artist I was working with a few years ago and I use it all the time now!

Sharing it here in case it helps you and your kids, too.

[https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/a-quick-trick-to-calm-an-anxious-child-2bbb63d4bc08](https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/a-quick-trick-to-calm-an-anxious-child-2bbb63d4bc08)",19.4725,26.40585034090909,6.882909090909092,61.38936363636367,45.59090909090909,5.3381818181818215,24.70909090909091,6.742157984588678,0.7152236363636368,341,7,38,2,5,71,37,44,0.027000000000000003,0.785,0.188,0.8016,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,3,0,1,4,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,4,1,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,5,26,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063850521247098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7809395588526091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316722170571649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015428631446724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29851813268758537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516267899231599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22257795592236845
parenting,troy12n,2020/02/21,"Parents of teenagers - boyfriend/girlfriend ""sleepovers"" Question I have a son who is now 18, still in high school. Son approached me and his mom inquiring if his girlfriend can ""sleep over""... IE: parent sanctioned weekend fu*k fests. We told him no, and immediately he's like ""other parents let their kids do this"". I told him, you have 2 options, have her dad call me and we can discuss what will be happening in this ""sleepover"", or, stay at her house. She is 18 too, still in high school. I honestly don't care if they have sex or not (I certainly did it when I was his age), but i'm not going to condone it ""under me roof"", and i'm completely confident that they are also lying to her father about the whole situation. He's not the most responsible person, and we don't need babies. But i'm asking, to current parents of teenagers? Is this REALLY a thing people do nowadays? I'm 45 and something like this would definitely not have been acceptable when I was his age...",3.9391935483870952,5.743486360215055,4.662129032258067,83.7231935483871,72.49462365591398,7.540645161290323,29.06666666666667,8.238735603445708,2.0415595698924736,757,31,146,12,15,243,114,186,0.078,0.8390000000000001,0.083,0.4416,5,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,3,1,3,0,8,6,0,0,4,0,23,2,1,0,1,27,34,15,0,4,10,9,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,11,9,0,0,3,1,0,2,7,0,0,0,6,0,26,6,12,24,2,20,0,0,0,1,38,8,0,7,11,102,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818570544129964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647127208164766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813899093511678,0.0,0.1379299571457161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184157194194089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688440330176399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963024290881405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28586767349432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560983308555428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383359554819699,0.0,0.1321848065176599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844172554646702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031057397754124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6008627097608334,0.0,0.0,0.09378814578847558,0.1181238311255719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154783582443807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666570522754126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738270829842537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520636747011162,0.1353806237033926,0.0,0.0,0.10414740421594017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419359701137435,0.21607423570671574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987596346908959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25853726259643794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103855340710493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610110774833684,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BaronVBear,2020/02/21,"Messing up with parenting Hi all.

Im a Parent of two wonderful little girls, but im sure im messing them up and not sure how to fix things.
I work 9-5 Monday to Friday and my fiancé stays at home with H(23months) and R(1.5 months)

We live in the UK and not in a very nice area, we settled here because we could afford it and we're a 1 income household. before R we were able to save £200-£300 a month but since she was born that's gone down to no savings and very hard to save anything.

H is happy most of the time, but at 23 months there is no clear vocabulary, she has said things in the past and just completely dropped any interest in speaking.
Potty training is non-existent because i feel she doesn't understand enough, she understands that if she wants water to take her sippy cup to the water cooler, she understands that if the bath is running its bath time and she figures out things like light switches, but when i talk to her i don't get the impression that she understands what im saying.

she likes touch and feel books and will bring them over to read, but doesn't seem to take in any of the words just wants to touch them.

she is not social at all, my fiancé is struggling to get about with two and so she'll go to baby groups once avery couple of weeks, this used to be more but H never liked to socialise with other children but likes other adults.

Im beginning to panic because she'll be in preschool soon, and due the area i live in the nearest school is almost entirely a muslim faith school. we are white british and i fear she will be picked on for being bullied at best and ostricised at worst, we are not a religious family and disagree with a lot of the teachings that religion bestows on women. but that's besides the point. 
My fiancé wants to homeschool but i have never met anybody who that has been successful for.

apologies for the rant. just a bad dad having a panic attack about how im screwing up my daughter",4.668461538461539,5.444583846153847,5.055384615384615,85.5346153846154,69.51282051282051,7.846153846153848,27.82051282051281,7.882392219407189,1.5896666666666668,1540,50,310,18,26,489,205,390,0.142,0.733,0.125,-0.7382,4,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,6,0,3,3,12,26,2,4,21,0,28,3,0,4,7,76,50,30,0,6,18,4,5,4,0,4,0,3,3,4,17,27,2,0,9,4,0,4,11,10,0,2,6,10,35,16,52,35,8,46,1,0,1,1,42,25,1,7,19,205,52,7,0.08199785785264085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210901007339322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152271033230694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747725034244087,0.0,0.0,0.09328440090248633,0.0,0.0,0.06846478625414447,0.14995539921110812,0.0,0.06977413760499555,0.0,0.08605169295053629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597319388396346,0.0,0.0,0.06546861726891433,0.09072907008976472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472570657082965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077300282761004,0.09227038684568302,0.08292116138050756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568099278245815,0.0,0.046601272259031545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728824442810736,0.07345397461529396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822505371228697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5314305443034317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024004590006474,0.08218339517853157,0.14481122150855652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971164647516966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634972349834626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648360596709524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732504249248373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241363752926666,0.18209783470623364,0.0,0.07827623357135778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775144797206563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202004763750305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779987401383705,0.06520798771744575,0.0,0.1659724196071488,0.0,0.0746477701648794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782947535818723,0.0,0.0,0.0835864898470354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739880630876877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572196467125613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456402124265334,0.0,0.12330436869173103,0.06590677211830145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342719966468372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562722064636042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601999847345666,0.34145064733749203,0.0,0.07081982188812083,0.0,0.13531364047761096,0.14509338315818407,0.0,0.06577373553484883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889231790467548,0.059695417106496174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KpopGeek512,2020/02/21,"HELP ME Hello, I'm only 12, but I like photography. I like digital editing like Picsart (follow me there: @slimycake123 thanks!), but I want to try something new, maybe INSTANT PHOTOGRAPHY... So, I found this Instax mini 9, and I did a LOT of research about it, and I was about to ask ''Santa Claus"" about getting it for 2019 Christmas. Few days after writing a letter, my mom came to talk to me and said that ""Santa"" will not get it for me. She thinks that Instax pictures are low quality and its just a waste of money. I'm about to prove her wrong: I'm researching (again) Instax mini 9 reviews, and they are VERY POSITIVE, but my mom will not gonna change her mind (even though she's Gemini). Also she  will not gonna buy me 20 $ Instax film, even though I have enough money, but she's on her mind. PLEASE HELP ME SO I WILL GET IT ON MY BIRTHDAY ON MAY. PLS!!!!!!!📷",2.208448275862068,3.9176592701149424,3.785724137931037,88.58168965517244,76.98850574712644,6.479080459770112,21.944827586206884,7.3011,0.6836579310344826,659,18,139,8,15,219,100,174,0.057,0.775,0.168,0.9695,1,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,1,0,14,6,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,1,23,26,14,0,1,8,2,0,3,0,7,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,0,3,1,3,2,3,2,0,0,5,1,25,4,17,14,3,10,0,1,0,0,18,4,0,2,7,88,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849279000119895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021066358520965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377089819448936,0.0,0.0,0.16997423495726766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362292990547747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660215835201074,0.0,0.21225037962586651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617328459789142,0.0,0.0,0.25184022668657396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153958923001914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23549499237362576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660125605357049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142095345855606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32447454630224243,0.37636431328935865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518218499211126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222015769075872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637434223203155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283996881772868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369647620729166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914553462746206,0.0,0.14792916209535736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295489398260073,0.31572732478984544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908866992023368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325747861729723,0.09477105278972052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567432562160018,0.0,0.0
parenting,velociraptorbaby,2020/02/21,"First time going to a daycare, any tips? My son is 14 months and since he was 4 months has been watched by my mom 25 hours a week while I'm at work. I'm home Mondays with my son and my mom works her nursing job. Next week I have to work Monday, my mom is working, my husband has to work, and no one else can watch the kiddo. My husband gets discounted daycare days at kinderCare through care.com so we signed him up for the day. My son has started some separation anxiety so obviously I'm nervous about dropping off a hysterical baby at a new place! I'm going this afternoon to tour the place with him. I know for next week I have to bring food, diapers, wipes. Is there  anything else I should remember to ask them? I have his medical/vaccination records. I'm most nervous about his napping. He's a great sleeper but has never had to sleep at a daycare with other kiddos.",3.2562857142857133,4.847630371428573,4.3889999999999985,85.85950000000003,73.85714285714286,7.2857142857142865,29.642857142857146,7.957251820313856,1.928142857142857,685,30,140,10,14,224,105,175,0.05,0.927,0.023,-0.3326,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,6,5,3,0,2,9,0,15,2,1,0,2,16,27,7,0,1,1,8,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,7,1,0,2,1,1,3,2,2,0,2,3,2,20,1,22,23,2,31,0,0,2,0,18,8,0,2,19,82,22,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438417306718023,0.0,0.09492706799836632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211394529468287,0.0,0.11600563645440695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651610283865994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005313668208754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20731939416048556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055492868588206,0.1500478406863691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483091831232404,0.0,0.1410442702383902,0.0,0.0,0.1368075843777952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447049643545363,0.0,0.12220179719963473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313830659589993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681955825805513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4359915001349829,0.1980918983527445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570440374238716,0.11984507428917275,0.26393823517837484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408531785510892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592913378237515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056764427024493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102646970659629,0.0,0.1241777295176395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783020616735585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235677749322313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986080018738447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4516881264293322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joyonadventures,2020/02/21,"I think I’m having sensory overload at the witching hour with my kids, and want to manage it better to be the best parent I can. It’s only recently come to my (38F) attention that I have autism, and I am suddenly understanding my feelings and responses through a new lens. I have a job which requires intense social interaction and I’ve always needed a quiet environment after work to “reset.”

My three year old son is also on the spectrum, and at the end of the day, he is engaged in some strong sensory seeking and attention seeking behaviors. He runs around the room slamming his body into furniture and tries to jump on the couch and makes loud noises and asks over and over “Mommy what are we going to do today???” The general chaos gets the dogs hyped up so they are jumping around and trying to get someone to pay attention to them, meanwhile the not quite one year old needs to breastfeed and might also be crying... and lately I just find myself not reacting in a way I’m proud of. I’m grouchy, and snappy, and can’t explain why I just need everyone to be quiet but would be happy to snuggle and read some books together or something. (Also even if I could, I’d be explaining myself to toddlers and dogs, so 🤷‍♀️).

I mean honestly even if I didn’t work all day, this would probably be my experience all day instead of just after work. And the work I do really does keep food on our table and also is fulfilling. So I’m looking for any strategies that can help all of us get what we need from our evening routine (attention for them, a mental break for me) that can help us be closer and not make me feel like such an unhinged grump. Any suggestions welcome!!",7.11406907717215,6.288310538226303,7.681183666127001,74.25246087425798,64.41284403669725,10.752221622593991,34.831624392876414,10.056822442137396,3.3833430113329737,1314,51,246,25,17,437,189,327,0.022000000000000002,0.862,0.11599999999999999,0.9843,2,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,6,0,3,10,17,10,0,0,17,0,27,2,1,3,3,69,53,31,0,10,10,2,2,1,0,3,0,3,2,1,9,27,1,2,12,2,1,5,5,1,0,2,1,6,30,9,38,41,6,38,0,0,1,0,24,15,0,6,17,171,39,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31887638163007936,0.08294698450739063,0.0,0.0,0.13558020020824282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17748387746399386,0.09319323069772599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461461816815412,0.08816442845730801,0.0,0.11072900290037084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587091772761635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959139631943532,0.0,0.10950071595141143,0.1928682434741534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723614996395818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829247036280942,0.0,0.0,0.1975255763010385,0.0,0.0,0.09525452840212516,0.0,0.0975123264147498,0.0,0.0,0.10080877363874832,0.07121591023803965,0.0,0.0,0.09111146915963013,0.0,0.12054106559103503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624592678305987,0.0,0.05665401965224666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611791643267196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363524668198587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981709219153174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892326756751366,0.08860576076248812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245048463962666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048701689189074485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371138254242813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308275416825738,0.0,0.0,0.1085876010804637,0.0,0.0,0.10046034054614923,0.1057514074404467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956645033529902,0.0,0.0962776464797603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20920799856775493,0.0,0.06755001450505033,0.07581592063145659,0.0,0.0,0.11068983534112767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074786881577735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602864710567386,0.0997132731678316,0.0,0.06386159424123783,0.0,0.09842819168778603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161762563335372,0.08446387564900175,0.07674338138545424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387495373081599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449095320221076,0.0,0.0,0.1353609036766873,0.0,0.0,0.10377695042854518,0.2398206816164372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05879756054129056,0.07912634225783634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995137750622946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902912448485826,0.0,0.0,0.14162856998727674,0.0,0.0,0.12838941338537166
parenting,JayeAus,2020/02/21,"Any parents of Precious Puberty children? Looking for any tips and advice for handling the emotional impact.

My little one started 1st grade this year, and suddenly the comments on height and ""fat"" (she isn't) have started. 

We have always been open about this with her. And focused on strength and what our bodies achieve and do. Not how they look. Treat ""becoming a woman"" as a positive  + exciting thing. 

Yet this year it has seemed to hit her with the comments from school. She is taller than her grade 5 buddy, which the kids in her class  find hilarious. Justly. And she is closer in height to her teacher than she is to her classmates. 

Girls have started comparing and contrasting bodies already. And the boys seem to be mad that she is so much stronger than any of them. (her words). 

It has become a bit isolating for her. 

Academically  + behaviourally she is killing it. It is just the emotional side we need guidance with.

All tips on navigating this time and supporting her welcome. Thanks.",3.6264364640884,6.560835994475144,3.7162955801105007,84.53764779005526,78.55801104972377,6.9349171270718255,28.387016574585644,8.07648339933343,2.238546740331492,789,35,139,15,20,242,111,181,0.037000000000000005,0.7829999999999999,0.18,0.9776,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,2,2,6,9,2,0,9,0,15,3,3,1,1,26,26,13,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,12,16,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,21,7,23,23,3,20,0,0,2,0,29,12,0,2,8,99,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537190196038932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641664026864245,0.0,0.1237847938627423,0.0,0.0,0.3034968763659752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285995619303613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241337049728666,0.3304898153935453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346822757181951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596895047404065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458695838914875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910208961931548,0.0,0.0,0.2498510655575756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935974245640774,0.11030771587850488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080733700678264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518645652732009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055860450180236,0.0,0.2708610052633453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158909100306108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881729986458946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696326355646496,0.0,0.0,0.09883317231217208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674634573009404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191600178890778
parenting,meeeeeeeee123,2020/02/21,"Got a call from the school principal My son (9) does really well in school. He loves to read, he loves to make friends, his teachers have always been so supportive and appreciative of his attitude and ability. He has always made friends easily, because of his good nature and sense of humor. He cares deeply about others and is not afraid to show it. 

So, Valentine’s Day and class valentines. I got a big pack of the ones with Airheads and he went to filling them out. I have not helped him do this ever, he has always wanted to do it himself. He took them to school Friday, had the party and that was it. So I thought. 

Monday morning, I get a call from the school principal, who is new this year and I have not met. Apparently some of the cards had said “You are my BFF” and he thought it would be funny to cross out “are” and write in “ate”, then draw an arrow to the Airhead. He did it to a few, then went back and filled in names. Can you see where this is going? Because I didn’t. 

One of these “You ate my BFF” cards went to a girl in his class who is slightly overweight, I guess. Her mom is more so. She got home with her Valentines and her mom flipped out at the card. Took a picture, called the school, made a huge deal that my son was “fat shaming” her child. 

Principal meets with the kids, separately, explains the situation, then brings them together to talk. According to her, my son was super apologetic and was crying saying he was sorry to this girl - who he sits with voluntarily and is friends with -  for hurting her feelings.  Because he was making a joke and a parent took it wrong, my kid ends up feeling awful when he did absolutely nothing wrong (in my eyes at least). 

My son has ocular albinism, so he has bright red hair, very pale skin and nystagmus - his eyes constantly move left to right, he is legally blind but functions REALLY well with it. This is something he will never be able to fix or change, and it is highly visible to others that something is “different”. Usually people assume he is mentally challenged, but the comments he hears from other kids and adults are off the wall hurtful and judgmental. We have reinforced from day 1 that what others say does not affect his worth, if they have a problem it is theirs to sort out. Does he get his feelings hurt? Sure. But it is going to happen and the best thing I can do as his mom is show him that words are just words and they can’t affect you unless you let them. 

I feel that 9 years old is old enough for kids to talk to each other and sort problems like this out. The mom is stigmatizing being overweight by reacting so strongly to the card, so the little girl learns that she should get upset if someone picks on her (which my kid was not intending to do, the same card went to 3-4 other kids) instead of encouraging resilience. We do talk to our kids about how foods we eat affect our bodies, why we don’t eat junk food/soda/whatever on the daily. We don’t teach them that being fat is bad but we do show that it is preventable (and fixable - I gained ~50lbs with last kiddo, have worked hard to lose ~30lbs in the last 6 months). 

I’ve given it all week and it is still on my mind, so I figured it best to get it out. I think it’s the fact that the principal said he was crying so she knew he really meant he was sorry - it is upsetting to me that he make a joke and was accused of making fun of a friend and got called to the principals office for it. Then that the principal is almost relieved that he cried, so she knew he was really sorry. They joke shamed him, is that something I can cause a big stink over? (Joking obv) Sorry for the novel.",3.25315940504089,4.8736433467406375,4.0367442249748935,88.26216019417477,73.92371705963939,7.080596872160312,23.6654311540485,7.753152298057669,1.0226783968625952,2827,81,586,38,58,903,310,721,0.098,0.777,0.124,0.9502,3,0,3,0,0,0,88.0,8,5,9,8,22,42,0,5,38,1,73,17,7,14,5,110,123,51,0,7,14,9,7,1,4,3,5,5,1,12,51,46,9,1,14,9,1,14,10,15,2,2,41,19,69,27,77,74,10,68,0,4,6,2,121,29,0,9,25,383,120,13,0.05758918760054405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576672526410312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375645237185206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044282530496414056,0.048084566144481186,0.10531750271333283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087259883248876,0.0,0.0,0.06396860487118941,0.0,0.0,0.2352199975893259,0.0,0.05871601487691101,0.05915995933757874,0.06092172442760513,0.0,0.0,0.06223345286247749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897770551978319,0.07428052353545972,0.059371923683419175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016844380880398,0.0,0.0,0.1511900584677687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785623214360458,0.0,0.0,0.051006926837601316,0.05950502535157401,0.0,0.0,0.05209271722790451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647529444924988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392741484809166,0.0,0.1779730539360954,0.0,0.12035189446088508,0.0,0.06545852491347648,0.04830307825883715,0.18423733678624965,0.0,0.06344098280441843,0.0,0.05092592840394836,0.0,0.05158860042085266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490719988048017,0.0,0.038600818520669856,0.0608461385657791,0.05776665069869144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849512492428726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388574844184452,0.0,0.0,0.06257082083167988,0.05888884610839101,0.0,0.02813516811939928,0.05771949519817455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442757018131985,0.0,0.0,0.10395298048298393,0.108984563511875,0.15376491964293454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05803635597986793,0.0,0.058148662644568076,0.269791041970138,0.045967140109856086,0.06120819250462425,0.0,0.0,0.04441633173834034,0.05561999624554753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055258378691700666,0.0,0.12086032968538775,0.0,0.07804784787603658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639459776095383,0.0,0.0,0.03992509152726192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021014988809988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057604772052585976,0.0,0.14757243292934186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491808515488895,0.10956101039876223,0.09159446688138116,0.0,0.2914166619587024,0.04589112642037995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473265975538514,0.0,0.0,0.04879513176996355,0.13300491050412974,0.0,0.2578655224903045,0.0,0.0,0.045990799608780775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535152762634835,0.05427712777347248,0.0,0.0,0.13886402266098696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03825969729369756,0.03690082606495132,0.0,0.09143876436030766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195111921565985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342635400285855,0.047517110998081626,0.033967594931201696,0.0,0.04619457256690989,0.0,0.10355919167256344,0.21354301546834306,0.051965284384367184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04192561445711007,0.0,0.0,0.040909706556914026,0.12592947227813825,0.0,0.07417109735813518
parenting,DirectCaterpillar6,2020/02/21,"Daughter growing up too fast My 10 (almost 11) year old daughter has changed so much in the past few months all of a sudden. It feels that it was just a short while ago it was all about Barbie and Frozen..I haven't moved on from this but she has transitioned into what I consider new terrtory for myself.

In the past few months she is suddenly displaying interests in things like hair dye, makeup, nails and even piercings. This is all unchartered territory that I am not mentally ready for and personally I feel she is too young. Almost every conversation turns to her asking things such as ""can I get pink streaks in my hair?"" or ""can I get a bunch of ear piercings and nose ring?"". I have been sitting on the fence with my responses which is probably not helping but really I am just not sure how to respond.

I have always wanted to encourage my daughter to express her individuality and embrace her interests. However in this situation I am unsure what to do. Any advice will be appreciated.",4.311610962566846,6.507676267379682,5.437643716577539,76.89411263368987,72.42245989304813,8.95307486631016,28.79979946524065,9.516144504307137,2.867545721925134,790,32,143,20,16,261,118,187,0.051,0.836,0.113,0.9164,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,6,0,20,4,4,1,4,26,27,12,0,1,8,3,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,13,7,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,8,20,5,22,22,7,26,0,0,1,0,16,10,0,3,14,108,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728542808177641,0.15680178599070435,0.0,0.35425837803121857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718615654591655,0.0,0.0,0.12029086223501645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653677167887043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871255374079698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683378472778845,0.0,0.1490369541770919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888119774471886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483482813936566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856524052682353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641922900036225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826291694744048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823828733339878,0.18800544508238454,0.13003406695379827,0.0,0.0,0.17084089109206602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856156761497932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377219079683889,0.0,0.15445300683747046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071669831626348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331988333373505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883110431268336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667161722521738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23503492340099685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19240487923031452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433395501649978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391097825680425
parenting,ArtmausDen,2020/02/21,"I think this documentary about online child predators is helpful for any parents of young teenagers. There is a trailer with ENG subs in the article. It’s Czech production, but I am pretty sure this documentary will get awareness world-wide soon. [https://www.filmcenter.cz/en/czech-films-people/1174-caught-in-the-net](https://www.filmcenter.cz/en/czech-films-people/1174-caught-in-the-net)

If this is out of place here, I apologize.

Most people in my country considers this the most important film of 2020. 

It’s shocking how unmonitored and dangerous teenager’s activities online can get.",13.615727848101265,18.789405050632904,8.127072784810128,54.38402689873419,55.45569620253164,9.519620253164558,35.19145569620253,9.827888789773867,4.435973417721518,505,20,56,11,8,133,61,79,0.09,0.752,0.157,0.5704,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,10,9,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,9,8,2,6,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,3,2,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25444999285259456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3909791635468173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250799803443709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154740554763168,0.0,0.0,0.2594039580312925,0.0,0.3909304118170813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806677433847426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3526529617444949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397544994815225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProProcrastinator2,2020/02/21,"At My Wits End With My 19 Year Old Son TL:DR: 19 year old son moved with us to Germany, hates it after one week, and is asking for the rest of his savings ($2k) to move back to the U.S. so he can hang out for 6-8 months and then join the military.

This is a throw away account, but any advice would be appreciated. 

I am in the military, and my family recently moved to Germany for 4 years for my job. My oldest son, who is 19, and a sophomore at our local college, got set up with online classes so he could continue his education abroad while living with us. Also, soccer is his passion, and he has played soccer his entire life, so he saw this as a perfect opportunity to play soccer at a more competitive level while working on his college courses. We even had a meeting with a local soccer club who agreed to let him workout with them to give him a shot at a spot on the team...for FREE!

My son has never been very responsible with money. A good example; about three weeks before we left the U.S. he sold his car, which netted him $2.5k. Unbeknownst to my wife and I, he blew threw the money buying electronics online. I was pretty upset when the new DSLR camera and Go Pro showed up at our door. He refused to return them. 

Also, about a week before we left the U.S. he told me he dropped his college courses and was going to get a refund from the school, and his new plan was to come with us to Germany, and enlist in the Air Force at some point later this year. I was not happy that he just dropped out of his classes, but he seemed like he had a solid plan, and even got in contact with the overseas recruiter to get information on the process to enlist while being overseas. 

We have about $2k in a separate savings account we were using to pay bis tuition at the college he was attending. He has now asked my wife and I to give him the money so he can buy a plane ticket back to the U.S. and secure a room in a house on a month to month lease. He has said his old employer would give him his job back, and he should be earning about $400-$500 per week. He has no car though, so that $2k would be used to get a ticket back to the U.S. and secure the room. He would not have much leftover at that point. No money for food, a car, phone, etc. He has stated he will take a loan from the bank for $2k-$3k so he can get on his feet, but his plan is to still join the Air Force later this year. 

He is able to join the Air Force right here, from where we are in Germany. The process is a little different, but it can be done. He is dead set on returning to the U.S. to work for a few months and then join, which will cost him easily over $5k. This has caused quite the controversy in our temporary quarters where we are staying. We don't even move into our permanent house here for another 3 weeks. At that point, we will have our car, all of our possessions, etc., and life will begin to feel a little more normal. I want him to stick it our for at least 6 months to give it a fair chance. He can use the 6 months to enlist in the Air Force, save himself around $5k, and start life a little better off financially. Given his poor history with money, I really feel like he will be calling us for a bailout within 30 days of his arrival back in the U.S. I also think that if he can't tough this out for a few months, he won't have much success in the military because he's not resilient enough to deal with adversity. 

Am I in the wrong for wanting him to do this our way, which I think is the smart way? Of should I just hand over his $2k and tell him good luck?",6.737061666344483,4.7817041366711805,7.1111478832399015,81.68600270635994,65.82002706359945,10.069530253237966,30.8571815194278,8.418075326091056,1.992020344094335,2763,72,613,30,35,906,294,739,0.057999999999999996,0.8109999999999999,0.131,0.9953,5,0,0,0,0,0,104.0,21,0,2,11,32,25,1,1,57,0,62,7,2,4,3,84,97,41,1,11,10,6,3,2,0,12,3,1,3,0,21,45,1,3,6,11,18,15,9,5,0,3,18,5,69,21,106,59,13,130,0,0,1,1,102,59,0,4,50,393,90,16,0.060325994530132265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05894986366802205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447280280916958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04102374494698826,0.06325706518520338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053702924985375086,0.1127933229500251,0.0,0.05667825767136545,0.23193483046128724,0.0,0.03677416633993105,0.0,0.1026659562513948,0.0,0.0,0.053353439821955735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06159958526579973,0.0,0.0,0.06197141394243085,0.0,0.051965502659102505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04816539786145952,0.0,0.0,0.03890527582692599,0.062193451455035624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302782455056179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061734437142264564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05343092544988296,0.06233287850444558,0.13455886071515782,0.11953425131744308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568699787669858,0.0,0.06100527085551918,0.043096902546030144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294643204316734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607136911356287,0.2314807636699432,0.06856930580912733,0.1011971641289009,0.09649641742045023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421814293463597,0.0,0.05955943026928207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921619632941176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972848223499323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108873913693295,0.06168741661823748,0.1278301019647269,0.0589444674874767,0.1813874841798,0.05326895839356127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33706143303274577,0.2564679406033755,0.08869309435508158,0.0,0.046527125961234185,0.1165264428645345,0.0,0.0,0.05910666621810925,0.0,0.0,0.18990595000445376,0.0,0.040878455142627314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171082691746822,0.0,0.0,0.061373224023661126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06416412085623904,0.0,0.0,0.03864637683137626,0.0,0.0595646418162984,0.0,0.0,0.05151806971309883,0.05738383531190022,0.0,0.0,0.0610531271156324,0.0,0.05491851973433052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042699049424617455,0.0642994835401431,0.04817641715802755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04535764022400746,0.0,0.052727578195177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730892287602215,0.05926998333405105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764407298724224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29025897470381395,0.15630687068162688,0.0,0.049775263336600345,0.07116366913299063,0.09576793302821003,0.241949370020882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783608499412701,0.0,0.0,0.17141542270746646,0.06595700488542437,0.0,0.1942398130599128
parenting,shaylisa20,2020/02/21,Baby boy 17 months My baby boy is 17 months & he doesn’t answer to his name or say mom dad but he tries to talk but just baby talk. I wondering is them signs of autism? First time mom need help.,-1.1973643410852723,0.8553279069767471,0.6515116279069773,103.15618217054264,95.51162790697674,3.7968992248062015,9.492248062015504,5.46131890053228,-1.8148728682170543,152,1,38,1,6,49,32,43,0.0,0.9179999999999999,0.08199999999999999,0.5499,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,5,3,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,3,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,2,4,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698206048913712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118222032127939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691752064775253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5833147267915462,0.3975418839523556,0.0,0.0,0.1846503339073152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803623216831606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.400316871645844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520962179965294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907295788602453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27005911311286324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Christopher109,2020/02/21,"turning down opportunities dear parents, how many times because you're parents you had to turn down opportunities? I'm referring to the link below, my post on another sub, but while the answer seems obvious to decline its difficult. (haven't replied yet to the producers)

[https://www.reddit.com/r/ask/comments/f70rzv/decision\_help/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x](https://www.reddit.com/r/ask/comments/f70rzv/decision_help/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x)",27.7825,33.79868725000001,14.9875,16.107500000000016,20.25,13.06666666666667,45.16666666666667,12.45797560212912,6.559991666666668,420,14,33,8,3,99,39,48,0.065,0.8170000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.1754,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,1,0,3,2,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,6,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,8,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,20,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4574430250017335,0.0,0.0,0.2213516759879681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39469094878401495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286816473159446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214017354712018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4687923769188753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021708066231926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217310114500652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309128259892055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459221822788533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_discussing_,2020/02/21,"Do kids like 5-10 years old still play with kids stuff? Like dolls, colouring books, games, Dess up, Imagination

I have noticed alot of young cousins and friends that at just 3 years old want an iPad because everyone else does in their class ?

A grandma I know bought a doll for her granddaughter she threw it away and wanted one that actually talks or whatever",7.190970149253732,7.707374626865673,5.736529850746268,83.76807835820897,63.92537313432835,9.685074626865672,33.167910447761194,9.516144504307137,2.7170925373134334,288,11,57,5,4,84,59,67,0.0,0.8220000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.8796,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,7,3,0,2,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,4,7,5,1,11,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,2,8,28,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.2284844617207836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21997992368925406,0.0,0.0,0.14272806959062406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048953367716569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955918685944623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22372845069437813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808940805636228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128675867309285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22877554802376596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26656713814128163,0.4913759185793337,0.0,0.15865765484447567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869825397861292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680314633659666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188190883560347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762007716625964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015537951225466
parenting,YellowYT,2020/02/21,"My parents are struggling Just to clear up I know this subreddit isn't meant for teenagers, but for parents however I really want to help mine out, I will try and make this post as raw as possible with no bias in it, also I live in Australia so some things regarding education will be different.  Here's a backstory, in 2013 my parents brought me an iPad (I was 6 at the time), ever since then I have basically had a huge interest in technology, this is the main reason why all of this is happening. I am now in Year 8, almost 14 and my parents are in a love hate relationship with me (more hate recently). Since I am now in high school I get a lot of homework and I get stressed out with assessments, I release this stress by going on my computer. I have 2 computers, a school one and a gaming one, the school one is related to school and I use it for all of my schoolwork. My gaming computer is only used on the weekends, only exception is on holidays. I'm not lying here but I am addicted to computers, like seriously. My parents for all these years have been trying to get me off it but nothing has worked. Some of the stuff they have done is limiting screen time, taking it away from me etc. However now it has got crazy, I am going through changes myself and my emotions change a lot, plus my parents (specifically my mum) is getting crazy angry at me and making a huge argument over very small things like leaving the bathroom door closed. This not only makes me insane but they end up taking things away from me, and since my computer is basically the only emotional release I find it extremely hard to hold everything in. About 2 weeks ago we have had a meeting and my parents banned my computer for the next school term, saying that it will fix my problems and habits. They also said if I don't change they will send me to boarding school. So far it has done some stuff but has turned a negative effect on my emotions, like today where it is the end of the week and I am playing a game on my computer until 5 (which is the time I'm meant to get off) before studying for exams. However my mum almost kicks me off instantly, which made me angry but I held it in, avoiding an argument. The big problem is my computer is my emotional release and hobby and they expect me to do everything perfect and with immediate effect. I simply cannot deal with me trying to hold in my emotions while trying to do everything they ask plus studying and homework, trying to fix the things there angry about and dealing with my mum screaming at me every so often. It makes it an almost impossible thing to do and every mistake I make they threaten me even more about boarding school and when I want to talk they either have no time or are not interested or they always blame it on me.  They need help and I  just don't know how to bring it across to them which is why I am asking the internet for answers. My mum screams and yells and creates arguments over nothing, then goes on about the past and how I can't change, sometimes swearing and saying how dumb and stupid I am plus she also says everything I do is caused by the computer, she's threaten to destroy it with a hammer in-front of me multiple times . While my dad is ok but when he is in a bad mood he gets annoyed at everything and everyone. I need advice for them, I've been very reluctant to post this, but I think it's the right thing to do, can I get your help? Thanks.",5.589568757430563,5.831219141802071,6.327451813956841,79.10791367943223,67.33087149187593,9.795424577584033,31.874085816190508,9.685265186389033,2.861732672839284,2697,104,530,54,41,888,273,677,0.171,0.7340000000000001,0.095,-0.9961,11,1,0,0,0,0,59.0,1,1,12,5,27,28,6,4,33,1,59,2,0,15,6,108,102,57,0,9,18,12,1,3,0,4,1,7,3,0,36,39,0,6,10,6,0,5,11,17,0,3,14,9,87,10,90,83,14,79,0,0,1,1,49,43,1,12,32,390,123,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507649677688009,0.0,0.04936956696987745,0.0447847530176349,0.0,0.15177161915901205,0.0,0.0,0.12120740627203935,0.04203839660930005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446260202560908,0.0,0.09493426663717114,0.0,0.04218380522786785,0.0,0.0,0.04299054728288747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05190006694635487,0.21378253884442205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417203961619363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278479391636992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340320534094913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841525563379265,0.08949508915290201,0.0,0.056345445706866164,0.03336934053455053,0.04570009076778433,0.08513401988568316,0.04827598818186795,0.2270298246692624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046176242559453975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847698179100604,0.0,0.057425695745214674,0.0,0.040407102287977295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044676485972351056,0.0,0.045257837319206407,0.0997601384772033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159160458386078,0.053379324467946215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055531199811511014,0.0,0.0,0.053495560942210765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404757163260425,0.0,0.04461189976005212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590408815727582,0.04559812672921285,0.047805189571797586,0.16861931855656254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492292654796434,0.0,0.0,0.05373077815661879,0.0,0.0,0.096954547824531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270515501889976,0.15369719633486648,0.0,0.0,0.3926913387419992,0.0,0.048229017741881326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695602540836797,0.09677232531467908,0.0,0.0,0.09668556607216712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03236572182532019,0.051945086496766685,0.04988443382578522,0.05424177921791519,0.0,0.04314555852381647,0.04805804329546015,0.12053149671554332,0.0,0.3579171150218459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537709677192008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04996760377924815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574568554390327,0.05281662091252845,0.115671330290487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597259492389521,0.040607713692637167,0.0,0.046513919962375666,0.0,0.0,0.20138764865196854,0.0323724925539334,0.0,0.0,0.14729908143050036,0.0,0.0478890003090036,0.0,0.0,0.17150579336753427,0.05495348755930838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726966770074268,0.0,0.08337197217548813,0.0595984334903427,0.0,0.08105148940688894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117659202723202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03678065741517346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506909337793622
parenting,Tidachura3,2020/02/21,"Looking for a recommendation for Windows paint/drawing app that exports 300 dpi resolution Hi, is there any free drawing/paint application that kids (5 years old) can use on Windows that possibly export 300 dpi resolution? I tried to paint app, paint 3D, PowerPoint, and other apps but some apps can't export 300 dpi resolution.

Thank you!",6.263728813559317,8.898567576271189,6.612000000000003,68.6749491525424,68.15254237288136,9.465762711864409,33.83389830508475,9.888512548439397,3.8682989830508463,273,13,43,7,5,88,42,59,0.0,0.9009999999999999,0.099,0.69,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,6,1,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774183075841677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425731786025106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280723055917793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598995416282611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37558327352820026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27696959256125303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3523356825362812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627048324046394
parenting,cheystephie,2020/02/21,"What's the best advice you were given when it came to parenting? My Fiance and I are having a baby and we are always looking for advice and are wanting to make a list of things. So here's the question: 

What's the best advice you were given when it came to parenting?",3.5142727272727257,4.604640381818179,5.005227272727275,83.66784090909091,72.45454545454545,6.954545454545455,22.84090909090909,7.1686216300943375,0.8690909090909087,211,5,41,2,4,71,33,55,0.0,0.843,0.157,0.8677,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,13,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,5,2,5,7,2,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,2,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5636486434993804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15998307377078558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035485623810019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4398086544429422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145739797866265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834094092849513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269835774796104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153850989533622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773487117126509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340514090396354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExtraSpicyKimchi,2020/02/21,"Slowing down time. Tonight before bed, my 7 year old son and I read The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein. I cried so hard. I wish that time would slow down so I can be his mommy longer. It feels like all the time in the world would never be enough.",0.4594117647058837,2.7389579803921578,1.1446078431372584,101.99573529411768,86.84313725490196,4.184313725490196,14.382352941176471,5.46131890053228,-1.1967411764705882,191,3,45,1,6,58,40,51,0.084,0.769,0.14800000000000002,0.5287,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,2,7,8,3,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,4,4,2,13,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,10,26,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217986138774006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813963142427754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646973544098992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295298258956835,0.18301153999140016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24574649531004386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294825683785362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515421215404512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757802696945054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688126702897381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25624442093110505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.448133276295003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945887181321287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639588767947313,0.0,0.0,0.164968362994388
parenting,harleylovequinn,2020/02/21,"Do I have to consult my child’s pediatrician before starting baby on purées? first time posting!
my little one turned 6 months yesterday and I’ve already started giving him small tastes of food as a little celebration. he is completely healthy, no medical issues/concerns, etc. so I figured it would be okay to just start little by little. my knowledge is from research I’ve done on my own and a few things the doctor has told me before, but we don’t have my child’s 6mo check up until next week. I was wondering if maybe I shouldn’t give him anymore real food until speaking directly to the doctor? I’m a FTM so I tend to overthink everything.",4.262880000000003,6.104238528000003,5.333000000000002,79.09150000000002,71.72,7.56,29.3,8.238735603445708,2.2518,516,21,91,8,10,170,90,125,0.016,0.932,0.052000000000000005,0.4695,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,1,12,6,0,0,0,12,22,9,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,2,3,3,0,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,2,14,1,13,16,3,20,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,2,11,59,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748219478074912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325413789981049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744659224757444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012577327897702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735856350609653,0.0,0.13676673227440375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905113361744424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011282298828138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136796127925187,0.32321166607966545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564117297981112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5357954627404653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342658349615508,0.0,0.0,0.13463475072281067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106675331365316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421345291340117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056230183809932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799636785188592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211893334399146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28378696225433697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878877121761078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793032708355667,0.0,0.0,0.1277049222832382,0.0,0.0,0.14536897373320287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720313084689047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493388768560894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493861250856722,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YoukonKat,2020/02/21,"Can I just rant for a minute? Thank goodness for my boys! I just have to preface what inevitably will sound like bitching by the fact that I LOVE my life with children. I love my boys, I would die for them, and I even want another! 
BUT. 
I had to leave my job after my youngest was born. I miss working. He is 9 months old and in an EXTREMELY clingy phase. It's like the separation anxiety has tripled, and I'm home with him all day! To make ends meet i have been babysitting for grocery money. I am also a full time student. I have my AA but i need my BA to go where i want with my career. So we planned this pregnancy and period years ahead of time. We still arent mankind ends meet. I am looking to refurbish a camper we bought as a rental to supplement income. If I go back to work (they would take me back full time in a heartbeat) I would be faced with childcare expenses plus lack of insurance for the kids. It's a no-win situation. 
I love my life. My oldest is 12, my middle baby 8, and my youngest an infant. I have been struggling to lose the baby weight but we know we want one more, so I am trying to just lose enough fo afford one babies more worth!
We spaced the kids out but I just want to pull it off like a bandaid and be done with pregnancy and the woes of infant care sooner. 
All day long my child screams if he is not physically in my arms. I have tried wraps and carriers. My left shoulder is legit swollen and wounded from being my new main arm since baby is in the right. I love him, but I had to finally set him in the bassinet to cry while I got work done. I thought he would tire out. He didnt. He will barely eat or sleep. I am barely eating or sleeping. All day I am slapped, kicked, hair pulled and bit. This isnt my first rodeo, but I'm TIRED. this is a lot harder in my 30s than it was in my 20s. 
My middle baby is ADHD AF and we have a doctor appointment next week to get his documentation for a 504 plan. My oldest is a gifted and straight A student who always pulls more than his own weight around here. 
I guess I just wanted to vent. I am only human, and I am putting in my all and constantly feel like I am failing. Can anyone else relate?",1.2945941783459105,3.183780523178811,2.741121207454181,94.17388110272604,80.41280353200885,5.803357461882027,21.130910210996454,6.8252276405021135,0.2649093793315882,1679,48,383,18,43,546,230,453,0.095,0.802,0.10300000000000001,0.456,6,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,7,0,2,10,15,19,1,1,22,0,45,23,7,1,5,68,72,30,1,13,16,0,4,4,0,6,8,2,1,9,10,30,4,0,3,0,4,7,4,8,1,3,12,7,69,11,48,51,16,57,0,5,1,4,35,21,1,6,32,252,79,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613540618443867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062410176620554,0.07348372739434328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260417905177627,0.0675594209741485,0.0,0.0,0.061750701959487314,0.09048739642602774,0.0,0.07861754677346396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581492916560045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641523381339408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004127939391103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954352867541362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700799623091763,0.17086428772124584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165524651714532,0.0,0.0,0.09039238891460513,0.0,0.18075030367106384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073307510739944,0.07377441714746061,0.0,0.1564387147198999,0.0912512305927924,0.0,0.05833009155795079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04465385019733779,0.06309102814468008,0.0,0.0967428865303218,0.0,0.07511923474281271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04614004619291847,0.0,0.10038094960639636,0.07407299310430854,0.0706322012449967,0.0,0.09728703948474553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858542505167002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763730797520622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048534671609325016,0.0,0.0,0.09351101693101292,0.09595264208959604,0.0,0.12475656925583868,0.17258163986395975,0.0,0.0,0.07815447778998523,0.07416091677212545,0.19759995154740054,0.0,0.07508079643090358,0.3188247492313655,0.0,0.0589498032162777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049082118817585,0.0,0.0,0.06548318149721036,0.0,0.08529352055537696,0.09392218003560647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266993626573176,0.0,0.11968673438467847,0.06716623246667539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877924328859722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541906248963387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730536616029718,0.09926783204146933,0.1767541267416062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052710313880657,0.0,0.0,0.09232421990538027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640059927491769,0.0,0.0,0.08130700717071013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011088326123814,0.1544885592931697,0.2030062584150496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199178463774458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604473167968882,0.0,0.07083958990914159,0.21508357774471848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287936892555568,0.0,0.0,0.2509408941145632,0.0,0.0,0.05687085980015146
parenting,TheAwkwrdTrtle,2020/02/21,"What would you do? Dayhome losing their license. This has been the most stressful two weeks of my life. Essentially I need outside perspective to make sure my emotions aren’t clouding my judgement.

Six months ago my maternity leave finished and my daughter started at a dayhome. I thought we hit the goldmine, folks. The two caretakers truly love our girl, the house itself it gorgeous, the owner has put her heart and soul into this home and the price is pretty reasonable, it’s five minutes from our house. The list goes on and on as to why I LOVE this dayhome. I have had ZERO complaints whatsoever.

Two weeks ago I pick my daughter up after work and the owner tells me she has bad news. One of the parents has made a complaint to the licensing board and she has to close the facility while they investigate. I’m super surprised and try to pry a bit to see what’s going on. She says it’s because of money. A parent wanted to take a two month vacation, not pay her fees but still have a spot held when they get back. Ridiculous right? So owner gives two options: pay the fees and the spot is held, or be refunded the amount already paid and they are welcome to return if there is still space available. The parent accepts the refund and decides to take their chances. Everything seems fine and dandy. Until two weeks ago when the complaint comes in.

For the last two weeks we’ve been waiting on the inspection report to see what’s going to happen. I get an email today from the licensing inspector with details of the report. THE DAYHOME LICENSE IS GOING TO BE SUSPENDED. What. The. Actual. Fuck. The parent complained of bruising on the 3 year old and apparently the owner admitted that the toddler was being disruptive during nap time and she had to physically remove him from the nap room. I guess because there were bruises that is a breach of the discipline code and because she didn’t report the “incident” to the board her license is going to be suspended?

In my mind this seems a bit excessive...if a kid is being disruptive and won’t leave the room you should be able to physically remove them right? I know I’ve definitely been in situations where I have to wrestle my babe into a car seat, changing diapers, etc. She bruises like an effing peach. Not once has she come home from this dayhome with an injury and I’m pretty paranoid about checking her for damages lol. 

Luckily I have a gem of a friend who is watching our toddler but she’s currently waiting on a job contract so it could end at any time. 

So now what do we do? There’s a meeting next week for the parents held by the licensing board to answer any questions. So if she’s able to operate unlicensed do we continue to see her? Am I a shitty mom to send my kid to this lady who left a few bruises on a kid? I cannot stress enough how much I truly trust the dayhome owner. She is the sweetest lady and in my heart I feel like the whole thing has been blown out of proportion.

Help please...what would you do?",4.036461657801418,5.927052692708338,4.779505023640663,82.62397606382982,72.4201388888889,7.471572104018913,28.74837470449173,8.197803283752503,2.069644917257683,2365,95,438,37,47,761,271,576,0.092,0.784,0.12300000000000001,0.9518,9,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,6,3,6,3,16,21,2,2,57,1,49,6,2,5,1,68,88,32,0,8,7,8,1,2,1,4,1,1,4,5,21,28,0,6,11,2,10,11,6,8,0,11,15,6,56,13,61,61,9,68,1,2,4,3,65,25,1,9,34,301,77,7,0.13413394481394048,0.0,0.06544769054212435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17835247334766174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401007177700827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121568212243826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05157036198381383,0.05599812057051122,0.1226502116584707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464395273496971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07094796404338646,0.11554451642605106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053547520177752564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754413169901432,0.05940143102052441,0.06929811062818983,0.07479740258728111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027547029603976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033911076386011464,0.04791265848815426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051815776514806976,0.06200233528744836,0.07007944999087397,0.06433675114150844,0.15246282391146726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388183130360408,0.0,0.05930710220740604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894937043428364,0.044953577893287966,0.0,0.13454728326174986,0.0,0.0,0.15477256314712495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655362151030841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03685825408201703,0.05466853382124677,0.0,0.14202848014526842,0.07286846175548599,0.0,0.047371386017052784,0.06553107006883334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503078705624762,0.0,0.0,0.12106112213343215,0.06346039090302746,0.044767724865228266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677185234863189,0.07854802750893493,0.10706443503800804,0.0,0.049301941543872144,0.04972931023724675,0.0,0.0,0.071326486013026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037550566202684,0.07142413678423051,0.045446316209851394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723496800843155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646244389939471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742083129108102,0.07513035809349622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689560176228464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145496559756822,0.0,0.05333434832918797,0.0,0.0,0.16033108145449834,0.12211050563996133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538608698142486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047470348261466094,0.0,0.10711954159629293,0.0,0.15364998059307552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320982778855326,0.0,0.10085203332468366,0.0,0.058619489980160436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04455631637823637,0.0,0.0,0.053243684637620005,0.07821458189761914,0.0,0.06357164790655792,0.0,0.0,0.04553407187264218,0.0,0.4586028078056031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03955783797096878,0.0,0.26898539923729203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605175109970433,0.07487787959271919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048825554676060576,0.0,0.0,0.09528490590493699,0.0,0.0,0.04318893135302503
parenting,RLMom,2020/02/21,Leaving my child to go on vacation So i have planned a trip to Las Vegas with my mom (not as exciting as it sounds- actually going to a course) for a week. I had a 19 month old. I am anxious about a trip like this away from my kiddo. Can anyone give me insight on their own personal experience away from their kid. Did you miss them too much or feel regret or shame? Or have you had the experience of just enjoying yourself? I want to build life experiences with my mom ( she won't be around forever) but I'm anxious I'm going to miss my kid too much or that I'm a self centered mom or that it will be really hard on my little one. My internal conflict is really getting me. Any insight would be appreciated,2.6071149425287388,4.215679406896555,4.910086206896555,81.38145114942532,75.6206896551724,8.419540229885056,27.25574712643678,9.075114841892004,2.2545747126436777,554,22,115,13,12,194,91,145,0.113,0.807,0.08,-0.4309,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,3,1,6,7,0,1,7,0,14,1,0,0,0,18,26,9,0,3,8,3,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,5,5,3,0,1,3,0,0,5,2,4,0,1,3,3,19,3,20,17,3,16,0,3,0,0,15,8,0,5,4,80,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.13848171388895678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650228976173983,0.0,0.0,0.32063124026235823,0.0,0.09922535618964484,0.0,0.0,0.12632818468154286,0.0,0.0,0.26665442913905435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164396909532857,0.0,0.0,0.07175293641158588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741410603089606,0.1361310611623332,0.2419487187178244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712167273113914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502600564560886,0.0,0.0,0.10023380001032348,0.06932906891701911,0.14222907229371254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4986027183816271,0.11326959238594835,0.0,0.2086373806774501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890854908939502,0.0,0.0961605169953094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390857080466347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818197660911821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480409677173012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370100082348299,0.0,0.113830018412981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008073544548586,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wehaveacaller,2020/02/21,"Justice For Noah Hello, my name is Lamar Murray and my son Noah absolutely loves to go on youtube and watch livestreams on our TV, I'm watching them with him all the time and he is nothing but respectful and uplifting to every person's stream. But this guy named Michigan Saying Hello Show (supermanyonn123 aka Yonn Cogswell) took it way too far. We were in there, a normal experience, and he was quite funny if we're being honest. My son was in there talking to other viewers (which I'm totally OK with) and everyone started to gang up on him and even Yonn (the streamer) started to harass him. Now, we didn't leave because I wanted to defend my son against this slander, I took over and took things very seriously. The guy continued to bully my son and we left. Story isn't done, a troll in the stream saw me say #JusticeForNoah and this guy made a whole 16 minute video on this. All in all, the moral of the story is do NOT go on people's stream who look suspicious. Reddit, I ask for your help, I ask you to go to this guys channel and comment Justice For Noah on his videos, I will link his channel below, this is for justice for my son and I want to show him there are good people in this world. He gets so excited when people comment Justice For Noah, this whole experience ruined my son and like I said, I want to show him normal people don't act like this. Thank you all, I beg you to comment Justice For Noah, God bless.

[https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH6XUqvk6ZR0JZ8LKpT2Gww](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCH6XUqvk6ZR0JZ8LKpT2Gww) (THE BULLY'S CHANNEL)",6.640718201754385,7.828692468750003,5.931995614035088,79.53098684210528,65.28472222222223,8.007602339181288,28.699561403508767,8.032893268588372,1.7789833333333336,1253,39,227,14,19,381,147,288,0.066,0.728,0.207,0.9931,0,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,4,4,1,1,8,13,1,0,10,1,15,1,0,1,5,36,37,18,0,6,4,6,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,5,14,18,0,0,1,9,0,7,4,3,0,0,11,8,33,10,37,24,7,31,2,1,5,1,46,17,0,1,8,141,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21024476257396474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854639679708603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507190089047617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426991134580825,0.0,0.0947411007849444,0.10744753432229956,0.0,0.2199886811693532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058748701548582666,0.0,0.1917179631203296,0.09431486363277933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4453592066728633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537057815201617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906470145727115,0.12217354766725015,0.0,0.0,0.10987144671182476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944268141344766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148743653495708,0.10639968109920538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22034756456409896,0.10789553458578464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118252251123171,0.09818402401017197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960078843642362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696245589004763,0.17884408126420204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918054852218866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038030861848884,0.0,0.10352571122509277,0.0,0.0,0.07470451704030531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655685101588095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747968925701373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278021206004182,0.1989717342672872,0.08925486817440596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510852012312437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamabear021916,2020/02/21,"4 yr old daughter My daughter is starting to get a unibrow an idk what to do. Part of me says shave it while she naps. But other part of me feels wrong if i did.

What should I do?",-1.4160000000000004,0.4922794000000046,0.8049999999999997,103.54000000000002,92.5,3.2,18.0,3.1291,-1.1016500000000002,136,4,35,0,5,45,32,40,0.11699999999999999,0.883,0.0,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,8,3,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,4,6,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192704833010308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776492265886632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35679943701821965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7364287008292125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27040182913891164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406717134806889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717643740489773,0.0,0.0
parenting,nykell05,2020/02/21,"I’m (33F) uncomfortable with my son (14M) being around his dad. Okay, long story short. So my son is 14 going on 15 next month. I had him at 19. Yes, I was very young and wish I had better judgment at that age. His father was abusive so I left him when my son was only 5 months old. He has been absent most of his life and rarely sees his son. Maybe on holidays sometime. He does not help me at all with him and never has. Now that my son is a teenager he has been really testing my authority and I’m trying my best to discipline him and other times show him love. His father isn’t a great role model at all. He lives in a terrible neighborhood, he doesn’t work (does something illegal I believe), has gang member friends, and in the past year has only seen my son twice. I really don’t want my son around his dad at all. He is a bad influence and I just don’t see any good that can come out of my son being around him. Whenever my son wants to see him and finally gets his dad to agree to pick him up, I want to say no so bad and explain it to my son. But I don’t think he’ll understand and I’ll seem like the bad parent. I’m already the one who does all the discipline. I struggled with this for a long time. But I just don’t know what to do. 

Any advice? Thank you",0.8341758241758264,2.467668065934067,2.9325362637362637,93.48746373626379,80.7948717948718,6.419282051282053,19.344908424908425,7.404127859558343,0.25694121611721643,974,23,232,14,25,330,139,273,0.105,0.745,0.15,0.8728,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,0,3,10,14,0,1,9,2,25,2,0,2,5,42,47,16,0,4,5,16,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,8,18,0,2,5,2,0,2,9,5,0,2,8,5,39,9,27,36,6,34,0,0,4,1,46,16,0,2,17,138,47,3,0.0,0.1374064418663508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332532979279718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797666863026558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772825028516413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097158147342844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290492337654898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065938562145188,0.121704206459125,0.10256675397000396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989858093405267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044605025135396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704034977425885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959875732636947,0.0,0.06058995981179066,0.0,0.06590888181050858,0.09727081018869736,0.0,0.12785822344001938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773278695267201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06373452228443582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600262045112665,0.0,0.08191361020601114,0.05665747808253786,0.0,0.1024043467117262,0.20526102850471234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046681805549293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650826253830067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18513358244306272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944383524890341,0.0,0.12333626823864285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169185289987106,0.0,0.0785848197469418,0.1764020481838984,0.0,0.0,0.12877185625845938,0.0,0.11070725705405017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485877363305319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222463995577494,0.0,0.0,0.2772411536669893,0.10557546656382402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927999256751952,0.11469809286952252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212378667835071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677033733976624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430941002840401,0.0,0.0,0.13524701961815874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873656500414468,0.0,0.0,0.12072969936527272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568806070375137,0.20520775889774656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336070399604638,0.0,0.0,0.08442812824575949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468139705248099
parenting,cloudiedayz,2020/02/21,"Does anyone have a child with high functioning ASD? What were the signs you noticed either at the time or with hindsight with your toddler (14-20months)?

My 16m toddler is saying lots of words, points, waves, demonstrates very simple pretend play (feeding a doll), is interested in adults and older kids, and can point to lots of body parts and things in books...

BUT I’m concerned he only responds to his name 60-70% of the time, he doesn’t have as good eye contact as other toddlers his age, he often closes his eyes and blinks really tightly when someone talks to him he doesn’t want (eg a stranger) or if someone says something he doesn’t like (no) and he often goes rigid and makes a loud grunting/yelling noise.

His eye contact is slightly better at home than out in public (at the park, library, supermarket, etc). If I take him to the beach or pool he will barely look at me.

I have an appointment in a few weeks with his doctor but in the meantime I was interested in hearing experiences from others.",8.689947916666668,7.097301848958337,7.910208333333332,76.34729166666669,61.76041666666666,9.991666666666667,36.95833333333333,8.167268648758528,2.903339583333333,793,30,148,7,9,247,126,192,0.013999999999999999,0.9079999999999999,0.077,0.8643,0,0,1,0,1,0,33.0,0,2,0,1,3,7,0,1,12,0,13,6,4,1,0,31,19,16,0,3,8,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,1,3,4,12,1,2,0,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,9,14,6,26,16,6,21,0,0,4,0,28,15,0,9,7,92,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245053019620435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488264004719962,0.0,0.1945228999846353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924647974943927,0.15325188911663948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953091652464622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130453649539695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688541167990432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19737708483806446,0.0,0.0,0.18502775463863624,0.17566330294268898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555657115176105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705976273016508,0.0,0.0,0.29776773506312904,0.0,0.0,0.11689639841715327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993794399630214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318942968813174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964185081918347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310969146201119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218869658408227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27853071606283425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296763406240885,0.1348187440571222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131671192853706,0.14075775893471784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163443736984844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423202106115185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449535438284414,0.10329246799779228,0.0,0.1404736313596409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Drawson_crawson,2020/02/21,"7yr old son still wears diapers... Yes you read it my son still is in diapers. We have gone through potty training before but it doesn’t work for him. He has a bladder problem and can’t hold his per the doctor said. His pediatrician told him to stay in diapers until he can hold his pee. He can’t hold it at all. So he uses diapers. I don’t know how long he’ll stay in them. 

He is homeschooled so we dont have to worry about other kids making fun of this issue but yesterday his friend came over that is also a boy. He lives next door and they went in his room to play. Apparently my son told him he wears diapers because I walked past his room and I found my son laying on his bed with his pants and diaper off while his friend was changing him and touching his privates. I immediately panicked and went and called his friends mother so she could come pick him up. She said she was sorry and that it would never happen again. I told my son to not do that again too because it was very inappropriate and he said ok. 

How do I handle this? I still think we they go over to each other’s houses they do this. I’m worried they do this secretly. I mean not at my house they don’t because i have them in sight now. But what do I do about this so it doesn’t happen again?",0.9289448051948064,3.0883202386363635,2.6583549783549785,92.7968181818182,83.35606060606061,5.58961038961039,18.8982683982684,6.868970318607317,0.07183593073593064,989,25,221,12,28,326,133,264,0.044000000000000004,0.851,0.105,0.956,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,1,7,1,17,7,0,0,3,2,26,5,4,5,2,39,48,21,0,3,5,6,1,0,3,2,1,3,4,2,17,16,0,3,5,2,0,7,10,1,0,0,14,5,45,6,24,31,2,38,0,0,1,0,58,14,0,0,15,148,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917902024481302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990801822839528,0.0,0.09767004739616628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720407878464788,0.13127871181869044,0.0,0.0,0.12142291748469365,0.09887353691523604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091643167097468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748306131678128,0.0,0.0,0.1345222986782796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585127507186686,0.2660381946541235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523260088184002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030006491287732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26488337498191683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980138401352294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308055212541103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135359141454166,0.1015774382847216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661710713733709,0.0,0.0,0.12502999231966147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852606577225358,0.0,0.12207073370472753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044319145956425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957130686715257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982976977072192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481190904202865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32754861217849623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848776177000326,0.0,0.2446822231718889,0.2749923997598631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354693256797151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290340564491959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913379939654872,0.0,0.0947062201873051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21280599154294627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835618241694751,0.2331310448980789,0.0,0.08153702099299676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,princesalicia,2020/02/21,How do you sell feet pics on Craigslist? I’ve been searching for hours to know what to post what section and I can’t figure it out please if anyone has advice I’d appreciate it,2.8128828828828847,4.366142000000004,3.5713513513513497,91.4247747747748,74.94594594594594,6.014414414414415,23.144144144144143,6.42735559955562,0.37253873873873866,142,4,31,1,3,45,32,37,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,6,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,5,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4442752869150677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178993959837331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4477352098469267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24986182017810646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990653168572724,0.0,0.0,0.4354256603146791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dont_talktostrangers,2020/02/21,"Mentally Ill daughter wants to move out of state and I don't know what to do. (throwaway because I am not convinced some of my family don't know the account I use the most for Reddit)  Sorry if this is a bit all over the place and emotional, I'm just trying to process all of my thoughts.  

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My daughter is 19 and has been diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and Schizo-effective Disorder.  She has survived several suicide attempts and been hospitalized more times than I can count on just my two hands.  She has been unable to keep a job and requires me or another family member to keep track of her appointments and take her to them (otherwise she doesn't go and goes off her meds).  She is in the process of working to get disability.  I don't know if it's worth mentioning but her last hospitalization was only a couple of weeks ago after an episode of rage from her that required me to call the cops. 

She has been wanting to try to get into a home where those with mental illness can live together and remain independent but while getting the therapy and extra med supervision she needs.  Since she has turned 18 helping her has become very difficult because of HIPPA laws and such and she has kind of used keeping me in the dark as a way she can avoid going to therapy and taking meds (because she often believes they aren't helping her and that she doesn't actually need them).  So my hands are usually pretty tied, but believe me I am always the first person there to help fight for her and support her.  Always.  

Today on the way home from meeting with her case manager, she initiated a conversation about me moving out of the house when I was younger and she told me that she had been thinking about moving out and that she had been tempted to just leave and not tell anyone (part of BPD is being extremely impulsive and that is an understatement most of the time with her).  I should add in that yesterday she sold her car, she claimed it was about to break and was pretty convincing since she never has liked to drive anyway and usually gets ride most places.  It was a massive savings on insurance and since she has been unable to keep down a job, I didn't really see it as too much of a big deal.  

Anyway, she then told me that she is going to move in the next month.  Ok great.  I get wanting to move, she is 19 and I think it would be great for her to be out on her own (although sometimes I struggle with that, because at her worst she is completely not capable of caring for herself and this has resulted in run-ins with cops and jail and I could get into how awful the mentally ill are treated and not treated- but I digress).   However she then drops the bombshell on me that she is going to use the little bit she got for her car and move to the other side of the country.  

There will be no family near and it's a 17 hour drive from where we live now.  If (and I hate to say if, because it's only a matter of WHEN) she goes into crisis or finds herself in an emergency situation I won't be close.  I won't be able to help.  I am terrified for her life.  

Help.  I realize that for any mentally stable child moving to another state is totally ok- but I am scared to death with her mental health issues.  She won't make plans to get insurance down there, and she magically thinks that moving will suddenly make her able to keep a job (this is all typical thinking of hers when she is in a manic state).  I can't really stop her from moving and she insisted that I not tell anyone else in our family (who are all very close to her and help her and support her all the time) because she knows they will try to convince her not to go.  

What can I do?  I want to be supportive of my daughter but I also want to protect her.  Her history over the past 7 years shows that she is unable to care for herself and lots of times unable to keep herself safe.",6.229841933139533,5.924211513020836,6.786258478682171,78.21990915697678,66.03125,10.217102713178297,32.0531734496124,9.820803871038708,2.8583531007751937,3054,109,606,59,43,1003,313,768,0.10400000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.105,-0.4473,4,1,0,0,1,1,65.0,2,0,4,7,23,26,3,3,35,3,74,8,2,8,7,130,128,59,2,14,21,3,2,1,0,8,6,1,2,3,28,53,0,12,11,1,3,19,19,8,0,2,20,4,109,18,106,92,19,90,0,0,1,0,94,36,0,12,29,450,137,8,0.0964161354405407,0.0,0.0470441199976118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042733543325657375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03855197433880505,0.08022594842210266,0.05223342123379497,0.05857807891608799,0.03278313917486563,0.1011007246871212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674164036868361,0.049394862345290384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632314378701672,0.05324202328151511,0.0,0.10862796780123522,0.0,0.0,0.1052614483409256,0.0,0.12143274738053304,0.0,0.0492258271274907,0.0,0.09830267588021284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050545241807832916,0.0,0.0,0.038490219348463584,0.05334131000037663,0.0,0.0,0.04970040101044862,0.0,0.04893017396422095,0.0,0.0,0.11050124431709846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040271654656146856,0.05422758755678117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817851033540633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044061300533542604,0.04100575777575915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630707968455767,0.0,0.13698877920393107,0.0,0.03855639564669719,0.10629912970205524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047595486326679794,0.0,0.05124292167577009,0.0,0.0,0.1938771096626553,0.0,0.0967132451380304,0.0,0.0474752359287201,0.05562563761012247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050316697850760095,0.14351720575646887,0.25709727370013685,0.0,0.0502012840733309,0.10597557307669007,0.03929600943710785,0.0,0.05104538302029104,0.0,0.0,0.03405078391276548,0.02355202680456597,0.04831714856951951,0.08513721401948464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04098477523895815,0.0,0.0,0.06435851909012248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064488651889136,0.0,0.2429119680174789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03847921972252588,0.4611379203313079,0.035438476665763184,0.07149134274474478,0.03718103375897728,0.0,0.05126982692911169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332881567999038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052204639499148234,0.046020055495561735,0.0,0.08418685052297023,0.10073434040700724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808987196940926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176664523945774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03833699038131567,0.048264685753400996,0.0,0.03841558845348713,0.0,0.0,0.05446139464298015,0.0,0.11963463535990115,0.05418788795644245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767901165244715,0.05396498496020657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040304103228525484,0.0,0.05039753947491014,0.0,0.05273180159996713,0.1641178318725418,0.0,0.0,0.07249293471518059,0.0,0.08427195208822592,0.0,0.11026025362578176,0.0,0.0,0.12355913295476215,0.0,0.038271820876475696,0.11244204786680308,0.0,0.045695611377412015,0.09212974923614868,0.0,0.09819034056416663,0.05243653438452514,0.04709227725649381,0.0,0.0,0.1249088766070756,0.10618875161874168,0.07955340925300641,0.14217183684690607,0.07653064051100268,0.03866960405938243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03509604745567228,0.0,0.0,0.03424562815144605,0.0,0.05857807891608799,0.03104441504826824
parenting,maraihssmorgan,2020/02/21,My 8 year old just got her period My 8 yr old daughter just got her period today and she isn’t even in puberty yet. She’s a stick very small child and hasn’t developed breasts yet. Honestly it is really kinda weird for her to get it this early. She knows what all that stuff is but should I be worried? Because I got mine at 13 and she’s wayy too young.,-0.041067251461988974,2.1259487236842105,2.2980701754385957,93.62704678362572,88.07894736842104,6.5356725146198835,17.654970760233926,7.793537801064563,0.5054637426900586,277,7,64,6,9,94,55,76,0.059000000000000004,0.912,0.028999999999999998,-0.28300000000000003,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,0,1,10,11,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,12,1,4,6,1,13,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,1,10,40,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103312906396762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364415388698808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944517345811532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5944725870229209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616325737805582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5199680955720943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872238043068912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28362767545211315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348489604685609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442920995728087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516138603714336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955030215536767
parenting,6RFV,2020/02/21,"Do any of you have a young kid where the more nice things you do for them the shittier their attitude is? I just don't get it. My daughter is 6 now but for years this is how she's acted. Tonight I made a dinner she asked for and built her a pillow for that she asked me to but when it came time to get ready to bed it's another G*ddamn knock down drag out fight to get her to put on pajamas and brush her teeth. 

It's like she thinks if you do things for her she has the right to walk all over you. What the hell. Do any of you have experience with this?",1.2322131147540958,2.4498786147540983,2.5155409836065594,98.75691803278688,78.42622950819671,6.519344262295082,18.757377049180327,7.1686216300943375,-0.1936026229508192,429,8,112,5,10,138,75,122,0.114,0.82,0.067,-0.7914,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,5,2,0,5,4,2,0,7,0,11,2,1,2,1,13,19,7,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,5,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,2,1,20,2,18,17,2,16,1,0,0,0,21,6,1,1,7,78,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33014165818267005,0.2545329835074633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4538563546401496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27762872472826705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374452986967787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804632923776384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859000355865053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296854904129712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24401971810739945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072977611311604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32252998233083674,0.15553733589892466,0.0,0.0,0.14154305027880876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631594348969666
parenting,stephyduh,2020/02/21,"Is there anyone out there who has a narcissistic child? I need support! I feel like i could write a book right now, so i will try to keep this short. I am a step parent to two children. I have them full time with their narc mom getting them once or twice a month. For years she has treated one as the golden child and one as the scape goat. For some time now we have seen narc tendencies from her golden child. He lies constantly, acts entitled and has begun manipulating others to get what he wants. I love my son more than life. There isnt anything i wouldnt do for him. Ive been taking him to therapy and we have a wonderful psychologist who is trying to help. One day i wouldnt let him take his phone to school, so he was pissed. He goes to the nurse and tells her that i dont love him. That nurse called me and asked me if i tell my son that i love him. I was dumbfounded, i said, i love him more than anything. Thats when she said, maybe you should try telling him. I bit my tongue, thinking a day doesnt go by without me telling him how much i love him. How do i explain to this nurse my son has issues. Honestly, im just venting. This is the hardest thing ever. Im so curious to know if anyone else has had to deal with something like this? Any kind words are so appreciated. Thank you!",1.5293308550185856,3.3950636728624524,2.731307063197025,94.64519851301115,79.55762081784387,6.088386617100372,20.42542750929368,7.087006719466742,0.19633965799256486,1004,26,234,12,25,322,146,269,0.044000000000000004,0.763,0.193,0.9919,1,0,1,1,0,0,31.0,2,2,3,0,14,13,1,0,10,0,29,7,1,3,1,34,53,17,0,8,5,5,1,2,0,4,1,2,0,4,13,10,0,1,5,1,0,3,6,1,0,5,7,4,47,12,23,40,6,19,0,0,1,5,54,4,1,5,14,153,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983720685078515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361569538231705,0.10522479865561077,0.16902109627162165,0.0,0.09600745417595784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211808457370807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486470661538316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097853656949663,0.0,0.0819948753544515,0.0,0.0,0.13246161699878406,0.10587568101455001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035964558916455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857898281626729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928949505124936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05192648459118607,0.07336646865430059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073094654586374,0.0,0.058364842112718036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883536350256951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22185989286400784,0.10718856474080757,0.0,0.09128145308882436,0.0,0.10694270128628114,0.056439363376781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501422724876527,0.07253764280665283,0.10034473873488974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4634384368617748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317253397539546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027701196159225,0.08197144309106164,0.0,0.07549381443254574,0.07614822462049324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936852301435697,0.2087696136390243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403241646087653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770233180213326,0.19537596003227764,0.0,0.0,0.1039344377938056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906085685096692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653888005507088,0.0,0.0,0.1544301187851478,0.0,0.35904540552462283,0.09454922781232077,0.1174425075464927,0.0,0.0682270550636045,0.06580383196708277,0.0,0.0,0.1197664219053848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917274237075412,0.0,0.10031965182753927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057311305834795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899585374286056,0.11137007754587552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613324074070838
parenting,_DeathOfAStrawberry_,2020/02/21,"Gerber Photo Search 2020 Has anyone tried to submit their kid's photo/video? I filled everything out and hit submit and the button flashed ""Just a moment"" or something for a split second and then nothing. I wasn't redirected to any other page. Has anyone else encountered this issue, or is this just how it works? I don't want to keep submitting and wind up duplicating the entry and being disqualified.",5.422477477477479,7.623897283783787,5.803783783783783,75.41936936936938,69.4054054054054,8.176576576576577,24.495495495495497,8.841846274778883,2.0356468468468463,325,9,52,6,6,104,56,74,0.065,0.935,0.0,-0.5239,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,13,9,9,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,6,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,36,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21828779041293972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488947113908147,0.3288975867012573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681503581543241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884898500098307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33503566379448024,0.0,0.2853153440545692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080036180314333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24711784059498476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21793471706413986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893313264402313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23368837897012584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ruby_Dutch,2020/02/22,"SmartPhone for a Busy Mom For someone who spends maybe an hour at home during the day and the rest of it shuttling soccer teams, little actors, dancers and the occasional comedian...

Anyone know of any good phones, or even apps, for messaging and keeping in touch with the rest of the world, something with speakers I can hear and easy to use while on the go, at the movies, diner, etc?",10.39125,7.710765625,8.847777777777782,74.37500000000003,59.41666666666666,11.266666666666667,37.888888888888886,8.841846274778883,3.1566888888888887,303,10,57,3,3,92,56,72,0.0,0.9209999999999999,0.079,0.7003,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,9,0,1,1,0,1,0,10,6,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,6,1,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,13,6,3,10,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,3,36,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827004379492396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878558122949824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732657742802482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996308944292869,0.17744975171372965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268769608176164,0.2253422527546283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028033650916735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694914624856505,0.0,0.26457949464981906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388005220713331,0.0,0.0,0.1476504698784103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692714738824541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269908663184539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146555217702235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276377678785068,0.2068303390508723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23203906067011326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rainbowsandmountains,2020/02/22,"Hair wash nightmares SOLVED My three year old son DESPISES hair washes and screams bloody murder whenever it’s time. 

I bathed him at my mums the other day and she had a toy watering can... I said “oh my goodness he’s growing like a flower” while pouring the water on his head and for the first time ever NO TEARS!!!!! 

It’s worked since we’ve been home and just used our jug too! So there’s my new found little life tip fellow parents, I couldn’t not share this with you all, I hope it helps someone else!",1.8635294117647088,4.010847901960787,2.50172549019608,95.29376470588235,79.78431372549021,5.2564705882352944,20.003921568627447,6.2581,-0.05387372549019531,394,10,85,3,10,122,83,102,0.17300000000000001,0.69,0.13699999999999998,-0.7175,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,2,5,7,2,0,5,0,4,8,3,1,2,13,8,6,1,2,2,3,2,1,1,0,3,2,2,0,5,5,2,0,1,2,0,1,3,3,0,2,4,4,13,4,4,3,1,13,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,10,46,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025289037845027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946249779908772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074383858976128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19817275383265698,0.0,0.25545065404389106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541265400753727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23910479710782176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616164985525272,0.0,0.2336980360892927,0.2314018078444241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456073449623124,0.11382230846031435,0.2335072660216444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22501363213312855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444734232204619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586968294406846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22161742677189092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272354606627728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974032824724084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27170513948556424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122000257242695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696122874003742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003154568883953
parenting,i_fap_to_most_things,2020/02/22,"My daughter (16) was caught having sex with her boyfriend (18). I made them breakup and won’t let them see them see each other outside of school. I’m worried that I may cause her to have long term issues down the road. Title says it all.  They’ve been together since she was 15 and him 17.  Her mother is going to take her to the doctor to see about birth control as a precaution.  No one else in the family knows.  This young lady is my whole world, and we have always been close. 

I’ve been worried about the relationship after finding them talking about being “willing to die” for each other and how many kids they were planning to have.  Their relationship seems unhealthy for their age, and I’ve spoken to her several times (calmly) about my concerns.

The final straw for me was when they were caught at his house by his parents having sex, even though they have a “no closed door” rule when girlfriend/boyfriends are visiting.  

I am worried about alienating her.  Her physical safety is my number one concern, but I’m also worried about her mental safety as well.  What can I do to better handle this situation and prevent her from having issues later on in life?",6.102097402597401,6.878110313636366,5.878571428571429,80.90500000000003,66.31818181818181,8.103896103896103,28.89610389610389,7.957251820313856,1.8594285714285717,919,29,167,10,14,286,137,220,0.069,0.866,0.065,0.2382,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,9,3,13,3,0,0,7,0,27,4,0,4,1,23,39,14,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,1,7,12,0,2,3,0,0,4,3,0,1,2,11,4,32,3,29,23,5,24,0,0,3,2,32,9,0,2,11,124,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126142711272593,0.1053615822279293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198892562098356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007806225401258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201994779446325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141605815277033,0.0,0.0,0.12960536237221787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577837562439828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363417257082108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193701445203169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871075890628248,0.11573233923789568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719635220687384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461074703711507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26432579494841635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958941761662857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948195157545495,0.08943850561352486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205854316508564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981499815043885,0.0,0.1283771912770491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760753744044526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160783963490633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060132815378049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718942748636251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069674572571316,0.0,0.12815057725045445,0.3027095792284528,0.11527402998319017,0.0,0.1430494452925202,0.0,0.10474495030345113,0.14233104687379633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520573395718324,0.10177583614995632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440775660021294,0.0,0.07383566230879861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138504753231145,0.0,0.0,0.1413715370682098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5143725949183009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,killingcain,2020/02/22,"Birthday ideas that aren't toys? Title says it all. Ideas for a birthday gift that is not a toy for a seven year old girl? As my daughter's birthday approaches I find myself scratching my head at what to do for her. I feel like our family routine for celebration is pretty good. Dinner at Applebee's. Movies. Cake and presents at home. All our kids love it. For presents we usually try to keep it around $100. But this year I had a thought. What if that $100 didn't go to toys but to something else...what would it be? 

I know it's hard to pick a gift for a kid that isn't yours but I'm curious if any other parents take the experience as a gift route and if so what do they usually do? Ideas?",0.5530479452054813,2.7041484657534265,2.355051369863016,94.43065924657536,84.89041095890411,5.8417808219178085,21.45376712328768,7.1686216300943375,0.5327547945205477,540,18,124,8,16,178,86,146,0.011000000000000001,0.831,0.157,0.9605,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,8,0,11,3,1,1,2,23,19,11,0,4,7,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,1,3,14,4,1,1,7,3,0,2,4,0,0,1,3,4,13,3,17,14,2,13,0,0,0,1,13,4,0,3,8,76,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418115413608032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947104325158986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424330330577888,0.15828588588632828,0.0,0.08489781032507544,0.1199513617968016,0.0,0.0,0.1534621233439951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542427788727248,0.14083074339589935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504098953919876,0.0,0.17231896520335574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684223998684719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5686329048120426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924167410030464,0.0,0.0,0.09227619401840424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202989922487387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515408132085212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618804732752866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864386264509183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081974259369276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352479103643908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926146805267524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624366001589246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329781065980664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139964698604074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698472605513437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927489083916197,0.0,0.0,0.21625062327212574
parenting,AvengingHunter2,2020/02/22,"Vomiting, but completely fine? Hi all,

I'm one of the guardians to my 2 year old niece.

So, today I noticed that no matter what she eats or drinks she vomits back up. But is acting COMPLETELY fine after. She'll throw up for maybe 10-15 seconds at most, then literally the second I get done cleaning her up she's laughing and bouncing around, no fever and obvious signs of being sick. Just minutes ago she threw up some food I gave her (an egg and a couple saltine crackers) on the couch. I cleaned her up with a towel and a couple baby wipes, and put her on the floor so I could wipe the vomit off the couch before it stained. I heard thumping and turned around to see her jumping up and down, big ole smile on her face and giggling up a storm. I calmed her down so she wouldn't puke again but she's acting completely normal, like any other healthy day.

What could this be? Anyone have experience with this kinda thing? It's baffling me haha. When I'm vomiting I definitely don't have the energy or will to jump around and play right after. 😂

Thank you!",2.6671729323308284,4.705664133333336,3.5548120300751904,89.26229323308272,76.71428571428571,6.325814536340853,22.957393483709275,7.273561745256523,0.8069047619047622,828,25,169,10,19,264,134,210,0.054000000000000006,0.742,0.205,0.9876,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,0,12,1,12,11,1,0,2,31,21,19,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,3,6,1,4,0,9,14,4,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,0,3,4,2,25,9,27,10,3,38,0,0,1,0,18,20,0,5,12,114,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227183113339105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147264915326508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433596737029448,0.0,0.0,0.3985041886780604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473863104517973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697264196801542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4693534283866394,0.0,0.0,0.23827520012319675,0.3302114545024166,0.0,0.09623259430113272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270075632798125,0.0,0.14617581256912152,0.0,0.15268620136099886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459628186299285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043373941759627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795970250195015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289986904671747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499084916827673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620093829853198,0.0,0.16988449710227724,0.1565780977319425,0.0,0.10111327334877633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000425804059025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743046788648962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890659733237392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737892814085093,0.0,0.0,0.09913311733703456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144022988192326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623052029286286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609082948274973
parenting,--burn-after-reading,2020/02/22,"Disagreement over daughter's weight My daughter is finishing her senior year of high school. She's got good grades, and is a also taking dual enrollment college courses. Other than that, she leads a pretty sedentary lifestyle. She rarely goes out with friends, and she has told me directly that she doesn't want to look for a job until she graduates high school. She does make money here and there babysitting, walking dogs, etc. That's a whole other discussion, and not the focus of this post. My daughter is overweight. She's not morbidly obese, and I would say she's generally healthy. This is where the disagreement comes in. My wife, who is a very strong proponent of equal rights, body positivity, etc., is very worried about our daughter's weight. I told her that I'm not as concerned because our daughter is very intelligent, and, as far as I know, she is comfortable with her body. My wife disagrees, pointing out that she primarily only wears baggy clothes, and doesn't take a lot of pride in her appearance. While I acknowledge this, I also chalk it up to ""normal"" behavior of an 18 year old. She has no problem walking around the house in short shorts and half shirts. I do agree with my wife that our daughter doesn't have great eating habits. We offer healthy options, and I ask every week if she wants us to pick up anything specific from the store. The problem is, she has her own money and can buy her own food. I want to support my wife, but I also don't want to make my daughter feel like we're saying she's ""fat."" I feel stuck in the middle and don't know how to best address this.",5.760803278688524,6.684525891803278,5.5620901639344265,82.34706967213118,67.1311475409836,8.460655737704919,30.98770491803279,8.548686976883017,2.284832786885246,1267,48,240,18,20,393,162,305,0.073,0.818,0.109,0.9293,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,5,0,0,4,9,11,0,0,13,0,21,11,5,5,0,46,43,22,0,9,5,11,4,1,1,1,3,2,1,0,14,19,7,0,5,0,4,5,9,2,0,1,4,7,44,9,32,38,8,33,0,0,1,0,46,19,0,4,9,158,58,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554572277344717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762437040242901,0.09479021112140316,0.09954488417929896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649095182827557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174470474994054,0.0,0.0,0.2365516397807557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917235135595987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318179420752787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089561239771052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375077860082821,0.0,0.0,0.08971440514565712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767947007519324,0.07606968320867527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875663096205606,0.0,0.08226656230456073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931078293480409,0.08516217489302959,0.11739511594412652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500496737493567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228641889168738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566545594481933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703778500778025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0520209887924932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894167936585799,0.0,0.0,0.09052590467311103,0.0,0.0,0.14215310758901029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043282720824364,0.0,0.0,0.11173336212776168,0.0,0.0,0.08098321070855874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065848042302822,0.0,0.10197887532887973,0.10832893858180558,0.0,0.20377489652157985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093375651329423,0.0,0.1693551186497212,0.0,0.2155278808552308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083279800551495,0.0,0.0,0.16012015337984614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20349334230291186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808291866574004,0.0,0.0,0.2635726669404708,0.25121980685882184,0.0,0.08541222613559922,0.25932910119818403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888166425504693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813610610594644,0.0,0.07564068489905469,0.0,0.0,0.13713988869801907
parenting,ellie_luca0506,2020/02/22,"Parenting 101 - Co sleeping This is my first post of reddit. I wanted to use this as a way to voice my parenting hacks, views and just crazy adventures. I want to support and help others as well as seek help if I need it. I understand some of my views may not be what everyone agrees with but that's okay, every parent is different. What works for one, might not work for another. 
So my first post is co sleeping. Me and my boy have been co sleeping since birth, he is 9 months next week. Before he was born we thought he would sleep in his moses basket and then in his cot at 6 months, no problem. He was crying whenever we put him into his moses basket, he wouldn't sleep unless he was on me and I put it down to him being a newborn and needing to hear my heartbeat and feel my warmth. Then the months went on and he still wouldn't adjust to his moses basket, at 6 months we tried him in his cot and after 5 or 10 minutes of peace we then got him screaming. I refuse to let him cry it out, in my eyes its not the right thing to do. I spoke to the health visitor and she's happy as long as we're safely co sleeping, which we are. My baby is happy and so are we, that's all that matters to me.
Feel free to share your opinions below.",2.4119884169884145,3.5949956332046327,3.5840521235521234,92.43206274131279,75.2934362934363,6.56996138996139,21.83030888030888,6.961326702584282,0.3746801544401541,955,23,217,9,20,310,141,259,0.079,0.762,0.159,0.9623,4,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,1,0,4,5,11,0,0,5,1,21,8,7,1,1,50,35,25,0,9,8,3,2,0,0,5,1,4,0,2,14,20,0,2,5,0,1,3,6,2,1,3,8,9,37,10,36,19,2,35,0,0,3,0,36,13,0,6,16,144,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042604589073297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149552942214489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040366819314327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006210661490447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069264595267052,0.09151493674574808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685112821114616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292845080653512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659819196310302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039036793910554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180192119714183,0.10794281426246888,0.0,0.12838886877352412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793409343361338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475584205238712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159971945722628,0.0,0.0,0.3057794806241377,0.0,0.0,0.1420285144244557,0.0,0.0,0.10185537260839823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489807265127487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190328097644931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344758053524607,0.0,0.0,0.0916415571856126,0.0,0.19255606932512825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178937827833102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922418240459958,0.0,0.5750513062786606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648421668311728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868174595929493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362713853496353,0.0,0.0,0.07603284054703649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502338915334424,0.0,0.0,0.09970277753139407,0.0,0.08271687872414772,0.0,0.0,0.112978461475863,0.07601992606670394,0.07682309783361442,0.0,0.08611117574373041,0.08878226952553739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944735938438493,0.0,0.0,0.06803419134605268,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrmoose5,2020/02/22,"Should I allow my 5y/o to play Minecraft on Xbox 1? My 5y/o son had a chance to play Minecraft at a recent get together. A child took the controller from him, and when he shared afterward with me, we processed the event together. Now, together...that’s why I ask this Q...I want to be alongside my boy as he starts to navigate playing and the plethora of factors that go with it. I know about Creative mode...my Q is if my 5y/o is ready to play via Xbox 1. What should I look for in regards to preparedness and maturity? What would be some topics, questions or directions you’d go before he’d play as well as during those times we set for it? Kids and parents on Common Sense Media say older, parents I’ve read range when they allow their child to start Creative, and me...well, I want to think this through the best I can before a possible snowball effect happens. Thoughts? 

[MC on Common Sense Media](https://www.commonsensemedia.org/game-reviews/minecraft)",4.634615384615382,6.347247846153848,4.84593406593407,83.47406593406595,70.53846153846153,7.397802197802199,29.48351648351648,7.957251820313856,1.8944791208791207,756,30,145,10,14,237,111,182,0.0,0.789,0.21100000000000002,0.9845,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,2,1,2,3,5,8,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,4,0,25,25,12,0,6,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,4,8,9,0,1,5,8,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,3,18,8,24,15,2,21,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,4,12,80,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766806601143398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32343159001497873,0.0,0.19944234948509088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21315360114994605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929158811884868,0.0,0.216015906477938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680577220759316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444472904876084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959141375511346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4220488725403121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424916665453428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128958652504403,0.0,0.1900981891792141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764824791719945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113281133281034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26903214954167565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177428994529775,0.0,0.1508758988735467,0.11081779397066736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114894289492747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22418900577542056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087486078276826,0.0,0.17148764086130303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500376547316376,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katiekatgg,2020/02/22,Clothing. Hello. I worry my child needs more clothes or less for sleeping. I currently have my house at 73 degrees. She wears a long sleeve onesie no pants with a fleece sleep sack or long sleeve onesie and pants with her cotton sleep sack depending on which is clean. She sleeps fine but when she wakes up she doesn’t feel cold or hot to the touch but her little feet are cold. I put socks on her and she’ll feel hot. I’m just unsure because I sleep in a shirt and shorts with two blankets and I feel comfortable but If I take one of the blankets off I’m cold. So I feel like she has to be under dressed because she has less layers than I do. I guess my question is what do you all have your children sleep in? She is 15 months old.,1.8160056390977457,3.716909190789476,2.307443609022556,97.8571052631579,78.80263157894737,5.132330827067669,20.06766917293233,5.773587663045528,-0.30139624060150405,575,14,131,3,14,176,93,152,0.040999999999999995,0.8809999999999999,0.078,0.7444,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,13,10,10,1,1,24,22,13,0,2,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,10,25,3,16,20,4,17,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,7,7,81,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202007819535974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26877777902493843,0.0949384338986853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639607942575766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334011114522347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492456649611926,0.13319320461186324,0.0,0.23521137447738466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106073531604065,0.0,0.0,0.09853811042343476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944833167695664,0.0,0.09005140235527635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359367517678494,0.14887002225951254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7979308851725917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999186269502318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298166697738378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495879210431375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kids_playfight,2020/02/22,"My 2 boys boss their younger brother around and I am worried cause he never stands up for himself I have 4 kids 1 girl and 3 boys, they are 14, 11, 10 and 9.  The 9yo is starting to worry me with how nice he is, he idolizes his older siblings and I find it cute and all but I get worried.  Him and his brothers (the 11 and 10yo) play a lot together and I have almost never seen him fight with either.  They don't bully him but when he is playing with a toy or playing on the PS4 the second they tell him to get off or stop playing with it cause they want it he just listens to him.  I have told him he can stand up for himself and he doesn't need to be bossed around by them but he said he doesn't mind and likes seeing them happy.  

Is my youngest being bullied by his brothers?  He seems alright with them bossing him around but I feel like he's just scared to stand up for himself.  Should I step in?  Or let them figure this out?",1.5066049567034945,3.0462488274111688,2.6461630337414164,96.73080919677518,78.49238578680203,4.838339802926247,22.24813377127501,4.514644488427479,-0.2120663481636309,717,21,166,1,17,229,109,197,0.10099999999999999,0.747,0.152,0.8385,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,9,0,7,12,1,1,6,1,17,0,0,6,3,49,29,19,0,3,10,3,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,4,19,0,1,4,5,0,1,5,2,0,1,3,5,33,10,25,22,3,20,0,0,2,0,45,10,0,6,8,112,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089826617160866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4291190155083866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33012617901018404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124486632547498,0.1147901496802376,0.0,0.0,0.1468590255669277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789781255719766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710473329673849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430665241966286,0.0,0.15700070877443187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660477747566396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224145544002955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914252195043315,0.2478533461924313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528439088550205,0.0,0.16086916711962415,0.0,0.1280415198494741,0.14627745216231516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373045358470188,0.0,0.0,0.13433605578628205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044180058732164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353706126134575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477349587764486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895364072315748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaniePants,2020/02/22,"13M wants to do ancestry testing, any drawbacks? I am hesitant and I don't know why I know that they can be unreliable, and he understands the same. I also have no concerns about finding out dirty secrets, at least not on my end.

Two questions:

  
1. I am nervous about putting his DNA results into the public, it seems to me he can't consent to the idea of his DNA living in a database forever. Am I overreacting?

2. If I do decide to gift him a test, what are the most reputable sites (not necessarily most famous) that we could use?",3.5906603773584926,4.930894811320755,5.273726415094341,80.85228773584909,72.58490566037736,7.941509433962264,31.174528301886788,8.472884824447931,2.4134188679245288,414,19,82,7,8,141,79,106,0.111,0.86,0.027999999999999997,-0.7584,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,6,0,12,0,0,2,0,24,18,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,9,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,0,14,0,12,16,4,8,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,5,1,60,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21635800341732134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398265352876214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160114274859847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396261837496781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472769598679733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054169826379693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29737340039158416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23889979641364095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27197655393066994,0.30307689031045004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24629772346845685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642871411473798,0.28165113616354953,0.0,0.2336675411597532,0.0,0.0,0.1595768584614761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441284656128919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ittybittymomma,2020/02/22,"I have an escape artist as a child Hello. Yes, my 2 year old is an escape artist. She’s found out that she can climb out of the crib. Of course, we’re worried about switching to the toddler bed too early. But I’m more worried about her falling and breaking something. No, sleep sacks will not work. Yes even sleep sacks put on backwards with not work. I’ve tried these methods, she can break free. Her crib doesn’t lower the mattress all the way to the floor, so that’s not an option. We already have the toddler bed, so if that’s the only option then it’s not a big deal. But we’re at the end of our rope with LO. Does anybody have advice?",0.991353383458648,3.1452390751879733,1.8668796992481205,98.59851503759396,83.06015037593986,3.8,19.274436090225567,3.1291,-0.7479533834586474,499,13,111,0,14,155,84,133,0.078,0.83,0.091,0.4019,1,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,13,2,8,2,2,0,1,17,10,8,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,5,6,0,0,1,2,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,14,8,2,18,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,3,5,65,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092318688865985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23819252804508725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22252877561135545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18888916122957305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19117637214169075,0.0,0.0,0.1425649055057492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23666509068778124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264951134839601,0.0,0.0,0.16416136729830913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21698584885189628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43200575729652735,0.0,0.0,0.16616956325799262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654594207407168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132929899384425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31427836839654033,0.4384062048750335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899838894276784
parenting,melissam217,2020/02/22,"Fountain fun It's about 50°F here in Dallas so cool but not too cold and my family and I are enjoying the shopping area in down town. 

We just finished lunch when my husband takes our 4 year old son to see a [water feature](http://imgur.com/gallery/jVKC4a0) with fountains. My son is enjoying the fountain and putting small leaves in the stream when suddenly he decides to cowboy walk straight into the stream making sure to soak his privates. Then he runs off laughing crazily.",6.6166287878787875,8.039862556818186,5.282272727272732,83.31424242424245,65.47727272727272,8.139393939393939,35.12121212121212,8.344100000000001,2.8028348484848484,387,18,68,5,6,113,71,88,0.033,0.733,0.23399999999999999,0.9623,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,5,1,2,2,0,1,1,12,5,8,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,1,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,6,11,5,0,20,0,0,1,0,8,10,0,0,7,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545324195294597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982117965462492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510346675207259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946300983276423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780617848702277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996850956601409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35444861562010266,0.0,0.2827634945786075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421815952323091
parenting,sinntitty,2020/02/22,"Just a warning to parents about day cares. I am a former day care employee. In my short time working as an early childhood teacher, I have seen some terrible things. I've reported multiple coworkers for their wrongdoings, but I'm the one out of a job. Don't trust your center!

The previous center I worked at was honestly very great, but there will always be bad eggs. I was unfortunate to have been placed in the only bad room at the school. Now every school does ages and ratios differently. At my school, they had a few rooms for the toddlers. I worked with toddlers (11m-20m). Toddlers in early childhood are just one year old.

Let me get straight into the abuse and neglect I witnessed. I'm just gonna tell you what happened. I worked with two other ladies. These ladies have been working at the place for 20+ years. That's important, and I'll tell you why later.

Most of the things that happened were verbal and neglectful. Anytime the kids would cry, the other teachers would never comfort them. They would just tell them to stop crying and call them names such as spoiled brat, bitch, monster, whiny little baby, etc.

The kids were restrained most of the day as they sat in the chairs for most of the day. I was not trained like I was supposed to be. We never did anything we were supposed to do (circle time, sensory, etc.). They would lie about what the kids ate or didn't eat.

I'd see them lightly hit the children. It wasn’t hard, but it's still a baby. One of the ladies grabbed a kid's face and her fingerprints stayed on his face for 20 seconds after she let go. They would put blankets in the kids' mouths when they cried during nap time. The room had no cameras.

I did report this to the proper authorities. No, I did not stand around and let them shove blankets in their mouths. If I saw that, I'd take the blanket out and document the incident. I can only imagine what they did to the kids when no one else was in the room.

Investigation happened. I ended up telling the higher-ups; I reported it. They obviously weren't too happy about it and said if I was uncomfortable, I could resign or go back and hope everything would get sorted out. I resigned right there, and they had me write a letter. Don't write a letter.

Nothing came of it. I did not have any solid evidence, and the other teachers who had witnessed it did not speak up. I want you to know parents trusted these ladies SO much! A mom even asked the lead teacher to babysit! The assistant teacher went to kids' birthday parties, and they were close with the families. That's the scary part. They used their trust in bad ways.

I want you to know this is very common in ECE. Even other teachers knew about it, but they were too scared to speak up! It's always the one who reports that they want out. This is so common and not talked about enough. Please share your stories if you have witnessed abuse and neglect while working in a daycare.",3.3851150442477835,5.5061224584070825,3.624433628318588,89.2037300884956,74.85840707964601,6.289911504424777,25.28230088495575,7.1686216300943375,1.0622715044247784,2299,79,453,25,50,709,260,565,0.18600000000000005,0.7559999999999999,0.057999999999999996,-0.9977,5,0,0,0,2,0,78.0,2,7,21,7,24,23,1,1,42,0,52,7,4,2,3,79,83,32,0,14,18,3,2,1,0,8,0,3,4,8,29,28,3,5,4,1,0,6,15,11,0,7,34,9,58,12,59,34,10,76,0,5,3,0,62,37,1,11,31,310,87,15,0.0,0.16820028397809034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812272243383967,0.0,0.0,0.048269091552375014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058410803768607286,0.06318758577743405,0.06635707245897186,0.0,0.0,0.05457952988049836,0.1777969541433072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724789027580356,0.0811826438701839,0.14473845340422278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056672056684138425,0.0,0.23390583913540855,0.18310588886382587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415938836177471,0.0,0.0,0.06211540774861622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263064770435508,0.059294998419599926,0.0,0.06286754745577816,0.07334170547184618,0.15832377018324992,0.0937637414289721,0.0,0.0598040304325547,0.0,0.06379258755477325,0.0,0.06691398396788217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741686365510931,0.0,0.08067956994322509,0.0,0.0,0.07825611812458956,0.0,0.0,0.18830314346470112,0.07555993302515436,0.06358447736836151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704995318281852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043707343022651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801791969751366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21774673893543225,0.0,0.034677427686521864,0.07114098669476797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313136168839963,0.0,0.0,0.052178745468277436,0.0,0.1094888877450752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810758773588604,0.0,0.07448196728464604,0.0,0.24049070804590106,0.10796755303404207,0.0,0.0,0.15763062122026208,0.07686483316933443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831877672354946,0.07791514082990053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135488552852426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061685559903441,0.06751859450851695,0.0,0.07106374172866474,0.21550779818698146,0.05656217198142467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565563947855647,0.056685022137087024,0.0593427749031921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053368411182388525,0.0570513397283931,0.2481599183620957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431241928820157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416768892697486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933751615971792,0.0,0.0,0.06130425733475595,0.0,0.1171324922257895,0.12559819922664425,0.056340920765447534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579952219798034,0.06404875150562676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31004736649438697,0.0,0.0,0.30253454710854705,0.0,0.0,0.09141807342865177
parenting,HP844182,2020/02/22,Potty training with pull-ups/underwear after not using them? Our son is about 2 and a half and we've been letting him run around without a diaper and he's been 100% with using his potty over the past couple of weeks. But now we're trying to get him to wear pull-ups or underwear but he stops going to his potty when he's wearing them. If we let him go without a diaper he'll go back to using the potty. How do we get him to understand he still needs to use his potty even when he's wearing something?,3.692843665768194,4.15608453773585,5.344016172506741,83.71971698113208,71.54716981132076,7.943935309973044,24.57681940700809,7.957251820313856,1.263583827493262,395,10,82,5,7,135,62,106,0.024,0.976,0.0,-0.3094,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,5,0,6,3,3,5,0,23,18,10,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,1,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,2,0,12,0,15,13,0,15,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,2,9,54,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625875391727936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497159645500098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942204067450022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593579037755836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341417201852173,0.0,0.2992729246765886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358982266078315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015313709517684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756307441104215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513143073091122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017834066510373,0.14675078888166612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917322542114847,0.0,0.0,0.1827327325840004,0.0,0.6064056249716208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407994334790131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384089645756773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jlsaaa,2020/02/22,"New parent. Just need to rant. Hello all, 

Obligatory on mobile spiel. My apologies for any mistakes! 

I just need to rant. And cry. And scream. Sorry. 

I've graduated to becoming a first time momma on Feb 21, 2020. Its exciting. I was  proud and happy. But now the realities are setting in. We've already had a rough 3 days of no sleep, labour and delivery. I'm sore. I'm tired. I have stitches. My body hurts. My mind is all over the place. 

The baby cries and cries and cries. Sometimes nothing can soothe him. My milk hasn't come in yet and everything is already cracked from trying. We've been supplementing with the formula from the hospital but I think it makes him gassy. Poor guy, we can hear the gurgle in his tummy and no amount of burping and sitting up is helping. 

I'm already feeling like a failure of a parent. He breaks through my swaddles. Hes hungry. Hes tired. He hates getting his diaper changed. Everything I help him with is a slow turtle process. Sometimes I honestly dont know what he wants or what to do.

On top of that, I'm feeling for my husband. This is also all so scary and new to him as well and he is trying his best to help. I keep thinking to myself what have I done? We are no longer a twosome but a threesome. Will we ever have time to ourselves again that we so selfishly enjoy. How will I do this all by myself when he needs to go back to work? 

Sorry for the super downer post. I know I should be so happy for a bouncing baby boy! And I am. I'm just so scared.

Any tips, advice, or guidance will be greatly appreciated.",0.475151098901101,2.9253328429487206,2.359706959706962,91.37576923076927,90.76282051282051,4.894505494505495,21.53113553113553,6.5431188927421005,0.5481789377289377,1205,44,246,15,42,398,170,312,0.17800000000000002,0.662,0.161,0.5839,2,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,4,0,0,6,16,17,1,1,15,0,30,7,2,2,5,48,52,25,0,6,8,4,3,1,0,4,4,2,0,2,9,19,1,1,6,0,1,2,5,6,1,1,4,5,33,11,33,42,6,29,0,1,0,0,30,10,0,2,14,160,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464254509604332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206354039532069,0.07745242071277851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131725211546505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744731243990409,0.0,0.0,0.10696530223222997,0.0,0.0,0.10164008231210107,0.0,0.0,0.10758061508230568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245645655386673,0.08342932659775712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42554900939927937,0.06246145610547419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991131087956198,0.1135096926969726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876080785562142,0.0,0.0,0.17408846573450762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979424503940254,0.06919100891704062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238216738221738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060111463465003,0.0,0.05504316052188814,0.0,0.0,0.1067795496377292,0.0,0.09589859723033332,0.0,0.20620127377741124,0.0,0.09562118916676897,0.0,0.0,0.10915911798409647,0.0,0.19475333911828546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368195040809501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608640909772136,0.0,0.0,0.1064545306950941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04731694083095879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464938803409229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779279860976914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21544334566079115,0.0,0.18708031600878267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293199969070384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215085122369828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118961022411807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275733741225303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696563692665944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692183436491862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157798961064929,0.21683552090817448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411755964059144,0.0,0.0,0.11295023078000875,0.22263399803851736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151215033280125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712575353055908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708147973521382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050932875715916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fur_osius,2020/02/22,"Too afraid to ask—do I buy my 1 year old a plate at the Chinese buffet? As the title says, just not sure what proper etiquette is here. He’s one—15 months. Do I buy him a plate at the buffet or let him eat off mine? At what age does this change?",-0.6194444444444436,1.2734266851851892,1.0311111111111124,103.70000000000002,87.70370370370371,3.6,12.703703703703706,3.1291,-1.7964962962962965,187,2,48,0,6,60,42,54,0.052000000000000005,0.948,0.0,-0.3616,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,6,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,4,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118934976869061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529300609700399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29195669828476384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34138074379009065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411532461164569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662955737713615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35008237148155064,0.0,0.2260723245137533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653112751213937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31443676610194937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148429821937204
parenting,PublicityMother,2020/02/22,"Mental Health and Child Development Q+A As our kids continue to grow it's important to monitor how they're meeting developmental milestones. Whether it's something small like how many words they have in their vocabulary, or more complex such as their ability to manage their feelings, paying close attention allows us to jump in with a helping hand when they need it.

Having said that I wanted to open the floor for a friendly discussion on how you guys monitor your children's development and your thoughts on paying more attention to our kids' mental health.

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Also thought I'd share a free resource for anyone in the NYC-area who's interested:

There's a pop-up event tomorrow in Union Square that is providing child development screenings and complimentary therapy consults for families in addition to snacks and fun activities for the kids. 

Details here: [https://www.enablemychild.splashthat.com](https://www.enablemychild.splashthat.com). Hope it's helpful to all the NYC/NJ parents :)",14.225633928571426,13.149236081250002,11.614285714285714,52.50500000000002,50.6875,14.642857142857144,47.23214285714286,13.25671669890799,6.438901785714287,823,39,114,22,7,248,105,160,0.0,0.775,0.225,0.9875,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,3,3,5,0,8,7,0,0,8,0,3,4,1,4,1,25,10,13,0,3,2,1,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,7,7,8,1,0,6,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,12,8,22,7,3,17,0,0,2,0,28,11,0,2,5,69,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871932817359174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877741003634864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871033194224871,0.0,0.10035425480026534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533402708852247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652014469158008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219364762257365,0.0,0.0,0.2660654447375507,0.0,0.0,0.19712914462119147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696421352367507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012211572884814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000295707838893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716571700002826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22038153106453887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879391729758727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279473347009442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269719473500297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151318603872337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387393965881805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706491725292978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jacir83,2020/02/22,"Parents with more than 2... what's it really like ?? I have 2 under 4 and I'm swamped all day and up a lot at night. I have friends with 4 and all I hear when I ask how they are is, ""great!!"" Lol. I always wonder how it REALLY is (obviously it's different for everyone).",-1.5636206896551703,0.3935401379310335,2.089224137931037,92.99693965517244,95.89655172413794,6.348275862068967,17.594827586206893,7.645422480735847,0.5844413793103453,200,6,49,5,8,73,40,58,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.8637,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,3,12,9,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,7,9,4,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,4,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231112686484888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596614938646543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912766068452418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901926931453093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26540482561972706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459122323791047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30622358376107617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130477364129763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356960508170873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23613560691406724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606523075027876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084117567888023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558712759952176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012112023550167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,letsgococonut,2020/02/22,"Backwards SleepSack to prevent crib escapes: OK? Our 24-month-old isn’t ready for a big bed yet (multiple reasons), but they’ve recently learned how to climb out of their crib.

Removing the floor of the crib doesn’t work (too many pinch points), and we can’t put the ‘low’ side to the wall (the crib is the same height on all sides).

So, we’ve put his SleepSack on backwards. So far, 100% successful at preventing escapes. However, I didn’t see this method suggested during any of my Google searches. 

Does anybody have any experience in this? Is this an OK method?",4.098700209643607,6.204937716981133,4.031635220125788,87.13527253668764,72.77358490566039,7.729979035639412,30.645702306079663,8.515128840125781,2.3487727463312367,442,20,86,8,9,135,75,106,0.011000000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.165,0.9398,1,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,1,3,5,4,0,0,8,2,7,0,0,2,1,11,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,2,2,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,1,6,3,12,7,2,22,0,1,1,0,5,16,0,0,2,45,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575224710511156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300401080113159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571381945460852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665098472433368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982105535920909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27583880425282997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484979808094067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528515747350382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27027508034498177,0.2595533142690454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20947408418568134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913731559316208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AubreyPlazaFan10001,2020/02/22,"What will CPS do about false child pornography claims? We are currently going through a very tough situation where a neighbor has called CPS and made a false claim. They have claimed that our 14 year old daughter sent nude photographs of herself on Snapchat, and that we are child sex traffickers. We are incredibly confused. Our daughter does not have Snapchat, and she has denied taking any photographs. We have all said that the claims are false, but we are wondering what CPS will do and how we can defend ourselves.",7.738840579710146,9.112388826086958,5.78130434782609,80.92384057971016,62.91304347826088,9.611594202898553,34.89855072463768,9.725611199111238,3.2787333333333337,420,18,74,8,6,120,60,92,0.055999999999999994,0.9440000000000001,0.0,-0.4841,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,8,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,15,2,1,2,1,17,21,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,5,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,1,11,0,4,16,1,7,0,0,0,2,19,2,0,2,3,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21953136312253613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296393573687302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825054231478469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346829613063967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054638368110953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387494415200353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070795122068792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628676571928023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24272344222267184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26636357612371725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500888142182871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788804624644475
parenting,NOXQQ,2020/02/22,"Looking for recommendations on a baby gate We have a four year old and an infant. The baby will be somewhat mobile in a few months and I have been thinking about all the baby proofing we need to do again. 

The four year has many toys that would be too small for a baby to be near, so the rule will be that all but a few things must stay in his room. I want to find a baby gate that he can open to go to his own room. I know many gates can be tricky even for adults, so I was wondering if anyone had recommendations for a gate that a small child could open.",5.60680790960452,4.171162957627121,6.080000000000003,86.50045197740113,67.72881355932203,8.883615819209039,25.598870056497177,7.1686216300943375,0.8203005649717512,431,7,103,3,6,140,68,118,0.018000000000000002,0.9690000000000001,0.013999999999999999,-0.1154,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,13,0,19,0,0,0,4,21,26,6,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,6,3,5,6,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,8,0,14,13,6,17,0,0,1,0,8,10,0,3,5,76,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589159278143682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084447159646052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614827662924578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22991473608906454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296327451278087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382468607415817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211241028186832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5100701886211141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078707483186392,0.0,0.0,0.18652324149281413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639623870742007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681218544626391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712052751584952,0.16118490092604926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837238098802816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727983215983246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17869591826165074,0.0,0.0,0.3239835595605423
parenting,Ashattack333,2020/02/22,"Grandma ask for toddler Social to set up bank account. Conflicted and need advice So my Future MIL is a pretty good grandma. Her and my fiancee relationship is rocky for a numerous amount of reason and she can be a justno a lot of times regarding relationship with so(and so sibling which where main conflict comes) but when it comes to wanting to help grandson I believe her intentions are good.

Our sons second birthday is today and she asked for his social to set up a bank account for him. I hd mentioned that fiancee and I want to open a account for him, but we havent gotten around to it yet. I don't believe she has any ill intentions and truly does want to open an account for him so should I just let her and give the social? This is my first kid and Im just not sure what to do.",2.467995780590716,4.649181284810126,3.678759493670885,87.44872995780594,77.92405063291139,5.9854852320675125,25.72320675105485,7.0316486544052195,1.1886416877637125,625,24,122,7,15,203,94,158,0.049,0.838,0.114,0.8558,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,8,0,13,1,0,3,1,32,23,14,0,5,5,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,6,15,0,2,1,0,6,2,3,0,0,2,1,0,20,3,20,19,3,16,0,0,0,0,27,6,0,1,6,90,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694661563527045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022614829882052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386736771363358,0.28116429865050435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388466559622825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25907285514836803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315958827586016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279105572787614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425527341981778,0.0,0.2522581029936406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079450011288353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624329113587874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377062024064028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784510578802166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150260337943414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298742015233024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461255036404462,0.0,0.32289713567758965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459871090869295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417284962120883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768600913839399,0.0,0.14253976596266604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660886646194344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,basefibber,2020/02/22,"20mth old with neediness and mommy dependency issues We're really struggling with baby number 3!  He is entirely unable to self sooth during the day.  He sleeps fine.  If mommy is home, the only thing that will settle him is her picking him up and he is instantaneously happy.  He's generally ok with me or anyone else when she is not around, especially when he goes to grandma's.  But at home he will just shriek and shriek and shriek for hours if she's not holding him and we're reaching our wits end.  Holding the shrieking little dude right now to give mommy a break.  It's affecting all of us, including his 4 year old and 6 year old brother because we just have to go numb and try to tune him out, shout reading a book to the bigger boys while the little dude screams. We feel horrible because it feels so unfair to them.  Does anyone have any advice besides just mommy holding him for all his waking hours?

This may be slightly related, but he was a lot like this as an infant, but more around sleeping.  It started around 3 or 4 months, I think.  He would not sleep in his crib for more than 30 minutes and would just shriek and shriek for hours until someone picked him up.  I slept with him in a rocker every night for months just to keep our sanity .  Eventually we booted him out of our room and did sleep training.  It was harder with him than the other two boys, but he got it and started sleeping and napping very well.  That just hasn't worked with the daytime crying and neediness.

We're reaching out for help because it's getting to the point of resentment, in his brothers and when in us.  We're just so over it and we hate feeling that way.",4.9258936110329286,5.9218137832817375,5.296899802983393,83.23636011820997,69.06191950464397,7.730312412046157,27.68491415705038,7.84624498591911,1.6137009287925688,1304,42,252,15,22,415,168,323,0.071,0.8640000000000001,0.066,-0.6763,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,9,0,1,1,17,10,2,1,13,1,17,8,7,4,2,68,30,31,0,4,18,2,3,1,0,5,1,2,3,4,14,31,0,4,4,3,0,1,4,5,1,1,5,5,29,5,42,19,5,44,0,0,0,0,43,20,0,7,22,162,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430191669074894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562555937566979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349547149663016,0.09887904432834643,0.0,0.25772521476250115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648256440876753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600435351637452,0.06223665080079877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445069605106713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061613165525253,0.0,0.08547328809545222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813082000061564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638491792732855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05041899593775079,0.09257476749244516,0.05484505443786529,0.0,0.07718251197140012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272956692759462,0.0,0.09527703851924384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468413383621603,0.0,0.19360137469951536,0.0,0.28510896083156345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072438227405438,0.0,0.08577657511958058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04714664221861376,0.19344333594161106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204366234106232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540560411350794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056181820541652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037919676498281,0.0,0.0,0.07339511511826534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912268196535832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652942418977303,0.0,0.06182249086911275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241329862121888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067399790150028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4828650127973594,0.0,0.08176694057080701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661107765372893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008862117064765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411251043688228,0.06183542378963055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551941218359918,0.0,0.0942697104370331,0.0,0.23216319723322346,0.0,0.0,0.07962533658876689,0.0,0.07659983484381237,0.0,0.0,0.08676806439391273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025555831820325,0.0,0.0,0.13710636383064087,0.0,0.0,0.12428993405213852
parenting,maianotmia,2020/02/22,"Fear around toddler discovering fear I spent so much of my childhood being worried and anxious about losing people, my self-image, disappointing people, and just general scary things. 
My daughter is 2.5 and she’s becoming more and more curious about everything. I am mostly nervous about her realizations turning into fears. I just want her to stay in toddlerhood bliss forever. The world is such a scary place and while I want to ready her for those things (now, but mostly when she’s older), I am sad that she’ll lose her blissfulness. I try so very hard to not pass on my anxieties, so she’s living a pretty darn good life right now. I’ve also prepared myself for having gentle discussions with her as she grows about things that inevitably happen in life. 

I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this and if there are ways you’ve gone about discussing heavy life things with your kiddos.",9.65765060240964,8.630479072289162,8.567560240963857,70.59543674698797,59.481927710843365,11.673493975903616,35.207831325301214,10.686352973137794,3.6588578313253017,730,24,124,14,8,226,110,166,0.172,0.7,0.128,-0.5904,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,17,9,0,4,3,0,9,3,0,0,0,23,18,16,0,4,6,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,10,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,8,0,0,2,2,23,1,19,14,5,19,0,4,0,0,14,8,1,6,6,88,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893588314879067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042086908687804,0.15389095434669126,0.0,0.0952488893279404,0.13957451064136442,0.0,0.12126556904199468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044539031460918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379516460755265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242664971785518,0.0,0.0,0.4598594844375342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425571043727376,0.0,0.0,0.15006278735106424,0.0,0.12045977894599992,0.0,0.12202725797233815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886507589609002,0.0,0.0,0.12028563720930865,0.0,0.0,0.3047929062975303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013810756111807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887697683680946,0.0,0.14232195009274304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385857276339769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633198827448273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421082099534753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451934594386668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619967134998647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248511608454207,0.14816932933809454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123965898388545,0.16069334835818472,0.1081258879083792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477258618895682,0.0,0.1383390361281959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,little_olive_tree,2020/02/22,"Convertible Car Seat Help! My babe has officially outgrown his infant car seat and the search for a convertible car seat begins! Does anyone have any recommendations for a comfy, easy to clean and install car seat? I’m also looking for one that converts to a booster using the harness system instead of a seat belt. Thank you!",5.465423728813561,7.901982661016955,5.812000000000001,74.41054237288138,69.84745762711864,7.431864406779661,30.444067796610174,8.238735603445708,2.5555871186440675,263,11,41,4,5,84,43,59,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.8928,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,6,7,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390297567041568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28829806745502484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964331572094228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709983228848608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841623135466483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560081748500484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872770302515148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3903128559522352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366153543561067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwinkleBeans_26,2020/02/22,"Oppositional Difiant Disorder Lo(6) recently diagnosed with ODD and anxiety. 504 plan in place and helping. We are getting a good handle on it most days. Any tips, tricks or advice?",3.700645161290325,6.929582935483872,5.479612903225807,66.81941935483871,90.61290322580645,10.221935483870967,32.006451612903234,9.3871,5.0387367741935485,145,8,21,6,5,49,30,31,0.235,0.631,0.134,-0.4278,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,2,11,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34012222524115543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366941422913629,0.0,0.2662665298884821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244712398724873,0.0,0.0,0.3532756731090541,0.0,0.0,0.3989092854447665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18184806517781904,0.0,0.0,0.29193794955532154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233298667834275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636507805848414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436693023472017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Actual-Chair,2020/02/22,"Leaving four 11yo boys by themselves at IHOP? My 11yo had a few friends over for a sleepover. They asked if we could go to IHOP. The thing is that I am not hungry and have a few errands to run. Would you leave a group of 11yos by themselves at IHPO for an hour? Generally they are well-brave, but can act crazy. IHOP is pretty much empty and I am not concerned about safety.",1.3543421052631572,3.5983854868421083,2.088684210526313,97.0082894736842,82.28947368421052,4.326315789473685,20.026315789473685,5.148860815047168,-0.4204157894736849,291,8,64,1,8,90,58,76,0.12300000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.08,-0.3417,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,12,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,7,1,11,9,3,7,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,1,46,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791487775203097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384061676729379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23069603714393755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970009741192665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29405883491247314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6323442344191587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219503851967232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037814652605957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983752113654673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26847541917517753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21211541802929806,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,garfield_eyes,2020/02/22,"Never ending sleep issues with 14 month old My son has never been a good sleeper. The first 5 months he’d wake every 45-2 hours. We very reluctantly sleep trained him at 6 months with “controlled crying” and check ins which was so difficult for all of us. Questioning if what we were doing was right, but feeling as though we had no choice as I was getting very depressed and my husband and I were constantly arguing about what to do and generally being irritable from the lack of sleep. 

So anyway, after lots of travel, teething, colds and some attempts at re sleep training we decided it’s not working for us. It doesn’t feel right and no matter how consistent we are, it doesn’t stick and he’d still cry at bedtime and wake several times. Up until a month ago he was still waking every 2-3 hours to nurse. I decided to gently night weaning him from breastfeeding by offering lots of it during the day and lots of cuddles. We talked about how we weren’t going to have milk anymore in the night and we’ve replaced it with a sippy cup of water when he wakes in the night. That had been working wel for about 2 weeks. He’d have a sip of water and go right back to sleep with no fuss. 

But now we’re back to square one. 

All this to say that every time we attempt a new approach to helping him sleep (rocking in our arms/rocking chair, patting his bum, rubbing his back etc) he is just still so resistant to sleep. It takes over an hour to get him to sleep, he laughs and tries to play and no matter how little interaction we give him and how many times we lie him back down, it feels like it’s just not working. Hell, he woke up last night and it took over 2 hours to get him back to sleep. 

Some nights he only sleeps 8 hours. It’s been so difficult. 

Things We’ve tried :

-same bedtime routine since he was 4months old, bath, books, a drink of either soy milk or water from his sippy cup
-giving him time (10 - 15 mins or so) when he wakes in the night to see if he’ll resettle. But 9/10 times he stands up and the crying amps up
-co sleeping, but again, this gets him excited and has never been successful 
-pick up put down
-shush pat
-using key words “it’s sleepy time”
-not interacting at all
-transitioned to one nap

My husband and I are equally involved with bedtime and night wakings. 

Help! Does anyone have advice? Words of wisdom? A similar situation?",3.754911967642162,5.261512218415419,4.250751249107779,87.69174904829883,72.42612419700214,7.158910302165119,25.39192243635498,7.695328111545312,1.2109791101594098,1854,58,378,23,36,585,232,467,0.107,0.8109999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.9075,1,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,13,0,0,8,28,12,2,0,15,0,30,25,18,7,6,79,47,42,0,3,14,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,19,34,6,1,6,7,1,6,13,5,0,3,16,8,35,7,62,26,13,79,1,1,2,1,53,22,1,10,51,236,54,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053533537399068507,0.04856202712979873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05935760579710216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05433024253362912,0.03830570753148792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21062460789678256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059201208513970004,0.06144404970204905,0.0,0.0,0.18053041409675652,0.035330650639513184,0.0,0.04718471491375907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04794117292708936,0.0,0.0,0.05366670828457341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852168042230392,0.0,0.06109778169324687,0.0,0.0,0.13847169979019694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310013999207484,0.039137149785868665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046598586651455456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448790435547312,0.10510613043039146,0.06226914310833805,0.04594957336188834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344008731451633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697522269092853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717945800771972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04465564350316609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026764318510381455,0.05490718758766601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972422683714153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554159569789662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749098030892146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675661058744944,0.052909984000971334,0.0,0.3598724454783045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149715667324932,0.0,0.07424506762281406,0.04166511432612315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507227643356901,0.0613697542769012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035373485740915,0.0,0.04356582258542787,0.0,0.0,0.04365514075134857,0.0,0.0,0.06188945541033936,0.0,0.045317253191771815,0.06157864478949737,0.6030507213690063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124987247840375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0411901703952977,0.04403268436569102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036395543120044616,0.0,0.05382424440070042,0.0,0.19166724851573566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060866183220823926,0.07438843293075456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179495855349171,0.04731512049227101,0.0,0.09040380267491076,0.0,0.0,0.04394380187759488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964852965991507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeparateTap7,2020/02/22,"I hate my life I pretty much hate everything about being a parent. If I’m a bad person, then I guess so be it. Having another child, now 18 months old, has by far been the worst decision of my life. My 7 year old daughter wasn’t nearly this tough. I just want out of it now or disappear or leave it all behind and have a brand new life. To all the people who show how awesome and happy their lives are with their kids, fuck you.",1.5173333333333332,3.1940009000000025,3.0886111111111134,92.95625000000004,78.8888888888889,6.277777777777778,17.916666666666668,7.1686216300943375,0.005666666666666932,331,6,75,4,8,109,69,90,0.22399999999999998,0.657,0.11900000000000001,-0.8728,1,0,0,0,0,1,10.0,0,1,2,0,6,7,3,0,5,0,8,4,0,1,2,14,14,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,6,0,0,2,0,10,1,9,10,4,12,0,0,0,1,9,3,1,4,8,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022352046003289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610337698408084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733341424999603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17830008736988653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21246194865738505,0.0,0.0,0.205307806130676,0.0,0.3808274548027803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20421561785947795,0.0,0.0,0.408677619633933,0.0,0.0,0.17030285341293666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394257355778046,0.0,0.1417775708612218,0.0,0.0,0.1862696992427811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40475761921114334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21415316111366736,0.0,0.0,0.1337079340709038,0.16840180911521205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962124939098536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375645665100265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419839023733173
parenting,AntiVaxMommy123,2020/02/22,"Husband vaccinated our son behind my back - I am livid Honestly I'm so mad about this betrayal of my trust not to mention exposing my boy to who knows what sort of toxins I've had to go take a breather and lock myself in the bedroom until I'm calmed down because I'm that afraid I might do something illegal, something which could get me in prison for a very long time, if I don't, and I know myself I wouldn't be good about covering my tracks I'd be blowing up Facebook about it. I'm literally shaking I can't think straight. Fuck.

So a bit of backstory I am a firm antivaxxer and have been for years, since before anyone had heard of this. There made by pharma they contain thalidomyde and mercury and HIV and aborted babies and female DNA and random fillers (talcum powder baking soda caffeine ground up chalk etc) to bulk the product so pharma people can get more money from the doctors and even if half the stuff they say about them is true I'd be against it assuming they work which is not proven your not even allowed to do ur own research on this.

Hubby has no position either way but he's a good man or so I thought and I assumed he was on my side and not pharma's. I've always bragged about the fact he's a good earner and I'm the only one of my friends to have never had a job ever. I'm a full time mommy unlike most other mommies. My trust was shattered yesterday. I open the mail and see the credit card statement, normally I don't care but I've gained about 100 pounds the last year and so I assume he's cheating and want proof. Instead I see something much worse, a doctor bill. My husband knows we don't believe in doctors at all so regardless of what it is I've got alarm bells ringing in my head. We do natural remedies only. Like I said i don't trust pharma. So I ask him what the fuck is this are you paying the doctor as a prostitute at least tell me something that makes sense and he tells me the thing I feared but never spoke of, last week while I was passed out drunk he came into my home uninvited while he was supposably at work kindnapped my son and took him to the doctor and got him vaccinated literally shoved a dirty needle full of who knows what in it and put it inside my precious boy, who I am now too disgusted to even look at the light is gone from his eyes and he will probably grow up to be a junkie like a lot of people who get exposed to needles at a young age. I love my boy more than anything but I can no longer picture myself spending another minute raising this defiled abomination.

Hubby then says he's taking our son to the park he's gonna go play in a sandbox with the other filthy contaminated chemical children and become brainwashed by mainstream culture. I immediately call the police and report him for kindnapping, if he's willing to put a needle and some vaccine fluids into my child he will do the same with something else and some other fluids later, I have seen the stats most abused and trafficked children are conditioned by vaccination to accept objects inside of them at an early age. The police never showed up. They've shown up before but I guess now pharma has got to them and they hate women and they hate children.

I feel helpless and I'm out of options. My child is forever ruined. Talk me down from something I could regret.",4.834311629190232,5.662820062215482,5.4890726307076845,82.38481325010348,69.16691957511381,7.872547937646573,29.08956407780384,7.924219607001951,1.8441165402124435,2627,93,509,31,44,851,320,659,0.13699999999999998,0.777,0.086,-0.9889,4,0,6,0,1,0,36.0,4,2,8,3,23,32,7,4,37,0,46,14,2,3,8,94,92,49,0,10,14,5,1,2,1,6,6,6,3,10,27,38,3,1,12,3,5,10,15,14,0,2,20,13,67,18,72,60,17,67,0,3,5,4,66,31,2,17,27,333,94,13,0.0,0.09417701912903106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613809220247219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334721100350846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557793221140196,0.0,0.06540958497519253,0.0,0.07430797540305133,0.0,0.0,0.0611192479351434,0.0,0.048453468279608065,0.08778520950134068,0.13527218016689685,0.08955265336851939,0.0,0.0,0.08677730226520937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116332327219887,0.09090994645054852,0.08104050583369661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269250025075786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40678258741241335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639972380957365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864706040015051,0.1574977662579226,0.07189895573211286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894430000992579,0.040190128702892285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141010398093508,0.14696565846021606,0.12458328139605825,0.0,0.09034659421686636,0.20000535988147095,0.1907148373136868,0.0,0.0875619598474936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569504493251062,0.08157479401358082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973018268958351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887684199980886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747320501959921,0.12958216868519454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766495259911843,0.0,0.0,0.07034194156171795,0.06674758787034901,0.0,0.0,0.06757551383225563,0.07173853793485355,0.07521086175196191,0.053057018998411545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432128518444547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058430801588122236,0.0,0.1839117657541071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787866488227528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386125986551425,0.12090422283384658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021012306808517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569853900531142,0.0,0.0,0.1598092526465649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560867099870262,0.12641971603821847,0.0,0.0,0.1266789003368876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575101696865593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671497545675152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099159012932466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952602604320198,0.06388722998395888,0.13894721712651895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280646563335844,0.05093093624037581,0.0,0.06310240683144068,0.09269697243243263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831103308124495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558365241771039,0.04688245755352112,0.06309168863669616,0.06375826996164034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573241168071223,0.0,0.08100225641122974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237178495074084
parenting,piggypudding,2020/02/22,"Can allergies just pop up out of nowhere? My son is a peanut butter addict; he's been eating it nearly every day since he was less than a year old (he's two now). Yesterday, I noticed after he had some he broke out in hives on his face. I figured it must have been a fluke, I disregarded it. This morning he had peanut butter with breakfast and started getting hives all over his body. I quickly dosed him with some Benadryl and they have subsided for the most part, but I'm shocked. How can he develop an allergy to something he's had almost every day? Any parents of allergy sufferers out there that have experience with something like this?

He has a mild egg allergy as well, so I'll be taking him to get formally tested at his allergist.",4.195805642633228,5.717351903448279,5.257115987460819,80.84993730407525,71.34482758620689,8.58307210031348,30.42319749216301,9.095868883498916,2.663344827586207,586,25,111,12,11,193,99,145,0.08199999999999999,0.877,0.040999999999999995,-0.7087,1,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,0,6,0,15,7,2,1,2,19,20,6,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,8,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,6,2,11,2,20,12,6,18,0,2,0,0,17,9,0,4,10,75,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281734836906145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095888512370187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233466415253462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23249081230979216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26996898385279045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21417139862603807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35269719453283577,0.0,0.0,0.20474057730638934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21870658084991054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225591293921994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23829527504749115,0.21963052251308715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23240857461753345,0.2266570565643783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17313936445738262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32226662591296,0.0,0.0,0.14814724660898085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15737140761717702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044606964491089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819044625548406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347856398418033
parenting,thankyoulol11111,2020/02/22,"Need parental knowledge an advice, pregnancy scare! TMI My GF and I had sex about 12 days ago. She hadn’t had sex for about 5-6 months. She’s on BC and i used a condom. I also checked and the condom wasn’t ripped(I’m assuming) and came as i was pulling out. About 2 or 3 days ago she mentioned brown discharge, and i don’t know how long it was occurring for or did it just start when she mentioned it and i know was there yesterday after arousal (she doesn’t think it’s blood due to consistency). Is there a chance she could be pregnant? Brown discharge doesn’t come out when wiped. Her period should start in 5 days if I’m not mistaken. Also she has no other symptoms.

Could this be implantation bleeding?",1.909574468085104,4.320810595744681,2.637702127659576,92.89400000000002,81.34042553191489,6.029503546099291,23.58439716312057,7.3011,0.8976729078014185,558,20,118,8,15,174,88,141,0.063,0.905,0.032,-0.6092,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,4,0,18,8,2,2,0,26,28,15,0,5,5,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,5,0,1,3,7,1,0,0,9,2,15,0,12,14,0,22,0,0,2,5,12,4,0,4,15,74,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968056171495662,0.3570576570746216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32211879853056663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303477920073945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348815052238856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216028082698022,0.0,0.0,0.3896587545619261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213681974692724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823254282817966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075545076478054,0.0,0.0,0.14933544795846065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236307159994879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016363993411858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28510372207256474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20933157435114028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904890131270308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739448192928404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reaserchermind,2020/02/22,"Phone spy There are few apps online that claims they can hack or spy mobile phones. There is no doubt some of them can get through to some extent but wait what if you do not have any access to target phone ? Or may be you need to spy different functionality of the phone ? 

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Thanks for reading",6.451673553719008,7.6089809752066175,5.863295454545457,79.96494318181819,65.69421487603306,9.02520661157025,30.41425619834711,9.188382445141503,2.508817355371901,1044,37,190,18,16,319,135,242,0.039,0.899,0.062,0.782,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,16,7,6,4,6,2,1,17,0,23,0,0,4,2,39,40,12,0,9,8,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,13,5,0,1,6,6,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,3,25,3,27,28,10,14,0,0,1,0,48,9,0,14,3,131,38,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870656741359614,0.14422410189542256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571651981425294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384393265481499,0.0,0.11703756167189115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044510026001936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437014405207236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28150511652080834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339496688548832,0.09084476699177496,0.0,0.11588452267404382,0.0,0.0,0.1345418361185757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15080699518824955,0.0,0.0,0.2874387221711172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550191019171208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755891310232386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064535295727154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014495456243744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039703421032371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097910356287364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081555881141368,0.0,0.13757857442896484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349191292388776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202172055889004,0.1266295993018192,0.0,0.0,0.2741290916113088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040293894092714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281350485816936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375831377163409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917392461170787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541086294967264,0.0,0.0,0.08857212236730051
parenting,ImaginaryDocument5,2020/02/22,How to deal with a three year old suddenly having nightmare problems? This morning was the second time in three days our three year old knocked on our door in the middle of the night crying about a bad dream. She's never done this before. I have no idea what may be causing it. We screen all of their media and nothing traumatic has happened. Am I just overthinking? Her sister never had this problem so it's new to me.,2.8221951219512214,5.1905635975609785,3.373353658536587,89.13368902439026,77.65853658536584,5.5634146341463415,23.664634146341466,6.6274283507984215,0.7742878048780493,333,11,63,3,8,104,65,82,0.168,0.775,0.055999999999999994,-0.8746,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,2,3,13,10,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,4,3,1,9,0,9,5,1,15,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,1,11,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244230528890758,0.0,0.0,0.17574016945714982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216121069527394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268613785618361,0.13319351450560785,0.2129213635544253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113499126849255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826320833709472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331450435887581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185743473039678,0.1994660894708606,0.0,0.19381259581922355,0.0,0.1981692458135648,0.0,0.4334329191263316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952389266825325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204281739478241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659946015903235
parenting,Why-are-you-here-,2020/02/22,"My mom let me decide if I wanted to go to school or not... So my mom let me decide I want to go to school or not 













I chosen school....",-1.8294623655913969,-0.6451909354838694,1.7625806451612895,100.83053763440859,87.38709677419355,4.133333333333334,10.333333333333334,3.1291,-1.995331182795699,95,0,27,0,3,35,16,31,0.0,0.9540000000000001,0.046,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,6,4,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,4,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,19,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447309888438608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44033762016575395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5043363608471267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6537148945015172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539905415573841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Babycakes_99,2020/02/22,"21F, Pregnant and feeling hopeless I just don’t know how to cope with my current circumstances. I’m pregnant, my boyfriend 25M isn’t acting like he wants this relationship to work, and I’m tired of being sad with this baby in me. I always feel like I hurt the baby when I start crying. This morning has been the worst, I could no longer stand the constant rejection of my boyfriends affection/attitude. I left home, took an ultrasound photo along with me, and just drove. I don’t think I have the courage to end it all but I’ve been teetering on that scale due to a feeling of deep seated hopelessness. I wish I had someone to talk to that understood what I’m going through.",4.23706766917293,5.7150395112781975,4.6797067669172945,85.20016165413537,71.18045112781955,8.026766917293234,29.841353383458646,8.548686976883017,2.197406616541353,537,22,106,9,10,170,89,133,0.168,0.74,0.092,-0.8793,1,0,0,0,0,2,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,1,1,21,25,6,0,3,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,7,7,0,0,6,0,0,4,4,6,0,0,6,3,15,3,16,17,2,15,0,5,0,0,3,4,0,0,8,65,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424228840381274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23928039920590194,0.0,0.17678883786113989,0.0,0.2432235795979581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611571035497266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358754858302905,0.15818516310074962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584021336031165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221060636072269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370386917695177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216886960053412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24057753986959646,0.0,0.0,0.2163529082730384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377262297390334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187611615171382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672486184514106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797201370718227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418793909982902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544940147766899,0.0,0.0,0.2460099208241933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060145791947225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546263717990749,0.0,0.0,0.16119911884719845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Searchofanswertolife,2020/02/22,"In urgent need of suggestion Hi all,

I am in a lot of stress nowadays and I thought this would be the place to ask for some genuine advice. I even think of going to counselling because of my stress. I hope to explain my problem keeping the post short if possible. I have a younger brother of age 19. He joined college but is not attending at all. He is brilliant in studies but has no interest in studying. We never shout at him. We have never forced him in studies or any other thing. We always ask him nowadays if he is stressed about anything and tell him that we are always there for him. He doesnt go to college at all, goes somewhere out during the day and comes home late at night nowadays, and when we ask about this he just says that he goes to restaurant and then roam around the whole day. Since he is a teenage boy, we are afraid to say him anything. We all are scared if he is into drugs or has a depression or sth else. I am out of country now. He used to listen to me in the whole family but since I am not there now, he doesnt care about whatever I say through phone. I know that if I were there I could do something because when it comes to sharing about few things, he used to share with me. The biggest problem is I am abroad and married too, so to go back is really difficult. I asked my husband if I could go there, be there for a year or two and come back but he fought with me, I understand from his point of view, therefore, I am keeping quiet for now. But all these things are making me mentally drained, I feel guilty that I can do sth if I were there but I am not able to take that decision. I cant just wait and watch my brother going through something and not being able to do anything at all. Its hard to explain my feelings. I am in need of some suggestions so that I can take some wise decision.",3.429187958011489,4.450669967914436,4.073184789067145,90.53152010299073,72.58288770053477,7.038066943949296,28.290354525648645,7.242747475848597,1.3276071697365812,1424,54,310,14,27,452,168,374,0.109,0.823,0.068,-0.935,0,0,3,0,0,0,33.0,7,0,0,0,24,16,1,5,11,0,38,1,0,4,8,84,72,30,0,14,22,3,3,0,0,1,1,6,1,1,15,25,0,3,10,0,0,9,10,10,0,1,4,11,46,6,51,62,13,46,0,1,2,0,48,20,0,15,16,227,61,2,0.17957411899613035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877388753851336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942005238752276,0.0,0.0,0.0610582793881477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22166129884089847,0.07992951891532507,0.3357551210743771,0.0,0.0,0.1380814130591713,0.0,0.1094667161933284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154389115210723,0.0,0.0,0.23203080440402005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337532193935848,0.0,0.0,0.11581045095629627,0.0,0.07733346277941644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412448351297283,0.0,0.0750055669868013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05930350599654621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464324885111615,0.0,0.09079807016300626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551402752817427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043156933447086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900637414659129,0.08917880930964286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961372789613149,0.0,0.0,0.049344619765673566,0.0,0.101283713962852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633374716962264,0.0,0.0,0.05993355942290175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904842378322778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331519338602309,0.1384986309630973,0.0,0.0,0.08425907299671725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380836697401226,0.0,0.0848777929680511,0.10122141883047807,0.08599118356349758,0.0,0.0,0.17182817986479154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751988944351714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142068205046472,0.08989251003673565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854556690134213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824493000090307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085523198886769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501738921023845,0.0,0.0784778475261527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895159805595515,0.05753192228379756,0.0,0.07128089592959412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770891055959709,0.09347149544820972,0.0,0.15509438241516926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20048809089768044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378215095083796,0.0,0.0,0.0578199225323744
parenting,noposwow,2020/02/22,"Divorced parents: when did you know? I’m afraid our time is coming close. Didn’t realize how much love I lost for my husband until I met someone who made my heart practically give out. No, I’m not cheating or communicating. This has never happened to me before. I guess that moment just made me realize that I haven’t been happy in a very very very long time.",3.393004694835682,5.301081281690145,4.6475352112676065,82.81853286384978,74.21126760563381,6.986854460093897,25.91784037558686,7.793537801064563,1.487336150234742,285,10,55,4,6,94,55,71,0.062,0.7879999999999999,0.15,0.8087,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,1,0,1,3,5,1,1,1,0,6,2,1,3,1,14,18,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,10,2,5,11,1,11,0,1,0,1,9,3,0,2,7,34,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17309909884977662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523202451921072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19514312755344787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22409480388977399,0.0,0.17988743922473818,0.21654895308376607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410587783720532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117966768620981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002410666634186,0.0,0.0,0.22206165680968212,0.0,0.18359837557142447,0.3849699879729053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954026892292496,0.0,0.15689336309766788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225878614713884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236075170014706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23723669381774795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5035390625970304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NotWhoYouThink777,2020/02/22,"How do I explain to my 5 year old that my grandma passed away? My grandma passed away yesterday and we have been with family non stop. So my grandparents house has been full of people. My 5 year old has been preoccupied playing with the other kids.

Today he asked everybody where granny was. Nobody knew what to say. They wanted to leave it to me to break the news. The only problem is how? How do I let him know that she is no longer with us to where he will understand? 

Any help with this would be tremendously appreciated. It's already hard enough for me to convince myself that it is real and idk how to do it to a child.",2.7526981818181824,4.6915700880000015,3.851418181818184,87.6897090909091,76.12,7.105454545454546,22.56363636363637,8.00094639256281,1.0477199999999995,491,14,102,8,11,159,82,125,0.08900000000000001,0.8340000000000001,0.077,0.368,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,4,0,17,0,0,4,0,21,23,7,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,10,7,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,2,15,2,17,14,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,7,75,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839846630514253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842311729252287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654738934417924,0.0,0.35485782891208073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513046840802067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780290893250612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917071634133696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658083505332154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21790523918932814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378592314463647,0.0,0.0,0.19996276671035,0.0,0.19310987697670526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39632842107231697,0.0,0.0,0.14362741540342122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092342646555385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807020335166889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149503704632961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017951106270785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788538579780756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790058245603925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965974302542021,0.22716089426845415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138744451344007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341522023681341,0.0,0.0,0.24322384343706496
parenting,InTheFlesh89,2020/02/22,"My five year old son was repeatedly punched and kicked in the head today at recess. We have had several issues with this school, however I'm going to try to stick to the point.

Today at recess at about noon, my five-year-old son threw a ball at a boy who was coming down the slide. It wasn't a hard ball or anyting, admittedly he shouldn't have done that. It could have been really dangerous. however, that boy then ran down the slide, shoved my son to the ground, and repeatedly punched and kicked him in the side of the head while calling him a 'mother fucker'.

I had no idea this happened. My son got off the school bus just like everyday, I greeted him, checked his backpack, and sat in the front yard while he played with his friends. 

About 30 minutes later I got a call from the counselor in charge of incidents like these. He told me about what happened except he said that my son was punched in the side of the head one time. I like this teacher, I've always gotten along with him. But for some reason something didn't feel right, especially when he kept telling me that if something came up he wanted to make sure I had his email. I told him that I'm sure everything would be fine. I got off the phone with him and talked with my son. That's when I found out about the severity of what truly happened.

I also found out that this is the same child, same age as my son, who runs around the playground pretending to be Chucky the homicidal doll. It's the same child that I have video evidence of trying to punch my son in the back of the head (we have something called the seesaw family app which allows the teacher to send us videos throughout the day and one of the videos captured that happening after my son tried to hug him).

to be completely honest, my son got in trouble a few weeks ago because a teacher caught him and another boy and the bathroom having a little experimentation time. They were messing around with each other's penises. I got really nervous about that and really freaked out because I didn't think it was normal. then after it happened two more times, the school decided to call child protective services on me. After I got the call from the detective from CPS she assured me that in no way did she think we were abusing him, or that he had been abused. She was a little confused as to why the school even made a report.

The school told me he was no longer allowed to eat lunch with the other students and that he would have to eat lunch in the office.  I found out that they lied to me. an incident happened on Friday where the same child that punched him and kicked him in the head approached him during lunch trying to force my son to show him his genitalia. I was confused about that because my son said he was in the lunchroom. It turns out while they told me he was eating in the office, he has actually been forced to eat at a table all by himself in the lunchroom alone. Let me be clear that my son has never tried to force children to do anything with him.

I also want to make it clear that I don't think that is appropriate behavior for school. I have had several conversations with my son about it, I enrolled him in counseling about it.  However, on Friday the same kid that kicked him in the head today went to his isolation table during lunch time and tried to force my son to show him his penis. The only reason I know this is because he told me. A teacher interrupted but I was not told.

Another incident involved my son getting out of the playground area, going off of school campus and hiding in a bush. I was not given an incident report or an apology, instead I was told that my son needs to know not to do that.

Of course I do not think he is completely innocent in these situations. And I am not quite sure if I'm doing anything correct. He has never been in preschool before, so I don't know if I'm being out of line with the amount of anger that I'm feeling.

I know that this other child was involved in the private area matter, I know that he tried to bully my child into showing his private areas even after my son was already in his punishment. I also know that this child runs around the playground pretending to be Chucky, the homicidal doll. It was really concerning when my son came back telling me about Chucky.

I don't want him to go to school on Monday. I don't know what to do. The guidance counselor told me that he was only punched one time and when I emailed him within 20 minutes after our phone call he never responded. My son now has a giant welt on the side of his head and my husband has taken him to urgent care to check for a concussion.

Am I being an overprotective mom or what? I need some advice here.",6.655097402597399,6.123920185064938,6.622611255411254,80.4966311688312,65.22294372294371,9.643082251082252,31.467012987012982,8.954980946260402,2.3764793766233763,3697,120,738,52,50,1175,315,924,0.049,0.895,0.055999999999999994,-0.2529,4,2,3,0,1,0,76.0,5,0,3,1,29,23,4,3,66,0,72,18,8,8,11,120,142,40,0,13,16,23,3,3,1,3,0,2,1,12,56,45,8,2,21,12,2,17,19,10,0,5,63,5,108,13,129,67,12,119,0,0,0,3,127,61,1,11,43,505,164,13,0.0,0.10507717586063507,0.0432718640549714,0.0,0.0,0.04333095831010789,0.039306933097461465,0.0,0.0,0.045925436345693516,0.048933029387371665,0.10638199584076856,0.03689649560857559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299391326147216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298016572379246,0.11842262520453176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819326013017858,0.0,0.10812305708037888,0.0,0.03773218454964592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27167177954172833,0.10143196842509243,0.04521011368843149,0.0,0.0,0.03819712021669759,0.09298449337537766,0.0,0.0,0.035403862144244534,0.0,0.0,0.02859723127424736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045377752477492664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149370883812446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05857557974614708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039852161854679234,0.0,0.041802143817098084,0.0,0.04484178051748896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585772189375404,0.03425889009495872,0.0,0.023167115660868633,0.0,0.07560255986597163,0.0,0.2127883923803785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527145202118865,0.0,0.039722152379434696,0.0,0.3185572414025615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005726259795844,0.0,0.04628202864042718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705862716790383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04534319015216124,0.0,0.06499048779047993,0.0888856284071311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04195792678526522,0.05919789952471079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193337671655697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575877419994268,0.10259896273902727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0434462156548748,0.0,0.0,0.09305994722142412,0.0,0.09014283623497134,0.0674489084624748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041917976409072605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047163685763273726,0.0,0.0,0.11362771271177542,0.0911829094543072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037868235684596935,0.08435970571795813,0.0,0.0,0.3590156571892814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028314263428588,0.0,0.0,0.04984280545998595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241102257394394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537678804314534,0.0,0.0,0.035640805805691,0.07751456408566887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365148299596264,0.0,0.0,0.12928228356705074,0.0,0.1260944587888491,0.33896911958966275,0.0,0.21073943268813472,0.04823188503719896,0.04331615980032083,0.0,0.053338543761757055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846303083314815,0.03519699669586878,0.03556886280372791,0.0,0.0,0.0411059232601745,0.04001219121893701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629992511676997,0.0,0.0,0.05711020666144746
parenting,swannkai,2020/02/22,"Croup? Pneumonia? My 3 y/o has been in and out of different doctor offices about 3 weeks now. “Oh it’s just allergies” .. “it’s an earache” ... “he’s a kid so just normal stuff” . But I have never heard him cough like this before! I’m a very relaxed mom. I don’t overreact or anything but this cough... sounds TERRIBLE? I wasn’t too worried when he had the “the earache and bad allergies” I was like ok cool, let’s finish this amoxicillin and take  Claritin. And that same day he finished the amoxicillin, he started in with this crazy ass cough. No fever, no slowing down tho. So I took him to daycare and as soon as I picked him up the owner said “please take Kai to the doctor again” so I was like okay I’m not the only one concerned. So I took him to a 3rd doctor (emergency room) and they do chest X-rays. They say oh it looks like he’s coming down with pneumonia so here is azithromycin, he will be fine. But now it’s on 6 nights now (only 3 nights with the meds), and we have been waking up to him crying and doing that crazy cough. Are the doctors just brushing us off? Should I be more diligent with expressing my concerns? I’m so tired and just wanna do right by my child... I understand reddit isn’t doctors but any advice from experience is appreciated.",0.7832143312507966,3.2101414308300416,2.4245237791661367,92.216112456968,87.2608695652174,5.477954864210124,20.809511666454164,6.968188349444268,0.5511882952951681,974,32,205,14,31,318,142,253,0.154,0.731,0.115,-0.9390000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,0,2,0,20,11,0,0,12,3,22,14,3,1,1,33,35,24,0,3,10,1,0,4,0,2,11,4,1,2,11,16,0,0,1,1,0,3,7,2,0,1,10,7,22,9,24,20,2,29,0,0,1,1,23,11,1,1,19,131,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177811179951568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196494857757429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918642289080144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063802552814953,0.0,0.0,0.10256267237044199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382644877412232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323972163838027,0.07773227277692603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259288347497011,0.0,0.6168409378381516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179020654636662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325071583618147,0.0,0.23554067298276826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121535673953996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338823370202279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116399473936522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929606375966623,0.0,0.0,0.2262196267099731,0.11809440760270815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167466129739838,0.18333792180197672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323064160966797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293248313401572,0.11465221219081308,0.09585077952610004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531218675726998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797871277575868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124803834291686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853220645164355,0.0,0.0,0.26782788719549233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547661667925522,0.14498348436083086,0.0,0.0,0.09945037697293856,0.0,0.0,0.09668238576348692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240468605628528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The4goodies,2020/02/22,"Do you charge you adult/full time working, children board? My daughter is now working full time in a well paying job, I want to charge her board to live at home, she refuses. I’ve told her to pay or move out. AITA?",1.7324999999999982,3.558884522727276,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,78.77272727272728,5.3090909090909095,22.363636363636363,5.985473137389443,0.1280636363636365,165,5,37,1,4,52,34,44,0.033,0.878,0.08900000000000001,0.3313,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,7,1,6,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,3,20,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263073598832594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228149390939401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872502054384049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457476495147169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793758313757148,0.0,0.0,0.3108427930119463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187327098809087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924881918684969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736517142508627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JadenTroy,2020/02/22,4 year old I wasn’t sure how to interpret this. My 4 year old daughter told me at bed time (when she usually likes to open up and talk about Things that’s on her mind) That she wants to be a baby again. She didn’t want to be 4 years old and tall anymore. She wants to be born again. I asked her why and she didn’t give a specific reason. She just repeated I want to be a baby again. Wasn’t sure what to make of it. Seemed odd for a 4 year old to say.,-0.90893048128342,0.8384966274509793,1.3302852049910892,102.04082887700537,87.62745098039215,5.277718360071302,15.155080213903744,6.574015621080383,-0.7843058823529412,344,6,93,4,11,115,59,102,0.025,0.867,0.10800000000000001,0.6908,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,3,2,17,17,5,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,1,13,3,14,8,0,21,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,17,54,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826817086116648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976641268021647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341822324429415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304028778122311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997953338479676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509568037990168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6275187853217424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371540144634965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188918827815881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361031715747203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818122156362144,0.0,0.0,0.12016595664867527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932406619697208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717720562916867,0.0,0.0,0.14285784092508866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646579515580813,0.0,0.35272622484176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349044480544699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851036733170926
parenting,Technomage1,2020/02/22,"Advice on Failure To Launch If this is not appropriate here let me know and I will take it down.  Not a parent myself, but my uncles (69) second son (28) has some issues.  Thankfully he’s a decent worker, very kind, very good at what he does, but mostly due to my aunts (62) helicopter parenting until he was 27 he’s just failed to launch.  obviously my uncle and aunt had him later in life and they won’t be around for more than 20 years, statically speaking, and I figure they’ve got 10 good years left Prior to needing help themselves.

Cousin doesnt know he needs oil in a car.  Doesn’t think to mow his lawn on the house they bought him until he was 27 and my aunt finally got sick of him living with his girlfriend in their basement.  Doesn’t know how to cook or clean.  No get up and go Whatsoever.  House is a mess.  Wouldn’t know what to do if something were to break other than call dad.  No life skills whatsoever.  

  
 My uncle continues to do and do for him, building stuff, repairs etc which would be fine if my cousin helped.  Instead my uncle is doing things like reinforcement of cousins attic trusses by himself.   Somewhat arduous and dangerous.  Cousin and his girlfriend are going on a cruise.  Uncle is worried about their car not being able to make the 1,000 mile trip (this is fair), their lack of driving long distances, etc so is driving them down.  This after walking them through costs, budgets and getting passports, etc.  cousin didn’t ask for help,  just assumed an $400 cruise would cost $400.    


so, parents of reddit, is there anything I can say or advise my aunt and uncle at this point?  Any gems of wisdom to share to help the situation.  Various very broad hunts have been dropped for years and years by multiple family members but this cycle just continues.  Plainly it’s not been good for cousin.  Also plain it will get worse for him.  He’s being set to crumple when his parents will need to depend on him The most.  After they’re gone, well, I will likely due to various circumstances inherit scraping this man off the floor.  

obviously the big lesson here is not to helicopter parent.   I hope any reading here might see the damage done.",4.689195908733282,6.313296775609758,4.908064516129034,83.4308064516129,70.26829268292683,7.534225019669553,26.884343036978755,8.049812674583475,1.6571109362706524,1698,56,318,23,31,533,227,410,0.083,0.7929999999999999,0.124,0.9661,5,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,0,0,7,4,16,16,1,0,13,0,41,5,0,5,2,58,64,27,0,11,16,17,0,2,2,9,4,2,2,1,15,14,1,0,8,4,5,11,13,4,1,1,12,4,33,12,52,38,11,51,0,2,1,0,55,20,0,13,19,207,48,4,0.08894366907219334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869147240220056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112822002257045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096948995492965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319306115466179,0.07917872262714526,0.08315032406974282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082143062107316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783520418588519,0.09102025404317292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297587106637812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838481754174299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743344193639017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940818822697768,0.0,0.10109747368277118,0.22380518914187708,0.1422727546316664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384682661080509,0.0,0.0,0.08834113231718023,0.0,0.2052581046074227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283408222067713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262114431813352,0.19552445777671806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663755669260143,0.0909509277442658,0.12564708768496533,0.08690676798082607,0.0,0.0785388893143037,0.07871234823485156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937058976459831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435517723412416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19785181084767828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938070936554527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408051640772529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896773849221543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073157558368277,0.0,0.0,0.0708765886748835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997641063079472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847318184628721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181922150127473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687456996609717,0.0,0.0,0.08188738052286737,0.0,0.0,0.05909022156202076,0.0569915117535117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22016352575740047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997104020114103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032661337125143,0.09064119745479676,0.12636606118070412,0.0,0.0,0.2291072269990169
parenting,honeydewsea,2020/02/22,"Want to cry. Single parent. No child support. Work with no off days and ex gets visits (which are going horribly) just to spite me and not because he cares at all. Promised to be a family so I wouldn’t testify against him then broke up with me the day after the case dropped.

I’m tired. I’m a great parent and person. I made poor relationship choices and accept that fact. I’ve really so much to be grateful for, but I feel sad and like I’m gonna grow old alone. On top of all that just found out my boyfriend is cheating. I just feel like my life is just so small right now. Just work and kids and like I’m stuck in a rut and that the other shoe is waiting to drop...",0.27965425531915145,2.4429288936170224,1.822761524822696,97.69031250000003,86.30496453900709,4.9434397163120565,18.03235815602837,6.322622252153567,-0.3257343971631208,518,13,121,5,16,167,94,141,0.185,0.6679999999999999,0.147,-0.7261,2,1,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,9,12,2,0,6,0,7,3,1,1,3,29,23,13,0,2,7,3,2,3,0,2,2,0,0,3,5,11,0,1,4,0,1,3,4,4,0,0,3,2,9,8,17,16,4,20,0,2,0,0,10,9,0,0,9,70,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19220331196924148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312690376341347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920960314919905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384921885497054,0.2393655020580388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749468514263601,0.0,0.18766808583338315,0.13257728541712752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20347719735127345,0.0,0.0,0.09695708333125022,0.0,0.10546851270113332,0.0,0.0,0.2046009019178651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107955105727362,0.2719927777234528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755988213326391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642151744296316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473337099079915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121258253596531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203994891494555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888631035696545,0.0,0.0,0.19924180999943664,0.0,0.15848298668791755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21059223166451052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329513446536372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094589810009861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702066511102925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,guy_mcdudefella,2020/02/22,"Harsh read, little man At a community movie night with 5yo, 2yo, and wife:

5yo: ""Mama, you have to count everyone in the room.""
Wife: ""Huh? Why?""
5yo: ""Mama, you have to count everyone in the room before you die of old age.""
Wife: ""...""",0.11325757575757933,2.4812741136363634,2.02,93.64166666666668,91.95454545454544,5.660606060606061,14.151515151515152,7.1686216300943375,-0.1950030303030305,167,3,37,3,6,55,30,44,0.146,0.8540000000000001,0.0,-0.7998,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,3,16,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657265410335259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240964366779426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5967921864372012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31298572910801564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930528111749001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32768441821033617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123636393401769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817833448734133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VanGoghPro,2020/02/22,"My friend needs help flying her very medically fragile child from Harrodsburg PA to Boston Children’s Hospital. The pilot flying them for this part of the trip is now unable to fly. Any suggestions?! My friend Kelly has a daughter that has megalencephaly-capillary malformation syndrome. She’s a medically fragile one year old beautiful little girl. We live in Kentucky and she’s got a very important surgical procedure coming up on Sunday the 23rd at Boston Children’s Hospital. They have worked and planned for a very long time to organize this. There are several agencies that have come together to transport her. Suddenly part of her trip has fell through and they’re needing a pilot! She needs to go from Harrodsburg,PA to Boston,PA via flight. They are very nervous and scared about flying commercial due to her condition and how fragile she is. The agency helping has reached out to every resource they have and have been unsuccessful. Does anyone have any suggestions or could provide help in any way?? They’re desperate.",6.5500000000000025,9.172894000000003,6.1999999999999975,71.98500000000001,67.33333333333334,9.911111111111113,34.77777777777778,10.203070172399654,4.269177777777776,840,41,126,23,15,261,107,180,0.055,0.8240000000000001,0.12,0.9034,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,4,2,4,4,0,2,9,0,15,2,0,1,0,16,22,8,0,4,1,2,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,4,4,10,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,1,2,3,15,2,22,19,2,23,0,0,0,0,26,7,0,1,8,78,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884042366912758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884744076349106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435511620248797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287044306588954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371164916213395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191082132358474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844035479571086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803424062815595,0.0,0.11306450140664533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842669597417021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168737042907426,0.12483008970119415,0.12510578614661766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28482576094570944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144666229849693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14834140738340304,0.0,0.09579427449283864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061744458777217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153352611745387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970503279516404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243252426715925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665719604503786,0.0,0.11221093889320734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291722139383808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103603306327417
parenting,ceb1990,2020/02/22,"Remind me, why did we have children... Tonight, I spent a good hour cleaning up different stages of vomit from my 13 month old daughter. She  had 3 baths, 3 changes of pajamas, and finally fell asleep after vomiting up some water before bed. The culprit? Very rich pizza that I will not be feeding her again. 

Poor girl, shes such a trooper. Her 3 year old sister kept saying proudly, ""I'm not throwing up mommy"".  Yes, dear, fortunately for me it's not a competition. 

Now I'm in bed, hoping I get to fall asleep all night tonight. Fingers crossed!",2.4542919580419564,4.984935355769236,3.6415034965035,85.79440559440562,80.05769230769229,6.08951048951049,27.72377622377623,7.348242739294969,1.7077230769230771,423,19,79,6,11,137,83,104,0.028999999999999998,0.7929999999999999,0.177,0.9401,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,1,6,8,3,0,1,9,12,1,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,2,1,4,2,2,2,3,1,0,1,3,4,3,0,0,0,4,2,11,5,10,6,2,21,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,2,12,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159139780005612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684231843178481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651042043598234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779596730963965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256863234504102,0.0,0.0,0.2128250012686152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520209875771395,0.24988270329316115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025327785482268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238117720491597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5325147122256538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20178416400057986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20936200285739529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22896080568123076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340018543695725
parenting,GifCaptioner,2020/02/22,Breaking the news to kids I’m sure you’ve all already had this talk with your children and I know I need to but I’m not sure exactly how to word it to where they don’t get too scared you know? Especially for parents of multiple kids I’m wondering does it get easier after the first kid to give the talk? I just wanted to ask how do I break the news to my kids that black people exist,-0.4061883899233294,1.81383002409639,1.8539320920043807,95.21009857612269,92.13253012048193,5.427820372398687,17.184008762322016,6.980632752743323,0.04455180722891639,304,8,70,5,11,102,55,83,0.047,0.848,0.105,0.5873,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,1,1,5,3,0,1,4,0,3,0,0,2,4,19,15,4,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,8,2,11,14,1,5,0,0,1,0,13,1,0,1,2,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620893794943221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220323236775022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078396138878498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201909269277488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24817000068249356,0.2278335742757225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610497925392069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761047347992114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637178812695714,0.0,0.0,0.1646539929587801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377809496491729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4476856769700207,0.0,0.0,0.3817902465978072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008484195483428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575608041885426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,michaelz_gurl,2020/02/22,"Why me??!! So here’s a good one, I just washed a literal turd in my washing machine! To say I was initially pissed off would be the understatement of the century. How in the literal hell the daycare sent me home a lovely packaged big ole turd in my son’s soiled underpants I will never get but I digress. 

I opened my washing machine to the faintest smell of soggy excrement, and I’m pulling the clothes out excruciatingly slowly... I even thought maybe I washed one of my younger sons diapers so I was really starting to panic as I got farther down..

And then I saw it, the smallest piece of something, I reach in slowly and smeared on my finger is the culprit. Fricking b-e-a-utiful. 

I dumped about 2 whole litres of vinegar and let it rinse on a hot cycle and now the clothes are also being rewashed. As for my current mental state, I’m nursing a mug of hot tea trying to get over this horrifying event and I just hope some other parents can find the humour in my misfortune. Have a good night all. 

Oh and I do not give permission for this to be used on any other social media sites, get yer own material ya filthy jackals!",4.262635135135138,5.480240162162161,5.3951238738738745,81.09511824324326,70.8018018018018,8.072522522522524,31.442567567567572,8.472884824447931,2.4249,884,39,171,14,16,293,141,222,0.12,0.802,0.079,-0.9224,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,0,10,9,3,1,16,0,13,8,2,2,2,22,27,15,0,2,4,3,3,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,6,9,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,2,6,6,24,5,28,15,5,26,1,0,1,1,9,16,2,2,7,114,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958300708936095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271997251427261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235440916179005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095938517061313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931761261740255,0.17943443213615448,0.0,0.3137756311388277,0.14960016191842265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762538470767084,0.1857818488567514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127026186283602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881901338163166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879158482381563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885013842078388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442637097514538,0.0,0.0,0.17553280297714705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534984685147906,0.0,0.0,0.2194616839431736,0.2076957639811635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982837054651126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874886182472102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067288631180512,0.0,0.1439994483524844,0.0,0.0,0.13239423552592444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849600186951312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126993983755003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155026813791826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878261689285154,0.20883351375215092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287423345790053,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iluvmychildren,2020/02/22,"Shoplifting, drugs, etc My 15 yr old, who has ASD, started high school at a large public high school last year. He is in 10th grade this year. His graduating class is 900 students or so to give you an idea to the size. He is involved in ROTC there. He has another activity outside of school that he is heavily involved in. In the last few months, I am unsure when it started for sure, he started acting so angry and vengeful and such that I started to get concerned that drugs might be a part of the equation. We are zoned for a wealthy high school and there has been an outspoken group to give awareness to drug problems and use with high school aged students. Apparently, there is an actual suicide and drug death rate at our school. I also noticed he kept having money for bringing home big bags of candy and such. He also started going out with some friends from school from ROTC but never wanted me to meet these kids. He would have them pick him up from our house, but they would pull up to the front and he would dash out, making sure to get out before we could stop him or see who it was. Then I started getting calls from the school that he was blowing up at other students on social media and threatening suicide and such. He claimed he didn't mean it, he was just angry. 

So I bought him a new phone. And he set up the new phone and I took the old one and did not wipe it. Then I watched his social media. He went out one more time with his friends and did drugs and shoplifted a lot of stuff. Apparently, the one drug he did not do that at least one friend did was LSD. However, his description of ""being stoned"" as in..the physical description he gave matched LSD, but I guess could have been something else. I went to his room and found the stolen stuff. Also, by this point, he is flunking half his classes at school and what he is passing, he is behind in and is only getting a C. 

I have already taken action, which has included taking him to the doctor and other such things, but I want to know what you all would do? Also, my husband wants a complete ban from the friends he was doing drugs with and shoplifting with. I agree. But he has a big ROTC function coming up, (like a prom but not) and wants to go. OH..and to add to it, I found texts on his social media where he sent a picture of a girl, who is not pretty at all, to friends and they totally went on and on about how much they hate her and how ugly she is. I will update more on the measures we have taken, but want to know what you all would do before I say what we have done. Thank you all so much! I feel so worried and scared and unsure of everything.",5.3641403958944265,5.279894899621212,5.400307917888565,86.68134897360706,67.80681818181819,8.025024437927664,28.585288367546433,7.233258080335977,1.3697443059628536,2049,61,434,16,31,642,231,528,0.11699999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.061,-0.9894,3,0,8,0,0,2,61.0,6,4,4,0,22,13,1,1,26,0,52,8,0,5,8,94,96,49,3,13,14,1,1,1,5,7,8,1,2,2,26,40,0,3,7,0,2,14,6,4,0,5,25,4,46,9,65,60,15,72,0,1,2,0,77,34,0,6,24,297,72,18,0.0,0.0,0.05282061485135281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973102280726315,0.1731429125180901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05675738477159505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211700171109392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527021135845367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04662603332349877,0.056751635491015084,0.0,0.0,0.0864327806260375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05540177182696484,0.0,0.05539120716844386,0.0,0.0,0.4393948668207996,0.0,0.04521656606876711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060366450843692625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048646291032104175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02736848145661362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869598131876773,0.20909379321420088,0.0,0.11311750212423748,0.10384802655933856,0.06152379124664404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05962752426364872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05343968283500693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22875462789505474,0.05429427814485322,0.0,0.0,0.06245584740907813,0.0,0.06110333922386275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05949409755586255,0.08824224492999205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026443953821983918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04601724992998419,0.0,0.0,0.036130514817105414,0.0,0.0,0.05896069636237523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742070514450101,0.0,0.0,0.043204040055320365,0.0,0.07957985512221112,0.0,0.041746451289933456,0.1045533196072888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162449748112224,0.1135953751385789,0.0,0.14671273165174914,0.041166389452446335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05861478876803757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116796642823018,0.0,0.0,0.05506710879465592,0.0,0.051792690592549866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04304434653245274,0.05419105251052391,0.4930191173680071,0.04313259557395757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655284556547301,0.0,0.04166998039064152,0.0,0.0,0.2298702638649684,0.0,0.0,0.04525299896503927,0.0,0.0,0.12392603495111446,0.11841336102667925,0.0,0.10202902320260046,0.0,0.04069713052586809,0.0,0.0,0.04983331354878324,0.0,0.0,0.03595989418595389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03156217027638783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013762456860481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04674876593229525,0.0,0.0,0.15962895760790127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053015542917156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054969085800373005,0.0,0.1922530525623611,0.0,0.0,0.06971264806880698
parenting,MusicasEnd,2020/02/23,"Do you read to your child regularly? If so, where do you go to find your books/stories? For those who read to their child regularly, where do you find your books/stories?

And do you have any ""criteria"" you have when picking the right books/stories?

Thanks for sharing!",3.3520000000000003,5.9358422,3.1780000000000013,90.089,77.0,6.4,26.0,7.554174236665415,1.2864000000000009,210,8,42,3,5,63,28,50,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.7877,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,8,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,8,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,5,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,1,29,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182785070520308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5867427672458062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242125043619725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6421369600255937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27411654781173805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955167484560373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vitaminscan,2020/02/23,"1 year old impossible to administer liquid antibiotics Title pretty much says it all. I've read posts, looked at videos, tried everything, captain hook, ice cream, syringe in the side of the mouth, trying to close his mouth after, slow, fast, swaddled and no matter what he spits it out. He's supposed to get 5.63ml and we go through 20ml hopping 2 or 3 went down but we always wind up stoping because he goes into melt down and so does my wife. Any tips?",2.784712643678162,5.333691839080462,3.3708045977011523,88.11298850574714,78.88505747126436,5.705747126436782,23.459770114942533,6.937597516519254,0.8640252873563217,358,12,68,4,9,112,76,87,0.019,0.943,0.038,0.1406,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,12,4,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,8,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,13,3,2,17,0,0,2,0,9,9,0,1,5,31,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23306911016132395,0.0,0.0,0.19048044245185167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074890369662138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24512104890549635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517395689827067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634286923520587,0.0,0.15918965621028427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352169588250615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059087959547688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939222103997864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682623692686784,0.28496664265610466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801799726237043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227500804957712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38034469315454383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25965937411090634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803779034860317
parenting,EternalSadness10,2020/02/23,"Please give me your best free/cheap activities to do with kids ( 14 and 9 years old) I have been a single mom for 18 months now and it is expensive and exhausting, especially the weekends. Does anyone have any out of the box ideas they will share? I live in Northern Ca, great weather so we can be outside (no yard, 1 bedroom apartment) . My 14 year old has autism and adhd its hard to get him to do much... Open to all suggestions!",4.0500392156862715,5.076688376470589,4.650294117647062,86.95465686274514,71.11764705882352,8.019607843137255,27.10784313725491,8.344100000000001,1.5789607843137254,332,11,71,5,6,106,73,85,0.043,0.8109999999999999,0.145,0.8805,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,1,1,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,1,10,12,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,2,8,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,3,9,9,4,11,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,7,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27324077797004825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461160102559068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589743748121703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23859875676265285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989629871105042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878545125100262,0.2181030249912848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25066358873073114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20366859060586764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566601131159323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007617528052793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26627956965244565,0.1814754144129212,0.0,0.16713468426484634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4771490756945134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495713981849852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928228860520869
parenting,Patch99000,2020/02/23,"Help? My sister has snuck her boyfriend into the house and hid him here for approximately 3-4 days and she had friends over that helped hide and would often go outside to take “walks” to give them privacy. She got into trouble, but a few days later my parents are allowing those friends back into the house. I am really frustrated, because those friends helped my sister hide a guy in the house while my grandma was alone there, we don’t know if he goes to school because he was here for 3 weekdays. I don’t know if I have any power to stop them, because I’m 17 and their child, but at the same time it’s obviously not safe to allow this to happen. Any advice? I don’t want to remove myself from the house obviously but I would like a ways that legally punish my sister and her friends only, if it’s possible. 

Thanks for the help in advance. It’s safe to say this is a dysfunctional family, despite us being upper middle class.",4.999873188405797,5.693127646739132,5.717173913043477,81.3836231884058,68.72826086956522,8.307246376811595,28.3768115942029,8.344100000000001,1.8729724637681155,733,24,144,10,12,239,110,184,0.14400000000000002,0.7070000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.4221,2,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,3,2,5,11,2,0,10,0,14,0,0,2,2,30,24,12,0,6,7,4,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,2,9,9,0,3,2,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,4,1,21,8,19,17,2,21,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,4,8,93,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207016998432984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279288169280418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799481596512908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949787719517008,0.0,0.22588878640398136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931955166606127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644307009570035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817230387209463,0.0,0.0,0.1184910359306877,0.07019890508013386,0.0,0.0987897247483797,0.0,0.0,0.12230359704023824,0.10922777190203566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311697229877664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5700990807140291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357660320512199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603453254969605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394204768945336,0.0,0.0,0.13715364403343494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924953174701046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912967199722606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982275615738444,0.0,0.12500819790026604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326772503999317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287119486398908,0.0,0.0,0.1137200415239496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202513858331278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857859484978014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285492532951808,0.09804392739634613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175489234518555,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AccidentalPorkchop,2020/02/23,"Postpartum hair and bald spots. Just wondering if any other ladies are having the same issues as me. 

I’m 13 months postpartum with my second baby and recently I’ve noticed that I’ve got some terrible bald spots that have developed near my temples. 

I’ve always had thick and healthy hair and for a decade or so I’ve had the same haircut most of the time (think Bettie Page)but now all of a sudden it is looking so bad. I can’t wear the fringe/bangs without the bald spots being very very noticeable. I’m lost with what to do. 

Anyone else experience hair loss so long after their baby? I had the initial “shedding” of hair after my son but this seems like something else or a more extreme hair loss than after my first baby. 

Please help with hair suggestions/styles to cover the bald spots or share your experiences.",4.198461538461538,6.204979840764331,4.452484076433123,84.65080842724159,72.24840764331209,7.378539931406173,25.452719255267034,8.139509932561175,1.5705672709456144,653,21,122,10,13,204,100,157,0.07,0.8390000000000001,0.091,0.6396,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,4,5,7,0,0,10,0,10,11,11,0,1,22,18,13,0,1,7,1,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,0,2,5,8,9,2,16,12,6,12,0,3,1,0,5,2,0,8,11,73,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985190599942794,0.0,0.0,0.12246949987180647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592529956699106,0.18452668780122192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037023591680415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30088939185724745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35233126456542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318711914299912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403692295979936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071262471401248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797043163297514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798440345621347,0.0,0.0,0.15937674740381766,0.15123286641857833,0.0,0.19659291880850596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374861326544736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4100744302962704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768816903308334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782023320181795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395001612492152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386444852908024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153964019190498,0.0,0.0,0.10501374878528194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29719137610172963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360334474966665,0.19530331055292394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Victoria_Eremita,2020/02/23,"Has anyone here ever had a bonding issue with a child, or just a general dislike of parenting/regret that never got better? You always see people post about people who think they’ve made a big mistake, are struggling to bond with their young child, hate being a parent, etc... and there are a million people who have a similar story, but it always improved. Anyone just hated parenting or didn’t bond with their kid and had it stay like that for the duration? You hear about this from a child’s perspective quite a bit on various subs, but it seems like parents only ever tell their story once it’s resolved, or when they’re begging for help in a rough time, but everyone insists it will resolve.",11.573409090909088,7.800566492424243,10.618121212121212,65.95718181818184,58.31818181818181,12.984242424242424,40.7939393939394,10.355215969177356,4.250064848484849,555,19,94,8,5,178,89,132,0.11,0.747,0.14400000000000002,0.7755,4,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,3,4,9,9,2,1,11,0,9,0,0,1,3,23,17,9,0,1,8,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,4,10,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,5,3,5,5,12,10,3,11,0,0,1,0,17,3,0,4,8,66,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445390140105155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549387336593727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996037489361506,0.16042521962580564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388184194080158,0.0,0.2658392336037079,0.0,0.1404116653174828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752485524552615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29015433351912,0.0,0.0,0.1656170112618603,0.0,0.09849372962362817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153371769641803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357921660047468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904233825948248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333257523456143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649098351473836,0.0,0.11175783295572346,0.0,0.0,0.4894930784294013,0.0,0.0,0.30561822164307595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073210995588498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15629345041337914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709565680199994,0.13377265715375508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566231720809133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361818531465546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843587690587288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941560341106149,0.0,0.0,0.08568445764580014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kshaf889,2020/02/23,I'm at a loss What age is it expected for a kid to be able to wipe himself after using the toilet? I have an 8nyear old stepson who REFUSES to wipe after he poops then refuses to wash his hands with soap...i feel he should have learned all this by now?,4.665555555555557,3.897139629629635,5.852222222222222,85.165,69.37037037037037,9.422222222222222,29.11111111111111,8.841846274778883,1.9257111111111112,196,6,45,3,3,66,43,54,0.053,0.9470000000000001,0.0,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,3,2,1,1,9,8,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,10,6,1,7,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,0,6,29,7,1,0.567714637211903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28705357849057744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5957210118727451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4903231687208184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shinesoe,2020/02/23,"My Dad works overseas and I hate it he works overseas for the United Nations. I hate it. He’s been working overseas for my whole life and comes back every 2 months for about 2 weeks to see the family. I hate him so much for it. I wish he could be there for me. I wish he didn’t live this double life. He says he sacrificed working overseas for us to live a better life. I don’t believe that because you can get a job here in the states even if it’s not a better job, at least he can be with his family. (This is how I learned money isn’t everything) This fucking sucks. I feel like he’s selfish for choosing his work over our family. He’s not a good dad either. I never felt the love from him. I always tell myself when I have a kid, I will be such a better father than he ever was. Be there for my kid always through thick and thin. I just wanted to rant about this. Thank you. If anyone has any advice please feel free to comment. Thank you.",0.8228894472361787,2.794902683417092,2.462359296482415,95.13072487437185,82.46733668341709,4.985025125628142,18.4927135678392,5.985473137389443,-0.3120635175879398,730,17,164,5,20,239,110,199,0.121,0.733,0.146,0.4761,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,3,0,8,13,15,5,0,10,0,16,5,0,1,2,23,33,8,0,6,6,3,5,1,0,1,3,1,0,2,9,5,0,0,5,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,4,7,27,10,21,23,5,14,0,0,1,2,28,6,2,2,7,107,36,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766251954900072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335018816425516,0.0,0.0,0.07492332411829204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703748316132912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847183917481326,0.0,0.06716214688412822,0.0,0.0,0.1241304012478954,0.0,0.2923246331926833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949066986382904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796641359592776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277007877809277,0.09966032148265977,0.0928278658573186,0.0,0.09901890754510437,0.0,0.3115918249734589,0.0,0.1114163928022328,0.0787096156658344,0.1057860487376372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018557545093395,0.05756230972049368,0.0,0.0,0.0924102362872928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32632738703884506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866496811237926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334612837992665,0.05382633214314293,0.0,0.1945745050980582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994379637434741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794127480324185,0.0,0.08099189218350343,0.0,0.08497437138395796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209399465035876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761622066569319,0.0,0.0,0.08779585046883571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962985080029818,0.20287015360314625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252792540075953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498454315650411,0.0,0.08837638345166214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230073494267212,0.2533934721795165,0.0,0.0,0.4010464837986447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greedy-Breath,2020/02/23,"Explaining to our teen why her mom and I are having another baby but not getting back together? I hope this is the right forum for this question, but if not, please let me know where I should go.

My ex and I have a 13 YO daughter. We are also expecting our second child in late May/early June. 

We are dealing with a situation right now with our daughter related to the baby and the relationship between her mother and me. She seems to have assumed once she found out about the baby that her mother and I would be getting back together. Part of this may be our fault because we didn't clarify that our relationship status was not changing when we told her we were having a baby, but we did not think she'd assume this since we've been broken up for a long time now (since she was 6).

Once we realized she thought we'd become a couple again we immediately told her that we had no plans like that right now, but now she is fixated on this question of why her mother and I are having another baby but not getting back together. She knows that sometimes relationships are fluid and can be unconventional since she has friends with parents who divorced and had more children with another partner, but she hasn't seen something like this. 

We've tried to redirect her and get her not to focus so much on this without providing a ""real"" answer, but I think this has only made her more curious. She's naturally very thoughtful and inquisitive, so I think that also plays a role. 

My ex and I aren't sure how to handle this. Partly because the real answer is that we've had on-off flings since we broke up and we've been careless many times and finally that caught up to us. We were just not responsible, so we obviously don't want to tell her that. We have always tried to be honest with our daughter and give her age-appropriate answers, but we aren't sure what that looks like here. Should we keep trying to give her vague answers and hope that she eventually gets less curious or stops pushing for an answer? Should we tell her that this is complicated and private and not something we're going to share with her? Should we try to give her some form of answer based on the real truth but with a cleaned-up version?   

Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.",7.902409090909092,6.853947695454547,7.97909090909091,73.47863636363641,62.95454545454545,10.90909090909091,34.54545454545455,10.018931242160765,3.228568181818182,1806,64,341,32,22,588,197,440,0.068,0.812,0.12,0.9824,1,0,2,0,1,0,37.0,25,1,0,1,20,16,0,0,15,0,48,0,0,2,4,108,79,36,0,11,22,10,0,3,2,7,0,0,0,3,24,42,0,2,21,1,0,4,15,3,0,1,19,2,65,13,36,45,9,32,0,1,2,0,85,12,0,12,19,251,89,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754028411671142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691295868050334,0.06602588227855011,0.0,0.0,0.0539609871981186,0.2496174122372444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830466589555687,0.0,0.0967425241968888,0.0876362730662002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394219262295026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779969882408299,0.0,0.0,0.0818067692773711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692447517067386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870036084848501,0.061305915564452584,0.0,0.2072865222195446,0.2283603777729013,0.09019331213499653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762568600762802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053027381343986,0.0,0.0,0.08721779985134684,0.0,0.08951069776768504,0.0,0.0,0.08114115136790058,0.0,0.11629977929617895,0.0,0.0,0.07022259938464083,0.06663434387573867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508325896218887,0.0,0.08044884235102608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293421938472717,0.0,0.0,0.058331667857732236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169011154265214,0.0,0.060349548331156376,0.0,0.0,0.0881092191725693,0.1718574825107474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710290129036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778119713368634,0.0,0.0,0.27095435230046605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555778729507165,0.0,0.20329440209707603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223761614531472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625578550271612,0.08919316459335566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217561603007755,0.07847956608649555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634048029218448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957360965694566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387114792008585,0.0730551793469283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15253358035708645,0.0,0.12599069450600642,0.09253970269757836,0.0,0.0,0.1516453989528009,0.0,0.2154948282774232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544875070749362,0.0,0.0,0.06547238315663473,0.04680291675002688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432027721632375,0.0,0.0,0.07649094569172712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273648276419425,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Remeran12,2020/02/23,"My 5 months old keeps shaking his head, is this normal? Our 5 month old son started shaking his head as if saying no. At first it was very cute but we noticed he does it all the time now. He will be laying down and start to do it out of no where. He will shake his head 3 or 4 times back and forth and continue doing what he was doing before shaking. We’ve noticed he mostly does it when he’s excited. Is this normal? Googling it came up with a range of different answers from its normal to a potential sign of autism. Thought I’d ask if anyone experienced this before?",1.8425407925407955,3.831276905982911,3.2829681429681443,90.46986013986016,79.08547008547009,5.9639471639471635,22.602175602175606,6.980632752743323,0.6551094017094017,446,14,94,5,11,146,80,117,0.1,0.855,0.045,-0.5413,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,4,6,0,4,3,0,10,3,3,0,1,20,16,9,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,10,7,0,1,2,0,0,5,2,4,0,1,4,3,6,2,12,9,2,23,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,4,13,57,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157022594840656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579990386738738,0.0,0.0,0.11169713545578128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24721369359017914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614047040860264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15176736159691168,0.0,0.0,0.25423865424928505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355936699965935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472406545176029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911510528775155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318927043151361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.426976316349719,0.0,0.3307623859866075,0.3048550402329048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155177838705286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20563369020207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532141381904115,0.16940631038381507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119855959542554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fisher-2,2020/02/23,"Attached to big sister Emelie is two, she will be three in March. She's in a phase where it's all about sissy. She freaks out when my daughter (15) leaves for school, because she doesn't want her sister to leave. Any time she leaves the house, it's a dramatic scene of tears and clinging. My daughter has amazing patience with her little sister, but I can tell it's slowly starting to drive her crazy. 



Any tips for tear free goodbyes to her big sister?",4.879588014981279,5.790017651685396,4.3815168539325855,90.06905430711613,69.11235955056179,6.3827715355805275,26.069288389513112,5.46131890053228,0.6344591760299627,357,10,72,1,6,107,63,89,0.09,0.833,0.077,0.4384,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,8,3,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,12,3,12,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,0,4,43,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155344140696054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142437561420407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676955809042064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7369600087572518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325238452924925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23479527181687115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421001494300322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027772636630764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528042380715535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266292137563743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683896163025674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zoostation1979,2020/02/23,"Do I say anything to my daughter about how her Mom’s new boyfriend and her started (affair)? Help needed:

Long story short I have a six year old daughter.

The ex was having an affair for the last four months of our relationship and she is planning to introduce this guy now to my daughter.

With my daughter being so young I always assumed you don’t say anything but the more I’ve been reading I’ve seen where it’s almost suggested to say something simple like “That’s the man Mommy left Daddy for”....obviously not going into details.

Not sure how I feel about that, seems really inappropriate to me at her age? Has anyone actually had experience with this?

For the record I’m not planning on saying anything but this was a perspective I had never thought of. Is there actually any benefit to the child to do that?",4.1648076923076935,6.195277147435903,5.3528205128205135,78.05884615384616,72.3974358974359,7.620512820512822,28.66666666666667,8.384062270229773,2.2469128205128204,649,26,115,11,13,215,101,156,0.016,0.9159999999999999,0.067,0.8233,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,0,2,8,3,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,2,2,20,22,7,0,1,5,6,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,7,5,0,0,4,1,0,1,5,0,0,2,7,6,15,3,18,14,1,18,0,0,1,0,24,6,0,3,12,80,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.30817931711051977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811613049596565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138718505374578,0.0,0.0,0.10737883336070587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040881013031484,0.0,0.3898198886255338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544585394124177,0.0,0.0,0.0798400392478117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973939448546259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634789074354127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058384399974457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287112752253758,0.0,0.0,0.17156107875377133,0.0,0.0,0.07714298341182982,0.0,0.0,0.13973837746507828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493301503512585,0.12603593879145433,0.0,0.0,0.11708239620333008,0.12178382329063107,0.15250281887520925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569167755638098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579448168227174,0.0,0.10115611978218607,0.0,0.0,0.16952774745390808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022803069283132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374812895774516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156074041296165,0.0,0.0,0.11176390938348854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882084762037506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535661866867914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168376653826802
parenting,applebath,2020/02/23,"Toddler Ear Piercing My daughter is about to turn 3yo and has recently expressed a lot of interest in my earrings and getting her own. To the point where she is asking for them for her birthday. I was going to wait until early teens when she asks for them, but she remembers about them daily for the past week. 

Does anyone have experience with getting their toddlers ears pierced? Does it have to be with the piercing gun or are they able to do the needle? Which I think is more precise, but maybe more dangerous at this age. I worry about her flinching.",5.852,6.9220848666666654,5.543809523809526,82.03285714285717,67.0,7.904761904761906,32.14285714285714,7.957251820313856,2.2864285714285715,441,18,80,5,7,136,74,105,0.107,0.875,0.018000000000000002,-0.8979,0,0,0,1,0,0,9.0,0,0,5,0,5,2,1,0,5,0,10,2,2,0,1,12,18,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,16,1,18,16,4,12,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,2,7,63,19,0,0.2265520327465516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841044889352374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4235911366832535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965144211274294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216113599528866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23672817303950275,0.0,0.1287547411035087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19260643666376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276019675567725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162695501534231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416489903388936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236928008963413,0.0,0.2566392894224679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451653948138466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464235555743614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172637526132868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300745863514919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,njeyn,2020/02/23,"How to not take your kid to a birthday party Today the whole family went to a Frozen themed birthday party my kid (4) had been looking forward to all month. Everything was lined up perfectly, kid was rested clean and fed, outfit picked out and put on, gift was wrapped and card were written, baby was napping on the way there. Only problem was I realized when we got to the address that I had the day wrong despite email reminders and calendar notes. Party was yesterday. Nobody took this lightly. 100% my fault. So how’s your Sunday going?",5.696859971711457,7.006972405940599,5.809420084865633,79.11079207920794,67.51485148514851,8.147666195190949,31.26025459688826,8.418075326091056,2.5065660537482315,427,17,73,6,7,135,74,101,0.075,0.767,0.158,0.8555,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,0,1,5,4,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,3,2,14,18,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,6,1,0,1,1,0,5,1,3,0,0,15,2,7,1,9,3,3,16,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,0,7,47,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519121476755026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441407204592409,0.0,0.2560866219870789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543844597569303,0.0,0.2172626235039472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281168511722009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168277425075375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066014030338546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25993152874579445,0.0,0.2730824039119429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424633731381572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574916105085616,0.0,0.3018121767843944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21562243380083973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25182146344974105,0.0,0.303286550572594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970056775772702,0.0,0.0
parenting,Horsed_Shoe,2020/02/23,"Am I doing it wrong or is this supposed to happen I have a 2 month old almost 3 months, and so far he's been easily agitated and pretty fussy with which parent he's held by. My husband take him and he's cry, but as soon as I come into the picture he calms down and immediately locks his eyes on me even making turn his head to me. I understand it could be just a phase and he'll grow out of it, but it's kinda affecting our schedules as far as who's working and watching him. Our schedules are perfect because we don't have to send him to daycare. 

Anyway that's one thing I wanted to bring up, the other is my husband's priority as far as computer games before the baby. I've watched him several times where he'll be holding the baby and the baby is crying, but he doesn't tend to the baby and tells him to wait because he was very busy in the game. It upsets me how he's been putting the game before our son, and even caring for him, he doesn't seem like he wants to engage or be involved with the caring bit. I almost feel like I'm a single parent having to take care of the baby, take care of the dog, take care of husband, and taking care of myself (if I can, been eating shitty out of stress and depression). It's so activating when my husband takes that brief break from computer to talk about his recent ""adventures"" on it, and not a moment goes by he's walks right back to his computer, as if he's trying to escape his responsibilities and hoping I take care of everything. Heck, he tried to blame me for not doing taxes yet and all he's done is work and play on computer. Not much responsibilities to classify he's got too much going on.

I'm feeling lost I feel like I'm doing what I can.. but feeling like I'm falling alittle short somewhere.",4.380064678404601,4.693870355371903,5.8759611929572415,81.04540424002876,69.96418732782371,8.296514552641035,26.801892442208647,8.18289091462,1.5942103006348072,1381,40,284,18,23,471,179,363,0.10400000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.147,0.9620000000000001,2,0,0,0,1,0,32.0,4,0,0,4,14,22,0,2,15,0,26,3,2,3,2,55,66,34,0,6,12,7,4,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,15,22,1,3,6,4,1,9,6,5,0,1,8,7,33,17,46,52,5,38,0,2,3,0,46,16,1,9,16,179,48,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644045000689108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312288998201064,0.0,0.10008378868490296,0.0,0.13970674108036565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896220796046947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5858805163111085,0.0,0.0,0.07071410319628378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554296101413172,0.0,0.1803461552004542,0.0,0.0,0.07070483354426813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400756531656314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399955797351615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844062503802307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377807201169255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16603064718123256,0.17593741952650988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04665419094368012,0.0,0.0656556491361691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259277507039702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424902010064897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081534857502755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042200858146805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961199277735962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479636098539836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310484606645088,0.0,0.1206926192587183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614066549943501,0.0,0.05562696688269328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230461828579864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351603034744455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252410012980628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105493091982248,0.0,0.0,0.07010524120326735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473253741730798,0.0,0.092739431634405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403493060373423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4320553600350836,0.0659816134159928,0.07175112747862072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054537593853419684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047867905694185066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146876223796466,0.08929140407765168,0.0,0.08545959652227737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773364882654534,0.0968387638989771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952641003741467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975359058070632,0.0,0.0
parenting,4DEF12345,2020/02/23,"Not the way I envisioned... Being naked surrounded by 10 HOT sheriffs.  Woke up naked (because that is how I sleep) to sheriffs in the living room surrounding my 17 yo because he called 911 because he thought he was dying.  He muttered “help me” and the phone dropped. He ate a pot cookie that was laced and his heart was beating so fast and he was passing out.  All the while a “friend” knew he was having this reaction and stood by and did nothing. After an ambulance ride and visit to the Er, my son is physically okay. Clearly we aren’t okay. Dealing.",3.5654926624737944,5.539294207547172,4.254276729559752,85.53904612159329,73.90566037735849,6.975262054507338,29.70230607966457,7.793537801064563,1.984716142557652,430,19,82,6,9,137,75,106,0.027000000000000003,0.861,0.11199999999999999,0.8126,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,8,2,11,3,2,1,2,14,16,9,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,11,1,7,3,8,4,1,14,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,3,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.508391716652954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838652058885227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866018793149797,0.0,0.0,0.28851616957343384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147791774336429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294268399675068,0.18633499547884846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454757410558535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667448551168148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781969693041299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22069793331643775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22066044689479752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,morrisj1994,2020/02/23,"Feeding my 13 month old What kind of things should I keep around to easily feed my 13 month old for dinner? My boyfriend works out of town and I usually eat a late lunch so when i get home from work with my son and it’s just he and I, sometimes I’m not in the mood to genuinely cook dinner. 

Looking for new ideas of things I can keep around that are healthy and relatively easy to feed a one year old. As far as taste goes he’ll eat about anything.",2.8075037593984966,3.8054759157894793,3.3660150375939857,95.1021052631579,74.05263157894737,7.112781954887217,23.045112781954884,7.447530270364453,0.5118270676691732,352,9,85,4,7,110,66,95,0.0,0.912,0.08800000000000001,0.7906,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,3,0,3,10,0,0,0,14,9,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,8,10,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,9,1,17,7,0,16,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,10,46,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500821938975946,0.2920981357196778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357507100410749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571509814346166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456655397864656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520489296923398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916498997267755,0.0,0.17084427915660005,0.0,0.0,0.1850679475417298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776991537792274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26190384080218104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15845113060436375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5164632464012131,0.0,0.11117197565601568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226051837165675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21798966925505286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069000683670608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388767155856665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564990136531753
parenting,debbiea2019,2020/02/23,"Baby sleep association !! HELP!!! I have a daughter who is 11 months old and will only settle at night time on myself or my husband, this was never an issue until a week ago. She would sleep all night through from 7.30pm till 7.30am, but now she is wakening up in the night and wont settle until she has been cuddled back to sleep - which would be fine if she would stay sleeping but when placed back in her cot. As a result of this she is very cranky during the day because she is over tired! Tonight is the first night we are trying to break this sleep association by placing her down drowsy and going in every five to ten mins to settle her to stop the crying. Has anyone else had similar situation ? How did you break the association and did it take long ?? Thank you",5.035600000000001,5.902910693333332,5.364000000000001,83.32200000000002,68.73333333333333,7.6,24.333333333333336,7.554174236665415,0.9797333333333328,604,14,121,6,10,192,103,150,0.078,0.875,0.048,-0.7809,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,2,0,1,5,2,0,0,9,0,20,7,5,2,2,17,23,14,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,5,0,15,2,21,12,1,37,0,0,0,1,16,10,0,2,23,89,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567578351243946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335701566923277,0.12214855997428235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833360078400425,0.0,0.07267158661551218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095069052278369,0.07688299704531508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995877787783523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044271374501694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014031424553769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775191312580116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990645394023571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442816708684327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055004044170155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515526625389384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919449820563632,0.0,0.0,0.44749605976008205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250947614237216,0.0,0.0,0.09066741777026556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491059603458597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340012334816902,0.5964991508140239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706598007488565,0.0,0.0996680208561936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963389271003057,0.0,0.0,0.1097559907123617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951448782000134,0.1370186518264812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093830096104375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836381680114144,0.0,0.0,0.09562606769931796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540580517183719,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,j1331s,2020/02/23,"5 years olds - comfort or punishment? My youngest had a soccer class today that involved parent participation. My husband is working this weekend and I couldn’t find a sitter for my 5 year old and had to bring him along. There are other families in the class who allow their older children to help along the younger child, so I let my 5 year old know that that he could help out, but could not fully participate in the class on his own. 

Of course we get there and everything I said went in one ear and out the other.  I kept reminding my oldest of what we discussed but he started to get upset and started crying. I pulled him off to the side to whisper the riot act to him but then the youngest realized we weren’t beside him and started freaking out from across the gym. 5 year old still crying.

At this point I realize we are not cut out for this today and decide we should leave. Everyone is still crying on our way out.  It was probably not as bad as it seemed to me, but I was mortified. I don’t often have to deal with public meltdowns anymore and forgot how awful it feels.

In the car, I told 5 year old no screens for the day. He was upset, told me I ruined his day, etc. and when we got home he went straight to his room with no pushback. I went and checked on him about 15 minutes later and he was still crying and seemed genuinely upset that I was upset with him. At this point I feel terrible for him and we hug and I comfort him. I eventually allow him to watch a show later on.

I keep teetering on my thoughts with 5 year old. I am unsure if he is just too young to understand and handle his emotions or if I should be stern to prevent these situations in the future. I feel like a failure to not sticking to my guns while also feel like an asshole for punishing him in the first place.  I often feel like I hold him to unreasonable standards but on the other hand 5 is not a baby.

What do you guys think - do 5 year old need comfort and forgiveness or strict punishment? Is there a middle ground? What would you have done in this situation?",3.4130825242718466,4.878242480582525,4.467657766990289,85.96347694174757,73.22330097087378,7.285922330097089,25.739077669902912,7.865858978985527,1.376122330097087,1610,53,328,22,32,525,193,412,0.168,0.732,0.1,-0.99,2,0,0,1,0,0,33.0,8,2,1,2,15,20,4,4,20,1,30,3,2,3,0,84,58,34,0,9,16,2,6,3,0,3,0,3,2,3,20,34,0,5,16,4,1,7,10,12,0,2,19,11,56,8,54,31,2,73,0,1,2,1,48,30,0,9,38,233,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060080193152957324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450723333370922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272911641213001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996790580075202,0.0,0.33010029183684586,0.09690326817151926,0.07745413156393334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688248689493146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450939259292166,0.0,0.0,0.0837880794287464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178845213732445,0.06752060523594186,0.0,0.07082441502126295,0.0,0.18993600469146305,0.16101533594151232,0.0,0.0,0.06866604089744767,0.06390421994733445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850302709785112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06008708341050455,0.0,0.0,0.07438897573081925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071403083105553,0.0,0.07535995948323564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677761700458103,0.0,0.0,0.04128863053800889,0.0,0.0,0.07955017931050097,0.0,0.07682392873858228,0.0,0.11011189521396204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05570679264207138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.551842681429629,0.0,0.05090898106911616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834212512493798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849323844741306,0.0,0.14204133505867472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810011743276302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146435880157502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367882358442385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889504783140932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952890767833905,0.0,0.17999302815029775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04813927626958042,0.0,0.05964359621031319,0.0,0.0,0.1424259693508856,0.1435769042746489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782113644754646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05963346550830759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893447342430266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054694405311422084,0.0,0.0,0.05336909430115077,0.0,0.0,0.3386618037302937
parenting,Radiant-Scallion,2020/02/23,"Single Father - I have no idea what to do now. Someone hacked my daughter's (15yo) snapchat account and posted illegal underage content. Last night, I received an urgent text from my sister that my daughter's (15yo) snapchat account posted VERY explicit videos of her & another boy (who is supposedly 16).

I asked my Mother to review & unfortunately it's true. I raced home from work to pick up my daughter. Here are the facts:

* My daughter had sexual relationships with another guy last week
* Someone logged into my daughter's snapchat account, changed the password/email & started posting the explicit videos to all 800 of her friends. 
* As of this morning (10:06am) the illegal underage content is still live on snapchat.

Last night, I filed a police report & when they came, my daughter and I shared all the information with them. The account ID, the people who we think it is & their names/phone number (it's either the guy in the video or the gf of the guy).

We've emailed all the support accounts we could find on Snapchat's website urging them to remove the content. We've also linkedin bombed executives/PR/legal/communication employees at snapchat this morning.

I think we have everything covered on that front. If there's something we're missing, please let me know.

So what do I do with my daughter? She's basically in her room freaking out & she won't give me her phone. She's hiding it in her shorts & said she'll only give it to her mom (who's a deadbeat) or grandma (who's another deadbeat). So I took away her charger and I'm trying to figure out what to do at this point.

She's on the verge of having a melt down. I know she's a victim in this situation but she's also in HUGE TROUBLE for what she's done. What's the best way to approach this? She's already having academic issues & she honestly should have been held back in school through elementary.

My family is saying an all-girls Christian boarding school is needed to get her away from the unhealthy situation she's in right now. I don't have full-custody of her. Her negative influences are when she's with her mom (who currently has a warrant out for her arrest by the way). The goods news I think is that her mom would probably not oppose a boarding school.

Anyway, if anyone has advice I'd love to hear it.

Thank you for reading.",4.0895117025068295,6.242463295711065,4.672154568135916,82.32955061185696,72.92776523702031,7.281668052750387,30.168052750386124,8.119692808369301,2.2541097065462754,1852,82,337,29,38,590,217,443,0.078,0.8420000000000001,0.08,0.4871,2,0,1,0,0,0,79.0,3,1,4,2,13,13,1,0,26,0,30,1,0,2,7,47,51,15,0,6,7,13,0,0,2,4,0,3,2,4,24,15,0,2,9,4,5,6,5,4,0,0,7,3,57,9,51,38,6,52,1,1,0,1,70,27,0,4,14,217,81,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975829918391954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877704618371041,0.11417590537359056,0.0,0.6187800508183804,0.0,0.0,0.22456567347821546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04991527061837222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673696832113737,0.0,0.13414039015011872,0.05489199902345762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491598269901317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164741649114314,0.0,0.0,0.07551770868329795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699650559420789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730534231660499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415780167816414,0.0,0.0672970681620519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652461899375583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055153220656919216,0.0,0.037296626904333934,0.13696133767455645,0.0,0.05987581321326695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21205229730845848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045804773381691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160672387495481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058694376537354,0.0,0.07450921296574511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846457419521127,0.17456917052889445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299778144648059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303580204629998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442932279603514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508218722995348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293236549002587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398324510689233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05429283495740905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04949057925457506,0.0,0.0,0.07836120691606825,0.06748354648889572,0.0,0.2051063003897884,0.0,0.07696698304244705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714060613928354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664264637484282,0.0,0.060963888579336475,0.0679051401128137,0.056769603388113064,0.0,0.21674158560046708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604833805225362,0.0,0.0,0.1209715115843808,0.05495700249935637,0.0,0.0,0.05052790421035717,0.0,0.05700954527469161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100883012856434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572332195929619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722522757497665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931329827225986,0.04846691263388101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05890153930375412,0.0,0.11332694782857335,0.05726213935396484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05197039920796552,0.0,0.0,0.05071109413121522,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cpavloski,2020/02/23,"Toddler pocketing food - idk what to do anymore My 3 1/2 year old has been pocketing her food for over a year now. It’s literally anything, even foods she likes. She keeps in her cheek and just lets it sit there. Now trying new foods is even harder because she’ll end up finally eating it and it’s sat in her cheek for a few mins and doesn’t like it. Like ew, no wonder you don’t like it after keeping it in your mouth... 
I’m losing my mind. We’ve tried everything. Her pedi knows. And it really makes any time eating miserable for everyone. She can sit at the table with zero distractions and still pocket. We’ve tried positive approaches, we’ve tried just letting her eat at her own pace and how much she wants, putting her to sleep hungry because we don’t push her to eat, etc. 
What do I do?! I just want the pocketing to stop, she can be a picky eater for all I care but this needs an end😭",1.5483937198067643,3.609875119565221,3.018405797101451,91.62900966183577,80.41304347826087,6.697584541062803,20.54830917874396,7.793537801064563,0.7163294685990338,698,19,153,12,18,228,111,184,0.055999999999999994,0.87,0.07400000000000001,0.4926,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,2,0,1,11,8,0,2,6,0,15,12,4,2,1,24,26,8,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,8,8,3,2,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,2,0,22,5,17,20,5,25,0,2,0,0,17,7,0,1,17,94,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297057630341633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064169922353912,0.0,0.0,0.0883022629235979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308233616589636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940384434945552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4391961853706292,0.0,0.0,0.1900794492331724,0.0,0.1196726143091556,0.141746903212641,0.0,0.0,0.10253381868941404,0.09643814971547578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754657165162515,0.0,0.0,0.5190109476690958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907539129374528,0.0,0.0,0.05897161495305905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194517515218803,0.0,0.209693764819242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004601938171525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716264266669317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834671342105916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888097756051793,0.07956474901568772,0.0,0.10363512279778396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259777017090768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787041876334058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874185652891142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738175368191352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569332050981246,0.08971116598354074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625699768241503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914101951484974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658166520902175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636689249102375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820085044274094
parenting,Sakurawings,2020/02/23,"Sleeping problems with LO Hello everyone, I'm hoping someone can give mr some advice I'm pretty desperate.

So every since 3 months old my LO has been able to sleep through the night perfectly, barely waking up but now that shes 9 months old I cant her her to do it. She wakes up randomly after a few hours of going to bed and she either goes to bed back to sleep after a few minutes or just doesnt go back to bed until 2 and a half hours later.  Recently I had to have her sleep with me because sometimes she just keeps crying ( I try to not pick her up for a while but sometimes I have to since I'm in an apartment complex and my husband also works) so bow she does this thing where she rolls, wakes up, cries and then she crawls to me. Its very cute and all but sometimes I want to move or roll over and I cant because shes on me. Sometimes i can get her back to her spot but sometimes as soon as I out her on her spot she starts crying.  I'm at a loss here. I have no idea why shes even waking up in the first place .she takes 2 naps during the day, should I increase? Decrease the amount ? Please, some tips would be appreciated.",0.6792500000000032,2.7256400916666657,2.314,95.571,83.5,4.84,19.183333333333334,5.927762680638738,-0.26817166666666603,882,23,200,6,25,288,135,240,0.08800000000000001,0.816,0.09699999999999999,0.2731,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,4,13,5,0,0,10,0,18,8,8,1,2,33,31,20,0,5,10,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,5,9,0,1,2,1,0,4,5,2,0,2,2,0,34,3,34,26,8,41,0,1,0,0,23,15,0,6,22,135,39,1,0.10174187938973517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994209870233876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136294418964264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346996752978609,0.0,0.12404181068399935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352760312370602,0.06561509531070146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903500428038344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719955178640259,0.0,0.08572192147712834,0.09721872580934694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654159063404558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053155932739923854,0.09760008153113624,0.11564450939943426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105264290448664,0.20039051371594674,0.0,0.0,0.11485419776688845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904328571585762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241879490947547,0.10813551638659236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547786162334042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21352197518650504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629860930709777,0.11168203105696292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350806820525098,0.0,0.09735323803503146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045783166557803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832386800552107,0.0,0.4072614246330257,0.0,0.08620556424204473,0.0,0.5031266012478389,0.0,0.07201342589463391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649723136796249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759278381461975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907605759326654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394770576811901,0.060009996505265076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180622121221982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406929993566244,0.0,0.0,0.07227451200134109,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stoprelax,2020/02/23,"How to raise bilingual kids I'm contemplating launching a subscription service for families raising bilingual kids.

The idea came when a realised that , as was trying to teach my son my native language - as his second language - I am not a great teacher and lacked the skills,  the tools, and the confidence to teach him without confusing him more.

Wondering if other parents are in the same boat and what would help.",9.24486301369863,9.480307150684931,7.853527397260276,71.26193493150687,59.68493150684932,10.587671232876714,41.53767123287671,10.125756701596842,4.457906849315068,334,17,52,6,4,101,55,73,0.044000000000000004,0.8540000000000001,0.102,0.5223,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,8,0,4,0,0,2,0,15,7,8,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,6,1,8,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,1,40,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722577936339027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068297710896137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588383979954728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181596771122474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674227449076917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361402539183301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209768139239633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137472134826099,0.3529647977593263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312087855969713,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Po_Momof4,2020/02/23,"Parents of Reddit who invite/bring siblings to a friend birthday party, Why??? I'm the mom of 4 kids ages 22 - 9.  And every time I host a birthday party for one of my kids, one or more parents either shows up with a younger sibling and drops them off or asks to bring one.  Why?  My kid is friends with the one kid of yours that we invited.  They don't know this sibling and the sibling doesn't know the other guests.  Why is this a thing??",1.1540000000000001,3.1919117333333347,2.338888888888892,96.10500000000002,81.66666666666666,4.4444444444444455,22.222222222222207,5.033348758259628,-0.09144444444444444,336,11,74,1,9,107,57,90,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.9129,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,9,5,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,0,7,2,11,9,2,6,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,2,2,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18011737388411606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233002014755255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977076578658157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176917984901314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256489323573325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5222238193650472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278671810826196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279992068468034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234551305546983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5215552386921212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joe1231231234,2020/02/23,"I fear my step daughter will hurt my son We have been dealing with issues with my step daughter for years. She's been to 5 different therapists, 3 psychologists, 2 psychiatrists, talked to school counselors. Long story short she's 14 and she lies, steals, does drugs, sneaks out of the house, has sex, skips school, and just about everything a kid isn't supposed to do. Today she got caught sneaking out again from our security camera at 2 in the morning. when I woke her up to talk about it she was sleeping on a phone, which she's not allowed to have, so I searched her room. In the search I found a box of little plastic babies that that had been burnt and had razor blades jammed through them. 

We caught her a couple months ago ""joking"" with a friend about how they were bored so they were going to go kill someone for fun. By the looks she gives my 1 1/2 year old son now with the burnt babies and the jokes I've decided enough is enough but I don't know what else to do. Please help

Background: Military family that lives in Virginia currently. Step Daughter is 14. My son is 19 months old",4.273574766355138,5.726274429906543,4.07297897196262,89.68367406542058,71.05607476635514,7.219158878504674,25.05724299065421,7.645422480735847,1.0455056074766356,864,25,179,10,16,262,136,214,0.061,0.871,0.067,0.29600000000000004,3,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,3,0,10,10,1,1,11,0,19,3,1,2,0,20,29,9,1,0,3,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,6,12,0,1,3,2,0,7,3,5,0,0,13,1,26,5,29,15,2,31,0,1,1,1,30,11,0,0,13,106,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776617179378014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948162606777155,0.0,0.0,0.1485959150480312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058944379937902,0.0,0.0,0.12613271105479093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714978166563796,0.0,0.12040553501510735,0.0,0.0,0.2978580831984328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953842380054115,0.0,0.1358767898538639,0.16219091981757142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580355871462476,0.11135763826914837,0.0,0.0,0.13826655013036435,0.1638294467108333,0.0,0.11527719647313125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661004046739016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663113848733052,0.15429852145303,0.0,0.0,0.15043853987731662,0.0,0.0,0.15946301230026502,0.0,0.07921232492047511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446022080767545,0.12727303970048184,0.12755413158087425,0.12103633219237127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300929066468057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30248895721097274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582159451462366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29174278249697005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423817916387122,0.0,0.12212434439398015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316990392584336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735078443084492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662226155636553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563525313441528
parenting,crabblue6,2020/02/23,"How to stop 13 mo from sticking everything in his mouth My 13 mo has always had the behavior of sticking everything little thing he finds off the floor and into his mouth. But, lately it feels like he's ramping his behavior up. He understands ""Don't put that in your mouth,"" ""spit it out."" I make a yucky face and say, ""Yuck"" when he puts things (that are not food) in his mouth, but it's all a big game to him. He'll pick something up and place it in his mouth, and when I tell him to ""Spit it out,"" he'll take it out of his mouth, smile at me and quickly put it back in. I know a lot of people here are going to be like, ""Don't worry it won't kill him, etc."" but there I'd the real possibility he will ingest something bad for him. He stays with grandma part of the week and she lives in an older house, he plays outside a lot and digs in the dirt (and eats some of it). I'm concerned of lead in the soil, plastic in the sandbox at the park, or toxic/poisonous substances. He has already made himself throw up by eating flower petals. What can I do to male him stop this behavior?",3.91837547408344,3.934481659292037,4.803059418457651,89.37920353982302,70.90265486725664,7.696080910240202,25.877370417193426,7.1686216300943375,0.9224042983565104,829,22,191,7,14,270,127,226,0.061,0.856,0.08199999999999999,0.7018,1,0,2,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,0,1,7,5,1,0,13,0,12,13,9,5,1,34,22,15,1,0,5,0,1,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,15,13,4,2,4,2,0,6,4,2,0,0,2,2,20,3,34,15,6,39,0,0,0,0,28,23,0,4,11,120,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508091257667863,0.0,0.11371313642852778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508409219880988,0.11410646422917528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796772231836613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241345701975756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456447011135463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910005166585757,0.09763084896785412,0.0,0.0,0.1249059382240651,0.0,0.16525136770429752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766775735369143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768877384168214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119546326840794,0.0,0.07510546797126436,0.0,0.15415988148599416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353160117746155,0.13697050929745094,0.12067441798263863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323690740915542,0.0,0.12931221174517493,0.09122246860987993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479908535910373,0.0,0.0947437274262468,0.0,0.14278195545250685,0.0,0.0,0.15406506456184935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121470111303111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555046074740045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867853863323512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21041706698073245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566274593664488,0.0,0.22850990629321705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275227825291236,0.0,0.11944798626109696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815833699131103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226921680517826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962143916095464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878616812745576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Immaturesonny,2020/02/23,"How do you stop feeling guilty for your child's mental health issues? My 15 year old son was diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I am kicking myself for not seeing the signs sooner. He has been spending more and more time alone but he's always been a bit of a loner. He is socially immature and most kids his age are into much different things. He has always been smart and takes sophomore math and science classes as a freshman but his grades have been dropping lately since he just can't find it in himself to care anymore. 

I thought him sleeping in until noon on weekends, blowing off homework, and being incredibly moody were all normal teen things but my son is struggling and we didn't even know. He had two breakdowns in the last month. It took him having a breakdown at school for us to see that something was wrong with our child. We brought him into the world and can't even notice when he's unhealthy? I feel so terrible. His breakdowns affect his young sibling too and if we caught this earlier maybe we could have avoided that.",5.108408710217756,6.81801756281407,4.8231959798994986,84.11204690117256,69.35175879396985,7.1157118927973215,29.849581239530988,7.554174236665415,1.8878600335008369,841,33,151,9,15,257,138,199,0.16699999999999998,0.7909999999999999,0.042,-0.9773,1,2,1,0,0,0,13.0,6,2,0,0,7,8,0,2,7,0,23,3,1,2,1,38,34,19,0,3,6,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,7,18,0,2,5,1,1,3,4,6,0,1,13,4,22,2,18,19,6,26,0,1,2,0,29,9,0,2,13,105,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579708583448806,0.0,0.0,0.25382757552183194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668191474216776,0.0,0.15126473214146965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651880565947091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551034532306324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177953954648872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137035525257418,0.15481060269744273,0.0,0.15935712758901538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148386922001546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424338061242446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940593173076998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212792528398945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919743767347375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382425919436691,0.1243289858117291,0.17205588637033714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323279201358048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371025739130165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174473773437773,0.0,0.11212410434750864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494430216661607,0.0,0.17365177595071124,0.16005030011517968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543643785399775,0.24308682841838955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261710208857894,0.0,0.1526360768743278,0.15548097196047636,0.0,0.11742190840392452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275185025205606,0.0,0.15945321319078254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468051312028645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20266289360991413,0.0,0.0,0.12108854672268705,0.08893909314282795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946191424918985,0.0,0.0,0.14899566532920575,0.0,0.18346990712263206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667631544935212,0.0,0.09822169460354356
parenting,AnonymooseRedditor,2020/02/23,"Am I wrong here? Our tot has had a mild fever off and on for a couple of days and some interrupted sleep.  Mom wants to take him to the ER to get checked out, I want to wait it out until we can go to our fam doc tomorrow. He’s fine, eating, drinking and pooping like normal other than a very mild fever and a cough he seems like his normal bratty self.  He has a history of ear infections so she tends to jump to that diagnosis every time he’s sick",3.6905614035087737,3.807455126315791,5.117631578947371,86.57258771929827,71.42105263157895,8.438596491228072,24.25438596491228,8.344100000000001,1.1292807017543858,347,8,80,5,6,117,69,95,0.09,0.825,0.085,-0.3612,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,5,10,3,0,0,14,13,6,0,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,7,2,1,1,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,8,3,16,12,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,6,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592869329959189,0.0,0.1511265214477812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22955883330180735,0.0,0.2397829410330219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974371254558764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224302299837814,0.0,0.1331778331442989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22896823478652714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744500156306481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4591965829855791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21332954654871225,0.2444622406143309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345039740215799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761905613682888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664247152421746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335070224592854,0.2764334024355245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25620825200652697,0.0,0.0
parenting,verasmexy,2020/02/23,"Is forcing a person out of the room considered as bullying? I have a 4 years old and we live with my mom along with my 3 younger siblings because I'm still finishing college and I need someone to look after my daughter when I'm in school. The thing is whenever my 2 sisters (8&11) were done playing with my daughter or just don't want her in their room, they would always drag her out and lock the door behind her. I don't always catch them actually doing it. I would just find daughter crying and knocking on the locked door. Is that considered as bullying?",5.609688311688314,6.263398618181821,5.985844155844156,80.13590909090911,67.36363636363636,8.83116883116883,33.896103896103895,8.841846274778883,2.844883116883117,448,20,84,7,7,144,73,110,0.134,0.8490000000000001,0.017,-0.9115,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,19,16,8,0,4,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,3,11,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,16,1,15,12,0,14,0,0,1,0,13,7,0,1,6,60,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.2225408446737868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795065212723018,0.2470886836051039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901525261779876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25049877361029266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333711196936305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20843070374486586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013695603407067,0.0,0.19150193203672852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26708573281202963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909386127412268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23929682383967535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912172686787116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23079560283247824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932233691863316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211852145160584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150420435360035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450794982386935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32399590068191725,0.0,0.0,0.14685470463887834
parenting,IcyCheesecake8,2020/02/23,"Twelve Year old Son Sending/Receiving Inappropriate Pictures I have my son most of the time and I have always been big on respecting his privacy/not snooping, etc. I allowed him to have his own cell phone under the condition we would install Norton Family to block him from accessing the web browser, monitor screen time so his phone locks at 9 pm to prevent him from staying up all night watching Youtube. I would get notifications if he attempted to do anything not allowed through the Norton Family so felt pretty good about his phone usage. We have had countless talks about appropriate behavior online/texting.

I have never had the urge to go through his texts as my mother never respected my privacy and read my letters to friends/journals and would shame and punish me for my thoughts or feelings. I never wanted my son to feel the way I did.

Well, he went over to his dad's house this Friday night. I received a call yesterday at work that Friday night, his dad had heard him get up in the middle of the night so dad went to see what he was doing. I guess my son was acting ""weird"" like he was trying to hide something, his dad noticed he was trying to hide his phone so he took it. Anyway, I guess there were a bunch of extremely obscene texts and nude pictures being exchanged with other boys and girls, some were people he'd met through online games. His dad was pretty angry with me for not going through his texts as this has been going on for about 2 months, I do feel horrible that this was going on and it could have been stopped sooner had I looked but I just did not like the idea of invading his privacy.

Clearly, he is not ready for his own private phone. His dad confiscated the phone and I've cut the service office. I've also removed his Xbox from his bedroom. I am debating on making a rule about leaving his door open other than for changing and sleep but I am not sure if that is too extreme. 
Our son is bisexual and attends a weekly youth group for LGBT kids, his dad wants to cut that off but I don't agree as it is a very positive environment and I don't want him to feel like he is being punished for being bisexual. 


Our son is in counseling currently for depression/anxiety and ADHD so I do intend on bringing this whole thing up at counseling Tuesday afternoon. I will be picking him up from his dad's this afternoon and talking to him about why this is not in anyway acceptable, that these pictures can end up in the wrong hands and basically he is creating illegal material. I don't want to scare him but he needs to understand the consequences of taking pictures or asking for pictures from others. 

I really just feel lost about how to handle this entire thing, any other parents out there who have dealt with this? If so, how did you handle it, is there anything else I should do?",5.5848710865561735,6.547489581952121,6.047564456721915,78.56961556169429,67.5451197053407,9.053591160220996,31.105432780847146,9.225670689056813,2.6989222836095763,2245,87,413,41,36,725,252,543,0.09699999999999999,0.84,0.062,-0.9368,4,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,4,1,0,3,24,18,4,2,18,0,57,3,3,7,6,78,90,35,0,13,17,16,7,3,0,5,0,1,2,3,26,21,0,3,10,3,1,12,12,9,1,0,26,12,64,9,74,53,8,59,0,1,4,1,80,24,0,9,24,296,90,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347428241126258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550750081394751,0.0785648591242732,0.0,0.0,0.0642087195373104,0.0,0.07223090852302133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539894356859268,0.0,0.08826979165771077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096413199210784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988365638465972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538654812440443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788756490135772,0.0,0.08362794062959727,0.0,0.10530306484798233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802121778305688,0.0,0.23870750535582536,0.06745354262709749,0.0906578400556694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866092419838644,0.0,0.2146438522984992,0.07919487040883617,0.0,0.0,0.20802816685439435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894780226326688,0.0,0.1065884908387152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997696268627357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383862730987956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928887367759603,0.0,0.10307039385324142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302596709930919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753650043700653,0.0,0.0,0.07001110465898303,0.218467172042614,0.0,0.0,0.3544264424568881,0.0,0.0,0.10749759781772834,0.0990777243606868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484204304364847,0.0,0.0,0.06545881884834041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921178153544016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944453774392829,0.0,0.060487758353256385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945307175913317,0.0,0.07524037682034472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448801496259708,0.0,0.0,0.07268899506203705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063897165795084,0.0,0.07893920245402511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898956868028553,0.0,0.07099195852989362,0.15178215930885755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254566739129649,0.0,0.0,0.07495879512123876,0.1101139197983773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490390094572002,0.12820972807451125,0.0,0.0,0.0982943688572413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790624497118646,0.22276503905290607,0.07494606307179301,0.07573788917601126,0.0,0.08489476302322442,0.1750562494806791,0.08519920698481279,0.1054163639068972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873875793069578,0.0,0.0,0.2012194062587876,0.10323325756051284,0.0,0.0608032723285501
parenting,lonermom13,2020/02/23,"I love my husband but I think I want to be a single mom This is the first time ever that I'm going to share this very personal story of mine. I've never shared it to anyone. But I'm sharing it here because I need to vent, I need release and there might be people who will roast me and I think that's what I need. 

I'm in a relationship with a straight man for almost four years now. We have a beautiful 15-month old daughter. 

I love my husband so much. He is really my soulmate but I think that I'll be better off without him.

I know that I'm lucky to have someone to help me raise a child but I'm feeling lonelier and lonelier as I spend more time catering to his bruised ego. 

Being a new mom, I feel like my daughter is the only thing I need to keep going in this world. I used to say that I always put my husband's needs first more than anybody else because I unconditionally love him. But I think I'm losing myself faster than I would like it to.

He's a capable man but the past couple years, he's not doing better. In fact, I paid for my own hospital fees for delivery. If I didn't save up the money, we'll probably be stranded at the hospital with a newborn. He hasn't contributing much in terms of financially and I felt empowered being able to provide for my family.

I love him and I want to be with him. But I also don't want to be with him to raise my daughter. They have a great relationship but I'm getting burned out trying to appease his needs and my daughter. I barely take care of myself.

To the point that, I let him sleep with other women, bring them to our own home. 

Fuck, what's wrong with me? I can't leave him because I really do love him. But I know that most men are polygamous. At least once in their lifetime, they would cheat to their monogamous partners. That's why I agreed to let him do his ways but just inform me beforehand.

But I don't want my daughter to witness having random girls at our home. She'll be a woman in the future and I want her to learn that we deserve respect.

Anyway, it is what it is. Just getting off some load from my shoulders.",2.135348735832608,3.77363752304148,3.829755884917176,88.49706625980822,76.99539170506912,6.6273757628596375,23.71129655000623,7.432916251226849,0.9469481379997506,1631,52,349,21,37,546,198,434,0.062,0.722,0.21600000000000005,0.9971,1,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,5,0,5,5,9,21,2,0,17,0,35,8,2,1,3,68,78,22,0,14,16,10,3,2,1,6,0,1,2,10,23,16,0,1,11,0,4,4,8,4,0,3,3,4,74,17,52,58,11,36,0,1,0,6,62,16,1,7,17,242,97,1,0.08662892539157112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674635525731188,0.0,0.0,0.06927712033747074,0.07208220562430988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057295885662822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584245665742593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323248936778866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832396295193183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585325823727872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723673511837429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836082261625306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166604108225127,0.0,0.08760437517189444,0.06188772160901618,0.08317735360553301,0.0,0.0,0.14737303936732676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008704560460099,0.09052007608011264,0.0,0.09846642932879787,0.0,0.0,0.09550869607117957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806554263059435,0.0,0.17379175091716748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699976924671686,0.0,0.0,0.09521798370617307,0.0,0.0,0.09172752376029407,0.0,0.17716789100429414,0.0,0.08464503430056114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691560869223033,0.0,0.0,0.39092993692477396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189959998489464,0.0,0.202917500835908,0.06914638175939472,0.0,0.12736445562942458,0.3854055030403325,0.06681356776582846,0.08366675596218143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090248464468037,0.09225697827975043,0.0,0.06588520140917332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269711155348136,0.06005758926757542,0.07564103621849999,0.0,0.0,0.08189233543825954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340063350138328,0.0,0.0,0.08708599708827397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099341573250304,0.0,0.0,0.18601409180050466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688907985018436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866914877654571,0.0,0.07340040736278976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513417079167469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575524087151476,0.22203326987288927,0.0,0.0,0.10102804609437817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058815353868867964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481957733110206,0.0,0.07147793596305098,0.2554799233700583,0.06876200873125995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781691308984986,0.0,0.0,0.08350719271706293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307740618575745,0.09471513067914596,0.0,0.11157237542257237
parenting,puddelles,2020/02/23,"Families who live next to graveyards, how do you talk to your kids about it and what age are they? I have a 2.5 year old and would love to hear from people with kids close to that age but also any age. 

And any approaches that don’t involve god or heaven would be great to hear

Thanks!",6.205536723163839,4.918601644067799,5.680000000000002,89.36824858757063,66.45762711864407,9.222598870056501,26.446327683615817,7.793537801064563,1.066487005649717,223,4,52,2,3,68,45,59,0.023,0.703,0.27399999999999997,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,1,0,10,11,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,8,8,0,8,1,0,0,1,11,1,0,1,6,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889711991515808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213879044109959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276517323610676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605245821139107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5326606769407347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865963029930595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132724299308642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25131062264004783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24795995337976198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382255218983574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899311746861111,0.0,0.2175557955460957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33572534369343426,0.0,0.0,0.15217120366065448
parenting,Indythrowaway22,2020/02/23,"When you're child is asked to by a friend to go somewhere that costs momey... For background I have 4 kids 17,15,12 & 8.  This particular situation relates to my 12 year old.  He was invited by his best friend's Grandpa to go to an indoor zipline facility.  The place is $27.95 US for an all day pass. 

My question is, when you invite one of your child's friends to accompany your family on anything that involves money(movies, arcades,laser tag etc) do you pay for them?  I always do, since I did the inviting.  If I didn't have the money to cover the extra expense I just would't invite the friend. 

In yesterday's case I ask said Grandpa via text ""How much money will xxxx need?""  I expect him to say something like ""Don't worry about it, my treat"" or something of that nature, especially since I don't have his grandkid pay for anything when he is with us.  Instead he tells me it's $27.95. 

I find this to be incredibly tacky and would be pretty embarrassed if my Mom or Dad did this with any of my kid's friends. Am I the judgemental asshole here?  For the record money isn't an issue and I sent my son with $30 and he had a great time. It just doesn't sit well with me and I find it to be a little tasteless tbh. 

Your thoughts?",2.94408,4.457880248000002,4.153000000000001,87.5515,74.52000000000002,6.920000000000001,26.5,7.554174236665415,1.30436,962,35,203,12,20,315,142,250,0.028999999999999998,0.8170000000000001,0.154,0.9849,0,0,2,0,0,0,39.0,2,5,1,1,10,11,0,1,13,0,24,0,0,1,1,23,32,12,0,5,6,6,0,1,5,2,0,2,0,4,10,8,0,0,4,0,7,4,5,1,1,1,8,2,31,10,27,19,5,17,0,0,0,0,38,4,0,5,9,128,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533977948310914,0.13716901283526398,0.0,0.0860910645337538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20835893591472301,0.0,0.23670431009200285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285691907897051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164531581033221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119037128846398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193454429474562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314167808909889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4890469770115852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389726094184047,0.0,0.0,0.13957487698551085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321355486638791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184944793472174,0.126884577263871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482701910005741,0.0,0.0,0.09306418660325418,0.0938709037138412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284343346602506,0.0,0.08578616419031859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226809297435638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879580342782526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181887054002815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042380517466113,0.10067590828758008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094465503197411,0.14230159394200326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492283944840916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106523391020348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005047681165036,0.07382038330415665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045639075006217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382691594968225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856653861659015,0.0,0.17986334789106795,0.0,0.0,0.08152504020671028
parenting,Right-Persimmon,2020/02/23,"Gift money from grandparents My 2 year old has everything she could possibly need, and then some.  Much of this is from her grandparents, who send physical gifts and also checks ""to buy more gifts"".  I'm secretly putting them in her savings account for her to do whatever with down the road.  Should I feel guilty?  I hate doing something against the wishes of people, but the last thing she needs is to buy more stuff.",6.455714285714286,7.477305480519482,5.587428571428571,82.43257142857144,65.62337662337664,9.796363636363637,30.984415584415583,9.888512548439397,2.8472825974025966,330,12,62,7,5,99,60,77,0.055999999999999994,0.902,0.042,-0.25,2,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,13,5,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,1,12,11,4,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,4,44,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20883378680013764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20849926363477447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346960443778944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204037146959308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578219615120961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21286418134557045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19196815227930644,0.38726441602197736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740227943282759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104178885812186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943964275685895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625181078632864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103854496396886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29894314223533097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734899977497003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002984332291437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816577788078035
parenting,WinterSoldier78,2020/02/23,"Update: Wife keeping making bed time a “fun” time *Original post Summary: my wife makes bedtime with our son fun and full of laughter, while I’m more serious.*

Ok, I received a lot of responses and I appreciate them all! Y’all make a valid point: just chill and enjoy it and follow her lead. I’m going to try that from now on and see where goes! My biggest hurdle is me. By that time I’m exhausted and cranky and in no mood to laugh or have fun. I need to find a way to get there though. Thanks so much!",1.4167961165048553,3.4189002427184505,2.9765145631067966,92.06787864077671,80.55339805825244,6.4500970873786425,20.97961165048544,7.554174236665415,0.6291988349514561,387,11,86,6,10,127,76,103,0.040999999999999995,0.71,0.25,0.9754,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,1,1,6,10,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,5,1,20,15,11,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,8,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,1,10,7,11,15,5,19,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,2,7,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253185792858006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879867765887165,0.0,0.14010533840156844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21912196472831427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095859908211254,0.0,0.0,0.4936702926625535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122359344123407,0.18279451109502895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330449767963,0.0,0.2361019611547259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644780585126748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269662879010105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24220869597799505,0.0,0.4312505901530363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737369503853308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567937150021555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Salt-Letter,2020/02/23,"My toddlers are driving me crazy. I cant do it anymore Am really struggling with this whole parenting thing. I have a 11yr old girl, 4year old boy, 3year old boy and 1year old boy. I am mentally and physically drained. All I do is cook for them, clean after them and never have any time for myself. I started decorating my house to take my mind off all the stress but they destroy everything . Today they broke the curtain pole and am just sat here depressed no idea how to screw it back. I feel like giving up. What is the point ? I am never gonna have any time for myself, never gonna have a nice house and never gonna enjoy my life. I feel like a 24hr slave  and I dont see how things are ever gonna get better. The only time I get to get away is when am working but am at work. So that's not even rest. Anyways I dont know what am looking for here. Mabye just needed a rant and then go back to my miserable life.",1.345052083333332,3.1992117343750017,2.8897916666666674,93.34270833333336,80.09375,5.7250000000000005,20.041666666666664,6.691623216298621,0.10487291666666733,711,18,160,7,18,233,109,192,0.188,0.737,0.075,-0.9692,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,4,3,13,12,2,3,8,0,21,4,0,2,7,28,39,14,0,1,5,1,2,2,0,4,2,0,2,4,8,8,1,0,4,1,0,2,9,7,0,0,1,4,23,5,14,34,4,26,0,3,2,1,10,5,1,0,21,107,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349107173170867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192222273781323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603135483005798,0.17355765908460133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981142225591014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720218291183104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264531355530892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453992140027965,0.10208416226533536,0.0,0.0,0.101427148485864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412615324365025,0.16124782778011126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768868516111536,0.1082611745553912,0.06413831946682688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604399379508883,0.0,0.1273999996495267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062022371477905625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942620040738126,0.11027088700701214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477010509532477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373169027097665,0.0,0.11395177346864455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368084245149754,0.3481641394570113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47369099419663196,0.0,0.0,0.08583161032491926,0.0,0.0,0.12531255618608475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668482259440457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229805331108495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993113520151721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987962662329888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292754691081018,0.11798095822037395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485320901590769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995221422852795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742065817802856,0.0,0.1069737148468696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599901376889566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432013751898808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nerdforeverrrrrr,2020/02/23,"I'm sure I was an accident and my life sucks I have a guess that I was an accident baby. I can tell because of ""I never thought that I would ever have a kid. But when I had you everything changed."", and my parents' attitude is shitty. From when I was small, my parents screamed at me for everything they didn't like. It wasn't just a little scolding or talk with me, but a full blown screaming contest. For every damned grade which they found unsavory, the screamed and shouted. When I got to 5th grade, I had a horrible anxiety and didn't have friends, only bullies. From a point, I started asking them to find me a psychologist. But lo and behold, they didn't and instead screamed at me a little more. I'm 18 now, and a wreck. A total emotional wreck. I'm anxious about everything, and maybe have depression.

One time, I asked my cousin (adult) to ask my dad to let me see a psychologist. And what was his reaction? ""I'm so disappointed because she didn't come to us with her problems!"", yeah, like, if you continuosly turn me down with ""That's life!"" and ""Suck it up!"", then don't be so surprised. I heard these all throughout my childhood and I'm tired of it. Oh, and it turns out that they find the ""looks"" or ""impressions"" more important than my emotional well-being. In their eyes, going to a psychologist means that I'm a ""faulty product"".

Throughout my life, I have seen so many families sit down and discuss things maturely, like most adults do, instead of a screaming fest. I envy those. My parents never heard of it.

Showed emotions? Too girly. Was thinking like a female? Woman logic (dad used this to degrade me). Didn't show emotions? Too cold.

They never let me do extracurriculars because ""It's too expensive"". Yeah, no. They could *easily* afford it, they were just too damned lazy to drop me off. Some months ago, I looked it up. Thus, I never really learned to socialize.

It also doesn't help that my dad always tells me that I should stop being friends with my friend. He always said that ""He'll start dating and you'll be left alone."" and ""He's a boy, he won't care about being friends with a girl."".

My dad also loved to point it out that how much his colleague's son is better than me.

From a materialistic point of view, I have everything. From an emotional view, I have nothing.

This is a tip of what you should NOT do to your kid. It won't benefit either fo you in the long run. I shared this with you because you can maybe learn something of my idiotic and pathetic parents' faults that ruined me.",2.1850848339335727,4.603108504081632,3.328487394957982,88.3116106442577,80.28571428571428,6.537014805922367,24.30172068827531,7.724431198458867,1.3110436174469786,1957,72,394,33,51,630,229,490,0.253,0.6829999999999999,0.065,-0.9986,6,1,1,0,0,0,100.0,1,8,9,1,21,32,5,0,25,2,44,6,1,3,8,64,78,32,0,6,10,10,0,4,4,7,4,9,0,7,30,25,0,1,9,2,1,3,16,16,0,1,21,17,68,16,45,43,9,43,0,3,7,1,61,19,4,6,23,269,98,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542573470166782,0.0,0.0,0.07644212299549076,0.0,0.1180473721120978,0.12282720339042776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564623967453375,0.08338126165295327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20699963903752414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996902556946148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527657545502281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525148036040967,0.0,0.07807835662717923,0.0635784696676517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058929138183343964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357013539962217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151164964211225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676294526482794,0.062185849243535374,0.0,0.265333035505694,0.0,0.06957897133712147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491710422183525,0.0,0.0,0.08092591530989306,0.2280934051983944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04194640007733958,0.0,0.05903045514877265,0.0,0.08130708260020353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04947148989748916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019186766711958,0.1509459678305031,0.1563968757060336,0.14423411095676078,0.14794864632498028,0.0,0.065317154421607,0.12395911763032914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666139867089091,0.0,0.0,0.07482903659118606,0.14829874391733566,0.08039780736333077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589122975810346,0.0,0.05425687158437384,0.0,0.2276990168693138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082011283605963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05001374926353648,0.056133791716097385,0.0,0.0,0.3278171714002758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931531826489966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062363604893948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728285826958898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020766173907304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05881487709579344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523726658567184,0.0,0.05682047979369567,0.0,0.0,0.10448240004487193,0.0,0.0,0.061706223261737386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956252435093377,0.0,0.0,0.05932352695681047,0.12902169937323155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903430291595035,0.04729274958000463,0.0,0.05859476664811605,0.04303764104572134,0.08483065528938617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056233676541493,0.0,0.0,0.08878111667672668,0.06374582577516055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636164336616328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243060153130912,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wholesome_WI_girl,2020/02/23,"If your kid hates the taste of medicine Use a lick of sugar and an orange slice like tequila training wheels.  The routine will be distracting, and the bite into the orange erases the bad taste.",7.849166666666665,7.871483361111113,6.507777777777778,80.465,62.611111111111114,8.311111111111114,31.88888888888889,7.1686216300943375,2.020988888888889,155,5,27,1,2,46,28,36,0.204,0.736,0.059000000000000004,-0.7269,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,1,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,5,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,16,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5122805101982818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6057440095848844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997447920277124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5299018148442963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Runf4st3r,2020/02/23,"From Crib to Big Boy Bed We just turned my 2.5 year old son’s crib into a big boy bed. It’s been a nightmare! He doesn’t sleep through the night anymore. He keeps getting up and coming into our bedroom. He wants to sleep with us. We keep putting him back in his bed, 15 times per night or more, but he keeps waking up and coming back. Our bedtime routine use to take about 30 minutes. Bath, books, sing songs, hugs and kisses, then he’d fall right asleep. Now, bedtime is horrible. He doesn’t want to stay in his bed. He’s jumping on the bed. He’s screaming and crying as we ask him to lay down and go to sleep. It takes a good hour to hour and a half to get him to stay in bed and fall asleep. It’s been about a month and we are exhausted. I don’t know what we should do. Any suggestions on how to get through this transition?",0.6293396825396833,2.6257888514285743,1.687380952380952,100.28123015873018,83.34285714285714,4.803174603174604,19.436507936507933,5.82211442006289,-0.4248158730158736,639,17,154,4,18,200,101,175,0.087,0.836,0.077,-0.4199,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,7,0,10,9,6,2,0,30,27,13,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,8,2,5,18,0,3,1,4,0,7,3,2,0,1,2,2,16,3,27,23,1,34,0,0,0,2,26,13,0,1,12,82,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432537767391504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375598699095845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296721301298221,0.0,0.0,0.213313928382372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389672454657036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236290213197412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21740572784501586,0.0,0.07883026861201935,0.11634067950552282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731965072196659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698669201772486,0.0,0.0,0.0762296275331399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107144411511254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603338634010742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554944930747804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943864095834346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845484582157548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164209048816132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29568597781597444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858049649322224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088104814254801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087316328521913,0.0,0.0,0.16684719695605585,0.119798136657395,0.0,0.0,0.16362572398753347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932262888170092
parenting,Trancer1985,2020/02/23,"Kid won’t do a poo in toilet. She is almost 3 now, she can do her pee’s in the potty but never a poo. She will always wait until we put her night time nappy on her and then dose her business. We will always encourage her to go to the toilet and do a poo on the potty 100% of the time she pees and that’s it. We try again “try a poo poo on the potty” she says no. This is been going on for a few moths now. I’ve tried multiple strategies but no avail. So I am wondering if anyone else has a solution or maybe an idea. 

Need help kids killing me.",0.7352066115702485,1.871803553719012,3.1719752066115703,93.8725082644628,79.57851239669422,6.162314049586778,17.88512396694215,6.742157984588678,-0.21840892561983427,414,7,102,4,10,144,76,121,0.09300000000000001,0.82,0.087,-0.1901,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,12,0,12,3,2,0,1,16,17,10,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,3,6,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,1,15,1,11,13,1,18,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,4,9,69,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154044760582609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35798229653734154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504119271306307,0.22040856614717547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969920833237968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24450721365736774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441856288979648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24283625758519195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379905297963149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610980082474232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950347463421846,0.16590831413597967,0.0,0.0,0.20186886548027413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162478587044695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106639595989284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508681001247605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.438142574868706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233280741965832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NicholasMarsala,2020/02/23,Who here grew up with an older parent or parents? I just turned 33 unfortunately and sadly when I was born my dad was 39 and turned 40 two months later. He's 72 going to turn 73 in April. It's been nothing but a disaster. There is a ten year difference between my mom and dad. Growing up I was always very well aware of how old my dad was and with the use of some very easy to use addition skills I knew very early on just how old he would be when I reached a certain age. This has been one of my main reasons why I'm a strong advocate for people to have children as soon and as young as possible if they are in a position to do so and have the ability and means to do so. For those of you out there what has been your experience with having or dealing with an older parent or parents? Thanks everyone for your input!,3.9983413078149934,4.336765654970762,5.3089845826687965,84.68794258373207,70.81286549707602,8.557363104731527,27.24136097820309,8.575989854853784,1.6955450292397662,641,20,140,10,11,215,107,171,0.02,0.8140000000000001,0.166,0.9807,4,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,1,2,13,5,0,0,9,0,18,0,0,5,1,30,28,21,0,2,7,8,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,13,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,8,0,13,4,26,18,2,24,0,1,0,0,17,6,0,5,15,101,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683684561503257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237198622623253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414785846558525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268912975520925,0.0,0.12559720434209448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297114882481102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986230893428767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037737484327776,0.10248550594260876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320067953439932,0.0,0.2694627511434329,0.0,0.08700533857654881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5702800611607405,0.0,0.0,0.08901452635943008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474867226628502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201381675167978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182109901135226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189782013533742,0.1254255126643344,0.0,0.0,0.22178809771628627,0.0,0.3178236768655526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154445994269567,0.0,0.11585859918314788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120976341858653,0.0,0.0,0.08268365642174354
parenting,ragnarok413,2020/02/23,"2-month old and a father I'm a new father to a 2-month old and I don't love her. Don't get me wrong; I want everything good to happen to her, but I just don't love her. She's beautiful and all but I don't feel any parental attraction to her. 

I've been like this my whole life, I guess. I've never felt love for my parents or siblings; I've just felt like we're all good friends. I joke and I kid around with my immediate family like we've just been friends my whole life. 

Is there something wrong with me? Because I know I have to love my little girl and I want to, but I just can't get myself to love her or anyone else.",0.4789387984278513,2.164256175182484,2.3871532846715344,96.71802358225716,82.13868613138686,5.675238629983156,20.02751263335205,6.67199483983844,-0.016399887703537175,484,13,119,5,13,161,65,137,0.131,0.589,0.28,0.9653,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,6,16,0,0,3,0,9,7,0,0,3,27,25,10,0,2,9,4,3,3,2,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,4,3,25,14,11,21,4,6,0,0,0,5,19,2,0,3,7,69,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200292697120111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431685566632888,0.12355507714035074,0.0,0.10734751401673064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350838595298832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007345128897644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837533357929192,0.0,0.1136781812998587,0.0,0.06097213671360281,0.0,0.23156382158133584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632959765827664,0.0,0.12600289524930136,0.0,0.0,0.20228440066791464,0.0,0.0,0.1328395792459398,0.0,0.10663420714564023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627116406840121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703475638264347,0.17673735792446518,0.12085931077157812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5441699347286605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250192167285174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300371083403652,0.11646315319069588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530704070652308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677939837820338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283334719388964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225003520415486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26926094939500345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26368472511945473,0.0,0.0
parenting,avkaj8777,2020/02/23,"I found my 14yr old son...messing with his friend that’s a girl also 14 yr old My son hasn’t been in puberty long. He just hit it maybe a year ago. He hit is pretty late and he has had hormones ragging ever since. He’s extremely moody and grumpy. He’s a smartass but he’s corrected for being one. 

Recently me son started being “friends” with this girl he has been in class with since 4th grade. She is very sweet, kind, and generous but I don’t know much about her considering they didn’t talk much a long time ago. I think my son has a crush on her. 

She’s been coming over to our house and studying with my son at the kitchen table. We keep an eye on them. They’re not allowed in his room unless the door is open. 

She’s came over multiple times to eat dinner with us as a “friend” to my son. But...yesterday we had a birthday party for my younger son. She came over to celebrate and when we were all eating at the table I walked up and grabbed a seat and noticed that his “friend” had her hand In the front of his pants. My son had an erection and he took his hand and moved hers around. I was shocked as to what I was seeing because if he ever was going to do this I thought he would maybe pick somewhere private. 

10mins later my son got up and went to living room to sit and his friend came with him. There was nobody else in the living room yet be they were all still eating. As I glanced in the living room I saw the girl put her hand back in his underwear. My sons face was flushed and this went on for about 5 mins until I walked in there and she immediately removed her hand and my son said “mom it’s really hot in here or maybe I have a fever”. I told him I doubt that and I turned the fan on. 

I haven’t said anything about this and I don’t know what to say or have to bring it up. My husband said he will deal with it but he doesn’t know what to say either. Any advice would be great! Do I just let it slide or consult on this isssue?",1.1905785650567111,2.9319292130750654,2.420112781954888,97.0694121957436,80.1138014527845,5.509596023958203,19.585128074423345,6.339386263674448,-0.2074610169491522,1507,36,359,12,38,482,191,413,0.027999999999999997,0.809,0.162,0.9964,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,3,0,16,11,0,1,19,0,38,12,6,2,5,61,65,30,0,3,12,12,6,0,5,3,1,5,6,3,16,32,5,1,6,0,0,16,7,3,0,1,29,16,57,8,53,26,5,66,0,0,4,0,69,28,0,5,21,225,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768443944532292,0.15908286035583585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175813041578091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102039692376544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384125774832855,0.07987992814428234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899787151798294,0.0,0.05469939981108203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30788628869703083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772956150809488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925090846471788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754527261161093,0.07495903118939068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623342916505023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838579683602497,0.3466311029283928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050996395656549884,0.0,0.07176635994990396,0.0989291332424211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353793357011913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975734927599723,0.0,0.09344139570947332,0.14794201446519142,0.0,0.1012208743819606,0.0,0.0,0.09175638772400473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377032854331809,0.15881884709547162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704416138059734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509227590361926,0.0,0.09537022737722772,0.13192573786078451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215973989914974,0.1883159206524734,0.0,0.06080428692350734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128904480208642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020479353078192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05748420230681839,0.0,0.08859888561976059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25606519435987324,0.14271594660001305,0.0,0.0,0.07150427062485279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845340459012615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635123133571675,0.0,0.07165957425745853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212266241807576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05749622768154871,0.0,0.07123667103448984,0.10464614683717943,0.0,0.0,0.08574215295384094,0.09969483460637388,0.0,0.09760194484070524,0.0,0.0,0.10793576908933697,0.0,0.0,0.0740377634881743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636372605265315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748515702285418,0.0,0.0,0.05778404924577237
parenting,reginaFilange77,2020/02/23,"JR high son's childhood friends are now excluding him. He has ADHD so he a bit immature. Any solutions for this or is it over? He hasn't noticed yet, but I have... little things so far. But I saw last weekend on Instagram there was a birthday party and he wasn't invited. It hurts, he went through a lot with these friends as kids, and they were so close. JR High changes things I guess.

I casually mentioned it to a parent, asking if my child upset hers and she said she'd ask about it. I know this parent well enough to know she did ask. This parent is very honest and straightforward so not hearing back from her is not good news.

Son has ADHD which makes him a bit immature and overly imaginative and awkward socially. He tends to get lost on his own world. I think this is a factor. 

Is this situation repairable before high school starts or is it over?? 

I'm personally devastated but would like outside advice or outlooks, please.",2.750042971147945,5.1660429392265215,3.71730202578269,86.32142879066916,78.17127071823205,6.895150399017803,24.97268262737876,7.984000788550335,1.5292723143032538,736,27,144,13,18,236,115,181,0.086,0.758,0.156,0.917,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,1,1,10,11,0,2,6,0,17,0,0,1,0,26,34,18,0,2,9,5,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,3,14,8,0,0,4,2,0,1,4,4,1,0,8,3,16,7,14,24,5,20,0,2,1,0,32,12,0,6,8,93,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873510108100541,0.11682258162410628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129789442067523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352884898391558,0.0,0.0,0.09192633867865944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172798805556528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26103461502395925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126467729143742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352679605773588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847276007988034,0.0,0.062459783162829324,0.0,0.0,0.10027261498985987,0.0,0.0,0.13169747089900918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474119866252082,0.0,0.0,0.3789324601632281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798042468326007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140277545117998,0.09744896025152984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840594393164501,0.11982020459238026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050261798958826,0.10163687841054897,0.0,0.0,0.07980035197592136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610812395633645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982373768374693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043861853637397,0.0,0.13122966870192987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137191397486682,0.0,0.0,0.1209906771971372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437886989601547,0.0,0.12186586223255674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461789182024909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884701491701064,0.07660261950575999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864102140673342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748953616992572,0.11082376809967276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492467566865873,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Raidden,2020/02/23,"My kid LOVES books and puzzles but I am so sick of picking them up every single day and night Would it be a bad idea to put these up on a shelf where my 4yr has to have help to get them? 

I don’t want her to lose interest in these things because they aren’t readily available to her- but this kid refuses to pick up her puzzles. She will get out and do every single puzzle all over the floor of her room, then when it’s time to break them up and put them Away she just does them again or has a tantrum because suddenly they are too many to pick up. 

She loves to look at books but isn’t very careful with the books and they get left on the floor and stepped on. 

TL;DR
Should I put her stuff up so she has to ask for it- will it make her not want them anymore?",1.879643527204504,3.0786908292682966,2.7129268292682944,98.08160412757977,76.6829268292683,6.021763602251407,21.151969981238274,6.297961479604792,-0.09765891181988716,592,14,146,4,13,186,93,164,0.098,0.787,0.115,-0.1694,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,9,1,7,7,1,0,6,0,15,3,0,4,1,28,26,14,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,9,8,0,1,1,3,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,24,4,28,21,3,31,0,1,1,2,26,19,0,4,7,104,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375238537478518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436275593561338,0.0,0.15513351015746174,0.0,0.13786637867670634,0.2013084290807362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834849496373006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648725367795646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449560794094918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27823755966130725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25880154257315285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067491068570832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186397779896025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794008591649278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386572781701505,0.1847244656663576,0.0,0.0,0.2980503334225095,0.0,0.11021734383018454,0.16740342687450455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549517717404773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4979666690297452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890202571546519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969685988847093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628145602100678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362393912175599,0.19478138958146785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729487334421493,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittynicole,2020/02/23,"Fever and inconsolable crying Okay bear with me please because I’m very worried and scatter brained. 
My son (10 months old) has been extremely fussy for about 4 days now. Last night he woke up with a high fever of about 102. I gave him Tylenol and gave him a bath and his fever broke. Fast forward to this evening, he’s still extremely fussy, doesn’t wanna he put down. We were thinking it was teething but were told it wouldn’t be this high of a fever. So after him having yet another fever and crying constanly, gagging on his food and his hands were a little shaky, we decided to bring him into urgent care. They did a flu swab which was negative and a chest X-ray which looked fine to them, no ear infection, they sent us home and said if he still has a fever in the morning to bring him back so they could do more testing. (It was 9pm and they couldn’t do much more testing until morning) He’s absolutely inconsolable, he can’t sleep, he is crying and it sounds like he is in pain. Does anyone have any idea what this could be?! I’m so worried for my baby I can’t even think straight.",3.7711818181818164,4.9253595272727315,3.932500000000001,91.35875,71.9090909090909,7.3181818181818175,25.56818181818182,7.645422480735847,1.056863636363636,856,26,187,10,16,264,132,220,0.15,0.775,0.075,-0.9625,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,5,0,12,7,0,1,8,1,25,17,6,0,0,27,39,16,0,6,2,1,1,1,0,1,10,3,2,0,10,15,1,0,4,1,0,5,7,3,0,0,14,5,21,4,21,19,3,28,0,1,1,0,30,11,0,2,15,112,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409679188784444,0.14509369892630625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675198085378482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639849434350797,0.0,0.0843494683727431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544674154572653,0.0,0.0,0.14107810702598045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22095542104318355,0.0,0.4559810089360011,0.08923762683187703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210890946561134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827850282679192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731834803956924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29239239300200337,0.13879705131362896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620362954383438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127905537753147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760091377903445,0.13868374987853105,0.0,0.0,0.11619650258135113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044613851418936,0.0,0.1017183542385464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985148837937668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519672837380615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723613521112774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518894297736685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910072880640625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162218164255202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847058692183753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210059713016864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732466005574965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322190927829093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664428635877684,0.0,0.0,0.11417028361011655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28104423829496594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slaywacher,2020/02/23,"Am I a failure as a parent? This feels so stupid, but I need a friend who gets it. 

LO (9,M) has basketball games on either fridays or sundays each week. I checked his schedule and put it in my phone at the beginning of the season. I just realized I effed up and mixed up some dates, and his game was on Friday (yesterday) this week, but I thought it was scheduled on Sunday (tomorrow). We missed it. AND it was a playoff game. And I've been hyping him up for his game ""tomorrow"" all day. He's going to be devastated. I have to break it to him tomorrow that I'm an idiot who can't read dates.  

I feel like a terrible mom. Currently sobbing and could use some words of encouragement/tales of similar eff-ups.",2.563779342723006,4.2658962464788726,4.232042253521128,85.7974061032864,75.97183098591547,8.11361502347418,26.622065727699532,8.841846274778883,2.008603755868545,545,21,115,12,12,183,95,142,0.171,0.777,0.051,-0.9558,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,0,2,7,2,0,8,0,10,0,0,1,1,24,20,11,0,2,5,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,0,4,5,1,2,1,5,0,0,5,2,15,2,16,13,5,27,0,2,0,0,17,8,1,3,17,76,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203138834674329,0.0,0.0,0.17795705600638792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790448897115113,0.19713002252454945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131888631063187,0.0,0.14416611383215697,0.0,0.15682181317101532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348092730225017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231750213969763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20460438549078733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063962766339812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277393707851143,0.0,0.0,0.2760124769853995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190637940597475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383216667392821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4426813245900936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Totally_Not_Cypher,2020/02/23,"Parents of newborns who use high contrast, do you have any recommendations? When to start, how often do you engage, any further starting to points? My baby is due in a month and I want to start with flashcards in addition to me reading to her daily.",4.186914893617022,6.326462531914897,5.06058510638298,79.70875000000002,72.61702127659575,6.402127659574468,30.89893617021277,7.1686216300943375,2.0310893617021284,197,9,34,2,4,64,38,47,0.0,0.914,0.086,0.4696,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,7,9,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,9,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,6,25,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38728033618993896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008546359268197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272852070538091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161818361226662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269181350384627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28482765105615515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6046438070509706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459330870637717,0.0,0.0,0.16795327768069548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dreamingofdarcy,2020/02/23,"Frustrated husband watches baby solo while I work on Saturdays. First, and foremost, some knowledge on my husband. He loves our baby, who is 4 months. However, he comes from a household who’s first reaction to anything, and I mean, anything is anger. They were never physical in a slap, hit, punch, etc. kind of way, but he grew up watching walls be punched and so, so much yelling, as the only viable solution to a problem. He hates it, but it’s what he was conditioned from birth to experience. In our relationship, whenever we argue and he feels like he is reaching the point where he regresses into the state of wanting to punch walls and yell, he tells me and we take a minute and regroup before we can continue talking about this. Secondly, our baby is the ONLY baby he’s ever interacted with for more than maybe five minutes. 

So, during the first 3ish months of our baby’s life, when my husband would hold the baby and he would cry and cry, I could see him start to get frustrated and try to calm him but if that didn’t work, he could hand him to me when he reached the point where he knew he was about to “regress” as stated above during our arguments. Well, I work a job where I have to work one day during the weekend, so husband HAS to watch the baby solo. So, last week was the first time he’s had to watch him by himself. We’ve gone over all of the things that could calm the baby, I told him about the mental checklist (diaper, hungry, sleepy, just want attention). Anywho, it’s a disaster. I’m getting frantic texts at work that day, “I’ve tried everything, he won’t stop crying,” “I’m getting really frustrated, I don’t know what to do” and so forth. I ended up texting my mom to go check on him and give him a break but he had to give the baby 2 baths to calm him down for probably like 40 of those minutes. When I got home, he told me he felt like he didn’t deserve to be a father because he went in that bad headspace mentally and wanted to yell at the baby and felt the need to punch walls because he couldn’t stop the problem. Obviously, the baby feels this anger and it compounds the problem. 

I explained that I have had moments also where it feels like nothing will work and you just have to kind of regroup, walk away and start over because the baby can sense it and it makes it worse. We discuss trying all the things again and we’ll try again next week. Well fast forward to today. He’s had a bad week, and we had an emergency plumbing situation last night. Before I leave for work, husband tells me that he is very anxious because he knows he’s not in the right mental state for me to be leaving and he’s worried the same thing is going to happen as last week. Welp, I check on him about an hour in and everything is fine. He goes to feed the baby and put him to sleep, and of course, he won’t go down. I get the same kinds of texts as last week. I tell him to go into the garage, let the baby cry for a couple of minutes, take deep breathes and then go back in and try again. He doesn’t reply for a while but eventually sends me a text saying that he had to go to the garage a couple of times, finally got so frustrated that he hit a wall, came back inside and tried again and got the baby to fall asleep. 

So a million things can be said about this but I am super, super proud of him for taking himself out of the equation. When we argue, we can walk away from the situation. When you’re parenting solo, that’s it. It’s just you. You have to figure it out. When he reached that point where he regressed to where he felt that he needed to hit something, he walked away from our son, into a place where the baby couldn’t see, dealt with it, calmed down enough to come back and start again. I mean, ideally, would we not be in a situation of this anger in the first place, absolutely, but I know that he’d never hurt our baby. Secondly, he’s very situationally aware. He knows that this a cycle that his parents and their parents put him through and he wants to stop it. 

So, I’m sure there will be judgement but what I’m asking for is advice. If anyone has been in this situation, what helped? How do I help as the mother and the wife? We agreed that Monday we’ll start looking for therapists, so he can talk through the triggers and how to work with them, but anything is welcome! He’s so very open to talking about it and how to fix it but he just doesn’t know how as that’s the only parenting he’s ever known.",5.542562994017207,5.200145425389756,5.981067732215383,83.54277195510723,67.46325167037864,8.86941787850998,29.411852045940872,8.251243910053105,1.821592619765056,3464,106,731,41,51,1119,322,898,0.11699999999999999,0.795,0.08800000000000001,-0.9874,6,0,1,0,1,0,104.0,18,3,3,17,52,38,10,1,57,0,61,7,4,6,8,131,127,77,0,20,18,14,7,4,0,9,1,5,2,0,48,55,1,4,19,2,2,20,13,17,2,10,26,19,69,21,111,76,9,135,0,1,7,1,126,50,0,3,66,461,117,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04653157013143392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03807994324950427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05379456831620785,0.0,0.03329547799444767,0.0,0.11755619418604532,0.0,0.04451622184203323,0.0,0.13421549216541798,0.10984546349734148,0.07951776010386805,0.11610949329470655,0.0,0.08103849349551505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054462085958996494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203704914448963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405683316523198,0.10537639602151262,0.2092237011919984,0.061419092699459985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04217524350454646,0.049201923925689,0.053106442276385495,0.0,0.08614606564694083,0.0,0.0,0.08559162947465611,0.04657935262585205,0.0,0.0,0.07223098229336307,0.0680363420197698,0.1371616872719288,0.052162980296206835,0.0,0.20251841258257935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995133557307254,0.09135867938087164,0.16237378325873592,0.0,0.11425293126846155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042108269685996735,0.0,0.0,0.0470127263087585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383442491124279,0.0,0.047764543184816634,0.0,0.04689394825890319,0.0,0.05097584751004145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04725332614187076,0.0,0.0,0.14875985585831375,0.13084750774138745,0.1552594734730188,0.0,0.10084076480645124,0.0,0.04869243411254204,0.03363386548257993,0.09305462140504987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03998696523408507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297693016138776,0.0,0.031785256093967984,0.0,0.04783848764530156,0.10373950345537447,0.0,0.0,0.14396264962368266,0.0,0.0,0.055769400333916384,0.07601615888419419,0.0,0.035004567299755374,0.07061600141735108,0.07345157698315913,0.0,0.05064207821666115,0.044686086380139316,0.0,0.04569057031036207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032267058547341014,0.10864646444981306,0.0,0.0,0.21149575902937354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950094727350817,0.0,0.13504265784434927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134005001759105,0.1366914318226478,0.0,0.09573809681446238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030505186644401026,0.0,0.0,0.05112370451359543,0.0,0.04066534720743645,0.0452954390575596,0.03786759155958033,0.0,0.0,0.0758904545509948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676220522530809,0.04765219625530735,0.0,0.0,0.03665851441231348,0.0,0.0,0.1348165162203718,0.0,0.0,0.11943185712174223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487921979424304,0.0,0.10740799481566812,0.11482016919769795,0.12486018711424784,0.0,0.0,0.0552879443529175,0.12654062103442848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553265267293988,0.0,0.045136113463629855,0.09100171087664047,0.0,0.19397619242391612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786903375048925,0.1123448657903578,0.03779679896411661,0.19098066354799886,0.0,0.0856282547629321,0.04414218437795239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773306463941444,0.04835819468005388,0.04852661368512391,0.10147897213435778,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mumaydidi,2020/02/23,"Hardest working teacher I have ever come across that is posting resources to help young children learn at home. I have recently come across a teacher that is by far one of the most dedicated hard working, for teaching resources. Her fresh attitude and ethic towards providing new content mostly freely available is outstanding. Please if she can help you out with free resources help her out by giving her a follow on her Facebook page linked below. 

https://www.facebook.com/maketeachingsparkle/",11.033544303797472,12.99112273417722,8.04794936708861,65.50432911392407,55.83544303797469,9.357974683544304,42.382278481012655,9.3871,4.5316967088607605,412,21,52,6,5,117,60,79,0.018000000000000002,0.679,0.303,0.9774,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,12,10,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,2,14,10,3,17,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,3,4,39,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157995567804839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831292256314927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152282286331066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162002431078004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4853110733910643,0.0,0.2420915439204709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330952305711644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354353042323566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649274333358742,0.0,0.0,0.2311444989248509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23830185796025266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35140817793565143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,razorrred,2020/02/23,"Watching children grow and thinking I might not be around to be part of it all I (35) am blessed with two children, a daughter (5) amd son (1). Ever since my daughter was born, my perspective on life completely changed. It has made me realize how fragile life truly is and I cannot help but think that I might not live long enough to watch her grow.
 

I am constantly thinking about my death..or how much limited time I have. This obviously has made me spend so much more time with my children but I'm also panicking inside thinking any idea could be my last. I go to sleep thinking I might not wake up tomorrow. This cannot be normal... 

Any other parent get the same feelings/thoughts?",3.5971086807928927,5.448369353383459,4.119439507860562,87.06347915242651,73.51127819548874,7.242378673957622,29.384142173615857,8.00094639256281,1.9472766917293232,536,23,106,8,11,169,88,133,0.062,0.903,0.035,-0.5313,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,2,0,17,4,2,4,3,31,27,8,0,2,5,4,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,6,5,0,1,7,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,3,3,16,1,10,16,7,14,1,0,2,0,9,3,0,3,8,71,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324706272385518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926020278906399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126064700689905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980671559443434,0.0,0.14847748442399242,0.15303226001929005,0.0,0.11306565641757238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632304802658525,0.0,0.0,0.12809615859734055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398642353836414,0.0,0.08048136126380699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491953644073307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986270738050112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154326781402214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000494826893432,0.0,0.0,0.1250459876771347,0.12532216094913648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26799339092261537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4506838497222038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20820222355076187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387496898463773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724336386019055,0.15335199260820878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714290717843608,0.0,0.14171426734792994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536962477220183,0.0,0.11242410729122557,0.16515018836212042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833434390174051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TameemsMom,2020/02/23,"Help getting toddler to wear a mask in Airport Hi friends, 

I’ll be flying out of the country soon and have been worried sick about the coronavirus! I wanted my toddlers to at least have a mask on while in the airport. Is there fun creative things I can do to decorate their mask so they keep it on? It’ll be my first time flying anywhere with them! Any advice from fellow parents would be so helpful? Thank you in advance!",4.496907630522088,5.792285216867473,4.590542168674698,86.78934738955826,70.32530120481928,6.497188755020081,31.90562248995984,6.42735559955562,1.7267285140562247,335,15,64,2,6,104,62,83,0.057999999999999996,0.733,0.209,0.9341,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,3,2,5,3,0,0,5,0,11,2,1,0,0,6,15,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,8,3,14,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,4,48,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30383689624472354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21144285264546905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644766369915878,0.0,0.0,0.24022350857661984,0.0,0.1624479308065256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168192365702401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763685964125525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452506266761269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862622854716685,0.0,0.0,0.2065678712075502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130560370865295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833943881237801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157641948914157,0.0,0.22087553203353089,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BriBarber4,2020/02/23,"Please tell me I'm not alone... My first and only (as of now) has ruined wanting any more kids. Don't get me wrong, she is healthy, happy, spunky, and the love of my life, but she has not been an easy baby. She'll be 2 in May and hubby already wants more kids but I'm like, hell no! I had all the post partem stuff, especially anxiety. I get panic attacks too often for comfort and even hearing a baby cry makes me cringe. Please tell me I'm not crazy for not wanting more kids.",1.3641555555555556,3.0565954600000005,2.785333333333334,94.88322222222223,79.4,5.2444444444444445,20.11111111111111,5.82211442006289,-0.2097222222222226,366,9,84,2,9,119,68,100,0.23800000000000002,0.586,0.17600000000000002,-0.9145,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,4,9,2,1,4,0,9,2,0,1,1,17,20,7,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,2,1,11,4,6,15,4,4,1,1,0,1,10,1,1,2,3,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273501298000734,0.20535696129560085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265488254058722,0.0,0.14235974019503464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170632112014476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20441313648260426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229118982964628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828961508904374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19445060049061666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809821284297968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20973901656406108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314421625496242,0.09091506802162908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795514161412006,0.0,0.12421774120339077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415312219371152,0.0,0.2183386661680342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4085458928788096,0.0,0.0,0.178224532107168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21303062267233386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253049225865858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292853474977509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20346220234953474,0.0,0.0
parenting,dad_128746,2020/02/23,"Our 2yr 2mo old boy has become incredibly moany and whiney, and it's getting the better of us. Our kid has always been full on but as he progressed from crawling to running to speaking it's been an interactive experience and we've just accepted that he's not like the other kids he is 100% and we are worth him all the time.
Only recently he's started playing on his own for maybe 2mins or so at a time. It's a good start. he's never been big on crying, if he gets bumps he gets over crying within minutes.
But now he just won't stop whining. We can't sit down for a minute before he wants something. He won't sit and eat so every meal is running after him trying to stop him grabbing something he shouldn't. Same in shops, or next to roads or even in the house (where everything is almost nailed down now)
It's exhausting and we just don't know what to do right now. He also often won't do anything we encourage him to do, it always has to be his decision. So go swimming, naaahooo. Play ball, naaahhooooo. Draw, nahhhhooooo. He has some toys which he goes through in what feels like seconds.
It feels like we get no time at all. And we really need some help. He will start nursery in two months but until then he's with us full time.",2.7371428571428567,4.413014619047623,3.84,88.905,75.42857142857143,6.546031746031746,23.904761904761905,7.2636822038024595,0.8729476190476189,972,30,204,11,21,315,143,252,0.08900000000000001,0.795,0.115,0.7212,0,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,10,0,0,2,13,11,0,0,8,0,22,3,0,0,3,43,35,21,0,4,11,0,3,3,0,5,1,1,0,3,11,14,2,2,5,6,2,4,9,2,0,2,3,4,16,9,29,26,8,45,0,1,0,0,39,19,0,8,23,127,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963081429048345,0.0,0.0,0.10352538149191204,0.21543441181399356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653070716788307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297324238650033,0.11015695191145336,0.0,0.0,0.1144927202623304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28440120486961884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246512225131832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550402525451413,0.0,0.10907169979560716,0.0,0.11634610424469985,0.12663215432445274,0.0,0.0,0.13091301018072996,0.1849658287766111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705402696653917,0.0,0.07357244795073108,0.10858098974139092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867711796201174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937407105820547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114526441091477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18973600716964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005528004668016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333001019031783,0.0,0.0,0.09598948767156897,0.09984393199513353,0.0,0.13767721323984236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584159323540948,0.0,0.0,0.09845661276522326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293239998157584,0.0,0.12782152183171785,0.0,0.0,0.11055414540844212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932207695771265,0.0,0.0,0.2748874489191807,0.0,0.0,0.21646090681392768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019457784144041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789167213064708,0.0,0.1264590478675995,0.0,0.3114376477439316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763561083415996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,livingsinglexo,2020/02/23,"Wife keeps telling white lies to toddler My wife in general is a pretty big liar, maybe pathologically. She’s lied to me and she’s lied to government officials... and she’ll make the craziest leaps in logic to justify herself and she’ll NEVER admit she’s lied.

I don’t like it but I’m not going to tell her how to live her life, but now she’s telling our toddler white lies, like yogurt is melted ice cream to get her to eat it? Our daughter eats yogurt just fine, I don’t even know why she’d lie about that. Anyway I’m really worried she’s teaching our toddler lying is okay. Am I overreacting?",3.60867941712204,4.812999303278686,4.97863387978142,83.51217668488161,72.36065573770493,8.045173041894353,26.67030965391621,8.515128840125781,1.7614069216757744,473,16,97,8,9,158,75,122,0.188,0.72,0.092,-0.8778,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,2,1,9,4,0,2,1,15,17,6,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,3,2,1,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,20,4,11,14,0,6,0,0,3,0,22,3,0,0,4,54,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44913457103797627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449544342391014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466130282027395,0.0,0.12472690655836607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507040296508849,0.0,0.0,0.12061211762578355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501448250021127,0.21443883678532236,0.0,0.19379144407586546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464944618719212,0.0,0.22048189524245973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692647876106606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22327460625876425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405947741481975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5754657400416651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803285143547414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22287716310382336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ohhhayyyleyyy,2020/02/23,"Do I tell my 2 year old I’m going away for the weekend? I have a work trip coming up about a month before my kid’s 2nd birthday and am curious if he will understand at that age and if I should even mention it? I’ll leave Wednesday after he’s in bed and return Friday afternoon so it’s technically only 1 night to him. He’ll be with his dad and daycare so nothing out of the ordinary otherwise. 

Any insight is appreciated! Thanks!",1.5606242197253408,3.735641741573037,4.176779026217229,82.7303620474407,81.02247191011236,7.1016229712858925,25.61922596754057,8.167268648758528,1.8421300873907616,341,14,68,7,9,120,71,89,0.015,0.871,0.114,0.8498,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,13,8,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,11,9,0,18,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,10,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273093164623786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662763582214047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411640553812465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441356768841053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871919758489175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107045088163144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000940261780183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262179904915436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265964416309084,0.0,0.27194294349360576,0.0,0.2973948438627311,0.0,0.0,0.21554877473959488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477159333488001,0.26092911764978605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950434991064861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632843874872814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825090331572784
parenting,roamingdakota,2020/02/23,"I’ve been idiot apparently with twin sheets. So idiot LPT here. I’ve been a dad for almost ten years now with 4 kids and I literally just realized I’ve been struggling with putting on sheets for far too long. When putting on sheets that have a pattern (tons of kid sheets have cars, trucks, fortnite characters on them) the pattern will be horizontal on the sheet. I would sit and struggle at the top of my kids’ bunk bed for several minutes trying to figure which way was up and down with several missteps. I would put on a side completely guessing if it was the top or side and then would have to adjust to see if it was right and more than 50% of the time I’d guess wrong and have to remake it. Once I realized that the pattern will always be horizontal I don’t have to guess anymore. 

That’s it. Hopefully this helps another bonehead out there in Redditland.",5.3147767616998385,6.071136852071008,5.6231199569661126,82.11191500806886,68.05325443786981,9.222377622377623,30.748251748251747,9.339509955726095,2.5268177514792907,684,26,137,13,11,218,100,169,0.08800000000000001,0.857,0.055,-0.7579,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,2,7,6,2,2,9,0,19,0,0,0,0,27,24,12,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,9,11,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,5,0,1,6,1,7,1,26,11,2,28,0,0,1,0,6,16,0,8,6,90,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657601407522036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179788251416132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348966799058775,0.0,0.0,0.14516723831936973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534741201430089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4837542606565884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811381433446344,0.0,0.0,0.1453859768550809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953956258556668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588735811156942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414497288249873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250056636776939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664398916301565,0.0,0.0,0.3307300282139422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060512820451382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535395096656463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938077641360724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618771912361164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119473244941536,0.16004091798880082,0.0,0.0942623699971894
parenting,ImDumbDontListen,2020/02/23,"My 18 year old is worried He is constantly worrying about his future. He goes to a community college in California and is doing economics and wants to work in Tech after transferring, hopefully as a financial analyst. He says he’s going to try for internships when he transfers and maybe complete a CFA. He has a 3.6 and is worried about being able to transfer to a UC and competing. Is his plan okay? Is he going to be okay?",4.817723577235771,6.270732073170732,6.7204878048780525,71.22186991869921,69.73170731707317,10.832520325203252,34.39837398373984,10.864195022040775,4.341895934959348,338,17,59,11,6,118,52,82,0.086,0.8370000000000001,0.078,-0.168,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,5,2,10,0,0,0,0,7,14,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,13,12,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,6,37,3,5,0.2274846098428102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385132853443662,0.2458300478518621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585694923171202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594354638028474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285388665968455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23870683099976656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090489231067347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444711760130014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417631680829675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561150529419286,0.6930649909833358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649263036286578
parenting,Flaggstaff,2020/02/23,"My Son Literally Thinks He's Peter Parker My 2.5 y/o son has loved Spider-Man since his first birthday.  For his screen time he always requests Spider-Man and he has all the toys. 

It's gotten to the point that he makes us say ""goodnight Peaky Parker"" to him before bed. He calls me daddy Spidey and his mom is MJ. He tells strangers he's looking to fight the ""gween gobbin"" in all seriousness while shooting webs. He has assigned super hero characters to everyone we know.

It's very cute but a part of me wonders if this kid is on the way to an identity crisis when he finds out he's a mere mortal.",4.46646694214876,5.130696669421494,5.229411157024796,84.50957128099174,69.9090909090909,7.7028925619834725,25.868801652892564,7.645422480735847,1.2525776859504123,471,13,96,5,8,153,86,121,0.07,0.853,0.077,-0.0525,0,0,0,1,1,0,15.0,2,0,0,3,1,6,1,0,7,0,5,1,0,1,2,13,12,6,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,10,4,10,11,3,9,0,0,2,1,26,4,0,2,4,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994677922030248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039856474977981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24478282275521626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290645113930489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191014381725487,0.20390729264072494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174486562525864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130598788088794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21635833906323806,0.0,0.16001620379505754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807593465025962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25959541491144394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22661464374933316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063644572540445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198300400768911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095274728225762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360408908681902,0.0,0.0,0.13978374503453586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883558828012187,0.0,0.0,0.1977956411612713,0.0,0.1902800552546335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599681325780546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,porkchop0414,2020/02/23,"He really is just a bad dad. First post, I apologize for any formatting issues etc. 

I met my son’s father (I’ll just call him George) about 5 years ago. We didn’t “date” officially but talked on and off again. 2 years ago, we decided to date and moved kind of quickly since we always had feelings for each other. I ended up getting pregnant a few months into the relationship and we were happy. He had always told me he always wanted a son, to be a dad, etc etc. 

We had a beautiful baby boy 10 months ago. Much to my surprise, it seems like George hates him. I thought all he wanted in life was to be a dad! But it’s like he hates our son and his life now. 

It was super hard on our relationship, as a baby is for 95% of relationships I think. We always disagreed about little things when it came to our son, but for the most part, he just let me make major decisions and trusted my judgement when it came to parenting. (Even if his parents were constantly putting me down and trying to sway his mind when it came to the untraditional things I do.) 

We broke up about 6 months ago because the relationship was so bad. He wasn’t there for me when I had PPD, he never woke up to the baby crying in the middle of the night, he choses to play video games 90% of the time he’s home and not at work. I mostly did the parenting. It sucked and made me resent him. Even worse, he denies that I do more for our son. More recently after we broke up, it turned abusive. We would get into terrible, physical fights and more often would get into verbal arguments that would make me, honestly, just want to die. He also is financially abusive and makes me pay more bills, even though he makes A LOT more money I do. And like I mentioned, he plays video games constantly and doesn’t cook, clean and barely watches DS. 

We live together in a house we bought and it’s not easy to move out. My family lives nowhere close and to keep it short, I can’t move in with them. It’s not an option whatsoever. His parents know about the abuse and have offered to let me and my son move in with them, but they have a full house and smoke inside the home. I don’t think of that as a good option either. 

Now, very recently, George has become aggressive towards our son. He always has had a temper, but as our son grows older, George yells at him. Like a lot. He’s 10 months and is super close to walking, but can crawl very fast, and like any toddler, gets into things he shouldn’t. I respond by just removing DS from the situation and giving him his own toys to play with. But George will scream at the top of his lungs and scare DS until he cries. Worst part is when DS cries, George mocks him by screaming louder and mocking his cries. It’s heartbreaking. 

I truly don’t want my son to grow up angry and resentful, like I did with my parents. All I want to do is to practice gentle parenting and let my son know that it’s okay to cry. For Gods sake, he’s 10 months old and can’t talk! How else is he supposed to express his discomfort? 

All George says is that DS is a brat and cries all the time. It pisses me off and makes me cry at the same time. How can someone be so terrible to their own kid? I’ve been trying to make a case for full custody but I have nowhere to move and I’m scared for our safety anyway. I’ve told George many, many times that he’s allowed to leave if he’s unhappy and I’d still let him visit DS whenever he wants. Or he can keep the house and I’ll leave. Every time I mention it, he goes off the rails and says he will take full custody of DS and make it so I can’t ever see him again. It’s like he enjoys the idea of a kid, but hates the reality and is in denial about it. 

How can I get George, at least for the time being, to be more gentle with our son? Is there any way I can fix this? I’ve tried talking and explaining why DS is crying but to no avail. He just thinks our baby is a spoiled, whiny brat. I feel like he’s truly just a bad father because of the abuse towards me, the anger, and choosing video games over our completely awesome, smart, funny son. 

Am I asking for something that isn’t possible? Would only therapy fix this? I know he was raised by a mean father but so was I, and I don’t want our son to be the same way. I don’t want to threaten my kid to get him to listen, I don’t want him to feel like he can’t cry or can’t talk to us. I know how it feels to have parents that don’t validate your feelings and I would do anything to keep DS from going though that. 


TLDR; my baby daddy is abusive towards me but is now becoming aggressive towards our son. How can I get him to try to be nicer to our son?",3.0847670753593017,3.9850691644120713,4.2939763832963855,89.0833582168333,73.2767950052029,7.402440091088692,23.396839041457426,7.691010164374798,0.8456403534965093,3581,91,800,44,69,1177,340,961,0.19,0.6859999999999999,0.124,-0.9979,9,0,2,0,3,1,109.0,25,1,4,5,44,51,14,3,43,1,82,5,2,14,6,160,145,75,1,17,27,28,6,9,0,8,2,6,3,4,34,65,1,3,20,11,4,15,21,28,0,1,27,14,103,23,110,99,33,104,0,3,2,0,141,41,2,12,54,503,137,2,0.0,0.23854832235338644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277662672917688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03220140679593237,0.16752633587751622,0.0,0.0,0.08214857101792487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03313620861217841,0.0,0.03764409414060624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008634804349144,0.049092628656965,0.08894320354435635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04111698327737846,0.13816373938084953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042219054172135714,0.08702837741228263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980814599933563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04179066075559425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033637808599145384,0.0,0.035664500966006166,0.0,0.13472463496243675,0.07978767699954017,0.03642369535046969,0.033926580365381764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03796002774786971,0.0,0.1018007138674264,0.05753332960427442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034250984800629936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726446806670287,0.038627657344537984,0.022884594012523792,0.03377394577619258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04286483906919608,0.03607121235518312,0.11926561296599665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078192109890722,0.0,0.0,0.13938770833562886,0.0,0.04545640255951863,0.0,0.0420281576730932,0.0,0.10737315064315693,0.0,0.041931755710273064,0.08851848958717508,0.0,0.0,0.08527361681894705,0.0,0.16470243860066805,0.05688337177542008,0.17705125823224846,0.04035798900033261,0.07111277980267397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846691732626084,0.0,0.03810149240145648,0.18814917039711,0.08164858579426346,0.0,0.04386243342967736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04065806673007337,0.0,0.1607031843020165,0.21398658731772752,0.02960078758388613,0.0,0.031056297730541412,0.0,0.0,0.037787736085026113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04225331354053245,0.0,0.0,0.030624774269971983,0.0,0.0,0.31298120963885645,0.0872102071024141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04539485333605578,0.038564537142048536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04047933292850947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02579599234394837,0.0,0.07951736593407026,0.17292622472369482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404367318526062,0.08062833649786459,0.0,0.032087487406597094,0.036657452283019545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033309176561242236,0.045261656592809736,0.0,0.0,0.034117994006715606,0.030999408990474882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032157179794364825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030275680047919095,0.12945996102593066,0.0,0.0,0.04604868286671161,0.0,0.08025457103706281,0.0774041661653128,0.0791240039386989,0.03196740229264871,0.14087963793395392,0.0,0.0,0.07695345268411533,0.0,0.10935426452786523,0.04379879898875567,0.0,0.0,0.04843609481098183,0.0,0.0,0.0664487808288667,0.2137540247198996,0.06392394500448415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036334593162723534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02931476585654108,0.0,0.0410353875126659,0.14302216968132694,0.0,0.0,0.051861096862414836
parenting,Kungfubunnyrabbit,2020/02/23,"My kid screamed that I was abusing her in a Diner today. She is 4 . I would not let her play games on my phone while we were eating . So what is the logical thing to do scream at the top of your voice “YOU ARE ABUSING ME!” .

At this point that manger comes over with one of the bus boys and asks if everything is ok , to my daughter , not me . She realizing she has the upper hand now repeats the horrible lie about me “abusing her” . I ask the manger for the check and told him we would be leaving . At this point my wife gets back the manager explains they are calling the police . People are recording us on their phones . 

Police arrive , we spend the next 45 minutes talking to the police who finally get they to tell them how I was abusing her . I won’t let her play her game . 

Apparently they still need to make a report .

I can’t explain how angry I am at my daughter. I am just glad the didn’t take her and her brother he is 1 away right then and there.",2.392673076923078,3.903883969230773,3.5046634615384638,91.64314903846157,75.97435897435899,6.310897435897436,23.982371794871803,6.9077264865688965,0.6705448717948714,734,23,162,7,16,237,121,195,0.141,0.809,0.05,-0.9565,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,2,5,1,9,6,0,0,14,1,22,3,1,3,0,23,33,10,0,4,4,4,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,2,7,9,2,0,4,4,2,1,5,2,0,1,5,4,39,4,19,22,0,24,0,0,0,0,43,14,0,1,9,119,46,2,0.0,0.6427577704949781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535758141517657,0.0,0.12742097632931607,0.10428465431492026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848483737026734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168260168239394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877477517855574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188796707427905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856685551764046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171339769094174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360371330602278,0.0,0.2773645900798465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052848443261076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056171273411678,0.0,0.0,0.14423513140553534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190071959003178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402295491557833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564125352597171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158201224093252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108307600877887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197057987999464,0.10900752085635636,0.11853927359704515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010097800959764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855343788833604,0.1295922697945526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313611014454116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268341526950825,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,themarajade1,2020/02/23,"[Funny] Parenting LPT: Tell your kids it’s bedtime 30 minutes before their actual bedtime. This tricks them into eating their dinner they refused to eat at dinner time, since kids are always suddenly starving right at bedtime. Works for getting all those extra hugs, stories, and drinks of water that are inevitably requested. :-) 

[Final disclaimer, because internet] please take this lightly. Parenting is hard enough as it is and I wanted to make folks laugh!",9.038289473684207,10.80088835526316,7.572210526315793,67.84647368421055,60.18421052631579,9.237894736842106,37.56842105263158,9.3871,4.073018947368421,369,17,47,6,5,111,63,76,0.091,0.774,0.135,0.6996,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,4,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,1,1,7,8,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,8,8,3,7,0,0,0,1,12,4,0,0,3,29,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.20912869945220194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831716542562046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063704789381514,0.0,0.1823559685881236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209935238584016,0.0,0.4385706985011773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143216407063995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23475833239383803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196441091748106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19197328906377426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430488379490389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4759159792650421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352402106937159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830134904567253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17727355869004552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112909708193834,0.0,0.1873101648134095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496173398142266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640139231016956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601505056721435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yblehs16,2020/02/24,"My husband doesn’t want to do Santa/Tooth Fairy etc. Title says it but I’m curious if any other sets of parents decided not to do Santa/Easter bunny/tooth fairy etc. He says it’s because when he found out that they weren’t real, he was very upset that he was being lied to. I, on the other hand, was not adversely affected this way when I found out Santa wasn’t real. We still celebrate the holidays, we just aren’t adding a fictional creature to it. I want to support him in this because I can empathize with him and his hurt when he found out but at the same time, I’m wondering if my child will grow up magic-less while her friends at school/daycare talk about them. Anyone have any insight on this?",5.787569930069933,5.364364286713291,6.399431818181817,81.01914772727272,66.97202797202797,9.387762237762237,30.46241258741259,8.841846274778883,2.267686013986014,555,18,112,8,8,182,90,143,0.076,0.7340000000000001,0.19,0.9404,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,2,0,6,5,0,1,4,0,13,1,1,1,0,26,22,9,0,4,7,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,10,7,0,0,6,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,8,3,14,2,17,12,3,18,0,1,0,0,20,9,0,3,6,74,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22027865940121352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324720114946217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974603750200027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361259625214514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5327470614023264,0.12513100292550292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17338306594356914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179839006734276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686951418224595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575964675508549,0.0,0.16391361893778925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293426112125707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379191711875592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301784664703854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944410152133028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363514585634687,0.19105810128918435,0.1285574484261464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564026745536174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rachisthename,2020/02/24,"How do you single parents manage your work/home life? My LO is 3, I’m a single parent in the uk with no support network at all. When I found out I was pregnant it was a complete shock, baby’s dad is absolute trash who will not pay a a penny, I was working 45 hours a week at the time with around £2000 in savings which I felt was pretty good for a minimum wage worker, but my place of work went bankrupt. I applied for so many jobs but nobody wanted to hire the heavily pregnant girl, I’m now on benefits unable to afford to drive (had to sell my car to pay a huge gas and electric bill last winter) pretty much unable to make ends meet, for the last week 12 days out of every 30 I have zero money, I’ve failed in every way possible and I feel absolutely terrible.

So please single parents or reddit, how can I get back into work when I have nobody in this world who will help to watch my LO, I can get 15 hours free nursery but I need to work full tome to manage to pay my bills and try clear some debts.....I fee like I’m stuck in quicksand and can’t see a way out.

I need to go back to work, not only for the money but just to feel like a normal happy functioning human being who isn’t a drag on society.",6.450590142671857,4.255122175097276,7.455107003891051,79.75856193255512,66.54863813229572,9.967444876783398,30.366083009079126,8.07648339933343,1.9485904020752265,937,23,204,9,12,320,150,257,0.08199999999999999,0.7440000000000001,0.174,0.9724,8,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,0,2,0,7,11,11,0,0,15,0,17,1,0,3,2,34,35,15,0,4,8,4,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,6,11,0,0,4,0,11,4,5,3,0,1,9,5,19,9,35,23,7,39,0,1,2,0,13,18,0,2,17,122,25,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125820262566844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492755983175834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926069011289925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335686657594963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007453407268715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167210004512936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502695764158477,0.08126028315465185,0.10921415638373608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471679911273373,0.0,0.0,0.11885535324633703,0.0,0.06464456697109963,0.0954048867291479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210849079689861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762416568750076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240341206263434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287551765119196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18543661229161348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034228036262564,0.11114126156321044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592644853212231,0.11532075835787893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361651923196127,0.1686826804637978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114470913096626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650908424185243,0.0,0.0,0.3789049665487819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884053300884258,0.1248591320698808,0.0,0.12823171060058813,0.0,0.2314414850092737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064096690790814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907780032896482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663263036572538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772261796842263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670904353032612,0.18057282299339933,0.18248062533948906,0.0,0.0,0.1054438347251226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4968513779055545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,failingasaparent,2020/02/24,"How much privacy do you give your teens? I am struggling with how much privacy as far as their phone/internet usage to give to my kids, ages 14 and 12.  Generally they are good kids - good grades, teachers say nice things about them etc; only the usual teen behavior of smart mouth back talking that comes with their age and dragging their feet about being told to help around the house. 

They have had their phones for a few years now and I think I made a mistake being so lenient about it. I did not check their phones or monitor what they were doing because they only knew family and their friends didn't have phones. Now that they are older, I find out they are using tiktok, snap chat, discord, youtube, etc and I struggle with wanting to monitor those apps as I have no way of knowing who they are talking to and what they are sending/receiving.  I used to know their phone passwords but recently I've come to find they have changed their phone passwords.  Part of me thinks what are they hiding. 

So now I am struggling with wanting to give them their freedom and worried I am giving them too much and will be one of those clueless parents when something bad happens to them. Especially now as they are getting older and exploring their sexuality.

If you say no to monitoring, how do you talk to your kids about the dangers of the internet and being safe?",7.559894385769873,7.319417832684826,6.7669510839355205,79.24296692607005,63.28015564202335,9.677487493051697,34.69955530850473,9.04235418022936,2.860384324624792,1081,42,203,15,14,331,137,257,0.12,0.7859999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.8158,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,5,25,0,17,12,1,3,6,0,26,2,2,6,0,41,45,23,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,10,18,0,1,8,1,1,3,4,6,0,1,7,2,42,6,31,33,7,20,0,0,0,0,53,3,0,2,13,151,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998611610943547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863649899689445,0.09378016626817333,0.06846751953442705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188166994997494,0.19350263636378015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25052672409711496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058826553988539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531176272378088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677598618250819,0.0,0.05868109862589895,0.4309795512945853,0.0,0.1884126684960531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932172453700104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528384821189618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959896294566148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345318596232953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627724555211547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24769818495102486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610903807154212,0.17084457589086485,0.0,0.0,0.12471495311789706,0.12162857687065047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108996799389092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786382829694407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646726397324052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522549564325081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708289203376622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461855354568367,0.14393664667394565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732389299638292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940119887936802,0.12370152215368965,0.0,0.13249518320729048,0.08915216139462548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406356345048875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232859106639901
parenting,badmikeyy,2020/02/24,"What is your favorite Dad moment? My daughter just turned 1 and I am sure I will have many more moments like this, but this morning was definitely one for the books.  As I was leaving for work, i gave my daughter a kiss on her forehead as she was sleeping.  It may have been a coincidence and she may have been dreaming of food or playing, but she smiled and laughed and it just melted my heart.  These moments make everything worth it as a parent and i wouldn't give it up for anything.",5.3118750000000015,5.746898104166667,5.277083333333334,85.72625000000002,67.95833333333334,7.65,32.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.9096791666666684,382,16,78,3,6,119,64,96,0.0,0.747,0.253,0.9753,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,4,0,14,5,3,1,1,15,18,11,0,1,5,4,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,13,5,9,8,1,5,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,3,4,60,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248045478407284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455173165849899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33033134585715845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620599461186993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237206006873982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28925905640094096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346235539285367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235032633578846,0.27696248575294746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511440142589375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033349846515821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733781194678294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574697007625764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29714229886322746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887889892793925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fpants13,2020/02/24,"Need some advice on how/if to tell some close friends their son is now sexually active We have some friends that we are good friends with. We travel together, hang out together and our kids are friends. My oldest is a freshman in HS and the same age as their youngest (we will call him Brian). They're friends, but not overly close as they don't play the same sports, and run in different circles at a pretty large HS. Brian is very much a ""look at me"" type of kid and always clowning for attention...""thirsty"" as the kids say...something that drives my son crazy as he's pretty much the opposite. 

Anyhow, he started dating a girl that is pretty well known for being of ""loose"" morals...she went to a sister parochial school as our kids in grade school and my kids always told me stuff about her...my kids tell me way more than they probably should! :-)

When they started dating, my wife told Brian's Mom about it (not details, just that she's supposedly promiscuous). She appreciated the insight and they have put in some pretty strict rules about where/when they can be at their house. Brian likes to tell my son at school all about what the two of them have been doing...apparently she has been giving him oral pretty regularly...they've been ""dating"" for about 2 weeks. 

Yesterday, my son told us that Brian told him that he started having sex with her this past weekend...he made us ""swear"" that it wouldn't leave our house...so, you can see our dilemma. I don't want to violate our son's trust, but I also want our friends to be aware their son is sexually active at barely 15. They have not had a sit down talk with him about condoms, etc. as they didn't think this was really possible.

So...any advice on how to handle this would be GREATLY appreciated!",5.7971923131270335,6.328520611275966,5.619906740144131,83.35319485657767,66.92284866468843,8.555546135368095,27.91705524939946,8.418075326091056,1.712761311290094,1374,40,275,18,21,427,171,337,0.027999999999999997,0.769,0.203,0.9965,2,0,1,0,0,0,70.0,12,1,12,0,12,13,1,0,12,0,31,2,0,2,1,41,47,17,0,6,6,9,0,1,6,4,0,0,0,7,14,16,0,0,3,3,0,6,7,1,1,1,12,2,44,12,42,27,11,37,0,0,2,2,68,16,0,5,14,172,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403241770593106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121127195038468,0.14818934512553336,0.0,0.0,0.06055536919204711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092747706645776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303570870876912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931152676574236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127873721470385,0.0,0.0,0.08542249813494594,0.0,0.07468883743954324,0.0,0.09817520844429076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274888576279223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428846938224446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350412176100971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477749210647994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842589193171016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429138267531672,0.0,0.0,0.1309203506505159,0.06602760996821078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500593661600314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038770251708493,0.0,0.4529667201350735,0.09600829076331732,0.0,0.0,0.08951735567982616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704612340933474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708141643748503,0.0,0.2703625418103757,0.07095934678867402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855313365379911,0.0,0.0,0.18908488525840944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193810937210213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157302590634237,0.2334943800233833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05705805714040137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403548969979669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869864908345195,0.0,0.21422641201098955,0.0,0.0,0.07347353226464721,0.10504507238375133,0.07068177891580144,0.07142855166601918,0.0,0.0800644173312858,0.08254794592592547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325680542253552,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuperGiantSandwhich,2020/02/24,"Posting for my 11 Year Old Friend My friend is 11 and has never had sex. She’s been having multiple symptoms (listed below) could she be pregnant? 
Sore breasts
Cramping
Nausea
Craving (especially apples)
Headaches
Mood swings 
Dizziness 
Late period
She also says she doesn’t feel like herself but can’t explain it more 
Could she be pregnant? If this carries on she’ll take a test. What do you think?",2.322762557077628,5.19076875342466,2.461952054794523,88.2467180365297,94.34246575342465,4.077168949771689,25.26141552511416,5.985473137389443,1.0506264840182649,321,14,53,3,12,97,61,73,0.024,0.8859999999999999,0.09,0.5775,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,13,5,1,0,1,9,17,4,0,3,2,0,1,1,2,1,3,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,10,3,3,10,1,8,0,0,0,2,12,2,0,1,6,35,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21708288368526127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43347029318974695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725606876498722,0.1939278798851757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194517274220947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30621365373737874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326194567996858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093632340555251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848469076759384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25997935381632964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158723273327456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821462268816273,0.20410077025469625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393773825788034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748084568062378
parenting,BestBreakfast,2020/02/24,"Tip for cutest cuddles with infant while putting on sleeping bag Just wanted to share this thing I do with my 19mo daughter that just makes my heart melt.

We started putting her sleeping bag on with the zip at her back since she is now able to undo it herself if it's at the front. What I do now is whenever I am putting her to bed I'll get her to put her arms through the openings of the sleeping bag and then lie down on my back and have her face me while I zip her up behind her back. It results in the cutest cuddles while she's about to fall asleep as she's on my chest! Such a proud and intimate daddy/daughter moment, I can really recommend it!",7.704362745098036,5.1162528676470584,7.305882352941179,83.05480392156866,64.44117647058823,10.243137254901963,35.90196078431373,7.793537801064563,2.459572549019608,514,18,114,4,6,162,80,136,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.9458,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,6,0,7,10,8,2,0,15,11,9,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,8,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,23,2,23,11,0,27,0,0,0,2,16,10,0,1,11,83,31,0,0.1666403352495502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844083951386297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706269734169209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974695996126489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123371776248453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6700782531809326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067540658305144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378466073321377,0.0,0.5002820427202364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794888698273015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070843415592546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828878723239533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catalena305,2020/02/24,"Should i tell my partner im pregnant even if I want to have an abortion I just found out im pregnant with my 3rd child. We have two small children and we are very happy with our little family. 
My partner loves our kids unconditionally, would do anything for them and doesnt agree with abortions. 

I wanted to abort my  second baby, it was really bad timing, i got an appointment booked and was ready to go, my partner convinced me not to and promised me it would all be ok. It was a very difficult pregnancy, i was depressed for the whole 9 months, had preeclampsia, diabetes and went to the hospital every week. I had en emergency c-section which took me a while to recover from.
Fastforward to now, the baby is 1 is healthy, happy and I’m glad I will soon be over with the baby phase. 

I know I definitely want to have a abortion, I know I cannot deal with this mentally or physically. I feel terrible for keeping this from him, but I know he’ll try to convince me to keep the baby. 
Should I go ahead without telling him our should I inform him before going ahead? 
Please help",3.2382159624413163,5.107846741784037,4.4813380281690165,84.01008215962445,74.53990610328637,7.550234741784037,27.32629107981221,8.344100000000001,1.9118431924882628,848,33,167,15,18,279,125,213,0.065,0.792,0.14300000000000002,0.9207,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,1,2,4,12,0,0,10,1,23,2,0,0,1,37,42,10,0,9,6,0,1,0,3,7,1,0,0,6,6,14,0,2,6,1,0,5,4,4,0,2,10,1,34,8,25,23,2,17,0,1,0,1,22,4,0,2,8,117,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737512733064005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190929233699206,0.0,0.0,0.12137050997498752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704876272166906,0.12284993034127065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420800929928053,0.0,0.12017478332799784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446206663315435,0.0,0.07211972795311115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639015075439056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24318552863734494,0.0,0.11407695228982198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036717931516863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095604155152099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081370757722069,0.0,0.0,0.2535582223892011,0.0,0.0,0.2351627439037805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295612854095904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287322038170844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374091001698935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384861159375985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656863090128265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137460237012024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493357404522386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317067709990912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15847094514577267,0.09683870953170323,0.0,0.13933209719690956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23537497008295416,0.2523866078803997,0.0,0.11441190244468187,0.0,0.0,0.1322225820907817,0.0,0.1592450868991091,0.0,0.13749349867664531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264533669407686,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BoringCommunication3,2020/02/24,I'm a mother to a feminine 6 year old boy My ex boyfriend is very mad at me because I allowed my current boyfriend to spank my child (me and ex's) because he was caught playing in our daughters toy box. We've had this issue before but my spankings weren't changing the behavior so i allowed my boyfriend to try.,4.821249999999999,5.1344136250000005,5.400000000000002,84.845,69.0,7.65,37.875,7.1686216300943375,2.6873875,248,14,50,2,4,80,49,64,0.04,0.9359999999999999,0.025,-0.2135,3,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,6,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,10,1,5,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,3,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583098459982493,0.0,0.3198768543377398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976693154654832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923586696760169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944606380112782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552223088583139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31017009418305663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420775986797918
parenting,struggler-,2020/02/24,"How to get toddler daughter to put on her pajamas after using the toilet? So our daughter who'll be 3 in April was potty trained a few months ago. Since then every time after using the toilet she resists putting her pants/pajamas back on.

  
How do we train her in a positive way without coercion  ?",5.113421052631576,6.364386614035088,6.114868421052632,76.60282894736844,68.82456140350878,8.50701754385965,33.54824561403509,8.841846274778883,3.073740350877192,235,11,40,4,4,78,44,57,0.0,0.9279999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.6072,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,4,0,6,7,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,9,4,1,15,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,8,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24966029768801126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21656675149651775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372971080098098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471472978602492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22480545031144855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5662597606154861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329787200196645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422880574836948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4864997515721894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22355579487787747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27149464057754025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sarroyo1201,2020/02/24,"Taking Cara Babies course So I bought the “Will I ever sleep again?” course and it worked pretty well, however now I need something new because baby is still not sleeping all through the night. She wakes up once or twice which isn’t too bad but it would be amazing if I could get her to fall back asleep on her own and eliminate night feedings. Who has tried the ABCs of sleep? Is it worth the money?",2.2878797468354435,4.647991253164558,2.3017563291139247,96.1485838607595,79.50632911392404,4.9626582278481015,20.00158227848101,5.985473137389443,-0.15250759493670873,315,8,66,2,8,94,64,79,0.027000000000000003,0.831,0.141,0.8587,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,4,0,8,6,5,0,2,11,12,6,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,1,1,1,0,7,2,5,7,2,11,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,8,46,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580298150615371,0.17159803222496398,0.12528119847681746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640885265329363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859018077172742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737410108879984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238818184748226,0.0,0.19848950865892892,0.0,0.38572738873179946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21886879775023727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090845782606227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6169959841369409,0.0,0.0,0.15821695503562055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412606676342456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545231365632261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953248882160027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478438025648428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961875540366726,0.0,0.0,0.1459933135920134,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weebmaster32,2020/02/24,"Do you believe it is a good idea to give a high end smartphone to a teen? So, I've been looking at my classmate's phones recently, especially since my new one arrived, and I've noticed that quite a few of us have either the previous generation or the newest flagship phones. 

It makes me wonder if this is actually a good thing from other parents' perspective (don't get me wrong, I love having a phone of that kind), since I've heard many parents say that kids and teenagers should only ever have cheap phones. 

Now, I've heard the argument that teenagers won't use the full potential of these phones, and I partly agree with it, since many of my classmates (especially those with cheaper phones) don't even know what phone they have. But those of us who have a relatively modern flagship phone tend to at least know what it's capable of and use most of its features.

To wrap this up: Do you think it is a good idea to give a teenager an expensive phone?",11.024907834101384,7.0160575430107555,9.87178187403994,71.6133870967742,59.59139784946237,13.209216589861756,41.62519201228879,10.608840637214634,4.113925652841783,757,28,151,12,7,238,105,186,0.013999999999999999,0.858,0.129,0.9579,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,2,1,1,4,6,0,0,14,0,15,1,0,3,1,22,30,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,20,6,0,0,6,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,3,4,12,5,18,25,6,12,0,0,1,1,24,5,0,4,7,97,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.1266254615877013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619326033586813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492741087789278,0.0,0.0,0.08570418660148918,0.1173738840541919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779339828038043,0.2489521247538323,0.0,0.3265055198911557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709685332634994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929628348910957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512338563041554,0.14262362499860004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896435921519472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711200459093657,0.0,0.08661472663641437,0.2631092630770381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532145255272747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477307763383104,0.0,0.0,0.0879276368633538,0.09868709557782797,0.0,0.0,0.2881626515597992,0.14051568132074246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801401003582855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812074666828055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318907236789204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32201241993883284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620570231443808,0.08314393087046355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121667102516393,0.22413915784551613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071742863157974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418704193670101,0.0,0.0
parenting,ywytyywyyt,2020/02/24,"Already knows I have a 9 ye old niece that likes to dust with me on weekends,  I'm her uncle and also a nudist at home, she brought a friend to stay over and told me her friend already knows I'll ne nude , niece told her they will get nude too , is this ok and what if I get a stiffy ?",10.46857142857143,3.4194064126984145,9.618809523809524,82.20535714285717,64.23809523809524,12.6,37.849206349206355,3.1291,2.2567206349206343,216,4,57,0,2,69,44,63,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.8934,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,0,4,1,3,2,2,0,0,7,11,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,10,4,6,7,0,7,0,0,0,2,10,3,0,1,3,32,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301294749586546,0.19208645062508906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711531381989966,0.0,0.25098733954068786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24093842540638905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640133486596956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173487301624994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520476535880765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25601937094922195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4590394352368681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ibukimick,2020/02/24,"Am I wrong? My son (13Y) has expressed to me that he may be gay. I don't really mind it if he is but I told him until you start dating (which he can't till 16Y) you won't know for sure. My in-laws have also expressed that they don't like that I am so open to my son being possibly gay, they don't want their kids to play with him because of it. I told my son that I will love him no matter what but it will be hard for others to accept it. There have been people who has told me that I shouldn't let him think that way and I should have him do more ""boys stuff""

Is it wrong for me to be so open to it?",0.440335968379447,1.3124701086956527,2.385335968379448,100.30571146245062,79.79710144927536,5.597891963109355,15.444005270092228,5.565023196281405,-1.0829797101449277,457,4,125,2,11,153,74,138,0.122,0.784,0.094,-0.2385,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,3,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,26,3,0,0,1,17,34,9,0,4,3,3,1,1,0,6,0,0,0,2,17,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,1,25,5,13,19,1,7,0,0,0,3,25,2,0,2,5,91,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616184661827693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231976508774951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104097287246654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106830368123707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665988035780605,0.0,0.0987353439851715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240220287140024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040623387827016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140109973000859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278362127238446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294697695262814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304668487081176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23135495871734,0.0,0.0,0.19047587910256045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949685388045734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5793426543019572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920320346579735,0.16041674839624487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4419269758932072,0.0,0.0
parenting,baileys_in_a_shoee,2020/02/24,"Unreliable Nanny (Long) About six months ago I hired a wonderful woman to watch my son 3-6 hrs/week. She's a single mom and has two school aged children of her own (one with specials needs) so I knew her schedule would be limited to school hours (10 am- 2 pm) and likely unpredictable if she had a sick child. It was no issue because I don't have a job and really wanted to hire someone for a few hrs a week for me to run errands, go to appts, etc.  My son starts preschool this fall, so the position was only going to be a year long at the most, which she knew going in. We've been so happy with her. She's always brining over fun activities for them to do together and she's super sweet. 

The problem I'm facing is that while she is amazing while she is here, getting her to come has been like pulling teeth for a little while. In fact, she only came one time from mid-December to the end of January. I let it go because there was a lot going on during Christmastime along with her kids being out of school for a few weeks, everyone getting the flu and so on. She clearly doesn't need the income from this ""nanny"" job (if you can even call it that) because she doesn't come often, doesn't have a significant other and doesn't have another job. I'm starting to question why she wanted the  job if she didn't need it, but I don't feel comfortable asking that question, especially since it's regarding money. Usually I would hear from her on Sunday evening and she would let me know her schedule that week and we would plan for the one day that she would come over, but the last two weeks I just flat out never heard from her before the week started. I texted her last Monday to ask if she had plans to come over during the week and she agreed to coming last Wednesday, which she did, but I haven't heard from her since that day. 

I texted this morning around 8 am and asked what her schedule was like for the week and I haven't heard from her. I'm equal parts worried about her and also frustrated if she is ignoring me. We've become close the last few months and considered her a friend, but I'm still not sure what I should and shouldn't say to her. It doesn't feel like she works for me if that makes sense. Not only is she about 15 years older than me but she's not here enough for me to build that kind of rapport with her. 

My questions are: 

\-Would this type of behavior from someone you hired be upsetting to you?

\-How should I respond to her after many days of not hearing from her? Should I just let her go and move on? I almost wonder if this is her way of telling me she no longer wants to come? 

I'm a total pushover and tend to just go with the flow because I avoid conflict at all costs, but I know I need to do something in this situation. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!",5.089984520123842,5.076924815789475,5.439463364293086,85.92408668730651,68.3859649122807,8.460268317853457,27.64189886480908,8.027739517013583,1.479725490196079,2195,62,472,25,34,700,246,570,0.073,0.862,0.065,-0.5792,5,1,1,0,1,0,58.0,1,3,1,5,20,20,1,2,27,0,55,4,2,2,6,100,104,38,0,26,20,3,2,4,1,11,2,6,0,4,25,34,0,4,11,0,2,19,18,5,0,6,16,10,75,15,70,69,13,79,0,0,1,0,70,17,0,16,46,326,100,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808893190154149,0.052694374853561855,0.0,0.059525545736126076,0.0,0.0,0.047538117110316656,0.0494629729966555,0.0,0.0,0.040424614719923514,0.06233322900503905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291862199982107,0.16671905365270948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494839589696978,0.06565229359470783,0.05058328696804952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060699955708452276,0.06798920375031314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072394428791319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501125418277768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265059487454336,0.061422539584870414,0.06629684964879642,0.07852567761404716,0.0,0.0,0.0568022116071461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060114320947678115,0.042467494942176415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04592703257348051,0.0,0.06211508152430624,0.0,0.2364876050163062,0.0,0.0,0.06553828387739156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328027071921966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399759198309227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854131634310905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062045099273325376,0.23595982139637064,0.0,0.0,0.06190278350969273,0.06533879639312874,0.19382232226783985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823595129904928,0.0,0.116167229058752,0.05957947177876186,0.0,0.1052138469718218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050537983552465415,0.0,0.0,0.039679975799231965,0.06026786435103401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962122466609408,0.09489680800299784,0.06318059029167701,0.0,0.17631075357676765,0.04584762174781227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084434039031107,0.13563172394444956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437310432929941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05688080337888012,0.0,0.0,0.19977589658033387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038081966815758886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047273022190452006,0.0,0.1804844348768172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983469788292956,0.06681863141419396,0.0,0.0,0.1007350520391056,0.045763638349053365,0.0,0.0,0.12622635676930213,0.0,0.04747282591377732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602617610062065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051957519636713516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03466283719116522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613818641486955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547023073172309,0.0,0.10518654173849827,0.047184646357755836,0.3814653226792903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053639834926201085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893105778812822,0.043276642575932285,0.06036924758215915,0.0,0.29559598351330024,0.0,0.0,0.0765612170840429
parenting,choosy_moms,2020/02/24,"Does someone have a hack for making five point stroller buckles easier to use? I have twin 1 year olds and a 4 year old. Going anywhere with all the kids means that we *must* use the stroller. I have a City Mini GT double stroller which I typically enjoy using. The biggest issue for me at the moment are the five point buckles. Trying to thread the top strap to the waist strap then get it buckled to the leg strap over a wiggly child and then having to do it all over again for the other side and then having to repeat the whole process for wiggly child #2 makes getting in/out of the stroller very irritating. 

Is there some way to replace this buckle so it’s only three pieces to clip together instead of *five*?",3.941850649350648,5.6038798214285706,4.207922077922081,87.56253246753248,72.21428571428572,6.233766233766234,24.87012987012988,6.574015621080383,0.8115000000000001,565,17,110,4,11,176,90,140,0.024,0.897,0.079,0.7717,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,15,0,9,2,2,5,3,15,18,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,5,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,5,1,18,17,6,20,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,10,74,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871243681045506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145036249436296,0.0,0.1095673951061223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122339748872664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573785725579343,0.0,0.0,0.21000558590969012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046028080467415,0.0,0.0,0.14662601139602974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36449904538186334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633509306530126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308922271191151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4995277830418316,0.0,0.1590725144481956,0.0,0.15302828040592198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152439265537453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483017739991982
parenting,HARLEENQUlNZEL,2020/02/24,"Family history of C Sections: Did you have a successful Water birth? I was wondering if anyone had a family history of C-sections and then had a successful water birth themselves. 

my mother had 3 c-sections and my sister had one as well but i would like to have a water birth if that’s possible. 

i am not looking to have a child for a few years, so I just wanted to see if any of you had this experience.",2.48736660929432,4.160663554216871,5.241514629948366,78.60240963855424,76.10843373493975,9.080206540447504,26.314974182444054,9.606745405546679,2.638237177280551,317,12,62,9,7,114,49,83,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.8225,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,2,3,4,0,0,6,0,12,3,0,0,0,11,16,9,0,5,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,2,8,4,8,8,2,6,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,4,6,50,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961156651054736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016495854399392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821015859459993,0.5437384482978744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089320051755935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421756781446163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542110134363005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32511734814316284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22981016673808696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010039333801627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592980055395236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127475713257567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048645831642845,0.0,0.0,0.18571425001512093
parenting,cyberbuk,2020/02/24,"Tesla Cybertruck will be an amazing family vehicle I have two kids and have been thinking a lot about the best family vehicle.  The Cybertruck will be amazing for families.  Reasons:

\- Interior is huge and seats six.  Big enough that one parent can sit in between two car seats in the back.

\- 2 kids, 2 parents, and 2 grandparents could all fit with comfort

\- Charged every morning you leave the house (250 - 500 miles of range), no more trips to gas station

\- You can set the temperature of the vehicle interior in advance with a phone app before you get there.  No more arriving at the car with kids and having it be 120 degrees inside. 

\- Tons of storage, for all of the stuff your family could need, strollers, dirty bikes, coolers etc

\- The bed comes with a rolling cover that closes at the push of a button.  

\- Safety - Tesla's advanced autopilot safety features constantly monitor and can react to dangerous situations. If you haven't slept or are distracted by kids in the back seat, this can save your life. 

\- Vehicle that is very durable, and so versatile that it can adapt to all of your family's needs.",4.844899034240561,7.117637587064677,5.2828680128767935,78.2460579455663,71.13930348258707,8.908516242317821,30.72900204858062,9.478462496947786,3.1352772022241737,869,38,150,21,17,277,123,201,0.07,0.7979999999999999,0.132,0.9442,3,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,7,0,3,6,7,1,1,16,0,20,2,1,2,3,26,26,9,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,4,8,12,0,0,2,1,0,7,3,2,0,4,2,1,8,5,24,17,10,25,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,3,3,104,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209344524323397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583294611739173,0.0,0.14285552577200414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726023872481525,0.0,0.14710352412621167,0.0,0.21737059250868768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406542386741618,0.15181614073384467,0.0,0.0,0.11469177483698405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6416359839948388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112006081996014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707078331405402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413746322799897,0.0,0.0,0.0961496089109528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572920378645934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187096611450148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224229851429126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023029649614859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995989317489554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301099228934967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155831360795427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722385321151874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659500616806973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231796023853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,haleym90,2020/02/24,Need advice So my 16 year old daughter came to me yesterday and told me that she wants to be intimate with me and her dad. At first I wanted to kill her but of course I didn’t I just don’t know what to do or think. I did tell her that she has lost her mind.,-1.409273607748183,0.421222067796613,0.8971428571428568,103.64271186440679,91.03389830508476,4.727360774818402,13.513317191283292,6.1826913282559595,-1.1432004842615011,198,3,54,2,7,66,42,59,0.102,0.898,0.0,-0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,13,14,5,1,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,5,0,14,0,7,8,0,6,0,1,0,0,10,1,0,1,4,37,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789860602232328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265344958341567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428450786830816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315862050822072,0.0,0.15690263866741222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116555954813787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882723364492882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116936949311783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995828969911196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495384788101655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293606186050448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27280627667770124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367891025880788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838518253044861
parenting,post_faith,2020/02/24,"So incredibly frustrated. My 4.5 year old WILL NOT SLEEP. She has been going to bed at 6pm because she is just fricking VICIOUS l, screaming and sobbing, and can’t stay up any longer, and then she’ll wake up at 4:30am. We’ve tried putting her to bed later, anywhere from 6:30-8 with the same results. This has been going on for a month. She no longer naps regularly, and if she does have an hour nap, she won’t go to bed until 10pm and be up by 5am. It isn’t because she’s not tired—she is so tired and miserable *all day long* that we can’t even do simple things like going to the store to pick up something for dinner without her literally melting down into a screaming, sobbing disaster that has to be physically carried out of the store. She can’t regulate her emotions at all anymore and it’s 100% because of the tiredness. We have tried naps when she’s clearly beyond her endurance, but she refuses to sleep during the day 99% of the time, and when she does it seems to just make her night time struggles worse. 

She gets plenty of exercise, 1-2 hours a day outside (we live in Canada and it will be winter for at least 2-3 more months,) lots of play etc. I’m just at my wits end. I feel like I am trapped in my house because she can’t even keep herself together well enough to go to grandma’s house without being utterly miserable to be around. Help.",3.98532205966179,4.797617826714802,4.877738932167965,86.05830704921148,71.09386281588449,7.708835265057952,29.38039141174235,7.85451343220497,1.7461379061371851,1066,41,224,13,19,347,155,277,0.132,0.812,0.057,-0.9613,0,1,1,0,0,0,36.0,3,0,0,0,12,13,2,3,10,0,25,6,3,3,3,37,36,17,0,1,9,0,1,2,0,4,2,2,3,0,8,16,1,2,2,5,2,6,11,9,1,0,2,3,27,4,42,25,8,44,0,4,0,0,24,17,2,3,22,144,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217521573682073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198406225907446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107573051950136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946513104964512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23379504517513844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21149546710588435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592852358026486,0.1070282060191206,0.12485982801469946,0.13476833261879811,0.15962711193470022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110023963089582,0.08632798563088677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313381413941316,0.0,0.34338024874803275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099637859561007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23800574641674946,0.27886583690036504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107407976902219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807245629414476,0.0,0.1067037676283132,0.10693943075664096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027336866436708,0.0,0.0,0.08066151265324617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290636965647154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339997737692255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680105494584262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147738694895988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000802615527114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24185416155460074,0.0,0.0,0.09302839075376147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879916103479291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632800833578667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028060144098696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092533195278328,0.1388875873067558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640846000356699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864950300567794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23297053262028794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314609176688784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781687685268178
parenting,justathroaway1999,2020/02/24,"Anyone have questions about being a younger mom or having kids close together? I am a 21 year old with a 7 month old and a 21 month old.

I would like to answer questions that anyone might have!
I see a lot of people being scared being in similar situations & I'd love to help.

Btw, before anyone asks because I know my situation is crazy lol.
I was graduated before any of thks.
My first wasn't planned but my second was. 
Same father, still together.
I moved into my own place halfway through my first pregnancy.

Also a disclaimer, this isn't for any teenager thinking about getting pregnant on purpose. I highly advise against having children before your graduated or able to be financially independent.",4.985706293706297,7.295623584615388,5.902167832167834,73.79646853146855,70.84615384615384,7.804195804195802,31.04895104895105,8.575989854853784,2.8198461538461546,566,25,90,10,11,186,88,130,0.03,0.885,0.084,0.6643,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,3,4,3,0,1,6,1,16,1,0,1,0,17,22,5,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,3,1,13,2,14,13,3,16,0,0,1,1,11,6,0,6,10,63,15,3,0.13487406429070822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785874048462207,0.0,0.1461359923091935,0.0,0.1834379774928372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829212451907732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260890434514561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822179777358108,0.0,0.3443036843014969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22944762037045746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046613187018022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040324227080436,0.14250185402311008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412325847266914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589265506030326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466510631777853,0.12172910885740865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308006824079858,0.0,0.15796287400394665,0.2153103826864247,0.14334978552308567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.424582926640274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093504693950735,0.0,0.14091469070252738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021796387705436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350324673257518,0.0,0.10747716703572442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032081985290543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771060196649092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642185442146205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958106655461676,0.0,0.0,0.08685447538331825
parenting,STL-Running-TTV,2020/02/24,"Please help my white son learned something bad and I don’t know what to do It started when I was at my house I end up getting a call from my sons school he is never is in trouble it turned out he called a black teacher a n word he was saying other racist things to black people at the school and it turns out his friend group teaches
him the word and other racial slurs. one of the kids has a racist dad and he was taught to be racist and that is my sons only friends at school. What to I do????",3.2485040431266867,3.601381613207547,3.4515633423180603,97.28764150943395,72.49056603773585,6.057142857142857,22.69002695417789,3.1291,-0.264057681940701,385,8,94,0,7,118,65,106,0.141,0.743,0.11599999999999999,-0.7097,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,0,1,12,17,6,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,9,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,4,4,10,2,13,12,0,11,0,0,3,0,18,7,0,0,4,58,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287095775512075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739069435148109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216175756645407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28290690122965034,0.0,0.09565600175426736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272012769452162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125914335574547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006204591385288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120886840087585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406526888155214,0.13924678843615698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693027034692064,0.0,0.0,0.20097580849486726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559904559764328,0.0,0.5558849476013018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095020284198514,0.0,0.0,0.1295907350062196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163563150667693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39829466449488427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alleycatbiker,2020/02/24,"At which age to start taking kid to playgrounds? It may sound silly but I couldn't find either on this sub or on Google any discussion on the appropriate age to start taking kids to public space playgrounds [like this](https://media.timeout.com/images/105265606/630/472/image.jpg). 

Reason I ask is because whenever I try to take my 1.5 year old it's always stressful. She likes to swing and run around sorta freely, but then she tries to grab other people's stuff and seems to always want to play with kids much older than her.

But when there's none else, she has a blast. Should I be trying to teach her the social skills? Or should we hold off until she's able to talk and play with the other kids.",6.262606837606839,7.705582884615384,5.111025641025645,84.14619658119662,66.30769230769229,7.008547008547009,22.136752136752143,6.937597516519254,0.5171880341880342,565,10,104,4,9,166,89,130,0.034,0.843,0.12300000000000001,0.8664,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,23,15,11,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,4,7,7,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,12,5,21,10,3,18,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,5,12,65,19,1,0.1854505122057108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30861936457187744,0.0,0.0,0.12611270766891958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509027365488568,0.17337119493337294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304891095117878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492010645789991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16949840843671568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812035055930217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632746468061624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459911642593208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856803476631534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067401328666264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882718127794616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904344286002492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625256540955001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243293515976544,0.0,0.2122964678292249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41830711673305376,0.14905809697040054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777261734890329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938351695601882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942404962659918
parenting,smpenn89,2020/02/24,"Tween and dating help We all know you tell them not to do something- and they are going to do it. That being said, my daughter knows she isn't allowed to date yet. But having a ""boyfriend"" made her feel happy. They talk and text all the time. No dates. Well apparently, after one week, they are already saying I love you, he is showing controlling tendencies, and a lot of what looks like vague conversation and erased messages about sex.  The issue I have the most though is this boy telling my daughter he was ""chosen by God"" and he is ""so close to God, he is almost a demigod"".

Like, what?

So, obviously there is a lot to address here. Mostly about how she isn't ready to date yet, sex talk again, and how the whole Demigod behavior isn't normal... and the fact that they are done ""dating"" But I need to find a way to do this in a respectful, shows her I am listening and not just doing this to be mean way. Thoughts? Help? I have no idea honestly- my first thought is to start homeschooling and she cant talk to anybody until shes 30. Obviously not the right mindset.",1.95844155844156,4.338987285714288,2.79844155844156,92.00064935064935,80.90476190476191,5.913419913419914,22.402597402597397,7.1686216300943375,0.6927142857142861,830,27,174,11,22,261,123,210,0.036000000000000004,0.8220000000000001,0.142,0.9718,2,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,1,2,5,2,14,7,0,0,12,0,26,3,0,5,5,43,40,18,0,2,6,2,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,8,12,0,1,8,2,0,1,9,0,1,2,6,5,22,7,18,32,7,20,0,0,1,3,34,3,0,5,16,123,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120589322492525,0.0,0.16663358294319966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169360689616328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545266576768629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635074556726824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801236438001965,0.12844154655668033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581746377220204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607435889799437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242584747233947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046197881995592,0.0,0.15760602510795016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659726248401048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754312132776282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680298031369944,0.0,0.0,0.25675164672028866,0.13628448163784188,0.142880989806479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448457812937334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119654790647108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794911883716455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232232343233204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895420273101654,0.14363672345457806,0.12008221776639515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624810370434735,0.0,0.0,0.10687942903504824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641071426440913,0.2639634150099989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835791576212484,0.2397561771591369,0.08805001607938881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397154536189896,0.12112405719417565,0.0,0.13576821646051274,0.0,0.0,0.16858745114202692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gazpage,2020/02/24,"Options for glasses wearer at a water park? Hi,

Taking my 5 yo daughter to one of those ""tropical paradise"" water parks with multiple pools, flumes, waves, junk food outlets. Just wondering what other parenting Magoos do when they go to such places. I've worn contacts before, but sometimes they've ended up glued to my eyes and the longer I am in the water the worse it seems to get. I can do without for a regular pool, but I can't e.g. read a clock, menus, read signs etc so seems tricky for a multiple hour visit.

Thanks in advance",5.17869625520111,6.2215873689320444,5.500027739251041,81.8378640776699,68.51456310679612,8.215811373092926,29.277392510402212,8.418075326091056,2.1249373092926493,421,15,78,6,7,134,79,103,0.079,0.857,0.064,-0.1575,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,7,0,5,5,1,0,0,11,13,5,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,0,3,4,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,14,12,1,12,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,4,4,45,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387440313721373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913892371899613,0.0,0.2409944942239505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26129365843693664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128967117964812,0.0,0.122807409968629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21280249360337408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464263679016742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399394089163953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257652691003718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43229161469569904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39343558102560905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21371589574444094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624707805473451,0.0,0.0,0.19894418217975085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083004760351221,0.2343374928522941,0.0,0.0,0.22021145119426794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deadbob1978,2020/02/24,"Tooth Fairy So, just got back from the dentist with my oldest. He told her that the Tooth Fairy would be visiting her in a few weeks because one of her grown-up teeth is about to come out (rear molar)

Question is... What's the going rate on the tooth fairy these days. I think I got a quarter, but that was the early '80's",1.5873631840795994,3.3138134328358215,2.326194029850747,98.27396766169157,78.85074626865672,5.063681592039801,18.629353233830845,5.46131890053228,-0.5819631840796022,248,5,58,1,6,77,51,67,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,7,0,5,5,4,0,0,8,11,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,6,0,8,5,1,11,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,5,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25367347421356884,0.0,0.20110456282492367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841804651024432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275882679252847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749031780197936,0.0,0.5277038685290121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22354942799858266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695645759180156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21138721397154212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315234504309067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26462665031773164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343521762422852,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elitecringebaby,2020/02/24,"Explaing something to my daughter Recently my daughter just turned 7, and when me and my wife were shopping at the mall with her on her birthday she saw a gay couple holding hands. She pointed at them and said ""why are they holding hands?"" Me and my wife were horrified and quickly got her out of there. When we got home she kept on asking us about them. Me and my wife are proud Christian's, and we are extremely against the idea of being gay. How can I explain to my daughter what a gay is? We can't just tell her they're faggots she's only seven!",1.5258108108108104,3.884315567567569,2.4751576576576566,93.792195945946,82.51351351351352,4.781081081081081,25.466216216216218,5.985473137389443,0.6759243243243245,432,18,89,3,12,136,67,111,0.07400000000000001,0.898,0.027999999999999997,-0.7393,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,3,1,8,1,0,0,4,0,9,5,2,1,0,20,17,10,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,12,0,3,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,4,25,1,12,9,0,10,1,0,1,3,25,6,0,0,4,66,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406588228976944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28483728378531503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41177462677536897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582195492666509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906029374030601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578428690010613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433510432303482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25417739651458626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448713434151731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19817932795265686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500191626271454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800058720923419,0.0,0.0,0.3096521201820661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322871786566741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sarwalkah,2020/02/24,"12 year old bday party ideas My stepson is turning 12 soon and we’ll be having his birthday party at our house.

Do you have any ideas for activities that I could set up for he and his friends? He’s inviting 5 boys over (not a sleepover).

They’re into dungeons and dragons, video games, chess...

I’d like to have one activity set up for them all to do together. Thanks in advance!",1.6642105263157916,3.985217789473687,3.020263157894739,90.32934210526315,81.63157894736842,5.378947368421053,25.28947368421053,6.6274283507984215,0.9005052631578945,296,12,61,3,8,96,61,76,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.9381,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,1,9,11,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,3,11,8,1,12,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,4,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933500956464974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227009608591292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966804637140305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280717656398341,0.0,0.6419344614560013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890636314727986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29835024930600784,0.0,0.19266532643281511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617673739425786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092629075128935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309535846628788
parenting,purple--pig,2020/02/24,"Grandparents spoiling my son- turning him into a brat Without going into too much detail because it would be too long, what would you suggest in this situation? My son is 12 and my parents have always been really close to him and spoil him rotten. To the point that he is turning into a disrespectful brat when he’s with them. And he gets rewarded by getting whatever he wants. My parents seem unwilling to put a stop to it and I just don’t know what I can do since I’m not there with them. He does not act that way at home. The only solution I can come up with is to not let him go over there, which would punish all of them. He obviously loves going over there because everything is all about him. My parents are also probably not honest with me when he is acting up because they don’t want him to get in trouble at home. I’ve tried talking to him over and over and over and I don’t know what to do. What would you do?",4.512460317460317,4.875622534391539,5.5990608465608505,82.97255952380952,69.68783068783068,8.628042328042326,28.448412698412696,8.59863814320734,1.91903492063492,725,24,151,11,12,241,100,189,0.076,0.8690000000000001,0.055,-0.6324,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,4,1,10,6,1,0,5,0,22,1,0,0,3,35,38,10,0,6,6,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,10,16,0,1,3,0,0,7,8,3,0,0,1,1,23,3,30,31,3,28,0,0,0,1,28,16,0,1,4,113,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661345561720363,0.1109303185912141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438061861529761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484068188633995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166664944559928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981660963109735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20895769194695696,0.0,0.227301154592425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674553883415646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653493433858752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632553570621966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798123786029414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032368342314748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800324170022157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139348982824467,0.0,0.0,0.4440978332891512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260275373327504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373813816034806,0.0,0.0,0.1340202802920026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540620297404725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213666746543862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028109546462987,0.14985375163572615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145887582780496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715505301142958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905134059955589,0.29002095105139164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157267492289618,0.10582072883960177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851270868489598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788179277067468,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spiceandchili,2020/02/24,"My 5 year old son and I were tickling one another and he grabbed me by the boob.... I took it as an opportunity to firmly tell him it is not ok to ever grab girls by the boobs, vajay or butt. 
I got down to his level and said it very loudly to ensure he didn’t think I was playing. He shook his head “yes” and walked away.",3.6704285714285696,2.9199770428571408,5.395,87.55250000000002,71.42857142857143,8.142857142857144,24.642857142857146,7.1686216300943375,0.7274285714285718,243,5,60,2,4,84,54,70,0.046,0.812,0.142,0.7829999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,3,2,4,4,4,0,1,8,8,6,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,6,4,9,3,9,2,0,9,0,0,0,3,10,3,3,1,3,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32417353126288023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904591112685983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796462904177009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24725763278630114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172798311908889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244037233392231,0.0,0.20948985093378125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29407498555303785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702130610774591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809254866215287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434799928964045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550833308204105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908418427923688
parenting,rougedcheeks,2020/02/24,"Extremely Shy/Anxious Toddler My toddler is 4 years old. Happy, playful and affectionate to people he knows. However, it takes him quite long time to get comfortable with new faces and situations. If we go to the playground, he won’t play on his own. We have to accompany him to go down the slide, climb on the play structures, etc. When we go to social gatherings, he will hide behind our backs until he feels comfortable enough to play. Usually, he warms up a bit quicker when there are other children around playing and having fun; longer if just adults. 

Has anyone experienced something like this with their child? How do I support him better? We don’t force him to socialize; we just wait until he becomes comfortable enough to join in. I’m just wondering where the anxiety may be coming from, or is it shyness? A personality trait? This started emerging around 2 and he was attending daycare since 6 months old. 

We are in process of getting him evaluated for autism. He is also in speech therapy. 

Thank you for your time.",3.9858258678611453,6.761323377659576,4.5880963045912635,79.79184210526316,75.86170212765956,7.787681970884662,29.04367301231803,8.6894789155246,2.6631765957446816,817,36,141,18,19,260,128,188,0.033,0.742,0.225,0.9903,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,7,2,1,3,12,16,0,0,6,0,15,1,1,1,0,27,30,13,0,2,6,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,4,5,15,0,1,3,5,0,7,2,0,0,0,1,4,18,16,27,25,5,32,0,0,0,0,31,10,0,5,16,92,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187442311903914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135914128833852,0.0,0.0,0.10382489045906736,0.0,0.0,0.2643681099291999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417659796463255,0.0,0.0,0.16399116335841574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313238342957385,0.1621082962883313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279075741521436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068515407895269,0.16560118322782394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507900247605043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515565296404096,0.0,0.2531641123018853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806614886820708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160404341008101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254277799901547,0.0,0.0,0.13140547132167693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852013914001548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340874107536622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31162223833344216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294152282870292,0.1296522812792518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793317925096434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228291853028402,0.16690452838214534,0.0,0.3027256335396745,0.0,0.1143118066629134,0.0,0.0,0.105099182169628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685001966356097,0.0,0.0,0.11164302149403446,0.0,0.0,0.13670599434791705,0.16980672549463055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316680606390145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353639324955185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102677455742873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562014036597563
parenting,--------jack--------,2020/02/24,"Dads I have my daughter twice a week (overnight in week, overnight weekend) and work 50 to 60 hours a week. Do I have her too often? Do I deserve a time off in the week for myself?",1.884122807017544,3.0617682894736897,2.7026315789473685,98.24675438596493,76.63157894736842,5.066666666666666,25.824561403508767,3.1291,0.10970877192982442,137,5,33,0,3,43,27,38,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,5,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,7,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827046808304326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739197095213768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9210762503516964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089893120123149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FiliaDraconis,2020/02/24,"Feeling unsure about sending my 18mo son with his paternal grandmother My (24F) son's father (33M) and I have an extremely strained (and currently nonexistent) relationship. After being together 5 years, we split in July and have not spoken at all since the beginning of February. I am the sole guardian and provider for our beautiful 18 month old. 

For clarity, almost the entirety of mine and my exes relationship was toxic. We moved in together before we really knew each other. He is an alcoholic and very quickly things became verbally and often physically abusive. It went on this way for years. Things slacked off during and after my pregnancy, until our son was around a year old. To spare the details, an argument became violent for the very first time while the baby was around and the bleak, miserable state of my life finally clicked for me.   
So I kicked him out. 

BD disappeared for about 4 months, missing our sons 1st Birthday and over all being of no help to me whatsoever. When he resurfaced, seemingly sober and moved into a new place, we began supervised visitations and worked up to occasional sleepovers with his older brother. This was all fine and well for a while, I was happy my son finally had his father. On the 1st of Febuary I felt what I can only describe as Mother's intuition and went to my BD's house to check in. He was passed out drunk and from the look of things my baby and his 9yo brother had been left to their own devices. My son has not seen him since that day and BD has not spoken a word to me. I feel like I had my blinders on because I wanted them to have a relationship and I unintentionally let something bad happen to my son. 

Now, BD has never been close with his family. We saw them for birthdays and holidays. They often voiced how they wished he'd come around more, but for the most part they stayed uninvolved during the relationship, and the breakup. Baby's paternal grandmother has seen him around 10 times. The last time was 1st of the year. So today, she messages out of the blue and asks if she can see him for an overnight visit. 

Having not heard from any of these people in months, and with what happened just recently with his father, I am wary. I want to cut them all off and move on, ensuring that my son has a safe and happy life. But I don't want to disallow anyone from loving and forming relationships with him, so long as they are positive. I also recognize that I am having fears about sending him ANYWHERE not only with his grandmother. I'm not sure what to do and any opinions/advice is welcome.   
Thanks if you made it this far.",5.7357039911308165,6.821620733739837,6.221699926090173,77.0108093126386,67.27235772357723,9.703473762010347,30.356245380635624,9.873865916822265,2.9380642276422764,2059,76,375,46,33,667,248,492,0.067,0.8370000000000001,0.096,0.9494,1,0,2,0,0,0,53.0,8,1,8,2,19,17,2,3,25,0,36,5,0,2,6,83,64,41,0,6,11,14,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,16,49,2,1,5,2,1,12,9,7,1,1,22,12,64,10,70,38,10,74,0,2,7,1,65,25,0,7,35,273,80,2,0.0,0.09880790412025896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814913636396661,0.0,0.08912250930182647,0.08350674964473744,0.0,0.0,0.06668991598516627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342115856832502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05831081773380989,0.0,0.0,0.2969523127749585,0.07796185711649843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963026055356061,0.05083602870787507,0.0,0.07096190095885581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718362929176397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05378204091816037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861616349071412,0.09384110327305403,0.08433272618271083,0.05957647971672798,0.08007103495064219,0.18270745576991926,0.0,0.07093464311167158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748955633889527,0.17754829994591795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558970427870531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622513924290388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797700021488064,0.0,0.0,0.09060750479621564,0.08527571374783882,0.11780688057190528,0.04074195202230915,0.0,0.0,0.07380080492822236,0.07002970919599819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526607492516735,0.07890914031381875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969217980260348,0.26590293313472924,0.0,0.0,0.06431836657278403,0.08054216022098877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501533072579595,0.0,0.0,0.1268493414633737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030725616378384,0.0,0.057814694996204535,0.0,0.08712867257491387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053424143021888686,0.0,0.08234122327498337,0.4476681512526322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645398609079874,0.07591849724073621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379682695530505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420054857434745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888659394567758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859758030487199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076777719526546,0.0,0.0,0.16620921669059985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588262055406265,0.0,0.0790474816378723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761708110695411,0.14756330409620447,0.06619404159584642,0.0,0.0,0.07498095623042579,0.15461360056547288,0.0,0.0,0.09589864547011827,0.0,0.0,0.06071161065995721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481124812782426
parenting,turmerry,2020/02/24,"What do you think about excess homework?  

This is not a story of just my child but of many high schoolers and for that reason I am posting this here. Our kids get up and leave for school at the crack of dawn and they spend a full day at school. Once they reach home the work has only begun. According to the National Education Association, students should only be doing about 10 minutes of homework per night per grade level. So for a tenth grader it should be 100 minutes which is 1:40 minutes. Correct me if I am wrong, but this calculation is not for just one subject. It looks like each teacher in my child's high school gives Homework that takes an hour or two to finish per day and the homework from all the teachers takes around 5-6 hours every day. There is always 8-10 hours of homework assigned during weekends and even during Christmas holidays most of the days were spent doing homework.

With this kind of homework, our kids' mental and physical health will be severely affected. Life is not all about education, it is about having a balance where you are happy doing things you love, and spending time with your family and friends. What about the college prep? When the high school makes sure that kids have to be kept busy with HW even during holidays, how do they look for colleges, do extracurriculars or volunteer or participate in club activities and competition preparations?

I hope the school can address the issue of sleep deprivation and stress due to dumping more than enough work at home so many kids do not go through depression, and other health issues. I hope the faculty can communicate regularly with one another about large upcoming assignments and not to overload on a daily basis with excessive Homework from all the teachers. I am fine with them getting occasionally slammed but not this frequently. I hope you can give purposeful homework based on student's individual needs and not just to extend class time to cover more material.

From a concerned parent",8.675530726256984,8.956332335195533,7.904407821229054,70.27376256983241,60.843575418994405,10.735418994413408,36.61508379888268,10.355215969177356,3.8543045810055863,1608,67,265,32,20,501,199,358,0.06,0.813,0.127,0.9828,1,0,0,1,0,0,28.0,2,5,4,2,19,15,1,1,19,0,31,5,1,4,5,56,49,24,0,7,17,1,0,1,1,3,3,0,12,6,16,21,0,1,2,4,3,1,7,5,0,4,3,2,20,10,46,39,9,34,0,2,2,1,22,16,0,8,17,184,36,24,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512567079566039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467335580859056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037420184159494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329095104497823,0.0,0.07776370270821875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329017664583976,0.0,0.11926687475574818,0.0,0.07607034125117086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851141563218339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975519101874779,0.0,0.09434202764876597,0.1732222372126031,0.05131194647909506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611174779635284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19194083411352286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861781999830015,0.18112961102290814,0.26902485026988193,0.2667422958887488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18847147351240212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940195838126968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956004563571919,0.0,0.0,0.0637720845406627,0.04410946450844136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163598300964648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148716730075789,0.0,0.060266996067430766,0.18307285076048466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098764128330046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694635819726534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472784312887155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615226558091716,0.12236105223322087,0.1373340315685914,0.0,0.0,0.10025256710233367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864695901854733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282964580872896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4568742171109619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199814113743412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035178813198398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342297720110506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509403714895017,0.0,0.1357685500897995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998239472812844,0.057851997568902074,0.0,0.0,0.10529366667236638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819687364928991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314594172704007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987142064416761,0.0,0.0
parenting,vnk16,2020/02/24,"Tips to drive 7-month-old girl to day care with approx. 45 mins duration.  New parents here who will soon be sending our infant to daycare in 10 days.

Would love to know what parents did to drive your infants. 

What kind of accessories (e.g. toys, hanging things etc.) are needed in the car so our little girl is engaged or sleeps all her way and back?

We would appreciate if you could share your own experience on how you did it, challenges, lessons learned etc. 

Thanks in advance",4.189691011235953,6.578581269662923,3.7307724719101145,88.1296418539326,73.38202247191009,6.247752808988763,29.10252808988764,7.1686216300943375,1.5777966292134835,379,16,71,4,8,113,73,89,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.18899999999999997,0.9512,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,4,0,3,5,7,0,0,1,0,9,2,1,1,1,14,14,5,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,7,11,7,4,18,0,0,0,1,18,5,0,2,6,46,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503360012902519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993366410939084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609973932428586,0.0,0.0,0.25217702685197163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43609321243074944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19124741414456328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035947700543355,0.1074478114962566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595352856558493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645644041594385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560551295826267,0.0,0.0,0.14496903570963024,0.0,0.18882588085185328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051560567546392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341839756963504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565233946765415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000039332963647,0.0,0.0,0.12988891640182434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518764554098358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777710139316492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,casjr85,2020/02/24,Just got a call from the dr saying a genetic abnormality was detected... Has anyone expierenced this?  Can you tell me what happened in your case?  She is 14 weeks along.  We are scared at this news and dont know what to do.  Any advice would be appreciated.,1.781700680272106,4.455658632653062,3.7296938775510218,82.86828231292519,85.12244897959185,7.348299319727893,20.41156462585034,8.344100000000001,1.383731972789115,199,6,40,5,6,67,45,49,0.057,0.87,0.07200000000000001,0.1926,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,7,12,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,5,8,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155022949548612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21956090944174306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257563991327881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296837229187703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783981982857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25822656115479203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855105831370919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743948405318746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256757122265901,0.3232466006812814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822003460716132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589847601153322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293557435494147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamoore8022,2020/02/24,"Anyone here divorced with a very difficult ex-partner that doesn’t help financially or physically? My ex husband hates me with a passion. Like, seriously. Therefore he doesn’t see our son (more than once or twice a year) and doesn’t get a “real job” so that he can escape the child support payment system. I’m having a hard time today. I was advised by my lawyer to not ever block his number in case he threatens me (which he has before) and I need to file an order of protection or something (which I have before). Since last Friday, he’s been sending me awful text messages. He says meeting me has severely ruined his life. But then, he asked if he could come see our son on Sunday. I have full custody of him so him seeing our son is up to me and has been for about a year. I love my son so much. I want him to have a relationship with his Dad just as much as he wants to have a relationship with his Dad. But how do I navigate that while still being true to myself and my boundaries? I can’t have someone over that’s just said horrible things to me two days prior. I wouldn’t let a friend come over after saying these things to me. I wouldn’t expect to still have a job if I said such disrespectful things to my boss. My ex doesn’t understand this. He’s very narcissistic and thinks he can say whatever he wants but expects me to answer his phone calls 48 hours later.

Can anyone give me some advice or just tell me I’m not alone here? I feel awful for my son. I hate it. I hate this for him. I’m struggling with what’s right.

Thanks in advance",2.501693624003749,4.2416096170886135,3.7991279887482414,88.67029770276605,76.24683544303798,6.453633380215662,22.14674167838725,7.242747475848597,0.6444858415377404,1213,33,256,14,27,397,167,316,0.11199999999999999,0.8059999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.9236,2,1,1,0,1,0,33.0,3,0,0,1,14,14,3,1,12,2,28,3,0,3,2,47,54,22,0,11,14,10,2,1,1,2,1,5,0,1,14,12,0,2,4,0,0,4,9,7,0,2,5,10,44,7,33,44,5,30,0,1,3,2,55,8,0,7,17,169,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638525665695453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127551645120093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15224708566463935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177756032486346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527853036683326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111671390008482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756153089104394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692281702858819,0.0,0.0,0.07021132020704476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847799330594216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504729776764551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841117057566758,0.0,0.0568794146657017,0.10443679985783172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752499230710633,0.3224559760420644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297241054352514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721376276557694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160708188139013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887425402108483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132564591486313,0.07689719907630131,0.05318775915646767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825827352553927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006207681500195,0.08072477904412866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594163749341893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391644180039615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337685322275005,0.0,0.09297329506585424,0.2071181735719102,0.25973033592037964,0.0,0.0,0.2602628321722956,0.0,0.0,0.12299066936500748,0.0,0.09005733314157426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224411617428564,0.08381246223587202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738854065221365,0.0,0.0,0.11381322779194633,0.0,0.0,0.1235429373354558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515606296875018,0.1002316936735056,0.0,0.0,0.21698262719675465,0.06975868212651863,0.0,0.0,0.06348222820296827,0.0,0.10319482024273807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634892366725766,0.11333618068065696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965619717299686,0.1926407815291685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021577713393238
parenting,Gracie_star246,2020/02/24,"14 month old and smacking The other day my son went to grab a cup of hot coffee. In a panic, I slapped his hand away, then proceeded to tell him off. He held his arm (where I slapped him) and started to cry. It wasn’t a hard smack but it was enough to upset him and I felt terrible afterwards. I felt so bad and apologised but explained why he shouldn’t grab the mug in a calm manner (I know it’s my fault for leaving a cup in grabbing reach) A few days later he was up to mischief again and I said ‘no don’t do that’ in a stern voice and he began to smack himself on the wrist in response to being told no. I’ve noticed every time I tell him not to do something he smacks his wrist now. I feel SICK with guilt :( I feel like I’ve created trauma - I’ve been looking on the internet for tips on how to get him to stop doing it, but I’ve just been met with various studies that talk about the long term effects of wrist smacking and now I’m just so full of guilt and so, so upset. How do I get him to stop doing this now? Should I try and remove words like ‘no’ and ‘dont’ when I am talking to him? He’s only 14 months so it’s not like I can sit him down and explain stuff because he’s a bit too young to understand. Based on his actions I feel like it’s made a long term negative impact :( Any practical advice and tips would be hugely appreciated x",1.5729094579008065,2.942137252595157,3.3560769896193783,92.4486944925029,77.85813148788928,6.339158016147636,22.768310265282587,6.996647511020387,0.5279168396770468,1042,31,242,11,24,349,149,289,0.205,0.7090000000000001,0.086,-0.9906,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,17,14,0,5,14,0,19,6,5,4,0,41,40,24,0,3,7,1,11,4,0,3,1,2,0,0,11,14,0,3,10,0,0,3,10,9,0,0,14,14,29,5,34,21,7,44,0,0,1,0,30,16,0,0,28,149,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328515507467615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245259945534798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773217708644244,0.0,0.11351495030006944,0.0828755949834264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484252998110466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933782095586834,0.1753566812281327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933572669963628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047563567678265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454613902142875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062255363945409,0.19424948521901364,0.2610721109080349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205950488558758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178704899254562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747161304279698,0.0,0.0,0.14395443722601134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656787794371533,0.0,0.0,0.24062798665210194,0.11416615270019335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864187308410552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170325342783829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547832198659483,0.14265964546985335,0.0,0.0,0.10339826806145047,0.0,0.1595113758196251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129322292446932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10466314534394748,0.0,0.0,0.09622812638581593,0.0,0.0,0.2273253389382981,0.0,0.0,0.1556334858619299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854750071593512,0.23765756507254804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927519965307912,0.0,0.0,0.12990877351034238,0.0,0.09230306040493566,0.0,0.0,0.14153171061749886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260296532310402,0.12267630026017072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657700337037377,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crochetorbust,2020/02/24,"Need advice when solo parenting. I’m not a single parent, just need some advice on those times when it’s just me and the kids. 

We’ve got two kids, 3.5yo and 9mo. 

The days when it’s me and the kids I feel like I’m constantly scolding the 3yo and trying to protect the baby. 
Baby gets hair pulled, pushed out of the way, put in a (loving) headlock for cuddles, somersaulted onto, picked up, and just generally manhandled to the point where I’m worried she’s going to get hurt soon. 
Also got fed some play doh today.

I’m always very close by, but sometimes need to prepare food, or clean up, put washing on etc.
These little things happen and I feel like I’m constant having a go at my 3yo and telling her to be more gentle, and that will hurt, be more careful. 
I know that she’s getting attention from doing these things, but it’s not like she doesn’t get my attention other ways - I do play with her, baking, activities outside of the house and also try my best to get one on one time with her since the baby was born.

I know other parents with toddlers and babies who don’t seem to have such handsy toddlers.

I also struggle with getting my 3yo to just stay out at dinner time or brush her teeth without her totally messing about. 
Does anyone’s kids just do this stuff?? Or is everyone reading this just having a laugh because this is normal 3yo behavior??

I just feel like I’m in a constant battle with my 3yo. And I hate the feeling of always telling her off, she must feel like she can never get anything right. Sometimes I think I can see that in her eyes and sometimes I can see that she’s just trying to wind me up. 

Any tips for these moments?",4.892523377931234,5.344072181268885,5.423003884333191,84.2560020140987,68.87915407854985,7.634067040713568,27.84649690691987,7.2636822038024595,1.4121125305711404,1296,40,259,11,21,417,164,331,0.057999999999999996,0.812,0.131,0.9754,3,0,0,0,1,0,39.0,0,0,0,1,19,17,2,1,15,0,18,10,3,1,3,58,54,23,0,5,16,3,6,5,0,2,1,0,2,4,20,20,4,1,11,3,0,6,6,6,0,3,4,10,32,11,38,46,8,44,0,2,3,2,24,20,0,6,20,171,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389271618201268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118680651403895,0.1395553460786614,0.0,0.0,0.057027214050770166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586363871848171,0.0,0.06900907604145708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05111986382803003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800518385356695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550016685837035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27186640382878186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054082324642797976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338585706937575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352531030927272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013117508529692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120089623581713,0.2396364631842879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140302402282417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066912389996487,0.0,0.09531836951362714,0.0,0.1341399196606617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415652075643857,0.0,0.0,0.08279371820142961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676239745628408,0.17954627545346766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217377960300553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048471421161523,0.0840490704413497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568631143779382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865418721984658,0.06467747824551642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216432972180418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365049263521985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793475562160686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927416422883325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686035597412497,0.0,0.0,0.08388201468814672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716154020752577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365004333098826,0.07634237645266549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936929704589914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488170387280564,0.0,0.0,0.08938287852403662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766797029222018,0.09599885956697553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659348589460408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142481346595016,0.05373366691147318,0.0,0.0,0.14669713365010764,0.0,0.07948883105124921,0.0,0.0,0.17080492320161414,0.0,0.0819183715421388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919272241960811,0.0,0.13312725162114922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083739307608599,0.0,0.0,0.08516321127125001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coolgirlhere,2020/02/24,"I’m going out of town for a week and feel super guilty - How do I stop worrying so much? My good friend of over 30 years invited me to New Orleans for a week. A free place to stay and no kids for a week. My husband told me I deserve to go and he took the week off work to be with the kids. I have 6 kids, ages (almost) 14 yrs old to 20 months. 

All I can think of is everything that can go wrong. How I’m going to be in another time zone if my kids need me. How my baby isn’t going to know where mama went for a week. I leave tomorrow and I’m so close to just cancelling because the guilt and worry is almost too much. 

Any advice?",-0.3150714285714287,1.3579582071428575,2.217142857142857,96.97785714285715,84.78571428571428,5.428571428571429,17.142857142857142,6.5431188927421005,-0.3883571428571422,479,10,120,5,14,165,85,140,0.14400000000000002,0.764,0.09300000000000001,-0.5418,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,1,8,0,9,0,0,3,1,21,24,11,0,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,8,0,1,3,0,1,7,2,2,0,0,3,1,12,5,20,19,3,29,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,3,13,68,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340014912084792,0.0,0.0,0.2746310401148125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325285345544873,0.14379237774026293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359295205923528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232432728164002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933686320509039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059460150181118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896696556118429,0.11501783087836055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536286056426966,0.0,0.0,0.1452004823875431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945556551874737,0.0,0.20161211856919733,0.10167988600402644,0.0,0.1324406549691279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438944831338321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327128091363506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616194410281902,0.0,0.11464651423328408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786713237750796,0.0,0.0,0.0799613923183465,0.0,0.0,0.13103324179205947,0.15235606896212395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499856040776174,0.0,0.0,0.12712054450639218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983200671516217,0.27852359939599897,0.0,0.0,0.14992972774398902,0.0,0.08830698828640017
parenting,viickytrxff,2020/02/24,"My 16 year old daughter isn't attending year 11 due to anxiety. My 16 year old daughter hasn't been attending school for a few weeks now, and it's causing me, a single mother, a great deal of stress. 
She's been struggling with anxiety for most of her life, and has been able to push through previously. But she says she can't handle the environment any longer, and that her anxiety is preventing her from focusing at school. When she is stuck with anything, she is too anxious to ask for a teacher's help so she feels she learns fine by herself. 
She went back to school last week for a day (after attending a meeting that convinced her to go) , but she is really struggling to keep up the regime. I've been having to get letters from the GP to prevent me from getting into trouble. I feel like a failure as a parent! 
I've asked her what she thinks is best, but she says that she would prefer to revise at home, as there's only a few months left before her GCSEs- so she has already covered most of her subjects' content. I know she is a smart girl, but I'm not sure if the school would let her go on study leave this early. And I don't know how she's supposed to attend her exams! 

At this point she won't go back to school, she won't even attend her mock exams. I just don't know how to provide and alternate way of educating her, as I struggle to even pay the bills. What do I do?",4.9346601538141766,4.943983010600711,5.579384743296611,84.71138017044275,68.7173144876325,8.496279359800461,29.367906880066514,8.124751697461798,1.7895543130326337,1084,36,230,13,17,352,144,283,0.127,0.7979999999999999,0.075,-0.8682,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,14,13,1,4,15,0,25,1,0,3,1,34,42,18,0,4,7,4,2,1,0,4,1,2,1,1,8,8,0,3,8,0,2,10,8,6,0,0,6,4,39,7,38,31,6,36,0,0,0,0,42,8,0,3,18,155,47,9,0.10159733719176164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211518796894014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908967321154011,0.0,0.23316505460267106,0.11477607249439505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360595185466896,0.0,0.18995959128380474,0.0,0.0,0.15624416214220546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645185095272341,0.0,0.10662013732516068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436845157048387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552187755068621,0.10474239352060058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134208166055702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274133268515118,0.07258115798990235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616083081448376,0.0,0.1732203241128975,0.0,0.0,0.1120114229240253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680985535396829,0.0,0.10191041294387387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030438141170448,0.0,0.0,0.16750571856205293,0.08281538982724662,0.0,0.10757691058865053,0.11038580412864564,0.10389016070876887,0.07176120384875792,0.04963532707216912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109402525132825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132186297421882,0.0,0.0,0.07726935308568658,0.0,0.0,0.11281181971720895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604232280770313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650858557535431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158856070682634,0.0,0.5141096463051373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637940649159186,0.3186347879391119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575428794813763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509947135180613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064323729603144,0.16299051127664485,0.0,0.0,0.0941817494369284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434366674203788,0.0,0.0,0.1962760624558519
parenting,Grandmameowmeow,2020/02/24,"Tips for longer stretches of sleep? First I will admit my 4 year old has slept with us all her life, but we finally have got her into her own room. After a few days there is now no crying or screaming about it. We sit in a chair next to her bed until she falls asleep, which we are fine with because it's only about 10 mins. However, she gets up in the middle of night over and over. Again, we are okay with it because she isn't screaming (now), just comes in and asks one of us to sit with her. My question is.. how do you get your kids to sleep longer stretches? Sometimes it's an hour between wakes up, occasionally 4 hours tops but between her and my baby it's a lot of waking up at night!

We bought her a kids weighted blanket and she doesn't like using it. 

Also, if you have younger babies and are reading this. I love co-sleeping and think babies should be in your room for 6-12months, but get them out of your bed/room before they are 18 months lol My second sleeps in his room all night long, no fuss and has since 11 months because we didn't want another kid added to our bed for forever!",4.396702328508496,4.495102757709255,4.768813719320328,89.75194933920704,69.88105726872246,7.366771554436752,25.905915670232854,6.5431188927421005,0.7678347388294533,854,22,191,5,14,270,135,227,0.086,0.8240000000000001,0.09,0.4729,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,9,5,2,2,9,6,0,0,6,2,17,10,7,2,2,36,30,15,0,3,6,0,1,1,0,2,1,2,5,3,8,20,1,0,3,1,1,2,5,2,0,3,4,3,34,4,35,23,5,44,0,0,0,1,35,20,0,4,21,129,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005780992602144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119843104824688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696959826096248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22881457965748775,0.0,0.10646725660457658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777914526301034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374376084854079,0.08069155805833902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706201013628375,0.0,0.1064263604593009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961089142301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006928499032837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24643449339337456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837541845804002,0.0611269399765031,0.0,0.0,0.11072658891245186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637190237472784,0.1129249978424801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997379651305012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306572972708822,0.35224778892652064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129159361811574,0.0,0.08478403420529472,0.09515881906498692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016218214567264,0.0,0.1251530976703383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349992713914796,0.0,0.5008383929808597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374612629317774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017135601903136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30100607708655536,0.10806284976732032,0.0,0.0,0.07379856867015121,0.0,0.0,0.15236152532907435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057268748069063
parenting,Fibbertydumpty,2020/02/24,"Our 4.5 year old daughter is killing us because she won’t sleep My wife and I are at our absolute wit’s end and are losing sanity, health, and functionality because our daughter is THE. WORST. SLEEPER. ON.  THE. PLANET. She has always been clingy - wanting to feed constantly at night as a baby/toddler and waking almost every half hour and needing to be settled. We ended up sleeping the whole family on two mattresses on the floor - I was with first born (son) and my wife was with little miss energy vampire. It got to the point my wife was basically screaming her lungs out inside her head and fighting the need to tear her skin off or jump in the car and drive away forever due to the effect this was having on her. 

Eventually we got bunk beds for the kids and we returned to our queen bed but still all in the same room. Miss 5 complained and begged for 6 months for the beds to be returned to “normal” and essentially approached every bed time by working herself up into such a state she was crying and crying. Her reason for being upset was that she didn’t want “bad dreams”. We’ve tried everything we can think of to help her change her attitude towards sleep - with visualisation, nightly talks about how the crying was making bad chemicals in her brain causing even more bad dreams, making stories about her and the monsters plaguing her and how she overcomes them with funny or silly things happening as a result (think Harry Potter’s boggarts). 

Nothing has helped and eventually I had to move out of the room. My wife tried coming with me - is relinquishing the main bedroom to the kids, their bunk and their toys, but not long after my wife gave up and moved back in on a single mattress on their floor. Even with her head being basically next to my daughter’s head but her body being perpendicular away from her, this isn’t good enough. I can hear her now as I type this - it’s been 20 minutes of quiet and now she’s crying about bad dreams again. 

She is killing us. 

My wife is a zombie, I believe it’s dangerous for her to be driving the kids around, and she’s just a shell of a person. We’re barely functioning and we just can’t stand being anywhere near our daughter anymore. When she’s carrying on I just want to build a sound proof padded room and throw her in there all night and let her cry and cry and cry for all I care (but obviously this is just my frustration taking). 

There is honestly no lack of love and comfort in this family. She has no reason to be this anxious / scared of sleep and we have done everything we can to make her feel safe and secure and loved. 

Fuck this whole situation.",5.546505250525055,6.390623786138615,5.776597659765979,80.90361236123614,67.57425742574257,8.418241824182417,28.372337233723375,8.484438967287268,1.9322211221122103,2072,66,395,29,33,659,246,505,0.17600000000000002,0.726,0.09699999999999999,-0.9937,0,0,0,0,2,0,47.0,14,0,4,5,21,27,6,2,25,0,41,17,12,10,5,85,65,40,2,7,11,11,2,0,0,1,1,4,10,4,12,46,1,2,6,4,0,9,7,18,0,3,15,6,64,9,70,40,12,70,0,3,0,3,71,34,1,3,25,281,76,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936635035882115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057640226095274576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825814870193533,0.06869965442446999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061667165395139174,0.0,0.0,0.13016749054470508,0.05326623663364643,0.2313584025091401,0.08445568276105879,0.0,0.0,0.07804632724801011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694607345144666,0.0,0.07733096182142075,0.0,0.0,0.07062787757514248,0.07116188614305932,0.07328106486040571,0.059672080211517674,0.0,0.07485890687683365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5326477199577998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088976525700617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270965567818115,0.0715769565500495,0.0,0.0915075972538967,0.0,0.11673005039218795,0.0,0.12451521922614747,0.0,0.13060779790288254,0.0,0.03502623114892788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058923108941436764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404126200038103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058102442833006425,0.1108070097620537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061257397053506565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132805504681231,0.07363337297387655,0.07807508354431138,0.0,0.09286372348305362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821940747799284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327940044725485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083577150465592,0.0,0.0,0.06942919149233248,0.0,0.06130393666611478,0.0,0.07749815018558955,0.0,0.0,0.12504217792223607,0.0,0.13871969099051545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529260715265245,0.14725129884495267,0.0,0.10272928499344636,0.0,0.0,0.0736720344024109,0.19502249961122026,0.06787229117631963,0.06646878221248277,0.0,0.07268978137059838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060486029692809286,0.0,0.0,0.0654848542611662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424472278540634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935380519545119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786513403372207,0.2772899032185805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553210665124548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05208425988693937,0.055678569765859484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04602153641022856,0.08877397525021269,0.0,0.0,0.040393321544532935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406289015473196,0.0,0.06766911608508516,0.0,0.16665245147595004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257605397874148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468042881930155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05043116722664022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04460918537136882
parenting,harri1234567,2020/02/24,"Kids and travel sickness Just want to know how do people deal with travel sickness in kids. My 4 year old daughter can’t travel anywhere more than 30 minutes away. So we’re bound to public transport, which is not great. She is fine on bus and train for some reason. Wife thinks it could be my car since it’s really low and she gets sick too in it. But any tips would be great. TIA",1.5,3.704032012820517,2.1304487179487204,97.15413461538462,81.43589743589743,4.412820512820511,17.442307692307693,5.148860815047168,-0.7240307692307688,299,6,65,1,8,92,63,78,0.142,0.775,0.083,-0.7309,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,0,16,12,6,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,3,3,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,9,8,2,12,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,1,2,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18243956033126474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520578368276243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21419970361994525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765848401603217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016519689487514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5915591665275151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743964004512086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815146696778856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599153224906956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186700060230067,0.27583646242804105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221923940423876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719029542209138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582384607373047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905783735319608,0.0,0.0,0.17276348680146095
parenting,lucries,2020/02/24,"easter activities i don’t have any kids on my own, but my work is having an event for kids 2-10 for easter. what are some fun activities?

i understand 2 yr olds and 10 yr olds have different interests, so please state what age group the activities fit the most",2.428846153846152,4.647521115384619,4.350615384615383,82.39438461538461,78.23076923076924,8.775384615384615,21.93846153846154,9.3871,1.889072307692308,206,6,43,6,5,70,38,52,0.0,0.752,0.248,0.9347,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,3,7,3,7,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,4,24,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22953815874916425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3526565118810157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7083809983033308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37051656431883295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513901009938666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457324806321365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,j107sound,2020/02/24,"How do I tell my mom I don’t want her to kiss my baby My mom has the cold sore virus, and she has kissed my baby like one time, but I’m scared and have anxiety about her kissing her again. My baby is 3 weeks old and I’m worried she’ll get sick or gets a virus. I barely even kiss her, and my mom believes in kissing and exposing babies to things to build up their immune system, and always tells my little sister to kiss my baby and encourages her to. It’s easy for me to tell my little sister to stop and to not kiss her, or to only kiss her clothes, but I don’t know how to tell my mom. Should I say it as a quick “mom don’t kiss her could get sick” or sit down and have a talk with her. I strictly made my boyfriend tell his mom only air kisses, but I’m having problems telling my mom. Btw I’m a new mom, and 17, so I don’t have that much experience but I’m kinda freaking out, what if my kisses already have her viruses, or what if that one time my mom kissed her already gave her the cold sore virus..😳😳😳 have I failed already???? Plz help😓",1.8401841432225048,2.6173531565217374,3.487340153452685,94.15742966751921,76.1304347826087,6.107416879795397,21.355498721227626,5.900188976854957,-0.04792583120204563,806,18,196,4,17,269,107,230,0.14300000000000002,0.634,0.223,0.9702,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,1,7,18,0,1,6,0,17,17,0,3,0,33,29,24,0,6,11,11,0,1,0,2,5,1,0,0,7,12,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,2,3,39,14,18,24,1,17,0,1,0,12,37,7,0,7,9,116,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488730706274627,0.0,0.06255177925463895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05750881368153725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469669472814696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002127120966293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049652503219599714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353575965089186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782780024630815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050388344439127854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04131431777284333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036726800010572894,0.15069057685089393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113258131875834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7923984531502071,0.0,0.0,0.055262413548651024,0.0,0.0,0.07260466580580201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888371483564316,0.0,0.1018813069832836,0.11434823723829395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193250306694685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05978232745849596,0.07526347842363419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284982397322042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060422969185639275,0.3942385710402844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994305507639131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876705142842046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04434027408630357,0.0,0.06030100197158589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634405333426274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adventuregirl123456,2020/02/24,"Pregnancy termination - what would you do??? Moving to a foreign country in 4 days!!! I recently split up with my long term partner and am moving to a new country to live with a friend - yay! I’m so excited. So I’ve packed up and sold up my whole life and am now staying with my parents for a week. Literally all I own now fits into 2 suitcases and 3 boxes. I fly out in 4 days. Aaaand.... would you believe it! I had been feeling off, and did a pregnancy test, and I’m pregnant. Aaarrrggghhhhhh. 

I told my ex partner who is the Dad. I had ONE slip up and spent the night with him 6 weeks ago. We split 4 months ago. He has been so lovely and very supportive. He wants me to keep it, but this is likely to try and get me back. 

I’ve always said I would never have an abortion, and feel as though I am ready to be a parent. But I am literally moving to a new country in 4 days! I don’t have a job and will have to get my own place when the baby is born. I will have no family there! I don’t see how I can make this work. The thought of staying in my home country makes me miserable. Has anyone done something similar? 

What would you do in my situation? I would love some advice and opinions. I’m so lost. Even some pointers on how to start marking sense of this! 

Thanks xxx",0.5132706766917288,2.5484120939849646,2.842819548872182,91.60152255639099,84.07518796992481,5.905263157894738,21.530075187969928,7.1686216300943375,0.5753172932330832,971,32,221,14,28,332,144,266,0.043,0.8490000000000001,0.10800000000000001,0.9406,3,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,1,3,0,2,13,10,0,1,13,1,32,3,0,4,2,40,55,23,0,6,2,4,2,1,3,7,1,1,1,2,8,19,0,1,3,0,2,3,4,2,0,1,12,4,29,8,30,35,7,41,0,2,1,2,19,15,0,3,22,148,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772270285842599,0.19543759194202456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917263404265086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708054708650812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847657492984291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419979009722458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21328199287096025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281112482056192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728107572257675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392200156357986,0.0,0.11147867452544673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516913499920982,0.0,0.11518897406154895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057709159894837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939360087516944,0.09798405841656124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786392952411164,0.05385642104331143,0.0,0.09734163608796,0.09755662225936623,0.0,0.0,0.12033713469175908,0.0,0.1989870990583672,0.0,0.14716862929052307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799043394399861,0.3514947029468277,0.0,0.0,0.08502187202677815,0.21293591874165532,0.0,0.10345032397223697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469970925529862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24481115446336216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151746109899186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884612468962104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486100315672016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784492831744223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391144649445512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486612947112432,0.0,0.0,0.0780265928927066,0.2349967829731368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509608518178505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149177897275856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830767716569464,0.08751617499085368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053365514282362,0.0,0.07484395246448873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909573927482573,0.06502086949258681,0.0,0.17685157163599147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230761104904892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025413372756042,0.0,0.0,0.3915473992793263,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seekingadvice998,2020/02/24,"Please help. I’m 21yo and 24 weeks pregnant with my first child. My husbands constantly self-pity has ruined my pregnancy. Hi. So, *small backstory*: I met my 29 year old husband 3 years ago. When I met him (26) he was very straight forward he lived basically throughout his twenties partying, engaging in all types of debauchery, and fooling around. His parents are the biggest enablers on earth who supported this I guess. His father owns a business here in NYC. 

I never really saw myself marrying him honestly. It was my first serious relationship, I was only months out of high school- so I never thought much of it or had any life experience. Then months and years passed and I found myself beyond attached and in serious love with him. In ‘17 we started living together. In August of 2019 we were married. I got pregnant in October. At 16 weeks pregnant they found multiple blood clots in my placenta. Immediately I was placed on blood thinner shots 2x a day and sent for over 40 vials of blood. I came back for a rare clotting disorder from my fathers side called protein S. I am now high risk and my baby is measuring weeks behind. 

I am the primary breadwinner. I received my BA with cum laude honors in January. I didn’t attend the commencement. I picked my diploma up. I work for my father who is a lawyer. I make over 90k a year. He is *trying* to get into his fathers business, but his dad has trust issues with him and criticizes him a lot due to his past (before I was even in the picture) so he brings some money in from helping his dad. Everyday he is home and sulks. He huffs and puffs. He sits on Xbox. He watches basketball. He is miserable. Any “business” ideas he has I politely tell him why logically it may not work and I am always “holding him” back. He then gaslights you like you’re crazy if you ask what’s CLEARLY wrong. This has been for 2 months now. 

I really can’t take it. I’m ready to say: not to be f*cking rude, but nobody told you to not go to school, have sex with every moving thing, and get wasted everyday from 18 until 26. It has strained not only our relationship, as I’m a healer and always feel guilty for some reason, but I feel very alone in the pregnancy (I will admit, he is excited to be a father- and is involved in that aspect, he’s reading baby books and at every dr appointment) and so many other natural fears, like sacrificing my youth in a way. 

In the best interest of my daughter who is due in June and I, if this persists should I start mentioning separating eventually? I love him dearly, I really do! I lost my virginity to this man, I’ve done everything I could for him as well- but I can’t sacrifice myself anymore for his shortcomings.",3.1618012820512824,5.4058404750000015,4.587692307692309,81.46647435897437,75.98076923076924,8.102564102564102,27.756410256410252,8.901047299222334,2.458102564102564,2117,88,397,49,48,703,283,520,0.091,0.782,0.127,0.9639,1,1,0,0,0,0,72.0,3,3,1,9,14,25,1,4,15,0,37,10,3,3,4,62,67,34,0,4,11,11,2,2,0,3,3,1,1,2,16,28,0,1,9,3,1,9,9,11,1,2,21,5,71,14,60,40,7,81,1,3,2,4,72,35,0,8,39,252,87,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805839501376664,0.0,0.0,0.09415267946129703,0.0,0.0,0.15128452555705002,0.0,0.0,0.12364033716986005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015574130781627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092688467105608,0.08498617384926141,0.0,0.0,0.1398044019468444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735552582529676,0.0,0.09540173744647087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282664834267107,0.1039738799471598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823863452462764,0.0,0.0725821842838425,0.0,0.0,0.05862777066237436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041877886691973,0.0,0.0,0.09302986152439847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060043499016376616,0.0,0.1531868582770917,0.0,0.08170173480115868,0.08892490863429278,0.0,0.10229613059438702,0.0919310544108281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465162412474345,0.0,0.1993506058101995,0.0,0.0,0.0949907584303267,0.0,0.051664786459031865,0.0,0.07270697495417175,0.0,0.1001447812542012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186666587127246,0.19209737830254356,0.0911875627123071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026234212478528,0.0,0.09488373664215226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421060505243129,0.0888255551006748,0.0,0.16054584936060748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992361967352421,0.07728624465073798,0.16409500658721873,0.0,0.06068141429052325,0.09216586379976922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176843258579917,0.09662020949829488,0.06682741973502812,0.0,0.14022682592301633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539205371366688,0.0,0.0,0.1382783913184801,0.0,0.0,0.1009419409458968,0.0,0.08678142669157987,0.0,0.0,0.09497891390198816,0.09978905727273864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093202912995492,0.0,0.1747128791386324,0.09346797689168714,0.0,0.19520111365372994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229323573225166,0.0,0.18400634148846254,0.0,0.0,0.09483627387863493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868949128155593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316067232036534,0.0,0.0,0.06835107250413518,0.0,0.07945709923150801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060394855926829125,0.0,0.0,0.07217034360302896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686594348220135,0.0,0.061720176487779915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500162978686725,0.0,0.07215808518316262,0.2187613665651939,0.0,0.08173669557487108,0.0,0.0820298142846924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323633809929831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939300194662833,0.0,0.23416561320349485
parenting,MrsAlwaysWrighty,2020/02/24,"Balance bike or trike with handle? My daughter is getting too big for her little ride on bike thing (this one https://www.kmart.com.au/product/ride-on-atv/1670816) and so we're up to the next stage. We're not sure which is the best way to go - a trike with a parent handle so she learns the peddling aspect, or a balance bike shop after learns the balancing aspect. What do you suggest, reddit brains trust?",5.23,7.3115679333333325,4.2316666666666665,86.98750000000004,69.66666666666666,6.066666666666666,25.833333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.9315333333333338,325,10,58,2,6,95,54,75,0.027000000000000003,0.865,0.10800000000000001,0.7844,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,7,0,3,1,1,0,1,9,5,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,4,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,8,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,2,35,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.355163209250522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778017242145558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681660479289268,0.0,0.1923385449277418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33919749139031025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599259723149469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22933009130684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757883729783957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189678897471622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483899588548872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26863134564403685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ebd1749403739,2020/02/24,Advice before we pull the goalie? What is your best pre-baby advice? We are discussing near-term family planning so I’d love to hear tips from people that have been through it. I think we are probably one to two months out. Was there anything you wish you would’ve done before you were pregnant?,2.8210526315789486,5.429391719298248,2.8132456140350897,91.81355263157896,79.17543859649123,5.203508771929825,20.026315789473685,6.42735559955562,0.17603157894736832,236,6,45,2,6,71,48,57,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.9172,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,0,6,12,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,8,2,5,8,1,3,0,0,0,1,10,1,0,0,1,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4550429607402095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19160152453008936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962470631225721,0.0,0.244343619131554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23826875338547315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21949400647554002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624194446000254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101406581480474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18584488931416135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777350532430084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141692082668455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510330975138658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918983254674076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274437765992828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26774618571026954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653977138620015,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ottoseesotto,2020/02/24,"Daughter is humping everything... So my 2 year old daughter is starting to discover her body. A couple weeks ago she found out that she enjoys straddling things (bed posts, bouncy balls, car seat buckles, etc) and humping the floor in a kind of upward-facing dog pose, she can do it for several minute long stretches at a time.

Stuff I read online says it's a normal part of development for some kids and can last anywhere between a month to a year. My wife and I have just been telling her if she wants to do that it's something she has to do in private in her room and she's been generally pretty cooperative. It is still a nuance as she will just do it out in the open in her stroller or on playground equipment. 

Anyone have experience with this? Can you share some advice or give some encouragement? Thanks.",5.044370629370629,6.3107617820512845,5.296037296037298,82.35199300699301,69.0,7.724009324009327,29.566433566433567,8.00094639256281,1.9056230769230773,642,24,123,8,11,203,102,156,0.0,0.903,0.09699999999999999,0.9295,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,9,0,16,3,1,0,0,20,21,9,0,3,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,10,8,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,16,5,20,17,5,26,0,0,0,2,21,13,0,6,11,87,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093649710991108,0.1641334294037356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946838331264024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20567134611784474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204876344386659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20650267361100064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641013375789626,0.18112229778542605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030187061408792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762262675717905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281595379617827,0.0,0.15093035327406593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386103423976436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779318077389686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141777564704992,0.0,0.0,0.1942945820742426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005105555250397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773323793816362,0.18837458613508076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185210401801384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724689821181755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091784293369279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254544104748426,0.0,0.0,0.13105740967140173,0.0,0.14786925060537295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196423832899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161838258922039,0.17047072237797906,0.0,0.0,0.12301227235299755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796845691518303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921233920848576,0.0,0.14852441978852496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384743182597681
parenting,queenmacy1127,2020/02/24,"Soliciting opinions My ex (who has visitation of our child) is adopted and recently just met their birth parent. The “birth grandparent” wants to visit our child sometimes. Not to sound like a prude, but I’m not interested in associating with this person. I feel I should only have to deal with our child’s parent and adoptive grandparents. I feel like if my ex really wants our child to have a relationship with that grandparent, it should be through my ex not me. 

Is this a bad position to take?",5.414906832298137,7.2569137826087,6.081366459627329,74.87108695652175,68.78260869565217,10.039751552795034,29.447204968944106,10.290406445055957,3.1916161490683232,396,15,72,11,7,129,58,92,0.138,0.862,0.0,-0.9152,5,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,0,0,19,15,4,0,5,6,5,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,5,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,3,12,3,11,11,0,6,0,0,0,1,21,1,0,2,5,48,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20878229449368996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577917916090257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528667842595641,0.17863661623881696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443247564419623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901751936240776,0.0,0.0,0.5553044978651154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21833504946645332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018919177947272,0.0,0.2468953783900376,0.2684613932138829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24730701535884886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880073715631963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29497333455643426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FirstChoo,2020/02/24,"Not legal, but Advise wanted Hey there, I'm Choo.

Long story short, I fell in love with my high school sweetheart, had a good relationship, teenager puppy love over, pregnant, wild lovely daughter appears! boom. I made a HUGE mess.. breaks her heart, calls the police on me, haven't seen my daughter in over a year. 

I want to go to her house..talk it out and see if we can fix this. I'm willing to pay and be there 110%, but I'm lowkey scared. Her parents are not fond of me, somewhat racist and believed I would cause drama in the first place.. Ironic and sad.

​

Thanks whoever read this, any comments appreciated..",3.1357295645530963,5.378925445378151,3.4038808250572963,89.9268143621085,76.05882352941177,5.335676088617267,23.423223834988537,6.1124844417494595,0.4459848739495795,484,15,95,3,11,149,90,119,0.139,0.618,0.243,0.9663,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,0,1,2,10,0,1,5,0,7,4,1,2,0,19,21,7,0,4,5,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,2,1,3,3,3,0,1,3,3,12,7,12,15,1,18,0,1,2,3,16,11,0,3,3,52,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19099840586463132,0.2141984849414104,0.1198758797286378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986062581415464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000074064908328,0.0,0.0,0.18108726480179269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994297102204535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018351404623024,0.1478546033726492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889166390869665,0.0,0.1862486203507044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600151730283798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4772964970168658,0.16679961187402695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19573715584068047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18417421240172546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632687255596885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892578567713168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648620022792286,0.17840393003194335,0.14047167467982252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168651863310236,0.0,0.16229417487847184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20794804211703846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522366389676975,0.0,0.2141984849414104,0.11351800523804995
parenting,notmyfirstorlastname,2020/02/24,"Fiancés son extremely violent So my fiancé has a 9 yr old son who we’ll call “Timmy”. I myself have two younger children from a previous relationship and I’m 7 and a half months pregnant with our baby girl. 

A little back story on my SO..he was very bad into drugs a few years back and him and his ex lost custody of their son. His parents got primary custody of him when his father went into rehab and the mom disappeared. SO was also in legal trouble. Fast forward 2 yrs and his parents still have custody of the son because of the legal issues. But SO gets “Timmy” Friday after work until Sunday at bedtime. 

Now “Timmy” is extremely autistic. And I get that he’s not like most kids and his brain does not function like a regular child. But “Timmy” is extremely violent. Especially when he doesn’t get his way. And when he’s at his grandparents he has no consequences to his actions. They just say “oh that’s just how Timmy is” mind you, he’s broken his grandmas nose, has left bruises on his other brothers body that literally looked like he was hit by a bus, he runs away at least once a week if he gets mad, etc. My children know that there are consequences and repercussions to their actions. They get their iPads taken away, put into time out and if it’s bad enough I do spank. But “Timmy” has absolutely no authority when he’s at his grandparents. He literally runs that house because they “don’t want to deal with the fits” and are honestly scared of him.  Well this weekend was the first weekend My SO has lived with me so it was the first time I was around “Timmy” for a long period of time. He pushed me as hard as he could in the stomach for no reason, smacked me across my thighs for no reason and kept jumping at me like he was going to hit me, again for no reason. He also hit and smacked my SO in the face I don’t even know how many times. When I tried to take his IPad and phone for pushing me his dad says “oh that’s just Timmy for you. He doesn’t know right from wrong” I felt like it wasn’t my place to punish him in the first place but now I feel like I’m in the wrong for trying to do something about it. After “Timmy” went home today, I talked to my SO about it and I literally felt like everything I said went into one ear and out the other. His response to everything was “that’s just how he is” and “he doesn’t understand” I could be wrong but I feel like if he was punished for doing wrong consistently then he would understand and he would get it. I’m so afraid he’s going to hurt one of my children or me. I love my fiancé more than anything and I would never ever make him chose between me or his son but I honestly don’t think I can handle him. I feel like a terrible person for saying that but I just can’t sit back and watch the abuse. And my SO says he’ll work with him more and stay on top of the consequences but that’s not going to matter when he gets to do anything he wants at grandma and grandpas house. I don’t know. I feel like they think I’m coming in and trying to tell them to how to parent but I know everyone else outside of that house sees the same things I do. He gets into trouble all the time at school for hitting other kids. Just this past Friday he got into trouble 3 different times for hitting another boy in the head. And guess what, no punishments. I’m at a loss at what to do. I don’t want to lose my fiancé but I can honestly see this being the downfall of us.",2.8830285788180525,4.257945679943107,4.233031423768267,87.47966222682017,74.41963015647227,7.1610914263545835,24.019371524634682,7.750939303291985,1.077781450924609,2675,79,566,36,55,884,271,703,0.151,0.813,0.036000000000000004,-0.9971,6,0,2,0,2,0,46.0,3,2,8,9,43,37,6,2,28,0,48,11,8,8,3,104,105,66,0,11,24,14,7,10,0,5,2,6,1,9,26,40,0,1,18,2,0,17,20,22,1,7,21,18,81,15,85,70,9,98,0,4,4,1,97,39,0,7,51,373,107,5,0.0,0.07229812333511244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975945358629514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398426066674863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004276900154557,0.05432028724018079,0.0,0.0,0.11465964797336435,0.14076067493631794,0.10189745871403766,0.07439383531333699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677789028424532,0.0,0.06811793653531767,0.0623077265609926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256289171942783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974382027639866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629084197632774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375238470981995,0.0,0.0,0.05339857108689812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076324153973734,0.0,0.05097395803985614,0.0,0.0,0.06304944964898776,0.06805286645698894,0.04030280081498814,0.0551956264623765,0.0,0.058306742197257885,0.10968077470075427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341315996993772,0.17436935705829582,0.11717656825077195,0.0,0.0,0.1557094532693861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25504134029483755,0.0,0.10403635523835827,0.0,0.09760572842828796,0.0,0.0672198529011075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054661481874492816,0.0,0.06262360577106256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120752849190185,0.0,0.0,0.21122491303290686,0.06532263119940243,0.0,0.0,0.06368849919001976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767359267284218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629785962133837,0.0,0.0,0.29811042936778576,0.061157564168083066,0.053881331821525484,0.05400033271060147,0.051241007464465034,0.06826520647883902,0.06660998669592179,0.0,0.05507247640094262,0.0,0.04073098659116615,0.0618641903205924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161229502724161,0.07146529480469421,0.04870517857510121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706199610845389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402969518991516,0.06498377048201767,0.08269677772251985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20326478335537268,0.0,0.058250012269226686,0.0,0.053279869212060266,0.1275047694196399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061341445953516475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882146102553821,0.0,0.06551210148749333,0.0,0.0521103151390226,0.05804351286144155,0.19410060557551748,0.061091159213771874,0.06175498639479289,0.09724927424135756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046975788226018736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503866253555153,0.04873024735504641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04587906610628453,0.04904515852843679,0.05333372798262122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04053864096103085,0.07819765679426474,0.0,0.0,0.2134857486791794,0.0,0.057839346231139836,0.0,0.0,0.12428469459655178,0.0,0.059607179922700065,0.12704689207237305,0.07339893909058656,0.0,0.0,0.05034747367366112,0.1079726369491596,0.04843443473430418,0.04894615807498105,0.0,0.05486385395579408,0.1696970489733793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884583788002746,0.0,0.0,0.1300394950750216,0.266860954173648,0.0,0.03929455403692398
parenting,bornin2019,2020/02/24,"What to expect from a Nanny We hired a nanny for our son a month ago when my wife maternity leave finished... We posted a job on care.com and reviewed 50+ applications and interviewed ~10 applicants. At the end, we hired one after talking to her reference (the family for whom she was working at the time). 
  We told the nanny that we have installed indoor cameras in different rooms (and showed them to her). During the last month, we noticed that she was on her cellphone a lot... We noticed a couple of times, she was on her cellphone while our son was nagging (but not crying). We noticed in several occasions that she was singing""five little pumpkins"", for ~10 minutes repeatedly, to our son while being on her cell, and not looking/paying any attention to him.

  To be fair, she is fine in taking care of the basic needs of our son, e.g. feeding, changing diapers, etc. Wondering if it is a reasonable to expect the nanny (in her mid 30s) to not use her cellphone while taking care if our son?",8.629623655913981,7.393380994623659,8.647419354838707,69.8744623655914,61.634408602150536,11.277419354838711,38.40860215053763,10.25414643259724,3.982240860215053,779,33,134,14,9,255,103,186,0.021,0.922,0.057,0.765,3,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,13,0,1,1,1,4,1,0,14,0,10,1,0,2,0,27,18,11,0,5,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,12,1,0,4,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,6,0,28,3,26,10,2,28,0,0,0,0,41,13,0,4,14,101,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693728541652718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973802397469608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4380028142174769,0.0,0.15148556887027198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844698485238715,0.15729739232475354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496124908487586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683182232473333,0.0,0.15970475310643176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499528563006574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210292502122396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672630859640915,0.0,0.15162707909016945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352303135133246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174268051196795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860017290402826,0.0,0.0,0.10618025411143267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4890990782784538,0.0,0.0,0.09703535763052454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371450711590768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147232435736105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177412538190805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21533567377029564,0.11509794284418992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700099280460998,0.0,0.0,0.13683279414745533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367797041073955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529322178114927,0.10425058738805444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,um-tahnoun,2020/02/24,"A child took a pair of scissors to my daughters uniform Hello everyone,
My daughter is in first grade. There were a pair of boys that went around cutting up other students uniforms. My daughter was one of the children. This isn't the first incident of bullying. There has been pushing, hitting, and very foul language.

The teacher immediately reached out to me regarding the incident. She expressed to me that these boys are a constant problem. She also let me know that the parents seem to not be doing what they need to regarding his behavior.

An administrator reached out to me today to discuss what had happened. She divulged to me that the school counselor and other teachers/administrators have tried to work with him. That's all very nice but the parents need to dedicate themselves to their child. 

She told me that there are issues in the house. The parents are separated but continue to live together. They try to contact them but the mother will tell them to call the father and vice versa. In this country, they let a lot of things slide for locals.

My husband is a local. He doesn't let a lot pass due to the nature of his job. He wants me to take this further and report them to the social support center. If the parents need help or counseling they can get it and their child can also receive supportive benefits. However, in this country...they do a ton of rug sweeping. 

I want to be clear about what the social support center does. They provide help to families and individuals who are experiencing turmoil. They will not remove children unless the situation is extreme and there is just cause to do so. They try to take a supportive stance and keep families united.

I'm prepared to be 'that' parent if I have to...I'm just worried that the parents of the boys will never discipline them correctly and keep letting terrible behaviour slide. Most of the time, a maid will be parenting the child. Often, you will see them glued to some kind of device watching whatever they want since no one put parental controls. Seriously, in 10 years the behavior could be much worse. I think it would be irresponsible of me to not do something. 

I just don't want to be a s*** stirrer...",4.686497695852534,7.045711240694794,5.209752570010637,78.21946401985112,71.8287841191067,7.881148528890463,32.10981921304502,8.676224119757912,2.8960198369372563,1742,83,297,33,35,557,206,403,0.067,0.835,0.098,0.8704,10,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,0,1,15,4,14,12,1,1,33,0,42,0,0,2,4,53,68,19,0,12,13,14,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,9,22,13,0,4,3,0,0,9,8,5,0,4,7,3,39,7,49,42,7,32,0,0,2,0,61,14,0,9,9,227,61,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588985027892308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645033033838363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398808794493858,0.0,0.0,0.07443469635485442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830174697213116,0.08126821315780366,0.05785210529420855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340880002809933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923706910170489,0.0,0.0,0.13661458830550482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123266089758292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03785650303108418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407468936391082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713462408720094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836072201861003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562770364506241,0.0719037428165523,0.12880864109311266,0.0,0.07545423282267534,0.03982122027379079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963743334408611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398206029069305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232030148291854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326523252499788,0.16118086976783189,0.05588435494477738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819932134592337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6436514804643353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933286579300289,0.0,0.07284066597159074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333172973248718,0.057739932527530076,0.06596337053855876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599383050103915,0.08144623368720864,0.0,0.14772434835278067,0.0,0.05578198631829708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288995577184728,0.0,0.0,0.10895933988477574,0.0,0.06333180127422622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04813811541746706,0.046428392009445305,0.0,0.0,0.04225105301294153,0.0,0.06868205392533829,0.06923706910170489,0.08050390519632197,0.14758341254865093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957147261105187,0.17095127467423107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716962660667981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052750549806808,0.073584982841373,0.07384126018340849,0.05147234074577579,0.0,0.0,0.046660808864452924
parenting,mammasaur,2020/02/24,"Husband cant say No Anyone else's SO (or are you) incapable of telling your child no? Our son is 2.5.   I KNOW my husband loves our son and I KNOW he wants to make him happy but he is literally INCAPABLE of telling him no, today specifically (and for the last several months)  it was candy. 

7am
Couldnt get my son to eat his bfast, asks me for candy.  ""No buddy breakfast first,  candy later"" dad comes in, asks dad for candy, breakfast still untouched, (HEARD ME SAY NO)  ""sure buddy come get it."" ....breakfast goes uneaten,  

1hr later....he's hungry...wonder why.

Ok buddy here is a yogurt lets sit down
Throws a fit
Asks for candy.
""No buddy you already had candy, lets have yogurt""
Dad....c'mon buddy Ill get it for you.

1hr later drinks yogurt he didnt drink from before
...asks for candy, gets it.

2hr later

Lets get lunch buddy want some Turkey and cheese and crackers

Says yes

Sits down takes 2 bites asks for candy

I say no, dad says yes....

And on and on all day.

Our son ate dinner, every other meal and snack was passed up for candy.

It took me 4HOURS to get him to go to sleep.

Im tired, Im pissed and I am over this day.

Thank goodness tomorrow is Monday. 


I have tried to have the this is unhealthy in more ways than one conversation but it just ended with me being put down and told to lighten up and allow our son to have what he wants.",0.13409309309309236,2.5098538407407425,1.9840940940940928,93.83490990990994,92.07407407407408,4.1041041041041035,15.075075075075073,5.78547306074238,-0.6645585585585589,1027,21,214,8,37,337,144,270,0.107,0.777,0.11699999999999999,-0.2597,0,0,2,0,0,0,62.0,4,4,0,1,4,7,1,0,4,3,21,16,2,2,2,28,48,14,0,4,4,10,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,1,10,13,11,0,2,2,0,7,10,1,0,2,8,6,23,6,31,35,3,34,0,0,0,1,43,11,1,2,13,118,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897034610839017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904656342017959,0.10117850579505427,0.0,0.0,0.4615780159629032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402686817631784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012449310696126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273679651029591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934699560934669,0.0,0.10104336741559808,0.08249088367774103,0.0,0.08746099472978876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319904628315598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399459182096136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095490277431474,0.0,0.05612049242551997,0.0828247364613704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511857343798488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133285379742012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085381113092264,0.08049241013694237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029280949739063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912349402185284,0.0,0.06591473776363238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881933000378047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691387655534356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926853392117416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926399648961391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155659256568198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881883634172782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885989867629331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306837091475688,0.0,0.07424584731006678,0.0,0.17261937351126308,0.09091345116692896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349575026324495,0.09360110467032927,0.094357489062578,0.10971213040370767,0.0670430855226865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747315409171869,0.07838118669420678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910427946666008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pine-appley,2020/02/24,"Birthday Invitations We are trying to plan a birthday party for our 4 year old (who is turning 5). He has always been, and continues to be, a kid who likes small groups of children. In the past, when asked who he wants at his birthday party, he has typically named 3-5 other children.  We have tried to honor his wishes, however siblings always seem to come along (without notice). 

This year, I've asked him who he wants to invite and he's specifically said 5 friends' names ""and no one else."" I struggle because one of those kids is a triplet with an additional younger sibling, one has two older school-age siblings, the others I don't know about. Mine is an only child, so I don't ever worry about siblings and parties. So my questions: Is there a polite way to request that siblings not come? Do parents assume all kids are invited when one is? How do I accommodate my kid's wishes is this situation?",5.736468733578558,6.415116687861271,6.436121912769313,76.93077771939045,67.09248554913296,8.37183394640042,33.06831318970048,8.296473431620573,2.59095838150289,709,30,128,9,11,233,108,173,0.026000000000000002,0.8290000000000001,0.145,0.9566,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,0,2,9,4,0,1,8,0,18,0,0,1,2,26,30,9,0,4,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,10,11,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,1,0,5,2,1,13,3,16,27,1,15,0,0,0,0,32,3,0,3,10,84,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453501723578445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756577029299257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987307010114229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539989197933982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316036899975186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336052336692242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390545973196654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102467353606199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202774101807727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16785210618728955,0.1547048961818042,0.0,0.3996144718223552,0.11212854394205934,0.0,0.0,0.16370559062811574,0.0,0.14074035607964097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651573816716127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024142399276707,0.0,0.0,0.14920887457886747,0.0,0.13421639333194216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165719544752155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412775093069314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019305852299976,0.16036348590609895,0.144019467128181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17391821654156786,0.11702451768621057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33907863796628146,0.14211901501069868,0.0,0.0,0.1497241714564715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898825188769628
parenting,bstie,2020/02/24,"Is it safe for a newborn to be around people who travel internationally frequently? My wife is due in a few weeks, and my mother in law is a travel agent. She travels very frequently abroad and is going to Europe a few days after the baby will be born. She wants to come right from the airport to visit and see the baby. Is there any issues with her doing that with germs or anything?",4.94802631578947,5.6947019605263165,6.019578947368423,78.97805263157899,68.86842105263158,7.658947368421052,24.410526315789475,7.554174236665415,1.172361052631579,303,7,57,3,5,101,53,76,0.0,0.956,0.044000000000000004,0.504,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,11,13,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,12,10,2,17,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,1,7,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401358785887673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905902976614118,0.3143545059285589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041843608738267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227735244661594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068804683695132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36856886650261855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448111578738956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30156527517755505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28139346374295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913636141402369,0.20828120681002849,0.0,0.2832541232841721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DannyPipes,2020/02/24,"Overwhelmed: When it's been a week and you still haven't yet figured out if you're sad, happy, heartbroken, upset, annoyed or proud Sorry, bit of a rant...or maybe a rave...I'm not even sure; that's how confused I am right now trying to unpack what's transpired here. It's nothing earth-shattering, I don't really need pity or applause or advice (unless you'll say something other than ""aww, that's great of you and it just means the child is going through a weird but normal phase!"", because I can tell myself *that much*).

So my village has a little castaway 4-year old we'll call Braelin whose single mother keeps her in daycare, and when she's not in daycare then she's just left to watch cartoons and help herself to whatever cookies, pudding cups or potato chips she can find because her caregivers think she's darling but oh so much work because she's blind in one eye and lacks balance. She's not really neglected, just...well, you've probably seen similar families, you can picture the situation. You can probably even picture the sofas.

So I, a noted father in the same village, have some free time lately and try to drop into the house about once a week. I don't want to tread on the single mother's toes, so I avoid insisting everybody go wash their hands so I can prepare a real meal, clear the month's backlog of detritus off the dining room table and get some real dishes on a real table with real chairs around it. Instead I just laugh off ""my silly OCD"" as I do a bit of tidying, brush some hair, give a pickaback ride or two and suggest I'll cook one of the children's favourite meals to repay the hospitality for letting me come visit every week.

So anyways, to cut the long story short - last week Braelin decided to intentionally call me ""Dad""; now I've never been in any way involved with the single mother - we are not even close friends or anything; I think she probably knows the postman better than she knows me. I really am just a weekly visitor who comes out of a desire to see if I can help a struggling family (*not struggling in any financial sense, just in terms of driftlessness*) and ensure the children grow up as healthily as possible. I politely reminded her that my name was Zeke, Zeke, you can say it, come on, Zeke. She refused to speak at all for the rest of the visit. Then, when I was getting ready to leave and bidding each child farewell - she tried again, I don't even know if it was ""more hopefully"", ""more cautiously"" or ""doublechecking I'd understood"". Again, I just kinda blanched, then scooped her up with a promise she'd get an extra somersault if I could get a ""Zeke"" out of her. She again refused, obstinately insisting I'm ""Dad"".

I think the toddler picked up on my sudden uncomfortableness with her experiment of calling me Dad, and I feel *really bad* about that - I have a relative who suffered early childhood rejection and it screwed her up pretty badly. I don't want Braelin to have not only never met her actual father and to have heard many uncharitable things about her own parentage including from her mother...but then to remember that she tried reaching out to perhaps the only healthy male role model in her life and he was anxiously encouraging her to never repeat her attempt to forge a closer relationship.

So now I've spent the past week trying to unpack my feelings on this, I mean there's so much pathos in the whole scene that played out that it could be an opera if we had a mock-up of a castle. I'm sure she's dealing with a bunch of confusing toddler emotions seeing the other children in her daycare have fathers and knowing she doesn't have one, but I also know I'm not the person to sit her down and tell her about her real Daddy or anything. I'm sure I'm neither the first person in this situation nor the first to have screwed it up by possibly giving the child further abandonment issues by refusing the title...but I really can't just go along with the name. Her mother's no help on the issue.

Anyways, I don't know what I expect from you readers - I guess I'm hoping one of you has a brilliant insight that'll stay in my mind when I return to the house next week. Hopefully she's forgotten the whole thing, but I'd rather be prepared just in case she hasn't.",6.951016375693598,6.619698079171741,7.148475842468534,76.30690106915688,64.55420219244823,9.879994586547573,33.835187440790364,9.328884781210824,2.9693444363242656,3357,128,622,53,45,1087,370,821,0.10800000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.922,1,1,1,0,0,0,113.0,3,8,1,6,45,37,4,7,54,0,46,14,4,3,8,137,92,56,0,18,34,10,4,0,1,3,3,4,2,9,29,37,5,8,19,3,2,10,22,20,0,7,12,15,87,18,93,71,25,99,0,7,6,2,100,43,2,23,42,423,116,1,0.0,0.0,0.056052346096815975,0.0,0.0,0.05612889402729191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045934085034728435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812121316172728,0.0,0.0,0.06488991486286858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945350887162216,0.05113304082321153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591861864000442,0.10504315821966947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080027982121592,0.12541739824992365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595544985381045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843628179974658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172100982532852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059217264107174934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461133731234411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175212533398916,0.0,0.04839497967641111,0.0,0.0,0.05618653185378217,0.10829707866747948,0.0,0.0580859423566936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052498362539406165,0.09771546059000516,0.0,0.0,0.04437736174378625,0.0,0.12003838646177148,0.11020177524545233,0.09793201527045914,0.0,0.0,0.0633268898233446,0.06327572362283343,0.0,0.0,0.061145066589237275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550079852288847,0.0,0.0,0.17115017426137924,0.0,0.13255418493690307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199031446447674,0.0,0.05105457517581179,0.0,0.0,0.18940240034901065,0.04682059142150671,0.06479388780352109,0.06081978950489745,0.0624078283592331,0.058735444914365366,0.040570985807431736,0.0,0.0575691400788764,0.0,0.05083185964664277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823430489553595,0.05770536854622791,0.12513619418909475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799718957504565,0.0,0.04584739902737984,0.0,0.12667320119799044,0.04259041817189859,0.13290189119924392,0.0,0.0610872109734503,0.0,0.05627819299372579,0.055114434603279805,0.0,0.06027274862460441,0.061170843486360024,0.15568907773027396,0.08737015711151794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054832188978406964,0.0,0.10030733878227488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950807189832508,0.0,0.05843628760088201,0.185787426814976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32689176341799264,0.18398502174007572,0.0,0.0,0.061668174635433386,0.06506738469152963,0.04905273898005242,0.0,0.0913558699056502,0.0,0.0,0.09154316669615754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912807169712984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04421948077046954,0.0,0.06429845035367915,0.0,0.06122251474505214,0.04587099689501736,0.0,0.0,0.12009578775069082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240721931862626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004087359896057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632006708700191,0.11041410622870214,0.0,0.0,0.03349324306196368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949871366476936,0.0,0.05610972473078905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775822359578526,0.04559254109920108,0.32251967327507985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825756836218466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04181640125727691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03698894350127222
parenting,runawaywithme_13,2020/02/24,"Night Terrors in 4yo Hey all, I’m just trying to figure out my sons night terrors. They started out of no where. Last night was the first. And we found him sleep walking to the bathroom and walking in circles. He was incredibly hard to console/wake up. Tonight’s was worse. It took us a good 15-20 to snap him out of it. He currently has a fever and I read that can cause night terrors but he didn’t have a fever last night. We went to Jurassic Quest this morning and he was in a cesspool of germs. 

Home life is stable and a safe place. He has a schedule. These just popped up overnight. 

Anyone have any good ways to help bring him back to reality? I had a panic attack with the one tonight because I thought something was seriously wrong with him health wise. I just need some advice..",1.1815789473684222,3.688558394904458,1.8377271203486456,96.60458263493128,86.07006369426752,4.324371438149513,22.912839423399266,5.750287758089431,0.15035796178343966,616,23,132,4,19,189,99,157,0.155,0.727,0.11699999999999999,-0.5494,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,1,1,5,11,1,4,10,0,13,5,1,1,1,24,21,6,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,5,12,0,1,3,1,0,5,2,7,0,2,11,1,13,4,20,10,2,30,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,1,14,77,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475208716495873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937751999913163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642131439437238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687860032516884,0.0,0.10603485927267102,0.0,0.08406118962316082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165897686097864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729575730091896,0.0,0.1511977672995105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23132418351870696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123529299802371,0.0,0.0,0.14657886185496427,0.0,0.0,0.09242995632285714,0.0,0.13832268862741046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248101454939783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740126027127988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224943572023952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6470384934302503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344308549327976,0.0,0.0,0.16179330009644302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407380067041972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793506896641494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379973399835717,0.0,0.0,0.10616042646901623,0.0,0.0,0.09760473853391001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947541166145974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320947625092915,0.09362352167787202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658740166048812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945681682742976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783259752782852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405295900965246,0.0,0.15076954412502935,0.0,0.0
parenting,kimmytwoshoes,2020/02/24,"Mom guilt: can I really overcome this feeling? What can I do to make it easier take some time for me without feeling like a selfish person? I’m constantly worried about my girls, and not only them but my MIL who is extremely dependent on everyone in our home, as well as
having to think of my man. I feel like I’m stretching myself too thin. I’ve lost me.",1.9641071428571413,4.107077513888889,3.990873015873017,84.77000000000002,79.41666666666667,7.447619047619049,25.563492063492063,8.418075326091056,1.94088253968254,279,11,55,6,7,95,58,72,0.142,0.7340000000000001,0.124,-0.3396,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,1,3,6,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,11,14,4,0,0,3,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,4,11,3,10,13,1,6,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,2,4,37,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26034581730158635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302066306293953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654448009960423,0.34422247462911804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416595126444245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353998694287117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26298949359338675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608140470898134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821592169952997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322832446298573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21035953492630705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433767489597866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113969031265406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436996147735493,0.0,0.0,0.1404807089734786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661342216270413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23223550470963145,0.0,0.0,0.2446630278348571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2x_thefun,2020/02/24,6 month old nap schedules.. what are they?? I would love to hear when your 6 month old naps?,-1.1585964912280673,0.8806633157894731,-0.6989473684210523,111.35403508771928,100.05263157894736,2.533333333333333,11.596491228070176,3.1291,-2.231329824561404,69,1,18,0,3,20,16,19,0.0,0.76,0.24,0.6946,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,6,8,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648589342442796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921723147846363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.516784633495901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6793848935499115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299632700545862,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Syberia1993,2020/02/24,"14m old won't sleep in her room if we play in it. So pretty much title, but I'll try to explain more. 

On the weekends my husband gets up with baby to let me sleep in, and will stay in her room with her (letting her go run around, play, eat, etc). But when it comes to nap time she will fight us about it, and most of the time won't sleep or will sleep for less than an hour. When we bring her into our room (for thr day) she doesn't have this issue (like 80% of the time she's golden and will nap for about 3 hrs).

Is there something we are doing wrong? My husband will wake me about 10:30 am (he gets up at 8 am with her) and I take over till nap time at noon. There have been times where my husband puts her to nap, but she refuses until I come in and talk to her and put her back back down (its worked 3 times outta 4, I was really happy I could get her to calm down like that). 

We are first time parents, so we come into new territory a lot and dont have many other parents our age to get advice from.  Any advice is welcome, we are scratching our heads over this on how to fix it.",4.111965449804433,3.1239520805084773,4.8900000000000015,92.33765971316821,70.5677966101695,7.770013037809647,23.66232073011734,5.8734145424116955,0.2387129074315513,825,13,208,3,13,268,132,236,0.031,0.875,0.094,0.9347,2,0,1,0,1,0,32.0,10,0,0,2,14,9,1,0,5,0,25,7,6,1,0,33,36,19,0,2,5,5,1,2,0,7,0,0,3,0,9,22,1,1,1,7,0,8,4,2,0,1,2,1,33,7,41,24,6,52,0,0,0,0,35,22,0,4,23,142,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20877159228836406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264302257292937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509475053986596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427995197824816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27605460112601976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528914385084667,0.0,0.0,0.06889173169717923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251952769257289,0.0,0.0,0.1093061752560442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913542228957913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086323832003056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324157202495973,0.0,0.0607097381789399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137146307052312,0.0,0.0,0.1096307930474464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519873087288922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149502792491542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184666662517024,0.0,0.1043762408277264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090816743843515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083013372126628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852689294486448,0.0,0.0,0.1031699206190217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209233604207967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372276835387212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867697485652324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477240998053693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684332848732208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4275989338059143,0.0,0.0,0.08223724670333604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385866503095125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803172915321393,0.08585994942972162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360237685320477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252552486406416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849441999171055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776811591910192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679373009280684,0.0,0.0
parenting,no2haven,2020/02/24,"Toddler grabbing eyeglasses Anyone have tips or tricks that have worked to stop your toddler (M14mo) from grabbing your (eye)glasses? We tell him ""no glasses"" and either misdirect or remove him from being able to reach our faces but it's hard to be consistent, especially when he does this during poopy diaper changes and our hands are more occupied. He of course thinks this is hilarious.

Plus, my wife really needs glasses to see, so a squirming  poopy toddler holding her glasses is a....mess.

Any suggestions or ideas for other things we can try that have worked for you?",7.189137199434228,8.869895495049507,6.510410183875532,74.0850495049505,64.34653465346534,9.731824611032534,33.24045261669024,9.957137785484203,3.497358132956154,459,19,74,10,7,141,75,101,0.062,0.893,0.045,0.2287,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,3,0,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,9,2,2,0,0,15,12,9,0,1,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,5,11,0,10,10,2,3,0,0,1,0,15,0,0,3,2,49,18,2,0.28393380989533723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930847272340432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985331216687281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003643225896165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484723904355894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543489233823211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205267108297129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053332232515087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189526915967605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22625848545229266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373813787869037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481706647377851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863300683094275,0.18193332063617806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927724190141575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4134143904783207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abstractinfocus,2020/02/24,"Is this just a phase or is my daughter going to grow up to be a mean girl? Okay, let me start by saying that I am COMPLETELY in love with my 3 y/o daughter. She's super quirky and fun however sometimes she is intolerable to be around and I'm uncertain how to correct her poor behavior in a productive manner.

 She is incredibly independent and headstrong and seldom listens to what I'm saying. She knows what she wants and she easily commands attention because she's so outgoing and charismatic. My sister and I are really close and she has an extremely shy, introverted and passive daughter who is 2 y/o and  my daughter walks ALL over. Honestly it's embarrassing when we have playdates with her because my daughter will push & shove, grab toys, and tease her little cousin. I've tried time out, leaving all together, taking things away all with very little success..  Sometimes she'll cave if I threaten her by saying something like ""if you don't stop then we can't go to grandma's"" or ""you can't have an ice pop after dinner if you're going to act this way"" but the only improvement is that my daughter will mope around for a while all bitter and angry (which ik is an improvement from her being a brat to someone else but still not ideal.)  

I would like to teach her empathy so I try explaining how other people might feel when we hurt them ect but honestly she's not phased at all, like to the point where my mom and I joke that she's a sociopath.  I just want her to play and be happy with other kids. It really seems like playdates are more frustrating than they are enjoyable for her and me because I'm just correcting her the whole time and then she gets frustrated and it just goes on and on and on. She really does so much better on her own but it's strange because she is incredibly social, like she'd happily leave with a stranger at the food store and not think twice about it. She is in preschool and I've asked the teacher how she's doing socially and she just says she's doing good. She hasn't really elaborated and I assume she would come to me if her behavior  was strikingly out of the norm. 

Do you think this is a phase? I'm terrified she's going to grow up to be a mean girl I can't stand the thought my own kid bullying others.",4.588995617501258,5.597253037861918,5.564277606149869,80.9668331058266,69.84632516703786,9.178849055248222,28.737768517853297,9.454032385205345,2.4549437603276103,1790,64,354,38,31,590,217,449,0.10400000000000001,0.7440000000000001,0.152,0.9666,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,3,3,2,4,19,26,4,2,19,1,39,3,0,4,7,85,65,44,0,9,18,9,2,5,0,6,0,5,0,4,19,37,2,1,11,3,2,10,8,7,0,1,2,8,61,19,45,50,10,45,0,1,0,1,66,22,0,10,16,246,80,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118586553795018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838079503404618,0.09651387475253867,0.0,0.0969957816476416,0.0,0.0,0.251732438866699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130588715565807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893065447350079,0.10824339380622243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034453241377524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624235275689125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052200386659438915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483616266856795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539377509690824,0.0,0.2346908210395681,0.0865913882896795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098990905123024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051873583178147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05673706999954741,0.0,0.0,0.21862890743549954,0.0,0.10556815679485076,0.0,0.2521850941018024,0.2069437974038446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317659682718778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22491354901841026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951952213907963,0.0,0.12091144971717918,0.0,0.0,0.07589202956449942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851737957026703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157243860137699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759356347063086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26454839528367885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283969607241673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398427134880008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104768923579592,0.08747347693034394,0.0794778874352595,0.20421063783643909,0.0,0.0730726004064245,0.0,0.08244624007887501,0.08631184186155877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762235375564121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858693945862658,0.1323018686667465,0.0,0.08195967870850268,0.12039816639811128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018405849901527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518240984125926,0.12178524880724835,0.08194575753113867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526187557382273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667505314274645,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MurkyIntention6,2020/02/24,"Parenting issues Hi there- I am here to ask some other parents advise. I have an eight year old with a man who is never around, he lives and has always lived in another state. I’ve always kind of thought he will eventually move close to the child but he hasn’t. He helps me with child support, not always on time but he never asked to take the child overnight, weekends or out of state so I never really fought him because my kid is always in her bed in the only home she knows. So that part is nice. I have also always opened my door to him, to visit, to eat to be around as much as he wants to. It hasn’t always been all cream and peaches, im not always the nicest to him I’m the one to admit- it’s hard when he only visits when he decides to, he spends time in our home and tells Me he only dates models 🤨, he goes to concerts I mean he is living the life if you ask me. And then, when I ask for some transparency about his life, who his friends are, what he spends his money on, he is absolutely loosing his damn mind. He storms out if the house, he doesn’t come back for days. And I finally told him he is not welcome into my home anymore. He asks me to leave my home so he can hang out with the kid in my house. He even told me to get another job so I can be gone the one weekend he is visiting. He has always called me fat, that I look like a lesbian 🤔, that I  have mental problems but for the last 24 alone he has called me a loser, Schizophrenic, a shitty person psychotic loser, crazy, antisocial only because I put the foot down and I told him he is not welcome in my home anymore and that I can’t trust him and that I will have to be present when he wants to take the kid somewhere. He lost his damn mind again saying he doesn’t want to be around me. What do you all think? I need someone to tell me what am I missing",2.029275856335218,3.3088433891752587,3.4634552710342525,92.52391253741271,76.44845360824742,6.243565014965083,21.279015630196213,6.6834051587181325,0.2136503824409708,1417,34,325,12,31,466,180,388,0.12,0.809,0.071,-0.9655,3,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,2,0,3,18,16,3,0,17,0,33,7,2,0,5,51,61,26,0,7,10,2,1,1,1,2,4,2,7,8,13,21,2,0,6,3,3,8,12,8,0,3,8,5,47,8,45,47,6,49,0,4,2,1,79,18,2,5,22,200,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306002935555005,0.0,0.05641225108546605,0.4695714212905427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793845357568874,0.0,0.0,0.1399170187021185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18839147022313915,0.3297352975915712,0.0,0.0,0.05424228906023988,0.0,0.08600325171483142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406212742316454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060765513545111616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045493624505973454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721818710428237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04659219287062001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727509262698666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545004188351267,0.0,0.036855178414112164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319159598315423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0472826808379794,0.0,0.3537958795618135,0.0,0.0,0.16279152958933185,0.0,0.0,0.07619724783356165,0.0736273107053689,0.07000185061917948,0.0,0.0,0.0734584282783928,0.038767927841965484,0.057500981182995924,0.0,0.07469357959174494,0.0,0.0,0.09965151744824563,0.0344631597332606,0.0,0.1868691024139035,0.0,0.05923734466070597,0.0,0.07700470648411273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768406990270704,0.0,0.0,0.07108954167192186,0.0,0.1424542153429308,0.0,0.0,0.07497476845772152,0.0518563388268075,0.052305850044289316,0.1632185522014146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402175152616414,0.0,0.0956018971265526,0.21460086716107185,0.0,0.0,0.1566566392142872,0.07638989394864466,0.0,0.0,0.06159437786583149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749897465871754,0.0,0.07091399165901352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04519088269427394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609766981700346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059769837281841626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004999742107544,0.0,0.0,0.10607730745864112,0.0,0.12331328296922495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045200336375059,0.0,0.05600230872244994,0.08226698042856574,0.0,0.0,0.20221713552239312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482214197912085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04542660568077695
parenting,Smallerbuttercup,2020/02/24,"Tips for sleep training My 2nd youngest is 3 year old I forgot all about sleep training, my youngest is 7 months now and she's still not sleep training. How do you sleep train 😩",0.017500000000001847,2.297399083333339,-0.13888888888888928,106.745,99.83333333333334,2.4000000000000004,19.88888888888889,3.1291,-0.9770777777777776,141,5,32,0,6,40,28,36,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,1,1,5,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18402146600823927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24192167489418576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9228592596237912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841161827051392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846555646777448
parenting,honeybunbun_,2020/02/24,What makes you a good parent? The time you spend with them ? The things you do with them ? The things you do for them ?  Something else ? EXPLAIN,-0.16555555555555654,1.3614211481481495,-0.7238888888888884,108.2675,115.29629629629628,1.8,11.907407407407408,3.1291,-2.068525925925926,109,2,24,0,6,30,17,27,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.594,1,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,19,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475283047724777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489348031243628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776941651395929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619369595497146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32026973527883584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5527655968936777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425824976273441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,guy_with_a_life,2020/02/24,Parents of reddit Parents of reddit what is one toy you absolutely regret buying to you kid?,3.5994117647058843,6.6588586470588265,5.772058823529411,68.81926470588239,80.17647058823529,5.752941176470588,26.14705882352941,7.1686216300943375,2.0497294117647065,75,3,10,1,2,26,13,17,0.162,0.838,0.0,-0.4754,2,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918479629143088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9564647231041864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway1432545,2020/02/24,"Should my(28F) husband(30M) try to get full custody of (5M) from his ex(31F)? know that this is my fiance's child but I wanted to get opinions from others to see if I'm looking at this the right way. Right now the custody agreement in writing is that the ex, let's call her Sally, can have her son, let's call him Bob, two nights a week. She usually gets him on Mondays and brings him back Wednesday mornings. 

So down to the issues- 
1. She has had a random guy sleep in the same bed as her and Bob. I don't know how many times she's done this I just know it's happened more than once and most likely with different guys because she doesn't have a steady partner. 

2. She has been put in a mental institution at least 3 times that I know of for suicidal intention and I'm not sure what else. The most recent time this has happened, she intentionally drove to Bob to talk to him and tell him that she wanted to hurt herself so she's gonna be gone for a few days, but he wasn't even going to see her during that time anyway so he wouldn't have known if she hadn't told him.

3. She says that she has BPD, I don't know if she has been diagnosed or just says it.

4. Right now she can't afford a place to live so she lives with her aunt who has more than 35 cats! Every time Bob comes back or we pick him up he smells like cat pee!

5. She promotes her porn or webcam stuff (I don't know the exact difference) on her social media stuff. She is friends with all of her and Bob's family, but is still promoting it. It links directly to nude pictures of her.

6. Every time Bob comes back from her house he comes back less behaved and says his mom lets him do whatever he wants, I feel like it undoes what me and my husband are trying to teach him like not lying and not too many sweets and sitting at the dinner table, etc. My husband is a lot more lenient with him cause it's just tiring when it keeps being undone.


So, do you think she should have the amount of custody she does? My husband doesn't want to cause any drama or tension with her because she gets upset easily but I feel like she isn't a good influence on Bob and it's becoming stressful for me because I'm also trying to help raise him and I care a lot about him. Advice please? 

TLDR: Husband's ex seems like a bad influence on kid and I'm worried about the kid's safety, husband wants to leave the custody alone but I don't think his ex should have any custody.",1.5494750094422756,3.4101541518737686,2.8375340971085663,93.93211129296238,79.47337278106508,5.656116496705695,20.451928322632085,6.56484139541529,0.10272809601745747,1893,49,423,17,47,611,231,507,0.08199999999999999,0.8109999999999999,0.107,0.9349,2,1,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,1,0,2,23,17,0,3,21,0,43,7,3,8,3,83,83,34,1,13,18,11,2,6,2,5,2,3,1,6,24,22,1,1,13,1,0,8,14,5,0,1,9,10,65,12,48,64,15,48,0,1,3,2,84,17,0,14,27,265,89,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226127990830586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658798559073407,0.0,0.059136311761505425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057456055184573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744626245560084,0.06174361948583203,0.13523432431918564,0.0816699259010401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313511085115957,0.0,0.15101866556282267,0.0,0.07539507103778945,0.15193024752105386,0.0,0.19109935967140532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047690441529627946,0.0,0.0,0.07505581936384309,0.0,0.15452016301541868,0.0,0.0,0.06471252759166962,0.07567463544006146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061774193559275936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247173863741533,0.0488420580677562,0.0,0.1246090176248086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971173804918925,0.0,0.07478081676317805,0.1056571514939402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057132160077849325,0.0,0.15453943274987364,0.0,0.04202643985824357,0.06202420283977765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464405964620389,0.130784216119916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956588863504681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532624084919134,0.07916302792021664,0.0,0.0,0.07718266008277927,0.0,0.06572851668135707,0.0,0.0,0.24383982802636395,0.0,0.0,0.07830041745060343,0.0,0.2268509917600783,0.0,0.21676399566310506,0.0,0.13059514894142535,0.0,0.06209782475214474,0.0,0.0,0.12573615165367333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994364236985766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452234609330112,0.0,0.0,0.08660718382088496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939533282029986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875237023636572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726008150770934,0.08117286649987558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433831904078456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301488056299585,0.0,0.0,0.1894539575276388,0.0,0.17641961954503538,0.0,0.0,0.11785420872727828,0.06731962178947362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400155812761045,0.07538083014111949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059055091031940725,0.0,0.08470736016754966,0.0,0.16930588798939447,0.08088727782801702,0.0,0.0696952596797799,0.0,0.0,0.05943672480194905,0.06463394569164425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476598193363234,0.0,0.0,0.25871857843063795,0.08499252441404967,0.0,0.07066062979625695,0.0,0.1506178267432135,0.0,0.07223660103436322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144344393498594,0.0,0.21808268478280796,0.05869660236844085,0.05931674837850849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509793956587547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mulababy89,2020/02/24,Embarrassing mom moment I went to Walmart my son was pooped I decided to change him there he was pooped up slll the way up his back he was screaming bloody murder like I’ve never heard him scream before everyone was staring and I just kept changing him he was covered in poop it was horrible and explosive the Walmart security came in to check what was going on and why my son was crying so much it was so embarrassing everyone was looking at me 🙄😂 my son was happy on the way home,2.7503321878579605,4.912771432989693,4.4277663230240565,82.5141122565865,76.93814432989691,7.61008018327606,26.241695303550976,8.515128840125781,2.000240320733104,387,15,75,8,9,130,60,97,0.19899999999999998,0.7070000000000001,0.095,-0.9171,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,2,3,0,11,3,3,0,1,8,17,5,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,0,2,1,0,1,3,1,5,0,0,15,5,11,3,10,2,1,15,0,0,2,0,12,7,0,0,4,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636945348153296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811484708497476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24348240361367846,0.0,0.0,0.4504057572379288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338429053999663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068392700544611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120986793948879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266188095484044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135398521258326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400429256474199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787688120455352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493269841265118,0.0,0.0,0.15649411941397204,0.0,0.16418914367822218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379545714651754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19734545535391115,0.1920945564421649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vejjo,2020/02/24,"How to correct my 22 month old’s behavior I have 3 kids, ages 9, 6, and 22 months. We have a large L shaped sectional. When everyone is sitting peacefully on the couch, the baby will throw his body violently over them, walk across them (painful af), pull their hair, and hit them with toys (toys he hits with are taken away immediately). I have tried the ways that I know how to correct him, but it’s just not working. We don’t spank or hit, and he doesn’t watch/see anything violent. If I’m honest, waking hours are mostly miserable because of his behavior. Not just the couch issue, but he is a nightmare most of the time and we are exhausted. He is chaotic, and I feel like I’m not doing s very good job. My daughters were so different, parenting him has been rough. 

We have tried picking him up and putting him on the floor with a, “No, that hurts. Please sit.” We have tried physically blocking him from the girls while sitting. He just  continues to escalate until someone ends up crying. 🤷‍♀️",3.7991496598639443,5.274271908163269,4.677428571428575,84.80090476190479,72.26530612244899,8.287891156462585,28.37278911564625,8.841846274778883,2.123114013605442,778,30,159,15,15,252,128,196,0.17600000000000002,0.764,0.06,-0.9792,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,4,1,7,9,2,1,10,0,18,5,3,3,2,34,26,16,0,1,10,2,3,1,0,1,2,0,2,2,3,14,0,1,2,2,0,4,6,6,0,0,3,3,22,3,17,19,3,29,0,2,0,0,25,10,0,4,12,95,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377190449350958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556345699782758,0.0,0.0,0.11390963724195767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075620971260132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052596667932131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952315265107301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550469912052027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855511345734582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448328765313067,0.1334945975359805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567313878618243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184021908405256,0.0,0.20004015634559308,0.0,0.0,0.19503588727920498,0.18543218427917493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269473558379713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912915720080934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983037075546463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608074569826076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988348601877735,0.0,0.207488677330631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051188961849734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878484104773544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832797823413694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896101845871377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806020866269996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418112100446035,0.0,0.14832274387699906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603811553398126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mysonhashie,2020/02/24,"Need advice raising my 5 year old daughter First off, I’m very controlling and short tempered.  I also love my daughter and want her to feel loved and be the best version of herself. 

There are things that just haunt me right now and I’m not sure how to handle them better.  Here are some examples.

This morning I bought her a new frozen 2 piano sheet music.  She so happy. As she turned the pages, she kept pinching the pages instead of grabbing the side.  This was causing her brand new book to be terribly creased and ruined.  This is when my temper kicks in.  My eyebrows will furrow and I will say a intense voice “Be careful.  This is brand new and you are creasing it. You don’t won’t to ruin your new book do you?  Be gentle like this”  She agreed that she didn’t.  She tried to do it better but kept creasing the pages.  I was clearly upset about it.  I know I should try to tell her nicely and she felt less happy after I started getting mad.  But that’s what happens each time.  

Later on, she brought it to her bed and put her hand on top of it.  It pushed it in and creased it.  I asked her sternly, what do you need to do if you want to keep it new?  She said all sadly and whined.. not to play with it..   I told her that she can look at it and try to draw the picture in it.  

I give my daughter a lot of conditions to get my way.  Like “if you don’t brush your teeth now, you will not get to listen to music in the car”.  “If you do that again, we are going home right now”. “If do not clean up, you will not get ice cream”.  “You have 2 mins to buckle yourself in.”

My daughter uses this on me now.  “If you do not let me listen to music.  Then I am not going to talk to you.”  Sometimes her punishments actually do more harm to herself which is funny.  Like “then I’m going to sleep by myself!” (Which we would want) But it still makes me sad that she thinks in this cause and effect manner.  I did this.  

She also gets upset whenever she doesn’t get what she wants.  She will calm down after several minutes, but it leave me feeling like a failure.

Another thing she does..  she always takes things too far when we play around.  Then she’ll get upset and walk away.  Like first she’ll start bouncing on my stomach.  I’ve spoken her about this where she will ask permission now.  I agree.  But then she’ll try to do other stuff like try to squeeze my nose or put her fingers in my mouth.  I always end up telling her.. “do not touch my face, I do not like how that feels”   She will get upset and storm off.  Or she’ll end up doing something painful like dig her skinny sharp elbow on my thigh or head butt me.  And I’ll be like ow!  She will get upset and sad and storm off.  And it’s like dude, you just hurt me!  Not the other way around.  

Any suggestions?  Thanks!",0.9885657613671022,3.068265230088496,2.1602883735123584,96.9248451327434,82.53982300884954,4.675312786084834,18.7679279829112,5.616967699387404,-0.4420997863899912,2105,51,474,11,58,668,248,565,0.11900000000000001,0.737,0.14400000000000002,0.8879,0,0,1,0,0,0,69.0,3,15,1,8,26,43,4,5,12,0,50,16,13,8,3,81,101,44,0,13,25,4,10,10,0,15,1,5,3,0,42,26,1,4,7,4,1,9,15,19,0,2,11,19,93,24,56,69,11,72,0,7,2,3,76,30,1,10,41,325,135,2,0.0,0.0,0.07210399176856187,0.0,0.0,0.07220246064155791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817635192360372,0.12296140569631266,0.0,0.0,0.050246347414557385,0.07747796983986406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155190144049347,0.1381505393598983,0.0,0.06942017189038481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754085686618954,0.13069579466817935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533370092643135,0.15180657927483174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287163142608467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465985286147971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308856052174355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207991996415574,0.052785574320857565,0.07094403003385844,0.0,0.0,0.125698124283208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474306915254351,0.07088006522915521,0.12597669347761653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533888016457517,0.15731021750359786,0.0,0.0,0.07583036497779501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411564964651753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909859076574438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567501495594431,0.0,0.0,0.040606891196913665,0.0,0.0,0.07823668244416088,0.0,0.07555544649840785,0.0,0.3609792566925648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620472783388623,0.0,0.0,0.06281690244426329,0.13337353971540955,0.0,0.04932078792149367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957397415558408,0.0,0.3568072672741093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753298609822047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786220003187034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855561820971513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619983047753378,0.07028437137534327,0.058758672476520925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347236490428961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394132230847196,0.0,0.0,0.05688256245290563,0.073077083042381,0.0,0.10459655862394368,0.0,0.059007021344320475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458403815604974,0.0,0.0,0.06963852910324743,0.0,0.05555455143222602,0.05938834447191356,0.12916266985116415,0.06802610761032449,0.0,0.0,0.14726363494702685,0.04734442214007342,0.0,0.0,0.04308466442904973,0.0,0.0,0.07060311342735458,0.0,0.25082537796967225,0.08036888443923808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381547514088265,0.0,0.060965306251142576,0.17432413579849787,0.11729764896714474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248788776294355,0.0,0.0,0.04758142456939965
parenting,kuzc0t0piary,2020/02/24,"Kid targets a specific type of person to bully? How to help him stop? 11yo boy (autism dx) is specifically targeting girls aged 6-10 to bully them. Sometimes he just has weirdly rude things to say, like criticizing their drawings. Other times he will push them out of the way if they don't immediately just stay out of his path. He has gone far enough to actually strike and injure someone. At first it looked like typical autism rage, but I'm noticing the pattern of his ""victims"". Unfortunately, he has a sister in this age range, and she seems to catch the bullying too. Looking for ideas to curb this behavior, or clues as to why he may be doing it. He does have aggressive or emotional episodes outside this issue, but those are generally handled well enough and he's learning from it. The bullying he just won't stop.",4.958290043290044,6.825789136363639,5.505909090909089,78.44553030303031,69.97402597402598,8.769696969696971,30.365800865800864,9.2995712137729,2.7557333333333336,653,27,120,14,12,210,111,154,0.195,0.748,0.057,-0.9708,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,4,1,7,8,4,0,6,0,12,2,0,1,0,22,17,10,0,1,8,1,0,2,0,3,2,2,0,4,9,5,0,3,3,0,0,3,2,5,1,1,1,4,8,3,19,12,2,16,0,0,2,0,23,5,0,5,8,71,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.18868661440925416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920628699439993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21749838033296967,0.0,0.3995748595888246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446768706454118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296017987496107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21827429006074064,0.0,0.20181241282003545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18892699876010668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324739049694976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013597961907785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883015139579186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537636780549368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602315453878936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382908679061373,0.0,0.19123306563150366,0.0,0.0,0.20609073191890406,0.0,0.3233069206258986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845648820176284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127468710771262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347622037914482,0.0,0.0,0.1738493901448365,0.0,0.1744728372830414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blastradius006,2020/02/24,"16 year old teen daughter is failing classes due to part time job. Hello everybody. I come here out of frustration. My 16 teen daughter is failing her classes due to her part time job.  My daughter used to be very focused on her studies, and took pride in being in the honor roll.  A few last September,  she applied for a part time job at a local fastfood restaurant. Our agreement was she is going to work on  weekends only.  After a few weeks, we noticed she is getting shifts on weekday evenings. My wife and I expressed our concerns but our daughter assured us she can handle the extra load. Time passed by, she is now on the closing shift which ends at 1:30 am, during weekdays when she has to get up early for school. This has been happening regularly that I think she is working full time already.  My daughter has failed two of three academic classes.  She refused to show us her report card but she didn't know her school sent us a copy.  We talked to her about the situation and she said she doesn't have any plans for her future and that she wants to live life in the moment. We are very frustrated. Is there anything we can do about this?",3.9751332327802937,5.840889502262442,4.2553469079939665,86.42192433383612,72.52941176470588,6.359074912016089,29.472347913524384,6.937597516519254,1.5930480643539466,904,38,170,8,18,282,130,221,0.081,0.871,0.048,-0.8605,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,10,0,0,8,7,9,2,0,10,0,22,1,0,1,1,19,34,7,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,11,0,1,2,2,0,5,2,5,0,2,6,1,36,4,28,26,7,38,0,3,0,0,41,14,0,0,19,121,41,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267300231590626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175818584489432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989362176970259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035645387669114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648505002264376,0.0,0.0,0.07940851123067517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562683439830194,0.0,0.06832752659273726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631595294516737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579189386833761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607337503897474,0.09800069558271496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491957723922358,0.0,0.0,0.1061622581198418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687873926771796,0.1261575539855339,0.0,0.0,0.09143771906912307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905809564517915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143629933831182,0.0,0.0,0.2433514014667393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513969453791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663355754588797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703632727989702,0.0,0.0,0.3505253797248761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357613562735482,0.0,0.0,0.11744388282216695,0.0,0.4338532579299254,0.10383714926185696,0.0,0.1983990118703723,0.0709127420460764,0.0,0.09643849719124488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505274006840715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742196503586518
parenting,barkatthemoon777,2020/02/24,"A letter to the seven month old son I'm fighting to see. To my son,

I think often of the legacy I leave for you. I wonder how memory will colout me in your eyes. If you will look at the lessons I tried to impart in these letters and find value in them or if you will throw them all aside and see them as meaningless rubbish held by a man who had no real idea about the world.

Though I can not know what you will do with the lessons that I offer, I want to impart a few gifts of wisdom that I have accumulated in my years. My hope is that you will take them into your life to make it bigger than mine ever was.

•Always Protect Those That Are Weaker Than You.

As you are already my child, I imagine you will be even more so when you grow up. I have no doubt that you will be a man who is filled with a quiet strength that can only be born from a deep, confident concern for the world. Never lose that. I had it and I want that you should never lose it. It will make you already greater than your father and that is all we fathers ever want our sons to be.

The world will try to convince you that your strength should be used to get what you want, and it should sometimes, but never at the expense of anyone else.

Use your strength more often to help others get what they want. You are lucky to have been born and lived in the circumstances and situations to which you were born. I was not so lucky growing up. Appreciate your mother's families fortune and always lend yourself to improving the world of those who were not so fortunate.

Give often and deep from the stores of your blessings. Be a light to the world and never a shadow. Do not be afraid to throw a punch to protect the people who need it. It is not ideal but occasionally necessary that we must defend, but we never attack.

•Never Be Afraid To Make Some Mistakes.

You are going to make mistakes, my son. Some big and some little. Some that will fill you up with regret and sadness, and linger like the smell of smoke soaked into your clothes and some that you will shake off like a cold, dry snow that does not stick but leaves you chilled. Never be afraid to move in the direction of failures. It is the direction of life changers and market makers.

If your mistakes be small; laugh them off. You should always be comfortable laughing at yourself and never try to take this living too serious. If your mistakes be large; laugh them off and learn from them. Big or small a mistake is nothing for regretting.

Regrets are born in chances not taken, mistakes avoided because of comfort too-long-held. Be happy with your mistakes and learn the lessons they teach because most of your mistakes will end up being the regrets of people who never had the courage to make them.

•Be A Renaissance Man.

Learn how to dance. How to tie a tie. How to fix a sink and how to mend a broken heart. Never be afraid to cry and never be scared of the tears of another. Read poetry and memorise the poems that strike your soul. Read everything, in fact, and keep a book with you always. Keep your body fit and your mind sharp. Come to love and spend as much time as possible in the outdoors. Camping. Hiking. Running. Living. But come back to the world in a suit and a tie, with the manners of a prince and the wit of a bard. Live dangerous and free and full of passion. Travel often, everywhere, and live among the natives. Learn new languages and new customs and make friends with the world. Do not fall for the hatred they will try to instill in you. The world is full of differences and wonder, as a Stephen you must carry that name with that belief. Always 

Be vulnerable. Love and respect your mother, and all women and people in fact, to the amount which is proper – fully and eternally. Expose your heart and soul to the world but never expect anyone to understand. Be the life of the party but never be out of control. Know how to carry on a conversation and how to make the world laugh, but recognize the need for sincerity and give your shoulder often for others to cry upon.

Learn to appreciate the arts. Support lost causes. Be a philosopher of life and never think that you know enough about anything to be certain. Wear the cool, quiet confidence of a wolf and keep a close pack of loyal friends. Work with your hands and your heart and your mind and your soul and be the little bit of the everything that a man should be in this world.

•Chase The Butterflies, Splash In The Puddles And Catch The Snowflakes On Your Tongue.

There will come a time when the world will tell you that the childish things you so much enjoy now are no longer befitting a man of your age. When they tell you that I want you to look them straight in the eyes, smile your charming smile and tell them that all the fun in all the world was invented from the pursuit of childish things and they can go fuck themselves.

Never give up the sillies, my boy. Never stop laughing your laugh. When your child is born, carry on our traditions, be the one that cares and also has fun. Teach them of Tybalt and Mercutio with sword fights in the rain as I planned to you. Then teach them the difference between a toot and a fart and the other important nuances of bodily emanations.

Do not ever let life convince you of its seriousness and always find a way to laugh and make others laugh. No one leaves this experiment alive so find a reason to smile more than you scowl and laugh more than you cry. The world will do it’s best to fit you in a mold but I want you to wiggle and jiggle and burst your way out; run naked and free catching snowflakes on your tongue, showing the world how fast you can run.

Don’t let the world steal your wonder. And never let them ransack all the beautiful, brilliant things in your head. Chase those flying things – your dreams and ideas and passions. Those colorful things that come into your life that beg you to be pursued and appreciated. Ignore all the snares of a traditional life and find a life that fits you.

•Rebel As Often As Is Necessary And As Far As Is Required.

My single greatest want for you is that you cultivate a mind of rebellion. Intellectually, politically, socially and personally. Never be complacent with the status quo. Average will suck you into a hole and eat away your soul. Don’t let yourself fall into that trap. You are better than average. Everyone is better than average.

I want you to interrogate the universe and never be satisfied that you have found the truth. Never accept a rule simply because it exists. Never accept a reason simply because it was said. Never stop searching just because you finally find a belief you think you can trust. You will come to hold so many beliefs in your life and the truth you hold now will be a lie to you someday. So always be asking if it should be this way now.

But rebel with respect and rebel with reason. Raging against every inconsequential slight is not a way to rebellion. You must choose the battles that matter – the ones that mean the most for your heart and soul – and move unwaveringly in the direction of your conscience. You should never seek to harm in your rebellion, only to remedy injustice by the least aggressive means. In that you will become the type of revolutionary the world can come to appreciate. And if they can’t appreciate that sort of rebellion – fuck ‘em! They are the ones you are rebelling against.

•Interrogate The Universe.

Grow up to be a thinker, my son. Come to reason well. Never let your sense of wonder be taken from you by the jaded misers of age and experience. Every moment of life is a wondrous explosion of improbability and uncertainty and to be here to experience it is a never ending gift of fortune and fate.

Celebrate your luck in being involved in the beautiful randomness of the world and seek to know the patterns of living by always asking why. Be a great conquistador of intellectual pursuit, not for the sake of knowing but for the sake of living. The currency of living is philosophy. It, above all things, will make your life worth anything. Find it early, explore it often and embrace it fully. The ideas you find there will change your life and the life of those around you.

Never lose your sense of discovery and wonder. Never cease to be awed by the everything in the world and never stop asking what it all means and how you fit in. Be bold in your inquiry but gentle with the answers. Do not lose yourself in your search. As David Hume once said,

“Be a philosopher but above all be first a human”

And as we are mere mortal philosophers we must be satisfied with the nothing that we will ever truly know but we must constantly search for the something that we can know right now.

•Fall In Love As Often As You Can.

If there is anything that you should look forward to in life it is love. You will develop an immunity to cooties someday and you will find yourself pulled inexplicably towards someone that makes your heart thump-thump and your mind race. Jump into that deep, deep water as often as you can stand. Despite the risk of drowning, it will always make a beautiful splash.

Yes, sometimes you do risk drowning, but to swim in the waters of love at all you must accept the occasional uncertainty of the depths. You can not stay in the shallow waters of your heart and expect to find happiness. You must always go deeper. Deeper is where the beautiful fish swim.

And when your heart breaks, I want you to pick up the pieces and take the time to repair it. Not the way that it is but with gold at the seams. Kintsugi your heart and let the gold at the broken pieces be a part of your history with love.

Because people you love will come and go, but you must never stop loving. Not ever. Giving our heart to another is the greatest gift that we have, but never believe that when someone trashes our gift that they are saying the quality of your love is lacking. Not everyone will appreciate your special kind of heart and your perfect kind of soul, but if you keep loving you will find the person who can.

•Always Remember That You Are Loved Beyond Words.

I have said a lot in this letter to you but I will never be able to say enough that will express the love I have for you. It is a never-ending, always growing, from-here-to-eternity, expanse of love that my heart holds for you.

If you remember nothing else of the wisdom and advice I have tried to give you remember this above all things; you are so deeply loved in this world. Not just by me and your mother and your family (including mine you have not yet met) and friends but by the universe itself. It conspires to make you amazing and it desires to see you in joy.

But when I have to leave you I want you to remember – my love for you will always be there because it has no way to escape. It is too much for the universe to remove. I will never be gone from you and you will never be gone from me. Always remember that.

This is not the only advice I want to give you, my son, but it is the general advice that will serve you well. You can take it or not.

My secret wish is that you should throw all my advice away, crumple it up and leave it sitting on your bedroom floor and go live – go live a life that is true for you.

And in many years – as you go out and live your life, as you go out and become your own man, you find a partner, you have children, you become a success – that you come home one day and find that old ball of advice still there.

And you carefully uncrumple it and read through it with a smile, realising that the wisdom stuck with you still and you became every inch the man I tried to help you be. And even better, you became so much more.

And you erase my name from the letter and sign it with your own.

And you go back to your home and slide it under your son’s door. Because you will want the same that for him that I always wanted for you. To be a light in this world that outshines all others.

Love eternally,

Your Father, Your Friend, and Your Biggest Fan.",4.8097404479578385,6.132890221739133,4.981146245059289,84.17781949934125,69.6086956521739,7.680105401844532,26.15678524374177,8.021203637495839,1.4706753623188409,9410,281,1820,121,165,2950,646,2300,0.086,0.7090000000000001,0.205,0.9999,0,1,2,0,3,0,225.0,13,172,21,23,69,137,13,11,168,2,193,59,18,31,66,470,322,193,3,61,57,13,2,2,5,53,17,7,4,16,131,162,4,18,64,12,7,49,60,47,2,7,22,23,254,92,296,194,51,270,10,11,9,20,296,126,3,41,89,1368,385,17,0.019954483549954192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749645190250696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044040537594082704,0.015957593285542027,0.2490559325086567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04184803173119782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02790527772596021,0.0204457265086961,0.04926251918827458,0.017763720955645906,0.055964245385794496,0.02270110576085061,0.03749578831322573,0.030687532266306567,0.0,0.09731254368985524,0.06611447801031962,0.0,0.022481869726996652,0.02094099939187476,0.05294435734808692,0.021785127870621614,0.0221649328076927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0406898517515853,0.02049875132127269,0.0211091977257551,0.1547011861880529,0.0,0.021563707757346874,0.02238065006544966,0.0,0.0,0.06575718956778805,0.012868991096484171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04169637642875098,0.0,0.0,0.017462303025456587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020418418313882605,0.03333882100516647,0.0,0.053021248862261255,0.04123663135356933,0.0,0.02635949637905652,0.09024986393338318,0.050437539061964666,0.03813472832517468,0.05380140942651564,0.05855794163113943,0.037622622374679116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02185916136152454,0.21885643750449815,0.01697327351383839,0.0,0.021879061256004827,0.06166713796583188,0.03689519699933698,0.02085078812782962,0.11485295336015207,0.10206533567423548,0.0,0.0,0.021999888559339795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042483837582080235,0.0,0.0,0.02047905699089653,0.0,0.0,0.26010774992166885,0.026750139402146964,0.0,0.040031947979488364,0.0198193046227571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757854917943812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709458473293438,0.0,0.0415590478772353,0.07676523612958577,0.0,0.0,0.1056445843971483,0.0,0.12242886832471005,0.22551106968832085,0.01949750544522161,0.03999926949595492,0.1938219201346501,0.017659090010731873,0.050270221550575325,0.08929585173273187,0.02178267598795752,0.016964588335086534,0.28815520766218483,0.0,0.15983727262438294,0.04046142867923157,0.0,0.06520884732961747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080593360006482,0.0,0.015927478392695666,0.04241691613807086,0.0586753656060821,0.029591993419896108,0.5232643475329041,0.038544329113606265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574405954247354,0.0,0.04187774756048696,0.02125087373680941,0.0676083723977114,0.04552885176961989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02160876113437388,0.0,0.055335705558981485,0.03484697071101858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022495681986325917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987965054978454,0.022712570872257896,0.0,0.08206613001558033,0.0,0.0,0.11302269984003302,0.01704101992221511,0.05694385016028095,0.03173721246649565,0.01997791912130486,0.0,0.0477034196208572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022429675570235192,0.0,0.020341083051810028,0.03381473831425905,0.015361936324616098,0.03947098893145577,0.0,0.0,0.02126882443573239,0.03187135267850125,0.06673136700155274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022644111461159508,0.0,0.0,0.060013153053787724,0.0,0.052323294456374486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279810541836356,0.038358081996237546,0.01960517877338321,0.0,0.03490685948305263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812867069023058,0.0,0.0,0.0207733211081616,0.0,0.03446853388333192,0.0,0.0,0.1647753996084632,0.09503364142318477,0.0,0.0,0.03588295429708749,0.0,0.018005817682462844,0.0,0.022946671298655085,0.0,0.10819893104323043,0.014527101681118709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02570006634545712
parenting,jennajoy1226,2020/02/24,"Why do people expect me to regret having kids so young, and vice versa? I always hear people saying stuff like ""if you could go back would you do things differently?"" Which, no I would not, I love my kids, I started when I was 19 and I'm done now at 26. I will still have all the time I want to travel and explore. I also dont see what's wrong with waiting either. How old were you when you had yours and what are some pros and cons?",1.3681521739130458,2.9088932065217428,2.8754347826086963,94.92989130434783,78.89130434782608,5.034782608695653,15.847826086956525,5.148860815047168,-0.9148086956521744,333,4,77,1,8,109,69,92,0.099,0.831,0.07,-0.5505,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,5,0,0,8,4,0,0,1,0,14,1,0,1,1,20,22,11,0,7,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,2,5,6,0,1,1,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,4,3,15,2,4,14,3,13,0,1,1,1,10,1,0,2,10,58,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612134334751425,0.18325263556225774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934663360730345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758392210426546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23009803853093416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22537622070155536,0.2581130373560557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516426580335904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482201372282866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759538702020707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987701143192867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310989202677416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053655593215384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751392078268158,0.0,0.0,0.1754982762868046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588301817173092,0.0,0.17587944960114246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521156590691043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631392711504626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842043020293134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989993545651876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987272605311338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128963503039661,0.2407917068331707,0.0,0.0
parenting,jungkookslesbian,2020/02/24,"Would it make me a bad parent if I didn't let my kids play with dolls because I'm so afraid of them? Do not have kids yet but it's something I've been pondering about for a while now. Pretty seriously afraid of dolls in the daytime, can't imagine I'd ever be able to walk into my child's dark room and see their favourite doll staring back at me and just like..not freak out and turn on the lights. I know dolls are important to teach like empathy and nurturing but I'm wondering if I can't just get by on teddy bears and lots of books about mommies and daddies because seriously...I'll shit myself. Will my (future) child resent me forever? Did anyone else have to learn to deal with this?",4.6754609929078015,5.1211320070922,5.249078014184399,85.33333333333334,69.35460992907801,8.536170212765958,27.723404255319142,8.515128840125781,1.7158851063829788,547,17,116,8,9,176,96,141,0.10300000000000001,0.787,0.109,0.22399999999999998,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,2,0,9,10,2,2,4,0,13,1,1,1,1,26,21,12,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,10,0,0,5,2,0,1,4,7,0,0,3,3,12,3,19,14,1,14,0,0,2,0,8,7,1,4,7,71,15,3,0.2291184780135213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020496709701368,0.23475895669391614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617796695277366,0.19130435885607014,0.2793369951924304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23621109027333165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19139908853933968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072507806436476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970494824562095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591752355038066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342891670206433,0.0,0.22387143027210926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947883366527864,0.0,0.0,0.15293836320816473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544089554902093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23309586171945185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257776290742844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23518682515987935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763865980908711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492151110515139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484692158657428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627591930505261,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Instaplot,2020/02/24,"Four-year-old seems to be incredibly anxious about germs after having a cold. How can we help her get back to ""normal""? My 4yo step-daughter has become incredibly anxious about germs in the last couple of weeks.  It started when I had a cold about a month ago.  She caught it and started showing symptoms just after she went to her mom's for the week.  She has a newborn sister at her mom's house, so I'm sure there was a conversation about not passing germs on to the baby.  This week when she was with us, her mom called to let her know the baby had caught the cold and had to go to the hospital.  The baby is/was fine as far as we know, they were home the same day they went in.  Today when it was time to go back to her mom's, she had a total melt-down about getting germs from the baby.

She's also had significant anxiety about the coronavirus, and was hesitant to go into public in case she ""caught germs"" from someone she didn't know.

We're worried it's going to turn into a more significant issue as she gets older if not handled properly now.  We just have no idea how to approach it.  The co-parenting piece is an added complication; we'll do what we can during the time she's with us and mention it to her mom in case she has similar concerns during her time.",5.894053156146178,5.201483875968993,6.59869324473976,80.57651162790702,66.8294573643411,9.386932447397564,29.66888150609081,8.634040054169528,2.015520708748616,992,29,207,13,14,328,130,258,0.043,0.9059999999999999,0.051,0.2687,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,2,0,19,2,0,0,20,0,23,1,0,2,2,28,43,15,0,2,5,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,8,12,0,0,5,1,0,11,4,0,0,0,16,3,30,2,38,24,4,42,0,0,0,0,40,9,0,2,22,143,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109080165564523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217737109155564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861134470073866,0.23217976845533256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803264827016206,0.0,0.0,0.11349067278420293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492975087589132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137023123092929,0.0,0.06627188937493866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106403918858778,0.0,0.2336041759125025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688780599011992,0.0,0.1030769548315545,0.0,0.0,0.11857158401068585,0.0,0.11600386546132395,0.0,0.10725505041700432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694231127859022,0.08376335597111151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050793642521928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6017580799379783,0.082022287384349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068327139881024,0.0,0.0,0.10782964386223023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354911350994807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706846480829843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546853195292575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685036228038524,0.10680729311736123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17976106384279045,0.0,0.0974047445771747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177369301511636,0.0,0.0,0.24721596560872106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24728433165245986,0.0,0.0,0.1905196466628708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435806806493107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617426109806049
parenting,soonbetime,2020/02/24,"Why do you parents talk so loud at the playground? So, how loud do you speak to your kids when they are right next to you (and being quiet)?

When I'm at the playground with my child, I often hear parents speaking loudly to their young children who are right next to them. Not ""Time to go home!"" from across the playground but (loudly) ""Can you push your hand into this mitten?!"" or ""Want to climb these stairs with me, sweetie?!"" It feels very performative.

Is there a benefit to speaking loudly? I know there are benefits to speaking in a higher pitch and more slowly but I never heard that about decibels.

Do you find yourself speaking to your children louder that you would to an adult?

Do you speak louder to them when there are other adults around? Do you ever feel like you're performing for other adults? Or performing for your child?

Or are you aware of your decibels at all? 

I am a mother of one ten month old and I speak quietly to my son in public, about the same pitch as I would speak to my husband when we're out in public. My son pays attention just fine. Am I just overly private? Too quiet? Can you help me figure this out? 

Thank you!

P.S. I'm really not judging other parents for this and I hope it doesn't sound that way. There could be some real benefits to talking louder. I just don't know what they are! :)",2.372583902583905,4.725746212355215,3.0108301158301174,91.21901915651917,79.15444015444015,5.3745767745767745,20.772349272349274,6.490185161304077,0.2769012771012771,1035,28,205,9,26,323,133,259,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.9904,3,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,16,5,4,21,7,0,0,8,0,23,1,1,1,3,40,35,17,0,5,10,7,3,1,0,2,0,19,1,8,14,10,0,0,7,0,1,3,5,0,0,2,1,22,36,7,37,29,4,31,0,0,0,0,52,15,0,6,13,153,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835787182843398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240912286564683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058742690010476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717131698479064,0.11103297856289948,0.0,0.0,0.14205221513312724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832948323659796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751710546901445,0.0,0.10417559384197207,0.0,0.15590019516232584,0.15436837898833167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083091877969195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593097657016415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405576621638675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119870456442418,0.0,0.33058454455869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308846676618746,0.0,0.10531746750681227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5177307461274658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17690341891118827,0.0995668383747268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26545781214540565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498434416400962,0.0,0.1430910138838846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906273860517632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823881579685614,0.09167148544911452,0.12336616121747165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024351211644895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208136064361042,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lil_memer_boi,2020/02/24,"Is my mom being mean? IDK why but my mom will say things like ""how embarrassed you must be"" or ""how embarrassing"" when I don't want to something. Is she being manipulateive or a whole?£",1.1408333333333367,3.77258475,2.6235555555555585,89.07700000000004,90.38888888888887,6.213333333333335,21.088888888888885,7.554174236665415,1.0177288888888896,145,5,30,3,5,47,30,36,0.24100000000000002,0.68,0.079,-0.6868,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,8,0,0,2,1,8,10,6,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739020028090855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286281962241133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7066699502420225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399155171381656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23225523674800494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004290297066624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794422264420745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722277556886261,0.33682543740513404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fml12345613,2020/02/25,"I envy those who enjoy parenthood. My husband and I have a 3 year old. By all accounts we have an easy kid. She sleeps through the night, been out of diapers since before 2, gets herself dressed independently, plays well by herself and with others, has been completely healthy other than the odd cold or sniffles.

I recognize how fortunate we are to have such a healthy, mostly well behaved kid (although we’ve worked really hard with the behaviour part). I just hate parenting. I feel like I made a mistake jumping into parenthood. I would be much more suited to being “the fun aunt”. 

I will say that she is so loved, I do love her, my husband loves her, she is well taken care of, and we interact with her a lot. 

I still hate being a mom. It is getting better as she gets older, I’m hoping it continues to get better. I hate this crushing responsibility of being completely responsible for another human being. It’s awful. I don’t want to do it.

I will, I will raise her the best I can, and she will hopefully not know how much I hate being a parent, though i sincerely hope that I do enjoy it more as she grows up. I will say it sucks a lot less now than it did 3 years ago, I’m hoping that trend will continue and we can move into enjoyment.

I just envy those who savour parenthood, who seem meant to be a mom/dad, those who genuinely enjoy parenthood (most of the time)

I’m so thankful my husband is okay with ditching the original plan of 2-3 kids and sticking with 1.",4.128159057437408,5.320761707903782,5.507069219440356,80.26072164948455,71.09621993127149,8.841826215022092,28.63377515954836,9.23628265651192,2.425969268532155,1151,43,225,24,21,387,155,291,0.099,0.625,0.276,0.9954,6,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,4,0,0,5,13,30,5,0,16,2,32,4,1,5,1,43,60,15,0,7,4,7,2,1,0,7,0,2,0,4,20,18,0,0,4,1,1,3,2,6,3,0,6,6,39,24,27,40,12,19,0,0,0,3,37,4,1,10,13,168,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901546091009973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066456886635289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654275672348777,0.0,0.10673225043385334,0.17989814468065327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369417824804598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21326977182182752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142468357837896,0.07265747846236567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21254492190723395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110695844773152,0.40164724296825394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040607508430015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055893951340367815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049687519565619655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293049455798504,0.2753759492248073,0.09623494355651334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23822938643251235,0.0,0.10809543592358198,0.14952853249678644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544247272403167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672141659976984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258608869961464,0.11013570373600168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515429477269573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617584741614936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258765547060607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413073935556785,0.0,0.1017776182646138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122108052463198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363553418083607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992382939723056,0.0,0.05930451866988565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998775378126879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27433278560448765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404184612644714,0.0,0.0,0.07224772343083567,0.0,0.0,0.13098830032029354
parenting,Tsunaami,2020/02/25,"Not Happy Have a 4 month old who just started sleep regression. 

I just feel like I don’t want to be a dad anymore. 

Between the lack of sleep and little to no free time i already have, now I get to look forward to even less sleep and 0 free time. 

These past 4 months, my entire life is work and baby and I’m officially burnt out. Now I have to deal with an even worse baby, as well as getting to deal with things like teething and finding a daycare in the near future. 

I want to be able to relax after a long day of work.
I want to be able to just turn my brain off.
I want to be able to enjoy a nice hot home made meal. 
I want my old life back......

I wish I could just vent all this frustration out to my wife, but I know saying all this stuff on my mind would only upset her. And she wants a 2nd kid?!?! 

Just...... fuck",2.468617424242421,2.8615846875000024,3.7402272727272745,94.36992424242426,74.2840909090909,6.548484848484849,21.484848484848484,5.985473137389443,-0.05125606060606058,619,12,153,3,12,203,103,176,0.102,0.762,0.136,-0.6033,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,11,12,2,1,9,0,11,9,5,1,2,34,28,9,0,10,7,2,2,2,0,1,2,1,1,1,6,10,1,0,3,1,2,1,3,3,1,0,1,4,19,11,27,21,4,23,0,0,1,1,9,8,1,0,18,96,25,2,0.3472488608268068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773258427077064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479252046260867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890043131942754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921485692534676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924166531577448,0.0,0.0,0.07464892935059544,0.2386655519107508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290306506273424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585264858982933,0.08269155185275796,0.0,0.0,0.10579305595072183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700865878026196,0.1209487984092104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232176231388218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116106306783597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361296418938603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351475984721706,0.11309883545500585,0.11601152803247802,0.0,0.1024347715157774,0.09720052874470994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952508941350836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168741199707298,0.0,0.18478048517638693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429195105946515,0.0,0.0,0.08803280209724734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104961098955978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204874389273322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474996398012005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819281769910973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250562236154173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689890443189969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498906883298498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590234851967033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096327500468082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407280959832717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331063508989931,0.0,0.0,0.16853420426392487,0.0,0.11795875182755028,0.08222520922494103,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slow_Sugar,2020/02/25,"My son said the n word at school. What should I do? For context, he is 11 years old, half Guatmalan half Chinese. We never use racial slurs at home, so my guess he learned it either from other kids at school or online games. This is definitely something I never expected, but here we are...",3.009999999999998,5.076878571428575,3.5280000000000022,89.71700000000001,75.78571428571428,5.908571428571428,23.7,6.742157984588678,0.682282857142857,224,7,45,2,5,70,46,56,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.2144,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,13,8,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,6,0,5,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,4,30,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121411727975461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842224269013045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4370728594451988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973274008774308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695300479832099,0.0,0.0,0.5735291895900464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813611600029345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24472279882732936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246764389215014
parenting,easilva662,2020/02/25,"Ok, redditors, help a mom out. My 20 year old son is involved with an 18 year old girl that is all drama. She claimed to be stalked by gangbangers who physically hurt her father to get to her (verified lies). Now she claims to being abused by her parents and police and shelters won’t help her. They just return her to her parents. Let’s just say she is being abused by parents, what can be done for her? Where does she get help? I’m not believing her, but to humor my son, I figured I would explore options...",3.1847058823529397,4.6486362450980385,4.074656862745098,88.55845588235296,73.80392156862746,6.668627450980392,27.45588235294117,7.1686216300943375,1.2941529411764705,395,15,82,4,8,127,67,102,0.062,0.841,0.09699999999999999,0.3939,3,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,12,0,0,0,1,13,15,3,0,1,4,7,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,17,2,12,7,1,9,0,1,0,0,27,2,0,1,6,55,20,0,0.0,0.396639561734334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885817023767256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146476733116395,0.17128945185045244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489991574503325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365769988347965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791854242894382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711589878799499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960352627630539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512775860086085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.557572249921347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331085365296957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890305943266627,0.0,0.0,0.2155764765775354
parenting,draftywindows404,2020/02/25,"Do the punishments fit the ""crime"" and how can I stop repetive disobedience in regards to technology My Bf's son (11) got caught last night streaming YT at 2 a.m.. he's grounded and room bound today, with no device for 3 days (1st time being caught)  Is the room punishment and device being taken away enough? 

Now his sister (12) we've been having a bit of trouble with on YT. She watches these videos made with the app Gacha Life. I've determined that the app itself is family friendly, as its just virtual paper anime dolls with dress up, and cute background scenes. 

Now with the YT videos these are individual RP (roleplay) creators, and content can get very dicey (one creator had a scene insinuating rape.) Just a couple weeks ago after numerous talks about not watching this content, she went ahead & watched it still violating my trust. This warranted me to take away ALL electronics for 3 days, and no tablet for 1 week. I felt that was fair. We also switched her google account to mines so that I could actively check her history.
 
After taking away her brothers tablet, i went through his watch history and noticed some very questionable Gacha Life vids from over this weekend when they were at their grandmothers. I know that her mother & g-ma let her use the phone and such, (his Google acct is linked through his mothers) and i knew straight away that this was another violation of trust. I gave her the opportunity to tell me if she was indeed watching Gacha Life on other peoples devices, and she denied until I showed her the history. For this I will be taking away her tablet for 2 weeks, and I also plan on texting her mother to let her know also. 

Was this the right choice, am I being extra?? As a kid i did the same shit, not with YT but with video games and stuff. It's so disheartening to see her watch this crap...theres nothing good in it, just a bunch of stupid shit that's going to make her stupid. Moving forward how can I make a positive effect, and have her stop with these videos. I've tried YT kids but that's geared towards younger children. Any advice appreciated.",5.690662916080633,6.9019199265822815,5.5302390998593545,81.47048288795125,67.45569620253164,8.383497421472105,29.06000937646507,8.626192665926032,2.084491795593061,1661,57,312,25,27,516,224,395,0.114,0.8170000000000001,0.069,-0.9612,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,1,0,2,4,16,17,9,0,17,0,27,6,2,7,1,50,48,27,0,2,8,6,1,0,2,1,3,0,2,3,24,22,0,3,7,7,2,7,4,11,0,1,18,8,42,6,48,22,7,49,0,1,7,1,42,22,2,3,22,200,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931246356199992,0.09008959213498388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438223962179166,0.0,0.22023390753755184,0.0,0.0691124444013706,0.10656877879519874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774275163250762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095453606907034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114394202849096,0.11245257209912732,0.0,0.13108694566929388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050118073223871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580849458574313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758152748638747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851972139366414,0.0,0.05309791012330197,0.0,0.057759138536690326,0.0852431121107155,0.08128345294317071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111707284392422,0.08284268486100467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20784880350642465,0.21535456663634786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616554162446672,0.13567872645279913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801748053834176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537364229963947,0.0,0.09751751523229754,0.115707365074327,0.0,0.0,0.06886767558421462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045801584014612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384978055904987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867921671537662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098660738301446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864515774068407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811625061679274,0.1699358367525819,0.0,0.0,0.11634297685506485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292411913302828,0.08168700545615025,0.08882981846591806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926174992058651,0.0,0.09633413639439764,0.0,0.0,0.0690006572870186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777639976957816,0.0,0.16771214448411415,0.0,0.0,0.2445663467114909,0.0,0.0,0.1884255813934377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,celerymanly,2020/02/25,"What to do with life when you have nothing? SAHM with 2 under 2. No love live, no social life, no money, no time, no happiness. Don’t even have the money nor time for therapy.

I pee with the door open and sometimes with the babies on my laps. 

Only thing keeping me alive is the guilt of leaving my babies without a mom. I love them more than anything in this world. But im scared cause idk how long I can keep up with this.

I have no one to talk to. What can I do? Anything to help me would be appreciated.",0.6285591766723826,2.6512913584905675,2.417238421955404,94.8956003430532,83.52830188679245,4.986620926243568,19.070325900514586,6.1124844417494595,-0.2381396226415093,388,10,89,3,11,128,70,106,0.16,0.669,0.171,0.7476,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,1,0,3,5,0,2,5,0,11,5,1,2,0,14,15,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,5,7,0,2,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,1,0,0,11,3,17,13,1,10,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,4,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025788032653884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886024543894414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142839526594375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570723765533649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322794237160845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858497653896054,0.0,0.0,0.32682112996778007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19466612210506032,0.0,0.0,0.259711404508436,0.0,0.0,0.16233918054267107,0.1626977185773365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318559652162471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21531794043738994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640497186149404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457864973959365,0.13982299027226575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406168500095532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18740760729518804,0.0,0.0,0.18182816456670306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477682636254184,0.0,0.0,0.21024365697402275,0.0,0.12213895854924298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21440389046626573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722075891410127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059875814123878,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iguessthisistheplace,2020/02/25,"Need advice on what to do about son going to his dad's for the summer. I have had very little contact with my sons dad throughout his life. I've always talked very positively about him, and he has a close relationship with his paternal grandma. 

My son is 11. My son's father lived across the country and doesn't have a close relationship with him. They rarely have contact, he's been to his house for short visits about 3 times. 

He mentioned wanting him for the summer and at first I was all for it. But then after thinking about it I realized my son wouldn't be able to play baseball this year. He looks forward to it every winter and loves it. This would be his 3rd summer doing it. 

I casually asked him if he'd rather play baseball or have a visit to his dad's and he said baseball.",3.7250421940928256,5.136536588607598,4.481708860759493,86.38222573839663,72.35443037974684,6.785654008438819,24.55907172995781,7.1686216300943375,0.9311502109704636,623,18,126,6,12,200,89,158,0.0,0.9079999999999999,0.092,0.9168,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,6,0,17,2,0,0,1,21,25,9,0,6,4,9,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,8,10,0,0,2,3,0,4,2,0,0,1,4,2,20,4,21,16,1,20,0,0,1,1,37,8,0,2,10,83,28,0,0.2138613659514109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089828516692836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794978854840207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19993150800226106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801874245791438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191036862714066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154234270729918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467673027313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510566074034613,0.0,0.21434527208004744,0.18884350425695184,0.0,0.17958968503782322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930182324763449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857549302544274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592141432997357,0.0,0.0,0.203431132779816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17189366502718176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370337279581864,0.0,0.0,0.12470428231381506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35291604856806635,0.12614097459507118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192097838953314,0.0,0.0,0.13771970795240054
parenting,xxxtubsxxx,2020/02/25,"Concerned about my 5f child's behaviour I will try to keep this a short as possible.

So my daughter has always been 'scatty/ditzy/clumsy' shall we say and all seemed normal and typical till now. 

She has had bladder incontinence issues and never fully gone a day without wetting. She is under hospital care for this issue and whilst it has improved, she has hit a wall for progress and its clear its now related to concentration based issues. She can't seem to focus of one thing and another and often just misses the urge to go as she is absorbed in her mind elsewhere.

She has always made noises under her breath at night. Months of one type of sound, really quiet. It then moved on to funny breathing patterns out of her nose. And then turned into changing her breathing pattern and holding her breath physically. This seemed like typical kid stuff for a long time and I only noticed it at night so wasn't that concerned at first.

She is the only kid at school who needs her name calling more than once, on a lot of the pick ups. Never thought much of it as I would describe her as 'away with the fairies' often and have to call her a lot at home to get responses. I did think it could be hearing related last year when I noticed it was quite bad and checked her ears to find a build up of wax. Sorted that but the concentration was still very bad so didn't seem like hearing afterall.

Ive always had a hard time in the morning getting her ready for school but it's built up into something I'm now realising isn't quite right. I have to call her name many times to get a response, then I give her an instruction like put on your t-shirt, then I can go off and do something else to see she has lost focus and her top still isn't on. I can ask her to do each thing up to 3/4 times easily before she does it. Then it's rinse and repeat with her dress. Or brushing her hair. Or teeth. Putting on shoes. Every step of the way is like battling with a dementia patient who can't focus or remember what they are supposed to be doing. Some days aren't that bad and she does things first time and I do keep instructions simple which helps like 'tshirt' 'teeth' etc.

I noticed when she is reading she can't focus at all, even when she really really wants to. She can be desperate to read a school book but you can see her looking everywhere but the words and constantly trails off or stares elsewhere. I offer to put her book away for a bit but she's adamant she wants to read. She can do this with homework or similar tasks that she actually wants to willingly do. Although she does have moments where she is super focused and does really well on some occasions - like she is switched on that day.

She started switching some of her letters and numbers round a few months ago and I put it down to copying her friends or typical kid stuff. But there has been a few times when every single bdgp letter is the wrong way, and every number as well.

She had a parents evening recently and was ready to bring this up and see if it was just at home or also at school. Turns out this was becoming a concern for the teacher. She noted she struggles to concentrate on things she wants to do and isn't 'typical' work avoidance like with a lot of children who just don't want to do something. She didn't mention other things I'd noticed but she was talking about trying to find ways that work best for her learning and keeping an eye on it. I didn't get any indication of what 'issue' is effecting my daughter (like adhd/dyslexia etc) and it seems very early days in terms of needing further support or diagnosis etc if any is needed.

Since then things are snowballing into weird territory, like her body and mind is glitching.

She started repeating words in the middle of a sentence, eg 'mommy, I really like that. That. Perfu-ume' and trails off a bit or loses focus on a simple sentence or conversation.

Last week after a few days at her grandparents she came back walking funny. She goes all the time and has never done anything like this after any other visit and I don't think she's copying anything she's seen. Best way I can describe the walk is she has started stomping quite a bit, occasional tiptoe with just one foot, then double stomps every few steps or so with the same foot. It just seemed like she did this every now and then throughout the day but it's built up and today she seems to be a bit wobbly when walking, seems like she's always about to trip up, her legs don't rest or be still at any one moment. She's always been a 'fidget' to be honest but this is consuming her every step now.

I can remind her not to do some of these habits she has like the walk or muttering or breathing thing but she completely forgets and gets reabsorbed into doing it again moments later.

And the last concern happened just before bed tonight. She started twitching her arm in a way that is not a fidget or tap etc. Like a tourette style arm twitch. She did this several times over the space of an hour or so and I've not noticed her do it before. Obviously I'll keep an eye on it but with how everything else has been going lately, I doubt it'll stop overnight.

Firstly I am going to talk to teacher tomorrow and see her take on my daughter over the last couple days and if she's noticed these physical issues. Then I will be seeing if she reckons it's time to get further support and help or whether a doctor would be a better place to start. In the UK I know teachers are a better person to turn to in terms of disorders and learning issues as they have access to the right people. Doctors usually turn you back to the school when it comes to this sort of thing.

There is something telling me it could be more though and will be visiting a doctor when I can get an appointment for extra advice and support. And to rule out any infections/hearing issues etc that may or may not be part of it.

And she is intelligent and social and a well rounded girl. Very well behaved and observant. But it's like she has a mind fog on, particularly these last couple months. There are many moments she is 'normal' and somewhat focused for a 5/6 year old. She remembers stuff from when she was young and recalls conversations you don't think she was listening to etc. She can 'hear a pin drop' sometimes. There are a lot of normal moments in her life and when I talked about these concerns with my mom, she was baffled and had no idea this was going on. And my mom has a vast wealth of experience with disabilities and learning difficulties so I guess she must just seem like a normal kid on the outside to everyone else.

I just want to see if people have any thoughts or ideas on what could be going on from their experiences. One minute I'm seeing signs of tourettes, the next signs of dyslexia, another moment it's adhd and she's very much all over the place with what she is presenting to me. Some of it could just be kid stuff but there's only so many times people can brush it off as that till it all starts adding up to a major concern.",4.789335440627617,5.8166345738060805,5.1707385177850576,83.90140368649556,69.39797395079594,7.902883692588925,28.367918348693728,8.102454094307827,1.7812273806078145,5559,191,1089,72,95,1767,475,1382,0.038,0.848,0.114,0.9987,2,1,4,0,0,0,97.0,1,4,3,18,57,45,1,3,69,0,129,26,20,4,11,223,212,130,0,25,52,6,5,17,1,11,6,8,4,9,79,76,0,7,26,5,2,25,24,12,4,8,33,28,128,33,168,150,45,209,0,3,14,0,139,75,0,51,120,780,207,22,0.0,0.0,0.03008199746154005,0.0,0.07409438371389708,0.03012307896500265,0.02732563265951825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02465176082061189,0.12824965037638336,0.0,0.0,0.12577754365344945,0.06464807384115659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507347951837003,0.0,0.02881840569710901,0.0,0.0579245998276825,0.04740700505816304,0.07721595553179565,0.0,0.03404519861957457,0.07869266817802398,0.0,0.06470054714589009,0.05452666998051483,0.13461723258721808,0.034241042016983234,0.0,0.0,0.0944312194658902,0.035257046158288716,0.0314294416224735,0.0,0.0326101113205959,0.02655410619558983,0.032320762633743526,0.03331225182442242,0.0,0.09844908828507196,0.06821737348293512,0.0,0.13916277936496813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035329581584401214,0.09465599543778656,0.107905123249538,0.031545981774767085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725419116351162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062766697607612,0.04072092755221607,0.0,0.1558347962737401,0.02945582660271717,0.02770466810087913,0.06030802370622719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056349313404925785,0.07866244079269842,0.0,0.0,0.02381630344286792,0.0,0.11273819392926562,0.02957137170908905,0.10511569416491556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033958617077534066,0.0,0.02725957300061173,0.0,0.027614287323676774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389738083416122,0.0,0.04132440441737665,0.0,0.061842534091130275,0.0,0.03035767119814917,0.0,0.0,0.0695982241250561,0.0,0.22522235381755204,0.0,0.10959923769727938,0.0,0.0,0.016941314453538938,0.12563764145186918,0.03477338067281276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02177350953273777,0.2560227331268124,0.0,0.0,0.027280283152011173,0.025886307036595186,0.034486716445871576,0.033650520406139986,0.10482958590894817,0.0,0.029168566564232012,0.0,0.09375901281721223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337724989563384,0.07220672095715673,0.0738157153374637,0.0327634516268522,0.045321717789787684,0.06857187649844479,0.07132537051676825,0.0,0.032784092966632816,0.05785674134200487,0.12081281706590248,0.0,0.21057550905221867,0.03234698986539629,0.03282897660159624,0.10444340797489056,0.07033431321242241,0.0,0.0,0.03422893012211722,0.03338185161022701,0.0,0.06411317266976642,0.026916314130815976,0.06441379225644643,0.0,0.0,0.03475199310449259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395568179432286,0.0,0.09836261319401188,0.09250385048430378,0.0,0.09874050494490796,0.0,0.03043722745584187,0.0,0.06984032025131702,0.052650940495186316,0.0,0.02451429099730993,0.0,0.1559891791710947,0.1719518494723724,0.2525677454189135,0.0,0.03482491617411971,0.0,0.025499813064781968,0.0,0.0,0.03142350511463048,0.0,0.0949262895073322,0.030487974003349724,0.0,0.13091397579391142,0.0,0.07385370862644093,0.02577214604230456,0.0,0.03222631552315303,0.1411548380990749,0.0,0.10494387400665346,0.0,0.0,0.023177522272627867,0.07433097601795102,0.02694352289856554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383685781217802,0.05925669654492315,0.03028665847779588,0.04894523772633447,0.17975048734418067,0.0,0.029219704089025612,0.0,0.0,0.041858034199229184,0.13412053998053905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03395078658928317,0.1017396203958022,0.1090928133509113,0.12234231045765588,0.02472697823260705,0.0,0.11086609252915323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029715428869353838,0.0,0.0448837903876284,0.0,0.0,0.043796202338270605,0.03370369230449093,0.0,0.039702220584609066
parenting,throwaway_dpnthehole,2020/02/25,"Potty Training Regression First timer in the parenting arena & potty training has been a bit of a roller coaster.

We waited to potty train even though my 3 1/2 yo LG was probably ready in half the time last year. Pee wasn’t a big issue other than leaking because she wants to keep doing whatever it is she is doing (playing usually). Poop wasn’t a big issue either outside of large deposits despite fiber in her diet. All said it was pretty successful.

Now....she will often refuse to let dad take her if mom is home (she’s on the “big girl potty”, without a stool until recently). This has only gotten better because we are currently trying to get her to go on her own now that she can wield a fold out stool. We felt forced to supply the stool to promote her doing it herself, & this is only because she wasn’t just refusing dads aid, but anyone else other than mom. So In an effort for her to go potty so mom & dad can have the grands sit for her, we started having her try with the stool, on her own (opposes to one of us going in with her to lift her into the toilet). We were using a kids low potty, but it’s just easier forego it when trying to avoid the messy clean up.

It sounds like a comfortability thing, mom is stay at home & main center of focus most of the day. But dad is no schlep of a parent when he’s home from a ten hour work day. To add insult to injury, she’s now pooping in small spaces or under things again (tent, boxes, tables, cabinets). She’s had an accident or two, but she’s intentionally going in her underwear. I say intentional because she’s not telling me she has to go or her stomach feels bad at the least.

So here we are, almost four & she’s leaking & or pooping in her underwear! Her younger counter parts & family are doing better with training. I know, I know, every child is different, but we were doing so well, ahead of the curve & all of sudden just went south. This is really starting to frustrate me, any tips, tricks, hacks, help you all can offer is much appreciated.",5.177816377171219,5.518405769230771,6.186130024813899,79.42257965260549,68.23076923076923,8.63162282878412,27.28625310173697,8.488131031819089,1.8338123870967744,1587,45,307,22,25,529,215,403,0.094,0.8220000000000001,0.084,-0.6679,4,1,0,0,0,0,69.0,8,1,0,8,17,14,3,1,23,0,36,6,5,3,3,49,56,18,0,2,16,10,2,1,0,1,0,3,4,3,14,13,1,6,4,2,1,6,6,6,1,6,13,5,42,8,51,41,12,53,0,1,0,0,58,25,0,8,21,212,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462824943069853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6460017287936677,0.0,0.05068106798771322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211116788594826,0.07636194823846236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222711906070605,0.18172441612767454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318265465275821,0.08136442625881446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612778803169343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778650868001555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06225793255243538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049224528588732885,0.0,0.06279240057797282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025763406227035,0.0,0.03768320376202527,0.0,0.07155782249809171,0.0,0.0,0.06339281868754923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03893739855786645,0.0,0.21177769448360712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995402730075619,0.0,0.2242706468411128,0.0,0.07339430330335504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557411821298214,0.0,0.06624322103683834,0.0,0.0,0.08191642654304497,0.060749634600422486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762091359444454,0.0,0.03641023714549583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491415361790587,0.0,0.0,0.05478608487424982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050501575782351316,0.1133626244000874,0.0,0.0,0.16550732516565236,0.08070572099937512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758209798590481,0.08035295261974659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04774404809216613,0.0,0.07358664269818761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089245661497473,0.059267039852285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055015055157043,0.07943610465314381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056035197442985296,0.0,0.06514007872246717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902515212751864,0.0,0.0732226192139535,0.0,0.04345742366387117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517972790624204,0.0,0.07280226864797752,0.0,0.08964707421285717,0.06436759288390129,0.08208120814198837,0.0,0.043958087666604015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700892476263616,0.0690874833319875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184158445459397,0.0,0.054256706708692634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799308880420903
parenting,WhitePoverty,2020/02/25,"Volunteer during school trip putting phone# in daughters bag My daughter (6y.o.) had a field trip at from her school and one of her in class friends dad was a volunteer to watch over the kids. During this time, he went into my daughters bag and put his phone number into it to try and give to my wife.

My wife is mad at me for wanting to contact the school for going into my daughters personal belongings and using it as a way to try and get my wife to contact him but I feel like it was a violation of his position and invasion of my daughters belongings on top of it.

My wife showed it to me but is worried it will destroy the kids friendship. Looking for opinions.",6.767207792207793,6.060488924242427,6.961255411255414,78.74045454545458,65.06060606060606,9.967099567099568,36.28138528138528,9.23628265651192,3.1589748917748923,526,23,103,8,7,170,72,132,0.09699999999999999,0.8170000000000001,0.087,-0.5346,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,0,15,14,9,0,1,2,10,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,7,9,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,3,0,1,4,3,16,2,25,9,0,18,0,0,2,0,25,10,0,1,2,70,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298935351430738,0.1455127424053785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736667466276982,0.0,0.10641710642036098,0.1953933968904656,0.11575898897214668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951029664564012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104426249105192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380223580278364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785005381317784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095197539014073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6184208679172136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877047389080365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27657775127255385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591860873213724,0.0,0.0,0.12013880399073272,0.16167582524690194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888182143223767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068522003614807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maggiemac1,2020/02/25,"Looking for new shows/videos for my daughter to watch. Any suggestions? Hello Parents!

My daughter is just over a year old. She's incredibly curious about everything and loves watching tv/music. She currently loves watching Doc McStuffins and Sheriff Callie. These particular shows are ideal to put on for her because she likes to play and run around while they are on and watch and dance to the music when it plays; I feel it is a very good balance of stimuli for her. The problem is, I feel like it's the only thing she watches and I don't want her to get bored with it. I've tried putting on only music for her but then all she does is dance and dance and she gets tired and cranky too quick for this Mama to keep up. 

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I've looked at Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Vampirina, etc, but they don't seem to have as many songs. Does anyone know of any TV shows similar to these? Short, animated, with a song every 5-10 minutes or so? I just don't have the time to sit and audit every show on Disney+, Netflix, Hulu, etc to find the perfect thing to fit her needs so I'm hoping this can help! Thanks!",3.3791335372069327,5.167726403669724,4.0186544342507675,87.8220387359837,73.95412844036696,6.4958205912334375,25.41386340468909,7.1686216300943375,1.0641979612640164,868,29,174,9,18,275,129,218,0.036000000000000004,0.794,0.17,0.9826,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,2,2,9,13,0,0,8,0,12,3,0,0,2,31,28,19,0,5,5,3,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,10,13,0,1,5,12,1,6,3,2,0,0,0,11,19,11,31,28,3,26,0,0,7,2,21,10,0,3,11,105,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001775009374674,0.1682400156113036,0.18831057448871588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968121268109411,0.0,0.0,0.12325579574449387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440190429670179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423287396045311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088315851778265,0.0,0.0,0.2333114414485165,0.0,0.12443593223135753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001571061451706,0.0989134766659442,0.0,0.0,0.12654689308327013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467579675522088,0.0,0.0,0.11613089040485823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280459106851237,0.0,0.0,0.13751871966914872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230666549139632,0.0,0.0,0.07609216791822149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352858758975034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23253747248635384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24992511075666585,0.0,0.0,0.14037333735623406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026638705297794,0.0,0.1337223200082198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528699005245024,0.0,0.0,0.21060508167965494,0.0,0.0,0.1537397529368884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324843395029007,0.0,0.2783744018027168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604575733645804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274723045900455,0.0,0.0,0.18396892593587705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073520094255954,0.15913558072575826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400299415223544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424125767107053,0.08166533451830914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682400156113036,0.08916155956302635
parenting,gallonss,2020/02/25,"School bus stop and unattended children. I have a kindergartner and her bus stop is a bit down the road from our apartment. There is no sidewalk to or from the bus stop and it’s on a busy, definitively dangerous street leading toward the interstate highway. There are all sorts of illicit activities on the street and a sketchy motel at the end of this street. 

I always get to the bus stop early but yesterday, I decided to leave just a bit earlier because I was frustrated and needed to get out of the house. I usually leave around 3:35PM, stand there for 10-15 minutes and then the bus comes. 

However, yesterday, I left at 3:20. And the bus came rolling up around 3:23! There were no parents outside and there are quite a bit of kindergartners on that bus.   I rounded them up and I stood with all of them until their parents came and all of the parents were visibly shaken up. 

I called the transportation department for the school district concerning this because had I not left when I did out of pure chance, all of those (5) kindergartners would have been out there alone! The apartment complex directly adjacent to this bus stop has a convicted, registered in Texas DPS, sex offender! The transportation lady seemed less than concerned and told me that per their policy, kinder kids are able to get off the bus without a release and that the normally scheduled bus time is 3:22PM. 

This bus has never been there at 3:22PM. I know because I have the same exact routine, every single da, Monday through Friday. I told her that I would like to prevent another situation like this from happening because it’s incredibly concerning and absolutely unacceptable. 

Any suggestions as to what can/what I can do to remedy this situation since the lady on the phone didn’t seem to care?

Inb4 ur crazy. I’m helicopter af concerning this because my oldest daughter, a 2nd grader, was just kidnapped in August 2019, thankfully she was incredibly smart and quick thinking and jumped out of the car, But I don’t feel like my concern is unfounded considering the placement and surroundings of the bus stop.",6.713244939271256,8.185407186842106,6.474736842105262,74.6735425101215,65.28947368421052,10.582995951417004,34.615384615384606,10.64471489884176,3.9930344129554665,1681,76,286,45,26,527,196,380,0.105,0.8190000000000001,0.076,-0.6784,4,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,1,0,4,2,13,9,3,0,31,0,27,1,0,1,7,62,46,23,0,4,7,4,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,15,26,0,7,8,1,0,9,7,3,0,0,15,2,28,6,52,29,10,61,0,0,1,1,20,30,0,4,24,195,43,3,0.092801762695933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611463860572164,0.0,0.0,0.07721850075722532,0.0,0.0,0.06310838094127544,0.09731073972143496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522648783124316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828554659231049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039464682544428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476097557163808,0.21228098770495213,0.09461758198176924,0.0,0.0,0.07994050133290577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821948167261032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818948757852873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692335960004102,0.0662975978126435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545527227136354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820642922694857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708077434794147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05100142180192193,0.0,0.0,0.19652733435653624,0.20165877340684832,0.0,0.0,0.13601476096540754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688113311521689,0.07157444043830125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092602376212608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30913612537696683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870609782188708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187840676595875,0.0,0.16896647873584852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676657708903058,0.20862613902332847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4655185740099645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543939478038115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059463622364611377,0.0,0.0,0.054113454120005115,0.0,0.0,0.17735212237626966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022080306752914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945758760025486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184741921308585,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,knotpolkadottie,2020/02/25,"Potty training anxiety in 4 yo My 4 YO has been potty trained since about 2.5 but she has this completely irrational fear of all bugs. About a month ago, she saw a tiny gnat in the bathroom at preschool (a very clean and new facility with amazing staff) and refused to go until she couldn't hold it any longer. Her teachers tried to placate her fear by spraying Lysol disguised as bug spray to scare away any other critters. She didn't have a full on accident, but was close. She's historically inclined to wait to use the toilet until it's a last minute emergency. Since then, she's had to drag me or my hubby to the bathroom with her. She won't go alone and we are peppered with questions about bugs, of they hibernate, which ones will bite/sting, etc. We've tried positive reinforcement to get her to go alone but she digs her heels in and ramps up the anxiety level to tears. Yesterday I said enough was enough. She is capable of using the toilet alone. She protested until the inevitable pants peeing occurred.  Is this anxiety about a long gone bug (that said, she does have a ""my life is in immediate peril"" response to flies, spiders, stink bugs...) or is it some kind of regression? Anyone have tips? I'm not above bribery.",4.599182033096927,6.2780214595744726,4.766347517730498,84.14361111111111,70.57446808510639,7.945626477541372,28.80023640661939,8.515128840125781,2.0653356973995267,973,37,187,16,18,304,143,235,0.18600000000000005,0.725,0.08900000000000001,-0.9745,0,3,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,1,0,4,7,1,3,13,0,18,3,2,2,1,24,30,14,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,8,9,0,3,1,0,0,4,4,5,0,1,9,4,23,2,35,18,6,26,0,0,1,0,22,11,0,4,11,115,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092659688227565,0.0,0.0,0.42386466890063385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185538251547435,0.0,0.3130788911136135,0.0,0.0,0.09538685114131457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816948870329992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303199792803356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938057851502272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819131531404125,0.1521424712661324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30701704063578666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127293420477633,0.0,0.2325890004572984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420586726414385,0.0,0.11119912655195534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635628359589407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207259075997456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088877900030495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317536496001631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244057439080944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281972303938915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595300961580682,0.0,0.13657852224594233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256932641582717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852381495047124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23564323156906364,0.0,0.11255938897972273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RoyalAssignment2,2020/02/25,"Got a cuddle from my 12yo last night We used to be very close and he always wanted to play with me. He loved wrestling and being physical. Last year he started drifting away from me. I understood he is growing up and doesn't want to be dad's boy anymore. 

Last night, I was watching Beavis and Butt-Head on YouTube. It's still funny. He wanted to know why I was laughing. He was in tears watching the one episode where Beavis got bit by a dog and Butt-Head put Gatorade on his leg. Anyways he allowed me to cuddle with him. Made me sad thinking this might be the last time I will ever get to cuddle with my son though.",2.962380952380953,4.437093492063493,3.4652698412698406,92.66028571428578,74.39682539682539,5.674920634920635,25.29841269841269,5.6839178017228535,0.5127517460317459,484,16,103,2,10,151,81,126,0.049,0.84,0.111,0.835,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,11,5,1,3,1,21,24,6,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,10,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,7,2,13,3,17,11,1,21,0,1,2,4,14,7,0,1,11,58,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321286003632685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877240721200447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041564610234284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478358138297292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481617488116774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364365463638761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560871058707815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286097695154607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798468239513671,0.5219990696864787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449306738196413,0.1514868915345146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983676406890472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004788692963845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084853256710175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609408957559944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331691147599415,0.0,0.1278530288587492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258317793833588,0.15729369962920398,0.0,0.09335337929486967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382717107039225,0.0,0.13209612825610045,0.28328665289211946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444619154388244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309670120634536
parenting,fuckyourmermaid_,2020/02/25,"Our 9yr old son barged into our bedroom while my husband and I were having sex. I’m not sure if he saw anything and I don’t know if I should talk to him about it. Advice? Sorry for the details. Just think they may help because it’s not like we were under the covers being quiet. 

He barged in at midnight while my husband was doing me doggy style. It was dark but we have a dim light in our room at night. The door was cracked a bit and there was no indication that he had started crying until he was barging in. I think there is a small chance he was standing at the crack before he came in crying because when my son cries it’s very loud and can be heard anywhere from our home. So was he looking, became traumatized then barged in crying? Ugh idk.

I gave him medicine for his headache and he went to sleep. He woke up fine and didn’t act any differently. 

What do I even say to him? He is a very naive 9 yr old. He does know about sex and the scientific and physical things that need to take place. 

Also yes I will be locking my door from now on. Lesson learned.",1.8395454545454548,3.692517500000005,2.9136363636363636,93.76545454545456,78.54545454545455,5.3090909090909095,21.454545454545453,5.985473137389443,0.03988181818181813,830,23,183,5,20,265,135,220,0.152,0.804,0.043,-0.976,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,6,0,1,1,10,4,0,0,9,1,25,3,1,0,1,28,40,18,0,4,6,4,0,1,0,3,0,4,5,0,8,12,0,0,6,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,17,7,23,3,23,17,1,29,0,0,2,2,31,15,0,3,11,113,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137195496330746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227638997793228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547559059752504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553575606519828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117087942963646,0.0,0.11946852755676075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327847180671852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057813852502426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.616883321325984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668623697856364,0.0,0.0,0.12286341112449245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273168710717387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410595412908122,0.0,0.1408308421732239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543183582029501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859146883220628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178991279803076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041034864714503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131754200055679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29464858718755904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668623697856364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116502839726224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404995941041877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716429055740042,0.09937456872931227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232364214695527,0.0,0.10556197378111612,0.11284675513393545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327432568781588,0.179922995318559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23168643771310016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015053817763478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pookie9292,2020/02/25,"4.5 month hit head! Question. My baby was laying on her play mat near the leg of our coffee table. She started to thrash her head in one direction and bumped her head on the edge. She initially screamed bloody murder for a few minutes, there was an initial small dented line where she made impact. She calmed down and is now all smiles, the dent went away and it is just a red spot now. 

We put some frozen corn on it and she is totally alert and seemingly okay. At what point should I think to take her to a doctor or has anyone else experienced anything like this? Help!",2.5429626623376613,4.8652050982142905,2.8148376623376627,93.016525974026,78.375,5.858441558441559,20.003246753246753,6.980632752743323,0.2498107142857137,449,11,93,5,11,137,86,112,0.078,0.774,0.14800000000000002,0.7784,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,7,1,7,5,4,1,2,16,14,6,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,6,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,2,0,1,4,3,13,4,13,8,4,17,0,0,1,0,13,11,0,4,5,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477181467379496,0.21214373553676552,0.17038173132997075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19452712028306374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211920994589702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729608880227227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6374687123694928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877898876537853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011525229254748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959125232942304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652626411915681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403001518963968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957259845492036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081390453616029,0.2319396054869521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848747179335365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654866724301938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556732951596899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266711749023813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919342962166542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mudblo0d,2020/02/25,"Is it common not to like other kids? I had zero experience with kids before my son was born. Never even changed a diaper. But I took to motherhood seamlessly and I adore my son and I’m expecting my second this summer. I cannot wait!

However, I cannot stand other kids. I go on play dates with other mom friends who have kids around his age and I just don’t like their kids. I dislike the way they smell, eat, and if they’re nose is runny I want to vomit. If friends ask me to hold their infant I will... but again, gross. I don’t like them. They aren’t cute to me. 

A strangers child ran up and grabbed my legs and put her head on my thighs the other day at the park and I was just like ‘ew’ and wanted her to stop instantly. I didn’t think it was cute. Her mother quickly grabbed her thank god. I dislike when other kids are poorly behaved in public and effects our good time. I don’t see a kid who is learning, I just see wtf is wrong with you child. 

What’s wrong with me 😩 anyone else like this?",0.06242857142856905,2.264353719047623,1.7336190476190474,97.59471428571429,88.0,4.693333333333333,16.97142857142857,6.152001189255117,-0.4855200000000002,771,18,178,7,25,250,118,210,0.168,0.71,0.121,-0.9083,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,5,1,8,16,0,0,6,0,18,6,4,1,1,32,30,14,0,5,8,4,2,5,2,1,1,0,0,10,12,14,1,3,3,1,1,4,9,3,0,2,7,6,36,13,16,22,0,24,0,0,2,0,32,6,0,2,17,112,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837883332127483,0.17346835063058108,0.0,0.1507133226069109,0.15827309661719616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406224045968874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909746132347518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918480489491338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323665881415282,0.1414288283978229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182137153167164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656083574360499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616022645732717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962173653498136,0.1420012117442119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375113753818114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135583185995896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982826781359639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305749686237298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019374533660786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26982112920757984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154278357582278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586913742337485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848091269683882,0.0,0.0,0.09872047242803443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809906467534215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997156212041096,0.1343828421804616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702069992720018,0.0,0.0
parenting,dj_soo,2020/02/25,"Lice :( While family has it.  

We used the Zap treatment last night and plan to comb daily for the foreseeable future.  Will reapply treatment in 9 days.  Wife is using hair straightener and blow drying as well as daily combing.

Any other tips on preventing a re-infestation?",3.765000000000001,6.9601155000000015,4.492500000000003,77.1025,81.5,7.366666666666666,24.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.391766666666668,216,8,33,5,6,69,43,48,0.081,0.8759999999999999,0.043,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,2,0,6,5,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,6,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,19,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551341992554709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419590509774927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35368483577352583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058204965727792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35207954325680985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6480674113820029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33733046759058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allgoaton,2020/02/25,"Potty trained 3 year old looooves the texture of a diaper and need one (in her hands, not on her) to sleep. Any ideas? I have an almost 4 year old who is totally potty trained, no issues. To sleep, she likes to hold onto a diaper in her hands. She has no interest in the diaper otherwise, and definitely doesn’t want to wear it or pee in it, etc. Although we try to keep the same one going for a while, she does kind of pick them apart. We are trying to come up with ideas to transition her away from the diaper. We are trying to have a doll/stuffy wear the diaper to start but it’s not perfect. I’m wondering if anyone can think of something perhaps with a texture similar to a diaper, that isn’t a diaper?",2.9939435736677105,4.216976131034482,4.931598746081509,83.18373040752353,73.89655172413794,9.134796238244514,24.21630094043887,9.573946990214177,2.0124482758620688,549,16,116,14,11,189,85,145,0.057,0.893,0.05,-0.4443,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,13,0,9,7,7,1,2,26,18,7,0,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,2,4,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,2,12,4,25,18,3,17,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,4,7,80,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172127355343441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689404836980848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019252200731102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161500394523086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807175671660594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504258987347745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917076316819624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769151695309526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880955824551418,0.0,0.1794130354937218,0.0,0.15278759093887612,0.0,0.17900150737222653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397889371774125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127457477946985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607483963936967,0.0,0.23296011219356655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440369679070436,0.0,0.0,0.13233266394289553,0.0,0.0,0.12166770135773546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014295479075917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501149282298012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138773766941968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18641208345305604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213886434064808
parenting,freda42,2020/02/25,"2 year old suddenly wants pacifier after seeing baby brother with one Our now 2 year old (26 months) daughter never took a pacifier. I wasn’t a big fan of them either so I never tried to get her to take one, even though it might have been easier sometimes. Instead she mostly comfort nursed.

Now we had our second, a boy, in November (3 months old now) and sometimes he takes a pacifier. We try to only give it to him when we can’t comfort him otherwise (car rides, stroller walks to his sisters daycare etc.). He sometimes takes it, sometimes not, but this isn’t the issue. 

The issue is our oldest is suddenly OBSESSED with his pacifiers. We told her it’s only for babies, bad for her teeth, she is a big girl and doesn’t need one... 
If she finds one when we are not looking she will put it in her mouth and even if she only touches it, it is all she talks about. She will not shut up about pacifiers. If her baby brother makes any sound she says he needs a pacifier. If she sees him lying in his bed she asks where his pacifier it. She will repeat what we told her about only using it during car rides. She still wants to have it or „only look at it“, but then when we are not looking she sometimes takes it anyway. 

Honestly at this point she spends about 2 hours a day talking about pacifiers. We tried giving her one for her frog (basically her doll), but we caught her with it in her mouth so now we took it away for 2 days. Cue another pacifier meltdown along with incessant questions where it is and the frog need the pacifier and so on. She will repeat our explanation that it’s gone because she took it in her mouth so I know she understands, but she is still constantly asking.

I must admit I’m loosing my patience. I feel like if I hear the word pacifier one more time I’ll snap (at her). 

What can I do to stop this obsession?",3.731446160056517,4.949087610354227,4.62991220102937,86.07830053486731,72.07901907356948,7.725865374911697,26.39913210212938,8.167268648758528,1.5552564133615905,1431,47,293,21,27,464,169,367,0.052000000000000005,0.895,0.053,-0.5146,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,14,0,1,0,25,7,0,2,12,0,24,4,4,2,4,56,58,24,0,11,15,4,2,1,0,6,0,3,1,2,23,20,0,1,6,0,1,11,10,3,0,7,10,10,61,4,34,42,5,59,0,0,5,0,74,17,0,9,32,208,84,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05556664776337681,0.08568167202271018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527785153335929,0.0,0.07677067961339025,0.0,0.06822572103283693,0.049810595069838766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088301143887786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053943642056757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112996420076193,0.1079394002538189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413158087068657,0.058374738985004435,0.0,0.0,0.07468286528889691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04269090602060153,0.15677030553239998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920948417993885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046940527150459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057123243603506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04490652427505498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03992012999677266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585133671624112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054543086032395716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668302891866346,0.0,0.0,0.13044273991738262,0.0,0.0,0.18176420991466996,0.12604195073224134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572275409205817,0.0,0.3322191166540193,0.2485812264689755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724381479547611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214266444309105,0.09153562298452016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498029457959204,0.0,0.0,0.13022703291662513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040740015874835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050987939696376,0.0683145044643954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24574762942410755,0.13135327793258966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028117109055434,0.0,0.04764665484199326,0.0,0.0,0.1561577522221616,0.2723535754112549,0.1664303115937774,0.0,0.0,0.08506459264056758,0.0,0.07057253335749145,0.0,0.0,0.09639116422384754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523910274765604
parenting,awkwarddadnotes,2020/02/25,"Last night my 3yo soon asked what it meant that his grandma's dog passed away I told him I didn't know

Like, how do you even answer that question without completely changing his worldview on mortality and the finite limit of his and our existence

He has no grasp of time, so trying to explain that death and growing old are not something that he has to worry about for a long time, it just doesn't seem like something he would understand",8.755352941176469,7.225528741176473,7.690441176470588,77.77448529411767,61.58823529411765,10.382352941176473,36.54411764705883,8.841846274778883,2.9947058823529416,353,13,67,4,4,108,67,85,0.15,0.83,0.019,-0.889,0,0,2,0,0,0,3.0,1,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,17,14,5,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,8,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,3,0,9,2,9,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,2,9,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209910797077244,0.0,0.21095891021877355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375292558522985,0.0,0.23542166481729102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830387305339154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123399082442487,0.18302676239104015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21939384052142907,0.0,0.0,0.1987072442909649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21071177252200507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356127017247183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515316442195833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20440909001046687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457174783278912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618574286864533,0.0,0.0,0.2145537163204598,0.0,0.15244516673120762,0.0,0.0,0.23374983590125825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644463698017646,0.0,0.0,0.2280271498899292,0.0,0.15950389203357088,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,buttnakedbandit,2020/02/25,"Feeling helpless Quick back story. My fiancées dad passed away, we chose to take her little sister in versus her going to a terrible home. Her background has laid some horrible habits in her. She lies constantly, steals from us, from roommates. Smokes weed and steals vape pens. We have tried what we feel is everything. Cops came and scared her. We have tried not being hard on her and instead talking through what she was feeling at that time. Nothing is getting through to her. We are at the point we have started exploring reform schools or military school. I'm 28m, fiancée is 27f and we have a 5 year old. We feel so lost. Any help, words or wisdom anything, please and thank you!",2.780572916666668,5.629430703125003,2.580187500000001,91.76272916666667,81.8125,5.288333333333334,25.72083333333333,6.742157984588678,1.1077889583333338,542,22,101,6,15,161,92,128,0.16899999999999998,0.727,0.10400000000000001,-0.914,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,9,1,0,1,4,8,0,1,3,0,11,0,0,0,0,25,23,8,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,14,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,3,5,20,2,13,19,1,19,0,2,0,0,23,8,0,3,7,63,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240854119046797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481275294215912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911919786295956,0.13841156766507726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058760313595656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451981798112766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177552405087225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640606785169525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094044390626807,0.0,0.10230012771121423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124776470205798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065254050993575,0.0,0.1805581702837484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041077882536952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649506550540927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271819689636175,0.0,0.18888337582274395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19758977057376825,0.17016147393603925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18021488859187004,0.3643462699467384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740739191512626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534021769191146,0.14467998142324212,0.0,0.16572302314323284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496147863103894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444210987716093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21652202710191165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591634156509975
parenting,-burnt-toast,2020/02/25,"Parents need to teach their kids about disabilities! Because we are humans too! I have a disability. Seeing people making memes or whatever on disabilities is insulting, disrespectful, and uncivil (and more). Parents are not teaching their kid(s) that there are people in the world who are different. The lack of respect to those who have disabilities is huge. They think its okay to take pictures and bully them because they are different.
I’ve been bullied, have pictures taken of me without my consent, stared at, etc. Disabled people are more likely to get depression and/or anxiety at a young age, especially to be suicidal.
Before sixth grade, I was so happy and cheerful. Until, I started middle school. I became suicidal, depressed, and anxious. Now I’m in 9th grade, people don’t bully me or whatever now, that stop because I moved to a new state. Why was it that all that bullshit stop when I moved? Because they didn’t know me. Here at my school I am not the only one, there are amputees, and many more who are different. I’ve felt accepted for once. Do you see what I mean? I moved and the crap stopped. 
Why? Why is society so cruel it makes those who have been bullied to change their life, to change themselves, to move away from their bestfriends and family? I believe its the insufficient knowledge of knowing that everyone is different. That no matter what size, shape, or language they speak, WE ARE ALL HUMAN.

After you read this, I hope you see people for who they are, not what they look like.",4.359806993006991,6.995240970909091,4.711727272727273,80.12051398601399,73.83636363636364,7.576223776223776,28.75874125874126,8.502166056373571,2.4561524475524483,1197,50,203,23,26,377,150,275,0.201,0.72,0.079,-0.9902,6,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,3,11,0,10,13,3,0,8,1,27,2,1,2,2,35,45,15,2,3,7,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,3,21,10,0,3,7,1,0,4,7,5,0,1,7,7,32,8,26,37,7,28,0,2,5,0,28,11,1,4,14,146,53,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994657693799895,0.10329412440107456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859050283217852,0.0,0.0,0.22294868831423706,0.0,0.07780339623879233,0.10301453803242812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934495910135622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750352882623114,0.0,0.0,0.3821152784526716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197281299388528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736887699097122,0.0,0.0,0.08619561252154387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779074933642325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04777036635927849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973329388415452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081435550645532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049920774724204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458236944713762,0.08933983430267722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767813311007938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206549099125802,0.0926994826083777,0.0,0.09959817050894162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887184717093672,0.0,0.06779697526555514,0.0,0.08830729618186553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737397144304727,0.06195788281177812,0.06953949544155408,0.0,0.0,0.20305274237973298,0.0,0.0,0.31694328663931226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145850432422092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507169519615194,0.21858260876357055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471728667813689,0.0,0.0,0.2293281551116693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002738857741933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874680923759657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058587062147348073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475142432074077,0.0,0.0,0.08813888283077556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chickencox,2020/02/25,"Where are the most outdoorsy public schools? My husband and I live in Philly with our 2 sons, 5 and 2. The 5-year-old is halfway through kindergarten. He is clever and doing well academically, but they get almost no free time, play time, or outdoor time. It's just work work work. He hates it sometimes. Also the class sizes are big-- 30 kids! As you can imagine they have to run the class like a military drill to keep it organized.

Anyway. It's not my intention to rag on Philly schools or the teachers. They're doing their best in a bad situation. The problem is that it's hard to find public schools that fit our criteria for play, outdoor time, etc... letting kids be kids, less rigor. I can't use the ""Great Schools"" rating that comes with Trulia/Zillow/etc..  because it doesn't mean anything to me.

We like the Waldorf model-- but can't really afford it. Are there any public school systems that are like Waldorf? I know there are some public charter Waldorf schools out there, but it wouldn't work because we'd have to move, then enter the lottery to see if we get in. We would need a school we can dependably get into. Waldorf is only an example-- I think you get the gist of what we're looking for. Maybe ""progressive"" is the word?

My biggest issue with the school system in the US is this lack of transparency. It's so hard to find out what the schools are like from the publicly available information.

Thanks!",3.8944773017902814,5.930098687500003,3.9890856777493617,87.52637468030693,73.15441176470588,6.495140664961637,28.002557544757032,7.255503002510835,1.4693437979539636,1121,44,215,12,23,345,149,272,0.087,0.775,0.138,0.9452,2,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,8,2,3,6,9,15,1,0,19,0,26,0,0,3,0,42,41,13,0,6,8,2,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,3,16,14,0,1,7,2,1,4,6,3,1,0,0,4,21,13,26,36,6,23,0,0,2,0,26,12,0,7,9,134,37,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308793393773316,0.0,0.0,0.06635544261107128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05642615579194705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682817307594038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928104031775098,0.10116213630409973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707762245231493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147600865397402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850791352108825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167612808767358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340500541085316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148073375650333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865942202552865,0.08192108486431203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660481891984505,0.0,0.07375239825828461,0.0,0.0,0.04560114091476945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484802606396252,0.0,0.16215046723889576,0.0,0.07326884829929453,0.0,0.06967848558481703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335999874657307,0.09038459725283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818977881484405,0.0,0.06152524964087711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706878365700982,0.0,0.0,0.06310657371046385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939630582170877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05315620216290425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7557803267345585,0.06612069598806722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326788967821063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206484818786633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639265227123447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05316732214412688,0.0,0.0,0.1935346239008792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980925771045812,0.07166415326725471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460490037471232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162848235517675,0.0,0.0,0.05894338363874828,0.0,0.0,0.05343347354991757
parenting,chadowikku,2020/02/25,"[Looking for Advice] My 7 month old son won't stop scratching his head! So my wife and I are at a complete loss. Our 7mo son is constantly itching, scratching and grabbing at his head despite no visible signs of anything. No excema, no dry skin, nothing. At first we thought it may have been dry and we have tried so many creams and oils but nothing works.

Its at the point where it's affecting his quality of life. He wakes up all hour of the night to scratch. Stop eating to scratch, is generally miserable if he's itchy.

If he's not itching he's the happiest baby ever so it makes us so sad that he's like this and we can't seem to figure out why!

Desperately looking for other parents who may have gone through this or are going through something similar.

We've even tried altering to soy based diet, etc, etc. But he keeps itching his head!",2.020685296074518,4.4943431676646695,3.1492914171656707,89.00847471723223,81.39520958083833,6.345841650033268,27.241849634065204,7.594959193182576,1.6764839654025288,667,30,133,11,18,214,106,167,0.126,0.799,0.07400000000000001,-0.8855,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,0,3,7,4,0,1,4,0,12,11,8,2,2,29,20,14,0,2,6,4,6,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,9,9,2,3,3,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,3,10,12,1,17,14,3,19,0,3,3,0,20,8,0,6,10,79,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434496745655561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080255585273153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391530483679047,0.15863689395134936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021138744611764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274379884608992,0.09695894321028062,0.13278753593797846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486662408530587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342890035249717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4519724569604637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445668306019484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048114203874814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368803468762514,0.07171827170064637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24654732834036625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798905624253554,0.1488305128861818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717306360885987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776033197962012,0.0,0.2817140029112583,0.0,0.1540402020244158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16300222472110235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877191525038188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363972863240578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301256217336815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454600319522316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165415134278562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993329231321096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658037215945593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246270179241332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687096647481367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kim_yoseob,2020/02/25,"How can I wean out night feedings? Hello everyone! 
First time mom here and I can’t seem to get my
4 month old to sleep through the night yet.  
Around 2-3 months, she was sleeping her nights no problem but now she’s gone back to waking up once or twice a night howling for a feeding.  
I’m feeding her 8 ounces before bed so I know she goes to sleep with a full belly but she still can’t seem to make it through the night. 
I suspect it might be the 4 month sleep regression but I’m just wondering if there are any more experienced moms out there who can give me some pointers on getting her back on track to sleeping full nights.  
Any and all help is appreciated! Thank you 😊",1.8412617598229133,3.8093149856115134,2.6720863309352545,94.94921416712783,79.0,5.715771997786387,22.92252351964581,6.67199483983844,0.3720344216934146,529,17,120,5,13,166,94,139,0.047,0.865,0.08800000000000001,0.8217,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,12,2,0,0,6,0,9,9,6,2,1,23,21,9,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,6,3,0,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,2,1,14,1,16,17,5,26,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,7,17,74,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440617479316346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429340559268663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289559680939542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901321730241895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121340607947707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009755150242248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068017938210878,0.10161043156205628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099756156397685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821218879486404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070403405360065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236694280360708,0.0,0.2481101029169568,0.2536387816327184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5964060626983149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114775575142327,0.11280391430755175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135344536108176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19285557564208805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5299945510590837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458977689430283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751912797237043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176421159021973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486833997256392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,citykidonafarm,2020/02/25,How do you handle it when your kid/s don’t like your partner? My LO has expressed that she doesn’t like my partner on the sheer fact that she feels I don’t spend enough time with her anymore and that he makes sure what I says goes.  She has no problem with her dad being remarried as he was remarried before she could remember but it’s been her and I against the world for a long time and now that relationship with partner is progressing she’s not happy. I keep reminding her that she is my absolute number 1 and no one will ever take that from her. When she gets home from school she and I are on her schedule and no one else’s. I just don’t know how to not feel guilty about moving forward with my personal relationship when she is having issues. Gentle advice or experience much appreciated,6.243333333333332,6.0438483018867935,6.513836477987423,79.82786163522013,65.98113207547169,9.833962264150944,30.24528301886793,9.444778638647367,2.395973584905661,636,20,129,11,9,205,95,159,0.081,0.809,0.111,0.5928,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,1,9,5,0,0,3,0,17,0,0,3,3,28,24,14,0,2,5,1,2,2,3,1,0,1,1,4,9,10,0,1,4,0,1,2,9,1,0,2,2,3,28,4,13,19,2,14,0,0,0,0,29,4,0,1,12,95,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17784870489853968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049551254944016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548689532117229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531252657044336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203799786842873,0.0,0.0,0.1880550865570073,0.0,0.0,0.16462980041439745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780313347716577,0.0,0.0,0.18404976260401848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508770812389407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937428323198958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825612615584487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899611542137758,0.0,0.16177033649991818,0.0,0.0,0.1000226715981238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783242489954268,0.0,0.0,0.16106464526708822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214866941995112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19343764449216566,0.1337912505898803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24665639080394006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589157474363598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741498230965727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908006805562908,0.20617099800499916,0.0,0.0,0.14473403965254714,0.0,0.18419414247791194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715332428009144,0.0,0.13684166627631325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21225181805741128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,penguin97219,2020/02/25,"Video game: addiction vs healthy use My 9 year old daughter plays a game on the console and she is addicted. She gets upset when she has to stop, and thinks about the game constantly when not playing. We have tried to set very firm limits (1 hr per day, 5 hrs per week) but these are a constant battle. She gets more for helping out and what not, but everything is about more game time. Homework is an impossible chore because its either in the way of getting to the game or feeling like a huge drag after. Sometimes it gets to a point where she gets resistant to doing things with the family because its not her game. 

Here’s the thing. I have no problem with the actual game. I play it too (its my favorite game so I understand the draw). I am a lifelong gamer and I don’t think games harm kids. She doesn’t watch mindless tv, she reads a ton. If she took a healthy approach to it, it would be fine. 

How can I help break the addiction without denying her the thing that brings her so much enjoyment? Is this even possible? Do I need to just ride it out or just remove it entirely? I feel like the former is not going to work and is definitely not sending the right message, but the former feels like it is too far as well.",3.4449870578084583,4.932717459016395,4.1200603968938765,88.39698446937015,73.18032786885246,7.431924072476272,26.77653149266609,8.032893268588372,1.5094131147540986,956,34,200,14,19,304,148,244,0.092,0.7190000000000001,0.18899999999999997,0.9791,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,2,15,13,1,1,21,0,19,3,0,2,0,39,35,17,0,4,16,1,3,3,0,1,3,0,2,1,17,10,0,2,6,15,0,7,9,4,1,0,1,4,22,9,21,32,5,32,0,0,1,0,27,9,0,3,16,135,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.12429503070907842,0.4165572535161058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528749446860424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752840710660151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214330066557016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412687600076899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447220473926945,0.0,0.1200733747649724,0.0,0.1932067386578429,0.2729800841928419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327286003730192,0.0,0.0723874716704921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074724252134976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668007149989252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936318193576074,0.09444345693300674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336536944997085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040609478734755,0.14359086545523067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187616683038112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740475929005354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087735326432012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259724747284097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648726660729874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25385748526688395,0.16322747907473775,0.0,0.0,0.07427064101371991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151307995110027,0.08647606683809105,0.0,0.0,0.132596964969254,0.0,0.11000703633455222,0.0,0.10509382943730572,0.0,0.10110060846056228,0.1021687646471619,0.0,0.1145211882382856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278041538205366,0.0,0.09272708887936494,0.0,0.0,0.0904802003513245,0.0,0.0,0.08202229145673813
parenting,xxcatalopexx,2020/02/25,"Child (10m) being inappropriate with my son (11)? Or am I over thinking? To make a long story short, this boy (he's also autistic if that holds any relevency) at my church had an abusive father who did things to him like holding his head under water among other things.  This jerk also was taking advantage of this child's sister (he's a pedo).  The sister is from the mothers previous husband.  Alot of the abuse was because the boy figured out what the father was doing.

We have a real small church, and I am close to this kids family.  They've known me since I was just a child.  Which is why this is bugging me.

At church on Sunday, I went and sat with these two because they happened to be the only kids that showed up.  They play hide the Legos.  My son hid some in the sleeve of his shirt and showed the boy he had one there to help him out.  So he couldn't find the last piece and accused my son of hiding them on him.  Then proceeded to start patting him down.  I was not happy about that, and I am mad at myself for not telling him to stop.

Then it was my son's turn to find the Lego pieces.  He had put a pillow over his face, but left his mouth out so he could breathe.  The kid got angry and told him to cover his face more.  After they bickered back and forth I told my son just to move it a little more.  It wasn't that big of deal and worth more arguing.  This kid proceeded to walk over and pull the pillow down more.  Then shoved his hand down on the pillow that was now covering my son's face.  I yelled at him for that.  Told him it wasn't okay to shove a pillow on anyone's face.  All he did was do his usual temper tantrum.  

His mom was in the sanctuary.  I haven't told anyone but my mom and husband.   

This kid has done things that were also not okay like stepping between my son's legs and putting his foot right my his privates and leaning in and saying whatever it was.  I couldn't hear him.  I just saw.

I talked to my son and told him that actions like what this kid did on Sunday are not okay.  He said, ""I know."". Which pissed me off because that means he knew he was in an uncomfortable situation.

The pastor and his wife are the kids grandparents.  I've gone to the pastor's wife and all she did was talk about him being traumatized and asked him to apologise.  That was almost a year ago.  

It doesn't seem like they are doing anything to teach him what boundaries are.  It was his father who violated those, but at the same time they obviously haven't been teaching him his again.  

I am not a heartless person, I know this kids been through alot.  My son doesn't deserve to be treated this way.  I don't know what to do.  

I feel like going to the mother and grandparents will do nothing.

Any ideas? 

Right now we are probably moving on from that church.",2.426088374851723,4.14533569395018,3.274826512455516,92.43751853499408,76.40213523131672,6.0356465005931215,20.961002372479246,6.7232907121075245,0.21382550415183887,2148,52,468,19,48,681,239,562,0.102,0.841,0.057999999999999996,-0.9727,4,0,0,0,1,0,63.0,2,0,6,1,15,20,8,0,33,3,59,13,12,1,3,68,86,31,0,4,13,22,2,5,0,1,0,4,4,15,42,26,1,3,13,3,1,11,14,8,0,2,39,7,69,12,63,39,12,68,6,0,1,0,100,36,1,7,25,322,111,2,0.0,0.2197730307785712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221199082184226,0.0,0.09286975380812892,0.0,0.0,0.2225021128966013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261382477187209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969757080302965,0.0,0.0763204381754276,0.0,0.08670315283059292,0.0,0.0,0.0713144378630727,0.0,0.16960770802725847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404856498072537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561502730010342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490934744121228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087430821817196,0.0,0.04689417054235849,0.06625635685242111,0.0,0.0,0.1695327348568896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270857215271985,0.0,0.07417587680182912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201324350867346,0.09872774940455578,0.0,0.0,0.0951821361586068,0.0,0.1045292674301298,0.0,0.06216437143489292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469672622552388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290908785738333,0.075598766583881,0.0,0.0,0.10076666496291654,0.0,0.0,0.22655025312752655,0.09295388740558694,0.0,0.08207555214020579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061907363267578,0.0,0.0,0.10102544252945007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724138484081296,0.0,0.19714446271021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889904025232375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284575808233096,0.0705360175228015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098051371226618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999375550785002,0.0,0.0,0.18646674170305794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556301563281197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840579761449272,0.0882208150788797,0.07375377879028933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443068588138503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671882381505701,0.10424818071791694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564470504382502,0.0,0.0,0.0775381657321333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973197188488882,0.14908828386663234,0.08106237410292473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848450466622936,0.05942663253442858,0.0,0.0,0.05407979240551638,0.0,0.0,0.4431044976133143,0.0,0.0,0.10087887752948184,0.09059744557306644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214445133808224,0.0,0.0,0.0736158977893916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597464924087574,0.0836870658185614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597241175525299
parenting,billswinthesuperbowl,2020/02/25,"Intrusive Thoughts and Irrational Fears in our 6 YO Girl Well not sure where to start but we have a six year old girl that is energetic, artistic, loving and thoughtful. We also have an 8 month old that is her little sister. The past two weeks our 6yo has had terrible intrusive thoughts. It started with Dinosaurs and being eaten by them. We would explain they aren't real but the fear of them crippled her. And then it was eyes because she saw an educational video on how our eyes work. Then the shocker was four days ago she said she wanted to meet Jesus and our Dog in Heaven. We asked her what she meant by this and she said that she has thoughts of dying and wanted us to move the sharp objects away because she wants to ""see our old dog so so bad"" and in her mind dying is the only way to accomplish that. Then the next night she had intrusive thoughts of shoving a pencil up her nose. Then it was what would happen if Mom and Dad died and her little sister which spiraled into thoughts of killing mom and dad and her family members. These thoughts completely devastate her and cripple her to the point where she is just balling her eyes out. We try to tell her that the thoughts are just her brain being silly and thinking of your worst fears which causes you to think through those fears. The thoughts seem to creep in when the sun starts to go down and the nighttime routine gets going so right around 630 pm. These are intrusive thoughts and not suicidal ideations and I remember having them as well as my wife growing up. I remember being at Niagara Falls at her age and wanting so bad to jump over that I had to move away. As of right now she asked to go see a Doctor to help her get rid of the thoughts which we are working on finding a counselor and setting up an appointment but that is not going to be for a couple weeks. I cannot stand to see her crying as her thoughts spiral out of control. Is there any advice or anything I can do for her up until she gets into counseling to help her sort these thoughts out?",4.987761069340017,5.9522367318295775,4.842005012531327,86.66863826232249,68.8997493734336,7.7156223893066,29.314118629908105,7.793537801064563,1.7069973266499583,1612,58,323,18,27,496,195,399,0.13699999999999998,0.7759999999999999,0.087,-0.9819,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,12,2,4,4,16,15,1,4,20,0,30,8,5,3,1,76,73,40,5,7,10,7,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,20,32,1,1,21,3,0,9,5,9,2,3,24,11,53,6,58,43,1,64,2,0,7,1,66,29,0,4,23,231,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061494385477481386,0.0557835734565098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05032503099575654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042794500759269036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05178595879545174,0.05602096705289513,0.11766195287297128,0.0,0.11824945499664155,0.0,0.1050877023560792,0.07672298525594261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025059829826358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646463584550691,0.0,0.0,0.06598081951166927,0.0,0.07058125170224742,0.0,0.06963075497851187,0.06912555763637655,0.04058458968254641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593395200275127,0.0,0.0,0.06441143547520109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059324724075490776,0.28325460370607536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057516803045594825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863485113726564,0.0,0.14305808566736794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055648716786179775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436119222148282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069622628081913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614461599390092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056796706032445535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635412757394482,0.14740551381759914,0.050230058471466166,0.13376908291846565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692667946599888,0.05905546306686895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810308230409227,0.0,0.0,0.04786103675970667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06007372537881715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948911125591636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162802138686489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257465448319456,0.10748360864188433,0.11972152162111024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504409861854476,0.05728903193761881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336263550816567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883511403744841,0.0,0.0593107009748512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500352023014359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064589819850382,0.0,0.6494712103276666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042725282056451486,0.0,0.0614733837433673,0.0,0.07569694045118458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847077938298833,0.049950838081522335,0.1009571652948124,0.0,0.11316310391594908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162745650914413,0.0,0.0,0.08940721339171205,0.0,0.0,0.04052480259037377
parenting,Randomization4,2020/02/25,"Non cartoon TV shows that don't ridicule parents, doesn't have too much bf/gf stuff, doesn't promote lying and sneaking, or being mean and sassy? So far we've gone through KC Under cover, Thundermans, Ricky dicky Nicky dawn, drake and Josh. Some were better than others, but the points mentioned in the title were common across all. Also after a couple of seasons it gets too much BF/GF , and not necessarily in a healthy way. For eg.,  one of the episodes was about who has the most number of girlfriends.. this doesn't promote respect for women I believe. are these shows more for teenagers? Also parents are shown as dumb clowns who are ridiculed all the time and kids constantly lie and sneak behind their back and do things not safe or good for them. I get that it's just a TV show but I would want my kid to watch something wholesome also, which promotes good behaviour and respect for women and parents.

Any suggestions?",6.4987808723068845,7.366768872832375,5.413000525486076,84.26603783499738,65.47398843930637,7.4469784550709415,31.3342091434577,6.980632752743323,1.7863341040462428,737,27,135,5,11,218,120,173,0.16899999999999998,0.767,0.064,-0.97,3,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,2,4,9,9,3,0,8,0,15,0,0,0,2,24,20,18,0,2,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,12,9,0,1,1,5,0,1,6,3,0,1,4,1,6,6,19,14,7,14,0,0,1,0,14,6,1,4,6,91,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048082704725301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474454160167873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974561848087576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901048326090593,0.0,0.1492310368825191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234093086655093,0.0,0.0,0.18670036849670735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17631254139188265,0.0,0.0,0.2830512481092503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380020814936432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480770214459764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143381620275482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5620756303652725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950766290626506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298992641183809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19315944709292304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209901585601252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838983974666314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952336876984727,0.13393276978567226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986341158908638,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flutterbyasaurus,2020/02/25,"Extreme introvert - need help growing confidence I need ideas on how to help my 10yo son be more confident and be able to speak when he needs to. 

He struggles to speak his needs, or even answer questions about how his day was sometimes. He freezes up as soon as any attention is put on him and I'm at a loss for how to help him. I was thinking maybe voice lessons might help? But I'd really like some more ideas if anyone has any.",3.0829064039408887,4.662169310344829,3.4985221674876854,92.11655172413792,74.28735632183907,7.270279146141214,26.221674876847292,7.957251820313856,1.322712315270936,338,12,74,5,7,105,60,87,0.06,0.7170000000000001,0.223,0.945,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,1,1,0,7,0,0,3,0,21,13,11,0,5,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,4,7,1,13,8,3,9,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,5,4,42,7,0,0.17459570596561733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746213439697894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220813771635254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259978640544953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531881713897008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4681112855568992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941946003456211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529864276504294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540485390035898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521845289889394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5178420147173918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755169081530163,0.19558714878592487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118504800201364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726796176006372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252534066724585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187387851715004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ETF2019,2020/02/25,"Family of four in a 1-bedroom advice to make it work We are actually a family of 3 right now. My husband, 12-month old and I all share the bedroom and we all sleep (didn't used to always be like that). We are all quite happy right now. Our living room is spacious and has plenty of room to play. We have a dining area that we actually have blocked off because our cats live there. We currently live in an area that has a major housing crisis. It costs $2000 CAD at least for a 2-bedroom as oppose to the $1500 we are currently paying. I also live walking distance to work so we only have one car. 

Our plan is to have a second child, but I am anxious about the cost of renting a 2-bedroom or buying. Buying a 2-bedroom condo 30 minutes away from here in the cheaper city costs $450 000 CAD plus condo fees. We want to purchase one day, but I don't want to pay a mortgage until I am done with all my maternity leaves. 

Has anyone else lived in a small space with a toddler and a baby? Our bedroom is big enough to fit two cribs on opposite walls with a queen-size mattress in the middle. Anyone have advice on how to make this work for a year-ish? (Unless, by miracle, we buy first).",2.9117318191744914,4.336890817427388,4.388377374972702,86.19206158549903,74.4356846473029,6.567460144136274,24.717405547062672,7.0608816371341465,0.991816597510374,921,29,187,9,19,307,140,241,0.028999999999999998,0.8809999999999999,0.09,0.9022,4,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,14,0,0,6,8,4,0,0,20,0,20,2,1,4,4,34,25,14,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,6,18,1,2,0,1,11,2,2,0,0,6,2,0,21,4,36,22,7,32,0,0,0,0,17,22,0,1,9,129,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.2428598434657167,0.0,0.0,0.2431915052017108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951006048887537,0.10353930138702563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057533416067966,0.0,0.17401470414621156,0.1274976398516629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691011596678945,0.0,0.0,0.07585399107205425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024982586830234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733948610937865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039488861349062,0.0,0.0,0.12857388977537654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346111572881379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584374747704403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324626205200581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435804691783035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175795115930286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079231095562659,0.0,0.5493888096676295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661217158776266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932226683132724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057286015233727,0.0,0.16863979690336256,0.09463788831884257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235118929916964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253241549753613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452415962713193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215542248801424,0.0,0.0,0.10747127810309726,0.0,0.0,0.14678914195281295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717689455701146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013160602738349
parenting,Gmckfan1985,2020/02/25,"5 year old Son having major anxiety about starting school. My 5 year old son has been very worried and concerned about starting Kindergarten. Hes a very shy kid who takes a long time to warm up to anything. We did a new child transition activity at the elementary school he will be attending and left him alone with the other kids, only to walk by and see him sitting in the corner not participating in any of the activities.  He currently goes to a preschool/daycare and hates but doesnt ever put up a huge fight about it.  I am in a area where i have no expertise because i am a Extrovert as well as my 8 year old daughter who was and is always excited to attend school.  How can i calm his nerves or help him with his social anxiety?  He will never willingly participate in anything if Myself or Mom are around.   

TLDR : Help me help my very introverted 5 year old with starting school!!!",6.39337209302326,6.477001825581398,7.102883720930233,74.77351162790698,65.62790697674419,10.368372093023256,33.47906976744186,10.125756701596842,3.271188837209303,702,28,133,15,10,233,111,172,0.1,0.763,0.13699999999999998,0.8906,1,1,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,8,6,2,0,11,0,17,0,0,1,2,18,23,12,0,1,5,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,10,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,1,0,3,2,16,4,23,16,1,35,0,0,1,0,24,13,0,3,17,86,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184715166382869,0.0,0.0,0.09518001659217187,0.0,0.0,0.07778779290186695,0.0,0.17501308214182892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882632285239456,0.10182961142102016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972989031317997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347053523395304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293451227153822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23001568541693804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428294521779412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122981994209446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396989540710028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822311184092099,0.11047668632947533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.480124042920928,0.0,0.0,0.08699726248649654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499157907305099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630672323279281,0.09115246172380796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660420630454553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428933402867625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600557381637848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670058872542778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831463495885165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284858960107952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161666118798674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946486016062481
parenting,NameIdeas,2020/02/25,"What shows for the pre-K set do you actually enjoy watching? Happy day!  My little one is 5 and gets a bit of TV these days.  We like to watch a few different shows and there are some I don't mind too much myself.  Some, I feel, are just too much and I find myself doing household chores instead of snuggling with my dude.

What pre-K shows do you not mind?

My list includes:

* Tumbleleaf
* The Lion Guard
* Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood",0.3467601809954779,2.778438282352944,1.6752941176470593,94.69728506787331,95.58823529411764,4.497737556561086,17.126696832579185,6.297961479604792,-0.1523574660633482,334,9,69,4,13,106,62,85,0.0,0.877,0.12300000000000001,0.8765,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,14,9,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,11,3,5,9,6,4,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,2,3,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.24916751073082616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787567613164125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32933644463968104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26676792812364075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291036921137342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23336911337831304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334005979658874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718060009334078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474247348780902,0.2559100613485774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5156257092553287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753972660281005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730197870711163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pagodelucia123,2020/02/25,"What are your view on parents nudity around children ? Hello. My daughter is 4 and my wife and I are naturist (nothing sexual inside this) it is more like a north European way of life where nudity is attached to wellness rather than anything sexual.
So I almost daily walked and live naked inside the house. My daughter doesn’t seems upset or anything. She was a bit curious about this hanging thing but she doesn’t care now. 
My question is what should I tell her about this because I am quite scared about what she could tell to her friends and their parents.",4.4993333333333325,6.750507695238099,4.46857142857143,83.80476190476192,72.04761904761905,7.333333333333332,27.857142857142854,8.167268648758528,2.005285714285713,448,17,79,7,9,138,72,105,0.055999999999999994,0.816,0.128,0.7819,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,1,9,6,0,2,3,0,12,1,0,0,0,13,14,7,0,3,3,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,1,1,15,4,9,11,2,8,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,4,2,59,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564783423530646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215670942287997,0.1739322782671834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910365282007372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133076134409113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19920597253183536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559974132874592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095240782315947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254457295003981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800477889491886,0.0954542562079697,0.0,0.17252675337209475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874752414803494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338993607080169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887365620369686,0.2078138523474432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561245059423604,0.0,0.0,0.17786932944629558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415466775970114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298037720056797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508591739716088,0.0,0.0,0.17567276606723495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FreeFrizzyGrizzly,2020/02/25,"Am I crazy to think/plan that we can stay in our ""starter"" house forever with 1 child? I think I'm only doubting myself because it seems like the expectation these days is to have huge mcmansions with a bathroom for everyone, bonus rooms etc.  My husband and I are expecting our first (and only is the plan) and honestly we're so completely overwhelmed by the costs of daycare, college etc that we're not really even considering moving to a bigger house.  I just wanted some input from other parents that we're not cruel for planning to share a bathroom with our child or anything.

This house was never meant to be our ""forever house"" initially but the longer we've been here (9 years now) and with what else we see on the market we really don't want to move.  It's an older house with 3 bedrooms and 1 full bathroom in the main living space.  Someone added another full bathroom in the basement (not walkout) at some point but we don't really consider that an option for a family bathroom since no one is going to be sleeping in the basement expect maybe guests occasionally once we finish it in the future.  

We have plans to finish the basement in the next year or so to be a playroom/guest space.  It's definitely a small house but it's cozy and works for us.  It's in a great school district, is close the city which we like and has a great backyard.  If we went for a larger place with a master suite etc we'd probably be looking at a $450-500k house while we bought ours for $285k and we have the mortgage almost halfway paid down already.  I just don't see the point in stretching ourselves thin financially to have a little more room but I am a little concerned that our child might feel they don't have enough privacy when they're older because they'd have to share a bathroom with us.  Can anyone give me any advice here?  Thank you!",6.682894736842103,6.388881354570639,6.779693905817176,78.6045547091413,65.09418282548476,9.546869806094184,32.17742382271468,8.982922981607832,2.564622049861496,1463,51,280,21,20,469,190,361,0.023,0.868,0.10800000000000001,0.9827,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,19,1,2,7,9,12,1,2,30,0,29,1,1,0,1,54,45,19,0,6,12,2,2,2,1,1,0,0,4,3,16,26,0,0,4,0,4,4,9,3,0,2,6,5,31,9,39,32,10,49,0,1,3,0,31,29,0,10,17,185,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071381683908345,0.0,0.0,0.08270997311390862,0.0,0.09114895505166984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616947741137306,0.08661121257021867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057754447245659014,0.0,0.06797112225120176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070195727971816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660243922443396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053268881584741565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900003640472997,0.0,0.0,0.08534582144232923,0.2763558360118105,0.05455520486112541,0.0,0.0,0.07892593569262006,0.0,0.0,0.07786605030489753,0.0,0.041764034313807125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025782286546936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923553507199252,0.04694235105469162,0.0,0.0,0.1821291894226502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6671490747113491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070642841948301,0.16556980530030074,0.07293555376480014,0.0,0.06936152334293219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298080032019411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762343295442261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17557722015722813,0.0,0.0,0.06370467528190682,0.0,0.08784391788165445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796418213139194,0.05597054744057929,0.12563901321255455,0.0,0.0,0.09171531235847928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862973376018093,0.0,0.15616362998173824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905462209687807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874319567361422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359359314579018,0.13163983573221025,0.07519412373662362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683259252327063,0.0,0.08265765865340276,0.0,0.06998502359572692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803848583151283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604514778510517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585093591025514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19871046566009706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743688956337952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765691803370338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013233309582657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638081731598786
parenting,Griff13142,2020/02/25,"Child Pet Allergy Hello

New here with a 6m daughter and we found out recently she has become allergic to our family dog. She breaks out and red rash bumps on her skin but doesn't seem irritated by them. No scratching or anything. We would really like to keep our pet and I've been looking all over the internet for a potential solution,like pros/cons of microdosing, shots, and just keeping then separate. Has anyone had any success with these or has your child just grown out of these allergies? Just looking for any information on this. We are currently trying to rehome our dog. Thank you.",3.350405405405408,6.1620956846846875,4.388671171171172,80.07327702702705,78.63963963963964,8.745045045045046,26.367117117117118,9.2995712137729,2.8281765765765776,475,19,85,14,12,154,82,111,0.053,0.8190000000000001,0.128,0.8992,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,6,2,1,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,8,3,2,0,1,25,15,8,0,1,6,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,2,3,12,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,5,12,3,16,11,1,12,0,0,3,0,17,6,0,3,5,56,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32506118265540146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671168202953732,0.0,0.19667953489733572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639606134504149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253112505875836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620550265837145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248746253405352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676504873721127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014055292611386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308310917074957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311177678179938,0.0,0.2359871452285928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757983087104865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004233271739468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226770342153826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978124529668062,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AVG_AMERICAN_MALE,2020/02/25,"When will you pull your kids from school? COVID-19 (coronavirus) is coming, but when is too late? I have a 4th grader who has spring break next week..

I'm hoping if this virus comes here (US), it would be after the summer. But what if it's before?

I live in East Texas and I'm not confident with the school being super proactive about this, so it's on us to do what we think is right.

Do yall have any plans on when you start to home school?",1.7265217391304368,3.3562731739130456,2.3623913043478275,98.60815217391308,78.13043478260869,5.469565217391305,15.847826086956525,5.985473137389443,-0.8466565217391309,340,4,81,2,8,105,68,92,0.035,0.823,0.141,0.9056,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,4,0,2,7,2,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,13,19,9,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,9,15,0,19,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,3,10,53,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056976693317468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338184138281914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307900621716599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19259634975263745,0.1907039710850152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165896428588684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954365066397709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041991560701647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639709481418321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5829569622420475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359019011756436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302884652316524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619159797126417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15401457323839107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639461621914076,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Matt8992,2020/02/25,"Had to console 6 year old son last night because he will never get to meet the FGTV Family. There isnt really point to this post other than to tell everyone how hard and sad it was to see my son so heartbroken last night.  Turns out he has been searching online on how to call FGTV or go meet them at their house. I had to explain that even if we did know their number of their address we couldn't go see them because it would make them feel uncomfortable.  

He then wanted to know how their fans got to meet them in the youtube videos.  I had to explain that they were just in the right place at the right time and that google cant tell you where FGTV is all the time.

It's just so sad because I remember being a kid and being so excited to meet my favorite famous person and trying to figure out how I could do it.  In his mind he is fully convinced we should be able too, but I had to let him know it probably wouldnt be able to happen. He cried for atleast a good 2 hours last night.  

Anyone else ever deal with this?",6.899150943396228,4.936216273584908,6.815735849056605,83.95662264150945,65.50943396226414,9.989433962264153,29.690566037735852,8.238735603445708,1.7400645283018863,798,18,179,8,10,254,124,212,0.065,0.883,0.052000000000000005,-0.4001,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,1,9,0,14,5,0,0,7,0,25,0,0,5,3,38,41,15,0,7,5,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,11,10,0,0,8,1,0,2,5,2,0,0,9,4,22,3,26,21,1,30,0,2,2,0,34,13,0,2,14,115,33,0,0.2504455389724316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755867199917511,0.1283055254808908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290039140092157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278664483903838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998019196525282,0.0,0.1375513322723474,0.0,0.12909917682693198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460755567090972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270845824157932,0.11327116413913232,0.0,0.11965572254797285,0.0,0.0,0.11804888253051787,0.0,0.06331639477546534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542372867733598,0.0,0.14233397131774336,0.10503091789098036,0.10015208807582177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073408150211357,0.0,0.11217500520107873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331920373788605,0.14449026325623238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064574777538536,0.3062198111750114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280487659018586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358717100278988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643930018216967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657951956663716,0.0,0.0,0.3525392590193085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140023183864447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933969224798132,0.13083114180521982,0.0,0.11837599274053573,0.0,0.11992879839717625,0.0,0.13501132498116192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022091264513878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185298710785935,0.21387912187128014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995726692677893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890043989587554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603680780449835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501804064267046,0.13620641457754318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385963385305401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895466262623193,0.0,0.0,0.0806393579593549
parenting,GiraffeCatapult,2020/02/25,"I dread my part time job and it's ruining my quality of life I (33f) was supposed to be a stay at home mom when my child was 3 for a year or so to recharge mentally after a breakdown.  My husband (38m) then lost a job and I ended up working anyways.  

Fast forward a year and a half, some more bad luck later to now... my husband makes 50k, we are in about 4k of debt and I am working part time.

My daughter will be going to Kindergarten next year and I badly desire to be at home, knowing I will not have this option again.

I took a job for 15 hours a week to earn money... it was supposed to be a easy job, but is nothing of the sort.  Mentally my mind has become very negative, I feel highly incompetent and don't know how I make myself go.  I am afraid I will just stop going, which is what I did in college with 2 classes I couldn't pass 10 years ago. I just stopped showing up one day. 

It's not the right job at all for me, I want to quit to stay at home until September and then find a better fit.  She is in preschool while I work.

I just need my mind to calm down and this dread has become too much for me.  It was hard to find a job with this little hours willing to accommodate me.  

Looking for advice.",2.267165676838008,3.1518185836575903,3.9187261929141934,91.05909686668032,75.22568093385216,6.655662502559903,24.810362482080695,6.8360192770164,0.7295961089494165,924,29,214,8,19,310,145,257,0.127,0.804,0.069,-0.9292,7,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,7,11,10,0,3,13,0,24,1,0,3,1,39,37,17,0,4,7,4,2,0,0,4,1,0,3,1,9,11,0,2,5,1,2,6,5,7,0,2,7,3,31,3,35,21,6,47,0,2,1,0,7,15,0,5,26,146,40,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090238347162348,0.08185816361020802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420823371222933,0.0,0.20397532774213148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081671541296045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955480756135309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817901535295247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04669234555990722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880309317986064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574451687572372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272287335069074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756743492542944,0.2778883294366252,0.0,0.18188220903989893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5498282611467579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150066112571544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652259191180496,0.0,0.09255382879537087,0.0,0.0,0.07754644084800655,0.0,0.1008053441725149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328184782718105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861238369055513,0.0,0.18648400678512309,0.1081532063962792,0.0,0.0,0.0678841115255906,0.06847255780448147,0.0,0.0,0.09820982662372553,0.0,0.0,0.08860740211572712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257528002769415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000101038976814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822014594976973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886202224461639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968547086293813,0.0,0.15440890782686345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769408332003813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259855856309172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619419645073698,0.054467402305908894,0.0,0.07407349191037853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016845155669421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23786829815056101
parenting,lmakemilk,2020/02/25,"Having issues with daycare and not sure what to do or if we're making it more than it is Our son (2.5yo) has been in daycare full time since the beginning of December. He is autistic and has a really hard time at home but when he is at daycare he is thriving! I was so happy to see that he's doing well there but about a month ago we decided we didn't want to baby him and we got him a toddler bed and took away his crib. 

We were mentally preparing ourselves for meltdowns and knew it would be rough. We picked him up at daycare that evening before showing him his new bed and found out that the new daycare worker washed his weighted blanket that specifically says on the tag to spot clean, but it was in our son's notes not to wash it because it comes home with us every night. The other worker that was also in the room said ""even I know you're not supposed to wash those."" Anyway we expressed disappointment but in no way were threatening or loud or rude..

 Anyway she went to the administration and complained that she felt scared.... I was thinking maybe she's just afraid of men? My husband can look intimidating I guess but I was there with him and all he did was walk away with our son while I spoke to her and the other teacher. 

So the administration had a meeting with us and had us sign some paper basically about respect and all of that and we did but now it's kind of awkward. When my husband drops off my son in the morning like 2-3 of the workers come over and INSPECT our son and this morning they asked how he hurt his finger (it's a small mark) and he is like ""I have no idea?"" Because our son climbs stuff all day long and there's no way to tell how he gets little marks on him. It's not like we are bringing him in there all bruised up. 

They aren't like this with any other parent at drop off and we know that because we see other parents drop their kids off all the time and it's not a big ordeal. He just feels like they are trying to find a way to call CAS on us or something. We are super involved with therapists and medical professionals because he's autistic and doing the best we can and we feel like they are just being ridiculous. Idk, like I said, we might be making it more than what it is.",4.0374925394344165,4.830591856828196,4.676678982520961,87.6177383828336,70.96035242290749,7.267756146084977,26.539434418075885,7.233258080335977,1.1045079721472215,1749,54,374,16,31,560,209,454,0.09300000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.10400000000000001,0.9084,2,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,23,0,5,6,22,22,2,3,19,0,39,6,1,5,6,92,66,40,0,3,19,10,7,7,0,2,4,5,6,2,30,45,1,0,11,1,0,7,10,8,1,0,23,15,54,14,50,38,10,55,0,2,3,0,76,27,0,8,22,263,84,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799417479668809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211927624939125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061327501665577676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430888879138687,0.0,0.16945970906529287,0.0,0.0,0.21989876842074324,0.0,0.0767390521165447,0.0,0.09464144705638496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208687975388184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536926016856273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058160545097936674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912998201792648,0.0,0.07598302884944799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119842312873816,0.12885344163914214,0.0865897790374256,0.0,0.08242558674582535,0.0,0.0,0.09888095495131986,0.0,0.0,0.047116871639124334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212754720128738,0.0,0.09934669186041477,0.0,0.0,0.09600143216747753,0.08078621362662064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809217131602008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654271815836757,0.1018055786900455,0.0,0.09412757438478303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391166953839948,0.09912438677248636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084118542663842,0.0903870124690497,0.0,0.07980907697094368,0.07573096874637088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039564501863405,0.0,0.09060089935636936,0.0,0.0,0.09084983907931864,0.09088320702736208,0.0956698633868352,0.0,0.0,0.07198317400404983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419851912820605,0.0,0.08463059377577672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002749974057884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777351001371143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156928311715028,0.07171710521443707,0.09028887014577412,0.0,0.14372827765509644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460027200934037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942724442816346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032379069885098,0.0,0.0,0.0849963674838275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882387733653241,0.0,0.0,0.1047093611963546,0.0,0.05778559591000156,0.0,0.0,0.15775921826117942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001965808745939,0.0612283064410274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43391596202637417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531922432108737,0.21474909518448276,0.0,0.10981854333120376,0.0810853067655444,0.08360050246258059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406338350620047,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ashon1980,2020/02/25,"perianal streptococcal dermatitis Today I learned that perianal streptococcal dermatitis is a thing. I like to call it strep a\*\*hole. Some kid in my kid's daycare gets strep throat, and mine gets it on his butt.

It's never a boring day with children that is for sure.

​

So the reason for the post, has anyone else dealt with this? We are waiting for labs to come back before our doctor will rx meds, but old web MD has me convinced this is perianal streptococcal dermatitis. 

Is there anything topical I can give him for relief? He is so uncomfortable right now.",5.180470085470084,7.645791576923075,5.3685897435897445,77.15418803418805,70.73076923076924,8.852991452991454,29.824786324786324,9.444778638647367,3.020742735042735,460,19,78,11,9,145,75,104,0.042,0.8390000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.75,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,0,10,4,2,1,2,12,15,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,8,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,4,10,14,1,11,0,0,0,1,10,3,1,1,7,51,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325048688462354,0.26074662991513065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004418365717934,0.21986968726144054,0.1765867744706096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500411759270106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825976879408351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21911726648913474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848476551467668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138390829328113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196388344283496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17925986012170744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22422564749022575,0.20585135419871103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048363437414605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238357724413728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550268340656393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22517290484692665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551497917488146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22063112227398526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832560813781697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224565925502727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256203339196336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034033360096986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26074662991513065,0.0
parenting,Sansad507,2020/02/25,"Toddler being whiny and clingy only with his dad - Help! My 2.5 year old son has generally always been a daddy’s boy. When his dad went out of town for 3 days, we were all worried about what his reaction would be on those days. Miraculously, my son was extremely well behaved, hardly cried, was not cranky and spoke quite well those 3 days! I had an amazing time with him - he was extremely affectionate with me. However, once my DH got back, it was routine again - son kept clinging to dad, whining throughout the day and generally did not leave his dad alone for a minute. It has started to take a toll on my husband who feels really overwhelmed and touched out by all the affection as well as the clinginess. What should we do to make this situation better and when will this phase pass? :(",7.544379194630871,7.156035476510072,7.037508389261749,77.78028942953024,63.362416107382536,10.40302013422819,34.06124161073827,9.827888789773867,3.036146979865772,622,23,120,11,8,194,103,149,0.068,0.772,0.159,0.9336,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,2,8,8,0,1,7,0,16,0,0,2,2,24,24,9,0,2,2,8,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,9,12,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,2,3,0,12,4,13,6,17,7,2,19,0,2,0,0,20,5,0,0,12,78,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835914275316276,0.0,0.0,0.14749735307257492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363046164776298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677507639172414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947155265294304,0.4572809258530646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962970363849032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177373814230898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879319262370153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188159236882039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769635087279046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832469917985483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18600812442799208,0.1887797408650328,0.0,0.13481680714871422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885414507933026,0.0,0.0,0.1135594762066136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925149404569772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254679502903141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328001971001033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336371685600412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47814326819484204,0.16432495217976595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18001959214933347,0.0,0.1259228368375221,0.0,0.0,0.11415182088503545
parenting,Hardcoreposer7,2020/02/25,"Thoughts on newborn getting sick due to older child in daycare? Hi everyone, we're considering sending our 1.5-year-old to daycare now, and our second baby is due in September. I've heard that in the first year of daycare, the child will frequently be sick. That's fine, but I was wondering about the potential danger to the 2nd baby if the 1st baby is often sick--especially since you're recommended to contact your doctor within the first 3 months of baby's life if they get sick. 

Does anyone have any thoughts or experiences with this? We could continue to keep the 1st baby at home, but it might be more ideal if they could start going to daycare.",8.808780487804876,7.7094280487804925,8.618008130081304,69.78847560975609,61.19512195121951,11.452032520325206,37.57317073170732,10.504223727775694,3.92089268292683,522,21,91,10,6,169,81,123,0.106,0.8270000000000001,0.067,-0.7245,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,2,3,3,3,1,0,7,0,10,5,0,0,0,18,19,7,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,1,3,4,3,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,4,1,7,2,16,9,1,19,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,7,11,57,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120459078496927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451890504447551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315726198966596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253175587469045,0.1817100850772755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841210859370864,0.0,0.20311502899002173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532426358359793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21697014873197693,0.0,0.11800849458891323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20828319903043535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845629401703356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466646309452814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22027676887373385,0.0,0.0,0.1657389320059358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788675471292207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176471559151818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697102394482695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296912340598356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251803434687172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674310046800103
parenting,littleralphy,2020/02/25,"Kids feeling sad, not sure what's best to do. Yesterday when I got home, my wife said that our Son (10) had come down from bed saying he felt sad.  He wouldn't say why, but he started crying.  I went up to speak to him but he was asleep (pretending) by this point.  

Just a but of background information on my Son, he's just turned 10 years old, he's a very bright and intelligent boy, but he's not the most emotional kid, or at least he doesn't show it.  He often has a different way of thinking to me, such as as we left the theater after watching Star Wars, in my head I'm thinking I'm the Jedi saving the day, and I ask him what he's thinking, and he replies, 'where do they get the technology from to build the spaceship?'

This morning he came in for a cuddle and we could tell he was still feeling sad.  He wouldn't talk about it though, but he was refusing to get ready for school.  Our two younger kids were ready, and I needed to go to work, so it was a bit awkward.  My wife took the younger kids to school, and I stayed with our Son to find out why he was sad.  

Obviously worried about bullying or something inappropriate etc. all things going through my head.  He said he was sad about my Mum and Dad dying.  My Dad died 4 years ago after a long illness, and my mum died of cancer 10 months ago, after spending 4 months in a hospice.  My Son was always very close to my Mum and Dad because he was our first Grandchild and they used to take him out a lot and he had sleepover etc.  They idolised him as he was such a lovely child.  He used to be a champion gymnast but after my Dad died he refused to go to gymnastics anymore, we didn't understand at the time as Dad was never involved in his gymnastics anyway, so we 'forced' him to continue until it was obvious he wasn't interested.  

When my Mum died last year, she had been in the Hospice for 4 months and it was not a nice way to go for any of us.  The week before she died my Wife was rushed to hospital and spent a week there.  Then she had a serious/life saving operation later last year, so it was a difficult time for us all really, but the kids seemed to cope well, as I tried to keep routines, and make things fun for them while my wife was in hospital for 8 weeks.  

This morning I eventually got him ready, I talked about nice memories of my Mum and Dad and how they used to talk about my Son etc. and all the things they did together, we had breakfast and then I took him to school.  He still insisted he didn't want to go and you could tell by looking at him he was still upset, but he went in all the same, albeit about an hour late.  

I'm now sitting in work wondering if we've done the right thing? Should I have kept him off and away from normal routine? I'm really not sure how to handle this going forward.  We've recently been discussing going on vacation in the Summer to a place where my Parents always took me when I was a kid, perhaps that could be the trigger..",4.746177556293837,4.669758536544852,5.4562513842746405,85.72805740125509,69.11627906976744,8.815134736064968,28.51624215577704,8.515128840125781,1.7415369509043923,2277,71,504,32,36,741,252,602,0.156,0.784,0.06,-0.9963,2,0,1,0,0,0,63.0,11,1,6,4,29,21,1,2,33,0,43,8,3,7,9,94,91,49,7,10,17,21,3,0,0,3,2,5,2,8,18,31,1,4,11,2,2,16,11,9,1,2,43,11,61,12,80,40,13,91,0,5,3,2,105,28,0,8,45,311,79,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523123132207702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816485249316876,0.0,0.0,0.044199956284161866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445921963310669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060763101345071936,0.0,0.061066499769196016,0.0,0.0,0.03962135945199168,0.0,0.055307368745188976,0.0,0.06820998261714585,0.0,0.07095951657130382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433886146792948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598886568705259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568362780897702,0.0,0.07139577682733884,0.04191746738371902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047376162568697,0.06790767379771298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651414751240928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311249196181079,0.0,0.0,0.2174653643496741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572852645222382,0.0,0.0624069845365581,0.0,0.05940576791679024,0.05528612410848889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791614235492907,0.0,0.2585736902104642,0.0,0.10396752995304637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341064533019265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519694749790378,0.0,0.06400861557024154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777201606446335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596190254982184,0.07331906130202243,0.0,0.0706190591166849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751999702239612,0.054580822910410866,0.0,0.0,0.05525783434635268,0.058662021502254476,0.0,0.0433857739358554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556391369824889,0.0,0.0,0.048194198352371535,0.05012942958210403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368292476269337,0.0,0.0,0.06820305897755698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217109689562874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790767379771298,0.0,0.06144285060565005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327704692467289,0.0,0.06417635853977371,0.0,0.0,0.055506790813610096,0.12365341172440865,0.10337590246510807,0.0,0.19734026376744346,0.0,0.05917051635790496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003760279341457,0.0,0.0,0.04600496908271446,0.06927778936908482,0.1557192451637957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251716196051715,0.0,0.048869397897352465,0.15672555506115182,0.11361988790677904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727235659725999,0.12494170202810853,0.06385888649886376,0.0,0.07580014796180212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166410357931784,0.04412846430308252,0.07069769966586678,0.06349229050201806,0.0676638132293665,0.15636595354193875,0.16840873157654648,0.0,0.10725809973484136,0.03833671290570055,0.1031826435821819,0.15640919557767374,0.0,0.05843980134505546,0.12050510631689605,0.11729874855971087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048610305118573,0.0946366822904441,0.06600726123245111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742286706367038
parenting,inkworks271,2020/02/25,"Does anyone have a child who has had seizures not related to temperature? My 9 month old son had a seizure on Thursday morning and another one on Friday afternoon. Eyes glazed over, lips went blue, body stiffened.

Doctors are taking a wait and see approach at the moment and want me to film it if it happens again.

Just wondering if anyone has experience with this? Obviously I’m worried he has epilepsy and I’m on edge, constantly worried he’s going to have another one.",4.301590909090908,6.766075977272728,5.327272727272729,76.46090909090911,73.31818181818181,8.49090909090909,33.72727272727273,9.188382445141503,3.5127227272727275,378,20,64,9,8,124,66,88,0.057,0.9279999999999999,0.015,-0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,8,4,3,0,1,13,18,6,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,3,2,0,9,15,0,15,0,0,3,0,5,5,0,3,7,38,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288479100911815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859661383875915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271405540156907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22097935369947472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930257938199454,0.1789492085541301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000289288718138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621549073828097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082844881061336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322071885253936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214576215149114,0.0,0.27713331316187056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295080845547574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374985513304576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061257779171355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956282905235872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175898618140852,0.0,0.4153358661604577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,groovyto_on,2020/02/25,"Baseball season, routine advice needed My 9yo son is finishing up a once a week “soccer games only” season, now baseball is starting up soon. Baseball season is more of a commitment each year for us with good amount of practices/games. A few parents in the league I’ve met, let me know that minors division starts to get pretty competitive and to expect things to be pretty busy compared to prior years. I’m wondering what sort of routine you keep day to day during sports season with your kiddo. My neighbors boys around this age had a pretty strict daily schedule during sports but at the same time their dad was also couching. Anyone have tips or can share a routine they build with sports commitments, would be appreciated!",7.729545454545455,8.509002409090911,7.1146969696969675,73.44204545454545,62.787878787878796,8.721212121212123,31.65151515151515,8.472884824447931,2.5959969696969694,586,20,92,7,8,182,98,132,0.0,0.846,0.154,0.9504,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,2,0,4,2,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,2,18,20,4,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,4,6,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,2,17,13,5,23,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,3,18,58,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247102188716485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932842666850635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056640634965944,0.0,0.0,0.1662298602689872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24085163205533144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755905324232636,0.0,0.0,0.15662080284589802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659747740587172,0.0,0.0,0.10262227722606154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094473248146104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845840473267151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19886203913493486,0.0,0.14201706738448286,0.0,0.0,0.20734227947758985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5699165803253043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643378185231325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405554102928512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888413879774743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22461397037486472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978405731789687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250141548022296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264809026869298,0.0,0.0,0.2404968220439882
parenting,klunkshank,2020/02/25,"My 6 year old has changed her mind about an afternoon activity... 
So 2 weeks ago my 6-year-old daughter came home from school with a brochure about an after school AFL clinic, my daughter said the people that run the clinic came to her school and spoke about it at assembly and she said it seemed like it fun so she wanted to give it a go.

I  found some videos online of the Auskick clinic so we watched them together and again she was all for it saying she wanted to do it so I waited a few days and asked her again if she still wanted to do the clinic and she said yes so I went and paid for the 4-week course which is an hour after school every Monday at her school oval.

She is meant to be starting this coming Monday but she has come home from school today and said she doesn't want to do it anymore because today her sports teacher at assembly asked for all kids doing the course to come forward and get a note and she said she didn't go up because she was the only ""little kid"" she is in year one. I told her she should at least give it a go because she said she wanted to do it and it even if she's the youngest kid there it will ok because I will be there with her, but if she decides she doesn't want to go back she doesn't have to, but I think she should try it out, she wouldn't have that and she was crying and having a total meltdown so I told her we would talk about it tomorrow.

My partner (her dad) says she shouldn't have to do it if she doesn't want to whereas I think she should at least try one class out.

What would you do in this situation?",3.584506769825918,4.113777504559273,4.086649626968775,92.39899350649351,71.82674772036475,6.832882011605418,22.857281016855485,6.351523495107088,0.26916899696048624,1225,26,281,7,22,386,137,329,0.026000000000000002,0.9470000000000001,0.027000000000000003,0.10300000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,1,0,17,3,0,0,17,2,35,4,0,0,3,56,74,25,0,18,7,3,0,1,1,9,4,9,2,4,20,23,0,1,6,2,1,12,7,0,0,2,19,10,51,3,36,44,7,43,0,0,1,0,64,12,0,6,22,200,71,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689468502658523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771363824426308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454267008018975,0.0,0.0,0.059807648738173715,0.0,0.18965469039070185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791809709079434,0.0,0.0,0.08228041745231962,0.20100050453980786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543714890575227,0.050161354939462784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137263846023536,0.0,0.06553259899945155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528122750077438,0.0,0.0,0.04063658822226323,0.1492264031202393,0.17681557133512138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603839776265208,0.0,0.07659715830182971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037999143978701896,0.07795551102113894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853514130865923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632330416345309,0.0,0.10541082946735417,0.059154828752815636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053922524822633586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439168009510559,0.12370679001836928,0.0,0.4723021514668469,0.0,0.07080755251289289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742743770822442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505274357375332,0.0,0.06211482400294259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251623079181409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967594980236144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745177817039998,0.14864332632584354,0.0,0.10561437505645142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211346267583497,0.0,0.12478007641932518,0.0,0.0,0.07210239295524945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050467677929143,0.0,0.0,0.15026237957469887
parenting,curlyhairsucks,2020/02/25,2 year old nursing caries anesthesia My daughters teeth are so weak they’re crumbling out of her mouth. She nursed to sleep so it started from her getting nursing caries. It also doesnt help that she grinds her teeth. Ive been avoiding taking her to the dentist because I have only heard horror stories about toddlers dying from anesthesia. Also she shows mo signs of pain. Her front four teeth are all chipped and look horrible. My daughter is 2 but she is TINY. She weighs less than 20 pounds and shes super petite. She wears 12 month clothes. Does anyone have any success stories from putting their babys under for dental work?,3.5202564102564087,6.441329914529916,2.8464957264957285,90.6846153846154,78.91452991452991,4.625641025641026,26.09401709401709,5.8734145424116955,0.8556119658119656,508,20,89,3,13,148,86,117,0.1,0.8170000000000001,0.083,0.4498,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,3,5,5,0,1,1,0,10,10,6,0,1,7,15,7,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,1,2,2,17,2,12,13,2,8,0,0,1,0,17,2,0,0,4,51,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182485172062375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778313508505809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284933107183576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594101095617796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713993522839521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288434796123185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662478829040328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528028725586253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959708299921335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872960293501666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27440393904794064,0.0,0.0,0.19888519947845104,0.27825816686526184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26288325044521554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26169235987060435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509352690807654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661809137251995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037766625300231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839968359809376
parenting,myrmagic,2020/02/25,"Which criminally negligent human on ‘Paw Patrol’ are you? 
https://www.thebeaverton.com/2016/12/quiz-criminally-negligent-human-paw-patrol/ 

I really feel like this says everything I think of when I’m forced to watch this show with my kids.  And before you say “aren’t you the parent?” Yes, but I also support my son and his interests and that currently is trains and making up stories with his Paw Patrol toys so I watch it with him on Saturday mornings.",8.719497716894974,11.810987000000004,7.259109589041097,64.68857305936075,62.56164383561644,9.250228310502283,25.865296803652967,9.725611199111238,2.5928283105022842,373,10,55,8,6,112,54,73,0.027000000000000003,0.836,0.13699999999999998,0.7992,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,11,8,8,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,5,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,12,3,8,8,0,6,0,0,2,0,12,3,0,0,4,37,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595539637940401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27618032501837153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916974764402648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641094686875054,0.2318688100133677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585657289244309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664919916878966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603902599199493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20792420981179832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5162131374106375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683117360600389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796770639761067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamavibes,2020/02/25,"""Mama, did you know that a long time ago, before I was a baby, I had two sisters?"" [Kids are creepy AF] My daughter is 4. 

Tonight I was laying in her bed waiting for her to go to sleep and she started talking about kid stuff. 

THEN she goes:

""Mama. Did you know a long time ago, before I was a baby, I had two sisters? My favorite wanted to be the big sister, but I was supposed to be the big sister, because I'm a big kid. The mean wanted to be a little sister so she could pull my hair, but that's rude.""

""What happened to your sisters?"" I ask because sometimes she just tells stories for fun. Its usually straight out of an episode of Sofia.

""They keep dying."" She deadpans. 

At this point I'm like ""wtf- *that's* not Sofia."" so I ask

""How do they die?"" 

""I think an evil fairy is taking them out your tummy. I miss them though.""

I know its probably just a creepy kid thing, but we've had several miscarriages since we had her and *NOW* I low-key believe in evil fairies. Lol.",-0.6027343614624847,1.604519442211057,1.3173626754461942,97.83984924623115,95.78391959798996,3.5488476867094096,18.92237047305493,5.250760702829517,-0.436506290071045,735,24,162,4,29,240,112,199,0.071,0.8440000000000001,0.084,-0.3204,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,4,4,0,8,6,3,0,12,1,18,2,2,1,0,22,36,10,2,3,6,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,9,5,0,2,5,0,0,2,1,4,0,2,10,1,32,2,16,22,0,24,0,1,0,0,32,11,0,0,12,103,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591679784588199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733260759225018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822577291154215,0.0,0.24878496544922246,0.1647001899923942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671665350751027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034334488663862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308018061424889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927072021072322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993575129877868,0.0,0.0,0.2410179998794736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141850055624198,0.1465155559910992,0.0,0.2587378643483377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923808346889606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819187037674865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761192019808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514719416204698,0.0,0.12092556255555435,0.0,0.14629035520770525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458048763604556,0.0,0.10347034132528013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16734660133786727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991276337363927,0.11749779063659448,0.12777194309072698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711867371311553,0.09366930581901864,0.1436258063951706,0.0,0.17048304429925792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28560258166703323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100188487980752,0.0,0.17244714424262175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsHelix11,2020/02/25,"Need Some Help With 10 Year Old I'm a mom of 5 kids, 3 boys and 2 girls. I'm really struggling to connect with my 10 year old son. He has major anger issues and anxiety. I have anxiety issues as well and really try my best to relate to him and work through his issues. Has anyone had an issue connecting with one of their kids? I feel like when I do stuff with and for him he shows me and tells me things that come off as ungrateful. I have such a solid relationship with my oldest son. I am well aware of having to have different methods to connect with each child. I desperately do not want to fail my son. Please, any advice on things I can do or say to him to prevent him from feeling like I have failed him?",2.3991666666666696,3.8496686013513535,3.969999999999999,88.56666666666668,75.82432432432431,7.365765765765767,21.792792792792795,8.07648339933343,0.8951738738738735,555,14,122,9,12,185,88,148,0.127,0.711,0.163,0.5802,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,4,4,9,1,1,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,22,20,10,0,2,2,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,4,14,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,4,2,1,1,3,21,5,24,19,4,9,0,2,0,0,22,2,0,2,8,81,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359552089082638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461246332775887,0.0,0.2128665462575996,0.0,0.0,0.09728220332237772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460072593163234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984727920369542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453601504841706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406955644609316,0.1987875127902297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325520877366804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5808579471033497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594276377594794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294615573189444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031623604989489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919848777618511,0.0,0.09427738357566016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527218177795479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782591479853558,0.0,0.0,0.1493724348367702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064093274294376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454477965012867,0.15926937220185813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160484287329705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848621969935985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944594307683008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206186496155246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25018728643502397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012875394615924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17918897666382758
parenting,ovveeritt,2020/02/25,"MY SIBLINGS KEEP TAKING MY THINGS AWAY AND GET AWAY WITH IT 😭 When it comes to parenting small children, how should one approach a child who often goes into someone else’s room and takes away their personal belongings or messes up their belongings? 

I’ve often told my parents, especially my mother to talk to them! I’ve repeatedly asked my mother to tell my siblings to stop going into my room & to stop making a mess out of my room whenever I’m not home. REPEATEDLY!!!!!!!!!! 

My siblings often go into my room, they take away most of my snacks that I buy for myself or that are gifted, (I also share with them, it’s not like I eat them by myself) (they’re also sick so I try not to give them much sweets but they sneak in) they touch & mess with my art supplies, notepads (even after buying them their own) they make a mess of my bed, bookshelf and closet... YET My parents, mostly my mom thinks that I’m evil, vile or that I’m a serpent full of poison for telling my siblings not to take away or to touch my belongings because, “they’re just kids”. 
My mom begins to scream at me for telling my siblings that it’s not okay to touch anything that is not theirs... 
She told me that “it’s my house, it’s their house, if they want to go into your room, THEY CAN” (Lowkey she’s a narcissist, I can never tell her anything, she always talks over me and never lets me explain myself) 

I believe it is wrong to allow small children to steal or to grab something that’s not theirs because it becomes an ugly habit. I am a patient person, I understand they are children and that they don’t know any better but that’s what parents are for... to teach them right from wrong. When they grow older, they don’t have a fear of stealing and continue to do it. 

In my experience when I was younger, they would punish me and my brother harshly. They would threaten to burn my hands & have hit me with the belt for minor things. With my younger siblings, it seems like they let them get away with it because, “they’re just kids”.

Excuse my language but what the fuck is up with that...? 
What in the world can I do?",5.354676258992806,5.451269580335734,5.488341486810551,85.4227856115108,67.82494004796163,7.919002398081535,28.67040767386091,7.24861992348623,1.4374691414868108,1633,50,336,13,25,515,183,417,0.18,0.7909999999999999,0.028999999999999998,-0.9972,4,0,1,0,1,0,68.0,0,1,26,1,14,21,5,1,11,1,22,6,1,4,2,61,51,23,0,5,18,9,5,2,0,3,2,1,8,8,28,20,2,3,5,1,2,6,11,15,0,1,3,7,75,6,56,42,5,48,0,0,0,1,62,28,1,12,16,237,103,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756517412842772,0.06636519436167093,0.2592538614153023,0.0,0.05423829685823347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126837123471252,0.0,0.07456313095861312,0.0,0.4496126088380412,0.0,0.0,0.14585953719510442,0.08808664260833803,0.0,0.0898601554488592,0.0,0.07053962799375238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687046090807622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161252893935503,0.06662772434822224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267952512266625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801880362024444,0.0,0.08975012565688012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373515143394634,0.0833407134348829,0.07651131310125972,0.13598523374612614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000395678918533,0.0,0.0,0.1840604604417786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089273431082113,0.0,0.0,0.043833009413736926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16311628396096098,0.0,0.0779316351997494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106478407853102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18682363096028648,0.0,0.0,0.05863143878164383,0.0,0.12302884941912677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05404620636162992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35424807688437465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928353126491896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811304921754491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726088508061488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757884638333722,0.061401742955028225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336281823734844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398728988236142,0.1282132064570111,0.2788486563049074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597558044408582,0.05110582071625082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242471631197352,0.0,0.054150568190181485,0.0,0.0,0.08303107733637062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04704344053601104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331584421292205,0.17440609654132685,0.0,0.0
parenting,Excellent-Heart,2020/02/25,"Wondering when/if I should tell me kids about their half-sibling? My husband and I just got a divorce after 15 years. We have two boys, 5 and 1. He moved across the country with his mistress and doesn’t do anything for them anymore. 

He has a 10 year old daughter from another affair he had. He has never had a relationship with her or wanted to. The mom and I have, for obvious reasons, not been fans of each other either.

Lately my 5yo has been saying he wants more siblings/a brother/a sister/etc. I know he’s mostly playing but he does have a sister out there and I’m wondering when/if I should tell them about her and possibly let them see her. I’m not sure how or if I should explain it to him. He knows his father left with another woman this time. 

Any thoughts would be appreciated. Having them have a relationship would probably be difficult for me, because that was a very bad time in my life, but I don’t think any of the children deserve to be punished because of mistakes their parents made.",3.5340766331658315,5.22153525628141,4.6184139447236205,84.1033998115578,73.32160804020101,7.186055276381911,28.51790201005025,7.865858978985527,1.8292233668341704,792,32,154,11,16,259,121,199,0.095,0.8740000000000001,0.031,-0.9229,1,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,1,0,6,0,5,6,1,0,9,0,25,1,0,3,3,43,39,12,0,9,9,6,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,4,4,12,0,0,8,1,0,1,5,4,0,1,8,2,25,2,19,22,4,13,0,0,1,0,39,4,0,6,8,104,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18971561590843192,0.2925343139120633,0.0,0.0,0.13833634217929872,0.0,0.0,0.11478817247517313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164681081865837,0.1700633042086844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206841334112785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555679349209877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156268941033043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331982860344628,0.0,0.1573505048660595,0.0,0.15155601296371152,0.14263771204520584,0.09852573006687523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131988566722521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16336870010189108,0.0,0.1482555205991395,0.0,0.0,0.10758308839906096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637101966323451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488685113527545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725372553060454,0.0,0.0,0.1503935345246866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434186868914827,0.0,0.2995195609338463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092784164859866,0.0,0.0,0.11115526467834097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146743116249082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438403657585237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893793944067919,0.0,0.1107392740943566,0.16267518076343102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626120940693873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150936458033043,0.16454932792356322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025413502079094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981790213032383,0.0,0.0,0.1796536411593763
parenting,DoobDoobington,2020/02/25,"Worst Morning Ever (Not tragic) Hi everyone. I've never really looked for any guidance for anything but I've had a really rough day with my boy. And I'm on mobile sorry

Little backstory, I'm 29m and he's 3m. I have split custody with his mother and I'm currently staying with my parents, my sister and her 4yo.

This morning we were getting dressed for school/daycare and he didn't want to wear the pants I picked out for him. And normally I would just concede and pick some new ones. This morning I wanted him to wear the ones I picked because they look nice and their warm and I didn't really feel like letting him boss me around

Well he came unglued. Screaming kicking crying, absolutely would not put his pants on for me. I was a little rougher than I've ever been, nothing violent or dangerous, but he got me so frustrated that I felt like my heart was going to explode. 

I dont normally lose my cool with him, normally him and I get along very well and he listens very well. But when he doesn't get his way he throws a fit, he sits down and stares at the ground and refuses to listen to anything 

As I type this I feel kind of silly, like I'm overreacting but I cannot stand this weird breakdown stare at the ground thing he's been doing. It makes me think he has something wrong with him

This is getting long and I'm not sure if anyone's going to be able to help me figure thi out but I feel a little better I guess",1.8705387615797164,3.9278945802047818,3.3115492442710877,89.95845989761094,79.30716723549489,6.233495855680156,23.092272062408586,7.310402129719878,0.8803964895173086,1124,37,235,15,28,368,160,293,0.124,0.75,0.126,0.3458,2,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,2,2,9,22,3,0,8,1,19,3,3,5,4,61,45,24,0,8,11,3,6,3,0,2,0,3,0,1,8,25,0,1,6,0,0,5,9,9,3,2,11,14,38,13,29,30,2,31,0,2,4,0,32,14,0,4,11,139,46,2,0.10742218695324224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305077079195628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511209080796097,0.0,0.17679861379800582,0.095628521214572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548356811000494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950061947887148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286236427737407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799822821083795,0.06927842376904345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589800307049798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433903627095014,0.0,0.10264650311051077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629476561973986,0.07674243182336413,0.10314214552358833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244946359832299,0.0,0.12210100878159473,0.0,0.08591533611004175,0.0,0.11833764981343965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729580875725655,0.07200282755224002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186367714030278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984646423552827,0.0,0.15744316332330713,0.3229957564447305,0.0,0.09506525507453324,0.1804151641432052,0.12017794966941835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170514393824137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285061294610359,0.10374901754945738,0.0,0.0,0.3157528059728797,0.10307448557403938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14558410797513327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927962605283862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798896809513353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20645221099365016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108716988193533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269884768982168,0.0,0.1202503435101735,0.0,0.11449775831538254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124413991406774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136652775805451,0.06883179988183802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772691087958902,0.1267207781558315,0.08526673191225552,0.0,0.0,0.289756340870964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261927903694136,0.11744929801594825,0.0,0.0
parenting,notspiritedaway,2020/02/25,"Being a SAHM is extremely lonely As a SAHM there are highs and lows. I love having the time with my toddler. Seeing her learn and grow. However, I find it so isolating and it is getting to me. Before having my child I had my own career, interests, hobbies, friends. It seems all those things have disappeared. I have my husband, but even then I feel lonely. My daily happenings or musings just don’t compare to others. I feel like I listen to everyone around me, but then my gripes and concerns are just muted because what problems can you have as a SAHM /s. I feel like I have no voice because I don’t have problems or stories worth mentioning. Sometimes when I respond to a friend or family after they have shared something they leave me on read. Then tonight I was talking to my husband about something I read online and he just picked up the TV remote and turned up the volume. In this moment it felt like everything just built up and I just exploded. And husband doesn’t seem to get it, he just simply says he has real world concerns and doesn’t care about what I’m reading or find amusing. I listen to him all the time and respond appropriately. He tells me I’m playing the victim. I hate that word so much. I just feel like I’m internally screaming because no one is listening. After becoming a mother it feels like nothing about me or my thoughts even matter because everything is trivial. The only person I matter to is my daughter. To everyone else I am Invisible. I don’t know what I’m looking for here, I’m very emotional about having nothing of substance to bring up to others anymore.",3.5063961038961047,5.773373860389611,4.522727272727273,82.22909090909094,75.00649350649351,6.867532467532468,28.857142857142854,7.83500028581142,2.074524675324676,1271,55,226,19,28,413,157,308,0.107,0.7490000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9001,1,4,2,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,2,0,19,21,2,0,11,0,27,1,0,1,2,48,55,25,0,2,14,5,6,5,2,0,0,6,0,2,15,12,0,0,13,6,1,3,7,8,0,1,4,14,39,13,29,50,4,23,0,3,2,1,29,10,0,7,15,162,54,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460097171465477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938934187843938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571816862148509,0.11648675010216095,0.08974983790768966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753685278906082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810923933763794,0.11864303892002775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932797293113486,0.0,0.0,0.20156813011221475,0.1895848390130934,0.0,0.09943064989630164,0.0,0.2666518372161543,0.3014000090435746,0.10127071443714272,0.0,0.1928010014679116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297650770123534,0.0,0.11021068089052216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326951220041238,0.0,0.0,0.10413284807776364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143811887519596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796525628189088,0.0,0.0,0.1116807816320936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576441400692765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857083821229167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519358885831508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753486289464966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20240856424567372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147130084648133,0.08021704380239122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209504085621352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018470205994408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165049214504306,0.12005147648422923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387644088213518,0.0,0.0,0.08404840343027388,0.19203749419007454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623966875259805,0.10431559082776057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477528089452296,0.09218813653660143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007163964127046,0.0,0.0,0.0837338583250367,0.12300442323144167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114724443223671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702635185773681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chibiitotoro,2020/02/25,"The Snowman Hat My three year old son was made a snowman hat by his great grandma when he was just months old. He hated hats or anything like that, up until he rediscovered this snowman hat sometime last year and pretty much has not stopped wearing it since. he wore it in the summer, fall and winter. She made him a new one, in a bigger size that he wore for a long time and then went back to the small one.

He is visibly anxious if he is without it. I have to remind him to take it off before bathing. He sleeps with it on. 

Should I be concerned? I've always thought it was pretty harmless but the fact that you can now see how anxious he is without it, Im starting to worry a little.",2.8503675048355923,4.201041425531916,3.803417150225663,90.62454545454548,74.46099290780144,5.694648613797551,26.293359123146356,5.565023196281405,0.6697602836879439,535,19,113,2,11,172,92,141,0.073,0.8490000000000001,0.079,-0.2771,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,5,4,1,0,9,0,11,2,2,3,1,18,21,10,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,3,9,1,8,3,15,10,1,28,0,0,1,0,15,8,0,2,19,71,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265802446081596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34371605652271386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518597059817504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697478860159835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294472299093986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771842656849925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501920119355204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432118024104372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400223579789478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743206249991443,0.15246928468878232,0.0,0.1346258997286636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878888386622666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142477940383037,0.0,0.11182943008142728,0.0,0.0,0.14692334042137625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31925934125224764,0.0,0.20616776872876294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095317719933653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122398497863332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583942980466895,0.0,0.1522349327653762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045558391876407,0.0,0.10767490742981586,0.0,0.0,0.12718337011205033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437912033561976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077031293304825,0.08870535159233515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102146383538344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932862774970824,0.0,0.0,0.15449039276868673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959271147460513
parenting,foofruit13,2020/02/25,"24oz a day milk limit As it was explained to me, my 16 month old should not drink more than 24oz of whole milk a day because it can interfere with iron absorption. The problem is, most days she refused to drink anything other than milk. I've tried just not giving her more milk and offering water or juice but she just won't drink them usually. Just 24oz of milk a day is not enough liquid for her; her poops get really firm and she doesn't make enough wet diapers. She eats just about everything and I'm confident she is getting enough nutrients from her solid food diet. She's in the 90th percentiles for height and weight, her growth curve is normal, and she's hitting all her milestones.

I'm curious if non dairy, specifically almond milk, options can be consumed in addition to the 24oz requirement? I plan on asking my doctor at our next appointment but based on how she's handled similar questions in the past, I feel like she will tell me that she'll drink water if she's thirsty enough. 

If non dairy options are out of the question, does anyone have suggestions on how to get a milk obsessed toddler to consume any other liquids? She was still nursing 2x a day up until a couple months ago when she self weaned.

TLDR: LO definitely eats enough calories and a variety of goods throughout the day to get calories, she just only drinks cow's milk and I'm wondering how to get her to drink more liquid and not exceed the limit.",5.232599624060152,6.27787734642857,5.497368421052631,81.89710526315794,68.39285714285714,8.609022556390977,29.73684210526316,8.841846274778883,2.3132857142857146,1147,42,217,19,19,364,154,280,0.026000000000000002,0.9009999999999999,0.073,0.9388,0,0,6,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,1,4,11,4,0,1,14,0,16,23,1,4,1,47,31,20,0,6,15,0,3,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,5,11,21,5,5,6,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,3,29,2,30,23,11,27,0,0,0,0,33,10,0,10,17,132,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061516337994107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061844113897814364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358920855551066,0.0,0.07483804407648713,0.0,0.08501909224094888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543778937205075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006263016340758,0.0,0.3519028766255433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930836458230503,0.07958451729812156,0.0,0.0,0.5345349910778061,0.0,0.1861140495766862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698402891775198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173338100413398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045983331410029166,0.06496944033617208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099682015268577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375688799495185,0.08724046727118699,0.0,0.07627837186257445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04442998031569455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070491852036782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517909554210154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671852958352972,0.0,0.08910447845354995,0.0,0.0,0.09542900270014068,0.0,0.0,0.06916597591090433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681504045327358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701982460772609,0.0,0.0,0.2037531404690244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058260184036975686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948730075903473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262690994592894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948787600137991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061744083069905226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016046991026288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074363568407156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153421004390713,0.0,0.0,0.09862341395284638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rude-Abalone,2020/02/25,"6 yr old makes disrespectful face that makes me furious I am a step parent to a 6 year old girl that we get every other weekend, holidays, school breaks, etc. I've been in her life for about a year now. I have no kids of my own, and while the ""protect the child from danger"" part of parenting seems to come to me naturally, the part where you put up with all their annoying habits that kids just do is a lot harder for me.

**Let me preface this with A, I would** **never** **hit this child because it's not mine and I don't think smacking kids actually does anything helpful, 2, I did not grow up in a household where I was scared of being hit but I was aware of how I was expected to act and that not doing so was unacceptable and out of the question, and D, I genuinely hate what I'm about to say.**

My step daughter has started this thing where when you're trying to talk to her seriously, and she doesn't actually care about what you're saying, she makes a face where she opens her eyes real big like she's shocked, and it makes me want to punch her in the mouth. **Again, I never would for a myriad of reasons** but I do not know how a parent deals with this kind of thing. She does it to everything, and fine, maybe she doesn't want the lecture on why she needs to clean her room, but I swear if she makes that face at me next time we have her I'm just going to lose it. The only way to get her to stop that face is to make her realize this is serious shit and that she's in trouble, which makes her cry, which I don't like doing, but her tears have no effect on me, so I don't really have something against it either... but it would be nice to not make everything a discipline moment.

She's not a BAD kid by any stretch of the imagination, by the way. She's a moody, self-centered, spoiled narcissist, but find me a 6 year old that isn't these days. Also, when she's in MY care she's more well behaved than usual, because she has figured out I don't find her cute enough to let her get away with things. Her dad will cave on things, her grandparents would probably hide a body for her, and I have no idea what happens when she's with her mom, but with me she's more well behaved because I set that bar. 

I set that bar, by the way, because if I acted like any kid I know these days, my mother would have thrown a hood over my head, taken me to an undisclosed location and waterboarded me until I came back to my senses. She spanked me all of twice in my entire life, which I deserved, and I was not scared of getting beat a day in my life, but I knew the expectation. I can't reparent this kid on the weekends, and I know that, so I try to let things go, but I can't let this go. It's a gateway behavior to her being a brat, and she can be a brat on her mom's time but not mine.

It's just this face she's started pulling. I think she gets it from her older step sister who is... 11 I think. So she's trying to pull pre-teen crap, but she's 6 and bad at it on top of it being crap in the first place.

But like... seriously. What do you do about this thing? Obviously I'm not going to punch her in the mouth, as much as I know many a parent that would have, but I don't know how to correct it, and if she keeps it up I'm going to just start screaming at her all the time. I don't wanna be that step mom. She's not a BAD kid, as I said. She's just being a shit and I am not equipped to take this from children.",1.389526085225011,2.8309627517146803,3.0617631311119986,94.05365093588213,78.54732510288066,6.349316341431037,20.94873666976415,7.1029339738359605,0.2533489357936189,2622,67,630,30,62,869,266,729,0.131,0.8059999999999999,0.062,-0.9940000000000001,6,0,1,0,0,0,100.0,2,2,1,5,29,33,8,2,38,0,58,19,14,13,7,118,108,49,0,15,33,11,0,4,0,7,3,4,2,11,53,30,2,4,20,5,0,17,27,21,2,2,11,5,108,12,88,77,13,91,0,1,1,0,81,35,4,6,37,435,161,2,0.0,0.0,0.1175450791436372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04816324415281184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819123981718029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956141561766962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658493655394285,0.04631058965290615,0.15086025480423376,0.14685446974989969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689825034046869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888326292736062,0.12281020260297698,0.0,0.0,0.051879941123254086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661561661019305,0.11652365411679486,0.062091049535417615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540952498738698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223024701728995,0.06716865434084017,0.0,0.0,0.05074356483128183,0.0,0.10825569042513038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009216579350982,0.0512287725154718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732973973730052,0.0,0.17114101501031112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325824307171225,0.0,0.0,0.059461365282563364,0.06180993613651905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04036866562812623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798857666861774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353222922480374,0.0,0.06271680615783072,0.16549500667171874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24634339155298984,0.1276196288760028,0.1176948300819023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737823542497262,0.0,0.05120255888931583,0.0,0.0,0.32161414520666004,0.061060387784636426,0.06050578240795897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21161023483720298,0.0,0.0,0.04427353030111459,0.0446573107406543,0.09290103749550628,0.0,0.06405174402634115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959326863089476,0.0,0.0,0.04580509446797612,0.0,0.0,0.2674983471659608,0.13043922347583378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292404883025157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649345338466858,0.0,0.0,0.06054443544451076,0.06746765099759905,0.0,0.0,0.06855113278577604,0.038582745322250665,0.061923044814626314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728935245633415,0.09578932646055176,0.12059480136974192,0.060952602747406215,0.0,0.05482809603678994,0.06282954903628793,0.0,0.12364361719157058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04636543096588282,0.0,0.0,0.12788623549165504,0.0,0.0,0.05035219071002767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04528295857634815,0.04840791390279433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24007153002554524,0.11577244985258525,0.0,0.0,0.10535596225612501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266986132742602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633116537105313,0.0,0.07104649769201428,0.14341537576166366,0.0,0.0,0.10830201383191293,0.0,0.0543451996609787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566997791598384,0.0,0.0,0.11635199757170055
parenting,Momof4lolya,2020/02/25,"12yr son scared of our basement because everyone thinks he saw a man down there Our 12 yr old son is scared of our basement. I thought maybe he was a little too old for this one but we learned that he is too scared to go down there because he “saw” someone in the basement yesterday. 

We were all eating dinner and I told him to go get something out of the basement, so he did. He opened the door and was down there for at least 10mins then ran back up and said he saw a man standing in the corner in our basement. The basement light was on and he could see everything but he was truly convinced there was a man down there. So my husband went down there and looked around and there was nobody there. I explained to him that our eyes play tricks on us sometimes and make us see thinks that aren’t really there. He agreed. So he went back down there to get whatever I said get because he didn’t get it the last time. So he went back down there. The rest of the family was in the living room watching tv and he ran back up saying he saw the same man again. I asked him what he looked like he said very tall, gray hair, black clothes. I told him to come down and that he was just seeing things. He got mad and said I’m not seeing anything! He said he saw a man and heard noises down there. And now we’re arguing. How do I handle this situation?",2.692944664031621,4.124572760869569,3.1121475625823467,95.09484189723322,75.01449275362319,6.177602108036891,22.32806324110672,6.574015621080383,0.2324913043478265,1046,27,238,8,22,323,126,276,0.064,0.877,0.059000000000000004,-0.0763,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,9,0,0,0,27,9,3,3,15,0,16,4,2,2,1,32,55,20,0,1,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,7,2,5,9,18,2,0,5,2,0,8,3,6,0,1,31,24,21,3,31,23,4,46,0,0,15,0,54,25,0,0,13,139,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007380445478755,0.08662216680934758,0.09096713110336596,0.0,0.0,0.2992864553070309,0.0,0.1779488531680368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381972566474225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769020270553514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099567407165672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297919074670358,0.08745154752126813,0.0,0.091730586155958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335158966130565,0.0,0.11060145881098524,0.0,0.07782377560044453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931664174341461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047538355653615326,0.09752527083660978,0.08592218395895314,0.0,0.16342355026365438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495190828445169,0.0,0.09775604930847698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20421066306106864,0.0,0.06593645246022277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233613720995719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627971526598621,0.07738091921171282,0.29225813335228673,0.0,0.3101582588536705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937500671034464,0.0,0.0,0.08244629349295242,0.07491021808708018,0.09623722968536558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464518318955373,0.12469835516485332,0.0,0.07724937846897505,0.0567393849610922,0.0,0.0,0.18595838149340715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340921032844219,0.0,0.0,0.08028689619599652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706084012080265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mamabear1217,2020/02/25,"Failing test My son is 9 and in 3rd grade. He has always gotten  good grades and it seems that school has always come easy for him. This year seems a little tougher for him though. I don't know if it's the teacher as he didnt like her at the beginning of the year like he has with all his other teachers. He's still getting mostly good grades but every once in a while he will fail a test. I've talked to his teacher and she says he's good in class, a leader. She thinks he's not fully paying attention though. When I talk to him to see where and why hes having trouble he says he just forgets the answers. I worry that I'm putting to much pressure on him as he has expressed to me that he feels like he has to be perfect at everything, I think I'm Stressing him out. I'm definitely not trying to, but it is happening more frequently lately. 

How do I find that fine line of helping him without making him feel like hes not doing good enough? I've asked him if he tried his hardest on the test and as long as he tells me he thinks he did then I tell him I'm OK with it. But I don't want him to think that it's OK to fail tests multiple times.",3.3362803643724703,3.5643389716599216,4.428195850202427,90.81047191295548,72.23886639676113,7.3086032388663975,25.1540991902834,6.9077264865688965,0.7478504048582986,894,24,209,7,16,293,126,247,0.131,0.733,0.136,0.3137,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,4,7,18,0,2,9,2,18,0,0,2,2,38,40,20,0,3,10,1,2,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,12,9,0,0,12,0,1,2,7,6,0,0,3,5,28,12,28,35,5,23,0,3,1,0,44,10,0,5,15,120,40,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041773013297089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146994219202946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568733962093567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267724887271135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337236808267733,0.0,0.11026666253030236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407240283752075,0.1753007954477976,0.0,0.0,0.11213725250940704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410092716406901,0.0,0.0,0.4116291965509656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849515055851597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223711866109693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742770557171318,0.0,0.1384006701587272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397622898018069,0.1229685057877504,0.0,0.1085775785185622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818971230870327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901919225782304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130661795729238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333823386152043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951374434609616,0.0,0.1241697328075348,0.09776875604084198,0.22338636016732766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798110479757778,0.0,0.14054200219950275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19722858300209026,0.2144744947685784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144614780819668,0.24108635681043705,0.0,0.0715420457500778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659812398480953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236626688352497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070944663742044,0.0,0.0,0.11826964160513695,0.0,0.0,0.12459855633287295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801782367383035
parenting,will_mcd,2020/02/25,"Sleep Training 11 Month Old Hey guys! Looking for advice. My wife and I have recently started trying to sleep train our 11 month old son to stay in his crib in his nursery, instead of sleeping in our bed between us like he has been for a good while. It's been a few days and he's not taking to it well (and neither is my wife). He goes to sleep pretty easily but wakes up a couple hours later and screams bloody murder. We're trying to not rush to comfort him immediately so that he'll get used to getting himself back to sleep, but having to listen to him cry for 10+ minutes puts my wife in tears. Any tips y'all can give to help him stay asleep longer would be greatly appreciated!!",3.7371428571428567,4.765244142857147,4.620000000000001,86.87500000000001,71.85714285714286,6.742857142857144,26.142857142857146,6.742157984588678,0.9542285714285716,540,17,113,4,10,175,96,140,0.147,0.742,0.111,-0.8674,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,0,0,4,7,1,0,3,0,9,7,7,1,0,10,18,8,1,1,4,4,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,1,0,2,3,14,5,21,13,2,20,0,0,1,0,23,5,0,0,12,65,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820101790553434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921625145935443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087989862142537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451633933157191,0.14411017824572486,0.08460911785981139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708664315258293,0.12585300321964624,0.0,0.11003909630342516,0.0,0.14464157679994294,0.0,0.12990244258716124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793640777562492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919942059594516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409464129001385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016971126232968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943520536048174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753315510503919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347121269503268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188595860062424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12953800461747922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6564425021666939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285961424206207,0.27967017148906953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098641375648594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781438941915736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578099324487134,0.11330928057703316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795894046853245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319627861890016,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,F-this,2020/02/26,"How to talk to 4 year old about race? Today my sons teacher told me he said to the new kid, “you’re black” (he has brown skin but I’m not sure what ethnicity he is) and asked if I could address it with him. I was mortified, it’s just my husband, my son and I (we’re white) at home and skin color never comes up. I have no clue why he would say that! We don’t talk about the way people look (skin color, weight), it’s just not something we discuss. 

I told him I’m not mad at him and he’s not in any sort of trouble but I wanted to know what made him say that. Why would he say someone with brown skin is “black”? He says he learned it from Black Panther (the movie). I’m not sure I buy that so I continue the conversation in the car. 

He hates being “lectured” to and shuts down, gets angry and won’t listen so I was trying to be careful how I spoke to him about it, but I had a really hard time finding the right words to make him understand. He then told me New Kid was calling him and another kid PJ Masks and he didn’t like that so that’s why he called him “black”. Wtf?? So he’s attempting to use it as an insult?? I’m fucking heartbroken, I don’t know what to do or say. 

He’s a sweetheart otherwise and is kind and empathetic (although easily influenced by other kids). He has friends of all shades and never makes comments about their skin color. 

I don’t want to lecture him but we need to talk about this and I want him to really hear me. I don’t know how to explain to him that we all have differences but it’s not right to acknowledge some of them in certain ways? I can’t find the right words to explain things at the level he can comprehend. Any ideas? Book recommendations? Shows?",1.1313487986744022,3.0132741323943724,2.808256006628003,93.52565658657831,80.91549295774648,6.2046396023198005,20.86371168185584,7.285733465282438,0.4218914664457336,1307,37,302,18,34,431,168,355,0.106,0.7979999999999999,0.096,-0.7792,0,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,4,0,2,1,14,13,4,0,11,0,25,7,5,8,7,71,57,29,0,8,15,3,7,1,2,3,0,9,2,4,19,19,1,0,11,2,1,2,16,5,0,0,11,27,39,8,38,40,3,27,0,0,11,1,66,13,1,4,11,174,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450437519844394,0.10370033307073367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245374507833187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019662938955536,0.0,0.10083033788402727,0.0,0.0,0.08518953445215385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789598408666941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033245279318756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807770045169661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640625475114321,0.09142710085189627,0.051668706608040536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859075368625056,0.09763862326436873,0.0,0.0,0.1114621778874925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920003802349446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164074339837697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298422479351604,0.16305079304957598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048315242678680016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304713511687735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357711338279866,0.13202674632133565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332960349440908,0.15254828673691187,0.19102737221875732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377396954220623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856154112610853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267097086359372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25336810865796955,0.09407206637389384,0.3932275148150721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379365721217859,0.07613442484973444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18641527849758147,0.0,0.0,0.2384648609786433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570163546608668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766663815233865,0.0,0.09374117019187046,0.2834960593332567,0.0,0.06714340938929618,0.0,0.0,0.10295348329587972,0.0,0.08541377685624017,0.0,0.0,0.17499301074165596,0.15699695399153804,0.0,0.12042781912521322,0.0,0.0,0.2677128476974882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050475133632082,0.0,0.0,0.06368532353164445
parenting,ChuckYouFarleigh,2020/02/26,"I thought my kid had a behavioral disorder.. Turns out he's a super 3 year old who is cognitively well beyond his years. After the behavioral analysis (by a licensed behavioral therapist) I found out that my son's just bored, and because of that boredom he lashes out to make life more eventful.

Never thought I would have a super baby. I've never taught my kid baby sign language, fed him organic crap or any of that. I wasn't absent either but never considered myself the mom of a super baby I guess. 

So now I get to meet wth the therapist and come up with a game plan to challenge my little man's mind and provide him with more stimulation to make his outbursts lessen. 

In hindsight it makes sense and it's nice to have answers. I will ruin my entire life if I am bored. Upheave everything and start over because I cant stand when my life isnt fulfilling. My stomach churns at the thought of staying home all weekend and accomplishing nothing. So I guess me and my little busy body are just gunna have to play and learn some more, what wonderful news 😁",3.857512849800116,5.762161684466019,4.888309537407199,81.59869503141064,72.93203883495144,7.759680182752714,28.62250142775557,8.4952907291091,2.240293889206168,841,34,155,15,17,275,127,206,0.084,0.794,0.122,0.8429,0,0,0,1,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,6,8,11,1,0,10,0,12,7,3,4,4,42,28,14,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,3,7,14,1,0,7,3,0,1,6,4,1,0,8,0,24,7,22,18,6,25,0,1,0,0,14,10,1,6,12,102,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927997867778303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637363554633752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158006616738187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755112978590995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639887102656788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264449842950785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962506684046398,0.0,0.0,0.07129649053033785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006596248450799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688390973678072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891643905607367,0.0,0.2735443400369566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732711234749272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377891256024278,0.1598242765945445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157469441783448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309403060338228,0.0,0.14319537535336924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658949194767358,0.14545181991942818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316889034405866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32501007282968497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484329851481419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226969789131488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798872858374462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693967907025736,0.0,0.0,0.1757559019442846
parenting,eipandaexpress,2020/02/26,I need to find a punishment suitable for my 18 year old sneaking her 19 year old boyfriend into her room while we sleep. My daughter is on her last year of high school and it’s been really stressful to try and make sure she will graduate this year so the second semester we pulled her out of public high school and moved her with her grandparents to watch her do homeschooling since we’re not home during those times. She has shown major improvement with her grades and is actually a few months ahead in her work but lately she has been asking for more time outside and freedom with her grandparents since she feels she’s always stuck inside the house. They give her a curfew and we just found out she’s been opening the window during the day (because we have sensors on the doors and windows) and leaves during the night to go see movies with her boyfriend and other things. Once we found out about her sneaking out she promised this would never happen again but we soon find out she still has not only been sneaking out but sneaking her boyfriend in her room to have sex and other things. Her grandmother caught her and the boyfriend and kicks him out and my daughter pleaded not to tell the grandpa or his family. Should we tell the other family members of the boyfriend and in our family or should we just not say anything and try to figure out a punishment suitable for this situation. I don’t believe other family members need to get involved and so far only me and her grandma knows so what would be a good punishment for her?,9.753748682824025,7.790774928082197,8.24328767123288,75.96873024236041,59.99315068493151,11.313382507903054,36.50263435194942,9.661875296680813,3.2525555321390933,1237,41,230,17,13,373,143,292,0.051,0.894,0.055,0.2625,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,9,0,1,2,9,7,3,1,15,0,19,2,1,1,2,66,34,26,0,6,11,3,1,0,0,5,0,1,6,0,12,39,0,0,7,0,0,4,6,4,0,1,8,4,45,3,35,20,3,43,0,0,2,1,49,20,0,2,19,165,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.10547136802533287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899319673918708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894137201745497,0.0,0.10104105211328364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588511377081842,0.0,0.0,0.12177016352298345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970323950916507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075562161297291,0.0,0.054648950757737416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19756797000279666,0.0,0.0,0.2370102575297674,0.0,0.0,0.05646780963373368,0.10368104819272113,0.06142486647637305,0.09065313147122346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955755833646612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283868108513647,0.10841395557399383,0.0,0.0,0.1247108479512181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593984363520593,0.08810035926867282,0.12191996343049585,0.11444206797364907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214484034204817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626914362279924,0.11487289262403287,0.0,0.16028123645715914,0.0833586534375496,0.0,0.0,0.10142660351312796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268254478092269,0.11510263164767698,0.0,0.1644007902759938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923939242642584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595027012295389,0.0,0.21876728292871594,0.08612648441278434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788112755325737,0.12148746056807057,0.10815895522828624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863135467487257,0.0,0.12380630634924393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186496963118076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188934941781496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360829553053311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260456844838816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675967363830275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868418279733305,0.0,0.0,0.15355514143757928,0.0,0.0,0.2784022253878531
parenting,emmeme,2020/02/26,"A girl in my son’s class told him a concerning secret My son just turned 7 and is in first grade. He’s having a birthday party this weekend and invited one of his best friends-a girl, also 7.

Today he told me he had to tell me a secret that his friend has told him at recess. He says that she told him she couldn’t wait to come to his house because she wanted to go upstairs and kiss him in his bed and take her clothes off. 

I’m unsure if this was just a silly comment that I shouldn’t make a big deal out of, or if it may be indicative of something else. 

Should I talk to her mother, the teacher, etc.? I haven’t talked to him about the “secret” yet-he told me I shouldn’t tell anyone else. What would you do?",3.1513725490196047,3.4021061307189555,4.182228758169938,92.32902941176472,72.66013071895425,6.904313725490197,23.143137254901962,6.2581,0.301395294117647,550,12,130,3,10,179,91,153,0.013999999999999999,0.8859999999999999,0.1,0.9074,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,8,0,14,1,0,1,0,23,27,8,0,8,5,3,0,0,1,5,0,1,1,2,7,6,0,1,3,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,7,1,24,4,16,13,2,12,0,0,0,1,40,7,0,4,3,83,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171956961108255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247091744163156,0.1501574271133461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933530180566583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379480834435713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623954056827047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108624638048151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448468428352968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344158996695446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465505099293304,0.0,0.0,0.11322389021557427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328753903541065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690986112419394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978230243040588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930583045061707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654215773872538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282107451658915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101870927854217,0.2355821027799133,0.25618169385573153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891192543140587,0.700172317982827,0.0,0.0,0.15940392818346485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643877608030344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410466127337648,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,battistello15,2020/02/26,"I need help with my 4 year old. My 4 year old son is extremely sweet, and he is so smart. However, he is so defiant and will not listen to anything I tell him to do, or not to do. I try to explain why he can’t do certain things, I try to ignore the bad behavior and only reinforce the good. I’ve tried time outs, I’ve spanked him ( which I’m not proud of but my family insists it’s the way to do it). I’ve yelled ( again not proud of it, but I’m at my wits end and I’m human). I have talked with him, I’ve tried bribing and reasoning. I spend one on one time with him and play with him with his younger sister. 
He will steal candy, and gets up at the butt crack of dawn to get into stuff he’s not supposed to have. I’ve tried waking up earlier and earlier to stop him from getting into stuff, and right now I’m literally staying up until 1am and waking back up at 4am, because I can only be certain he’s actually asleep at that time and somedays he still wakes up earlier. We start our bedtime routine at 6:30, bath, wind down time on the couch with me and my fiancé, and then into bed. Sometimes he falls asleep quickly, other times it’s a stale mate with him laying there awake, coming out of his room intermittently for different things. We try to get plenty of physical activity (even with it being winter here) we do dance parties or play tag or have running contests. He is constantly whining if he doesn’t get his way about something and then that turns into a full on meltdown where he will scream and cry and whine for 1-2 hours. We hardly have any sugar in his diet, absolutely no pop and only the occasional piece of candy. 
He plays extremely rough, and will bite and beat up his sister the second you take your eyes off of him. He was previously enrolled in preschool last year, but we had to stop sending him due to a change in the custody agreement with his bio-dad. He did great in school and there were no complaints of behavior and he got great praise from his teachers. I’m trying to go back to our original agreement soon, but I’m honestly dreading having him back full time because his behavior and attitude wears on me mentally and physically with my lack of sleep, and constantly being on edge waiting for him to act out. 
I’ve watched all the parenting shows, I’ve read countless books, I’ve talked to his doctor, who says it’s normal and “boys will be boys”. I just can’t believe this is actually normal. Please help me.",5.383779840848807,5.303250552631582,6.173691190841828,81.14054655870447,67.76518218623482,9.323914560938157,30.597235795057937,9.035553425615538,2.3252302945693155,1919,67,396,31,29,633,237,494,0.09699999999999999,0.785,0.11800000000000001,0.9226,3,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,7,2,0,4,17,23,0,1,12,0,32,12,9,2,3,76,53,38,0,5,14,4,2,0,1,5,1,4,4,3,16,48,2,4,2,8,1,7,10,7,0,3,5,10,46,16,71,39,5,77,1,2,2,1,63,34,1,4,33,243,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.17205795467702886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995010507802149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254608924678227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336296662396336,0.07360780809307896,0.1074799552836708,0.0,0.0,0.0993232839808221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325891777607888,0.07593985748670931,0.0,0.190533820831684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683684516356976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210579652169662,0.0,0.09023290975367047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808135506096882,0.0,0.0,0.058227179861837834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310702027012153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302932068810003,0.0,0.05010192382114495,0.07394230622978247,0.07050758495456806,0.1943878516742613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897178042864561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818019251199345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681735349837183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186010718301493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884199850221661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06536764961487042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275121299462606,0.0,0.0,0.18501287766260371,0.0,0.11947557125242947,0.2011431935398379,0.0,0.0,0.0978884416688752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677043279037116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818133023706116,0.0,0.0,0.0906405654392324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528600074683947,0.0,0.07010636136691425,0.0,0.08922006975846977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822113984580855,0.0,0.0,0.06786793014074555,0.08718999554416934,0.0,0.062398313538788136,0.09396413710340913,0.0704026722728146,0.14740719067428548,0.0,0.0,0.20183843149997568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628344879372036,0.14171527582398766,0.07705351760048226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713581641276832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084319907032086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41897196423124855,0.0958900161913019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995059825876796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954840788151281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031156787355042
parenting,Lanaloa,2020/02/26,"How do your teenagers find time to work with the amount of time school, homework, and extracurrciulars take away? My oldest is away at college and did not work during high school. We were okay with it. We wanted him to stay focused on school and didn't want him to overwork himself. He considered getting a job senior year but he played sports throughout the school year and he couldn't find a place willing to work with his schedule. 

My middle is a junior in high school and I would like him to get a job instead of having to ask us for spending money. He does chores but we don't give allowance for chores. The problem is that I don't know how he would fit in the time. He is part of an academic team and an athletic team so even on days without games or meets he doesn't get home until around dinner time and then he has a couple of hours of homework before bed. 

I am a big believer that jobs teach you so many things you can't learn elsewhere but I don't know how kids are able to fit everything in. He is thinking about waiting until the summer. My oldest was able to get a summer job before going away to college and still works there on his school breaks but even that is hard to find because managers prefer staff they can keep year round.",5.63433734939759,5.841778297188758,5.2430361445783165,87.0390120481928,67.23293172690765,7.60385542168675,27.844979919678718,6.742157984588678,1.1593553413654627,992,28,203,6,15,303,134,249,0.026000000000000002,0.9079999999999999,0.066,0.8702,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,3,1,6,12,4,0,0,14,1,25,1,0,4,0,42,40,21,0,7,7,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,6,1,5,15,1,2,8,5,2,1,9,1,0,0,4,2,21,3,35,32,2,40,0,0,1,0,30,18,0,1,20,126,26,27,0.1759653841218582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832324934816241,0.08225194028657172,0.0,0.2479879062130799,0.0,0.0,0.0536334324545191,0.0,0.14973358142476167,0.09912636506940878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735117530786973,0.0,0.05674155775278907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699424672741803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622347664342485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907317046762925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412437598084873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18386930100054846,0.08440101529461125,0.050002591460160214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881521052468045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859170894947297,0.08825381380733711,0.0,0.08664522891632531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34923698367350337,0.07820305926426338,0.0,0.0,0.09670597322101736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042983899163533096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920064032021137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527668165123496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192318704223748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418755398020171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5342590892244674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377784326727427,0.0702630915317345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615203484869113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845179113629227,0.05637575648724461,0.0,0.0,0.2052136611151795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583234552615124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378894266096787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481217547704775,0.0,0.2562097907566457,0.0,0.0,0.1250007601866547,0.0,0.0,0.16997390718410693
parenting,simple1318,2020/02/26,"Is there something wrong My daughter is 20.5 months old, and I feel like I cannot teach her anything. She is just interested in putting things in boxes and emptying it and then doing it all over again. I cannot read a book to her and show her pictures because all she does is turn the pages quickly and then throws the book. Like she cannot concentrate. I'm really worried. I bought her a block set and I'm showing her how to build a tower or a castle. She wasn't interested at all, she just took all the blocks and put them inside the box and empties it,then she does it all over again. Like I feel like I cannot teach her anything, cuz she doenst want to listen. But idk is something wrong? And also to mention  that she  doenst speak at all except for a few words,and doesnt mimic words either. 

I'm seriously worried.",3.2408014739751247,4.676016101796408,3.905029940119761,89.94585444495623,73.61077844311376,6.5755872869645335,24.22339935513588,7.010146845296331,0.7415595578074621,647,19,138,6,13,205,86,167,0.134,0.7659999999999999,0.1,-0.5699,1,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,8,9,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,2,6,29,22,16,0,1,6,1,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,9,0,2,2,5,1,4,6,3,0,0,3,4,22,6,12,19,9,18,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,1,11,90,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345182834148102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768466563981512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253987002968204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944051756955002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701050810187371,0.240339957398479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287176100343931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426442284709014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650915818926755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381970492051624,0.0,0.0,0.16825652965128224,0.0,0.10776027988714612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25899410610837426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117519202448978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18688862068824968,0.0,0.18296527517990216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921521151940596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416528903301209,0.0,0.0,0.3678246650641109,0.0,0.0
parenting,hairdyes,2020/02/26,"my child is upset over witnessing violence at school and I'm not sure what to do these kids are 10-12 years old

one of the students is repeatedly attacking the other kids 

kids have been hit, had things thrown at them, been smothered, stabbed with pencils, whipped with jump ropes, etc.

the violent student also ""freaks out"" several times a month, starts screaming and swearing and has made so many death threats against the kids and teachers that I've lost count

he makes very specific threats on how he's going to kill people

I tried talking to the school about it but they either don't respond or they tell me that they have it under control - but it seems out of control to me

my child is pretty upset about the whole thing, what would you do?

thanks!",7.335611888111888,7.296902727272734,6.069361888111888,83.38558129370631,63.68531468531469,9.108041958041957,33.95891608391608,8.472884824447931,2.4943993006993006,602,23,116,7,8,178,101,143,0.207,0.741,0.051,-0.9421,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,4,3,5,13,6,2,7,0,14,0,0,5,1,21,23,10,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,11,8,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,11,0,1,5,1,10,2,18,16,3,15,0,1,0,0,16,7,0,2,6,75,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407280996807103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019832672824125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39474453283419614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625997479542875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001132707512156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946915868878578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920988048068163,0.0,0.0,0.16651293077460536,0.11746547673825802,0.17841224132318909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046252005560506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465741442462305,0.0,0.1192460241314208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199973624566332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903105504877498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561946088191377,0.0,0.16020211885827607,0.0,0.1988030108837578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455685666964306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658554813334434,0.0,0.0,0.14144299979946362,0.15381095102336453,0.16201523734401868,0.0,0.0,0.23382152927478245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261313455336467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947628512407195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519879071444253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647113740953767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500844002882308,0.0,0.0,0.11332290006855847
parenting,coriscaa,2020/02/26,"Single parents of Reddit, how did you solve a split realtionship with a newborn? Hey everyone,

My gf is 11 weeks pregnant but we’ve been having a rocky relationship lately and I fesr it might end. I really want to be a good father, no matter what the outcome of our relationship is but I don’t know how to solve the whole broken up with a newborn thing.

My gf wants to breastfeed which makes if difficult if I want to take care of the baby while we live separately. How would I go about doing the best possible job of being a father in this kind of relationship? Is there anything specific I should think about?

Thanks for any advice",4.019512195121956,5.886774081300818,5.2281382113821175,79.48708536585367,72.41463414634146,8.172032520325201,25.308130081300806,8.841846274778883,1.9428608130081304,504,16,94,10,10,167,86,123,0.076,0.7240000000000001,0.2,0.94,2,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,10,0,13,0,0,4,0,21,23,9,0,7,4,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,11,5,16,16,3,7,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,3,4,69,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750630248187487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656915559173965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106124341191031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989112988007794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477063222411568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518242147377455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379589239535644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974199952735976,0.1437760982819621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010451011297031,0.0,0.0,0.17850399447212842,0.0942060719155573,0.0,0.19336537370780826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136398461946893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144219012318118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818459074265539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190337831312916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932464432195752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981385340941263,0.0,0.0,0.5521117826924539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888393849412907,0.0,0.0,0.15781736047207542,0.0,0.0,0.11388156193400348,0.1098368258554906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033178283831328,0.0,0.13750004440468885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138049496592224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176942345360785,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ResidentEmu5,2020/02/26,4 year old hitting animals I'm not the parent but I have a babysitting job watching a 4 year old girl. She has a problem with pets. She has a dog at home whom she seems to like for the most part but she will randomly decide to strike it and it's apparently very funny to her. When she is scolded for hurting the animal she will get mad at the animal for getting her in trouble. She is not aggressive at all to other children or adults. I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced something similar or has any tips on how to prevent this from continuing. Thanks!,2.458855519480519,4.760207758928576,4.289837662337664,82.44152597402598,78.55357142857143,7.6441558441558435,27.14610389610389,8.575989854853784,2.2444535714285707,447,19,86,10,11,151,75,112,0.138,0.747,0.115,-0.584,3,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,2,0,8,0,9,0,0,1,1,19,17,8,0,2,8,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,3,5,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,2,10,2,15,14,3,11,0,1,1,0,14,5,0,7,7,61,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630243512924938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071292025609046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401689804038108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23055320669101464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460537529220662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280856288454521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229062360828974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4823671830316205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25521559610179795,0.2488996625746384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21993055819639534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092421932532461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694585746554956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116103322721839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964613978474545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492570236685801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29602520023022344
parenting,xXKonekoxXx,2020/02/26,"Is my mom guilt tripping me? My mom [60F]doesn’t work my dad does full time. I’m a student and athlete [21F]. I am going to work at my school soon, but I need another car so my sister can work too. Now my mom’s mad because of the car situation, my dad doesn’t really help my mom with money? Now I don’t even want the car.",-1.056111111111111,0.9745956428571424,1.9404761904761931,95.00341269841272,92.57142857142857,5.396825396825397,17.777777777777782,6.937597516519254,0.07201587301587331,245,7,59,4,9,86,48,70,0.08900000000000001,0.833,0.078,-0.1951,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,3,6,2,1,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,9,3,0,2,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,12,0,4,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,4,33,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957206491488012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439328738775197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498632878407466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310995999304553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732613896862444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478622937535547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8022704598975694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698077170011238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970805662214196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331559840100286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19249379198473893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998580909344942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100853537637416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740192603843036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RationalHysteria,2020/02/26,"Modern equivalent to AR quizzes When I was in elementary school, we had accelerated learning quizzes that we could take after we read a book and if we passed the quiz, our teachers would give us a reward of some kind. I looked around trying to find a present day equivalent but have not had much luck. One of my kids loves reading but he speed reads and often misses important parts of the books. I'd like to find a website that has quizzes on alot of children's books so that he can better learn to take his time and comprehend everything he is reading. Does anyone have any suggestions?",6.419285714285714,7.1293630714285765,5.926785714285713,81.06821428571429,65.60714285714286,9.257142857142858,32.07142857142857,9.23628265651192,2.6391285714285715,472,18,90,8,7,145,81,112,0.046,0.797,0.157,0.9236,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,6,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,7,0,10,1,0,0,0,22,16,8,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,4,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,1,10,6,12,11,4,11,0,1,1,1,15,3,0,5,8,56,13,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259644542645295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577365087099956,0.0,0.0,0.14739654973407304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643732996559133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219789170294566,0.0,0.0,0.10678195694001773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489549924758865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880782654526314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30266447605769325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588342995472301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17242052728233986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089141453591557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390410119107995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943759356275238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121716425099171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219767355545757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17930121978312913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.66247786053068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757039378712973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24898307401016925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654791475841784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124143243651949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19916592723926532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761948667213624,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrApplePi,2020/02/26,"How to keep babies warm? Right now, my wife and I are living in my parent's basement due to a job loss event.  
Winters are pretty cold here, and despite my parent's efforts to make it warmer, it usually is around 60F / 15.5 C degrees at the moment, but colder days drop down to around 50F/10C.  So it tends to be colder than recommended.  

And we have been worried about the safety risks with an electric space heater as well as the concern with having too many layers.",6.828666666666668,6.597515644444449,6.376666666666669,81.405,64.77777777777779,8.088888888888889,30.222222222222207,6.742157984588678,1.6428222222222222,368,11,69,2,5,114,71,90,0.099,0.762,0.139,0.4497,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,9,4,0,1,5,0,7,0,0,2,0,12,10,8,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,5,2,16,8,0,15,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,7,46,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272827757345293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547732665452907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381523829371585,0.21331354681692807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119149786448921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601947439280647,0.2433115167623693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5329595089531436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441554303024325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049495798738392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26431434585659946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21577923273926625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437208179381277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hotgirltowel,2020/02/26,"Whilst doing time tummy my sisters 6 month old has a new tendency to lie face down for extended periods of time. Should she be worried? When we get down to her level, she is obviously breathing. But her nose is all squished and her eyes are wide open. She stays for 30+ seconds every time, and it’ll leave impression marks on her forehead and nose. 

She always sleeps on her back, so she’s not too worried about her in her crib. 

It’s just a new habit and she’s wondering if anyone else has had this experience? Should she be worried?

Thanks",2.2296176720475778,4.621965130841126,3.2017672047578607,89.43284621920138,79.93457943925233,6.507731520815634,23.74596431605777,7.686295010490155,1.1767271028037394,427,15,87,7,11,136,74,107,0.079,0.8759999999999999,0.045,-0.3695,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,12,7,7,0,2,15,15,8,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,16,2,11,9,1,20,0,0,1,0,16,8,0,2,11,57,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557159582824773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085304830328212,0.19174764463635505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389955840560864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633194545507476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767401421306682,0.0,0.0,0.18305940164314916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777323174655868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815485860210386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937382956271386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614830863789064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963725635766449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18727573574384576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994669638176591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722939075847968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273695402645985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029459816053652,0.0,0.5701510444196507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mojo4394,2020/02/26,"Cortisone cream creating angry tantrums in a 5 year old My 5 year old was prescribed a 2% cortisone cream for her eczema.  She recently began having very intense tantrums, much more so than usual.  We don't use the cream all over her body, just on trouble spots when necessary.  Could this be a possible side effect?  I thought this would only come with long-term use.",5.456764705882356,7.099495852941178,5.158117647058828,82.30452941176472,68.41176470588235,8.969411764705884,31.24705882352941,9.3871,2.8464200000000006,290,12,53,6,5,89,56,68,0.16,0.785,0.055,-0.8024,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,4,0,6,1,1,3,1,11,11,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,3,6,0,6,5,3,13,0,0,3,0,4,4,0,0,8,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25593100217386844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984758234605674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396179222148865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203903555365464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693761633835281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.483548224347421,0.0,0.0,0.1752354310044832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597500513670337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22749979753256086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829179692709985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979965333873429,0.253761519058815,0.1901104747029299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367501243513058,0.0,0.0,0.2967499966183042
parenting,CTStepParent,2020/02/26,"2Yr Old Soon-To-Be Step Son Calls Me Daddy and Father is Furious Looking for advice from the parenting community.  I (38M) am in a wonderful and loving relationship with my (35F) fiancé and her two year old son from a previous marriage.  We are having some trouble with the way her son addresses me.  Around the house we call me by my nickname (Not Daddy) however he spends a great deal of time at a daycare center where all of the kids call their parents mommy or daddy.  He always calls me daddy even though we try to correct him.  I am so incredibly happy that he loves me and we have such a strong bond but it is infuriating his real dad.  Since he lives with me full time and real dad only sees him once a week and on certain weekends, it’s a difficult dynamic.  I don’t know how to explain to his real dad that the concept of divorce and parent vs step parent is too complicated for a 2 year old to grasp.  In time I know that my soon to be step son will understand who his real father is but I’m afraid that scolding him isn’t the right answer.  It turns out that we are also having a baby of our own so new baby will definitely be calling me daddy which could make this more of a challenge.  I completely sympathize with how real dad feels.  This is probably very difficult for him.  Any advice?",3.8984535663483015,5.1394662625482646,5.581142044299941,79.3279048973786,71.70270270270271,8.386994513310304,26.75899207478156,8.841846274778883,2.051728957528958,1018,34,196,19,19,348,145,259,0.057999999999999996,0.843,0.099,0.825,5,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,6,0,1,2,12,13,1,1,16,0,19,2,0,3,3,44,32,16,0,1,5,14,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,12,18,0,0,8,1,1,3,3,5,0,1,0,3,31,8,26,27,5,26,0,0,2,2,48,10,0,3,12,132,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303301928470444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080233415765111,0.07366917655600745,0.0,0.0,0.06020762397787911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881595203484916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4520265850508181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282847796864324,0.0,0.0,0.0706889185015907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912768920519082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05847729784378829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0447665420731831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976114275716455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424838730258604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021588400944752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731431484653967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817905022560058,0.0,0.07434807494076097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981467989168935,0.0,0.05909857345391222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550877381542865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787114156400162,0.09428811955113854,0.0,0.06733573831436113,0.0,0.0,0.3932357069339567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545695363039504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5038676583936746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505470075498923,0.0,0.07560939581114795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055185570117044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323802541767145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698632644004109,0.0,0.15487843845177415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011024011879593,0.09630191691182234,0.08648696228257492,0.09216926364433824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305160321766183,0.0,0.07027588178934023,0.07101836612296625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960136874545395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402876691396086
parenting,life-of-audit,2020/02/26,"Cat naps suck Hey guys, my daughter will be 17 weeks on Friday and has been notoriously taking 30-40 minute naps which is ridiculous because her wake windows are under 2 hours so she ends up taking like 5-6 naps a day 🤦🏻‍♀️ please help me!! I know she can connect sleep cycles at bedtime (anywhere from 4-6 hours) so why not naps? I can’t keep a good schedule because everything is so inconsistent. We do try to follow eat play sleep though. But if she takes a 20-40 minute naps then she’s still eating at least every 2 hours",2.5149133537206936,4.08885466055046,3.748012232415899,89.76240570846075,75.78899082568806,5.945361875637107,23.120285423037714,6.42735559955562,0.44043649337410784,414,12,89,3,9,135,86,109,0.052000000000000005,0.821,0.128,0.7896,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,3,0,10,5,3,0,0,7,17,8,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,1,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,10,3,7,14,1,15,0,0,0,0,10,5,1,1,10,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20785299663705775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994917044301668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488988590540289,0.0,0.0,0.15099972444229487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436415524592632,0.0,0.15322155121459874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14299531375456642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880764345805954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142729688151172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036822085692729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153552057335234,0.0,0.0,0.0936944803212845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329069984343952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18714209908495866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34121763886654977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136150097611591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845520801395485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750133140658008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574859708563162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675334235566772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383682391977527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeyThere103,2020/02/26,"How do I explain Furrys to my niece? I brought my niece (10) to the fair a few days ago. We live in a small town so she really doesn't get exposed to a whole lot of different people, nor do I honestly. Which is why I bring this up. However while we were there we encountered what I think is a furry? 

The head and tail and boots and all of that stuff. I've never come across one before so I'm not sure what I call her/him/they? 

I'm not going to lie, it is something that made me uncomfortable. Not because I don't respect a person who is into that but I've never dealt with it before, in the presence of my niece. 

Now, she entirely understands *most* of the LGBTQ community. Her aunt on her father's side has a girlfriend and has been apart of her life for most of her life. And she knows that it is normal and it is something worth her respect. 

However, this is something that I've never had to explain before, not thought I would have to. 

I thought I could get away with saying it's a costume but I don't think she is taking that as it is. She has really been pushing for the ""why"". I don't know how to explain it to her. I don't want her to make fun of it although I can understand why a 10 year old would. But I can't come up with a solid reason that would make sense for her not to. 

Her and I have a very good relationship. When she asks things I try my hardest to give her a reasonable answer that is in her spectrum of understanding. I want her to know that she can come to me and get answers for the questions she has. I try not to push off conversations or say ""when you're older"". I understand how frustrating that can be for a child. 

But I don't know how to explain this. Or things of the same nature.",1.5241153047091416,3.190246739612192,3.290019909972301,91.56791075138506,78.83379501385042,6.506959833795015,22.084574099722992,7.413659706084162,0.6416682132963998,1327,39,302,18,32,443,157,361,0.035,0.902,0.063,0.8766,3,0,3,0,0,0,41.0,3,0,0,0,12,7,1,0,19,0,37,3,1,9,5,74,72,26,0,7,12,2,0,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,28,18,0,0,21,0,1,8,17,1,0,1,8,2,50,6,43,59,7,34,0,0,0,0,41,14,0,6,12,221,78,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867144583994078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145158588263308,0.0,0.09190821608132664,0.0,0.0,0.05963217934076636,0.0,0.24972128499593044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988853267078264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527983486115772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810394984196138,0.0,0.0,0.0630879396141216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220453408283857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332591954408187,0.09384102881834007,0.05559523910732113,0.0820495478310672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039493392367073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150445225868871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819098793513426,0.0,0.0,0.08637977135518181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316587651962615,0.0,0.09256277735342452,0.13059563265696195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22634209248012666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584606997129597,0.0,0.0,0.10264910393765146,0.0,0.06628760379515909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781836323912735,0.08541553753007171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958449057330948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533622939411487,0.2011573019194198,0.0,0.1050256212342994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555860384543928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259274803915597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198428128574177,0.0,0.0,0.09219730816157072,0.0,0.07355095180974924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997891547531212,0.1253624490347338,0.0,0.15532155590150504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283120689195554,0.0,0.0,0.4073500456502762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807144722897229,0.11539744072124665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648109545194515,0.10921622761555898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084726095659756,0.0,0.0,0.06299500176529288
parenting,mammy-ie,2020/02/26,An evening with poo Just spent 25mins on Google looking at pictures of poo to see what kind of worms my kids had. Convinced myself definitely tapeworm until I remembered he had sesame seed roll at lunch. So could have saved myself a lot of looking at poop if I'd remembered that earlier.,7.805555555555558,7.817040296296297,6.9448148148148166,77.33166666666669,62.70370370370371,10.162962962962963,36.518518518518526,9.725611199111238,3.4264518518518523,232,10,42,4,3,71,44,54,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.8158,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,4,2,1,0,0,8,8,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,3,10,4,1,5,0,0,3,0,2,4,0,2,1,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357526113558809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502598093078036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074828882256961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4959123208589676,0.0,0.0,0.2510317673417967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6689767539340687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352954970895465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,souldancinggypsy,2020/02/26,"My favorite part of parenting (2 year old) Naptime for her became naptime for us 

She's so polite and knows please and thank you

Her singing and taking blows people away because she's got an unexpectedly wide vocabulary

The doggo and kiddo entertain each other

There's a reason behind the crying, and we're working on not needing time outs and learning to breathe ☺️",5.880000000000003,7.534544536231888,6.3804057971014485,73.8975652173913,67.40579710144928,7.838840579710146,32.64057971014493,8.238735603445708,2.722939710144928,299,13,48,4,5,97,57,69,0.044000000000000004,0.815,0.142,0.7184,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,13,5,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,2,8,4,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,31,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480506512684979,0.0,0.0,0.16094100780879236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900079258967964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21115680129941844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450956621554921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576367294428146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27703918288797497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931572573405131,0.2859023646981819,0.0,0.18303466095505,0.0,0.0,0.2898090334755008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714512471027264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850631723373188,0.0,0.0,0.2430694110444729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539491876825894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31757736859729835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922059620639662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700169134031953
parenting,slavenicz,2020/02/26,"I'm not not allowing my son to go to Milan, Italy because I'm so afraid of the latest news about Coronavirus, did I made right decision? He is 15 he want to go with his team mates to Italy. One of his friend's brother lives there so they wanted to spend weekend there. I told with other parents and they agreed about not sending our sons there. Although they all wanted to go there, they wait almost 5 months, because they wanted to see football match. I was okay with them going there but my wife changed my mind.",3.692647058823528,5.282737823529415,3.727598039215689,91.04669117647059,72.72549019607844,6.276470588235295,24.514705882352942,6.6274283507984215,0.6909176470588232,406,12,83,3,8,124,66,102,0.0,0.9570000000000001,0.043,0.2846,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,6,1,9,3,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,2,1,20,17,5,0,4,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,2,1,5,3,1,0,1,4,1,15,2,14,13,1,9,0,0,1,0,21,1,0,1,3,49,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123324429092489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25852133412614664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22431549937847264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638254450472244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820402522254042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18723962447056625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20064211099081766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410500805515986,0.0,0.1692523001543659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368718331777233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354508844833119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810852758798272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689724156160564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20261808949487087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5002785519462822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sadibird,2020/02/26,"Best way to give my notice to new(ish) employer to be a stay-at-home-mom and live more simply with my 2 year old? TL,DR: Is it best to give notice to my employer of my intent to resign while I'm still on leave (I go back in 1.5 weeks) or should I just wait until I'm back at work to give notice? I started this job 8 months ago but have been on leave for 4.5 weeks.

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Hi, I'm looking for some advice on how to break the news to my employer that I have decided to resign to be a stay-at-home-mom with my 2 year old. This has come a hard decision for me because I have spent many years and much money on school for my career (I have an MSc) and I have always prioritized my career. That is, until becoming a mom. What a perspective shift becoming a parent is!

For a bit of background, I started the job last June, but around October or so I started to feel like working full time didn't feel right for me. In December I requested to go to part time. I was denied that request by my employer. By January, I was having a bit of a breakdown and very much missing my LO, and it was clear that working full time was definitely not working for me. So I went on leave without pay for 6 weeks (they could not deny that request). I am currently in week 5 of my 6 weeks of leave and this time/space away from work has confirmed for me that I, indeed, do not want to go back to work and want to stay at home with my 2 year old like I have been for the past 4.5 weeks. 

My question is: what do you think is the best way to break this news to my employer? Should I tell them while I'm still on leave? If so, how? (go in person or phone call or email?) Or do I go back to work like I am scheduled to in 1.5 weeks and tell them then? Either way, I expect I will need to go back for at least a week or two to wrap things up (and I know that 2 weeks notice is the considerate thing to do). Any advice? Thank you!

Note: cross posted on r/simpleliving and r/careerchange to get a wide range of perspectives. Any suggestions for other subs that might be better suited to this question very much appreciated!",4.318070790257578,4.050973637813215,5.4560478359908915,86.01875547573157,70.0250569476082,8.849518135622917,26.679603995093746,8.502166056373571,1.4837113369546169,1613,43,369,23,26,538,183,439,0.052000000000000005,0.8340000000000001,0.114,0.9881,9,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,0,2,3,11,14,11,0,0,17,0,36,0,0,3,1,55,67,29,0,8,15,2,3,3,0,4,0,1,1,1,20,15,0,1,9,0,3,9,5,3,0,1,9,5,45,8,71,50,15,79,0,3,1,0,23,22,0,11,44,241,65,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118726415940597,0.0504308065647379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047338214567367164,0.06164182413758375,0.06912929602487489,0.07737622587078542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05064542082834992,0.0,0.0,0.053451356930105325,0.21872993131496635,0.0,0.03468047839861139,0.12566419577069116,0.0,0.0,0.17911208964875686,0.050315833134952255,0.12422138036978962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05809249532474903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04900691631682455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04542316539970275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753201740997607,0.04064323808128674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029723416112350663,0.16372628715649187,0.1939962124720468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096353302394093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120018297929407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291190134582382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03126603372021918,0.04637409623599041,0.0,0.3011989688640749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338281468521197,0.0,0.050236161543611865,0.0,0.0477744599403892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057678965119204076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060352800598445965,0.0,0.1998916121707413,0.04541018449606645,0.0,0.12546520760475144,0.0421842631856943,0.0,0.05494608290062585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590850111713601,0.17909390891468902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317118346041822,0.06160785817128168,0.05430929279860917,0.0,0.04967538897563562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054486249112982166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746280951541192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858495736674882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757714903797149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080410858454248,0.18191603551331376,0.09086711465473823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945120820445807,0.05237797112036295,0.0,0.0,0.0755922560645855,0.03645372141190498,0.0,0.0,0.1326953658511423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055574645587354005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388275067738208,0.06711206087771335,0.1354732709083105,0.4107137516430947,0.0,0.0,0.05273891146528295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0548412936663195,0.0,0.28992339269766143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912929602487489,0.14654482342208822
parenting,ju_adams,2020/02/26,Sea World Preschool Pass Has anyone used the preschool pass to either sea world or Busch gardens in Florida? This is the free pass you can get. Do they actually ask to see the child’s id at the gate or can you just show them the pass and go in? Don’t want to bring a birth certificate in case it gets lost.,0.6760879120879117,2.8135518615384605,1.6468131868131868,99.79461538461538,84.23076923076924,5.560439560439562,18.516483516483518,6.868970318607317,-0.20027472527472545,241,6,59,3,7,75,47,65,0.035,0.889,0.076,0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,2,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,15,3,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,2,7,14,1,13,0,1,1,0,6,6,0,2,1,30,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.3784066179908289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711371082882957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625116799398989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051866069229109,0.0,0.22037806486287126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232956816381206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090016968231005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349079230044528,0.0,0.0,0.22871620919899335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonoman925,2020/02/26,"Parent here: I’m also a teacher and I’m sort of torn between worlds. I understand how schools can be a pain in the ass. We’ve dropped $3000 one year for activities our kids can participate in and then it goes to stuff we just roll our eyes at. My kids’ kinder graduations happen while I’m giving finals. It’s cool staff is cool to cover. 

I’m always trepidatious to tell parents how to parent. Or if I’ll get raged at because it sounded like I did. 

If a kid’s phone usage is affecting grades, why is it not locked down?

If a kid smokes weed habitually, where are you and why do you allow them to fund it with a PT job?

If a kid has cognitive difficulties, why are you compounding it by letting them play football. 

If my kid has bad grades, I’d leverage their screen time and sports. 

Because these are all things as a PARENT I would do. It just seems reasonable to do these things. But some parents look to schools to fix this. And I hesitate because I know I’ll get raged at. 

Parent to me: if his phone usage is interfering with his grades, you manage it. 

I would, but it’s not my property. I don’t pay the bill. I don’t have the passwords to set restrictions. 

Thoughts?",1.89126598465473,3.994641071428571,3.4187614176105257,88.98237668980637,79.46218487394958,6.660138838143954,23.37303617099013,7.7425588080867325,1.0573834124954329,917,31,197,15,23,302,132,238,0.079,0.867,0.054000000000000006,-0.6794,7,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,3,4,3,0,7,8,2,0,10,2,22,3,2,5,1,36,35,20,0,8,13,6,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,6,15,8,0,1,5,2,3,0,4,4,0,1,2,6,24,4,23,29,2,15,0,0,3,1,28,8,1,10,6,122,39,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926453553671952,0.09287892704218093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320019040055257,0.20413226306129195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227707845684806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663638021728392,0.10707854826290668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987074773496244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076818531430273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061344849849923624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414164897068133,0.0,0.054533153482149634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373485290553896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563834786970243,0.0,0.11877429328591613,0.0,0.7436619813498049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476660120442447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259360169650757,0.0,0.10161700303157373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778114668323734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756305339667506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483141622501413,0.0,0.0,0.08861585880556022,0.0650880230505133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162030405897885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021660453973596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858695402922854,0.0,0.0,0.07188128073387551
parenting,underdog2291,2020/02/26,Oh my God y’all... So I’m in school and my husband works and we have been looking for a baby sitter and my old g.e.d teacher told about one. I set up to have her stay this morning until one. I get to school and I call at nine to check in on my daughter. Have in mind my daughter is two and she has stayed at home with me never has she stayed with anyone else before. The women answers the phone and says “she doesn’t mind” “ she doesn’t understand the word no” umm she’s two...two year olds don’t just sit there all prim and proper. Basically she got tired of watching her she watched her for four hours and I ended up missing fucking class because I’m  or leaving my daughter with something who complains about taking care of her. That was a 30$ life lesson I’m glad that I didn’t pay her 900 dollars for the rest of the semester. She said my daughter was as touching important papers that no one had ever touched before....wow why do you have important papers in the reach of children? Then I came and got her and she was talking about doing a “trial period” with my daughter.....wow what a fucking scam I’m so stressed a good day care I can afford,1.4086158192090394,3.5636514152542382,2.6950000000000003,93.25501412429381,81.45762711864407,4.950282485875707,22.545197740113,5.985473137389443,0.2771841807909605,898,30,190,6,24,289,134,236,0.086,0.831,0.083,-0.2041,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,0,2,8,9,2,1,11,0,19,4,0,0,3,27,37,16,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,2,6,16,0,0,3,0,3,1,7,5,1,6,11,7,34,4,28,26,2,26,0,1,3,2,33,9,2,1,11,126,40,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419807885027772,0.12338102559924775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340483498482715,0.0,0.10246564813367362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295880074540112,0.13772449846465287,0.2455454756502125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765873808575482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059260858589827,0.0,0.10665335631215872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108923698725573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226463923171588,0.06291269773832804,0.0,0.0,0.10099972172242544,0.1926162929677016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078765693026962,0.0,0.11858608408512425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750378096256465,0.0,0.0,0.08505379794860271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111960706268457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243172855947668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928726968799877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527139077988572,0.0,0.2447921913259755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454375125542088,0.09576010473660562,0.0,0.2437360335951031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270257323041672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3850441857942602,0.0,0.0,0.13793679584829713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905382888946455,0.09678629293465588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840115505362358,0.0,0.11506321112403448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352888530699448,0.1253579158626305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865724196547584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766471094282913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754433529966627
parenting,chimp610,2020/02/26,"Wife needs job to fit within kids school schedules I work full time Mon-Fri, my wife is on maternity leave with our second and is due to go back to work at the start of May (also full time)

She can't go back full time as our other one needs to be in school before 9am and needs to be picked up by 3pm - her current employer isn't giving and headroom and won't be flexible to meet our needs.

I always wonder how other people manage, I can't support everything on my salary, but my wife working part time would just about be OK. The trouble is finding work that would fit within the hours we need. Ideally she needs to work 10am-2pm Mon-Fri but finding flexible work like this is proving a challenge.

Can anyone offer some advice? How do other families manage to strike that balance? I only earn an average salary, I can't imagine that there's many husbands/partners out there who are able to take the full weight of the household expenses on their own, so I'm curious what kind of part time jobs other wife's/partners have to help support the finances whist at the same time striking that balance and being able to be there for the kids.",5.014666666666667,5.876778022222228,5.259111111111113,84.07400000000003,68.77777777777777,7.777777777777778,28.777777777777786,7.793537801064563,1.7366444444444458,905,31,175,10,15,286,129,225,0.068,0.825,0.107,0.9155,6,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,1,9,11,8,0,0,10,1,22,1,0,3,1,31,37,12,0,9,3,3,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,11,8,1,0,5,0,2,2,5,1,0,2,0,1,16,7,29,27,9,31,0,0,0,0,18,16,0,3,14,116,27,16,0.2017637365554164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985805941181094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067519361406812,0.0839417958850248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053894792004392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514385927891214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584303960363948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906661183075864,0.0,0.09510244715586863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440839995336916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677508050741833,0.11466698113157668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761898980803033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934831914867302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021937587597416,0.0,0.0,0.10505294169108792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068193323142238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0492857851004934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227838039826133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44881576235045495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836016478824704,0.07672520673628493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184904649569215,0.0,0.06993878525194945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419567304588612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140470560308831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22895909723463434,0.0,0.0,0.07585061004142167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529501719793565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228469378286998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094020828147874,0.44065920962054334,0.0,0.0,0.14332716956456273,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Candlesticksnape,2020/02/26,"Neighbour’s newborn is crying constantly and my god does this child have lungs I think it’s upstairs - I live in a block so hard to work out exactly where it’s coming from.

This baby is crying A LOT from morning until night and this baby has a loud guttural cry. I work from home and the volume is crazy loud. It’s actually really sparking my anxiety hearing it all the time. 

I’ve never met this person, I don’t even know which neighbour it is (although I’m sure I can track her down based on sound alone.) I’m downstairs and the sound is going right through me - this baby is louder than my baby ever was. I feel like this mother must be going mad and getting into herself into a right state. 

Would it be strange for me to knock on her door and offer a helping hand? When I say a helping hand I mean literally holding the little screamer while she has a coffee or a shower or just a moment to herself. Should I knock? Slip a note under her door? Is it weird? Will she think I’m judging her? 

I just know how it feels to be alone all day with your baby screaming at you and it’s so lonely and you feel like you’re going mad.",1.7488479623824489,3.7470771293103446,3.3744514106583097,89.65205329153606,79.43103448275863,5.252664576802507,21.75235109717868,6.1124844417494595,0.3050965517241382,882,26,180,6,22,292,129,232,0.157,0.757,0.085,-0.9426,1,4,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,2,9,8,2,0,14,0,20,3,3,1,7,38,38,17,0,3,4,1,6,2,2,4,0,7,4,3,16,13,0,2,8,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,2,13,26,3,21,29,3,28,0,1,0,0,23,13,0,3,12,122,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.1366718505790768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901060313021763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071404167998122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064354565764908,0.0,0.1513478986766378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.461526031420792,0.09032281379706836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225616159659326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250390591537808,0.12668625837331973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124455206783,0.20010825890104225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317208627592413,0.0,0.23878661090891184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254602775555195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578502856430473,0.0,0.18774959452150355,0.0,0.14048491277117658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539392987827671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684596878128275,0.14037023351772032,0.12366965939399635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906833580392814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525591382446863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801776482460552,0.0,0.0,0.13143056603532416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228916872058145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972175172334566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392095631749839,0.0,0.11137603214413762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199860937928698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794810420274713,0.0,0.0,0.08166622505446616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039209896591256,0.0,0.0,0.09948986980601746,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nogoschool,2020/02/26,"My teen wont go to school Hi all some advice would be greatly appreciated 

I am a single mum struggling with my teenage son who just refuses to go to school. There are no bullying issues or anything like that going on -he has been identified as gifted and he just finds school boring. I have been in to see the teachers multiple times about giving him extension work or more complicated work but the response that I get basically is that they dont have time to do that when they are dealing with so many other kids. 

He just refuses to get out of bed in the morning. Nothing I do will get him to even leave his room because he doesnt want to go so he isnt. He is bigger than me (taller and much more muscular) so I cant exactly pick him up and carry him into school when I cant even get him out of bed. 

He has seen drs and isnt depressed. He loves learning stuff and actually spends a decent amount of his time watching documentaries and reading so I know he enjoys it but at school he is just bored being sat there doing worksheets on things he already knows and then getting told off for being disruptive when he finishes in 10 minutes and then has nothing to do for the rest of the lesson. I have asked if they will let him read or anything but he just has to wait for everyone else to finish before moving onto the next thing. He often ends up in detention for disrupting lessons or being unfocused or talking too much when he is sat there often being expected to do literally nothing for 40 minutes +. 

He is at the best school in the area and I have even discussed this with the head teacher and the response is that they have to teach all the kids to a certain level to get them through their exams and that as he is so far ahead he just has to wait. They wont skip him ahead (I have never heard of a kid being skipped ahead here) and every other school I have looked at he will have the same issues with. 

If there is a lesson he wants to do that day (like science practical experiments or woodwork) he will be up and out so I know he can but he is choosing not to. 

The truancy team have been in touch and told me it's my responsibility to get him to school -when I asked them how I'm supposed to do that they didnt have any suggestions or answers for me I was just left with - you need to sort it out. I cant home school him due to work and to be honest he is smarter than me in many subjects. 

What do I do?",3.95393619544592,4.753931151209682,4.9683633776091085,85.42511859582542,71.15725806451613,7.932068311195445,27.28984819734345,8.124751697461798,1.5623989089184058,1905,63,404,26,34,625,219,496,0.053,0.885,0.062,0.8561,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,9,11,31,12,0,1,18,0,66,4,2,2,5,77,98,44,0,7,21,2,1,2,0,7,1,1,4,3,19,25,0,4,10,3,1,5,13,4,0,0,11,6,44,8,71,71,12,54,0,1,4,1,66,29,0,13,22,292,63,18,0.0,0.0,0.07197967051177817,0.0,0.0,0.07207796960535222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139661670159819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015971297302164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139731896042585,0.0,0.1379123410541277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044963755279209684,0.0,0.06276480736126483,0.0,0.07740716140022101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04756946181136277,0.07604390281329412,0.06352986581175027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864468318325825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161748659047555,0.0,0.0653299665330969,0.0,0.0,0.14615447088694314,0.0,0.06214645655536885,0.07048137997572676,0.0,0.07215198527193321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741581933907648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697579528585616,0.07075785425894314,0.16767931365552596,0.0,0.0,0.08132128236250492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569961873136437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398785990165886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397373073286388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161063113856095,0.0,0.0,0.07810178724003314,0.08014106875908937,0.07542517426471952,0.0,0.07207137169802673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194029680519277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657178894144472,0.0,0.0,0.14956326972016662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839580652662785,0.10844500328502127,0.054692523693424006,0.0568886942596513,0.0,0.07844519675871699,0.0,0.0,0.21232575187851288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475610495932828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6718466591883673,0.058777619807500826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711055677505542,0.08443819888044968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059285947455577075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800648259879452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290311343511093,0.0,0.0,0.14096275995145352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701178360070577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109570753496488,0.0,0.0,0.05239738847139869,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alphax4321,2020/02/26,"We need help with a 2-month old that won't sleep anywhere but on my wife! Hello all,

First time posting here.  I've been desperate for help and afraid to ask the doctor.  My wife has scoured the internet for advice but can't find anything comforting. 

So, our 2month old boy has formed a habit we keep trying to break but can't.  Since day 3 essentially, he has been sleeping on my wife.  She'll breastfeed and fall asleep.  We did mess up and let him do that. But have taken it further and now he sleeps on her overnight.  He is small and fits across her chest and my wife never moves when she sleeps so he has been safe. Now, though, he wakes up and just finds the breast, eats, and goes back to sleep.  

We need advice on how to revert this behavior.  We have tried to put him in his bassinet and let him cry it out but he will, no joke cry, for 2 hours until WE give up. We feel horrible. He won't stop screaming.  He is a tough boy and super stubborn.  The moment we pick him up, he stops. So we know we messed up.

Can anyone out there please help us.  It's our first child and want to do things right. We'll appreciate any advice. Thank you.",1.2485488505747109,3.4159818146551717,1.9127586206896543,98.56643678160921,82.14655172413794,5.073563218390804,17.856321839080458,6.21433560688645,-0.4739488505747125,879,19,203,7,24,270,136,232,0.131,0.7290000000000001,0.14,0.3211,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,14,1,0,3,12,11,1,1,7,0,24,11,9,2,2,46,34,23,0,3,6,4,1,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,7,24,1,5,4,1,0,3,6,6,0,2,5,2,28,5,24,22,2,38,0,0,0,1,46,17,0,0,16,122,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192890295890505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406537747622742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761553272937248,0.0,0.08962709035278875,0.0,0.10182005630991213,0.0,0.0,0.08374828183140402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392742258353849,0.07024063609164881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147827869502926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144639697080157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507028209872436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19909117541814605,0.1852846923633754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448040617607243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190086378636643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725852857097604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680792781486096,0.0,0.0,0.05985638517804288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22274425717433127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693425966737843,0.11575853725620325,0.0,0.16151696939173849,0.08400133024558942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22857422191687796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955506372889378,0.0,0.0,0.10430967813178048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948883356772253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301211493680056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009493548800987,0.0,0.544964184429625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211426328264746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027354420069604,0.0,0.0,0.0723577418864141,0.0,0.10700762922348656,0.0,0.06350873443687641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478911583098191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101034873267345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642404054498108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,champagnesupernova92,2020/02/26,"2 year old said teacher hit him? Hello all!
I have a concerning problem that I’m not entirely sure how to handle. Well, I know how to handle it just not sure how to go about it and need some advice.
My two year old goes to daycare, has been going since he was 3 months old. He’s usually pretty good about getting dropped off during the mornings until recently.
About two weeks ago he’s been crying during drop off. In the morning he never wants to wake up to go to school and says he “Wants to go back to sleep” and “No school today”. His teachers mentioned that during the day he goes to the bathroom every 15 minutes and only pees a little when he does and they aren’t sure why he is doing it. They mentioned possible UTI but I explained to them that he usually fakes going to the bathroom to try to get out of doing something, plus at home he never does anything like that and goes to the bathroom every hour to hour and a half. He also hasn’t complained of any pain/discomfort down there so I doubt it’s that. They mentioned that at the end of the day when my husband or I don’t pick him up at his normal hour he gets very emotional and will sometimes cry. They try to comfort him but nothing seems to work. Keep in mind this all just started about two weeks ago.
Today while I was driving my son to school I asked him why he cries at school. He tells me the usual “I cry because I miss mommy and daddy” I ask him if he gets “owies” at school and he mentions that his friend pushed him. I ask him if he gets “PowPows” (spankings) at school and he tells me that his teacher Ms. K gave him a “powpow” in his arm. I asked him the same question several times and he kept saying the same thing and when I asked him where it happened he pointed to his school and said “Here”.
Now, I know to talk to the supervisor. But at this point idk how to go about it without sounding like I’m accusing them of beating my child. I need advice and if anyone has ever gone through something like this, please!",4.191976530986434,4.867987079207921,4.703476347634762,87.99165199853321,70.53465346534655,7.074294096076276,27.091675834250086,6.775458762138228,1.0961885955262187,1556,49,325,11,27,495,189,404,0.128,0.8270000000000001,0.045,-0.9841,1,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,6,2,24,15,0,1,16,0,14,4,4,5,8,60,50,34,0,9,12,2,0,3,1,1,0,5,1,1,18,17,0,2,5,0,0,9,9,5,1,4,9,5,43,10,52,39,5,65,0,1,0,0,67,20,0,8,37,198,61,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605005483062875,0.1143441378955862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051577659221353774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04385968837049818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509730506575956,0.0,0.05307495062304282,0.0,0.30147662050684193,0.0,0.0,0.0495936653245169,0.0,0.039316339301506166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28338458096971353,0.08318954185885569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128822747328746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254964445710606,0.057124568773705565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834058612017664,0.10868181081160534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04982967309424455,0.0,0.16848324576742654,0.0,0.21992836503268853,0.054096427427667085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703385559256249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469503683627939,0.0,0.190547559406328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057327265321996126,0.0,0.0,0.07089094770997684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452888730074924,0.0646422256241687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651228663297928,0.0,0.051480322758835684,0.0,0.0,0.09564636251725987,0.09948702869870303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319266961841921,0.06188592902190939,0.0,0.20303401841206686,0.0,0.0,0.049052334298233975,0.0686285991018023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707975577380588,0.12193968079215205,0.07270987539793372,0.0,0.06561591301449839,0.0,0.06171423841008676,0.0,0.0,0.07225060464321391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368230475640636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270148118053302,0.10258007582607796,0.0,0.4569158161833896,0.0,0.05871499943336171,0.0,0.07286244872776493,0.0,0.05335199696420321,0.0,0.0645428677112671,0.0,0.0,0.09930478895574534,0.06378847924645871,0.0,0.04565080550057656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823609680430264,0.0,0.0,0.05183967423318171,0.11274519920889466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0428484687241307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03760830493438275,0.0,0.12226988173538128,0.0,0.0,0.08757749352324061,0.0,0.18901050879628434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21310065196659134,0.05321619323939971,0.07608316489651322,0.0,0.10347006578036264,0.0,0.05798990973994255,0.0,0.116395738606688,0.0,0.0,0.062172121293600474,0.0,0.04695406673019778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306699138228761
parenting,pizza_witch,2020/02/26,"Morning routine? Hello! What the hell do I do with my toddler in the morning? I am often cranky as he wakes me up nearly every single night, last night it was three times. So I let him watch tv while I drink my coffee and try not to let on how annoyed I am. But then all he wants to do all day is watch tv. Any suggestions of other activities he can do while I have coffee?",1.3238698010849888,2.9385159620253205,3.3000361663652846,91.50405063291142,79.25316455696202,5.5269439421338165,20.14647377938517,6.1826913282559595,0.001971428571428291,287,7,64,2,7,97,57,79,0.102,0.898,0.0,-0.8415,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,12,2,1,1,2,9,13,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,10,0,9,10,3,12,1,0,2,0,6,4,1,1,8,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957681006492308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565862194477412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28201255635193084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425511040796452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466041764831644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5887530941368497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5403112845080988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167864996291071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954514521607668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979893424404016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,needmomadvice,2020/02/26,"Introducing a significant other to you very young children? My son is turning 11 months old next week so I'm talking super young. I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months now. We've been taking it pretty slow for obvious reasons but we've really started getting serious so I'm thinking about how I'll ""introduce"" them

Guess I'm just looking to see if anyone's been through this before? Or just advice in general?

I'm kind of stressing about them first meeting and how much time is too much for my boyfriend to be around and how to bring it up to my ex and the list goes on lol",3.1902542372881366,5.061715652542379,4.212,85.88172881355933,74.67796610169492,7.092881355932204,27.90169491525424,7.908726449838941,1.7570277966101695,469,19,93,7,10,152,81,118,0.047,0.8640000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.5841,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,2,2,13,4,0,1,2,1,6,0,0,4,1,17,20,11,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,3,7,2,17,16,2,17,0,0,3,0,8,4,0,3,12,54,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19455589336750514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921368756761215,0.0,0.0,0.17723909601924165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694174133243548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693523367987778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040202908020428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21932847869637004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732953685698494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719185968146166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178356470737229,0.0,0.2927193234060334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117425812539621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20891946398717864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255385993784197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754703576904716,0.2047055165705023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173100572692806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092232262881574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22806565498304116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496966348305679,0.16002712804637972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757371789803765,0.0,0.0,0.11609542533524485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165610419934348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427639053741067,0.0,0.0,0.15970410414927833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sugar_Spice_weird,2020/02/26,"Buying in bulk Which place has better bulk brand stuff,Sam's club or BJ's. I have a special needs toddlers so I'll be using diapers and wipes for a very long time. Also his teacher will be asking for snacks and crafts for his classroom soon and I know almost all the other moms are single and low income so I'd rather buy large enough quantities so none of the other kids go without.",2.6795054945054915,4.686417756410258,3.4300732600732613,90.31730769230772,76.56410256410257,5.482783882783883,20.117216117216124,6.1826913282559595,0.09090622710622707,307,7,61,2,7,97,61,78,0.027999999999999997,0.8959999999999999,0.076,0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,1,1,12,11,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,1,1,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,6,8,4,7,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,3,38,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27995565488089125,0.0,0.0,0.2235773656980725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613664507076793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472628491579913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888774404548441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158889867042587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364802881820674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24741655928790476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274368223587242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073025617393513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29209812013261555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320048404324752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302340727626416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24146448236941465,0.0,0.2306800362126297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26950193763212404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,little_charmander,2020/02/26,"Tryng to convince my gf to have a baby and start a family. My gf had an abortion 5 years ago due to our young ages and our difficulties to raise a child. I was studyng at college and she had a job at a hotel. She wanted to keep the baby but we didn't have enough money and we weren't living together.

Currently I am 25 and she's 24. We are living together in an apartment and I have a good salary, enough to raise a child. Also we have a cute free room where a baby would suit perfectly, but my gf stills thinking about the past abortion and she doesn't want to have any baby. She fears pregnancy and fears miscarriages, even she said she fears i “reject the baby again"".

We tried therapy and I said many times I am going to love the baby as much I love her, but she keeps rejecting the idea and gets sad. She loves babies and many times when we are with our friends she plays with their children. Like she seems to enjoy spending time with the kids. Even she gets super emotional when she holds babies or watches videos about them. She could be an adorable mom.

 was/is someone struggling with something alike?",2.4587825899590605,4.641082398190051,3.19754363283775,90.88184012066364,77.95927601809954,6.200474035768154,21.83602671837966,7.2636822038024595,0.6663456582633058,874,25,179,11,21,275,120,221,0.11,0.657,0.233,0.9895,4,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,9,0,2,2,10,21,0,4,18,0,18,3,0,0,1,36,33,19,0,4,4,1,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,4,0,21,0,3,3,3,3,1,3,7,0,0,7,3,36,15,19,23,3,22,0,3,1,3,40,6,0,2,16,117,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133688180856452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044232882203487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541235309720456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028143394822717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412831709405191,0.0,0.2595568900531454,0.0,0.16591532040656984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840456577899333,0.4240049854345812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703830079893352,0.0,0.13124170292217766,0.0,0.07138141297153013,0.10534737779525907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178718842577692,0.0,0.0,0.12463868685882105,0.22327822242681591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613618488106443,0.0,0.2218143218914087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34007689476437963,0.0,0.0,0.2546775100284584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710128137125972,0.0,0.0,0.09233050154403392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989947663564406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23894885316128034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434158449419675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642052983857908,0.0966930684377222,0.0,0.0,0.08890037443151956,0.0,0.1003043763697581,0.0,0.0,0.1313044615373986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363462365576224,0.0,0.0,0.08047945192210107,0.0,0.0,0.21971522870669824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527420141460308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816434831910355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922268450574232,0.0,0.0,0.08088232568746144
parenting,orinreed,2020/02/26,"Chocolate Guy *WARNING ISN'T A RACIST POST*
So we're an asian and just immigrated to US 4mo ago, my kids usually see people and all on same skin color, my 3yo few days ago :
🙎 Who did you waving with?
👶 Someone
🙎 Who? 
👶 That guy mommy, the one have chocolate color
I saw a black guy smiles at her and feel like chocolate color?? Am I need to run out of the stores now?",-1.0332251082251105,1.0458293896103896,1.3176948051948079,97.04416125541128,99.25974025974024,3.6056277056277057,15.507575757575758,5.46131890053228,-0.7958995670995668,281,7,63,2,12,94,60,77,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.884,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,4,1,1,0,1,10,8,4,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,8,7,1,7,6,3,10,0,0,6,0,9,3,0,0,6,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3983536522362612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490842485339026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361155421123514,0.16052075537999688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6674443186289754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977367151218848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666070448957167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522578215743789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15577386507194207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151938250575945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790512647948827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19038168684752454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702780659556442,0.0,0.24746764334153315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Springvalegrocery,2020/02/26,Is reduced water privileges acceptable for punishment for bad behaviour? My daughter loves to drink water throughout the day. Her mother and I have found a system that works to keep her behaviour in check if she misbehaves by reducing the amount of water she has access to the more she misbehaves. Some other parents I have spoken to have told us that we can not do this. My wife and I think it works. Can we continue using this system?,5.671851851851853,7.414309209876543,6.136728395061732,75.11027777777781,68.01234567901236,9.844444444444443,29.549382716049386,10.125756701596842,3.272323456790123,350,13,58,9,6,113,56,81,0.135,0.77,0.095,-0.5661,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,4,0,8,5,0,1,0,12,14,3,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,4,1,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,13,3,9,12,3,5,0,0,0,1,14,1,0,2,2,46,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24359279601713804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881497730815669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28579657614582404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31988058579663303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593141330197661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26330899081088355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239455136842184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18693680981741054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787724549311815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509302984276383,0.25197184379026344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247840198727108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nov2018babyboy,2020/02/26,"US parents - what do you call childcare during a vacation? A Brit here looking for some childcare in Orlando, FL while on vacation.  


We've had a couple of holidays where during the daytime, our child has been looked after at the equivalent of a daycare centre inside the hotel. We call it a 'creche' in Europe and these are really common for children aged 4+ months but googling that isn't coming up with anything in Florida.  


I'm not looking for a babysitter, I'm specifically after what is essentially a vacation daycare centre. Do you have these and what are they called? Thanks!",5.726191588785047,7.539686420560749,6.388866822429907,73.07993574766357,67.97196261682242,9.088317757009348,33.00116822429907,9.516144504307137,3.4537299065420566,465,21,74,10,8,152,74,107,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.7432,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,8,17,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,6,1,14,15,1,14,0,0,3,0,12,7,0,1,6,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17177966869094574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6394571431775123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981566883818156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309728022639163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.525880658070385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661857776230102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23178705086846815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337276412718211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921847081441768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510950005383463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,khushboop,2020/02/26,"Help me make this request rock solid. Dear Mohammed Sir ,

This is Khushboo Patel , daughter of Mrs Hemu Patel from Xxxxx school in xxxxxx. I write this to you as a supporting request to sincerely consider and approve my mother's request for leave from work for 4 months to help me with the delivery of my first child and aftercare at my home in United States.

I am almost 5 months into my pregnancy and due in the last week of July or early August and there are things regarding pregnancy, baby and motherhood I am discovering everyday. I cannot imagine the overwhelming emotional state I would find myself in once the baby arrives. I will need all the help, mental and emotional support from my own mother who would understand me the best at that time. I cannot imagine going through the delivery and postpartum period without my mother. No matter what technology evolves into, it cannot replace the presence of the mother for the woman having her own child for the very first time. 
I see my mother working very hard at her job as a teacher and In-charge on and off the clock.Her becoming In-charge of the school has added much more responsibility to her lap and taken time away from her family time, yet she happily takes on each task and excels at it. Being with her daughter and helping her welcome her first child into this world is a once in a lifetime opportunity for my mother and she deserves this moment. Please consider my mother's leave application which would allow her to come to the US for this marvelous opportunity.",9.974943120260022,8.413919045774646,9.591267605633805,65.20833694474543,59.24647887323944,12.541278439869993,39.099674972914414,11.362043627235082,4.506198049837487,1235,49,204,27,13,401,151,284,0.013999999999999999,0.784,0.20199999999999999,0.9945,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,10,2,10,0,1,18,0,15,0,0,2,1,36,25,16,0,4,2,9,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,6,13,20,0,0,4,1,0,2,5,1,0,3,1,2,33,9,43,19,7,39,0,1,1,0,37,17,0,2,18,149,46,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161239610621622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089545905571093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807617789561232,0.0,0.0,0.1216999624351732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998950973077872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608939977374412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932314270272384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105991519811481,0.29592380626841563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590658346042537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038834408119536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31092030513501506,0.0,0.11632411792153685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507911760075415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945283891380971,0.0,0.2455841139578278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740871432046488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686722070752448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18512712653343533,0.0,0.08524891358457462,0.08598788482321894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24700163417107865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729668082143386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23472910920038945,0.0924104952720992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631954151405257,0.0,0.0,0.08719257299506095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704316393290904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27048460666849805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072548932397087,0.1394937364154269,0.0,0.0,0.1913694478103717,0.0,0.0,0.09302154169602812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117878205570984,0.0,0.16885036819876548,0.0,0.0,0.24713838203032956,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alwaystrying79,2020/02/26,"Kindergarten after staying home with Mom Big rant, sorry but I need to get this off my chest.

I'm getting ready to register my 5 year old son kindergarten to start in September. We were not able to send him up daycare/preschool for financial reasons and as a result of staying home with Mom he is very clingy. In the past I had tried leaving him at YMCA children's area but he got very upset. Then last summer I signed him up for a short summer class. 4 days/ 2 hours with others his age. He cried almost the whole time for me and the teacher there said they almost called me because they couldn't calm him down. I have signed him up for rec soccer coming in spring and safety town class for upcoming kindergarten students this summer.

 Needless to say my anxiety is through the roof. I'm afraid he won't adjust to bring without me all day. I took him to be evaluated last year for ADD but was told unless it caused problems in school he was fine. He can't focus on one thing for longer than a few minutes, doesn't listen instructions, never sits still for a meal or even to listen to a book. Never picked up on the routines I tried to set for him.

I feel bad I haven't done enough for him and honestly gave up for awhile. He's only calm and quiet when he watches videos. Ha can't entertain himself at all and still can't fall asleep and sleep all night without mom. I'm trying to prepare him by talking excitedly about school, all the things he'll learn and friends he'll make. He's nervous and sometimes says he doesn't want to go. 

I know I should've done more but had a hard time since hubby works hours away from home, 12-14 hours and I'm recently into sobriety, trying to make some positive changes for all of us. So here we are. Any and all advice is appreciated.",4.562059925093635,5.393623202247195,4.812415730337079,86.97972846441948,69.78651685393258,7.506367041198501,26.911985018726593,7.492282038375204,1.2781108614232206,1404,43,289,14,24,441,205,356,0.09300000000000001,0.813,0.094,0.7545,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,2,1,8,13,0,3,12,1,21,4,3,6,8,55,46,21,0,4,9,4,2,0,1,3,0,6,3,1,6,19,1,0,5,4,0,6,13,5,0,1,12,9,32,8,57,29,11,59,0,0,1,0,44,21,0,4,28,167,38,9,0.093248166191951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112102878905527,0.0,0.0,0.1867491375430794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341195062639582,0.0,0.07133459190538785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760972167926426,0.0,0.07785832379177518,0.0568432166124261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521680345197543,0.0,0.0,0.09579155306867862,0.09864419556548658,0.08032503841745843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242873196529982,0.12027470593098348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190850498172328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635028248232158,0.0,0.06158953432538314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047149074620552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720433018878239,0.0,0.09743663631833152,0.0,0.052995081751718916,0.0,0.07457907688579875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353204110155525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806065410438125,0.0,0.2754919808591665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05124675348887344,0.15201940222678387,0.0,0.09873634402497472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448775003400896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276333757288502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691423336881081,0.14383746866866584,0.0,0.0,0.08750708716713161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784826438852696,0.0,0.06318737069317516,0.07091943231227624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901592588015231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892259016057754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587464530547396,0.09207131457196133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870035966374124,0.1483093689263554,0.0,0.18874424493650588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713584667394313,0.0,0.0933155089023807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222482071327516,0.10438368771207944,0.06600153197634036,0.1987802761946355,0.14893621194891762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749493438073332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389987636021953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874751117683007,0.0,0.0,0.08910261885878157,0.10360214368425268,0.2532375354957933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216606258504068,0.0,0.0,0.15387900569268104,0.055000184396691236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410824746931792,0.0,0.17977580928094064,0.0,0.0678857755680396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009752353279292
parenting,CSArchi,2020/02/26,"2.5yo sleep issues Hey r/Parenting, looking for some support. Right now my 2.5yo sleeps fine throughout the night but wakes ungodly early. I'd like to look into an okay to wake clock. Do you have any tips to help that be successful or particular clocks that are better than others?   We're also considering he's dropping his nap and I'm seriously bummed about that because it's only ever been a 1hr nap and that's my 1hr to get personal things done during the week. I'm a SAHM  


Additionally, we are still bedsharing part of the night. He goes to bed independently in the evening then somewhere around midnight-2am he'll wake, call out for a parent, usually me (mom) and I'll sleep in his room the remainder of the night.  We're currently trying for another child and I'd like to take this time before I'm pregnant to slowly break this habit as well.

​

We used a few toddler books to help wean from nursing so I'm hoping there are toddler books to help us slowly get him sleeping more independently. He seems to react well to reading a book about the situation we're in.   


Thanks!",4.345814804390656,6.296643181818188,5.069777652687872,80.61197298057982,71.72727272727273,7.979848015761329,27.12665353222629,8.671277953709913,2.0354090064734027,871,31,163,16,17,281,134,209,0.009000000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.205,0.9919,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,0,2,12,12,0,0,13,1,8,7,7,4,1,20,23,10,0,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,9,10,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,10,11,27,19,4,24,0,0,2,0,20,8,0,4,16,87,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438875133019796,0.0,0.12788573069264425,0.1434196774364921,0.08026462002193724,0.12376501236915992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050719497595302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195014720650887,0.0,0.10043505265493813,0.0,0.0,0.10438816786976347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052208571541735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078592887838753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795786947290621,0.10676512193239494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333187219525657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23733957347738144,0.0,0.0,0.1172306739556886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319291975694205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532724014814953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19823137304588606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823560674610036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322901928413161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976732667086365,0.0,0.0,0.26211725783854584,0.12781526291398915,0.0,0.0,0.10305946498940688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180621944748102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079719184898857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745031016401424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267095055832126,0.472461975398406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425911316005543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393933330392382,0.0,0.0,0.08874406182020125,0.0,0.0,0.10866639984525936,0.0,0.0,0.07841405601453315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688243901718605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013479462891969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197586265383785,0.1019402429681554,0.12999364938512034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467675013272474,0.0,0.2122467460810213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434196774364921,0.0
parenting,irmaluff,2020/02/26,"Chocking hazard question I have this load of wooden blocks I’ve been given and I don’t know enough about choking hazard info. My baby is 7 months old. Should I remove all the blocks that can fit in her mouth basically?

I don’t know if she has a big mouth... I’m doing baby led weaning and the advice is to give ‘large fruits like big strawberries whole’ but there is no strawberry too big for her to suck right into her mouth whole so I’ve had to cut those up. I’m not concerned about choking hazards when it comes to eating, I know how to cut her food correctly for her. I’m just looking at these blocks and I think all the nice colourful ones are unsuitable, being they’re about the size of a strawberry and smaller...

Did I hear right that if it can fit through a toilet roll tube it should be out of their reach?",2.3474899598393577,4.301214030120486,3.156120481927712,92.14570682730923,77.3734939759036,5.8724497991967874,21.30763052208836,6.742157984588678,0.32396112449799164,643,17,136,6,15,203,104,166,0.14,0.7909999999999999,0.069,-0.8992,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,9,5,3,0,7,0,18,6,3,2,3,28,31,10,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,8,7,3,3,6,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,4,4,15,2,19,23,5,18,0,0,2,0,10,12,1,3,4,88,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423563544271728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18003786262256033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21386258462210767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21595631029822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527276565984153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049503900100613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23556194313270354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34458829324917023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210847001218623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755101586071826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682446422692349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193138369916883,0.0,0.14162606565110708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341315625805147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35697540418043805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339208948632517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4666895086522048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lizacovey,2020/02/26,"3yo with new sibling is weaponizing the potty. We have a 3yo and a 10 week old. Let me preface this by saying that my 3yo is a self described ""potty pro"". She's been potty trained since 2. She can handle every single step from moving the step stool, turning on the lights, wiping after pee, washing her hands. The only thing we still do is wipe after a BM. 

Also, I have been spending as much time and effort I have in me to carve out special time with her. We go on ""date nights"", I (Mom) have taken over some things that her dad used to do with her (music class, some of bedtime). I focus on her 100% at times. And I totally get that bids for attention, even negative attention, are totally normal.

Okay, so, I am second guessing my approach with the way this is manifesting. Here's what happens:

Whenever parents are unavailable or busy for some reason, she will scream for help using the potty. We tell her she is big enough to do it on her own. Sometimes there has been some yelling at her to go to the potty (believe me, I know this is counterproductive). She runs from bathroom to bathroom, sometimes runs in a circle, and eventually pees on the floor. The first two times this happened, I have to admit I lost my shit and yelled at her. (My husband once picked her up and put her on the potty when she started doing this, epic tantrum ensued.) So I then resolved the following:

When she starts this, I will stay stone cold calm. If she says she needs help, I will say ""you are big enough to use the potty by yourself. If you don't go right now, you will have an accident."" Let her make her own decision and have her clean up with a minimum of drama.

So, that's what I did last night. (Of course, I am doubting myself.) She still seemed to enjoy the attention with the clean up. I had to help her out of wet clothes and I gave her a quick bath. She wanted to do the normal fun stuff we do after a bath but I refused. I tried to stay totally calm but I think my irritation came through a bit. Feigned helplessness pushes my every last button.

Any advice?",3.1974747474747467,4.8722400740740754,4.055622895622896,87.84484848484848,74.18518518518519,6.686868686868688,24.37149270482604,7.348242739294969,0.9982839506172844,1590,49,323,18,33,510,207,405,0.057999999999999996,0.8809999999999999,0.061,-0.575,1,0,0,0,1,0,69.0,5,3,0,4,14,14,3,1,25,1,38,5,4,6,3,56,63,21,0,6,5,4,2,0,0,4,1,6,4,1,16,22,0,1,10,3,1,13,2,7,0,3,9,10,64,7,51,48,14,62,0,2,0,0,50,21,1,10,25,238,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965422906260192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155382198705187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935028211389414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489717583620558,0.0,0.0,0.11133636561194576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663859985929308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074637212377387,0.0,0.06735720220772927,0.0,0.17184605090590366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674461755703909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053280636773949216,0.0,0.1738737178320175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234309111712902,0.0,0.18036215588106247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050662717016429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05604585218981082,0.16625554532026268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20856407677457348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132383487508944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807281986519415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943840665298408,0.0,0.10838920274707448,0.07496745022946404,0.0756172976846942,0.0,0.0984934663671814,0.0,0.1914037061487137,0.19983860480482946,0.0,0.0,0.1070114493036048,0.10860597477260514,0.0,0.07756081605485726,0.0,0.0,0.11323735023635105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251863630452557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485300694624076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709084636674458,0.0,0.24329711845108426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928392773934914,0.1063879717357666,0.0,0.10468158575742284,0.08435937824163546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172277531884086,0.0,0.14436473936832644,0.2173954293567724,0.1628836238848127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674334972167465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913550987953844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550271351976234,0.06534502905940849,0.0,0.0,0.2378627531498055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923811030483489,0.11092557162523878,0.09962019487223046,0.0,0.0,0.2642353981119562,0.0,0.0,0.06015078020071201,0.08094742668609624,0.08180265887431598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darrellet86,2020/02/26,"Is my 3 yr old daughter the only maniac? Lol So my 3 year old likes to get up in the middle of the night (usually around 4 or 5 am) and needs a cup of juice, something to eat, and to use the bathroom. Normally it’s not a big deal but I don’t go to sleep til 1 on work nights and I’m DRAGGING. 😂 does anyone else’s kid do that? Normally her bed time is between 7 and 8, with official wake up time at 7am for school. Any advice from anyone who has gone through or currently going through something like this?",0.8119090909090899,2.4096409181818217,3.0745454545454542,92.6118181818182,80.72727272727272,6.581818181818183,22.81818181818182,7.554174236665415,0.8175636363636363,391,13,92,6,10,134,83,110,0.02,0.904,0.075,0.6747,1,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,6,1,6,3,2,1,0,14,13,9,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,6,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,19,12,0,21,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,2,12,48,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045889138481174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862388899654472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439423492923104,0.17873244647479214,0.0,0.15528689105509336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983802042567454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265195587432628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849372370474284,0.14572064823189798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911367070137975,0.0,0.198274383076994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044328783806476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934364004513146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273966781335325,0.3418246004343665,0.0,0.0,0.366086882320179,0.0,0.0,0.13266803470334412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654066890322762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456407601951812,0.0,0.0,0.26858194163174426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343251653767971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506585100985993,0.19211892152111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269930135546941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233241652074122
parenting,exhaustedmum,2020/02/26,"So done with job. Should I show up to work tomorrow? Posting here because I feel that other mothers'/parents' opinions would be best   


Please help me make a decision! 

I am 27 weeks pregnant with my third child. My husband has just started a new job 3 hours drive away and has left to start work while we sort out somewhere to live. My eldest has just started kinder and my youngest is in childcare a few days a week while I work. I’ve been in a casual role all summer but now that we’re moving I’m ready to quit and just focus on buying a house and organising the move. The job is way more physical than I had expected it to be and even if we weren’t moving I would be ready to stop now as I’m starting to get back and pelvic pain. 

So I gave my boss my two weeks’ notice last week and asked if it would be ok to stop at the end of last week but said that I would be happy to finish off the two weeks. She said she would like me to work as long as I can and I said ok, even though I really didn’t want to. So anyway tomorrow would be the last shift of my final two weeks and I can’t decide whether to show up or not. I’ve worked Tuesday and today (Wednesday) and I’m absolutely knackered. What with rushing the kids around in the morning, doing several hours of physical work and then having to pick my son up at 3 and then my daughter. I have been taking them to my mum’s house and napping on her couch while they watch tv at 4pm. The kids and I were so tired this afternoon when we got home that they were going crazy and I ended up turning into a psycho dragon mum and then feeling awful and crying and apologising. After they fell asleep I had a complete meltdown. 

I REALLY don’t want to put my daughter back in for another day at daycare tomorrow but I’ve already booked her in for the day. I also really don’t want to work because it’s just so exhausting and too physically demanding for my current state. BUT I also feel like I should just show up, do my last day of work, tell them I’m done and they won’t see me next week except to drop my uniform off etc. 

So should I call in sick and leave my co-workers to pick up the slack or should I just show up and do this last day?",3.5202846299810235,4.106253799564271,4.65815447325884,88.03782416192284,72.00653594771242,7.7526460046384145,25.04610302902523,7.831003766801068,1.09257770749877,1710,47,382,21,31,563,212,459,0.08900000000000001,0.8190000000000001,0.092,-0.8059999999999999,6,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,6,10,26,9,0,0,18,3,42,5,1,4,1,77,68,51,0,16,17,6,3,2,0,11,4,3,2,3,11,32,0,2,5,8,1,8,7,2,0,4,15,8,53,7,59,36,5,92,0,0,2,0,31,26,0,6,56,256,64,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007045008422075,0.1015569568278026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658207594036655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565257369928133,0.05936106561565195,0.0,0.05965746348481001,0.09765045184930082,0.0,0.07741428815011467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666361190286292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648374731273802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657533146054744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974840485609657,0.2047513603425297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299588265724196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247888043659428,0.0,0.07081587057789646,0.0838782574498838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963178792354469,0.04536222522674927,0.0,0.06955779192265941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0331745293891247,0.0,0.036086773178574984,0.0,0.05078430191039435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759367126983633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04256065911366008,0.0,0.06369260608316799,0.0,0.1250633869806683,0.14653388248404034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903273981464705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587923966511557,0.0,0.06723408915574397,0.06898960897559785,0.0,0.0,0.06204279314927282,0.0,0.05606895961170758,0.05619279203785213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042384699206947714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20246158884617796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06132573843847916,0.06752971396808229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722916848192845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756521894705105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970057020095591,0.0,0.0,0.06081251447241024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383196070735292,0.0,0.06753680960362167,0.0,0.0,0.12203329333125355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120038620034554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050598838645709035,0.0,0.0,0.07173346630618363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977383826123855,0.0,0.0,0.10617256682085488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04774179511851755,0.0,0.05549912259230277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062385419237804614,0.0,0.0,0.07298038950598115,0.0601876727647215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690664349883704,0.18608184601248973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235641762391384,0.0504009138810612,0.4074673089885282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160387442758175,0.0,0.0,0.27063841782676284,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sentinel203nl,2020/02/26,"Saying Hello & Goodbye Hi everyone,

My daughter (4 years old) is having (and has always had) a very hard time saying Hello (+ shaking hand) and Goodbye (+saying thank you for the fun time or something like that). Hard time is a bit of an understatement she completely refuses to do it 'stubborn toddler tantrum style'. She has a shy nature however no matter where we go after the initial 5-10 minutes she is fine and much like any other kid.

The above wouldn't really cause 'worry' if it was just for new people, that makes sense to me (I was like that as a kid) however if with people she knows and sees very often (even daily) she does this. grandparents, teacher at school, etc.

Does anyone maybe have similar experiences with their children?

Tldr; Child (4F) refuses to say hello or goodbye when meeting people she is in regular contact with.",4.528461538461542,6.6169439235668825,5.429554140127388,77.64571288584031,71.54777070063695,7.888094071533562,28.63743263106321,8.617729084823388,2.4592296913277805,664,26,111,12,13,217,110,157,0.087,0.816,0.09699999999999999,0.4033,3,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,1,1,0,5,9,2,1,8,0,13,1,1,2,0,22,18,10,0,3,5,1,3,3,0,1,0,4,0,4,7,8,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,3,8,12,6,13,14,3,13,0,0,1,0,26,3,0,5,11,69,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013416480730793,0.1564336367065363,0.0,0.09818207505164694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095254104841532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762351747231929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483161038226744,0.0,0.0,0.15137771578888573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526925379907307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101977255698632,0.09536038904019516,0.0,0.0,0.13795948438226455,0.0,0.14122950896677605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205341489289505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586688801601465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934644097044079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21160757525476734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637351868310147,0.0,0.1450472309937033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613453327805854,0.0,0.0,0.13944129154482635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515005538067893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002808362137819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249232305426022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592611155137226,0.0,0.14611836916280435,0.11505067188883428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114933329985953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292397848869833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25256413495973395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382541451027798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662299289649786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297477803896256
parenting,PinkSaphron,2020/02/26,"Broken My spouse has unknowingly taught our children to discount what I say. They don't believe they should get ready when I say it's time for bed because he often tells them they can stay up anyway. 
We can't empower the daughter if we are tearing down the wife.",6.348397435897432,6.350863711538459,6.1469230769230805,81.86474358974361,65.73076923076923,8.471794871794872,32.717948717948715,7.793537801064563,2.1844794871794866,211,8,41,2,3,66,45,52,0.061,0.889,0.049,-0.1531,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,10,0,4,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,3,2,28,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23579439347649364,0.0,0.0,0.4357998371424633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020910667293964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6152100422344298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41228555889074864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380869930562092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22555068984619556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cheyenne_010,2020/02/26,"Parents, what’s the most outlandish thing your child has ever asked you in relation to your age? I.E. “Was there color TV?” When you’re only like 30 Just a post for a good laugh, thinking about how I, as a an intern in an elementary class was asked if I was 40 when I’m 21 and at the time was was like 19/20 lol. Have been asked if I was alive when computers and phones came out and IM 21 YEARS OLD! 😂 these kind of things just make for a really good laugh when I look back.",1.2956655665566537,2.9281048811881227,2.455973597359737,97.44246424642463,79.39603960396039,6.073047304730473,17.16281628162816,6.937597516519254,-0.37567414741474137,367,6,90,4,9,117,70,101,0.0,0.773,0.22699999999999998,0.9721,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,0,11,7,0,0,8,1,9,0,0,2,1,14,17,11,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,2,7,7,10,9,1,16,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,3,12,54,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5617634606112794,0.0,0.0,0.15401917960924133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290910939462412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811838095320176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360061135905288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163595564113036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085827691795483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957139966185477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820247421231266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370253749389668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101823068461869,0.0,0.0,0.15233801004817832,0.0,0.0,0.22241066398699946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19183308242076103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831801162852235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661422968929201,0.12834485504136556,0.0,0.0,0.11679718033714905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898733922559175
parenting,xxxxxxxxxB,2020/02/26,"Kid pushed my baby at the park. I’m still seething My baby is 13 months old and just the sweetest little girl. She loves playing with other kids and is so friendly. She goes up to all of the kids when we go to the park and likes to make friends and interact in her own little way. 

Today we were at the park again and a little girl, she’s probably 3 or 4 years old comes up to my baby and pushed her to the ground. My baby started crying and I felt so mad. I told the girl it was not nice and to keep her hands to herself. Her parents were not with her. 

Our first run in with a naughty kid and I can’t get over it. Advice would be nice but just moral support is really what I need right now. If this sounds silly, sorry. She’s my first child and I love her to pieces.",0.6251590909090936,2.426319103030305,2.0912689393939417,98.43690340909092,82.21212121212122,4.852272727272728,17.585227272727273,5.602791699666715,-0.6698409090909094,592,12,142,3,16,191,96,165,0.055999999999999994,0.8220000000000001,0.122,0.9049,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,2,10,11,1,0,9,0,9,3,1,1,1,29,22,16,0,3,7,1,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,8,5,16,0,1,1,1,0,5,3,1,0,2,5,3,24,10,19,15,3,30,1,0,0,2,29,12,0,2,13,94,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520046856158867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681236664345622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446013731896454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249544967121045,0.0,0.0,0.27019034549133003,0.0,0.0,0.24541325659521626,0.0,0.08297871420371035,0.0,0.09026304497029974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116960839538464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759313087378905,0.4775485604928336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866887869696096,0.0,0.10601590759133717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677138815383826,0.0,0.0,0.11776559953771075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333170549729708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635468138852653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123857622252964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174638954578216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563438592308125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778988514939964,0.11241607809569708,0.0,0.1268366379717416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18023100535222808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054609029563204,0.1517626433845592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260666874723898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282364482088306,0.0,0.0,0.10227711524485483
parenting,missmuggle,2020/02/26,"Parenting book advice Apologies because I know advice like this has been given before but I’ve not been able to find it. 

My son is 11 months and we’re trying to establish a few basic ‘rules’; we sit down in the bath, we’re gentle with the cat, we don’t touch electrics. 

I’m wondering if it’s too early to do this though and, if not, what the best way to do it is. 

Does anyone recommend any particular books for helping establish rules and routines with toddlers? 

Thanks!",4.052857142857143,5.491600430107528,4.817235023041476,84.18870967741938,71.58064516129029,7.894930875576037,26.1889400921659,8.418075326091056,1.701532718894009,372,12,73,6,7,120,67,93,0.046,0.795,0.159,0.8818,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,15,13,7,0,2,5,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,4,3,9,10,2,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,3,43,10,2,0.246114917956186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4810012987995338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736658385035627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720892730918373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500293696300115,0.0,0.2094256679604716,0.0,0.2582824223112319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537682324262275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494457626427508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649656416262162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352583224475643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023931716869775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644657943934699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732814906534806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265895498720008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24180665729826145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709587388473954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19535456616714766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26690112996397564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dynamicredo,2020/02/26,"SD and her emotional support dog I’m not going to say the whole story but here is some parts of it. SD kept on asking for a dog, and we said no. Her mom also kept on saying no. We already have 3 cats, birds, 11 snakes, and several other lizards
We don’t want a dog right now. We dont have have a fenced yard, we dont want any extra expenses for pet food(imagine how hefty it is now, especially feeding our reptiles, which is about 40-50 a week on rats and bugs). 

Anyway, SD’s mom started taking SD to see a doctor for supposed “anxiety” which is complete utter BS because SD had physically said she wants “anxiety, ocd, and adhd” when I asked why, she said she didn’t know. She craves the pity attention, thats why. She loves going to the doctor. 
So the other day SD started talking about getting an emotional support dog... and hubby said “no, you don’t need one, nothing is wrong with you” and her reasoning was if she got one then she’d bring it with her to our house so technically we’d only have the dog every 2-3 weekends of the month, plus their school breaks, plus every other week of summer. We wouldnt have the dog the whole time and her mom doesn’t have to deal with the dog while her daughter is with us, because the dog comes too.

Well... she just got a dog this week at her mom’s. And she said its going to be her emotional support dog soon once everything is ready.
She’s 13.
The doctor she sees will probably write that it’s ok to have one. Thats all the proof you need for an ESA. 

Not all laws cover Emotional support animals like  service dogs but it says ESAs are covered under the federal housing act, so a landlord can’t deny you or evict you solely for your ESA. Well, we own our home, and our SD isn’t signing a lease agreement. Nothing is wrong with her, she really wanted a dog and we’ve said no, her mom said no, suddenly came up with the idea of an ESA and now she has a dog that soon enough will be an ESA.

Does anyone by chance know if we can forbid her dog from coming over because she doesn’t live with us and obviously thought of an idea and got her way? Or is this considered part of the federal housing act?

Whats your thoughts on this?
I love dogs but we’re in no position to take on an extra expense. Between the pets we have and 5 kids total, and everything in the world going wrong, its been tough on us recently.",3.1468095896726567,4.313273282157681,4.320463347164594,87.93407445827573,73.43983402489627,7.430244352236054,25.21461502996773,7.8897218956490685,1.2348462886122642,1830,57,393,25,36,600,223,482,0.063,0.8109999999999999,0.126,0.9859,1,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,17,7,1,0,19,17,0,0,33,1,39,6,0,2,5,76,85,33,0,9,10,6,0,1,0,3,3,10,5,1,20,37,1,4,8,2,2,10,18,6,2,3,19,12,53,11,45,59,12,46,0,1,2,2,75,14,0,5,21,253,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109374440946435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652798673998392,0.04730685094274199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04022795472810548,0.0,0.09050801009497114,0.0,0.0,0.041363092487570516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106053261380591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818243194995088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765844595964803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191492225270822,0.0620237033531424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038150580271802674,0.060987005275867076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164532341512013,0.051767616304065234,0.0,0.13866025267009366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661691335430217,0.0,0.061123727679898814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968258160353463,0.0,0.10633079022660226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153139650222967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030906450250728582,0.0,0.13447835800420754,0.0,0.14193682889374626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059338064397501375,0.0,0.0,0.20477346170841607,0.0,0.13355933632986852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650209324566856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02890052300957204,0.0,0.052235632057449126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067807909166393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464126366308375,0.04721757427541834,0.0,0.0,0.0877265134387135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352312081974066,0.0,0.0,0.06299896847108584,0.12025644988950933,0.04499063164307746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811987669435318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377992944111636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037896703472266584,0.060821987855966236,0.058409190030755176,0.0,0.0,0.0505187076113116,0.39389481199842497,0.14112913701569305,0.0,0.059868801270841515,0.09427898560399202,0.0,0.0,0.06682918638270617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374152235035058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685170843637083,0.0,0.0,0.08895555975510827,0.047547170206865816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392615328073364,0.03449420742621548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134713367020732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956643226341986,0.04695509977503777,0.14235358058516154,0.0,0.10637628995442104,0.0,0.10675776954137667,0.13209061776676534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403265669389425,0.0,0.0
parenting,_mrs_darcy_,2020/02/26,"At what age is cosleeping no longer beneficial? Hi all,

I’m having a hard time being objective about cosleeping. When is a kid really “too big” to share a bed with his mom every night? I am finding it a difficult call to make because when I think about a 15 year old sleeping in his mom’s bed, that’s obviously inappropriate, but when you get down into the weeds of “is seven years old okay? Is eight okay? Is nine okay?” it gets a lot harder!

LO turned five a few months ago. I don’t think there are really any negative side effects besides having a hard time at other houses (ex: grandparents’ house for a sleepover) and a kind of irregular schedule (going to bed at a more grown up time, eating in the middle of the night, etc.)

Would love to hear other opinions and maybe the philosophies and reasoning behind them! Thanks :)",3.4144204851752,5.520212836477988,4.498405211141062,83.03957547169813,74.72327044025158,7.310152740341421,23.93575920934412,8.192908349453996,1.464417430368374,647,20,123,11,14,211,108,159,0.07,0.775,0.155,0.9449,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,1,7,8,0,0,15,3,12,3,1,3,2,17,23,7,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,6,5,1,0,5,0,0,2,3,1,0,4,0,3,7,7,20,21,5,29,0,0,0,1,13,11,0,2,16,80,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273596397172715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770424985108177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758323602062182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670872386979772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470158795603652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023613353655894,0.0,0.0,0.12105278437121368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131678126155208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012901141590926,0.0,0.08165408345273521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25741000974538425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619327023555629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315644158538648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149615897848683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214775097278367,0.12967272566465354,0.0,0.09590449522979086,0.0,0.14434132594734395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33654195973631906,0.11468039341170724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696594009129528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301526484420488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840843766287627,0.14772231743034606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377923572317738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227707398349334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18412288605434612,0.0,0.0,0.25133497466362875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627765936333593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206293519875644,0.0,0.0,0.18504459064629009
parenting,kokosav,2020/02/26,"Feeling defeated I’m a mother to a wonderful 17 month old. She’s perfect in every way, but I’ve been feeling so depressed the past few months. My husband was here illegally so I did what I thought was morally correct and married him. He hasn’t worked in the past two years until recently and I feel so much pressure since I’m also not working. I’m too paranoid to send my daughter to daycare because we are in the Cory and most that are near have bad reviews and violations. I also feel like I’m not ready to let her go seeing it’s been her and I for the past 17 months everyday, 24/7. Even though I’m married I feel like she’s all I have. I also feel so alone. I feel like no one understands me. I’ve been suicidal but only brief thoughts as I could never leave my daughter without her mom. I’m not sure if I’m the only one that feels this way. I just want to be happy. My daughter makes me happy, don’t get me wrong my internally I’m in such a dark place and I don’t know how to escape it. 
Any thoughts?",0.2593925233644896,2.4762060046728958,2.4708299065420576,92.5942635514019,87.0841121495327,5.106242990654207,23.04598130841121,6.55674776486733,0.6053441495327108,791,31,173,9,25,267,118,214,0.18899999999999997,0.674,0.13699999999999998,-0.9548,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,4,14,13,1,1,8,0,16,0,0,2,5,39,43,20,1,3,8,6,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,14,0,0,3,9,6,0,3,9,9,27,7,15,31,4,23,1,2,1,0,15,6,0,3,15,107,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131039005346648,0.0,0.2578401512087665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308583375142556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897360900051178,0.06551499895829925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580904218332051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256698126373372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098539663372147,0.0,0.09055126759773932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4347356478028697,0.2303378001265426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615059726845408,0.0,0.06107980745410287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288156054212527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059064760960515675,0.0,0.0,0.11379918064890815,0.0,0.10989918841737577,0.0,0.15751873300168934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173956102280309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587195417372746,0.2573535597543912,0.0,0.07900557052155327,0.0,0.08289037964058525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277561900120148,0.0,0.14565398553593056,0.16347725589639694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30778755877277475,0.0,0.0,0.11228719154647912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611735995518354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564266210745669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890339455888904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755883610142867,0.0,0.10129273514634007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559241127302872,0.2559664518113286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498623478934282,0.11188396144276327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339080084127036,0.17061531659437798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360085740814252,0.11655069467185772,0.1564843364142488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750567141121,0.0,0.0692095697433248
parenting,gcwardii,2020/02/26,"My daughter’s school trip to Italy just got canceled, and we’re so sad. My daughter is a senior in high school. Straight As, college bound. She’s been saving up for this trip for 2 years. I’m so proud of her.

They were supposed to fly out March 13. Along comes corona virus and poof, no more Italy trip. She’s crushed.

Not much more to say. I think I’m just looking for a sympathetic ear.",0.3502500000000026,2.697223525000002,1.1000000000000014,101.425,88.75,3.7,19.25,4.935628992294339,-0.6976500000000003,302,9,70,1,10,92,59,80,0.109,0.779,0.11199999999999999,0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,11,9,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,3,3,7,2,12,6,3,12,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,0,3,36,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824944164735676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622864952332465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34649047172040465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27539007139216315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410763165271244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607939532793782,0.0,0.6637929640192187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101330492204567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21118495863017836
parenting,sandrasthebest,2020/02/26,"Toddler continuously screams at feeding time I need help, hopefully someone has broke their toddler of this bad habit. My one year old just continuously screams at feeding time. I've tried to shush him or just feed him faster, nothing works. He does it in restaurants also so we avoid eating out now which isn't helping. I dont know why hes doing this. My husband and I do not scream at each other or talk loudly so I dont know why he suddenly started screaming. If anyone has tips on how to get him to stop screaming, I'd really appreciate it.",3.6185565939771536,5.559661551401874,4.7064797507788185,82.49488058151611,73.67289719626169,6.9985462097611615,29.645898234683283,7.793537801064563,1.9644110072689505,434,19,83,6,9,142,76,107,0.196,0.713,0.09,-0.887,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,1,1,7,9,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,1,0,17,14,8,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,6,4,4,2,2,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,0,6,12,1,10,14,1,17,0,1,0,0,12,6,0,4,11,49,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859730837873612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867072113274706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558983082181586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355212708927026,0.0,0.4648616936944158,0.0,0.0,0.20293199155958305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361458697049256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658608996997243,0.0,0.0,0.19697759623660888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179841750275722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470525793575952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029443983236904,0.0,0.208104628474112,0.0,0.13438750686620302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704957204619666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680368205972435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037269211153258,0.0,0.0,0.165805316025768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594029842519353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23128525122405866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464700567093316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579078835383241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443801194793631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771228325631542
parenting,Worriedmama8_x,2020/02/26,Stop picking your nose! If you’re a mom or a dad you know that you’ve said this way too much! Why do little kids pick their noses so much? It honestly is soo and gross. I have a 9yr old son and a 5yr old son who nonstop pick their noses. I have told them wayy too many times to stop picking and go wash their hands but nothing seems to work. I’ve told them to go get a tissue and blow their noses. They don’t do that either. Any help on this one? I can’t stand nose picking!,-0.12715034965034988,1.762324711538465,1.0318881118881116,104.50402097902099,85.53846153846153,4.166433566433567,15.223776223776223,4.851557810540192,-1.3468923076923072,366,6,95,1,11,114,66,104,0.053,0.8759999999999999,0.07,0.5673,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,7,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,7,7,6,5,0,17,15,8,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,4,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,3,7,12,1,4,12,3,11,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,3,5,48,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703959421627854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528517866871206,0.0,0.22905538867593256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350737050849866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107493813649308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019746308715641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430828425130007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23601621049908555,0.0,0.0,0.29627879355999165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19336258226960928,0.0,0.422919853879695,0.0,0.13655425442443078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19169038604053348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345501292182392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33695723415790146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175071469690732,0.0,0.0,0.385119417125528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995612660517405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818392398553124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467079792531887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,modern_medicine_isnt,2020/02/26,"How to get your daughter to dry her own hair? ​

She is 9 with long hair, and will make a token effort.  But complains her arm is tired or that it is too hard... any tips and tricks to getting her self sufficient at hair drying?",2.6837234042553213,4.449914340425536,3.052074468085109,94.10875,75.80851063829788,5.5510638297872354,22.388297872340427,5.985473137389443,0.1676851063829785,182,5,39,1,4,56,38,47,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.7476,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,0,4,5,4,2,0,7,7,5,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,0,5,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,1,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34056541976447563,0.3819330146068753,0.2137482724769658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32843829094165017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815688416072805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781631709627498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20981093667253856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279041480105591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612644224797672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819330146068753,0.0
parenting,Memorandum747,2020/02/26,"Should I feel guilty for not wanting to hold my daughter for one night? Working parent of a 6yo, 3yo and now a 10 week old.

Spouse is a stay at home parent.  After I get the older kids to bed, I told my spouse I was going to do a few things then go to bed myself.  I was asked what I’m doing next, and then next, etc... At which point I’m asked if I intend to hold the baby before I go to bed?  (I had actually held the baby for a little while this night.  Furthermore not a day has gone by without me holding her.  Despite working late and/or being tired as F). Anyway, I decide to answer honestly.  I say “no, not unless there is something you need me to hold her for, or something you need to go do.”  This doesn’t go well and I’m put on a guilt trip for not “wanting” to hold her.  I felt this was unfair.  I was just curious what others thought.  I could add more context, but I’m hoping this is enough.",1.0894458204334327,2.6884300684210563,3.0530340557275544,93.08035603715172,79.89473684210526,5.3126934984520116,19.59752321981424,5.900188976854957,-0.17434674922600646,683,16,155,4,17,230,110,190,0.054000000000000006,0.8959999999999999,0.051,0.2982,2,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,0,2,5,4,0,1,10,0,16,1,0,1,0,33,39,11,0,8,10,5,2,0,0,1,1,1,4,1,9,4,0,6,5,0,0,8,7,1,1,1,10,3,23,3,24,26,4,28,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,14,106,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.13241524119038153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537063003202311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546339467683127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833854855306524,0.0,0.0,0.08750973315469039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020549780841285,0.15133178912759562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860965331983751,0.0,0.1302850316263205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089316060020638,0.0,0.3855827729285892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361095465480798,0.1347721857794145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306581933870442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599843895027086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012269204536121,0.0,0.0,0.2886187051198782,0.2546743901925349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238530770057434,0.0,0.09194801027040927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013385027775232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827224058036346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640734398287815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790725446905916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20892375143126327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446289873798569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014734257096084,0.0,0.0,0.10772382164680464,0.0,0.15595731331185728,0.0,0.12965895596020605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600686170132916,0.0,0.10884346329614884,0.0,0.12200287232298886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080167584754773,0.0,0.19756992325110295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littlecrabapple88,2020/02/26,"*****NEW MOM NEEDS GUIDANCE***** I bring my infant son to nanny an infant baby girl. Her Mom was sick with a virus for the past week and didn’t tell me until yesterday. How do I respond to this situation? My son is a premie he’s now six months. Her daughter is a 4 month old. The woman is so kind I love her. Started working for her a month ago and everything was fine. 

She’s an ICU nurse and was coughing a little last week but nothing serious. Yesterday she told me to stay home because she has a virus. She said her throat was so sore it was swelling up. 

I went to work today but left my son at home with his dad because he was able to work remotely today. I’m supposed to go in Thursday and I don’t know what to do. She said she got antibiotics from a relative who’s a doctor.

I’m so lost and confused and my four closest people all gave me very different advice and I am genuinely torn on the wisest decision. All I want is my baby to be safe. That’s all I care about. 


Husband says: I’ll stay home with baby you go work and just wash your hands and shower when you get home. 

Doctor friend: No ICU would let a sick nurse work. Viruses aren’t even killed by antibiotics. You should find a new job. 

Best friend: she’s probably hormonal and overreacting. Have baby at home with dad Thursday and start work next week like normal. 

Mom: get away stay far away. CORONA VIRUS. 




WHAT WOULD YOU DO?! Please I need advice.",0.006109175377467579,2.3643898606271776,1.7530487804878057,94.66502032520329,94.64459930313588,4.823925667828107,17.98315911730546,6.5431188927421005,0.05885737514518041,1098,32,234,15,42,357,157,287,0.09699999999999999,0.763,0.14,0.9065,4,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,5,0,8,9,13,1,1,15,0,24,10,2,1,3,34,46,19,1,7,3,10,1,1,2,3,7,3,6,4,6,15,0,1,3,0,0,4,4,4,0,2,14,4,35,9,25,27,4,42,0,1,0,1,45,11,0,1,25,133,41,9,0.0833045911219837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628085646265927,0.07384449371822903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653481115710938,0.0,0.0,0.10156341108540214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742302889767553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493458260882246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703556724406916,0.0,0.17053155786223792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05502189677175972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074868794989395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761388870955773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872184090974326,0.0,0.08704642118206794,0.0,0.0946878377793582,0.0,0.06662629153947615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178064856826945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266695257928912,0.0,0.0921641874744661,0.08674891239768467,0.04578202467737315,0.06790436028008309,0.0,0.0,0.09051068199997926,0.08518458848095625,0.0,0.04069841534477013,0.08349308520556048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093680185592272,0.0,0.07518564591597675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926959908983501,0.19947878958422688,0.0,0.0,0.12353859753661912,0.0,0.16091218641875174,0.08859537772821081,0.0,0.08162081206011013,0.07993300191879026,0.0,0.08741415504196365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952365833689694,0.05775291445776376,0.0,0.0,0.09144342515272652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981643889956456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848348543284654,0.06624715446166017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363785074665483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792683672503497,0.2663748303224831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728118844390979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792602366693767,0.07960110675687973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687350120381922,0.04913520619127802,0.0,0.20046575442773976,0.0,0.0,0.0772241905630637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638804069381754,0.0,0.0,0.11835438281514715,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayparenting92,2020/02/26,"I am worried that I don't love my daughter Please bear with me as I try to explain.

I have two children: Ruthie, aged 11, and Mark, aged 5. When Ruthie came home from the hospital I knew I needed to keep her alive but I did not feel a lot of affection for her. There were moments of happiness but I was lonely, exhausted, probably experiencing PPD, and dealing with a husband who was acting pretty shitty at the time. (Yes, we are still married, and yes, our marriage is better.)

Since then Ruthie has been a tough child to raise. Maybe it is my fault. She has ADHD, anxiety, impulse control, is immature, and she is oppositional. She is also very bright, sweet, funny, creative, a great big sister, and just a quirky, great kid. She had a tough childhood in a lot of ways and we are busting our asses now to make that up to her.

My son was born when Ruthie was six and I was instantly smitten with him. I feel this SURGE of love when I look at him. With Ruthie I care about her, I work hard for her, I am there for her when she needs me, but with Mark I just want to cuddle with him and I just FEEL so much more. 

Is it possible that I don't love her? I mean, I do, intellectually. I would 100% throw myself in front of a train for her. I just don't have that constant love in my heart. I like hanging out with her, we get along pretty well, but it feels so different than what I have with my son. And I don't think it is that he is little and she is a pre-teen, because I feel like I never had that for Ruthie, even when she was little. 

I worry that this is obvious to her and that makes me really scared for how she feels about herself and her place in the family.

So yeah - are there different kinds of love that you can feel for your kids or is there something wrong with me?",2.973240740740738,4.053976370879123,4.028766788766792,90.1903072853073,73.75274725274727,7.260724460724461,23.096866096866087,7.662118739084242,0.7540212861212865,1365,35,309,17,27,443,177,364,0.134,0.6859999999999999,0.179,0.9715,2,2,1,0,0,0,55.0,5,2,0,3,24,23,0,1,12,3,39,9,2,5,2,62,65,29,0,4,10,5,8,2,0,1,1,0,1,4,17,27,0,2,11,0,0,5,6,7,1,2,13,12,67,16,43,51,4,34,0,1,2,7,49,12,1,3,18,226,84,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067902346057124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030164428932375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681701367924146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121190339015624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880869177903958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148477303466266,0.10237953628325397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851267850386144,0.11262368756746545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352320449021904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982409616674064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632299946491639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946620955022171,0.0,0.3554090251789713,0.07173632192439583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246256567116652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22141524650806527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068933752263424,0.08995189812627892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899196962711756,0.0,0.0,0.10072418783132298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892532491288539,0.0,0.10456651638892077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981151555109432,0.201283931318586,0.0,0.0,0.08432310514220254,0.0,0.0,0.17073806978564784,0.4531411898193672,0.0,0.13405525905221008,0.0,0.10088011930748413,0.10938110714402127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381639970913671,0.1489125388080595,0.07744605038859018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491204808337032,0.11022524837033963,0.0,0.11320255007052793,0.0,0.2043158137129264,0.10826409081800184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432826411657035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053268849591504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306412402234017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730418517761227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019135404733628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434172123088541,0.0,0.0,0.05855265187984536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681750280918355,0.0,0.09809062601545583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285269018515236,0.05922722488922413,0.07970455958416074,0.0,0.0,0.090284925190613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310313847946953,0.20395211842770314,0.0,0.07133176179550002,0.10978777258008753,0.0,0.0
parenting,cici92814,2020/02/26,"Should I buy my 1.5 year old a tablet? My son isn't talking yet. I do read him books, we always talk to him, always interacting. But he still says nada. Before he was born, I didn't want him to be one of those kids that are stuck on their tablet all day. But now, I'm kind of debating if I should get him one with educational games to kind of encourage him to talk and point to stuff but then idk... I don't want him to end up stuck on it. What are the pros and cons and any advice would be helpful.",0.6294444444444451,2.2568837962962967,2.388666666666669,97.17300000000004,81.4074074074074,5.801481481481483,16.355555555555554,6.742157984588678,-0.5689622222222219,382,6,97,4,10,126,71,108,0.062,0.883,0.055,0.3093,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,0,1,15,18,8,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,2,4,1,15,3,13,9,1,13,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,1,9,61,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890820109184244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220082757267279,0.0,0.0,0.1315838868375344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16465080878047142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478888552004615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137998632517062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109365191018448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969626206407794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4029925290173903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20304145861095202,0.0,0.2622357379869382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829162239231996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935483209578328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387575232253095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545261221702564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150657864063533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.466574165122105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282578589116992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745397703753087,0.0,0.0,0.1246050530688851
parenting,350throwawaye,2020/02/26,"My son has a Japanese name and an English name, which one should we use at home? I live in Japan and had a son with a Japanese man, but I’m engaged to a woman from America (she’s aware and okay with it) so the father and I decided to cut ties before the child was born. My son was born a week ago and even though he won’t have any Japanese relatives he will speak with, my fiance and I figured that he’d already have trouble fitting in with the other children (two official parents are women, his hair will grow to be very curly and he’s half American so we know it’s gonna be difficult for him) so we gave him one Japanese name to fit in better and one English name.

So he’s going to be called by his Japanese name at school alright, but what should we as two Americans call him? Since he was born we’ve been calling him by his english name Charles, but I’ve been thinking that it might confuse him hearing his Japanese name all of a sudden in school. My fiance isn’t this good at Japanese yet, so should i play the Japanese part and call him by his Japanese name while my fiance speaks to him in English and calls him Charles? I’m really clueless about it and I don’t want to confuse him. Thanks in advance for answers",3.2191979949874683,4.461172365079367,4.426282372598163,86.95146616541355,73.36507936507937,8.003675856307437,28.34252297410192,8.532816995589336,1.9566079365079363,964,38,204,17,19,317,126,252,0.069,0.818,0.113,0.9115,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,2,9,12,1,2,11,2,23,1,1,1,1,44,34,22,0,4,3,5,1,0,0,8,0,3,1,5,10,19,0,0,5,1,0,3,3,5,0,6,7,4,30,7,29,15,2,22,0,0,0,0,52,11,0,3,8,133,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827211027240665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723643366721742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073273007149396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353379010286432,0.0,0.0,0.11800247052059053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6812028679561228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881251331645342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582779586808565,0.1119095171439525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503782711086665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338349070026651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332620752736849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178156218882076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154152142034196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271234172379085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815129253739007,0.14448492680613714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854746752597468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27006393052421523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103695105728183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283866942005342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549255608541198,0.13108816384607525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606712467634162,0.0,0.0,0.1152352873049696,0.0,0.11008857281053387,0.07869678878274584,0.0,0.1070244898872127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Npress22,2020/02/26,"10 yo acting different I just need some feedback , advice,etc. on what to do with my 10yo son.

All of a sudden he’s been on a lying streak and being sneaky.

We took away his electronics for his behaviors and found out last night  (after we caught him) he had been sneaking his phone out of the room to watch YouTube after bedtime!

I was completely shocked and disappointed that he would do such a thing.

I’m kinda at my wits end on how to proceed if the misbehavior continues.",2.7286021505376357,5.044987451612903,3.792688172043016,86.2756989247312,77.70967741935483,7.1440860215053785,24.31182795698925,8.167268648758528,1.5202602150537643,375,13,74,7,9,121,71,93,0.125,0.875,0.0,-0.8897,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,1,17,13,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,8,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,7,1,10,0,16,4,2,19,0,1,1,0,11,8,0,3,8,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888560863748646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223517825175328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212161326122551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723063243462707,0.0,0.3428840925087017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370991939239369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506099137093157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22796766761900286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885176923823557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042537785861573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415843492145533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184011567304544,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katatattat26,2020/02/26,"A Big Move.... HELPPPP!!! Hi folks. A FTM here, to an amazing 4 month old baby girl. My husband and I are planning a move from Oakland, CA to Philadelphia, PA this fall; most likely early November. 

Our girl will JUST have turned one year old, and I know this is probably insane, but we’re hoping to make the move by driving. And I have a million questions....

Is this insane?
What kind of pit-stop schedule can we expect? 
Are there any dangers other than cars being dinguses? 
Has anyone else here done this? 
What do YOU think and please tell me all the shit you can to give me a boost/tear me down slowly.",1.967429378531076,4.261260855932207,2.9450000000000003,91.46264124293785,80.27118644067797,5.289265536723164,21.69774011299436,6.42735559955562,0.3589638418079097,463,14,94,4,12,147,87,118,0.078,0.7909999999999999,0.131,0.8265,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,2,0,1,4,6,2,0,8,0,13,1,1,1,1,15,19,5,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,3,0,0,6,0,2,0,2,1,0,11,4,9,16,2,14,0,0,0,0,12,2,1,3,7,61,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109083144166928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450772837375272,0.18244942677496132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222310839247485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875110403043282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081691451967132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768594902197477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854281005688341,0.09786029174871096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699394199832801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886028585316855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213040077015246,0.5677672078559592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737001487224065,0.0,0.12066197583053967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954627460670157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19198501980812735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994744174765948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827819566066212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887095907504785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556373337395262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409735704302967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368442761607052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466851938014502
parenting,gamekiller06,2020/02/26,"Questions about video game time limits Teenager here, asking for some advice from parents.

I feel like I should be getting more video game time then I do now (1h on weekdays, 2h on weekends). When my parents ask me to get off video games I do, but they are usuall watching tv or somehow being busy, not spending family time, so I normally have nothing to do. My teachers are God's and do not give homework and I am doing good in school. 

Any ideas on how to convince/talk to my parents?",4.195714285714286,5.5384846315789495,4.608120300751882,86.19684210526316,71.10526315789474,6.270676691729324,30.413533834586467,6.1826913282559595,1.507616541353383,380,16,72,2,7,120,70,95,0.0,0.938,0.062,0.6808,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,0,15,18,8,0,2,4,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,8,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,11,2,12,15,2,13,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,4,9,50,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755871435022118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219268617091708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359644306295628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939203081046791,0.0,0.09085467362929657,0.1283677610259779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775710580711366,0.1723712471050387,0.0,0.15071214651135093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20284369637551508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877855352615466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605419312964984,0.17241362591295425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.598560333649364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012895163378691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185189116775813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442485298273447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143291691984487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19789881518391148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LinSem124,2020/02/26,"Asking for drawings Dear parents,
I am a highschool student working on an art project in which I want to include creatures drawn by children 8 and under. Unfortunately, I am the youngest of my siblings, and dont know anyone with young enough siblings. If you would be so kind, could you please include drawings that your children have done. When i am finished i would be happy to show you the drawing. Thankyou!!!",5.481199999999998,7.6251599866666675,4.8610000000000015,82.47550000000003,69.13333333333333,5.533333333333334,37.83333333333333,5.46131890053228,2.4043333333333337,329,19,54,1,6,99,58,75,0.031,0.777,0.193,0.9143,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,9,14,5,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,10,3,9,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,3,42,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142268994072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559331009580598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185788894440811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801564050155804,0.32085026720312604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28287218551674376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914276843552404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850838760380697,0.15045395598809197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039833750938211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300511503374562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147355216078954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930401038475326,0.0,0.0,0.3889492705609552,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,helpingmylove,2020/02/26,"For moms: Kids only on weekends? Currently, I see my kiddos for a week on/week off.  Next school year, I'll only see them some weekends, because I am moving an hour away due to getting married.  I'm concerned about not being with them during the school week.  My kids will be 4th and 7th grade. Thoughts on how this might effect them?  Effect me?  Anyone mom's out there with some experience with this?",2.467175324675324,4.950043688311691,3.0286850649350647,90.49159902597404,79.64935064935065,4.888961038961039,21.313311688311693,5.985473137389443,0.2048194805194808,312,9,60,2,8,97,56,77,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,3,0,13,10,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,12,5,2,15,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,3,9,36,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074224935783202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567586152191056,0.0,0.0,0.11398256790065855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829043973163888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769044291503176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413972845385188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983584860952413,0.0,0.4379824098761741,0.0,0.1987324075816229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988576112139213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28441666361446155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784717860183669,0.2980010899510133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844292115177038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44995734628493184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041035805655867
parenting,Ilikeitdownunder,2020/02/26,"Daughter (12) told me today she’s being blackmailed at school My daughter had done/experienced something that she doesn’t want to share. Today she told me that she however told one of her girl friends at school. Now this girl is somehow controlling my daughter by telling her that she will share what she has done. My daughter is, as far as I can see, a bit more into boys than any other girls (her teacher brought that up in a meeting end last year), and I am concerned about her. She tells me she will never tell me what it is about or what the girl is doing. It’s bad enough as she want to change school for it. I have no idea what to do. The teacher says he’s aware that something happened but has no clue what. 
What would you do?",3.5962592137592138,4.844157114864867,3.609975429975432,93.1448525798526,72.44594594594594,6.1926289926289915,26.29238329238329,6.1124844417494595,0.6700729729729731,575,19,125,3,11,175,87,148,0.046,0.902,0.052000000000000005,-0.2732,1,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,19,0,0,1,1,11,27,6,0,3,2,4,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,5,16,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,6,2,24,3,17,17,3,14,0,0,1,0,35,6,0,2,7,91,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971520817729025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928505849449512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559699451325297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511306442923256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023356775637448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292397931646643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653466048057554,0.14761618953680808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037598886419216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633372484423802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127550670117122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164528235633279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018514160238332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968080077013548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361079256583495,0.0,0.43375647974318704,0.11384371615176928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199666102406421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37460699859004604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708357945540951,0.4095366012890681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16852919234463135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148613434446474,0.0,0.0,0.09199941266373993
parenting,OneTonTomato,2020/02/26,"Son (14) is over-scheduling and now we have a huge conflict So my son is in the school musical and trying out for tennis. One has to go but how do I help him make that tough decision? Do I try to work it out with the coach and drama teacher or should he? I've spent a fortune on tennis lessons! But he's really good at drama. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle.

Thanks!",-0.20618055555555515,1.8175961875000013,2.184166666666666,95.23527777777781,87.125,5.555555555555557,17.63888888888889,6.937597516519254,-0.025027777777777867,285,7,67,4,9,97,61,80,0.068,0.7290000000000001,0.203,0.9278,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,2,0,17,14,8,0,1,3,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,6,3,10,11,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,1,2,40,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17830742647311518,0.25192897840400497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20041573920440006,0.29578109643896944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23636987200492904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17228406914890887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353926404137422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389607334730528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22591280716162904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35689460341571444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246672602423156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788443209547813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567290669665089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StreetNerve5,2020/02/26,"Wife is a bad mom and having a kid was her idea! When she got pregnant i explained we were not stable enough in our relationship and financially in a good place but she was adamant on keep the baby. Fast forward to the baby about to be 4 and I'm the one who does majority of the work. She called the baby mean names when she would cry like any baby would and it got to the point where i wouldn't want to leave the kid with her. We had many fights about it and she would say im blowing things out of proportion. She has gotten better but i still do majority of the care and i also go to school and work full time and she just works. I'm frustrated because i knew we shouldn't have this kid and she wanted the baby but not the work that goes along with it. for this and other reasons I'll be leaving in September. i want a son one day but I'm not having another kid with her and the worst part is she keeps bringing up having another kid when she's too ""tired"" to interact with the kid we do have. just a vent.",0.6315664364079652,2.7527226401869136,2.375144250304753,94.60604022754978,84.2803738317757,5.5908980089394555,18.182852498984154,6.895973343053719,-0.04459341731003663,791,19,182,10,23,260,112,214,0.11199999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.066,-0.8759,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,5,0,0,5,11,8,2,0,17,0,21,1,0,1,0,46,38,19,0,8,9,3,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,6,9,21,0,2,5,0,0,3,5,4,0,2,8,1,24,4,23,23,6,20,0,0,0,0,35,11,0,0,9,127,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487998047556414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918596402796272,0.2750427757101303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950411706906683,0.07994734465587078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599082362855692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391801267174078,0.0,0.1337153661237366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144061255240498,0.08458039447354067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476956252717675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551219829492872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745351216620725,0.11000173986303252,0.20978401713467565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805150107708698,0.1416636583597459,0.0,0.0,0.23314289785369705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777361661162466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407288222685112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296472011653662,0.0,0.14285994369340393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360037644570845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777402055604726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420218202908837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702301680139092,0.0,0.12397840008395165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484323669186088,0.0,0.14080517652279328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042951203315442,0.0,0.13273000809081847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047359331334622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871297114106741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647416239479349,0.15073673070894802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23206561627641056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819127642669491,0.0,0.0,0.2794939201037364,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,x_karla_x,2020/02/26,"Why does my nephew cover his ears? Okay, so I’m not the parent, my brother is, but I’ve recently noticed (well, we all have) that my nephew covers his ears while crying. He starts crying and shortly after covers his ears. We’re gonna get him checked to see if it’s an ear infection hopefully Thursday (we’re gonna call to set an appointment tomorrow), but are there any other reasons y’all can think of if it isn’t an ear infection, just to prepare? He’s only 18 months old (1 year and 6 months), so any opinions is accepted. Thank you!",3.4879128440366967,4.630015532110092,4.77145642201835,85.12122133027525,72.57798165137615,8.018807339449541,27.386467889908253,8.472884824447931,1.850622935779816,419,15,86,7,8,139,76,109,0.07400000000000001,0.823,0.10300000000000001,0.3076,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,1,6,7,5,1,1,15,15,9,0,3,6,4,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,10,5,5,13,1,12,0,0,1,0,14,1,0,4,10,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838111844922703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130796600982024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584375572419653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826121735606572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090236418107329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20726053661686603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33312346537458026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23757692714145304,0.2189684400361354,0.0,0.0,0.15870611051419187,0.0,0.0,0.23170797233790985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145518027606322,0.20604056954803368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662862974133784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770065250691286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19211914070087532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370998309404838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762314078550751,0.0,0.1882959824335932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343793246845889
parenting,ziggy867,2020/02/26,"Funny Video I follow ""Life of Dad"" and they post some funny stuff. I watched this video today and thought I'd share in case someone needed a laugh.

Watch ""People without kids be like... | Dude Dad"" on YouTube
https://youtu.be/V3-GkxllY2g",3.965,7.1362302619047595,2.5764761904761926,91.55185714285713,79.71428571428572,4.312380952380953,22.685714285714287,5.6839178017228535,0.2737657142857146,189,6,33,1,5,53,36,42,0.0,0.7340000000000001,0.266,0.8909999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,3,4,2,1,5,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,1,2,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26375407461484657,0.18243171878382308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768825087393055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588789602752641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35762837150403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163933380209581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274708636686729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964498181586853,0.0,0.0,0.3539537804382404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599587577480549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gypsysoultrain,2020/02/26,My son is terrified of my dad (grandpa) My son just turned one and used to love being around my father. He is not an intimidating person at all btw. Really soft spoken and kind. Now he is terrified of him and he sees him a lot so he shouldn't be a stranger. Any advice? It just started out of nowhere. I feel so bad!,0.03636363636363527,2.261401348484849,2.466893939393941,92.07034090909092,88.54545454545455,5.724242424242425,18.85606060606061,7.1686216300943375,0.32773333333333365,243,7,55,4,8,83,48,66,0.162,0.711,0.127,-0.5827,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,1,1,13,12,5,0,1,3,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,7,2,7,9,2,5,0,0,1,1,13,3,0,1,2,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018338327486369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21004890258582448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27496856938349856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579017883551217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617894236266602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32165085142568883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625986186298499,0.2787761408811593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930499283301268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697019872042077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19787635314227373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461372644578877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862676078667515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359725999430163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667730334852528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mas_o_menos,2020/02/26,Nannies or regular babysitter I think it's time we get someone to watch our kids once a week for our sanity.   One is about 2 and the other is about 3.  Any suggestions on places to post looking for nannies?  What are some good things to ask and review with potential candidates?  What's the typical pay?  Thanks for some insight.,2.67421658986175,5.421300016129035,3.4707373271889423,85.95467741935484,81.09677419354837,7.4138248847926285,26.599078341013822,8.418075326091056,2.2480110599078347,259,11,48,6,7,82,49,62,0.023,0.875,0.10300000000000001,0.7131,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,10,8,2,5,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,3,2,31,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481885193763867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953183841902584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504165337768673,0.0,0.0,0.2649570223977229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652715228957688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33641695611134304,0.2140580489194989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300421482137895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025392709224473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676560850220504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290832888171338,0.0,0.0,0.20986603417809516,0.2024122136853056,0.0,0.0,0.1842004170453473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533912296992112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Somethingdifferenttl,2020/02/26,"My son, 21, is intellectually disabled. He wants to have children , I feel like it is a bad idea. He can’t take care of himself much less an infant. I don’t think my son will ever leave home due to his limitations.

If he was to make a child, the responsibility of caring for the child will fall to me.  I simply can’t do it, I have a chronic illness that makes me very sick.

The state has said they will pay for him to have surgery to make it so he can’t have children.

How would I discuss this with him?

I know this is probably an unpopular question 

Any advice would be appreciated",2.4496638655462206,4.095832159663868,4.321588235294119,85.27414705882354,76.14285714285714,6.776806722689076,24.50504201680673,7.554174236665415,0.9772850420168072,453,15,100,6,10,154,75,119,0.10099999999999999,0.7809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.4951,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,8,0,20,3,0,4,1,16,31,3,0,4,1,2,1,1,0,5,3,1,1,5,6,1,0,1,5,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,2,15,3,11,23,2,4,0,0,0,0,19,0,0,2,3,66,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074730204950494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970186876856658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715284457496487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189064217482069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18582642077147973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387338301588037,0.14676177983256533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20606661565244552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319094893449341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290091473290155,0.0,0.0,0.21752448299427213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036446297393738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113854994228642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101730771146168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22149212887092493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301326084000448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541436406011636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446047430370788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163353336246514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950420580949635,0.12117003919502738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918682206967176,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mykidsmentallyill,2020/02/26,"3 kids, 3 mental illnesses Posting from a throwaway because my main account may have identifying info. 

I have three children. All three have mental illness and I am starting to think that it's my fault. All three are great kids. Polite, generous, compassionate, and responsible. They work hard in school. They do extra-curricular activities. 

Youngest is 9. Has been diagnosed ADHD for several years and takes medication which works wonderfully. 

Oldest is 13. Has dr appointment this week after a tipping point. A couple weeks ago, she needed to talk to a teacher the next day that she didn't know and cried and yelled and was really upset. It wasn't a normal reaction and we're concerned that being anxious about social situations is affecting her life. She's always been shy but this was beyond. We had to fill out an anxiety checklist and she was surprised that other people are going about their lives not being afraid of these things. 

Middle, 11. Just told me today that she is sad all the time. She says that she has a friend that is sometimes rude to her but she isn't able to stand up to her and doesn't feel good but that even without the friend issue. She cries a lot and has a hard time getting herself to do things. She wants me to take her to a counselor, which I will set up of course. 

So now the question is, am I doing something that is causing my children to be depressed and anxious and inattentive? I am a pretty strict parent. Their dad and I have been divorced longer than the younger two can remember and the oldest was still super small. He's not a bad person. We share parenting time although because of my work schedule they are with me a bit more. I am a teacher. I have zero safety concerns with dad, my only complaint is that his primary goal is for the kids to like him so I have to enforce the expectations. We coparent ok, he is relatively absent from school stuff and health stuff so I make the decisions, we're civil and even friendly but we admit that we are very different but try to communicate and support each other as parents. 

TL:DR: I am concerned about the mental health of 100% of my children. I'm starting to think that I am part of the root cause.",3.8248687443424285,6.056161023923442,4.568099055993795,82.43331501357821,73.92822966507177,7.102650976335187,27.086770981507826,8.00916892397051,1.8396258114573896,1740,66,316,27,37,558,222,418,0.091,0.775,0.134,0.9729,5,0,1,0,1,0,45.0,5,0,5,5,12,19,1,2,25,1,51,8,0,5,3,59,69,27,0,4,9,5,3,1,3,2,8,2,0,7,25,26,0,0,10,0,1,2,7,7,0,5,11,5,48,12,39,53,9,31,0,2,0,0,53,8,0,4,19,234,73,7,0.08999894361365178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816124077827337,0.0,0.07977863328797646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488633075161204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884894552650225,0.2033463782052172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514535865901309,0.10972504137377707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982555369040744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849074128824273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958211930123996,0.19771922706955267,0.05804187320396598,0.0,0.07751595825769435,0.0913470333049764,0.0,0.09402974077756512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888690691312895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045506170056749055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859888175162505,0.0,0.047020733468720766,0.0,0.05114847368210778,0.07548684393217286,0.0,0.09922415305823293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124275176750955,0.0,0.0,0.1913293370419512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393551467302654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049461065734351634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635689154592906,0.04396893782739362,0.0,0.07947071606793735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765138834676467,0.0,0.0,0.060074993715362936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066446732167227,0.2720933015553398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673307631704903,0.0,0.0,0.09571489754887302,0.0,0.08817985615632896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844825212590276,0.0,0.0,0.2997995286781737,0.09746008560055416,0.0,0.062393935577899816,0.07858360614235835,0.0,0.0,0.08507809194427904,0.0,0.08619410997605027,0.09156128085935736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081941407313773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765562783356479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195125886872854,0.0,0.0,0.07157077225466921,0.0,0.1821674715025993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016731891026086,0.0,0.0,0.10116258342966407,0.0,0.09174258917989696,0.0,0.0692855837443514,0.08901125650093103,0.0,0.1274034310235267,0.0,0.07187327262623716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060545167580453,0.0,0.10212973467703802,0.0,0.0,0.13533601018147365,0.07233774177726006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958259815348887,0.1153353781391197,0.0,0.0,0.1574373233203589,0.0,0.08530847524547881,0.08599784744284211,0.0,0.06110337502785479,0.0,0.08791589055255905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742585539331272,0.053083708735556207,0.0,0.14438344782855705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675577002376797,0.0976000152511033,0.1965609084989509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057956368955918575
parenting,the_great_LA,2020/02/26,"Huggies sensitivity at 23 months? This is just a ""has anyone else experienced this"" sort of question.

My daughter has been wearing Huggies with zero issues since she was 3 months old. Now at 23 months, she has developed a mild but persistent rash at the waist/thighs right where the diaper sits. Nothing was helping, so we consulted with her pediatrician who said to try a different brand. We just picked up a new brand so can try it out tomorrow, but I thought it was so strange for her to be sensitive to Huggies after all this time.",5.730357142857143,7.117453150000002,6.1474285714285735,76.43300000000002,67.5,9.714285714285717,33.285714285714285,9.957137785484203,3.362271428571428,425,19,78,10,7,137,70,100,0.09,0.91,0.0,-0.8373,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,6,0,10,2,2,1,1,14,12,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,8,0,13,5,1,17,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,9,54,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657511140241548,0.2294398885573001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339562733803283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18706244976924014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009368829986022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23372182853244625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5362096865373684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162702942490282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486419680107416,0.0,0.2349739376886941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25084972271419165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19123261333818525,0.2130060549856469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523490164280296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777319137768147,0.13057375659522272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30406375247369266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,samwisestofall,2020/02/26,"2.5 year old angel becoming a monster Hi all,

I have a 2.5 year old daughter and and a 3 month old daughter. Our older one has always been a perfect little one, very sweet and caring and gentle. She's very verbally advanced and usually quiete reasonable for a toddler. Since baby was born she has been nothing but lovely to her and just wants to, kiss her and hug the baby. 

Over the past week or so, our little angel has totally morphed into a terror. She was pushing her cousin last week and laughing when he cried. Today, she pulled out baby's paci and was thrilled to make her cry as well. Also she hasn't been listening and has been generally making trouble intentionally. I have no idea how to discipline this behavior and am at a total loss.

Help!",4.003873563218392,5.959359358620691,5.235603448275864,79.04765804597704,72.65517241379311,7.591954022988506,27.25574712643678,8.344100000000001,2.0797471264367813,597,22,105,10,12,198,93,145,0.15,0.66,0.18899999999999997,0.5753,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,3,7,12,0,1,9,0,15,3,0,5,4,29,21,18,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,13,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,3,1,2,7,3,13,9,10,14,3,24,2,1,0,3,19,6,0,1,15,73,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110946379480167,0.1260132815824476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725765674948068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440693465941668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327075633818939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015095127899224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709614916799026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344681987955253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035727251695226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668384254905813,0.0,0.20217967746950505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208809081185416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531430455423988,0.0,0.4767440297447432,0.0,0.2052443268257662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457013785839878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570933573840326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252757849476315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355090982003246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679382820402402,0.2499138086420156,0.08932541185014972,0.0,0.2429579855823412,0.0,0.13616606453527713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950495415501761
parenting,AllDogsGTH,2020/02/26,"When do you start feeking like a normal peraon again? Two years ago, my partner and I found out that we expecting. This was not in the cards for us - we had full lives and we were content as-is.  I had my reservations about not aborting but chalked my negative feelings up to hormones and the shock of it all.  Prior to having my kid, I spent my days rescuing dogs. I regularly visited some pretty dangerous spots in Baltimore to scoop dogs out of alleys and abandoned houses. I thrived on nursing the most broken and sickest dogs back to health and helping them find homes.  I had plenty of friends, played sports with a rec team, traveled all over the world...you get the picture. I felt like I had it all.

After I got pregnant, everything changed. I had to give up most of my rescue work. I literally could not handle the stress of a newborn and special-needs dogs. This broke my heart but I figured that I would get back in the game eventually. Two years later, and I still feel stuck... I'm estranged from my friends because I can barely get out of the house. My husband would be more than happy to watch the kiddo so I can go out with friends, but I really don't have the desire to do so. I love my alone time. I look forward to putting the kiddo to bed and hanging out with my fosters (I have a couple now, but no where close to my previous rescue load). I don't even really like to text or talk on the phone anymore. I just want people to leave me alone. But I also feel isolated and lonely. I wish I was the old me who enjoyed going out and hanging out with friends. I was hoping that this was just a phase, but I'm scared that this is just how I am now. I know this sounds like I'm depressed, but I don't think thats the cause of these feelings. I had ante partum depression and I see a therapist every week and religiously take zoloft and wellbutrin. 

I love my kid, but I don't feel like I enjoy life anymore. Every day is just a variation of the day before. And when I force myaelf to see friends, I count down the minutes until I can go back home and be by myself. Is this normal? Have any of you felt this way? If so, how did you crawl out your hole and become a real person again?

TLDR: I feel like a shell of my former self. I don't enjoy the things I used to enjoy. I'm scared that I've permanently changed for the worse. How do I get back to feeling normal?",2.337037146808932,4.127949807053941,3.525548310610553,90.22650069156296,76.86307053941908,6.25022722782059,23.71685437660541,7.07126945348624,0.7817028650464333,1845,59,391,20,42,598,231,482,0.138,0.679,0.183,0.9807,0,4,0,0,0,1,59.0,4,4,1,2,25,30,1,3,27,0,36,7,1,5,3,88,74,37,0,12,17,1,9,6,6,2,4,1,3,6,18,33,0,1,14,5,1,9,10,10,0,2,18,14,67,20,54,51,8,56,0,5,4,2,31,21,0,6,33,268,85,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055617330974663,0.0,0.0,0.16487285019658554,0.0,0.06365210022845187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05412733579409499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787372293654048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448145963650494,0.0,0.04852037893179919,0.08790643437603024,0.0677294905160661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176600006731155,0.1684019319629292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355013826924642,0.08807036393576659,0.0,0.1539965889194503,0.0,0.13711012986042825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05257175300398783,0.0,0.1341244565811138,0.0,0.0715348620970995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817193980646292,0.11372538118149625,0.15284738230013056,0.0,0.07274839657002959,0.0,0.0,0.08727181944368961,0.30747453393859114,0.0,0.1663404289113319,0.07635478575412456,0.13570703426130404,0.0,0.06365940012781936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473036752709763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460577291943502,0.0,0.0943204693268426,0.05335085698334,0.0,0.15968056833728314,0.07905580382531376,0.0,0.1836839083422571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04374333555503054,0.0,0.0,0.08427962230035015,0.0,0.0,0.05622030901517469,0.2333166064449946,0.0,0.07028385151321105,0.0,0.06683976134719521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367520708841613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395862865698444,0.0,0.0,0.0835215730017705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055181157544032994,0.06949929205067909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097673944169749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001496869608281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059654621706764,0.1019812022856585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937697966238254,0.0,0.1268538345189256,0.0,0.08303495378919051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05633775729840095,0.0,0.06356467729210559,0.0,0.09117581429862212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598455413177202,0.06397545351834537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241594065198057,0.05287938745259843,0.05100126809238861,0.0,0.0,0.04641249004403114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550551707538304,0.0,0.09574299598528284,0.06874453228036104,0.0,0.0,0.046947198756217424,0.06317881358738411,0.06384631541178425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153033263071547,0.0,0.0,0.05794611478619795,0.0,0.08111411452991285,0.1130840219141784,0.0,0.0,0.10251315280613348
parenting,suhayma,2020/02/26,"I have an angry toddler who is terrorizing the family. A bit about us: I have three children. The oldest son (6) is autistic and has ADHD. The middle son is the one in the title, and he is three. The youngest one is three months old. 

My middle child has always been a high needs child. He was such an awful baby and I developed postpartum depression and anxiety and went back to work part time in order to ""escape"" him. That sounds terrible, I know. 

 As he grew into toddlerhood, he actually got a bit better and wasn't so overwhelming. But all that hit the fan around this past summer, when he increasingly became more angry and spiteful. He terrorizes his older brother and does whatever he can to make him unhappy. Since my older son is autistic, his responses are often very over the top in return, and it turns bad quickly. The middle kiddo will hit me when I have to pick him up to put him in time out, and this is very triggering, as I have PTSD from childhood abuse. 

He throws things, destroys things, throws himself into things and hurts himself doing so. He just got so *explosive*. It makes me so, so sad to see him suffering like this at home. But yet, he doesn't do this anywhere else. He doesn't do it in daycare. He doesn't do it when he is other classes with children. He doesn't do this at karate. He's a perfect fucking angel everywhere else. He is so sweet with others, and I find myself yearning for that peacefulness at home. 

We don't spank or hit in our house. We follow 1-2-3 Magic, which usually results to him always letting us get to three and us having to pick him up and put him in his bedroom and locking the door for him to serve his time out. He will kick the door and throw himself around until he comes out bruised up his legs. 1-2-3 Magic worked like a charm for my older kiddo, but it's obviously not working for this one. 

I've tried time ins, but he didn't seem responsive to it, and also, it's really hard to do them when I am home alone with a three month old. 

We go to see a therapist on Friday for support and some guidance. I don't know if these are neurotypical three year old behaviors or not. I have nothing to compare to as far as NT toddlers go. I just want him to stop suffering through this anger and find some peace.",3.4607490518331265,4.9202172809734535,4.58816434892541,85.1694778761062,73.0929203539823,7.643590391908977,25.74614412136536,8.238735603445708,1.5645119342604301,1769,58,357,28,35,580,216,452,0.11599999999999999,0.823,0.061,-0.9747,0,1,0,0,2,0,60.0,7,0,1,6,21,22,4,3,20,1,40,2,1,6,3,65,63,42,0,4,11,4,1,2,0,2,0,1,6,4,25,33,0,1,5,0,0,12,10,15,0,9,7,5,43,7,55,50,8,70,1,7,2,1,54,29,1,7,30,243,68,4,0.0,0.10846496630289988,0.08933398215443378,0.0,0.11001839822810393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948122342436833,0.0,0.07320790329962244,0.15234429818277975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003110034626467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16298758123389914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039187722284107,0.076435624577281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096344947185957,0.19988522153492225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885726511467889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884692800548175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011098969633304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529469476127676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629977125620691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733957126903248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463118359443253,0.04782809204587453,0.0,0.10405341332674856,0.0,0.14643259819999566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200566648324074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672152578889176,0.2754790391136061,0.0,0.0,0.10562977302676606,0.09800001251787567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062065093915594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361019748842772,0.0,0.08944779251335351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221299486895823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613949323244513,0.0,0.0,0.0678789010962449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783917641550401,0.0,0.28818087154080474,0.0,0.18609825805828228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099133501352184,0.08738934465338638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701032887746677,0.18405451099967948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058645590393029724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458978292517793,0.08333844663844964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572634922873925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653509171285026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388332955298342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628992951232884,0.18245379504898304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135207523926668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215253632931764,0.09957385592897314,0.0,0.0,0.3303493820259072,0.0,0.1008230576168907,0.1510671863538572,0.05399517022059009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848624364853094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19993591190070195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058951495320937415
parenting,Jeffbrownnoho,2020/02/26,"Can a five-year-old learn to cross the street by themselves? I don't drive due to disability, and get around mostly by walking. Because of this, my daughter has been gaining "" pedestrian skills"" in our small City since she was practically an infant.

Since before she was 2 years old, she has been able to walk a few feet ahead of me without darting into traffic, and it's really good at "" stopping at the crosswalk"". Recently, she has started demonstrating other skills like making eye contact with drivers when about to cross, and waving to acknowledge drivers who are stopping.

The playground at her preschool is a little over half a mile from our house. I could tell she wanted to be more independent than usual, and she was running about 200 feet ahead of me on the walk back. She was turning around to make sure I was following and could see her.

I was pretty proud of her when she made the appropriate turn when she was walking, as it pretty much means she knows the way back home from her preschool. I could tell she was pretty proud  but how effectively she was leading the way. 

Instinctively, however, I yelled out for her to stop at the crosswalk. Was this necessary? The streets she would have had to cross aren't terribly busy, and cars seldom go very fast on them.

Truthfully, I'm less worried about her safety skills then I am about cars ability to see her given her height. When I think about it this way however, what's the difference between Crossing at age 5 and age 8 ? does an extra foot really make that much of a difference?

What does everyone think? Should I start stepping back and seeing how my daughter does with the street Crossing by herself?

Do any parents have experience teaching Street crossing to 5 year olds? Am I missing something?",6.278324037925266,7.543584021472395,5.753508087005018,80.20558839933075,66.14723926380368,8.749358616843281,32.302844394868934,8.97023862654752,2.707814723926381,1405,57,252,23,22,430,175,326,0.033,0.855,0.113,0.9755,3,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,2,0,1,10,16,8,0,0,18,0,32,4,4,9,2,43,54,17,0,6,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,11,14,0,3,7,0,0,18,3,2,0,1,15,5,39,6,48,33,7,67,0,1,4,0,33,21,0,1,26,175,50,3,0.09613896442019182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537779255129474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116812195612835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177478800502776,0.0,0.05860542038094262,0.0,0.08180717775226849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23027742057236925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20088951136717434,0.0,0.0,0.2523955668994751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186490044830216,0.0,0.09404235482387294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022864092012474,0.0,0.05463798900329949,0.0806368020733846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643522000547684,0.0,0.0,0.11093145707645584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052835460594209696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469686418490385,0.09635649896120972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096901267729726,0.192520515845314,0.0,0.0,0.10472351635677396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413464014797272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026450125333868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067509427092475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29342366819080185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317816477290527,0.0,0.09492562907385234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22983092246762754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590542896820571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401247173550175,0.0,0.0,0.13609530768229205,0.0,0.0,0.2411294372194277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060983620812144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805938479926752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320393295843356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20914317258114554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588348689825418,0.07932471413352109,0.056705252089707135,0.22893190516889636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267453097411912,0.0,0.0,0.09763378506509167,0.0,0.06829436196246133,0.0,0.0,0.185731023140522
parenting,hayreed,2020/02/26,I really need help So about six months ago my parents banned me from seeing my boyfriend of a year and a half. This has brought me into depression and everyday I just want to see him again. What can I do for my parents to let me? I have tried talking to them and they just ignore me and I’ve tried to just go and see him anyways and they take my belongings and ground me and treat me horribly. I’m afraid that I might lose him if I don’t fix anything soon but they will not give in. Any advice on what I should do?,0.7829090909090901,2.7286507454545488,2.1481818181818184,97.47227272727274,82.45454545454545,5.8181818181818175,20.0,6.980632752743323,0.1197272727272729,402,11,96,5,11,129,71,110,0.1,0.853,0.047,-0.6727,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,4,1,8,5,0,1,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,21,20,11,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,2,1,3,24,1,11,15,0,12,0,2,3,0,12,4,0,2,6,71,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622756490867774,0.1780044583953714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365565426871204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524813626463142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295591059891774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263363709352468,0.11412399511368515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459758312794556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053401109911336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465314378160653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21302589260354926,0.0,0.0,0.16028328411681847,0.0,0.0,0.14889682383996874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459477475789141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864295091284228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800546936507004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509828647150714,0.16140212004040475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27267133390719017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184419490991007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931397344601306
parenting,Iceth_Thtea,2020/02/26,"11 year old cutting herself My eleven year old daughter has been cutting herself lately. I'm having a hard time understanding where she's coming from. She's; spoiled but not too much, receives lots of love especially from me, I do a lot with her and always have. Nothing is really that bad in her life, I talk to her about everything, I'm a young dad who understands social media. She's not addicted to video games or tik tok, it seems like she has a good balance of things. The only correlation I can find between the times she's cut herself is when I don't order her things on Amazon right away. Seriously. We have a therapist appointment next week but you know how that is. How the hell do I even approach such a situation?",3.6251877934272336,5.590933091549297,4.730633802816904,82.22275821596246,73.71830985915494,7.8319248826291075,27.32629107981221,8.59863814320734,2.055786854460094,577,22,111,11,12,189,99,142,0.135,0.764,0.10099999999999999,-0.462,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,0,8,9,4,0,9,0,13,3,0,2,0,18,21,7,0,0,5,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,5,2,0,3,3,6,0,1,1,1,21,3,12,20,3,20,1,0,0,1,22,5,1,4,12,78,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823748741707696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604384129655706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153612213425085,0.0,0.13651440983920246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083947201582295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079892106743399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694190039616048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943465786323373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371347763044917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646253269130166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985449426600273,0.0,0.1844334182476665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548381873352526,0.07987710360130518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27800113892565664,0.14756377066001078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019020254999105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388249899765307,0.0,0.0,0.15688121076318526,0.0,0.34312832376186075,0.0,0.0,0.12434796919252965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047413193318194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962681714570588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884288475017418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837791531127818,0.0,0.16666612073601242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141389307400467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983434857074286,0.21724226359792628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067456871394006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404153884119493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114862662579516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105753341425121
parenting,harleyquinzilla,2020/02/26,"Dad's on duty while mom is sick My husband did such a good job last night with our 7mo. I have the flu and spent the night going between the couch and the bathroom, wishing for the quiet embrace of death. My husband has a cold but sucked it up and got baby to bed, got up for feedings and diaper changes all night (baby is a terrible sleeper, usually I get up because it's easier for me to feed), and got baby ready and off to day care. He even made me tea!",5.538125000000001,4.340142395833337,6.525083333333331,82.47825000000002,67.75,9.346666666666668,31.7,8.238735603445708,2.1399275,354,12,77,4,5,119,66,96,0.133,0.715,0.152,0.2598,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,8,0,5,5,0,1,1,12,15,8,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,7,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,6,2,7,2,14,9,1,13,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,7,47,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236853060032388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20466662078243802,0.0,0.21235507036666945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945994183889256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258610727718415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487775607605164,0.0,0.11408450593530026,0.16837021077384712,0.4816475524741208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992023191861509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636289427467464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994393929990366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23510289736605666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.565139394561401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22108546653802894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308397534389208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AmericanBloodMage,2020/02/26,"How do I help the relationship with my mom? [rant] My mom lives in the south and I live in the Midwest. I love my mom and she knows I love her. We haven't always had the best relationship as when we were young she would constantly scream at us and woop us with a cowhide belt when we did stuff wrong/sometimes I didn't even know why.

She also really focused on her bf who was NOT  a good guy. This made me resent her because she never really balanced out her behavior with lovey dovey mom stuff (hugs, I love you, special time together, etc.). She always spent hours talking on the phone with her friends, my oldest sister whose 41 now and her cousin but never really me. 

She did work hard for us though and provided the best she could but I ended up feeling like a huge to her and I am the only one (out of four) who just doesn't really feel as connected with her.

I'm now 28 and getting my second degree and I sometimes want a relationship with her but sometimes she is just so weird and unnecessary. She's good as in she is trying to do all the grandma stuff with my nieces and nephews and does the holiday cards with her new husband (that I didn't even meet before she married btw which really hurt me) as well as helped me out when my car broke down. So I really wanted to just let our negative past go and just try to reach out more but I have been having some issues with her as of late.

We have been trying to talk more but if I call her she always says she has to call someone else or as of late she has been calling me freaking out when I am in a grocery store or out in public. She is constantly thinking I will be kidnapped or talking about some crazy occurrence that happened recently and is being sensationalized in the news.

Today when she called, she was freaking out because I was in Wal-mart and wanted me to be aware of my surroundings which I understand but I don't understand why she ALWAYS does this. 

Literally, last month, she called 6 times just to talk for two seconds when I was at my apartment (I was studying and forgot my phone was vibrate). 

We only talk like once a month and she always gets so hurried to get off the phone and talk to who else? Her husband or cousin or her friends.

I understand we are in different states but it makes me not want to answer the phone. I'm sick of our interactions being so chaotic. I see it in myself, in all own my actions in every day life and even in this post. It probably looks insane to everyone reading this I am sorry. I'm just so sick of things being the way that they are and even when I was younger and tried to tell her I wanted more she just brushed it off. 

I feel like I am still 12 years old trying to talk to her and feeling like I am talking to a brick wall. Yet I'm 28 and about to start a life with my boyfriend once I graduate. I just don't know how to deal.",3.902362306368332,4.720188562822724,4.758743115318413,86.81536080034425,71.28915662650603,7.944251290877798,26.05684165232358,8.158263871857827,1.3914113253012048,2229,67,478,31,40,723,241,581,0.09300000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.096,-0.7141,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,11,1,1,3,35,23,1,0,21,0,47,9,1,4,4,99,82,58,0,8,23,10,5,4,3,2,4,2,0,1,21,45,0,1,12,2,2,3,11,7,1,5,19,10,100,16,72,54,11,72,0,2,2,4,99,32,0,8,38,350,121,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044997831896572575,0.23409914814707594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860140818276354,0.0,0.047880277598761234,0.0,0.11810046208353432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872817192948497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161233581646007,0.0,0.04492575152398935,0.0,0.0,0.036288473310241695,0.058010266094448024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587885185335897,0.0,0.0,0.09848173994739287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401008262189506,0.0,0.049837115170577415,0.0,0.06275415765513093,0.14865903218848836,0.0,0.04740856726482672,0.05376688275895574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380400710036505,0.12059450276766785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694567714804989,0.0,0.08819377480348467,0.0,0.0319786374838423,0.0943905553041269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571457828658555,0.04975797438486704,0.0,0.05040544843739971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543106623216624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541305528989116,0.0,0.060236503032919414,0.0,0.0,0.05872960724608421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277094956031606,0.045866269035079364,0.12694644811598624,0.0,0.0,0.05753826759864265,0.07948809246383365,0.1099596231997575,0.0,0.0993720843172266,0.0,0.04725129782542088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15235332674961707,0.053242535674119885,0.03755960457016961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26360355473805985,0.08982582553976498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867953424187254,0.05434438674382192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059044237160788375,0.11984805314353,0.038128934877785514,0.0855893317458884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053714569917002436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388958844202522,0.0,0.06066686930483449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05628364297068859,0.0,0.21628192851094089,0.0,0.05555827246670976,0.1812336625524853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04474690280291446,0.0,0.0,0.04483864240638805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047676046226539016,0.0,0.1669527064276969,0.06298788487976853,0.03982707441301672,0.0,0.04493602965313527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324162244607265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618113705713951,0.049181075660826266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03738223528910612,0.0360545289141538,0.05528343296894507,0.0,0.06562113166437639,0.0,0.05333587901624519,0.0,0.0,0.19101280433110548,0.0,0.05496606625102299,0.1757322162118561,0.2030519286790593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594284792373398,0.044663249492579236,0.0,0.0,0.05059206349354877,0.0,0.1015469867840132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04096407695662065,0.0,0.0,0.03997146826278642,0.061520679664522473,0.0,0.03623501503172824
parenting,dontmattertome_666,2020/02/26,"Prepping family for Coronavirus outbreak Anyone else starting to get nervous? I live in a fairly populated area (metro of DC) and have two toddlers (4 & 3). Is anyone starting to prepping for a possible pandemic? Food, medical supplies, water, etc.? I want to be prepared in the event we start getting quarantined and have to stay in our homes for two week. Curious what others are doing...",5.344347826086956,7.87268046376812,6.338478260869567,70.10163043478265,70.44927536231884,9.237681159420287,36.13768115942029,9.725611199111238,4.354176811594204,308,17,45,8,6,102,54,69,0.03,0.882,0.087,0.4479,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,6,3,0,0,0,4,12,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,11,11,1,10,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,5,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207604803232152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849301712969264,0.20876353260563832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020500697261529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272324742913166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207513974828264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463724522605899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289946264937176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043754931801664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991289691897008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20525430964423327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22969484786177544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326408799424412,0.2171678723025128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980636726866867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017563563479584,0.0,0.16343406509498498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oatmeal9217,2020/02/26,"SAHM Guilt DH and I have a 10 month old son that I’ve stayed home with since he was born. 

I have terrible guilt about DH being the only one working and bringing in a paycheck, but we live very comfortably with extra money set aside. He’s a truck driver so his schedule varies week to week, but he’s only gone on one or two overnight trips a week. I did work before LO but was put on bed rest a month before he was born. DH always tells me that it’s more than okay that I stay home because daycare would cost almost half his paycheck and whatever I would make would just cover daycare costs anyway, and I cook, clean, walk the dogs, etc. I still have terrible guilt about it though. Does anyone else feel this way??",2.9193749999999987,4.640508854166669,3.2663888888888906,93.0175,75.04166666666666,5.911111111111111,21.027777777777786,6.42735559955562,0.13751111111111136,561,13,119,4,12,173,94,144,0.086,0.841,0.073,0.2185,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,7,7,0,3,7,1,11,1,0,1,0,18,15,10,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,6,7,1,0,1,1,3,5,0,5,0,4,5,1,11,2,9,6,4,22,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,10,65,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790160853002224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289939014271865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032762474197788,0.151337530507704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003739756558632,0.0,0.2513660115095694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925448336236905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338556027378915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472609502812374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468226165674317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963130777501044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042303503092126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985918259893756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23578768366486366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498776471292286,0.0,0.20017257133832952,0.22466712838450584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484806942215694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221801176540334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148600628631732,0.11795452233631774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909752669157568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511586758552844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428279799956575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218691168289756,0.0,0.11723848992781223,0.35543144202823795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505674478427006,0.0,0.0,0.3147684930608436,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,succulenmybottee,2020/02/27,"can i put a cotten babycloth under my little ones chin? my daughter (lilith/lily) likes to overfeed when she has latched good and consequently spits up afterwards sometimes, she likes to take a while trying to keep it all down before she finally spits up so i’ve adapted to tucking a little baby cloth under her chin so i can hold her and burp her without her getting spit up all over the place, my only worry is that the cloth might chafe her skin if she moves around too much, could this be a issue or am i okay? (first time parent and my lily bean is 4 days old)",6.5348967551622374,5.783355424778763,6.374469026548674,82.90500737463127,65.54867256637168,8.5952802359882,29.45280235988201,7.1686216300943375,1.5605705014749265,445,12,90,3,6,140,78,113,0.026000000000000002,0.878,0.096,0.782,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,6,1,9,5,4,0,2,13,12,9,0,2,3,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,16,4,13,9,3,21,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,3,10,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17841218821883786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053873616175516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001538149428798,0.0,0.0,0.1292513470249453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195452642425534,0.0,0.17047322891425365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470876978032848,0.0,0.0,0.1680989210428944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091815982972201,0.0,0.17813840775072534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958256730094086,0.4017377449098105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21260905811007655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213009843055514,0.1473283722264596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21030223900156134,0.0,0.1358066555031761,0.1524249356613028,0.0,0.0,0.2225375737669446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093914269995731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014728227169446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982159459722974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068743177418625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686382599248354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360688946472698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931932847576012,0.0,0.0,0.20353155761112252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dj_unscripted_,2020/02/27,Newborn hibernation is getting to me. My baby is 7 1/2 weeks old.  Our pediatrician has advised we generally stay in until the flu season had passed.  I also have a toddler so the hibernation stage has been tough. My husband and I moved to a new city so he could go to med school so I have no family in town. I’ve basically been having children since we arrived 2.5 years ago so it’s been hard to get out and make friends. He is currently gone for 15 hrs a day 6 days a week.  We have had record snow and on the days it isn’t snowing it’s ridiculously cold and windy. I can’t even make it outside for a walk.  Now the news is talking about potential long stretches of quarantine to avoid the coronavirus.  I just want to be out of this house but obviously the risks aren’t worth it. I can’t believe I may have more MONTHS of this.,1.6065294117647078,3.7568385941176494,3.4417647058823526,88.19794117647058,80.70588235294117,6.8235294117647065,24.117647058823533,7.928766900206844,1.2817647058823538,651,24,141,12,17,218,110,170,0.077,0.887,0.035,-0.5455,2,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,9,5,1,2,11,0,23,1,0,2,1,20,30,11,0,2,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,7,9,0,1,0,0,1,5,5,4,0,0,6,2,14,1,18,21,1,29,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,1,15,88,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068147479920234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539799259430362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169347578723146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373327116069416,0.0,0.0,0.3725310441005361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717560937025066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815163635071657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876148876567974,0.0,0.2011959293815333,0.0,0.1094290107763236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248447070418774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222173616439648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17039821252604034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25705350175349034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138765320803806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368933770160845,0.2046472011412177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859632851970984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20204589603957684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948680455847777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927703322488002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20522969553790527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476214546843348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356932704137387,0.0,0.308899498478697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399408362506678
parenting,FrenchArmadillo,2020/02/27,"My daughter made a racist comment about her own race when talking about boys with friends. My daughter is 12 and had a sleepover last weekend. I wasn't hovering but our home is small and there isn't much privacy. I guess tween girls forget this because they had a lot of conversations with very little volume control. Some of these convos were about boys. I am not worried. My daughter will be 13 in May. I know boy talk is normal at this age. 

A specific boy was mentioned. It should be noted that this boy is a friend of my daughter's and one of the few kids in the entire middle school that shares my daughter's racial background. I am guessing that is why the girls, who were al white, linked him to my daughter. My daughter made a very nasty and racist comment about his race. I will not say exactly what she said but she used a slur. It was along the lines of, ""Eww. Are you kidding? I would never date a (insert racial slur)."" The other girls laughed and one said that she was the same race. My daughter said she was but she wasn't one of them. It was shocking and I damn near ran into the room and kicked all of them out. I refrained from doing that and have yet to address it because I don't know what to say. I don't want my daughter to feel like she is being spied on. I wasn't trying to overhear but I couldn't help it. I also have no clue what to even say. Obviously it was wrong but maybe she is struggling too? I don't think she ever said anything to this boy and still has hung out with him since but never with her other friends.",1.9683333333333373,4.049136003184714,2.5843566878980897,95.17630148619956,79.09554140127389,4.95099787685775,22.250106157112526,5.6839178017228535,0.05502666666666745,1211,37,261,6,30,375,156,314,0.11699999999999999,0.807,0.075,-0.9386,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,3,1,12,10,1,1,15,0,40,0,0,4,6,53,55,17,0,5,8,9,1,1,3,5,0,7,3,11,22,17,0,2,5,1,0,1,13,4,0,3,20,9,42,6,32,26,7,23,0,0,1,0,58,12,1,5,11,189,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653066920290952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933293947222348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471657535715297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538502262564808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079726929361816,0.10918789074357704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103392374893324,0.0862342885105522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27977762635405945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659483884785111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090846819927132,0.0,0.12108062471604768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267664190621864,0.09839366603203244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058972152464866076,0.12098178537895052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026221833978865,0.0,0.2284348992856275,0.0,0.0,0.1212680700651043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873475163720622,0.0,0.1861959150972653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182688547536661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24538592936255266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4592862983452849,0.2879771062471048,0.0,0.12216360497225184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985144824358234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639808921703473,0.0,0.0,0.12619089670840233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940420918876478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773452332520939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195325441806663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425352315551813,0.0,0.19919456692613247,0.0711970932125501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892078769851177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258550028093725,0.0,0.08574796646421375,0.1319759670084576,0.0,0.0
parenting,Horsedicdotmpeg,2020/02/27,"My sisters husband likes to shower with our daughter. So he usually showers with his daughters, my nieces along with my daughter. She’s three years old. I along with my Fiancée have told them that we feel uncomfortable about it. They usually say that we’re making a big deal about it and they just do it behind our backs. My question is are we making a big deal? What are your thoughts?",2.7351351351351347,5.394007040540544,2.8472297297297287,91.1246283783784,79.94594594594595,5.321621621621622,25.466216216216218,6.6274283507984215,0.9521405405405416,307,12,59,3,8,93,51,74,0.057,0.905,0.038,-0.0926,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,4,1,3,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,0,15,10,2,0,0,1,5,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,6,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,16,1,10,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,21,2,0,1,6,44,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694770974593986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5013013046634613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293103677213375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877833502908353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32457494235613865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551182326363683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27235504731147403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193342336322234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301367139060016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323158493262928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355345092272822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656418710725395
parenting,Pixiedustpotatoe,2020/02/27,"What to do about nickname that has stuck? My daughter (2yo) has a beautiful name, but has earned the nickname 'Pookie'. It has well and truly stuck. She identifies as it, hasn't got a clue what her real name is, and everyone knows her as Pookie. She has never been called by her birth name. 

Do we stick with the nickname she likes or enforce her birth name? I'm concerned the nickname is so unusual it might bring her unwanted attention at school. Has anyone experienced similar?",4.1367696629213455,6.512515528089888,4.52627808988764,82.42627106741574,73.49438202247191,8.045505617977529,27.97893258426966,8.841846274778883,2.4119539325842694,378,15,68,8,8,119,58,89,0.065,0.8,0.135,0.8334,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,0,1,16,19,7,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,1,10,2,7,14,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,4,48,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24020683277687666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507864370826845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282612844693218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747553762911181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879720192963054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783327068232698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36443509220150777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649544582680841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910166934744371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476745637367057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088781587134056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,legendarycupcake,2020/02/27,"My daughter wants to hide relationships if her partner hasn’t come out yet I guess the title says most of it... and I recently found out about her hiding a girlfriend and just saying they were friends. As a parent I’m struggling with how to handle this, because I want to be involved in her life, and I want to know who she is dating. She is a preteen so dating isn’t much of a concern quite yet, it’s mostly just saying she’s someone’s girlfriend at school, and maybe texting after school, but I want to be consistent with rules as she grows older. I understand that she doesn’t want to out someone by telling anyone that they are lgbtq+, but as her mom, I just want to be able to look out for her. I also feel like if I force the issue she’ll just try harder to hide things from me. Does anyone have any advice for me?",7.153035714285713,5.364705851190479,7.0690476190476215,81.78428571428573,64.89285714285714,9.352380952380953,31.714285714285715,7.1686216300943375,1.858878571428571,645,18,135,4,8,206,97,168,0.045,0.878,0.077,0.4678,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,2,1,10,3,0,1,6,0,12,1,0,1,0,33,26,14,0,8,8,3,1,1,4,1,1,3,0,1,7,11,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,5,25,2,28,20,3,15,0,0,1,0,27,6,0,5,8,97,32,2,0.14149853173149618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827072756555353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315632470366604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622385376882236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978781267827932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625619160163134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188845595043428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238263186600108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154590919861684,0.10108657934172437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514583655537684,0.10932141461346977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558765853877664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476877046550074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776389253333588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994459757068534,0.06912903523709699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882312933859845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421542938196088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572137020701933,0.0,0.0,0.10401770185237903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711737426556993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050110589499122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397127295747912,0.15191646873239473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375759353042726,0.0,0.2864081367166957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397824935120112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479249879907842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367595353357268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400533706258704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606821483812304,0.0,0.0,0.14730496174622928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5007570006946768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maggieswaggie,2020/02/27,"SAHM w/ 19 mo twins & 9 mo baby (I call them Irish triplets): What do your toddlers do all day? Leaving the house and taking all the kids somewhere is logistical nightmare so it doesn’t happen as often as I’d like but I’m working on it. 

What can I do to keep them stimulated and learning at home while simultaneously tending to everything around the house and to myself/family? What’s a typical day for your toddler? What exactly are they supposed to do all day? I read to them and do flash cards, they have a playroom with lots of toys but that can only take up for so much of their day. I feel like people with just one baby do so much for their kids in comparison to me.",4.47103811841038,5.0882121459854055,5.5919221411192215,82.08371451743716,69.87591240875912,8.424655312246554,28.360908353609084,8.515128840125781,1.8547540957015407,532,18,111,8,9,177,87,137,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.8079,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,7,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,4,20,19,12,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,14,2,20,19,6,10,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,7,77,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968360405195751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617220814888555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855022450033833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686405583563265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327052087820618,0.0,0.17125941171600267,0.0,0.09185625724513843,0.12978288961661613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606474644100188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222674093624425,0.0,0.0,0.4192384875402031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147391264110927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235904605112236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775065692776123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444672566080586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267092189795946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310221194683264,0.13816588492101695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259449738317442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171608958723606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731818421602456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322556871804534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ardhu_LXXIX,2020/02/27,"Superheroes with glasses for 1st grader Hi mum's and dad's,

We just had our sons eyes tested and he needs glasses.

Unfortunately the news didn't stick well with him and he is feeling quite down.

I have asked him why he thinks glasses are bad and he does not know.

My wife and I are wearing glasses seens our teenage years so we expected for him to get glasses at some stage... Its quite earlier than anticipated.

To help him to transition into the thought that glasses are there to support you we asked friends and family to record videos to show him their glasses and to explain why they need them/how they are helping them.

In addition I am looking for superheroes now who are wearing glasses also but can't think of to many... Reddit to the rescue!

Here are the ones I can think of

Tony Stark
Clark Kent
Beast
Peter Parker at some stage....?

Help?!",3.450143149284255,5.753370987730065,3.7056687116564433,87.84950511247446,75.31901840490798,6.555255623721883,26.81758691206544,7.554174236665415,1.4511091206543965,673,26,131,9,15,208,103,163,0.033,0.882,0.085,0.8242,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,1,4,2,7,4,0,0,4,0,13,3,3,0,0,30,28,10,0,3,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,14,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,1,1,1,4,4,20,3,22,24,2,9,0,0,3,0,32,5,0,2,2,81,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143704711901737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359874143114158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004062285395545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725524397765306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940361909836282,0.0,0.09086088909356356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388345055644074,0.0,0.09388497523460154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36134406429568255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875751799226314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509013624610319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218593015369464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664881108893248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217682579535484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38226264630229423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039195670405394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454303555515947,0.0,0.1426604236834864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157040467117667,0.0,0.3242996354541612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157198508554417
parenting,MundaneSocialite,2020/02/27,"New to being a SAHM I have an almost 4 year old daughter, she’s wonderful and I love her BUT I just quit my job due to pregnancy complications (15 weeks along with #2) and I feel like a total wad because I have no idea what I can do at home with her.

We draw/paint but she only wants to do that for 5-10 minutes before she gets distracted.  In all honesty (and I really hate admitting this) I don’t like playing with her toys.  

We go for walks but my energy has been a 0% lately and I do take her to the park but feel bad if there aren’t kids to play with.


I’m technically supposed to be on bed rest so I was looking for activities that will entertain/engage her that I can do for/with her at home.  I love arts and crafts so if I can help incorporate her in to my hobbies that would be awesome!",1.652840336134453,2.9992347882352948,3.861008403361346,89.0088235294118,77.58823529411767,7.445378151260503,22.731092436974787,8.192908349453996,1.0299915966386552,614,18,143,11,14,212,104,170,0.08199999999999999,0.711,0.207,0.9718,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,4,9,1,1,5,0,19,2,0,0,2,29,32,13,0,4,7,1,2,2,0,2,0,0,3,1,6,12,0,0,5,4,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,3,28,6,20,25,3,13,0,0,1,2,18,5,0,4,8,97,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940486145324898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180315540285448,0.11813010302836885,0.0,0.16489755168581768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19596797558428453,0.13844070565477454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124514913980116,0.0,0.11013300865804382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132348423576614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989062267943888,0.0,0.38876617216501785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876072496244747,0.0,0.0,0.1923026318409329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185989674596039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893480317917389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273137325316786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497987317830593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18715965678017055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20334573309204612,0.0,0.0,0.14738293054181642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611518796666325,0.0,0.0,0.12414422762335835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457029008695057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429996113098423,0.0,0.15544338242240793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015257251821115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765996323278154,0.0,0.0,0.12479178408492304
parenting,Rethirded,2020/02/27,"Hyperfocus? My child is 2 years and 2 months, he responds to his name sometimes. When he's busy, he doesn't respond to us at all.


We had him diagnosed by a therapist and said he had hyperfocus and is in the ASD spectrum. The therapist rang a bell near his ear and he didn't flinch one bit. He's not deaf because he can hear us and responds to our questions sometimes.

Any thoughts?",1.7331493506493525,4.033703272727276,3.0286850649350647,90.49159902597404,81.20779220779221,6.447402597402598,27.806818181818183,7.645422480735847,1.6310532467532473,300,14,64,5,8,97,52,77,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,7,3,1,0,1,11,10,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,5,8,0,7,5,2,6,0,0,0,0,22,3,0,1,3,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396278802140171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516407020659367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22416146333187367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084003131208762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314159312588416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388826748674867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913337374158646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300107261432052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953108691930651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4061428829143177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767957521614502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630049273929781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4939608195614393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222241599721954
parenting,boxfullofcats,2020/02/27,"What schedule did you have your infant on? My daughter is almost 5 months old in one more week, but she was born a month early. I know being a preemie can slow them down when it comes to developing. Right now she can stand with me only making sure she doesn't fall forward, just started trying to reach for things, and she babbled talked and cooed for a couple weeks then stopped suddenly. She can't lift herself up during tummy time, can't sit well, can't roll over but kind of attempts it. She is not on any feeding or sleep schedule. I feed her when she is hungry and let her sleep when she is tired.

I know it's time for some more structure and I want to be doing everything I can to help her meet her milestones. I know everyone develops at their own rate, but we had a playdate with a 5 month old yesterday and she is leagues behind. I've gotten all in my head, and want to make sure I am doing everything I need to help her. Thank you for any input!!",4.185384615384617,4.841522205128207,4.722564102564103,87.92076923076925,70.53846153846155,7.435897435897437,26.282051282051288,7.321109707123232,1.1245897435897445,750,22,159,7,13,239,121,195,0.044000000000000004,0.8440000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9053,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,3,2,1,6,5,0,0,5,0,22,6,3,2,3,30,34,14,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,10,2,1,3,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,4,0,32,5,22,27,5,37,0,0,0,0,27,10,0,3,24,110,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423143161994391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329520898454172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242522847996845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725491706323586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580333961694024,0.2554595735385837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458578284787955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905223100085436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799784188584522,0.23431904777159754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532902959428734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897346274727492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34032046678724875,0.0,0.0,0.10538141239861593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982655560493364,0.0,0.0963053170788038,0.10808992906267936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137112377894578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844486034037296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059444466415828,0.0,0.0,0.11882007416887815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678959711305988,0.0,0.0,0.1142320093561532,0.0,0.13084653276840008,0.0,0.0,0.09441931787948506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574456937399615,0.1633479448341075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649128015866056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765407832638726,0.0,0.22800285104296905,0.0,0.1277844432852452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GlassAxolotyl,2020/02/27,When did your babies go from 2 naps to 1 nap per day? My 12 month old is refusing his morning nap lately but ends up so tired with only one nap. He sleeps from about 8pm to 630am and usually naps 2.5 hours and then takes another 1-1.5 hour one later in the day. Grumpy baby makes me sad!,3.260806451612904,3.4388355645161326,4.5388709677419365,90.12830645161293,72.38709677419354,8.135483870967743,21.951612903225808,8.07648339933343,0.6943419354838709,223,4,53,3,4,74,53,62,0.172,0.828,0.0,-0.9082,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,6,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,0,8,4,0,15,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,12,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908438303636424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063909651147145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21039245279212174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500107207545084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467863702754149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679586739817781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856169251316268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960443130289445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24926125513043176,0.0,0.321930356676198,0.180662036488492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23771439399051514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860265565758482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27302055451277946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26161988219383503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pantsky,2020/02/27,"An almost 3-year-old I babysit used to talk a lot, but now will not speak or only repeats. HELP I have been with this child since he was 18 months old, he used to be very talkative and would answer questions, etc. Now he seems to not want to talk to adults or answer questions. For example, I will ask if he went potty and he will just stand there looking at me. He refuses to answer questions or talk outside of repeating. It is starting to worry his other caregiver and I. Is this something I should be concerned about? What would suddenly make a child stop talking?",3.252545454545455,5.456472800000004,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727274,75.54545454545455,6.581818181818183,26.45454545454545,7.554174236665415,1.4675636363636362,448,17,86,6,10,140,74,110,0.07400000000000001,0.884,0.042,-0.4006,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,13,0,0,3,0,30,22,8,0,5,8,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,3,5,4,0,2,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,7,0,12,11,2,12,0,0,1,0,21,1,0,10,9,56,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15038694443172626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404011714484435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674941492906154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066474270974254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261162005494513,0.0,0.0,0.12768052489409626,0.0,0.0,0.10024856121478196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198749277760406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151843525048414,0.0,0.0,0.11422121533295508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5047192140162342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672129348172113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423323009748832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561849038564732,0.0,0.0,0.1063005575535257,0.0,0.0,0.12556001650857873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4828467943954031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594204121918832,0.0,0.12391700322030265,0.08858203880799045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922148242836208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251849553415175,0.0,0.213371904674904,0.0,0.0,0.09671316202864776
parenting,buttermaven,2020/02/27,"How to help my 6 year old manage his behavior? I’m at my wits end My son turns 6 next week and we have been dealing with behavioral issues since he started preschool 3 years ago.

It escalated greatly when he started kindergarten to  the point where we had to switch schools mid year (charter school had less interest/options for assistance) Sometimes it’s hitting or kicking other students but mostly it’s just not listening, running away from adults or refusing to do any work. He’s incredibly high energy and rarely sits for very long unless it’s to work on LEGO.

We have done group therapy, he’s currently in individual counseling 2x per month and he’s seen an occupational therapist for an evaluation. He is fully capable of doing all the tasks given him, he just chooses not to. 

The psychiatrist he’s been seeing thinks it may be anxiety instead of ADHD (feels like he’s too young for that diagnosis mostly) We have started the 504 plan process at school because of this and are working toward an official diagnosis.

How do I help him succeed? I feel like I’m doing everything I can and it’s barely gotten better. 

TLDR: 6 year old with possible anxiety/ADHD, does anyone here have experience in how to support him and help him succeed?",4.976987295825771,7.120285137931037,6.160036297640655,72.6464882032668,70.4655172413793,9.366969147005447,32.900181488203266,9.811843763644266,3.6647465517241375,1000,48,167,26,19,334,145,232,0.023,0.8190000000000001,0.158,0.9871,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,7,10,7,0,0,7,0,18,0,0,3,1,32,34,14,0,0,8,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,12,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,8,5,15,7,25,23,4,31,0,0,2,0,27,11,0,5,20,99,24,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28635475956091344,0.0,0.10560618197838627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101603312274283,0.0,0.09113811518989262,0.0,0.0,0.08330211400707484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193145839748117,0.0,0.0,0.07262372272709422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536541833061404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282317788417255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425603154627756,0.12191669021915492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551844137146027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707105147639116,0.1165371028300456,0.0,0.0,0.1204766910158816,0.17022044616690354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134699771922834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395614747933258,0.1258728981139072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243462146184459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164068988957196,0.0,0.0,0.10543091839338177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509259387726812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670165521765442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500247398288989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262128830672155,0.13430705717352534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617136008698468,0.09493534374412536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854988290623068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782777624468088,0.0,0.2529735600904767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519323283936333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624150378370492,0.1383251696963645,0.0,0.07633703681247164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958490594444252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829903116797996,0.0,0.0,0.09556308523743193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260195571386225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30687669590287
parenting,Hyenadon2021,2020/02/27,I want to start a daycare at home when I become a stay-at-home-parent Does this make sense? My spouse and I are planning to have kids soon. I'll probably be a stay-at-home parent for a few years. Should I just take care of other people's children as well?,1.1116363636363644,2.7838132545454566,2.6454545454545446,95.68818181818185,80.0909090909091,5.127272727272729,18.272727272727273,5.6839178017228535,-0.4756181818181822,199,4,46,1,5,65,41,55,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.7149,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,9,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,6,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636086706789718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24335511796717835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20887472575139274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788407430176878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932399464338715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650312858820233,0.0,0.0,0.1654740257634182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573426443320745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894236941676624,0.5088125964360837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17946130684068962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078251204331044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460635023420505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370522152416932
parenting,King-of-the-couch420,2020/02/27,"Am I overreacting? Is this actually that bad? Apologies, I’m actually the child but I need advice from parents on how you’d react. If this isn’t the right place, mods please tell me and I’ll remove it. Also, I’m sorry for formatting. I’m on mobile. I’m sorry for the length too. This was years ago. It had been brought up in therapy. I hadn’t thought it that bad until my therapist’s jaw literally dropped. 

So I’d always been a rather active child. I couldn’t sit still. My second grade teacher (D) would put me in time out for the entirety of recess every day because I just couldn’t sit still. I made sure not to be a distraction. I’d just swing my feet back and forth under my desk (without making an noises). 

D constantly complained to my parents how I couldn’t sit still to which my parents basically said in summery, “maybe if you let her run around at recess for even five minutes instead of forcing her to stand on the blacktop (sidewalk right next to our school playground) then getting mad when she can’t sit still afterwards, then holding it against her for the next day she wouldn’t be so restless” followed by “you (D)  are insane if you think our daughter (me) is able to sit still for eight hours straight. She’s barely seven” blaming the teacher, D. 

I did try to sit still to the point if practice at home and cry because I just wasn’t able to be still enough for D. Every day I’d end up spending recess standing in the same spot. If I even moved while on the blacktop, then D would say I had to spend the next recess standing there. 

Im sorry for the backstory but it’s kind of necessary. This is where I need advice. So, one day the class was gathered in a circle on the reading rug. We were expected to sit criss-cross applesauce (as my school called it) but me being unable to sit still, I uncrossed my legs, put them out in front of me still with my butt in the same spot. D snapped at me to sit criss-cross applesauce, so I did. I got back into the position but I still couldn’t sit still. I started gently swaying myself side to side. It wasn’t swaying like it was really noticeable. My head went one way about two inches and the other way to inches. 

D was fed up at that point and told me to come to the center on the reading rug (right in front of her) so trying my best not to upset her, I did as she said. Once I was in front of her, she told me to get on my hands and knees. Again, I did as I was told. D (who was sitting in the teacher chair) took off her shoes and rested her feet on my back while the entire class watched. I stayed like that for the rest of the school day (like 35-40 minutes) until it was time for pickup. 

My therapist was horrified that she did that but I didn’t really think it was that bad. I thought I deserved it. I didn’t really question it until I saw my therapists face. I hadn’t told my mother at the time because again, I thought I deserved it. After therapy the other day, I told my mom about it and snapped “D is a bitch! D was always so much of a bitch”. My question is, how bad is this really? If your kid came home from school saying the teacher used (your kid) for a foot stool because they couldn’t sit completely still, how would you react? Is this actually that bad or is my therapist & mother making it out as worse than it is?",2.4068355978968192,4.0735919272997005,3.6402733093862274,90.0244648341923,76.3145400593472,6.510239991670573,23.84236555781144,7.273561745256523,0.8585058358061328,2565,81,549,30,57,835,258,674,0.102,0.847,0.05,-0.99,4,0,0,0,0,0,86.0,3,7,2,1,42,18,3,3,33,0,55,12,11,10,1,69,89,44,0,19,19,7,1,3,0,4,0,4,4,4,34,17,1,1,7,2,2,14,17,12,0,7,45,7,85,6,88,29,7,125,0,0,2,1,54,46,3,9,49,374,119,10,0.1048124075998337,0.0,0.15342268566881045,0.0,0.0,0.10242147165333784,0.0464549376592275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04190922224495357,0.0872123194699734,0.05678209992212922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04665263214234229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089140764068625,0.21878495582167728,0.12778534167852654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054997077682175495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053512593444562266,0.059938735975113684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514330421121821,0.054946907614460916,0.05663248866272778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575657540684581,0.20278599596326208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04641634158134104,0.05414961758662396,0.0,0.06922760671033143,0.0,0.08830897392493214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05476015699832204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04191402857661992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053783884288876996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513539070398807,0.0,0.051609554317056695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056607693053633085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05457299677369739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05358889401435357,0.0,0.07680907211111097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049588017164478505,0.06996309595457237,0.0,0.05264907558956272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137751250698925,0.0,0.055699500970067116,0.038524589728031695,0.0777170721620823,0.0,0.0,0.16720377682989354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059664810372185385,0.0,0.05581089669344469,0.07102359995607647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745726623911634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054753328879017515,0.0575262744846675,0.09908160354592498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536541901906377,0.11741388395815805,0.0,0.10484077132586797,0.0,0.13429102436707385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426383510748868,0.0997006014272738,0.0833510333853893,0.0,0.2121515043168271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599336378472294,0.0370933807828318,0.055858040383420605,0.5022199446056013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939222687947509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04580533201806195,0.0,0.1198621225823078,0.24339056727803385,0.0,0.06715955865044547,0.0,0.1248140159620932,0.09167543662577607,0.0,0.0,0.2503818677467293,0.058225220696016974,0.07116074469315821,0.0,0.0511932461932777,0.0,0.0,0.04526213386711226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319521053674969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858107595781165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050517710343376133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053406398859361166,0.11168359071605537,0.0,0.0,0.03374787704226257
parenting,black_sheep_30,2020/02/27,"18 mo old doesn’t want to be put down So, I just went back to work and put my 18 mo daughter in Daycare. She usually is fine at home, plays, isn’t super clingy. But, at day care it’s a different story. For the past two weeks, she’s refused to eat at daycare and screamed unless someone holding her. She’s never been really close to any particular stuffed animal or baby doll (we’ve tried a few) and never took a pacifier. They’re asking me what to do and I’m at a loss. All we can do is wait, but I hate it for her and I hate it for them. It’s a great daycare and they check in with me multiple times a day through an app. My oldest always loved daycare! I don’t know what to do at this point. 

I would hate for her to be kicked out of daycare. I read that some day cares ask kids to leave if they aren’t adjusting well. I don’t have much other option.",0.7635007949125594,2.393564637837837,2.8141176470588256,94.26941176470592,81.0,6.082670906200319,20.6120826709062,7.048011613610866,0.2681510333863275,658,18,157,8,17,222,113,185,0.111,0.75,0.138,0.636,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,3,3,4,13,3,0,8,0,16,2,0,0,3,28,30,12,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,10,1,3,2,2,1,4,7,5,1,1,3,1,21,8,25,24,4,27,0,1,0,1,16,11,0,4,12,100,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959397048908076,0.0,0.0,0.09774059032347053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26873426558027264,0.0,0.0,0.1105186631554686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930824140927673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780797777678531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501661241882379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707056117882106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846163530177892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4257076394199293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417181987161473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898965240282113,0.0,0.0,0.1521881673099829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297209566076655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565728959024946,0.0,0.22170519845918452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081931763632964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720551185969562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587028119991548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889745139062377,0.0,0.0,0.14376780927510105,0.0,0.09207642281910493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217810425749722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380948570132095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968811213734804,0.0975824981210899,0.0,0.1404022645352759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829709311190054,0.0,0.0847750374768416,0.0,0.1152906653685157,0.0,0.12922955500521213,0.13323814341221965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463636133320367,0.0,0.0,0.10210089685635228,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sowffle,2020/02/27,"How long after being with your partner did you decide to have a child together? How did it turn out? I'm just curious how long you waited to have a child, what challenges and obstacles you faced along the way, whether it was planned or unplanned, etc, and how it all turned out in the end?",3.027368421052632,5.020069280701755,3.3472280701754364,91.36926315789476,75.49122807017544,6.665263157894738,25.43508771929825,7.554174236665415,1.173536140350878,227,8,47,3,5,70,41,57,0.045,0.883,0.07200000000000001,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,2,5,1,0,0,4,0,6,1,1,4,1,16,10,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,1,8,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,4,37,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730287916817455,0.0,0.34379381268242953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5456046522428534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6706014575339089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446841676088524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Memonest,2020/02/27,"How can you sate your child's material desires while teaching them the value of money? A close friend of mine have discussed this personally, and I am finding some difficulty trying to figure out a way to teach a child the value of money, while giving them the material things they want.

I suppose the best thing to do is hire a psychoanalyst to help with our future parenting. What do you think?",8.06027027027027,7.8673513783783795,8.368243243243242,68.01695945945946,62.24324324324325,10.643243243243244,33.364864864864856,10.125756701596842,3.284686486486488,318,11,55,6,4,105,54,74,0.03,0.7340000000000001,0.23600000000000002,0.9388,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,3,3,1,1,2,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,9,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,9,9,2,6,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,3,43,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402428821532621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963259763015353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25048714680468603,0.0,0.0,0.3110158780215205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731399628709894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36000158735942184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830914018752048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43078711976928497,0.20774341803595925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22012021266376916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912299811675794,0.25734620281056586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karqntzy,2020/02/27,"what does quality time with kids mean? hello everyone. I'm a working mom, my husband is a phd student who works pretty Long hours too. my life is stressful and time-strapped with two kids (3 and 1) and two jobs. I'm wondering what everyone makes of ""quality"" time. Does quality make up for quantity at this young age? What does ""quality time"" look like and how do you do it??",2.4952446183953043,4.720371753424658,3.833307240704503,86.15410958904111,78.04109589041096,8.554990215264189,28.23679060665361,9.23628265651192,2.656054403131116,290,13,59,8,7,95,50,73,0.044000000000000004,0.867,0.08900000000000001,0.5204,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,2,0,4,1,0,3,0,11,11,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,1,6,11,0,9,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,1,8,29,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4504638273873512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279123731597225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897600838791899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027097804650884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119509119865045,0.08382743973839424,0.0,0.0,0.15184673832952275,0.14408762801326594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290677539324819,0.0,0.0,0.1869056440849572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20095750109554714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456295586986087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965492777005219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002088257554434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352259290989914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860758936012079,0.2498308810157971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rockmypixel,2020/02/27,"Anyone else's kid say stuff like ""you want to kill me?"" when they're upset? Our 3-year old likes to ask things like that after we reprimand him sometimes. Like really exagerated questions like that. His favourite is ""you don't like me?"" or ""you don't love me?""

We love our kid and we have an amazing relationship with him. He's on the creative side of things and we understand children say weird things. Just checking to see if it's somewhat common or if there could be some underlying trauma behind the words. 

Context: He found himself alone for a few minutes before and it seemed to have really affected him. I wonder if he may not have attachment issues because of it. Like if he's in the car and we close the door to go remove snow on the car, he just bawls his eyes out right away.",3.0323376623376603,5.181570675324679,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727276,76.01298701298701,6.7376623376623375,23.33766233766233,7.7094869923839395,1.062251948051948,620,19,124,9,14,196,98,154,0.13699999999999998,0.7120000000000001,0.151,0.3491,0,1,0,0,0,1,21.0,7,3,0,0,4,14,1,1,7,0,9,3,1,1,0,33,19,11,1,6,9,0,0,7,0,1,0,2,1,3,9,12,0,0,5,0,1,4,3,4,0,0,1,4,20,10,17,15,3,17,0,0,2,2,31,9,0,12,11,80,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548274329698353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452747575958757,0.15317103832560766,0.0,0.0,0.13975376176541182,0.0,0.14045157129366884,0.0,0.0,0.0911282325474073,0.0,0.12720569991304104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935627680814224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488042006580155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390899725409433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495909312570099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602960488160236,0.0,0.0,0.16538947282213046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5112357359308062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26984265109004146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686549641190872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674639607499103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153532849392085,0.0,0.0,0.1604972238325066,0.0,0.12766436616976518,0.0,0.23776224263715715,0.0,0.0,0.11912485007402558,0.13609085223708248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785026973236207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711312539551099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29794522772698523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556252433610046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817357448340297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211644625651744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626720394348356
parenting,BMACJ,2020/02/27,"Cradle Cap: info & treatment Hello, created this blog post and infographic on cradle cap that I thought would be helpful to other parents. When my twins were little they had it bad and we got so much advice! All the products I found were either filled with chemicals or make their hair oily (they were born with a ton of hair!)

[Cradle Cap Info](https://www.tisfortame.com/blogs/news/cradle-cap-a-visual-guide)

[Cradle Cap Article](https://www.tisfortame.com/blogs/news/cradle-cap-what-it-is-where-does-it-occur-how-do-you-treat-it)",4.481318681318684,7.950194274725278,4.126813186813191,77.94318681318684,84.27472527472527,4.997802197802199,17.98901098901099,6.67199483983844,0.34034505494505485,433,10,68,5,13,131,68,91,0.049,0.875,0.076,0.2225,1,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,2,1,1,13,10,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,2,7,0,5,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031193472709922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360965779388145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590001956849189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401132368106057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480915920959373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20791743280809435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108972743196463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20705783305464395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280293048662356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34443527397896123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297081439879545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24626049231001546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035390673623526,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alt32492,2020/02/27,"Why parenting is the worst and best thing ever! Situation with my toddler this morning which reminded me how hard parenting can be but also how great it is as well. 

Almost three year old son wanted to take his socks off his feet, put them in his hands and eat breakfast that way. Gross, no way, throws a fit and eventually gets over it. 

After breakfast he puts his socks on his hand anyways. Whatever dude, just let me get ready as long as you don’t put them in your mouth. 10 minutes later he runs to the bathroom to go and cannot get his socks off his hands in time and had an accident in his pants. 

I’m frustrated as of course we are already late and now I need to get clean clothes and clean up pee from the bathroom floor. 

Now the good part  I have a talk with him and tell him to ask for help with going potty if he needs to. I told him he’s been doing so good with going potty on his own but he can ask for help if he needs it. Aka when you have socks on your hands like gloves. 

He gives me a huge hug says “sorry” and then says “love you daddy” unprompted. Instantly makes my frustration go away as it’s not that big of a deal and reminds me how important it is to tell your kids you love them. We tell our boys all the time that we love them but it makes me feel even better when they say it to us first, not just repeating it back to us. 

I gave him a huge hug, double high fives and have had a pretty great day since then. There’s bigger things to worry about than getting frustrated by a small accident and there’s always time to tell your kids you love them.",4.418619631901841,4.478557579754604,4.811171779141105,89.60092944785278,69.8282208588957,8.360490797546012,24.58220858895705,8.07648339933343,0.9962802453987724,1225,27,281,15,20,388,173,326,0.092,0.6629999999999999,0.245,0.9969,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,9,6,3,19,19,3,0,13,0,17,16,7,5,2,41,44,31,0,6,9,3,6,1,0,0,0,3,2,3,15,19,3,0,1,0,0,9,5,5,1,3,5,9,45,14,41,37,6,51,0,0,0,6,67,20,0,3,21,180,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915256824229817,0.0,0.10086414006877348,0.07309397260989338,0.07605360525810168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089665699855644,0.0,0.08587498361787545,0.0702823290079373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592053191130667,0.08083744911909135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058946588366531674,0.0942312245342465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352684219145307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060370015448601426,0.08267814531117428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046215487653994025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774630967971753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387682949801569,0.08768091859522917,0.20778295787390752,0.15332695761632892,0.0,0.2015415762267899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187804416757505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252937656600675,0.0965710017382346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310519207726447,0.0,0.0,0.09346451548027236,0.0,0.04465429414927804,0.0,0.0,0.08088770145116743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32997470983517513,0.0,0.12202279940956512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033197911929889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591079551838227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20298172605342427,0.09897922363522647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298847254916204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756521108932088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180590986275664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756084991769083,0.10273943334957468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231681256864286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872276550501613,0.07346529070356139,0.3195567471375298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214465660745151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598913435939836,0.0,0.0,0.08733832031586848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198901811886877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05391113958034496,0.14510096142334722,0.0,0.0,0.08218117956827849,0.0,0.08247589225708034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282294708918097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05885975133948521
parenting,CantEatThem,2020/02/27,"Does anyone pretend to not notice crap your kid does just because you don't feel like dealing with it? Throwaway account, just in case kids happen upon this. Also, this is probably going to be a little rant-y, so you might want to skip to the TL;DR.

I have a blended family, and there are four teenagers at home. This post particularly refers to my oldest teenage boy in high school (he's 16). Now, let me just say, ultimately, he's a good kid. He has a good heart and soul. He doesn't get into fights, he doesn't do drugs (that I know of), he has friends, he loves his dog, he sometimes comes to me for life advice, and despite some of his actions, he really does care about his family. He checks in with me (mom) every day when he gets home from school and hugs me when I'm about to cry because of PMS.

Having said that, this kid has been giving me fits since he was 4. It's just one thing after another. I can't properly put everything into context with a single post, but hopefully you guys will get the idea. 

I ask him to take out the trash. He doesn't. He leaves things like q-tips on the counter in his bathroom. They accumulate for DAYS if I don't check. There's a trash can RIGHT THERE. Lately, instead of throwing them away, he hides them in his bathroom closet, which is ACROSS THE ROOM from the trash can (!??!).

I ask about his homework, I practically sit on him to make sure it's done, but he just DOESN'T TURN IT IN (WHY?! 'I dunno'). Teachers say he's respectful and pleasant, and every year they say he is extremely intelligent and capable, but sometimes just plain refuses to do his work in class. As a result, his grades suck. 

If someone else has leftovers in the fridge, he'll be the jerk that eats it without asking. 

If I ask who made this particular mess or left the orange peels on the couch, he probably did it. 

I got a truancy letter from the school the other day, turns out the little gremlin has been skipping classes every so often. 

The other kids complain sometimes that he's bossy and rude. Not violent or anything, just basically a dick. 

If his room is filthy, I take the xbox cord and tv cords and say, hey, just clean your room and you can have them back. Does he clean his room? Nope. 

I talk to him. I try to level with him. I fuss at him. I ground him. I take away the phone. I give home extra chores. I bribe him. Sometimes I holler more than I should. And then sometimes...I just don't wanna deal with it.  

Sometimes I don't want to argue about the q-tips AGAIN. Sometimes I don't want to even look at his room, because I'm sure it's a mess, and I don't feel like having that song and dance again right now. Sometimes I don't want to look at his progress report, because I know it's probably going to suck, and I don't feel like going through the why's and what-can-I-do-to-help's. Sometimes I cringe when the school calls and I just screen it, because screw it, I'll deal with it tomorrow. Case in point: I told him to clean his room yesterday, and I should go check before he gets home from school, but I'm really just not feeling it. Because if I check and it's still messy (which it probably is), then I have to react accordingly, and I'm just over it today. 

I know turning a blind eye is definitely not going to fix anything, and I try not to do it frequently. I know it's not fair to the other kids (who generally don't push the limits as much), but damn. I think I get tired of him being in trouble more than he does. 

Also, before anyone suggests it, he's been tested for ADHD. Please believe me when I say I've tried standing back and looking at the situation objectively from every angle I can think of, along with his myriad of teachers over the years, his doctor, MY therapist, etc. It's more like...rebellion or something rather than specifically an ADHD or other medical/cognitive problem. It's almost like he spends MORE effort to just lowkey push those buttons.

What gives? And, does this make me a bad parent? I can't be alone in feeling like this, right? 


TL;DR : Teenage kid pushes a lot of little buttons that I sometimes pretend to not notice because I've already fought 1,462 other repeat battles with him this week",3.7541432849936953,4.955701485576924,4.564440416141238,86.63096941992436,72.00480769230771,7.330737704918032,25.538382723833546,7.696955130343263,1.2186113414249684,3244,99,671,39,61,1046,333,832,0.113,0.7929999999999999,0.095,-0.951,1,1,2,0,1,0,144.0,0,6,5,4,42,35,12,0,37,0,54,14,4,5,2,111,114,49,0,15,36,2,5,6,1,5,6,7,17,9,48,37,1,2,13,6,6,13,24,18,0,2,11,18,86,17,90,93,10,91,1,0,6,4,105,47,6,16,33,409,134,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339038304370135,0.04609887134612437,0.0,0.0,0.04723895559568208,0.048859080532287394,0.05205879385728621,0.07545167290801323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04946710862858111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597172423532226,0.0,0.07764202320296126,0.0,0.17640905541892424,0.0,0.08864494490534687,0.07254933765636506,0.03938916076124287,0.20130212696650293,0.0,0.08028491355828579,0.053150078794739083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817095713968765,0.0,0.048098064195835934,0.0,0.0,0.040637091800742216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051819530571215015,0.09127193143979263,0.14590608385506978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048285619152626726,0.24769900182086396,0.04827641148541683,0.0,0.0,0.054708031626531366,0.04827180992618362,0.039408665401625735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526126035127204,0.031158647535754893,0.0,0.15898791384105365,0.0,0.042397854879088384,0.0,0.0889447972059769,0.0,0.1192655062122559,0.13480733913646822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0364472937719476,0.0,0.1232349717109807,0.13576369748220374,0.13405321955403934,0.07913631617610427,0.03773016301681726,0.0,0.0,0.04671067426925899,0.041716703334524985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05590261102647918,0.03162041312086857,0.0498429855115456,0.18928151575059776,0.046855426846083736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325484130601735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370460155620548,0.0,0.05321546325885888,0.049951521409300544,0.051255783681118515,0.048239641373445774,0.0333211029280719,0.16133128034030625,0.14184525250289412,0.0,0.0,0.1188453749126409,0.0,0.0,0.04010650438239216,0.04257728610414579,0.04463813274060107,0.06297936765256934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05004522795303793,0.0,0.055250798625146064,0.0,0.0,0.034679058538539975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741811742552307,0.0,0.0,0.03196700598088969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05238226304317042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517839918462859,0.04459563039760758,0.0,0.09036123361723218,0.0,0.2034505480025234,0.045140111053713634,0.0,0.04742391236214983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604430355793979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086159593579067,0.04487423510065662,0.18757729715136146,0.0,0.23871813071799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039023653697197735,0.05302668498549707,0.0,0.0,0.03997123076618872,0.03631762553595156,0.4199155981151715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03767402192805865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892377255121407,0.0,0.1064092039139642,0.03791748407109395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054773819721055834,0.06268195756824589,0.06045567992555757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054220731397469496,0.044716391081295874,0.04507774130692311,0.0,0.0960862003313364,0.1539385845472218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130016674353983,0.0,0.03784094546403118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513621333170611,0.0,0.0,0.045475023786073064,0.0,0.034343967311734475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060758316273436835
parenting,1waterquality,2020/02/27,"Fiance's teenager purposely antagonizes me There are few things going on first he has recently turned eighteen, finished high school and started college. When he graduated we had a conversation about how things would be changing mostly on his part, and due to a new job that I had recently started. I let him know that I expected him to go full time college, full work or part time and part time college to stay. His response was or things dont have to change, that's when things started going down hill. My attitude towards him changed, the way I talked to him changed the whole relationship changed. He started doing chores halfway, or wait until I said to do them then he very slowly move, his mom refuses to say anything unless I mention it her. Making excuses such you cant talk to him in ect... way because his feelings get hurt. Dont tell him to do something ask him ect.. latest was he kept repeating something even after I told him enough, so I mentioned his dad in a derogatory manner I'll admit I went to far. Shortly after I apologized. His dad isn't in his life at the moment. Hes now attempting to make his mom choose between me and her. She tells me he doesn't think my apology is sincere, truth be told I'm not begging for his forgiveness either. But I do know I went to far out of aggravation. My fiance wants me to re-apologize and though I do plan on conveying my lack of competency in how I reacted, I dont believe anything will change on his part and there will be a next time right around the corner. I know feelings are sometimes a hindrance my feelings is that he is playing on his moms to go after me by saying certain things and getting me to react then acting as he did nothing to cause my reaction. And again I know I'm not perfect, I know that I sometimes overreact. But at this point it seems I get second say in my house after her son. And if I say something that upsets him she tells me its him over me.  Long post maybe its in the wrong area. Mildly frustrated.",5.068614599686028,5.906174566326535,5.702244897959182,81.03396389324962,68.64285714285714,8.581789638932497,31.91365777080063,8.730908602173464,2.536065620094192,1578,66,303,25,26,512,201,392,0.067,0.893,0.04,-0.8734,1,0,3,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,1,6,14,10,1,1,10,0,31,1,0,7,3,53,67,26,0,5,10,6,3,0,0,3,1,5,1,0,16,12,0,3,13,1,0,8,8,4,0,2,11,8,66,6,47,49,12,70,0,1,0,0,67,28,0,6,30,214,82,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472057995615735,0.06205116193172967,0.0651636456403065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04249079079183952,0.0,0.0,0.07853231552337206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160500555094985,0.4424242813542109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245077010797228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202266056836773,0.0,0.046038703893730604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573301011748633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929001845663299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925207903411624,0.0,0.15845710822891534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364589392117714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042882900985683,0.07461936179458402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917026810948383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915369336066638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712768602226181,0.049233856808376254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061685671406285066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930556583190538,0.0,0.0700268380355486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449087517238682,0.0,0.0740841104884472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732036641844727,0.07413078430396436,0.0,0.0,0.06688267803528304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30192970034624045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589262324283246,0.0,0.06675697449965039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764819088551153,0.07483579753387967,0.0,0.05952666613686696,0.06630427780557806,0.221725044537396,0.0,0.07054396903189689,0.0,0.0634557235385944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609841768248515,0.13787768519369964,0.0,0.19734683955478488,0.07429497865083819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205055158707793,0.1827725860601379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315405442945153,0.04466338186843684,0.06848363165607252,0.0,0.16257939018664902,0.0,0.0,0.13320993999153322,0.0,0.0,0.07581772073233704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751293670382007,0.04111310844083246,0.11065526732145088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923224575531872,0.0,0.07782180577650179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050745198095858216,0.0,0.0,0.049515581110868435,0.07621016530834998,0.0,0.0
parenting,superlead1,2020/02/27,"Co-sleeping: should your child sleep in your bed? `<iframe width=""560"" height=""315"" src=""`[`https://www.youtube.com/embed/DMEU_asHPMA`](https://www.youtube.com/embed/DMEU_asHPMA)`"" frameborder=""0"" allow=""accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture"" allowfullscreen></iframe>`",24.745,33.166616833333336,10.743333333333334,28.725000000000023,47.33333333333333,14.4,56.0,10.793553405168565,10.7832,275,15,15,9,5,61,24,30,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bloodyrocket,2020/02/27,"Found out my ex-husband was charged with Child indecency by sexual contact- PLEASE HELP Hello everyone,

Some quick background info- I live in Texas and have 2 kids (son is 7, daughter is 8) with my ex-husband, who I was married with for 8 years. He was a horrible controlling husband and I can't be more than happy that I am divorced from him of 2 years. To my disdain, he has half custody of our children, but somehow we are able to assure that our children are happy.

Back in September, Child Protective Services reached out to me to inform me that there has been a report of sexual abuse on my two children with the perpetrator being my ex-husband. The investigation has been closed after they determined there was not enough evidence of sexual abuse.

The other day I was looking for some old divorce documents for my record online and found that my ex-husband was arrested on and charged with Child Indecency by Sexual Contact. His original court date was 02/20/2020, but has been re-scheduled to 03/12/2020. I have contacted Child Protective Services to request the documents of the investigation back in September. They told me that Child Protective Services can't do anything because my children aren't involved and to contact a lawyer. I fear my children may be involved and if not, something may happen to them in the future.

Should I confront him about this? He doesn't know that I found out.

I am really lost right now and not sure what to do. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you in advance.

TLDR- found out my controlling and emotionally abusive ex-husband that has half-custody of our two children and I don't know what to do.",5.9751755175517545,7.666137122112211,6.137799279927991,75.58835508550857,67.21782178217822,9.205460546054605,35.55490549054906,9.573946990214177,3.6452257425742585,1320,66,222,28,22,420,147,303,0.14,0.763,0.09699999999999999,-0.9523,0,0,1,0,4,0,40.0,4,1,3,4,8,8,1,1,9,0,39,0,0,3,2,46,50,12,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,12,12,20,0,5,8,0,0,1,8,3,0,3,16,1,35,5,41,26,4,26,0,1,1,0,44,13,0,6,12,165,47,5,0.1184072837359828,0.4208798073744548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570622727239913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052101329923951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743910556029263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209578469506574,0.0,0.07217998114878152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265607674171204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636290241952846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319225701829535,0.0,0.1223463763613521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314323384239992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324111338737632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193098999593321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047071699616699,0.25209351062289626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873181273961767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014709304661434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045558008608738,0.0,0.09943229670178318,0.0,0.12925553747247878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424852603188084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997564050214336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585473795305282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111917334412256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115571187644668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115974636285203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901351834381263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314323384239992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313334219176193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411313709510555,0.0,0.0,0.15250081718136524
parenting,bernardzemouse,2020/02/27,"The ""L"" Word Yep. Lice. Please, fellow parents. Offer me your tips, advice, anecdotes, anything. Our kiddo doesn't seem to have it badly by any means, but I need some internet support here. 

School will be notified, treatment has been applied, and she's sitting comfortably on the couch next to me playing Minecraft. 

This is by far not the worst thing I've had to deal with as a parent, but it's definitely a new one for us. I only vaguely remember having lice once as a kid, so my own experience isn't really helping me out.",4.00230198019802,5.724351148514852,5.106027227722773,80.94141707920792,72.16831683168317,7.822277227722773,29.45668316831682,8.472884824447931,2.299464356435644,410,17,76,7,8,135,83,101,0.044000000000000004,0.764,0.193,0.9431,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,14,6,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,10,3,11,10,3,6,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,2,51,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908623052307972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854591402331856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676554900184405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010914389952247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100405165164081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19929066885756588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655841611717692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219257446173573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106596980375364,0.0,0.19676729361757306,0.21667311955156124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21696975966950607,0.13805523944523046,0.15494867252402714,0.0,0.0,0.4524443653829273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236384413993185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305170361387426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307905860737797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20618939863114893,0.0,0.1854715244362173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23119460792556254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535162889751368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24506657672146234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrcpayeah,2020/02/27,"Just got into a total loss car accident and car seat for 5-year old is no longer usable. Should I buy another convertible car seat or at his age should I target booster seat? Luckily no one was in the car but me, but the insurance guy said if I can't produce a receipt for my old car seat just to buy a new one, so I was wondering which one should I get. Son is 43 pounds, regular height for his age, and I think convertible seats should last until 7 years old? He turns 5 in May. Please assist.",3.6798319327731086,4.4198972352941235,4.7850140056022425,86.70970588235296,71.74509803921569,8.965826330532213,25.35574229691877,9.23628265651192,1.7527154061624657,386,11,85,8,7,127,67,102,0.075,0.872,0.053,0.1431,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,1,1,18,16,8,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,5,3,1,0,3,4,1,10,0,9,7,1,19,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,4,9,50,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900568012425666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413711167531338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941538935980376,0.0,0.0,0.1973593467532553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624733987612685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925056779986311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6274622783101903,0.0,0.40519565495960974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218794846423034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960012596833975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771699064815506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21680425271556408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21615536249509176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567126635858645
parenting,logictrumpsbs,2020/02/27,"Single mom of 10 year old boy I'm having a really rough time. Some background info, I'm 30 I had him very young. He's never known his dad and I don't get child support nor do I know where his dad is. I'm going to school full time.

I feel like I'm messing everything up. He doesn't do well in school and I don't know how to help. I don't have a stong support group. My parent's weren't great parents so I'm trying to bed better than them with no foundation to stand on. We have a routine, I feel like thats atleast one good thing. Bed time, read before bed, right now were reading where the red fern grows. He has a weekly chore chart that is posted. His teachers and I communicate daily by something called a reminder sheet and he gets certain rewards or punishments baised on the tally of reminders. I feel like im trying but nothing is good enough. He seems happy enough but he's never been a very good communicator and I feel like there's something bellow the surface. I tried taking him to therapy but that guy was awful. Without insurance the only place I can take him is an hour drive away durring the heavest traffic time. I can't work because of school so that really puts a damper on out of the house activities. The park is nice and we like going for walks in the woods but right now even driving somewhere puts a damper on my budget. It's getting really hard. I have one year left for school and things will get so much better. I knew I would have to male sacrifices for school and I was more than ok with that, but as he's getting older I see that he's also having to make sacrifices, that wasn't something I planned for. I also feel like hes really missing the influence of a male role model but what can I do. My dad isn't the best, I have 2 friends, 1 guy, and hes not a great role model. My brother lives in another state, and I'm not getting into a relationship just to let my son have a male influence. Thats something that grows with trust not just because mom has a boyfriend. I also don't have time for a relationship anyways. I'm so lost, I feel so alone, I don't know how to help my boy. I just need one more year and things can start to change but it feels so far away.",1.5519345534115772,3.5575822275711166,2.9976621245275545,92.07008379749355,80.1159737417943,5.817565148199723,21.546101054306746,6.883109765328512,0.4230879649890591,1726,51,376,19,44,563,204,457,0.079,0.787,0.134,0.9764,2,1,4,0,1,0,40.0,2,0,1,7,22,28,1,0,25,2,42,0,0,5,3,58,79,32,0,2,15,9,9,6,1,2,0,0,4,8,15,18,0,0,14,2,1,9,18,4,1,3,9,11,43,24,40,67,9,51,2,2,2,0,45,21,0,3,24,223,58,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016528338728772,0.0,0.16253134383496673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103845707821893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273007517205315,0.0,0.0,0.08259567621349413,0.0,0.05764756162182015,0.0,0.07109611730511482,0.11983312958546492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917708687762814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166716208919144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140001168288018,0.0,0.04474614156658393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088648149320925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23978382586741004,0.24199174058714304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052341031970883585,0.0,0.21236953178301332,0.0,0.07700416820387615,0.17046847761655184,0.0,0.1493822361048498,0.0,0.1341600235455928,0.0,0.07211775913328594,0.06068785187965695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081854276740667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671697992745085,0.07817074471116266,0.0,0.0,0.07317820064860275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169565632659267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360712784692326,0.06927572255953977,0.0,0.19858607151697508,0.0,0.059821691116450824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395366659816756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0452215343673377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586885344821633,0.0,0.0,0.04980171430678132,0.05023341522777172,0.10450106184638967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500490949152392,0.0,0.07108890070904629,0.0,0.13772101373520707,0.05152451618324747,0.0,0.0,0.1504496724396067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078101704465284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488273515286701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362085497300847,0.0,0.0,0.13553032434954973,0.0,0.17360141345328015,0.0,0.0,0.14546948143582275,0.0,0.11571084347184435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428170384918049,0.053985451438315984,0.06167416865648592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20861927485512094,0.0,0.0,0.04795155420111012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375659724600785,0.0,0.0,0.10187436830300968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774744030655441,0.0,0.13502394851064187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975186037462313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798694945560178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179645776298938,0.0,0.0,0.05434241973448668,0.0,0.06091253526681406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530552552835947,0.0,0.049320498315132334,0.0,0.0,0.04812540351380973,0.0,0.0,0.1308802099737519
parenting,NeoChiiOen,2020/02/27,"Spanking your kids, right or wrong? TL;DR: I'm from canada, partner is from france. Different cultural outlooks on the idea of spanking. What is your opinion on the idea of spanking? Articles on the matter are greatly appreciated!

Hi everyone! I'm a 18F who's been in a relationship with a 21M for the last 5 years. We planned to get engaged soon and would like to start our life and kids as soon as we can and therefore may be parents very soon. Yesterday night I was reading an AmITheAsshole post to him about a aunt calling the police on a 9 year old and he said something about spanking kids to get them to properly behave. This honestly shocked me as I've never heard him talk like that before now as I suffer from BPD which can cause me to act out and hes always been kind and nurturing and never tried to raise a hand. I know it's not because he hates children either because hes always talked about how he cant wait. He comes from France where I come from Canada so I believe this may be where our differences in beliefs lie. So I was wondering if maybe I just had too sheltered of a life and culture? What do you guys think? Is spanking your child wrong or is it ok? How does it affect children? Ive always wanted my kids to respect and trust me not fear me and I'm scared spanking will cause them to fear me. I'd love to see some articles on either point to help me or help him reconsider our view point.",3.0335,4.835049512280701,4.029320175438598,87.32503289473686,74.9298245614035,6.855263157894738,26.61184210526316,7.645422480735847,1.4242894736842104,1121,42,228,15,24,362,160,285,0.049,0.777,0.174,0.9877,2,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,5,4,2,1,15,19,1,3,13,1,23,4,1,6,2,47,41,22,0,3,9,2,1,2,1,4,2,2,0,9,10,16,0,1,6,1,2,3,5,8,0,0,7,5,31,11,36,28,3,30,1,1,2,1,44,13,0,9,15,143,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829498111623134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819468976015992,0.0,0.0964528321454143,0.127707072257922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276084656742868,0.0,0.11574342021070097,0.0,0.0,0.2328841460227304,0.0,0.19528264629639192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368540616124,0.0,0.0,0.0991936890188371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831115394088486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551014011753811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844179947710608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496920371974615,0.0,0.11223470575006886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191004185209692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195275246334394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559175836038424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803698701837333,0.0622944092687227,0.0923956954771578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16012546343657116,0.11075454875321787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230315130946847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387570079145437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748456152128423,0.0,0.0,0.10637166124263148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894216536812426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586219255332115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143055108373076,0.0,0.10855833944702517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338106293946608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216958972805801,0.0,0.09680061262616962,0.1078221766453106,0.0,0.11348351323839075,0.0,0.0903255842811466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726266703136103,0.0,0.0,0.08022998854336243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221349762458325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263035220014755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695747342220775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352594170248488,0.06685699607110895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292366135700103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052086396124071,0.2478617120343309,0.0,0.14598786798730967
parenting,ThinShopping6,2020/02/27,Son prefers to sleep nude - let it be? My 8yo refuses to wear his onesie or pjs. He says he gets too hot at night. He started going to bed in just his boxer briefs and now every morning I find them on his floor. He's like me - he likes cold temperature. It's a bit warmer but not hot. He has a ceiling fan too. He only has one blanket thermal lite blankets.,-0.5356000000000023,1.6568829733333352,1.6523333333333312,96.5745,92.6,4.066666666666666,19.5,5.6839178017228535,-0.25180000000000025,273,9,62,2,10,91,59,75,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,3,0,0,8,7,3,0,1,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,7,2,6,5,1,9,0,0,0,1,14,4,0,1,5,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35634144638449045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750039037052158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983213286378429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052918036223946,0.0,0.18549917558371748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33376347599100764,0.0,0.31892258482490604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063018678466122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117533898334935,0.2482399458958433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595643289699048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326633140253722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102577379223285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kclndavis,2020/02/27,"Deciding when to stay home sick Deciding when to believe they are sick or when they are actually sick “enough” to stay home for the day might be my least favorite part of parenting.

Any tips? What’s your sick but not terribly sick criteria for keeping your kids home from school?",5.359230769230769,7.251840307692312,4.910769230769233,83.0092307692308,69.0,9.815384615384616,30.30769230769231,10.125756701596842,3.072061538461538,224,9,43,6,4,68,36,52,0.24,0.698,0.062,-0.8506,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,0,7,5,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,3,3,6,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,4,27,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.20298280223124712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145048214291206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343503216353049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341459691389212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21492469127825645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6259376999290727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488433504660776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22066035522542754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309648540608978,0.2252490644005477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051208947399394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44341114932566383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sensitive_Study,2020/02/27,"Daycare horror stories! If you've had any negative experiences or horror stories while a daycare you or someone you know placed a child in, please go to r /daycaresdontcare Maybe you do or use to work in ECE? Please share your story.",2.745891472868216,5.777993860465116,3.395697674418604,83.48176356589148,87.13953488372093,5.657364341085271,25.77131782945737,7.1686216300943375,1.6528015503875968,188,8,32,3,6,59,31,43,0.223,0.645,0.133,-0.7644,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,5,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,4,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,4,1,18,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542281600430906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954894100537173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167740181903668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601369787197434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034770922154615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31560632074260314,0.6631799822162989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559489831082408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608976628676317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21991575792999435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rorothewriter,2020/02/27,"My relationship isn't working and it's making me miserable. Worst of all, I am worried about how continuing to live like this will impact my child. My daughter is 12 months old. I've been with her mum for 4.5 years. The relationship was relatively rocky for quite a while back in 2018 (a few months), but I decided to try and ignore the issues when I found out my partner was pregnant. I thought I'd be doing the best for my kid if I could somehow make it work with her Mum. We are not married.

It is a uniquely challenging situation because my partner is Asian and she only recently moved to my country. She has no savings and she is living with me and my parents at our family home. I can't exactly just dump her and leave her to fend for herself. 

Part of the reason I stayed with her was so that we could start a life together in my country, where my child would have a better chance of being healthy with a good education. My partner also wanted to move here.

The issues in the relationship have persisted though and actually worsened since we moved. We barely communicate except when it's to do with our child, my partner is constantly on facebook, and we don't talk deeply about literally anything. 

Neither of us is fluent in each other's native language and there is just no depth to our relationship. I'm interested in books, nature, philosophy, piano, exercise, food, and travel. The only commonalities in our interests lie in food and travel. 

The living situation is stressing me out and making me feel claustrophobic. I'm between careers, which is why we are living in my family home with my parents, and my partner is looking for a job. The rent costs in my city are extortionate so I don't see us being able to afford our own place at any time in the near future.

I feel hopeless and despondent because there seems to be no positive outcome possible in this situation at all. If we stay together, I continue being miserable and this impacts my child's development, particularly her personality. I will continue to feel claustrophobic in a small two-bedroom house, with my parents and my partner and my kid, a situation which is likely to persist as long as rent in my city remains unaffordable.

If I end the relationship now, my partner can't exactly survive out on the street having only moved here. I could let her stay with our baby upstairs and I sleep downstairs in the living room, but that's hardly a reasonable living situation for anything but the short term. 

So, the only option I have seems to be to accept the situation for now and hope it magically gets better over time. But I can only see it getting worse. In fact, my thoughts have turned very dark lately; ending my life has entered into my mind because I don't see any positive outcome. I am looking for advice. Thanks for reading.",6.542265294453973,7.252036384905661,7.483070325900518,70.01839050886223,65.33962264150944,10.197827329902802,34.73985134362493,10.161004565491616,3.676955974842767,2244,99,386,50,33,755,240,530,0.077,0.821,0.102,0.9507,8,0,0,0,0,1,56.0,15,0,0,10,21,20,1,3,26,0,49,6,1,6,5,83,74,37,0,9,11,6,4,2,7,3,3,0,5,14,14,40,2,1,12,5,3,7,11,7,0,0,7,9,73,13,67,54,10,68,0,3,5,0,52,33,0,8,27,288,87,7,0.06038536542547625,0.0,0.05892740596158065,0.0,0.0,0.05900788021981927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048290154914121725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212823838347384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938402115716748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464326186460303,0.0,0.11043107486001603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337071553304803,0.10681189710832573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525512773085812,0.0,0.14463840207101386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696702088188474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385189672648345,0.0,0.09159796540902393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460364471309669,0.0662094363806907,0.0,0.0,0.06309772224152922,0.0,0.0,0.05064837955463193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054093426526694674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114289008700553,0.059976293003422075,0.0,0.06967660420664384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605326578745454,0.05992315757004608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811732240132022,0.06393938302711936,0.0,0.061748127381227924,0.08530393881485945,0.05900247872852731,0.0,0.3199283038912513,0.053439148184913535,0.10141699702899136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092310096465755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06097200514705318,0.0,0.09639804514524887,0.2567203480668453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336428310222185,0.0,0.0,0.22962895737427305,0.0,0.0,0.2011524065363693,0.06539146624488766,0.0,0.0,0.0527261719174024,0.06308985449974533,0.0,0.0,0.06807542644934614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422726911154532,0.0604017065629487,0.0,0.0,0.12417242565159847,0.05962326341289239,0.3241564193740554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435795437346252,0.1099451375352736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049951398285102366,0.40725408471520336,0.06042897501421249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042741072449922236,0.1930882950450924,0.0,0.0,0.06917123207402992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0485354693720093,0.0,0.05559473145407128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059328314937284014,0.09587847007411213,0.07042238437168083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04099769932440895,0.0656819374887267,0.058987727683918786,0.0,0.14527231910581356,0.0,0.0,0.049824250543082295,0.03561685305881605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448839995372954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792253043195572,0.061324269764962414,0.06153784623465474,0.042896031057484775,0.0,0.0,0.03888619552203282
parenting,mountstuart,2020/02/27,"[Serious] How can I explain a potentially serious event/illness like Coronavirus to a 10 y/o? My child has heard of Coronavirus. On the way to get fuel last night, they heard the press conference with President Trump and afterwards started asking questions. They asked me if it will spread to the US, if we can become infected with it, should they be afraid. I deal with difficult global situations on a daily basis at work but this is stumping me. Going on two decades working in emergency management and I have feared talking to my children about this sort of existential, hard to comprehend thing since before they were born. 

How can I explain something complicated and important like this without freaking my child out?",7.284138232720907,9.140514614173233,7.10230971128609,69.27600174978129,64.27559055118111,10.998775153105862,37.7331583552056,10.980518767755715,4.820991951006126,584,30,90,17,9,185,90,127,0.113,0.81,0.077,-0.5996,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,4,2,3,8,0,2,6,0,10,1,0,2,0,19,19,8,0,3,4,0,2,2,0,2,1,2,0,3,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,6,0,1,3,4,15,2,18,13,0,14,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,4,7,64,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887582265632911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296336441621501,0.17692640857119013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143585742413346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339701889903727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863072519529816,0.0,0.11816693145410335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862573780207191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948427749187758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316048899722491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951208230882914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23292035782078066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719953249487801,0.23371317267742386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600686049003314,0.0,0.0,0.14716834557314462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711992282045873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813421654505756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20310969741184634,0.0,0.2501047076605982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650388996083331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004295024199847,0.0,0.3027395570720857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Make2-dayYourBitch,2020/02/27,"It's too early for this shit... My kids should be up getting ready to walk out the door. 
Well I called her name several times and finally went into her room. She crawled back in bed ... her eyes were half open and her lips were blue/purple and she's wasn't answering me.... I swear to all that is, was, or has been holy... FUCK purple and blue laffy Taffy. I went back into my room and had to take 5 minutes to myself. Needless to say I scared her walking her up.",0.7222105263157914,2.809247589473689,1.902368421052636,98.34407894736843,83.63157894736842,5.063157894736842,17.921052631578945,6.2581,-0.4058631578947365,351,8,82,3,10,111,67,95,0.075,0.8640000000000001,0.061,-0.5244,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,1,1,0,10,4,3,0,1,14,15,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,3,9,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,3,1,1,8,4,16,1,12,5,1,18,0,0,3,1,12,9,2,1,5,54,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990622173487377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649673944513017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842576368348605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398935013135543,0.13557235022276815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206356155806856,0.2597938678606298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931488342361578,0.26636184297855464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19510351728435107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131018709382368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23331187373677004,0.4810980103035978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MargueriteFaure,2020/02/27,"Teaching Pre-Schoolers About Money, Personal Finance & Saving How old were your children when you first spoke to them about money?

As a 'mother' to many children from disadvantaged communities, I find that it is so important to start teaching children about money from as young as pre-school.

[Here are some tips](https://youtu.be/vfmMzsS4XlA) on how I have taught children about money.

I have found the most powerful lesson they can learn is the difference between a need and a want. Holding money, watching it being exchanged for a good is also incredibly useful.

What money lessons did your parents teach you and do you find it easy or intimidating to discuss money with pre-schoolers? 

So looking forward to hearing and learning from you too :)",9.019074803149604,10.438340228346458,7.697312992125987,68.15179625984253,60.10236220472443,9.18464566929134,39.49704724409449,9.188382445141503,4.025756692913387,607,30,85,9,8,184,83,127,0.042,0.8140000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9102,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,6,2,4,12,2,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,3,0,21,20,13,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,5,4,0,1,7,0,9,1,0,0,0,1,5,4,11,2,19,14,2,7,0,0,2,0,18,2,0,3,6,67,16,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558230949977262,0.0,0.21112208903857047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357889529635065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561824439092726,0.16574103399198106,0.0,0.2136451894437232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343263493061094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196123950028788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636266273170648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975493713873493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448030850674534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446442391537956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636011597312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013727353252303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5916019596686521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379172670808994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828958896330026,0.0,0.0,0.11492877352689868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,edzby,2020/02/27,Aargh! My seven month wants to walk! 😳 So it looks like my seven month old boy is skipping proper crawling (preferring commando crawling) and is now starting to pull himself up to walk. Should I encourage this at his age or should I try to get him to crawl properly (however that could be done...). I heard that walking too early could be detrimental somehow.. thank you for your advice!,3.1079225352112663,5.9583032253521155,3.6599823943662,84.62969190140845,80.1267605633803,6.930281690140845,27.184859154929576,8.07648339933343,2.1779140845070417,303,13,53,6,8,95,55,71,0.0,0.871,0.129,0.857,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,15,3,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,2,10,3,8,7,0,13,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,2,8,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28721170733447865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4693366631732669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30077852584722997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355918960650491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359270820657938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24681575376816325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692025374701366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084158228700752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080355428108686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705987349527358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954994444613455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335950959085544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nomad_9988,2020/02/27,"Flying alone with a toddler during bedtime Last minute travel plans are in the works, and I'm going to be flying with my 2.5 year old without my husband at bedtime. What's one thing that really helped flying with your LO go just a little smoother?",10.096875,7.343274937500002,9.011666666666667,73.20000000000003,60.04166666666666,10.433333333333334,36.5,7.1686216300943375,2.7777999999999987,199,6,35,1,2,62,41,48,0.044000000000000004,0.956,0.0,-0.25,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,7,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,21,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349753471155866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38384331713046815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263519724055789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27526908955578194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384622939372434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35435743409465564,0.0,0.2288330271972285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21633810205578816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243516660516283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255289957731428,0.0,0.2458482977919515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174665567455534
parenting,AARYACK,2020/02/27,Youngest parents! The world's youngest parents were age 8 and 9. They lived in China and had their child in 1910.,1.504848484848484,4.218502818181818,0.6790909090909096,103.25530303030304,89.0,2.9333333333333336,25.51515151515152,3.1291,-0.11477575757575707,90,4,19,0,3,25,18,22,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694827806138373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9292375771727416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashsandwich_,2020/02/27,"Reminiscing about my angel Saw another post about poop and it got me thinking. My beautiful boy turns 1 next week. I love everything about him but my word does his poo reek. Changing his breast milk only nappies seems like a lifetime ago. Not necessarily a pleasant smell, but really not that bad. But now, my tiny little cherub does full on turds. Brown puddings that stink to high heaven. 

As he gets older he’s becoming more like a little boy, adding wonderful facets to his personality. He’s cheeky, and smiley and curious. It’s a delight to see. But I do miss the softer l, comparatively fragrant surprises he used to provide for us.",3.7237005649717503,6.453747669491527,4.8450000000000015,77.8406073446328,76.54237288135593,8.001129943502825,26.78248587570621,8.841846274778883,2.4688790960451983,507,20,89,12,12,166,87,118,0.09300000000000001,0.639,0.268,0.9786,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,4,10,0,0,5,0,1,4,2,1,0,14,12,8,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,6,12,6,10,10,2,11,2,1,3,2,13,5,0,2,7,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910524087738898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000379686609011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928417739346454,0.0,0.21068941330719065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201808345981222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338865395429635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145090951793082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099668948084849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257542590164658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155796144437588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640023063781752,0.382401383619948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217650393349124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028850349833729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508844895355605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657216472671965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827040039291935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221152996615048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520182234683356,0.1736689664206679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223709593706482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750193145221027,0.0,0.0,0.2294716626330636,0.16476319710876403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302341439982925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068808828686979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meagrepickings,2020/02/27,"11yo daughter’s best friend’s mother died My daughter’s best friend’s mother passed away from cancer. 

I don’t know what I should say to her friend or whether I should say anything at all. 

Any advice?",2.6454999999999984,5.05386455,2.1750000000000007,97.28,78.5,4.0,20.0,3.1291,-0.6037499999999998,162,4,33,0,4,47,28,40,0.172,0.579,0.249,0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,4,2,1,2,2,4,0,0,3,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,4,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,0,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393842229259112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658965253846308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015914364940199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23015966153649334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5141669023739127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542427056865593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5677952741081762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346304406835581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38962381686072656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vybhavram,2020/02/27,"Research : What can make you a better parent? I'm Vybhav, a parent of a 4 year old boy and I'm trying to test some hypothesis on parenting.

Can you tell me what are the 3 things that you feel you need help with, to make you a better parent?

My top three are:

* Which activities do I need to take him to? How much is too much/too little?
* Am I teaching him the right stuff at home?
* How do I deal with his tantrums?

I'd love to hear yours.

THanks!",-1.13689969604863,0.9350227872340467,1.0881458966565385,99.22000000000004,97.72340425531914,3.9623100303951366,13.097264437689967,5.773587663045528,-1.1247118541033436,338,6,81,3,14,112,62,94,0.026000000000000002,0.778,0.196,0.9447,4,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,6,0,3,3,5,1,0,6,0,8,1,0,4,0,11,19,3,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,14,4,10,19,2,7,0,0,0,1,19,5,0,1,2,51,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27458618750562963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16004087814996934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849168112620893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496157480962066,0.0,0.1040510145215466,0.0,0.1557137605124117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555866497967043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401060067677201,0.0,0.20724166610747025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282317571117217,0.23021016008671674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628934359570539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6894821508804729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325701810171544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777073900508229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671769941098488,0.0,0.13568257943005765,0.14291989720855572,0.0,0.0,0.10313150008891103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539464477982853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996650620449644
parenting,keepcalmitspressday,2020/02/27,"I want to audition for The Voice but I feel guilty. This is weird but I gotta get if off my chest, y'all.

I've been singing all my life and have been classically training for a decade. I've always wanted to audition for shows like America's Got Talent or The Voice, but I've never had any self confidence. But every year I regret not auditioning.

I have two small kids - a 4 y/o and a 1 y/o. They are my absolute LIFE. I love being their mom and watching them grow. I feel so guilty wanting to do something like that. I know it's a one-in-a-million chance, but what if I got on? What if I missed big moments in my kids' lives?

I KNOW these shows are so staged and there's a .01% chance of me getting through the first round of any audition but this is something I dreamed about and I want to show my babies to follow their dreams.",1.3043181818181822,3.0243526136363665,2.84659090909091,94.24613636363638,79.68181818181819,6.218181818181819,21.795454545454547,7.1686216300943375,0.43840454545454577,644,19,151,8,16,211,100,176,0.091,0.728,0.182,0.9433,0,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,4,1,4,7,0,0,8,0,11,4,1,0,2,27,27,17,0,8,11,1,3,2,0,1,2,2,0,3,7,5,0,0,4,6,4,2,2,3,0,2,5,6,24,4,15,20,1,12,0,2,2,1,10,5,0,4,6,88,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948139217464952,0.0,0.0,0.2606787842733655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614867966894505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19382408726255992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163030926174824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20027505579189564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30658547644057643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21066914462454006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270758602664266,0.18727656561013692,0.0,0.16924451109334274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298596801672933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447679874405235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782456656481682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298777817983644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19994934618897936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29510756481935296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872297451199986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4521980813305033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234265628147172
parenting,Panzerp00,2020/02/27,"Allergic to bandaids... Not the adhesive So my youngest daughter loves to put on mommies makeup... Don't they all? Well, she decided to go through Nannys makeup, which also had... Superglue in it. She put it on her eye, and basically glued most of her eye shut. Our first response was to try and get it out with water and all that, but after numerous internet searches, we found they we could just keep her eye a little damp with and eye moistening gel and cover it with a bandage. So we gave her the gel, and covered her eye with a bandage overnight since it was right before bedtime.

When she woke up the next morning, the bandage (which was one of those 3x4 inch plain bandaids, with no extras added) had caused her face, exactly where the white part of the bandaid was to swell up awfully. With pus, goo, blisters that made her skin slide... It was awful.

2 doctors later, and her eye is fine, and we've been giving her allergy pills. 2 days later, and it just looks like a healing burn. Still awful, but no longer swollen. 

So my question is... What is it in the cottony white part of a bandaid that would cause her to be so allergic? It wasn't the eye gel, because we only used a small dot of it, and the glue was just on her eyelid. The mark is a perfect square over her eye where the bandaid was, and stops where the adhesive started. Has anyone else experienced this? Any ideas? My docs got nothing either. Normal bandaids for knee scrapes don't seem to cause this reaction either, so admittedly they might not stay on as long as overnight to cause a reaction. 

Thanks for your time! Good luck out there parents!",3.955825242718447,5.781494576051784,4.009040776699031,88.33426019417476,72.49514563106797,7.144647249190937,28.21760517799353,7.839951260653429,1.656672906148867,1260,49,251,17,25,387,168,309,0.067,0.8440000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.8716,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,5,1,3,2,16,8,0,0,20,3,22,26,11,6,4,56,38,22,0,3,9,2,1,1,0,2,13,0,0,0,19,23,1,2,6,0,0,4,7,0,1,2,16,14,27,8,36,18,8,36,0,0,12,1,31,19,0,5,13,167,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321472408759567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776989305196466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024655189333212,0.1322442540428382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867796201691879,0.0,0.10982639459058137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5303488875562059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304938821573836,0.0,0.0,0.08323744950391636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210540379437494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078188029322592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978420813503137,0.0,0.14151515397250822,0.0,0.0,0.06743210912552564,0.12381269614190585,0.07335167285789684,0.108255161544044,0.1032265612005327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570077878672213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472055851764022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305555007308823,0.12935890428009922,0.0,0.11422011267495452,0.10838365899587048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648788338982763,0.12212618692294892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691954587596844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372640735335961,0.0,0.12645812271223375,0.1238431364534742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874590469649782,0.09816116564569907,0.0,0.0,0.1433134778516089,0.27953367133124096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594956925915297,0.1445844254274312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022239619531138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174976250920815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676544320380156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913541902686376,0.13756810356801033,0.10307296389081468,0.10790567709376553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882742720458525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525992601846104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762792812573107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114723301569346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604661056806385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168539670094268,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AvailableConfidence,2020/02/27,"I want a baby now (37F) I have been a childfree. Meaning, literally, followed the r/childfree. And, with all respect to them...well, no, let's walk that back. I have ALL the respect for them. All of it. I still resent anybody talking smack against childfree people. Childfree, IMO, should be respected as much as having children. Always. That's  my opinion. I just can't post this there. I want to so bad, because I want to know if I'm doing the right thing, or if I'm just doing it because my circumstances have become perfect to indulge my biological imperative. 

But now I want one. Something changed for me. Something happened. If you really want the deets, I'll divulge them, but it just seems like the time has come, and I didn't expect it. 

My BF, a decent man who I found after a string of indecent ones, wants children. Fine. But he also makes huge coin. And I have finally achieved a large raise in my field due to completing studies.  And so I guess now I maybe started feeling comfortable and that's where this is coming from.

As in:

""If I still want to work, we can afford a daycare/nanny.""

""We can afford Montessori for the formative years."" 

""If something is seriously wrong with the kid, we can afford to deal with it.""

I now have so much lucky privelege, I shouldn't even be posting. 

I shouldn't have a kid, should I? If you really want to be a parent, you shouldn't be waiting for the perfect circumstance. You should be the one aching for a child. Not this priveleged suburban white chick who had all the stars align for them while their ovaries are expiring. A real parent is one willing to fight through it even when it's hard. I don't know what to do. Maybe it's the last gasp of my hormones.",2.4828632712668863,4.830826846385545,3.367973713033958,88.83493063161741,78.72891566265059,5.951953267615919,26.02446148229281,7.106945922332613,1.2296333333333336,1331,53,262,16,33,423,168,332,0.065,0.809,0.127,0.9334,6,0,3,0,1,0,64.0,3,4,4,4,19,14,2,0,21,0,36,0,0,1,6,60,60,24,0,21,14,2,2,1,1,7,0,0,0,7,18,13,0,1,6,0,1,4,8,5,0,4,4,3,37,9,31,43,6,27,0,0,1,0,27,5,0,11,17,190,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678726588818325,0.09030135079012544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344889403407578,0.09061369844684586,0.13231145593738655,0.11985714636426888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480487833783727,0.18696906006753208,0.11378621757753744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118843325463998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335925098432398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054873413935041034,0.0,0.0,0.11888364462165787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899187256070255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955233343975777,0.0,0.09596814715256964,0.0,0.09721692960239987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928481479872732,0.0884622195841746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097398959813426,0.0,0.053019749248900384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244116552056855,0.0,0.21805555327425044,0.11821535303373773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595564714810452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941569288829353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410079572971045,0.0,0.0,0.07523745131116781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787357273002505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352501357963383,0.13904756774083446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926796102978179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879692766937366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506431443336249,0.0,0.0,0.07681443196142562,0.0,0.17333613594671818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872281460452415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209907359508567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328170004645825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5120860435445619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900736744094174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865486310404527,0.0,0.0698864312229329
parenting,sunblues92,2020/02/27,"Behavior issues with my 4 year old Hello! I’m sorry if formatting is bad, I’m on mobile. So, my 4 year old is a lovely little girl. She’s the cutest being ever and she’s really a sweet kid. That being said, she has an EXTREMELY hard time listening to me. I’ll tell her to take a nap, and it’s a tantrum. I tell her no to getting a cake pop at Starbucks, and she skulks and stays away from me in the store, prompting me to have to drag her (not literally on the floor) back to me. She consistently acts up in any public setting, maybe because she’s bored, idk. It’s getting to the point where every time we’re out in public, she doesn’t listen. I just want one smooth day. She gets really upset when she doesn’t get her way majority of the time. It’s always her way or no way. 
The other day I tried to put her for a quick nap, I walked away and 5 minutes later, she was out of bed and playing. I told her she doesn’t have to sleep but I want her to just lay down and rest (because she gets quite hyperactive if she doesn’t nap for at least an hour). She cried and went back to bed and I left. 10 minutes later, I check and she’s up and playing. I tell her one more time it’s nap time and it’s crying again and I leave. I come back a 3RD time and she’s up and playing. I know she was tired because she acts up even more when she needs a nap so I know she was just trying to rebel or something. I was seriously at my wits end because I told her 3 times and she disobeyed me every time and this is a regular occurrence with the simplest things. I can tell her to put her shoes on and she won’t do it. Or when I’m doing her hair and I tell her to stay still, she won’t. Idk what to do at this point. The crazy thing is that she’s really only disobedient with me. She’s great in school, not a trouble maker at all. She’s great with her grandma and anybody else that she encounters. She’s a bit bossy with others but that’s it. I suppose it’s my fault because for awhile I really spoiled her and practically gave her anything she wanted and let her get away with too much. When she doesn’t listen repeatedly, I punish her such as not playing with her toys for the rest of the day. But it doesn’t seem to do the trick. No matter what I do to punish her, whether it’s just lecture her, raise my voice, take away toys. She never learns. Idk what to do :(",0.6979810930336328,2.533495890656063,2.6063123301010265,94.66024708889523,82.14115308151094,5.617056842617763,18.814013875928108,6.68642624312137,-0.10138435509392618,1815,43,428,19,49,605,202,503,0.122,0.8109999999999999,0.067,-0.9699,0,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,0,0,0,1,21,19,5,1,24,0,29,5,3,1,3,61,57,38,0,6,16,0,3,0,0,2,1,5,2,2,23,32,0,0,4,11,2,7,15,11,0,2,9,9,85,8,57,43,9,74,0,0,0,1,71,29,0,6,32,286,108,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383496637548376,0.0,0.0,0.052170416880576234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313182794482979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883138372277673,0.17697267974818742,0.06405576819062546,0.2338308692769289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837554575250928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608518897134724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685407748663108,0.14842899847642094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408748718891995,0.0,0.06794878572488854,0.0,0.0,0.05067107460810855,0.06939521943785765,0.12927532292252275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24048983918431024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916225993545034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872366114124158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555111902779489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007296338908057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432367927119894,0.0,0.0,0.08123257805765596,0.08335360628290203,0.0784486702863899,0.0,0.0,0.07689092157730812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924038786722922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707287205260391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639606663058425,0.05688493000092298,0.05916913633285621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100387052485274,0.0,0.10397129998641773,0.05834698841648855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504535297815907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424421735593,0.0,0.08159832648558381,0.0,0.0,0.196588350753654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297575134344117,0.0,0.0,0.07764203627926447,0.0,0.06984057824819617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677273688587409,0.0,0.0,0.059060750663514475,0.0,0.08587877284450271,0.0,0.16354093785585935,0.061266560870897824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536377296921475,0.0,0.33527165049171304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193517369064882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357875948415234,0.08817528818587816,0.0,0.14661339779315158,0.0,0.10417206588126818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574961123918838,0.1826839430308869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111773586802587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880689376589738
parenting,shugarshay,2020/02/27,Leaving my son for 2 weeks I’m going on a trip to the Dominican republic for two weeks. I planned this months ago but now it’s one week away and I am so sad to leave my four-year-old. He will be well taken care of with my dad up in Seattle but I can’t help but worry and be sad. I’ve been a single mom since he was born. I don’t like seeing him cry when I go. He doesn’t see my dad often so he’s not really used to him but I know he will be in good hands. I do also feel kind of guilty as I did when I went on vacation for five days in Florida last year. I know I will be safe with my coworker and my son will be safe up north. But I can’t help with having this feeling of separation anxiety can any other moms relate? Please share experiences where you’ve been away from your children! Thank you,0.4851966292134833,1.953979359550562,2.8026825842696645,94.78357443820228,81.24719101123596,6.472471910112362,18.42837078651685,7.413659706084162,0.06324606741573069,618,13,155,9,16,212,108,178,0.134,0.665,0.2,0.9046,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,9,11,0,0,3,0,21,1,1,1,0,20,35,14,0,0,6,6,3,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,2,4,0,0,4,5,2,1,3,6,5,22,9,23,20,1,27,0,2,2,0,19,11,0,1,13,95,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883727225299274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162302684785058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883781915748596,0.0,0.11118654172866474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731079470742017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818626809226632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965180674165802,0.09373382711458482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217276075715413,0.0,0.0,0.14697897367153734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520287594598124,0.12190631328694715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948399002853387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513517485390048,0.15975276911393838,0.11847345837257353,0.0,0.3077932414509117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100695737785442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404465353965965,0.11601092073488928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251240444386222,0.0,0.09848777487392747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954231478791614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311006611628336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23163815790436604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022873904379182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338117588230698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197841025425847,0.0,0.0,0.12552917208856107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497547302464964,0.0,0.13068027669094615,0.13473386522297146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476022669984332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719148669832952
parenting,userbelowisamonster,2020/02/27,"A girl has a crush on my son... My oldest is in 2nd grade and old me that a girl has a crush on him.

“How do you know?”

“She told her friend to tell me. I think it’s because she thought I might think it’s weird.”

“What does it mean to you if someone has a crush on you?”

“I don’t know...”

“Well, from what I can see she thinks you’re pretty awesome and likes a lot of things about you.”

“Well that’s cool.”

So we talked back and forth like this and Then we began talking about boundaries. He is allowed to say he is uncomfortable if she asks him to do or say anything he doesn’t want to. He isn’t obligated to act a certain way because someone has these feelings toward him.

“I don’t mind saying I’m uncomfortable if I don’t want to do something...like I might not want to hold her hand.”

“And you don’t have to. You can still play and be friends, but be honest when it comes tome.”



HOLY SHIT YOU GUYS HES 8 AND NO ONE PREPARED ME FOR THIS!!",-0.2010719131614636,1.7596631691542302,1.4169629127091845,101.17651628222522,86.46268656716421,4.2515603799185895,18.09158751696065,5.238671369647483,-0.8091910447761195,711,18,179,3,22,229,107,201,0.09300000000000001,0.735,0.172,0.8777,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,7,0,0,9,12,1,0,7,1,24,2,2,2,1,35,41,16,0,6,6,1,2,2,2,2,0,3,0,3,12,10,0,1,8,1,0,2,8,2,2,1,3,7,31,10,19,34,1,15,0,0,1,0,37,5,1,7,9,116,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189494192049961,0.0,0.1351314263780203,0.0,0.0,0.11114730428099716,0.0,0.17622835896338346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451397499631454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264935799317042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308703256252405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233524705781592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312371949602154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588779067715703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123619661785655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288823000290455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745346857396336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066819000032681,0.1459507175411358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167719288457598,0.0,0.09794842118448144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470557137040755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448474364539191,0.0,0.0,0.11518481294687358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837486248171994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449474904649667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543498849184927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323619360706868,0.12633997588899448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603024418728297,0.2778586022671011,0.0,0.11475374206829166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381203355176623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557717389130004,0.1147342506888513,0.0,0.0,0.25992925108145315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Strafedup,2020/02/27,If your child is fat it’s 99% the terrible parents fault . (1% for genetics) Kids shouldn’t drink juice/Pop Every day. Kids shouldn’t eat sweets everyday. If your a parent that contributes to your child’s obesity and sugar addiction . Your a terrible person.,3.0302836879432635,6.068255042553194,4.035212765957446,80.0841666666667,83.68085106382979,9.090780141843972,24.854609929078013,9.2995712137729,3.0892014184397163,205,8,35,7,6,66,36,47,0.185,0.748,0.067,-0.6908,2,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,3,6,1,0,0,5,3,3,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,4,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,2,2,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34447473078095725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20378681064885687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30954899276903025,0.0,0.3233357079419489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662344220913848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7017369404861651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27590946985396186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sko19,2020/02/27,"Can anybody tell me that I shouldn't freak out? Caught my 16.5 year old smoking weed a few times. I made it clear that I don't want to smell it an I don't want to find it. I can't get okay grades. He wrestles varsity and wrestles all year long. He's also a lifeguard. 

Can anybody tell me that I shouldn't freak  out? Obviously the stuff that I confiscated I ended up partaking in. I know I'm a hypocrite.",0.17651162790697586,2.3638485116279107,2.1709767441860457,94.81530232558138,87.13953488372093,5.300465116279073,21.390697674418604,6.742157984588678,0.3461758139534883,316,11,73,4,10,105,53,86,0.055999999999999994,0.8370000000000001,0.107,0.687,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,1,7,0,0,1,3,13,14,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,1,12,1,6,10,2,11,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,6,42,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21870124885175865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24222143306874305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24995507021332775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288161508763725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029703781165232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420205208784086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587726686638708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869704574710277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130682996478265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4780658184429017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946794368950393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226102818674017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522233274623537
parenting,SLISETTE,2020/02/27,"My toddler never stops eating My 18 month old is an eating machine. I think he would devour an entire box of Cheerios if given the opportunity. 
Of course, this is not the case with broccoli, or any other vegetable. 
I don’t want food to become a power struggle, and of course I want him to be well fed, but I just cannot believe he is actually hungry every time he’s asking for “more.” Often he’s asking even while there’s still food in front of him. 
Has anyone dealt with this? 
Thank you!",3.9774489795918377,5.065236540816329,5.161836734693877,82.99030612244898,71.34693877551021,6.416326530612245,23.18367346938776,6.1826913282559595,0.5826367346938777,383,9,74,2,7,127,72,98,0.018000000000000002,0.8640000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.7526,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,2,6,4,0,1,5,0,8,6,0,0,1,15,16,5,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,6,1,1,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,2,0,9,3,10,12,1,9,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,7,49,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.18396939455490527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820080949362847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181833319409464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35248355132753595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082067384505385,0.0,0.21239871708874025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858082897475504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451640548592464,0.0,0.15883715367039813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4559209135923885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504757397025946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539909068150894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978211768955438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055319025951802,0.1576120771183869,0.0,0.19708318116540036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356489597923744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079670574436607,0.0,0.0,0.10992816673805124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223892528869654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950310518220038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391997719361695,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drwhaaaaasuuuuup,2020/02/27,"Is my kid ""ahead"" enough to need an IEP? I have a kid going into kindergarten this fall. He's our first. He's been reading since before he turned 3. He knows the location of more than 3 countries. He knows the shape of nearly every state and at least half their capitals and their geographical location. He can sound out proper nouns he's never seen before. He can add and subtract, including 3 digit numbers, (not like 123+456, but he can can easily do 234+4). He knows the presidents backwards until Carter. He can tell time and read a calendar. He knows every planet and dwarf planet in our solar system as well as many moons. Is this like average pre-kingergarten child sponge brain level stuff, or should we be looking at an IEP. I think he's very smart, but I know most parents think that their kids are smart. I just want some perspective. Thank you",3.283815261044176,5.470100072289162,3.866963855421688,87.04932128514058,75.3855421686747,6.836305220883535,21.91004016064257,7.793537801064563,0.966852690763052,676,18,131,10,15,213,112,166,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.9699,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,1,3,2,2,6,0,0,7,0,13,1,1,0,1,27,27,11,0,3,5,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,4,4,9,0,0,7,2,0,2,2,0,1,2,2,3,12,6,14,23,5,18,0,0,2,0,26,9,0,3,7,69,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29048726635069233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19054519846553875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763672023488334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876254231808952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518784226918272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700640274213312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690306198090946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677989327841813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433356386511849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730516956636723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656361395389334,0.13164575800120334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895297599794584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414700667323761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119557439998195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539788776198375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491895717963592,0.15714735344278566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21874103637413966,0.0,0.0,0.09953003672913507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856604461499204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083617107826274,0.1006767017262684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346976835052714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_real_tomato_ketchup,2020/02/27,"Have you had to rehome a dog/pet (because of its behavior toward your child)? How did you move on and trust you did the right thing? Really struggling with guilt and shame and immense sadness. I’ve sought advice and support from dog-focused communities on how to manage the situation my family is in... but, I’d love to hear from other parents who have made the difficult choice to rehome a beloved pet, particularly if the choice was made because of your child’s safety.

We are SO LUCKY that our “close calls” didn’t result in physical injury... but, my emotional world is upside down. My toddler (19 months) LOVES our dog... and she usually loves him too, but we had two close calls that were truly scary... and my partner and I, of course, prioritize our son’s safety above all else. 

FWIW, we’ve done extensive training and continue to do training twice/week. Meeting with our dog’s trainer tomorrow to discuss and explore options. However, short of some behavioral miracle and a crystal ball to look into the future, we know what we have to do... and it’s breaking my freaking heart. 

I cannot imagine packing up her things. Finding her partially chewed toys. Explaining to others why she’s no longer in our home. I’m devastated.

This dog got me through a really terrible and dark time in my life. And now I just feel like I’m failing her.",4.071796536796537,6.302220595238098,4.844733044733047,80.73006493506496,73.20634920634922,8.073881673881674,29.311688311688318,8.841846274778883,2.5671047619047624,1058,45,191,22,22,341,158,252,0.109,0.708,0.183,0.9793,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,9,5,0,1,6,15,0,3,9,0,17,6,1,5,1,42,31,20,0,1,5,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,3,11,22,1,0,6,2,0,2,3,8,0,1,11,3,30,7,28,20,2,25,0,2,1,3,35,15,0,4,8,122,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759322484593546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414352344212598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30845470618054804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456498276548508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261734147421678,0.16989815674794054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238580110054636,0.0,0.07636968177629669,0.1079020447521422,0.0,0.0,0.13804659365913136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079940942161665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023154045848138,0.17898153247085252,0.0,0.0,0.15150408511957064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300689435604805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066830682176981,0.07378985719370186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683442948584314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089548471229914,0.2858328531655098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055761280382875,0.1605301864497005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771055128922524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19351845891539288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898618544081022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16977377561234022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789839539612838,0.0,0.0,0.17139687491732208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068674106337508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807185389507809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754281839596142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634773904055994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115409790233585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362888928717171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newhere1122,2020/02/27,Sleepover same bed? My son is having a friend sleepover but all he has is a double bed. I dont want the child to sleep on the floor. Is it weird if he sleeps in the same bed as my child? I honestly dont know where else to have the boy sleep,0.10611111111111173,1.6035670185185182,1.7331111111111106,101.87300000000002,82.51851851851852,5.060740740740742,16.355555555555554,5.6839178017228535,-0.9575733333333334,185,3,49,1,5,60,36,54,0.063,0.8170000000000001,0.12,0.6221,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,8,3,3,0,1,7,10,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,10,4,4,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,0,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5778913178222995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20595439862752013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904779163136126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549316267592876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.740160843397182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541699569876085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwilightLuna,2020/02/27,"Why Youtube channels such as Ryan's World and The Labrant Fam Sucks I know why some of you think living a life like *those people* sounds good, but those parents are spoiling their children TOO MUCH. So let's start a rebellion against those people by joining me on my adventure together ( by liking this comment) and let's fight! (NOTE:I'm not jealous of those people, I'm just trying to tell them to CUT DOWN ON THEIR BUDGETS.",4.1260846560846565,6.323126617283955,3.636437389770727,89.60111111111117,72.95061728395062,6.110052910052911,28.855379188712522,6.868970318607317,1.4344342151675489,340,14,64,3,7,101,64,81,0.124,0.721,0.154,0.3953,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,3,0,4,8,4,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,8,8,5,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,7,4,11,6,2,5,0,0,0,0,9,4,1,1,3,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928608572775846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636776214887432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4702538121356351,0.16241181764998694,0.2246719190060556,0.0,0.2030392268498797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903068736327947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553186361155461,0.0,0.0,0.4782296070804785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627511076591098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20097570955525468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473348118933917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611262408870213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149660707476329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ComfortableReading7,2020/02/27,I'm actually quite hurt my son didn't tell me he had a girlfriend He and I have always been very close and open. He's a junior and just turned 17. He even disclosed to me that he lost his virginity last summer. I got a call from the vice principal saying that he and this girl were making out like crazy during lunch. I asked who the girl was and the VP said his girlfriend. I told her my son did not have a girlfriend. She said he did. They've been dating since January. I asked her how she knew this and she told me to trust her - she knows who dates who. I know my son doesn't see me as a superman anymore. It's just that I am bewildered that he would not share something so common with me like having a girlfriend. I asked him about it and he says it's no big deal and he doesn't want to talk about it.,0.3206762545899657,2.433312040697676,1.7986658506731956,98.29076499388007,85.56976744186046,5.01640146878825,16.610771113831092,6.339386263674448,-0.5578534883720927,629,13,150,6,19,202,95,172,0.084,0.865,0.051,-0.5272,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,9,0,15,2,0,2,0,23,32,11,0,2,4,3,0,2,4,1,0,4,0,2,13,12,1,0,3,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,15,5,26,4,9,16,0,9,0,2,1,1,46,4,0,0,7,88,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.16206566085746713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818805994888608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647021985719571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4657743193548021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958158012259994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121647370698787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969125376259303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282569088509175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777871803060702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254142373472468,0.13537363944334482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227213045152222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129094767696866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108566376486382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766416600863007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31595152544281513,0.2641396919211027,0.0,0.0,0.1323406140928756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737931004646106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278529780263255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348513803459214,0.14515724396184335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173843765245718,0.0,0.0,0.1806423756791449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702962075502245,0.09795559017825614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797521896732115,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fluffster4333,2020/02/27,"My son won’t stop crying My son turned 1 in December and he went from being the best baby (Never crying, never fussing, always content) to crying over everything.

He is definitely a bruiser.  He runs around, falls, bumps his head, scraping his knees, the whole 9 yards.  As of recently everything is making him cry uncontrollably; to the point where he can’t catch his breath on occasion.

We did bring him to the doctors a while back and it turns out he had a mild ear infection.  We got him on an antibiotic.  The ear infection went away and there has still been no change.

His mood isn’t the only thing that has changed.  His sleeping patterns have as well... He used to go to bed around 6-7 and now he isn’t going to bed until 9-10 and that comes with a good 15-30 minutes of crying before he eventually settles down.  Not only is he going to bed later he is also up at multiple point in the night. (which he never does that, if he does wake up it’s once toward the morning hours, but that’s because he wants a drink and will fall right back asleep)

I don’t know what to do.  I’m beyond frustrated the situation!   Its also beginning to effect my girlfriend and my relationship as well.

If anyone has experienced this or has any ideas on what to do your council and advice would be so greatly appreciated!",4.902614889705879,5.707883351562503,5.9548161764705885,79.19091911764707,69.0,8.836029411764708,27.949448529411764,9.007467420416297,2.133382169117647,1022,33,199,18,17,340,156,256,0.079,0.865,0.055999999999999994,-0.4637,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,1,0,2,14,8,1,1,15,0,23,13,8,3,3,31,39,20,0,4,5,2,0,0,1,3,4,2,4,0,12,15,1,1,3,2,0,11,10,2,2,0,6,3,16,5,34,28,2,46,0,0,0,0,28,20,0,3,15,131,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705535367156397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588539715910863,0.08264304714664626,0.0,0.0,0.06754170115107197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944756824854884,0.0,0.0,0.17683353457797513,0.0,0.0,0.09331537007042208,0.15274347113637524,0.0,0.06054517344091913,0.0,0.08451487479362621,0.0,0.10423128547522813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21013694457771895,0.08555626638430558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5454973972054223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165927510289516,0.17383299217395734,0.0,0.0,0.09729679012466223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785266615015085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933927779196614,0.08330576140431074,0.0794360948273157,0.10950177792094676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193202318270564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781120044881704,0.0,0.0,0.11212134498631424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054584236487236364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629755374743533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298074864559143,0.0,0.0,0.09320605140922694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577364745633132,0.0,0.15107622634921908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778093927499326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806752752401814,0.10663360829115076,0.0,0.08481961051919196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164099065802198,0.0993927509370961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931789685270453,0.08303682209634464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659844740550631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21606550342273764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578147412821502,0.0,0.0,0.058582112379126985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860305437406596,0.1841431657920085,0.0,0.1108883746434939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055480471220575,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DumbPotatoBasket,2020/02/27,"Disabled parents, who takes care of your children for you when you can't get out of bed? I have osteoarthritis and I have literally nobody who can come take care of my son at the drop of a hat. My husband has to work or we'll be homeless. I already filed for disability but it's going to be months before it goes through. What are my options on my bed ridden days so my son 3yo doesn't destroy the house because he's mad at me. There are absolutely no resources for disability parenting and it's frustrating. I just want to know how I'm supposed to be a parent when my body gives up on me.",1.6825956284152994,3.79627023770492,3.4635245901639347,88.33878415300549,80.22950819672131,6.361748633879781,25.740437158469945,7.492282038375204,1.301506010928961,467,19,99,7,12,156,83,122,0.105,0.8190000000000001,0.076,-0.672,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,0,1,6,5,3,0,4,0,12,1,1,1,0,11,23,8,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,16,2,18,19,0,14,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,2,4,66,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21282439317619964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175648856180659,0.0,0.16410856594264292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142225609535814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3932646366525824,0.0,0.0,0.1661307103396906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243779195496083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076072121215608,0.1850076576317191,0.1096060549659132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225330690892854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599010878106396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393799026685515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6424403555672368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900115116437373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375306981055028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040344504370642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,floraofthevalley,2020/02/27,"Parenting a toddler 2 yr old: *screaming in multiple voice pitches about his blanket at 3am*

“Go to sleep my darling, I love you” *mutters* “you little demon from the depths of hellfire”",1.9182352941176468,4.7510237647058835,3.3737647058823548,82.98594117647062,90.76470588235294,5.072941176470589,33.270588235294106,6.742157984588678,2.6213717647058825,144,9,23,2,5,47,33,34,0.0,0.778,0.222,0.8402,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,6,2,0,6,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,13,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24282902191539935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.428239670324063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856304524008095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44835100828606095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4744359644178706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4275814473211539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DehydratedMayo,2020/02/27,"From a teen to a parent Hello reddit-
I am a thirteen year old boy who, like most boys my age, enjoy video games. However, my mother doesn’t quite like the idea of video games. My friends tell me what their parents expectations are before they play xbox are: Do your homework and chores. I always do my homework, chores, go outside and more. Even after all of this, I never get to play. This week, for example, i only got to play about 30 minutes, while my friends play for a few hours each day.
When ever i try to talk to her about this, she either ignores me or says “I don’t want to talk about Xbox right now.” I was wondering how much you think i should be able to play, and how i should approach my mom about this",3.847931034482759,4.664330517241382,4.225000000000001,90.5975,71.41379310344827,6.90344827586207,24.84482758620689,6.742157984588678,0.6961586206896548,555,15,121,4,10,174,94,145,0.013999999999999999,0.7979999999999999,0.187,0.9705,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,2,1,10,11,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,2,3,20,17,8,0,4,2,4,0,2,2,2,0,1,4,2,6,4,0,1,3,11,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,23,10,17,12,7,15,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,3,14,81,29,2,0.1846732080643736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366290297180968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571432982383037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190989415681995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219749122320127,0.1670474894349179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853561248976711,0.0,0.09648412910805927,0.0,0.1049540399387334,0.0,0.1477000347076945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186591035847025,0.0,0.0,0.20847357340453496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804440025124045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162870293172218,0.0,0.0,0.13575605669897262,0.0,0.14243136280139632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378346648622927,0.0,0.0,0.1404522964264229,0.0,0.0,0.4101154859095278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642268865096266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770991064970913,0.0,0.1468595472926143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29686665869070256,0.16141252364939832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833113495033284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538098600796022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892504283420226,0.0,0.14813370819304908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20027021651417454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892349124449535
parenting,MNDox,2020/02/27,"Larger, more absorbent night pull up? My son is 4 and has been potty trained since he was 3.5, but still wears a diaper to bed.  He is 40+lbs and almost always pees through a 4t-5t pullup or a size 6 huggies diaper (have been buying at Costco).  We have stopped night sippy cups and tried to limit drinking around bedtime but we need a better product so that I don't have to wash his sheets every day.  At this point I don't mind spending more since it is just one a day.

His brother just self chose to stop wearing pull ups at night around age 4 and required no effort from us - if there are any tricks we should be doing I'm all ears.",3.76268376068376,4.584738892307693,4.112564102564104,91.30465811965814,71.61538461538461,6.3931623931623935,23.67521367521368,5.82211442006289,0.34357264957264944,496,12,107,2,9,155,94,130,0.078,0.8909999999999999,0.031,-0.5927,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,4,7,2,1,0,5,0,16,6,4,0,1,24,18,9,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,9,1,4,0,1,2,2,3,1,0,1,3,1,9,1,13,13,3,19,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,3,9,64,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844965427312404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330808643982274,0.0,0.0,0.12529413321349708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280374059348772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629513103956929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23764787044506916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049170772080286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552358644991291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603673195859385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661665793645805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5187093849820685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485039117761793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741727674866477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19220958151379053,0.0,0.0,0.3048216922277709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713972205480125,0.3080771278204543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509147405828286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162619898517252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HyHoang,2020/02/27,"Asian parenting I tried posting this on r/AsianParentsStories, but I find that place to be full of hatred towards Asian parents, not somewhere I can find reasonable discussion about parenting, so I switch to this place.

I don’t know if what I am upset about is considered “mature” or not, but here goes. For a good part of my teen years, I have been staying at home, just go out to work for my dad. And that is basically all social interactions I got. I do love my solitude, in fact, I am even quite introverted, but I also want to find some fire and action in the act of going out and traveling. 

Last year, a friend of mine, in my class, had to go to the US to study, and we held a farewell meeting for her right at the airport, about 30 mins away from my house taking a taxi. And they just downright stop me, saying that I can kidnapped, it’s raining and I can get into an accident and all. I am 18, pretty old enough to travel by taxi I believe.

I just want to go out so badly, just go somewhere, get to learn and explore the city since my parents don’t go out much. Last time I lied to them to go out with a friend (a girl, but I am not romantically attracted to her), and when they find out they say that if I go out with her, I can affect her study and I can ruin her life. If her parents find out that she is hanging out with me, they can even kill me (a similar case did happen in my town actually), and that I had better study than going out. But what is the point? I just wanted to go out. To go somewhere. I understand that there are risks, but why? Once I just want to go to a cafe 5 minutes walk away from school to see my new friends at the new school and they were just “You don’t know what kind of people they are! You don’t know, you’re young, we know better!” 

I just want ask if my “complaining” is justified. Is that helicopter parents? Or is it because I haven’t show enough responsibility and independence for them to trust me?",3.703460822631676,4.367034670854277,4.7754718034617545,87.07968081146473,71.63819095477388,8.006849060115389,25.79601712265029,8.167268648758528,1.2921141634096398,1501,44,335,21,27,493,182,398,0.11699999999999999,0.759,0.124,-0.5231,7,0,0,0,0,1,52.0,3,2,8,4,19,16,1,2,15,0,32,2,0,3,3,79,63,29,1,9,23,7,1,0,3,0,1,2,1,1,15,30,0,2,13,3,0,19,8,6,0,0,7,4,61,10,61,55,8,62,0,1,1,1,40,29,0,7,12,236,76,5,0.0,0.0,0.06970285131061739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057120476165881735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677498892428274,0.0,0.13421681104048822,0.0,0.05963890611675776,0.04354148784386142,0.0,0.0,0.08047423448677972,0.0,0.126343484171026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760722223237197,0.0,0.09435426493973346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264168061596068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555392570947114,0.0,0.07463575020267145,0.0,0.4871261364978748,0.059909924959566735,0.057127026990227474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316302519743931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164751881813965,0.0,0.0,0.08241764427931657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790238493503222,0.07438065882714108,0.15701855222495367,0.11644574935334714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05045129398109567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446602871442754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250736691076107,0.0,0.0,0.13797008064232447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495105429140397,0.07606786343447991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475870133931187,0.07734892745189488,0.0,0.049518774447143865,0.0,0.14925288753661856,0.0,0.06752199242380168,0.0,0.06840771704883719,0.07266735737971416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759718456279552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343927652029207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060998620211176864,0.0,0.113603891001939,0.0,0.14457671005030967,0.056918400219181826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059085493932889976,0.0,0.0,0.0728112522269783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613211826612296,0.0,0.05971651536235136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370452513278004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04164989877544192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048494524635104466,0.0,0.0,0.07435845569018387,0.0859183829064437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21064869328622404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445213017868917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200000717448392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091993823935675
parenting,Ptrulli,2020/02/27,"What do you think about online learning? As a parent myself, I often have mixed feelings about the school curriculum. I am not sure the standard education process is the most beneficial.  The process as in graduate via university with perhaps loads of debt. 

So I started to think about what or how would online education be different? Would it be supplemental like the odd tutoring course, or would it be a full-on course? What would the advantages or disadvantages be? Then I began to sink into the rabbit hole of how would the online education system be delivered, through a platform or other means...  

Is it only me with this thought or have any of you ha similar thought?  If so, what do you think about it all?",5.6128461538461565,7.568447669230771,6.090769230769233,74.54923076923079,68.46153846153847,9.507692307692308,32.230769230769226,9.888512548439397,3.4116,567,25,98,14,10,183,76,130,0.07,0.8440000000000001,0.086,0.4751,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,3,0,1,9,4,0,0,11,1,17,0,0,2,2,30,26,13,0,6,7,1,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,9,4,16,13,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,8,4,78,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262379195934662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20375977623801933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986105773719708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527943881422134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243956555515375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483254172746283,0.0,0.0,0.21655235309799384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19737586706222002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803980731330245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183808898982142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748927304428159,0.0,0.3096563744401025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6927013668899419,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aric2014,2020/02/27,"Vehicles I apologize if this is the wrong forum, but does anyone have experience with multiple kids and small-ish cars? My wife and I are expecting baby #2, and we currently drive a Hyundai Kona and a Hyundai Elantra. Will there be ample space for a five-year old and a newborn? I’m especially concerned about the rear-facing car seat. The cargo space doesn’t concern me too much, as I will be purchasing a luggage rack for at very least the Kona. Basically, I’m trying to avoid having to upgrade if I don’t have to. Any help would be great appreciated!",5.537062750333779,6.387454214953272,6.362082777036048,76.6751401869159,67.5981308411215,9.852603471295062,32.10814419225634,9.957137785484203,3.103948998664887,439,18,84,10,7,145,77,107,0.046,0.807,0.147,0.9127,1,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,9,0,13,0,0,0,0,13,15,9,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,9,9,2,8,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,2,51,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237538485605085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300676530788675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879391571639026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218575910623607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627602476169064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22054400791930204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24187724972859595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452649779044253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233919340417502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27148683644238464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337357339205925,0.3597461348716148,0.0,0.2118865831093265
parenting,SourGrape,2020/02/27,"Advice About Someone Else’s Child I have an 18-month old but my question is about my friend’s child. My friend is also my neighbor and has three kids - 1, 3.5 and 5. We have very different parenting styles which I am absolutely ok with but it is making it difficult for me to talk to her about something. We are still getting to know one another and I don’t want to offend her. 

The 3.5-year old is very affectionate and likes to climb and cling all over me but it makes me very uncomfortable. Due to anxiety issues, I have a lot of difficulty with germs and dirt and don’t like my daughter to have dirty hands, face, or clothes. I’ll let her get dirty when she’s outside but then change her cloths and wash her up right when she gets in. My friend is much more relaxed so the 3.5-year old is often sticky, etc as kids normally are! I understand that my anxiety is not normal but I can’t help it and it really makes me uncomfortable when the girl is clinging all over me and opening my pockets and touching my face. She also touches my daughters face and I can’t really stand anyone touching her face - adults, kids anyone. 

I have repeatedly asked the girl to please get down or to stop touching my daughter’s face but she really does not listen as she is still fairly young and her mom does not correct her as it isn’t really her style and she thinks it’s cute that the girl likes me so much. I wish I was ok with it but it is really making it difficult to enjoy hanging out at their house because the girl is always all over me and hanging onto me. It stresses me out. How should I go about talking about this in a way that won’t offend my friend?",3.231852967425258,4.9050664668674715,4.097724230254354,87.58498215082554,74.09036144578313,7.3281570727353875,24.946898705934853,8.045849151850463,1.318199776885319,1305,42,271,20,27,419,153,332,0.11699999999999999,0.725,0.158,0.9627,2,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,1,1,16,18,2,1,9,2,29,7,6,5,4,56,45,36,0,5,12,5,5,3,5,2,1,1,1,10,16,23,0,1,4,1,0,4,9,5,0,2,1,6,50,13,34,41,8,32,0,0,0,0,44,13,0,5,16,187,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790494837903868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024453366128222,0.08336648065968022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505842280558783,0.1532908403460794,0.0,0.0,0.14011098465382318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936645462244966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107516851046069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598821153664116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467769601328587,0.0,0.0,0.1753546762907889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369626498800065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173883612733562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096275731790287,0.0,0.20938150009384493,0.0,0.05694054174098805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671555468479552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560632770853108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045727997172221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506205122570031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245152344467563,0.0,0.14684397946424368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517833791937103,0.0,0.0,0.2675116140121156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734184437360115,0.07997106148049607,0.0,0.14730301792236233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196330737507038,0.0,0.0,0.31539907092514896,0.0,0.06789164200772886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124963821158687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997902769689867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223623389062362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209228396201755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556209704323299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489104332788303,0.0771315034298671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16002444590901904,0.08376370260225993,0.114767822200937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610585774549804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419799497790757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430179206877677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480028426342123,0.0590949233756066,0.07952651589065785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521407318556108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903873011737513
parenting,blueberry231,2020/02/27,"I overreacted and made my situation worse with my teen , how do I fix it? 16yo lying to me about sneaking out with friends or meeting up with guys I don’t know about. I’m worrying about every single thing now and have gone sweet/nice to angry with her. I’ve tried to bribe her with candies or fast food to get to talk to me, but she just leaves it on the table.   Yesterday, I asked if she brushed her teeth and then when she went to school I checked and the toothbrush was dry as a bone. I freaked out, because I thought she lied to me again.  I blew up in her face when I picked her up, and she started to get angry with me again. I heard her crying when she got home, and I knew I hurt her a lot by overreacting over something stupid. Every time I try to talk to her, ether her or I yell at each other.  I just want to keep things open and honest but I have done nothing but make her distrust me even more.",2.7331353383458645,3.7126361631579,3.4902255639097786,94.21157894736844,74.21052631578948,6.481203007518798,23.57142857142857,6.5431188927421005,0.34340601503759416,701,19,166,5,14,222,110,190,0.196,0.764,0.04,-0.9836,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,13,6,2,0,4,0,6,4,3,4,0,36,22,20,0,2,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,5,17,1,1,3,0,1,2,1,4,0,0,9,3,39,2,32,13,4,23,0,1,0,0,23,10,0,5,11,115,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634384686699786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065721494148438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19203786798005792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890743187351985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154707535160938,0.0,0.29459645496666265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21139998071262206,0.0,0.13506993429800862,0.0,0.18267846865525625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982411620522192,0.0,0.0,0.17310497026312835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536447325986587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18715457223121315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539315190532288,0.0,0.0,0.09607965550366113,0.0,0.0,0.18511521752632076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863059369367904,0.0,0.16542434382602428,0.11669754007237106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775001415624385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693298401561608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19651145848707446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345893971084408,0.0,0.0,0.12374255973849126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810366176580344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322929088614505,0.0,0.0,0.1387921106177408,0.10194229584727653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373904053874813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311675198350403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206521398157528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754402685382353,0.17816236648698566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mother-of-huskies,2020/02/27,"Recommendations needed for tracking apps on smartphones A friend of mine has an adult son with intellectual disabilities. He is learning to become more independent (which is great!) but he recently found himself in a scary situation. He went to meet up with a friend, got lost, and called his mom for help. She asked him where he was so she could come get him and he wasn’t able to explain where he was at.

What are some apps you have used to track your kid’s location? She doesn’t mind paying for one as long as she would be able to access his GPS location from her phone so she can get to him if he is not able to convey where he is. 

I am aware that I could just google suggestions but i feel like I would get more accurate feedback from asking actual people.",3.7542000000000013,5.469214619999999,4.389000000000003,85.85950000000003,72.8,7.933333333333334,23.166666666666664,8.59863814320734,1.2706666666666666,603,16,126,11,12,192,99,150,0.047,0.853,0.1,0.8122,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,4,0,18,0,0,2,0,23,32,9,0,6,5,2,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,4,0,1,2,3,1,0,1,7,1,19,4,21,20,3,11,0,1,0,0,36,7,0,2,3,81,22,3,0.4738917875997515,0.0,0.15415000832838782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29534990047783793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445874920569066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612988331391826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607193792355002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522426876484601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987130888848915,0.1128494625831063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319929501318174,0.2440850797067749,0.0,0.24758889985863705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263381844607298,0.17415578960456726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587989200598376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717319674081613,0.0,0.0,0.1397931065069644,0.0,0.0,0.1724362887635023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949853803754027,0.1850054447205822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712825194805945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070404465644839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951229899365753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559703231745056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755807484989394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643011687927373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643414494120893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22442608619416274,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acidxoxo,2020/02/28,"I'm living a nightmare (16F) due to traumatizing events that happened recently with my parents and family, I am now lonely, I have major trust issues towards my family, I feel broken, ""naked"", ashamed, and I'm constantly anxious. A lot of memories are triggering me 24/24, I feel haunted and I can't handle this.  


It's not very glorious  but i've been hiding my belly piercing for 9 months to my dad (i'm 16), my sister told him about it and he went crazy, forced me to take it off, yelled at me (I get that he'smad but after all the things that he did to me, yelling at me afects me so much) and put pressure onme  to tell him where I did it so he would sue the piercing saloon. It's terrible. It can sound stupid but it was my only piece of secret garden. He knows almost all my secrets since he went through my phone behind my back. He saw my messages where I talk shit about him to my friend because of all the things he did to me, discovered that I had a sexual life, He grounded me, threatened me, and my mental health is so bad right now. I suffer from major anguish and I don't know what to do. Sometimes i even start to aspen for no reason. I feel like I will never be happy anymore, and I'm scared I might suffer from depression since I start having suicidal thoughts. And I can't confess that to nobody.

If you have any advices guys to how feel better I would be  so grateful to read them.",4.538814291323124,4.9225417526501785,5.510571260306243,83.5575098154692,69.63604240282686,8.126344719277581,28.08971338829997,7.984000788550335,1.6930841774636822,1088,35,221,13,18,359,161,283,0.265,0.6779999999999999,0.057,-0.9969,1,2,0,0,1,0,37.0,0,1,1,1,13,17,2,4,6,0,23,3,1,3,4,37,43,18,1,3,5,3,4,1,1,4,2,3,1,1,16,10,0,0,11,2,0,3,6,12,0,0,11,8,44,5,29,26,8,23,1,4,1,0,26,8,1,4,13,151,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837051565786553,0.0,0.0,0.13154528325489126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933420648296365,0.0,0.0,0.14840755329850444,0.13028097130716088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101327444285862,0.10968613179889516,0.08008023093199912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618362038351362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196128322055146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131463840974205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676680219206305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476826253876486,0.0,0.2656928308324115,0.09384875992667917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014939793364806,0.0,0.06863394440545696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007418983535454,0.11616758853792185,0.1398428361011057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963719951758835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711323529343253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439196437054205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278854428016307,0.06417938240839667,0.0,0.1159996517727025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168370284265036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323872481662395,0.13935984832060344,0.0,0.0,0.10485605242560007,0.0,0.09657001347595792,0.0,0.1013184896466869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991068161846177,0.0,0.0,0.14586773866304362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320603283046411,0.0,0.0,0.13140275822849334,0.0,0.0,0.1350673694089912,0.12970927003317434,0.0,0.0,0.11218687819215208,0.0,0.0,0.13152149279942627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484655162122408,0.2173366245932788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992552815469668,0.0,0.1859647724923312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369440422477311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877179186316423,0.10558798600748068,0.11482073038240173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454907203832573,0.0,0.0,0.10429088960703817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552699724064026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839170481392614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24355743659010298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663899147068874,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GlorytoGloryBlogger,2020/02/28,"Easy Slime recipe Color Glue, Baking Soda, Contact Solution.  I can't tell you the measurements because it depends upon how gooey you want it. We also sometimes use glitter glue. Just a fun thing to do with kids",3.73423076923077,6.493192102564106,4.2483974358974415,81.96951923076925,76.69230769230771,5.951282051282053,27.698717948717945,7.1686216300943375,1.8116102564102563,168,7,27,2,4,53,36,39,0.0,0.7659999999999999,0.23399999999999999,0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,3,0,7,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,3,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,0,17,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861684289267221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29436638281806204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775923759648126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4220687513238641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208118805489101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170635050961463,0.0,0.0,0.28482211774836796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,normagra,2020/02/28,"My 2 year old is biting other kids Hi! 
My twin boys are 2 years old and used to go to a daycare part time where we never had issues. They now go to another daycare full time and very soon after they started one of my boys bit another boy. It didn’t happen for a few weeks but then this week he bit twice. The daycare has very strict policies and we basically got kicked out. The teacher pretty much said that this is not normal and we needed to put him in therapy or something. I’m so in shock but I’m also so worried. My baby is such a sweet boy and I thought this was just a stage. 
Has anyone had an experience with a toddler biting. Is it “normal” or should I really deal for help?
Thanks",0.6997916666666661,2.9203293958333347,2.7519444444444474,91.36250000000004,84.90277777777777,5.266666666666668,19.416666666666664,6.6274283507984215,0.1756333333333333,539,15,115,6,16,181,96,144,0.051,0.84,0.109,0.868,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,2,0,8,3,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,1,23,24,13,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,7,10,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,7,2,12,2,12,16,6,23,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,14,77,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186067465392108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311040568830893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370467974478227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32384120756056106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529053431541096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507966660183708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685806622609427,0.0,0.11862034887614754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115368468719465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941182693362627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548014059209434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902794193347122,0.10997303917764296,0.11438899103743146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29063269104174005,0.0,0.0,0.31126143533435835,0.0,0.10050148472162368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060973663322545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088877784177274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909665317275894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950138217580167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108068976053892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417945396916715,0.0,0.0,0.1049774960527101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654771317704412,0.1696101195779581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774484280357946,0.17296630977293145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809577825192972,0.0,0.2447493600374165,0.0,0.0,0.23793727849762675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062018611557748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910188585792746
parenting,earlsofwisdom,2020/02/28,"How would you have the birds and bees talk if your child is gay? If your son is straight then you would normally say ""penis goes into vagina"" but if he's gay must you say ""penis goes into butt hole"" ? 

What if your daughter is gay? Do you talk about oral sex only? 

I apologize in advance if this is somewhat uncomfortable but i am genuinely curious.",3.076666666666668,5.107957647058826,4.100588235294119,85.84931372549022,75.47058823529412,7.4745098039215705,24.568627450980397,8.344100000000001,1.5625803921568628,272,9,54,5,6,88,46,68,0.042,0.86,0.098,0.4587,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,10,6,2,1,1,16,10,10,0,9,7,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,4,7,1,6,0,0,0,6,16,4,1,6,1,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327402172090868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25828445716193826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5401341155200212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5459223219577182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4824904586413194,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheFakeZzig,2020/02/28,"5-year-old has MRSA Hey, All!

I figured I'd ask other parents how things went for them,  so here goes.

For a few weeks, our 5-year-old has had a rash.  We were told it was eczema.  However, she eventually developed some spots that looked like pimples.  When we brought her to the doctor, we learned she has MRSA.

Aaand that's about all we know.  The entire ordeal was basically ""Hi.  She has MRSA.  Here's an antibiotic.  Bye.""

She was given:

- sulfamethoxazole-trimethoprim
- mupirocin

Other than the damn spots, she seems fine.  Normal appetite, no real fever (98.9F), and so on.  She basically seems like her normal self. 

Is there any reassurance to be found in this situation?  I feel very blindsided, and was already a nervous wreck before this.  The doctors we've dealt with have been pretty unhelpful in all of this, but we're still waiting for her primary to call us back with more info (prolly not happening today, though!)",2.852777302537781,5.828895640718564,3.5509495295124047,83.76812375249506,83.61077844311376,6.534245794126034,22.92244083262048,7.793537801064563,1.5120632449386946,720,25,128,14,21,227,117,167,0.057999999999999996,0.888,0.054000000000000006,-0.1615,2,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,6,0,1,0,11,6,1,1,8,0,14,4,1,1,3,27,27,8,0,2,2,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,9,8,0,1,8,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,12,2,18,4,14,14,6,10,0,0,1,0,25,3,1,3,8,84,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746477049136454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762460535652006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795500611942755,0.0,0.0,0.1216948605208213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346705796775058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160472582217808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239787916892096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002277959968254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735277561434541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995188812693726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697747925368234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463910131772696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329014781825019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101292499689537,0.0,0.0,0.33214183558807203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757328847024786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610108736669285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18013850839374498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288154288244984,0.1651033438326637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789480212092434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263894335054959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514323534655287,0.0,0.1554930827026573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001529032306388,0.15122755405220126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903715009688524,0.0,0.0,0.13058396009532908,0.0,0.0,0.12694943135203826,0.0,0.0,0.1467118477156584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038330069778973
parenting,randombubble8272,2020/02/28,"Journaling I had an idea that I was thinking of implementing with my 4.5 year old. She’ll be 5 in June but she isn’t starting school until September coming. She’s been in play school for two years currently.

I had the idea of doing some self journaling with her as part of the bedtime routine. She can’t write alone yet so I’ll be the one writing but I think it might help her feel comfortable with emotions and hopefully help her feel confident? I was thinking of doing questions such as:

1) 1 thing that happened today that made you feel happy 
2) 1 thing that happened today that made you feel sad or angry
3) 1 thing you did well today
4) 1 thing you love about yourself 

Just four simple questions. Asking parents advice for whether or not they think it will have a positive impact? Are those appropriate questions for her age? Will she even understand what I mean? She’s bright for her age but I’m worried it’ll be too complex for her and she’ll be bored or confused.

Thanks in advance!",3.1387857961053847,5.397707597938143,3.7586941580756026,87.31101947308136,76.11340206185571,6.579152348224515,26.241695303550976,7.594959193182576,1.4678176403207333,790,30,152,11,18,249,113,194,0.087,0.691,0.222,0.9876,2,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,4,1,1,8,11,0,1,5,0,22,1,0,2,0,39,43,13,0,1,9,1,4,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,14,6,0,0,16,1,0,2,3,3,1,3,8,5,25,8,19,25,2,18,0,1,1,1,29,3,0,10,13,104,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112038796786433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777381584326685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630760638374813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795487991190982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279133856758201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510728357600259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229989653707282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20111452293343135,0.12105108499756345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244072017786894,0.0,0.0,0.11294404955045476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256739414839891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026316786584234,0.2151986147796928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386830961209586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063299997797695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932412578446708,0.0,0.07705581510004021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626637533678314,0.1231416053559376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821584320445312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301700716373529,0.0,0.0,0.1186289112423535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048763207736366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469293431880804,0.0,0.0,0.3021871573068036,0.2914543637196345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233638425657958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108243782290987,0.1183806926239839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224289512896054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548248509763985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645668059606667
parenting,arrowinthekn33,2020/02/28,"Delivery with toddler at grandparents Hi! I'm 35 weeks pregnant and my DS will be 20 months by the time I'm due. We have a good relationship with grandparents and they'll be watching him when DH and I are at hospital / overnight.  Our son loves spending time with them but hasn't been with them alone much or ever spent the night.   I'm getting little nervous having him spend the nights away. Wanted to hear how birth with your second baby went when you had a young sibling to think about also. 

Would love to hear arrangements y'all made when delivery time came. How to make our firstborn feel included? Bonding ? TIA!",3.7345920745920793,6.193268333333336,3.6863869463869454,87.57755244755245,75.06837606837607,6.98958818958819,26.02097902097902,8.00094639256281,1.6226307692307698,493,18,93,8,11,150,87,117,0.038,0.8270000000000001,0.135,0.9311,2,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,3,3,0,8,4,0,1,5,0,11,2,0,4,1,21,27,11,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,1,0,1,6,4,13,3,14,16,1,20,0,0,1,2,18,4,0,1,14,56,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946295821434732,0.0,0.15028043313676664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765580563336396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21493167187312864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998539065074808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501855288857376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981810168683828,0.0,0.0,0.1576193000557053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42360146733983056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834630753663134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33921225340197964,0.1778154854393315,0.12543879127831273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999682651389834,0.0,0.13814362855282925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352702438257007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017569303483458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041225084388595,0.0,0.0,0.3287349081211539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084073170123933,0.0,0.15073896854672444,0.0,0.0,0.17420473934157074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349375537583635,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anonmommy2,2020/02/28,Coronavirus and small kids. Is anyone else terrified to take your kids out of the house becuase this Coronavirus? All my fb groups are so relaxed saying well the flu has killed more people and its over hyped but I'm scared. Not for myself but for my 3 year old and 3 month old. It looks like america is going to be slow on taking any form of precaution. Am i justified in my terror or should i be more relaxed about it? I'm in the usa east coast if that makes a diffrence.,2.8212499999999987,4.518011958333336,3.59416666666667,90.6675,75.25,7.300000000000002,22.416666666666664,8.07648339933343,0.9668166666666664,372,10,80,6,8,118,72,96,0.139,0.708,0.153,0.3766,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,3,7,1,2,4,0,8,1,0,1,1,12,15,8,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,2,7,4,12,12,4,13,0,0,1,0,5,7,0,2,6,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620593201802117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663225099046908,0.2441772817842331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990778534445876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543735584130304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27497833467390065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636552728955649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642647863754277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012081004947166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590741172759148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902171770688308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001335884159849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521450293363124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895140842312822,0.2385903961236432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583596938397462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214269770235948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153464156415256
parenting,denisalivingabroad,2020/02/28,"I fear I f'd up my DDs (3yo) speech development by stopping using my native language. So as my user name suggests I do live in a foreign country, in my husbands country. But I speak almost only his language since we moved here 9 years ago. We live near my countries border and my language is used here a bit (I just want to point out how truly stupid it is not to teach my kids my language).

When my DD was borne almost 4 years ago I tried to talk to her in my language (she spoke some words in DHs language and some in mine). But when she was going to start kindergarten a year ago, I wanted her to be able to communicate there so we started to speak only DHs language at home. Also at that point I started to see how much I can't stand the xenophobia and sexism in my home country. And I started to see how unhealthy my mothers behavior is, so by not teaching my DD her language , I think I was unconsciously shielding her from the culture of ""girls should be quite, clean and obedient"".

Now she speaks DHs language, but picks on my accent and grammar. I know how stupid that is. I have a degree in special education which includes speech therapy. But I did not study bilingual education. I feel sad, stupid, panicking and pressured to speak language I don't want to.

I'm passing on all cultural stuff apart from language (like food and seasonal traditions). DH has no real cultural heritage, he comes from big city and loves my culture. It's not like I'm pretending to be local. 

I know what I did was stupid. I'm planning on speaking my language with DD more from now on. I want to make it happened for her. She seems to remember some words, but I'm not sure how much she understands.

And I can't imagine how it will look like when everybody is at home. Do I talk to DD in my language and than my DH says his part in his language? Do I translate to DH what I'm saying when he doesn't understand? 

My mother stopped talking to me after DS (6mo)  was born so I guess at least that issue took care of itself. 

TL;DR I struggle with raising my kids bilingually (the practical day to day reality of it).",4.105568910256409,5.288082521634621,5.021846153846155,83.7564871794872,71.13942307692308,7.6620512820512845,30.693589743589744,8.021203637495839,2.1024489743589743,1643,70,324,22,30,536,196,416,0.11800000000000001,0.833,0.05,-0.9813,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,3,0,0,2,21,15,4,3,7,0,26,2,0,10,2,67,60,32,0,5,11,3,1,3,0,2,0,10,4,3,13,18,1,2,9,1,0,5,10,8,0,0,9,14,63,7,54,46,10,55,0,1,3,1,42,25,0,7,27,215,76,2,0.09909197098522472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635171602329969,0.0,0.1984525902722997,0.0,0.0,0.07924381339594115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818276772039052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103086855310876,0.0,0.0,0.08535895880102473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278122472224897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150601656618046,0.05010387791071885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982240464990067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05631625068627068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916097776781593,0.0,0.08762670268597447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981919790909291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342627280627036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891671154911664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523399508377127,0.0,0.17500005165804072,0.0,0.08321229867697016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943437262301439,0.0,0.06614466009440256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531908312019624,0.14568800068490592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507278183789804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730694813491896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734788387320495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053965086145916,0.0,0.11278835697448085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225188630097144,0.0,0.0,0.1576038251758773,0.0,0.0,0.15792694278898312,0.09020960875079401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819699023871516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805512283476708,0.0,0.0,0.16569064957678215,0.0,0.10359244324730853,0.11343659923173527,0.0,0.0,0.09339300994826774,0.0,0.0,0.238939118222326,0.0,0.0,0.11332030477250805,0.0,0.0,0.06349413384891082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009482583104356,0.06727694373115997,0.0,0.0,0.20631647292334265,0.0,0.17116729435366432,0.0,0.0,0.23378804748610174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914359413697956
parenting,youdidntsee4nything,2020/02/28,"Flat Head Syndrome My friend’s 5m/o child has a severe case of flat head syndrome, and I don’t know how to tell my friend that her child needs help. 

She already has a 12 y/o, and I am scared she will be more embarrassed by and angry with me than she will be receptive to my advice. At this point, I can’t just sit by and not say anything, as her baby’s back and head are flat. Not just a flat spot, but they have a cone shaped head and when looking at the baby’s head from the front you can tell one side is even flatter than the other. It’s alarming and nauseating, as I have seen firsthand how it will possibly hinder the child’s development if left untreated. Each time I visit, the baby is in a swing, swaddled on the floor, or being held with no sign of tummy time happening at all. As a mom myself, I know that at this point it’s either severe ignorance or straight up negligence. I never give anyone parenting advice, but in this situation I believe that I need to say something. Any advice helps, and thanks in advance.",5.4422567783094085,5.17581105263158,6.107763157894741,82.2939254385965,67.6602870813397,9.071929824561405,28.89992025518341,8.59863814320734,1.916348963317384,806,24,168,11,12,264,121,209,0.09300000000000001,0.833,0.07400000000000001,-0.4304,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,1,1,7,8,0,3,12,0,17,5,5,2,2,32,27,19,0,3,10,2,0,0,2,3,0,2,0,3,10,11,0,2,2,0,0,3,6,4,0,1,2,4,21,4,24,19,4,25,0,0,2,0,23,16,0,3,5,113,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373636622454608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269933141161536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825814442523348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046640421182129,0.0,0.09470079030506896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848918831245797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296554174916582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600905861918694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782058644514107,0.0,0.0,0.1103949374828813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176460148068234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5905248798772533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427099855403129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648959056582612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503443424236912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663796712173647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477995752660887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706602835021224,0.08875656154430646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798098517251566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277823916357462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757503313721585,0.12973507431164624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303199788688845,0.11521485871688628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600146169551468,0.0,0.0,0.1293544080441474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859397780677593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116946587509865,0.10594992925819903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420780076143146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Scuzobutt,2020/02/28,"How do you alleviate the fear of something happening to your kids while you are away I'm sure I can't be alone. I have two kids, my son just turned 13 and my daughter is 18 months. I feel that the older I get the more I find myself fearful for my children's well being when I am not present. I was very young when my son was born and was so consumed with just trying to support my family. These days I'm in a better place but now find myself constantly concerned for them. How do you fellow parents alleviate this fear?",3.3051635514018685,4.5173331028037405,4.403820093457946,87.31171144859816,73.11214953271029,7.219158878504674,25.524532710280376,7.645422480735847,1.1825149532710286,410,13,87,5,8,134,75,107,0.083,0.8370000000000001,0.08,-0.5043,1,1,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,1,1,9,7,0,3,4,0,12,0,0,2,1,13,19,9,0,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,3,1,19,4,8,14,1,14,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,0,11,62,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578878722988895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853813690928351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586514779164941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19385148539456595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568850160904964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691082376426091,0.6055740787256302,0.09070245905626932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279093278377672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372127223459599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862958605266278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143183416310303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991858425726304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741917200047506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809935696466533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035640016819615,0.1690682640587046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179065750319933,0.19511939656753866,0.17523310472612022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801143315945353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128868163838375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YaBasic85,2020/02/28,"12yr old daughter that never listens. My daughter is 12 but been having this problem few awhile before she turned 12. It's hard to get her to put her clothes in the washing basket and I used to find dirty underwear under her pillow. Now it's like she's not changing her underwear and socks at all as there is never any in the wash and I don't find any when I change her bed sheets. She is under camhs for autism but it looks like she may have high functioning autism. Autism runs in my family my brother has it and my youngest daughter has it but I have to dress her and brush her teeth/shower her.
I have to keep telling my oldest to brush her teeth but then she gets distracted while in the bathroom so how and ends up not brushing.
She is very intelligent and she does her homework straight away even without me having to ask if she has any, but when it comes to everything else I feel like a broken record and that I'm always on her case.
Has anyone else gone through anything like this and how did you get your child to listen?",3.2559162895927583,4.9611866730769245,3.4211877828054327,92.3267533936652,74.09615384615384,6.24027149321267,23.773755656108605,6.794906146795322,0.5987219457013575,820,24,173,7,17,251,117,208,0.077,0.8340000000000001,0.09,0.4408,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,0,8,6,0,1,4,0,17,3,1,3,3,31,31,23,0,2,9,4,2,4,0,1,2,2,3,1,10,10,0,1,3,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,3,8,33,4,23,27,2,26,0,0,1,0,30,12,0,2,14,118,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243844553165957,0.0,0.0,0.3049671327071814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452419468911607,0.15316623035557594,0.12301436779756085,0.0,0.13974937495765935,0.0,0.14044716258198894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720170698330888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162730598112261,0.12876908536842682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081634084258942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497530002511168,0.0,0.13240036271187408,0.0,0.0,0.0987341949608476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343485164030313,0.0,0.1409222421802913,0.0,0.07558469108103902,0.10679293837432832,0.0,0.0,0.2732552733970849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343010371476007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391023202134247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794032919049214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287016225855294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921255362690814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553072041348715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305858751777227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686057247449864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303806094976884,0.0,0.15027487324658714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065748757259132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259800965624174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910804119745806,0.0,0.12334173260814013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409931814887228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ezas123dbz,2020/02/28,"Why are there Alien (xenomorph) toys at Walmart targeted at kids? Just stopped by there today and noticed there was a purple alien queen toy like uh.  That's kind of not something that should be wrought upon kids ya know? I saw and began loving the franchise when I was like 7 but honestly I probably shouldn't have so.

Is this Disney completely abusing it's marketing and power",3.8081891348088486,6.457840281690142,3.822052313883301,85.72591549295778,75.76056338028171,6.874044265593561,28.45271629778672,7.957251820313856,2.071308249496981,304,13,54,5,7,93,57,71,0.08,0.779,0.141,0.53,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,2,6,5,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,0,0,10,12,6,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,2,4,5,5,5,0,7,0,0,2,1,4,3,0,0,6,34,8,2,0.0,0.35527891124804256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143920580161977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122526364573533,0.16479235892122754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929878228970179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706306685827612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34138668286258184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32329419549412536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230842878432684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506920435495821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842272939928169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705723220381669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theforseriousness,2020/02/28,"Looking for reassurances that having a late-talking baby isn't the end of the world. My son was born 7 weeks prematurely so he can either be considered 16 months or 18 months old, depending on how you count. His language skills are way behind. He doesn't seem to know his name, and although he says ""mama"" and ""dada"", he doesn't really direct it at the right person. He doesn't respond to any other words like eat, banana, nap, sleep, outside etc. It just doesn't seem to register.

He's been assessed for Autism Spectrum Disorder and the doctors don't think he's at risk, but have prescribed him Speech Therapy for the language delay.

In an effort to be chill and believe that everything will work out fine, I'd love to hear stories from other parents of late-talkers whose children eventually figured it out and now won't stop talking.

Weird request I know, but it would be great to hear, thanks!",6.758771929824562,6.985517421052637,6.6743216374269005,77.66797368421055,64.84795321637425,9.179181286549706,33.47426900584796,8.841846274778883,2.772599532163744,713,28,129,10,10,226,120,171,0.036000000000000004,0.821,0.14300000000000002,0.9638,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,0,3,4,8,0,1,7,0,18,4,1,2,0,25,28,11,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,3,1,4,0,2,9,7,1,2,6,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,5,6,6,19,20,2,18,0,0,1,1,25,8,0,4,10,74,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008703939071279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671186191626555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17000056007508907,0.15182340612069947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177998607491194,0.0,0.0,0.13137753522786938,0.0,0.16542864750124164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333106389214468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353581985906845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343603885797702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303804440080993,0.0,0.3346484121789035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246719749490073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456096271572888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387482056042535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367933119489628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564878346276628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470439304891749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295171998135427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950248510734858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667414913022618,0.0,0.1179590307185076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700705518502395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843845754066878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401163741670795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576693237589572,0.0,0.13656356379516835,0.16962980811885628,0.0,0.0,0.09504472974270264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177385090111841,0.11898244926749195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798697807899682,0.0,0.0,0.10537032414155774,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fish91191,2020/02/28,"Need boy names for Portuguese/Cape Verdean/Mexican/Dominican boy lol I know I know I know....very specific... But, Port and CV are similar in regards to language (w/cv speaking creole) and Mex and DR as well w/Spanish..... I know a bunch of port/span names but would like to hear what you guys have to say",0.532,2.9896492000000023,1.8883333333333359,94.8825,90.33333333333334,5.666666666666668,24.16666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.105666666666668,232,10,50,4,8,74,44,60,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.6908,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,12,8,6,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,2,7,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,1,24,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30559913335244426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478563067333946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6784752490951292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507844382342654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288504094324871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454405137276103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25465783100904216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775017102097113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924685487341003,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ektekjemp,2020/02/28,"People and baby rabies. It really irks me the damn typical question they keep asking. 

**""Are you going to have children?""**

Then you got one kid. 

**""Are you gonna have another?""**

You ended up with two. 

**""Ah, maybe another addition to the family?""**

You finally got three. 

**""Maybe it's enough already?!""**

.

I had a bad pregnancy. 

I spent a week in the hospital bleeding profusely due to my body somehow had this idea that the pregnancy itself was a germ to get rid off and my plasma decided to drop from 100,000 something to 150. 

Yeah, it was that bad. 
And people know about this. 
The ones that ask me about having more kids anyway. 

Do they care? Nope. Because it's always the same question. 

. 

I just wish I could pull out my placenta and hit them right in the face. 

Sorry for ranting.",-0.13844155844155992,1.3565504557823154,1.8003339517625248,90.08914656771799,115.87074829931973,5.319233147804576,18.740259740259734,6.714681859716394,0.9424530612244904,595,21,112,13,33,195,100,147,0.095,0.852,0.053,-0.7393,0,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,0,5,3,0,5,4,1,0,10,2,11,3,2,0,0,18,24,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,10,7,0,1,5,0,1,2,1,3,1,4,7,0,17,1,16,14,3,14,0,0,0,0,15,6,1,3,5,80,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625187664993596,0.0,0.12535728348580166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31595044881343554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28168474861172643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25158177556609324,0.09183807631466702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16734408235714893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360312529921644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028600305002353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343588441055698,0.1556672039846675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202441468658802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503552394580695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871117941002691,0.0,0.08562088235436778,0.0,0.2409856219508221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007150284909514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390935832499934,0.0,0.0,0.08279621629929458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027070090123461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20417586891359768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088908400647006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375368440138638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651364688779963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865880831018114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159818150488424,0.0,0.16864628093570458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716834306462015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084659922874015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324616703966872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhoDeyNinja,2020/02/28,"Where to find Toddler Graphic T-Shirts I'm struggling to find reasonably priced graphic t-shirts in toddler sizes.  I feel like any website that I find some decent looking shirts they are $20.  Is there anywhere you can get them for a much more reasonable price?

Example: Redbubble has a ton of shirts I'd like to get but cannot stomach $18-20 for shirts that won't last long at all.",3.704329004329004,5.26037425974026,3.9734415584415568,89.4325432900433,72.63636363636364,7.2112554112554115,29.71645021645022,7.793537801064563,1.7902138528138534,306,13,63,4,6,95,55,77,0.028999999999999998,0.919,0.053,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,6,4,4,2,1,9,11,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,8,10,5,5,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,4,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680526085425794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165903725067721,0.1647295012796464,0.0,0.0,0.6322497385214169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409416052294973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795701587483296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253037262256981,0.0,0.0,0.20405988819190046,0.1936327746363363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950602406352094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4741582183777329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24105682136245385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maxwell_aws,2020/02/28,"An inspiring book for 10-12yo girl Please recommend an inspiring book for 10-12yo girl. Something along the lines - Marry went through school, it was hard, lots of homework, hard math etc, etc, but she got her shit together and emerged victorious on the other side, now she is happy. 

An opposite to popular magic books, where a chain of fortunate events and powerful actors decide the fate of a little girl. It takes no effort of her, just luck.",7.079999999999997,7.852175024691363,6.752691358024688,75.50311111111111,64.18518518518519,10.924444444444443,32.24938271604938,10.793553405168565,3.562281975308641,351,13,62,9,5,110,60,81,0.099,0.63,0.271,0.9545,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,3,6,1,0,8,0,2,1,1,0,0,10,5,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,3,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,4,5,10,2,3,7,0,0,0,0,7,4,1,2,2,37,7,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5412136655629824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406072371692734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25829392689995256,0.4347141055270067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431882094285559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628316031218902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663449646417513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24556381158934645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490656391006056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186795500778667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18243447214440286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249289576659497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EmTeaVee,2020/02/28,"Am I being too harsh? Called into school today for behaviour incident. Ok so my son is 10 and is with me half the time and his Dad the other half. 

He’s a very good kid and we never really have any trouble with him. All parents evenings since he’s been at school have always been positive ‘he’s a polite child and participates in class’ etc. 

A month or so ago he got his first red card ever, for having a fight. He didn’t start the fight but did stick up for himself. It was when he was with his Dad for his days there and his father is very much of the ‘kids have to stick up for themselves’ opinion so no real punishment was given for that. 

Today I got called into school. At lunchtime he was playing with his mates, picked up a white board cleaning aerosol can off the window cill in class and started spraying it around, he subsequently ended up spraying it at his friend and the spray got into his friends eyes. He says it was an accident and he wouldn’t ever intentionally spray it directly at his mate. He got a 2nd red card for this. 

Because he’s now had 2 red cards this school year (the only 2 he’s ever had), he’s now banned off the upcoming residential school trip, this is the schools policy. A trip I’ve paid the deposit etc for already and started purchasing him the bits he needs for it, walking boots etc. 

I’m absolutely fuming with him about it. 

So tonight he’s banned off his Xbox and ipad. He goes to his Dads tomorrow and I’ve asked his Dad to do the same which he says he will but I’m not 100% sure he will stick to it for the whole weekend. 

We usually have a take away as a treat on a Friday night but I’ve said we are not having that and that he is to make his own tea tonight. He’s not allowed any of his devices for the whole weekend and tonight I’ve said he’s also not allowed to watch tv. We have a puppy so I’ve said his sole entertainment for tonight can be playing with the dog, walking the dog, feeding the dog etc. Currently I’ve got him writing letters of apology to the kid he sprayed, his teacher and the headteacher. 

Am I being too harsh on the punishment? It’s not something I have a lot of experience in because I’ve never really had to deal with anything this serious. 

I’m just really disappointed that he decided to pick up something he knows full well he shouldn’t have been playing with in the first place, it then accidentally got in someone’s eye and could have damaged their eyes, and he’s now been banned off this school trip which is embarrassing and frustrating for me considering I’ve already spent around £100 on the deposit and bits and bobs for the trip. 

Am I being unreasonable?",4.020451127819548,5.118919390977447,4.841804511278198,85.28477443609025,71.25563909774436,8.081203007518798,27.90977443609023,8.452757503120043,1.7902548872180453,2084,74,436,33,38,675,220,532,0.125,0.8170000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.9914,4,0,2,0,2,0,39.0,4,0,1,2,22,22,6,1,36,1,46,5,3,6,7,73,69,32,0,4,10,7,0,0,4,4,0,5,2,4,22,36,2,3,2,8,5,6,11,11,1,4,26,13,34,11,64,34,14,68,0,2,8,0,83,29,0,3,33,269,56,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526679011634437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250068408357987,0.05888029453974085,0.06126440414322343,0.0,0.0,0.10013914584968236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06058958030559765,0.1310890813262974,0.0688322521039861,0.0,0.06917594089463329,0.0,0.0,0.08976590536464872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076543908037685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036486457252904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05878597636063414,0.0,0.0,0.04748397660171053,0.07590724730517534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521256461865436,0.0,0.3284587839538895,0.048630607477766735,0.1998022562230746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202232377581927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525589867036652,0.0,0.0,0.11376963875062455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175568314992546,0.3533222831262156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04046402981813378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625959027806754,0.0,0.0,0.04914726969448128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876917667070525,0.0,0.05412506051653869,0.05459423790930304,0.11357292364749418,0.0,0.0,0.06909490149844584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599742087841965,0.0,0.0,0.08175519396104723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692560154384755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380479680008711,0.14150396938699356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101112999729098,0.11710390059826155,0.0,0.521608352199236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060905852319778714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062384775576770336,0.1133648814465842,0.0,0.0,0.15634285741708495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939352989275263,0.0,0.05535910185258156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042933085857453236,0.0,0.13958149242526965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109085305425491,0.12150164158370187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620042509426592,0.0,0.0,0.16440609182498825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047414025694038034
parenting,horribletantrums,2020/02/28,"Getting funding for our autistic 3 year old son Our son is 3 and has a variety of issues, including a severe form of autism (he has been diagnosed since September). Recently, it has come to our attention that our son is eligible for funding for his therapeutic interventions. This would lift a great weight off our shoulders, especially since the therapy is so expensive that we have had to use the money we have saved for our retirement to pay for our son's therapy. Do you have any suggestions for applying for funding? Thanks.",7.4215625,8.380581364583335,7.981249999999997,66.33875000000002,63.47916666666666,13.06666666666667,38.91666666666667,12.45797560212912,5.579054166666667,425,22,71,16,6,141,62,96,0.04,0.86,0.099,0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,9,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,13,3,1,1,0,8,17,2,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,11,3,13,14,1,5,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,3,49,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157289226721438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200006109481327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262287314016907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164508632337402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457370913823463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23263932663356654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23388563654312985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007705655891915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518023383578706,0.0,0.3687539418786832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520723218162445,0.5097884450610991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250545833124036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714200609059845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833471220479886,0.0,0.0,0.14353389870660968
parenting,awry_lynx,2020/02/28,"Were there any hints of your spouse's parenting ability before marriage? i.e. in retrospect, could you have known if they would be a good/bad parent? Asking as someone who is not yet a parent partly due to fear of resentment brought on from witnessing my parents' relationship (mom worked and did all the childcare, dad worked...). Particularly to those with not-so-great parenting partners, what were the warning signs you missed or were in denial of? And those with great partners - what were the green flags?",7.578576779026218,9.159370471910117,6.2376966292134854,76.7611891385768,63.382022471910105,9.528838951310863,32.810861423220985,9.725611199111238,3.177717602996255,408,16,68,8,6,121,68,89,0.12,0.812,0.068,-0.6119,5,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,1,2,2,4,1,1,5,0,10,0,0,0,1,12,13,5,0,3,3,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,6,1,5,1,12,4,2,6,0,1,1,0,18,3,0,2,2,46,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806240424906383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480954074297152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040276866432545,0.0,0.0,0.122705405339647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513367982398667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226750494347855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209499185226833,0.0,0.31796675030311017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888781067730438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8005970903429938,0.15615687182779078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481913876279665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221820104353483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099617595975124,0.0,0.0,0.10243706722646362,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,situationtypedill,2020/02/28,"Very concerned about my niece I’m raising I’m 20F and my sister had my niece (6) when she was young, fell into drug use, and gave up custody after being in and out of jail. My dad has custody and I still live at home so I help a lot with raising my niece. It has been VERY rocky getting her through preschool and now into kindergarten. She got diagnosed with ADHD, PTSD, and she suffers with abandonment issues due to neglect from my sister. We have her in counseling and she sees a psychiatrist.

I’m extremely concerned about her behavior like screaming, telling her teachers no, talking back, laughing when she gets in trouble, hitting herself when she’s mad, and getting extremely angry quickly. This is not normal temper tantrums. She’s been moved to a class at another school that focuses on behavior and controlling your emotions as they also do their normal course work. (Example: learning reading and writing but the subject is usually about emotions or controlling your behavior while upset or angered.)

Today I was cleaning her room while she’s at school and I found a steak knife in her bed. This is not the first time. I have talked to her about this before and told her that she should not have a knife without a grownup around because they can be very sharp and you can easily hurt yourself. I’m worried she’s going to exhibit violent behaviors because she does get angry and hit herself and I just don’t want her to end up hurting herself even more or think about hurting someone else when she’s angry at them.

I will be bringing it up to her counselor and psychiatrist but I just wanted to know if anyone else has had this problem with their child. I’m very concerned and I just need advice or hear from someone that has had similar issues. Thank you.",4.601191910499139,6.799512346385544,4.708382099827882,82.42469879518075,71.62048192771084,7.272977624784852,32.03786574870912,8.07648339933343,2.5259480206540452,1417,67,246,21,28,441,176,332,0.151,0.8,0.049,-0.9899,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,1,4,5,4,20,18,5,1,8,0,26,2,0,3,0,58,52,33,0,8,14,3,1,1,0,2,2,2,4,2,9,26,0,4,4,1,0,4,6,15,0,1,11,4,50,3,39,34,2,39,0,6,1,0,48,17,0,6,19,179,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412273811954967,0.1009242227093729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825931440185171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829830193748087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221592193934225,0.10582277689869016,0.0,0.09194128067693626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941610387890828,0.0,0.12591731083700589,0.0,0.08788384899189508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23167506791371786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482723581319076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903812049141052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977225052672925,0.0,0.17255472021473747,0.2323526629008852,0.0914756079851138,0.0,0.0,0.06821560249513046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785009109514465,0.0,0.11324141585588635,0.0,0.0,0.21583858116019447,0.0,0.058696521585523624,0.0,0.08260261615906887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640429917650467,0.0,0.06922654552672064,0.0,0.10359846831687693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316907922322833,0.0,0.0,0.2155954055998083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05676010061537649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05045749213003306,0.0,0.0911983147354492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780513843802132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977051491176827,0.0,0.07658096464141936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238534828846294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882520955675912,0.1207290347911258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033081558340361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905016618263145,0.08230095304097701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750179680333419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247970651769222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602543599115302,0.09027145295303904,0.09508653823585282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617778620914651,0.0,0.0,0.06022351910944774,0.0,0.09789755975506187,0.09868866351926177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920093814248604,0.113748556410057,0.3408679477659794,0.12183468367018628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955843373778214,0.0,0.07518922057045803,0.10488606328837352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xtinafox,2020/02/28,"Melissa and Doug armchair for toddler I want to get my little one a child’s recliner/chair. Melissa and Doug makes one that looks beautiful and I know their products are usually of high quality... has anyone owned it or can give me any insight on if this is worth it? 

I know those spongy chairs with characters on them are usually popular, but I find them just low quality and looking for something that’ll last for hopefully my next child.
Thanks.",4.699642857142859,6.862952535714285,4.823333333333334,81.85500000000002,71.26190476190476,9.085714285714287,32.23809523809524,9.606745405546679,3.299138095238093,359,17,65,9,7,112,63,84,0.031,0.802,0.16699999999999998,0.8658,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,16,16,7,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,10,3,8,15,1,9,0,1,2,0,6,5,0,3,4,41,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898559761879282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318961889247193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024010381787927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114463088963935,0.21016669709936425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23147577370392716,0.0,0.21760125462213045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408072333098869,0.17858385735402146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219581145553776,0.0,0.0,0.3679531476254833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624121834942738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23299982848201695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969158996589589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168662659023035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017044186791618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4825832735518266,0.0,0.12922225638133772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Q1w2e3asdf,2020/02/28,"Ex [30F] asks for time with son [4M] on every single one of my weekends, then doesnt spend any time with him on her own weekends. My [32M] ex wife and I have 50/50 custody of our son, rotating every other weekend. I respect her schedule, yet 6 out of the last 10 weekends I have had him, she texts and asks me if she can have him for a few hours. The first couple times I just said yes because it was around the holidays and I know she cant control when her own family schedules different get-togethers, but now she is asking if she can take him to the movies, or on a play date with one of her own friend's kids. Stuff she can do literally any other day.



On top of that, the people I know who have her on social media, have showed me that on her weekends with our son, she passes him off to stay with grandparents for the weekend and she goes out. 




The easy answer would be tell her ""no"". Which I have done, and just creates an argument where she goes off on me and says she is going to take me to court and get full custody. It has gotten stressful, and I'm ready to pull my hair out.",4.66759742460183,4.185101933920706,5.411189427312774,87.36792612673673,69.30837004405286,8.39430701457133,27.153168417485595,7.61054688173877,1.246507556760421,837,22,190,8,13,273,124,227,0.034,0.875,0.091,0.8765,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,3,7,4,0,1,10,1,20,1,1,1,0,28,32,14,0,3,6,6,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,9,17,0,1,3,9,1,3,3,1,0,3,5,3,38,3,31,25,6,40,0,0,0,0,40,16,0,3,20,137,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21380684671311576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994398933143956,0.4408907220940364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582948309332112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17631651959689806,0.0,0.17394211746920146,0.0,0.1013829229365581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424366473315394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087323763411868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26490059697198903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819698748277904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371678228176914,0.0,0.0,0.12145463947473095,0.0,0.16426414705561304,0.0,0.08934208149025374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481327820282584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727893032702179,0.1281414177779286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130496278153744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898475898897343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495360418240273,0.1250141266548454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602486504207149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755746993314372,0.0,0.0,0.18007549296205805,0.0,0.17995981211529188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363941674065759,0.0,0.13740234153778386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749989815358903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116724931330588,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wgs38,2020/02/28,"My son (2 months) won’t sleep for more than an hour, and I don’t know what’s wrong. I’m becoming so restless, and I try to think of the basics that a human would need. Eat, sleep, change a diaper. I’ve tried doing baths and such but he refuses to sleep and he does his wailing. He was just fed an hour ago, what are some tricks that you’ve found that put the child back to slumber? I know that there is always the fact that he’s new and he just will cry, but I work six days a week on the night shift and hardly get any sleep. I’m frustrated at times, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.",2.2772222222222247,2.7303243461538464,3.3864102564102585,96.510811965812,74.76923076923076,7.008547008547009,19.05982905982906,6.937597516519254,-0.20888888888888912,455,6,117,4,9,147,81,130,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.9557,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,6,5,2,1,9,0,10,6,4,0,1,21,21,10,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,8,7,2,1,5,1,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,1,7,0,8,15,2,13,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,10,60,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031740666959418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232589123612315,0.0,0.0,0.09997330778774473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304327394960045,0.0,0.0,0.16236337686801153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551936862572735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148595092756493,0.09481067903085044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865132898711298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504301378842393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119124169773572,0.0,0.0,0.07680778414976162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316940162334031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895547219246544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24238210979429484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734370086503787,0.0,0.0,0.10900765137615613,0.0,0.14198525698910386,0.0,0.1379609501450514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477878224694173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5884733083094549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419945389445716,0.0,0.0,0.08572397078656444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962320847604112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792428443285917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070266009519084,0.0,0.0,0.10443321810359256,0.3214694298967166,0.0,0.0
parenting,True-Wallaby,2020/02/28,"kids in school who need your help Hello everyone, I need your help to like my schools video because it is part of a competition to win solar panels and we are really close to winning . 
Please help us by just liking the video , everyone like counts . Thank you so much ... please share with friends and family 

https://youtu.be/85kukbMTMZk",6.2146551724137975,8.91891184482759,4.802965517241383,81.28858620689657,68.48275862068965,8.777931034482759,25.393103448275863,9.3871,2.2617613793103444,269,8,46,6,5,78,47,58,0.0,0.55,0.45,0.986,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,3,0,2,2,8,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,8,7,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,3,26,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680842282972613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661980091611241,0.0,0.0,0.18064019357302116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480434248881499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853120852331609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808443113885338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086111934855336,0.2841643182841633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750338747325373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42067757103023656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227552593314558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878548555677837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641591120137234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304926013408401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acrylicmole,2020/02/28,My girl’s favorite dog might be dying Not sure how serious this is yet (we have a vet appt this afternoon) but this mimics how my childhood pet died so I’m concerned. Last night my dog suddenly stopped using her back leg. She’s 12 and hasn’t been the healthiest (she’s had bladder stones and a mild form of epilepsy). We have two older dogs so know our girls will deal with their deaths eventually. I would like to know how anyone else has handled death with someone so small (3 and 1.5 years old). I’m not a big fan of the “we sent your favorite buddy to a farm” thing but don’t know what she is ready for. Let me know of any positive experiences you’ve had or anything I should steer clear of. Thanks!,2.284195804195804,4.247608328671333,3.058041958041961,92.73013986013987,77.60139860139859,6.358041958041959,22.88811188811189,7.321109707123232,0.6863678321678321,553,17,121,7,13,174,102,143,0.10400000000000001,0.732,0.16399999999999998,0.8601,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,1,0,8,4,0,0,6,0,16,2,2,4,2,27,25,12,4,2,5,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,8,0,1,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,4,0,16,3,9,15,1,14,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,12,70,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235707451645054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609187818796264,0.19942444929672332,0.1601663271118043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966071809384435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20065801645624087,0.0,0.0,0.4039965295449604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259084792926148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903883639901104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278606983857431,0.15865182469328748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19902536954190966,0.0,0.09508782396212233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647479341845312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182649830867628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423453139425551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491185978560707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272185423983354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343924404471504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791918628384764,0.0,0.0,0.12930547795798555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012810264264904,0.0,0.0,0.16810037013909193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826165740036028,0.0,0.0,0.12533723308027594
parenting,owlbeastie,2020/02/28,"How to transition 2 yr old to new daycare? My daughter goes to a daycare that really is not our favorite but was what was available when my maternity leave ended. Recent events and some issues we've always had with the place have pushed us over the edge and we are looking at new opportunities. 

She does tend to have a lot of anxieties about new people/places. Would it be better to have her leave the one cold turkey or phase it over a couple weeks? I just don't even know how to do that for this age. Most advice I find is transitioning from home to daycare.",5.381003861003864,5.905707126126129,5.796087516087518,81.75081081081082,67.82882882882882,8.505019305019307,26.66795366795367,8.418075326091056,1.6025305019305018,445,12,89,6,7,143,83,111,0.057,0.8740000000000001,0.069,0.6564,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,2,0,16,16,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,9,2,15,11,3,15,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,4,10,63,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723671645736308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15091781916399466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875072535018967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041069304251096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068704290667036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872173754129304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606436587766439,0.0,0.0,0.1197959129416688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577268369742562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819330569170704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930748608210332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967848737193798,0.0,0.0,0.3840980647947431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523086025071893,0.0,0.0,0.15419781304289226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5255168416522544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903216559530051,0.0,0.12290381542068067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18949737919160084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619292236434214,0.0,0.17908508816800614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21817076579047046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548739970942673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884298953562642,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,richie0524,2020/02/28,"19 Month old stopped using his words Good morning, first time poster, long time browser.

I have noticed since last month that my son has stopped using his words all together. He knows about 20 words, but seems to stay silent as of late. He grabs my hand or my wife's hand when he wants us to get something for him. He is a happy, cheerful child, likes to play with his blocks, tool set and various other toys, and loves his bubbles, but his ""regression"" in his language has me a bit worried.

He used to wave and say "" bye-bye"", car, uh-oh, share and other words, but like I stated above, he just stopped last month. He doesn't respond to his name while he is playing from time to time, and if he is watching Sesame Street, forget about it lol.

I am a bit fearful of these potentially being signs of autism, but I just do not understand the drastic change within a months' time. If anyone is or has gone through this, can you please let me know how things went with your child?

Any and all stories will be helpful for me.",4.866807692307695,5.501434250000003,4.334,91.3916153846154,69.0,7.153846153846155,27.384615384615394,6.67199483983844,0.9579576923076928,790,24,170,5,13,236,131,200,0.073,0.711,0.21600000000000005,0.9897,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,2,0,1,6,10,0,1,5,1,16,3,2,4,2,41,28,18,0,3,11,2,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,7,8,0,4,4,3,0,3,2,1,0,1,2,5,21,9,20,22,5,29,0,0,1,1,30,3,0,5,22,93,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846685321329185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705767790262392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27185719688626275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171112321035705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010416695006314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590496844589524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504938652374527,0.0,0.0,0.10442995092086424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253923808281556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345392734636421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685077817726962,0.20297845303796302,0.1404484940640122,0.0,0.0,0.12731609517578704,0.0,0.12165494754246182,0.0,0.0,0.11018412970515158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237176843827214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975188628701135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175121199470558,0.1306483846608202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667049436468434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990123820865949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334583078232233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299287197757398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958510083750136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13270711621485812,0.0,0.3122784466512452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271643246457032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630030322950532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296154165360403,0.14976571104329464,0.32260032135059497,0.0,0.0,0.07343702305175998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541855834401472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264421594160793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaYagga,2020/02/28,"‘How does a baby get into a mommy’s tummy?’ We’ve been talking about having another baby passively with our two kids (planning to ttc this summer). We’re also surrounded by babies as a few of our friends have just given birth. My 5 year son old is OBSESSED with babies. When we see our friends with babies, he’s glued to them. He wants to help feed them, care for them, etc. He begs us for a baby, asked me to buy him a boy doll (dressed in blue clothes lol) which I did and it sleeps by his bed, and brings the topic up often. We’ve mentioned having a baby a few times, but he brings it up much more on his own. He’s asked a few times how a baby gets into a mommy’s tummy and has asked us if it’s from kissing. We’ve diverted the conversation a few times but last night he brought it up again. He’s not a kid that forgets and I’d like to be prepared the next time it comes up. How would you explain this in an age appropriate way and so a five year old can understand? I guess I was naive to think this wouldn’t come up so soon and I’m at a loss!",1.7287512291052138,2.916489230088498,3.4562241887905607,92.64597836774831,77.05309734513273,6.261160275319568,21.40511307767945,6.691623216298621,0.2222977384464105,810,20,190,7,18,271,133,226,0.040999999999999995,0.868,0.091,0.893,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,1,3,2,12,7,0,1,18,1,12,3,1,3,0,31,31,17,0,4,5,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,3,10,14,1,0,3,0,1,5,2,2,0,2,5,2,18,5,28,23,8,35,0,1,2,1,34,12,0,3,18,117,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575965373945273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178710148196842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059761112923544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758626395562968,0.0,0.0,0.2493853612267716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667512672802098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614388794901539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367303171260405,0.0,0.1512558924571102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946275736535548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702549812070373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799376098886633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071945119590398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641078331890116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394743108193296,0.13584174357727127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037897676827224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535012911379795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485845481165827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163477139093331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092752463995036,0.0,0.0,0.33762868828521697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140354164758967,0.15069393081210936,0.3482422739691497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537960966805279,0.11489892019738772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102829028211693,0.0,0.0,0.18643355097454006
parenting,Anxiety_Potato,2020/02/28,"How to Weather the Violent Toddler Phase Hi all. I have a one year old, and as I imagine most kids his age are, he doesn't understand that hitting isn't nice, or that if he jams his thumb up my nose he'll give me a nosebleed (that actually happened), or if he headbutts my husband or I that it will hurt.
Other than grabbing his hand when he hits and telling him to ""do nice"" or ""be gentle"" while using his hand to show him a gentle touch, what else can I be doing to help him figure this out? Or, is this just something that we have to get through and eventually he'll figure it out on his own?",8.442580645161293,4.818511000000001,8.45135483870968,78.64203225806453,64.0,11.210322580645164,37.70322580645161,8.238735603445708,2.853092258064516,460,16,103,4,5,151,80,124,0.091,0.7929999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.51,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,4,0,12,3,3,2,1,22,21,14,0,2,8,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,11,6,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,5,16,2,12,14,3,9,0,1,0,0,21,4,0,8,5,73,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.30286374901741914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592635234523382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621487693263524,0.2977227995199707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27444774856239296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802581450517066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322436824052933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256675569030129,0.0,0.2103059954038821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23892804955239566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271265775061284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230926746614214,0.0,0.26804887735664296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998597896623129
parenting,ThrowawayDad1122,2020/02/28,"Fiancé [25F] is going to leave me [29M]. I’m going to try to make this as concise as possible. 

My fiancé and I have 2 daughters together, 3 and 2. We’ve been together for about 5.5 years. My fiancé stays home with them while I work full time. 

She’s been kind of depressed and saying things like she wants her own life back. She’s just not happy, period. She’s always angry or sad. She hates staying home with them 24/7, so we agreed that she should go back to work. 

Well, I guess she took that as “I should just leave” too. 

She’s been saying comments like as soon as she gets a full time job and her own car, that she’s moving out. I know she doesn’t care about me. She probably wants to relive her youth and everything that she missed out on. (She didn’t say that, but I’m guessing.)

We’ve already agreed on 50/50 custody. I make  close to 3 times what she would make, so she knows she can get decent child support to be able to live on her own without me. 

I also know that she’ll be living her life while I have the kids 50%, and that kills me. It makes me sick and I can’t sleep. 

Is there any saving this? I don’t want a split family. I still want to marry her, even after this, but she doesn’t want that. She just wants to explore life on her own. I guess I’m weighing her down.",0.7252712860461976,2.6444968339483417,2.040311603116031,98.31161404947383,82.50553505535055,5.0480251469181345,16.310099767664347,6.037888025583468,-0.7069181085144183,986,17,234,7,27,315,137,271,0.09,0.8340000000000001,0.076,-0.6847,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,1,0,2,2,16,13,2,0,3,0,19,6,1,4,0,42,48,20,1,9,8,1,0,2,0,4,4,3,2,2,14,13,1,0,4,0,0,7,7,5,1,0,5,3,50,8,30,37,6,32,0,3,0,0,38,10,0,4,15,148,64,3,0.10166181382830894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218633954068323,0.08129891578909698,0.08459077306325997,0.0,0.0,0.06913351953539035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563433192494047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365099460268046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756117128380743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714666923819684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136708307728693,0.0,0.0958377104075986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622820357732564,0.0,0.17333025478814099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359758481583513,0.0,0.0,0.10822089121398162,0.0,0.1003699940451297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395017653486885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088366354938556,0.0,0.1124737345501951,0.1058651349607836,0.16761202258176294,0.0,0.0,0.21529036407412547,0.0,0.0,0.21542023681185588,0.09933365419989083,0.0,0.17953848828233435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27144020058927204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805041936576336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460842012320376,0.0,0.0,0.10960862981439704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24253666428809484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173523277443926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167159340124719,0.08118725584520597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536462158536595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753959181328321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783946355781202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129500157864911,0.0690216983326996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597766305762522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914061797246715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979983607202033,0.0,0.1480220225067358,0.0,0.0,0.07221763572369708,0.0,0.0,0.06546687499193754
parenting,daughter_cum,2020/02/28,How to get closer to my children emotionally? I've always liked my children but ever since they grew up I see a lot of resentment. My son is now 28 and daughters 33 and 35. I'm not a really emotional person but I tried to at least appear that way to them. I think I did more than they deserved but they don't show any respect towards me. I helped them get to top schools and become high achievers. Is there anything I can do to be present in their life?,1.1078723404255302,3.319984893617022,2.7632340425531936,91.99400000000004,83.04255319148936,5.4621276595744686,23.229787234042554,6.742157984588678,0.6699778723404259,356,13,76,4,10,117,68,94,0.10400000000000001,0.851,0.045,-0.753,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,6,2,4,3,1,0,2,0,7,1,0,1,1,12,13,7,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,16,2,12,11,3,13,0,0,1,0,12,7,0,2,4,52,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19575938355769265,0.0,0.0,0.1599883140599845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360310536791656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25983178415332336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5292830721593136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128107235006415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458325760090522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769321613924875,0.24857046165884195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617467538925887,0.11493862869749165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001394795149868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054243830852592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071682709046905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381008093713065,0.18747579960273292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461369570007567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074835621066549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597295382040049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18674246056755564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Middle-Relief,2020/02/28,"Is 12/13 the age where boys made a 180 with their friends? My 12yo has known most of his friends since elementary school. He has been best friends with one boy since pre-k. Totally inseparable. All of a sudden, his best friend has be MIA. They had ups and downs, but always stuck together. I asked my son about his best friend and he says he doesn't talk to him anymore. Nothing bad happened. Ironic part is that they play on the same sports team, are in the same classes and have overlapping friends. They went from best friends to acquaintances.",3.5202912621359204,6.044853116504854,2.7473883495145617,93.71059708737866,76.0873786407767,6.4500970873786425,24.863106796116504,7.554174236665415,1.00589786407767,433,15,90,6,10,125,75,103,0.034,0.619,0.348,0.9916,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,4,5,2,13,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,1,2,13,16,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,1,11,12,12,10,10,9,0,0,0,0,25,6,0,1,2,56,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072018948971094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777071902713336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044429320380574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757270065332583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5408218450938109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6967687614426045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392927275729188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190776341071215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362164216537655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730262586728994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395168617336614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245557938202013,0.0,0.1303889370576047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131489849714304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355351788861868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943228732979372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lauradesigns,2020/02/28,"Change the phrase... Until recently I would often say to my kids “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.” A friend changed the phrasing and I think it is an important change that I’m sharing with every parent I know. 

“You get what you get and you appreciate it!”  

I’m trying to teach my kids to be appreciative of having a cup, not focusing on whether they got the blue one or red one.",2.03275132275132,3.709859506172843,3.636437389770727,89.60111111111117,77.39506172839506,7.097707231040566,22.682539682539684,7.957251820313856,0.9501132275132274,304,9,68,5,7,101,54,81,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.9422,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,6,1,0,1,2,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,14,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,3,12,2,7,11,0,5,0,0,2,0,13,2,0,2,2,45,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6655027406463487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668085791731994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620132996733362,0.0,0.4382372974404642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771583223202904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152453512362081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841955922459953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23284645858981698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070529402204742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166761444871324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343669608232105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423721832971374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489644954979182,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SleepyBre,2020/02/28,"A very insensitive mom.☹️ So too start. My mom steals ALL of my money and when I proceed too talk about how I’d like too have some of my money.. she says “I’m you’re mother. I don’t owe you shit.”
She proceeded too yell at me Wednesday. Me and my mom have NEVER been close. Ever since she didn’t believe me when I told her I was raped, she’s been very ignorant. Or she’s just actually dumb in general.
Me and my mom never talk about how I feel, I have 4 brothers and they all seem to come before me.. and I’m not the only one who thinks so.. my moms boyfriend(s) tell me that as well. 
I’m the only daughter and Wednesday I was at my breaking point. She was yelling at me and asked me “why the fuck have you been so moody recently!?” And I said “Because I’m fucking suicidal.” 
*keep in mind I shaved my head during a mental breakdown and I wear sweatpants and mens shirts a lot, it’s just my style. Sort of like Billie Eilish type*

She told me, “suck it the fuck up and stop crying!, you have NO fucking reason too be like that!” So I just quietly cried the rest of the ride. She proceeded onto saying “I had a daughter because I wanted a girl. I didn’t have a daughter too have another son.” 
“You will stop wearing fucking sweatpants and beanies. That’s why you’ve been suicidal.”
So I just stopped talking. I stopped expressing how I feel and she kept taking jabs at me, saying mean things. So I said “can you please stop mom?..” with tears going down my face. She said “No! You wanted too be like this, so you deserve it!”
Well this morning my brother told me how she told him.. “i don’t have time for her too be like that. It’s childish.” Then she told him the same shit about how I dress like a boy. 
I wanted too say “well I didn’t ask for a pill selling mom, whose nothing but a narcissist bitch who gets the crew ran on her.” Ofc I didn’t.
I just feel beaten down. I feel like she’s just won. She got it.
But is it reasonable too move out and change my first, middle, and last name and ghost her completely? (Which my names are generic as fuck. She put no thought into any of them) 
Is it okay too completely disown my shit mom?
Can I call her a shit mom?? 
Please don’t tell me “she’s still your mom-“ that doesn’t make a fuck too me..
For more background she use too physically abuse me and shit like that. 
Thank you for wasting your time reading this if you did:)",-0.0417748518762302,2.222947742857144,1.555931533903884,97.98383805134958,89.93877551020408,4.549045424621461,18.515470704410795,6.1204935419099655,-0.2820092165898616,1814,52,416,17,62,584,214,490,0.17800000000000002,0.741,0.08,-0.9936,1,0,0,0,2,0,72.0,0,11,2,3,41,34,17,0,19,1,34,19,10,9,5,74,81,38,3,4,11,16,4,8,0,1,1,10,0,3,21,22,0,8,10,1,4,6,14,20,3,2,26,14,91,14,29,51,7,46,0,0,0,8,82,16,15,6,31,269,112,3,0.0,0.061237707123196275,0.0504366379467155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03514724733725324,0.05419572783435797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966361024533002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301280985639211,0.0,0.04397972152647541,0.05823075745870581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052775675697258086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054675371214354895,0.04452163929266662,0.108380476077362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354604112515786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467516091962347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453298919471132,0.036923432885325215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04396282805952519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33447055466560605,0.027003029575349915,0.0,0.029373504955866832,0.0,0.041336833760765516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053043230616531864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045939577965534266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042129783718576064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200357433210112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04394033239775301,0.0,0.0,0.03449981981063807,0.0,0.0,0.056299596358053025,0.0,0.0,0.05208584190518889,0.0,0.05218663367758238,0.6053228757318667,0.0,0.05493246748993218,0.0,0.0,0.07972457932176615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959269285396524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035022769752477534,0.07861681603781431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346816929811013,0.04885857925874263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195722002911893,0.0,0.0,0.05169850862373639,0.0,0.0,0.10628059344133273,0.051032230265121915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474914483409905,0.16440642562150526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04705164774675319,0.0,0.0,0.26526709583023417,0.04275397073953115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0365825707314614,0.0,0.041275326079175896,0.21605287360114106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130689567882486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038860328369518436,0.12462618316607815,0.09034910073251616,0.04758416387651648,0.0,0.0,0.034336899878262286,0.033117354805264634,0.0,0.04103173729695325,0.06027532089592811,0.0,0.0,0.24693387858999225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04463883255464481,0.0,0.08529028707784228,0.09145461062888532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941177717526046,0.0,0.09327448428847718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsNerak,2020/02/28,"What punishment is appropriate for a 10 year old that came home with low grades for the term? He loves his ipad,laptop and sometimes playing xbox.

Hates reading and studying. I only allow xbox on weekends but during the week he is allowed on laptop and ipad after homework is done.

When studying we work through his older brothers old exam paper and I word through all the material with him as well....to be honest I think I spoon feed him everything and he is just sitting back doing nothing from his side. 

He came home with terrible grades including for a project that is super easy to do.

My husband wants to take away all electronics like ipad,laptop and xbox for 3 months however I think that is too severe. Any suggestions?",3.9914309954751097,6.576537860294124,4.2811764705882345,83.00183257918555,74.80882352941177,6.831674208144796,28.108597285067873,7.882392219407189,2.015051583710407,583,24,101,9,13,182,89,136,0.08800000000000001,0.76,0.151,0.8836,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,4,9,2,0,5,0,10,2,0,2,2,22,18,9,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,12,1,0,2,6,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,12,5,17,14,3,19,0,1,0,1,14,5,0,0,12,61,16,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245220274438607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203918282799566,0.14080135960872514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4188613078412415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18738653153177615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456871432086256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078459243825631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36735131742648347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945897805800128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526518271769353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615776813650286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570032160188567,0.0,0.38428921183353343,0.0,0.0,0.13926446686243846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316094708299485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20686375524292355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811018513454032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767698019917765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466077581320566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800384475180196,0.0,0.1468809155902131,0.0,0.16463913448507958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330727607064718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791773454028613
parenting,NurseM2010,2020/02/28,Frustrated Trying to cross post from r/breakingmom because I got ZERO responses there.... but it won’t let me....,4.058499999999999,6.817819850000002,5.420000000000004,74.01500000000001,75.5,10.0,30.0,10.125756701596842,4.0045,87,4,14,3,2,29,20,20,0.121,0.879,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32890370789458234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315261588087568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5517248132460105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5167382397829114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36631795914433135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LessOne3,2020/02/28,"Bedwetting 9year old My girlfriends son is 9 years old and wets the bed 5/6 nights a week usually. Here's the thing.. he freely admits he knows he needs it and wakes up, but doesnt want to get up so just does it and goes back to sleep! Tried everything you can think of including rewards for consecutive nights dry but he just stays dry till he gets the reward then goes back to it again. Doc doesn't seem to believe us when we tell him this so hes prescribed two different meds, none of which made any difference. Feel helpless watching my gf getting so frustrated with it all. Anyone had the same experience? If so how did you handle it? Thanks in advance 👍🏻",2.4484615384615367,4.7824577099236665,3.0224427480916027,91.34127422196129,78.77099236641222,6.778860833822668,23.054022313564296,7.882392219407189,1.0765790957134462,524,17,110,9,13,163,98,131,0.079,0.802,0.11900000000000001,0.7068,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,0,3,12,5,1,0,5,0,7,2,2,2,1,21,19,14,0,3,5,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,3,8,3,12,16,3,18,0,1,1,0,16,3,0,2,13,62,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133174152128681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651496471998325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562638347100717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774041841148809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481959130639607,0.0,0.0,0.14582328410571088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497606625474558,0.16300086242299466,0.0,0.0,0.08425558925253432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611795016293088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157815815545796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767392839044106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850937582109478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235576331894231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31275104558789063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497104975968917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516981131696534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675519619939785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776105834244733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564620756181085,0.15341498592514735,0.0,0.0,0.11070479298968078,0.1067728863432901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313412800660308,0.0,0.1627780398554675,0.0,0.20044121275542012,0.0,0.18352475023719855,0.0,0.09828555454450637,0.0,0.13366442902069062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730738295990662
parenting,ulikiku,2020/02/28,"What to do, when older sibling hurts baby? Hey there, my girl (almost 3 years old) usually is a really good big sister to her little brother (8MO). But sometimes she just hurts him out of nowhere. He was sitting on the floor playing and she pushed him, so he fell in the back of his head. After calming him down I asked her to apologize by giving him some toy and she refused. When I asked whether she had wanted to hurt him she said yes.

Being a sibling myself I know this is going to happen, siblings will hurt each other. I'm glad it doesn't happen too often with my little ones, I'm just still searching for the right reaction. So, just wondering, what do you guys do? Maybe I'll get some good ideas here :)",2.8841489361702126,4.700120765957447,3.80526595744681,88.70875000000002,75.38297872340425,6.118439716312058,23.09751773049645,6.816661863887847,0.6964794326241139,552,16,110,5,12,177,99,141,0.09699999999999999,0.752,0.151,0.7612,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,0,14,9,0,0,5,1,10,1,1,0,0,19,23,8,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,5,0,1,3,2,0,3,1,4,0,1,3,1,20,5,15,18,3,22,0,4,0,0,27,9,0,5,9,76,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469290829108802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27017044466348256,0.0,0.0,0.1111093008695892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549373704469299,0.1386147229642753,0.08212099509173172,0.2423945151744685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307478273026344,0.25555650219924364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829564560492742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6187482593539322,0.16311956460469146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941179167235568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896479801909295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516669367205812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162533152095872,0.0,0.09791493072629072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925685008658849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339967862068475,0.1374497700504947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291126268307067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539551903834425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591430699863767,0.0,0.08522809520410866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670087094294902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305135320642964
parenting,gogomango01,2020/02/28,"Sleep Habits Theory! Hi everyone! I have a theory and I'm gathering data.  My theory is that your sleeping habits during pregnancy passes to your newborn.  EG if you can sleep like a log, your newborn would likely be a good sleeper but if you have shit sleeping patterns and tend to wake up a lot during the night,  your baby is likely to wake up more often at night.  Please comment and let me know what you and your baby is/was like sleeping.",3.004069767441859,5.2397763255813965,4.38156976744186,82.79584302325583,76.44186046511628,7.090697674418602,23.540697674418613,8.07648339933343,1.5358883720930243,348,11,63,6,8,115,53,86,0.055,0.828,0.11699999999999999,0.555,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,8,0,0,1,6,1,0,5,0,8,8,8,0,0,11,11,7,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,5,6,8,2,6,0,0,0,0,13,3,1,4,6,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334803443645606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460521963068875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819705884541269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641043666356313,0.0,0.3136148353746153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364365967957756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012041618576228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761617404659497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647331179444004,0.0,0.0,0.8029926648563029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400225895775047,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Agitated-Camel,2020/02/28,"My 7yr daughter ate meat and liked it. I don't know how to deal with it... Firstly, i do not mean to offend anyone who does enjoy their meat. Those are all personal choices and i have no issues with that.

So some background, i come from a deeply religious family and we have always maintained a strictly vegetarian diet. Everyone in my family all the way to distant relatives is vegetarian. Eating meat is also frowned upon because of religious restrictions. Also from a morality stand point i personally do not like the idea of harming animals for whatever reason.

So yesterday i found out my daughter has some meat at school. One of her friends offered her, and she took it happily and ate it. She also liked it and would do it again from what i understand. So i tried to sit her down and explain to her why it's wrong and why we do not do it. All the reasons and arguments i could come up with i tried to explain to her not to do it. 

At the end of the conversation i felt like i did not actually get through to her and she still does not understand what she did was wrong. I believe if offered meat again, she would most likely eat it without a second thought. She doesn't feel like she did something wrong, and that not eating meat is just a silly rule i made up.

I don't know how to actually get through to her and make her understand my point of view. My wife also tried to talk to her with similar outcomes.

Any advise on how to approach this and turn it around before it's too late?",4.35397901533495,5.512728355932207,5.488571428571429,80.73259887005649,70.52542372881356,8.873284907183214,29.97982243744956,9.23628265651192,2.5427449556093618,1175,47,232,24,21,390,141,295,0.081,0.856,0.062,-0.685,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,1,1,16,14,1,0,10,0,23,6,0,7,3,63,45,24,0,4,10,3,2,6,1,2,0,0,0,2,19,23,6,1,15,0,0,4,12,5,0,3,11,3,39,9,40,31,6,26,1,0,1,0,34,12,0,4,13,177,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.18502097390218528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032440117226072,0.07888065028125432,0.0,0.0,0.06446680624499343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628590707911268,0.0,0.0,0.08439151677389115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778880156653125,0.0,0.0806672613405756,0.10680640001672932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16332248533999302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568956407222611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773396333855508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659190934560597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910101936302953,0.0,0.0,0.08396408282372501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058483786019204,0.0,0.0,0.17873677340114788,0.0,0.04793339785590228,0.06772467188903626,0.09102223890420937,0.0,0.0,0.08063627547558776,0.0,0.10394259004593702,0.07324173973791362,0.0,0.09905749141366207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070169228784085,0.0,0.09894588782149852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104198482942644,0.0,0.10693779171713727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27788503241036605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970143355581273,0.06327929973799773,0.0,0.0,0.1032642794259172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642384904323046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555026509485546,0.0,0.0,0.17923204808932666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19493903346801228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594199948104397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298116820542838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570688035716612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619612356484565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752600917174664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532556178264817,0.19308759989443552,0.1031144663814817,0.0,0.2960683881140884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752473084915956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108332975634008,0.0,0.0,0.09138318684386144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468547127237784,0.31094460975783483,0.0,0.0
parenting,VBdrinker69,2020/02/28,"My kids don’t eat veggies I can’t make my kids eat veggies, any advice ?",-0.9450000000000004,1.0802645000000022,1.5425000000000004,98.2525,91.5,3.2,20.5,3.1291,-0.5730249999999999,56,2,13,0,2,19,11,16,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972484681070759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27644881297743784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8319467260685782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713565060464203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blz_bbi,2020/02/28,"Bullies suck! So we moved to a new school district last year. My son is now 7 in 1st grade. We have had a problem with bullying since day 1. I have been to talk to the teacher and the principal multiple times. It has finally come to a head over the past 2 weeks. My son has now started having ""accidents"" in school. He never used to do this and now all of a sudden he does. 

The bullies: they have 
1. Pushed him down and given him black eyes
2. Tied him to a chair
3. Poked him the head with pencils
4. Kicked him in the privates
5. Held him down while another child has kicked and hit him

There are many more instances, but these are the most notable. I'm at my wits end and ready to just go to the media about it. The teacher and principal seem to want the problem to just go away, but that is not going to happen.",1.01496693351897,3.0375558639053253,2.3912008353637333,95.62517925513404,82.07692307692308,5.633275321963104,21.183780020884093,6.794906146795322,0.2798865993734769,627,19,143,7,17,202,104,169,0.06,0.912,0.027999999999999997,-0.6588,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,1,0,9,3,1,0,15,0,14,3,3,1,2,25,28,10,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,11,0,1,1,0,0,6,2,3,0,0,4,2,14,0,23,23,3,30,0,0,2,0,16,8,1,2,16,92,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546798846884185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617910441228848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236143535489893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406920677270466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478377750083505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665801497753407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937570069425936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015649994642451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640924378861767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36304785183086896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441760550719658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932264618596416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879892503358695,0.0,0.0,0.13641626332176146,0.17082617489634927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884640833981235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33848938531067474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580122044143625,0.0,0.1610196008144118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631214062392528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519244740693222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421647574202855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031367505114914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276249277085668,0.0,0.0,0.1043249677132136,0.0,0.1418777897384118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390116599090233
parenting,supamama12316,2020/02/28,3 year old seeing things and often doesn’t want to sleep in my room Okay so I live with my parents. Single mom here. We have a town house. My parents room is across from mine and her bedroom is next to mine. She has slept with me in my room in her crib or in my bed since she was born. She has been a great sleeper since born especially when she started daycare. She’s been in daycare for almost two years. Starting this January she always wants to go into my parents room as if she doesn’t feel safe in my room anymore and religiously calls for “papa” who is my father. A few times she’s seeing things on the ceiling or by the door. Many times she’s sleeping and wakes up screaming or she’s screaming no. Tonight she was cuddling with me and woke up screaming and wanted to run away from me and almost fell off of the bed trying to get away from whatever was near me or on me. When I moved off of the bed she continued to point at it I’m the spot I was previously laying. This has been happening since January. It takes her forever to fall asleep at night now and she often goes to my parents room first and then comes back to me. Also my dad and I suspect that the heating system may be leaking Carbon monoxide or just simply needs filtering because we’ve all been coughing or having stuffy noses. She currently has a cough that is making her wheeze and she’s not asthmatic. I know carbon monoxide poisoning can cause these types of hallucinations. However this does happen at her dads house. It’s times I’m there sleeping and she will wake up screaming at night for her father or myself when she’s sleeping in another room with her sister (his other child). Has anyone experienced this? I was brushing it off but I’m starting to be worried that she may actually be seeing things.,3.183605044320572,5.220224436260622,4.027171707941154,86.47143105181397,75.1756373937677,6.5944987663346435,25.268116604221877,7.4822170145007005,1.2499990678972863,1418,49,277,18,31,454,175,353,0.046,0.9329999999999999,0.021,-0.7579,6,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,0,1,12,8,1,0,10,1,29,14,9,2,1,47,53,28,0,5,11,10,1,0,0,3,4,4,12,1,17,19,0,1,3,0,0,6,4,5,0,2,11,11,52,3,49,36,3,64,0,0,3,1,40,33,0,14,24,198,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0941495370404952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193219462284564,0.0,0.0,0.07715418071758609,0.08027821439702829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116659025861506,0.0,0.0,0.09568119281443084,0.06746032443983402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812902970956191,0.0741863565477803,0.0,0.058812671870274925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851579399771904,0.0,0.0,0.09911045704863693,0.0,0.08310807179726877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442937849481387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048782655519875234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206494479604247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050406268869385526,0.0,0.05483121011700279,0.0,0.0,0.1063683819546854,0.0,0.0,0.17063203207901514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22264750743945266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302230726857071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519267960862005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440044767820617,0.09781451139118684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299497910702387,0.0,0.10254185435859266,0.0,0.07153791825803925,0.0,0.0,0.10260645687000254,0.18107791608538248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123842754704956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285138217312799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120379162716412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230643693720976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394251509798663,0.0,0.3861945000687179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048648901869888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254016275028183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192288980305918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687729532046002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655028733766951,0.0,0.09424591430569032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071735154164902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979790559842722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425856003410475
parenting,ebookroundup,2020/02/28,"Best parental control apps for PC (Feb 2020)? Just curious if anyone out there has found a really good parental control solution for PC?  

What I'd really like is a way to customize YouTube to give it more granular controls (not interested in YouTube Kids).

Would also like to have a feature to redirect a blocked page to a realistic looking one.  The people that design these apps seem to be pretty clueless or perhaps don't have kids.  If you put up page that says ""THIS SITE IS BLOCKED"" all that is going to do is make them even more curious.  ha!

I'll do my own research while waiting to see what everyone recommends.  If I find anything good, will update this post.",5.232380952380954,6.6318635079365125,5.696984126984128,79.15357142857142,68.68253968253968,9.40952380952381,34.63492063492063,9.725611199111238,3.4676253968253974,526,26,97,12,9,169,87,126,0.052000000000000005,0.71,0.23800000000000002,0.9771,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,4,4,7,0,0,6,1,13,0,0,4,1,19,21,6,0,4,6,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,9,1,0,6,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,3,4,7,13,17,7,10,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,5,4,61,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061655224104576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420554154604673,0.0,0.1344083303779608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140687145640646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5495722248625555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787925454153928,0.0,0.0,0.15607073840502622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928250139331953,0.0,0.0,0.1790851224488346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668295038989996,0.09282534729909736,0.2739902874938712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959154322245028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371577551793422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090253873513016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067799946021492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36272174405590013,0.0,0.0,0.11323385279045114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564269198606074,0.16616737671867512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419378624188616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926934049530801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298881728572139,0.0,0.0,0.1301544681475564,0.14869133083196492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129645349891773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602637621514415,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pretendlawyer13,2020/02/28,"Owe daycare a lot of money and can’t afford to pay So Im in a pretty bad situation, Im a single mom (28f) and owe my daycare a large amount of money, over $1100. She watches my two year daughter 3-4 days a week. I work full time, have a almost 2 hour commute and make minimum wage. Im already drowning in bills and can’t afford to keep pay for child care. My ex husband(baby’s daddy) is also too broke to pay me any child support. I’m trying to find a second job but my availability is so limited it’s hard. What can I do to help pay for this, I can’t keep up and I’m not sure what to do.",0.6577853725222162,1.7789886541353432,3.675830485304171,90.24393028024609,79.75187969924812,6.340123034859878,21.865345181134657,6.980632752743323,0.4618631578947361,453,13,109,5,11,164,84,133,0.138,0.784,0.079,-0.5096,6,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,1,15,18,9,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,3,1,0,10,0,4,2,0,2,0,2,9,3,14,18,4,10,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,2,5,59,13,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291572508980824,0.0,0.19055849083920728,0.1380934502637554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174294410799403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441819618537862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606044716618013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136537635265877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782789644733256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546888370713374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574486763069025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700566376670288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595774313985822,0.0,0.17135988886890974,0.3069747631828412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680776064263398,0.0,0.0,0.11526633988852482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022426572642385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567931459415898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941014056672792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959570860012899,0.1627504081591069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069205670369348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172395028065657,0.0,0.16868487693977274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385148007716525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571429523120245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120131871223617
parenting,redranteraver,2020/02/28,"First few weeks I have a 3 week old who seems pretty textbook so far.. eating every 3/4 hours without fail, lots of burping required and lots of gas, add some evening screaming time and there's not much sleep for me. 

I am wondering how best to survive the first few weeks till she settles and hopefully starts sleeping through the night.. her father has gone back to work so there's not much help from him anymore.

any strategies/tips for a sleep-deprived mom?",5.6886206896551705,6.962203321839082,4.442011494252878,89.0416379310345,67.50574712643677,6.719540229885059,31.74137931034483,6.42735559955562,1.5994000000000006,367,15,70,2,6,106,69,87,0.054000000000000006,0.802,0.14400000000000002,0.8439,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,7,7,4,0,0,4,0,3,4,2,1,0,15,8,7,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,1,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,1,1,6,2,10,7,8,14,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,6,12,46,7,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086401992783816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843595910476066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284322766472225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765505505617462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634712356613809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551795389475238,0.0,0.13460211441504666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717783475558685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708171110418506,0.0,0.0,0.15867469099840134,0.15732840789202654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27163927930085685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871054003639432,0.0,0.0,0.2348794693854433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992106841372893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676380372659345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253024429883992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543672050714174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.479616951510317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130767862486056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315555797112647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844421489307826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399999174275364,0.17324958949294952,0.11630495692099632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babylina,2020/02/28,"is compulsive lying a genetic trait? i know this might be a stupid question, but is compulsive lying genetic? like if i do everything i can to protect my baby boy from a pathological liar, is there still a chance that he will turn out like his dad? i feel like this is a dumb question but i don't even know where to ask. parents, if you've been in this scenario, can you give me some insight? i am terrified of being gaslighted by my own son for the rest of my life.",3.4024511278195497,4.5481939368421065,4.732330827067671,85.3063157894737,72.78947368421052,8.375939849624057,28.308270676691734,8.841846274778883,2.08087969924812,364,14,77,7,7,121,65,95,0.21899999999999997,0.64,0.141,-0.8936,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,4,6,3,0,6,0,14,2,0,0,0,13,20,4,0,2,4,3,1,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,12,3,9,15,3,4,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,6,4,56,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227689425046231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608646342056913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21888996973967345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314784849487102,0.17399450083276172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336384841353772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677010094170923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202887345169915,0.3569634680722962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258371525245691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704370776567392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5456707920766473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945019516511412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649160137103148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imxe,2020/02/28,"Just a simple thank you! 🙏🏽 Hello, I’m a 25 going on 26 year old male with a 3 year old. I’ve never actually posted on here but every question I’ve had has pretty much been answered if I did a quick search. Now this isn’t a post about me asking anything but simply a thank you! Everyone on here seems to genuinely care about what they respond and want the best overall outcome. Now no sub is perfect but thank you for being so positive, open and honestly loving when it comes to questions being asked. This sub has helped me more than anyone will ever know from stupid questions to what I thought was very serious questions. So again, thank you so much I love this community! 🙏🏽❤️",2.308127090301003,4.4201010724637735,3.770289855072463,86.93864548494986,78.13043478260869,6.275139353400222,23.658862876254183,7.321109707123232,1.03771839464883,540,18,107,7,13,178,94,138,0.055,0.617,0.32799999999999996,0.9943,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,1,2,14,12,1,0,7,0,11,2,0,0,3,22,27,10,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,8,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,5,0,10,10,12,19,4,19,0,0,0,2,17,4,0,6,11,70,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.1211119684981452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677953121445175,0.0,0.10213069999597006,0.0,0.2320493409666255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024418737093788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653686140895085,0.0,0.0,0.10690846168604236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226322076015184,0.10456674273569476,0.11859096618022498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053370628417796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318729453389342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820677200832187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22402548796947105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246801809807686,0.0,0.09572010677581658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26046193392552297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23772322412833066,0.12626293662788535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5561195811373874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298369422860573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570496362197384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985282659042976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240248936380658,0.07320239395018989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984357737205318
parenting,ladycharlotte77,2020/02/28,"Growth spurts at 7 years? My 7 and 8 year old boys could not be more different. But they’re typical boys - extremely competitive, fighting, wrestling... but loving laughing and playing. It’s a good mix of all things boys. 

My 7 year old has been changing dramatically since the new year. He is extremely angry, outwardly aggressive and at the same time shows lack of energy and has been receiving notes from the teacher about “just gives up” he has also been having trouble with behavior. 

I’m not a spanker. I don’t believe in painful punishments. I ground and take away privileges. I thought I was doing great until he started making things worse and worser. 

One minute he wants hugs then he pulls away and gets mad at his brother and picks fights. 

The hypochondriac in me worries it’s something in his brain. The logical me thinks it’s a phase. 

Parents who have older kids... how did you handle difficult 7-8-9 ages. What worked ?",3.5295801033591734,6.297330575581398,3.8471317829457377,84.50006459948322,77.54651162790698,7.543152454780363,27.57881136950904,8.515128840125781,2.3127470284237717,737,31,134,16,18,229,121,172,0.22,0.615,0.166,-0.9088,2,0,1,0,3,0,27.0,0,1,0,1,4,15,5,0,8,0,15,4,1,3,1,25,25,14,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,7,9,0,0,3,2,0,3,3,8,0,1,6,0,11,7,15,17,4,27,0,0,0,2,20,11,0,0,13,77,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122100837484907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083319059603566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487083628089154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317632727164945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735832065645712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310108102658347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143689723923633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572913830380277,0.15740803437658185,0.0,0.13762911818216866,0.0,0.1809074532251946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809570685760362,0.0,0.10952992573479194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15847708494995869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34436522883017073,0.0,0.11119018566099098,0.0,0.17460106009935727,0.0,0.18220015839440476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573517965228196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263228570271132,0.0,0.0,0.11614223718841599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337365539023845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802537603221747,0.10514087993105677,0.0,0.13026743802061794,0.0956809551123516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678327563513207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945792183383205,0.16663919448426542,0.16721955542466846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226688274110699
parenting,natandday,2020/02/28,"12 year old daughter having s*x A few weeks ago a 16 year old messaged me, I’m 18. He was asking for advice because he said he was having suicidal thoughts. He also mentioned how he was close friends with my 12 year old sister.  After that I suppose he got attached to me, a couple of days later he messaged me and asked to hook up. Of course I denied it, and he persisted. In order to ‘convince’ me he told me how he slept with my 12 year old sister, and how he snuck in. Of course I confronted my sister and asked if it was true, she said it was and apologized. Today we were cleaning her room and found USED condoms. Apparently she’s been sleeping around and sneaking boys in, not even I do this because we have a high security system. We (me and my older sister) told our mom but all of us are completely baffled on what to do. I’m not sure we should punish her or maybe we should,Should we call a therapist? We’re all confused on what to do with her /:",3.456439560439563,4.448567907692311,4.728296703296703,85.97134615384618,72.48717948717949,7.212454212454213,26.749084249084248,7.447530270364453,1.328062271062271,742,25,154,8,14,246,106,195,0.096,0.867,0.037000000000000005,-0.9143,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,8,0,0,1,6,8,2,1,5,0,15,3,2,4,4,36,29,15,1,2,5,6,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,7,19,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,15,2,27,5,21,13,3,27,0,0,0,1,44,10,0,3,15,96,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311132720363425,0.11167832170478692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075035809115253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215358201503664,0.3533376031101427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359887684937984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864502520265947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209313658463348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940028171734087,0.0,0.0812500630917411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321206875533478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813632273971532,0.09733589084112056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076191257989152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311033261628386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656911616763114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475524009412504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5288013032131416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396816442211749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607623401893048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780741414949205,0.0,0.11873960618836765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462785843766368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000182150003187,0.0,0.0,0.11941928496342487,0.2407686087570105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154474236696586,0.10881080465840304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010577674177458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245214790149018
parenting,ClassicThought1,2020/02/28,"Head banging? Hey guys,

Just checking in if anybody else has seen this in their kids. My 9 month old, when ever he’s in the crib, on the couch, or I’m holding him will start to bang his head. 

Thankfully he only does it on soft things for now, but he really likes doing it. For like, 15 minutes at a time. It’s kind of funny but I’m not sure it’s normal. 

Has anybody else had their baby do this? Do they stop?",0.15797979797979878,2.0199686363636395,2.168787878787878,96.92873737373738,84.22727272727273,4.8202020202020215,17.732323232323235,5.82211442006289,-0.51845101010101,312,7,74,2,9,104,66,88,0.055999999999999994,0.802,0.142,0.84,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,3,0,4,5,0,0,3,0,7,2,2,0,2,11,12,5,0,2,6,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,6,5,10,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,2,10,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069831633962765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831708357557935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20745254179709646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270841693833439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4707411447739148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23882390900787304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22408937182994412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305821931332772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470600326641926,0.0,0.0,0.24065535385662346,0.0,0.0,0.17442456629228542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146922055229125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232911367519198,0.0,0.0,0.19173978633759334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161516756515254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111468656413212,0.0,0.0,0.152364320279945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373088908031644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sunstoned1,2020/02/28,"Daughter sexually assaulted on school trip. Boy suspended, returns to school tomorrow. This dad trying to do the right thing. (Tldr) Father of four, oldest is 16. She's very petite. A few weeks ago she was telling me that she was interviewing for a leadership position at school. She planned to tell the teacher that her chief competitor wasn't fit, as he ""did things to girls, even me.""

My heart dropped.

What?! 

I learned on a bus trip for the team, he moved to her seat one evening, and cuddled up to her. She asked him to stop, but he drew closer, put arms around her, and after further protests, forced himself on her, kissing her. It took a few friends to pull him off.

This happened a MONTH before she told me (her mom didn't know yet either).

She was concerned about telling the teacher, as she didn't want to cause drama. What!?

We had a long talk about consent, victimization, and power. The aggressor had done similar things to other girls.

I encouraged her to not tell the team teacher (a male) in the leadership interview, but instead to find a female teacher she trusted, and start there. If she had been assaulted, that was a separate issue than leadership.

I wanted so much to swoop in and lead the charge against this boy. But I also knew this was a moment for my daughter to find her own self power. So, I encouraged action, advised about the blowback and consequences (NOT her fault, but HIS).

She talked to the teacher. Who told the counselor. A string of girls came forward with their own stories, one apparently had been all but raped by him.

The school called my wife (good) and suspended the boy for 10 days. A light punishment, but a clear signal that behavior is not acceptable. No one wants to destroy his life. He's young too. Doesn't excuse anything, but hopefully he learned that he cannot victimize women and see no consequence. It's complicated, isn't it?

Tomorrow he returns to school, and the social anxiety begins. I hate my daughter has had to experience this, but I am proud that she decided to act, and she has seen that she has advocates and allies beyond mom and dad. The world, by and large, doesn't tolerate this behavior any more.

I hope I have done well here. So hard to balance being an overprotective dad with being a supporter who empowers her to act with her own agency. I could make a scene and probably have him arrested - and make her social life even harder.... or let her moderate her own path forward in a measured way, minimizing social blowback. 

She is a smart smart young woman (number 1 in the class),she has a black belt, and leads well in all she does. I am sure she feels supported by me (and my wife). But geeze.... what do you do?

It's been an interesting journey for me. I've had to get comfortable with the phrase sexual assault. There was a time that felt too strong to describe forced kissing. But I'm better with that now. This was well beyond harassment. He violated her body, her agency. Imagine your first kiss being that? 

No advice sought. Just here to tell the story and get it off my chest. It's been hard for the three weeks I've known about it. I fear tomorrow will start a whole new thing, facing the aggressor again. I hope I can be the dad she needs me to be, every day, through this. She is my heart, removed from my own body and walking about in hers. 

TLDR: 16yo daughter forcibly kissed on school trip. She downplayed it, but I encouraged action. She spoke up to a teacher, boy suspended. He returns tomorrow. Queue unknown drama coming soon. Loving dad doing his best to be what she needs through it all.",3.7743966369930746,6.018165663204751,4.19752818991098,84.97619337289812,74.11869436201779,7.638733926805142,27.25707220573689,8.49827111852472,2.026863184965381,2803,108,531,53,60,880,302,674,0.129,0.7190000000000001,0.152,0.971,4,0,0,0,0,0,126.0,1,2,1,12,30,43,12,1,44,0,53,16,7,5,5,78,87,38,0,10,18,14,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,11,38,28,0,1,12,4,0,20,13,14,3,6,31,9,81,29,74,47,15,75,0,0,3,7,114,25,0,5,32,371,119,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706867248461101,0.06412224591295447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057847746444619014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04919153312304951,0.0,0.05533748616577689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059527057500339736,0.06439512571649465,0.0676251825512863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06155332471567548,0.0,0.07591305289223288,0.06397605839305617,0.0,0.16069984866491385,0.0,0.0,0.07386400346639144,0.08273407653888999,0.0,0.07430986287503967,0.0,0.0623117842755315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057755082266344536,0.0,0.0,0.09330255767603236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633024579383748,0.1480514084436102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333340582677856,0.0,0.06094690928091698,0.0,0.0,0.07075931186661799,0.0,0.08139905813392218,0.03657568081421818,0.0,0.06945471228983477,0.0,0.13222912626391484,0.06152968088573137,0.0,0.0,0.055887264720627515,0.0,0.07558602874544879,0.0,0.0,0.06067271110473016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396723051967486,0.0,0.12959920412770426,0.07141765557160422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143901221087365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155404179083842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550086938793849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039754436613203936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739693219566528,0.1021873015745125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401582889752311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528682415976086,0.0,0.09657080753265446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944007026201874,0.05773857718241194,0.07688261524815665,0.05317590208294786,0.10727370359137707,0.0,0.06986337280139883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705194877499392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799135036553205,0.0,0.0,0.0727185058197993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061775267860169486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43925247614355617,0.05764309762318226,0.0,0.07546310232652281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22121490259865506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240077822285698,0.0,0.0,0.06047683897461732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417398223272905,0.06817661755111715,0.0,0.0,0.1162832271213736,0.31612794159064833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222953439247928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04218019431086127,0.0,0.0,0.13824190499251746,0.08036889312377417,0.04911196742998212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059685470409757024,0.12799843085401602,0.0574176182083181,0.11604850278650093,0.0,0.19511852489771575,0.0,0.0,0.08076150083984046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Redshirt_Down,2020/02/28,"""You're the reason for cancel culture!"" Yelled the old guy who almost ran into my baby My wife and I are walking our 14 month old to daycare like we do most mornings, I've got the kiddo in the carrier on my chest. We're almost at an intersection on our quiet residential street when I see a big black SUV coming towards the stop sign so we stop and wait for it to come to a complete stop. It stops 5 feet short of the stop sign, 'awesome, how rare' I think and we start walking through the crosswalk. 

As soon as we get two feet into the crosswalk he starts moving forward towards us, passing by behind us with only about a foot to spare as we cross the intersection. (Btw: This. Happens. Constantly.)

I yell at the guy, something like ""Hey, maybe wait for us to cross?!"" (not even swearing cause I am wearing my baby) and he stops in the middle of the intersection. 

He winds down his window and he's some white bearded guy in his early 60s and he starts yelling back at me: ""I stopped well short of the intersection!""

Me: ""Yes, then continued forward while we were still walking through it.""

Him: ""I absolutely did not!""

Me: ""You accelerated as soon as we stepped foot in the crosswalk. What, you couldn't wait 10 seconds for a baby to move out of the way of your 4,000lb SUV? Was that five seconds too precious for you?""

Him: ""You're the reason for cancel culture!"" 
*Drives off*

I've had lots of arguments with terrible drivers in this city, but this is the first time I've been accused of being responsible for cancel culture.

My wife and I were more confused than angry about the whole thing, and doubly so when a minute later I realized I missed the perfect opportunity to just calmly call back: ""Ok, Boomer.""",2.72325,5.04552545757576,3.700359848484851,86.9005397727273,77.75757575757575,5.9431818181818175,25.46401515151515,7.04035,1.1274924242424251,1331,50,259,15,32,427,180,330,0.10800000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.065,-0.8335,0,0,1,0,1,0,61.0,12,4,0,3,16,11,0,1,25,2,12,6,6,4,1,52,27,21,0,1,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,3,10,22,0,10,4,0,0,16,3,3,1,5,8,7,38,8,52,17,5,71,0,1,3,0,36,28,0,6,32,174,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19935794214383867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308643551375928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164558853355532,0.0,0.0,0.1022591437142719,0.0,0.17149674233794318,0.10437002587730697,0.1075717372249281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574789571851875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467210457604997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200764930268894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961445761167289,0.0,0.0,0.29569273222845593,0.0880264606289909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972643738218162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462877808614579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000536190780612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945509833442403,0.2115991093944305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089094374140619,0.0,0.0,0.07570772357930279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469569223537276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932370718940926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663386075220117,0.0,0.0,0.2113733391155614,0.0,0.07949599423982759,0.5825628887167935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613263308204435,0.06378379765643777,0.0,0.0,0.05804492681117701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724005702787833,0.0,0.3592176495621957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901342089635044,0.0,0.0,0.08950204143777825,0.0,0.0,0.11113735918002296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bri_luna03,2020/02/28,The egg.. Everyday I wake up with a goal in mind. And almost everyday I wake up telling myself to boil an egg Incase I get hungry. That egg has yet to get boiled... I get so lost cleaning taking care of my 6 month old that at the end of the day I still wish I would have boiled that egg.... just a little funny story I know it happened to a lot of parents,0.6694924812030081,2.2856296710526323,2.7732330827067675,94.51763157894736,81.23684210526315,5.395488721804512,18.75187969924812,6.1826913282559595,-0.2371857142857139,269,6,63,2,7,91,51,76,0.040999999999999995,0.841,0.11699999999999999,0.6721,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,7,0,3,9,2,0,0,9,12,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,9,1,11,10,1,13,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,2,8,40,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23945897725858845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24381388443536145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422217447010694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21180246975985031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748142174138145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114661297888304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142224204851105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23967591059128585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610439024671001,0.2033038707084068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24145799649063995,0.0,0.19087513023598668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250931764668521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655309156740647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19097337454546026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17979962242904693,0.0,0.2090143712122168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749932390190408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987451358307726,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Earwigoatmeal,2020/02/28,"Eight year old is trying to scam the tooth fairy She previously lost teeth but wanted to keep them so the tooth fairy wrote her a note saying it was okay and she still got money. Well tonight she decorated a box with lots of ""I love you""s and some butterfly beads and two teeth in hopes of tricking the tooth fairy. This of course doesn't fly. What's a good response.  I thought of taking the teeth and leaving no money or maybe another note saying she knows these are old teeth but maybr somebody else is more creative",5.137256011315419,6.308376247524755,4.524271570014147,88.32465346534653,68.70297029702971,7.355586987270155,25.319660537482317,7.447530270364453,0.9967640735502116,415,11,84,4,7,124,72,101,0.086,0.74,0.174,0.9007,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,1,3,7,1,0,7,1,5,8,7,0,0,16,15,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,2,1,2,5,2,8,5,8,10,3,6,0,1,0,1,10,1,0,4,5,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244173405082548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878521966619734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950878984263674,0.17117036099184502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125689285809953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902297159400988,0.0,0.0,0.11761911866759638,0.0,0.0,0.22661497507738845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336267686743376,0.1819511044835708,0.19316029536504448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501062008578556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4491533936108271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403926312532701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091566581798628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091547973336898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990699689022268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530469596008816,0.0,0.2090652397020052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623381531278188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242857644194228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782107070602012
parenting,black_frost,2020/02/28,"Kindergarten homework DAE have a kindergartner in a school that requires homework? I have a 5 year old daughter who is not keeping up very well in kindergarten and every night when I try to get her to do her homework which consists of counting and sight words it devolves in tantrums and tears.  I'm about ready to give up and resign myself to her repeating kindergarten but we're going to go thru this again next year. 

We were doing okay earlier in the year but for the last 3 weeks I've been getting nothing but attitude and bad temper from a child that up until now has been pretty chill. 

I don't know what I'm doing, I don't know how to teach and I'm getting just as frustrated as she is.",6.029730215827339,5.93113279136691,5.872580935251801,83.90584982014391,66.41007194244605,8.388848920863309,32.48291366906475,7.645422480735847,2.097869784172661,554,21,110,5,8,173,89,139,0.128,0.8,0.07200000000000001,-0.8340000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,7,7,3,0,6,1,13,0,0,1,0,18,25,14,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,7,7,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,5,1,0,3,1,10,2,21,22,0,22,0,1,1,0,9,7,0,0,13,73,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152495606391408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317395900884367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34075703660157297,0.20855567660617785,0.2471137167635901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932404708711223,0.0,0.0,0.238961339583031,0.1772149332669974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23121378195907055,0.2040208339929956,0.0,0.2086069516367124,0.0,0.22813105945563575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211800939106573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22002651162286666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760442514646022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17938274539679658,0.0,0.0,0.17439000552492315,0.0,0.19547413261348626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200070709391147
parenting,Haunting-Mortgage,2020/02/28,"Parent of a one year old -- is it normal to check out occasionally? I'm the dad of a one year old. I watch him from wake up until daycare every day (about two hours), then I pick him up maybe one day a week, all other times my wife does. I cook 90% of his breakfasts and dinners. I love all of it, but it does get tiring sometimes.

Nights like tonight, when I watch him from daycare pick up to sleep time (after doing the mornings), I find myself checked out about half the time I watch him, reading the news, looking at my phone, etc. I kind of let him roam free in his play area. I feel like I'm being a bad dad, but I'm super sleep deprived in general (I have apnea so sleep is tough, he gets up around 6:30 and I go to bed around 1). 

Do other parents do this? I hate to have him see me look at my computer / phone / etc, but I feel like this might be a common thing parents do?",3.9096314496314486,3.5756329459459484,4.873955773955776,90.07373464373468,70.8918918918919,7.375921375921376,25.466830466830462,6.1124844417494595,0.597432432432432,665,16,157,3,11,218,105,185,0.086,0.7829999999999999,0.13,0.8263,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,0,1,6,12,1,0,9,0,12,9,4,2,2,20,25,9,0,1,3,6,2,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,8,6,3,0,3,3,3,1,0,4,0,5,0,8,26,9,27,21,4,32,0,1,6,1,18,13,0,1,21,99,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087176822569996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788148448403466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120627042896906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051761240476076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614830900110051,0.0,0.0,0.09877065619721458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185492106984116,0.1674971263541572,0.0,0.0,0.10714536408461096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249483602390107,0.0,0.06662405533008657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157395639598523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154471469745456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207617102580227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198747984815237,0.0,0.17181679544284054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19688600443529544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580392901581973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777248705388255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436165454444414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001166192197796,0.1148597248878109,0.0,0.0,0.24602464851798106,0.0,0.23831261743953697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905074569913425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726092286929553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341649387402948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519415815260486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594267533721204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778818707808334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20507186597799712,0.13473771911932866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451589333772187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940341922680228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098352126979486
parenting,almamanning,2020/02/28,"Is my child headed for failure!???? Parent in distress!!! Good evening all,

This past week has been eye opening, to say the least. My son was caught this past weekend shoplifting. He is 14 years old. Has always been a straight A student, very cookie cutter, responsible and overall a good person. He was caught on Saturday with a little over $900 dollars worth of Sephora products ( he is very much into makeup and skin care). Needless to say, I lost it. I couldn’t believe that my baby had done this. He has everything he wants. He has 2 parents that love him and an extended family that adores him. I’m a wreck! I don’t know what I did wrong. I’m afraid this will continue and he will be heading down the wrong path. Anyone out there with some advice??? I took away all of his electronics. No iPhone, no MacBook, no iPods, no iwatch. But I’m still concerned. Still not sure about what comes next. Help!",1.9255780346820792,4.536018248554914,2.5164479768786134,92.42750433526012,83.27745664739885,5.07849710982659,22.522832369942197,6.508806274219699,0.5450950289017347,699,24,138,7,20,216,118,173,0.14800000000000002,0.737,0.11599999999999999,-0.7207,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,0,1,5,11,0,2,8,0,19,5,4,0,3,19,31,5,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,10,10,0,0,1,2,2,4,7,5,0,0,11,4,11,6,15,16,5,25,0,1,1,1,19,10,0,1,11,82,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065738545866502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977036297576485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064682685469492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523721753289472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217210751339906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675734476475602,0.0,0.0,0.12399234337906845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473015199847465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507160953900058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936480313307816,0.0,0.13569467385881764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24146160205496875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29544978886810475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648055379295443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910615644690186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426660041904776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712850021573774,0.0,0.12991228566896762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581312647710013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308278435540645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104176525947555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31965867922186525,0.0,0.27481576020108384,0.0,0.12568364529480164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22893516841758216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22990278370703116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356625985293925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599236405931607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23753264098694274,0.08490007454692236,0.0,0.11546071079030958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147535645583104,0.0,0.09269322287443348
parenting,Ineedsleepdamnit,2020/02/28,"Daycare- should I be concerned? HELP!! Here's a quick back story. My 21 month old son started daycare about a month ago for the first time as I recently went back to work. While I was off work he would stay home with me or his grandparents so he's mostly been around adults. He does have tantrums when he's told no and he'll occasionally ignore you when you're calling him,but overall he's a decent kid.  He does talk but not full sentences yet he's slowly getting there, he's recently started putting 2 words together.

He has had some trouble getting used to day care,such as sitting down at the table and eating. He would get up and walk around. Also he had trouble with either not sleeping at nap time without someone holding him or not sleeping at all. He was used to taking a nap around 1ish his daycare has them nap at noon. I haven't had any reports of him hurting other children yet. 

Fast forward to today his teacher tells me that the daycare has a teacher that can come in and asses his behavior as he seems delayed compared to some of the children in his class,  and he may have behavioral problems. When I tried to ask what were the red flags , she couldn't directly say but I kept probing she brought up that he doesn't come and sit at the table when it's lunch or snack time even when other kids are sitting.  She has to show him food for him to sit down.she told me not to be concerned and that they arent professionals so they can't diagnose him but I should look into having him meet with the teacher as it'll help him in school. 

Should I be concerned? Should I have my son meet with this teacher? Is 1 month enough time for my son to get used to the daycare routine?
Any advice you can give me? I'm new to this whole daycare and parenting thing.
Thank you all for your input.

++ sorry for the bad grammar english isn't my first language.",2.6301198549124716,4.690598951742629,3.24080823214004,91.3674132628923,76.9088471849866,5.567859958997004,26.25208957577669,6.37848985222837,0.8819096987856807,1471,57,300,11,34,460,184,373,0.084,0.8909999999999999,0.025,-0.961,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,4,3,4,20,8,1,0,14,0,36,8,3,3,2,53,60,27,0,8,12,4,0,0,0,9,1,1,1,5,12,18,4,4,1,4,0,7,12,7,0,2,12,3,39,1,45,35,9,61,0,1,2,1,59,18,1,8,33,192,51,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998694390100413,0.0905948428270274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172994289941463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900009733760266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729411396958213,0.09554395198040147,0.0,0.0,0.15717221356440836,0.08533339913608053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435844361560064,0.0,0.1042005270072828,0.0,0.0,0.17607387958234136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659110611900146,0.0,0.0,0.10373166077071416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788732177371527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045769329390014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560074647800988,0.0,0.06750266457378383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738638966765769,0.12358161313080546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21358279943621505,0.09804032007402966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700608398571504,0.0,0.10251573542359486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940807025228937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858229321375156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24472711071275954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870616957024053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724254765835273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134818938389836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977923631565082,0.0,0.10274003213025408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018219209641597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127417826294019,0.0,0.10343266592072738,0.0,0.09303976999873358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20454921655003624,0.0,0.08659440625319732,0.0,0.0,0.11440542838621738,0.1446765046417504,0.10893245463556372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684228261325342,0.08214513180637109,0.089328003952059,0.09409276560263803,0.0,0.0,0.06789767032895289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23837643361359195,0.0,0.09687440844943987,0.19531448838999224,0.0,0.06938763461724659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648060320596993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947411655796637,0.0,0.11410354348773732,0.0,0.09851792423254677,0.0,0.14880679932700688,0.0,0.0,0.14520103218449204,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nmncihs,2020/02/28,"6yr old asking for siblings How can I tell my 6yr old he might not have a sibling.  He sees all his friends with siblings and tonight was  bad. He left a school thing and saw all his friends walking out holding hands with siblings and cane home crying asking for one.  We have tried for years and have at least 2 miscarriages recently.  I feel lately like I'm slipping into a dark hole, all our friends are having second children, and someone at my job is pregnant and I just feel my heart shredding everytime.  I've tended to stay away from gathering lately because it is just so hard with everyone asking when we are going to have another child.  I dont know how to say we have tried or what to say to get them to understand.  Now my sweet boy is coming home crying about this and it destroys me.  Any advice will be helpful.",4.932964426877469,5.9527545155279515,4.9964426877470345,85.30952569169963,69.06211180124225,7.593675889328063,30.16431394692265,7.686295010490155,1.8683490683229824,651,25,126,7,11,203,104,161,0.08800000000000001,0.809,0.102,0.3472,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,1,0,8,7,1,0,3,0,17,2,2,2,3,31,31,12,0,0,4,0,4,1,3,2,0,2,2,3,5,16,0,1,4,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,2,9,16,5,19,26,4,19,0,0,2,0,24,6,0,2,10,82,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699245037724355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883751983517336,0.13627121780605025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36447668178541387,0.0,0.12209885446612102,0.0,0.1085086445135699,0.07922056479023726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194642543922302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855032660225999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230860499924462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124179457302894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314203010798882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30121330591587275,0.0,0.06789715484460966,0.0,0.07385754286393087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164159220486464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399963924139218,0.0871074199194562,0.0,0.2607148808026956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289622434463573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142095393256001,0.0,0.29319425312875125,0.0,0.1411986318883793,0.0,0.0,0.06349041284108191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786381188654245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27273596501254443,0.0,0.0880622085138854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831683314304032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066940027363113,0.0,0.13152339519002718,0.10355888224329596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011212186693428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851684235842426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135881228694946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633763857543095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646450872802094,0.0,0.0,0.13528979252684598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368803008674945
parenting,pinksocksandcandy,2020/02/28,"My friend won't let her baby nap is this bad? I don't know where else to post this so excuse me if it's not the right place.

My friend has a 1 year old that she never lets nap. He will cry and she'll immediately get him and let him play again. So he almost never takes naps and he stays up late with her.

Is this bad for the baby?",-0.12165714285714554,1.3508119200000015,1.9619047619047656,100.08000000000004,83.13333333333333,4.819047619047621,12.047619047619047,5.288315135182226,-1.6174380952380958,254,1,68,1,7,85,55,75,0.141,0.733,0.127,-0.4886,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,2,10,13,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,10,3,4,7,0,12,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,6,42,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903416260073331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174243296371487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087983018143472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879075556890634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937167883006107,0.0,0.0993110224417402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446517199490672,0.0,0.21442298369421514,0.0,0.0,0.5831211758122512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932089328750668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19946113798154827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985972784274782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204788736168204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623306612248816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20260420737068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291947990612194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240783657387708
parenting,heathers1,2020/02/28,"Words hurt A few weeks ago, I was in Old Navy and I heard a woman say, in a VERY nasty tone ""WHY WOULD \*I\* WANT TO HOLD IT??"" . The store was nearly empty and she was loud. A few seconds later, she came whipping past me followed by a little boy, maybe 4 years old. He was holding something in his arms. I smiled at him as he passed and he smiled at me, next thing you know, the mom comes whipping back around grabs him hard by the arm and starts in a mean voice "" I DON'T KNOW WHY I EVER TRY TO TAKE YOU ANYWHERE! WHY DID I THINK I COULD BRING YOU HERE?"" And SO ON... Parents...your children did not ask to be born to you. Your words will have long lasting effects on your children and their self-images. Just be the damn grown-up and drop your ego by the wayside, FFS. They will be gone from your life soon enough, just fricking enjoy them, PLEASE! And stop saying mean shit to your kids!",1.5104907377315584,3.412872060773484,1.861800454988629,100.6779590510237,79.77348066298343,4.258823529411766,18.381865453363663,3.1291,-0.9460824829379266,677,14,158,0,17,204,117,181,0.14300000000000002,0.775,0.08199999999999999,-0.899,2,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,9,3,1,8,4,2,0,11,0,15,4,3,1,1,29,30,10,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,3,1,5,0,5,2,11,0,3,6,0,1,6,2,3,0,1,9,7,27,1,20,14,3,34,0,1,0,0,30,11,2,0,16,95,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962438547781696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017601738558293,0.13670564101786592,0.0,0.0,0.112442115697322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724856836715496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596450155078334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167530385189331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109504515997754,0.0,0.0,0.13227372672395596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099367430355333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654261799255412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072875622599828,0.11919725533167555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328682332972124,0.0,0.14656123045158234,0.0,0.12940926138112824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690804493882698,0.31857544804827376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126322285129955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551764005607185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068883151291757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959341887022095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051701615882108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23257649296136754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255015051412804,0.0,0.15010335663710908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257527040998994,0.0,0.0,0.1035025969583702,0.0,0.0,0.1222551234148508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109947027354234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714894929030377,0.09369850609729743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928081131718224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065535624440996,0.0862504512817586,0.0,0.1172971692206578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39585044848313855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387784768055472,0.0,0.0,0.09416755340140427
parenting,banbefore,2020/02/29,"Babies and children need to be naturally exposed to non-baby and non-child content *I posted this on r/changemyview but I feel like it belongs here as the people there were less forgiving and likely not parents.*

A gradual thing is a natural thing. We should do it little by little. Parents put bits of germ into their kids when they vaccinate them. And this isn't an anti-vax post. My kiddos are vaccinated. Don't attack me. My kids are 8 months old, 5, and 7.

So one day when I was boating with my kids, we saw a man die in a freak boating accident. He looked like he was in his late 20s. Instead of covering my kids' eyes, I let them watch it all. They deserve to know that the world isn't a wishy-washy perfect place, so when they grow up, they won't turn into socialist bullcrap. People don't always die old and peaceful so if you're not used to that, you're deluded. We should get used to deaths like this at any age. Besides my youngest probably wouldn't even remember this so why not.

My oldest, the 7-year-old, is a boy. But he said he wants to play with girl toys. He didn't say he was changing genders or anything, he just wanted to play with toys that were considered ""for girls"" and was likely doing this only once. I decided to expose him to bras instead and told him about female puberty because I feared one day he would get slapped by a feminazi for not knowing lady puberty and he needed to be prepared at a young age.

My middle child is a 5 year old girl who lost her first tooth. I told her that the tooth fairy only gives coins and if she wants big bucks, she should sell it on the black market. I told her about the black market and that people sell their body parts there for huge sums of money. When my wife asked why I told her this, I said I was preparing her to be rich and successful.

Finally I gave my youngest, the 8 month old boy, chocolate milk. My wife said that he doesn't need that much sugar as he's still a baby and it's not healthy for him. I told him that black women naturally breastfeed their babies chocolate milk all the time and giving a white baby chocolate cow's milk shouldn't be any different (unless you're a whiny vegan). I think I summed up my opinions well but change my view.",3.1696329365079343,4.763565348214289,4.013333333333332,88.45388888888891,74.08928571428571,7.031349206349208,24.27480158730159,7.695328111545312,1.0912468253968248,1748,53,362,23,36,560,219,448,0.078,0.81,0.11199999999999999,0.9383,3,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,3,0,9,4,19,16,1,1,21,0,32,8,4,2,3,60,62,31,3,14,13,4,1,5,0,7,0,4,0,13,22,22,4,0,7,4,6,2,14,4,1,3,19,15,52,12,38,31,6,43,0,1,9,0,67,17,0,4,27,215,74,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674735341277199,0.0,0.0,0.11028821988072236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673031708553998,0.0,0.07580838133296114,0.09225179775060123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049431827207261414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852948536795273,0.09007292067936322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156533781117836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459292832638313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683176295799946,0.08472198944316844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355930575333594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124900822974373,0.041001636580782624,0.05793084797983052,0.0,0.08883033955107034,0.0,0.06897527423816488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847325548619928,0.1555781986431157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913009552810361,0.0,0.09147326642518808,0.0,0.0,0.08292021336249762,0.0,0.1980828541924772,0.1625473471902966,0.0,0.0,0.0680953365622577,0.0,0.08851952151041997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945083211708494,0.0,0.059610620049285724,0.18038204531322494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4254525681369297,0.08635840591397904,0.10989762282746712,0.12334548720563285,0.0,0.0,0.18008211936422627,0.0878127736511905,0.0,0.16865318273672614,0.0,0.08472198944316844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532397335283454,0.0,0.08742894002095929,0.0,0.0,0.08151803826880233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918593777475882,0.0,0.23140602063473856,0.06448617385581731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475873052857427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774543814082063,0.05195931951062946,0.0,0.0,0.047284341932698384,0.0,0.0,0.3874257582195766,0.0,0.0,0.08820284114855928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007177668184806,0.0,0.0,0.1434872852112891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729098194022278,0.0,0.1463425675097618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760414442580021,0.0,0.0,0.10443884750173096
parenting,Cello_and_Writing,2020/02/29,"My step kids So I am 21 and my partner is 35. The age difference is not a problem as I cannot really see myself with someone my age in the people around me or people I have tried to meet.
I have 3 step sons that live with us 50% of the time. They are 7, 9, and 10. And will all be a year older this year. I am out of my depths and getting fed up. Their mother is not the best person in the world and I wont shame her for what she is going through, but she did it tto herself (stealing money from work, cheating on her ex- their dad, spreading lies and rumors, stealing money  from their dad as well). My partners mother and sister take her side in everything and my monster in law and I had a falling out. After she went through my things including my underwear drawer and other very personal objects *hint hint*. Yeah.
Their mother hasnt taught them to take care of themselves or generally clean up after themselves. They cannot even bathe themselves properly. Yes I know the father should help too. Its his fault as well. But he worked a lot, still does, because of all the debt she took out (in his name without him knowing).
So the boys leave messes, like bread bags open, crumbs on the counter jam all over the floor, spilt milk on the floor. And just leave it. Dont say anything. And I feel as if i am getting really really burnt out from picking up after everyone.
Also the 7yo is still bed wetting and I am not sure what to do short of putting him in diapers. 

Any tips?",2.0475108225108234,4.097732720538723,3.088199855699856,91.81420454545456,78.69696969696969,5.85901875901876,22.72835497835498,6.868970318607317,0.5990193362193366,1146,36,241,12,28,366,173,297,0.09699999999999999,0.8170000000000001,0.086,-0.5126,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,7,3,11,13,1,1,16,2,23,3,0,1,4,45,37,25,0,3,10,9,2,1,2,3,0,1,3,6,9,21,3,0,3,1,3,7,9,7,2,0,6,4,41,6,42,27,5,43,0,0,1,0,41,25,0,4,12,167,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112097910759375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094568595278931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443819396345545,0.12379684460303207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847723984686176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593956153787405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178547576796974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529275274443545,0.0,0.0,0.12169623804895564,0.0,0.16298250065980852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185075821670924,0.0,0.0,0.13288204223198,0.1249821614669748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031516475241613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531087175692536,0.0,0.07903353214095915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321197002997564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285237063914212,0.0,0.0,0.29449834818777426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793986625256314,0.0,0.12279645785046107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822762309298808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281956069871406,0.2428514289753725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306589836777408,0.0,0.13979818293036508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672647444268825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058963292821307,0.0,0.0,0.1108163625661907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782885789623995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22211410011903016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310665991350662,0.0,0.20911832046023032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238824186037467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108959959821688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450572170267612,0.0944156336746046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672774117789168,0.0,0.0,0.11474273593168745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500712845076731,0.12891413913468747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340531680613108,0.0,0.20248115288911966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910589383836015
parenting,RealFatherhood,2020/02/29,"Laughing at Parenting Makes it (Slightly) Easier Hey, I have a small-time parenting blog which tries to bring a smile to your face. I don't have an army of contributors, viral videos or huge marketing budget - so all likes, follows and shares are much appreciated.

Look up RealFatherhood on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter or check out www.realfatherhood.blogspot.com",7.355988700564972,10.988209033898306,6.645000000000002,64.93552259887008,68.83050847457628,10.035028248587572,31.867231638418087,10.125756701596842,4.195404519774012,299,13,43,9,6,92,52,59,0.0,0.7040000000000001,0.29600000000000004,0.9544,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,1,1,1,7,8,5,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,7,8,2,7,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,3,1,26,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18054152081118102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103255875733976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24667484055838276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716588481135751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8206742535455851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25089749262380073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Crissy323,2020/02/29,"My 5 year old is refusing to take a bath Hi everyone, hoping to seek some advice on this. I have a 7 year old son who will bathe whenever I ask with no issues at all. My daughter on the other hand, however, is giving me absolute hell about bathing. 

She is 5 years old and super stubborn. The funny part is a couple of months ago she loved bathing, but lately it’s really been a struggle. I have tried talking to her calmly and explaining the need to bathe because good hygiene is important, etc. I offer her bath toys, try to set up a fun idea for after the bath (like we can have a snack or color, etc) and nothing seems to work. She throws this temper tantrum and the tears roll until I finally give in and just leave her be. She lets me wash her up daily, but the actual idea of get in the bath and wash her hair/body is the problem for some reason. 

Does anyone have some suggestions? I’ll be honest, I lose my patience sometimes and I just want to force her in there. But honestly, its not fun trying to wash a hysterical toddlers hair and I really don’t want to be like that with her. I believe a bath should be peaceful and fun, I don’t want to struggle anymore over this. 

I’m hoping someone has some advice for me, thank you for reading.",4.111526610644255,4.835988500000003,5.17530345471522,84.3605462184874,70.74603174603175,8.151633986928102,27.125116713352014,8.313332769828598,1.6917480859010283,970,31,199,14,17,320,143,252,0.121,0.6629999999999999,0.21600000000000005,0.9806,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,3,4,22,4,2,16,0,22,7,2,1,1,39,38,14,0,8,7,2,2,2,0,2,3,0,9,0,8,12,1,2,5,11,0,1,4,8,0,0,1,3,29,14,30,30,8,23,1,1,1,1,26,9,1,8,14,131,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.10950851376946696,0.0,0.0,0.2193161283146292,0.09947442566538447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129003445116684,0.0784653870855977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049086178911732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840700963356823,0.0,0.0,0.1264311810733697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464882446691553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416700707663753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820266830914022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503053147728005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722904279340853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292925907724822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058629237721863216,0.2152993311117059,0.0,0.09412307701913344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229154533796706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25336077149376124,0.0,0.1171263656266456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658671489777734,0.1188225867468459,0.0,0.114750438225206,0.0,0.10964802622549208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554316140757651,0.0,0.0,0.10128106469672354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957128251174606,0.0,0.0,0.08320817449404941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767613206100032,0.0,0.35326152689205875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152108454176094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737740533451452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224829952909306,0.0,0.14377936118355092,0.1153787237225556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021589904663138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508188942187737,0.0,0.11098640391873928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346290948078366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437391899188917,0.09019652281143196,0.0,0.10331519461279667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22856582846582216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985671308606073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169599083261543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21679400653796346
parenting,empathynaught,2020/02/29,"Seeking Advice for my Super Shy 10 year old. Hi, sorry this might be too long, my first time here.

So, I'm a single dad and my son is almost 10 years old. He is healthy and seems to be a very happy and normal child.

We are very close as he hangs out around me a lot whenever I'm home from work or on the weekends when he doesn't have school or even in family gatherings.

His school grades are all very good too, his eating habits are healthy so nothing to complain about that.

However, he is and has always been super shy. And not just in the neighbourhood but also at school and whenever we visit family.

He has never even spoken to any student in kindergarten or in his current school. He always seems to be doing fine on his own but not his teachers nor I think that's really ok.

I mean, I asked on many occasions if he was interested in anyone or wanting to become friends with a neighbourhood kid or a student with him in the same class and he quickly dismissed the idea telling me ""other kids are annoying.""

That made me even suspect the kids at school are being mean to him so I asked the teachers and they all told me how no one ever bullied him. Many students even approach him (clearly wanting to be friends) but be doesn't even answer them or look at them in the face or in their eyes.

However, lately (around 4 months ago) he started drifting off from his grandparents (my parents) too even though they love him so much and always spoil him with sweets. I'm literally the only person he is still speaking to in the family even though I know for a fact that none of them has ever hurt him in anyway.

I asked a few counsellors and some of them asked me to keep pushing him to make friends but others told me to give him more space to decide on his own telling me that even if he was by himself, if that is comfortable to him then that's fine too.

But I don't really know what to do or if I'm just overthinking all of this or if I should just let him be by himself.

Any advice is appreciated.",5.691296814464053,5.408349918316836,6.068850624192855,82.837492466638,67.14356435643565,9.10529487731382,29.693930262591486,8.587818076936951,2.0021518725785623,1573,49,326,21,23,507,188,404,0.047,0.8290000000000001,0.125,0.9865,5,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,2,0,7,4,34,17,1,0,16,1,33,4,2,3,8,75,59,41,0,9,24,3,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,5,12,19,1,1,11,1,0,5,9,3,0,2,6,4,48,14,49,43,13,48,0,1,2,1,66,23,0,20,20,238,60,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013842371756622,0.06809774358311442,0.0,0.07692576980841942,0.0,0.0,0.061434233130172315,0.19176526116945167,0.0,0.0,0.10448269119023312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371547283800241,0.0,0.0,0.13677508317463175,0.2872714313463206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484345942579408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860771034821097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059197190373527,0.13897913254558714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172617993744004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534444282246964,0.0,0.0,0.17805661210026572,0.0,0.0,0.07369431160617866,0.0,0.06443434200528493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177805811878235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077058362775013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223914829444418,0.0867222742719794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828259823487028,0.0,0.0,0.08443832221510539,0.0,0.08665814951407526,0.0,0.0,0.07855532581405315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798472884811023,0.06451082472111765,0.0,0.0,0.06531100624549521,0.06933452419964414,0.07269048776757928,0.05127903737105698,0.15577015893191573,0.0,0.16736256139690436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149561388434177,0.0,0.0,0.06131829551259374,0.0,0.056472740361606835,0.0,0.0592495802133442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526889075742793,0.07371242992421881,0.0,0.16122276464637156,0.0,0.05205632750642485,0.058426314539090814,0.0,0.0,0.08530133357290669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707768785160784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842781202232742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38873797570551744,0.0,0.13987106114864906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599553002852338,0.05437474809910463,0.0,0.06134985632197359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429098871627992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922420128600406,0.15095373115117205,0.0,0.04479531269641122,0.0,0.0,0.14681272723043906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015768092957888,0.0906227804847452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05592706465279805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894122748185327
parenting,exhaustedspudmon,2020/02/29,"I miss when my toddler was a fetus, that was the only time he ate everything without complaint My soon to be 3 year old son is so picky, we’re limited to Costco brand chicken nuggets, Kraft Mac and cheese, vanilla yogurt, and random fruits.

Any tips on how to get him interested in eating more variety?",2.811781609195404,5.367484086206896,4.048965517241381,83.2509195402299,78.82758620689657,6.625287356321839,26.90804597701149,7.793537801064563,1.887645977011494,239,10,43,4,6,78,53,58,0.065,0.857,0.079,0.2082,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,1,0,6,7,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,4,1,6,3,1,7,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787017105670826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193633048352433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683330823353955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141217621092851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300526697526164,0.0,0.0,0.3116978251359815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23897796145289554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950661119098547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639201673566485
parenting,Julienbabylegs,2020/02/29,"Advice desperately needed: Drop naps at 2.5 years old?? My son is 2.5 years old and we sort of recently switched him to the toddler bed a month ago today. 

For the first week or so it was almost like he didn't fully notice the difference. 

More recently it's just been a huge, HUGE struggle to keep him in bed. Naptime and bedtime routines have become extremely protracted and I feel like we have bedtime pretty solved with new soothing routines. 

Nap-time is just a huge struggle. He won't stay in bed. Either we read to him and he falls asleep fairly quickly or it can take hours. As I type this, my husband has been tying to get him to fall asleep/stay in bed for over an hour. 

I went through the same thing yesterday and he ended up just not having a nap, but turned to a miserable, **hysterical** mess at his normal bedtime. 

Would it be crazy to drop naps and just put him to bed an hour earlier than normal? 

Has anyone had any success with this experience?

BTW we've tried that dog with the light up ball and he could care less.",2.705701322271196,4.891417625615767,3.515758361420797,88.88609281825255,77.17733990147784,6.44117189525538,23.492092299714805,7.475848149327749,0.9954394088669952,810,26,163,11,19,257,125,203,0.09300000000000001,0.795,0.11199999999999999,0.4911,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,0,2,6,8,0,3,12,0,17,1,1,0,0,32,25,12,0,5,9,2,1,2,0,2,0,0,5,0,8,13,0,1,1,5,0,4,3,4,0,1,6,2,14,4,25,15,4,36,0,1,0,0,16,11,0,4,20,98,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301213581466724,0.11803735063087595,0.0,0.13333942632539691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905526336553767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310781485650817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706356836560744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576439627765807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063165645420776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391227327977374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793928185696262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025497760227556,0.0,0.0,0.06732915229905664,0.09512876098891217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326491163104585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957004118300479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3934041481346568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835776878567755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010944703615107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628618169519496,0.0,0.0,0.09873565393730144,0.0,0.128605717317027,0.0,0.0,0.26093494387484045,0.0,0.15160231607430566,0.2794557792802069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547049589074514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386149606264708,0.0,0.0,0.13319495740346615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629567435237761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28385938849631803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784132358320825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001189380439159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846487139384117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621908886290215,0.0,0.0,0.09040616773739353,0.14483867035893552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681205577385276,0.0,0.0,0.12343965541235405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945922781755344,0.0,0.0,0.17149996087419045
parenting,BlueBomber13,2020/02/29,"6 year old has a really hard time controlling himself when he's overly excited At work and my wife just called explaining that our oldest (6m) just pushed our 5 year olds friend into a hallway table giving him a goose egg. The friend ran down stairs crying he never wanted to see our 6 year old again and that he never wants to come over again.  Ugh. 

I'm so fucking over this.

We have had so many conversations about being in control of our body over the years, being safe with our self and others and he just can't control himself sometimes. 


He says that his brother and his friend were being mean to him but I'm not so sure has he's not usually very honest when he does something like this. He tries to find excuses. Anyway, he's not a mean or malicious kid, but he's pushed other kids before usually when he's really excited about things. Like, not trying to but it's like he has this energy and doesn't know how to control it. We've been patient but firm with him about this and we don't know what to do.


We don't exactly know the details what happened(since the adults weren't in the room) other than that he pushed him into a table. I'm just at wits end and don't know how to get through to him to help him control himself. Does he need counseling?",3.2764453125000017,4.741016878906251,4.244187500000002,87.43206250000004,73.5703125,7.463750000000001,23.346875,8.07648339933343,1.135550625,995,27,206,15,20,322,125,256,0.048,0.831,0.121,0.9496,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,8,0,0,6,21,13,1,0,10,0,17,3,1,7,4,52,36,21,0,3,13,2,1,3,3,0,0,1,1,4,16,16,1,6,8,0,0,5,12,2,0,0,5,3,20,11,29,28,0,37,0,0,1,1,49,13,1,1,22,126,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543418996798569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152331301422327,0.0,0.0,0.10252104712609576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648690935266702,0.0,0.0,0.5630434940557715,0.0,0.0,0.11028621499751548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572387005669765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892583289971674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917650536726828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23270959999260205,0.09281946937033857,0.052455583582147004,0.0963141642049608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993992669193984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729693691388844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207119180236755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715314647892613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179125320945062,0.0,0.21873309986645972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444636023747661,0.15487148664170658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31606311578110635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286394057130814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984321700428264,0.0,0.0,0.08000691068159234,0.0,0.10474054893895658,0.0,0.0,0.08305306926165829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729389699030031,0.0992995442796001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462712407723972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670222378159436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854485927911141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363319097545379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22115589811768874,0.08284166356357983,0.11843868502309307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309340939714311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25862081950782845
parenting,Minute_Gur,2020/02/29,"Son starting puberty - worry or no? My 12yo has hit puberty. His voice is noticeably deepening and I saw a bit of hair under his arms. But he is barely 4 feet and weighs 90lbs soaking wet. I don't know if I should be concerned that these ""later"" signs are happening way before the typical ""first"" signs.",3.534827586206898,5.573479379310349,4.802965517241383,81.28858620689657,74.17241379310343,8.777931034482759,27.11724137931035,9.3871,2.5981406896551724,236,9,44,6,5,78,51,58,0.09300000000000001,0.907,0.0,-0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,3,0,0,9,12,5,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,6,0,2,8,1,5,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,3,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31751702632376616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073752775131305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173950618545936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32996893198852023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050695158207532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248255332988299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264112383406975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29618337394950944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789446104164375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jelzowl,2020/02/29,"Is what my dad said to me when I was 12 inappropriate? So I’ve never posted on here before so I’m a little bit nervous. 
It’s also a really touchy sensitive subject for me. Also possibly extremely, extremely taboo and disturbing. 

So my Dad went to prison when I was 6 or 7. 
He use to beat my older brothers but I wasn’t aware of this, and I also wasn’t sure what to think about him going to prison. 
And he completely disappeared for me forever after that, went to another country, but he spoke to me on facebook. It was a lot of small talk about random bollocks. He gave me a little bit of money every now and then up until I was 16 I believe. Talked to me about magic mushrooms. 
I use to have to argue with him about conflict my mum had about whether or not he should continue to pay her child support money, which was a little bit too much for me to be honest. 

Once I remember on MSN when I was 12 he asked me whether I wore a bra, and what size my boobs where. I remember him saying it very clearly, bringing the topic up to me, but I have no access to my MSN that I was using to see the messages. Memories from that age are weird. I do remember feeling really uncomfortable. 

But still.... I feel bad implying anything dodgy.... but I remember telling one or 2 people that said it sounded really dodgy and inappropriate. I don’t know how to feel about it. Whatever opinions anyone has on the matter will be greatly appreciated. If it was really really inappropriate and sick I don’t even know how I’d process that or feel about it. 


And now he went quiet and I never talk to him at all.  He sent my mum an email saying something along the lines of 
“I sorry Lynne. 
Dave in hospital. Doctors say no good” 

And then he messaged my brother saying 
“You wouldn’t care if I died” 

Then that was the last thing I heard from him. 
So basically I think he wanted us to think he was dead. I sent him a really angry message recently telling him sarcastically that he got dad of the year awards and he saw the message but decided not to respond. 

I think the thing that I feel most conflicted about is the fact he never asked me if I was happy or not. Never cared about how I was genuinely doing.",2.5092202318229724,4.4397489315068475,4.496392694063927,82.82891991570075,76.8082191780822,7.688654724271164,24.701088865472432,8.5409612609427,1.757761784334387,1704,59,340,35,39,583,203,438,0.138,0.7709999999999999,0.091,-0.9640000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,1,1,0,2,29,14,1,2,17,0,30,3,1,6,8,73,67,44,2,6,19,7,5,0,0,3,2,10,0,1,22,13,0,3,16,0,3,8,14,5,0,1,28,17,56,9,50,34,7,43,0,0,2,1,57,13,1,12,21,239,78,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18985413461433995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298057762087872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533345222171912,0.0,0.06512185684239571,0.0,0.14796220885000433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607492134846728,0.0,0.0,0.06733856784849206,0.08915872306380186,0.0,0.0,0.2591867410912723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613680386854279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829721720429024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213025994997862,0.0,0.0,0.08099864089795818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226831812256809,0.0,0.06667515694280204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000666881512732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04497458573556305,0.0663751875654146,0.06329196930374979,0.08724727948856029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424131879742551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698171348249108,0.06450607691246532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379439856460267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727825806423457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05817377220251847,0.0,0.24413701622096096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842768323707889,0.0536243312909473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054862661640069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921349979809384,0.07579003066858818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041777543456329,0.0,0.07813685900896568,0.0,0.35858083753096753,0.0,0.15055215686473833,0.2517272247796569,0.0,0.0,0.06306082828548501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060922451874432064,0.0,0.08858582640546421,0.0,0.0,0.06319779319152878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898021422287233,0.07458436742211345,0.0,0.0,0.1908185954696314,0.1383360066539821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514835391885424,0.20282759109099052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519038430746107,0.2050432529125196,0.0,0.06529515858520404,0.04667622780939545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007848489038606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096073248890876
parenting,jeremyomeara,2020/02/29,"Child is obsessed with tech, do we drip feed a little or ban it altogether? I'll try and make this quick as I think it's a pretty simple question (likely complex replies though). 

My partner and I have 4 children between us, she two (8 & 4), me two (8 & 5). All great kids and about as well adjusted as you could hope for considering they have separated parents. The one difference is that while myself and my ex-wife are around 50/50 for our children, my partner is essentially a sole parent with two boys. Her eldest, just turned 8, is reasonably obsessed with video games, even though they don't own a console of any sort (he's also quite brand driven, whereas my son couldn't care if it was Nike or flip-flops). Beyond a TV and mobile (cell) phones they don't have a whole lot of tech at home. My children however aren't particularly interested in tech / video games. My eldest is a boy, my youngest a girl. They have generally been exposed to a little bit of tech as a part of daily life from day dot (we have an Xbox, Alexa, iPad, Macs, etc and I also work in tech). 

Interestingly, even for my son at 8, they can really give or take it and when I decide to pull the plug I rarely get any push back. My partner's eldest son however is fairly fascinated by the idea that we have an Xbox at home and I know he's busting his butt to be able to use it. When he was over yesterday he asked about the Xbox and Alexa a number of times. 

What we're wondering is, is it worth my partner having a gaming console at home (we don't live together yet) and drip feeding very controlled play time on it to attempt to get past the apparent obsession and just make it part of his normal weekly activities OR are we playing with fire and is it just better to keep any tech like that away from him until he's older? Her eldest has some interesting / potentially difficult personality traits (much of which is likely driven by his need for his dad to be around, he's a hyper aware but lovely kid) but really has us wondering which option might be best. 

Really keen on people's thoughts an experiences. 🙏🏻",7.08511387163561,5.990555323671501,7.6038854382332675,75.65978260869569,64.60386473429952,10.687646652864048,32.033126293995856,9.842372674337009,2.7678952380952384,1640,51,330,29,21,544,221,414,0.036000000000000004,0.858,0.106,0.9806,5,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,8,1,5,8,21,20,0,3,21,0,36,5,1,5,1,62,57,31,0,6,10,6,1,3,4,1,1,0,3,14,16,23,2,3,11,11,1,4,5,4,1,4,6,1,40,16,48,45,11,33,0,0,0,2,57,15,1,14,17,210,56,1,0.09466535547689986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514077011464518,0.0,0.20513974621690648,0.0,0.1931270638129571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854447319059138,0.08849932848725373,0.0,0.08894121766349224,0.07279181501806935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934545018469892,0.08372381402080388,0.10335005006866484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651763902391304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106175245725904,0.07558258335822217,0.0,0.0,0.061051322813139415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890514797952267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557689501334727,0.12505114896452274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260088251394666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891748213644176,0.09081163497409883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436888861134497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848712102538777,0.09402405793772464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686566362674847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414291755821482,0.0,0.0,0.052025603657179655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686494016049667,0.1387461328626267,0.18975911133814247,0.0835912432358139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048109996131284,0.08543917930014297,0.0,0.12637971973872594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042498231891284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958992861092586,0.07019316158575746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927519490092609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641476948298035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102293487351655,0.2050267098198708,0.09036879341094613,0.06562903800782748,0.08265813698945032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630869932962798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604686331850026,0.10068825813861501,0.0,0.0,0.1819351522903989,0.09733175192294352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117656606977754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065773737007653,0.18601646222758333,0.07515371802584025,0.11040026011440612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427156237168075,0.10296872291773153,0.27742289066036724,0.0,0.2277415336018397,0.08176047264427135,0.0,0.07810883242649197,0.0,0.0,0.07593483803735163,0.0,0.08511552342588534,0.0,0.0,0.10569048869521623,0.0,0.0,0.2053210797219856,0.0689175062461253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,danky_n,2020/02/29,"What are some good STEAM programs/clubs in the GTA area (Toronto) Any parents in Toronto know of some good extra curricular/ after school programs/camps/ or generally any organizations that offers activities relating to STEAM?

Specifically for school aged children (6-12)

Thank you",8.477666666666668,11.883114044444444,7.939722222222222,58.17625000000004,64.1111111111111,9.833333333333336,37.91666666666667,10.125756701596842,4.937333333333335,232,12,29,6,4,73,37,45,0.0,0.825,0.175,0.8074,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,3,3,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,3,2,15,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074286031477312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5025213967767795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463295154601806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33263120224354265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6063510372021544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757989727351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RoxyMcfly,2020/02/29,"Wondering if I should take my 3 5 year old out of a reduced fee daycare to incur more debt Ok so my DD is 3.5. She was born at the end of August 2016 but came almost a month early and was due in September. 

I want to preface by saying that:
1. I am a September baby and started elementry school at 4, and I struggled so much all the way through high school 
2. I have been recently diagnosed with moderate to severe ADHD and is a big part of the reason I struggled so much
3. My husband has dyslexia 

So we have been blessed with having very affordable childcare due to it being offered by my job. My brother and SIL also work there and their kids went through the same daycare. Prior to about 1.5 years ago the daycare restructured their education and decided to remove the prek aspect and instead decided once the kids reach 3 they are not moving up anymore. This results in each room having a mix of 3-5 year olds. This means the teachers are left to cater to each age group at the same time. I feel like all the kids get a disservice.

So I pay 630 per month for full time daycare including food. It's amazing. However I know that there is a 50% chance she will get the adhd and a 50% chance she could have dyslexia. I want to give her a head start because she is only 8 days away from the cut off for school. 

My brother told me his son is doing great in school and only had to get special services for a few months of kindergarten because he lacked some skills he didnt receive at that daycare.

A fulltime structured program would easily be double or even triple the costs now.

I just dont know what to do, I want my DD to have the best education but I'm not sure if I need to go I to debt now for it. Ahhhhhh",4.281684315435406,4.875793286532954,5.306049582658531,84.04723184253147,70.28939828080229,8.132602466674973,29.787093559237576,8.18289091462,1.9506455961131184,1343,51,278,18,23,443,198,349,0.062,0.815,0.12300000000000001,0.9713,5,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,3,3,14,11,1,2,25,1,30,3,1,2,3,50,51,21,0,10,8,4,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,3,9,17,1,0,9,0,5,6,4,3,0,0,9,2,32,8,42,36,17,48,1,0,0,0,25,16,0,6,26,185,41,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491997460639169,0.0,0.0919036015750089,0.0,0.10381776146070207,0.0,0.0,0.0829106367932808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281994509698608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740816269995584,0.0,0.0,0.12640134418969504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880284787312576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857912177979885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827778252923865,0.0,0.0,0.06686323104018889,0.0,0.0,0.10523019770990312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150893176877695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182724545996136,0.0,0.0,0.06847782717704233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242231847973219,0.07406702794939166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253669081015513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625012077685698,0.09945663829422656,0.05892215437537102,0.0,0.0,0.11430450301604607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640274041697056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954067707627003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288364495065494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395657938427628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264560481040994,0.0,0.0,0.050651453618899375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129348885284358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24826250783933865,0.11019247905638012,0.15242937451246089,0.07687534625440934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21758360772699065,0.11041285752838564,0.0,0.15770239806383834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122723279072456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659745139821104,0.10236874878632468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244828805183532,0.0,0.4197075339826575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712575005411813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676654238748385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677188586802848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977145545503076,0.0,0.0779523679828696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091004353042124,0.0,0.0,0.09906802839259103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855445659186917,0.18345453475542187,0.08229415286492896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610982328000417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243352443722596,0.07547825223955011,0.0,0.0,0.07364932370180402,0.0,0.0,0.2002941948892112
parenting,baileygirl300,2020/02/29,"*Alert* Coronavirus and Schools/Daycares Closings We just received notice this morning that the public schools in our city will be closed within the next 2-4 weeks due to coronavirus spreading and it will last for several weeks. 

We live in the Midwest and not in a major international travel destination. I imagine it will be much worse or occur sooner in larger cities. 

Prep as you see fit my fellow parents and please keep your families safe.",5.676148282097646,8.371796000000002,5.391175406871611,76.51164556962027,70.0126582278481,7.552260397830018,31.53887884267631,8.418075326091056,2.790452441229657,360,16,56,6,7,111,63,79,0.038,0.868,0.094,0.5574,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,7,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,8,2,2,15,0,0,1,0,9,8,0,1,5,36,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24279091413630716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289182151595457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20993390277006124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274173365960469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18932552748330606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739024907554625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932171835093172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859737259128907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827075469939229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26064972881420684,0.20523036630873254,0.0,0.0,0.29095303292819064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4131748243674404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624607998790747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HelpBabyLily884,2020/02/29,"Favor from parents who have wrongly been involved with CPS Hi reddit, I am a new mother of a beautiful young baby, who at the time of the accident was 5 weeks old. 2 weeks ago we had an accident where our girl was dropped. She had bruising on the side of her head, and thinking it was the right thing to do we immediately took her to the ER. I still stand by my decision, and she was released 5 hours later with no concerning injuries, just the surface bruising. 
Upon arriving she was removed from my husband and I and CPS was involved. We knew that this would happen, we had nothing to hide and therefore didnt even think of this growing into a bigger issue. However due to her age, CPS decided to put her under supervision of my mother with supervised visits only. We were then told we would have a meeting in April to revisit and reunite the family.

Detectives were involved due to, again, the age and circumstances. Again, this is routine and nothing out of the ordinary. They began threats of a warrant, and as of today we still have no idea what is happening, where to turn, and our family is still completely split up due to CPS. 

After so many weeks of tears, pain, and my little girl losing her bonding to us, we are beyond devastated. I know CPS does a lot of good things, but this is so beyond anything I could imagine, over an accident. I have reached out a bit and realized we are not the only families in my area that have been through this. CPS is completely unchecked and does not need to gain any authorities to modify ""safety plans"". We have a lawyer on retainer in case this blows up bigger, which I do not believe It will, but in case. We have sold our car to do this, and emptied our savings.

Our baby has just begun smiling, holding her head up, and we are missing all of her development, as well as the option of breastfeeding on my part. I have full intentions of raising hell once I get her back. For those of you that are parents and understand how painful this could be, I'm asking for a huge favor from you all, with my full understanding that this is a very deep and personal question. 

I would love to bring testimonies from families who have been in similar situations, or been afraid to bring their babies to the doctor, been wrongly accused of such heinous crimes, anything. I'm compiling a folder of personal stories to raise to CPS/possibly higher officials in my county. 

Note: 
I understand the importance of what CPS does, however the amount of time this is taking, with absolutely no proof of any wrongdoing, during such a sensitive time is atrocious. We will have missed out on more time with our baby than time we actually had with her. Again, there is NO proof on their end.",7.707409569102179,7.13675325875487,7.789697362732383,73.12135682374985,63.10505836575877,11.350223375126099,36.54676466349617,10.746095033038511,3.898517884421386,2141,90,391,48,27,695,245,514,0.09699999999999999,0.836,0.067,-0.9291,4,0,0,1,0,0,62.0,21,2,3,3,21,16,2,1,28,0,54,6,2,3,4,81,79,27,0,6,8,5,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,25,42,0,2,13,0,1,8,8,10,2,0,23,0,57,6,81,48,9,80,1,3,0,1,60,37,1,4,33,299,82,4,0.0,0.0,0.0835262685713297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587289159632726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641213768990108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087123482551506,0.0,0.08001775470966463,0.0,0.0,0.06581561350294378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964338243906394,0.0,0.0,0.09344521700881672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948493637284227,0.0,0.0,0.13667784194209034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760790244432523,0.2247086230631723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580985424914569,0.0,0.0,0.05653326604306432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32275726202954225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0447187281383238,0.0,0.0,0.0717912164017707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137893808413996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17568590242070006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429170971570563,0.0,0.0,0.09662390218251524,0.0,0.08933669114266331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703958847170249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578651547150633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575649834037624,0.0,0.07276797491628255,0.07725088324052712,0.0,0.0,0.08677770922144395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346600908812487,0.0,0.08266610184412511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425728403514714,0.0,0.08981529123607772,0.09115358513185796,0.0,0.1301944292467441,0.1821536409610674,0.0,0.19008144747997546,0.09268870880562036,0.0,0.0,0.14947273936281452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649307075256436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604444885792535,0.09588357382814766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309582088018847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620994256014784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050636667198571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435516632951611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137281642035129,0.10968887635844836,0.0,0.0,0.2495493775127923,0.0,0.08113200775430776,0.08178763019159951,0.09509679876114567,0.0,0.09310043538223167,0.0,0.2673155067724563,0.10295765224692922,0.0,0.0,0.07062306009091937,0.0,0.0,0.20597224909563144,0.0,0.07695824580700786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240810123667614,0.1871646760737574,0.0,0.0
parenting,hikingallday,2020/02/29,"Help me please. I have an almost 4 year old and I need help helping her.  When she can’t have something she gets frustrated, whines and this causes her to make certain faces and body movements that are difficult for me to deal with. She whines and cries when she can’t have her way. She annoys her sister on purpose and smiles which drives me crazy. She won’t listen. I’ve about had it. I’ve run out of time outs, sit downs where I explain things, I’ve tried what I thought would be helpful but I’m tired of it. I’m stressed out. Please help.",1.2712162162162173,3.5664857837837864,1.5184009009009038,100.65165540540545,83.05405405405406,4.4207207207207215,19.15990990990991,5.46131890053228,-0.5520036036036036,426,11,97,2,12,127,72,111,0.16899999999999998,0.672,0.159,-0.29600000000000004,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,4,7,2,1,1,0,10,3,2,2,1,18,18,8,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,7,9,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,2,1,17,1,12,13,0,16,0,2,0,0,19,6,0,1,5,56,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093130762778284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070183330069424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18561468271749412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847550202326664,0.0,0.18627972196432815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440117503012133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6055513528555231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060956047038247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397665993225896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959995915206065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966787682237144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910120144054375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069756356996314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200400009322875,0.0,0.0,0.1434448013898251,0.10535968014284383,0.2076724116478064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267419020106987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342043671986104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283544188950108,0.0,0.0,0.11635610349543968
parenting,throwaway182789,2020/02/29,"Does my baby need preschool or is daycare enough? My 1 year old is in home daycare full time. I keep reading about preschools and it seems they benefit kids by teaching them social skills, not so much academics. Is this wrong? Will I really need to pull my baby out or daycare in 1-2 years so he can attend a more expensive preschool? Won’t he learn proper social skills at daycare?

Thanks for your input!",2.8284615384615392,5.362451525641029,3.0381410256410284,90.64644230769231,78.61538461538461,5.438461538461539,25.134615384615394,6.6274283507984215,0.9375076923076926,321,12,61,3,8,98,60,78,0.045,0.865,0.09,0.5464,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,11,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,1,2,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,8,2,8,9,4,11,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,3,4,35,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067915435029995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24416557867646496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23703254662463766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21003817842606065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17371089886591962,0.3504333870343495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479616819109585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363683137624857,0.0,0.15138262806375502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21512262024015671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817650861601075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175573121296184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779097638342633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583617290266405,0.0,0.3043445288951289
parenting,WreckTangle77,2020/02/29,"Books about lying/honesty for 10 year old I’m looking for books about lying and honesty for a 10 year old.

I’ve looked online and most of what I’ve found seems geared towards younger kids.

Any suggestions would be much appreciated!!",4.194545454545455,6.632443000000002,3.986363636363638,86.07454545454546,73.54545454545455,6.218181818181819,26.90909090909091,7.1686216300943375,1.3060181818181822,188,7,35,2,4,57,31,44,0.073,0.774,0.152,0.5696,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,7,4,2,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,2,4,15,1,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929433567971644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110908296191905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765166336990162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20857119909104485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5954452560252955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258293424005186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155075497569566,0.0,0.0,0.3654203837690799
parenting,Baltowolf,2020/02/29,"Anyone else sick of kids' shows? I'm just so tired of watching PBS Kids. It's so boring. Although the occasional jokes for the parents are humorous. Odd Squad had a funny remark about ""don't spend the money, you lose it"" which was great. But jeez, these shows are terrible.",2.2867948717948714,4.98312742307693,2.9938461538461536,89.03448717948721,82.46153846153845,5.7743589743589725,20.2051282051282,7.1686216300943375,0.6086820512820519,214,6,41,3,6,67,44,52,0.268,0.561,0.171,-0.7603,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,5,2,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,1,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595478559899566,0.380332676248718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100854110143474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092432953844137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152717470442253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121676133932991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4266335236054268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,viciously_tender,2020/02/29,"Happy Birthday to all the Leaplings Happy birthday leaplings. You may not hear it every year, so hope you have a great birthday.
I’m curious, do you still celebrate your birthday every year or do you wait till Leap Year/Day?",2.8435714285714297,5.736265738095242,2.8574285714285743,89.53757142857144,82.09523809523809,5.2647619047619045,27.447619047619053,6.742157984588678,1.4299561904761895,179,8,32,2,5,54,30,42,0.0,0.608,0.392,0.9692,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,8,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,2,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,4,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312365470442966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262212240467391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278864302413739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.538512988337652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850787570467361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512238433864326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019960807460386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4886500484365034
parenting,username_choose_you,2020/02/29,"Cancelling March break trip - Coronavirus So looking for advice about how to ease into a difficult conversation with my 5 1/2 year old about cancelling a trip over March break.

We’ve had an extremely tough year and we had planned a trip to Palm Springs however we are going to be cancelling due to Coronavirus.

For context, my wife has stage 3 breast cancer and is currently receiving active treatment (chemo, immune therapy etc) and we simply cannot take the risk to travel. This whole process has been extremely hard on my daughter and she has been really looking forward to the trip

Any advice on how to have this discussion? She is going to be upset but any ways to mitigate a total disaster would be appreciated.",10.380948717948721,9.021580992307692,9.561538461538463,65.10179487179488,58.30769230769231,13.282051282051285,41.66666666666667,12.161744961471696,5.209897435897437,579,26,94,15,6,184,83,130,0.13699999999999998,0.7829999999999999,0.08,-0.6990000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,7,0,16,4,2,2,1,14,21,8,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,0,1,0,9,1,4,0,0,4,3,8,0,18,13,3,25,0,0,2,1,10,5,0,0,9,62,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4454105951202309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099652741149707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541733708128594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590463608145039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415735331952373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827641734774394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23914706765256735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460012342067692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135555765825872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606282573856178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089970607798309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25444684436992915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189656915681627,0.0,0.0,0.29352560073176176
parenting,hotcarmen123,2020/02/29,Struggle with circumcision decision  Did you struggle with the decision to circumcise your boy? I witnessed my youngest brother have his done (We are 15 years apart. My parents had a late in life surprise lol) It was so difficult to watch i was crying by the time it was over. I just don't think I could put my babies through so much pain.,2.70501098901099,5.346410753846154,3.2806593406593407,88.08076923076923,79.92307692307692,6.791208791208793,29.285714285714285,7.957251820313856,2.1440329670329668,269,13,52,5,7,84,51,65,0.209,0.7609999999999999,0.03,-0.9085,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,2,0,0,3,5,0,2,3,1,10,2,0,0,0,8,11,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,6,1,11,1,8,4,1,7,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,3,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21250979874637566,0.0,0.2923679717343547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723775447793193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002438826904225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799906467009947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956607073588964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28321659920528275,0.0,0.2955429320174965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675677088578542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5565035041325732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054674487417087,0.0,0.0,0.15520200564769246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714004883780893
parenting,kaitlynng2689,2020/02/29,"Controlling Parents So. To start off this post, I’m almost 21 years old. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 3 years. My parents have always been controlling over me but lately it’s gotten super ridiculous. She forced me to get on birth control even though I don’t ever have sex. This was pointless because even though I got on it, she won’t let me go to his house. She rarely lets him over and whenever she does, we aren’t aloud to cuddle or anything. My parents aren’t religious so it has nothing to do with that. I also do all the house work and they complain and say I don’t do enough. They constantly cuss me out and tell me that I’m lazy and immature. They have started giving me a bedtime and it’s just awful. There’s so many stupid rules like we aren’t allowed to eat after dark and we have to be in our rooms after 10. My mom constantly questions where I’m at even if I’m in the bathroom and even when I tell her where I am like in the living room, she’s like “why are you down there. Your never down there.” She just acts obsessed. Can somebody tell me what’s wrong with this woman?",2.387363824408183,3.954273707423585,3.280831992645368,93.00769248448636,76.11790393013099,6.0437600551597335,22.969662146632967,6.5966054737557815,0.4345231441048041,865,25,190,7,19,275,126,229,0.122,0.8009999999999999,0.077,-0.8949,7,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,2,3,5,19,9,2,1,5,1,25,3,0,4,3,29,36,18,0,1,5,4,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,1,11,15,1,3,1,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,5,1,36,4,25,27,2,33,0,0,0,2,31,16,0,4,17,135,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073284571057086,0.0,0.0,0.08843314113713367,0.0920138688270889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100034142981707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741033685774682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23900175639557136,0.37208452751554455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677188034543556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315395976312995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426174283480878,0.0,0.29215596887092754,0.10002860471521152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777502460222018,0.10608123723892288,0.06284683600938698,0.0,0.08844328303392474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551957426817214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474237857617665,0.0,0.0,0.2261571069038328,0.0,0.16207572345087026,0.0,0.09764676637882412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211374951642708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951340863478678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528838438042198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610731813380468,0.0,0.11603819868868175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683678213279628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059078933284929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387820645825885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879399963117144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654235522906162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899631041237684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21729436393847093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978390775540112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050570097207653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090509071925973,0.0,0.14242358190822327
parenting,N-Philly-Res,2020/02/29,"Should I buy a PS4 for my 5 year old? Bit of background: My son will be turning 5 soon and I'm thinking of buying him a PS4. I last had a PS2 who know how many years ago, so gaming is limited to iPad games like Minecraft, Roblox, and Granny on practice mode. 

He loves open world games but I'd never consider a game like Grand Theft Auto.

Thanks for your thoughts!",1.6367428571428595,3.5459562933333366,2.276571428571433,97.824,79.4,5.352380952380952,21.38095238095238,6.1826913282559595,-0.018104761904762512,282,8,65,2,7,87,61,75,0.021,0.7759999999999999,0.204,0.9314,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,1,1,11,12,5,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,3,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,5,6,7,1,10,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,0,9,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541244250089342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129801901915403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755177009237553,0.2336823728201122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801146267649577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25873979325023583,0.0,0.0,0.29064841204179714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211052042474768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008223195685224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639363258449994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369289773988315,0.0,0.2275918100252619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31182539787024954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692248996887277
parenting,Readerokie,2020/02/29,"Dealing with a depressed co-parent I make a lot of excuses - my husband's tired, his knees hurt, he's still healing from (insert illness or surgery here). So sorry he couldn't be here. And he's great at selling it to me - ""it's because we have a young kid. It'll get better once I get my knees fixed/over this cold/bounce back from that minor surgery 3 months ago. We can't even think about traveling until xyz happens. I hate small talk. People are boring."" But then I go see how other parents our age, with kids our age, in our town and income bracket, live.  They don't have dirty dishes cluttering up the counter and laundry everywhere, or DIY projects that have been put off for years and years. They have clean homes and partners who do their share of the childcare, take on DIY projects, travel with them and spend time with friends. We've become hermits in a cluttered, unhappy house without me even realizing it. And I've taken on the majority of the housework while he does less and less, and ""I'm so tired"" is his constant refrain. He does watch the toddler when I make him, and he's great with her in short bursts. But it's not enough.

So I'm asking: how have you dealt with a depressed partner/co-parent who refuses to get help?",4.547864030858243,5.608995647540986,4.515843780135004,88.25037126325941,69.98360655737704,7.0526518804243015,29.107039537126326,7.048011613610866,1.4193199614271936,974,36,198,8,17,300,152,244,0.107,0.795,0.098,-0.3372,4,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,1,4,1,13,10,1,0,10,0,14,7,2,4,0,34,29,23,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,2,3,11,18,1,2,2,2,2,4,5,5,0,0,2,2,23,5,25,24,5,30,0,3,2,0,35,11,0,3,15,115,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565499667310967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251940831947048,0.0,0.0,0.10899888645012967,0.0,0.08641097961035582,0.15655444734187612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536852522993208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531840431410303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614055464646095,0.2441823600016838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24809705363233894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464681767008218,0.0,0.1872523165284276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951759350526592,0.0,0.2221794181250939,0.0,0.08056118568940841,0.0,0.0,0.31256515958148035,0.0,0.0,0.12535122598558146,0.0,0.0,0.1399512001721422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501368118873127,0.0,0.14218926808215834,0.0,0.0,0.16356329863812016,0.1517489326606722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517001296675884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205128663694824,0.0,0.0,0.18924172611963488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131454555352734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096173607597255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573993237122938,0.0,0.0,0.09827330256665118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250036748969155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129583522370882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868026561625773,0.0,0.0,0.11320369202284195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658020329653822,0.11393525218151092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908292481274376,0.0,0.0,0.08265699524931351,0.3258471840406801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664430618107093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256786430657046
parenting,smileyeyes1,2020/02/29,"Help! Nutritional Advice Needed It seems like my 7 year old son is always sick. He either has a fever, a stomach virus, a cold, or he’s throwing up for god knows what reason. He takes a multi-vitamin daily and I just started him on a probiotic. He eats a good amount of fruits and veggies. He’s already missed 8 days of school this quarter. What else can I do? Any advice?",0.8858666666666686,3.3057482533333338,2.921333333333333,88.96066666666668,86.46666666666668,4.933333333333334,20.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.3199333333333336,289,9,58,3,9,97,60,75,0.076,0.774,0.15,0.6544,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,4,5,1,1,0,9,10,3,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,2,5,10,2,7,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,2,5,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872486260114147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751214404830187,0.0,0.2074471404630918,0.0,0.0,0.16954036969305036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607852928890484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25510790584241216,0.20826776783440767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20911065823552666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16710824362028354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701508069451493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180100600396855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486131871241526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616104812165922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563337454330571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523165487567469,0.0,0.2269638267004932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764639633545434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874512212846416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054843241562347
parenting,thatgurl08,2020/02/29,"How do I get these kids to stay asleep? My boyfriend and I have a blended family. His kids are 5, 3, and 1 and my son is 4. We’ve been living together for about a month now. Apart from the usual kid fights and tattling on each other, everyone gets along. The biggest issue that we now have is getting them to stay in bed on the weekends. On the weekdays, they often get up between 6-7, which is generally okay because they have to get ready for school and daycare. However, on the weekends, they tend to be up between 5:30-6 and will not go back to sleep. We have tried taking away privileges for getting up or waking others up, but have not yet figured out the best way to make them stay asleep. We would like to put an end to this ASAP, so does anyone have any tips for how to do this?",4.436086956521738,4.602652267080746,5.12750931677019,86.97672981366463,69.80745341614906,7.930683229813666,27.901242236024853,7.554174236665415,1.3876653416149076,609,19,132,6,10,197,103,161,0.011000000000000001,0.9,0.08800000000000001,0.9111,1,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,3,0,5,1,9,5,1,0,9,1,16,4,4,3,0,23,26,11,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,7,12,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,13,4,29,22,2,28,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,2,10,94,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145810219461533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460318628488415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539901109445535,0.12602952787196853,0.0,0.09991235064800506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200368173121908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343061454125955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516737944918245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566141508101783,0.0,0.0,0.15451100121179093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5137881327252946,0.0,0.09314854975043692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106975696352258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007360724278145,0.0,0.1447273284314367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940499565307983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308239818440122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476548175127226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587626727273153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401907566071094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5240890428267247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323293511908308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127782236623696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051347472719326,0.0,0.0,0.13009675348043698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643036079806147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MeetDeath,2020/02/29,"People are water People are like water, they can only flow independently. Many people think, especially parents that they can shape children; just how you can shape mud into a vase. You can only control a path the water flows, and sometimes there will be paths you won't see.


Water can not be control, you can trap it but once that glass cracks and the pressure builds, it will burst and flow uncontrollably until it settles on a stable plain.


Water is freedom. We can't predict what water will do. Water is why America became the most advanced civilization in the shortest time in human history. Let's not allow institutions and the powerful few, trap water. Because one day the pressure will be too much for the glass to hold.


Liberty above all.
Encourage, do not push.",5.1273333333333335,7.53448782857143,5.6485714285714295,75.34476190476191,70.71428571428572,7.523809523809526,28.095238095238088,8.344100000000001,2.2995952380952374,616,23,98,10,12,198,89,140,0.095,0.745,0.16,0.9272,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,4,2,4,5,5,0,3,10,0,22,8,0,5,1,20,24,7,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,2,6,6,8,3,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,1,0,1,7,2,7,15,4,14,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,1,4,69,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203523868328568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858628680301242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396868478910804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22148463412208355,0.0,0.10581812734823716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959489252097375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592233767379311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306682431412391,0.1467714191497537,0.32946285346517656,0.0,0.0,0.24050482205677756,0.0,0.0,0.4504823004816682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259939727737084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142195136215884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878631523455562,0.0,0.0,0.12629918264783088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544468536091092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BoatyFace101,2020/02/29,"British mum's of Reddit!!! Working out our finances and was curious what the average mum spends a month with two kids? Want to gauge if we spend too much? 

We've got 2 kids... 4 yo and 1yo. The eldest is in nursery which makes life a little cheaper.

Curious to know how much mum's set a side per month JUST spending money. I.e., days out, cafes, lunches, treats, soft plays, clothes for the kids, etc etc.

Really appreciate it! Thanks :)",1.673493975903618,4.295550626506028,2.4325421686747006,92.4056807228916,84.90361445783131,5.7296385542168675,22.757831325301204,7.1686216300943375,0.8745672289156627,334,12,68,5,10,104,66,83,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.946,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,2,2,0,2,0,12,7,4,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,6,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,3,8,5,4,9,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,3,32,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608175052147495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5562078619109597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19943713007912686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704253080718376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613136566846546,0.0,0.2499256811401981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645070329047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39807585851464733,0.0,0.36661871329258205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597473292634947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295785191403485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24358990168548594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470798431401287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18153810449031715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SmttyWrbnjgrmnjnsn1,2020/02/29,"Crushing parental anxiety I'm a mom of one toddler. She'll be two this summer and I have supper high anxiety about everything... all the time. I worry about every possible thing there is to worry about. I know part of it is just my general personality, but does this fade a little? I'm so mentally exhausted. I take her to daycare, go to work, pick her up, and by the time we get home I'm praying to go to bed. I never stay up and watch any shows or movies, I go to bed as soon as I get her down. I don't have siblings and my husband's brother isn't having kids any time soon so I really want to give my daughter a sibling, but I'm such a mess with anxiety as it is, I don't know how I'd ever be able to add another baby in the mix. Is there anyone out there that can relate? I feel like nobody gets me. My husband gets frustrated because I never stay up with him, all my friends seem to handle parenting way better than I do... What is wrong with me?",1.3189823982398217,2.9572130544554485,3.7995379537953835,87.80979097909794,79.34653465346534,7.063146314631464,23.59845984598461,7.984000788550335,1.2293753575357542,735,25,162,13,18,257,116,202,0.131,0.787,0.083,-0.7783,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,2,14,7,1,0,7,0,16,2,0,2,5,27,34,13,0,1,4,7,1,1,1,1,1,0,3,2,7,10,1,0,4,1,0,3,5,4,0,2,0,2,26,3,28,31,3,24,1,0,1,0,17,8,0,2,11,108,33,1,0.13009103242027312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693272611474226,0.13641179033872747,0.2985578511800845,0.0,0.0,0.09096267463541922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930228590209032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150549464401166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138435391389782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767478667630005,0.10960730559430093,0.0,0.11691743162114733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657779347898592,0.09293705955446048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050800894314436,0.0,0.2718687805209528,0.12479517232084217,0.2218011950203794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374483182453232,0.13049191249197384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298925848753558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355590728868049,0.1303853906255935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110116294226354,0.0,0.0,0.1523610448852074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006684481205445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815305035035864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889013925339665,0.14087591083259202,0.0,0.0,0.1135904716643452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665809251705725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333964653969275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184299900379369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773194627947474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781226635130123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642670140700551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275713815058944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708003570827772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673106146390436,0.10326020629608096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947078209786771,0.26422751638354863,0.0,0.0,0.14223412191916734,0.0,0.0
parenting,tg2201,2020/02/29,"SAHP v Working Parent I am a working mother to a three year old and my husband is the stay at home parent. As this is our first child, I'm interested to know what your routine looks likes when your spouse gets home from work. Does the SAHP get a break? For how long? Who cooks? Who does bathtime and bedtime? Is it a joint effort? When does the working parent get some time to themselves? For how long? What do weekends look like in respect to personal time for the adults and family time for the whole family?

Looking forward to seeing how everyone navigates this!",2.2180128205128185,4.973814120370378,2.837037037037039,89.519358974359,83.72222222222223,5.545299145299146,23.122507122507123,7.010146845296331,0.9671943019943026,447,16,84,6,13,139,69,108,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.9072,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,2,0,6,5,4,0,0,9,0,5,1,0,3,0,8,14,9,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,3,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,5,4,13,14,2,16,0,0,4,0,14,3,0,1,14,51,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347021980938112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630625856019573,0.0,0.0,0.2492202188435052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243455858771864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718005493582686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651801019296969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264416893060074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291556055175702,0.0,0.0,0.2339551046294811,0.3330005944662099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870353464145846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4403198209189825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154168571789693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533251828377713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408891976648804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23123043026795556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757729224490185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849223931362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512134129196322
parenting,theonlinestudent2003,2020/02/29,"Sleep Aid for Children all Age Hello,

I am a 16 year old composer from Freiburg, a small town close to the black forest in Germany and have composed my own music since I was seven years old. A couple of months ago a good friend of my mother listened to my music and asked me to compose some music for her children to help them fall asleep so I composed and covered (you'll definitely know some of the songs) 35 gentle baby lullabies and decided to publish them. I put all them in a playlist and mixed them with some other lullabies I thought were very relaxing.
I truly hope that they help some of you because I have literally spent hundreds of hours working on those lullabies during the christmas holidays and weekends. 
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1huZHe9EB3QbibKut5fv5s?si=R70ZrGouRvygv22LtTwaUg

Have a lovely day 🎶 🍀",8.812836052836055,10.173836608391609,6.94512820512821,73.56931623931625,60.53846153846154,9.152758352758351,34.770007770007766,9.150863307647796,3.1826012432012423,677,27,105,10,9,198,95,143,0.0,0.777,0.223,0.9853,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,5,1,1,5,0,0,9,0,7,3,2,0,2,18,14,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,3,8,0,0,3,4,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,3,19,5,17,9,7,18,0,0,1,1,18,6,0,5,10,69,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930712375421081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036185336039524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277207602017754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240997397651006,0.0,0.14046638588431093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827581767960226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826847336870724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919805737333706,0.0,0.0,0.21632978609018425,0.2144943255350928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970008482110768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965777672982672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738500951083602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571000014448847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21895446285366615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801707768985528,0.0,0.21796257460806712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291306183764446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971216496280873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856483660775314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805189163212358
parenting,Cara8371,2020/02/29,"Choke proof earplugs? I’m about at my wits end looking for earplugs test don’t present a choking hazard for my baby. Something like earplugs with a hook that goes around your ear or something. You’d think there would be a big market for that, but I can’t seem to find any anywhere. Any recommendations? And don’t worry about me not hearing my baby at night. There’s a few nights a week where she’s not with us, these are just fur my husbands snoring. Thanks so much!",2.5260215053763453,4.792090634408608,2.3969892473118293,96.28215053763441,78.13978494623656,4.563440860215055,24.31182795698925,5.033348758259628,0.09606666666666673,371,13,79,1,9,110,68,93,0.098,0.8390000000000001,0.063,-0.4857,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,0,8,2,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,0,1,14,13,4,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,10,2,11,10,2,10,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,2,6,47,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151618944210024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628437989036327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052395717067356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21179245332080568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611709179533016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320913085211985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945906398290516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034453872464142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349164328557496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21095373838535286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567864544316078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334124814757627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848002431725238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787366452604532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587581876858206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23532798722490575,0.0,0.16461079255219285,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pleaselowertheblinds,2020/02/29,"Looking for book recs on how to not get so angry while parenting Though much more calm than I was in my 20s, I still have a hard time controlling my outbursts of anger as I parent my 4 and 1 year olds. 

I think the underlying issue that sparks my anger around my kids is the need for control and feeling angry when I lose it (for instance, kids not moving fast enough, not listening, etc).

I find myself wanting to scream and call my little child a bitch or say “Fuck you!”  just to be mean. I never have and I hold those in, but it scares me that I even think it. 

I’d love some recommendations of books you’ve read that have helped you learn about your anger and find ways to deal with it. 

I love being a mother and I love my children. I do think I’m a good mom, but it scares me what I’m thinking sometimes and would love some guidance via literature. 

Thanks.",5.3525714285714265,5.019923828571429,5.462428571428571,87.06907142857145,67.85714285714286,8.371428571428572,26.642857142857146,7.554174236665415,1.1160857142857146,670,16,149,6,10,211,111,175,0.155,0.672,0.17300000000000001,0.8919,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,3,0,3,9,16,5,2,6,0,9,5,0,3,1,35,28,16,0,3,7,4,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,4,10,9,0,3,9,3,0,1,4,9,0,0,1,6,25,7,18,24,6,16,0,1,1,5,20,6,2,3,8,96,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151644073641273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791419650888458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28100086045011385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914738527309658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943691155675455,0.13970863989799034,0.0827393433824028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334003849716746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289881626686601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580966228607452,0.06544815932344347,0.0,0.0,0.10507013872472394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122168937927194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396552565700426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307488436891276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255529789446433,0.0,0.0,0.10519485559638728,0.14014456180977836,0.0,0.0,0.4522425681306295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645524262399972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467141599888827,0.0,0.13314168598300222,0.09208751853899076,0.0928857695052148,0.09661558446405996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144929954889872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27819397771375204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530343011139222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996193585227992,0.25083330674812804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389476869662527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004040879261154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533135309772878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210706276668409,0.12307667758729825,0.0,0.07304567056560106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388721465000297,0.09943312241276923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898788023589999,0.0,0.0,0.08066947045303982
parenting,decipherseattle,2020/02/29,"Potty training struggles My son is 3.5 years and am constantly seeing him struggling to hear the nature’s call. We have gone from timer setting, prompting to actually making him sit for long periods of time. I have read through multiple articles. If you guys have thoughts in the matter, will really appreciate.",6.037222222222217,9.007823833333337,6.103481481481483,70.53966666666669,69.92592592592592,9.505185185185187,34.874074074074066,9.888512548439397,4.320945185185186,253,13,37,7,5,80,49,54,0.092,0.836,0.071,-0.2975,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,11,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,6,0,7,8,0,9,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,1,5,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.2567623861522488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26866993864938377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843339534709679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605253193080842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965498442056484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23284858679928835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756313746717314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631863061286305,0.0,0.16855827271407892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20966867181830293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501300690686526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888400189299336,0.153424532734332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694375000509901
parenting,testidy,2020/02/29,"Getting bullied at school , college or anywhere can destroy a child emotionally and mentally.  **Getting bullied at school , college or anywhere is not a small thing it can destroy the confidence, the stress of getting bullied can make people sick and it affects mentally so bad. The most people who bullies are looking for the attention and popularity. The best thing to do is to avoid or ignore that kind of people. Don't giving attention to the bully will make bully go away cause the bully wants attention and you ware not giving it. we have prepared a guide about handling bullies you can follow the link and read about it in more depth.**  
[How to deal with negative people and stop getting bullied at school a complete guide.](https://testidy.com/how-to-deal-with-negative-people-and-stop-getting-bullied-at-school/)",7.04877080665813,9.401738140845072,6.230460947503206,73.38579385403331,65.47887323943662,8.262227912932138,37.55697823303457,8.841846274778883,3.768470422535213,664,35,96,11,11,202,74,142,0.335,0.593,0.07200000000000001,-0.9926,0,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,0,1,4,9,2,2,12,0,11,1,0,5,0,27,23,11,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,8,8,0,3,4,1,0,2,4,6,0,0,0,1,3,3,15,22,3,10,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,4,1,66,11,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373181084460035,0.0,0.10995984472305052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820580348958295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528706743522867,0.0,0.0,0.138079727799531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27154357552155545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813917712636632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752208595847501,0.25266773575366186,0.07484531745236431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714010245289307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059065251190668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581490323720014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654352198026603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365202992719124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317306632480882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5331295834493692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202058751309236,0.150856205847482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498464521546914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767713767090112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bosco1334,2020/02/29,"An emotionally draining child that no longer evokes sympathy from family members due to her attention-seeking-like behaviour. I am writing this on behalf of my mother, if this breaks community guidelines, please let me know so I can remove this- or please suggest an alternative thread to post on. 

To give you a bit of context around the issue, my sister (F13) is very glass-half-empty. Life is always a drag and she is always very mopey, her negative mood is always pushed onto us family members. My mother is to a point where she no longer feels anything towards my sister, for example, when my sister is crying over something, mom will not sympathise with her. Here are some reasons why:

- she claims that mom lets her anger out on her- where rather I, as a third person perceive it as my sisters bad attitude when coming home from school pushes my mother’s buttons which erupts into an argument (I cannot express how often this happens, and because it happens so frequently it easily sets mom off) 
- My sister will NOT clean up after herself, including leaving dirty clothes around the bathroom after a shower (which will remain there for the next few days), leave rubbish in her room for days, and leave items of clothing around the house, which annoys all house members 
- She is manipulative to get her own way, example, happy and chatty when wanting money from our mother to go out with friends, but any other time will cause fights or shut out the family when there is nothing she is after 
- Mom has tried multiple times to reason with her or ask her to record when she feels upset and why. Majority of the time the reason is “I hate myself” but no reason as to why. She has everything she could ask for. We are upper-middle class, own a holiday cabin and a Watersport boat, she plays sport and has many friends. It almost seems attention-seeking
- My mom in an effort to better her mental health limited her time usage on her phone, my sister will use manipulative terms such as “My mental health is worse without my phone” to try guilt mom into gaining back her phone, only for her to sit in the dark alone in a dirty room for four hours straight in her device 

There are probably many more points I could list, but these are the main things that came to mind. 

Mind you, it is unlikely she has an anxiety disorder, as whenever it suits her, she is happy to interact with strangers when it is in her favour (will cry saying she cannot handle money with a cashier when shopping for mom), but will happily approach a cashier to buy clothing for herself. She also does not show symptoms of depression, as she is usually very chirpy when things go her way. Nor do I believe this is depression, as she is able to function normally, or manically when in favour of what she wants (eg: going out with her friends) 

At this point my mom is lost on how to deal with her erratic and rude behaviour, if things are not her way, her bad temper and manipulation surfaces. She is currently seeing a school counsellor but mom is concerned with the potential information my sister may be feeding the counsellor, as from what it seems, is very biased- we have found this information through my other sister (M15) who had my (F13) sister confide in her about. 

We understand that this may be a phase that she will live out, however her negative behaviour is taking a toll on our family dynamic and is ruining our relationships with eachother. 

Any advice is greatly appreciated.",9.1620467185762,8.105754887147334,8.638332490646174,69.78639751238754,60.47335423197492,11.805925776114874,37.03832541207402,10.875528500678817,4.005096410152695,2750,105,473,57,31,876,300,638,0.14300000000000002,0.777,0.08,-0.9907,3,1,1,0,1,0,79.0,7,2,0,5,30,26,6,2,29,0,56,5,0,11,1,87,81,44,0,8,17,22,2,0,3,10,4,1,5,2,33,34,1,1,14,5,4,9,13,14,0,2,4,4,78,11,88,61,11,82,0,4,1,0,97,40,0,13,26,349,111,3,0.05485557612985624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053604234119515634,0.0,0.0,0.05492993562249618,0.05681383329436311,0.0,0.04386798441227225,0.1369327011858678,0.0,0.0,0.07460734569232094,0.0,0.041964365593025486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514146515687205,0.14649927843923488,0.1025651174459137,0.0,0.0,0.042180552011221166,0.09160422949896856,0.033439450057710665,0.0,0.0,0.06180344949862693,0.0,0.04851529929574756,0.05988808166414715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274016540033031,0.0,0.056351787349246986,0.0,0.04725322159121302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759542780167122,0.0,0.12051254911846508,0.07075461703034157,0.056553690289616924,0.09449405467996416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286924270905465,0.0,0.048004484336441375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06170513978739432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04930065471754709,0.0,0.20685182061590174,0.0,0.05547325503379637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014630783973943,0.12714384612836066,0.0,0.02865977444743957,0.05262246711801532,0.09352706418553587,0.0,0.0,0.0604784663403623,0.0,0.0,0.09701720961661928,0.11678956165105064,0.0,0.05415852464322902,0.0,0.1166178245273052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055024615508535935,0.0,0.054021692673563715,0.1265919396064421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725496955346265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030147190043717208,0.0,0.0,0.17425240380480095,0.0,0.11218708634353834,0.03874611569263528,0.0,0.0,0.04843847872340643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059881341352587325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122988854509502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056303713938853,0.0,0.11077698864841416,0.5782156899894217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05833952753704495,0.0,0.053746817665641315,0.05263540475966664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04172013753368655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04789777319838327,0.0,0.12042989954046973,0.15556875099557427,0.0,0.05253647845061162,0.0,0.05914358903164281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256026737791809,0.0,0.05889435963718807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043623355880069166,0.0,0.11103354328570636,0.043712792000111966,0.0998769125545314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042230502505734714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05701594742388709,0.04124456638896983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933082189788627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279469103127074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448667075517111,0.0,0.0,0.05710658933697756,0.06598450389527367,0.0473776051329072,0.06041566716961552,0.18104638099124504,0.06471048012071802,0.1306254090449497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484958756544095,0.0,0.0,0.052878817863382284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055902518519301767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,betzee,2020/02/29,"I'm drowning and I dont want to take my kids down with me Hey all. I usually read some good advice on here so I figured I'd ask for some. I'm on my phone and I know the formatting is going to off, sorry for that. 

I have a beautiful 14mo old. I absolutely adore her abs want to have like a billion more of her cause shes seriously the most perfect little human ever. 

I'm currently pregnant. I dont know how far along I am but I've known since late October. Why haven't i gone to the doctor? Idk. That's part of my problem. 

With my first child i had the worst morning sickness ever. It lasted all day and really only calmed down after my 6th month. It never stopped. I was ok with all that even though it freaking sucked and my mental state was up and down the whole time. 

Fast forward to now.  This pregnancy is a bit easier with the throw up. But my emotions. They are all over the place. It's really bad. I always had depression my entire life and managed it very well. I can't anymore. 
I told the father of my kids that I was feeling down and honestly really scared I will develop some kind of really bad post partum and not care for this baby like I should. 
My life right now absolutely sucks. I can't change it. 
I live with my parents and I love their support but they have a very different way of wanting to raise kids than I do. My sister has 2 kids. She comes over every day. I love them but I dont want to see them every single day. I love my quiet time and being alone with my baby. 

I have no support and really no one to talk to. Baby daddy just ignore my comment and so I dont know what to do. I have no insurance or even time for a therapist. I guess I'm asking for some advice? Maybe how I can help myself calm down in my bouts of manic anxiety. Maybe I need reassurance that I'll be ok. I mean I have bad days now with my emotions and I always pull myself aside and tell myself whatever the issue it's not my baby who caused it  and I cannot be mad with her. I feel like I have a logical person in my head and a shitty pregbany hormonal one who wants to just rage and cry and laugh and eat. 

Idk how to feel anymore. The only thing that honestly keeps me going is my baby. Seeing her smile I know I need to fo what's right for the other one too. I can't even go to the doctor to confirm that I'm pregnant. I feel scared. Once its really my parents will react, once its real I can't keep denying I'll be overwhelmed with two kids. Once it's real what will happen with my relationship with their father and I? O
It's all so complicated. Please just tell me I'll be ok.",0.2185824555294396,2.397554080438759,2.7025890136676227,91.15092423319115,86.80621572212067,5.666800150895216,18.006122863526887,7.07126945348624,0.22286323089869686,2010,51,439,30,63,691,238,547,0.166,0.68,0.154,-0.7317,4,1,0,0,0,0,48.0,0,0,6,2,21,39,4,3,19,3,41,10,1,6,9,91,85,32,1,9,10,5,4,3,0,4,5,1,0,8,28,33,1,4,12,1,0,8,16,16,1,6,7,7,82,23,55,69,16,53,0,2,2,3,42,20,2,7,27,297,110,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002125923416552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890319643764549,0.0,0.0,0.1107136561813768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05089392421131158,0.0,0.13195628183619704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438985411194114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664491340472967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263161128027429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782997816273094,0.13668566432474227,0.07037806033367783,0.057308190995343074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307815160163526,0.1716208533528297,0.0,0.05730067867511045,0.0,0.0,0.0695078546831274,0.0,0.13618895260987088,0.0,0.0,0.3118824238035109,0.0,0.0,0.06807500193431906,0.0,0.14967063904857286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182383224355165,0.120357210189193,0.11210582904197684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455471553293388,0.047527790477034114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658888996806737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342860184108793,0.05580073426914384,0.0,0.0,0.07328836071839823,0.0,0.05883070604839291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827717126945365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044592479288817884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069438201674117,0.0,0.11826671929072202,0.0,0.06927892800363747,0.14624873114001793,0.05422939789043967,0.07504675647799787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398173177060627,0.09750701796490943,0.06667877762248436,0.05874565789861477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801330116892263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367312527668845,0.07246876063657127,0.0,0.0,0.06704482187715566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05310220927614092,0.0,0.0,0.09865969921529773,0.051310682753181035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981020033874956,0.21255122436526086,0.13524377875893964,0.10119545417733344,0.0,0.0,0.14774348272587173,0.07204360462242991,0.0,0.0,0.058089896144033634,0.0695078546831274,0.07302803334893265,0.0,0.0,0.06371566720501115,0.0,0.0,0.06365854423101135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654624702625189,0.15144741206629828,0.2557181781836454,0.0,0.0,0.07142643606047848,0.0,0.11362951295584205,0.0,0.0,0.1332127554563644,0.0,0.10602879331926683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05503285053912956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447292189407673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05562059053592098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099092474477285,0.0,0.0,0.050020959599053526,0.05347288211134837,0.1162972344077496,0.0,0.0,0.07724441841237821,0.044198408856332284,0.0,0.06536366149445155,0.0,0.11637946144017244,0.0,0.0,0.06357058770649114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498842700545886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327146121845032,0.1097855366414984,0.1962004086324594,0.05280702308619479,0.0,0.0,0.05981688066216385,0.0,0.060031391987363784,0.07427640805043627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mmgannon6,2020/02/29,"New Parents losing their minds Our little girl is 11 days old and we are at a total loss in regards to night time and sleeping. She refuses to sleep in her bassinet and I personally don’t feel comfortable co sleeping or using swings/loungers. I know she is too young to let her cry it out, but I typically will feed her and rock her until she’s out and then place her in her bassinet. She will immediately wake up and scream bloody murder and won’t stop. She becomes inconsolable at times. It’s almost like 9 pm hits and she is the world’s fussiest baby and refuses to sleep. These past few nights we have been in survival mode and doing shift work and having her sleep in the lounger while someone is watching her and the other sleeps but my husband will be going back to work soon so that won’t work for much longer. Any suggestions ? We are so tired.",6.910368178829717,6.282114106508878,6.46587771203156,82.15070348454968,64.73964497041419,9.404602235371467,31.79552925706772,8.515128840125781,2.1794965154503614,680,22,139,8,9,211,109,169,0.153,0.82,0.027999999999999997,-0.9732,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,1,6,5,6,1,0,4,0,18,9,7,1,1,29,23,20,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,5,1,1,0,2,5,17,1,3,2,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,3,23,2,17,14,3,29,0,2,1,0,26,13,0,2,16,92,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316471711731385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364284904882596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457785991262947,0.0,0.0,0.13584161335605527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351075133536415,0.07932352634796228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219147798360058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990259059219164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759647706733644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577377523867608,0.0,0.060090603657582425,0.1232762958639571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376032859642791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419290424584155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904176728916602,0.0,0.0,0.11879222244714208,0.0,0.23085055767314935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906569703491158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657470890966367,0.0,0.11741549625561876,0.0,0.10739709813371977,0.12850671779407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7385208890061074,0.0,0.10421579537627418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283182475022007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434422308720596,0.14136809250443302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623076957513354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686319986521481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JN_thegingerghoster,2020/02/29,"Different reactions based on baby’s gender?? Hello everyone! I’m am the mother of one 3yo girl and a 6mo boy. It just so happens that in the past couple of weeks I’ve had multiple encounters with strangers saying almost the same thing to my son. My son is a super happy baby and smiles at pretty much anything. So when he sees someone he will smile, and the person would say almost exactly this, “Aw he is such a flirt! What a little ladies man!” It’s been said so much lately that it made me realize no one ever said anything like that to my daughter when she was a baby. She was just told how sweet and cute she is. I don’t know, but has anyone else thought about this difference? Sorry for the random thought but the whole thing kind of rubs me the wrong way and I was wondering what others thought.",3.2989086538461514,4.983891881250003,4.255000000000003,86.47769230769234,73.9375,7.1730769230769225,23.55769230769231,7.882392219407189,1.1757211538461538,631,18,125,9,13,204,106,160,0.044000000000000004,0.845,0.11,0.8256,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,11,8,0,0,12,1,13,0,0,2,2,25,25,13,0,1,4,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,4,13,6,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,12,7,10,7,11,11,4,11,0,0,1,0,20,4,0,4,7,83,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771944326564336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677920711930592,0.14181698673072038,0.22779860710986735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314758445204826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28921713592325704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562345642490646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519940292115508,0.0,0.1322562995883442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239514789534628,0.14733958776386338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413229431687044,0.07606629377635275,0.0,0.15613205203818062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761993685651334,0.13872277585571866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096650554446734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034939561095739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875798474978878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212761995242944,0.0,0.1208539197868173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081231742545913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633184409511992,0.22013773085132127,0.0,0.0,0.11029452739188464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727400082301807,0.0,0.0,0.15493821002124608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390636971991767,0.0,0.0,0.3296452741658767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322562995883442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098630942017113,0.1110238284993324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545293701046204,0.0,0.0,0.1500993017930622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983222052364292,0.15132916440528393,0.0,0.0
parenting,rasheedsense,2020/02/29,"Parenthood should be a privilege not just something that can happen After being raised by terrible abusive and neglectful parents, and seeing many other children go through similar and different things. I noticed the problem. Too many unqualified, selfish, miserable individuals are allowed to simply have sex and then bring souls in this world only to wonder why they’re being hurt. 

This is just a feeling, I haven’t thought further than that, but I feel as though there should be a parental test for everyone that’s wants to have children, and unless you pass it then it’s illegal to have kids. Like perhaps, financial stability, ease of mind, non abusive traits, selflessness, understanding behavior, etc. 

Any thoughts on this? Also if you disagree with me please come at me respectfully and in a way I can understand you, so that we can communicate with each other. I may be wrong and if that’s the case prove it to me kindly, although atm I don’t think I am.",8.319710982658961,8.829321578034687,7.936190751445088,68.97723410404627,61.54335260115607,11.313063583815026,39.26531791907513,11.00357731598739,4.60998774566474,775,38,126,19,10,246,120,173,0.17300000000000001,0.721,0.106,-0.9153,5,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,3,0,0,7,11,0,1,6,0,19,1,0,1,1,36,33,18,0,6,7,2,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,14,12,0,1,9,0,1,4,3,7,0,0,2,3,14,4,19,23,2,14,1,3,1,1,9,6,0,4,4,95,28,1,0.0,0.35959042694546905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213519079044329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319306739012037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071648199821229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854316944256192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16923785967931848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500062624951085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345554226414676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624123668376257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418924580505046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244815050950728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580210016745916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413585002502918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076949937815834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322106890135612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276480415459727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541032385184899,0.0,0.0,0.3369938566314012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657248188825774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520124970759568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209225994791597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682214534115158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081386997694393,0.09723325964648008,0.1490905179989196,0.24094011069426266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31594766264294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950422875895997,0.12044959302914808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692793706717296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16456299493749374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659113681305143,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blanche117,2020/02/29,"Advice needed on how to bring up difficult conversation with 11 year old regarding a text conversation with an older troubled girl... I posted earlier on the fact that my son 11 (innocent, not allowed to date, good grades, well-supervised, well-behaved, sweet kid) has been approached by a troubled 14 year old girl, (self admitted sexually active, was on house arrest, propositioning my son for sex, drives ?!? ) texting him that she will let him get her pregnant, and wants to perform oral sex on each other and have sex...trying to come to my house ?!?!). They are b/f g/f now...apparently for a week. Well...he’s asleep and I did my usual parent snooping through his texts when I found this shit-show. A week ago his girlfriend was an 11 year old , last year he didn’t even show interest in girls and now THIS?!?! He’s flattered by the attention - replies yes to alllll of her propositions. I can’t even believe it . His friends who are males even text him saying DO NOT DATE her (she has a bad reputation) We have a fun day planned tomorrow- I don’t want to ruin it by bringing this up, but I am dying on the inside. Should I hold on to this info until tomorrow night ? This talk isn’t going to go well as soon as he feels like I read “embarrassing” things... I am determined to end his contact with her- I just wish I could make him see it’s a BAD idea?!? I’m calling the school counselor Monday. This girl needs help and I want his contact with her to be very limited. Advice ?? How/ when to bring this up ? Have any of you dealt with anything similar?",3.9003391304347796,5.411042860000002,4.797623188405801,83.89786956521743,72.06666666666666,8.15072463768116,27.3768115942029,8.716276077567194,1.9570028985507248,1198,43,241,22,23,389,175,300,0.079,0.797,0.124,0.8604,3,0,0,0,0,0,70.0,1,1,1,3,11,15,0,1,13,1,23,3,1,4,1,38,42,13,1,8,4,3,1,1,2,2,0,1,0,7,15,13,0,2,6,2,0,8,6,7,1,0,6,4,35,8,38,31,1,45,0,1,1,2,45,10,0,0,27,144,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410938772769966,0.09711282310813696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450033270951997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015343306948173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294567410068865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342960354686988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186666656105557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943708879460748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746978537434992,0.0,0.0,0.07065313020561814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136995357994639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703213902430607,0.0,0.0,0.21707773156352628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05539368701764785,0.07826524815269745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201200740685512,0.0846409849739128,0.0,0.05723733264870221,0.0,0.12452388496082048,0.0918885197658741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343159491013525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528207251312013,0.0,0.1236728919017863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930095930122198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202617089171564,0.0,0.05352244712028525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312800429713225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624654915419839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280880881274372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448748152352177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164651693698618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492224559491184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958343497278693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712156951337442,0.0,0.110874282417387,0.08730018518821467,0.0,0.11428849384619418,0.0,0.1124553892178858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805518510074402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278266888436033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437983086236355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065802001765225,0.09039334863437276,0.1938529880958816,0.0,0.17575488136158354,0.0,0.3940080497541101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598144974180048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821961908567461
parenting,BrittTheBandGeek,2020/02/29,"We have one bathroom. My stepson(6y) comes over on the weekend and stays with me and my husband Friday-Sunday. I’m 20 weeks pregnant. It seems like every time Im a few minutes into using the bathroom, my stepson is insistent that he has to use the bathroom and that he can’t hold it. I typically marinate on having to use the bathroom and announce it before I go in. When I pee it’s okay because it’s a quick trip. But it’s starting to annoy me when I’m trying to poop because I’m already constipated most of the time. My husband says that “it’s a child thing.” I’ve lived with children my entire life up until I moved out on my own and have never had this issue. It seems like he only does it with me. This is a mostly venting but advice would be appreciated.

TLDR: I’m pregnant and stepson is constantly rushing me out of the bathroom. Husband himself acknowledges that stepson tends to wait until I’m in the bathroom to try and use it.",2.2663567251462027,4.389502594736847,4.1771929824561465,83.91479532163747,78.3157894736842,5.695906432748537,27.92397660818713,6.691623216298621,1.4632046783625725,743,33,139,7,18,252,101,190,0.011000000000000001,0.935,0.054000000000000006,0.7543,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,11,1,11,3,2,4,1,30,27,13,0,1,2,3,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,2,17,15,0,2,3,1,0,5,2,1,0,1,1,1,16,3,23,24,4,28,0,0,0,0,11,10,0,4,14,96,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924311133623256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983096037215165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986784124809924,0.0,0.13866738007954246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037603839405804,0.0,0.17610240414999515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260782882901565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730124689394793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261420569776707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602530059200142,0.1700884200831306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151038181299664,0.15922853446487265,0.0,0.14389710415619758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320121828302076,0.0,0.0,0.12568518124697356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042625001119034,0.1239388010176054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959272772709693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967062316454214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534427831364312,0.17369420689262166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826371293201266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900471522326596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212789604956339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5629821877281045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071708082292635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576246128691148,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoyousTongueFlower,2020/02/29,"Any tips on helping a 5 year old overcome fear of our new cat So we got a cat 1 week ago. He is 6 months old and a complete cuddle bug. He is very timid, social and follows us all around the house. 

My daughter (5y) was doing great with him. She was a little jumpy when he would run around (after a dose of catnip) but she would play with him and let him no problem.

She was playing with him the other day with one of the toys that dangle on a stick (a fishing pole looking thing) and his claw touched her foot. He didn’t scratch her, she just felt his claw through her sock. She didn’t even have a mark on her foot or snag in the sock 

Now she is PETRIFIED of this cat. I tried explaining that it was an accident and that I would never bring a cat into our house if he was going to hurt her. But she won’t even walk by him at this point. This is a huge issue because, like I said, he likes to follow us around the house 

Any tips to help her get over her fear? 

Thanks!",1.9726456310679623,3.080035621359226,2.8924150485436897,97.25716626213593,76.28155339805825,5.73252427184466,20.64199029126214,5.602791699666715,-0.2904067961165051,742,16,180,3,16,235,121,206,0.135,0.748,0.11800000000000001,-0.7088,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,0,9,11,0,3,16,0,18,4,2,0,2,27,29,11,0,5,5,1,3,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,9,14,0,0,2,3,0,6,5,5,0,1,10,5,30,6,24,14,1,31,0,1,1,1,38,13,0,2,14,116,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897901851375356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720702535011153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283283748597887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494316975907253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289004003431358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928622130734403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240160924744015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766836793402665,0.0,0.0,0.11804181635771675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423115027204006,0.0,0.06986971612100483,0.0,0.09832646272704987,0.13554194108730586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480837205803692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4255692544441934,0.1316099652200204,0.0,0.0,0.12831756788435178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571462512256287,0.0,0.12012468732636887,0.12321832028677082,0.0,0.0,0.10323875640665774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812964880022457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481901689035166,0.11873635568367917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25800999752350245,0.0,0.0833074222519083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162181723976433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763711291253975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694422849598884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532199302845778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318676565506465,0.0,0.0,0.08167596786880457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834682867325705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957637083359515,0.0,0.0,0.10143849286902344,0.0,0.0,0.098615166652393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619994496518256,0.0,0.0,0.07916942099820201
parenting,tara8,2020/02/29,"My brother who is in sixth grade has made derogatory and sexual remarks about a female teacher. Problem: My brother who is in sixth grade has made derogatory and sexual remarks about a female teacher.
Context: My 13(M) brother is currently in sixth grade. He's a a bit behind than his peers in terms of age (through no fault of his own). He has always performed very well at school, with an average grade of A across all subjects. And he has always been considered to be ""the good child"" by his teachers. But recently, especially since the beginning of this year, he has been skipping school more than usual. Say, he goes to school two days a week instead of five. Neither me nor my parents can get him to wake up. His sleep pattern is a mess. Moreover, he has mentioned systematic bullying and harassment that happens in his particular section. He has also implied that he belongs to the neutral party in this. However, upon going to his parents-teacher meeting today, I came to know that he is very problematic. His teachers would not go into great detail, but has said that he made very inappropriate comments about one of his female teachers. Now, I did know that my brother's classmates engage in that sort of behavior. But he never mentioned that he was involved too. In fact, his teachers say that he is among the worst in that section when it comes to decency and good behavior. I've always taken pride in the fact that my brother is open and honest with me. Little did I realize that maybe I'm just like every other parent and sibling out there: I assumed that my child can do no wrong. I feel angry and sad. I don't care much about good grades. I want him to grow up to be a good person above anything else. What should I do?",4.831585365853659,6.5390544512195135,5.392043902439023,79.77246829268293,70.03658536585365,7.808975609756097,31.41268292682927,8.364918446050245,2.5174749756097556,1372,60,242,21,25,441,170,328,0.115,0.794,0.092,-0.8041,5,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,0,2,12,18,1,0,14,0,29,2,2,3,4,37,47,14,0,4,5,7,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,3,19,15,0,0,5,0,0,5,7,7,1,3,11,4,28,11,45,32,10,40,0,1,0,0,44,22,0,2,14,170,47,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121070210358813,0.2847116862886863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385853455786093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451983033658015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044990812612905,0.11628789756521694,0.0,0.0,0.09824931725801446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355681350386516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527931990666093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609726788368657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05767024183345524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958965711563757,0.0,0.12964153401531087,0.38265971751820105,0.0,0.12574736338944864,0.0,0.0,0.1008595211726582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536460962033602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05572209822324691,0.1143142762531174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237682032174784,0.0,0.0,0.11458478331000625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384443063172248,0.0,0.08796717294657358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728743306251833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25329182539225004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958947467394412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913637997828654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261673786858675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849356501034396,0.1814041365813324,0.0,0.3462928913587796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434846744108896,0.0,0.11413857023752624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081119415612178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141633459477897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256167907968831,0.2823249303238814,0.06727330198033653,0.0,0.0914890040475514,0.0,0.10255022159117352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102225219961626,0.12470255009149545,0.0,0.07344845345825965
parenting,choppssueyy,2020/02/29,"How do I stop yelling at my daughter? I know the title sounds a little harsh, but hear me out. My daughter is 5 years old and will soon be 6. Most of her life she’s been a very well behaved child. She’s so sweet and kind. However, in the last year she’s started pre-K and has developed more into her personality. She’s become very sassy, which isn’t always a bad thing. She gets it honest, if I’m being truthful. I’m pretty sassy myself. However, she’s started bossing me around and demanding me to do things. She’s persistent if I say “no” and will continue to argue with me until I raise my voice/yell at her. She will argue for what seems like 20 minutes with me as long as I’m speaking at a normal volume. It’s not until I yell at her that she actually listens to me or apologizes for her behavior. She doesn’t respond to positive redirection, spanking, or having privileges taken. It seems the only way to make her listen is to yell and it’s just so violent to me. I hate it but it works. I want to be peaceful. I don’t want her to be afraid of me, but it’s the only way she responds to discipline. What else can I do? 

Edit: I know that yelling and raising my voice at a child is frowned upon so if you’re thinking about shaming me, just save it. I’m here for help, not judgment.",0.930341151385928,3.04773017910448,3.201066098081025,89.16029850746271,83.02985074626865,6.067377398720683,23.004264392324096,7.310402129719878,0.9516861407249468,1000,36,213,15,28,342,139,268,0.106,0.7040000000000001,0.19,0.9794,2,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,0,0,0,2,11,15,4,2,9,0,20,1,0,3,1,40,40,23,0,6,12,2,0,1,0,3,1,11,0,3,15,12,0,2,5,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,2,12,42,8,32,31,2,25,0,0,0,0,34,11,0,8,13,147,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.15711481514797213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396663660675642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332599465179113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443002020685435,0.0,0.1778141592701475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449658697675052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411694698303357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589562316496461,0.0,0.0,0.181461056865639,0.0,0.10791630724384388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765890121385252,0.17696507634737169,0.13123819212852936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372053766484055,0.07865748871372909,0.16136639108909973,0.0,0.1424817833354456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747014537156978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577478643587659,0.0,0.0,0.16894461013743076,0.0,0.0,0.24489868917021454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058081497196565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379700697073668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803532423171632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29314051209949993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791621615157515,0.0,0.0,0.13460495655516633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392526927853747,0.103163638383589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656871717403066,0.1899264083722536,0.2555919302487217,0.0,0.0,0.14476021461146127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721143914908667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073601347812733
parenting,JetInVegas,2020/02/29,"Potty training! Tiny Ruler is 3.5 years old. She picked her potty out when she was between 2 and 2.5 when we were in the store one day (no prompting, she got to the aisle before us and had it out by the time we got there). My biggest mistake ever was not fully potty training at that time. 

FF to July and we went on a 2 week trip, and didn't take the potty because I figured we'd really hunker down when we got home and didn't habe to be in the car for hours. During the trip she came into a bathroom with me while we were out snd she showed signs of having to pee. Asked her, she said yes, I put her on the toilet even though she mildly protested. Then, the auto flush decided her movement was the sign fo work and it flushed while she was on it (I didn't even think to check if it was auto or manual!) and she's been terrified of the toilet since. 


We also moved and life has been chaotic. She flat out refuses to not wear a diaper. She picked her own panties, she's sat on the potty (kids potty) a handful of times, but she refuses anything but a diaper. No commando, no naked butt, no panties. 


I know I'm most likely going to get the response that I just need to have stronger will than her and not give in - but does anyone have any suggestions for making it seem less like the end of the world? She literally stands in front of me and cries until a diaper is put on. I've only ever lasted 2 hours before. I just couldn't handle it. She also will start hutting herself while she demands wearing a diaper ""I love diaps! *slaps her legs* I don't love panties! *stomping her feet"". If it was just crying and stomping I think I could outlast her, but I'm not okay with the self harm and don't know how else to stop her. 


She has a potty chart to get stickers, when she has enough stickers she can pick out a toy at the store (we've greatly reduced the amount of toys/treats she gets due to the chart) and it was great incentive for all of 2 days, but she still refused to not wear a diaper. 


So... give me all your tips. Please, if you could offer more than ""Oh, crap! Method"", that would be amazing.",2.1087326769925383,3.7734630788863166,3.326522856963692,91.96057753809495,77.14385150812066,6.051570828368972,21.16140966953032,6.766488616294105,0.3016795760958177,1621,41,353,15,37,525,213,431,0.091,0.823,0.086,0.7469,1,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,8,2,0,1,18,12,2,0,28,2,35,12,9,5,4,74,62,36,0,9,17,0,1,2,0,3,1,1,1,2,11,28,0,4,7,2,3,11,15,4,0,1,22,2,56,8,47,31,8,59,0,0,0,3,55,20,2,6,29,237,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721158235210704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534700968349108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747312413133181,0.0,0.0911780034724354,0.0,0.10358195732167792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754194359626631,0.0,0.18856330181056807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672435417975422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692771363346824,0.0,0.2434146429188883,0.14291216944032265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969608102951484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255821223103912,0.0,0.09813488413777244,0.11448481864206625,0.0,0.14636317581704106,0.20044778568441812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366346030242122,0.21257668411695754,0.06296953332109033,0.0,0.2658478586193032,0.2443122213612802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114026907349836,0.0,0.2182290745353527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178428807917252,0.0903158415607238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826049639482455,0.10826143172219548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000005553746372,0.0,0.07395908511434489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177616306673034,0.0,0.08215593487465561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626474271123008,0.0,0.0750801605133277,0.08426750952140648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162385248603726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276687122020544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098057315606743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539506816134847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086710132321508,0.1155873529601085,0.0,0.0,0.09165394423092536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842398822023458,0.0,0.08848409560883587,0.09263279029033317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330693752105857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419908437927129,0.10885929634122676,0.0,0.1938230813771582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327736050176256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887614502008702,0.0,0.0,0.10271163340293628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066287408870874,0.0,0.0,0.07870831594805063,0.0,0.0,0.07135081935818828
parenting,SingingLotus,2020/02/29,"Husband keeps delaying on when to have baby #2 I’m hoping I can get a little advice on this as I feel like I’m going crazy. My husband and I have a wonderful almost 2 year old son who is our world! We’ve always planned on having at least two kids and the itch started creeping in for me around Thanksgiving. I saw my son playing with his cousins and I wanted him to have that at home too. We decided to hold off until after the holidays and start trying after the new year. 

Well, that came and went until finally I asked my husband if he wanted to start trying. My husband is a pretty pragmatic guy and did the whole let’s look at the finances and then see thing. After doing that, we talked and he told me he thinks we should wait another year, minimum. Pay off the credit card and the car first and then go from there. 

I was completely crushed. I really thought we were on the same page with things. I know he’s 100% right in being financially responsible, and I know it’s the smart thing. But I just can’t seem to reconcile that with my heart. I was so sure the time was right. He’s told me that he just wants to be prepared this time (we got pregnant very quickly with our son). But I’ve always felt like you’re never truly prepared and if you try to plan it like that it won’t ever happen. 

Does anyone have experience with this? I’m having a rough time dealing with the fact that I have massive baby fever. On top of that, I feel like a terrible mom because no matter how much I focus on my son I can’t seem to not think about having another child.",4.17840423943872,4.738648476489028,5.241495745633678,84.53955067920589,70.50470219435736,8.207851918196745,26.16226302433199,8.269060116576782,1.5051297507090613,1220,35,255,17,21,403,172,319,0.046,0.8170000000000001,0.138,0.9755,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,7,1,0,4,12,11,0,0,16,0,24,3,2,1,4,62,60,24,0,7,7,10,4,4,0,2,2,0,1,3,18,25,0,4,13,2,3,5,6,1,1,2,13,7,35,10,38,42,5,49,0,0,3,0,35,19,0,7,29,168,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410928513895787,0.0,0.0,0.10668404136950532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772989996875026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22343216511940592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449498055987973,0.0,0.0,0.09484285089418046,0.09960016436089524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494556443407308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185294457831512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170476619784953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983767168270182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932335407794158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637118720369699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042161932300018,0.0,0.0,0.10773926762992472,0.1522238538510628,0.10229474433521736,0.1167089477964342,0.0,0.09062254766772104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055662555001050086,0.0,0.12109784427093255,0.0,0.08520946793608282,0.0,0.0,0.10549097547352666,0.09421263548736558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624996450932133,0.0,0.0,0.10686792712805676,0.10581788341845434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946973108367765,0.0,0.0,0.11710277950812245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089439813187826,0.0,0.2081995102677953,0.10678068975957557,0.0,0.0,0.08946644941569848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477791712147995,0.0,0.0,0.07831888044788336,0.0,0.08216992410148638,0.10289663038689224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117954109271521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083890968053678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825200967017547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196850936838405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489828464693555,0.19397934022814145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22622787747623185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004123324696593,0.0,0.0,0.0856325121556646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21234057156876165,0.13653257522038215,0.0,0.08458055892236686,0.18637233029057626,0.0,0.0,0.20360634809933106,0.0,0.21700022877143912,0.0,0.1040737294454044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879063455135335,0.1885194874162183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579191467088702,0.09876329655500234,0.0,0.1189476827153894,0.0,0.0,0.11553767489892078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20582406972549516
parenting,ermonda,2020/02/29,"Immunocompromised My 3 year old has an autoimmune disease and takes Enbrel (an immunosuppressant). Everyone is talking about Coronavirus and I am trying to figure out how screwed we are. 

If she were to get corona would she be in way worse shape then another child who got the virus? I can’t find any information about this online. We have an appt with her rheumatologist in a couple of weeks but I was wondering if anyone here knew anything about this?",4.660243902439023,7.48513959756098,5.1001829268292695,76.75320121951222,73.75609756097559,8.490243902439023,26.103658536585364,9.188382445141503,2.506482926829269,365,13,63,9,8,116,69,82,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.5439,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,5,0,10,1,0,1,0,16,15,7,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,9,0,10,9,0,9,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,3,4,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309746426509307,0.2823293740546898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882640417546615,0.0,0.22156766808244835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979171259210945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25727742817031274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24608724493654016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067065324576486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21534174126693784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825298530529999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20244053586028965,0.2164108604749816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280131011582731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21371605295949253,0.21597402279390146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919873189834959,0.0,0.0,0.2743861021172898,0.19126562722530244,0.0,0.0,0.1733864973885409
parenting,lparrish85345,2020/02/29,"I don’t like my boyfriends son. He’s 6 and he’s rude, disrespectful, and is mean to my son. He has an attitude problem, gets in trouble at school all the time. My boyfriend disciplines him, he definitely doesn’t take any of his shit, but it doesn’t change anything. If he doesn’t want to play with my son, that’s okay, but if he wants to play and my son doesn’t, he throws a fit. My son and I tend to spend a lot of time in his room when I have him because I just can’t be around him sometimes. I care for him, I’ll take care of him in any way I can, but I very much prefer the alone time my boyfriend and I have when our kids are with their other parents. Honestly, I think my boyfriend doesn’t really like my son either. He just turned 4 and is a little bit of a clingy momma’s boy. Maybe it’s just my Momma Bear coming out? I don’t know, but I love my boyfriend, I definitely don’t want to leave him. I feel like a terrible person...I’ve never not liked a kid before. Am I horrible?",0.21654289372598967,2.1229828544600977,2.0356743491250526,97.71217989756724,84.30516431924883,5.562868117797695,18.602005975245408,6.782984794422108,-0.16784319248826307,760,19,188,9,22,250,108,213,0.094,0.682,0.22399999999999998,0.9832,1,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,1,0,6,16,2,0,9,1,18,2,1,0,2,35,34,14,0,7,11,9,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,11,0,1,5,2,1,2,11,5,0,0,0,1,35,11,18,33,5,18,0,0,0,1,31,9,1,3,10,107,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587058283668417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20841087308794395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260998106622232,0.1364121376295761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341097605655048,0.0,0.13039217657000296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729354558007886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124677352860656,0.0,0.16210290583856654,0.13199886789507395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774805041470175,0.10947151580884104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005925635964832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421425718682228,0.0,0.0,0.16225433424209246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29945262063820466,0.15358228912705604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027539469760713,0.1383010770394071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153945717863901,0.1669184491020461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264576926911556,0.0,0.11818471176124845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014995692566215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13379938179828355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662573751498836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816662456731803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508256917256774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572941019050594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515538886232589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304281438106061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981871604780389,0.0,0.0,0.26805866473065804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667628829705672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264353864276448,0.2711469132446361,0.1216312562518886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mr-ray_cism,2020/02/29,"Am I mean for giving correct ideals for my son Hi, lately I've been telling my son that if he doesnt pray to mecca 3 times a day like he's supposed to I'm going to behead him like some fucking infidel in an ISIS video.
He's lately been on a nazi kick you know the usually shit with beating the neighborhood jew but Instead of doing it in the name of Allah he yells some bullshit in German. Please help",4.746352941176472,4.525502694117648,5.755294117647061,84.07882352941179,69.11764705882354,8.211764705882354,28.764705882352942,7.554174236665415,1.5986941176470584,319,10,67,3,5,106,64,85,0.122,0.733,0.145,0.0307,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,2,1,5,2,0,6,0,5,2,1,0,1,10,11,2,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,5,3,12,9,2,10,4,0,0,1,13,4,2,3,7,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611920065682362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238130580231746,0.0,0.2470963038492893,0.1463898922253899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265190960297133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156043300931365,0.0,0.5811278503496269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516832900946801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28058251324012345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827478896291021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26440441226115285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22513818386273715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501982440138342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283690386821299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xxBUTTCHUNKxx,2020/02/29,"Kids book about grandpa? My wife and I are expecting our first baby. My dad has a birthday coming up and I want to get him a kids book to read to our baby when he gets here, preferably one about a grandpa and grandson building something or fixing things together. Obviously our baby will be, well, a baby so this is more of a gift for my dad, kind of a way to say “hey man you messed up but I still want you to be involved in my kids life”. He can build or fix anything so a book that involves that somehow would be perfect, but I’m open to suggestions if someone has a favorite.",4.880924369747898,4.693498436974792,5.715630252100841,84.36319327731093,68.83193277310924,8.14453781512605,32.12605042016807,7.447530270364453,1.9691647058823525,450,18,95,4,7,148,75,119,0.015,0.855,0.131,0.9116,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,2,0,2,9,4,0,0,8,0,10,1,0,0,2,18,16,11,0,6,5,6,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,4,5,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,13,3,14,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,23,4,0,4,3,67,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315141846358907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423446166421859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393028397394806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939711544580832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929664146925776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987147592842978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063942487871827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814104658418501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237283533566927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383736671966133,0.21658491412281347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22467396156921648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869060297393238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318765571849051,0.22331009832222545,0.0,0.0,0.2529533520606412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19985183812766694,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kaytee8435,2020/02/29,"Santa, fairies and bunnies...oh my! I'm wondering how other parents feel about what a lot of us tell our kids about the magical beings that give gifts at night. I grew up believing in it all.

I have decided to be honest with my kid though.  It happened because of my ex being mean and saying the ""proof"" I'm bad is because of the number of, and quality, of Christmas gifts.  

I give a few presents, a stocking and one bigger gift. I prefer to take a trip somewhere.  Memories and experiences over plastic toys.  

I explained the truth to her and she figured out it applies to all the holidays. Did I mess up by having her know??",1.6127166276346614,4.1305563606557385,3.3807025761124123,86.34573770491804,83.75409836065575,6.108665105386418,26.747072599531606,7.447530270364453,1.723831850117096,484,22,92,8,14,161,84,122,0.05,0.843,0.10800000000000001,0.7229,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,9,0,7,0,0,1,4,22,18,8,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,8,0,0,8,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,2,14,2,19,14,4,11,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,2,2,68,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926307810737308,0.2763563771129741,0.0,0.0,0.25538364666656405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217303818090992,0.0,0.0,0.11461303760488313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348921511084483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044681148304785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457394194939687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270988070929576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24691411980981545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21271791976609572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359997097915026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516943278348666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802600307080412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043041861005392,0.0,0.19812281193901132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22270576733589947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726605612625793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458179671956997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ellechachacha,2020/02/29,"Need more help from husband We have a 2 month old LO. This is our first one. 

There is a huge disconnect between us right now. He does help out from time to time, but I feel like I’m doing 80% of the work. I am breastfeeding so I understand that my involvement with our newborn is more prominent. I feel like I can’t have any “ME” time because my husband gets easily frustrated with our LO. He gives up on soothing and let our LO go irate. To me, it’s very overwhelming. At night, he never gets up to change diapers, etc.  

I need help/advice on how to get my husband to put in more effort.",1.2449724517906375,3.2779161900826472,2.970599173553719,91.72438360881544,81.31404958677686,7.008539944903582,22.480027548209367,8.07648339933343,1.1285366391184573,453,15,101,9,12,150,81,121,0.077,0.757,0.16699999999999998,0.8240000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,6,0,0,3,4,4,1,1,3,0,9,0,0,1,1,13,20,4,0,2,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,2,17,2,18,19,4,20,0,1,0,0,17,9,0,0,11,63,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046189721313929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862598077974812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633772111905113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18453563297758194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265464769972473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945480214637617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640539880797576,0.24924162041756134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837957426284665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734149422852724,0.16733987022318414,0.0991389396982804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350772727434659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783779200939231,0.0,0.17044629339124334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923728154513346,0.0,0.0,0.25869184171534537,0.13453978804583722,0.0,0.0,0.1637012256812499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304666890113686,0.0,0.1182058546902873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536156175765774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897181024046047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051541557216715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159941507696675,0.2098312550381377,0.0,0.0,0.1439322382562721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269952529168913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nyanger,2020/02/29,"Question for parents who co-sleep with their kids I currently have a 4 yo daughter and am 6 months pregnant with my second. 

Though I never really intended to co-sleep, at about a year old, my daughter had a super rough night because of the vaccines she received that day, screamed bloody murder for hours and finally passed out in our bed... and then basically refused to sleep anywhere else ever again. 

Thing is, my husband and I totally don't mind. We work long days and ended up loving at least having the night to all snuggle together. However, now that Kid 2 is on the way, we have no idea how it's all going to work. 

Do we try to move kid 1 to a separate bed now? Will that cause a million jealousy and resentment issues aimed at kid 2? If not, how do I breastfeed without ruining everyone's sleep? If one kid cosleeps does that mean the second one is somehow obligated to eventually cosleep too? Does baby just get her own room while the three of us squish into the other room together? And then is \*she\* going to grow up with the resentment issues? 

SOS on the logistics of all this. I'd love to hear how your family handled it.",5.053725490196079,6.0562871628959325,5.853737556561086,79.33587028657621,68.77375565610859,9.151251885369533,31.47541478129713,9.3871,2.8352911613876324,897,37,169,18,15,294,141,221,0.10300000000000001,0.8370000000000001,0.061,-0.8234,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,1,1,3,12,8,3,0,13,0,13,4,2,5,6,37,20,16,1,2,5,4,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,10,15,0,1,3,0,0,6,5,5,0,6,1,3,17,3,29,18,6,39,0,1,0,2,26,12,0,4,20,120,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723607705180832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015737346762848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342401095996922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175472650674014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584287082981353,0.0,0.11221994910365994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460878822594253,0.0,0.1210687421617578,0.0,0.0,0.11944292690089175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879533364886248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619632032493526,0.0,0.1440147993541897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280183337136534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477548555982827,0.0,0.0,0.14303060588249408,0.0,0.26448695970766994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212686751509862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22870615624649945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801511064833707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793242735825622,0.0,0.1011319529206798,0.13466367557224446,0.0,0.0,0.0977200312992279,0.0,0.0,0.23780160693940786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295194287168308,0.0,0.1717124723899736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406870556144964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193471127789442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116824487956546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.507172131714829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417486700757455,0.0,0.12448361051430284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602202236954103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240634096210415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056977751834904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213575414237365,0.0,0.18448044656743395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159163163263376
parenting,EdithLowell,2020/02/29,"How do I get my 10 year old son to understand the importance of hygiene. My son is getting to the age where he needs to be using deodorant daily and showering every day. He often won’t shower unless I tell him. I am a single mom, and cannot always be there to ensure he puts on deodorant and showers each morning before the bus. He seems perfectly content not showering even after getting sweaty. I was not like this as a child. When we go to church, I have to stand outside to check to make sure he isn’t in there goofing off with the water running. I don’t know what he does in there for 30 minutes sometimes an hour. I hear the water running but he will come out dry as the dickens. I am exhausted. He pretends that he is being productive and doing things that he is supposed to but instead I find him staring or talking to himself. I already tried punishing him by taking his computer game. Thinking he needs therapy. He is happy but won’t do basic things. He is smart and gets good grades. He won’t groom unless I check in on him. He is to old for this. I am a mother, not a parole officer.",2.636834992887625,4.418266671171175,4.3812565196775735,84.46201280227598,75.98198198198199,7.0160265528686585,26.999525841631108,7.85451343220497,1.7382396396396396,859,34,167,13,19,290,129,222,0.051,0.857,0.092,0.8379,4,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,9,8,1,0,11,0,24,3,0,3,2,32,40,15,0,2,9,4,0,1,0,4,1,1,4,1,7,10,2,0,5,2,2,5,9,2,0,0,1,2,21,6,28,32,2,22,1,0,1,0,31,8,0,3,9,114,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356799179385452,0.0,0.13841398515263253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154899932602852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329316492915053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728001886661788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557133375726594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987058921939506,0.0,0.14015447679840842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203809534958948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476376550370808,0.0,0.09453880308673933,0.13952392633447255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707941761561485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748509828240956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381823412997334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141993137433237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126871548566125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103787840458107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482353310813785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24668830591192195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491062752858615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722462643281472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514360124173221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645213834364801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678002831480498,0.0,0.12507220153440204,0.13370337437873608,0.1453945631624276,0.0,0.19023223044976573,0.0,0.22102703923671585,0.10658840643609532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112938657282246,0.0,0.0,0.1731730377072632,0.0,0.14367035215055618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712197956090032
parenting,windaxe,2020/02/29,"Hardening your heart I never thought this would be an issue. Not that I thought it would be easy.  I just never thought I would have to do it. The first year of my sister's life I just wanted her to love me.  She was mostly about her mother dave for a few times she let me put her to sleep. Now she's older.  We have fun. She talks.  It's cool. But now she can call for Daddy. And now she can scream and cry for me. And sometimes she's just being manipulative like when she doesn't want to go to bed. I don't blame her too much. She's too young to understand want from need. She also spent 2yrs in our room until we got and apt.
Still I find myself now having to deaden my heart to her pleas for my presence. I have to look her in those tear filled eyes and say no with the ruthlessness of Thanos. No wonder we thought our parents were heartless.",0.9163276836158224,2.9490907175141245,2.0450000000000017,97.91518361581923,82.50282485875707,4.837288135593222,16.612994350282484,5.82211442006289,-0.7408666666666663,655,12,153,4,18,207,104,177,0.087,0.8170000000000001,0.095,0.5255,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,1,0,1,13,6,1,0,4,1,18,6,4,1,2,32,33,9,0,7,5,3,0,1,0,3,1,2,2,0,6,9,0,0,7,0,1,3,7,2,0,1,8,5,37,4,21,18,3,20,0,0,2,1,29,3,0,2,15,113,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816654735803753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088322017905492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623114445926204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505331038034116,0.1256876956696908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397749450163601,0.0,0.11818009921101992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502013025663129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422687323946274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109835599906582,0.10436984457514613,0.07218986157028494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240842611050694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336247430685993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862329369747688,0.10956488329098664,0.22792889141755754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407406033682775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854329321173326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175075950623488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787037545258366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614204032456696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800425158914908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876683457097224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692313700288244,0.08616217977267895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538271836226912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26146450935207544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024338859159792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149011984600493,0.0,0.0,0.0951549539010579
parenting,iregretcuttingmyhair,2020/03/01,"Help needed❤️ 
Hi everyone!!

I need a favor. 
I will attach a few photos of my mother in law if I am able to. She is the most beautiful person inside and out. She means a lot to me. Her birthday is coming up this month, in just a few weeks. She suffers from severe Lupus and has had many flares lately so I wanted to do something sweet for her birthday. I saw this done on Facebook a couple years ago but wanted to see if I could make my own. I am needing help from people all over the world to pull it off. :) if anyone who wants to participate could just make a short video saying something like “Happy birthday, Karina!!!! Sending love all the way from (wherever you’re from)”. I want to make a video for her. I think she would really like it. :) We live in Oklahoma so if you’re from another state/country it would be really really cool if you could make a video and send it to my snapchat @ forever_prim or you can private message me for my email! Thank you so much!! If this actually works I’ll post a video of her reaction. :)",1.7658695652173932,3.837342821256044,3.4387705314009662,88.8427934782609,79.72463768115942,6.458840579710145,20.978019323671496,7.554174236665415,0.7491914975845404,792,22,165,12,20,263,121,207,0.017,0.755,0.22699999999999998,0.9936,0,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,1,3,0,1,5,9,0,0,12,1,16,1,0,4,2,38,33,14,0,17,10,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,8,6,0,0,2,4,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,5,27,8,26,23,8,21,0,1,2,1,24,10,0,9,7,113,35,1,0.13361319777091124,0.0,0.13038720708891618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184400380648744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010508781212586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342545454300888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509593895857573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200377986456565,0.14784046196987544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673269083106815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276731363379042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223373355445199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911622004102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072150686683938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055331873511686,0.0,0.11798290153897505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135931626916606,0.12059112759577628,0.0,0.3567513881422699,0.13546281111906305,0.0,0.14554394242366211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664877971647868,0.0,0.09822107409319507,0.19814498628089827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263056786380824,0.1166658905922716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796450936531584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25678810756052944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625457770850323,0.0,0.0,0.10647241966438488,0.0,0.0,0.1509448819964308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057239347885592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230130810081943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561394206713482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152341033754731,0.10605593720811517,0.10717644782797617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727199930272852,0.0,0.0,0.1898299642930632,0.0,0.0,0.08604251868370169
parenting,Foxinthetree,2020/03/01,"My son is a month old and now is way more fussy. It's hit or miss on setting him down, including at night for him to go to sleep. It's normal, right? He's got one of those baby pillows, and he used to not have any problems chilling on it, or sleeping while we do stuff around the house.  Now he might or might not get pissy laying on it, and we have to hold him, and hold him just the right way.

It's the same at night now too, we can't just lay him down in his bassinet when he's sleepy or asleep, we have to treat him like a hand grenade that might go off.

Obviously this is not ideal, we're getting less sleep and he's harder to set down to do anything, but I figure it's part of his growth. My wife wants to take him to the doctor this week, which I kind of honestly think will end with them saying ""Yup that's normal"" and showing us the door. 

What do you guys think?",3.9261460348162487,3.454089303191491,4.444603481624757,93.63772727272728,70.86170212765958,7.474661508704061,24.005802707930368,6.1124844417494595,0.2835042553191487,671,13,167,3,11,213,108,188,0.023,0.897,0.08,0.8863,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,1,1,1,8,7,0,0,7,1,14,6,5,1,1,38,26,13,0,5,10,2,1,1,0,4,1,1,2,1,14,12,0,2,3,1,0,3,4,2,0,1,1,2,20,5,25,20,4,31,0,1,0,0,25,13,0,7,12,107,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255434936058048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200073928397744,0.12116005711337074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393066491258695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205463944634497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142215850312808,0.0,0.15470034472648425,0.0,0.10885358152355168,0.0,0.0,0.1347628470972285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704398133780678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417297824863307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664927939143427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331496499304239,0.0,0.0,0.10863569612185547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554459037196726,0.2667030541341021,0.0,0.0,0.1428166513895633,0.0,0.0922265586303892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738571607418766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130231686419628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324615380078286,0.0,0.10823414994699168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086022962420669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580477030964415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023321221621553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441793931304236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371451816805033,0.11754883856671115,0.0,0.0,0.08027676536146071,0.21606361736324986,0.10917319493587126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Godfreyluck,2020/03/01,"My kid bit someone. My son (1yo) had a run-in at the playground. An older girl wanted the seat he was climbing into, and decided to take it. She grabbed him from behind, pulled him down, yelling as she did it. So... My kid bit her hard, squarely in the chest. 

I've been making a huge effort to teach my son how to play with others, but it's hard to do when the other kids aren't playing nice either. I don't have any other children, and none of my friends have young ones. So we rely heavily on public places for social development. I really wish the other family had stuck around so that my son could see the effect he had, seen the girl's tears and the bite marks, because that would help him learn. But they split very quickly, only to send they're friend back to yell at me.

Has anyone else had their kids do this? Should I be doing something different? If another kid bit mine, I'd be pissed. But also, if it only happened because my kid mistreated the other, then I'd say he got what he was asking for and that's how he'll learn. Is that wrong? 

My son is physically very advanced. He can keep up easily with the 3yos at gymnastics, but has not yet started to talk much. I'm wondering if he is using physical behaviors (like biting, in this case) as a way to communicate because he doesn't have the right words yet. Does this make sense, or am I improperly justifying my son's violent tendencies?

Extra note: this is the first time he has ever bit someone. He hits sometimes, or most often he'll randomly throw something if upset.",3.731582323592304,5.101864065573771,4.863706343549539,83.81128296507484,72.27868852459017,7.927298645759087,25.392017106201,8.456263369488248,1.6113649322879542,1200,37,240,20,23,395,181,305,0.11,0.8240000000000001,0.066,-0.9359999999999999,1,0,2,0,1,0,46.0,1,0,2,5,14,10,2,1,16,0,31,2,2,6,1,42,50,24,0,9,12,5,3,1,2,4,0,3,0,9,18,9,0,1,5,2,0,5,5,4,0,2,11,9,24,6,27,31,9,31,0,0,3,0,43,13,1,10,13,152,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621342435295488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818162528677148,0.12615757161005048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412491406105149,0.12327381238422253,0.0,0.1071031446791874,0.11247543397359394,0.0,0.0,0.09251246448793238,0.0,0.2200231472886111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5253979631874814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605930360574176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257003824929762,0.0,0.0,0.1052857997509162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050519760092803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088290483538802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113419400627462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023372847035331,0.0,0.0,0.1859054309622752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622445852642376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639146160282716,0.0,0.21555175419809144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064256519594723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693879072232307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877834243728933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061832407148338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844312781234978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152649220866094,0.1830053215515086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257003824929762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707491705944325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027457494275616,0.0,0.0956768930057086,0.0,0.0,0.09587304870981593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264288357541138,0.2038798525941639,0.18524403674612852,0.11899159665679958,0.0,0.08515741869616965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045961471449394,0.09670218948693772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701548665928799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391089740161194,0.0,0.1985399205736512,0.07096310632175228,0.09549802724470233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835280694524116,0.0,0.1304731795167423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546615860998999,0.13154223236021634,0.0,0.0
parenting,marleyyyoolol,2020/03/01,"Stepson tried spying on me I have a stepson who is a senior and is 17 years old and has been living with me and his dad for 4 years. His dad never leaves town and is usually home. The other day as i was getting out of the shower I went to grab some dirty clothes in the corner of my bathroom and a phone fell out. I immediately saw it was my stepsons and when i looked at it it was on and recording. I ended the video and I went to his photos and saw the video, the camera was positioned perfectly for my shower i deleted the video and set up the phone like it was and turned it off so he wouldnt know i saw it i did this to avoid an awkward interaction until i get my thoughts together on what im going to say. Any advice and has anyone else experienced anything similar?",2.4196581196581164,3.8199062839506186,4.274938271604938,86.6087606837607,75.66666666666667,6.959924026590691,24.18993352326686,7.61054688173877,1.061223551756885,606,19,130,8,13,206,95,162,0.044000000000000004,0.9129999999999999,0.044000000000000004,0.25,2,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,2,12,0,14,0,0,0,2,22,26,16,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,10,15,0,1,2,3,0,4,2,2,0,0,13,7,20,2,20,12,1,26,0,0,4,0,11,11,0,1,11,92,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029742735333497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412516384282888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523742566132036,0.212826026177545,0.17092970820212353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395739372792778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351715990518118,0.0,0.1839716430639957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170424405329147,0.0,0.11804781357656954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20835259644593696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436516852344165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141533705071174,0.0,0.0,0.21993757057114452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147784678907444,0.0,0.18341396330788348,0.0,0.17442620561193636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020070283383975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179593519157665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651813352859788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649005415741532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102316853123684,0.22593157890730994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22876599871652384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38510317966843816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26752010942122884
parenting,Ninjamowgli,2020/03/01,"Best Travel System Baby otw, due date is in April and we are trying to find a good system, (car seat and base, stroller). 
Looked at the Chico but lots of complaints about weight and the storage falling out on every bump. Also looking at Maxi-cosi ones, as well as Uppa baby. Any favorites? And reasons why?",3.697241379310345,5.776232862068966,3.785724137931037,88.58168965517244,73.82758620689657,4.64,23.66896551724138,3.1291,0.20555448275862045,238,7,43,0,5,73,50,58,0.08199999999999999,0.75,0.16899999999999998,0.7013,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,10,4,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,3,10,4,2,13,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,1,3,26,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221131935858192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880422249075213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901893569706428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329789639561048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527331180962253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319307991228036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4644121958570705,0.0,0.0,0.2350863436890487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873762540629844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28430731805869164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18773807276993135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367253297991993,0.2486235551326895,0.0,0.249515152415882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,devaughnsgirl21,2020/03/01,Eczema or craddle cap?!?!? Question: My son is going to be three months tomorrow. It looks like he has craddle cap. Could it possibly be eczema? His brother had it when he was a baby and I believe his dad had it while a baby also. He doesnt really scratch at it at all. Plus he also has a birthmark on the back of his head to so it looks worse then what it really is.,-0.4527272727272731,1.7379684675324718,2.1246883116883133,93.54417532467535,91.59740259740259,5.157922077922079,19.388311688311685,6.742157984588678,0.3006218181818179,280,9,62,4,10,96,51,77,0.063,0.904,0.032,-0.528,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,0,11,1,1,0,1,6,14,9,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,5,1,7,8,1,10,0,0,2,0,11,3,0,2,7,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084288701062637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635909227666745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877076914472059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038873114575031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512920094777232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262077055040996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475791268125587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288827565347913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20382904511874386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878844513561257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860660338643776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271853330221439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602376514539097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Global-Librarian,2020/03/01,"The general consensus on the Homemaker, Housewife, Stay at Home Mom I've been unable to find information that isn't wholly biased on this matter and I'd love the input of fellow redditors.

What is society's view on homemakers, housewives, stay at home mothers?  
What is your personal view?  
Do you feel they have a positive or negative view as whole?  
Do you feel that there is any distinction among these titles?  
Do the perception of these roles vary among different genders? Meaning, do men have an unfavorable view while women have a positive view, or visa versa?

(If you feel comfortable sharing with your responses, please include your gender and geographic location)",6.377068965517242,9.12166532758621,6.634000000000004,68.16100000000002,68.13793103448276,11.191724137931036,34.01379310344828,11.00357731598739,4.885813103448276,542,26,80,19,10,174,80,116,0.028999999999999998,0.787,0.184,0.9582,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,6,1,0,1,3,0,0,7,0,12,1,0,0,1,16,17,7,0,1,3,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,7,3,0,0,7,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,7,3,12,16,1,10,0,0,5,1,17,7,0,3,1,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264916145287155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23452623787210575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405004876688118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051640187076688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4503289234432157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025954128524376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24451662150745165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26289976140114835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19600093921973108,0.0,0.24640366183940535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.478516149948721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250615799065235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,minhtuanta,2020/03/01,"22-Month Old Doesn't Want to Drink While Taking Antibiotics My daughter was diagnosed with bronchiolitis and her pediatrician prescribed antibiotic. Her Appetite decreased which is expected, and she doesn't want to drink either. Normally she really likes to drink milk, but she doesn't want to drink milk now. Have you ever had this situation? What should I do?",6.585628415300545,9.917098737704922,6.1717213114754115,68.92239071038253,69.81967213114754,9.968306010928963,31.478142076502728,10.125756701596842,4.0851945355191255,297,13,44,9,6,92,44,61,0.066,0.899,0.035,0.2147,0,0,4,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,0,1,12,13,4,0,6,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,8,1,5,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,5,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009564666719761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7758223256968142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909398914137736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672829066722907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580343458698458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19398891987719974,0.0,0.0,0.20775801037216146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683795886950192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225499240633444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886442085508814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503402626025034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,obviologist,2020/03/01,"Frustrated that Im having a hard time keeping up with my little ones routine. From when my little one was 6 months, to a year and a half old, I was a stay at home dad.  we moved to Denver in August, and I work now as a bus driver.  Because I dont have a car, I ride the busses to and from work, so I spend literally 12-15 hours a day on the bus.  She is 2 years old now, and ahead of the curve on a lot of things developmentally, and every time I am with her, and I do things the way I am used to, I find out my little girls needs, have changed in ways that I was not there for, and what I am doing is now not what she needs.  I feel lost, and behind, and like I can't catch up.  on top of this I was diagnosed with ADD in the last year, and while I now know why i always had a terrible memory for details, names, routines etc.  it means that by the time I get down what her new needs/routines are, they have changed again.  I do not want to be My dad, who I think gave up trying to keep up, and was just oblivious.  And part of what is hardest about all of this, is I struggle with a lot of other past trauma things that I am JUST starting therapy to address, and when  my partner corrects what I am doing, I feel overwhelmingly attacked, and I can't tell if its just me and my self esteem issues making me feel this way, but I get angry and frustrated with my partner, which leads to fighting that we never really had before. Parents of Reddit, what have you done in similar circumstances?

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TL;DR: I feel really out of the loop with my little girl, and when my partner corrects me constantly with my little one I get angry and frustrated, but am determined not to give up trying like my dad did. PLEASE HELP",7.1637218309859145,4.712229771830987,7.688477112676058,79.458349471831,65.36619718309859,10.79049295774648,32.046654929577464,9.017664075816787,2.3504119718309857,1319,35,292,17,16,440,170,355,0.106,0.8420000000000001,0.053,-0.9344,1,0,0,0,2,0,48.0,2,1,1,6,14,12,5,2,17,0,33,1,0,3,4,63,54,27,0,4,10,4,5,2,3,0,1,0,2,6,22,30,0,2,8,0,1,5,8,10,0,4,11,5,49,2,49,42,5,59,0,2,0,0,25,22,0,3,30,219,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686941692981551,0.10009610888900553,0.11225452262544623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509812470164763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05631535066778901,0.0,0.07861047446319926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954563022880712,0.0,0.0,0.09983237251904724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05957889652120664,0.0,0.0,0.0937660200192252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453909692495628,0.1082712869185609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303060790808534,0.0,0.0,0.07783601418394755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868449274447075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443568565528263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479770857013266,0.08862145411006538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275633341977184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061921862227559535,0.0,0.09266691026244728,0.0,0.09097788873109078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997886625472196,0.09642304769702234,0.0,0.16422714356368956,0.0,0.0,0.05077085825366123,0.0753038485056239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026658349774468,0.462956326637452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084611830962033,0.15708013866248194,0.0,0.0,0.06166585667388801,0.0,0.0,0.10063133253649408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373861555172123,0.09818769157549752,0.0,0.13700050770117386,0.07125087187159893,0.08922333454587081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387922252344336,0.0,0.18780177215994415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025795350278423,0.1000409537875941,0.08818929293073895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140794797467534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836484575506225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637481493899212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653886187194827,0.09846716659322303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657796636446836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074614196489288,0.0,0.10564713254810633,0.0,0.18412394831108572,0.0591948035105397,0.0,0.0,0.1616064657616613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544294168756392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797885863031556,0.0,0.0,0.05448943349232691,0.2199861452205157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336059450505393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451072913538292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225452262544623,0.17847338403269888
parenting,not-drinking-that-KA,2020/03/01,"What do you do if you disagree with your partners disciplining choice? Context: Our 3 year old daughter had been sick and stuck inside for 5 days. 3 days ago she threw a tantrum (something little didn’t go her way, this combined with sick and tired did not go well). She ended up throwing a toy and breaking it.

My wife at the end of her fuse decided  to teach Miss 3 a lesson by locking away 95% of our daughters toys and said she couldn’t have them back for a month.

While I normally back up my wife’s discipline choices this was out of the ordinary  (usually its timeouts , no t.v / computer for the night etc). I disagreed with my wife in this ( mainly the timeframe I felt a month is too long for a 3 year old) but she wouldn’t budge. I didn’t push it further because Miss 3 was watching.

How do others sort out these parenting disagreements especially if a punishment is still ongoing?

Little bit added:  I’m the one who has been staying home from work  to look after Miss 3 so it is now my responsibility to enforce.",3.68355,5.381016855000002,4.5070000000000014,85.01350000000002,72.95,7.6,29.0,8.278499904357787,1.9968,801,33,160,13,16,258,130,200,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.9705,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,3,1,2,9,6,2,0,12,0,18,3,0,1,0,23,29,10,0,5,4,6,1,0,1,1,3,1,1,1,11,9,0,2,3,2,0,5,6,5,1,1,12,4,20,1,23,15,3,38,0,3,2,0,21,10,0,3,20,105,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965811379044413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802292877897166,0.2422916603385906,0.0,0.0960407046491084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200323429905753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321277009772185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790841637483255,0.0,0.17570932377374485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127221409904867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17907800781490502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803498075972375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158119504169596,0.0,0.1394263377595401,0.13230188880812252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515089940294977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784952038560528,0.1543650458469511,0.0,0.0,0.33064336681158485,0.0,0.106759609465351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749400600338775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986564013115355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128929187941227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792678998309735,0.12581922343409505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18107995826634604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735185009562661,0.0,0.0,0.12505544905895968,0.0,0.0,0.14165590929644153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469790257753468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291340768672975
parenting,owosch213,2020/03/01,"A question to dog owners Are there parents who have dogs? Have anyone tried this shitty app from the post? My kid asked me to buy a subscription today. Tell if it's worth it, please.

[https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/fbt3f9/family\_app\_talk\_to\_your\_dog/](https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/fbt3f9/family_app_talk_to_your_dog/)",20.71378378378379,28.193212270270273,11.852756756756758,23.264540540540565,47.9189189189189,5.122162162162162,18.210810810810813,6.742157984588678,0.24741513513513524,302,4,29,2,5,77,33,37,0.11599999999999999,0.779,0.106,-0.3421,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457379542151447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285528829672612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39023719045064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857801918897465,0.0,0.0,0.33658639283474123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936979327243883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307177718943216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331280057197163,0.0,0.0,0.2386075405427196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cr1st14n0,2020/03/01,"A question to dog owners  Are there parents who have dogs? Have anyone tried this shitty app from the post? My child asked me to buy a subscription today. Tell if it's worth it, please.

[https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/fbt3f9/family\_app\_talk\_to\_your\_dog/](https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/fbt3f9/family_app_talk_to_your_dog/)",20.968378378378386,28.51104205405406,11.852756756756758,23.264540540540565,47.37837837837838,5.122162162162162,18.210810810810813,6.742157984588678,0.24741513513513524,304,4,29,2,5,77,33,37,0.11599999999999999,0.779,0.106,-0.3421,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457379542151447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285528829672612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39023719045064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857801918897465,0.0,0.0,0.33658639283474123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936979327243883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307177718943216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331280057197163,0.0,0.0,0.2386075405427196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StanislasWawrinka123,2020/03/01,"A question to dog owners Are there parents who have dogs? Have anyone tried this shitty app from the post? My child asked me to buy a subscription today. Tell if it's worth it, please.  


[https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/fbt3f9/family\_app\_talk\_to\_your\_dog/](https://www.reddit.com/r/family/comments/fbt3f9/family_app_talk_to_your_dog/)",20.968378378378386,28.51104205405406,11.852756756756758,23.264540540540565,47.37837837837838,5.122162162162162,18.210810810810813,6.742157984588678,0.24741513513513524,304,4,29,2,5,77,33,37,0.11599999999999999,0.779,0.106,-0.3421,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457379542151447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285528829672612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39023719045064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857801918897465,0.0,0.0,0.33658639283474123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936979327243883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307177718943216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331280057197163,0.0,0.0,0.2386075405427196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Schnabellex,2020/03/01,"Is it easier for moms to make friends? I know this is not the main thing about having a child, but I hope it to be a positive side effect?

I don't really think have friends at all. I would love to have one or a few female friends, but I just can't fit in somehow.  I'm not interested in late night drinking and clubbing anymore,  but most of the females at my adge only bond through this.

I also don't klick with older females. 

I'm pregnant atm,  and I really hope to get a friend through playdates with other kids,  day care talk and so on.

Is this likely to happen?",3.5550641025641028,4.238139153846156,4.737681623931625,87.14447115384618,71.99145299145297,7.559401709401709,27.44551282051281,7.645422480735847,1.4049153846153852,439,15,95,5,8,145,77,117,0.040999999999999995,0.662,0.29600000000000004,0.9893,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,5,10,0,0,6,0,11,2,0,2,1,22,22,9,0,3,7,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,7,5,1,0,3,2,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,8,10,17,20,4,11,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,5,5,67,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495430184793847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18545274218583735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19065792514977176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059887345895605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831878112692225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5778997990098182,0.0,0.09769925008474888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536258235810006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3714643661378224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276975015400773,0.0,0.21094299698856336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135825700415584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877388233490345,0.0,0.12482327266845668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901094783873212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548587710680338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126715349889163,0.14222115243610747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23959267271965426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030269847159805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423381454219146,0.11982139708570025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283871166969055,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,creamerdreamer42,2020/03/01,"24 years old and parents putting a lock on door if I don't stick to my curfew. I'm 24 years old and my curfew is 12:30 weekdays and 1:30 weekends. I've been ignoring the curfew for a few weeks now and coming home when I please which is maybe 1 to 2 hours after. My parents have had enough and decided to put locks on the doors and said if I don't come home by the curfew, I will have to sleep in my car the night and come home the next morning. There is absolutely no way around this and no negotiating with them. I feel stuck, trapped and helpless. And no I do not have the money to move out and live on my own as of yet. What would you do if you were in my situation? Is anyone else in a similar situation? Does anyone else find this situation to be completely asinine?",4.2605590062111816,4.3835273850931715,5.420677018633544,84.87486645962736,70.18012422360249,8.676024844720498,27.280124223602485,8.548686976883017,1.586423105590062,603,18,136,9,10,201,94,161,0.12,0.866,0.013999999999999999,-0.9415,2,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,5,2,0,0,9,0,17,1,1,0,0,26,24,16,0,4,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,4,17,0,1,3,1,1,7,6,2,0,0,5,2,15,0,20,16,3,29,0,1,0,0,6,8,0,3,13,90,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123826330481784,0.25092677691556103,0.0,0.10900549910837827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164367055602193,0.1283853624957665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715587469677333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458072002071234,0.0,0.0,0.1265224665898435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191385292010294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119160941506693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684787506525623,0.0,0.12058752033383713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812463936098256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301639797567225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014382307100694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022581513041975,0.11491001611240073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569790859563504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719300686910364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441214298293425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461899696011409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116476963044939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129131480635079,0.12253735072942805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719425283781744,0.09822113728541344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698419924142663,0.0,0.0,0.1577061791332966
parenting,confusedmomthrway1,2020/03/01,"I don't know what to do about my ex who is barely involved with our son; son doesnt want to play with him anymore. I'm not even sure if this is the right subreddit, but my 4 year old son ""Ryan"" has recently been displaying and vocalizing a serious disinterest in wanting to play with his Dad, and I need help with what to do about it going forward.


Backstory is needed to understand my confusion so I'll make it as short as I can:

When Ryan was 7 months old, David took me to court requesting 50/50 custody out the gate. Because hed never seen Ryan before that day, the Judge gave him supervised visitation 3x week (at my parents' - i lived with them) to get to know Ryan: 2 week days and 1 weekend day. The Judge also said after Ryan turned 1 year old, David could come back to court and get the 50/50 he initially desired (and ask for his child support amount to be lowered).


From the beginning, David was a nightmare to deal with. He'd routinely show up late; would sometimes miss days and then ask to make them up on a different day only to no call/no show that day; stuff like that. 


Then when Ryan was about 2 or 3 David claimed his car broke down and would need to fix it. This ended up taking about 7 months, during which time he never once called or texted to ask about his son, or showed up to his visits.  I had honestly assumed he was dipping out. But when he came back, he started only showing up on his 1 weekend day despite him legally having 3 visitation days. It's been this way ever since. 


David has told me multiple times that he wants to be involved and eventually have Ryan come over to his house but his actions have never shown that he actually wants those things.


More examples:

If I tell David Ryan is not feeling well and is just going to take it easy on a day hes scheduled to visit, he simply says ""ok."" he has NEVER asked what was wrong or if he could make up the visit at another time.


David plays on his phone most of the time they're together, claiming Ryan ""just doesnt wanna play with me"". He also rarely initiates playing and kind of just let's Ryan take the reins. 


At first I thought it was just because he doesn't know any better or is inexperienced/embarrassed, and we've all (me and my parents and grandmother) tried to help him out on our own accord and teach him what to do but its evident now that he just doesn't care. He has never reached out to us on his own to ask for help/advice.


David doesn't know anything about Ryan. And he doesn't ever ask to know. 


Keep in mind, Ryan is 4.5 years old now. He has recently starting to tell me he doesnt like playing with Daddy and that he ""wants to go home"" as soon as David comes over. And I understand why, David is boring and not fun. But what am I supposed to do here? What would you do?


TL;DR: baby daddy obviously doesn't care about his son despite him saying he does, son doesnt wanna play with him anymore. what to do from here.",5.031972789115642,5.22715110884354,5.449727891156467,85.0821768707483,68.52380952380952,8.710204081632652,28.068027210884352,8.515128840125781,1.7282292517006799,2284,69,486,32,36,731,255,588,0.094,0.856,0.051,-0.9495,5,0,0,0,0,0,72.0,3,1,2,2,29,25,0,1,13,1,54,0,0,3,10,100,107,43,0,19,21,10,1,2,0,3,0,3,2,1,29,35,0,2,10,13,0,16,19,6,1,1,16,5,46,19,82,81,6,96,0,2,1,0,84,27,0,11,56,291,75,3,0.0,0.0,0.06195473506824336,0.0,0.0,0.062039343600854426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154201445960237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04317374206143633,0.06657227952734561,0.0,0.0,0.1259252703341895,0.0,0.0,0.05224488165000367,0.0,0.3561139899043403,0.0,0.0,0.09763608425645416,0.0,0.07740289796244433,0.0,0.05402326773696745,0.0,0.0,0.0561496190057751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12965586680561378,0.0726128960292046,0.12945966979437934,0.0,0.0,0.16406682599037198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137935803980147,0.0,0.0,0.3684982224309692,0.06545292328869398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633102471156012,0.0,0.0,0.055558422707620826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056231165547123804,0.0,0.0,0.04193295809987613,0.11485632983018425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03210123590261845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054002516348455175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633929664971612,0.0,0.1082443908824204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276631911231026,0.0,0.06368323480618752,0.0,0.0,0.07325616126547169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056430692010210275,0.0,0.06611256103858952,0.17445561087137212,0.0,0.07161677311374241,0.0,0.0,0.06492036787362263,0.0,0.06203366461403149,0.0,0.05606071002383798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271353890714324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641043732338752,0.0,0.10135038613381814,0.0,0.0,0.14122574297218746,0.24482773789984694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664782070975127,0.06761221725764115,0.0,0.09657035456402377,0.0,0.0,0.1409909232321716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537268282463354,0.0,0.0,0.05421805971567484,0.0603912418881642,0.10097576838545523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05251759510777573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279085537986487,0.0,0.08987369380875079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267810763904355,0.0,0.0720449710764704,0.05983630746800056,0.0,0.14320431219118807,0.0,0.11098191369239732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04217833744727375,0.0,0.0,0.05040205923932019,0.14808051009291212,0.0,0.0,0.060665118256214026,0.07053705467584066,0.04310390994823835,0.06905627304443168,0.0,0.13218565197109294,0.07636776043406683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18723314383312376,0.050393498249120636,0.1018518392868026,0.0,0.05708297295979661,0.0,0.05728768012674361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352992990075778,0.06941371929227694,0.0,0.12265179004910827
parenting,benchambers89,2020/03/01,"Mosquito treatments Does anyone have any experience with professional mosquito treatments for a yard that are child-safe? We’re putting in a swing set for my toddler this spring, but we have a TERRIBLE mosquito problem. We’ve done everything possible to limit them, but by the time summer comes around, we can’t be outside without getting eaten alive. I don’t want my kiddo to deal with that, but I don’t want any treatments that aren’t safe. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!",6.937765151515151,8.440761488636365,6.8913636363636375,71.7778787878788,64.79545454545455,9.957575757575757,36.25757575757576,10.125756701596842,3.9784030303030296,393,19,64,9,6,125,59,88,0.125,0.746,0.129,-0.3022,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,11,1,0,0,0,16,16,3,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,6,1,2,0,1,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,0,7,2,10,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,39,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22054520550026024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604382281870354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781023541164066,0.0,0.0,0.20091518266376354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944150800316961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326802248291191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750601863482325,0.2309629450995551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20283888399070074,0.22077167969876665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791560776726905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488280264882981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25443565943835017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159583256149028,0.0,0.2268844375604433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160377203190976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662399038185012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21756060773648175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032628098951732,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SquirrelsBeware,2020/03/01,"Conflicted on whether or not my younger brother should watch my kids My husband( an only child) and I have been wanting to get away for awhile, just us, and are looking to do that in a few months. One of the first obstacles we've faced is who would watch our 15y daughter and 13y son. My younger brother, my only sibling, is 26, lives very close, and we see him a lot. Anytime he comes over it's a non-stop party. My kids love him, he's the epitome of "" fun uncle"". He has offered to take them for free. The concern my husband and I have is, would he stick to the general house rules and chores set in place for our kids? Or would it just become pandemonium? I think, if we sat him down and really hammered it in that homework still needs to get done, no staying up all night blaring music or whatever, he would get it. That being said, I could also see him letting everything slide and keeping a lot of secrets from us. He's like a roller coaster, he can be very mature and very calm, but then he can flip a switch and become loud, obnoxious, and inappropriate. 

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My husband's leaning more towards giving him a shot

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TLDR: Should my younger brother watch my kids?",5.1099999999999985,5.797348051948056,5.3320173160173185,84.26374025974026,68.48051948051948,7.891601731601733,31.85021645021645,7.793537801064563,2.066460086580087,924,38,184,10,15,292,136,231,0.032,0.887,0.08,0.8402,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,6,0,1,1,4,5,0,0,12,0,22,2,1,0,1,41,38,19,0,10,9,8,0,1,0,6,0,2,2,5,8,15,0,2,2,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,4,8,26,6,21,24,5,20,0,0,6,1,39,11,0,6,6,120,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939763266431132,0.0,0.2546538868497592,0.285586031468342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104087686411115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595711299801092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122836156458884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382578942047523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025816367098854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561448157530157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995779861018046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841894740144744,0.1127306445669665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559598903650705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445231312912842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016656808615615,0.0,0.057411663139269785,0.0,0.1037674823585665,0.0,0.0986826078411792,0.0,0.0,0.19981330094287936,0.10606145078793984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379897615195136,0.0,0.0,0.08713553447212555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027942511749968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963088636947617,0.17875018991592878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227776714503916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528281661608527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178322794301596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728773042673766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525485245311685,0.09384725491739336,0.09824740846668306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835630118759377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529856536172727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28271101918743563,0.0,0.0,0.2908853814268305,0.06931311409142409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339157998992006,0.0,0.285586031468342,0.0
parenting,hotmomminute,2020/03/01,"Do you regret your divorce. I never thought divorce would be an possibility. But in the last couple years, I’m realizing that after 15 years, nothing is getting better. I know divorce is hard but sometimes I wonder if being married is even harder. Do you regret your divorce?",3.4606666666666683,6.520066800000002,5.124000000000001,73.16866666666667,81.0,4.933333333333334,30.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,2.118333333333334,220,11,31,2,6,74,36,50,0.168,0.8320000000000001,0.0,-0.7582,0,0,0,0,4,0,7.0,0,4,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,1,11,13,3,0,4,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,1,2,9,0,6,0,2,0,0,8,1,0,2,5,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25301161390016197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165384529646747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889509776258023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946328049545587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562685528004174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722028552309392,0.2331907115670678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206400050094554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27449833145106073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32250852160078874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28293719421671043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22711296314798454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102380031043205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20322069622560274,0.0,0.0,0.3684480607057724
parenting,CoachSwoosh,2020/03/01,"Postpartum Hey, first time parent here. So far everything is going well, but my girl (has history of anxiety and depression) is starting to show signs or tells of PPD. Is there any good ways to go about this or how I can help? I know we should seek professional help but I’m not sure the best way to go about that with her. I just want to catch it before it gets to dark for her. Thanks",0.8449648382559793,3.1570413164556967,2.1725738396624514,95.12049226441636,85.20253164556964,6.549085794655415,17.638537271448666,7.793537801064563,0.3554292545710265,300,7,69,6,9,96,62,79,0.09699999999999999,0.711,0.192,0.8296,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,15,15,7,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,1,1,1,0,0,7,5,11,14,1,10,0,1,0,0,9,1,0,2,3,43,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544776156327408,0.0,0.1737779324058818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329771268889326,0.0,0.23839198865504466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956538746014272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041581165829782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322346327558354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186825125630572,0.0,0.3873033610415375,0.19053229591336227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30452314187792795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484202440832502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522359726864973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078608506909856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21409703362685006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854917117404253,0.20913979712234046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324597025217418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398574339747993,0.3606204642552992,0.0,0.0,0.2042454773438333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,charliekindafine,2020/03/01,"Running out of wall space for art I create ""Letter Adventures"" for my boyfriend's son that we do every weekend when he comes over. They're several activities about a new letter every weekend, and each adventure has at least one art activity that we hang up on the wall in his room when we're finished. He also receives badgers(stickers) for each completed adventure that we put on a piece of paper on his wall. I'm also somewhat of an artist, and have given him some art that his dad hangs on his wall.

I'm worried about running out of wall space. For flat pieces, I think we could eventually take some down and put them in a binder of photo album, however this weekend for the Letter C adventure we made pompom art and I don't know how well stuff like that would go in a book. I also don't know how he'd react to us removing art from his wall and putting it in a book.

Do y'all have any suggestions, besides also taking over the walls in his dad's room and in his room at his mom's house? For some activities, all three of us make an art piece, which obviously triples the amount of space it takes up, but I know his dad and I like making art with him and I think he likes it, too.",6.053836578359403,5.341878539419092,6.6225726141078844,80.60103415256944,66.5103734439834,9.905011171401213,30.156718799872326,9.265573868473778,2.249319565911267,932,28,198,15,13,306,119,241,0.013000000000000001,0.912,0.07400000000000001,0.8977,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,7,1,1,0,12,8,0,0,11,0,10,0,0,6,2,39,26,17,0,2,1,5,0,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,11,19,0,0,5,13,0,11,2,0,1,2,2,0,29,8,37,21,13,50,0,0,0,0,34,32,0,4,10,130,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332233523517064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209918361854287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166636633836112,0.14199907707045678,0.0,0.0,0.10813234694772543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282165337195278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696977804526915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627166711603335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22329154581130187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849738272705755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815011757380046,0.18080535349229507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861766398258847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080217654025136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177300490455582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40844315646012896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530009056970157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503855030614436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054866132450459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735601830722978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325818798877589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177066330353027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753893405055245,0.0,0.09620782129584753,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gothjoose,2020/03/01,"A big fuck you to my neighbors f u c k  y o u

They started banging on the wall when the baby was crying at 4 am. I get it, it sucks, but it’s rare and I gave up sleep training to accommodate my  neighbors. Now I don’t sleep.

These are the same people who a) fight like banshees b)used to stand outside my front window on business calls and c) one time got aggressive with me for knocking on the wall after hearing movie explosions blasting through my bedroom wall louder and louder.

We have had them over for parties and were friendly for a time. I don’t get it.",0.9729899665551862,3.30023903478261,2.533043478260872,92.65789297658866,84.73913043478261,4.5819397993311055,24.49832775919733,5.8734145424116955,0.5513812709030095,439,18,91,3,13,143,81,115,0.10099999999999999,0.8,0.099,0.4118,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,1,2,0,2,6,4,0,7,0,8,3,2,0,0,8,16,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,5,1,13,2,15,11,1,18,0,0,0,1,12,10,2,0,7,58,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682134038913089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885284725037009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029366511620856,0.2428323405298764,0.2744663855875015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21007960092569905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960459347915094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832632068185615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799063990954467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18210092354298907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5257154067597091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859177677850101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30632765520381083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268608230408216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway091-6,2020/03/01,"I may never see my daughter again I don’t know what I’m looking for. Just support, I guess. 

I left an abusive marriage 15 months ago. I’m in the US  on a visa that’s dependent on my husband. I’ve exhausted all possibilities for getting my own visa to continue living here, every single immigration attorney I’ve spoken to has told me there’s nothing they can do.

My daughter is a US citizen. Her Dad is going to file for divorce, which means I’ll lose my visa status and I’ll have to leave the country, while he gets sole custody of her.

I’ve spoken to every single helpline, non-profit, everything. No one can help. Everyone tells me how sorry they are. 

I’m sitting with her now on the couch not knowing how long I’ll have with her. 

Of course, my husband is giving me the option of going back to him. I don’t know what’s worse — I know the abuse will get worse if I go back and that she’ll have to grow up seeing all that, that will be her perception of how women get treated. I can’t do that to her. I can’t give her lifelong trauma, but I don’t know what’s worse. Not being able to see her ever again, or going back to a life of abuse.",2.33241447368421,3.6368177458333366,4.135482456140352,87.91144736842108,75.70833333333334,6.719298245614036,24.298245614035093,7.273561745256523,0.9404166666666662,889,28,192,10,19,301,126,240,0.127,0.85,0.024,-0.9648,0,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,2,0,2,1,13,5,0,0,9,0,23,2,0,4,4,28,49,9,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,9,4,0,0,7,0,3,5,9,3,0,1,1,4,33,2,25,42,5,25,0,1,4,0,29,6,0,6,13,127,42,0,0.10910444046079328,0.3878127631677253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671450348325157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25168374029747353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986912127438859,0.18385039344829995,0.10425396842836608,0.09805603599122824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280102680841996,0.2093258419886584,0.24802627130674365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019084171094455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313040661796945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29980473574816363,0.0,0.0,0.11552584901041332,0.11854229379593625,0.0,0.07706369289909439,0.0,0.0,0.0963412198128918,0.09655399649128522,0.09162025133157313,0.12205996104058578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884672072453514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708612345872642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414807055876608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046886531851626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739319925013462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299886337612935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26082633974318026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213348858375367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381042608879332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953620899356087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425396842836608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624784163978021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335602376479974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mking9,2020/03/01,"Parents - Watch out for EA. Should EA games be banned? EA have created games which promote gambling and consume vast amounts of time - with one problem, they advertise and promote their games to young children. 

They do this through:

* Advertising with professional sports players
* Esports competitions
* Social media personalities (Bateson, Nepenthez, Castro - combined spend of at-least $100,000 in the last 6 months on Fifa 20, to promote gambling & pack opening to your children). 
* Encourage consumers to play 30 games a weekend (10 hours +), in addition to games on weekdays.
* At sports games

We ban advertising - alcohol, smoking, e-cigarettes, sex, and sports gambling to children. In states like New York legally you can't gamble on sports online. Have EA found a loophole? 

Why is the advertising of gambling within video gaming to children allowed? How is encouraging children to spend 10+ hours of their weekend on one EA game not seen as damaging?

Finally, why are EA not being held accountable for this? How can this be allowed to persist when the age range for many of their games is 3+.",5.216595744680852,8.449216617021277,4.897276595744682,76.69400000000002,74.31914893617022,7.164255319148936,35.99574468085106,8.238735603445708,3.49699914893617,876,50,132,16,20,268,117,188,0.046,0.823,0.131,0.9344,3,0,2,0,0,0,45.0,1,2,5,4,3,6,0,0,5,0,13,2,0,4,0,21,16,7,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,6,4,9,1,3,1,17,8,0,3,2,0,2,3,3,8,4,31,9,1,25,0,1,2,1,27,12,0,0,13,71,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23057637753262875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233770348761098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363489517387702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23656411640690825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4249502406092334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586904349831506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540694808196653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21874160897640305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722135062592807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083774311101852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924022139859267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23957028844948355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18838886045549685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064483051613756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21993495436602906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580841980262564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893704853599837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ihabdapumkin,2020/03/01,9 year old jealous of baby sister My 9 year old has been moving around claiming he’s being ignored and nobody pays attention to him. My husband took him on a lunch date and they went window shopping just the two of them wherever he wanted to go. I make it a point to continue with a made up bedtime story every night. Sometimes I have the baby with me but I try to make the time about him. It seems no matter what we do to try to make him feel special isn’t good enough. Baby sister is 4 months old and EBF so she is pretty needy. I’ll still cuddle him on the couch while feeding baby or even video game with him. I try my best to make him feel included and loved but it’s not good enough. I’m at my wits end me and don’t want to blow up on him and call him out for being a brat. How can I explain to him that he’s not? We have told him but it’s not a good enough answer for him.,1.2936852331606197,2.5848001658031134,3.1154112694300515,94.21125161917101,78.43005181347152,5.654015544041451,19.31638601036269,5.985473137389443,-0.2441085492227977,684,14,161,4,16,229,108,193,0.047,0.787,0.166,0.9798,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,2,1,7,8,1,0,9,0,12,4,0,6,0,37,29,13,0,2,8,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,13,2,1,6,3,2,4,6,2,0,1,5,2,28,6,25,22,4,26,0,0,0,2,28,9,0,2,13,105,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548286084395433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361385108865144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246385248537054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489795258215273,0.40212218252314935,0.0,0.08568221882847676,0.0,0.109299009281294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118583777092668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372577567309849,0.3264218297071322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708198633820124,0.12274904593294347,0.3463701018918953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354535378096867,0.13787727346183154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173823805981696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083740765288989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226321700303899,0.0,0.0,0.13197708488689291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809687785093285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283014615441764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035986490519075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564376116629629,0.0,0.0,0.1239579121822008,0.14412938242650386,0.26422452494894394,0.0,0.12672259323440954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303047463184588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025648665155601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707744919340867
parenting,S_Halim,2020/03/01,"What do you believe are the right motives to decide to have a baby? I'm not sure if this is the right place, but I'd be very happy to hear from people who are already experiencing parenthood. How do you come to the decision of wanting to have a baby? How do you know it's the right time? What kind of factors come in this equation? And most importantly what do you believe are the right motives to have one? I just had an unplanned pregnancy earlier (did not last) but it made me reconsider everything I know about myself and the possibility of bearing a child of my own. All advice is welcomed :)",4.8432692307692315,5.8463035299145325,6.149647435897435,77.02139423076926,69.25641025641025,8.926923076923078,31.71901709401709,9.188382445141503,2.76047094017094,471,20,90,9,8,159,72,117,0.012,0.851,0.13699999999999998,0.9549,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,0,2,4,4,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,5,2,23,23,7,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,4,0,0,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,2,9,4,13,19,3,10,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,2,69,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634363977170846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784948523634692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38357457797557537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932705969791955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298885402523374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120957319400693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19185795332656466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726499668569615,0.1871043734933469,0.1387575459714296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610726956183605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535007196900099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801381604662088,0.0,0.17785075469683226,0.0,0.0,0.19190511796748208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5814909617671057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043672606795914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992606046357612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140454921501317,0.10040416556139284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,homicidal_lollipop,2020/03/01,"Introvert parents: how do you get the alone time you need while having children? Disclaimer: I do not yet have children nor am I expecting, I’m still debating on whether or not I even want kids.

(21F) I mean like ones who want to be glued to your side. Some family just moved down and are staying with me/my mother so I have issues with working more than 4 days in a row right now because all the interaction between family and work honestly gives me anxiety. I began wondering how on gods green earth I’d deal with it while having kids so...advice? Tips? Tricks? Go nuts, I’m all ears.",0.9627934782608704,3.5509797304347828,2.39921195652174,90.6631657608696,90.82608695652176,6.005434782608695,21.100543478260867,7.413659706084162,1.029619565217391,459,16,92,9,16,148,86,115,0.099,0.851,0.05,-0.3408,1,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,0,2,8,3,1,0,3,0,9,1,1,2,2,21,20,10,0,4,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,2,10,2,11,18,4,17,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,3,9,57,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206316769450536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141618719657644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15818624743544155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605125911431045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335608913174785,0.21318125316846226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657633773457986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389867841632007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803409292907566,0.19836236022062584,0.11751792350557615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582475161254405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010223355702712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524420113095905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197745731111676,0.0,0.15332485983178154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011957997212052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296048838601273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658911678504974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22040012506916054,0.1651348935078817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057516733131547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439285778632957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22424425013555102,0.30107682134343816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mhanson0429,2020/03/01,"The affects medication had on my life as a child Growing up I was hyper. So when I was around 7-9 years old I was taken to the doctor and we began the decade long process of what medications would suit me best. As a child I had been on and off so many medications I can not even begin to list them. Every appointment I went to it was always my mother speaking. Years went by and finally they decided on a combination of pills. Every-time I would speak up at the doctors about how I was feel, which was constantly tired and always hungry my mother would chime in with other possible reasons on why I am like this. ""ooh she is just tired because she is always sleeping"" what started off as ADHD, turning in medication for sleeping, medication for AUTISM, medication for bi-polar. When in reality I did not have these. I was misunderstood. We should not expect our children to be able to sit in a desk for 8 hours of the day. it is unrealistic so our solution instead of given children more activities is to give them medication. i was being medicated twice a day morning and after night. I truly believe that these medications I was put on suppressed who i was. i was not able to process my emotions through the day. My mind was numb and emotionless. when my medications wore off when i got home i would have to take more. when i stopped living with my mother i went to  a different doctor who advised me to get off these medications because she thought I was either misdiagnosed or on way to many. I do believe that I had mental disorder when I began on medications, but I can honestly say that as i grew older things change. Even if my ADHD is not gone i am to the point that I am able to get stuff done and yes i do still fidget but my fidgeting allows me to focus on what is happening. some people may need to be on medications and that is fine but consider other options. depending on the person all they may need is a 10 minute break every 2 hours or changing what you eat  can impact your life.",5.109921306315169,5.976729117647063,6.450959079283887,75.59756000393469,68.56521739130434,9.391343694668503,30.383730080661024,9.565088089820216,2.762244068463505,1579,60,299,33,26,536,189,391,0.028999999999999998,0.9179999999999999,0.052000000000000005,0.8573,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,2,4,1,17,5,0,0,15,1,47,25,2,5,1,50,69,28,0,9,13,3,1,1,0,7,22,3,1,5,22,13,1,2,4,0,0,7,5,1,0,1,30,4,54,4,55,29,6,59,0,0,0,0,28,23,0,8,27,234,76,5,0.17486933387074569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010597136728284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455052942707244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051890260532229074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106581523275378,0.0,0.0,0.13134523789225686,0.06117152577226581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332571225935934,0.0,0.0,0.06299054214843088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277625376758553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090041161815558,0.06680513552815749,0.17898617306483913,0.0,0.05965068062856936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05964499490894421,0.0,0.06556815461190668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699969719310742,0.0,0.09822330389241966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029473063146878614,0.0,0.0,0.06385360256996336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609080063212492,0.05591686643839145,0.0,0.0,0.04661966030469949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051545458142352216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584693999487778,0.0,0.11480737941187655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234358800900185,0.02847744117933643,0.0,0.05147094185419365,0.051584619219528935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181933718117894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7633706456470917,0.05874238627847968,0.0,0.058856059188642264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644226353591601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054701007954715324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06116531656972245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404107926678172,0.050896385770431665,0.0,0.0,0.05510268109055664,0.06571296644634662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859732659140161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059931599888518476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04635437101171483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166637482748874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04125780485374525,0.0,0.04655029197236825,0.048732864415461916,0.0,0.0,0.06672785005347563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382665877122747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03872513839607199,0.0,0.0,0.046275572666410345,0.0,0.13399104997747824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340254008602235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04626771257636532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621056244390688,0.052597458211133034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562954338064315,0.0,0.0,0.07507341179762704
parenting,YourLocalDweeb,2020/03/01,"TWO YEAR OLD BEDTIME ROUTINE BACKSTORY: my boyfriend (not his father) and I got him a “big boy bed” right before Christmas. After the first week, he’s been mostly great. The hardest part was making sure my family, that babysits while I’m at work, gives him a proper nap. BUT, when I put him to sleep, I always have to rub his back to get him to sleep or he pitches the worst fits, and gets very worked up. Where as, if my boyfriend puts him to sleep (or anyone else) they can just put him to bed, and walk out of the room.. any advice would be great. Also I don’t know if he has separation issues or what, but every day I come home from work he runs to me and cries. Everyone always says “oh you were just playing, you’re fine.” But he always cries and wants me to “baby him” for a little bit when I first see him. Idk if this plays into the bedtime routine issue or not? Thank you for any advice!",1.608418514946962,3.492059530054646,2.7295467695274844,94.6662005785921,79.38251366120218,5.180199292831888,18.414979106396657,5.900188976854957,-0.3760154934104789,686,14,152,4,17,219,117,183,0.076,0.851,0.073,-0.373,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,1,5,7,8,0,0,8,0,9,3,3,1,1,28,20,20,0,5,14,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,3,8,0,0,1,3,0,6,3,1,0,3,4,3,24,7,18,14,4,27,0,0,1,0,22,10,0,8,11,93,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245757001791817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918927718738619,0.28684074822969224,0.0,0.0,0.1562842672092507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034711984017462,0.11773796011966504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088358010868545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777918715624333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545098435813065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898402149453728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25244451807962764,0.07410686824230663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599181462868124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681587918606337,0.10980057668320084,0.0,0.0,0.10832608004570438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548325653505144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007053209940198,0.11023128669122977,0.0,0.0,0.09190331053613496,0.253375393702438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526320409100713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398705081307258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631510404328096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516911357313303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670272164161647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205777786883949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443536577642166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465461738965548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813175008219034,0.0,0.09138033451881243,0.0,0.0,0.09156768146639814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449762809061797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083004740686679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057928678005464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224950122971504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481204806826353,0.06777636888552463,0.0,0.09217315494798434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509655967947727,0.0,0.0,0.08162813317268555,0.0,0.0,0.07399769788486589
parenting,Ka_Mi,2020/03/01,"Why am I resenting my husband?! My husband is a loving and active father, he's a thoughtful and adoring husband, he works super hard to provide for us (I am able to step back from my job and stay home with our LO while finishing my graduate degree).

Still----I get SO frustrated when I'm in charge of EVVVVVVERYTHING for our 5 month old baby and the house.  I roll my eyes as he sleeps through the night.  I shake my head as I constantly keep an eye on the clock for her schedule. I grumble under my breath as I read and research everything that we do for our LO.

He works long hours in a VERY involved field, so I of course know he deserves time to clear his head on a day off ---- but for some reason I get really frustrated and even resentful as he leaves for the gym or to go on the river.  I technically could do the same, but in my gut I think a lot of the routine would crumble, and then I'd pay the price later when she's fussy and waking up all night. 

I really need to establish ""me time"" in the same way he is doing so that I don't turn into a mother-martyr, but I am fearful of handing over the reins.  

Anyone else resent a perfectly wonderful person? How did you get to a less toxic place?",5.218,4.8519280857142855,6.16561224489796,82.02760204081635,68.14285714285714,9.285714285714286,29.744897959183675,8.841846274778883,2.142224489795918,931,30,195,14,14,310,147,245,0.10400000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.094,-0.3472,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,1,0,4,8,11,5,2,19,0,12,10,9,2,3,33,25,24,0,3,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,11,0,2,5,2,2,3,1,7,0,0,2,4,32,4,35,21,6,37,0,0,2,1,23,13,0,4,19,128,34,7,0.1410322880404285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861305496189628,0.1445042455221485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084451240994816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524058007334772,0.0,0.1126028060985587,0.0,0.0,0.09095415847598984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781437978984227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315049614351624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675072667630793,0.0,0.0,0.15870053335549458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210506488242913,0.0,0.08015189938372881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633722851974266,0.0,0.28947963069112875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146688397444426,0.0,0.13888839492878569,0.1627323250412014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399527842410845,0.12535597765254178,0.0,0.0,0.07750765719405099,0.0,0.0,0.14933282957998867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480913688849185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990060792962545,0.12728714622463894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257062678735744,0.0,0.0,0.10457365456834472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26469849707348064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479896621140192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314395404796212,0.14734872380987385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107045338050198,0.0,0.18069779011365267,0.1450046809999644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113413987218673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032165410807646,0.11262856740791947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036779554210628,0.0,0.11196388324465573,0.16447412261598202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153402630946991,0.0,0.0,0.1696444776650166,0.0,0.0,0.1163664077294112,0.0,0.11194486573383122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725970378734108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529435003452181,0.20534637075975146,0.0,0.0,0.1001852910098978,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TinyBandaids,2020/03/01,"Are these night terrors? <2 y/o Has anyone else experienced night terrors in a child under 2? Do you have any tips for soothing them or preventing them? 

My son is 15 months old, and just spent 30 days in a children's hospital for a very extensive staph and strep infection. He also had 3 surgeries, with multiple chest/neck tubes, and was on some very strong pain killers. He's doing well now, and is on day number 3 back home with my husband and I. He is experiencing minor withdrawal symptoms from the opiates. 

Unfortunately this is the second night in a row that I've awoken to him sitting up, screaming, trashing out, and being generally terrified. He will also attempt to yank out his PICC line, which freaks me out to be honest. Overall he is inconsolable. I think his eyes are shut still, but I can't tell if that's from squinting or what. It occured to me during his episode last night that he might be experiencing night terrors. The hospital was a pretty terrifying experience for him (and us!), and he might still be under stress from the opiate withdrawal.

Is this something his pediatrician might be able to help with? We are looking for a new one, but in the mean time we are supposed to follow up with his old ped regardless (before I took him to the ER on a Friday, I called the ped and asked to speak with a nurse... Who didn't call me back until Monday. Also his ped told me to just give him Bynadril and come back Monday if his throat swelling wasn't any better...).

Anyway, thanks.",5.553432972675594,6.4974024947735245,5.965860993948287,79.19444709334313,67.60627177700349,8.690188886851274,29.739409499358157,8.841846274778883,2.277464111498257,1184,42,224,19,19,381,167,287,0.11,0.813,0.076,-0.9027,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,3,1,2,3,13,12,0,4,15,0,29,5,2,0,0,38,40,20,0,3,8,2,0,0,0,4,3,2,1,2,10,21,0,1,2,0,1,3,3,7,2,2,8,7,28,5,36,23,1,41,0,0,2,0,37,15,0,8,22,150,38,0,0.10734784951870434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575381094291942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460004375746625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506011234530062,0.10999055761386176,0.0,0.0,0.10035574840549062,0.0,0.0,0.2476316102777381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134511339770572,0.0,0.0,0.09494044936883354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21922831313538446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247066713217324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846096454709803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896753536976868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500679526663836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029778389003765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195300073683512,0.0,0.10767864567591333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750282488436112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014515734895204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693327822631976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416373128980588,0.0,0.0,0.08568402932760615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367722199195477,0.0,0.5036934241527332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225287020435854,0.0,0.07274168101805582,0.0,0.1142256804740427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921135520905367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264161910091593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145626258501495,0.0,0.12296659893315162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115755184074088,0.0,0.0,0.0938267520273431,0.09883147719839028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878416745540017,0.0,0.0,0.06259539432289465,0.0,0.0,0.10257547050614904,0.119267410654906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912624557890615,0.0,0.0,0.17714643645841074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651860867577143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andi_2020,2020/03/01,"Son hates his school uniform and won’t get a haircut. My son goes to a school with a fairly uptight uniform, blazer/tie/black dress shoes. It seems every morning I am having to tell him to tuck his shirt in or straighten his tie, and he always talks about how much he dislikes it. 

The school policy on hair is also strict, it has be out of eyes/off ears/not touch collar. He use to grumble when I would take him to the barbed but now he keeps putting it off, saying he’ll grow it just a little bit longer. It’s now definitely touching ears and collar.

I know the uniform standards are strict, but he needs to follow the rules. Plus he looks so sharp when his hair is neat and he’s in his uniform.",3.1348271446862985,4.515664774647888,3.5713060179257385,92.45058258642769,73.78873239436619,5.727016645326503,22.76824583866837,5.565023196281405,0.1403718309859152,546,14,117,2,11,170,91,142,0.040999999999999995,0.903,0.055999999999999994,0.6059,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,9,3,1,1,8,0,9,5,5,2,0,20,20,13,0,2,4,2,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,2,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,8,11,1,15,16,2,13,0,0,1,0,20,6,0,2,4,65,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571021477187484,0.17241995217249426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262257317677241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458805307639053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826158171219938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045824733138792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418271771548786,0.0,0.0,0.11388025695375552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076844365026581,0.0,0.0,0.17400888844817253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523272849235279,0.15364771796702453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083088790472612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647861366052162,0.0,0.6291396522292471,0.0,0.1886412705290952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580031875312286,0.16655202427891594,0.18111553972643976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896771933188693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147199994119673,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChipsAndTapatio,2020/03/01,"Tips for getting 7yo to sleep in their own bed? My wife and I have two kids, one almost 7, the other almost 4. We did co-sleeping and my wife is still weaning our youngest (she only nurses very, very occasionally for a few seconds, as a comfort). For context, the kids' bedroom and our grown-up bedroom are right across the hall from each other. We have a very small house and you can hear everything when we leave the doors open.

In an effort to speed along the weaning and move away from co-sleeping, we recently got the kids a bunk bed. They were really excited about it. Our little one is psyched to be a big kid and (with the help of a few rewards - ""if you can sleep all night by yourself you get a new Frozen coloring book in the morning!"") has taken very well to sleeping through the night all by herself with only a few exceptions and some morning snuggles in our big grown-up bed. In general she's a very independently-minded kid who likes to learn new skills and do things herself. We're so proud of her.

Our eldest has of course spent more years co-sleeping and he's having a harder time. We got him his own bed back when his baby sister was about to be born, and I slept with him, often getting up and leaving him on his own after he'd fallen asleep. He was doing great. But now that he's on a top bunk and it's just not practical to have a grown-up in bed with him, he's feeling lonely at night and asking to get into our big grown-up bed with us. We've offered rewards, threatened to take away his usual 15 minutes of Minecraft/YouTube time in the mornings before school, given heaps of praise for his efforts, reassured him that he's safe and we're in hearing distance if he needs anything, reminded him he's much more comfortable and sleeps so much better when he has his own space to stretch out in (lil dude runs HOT and tosses and turns, he's like sleeping next to a furnace made of elbows), and so on, but so far since we got the new bed he's only slept through the night on his own a handful of times. He's usually very whiny at bedtime but finally falls asleep, then gets up a little later and wants to crawl into bed with us. Sometimes he just can't fall asleep until we relent and let him join us in the big bed.

I love him so much and I feel bad for him because he just loves to snuggle, but we all need our rest and this is making our nights pretty stressful. Does anyone have any tips to help us get past this stage?

TL;DR: Older kid is having a hard time learning to sleep on his own. Looking for advice to help us inspire more independent sleep habits so we can all get more rest.",5.337379032258063,5.246486655303031,5.556747311827959,85.55975806451616,67.86363636363636,8.025024437927664,29.15347018572825,7.233258080335977,1.4805965786901267,2046,64,428,16,31,649,248,528,0.033,0.851,0.11599999999999999,0.991,0,2,0,0,0,0,60.0,22,3,2,9,19,20,0,1,30,0,28,16,14,3,4,75,58,40,0,5,11,3,5,2,0,0,0,2,12,6,10,43,0,1,5,1,1,5,2,3,1,4,13,9,56,17,73,41,24,77,1,1,2,2,84,39,0,6,34,271,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663521225693565,0.0,0.0,0.1160717474781446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03941295803042573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04052509851022222,0.0,0.047693927592517095,0.0,0.05418226089897675,0.0,0.10890560058453068,0.044565593660827976,0.04839193271318777,0.03533023804707528,0.0,0.04931740178911688,0.0,0.0,0.05125853057049984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05071883227764072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052088292840987316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586099144037275,0.0,0.0,0.06348939983510904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196211549508748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906126518166126,0.06389813854113706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0519183655069738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064420046048916,0.0,0.11654268899381262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687495388557199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273684517486315,0.0,0.059265275886483185,0.0,0.05663002795604762,0.1161769004830589,0.0,0.0,0.048669543218642426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461746960038328,0.05484060777834535,0.038686954264344736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852036101568851,0.0,0.0,0.06159944802828539,0.1278158738282882,0.08594922152231492,0.0,0.1679265925620425,0.0616382563672703,0.2719450450438692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854674598659682,0.13223743702824325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055326810105941364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05896341998426095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037128936669514674,0.0,0.0572258512975047,0.0,0.0,0.049495225802391726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058655891599953075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04794288549035712,0.0,0.579991657664985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05732126124855098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04628478238540285,0.0,0.06638990243324552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357668401112652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03850426125298506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518149344365205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304091008291111,0.05661587004121822,0.0,0.3485775373121951,0.0,0.12766357695426284,0.2869251016513316,0.034184722877616924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211058180490604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03732260723569125
parenting,chandler_skywalker,2020/03/01,"I wish people would realize how toddlers are susceptible to ideas. I hate it when people just blurt out ideas to my 1y10m boy and just expect it to be okay and funny. ""Oh, honey go pull daddy's beard"" my grandmother thinks it's funny because i don't want him to eat that sugary snack. ""Oh you banged your  head against the the table, it's okay you can hit back"" my mother believes that's acceptable behavior. The good waiter thinks it's okay to say something like ""wanna go play outside?"" And there goes our nice lunch we were trying to have.

I understand that people are trying to be funny and engaging to our baby, but we're the ones left with trying to teach him that this is wrong despite the adults saying that it's okay. We're the ones who will be apologizing to others if he takes that kind if behavior with other children. And God forbid i try and tell my family that this is not right or acceptable, i get all kinds of ""hey, you turned out just fine"" or my personal favorite ""oh look at you acting all grown-up"".

It's gets very frustrating when people just don't understand how demanding having a kid that age is. And that we're the ones left with dealing with the tantrums.",4.292352941176476,5.569096752136755,4.906440422322773,84.40228506787332,70.7948717948718,8.06998491704374,24.448466566113623,8.4952907291091,1.4672707893413777,936,25,185,15,17,300,132,234,0.079,0.747,0.174,0.9423,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,3,5,0,0,10,19,3,0,9,4,16,4,1,2,2,43,31,16,0,7,10,1,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,5,21,14,3,1,9,1,0,4,3,5,0,3,1,4,21,14,20,24,2,14,0,0,1,0,25,6,0,4,5,115,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978133381949294,0.0,0.07754341945731713,0.0,0.0,0.14331727346323606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114350027941812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016319713228694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991822132127132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291946534374638,0.0,0.14458787163532966,0.1066941133811307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255893020474772,0.13054975616681505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871995236045141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26493034172959457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276418749811014,0.0,0.0,0.062146283954049336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682075788933536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25859364135604346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527536874014749,0.11107111844793162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863298035002084,0.0,0.20231817074180744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097929169410499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564286213784727,0.0,0.11118339638653964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301656382783425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454573053312195,0.13836328323111488,0.0,0.2648512582050024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495803189200603,0.07502922288831375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628028742784066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036328588382704,0.13907947358211592,0.0,0.0
parenting,torroRossoOso,2020/03/01,"Should I let my kid talk/mail to his friend in jail?? I found out today they my 15 year old son had a ""buddy"" who is in jail  whose mom 3 way called him during his daily call.  I just say a text on his phone with the mom asking for our address so my son and her son can correspond.  I had never heard of this kid and am very uncomfortable with it.  My wife is casually talking to him about this kid that's ok jail and I'm internally freaking out.

I have had trouble with my son over the past year with drugs and alcohol.  He doesn't speak to me and is buried in his phone 90% of the time.  I had him show me his screen time and it average d over 8 hrs daily.  I feel completely disconnected and try to connect at all times.",2.5790552584670223,3.3624468104575165,4.102519310754605,90.42315508021393,74.359477124183,7.655139631610218,22.4058229352347,8.00094639256281,0.7218418300653591,554,13,133,8,11,185,96,153,0.06,0.892,0.048,-0.3925,0,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,5,1,13,2,0,0,2,19,18,8,0,1,1,7,1,0,1,1,2,3,1,3,7,13,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,5,25,3,21,10,1,19,0,0,1,0,34,9,0,0,9,82,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372952528526546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694691238818991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702072950225498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006503636267474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022327152162554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165888133860042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987604040858579,0.1400538295209432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536757629637832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4246178594196721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398116673428738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021926786377708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304899943758448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441584056232785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914064831909905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171114800145094,0.0,0.1718289937375776,0.0,0.0,0.12307489279106018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957215636570795,0.0,0.1438889047843903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334723374136746
parenting,oaknuts,2020/03/01,"My daughter just asked to try new hobbies, need suggestions. My preschooler just asked me if she could try ballet and karate, which I'm super excited about. I was wondering if there are any programs that allow children to try different activities for a week or two to see what interests them. If not, if just be stuck paying for individual lessons.",7.378333333333334,8.453309650793656,7.222341269841268,71.33446428571429,63.60317460317461,10.744444444444444,36.38492063492063,10.686352973137794,4.145225396825397,280,13,47,7,4,89,50,63,0.03,0.818,0.152,0.802,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,15,11,6,0,6,9,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,6,3,6,7,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,6,2,32,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772024667563667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872118595272056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080509062344648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722493033992739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19321582076871954,0.0,0.2516685537195971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076475043937954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5307475427172658,0.0,0.25454754807078817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090205331241792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825865087380011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Antiping,2020/03/01,"New parents, no help being given locally, need answers Hi, first post here. I've been looking for advice on being a new parent and all the ins, outs, challenges, highs, lows and everything else. We are brand new at being parents, and there are no non-religious parent groups in our town. We have not been able to get straight answers to questions and nobody seems to want to help us out. So I'm going to try here. I'll start with one of the more pressing issues for us. 


Our 1 year old is a night owl. She stays up late and wakes up late. We unfortunately we're not able to sleep train her properly when she was a newborn due to a couple different reasons, and we are finding it difficult now. How do we get her to go to bed at a proper time? How do we get her to sleep on her own/not in our bed? How do we do this without her having a screaming fit and possibly having a medical issue from it? (She's apparently had some sort of panic attack when my wife left her in her crib for a nap one day.)

Thanks",3.2249190938511347,4.251209970873788,4.601922330097088,86.52964724919096,73.07766990291263,7.435080906148866,25.383818770226537,7.793537801064563,1.236553139158576,778,24,166,10,15,259,125,206,0.08800000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.083,-0.484,6,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,12,0,0,2,10,7,1,1,10,0,18,4,3,4,1,34,31,13,0,2,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,3,17,0,0,6,1,0,2,5,5,0,3,5,3,23,2,30,23,3,39,0,1,1,0,33,19,0,4,16,111,26,1,0.2169019602594579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597704261829552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233786463893994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999894674293568,0.0,0.06994191025794139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133081916210894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059687777256956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097468747981033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912223108340852,0.09224834829613857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998348290594795,0.0,0.12327038252308566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538481186481925,0.1145844148790476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263892936124409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24467485875705985,0.0,0.11783230723423573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107150923166893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092529528589227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041502758881451,0.0,0.3142278972303729,0.0,0.10177389818087627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380106022765504,0.0,0.14697838173866146,0.0,0.0,0.12724385811319888,0.4816879165034524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226218503707326,0.10386606034444992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148991791808345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150567005859552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872969917614964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21705860426113527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767621619299535,0.1155943149562296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984709165475003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323863865332449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736310965987834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609063517581581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396719794851967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454287476280777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983887549849127
parenting,oradoj,2020/03/01,"Teen is lying right now about whereabouts My 17 year old claimed to be going to a friends house to sleep over. I can see for a fact that he’s somewhere else, and not in a place that might have just been on the way or something. I texted to “make sure he arrived” and he claimed to be there. I’m conflicted as to what I should do. This isn’t the first time. If I confront him he’ll know I have a way of determining where he is. If I don’t he’s doing something he shouldn’t and getting away with it. 

What would you do?",1.033482142857146,2.609441098214288,2.1583571428571453,99.53664285714287,79.98214285714286,5.194285714285715,21.91428571428571,5.6839178017228535,-0.1868242857142861,401,12,100,2,10,127,73,112,0.05,0.897,0.053,0.0772,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,1,0,6,0,17,1,1,1,2,18,24,7,0,5,5,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,9,2,15,16,0,15,0,0,1,0,10,7,0,4,5,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963794538747086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19528780368734366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19884766203270302,0.0,0.0,0.1806128646715709,0.0,0.12213703112065567,0.0,0.13285889566230094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697432894262974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847582926106255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560456597698006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24799679340518996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453060155664517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442436033724656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964133420830546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628725242341887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23394237825727646,0.0,0.0,0.3599405995495997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22032880408585345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631523684279198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711171251290554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16606602248384605,0.0,0.0,0.15054250150134474
parenting,KhanhTheAsian,2020/03/01,"Anyone buy the Infant Tylenol over the Children's Tylenol? The dosage is exactly the same, acetaminphen 160 mg in 5ml. The difference is the infant one costs 3 times more. I just buy the children's one for my 11 month old.",3.3326744186046504,5.649998488372098,3.6955232558139532,87.71444767441862,75.74418604651162,7.090697674418602,27.02906976744186,8.07648339933343,1.7221674418604658,177,7,35,3,4,55,30,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,2,2,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,19,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982739883255932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4456843117013219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404913257494248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44762295181668943,0.0,0.5781220047993176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487416729355843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittypoopoopee,2020/03/01,"She ran into the road (She’s ok) I took my two year old daughter to a birthday party for my friends kid today. We were all outside and playing having fun when my daughter just bolted. The fastest I ever have seen her run. She was yelling fire (there was none). She has some motor delays and isn’t that fast yet. Right as I was about to grab her I fell down. There was about a 6 inch by 6 inch deep hole in the yard where there used to be a tree. There was dead leaves covering the hole so I didn’t know it was there. I hurt my wrist upon impact and my shoe got caught. When I got up and ran to her she was already almost halfway into the road. She could have gotten hit and it would’ve been my fault. I’m feeling like such a horrible mom and I’m so upset. I keep having anxiety about the what if’s.

Is running away like that just something that comes along with being a toddler? How can I stop her from doing this? 
She usually tries to run away from me when we are out and I obviously do not let her. When we play in our front yard I always redirect her.  Seriously thinking about getting ones of those child leashes.",0.6940384615384616,2.9328213879310354,2.131379310344826,95.67462864721485,85.1206896551724,4.776127320954908,19.26790450928382,6.093298490706669,-0.17780291777188315,870,24,193,7,26,280,142,232,0.109,0.807,0.084,-0.7799,0,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,4,0,0,0,22,11,0,1,11,1,25,2,2,2,3,34,43,16,1,2,4,3,3,2,1,0,0,1,2,2,8,16,0,3,3,4,0,10,4,4,0,2,18,5,35,7,27,20,3,41,0,1,1,0,23,17,0,3,16,138,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110721657226156,0.0,0.19958576845555934,0.0,0.15049171329775035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835897241905884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398516972393925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579664056536874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440362922180552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360007783896013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144928625457498,0.12920788392043905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973357038469988,0.0,0.0944929557798148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893038052440792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936165640977452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075849923163044,0.0,0.0,0.0993970521614186,0.0,0.0,0.19150679543844665,0.0,0.1849436988481482,0.0,0.17672012286125505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21182344584496648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897842961201892,0.0,0.12255680512710065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445520160493126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392364414155483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512087714034212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588909808901532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714360747770309,0.0,0.20094439118088275,0.12279345915234195,0.0,0.17667594155782973,0.0,0.0,0.15620674039105298,0.19919399494005827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847921040093108,0.0,0.0,0.11646922973996805
parenting,EmotionSix,2020/03/01,"Self-soothing after a pacifier addiction? My 20m is totally addicted to paci, and it’s getting worse. She was previously restricted to paci at night and naps. She is an amazing sleeper with paci! 12 hour stretches! Then it extended to paci during car rides because she would cry in the car. Now she whines for paci anytime things get rough during the day. She depends on paci more than ever to self-soothe. We’re planning to take it away in a nice way (not cold turkey, no cut holes). But how can I teach her about her feelings during rough moments? How can I teach her to self-soothe? Will she ever sleep without it?!",2.764131652661064,5.229113865546222,3.4489285714285742,87.99815476190477,78.41176470588233,6.319607843137256,25.883053221288513,7.492282038375204,1.4365960784313727,486,19,93,7,12,153,82,119,0.142,0.8059999999999999,0.053,-0.8789,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,5,0,7,3,1,3,3,15,11,6,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,4,12,2,17,8,2,19,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,1,9,59,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048237516364743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444667066701386,0.0,0.0,0.1131850404038962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039539782743041,0.11974425676140565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359052096158003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093882264832404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940138203948729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285131655549655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424230694351495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5810948805310586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858079164914328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960360906414765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233534390522473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737923993977212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898294158689712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18921749031060195,0.1318973580913535,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,420canadamtl,2020/03/01,"Thinking of emailing my mom for closure. asking people for help on emailing my  mom just to say and for her to know my last words said was said without haste, and I’m just asking for help. idk. ha",0.5857500000000009,2.9912160750000005,1.6900000000000013,97.195,88.25,3.2,20.5,3.1291,-0.5321500000000001,153,5,32,0,5,48,27,40,0.032,0.792,0.17600000000000002,0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,8,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,1,9,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,1,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4429400566068829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31757888039092264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301943428431629,0.193105561083238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5549101050959399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16423700782333725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4506933317787757,0.1883928201329219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179630220706591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22836366945187714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stoneyMaloney92,2020/03/01,"My son is shifting focus towards something in left field. Should I talk him out of it? My son, 25, had a tough time getting through his college career but was able to finish out and graduate with a technology degree two months ago. I’m extremely proud of his accomplishment. He found a technology job in the heart of the city making very good money. So a weight has been lifted off my shoulder because now I know he can support himself and begging saving up for a good retirement. 

Two night ago he sat my wife and I down to talk to us about being unhappy with where he was in life and that the only reason why he finished college was to make us happy. Wife reared up a bit because no parent wants their child to be unhappy. 

He mentioned to us that he wants to make a career in music and that’s what he does starting at 4am in the morning. Goes to his 9-5 then comes home to work on it some more for several hours just to do it again the next day. He lives on his own so we do what him to live his own life. We are just worried that he might me reaching for something that isn’t very realistic. 

Advice? We simply want the kid to be happy.",4.943059472716122,4.956642450643777,5.789984671980381,83.19400214592275,68.69957081545064,8.37388105456775,29.51839362354384,7.957251820313856,1.7977286327406494,893,30,186,10,14,294,139,233,0.057,0.82,0.12300000000000001,0.9616,2,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,6,0,1,3,8,8,0,0,13,0,17,5,2,4,0,29,31,9,0,4,3,5,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,10,13,1,0,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,2,7,1,23,7,37,19,5,32,0,0,0,0,35,17,0,2,14,121,33,8,0.11543271391134755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279951206614297,0.20464827214199408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407334219852856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260226267804041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943506192361813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444455096266055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101594583115216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656601271041426,0.0,0.0,0.06030882870910995,0.0,0.0,0.19363896752164309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457605408424456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678832177179487,0.0,0.0,0.11578842386128395,0.0,0.11367797105316013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145491569970602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343880073940905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541798141624164,0.0,0.1630670791730016,0.0,0.0,0.2038584024181508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311566986566137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224558677794217,0.0,0.0,0.09213729095170843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276400080030553,0.10832578237930827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779178052688394,0.0,0.0,0.12817436825786266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868405519221875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040611010411327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777314854022187,0.0,0.0,0.0817038690353697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099167580704904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855608858569041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730974376700209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255219769240825,0.0,0.4165540259404775,0.0,0.0,0.19048815613726366,0.20425561627020952,0.0,0.0,0.14056594778983558,0.0,0.0,0.10416006989488777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403639052444843,0.1172275242142476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConfidentDelusions,2020/03/01,"Send Help Sometimes I feel as if I am failing as a parent, I am a 21F and my little is 18 months. 

Lately, he has been pushing my buttons and it's been working, I've been losing my shit. I try to stay as cool and collected as possible but there are days where I want to runaway from my responsibilities. (I don't obviously, but I'm expressing here). 

He's a gorgeous little boy and sweet when he wants but knows how to manipulate his way into getting what he wants. When I try to discipline, he'll throw a tantrum in order to get his way and I throw in the towel and just let him have at whatever he wants. 

Send help, it's getting crazy here. 

​

Some background info: I'm a psychology student and know all the proper ways to ""do parenting"" according to the books but I fail. Obviously there's no rules on how to be a parent but I just need some insight from others. 

How did you manage to get these tough times?",2.589435483870968,4.383155080645164,4.359879032258064,84.50981854838713,76.15053763440861,7.230645161290322,25.603494623655912,8.07648339933343,1.5281623655913985,719,26,148,12,16,243,107,186,0.11900000000000001,0.787,0.094,-0.5783,4,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,4,13,9,2,0,9,1,14,1,1,4,3,36,29,22,0,6,8,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,1,5,1,0,5,2,6,0,0,4,3,18,3,20,22,3,24,0,3,0,0,19,8,1,3,6,95,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257256874086025,0.17110516142775414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908137727418178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120009671916902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942792827086235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887701267539305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477605167507247,0.0,0.15884501107315052,0.0,0.0,0.14399247697715367,0.0,0.0,0.2822664607202018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753552716845928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112396876511916,0.0,0.0,0.1044122474428475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690738730951815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874731253303412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445441713665742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392692477538245,0.0,0.0,0.15008963595599287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211013022071235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912077507918372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332224416290841,0.3353162439202532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251471158658414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17110516142775414,0.0
parenting,nmarket,2020/03/01,"Is an SUV safer for a new parent / new driver? I am newbie driver and also mum for two kids. 1yo and 3yo. Looking for a car. Will be driving the kids to daycare. And then once a day for work (gradually to full time) which is far from home and in an industrialize zone.  Hubby wants me to drive a bigger car (safer for kids) while I’m more comfortable driving a compact. Limited budget. So either a fairly new compact or fairly old SUV. Not US based. 

Need thoughts and opinion. Thank you.",1.1204385964912262,3.671793526315789,2.8996052631578983,88.37432017543861,87.42105263157896,4.850877192982456,20.54824561403509,6.42735559955562,0.3889824561403508,375,12,73,4,12,124,66,95,0.02,0.885,0.095,0.7902,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,11,10,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,5,0,1,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,1,1,4,2,10,8,3,17,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,2,8,44,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759364461323254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322028331117695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227597675736597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864874337236896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466612066030106,0.0,0.6434455149943455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330308112376224,0.23650308982087945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465884889859795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044572231706622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630308880436946,0.12949397165076593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169354305338232,0.0,0.26712940409177804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098584495365445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167356110989253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,minifrancais78,2020/03/01,"Tips for videogame system about to enter the house! We decided to get my son to be 8 year old a nintendo switch for his up-coming birthday. He currently has a tablet that he pretty much only uses to play Mindcraft.  I am wondering if anyone has any tips on how you've managed these types of screens in the home.

\-Do you set up time limits? 

\-Do they have to do certain chores before screen time, etc?

Right now we have a no tablet rule on the weekdays and then he can play on the weekend. Because we set this up right when he got it we've really had no arguments or attempts at negotiation. I am hoping to have some thought out boundaries set up when we give it to him so everyone is on the same page similar to before.

What have you done in your home that works or doesn't work?",2.1400843881856524,4.239824569620254,3.454708860759492,89.05505907172999,78.62025316455697,6.491814345991561,23.191561181434608,7.554174236665415,1.001742953586498,614,20,127,9,15,200,106,158,0.046,0.8690000000000001,0.085,0.7483,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,3,1,4,6,4,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,2,1,19,24,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,6,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,2,13,4,23,19,5,28,0,0,2,0,16,13,0,6,10,84,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709607744298648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068242821723128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393041515543725,0.0,0.3180704331929472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126008154719826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20843908088100155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858768315722875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764574463463906,0.17928822139455006,0.0,0.0,0.14947826139822798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749449992650385,0.1856304659723484,0.0,0.2156535500703954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373904845032818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611651219587908,0.0,0.0,0.1421432643584648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901410035460365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973072933732815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31921730141557364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837500106548596,0.21796178741912334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141863016726993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268135910482607,0.2721258596729326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203552642747516
parenting,rugnix13,2020/03/01,Does anybody else not enjoy the weekends anymore ? I’m a stay at home mom to two kids. During the week we have a routine I go to the gym in the morning they go to gym day care. We go home they nap have lunch and then we go to a play group in the afternoon. But on the weekends there is usually so much to do and obligations and not much structure they just get all grumpy and don’t want to nap. Plus catching up on house work. Sometimes we do fun things on the weekends but not every weekend. But this feeling could be due to the fact I live in northern Canada and am going on 7 months of snow. Hurry up summer!,1.0083894230769241,3.0599337812500025,2.446875000000002,95.05677884615385,82.28125,4.87596153846154,22.346153846153847,5.8734145424116955,0.16362067307692296,476,16,105,3,13,154,80,128,0.013999999999999999,0.9109999999999999,0.075,0.6721,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,3,1,3,4,0,0,11,0,9,1,0,0,2,22,19,11,0,2,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,10,1,0,1,9,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,1,9,4,19,17,3,29,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,0,12,69,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985833470249502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849064969926859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479955025592722,0.0,0.0,0.11696086178973325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15870754710902374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150127957129586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280187832938455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170001884473716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475203340114033,0.0,0.5153494564231297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638335825783504,0.0,0.0,0.2092627021873919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014237524157016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21240421627422865,0.1447581698503145,0.0,0.2666378924214946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936763055098165,0.0,0.0,0.1933034234468792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048615045501095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716034573702494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19974013836382476,0.0,0.1069696062166651,0.0,0.145474392486071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203073334901325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tcbenkhard,2020/03/01,"Chickenpox So we are in holiday and 1 day before we are supposed to leave our son get the chickenpox... Now we cannot fly and he has spent the last 5 hours that he was supposed to be sleeping, crying.

Any tips on how to calm the itch for him or get him to sleep a little bit? Were currently just rotating 'shifts' to calm him but he is clearly feeling the itch and pain.",2.689780701754384,4.067532276315792,3.944736842105264,89.3414912280702,74.92105263157895,7.698245614035088,25.824561403508767,8.344100000000001,1.5118140350877192,287,10,63,5,6,94,55,76,0.09300000000000001,0.78,0.127,0.2144,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,8,5,4,1,1,12,12,7,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,7,2,8,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,5,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801678997198768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254439439213668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892452423164659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910235267463365,0.17086401650599048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396133795298484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768398377250966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609119736935074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159609990334367,0.0,0.2805326054990337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26553891412869124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819142365180625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.530261538531983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,azngangbuzta,2020/03/01,"Toddler won't sleep on his own My 3 year old has been pretty clingy and never will sleep on his own. Some night it takes him 15 minutes to fall asleep, some nights an hour. We also have a 6 month old that sleep in the room next to him, so our 3 YO can't just cry it out, he'll wake his brother. 

Any tips on how to stop this and get him sleeping on his own?",2.642875,2.4149825374999985,3.4825000000000017,98.5925,73.625,6.4,21.0,3.1291,-0.5351750000000002,273,4,73,0,5,87,60,80,0.027999999999999997,0.898,0.07400000000000001,0.5505,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,6,6,6,1,1,10,9,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,10,0,9,5,5,18,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,2,10,44,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010750257708982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191421149034192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244914614157013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153485112322857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17253686365774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139843094132058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512516213628087,0.0,0.18632735500051995,0.3288269586770947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676861867114787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17824154567237133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7013067394454563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647517653263092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172871443842615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112823157204724
parenting,icyhotatortot,2020/03/01,"My 11yr old son got his heart broke for the first time, he’s taking it rather rough and I’m not sure how to help. Just like the title says, my son was dismissed by his crush. 

We noticed last week his attitude changed and he was being more crabby. We just chalked it up to preteen hormones or whatever. His mother then noticed some scratches on his hands. She asked him about them to which he said something about a cat. Today we found more scratches and he’s confessed to self-harm. He said he used a pencil.. but we don’t really have regular pencils laying, and I’ve never really seen him with one—not that it’s impossible. The “cuts” or scrapes are all the same width and similar lengths but all straight. 

Well I looked through his phone, I probably shouldn’t have, but he’s only had one since Christmas. I’ve never invaded his privacy like this but I’m glad I did. This girl he has been talking to has been belittling him while he begs for her love. She sends him messages saying how ugly he is and his friend is hotter. She calls him trash and telling him he’s unimportant. It’s heartbreaking. He definitely isn’t taking the hint, worst of all. 

I haven’t approached this with him or his mother because it’s a really weird situation. I definitely want him to know he is loved, and this girl is just a mean little bitch—in good words though. But I also want to show him the side that accepts rejection with dignity. I’m not sure how to do any of that, and am
Hoping you people can help! Thanks and if
This the wrong platform to discuss this, im sorry. Also, I’m on mobile, so sorry I suck at typing.",3.5597812500000003,5.0947266656250045,4.336375,86.77112500000001,72.96875,7.495000000000001,25.6125,8.109356740369918,1.43941,1263,41,258,19,25,405,174,320,0.126,0.701,0.17300000000000001,0.9589,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,4,1,1,1,14,21,2,0,11,0,23,5,2,4,7,55,46,28,0,6,15,4,4,2,1,1,1,4,0,2,15,17,0,0,5,1,0,2,8,8,1,2,11,10,37,13,24,33,8,21,1,3,2,2,65,9,1,6,12,157,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19117603034384847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812844285818097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174431802464443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286431556593333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205338873077667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644678156478595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016720690348698,0.0,0.13105836211412206,0.09234850165074347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002560062586535,0.09559897762075137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141643503052979,0.1602367402946791,0.0,0.0,0.11872015767525212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291127998231909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569050522602889,0.0974328192185337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167925396369829,0.11980035808123292,0.0,0.0,0.10037500881844642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576079698401027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020309884980347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437765017308366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272171159166438,0.12542651944904085,0.0,0.16199310286612634,0.09090787263134778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286698012465027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128873445211154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297217376098909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274006075841167,0.19010994280137308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469575071543898,0.0,0.0,0.0988763657028338,0.1343566119492157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201995414922373,0.0,0.2676078665022673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22531102604267,0.0,0.17974321321429834,0.09607360322116848,0.10447439817198602,0.1100470694940091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743751657941738,0.0,0.06969884397486963,0.0,0.11330036576720245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323545289185516,0.0,0.0,0.1410036599226853,0.0,0.09587967316630876,0.0,0.10747173205846493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068717787728315,0.0,0.0
parenting,jamiewoodson,2020/03/01,"My sister said f*ggot and my parents dont care So just a few minutes ago my sister said f*ggot which I'd extremely homophobic so when she didnt listen to me I went to talk to my dad about it so he could explain why she can't say that. He just said it wasnt my place to tell her she can't say it because I'm not a homosexual male and she probably didn't mean it. He didnt even talk to her about it. I dont know what to do because its disgusting to use that word and my straight sister can absolutely not say it. She's almost 13. I dont want her to just use that word and grow up thinking it's okay.

Was I even in my place?",1.2469632495164404,2.199390021276596,3.63604126370084,91.82454545454547,77.86524822695036,6.829400386847197,22.038039974210182,7.348242739294969,0.4580581560283683,487,13,122,6,11,170,69,141,0.047,0.915,0.038,-0.4916,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,0,2,1,13,0,0,2,0,20,27,8,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,13,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,11,1,0,0,9,7,20,2,12,17,1,9,0,0,0,0,28,5,0,1,2,76,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12547653587941707,0.0,0.14174300949688634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257650981697428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443208107402651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301705904140184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4976906097954444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698637249187347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777927990674907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419067751017967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717577821883882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957816060803991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526160591085567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039426180255737,0.3377014196387861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22754687257642806,0.1237219265817122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070024840485996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445094558437141,0.0,0.0,0.08349052383144041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121931548368385,0.12772787779317454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Books_and_Nature,2020/03/01,"Why is pooping so gosh darn difficult?! My son is 3 in a few days. We started potty-training about a month ago and he has peeing down. No problem there. But pooping... I want to pull my hair out! He has started to flat out refuse to poop and hasn’t pooped in 2 days. 

He pooped in the potty about 5 times, started to fear it, and is now refusing. He screams and cries when we try to get to him to poop, and we only really push him to poop because he complains of his tummy hurting. We even offered him a pull-up to poop in to just get it out because he’s so miserable. We gave him two laxative tablets today, and he finally pooped a tiny bit in a pull-up but is still complaining of tummy discomfort. We did a warm bath and nothing. We tried to give him prune juice and he hated it. I went out and bought five monster trucks and set them in front of him and tried to bribe him into pooping. (I’m not proud of the bribery but I’m desperate to get him to poop.) 

We have suppositories, and I only want to use one as a last resort, but I’m at my wits end. Our daughter is 4 1/2 and it took her 2 years from the time that she was pee potty-trained to poop on the potty. That was a crazy roller-coaster and I’m terrified my son will be the same way. Constipation is terrible. I don’t want another child to go through it. 

Please give me any advice you have. Give it to me straight. Tell me what I’m doing wrong. Share your experiences. Commiserate with me. Anything. Parenting is so ever-loving hard.",1.1439680551205775,3.189948019417475,2.9233093224762534,91.85754776072659,81.75080906148868,6.187744023384488,22.912725754254087,7.359569317364363,0.8154252218394409,1154,40,257,17,31,383,165,309,0.18100000000000002,0.774,0.045,-0.9917,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,9,2,1,1,12,15,1,3,13,0,19,15,15,1,0,42,43,23,0,4,6,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,28,0,2,0,1,1,6,4,12,0,3,7,4,35,3,42,34,3,40,0,2,0,0,47,15,1,0,17,152,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612126459105902,0.1144087346042278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776893225932766,0.13533637839106122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062098687649224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735420150225024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090604441011834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417723370510705,0.16647307665335956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143136805872777,0.0,0.0,0.08524651288424387,0.11674708921542418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262507764172086,0.0,0.14523451427013373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413848924765128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20229411289487848,0.37143402239614814,0.07335086989751098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561729271065767,0.1274254119769858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816723427573052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520556838533922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301881132260426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384178077706275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745808957508695,0.19632018220537534,0.0,0.0,0.14331190903877894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416751071450201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349820556623753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268263257205463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740595707190841,0.0,0.10307183557971238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112808892625261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051820433791585,0.0,0.1223389559535394,0.0,0.1433964645641927,0.2628809066614341,0.0,0.12607819130486375,0.0,0.0,0.1114711099003031,0.0,0.0,0.22837844022516054,0.10244614719390553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964496576912488,0.1164614943310502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111280921080194,0.0,0.08311391861737644
parenting,14587987,2020/03/01,"Is it unreasonable to ask my wife to not spend 90+ minutes putting our 11 year old son to bed? I work \~45 hours a week, my wife works part time and is always there when my son gets off the bus and there when he gets on the bus.

So I get home at 6pm, we hang out as a family and have supper and bedtime routine starts at 8.

When I put him to bed I will go upstairs with him and be in the next room if he is in the bath, then I will lie down with him sometimes for 15 minutes, or maybe read him a book depending on the night.  Then he reads on his own until about 9 at which point I go upstairs and tuck him in and turn off the light.

When she does it, she will stay int he bathroom with him the whole time, sometimes help dry him off, then lie down and cuddle with him sometimes for an hour or more.  A decent amount of the time she falls asleep.

From my perspective the time after about 830 is the only time we get alone together during the week, so for her to spend so much lying in bed next to him for no reason is not healthy for our relationship.  I also think the independence my son gets from being on his own is valuable.

I have mentioned this to her before but never really been ""serious"" about it.",7.416360057265571,4.515892468503938,7.3989191123836795,83.14339656406588,65.25984251968504,10.653686471009307,31.358625626342157,8.296473431620573,1.9243433070866127,933,21,219,9,11,301,135,254,0.028999999999999998,0.955,0.016,-0.2888,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,2,13,2,0,0,17,0,14,3,1,3,1,26,25,25,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,0,5,15,1,0,2,4,2,6,4,1,0,0,1,1,33,1,42,19,7,51,0,0,0,1,33,19,0,4,25,146,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563621832607555,0.0,0.097008199369148,0.10093613793569914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340454200045055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032222958169806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615551750355506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435630633034626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168863523957861,0.0,0.13788175606845504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130871647879047,0.0,0.12167960171813785,0.0,0.2389235431418565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121867974345638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917371596896048,0.0,0.09355850634117456,0.0,0.2580201754987545,0.1138372698769176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729002462292616,0.0,0.0,0.09225852233238052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136235337836766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467318451316945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24389165504129434,0.0,0.0,0.2426772414756447,0.0,0.07771159763563065,0.12472255934136978,0.0,0.13023702497268924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35992359515415834,0.0,0.08586086511519457,0.12929583579989412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772785446872495,0.0,0.0,0.3536719190137141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194586967446265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19460838125442992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543358654988066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766241250696197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811695395505729
parenting,definitelynotacroc,2020/03/01,I’m the asshole that brings their kids to a concert I’m at a lumineers concert and my wife is insistent that we bring the kids 4 and 10 fuck my life.,-0.4631818181818197,1.6377807878787929,2.288106060606061,93.3521590909091,89.6060606060606,5.724242424242425,23.40151515151515,7.1686216300943375,0.8677333333333337,118,5,28,2,4,41,24,33,0.115,0.885,0.0,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,6,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,0,0,15,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7946185098122859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6071090708132288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SecureSpecimen,2020/03/01,"Stealing.....how to handle/stop it My all most 6yo daughter stole something while at the mall today. This comes on the heels of her stealing something from her siblings friend during a sleepover. When I found the items that belonged to the friend I made her return them and apologize for her actions. I was hoping the pure embarrassment would curb this behavior. Today, she took something from her favorite store, I found the item 4 hours after we got home. I’m at a loss on how to handle this situation. I’ve tried speaking with her but she shows little to no remorse for her behavior. I’m looking for advice on how to go about this.",3.8065454545454536,6.182402866666671,4.0045454545454575,85.78227272727275,74.5,6.03030303030303,26.74242424242424,6.980632752743323,1.3290833333333336,504,19,91,5,11,156,77,120,0.09,0.831,0.079,-0.3153,0,0,3,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,4,6,0,1,8,0,2,1,1,3,2,16,13,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,1,2,2,1,4,1,3,0,0,6,2,16,3,19,6,4,17,0,1,1,0,16,6,0,2,7,62,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299950548686975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131778255750212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106669845144244,0.28937093433467875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064306876544578,0.0,0.1497780959142078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187848545792416,0.18600281724533813,0.18442466732728952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876952031268629,0.0,0.0,0.1572608627452031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720078559090388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050096990649664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43251216262772135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656732788027955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550228982221096,0.0,0.2080654851416152,0.1271450300284858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303227368321088,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littlesunbeam22,2020/03/01,"Constant whining from toddler I have a 2 year old toddler. She whines and cries all morning almost every single morning. She goes to bed at 8:30pm and wakes up at 9:00-9:30 am. I know toddlers whine like this a lot but this seems excessive. The only time she cheers up is if we leave the house. We do time out a lot when I get tired of listening. I also ignore it but she’ll up the volume until that’s impossible. Me and the baby will try our best to be cheerful and sing and don’t ask why she’s so grumpy ( that doesn’t help me when I’m grumpy). I just tell her okay go to your room until you’re done. And she’ll come back happy until the next minor inconvenience. She also refuses to share and screams if the baby even starts towards her stuff. She tries to hoard everything up on the table so baby can’t get it. I’d love some tips how to get her to be happy when she wakes up. The first two hours are always torture, and I dread go getting her out of bed. 

I’ve tried extra snuggles by herself and reading books, I’ve tried giving it no attention, raising my voice to stop whining, counting to three then time out, being as happy as possible, distracting her... nothing seems to work. I’ve even went into my room by myself and she just cries by the door. It’s so frustrating because she is so nice when she is happy and the most helpful, funny, energetic little girl. It’s just she starts out so gloomy for hours it drives me crazy!! 
P.s. She’s also like this when she wakes up from naps for about an hour. 

Tl;Dr 
Toddler whines for hours after waking up. Seems like she sleeps enough, doesn’t act tired. How do I kick the bad mood? 

Any parents on here that can help me or offer advice?",2.2556691432333302,4.187409825072887,3.311750211605382,91.02609047305565,77.57142857142857,5.708605285432148,20.977052572180945,6.532088108194933,0.2499433649957683,1322,34,276,11,31,424,184,343,0.161,0.643,0.196,0.9738,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,3,1,0,3,23,27,2,2,15,1,20,8,5,2,1,43,39,37,0,2,8,1,0,3,0,3,2,3,5,1,13,19,0,3,5,4,0,6,5,12,0,3,2,3,40,14,44,31,9,52,0,5,0,1,39,20,0,11,29,182,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895823473326756,0.0,0.0,0.09179783374807084,0.0,0.0,0.21993395191372705,0.07627975041103421,0.0,0.0,0.06234116824127181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570240883183734,0.0,0.0,0.07049131328932691,0.07654359808427089,0.05588335471792324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620575130734764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896865944831785,0.0,0.09906655680304237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139821434639346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938138860101478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472329917295076,0.0,0.12109905099440485,0.0,0.07723893288226985,0.0,0.08239028963250715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797748808385488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19158261739566265,0.0879416375273257,0.10420039991858047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3903528610567857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434057591528127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611199836037109,0.10577898639552337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05038139419321038,0.0,0.0,0.09706906937234044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436122065199466,0.09188099625981858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587517442268084,0.08273897214589737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749587704947844,0.0,0.0,0.08796325866093782,0.0,0.09619598596328988,0.0,0.0,0.06972187762214549,0.0,0.0,0.10179264578457796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334817102880868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169837378755777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503685133629556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173977117148743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977404317242272,0.0,0.0,0.0766432057278234,0.0,0.0,0.1049442999250675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012673702676343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036677999475565,0.21073055590495185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489613337769924,0.0,0.08955175291945579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849823137667433,0.08272113405994329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673944759735452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05903477062256938
parenting,lovecraft112,2020/03/02,"My ex seemed very dejected when I picked up the kids yesterday and I'm worried We've been separated for over two years now, and the custody schedule has recently changed so he gets the kids three out of four weekends instead of for a full week every third week for reasons I won't go into here for privacy's sake. 

He's been ordered to pay child support. But he's not, and he's not communicating with his lawyer (per his lawyer) about things. Hes withdrawn from communication from me. And last night when I picked up the kids he seemed really really bummed out and withdrawn, instead of being aggressive and standoffish like usual. The kids were still in their pajamas and had been having a quiet day in. 

Idk what I'm asking. I'm just concerned. My ex has a history of mental illness (severe anxiety) which is triggered by change. IDGAF about him... But if his wellbeing is plummeting that will not be good for the kids. What do I do here?",4.472794001578532,6.177244491712706,5.163745067087612,81.06830110497239,70.93370165745856,8.707340173638517,28.950670876085237,9.23628265651192,2.5098063141278617,747,29,142,16,14,241,114,181,0.087,0.884,0.03,-0.7905,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,12,4,1,0,9,0,17,1,0,4,0,24,26,13,0,1,7,2,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,6,5,11,0,0,3,1,1,1,4,1,0,4,5,1,13,3,24,17,1,26,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,3,16,95,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289718058340964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746275191118728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952073475354627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046691453587835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738231179178486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975923478604004,0.0,0.10615954426643273,0.15667425385469624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522623413966849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912582930752836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882447888904016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529386099011685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393305111408385,0.19205572132181628,0.18443690380105413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401011550569069,0.0,0.2110244674421919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917422393402655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197203570042591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409787827755955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247095568957436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057276067349526,0.15412491665773276,0.0,0.0,0.2996703502114013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896987483725118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202894489860367
parenting,latkahgravis,2020/03/02,"International flight with 1.5 year old questions ok so wife and had a trip plan from Canada to Mexico in April, its a direct flight so about 5 hours. 

We have a few concerns, first the whole coronavirus issues, i am not on of those people that is running out to stock on TP from costco like the sky is falling, i think keeping out of large groups and washing hands properly regularly should be enough for now, but here we are about to go on a plane, so there goes not being in crowded places. 

Honestly i am more worried about how to keep my daughter busy on the plane,  we booked a 6am flight so she can hopefully sleep through most of it.

we will bring many distractions for her, including snacks, books and a tablet, the tablet is my other concern since she is not really into shows, i sometimes put some kid show on netflix and she doesn't pay attention to it, she would rather throw her toys around or flip through picture books and fold the pages. 

how do you guys that have done long flights keep your toddler busy when what other people seem to use to keep theirs busy does not seem to work? 

thanks in advance",11.324305555555561,7.139983930555558,9.471481481481485,75.24666666666668,59.23148148148147,12.837037037037039,39.5,9.827888789773867,3.521066666666666,883,27,180,11,8,266,143,216,0.032,0.8909999999999999,0.076,0.8608,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,2,1,4,15,6,0,1,11,1,19,4,2,3,0,38,31,14,0,4,7,2,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,9,14,1,4,5,7,1,8,5,1,0,1,2,1,19,5,33,24,7,30,0,0,0,0,20,14,0,7,9,120,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746484125134262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513231373488138,0.15802332189193538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955516856272384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134795096822513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775936078280093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528981895862371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337200862825878,0.15207071638746233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117236994682713,0.0,0.549015584343017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544088025016832,0.0,0.0,0.13665515299579648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655570936069255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203581261887764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410812518361355,0.0,0.16133404090410244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552328339657707,0.17298360433089816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892418443709464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811528645448787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773624219054666,0.0,0.15452961183759426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272344237572436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216743325188574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894487882511796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336765282086868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724022861768422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241821076920222,0.1568190690107646,0.0,0.10969418275136196,0.0,0.0,0.09944018905578382
parenting,TenGallonFedora,2020/03/02,"Are there any life hacks to feeding baby solid foods? We started the our solid food/baby led-weaning journey a month ago with our now 7m old. So far so good - she loves to eat everything we give her or at least puts it in her mouth and gums at it. 

My problem is with breakfast. I’ve literally stopped doing a morning meal because I feel like I shouldn’t be giving her two baths a day. At this stage everything she noms gets pushed back out and mixes with baby milk puke and drool and it becomes a huge mess that trickles all around her stomach and legs (even with the silicone catcher bib). I don’t know what to do besides give her a full blown bath but we’ve been reserving that for nighttime. I feel like two baths a day is extreme. 

I wanted to hear from all you seasoned vets out there what you did...Are two baths a day okay? Any tips and tricks or blunt advice would be greatly appreciated so thank you in advance!",3.609791505791506,4.971034940540541,4.106274131274134,89.15871621621623,72.56756756756756,6.583011583011582,26.72779922779923,6.868970318607317,1.0456718146718145,724,25,151,6,14,228,119,185,0.048,0.792,0.16,0.9629,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,3,0,1,10,10,1,0,9,1,11,12,4,0,2,28,23,12,0,4,3,0,2,2,0,2,1,1,4,0,8,15,6,1,3,4,0,4,2,3,0,3,1,4,20,7,18,18,4,27,0,0,0,1,19,11,0,2,13,90,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371951606240334,0.12130135765918915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861132487861714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218175699374074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522234101152933,0.0,0.08341705002519641,0.15113021776250268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647535209825916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002258351013333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038224034503242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459678717054901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383819196257282,0.19551858456187926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33093754537663783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149381448160651,0.3938112885639895,0.0,0.1147758024548649,0.0,0.15086776975860786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422983834404946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752042768543075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665489909183872,0.1337072755819983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123504414031072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922524159624754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359169047432324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093842926835994,0.0,0.13756307748271251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685681815209646,0.0,0.0,0.11440526715978905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598487791738633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4010215434004933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071241225660829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720797447114696,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,knotcyan,2020/03/02,"We decided to have another baby! Im so happy I just needed to share it with someone, I don't have any family. 
My husband said he didn't want to have any more children and I was not happy about it but I accepted it
It was a bit hard the first few months of our first child,  specially not having any help  at all ( he's family lives in another country) It was understandable and not crazy at all the idea of only having one, before having our first we thought we'd like to have 3 but that's really crazy to me now. 
Anyway, Today we went to the GP to program my husband's sterilisation,  he  informed us about it and said we had to wait two weeks before making an appointment to think about it.  he asked us our reasons and he gave us his opinion and then suddenly my husband realized he did wanted to have another baby. 
   I'm really happy that our little family is going to grow a bit more.",2.714714548802945,4.357025259668511,5.023182320441991,80.54092449355434,75.40883977900552,8.362578268876613,24.221362799263353,9.029198982220553,1.9544251197053408,696,22,137,16,15,244,97,181,0.03,0.8340000000000001,0.136,0.9668,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,12,0,0,3,7,7,0,0,6,0,17,0,0,2,2,33,32,9,0,3,6,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,9,10,0,1,9,0,0,3,5,0,0,5,11,3,21,7,20,20,7,16,0,0,0,0,31,4,0,1,10,97,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240069511506286,0.3454102576248166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264985322050776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868664751479671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397502365548126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105340717200593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801920441472377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062402888687458975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506581475175434,0.09836083822113413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359782654968584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395285787030375,0.11860477727213295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05364360919157695,0.11005024139205632,0.09695699385913306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329354867984995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764274267859716,0.0,0.0,0.08141663735786588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440453584528195,0.08350921055456642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068367897992926,0.1128945294768424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889329679935764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930347019079875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035655461073073,0.0,0.08717035774388984,0.0,0.0,0.10407925988029383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726039580589276,0.1143075376763605,0.3962341081459593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952788339024,0.0,0.08807637427418241,0.0,0.0,0.10178736109520756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thbt101,2020/03/02,"Online doctor visits are the best thing ever. I don't know why it took us so long to try it, but our health insurance offers free online doctor visits where you use a phone app to talk to a doctor and it's the best thing ever.  It's free in our case, but mostly it's also just super convenient.  

Rather than scheduling an appointment with their doctor, packing up the kids, fighting traffic, waiting in a waiting room, paying a co-pay, etc, we just click a few buttons in the phone app any time of day, talk to a doctor for a few minutes with a video chat, and then they can prescribe medicine and we pick it up at the pharmacy at the corner an hour later.  It's so easy and efficient. 

Our insurance uses MD Live, but I think there are probably lots of other options as well.  But it sure has been great to have this.",7.114329268292682,5.5941157987804875,7.442804878048783,78.21408536585369,64.79268292682926,10.151219512195123,31.47560975609756,8.841846274778883,2.387782926829268,637,18,127,8,8,209,102,164,0.018000000000000002,0.747,0.235,0.9922,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,6,1,2,3,11,9,1,0,16,0,7,6,0,3,3,28,14,13,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,12,8,0,2,2,2,3,3,1,1,1,0,2,1,11,10,19,12,7,22,0,0,1,0,19,10,0,3,9,92,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552242344228772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973227320022249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769521651032655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509849220111312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6752952391934821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716199687285808,0.0,0.2387173099897397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454781754805792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14025941270789394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299467027204966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251768222335496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651653777194325,0.1167738731257323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218135728781928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422671893707457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436373667519228,0.0,0.0,0.2121169567648508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532684998971015,0.08454987955500431,0.0,0.0,0.0769426053478131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660416166624482,0.08958713418839644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587226961519223,0.22792931006502015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864120829323765,0.0,0.11906667151586943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sauceduh,2020/03/02,"Car seat suggestions Hi all, I’m looking to change my infant carrier to a bigger car seat. Ideally I’d want to go for a convertible one to last through toddler stages and so on. Just wanted to see if anyone had any good suggestions on a certain brand or type. Or any suggestions as to which ones to steer clear of. Thank you!",1.8354725274725288,4.260899800000002,3.2806593406593407,88.08076923076923,81.76923076923076,7.406593406593408,24.67032967032967,8.418075326091056,1.8431098901098903,257,10,52,6,7,84,49,65,0.0,0.7879999999999999,0.212,0.9098,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,11,8,6,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,4,13,7,1,9,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,3,1,29,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184368239739054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21512206085567773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254620263857751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484948401189968,0.2580494540904415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507828383365825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583557553958287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41695488700371536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451640878230764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283250722494552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629300510328537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kitkat3909,2020/03/02,"Teen wants to quit her job 16yo (17 in April) wants to quit her job of seven months. She’s already applying for other jobs and looking around, she works at a grocery store for now. I usually have to drive her there, which is a 30 min commute while the other jobs she’s looking at are only 15-20 min away. She was mildly depressed during the beginning of the school year, and it greatly affected her performance while working. She has turned it around since then and wants to find somewhere new to work. She has given notice to her manager that she might be leaving, although it isn’t a serious job, I’m not sure if she should quit or not. Her reasons were she didn’t like the environment/work she had to do and wanted to find a clothing store at the mall.  I’m all for supporting her, but I’m not sure if its a good decision.",3.929437751004016,5.083869433734943,4.661626506024098,86.27970883534141,71.5301204819277,7.9429718875502,27.68875502008032,8.344100000000001,1.76100562248996,650,23,134,10,12,209,98,166,0.054000000000000006,0.898,0.047,0.2214,5,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,7,4,8,0,0,10,0,14,0,0,2,3,27,27,12,0,7,7,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,4,1,2,1,5,2,0,1,5,2,18,6,20,19,1,20,0,1,2,0,17,7,0,4,13,89,26,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393114718220866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995017649862912,0.0,0.0,0.1055140630432194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672796572424856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528911808581915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941959438626709,0.0,0.12381644621005068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5572259602554092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891457509987688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054866455974922866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886155064163327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913765286644387,0.0,0.0,0.08964062551279252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846468243520364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785976714321287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541286638692684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583499584122725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546804595547977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365846037146418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289969689257536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744216413381626,0.21169190308659688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215538090031045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123687878628607,0.0,0.2649611395898185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270369482166412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723206136629748
parenting,tatteredsqueegee,2020/03/02,"Bossy two year old! I have an in home daycare in which I watch a 2 year old, an 18 month old (mine), and a 4 month old. The two year old constantly bosses the 18 month old around. She absolutely hates it. Any toy my child picks up, two year old will tell her no and take it from her or tell her to put it down. She cries or even talks and two year old tells her to hush. I’m at my wit’s end on what to do. I tell the two year old not to do whatever the behavior is and even impose time out, but it still happens constantly. I guess it’s just the age but it makes me crazy because now my kid is grumpy and crying all day and normally she’s great.",-0.006247484909458478,1.695989119718309,1.7445875251509049,100.62028169014087,83.85915492957747,5.74728370221328,16.480885311871223,6.868970318607317,-0.5331283702213283,493,9,130,6,14,161,81,142,0.102,0.858,0.039,-0.7217,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,9,0,6,0,0,3,1,20,12,10,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,8,8,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,5,0,2,16,1,13,11,1,35,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,3,26,75,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052187280031745234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831676601824548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04678129018196458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586195887931585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16859525264767902,0.04949232516231146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797074895067702,0.0,0.0,0.10137490624758096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460846930035798,0.08454010823103587,0.0,0.06786281215580305,0.0,0.0,0.07576696544917501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697861360797982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122596771879166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376450812271028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519099354906209,0.0,0.0,0.7247516046170688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714703701580222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061286364187400626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057700531119434226,0.061682417191574135,0.26830401682959576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04474895317427915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374829549941552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965164939642802
parenting,yeetyourselfboy,2020/03/02,"How damaging is it to constantly hear that your abusive family member ""loves you"" I'm not the parent, I'm the daughter (23). I have had deep trust issues since I was a kid. I cannot talk to anyone without fearing that they are going to judge me and they are going to talk shit about me behind my back. And this applies to everyone: from my own best friend to the guy at the store who asked me how my day was. It sucks. It really sucks to try and make friends because I can't even let them touch me. I just can't talk to anyone about my problems. And when I finally convince myself that someone is trustworthy, I'll proceed by telling them my entire life story, which the majority of them judged me for and told everyone. Finally, I think I understood why. My father, after my parents split up, was extremely neglectful. Sometimes he would disappear for months. He also used to touch me inappropriately, and I was so ashamed of it. But everyone kept telling me that he ""loved me, but didn't know how to show it"". So, when I already didn't trust him, I stopped trusting everyone else",4.115361374407584,5.614347748815169,5.044120260663507,82.38712825829386,71.51184834123222,8.497748815165878,29.30124407582939,9.017664075816787,2.4063007109004744,849,34,166,17,16,277,123,211,0.085,0.78,0.135,0.9002,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,2,5,1,13,17,3,2,6,0,17,4,1,5,0,24,34,16,0,2,5,4,2,0,2,1,1,1,0,2,12,6,0,3,3,1,1,3,7,8,0,0,10,3,35,9,23,22,3,17,0,2,0,2,30,3,3,0,11,115,47,0,0.0,0.14193628627058774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321956440173989,0.0957992084834761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752548274811868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199120726623277,0.0,0.0,0.09211418190758353,0.0,0.07302530286199395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571639912718924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945474283985406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725721159600349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007250488583784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912279890679318,0.0,0.0,0.4578731546685164,0.0,0.0,0.1129311099761042,0.13480154059234867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26245691553549405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851050750842391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616336744284147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861488155948473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501653021808668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503379944287568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658356426191555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249746845870273,0.0846140360651092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21623750148651685,0.0,0.07996341683850483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561841788137072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26603409280146106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462666745836228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674309586089965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296680663167968,0.09909482433563872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150105682029413,0.0,0.11847931671248482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015313752796852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888576081904077,0.2094104503302515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675915008882069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446828866712908,0.0,0.08133225399476549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034635425443767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080954409109148,0.0,0.0,0.1154771290434934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509821162714715,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Leatherneck85,2020/03/02,"Allowance Question My wife and I are going to begin giving our older two kids a weekly allowance of $2/wk and $1/wk for the 8 and 5 y/o respectively. I don't simply want to give them money for them to spend - I want to teach them about saving and more specifically, compounding growth. Looking for advice on how to approach this. Roughly, I'm thinking something like, the older one could potentially have $8 by the end of a month, so for every dollar he has left at the end of the month, I'll match it. That would cost me a potential of $16 and give him the potential of a %100 return. I think I'd reset this every month, but then the incentive to save that $16 is lost. His max return is 100% or $8 every month. If he saved for an entire year, he would have $192. He could achieve earning that $192 even if he spent that $16 at the beginning of every month, so the long term saving isn't there. He could end up earning his $8 base + $8 match every month, then spend it after the match, and end up with 0 dollars at the end of the year. Please someone do the math for me :) and make it make sense for me how do I do this right? I want him to spend some of the earned money, but also save a little, but be excited about saving it and see it grow. Think dividends.",5.211523458091726,3.846844177121774,6.415374275171324,83.54469557195574,68.48339483394834,9.218871903004745,27.844227727991573,7.957251820313856,1.4854995255666843,976,23,223,10,14,332,129,271,0.025,0.852,0.12300000000000001,0.9794,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,1,0,3,5,9,10,0,0,20,0,17,0,0,6,0,40,36,21,0,10,6,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,9,0,0,4,0,10,4,2,1,0,2,2,3,18,9,33,28,3,38,0,1,2,0,20,9,0,5,26,127,30,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711438685667807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947529665917044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23804396431001315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.440112261622162,0.0,0.0,0.06564049969897101,0.0,0.4186657210750335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860071809434485,0.056480759042482176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797821854848584,0.0,0.0,0.04855274857696516,0.09960630505044064,0.0,0.08794944151167708,0.08345537449088022,0.0,0.1084865747106118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326757574665606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4759518735593664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734343151633063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909097056594357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132995030233067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487120140603814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919413573598381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420556630594285,0.07650868303331877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103882968929894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708122008030362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585323351826965,0.0,0.07971779155337907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411954382775289,0.0,0.0,0.12799676996506365
parenting,GetAtMeWolf,2020/03/02,"Mom is back to work today Like the title says, Mom, who is an ICU Nurse is heading back to work today. She's been super stressed over the last few days so a quick trip back to our hometown was in order this past weekend. With that in mind, what can I do best to ensure that she's got as little stress as possible in the upcoming week as her manager scheduled her for seven 12-hour shifts in the next 8 days.....a rediculous workload for anyone, let alone a mom who's heading back to work after a year off.",6.9326213592233,5.311863427184465,6.878951456310682,82.4347378640777,65.2135922330097,9.405048543689322,32.25048543689321,7.554174236665415,2.0089316504854366,395,12,83,3,5,126,69,103,0.064,0.812,0.12300000000000001,0.807,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,5,6,5,0,2,8,0,8,2,2,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,1,6,3,18,5,2,25,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,17,55,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186853502073146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577863283644857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213124003932639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375060600932607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833987500930847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955431201272857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811591555733625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489634398070194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165585388676799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006991488621492,0.0,0.06692083245339853,0.13728855825775144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830935339402614,0.4812830966699295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567831152317898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076158790365913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442280750851614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893089292757603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138170823988256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596794219213913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987598289398604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991661903724872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820973733165757
parenting,ludiman,2020/03/02,"Something is wrong with my daughter's behavior Starting around 2 yrs old, my daughter started becoming rebellious, over the smallest of things. She is now 3.5 yrs, so this has been going on for 1.5 yrs, and getting worse.

Typical day:

I pick her up from daycare, as soon as she arrives home, she started running around, screaming, laughing (for what?) without taking off her shoes or coats, until I  chase around several times and raise my voice and have to grab her to the bathroom to wash her hands.

During dinner time, if I accidentally put some food she doesn't like in her plate, or placed a food in a broken or wrong way, there's a 20% chance it would trigger he to scream :""No NO NO, I don't want that! No No No don't break it!"", and not just one scream, but continuous scream + crying for 10+ minutes, until I either raise my voice higher and yell at her, or just let her calm herself down. Similar episodes happen if I accidentally moved her doll in a slightly wrong way when she's playing. Similar episodes when I try to get her to take a bath and she would ask to watch TV, read one more book, or just want to run around, until I lose my patience.

She also fights with her 1 yr old sister (grabbing stuff form her, not giving her the doll she likes, etc), and would scream back if I ask her to give it to her sister.

Overall, she has become a little monster.

Interestingly, her behavior outside (in daycare) or on the street, is much better, and rarely has these episodes. Only when she's at home, she would 'attack' unpredicably.

What should I do? Try to soothes her and never raise my voice at her when she has these episodes ? Try to be stern and show her my displeasure ? Try to ignore her? Give her meds?

What's going on ?",4.136023738872404,5.506250293768545,4.513490801186947,86.71244391691398,71.28486646884272,7.053721068249259,26.83311572700297,7.404127859558343,1.2656215786350151,1347,45,273,14,25,424,173,337,0.162,0.772,0.066,-0.9836,0,0,1,0,1,0,62.0,0,0,0,2,17,19,2,0,10,0,20,6,2,2,1,45,37,31,0,10,17,4,3,2,0,5,1,9,3,0,12,16,3,1,0,6,0,6,13,12,0,2,1,13,50,7,44,29,6,50,0,1,1,0,44,21,0,10,22,186,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622578974621927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33941300155892057,0.17821897181903246,0.10843801341277944,0.0,0.07329367720134715,0.0,0.0,0.21054253858200067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430104672322232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470237411130258,0.06147224033183839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630479348684924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23051786713226374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959946737801068,0.2743132036864013,0.1083428598434138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428941426281328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912235006378293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746913803351273,0.0,0.09313514413165133,0.09553370148127127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066364879965292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587683729657564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130797524940743,0.07006971543171274,0.0,0.07351513665555966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004046496680086,0.0,0.1291799204869131,0.07249365281839758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958704818341367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958209416262378,0.0,0.0,0.09534381889990044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768223647532008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338047206880048,0.0,0.0,0.2023997649970027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911633340208836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333458388209314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332506005935239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116141321330468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588587271536981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244208089667404,0.1513180223006964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188317417554262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713721020071148,0.2708447591563992,0.3126458895129292,0.0,0.0
parenting,taneey,2020/03/02,"Household earns over $100K yet we are broke AF!!! TLDR: is the headline 

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**Parents what would you do/try**

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1. Dropped out of college severally (college was fully paid for child and parents had to fork up no money at all)

2. Does drugs ( some prescribed some bought on the street)

3. Parents have financed expensive life style ( rent, water, phone , apple watch , allowance, car & health insurance etc ) $2700/mth

4. Parents are damn near broke/ bankrupt downsizing their life because of child's expenses... also some of parent's bad financial decisions

5. Child was enrolled into a learning center and there was a deal where child schools and job pays schooling expenses and after passing exam child has to work for company to ""pay back"" cost of learning center. ( child flanked and parents had to pay cost out of pocket $9000)

6. Child gets job and quits or gets fired for stealing or BAD attendance(longest employment 3mths max)

7. Child is rude and disrespectful to parents and others around( parents allow it)

8. Parent is considering and has attempted suicide due to child's behavior also has been drinking more over the year/two

9. Every attempt at correcting child's behavior or setting boundaries is met with child threatening suicide and parents back off

10. Child has had car ""accidents"" causing the car insurance to hike up to about $300 every car that child has driven has been brand new (YUP!! not paid for all the way)

11. Child lives a good life paid for by parents and in an expensive townhouse while parents have had to downsize constantly in every way/

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**BACKGROUND**

child is of age 23 has no skills of any kind is very naive and can't even tell if she is being conned- waaayy too many examples of this- This  house hold has a combined income of over $100,000/yr. Yet parents can't even afford good food. they eat sandwiches. The debt in this household can take at least 3 years to be close to being in the clear. At the current moment ""file bankruptcy"" has been tossed in the conversation. 

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Parents still give child money child eats Mc donolds and steak and good shit. Therapy has been attempted and life coaches suggested and anti-depressants prescribed still nothing.",4.621658291457287,7.537194570351763,4.241253768844223,82.37695603015077,74.40201005025126,6.995075376884422,30.804271356783925,8.07648339933343,2.544670150753769,1781,83,293,30,40,538,231,398,0.133,0.828,0.039,-0.9904,22,0,2,0,0,2,94.0,1,1,2,8,15,12,3,0,14,1,39,13,1,3,4,43,49,23,2,2,5,14,1,0,0,1,6,0,1,17,7,23,6,1,3,2,18,6,5,8,0,0,17,2,5,4,50,28,8,51,0,2,1,0,43,26,2,7,15,160,12,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976752949658003,0.0,0.2701892082333736,0.24240671031411945,0.03391564330973039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04439792736735276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669917986466325,0.08328446333319893,0.03040238062637816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123375190117645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053895461045126304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05141731742130665,0.042955913036129965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043644575555242135,0.0,0.0,0.04885697536206295,0.05783734618832701,0.10206594164809348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055622059006024814,0.06588186160993408,0.0,0.12606154991133167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030715072674465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052113618490342926,0.047843139527112784,0.0,0.12549440307024007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053013124961392405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05754724323373067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898336933268044,0.0,0.0,0.05193550365142903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090831697868278,0.0,0.0,0.044039153292598825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05056383108486316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048168070436428664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047854902134010086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7752996019694522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05304653290563124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094914956560704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05634278111712732,0.05119436021637185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965797283421303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910687744724104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037498613283511374,0.0,0.043591576950480895,0.0,0.057034614855911665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03386078586792196,0.0,0.04871909518959969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04115080373948096,0.0,0.07917441621412412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036308451754386656,0.0,0.0,0.035428654440529686,0.0,0.24240671031411945,0.06423370879281318
parenting,calm-spaghetti,2020/03/02,"Does anyone have advice on how to handle a toddler that hates being picked up? My 17 month old son is going through a major defiance phase and it's really hard. He absolutely hates being picked up or steered by hand in a direction when I need to do something to him like change his diaper or put him in the high chair. If I pick him up he flails hard or grabs onto the nearest object to chuck into my face. If I take him by the hand to try and lead him he just goes limp and ends up hurting himself. He's a big boy so it's really hard to control him physically. Today when I picked him up to put him in his high chair he backhanded me so hard in the nose that I cried. 

I've tried asking him to come over and let me pick him up/put him in the high chair, but if I'm trying to wait for him to choose to come to me, I'll be waiting forever. He won't do it. Plus I'm worried that if I let him have a choice in the matter when it's something that's going to happen regardless, it will send the message that either he gets to say no to me whenever he wants or that I don't really listen to what he chooses. Neither seem healthy. 

Should I just be continuing to carry this violent writhing beast while trying to stay calm? Is there any other option? I'm also 10 weeks pregnant so when he gets physically uncontrollable I worry about him hitting me in the stomach or hurting me. It's exhausting. Thanks for any advice.",4.470851224105466,4.49812386101695,5.801666666666666,82.65790489642187,69.71186440677965,8.860640301318268,27.575329566854982,8.680891452615391,1.8041035781544248,1109,33,237,17,18,375,146,295,0.14,0.813,0.046,-0.9786,0,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,13,10,3,1,13,0,16,6,5,8,0,40,38,25,0,8,13,1,8,1,0,3,1,2,0,1,15,8,0,3,3,0,0,8,4,7,0,0,0,11,34,3,41,28,3,41,0,2,0,0,34,21,0,11,12,149,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064938576884797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449397215629915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370094897313807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387792497905457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877515794021982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117712384923202,0.18202853141829956,0.0,0.0,0.11850346036725345,0.0,0.0,0.1160594007922051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246127026903177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358086032349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040298370719427,0.0,0.12009476862648412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343225495602234,0.0,0.3785921567585413,0.20862909178708744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348976902182447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262162951208319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160831566985656,0.0,0.05161873888897929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843345165998052,0.0,0.0,0.07834342633407834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086938904346573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186438081145341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030599972851811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402279399150475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618628689581253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268004790609186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261644707402045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944101582869463,0.0,0.0,0.09727489381367747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015060918687553,0.0,0.0,0.2869370347930628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231931531382489,0.0,0.08475178002491496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459989727681952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mafgf,2020/03/02,help ! i have a problem since i was a kid.. i eat my own boogers and it’s so gross how can i stop doing it ? and why do i do it? i’m 19 years old and it’s so gross i want to stop....,-5.921521739130434,-5.7436740217391264,-1.4829565217391285,113.88773913043478,126.17391304347828,1.84,8.947826086956521,3.1291,-2.669793043478261,129,2,44,0,10,48,29,46,0.289,0.619,0.091,-0.8822,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,1,0,8,8,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,0,1,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495359174981126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228963242289307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584454165667877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32685930271216385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282570067706948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711757206710816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148097802778944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082354326957969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199753215878151
parenting,cecelaing,2020/03/02,"First Pregnancy! Ideas needed for announcement to parents! Hey everyone! My name is Cece and I found out on 2/20/20 I’m pregnant! On 1/20/20, my grandma/best friend in the whole world, passed away from cancer at only 57 years old. She was a Libra, and since she’s passed I’ve realized I tend to always get along with Libras. Well from my calculations, my baby will most likely be born a Libra just like my grandma! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and this was not planned. We recently decided not to live together anymore to give each other some space from all the fighting but since we’ve found out I’m pregnant we’ve been spending a lot more time together. My family has seen that we’ve been on and off lately, and I’m also temporarily living with my mom at her house (which is where my grandma was also living and passed away in). I’m really nervous to announce that I’m pregnant to my family because financially I’m not in a stable place and I’m only 20 years old. But I was thinking of saying something to my mom along the lines of “when one grandma must step down, another has to take her place”. Does anyone have any ideas on how to make this cute and worded better? Any advice in any form would be appreciated even if it’s not on this subject 😁",4.123744539213647,5.566351909090912,5.087742874973998,82.30287289369674,71.41106719367589,8.014062825046807,27.14978156854588,8.532816995589336,1.9125857707509883,1015,35,196,17,19,332,140,253,0.04,0.8809999999999999,0.079,0.8944,1,0,1,0,2,0,26.0,1,0,0,3,8,8,1,1,7,0,18,1,0,2,2,44,35,16,0,4,8,3,0,2,1,3,1,1,0,0,8,17,0,0,7,0,1,4,4,2,1,2,10,2,20,6,37,20,8,37,0,0,1,0,14,22,0,5,13,124,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971296934508376,0.0,0.0,0.1124263118775589,0.0,0.0,0.1795711442616066,0.09342106081924301,0.0,0.0,0.2290507522020437,0.1177292027782742,0.0,0.0,0.11134575675745904,0.07850467427203878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21097046064262495,0.0,0.0,0.06844126064590847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782476077353007,0.09929733409742096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982518378434046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415599649408658,0.0,0.0,0.10728273178358108,0.0,0.0,0.21168409386848133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550030797898144,0.0,0.2462055521035371,0.08674270557058081,0.0,0.058658593057748634,0.1077035651495222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954925872469286,0.0,0.25348762783432416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665009616758144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970292638732418,0.0,0.29742031120833423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545144072629866,0.0,0.0,0.07494384602997456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629881816558474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324983636798121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23562560199314914,0.0,0.07607984848267478,0.17077905301661986,0.0,0.0,0.12466712202845795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346051153483566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192567535825152,0.0,0.110857147328526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928488551349821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857486223325408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864341017634713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441616454765995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194072180865363,0.0,0.0,0.06546794147659342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009479162570985,0.0,0.0,0.12535004394664598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797563125959383,0.0,0.0,0.2169025541010421
parenting,chanelembaby,2020/03/02,"Becoming a single mom My now ex boyfriend and I are having a baby, I am 28 weeks pregnant and having my first child who is a boy. I am currently living with his parents because they want my child have the best life and be protected from my ex boyfriend. Recently we have been arguing a lot and he hasn’t been here for my whole pregnancy, he rather go do drugs everyday and tote around guns and justify why it’s okay. He wants to sign over rights to his parents on his end but this makes me really upset because his parents can’t always take over his responsibilities like they always do. He can’t just sign off rights of a child right? Children aren’t trade shows or commodities. All I asked was to talk to him in person longer than two minutes with his family at home or public place he said the only way he will talk to me is if his friends (who do drugs and such) come with him. I don’t think my child’s future is their business and now that’s why he wants to sign off his rights because I won’t let the baby around drug dealers and him being high, also he can’t have a decent conversation. Am I wrong or what?",3.4961455108359156,4.738866271929823,4.390588235294118,87.47205882352941,72.6842105263158,7.645407636738906,24.376676986584112,8.124751697461798,1.1965698658410735,882,25,188,13,17,285,129,228,0.045,0.887,0.067,0.4443,5,0,3,1,1,0,14.0,1,0,3,2,9,7,1,1,9,1,29,4,0,1,1,33,39,15,0,5,7,6,0,1,1,2,4,1,1,7,6,16,0,1,1,1,1,2,7,3,0,2,4,1,30,4,22,30,5,27,0,0,0,0,46,15,0,5,10,124,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901951456603888,0.18769443660868226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20080739875938786,0.1054399447757748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626040442706664,0.12456358273450008,0.0,0.0,0.11836224025934634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715539160148357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923888251514782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989516544787537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632486504980893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593595033539999,0.0,0.0,0.08713839850033772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409904087169185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119164894961131,0.11313383272997787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533161062147293,0.0796642835428257,0.05510167831007777,0.0,0.09959234969553478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588686016568627,0.0,0.0,0.07528571627494544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320939254964779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577904666095418,0.0,0.0,0.3757074426402375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848062746251604,0.11783765503376327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225377765826675,0.0,0.11136284275412264,0.0,0.0,0.3852754601731465,0.10728557804773084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480124452930203,0.1813066757598467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226889274584132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101758049873336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19957280663010304,0.08952449760043459,0.090470348940206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203544145980404,0.12592185140651416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331408935927808,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lucky6186,2020/03/02,"My 4 year old and I are so lazy. I (24f) and my four year old son are so lazy and unmotivated. I'm a sahm and we pretty much just watch tv all day. I keep up with all my housework like dishes, laundry, vacuuming, scrubbing counters and bathrooms, but other than that we just watch tv. He plays the xbox and the switch (as much as a four year old can, he LOVES Mario) but he doesn't want to do anything else. We read at least 3 stories every night before bed but he doesn't want to read during the day or practice any school-like work, he doesn't even want to do arts and crafts like painting or coloring. He likes to play outside but it's still pretty cold and muddy where we live. Being a one income family means we can't go out much to places like the zoo or children's museum. 

I've recently been enlightened to the Montessori style approach and I purged over half his toys (he never played with them anyway) and rearranged his room so it's much more kid friendly. Child sized furniture, toys out on shelves that he can reach, his clothes are now lower so he can teach them (don't even get me started on how he still doesn't want to dress himself, he wants me to do everything for him) but he's still not interested in anything but video games and TV like his dad. It's not really an issue to let him play for an hour or so but he won't be able to start kindergarten until he's almost 6 due to the way his birthday falls and I don't want him to fall behind. He's fairly smart and knows his shapes, colors,numbers and a few letters, but he has a hard time recognizing his name. He speaks very well and has a wide vocabulary. We taught him simple ASL and communicate with him clearly so no baby talk or anything.im just worried he will fall behind if I don't keep up with the momentum. 

I should also note that I am not a crafty/artistic person. I need some sort of instructions or plan to follow for projects to do. By that I mean I have no idea what things to put in a sensory box or what kind of activities are good for a 4 year old. I'm also not a very good teacher, so doing things like math/reading lessons are awkward for me. He gets bored after just a few minutes and wants to stop. I dont want to force it and make him hate it but I don't want to not do it and him not learn anything. We don't really have much of a routine either because I don't even know where to start.",4.328173998044967,4.5352687030303045,5.035803193222549,87.39865102639297,70.05050505050505,8.003258390355164,26.472792440534377,7.717688229018142,1.2042205930270449,1868,52,414,20,31,604,241,495,0.094,0.774,0.132,0.983,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,7,0,2,3,25,21,1,1,21,0,38,2,0,2,4,93,67,49,0,12,28,2,1,6,1,3,0,1,3,4,15,32,1,3,9,16,0,7,22,3,1,4,2,6,44,18,49,59,13,50,0,0,3,1,56,16,0,11,32,254,59,8,0.07838363901763401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848989198296293,0.0,0.0,0.12536673560634629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05330356242150402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19350916857789832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0477819388145156,0.0,0.06669870357620021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110192529941744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186504115778517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547947243035719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553149629523241,0.0,0.06604159653098664,0.0,0.0704461605428289,0.0,0.07389311890059863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060559005066000524,0.0,0.08190443244263858,0.0,0.044547228405391416,0.13148895504285418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021634444405456,0.07738761571500469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719209525066888,0.0,0.0,0.08848558756157614,0.08466778083903195,0.08181215442565808,0.0,0.1393419597390739,0.0,0.08162449803751648,0.08615519618967613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015258154955314,0.0,0.2297657202808609,0.0,0.06921418930740861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074429451500362,0.0,0.05232168770320272,0.0,0.0,0.1707655236827708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881049680752948,0.058120475136091976,0.06045429460846674,0.0,0.0,0.07355773536472124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290017744067698,0.0,0.05311478238287103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844157019229939,0.08189421966628907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948868061565594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879720691908948,0.0,0.0,0.23521455223065174,0.0,0.10042913256496658,0.0,0.07739438725724336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932842738861283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664410294051719,0.0,0.18779182611527026,0.0655322320057611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300179992289917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414921364734817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04570613025570977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934942237661606,0.4160943102839391,0.06221728419411859,0.0,0.0,0.07047630497346602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05706422274947263,0.0796023902547893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20190597447521316
parenting,tellsplatte,2020/03/02,"Little Baby Bum (YouTube channel) warning for posting video with f*words. https://youtu.be/UFzLyTbzzZE?t=245
(Alternatively, search YT, “Don’t talk to strangers song +more”).
Link starts 4:06 where the singer sings, “stop bugging me, stop f*king me...” and repeats the f-word several times. There’s a clear difference between “bugging” and “f*king”. 

My toddler said, “that’s a bad word, don’t say that!”",7.232552083333331,10.549025484375,5.16375,77.03958333333338,67.59375,6.766666666666668,34.104166666666664,7.793537801064563,2.7562791666666664,317,15,47,4,6,90,52,64,0.165,0.794,0.040999999999999995,-0.7901,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,4,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539883310113941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178167933684255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048811589181222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913326721237727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893570682481599,0.24190637077995636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34365134546709697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21530927117951554,0.0,0.0,0.5086377017380633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244498697338186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773773022606723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SJserenity,2020/03/02,"Baby IRA?? Is anyone doing any long-term retirement savings for their child? We have a 529, but don’t want that to be our only savings for babe. I see Roth IRA’s require your child to have earned income - so that’s out for us.. Also we are not wealthy enough for a trust fund haha.",0.33475369458128057,2.6270702586206944,1.8828078817733989,96.32155172413796,87.79310344827586,4.0039408866995085,16.9064039408867,5.288315135182226,-0.6877320197044332,217,5,47,1,7,70,46,58,0.044000000000000004,0.782,0.174,0.8305,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,1,1,2,2,4,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,0,0,9,9,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,4,7,8,1,1,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,0,30,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31488316412968165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677647194606785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753204066878002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40685085546156974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484579434210861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29946597935914265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137691973394437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736349218784375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322450074439962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Adept-Stage,2020/03/02,"Coronavirus help, please... (Throwaway acct)  


We just moved to northern Italy in January. My 17 year old daughter has been miserable because she left her boyfriend and friends in Norway. She is dealing with a lot of psychological issues right now, too (PTSD, OCD). We bought her tickets to go back mid-March to see her friends, and it has been the only thing keeping her spirits up, as she is so lonely here.  


I am pretty sure she has the coronavirus. She has all the symptoms, and is now coughing constantly. She refuses to get checked because she thinks it will prevent her from flying to Norway. I'm pretty sure it would prevent her from going. I want her to go. It has been the two of us since January and things are tense here. She needs a break. I need a break. I was looking forward to this trip for her, too.  


She has had this for a week. I told her I would call the hotline if she gets a high fever or has trouble breathing. So far it's like a chest cold with a low fever.  


So, do I be the asshole to my kid who is having a hard time and call the hotline, and risk her falling into a huge depression with no support here, or do I be an asshole to others (who, at this point, most likely are already exposed)?",3.644916666666667,4.960567658333339,4.310833333333335,87.90416666666668,72.41666666666666,6.833333333333335,29.16666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.5175416666666668,938,38,192,9,18,299,136,240,0.09699999999999999,0.779,0.12300000000000001,0.6728,0,2,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,0,0,0,12,13,0,2,17,0,27,6,2,0,3,31,43,13,0,6,4,1,1,2,2,3,4,0,0,1,13,12,0,4,1,1,2,7,1,6,0,1,7,4,33,7,24,31,3,29,1,4,2,0,35,13,0,5,11,140,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495163128586596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418325764955666,0.0,0.1651865931055221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767003752773489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464162906073778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396839871822676,0.11669712670492127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093580959019964,0.0,0.14157560880860232,0.0,0.23100584891957196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137220680875395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081592619799328,0.1431523641516495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141610197797,0.0,0.12042951885698712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721001430979735,0.0,0.0,0.13238690004105946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377726951028913,0.0,0.0,0.11518854380959995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440041663944503,0.0,0.20092787181939656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217370513912667,0.0,0.0,0.10304606342493354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872706323517526,0.12808161182022115,0.0,0.0,0.27568357881065625,0.0,0.0,0.15838027204916386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157075097313482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079677921312556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207852473634633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375216737081715,0.2553949796414415,0.14082573265082388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002674445472894,0.0868163636158421,0.0,0.0,0.07900516521824673,0.0,0.0,0.1294662663657606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235380236261995,0.0,0.16297749181591253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991536740972227,0.0,0.10868170815439827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19249606789891424,0.0,0.0,0.08725095945949499
parenting,afausse,2020/03/02,"Single mom by choice Hello everyone!

Don't know if that's allowed... Looking for ressources (Reddit or others) on single parenting. Google has a lot of results, but I'm looking for a sane, recommended community.

Currently going through the fertility process to get pregnant via a donor, and I would need a sounding board for some of my anxieties, as well as experiences from others.

Care to share? 

Thanks!",5.068611670020118,8.03132153521127,5.6502213279678095,72.61887323943664,73.08450704225352,8.564185110663983,34.08651911468813,9.23628265651192,3.803843460764588,323,17,50,8,7,104,59,71,0.025,0.757,0.218,0.938,3,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,2,0,11,12,6,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,13,11,4,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,4,1,35,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015113562081916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800834708844299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26249560051871096,0.0,0.2687174784190653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352377455616694,0.0,0.1561230857984443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509725247584056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613716533866325,0.0,0.0,0.2335472152626571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32173509904806785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036927604955159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050311128151919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529145401851954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24699579753873324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951449298686941,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GachaGhoul456,2020/03/02,"If you don’t know what gachalife is or if it’s for kids. I am a kid myself and came across a Reddit question on safari asking if gacha life is for kids. It is fully safe except for a few inappropriate outfit combinations. The main thing you should be careful with if your child uses the app is Gacha life mini movies some have inappropriate scenes like: self harm, suicide, abuse, rape, sex, murder and maybe some others. Apart from that it’s an awesome app I myself make gacha life mini movies and there is no harm in it. An app you should be careful with is Starmaker it is full of perverts I used to have the app and my dad would find inappropriate comments on the songs I would sing so I suggest that you check your child’s comments if they have it. 😊",4.165381818181821,5.47046812,4.674848484848488,85.83409090909093,71.13333333333333,6.787878787878787,23.63636363636364,6.980632752743323,0.6873999999999998,598,15,122,5,11,190,88,150,0.185,0.738,0.077,-0.9687,0,0,0,0,1,1,12.0,0,6,1,0,2,8,2,0,9,0,18,5,0,3,0,27,26,11,2,9,7,1,0,1,0,4,3,1,0,6,11,7,0,1,3,2,1,1,2,4,0,0,1,1,15,4,13,19,5,7,0,0,0,2,19,6,0,9,1,84,26,0,0.0,0.24161029857935915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063644496287235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23322865290158354,0.4158173828941232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863779852452319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206837721577284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4321013967926831,0.09962436993740212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611730675371647,0.0,0.20486372921453766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284355979651781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273166312693573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22305394578789967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547451434108335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522405448677035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28971596848191056,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bandedearth,2020/03/02,"Interested In Other Responses Often in parenting we are forced to give an answer to something in the moment, and that answer may not really be the right one.  This morning I find myself questioning my response to a text message I received from my 15yr old this morning.  

I am sure we will have more discussion about this later this evening so I thought I would ask other parents how they would have responded and maybe have a better arsenal of thought for the longer discussion this evening.

[Conversation Screenshot](https://imgur.com/a/Wf0F7GL)

My daughters text: “Dad idk what to do I’m freaking out internally. [Friend] got caught stealing again and I don’t wanna work on the dragon with him anymore but I don’t know how to tell him.”

A few contextual details: Friend stole about $80 worth of candy bars from a club fundraiser when they were in 8th grade. I don’t yet know what and from who he stole this time. The dragon is a group project they started last Thursday in their art class. I don’t know what her consequence will be with the teacher if she decides not to work with the friend.

My initial response: “That is hard, and there are no good answers. I am sorry you are experiencing that challenge. 

I think you have to be direct with him. “[Friend], I need to have a trust relationship with someone to complete a project like this. Right now, your choice to steal from [X] has violated that trust. I have valued you as a friend in the past and I hope that with time our trust can be rebuilt. For right now, I am excusing myself from our shared project.”

Do you think you can say that?”

So other parents, in your opinions was I right to encourage her to step back from the friendship? Would you have felt a completely different action should have been recommended? Have you been in a similar situation with one of your kids, how did you respond and how did it work out ling term? Would you have encouraged her to stay in the project since in adult life we all find ourselves in projects at work with people we would rather not be working with?",5.171392780172415,6.9081703723958325,4.785075431034482,84.34031250000002,69.234375,7.900718390804597,29.90804597701149,8.433251757073789,2.1290627873563217,1629,64,309,25,29,495,192,384,0.057,0.778,0.166,0.9938,4,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,6,12,4,7,19,22,1,0,21,0,47,2,0,4,2,61,63,17,0,11,6,5,2,1,5,9,1,1,0,2,21,22,1,0,15,3,1,4,8,4,0,2,11,4,51,18,52,38,4,40,0,0,0,0,61,19,0,6,17,227,72,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094939272995526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949541585346313,0.0,0.0,0.07361110945275418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466615149186163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007439358727692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001835606866273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645863839684626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191662225306876,0.0,0.17499251309161973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698070606531769,0.0,0.0,0.09183374806635296,0.0,0.08029448951441795,0.07656470063603739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575603222135875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508232784589683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578335038439532,0.07803341438635725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761752578204533,0.046769254527503835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961744992827423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07098320737079343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045341647410454,0.0,0.12973939402627574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188933178012672,0.0,0.09138592218417964,0.0663677131676677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724045362684828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06132762960243812,0.0,0.0,0.10277909953026733,0.0,0.3270144687542753,0.0,0.07612900901652406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918954290546235,0.10760547893276826,0.0,0.0,0.08111243294398485,0.07369828022562308,0.0,0.10716284157283293,0.06775878367369023,0.10203634165716782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022518696481782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367297662848598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268091800147415,0.0,0.15199919282156346,0.1116428492527184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484659706750744,0.0,0.0,0.3400222224523633,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ParentingTATA,2020/03/02,"COVID-19 and School Closings - At what point will/would you keep your kids home? Reading about school closings in Europe and Asia - When, if ever, would you decide to keep your children home, or would you wait for the school system to make the decision to close?  

Reuters (and others) have reported that the long incubation period, where people may have no symptoms yet be actively shedding the virus and contaminating others, could be as long as 27 days.
I realize the line in the sand will be different for every family, but I wonder what/where exactly that line is.  Do you wait for a child at your kids' schools to be diagnosed?  Or a teacher?  More than several? A kid in your district or state?  Once a kid in your kid's school has been diagnosed, does that mean he or she has been running around the school and playground shedding virus for up to a month? That's kinda scary.

My kids' school makes it very clear to parents that they lose money for each day kids are absent, and ask parents, if you need to take kids out for doctors appointments or whatever, please take them out after 11am rather than bringing them late. The school doesn't get paid their per diem unless a student is there until 11am.  After that, they really don't care as much.  So, should I trust that their profit motive won't play a part in a decision to keep schools open or close?

If you have someone in your household that is elderly or has underlying health conditions like diabetes, heart or lung disease, or immunosuppression, would that affect your decision?

While I still hope that this is nothing but a bad scare for most of us in the USA, I find these questions and negative ideas creeping into my brain.  I wonder if I am blowing this out of proportion or if other parents are having the same thoughts and concerns.",7.4436231203007575,7.532972068452381,6.759223057644111,78.09981203007521,63.43452380952381,10.049874686716793,33.16040100250627,9.682069395223575,2.9692404761904765,1429,52,263,25,19,440,183,336,0.059000000000000004,0.848,0.09300000000000001,0.9179,4,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,13,6,2,10,9,0,1,19,0,31,9,3,4,3,73,51,33,0,13,19,3,1,1,0,7,6,0,2,10,18,19,0,5,13,2,3,2,5,3,0,0,4,1,30,6,43,35,6,42,0,1,0,0,37,23,0,22,16,183,48,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846395369515075,0.0718981027725744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642145250834667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585417142848831,0.0,0.0,0.07841229135322764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614043568351912,0.0,0.0,0.09919791160116916,0.0,0.0,0.15611892646836462,0.0,0.08035193730529366,0.0,0.07871805446786657,0.06730224533084486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956720971644123,0.06479786052816781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250151819491117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702920343500783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04018097887417585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174904433176064,0.0,0.09113572233108576,0.0,0.0,0.1542889262693171,0.07638647090610022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681917250255689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20507667925602754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867549760955219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037573105131116516,0.0,0.0,0.1361213817546466,0.0,0.08603978684229037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267266693953236,0.0,0.0,0.08377478110651006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06138680887190168,0.0,0.05653583959029796,0.0570259145678329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379479174061701,0.0,0.0,0.08190394563904657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561899323905484,0.08328329551040019,0.0,0.05331795619479278,0.0,0.0,0.08442130725992235,0.07270241790980017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615396758271249,0.0,0.07692828232625566,0.0,0.04926889465684122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699779415932337,0.7005101904662396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688355034103523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651634498183574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141840494542341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993630874980594,0.11564969248373108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061055940589890174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251021713033168,0.0,0.0,0.06345671721175318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680574128145406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21853144062590035,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jkgoans19,2020/03/02,"PLEASE HELP US & VOTE PLEASE HELP US & VOTE::Hi everyone! Not everyone may know, want to know, or really care too much but Dave and I have been on a journey to try and start/expand our family by having children. Don’t get us wrong our current family is absolutely perfect and we love everything about it, we would love to try and add a missing piece! Our journey has led us to quite a few doctors, procedures, etc. but as time has gone on and will continue to go on IVF has become to be our most viable option. Knowing all of this, on a whim, I entered us into a radio contest with [@mojointhemorn](https://www.instagram.com/mojointhemorn/) to win an IVF treatment through [@ivfmichigan](https://www.instagram.com/ivfmichigan/), and we got word today that we have made it to the final round. Now we need YOUR support. If you could PLEASE PLEASE VOTE for us (link below) and SHARE with all of your friends and family, we would be forever grateful!!❤️❤️ Jennette & Dave

http://ul.ink/R8JA-F3KR",8.717921348314611,9.0623845,7.2621123595505574,74.70058426966294,60.74157303370786,10.266067415730339,34.09213483146068,9.888512548439397,3.2009914606741567,803,29,138,14,10,240,114,178,0.033,0.7020000000000001,0.265,0.9940000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,16,3,0,3,3,10,0,0,7,0,16,3,0,2,3,41,31,13,0,6,5,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,4,18,0,0,4,1,0,6,2,2,0,0,4,1,21,8,23,20,7,18,0,1,1,2,26,6,0,5,6,93,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938692896240154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998479210583859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217641644850233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218298904053187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253585178323302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082820032179812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17277637779129276,0.08125238288064739,0.0,0.2556842818498141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990369379164128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984856844685243,0.0,0.047234159059707834,0.0,0.05138063495264498,0.0,0.07230709337381443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119641057634098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905670374409336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319249935728375,0.08554571128327007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645987515994864,0.06703597559574327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969609070630615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096159447200732,0.0,0.0,0.057917324866689414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639908555416404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259329824512436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052717308749166636,0.0,0.08569568766013802,0.0,0.0,0.12276144254834365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6524941551472074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332465397551524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844571132019975,0.0988463497070058,0.0,0.0
parenting,burner-1738e1i2o,2020/03/02,"Why is she like this? My daughter is a senior in highschool, she's about to graduate but it'd be a miracle if she even manages that. She's a brilliant girl, every parent conference her teachers are always praising her but she could always do better because she just never turns her work in at all/in time. I ask her why, she says, ""The classes aren't stimulating enough. They feel like a waste of my time."" I tell her school isn't supposed to be fun, and she has to do what she has to do. She's been like this ever since 6th grade. Incredibly smart just unmotivated. I know she can do better. I tell her to do better.

She doesn't care much for extracurricular activities, she never goes out with friends but is incredibly social. We used to move around a lot and she always managed to have people around her. Every year on her birthday she received and came home with many presents. Every Valentine's Day she comes home with chocolates... She doesn't seem to care for much. At home, she can sit in bed and let her room clutter from days to weeks and seems to be okay with it. I constantly have to remind her what to do, she constantly lies to me, she doesn't seem to be considerate of my own feelings at all. Does she even care for me at all? I've tried everything. I've been physical with her, I've been nice to her, I've done nothing at all. I was told by her Mother a while ago that she'd [my daughter] mentioned wanting to go to a Therapist, because she'd thought she was depressed, alluding to have had suicidal thoughts. I don't understand what she could be depressed for. I give her everything. I sacrifice everything, and she is never thankful.",2.666427791563276,4.914520526153852,3.711632754342435,87.1249478908189,77.58461538461539,6.7781637717121574,25.560794044665013,7.831003766801068,1.4576263027295289,1301,49,261,21,31,419,150,325,0.11900000000000001,0.723,0.158,0.9363,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,1,0,1,5,8,18,0,0,8,1,42,0,0,2,7,46,64,11,1,4,6,4,2,3,1,0,0,1,5,1,9,17,0,0,10,0,0,5,9,2,0,0,11,3,57,16,44,42,8,35,2,2,0,0,58,13,0,5,19,184,66,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803700845165829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22632453641760675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142421783904087,0.08476062495493776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053850492729717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405605642884533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369793866637904,0.27732059246145224,0.0,0.0,0.0781008727517417,0.0,0.195955828575039,0.0,0.14477910986803222,0.0,0.0,0.11694435120403535,0.0,0.1561812695904815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934257171093212,0.09278296510047986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368238472090937,0.0,0.11976829337289907,0.08201273670027945,0.22917046245921716,0.0,0.2444547079127853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168707416395704,0.06477192617229742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700484539343004,0.0,0.0,0.0869752467635154,0.05152767079734824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728366669614425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04982775298996265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271229621870553,0.0,0.13288472503168033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708113096885465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192126038096733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636378447720484,0.13330012646324474,0.0,0.2097820068079008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699663030246346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067404627385744,0.0,0.0,0.0628565026630231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210137323688377,0.0,0.09175899910435446,0.0,0.2476172134592246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499998835195212,0.0,0.0,0.09242273704467824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991740684596237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849244842848412,0.08347322306548534,0.0,0.10527040530205677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395761451398706,0.10573633950038948,0.0,0.0,0.08663540577683834,0.0,0.061556374342869015,0.0986187517408764,0.0,0.09438667495895407,0.0,0.07830645583867507,0.0,0.0,0.053477253014978736,0.0,0.07272692841759698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362422283041594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600604772496932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583860374550117
parenting,mandy-gif,2020/03/02,"MSc Students would love help with a project! :) Digital Screens at Playgrounds? We are conducting a short survey of parents with children who are actively on playgrounds.

Our idea is to have large screens at playgrounds that offer live-feed video communication to other children/families at playgrounds around the city. The screens would be interactive and educational/fun games can be played between children at different playgrounds! 

We have three questions we would love to ask parents:

 1) Do you find any specific elements of playgrounds that children are drawn too (E.g. specific structures, colors, themes)?

2) Do you think that digital interfaces (screens) would be appropriate at playgrounds (why or why not)?

3) Which of the following themes feel most exciting for a coastal city and for children?

* Cranes and Ship Building
* Nature and Animals",6.892944038929442,10.616479510948906,5.284408759124091,73.44349878345501,71.4087591240876,8.616836982968369,39.79026763990268,9.21078282632365,4.738005742092458,691,42,96,17,15,201,86,137,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.9745,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,4,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,16,2,0,0,0,22,22,5,0,4,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,6,10,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,6,4,18,15,1,9,0,0,5,2,21,8,0,3,0,61,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265191802445221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656223744239501,0.17392998585494182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943808081158145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538971889134292,0.0,0.09407157817026597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004471701981796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470421076241656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21002581240666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642840008181093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358315933272196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4131690971764529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20841660329212816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921219723480385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357591898071794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5286533150555057,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scatterbrain91,2020/03/02,"Getting my 8 year old a phone Hello,

I’m (28f) and interested in getting my son (8) a phone. My ex recently gave him a trac phone but our kiddo is not understanding the do’s and donts of having it and has been getting in trouble. It currently only connects to WiFi and he is supposed to only be using it to FaceTime with his dad and step brothers and sister. But overall I’m not happy with it and I want to get him something else with less functions. 

I’ve searched amazon and found a few of the watch phones that look ok but I’m hoping there are some other parents out there with some good suggestions for me. 

He only needs to be able to make calls and maybe listen to music from it.

Any suggestions? 

Thank you.",2.9193749999999987,4.640508854166669,4.167777777777779,86.555,75.04166666666666,6.466666666666668,25.19444444444445,7.1686216300943375,1.1056361111111108,561,19,112,6,12,184,93,144,0.05,0.8240000000000001,0.126,0.8556,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,6,1,10,0,0,2,0,28,28,12,0,3,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,14,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,3,10,6,18,23,4,8,0,0,2,0,23,3,0,3,4,71,17,0,0.18822222436305291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799756698197207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219593558095527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220595045147518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723551630702345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20637595386878224,0.0,0.0,0.3933533745754936,0.0,0.0,0.15787187165277985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20036605781251016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694713857592388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805926348641733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563979633186306,0.0,0.18909452315914035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956439441005875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750756208289255,0.0,0.0,0.4294544497391038,0.0,0.0,0.20899850555668487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18584673926017445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490266402056104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17328973574012865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594597357520246,0.0,0.16256356877923026,0.0,0.0,0.111018344599005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120894138177485
parenting,ram921,2020/03/02,"Angry Six Year Old I am concerned about my son and would appreciate advice/perspective. 

My son is a smart, empathetic and usually sweet kid who recently turned six and is in Kindergarten. He has always had very high energy levels and strong emotions, which we have handled through exercise and other self-control techniques (deep breathing, talking through feelings, yoga, fidget toys, etc..). He has also recently been classified as ""gifted"" with very high skills in math and reading.   


Over the last few weeks he has had numerous and sudden mood swings into extreme anger (throwing things, locking himself in rooms, screaming, name-calling, talking back, etc...). This has been caused by such things as:

* Dinner is ready, so it's time to put away toys.
* Me being unable to play with him immediately upon request because of household responsibilities.  
* Leaving activities once they are done (leaving a friends house, leaving the park, leaving school, etc...).  


I also received a report stating that he spent part of Kindergarten last Friday running in circles, disrupting students and laughing at the teacher when she attempted to get him to stop.   


When I talk to him about this he tells me ""I don't know why I did it. I know it's wrong. I guess I'm just a bad kid."" This type of language (""I guess I'm just a bad kid"") has recently started creeping into conversations - with other variations being ""I don't like myself"" or ""I hate me."" or ""I guess I'm just not ready for school."" Please know that this is not language my wife or I use with our son. When he says these things I assure him that he is not a ""bad kid"" and that we love him, but we don't always love his choices. I try to stay positive about him, while painting a contrast between the actions he chose and the acceptable actions.   


Here are my questions:

* I worry sometimes that my son is manipulating us with his ""I hate me"" talk. But simultaneously I don't want to ignore a real problem. I struggle with depression and I'd hate to think I am ignoring him when he is in real pain. Am I other-thinking this? Am I being a softie? 
* How do I get him to calm down during these times of intense anger? Our normal deep-breathing doesn't seem to be working. Our other options (exercise, attention) don't seem to help either.",4.420995757093607,6.6639988687350895,5.029834924423231,79.73131298064175,72.24582338902148,7.1376557942190395,30.49330416335189,7.984000788550335,2.3212370193582608,1782,79,307,26,36,571,218,419,0.149,0.745,0.105,-0.977,0,0,0,0,0,0,91.0,7,0,1,4,17,29,5,1,14,0,37,7,1,4,1,62,62,27,0,4,12,5,1,1,1,1,3,2,1,4,23,22,1,3,10,7,1,6,9,16,0,2,7,4,52,12,43,50,6,45,0,1,0,2,53,17,0,10,21,211,75,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870820010542403,0.13391969672440218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560688098407932,0.06187864568606347,0.20157437694284747,0.04905549556362925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266777263210824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025713137216117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931113807407624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235165358642323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052111221535078,0.0,0.0,0.2692454616309791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040689485196587216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217311557584829,0.0,0.08408747367762415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659497133241841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23835080368697736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393924750135925,0.17004794475247334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285485139614456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326773028467716,0.1311922082518349,0.0,0.3408364673878995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0393149641599438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525975763371807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884629594702619,0.0,0.0,0.08444270725120985,0.08570094689060942,0.0,0.0,0.08562877415821828,0.0,0.0,0.08714424231607534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833501137787977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700163856360838,0.0,0.08089742966376856,0.09014799644403652,0.0,0.08049461581598343,0.1831914164264213,0.0,0.0,0.2383716597699549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639952312957344,0.0,0.16288561805489524,0.0,0.14651890004985424,0.08395072126203511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958969518216147,0.0,0.05695908943953601,0.0857733388267764,0.0,0.06727889650758044,0.0,0.08412768355975718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587240780342345,0.07033680802780827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603877348258903,0.10312749140571736,0.0,0.0,0.09384871880956393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054635775117020086,0.08753134017322027,0.0,0.0,0.0967989166244225,0.06950269500250933,0.08862946273631625,0.13279703948778376,0.04746496525815664,0.0,0.06455045717675142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261422019810214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058585185017195375,0.0817240739677107,0.0,0.05716559575024971,0.0879844163056906,0.0,0.051821869731927636
parenting,irn-stu,2020/03/02,"Any tips for teaching and forming good hand washing habits? My 5 year old knows how to wash their hands well, they have even *taught* me so I have seen that they are capable of it.

Sometimes however, it can be a battle to get them to do it.  Conversely there will also be times when they stand at the sink for ages playing in the water.

Given the current virus situation I thought I would see if there was something I can add to my parenting repertoire to really form the habit.

Maybe this is just a tale as old as time but I thought I'd ask for suggestions, maybe something will stick...",3.20095652173913,5.1969221826087,3.5680434782608725,89.9642391304348,75.0,7.034782608695654,26.28260869565217,7.908726449838941,1.4416260869565225,461,17,95,7,10,143,85,115,0.016,0.904,0.08,0.6124,3,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,5,0,9,4,1,0,6,0,13,5,2,1,0,10,22,9,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,4,13,3,13,11,2,11,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,1,8,64,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611311211782092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370198040848536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836553114133325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308194817505828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052699742488882,0.0,0.0,0.16899987581341888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107333878498815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048466721314085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.422858779271744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22373030175985728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907936583720772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605610852464297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264826974610241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102330005736291,0.19927831806255134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31992039386428306,0.2349803551061585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116330431590386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313239604800956,0.0,0.0,0.12975266478153033
parenting,Transparentdit,2020/03/02,"Any words of support will be greatly appreciated Well...

I'm a male, 33 yo, married to a woman and we have a 4 yo daughter.

My wife and I are going through a crisis for some time now and I think it will end up in a divorce real soon.

It wouldn't be that big of a problem if we hadn't planned a few years back that we would move to another city in order for me to have this dream job I always wanted.

It was great on paper, the three of us moving to a better area of the country and living as a happy family.

Well, in reality, we are on he brink of divorce and I have to go in a year. My wife has zero reasons to go if we divorce and will stay here with our daughter. I didn't prepare for this. I don't wanna go alone. Well, at least not without my daughter.

I realize how important my presence is for her. All the times she asks for daddy when she's afraid, needs helps with something or just wants to hug and kiss, I think about how starting next year she won't have that. What will that do to her? To our relationship? To our future? 

The city I'm moving to is far and you can't get there by road. It takes 2 plane rides to get there. We live in Brazil and it's a huge ass country. 

Anyway, I'm living this year as a countdown to saying goodbye to my daughter. She's not old enough to understand what's about to happen and this is tearing me. I really don't know what to do...

If any of you reading this has something to share that might help me see things differently or, I don't know, change something, please chip in.",1.1384057971014483,2.9168555527950346,2.997863354037268,92.68662939958595,80.42857142857143,5.535569358178054,21.60289855072464,6.42735559955562,0.2290232712215325,1176,35,266,10,30,393,163,322,0.032,0.825,0.14300000000000002,0.9838,2,1,3,0,3,0,38.0,10,2,0,2,16,13,0,1,16,0,30,3,1,3,1,48,53,20,0,10,9,6,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,2,19,18,0,0,7,2,0,8,11,2,3,2,3,2,36,11,49,40,5,41,0,0,1,3,36,16,1,7,15,188,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092506823748878,0.0,0.0,0.08777199833523028,0.0,0.0,0.14346688041332914,0.1106102553283595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861426715189044,0.0,0.0,0.0811114797746375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329294022848862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158917892341053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020940895562463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342843031270633,0.10899423782216633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944190192064246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022315283217488,0.0,0.2397983024040148,0.0,0.0,0.2325952442757219,0.0,0.0,0.09328006700240384,0.11229077994555292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140878922794653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046776194193981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594363178758825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794356522107101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190295117942607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33634169136628145,0.0,0.0782158159522155,0.0,0.0,0.1121845301271564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068879845999538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157908905298325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093493126293082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551357952871046,0.1200650620550463,0.06757641373843609,0.10845618323389976,0.0,0.11325144960836912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838859327214766,0.0,0.0,0.08405791472967895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436225976100622,0.0,0.0,0.07466284983831238,0.11243301077964817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970316627988245,0.0,0.0,0.07931161762849026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007956926654865,0.1351811006950965,0.0,0.0,0.12301834297113635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098136402950001,0.1268855076082735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443561189342398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845311408357912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016838083221732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749335414841795,0.0,0.0,0.2717156131677808
parenting,megaboom77,2020/03/02,"My girlfriend won't help take care of our son My girlfriend (20F) and I start started having sex at her parents house while they were gone during the day. We used condoms and birth control, she still got pregnant. I don't know how, I always wonder if the condom had a whole in it or she really wasn't on birth control idk, I regreted ever having sex with her until about a month after my son was born. At first I *really* wanted her to get an abortion, I mean how the hell am I supposed to take care of a baby, forget the fact that I didn't want one. She refused and said I needed to man up. Well I'm 19M now and my son is 2 years old and she isn't doing anything. At all. 

I work and leave my son with my parents because she's hanging out with friends or doing whatever. I come home and take care of him by myself, we rarely speak because she avoids me. The last time she saw my son was 2 days ago and she was only here for 30 minutes before she left. She comes, might take a few selfies with him and leaves. 

I want to move out of my parents but I need someone to look after him while at work so I have to stay, she won't do anything and when I ask she tells me to pull my weight. I've had multiple sit-down talks with her where she makes up excuses.

I don't even want her as a girlfriend honestly, before my son, she contributed nothing to my life other than sex. I just want her to be a mom. I might try to find a sitter because my parents shouldn't have to pick up her slack, I felt so bad I tried to give my parents money but of course they declined.

I took him out of town for a day for an emergency visit to my grandpa and when we got back she was extremely angry at me for taking her baby, even though I texted and called a million times and went to her house.

I try to go to her but she's not always at home, and when she is she just won't open her door. If she does open up, she'll take him for 30-40 minutes then make up an excuse to leave.

She seriously isn't doing her part in rasing him.

Any advice?",2.524269713261649,3.2816084490740742,3.966597968936679,91.44465053763443,74.46296296296295,6.592712066905618,23.194743130227003,6.532088108194933,0.4312166069295103,1558,40,359,11,31,517,205,432,0.09699999999999999,0.8809999999999999,0.022000000000000002,-0.9694,5,1,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,0,2,5,20,11,1,1,17,0,32,7,0,8,3,69,72,34,0,11,10,13,2,0,4,7,1,2,3,1,3,29,1,4,5,0,1,10,11,5,1,3,17,6,86,6,57,47,4,62,1,1,2,5,75,22,1,7,29,245,89,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410698037037622,0.06722487184858238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620481902254868,0.0,0.0,0.051571719972525375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248146803034882,0.0,0.07089730195848883,0.0,0.0,0.05831392596595587,0.06332067745047787,0.1386884847658373,0.0,0.12906330110403968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743799513809979,0.0,0.2319624447495443,0.0,0.0,0.130653618036571,0.0,0.0,0.1701151542145392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672565800558784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636541752427595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001791676834096,0.06859885426013515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281535552111744,0.0,0.06931358954432575,0.06450686268915927,0.0,0.0,0.058591431964377924,0.0,0.039621671259408436,0.07274970348537771,0.04309988084301385,0.0,0.12130745800974772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050831902517899714,0.0,0.15214126900076366,0.0,0.0,0.17501129411803312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041677999088851454,0.061817228176915325,0.0,0.2409011094060556,0.08239705754627417,0.0,0.05356587370804495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368392984167587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124349308521728,0.0,0.0,0.08260866036203865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090201852018154,0.0,0.08881930792662543,0.06053232223144823,0.08060266579647409,0.0,0.11246426063183508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276758956418551,0.0,0.07957811171230884,0.0,0.051389073431722034,0.057677410451662324,0.0,0.0,0.42103973760547103,0.08212401610340125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716617176105703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213829672252027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425639342727119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735555336866218,0.08083208794797535,0.0605634784967569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34211964655149724,0.060954859971573926,0.06628482848226012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450940881262302,0.0,0.088442259522388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425763109096929,0.15446491321564712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549876723826821,0.0,0.0,0.22365296132072607,0.0,0.0,0.0923489627109064,0.0681865169920351,0.07030160344820582,0.0,0.0846692355665073,0.0,0.0,0.08224192678246776,0.11042039152333928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883650314999783
parenting,cgallardo2013,2020/03/02,"Husband has ZERO patience He is 46 years old and we have an 8 year old. He says he’s too old to have any tolerance towards him. There are moments when he is super lovable to him but 75% of the time he has no patience , yells at him and tells him to stop and go to the other room , he tells him not to get near him because he’s clumsy and is always stepping on his shoes or don’t touch him with sticky hands . I do notice that he has a strained relationship with his parents as I did hear that his mother had very very bad post partum depression and my husband was an extremely hyper child and his parents were young when they had him so he spent most of his time with his grandparents . I think he honestly doesn’t know how to deal with small children. He does have a 28 year old daughter from a previous marriage and when I met him she was 14 and her teen years almost killed him . So I think he just doesn’t know how to manage strong emotions . I have speoken to him about therapy and he doesn’t think he needs it but I know he does. Any suggestions?",3.759583333333332,4.602288013888892,4.338962962962967,89.60233333333336,71.6388888888889,7.426666666666668,26.43703703703704,7.554174236665415,1.175133703703704,825,26,180,9,15,262,118,216,0.11199999999999999,0.8220000000000001,0.066,-0.9276,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,2,11,7,1,1,7,0,22,2,2,2,0,31,34,20,1,1,5,6,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,4,14,0,1,6,0,1,2,6,4,0,1,8,5,29,3,21,26,1,25,0,1,0,0,53,6,0,3,16,109,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602980316741225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047249323589186,0.0,0.0,0.1711771365811588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508717043106587,0.07672259690531698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297553032753276,0.1084023399704231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22028045886138253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415746538511885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575623458320558,0.0,0.07152868077336473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418524595927156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392445513426806,0.0,0.20750676571178506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332299811277738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329152735322212,0.5282722121622333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27950348256208346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205383178262442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512567361731606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000882832423253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522392236951952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200129672698778,0.0,0.1439309578751698,0.0,0.0,0.2419364699735192,0.0,0.0,0.14677901712290672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20769403333466036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241967797198528
parenting,agreatbigpileofshit,2020/03/02,"Need help with family grief. Father-in-law passed away suddenly and our 4 yr old son is taking it so hard. Please comment if you have any experience with a situation like this or advice. Thank you.

Original Reddit post here with more details.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ChildrenofDeadParents/comments/fc2ufg/we_told_our_4_yr_old_tonight_that_his_grandpa/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf",19.46898550724638,26.61185647826087,9.204347826086963,42.72724637681162,49.43478260869565,8.284057971014493,22.88405797101449,8.841846274778883,2.487518840579711,362,7,34,6,6,85,43,46,0.096,0.665,0.239,0.7588,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,5,4,1,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,4,5,1,6,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,2,4,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23854147129871886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5289861760510706,0.0,0.16600317403526765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22934938495726384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23878642556285884,0.23012518712850946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21867461605463545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362179048358502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192598177882603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100447532446345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25615238613360314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679594802221206,0.0,0.0,0.23378990619511106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743898730092789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835403436147713,0.0,0.0,0.22474369504731115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bumblebeatunaman,2020/03/02,"2 y/o todller punching/pinching advice   

Hi all,

First post here so be gentle, long time lurker but desperate for advice.

Long story short I have a 2 year old boy and a baby on the way. My 2 yo has been going through a few aggressive changes of recent (whether he can sense pending baby or not is unknown) and id like some advice on how to handle it before newborn comes. He is generally good and kind, but when he’s tired he will become a demon, start hitting, throwing, pinching etc. Its come to the point where we cant take him out to social situations just in case he gets tired and starts causing a fuss. It doesn’t help that he’s very particular about his sleep and will only sleep in his cot with his specific blankets lol.

A lot of friend and family advice has been “oh he’s only 2 it will pass”, but surely there must be fix for it? I’ve tried things like naughty corner/steps, getting down to his level to explain, telling off…..but I think he’s still too young to understand, do I just ride it out until he’s a bit older or is there a fix for this behaviour?

Thank you all.",2.7390246354952232,4.297761185520367,3.988378582202113,88.33595148315739,75.15384615384616,6.540070387129211,24.04248366013072,7.1686216300943375,0.8727765711412769,846,26,177,9,18,277,146,221,0.055,0.7859999999999999,0.158,0.9764,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,0,1,12,8,1,0,10,1,18,4,2,2,4,33,31,16,0,1,9,0,0,2,1,4,2,0,0,2,9,12,0,0,3,0,0,6,3,1,0,1,2,0,11,7,22,22,7,33,1,0,0,0,24,11,0,4,16,101,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4907697759652623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866738621434946,0.10683940812930263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707527448192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898120133090124,0.1328222211747081,0.216311764871514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400287842462425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183635762747444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679836903338367,0.0,0.0,0.0970047079064911,0.0,0.13119626943484405,0.0,0.07135670202638167,0.10531090845168824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415793386101182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074786452508286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268121291225735,0.0,0.0,0.22222725748480385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674372059301623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175051750050867,0.0,0.0,0.1909828849060356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869155849248104,0.0,0.12024850360572352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397198271848313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113086476194614,0.25129452557062504,0.12798912905838408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773919748194975,0.0,0.10026965282143592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833559764748525,0.0,0.09440292795420137,0.0,0.1097419914478749,0.11559563654431786,0.0,0.0,0.08341421756798167,0.08045159140156449,0.0,0.0,0.07321305576534921,0.28861765400733524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524468103911577,0.0,0.0,0.13070883539051092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359733388818086,0.0,0.09966097483616093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085432569936456
parenting,thrownawaythoughts01,2020/03/02,"Parents who didn't like children prior to having your own, when/how/did that change for you? I'm in my 9th month. And I'm very excited for my baby to get here. My heart melted when I washed and folded all her cute little clothes! BUT I still don't really like kids. Like I'm really not that enthusiastic when interacting with children. Whether it be my friend's kids or ones I'm related to, I'm just like whatever about them. I don't ignore them of course, I'm not a monster. But I don't ooh and aww at everything they do. I'm not into playing pretend with them. I smile and say ""oh wow cool"" hand the thing back to them and resume whatever adult conversation I was having.
I never liked kids. I was always surrounded by adults growing up. I didn't have a lot of cousins my age. My siblings are all way younger than me and I never lived with them. I find most children to be obnoxious and annoying, while others around me find them cute and entertaining.
I know they all say ""it's different when it's yours"" and I really do hope that's true. Does this make me a bad person? Am I going to be a bad mother?",1.4162585812356987,3.5476325175438634,3.3366132723112147,88.79694508009158,81.28070175438597,6.772234935163997,21.316552250190693,7.893859768569023,0.951759115179252,866,26,186,16,23,291,125,228,0.132,0.6809999999999999,0.18600000000000005,0.9238,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,3,8,0,9,19,1,0,5,1,17,3,2,1,6,36,29,17,0,1,8,3,1,5,1,0,1,2,0,9,10,14,0,1,3,3,0,2,10,4,0,1,4,4,35,15,21,22,6,21,0,0,0,0,30,7,0,4,16,121,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334451717872822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276809855303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331877543800447,0.26781350333560233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965589747840185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755814826600618,0.0,0.0,0.14034558443730122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413505936201168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931604018158172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390562839525665,0.0,0.08378952196375812,0.0,0.09114502992282372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900456091887607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592889486780064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813812010091744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917565731149517,0.16073827278942568,0.1416144074800452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363454214003189,0.0,0.0,0.10705181808221964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801010613414848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473827750139009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867451473243936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807789131727447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003360447868374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082217442168392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550738940635621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807599352590684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065462828342564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232649252304304,0.0,0.12729851962919084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bimjob23,2020/03/02,My son has ADHD Does anyone’s kids have this on here? Sorry I am new to reddit I’ll try to keep it short. My son is 8 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 5-6ish and started receiving adderall at 6ish was working okay but then started having anger issues or I guess emotional issues. He’s now on ad-zenys and things got better than worse and then plateaued. He’s so fidgety and can’t keep calm unless I give him his tablet and that’s one thing I hate resorting too. For all the parents out there what can I do?  What do you guys do to sort of find a balance of your child being happy and you being happy thanks.,1.7177989821882953,3.5720153282442766,3.079713740458016,92.4263390585242,78.92366412213741,5.588040712468194,20.07697201017812,6.42735559955562,0.0832437659033074,492,12,106,4,12,160,95,131,0.132,0.703,0.165,0.5975,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,2,6,8,2,0,2,1,15,1,0,0,1,18,24,14,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,7,9,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,4,0,12,6,13,18,1,15,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,3,9,68,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811673394139677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088359492373456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402520992942554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609564821819751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877539253507684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838239726547664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494025587212556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521254447664817,0.0,0.0,0.12683179531400646,0.0,0.1746949643525227,0.1570202247802967,0.0,0.33762506745272103,0.0,0.15656600878804272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331034943263997,0.0,0.2819083427171796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315861816577425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640419215378605,0.0,0.10745866000002864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608554888603473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751856240179095,0.2244890428679485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14600017427321005,0.0,0.0,0.21070847768755893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766615989699208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544893220872915,0.0,0.1616076926656266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212103151769338
parenting,maddel96,2020/03/02,"TEEN Online dating My daughter, 19 yo and in her freshman year in college, informed me today of her online / 'long distance' boyfriend of 1 year. They have chatted online, been on video chats, but have never met in person. I had suspicions earlier and she had denied all along. She has generally been introverted and reserved in high school and hasn't really had much experience dating.  They met on a hobby chat group , and became close over time. She is planning to meet this boy from another state; he is coming down to her college campus to meet her and spend spring break together. And I am worried sick. I am a devoted single parent myself. Firstly, I am worried for her safety having heard of all the perils of meeting strangers from the internet. Secondly My education and career have seen me in good stead so far and I want that for my daughter.While I want my daughter to date and find love in her life, I want her to focus on finishing college and be on her way to a career first. He is 5 years older, still in college, and while he sounds harmless (that's a huge assumption for a stranger on the internet) ,and has a part time job that helped pay for this trip, I sense he doesn't have seriousness, clarity or focus on a career. More than anything else, very little is known of his whereabouts, family or background. I am protective of my daughter and am trying to be supportive but I truly wish she had dated someone who was local so I knew more about them.  I am not trying to be a meddlesome mom, just one who doesn't want her to end up with someone who is not at all a good fit. I would support a long distance relationship if this was someone she knew within her circle locally and then were set apart due to college or career. I need your help and advice in dealing with this situation.",7.032546394888956,6.739628953757228,7.370486766048068,74.65478399756617,64.37572254335261,10.058777000304227,33.817462731974445,9.549672527348893,3.0978924855491328,1422,54,258,24,19,465,184,346,0.059000000000000004,0.79,0.151,0.9858,2,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,0,1,3,3,5,8,0,0,13,0,34,3,0,0,4,47,50,26,0,8,9,5,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,10,21,0,1,5,4,2,2,6,1,0,4,15,3,42,7,46,31,8,57,0,0,1,1,50,28,0,4,23,188,52,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919990239123862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279093033716843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038121668709084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507713604835396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575861726438542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190073926045698,0.0,0.10804030241980872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932230678581553,0.11499425946414532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114898092835092,0.20751653076898355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046262931898632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16352461774077925,0.12888122494920154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210488244403195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615985816165779,0.0,0.12225852650531367,0.0,0.21590137533437875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100939827700294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286444788868094,0.0,0.0,0.08967118439357513,0.0904484896214744,0.09408043595073623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265850944705495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544714782486844,0.13209517719622396,0.0,0.0,0.10651042746502652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814512298141238,0.0,0.0,0.1309635709838728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345281803952728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371134583088575,0.0,0.0,0.3100661686495674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741539446361132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768486261023757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225797151145916,0.0,0.11562516166953925,0.0,0.0,0.1656362417877029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064835034452316,0.287793792441166,0.09682404299915104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027387282455508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775833136070904,0.0,0.0866528791743705,0.0,0.0,0.23565822191843835
parenting,Lusterkx2,2020/03/02,"Baby won’t stay still anymore. Hey guys! New parent here. My daughter is now 11 months and it’s amazing. 

We totally lost all sleep schedule. I use to pick her up at 3pm from baby sitter and she would be asleep by 430 to 600pm

Shower at 8 and be at bed at 9pm

But once we hit the 11 month mark she now has so much energy. She doesn’t want to sleep at 430 anymore and our bed time got pushback to 1030pm.

I love it. She is semi independent. Just letting her tire herself out crawling around the house. Kicking and screaming.  While I can actually do some house work. 

I was wondering is this a normal stage when the baby is just getting very active. And how would I do this about sleep schedule? Should I not let her sleep during the day so she just tired at night? 

And does it get crazier as months go by? 

She had 4 teeth btw if that is the reason. 

Thank you guys.",0.6746089385474859,2.9017354972067047,2.1396061452513995,95.66359916201121,85.08938547486035,4.697318435754191,19.00586592178771,5.985473137389443,-0.2557667039106146,670,18,149,5,20,216,117,179,0.052000000000000005,0.85,0.099,0.8607,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,0,2,13,5,0,0,6,0,20,9,6,5,2,31,31,15,0,6,6,2,0,0,0,4,2,1,3,2,6,11,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,1,21,3,18,18,4,26,0,1,0,1,20,9,0,3,14,97,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.11958527727318395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430614601454976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909015037663396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790307490990406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723908958747448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128048375563641,0.0,0.06964458531798959,0.0,0.09800963997836357,0.0,0.0,0.2426756739023955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827986705859026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25061910713661256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377126363699826,0.0,0.11060075410920192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934403806474193,0.0,0.09008394797117447,0.0,0.0,0.1183537691700046,0.0,0.11499925269843315,0.12006711194503872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050537200915546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607062179468285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125995652692667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4905300421417068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061561042428044,0.09786380525470302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282206076062234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145639812158712,0.28169262673266954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583867968832483,0.0,0.10111164268808516,0.07227963252639534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328937522444646,0.0892134992936939,0.0,0.0,0.17410349850705792,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imamomyes123,2020/03/02,"My 16yr old daughter is being stalked by a guy she met off of a wiiu when she was 11 LONG POST!! PLEASE READ!!! WE NEED HELP!! 
Hello guys, I don’t even know where to start. 
My daughter who is 16 has always loved video games. When she was 6 we bought her a ds and she loved it. She would play that thing all the time. Well around 2013 we bought her the Wiiu that just came out. She was so excited and happy. Well, we didn’t know there was this function called miiverse. Basically were you can chat online but it’s monitored by Nintendo. So no bad words or anything else. She didn’t really use it much until about to years later. She joined gaming community’s about animal crossing and a couple other games. One day, she met this kid saying he was the same age as her and they talked all the time on miiverse. He was very nice, maybe a little too nice and he never said anything bad but he was just a little off. 

This all started in 2015 when my daughter met someone under the name of Zorhax on miiverse. We think his real name is AerykJ. Because that’s his Nintendo network ID and he goes by Aeryk on different posts. He may sound innocent but we know he’s hiding something. They played online constantly on the wiiu. He never asked for private information, therefore I thought he was telling the truth then. So I had no problem with her talking to him. Well a year later, 2016, my daughter turned 12 and she got a 3ds XL for Christmas and stopped playing her wiiu. Aeryk got all mad saying he wants her to play with him and he was desperate for her 3ds friend code. He would constantly message her on miiverse saying he wants to play with her and he doesn’t want to ever stop being friends. So I thought he was a desperate little kid. So I told her to give him her friend code. Which was the wrong discussion. 

She gave him her friend code and they always played animal crossing on the 3ds together. This went on for months. I even looked at her miiverse messages with him and he never said anything inappropriate or asked for her information so I continued to let him talk to her. 

Well, around 2017 my daughter got a different gaming system. She started playing on PlayStation with a couple of her friends from school. She quit playing her wiiu and 3ds. When she got on a couple months later she had 107 messages from Aeryk saying where are you? Wanna play? Did you forget about me? Hello? I need you? Please don’t leave me? We’re supposed to be friends forever. When I saw those messages I thought it was more than a little kid wanting to be friends. So I got on the miiverse and told him I didn’t want him talking to her anymore. He said ok and I unfriended him. I thought that was the end and so did my daughter but then 2018 rolled around and my husband and I got her a Nintendo switch for Christmas. She started playing that and she played it with friends only from school at the time. Well I allowed her to add some friends that were nice from the wiiu because they all got switches. So she did. About two months later of having this switch she got a friend request from “Zorhax” which is his username not his real name. I have no idea how he knew my daughter switch friend code but he did. So my daughter declined it and it kept coming through so we just blocked him. Well three days later, she got a friend request from someone under her friends name from school so she accepted it. She just thought her friend made a second account. So she accepted it and started playing with this person online. She said she thought it was her friend from school but when she asked her friend if that was his account he said no and she immediately thought omg what if it’s that person again. I really think Aeryk made another Nintendo switch account under a different name just to play with her but how would he know her friend from schools name?? I mean, that’s just weird. 

So we blocked everyone from the wiiu and turned off the thing to receive friend requests on the switch. Which really helped a lot. I thought it was all over but nope. And this year my daughter got a follow request on this app called “Amino” on her phone and the username was Zorhax. I don’t know how it happened because my daughter has no contact with this person. We’re very open and I know who she talks to on her phone all the time. But he somehow found her amino username in the animal crossing community and started messaging her saying he cried for years because he couldn’t find her. He can’t live without her he says and wants to play with her again. So I told my daughter to delete the app. So she did and hasn’t gotten it back since. 

Well yesterday, keep in mind this has been going on since 2015. My daughter found some disturbing reddit posts from his username. We have been trying to search his username online and his name but have found nothing until we started downloading apps and searching his name on there. We searched his username and name on Reddit and found posts from 5years ago. His account is 6yrs old and you can see all the stuff did. My daughter was 11 in 2015 and there was a post about gaming on his profile he was talking to someone else saying he was a male, 16yrs and has a hard time making friends. Well I wonder why! So this whole time my daughter has been talking to an older man. Even when she was younger. My daughter is 16 now and this would make Aeryk 21. I don’t know who he is or where he lives but he is creeping on of us out with his messages towards my daughter. Over these past years we’ve gotten so many messages from him it’s absurd. Is there anyone that is smart enough to track this? That’d be great! We really need help. This is very creepy. Sad part is it’s been going on for 5yrs.",2.5694009216589846,4.970551955197134,2.8663223246287792,92.25995967741936,78.73118279569894,5.455248335893497,23.942780337941628,6.585530691479289,0.6661092165898617,4506,156,904,41,112,1378,340,1116,0.064,0.775,0.161,0.9989,4,0,1,0,0,0,102.0,13,5,4,1,67,62,1,1,45,1,83,2,0,10,13,188,174,86,0,18,24,17,1,0,19,5,0,13,0,10,54,69,0,6,30,26,6,10,22,8,8,4,84,17,153,54,114,77,17,125,0,1,3,2,262,48,0,11,61,593,207,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03056465001418765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738063929993846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036155535274643234,0.0,0.0,0.034195130359526,0.024109383677835217,0.0,0.08512289235823853,0.09208416449492952,0.0967031023662898,0.0,0.0,0.026513174203102282,0.05757911593477982,0.08407533067847624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041635496241701,0.0394362059166008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029701671409429094,0.0,0.074521774546603,0.0,0.0,0.1144551804914988,0.03787492168888381,0.044473801255616216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807352793636572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057607627838262086,0.0,0.030539256037315412,0.03562730235649151,0.0,0.06832161478536017,0.03118934873625217,0.0,0.032947344429628315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031514312298299284,0.0,0.0,0.15122320229514327,0.5061475714114314,0.0,0.0,0.03307658556307665,0.039191826994838336,0.0,0.2757699565816942,0.038014583431528234,0.0,0.06828171195228419,0.030490760037706868,0.0367048538427676,0.030887520078895742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933412890013588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03892399104710857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030647619249835174,0.0,0.0,0.132646057075149,0.0,0.0,0.03650959282654693,0.0,0.03525837882317695,0.0,0.0,0.13823302453126535,0.060893362618170126,0.030513925046808468,0.02895471532505348,0.0,0.0,0.0293138647910056,0.06223952085801041,0.0652520686023893,0.04603165238207516,0.034957548810684434,0.03464003290177387,0.0375590867289969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03481521053765671,0.0,0.08256538953547718,0.0,0.025346941817358536,0.07669997734749665,0.0797798541077114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03308471769816078,0.0,0.0723624178490104,0.0,0.023364701200647885,0.026223774262455268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03733873700218742,0.03291528809432514,0.0,0.09032043993247778,0.0,0.07569789283291414,0.0,0.0,0.16511268093504838,0.0,0.0,0.03299293050980711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03667397670429506,0.034489568216610554,0.07849211763405918,0.08835569191666015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16399300819120485,0.19194048087022672,0.0,0.1744792051760303,0.027476285016247017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704481733057237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876449797049293,0.026544571283022338,0.0,0.0,0.17083702637830014,0.0,0.0,0.05765404473613806,0.0,0.0,0.03947162246950522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939973609951899,0.03013724724346145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04581427519766098,0.04418708771747622,0.0,0.2189876559649252,0.120634222175438,0.0,0.0,0.09884203328888497,0.0,0.02340981783519102,0.07500919402850728,0.03368218174062871,0.0,0.0414754801221015,0.02977985441917395,0.0,0.08534942069010519,0.12202402413443285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480149944790961,0.031963525489055004,0.031113051172810626,0.03849595366857776,0.0,0.03323771839906232,0.037392346604400134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797508537856396,0.03769872677088079,0.0,0.1110207119515642
parenting,jy0951,2020/03/02,"Drug issues with our freshman son (Please help) First of all, I'm posting a thread for my parents about their concerns for my young brother, and I’m his sister. He’s a freshman in high school and is having issues with drugs, especially marijuana.

I keep track of his social media to find out what he's up to with my fake account(we all know it's not a healthy habit, but please don't judge.. it was the only way for us to keep up with him because he won't talk to us when it comes to his social life, drugs, etc.). He got caught a couple of times by sharing drug-related things on there. My parents talked to him seriously, gave him warnings, tried urine drug test kit at home, took him with them to work the whole day for a few days, and so on, and he always ended up promising them he won't do it again, and then he got caught again looking for a drug dealer through his social media. And now, we are struggling to try to figure out what to do with him, how to keep him away from all that. He's been having this issue since the last year of his middle school until now, and I would say our school district and the school he goes to are not able to provide kids a good and safe environment educationally&socially. We've thought about moving his school, or do homeschooling, but we're not sure if they can be an actual solution. He seems like he's not really keeping up with his classes as well and we got called into a several teacher/principal meetings because he caused troubles at school, such as making holes on the wall by punching it through, breaking teacher's name signs by their doors, making distractions during performance teams are having rehearsals, etc.

At this point, anyone’s advice or second opinions would be very helpful. Thank you all in advance.",8.607061403508773,6.970523997076025,7.893033625730998,76.54463815789475,61.95321637426901,10.304385964912283,34.5328947368421,8.660442795831766,2.6630228070175423,1405,45,271,15,16,439,190,342,0.06,0.8420000000000001,0.098,0.9467,2,0,6,0,0,0,44.0,6,1,5,5,12,13,0,2,14,0,20,7,1,4,5,56,41,22,0,3,9,5,0,1,0,4,6,1,2,1,11,23,0,5,5,1,0,6,7,5,1,2,10,2,31,8,56,25,8,44,0,0,1,0,57,20,0,5,16,172,42,10,0.07227099793317726,0.0,0.0705260687659953,0.0,0.0,0.07062238274720345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013525978933855,0.07830559606609355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050533562139277684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790098157399344,0.0,0.0,0.08811145908982816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379676927175273,0.0,0.0,0.07424222283997997,0.0,0.06225506540794165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996648459671073,0.0,0.093217629672828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5028684784752109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401065300013335,0.0,0.1612025333420481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605438281140262,0.06147367392230418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606174841920767,0.17340515738540313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688345301470884,0.07635827726952854,0.07249370354396631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22629643574248995,0.0,0.2569511344591169,0.0,0.0,0.03971825041419537,0.058910509197140026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051047143147531636,0.035307959041038645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06068943634792514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648290462778386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681263338317043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549653505840744,0.0,0.0,0.16049678101763262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866370631453328,0.06831945309779139,0.0,0.06921563847096385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04629865188065983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057472798301917975,0.0,0.4388526496368599,0.0,0.06579280220950967,0.0,0.08164565654279031,0.0,0.059783316318209975,0.0,0.0,0.2210135432744875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755533387557236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811456025989103,0.0,0.0,0.11617738112388372,0.0,0.06653742498207364,0.0,0.0,0.048013639699454304,0.0,0.0,0.05737509961013625,0.042141800082805575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029573789863613,0.0981345272074592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17386622404067886,0.0,0.0,0.05963114212606931,0.0,0.057365354221299486,0.0,0.0,0.06498030653985674,0.0,0.0,0.08068798824626365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052614147238784166,0.0,0.0,0.10267848675099872,0.0,0.0,0.04654015317122337
parenting,wackyduos,2020/03/02,"Alphabet Song with Animals from A to Z Annoyingly catchy alphabet song that my kids love
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parenting,mikepl93,2020/03/02,"How do you cope without sleep? Hey fellow redditorparents. Long time lurker here. 
English is not my first language, and im on mobile so sorry for grammar and formatting.

I have an amazing boy who is 1,5 years. When he was first born the first 6 months were hell. He was colic and I only ever really slept 2-3 hours at the time and his mother had it even worse. Now he sleeps through the night and it is a lot better, but still he wakes up 4:30 every morning. I feel we tried everything to postpone his wake-up time with no luck  and I just feel helpless. 
I love my boy but it is so rough not sleeping proper and now my girlfriend is talking another kid. 

How do you cope? And do you have any advice to get them sleeping longer??",1.7282420091324229,3.9941707739726056,2.9155890410958922,91.49539269406392,80.98630136986301,5.263196347031964,21.377168949771686,6.42735559955562,0.3048105936073058,567,17,117,5,15,182,99,146,0.10400000000000001,0.805,0.09,0.4097,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,3,1,4,12,6,1,0,5,0,14,7,6,2,1,23,19,15,0,0,6,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,10,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,3,5,3,15,4,9,14,1,20,1,1,0,1,21,3,1,2,17,76,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517834600799015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103092811202144,0.15578587507216168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139579407356866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812736800262548,0.13438772096441626,0.1251744440411638,0.0,0.13352280144599102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15024028504035533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791140693321357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776203357735602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630896457570364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604782887063041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147747583306427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263066925582641,0.1340878809743038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858508304701187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394204427642185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299220410205185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517608215647587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5946987833380878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663090434079303,0.0,0.0,0.11864611933593762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941285028203913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25989254096910364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086751389607564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14321367411289432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140287534410546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095672536064698
parenting,wide_eyed_doe,2020/03/02,"Please parents of Reddit, teach me how to play date! Okay, I’ll break it down. We live in an inner city neighborhood. There aren’t a lot of kids in our area - and I’d like to say a lot of families at my child’s school are fairly affluent (upper middle class anyhow). 

That said, our family is not (extremely wealthy). We mainly stick to social events with friends kids/cousins. That’s it. I have literally never ever hosted a play date and am freaking out! *gonna get extra here* my child’s friends nanny has been texting me and I have offered to host at ours after school on a Monday. 

I have no idea what this entails... my plan is to bake/roll sugar cookies (we’ll do green for Saint Patrick’s) with the kids and have them decorate after. I was hoping to keep it as a two hour thing but I don’t know what the norm is.. does after school mean hosting dinner as well? How can I make this fun/memorable? Please keep in mind the nanny will have to drop and pick-up said child (they are grade 2 age). 

Help!",0.8038957307060777,3.1778642561576333,2.124513546798031,94.89609708538588,86.24137931034483,4.95968801313629,17.817939244663386,6.42735559955562,-0.17436272577996714,776,19,167,8,24,248,131,203,0.032,0.841,0.127,0.9381,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,6,0,2,1,6,9,0,0,9,1,20,2,0,3,2,27,30,10,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,3,0,3,0,5,10,10,2,2,3,2,0,0,5,1,1,1,4,5,19,8,26,23,4,25,1,0,1,0,22,12,0,4,12,103,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065145246965068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504834718416586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28148923150647703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306941167249504,0.0,0.07800190358816256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007112353855033,0.0,0.0,0.14828633612226366,0.1470281935163352,0.0,0.0,0.16853896826044903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26540537026405464,0.0,0.0,0.08205012972298976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293933114777455,0.0,0.13183263372395312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538551877490163,0.0,0.0,0.09965739626248954,0.0,0.0,0.16262899964314148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507481505862399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514761579826616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577746458228296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277681556885752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840326663216225,0.11872754985527295,0.0,0.4532918300337927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152190237544872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918677999988447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584219157938047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423659213169542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gunnermcgavin,2020/03/02,"Baby keeps pushing head back while burping I have twin infant girls. The issue with one of them (she's an aggressive eater) is that it's nigh impossible to burp her as she keeps kicking her head back or practically holding her head as far back as possible. 

I have to burp her horizontally over my leg and that doesn't really work. Even horizontal and stomach down, her head is practically straight up (as if she was sitting up). 

Any tips? This one is colic and any burping that can be done can allow me to rest. She does sleep at night thankfully.",3.2880000000000003,5.684743942857146,4.350714285714286,82.57178571428574,76.23809523809524,7.628571428571428,25.73809523809524,8.548686976883017,1.8995523809523809,434,16,84,9,10,141,70,105,0.015,0.9209999999999999,0.063,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,5,2,1,0,2,0,11,11,7,1,0,10,14,10,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,4,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,0,14,1,14,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,5,59,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226926002053953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777093281490878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432867412612108,0.16755908495424568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814628322322732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6721627350185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089815923921384,0.0,0.2910726968549799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365542760592035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190391149942065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18458807864977367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489366775531972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385455037800653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074638819623176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920197793059033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mother-of-puppies,2020/03/02,"How can I best support my sister who is about to become a parent? The title says it all basically. My sister is about to have her first child and I want to be there for her. What kind of support did you enjoy the most from your family? What kind of gifts do new parents actually want for their child? How much space do new parents need?

Thanks for any advice you have :)",1.5258108108108104,3.884315567567569,2.8472297297297287,91.1246283783784,82.51351351351352,5.321621621621622,17.35810810810811,6.6274283507984215,-0.1436702702702699,288,6,60,3,8,93,51,74,0.0,0.742,0.258,0.965,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,1,2,5,7,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,1,8,15,3,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,10,7,11,13,4,4,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,1,3,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.16594608502483674,0.0,0.0,0.16617270942620066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564109608532333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18780891900660845,0.0,0.0,0.17845893564003484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030975932259722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144646025193147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541656876826205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500768347300306,0.1260912994255331,0.0,0.3284742919787446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5664673985445442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523206440543725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859456709063073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656090544398374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006019857676716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oldladymilar,2020/03/02,"One year old up at odd hours. I came home from work at 10pm to my daughter waking up and her dad handing her off to me. We have a big day tomorrow and I have to be up in 6 hours to get her brother ready for school and tour her potential daycare. It's her dad's first day of work tomorrow at a new job. I've functioned on little sleep before, but lord I want to go to sleep already. Someone pray for me.",1.3856821829855548,2.418552191011237,3.289919743178172,94.12101123595508,77.65168539325842,6.434028892455858,23.950240770465488,6.868970318607317,0.5680195826645265,311,10,76,3,7,105,60,89,0.02,0.9059999999999999,0.07400000000000001,0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,4,4,0,0,7,7,4,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,12,0,19,5,0,23,2,0,0,0,10,11,0,0,10,43,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22417759128539896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286299974018648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232345867868362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26202581384208057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279659969781086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061358401657448,0.0,0.11545303160907255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20377284571816573,0.0,0.4001174363461595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159189422832047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203606503885718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962004855172546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131684372951283,0.0,0.1376575573580791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055954492039079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065871036635888,0.0,0.17212565966168414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982127053611065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957866403219225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081990556749296
parenting,yourbrokenoven,2020/03/02,"My daughter has behavior and psych issues that are worsening. I need help or advice. Long story. My daughter (16) suffers from depression and has been hospitalized three times for thoughts of suicide, and once for a dissociative episode where she became “Sarah” for a short time. Three hospitalizations were within the last 12 months. In the most recent three or four months, my daughter has been sneaking out  of the house after midnight to have sex with her boyfriend. She has also begun to experiment with alcohol and opiates. She was passed out on the floor one night and I could smell alcohol but thought it was my imagination, because she’s always been an odd individual. Later we found missing alcohol from the house and have since poured out every drop. She started smoking tobacco and pot. She started having anxiety in school and leaving class and staying in the front office for hours. She says she has panic attacks, but staff says she is goofing off in the office, and they can not accommodate this. She started saying she heard voices and always sees angels an demons fighting in the sky when all this started a couple years ago, but none of her therapists say she ever mentions this in sessions. She also never mentions voices at home. She self reports multiple psychotic symptoms to the doctor that she doesn’t actually do (ocd stuff like blessing over locks, flipping switches multiple times) unless someone brings it up, as if she forgets about them. One doctor said it was imagination, and common for children. One said it was psychosis, and he put her on antipsychotics which just seemed to make the anxiety and worse. Professionals are all recommending residential placement for possibly several months.

To top it all, she and two close friends were arrested for shoplifting last week. She’s never been into any trouble until all this started.

Has anyone had any experience with anything like this?

We were recommended to get another opinion by her current psych which we are unfortunately waiting till April for because only a few are taking new patients. Hoping someone cancels so we can see them earlier.  We’re planning on having her do community service for the shoplifting. We asked for a 504 plan to help with the school situation. I don’t know what to do about the alcohol and drugs other than make her get new friends.",7.931914030819138,9.408686603406329,7.285839416058394,69.93918896999189,62.52798053527981,9.689862124898623,37.120032441200316,9.816601858774405,3.952929278183293,1898,90,289,37,27,590,232,411,0.111,0.8170000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.9423,1,0,6,1,2,1,41.0,5,0,3,3,9,13,2,1,20,0,35,9,0,2,7,62,61,30,1,4,9,3,0,2,2,0,8,9,1,2,17,30,4,1,7,0,0,4,6,7,0,8,18,12,39,6,54,42,7,64,3,3,2,1,53,24,0,7,36,212,56,12,0.0,0.0,0.07881823646545312,0.0,0.0,0.07892587465199348,0.07159624886211784,0.3452671146321684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918080430881784,0.13441143704504485,0.0,0.0,0.10985046444467836,0.08469263348557395,0.12357509861109026,0.0,0.0,0.05647509239953093,0.0,0.06646545145361006,0.0,0.07550748309503429,0.09188563238866293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847124530506456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448693716384467,0.08936861791016931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956564194538349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653396108603214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366561741160552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305957610937952,0.06805079925268008,0.0,0.0,0.15801384463643986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855830199449141,0.12480281862219447,0.0,0.08439623484031825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827461452076262,0.0,0.08101721772048863,0.08022117327457222,0.07954053284178758,0.18639161106292584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430114942235703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044388160405298784,0.1316739334956154,0.0,0.08552199657613255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891864989789192,0.0,0.0,0.0714774280221502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078269712871484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340552480842255,0.0,0.0,0.05988869127506372,0.12458702643364725,0.1560131075953261,0.0,0.07579560376675266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601563257265735,0.1641921266208619,0.061427952465584565,0.0,0.0947642295685709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105415335725732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811944772898836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974897923698279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365835003057066,0.2569208626626864,0.0,0.16348371846887114,0.1287237994818561,0.07352845172017065,0.08425898028293577,0.09124522004932144,0.0,0.06681239497258909,0.09078698393616838,0.0,0.0,0.13686948322231945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858411888469519,0.08608829032509162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246041109603616,0.08834744082717585,0.0,0.0,0.08394921769629464,0.06072773038103189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377825320398847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824205991986504,0.1412899834964825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889891966705798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478748028303168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823098257415234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052012154682249186
parenting,ss90kim,2020/03/02,"Cancel Domestic Travel Plans Due to Coronavirus? I was planning to take a trip with my wife and 6 month old daughter to Colorado as the grandparents rarely get to see the grandchild. We currently live in the east coast.   


Now that there are domestic cases of Coronavirus, I was curious if anyone has cancelled their travel plans or just moving forward as is.   


Would like to know your thoughts as it may help with our decision.",7.1285714285714255,8.317284194805199,6.50690909090909,75.84036363636366,64.1948051948052,10.315844155844157,34.88051948051948,10.355215969177356,3.816243636363637,341,15,57,8,5,105,62,77,0.05,0.855,0.094,0.5423,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,1,3,3,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,12,6,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,7,1,12,7,0,12,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,3,7,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514178920557901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878591301001084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410104542492921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760884395520176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756664731139217,0.0,0.3175046088740134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870032746192922,0.3821632505388026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37730550898288345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28652867085357153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703499421252513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854563579094968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554263701741834,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,N--ostalgia,2020/03/02,"Kids lying Should I let my (imaginary) kids lie for eachother? If I had a multiple kids, and they lied to cover for eachother, would that be okay? I asked my dad if he would rather them snitch on eachother, or all lie together, he said lie. But what would they learn?",1.5621794871794847,4.078534961538466,2.0861538461538487,95.54217948717951,84.0,5.7743589743589725,20.2051282051282,7.1686216300943375,0.4200282051282054,206,6,44,3,6,63,37,52,0.122,0.8420000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.6848,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,0,1,12,9,5,0,7,5,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,8,1,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,3,0,29,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34445308874592073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767673588324513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504824363766449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7852136580341077,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OriginalFloof,2020/03/02,"I bow to those more experienced than I... ISO tips for the future. Hi all, 
FTM here with a four month old baby boy. I’ve been lurking here for a while now, and have started to appreciate the small pointers experienced parents have for those of us who are new to parenting. 

I’d love to hear your favourite parenting tips! 

For example: my mom always says avoid the use of no (in certain situations): kid wants a snack before dinner? Instead of just a straight no, suggest it as a dessert for after dinner, they’ll either forget or not spoil their dinner instead.",5.736805929919138,6.707717990566039,6.123261455525607,78.13292452830191,67.20754716981132,8.698652291105121,32.123989218328845,8.841846274778883,2.638395148247979,441,18,81,7,7,142,78,106,0.092,0.8059999999999999,0.102,0.4926,3,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,2,0,6,3,0,1,8,0,5,6,0,1,2,12,10,4,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,4,7,2,17,8,3,11,0,0,0,1,16,3,0,1,8,56,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136046585591794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752417029189621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321119050743928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587093868243507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411970969284052,0.16438115465413755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989003271217545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610176854687488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6860235557284341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377355856714762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314877394807093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457669982806834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477231931199065,0.17786799828828456,0.0,0.0,0.12147008628926526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwasntTryingTo,2020/03/02,"March break plans, anyone? It will be my first March Break with my daughter. She's 4.5 years old, and this was her first year in full-time school. So what should we do? We have the week off together, but I don't have a lot of stand-out memories from my youth. I'm looking for suggestions. A few things about us:

1. We're from Ontario, Canada 
2. It's quite snowy where we are right now
3. We love sweet nothings and big to-dos
4. Our March (spring) break starts on March 16",0.4707699443413738,2.6576228673469373,1.1294434137291276,102.83308905380336,85.63265306122447,4.788126159554731,16.051948051948052,6.1124844417494595,-0.8363183673469385,363,7,89,3,11,110,78,98,0.0,0.893,0.107,0.9034,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,10,13,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,12,2,9,9,2,23,0,0,1,1,11,6,0,1,14,48,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920768576195467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360094310604094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522356583795302,0.0,0.0,0.2178931630991676,0.2313165828903191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459223251826961,0.0,0.2689388831366656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27260167993870005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887485036155116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593846030326165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140718597260252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027125916499875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082917799919117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558469078249456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33009163778459305
parenting,othermichelle,2020/03/02,"Do you wish your parents had been more strict or more lax with you? I grew up with really strict parents, and as a teen and young twenty yearold, I always swore up and down that I wouldn't be as strict as them, yet whenever I saw a kid in a store acting up, I would wonder why their parent wasn't putting them in line. 

Now that I have a kid of my own, (he's 3 months) I'm still questioning what kind of parent I want to be. I feel like I got the short end of the stick by having strict parents, but I know there were some pros too. 

My question is, if you had more lax parents, do you wish they would have been more strict? If so, why?

Being really strict sometimes seems daunting, like I'll have a lot of my own rules to keep up with, but is it worth it in the end? As a kid with strict parents, I don't know what kids with lax parents grow up to be like!",5.5843961352657,3.7149391304347854,5.786594202898552,89.98932367149763,68.02173913043478,9.047342995169082,27.509661835748787,6.937597516519254,0.9835285024154587,656,13,163,4,9,209,94,184,0.006999999999999999,0.8859999999999999,0.107,0.9451,8,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,5,4,0,6,4,0,0,9,0,22,0,0,0,0,29,34,13,0,8,5,8,1,3,0,3,0,0,0,4,6,8,0,1,7,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,8,2,23,4,26,19,8,21,0,0,1,0,24,10,0,9,10,108,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829609813775977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666837188936223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047578183106001766,0.06722279212538007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525782858954391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363758346890235,0.0,0.09798736547847857,0.10342631072631683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791287020986384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799977575180504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751071897039555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8358671276301023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459330101503732,0.2108199629821469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056167393282965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566221741786291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306416811204468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514584772074293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05550074662438839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16981550137550558,0.0,0.2164134148306585,0.0,0.10204399515438584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368737249087534,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fat2Fit91,2020/03/02,"Why do some parents not appreciate their childs happiness? I'm dating a divorced man who has a 6 year old daughter and ex wife. They have split custody. I've been very nice to all of them as I'm a nice person in general. In a nutshell, the more his ex wife gets to know more about me, the more she dislikes me even though my behavior, actions, and presence have made a positive impact on her daughter's life. My boyfriend tells me this as well, and thanks me for it all the time. For example, his kid's mom doesn't know how to cook and orders fast food all the time when the daughter is over at her house (which he said worries him) but she refuses to learn how to cook. Whenever I'm at his house and choose to cook, I make really healthy meals with lots of veggies and his daughter has been enjoying eating a variety of my homemade healthy meals. I've actually gotten her child to actually love vegetables at this point!

Another example is cleaning. My boyfriend's ex wife left a lot of her stuff cluttered in one of the rooms that she never redeemed. This is a spare room that he wanted to turn into a play room for his daughter. We've all been cleaning it together. I've been showing his daughter how to clean and organize (by having her help me put the smaller cluttered items in boxes). Since then, she's actually gotten a bit better at keeping her own bedroom clean. When I got their daughter something for Christmas and valentine's day, his ex wife freaked out (not in a good way). The daughter on the other hand, loved the gifts.

Some of these behaviors from his ex wife I witness myself and other times its according to what my boyfriend tells me. Either way, he said she's become even more bitter with me in the picture, even though I've been a good influence on their daughter (and she likes me a lot too). Last time when I was at his house and his ex wife came to pick their daughter up, she said ""wait mom, I want to say goodbye to [my name]"". Her mom immediately said no and claimed that she was in a hurry. Their daughter (with a sad face) walked out with her mom.

I understand that divorce can be hard. They've been divorced for two years. But why can't my boyfriend's ex wife be happy that her daughter is happy, eating healthy, learning to clean, in a home that is friendly, etc? I mean, would she rather her ex husband be with some uncaring abusive woman who's going to be a danger to her child? I can never understand these things. My boyfriend's ex wife has a boyfriend of her own by the way. She's been dating her's over a year while I've been dating mine 10 months.",5.2879057017543865,5.701074220272907,5.452440911306045,84.52468475877195,68.00584795321637,8.43979044834308,31.430860136452235,8.278499904357787,2.13813455165692,2037,79,415,26,32,643,222,513,0.061,0.77,0.16899999999999998,0.9962,1,0,1,0,3,0,62.0,0,0,7,1,15,20,2,0,31,0,31,14,2,7,6,62,59,26,0,4,6,35,2,1,1,1,1,5,10,7,22,21,9,3,8,5,0,5,7,4,1,2,19,8,67,16,61,35,20,58,0,1,0,2,104,27,0,6,23,268,89,2,0.0,0.09411308909536466,0.2325404407059452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329063255098645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772561840947203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025052045223802,0.08671839536938063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084823419854753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122661039850531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255607795155438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858688425942933,0.15739085230383518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604863029014107,0.0,0.06136841705931378,0.0,0.04149957024284207,0.0,0.04514263219217576,0.13324639371087593,0.06352845822298235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25366825336974225,0.07115483329897697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053241118864161066,0.0,0.07967605957854525,0.0,0.0,0.2749591295376284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060217955868027,0.0,0.0,0.08730671856039836,0.06474710231554212,0.0,0.0,0.08630232821471746,0.0,0.056104668680232936,0.038806115712442094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258892496629247,0.14337967955821265,0.07515980648425064,0.053021002387966906,0.0,0.0,0.08652396010548016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37211586397647,0.06340129728399149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252461415162505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334977631751216,0.0,0.05382469731354178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819904668527559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935633799098538,0.0,0.0,0.07508824283052254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985038479495428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088571786669061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022293827471336,0.06316694937336335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570638331208789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115008714884795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092982245527716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885289581171306,0.07312965923805291,0.0,0.0,0.0527706191056496,0.0,0.1560816768443528,0.0,0.18526809419294585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639843346691667,0.07759282780807711,0.16538154686913528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553913237294992,0.09370126482128296,0.18914658062304346,0.0,0.0,0.0714182683763944,0.0,0.14334876765561472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066632994961102,0.0,0.056425708908952224,0.0,0.0,0.1534534381161567
parenting,CastIronTomWaits,2020/03/02,"Fit parents - How do you manage/adjust your workouts with the demands of parenting? Hi all, father of two children under 5 here... fitness has always been a big part of my life and I’m struggling a lot to maintain it with the pressure of a demanding job, a partner who also works part time, and two kids who deserve heaps of time and attention.

How do you manage it?

My goal is 5 to 6 workouts a week and I manage about 3-4. I can usually do two nights a week where I hit the gym or yoga, a run (5 to 10km), and then often another gym session but it’s hard to balance all of that with bed times, not dumping stuff on my partner, and not getting back home crazy late.

What are some coping ideas? Do you find it gets easier as kids get older?",3.071604278074865,3.9773331895424846,4.719512774806893,85.99962566844921,73.31372549019608,7.132263814616755,27.63458110516934,7.348242739294969,1.446286274509804,570,21,119,6,11,193,100,153,0.073,0.863,0.065,0.4124,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,4,0,2,8,3,1,2,10,0,9,1,0,2,2,23,14,13,0,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,9,9,0,0,3,5,0,1,2,3,0,3,1,1,10,0,17,12,6,18,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,4,11,82,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237678988355538,0.12877935875645388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228772300101926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900702446434155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414551311710451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425796474570751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386417118340316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524490438682007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747142126140086,0.0,0.0,0.15358334048059866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458502427479194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931720231885507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157820325864306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523926630394596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437030556503906,0.33519728372372665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179709792483862,0.17717231082523582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27073936375353624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.453557487577294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704550660923367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482910784890771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267293376072733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aprilnicole0827,2020/03/02,"Mom Guilt I have two kids. 14 & 11. Their daddy, my husband of 15 years, passed away from cancer. For the last 4 years, I have been parenting out of guilt. After it being pointed out to me that my 11 year old daughter runs all over me, I have tried so, so, so hard over the last year to stop. BUT yet, every time I try to seriously discipline, she somehow manipulates me and I end up feeling guilty. 

I KNOW it’s my own fault for feeling guilty, but y’all, it’s truly hard. To make matters even worse, about a month ago the crisis center had to do an assessment as she left a note on my pillow saying “I hate my life. I want to go live with daddy”. 

Can anyone, WITHOUT being mean, please give me some advice on how to “stick to my guns” and not worry if I’m making things worse for her?",1.3985480572597129,3.1922088957055266,3.0541349693251547,92.52067075664623,79.67484662576688,5.5736605316973415,18.842126789366056,6.42735559955562,-0.11833873210633915,602,13,134,5,15,199,109,163,0.22699999999999998,0.706,0.067,-0.9815,1,0,0,1,0,1,25.0,0,1,1,0,8,5,1,2,6,0,9,2,0,4,1,25,20,10,0,2,5,4,4,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,5,5,0,2,4,0,0,3,2,5,0,1,2,5,23,0,27,16,3,28,0,0,0,0,12,11,0,3,14,87,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486005056682247,0.13140730180427893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061979452610115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365402698208033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927793486598367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129812489627204,0.0,0.0,0.09791222921128467,0.0,0.1249000060413893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991089157967047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220692400288193,0.08424916097159975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26559084897809226,0.14635796495013045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146974853597523,0.2416735037604743,0.0,0.0,0.1610650152395362,0.0,0.10470748012160604,0.0,0.0,0.13090011624096706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19790494032528425,0.0,0.0,0.1614786442180552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361885983286374,0.11832509185437028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555470252658446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646048385060128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272484462974948,0.14013630021334303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788773111825243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393667935609196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848518280184428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864409136806401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012927349748289,0.0,0.14481057755815452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743678159443942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289968610547826,0.0,0.0,0.15054661828272548,0.30214186593780795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818511174228569
parenting,AdultingPoorly1,2020/03/02,"Parents with more experience than me, 23 month old - are these speech habits normal? First child and I haven't been around too many babies (I'm the dad so I didn't really do much with kids until I had one).

My son is almost 2 and has started to really scale up his vocabulary, but he's got 2 habits that worry me a bit.

They go together and the 1st one is just being really OCD. Things like, everyone's cup has to go on a coaster, or the signs across the street for children at play have to be fixed if they ever fall down. He gets very fixated on these types of things and we generally just perform the action so he'll move on. 

The 2nd one is that he'll stay stuck on repeat until someone does what he wants or thinks needs to be done. Acknowledgement is usually not enough to get him to stop repeating. 

These might be normal but I can't recall other kids this age doing these things.. Can anyone else tell me if I'm overreacting? (Somehow beyond all reason I ended up being the worrying parent, much to the surprise of just about everyone else..)",4.6263909774436085,5.427211095693785,5.589080656185922,81.58106459330145,69.62200956937801,8.842241968557758,24.49794941900205,9.04235418022936,1.6537365686944632,825,20,166,15,14,272,135,209,0.061,0.893,0.046,-0.4964,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,2,2,11,3,0,0,10,0,23,0,0,1,2,33,37,14,0,6,10,4,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,4,12,8,0,1,3,1,0,5,4,0,0,4,6,1,14,3,27,23,6,31,0,0,0,0,19,12,0,7,14,114,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889822186348915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000662525209148,0.1318926736330584,0.0,0.11459141104696025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053297441263596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264700390267493,0.1317290680954248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21506431851541946,0.0,0.11401101788244175,0.1330060234966411,0.0,0.0,0.11643798369435153,0.0,0.2460020814099393,0.0,0.12591650845136446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949233929609516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450567248692316,0.0,0.14631332482017034,0.0,0.10295212631525376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06288791257311482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305056586090834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655553588253352,0.0,0.0,0.10274605348711424,0.13681295390359224,0.1892535059317122,0.09544701501856476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25224385025803925,0.0,0.0,0.13507390136353634,0.0,0.2616795932897069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858649383039027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473911535078945,0.13234943372970112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906719902012102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111131889488897,0.13720236933951668,0.0,0.10761880245830567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251021407343673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565549800451588,0.08248096878611877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177100305339724,0.10621055859673154,0.07592459129041096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614503931831898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flannelmama,2020/03/02,"Vent.. Honestly I just want to complain and vent. I feel like a complete butt when I reach my wits end with my son. He’s almost a year and it’s never him that makes me mad but if I’m already feeling bad or things aren’t going right, anything he does sets me over the edge and I end up having a meltdown and my husband has to come takeover. This has happened twice this week and now I’m sitting in the living room sad while my husband puts the baby to sleep. He is such a good baby and I just hate getting like that because he doesn’t deserve his mom getting getting overwhelmed with him because her hairbrush fell apart 4 times in 5 minutes. Sorry for this because I know it’s silly but I needed to get it off my chest.",1.0927000000000011,3.308255253333337,2.3835833333333305,94.671375,83.13333333333333,4.016666666666667,24.041666666666664,4.557286568694721,0.12956666666666686,568,22,119,1,16,182,96,150,0.127,0.759,0.114,-0.7906,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,11,2,1,7,0,6,3,3,1,1,23,22,12,0,3,6,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,9,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,6,0,1,0,2,18,5,12,22,0,23,0,2,0,1,13,8,1,3,11,70,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551950621446188,0.0,0.19342793837691333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424207100083736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635306729023762,0.32055066307826585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098983872348767,0.18377974018570284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339037432553196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31049547887367074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772555933536044,0.12522142636807784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36631023883248826,0.0,0.09961674472216538,0.1470181438572171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500120774982387,0.0,0.0,0.17305459026954068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963303497493946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126776773354285,0.0,0.15477713146691038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170020311910583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528804607032264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996930992147462,0.13518820920947247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620672547898794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968978724895746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540848927260871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621373962000116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644950763835275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220828708997824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338580765637753,0.0,0.1406005695676777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287579854655505
parenting,icycketri,2020/03/02,"I need support. My daughter is almost ten. It’s always been just the two of us. Following through on punishment has always been very hard for me. Recently, I got so embarrassed by her behavior that I decided I had to stick to my guns and stop giving in to begging when I’ve clearly stated no to her. I am listening to her tantrum in the other room because I grounded her for swearing and not doing what i asked her to do (pick up her stuff, clean up her dishes). She says it is my fault because I’m never nice. I never give her what she wants. She says I’m nicer to her friends than I am to her. I feel so helpless.",1.9770880681818213,3.614107703125004,3.790369318181821,88.61315340909094,77.4375,6.842045454545455,26.48011363636364,7.686295010490155,1.4482562499999996,478,19,102,7,11,161,80,128,0.18600000000000005,0.696,0.11699999999999999,-0.8286,0,0,0,1,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,4,8,2,1,2,0,10,1,0,1,3,14,22,5,0,2,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,7,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,4,5,0,2,4,5,28,3,19,18,0,14,0,1,0,0,22,7,0,1,5,78,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992024883693204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310560930178384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18597533734183128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425352072857526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058641354162214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369500705818395,0.0,0.0,0.3816689852353784,0.0,0.0,0.15910475294710166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820473673844603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750616900874078,0.3068585167943039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642216517265887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31639873390899514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631674925449993,0.0,0.0,0.2277304902708453,0.0,0.2257466122574101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19432846387581595,0.0,0.2392916944248244,0.0,0.0,0.16414041448897085,0.11733573430897358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluerose2019,2020/03/02,"Children should have their mothers surname! Is it just me but I don’t ever understand the notion of a child automatically getting the fathers surname especially when the two parties aren’t married. Like it or not most of the time women bear the brunt of raising children, their lives are affected by children, their social lives are affected by children and a lot of the time their careers. 

Can anyone please give me a logical reason as to why children get their fathers surname, if your response talks about it being a form of bonding please don’t wasted your time commenting. 

This post was triggered by a mum whose baby daddy didn’t care for the child or provide any sort of support but was chastised by other family members when she wanted to change the surname of her child.",11.302890442890446,8.944246013986017,10.125979020979019,64.91409673659676,57.39160839160839,11.771095571095572,45.51165501165501,9.725611199111238,4.740282983682984,632,31,99,8,6,199,89,143,0.08,0.789,0.131,0.8403,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,5,0,5,3,0,0,13,0,13,0,0,4,1,20,20,9,0,3,7,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,9,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,0,12,3,16,15,3,7,0,0,0,0,27,0,0,6,7,75,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310265379945928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472379707164273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964463992829576,0.0,0.203826050303318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428680658488016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18163813282510166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20133090063491735,0.1848327298934457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413194137686724,0.0,0.3402735274366386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380655865208812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4230015868115377,0.0,0.0,0.18453070072213226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810339741554472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640929376883226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21864686009004333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486596685694018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370534204738009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882168154271997,0.200582895104208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136455144397168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17386045402475195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OnemoreSavBlanc,2020/03/02,"Have a highly anxious child (7yrs) have taken him to a psychologist and wondering if this is normal (Long read)

Had our first appointment (it was just me and therapist) I told her all about our issues. Child has always been highly anxious, now trembles and works himself up before situations, affecting school and sleep. We really need help, hence the therapist. Session lasted an hour she took lots of notes asked me what we wanted to achieve through therapy. I was very clear that we would like strategies to help him deal with his feelings. Goals to work towards and ways to cope going forward. 

Second session, she wanted to see my child alone. I was surprised on arrival that my son and I were each given a double sided sheet of paper with “how have you felt in the last week” type questions (varied from do you have heart palpitations to is your anxiety affecting your sleep etc) 

I had to fill one out on behalf of my child. He had to fill his own out. But each sheet was (deliberately) exactly the same- so totally not directed or aimed at a 7 year old. My son was completely consumed with getting into “trouble” if he was answered honestly and circled the answer “almost never” for any questions related to his anxiety. So that was a waste of time and I thought a bit of a red flag.

Then my son went in with the therapist. I had to wait outside. He was comfortable with this so I was ok with it. At the end of the session I was asked to go in and the therapist and my son had been drawing pictures together. I was told that he has trouble going to talk to the teacher and he feels like he might get into trouble. That’s about all she said. 

This isn’t news to us but is obviously all my son was comfortable sharing with her. My son has trouble with almost everything which I made very clear in our first session. Therapist then went on to say “so that’s something to keep in mind! He’s worried about that.” Yes. I know. It was hard to speak freely at this point because my son is right there. She then went on to say she thinks it might be a good idea to write his feelings down and then bye! See you next week. 

Am I being unrealistic to be very unhappy with this? The session was $150 I kind of expected everything I said in the first session to be taken on board. The problem isn’t him communicating his feelings- it’s that he has all this anxiety and we don’t know what to do with it all. We want to know how to help him, breathing exercises? Maybe games we can play with him? Role plays? 

Anyway, I’m not sure if I’m way off here or we need to find a new psychologist?",2.3341385311521066,4.684378037475348,3.5781830838844435,87.11512008353638,79.27613412228797,6.816707274625827,24.93131453764937,7.928766900206844,1.4932199327068103,2023,76,405,36,51,657,232,507,0.069,0.831,0.1,0.9646,0,1,1,0,0,0,53.0,11,5,0,7,14,19,0,1,22,2,48,5,4,5,12,101,89,30,0,12,10,7,6,2,0,3,1,5,0,4,23,37,0,2,17,5,0,10,6,6,0,5,36,14,60,13,72,46,14,60,0,0,3,0,74,28,0,13,25,281,83,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484151011096786,0.07675260053789364,0.0,0.0,0.061663039353107865,0.0,0.0,0.05039536560969381,0.0,0.1700751737257189,0.1674398464410054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856025957025872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04517499706785244,0.0,0.06305967931064896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090575380001855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769987880504924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640116056336207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563688971815401,0.0,0.08264899987223227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332053564556062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988309491759313,0.05294212323275428,0.07115443241841637,0.0,0.06773254195647291,0.18910637058176696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743579660514506,0.0,0.12635030908267542,0.06215751501393045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663854006989741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781726398443404,0.14901727032124987,0.15659642854128758,0.0,0.0,0.07298056050314551,0.0,0.0,0.08365788952513283,0.0,0.07734855319790904,0.0,0.06586979074956663,0.0,0.07717113518193089,0.12218196347235205,0.1208143461809371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240996631435469,0.0,0.0,0.06558244676026648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630032017855681,0.0,0.07012192480234603,0.0,0.0,0.07445053725699162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723183277544672,0.07482704004911858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989894336633828,0.057155959959643135,0.07157309381364063,0.0788137358980937,0.0,0.07260921834125321,0.0,0.0,0.07776292969106653,0.0,0.0502168852486348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005515798401532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709104812083462,0.0,0.0,0.16603381245022053,0.0,0.07412714909277199,0.0,0.047474902460122405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328705392577556,0.14098563475209866,0.1178658722300127,0.0,0.07500033618538005,0.11810751953304675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329947936394454,0.14832122783595886,0.0,0.0,0.05705126201471718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984505969607445,0.0,0.0,0.05956447556125082,0.0,0.0,0.08474792124161512,0.43022024352327504,0.0,0.04748483394511234,0.0,0.05883275531763076,0.04321244285000248,0.0,0.0,0.14162500947574833,0.08233570892144465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914171031067374,0.0,0.0,0.18343834265313105,0.1311308534381245,0.11764552468035062,0.11888848253121358,0.0,0.0,0.2060940575924652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036598296229325,0.10790169504815386,0.0752593518717101,0.0,0.052643553810396204,0.0,0.0,0.04772253926481923
parenting,boujiebtchofthebayou,2020/03/02,"My baby is so sweet. Expecept with me. He likes to slap me. My LO is 11 months old and just recently started to get a bit of an attitude, which I know is expected, but I did not expect him to start ferociously trying to attack my face. And he only does it to mommy! He likes to slap me and try to grab my eyes and violently pill my hair. I have sternly told him ""NO"", I have redirected him, i have popped his hand, and he wont stop. I'm worried that my reaction may be egging him purely because he is getting a reaction. But he hurts me so it's hard to ignore. Please give this mama some advice! My feelings are really getting hurt over this more than they need to...",1.8289130434782628,3.4840960217391337,4.029782608695651,86.65380434782612,77.91304347826087,7.498550724637681,23.09420289855073,8.344100000000001,1.3235246376811594,513,16,111,10,12,177,90,138,0.16699999999999998,0.691,0.14300000000000002,-0.8348,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,0,3,8,2,0,3,0,12,5,4,0,1,20,23,9,0,3,4,0,5,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,7,22,3,13,18,3,7,0,2,1,0,14,1,0,2,8,70,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887529422693205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197464841803845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774806020338155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087982706309505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903492437598308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766709922149028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027531410859109,0.1852959129282624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730327098059955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135618538129924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615524902784312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18873566411307766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417783677700328,0.0,0.0,0.14322510503267188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026880956539332,0.0,0.0,0.14690628157854935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120308054843238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374273460666554,0.0,0.19072141474931692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27343816285606365,0.0,0.0,0.16148974677294184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457190065787485,0.0,0.2622848455130905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19616255163774526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,100920041999,2020/03/02,"(TW: School Shootings) How do I make my teenage niece process that people do bad things? So  my niece is 14 (she's living with me right now as she's going to a fancy school near me), and she has shared with me that she is very interested in the Columbine Massacre. I wrote a paper in college years back, wherein I had to do a lot of research, so I understood her interest in the event at first. But recently, I've noticed that she is kind of...going down the wrong path in terms of her interest. I suspect she frequents Tumblr a lot,  and consequently I think she just doesn't take the event as seriously as she should. She doesn't romanticize the gunmen or glorify them per se, (something that I'm thankful for, because if she did I would definitely have to break her trust and disclose it to her parents) but she seems slightly fond of them? In the way that one fondly looks back at their highschool memories, and recalls how stupid and melodramatic they used to be with a smile. She affectionately calls them ""absolute fuckin' nerds"" and ""losers"" and she just doesn't seem to process at all that they killed people. I checked out a few Columbine-related Tumblr pages and this seems to be a symptom of the problematic way the tumblr community goes about talking about Columbine. I tried talking to her about Rachel Joy Scott (one of the more famous victims I think anyone learns about within the first 2 minutes of researching the event)  to see how familiar she was with the victims, if at all, and she seemed to darken at once and suddenly seem uncomfortable. 

I don't necessarily want her to see the gunmen as monsters, because even I'm smart enough to know that it's not that black and white, but I think its reasonable to take issue with the current way she perceives them. However, I'm afraid I'll jeopardize our relationship and she won't tell me what she's interested in anymore if I try to talk to her about it. 

I also think it's so great that she's caring and can show sympathy to people that 99.9%of the world would turns their back on, but it makes me scared that  I'll somehow erase this part of her by showing her that people do bad things, even if they are arguably not bad people.

Please help me help my niece process that her two favourite teens from 1998 killed people??",9.080479452054792,7.2670119109589075,8.118579908675803,75.86266438356166,61.1689497716895,11.317077625570777,37.42511415525114,9.888512548439397,3.379465388127853,1819,68,356,28,20,563,210,438,0.122,0.735,0.142,0.8675,3,0,1,3,0,0,49.0,1,0,9,3,21,31,6,2,22,0,24,2,0,7,2,63,52,33,2,8,13,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,24,19,0,0,15,2,1,1,7,15,0,5,5,5,62,16,56,41,10,38,0,1,5,1,50,18,1,13,15,241,86,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693375309169194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598753305698882,0.06062577929035329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001114947642176,0.2171838248361061,0.1057084766161563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853495492519335,0.0,0.0884009826339731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895888919533458,0.0,0.11453496541945335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750155063713588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855229337775108,0.0,0.0,0.09559198093700452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623235312738253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049693699740384,0.0,0.0,0.19185129275146914,0.09028935991482936,0.04765050753345548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656163284112849,0.0,0.07280991518358547,0.0,0.0,0.147426074487387,0.0,0.0,0.11575180995819348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871361032789602,0.0,0.09233742760398496,0.11750638150719572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962750497972934,0.09389248844864784,0.0,0.36065976175257897,0.0,0.0,0.09517546787917594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914663266206231,0.0856102010360313,0.09308814929352664,0.0,0.07404514105413203,0.0,0.0,0.0868062971616299,0.17549909902480051,0.13818446903271506,0.3946624517240709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674933467673197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011913973770944,0.13038193732694453,0.20906929875046326,0.0757835257929313,0.07982582408090846,0.0,0.0,0.11520519037715593,0.2222268858665184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773328329487187,0.0943095622577086,0.0846976655857955,0.0,0.0,0.07488482100749418,0.0,0.07154026568328599,0.051140541058956934,0.20646591037940745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231847313370989,0.09479772354529006,0.0,0.055834834016277694
parenting,Target9850,2020/03/02,"Almost 21 year old son wants a motorcycle So my son wants a motorcycle as a hobby....I am against it for may reasons. When I was married to his dad, I was against his dad getting one as well, so it isn't a new stance.  I tried telling my son that I don't like them because #1 of the safety factor. I do realize that a car has just the same safety factors as well. In my eyes, I am more worried about other drivers than my son's driving.  His reasoning on why he should get a motorcycle is because he needs an ""outlet"" after work..something fun to do rather than going out to eat and also because all of his friends and co-workers have and get all sorts of given to them...jetskis, new cars, boats, etc.  So as WW3 just started between my side and his side, it is obvious we will not see eye to eye. I said I am sorry for not being cool like the other parents. I am sorry that I have fucking struggled for 10 years as a single parent and I living paycheck to paycheck and can't buy you every single big boy toy, but what I have done is provide stability for the last 10 years.  I guess that isn't important. My son is very responsible and he does work hard.  He landed a 40hr per week job (2.50 less than what I make) with excellent benefits.  He is going to college part time.  I tried telling him that as long as he is living under my roof, I don't want him getting a motorcycle. I said once you get your own place, you can get whatever you want. He proceeds to tell me that he doesnt want me to be surprised in the near future if I see a motorcycle in the garage. So I said what you are essentially telling me is that ""fuck what I think"" you're going to do it anyways. I then retreated back to my room.  Am I being unreasonable??",3.945169760625309,4.304066626404495,5.428544211040549,83.71108207132391,70.93820224719101,8.101416707376647,29.242305813385443,8.04050195162591,1.7951562286272598,1333,49,286,17,23,452,178,356,0.067,0.857,0.076,0.8372,3,0,1,0,1,0,48.0,1,6,1,2,14,13,2,1,17,1,36,6,3,3,3,37,63,23,0,9,7,9,1,2,1,3,0,3,1,1,17,10,1,0,4,1,1,6,8,3,2,1,7,10,48,10,41,50,10,36,0,0,5,2,41,13,2,5,19,195,65,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512525095797587,0.0,0.0,0.0759686494977243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304642814782589,0.0,0.17372691461886755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313205846434772,0.09721437953045156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720511335444622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059461846603035,0.0,0.0,0.0800386302613223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073394043603972,0.1756454271542061,0.2977904349403769,0.0,0.16196606369893873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104649331013856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509818548408997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426934666768877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743480895042126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282096182950188,0.0,0.16776726178064374,0.08406889406621988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341088702724086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043868507702389,0.0,0.18349638170121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968282400890732,0.10116814920297257,0.06437207232805972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109646944939552,0.1028719288255464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925110101380064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19534440298202305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27109021495094315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139978818331232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731329302212805,0.0,0.21268156030418067,0.06723899639335082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993109452260505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33212443722942603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086990760311594,0.0,0.0,0.055393210527491424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899274627418153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838204355992506,0.28015692132785913,0.0,0.07620044491589212,0.0,0.17082648549566085,0.0,0.08571954604697672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074757031495348,0.09647353510800084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835238526258732
parenting,Feelthevibes21,2020/03/02,"3 year old haircut without parents consent Hello so my 3 year old son had longer red hair that we would get tons of compliments on. Well on Saturday I sent him to spend the night with my parents and when they dropped him off his hair was not only chopped off, the cut they gave looks similar to when they use to just put a bowl on top of the child's head and cut along the edge of the bowl. It looks horrible. My son didn't want his hair cut he always said no anytime I asked if he wanted to go have it cut. I have told my parents on several occasions no his hair is not to be cut unless I am there. My question is what are the regulations in Colorado on Cutting a minors hair without parental consent? I am so upset right now that my parents completely disregarded my wishes and disrespected me this way. I am also upset that a place of business would allow for this to happen without the parent present. I know for a fact my son must have been throwing a fit over this while they were cutting his hair. When he got dropped off he was sad Everytime I told him he looked good and he is upset about this situation also.",3.2709636184857445,4.841750176991152,4.239410029498527,87.03093411996069,73.77876106194691,7.146116027531957,27.59980334316617,7.793537801064563,1.5695986234021633,884,34,182,12,18,286,124,226,0.18,0.755,0.065,-0.9715,6,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,4,1,12,14,7,3,12,0,20,7,7,2,2,27,38,14,0,7,8,9,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,10,7,0,1,2,0,1,4,8,11,1,0,12,11,29,3,29,22,1,33,0,1,4,0,36,14,0,2,12,122,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494948206503562,0.08581420839893275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641463602274668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813209440044012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388229040543045,0.0,0.05861237606102417,0.0865023521857325,0.0824841995941008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119941736586523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584333687991944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05667873108430532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598150880175268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967825339920035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21643968004909592,0.0,0.0,0.07843664542675524,0.0,0.0,0.6870962690700878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775114349703796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367629344906776,0.11553160801304573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807429039365502,0.098102289222163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165099711878664,0.0,0.0,0.1159248547695834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19709437298504084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907306242646244,0.0,0.0,0.12166002522224545,0.08186149821702364,0.0,0.0,0.0927281862050992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859687980828275,0.2982471295057775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652423704502596,0.0,0.0,0.13282744323860654
parenting,walpolemarsh,2020/03/03,"Sharenting and deepfakes I wouldn’t say she’s guilty of sharenting, but wife does post pictures of our kids online quite freely. 

I’m kind of the opposite. When I see photos of my kids online I get an urge to take them down. 

 I have been markedly shocked at how rapidly facial recognition technology is advancing.  Especially with the likes of secretive companies such as Clearview that are building/have built up databases of billions of photos scraped without permission from social media and the web. 

What’s your experience with this type of scenario?",6.580128865979383,9.157901278350518,5.926378865979384,74.16936211340209,67.14432989690721,9.386082474226805,35.83634020618557,9.827888789773867,4.062196907216496,452,23,70,11,8,138,76,97,0.05,0.8640000000000001,0.086,0.6741,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,1,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,5,2,1,1,0,9,9,6,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,2,9,2,17,7,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,0,2,45,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890121459237483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230569749213761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254685742884382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439142475089856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613480157991969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162971248659309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512714263761421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626354572821305,0.0,0.0,0.2631739095816179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33665777387132984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483138982647455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183581874871997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blackknight6714,2020/03/03,"SIDS Question So I have a new 3-weeks old and I'm having trouble getting information on SIDS. Our pediatrician and the L&D nurses seemed to allude to SIDS being related to suffocation incidents. That being the reason for all the ""best practices"" like no objects in the baby's sleep area, back sleeping, etc. etc. 

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Unfortunately my daughter has determined she **hates** the swaddles and the Sleep sacs... she loses her ever loving mind in those and only sleeps after a long screaming battle and the ensuing exhaustion. Out of desperation my wife and I take shifts watching her so the other can try to sleep a bit.  In the same line of desperation I've started letting her sleep with a soft blanket but ONLY when I am immediately beside her and watching her (i.e. the bassinet in my office directly beside my chair). Lo-and-behold she sleeps like a rock...  


I would **never** consider letting her sleep with it unsupervised.  


Is this still a risk of that nondescript boogeyman SIDS?",3.505033333333333,6.718438405714287,4.515464285714288,75.67624404761908,84.94285714285716,6.5738095238095235,27.86309523809524,7.793537801064563,2.5204523809523813,791,36,121,16,24,256,112,175,0.107,0.826,0.067,-0.4678,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,0,2,6,11,2,1,16,0,11,10,8,1,3,21,18,11,0,1,1,2,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,10,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,4,18,4,17,13,6,17,0,1,2,1,15,7,0,2,12,89,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21449183531770133,0.1202728000513168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611031156694271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387449693950723,0.0,0.10806166200461696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207800525853514,0.0,0.08953401926535162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05171350915589351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772328687176818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242964324228635,0.0,0.09671427479643237,0.0,0.0,0.08759510742290467,0.0,0.11073446763387672,0.0,0.0,0.08933425488763473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994263610200656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763402815821359,0.09559650715858728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386395318107644,0.0,0.0,0.1505590854031431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088141992151848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176899645066834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901086231736302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7924201994402773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005929098394642,0.0,0.07904638800442054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442142524528486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720163023532967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939662145219925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703132923357003,0.0,0.1202728000513168,0.0
parenting,swampmilkweed,2020/03/03,"Hairdryer recs I have a 7-year old with long straight fine hair, to her mid-back. Can y'all recommend a hairdryer that won't be too loud or hot? Something I can get in Canada/order to Canada. Thanks!",0.3900833333333331,2.8395191749999995,1.1700000000000017,98.54833333333332,94.75,3.6666666666666674,19.166666666666668,5.46131890053228,-0.3530833333333332,157,5,33,1,6,48,34,40,0.0,0.7490000000000001,0.251,0.8122,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,4,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35838370610136233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24350549465948426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124626294159388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489068402231319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588081065060937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4291001989379171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001376892741709
parenting,rpsychnurse,2020/03/03,"Toddler Pinching and Hair Pulling Unprompted Hey guys- I need some advice.

I have two girls, a four year old and a just about two year old. My two year old is becoming a tiny terror. I know that some behaviours are normal and expected but I’m not sure if we’re past that point and I don’t know what to do.

First of all, my two year old doesn’t speak. She says “ya” and just started saying “no”. That’s it. She sees a speech therapist. So I wonder if her behaviours are her way of communicating.

She constantly hurts her big sister. She chases her around and punches her and pulls her hair totally unprompted. Obviously she does it when she’s angry/frustrated, etc. but my concern is that she so often does it for no reason. And she laughs and thinks it’s funny. I always have to physically remove her hands and tell her, as calmly as I can, “No, we do not pull hair/pinch”. I tell her to use “gentle hands” and demonstrate. I’ve recently started putting her in her room for a “time out” even though I know that she’s probably too young for that. I don’t know what else to do because if I don’t put her in her room she will chase around her sister and continue to hurt her. 

She doesn’t listen to the word no, at all. She laughs and keeps doing what she’s doing. Even if I yell it doesn’t affect her. I know I shouldn’t yell so I try not to but it’s so frustrating sometimes. I’ve also smacked her hand gently away and sometimes that upsets her but it doesn’t stop the behaviour and I truly don’t believe in hitting so I don’t want to continue that practice. 

I know I’m focusing on the negative here but she does have many lovely qualities as well. She is sweet and loves to hug. She loves to play with her sister when she’s not being mean. 

I don’t know what to try that will be effective. Any tips? 

I do have a doctor’s check-up next week for her so I will mention all of this. 

Thanks!",0.4961669394435333,2.826217825641028,2.229759956355704,93.855736497545,87.41025641025641,5.678123295144572,18.55428259683579,7.125416948008024,0.2588145117294056,1472,40,325,23,47,482,171,390,0.098,0.732,0.171,0.9879,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,1,0,2,21,17,1,2,9,0,32,10,5,4,6,67,57,38,0,9,15,3,5,0,0,4,1,7,2,2,21,21,0,2,12,1,0,6,20,5,1,6,0,14,63,12,32,50,7,43,0,2,1,4,55,13,0,8,23,222,84,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606505865361852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043288116085017,0.07328476411573574,0.0,0.0,0.05989345513904727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680936650730218,0.0,0.0,0.08274858103729765,0.0,0.0,0.05368919597181292,0.09727100006848588,0.0,0.09922942829918638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517688781030534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014764403438012,0.2312228965443824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357466680226858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822597983459183,0.11634431600710435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491584319258945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720727435058619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885704391009096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828436820624486,0.0,0.0,0.3388228197605718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23847112861082745,0.0,0.0,0.08929338361896136,0.0,0.095938589911805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530588035930783,0.0,0.0,0.09366787795354732,0.0,0.08629398574234412,0.0,0.0,0.3696760989496135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407676014849455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325855782991677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495885059461501,0.0,0.0,0.17707773226754425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055491450510914,0.0869626165799326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008022851758084,0.0,0.0,0.0701837097236575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742152104621726,0.0,0.1246787003233374,0.0,0.0,0.07363394901754755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300886200508567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539614115339456,0.0810868617141026,0.0,0.10226089857125584,0.0,0.05643437124166097,0.08653242390467522,0.0,0.0513567562408442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959315887553434,0.0,0.34414266189857023,0.0,0.0,0.07606780381453346,0.0,0.0,0.05194842682274047,0.06990917586871209,0.07064778585179024,0.0,0.07918925524931172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551267933120554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22686750894642346
parenting,journeyflown,2020/03/03,"Husband 47yrs is annoying our 16yr old daughter and driving her insane. Hi I’m a mom To a 16 yr old. She is my only child and her father and I got divorced when she was 7. But now he’s back in the picture and has been for 4yrs now. 

When my daughter was younger she was very close to him. They would go out and do things together and play together but now she’s a teenager and doesn’t want to do that stuff anymore and she just kind of just is aggravated by him now 

From what my daughter has told me her dad never has anything to talk about with her. She says when I’m out of the room or outside her dad says “Farts” and starts laughing. She told me it makes her uncomfortable and she doesn’t like being left alone with him because he says that and a bunch of random stuff while I’m not in the room. She said he doesn’t have anything to say to her. When I’m not there he starts singing songs out of nowhere and my daughter told me she just sits there and waits for him to stop. Then 5 minutes later he’ll do it again. 

I told her if he starts that silly stuff and can’t find anything to talk about then she needs to start up a conversation. She said she did it was about a basketball game and he just ignored her. 

He’s been back in the picture for 4yrs now. Ever since then they don’t really have anything to do with each other. They barely even talk to each other and they never do anything together anymore. 


When I was out shopping yesterday I got a call from my daughter saying her dad is acting weird. I said what do you mean weird and she said he asked if he could hold her like a baby and my daughter said she didn’t want to and her dad said we never do anything fun anymore. When my daughter watches tv he turn the volume to 5. All the way down to 5 because he says he doesn’t like to hear it. It drives him crazy. He’s like an old man. But when he watches stuff it’s blared all the way up to 16 but when she gets the remote it gets turned down to 5 and so she just gets up and leaves. Sometimes they even argue over the volume on the tv. Which is completely stupid but it happens quite frequently. 


How do I help this situation? It sounds like to me my husband is just trying to break the silence when I’m not there? Or he’s nervous when I’m not there? I don’t know but we need help. Also how do I help with my husband is constantly annoying our daughter?",2.5024186142495988,3.799719104627768,3.4355331991951736,93.12923025331476,75.25754527162978,6.3046793582004845,23.8099881339318,6.67199483983844,0.5050843419491304,1853,55,421,15,39,592,185,497,0.08900000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.852,0,1,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,1,5,1,38,18,4,1,20,0,40,0,0,3,6,77,80,49,0,8,20,17,0,5,0,2,0,15,2,2,23,34,0,4,3,7,1,4,15,8,0,0,21,17,65,10,50,55,5,64,0,0,2,0,109,18,0,5,43,280,88,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150502681395955,0.0,0.0552115782334495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20540855777655626,0.0,0.0,0.3408861704232669,0.0,0.06454344873323851,0.0,0.0,0.1061756029368022,0.0,0.0841727668904854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049796157443579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238753968542637,0.07460813899340832,0.0,0.05512313683611457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120105836042272,0.06245098911789827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310166945267325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821226917016663,0.0,0.03923724701440032,0.0,0.11043582027417567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06105219251013104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781354187525019,0.0,0.1388289626069842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189494625297163,0.037942795045575864,0.0,0.0,0.07310380872619529,0.0750125902198861,0.0,0.0,0.16864824600794995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04608499918195614,0.0,0.0,0.07520522908079932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085927516734609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238515486333384,0.15974462444985613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21733883935098108,0.0,0.0,0.05250833080689735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343295749577104,0.0,0.0,0.044229044353033584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39403934939069823,0.3294221548922028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711092745907965,0.07760429566900494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828271514211197,0.0,0.195468585225874,0.0,0.0,0.0577208609077875,0.0,0.0,0.3161389339872531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664761607678902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04586737007573261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26388422096762426,0.0,0.04687389567638567,0.15019224670670447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05696555564326684,0.08144362645277145,0.10960210257185474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049044315116541684,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SmartResponse,2020/03/03,So is this a new middle boy trend? 12yo smells like candy. Like Jolly Rangers. He hates them so I know he's not eating them. Apparently he found this perfume that smells like candy and sprays some on himself. His friends do the same. I asked why and he wouldn't give a direct answer.,0.8258928571428577,3.386848375000003,1.4685714285714295,97.00142857142859,92.03571428571428,3.5142857142857147,15.928571428571427,5.148860815047168,-0.8870999999999993,223,5,46,1,8,68,43,56,0.048,0.7240000000000001,0.22899999999999998,0.875,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,2,5,1,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,9,8,4,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,6,4,1,6,2,3,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,4,23,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984449093481449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266606899125269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350028544555073,0.24664287805232984,0.0,0.0,0.3062426645588073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151819328067608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754451342473832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467891426436712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083225386734653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880630975511665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nyx470,2020/03/03,"My 5 years kid talks with his mom but not with me. Please help. I really wanted to connect with him. But to no avail. Whenever I pick him from school I try to talk with him but I fail miserably. What really crush me is when my wife tells all the stories and stuff he told her at the end of the day. 
What makes things worse is I have full time job that makes me barely see my kids. Like maybe for only 2 hours a day if I am lucky. 
The only way I feel connected with him is when we play video games. 

Trying to throw as much info as possible here. 

Would really appreciate any help here. Tried to search online but failed.",0.7671316964285708,2.9665921640625013,2.172589285714285,95.770625,84.390625,6.1571428571428575,14.611607142857142,7.447530270364453,-0.263345535714286,479,7,111,8,14,154,89,128,0.166,0.6940000000000001,0.14,-0.605,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,4,6,0,1,5,0,6,0,0,3,1,22,12,10,0,3,6,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,7,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,2,20,3,16,10,3,12,0,3,1,0,19,2,0,2,9,67,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423090973396445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21666403478782545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487787921350132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493480540840366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22518444105495455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542465201533035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669240539160168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206564458680499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22425345375197855,0.0,0.16875664057912249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967339920368127,0.0,0.0,0.12348327619033125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555099217362802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843895779433116,0.0,0.18937013740699385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32283333389535995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17000286691364253,0.13385684615498392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192294805985014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27002896591266595,0.14682031669919496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159722617539376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794941655574034,0.0,0.0,0.16051033143396973,0.0,0.3421384349407265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907787155430282,0.13333324550562448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17118409689079456,0.11932686608456188,0.0,0.0,0.10817242833905616
parenting,MurdaOne,2020/03/03,I have a out of control 16 year old girl. I have a 16 year old daughter that was well behaved until she hit highschool. Now she doesn't do her homework. She won't listen to anything me and her mom tells her. She cusses at school to the teachers and skips a couple classes a day. I'm new to this type of situation because like I said she was well behaved until recently. We took all her electronics away and I sold em because it has been a month and she just doesn't care so I will not provide her with any luxury things. She basically has clothes and a bed. She does not give a crap. She still refuses to behave. I live in the United States so we are not allowed to whoop her and I'd feel uncomfortably spanking a 16 year old. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you. Also if I posted in the wrong area please delete.,0.7375078414599372,3.1882439940119767,2.491069289991448,91.36692614770462,88.10179640718563,5.09712004562304,21.12603364699173,6.655083550727371,0.4467937838608496,645,22,135,8,21,212,104,167,0.051,0.828,0.12,0.8540000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,0,1,8,7,1,0,11,0,15,1,1,2,1,21,25,12,0,2,5,2,1,1,0,3,0,2,2,1,4,10,0,2,1,0,1,1,6,2,2,0,6,3,26,5,15,14,1,23,0,0,0,0,26,6,1,1,15,90,30,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454760474676988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905292720801312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247620251743587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250901511400845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987019460841915,0.0,0.0,0.181502043776732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178498010333852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669726665815001,0.0,0.16472409534322535,0.0,0.0960101584766176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302789370410587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527418323421464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281163885784826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727313654061764,0.0,0.1314567504932214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743571495074306,0.11882825259187516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378155672138382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686485307723073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341680904364608,0.0,0.0,0.14257827498899764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699319253837126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161141400978425,0.0,0.0,0.15066646580122953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733842536154464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888941404128665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301207363527689,0.1370613850529405,0.0,0.0,0.0989039771288571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654023288878404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677077093956349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575443528978967,0.16276821991607476,0.0,0.2876061640171281
parenting,joannajrz,2020/03/03,"Bedroom sharing I have 3 kids, a 20 year old college student (girl), 13 year old boy and 7 seven year old girl. Should the 2 girls share the room and leave the boy his own room or should the 20 year old have her own room? The 20 year old is paying some bills and says she’s the oldest so she should get her own room. HELP!!!",0.3590062111801231,2.245750159420293,1.2513871635610772,103.64739130434783,83.6376811594203,3.9428571428571435,15.65424430641822,3.1291,-1.4132625258799167,247,4,62,0,7,76,40,69,0.017,0.8490000000000001,0.134,0.8446,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,7,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,5,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,4,4,15,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,2,11,29,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222794236912398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054928431309485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664956248486898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8257532021910398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516004966586808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5067586801470422
parenting,Royal_Puppy,2020/03/03,"Full Day Timeout for Violence My son is 4 and he recently began acting out at school. Last weekend his iPad was taken away and we did not do our usual family fun outings. Today he was sent home because he couldn’t calm down , was throwing things, and hit another student. All Un-triggered by anything noticeable per the teachers. He doesn’t respond to time outs, taking things away, or spankings (yes we tried it bc we’ve tried it all). However, this behavior that’s violent only happens at school. My husband thinks that his punishment should be to stay in his room for the remainder of the day until dinner and bath bed time, I think this is too strict for a 4 year old. Any thoughts from the pros out there? Please no negative comments we are truly wanting to help our son.",3.8342671517671536,6.033477925675676,4.397297297297296,83.81339916839919,73.79729729729729,7.526819126819128,28.95218295218295,8.384062270229773,2.270602286902287,615,26,112,11,13,195,110,148,0.107,0.8079999999999999,0.085,-0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,5,1,12,1,0,0,2,20,22,6,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,8,10,1,0,3,2,0,3,5,2,0,0,8,0,11,2,19,10,3,28,0,0,0,0,19,11,0,1,13,68,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898271669610425,0.1834668550051671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398191250918582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32877218225957977,0.0,0.0,0.1066575033803844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225676881410056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494214706359947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472164381863124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727586087168235,0.0,0.1755049232112824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426204468462714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919967753330295,0.18359713281078927,0.0,0.0,0.13306934481128593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19205986335255512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727575800671473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35414938038433913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18649022032602908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155247683386112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23247895297379276,0.22422198852213787,0.0,0.13890326965030247,0.20404788349742373,0.0,0.16584708236062864,0.0,0.0,0.23758053210062705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270006576814505,0.0,0.10319933851050744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267221302334343
parenting,Katsteen,2020/03/03,"What is going on? Why do young parents not impose schedules, rules, discipline, manners etc.   Kids are not taught boundaries or manners anymore and they have zero coping skills because parents don’t want their feelings to be hurt.   #OldSchoolParent",6.237750000000003,10.047037275000003,4.640000000000004,76.04500000000002,76.25,5.2,35.5,6.742157984588678,2.9531,201,11,25,2,5,58,36,40,0.08,0.845,0.075,-0.2987,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,2,8,1,4,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,17,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072640648044089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886700812683727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455378050627936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665729686356294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608121306942892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316750605918057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6880500483798663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274335782673928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795697068943091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maestra1987,2020/03/03,"Public Playground Etiquette - when approached by other children Hi all! 

The weather is getting warmer every day and my 9-month-old is more and more active. I’m a SAHM who is rather introverted and socially awkward, so getting out and about can be hard for me. I sometimes freeze up in uncomfortable or extended interactions. I can navigate pretty well with just the two of us, but when a little girl came up to me and asked for my help to climb up on something, I about had a panic attack!

There are a lot of public parks and playgrounds in my city, and they can get CROWDED. My first instinct is to look around for a parent but it’s impossible to know who is who.  Now that I’m a parent, suddenly I’m a “grown-up,” an authority figure! I have the confidence to do right by my own child, but next to none when it comes to someone else’s. 

I wonder if I could get some thoughts on what you do if a strange child approaches you, or, how you would like another parent to handle being approached by your own child? 

Thanks for your advice!",5.91993399339934,6.0773724950495085,6.396782178217823,79.18283003300331,66.62376237623764,9.10957095709571,31.684818481848183,8.841846274778883,2.4737412541254127,812,30,157,12,12,264,123,202,0.073,0.8,0.127,0.8778,3,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,5,1,2,13,6,1,2,12,0,17,0,0,1,1,31,32,19,0,5,9,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,8,12,0,0,4,0,0,6,1,3,1,2,3,3,20,3,29,25,8,25,0,0,1,0,26,11,0,7,9,120,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446378073761417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520584171258486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176405908778405,0.13837333882597652,0.1683875719675755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692888650864329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275011661797765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817733077913932,0.0,0.0,0.09545694325368052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236469091079032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470838539960385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259008413707206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093253362583357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325916907561724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921082856434654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813447582657955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231228372600716,0.14834915844751745,0.0,0.0,0.12429468764427105,0.0,0.0,0.12583641824624658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181435583960537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574148289760971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531605168199594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366282531455274,0.4930569090343752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058369947007105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264033566814837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088188312800274,0.12541198965022735,0.11394859729183868,0.14638987323668246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362716306572471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750677735277128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458841026858835,0.0,0.17804291248590465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308258224870806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605151350757288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514507306787776,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProfessionalBinger_,2020/03/03,"Does anyone know what materials I can use for a 5th grade meteor science project? My little brother has a project due Thursday, and neglected to tell me until today. It’s been a WHILE since I had to do a school science project and I’m completely blanking on what to use",4.390471698113212,5.929360075471699,5.3850471698113225,80.0541745283019,70.88679245283019,8.318867924528304,34.00471698113208,8.841846274778883,3.0247396226415098,216,11,40,4,4,71,40,53,0.07200000000000001,0.9279999999999999,0.0,-0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,6,9,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,6,7,0,7,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,25,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094453094472866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313049682862323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276521193522109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365746320283268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167006586963274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31979437270035194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613866156088884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761854075221963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995174725995155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.545820337356503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rapunzelmomthrowaway,2020/03/03,"My (43F) daughter (17F) refuses to get a haircut. What do I do? My daughter has really long hair that almost touches the ground, I let her do this because I figured this rapunzel phase would end at some point, but she still doesn't want to get it cut other than very minor trims that she only trusts herself to do. She's going to be an adult on the 19th and she'll be graduating in may, I wanna convince her to get a cut before she becomes an adult since its more mature that way. I've brought this up but she's adamant about the fact that she doesn't want that. I'm worried about her but I won't force her or cut it without her permission. Is there any way I can convince her to get a haircut?",2.83152978056426,4.014222648275865,3.9550470219435763,90.18510971786837,74.24137931034483,6.65203761755486,26.285266457680247,6.980632752743323,1.012103448275862,544,19,119,5,11,177,87,145,0.095,0.813,0.092,0.4996,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,8,0,16,1,1,0,1,16,25,5,0,4,5,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,13,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,2,22,3,15,17,2,13,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,4,3,82,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21673284834453235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718625059429016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193948210480394,0.23904037191375016,0.18417403364620896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19170111341404147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523227255603438,0.0,0.12300752943131367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22132400570984068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154210564128735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461195773363296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20460524323439894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865665633926752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179040952788918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284882737350082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858521674032327,0.25532319518251284,0.34359912796362463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086399097822532,0.0,0.0,0.2198047715328537,0.0,0.153752378012722,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ch3trch3trpumpkin3tr,2020/03/03,"Tantrum in Taco Bell Dad and I were hungry, we decided to have Taco Bell as we were driving and we asked our 3 year old if she would like to go inside or go home and eat. She said she’d be happy to go inside and eat with us. 

Then hell hit. 

We left her damn pink stuffed elephant “Ellie” in the car. She. Went. Crazy. 
Kicking, screaming “I want Ellie, I want Ellie” etc. We barely made it into Taco Bell, literally a foot inside of the doors. 
I took her back outside and we all walked to the car and got inside. My 3 year old and Dad, very upset. Toddler kicking and screaming not letting me put her into her car seat; literally bucking as I’m pushing her down into the seat struggling. Dad, yelling and blaring music loudly because she’s screaming. Me, just trying to figure out WTF is the best way to calm every one down. 

I tell dad we’re not going back in and we drive off to home (2 min drive up the road). Everyone’s yelling/ toddler kicking/ etc. 

We get home, dad storms inside angry because he’s “over it” and “she’s spoiled”. I get it, I have those moments too where I can’t deal with it. 

Toddlers yelling about being home now. I finally get her to calm down and start talking to her explaining what went wrong. How everyone was in the wrong, how mom and dad don’t throw tantrums in public, we shouldn’t scream or hit at each other, etc. She asked to go back and I said no, I’m sorry we messed up and now we don’t have time cuz dad has to go to work. We’ll try again another day. 

My question is what could we have done better? How do we make it easier or make a good outcome for everyone? Is an outcome possible for us all to stay and enjoy a meal in public? How do you discipline this behavior? Is “discipline” needed here? 

It’s so hard to know if we’re teaching her good coping mechanisms or helping her to understand her emotions so she has a good life ahead of her or if we’re just creating a spoiled brat child (so it seems some days).. I feel like I fail at being a parent every time.",1.2426173011992103,3.3864426650366752,2.806390150192108,92.28677465362676,82.00733496332519,5.5578297822796605,22.20753289090697,6.7636006534598385,0.5283928978926529,1546,51,331,17,42,506,198,409,0.132,0.772,0.096,-0.9464,1,0,0,0,3,0,51.0,17,1,0,5,20,25,4,2,14,0,28,5,1,8,2,75,61,35,0,9,12,9,2,2,0,3,1,10,5,1,12,36,3,2,8,0,1,19,7,14,0,1,11,13,53,11,44,39,8,63,1,1,1,0,60,22,2,11,22,205,65,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865738060160333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808448483694512,0.0,0.0,0.1950397269816864,0.0,0.10308101559756083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088729341689889,0.07477704200868167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750578765437135,0.0,0.0,0.10905469092818282,0.08716668217902407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865233547260387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730302151713478,0.0,0.09510665495240997,0.0,0.0,0.28288467286968844,0.0,0.0,0.1424729722359105,0.2423716229939148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04275069908085771,0.0604020828438204,0.0,0.09261969599472353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252065980782535,0.0,0.2883081134846669,0.21274798640383774,0.0676218504675205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900043706266655,0.07573962334322944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566716567545053,0.0,0.33923962503547805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646611953479892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918631318432228,0.08645745352618774,0.059719716519926386,0.08261309741600925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000265294345088,0.11287471458956587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990231937554952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269228240505294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17744067047435716,0.0,0.057292837493719474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388206345879704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531670462137848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499546394508557,0.0947146381946478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085161436850512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697056592663593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464609132294967,0.05984447531799938,0.09011837283337076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838935333923695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795757645725636,0.07389987117745822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098602828656289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393745485826922,0.11480693696626296,0.0,0.0,0.08801887016696196,0.203404950245515,0.0,0.0,0.06976208038197527,0.09973881148071216,0.06711135003696722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675621578417692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06155294428440102,0.0,0.0,0.060061442652556835,0.1848829144491104,0.0,0.1088940372685208
parenting,KalinderRandy,2020/03/03,"My three golden rules of raising children I derived the following rules from the reactions and feedbacks from my children. What are your golden rules, you try to follow?

1. Don't lose yourself and don't be always stressed and unhappy

2. Trust your children. They know best, when they are ready for something.

3. 90 % till 95  % of raising a child is non verbal.

Explanation:
1. This is the most important rule. If rule 2 or 3 come in conflict with rule 1, you must find another solution. You can only raise a happy child, if you are happy. This rule became number one, when in a really taxing phase my oldest daughter asked, why my wife didn't looked as happy as on our wedding photo.
And most important, your focus should be your children and not your parents or other family members. You do not need to satisfy any wishes, you think they have. If they are not helpful, but you have the feeling, they are a stress factor, consider reducing time with them.

2. You need to encourage your child for new things, but if it resists it, let it take it time. Nobody will every bat an eye about, when your child learned to ride a bicycle. Let it be with three, four, five years or even later, who cares? But for example, me and my wife like to go regular outside for a walk. Most of the time, my second daughter doesn't want to. But we need or walks to be happy, so we take her with us, even if she doesn't want to. And nearly always, she likes it outside, too. And some things needs to be done, even if your child doesn't want it, like teeth brushing.

3. You child always watch you and will try to mimic your behaviour. And if your instructions won't match your behaviour, you will get into trouble. E.g. if your instructions are, don't swear or don't eat so much sweets, but you swear or eat sweets regularly, your child will copy you, even if your order say otherwise. You must live your orders. Some exceptions, like alcohol, are possible, but you need to explain them to your child.",3.82116180100434,5.6708710923482855,4.3405974976593775,85.71815473657334,72.90501319261215,7.6343859051834215,25.41841858881607,8.360895534625662,1.6279147331687809,1540,50,299,26,31,487,181,379,0.044000000000000004,0.797,0.158,0.9921,1,0,2,0,0,0,69.0,4,31,7,2,11,18,0,2,12,0,37,5,2,0,2,67,60,39,0,21,25,5,1,4,0,8,1,1,0,12,14,18,3,1,6,0,1,7,12,4,0,6,2,8,53,14,35,43,7,25,0,1,3,0,69,5,0,20,15,208,67,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690812718518458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497140514884635,0.0,0.0,0.0680279524258468,0.1048965331316888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352021393357456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049816751540487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199343208779163,0.0,0.0,0.08617220946665838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237162302898724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047237305607504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642915014996038,0.0,0.08428469661015506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430509611003833,0.0,0.05058123860763998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143114820483206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052264713469000704,0.0,0.056852799268867174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259609919161577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705206357370269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054977203411702216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045873017395957,0.0,0.1954902671702244,0.0,0.08833367533983844,0.0,0.08400509720964322,0.11191476495203824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353801574046186,0.3708773614660515,0.0,0.09661545187775047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778702444835963,0.07608193281787086,0.0,0.0,0.11107820819036156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277562901671165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408566277685045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955269151923669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701264771507392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22918194167506656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042933770647782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291902884773912,0.0640990691403174,0.0,0.0,0.17499549636201875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583583888346373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033106526380005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701158333363706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026698618580643,0.0,0.11503653417213892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441994400618564
parenting,Patientmommy123,2020/03/03,I’m struggling My husband just divorced me and I’m really struggling. Can someone who cares please comment and I just need someone who is understanding and non judgemental who will listen and talk to me about it.,6.083846153846152,8.156432769230772,5.818461538461541,76.50153846153849,67.46153846153847,8.276923076923078,36.07692307692308,8.841846274778883,3.4324461538461537,174,9,28,3,3,54,27,39,0.131,0.746,0.124,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,9,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,2,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292168365634914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212481588926736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145582783161346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18357852040929445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4856049556515997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5991522248427192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23032713551491546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983204418651818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,princessbunny0,2020/03/03,"Am I wrong for feeling upset that after missing a call from my sons school, they denied calling, then called Emerg. Contact with sensitive info? I missed the call while I was in the shower. I called back, and neither the secretary, principle or vice principle knew who called. The teacher was outside and unreachable so I was told they'd call back in 20 minutes.

I had to get some gas and leave my phone at home to charge so I stopped by the school instead. I was told that his teacher didn't know either, and given the attitude by the secretary that she didn't even believe I got a call from the school. I was worried because my son has been having some problems emotionally at school and also some physical accidents where he was hurt by another child.

2.5 hours later I get a text from my cousin that someone from his school called and asked for permission for my son to be in an emotional wellness group. Apparently related to his emotional challenges. That is something we keep private and they just gave the information out while denying me even the chance when I asked 4 different people who all should have known

I feel violated and want to go to the school to talk about it but I'm not sure if I'm over reacting, or what the right thing to say would be. I get anxious with confrontation.",7.165801041064199,7.208036352226722,6.817030075187973,77.61171052631582,64.02024291497975,10.457952573742046,35.051764025448236,10.125756701596842,3.409622556390977,1037,43,194,21,14,325,145,247,0.128,0.8320000000000001,0.04,-0.9541,3,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,3,1,13,11,2,1,16,0,20,0,0,1,2,38,41,19,0,5,7,4,2,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,10,12,0,2,7,0,0,1,4,8,1,0,16,3,28,3,29,20,6,20,0,3,0,0,36,9,0,6,10,136,38,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131048678759734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039192222260631,0.0,0.08661176694474983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334639173157174,0.0,0.0,0.11790421700132013,0.0,0.04673542649418472,0.0,0.0,0.086377334739215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7045692284048933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801005856704534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258719807281836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127551978280484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775301695617253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016586215233276,0.0,0.04357156219092895,0.0,0.06131751814056315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690314490913652,0.0,0.07550144642568986,0.0,0.08207349482569566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814505730105286,0.0,0.0,0.04213411948649799,0.0,0.0,0.08117917006609017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05315117047804045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335986269578025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547310788618488,0.0,0.06096859065098545,0.0,0.4655459337694566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495960980910605,0.059021919985617385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409695562572486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225763951915645,0.0,0.0,0.06162194465837598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050934077180686765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651700386721694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522011997604405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893274430439324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778589515372269,0.0,0.054461961243806006,0.08382321233621506,0.0,0.0
parenting,Captain_Yogi,2020/03/03,"Who's been sleeping in my bed!! My son, that's who! 

For as long as I can remember now our 3yr old has been going to bed and settling absolutely fine. Come after midnight however and he comes running into our room to get in our bed and refuses to settle back in his own.

My wife and I have been able to on occasion move him back to his bed, but he usually wakes and starts with the refusal of sleeping in his bed again.

He complains that the room is dark when we ask him what is the matter, but he has a dimmed colour LED light that stays on overnight so the room is not dark.

We've tried sticker charts with rewards daily, and a larger reward at the weekend if he completes the week... Nothing. 

Has anyone had anything similar? How did you over come it?

TIA!",3.7180748663101615,4.784371562091504,4.488140225787284,87.65844919786095,71.94117647058823,7.3937017231134865,27.63458110516934,7.686295010490155,1.4658941176470592,591,21,124,7,11,190,98,153,0.021,0.862,0.11699999999999999,0.9483,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,1,0,2,7,4,0,0,8,0,13,3,3,2,0,23,20,14,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,7,13,0,2,1,1,0,7,1,1,0,0,5,2,15,3,21,15,1,32,0,0,1,0,23,12,0,1,12,82,22,0,0.19260451355726751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467355415724,0.0,0.15849710368951087,0.0,0.18005922047788353,0.0,0.0,0.2962019643168614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4977352021813432,0.20194216801057724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006279088755342,0.0,0.10946158362735184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044893358760085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470811682298096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848092253306545,0.0,0.2021060374118316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181833678543747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38548722046704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363264660258248,0.20529078460607747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076582181306928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212666072261468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544957230504762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dustygirlv2,2020/03/03,"3 year old won't brush his teeth For the last 5 days my son (3 years old) has flat out refused to brush his teeth, we have managed to get it done a few times in this period but at bedtime he just refuses. The last two nights he has gone straight to bed with no stories having refused to do it. We have have also sanctioned no tv or golden time (a thing nursery do to try to help me when he's behaving well). Normally this works quickly to get him to change his behaviour, but so far no change. I am really worried about his teeth as he has quite bad breath anyway. I think we shouldn't put him to bed until we have got him to brush his teeth even if it takes half the night. But my husband thinks it's just escalating and we should continue to put him straight to bed no story time, no tv in the morning and no golden time until he brushes his teeth morning and night.

 We have just had a rather heated discussion and I really don't know what the best way to deal with it is. The way I see it he is just getting away with not brushing his teeth. The way he sees it we aren't allowing the argument to continue on his terms. What do you think? 

My son is very clever and he understands why we need to brush our teeth. We have talked about it. Nursery showed him a video today about the importance of it. I have tried to make it fun. I have tried counting and singing and all that I can think of even had a Thomas timer. We have had issues like this before with other stuff such as going to bed, cutting nails, trying food. He's just very stubborn. Finding it a bit testing (understatement). Also, maybe irrationally, worrying about his oral health. Any advice welcome. Thanks.",3.9193750000000014,4.992738377976192,4.409285714285716,88.3857142857143,71.47023809523809,7.742857142857144,25.904761904761905,8.07648339933343,1.3311869047619047,1309,40,279,18,24,414,169,336,0.113,0.78,0.107,0.27,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,11,1,0,3,20,10,2,0,15,0,30,10,8,2,1,52,48,20,0,6,12,3,0,1,0,3,1,0,4,0,20,22,1,4,7,5,0,4,11,3,1,2,6,8,37,7,38,39,5,39,0,0,2,0,46,9,0,2,24,180,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972541356256703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322415419334882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939982005323855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958825404264469,0.0,0.08521033665453563,0.0,0.0,0.08683993743925053,0.0,0.10709876021213838,0.0,0.11141589483602958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159179572278155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581600838732046,0.10521258712598766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443607316439453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348106329208277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327497016161064,0.0,0.1234033914715352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995608777890852,0.0,0.057999306139385975,0.0,0.0816214367242097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847800524323087,0.0,0.0,0.06840425119785387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651724832968924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608588657671821,0.16637430413232088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985814242520992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812144529422913,0.0,0.10252636975627537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756713122465952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28731064299987297,0.09999067624821416,0.0,0.0,0.2141757783511176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051837337864861,0.0,0.10854636618503434,0.0,0.0,0.13075605853502467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264671370795916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116826741235034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673146548793437,0.08202666724420353,0.0,0.09395707091160603,0.0,0.0,0.06779975256303249,0.2615668239473841,0.0,0.0,0.2380326620568591,0.0,0.09673470224738208,0.0,0.0,0.27715027247274204,0.0,0.09969135506106652,0.1062412015080802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840950640300958,0.0,0.2430157459155729,0.0,0.0,0.09175827394985764,0.0,0.09208733137854924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429609974236276,0.20728038834647816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143810338087902
parenting,oj22,2020/03/03,Any suggestions for upcoming pollen allergic months? Any suggestions for upcoming pollen allergic months? Please share the precaution or your best practices. So that it helps all members here and as well as me!,6.785588235294122,10.636404911764707,5.0779411764705875,73.79573529411766,73.41176470588233,11.635294117647062,34.97058823529412,10.686352973137794,5.558847058823528,173,9,25,7,4,50,26,34,0.096,0.591,0.313,0.8725,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4819976887643901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719127430891185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375416172097535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5657449359192012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890162067688239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318641142980725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vexxed587,2020/03/03,Morning wood...(NSFW?) I am a 30s male. I wake up every single morning with an erection. Even from naps during the day. We have a child on the way. I am worried that this may be an issue when they reach the age that they would want to sleep in the bed with us or come in the room in the morning. Thoughts on this?,-0.3204545454545453,1.8159580909090918,1.215378787878791,101.0430681818182,89.30303030303033,3.3000000000000003,17.340909090909093,3.1291,-1.0910545454545453,238,6,56,0,8,76,47,66,0.036000000000000004,0.92,0.045,-0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,10,0,6,2,2,0,0,9,9,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,10,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,3,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873609014631849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21513994017608126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203350842169428,0.0,0.2810665590142077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481845070049091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338339985512631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26483564409532445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012714029528273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676184263659727,0.2647906607079826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387799673758958,0.0,0.2369749539278352,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mekamekyla,2020/03/03,"Only parent at playground? We have a playground inside our apartment community that is over run by unattended kids. The age ranges are all under the age of 11. I know this because we have lived here for 7 years and many of these kids are classmates with my girls that are 8 and 10. I am always the only parent there, there are about 15 kids at any given time and no parents stop by to check on the kids within the 3 hours we’ve been there.  One of my daughters classmates has started following us home and just comes right in with her little brother that is 6. I explained to her that it’s not okay and I don’t think her parents would be okay with her going into a strangers home. I send them on their way and the cycle repeats the next day.
I have introduced myself to parents in the past because this is an ongoing thing with most the kids here. Introducing myself always backfires because now the parents see me as a babysitter and try to take advantage of the situation. I don’t know what I can do other then avoid the playground all together. There are other parks near by but even the public parks are full of kids with no parental supervision. I feel sad for the kids, especially the ones that I can tell they just want a parental figure but this is such an awkaward situation to be in for me. Any advice or tips of what I can do would be very appreciated.",4.987277984304008,5.869931100371747,5.328296158612144,83.47902829409334,68.85130111524164,7.910863279636514,28.699091284593145,7.984000788550335,1.7292501445683608,1082,37,215,13,18,344,146,269,0.055999999999999994,0.914,0.03,-0.5539,8,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,3,1,12,5,0,1,21,2,28,0,0,0,2,36,41,12,0,3,6,10,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,8,15,16,0,2,6,0,1,5,5,2,0,2,2,3,28,3,36,34,4,35,0,1,1,0,33,16,0,2,13,159,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870830632781791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107100154325492,0.0,0.0,0.12346583035257465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601432859983015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781981745424005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854502302598792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995875321131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459006511460222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05159186642616016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821177199255808,0.0,0.08939914804769207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977966156025636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098452769553744,0.08015962692553537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203578026940842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654462496820232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302856343897695,0.13808322425148012,0.0,0.0,0.8063957664019569,0.0,0.08665894279257022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752487325948704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233920616316343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040790708268672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425392902681659,0.0,0.0,0.07589540991152169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825460133304519,0.0,0.07934495293835638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060309614214217815,0.058167595187162274,0.0,0.0,0.052934035436509146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061633064208666835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919610513192653,0.0,0.0,0.0749022819200542,0.05354387752626187,0.07205624076834659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289737658468493,0.0,0.0,0.05845877756397185
parenting,honneycomb,2020/03/03,"Best non-wifi game apps for Android? Hello all,

Going to be taking DD (3 YO) on a flight this weekend and wondering if any of you can recommend some age-appropriate games to download on an Android tablet? Paid apps are fine as long as we can play without WiFi. 

Thank you!",4.035,5.485597735849058,4.7171226415094365,84.84285377358493,71.64150943396227,7.564150943396226,28.34433962264151,8.07648339933343,1.8020981132075475,212,8,42,3,4,68,45,53,0.036000000000000004,0.767,0.19699999999999998,0.857,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,9,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,9,7,3,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,2,24,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27336982830601514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218680922878432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284625572375971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557522005018221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022495956043433,0.0,0.0,0.3701022325927952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875080456541616,0.4359455417825219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankzero01,2020/03/03,Children and small cars Our first child is on the way but one of our vehicles is struggling so we are looking at new cars. My question is: how hard is child/newborn transport with smaller vehicles? Thinking Ford focus or Prius.,5.98,7.565173190476194,5.3223809523809535,81.83928571428571,67.09523809523809,7.504761904761906,37.80952380952381,7.793537801064563,3.061752380952381,182,10,31,2,3,55,35,42,0.12,0.88,0.0,-0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,7,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,0,4,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,2,2,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212315702529233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383030372186264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171335254900949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647397585213716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559075432308858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4230579498013441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39480506203398297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419848848739703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29976348636513206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tara_brch83,2020/03/03,How involved are the grandparents in your family ?? In our family ours are not involved much at all minus the occasional material item. I've gone through periods of being incredibly frustrated by this but now feeling okay with it. I look forward to being a grandparent and doing all the things I wish would have been done for us !,6.872500000000002,8.196052583333334,7.7633333333333345,66.12000000000002,64.83333333333334,12.0,35.0,11.698219412168324,4.7860000000000005,265,12,43,9,4,89,50,60,0.037000000000000005,0.833,0.13,0.7145,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,4,1,9,0,0,1,2,10,13,3,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,2,6,1,9,7,4,7,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,3,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265867681138561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6017057392266429,0.0,0.16136467074852787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679937309875344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346015642184637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21201967287323256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838811239426602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669904686346525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22670494580639675,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iknotfunny,2020/03/03,Very Random Question about Wooden Trains How long did your kids play with wooden train sets? My son is five and really likes them. I'm thinking of getting him some more but I don't want to buy more wooden trains and wooden train tracks only to have him get bored with them in the next 6 months. I've always seen wooden trains as a toddler toy.,4.173478260869565,5.404163739130438,3.9862028985507263,91.06278260869568,71.02898550724638,6.0997101449275375,19.597101449275364,5.6839178017228535,-0.18923420289855075,274,4,56,1,5,83,54,69,0.065,0.879,0.055999999999999994,-0.1611,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,10,5,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,7,2,8,8,3,5,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,3,4,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28956621877454825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363634213557732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17001659638581634,0.0,0.0,0.3079715389571752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777725256128498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701049401866149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646718212909361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898427953301147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229395134635912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22298615116723866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871387669587299,0.2052610758573397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grandma-bee,2020/03/03,"Grandparents taking grandkids on vacation I hope it’s okay to post here, I looked for a grandparents sub reddit and they’re all pretty dead.

Myself (60m) and my wife (61f) had two children, our son died in his 20’s and our daughter is in her early 30’s, our daughter had one child (3f). Our daughter moved away in her 20’s and still lives pretty far away. She comes to visit us with her daughter once a year, and we often go visit them 3-4 times a year.

While we’re there visiting we always let them know we are happy to babysit. Sometimes they take us up on that and go out for a date, or even go away overnight. They have never had a problem with us babysitting there (they don’t allow me to babysit on my own due to some health conditions I have, but when my wife is there it is fine, and she has babysat on her own when she’s gone to visit by herself when I’ve been unable to join her).

My wife and I have two trips planned, one for this year, and one for next. I asked my daughter if we could take our grand daughter with us. She said no. I understand that it is her child, and her decision, but I’ll be honest it feels hurtful that they are okay using us for free babysitting when we’re there, but won’t allow us to take her on a vacation where we would get to enjoy our granddaughters company for a whole week or two. 

I don’t want to pester my daughter, but I was hoping to hear from parents who allow their parents to take their grandchild with them, how can I talk her into letting us take our granddaughter with us.

I will add my daughter says it’s because we aren’t regular caregivers and she feels it’s unfair to our grand daughter to have someone she isn’t familiar with take her on holiday. (I will also say my wife went on holiday last year with my daughter and grand daughter, but it was a “girls” trip and myself and my daughters husband were not invited) 

Also, this is an account my wife made, hence the name.",4.526946564885495,4.908847424936387,4.9530137404580135,87.55095572519083,69.6615776081425,7.9164987277353704,28.442646310432572,7.699297019823105,1.512060844783715,1510,50,322,16,25,480,180,393,0.04,0.8059999999999999,0.153,0.9912,5,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,22,0,9,1,16,14,0,0,10,2,32,1,0,6,2,62,59,30,2,7,9,22,2,0,0,4,1,4,0,4,13,31,0,0,5,2,2,13,8,2,0,6,11,7,74,13,45,40,5,50,0,1,1,0,87,18,0,7,18,227,87,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241385792182604,0.058482791881869216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570703381276648,0.0,0.19810535389108888,0.0,0.0,0.042845114018047664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054434697046567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05611689314784153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729447851519336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04642261254287725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107646605351976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03672103763108788,0.0,0.11983384062497608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481974249608288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470972129903407,0.07921635932749826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961782670514591,0.0,0.0,0.07524159951988725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0386268252772589,0.05729169643733864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374245083115855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206298668738355,0.0,0.05902174012047606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650541357665002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470188484731058,0.0,0.0,0.05420816336974457,0.0,0.07474894786756094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485128421993162,0.1428809062816784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608646033700602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673136491610491,0.14301032723037782,0.0,0.06725330049015649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685717750891765,0.11178698533054716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595522946428091,0.0,0.06951371147231122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612973159028213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699192727623855,0.056492460708162384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0409837777770273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20597484261907795,0.0731692156151487,0.6763540878664464,0.06070371642829641,0.0,0.0,0.04145594341638201,0.0,0.056378427449941884,0.0,0.0,0.06515494535416337,0.0,0.0784707481185532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049928482827212656,0.0,0.0,0.18104507083516566
parenting,stupidrobots,2020/03/03,Anyone else like bringing their baby around town just to make people smile? I have a very happy and interactive 7mo with a huge smile and an incredible head of hair who just loves people.  Everywhere we go people just smile at him and it's awesome.  I feel like the little dude is spreading joy wherever he goes.,3.364463276836158,6.005284457627116,4.045000000000002,83.57620056497176,77.3050847457627,6.6451977401129945,21.69774011299436,7.793537801064563,1.1257435028248586,249,7,45,4,6,79,48,59,0.0,0.591,0.409,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,4,0,2,3,2,1,0,11,7,3,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,5,5,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,2,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343269546328453,0.2687960866059579,0.0,0.23353626854037254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191495766715299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264587842070574,0.18741418291441067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909262223080233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792634754555991,0.0,0.0,0.2692342761306175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563300042199456,0.2629314028786601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367701146550686,0.0,0.17511252435780075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5456160153140364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216456166371007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anxioushousewife,2020/03/03,"2 year old won’t go to bed without crying For a while she would just whine a little, but her head was on the pillow and she was actively trying to sleep so I let her. Then one night she was crying, yelling and banging on the door so I went back in. She’s a huge attention seeker  and very smart so she quickly learned that kind of behavior gets mom and dad to come back in.

We curbed it for a while by really focusing on a good bedtime routine, but recently she’s been trying to extend the routine to get more attention. For instance she’ll say she doesn’t want to be covered but as you’re leaving say she needs to be covered but then asks you to uncover her as you leave. Then she’ll request a stuffie, but not that stuffie. Wait, she does want that stuffie. 

Once I caught on I stopped giving in. We would do the routine and then leave, but she screams when I leave. And she screams for quite a while. I feel awful leaving her to scream, but I know the second I go back she’ll make up something she wants and keep screaming every time I leave because we’ve done it too many times.

Any suggestions on how to stop her from screaming when I leave? Or do I just ignore it? Am I awful for ignoring it?",3.0220988446726547,4.357821077235776,3.705815147625163,91.55439666238769,74.0,6.804963628583652,26.768506632434743,7.273561745256523,1.1439869918699197,939,34,205,10,19,297,126,246,0.17300000000000001,0.723,0.10400000000000001,-0.945,0,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,2,2,0,1,13,11,0,0,12,2,18,2,2,2,0,42,36,30,0,6,12,2,1,0,0,6,0,8,3,0,7,10,0,7,5,0,0,5,4,8,0,2,7,9,36,3,30,20,1,37,0,1,0,0,32,11,0,1,21,139,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566618464569303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027341581331412,0.0,0.0,0.22275307272682104,0.0,0.058863938438331764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318051648449988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213995027170074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450297495525266,0.09881752515818244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135853355929906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04882517899737885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090041527710783,0.09263207557427328,0.10975801214900316,0.08099250414480702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910154677112946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582967480450596,0.0,0.10055555606882316,0.05306852641892849,0.0,0.0,0.7157242844221935,0.0,0.09874226000584473,0.0,0.0,0.09678154317668253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445658506881934,0.09789977557228446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309347598877155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160027732859993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061788017812032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132667633036033,0.10283649576696592,0.06543362111126602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270668885103043,0.0,0.0,0.061860761863051075,0.0,0.0953443614891324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358162473163767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663278573455268,0.0,0.0,0.0743389528065573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614620656347974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261338088730495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111994348715844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967462837127333,0.1708661645855556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951491389811239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308333342892874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371912390394088,0.0,0.0,0.06218343764773005
parenting,Badlay,2020/03/03,"Is there a real option to pulling your child out of school for a month to do the lessons at home? So I have a child with a poor immune system and respiratory issues. Im legit concerned for his life should he catch corona virus. 

Do I have any real options to keeping him home for a month and not falling behind?",3.1866666666666674,4.7170863968253975,4.308126984126982,86.61742857142859,73.92063492063492,5.674920634920635,23.711111111111112,5.6839178017228535,0.4366406349206353,245,7,49,1,5,80,46,63,0.052000000000000005,0.88,0.068,-0.2062,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,0,6,2,0,0,0,12,7,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,4,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,11,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,2,33,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597509782030015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4896416489184202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26363609801278176,0.2547443307130646,0.0,0.21693949097888976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239295360439866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896266445643842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5556072694122728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470105729827144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayagain123t,2020/03/03,"My 2 year old is pulling his hair out My son is 2 years old and has for awhile now, sucked his thumb, and while doing so, will play with the hair on top of his head at the same time. Within the past few days he has been pulling his hair out where he would twist it. I've looked online and found a slew of opinions that range from, ""dont worry about it"" to worse case scenarios. Hoping to find others who have experienced this and what they did to help stop it. Thanks in advance.",4.518181818181817,4.500013090909089,4.194494949494949,94.3784090909091,69.60606060606061,7.408080808080808,22.560606060606066,6.42735559955562,0.12107272727272765,372,6,89,2,6,112,76,99,0.076,0.7829999999999999,0.141,0.7171,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,2,4,4,1,0,4,0,11,4,4,0,0,14,16,6,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,8,7,0,1,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,6,7,3,15,11,2,21,0,0,1,0,10,8,1,2,10,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011548954073675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27280124654876986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21274486482539864,0.0,0.0,0.2552170536534314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23888614441274755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601884567055588,0.0,0.0,0.2311901992546249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954656963343868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4884997222216881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22220248533534265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946036746403809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430062444240672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572833747782415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363862358965249,0.2372095076279314,0.16535103239619425,0.0,0.0,0.2997886945256893
parenting,aftersledding5,2020/03/03,"SO doesn’t want me working because it revokes his “Man Card”. As a SAHM of two toddlers [2F and 1F], I’m going back to work. I’ve been staying at home for about three years. I quit working right before I had our first. 

SO isn’t thrilled about me going back to work. He said that he’s the man, and he’s supposed to provide fully for all of us. According to him, he’s supposed to be able to just give me money here and there. 

The thing is, we don’t have the money for that. I haven’t bought a new bra in years and my pants have holes in them. I want to work to supplement our income in order for *everyone* to live comfortably, including myself. 

I can “afford” to not work, but that doesn’t mean that I should stay at home forever. It’s not fair that one parent gets to work, and the other has to stay home 24/7. 

I also want to work for social interaction and a sense of purpose/accomplishment outside of motherhood. I love being a mom, but I want to do things on my own as well. 

Has anyone else gone through this? I feel like this isn’t normal behavior in this day and age. 

Edit: He knows for a fact that I’m going back to work. He’s just kind of apprehensive about it.",1.8296877439500392,3.437115770491808,3.401264637002342,91.37199453551916,77.77049180327869,6.450897736143638,21.45511319281811,7.2636822038024595,0.4952457455113191,904,24,203,11,21,299,129,244,0.011000000000000001,0.8809999999999999,0.109,0.9670000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,1,11,14,7,0,1,9,0,18,1,0,0,2,25,36,14,0,6,6,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,15,8,0,0,3,0,3,4,8,1,1,4,5,2,23,6,39,28,2,25,0,0,0,1,22,8,0,0,10,132,38,10,0.09768802521039516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812107846704161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683057385868285,0.1000929260647758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253481843945784,0.0,0.05954971346078815,0.0,0.08312531439101327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300069473201589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160581000967652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334509441688324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939400074311445,0.06978834472929668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309338434001133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103796124787966,0.093711255211118,0.16655506784547594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939671628422424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017270456182942,0.053686783893065984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04772543470504901,0.0,0.08626031598836692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816725674752804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641089768003717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441103446503835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434770348081452,0.0,0.0,0.09571352357453472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619593406852747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847099139778328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390323946795907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342503977137597,0.09292368230776656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958063955889863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31236731120681865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979916645788925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542700600532364,0.0,0.11750666631880664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304757131142009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783326652433929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6400624123073939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581577081555725
parenting,throwayyyyyy22134556,2020/03/03,"6 year oled daughter is driving me nuts My 6 year old daughter has always been difficult. I'm talking about tantrums, screaming, fighting. She only does it with me tho. They say that she's an angel in school. I've tried timeout, taking privileges away, bad attention, good attention, hugging it out.. I think I've tried everything. The last weeks have been very tough with her. She screams and cries if she doesn't get what she wants. Example today in the morning before school, I asked her to change her shoes because it was wet outside. It resulted with me dragging her to school. And now just few minutes a go we had war because she didn't get toast after dinner, because she didn't finish her dinner. It resulted with her hitting me, following me from room to room screaming. I've tried to put her to her room also but she doesn't stay there and if she does she hits and kicks the walls and floor until neighbours come to complain. I'm so incredibly tired of it all. Ive been thinking of course that maybe she has some underlying mental issues, which wouldn't be surprising because I have them too. But she is like angel in school and with other people. She has 2 sisters who barely get any attention because of her behaviour. People keep telling me that she'll grow out of this but like when? I'm out of energy. I've started to hate the time I'm with her. Even if I make everything perfect for her, she still finds reason to act out..

Long story short, I need advice and some encouragement please..",3.31633588761175,5.633008700000005,3.8168199233716464,86.82832056194124,75.79310344827586,6.6411238825031935,25.91315453384419,7.662118739084242,1.4746794380587485,1193,44,226,17,27,374,161,290,0.11699999999999999,0.804,0.078,-0.7734,0,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,1,0,2,1,11,19,4,0,6,0,20,5,1,4,2,44,42,18,1,6,7,3,1,2,1,2,1,4,3,0,14,19,2,1,7,0,0,7,5,11,0,0,7,5,42,8,33,30,4,38,2,0,0,1,41,15,0,5,17,140,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104621755976853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087665967006517,0.09455632735422707,0.0,0.0,0.07727807026245775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623664840120894,0.0,0.10676710242668906,0.0,0.0948833927526819,0.3463648447908377,0.0,0.09669798541076584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021445485577187,0.09788949719006276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482654558830104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988916173891652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505715112078283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042618953345184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386352143777973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811426284396426,0.0,0.06458337286141291,0.09531457415723817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219448256343144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186090597103971,0.0,0.10100711158923023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263053675601736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103605255850227,0.0,0.0,0.10056648795795016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585457472064369,0.0,0.114165137599812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452087020658885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426150068053206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924447956232045,0.0,0.0,0.08642719265160696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756524156567653,0.0,0.0,0.12474093739736195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423806995538145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168392945354462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036988863500507,0.0,0.4600328763823381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804339083581883,0.12112351062234547,0.0907518451799669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544200225258708,0.09133831398741499,0.09932504937814714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562991218008647,0.0,0.0,0.06626351757496894,0.13061072775091634,0.10771600144433344,0.0,0.0,0.23145922654746584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376365571765116,0.0670269258754896,0.0,0.09115394238430573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635892399201927
parenting,justcurious12345,2020/03/03,"Baby on the way, question about 4 year old sibling My eldest just turned 4 and her sibling is due June 4th.  She says she's really excited to help with all the baby stuff- wants to feed, bathe, potty train (lol), play with, and carry the baby.  How much will she likely be able to actually help?  There's a baby doll kit that has the toys to feed, bathe, etc the doll.  I'm trying to decide if she'd play with the doll a lot or actually help with the new baby.",2.8075037593984966,3.8054759157894793,4.483909774436093,87.08736842105263,74.05263157894737,7.112781954887217,19.887218045112785,7.447530270364453,0.3776165413533836,352,6,77,4,7,119,62,95,0.0,0.8320000000000001,0.168,0.937,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,9,1,5,2,0,1,1,15,8,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,6,2,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,4,11,5,4,7,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,4,6,43,8,0,0.22207372053128532,0.0,0.4334238334384462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476709009292863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465540012769924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849400247467944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879913576430093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324973672027188,0.0,0.0,0.2144801831180576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23302901287687425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487733909535547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422661118949476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660193595295434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542212793361835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077347893887744,0.24155243786387684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309848341010514,0.17627178267689092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300819504921838
parenting,Mavsnash33,2020/03/03,"Advice: Wide awake and ready to part at 1 AM Any advice out there for a 6 month old who recently started waking up at 1am? Not to eat or be rocked, just wide awake and ready to party. It takes about an hour and a half/ two hours to get him back to sleep.",0.5708928571428586,2.0319557321428583,2.053000000000001,100.29200000000004,80.96428571428572,5.194285714285715,14.77142857142857,5.6839178017228535,-1.1132528571428573,195,2,50,1,5,63,42,56,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.7717,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,2,0,0,7,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,11,4,1,13,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,1,7,30,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.474279310020357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502763736214704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660245251854485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24831758388753866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678791399168596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4779728980032497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19370124027707314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25464707728614955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627938791930033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396127443257206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428507215325441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176694261481554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824617477551806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370586664135162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jackwmc4,2020/03/03,"Is my child Houdini? Swaddle question We have tried everything it seems for our 3wk old. Zip up, traditional, velcro. Many brands and styles but our child always gets her hands up in her face and therefore we’re not sleeping. It always seems like they dont fit - either ride up to her face because they are too big or cant close them right because they are too small.

I’m throwing money at the problem and ordered a Snoo, but I’m concerned this may not fix it. 

I turn to the hive mind of reddit, how do you keep your little turds wrapped up and secure for sleeping?",3.548115079365078,5.2360533750000045,3.8026190476190496,89.9646031746032,73.28571428571429,6.04920634920635,25.83730158730159,6.42735559955562,0.8333896825396819,446,15,90,3,9,138,80,112,0.055,0.887,0.059000000000000004,0.1268,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,2,4,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,8,5,5,2,0,21,15,8,0,1,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,2,3,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,14,2,11,14,1,16,0,0,0,0,15,12,0,5,2,53,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34143142968729795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25013628904458085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404546682098569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18439123246992334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071915000510632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236221458401214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002344296586848,0.2056316371320033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800754425906667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071605902925024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21528867648781816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19631749612711608,0.0,0.0,0.2298344460313012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521184107417506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735533961309855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106311447203625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929519903757934,0.22316321906919426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aunt_juice,2020/03/03,"My 20 month old decided that he is going to start potty training on his own and I’m not prepared! Any tips? Title basically says it all! My 20 month old randomly began wanting to go on the potty and has been pretty successful!  I didn’t and haven’t been pushing it at all, but he’s a smart kid and a real go-getter. However, I am so unprepared!! I was planning on starting potty training this summer, but now that he has decided to move up the timeline I’m feeling a little lost. 

Any tips for potty training a very young kid? I’m trying to think of a reward system, but I’m not sure if he will 100% grasp it just yet. Also, he is speech delayed and doesn’t really communicate other than babbling and a handful of “words”, so I’m not sure how to get him to communicate that he needs to use the potty. 

Thanks!",1.950261044176706,3.8053229819277132,4.364554216867472,83.4818514056225,78.21686746987952,6.836305220883535,24.31967871485943,7.793537801064563,1.397575582329318,629,22,125,10,15,220,97,166,0.066,0.813,0.121,0.9032,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,4,8,7,0,0,9,0,12,1,1,2,4,31,30,14,0,3,8,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,8,6,0,1,5,0,0,4,6,1,0,0,6,4,7,6,16,23,3,23,0,1,0,0,11,6,0,2,12,75,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804808016556353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517889628160491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936070920321415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967225789324047,0.0,0.3156402666249787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554850192436054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209083557778446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955373728008878,0.19676347455460916,0.0,0.13727125813066485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3885247616634952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834336603793095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107180232691252,0.11859876702559302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722249437602689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620713779726475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34896492814245644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044246956201786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862357722663618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256908512092761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598925406932263,0.0,0.1527513144596324,0.10919423899704003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,COdetect4SCHOOLS,2020/03/03,"Carbon monoxide at School I am mum of two. I'm looking for some help.

My kids were recently exposed to carbon monoxide at school. Lots of kids were sick.

Did you know that your childs school probably does not have a Carbon Monoxide Detector/ Alarm?

Its not a legal requirement in the UK for all schools to have them😠 the law only applies to builds after 2013 or where new systems are installed! 

Angry... ME MUCHLY!

Can you please sign and share this petition - I want make sure all schools have CO detectors.

http://chng.it/jqdYDBxg

Thank you",3.1978021978021967,6.313692877551024,2.882653061224492,87.82223704866564,84.51020408163265,5.872527472527473,24.885400313971747,7.321109707123232,1.5149205651491369,434,17,75,7,13,129,74,98,0.08,0.787,0.133,0.672,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,4,0,1,1,4,0,1,4,0,9,1,0,1,3,15,15,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,1,8,3,11,12,5,8,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,3,3,46,11,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430399865739072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955999261252083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983022562791705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726047103063638,0.0,0.0,0.13896302705004696,0.0,0.0,0.10910703519877346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120157740595239,0.0,0.0,0.157865211446425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431438427409372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942377104433227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762314145846737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139143260370525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8271225470067278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405377258272968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048678722021613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596711305622086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964095993906136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Veripie,2020/03/03,"Single mom doing her best to please everyone! So, I'm 27f, been a single mom of a 6yr boy for about 5 years now (the dad is around but just a dead beat).
I do my best, in my opinion, I work long hours sometimes to make ends meat, I try to spend as much time with my kid as humanly possible. But I still get a lot of heat from my parents. They always criticize everything I do as a parent. My son is a straight A student, but is also on the spectrum. So if his grades are good, his behaviours can really be out of control some days. He works with a behavioral councilor at school as well as a speech specialist. But no matter how hard I try to make things work, my parents always have something negative to say about how I parent my child. Hes a good kid usually, I can't control his mood swings on a daily. I feel bad a lot of the times like I'm failing him. Yet he doesnt feel that way. I wanna tell myself his opinion is the only one that matters to me, but it's hard to keep head strong at times. 

I feel like there are days my kid is better off with his grandparents since everything I do seems to be so wrong in their eyes.  

I never shared this with anyone, not looking for pity, I just didnt know where else to express this constant guilt and sadness I feel.",3.390308407266581,4.039208311787071,4.555481622306719,88.42601499788763,72.34600760456273,7.821630756231518,26.017955217574983,7.984000788550335,1.3058485002112383,978,30,217,13,18,322,154,263,0.154,0.7,0.146,-0.7392,5,0,1,0,2,0,29.0,0,0,2,11,17,17,0,1,16,0,20,2,2,6,1,38,33,18,1,2,9,8,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,6,6,7,0,3,6,0,1,0,7,6,1,1,2,10,35,10,37,29,8,27,0,3,2,0,30,11,0,7,17,147,41,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816249256667781,0.16985996667645314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136935311404427,0.0,0.0,0.09086347650454832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522375171543119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142312425393744,0.09027215979426316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030084620519134,0.228959200209927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165274021724388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526595263053482,0.0,0.09040326277486474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753176149956724,0.1834669329150896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064375821817392,0.07291845635924755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332709013739044,0.0,0.0,0.17122207305574907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286840980961805,0.0,0.10475273273960142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051787671465452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907240429525018,0.0,0.0,0.05609471643954177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973198365042542,0.0,0.0,0.0903282771829319,0.08571265570136384,0.0,0.0,0.17355164241133178,0.0,0.0,0.13626433994244028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390850809262157,0.0,0.0,0.07503281150182542,0.0,0.07872227476909441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916492070787354,0.07762843838437784,0.0,0.0,0.4533443103236811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204163730962743,0.0,0.11506800161531765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538832203571733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116974665583035,0.0,0.1032997622142782,0.0,0.09292022043313032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443292797929645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857807177794457,0.1009493248722959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151281796482915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921322374496239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678104265944358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855260248714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385969527666678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241511110889077,0.0,0.0,0.08101800167279234,0.0,0.0,0.09177271988307466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22292338957204447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159695240714043,0.0,0.0657293981473958
parenting,robertgfthomas,2020/03/03,"TIFU by teaching my sons about consent. Not me but my wife, although I'm the one in trouble.

We have identical 2-year-old sons. A few days ago my wife gave them an early version of The Talk, and told them, ""Only you, the doctor, mommy, and daddy should touch your penis.""

Ever since then they've been running around saying, ""Daddy touch penis.""

This will take some explaining at daycare.",4.260416666666668,6.314633097222228,4.495555555555558,84.20500000000001,72.19444444444444,5.911111111111111,24.5,6.42735559955562,0.9284833333333328,301,9,52,2,6,94,61,72,0.05,0.93,0.02,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,2,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,1,10,9,5,0,1,2,4,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,3,9,0,6,4,3,9,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,5,35,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823782836687479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835799778619946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054405278803532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260528049947837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881497010697243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342681062083054,0.0,0.21585996307530225,0.2422741423216527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533263732053205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26351058498178576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395124402274029,0.2560410792423828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30439133335938506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513788365325966
parenting,mercury-atlas6,2020/03/03,Appropriate Punishment? My nine yr old stepson bought a $1000 iPhone on my amazon account over the weekend.  We discovered this today.  What do you think is an appropriate punishment?  (we are able to return it),3.5286486486486477,6.739701864864867,4.836540540540541,73.56724324324324,84.4054054054054,8.365405405405406,29.021621621621623,8.841846274778883,3.4836313513513524,167,8,26,5,5,55,33,37,0.16699999999999998,0.7909999999999999,0.042,-0.7236,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,5,0,3,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,18,8,0,0.5415182602932616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5682323210015462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34698303564691896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5132959926897971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DiabloDO,2020/03/03,"Prank Gone Wrong 17 year old son is on swim team basically forced to participate by water polo coach. He and many of his friends hate swim but participate to please wp coach. Swim coach is a complete dick to the kids, over works them and expects them to swim full sets all while they are doing water polo. My son spends approximately 4-5 hours in a pool 5-6 days a week. These kids are exhausted. 

Up coming swim event only competing against themselves was supposed to happen last Saturday but didn’t because someone “pooped” in the pool. My son didn’t poop in the pool, but he and his friends created fake poop from a candy bar so that they could get two days in a row of sleeping in. I didn’t know about this until after it happened....and I was pissed, until he told me why. And I suspected it was him because he and our exchange student used to watch YouTube videos on how to make fake poop...I mean it is kind of funny. 

Of course he’s in trouble with the school and they are accusing him of actually pooping in the pool. they have no proof (because he didn’t poop) and one of the swimmers told their mom that he heard the maintenance guy tell the coach that it was not poop but a peanut butter and chocolate bar. The coach still cancelled the  event, which is what the kids wanted. 

Now it’s Monday and he and his friends get called into the office individually to rat each other out, which they are not doing. This is infuriating the athletics director and vice principal of athletics. They’re intimidating and threatening these kids and treating them like garbage. I get a phone call and the vp is yelling at me and telling me that he knows my son is guilty because “more than one person has said that they asked him if he did it and he laughed, so basically admitting that he’s guilty.” I couldn’t believe he said that! I actually  laughed out loud. I said that’s your admission of guilt?? Then of course he back tracked and started yelling at me, changing his story and saying I put words in his mouth. To which I said, please call me if you need to as you further investigate. 

So I know my son did this, many of the kids know he did this (and some of the parents do too), I know why he did this but I absolutely do not agree with the tactics that these grown ass men are using to intimidate my son and his friends. I know what he did was wrong but they way these men are treating this kids is unacceptable. They know that the poop was fake but they are acting like it’s real. My dilemma is where do I draw the line? When do I stop defending my son and “turn him in”? I don’t want him to think it’s ok to do this, I mean it’s funny but now it’s out of hand. I feel like my son should just admit to doing this and end it all. But at the same time, I’m so mad at the way these educators are treating our kids. They’re good kids that are over worked, under appreciated and treated like garbage. I don’t know what to do. I’m seriously so torn over this and I honestly wish I didn’t know the actual truth about this situation so I could have a leg to stand on. Side note: one of the dads has hired legal representation because of they way these men continue to badger his son about other issues. 
These kids aren’t super stars academically, socially or even athletically, but they try their best. And I’m honestly undecided about what to do here. Please help!",3.470650239369192,5.053405482089556,4.310337932976627,86.6755097155731,73.28358208955223,7.564066460152071,25.32807659814137,8.214576434517982,1.3493170937764014,2643,85,563,42,53,850,273,670,0.138,0.722,0.141,0.5432,2,0,0,0,2,0,66.0,2,3,16,6,21,34,3,1,31,1,55,19,14,4,4,89,97,51,0,11,17,12,2,4,4,1,1,9,0,14,48,33,4,1,17,18,2,10,13,12,0,4,24,13,68,22,71,69,8,70,0,0,1,2,100,29,3,4,30,346,116,10,0.0,0.0,0.2212727583714604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065940494387926,0.0,0.0,0.05811825266790025,0.0,0.2303718556140104,0.0,0.0,0.08515555919594099,0.07931913737564293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23153445217318294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995622954597104,0.06510760388057069,0.07924677995846892,0.0,0.0,0.12069290141523105,0.0,0.0,0.09748887849774866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694363281702863,0.0,0.0,0.0499215074533261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03821676695349284,0.05399613043009773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335793099622758,0.0,0.11846616035026385,0.0,0.0,0.06339498839416567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748385266403767,0.06683732707117411,0.0,0.0,0.0746220395242466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066133526749838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443350631150109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888845992617301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870750975367448,0.3738433311516812,0.06160979949305177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770310470396564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050451884473896084,0.15325751936500231,0.0,0.16466293139928945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852127333840085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05604344251599075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931108610369388,0.0,0.15364990975660214,0.0574838729914513,0.0,0.0,0.08392538642542098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599569593666932,0.0,0.2489005594948435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598125662342195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602939599289895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28758494212164953,0.0601062124219031,0.0,0.07649349303885625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495786111033889,0.07563705301894466,0.07704680807076979,0.06404078008595003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349766005829139,0.0,0.06036025678971387,0.06319032782783941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321248173902564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04843019377744793,0.0,0.0,0.04407274506301452,0.0,0.0,0.14444457488409068,0.0,0.05131553458793153,0.08221202141941664,0.07383308893202778,0.0,0.0,0.13055797018406973,0.0,0.0,0.08916099611300808,0.17998153570163344,0.06062769697740579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640284301523867,0.0,0.08691610839537868,0.0,0.0,0.1100498741585064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652751278247038,0.0,0.04867263149363836
parenting,BabyShines,2020/03/03,"Product Review:) Hey, I wanna recommend this toy I bought from [babyshines.com/sprinkler](https://babyshines.com/sprinkler) at first I thought it will be like another toy but when I gave my son playing with that he really really couldn't stop smiling and playing at the bathtub! I really recommend this for any kid:) (i also like it haha)",6.703333333333332,10.370747727272732,5.363181818181818,72.93810606060606,71.72727272727272,8.757575757575756,27.34848484848485,9.2995712137729,3.159848484848485,275,10,39,7,6,81,41,55,0.057999999999999996,0.6559999999999999,0.28600000000000003,0.9046,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,6,4,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,7,5,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,27,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680210352150699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791493950552225,0.3514362280579881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850802283756144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32747680054450384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6441211046684838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802021856465904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266073352319955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ghanimaofarrakis,2020/03/03,"Should she attend too? Today we have our first IPRC meeting at my daughter's school. In Ontario it's the first step to getting an IEP written. She was diagnosed with ADHD last summer. And we need more testing but we think she also has SPD and dyslexia. We're being open and honest with her about her diagnosis and the process we're going through to get her accommodations. When we talked about the meeting she said ""if the meeting is about me, shouldn't I be there?"" I want to encourage her interest in self advocating, but I don't know if she should come. She's 7 years old. This morning when I left for work she was very emotional and I think this meeting is giving her anxiety. 

Has anyone attended an IPRC? Is this something she would benefit from going to? Any thoughts would be very appreciated!",3.674677871148462,6.010457555555559,4.405476190476191,82.94250000000002,74.75163398692808,7.247245564892625,27.922035480859012,8.192908349453996,2.0041525676937453,638,26,119,11,14,204,93,153,0.021,0.804,0.175,0.9819,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,3,8,4,0,0,6,0,17,1,0,0,0,28,31,12,0,9,4,1,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,4,13,0,0,4,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,5,1,25,4,15,18,1,20,0,0,0,0,28,5,0,2,9,84,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21899794421330626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457245386316523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391862967043615,0.0,0.1394009297883962,0.0,0.0,0.12741532038192788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696991798219873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849536151751753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497757412816334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099994350794646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190409131606784,0.1748059512004115,0.20712429897124587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001455940823308,0.14853695416381338,0.0,0.0,0.19798700655029508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351168534985875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19121352866268015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333683812322712,0.0,0.0,0.1844205071731156,0.0,0.0,0.1900994670686714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028500685136136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646482070900152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335236774817509,0.0,0.14466557252825066,0.0,0.0,0.17272713005419188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007079159704771,0.1074804893199776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266130752023478,0.0,0.0,0.2588935299999622,0.0,0.0,0.11734633926244298
parenting,kit_glider,2020/03/03,"How often baby gets hurt at daycare? My LO is 8 months old and just started to pull himself up on furniture to stand. Twice this week he’s had “incident reports” where he fell and hit his face on furniture. First time it left a mark on his upper lip, second time he hit his mouth and bled some.

I thought this was probably normal seeing as he’s trying to climb everything in sight and he’s bound to get a few knocks here and there but husband seems more concerned they aren’t watching him closely enough at daycare. Is this normal for this stage? Looking to hear from others what this stage was like or how often injuries occurred while in daycare.",4.1959523809523835,5.977054468253968,4.214476190476192,87.28885714285717,71.77777777777777,6.627301587301588,27.679365079365077,7.1686216300943375,1.4120374603174604,517,19,98,5,10,159,90,126,0.018000000000000002,0.9520000000000001,0.03,0.3421,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,2,8,2,0,0,2,0,6,3,3,2,0,19,16,11,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,3,4,5,8,1,16,10,4,26,0,1,4,0,13,12,0,5,9,63,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23086426039920915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20080564598321166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190050550091144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334672654804687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25182331418995546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23918782833376334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427587617773378,0.0,0.0,0.1091572474881856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762601983448074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834073242434195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4378304711255556,0.0,0.0,0.2344535647163081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24089673188533925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780458187746554,0.2034034645100072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158145824509942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17737949510260645,0.2605691762522861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516951866443197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792231121171205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shazi11A,2020/03/03,"My 2.5 yr old scribbles just the eyes in her coloring book, HELP!!!! My husband and I have noticed that our 2yr old seems to draw only on the eyes. She scribbles here & there but mostly on the eyes. From what I’ve read online, it seems like other kids her age do this and eventually grow out of it. Can’t seem to find out why toddlers do this, are there any true answers as to why?! I just wanna make sure I’m not raising the spawn of Satan or something. I think hearing other parents stories might put my mind @ ease. Help me parents of Reddit!!!",3.5999090909090903,4.711546763636363,4.254318181818181,89.05147727272724,72.27272727272727,6.227272727272728,26.47727272727273,5.985473137389443,0.8105454545454545,424,14,88,2,8,135,79,110,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.9576,2,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,6,3,3,1,2,22,13,5,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,4,0,0,6,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,11,3,14,12,1,10,1,0,4,0,11,5,0,6,4,54,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18528124674601365,0.0,0.11628763261322135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15629327934628265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273235942439745,0.0,0.2292388777485695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354323317658108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414556402855265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140673635055005,0.17266387965430158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946875946430912,0.3588769280444733,0.0,0.0,0.13005518373748445,0.0,0.0,0.3797563032477202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190484524648608,0.0,0.0,0.1710488767385316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670230366423402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164615668572324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116792771562485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957156194233224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086064993098202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kaiisho,2020/03/03,"My child is hell on earth, help! I’ve been a dad for 3 years, and I’ve got to say I enjoy it thoroughly; but for the past 1 1/2 year his behavior has been out of control, he doesn’t listen, talks back, cusses at and hits me and his mother. I don’t know how to reinforce what I say because his mother always gives him what he asks for when I say no. I don’t like popping him on his butt, but it works certain times. I’ve tried putting him in timeout, taking toys away, and almost everything else under the rainbow.. And now on top of that his mother told me if I lay a finger on him again I’m getting kicked out... I have nowhere to go, nobody to help me, so I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. He’s about to be school age and I can’t have him put in a program acting the way he is.. I’m a fairly young father, only 20, and didn’t really have either of my parents in my life so it’s really hard, on top of the depression and anxiety I feel everyday my situation hasn’t been getting any better. Please give me advice as per I really need it, thanks for reading my post.",4.357602397602399,3.635394437229437,5.898441558441558,84.4226073926074,69.99567099567099,9.012454212454212,27.29304029304029,8.384062270229773,1.5772275058275065,829,22,189,11,13,285,132,231,0.08199999999999999,0.7909999999999999,0.127,0.8839,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,5,8,7,1,0,10,0,16,3,2,2,1,22,35,17,0,2,4,6,4,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,7,11,0,1,2,3,0,4,7,2,0,0,7,8,29,5,29,26,1,33,1,1,0,1,32,16,2,2,12,112,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481814495188468,0.0,0.0,0.13815237069594194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147982248067002,0.0,0.0,0.09382117020454483,0.0,0.10554311643965174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897897990670154,0.0,0.12962298948459644,0.10608683938138712,0.0,0.08410239786170982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201914196283388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473987338833686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882935527565595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525234803657243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399436207061207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697594272256977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441624039298238,0.26469787382185544,0.0784088887964617,0.0,0.1103434951469188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471797119724557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18495053414908108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582214920082522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744900804151993,0.06740290195233395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022995601493316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104928866941527,0.0,0.0,0.15319419598882708,0.0,0.1317035393237138,0.0,0.0,0.1441444281213671,0.1514445259733399,0.0,0.0,0.13213266980410918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773865695331525,0.0,0.0,0.13800268710567426,0.0,0.26515241135378503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32914675563953144,0.0,0.13962830156138592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550788358573056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373277449516537,0.11089132367960447,0.0,0.12701995963614773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044870607713965,0.0,0.0,0.13183180594574906,0.0,0.09366941753578688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951047443849686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044041921311546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769032627462197
parenting,begintobeginagain,2020/03/03,"9-to-5ers, what are some of your best work survival tips after a night from hell? We've all been there, the kids are sick and none of them will stay asleep at the same time. You're exhausted, can barely keep your eyes open, but taking another sick day just isn't in the cards.

Let build the biggest ""surviving work"" thread of all time.

Coffee, cold showers, energy drinks, naps at lunch...?",5.484246575342464,6.658624821917813,4.4903013698630145,88.87353424657536,67.9041095890411,8.031780821917808,24.189041095890413,8.238735603445708,1.137626849315069,304,7,61,4,5,89,61,73,0.141,0.76,0.099,-0.5362,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,1,5,2,3,1,0,5,0,7,7,2,0,2,9,9,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,3,1,8,6,6,11,1,0,1,0,4,5,1,1,5,34,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095585329828644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098097942853121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19038916957364665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28919818455378044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26240054205614266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018772074856095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770391584597852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146597733860476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219648433925866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34428433120490337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298398848276053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PagingDrLumps,2020/03/03,"Bed transitions in the first 6 years? Struggling to find any info on this.
#2 is due when #1 is 18mo (July), and we are looking at furniture.
We were planning to get another convertible crib and also a twin bed for #2s room bc we would sleep in there with #1 for the first few months and had to sleep on the floor all uncomfortable, plus we figure we would use it eventually.  Would the timing and logistics work out? Or are we better off just putting down a blowup mattress or something temporarily?",5.872035087719297,6.530754536842108,6.235526315789473,78.55785087719302,66.78947368421052,9.701754385964913,30.570175438596486,9.725611199111238,2.731596491228069,391,14,75,8,6,126,69,95,0.061,0.91,0.03,-0.466,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,6,0,0,5,4,2,0,1,6,0,9,2,2,1,1,24,12,9,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,2,13,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,6,1,15,7,2,18,0,0,1,0,6,10,0,2,7,52,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205757612802014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631124763478864,0.22560641747656254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028512282448384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966457153199216,0.3660176378094425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240843156729843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806741220650756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173287205919327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162879389430362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306162606989513,0.0,0.0,0.1656350980596291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22492436855927891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545729850831172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858228959258496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663376417063962,0.0,0.0,0.4585150208601689,0.0,0.0,0.13855131668680262
parenting,pokemomma92,2020/03/03,"Kids are unintentionally hilarious. When my daughter was 5 she ran up to me in the middle of a restaurant and shouted in the loudest sweetest voice she could manage.  Mummy you dont count as an adult because you're just a big kid. She meant my height, being 4 ft 10 sucks, especially when you have small humans who point it out all the time.",5.925597014925373,6.127713164179107,6.617126865671643,77.45464552238808,66.61194029850746,8.491044776119404,30.182835820895523,8.07648339933343,1.9475402985074632,270,9,53,3,4,89,57,67,0.039,0.919,0.042,0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,9,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,8,0,7,4,1,13,0,0,0,0,11,9,1,0,3,34,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205580438216502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41985467666729176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6163014440131719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4971056084241198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066319213689361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burnthrowaway7378,2020/03/03,"Do you want your child to be loyal, unquestioningly obedient, grateful that you feed and house them, eager to please, and always in a good mood? Then you don't want a child. Get a fucking dog. 

You'll be a shit dog owner too, but it's better than fucking up a human child.",3.5142727272727257,4.604640381818179,4.790681818181817,85.20602272727272,72.45454545454545,6.954545454545455,22.84090909090909,7.1686216300943375,0.6907272727272722,211,5,44,2,4,70,39,55,0.040999999999999995,0.68,0.278,0.85,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,1,1,1,8,3,0,5,0,5,4,1,0,0,5,10,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,4,5,7,0,3,0,0,0,2,11,2,3,0,1,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525946359793631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684830780137409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5612913188753585,0.15860284426819118,0.0,0.0,0.2546201913340205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350279129374002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332288018714231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116103381810468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581070123188995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SilentAlfy,2020/03/03,"Kids always tell the truth... except when they don't! Ok so this happened to me this morning. I'm a father of two kids from Barcelona, 5 and 2 years old (the story is about the 5yo). 

I woke up at 7:15AM and started making a sandwich for her school breakfast and getting her dressed up with the tracksuit as she has Gym class today. Suddenly, at 7:35, the Whatsapp group from the class (moms and dads) starts roaring: one mother alerts everyone that her kid is saying that today they have a field trip and they don't have to wear the tracksuit nor bring breakfast cause they'll be eating outside. 

Alarms sound off and everybody goes crazy, obviously. ""Why didn't they warn us?"", ""I haven't received any message about this!"", ""What do we do?""... 

The school has an app for messaging with teachers, and where they tell us when they have a field trip, a party, an special class for which they have to bring something, etc. Nobody has received any message in the App about that field trip, so the story is quickly dismissed. 

7:50... a second mother says that her daughter also says that it's true: they have a field trip, and the school didn't warn us through the App cause they want to encourage kids to be more responsible and be the ones who tell the parents about this things. 

So all hell breaks loose. Moms go crazy, some have already sent their kids in the bus ready for the Gym class, others are still in process of getting ready and don't know what to do. 

We ask our daughter and she says she doesn't remember right, but hints that maybe it's true they have a field trip. But she ain't 100% sure. 

I'm looking at all this and decide with my wife that the best attitude is ""Fuck it, she goes with the tracksuit anyway, it's too late to change her now and we need to leave home asap"". 

So I'm dropping her in the school, and when I arrive there (8:30, class starts at 9:00) I look for the teacher and tell her what's been going on for the last hour. The teacher goes all ROFL. 

In short: there was no field trip, and if there was one we would be notified through the App. 

So I send this message to the group, ""IT'S ALL FAKE NEWS!"" and we all had a good laugh about it. 

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Moral of the story: when it comes to trusting what your kid says... half of the time is pure made up. And for the other half, just believe half of it. And this is true 50% of times. 

Señor, llévame pronto! xD",3.703392097264437,4.9898584212765975,3.505866261398179,93.845,72.23404255319149,6.222492401215807,24.06686930091185,6.1826913282559595,0.3787677811550148,1838,50,400,10,35,552,213,470,0.055999999999999994,0.833,0.111,0.9824,1,0,1,0,0,0,101.0,9,1,12,1,25,16,2,1,38,2,38,6,1,4,12,58,63,34,0,4,5,10,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,6,31,29,4,0,3,2,0,15,10,4,0,8,9,8,41,12,52,48,9,54,2,0,2,1,72,17,2,2,20,260,72,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108381766549533,0.07325316802093683,0.07621924661700027,0.0,0.0,0.12458344058467348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563443114622311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320279199173488,0.09612944255003504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188198614651631,0.09690155527355844,0.07890602285760209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373053948077306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215916325234786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752853928066237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468351137281772,0.09571532866931176,0.0,0.10411774994265692,0.0768304484444438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100233065393013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188312294573113,0.0,0.09020838735150352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503414325325995,0.07466691994944928,0.10332975058526972,0.09699207584589699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384329035090802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667494070740102,0.061144279811137923,0.0,0.09202536753765787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21456362087096592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792087087550046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611968495168127,0.0,0.18621332330955195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171190559807328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376590847271526,0.07822662686491412,0.0,0.3642233693583902,0.0,0.3708198090811946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705188108618857,0.0,0.0,0.19450666292977234,0.0,0.07315255850417188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633271868857201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202527274748385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085553563836621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068263865375416,0.0,0.1736537936361756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948072199991527,0.0,0.3305536382884118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054028555636948125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265552107051362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507061690055475,0.0,0.0,0.058987945251703026
parenting,Terranical01,2020/03/03,"Is becoming a childcare worker worth it? I absolutely adore children. I have done work experience for childcare and it was an amazing experience, but this was back a year ago. Currently in school, doing year 11 stuff. Is it a worthy opportunity for a career or should I move to do something in IT or Nursing (other pathways I am interested in). I am shy, but sometimes my confidence can overwhelm me. Also I think this is the wrong subreddit but I came here because it's 'parenting children', that's what Childcare workers do, yeah?",3.470018744142453,6.424320144329897,5.123317713214622,74.03712277413311,79.51546391752578,7.650984067478912,32.52952202436739,8.575989854853784,3.377235051546392,422,23,68,10,11,142,66,97,0.08199999999999999,0.684,0.23399999999999999,0.946,2,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,4,3,6,0,1,6,1,14,0,0,0,0,9,16,7,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,11,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,4,0,9,4,6,11,0,10,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,2,5,55,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894336356164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947632819623968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257256511075614,0.0,0.1368102454139761,0.2478649409840115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566877568536272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22966947551863198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390705692112412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385332244545359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24920259210314616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271348105289505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17277692670764702,0.221966684979698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569182809446046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380547221099252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338747469036316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453786155676221,0.0,0.28905070204173483
parenting,ccfc1984,2020/03/03,"I feel like I give everything and can’t log on living like this I live in the UK am married and have two children (one and four). My youngest doesn’t sleep through the night and needs constant attention. My eldest is regularly difficult (refusing to eat, not listening, tantrums etc.) and, because childcare basically costs us a salary each month, I have no money for myself.

I genuinely feel like I can’t carry on like this. Life is so hard and unrewarding. It’s just sacrifice after sacrifice - it’s no way to live. 

Basically, at this moment in time, I really don’t like being a dad.",4.29801801801802,6.220149072072076,5.591171171171169,76.94369369369369,71.7927927927928,9.618018018018018,30.35135135135136,9.994966539143718,3.2862324324324335,461,20,85,13,9,154,75,111,0.08,0.7859999999999999,0.134,0.7044,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,4,0,10,3,1,0,0,14,15,7,0,1,2,1,3,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,7,1,1,3,0,2,0,7,2,0,3,0,4,11,5,10,14,2,12,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,11,56,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089332667303363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19658483463250248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861438409785672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028826372310525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634929282434998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839627679720412,0.2599193601538365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17450886382365802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295956621700194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849151697767838,0.44437092252714666,0.0,0.4819012306137706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520233445818476,0.0,0.0,0.1348872188020258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071433641053027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232699019773026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116539019568132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204577131741626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607574659291337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777039306384907,0.0,0.21882061855647625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443951792670117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eliserbam9526,2020/03/03,"Walking help I'm getting a little worried about my son. He's 11.5 months and not as of yet walking. He's been crawling for 4 months and cruising/pulling to stand for 3.5 months. He's taken one step unaided and without holding onto furniture but this was three weeks ago and he hasn't done any since. I've been researching on what can delay walking and what I can do to encourage him and one of the things I've noticed is that there's a consensus that babies should be put down and being held too much can delay walking. He has so much floor time but he cannot fall asleep without being held and breastfed, which has led to us bedsharing. My concern is that perhaps he likes his cuddles a bit too much and it could be impeding his development. Any advice?",3.8169999999999997,5.547612633333337,4.389000000000003,85.85950000000003,72.66666666666666,7.133333333333333,29.16666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.8580666666666668,605,25,117,8,12,192,94,150,0.05,0.8809999999999999,0.068,0.5642,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,4,0,20,2,1,1,0,22,25,13,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,5,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,3,7,0,7,2,14,12,4,23,0,0,0,1,14,5,0,0,10,77,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741711954366903,0.1579964024229268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24241463013197065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458871014924392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230779177806513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823983983615582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312150912047323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946854646641368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707762603564823,0.17864036200187275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4268013703804117,0.0,0.39307424927558055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292407793553327,0.0,0.0,0.2415560938322832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791774780424184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743954062814102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841278498992072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393146496557297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21439724142150676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297102110025992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436283372693965,0.0,0.0,0.18100838963298552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megalexandria123,2020/03/03,"TV Viewing regularly at school? My daughter has just started Kindergarten. She goes to school three days a week. I really like her teacher although my daughter has mentioned on a few occasions they have been watching tv. For example today she told me they watched two episodes of Bluey and then did some yoga, instructed by YouTube (I know this as we do it at home sometimes and she says they do the same one at school)
I think if anything Bluey is a good pick but is it normal to be doing this at school?",4.969808541973492,6.371456731958768,4.7771723122238585,85.4937113402062,69.30927835051546,7.604712812960236,32.413843888070694,7.957251820313856,2.250367893961709,401,18,77,5,7,123,72,97,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.495,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,1,0,12,15,7,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,14,2,11,11,3,10,0,0,3,0,13,5,0,2,6,57,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694524156398848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299778510737988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996579875663458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130640848590375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048140109640721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931755242855252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18686383466987624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923592840009468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217928421406138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166716681961812,0.0,0.7720700341525314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886256730682376,0.0,0.13499167898929804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220484343934407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807790294639332,0.1822398929528204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630445946683727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152983038871547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jasonmc89,2020/03/03,"Sick with worry after possible seizure. Hi everybody..

2 weeks ago we took our 4 years old daughter to the doctors because she was suffering with a virus. While the nurse was checking her ears and throat my daughter had what we think is a seizure.

She just completely flopped, eyes rolled back and her breathing stopped briefly and her lips turned very blue. There was no twitching or jerking. Just limp. Her eyes opened slightly and her breathing seemed normal again after about 10 seconds but she seemed very dazed and sedated for about half an hour after. 

We had a blood test and ECG done and everything came back fine. No heart problems and no serious infection found. We have an EEG this Friday.

Since then she has been very clingy and I think she’s suffering with a bit of anxiety from the whole ordeal but other than that she’s been fine! Eating, drinking, paying and sleeping normally.

I however am not coping. I’m a nervous wreck and can’t stop thinking the worst. I am absolutely terrified.

Has anyone on here experienced anything like this with their children? Is it likely my daughter has epilepsy? 

Thanks in advance for any advice.

Jason.",4.220541958041956,7.1898794807692346,3.754965034965036,84.98094405594408,76.30769230769229,6.666433566433567,29.166083916083913,7.84624498591911,2.1895980769230774,924,41,157,15,22,276,141,208,0.20199999999999999,0.7390000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.9857,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,5,0,1,1,9,13,1,1,11,0,17,16,10,0,0,38,28,16,0,3,6,3,1,2,0,0,4,1,0,1,6,21,2,2,6,1,2,3,5,8,0,2,11,6,22,5,17,17,3,21,0,2,3,0,22,3,0,3,17,104,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672876285973135,0.12403114410170896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515078654062416,0.0,0.10703885403781786,0.0,0.0,0.0978357167433918,0.0,0.11514270814528252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21518056504178767,0.0,0.08529428154698658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275702471048366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003185826096825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670405687044932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432146336313687,0.0,0.14318732378820614,0.0,0.13706889152128954,0.0,0.14317367561238728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575158732192146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341568435009367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580655063959346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779357784268478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671624691746748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27418490377778737,0.0,0.0,0.1468231023684638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773942064845525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338850900141189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547568660599314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574374244919575,0.0,0.14002162022759404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395972561095826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882006309864086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26896635696354176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554569030202327,0.0,0.15219340233217615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34634737488235456,0.0,0.0,0.11223584238954544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562163209650278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209613202515106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901042604181428
parenting,mdoney10,2020/03/03,"Children So im a 19 year old college kid and from my current viewpoint, i see no reason to ever have a child. I was wondering why some of you folks decided to have children, because i cant think of a reason to have a child other than appeasing my significant other.",5.886666666666668,5.421545444444448,7.6003703703703716,72.63166666666667,66.77777777777779,10.162962962962963,36.518518518518526,9.725611199111238,3.608118518518518,210,10,39,4,3,74,38,54,0.046,0.875,0.079,0.1531,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,1,8,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,7,7,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,4,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826666598687694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710547368012642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323678383675561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31443709021036026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6161896622938647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387859158693765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200656500649502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703916637710413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32496262595751874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19296773467118092
parenting,throwaway181075,2020/03/03,"My 4yo is damaging my mental health and I'm at a total loss on what to do. This may get long winded. I am sorry. I am at a complete loss at what to do anymore. I need help. Throwaway because i am ashamed i feel the way i do.

I (24/F) have a daughter (4) I really just never want to be around her anymore. I love her, more than anything or anyone but her general behaviour i cannot stand and I'm not proud of it but i have practically given up even trying to parent beyond keeping her alive/healthy/generally ""happy"". I'm in NO way neglectful, just not very engaging anymore, playful or put in effort to do ""more""

For some context she is a very bright girl. So intelligent it can be taxing. But she NEVER listens. Not in a normal 4yo way but i mean she NEVER listens. Within the span of writing this i have asked her to stop spilling her paint water several times (she did not i took it away) then to stop throwing a toy at me. I ask nicely at least 4-5 times before i start using a stern voice but most of the time i end up having to growl for her to listen (or take something off her, also an argument in itself) and even then it is short lived as she will find something more irritating to do.
If you ask her to NOT do something, she will do it. Whether it's for her own safety or not. Just earlier i asked her not to put stickers in her mouth (she already would know this) but as soon as i asked her to please not do it, its almost like a game, she does it more. I had to remove the stickers. 

She has just started school. I wanted to walk to school but after the first week i gave that up because she kept running off too far and wouldn't stop, even when i called after her several times. The last time we walked she almost ran out into the road toward traffic which is why i gave up. All the other parents were looking as i had to crazily scream after her to stop and to physically stop her from going into the road (shes not stupid, she does this to get a reaction, but i genuinely don't think she would stop if i didn't react)
Even walking out to the car she runs straight towards the road purely because she gets me riled up and i yell and run after her because i obviously don't want her to get hit by a car. Yes i have explained several times what being hit by a car will mean for her. 

She will ask and beg and carry on for something (this morning it was for a bath) i will oblige, a bath, for example, isn't a bad thing so i run her the bath. She gets in for no joke 3 odd minutes before she's calling to get out. I told her that's a waste of water and to stay in there longer. So she flooded the bath room. I wouldn't mind this occasionally but it's every single day she will do this in one way or another.

She is an absolute pig. She squishes food, spills her drinks (all deliberately, as in she will ask for a cup of water, look at me, then tip the cup over or wipe food on the carpets after being told not to 1000 times) she will kick over things that will spill. She LOVES making a mess. She will make a mess while i clean, it's beyond frustrating.

You may think she is bored, right? So did i. Shes been somewhat this way since she could walk. Obviously younger it  was fine but now i KNOW she understands and CAN behave better (I've seen it) but refuses to i can't stand her. I used to constantly try and do nice things. Go on outings, paint together, walk to school or to the park or to a play centre, try read to her or go out to lunch or literally try anything, but without a doubt every single time she will ruin it with her behaviour, lack of listening or disobedience.
She will chuck tantrums, run away from me, throw food/make a mess in public. It's embarrassing and completely hair-ripping-out stressful and i can no longer hack it so i no longer go anywhere with her. 

She also enjoys breaking everything. I have gone through 2 TVs (yes TV's) because she kept throwing toys at them. Nothing i did made her stop. She'll just break things for the sake of it. I'll buy her a new book and within 5 minutes she will rip the pages. This is with everything. Everything she can she will try to break. Whether its her toys or my reading glasses, if she can she will try break it. Nothing can be left down for her.

She also clings off me and refuses to play on her own so all day every day she HANGS off me and no matter what i do she won't leave me be. Constantly hitting my face or something and it's gotten to a point where i dont want to be around her so the hanging off me is driving me crazy. I sometimes go and lock myself in my room for 5 minutes and she just screams and hits the door while waiting for me to get out. 

I tried. I tried so very very hard to have fun and be playful and have that family life with her. I would try and do fun family activities but eventually it became harder than it was worth. I got no joy from it because she would never behave and she clearly didn't enjoy it because instead of engaging in the activity she would just misbehave. 

If she doesn't get her own way she will purposely go and do something naughty and tell me ""this is what i get"" for saying no. Last time she did this she threw her paints all over the carpet in her toy room because i told her she couldn't watch tv. 

These are just a few examples but this behaviour is an ongoing issue. In every way, all day. Most days i end the day crying when she's finally asleep from all the pent up emotion and frustration i carry during the day.

Help. Please. I'm so achingly depressed living this way.",2.6656612824278056,4.061809248458154,4.008157121879592,88.7878499755262,75.01762114537445,6.9475281448849735,24.417278511992173,7.554174236665415,1.0089522271169842,4287,134,929,54,90,1412,406,1135,0.128,0.778,0.094,-0.9864,2,0,7,0,0,0,125.0,1,2,1,6,36,43,4,4,52,2,101,14,3,6,15,168,178,85,0,20,52,3,2,1,0,27,2,9,11,1,55,42,7,14,10,20,3,32,35,21,0,2,29,16,166,22,142,108,24,173,0,6,5,2,129,72,0,26,55,657,221,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609849373671681,0.0,0.0474416049248164,0.10313959059918093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04507978096387765,0.0,0.0,0.12790647199073052,0.030060286125348282,0.0,0.07075581121714318,0.07654215662305319,0.2813352780848813,0.0,0.08078286381951938,0.0,0.03589566458796127,0.20965517244654813,0.0,0.07316429882906593,0.0,0.0,0.038022019734892616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779717500702221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015042914934107,0.09291593245907168,0.0,0.03432479169363214,0.0,0.047223562333935015,0.19407933568171906,0.0,0.03702805984942712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524337589579715,0.0,0.050385097182090825,0.04211478420320963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04835905532476555,0.0761544788372956,0.0,0.0,0.11358052208702832,0.0,0.14488698714275608,0.0,0.11591253648792844,0.0,0.08105612167526767,0.0,0.021737526391377045,0.0,0.0,0.047094506741016486,0.03929296814009305,0.036568097498998885,0.15595455633175198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214906903816,0.0,0.14659655538889818,0.0,0.03438380636516103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045764687453086886,0.0385114652320061,0.0,0.0,0.0456973912351613,0.0,0.0,0.057631882557715786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487140374032994,0.0,0.03821234984773774,0.0,0.0,0.047253426091684265,0.07008675768295257,0.0,0.045521230295693216,0.04670981517892271,0.0,0.03036579381970215,0.021003216601877782,0.0,0.07592362906894265,0.038045655997327205,0.07220317524328075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760205861323648,0.04067909571371507,0.057393613205461824,0.0,0.0,0.09365954010001426,0.0,0.0,0.04332478662490668,0.0,0.04340862480190002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0318772598487332,0.13262914686733196,0.041520947149961664,0.0,0.0,0.04212202318928724,0.08250199123069303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029131794188934163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547277008278532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943823512060706,0.04064036298067858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643559896689132,0.0,0.0,0.08600520882532345,0.0,0.02754111651410336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03671405386178931,0.0,0.034188145229470265,0.0,0.13052747180766816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457026791305834,0.0,0.03556257500895192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198579296386394,0.042519169046872037,0.04812487169115137,0.06085846030927754,0.04582265436427689,0.0,0.2515966341046857,0.049246011393998534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032323859482733426,0.0,0.03757600307309717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424516192284465,0.05509375592435151,0.0,0.0,0.2256154253190001,0.0,0.0,0.12323914379473128,0.04776455000790243,0.2626924223797405,0.0,0.0,0.04475511639177476,0.0,0.07426079045185824,0.0,0.14188821198477858,0.10142875290557994,0.2729938501974549,0.03448476331602192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03879266400937164,0.0,0.0,0.041441761373108586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269775966642965,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goodluck_canuck,2020/03/03,"I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally kill my newborn. I have a 5 week old boy who was 4 weeks premature. So his risk of SIDS is a bit higher than a full termed because of that. And so I had goals of making sure I never ever bedshared with him due to that. 


Well, I’ve failed miserably at that. I’m so freaking exhausted that I can’t stop falling asleep during the night. I’ve already nearly smothered him while side-laying feeding and then tonight I have absolutely no recollection of even taking him out of his cot and just woke up to him lying face down across my belly (apparently I had been breast feeding and he unlatched and slide down my recliner body). I’m terrified at how little control I have over myself!!! I am FULLY and TERRIFINGLY aware of the risks and yet I seem absolutely POWERLESS at night time to resist falling asleep during feedings, no matter what position I’m in. It is most likely to happen after fighting him for hours to fall asleep in his cot, and then I finally concede defeat and cuddle him and he instantly falls asleep in my arms or on the breast. 

I don’t know how to get sleep and keep my son safe in his own cot! I am TERRIFIED I’m going to wind up accidentally killing him!!!!! Please help me!!! I need some fail-safes and strategies to overcome my inability to stay awake when I’m holding him at night... and some way of ensuring my son actually settles in his own cot so I’m not fighting him for hours in an attempt to keep him there, only to get utterly exhausted and give up! 

I’ve been sobbing with fear and guilt and shame over the times I’ve woken up with him on me or beside me because I nodded off without meaning to!! I feel so scared and so powerless! Please help!!!!",4.690480818414322,5.5787580941176484,5.862276214833759,79.36241687979542,69.52941176470588,8.736572890025576,29.78260869565217,8.964715089967882,2.368975703324808,1352,51,264,24,23,452,177,340,0.255,0.6970000000000001,0.047,-0.9975,3,0,0,0,4,0,40.0,0,0,0,5,15,22,5,7,8,0,14,16,10,4,3,48,39,31,2,1,5,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,7,21,3,6,5,0,0,7,7,18,1,0,7,1,42,4,52,32,8,58,0,4,0,3,28,26,1,6,24,170,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.12566333954217113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210360521840915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699698558130654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058616809324878,0.14303716682241974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442925700613324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505299144460983,0.11648205708667615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490481172471376,0.06511122196730673,0.0,0.0,0.14106392910793825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455658475013246,0.1235302718364357,0.14636870644361075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387305587436555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262692313959607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536298560865118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289177478643941,0.2849352824488052,0.0,0.07076997307733851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291171652054997,0.1290638287358609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595661303967345,0.0,0.0,0.14027095344268325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548314303801048,0.09931725516431128,0.0,0.0,0.3625326746350166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512502870925922,0.0,0.0,0.09793725404458303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28270696989757466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892369108049453,0.0,0.0,0.11722960584853807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886545201645708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372543023398995,0.0,0.10765953766817248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136651402057723,0.0,0.09682085954615198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017650708122968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221358019240426,0.20658699047286586,0.0,0.1157819011770795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241320504871712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madladfuryroad,2020/03/03,"Kids casual wear collection using eco-friendly fabrics. Hi Parents, I am working on a design project to create a casual wear collection using eco-friendly fabrics for kids girls, aged between 1 to 3 years. Please respond to the questionnaire and help me complete the research.

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScR52e0TdkZ0cReoGnL4w9UFBzGlh6LkqDQs71HUB__n7fR8Q/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1",20.423125,24.61142006250001,12.775,31.970000000000034,35.875,11.4,47.25,11.20814326018867,6.364575000000001,345,15,28,6,3,90,36,48,0.0,0.7709999999999999,0.22899999999999998,0.8271,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,1,2,2,2,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,14,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595456588918228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707305970311564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39898823695646224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307420630280965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867141098342705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834394748015522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4460249013730652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879815694073009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628020205055613
parenting,summerlonging,2020/03/03,Does anyone’s child have an IEP? I’m particularly interested in IEPs for chronically ill children. What kind of accommodations are made / what does the plan involve?,4.7789285714285725,8.321723321428575,6.104285714285716,63.765714285714324,83.64285714285714,8.514285714285714,28.42857142857143,8.841846274778883,3.386471428571429,135,6,21,4,4,45,26,28,0.09300000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.111,0.1414,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972888428707178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7441384975669063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427492668434608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023062602707483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TradersVan,2020/03/03,"My parents phone rules. Im 14 and live in mill valley and pay for my own phone and cellular plan. I am restricted to 1 hour of phone / screen usage on weekends only per day. I try to not pay 30$ a month for my cell plan (because i don't /cant even use it but my dad says that i'm ""locked in"" until  i move out. Thoughts?

Ps: What subreddit would this even go on?",0.6084267631103089,2.045374037974682,2.553200723327308,96.85848101265823,80.77215189873421,6.033273056057867,20.14647377938517,6.868970318607317,0.03994611211573229,275,7,69,3,7,92,60,79,0.065,0.935,0.0,-0.3736,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,10,8,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,1,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,11,6,1,12,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,0,5,36,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364421029836652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18370711207859725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37628644851309856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188895824137714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805235776034839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30769094570609085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515310919128189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273675563436953,0.30275447036146874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166441231262346,0.0,0.0,0.3162963941707554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265271459095823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261420697263738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19339700710857954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460221927972321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20235194072012316,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karibee517,2020/03/03,"Concerning conversation My 6 year old son had his friend from school over for a play date and I overheard his friend talking about various contests they could have between classmates. It seemed innocent enough but it was always a boy pitted against a girl in the contest. The boy, if he lost, had to eat too many cookies. The girl, if she lost, had to pull down her pants and let him do anything he wanted to her vagina. I made sure to talk to them about how it was normal to be curious about our bodies but it would never be ok to touch someone without their consent and that I didn’t condone talking about that behavior. Now my son says he talks about these situations at recess and lunch and that it makes him uncomfortable. I’ve talked to the child’s mom and was not judgmental and she received the news well, but it hasn’t stopped. I told my son he needs to tell an adult at school if he hears it again and won’t stop, but I’m having trouble knowing how to navigate this. It seems quite concerning to me!",4.659152907394116,5.8143647537688485,4.718395549174447,86.55121859296482,69.80402010050251,7.896769562096195,28.78715003589375,8.192908349453996,1.7828848528356065,802,29,163,11,14,249,125,199,0.10800000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.077,-0.8163,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,3,3,11,9,0,0,9,1,17,4,2,4,2,34,29,17,0,8,9,4,1,0,2,2,0,2,0,6,13,8,2,2,3,1,0,2,6,3,1,0,11,3,20,6,26,12,2,15,0,2,0,1,40,5,0,5,8,110,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949574819930648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828965892059872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616993121502803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050661400409028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346522827907716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359705355479069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333653598004306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483146453013061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231995939661298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345625498997354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28729816403810104,0.0,0.0,0.12451628563815526,0.08783921336392489,0.13341444114038564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541198925887742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757439104892196,0.10149247694381294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289330005761648,0.0,0.0,0.13808450342407988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13996513694071133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464787336450553,0.0,0.2663578705159563,0.0,0.2395942789403717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791581656132066,0.0,0.0,0.11149814926878493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200349400814883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402465317437272,0.0,0.0,0.528846525090216,0.11501790415199635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574255614842114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761684070852501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831772753168253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685075973167442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934797469085387,0.0,0.0,0.08474144637680431
parenting,tinydog360,2020/03/03,What would you do if you found out your daughter was renting friends? Let's say you have a 19 year old daughter who has no friends and is always alone. During get togethers and parties she always invites different people to the events. Later you find out these people aren't her real friends and that she just pays people to show up to family events to pretend their her friends.,7.587499999999999,7.544824972222226,6.507777777777778,80.465,63.16666666666667,8.866666666666667,34.66666666666667,8.07648339933343,2.604600000000001,306,12,55,3,4,92,53,72,0.069,0.747,0.185,0.8885,2,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,5,1,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,10,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,10,4,7,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,1,5,37,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993088352046642,0.0,0.0,0.32024943682734475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010578648119184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141442425347654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17588581947957202,0.0,0.0,0.2109995024502071,0.5947117783560143,0.0,0.10054146906004174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19678198255242701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20193242743842552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002390529028673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190377867375913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303526877208207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670319073819456,0.0,0.0,0.12392444877726358
parenting,tromnation,2020/03/03,"I have a very mature 11 year old son “dating” a 13 yr old girl and he’s madly in love with her (yikes!) Is that “OK”? Or normal? Or when should I get worried?  What signs are there that this isn’t just a sweet learning moment and that this too shall pass?

He’s a kind & smart kid. He also has skipped a grade in school and even more classes because of his brains and generally maturity. So this puts him in classes with kids much older than him.  

He’s also poet and is definitely head over heals for this 13 yr old young girl. His mind just works like that. Always has been seeing the big romantic picture. I used to think it was just adorable; now I’m concerned. 

This relationship less than a month fresh, and I don’t know her well, I can assume the best, but that feels like “blinders”. In reality I’m just very uncomfortable with all of this. 

I trust him and we have educated him on women’s rights, respect, and all of that - but I didn’t think to expect ... to feel like he might be the vulnerable one. I thought I had time to teach him to be gentle when he was bigger.  I didn’t consider my strong impulses to protect him or that I might need to so early in his life. 

I don’t even know what I’m asking, or if I’m just stressing - I guess :: advice or thoughts if you have them please.",2.9038636363636385,4.096265295454547,4.039818181818184,89.6097272727273,74.07575757575758,6.946666666666667,23.04848484848485,7.365786028017652,0.6534793939393935,994,26,223,11,20,324,148,264,0.046,0.746,0.207,0.9911,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,1,3,17,16,1,1,9,1,24,5,2,1,2,49,43,23,0,6,14,1,2,3,0,4,2,0,0,5,16,12,0,1,10,0,0,2,5,2,1,1,8,4,28,14,23,29,6,26,0,0,1,1,29,10,0,11,17,141,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778491263483746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091501407553092,0.1088093975243022,0.1416870029427161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222503668552214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971491943443103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723288004638107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598026301727896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274197553692927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322403941498153,0.18684127779124848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832084879218314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405562331440802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420562786440646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617468119480833,0.14373327440265474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236525976070492,0.19165982309845836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11802316686228725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27744822790795376,0.13203833660627154,0.0,0.10437771812142953,0.0,0.09612947857948603,0.09696276685107952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812481164252054,0.0,0.0,0.4116568507573815,0.0,0.08861173705956125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354392376066494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314578930251616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039582366093095,0.0,0.111675101989675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234413159104227,0.1042051136166779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979422772850548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758162514572186,0.0,0.20763026694640044,0.07625183450878878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294150979301555,0.0,0.21579448300891785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757607816637085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520061412160076,0.13280118562332127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842102627475031
parenting,supersonictaco,2020/03/03,"Evening Routine for a 5-6 year old I would like to hear about the evening routine you follow for your 5 or 6 year old and see if there is something that I need to be changing.  The little one and I come back home from school at 6:30pm, he drinks milk on the ride home. Once home he plays till 7-7:30pm at which point he eats the first part of his two part dinner. 15 mins after dinner he takes a bath, then we try to get him to do some homework (this is hard), then he eats the second part of the dinner watching some TV.  Then he goes to bed at 9 and finally sleeps off by 10pm.

I am sharing this with you because I feel our evenings are very hectic - this drains me completely leaving no quality time for myself. 

How do you all manage your evenings ?",4.005290322580645,4.368231367741938,4.158225806451615,92.85733870967744,70.80645161290323,6.974193548387097,25.822580645161292,6.2581,0.6240838709677416,582,16,133,3,10,180,105,155,0.017,0.934,0.049,0.5888,0,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,2,5,0,1,8,3,0,0,8,0,8,8,1,1,1,15,16,10,0,3,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,6,0,5,6,7,0,1,4,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,5,16,3,21,14,6,24,0,0,2,0,17,7,0,4,15,84,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061217649274602,0.0,0.07976225275884785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384172770083453,0.11271188365010495,0.13718910403627846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817885762802878,0.0,0.2677753935078895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34568909339919746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615945809104938,0.0,0.0,0.14333494018375953,0.0,0.11129718581568393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836141651681056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721194142184115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747248128816035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39374636388240297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854657948549304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392454244933701,0.1311416482493296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702034164551296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746008569284993,0.13934627525462231,0.08866435315861948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42507904581723777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123691368696478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242271522080326,0.104266988789904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094007783094266,0.0,0.0,0.10073132211152687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983795942687018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762971115139691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883556173450101,0.0,0.12781712170670073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796130899862497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294894781823708,0.0,0.0,0.16852053065625164
parenting,-noname2000,2020/03/03,I can’t handle this How do I tell my partner that I want to give up our 2 month old for adoption? I don’t want to hurt their feelings but I can’t handle this baby anymore.,-0.3719230769230784,1.3671681538461549,2.1304487179487204,97.15413461538462,85.41025641025641,3.9,20.006410256410245,3.1291,-0.5976205128205128,134,4,32,0,4,46,27,39,0.07,0.857,0.073,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,8,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,8,0,4,8,0,3,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,21,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696173931222989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18844788022040573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575269695032834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3989821306883417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297484892550192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39108504579697817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257554700009284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396552104023693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LilyToad,2020/03/03,"What does solid feeding look like at 6 months? My son is 6 months and I struggle with what to feed him, how much, and when. I was wondering what y’all are doing with your little ones. He’s almost 7 months.",0.28604651162790873,2.5005892325581414,1.7593488372093056,97.7664651162791,86.90697674418604,4.370232558139535,15.576744186046513,5.6839178017228535,-0.8198706976744191,159,3,36,1,5,51,35,43,0.057999999999999996,0.838,0.10400000000000001,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,7,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,6,1,4,5,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,5,23,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28077277002777196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453735269876681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698570204574145,0.28102713080985714,0.0,0.0,0.2354592355570011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6714202949413237,0.0,0.20612088487221214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000133905520053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931273127207092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040739046581601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uncomfortablealien,2020/03/03,"Wild toddlers- How to discipline? I fucking need to vent a little bit. I hope this is allowed. I am a 28 year old full time mum to two girls aged 1 and (Almost) 3. They are wild. The ""drawing on walls, pulling off door handles"" kind. I have copped a lot of judgement due to the eldest ones behaviour. It is SO DIFFICULT getting her to nap. My only strategy these days is to sit in front of her door and hold the door closed.

 Childproofing doors no longer works, hence the fact that she garnered the strength to totally ruin the door handles (they have since been repaired.)

The latest incident was that she turned on the oven and it got hot enough that the glass inside shattered. During this time I was so exhausted and resting, and I left my husband to watch them. 

How the hell am I meant to discipline her, when any attempt is meant with a god awful tantrum? She is slightly behind speech wise. 

I'm at my wit's end. I suffer from anxiety, depression and borderline personality disorder. I'm sick of constantly being reminded of my failures as a mum.",3.2384289080911266,5.594611208955225,4.03429693637078,84.98095051060487,76.2139303482587,7.614663524482848,27.991882691804136,8.532816995589336,2.234645771144278,827,35,157,17,19,264,131,201,0.203,0.7340000000000001,0.063,-0.9854,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,3,3,5,12,3,0,15,1,14,3,0,3,2,22,24,12,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,8,8,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,8,0,2,6,3,21,4,22,17,6,24,1,3,1,1,14,10,2,3,11,99,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041595615348479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864755903322948,0.0,0.1559700804755979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22258763559715647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203252949866181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148778917888146,0.0,0.17560429074315695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336677966222101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180579988494117,0.2106658342217172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884867216237136,0.10652055056260787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630640102224412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250200877216232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21231296551482848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22151967990203986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434451602932047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333419518176396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117680022488986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139411085622745,0.0,0.13815652446890356,0.15506235151243628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780229352876336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865427966904234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377718525714323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22176636159817095,0.19916424891777307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842938882357015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129408825366068
parenting,babohio,2020/03/03,"Child transportation Need daily weekday morning rides for my tween to summer stem camp. Our schedule is off by a hour. What would be a good rate for 6 miles, 15 minute drive? Uber/Lift price is $13-14. What would be the fair rate for a sitter to transport my daughter for the week?",2.7576785714285705,4.7618865535714265,2.6851428571428606,95.75985714285716,76.32142857142857,5.194285714285715,21.91428571428571,5.6839178017228535,-0.011645714285714705,221,6,47,1,5,66,43,56,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,8,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794881601321115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44556573126422455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354811385977064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36292290229554347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.642805793437713,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ashley102877,2020/03/03,"No friends? 3rd grader. Hi there! I’m having some issues with my 9 year old daughter. She’s in 3rd grade. She’s saying she doesn’t have any true friends that her friends are often mean to her as well as other children in her class. She says they think she’s weird and laugh at her a lot. I tried to talk to her about this and tell her just keep being nice to kids and try to talk to other kids, but she keeps making herself out to be the victim. No matter what I say she has a but or I tried that and this happened. She’s a really sweet girl. I don’t understand, she doesn’t hang out with other kids outside of school and isn’t really invited to birthdays 🤷🏼‍♀️ how can I help her get through this? I mean her Xmas list to Santa this past year she put she wanted a true friend.",-0.18428571428571414,1.9563615238095269,1.4526666666666692,99.609,88.5238095238095,4.312380952380953,15.542857142857144,5.6839178017228535,-0.8862342857142851,608,12,144,4,20,196,100,168,0.05,0.763,0.187,0.9690000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,6,12,1,0,5,0,11,0,0,2,2,28,22,11,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,5,10,9,0,2,4,0,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,4,28,10,21,20,2,11,0,0,0,0,39,5,0,4,4,92,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152265855486242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613658760831677,0.0,0.07799812387069692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320170950253672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000662744187719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582049382956428,0.0,0.265392509586721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692144337790012,0.0,0.0,0.09965256719058356,0.0,0.0,0.32524223834604715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665526509710115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251467365070855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007818557913646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127863263114395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561653901180415,0.0,0.15108995499744113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399880957800261,0.13048647617254538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956593235274927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040753469431106,0.0,0.0,0.1554166742347315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805540415966108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342300874649057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227637305686346
parenting,optimo_prime,2020/03/03,"Need tips to deal with a blended family My two daughters that are the ages of 7 and 11 are having a very hard time wanting to adjust to the fact that I stay with my girlfriend (who has a 7 year old daughter that goes to school with my youngest).During the time that we are all together my kids disobey and disrespect my girlfriend by not taking her and her daughters property and feelings into any consideration at all,my youngest who has been diagnosed with a behavioral issue and my oldest who is hitting her pre teen attitude issues already are making life very difficult for my relationship as my girlfriend thinks the world of my kids and they only show her scorn.What make it worse is they’re mother has plans to move them over a hour away this summer and my kids get bounced around between this house my parents and their mothers house so structure is hard to attain as I only have them every Wednesday and every other weekend. I’m at wits end I only want this all to work out for all of us. Thank you for any advice and if you have any other questions I can answer them best I can.",8.632075471698116,7.099557679245282,8.040264150943397,75.17737735849056,61.83018867924528,10.555471698113207,35.82264150943397,9.120678840339163,3.071432452830189,876,31,162,11,10,276,123,212,0.057999999999999996,0.904,0.038,-0.473,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,2,5,4,2,3,0,0,9,0,16,2,0,2,4,35,28,14,0,4,2,6,3,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,13,18,0,0,6,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,29,2,28,26,4,21,0,0,0,0,31,8,0,2,11,113,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846670426073484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450756055266591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682034350131036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703229410138676,0.0,0.0,0.12351629865143912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796508094932158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553530471288558,0.0,0.13343485974088976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164395381268877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22153094763530448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393410754460818,0.0,0.06647297891541476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868537212768694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355347862748885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946717606086233,0.3033874009085563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274431949710637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928580711523646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550867434482045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972717249779792,0.0,0.0974801080700059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379510768335061,0.0,0.0,0.2999566354202985,0.0,0.0,0.145977038013551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727160685222748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114490033132415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305024875929736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012488277475796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884580200960268,0.0,0.0,0.12103590058749993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842378753219866,0.0,0.0,0.15331734664438734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842282995343918,0.0,0.1581369809109778,0.0,0.0,0.2169458464085296,0.1550836841303155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570855344049263,0.0,0.13397472106470765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465956345736025
parenting,throwitwayyyawayy,2020/03/03,"Am I actually depressed, or is this normal? Throwaway account for certain reasons. 

Backstory: I am a single mom of a toddler. A very advanced toddler at that. She goes to her dads house every other weekend for an extended weekend. Th-M.

However, on my free weekends without my child, there is so much that needs to be done. Errands that can easily be ran without her, housework at home, chores upon chores that have been neglected, and just the fact that I finally get some peace, quiet, and most importantly—alone time.

My friends think I’m depressed, because on those weekends, I really don’t want to get out and meet up for drinks—because I’m exhausted. Sometimes, I don’t even want company. 

I realize that this prevents me from a social life and/or dating. But you guys, i am TIRED. I finally get to lay in bed uninterrupted and watch Netflix if I want. I get to bathe alone. I get to poop alone. And I am able to get so much shit done ALONE. I enjoy the hell out of it.

However, I do want to get married and have a relationship in the future. But how do I get out of these ways? How do I stop doing something I enjoy so much, to venture out?

Is it just this age of raising a toddler, or am I actually depressed?",2.9777170868347334,4.984431365546222,4.596386554621848,82.29469187675072,75.68067226890757,7.390476190476193,29.820728291316534,8.269060116576782,2.3130425770308114,947,44,181,17,21,318,128,238,0.151,0.726,0.12300000000000001,-0.9006,2,4,2,0,1,0,39.0,0,1,0,1,9,12,2,0,10,0,22,5,2,3,2,37,39,16,0,7,9,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,2,14,10,0,3,3,6,2,2,4,7,0,0,4,2,26,6,31,33,6,26,1,4,1,0,12,12,2,5,11,129,40,0,0.10567560063196793,0.0,0.20624828465628955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43779220864429946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288377305995685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730547199290185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21628565846276065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979773756708871,0.0,0.08903625128371544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152491021953964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164470690859697,0.0,0.4416891178450689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046354589199121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060012436956766,0.0,0.0,0.12193545485155804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746418019251543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376598626062865,0.0,0.0,0.23305117696483585,0.07835711885793065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353965156483344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769849574324295,0.10865211769609458,0.0,0.11345604708921485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084744854495287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772296680210014,0.0,0.0813542402092175,0.10451587114312773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834953396848952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771265789123009,0.0,0.0,0.061620292549169335,0.12145855741759795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871934377655768,0.24932082885254786,0.08388037298732942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373501593322896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Superb-Gold,2020/03/03,"I have no idea what to do **Necessary background:** I'm the father of a wonderful 5 year old boy. His mother and I have been split since he was about a year and a half. We are not on the same page of parenting, barely the same book. She's very controlling and in her eyes no idea of mine is good. Safe to say, we have different rules and routines at respective households.

So, why I'm here is simple; he struggles to get to sleep and it seems like it's getting worse.

I just went to her household and as it was around his bed time I read him a book and tried to leave. This was the first time I'd seen the living conditions there and it was not easy for me to be there, let alone leave my son there. He wasn't able to pick a book before his mother came in with her iron fist and basically decided for him. I don't want to get too off topic, but she was very snippy with him and I was trying to be reasonable with him without undermining her word, but it was tough to hear. The book she picked was '*Did I Ever Tell You How Lucky You Are'.* A few pages in the book reads ""When you think things are bad, when you feel sour and blue, when you start to get mad...You should do what I do"" I started crying because of how sad I was about the situation he was in. I couldn't read to my son which hurt. So, I stopped ad started to grab another book. I didn't want to leave my little buddy hanging, I wanted to find something more upbeat and I did.

Cut to after the book. He was whining that he didn't want me to go, he wanted me to sleep there, he wanted someone to sleep with him, typical stuff. A lot of these are fairly common and I can (do my best to) soothe him while trying to tell him that he's getting to be a big boy and that once we get big we have our own beds, etc. Mind you, there has never been a time we slept in the same bed. Maybe a nap together a few times or moving the mattresses into the living room for a camp out, but that's it. I told him that I had to get home because I had my bed time too and that I would send him mom in to say goodnight as would I. I feel that's where I should have left, but I told him I would come back and I won't lie to him like that. So, I poked my head back in and told him I loved him and had to get going and, of course, he has a fit. So, I did end up telling him I was leaving and left.

\*I will shamelessly tell you this was a 45 minute car ride of me crying while trying not to let my girlfriend in the passenger seat know that I was\*

About half way home his mother calls me and tells me that he's screaming about not going to bed, that he'd rather go to the hospital than go to bed, how she feels he's manic and may be Bipolar. Truthfully, I think she projects her issues and insecurities on to others and this is a textbook example. So, I talk to him and try to tell him again that we can't sleep with him and he needs to try and come up with a compromise that he can ask her that will help him get to sleep. I get him to calm down a bit and then ask to talk to his mother. I don't confront her very often due to how terrible she can be, but I told her that she seemed way too snippy and maybe if she tried to calm him down and be more soothing and lay down with him for a bit he will relax. Instantly, she's at my throat. So, I cut her off and told her that I wasn't able to talk to my son while I was there without her coming in and saying the opposite and making demands rather than reasoning with him and trying to coax him into making the right decisions and doing things in a 'happy' way. She was talking about getting blood test for an imbalance and counseling and I just told her (in a more round about way) to be a mother and try and soothe him rather than demanding he goes to bed.

I know this is a rant and a lot of (probably unnecessary) details, but do we just close the door and leave him in there? Do we need to be on the same page when it comes to sleep routine? I'm going to be ordering a few books off amazon about [bedtime Meditation](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/164611454X/ref=ox_sc_act_title_2?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1), [feelings](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641524960/ref=s9_acsd_simh_hd_bw_bK_c2_x_2_t?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=merchandised-search-11&pf_rd_r=890RMA00KANPESV1XHZ9&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=cee75602-ba63-508d-a645-8532c1d62dab&pf_rd_i=20), and [mindfulness](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1782853278/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1) for kids, are there any other books I should get? Any links you guys may have? Tips? Anything will help. Thanks

TL;DR: How can separate households get a child on a proper sleep schedule?",4.089920833924715,5.5227317562568,4.100756966456924,89.38449433063666,71.48095756256802,7.4602892242670835,22.894466259797195,7.9432368362626375,0.8359471416631181,3680,88,784,49,69,1129,337,919,0.083,0.8370000000000001,0.081,0.8455,2,1,1,0,0,0,170.0,9,8,0,3,47,26,3,2,45,0,85,14,12,12,3,149,149,72,0,19,20,11,5,2,1,13,1,5,12,5,36,69,0,3,18,14,0,17,18,12,0,3,38,14,129,14,116,85,20,93,0,3,4,1,130,40,0,11,33,529,165,15,0.08982499990437456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04651580504917662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406387245376545,0.0,0.06108408016547005,0.047094672192878405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036959160667646665,0.039981646960386835,0.08397424942691517,0.0,0.0,0.06906988036011605,0.0375000614637001,0.05475648621620028,0.0,0.03821722949738431,0.0,0.04713289781877057,0.0,0.0980656354245694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04586068396971226,0.05136793511879468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547525675371381,0.0,0.0,0.05037318768376425,0.0,0.0,0.09866854453790264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046924003311700865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039779144221394565,0.0,0.050089309529885113,0.0,0.04062592749590141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812732833637221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04104921129775878,0.03820254951576927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30504405788925426,0.0,0.15314885239077355,0.03767047410076727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04447043608584912,0.0,0.04781019134364648,0.0,0.0,0.04609318220749405,0.0,0.05061965158718676,0.0,0.060207804006167175,0.0,0.09010179878691284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04807976010123481,0.10140149135547266,0.0,0.046876981316267774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049365470820753855,0.0,0.0,0.23777926298156,0.09759512522050556,0.09185214823216188,0.0,0.043883957717276906,0.04501412388918295,0.07931712058584907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636600274630513,0.040535284707920026,0.0,0.05995888493872535,0.0,0.09024128570452536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04534882183716107,0.05260097712973255,0.0,0.04773487971397318,0.0,0.06660409926065271,0.03463928873092315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712811360413284,0.047830346663649034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049870016160877835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04842327119612742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477396173755465,0.0,0.0,0.0923550602343053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03835502956143737,0.0,0.10714866785319403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177330632188114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03715208407341777,0.050483531706240384,0.3146145465576766,0.0,0.03805421546291714,0.034575836689414524,0.0,0.0,0.09536789588858036,0.0,0.0,0.03754886100865175,0.0,0.04695229649923344,0.05141406722378402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439586482522726,0.23553302734067455,0.041349395771304115,0.0,0.0,0.059675738605406474,0.05755623296419416,0.0,0.0,0.13094419949438788,0.0,0.0,0.2574949103233015,0.0,0.2744337540024923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117254823417186,0.15894333668729518,0.1425978078290002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04163433741476013,0.04052654551435695,0.0,0.0,0.08658809449522048,0.04870569035916701,0.0,0.0,0.04576967443349445,0.09571365409037506,0.0,0.0,0.05784435491011256
parenting,-SortByControversial,2020/03/03,"Single dad of a 6 year old girl: Kid has been lately asking to shower with me, said a friend from school told her she showers with her mom, which I understand, my father also showered with me when I was like 4-5, but I’m not comfortable with that, how do I tell her no without hurting her feelings? That’s pretty much it; it just feels weird because not only is she older than I was when I showered with my dad but she is also a girl, and in my home my sister would shower with my mom when we were little kids.

Also, she already knows how to properly wash as a girl since she was like 4, there isn’t really a reason to do it. But I understand this kind of things could make a kid feel bad, like rejected I guess, and I would like to avoid that.",5.71076923076923,4.3921186666666685,6.462435897435899,83.4617307692308,67.46153846153847,9.338461538461539,27.833333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.5483487179487176,576,13,127,6,8,191,91,156,0.124,0.7509999999999999,0.126,-0.1571,5,2,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,10,12,0,1,6,0,14,1,0,4,0,31,26,14,0,3,7,6,3,4,1,2,1,1,6,6,9,9,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,7,4,25,7,17,16,2,9,0,2,0,0,27,2,0,1,11,91,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203177729858015,0.3522623486519388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726726391054958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259784085547733,0.08950687973454444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723269084881785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227266578049843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344134871395188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175101778398462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472835717771148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718573642783332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290200252437394,0.08069453621158591,0.0,0.1656318837358804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869370477986604,0.14716334270963274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801090380485508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439336348414218,0.0,0.0,0.10793775794048052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407454670577606,0.0,0.0,0.11167167301769884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493800221282566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406376670096843,0.15096683225124236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396700063433386,0.0,0.0,0.14860091879834056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146020867435585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833685899454014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975480628419857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030341464670895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30571272045523634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415399470635514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20860921064937005,0.0,0.0,0.09455441859105164
parenting,Jealous-Intern,2020/03/03,"My life I need a mom to rant to, it’s been a horrible week and I just got divorced and I just need someone who will listen. If anyone’s is out there please message me. And let me know you care.",-0.8093023255813954,1.1331820232558163,1.4849302325581384,99.7339069767442,89.23255813953489,4.370232558139535,17.902325581395353,5.6839178017228535,-0.5942893023255813,149,4,37,1,5,50,33,43,0.136,0.737,0.127,-0.1027,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,10,10,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,1,3,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21945385202023268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31999483369092113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510175293238317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724858228849166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209367419810185,0.22168419806777884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675817397839231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654371842292868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445171887008889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659272790973432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517545612889385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Adrian9669,2020/03/03,"Need advice about something Question for my sister

Hi. I just want to disclaim upfront that I am not in any way unaccepting. But I don’t want to say the wrong thing and hurt my sister.

I’m 30, and she’s 11. Our parents had a bit of a surprise..

Anyway, she just told me she has a girlfriend. I asked a few question, but nothing too pushy. I didn’t want to hurt her confidence, or make her uncomfortable. I asked what her girlfriends name was and said congratulations. 

A couple months ago she was crushing on a guy. Now she is telling me she has a girlfriend, and wants to do her hair up to impress her girlfriend. She’s never cared about her looks before, at all. I thought it was cute. 

How seriously should I take this? She’s my only sister and I love her like the waking world. But I know that most young relationships are just flings, and being only 11 she’s probably still finding herself. I’m inclined to think she probably doesn’t know who or what she likes yet, I mean she’s only in 6th grade. 

I asked if it was a close friend, or a “girlfriend” girlfriend. She reiterated she has a “girlfriend” girlfriend. I said congratulations and dropped the subject. 

Now, my sister and I are very close. She tells me everything and I think she has more faith in me than she does in our parents. It might be sad but she’s literally my best friend. And she’s going into her teenage years and discovering herself. 

I don’t want to ever hurt my little sister. But our parents don’t know... should I tell them? And should I explain that she probably doesn’t know herself yet, and that her girlfriend is also equally new to romance and love and that this is just as likely to be a phase as it is likely that she could be bi or lesbian? Or should I say nothing and just be supportive. 

We are very close and she confides everything in me, and I try to be a good big brother. I’ve taught her to know about the force, to live long and prosper, and I tell her everyday to love herself and not let anyone’s opinions of her beat her down. I even built her a gaming pc and I’m teaching her to play wow. She’s a cool kid, my best friend and my little prodige. But not sure what to do this time, and it’s very touchy with teenagers. And she has emotional issues anyway. Our parents have her in therapy for her emotions and stuff. So I worry about her a lot. 

Anyway, I’m open to any advice from people who are experienced with kids and their self discovery and love and stuff. 

P.s. she’ll be 12 in just a couple months.",1.8974807843137251,4.183270552,3.0543294117647086,90.62641960784315,80.48,5.60156862745098,23.203921568627447,6.794906146795322,0.65965568627451,1956,67,406,21,51,628,208,500,0.066,0.726,0.20800000000000002,0.998,4,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,5,0,2,3,24,31,0,0,20,1,43,8,2,2,4,94,80,46,0,12,21,10,1,4,12,6,0,4,0,4,22,37,0,0,14,2,0,1,10,6,0,0,11,8,90,25,42,54,9,39,1,4,1,6,105,20,0,12,20,289,112,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394728585666814,0.06326020164794505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707005506222423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706042763879537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049899621698909435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014813691089972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072581641792429,0.0,0.14978499162967016,0.0,0.0779114008526845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276072395079336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05697863663918362,0.1579266198954947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245143470845153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055060529763834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04713548850528178,0.06455315174253702,0.0,0.0,0.1282753751752954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522573462680997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654077887685804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040558011910720455,0.05985704156749332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066193895502391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291910787666011,0.0,0.0,0.07448585360780734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960999369833096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297489593692277,0.0,0.1394600914340848,0.14305167901798393,0.06301603971350535,0.06315521527762825,0.05992809108795584,0.0,0.0,0.06067142914768615,0.2576364943241026,0.0,0.04763626625082392,0.0,0.0,0.07773671215230991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570631120037398,0.0,0.0,0.1139247068913692,0.0,0.0,0.05291577068217917,0.05504059598212063,0.06892414618822906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695206142255667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282744088773127,0.0,0.0,0.31696671746984245,0.0,0.0,0.04947506347995687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230828559449553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988883743526291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661861816492478,0.0,0.0,0.13576770239100608,0.11350361113824405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444859427780742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054939772948251586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056991672231601564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339024301821856,0.0,0.08098343307786722,0.06726006727545362,0.0,0.05365711934049053,0.0,0.2495023940205936,0.0,0.08161136820513375,0.0,0.04741131153167419,0.09145480409379632,0.0,0.056655332501441766,0.0416131337831932,0.0,0.0,0.0681917068055779,0.0,0.048451717788635836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664921930678448,0.2104627505155675,0.056645709367910774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247397442317252,0.0,0.0,0.07802572763927285,0.0,0.04595630980164546
parenting,mochelle219,2020/03/03,Do I sound greedy?? I am 15 weeks into my first pregnancy.  (40yo)  We decided to move to a smaller town where my bf family lives.  I don't think that I will be having a baby shower as most of my friends and family are scattered across the Midwest.  I want to start a baby registry (or 2) to help with some odds and ends.  Is it greedy to post about the registries on social media???,1.8089610389610409,3.6543366493506495,3.5649350649350686,89.09597402597406,78.61038961038959,6.477922077922077,21.38961038961039,7.447530270364453,0.7264077922077927,290,8,61,4,7,97,59,77,0.061,0.83,0.11,0.5752,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,11,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,9,1,12,9,2,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,3,4,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25699471138077884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5470720806871051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468090598473625,0.0,0.0,0.22417608972741207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19448743199851806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25621567421190866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083930505546371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778920726186722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957805151847243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537600258123945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592214297614906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711432700785293,0.0,0.2327480124805288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrandleGlauert,2020/03/03,"SEATTLE: Radio stations My son who is 10 years old in 4th grade demands to listen to Cube (93.3) radio station which is a station that plays clean versions of Hip-Hop music such as: 

""The Box"" - Roddy Ricch

""Juicy"" - Doja Cat & Tyga

""Roxanne"" - Arizona Zervas

""Ballin'"" - Mustard & Roddy Ricch

""Best On Earth"" - Russ & BIA

""hot girl bummer"" - Blackbear

 ""BOP' - DaBaby

I personally don't feel comfortable allowing my child to listen to this type of profane music, however, I know that it's inevitable that he will be exposed to it eventually.

Does anybody know what the rating on the station is, and would you allow your child to listen to this type of music?

 Any input is appreciated, thanks in advance!",11.542619047619047,8.457786436507941,10.720539682539684,63.085571428571434,57.650793650793645,11.984761904761903,42.66031746031746,9.3871,4.2925669841269825,545,22,86,6,5,176,91,126,0.049,0.823,0.128,0.8931,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,2,0,2,1,4,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,0,7,15,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,4,10,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,6,4,15,12,2,7,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,2,46,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7663721146784,0.0,0.16033210858608166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474267229885416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20632446105213367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921271112339653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591467369761692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474016079923357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058658139412973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21706591291264893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748468601767835,0.0,0.0,0.15182855119397612
parenting,knifehandinyaface,2020/03/03,"What would you do? On mobile.

What would you do if your adult child only talked to you and spent time with you when they needed money or something else like a new phone or car repairs etc.... but as soon as said thing was taken care of, suddenly they’re too busy to talk or hang out or “need space”?

I know what I would do if this was my kid....

Just curious as to the general consensus?",2.741308016877636,3.9084664430379767,3.5855063291139264,92.80754219409285,74.44303797468355,7.2919831223628675,20.761603375527425,7.793537801064563,0.4765932489451479,295,6,68,4,6,94,59,79,0.0,0.883,0.11699999999999999,0.8604,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,5,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,18,15,12,0,7,8,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,3,5,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,9,2,10,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,6,6,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499645160129758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480591347140972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734264713792434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473759791438567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977641358413894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635770588805503,0.0,0.2367842141757637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646086443861531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23321035151679198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887418514988917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941125578638683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628783345884526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295908947983582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5224796857127844,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kalebdraws,2020/03/03,"Is American Ninja Warrior Junior a good thing to patent for? Is pushing our kids so hard that they can compete in these competitions healthy for them? They're not only intense challenges, they're on TV! Is it too much stress? Are they missing out on the fun of childhood? Or is it a good thing for them to focus on? Does it come from certain families/parents/or the kids own ambition?

I do realize we wouldn't have Beethoven without an abusive parent, just wondering about the moral side of parenting of all this stuff.",3.959852607709749,6.381365846938782,4.1893197278911565,84.42155328798188,74.20408163265307,7.212698412698412,31.29705215419501,8.167268648758528,2.47215283446712,415,20,75,7,9,129,74,98,0.087,0.7390000000000001,0.17300000000000001,0.9044,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,4,2,5,7,0,1,6,0,9,0,0,0,2,12,12,2,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,7,5,16,11,3,9,1,1,0,0,10,6,0,2,1,55,16,2,0.0,0.2713053742643505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19724709788462888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038306176719914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841172685180164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051222509478464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832758819550256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415058221972127,0.0,0.0,0.5085132280901017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622972833281129,0.0,0.2621287830433669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042499763685878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22072978332257406,0.24832043116848454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,asukarei02,2020/03/04,"Breaking Co-Sleeping Habits w/2 yr old Hi guys, was looking for some advice. My two year old has issues around nap time and bed time. When it comes time to go to bed/nap, she will scream at the top of her lungs and climb out of her pack-n-play and even climb over baby gates to get to the living room or our room. 

Her bio-mom co-sleeps with her all the time with her older brother and half-sister (4 and 7). We're trying to break her out of the habit as her as we currently have custody. 4 yr old is doing great and will sleep in his own bed with no issues, but the little one will continue to cry through out the night. We're unsure of how to break this habit, any advice will help!",3.7764521072796953,3.773511917241384,4.202298850574714,93.62980842911878,71.20689655172413,6.9961685823754785,21.62835249042145,5.82211442006289,-0.04025670498084288,528,8,126,2,9,166,92,145,0.071,0.877,0.051,-0.4389,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,6,0,9,2,2,1,1,20,13,12,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,5,1,2,15,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,2,1,2,12,1,25,8,3,31,0,0,1,0,15,11,0,2,13,71,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867515548758645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977650429038287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061435839496086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263886611453422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116805607522272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690899546782404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665658338547983,0.0,0.08338592251991905,0.0,0.0,0.1617623546391901,0.0,0.14527859451743544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834516945270667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30628087153004263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705474530156828,0.12955888016970502,0.0,0.12321016057757178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17183991658860742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768936567827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4618825477750462,0.0,0.09942313555705776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404861472822436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422208718804763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961511906386744,0.0,0.1433268113423648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448464330196832
parenting,Nahual50,2020/03/04,"Overweight child We have an 11 year old boy who was always on the husky side.  This has been of change for us as my spouse and I are normal/under for our heights and my older child (18) is like a size 0.  At his last doctor check in, he clocked in at 150:  25 lbs heavier than me. He's nearly 5 ft. tall. 

We address it by not shaming how much he eats, etc., but rather try to get him sports which he declines.  We go for walks after dinner and rides his scooter too. We home cook and offer a wide variety of food with lots of veggies.  No soda, juice at home. A rare dessert and candy once in a while.  We're just baffled.  I love him SO much and want him to grow into a healthy adult.  Ideas?",0.35933333333333195,2.305906496551728,1.7703448275862073,99.58747126436785,84.0344827586207,4.142528735632183,18.632183908045974,4.604124745555138,-0.7588712643678162,522,13,124,1,15,167,112,145,0.031,0.8740000000000001,0.095,0.8856,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,7,0,6,9,0,1,0,20,10,11,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,4,4,12,7,0,1,2,1,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,16,2,22,8,4,24,0,0,0,1,23,13,0,1,8,74,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359557955081328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22070123221785512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135400543361839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347898391777045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326758651962577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25227434445291796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089997519638281,0.0,0.11856835343470055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185426827649895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355161206529369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006002836831716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192532025233142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773684437591916,0.1882953174821605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067318251109007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20441158059858286,0.0,0.0,0.21892045849357675,0.22218248558530293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416450197787639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509543322202814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305446254565065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434987876404758
parenting,subtlethrone123,2020/03/04,"Mums with stay at home husband I'm just curious as this is apparently quite unusual.

I'm about to go back to work from mat leave and my husband is going to be a stay at home parent since I earn more money and as childcare costs are so ridiculous this actually makes more financial sense.

Our daughter will be 9 months old when I go back and she is amazing and I'm dreading going back.....I also work in travel and things are pretty shite right now as you can imagine!

He's brilliant with our daughter and we're actually off this month together so we're almost doing a handover and I'm trying to distance myself a bit to give him time to get used to feeds, putting her down etc which he wasn't able to do when he was working.

I'm know I'm going to miss my time with her massively, just wondering how other mums in a similar position have found it?",4.756353126642144,5.191563878612719,5.82224908039937,81.33193378875461,69.17341040462428,8.83426169206516,30.17813977929585,8.841846274778883,2.2885884393063582,673,25,136,11,11,224,106,173,0.055999999999999994,0.866,0.079,0.7141,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,0,5,12,4,1,1,4,0,14,1,0,3,0,20,33,16,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,7,10,1,0,4,1,2,7,1,3,0,0,3,0,12,1,23,27,4,26,0,1,0,0,18,7,0,2,10,81,19,4,0.13666127355562824,0.0,0.26672337872916396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368465247858964,0.0,0.0,0.1092879710880777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152522513018774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491987157632149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241344479072566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984203264203688,0.0,0.0,0.0713998749467588,0.13109794630473404,0.3883387556097425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741648001109053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510546194510903,0.0,0.0,0.14470455636525342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122246129056244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816344945500107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340301769600025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174617151217867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903364582077482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738232602044065,0.0,0.14535608639507747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167079809119939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130476177038499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29132546849852475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090791677671802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937657522227325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927840340626747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180314621097342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820332159144672,0.29847310432922963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nomomamadrama,2020/03/04,"Hypospadias Any other mamas (or dads or guardians) have a child with mild hypospadias? What did you do? 

We have two differing opinions from doctor's. Currently  our guy is scheduled to get anesthesia so our Dr can check for chordee and take measurements, and we'll have to make a decision in that moment if we want to correct it or leave it. It seems the options are to leave as is with the hole off center, or enlarge the hole so it has a straighter trajectory. If that makes sense.

Anyone go through something like this? Please tell me your experience. We are feeling quite alone and just want to make the best choice for our sweet and perfect baby!!",3.651530054644809,6.254240737704923,3.5602459016393446,87.64534153005467,76.04918032786884,7.017486338797814,27.37978142076503,8.07648339933343,1.8581453551912563,518,21,98,9,12,157,85,122,0.036000000000000004,0.8029999999999999,0.161,0.9482,1,1,1,0,0,0,14.0,7,2,0,3,3,4,0,0,7,0,12,2,0,3,2,28,22,13,0,4,7,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,9,9,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,10,4,14,20,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,9,4,66,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104500109363851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818040261016346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207952683064715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324190457280645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122968096475247,0.0,0.20797994902964434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987649008151356,0.0,0.0,0.10274211799837857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616164226497296,0.0,0.11548109875936902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20119621171166688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43031093145232496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927141292910142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069051791454988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230484391366901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21612419988714868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498221401898404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564303832155379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527782750136375,0.0,0.17760245909005742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849318872186467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397007992498019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dellycartwright,2020/03/04,"I’m listening to my 17 yo daughter do a phone interview for her first job (potentially) and I have anxiety for her. I was such an awkward kid, and so is she. I would have been happy to give her some tips before the interview, but she didn’t want me to. This is a place that employs lots of teens so hopefully the interviewer will give her chance.",2.6377619047619056,4.426566585714291,4.300000000000002,85.01333333333334,76.0,8.666666666666666,25.952380952380953,9.2995712137729,2.154095238095238,271,10,58,7,6,91,52,70,0.037000000000000005,0.8059999999999999,0.156,0.8551,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,8,16,5,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,11,2,6,11,2,2,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,3,1,43,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257316464101301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510871796464033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509907321741648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5661258533448082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141129344201337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29307615731243075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29281650924398345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25086230088645745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30829067947114924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404294109080262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961288730473912,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sabrinitini,2020/03/04,"Nanny is sick but wants to work I have a nanny with a weekly schedule. She called in sick the first two days of the week with body aches, sneezing, and sore throat. She showed up on the third (entered the house with her key while I was out) saying she feels better but still has a sore throat, coughing, and mucus.
She also said that she didn’t feel comfortable being close to our infant and wanted to wear gloves if she had to handle him.
I sent her home immediately and began trying my best to decontaminate the house. I explained that she can not work if she is sick simply because she can not fulfill her job responsibilities of caring for my children while she is sick.
I asked her not to return until she is better.
She has already taken her PTO. 
Question: Should she be paid for the days she “wants” to come to work even though she is ill?",5.8027272727272745,6.103608818181819,5.791666666666668,82.92750000000002,66.87878787878788,7.56969696969697,24.984848484848484,6.742157984588678,0.8373757575757579,665,14,132,4,10,209,97,165,0.16,0.726,0.114,-0.794,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,7,4,5,0,0,9,0,16,12,4,0,0,25,30,13,0,6,7,0,2,0,0,1,8,2,1,2,2,10,0,0,4,1,1,3,4,0,0,3,8,4,29,5,20,19,1,20,0,0,0,0,31,5,0,3,12,97,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770716677984962,0.12831985309373992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500084968517489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781496406615103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839293479400094,0.28382776924154945,0.0,0.17823495503502146,0.0,0.0,0.1638476631548109,0.0,0.16359972665489986,0.0,0.0,0.13822213475333725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069669300898472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059823571907326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226685661393045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648724621832148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095452465373766,0.0,0.0,0.3702987340491041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923185150215188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975199172886674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263426333383945,0.12760428118553854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281436122735829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765119558200286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894184878564203,0.0,0.15674616418595225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28393050469374664,0.0,0.2574227648361132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504505072117441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LipstickSingularity,2020/03/04,"Amazon Alexa's version of ""The Goodnight Song"" by the Laurie Berkner Band is now playing a different version! Bedtime routine does not feel right. Long shot but anyone know what happened? This new version is much too jazzy. I need the relaxing version back! Even my 9 month old looked at the Alexa like WTF is this.",2.5779310344827597,5.563753948275863,2.4961206896551715,90.07969827586209,87.10344827586206,4.279310344827587,27.9396551724138,5.985473137389443,1.2635793103448278,251,12,43,2,8,75,48,58,0.095,0.74,0.16399999999999998,0.3787,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,3,8,5,8,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,7,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21148798473714756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325740821966338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160076996314721,0.0,0.0,0.2646859359000434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19977284665067693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293352932546733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674655428627524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16622482923788642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776732109623147,0.0,0.0,0.26766874677525304,0.25399132862790785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414217367979812,0.0,0.22234386891984684,0.22427123335549634,0.0,0.29211902376798354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31738227169332456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258300311260625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,neo-dan,2020/03/04,"7 y/o doesn't care about consequences There is nothing that can be taken that will make my kiddo care. Nothing can be done. Regardless of any punishments he still does what he wants. 
Mostly the things I tell him not to do seems to be the things he does to get into trouble. All regarding being careless around his baby sister. I tell him not to scream in her face 5 minutes later that's what he's doing. It's always something along those lines. He's been in therapy for months now and I'm pretty sure he just says what he can to get it over with. Nothing gets through to him I just don't understand what to do.",1.6148123076923042,3.8889019520000048,2.791999999999998,92.1713846153846,81.48,5.766153846153848,20.815384615384616,7.010146845296331,0.4719723076923077,484,14,101,6,13,155,80,125,0.106,0.8320000000000001,0.062,-0.6703,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,7,7,1,0,2,0,16,1,1,1,2,17,27,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,12,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,2,9,3,18,19,2,9,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,4,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422472809527147,0.0,0.0,0.116254466302683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15218515255336634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485976452597179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992056964301252,0.17494512145940455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679489601318405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411300865582664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645371569589032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4921044301076558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739215035917761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359493467864098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562994578135594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160860998178145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652394905241547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112196112898688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29884236412030946,0.0,0.19550060278381293,0.0,0.22714825610852546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779689654987989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083299788801832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,untraced1,2020/03/04,I teach kids how to ski and I need help So i'm actually 15 myself so I have a hard time getting 7-12 year olds to listen to me. Usually 11 year olds will act out in our lessons and I'd like to learn how I can properly teach them,-0.4003773584905659,1.0444266981132095,2.5704150943396264,95.51373584905664,83.90566037735849,6.504150943396226,20.033962264150947,7.554174236665415,0.3163766037735853,177,5,47,3,5,63,39,53,0.034,0.8590000000000001,0.106,0.5456,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,8,7,6,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,1,6,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,7,24,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.2958273074205925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838156262345787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715597684544079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031927451822596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810209382694522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477932873581435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6362026276530034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676719355672058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338731011582441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904328836268054
parenting,useoncendiscard,2020/03/04,"Tween Declared Self a ""Little"" on TikTok. Now what? Heyyyy.

I'm kind of freaking out about this, but I just checked my middle school-aged child's social media page and found a link to their TikTok. They didn't tell me they were starting it, but okay, whatever -- it's a really popular platform.

Anyhow, so of course I watched their TikTok videos and mostly it's fine but in a couple of them my child mentions that they're a ""little"" and says things like ""don't kinkshame."" I'm a super-vanilla person, so what I know about ageplay would fill a thimble, but I'm pretty sure it's not something you want your adolescent child to be discussing on the internet. Their channel isn't very popular and the videos haven't gotten any likes yet, but we all know how fast that can change.

How do I bring this up with them? My spouse and I are in agreement that the videos aren't appropriate, but I don't want our child to feel like we invaded their privacy, or like we don't want them to express themselves. We absolutely do! We just don't think this is an appropriate way to do it.",4.892560646900272,5.653782433962263,5.121374663072778,85.31594339622643,69.0,8.132614555256065,27.87870619946091,8.192908349453996,1.6597159029649595,844,27,172,11,14,266,118,212,0.043,0.792,0.165,0.983,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,6,2,9,0,10,12,0,0,11,1,17,0,0,2,2,38,31,16,0,4,10,1,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,6,14,12,0,0,6,4,1,2,9,1,0,0,4,3,27,11,17,25,3,17,0,0,1,0,30,10,0,3,8,109,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533225633278242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949679749988379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039275952932294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318905739096923,0.1316659910992484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20207855946861675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192305441381893,0.2025760501307404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36016424722249296,0.3694397426361761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092613756897473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187502254005396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806912347038045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465650217286784,0.0,0.1865243211574752,0.0,0.0,0.19226806492890255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878735432496272,0.0,0.14188533624928906,0.0,0.0,0.1304505040816656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737032526602614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610888122160556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244262248822176,0.11809382287294384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206915096600734,0.3261197837819078,0.14629102177607922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092345497666266,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrscarbar,2020/03/04,"7 month old son not babbling Hi everyone—
Guess I’m looking for some reassurance here.  I am a FTM, and also in the special ed field so I am naturally very nervous about my sons development. 

He does not babble consonant sounds- no ma, ba, ga, da, etc.  Should I be concerned?  When did your baby start making these sounds?

He does vocalize.  A lot of ah’s and uh’s, and he blows raspberries. He also responds to his name, responds/looks for sounds, sits well, passes objects between hands, feeds himself puffs with a pincer grasp.  No crawling, but he does well on his tummy, he can pivot in a circle haha.  But he doesn’t get up on his hands and knees yet.  

He’s also the happiest and cutest baby! He absolutely lights up when he sees me or his dad, loves when we sing to him, makes great eye contact, attends to us when we talk to him, loves books etc. 

I guess I just feel like the lack of babbling part is a big piece, and it’s so hard not to worry. 😥",1.9264456079115744,3.9451640209424106,3.4991186736474686,88.87519342641073,78.9476439790576,6.129261198371147,23.17655613728912,7.1686216300943375,0.8212720186154736,732,24,153,9,18,242,126,191,0.048,0.736,0.21600000000000005,0.9908,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,1,0,0,15,10,0,1,8,2,8,7,4,2,0,27,20,18,0,2,7,4,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,9,1,0,2,2,0,2,6,1,4,0,1,11,18,9,18,17,7,18,0,0,3,2,33,7,0,5,9,89,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35588994209674624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894483272885652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33088369806421336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500676475261388,0.10597639140041483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750318449971652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354887033857135,0.3268334556533096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328863441463801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247298051953935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491418058502209,0.0,0.0,0.1261160596554208,0.2677710080678986,0.0,0.1980404378352949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840610426008233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566120454127974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064119885927866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821030167545785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499806034588777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923262215774115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784385703696471,0.0,0.0,0.1223986522879283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266756653056217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064969146464965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AwesomeBlossom000,2020/03/04,"Dinnertime and toddlers At what point can you do the whole “this is what is for dinner either eat it or don’t eat” tactic? My kid spits out any food she doesn’t like (I didn’t have this happen with my other kids-they were great and ate anything). I really am not interested in being a short order cook and I’d like my child to have a well-balanced diet. There are no underlying health conditions/concerns at this time, but she is under 2. 

Any advice/eating tactics are welcomed.",1.6290239234449757,4.1689180842105245,3.1802870813397126,87.64382775119617,83.94736842105263,5.559808612440191,19.16267942583732,6.980632752743323,0.4399473684210529,378,10,73,5,11,124,73,95,0.037000000000000005,0.862,0.10099999999999999,0.6993,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,15,9,1,0,0,9,17,5,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,7,5,7,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,8,5,9,13,2,10,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,1,3,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34046048808176044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599694463619425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5122919237103898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30269515727211777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27598526629791864,0.0,0.0,0.2213624290738196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660848009614017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445932495489917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366389547067283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036522671936068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459670865160572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250731104961316,0.0,0.0,0.27948000650201155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cutie_burrito,2020/03/04,"Here ma'am you dropped your dignity I can't believe this needs to be said but here goes.

Please for the live of all that is holy stop posting about your child's bodily functions. I understand they're your moon and stars, but the rest of us don't need to see that. It's not funny. It's not precious. It's disgusting. Leave that talk in your private mom groups, and between your post-natal nurse and SO.

That kid is going to be an adult someday, and they'll be horrified and embarrassed to see that post/photo. Even if you make it private, its not guaranteed to never be released ""into the wild"". Would you make a similar post about your GF's period, or your husband's erectile dysfunction, or your father's hemorrhoids?

Dignity is not a curse word. Don't throw respect for yourself or others out the window in pursuit of authenticity or solidarity.",4.401623407267582,6.260695920245402,5.081595092024539,80.96244926852289,71.39263803680981,8.450967437470505,29.102878716375645,9.057496981413335,2.5040688060405856,677,27,126,14,13,218,100,163,0.149,0.745,0.106,-0.8247,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,11,1,0,6,4,1,1,7,0,12,0,0,2,2,28,21,13,0,4,11,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,4,12,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,8,2,0,0,1,3,15,2,17,14,2,12,0,0,2,0,24,4,0,5,3,85,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19441509764144185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397370691459187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806935515334693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18271524957906526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237291198160682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303691770402885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209921891101013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25590088191043725,0.13308827284494434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941815439144394,0.0,0.0,0.6610559553275472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414329002919026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750146405685855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426719606615768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386965275530168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964018565282305,0.2075674395473142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225810861718097,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hanky86,2020/03/04,"1 year old cries and screams after waking up because of noises for 30 - 60 min Hi, 

We have no real opportunity to ask other parents with experience: since some days every time when our one years old wakes up because of noises (door ringing, other kids outside etc) he starts screaming and crying hard for a long time. We are not able to calm him down. We show him pictures, breastfeed him (then he eats for 2 min and stops and begin again), try to play etc. 

He don’t stop crying hard. Its feeling bad for us then being not able to help and it’s exhausting for us to do and try everything.

It doesn’t matter if it’s during his mid day or night sleep. 
We don’t understand why he is doing that and we don’t really know how to handle. We are  giving him comfort, try soothing speaking etc. 

He had a cold some days ago but he is fine now and happy during the day. 

Did you experienced the same, is it just a phase because of big brain progress in that age? 

Thanks for all your advice. we are first time parents and happy to speak with experienced ones.

Thanks again",3.2810482297184294,4.916791824644548,4.182341789796489,87.18397825480905,73.88151658767772,6.481293560078063,23.31223863953165,7.048011613610866,0.7440859213827711,829,23,168,8,17,267,129,211,0.10099999999999999,0.7490000000000001,0.15,0.9541,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,10,2,0,3,6,13,0,0,5,0,16,6,4,1,1,36,25,16,0,1,6,2,3,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,9,18,1,2,3,2,0,0,7,4,0,3,2,11,17,9,23,22,7,35,0,0,0,0,32,6,0,4,29,103,26,0,0.20629022020504045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007922078355392,0.09143191668606106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964267543794769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612185856147718,0.1886289052805906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514405501039507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399001803791291,0.2660802521362693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554319783984448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451021888284536,0.0,0.0,0.08690420387349414,0.0,0.09270017412505216,0.10089570967514376,0.0,0.0,0.052153266831627625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877351779614998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894618829460763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195997753593234,0.18479551777505887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913599309611168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056685855034678725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912801766534036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679469858983378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646688435501468,0.0,0.13978759204379695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22906087673606326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174017166350423,0.06607739871316551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532270094896241,0.0,0.10321960026748044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300663981553203,0.0,0.0,0.17246786115601187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899243187996324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043422951534785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100862774102934,0.0,0.0,0.1073776972244042,0.2481417350617849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093072418671933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284413832150194
parenting,sighingforlifing,2020/03/04,"How much should I pay a grandparent to watch a kid? Market rate? Childcare costs in the area are in the few hundred a month.  I am planning on sending my kid to full time, ""real"" daycare at around 5 to 6 months of age, so this is a temporary situation.  My mom wants to watch my kid when it's a newborn. 

First, how much should I pay her a month?  Costs are in the few hundred a month for a regular daycare.  Should I just pay her the market rate?

Second, should I pay her bills up to a certain amount every month?  I am concerned about giving my mom straight up cash because she is bad with money. I know I cannot control her spending, but she lives paycheck to paycheck in her retirement and when she had a home she took out a second mortgage on it to pay off her credit cards....In my 20s I gave her a few thousand a year while I still had massive (200k) student loan debt to help her out.   I paid off my student loan debt.  Now, I just have a mortgage but no longer give her money aside from a few hundred as gifts a year.  My mom told me she has already bought my baby over $1000 worth of stuff, despite her living paycheck to paycheck and me telling her not to buy anything.......",3.869875,4.4476475708333325,4.5183333333333335,89.38500000000002,71.20833333333334,6.833333333333332,29.166666666666664,6.322622252153567,1.203041666666667,907,34,196,5,16,290,125,240,0.084,0.853,0.063,-0.4423,5,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,3,11,3,0,0,20,0,15,0,0,3,1,22,24,11,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,4,6,0,1,1,0,21,2,3,1,0,4,7,2,38,2,32,13,8,35,0,0,2,0,30,18,0,0,15,136,42,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485232318754083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075596802206036,0.11981348959827105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237689204167003,0.08204471539407425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095394655853486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133977424521971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448204656426612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582216711447422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021273068334172,0.0,0.13500458025700154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396705456576466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23769058367438226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4728899711737482,0.5371416190039279,0.0,0.19787803254375785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531926999274526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128461583792382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748361765429422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407316298463092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763744979161375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848041627509271,0.0,0.0,0.12860635693753705,0.14953426106664713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938457294237103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334288460423178
parenting,introverted_ray,2020/03/04,"Abusive preteen/Canada I apologize if this is the wrong place for this

Some back story- Had son as a teen, wasn't ready to be a mom. Son was raised by grandparents until abuse came to light and he was placed with me at 12. In that time I matured, married and have a 6yr daughter. 
It's been nine months of trying to get him to go to therapy for his anger, trauma issues. He gives us such attitude about anything. He's had nothing but problems in school. We've been working with the school as he's being bullied.

Husband went to camp, it was just us. He came home from a bad day at school, seemed to relax as we had dinner. Got my little to bed, so I was going to play on my Xbox. He had used my controller previously as his isn't in the best condition. As I was trying to repair my controller to my console he came out of his room and starts swearing at me. I wasn't reconnecting it well enough as it had paused his game in his room. Shocked, I told him to go to his room. He kept swearing at me so I smacked him. He proceeded to punch me in the face and I attempted to put him in a restraining hold. During this he is repeatedly punching, kicking me. I close his door, call my husband to tell him what happened. He comes back out, says he's going to leave so I tell him no and move to block the door. He comes at me again with more punching, kicking except I don't let him leave. He goes to the kitchen for a kitchen knife, points it at me and tells me to move and that he's going to kill himself and it's all my fault. My husband is hearing everything and has called RCMP. He runs to the bathroom and I stay guarding the door until they arrive, search the house to find he'd jumped out a window. They cuffed him a few blocks away and took him to hospital. 

Next day I have to sit with him in the hospital until he can be seen by a psychologist. He seems okay, we talk and apologize. Psychologist makes a plan and after being reluctant he relents and we come home at nine p.m after being there since 11 a.m

He asks for wifi so I say fine, only until 11 tonight and tomorrow it will be cut off at the time the doctor suggested. 
He goes nuts. Says flat out no and that that won't be happening and he's not going to his sessions. I tell him no wifi then and he can go to his room. He starts swearing at me so I smack his mouth. He tells me he's going to do worse to me and break my belongings. I'm scared and call 911. 
The responding officers are the ones that arrested him and they get him calmed down. 

They then proceed to tell me that the emergency line should be for emergencies and to put myself in his shoes as everything is because he's being bullied. 
My face is swollen and bruising from him but yet I'm supposed to put myself in his shoes.

I don't know what to do anymore. I wish the doctor had just admitted him. I know I'm facing an uphill battle in getting him to his sessions.",1.8884812953657184,3.7324470636515934,3.249304857621439,91.45783221663878,78.36348408710218,6.365270798436628,23.283361250697926,7.315561048560121,0.7990332774986046,2255,73,493,29,54,735,252,597,0.161,0.7979999999999999,0.040999999999999995,-0.9974,1,0,0,0,1,0,58.0,5,0,4,6,15,18,4,1,27,1,45,12,6,4,1,69,86,44,1,4,7,7,0,0,0,3,3,4,13,0,18,41,3,8,6,4,0,23,10,11,1,3,24,6,83,7,91,48,6,87,0,0,1,0,97,36,0,4,25,318,101,8,0.0,0.1686603025379483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058598495939514,0.0,0.0,0.058570554116194565,0.0,0.06653855541599793,0.0,0.06687079146731564,0.10945760380788573,0.059427739690067025,0.04338731834278463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469325310636578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21803138575642034,0.2442140218578812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18393160452954505,0.0,0.0,0.15965652151943213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180333671813408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570024597221054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354229101742753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793411357222328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505220920363437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155722556179462,0.06827707180864911,0.3236008965841793,0.0,0.05692475449828448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587876149578958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021884125809123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278766580419155,0.0,0.0,0.08212582404698937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428769272327546,0.0,0.0,0.07874404569567459,0.0,0.07823129443276106,0.0,0.0,0.15072705049129131,0.0,0.07278075477820528,0.0,0.0,0.07133555339508615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750953554695414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833587214072923,0.05681081177975636,0.15129447233171314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569489476797665,0.0,0.0,0.06829385825627197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048229687390861406,0.05413141918766176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872442045050738,0.0,0.06728291396325348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810439007678329,0.0,0.21465011169129547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980247212343585,0.0712580971682334,0.21609720020590456,0.0,0.12958919457763926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058876287000109565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075536359928512,0.07586255350685021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05720737201632455,0.37325793321070333,0.0,0.08139425072405422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830048538348062,0.0,0.0,0.06801029076100276,0.07907749520355188,0.0966456353430248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122833487118366,0.06147192111929491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399442876055983,0.06597948028559449,0.0,0.0,0.08184716952544545,0.0,0.0,0.051815888175362264,0.0,0.07253290239446035,0.0,0.07781814933471784,0.0,0.0
parenting,hon3y_bee123,2020/03/04,"22 month old power struggle. Desperately need help My daughter is great but she will not for the life of her let me brush her teeth, or try ""new"" food.  Even if I let her ""brush"" them first, she screams and kicks and crys when I do it. But at the moment we dont have dental insurance for her and I'm so worried about her teeth going bad. Especially considering she hates eating anything good. 

All of a sudden she will only eat sugary things and pasta. Chicken nuggets arent even on the table anymore and literally 2 weeks ago she was devouring them. She all of a sudden It's like everything she liked before (fruit, veggie pouches, eggs, rice, beans, avacado, edamame, chicken nuggets) she refuses to touch for no reason.

 Meal times are so stressful because if she doesnt want what's offered she sits at the high chair and screams, then we put her down and she screams and asks for ""cookie"" which means lucky charms but she only eats the marshmellows. Other then meal time, and teeth brushing time, she is a really pleasant toddler who handles the word ""no"" extremely well. And tbh we dont say no very often and try to keep her entertained with lots of toys, crafts and activities and quality time together. She has no problem going to bed or napping. She even tucks herself in. I'm so worried about her nutrition and oral hygiene. Please help.

Ps. We do have her first dental exam scheduled april 1st and we floss her teeth every morning and night too, which is also a nightmare.",3.4545161290322604,5.951201046594987,3.834982078853045,85.97247311827957,76.168458781362,6.570609318996418,26.46236559139785,7.662118739084242,1.592088172043011,1168,45,216,17,27,364,167,279,0.146,0.728,0.125,-0.7013,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,5,0,2,3,13,17,1,2,10,0,18,14,4,1,2,43,28,30,0,5,8,1,1,2,0,2,1,4,1,0,8,22,9,2,2,3,0,3,9,8,1,2,1,9,37,9,19,23,3,30,0,0,0,0,41,6,0,7,22,138,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284669381588052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278292395754137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506286185013798,0.0,0.0,0.09547639776698634,0.0,0.10846510980817124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968737038373508,0.07072606579614363,0.0,0.0987263600993676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27195434536520585,0.0,0.0,0.356159074839942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298947376650741,0.0,0.09775372070322892,0.0,0.10427328629294183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19737687476617824,0.14029452373137455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187619780210427,0.0973139298713632,0.0,0.1279149023759741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114547917825456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553449104707706,0.1225838409221918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312587619064413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372811525463812,0.0819499221157325,0.11336518814054353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863793877310004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638220594798827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260782563519693,0.0,0.0,0.0860290028107777,0.0,0.11205497887900033,0.0,0.10887898985045268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174579831340138,0.0,0.0,0.17648024636405682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735755199356524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101759125838756,0.0,0.11663437230426588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743268022799617,0.11929016118652533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922655226954288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290305605744376,0.12129161094717394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708000470254296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27061394794389626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754293708999434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573047876117732,0.06843290883700734,0.0,0.09306602306223473,0.0,0.10431790559968247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23565238374045264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yahabibishousar,2020/03/04,"Languages for the kids. Hi, first post here!

This was a quick question about how to teach my kids languages. I speak 4, French Arabic Farsi and English, and my SO speak 2, Bengali and English. How would I go about teaching my kids all 5?",1.907608695652172,4.374768456521739,2.1066956521739115,96.34482608695652,81.82608695652175,3.68,24.417391304347824,3.1291,0.006718260869565285,183,7,37,0,5,55,34,46,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,3,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,0,4,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,2,24,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4408206904270073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29453175117338404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4963374334463849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5805553214312864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36814784714821736,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cenodd,2020/03/04,"Any Parents with Experience Dealing with a Lying Issue? Hello! I (27F) am stepmom to an eight year old girl that my husband (30M) has from a previous relationship. 

Stepdaughters mom is pretty uninvolved in her life; pretty much just showing up for obligatory holidays or birthdays. I by no means try to push her away. Instead I encourage husband to message her back when she shows interest in visiting her daughter. I don’t want to impede on any relationship they might have or ever be accused in doing so.

We have all been together for about 3 years now. For the first 5-6 months of our relationship we were living with my MIL (>60) who took care of husbands daughter while he was working. 

MIL also took the liberty of telling his daughter to call her mom. Which he had never liked and I put my foot down on. Instead of conceding that she wasn’t stepdaughters mom MIL told stepdaughter that she should only call to MIL as mom when we’re not there, and to cal her grandma like we wanted when we were there. This has made it hard for me to trust her (in addition to later events) and contributed to us buying our own house.

TLDR (skip here); Since the beginning we have had problems with stepdaughter lying and taking things that don’t belong to her. After moving into the new house we have had issues with her waking up at night while we’re sleeping and getting into things; stealing candy, playing with things, getting into kitchen stuff, and most recently turning our thermostat (set at 72) up to a blazing 90 degrees. As for lying she likes to pretend to brush teeth or be using soap in the shower. She lied about messing with the thermostat before finally telling the truth.

We have tried different approaches, but are reaching our limits as to what we can do. We are going to look into counseling but was wondering if other parents had had any similar experiences or advice that could help.",7.614971590909088,7.7914373721590975,7.532522727272727,72.4056590909091,63.0625,10.562727272727274,35.78181818181818,10.241411754978122,3.7611290909090918,1513,64,255,31,20,485,206,352,0.061,0.855,0.084,0.8189,4,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,14,0,1,3,17,12,0,0,11,0,32,6,4,2,4,52,49,23,0,6,9,12,1,3,0,2,1,0,2,1,15,27,1,1,2,5,1,8,6,3,0,2,15,3,39,9,58,29,4,49,0,0,1,0,60,18,0,8,25,193,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945845976681048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320993169768257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676486128066294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860112189928138,0.07039382759624031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778995721555728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695900812208452,0.0,0.09333804961119507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730926593996374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438071657097803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564690664084798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280930909894042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791006463385574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028502930299348,0.0,0.07786964941386433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565883447250724,0.0,0.05202814818629893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820079386441321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061361880939433525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21126539949877626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911021199865873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466220231934762,0.134175406313915,0.0,0.08083748926217313,0.0,0.07687624360162579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662378243185183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972128782542686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971166729385467,0.0,0.4288739573497013,0.07307177118632513,0.0972997455734134,0.06729742122594642,0.0,0.07060652505166427,0.08841645639310658,0.0,0.08591045712152763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606295209108368,0.0,0.0,0.06962545601718266,0.0,0.0,0.2033037440659991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627198607274925,0.0,0.08759791054857342,0.0,0.09202980533255073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039140689884816,0.2948609632411849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757284474062987,0.0,0.09161290000454587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479916760540574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883178994183045,0.0,0.16003185212227522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824588503627847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747687718439336,0.20342369540160954,0.12430851682459115,0.09957661485809284,0.0,0.0,0.11011951171221447,0.07906702991372408,0.0,0.0,0.107993332568904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992785843039878,0.0666471505326291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179062574230108
parenting,purpleunicorn30,2020/03/04,"My daughter has a crush on everyone in her class. My daughter 10, told me this morning while getting ready for school that something in her brain is making her have a crush on everyone and she doesn’t know how to make it stop. She has a crush on the girls in her class and boys also she said she has a crush on her male teacher also. Is this normal? What can I do or say?",1.5925824175824204,3.3295290641025663,2.6736630036630054,95.74038461538464,78.87179487179488,5.482783882783883,21.399267399267398,6.1826913282559595,0.047572893772893636,289,8,66,2,7,92,50,78,0.11599999999999999,0.852,0.032,-0.5362,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,3,0,9,15,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,13,0,9,13,0,9,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,1,2,48,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40572514533499204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831834739141689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847917200039227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253391178946586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941229835153973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386580059675635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24854612880943303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413015491413565,0.2017313154635131,0.0,0.25673108241810205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529022128853105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21208236958606666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423958600019613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imstandingstill,2020/03/04,"Worrying parents made me hesitate being open with them. How do I prevent this from happening with my own kid? My parents are successful high stress, anxious (dad more than mom) type A personalities. To this day, they worry so much about me and my sister and they cant help it. Because of this, from a very young age, I started hiding my problems from them because I didn't want them to stress or worry and I continue to do so because I am an adult now and as they get older they worry even more. I am expecting a baby in May and this has made me and my husband think about how we foster an open environment where the child can come to us with her problems and not have to worry about us getting worked up. Any advice?",6.084003496503499,5.7344248391608446,6.646984265734265,79.24432255244757,66.34265734265736,9.387762237762237,31.86101398601399,8.841846274778883,2.449084615384616,564,20,112,8,8,185,89,143,0.225,0.743,0.031,-0.9782,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,7,2,10,5,0,2,6,0,12,0,0,4,0,27,21,13,0,4,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,5,14,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,25,1,19,16,4,14,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,2,7,87,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100846088258528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421088577288223,0.0,0.0,0.13989637352447531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264628783924993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667141710760257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798622296150041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179072223211054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939556929007925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950537217503233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300284611088421,0.13083667314237196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234348112302181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503205629403496,0.0,0.0,0.09103171891340904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27500443474235675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081264551139132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369834750038014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764984226461002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837012378498933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934737408725054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29791240895879323,0.0,0.0,0.10217543572801756,0.07304008471534501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901521122673691,0.6287936010717866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lowselfconfidence1,2020/03/04,"My 9 (almost 10) year old son has low self-confidence, and it is interrupting his life My 9 year old son is generally a smart, hardworking boy. However, recently a few problems have come up that are preventing him from his full potential.

First is his poor self-confidence. He says that he feels like a disaster, and as a defense for his low self-esteem, he has decided that he doesn't care what the world thinks of him anymore, which is now starting to prevent which opportunities he has. He takes private tennis lessons, and tennis is just a nightmare. Yes, his teacher is strict (the strictest activity he has now), but that doesn't mean my son's behavior at tennis is excusable. My son is so unfocused and uncooperative that his teacher makes me sit on the court to help. Add to this that my son's strength, agility, and physical flexibility is lacking a little. Anyone watching would think that we are pushing our son to do tennis when he really hates it, but that's not the case. Whenever I ask him if he would like to quit tennis, he says that he likes tennis and doesn't want to quit. In his other activities, the activity is in a group so my son blends in and causes less trouble. Also, his behavior at school has recently been playing up (over the past month) because there is a boy who picks on him, and his teacher sided with this boy. My son says that since he feels like the teacher doesn't care about him (due to her siding with this boy), he doesn't feel obligated to behave in school and care about his teacher. **We would like to give my son some ways to increase his self-esteem and positive self-talk**. I try to be a positive role model (some people would think I am crazy if they saw me being so positive in light of what is happening), but that doesn't seem to be helping. My solution is to just clear the slate -- we will take a month off from tennis and be less busy to give my son some time for personal rejuvenation. 

Second is my son's rigidity when trying new things (doing a new topic in homework or when his tennis teacher makes him try something new). My son is generally good at things and is glad when he just does them, but getting him to do them is nothing short of painful. If we could somehow increase my son's remembrance of how he feels after he tries something, this would probably resolve this problem, but we don't know how to. 

We really need some answers; these are seriously interrupting my son's life.",7.269999999999996,6.69743533757962,7.490933333333331,74.9124,63.989384288747345,10.93302760084926,34.55125265392781,10.355215969177356,3.3734344118895976,1928,74,372,40,25,628,207,471,0.09300000000000001,0.753,0.154,0.9879,1,0,2,0,0,0,65.0,7,0,3,7,20,25,2,1,19,1,49,3,0,6,1,79,77,32,0,14,13,14,4,5,0,6,3,3,1,5,27,22,0,4,14,1,1,4,8,10,0,2,2,10,49,15,45,64,11,52,0,2,2,0,77,23,0,11,28,239,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123828169620019,0.0,0.0,0.06487827875168997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804574819014818,0.056726799416190216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584401664456522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049455063669176534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481471513654971,0.08334112033598742,0.0,0.06988485391757476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477435262218824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099592921437026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408364102269501,0.1159161591676323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900769750518675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0423861925837963,0.15565133142197166,0.0,0.06804657580640461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174149500537919,0.0,0.0,0.0800974082958028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875718974185568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044585996494730384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460664665271375,0.19817596717165525,0.08131187798142918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830755138192873,0.0,0.0,0.0883725112015143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295116831820832,0.0,0.0,0.06015561255260377,0.0,0.2350626767880261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778447997544731,0.0,0.1702610243979465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863262398891751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744615003034992,0.056244153894900735,0.07083810945005696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747003781867084,0.15525766864814186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257988408979333,0.0,0.0,0.10394574327594587,0.0,0.160208833898599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354946078257965,0.0,0.16421235825146865,0.0,0.07385616481342472,0.42317259436325616,0.0,0.0,0.06711017489467297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491307043614774,0.0,0.0,0.05742303410464562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199678243833695,0.06520786104043917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077960861324352,0.1559512322191354,0.0,0.0,0.047306568924346766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203231834461678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04785157813465831,0.06439587483228372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881561122798133,0.0,0.0,0.1044879411614142
parenting,picmejker,2020/03/04,"What to do when your child just won’t stop talking/demanding things as soon as you wake up/ come back home? I just feel my resentment and anger bubbling inside. 
I like peace and quiet when I’m transitioning from activities and my 3.5y old just won’t shut up/stop moving/ stop demanding things asap. She even pretends she’s a baby and can’t do things for herself to get attention. 
My only reaction that I stop myself from is to yell at her to leave me the hell alone. I go to another room and she follows me and repeats her sentences until I respond. I feel so angry and just don’t enjoy being with her at all. 

Any advice?",2.9034181818181817,4.879725320000002,4.22901818181818,84.98250909090909,75.8,7.105454545454546,24.96363636363636,8.00094639256281,1.4897999999999998,495,17,97,8,11,163,82,125,0.215,0.7070000000000001,0.077,-0.9477,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,10,5,3,0,2,0,8,1,1,0,1,20,15,13,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,2,1,5,9,0,3,3,1,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,4,21,2,15,12,1,19,1,0,0,0,11,5,1,0,11,69,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699395111262468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19819037320596905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013078707483464,0.2006567584512774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714337794853816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483896754201305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639091682504494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935138764732641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997726019132216,0.0,0.10875381740071788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919488344792549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262171458124556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348841698587378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203384497278992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20079924261918644,0.0,0.0,0.14553726000435305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6399392867775789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813915579783151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chris12312,2020/03/04,"My kid has no rules at his other parent's house and he's acting like a brat now I'll try to keep it brief. He spends 50% at my place and 50% at his other parent's house. He's 4yrs old and has literally no rules at his other parent's house. He stays up as long as he wants, he eats what he wants even if it means just eating Doritos, he plays video games/watches TV all day and he bosses his grandma around and is extremely rude to her. I was honestly floored when I found out about this, but I obviously have no control over there. He's now acting like a complete brat and I have no idea how to fix this. I'm very firm with him and don't let him act like a brat, but now I feel like I'm spending more time trying to fix his attitude rather than enjoying his company",3.1687272727272737,3.57235156969697,4.420000000000002,90.09000000000002,72.69696969696969,7.696969696969697,23.484848484848484,7.686295010490155,0.7600303030303035,599,14,141,7,11,198,95,165,0.067,0.8140000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.8642,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,11,8,1,0,3,0,8,2,0,3,2,27,16,14,0,4,5,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,10,2,2,4,3,2,4,5,1,0,0,2,1,16,7,17,13,2,23,0,0,0,0,23,10,0,1,12,77,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262475821856289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869288004452838,0.0,0.15906030980562194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914605118576316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902292769199508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366907681661796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170715513341339,0.10131440229014887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549549505752425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4909148298473812,0.0,0.1600946194929023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260538503420036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14501793340774155,0.0,0.27713933665773005,0.0,0.0,0.12550396524578972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448075946534642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488135394068781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4724144283080941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481690329175814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115851389730425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269488549973014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19256945538741027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701423433844794,0.1672951923930552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PurpleButterfly1982,2020/03/04,Bike carrier VS bike trailer Just wanted your guys opinion what do you think is better ? A bike carrier thing that goes on the back of a bike or a trailer that is a separate item that's attached to a bike?,3.7371428571428567,4.765244142857147,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,71.85714285714286,8.457142857142857,30.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.4403238095238096,162,7,33,3,3,54,29,42,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.504,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078969935661253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691556601590161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5252465209847631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524192345356824,0.33990234621345833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128836517649124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TruthOf42,2020/03/04,"5MO won't take naps My 5MO just doesn't want to nap. He's our first btw. We try to have him nap at 9am, 12pm, and 3pm. He fights it every damn time and it doesn't matter how tired he is. The one thing that does seem to work is driving him in the car and he quickly passes out. We also have an electric swing that sometimes works, but I don't think putting him in his crib has ever worked for naps. I'm worried that doing naps in the car or swing will just produce bad habits that stop him from napping when we are away from home. Also, the places he is napping means we can't go and do things around the house as I'm not leaving my son in the car and if he really really tried he could get out of the swing.

Am I better off taking him in the car during the day to nap so he at least naps and/or the swing or should I just be trying to get him to do good habits, even if it doesn't work, until it finally starts napping in the crib?",3.0238050784167285,2.9686019854368944,3.993883495145632,94.65212471994026,72.83495145631069,6.9209858103062,21.67139656460045,5.8734145424116955,-0.0613483196415241,723,12,181,3,13,234,113,206,0.078,0.8759999999999999,0.046,-0.5852,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,5,0,0,7,12,5,2,0,12,0,21,1,0,2,1,32,33,17,0,5,9,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,10,12,0,1,3,10,0,8,7,3,0,2,0,0,17,2,25,28,1,32,0,0,0,0,22,14,1,5,10,110,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371123596246965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319747193746329,0.0,0.0,0.13928658732943586,0.0,0.12378329719900615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311158610092752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836626902658948,0.0,0.0,0.09560955685094484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973534920829538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791831188321387,0.13410141372910306,0.12490776529441446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240159894738246,0.0,0.12610212772711615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490993800122907,0.0,0.08425439484290093,0.12434580929304555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870772609535104,0.0,0.0,0.17106161766776612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697628232368738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614886758721628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045863698087128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489062206796464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903308739798565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994662724818706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496203851805685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662391682111134,0.0,0.10493274001205896,0.0,0.0,0.12394437876367967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22293243214179226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969826021355641,0.09499318151196323,0.0,0.0,0.08644628371177325,0.17039258464029985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30195786004255465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874422134925922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317136420864674,0.15055597079871294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SteamedDadTA,2020/03/04,"My daughter (13) took a credit card from someone on Instagram and purchased a Steam game with it. She also gave them her Steam login information and the game was something we told her was inappropriate for her right now. What's the appropriate response here?

📷",5.489680851063831,7.952804297872338,5.813776595744681,74.30875,69.85106382978725,8.104255319148937,30.89893617021277,8.841846274778883,2.784919148936171,210,9,35,4,4,67,39,47,0.0,0.9420000000000001,0.057999999999999996,0.3818,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,1,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,1,24,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639938890575953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887069311770812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856583472904934,0.3504069095004651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349279939291197,0.5057031218214029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RMMBLopes,2020/03/04,"My Mother Sold my Retro gaming collection. Not only without my consent, without my knowledge. The games were showcased on my younger brother’s room as “ornaments” and i noticed the collection was much smaller, i asked her “wow there’s a lot of games missing here” expecting her to tell me they were in the garage or something. “Oh yeah we sold them” When i got pissed she claimed she didn’t have to tell me about it because i didn’t play with them anymore. The fact that she sold my property without as much as consulting me is just wow. The fact that she probably sold a Mint Condition day 1 Budokai Tenkaichi 3 signed by Sean Schemmel for like 5$ makes me want to punch through a wall. I’m heartbroken, she not only sold my property without consent, she sold my childhood.",3.8660914760914804,6.07320664864865,3.9986486486486505,86.6715072765073,73.72972972972974,7.256548856548858,33.00623700623701,8.139509932561175,2.577291476091477,616,32,116,10,13,190,94,148,0.092,0.802,0.105,0.2425,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,3,0,5,6,1,0,8,1,7,1,1,1,2,19,19,6,0,2,8,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,4,6,0,8,2,0,0,12,1,28,4,18,7,3,7,0,1,0,0,21,4,1,2,4,75,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960470477318993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693060967896034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103982115761216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679592767558025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448439620390941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847738019091794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539666021505042,0.0,0.0,0.12088711534918264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662618889968172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061860389492413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754727462610756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952587869722132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139421310534352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165825857032092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068187614214689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6983041781251755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kanthas,2020/03/04,"Need help/advice on 2.6 Year with Expressive Language Disorder My husband and I (40 years) are long time lurkers here and need advice on how to help our 2.6 year old daughter with Mild (?) Expressive Language Disorder. We are a tri-lingual family. She has limited vocabulary and its mostly in English. She says just two sentences. (I don't want to go out/ house). She just started early intervention but our country has poor access for this. Our therapist might not be a very specialised professional. I need to help her more than therapy. 

Trouble is she doesn't repeat sounds/ words even when she can, while I am trying to teach. She is not willing to keep eye contact or repeat when I try to teach. But she is willing to work with therapist. When you push her to say the word eg; water when thirsty, she gives up and leaves and stays thirsty. She doesn't ask for things, just opens fridge and gets stuff or says ""this/that"". With sounds she doesn't know, she is not even willing to try or modify (as in 'ba' instead of 'wa').

I am extremely worried and is losing sleep over what I have read about prognosis from various sites. 

My questions are:

1. Please give me directions on how to make her repeat.
2. Is 30 minutes with Therapist/ 5 days a week sufficient at this age?
3. How did you help your child to overcome ELD.
4. Is there any literature that can help me on specifics.",3.243563218390804,5.650526950191572,3.7628260536398455,86.67977931034487,76.43295019157087,7.241134099616858,26.915095785440606,8.238735603445708,1.8841695325670504,1078,43,208,20,25,338,158,261,0.079,0.8590000000000001,0.062,-0.5867,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,4,3,0,3,17,2,0,0,4,0,27,3,2,4,0,42,40,21,0,4,11,2,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,1,7,15,1,2,2,1,1,2,7,2,0,1,1,6,32,0,33,34,3,34,0,1,1,0,38,12,0,6,19,138,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21224874306192876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385291295775072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152797450364442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003914325608608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489340247358197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346086101150587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238006299070647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056739931115747426,0.20836138573893212,0.061720876288095264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639673132999337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253118363902562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653022383941694,0.0,0.0,0.05968468068549925,0.0,0.0,0.11499357059689062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610912974923666,0.0,0.1214975770981707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249251029774262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520929275606892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24158046083373594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395926606214216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921210714226513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165881277554387,0.0,0.1086311374770868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590934076134005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868017918545204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686887641803355,0.11575501376714604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243230190647448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419556391914315,0.37828500077167865,0.0721501759046854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633265527868129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949338331633204,0.0,0.10608812763948366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960781604403334,0.06405612492258304,0.0,0.08711377173110392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906336620417552,0.11029034705463088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20980789577422512
parenting,PM_ME_FURRY_PORN_,2020/03/04,"Anyone else use the metal part of the belt when spanking your kids? My sons got into my sex toy drawer and started using my dildos as lightsabers. I got so angry with them that I grabbed their wrists, laid them on the bed, and proceeded to smack those ass cheeks with the belt. One of my boys started to giggle however since im a relatively weak and short person so i must have not been hitting them hard enough. So I flipped the belt around and that immediately made him stop laughing at my wimpy attempt to punish them. I dont like being disrespected as a mother. 

Am I a bad parent? How would you punish your kid in this situation?",4.5267921146953425,5.8556450483871,5.104301075268818,83.0070071684588,70.29032258064515,7.446594982078854,25.87455197132617,7.793537801064563,1.3495315412186382,502,15,98,6,9,161,88,124,0.21100000000000002,0.727,0.062,-0.9618,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,5,1,6,7,2,0,8,0,7,5,3,4,1,16,15,11,0,2,1,3,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,4,4,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,1,4,2,20,3,14,7,2,11,0,0,0,2,16,6,1,0,6,66,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394613048647473,0.21093380577062676,0.0,0.18326417817572502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188931592771184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24127314501611136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197443171154767,0.0,0.0,0.21271436808247332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292993191763111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441529053966899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223703544581377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057561478299344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479516579652587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949997116259508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22858957101963695,0.2229325635419824,0.0,0.0,0.17975404661033675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702942893267064,0.23140174687448095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914256980906801,0.0,0.0,0.17211299877173708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35560384847428306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462411338753122,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RubySoho222,2020/03/04,"Do you disclose when your child is sick when hosting or attending functions? The reason I ask is because I have a cousin with a 3 year old girl who is constantly sick and they never disclose to us she is sick until we are at the function. 

Last year at my grandmothers birthday, my cousin, her partner and her toddler all had the stomach flu 3 days before the event. They didn’t tell anyone and got 12 of us sick, including my SIL who ended up going into labour a month before her due date. Flu induced labour, great. I confronted my cousin about it and ended up being the bad person. 

Fast forward to this year at my grandmothers birthday (last night)... I noticed my cousins little girl has a nasty cough and looked pretty lethargic. I was there with my son from 2pm. We were eating dinner when my cousin and aunt were discussing how her daughter came home yesterday saying she wasn’t feeling well and wasn’t acting like herself. I asked if she had a fever or diarrhea and they immediately went into defensive saying “no not at all, it’s just a cold” and then goes on to say “It’s actually probably just her sinuses!”.  

I have a job interview Thursday. I’m grieving the loss of my brother 6 months ago. Getting sick right now, even just a cold would devastate my chances at this job and dealing with a sick child is never fun. 

I know I can’t protect my son or my family from germs all the time, I just want the option to attend or not attend events where there will be sick people! Especially little people who don’t cover their mouths when they cough and touch absolutely everything.",4.897752608047688,6.278450740983608,5.330916542473922,81.53521236959763,69.45901639344262,8.03725782414307,28.617734724292106,8.438071523408619,2.063950819672131,1256,45,233,19,22,401,171,305,0.16899999999999998,0.768,0.063,-0.9883,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,4,2,5,1,16,9,2,0,17,0,24,17,2,3,5,44,36,23,1,3,11,10,2,1,1,2,13,3,1,6,8,19,2,2,4,0,0,8,10,5,1,0,11,8,42,4,23,21,3,53,0,2,1,0,48,15,0,6,33,154,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.11727173038206695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652631128845166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402791163797495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469148249036336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033962150613594,0.0732564812894759,0.0,0.2045171230715262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744615251793352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298645616657527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750178710597648,0.12389331605041864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296720833349807,0.0,0.0,0.21287561242407066,0.0,0.0,0.07937328036338928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800394395368107,0.0,0.11328861943371515,0.0,0.06076319231381287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278554901309863,0.0,0.06829721198308075,0.0,0.0961135044084853,0.13249140252703864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205435409226234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385067614474051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604406052002641,0.19591443198570244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058710566538740384,0.2408902800249048,0.0,0.0,0.10091524086005887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19184224004366315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853699959327824,0.0,0.0,0.1127744289606962,0.0,0.0,0.1368180108064653,0.126101582151121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662596311698588,0.1049306229635747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225937077143742,0.1295670597396666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355808799216066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262727576531147,0.0,0.2866997108173632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050366936884205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007397269686733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891071812878012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088128046387084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805015963629544,0.11140178161840238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853676096299554,0.0,0.0,0.2321628465955562
parenting,skippy925,2020/03/04,Am I wrong to deny my child's mother an overnight visit because she wasn't able to do the scheduled day? My child usually goes to her mother's and spends the night every other Wednesday. Her mother isn't able to do that today and wants to do it tomorrow. I have no problem with her taking her for the day tomorrow but my daughter's been excited all week to see her grandfather Friday morning. He usually babysits multiple times a week but hasn't been able to for a couple weeks because of various appointments. I told the mother that I'm hesitant to agree to the overnight because of how excited our daughter has been for Friday and now she wants me to give up a day of my weekend so she can have the overnight. Am I being unreasonable to not want to force my kid to give up what she wants or to not want to give up a day of mine in place of it?,7.7052167630057795,5.7046380982659,7.98594653179191,76.32377528901736,63.97109826589595,11.42456647398844,36.653901734104046,10.125756701596842,3.4426075144508665,673,26,137,12,8,222,87,173,0.075,0.87,0.055999999999999994,0.3493,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,11,0,16,0,0,1,1,17,28,8,0,6,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,2,0,0,5,1,21,2,28,22,2,24,0,0,1,0,25,5,0,1,18,96,27,0,0.40092508402598576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444002099701498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787199325259345,0.0,0.3447513486561386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259889168299247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846038732872252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541367731611888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962712675095768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787705309918715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649512800769884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048192248173314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792754688322379,0.0,0.12667670023900973,0.12770036635128298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943748918569308,0.0,0.3941266702821147,0.0,0.3215979189773789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611621370277167,0.0,0.0
parenting,aimzay,2020/03/04,"Any ideas? Any tips on setting up a group?

Hello! 

I’m in the middle of my speech and language assistant exams. I’ll be qualified in April. Living in Ireland. The last few months I’ve noticed so many people or heard of many people diagnosed with asd, sensory disorders, anxiety and depression ...many interlinked. A lot of these are teenagers/ young adults and parents are upset they’ve not many places to turn to for their children to interact or make friends. I also work in a cafe. I’m pitching an idea to my boss to use the cafe for April to try and bring these teens young adults together and try and build friendships and a support group for them that’s not monthly or two hours away. I’m on this to get tips and to check to see if this isn’t just a mad idea of mine? This is something that I’ve so much passion for I’m open to guidance and help!",2.834561403508772,4.779373625730997,3.5542456140350858,89.88505263157896,75.90058479532162,6.899181286549709,26.019883040935675,7.793537801064563,1.4007876023391814,674,25,139,10,15,213,102,171,0.065,0.845,0.09,0.6488,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,2,1,4,6,1,1,9,0,5,2,0,3,0,25,17,16,0,1,7,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,3,7,11,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,1,3,6,3,27,15,3,21,0,1,1,1,13,11,0,5,8,77,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661316491542873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131959689428112,0.0,0.10198676527953177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525524969651325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482531474940785,0.13531345140311682,0.0,0.0,0.15279227051000438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300000495329104,0.0,0.06965237406141397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935924649037487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312899078264018,0.0,0.0,0.4514943374913898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108670749202581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772092083962522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334092939501215,0.0,0.0,0.08898980567334376,0.5406480653196132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21282393280519213,0.0,0.09800297447582527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178173029979194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480322074574383,0.0,0.0,0.1848497638994348,0.0,0.13928737802215607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623599795749937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263356268645374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128599572463333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810263183872359,0.1450100801271753,0.13023085866541606,0.0,0.0,0.1151426603479789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705600710324808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gabfrog85,2020/03/04,"New Mum Support Annoys Me Being a first time mother to a six month old boy has been a total delight, but is also on some days super tough. We all know this. That’s why there are endless parenting support groups, cultural references, memes etc...
But I REALLY can’t stand the contrived words of support that new mothers offer one another. Always to the tune of “you’re doing amazing mumma” that all the mothers group attendees or group chat members coo at each other if someone conceded to having a shit day.
Why do I hate it so much? Am I a bad person? It’s so irritating? I mean do you really know if Karen’s an amazing mother? She could be smoking crack in her kitchen. I also don’t care for anyone to tell me that either. Not unless it’s the baby himself, my husband or someone who’s really actually seen me at work.",2.7518518518518533,4.9064462839506175,4.71953086419753,80.46188888888892,76.90123456790123,7.03604938271605,26.2320987654321,8.021203637495839,1.9047106172839507,646,25,116,11,15,221,113,162,0.129,0.6970000000000001,0.174,0.8543,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,3,5,12,3,0,10,0,14,2,1,0,3,21,23,11,0,3,9,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,10,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,3,5,0,3,2,1,14,7,12,18,8,13,0,0,1,0,22,4,1,5,8,83,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.14125117924857414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315065873479375,0.12044023590549212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177876199688992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120974227966154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208568323919319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757815527291532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556787272846775,0.0,0.0,0.18669834216525133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16143000971720578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312084150158205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290667082079964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909719077948353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767078656581218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553484606891773,0.0,0.1064049368989418,0.0,0.0,0.2795931045188199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518865384345056,0.0,0.09808361003988968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072326149044813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638659107872205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27818390944749233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485796501402416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452855681028769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49276800775298996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651435089704666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440253457348569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612214341778502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053767843957819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sanja_ljubicic,2020/03/04,"Kid's essay in primary school (word count) Hi!
Please can you share your view on your kid's essay. 
My kid have some diffilcuties with sitting down and writing about the subject that is pretty boring to her.. Otherwise, she is good in school. 
What is your view on that.. How long essay shoul be (word count) in primary school? 
Thank you in advance for any comment.",2.4911764705882358,5.275364294117646,2.6485294117647062,91.21338235294121,82.52941176470588,5.752941176470588,21.735294117647058,7.1686216300943375,0.8042882352941181,284,9,54,4,8,86,47,68,0.03,0.7929999999999999,0.177,0.8777,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,5,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,3,11,6,1,10,0,0,2,0,14,7,0,1,1,32,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18011401124220652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22215216067116275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23439293296441305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907369519508661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694580315876232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8041579556829939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24384767732071505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PurpleMonkey-919,2020/03/04,"Toddler too attached to daycare educator My child is very fond of one of the educators at daycare and is becoming possessive of her and upset when other children are interacting with her. I was told that she had to be separated from this particular educator today as she was not able to do anything as my child was so intent on being her BFF.

Could anyone who has worked in childcare or has had a similar experience she’d any light on this situation? Is this normal? Is there anything I could be doing to help the situation? My daughters has just tuned 2.",5.138785714285714,6.920294152380954,6.947797619047616,68.62741071428572,69.3809523809524,9.821428571428571,33.125,10.125756701596842,3.758071428571428,446,21,76,12,8,155,72,105,0.04,0.86,0.099,0.8208,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,3,0,21,0,0,1,0,10,22,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,1,11,1,15,10,0,6,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,2,65,17,1,0.2274415556411486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546680571392523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903242398386344,0.0,0.3743300420323775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511913290301472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631871501832722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22248148402986365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244928048403086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22284443411362384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412028433616742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5113076759365461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558800070474332,0.2173301532088565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876631030105852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655801613226101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mm12414,2020/03/04,"Raising my niece need help on some questions Hello this is my first time on here.. anyways I am a 22 year old women who is raising my niece. She is 2 and a half. I’ve been raising her since 7 months old. The reason why I got her is because her mom gave her cow milk at 7 months because she ran out formula. I thought my niece was only going to stay with us for a bit but her mom never asked for my niece back so it’s been 2 years. Her bio mom has 4 kids including my niece and 4 different baby daddies. 2 of her kids got token away from her by their dads. Her mom hasn’t seen one of her kids for 3 years and there isn’t no custody agreement or anything. She chooses my bro over her kids, She is married to a gang member (my bro who is in jail atm) but my questions are 1. My niece calls me mom and her bio mom mom. I do not correct her because I feel like I should be called mom since I physically take care of my niece. Her mom barely sees her and when she does she hugs her for a bit and then gets frustrated when my niece cries. Her bio mom only has my niece half sister with her and she spanks the crap out of her all the time  and that little girl has some problems already. Her bio mom also gets money from welfare for my niece and never gives my money for her and when I ask she says she has no money. Anyways I’m rambling on.... should I get custody for my niece ? I have a bond with my niece and see her as my daughter and it’s been 2 years since she has stood more than a week with her bio mom. LasT time she did my niece ended up getting croup. I always take my niece to her dr appointments, dentist appointments etc. I have documentation for everything. Receipts. Idk what to do. I love my niece so much and I feel like her bio mom would cause her hurt and pain in the future. But I can tell my niece loves her mom.",1.1298062015503874,2.899990656330747,2.475885012919896,96.45863372093024,80.42118863049095,5.230232558139536,20.05232558139535,5.985473137389443,-0.21791007751937969,1412,36,331,9,36,455,175,387,0.079,0.84,0.081,0.4118,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,1,1,11,12,2,0,11,0,29,8,1,2,4,44,55,26,0,5,5,19,2,2,0,3,3,1,0,6,7,20,1,0,7,0,4,2,7,5,0,4,12,6,78,7,36,39,8,38,0,1,3,3,81,12,1,5,25,206,85,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05773703486576324,0.04184072993808328,0.04353489412054636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04305535980152517,0.0,0.09782531469400567,0.0,0.049156884893495664,0.040231278208602915,0.0,0.09568237642242454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424099306091942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685027546031264,0.0,0.05334429408917278,0.05374762363936048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574716742673625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466384542876801,0.0,0.0,0.04578607136497692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046340483282353684,0.0,0.0583512505441452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047022342317385085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05290969060356855,0.07475563169231651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044503838426636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934132477773316,0.050190645065164984,0.029734977850148975,0.0,0.08369105682950867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035069365990966064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056010237595622604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04264823648337601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112236195034195,0.052438942475654664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944426895107781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8578808440043757,0.08352353767873337,0.0,0.038461628931329685,0.03879502951529682,0.08070567689511206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980324505958512,0.0,0.03545376298829417,0.07958428138031033,0.05567276073394722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05006370629518366,0.0,0.0,0.11722199426562475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05379424581143683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04160740633117063,0.0,0.0,0.08338541874764725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298403144115043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05576675150144726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867709386763896,0.0,0.04573047229295087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04153667740745212,0.09152561131761024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293518712038645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041968394304326036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0472111640825481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03716702201688301,0.0,0.0,0.13477089133802544
parenting,pt1789,2020/03/04,"2 yo intentionally hitting his head Hey everyone. Wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this behavior and what you did to curtail it. 

The basic cycle is that when he is denied something (no you can't have cookies I'm the middle of the day) and decides to throw a fit, he flops on the floor and launches his head backwards into the ground. Sometimes I can tell that it is more show than pain but often times he hits incredibly hard and really is in pain. I worry that he's going to start doing serious damage and I'm at a loss as to how to prevent it. Is this just a phase that he'll eventually grow out of?",3.7892444444444418,4.8827337200000045,5.591466666666669,79.71217777777778,71.80000000000003,8.115555555555558,26.68888888888889,8.515128840125781,1.8344222222222228,485,16,96,8,9,167,87,125,0.193,0.785,0.022000000000000002,-0.9701,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,4,5,0,0,8,0,11,4,2,3,0,18,20,10,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,1,1,0,3,2,5,0,0,1,3,6,0,15,16,1,17,0,2,1,0,11,10,0,2,4,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602714771365769,0.2348564182631825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782380828069705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19147854900290576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190234155308876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302673699186804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20533036158370996,0.0,0.4704785591496475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877988578617322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684010016736915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182653561145488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645982603024168,0.2266981093042755,0.0,0.16223856435286407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034278756699828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365629222515982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519611876373833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327775349650439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pan_labrinth,2020/03/04,"Potty training help What are your tips for potty training a child with no desire to poop in the potty? They're not scared, they just don't want to go. I'm at my wits end and can't figure out how to get past this hurdle. They'll stay dry all day successfully,  but will randomly poop in their underwear MINUTES after peeing in the potty. 

Help!",3.9686956521739134,5.1485180434782665,4.841275362318843,84.93234782608697,71.46376811594203,7.259130434782609,22.495652173913044,7.554174236665415,0.8423600000000002,271,6,54,3,5,88,55,69,0.039,0.799,0.162,0.8241,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,3,1,2,2,0,1,3,0,5,3,3,1,1,12,9,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,11,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,4,32,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439119451864763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33497875757443984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975973195101303,0.0,0.21494350579074245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5070077744765574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610409597918625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786507486967521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031178746690127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230760301257325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1995johnnylove,2020/03/04,Third eye opened The day my daughter was born I felt what love really was. I was happy and pissed at the same time. I was so happy I had her and pissed off at everyone else. I didn’t want anyone in my hospital room. I felt like my eyes were finally open. I realized how bad I was treated by people I thought were my family and friends. I cried because I had no help at all. I was so sad because I felt my beautiful child deserved so much better then me.... Every time I looked at her my heart would sunk. So I stood up and decided no more!  I have ZERO time for tears or tolerance over asshole people that think I owe them. I said Fuck you to the world. I stood up to everyone that thought they could push me around or talk behind my back and look nice at me. I was threaten by people who I thought were loved ones. I lost my best friends. I lost everyone I once loved but I gained so much more. Now I’m the asshole of the family haha. My response was I’m not an asshole your just a bunch of pusses who can’t be honest. And oh boy they hated me more after saying that! Lol I now laugh at them and thank god for my beautiful daughter. She’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. I don’t know if these people will ever come around again but if they do I’m prepared to walk tall and show off our happiness.,1.2768979020979003,3.1466112254545493,2.909545454545455,93.04124125874128,80.38181818181819,6.267132867132868,21.122377622377623,7.321109707123232,0.5232797202797208,1017,29,229,14,26,335,147,275,0.096,0.653,0.251,0.9938,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,2,5,6,16,26,4,0,8,2,23,10,5,1,3,39,51,21,0,5,8,2,3,1,2,2,1,2,1,2,9,13,0,0,10,1,1,3,6,8,0,3,25,9,53,18,26,22,10,36,0,3,4,4,26,19,3,4,15,163,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704860240891482,0.0,0.0,0.17947774259601704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751372911609206,0.08416894863517231,0.12290102191526207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21157973084257936,0.08915487323627924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683559706164018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048553111183393,0.0,0.11073085393682587,0.06501164584977119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421062723514261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236992000499866,0.08493355338804254,0.2889738714401803,0.0,0.0,0.1900621877367327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903692205521005,0.11042824152677223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576520738672858,0.09319368794705836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891425710102274,0.32193015550146364,0.0,0.09952523161398316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945580726080125,0.06756825675788622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055400439568414964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924880705314318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930360304253128,0.0,0.22008370452230666,0.0,0.2729445363546104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482082806759655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735529048218084,0.06830887565071471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27954524683994475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457901943981031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588976043750153,0.08016511945891594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102418806280169,0.0,0.09280878571730493,0.0,0.0,0.06697114593140759,0.0645925290107414,0.0,0.24008653746342534,0.17634268058977332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05945809606421482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160981716092844,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellokittydoll,2020/03/04,"Re-parenting Myself Hi everyone, I'm new here. Bit of a ""lurker."" About to write a long and difficult post.

I've just affirmed to my mother that I no longer want anything to do with her due to her controlling and power-fueled antics. This feels very out of the norm for me, (and indeed will be for her), and very brave as I'm still dependent on her for nearly everything. She uses this to her advantage to assert dominance.

When I spend time apart from my mother I feel refreshed, at peace, serene, in control of my emotions and nourishing outlook. I can't really properly explain what she has been doing to me. But I know that when I have anything to do with her, I feel depleted of my independence, overly attached and eager for her love, which she gives and withdraws. I feel like an emotionally unstable mess. It is very difficult not to be drawn into my mother's toxic concoction of influence. She knows just how to speak to me and get my attention. I'm only a small person, who didn't have a chance to grow. She's the most vain, self centered, selfish person I've ever known - and truly, only ever obsesses and thinks of herself.

There is a deep part of me that is still a wounded, malnourished child, weak and vulnerable (due to her), and she knows how to get in to that part of me and manipulate it. She offers her support, attention, love, generosity and once I am sufficiently bound and she has full control over me as a whole, she withdraws it completely, and has spent time mocking, humiliating and degrading me passive aggressively (then lying about it) when I try to talk and be mySELF (which is difficult for me to do, due to her punishing and ignoring me every time I had a word to say, or express growing up. I falter and it is difficult to express myself to her because she talks over me and doesn't listen properly, she makes me feel weird). The only time I had her love was when I was achieving well in school and doing well in my music, she'd lavish me with praise and feed my ego, which got blown out of proportion and crippled my development. Not once has she ever appreciated, cherished and nurtured my individuality, personality, sense of self. She can't even describe my personality, and gets aggravated when I ask her questions like this. She lies and demeans me all the time. I grew up very fragmented, ego-driven, borderline, and very ill. But I've spent a lot of time alone, observing; which has helped me to grow a fortress of defense around myself.

It's been very intense and entrenched all of my life, but today I made the decision that I've finally had enough. It's taken so long because I've been developmentally delayed, and emotionally vulnerable I believe due to her, and timid, desperate for a partner or boyfriend to fulfill an emotional void that she has left. I'm trying to do all of the work myself. But I'm very proud of myself and my strength already.

TL:DR; I am having to actually re-parent and reprogram myself from scratch due to having a narcissistic, unstable, crazy monster of a mother. I'm looking for some assistance and help, as I have no one really but myself. Thank you.",6.651867019995184,6.9340987301855,7.474038063117321,71.65452613827995,65.070826306914,10.689453143820767,33.97489761503252,10.483121756834826,3.6056028812334384,2469,101,445,58,35,827,266,593,0.10400000000000001,0.7829999999999999,0.113,0.8134,3,1,0,0,0,0,90.0,0,1,0,9,23,34,4,2,21,0,41,8,0,12,6,95,77,53,0,1,11,4,6,2,1,1,4,3,0,8,22,41,1,7,15,0,3,4,8,17,2,1,14,10,87,17,76,58,12,55,1,0,1,3,65,22,0,7,30,324,109,3,0.0,0.0,0.0711705854340931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553499860525813,0.08048168075539182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003275645904865,0.06492446264653437,0.0681810709997796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891668338529027,0.0,0.0,0.08216878180867446,0.0,0.0,0.07962226631558343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646724926630334,0.0,0.24539650495651624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32815230921871474,0.0,0.07535769500851103,0.0,0.048170542149266894,0.1979120456044574,0.061447901390105565,0.0696891363826739,0.06554609448783151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18438169010251734,0.05210225030187941,0.0,0.07989285065017868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431103469280322,0.06996250296596163,0.0,0.0,0.05832995176747404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977688419414337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024367090878366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924024575751559,0.0,0.051513647735027104,0.07126125585622628,0.0,0.0,0.12908409590943856,0.06124405897170247,0.0,0.0,0.062003720077864165,0.1974704729267506,0.06900951179534562,0.04868231653124554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043765948644587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553392514526283,0.04942024544618948,0.16640298749552193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795533026098796,0.0,0.0,0.254723754546857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984817950817357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169992745497452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344352285079002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799802503177745,0.0,0.07381053214424473,0.0,0.0,0.1521668391412104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648631790808485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276175765172368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723909149425382,0.0,0.06714549062650284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04673153535747817,0.0,0.0,0.255161528406577,0.0,0.06913049736426817,0.0,0.0,0.09903134932738997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298936597171449,0.0,0.4212326532063224,0.043016865279437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114828428827047,0.0,0.0,0.08142537165994218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053094972208422866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonacc97,2020/03/04,"I have a 3 month old son and can’t bond with him I’m a 22 year old dad and have a 23 month old daughter whom I love with my whole being and love spending time with her. My girlfriend and I recently had our second kid, our now 3 month old son and as badly as I want to I can’t bond with him. To simply put it, I don’t care about him. I care that his needs are taken care of and he has everything he needs but that’s it. When his mom tells me, “look he’s smiling”, I look and fake a smile and she can tell I don’t love him and gets upset with me for it as if I have a choice, I feel incredibly guilty. I don’t know if this will go away, if it’s common, or how to change it. I should note that he’s such an easy baby also, much easier than his sister and i loved her from the moment she was born. I always wanted a son to raise and so far it’s just made me feel guilty, hopefully there’s a solution. Any advice as to what’s going on is greatly appreciated.",1.7725736434108548,2.1538087069767435,3.8306976744186088,93.12759689922484,75.88372093023256,7.035658914728682,19.449612403100776,7.0316486544052195,-0.04423410852713161,732,11,188,7,15,252,118,215,0.079,0.7,0.221,0.985,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,9,12,0,1,9,0,17,4,0,2,0,33,40,24,0,9,6,7,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,12,16,0,0,3,0,1,3,5,3,0,1,4,4,33,9,21,33,2,21,0,0,2,4,33,3,0,5,15,119,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409856335535128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337460148344777,0.09715541280340123,0.0,0.0,0.07940222539389574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097018274750524,0.0,0.09749146830269688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571401987510732,0.0,0.12351880951017324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493823796098986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807684239810505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061003373040465485,0.0,0.13271717348074535,0.0,0.0,0.12873061683868078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159711015135162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06416939127457054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610149725282386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4215293810191055,0.1104831130967861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367503490493803,0.2795951596726638,0.0,0.08583357123983466,0.17315522104370729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4900886893799634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173781507270306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152884779562674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20411042696067025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808491387026931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773861220266714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303607040828244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519095800240268
parenting,xfly359,2020/03/04,"(TEENAGER ASKING PARENTS) How can I improve my relationship with my mom before I leave to college? Whenever I talk to my mom I always get so frustrated. It's weird because I am usually good at handling difficult people, but when it's my mom everything is just different. Whenever she talks, I feel so panicked and rushed because she always expects an answer and is on - edge about things. I also don't like talking to her because rarely is it ever meaningful conversation. Honestly, just talking to my mom is more stressful and anxiety-creating for me at times than school.

It's not like we don't love each other...I am for whatever reason extremely protective of her the same way she is for me. Still, it's just that I find her so frustrating. Our views of the world are so different, and that's ok. I am friends with a lot of people who think differently than I do. But she tries to tell me all this stuff that I just don't believe in and it's annoying. She doesn't try to force it on me but at the same time, it's frustrating. I feel like I can't express my ideas without having to face constant annoying argument. Ironically, she feels the same. But I don't want to have to censor myself in front of her. I am more rational and scientific. She is more spiritual and emotional. These worlds do not blend well. But honestly, I don't mind. I am cool with what she chooses to believe. It is not my right to change it. But, why does she have to give me advice based on what she believes? Does she really believe telling me the 100th time will make it any more believable than the first 99 times?

Plus, I know she's my mom but l feel like she gives me too much advice. When I am doing my work I don't like to talk to anyone but she talks all the time. Most of the time berating me with advice. I try to express to her that I am old enough and competent enough to carry myself, but she just doesn't understand. I am not trying to be pretentious, but I have (luckily) matured fairly well in high school. I am sure some of the advice she has is good. But it ruins the effect if all I get from her is advice. From the parent's perspective, do many of you constantly bug your kids with (basically futile) advice? And if, so why?? From the kid's perspective, it makes each piece of advice hold less weight and influence.

What's even weirder is that my dad and I are alike. Somehow, someway my dad gets along with her extremely well but I just can't. He tells me to be patient, and I try. But, I still don't understand how my parents function so well. I feel like my dad and I are in many ways the opposite of my mom. The other weird thing is that everyone says I was really attached to my mom when I was super young.

So, do you guys have real, practical advice for this? I've realized this is no quick fix since I've been arguing with her for years (probably since middle school). 

And for the parenting community specifically, what is it from my mom's perspective that I am not seeing? Why does this relationship have to be frustrating?",2.9694118776398284,4.884699188019969,4.428315307820301,83.89928340586202,75.4226289517471,8.350198387303214,25.867176500703955,9.057496981413335,2.1156158709842576,2376,86,478,56,52,790,240,601,0.152,0.785,0.062,-0.9948,7,0,0,0,0,0,78.0,2,3,0,5,31,32,7,1,17,2,57,3,1,7,5,92,77,43,0,4,27,15,6,6,1,1,0,1,0,3,35,26,1,2,17,0,0,2,18,12,4,1,3,10,91,20,64,70,20,39,0,1,2,1,70,15,0,6,26,350,126,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879444781389503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03968516340025162,0.082584093984173,0.0,0.0,0.03374676024356521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03469901402009938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046392756580222495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075297559262056,0.0,0.04222729318434067,0.2795523916715514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05249676100930633,0.0,0.0,0.10725417681135198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554295834252838,0.0,0.0,0.13028174170935092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055821542473536934,0.0,0.10255195906171086,0.0,0.03277690132317679,0.044888731439117285,0.0,0.04741889637517968,0.044599827514708014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545967291719073,0.10635651420955514,0.0,0.0,0.04535642963274058,0.04221107285922157,0.0,0.0,0.03834021839648567,0.0,0.07778117781332199,0.09520980888826004,0.0,0.08324633549666831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04913663725313108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243162803808391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056020681785554284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02727264949534949,0.0,0.0,0.05254580085019502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546586236007708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04218947356590959,0.04478857766990181,0.0,0.0662502605922021,0.10062409661723568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010719040775302,0.464962408265003,0.0,0.0,0.03648014819622875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052073179991313584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22041114138609424,0.0,0.0,0.06880757259824476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350423609026033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056484212260378724,0.06358220171738244,0.05102285352524536,0.0,0.10655754153596997,0.0,0.04237955235597915,0.0,0.03946386024709997,0.0,0.1506697093758927,0.03954476861536296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210076801537175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926131567592509,0.0,0.0568453684262638,0.0,0.05680885085107287,0.0,0.0,0.04677105633117054,0.0,0.0,0.239320586503999,0.1301235376152884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593740423426163,0.031797751379800905,0.0,0.0,0.17362072056688754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846087982291427,0.0,0.0,0.10332292944077087,0.0,0.0,0.05465502132554485,0.0,0.029270161505083964,0.07878016692774119,0.0,0.06042998575589865,0.17847564843676975,0.0,0.1343367644664356,0.0,0.0,0.047836812095096035,0.0,0.03612765369008362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031956928406015904
parenting,atlbrilliance,2020/03/04,"Have I messed up by sharing a bedroom with my kids? Hi there guys. 29 yo single mom with a 4.5 yo and son turning 3 this month. Long story short, my daughter had her own room as a baby up until about 1.5 years  I think (too laZy to do the math right now, lol) this is around the time I escape her abusive father and gained custody. I was pregnant during this time. 

We moved in with my folks. Have been here ever since. 7 family members in a 5 br, so there's space but when we first moved in my mom was against altering her guest room and I won't lie, it felt comfortable and safe knowing my children, though in their own separate beds, I knew they were safe. Linked to the trauma I guess. 

Now it's been 3 years and I have pland set up and in motion off next year to move. Finally got everything lined up... And now that the kids are older I'm starting to think falling into the comfort felt good at first but now I may have done them a disservice. 

I feel like such a goof up. With our recent therapy and self reflection I'm trying to move past things and I guess this thing I thought was small back may not have helped them moved past things either... I feel guilty. 

I'm in the middle of getting things together to transform the guest room into a bedroom they can share (still convincing my mom... ) I was originally planning to get a 2 br, now I'm wondering due to the circumstances should it really be a 3 where each have their own room? Is that normal for that she group (she would be 5 going on 6, he would be 4 or almost there)",1.5515849875930492,3.66694330448718,2.7069561621174536,93.58105459057072,80.69871794871796,5.948883374689827,20.320926385442515,7.1029339738359605,0.3433319685690659,1189,32,260,15,31,380,179,312,0.05,0.838,0.11199999999999999,0.9634,0,0,0,0,1,0,39.0,3,0,6,4,20,11,0,0,17,1,29,0,0,1,1,49,51,17,0,4,5,6,4,1,2,6,0,0,7,5,14,19,0,2,12,0,0,8,2,2,0,2,14,4,34,9,36,28,6,64,0,0,0,0,33,27,0,7,29,169,48,1,0.0,0.1181554297573215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985816397747052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877459866634761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766808195142272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020512361792191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020514868909964,0.0,0.0,0.08962458825393675,0.0,0.09400995462682454,0.0,0.10084587456279913,0.07124212002099384,0.19149940746019425,0.10924165505062752,0.0,0.1696486392696053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420228692777364,0.0,0.05667487018344965,0.08364290803678036,0.07975758053750069,0.0,0.219712220494027,0.09874143303676756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668422144105928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054805144275693884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871961300271223,0.0,0.0,0.08825170314428799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503830624168381,0.07959793478004834,0.5299487528856598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605652530159758,0.0,0.09770735157251444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039374510837784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388509739549897,0.0,0.0984644164798597,0.0,0.0,0.08516288384833351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403282156243386,0.0,0.0,0.08249188325092839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058444166937362,0.0,0.07963890420402893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404192366976165,0.0,0.26500607891724376,0.127796923603612,0.097977325906818,0.07916891049264327,0.11629854837463625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770536045703568,0.10846997091232108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814532274486904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168069393074773,0.0,0.0,0.19265499732965471
parenting,Plane-Pass,2020/03/04,"Parenting as the fun dad was fun while it lasted - anyone else in the same boat? My upbringing was chaotic  so when I became a dad, I made a point to be the dad that I always wished that I had. I was the fun dad to my two sons. Especially when their friends were around. I would join in on video games, play sports, hike, etc. Just being one of them. My youngest is now 14 and clearly wants to be with his own friends. It went from their wanting me to be around, to their doing their own thing but at our house to wanting to be as free as possible. I am not surprised. I am not even upset because I don't take it personal. It was therapeutic for me. It's something seeing them and their friends grow up. Like, they really do grow up.",1.6367428571428595,3.5459562933333366,2.8272380952380978,93.87600000000002,79.4,6.152380952380952,22.047619047619047,7.1686216300943375,0.498961904761905,564,17,128,7,14,181,93,150,0.026000000000000002,0.778,0.196,0.9747,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,8,0,8,11,0,1,6,0,18,0,0,1,1,17,26,10,0,5,4,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,0,4,1,3,3,1,0,2,8,1,24,11,22,12,4,17,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,0,6,96,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020361264034418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622084978920342,0.184959777130938,0.0,0.32139468045559544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004076075057108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079779386418768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132284253508745,0.11922898835315066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183981952027416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082910053117204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714447621728616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819090532741905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17080842172396218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232218293194455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004414415972027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761944026926536,0.0,0.0,0.1706457859307386,0.2035044499313635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564304864091887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438477270984496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389698877998861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572542175295554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199266813535655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633771393190087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31941870075895124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733996204127108,0.0,0.0,0.20758426987130846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823325037982147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seven30eight3,2020/03/04,"Kids organized sports...parent sideline drama My kids are in an organized sports. Overall the team members get along and so do the parents. Although we got a few new kids, which means new families. There is 1 family that came in extremely hard. They introduced themselves to some parents and not others. They even somehow got into the coaching of the team. All this was like whatever to the rest of us, until 1 parent came at a group of us and called us bullies and mean girls just because we got along. Completely being honest...none of us talked bad or had any issues with anything before this. Obviously this left a bad taste in some of our mouths and just turned us off from that family. We tried to move past it, but then we would all notice really odd things about these people. They came in hot judging us, they never tried to get to know us, but they acted like they were the elite of the league. One day a comment was made about why don't they try to get to know us...the parents in their actual group. My reply is to me they seem like social climbers and we aren't going to get them anywhere they want to be so they have no use for us. Now that being said I wasn't being malicious in any way...it honestly was just my observation after watching them and going on how she talked to us without knowing anything about us. Long story short supposedly people went to her and told them I was being very nasty about them...which I wasn't. I did complain to the main coach about the coaching done by them was obviously done to exclude our kids and take their kids farther in the league. I was respectful and feel like I have every right to voice my concerns. Now they are going to other parents, making it seem like I'm destroying everyone's experience. There's a few things that get to me about this. First I'm not the only one who has said anything about them. And second...I wouldn't have ever said anything if there wasn't that first experience of them judging us. Now I feel like those I considered friends didn't stand up and do the right thing and now I don't know what to do. I refuse to talk to those parents because honestly I don't think we will ever be friends and I'm not sorry about anything I said because I know everything I said wasn't malicious, it was just honest. What do I do about those that say there quietly while I got blamed for it all?",3.916282417320964,5.4629632162740895,4.478160242683798,86.06134219605045,72.08351177730192,7.501522721865334,25.606055198667626,8.07648339933343,1.4395015940994529,1870,59,373,27,36,594,200,467,0.067,0.8320000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.9453,7,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,19,0,19,5,28,16,1,0,18,0,43,2,1,4,8,70,86,25,0,4,12,6,4,6,2,3,0,8,0,6,27,27,1,1,12,7,0,9,16,4,0,4,32,14,62,12,58,45,9,45,0,0,1,0,74,17,0,7,24,266,89,2,0.0,0.0,0.04668569014903813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506672790173422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19684438597780898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989008883974924,0.08748986756860204,0.0,0.0407089714067613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04885077481990973,0.16415128695698664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050160136860217336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030853338712051873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791543480228608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03159837721405856,0.0865494303252412,0.04030791185866649,0.04571390565458304,0.04299619904872391,0.09359490545298477,0.13530005996492495,0.0,0.04837946126635953,0.06835491091790162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813866685971716,0.0,0.0,0.07392332004885947,0.0,0.12497413816241434,0.0,0.08156703579704824,0.0,0.15305053558377169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0428559327992738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04993333418294591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146017951542785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051979136299149735,0.0,0.0,0.14023550137644736,0.0,0.0,0.04233757575576954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04526809306630445,0.03193408528892604,0.0,0.0,0.10422524649104384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05084716707458674,0.0,0.0,0.0368977509108611,0.09240982705285994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446703343174298,0.0,0.0,0.06483628740490814,0.0363850611724244,0.0,0.0,0.3187290793154197,0.0,0.04566942800963016,0.0663335320415313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030648022126264367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171151191526871,0.2275376372282812,0.03804490028253514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871048799893156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876764001639036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355382493875119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03597030498475877,0.11535779561467953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534984489382432,0.03065443352167426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04571390565458304,0.0,0.09744222690189393,0.052037019650693836,0.0,0.0,0.6905586661759389,0.04131906467402942,0.0,0.03947364532351782,0.02821772550232083,0.037973776212473234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044348872842101886,0.04316885353166911,0.0,0.0,0.0461167948243492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03398471020222612,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CandidPension,2020/03/04,"We lost our daughter and are now raising our granddaughter. Our daughter and son in law died in a car accident last year. Our ten-year-old granddaughter, S, came to live with us. She was obviously heartbroken over losing her parents so young; we were heartbroken over losing our daughter and son-in-law, too. But we love S with all our heart, and we are so happy for her to be with us. But being a grandparent and being a parent are very different, and the dynamic has certainly changed between us and S. We’re all in therapy and working through our emotions. We’ve also signed S up for a couple of extracurricular activities. We’ve allowed her to get away with a lot, as it’s been a tough transition, but we can’t do that forever. I don’t like disciplining her, and she doesn’t like it either. There has been yelling and rudeness, and I can’t keep ignoring it. But this is new territory. S’s parents used to be in charge of discipline while we got to be the doting grandparents. This new territory is difficult. I’m not sure if I’m even looking for advice or if anyone can provide any; I certainly hope there are not a lot of people in this situation. I just wanted to get this off my chest.",4.813877659574466,5.779208821276593,6.1057845744680845,77.4471875,69.29787234042553,9.960106382978724,31.70877659574468,10.125756701596842,3.204239361702128,943,40,184,24,16,318,127,235,0.12,0.7859999999999999,0.094,-0.4977,7,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,16,0,0,4,9,16,1,0,9,0,23,3,2,2,6,51,36,23,1,4,11,7,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,22,0,4,0,0,0,2,6,7,0,0,7,2,27,9,29,24,5,19,0,3,1,1,30,10,0,6,9,131,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950921904841624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780250841099278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831675497786691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551434137555823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490398602913456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987753566713385,0.0,0.0,0.1293761816822961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532157585802415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269271083698817,0.1277764802439105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756997349916594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077737100424673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277924148559109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978137248275246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301896159434396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492496652206185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214705546370484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087050175110017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969005114279487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949827935691078,0.0,0.107992304324708,0.0,0.10270040262435508,0.2736427145962516,0.13350386323333238,0.20794856262373704,0.11037967010737323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362343747502966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833228309336622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073958753528779,0.0,0.0,0.08478676438733224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746925957821554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152654099993279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985962544827696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44133210702568615,0.1056271147759314,0.0,0.10090952682751078,0.07213515005393528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903516707887449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575131606588798
parenting,a-non-0091,2020/03/04,"Why does our family dynamic suck so bad? Hi, I never really thought I'd be turning to reddit for my own parenting issues, but here I am with an anonymous account because I'm too embarrassed to use anything else.

Here is the situation. My wife and I have two sons 8 years and 4 years old. We live in a nice town and have a lot going for us. But there is something about our family dynamic that just seems awful at times.

I think most of our issues revolve around our older son who just seems to be always negative and extremely moody. And if he's hungry (which seems to be most of the time) he can be just awful. If his little brother asks him a question, he might lash out yelling at him. When we ask/remind him to bring his plate up from dinner he might lash out at us or just mumble, ""you're the worst parents ever."" We try to keep our cool and tell him, ""that isn't the way we talk to each in this house or how we talk to others in general. If you have something to say, say it and have a conversation, but just yelling isn't how we communicate.""

We've also tried more of the hard line approach by giving timeouts and taking away various bargaining chips (like screen time that he has on the weekend). 

Our 8 year does great in school, but he doesn't seem to be able to regulate his emotions very well. 

I can't tell if this is just a rough patch we are going through or if there is some underlying issuing we are failing to see. It seems that his intense mood swings have been going on for many years. 

I don't even know what I'm looking for by posting here. I need to wrap it up because I hear our younger son now crying because of something his older brother did (this happens like 10 times a day at least :-)

Has anyone else been through something like this. Did your son/daughter come out OK in the end?",5.084739195230995,5.13687128415301,5.599821162444112,84.54581222056633,68.39890710382514,8.621758569299553,29.47789369100845,8.296473431620573,1.861326775956284,1414,47,298,18,22,456,195,366,0.10400000000000001,0.7979999999999999,0.098,-0.6654,2,0,4,0,2,0,41.0,17,2,0,1,23,17,1,1,14,4,31,1,0,3,2,64,58,25,0,6,18,8,2,3,0,2,0,5,0,0,15,23,1,1,9,1,2,6,7,6,1,1,5,11,38,10,47,46,10,47,0,1,3,0,55,21,1,20,21,199,53,2,0.08511402366936321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806565397753997,0.07082168603518615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951370434924098,0.08720937555923276,0.07004158929506829,0.07576952628665153,0.15914024516445074,0.0,0.07996742701969489,0.0,0.07106665454877452,0.15565415648711373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331819488045016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349375835414467,0.05489150395924393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489677113726872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220369036556285,0.09574182059364346,0.0753857617903966,0.0,0.0,0.0562170099041391,0.07699050727875563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047585312270854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164912717752511,0.1451167833142329,0.0,0.0,0.09383851157437244,0.0,0.0,0.07526605003743808,0.0,0.07624544710973302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592969057419187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821015568687956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665107821797037,0.0,0.07565325499048885,0.0,0.0,0.046776441484663735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474723806835435,0.08530661197302103,0.07515724226124841,0.0,0.07147434336763585,0.0,0.0,0.07236089921740288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629226082647161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058505731113214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311097007495492,0.06564518216693291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931285012112199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18901810143845107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151570698601404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534718576908624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452622303172956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537217569728194,0.0,0.08613993597425046,0.06782485711468966,0.3874230524471016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567172874216123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620997348625697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399515322841985,0.13682285632703936,0.14878681647895098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453762961368204,0.0,0.06757102746477213,0.1985226866818108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557367008049894,0.09257961664510418,0.08314403357361844,0.0,0.20476338132184088,0.07351118863712452,0.0,0.07022798338888654,0.0,0.06755955025704231,0.0,0.0,0.07652772906207324,0.0,0.0768021677220957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924256268075296
parenting,pprbckwrtr,2020/03/04,"Do NOT buy an Arlo Baby!! I have a 7 month old and I did soooooo much research on what the best baby monitor was before buying an Arlo Baby. It's so cute! The features!! The little rabbit ears! So many positive reviews!!


Lies. All of them lies. This thing never stays connected, will decide at 2 am you don't need to see the baby, won't stream audio continuously. We had to buy an old school audio monitor so we could at least long term monitor the baby and then use the Arlo to check in before going in her room but it doesn't even work half the time we try to check. I feel super cheated and lied to. The support is abysmal and the forums are full of people with similar issues. Do not buy!

I just bought a Wyze which is what I should have done in the first place but I wanted the fancy features 🙄🙄🙄",0.6434812935954355,2.9152725301204825,2.887247939124922,89.92373176918203,85.74698795180723,5.18148383005707,17.772986683576416,6.5966054737557815,0.032607228915662916,624,15,129,7,19,212,105,166,0.068,0.828,0.10300000000000001,0.7839,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,1,4,5,5,1,0,16,0,18,1,1,1,2,22,26,10,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,7,8,0,0,2,0,7,1,6,1,0,2,5,5,12,4,14,17,6,22,0,0,1,0,6,10,0,0,10,89,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301382195485063,0.0,0.2035779564962393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488326680453673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985166057682291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812694147731246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808592954610433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500570351669427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102475901557426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247259355391592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442647872117289,0.0,0.17167286960348374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19667291931234965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154839004702951,0.0,0.14260316333554093,0.14383930385409566,0.1496151507899899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071145847192571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448653581626555,0.0,0.2026756924971944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632574827889626,0.15458295475087316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20676490814395876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201347629915205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887670268444867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311569532857005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317048068544822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754295151053655,0.0,0.0,0.11441887789256988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122524043445214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mydadlife,2020/03/04,"Best way to get a Will established? So behind on this and need to get something done...

Dave Ramsey points you to Mama Bear Legal Forms. Requires you pay before you use the platform though... so not a fan of that. Anyone used Mama Bear and likes it’s offering?

How have others established a will with limited overhead and fees?",2.770913348946138,5.576421360655742,3.4774238875878214,85.65229508196722,81.29508196721312,6.108665105386418,21.82903981264637,7.447530270364453,1.1395695550351288,257,8,45,4,7,81,47,61,0.084,0.778,0.138,0.6704,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,3,4,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,3,0,11,9,7,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,7,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,32,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793926447020228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25305365392322565,0.0,0.31208834784442585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043292141260605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107439094140552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452878190676971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22050801308513146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811259730118897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894233639588954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29218031757136714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5136921877970421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360512312584053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wasyloosker12,2020/03/04,"Bedtime for my 4 year old that can't sleep without someone?? Even since she was a baby she has never been able to fall asleep by herself. We have a set routine every night - bath time, brushing teeth, pajamas, reading a book or two, and then it all falls apart. I can't leave her alone to just fall asleep, she insists someone be with her until she falls asleep. If I leave she gets up to follow me every time, if I go to close the door/hold it closed she becomes hysterical, if I sit by the open door so she knows I'm there she just doesn't fall asleep and keeps peeking at me, if I leave her in the room and leave she will cry, wail, and scream for me for 30-60 minutes. I am so beyond tired of basically 'wasting' 1.5 - 2 hours of time every night. It goes on from 8 - 10 pm every night. Please help.",3.56515334063527,4.022378439759038,4.227984665936475,91.62857064622126,71.83132530120481,6.759255202628697,24.729463307776562,6.1124844417494595,0.4704891566265066,615,16,141,3,11,196,106,166,0.063,0.863,0.07400000000000001,-0.4778,0,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,6,0,10,7,6,0,2,21,16,13,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,4,9,0,1,1,3,0,7,5,1,0,1,2,2,24,0,20,12,1,31,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,5,12,83,28,2,0.12866776885038392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326100436022376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210344178205386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133550230917827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498384783104956,0.0,0.4336325786072594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722359865800863,0.0,0.07312485818756992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624329326024817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671183416931492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436582488109034,0.0,0.0,0.07071244080731465,0.0,0.0,0.5449623562134581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923651545375778,0.0,0.0,0.3622379546171528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501517916006994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123857199190376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287025881759646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064353080090734,0.0,0.1287606911742556,0.0,0.218039566008477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22508163220633992,0.1478846725000871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568971400878126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403113765173128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285782460113833
parenting,sodapoo,2020/03/04,"Adventures in poo So my 5 year old daughter has pooping issues. She's afraid to poop and gets constipated because she holds it for so long. I worry that it stems from a rough period of potty training for which I feel guilty because I think we rushed it and we felt a lot of pressure to get her trained so there was frustration and yelling etc. 

She's taking a laxative and poops a bit more regularly but still has anxiety surrounding the issue and poops a bit in her underwear almost everyday. We always tried to use positive reinforcement when she would poop in the toilet. Any advice about it would be much appreciated.",5.198205128205128,7.050819760683763,5.919316239316242,75.77846153846156,69.34188034188034,9.644444444444446,30.09401709401709,9.994966539143718,3.1782581196581194,500,20,89,13,9,163,82,117,0.083,0.8240000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.6404,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,7,4,1,2,7,0,6,5,5,1,0,18,13,10,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,8,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,4,13,1,12,8,6,12,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,2,7,60,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18717830012469533,0.0,0.0,0.1918074597027875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938312001192084,0.0,0.0,0.13025907722483404,0.0,0.14653354807757746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335315305485605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182411896280736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21362643819854635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685232659475153,0.0,0.18391593344243715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001516466429981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3998522896834613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695137815508949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284709571031486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080967792966234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099720165358906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297032611509634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440201124570656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227361003741786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004838743535774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543580443635186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19452609597622092,0.0,0.27214013265771675,0.0,0.0,0.12335050757654442
parenting,figeoaks-,2020/03/04,"Husband is always drunk when watching our children. I’m a SAHM to two toddlers. 

I’m seriously considering going back to work. We need the extra money, and I want to help provide for our family. 

I have a problem, though. My husband cannot be around the kids if he’s sober. 

I would be working evenings/nights to avoid childcare costs. Husband would come home from working 8-3, and I would head to work for 2nd shift. 

For example, I had a dentist appointment tonight at 5 PM. I was gone for a total of 1.5 hours. I come home, and he’s drunk with 7+ beer cans on the counter. Our toddlers are running around without shirts on and the house is a mess. 

I WAS ONLY GONE FOR 1.5 HOURS! How does this happen? 

I don’t think I can work, and it depresses me. I don’t think he can handle watching HIS OWN CHILDREN. 

I don’t know what to do.",1.107104575163401,3.306096900000004,2.600392156862746,93.24065359477129,82.94117647058823,5.189542483660131,24.15032679738562,6.42735559955562,0.6206993464052286,643,25,139,6,18,209,102,170,0.113,0.861,0.026000000000000002,-0.9079999999999999,0,1,1,0,0,0,28.0,4,0,0,5,6,5,0,1,9,0,20,6,2,1,1,25,33,9,0,7,2,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,3,11,3,1,3,3,2,6,5,5,0,1,5,2,19,0,20,23,3,16,0,1,2,0,15,5,0,1,5,85,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207079137562488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582819460078085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154807559336144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499258868250116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494656247931245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694968634258685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675687859981514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244529392770017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828285212214235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488812705744635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972357942068823,0.0,0.29102938096253306,0.0,0.28572484572648266,0.16738860180128814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972539176418053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107565831306191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613617120266144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110330491979694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881015823913892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590699714796102,0.14252823882067886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171002408732206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855646640929248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398400469188499,0.0,0.5280549189864563,0.0,0.0,0.3091557091491701,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PhoenixRisingxR,2020/03/04,"She can never take a bath! Hi! My 4 year old daughter can never take a bath everyone time I put her in there she starts to play with her privates in the tub. She knows how to wash herself but she never does because she’s too busy playing with herself. Which is really irritating because she literally takes too long to take a bath. She never does this any other time but chooses to do it in the bathtub for some reason. 

Last night I put her in the tub and told her to wash and I was going to go get her towels from the laundry room. I was gone for 5 minutes because the towels I washed weren’t dry to I got different towels and when I walked back in there she was playing with herself again! I asked her if she had washed and she said no she is rubbing (that’s what she calls it) so I made her stand up and wash herself and then she threw a big fit and started crying because I didn’t let her finish what she was doing. After I washed her I left the room to put the washcloth in the dirty clothes and she started doing it again. This could go on for hours. 

How do I make her stop doing this in the bathtub so she can get out on time?",1.2777785896967515,3.2287781260504254,2.6750639386189263,94.31430946291565,80.76470588235293,4.979466569236389,21.27219583485568,5.7926816847441245,-0.01438129338692029,886,26,196,5,23,287,113,238,0.081,0.879,0.04,-0.9112,5,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,13,0,19,6,0,5,4,29,40,17,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,5,0,11,12,0,1,3,6,0,9,7,0,0,0,13,2,44,3,27,25,1,50,0,0,0,0,36,16,0,2,24,144,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224850714160603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306966782492255,0.0,0.0,0.09300122933307599,0.0,0.2949141075974321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350100984688504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965668072260522,0.0,0.1328552458855727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636448682014706,0.0,0.0,0.2116840981882725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557060319307885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263802453467888,0.0,0.2062119040749965,0.0,0.09673283469855386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191090109005332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646963117641756,0.09858842667826458,0.0,0.0,0.13140990798159327,0.1236771029273088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703480916285286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144435319222989,0.08073345399859534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731289434298139,0.0,0.0,0.11350111789198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691414777269938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647571949192325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748212175461093,0.12435426400246692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504885267209294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25682197537635565,0.0,0.0,0.10111759903605977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36375013550922103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115765331606808,0.0,0.0,0.11557060319307885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788628109055812
parenting,easolo23,2020/03/04,"potty training help so my darling daughter is almost 2 and has a pretty decent understanding of “using the potty”.  the thing is, she absolutely refuses to use it even with guidance. what kind of incentives have you guys used on your children to help them get out of diapers?",5.4498,7.5859609799999985,6.513000000000003,70.63150000000002,69.2,9.0,32.5,9.516144504307137,3.5204000000000004,219,10,34,5,4,73,43,50,0.0,0.7490000000000001,0.251,0.9249,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,3,0,9,9,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,9,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,0,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25987375299748383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17141180560271674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558951164448954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569675403345475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479041958244355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27025218286896696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264027131042581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241485711400914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27017151073828355,0.0,0.6724309384887975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HippieDash,2020/03/04,"If a parent comes to Reddit for insight/advice... Give them insight/advice and move on. Don’t mom/dad shame or give them shit for how they are handling things. Parenting is hard, and there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. I’d rather they ask for advice than stay silent and suffer while trying to figure things out on their own. Open mindedness is awesome! When people just tear them down, it makes them less likely to reach out for support. Don’t be an asshole.",2.828666666666667,5.282525422222225,2.8633333333333333,92.345,78.1111111111111,4.888888888888889,20.0,5.82211442006289,-0.05566666666666675,368,9,71,2,9,111,66,90,0.14400000000000002,0.7809999999999999,0.075,-0.6435,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,7,0,5,5,1,1,3,0,7,1,1,2,0,14,13,8,0,2,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,1,7,2,13,12,2,12,0,1,0,0,12,6,1,2,3,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5401610022442085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225528774262028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872096643876046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35351193235537764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650579514613647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001859278841792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299288232204696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157994030994204,0.0,0.1958358781794444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248572143971133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091908670644349,0.0,0.0,0.1277405040190548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913701509419986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639329260326152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090924969252646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24482413584831506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509831045323885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,under_sea_trees,2020/03/04,"31:00 It's exactly at 31minutes into Frozen that Elsa starts to sing ""Let it Go."" My three year old is super into Frozen right now and wanted to act out the song. She was falling asleep, so I fast forwarded to the part she wanted to see. I took this one for the team, y'all.",0.8378947368421059,2.953664982456143,2.399210526315791,94.78197368421051,83.3859649122807,5.203508771929825,16.517543859649123,6.42735559955562,-0.3937929824561404,212,4,47,2,6,69,46,57,0.027999999999999997,0.903,0.069,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,7,9,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,2,2,2,6,1,9,6,1,15,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,6,31,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936149749274184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407128437264477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496304422829993,0.0,0.2257804826709328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36081600146648257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845453578300422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655120148851015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358360156968625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.370190146387914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930522205259765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145656365611874
parenting,bthacker89,2020/03/04,"3 Year Old has her first soccer practice, it didn’t go well All of the other kids were following coach’s instruction and seemed to be having fun. It was our 3 years old daughters first time attempting soccer and she seemed anxious and started crying. She kept on wanting to run to the sideline and be with grandma and mom. No matter how hard we tried and what we said, she just would not stop acting sad and scared. She  isn’t very socialized due to not being in daycare. Any tips on what we can do to help her? We feel absolutely defeated, as she was the only child having difficulties going out there and having fun.",4.508416666666669,6.038540341666671,4.950000000000003,83.32166666666669,70.58333333333334,7.666666666666668,25.833333333333336,8.167268648758528,1.5700833333333328,491,15,93,7,9,156,84,120,0.127,0.747,0.125,-0.0647,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,4,4,6,0,1,3,0,15,0,0,1,1,27,25,10,0,2,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,14,0,2,3,3,0,5,5,3,1,2,6,3,12,3,12,15,1,19,0,2,0,0,19,4,0,2,10,65,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025653204285573,0.0,0.0,0.21639027179711906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104021604059191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968504341600632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32585456646902355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21771781174109206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158585851514122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838794871781534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22433409308691368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019865485846322,0.0,0.0,0.14567789219844404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822022682888982,0.0,0.19176902348620206,0.0,0.0,0.34874904447484856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19525505183057149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355758745761577,0.0,0.0,0.16013941452165745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169088424390176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004584637012787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804391315623784,0.11297765185366256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222111731381962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606740760373925,0.0,0.0,0.24669619476750665
parenting,giiddyuphorse2,2020/03/04,"Single dad and I don’t know how to get through this with my daughter... Hey I’m a single dad, I’m 33 and I have an 11 yr old daughter who hasn’t started going into puberty yet but I’m sure she’s fixing too. She hasn’t developed breasts yet or anything but I don’t know if this is part of puberty or not. Yesterday I was going to go get her so we could go out to eat for dinner and I walked in her room (the door was open) and she was on the bed with no clothes on but her panties and she had her legs spread out on her bed humping it. I immediately walked out and acted like i didn’t see anything and she screamed. Is this puberty? I’m not good with girl puberty. I know a little but not a lot. Her mom is out of the picture. She’s in jail due to drugs so I can’t ask her but I need help on explaining puberty and masturbation to her. 

She feels really embarrassed and so do I. I feel bad for walking in on her. Last night on the way home from eating she was very silent and so was I. So I told her that what she was doing is normal and to not be ashamed of it. I said that when she does do it she needs to shut the door though. I told her that I was sorry for walking in on her and she said she understands. Then we were back talking again. 

How do I talk to her about puberty? Is this the start of puberty?",-0.2257064178936723,1.695515965156794,2.123084185680568,96.3307474429583,86.21254355400697,5.793818140946388,19.71102618860289,7.1029339738359605,0.20298323030234933,1010,30,249,15,31,343,132,287,0.069,0.884,0.047,-0.7357,0,0,1,0,2,0,24.0,2,0,0,0,15,7,0,2,10,0,27,7,2,2,1,50,54,30,0,5,12,5,2,1,0,0,1,3,6,1,12,23,3,0,7,0,0,9,11,4,0,0,14,6,47,3,37,38,4,43,0,0,1,2,45,20,0,4,14,177,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267379797630101,0.0,0.1287918294356806,0.0,0.0,0.10593290575612732,0.11502815572204213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999427171452808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055922155146093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976385024620898,0.2819363074441225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931641046132995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395322207849812,0.0,0.3131804652020028,0.11555088156803947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923410840487226,0.0,0.13818969005863713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271363903106514,0.11229699421015216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730509931148748,0.13807688441866714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712301410859005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613488925682802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043022438482364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129283271964127,0.13498060833702458,0.0,0.0,0.14456136280709428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491862452079663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825589038420191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620924337207425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978099750930677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542168197339807,0.19502178131581693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298420346959654,0.0,0.0,0.22146083734840274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535357208328505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26328103196109176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341839207506307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367068649274314,0.0,0.10935157306644602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WoofyWrestler,2020/03/04,"My baby (M1) isn't settling at nursery... I think I'm going to have to quit my job. My baby started nursery back in October when I returned to work as a nurse. I work long days and am away for 15 hours per shift. Thankfully I have a fixed rota and have cut my hours down to part time and only have to put him in nursery for my one weekday shift on a Monday.

We started him on short days whilst I was still on mat leave so we could build him up to long days which started in Feb when I went back to work. He wasn't doing great on the short days but we hoped he would adjust. His key worker was lovely and he seemed to like her. We would provide him with a blanket and I would try to express BM for him.

Basically it is now almost 6 months and he still isn't coping. He screams when we leave him there, gets so distressed he's sick, won't eat any food or drink they offer him and is completely shut down in himself when we pick him up. He doesn't make eye contact with us or smile at us and just clings to us. Hes exhausted, hungry, thirsty and just wants to breastfeed for hours when he gets home. It takes hours before he's himself again.

Three of the last 4 sessions they have asked me to go pick him up early as he won't stop crying and they think he's in pain, but he's just so stressed by being away from us.

He adores his lil family of me, his dad, his big brother and sis. He is our world. I can't bear him being so unhappy. Cutting hours down more isn't a option as my boss wouldn't allow it. I'm thinking I'm going to have to quit my job. I love my job but my kids always come first. I don't know how we'd cope financially either.

Unless anyone has any ideas of how to make him happy at nursery. Anything we can do? Any experiences of having this issue. The key worker insinuated that him still being breastfed could be a contributor but he's not ready to quit and I'm not rushing him to.

TIA x",1.7609934640522908,3.231224795061731,3.302995642701529,92.59789215686277,77.5925925925926,5.851125635439361,21.29448075526507,6.37848985222837,0.13010384894698612,1482,38,338,11,34,489,195,405,0.09300000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.106,0.8518,3,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,13,0,3,9,22,15,2,2,9,0,38,9,1,8,0,61,66,33,0,8,13,3,0,1,0,6,3,1,1,1,6,22,3,1,7,1,0,7,12,7,0,3,4,2,58,8,53,49,3,67,0,0,1,2,62,25,0,6,36,210,64,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958245740093974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612933813122816,0.0,0.0,0.16213661575614552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557057588826091,0.0,0.06540092732953258,0.0,0.07429813996194598,0.0,0.1493382413472166,0.1222223163213162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676271377364493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846043877029008,0.08332773752573029,0.0,0.0,0.12690820265022562,0.0,0.08729925402070837,0.2050184924458894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785497456089427,0.0,0.08132248498457299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774153145819451,0.07492169805006116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760116083671831,0.09610115343563644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304452766006185,0.0,0.1355019538441274,0.0,0.0,0.08762116533839352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460232302878128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971962956238675,0.0789363347254474,0.3913329778380299,0.0,0.0,0.0897172912945883,0.0,0.0829509651494014,0.2365992054636487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436772306434233,0.06478250856199301,0.0,0.16830451793608886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03882733641340907,0.0,0.0,0.14066526213370464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345808517157504,0.0,0.10609999268922984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343596759164484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05385413076199079,0.06044410994496405,0.08456671122433303,0.0,0.0,0.08606338286695599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989405010663835,0.0,0.2535934596425154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235080515416757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687578591047213,0.0,0.19040585512981886,0.06644442908800283,0.09103802944366186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059755102759052936,0.0,0.0,0.07316964939429547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277258498789628,0.0,0.0,0.046342351507202534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053958121697520484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823932368285655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04687625216779179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367386668116524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357563992048994,0.0,0.0,0.16936969407663827,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,froggycute101,2020/03/04,"Potty training a 7 year old that is still in diapers. I have a son, who is 7 with severe bladder issues. He cannot hold his pee. We have been trying to work on this issue but he cannot hold it. We’ve taken him to the doctor and they have diagnosed him with a bladder dysfunction. They told us to work with him on holding his pee. Well we’ve been working with him for at least a year now and looks like to us parents he’s just getting worse. I understand this isn’t going to go away quickly but I feel like he should be gaining more progress and not going back down to the deep end. 

So my son at the age of 7 still wears diapers. He has to have one on at all times. He pees every ten minutes and I don’t think that is normal at all. He goes into the bathroom and changes his own diaper so that’s a plus but when will this end? 

My husband and I feel saddened that we can’t put him in a regular school because we’re afraid he will get made fun of. So he is homeschooled and has been ever since he started kindergarten. 

He has neighbor friends that come over a lot and their moms are aware of my sons issue because he goes to sleepovers with those kids and they’re just fine. So he has some social interaction. 

How do I help him with this? I don’t know what to do! . 😔",1.5170646766169114,3.226054462686569,2.8545522388059688,94.485907960199,79.0,5.6606965174129344,22.360696517412933,6.42735559955562,0.2762084577114421,988,30,225,8,24,320,140,268,0.053,0.83,0.11800000000000001,0.9568,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,3,5,15,7,0,1,11,0,28,8,6,2,3,43,44,19,0,2,6,6,2,2,2,3,2,0,1,1,13,20,0,3,5,0,0,5,7,1,1,2,6,3,26,6,33,34,7,34,0,0,1,0,43,14,0,2,17,148,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931018160870857,0.09764656812201744,0.0,0.15482241850008974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433733907579293,0.10938962865786314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889098461041545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997844369671085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494881391414265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486866275330587,0.10699356231886868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841873134250673,0.09072084218526401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811125143617136,0.0,0.13269283992296152,0.0,0.2165120276713237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511793280534068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976300227179767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978973735355846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408065120026544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066386303195124,0.0,0.0,0.10796135812737237,0.0,0.12015989698321793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487277774278305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442208653726325,0.0,0.0,0.13325341035817026,0.0,0.0860509145363927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100606240838975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127658843999852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851947083803478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434612266844386,0.0,0.10504646857459278,0.0,0.0,0.12944911533828182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988334417245332,0.0,0.20282687988431586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136931168379755,0.0,0.0,0.0740482052636948,0.0,0.0,0.12134326458394533,0.0,0.08621707662979597,0.0,0.0,0.13219984566408274,0.3055038422870004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417820471139176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773481317971534,0.0,0.12941246196434747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355328003336272
parenting,Nkeeks,2020/03/04,"Field trip Tomorrow my daughter’s school has planned for her whole grade level to go on a field trip to the zoo. One parent is required to go. They are asking people get rides to the school instead of parking and leaving their cars. We do not know anyone yet where we live and finding a ride other than Uber or lift would be difficult. She’d only need the seat for the drive to school and back home, not the bus. I would also have to carry her car seat around the whole zoo all day somehow or check it in and hope it doesn’t get lost. 125 kids are going plus one parent per child. They are trying to shove 250 people on 4 to 5 school buses for an almost 2 hour drive. 

I feel really guilty but the thought of all this is just giving me anxiety. I also have severe digestive issues and I am worried about being trapped on a bus where I cannot get to the restroom. I was too embarrassed to  explain this to her teacher. I really want to go but I am battling a cold plus my anxiety and digestive issues. 

We actually have a closer zoo only about 30 minutes away. Not as big but still a very nice zoo. I was thinking of taking her there instead of the field trip. I’d be in my own car and be able to pull over and find a restroom if needed. I was going to take photos and print them out so her teacher could add them to the class field trip wall. I feel really guilty but I want my child to still get the experience. She has been to a zoo before but I wanted to make tomorrow special since i am really feeling anxiety about going on the field trip. 

Has anyone experienced this or anything similar? Am I off base?",2.7517265130984683,4.3688165823170735,4.113631436314363,87.20706865401989,75.25,6.932429990966577,23.12375790424571,7.662118739084242,0.9905301264679318,1261,36,260,17,27,416,167,328,0.1,0.8440000000000001,0.057,-0.9199,2,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,5,3,19,7,1,1,21,0,30,2,0,1,2,54,59,24,0,10,13,3,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,6,17,2,1,9,0,1,19,5,4,0,2,6,5,35,3,43,45,5,44,0,1,0,0,24,17,0,7,8,177,41,7,0.09565707879499834,0.0,0.09334751020441176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578674677678704,0.0,0.0,0.152993862704819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21953221035970602,0.0,0.0,0.13377130726265365,0.0,0.07871762533695037,0.0851550806059566,0.0894264559168685,0.0,0.0898729743663811,0.07355438903425995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139712857778221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637439373046298,0.0,0.0,0.061690902310089835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935709782158319,0.0,0.0,0.14510127963713368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485767408906014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19990750228022744,0.0917629863476268,0.32618473378466073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595184943285552,0.0950090629614668,0.09420295396189854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19968227554536344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052570628857001186,0.0,0.0,0.10128703465208018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446695309490831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442100133184123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638518428850515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418570237200939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963942443229645,0.14550303779330595,0.0,0.0,0.2124317314995781,0.0,0.0,0.13263314817397195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24512149646226825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872402825129715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806527133338166,0.0,0.07912852407219986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278373338194334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438444371669957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129319362828154,0.0,0.07594103556384084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649448774062413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892710802559116,0.169263070388226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21359542472678344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971444068214228,0.0,0.1359040884805958,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kn07quin,2020/03/04,"Back to work after maternity leave advice Any tips from moms, dads, or family members on leaving 4-month old to go back to work?  My mother and mother in law will be watching the baby while I return to work as a nurse (3-12 hour shifts). I’m nervous to leave her but I know she is in great hands. Hoping for any advise or tips to make it a smooth transition.",3.8067123287671234,4.5644313150684965,5.136876712328768,84.23791780821921,71.46575342465755,7.4838356164383555,24.189041095890413,7.554174236665415,1.0517364383561647,278,7,57,3,5,93,56,73,0.05,0.826,0.125,0.8625,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,3,0,3,1,1,1,0,8,8,6,0,1,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,2,13,6,0,11,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,3,7,32,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837828559417455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557923136257603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892332085759352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729857992551595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688627646801792,0.0,0.0,0.20735125591435166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679902372201496,0.18521411835152468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336005682871544,0.0,0.0,0.5974267695823945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554025418203074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202689408196388,0.15011815352455832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19735108039546664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4107583686504613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Myzac,2020/03/04,"Children And Phones So I am the mother of a ten year old boy who has never had a phone before. He has been asking for one and I want to get him a flip phone, but my fiance thinks we should get him a basic smart phone.

I personally don't think kids under 15/16 should have smart tech but I don't know if I am just being an idiot because of the times. 

What do you guys think?

Also before anyone asks I am 21 not older. I just don't believe in thrusting tech into the hands of children.",1.53173678532902,3.135296067961168,3.1937216828478974,92.54898597626757,78.61165048543691,4.966127292340885,17.269687162891046,5.033348758259628,-0.6531393743257823,377,6,83,1,9,125,69,103,0.046,0.87,0.084,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,8,0,15,1,1,0,1,18,24,7,0,4,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,2,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,2,1,12,2,8,19,0,8,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,1,5,58,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226293547496236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593629359568188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261380966889564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389344053491937,0.0,0.3878764633178253,0.25678130142097544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815156729103445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256709303373381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525570589361948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17578151244211795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391576556964034,0.0,0.15444058756724666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990059234043372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381147268716148,0.0,0.0,0.13289862624747084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442972387280178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676929817067952
parenting,Moridianae,2020/03/04,"Son has incredible anger issues over even small things. Need help, please. Hello, 

My wife and I are currently struggling with our son, who is not quite 7 years old. First off, he *has* been diagnosed with ADHD; however, we elected not to go down the medication route.

He has developed *incredible* anger issues, emotional turmoil the likes of which we've never seen. It is oft over simple things, such as--

""Son, put your clothes on."" or ""Go brush your teeth."" which results in screaming, threatening to break something, throwing something, etc. He doesn't seem to have any control over this nor does he seem particularly remorseful, except when we issue a consequencd, but even then I'm not sure it's kept in mind or whatever, because it continues.

Recently, I helped him with his reading homework and he had to answer a question at the end. He knew the answer and when I told him to write it, he just got completely agitated. When I pleaded with him to just go ahead and write the simple sentence down, he got up, picked up a toy lightsaber and proceeded to try his hardest to snap the blade in two, then threw it down and stormed out. I told him not to do it several times, to calm down it's okay, but it was like it fell on deaf ears.

One morning, I got him up and ready for school and when it was time to leave, he was despondent and wailing that he didnt want to go, it was boring..very, very animated..threw something, even took a swing at my waistline.

We always try our best with him, moderate his exposure to games or TV, but this is something I've never seen. Is it the ADHD causing uncontrollable emotions? My wife suffers from anxiety. Does he have it? Do we have to go down the medication route? Any advice would be welcome.",4.338199672667759,6.1310147781155075,4.8033586626139835,83.16277472527473,71.43161094224924,8.222632686462473,29.067220014028525,8.841846274778883,2.2946440495674545,1358,54,262,26,26,431,177,329,0.107,0.8079999999999999,0.085,-0.7052,2,0,4,0,0,0,63.0,6,2,0,5,10,14,2,3,12,1,23,6,2,4,3,52,44,23,0,3,13,5,0,2,0,1,4,3,1,0,21,19,0,2,6,4,0,10,9,7,0,3,18,6,26,7,45,24,2,51,0,1,2,0,44,21,0,6,21,166,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333353086356112,0.09486249260799873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807758166085398,0.0,0.0,0.1320313384845755,0.0,0.07426361716113827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059177220531544526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187629197020782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972479037657334,0.0,0.0,0.10178335720563372,0.0,0.10888007768318247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853108218709347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990542315606194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183970525129149,0.08598138240101752,0.0,0.10826648388719404,0.1923552715212594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257362200473227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758553990084315,0.0,0.232923965756636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013729483389802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039694092407053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279049556050444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485380904021344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558967068576,0.0,0.0,0.0980200672522126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198134399439256,0.1497434893971858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186595103914188,0.0,0.06578186797228269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656136257322824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758916876985614,0.10874842471270237,0.10325330817898977,0.09710324148220656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958517974836614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982470774201913,0.0,0.17675045702153913,0.0,0.10966934545368827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989383803414019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148592783791714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149389637957044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289872520267792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321272501248783,0.0,0.0,0.18552241200902111,0.10785608678949306,0.13181778212057962,0.0,0.09483009490483144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019733571973746,0.057258512717718216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689606949774207,0.0,0.0,0.06251438657888005
parenting,GiveHawkmoonPlz,2020/03/04,"My niece cries whenever she picks up a glow bug toy Hey guys,

I've got a niece thats about ~15 months old. She's pretty happy 99% of the time but whenever she picks up this one toy she starts full on sad crying.

It's one of these glow bug toys:

https://pixl.varagesale.com/http://s3.amazonaws.com/hopshop-image-store-production/123097271/5b84e16b8ae07c9268b48d6c6571f7ff.jpg?_ver=large&w=1500&h=1500&fit=max&s=531e841430a24888d117031cc5ebf85a

If you press its face lights up and it plays slow piano music.

She's always treated it a bit weirdly compared to her other toys, like before she would hug it (this is pretty common for her with stuffed toys) but she'd lie there as if mesmerized by it and occasionally lift it up to look at its face before pulling it back down for a hug.

Today though she made a sad face while holding on to it and started crying sadly. We've taken it away from her and she stops crying and goes back to normal. She's holding it and everything, and as far as we can tell its not hurting her or anything.

She found it again recently after a couple of hours and started crying over it again, so we've completely removed it.

Any idea what it could be? Seems weird to me",7.65585144927536,10.146903314009666,5.13195350241546,81.31213315217391,64.16908212560385,6.720893719806764,22.59933574879227,7.1686216300943375,0.6194060386473437,994,20,169,8,16,275,122,207,0.159,0.732,0.109,-0.9165,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,1,0,0,8,12,0,0,7,0,6,5,3,3,0,28,15,19,0,5,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,23,10,0,3,3,6,0,2,1,6,0,2,4,5,19,6,28,7,2,32,0,4,3,2,20,12,0,4,19,107,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759753009637805,0.456263219425257,0.0,0.07159085251107779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663264841258686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890966294712876,0.16190050187950816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916314908353975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493342329240995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037920841258672,0.0,0.0,0.08405380588468866,0.11648517967164115,0.5782001791924126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461470228786764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542899465685882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419831973314293,0.0,0.0,0.1042391543688996,0.0,0.11206757465242953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367502011239448,0.0,0.11269944656124188,0.11884306340323048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143222155477257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840478523985883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961408783493378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402978522595972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031474973606186,0.0,0.0,0.1104687774955162,0.0,0.1426746123143197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142057696041631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394671409585328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583873075234227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223543317681344,0.0,0.0,0.08801491200808559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201530183836527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343250331448832,0.0,0.0613869070159664,0.0,0.09978872850077636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747845928073615,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shelbyotero,2020/03/05,"Mom Fail So my 3 year old has a bad habit of using the excuse “I have to pee” to get out of doing things he doesn’t want to do such as sitting in his car seat. He doesn’t ever actually have to pee when he throws one of these tantrums.
Today my husband ran in the store to grab a jar of peanut butter and my son immediately started screaming he had to pee. I tried to just ignore him for a moment so he didn’t get the attention he was looking for, trying to give him a lesson in patience. 
I’m sure you can see where this is going. He did end up having to pee and he peed his pants in his car seat. I feel HORRIBLE. I apologized to him, made sure he knew I was wrong and that he didn’t do anything wrong. I feel like I will feel guilty forever 😅",2.037592592592592,2.8773871419753085,3.951543209876544,90.77694444444448,75.72839506172839,6.881481481481483,22.141975308641968,7.1686216300943375,0.4543604938271604,575,14,137,6,12,196,97,162,0.165,0.764,0.071,-0.9574,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,2,7,10,1,0,7,0,18,4,4,2,3,18,34,7,0,1,1,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,6,0,1,5,4,7,0,1,9,8,17,3,23,24,0,21,0,1,2,0,23,7,0,0,9,80,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.1843871310937388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548906522100364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776466232971367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735287919269642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091533941688405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866151289063192,0.1349853229124818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743628270775293,0.18125725856192315,0.10738416614330866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231101897872067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866971251466525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787882707513582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22129498115938376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982703664683216,0.0,0.12803684584286296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505680230510388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373919317013494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561647082217216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552943092468824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910171740662045,0.0,0.0,0.25656816337037025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631914141228113,0.0,0.0,0.11144711441029782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41317250553168894,0.0,0.12167706883504385
parenting,DKLoesch,2020/03/05,"New parent...I feel like a monster I'm two weeks post partum and even though I absolutely love my daughter I just dont want to be a mother. It was all I have ever wanted. My husband and I have tried to have a kid for 3 years but now it's like I dont even want to live. My body is ruined, my house is a mess, I feel like she is always crying or needing food, a diaper change or I need to pump. I have had to do laundry already 3 times and dishes three or four times a day. I feel like a monster everytime she looks at me. I mean I constantly find myself staring at her and just sobbing because I feel overwhelmed with love and what shoukd be joy. Honestly I love her so much it hurts but at the same time I feel like this and it makes me feel so guilty. I love her so much how can I wish I never had her? How can I wish I could just die and leave her without a mother? How could I want that for her? I hate myself more and more every day. I just dont know what to do anymore. It's a vicious circle because everytime I feel this way I see her and then I feel worse for feeling this way which only makes me feel this way even more. I live in germany so it's practically impossible to find a therapist that speaks english and takes my american insurance. I'm falling deeper and deeper into this pit and I'm afraid I'll leave my husband without a wife or my daughter without a mother. I feel like a monster but I wish I never had her. I also want to say that it doesnt help that my husband is like the perfect father to her and the picture of perfect mental health. He sees I need help pand always wants go help but he doesnt really understand what it's like and cant understand so I can't tell him my feelings because I'm afraid he will be horrified.",1.1475258521639229,2.95609054691689,3.1501999234009967,91.45875067024129,80.52815013404825,5.8714362313289925,22.185292991191115,6.868970318607317,0.5238984144006129,1366,43,303,15,35,461,156,373,0.158,0.648,0.193,0.9651,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,2,19,25,2,3,16,0,29,8,1,5,6,75,73,33,1,14,15,10,12,8,0,1,1,2,0,1,21,16,2,0,18,0,0,2,12,9,0,3,4,18,58,16,22,63,7,25,0,4,4,4,36,5,1,4,22,200,79,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601269224608384,0.055084687593144006,0.11463022015054045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831215840415182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596897380132827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765120640304193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286772768664593,0.0,0.0,0.0744366699857874,0.0,0.10999289891452137,0.0,0.07566333635090551,0.08884602352048276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148835163076668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421865928836587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364871817295116,0.062307460418838535,0.058035820992976474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179440151059172,0.2460455771023309,0.0,0.0,0.125913290640204,0.0,0.08329205074748629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039147069563278916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800643910239171,0.0,0.0732180486286668,0.0,0.0,0.13850989735795868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948025807951427,0.07373930723814658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03785559258347713,0.0,0.0,0.1458715941255871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692170372004004,0.0,0.12164764366149228,0.0,0.05784329754079035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24867377098134005,0.0,0.0919581676124003,0.0,0.0,0.07503238780406504,0.0,0.0,0.06941657386096589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012719814946316,0.15322477051757832,0.1062516596947334,0.06652639560735016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052387652935866606,0.0,0.0,0.07648499984016895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596964828605817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04412739444666201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05477750944367319,0.0,0.0,0.10977962737110077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051790481940070736,0.0,0.06020566045267047,0.0,0.0,0.07997698742335277,0.0,0.0,0.06767594139136315,0.0,0.12049645676982287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04676616721025054,0.0,0.06728743275056058,0.14341660212030874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437693431240649,0.1640253124316043,0.05525276190116075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376317400445725,0.19919856368994493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019635867847664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04435757010567568
parenting,0112358_,2020/03/05,How useful are cupholders in car seats? I'm looking to buy a convertible carseat as my child will soon outgrow his bucket seat. Some of the convertible car seats have cup holders. Do you think the cup holders are an important feature? Do your kids use them or not?,3.446199999999997,6.053439219999998,3.414000000000001,88.397,76.8,6.4,30.0,7.554174236665415,2.0014000000000003,211,10,39,3,5,64,42,50,0.0,0.898,0.102,0.6416,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,3,0,7,11,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,4,10,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,2,1,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147465793658791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164673400726909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.853131700015665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,schmeckles1,2020/03/05,Newborn baby boy keeps peeing up and out of his diaper New dad here. Our son is 3 days old. We thought he was sweating at first since it was basically order less but that made no sense. He’s been circumcised I think it’s the angle of his penis in the diaper but it keeps happening in bigger quantities. Any advice on how to contain the future flow?,1.0297460317460327,3.5785296571428566,3.2890476190476186,85.33484126984128,88.14285714285714,6.53968253968254,19.206349206349206,7.793537801064563,1.0904444444444443,276,8,53,6,9,94,57,70,0.040999999999999995,0.9590000000000001,0.0,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,2,2,0,12,10,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,0,5,0,9,5,1,14,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,5,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926018351079441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036242716707164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931090997334149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546970110719726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264787045623882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5322984764258955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833301374696228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891936376034354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142038901743519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476935410996116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918641647004643,0.0,0.23771584563382264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlentyLaw2,2020/03/05,"Neighbour that I do not know took my daughter this morning and police aren't taking it seriously My 9 year old daughter and I got in an argument this morning over her not wanting to wear a winter jacket. Long story short, she leaves the house and slams the door, I open it and she calls me an asshole and the worst mom ever. Obviously inappropriate behavior that we need to address so I ask her to come back and notice her looking up our street and I think it's her friend that sometimes comes to meet her but it's some woman around my age. The woman asks if she's okay and my daughter says no so the woman calls her over and puts her arm around her. I asked who she was and she said a neighbour from down the street. I've lived here for 9 years and never seen this woman before so I tell my daughter that she needs come inside again and she says she just wants to go to school and the women says ""I'll walk her"". I explain that's not going to happen because I don't know her. She says it's fine, she's a mom, lives down the street, etc. I say no, but she tells my daughter it's okay, let's go and starts walking with her. So I throw my boots on and try to stop them again but she insists on walking my daughter and continues doing so. So I run back home to get pants on, my phone, son and keys and we get in the car and I try to start calling 911 while following them. I park across from them and get disconnected from 911 when I tried confronting this woman again. I tell my daughter to go to school (not far from the entrance at this point) and she goes, so I get my son and follow her to the school. I went to the office and asked to talk to the principal right away and we called the police again.  She also called my daughter in so we could make sure she was okay and talk about what had just happened.   


So, like 3 hours later, the police come and take a statement and tell me they'll get in touch after they talk to the woman. I had a hit and run earlier this year that barely damaged my car and the officer that showed up seemed concerned for that than the police that showed up today about this woman taking my daughter. At this point I think she lives two doors down because that's the only thing that makes sense. I went outside shortly after the police left and heard some loud talking, didn't think much of it since the police car was gone but eventually I heard a woman say ""how dare you give me shit for trying to help a little girl, FUCK YOU!"", this is coming from my neighbours house directly next door, that I've known for 9 years (turns out she's staying with them). So I call the police back (one gave me their cell #) and explain the situation. The cop said she had talked to her already but since she was yelling at someone else she would come back. When she came back I listened to what was being said and this woman admitted what she did, basically said she would do it again, all while calling me a piece of shit mother and threatening to call CAS. 

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So the police come back to me and explain that she's been warned if it happens again she could get in 'real' trouble but aren't sure what exactly. Obviously I was quite surprised by this! I get people make mistakes but this lady straight up said she would take my daughter again if she thought she was in danger, and has no regrets about having done it already. The police said that because she had good intentions it would be hard to charge her with anything but I find that hard to believe. I don't get to steal things because I'm giving it to the homeless. I missed two classes today, had to call off work and sat in a courthouse most of the day trying to get a restraining order because I'm seriously concerned about what this woman will do. I feel like she just undid years of teaching my daughter how to deal with strangers because she took advantage of being in a vulnerable position. My daughters mad at me, her mom, and some other 'mom' comes along and helps convince her that she should ignore me and follow her! How is that okay? I later learned this woman has 7 kids, all of which she doesn't currently have custody of, talk about adding insult to injury.   


I don't understand how there aren't any consequences for her. I wasn't yelling at my daughter, didn't threaten to harm her, etc., but if this woman did think she was in an unsafe situation you don't take someones kid, you call the police!   


Since I wasn't able to get a restraining order because she isn't family/we don't have a previous relationship I need to go to the courthouse again tomorrow to try and get a peace bond. I also plan on contacting the police station to talk to someone that can clarify why things went the way they did today. Not sure what else to do. 

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An advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!",4.573672170761178,5.477000327748693,4.8683769633507845,86.32733387031817,69.80628272251309,7.426661296818366,26.943616592831248,7.439217596111235,1.2836899718082964,3783,117,770,37,65,1192,348,955,0.084,0.831,0.085,-0.6864,3,0,0,0,2,0,89.0,5,4,8,4,46,35,7,0,50,4,60,5,4,8,10,145,153,75,0,19,22,20,4,2,4,8,0,18,5,16,57,62,0,4,19,2,0,33,23,18,0,3,42,24,134,17,102,95,11,128,0,3,2,1,168,46,3,10,47,520,191,7,0.04003432332612857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03912107741444672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835774261379344,0.06403086779980477,0.0,0.08675434519539338,0.09729216963259732,0.0272247126972108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032944836951986245,0.07127807105938219,0.1497067522941289,0.0,0.037613564614234235,0.18470354079895104,0.0,0.1708318634011725,0.0,0.034066260483293996,0.04510497299382886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4087952022166263,0.04578860061966486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27588819731370184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392829910675203,0.0,0.0,0.025818826588418515,0.04127362944800038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040969012382804405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688708009362765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929770620814856,0.0,0.03621333745674882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02024255677051453,0.028600528583422286,0.0,0.0,0.036590646237162086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030930418892334093,0.03701108681051423,0.2300790974035646,0.07680914180298172,0.1137621426879098,0.03357889099035161,0.032019105568941365,0.04413798280063369,0.0,0.0,0.10620665970573698,0.0,0.07172578031544784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053668326076373035,0.0,0.04015769049530915,0.0,0.03942574417591607,0.09238846801442437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044003634224070325,0.0,0.0,0.042390567902416326,0.04349740943268781,0.04093780800935767,0.0,0.039117496330730465,0.04012490936688982,0.10605312287932764,0.03542911633693823,0.03361874869196951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016966507541856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875508624925209,0.0,0.0,0.029429834052985143,0.08905483041976622,0.03087693818685688,0.0,0.0425769570368335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557934245250577,0.04200928783271808,0.0,0.027128293582216,0.030447906905221606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027754759002930958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569075156012617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040245552497058634,0.0,0.04258143077960179,0.0,0.045567824573924894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04298188082500525,0.0,0.034189093376687484,0.22849085550565795,0.19102140461409872,0.0,0.1215506176096735,0.0,0.03644574437207774,0.0,0.0,0.08218931517117205,0.09935041787596703,0.09000051358192372,0.0,0.0,0.10176285671381724,0.0,0.03959496944453795,0.0,0.05667300021153025,0.04267126192943888,0.0,0.0334704869189767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319562784436267,0.0,0.15050414404118306,0.22524650831429066,0.13996705268506174,0.036858226137728566,0.0,0.0,0.07979107653540977,0.1026095114890308,0.0,0.03178278084363579,0.0,0.0,0.11384357226783533,0.0,0.088959212538239,0.16308406569863987,0.04354584763348745,0.0782154333498597,0.04167714246874317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04722656230260305,0.03177738241191646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133665643013024,0.036124749861175705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02914546418791117,0.0,0.0,0.14219617325015585,0.0,0.09729216963259732,0.12890395822588802
parenting,Stryker412,2020/03/05,"My twins won’t eat dinner My wife and I are struggling with dinners. My 8 year old son eats fine but our 4 year old twins won’t eat anything of substance. They’re even not eating things like McDonald’s, pizza, or grilled cheese (their old stand byes). Tonight my wife texted me upset because all they would eat was applesauce. Can anyone offer some help/guidance? We have tried all sorts of dinners like grilled chicken or hamburger helper but they won’t even attempt to try it. My son has been great with trying foods (he even eats sushi).",3.3831067961165084,5.873595320388354,2.7473883495145617,93.71059708737866,76.37864077669903,5.285048543689321,24.863106796116504,6.2581,0.6327910679611657,430,15,84,3,10,125,74,103,0.099,0.807,0.094,0.1331,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,1,3,7,0,2,0,0,10,11,0,0,2,14,10,5,0,1,5,4,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,11,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,12,5,5,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,4,9,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673119876718904,0.0,0.10207381761135263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561323750465543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7615393394829343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24578046586450344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499888764360106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675382314658194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831409628071634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211987235418692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904753018327949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967286222742214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240623363997616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25264373294215364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811399658478886,0.0,0.0,0.15975455140976114
parenting,cheap-nugget-holder,2020/03/05,"Serious but odd advice Long post so you can scroll for the question

Alright this is gonna get a bit odd and I’m not sure if this is even allowed on this sub so I’m sorry if it’s not. I’ll try keep it short 


So a while back I met my girlfriend , we love eachother very much and plan to have a child in the next few years , I fancy that I would make a very good dad but something is kind of troubling me 

For a lot of my teen years I used all kinds of different drugs and learned a lot about them in the process , the main thing being that you need to take precaution and know what your doing 

I still occasionally do drugs but have cut down tons since when I was younger and am going to quit completely soon mainly because I want to have a family 

But drug abuse and addiction runs in my family , I have no doubts that I can stop but I worry for the child I have in the future. I think it’s almost a certainty that they will come across some sort of substance in their life 

**Now here’s where I need the advice **

I want to raise my child in a manner that steers them away from drug use completely but I want them to feel comfortable enough to tell me if they have tried anything to I can do my best to help them 

I’m well aware that punishing them for it would further push them into it so that’s a no go. but I don’t know how to address the topic when mentioned in a way that shows I’m against drug use without scaring them away from being open with me 

This is how I would want to parent in general , I want to be a parent you could talk and ask for help in difficult situations without feeling scared but this topic is a little different

I’m sorry if that didn’t make much sense but I would prefer to know if they tried something rather than them hide it but still steer them away from it if that summarises it better 

Thanks for any help I know it’s a bit of a taboo subject",3.4869561947734558,4.168850350253808,4.2371517202481686,90.67529516826471,72.14720812182742,7.562925361910134,24.23726264335401,7.662118739084242,0.8620642225982325,1474,38,336,17,27,472,188,394,0.127,0.732,0.141,0.7714,5,0,7,0,1,0,12.0,1,4,13,4,20,19,2,3,23,1,30,8,0,8,2,75,65,32,0,20,21,3,2,0,1,6,7,0,1,3,26,12,0,3,10,1,0,5,8,8,1,0,3,2,47,11,49,52,14,42,0,0,0,1,35,21,0,13,14,233,73,1,0.0,0.09035295380290044,0.0,0.08313219419328054,0.0,0.14903636464768305,0.0,0.0,0.07636111260591281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185787914255607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275362359296266,0.0,0.07129069417221885,0.0,0.21493997489481526,0.05863749602847345,0.0,0.046486011359730864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002779487235126,0.0674437752502101,0.16650740605765985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568929189571106,0.1599095819909452,0.0,0.0,0.060885601360391325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934621826383089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442173848977226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879463184719508,0.0,0.05036751899195693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377802365674028,0.0,0.0771164106829468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03984152246019953,0.0,0.08667806359789061,0.06396137546373888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334186985214598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778138438942931,0.0,0.1588214056249901,0.1676370414486592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386309796138436,0.0,0.07643029051202319,0.0,0.06748570144935752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966320947422982,0.06882558891606883,0.0,0.10180526907344704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211642851691447,0.11308829798210507,0.0,0.0,0.08110097310595754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935039466273474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303383667615812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854261227739277,0.08110949473167213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269460482736552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308119171326985,0.0857168964096642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741386989443366,0.0,0.1707285963719927,0.0,0.0,0.1217990615791292,0.06375488640747427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187201879783423,0.0,0.05733633114108955,0.06129308394680871,0.06665262718112484,0.07020788273204266,0.0,0.0,0.050662254910917054,0.04886288153758947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532200216649464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975866128124908,0.0,0.12584124602636124,0.2248939582434687,0.060529845619005575,0.0,0.0,0.06856486770673144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701948289484615,0.0,0.0,0.07744343803231621,0.0,0.2166852462012139,0.0,0.0,0.09821497050890897
parenting,NeedSomeAdviceOkay,2020/03/05,"Counseling and School Prospects Hello all, I’m reaching out because my 4yo will be going to kindergarten in the fall soon after turning five. She is whip-smart but prone to anxiety and recently had a kicking fit at school (kicked teacher while tantrumming) and scratched herself, though she did not not draw blood. My wife and I have been concerned about her anxiety for some time and thought it would be best to explore some counseling.

We have been told by her pediatrician previously that she is not on the autism spectrum and does not have any other trades that would indicate learning disability in any way. 

I’ve been told by a few people that receiving counseling may cause her not to be accepted by even the public school system and could place her on a special-needs track just for VISITING with a counselor.

Even the counseling center we spoke to mentioned that her “file” would follow her if we fill out the form for a visit. Aside from seeming unconstitutional (which I care less about from a practical point of view), is this possible? Legal? Are there guidelines that are widely excepted for what constitutes being removed from a main-stream schooling track? Am I really supposed to choose between caring for my daughter’s mental health and her basic schooling needs?

For context, we live in a high performing school system in the middle of the country. 

Any advice or experiences would be greatly appreciated. 

Thank you.",8.617206851119896,9.427250588932806,7.4986719367588925,71.34221080368908,60.897233201581024,10.383030303030305,37.02476943346508,10.203070172399654,3.9275967852437415,1161,51,185,23,15,354,158,253,0.024,0.8540000000000001,0.122,0.981,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,1,0,2,8,7,1,0,15,0,26,2,1,1,1,42,39,13,0,7,10,2,1,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,10,15,0,0,6,0,1,9,5,1,0,1,9,3,22,6,35,18,7,33,0,0,1,0,27,16,0,6,5,139,32,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692237019060263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22322474239441714,0.0,0.16740951555234354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670042612807348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482783452356812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311865237589604,0.11240281233054113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736166939287228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957527577688363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453961015410347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703216699183618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062184984351484174,0.0,0.0,0.12063414528386793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630661653639475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560652121515272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661843021553633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026798704051577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113233900767855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585692452239215,0.0,0.11431891389698336,0.0,0.1034357320042537,0.1233527779778703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009621317125242,0.0,0.10803744548789726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6644234255244987,0.0,0.09961037960023886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073773934998603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107502998394074,0.08686596800616468,0.06380273468089033,0.0,0.0,0.20910789364825808,0.0,0.0,0.11901577228064622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685121347605224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109106983914647,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stephenMk2,2020/03/05,"My sons friend threw a pencil in class and hit my son in the eye but my son got suspended?? Yesterday I got a call from my sons school saying some kids were playing a game in class regarding throwing pencils. My son is 12 and One of my sons friends threw a pencil in class, told him to catch it and it ended up in my sons eye. I was told to come pick him up from school because of this, when I got there the principal came up to me saying my son is suspended from school for two weeks and so was his friend. I asked why and they said my son was involved in this game. Even if he didn’t throw it, he was still involved. I told the principal that that’s silly and he didn’t throw it it ended up in his eye from another kid. 

So I asked my sons teacher if she saw my son throw any pencils and she said no he didn’t throw any pencils it was his friends that threw them but yet my son is still suspended for two weeks because he was “involved”. Honestly it’s the stupidest crap I’ve ever heard. He may have been in the classroom while the other kids were throwing them but his teacher said he never once picked up a pencil and threw it. His teacher said their are some disobedient kids in her class that don’t listen when she tells them to stop butt my son is not one of them. That’s a relief but he’s still suspended. 

How do I help this situation? Is there a way I can help him not be suspended? The only reason why he’s being suspended is because he was “involved” in the game. Which don’t make since to me because he didn’t throw anything and his teacher was in the room and said he didn’t. I mean he’s innocent he didn’t throw anything. His eye is fine by the way. The pediatrician checked it and told him it was just scratched. I was told to squirt water in it with a syringe.",2.8247119815668182,3.9584134758064513,3.833901689708142,91.23870967741941,74.18817204301075,7.142242703533026,24.844854070660524,7.5804360353943165,0.9521241167434716,1391,43,316,17,28,449,133,372,0.09699999999999999,0.802,0.1,-0.594,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,6,0,14,10,1,0,19,0,35,7,6,5,2,35,62,23,0,2,9,13,1,0,4,1,0,9,1,4,21,14,1,1,2,4,1,15,12,1,0,4,39,15,46,9,34,19,2,50,0,0,5,1,83,18,2,5,15,197,67,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163050754271874,0.09377482423997936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718602484252236,0.0,0.1672093702753059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180620283285254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131770917040877,0.10228373748111698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703575662469063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841631692436556,0.0,0.0,0.05906746477057419,0.08089427175353385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763726170575105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145752705305809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198856680736644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969501044328707,0.0,0.0,0.0974151462527498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897368770795732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952396978866588,0.12119974061327238,0.06801530674876455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194861263366357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253405572037261,0.14223615294641362,0.0,0.27152285271884946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739771611503121,0.10052271504040744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21425599045477284,0.07476722265051021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781654881296813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272694913231299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471961893268725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197024571489592,0.14347020104239122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139276507107886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WorldSlampion,2020/03/05,"10 year old ""tagging"" various items in the house My 10 year old niece has been writting on various objects in the house from appliances and walls to smaller items like coffee mugs. Shes been reprimanded for a at least 8 times now. Shes super into being a ""vsco girl"" and has mild behavior issues at home. Otherwise, she does really well at school and gets good grades. 

It seems odd to me that a 10 year old is writting on stuff considering she is a little too old for this type of behavior. I dunno if it's for attention or what, but I thought maybe someone in the reddit community could help out.

Anyone have any thoughts, suggestions, or faced similar issues? How would you go about handling it.",4.768270676691729,6.378180601503763,5.566924812030077,78.83925939849628,70.05263157894737,9.229774436090226,29.089473684210525,9.642632912329526,2.780188571428572,552,21,102,13,10,180,94,133,0.013000000000000001,0.9,0.08800000000000001,0.8292,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,7,0,12,1,1,1,0,17,17,8,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,9,4,18,10,5,22,0,0,0,0,8,12,0,5,10,67,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934025936048754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214340657981053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663399141013164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783668632616646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632142385986956,0.0,0.08302134083625842,0.1225260217479106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791518263508296,0.0,0.14653140451803195,0.0,0.0,0.3371162985830631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049417438638734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136791991611731,0.1464117894522818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675825031051154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6131507935845564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358338939394913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784202393694432,0.0,0.13298688360003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377416909956265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722808165245762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231944390181042,0.08518115164728086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134458743058602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377192874609477,0.0,0.0,0.28221460667384946
parenting,Davidhammer12,2020/03/05,Still hasn’t lost a tooth My 8 soon to be 9 yr old son still hasn’t lost a tooth. None of his teeth are loose. They’re hard as a brick. Dentist told us to wait and not go get them pulled but we’ve been waiting forever. He looks like a 5 year old. All his other classmates have lost 8 teeth. My son hasn’t lost any. I think we should go get them pulled but the dentist has said to wait a little longer. He keeps telling us this stuff takes time but I don’t want him to be ten and have a mouth full of baby teeth. Is this normal?,-0.5456410256410251,1.3655611025641043,0.7285470085470109,105.86923076923081,87.54700854700857,3.9418803418803416,14.128205128205128,4.713530739802397,-1.5581487179487181,407,6,108,1,13,127,74,117,0.11199999999999999,0.845,0.044000000000000004,-0.6542,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,2,4,3,5,0,0,7,0,13,8,6,0,1,16,31,6,0,3,4,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,3,0,4,1,0,0,4,6,4,0,1,7,3,12,1,7,21,3,13,0,4,1,0,15,2,0,0,8,56,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123061492026234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554750347264767,0.0,0.1692023241828162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333502565797933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323145361002204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272598707913355,0.1491978737849525,0.0,0.0,0.12500578576487625,0.0,0.6499976591979435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458522174140312,0.0,0.0,0.3124092501519057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160094215223978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23776124485291505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704102812554912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192497947570702,0.0,0.13011111420596536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538414656774774,0.0,0.0,0.08680207215464672,0.0,0.0,0.14224310731620354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35812301550433057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780210090063471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586163205460999
parenting,Cpzanzibar,2020/03/05,"I use a hypnosis type tactic to talk my 7yo to sleep sometimes. Is this okay? I learned a little bit about hypnosis years ago and realised that it is sometimes effective in getting my daughter to fall asleep, I’ll just talk in a soft drone voice, talking about how she’s listening to my voice, how her eyelids feel heavy, her arms feel so heavy, etc that type of thing

Just want to check this isn’t super weird or worse damaging in any way?",3.6784236453201977,5.405598747126444,3.76978653530378,90.17172413793104,73.02298850574712,7.270279146141214,27.37110016420361,7.957251820313856,1.546965188834155,349,13,72,5,7,107,60,87,0.08900000000000001,0.792,0.11900000000000001,0.3989,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,3,1,3,3,3,4,0,12,9,5,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,6,8,2,11,9,2,8,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,1,2,39,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19659386299722625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081744854265233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212542587828104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473424120358873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242764357562215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587046872827235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22228100333045864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22193934775849564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4386905627372362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5347731156970328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734023352705428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154600550121914,0.0,0.0,0.13081110734088516,0.17603799129238934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260119330597561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281852156088184
parenting,matchaMed,2020/03/05,"My parents are equal? I'm 20 yrs old currently studying medicine. I have a little brother who's turning 18 and finished high school last year. In our country, we basically have this really huge exam where our grades really determine where and what our college life is going to be (which uni, what course we're eligible), and the standard number of subjects we need to ace is 9 subjects for the science stream (what my brother and I were taking). I got my results back in 2018 getting 8As 1B+. My parents were quite happy so they surprised me by getting the latest iphone (8+ at that time) for me. So this year, my brother got his results which were 4As 3Bs 2Cs (and his As arent the science subjects). I was still really happy with him for bouncing up after failing almost ALL his other exams. But i also know that the actual exam would be pretty easier than the trials. And surprisingly, he asked for an IPHONE 11 and welp, he got it :) I'm happy for him and I hope he gets into the same university im in, but i feel like we shouldve gotten smthing not too extravagant. Before the exams, he loved partying with his friends, he was given private TUTORS (i got none), i was shipped to boarding school and he happily stays at home. I calmly asked why smthing so extravagant, and i still cannot understand their answer, ""Its because he's a late bloomer, he's not independent yet"" So getting him what he wants will make him more independent?? He stayed out late at night jumping frm one party to another without my parents' consent BEFORE the exams, only for him to be showered with expensive things?(in my country an iphone is a definite LUXURY) . They keep telling me im overreacting and that ""they treat their children with fairness"", but i just feel like the set my brother's bar too low because even my brother said it himself to me ""i can get whatever i want because im good at convincing them"". I feel as if my hardwork is for absolutely nothing and i'm sure everyone has their own ""limits"" but this is just setting the bar so low. What do you think?",3.893732502691893,5.882187190355335,4.969409321642825,80.69976388247963,73.03553299492386,7.516874327026612,30.21350561452084,8.296473431620573,2.3773834179357025,1619,72,294,27,33,531,210,394,0.028999999999999998,0.8059999999999999,0.165,0.9947,6,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,6,1,7,4,17,18,0,0,16,0,24,4,0,5,2,55,57,25,0,6,10,8,3,2,1,2,1,1,2,1,18,21,2,2,7,2,1,2,6,3,0,1,13,4,53,15,34,39,6,39,0,3,0,1,50,17,0,3,18,188,71,12,0.0,0.0,0.0902772471291478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263625555228164,0.0,0.0,0.07398089527187562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700569495165934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297031796589746,0.0,0.0,0.07113513517113104,0.0,0.16918127097559532,0.0,0.15743984335796826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061102545545047925,0.0,0.0,0.0883980839705412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032879989913222,0.13217954293331635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147365511094912,0.0,0.2416655107726408,0.0,0.05257604935427152,0.07759371387780896,0.29595751888931343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954385679595131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774279479960084,0.09279592786974283,0.09188415028637507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29978278672691816,0.0,0.0,0.08222789626431411,0.0,0.0,0.05084154513243681,0.0754086919964323,0.20871254207962664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534315094830112,0.09039225919566793,0.0927201776164098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349465619063734,0.0,0.06175171236128886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859562488244622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681516815658885,0.0,0.08876665794629747,0.0,0.097074577633879,0.0,0.06268774781205565,0.07035867197820132,0.0,0.0,0.3081670611352923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411679518182473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983966789543323,0.0,0.0,0.17779446284373052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799900544112721,0.0,0.0,0.18725184317306154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972085194778645,0.14775857251716668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719038360238639,0.0,0.06955664791616642,0.0,0.08085856261218924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592772188181358,0.0,0.0,0.053943822009499605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062524229315258,0.0,0.09630705995899463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913059528361536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347665518318938,0.0,0.0,0.0891771604933156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571705530633673,0.0,0.0,0.1191479117660027
parenting,whereisthecat,2020/03/05,"Ftm 12 week old boy. What do I do with him during awake time? He’s a very active baby, he has to be moving the whole time, will put up with his activity mat for 15 mins max. Only really happy in the front pack or the pram outside. Will put up with me cleaning in the front pack but that’s starting to wear thin. There’s only so many walks I can do you guys, I’ve already dropped two pant sizes. There’s going to be nothing left of me soon!",1.3643421052631588,2.751312842105264,3.0770394736842133,94.15240131578949,78.47368421052632,5.592105263157895,19.24342105263158,5.985473137389443,-0.28013157894736906,340,7,80,2,8,113,69,95,0.0,0.9470000000000001,0.053,0.5838,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,0,0,5,11,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,12,7,1,21,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,7,43,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23985927004276794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352920614050872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21521797573997847,0.0,0.2313809691647004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361594256856259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22036626431172304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231016492943764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20856026503561054,0.0,0.2280800033250122,0.0,0.0,0.3306201588484906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4370083960431745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924470122173507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384666990970866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534856685072327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21232657370365413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934259922423046,0.0,0.0,0.17435097673628394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24267174872595296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DistinctFirefighter1,2020/03/05,"Help me establish a better routine and come up with a big kid routine. Hi everyone! Please don’t eat me alive. I am struggling as a parent with time management and routine and need some input and advice. All of my friends seem to be having the same issue with their same aged children and are just as lost as I am. 

I want to ensure my kids have an enjoyable summer, not one where they are constantly asking to watch tv. One with some structure and routine. It’s time to start practicing now setting a new routine. 

Preface- I am a SAHM with a 6.5 year old and almost 4 year old. I basically feel like I am functioning with baptism by fire on the daily and am really struggling to pull my shit together and get out of a ‘napping routine’ and more of a big kid routine. (Aka, get everyone done in 2 hours in the afternoon every day) 

They have their regular activities (nothing crazy, one sport) get together with family friends on the regular. We rotate to the library weekly, spend time doing reading every night, you name it. There’s plenty of quality time. 

They already get dressed, make their beds pick up their dirty laundry. My oldest has already said she’d like to start handling the trash (she loves throwing things away lol!) and my youngest, putting away clean dishes. 

I am looking I guess more of an input on how to balance the busyness of my now older kids with jobs and routines that we can stick to. Do I need to be like, I only do laundry on tuesdays and thursdays? My kids can help me fold. But if they expect the laundry every Friday, is that better for them? 

I’m lost as I enter this newer world of older, capable children, and I am ready for more help. (And before anyone says ‘where’s your husband?-He’s here and helping. 

Signed-
A mom who needs a real routine and is tired of the shit one she currently has.",3.867005289968653,5.765431133522732,4.59777037617555,83.71784090909092,72.89204545454545,7.127899686520378,28.899294670846395,7.873277556716777,1.966052978056425,1437,59,265,20,29,461,187,352,0.075,0.78,0.145,0.9723,3,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,2,9,4,8,15,2,2,21,1,26,6,2,3,1,53,48,24,0,6,4,2,2,3,2,0,1,2,2,7,7,29,2,0,2,4,1,5,2,6,0,4,4,6,38,9,44,41,8,51,0,2,2,1,38,16,2,6,32,175,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354631158441047,0.0,0.0,0.09585983192292023,0.0,0.2112810144230012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693668728613139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949468817048173,0.0,0.1798830946258219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145923446651017,0.0,0.0,0.16933092615079934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246297448226181,0.0,0.1034501915413842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173797237731876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796509326842102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795575553668844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24197012571080545,0.18294835906751108,0.0,0.0,0.0902457855287821,0.0,0.048403997232969634,0.06838957756709567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792162150780286,0.0,0.20006003140882728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545745930558477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25666337867781536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427483067645624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991731641314884,0.09499731812576584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030662274674086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038914437094752,0.0,0.2090013488028618,0.0,0.0864001212179757,0.0,0.06390056174674333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211789513605867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21294789062910335,0.0,0.09245669331328668,0.0,0.0898361810744162,0.0,0.09185557922609544,0.0,0.20090519938427967,0.0,0.2594766782428333,0.07280702819798007,0.0,0.0,0.10629690829827523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508286417612032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623515615105,0.0,0.0,0.0957559709197945,0.10896177195370377,0.061327130950390676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106121378373036,0.07612839001516264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714905581043993,0.0,0.0,0.1965310720985549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551646546046814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001556983367376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359880146927825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223283882980013,0.1100276272613936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646407262020394,0.0,0.07678888379822668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232940464590555
parenting,hennycandy,2020/03/05,"BAD NEWS AT 14 week ULTRASOUND I am at loss of words and I don't know where to start. This is my first post ever and I don't even know why I am writing this, maybe in hopes to find people who were in similar situation. Or maybe because I don't have any support system, besides my loving partner. 

Last week on Friday, I had my big appointment at 14+ weeks (they were fully booked around when I was 12 weeks and they assured me it is ok to be seen later). 

I have one healthy child and remember all my ultrasound appointments were so much fun. Anxious to see lil one, but always relieved afterwards. Well this one, not so much fun as we  thought, the ultrasound lady did not say a word, did not even let us hear the heartbeat (just told us its 152bpm). For 20 minutes, she literally did not say anything, she just kept taking measurements and pictures and said the doctor will meet us as soon as she is able to. Gave us two profile pictures and left the room. 

I KNEW SOMETHING WAS OFF right there. 

Doctor met us within maybe an hour and told us that **fetuses bladder was not visualized on this scan, fetuses kidneys appear echogenic and prominent, AFV appears decreased, incomplete chorion/amnion fusion seen. Due to everything, lungs are very small and undeveloped.**

OB referred me to MFM and order NIPT genetic blood test, because she is almost positive my child has **Down Syndrome as well or maybe any other chromosomal abnormality.** 

And she really did not say more, offered me some tissues and told me to schedule an appointment in 4 weeks. She was saying weird things, how she will help me successfully breastfeed and etc. And I just kept asking can I see high risk pregnancy doctor right away, but she insisted they will call me same day to schedule an appointment. 

ALL weekend was so surreal, I have googled so much, with so little positive outcome. I would love to hear from you, if anything similar happened to you (positive or negative outcome), my MFM appointment is in a week and I cant stress this enough. I am so scared.",3.753725146198832,6.246297647368423,4.4256140350877216,82.13374269005851,75.15789473684211,7.801169590643276,28.976608187134506,8.680891452615391,2.5148888888888896,1606,70,290,34,36,512,214,380,0.055,0.813,0.132,0.9856,0,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,7,2,3,3,20,18,0,3,9,1,37,9,4,1,4,60,65,34,0,3,15,0,0,0,1,4,3,7,1,3,11,19,0,2,7,2,0,2,11,6,2,5,25,12,47,12,33,34,10,48,0,1,5,2,44,23,0,10,20,200,58,6,0.07233693376987926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243499012209992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019012368748437,0.0,0.0,0.0983831910053453,0.0,0.0,0.08172014527037384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905426597281545,0.06439520737574411,0.06762526830656032,0.0,0.06796293046304999,0.0,0.060398318182107065,0.08819184683794662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386409713309397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046651337996351135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221197506754168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474338946554494,0.08067480255829808,0.09555572505826952,0.06543289796247062,0.0,0.0,0.06501177175995207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611464697161988,0.061529758911319565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396731163631181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305796329372954,0.0,0.04848592190882799,0.07642794210113285,0.0,0.07184689707816236,0.07123730859764812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950897405135139,0.05896425570439105,0.0,0.0,0.07859429019598549,0.07396941575690938,0.0,0.0,0.0725006112317822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057381389954045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906886908662984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952790854540894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705213525109184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05014932180666201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927878677617566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046340892066034735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194364471878485,0.12355069239437146,0.06880898900630998,0.2301009325029365,0.0724218899837752,0.0,0.1152863414404137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130974435606013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556885056788858,0.0,0.0,0.05120045403847538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828617132324092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208709521061096,0.0,0.0,0.05438837175246559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04805744453953164,0.0,0.0,0.05742744529937323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20736312044494126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066267332559831,0.0,0.522074548280559,0.0,0.0,0.05968554609670791,0.0,0.0,0.3481459498416894,0.0,0.130079181551255,0.0,0.06527283143701436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051386082302100886,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mstoelti,2020/03/05,"You talk smack and you might just get punched on the nose So I got a call from the school today that my son and another boy (one of his good friends as it turns out) got into an argument that ended with my son getting punched on the nose. First boy called my son a wimp. My son called him trash back. Other boy punched him. My son falls into a weeping pile (because he is, in fact, a wimp). My son is COMPLETELY convinced he did nothing wrong. I’m of the opinion that, while it’s never OK to hit someone, it might happen if you’re running your mouth off. For lack of a better way to phrase it, is this an OK attitude for me to have? I guess I just think that your words have consequences as well as your actions. You don’t get to say whatever you want with no repercussions.",3.6004802744425386,4.377374433962267,4.147901658090337,91.06929674099487,71.95597484276729,7.542824471126357,27.033161806746712,7.686295010490155,1.2487182389937113,601,20,135,7,11,190,97,159,0.102,0.7879999999999999,0.11,0.3441,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,7,0,2,5,11,0,0,11,2,9,3,3,0,2,20,21,8,0,3,3,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,10,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,4,1,2,3,3,20,7,22,15,1,17,0,1,0,0,27,7,0,5,6,86,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983982967136535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245450511656562,0.0,0.0987355029702089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14324943949283964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4961689119819005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982262562226472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434574818010088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777173087004327,0.0,0.0,0.1251377397593281,0.0,0.2538681623229796,0.0,0.0,0.1358528811647909,0.2590846579840985,0.0,0.17842838611076306,0.0,0.14322967291225386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436494764724401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249213684703569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554147318217592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975516866496007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288051680465324,0.0,0.1639224437596691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723678648891055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301854750507989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037839350821766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535287680100516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617701744444406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553419376120297,0.12856436973379026,0.0,0.0,0.14563062093501924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708893769536127,0.0,0.0
parenting,XXLifter,2020/03/05,"How do you get over the envy? I love my kid.  I feel the need to make that clear, despite the fact that he's my kid, if course I love him right?  But when we aren't thrilled with all aspects of parenting we feel the need to make that disclaimer.  Or maybe it's just me.  But I make it none the less.  I do love my son.

Parenting him, however, is the most miserable fucking thing I've ever inflicted on myself and my husband.

My son is 8 and has ADHD combined type, ODD, a sensory processing disorder (oh the meltdowns when the coller on his shirt isn't fucking perfect), and a yet as of right now undiagnosed growth problem.  He's the third percentile for height.

His behavior is appalling.  Being around him is miserable, he's so goddamn immature for his age,  he's failing out of the third grade despite *thousands* of dollars in tutoring, and just has absolutely no awareness on the effect he has on the people around him (again, despite thousands of dollars in social classes).  No one can stand him.  He has no friends.  He's the kid who never gets invited to birthday parties.

He's *that* kid.

Honestly, I'm just so fucking tired of dealing with him.  I dream about winning the lottery so I can send him to a nice therapeutic boarding school for a year and take a much needed break.  Constantly having to *endure* his behavior has sucked all joy out of having a relationship with him.  He's in therapy and medicated, *I'm* in therapy and medicated, but my mental health slowly continues to deteriorate.

The other day I was at the grocery store and saw a woman there with three children, and they were just so good and well mannered and behaved and listened.  My son threw a glass jar out of the cart and smashed it on the floor.  I just broke down and started sobbing in the middle of the store and left.  

I know it's not his fault, I do.  But *goddamn*.  I see all these posts about how someone's special needs child brought them so much joy and taught them patience and blah blah and it makes me want to throw up.  Raising my high needs child is just awful.  I get envious to the point of tears when I see nice well behaved children doing the everyday shit I can't.  No one will babysit him, daycare that can accommodate him costs twice my mortgage, every spare dollar goes to him in some form or another, and I just hate it.  

So, how do I keep going?  I'm tired of feeling this way.  I want to be proud of him, but I'm not.  He is a huge disappointment and again, I know it's not his fault, but it's just the way it is.

How do I learn to be better?  I don't want him growing up feeling unloved and rejected, and I try my best to hide those feelings, but I can't make myself stop feeling what I'm feeling.  I wish every day I didn't have him, but I can't go back and change anything, so what now?  How can I emotionally get back on the horse and do for him while also saving my sanity?",3.0700902305892868,4.747859575916234,4.239026400802049,86.3852456277153,74.53228621291449,7.250068694070031,28.072815714232675,7.987972078202968,1.7519685046971882,2239,91,459,34,47,732,256,573,0.13699999999999998,0.723,0.14,0.4686,4,1,0,0,0,0,78.0,2,1,3,7,39,38,7,2,33,1,39,13,2,11,8,101,91,53,0,11,22,6,7,2,1,1,5,1,0,9,22,35,0,2,11,1,6,8,16,18,2,8,7,11,69,20,57,80,11,66,0,7,3,6,62,31,6,5,22,318,91,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107087550412353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725408658443775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881853265425758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920646222713925,0.1497322065847127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293341618106547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825690447580335,0.07437889347369518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896578488826479,0.0,0.0,0.0908813404780832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847403188818737,0.086702565307362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963849501931968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460026188951813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607252615854987,0.14171437837277914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29766151818954806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497482048132758,0.2332450197040175,0.1757534090523963,0.0,0.0955910079905202,0.07053840498102355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830305325042962,0.0,0.08939349930394834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885540463250234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475121833404845,0.0,0.0,0.092437423631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137400883995657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277083894218987,0.0,0.2806842898170652,0.0,0.0844889334284276,0.0,0.0,0.16944215919455535,0.08475219653277075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364515275684786,0.3117923943880309,0.06486247479180772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397556635782252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867643814068452,0.0,0.0,0.05830378469801134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950091157567313,0.0,0.08054377054010325,0.0,0.0,0.08047156067536773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029104973572456,0.0,0.14364048623474554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511286344654533,0.1340323216309254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632660322705331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572852662106209,0.07125696518652802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952583486987719,0.0,0.0,0.07031068303837712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323211964772578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923494910792743,0.0,0.055871760546864574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331927966780327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057097825116320465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488116319201734,0.13350803458355354,0.0,0.0,0.15123053157321864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670991049399733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415711681250745
parenting,pancakes228,2020/03/05,"Working moms! Good afternoon all! My maternity leave is coming to and end after next week and I need some advice. I have been off work since December 23rd when my twin boys were born. Since then I have spent basically everyday with them and I’m very nervous about going back to work. 

So I’m reaching out to all you amazing working moms out there to see if you guys have any advice on how to get through the first week back. I’m already a wreck about the thought of missing any milestones they might experience while I’m not at home and even though I have family coming to watch them I’m just nervous about leaving them with other people. 

I know I can’t change these things but is there anything you did to make the transition any easier or just coping mechanisms so I don’t spend all day crying?",3.748461538461541,5.643210636942676,4.2270063694267535,86.2673689367957,73.20382165605095,7.378539931406173,25.452719255267034,8.139509932561175,1.4872551690347864,638,21,126,10,13,201,101,157,0.083,0.855,0.062,-0.2932,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,4,5,15,5,0,2,4,0,12,0,0,2,3,26,28,14,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,10,0,0,2,0,2,3,3,3,0,1,5,2,16,2,20,22,4,23,0,1,2,0,11,5,0,4,15,82,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26075363296944937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723266784964653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27219122829139025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979357536360004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518401872993905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114103356205174,0.22985962586364725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655598348344112,0.08604508460511115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817082396014525,0.0,0.0,0.08812287921714737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051069826624073,0.12577682667679488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348727686375648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970662327338542,0.0,0.07582585644562798,0.11190665487124246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210711735989014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383148395150965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332433208720851,0.0,0.0,0.2825457608718958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905911597175534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153790125965826,0.0,0.3125205898816763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892949487487374,0.0,0.0,0.14189404998389296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249686767999424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631874056677662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22073337537669405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08863854840846938,0.0,0.13108481104746114,0.1059208503264462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008575711151483,0.0,0.0,0.21404350511445847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3885263992638584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,classcass717,2020/03/05,"Holding your kiddo back a grade... Just wanting to get some input from yall here. 

So the situation is my son is currently in kindergarten  (age 6) and due to an anxiety disorder he has he has he has a very difficult time in school (unable to talk to his teacher ) and he is struggling and is behind his classmates. His teacher (who is great and works so hard with him) stated that she has seen significant improvement with him but feels that keeping him an extra year in kindergarten would probably be best for him. 

Now ultimately it is our choice but, I was wondering if any of you have been in a situation where you have to keep your child behind a grade and how that impacted them. Any advice? 

Thank you parents also sorry on mobile!!",5.082857142857144,6.445201571428572,5.8000000000000025,78.415,69.0,9.028571428571428,29.714285714285715,9.3871,2.6633,580,22,107,12,10,189,94,140,0.067,0.828,0.105,0.8659,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,6,1,2,9,5,0,1,7,0,16,0,0,1,0,20,24,12,0,3,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,18,3,17,19,3,14,0,0,1,0,25,6,0,3,7,83,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130442941229707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837372483676536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25234279461121184,0.0,0.14193515651261887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426663591096053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19470944182992808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21264126545553125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938129889993489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693532868491088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455499479990105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620454411925034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298272941788938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601667752469416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004006845559025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777316327434995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171023100646664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20769327554895992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396336459410796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491274648058713,0.0,0.1708173726468622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818800954039903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308730430507467,0.10943442125415248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201206762636138,0.13507301188474966,0.0,0.0,0.13180003087650774,0.0,0.0,0.11947962653247765
parenting,throwawayshelpplease,2020/03/05,"Child talks to online predators on purpose I’m a single mom with a 12 year old son. He’s gay, no problem, has ADHD, and depression. Still no problem. However, he keeps talking to child predators online purposefully. Things get extremely sexual and honestly weird. He claims it’s funny or something and despite taking things away, he sneaks into doing it more. Any ideas?",3.8186363636363647,6.983099878787883,4.612348484848488,76.68852272727275,80.51515151515152,6.936363636363637,27.946969696969692,8.07648339933343,2.6381878787878787,296,13,44,6,8,95,51,66,0.204,0.713,0.083,-0.7927,1,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,10,6,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,6,2,6,0,1,0,1,10,3,0,1,3,23,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789327812554409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783238581304268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21806065349610987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19990286421383727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125992517030786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26200671700843503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20629647391644654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27182656083200085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24354439287155505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441666527412344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17867787421500034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18535116357128487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17450636407416276,0.3730979296924288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30838687179155044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946140658168328
parenting,IATXIL,2020/03/05,"What is the best way to approach discussing my daughter's weight gain She's a freshman in college,19, home for spring break. She came home once prior, at Christmas. When she came home at Christmas I noticed some weight gain, figured she'd do something about it.She's always been a little chunky, but now, it's much more serious. All of her clothes are noticeably snug & she's pretty out of shape. I'd guess 220-230. 

The approach my wife wants to take, is just dead on, go right at it, put it out there, "" You've gotten really heavy, you need to change"". I want to approach this more gently and calmly, what my wife calls, "" dancing around the issue"", I don't see it that way, I just don't want to charge in and come off angry or aggressive. It's like I told my wife, she knows she's put on weight so why treat it like she has no awareness.

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What's the best way to talk to her about this?",3.7112637362637346,4.732937269230773,3.744725274725276,93.15027472527474,71.91208791208791,6.479120879120879,24.43956043956044,6.297961479604792,0.4781626373626375,701,19,154,4,13,214,106,182,0.086,0.721,0.193,0.9651,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,1,0,4,9,8,1,0,6,0,9,3,0,0,1,21,23,6,1,4,4,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,12,8,3,0,2,1,0,10,3,2,0,0,5,4,20,6,23,17,7,32,0,0,1,0,19,14,0,3,6,87,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572501934100848,0.24929815632940666,0.1397898771529332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241268988774507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414611310337989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747179925037735,0.2631571638210488,0.0,0.0,0.12170027472649204,0.09909938630226894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538160680782762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673287088895835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34619262633057485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007503730832055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063224642288216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240842972775107,0.1153033419308354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456986625817063,0.08530295124650637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619545110858541,0.0,0.12251707552069875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704012325321225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23130004647900496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369951276945384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824612157679796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916744026099454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885657472787626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649804351562257,0.09246723215323292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099285480691541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356608453382632,0.27394741429110386,0.0,0.4202742641726295,0.0,0.0,0.10380844346146133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397898771529332,0.0
parenting,rabridge,2020/03/05,"Advice on nursery settling of extremely shy kid We came to UK about 2 years ago from an Asian country and my son (3yo) has started attending a nursery a week ago which has been going really bad. So I was wondering if anyone has similar experiences.

The biggest problem is his extreme fear which becomes really serious when he meets western people. Even though he just generally expresses great fear even to people from my country, we have managed to make him (take couple of days or even more than a week) get along with some of them - e.g., grandparents, friends of mine/my wife’s. When it comes to western people, he even can make an eye contact no matter what we tried. So, he just looks down and hides behind parents when any of teachers approach to him or try to talk to him, so none of teaches could get chances to be familiar with him.

Even worse thing is that he can’t get along with kids in his age. He is just scared of any other kid approaching him or showing interests so does what he does for teachers.

Since he cried longer than an hour on our first attempt of separation, my wife has been staying with him for few days as teachers advised, so he could stay at the nursery without crying too much. However, we want him to start staying there alone within a month time.

Since we thought it could be English (as we, parents, are not native English speakers, he picked up our language despite English TV programmes he watched.), we started speaking to him in English (sometimes at home and fully at nursery) as teachers advised, but it doesn’t seem to be very helpful so far.

If anyone could give any advice to improve his confidence, it would be really appreciated!

I’m sorry if my post is not in good English and thanks to whoever read to this point :)",8.153591424521617,7.425605900602412,7.629482636428069,75.14698440822116,62.283132530120476,10.221403260099224,39.408929836995036,9.325443323948027,3.6720043940467764,1397,66,250,20,17,439,185,332,0.07400000000000001,0.823,0.10300000000000001,0.9465,4,1,0,0,0,0,42.0,9,0,1,2,21,11,0,3,9,0,25,1,1,3,0,48,45,24,0,10,13,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,12,19,0,0,3,3,0,6,7,6,0,1,5,5,26,5,51,31,5,42,0,0,3,0,50,14,0,9,18,163,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751573972620766,0.16103034821495624,0.0,0.0,0.09407232291990296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18530222067046825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702067411495507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758391236655991,0.0,0.10031442376957747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388514130014856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824186580586462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900809501014056,0.10050149197954956,0.19954463163635405,0.1171554671705764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897161273042246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999612682839968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884901384146772,0.0,0.20441764771415824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725981675715711,0.0,0.0,0.07017491020948415,0.0,0.14236452991979065,0.08713226044649001,0.05162069208407126,0.07618376163557224,0.0,0.10014022088235902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088132812899304,0.0,0.09110973681080707,0.0,0.08944909757341536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627419075785243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125924897806148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249951289714207,0.0,0.06677038449874037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171157993921127,0.0,0.0,0.18890992660296047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586355899202955,0.0,0.08698988044467705,0.0,0.0,0.08691189145237947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085442131884812,0.0,0.17456376683736904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093651670921958,0.0,0.0,0.0826880763474641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027076695359934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983303573060791,0.10167657118125556,0.1928694878813244,0.2904375771482915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829273687504385,0.07300558600338511,0.0,0.08362391465500056,0.0,0.0,0.0603433106944678,0.0,0.08923985807970143,0.07210874833844018,0.05296361099760133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333500026663707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494413168640211,0.053573793821285125,0.0,0.14571644011738522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755672591027894,0.09850108853669012,0.0,0.0,0.09256336827223698,0.06452291334751416,0.0,0.0,0.05849143993578914
parenting,LilMissnoname,2020/03/05,"School fundraiser rant/opinions So, I live in a rather well off suburban area, with a desirable public school system. I'm a single mother and my daughter is in kindergarten. We're on out 3rd fundraiser for the year. I also sent in money this week for our 2nd school picture, class photo, yearbook, field trip, a donation for the parents night out Chinese auction and spent $70 on her gown for the ""fairytale ball"" on the 20th that we just found out about this week. Oh, and the scholastic book order. This is typical, every month I'm sending in money for 5-6 different things. 

Here's my peeve about this fundraiser. They're selling boxes of 60 chocolate covered pretzels. We weren't given an optionn to make a donation rather than sell. The ""prizes"" for this fundraiser are activities done during school hours. So basically, if I don't buy $180 worth of pretzels, my daughter and probably 1 or 2 other kids are going to sit at school all day while the kids who did sell 3 boxes go to the park and to have pizza with the principal. 

This doesn't translate to a reward to me. It sounds more like a punishment for not selling. This school is k-2nd grades only. I find it disturbing that the faculty is ok with breaking a 5/6 year old heart and telling them ""well, you don't get to go to the park bc you didn't sell enough pretzels!"" I've already purchased one box, but I have no family and a very small work environment and this is a big financial strain on me. Actually, it's probably coming out of her and her brothers Easter gift. 

What do you guys think about this and how would you handle it? I feel this is out of the ordinary, but maybe this is how these things are typically done? Next year I'll have 2 at that school and I honestly don't think I'll be able to afford it ☹️",4.735918803418804,5.7122898319088335,5.241955128205127,83.52908653846156,69.48433048433047,8.243162393162393,28.870014245014247,8.472884824447931,1.9856561253561256,1405,50,278,21,24,450,194,351,0.036000000000000004,0.917,0.047,0.6572,3,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,3,4,1,3,14,10,1,2,23,1,25,2,1,3,1,41,40,21,0,5,8,5,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,25,22,1,0,5,2,14,7,8,3,2,1,9,2,23,7,43,29,4,42,0,0,0,0,24,19,0,2,13,173,48,11,0.09975067720510017,0.0,0.0973422717440013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100773527535497,0.07977058052199157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592637588361271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433093462965861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421822682993558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415915095243692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306911458966453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404424775672734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403606088604112,0.0,0.050436939567395284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091170311829575,0.0,0.0,0.10937146889493723,0.0,0.0,0.052115611782291474,0.0,0.17007182583275013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876885321217883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182050327688289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982343238032436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873314228108524,0.0,0.08808167548922781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658435161110708,0.0,0.10021296265480924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962003886813902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608597685438392,0.09360925326079572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467155585673872,0.0,0.0675936404419928,0.07586488495214458,0.0,0.0,0.11076132233949693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21509620259135426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7066710753623825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718648856632863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253983512253664,0.12783241239443124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823047554302325,0.0,0.0,0.16002795277167178,0.0,0.17937567676425056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726196810301446,0.0,0.0,0.07086001909975806,0.0,0.0,0.19270849699699974
parenting,TwoBonesJones,2020/03/05,"My wife and I adopted her late sister’s 11 and 12 year old kids. I’m (32m) trying to fix a mistake I made when we moved into a new house. My late sister in law died from ALS, it super sucked. My wife and I finally purchased a new house with enough space for the four of us to live comfortably. When we moved in, there was much debate about who would get what bedroom. At the time, the agreement we came up with was; the 11 year old girl would get the bigger bedroom and the 12 year old boy would get the smaller bedroom. 

The reasons for this agreement were as follows:
1) the girl has more clothes and rarely leaves her room, so she could have the larger room 
2) the boy spends more time out amongst us and we offered to put his Xbox in the basement, so when friends come over they could occupy that space 

The issue that has surfaced is that now, whenever they have friends over, they all end up packed into his room around the Xbox. He doesn’t want to move it to the basement, and she won’t let anyone hang out in her larger room. We would like to have them switch rooms, but I don’t know how I justify that. 

“Hey you don’t really use your big bedroom so we’re given it to (nephew).”

I can only imagine the shit fit. 

Any suggestions on how I negotiate this? We don’t have any kids of our own and these kids have only been with us for about 9 months, and we’ve only been on our new house 3 months. 

Typing this out I feel ridiculous and I feel like the answer should be obvious, but my wife and I had no intentions of kids anytime soon and we more or less have no idea what we’re doing. My main goals are making sure they eat right, get good grades, and be decent people. These I’m home politics are difficult. 

Any and all advice is appreciated.",4.273726708074534,4.692445075630253,4.610256972354161,89.65522469857511,70.23249299719889,7.665278285227134,25.045548654244307,7.423996415210882,0.8938762391913291,1360,34,302,13,23,428,185,357,0.049,0.8390000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9727,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,12,2,5,2,14,15,3,0,20,0,35,2,1,7,4,62,53,26,1,9,3,6,2,2,2,6,0,0,10,8,15,32,1,0,7,2,2,8,7,5,0,1,9,2,41,10,37,33,10,59,0,0,0,0,47,29,2,1,24,189,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887281164655653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18524010369261734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348904713344951,0.0,0.0,0.08083071081347858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385031694133716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821563758135824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449918546081436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423543508821493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092910447654466,0.0,0.0,0.08042131196228468,0.09382004570396577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918218031506345,0.06486710486632724,0.0,0.0994662973512302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030277237683045,0.0,0.18975574200945064,0.0,0.0,0.07615822332838416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107919502084363,0.0,0.0,0.3143109274528246,0.0,0.10250146313295287,0.0,0.09477097640170393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049900972063970254,0.0,0.20485134164561303,0.09614344732995753,0.0,0.09284853171139612,0.0,0.08871999442920922,0.0,0.08017752799159007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591658157692393,0.060609300236963676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495041924633742,0.2895161568781222,0.06674800174218197,0.0,0.0,0.2630838601772131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858360681610778,0.0,0.0,0.20717109102584771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294886675018695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127846943860922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058168416534041686,0.09335689914621137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754218593832958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320427261596602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557735381676425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589171309045953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164682796476039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276614716752878,0.07842152276104823,0.0,0.0,0.05355583482353463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25800513595136043,0.0,0.0,0.17541549733671688
parenting,honneydey8187,2020/03/05,"Kudos to all the stay home parents 32 years old dad here. My daughter is sick since Sunday and I took the week off to take care of her & avoid contamination to the others kids at the daycare. Wow is this what the stay home parents have to endure? She just needs my attention all the time. I can't even drink, eat, pee or poop in peace. How do you guys do it? 

To all the daycare workers or stay at home parents your job is way harder than my regular 9-5 with a six figure salary. Thank you again",1.943290183387269,3.6490694563106807,3.079158576051782,93.37034519956852,77.73786407766991,5.742826321467099,21.153182308522112,6.42735559955562,0.09928781014023658,386,10,87,3,9,124,75,103,0.049,0.804,0.147,0.9034,5,1,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,1,5,4,0,1,8,0,7,5,2,1,3,13,12,4,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,4,2,2,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,10,3,12,11,3,15,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,6,53,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16332695807569111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368969371498775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476680215845698,0.0,0.15424487048827118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956248918554217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492565104581587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536141734806529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495864020522383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117719581011394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817649657064822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5021375037313723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469386210518853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820070320966264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133378805115451,0.0,0.0,0.13878133577246554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789783056563498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747792337035547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196505648969356,0.1209147065581073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707175511973404
parenting,thinspell,2020/03/05,"I wish more people talked about the difficulties of sharing custody. My ex and I got divorced close to three years ago. We have 50/50 custody of our two daughters. The judge ruled that we switch week to week, and it. is. so. hard. 

Aside from how difficult it is on my daughters (they are in therapy), I am realizing the toll it is taking on me. They have to switch between two incredibly different households every week, and as such it has huge consequences on their behavior, mood, etc. I’ve tried talking to their father to see if we can find a happy medium between our households, but it just isn’t happening. 

The first few days are spent re-adjusting to the house. We then may have a couple good days before they go back. Rinse, repeat. 

I thought that how much I missed my children would get easier to bear as time went on. It hasn’t; if anything, it’s harder to deal with. I was the primary parent in their life up until the divorce. I spent every moment with them. I miss my children. I miss the weeks we don’t get together. I feel awful that the first few days they are here, I have to be the disciplinarian as they adjust. I’m tired of half my time with them being spent on it. Now I get why some parents become the “fun” one and just let them have their way. 

My children are growing older, and I feel like I’m missing out on time with them.",2.467752808988763,4.595904808988767,3.513027715355808,88.89817078651686,77.68913857677903,6.369378277153557,23.039550561797753,7.404127859558343,0.8951903820224723,1052,33,215,14,25,338,147,267,0.081,0.828,0.092,0.6145,3,1,0,0,2,0,38.0,7,0,13,2,10,11,0,0,13,1,24,2,0,2,0,33,46,16,0,4,5,6,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,11,16,0,0,6,0,3,3,3,5,0,7,7,4,40,5,34,34,6,37,0,4,1,0,35,12,0,4,22,153,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090679842415702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125185225432712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461055385341118,0.0,0.0,0.13588857146725442,0.10469840777597017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614197901190056,0.0,0.2380528413833629,0.1268493584278257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855114035792894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372226878647923,0.0,0.0,0.2073338650691432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244259530174664,0.08790016167767804,0.0,0.0,0.11245679291401442,0.2093163821599081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928507573631157,0.0,0.06992675471643192,0.10320053835368144,0.0984067321719343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880431262135944,0.13097890597974554,0.11022012526439597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197222355407862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581725307126124,0.08690714773892408,0.060111375946565626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044892872728462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337543080579554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27324384087879383,0.0,0.0,0.0853007942341567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804735273519767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251114751808223,0.19779059517736933,0.0,0.0,0.14070754106772054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768041756896452,0.2152377245791677,0.1414169610244971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353642660921874,0.0,0.240385390678666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976638261615872,0.3947826871303893,0.0,0.0,0.11405978124163167,0.11102491844166687,0.0,0.14149050903265895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740444486666339,0.0,0.0,0.07923405146795652
parenting,NewRing2,2020/03/05,"need support  i have too get dental fillings im scared, there using ativan 1 at night 1 day of , and Triazolam too im gonna be very out of it that day, what should i wear, what should i bring, im getting put in the rainbow papoose board too any kind support or kind advice please i have autism and special needs",1.6672820512820543,3.5401185230769263,2.976538461538464,93.01762820512822,79.15384615384616,4.94871794871795,23.14102564102564,5.46131890053228,0.1640256410256411,244,8,53,1,6,79,46,65,0.043,0.705,0.253,0.9231,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,1,0,5,1,1,1,0,9,14,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,5,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305029849191692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042727271282233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284167994916688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18504443181792607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.573862766570633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688239674294501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26261998228430844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618696864679372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943916409323578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780243626423295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729798365617672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019192669038174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294890123421928,0.0,0.1461177964112071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pyrannosaurus-Rex,2020/03/05,"We did it, r/Parenting!!! We just went 24 hrs without a “My two year old still isn’t potty trained, I’ve tried everything, please help!” stresspost. I’m am so proud of us!!!! 🎉 Seriously, some of you need to stop freaking out about potty training. You’re stressing us out, you’re stressing yourself out, and you’re stressing your kid out. These posts just make me want to piss my own goddam pants out of spite and to gain control.",2.4917857142857147,4.690769130952383,2.974047619047621,92.44178571428571,77.92857142857143,5.628571428571429,25.97619047619048,6.6274283507984215,0.8928619047619053,333,13,69,3,8,103,62,84,0.251,0.612,0.13699999999999998,-0.8828,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,2,0,3,5,9,3,3,1,0,3,1,1,2,0,18,8,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,9,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,1,2,0,9,1,13,6,2,11,0,0,0,0,8,5,2,1,4,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187694256536315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176569207432542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064520780027176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120146420423574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346219029726258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888718963549316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986041882928432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757776197109755,0.0,0.0,0.1723831020987689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374227771182832,0.15048182586391248,0.6185425512012617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220312198748602,0.0,0.1758265610195056,0.0,0.4330177357665341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616426557783706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668548910541847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350638884513034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590929669994884
parenting,UnobjectionableDryad,2020/03/05,"Toddler on sleeping strike Our almost 2.5 year old has stopped sleeping. He was climbing out of his crib so we decided to covert him to a toddler bed. We also needed to move him out of his current room into a new one so we figured we would do it all at once so he wouldn’t have to keep dealing with a bunch of changes. About a week before we moved everything we moved his bedtime back because he kept climbing out of bed and playing to the point of fighting with him for 2 hours. So we were still getting him used to that when we moved him over. We moved his room and changed his bed last Friday and it’s honesty been a shit show. We fight with him for at least an hour every night. Then he finally falls asleep only to wake up about an hour or hour and a half later screaming. We usually try and give him a few minutes to settle back down but he’s figured out how to open doors so he’ll walk out to us if we don’t go to him. Then when we bring him back to bed he screams and kicks at us which is not normal for him at all. He doesn’t want us to touch him or put a blanket on him until he’s completely asleep. So we end up going in there and sitting with him for half an hour until he falls asleep and then sneaking out only to repeat the whole process in an hour. We’re kind of at our wits ends with it. I should also mention that he’s speech delayed so other than no and stop, he doesn’t say anything during these fits. He just screams. Any advice on how to get through this stage without giving him up for adoption?",2.7814166666666686,3.882594975000005,3.511875,93.63229166666667,74.25,5.958333333333334,25.208333333333336,5.7366,0.4582395833333335,1192,38,268,5,24,377,164,320,0.085,0.9,0.016,-0.9578,1,0,0,0,3,0,18.0,19,0,0,2,21,8,3,0,14,0,13,7,7,3,2,63,26,31,0,7,7,0,1,0,0,4,0,5,7,0,9,36,0,5,3,2,0,14,7,6,0,3,4,6,39,2,60,18,6,76,0,0,0,0,58,27,1,4,33,181,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403632789588197,0.0,0.0,0.08611465413309942,0.0,0.0,0.13754526606915954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848164299915524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076909184385356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838164416682366,0.0,0.05242363100351922,0.0,0.07317803152076376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819491301564942,0.0,0.0901673500803108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866024370955694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233754555135676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245709097036432,0.0,0.07728952858627063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420669244163722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986089410463957,0.16499438800151858,0.09774938071136972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.508144711354438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643904435340036,0.0,0.08955376596535919,0.0,0.07009991273057503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570117429087941,0.0,0.06376648620541303,0.0,0.08305748098291865,0.0,0.08070337185738484,0.0842598587014534,0.0,0.0,0.09024051790759477,0.09158514789883253,0.05827452425655789,0.1308108292276019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129598207900561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645182263678672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838912445764403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827579268959512,0.0,0.0,0.1721203723905598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867817730572608,0.14379649025306548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838705085775343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103353026009296,0.07427472895132907,0.09471473475387017,0.0,0.050723895369906916,0.0,0.06898247197917272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096013784493707,0.0,0.08289907970340696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109056820800617,0.0,0.0,0.055379943582778236
parenting,notawarlus,2020/03/05,"Husband's parents and my baby Hi. My husband was arrested for a white collar crime during my last month of pregnancy and he's in jail ever since (a few months). He's not a criminal, but chose to work for people who helped others doing computer crimes. He was 20 back then and I blaim his parents for this decision, as they have always acted like disobeying the law is not a big deal (in terms of taxes, receiving salary in cash and working for not so honest people), so how could their son at the age of 20 have other perception of the world? Furthermore his mother is of course stressed right now, and is acting in a very selfish way, as if she's the one who suffers the most, plus telling me stuff like it is my responsibility to find money for the lawyer and not theirs and so on. And at the same time they were really annoying with their wish to see the baby (I'm an introvert and didn't plan on seeing them every week, but they were really pushy).

 My husband has changed A LOT since that time (he worked in that shitty company 2010-2014), but his parents not really. They are not completely immoral people of course, and my husband loves them. However, the joy of my maternity leave is significantly ruined thanks to them three, and I think I have the right to be angry. I am very supportive to my husband right now, but I told his parents I don't want to see them and I don't want them to see the baby at least for now. I keep feeling this way and I would be really happy if my kid saw them like twice a year or so (because she has the right to know her family). Do you think I am cruel or too emotional? I feel like I weighed my decision, but what if I am still just too stressed and hating them for no reason? I don't want them around the baby because a) I personally don't want to see them, because of their current selfish attitude and because my husband got in jail thanks to them, in a way, b) because of their understanding of morality - I don't want them to influence the baby in the future, c) I can't see myself trust them with the baby or a toddler because they drink wine and I can't be 100% sure they won't do it if we give the baby to them for the weekend for example, in future. 

How do I explain all of this to my husband without ruining our relationship and hurting him too much?  Do I have the right to restrict them from seeing their granddaughter?",6.881393557422968,5.6709361029411784,7.489957983193277,76.6886204481793,65.07142857142857,10.790476190476193,33.278711484593835,9.928628108626363,2.984116526610644,1859,64,376,34,24,619,212,476,0.152,0.7440000000000001,0.10300000000000001,-0.9745,7,1,2,0,0,0,51.0,2,1,26,4,17,24,3,2,30,0,38,4,0,4,3,74,69,39,0,12,20,13,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,13,22,3,2,12,3,3,3,17,11,0,3,8,11,71,13,57,55,8,48,1,4,9,1,68,22,0,9,24,272,84,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320601556415133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762179956268081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840966994378314,0.0,0.2778323868952069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035714708107483,0.0,0.079644140162499,0.0,0.0,0.0606490406422253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783129244738356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744133069058905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544641255187686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871148476944253,0.06400080188527976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160969921773,0.0,0.07681678789716592,0.054266878508641515,0.0,0.0,0.06942739355718425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286914915606553,0.0,0.0,0.060753314638816135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086238116445511,0.0,0.07499621029643487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091536197405831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131830846810173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751803127126693,0.0,0.0,0.041746429011113535,0.06191872412708285,0.0,0.0804322126971502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844371947533933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457971248946033,0.06855817871762449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126341706211895,0.0,0.055840409537344426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051473447690969856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373848246281354,0.0,0.0,0.15798632502075813,0.0663266123879907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465141227423624,0.0781010269280698,0.0,0.08155417470694755,0.0,0.32435333689404383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4237201131597294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567220079941474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066291595095472,0.0,0.17402717972247433,0.0,0.08695769216194592,0.0,0.08620015875755206,0.07159277221074346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639365965840482,0.1398702037289979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734606613239033,0.0,0.0,0.08858747035486819,0.0,0.0,0.07258442534706218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907855340301546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535231112435224,0.2240201707619528,0.18088400138901564,0.06093169714061041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735192424283124,0.07322413176565166,0.0,0.16590253143923706,0.0,0.0,0.05396083807089275,0.0,0.0,0.04891668641664127
parenting,eternoretornografo,2020/03/05,"That moment when your toddler starts asking a question and you hope is an easy one... One of my 4yo the other day:

4yo: Daddy, why do planes have wings?

Me (thinking Ok, it's an easy one, I got this): They need the wings so they can fly, like the birds that have wings

4yo: Ohhhh...(two seconds processing pause)... then why helicopters don't have wings?

Me: Pikachu face


You have to love those little know-all bastards",0.7433333333333323,3.280508000000001,1.1700000000000017,98.54833333333332,94.0,3.6666666666666674,16.666666666666668,5.46131890053228,-0.6773333333333333,320,8,66,2,12,96,60,80,0.042,0.7559999999999999,0.203,0.9222,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,2,0,2,5,1,0,6,1,8,2,1,0,0,5,15,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,9,4,2,14,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,1,1,2,6,39,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23130100148533006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956315545057678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978815536712727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457403817232656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359736218847995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087519017338963,0.24797630244053295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22330302473486036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834561781397661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5029674115294286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27716307128228457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512265152009912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853448428768085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24168994101064506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44650976356126143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,princessmom2020,2020/03/05,"What to do with my 7yo Has anyone gave up their custody to only have visitation?

I currently have 50/50 custody of my 7yo with her dad. I keep coming back to the thoughts/idea that he should have custody and I could have visitation. 
Has anyone done this before? Why did you/did not go through with it? How did you feel afterwards?",2.349397321428569,4.941854609375003,3.094464285714285,89.16125000000002,81.03125,6.1571428571428575,23.205357142857146,7.447530270364453,1.0300919642857145,261,9,52,4,7,82,45,64,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,12,0,0,1,0,11,17,2,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,4,1,8,0,9,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4482417619813817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24646652273080785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27274602514194196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27610679941591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559158127144956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280117959199152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206876890921046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182163652772948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36183750201676795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849003325147241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437762602785125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892269886421617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FNMistress,2020/03/05,"What did your kid cry over today? 2 year old had a meltdown because her 18"" doll's slippers wouldn't fit on her 6"" tall stuffed flamingo..

But first.. she cried because I wouldn't give her my waffle while she was holding an identical waffle in her hand.

Thank goodness daddy is on his way home!",4.578793103448277,5.576721189655178,4.5098275862069,88.55543103448278,69.86206896551724,6.4896551724137925,30.017241379310345,5.985473137389443,1.3021586206896552,231,9,46,1,4,71,49,58,0.124,0.732,0.14300000000000002,0.2919,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,0,0,4,8,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,10,2,4,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,5,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311064503183309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5966378377719089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310066156059199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605251920167493,0.0,0.227789214086265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724178341707097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28497852006155083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500352488395003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25742698354862664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155683154458269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488922636141116
parenting,pineappleprincesspie,2020/03/05,Best Parenting Blogs? Hi all! I’m a nanny to young tots and always interested in reading parenting/childcare articles and participating in forums like this one. I currently use Reddit and Winnie.com for forums and tips/info. Are there any other sites with participatory forums? And what are the best blogs to follow for informative posts? TIA!,5.450788177339902,9.013804965517245,6.765566502463057,61.314655172413815,76.93103448275863,9.521182266009854,27.25123152709359,9.606745405546679,3.830371428571429,280,11,38,9,7,94,44,58,0.0,0.7190000000000001,0.281,0.9626,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,5,3,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,25,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611160334991467,0.0,0.0,0.21340235760012585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6586509275611399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533122871347581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126465712421043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34845016879876634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005443567877171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31389609316636685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710320958074469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amazingmace55,2020/03/05,"Favoritism being played in child’s school Hey, I’m a mom and I have one kid who is 8 and in 2nd grade. 

My husband and I put her in this private school when she was in kindergarten. We loved it at first but recently it has gotten i the point where we can’t stand it. 

There is this kid in my daughters class who’s dad works at this school and so all the teachers let this kid do everything because her dad works there. My kid has been overlooked way to many times and it’s very upsetting. 

This kid always gets picked to write on the board even if she wrote on it yesterday, my daughter told me. And when my daughter needed help with her math assignment. (She struggles in math) my daughter raised her hand and asks a question but then teacher called on the favorite to come up to the board. 

This girl has never been in my daughters class until this year. Therefore we never had any problems. 

Since it’s to the point where my daughter is being overlooked in something she needs help in then she should we just switch schools? This is not ok. I’ve talked to other parents about it this and they have the same problem. They all say their kid never gets any Time with the teacher because the teacher is too focused on the favorite. One mom told me they are going to pull their son out after this year because her son isn’t learning anything due to not getting any attention from the teacher. He always asked questions but they never get answered because the teacher is always helping the favorite. 


My daughter has the same kind of issue. She works independently a lot so that’s good  but math is her issue. I just don’t want her to fail because she’s not getting any guidance from her teacher. Should we just leave this school? I don’t find this ok and when I went to the school to eat lunch with my daughter yesterday my daughter picked a table for us to sit at but then the principal came along and sat this seat was reserved for the favorite and her dad that works there. So we got up and moved to a table near the trash can. 

We get treated like crap here and so does my daughter. We want to leave but can’t until this year is over. It’s a private school, it’s very expensive and it has a really  good curriculum here so I don’t like leaving because of that. I don’t like the way she’s treated her either. She’s learned a lot from this school and has lots of friends here but she’s falling behind on math. The teacher will not help her with math and now my daughter came back from school yesterday saying she didn’t get to answer a question about English yesterday because of this favorite. 

What do we do? I can’t stand it",3.410343723598204,5.184810900573616,3.5481346436035395,91.28747298679356,73.8374760994264,5.9358619769665175,26.88554404375473,6.388778183573513,0.9351195606741072,2083,77,424,14,43,638,197,523,0.055999999999999994,0.8079999999999999,0.136,0.9933,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,10,0,6,6,25,19,1,2,29,2,41,5,2,4,6,84,67,37,0,9,16,20,1,3,1,3,0,2,0,8,34,34,2,0,9,1,1,9,17,6,0,3,15,3,62,13,58,46,8,67,0,1,0,1,89,26,1,7,30,293,96,25,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15563476551041475,0.0,0.0,0.16959421163273145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130681921588659,0.0,0.1165733083843552,0.0,0.0,0.04794150896399449,0.0,0.2660459222976533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06366394092955352,0.14261824743982776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370699619791845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054560865289652934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379723049287779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04118004735527124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0560340646903652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05698463993670945,0.05303289539546608,0.0,0.0,0.04816965440422226,0.0,0.22801858620738896,0.0,0.035433617091546014,0.10458853337309136,0.04986512646197869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671613131752781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014953599233814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492550293883081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980515375138543,0.0,0.06375471572956609,0.0,0.09137976530331077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159017275813344,0.05627120548206351,0.0,0.0,0.06321075050570918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604167277730634,0.0,0.06626570516036721,0.0,0.0924600131083243,0.19234546375833975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449678816057016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922970806800043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787739949266456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193165979801308,0.0,0.06267662788009548,0.2095309746209248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039941513260479934,0.0,0.0615608014521525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991627376714983,0.0,0.5678925264405861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05157463607437592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799828162263204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517932076216341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05011269464916979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271085435345014,0.0,0.0,0.11915173914770408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499656913305551,0.0,0.0,0.10288671299135103,0.07354854108942173,0.09897735520369576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057796913791449925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815593823374014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044956404938158
parenting,Jacksplat4,2020/03/05,"Advice, at a loss with 8 year old boy. Perfect on his own but is really hard work the moment his little brother is in the picture Advice or guidance needed. We have an 8 year old boy who on his own is a caring sweet sensitive boy. He is chatty, friendly a little cheeky but overall pretty good. 

The moment he my other son who just turned 3 gets up or comes home from bursary or they are just in the same room the 8 year old turns into a nightmare. He is either hissing or snarling or makes all sorts of noises. He is taken toys from his brother or sticking his feet out to get in his brothers way. He is bossing bossing him around and then shouting at him. We can start the day really well and then the eldest out of nowhere will have a tantrum and it escolates. We are at a loss. The eldest had access to time on computers games consoles and he has lost it all for his inability to behave. 

It's not solely his behaviour to his brother just asking him to do simple things like homework, reading, spellings. On his own he will do it but when hisnbro is in the room will throw tantrums create a falling out hiss snarl. It's horrible and we are finding him really challenging",4.12143903054784,5.383223532188842,4.84713961120929,84.72267104266602,71.18884120171674,7.1990911386013625,28.29815703105277,7.510576382923642,1.6275677354203482,925,34,179,10,17,298,127,233,0.08800000000000001,0.769,0.14300000000000002,0.9467,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,1,6,6,13,2,0,17,0,21,1,1,3,3,40,33,17,0,1,14,5,1,1,1,3,0,1,4,3,9,16,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,5,1,0,3,3,20,8,28,27,7,39,0,3,0,0,39,21,0,7,15,124,29,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28654773945739337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305215211647455,0.13706847525225954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948729941901373,0.0,0.0,0.12629882742893045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945567822171188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340066232515373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327706443477988,0.0,0.1532041958283048,0.0,0.0,0.12297661443263665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134134824862576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470702776326288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163037732866988,0.29390044535862314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005137730354602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786896569441196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871573599658413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4615542538803538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916369193176082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665814473003588,0.0,0.2817826343487373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037773060723872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974067950117783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549440758476469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189575805886169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637891512473025,0.0,0.0,0.1318276106237845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673999069614416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28325245835201546
parenting,Metal_In_My_Minivan,2020/03/05,"Looking for other perspectives with my 2 year old boy So my son seems to dislike most kids his own age. He hardly plays with them at all, and even then they mostly fight. He loves older kids around 3-6 and plays really nicely with them. Has anyone else had this happen? I'm just curious how it develops. Are kids like that just more emotionally mature maybe? How does it play out?",2.289594594594593,4.83780491891892,3.1661486486486474,88.83814189189192,80.8918918918919,6.402702702702705,17.35810810810811,7.645422480735847,0.4234918918918917,300,6,59,5,8,95,62,74,0.06,0.6990000000000001,0.242,0.9316,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,7,7,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,15,8,6,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,7,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,6,8,7,5,8,0,0,1,1,13,3,0,3,6,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969558430757385,0.2886124511185205,0.0,0.2507531852103088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464983612202681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353058680406936,0.3168498953110057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604569656582085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490869708447815,0.0,0.2523282070976585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376136679429979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365386209812879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25422543908679746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829834630162056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955737318899895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045017268509198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564291191619233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813914301043834
parenting,Skeltzjones,2020/03/05,"Moms-what gift would you like after giving birth? We just had our first child! I got my wife a great push present, and I'm usually pretty great at getting gifts. With all the baby stuff happening, I haven't had time to plan a gift for mom and her birthday is in mid March. Also, I blew it this valentine's day (flowers and sweets on the way home, left the receipt in the bag by accident) because we were so rushed with work and getting stuff ready for the baby.

Anyway, what gift ideas for a new mother do you have? I'm thinking of maybe getting something more specific to her as well as something that a new mom would love, and was hoping you all could help me with the latter. She has been so incredibly strong and I want to show my appreciation by getting back to my awesome gift-giving ways. Thank you so much!",5.277407407407409,5.601861679012346,5.368740740740744,85.42533333333334,68.01234567901236,7.961481481481481,28.54567901234568,7.554174236665415,1.4870967901234566,640,20,132,6,10,201,106,162,0.0,0.687,0.313,0.9953,1,0,2,0,0,0,19.0,3,4,0,4,9,9,0,0,10,0,13,1,0,0,2,21,27,12,0,5,1,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,11,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,6,1,18,9,20,18,4,21,0,0,0,1,18,6,0,1,12,86,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138346119142052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945583283240706,0.0,0.0867732327104374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365226443447544,0.0,0.0,0.09180185138086623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210800381227928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29748112164097945,0.13655193423182438,0.0,0.0,0.1138476669620124,0.3138754988294144,0.0,0.0,0.1258767248332633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954119986330651,0.0,0.14278535556309366,0.1413824008276405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606921081793334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466011604042024,0.0,0.0,0.06954341190230795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847346263440568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300640208376084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33342949080061784,0.0,0.0,0.10464120988006473,0.0,0.0,0.27495867751662256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481777781627714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191709023374833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259058517512792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310537249425546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121002354348552,0.0,0.0,0.08300351085308873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677478958588742,0.0,0.08395977715884156,0.22597638412895796,0.0,0.0,0.1279867867181756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363009963455,0.0,0.0,0.20223803616999775,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ovaryactors,2020/03/05,"Postpartum Dieting I’m exclusively breastfeeding and I am shedding pounds but I want to be even more fit than I was before baby. I was 130 when I found out I was expecting. I’m 2 months postpartum and I’m 150. I got up to 175 at delivery weight! As we know with each baby it’s important to stay fit or it gets harder to lose the weight. Which diet is best for EBF moms? I used to be vegan but even with eating my iron rich greens and taking supplements, I still developed iron deficiency anemia. Has anyone tried keto while EBF? Or any diet while EBF?? 

**To be clear I know I’m not fat or anything! I just want a healthy diet to stay fit because I love desserts and food in general and without a food plan I tend to just run amok in the grocery store haha",0.08188856304985492,2.4569484645161346,2.4596627565982416,89.97676686217008,93.38709677419355,6.173020527859237,19.30351906158358,7.520522993642371,0.8997741935483874,592,19,124,13,22,201,96,155,0.021,0.713,0.266,0.9921,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,3,6,5,0,0,4,1,9,12,1,1,1,28,24,14,0,3,9,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,10,11,0,3,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,5,3,15,4,19,16,3,16,0,1,1,1,3,8,0,3,5,72,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148308174093137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807107154782395,0.0,0.13895766683336658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029356921416402,0.0,0.14368770685965865,0.0,0.17720850240317065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278627744235256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223061315748227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083731716562758,0.18514664016790955,0.0,0.0,0.0882225549247701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505303457521284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560244668617307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891152065207534,0.0,0.0,0.1524030439460049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977671820210284,0.13478270736799694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599652963644609,0.1348520806488323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269619560430384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146450823245825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584111185897314,0.0,0.0,0.19919639971794398,0.0,0.0,0.4112527905078645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627753359282258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Blareshelton2,2020/03/05,"Husband quit his job due to the coronavirus I know this really shouldn’t be on parenting. Although We do have kids this affects. 

I understand the coronavirus is serious. 
My husband walked into to work today and quit his job without even letting me know. I don’t know what to say. I’m a stay at home mom, I don’t work. I take care of four kids at home. He told me he quit because he’s afraid of getting it and dying. Well he’s 37 and I’m 39 and the people that are dying from it are over 50 and have health issues. My husband has none of that but yet he still quit his job. I don’t know how he think we’re going to make any money to support our children. I’m honestly very mad right now. He said he would go get a different job somewhere else but I highly doubt that because my husband has always been kind of lazy. (Not trying to be mean but it’s the truth) he always says he’s going to do things but never does. So what do we do? Do I get a job or something? Because we can’t just not have a job. We have four kids ages 11, 9, 7 and 3. They all go to a private school so we’ll have to pay for that. I just need help. 
I think this was the wrong decision because he is young and he has no health problems, I think it was just an excuse to leave work. If he got he virus it would be a mild case and then it would be over. 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!",0.16540487162606965,2.118915632653064,2.2366008338819405,95.9190750493746,84.85034013605444,5.154092604783848,19.34781654597323,6.3737218528115,-0.11014711432960267,1052,29,248,10,31,352,145,294,0.09300000000000001,0.836,0.07200000000000001,-0.7376,8,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,6,0,1,7,11,13,1,2,12,0,36,2,0,3,3,49,63,19,2,8,12,6,0,0,0,6,2,3,2,4,16,13,0,0,10,0,2,5,11,6,1,2,6,3,26,7,23,45,2,23,0,0,0,0,40,8,0,3,9,147,42,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817967930583731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930063555367114,0.0,0.0,0.11384626077527515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20410624804435326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534411556403318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17374777443107212,0.08745523061282988,0.0,0.0,0.07325191630174323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992584318085382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528719836380989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119920532863566,0.0,0.19028879690074707,0.0,0.06694754657165261,0.09228645231085147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795169013159742,0.0,0.0,0.056106544757855564,0.08844026441966557,0.16792841691696309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736759274810724,0.4983933095954575,0.0,0.0,0.08716719358968347,0.18401109582495528,0.0,0.0,0.08863284805802428,0.0,0.08559532690089629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587458165890117,0.0,0.0,0.09118066156105613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980357655075403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062067134616663425,0.06455943164320514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929459009506032,0.0,0.0,0.058031384322493065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009559051390992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561276643492755,0.0,0.0,0.05362437657081108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148469266732363,0.07962382624558083,0.13313316278255308,0.0,0.08471520871307713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444117206321726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921974066831333,0.06684793109549962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498887718659492,0.0,0.0,0.06293669366078389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055610722800641686,0.16090678347453133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934375139320078,0.07998492304804028,0.0,0.05683105908932028,0.0,0.0,0.08714117358437612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906643478428479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526198465911693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068985207957237,0.0,0.18281747285582856,0.0,0.0,0.237850115094026,0.09151965999015146,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowingMyselfAwayy,2020/03/05,"Is my kid doing okay at school I made this in a throwaway because I am ashamed of not doing enough as a mother.

I have a kindergartener, she is my entire life. I never wanted kids but when I found out she was coming I did everything in my power to ensure I could give her the best life I could possibly afford. I make sure she eats healthy, she has her own room, all her clothes are clean and her hair is always done, I spend all the time I can with her, I play with her, I ask her about her day, I take her to the doctor or dentist when she needs to, this might be pretty standard for any parent but it takes an effort for me because I did not want any of it. I am super patient with her and always respond with a smiler to her. I let her know how much she is loved several times a day. 

I am divorced, we share custody.

My daughter’s education is of extreme importance to me, I work full time and then come home to cook dinner, clean our apartment and do her bedtime routine, I still find the time fo do her homework with her and practice her letters and sounds and words.

She hates practicing and I see other kids in her classroom surpassing her in reading and it’s absolutely breaking my heart, I was a straight A student and still am an avid reader, I read everything I can get my hands on (although of course I can’t read as much as I used to)

I don’t know how else to help her practice, she hates it and I’ve tried several. Her teacher says she has the highest comprehension of the whole class and that she’s an extremely bright child and I don’t know if she means that or she says it to ease my fears. I don’t know what is normal or not when it comes to growing kids, she can be lazy but she’s smart. However hard work is what makes you progress and I want her to work hard, and she doesn’t want to.

Does she have another issue I can’t see? She also gets distracted a lot in class and she is very sensitive. I worry sick that she might not be at the same level as her friends but when she speaks to me she says really wise and intelligent things.

I do not consider myself an intelligent person at all which is why I try so hard to teach myself things every day; I have a degree from a very good University and I still don’t feel smart, I am so aware that there is so much in the world I don’t know, and I try to make the right choices for my life all the time because my kid is dependent on my choices. I don’t drink, I don’t do drugs. She is not autistic, but she is my only child so I don’t know what passes for normal when it comes to learning. 

Please any advice as to what it could be, could help. Her teacher also told me not to push her to learn things or it could backfire. I don’t need her to be top of the class or anything just to be on grade level with everyone else. 

She’s good in math and science, it’s only reading and writing that she’s struggles with. 

Also am I failing with any other thing I’m doing? I often feel like a failure of a parent. I haven’t had peace of mind since she was born, because I worry so much about her. How she’s at school, who she’s with, if she’s okay and being taken care of, how she’s feeling, whether people are being nice to her, when she gets sick the anxiety consumes me. I so don’t want to screw up being a parent. She is everything to me. 

I’m a very flighty person, people used to call me a free spirit, in a fight or flight situation I am always going to bail, not in motherhood though, it’s not my daughters fault, I will NEVER bail on her. She is the one commitment I will not shy away from.",3.19293327154773,3.9115511619812615,4.418925702811247,88.96738762743283,72.855421686747,7.29903202553805,25.074889300792915,7.395310329662975,0.9618186798475952,2766,80,618,29,52,912,282,747,0.084,0.728,0.188,0.9982,6,0,2,0,2,0,67.0,2,1,0,10,29,29,4,4,33,2,79,17,3,11,8,118,125,63,0,16,25,6,8,1,1,4,8,5,5,9,30,37,4,0,14,7,2,8,26,10,0,1,11,16,136,20,77,95,15,59,1,1,3,2,98,29,1,13,22,447,166,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058415910439085075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434171175465513,0.14922418984330654,0.0,0.0,0.1626086482028021,0.06268409839432278,0.04573121251298181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049193498032515964,0.0,0.055885834517626666,0.0,0.05616488008554816,0.0,0.0,0.145764300286295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627349775868734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104163151650727,0.0,0.06094926249411381,0.0,0.0,0.2059792481523833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23864563823106846,0.0,0.0,0.11565864449385245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06118692977833071,0.0523135103734481,0.061175261938156325,0.0,0.058561226794004,0.0693253301539403,0.06116943090012441,0.0998763310858708,0.0,0.0,0.0617682827670607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050366871599215296,0.05712194728608794,0.1611780866496882,0.0,0.0,0.06726864344230181,0.09067905038789653,0.042706541502937234,0.0,0.0,0.05463745005931187,0.0,0.0,0.06554522025581375,0.0461855526297633,0.0,0.09369708446500252,0.05734601709626028,0.03397411103080348,0.10028054534161772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065227631742424,0.11803991147483014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083908615711397,0.08013798025755013,0.0,0.059963789508215265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062394346800488124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19711975173349697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112866731436156,0.12667224863899593,0.02920528156790167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05082245832952615,0.053953401876685764,0.0565648808354647,0.11970999482871295,0.0,0.0,0.06511748395473246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683336787394212,0.060360331174299585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17577946865455776,0.08865159724269908,0.0922113896122156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714258542120955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040508188245314686,0.09093012362569566,0.0,0.0,0.1991344363000568,0.0,0.0,0.08288726299623234,0.1043944410491896,0.0,0.0656200236912149,0.0,0.06739249062588523,0.0,0.06081732059829863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391830154077625,0.0,0.038296327545222913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05105143182862767,0.0,0.14261735618463206,0.0,0.12100024609717727,0.09527316580356614,0.0,0.0,0.13506781206791846,0.0,0.049450283549578165,0.06719474882013128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432201413981879,0.0,0.0,0.062494593051704635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056341543529937324,0.0,0.08989360396065409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588595777957598,0.0,0.05873313054065904,0.0,0.1742897593947636,0.0,0.0,0.05712194728608794,0.0,0.12175922553165125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326072123674444,0.0,0.14797323407874213,0.17629771571653866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05394176980784045,0.06674176247742554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056073131650425,0.1214181237145722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,plmoknqazwsc,2020/03/05,"Childsplaining My 7yo was giving me a run down of a few details of the Harry Potter universe on the walk home from school today. I'm not a massive Harry Potter fan but I did think it quite funny considering I read these books before he was even born and he's read exactly 0 of them to date. 

The other day he was telling me about what the Internet was like in the 2000s (he'd been doing the topic at school) and although I always go along with it to not rain on his interest, I do have a giggle to myself. 

Give me some funny childsplaining moments you've had.",6.331578947368424,5.439287771929823,7.0357894736842095,78.4605263157895,66.01754385964911,9.705263157894738,29.52631578947368,8.841846274778883,2.1612736842105265,442,12,88,6,6,147,80,114,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.9715,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,10,0,11,0,0,0,1,10,16,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,1,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,7,0,12,3,15,8,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,6,61,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179850290553416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19614265226574454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865656087862034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15224628134498952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422425173106574,0.13100121984438673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23121516159601666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261302783831575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24517028437791466,0.4611344614148482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665664342425133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147140127788854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769820230944244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184916482489622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wildnet969,2020/03/05,"SAHM So I run a home daycare so I can stay home with my 1yr old daughter. 
I've done one form or another of childcare for 9 years now (working in daycares, home daycare since I found out I was pregnant, babysitting, tutoring, summer programs).
I am sooooo burnt out. I realized I dont really like other people's kids today. (I take care of 6 other toddlers ages 1 to 4)
I am actively looking for another work from home job, but i feel so bad realizing that almost like a switch, i dont have warm feelings about other people's children anymore. Has anyone gone through something similar?
My kid is pretty chill. She cries and whines sometimes like all babies do, but it really seems like all the others are so much worse. 
The crying, whining, fighting, messes they make, have trouble listening, and the stickiest poops......

Maybe I'm just venting. Maybe I'm looking for someone who is going through something similar. I want to stay home with my daughter, but my husband needs me to have an income as well. What are some work from home jobs that you all do?",4.75961666666667,6.352132395000003,5.304000000000002,80.78366666666669,70.05,7.733333333333332,31.833333333333336,8.238735603445708,2.5113333333333343,829,37,147,12,15,266,130,200,0.20600000000000002,0.738,0.055999999999999994,-0.9874,3,0,2,0,2,0,35.0,0,1,1,3,8,13,1,0,6,0,17,1,1,1,3,25,33,11,0,2,5,3,3,4,0,0,0,1,6,3,9,6,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,6,1,1,4,6,20,7,19,29,6,14,0,2,2,0,12,3,0,4,10,91,29,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012239572026277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20968987831309024,0.0,0.0,0.09916009636590864,0.0699131362764585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834848503972151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194326601992593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966173809158834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232127094568867,0.2343677070075332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011127198574427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963042949893552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05682483588604835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6017698290596235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984430576802928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539411413557112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679275576196138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674200446229635,0.0,0.20090047702954603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350184563604603,0.0741389886520497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491938840027104,0.0,0.06775368300274613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386365963346073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172258102335917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810828373537453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102428073852938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271016259043762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847185407410679,0.1539495371850784,0.09888955971809796,0.0,0.0,0.21314537498146507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517767407715432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477585070557253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05897483971600825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990019373433368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21837487148658874,0.0,0.101895150932174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643882586788389
parenting,TrapFam,2020/03/05,"5 year old stepdaughter is too attached to her mom We have two children in the house, including a daughter my wife has from a previous relationship. We've been living together since she was 2 years old. I feel that she is too emotionally attached to her mom in a way that no matter where my wife goes in the house, she would go after her. It gets to a point that we can't even be alone in our room because she would stand at the door all the time even if it's closed. We always try to talk to her and tell her that she should be more independent (we give options on other things she can do at home) but nothing has really changed. She would ask her mom questions even when she knows the answer just to call her mom's attention. She asks my wife for help with things that she can perfectly do by herself and and when she really needs help, if I offer help, she would say that she wants her mom to help. Do you guys think this is normal?

Any advise on how to understand this would be truly appreciated.",6.125481548154816,5.525248019801982,6.292610261026106,82.65531503150319,66.32673267326732,9.919711971197119,28.75967596759676,9.339509955726095,2.037083168316832,788,21,170,13,11,252,116,202,0.008,0.848,0.145,0.9836,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,1,0,1,10,1,0,0,9,0,23,0,0,2,2,35,34,9,0,11,4,9,1,0,0,6,0,1,3,2,13,9,0,0,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,33,1,21,23,2,23,0,0,0,0,54,12,0,4,8,119,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363916130707904,0.0,0.0,0.08326370230343327,0.0,0.0,0.06804894412631217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870981437985669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06099987199587426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217952411153884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585754398204256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256182808098113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827979136454746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505968466947888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05228084103378732,0.09599331785559267,0.05687034260054645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908199361539476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682910165584939,0.0,0.10037529016925112,0.0,0.0,0.23092760492099684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549941679820779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883609328713033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5859858974702218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419836096236368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804434558976027,0.09601691855725784,0.0,0.2100068208108344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459559373644548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112097863462373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821087597346706,0.0,0.0,0.10743443426693154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957723946184021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277639890588677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043000820299577,0.08746290781487442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329600442883076,0.06411884848706415,0.0,0.0,0.05834983184437189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793887718880952,0.0,0.09775085072587723,0.10417320361622827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059022068206010574,0.07942847163454182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554233815465244,0.0,0.0,0.12887964473355282
parenting,emmawills12,2020/03/05,"i need advice on how to take care of my sister  i don't know if this is the right place to post this but i need advice so a little backstory: my father was diagnosed with cancer last year and he has been told his life will most likely end this year and my mom wants me to take in my sister so she's not there just waiting for him to die, my sister is 14 i'm 23. and she suffers from depression, i don't want to act like i'm raising a child but i do need advice on how to take care of her,please give me advice",0.6310526315789461,2.028566140350879,2.726175438596492,95.82189473684211,80.57894736842105,5.612631578947369,16.66315789473684,6.2581,-0.5594463157894736,396,6,97,3,10,134,71,114,0.17600000000000002,0.746,0.077,-0.9364,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,3,0,9,3,0,2,0,19,25,10,1,6,5,5,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,16,4,14,21,1,12,0,2,0,0,13,6,0,2,6,59,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5718003601968422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982989564479003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259968904275239,0.1484783572944355,0.15182294483750072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295669765665075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033194460646614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039558072728938,0.11924353536357402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332692590981077,0.1429370046161513,0.14661813493651787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713297182365711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32541015915685506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528389148760004,0.16057933917630499,0.0,0.0,0.14010263272559562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249284094382722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32996914756015666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978362139621942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256787849556307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840823059014894
parenting,candyheart2001,2020/03/05,"Going back to work My son is 7 months old and next month I will be returning to work and I’m absolutely devastated. I live in Canada and am entitled to a year off with pay from the government but the money I’m receiving is not enough to cover our bills and we are struggling financially even with my husband working full time. A job became available in a different field then I currently work and the pay is so much better with way better benefits which is the reason I couldn’t turn it down even though it meant going back to work early. My son will be attending daycare and I know he will be well taken care of there but I’m still having a hard time thinking about leaving him, I cry every time I think about it. I know taking this job will benefit my son because I won’t be so stressed about money and financially we will be better off but I feel so guilty for leaving him when I still have 3 more months I could spend with him. I just don’t know how to get over the guilt and anger of feeling like a bad mom.",5.442628205128209,5.220123134615385,6.1469230769230805,81.86474358974361,67.65384615384616,9.433333333333334,28.871794871794872,9.075114841892004,2.0721717948717955,804,24,169,13,12,264,116,208,0.158,0.6970000000000001,0.146,-0.4103,4,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,8,18,13,1,3,10,0,22,0,0,2,0,31,40,18,0,2,5,5,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,14,0,0,9,0,6,4,4,5,1,0,2,3,23,8,23,25,4,30,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,0,19,115,28,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806856696293244,0.09809954326520122,0.07162103312572175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31173202776675035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197892526360836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380649241267416,0.0,0.1290576438545304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227524199529258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139894933093012,0.0,0.1552025497850437,0.0,0.09899069586068024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881331270431618,0.08393513686572981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061383864014906926,0.0,0.1335449586366466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524828535980164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23318210705251616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19370888812843604,0.0,0.0,0.2488106545532647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739985536959032,0.0,0.10374614065785777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376032899766056,0.2813390539763836,0.0,0.0863689334261054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495233106580915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328636911678745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079965836836733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765590698963214,0.0,0.13458481075189174,0.12282643446559932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833812908114176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056615763999484,0.11543368245222893,0.0,0.2055287217498771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277957737875358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932583792708242,0.0,0.0,0.1056379439243198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276719079670289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565993995296699
parenting,tway3838389,2020/03/05,"Concerned about 14YO son, already considering dropping out junior year Hi y'all. Throwaway for obvious reasons.

I'm just kind of taken aback by this. I never really thought my son would consider something like this.

My son came to me last night and told me he was considering putting the option of dropping out in 11th grade as an option. Apparently his reasoning for this is that if he already struggles socially at school, he can just do well academically and get out.

Here's how he thinks this'll work:

- Obtain all necessary elective credits (fine art, PE, 2 year LOTE credits)
- Take a few AP classes (algebra, history) to get a bit ahead on some things
- Make up for GED stigma with decent GPA (~3.5 and above) and ACT scores

It's been a long time since I graduated, so I don't know about alot of these. He's pretty smart and already bored with 8th grade classes. The GED seems fairly easy to acquire, and I don't think it should be much of a problem for someone like him if it's intended more of as a way for struggling people who want to turn their lives around.
It's legal in our state (Texas) to take the test with parental permission at 17, and his birthday is around a month after the school year begins. 

Regarding his social issues, he has mild ADHD and GAD and has always been a bit of an outcast. It obviously isn't enough to justify dropping out, but his academic performance is the important thing here.

He intends to take on a higher education at Community College, but I really don't know if University would be an option with his circumstances. He seems to want to go, though.

Again, sorry for the blocks of text, but I really wasn't expecting it. I see some reasoning in his logic and plans, but a lot still seems iffy. If you have any experience on something like this, please leave some advice.",6.449371539313398,6.9721403546511675,6.680548172757478,76.34263565891474,65.51162790697674,10.040753045404207,32.66002214839423,9.957137785484203,3.1342440753045397,1438,56,266,30,21,463,197,344,0.037000000000000005,0.887,0.076,0.883,2,0,2,0,0,0,47.0,1,2,1,6,14,13,0,2,19,0,21,0,0,7,4,67,45,23,0,11,10,4,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,15,21,0,1,12,1,2,4,6,4,1,0,8,1,22,9,49,32,12,39,0,0,1,0,28,16,0,15,17,164,37,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617908958062262,0.09446524052437236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200347214282095,0.0,0.08043755476687639,0.0,0.0,0.06573921791323764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211438364556275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21107817812799426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056523635552433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998864118441226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456224530661618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101263570020774,0.0,0.054940041950955316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089882933546776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066739294299362,0.10625509739637867,0.07879931551787593,0.0,0.102360043677829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168488998065473,0.0,0.08536177446429352,0.08555030222912313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218575579926839,0.0,0.0,0.06452827303192765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716142731108204,0.0,0.07106390048912521,0.0,0.07455820711626135,0.0,0.0,0.09071866446950384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073410895557652,0.0,0.0,0.06701911496792405,0.0,0.0,0.10611511957293933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834859672960232,0.0,0.09250056071805401,0.0,0.0971804982872726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578868833339832,0.2981799552528203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567130367671667,0.07703382910155361,0.26401542869522765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996679148535203,0.0,0.0,0.1970866903891976,0.08190855476770055,0.14884326367856648,0.0,0.1082146492152746,0.0,0.0,0.07720114265343596,0.0,0.0,0.2021218780886131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21805243269984534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844709697476495,0.12388503619432753,0.09497822188457213,0.0767455355362669,0.056369314176246535,0.0,0.0,0.09237275339956733,0.0,0.0,0.10514968509062572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403746680573748,0.07673250000185618,0.0,0.0,0.08691834016147078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037723566602971,0.0,0.0,0.137343821750276,0.0,0.0,0.1867577923176844
parenting,jaymac388,2020/03/05,"5 Year Old Asks if She's Being Good or Nice My (32/F) boyfriend (30/M) has 2 daughters full-time, ages 4 and 5, that I will soon become Stepmom to. He's done a great job with them, being a single dad, and his girls are well-adjusted, well cared for, happy, and silly little girls.

His oldest is fairly sensitive to others, constantly looks out for her little sister, etc. But I've noticed a pattern that I find odd. Their dad tells them to be good a lot, if he's leaving them at daycare or with a sitter, etc. He'll say ""be good!"" Sometimes when I tell them how much I appreciate them behaving or playing well with one another, etc. she'll look at me and say ""Am I being good?""

Or, while out to dinner last night, out of nowhere, after I had asked her how her day at school had been, she asked me what I did that day. This brought tears to my eyes because I thought it was such a sweet and mature thing for a 5 year old to ask, and I told her how much I appreciated her asking before I answered. She asked if she was being nice. 

Is she just looking for reassurance that she's following correct behaviors? The paranoid part of me hopes she's not trying to be manipulative or anything like that, but I think she's just trying to learn the boundaries of what is expected of her.",5.768918918918918,5.0068833243243285,6.477509652509652,81.57255791505794,67.10810810810811,9.253281853281852,30.469111969111967,8.418075326091056,2.015767567567568,987,31,210,12,14,326,142,259,0.019,0.84,0.141,0.9657,1,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,0,0,6,0,10,17,0,0,9,0,22,2,1,4,1,38,39,21,0,5,13,4,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,2,11,12,1,0,5,1,0,2,1,0,2,1,10,7,40,17,26,19,8,25,0,0,4,0,44,8,0,10,16,144,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893782550118056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764485489631834,0.0,0.5292464677766101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751699105292263,0.10420597923621727,0.08028784164087582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619963677445872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196256631416832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170034697531552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655634436267964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31568713412714605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623734947565671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165568094721382,0.0,0.10402501839562994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044100846403277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371427143414454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363124615570853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691065987139417,0.0,0.09990668639679534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609633265044456,0.1891339010152394,0.0,0.0,0.2376994186786881,0.0,0.0,0.0802159342249243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872129329381866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854432682753861,0.0,0.0,0.1074220350870805,0.19801616033631106,0.0,0.06393634370829362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217559822846088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500673106478818,0.0,0.09549073481646084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331798064825313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493815877485693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626842436509049,0.06045788481332556,0.0,0.07490610472293761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015877068737507,0.0,0.12811960627322824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25450526515913124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215210643973969
parenting,zmoney1213,2020/03/05,"My 3 y.o daughter has begun ignoring mom and is now daddy’s girl. Does this patten revert? Advice on ways to include mom? Since my daughter turned 3, she’s stopped taking a interest in mom.  She’ll often ignore any questions and has sometimes hit her when she’s upset with her.  

She’s become totally attached to me and won’t ever let me out of her sight.  I’ve read this is common at this age, but it’s been hard on my wife bc she’s been excluded from many activities.  It’s mainly developmental in that she’s leaned that mom and dad are 2 separate people, and that she’s latched away from my mom and is discovering a new person in dad.  

Any advice on ways to teach our daughter not to ignore and disrespect?",3.5476923076923086,4.990359153846157,5.075804195804199,81.826013986014,72.84615384615384,7.717482517482518,25.58741258741259,8.296473431620573,1.6336349650349646,561,18,110,9,11,189,87,143,0.13699999999999998,0.8490000000000001,0.013999999999999999,-0.9329999999999999,0,0,0,1,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,0,11,0,0,0,2,19,14,9,0,0,2,11,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,9,0,4,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,2,17,1,17,8,2,19,0,0,1,0,25,9,0,2,8,69,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575448417798975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922779196048086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238102346303684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553899523402766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153202496615213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192011938579212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180476482484356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475244016020352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360271122739895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7716869076515108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127272492349293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135861648597356,0.11506389954647205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762207415412387,0.0,0.13181415687226722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900853343737296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303323018540851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017272308891872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908102876019316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433371622172725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20919927226835733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littlemsmuffet,2020/03/05,"Lying...how do you deal with it? My almost 9 year old girl has taken a liking to lying. 
Some relevant background information
She has ADHD, Asperger's and struggles with chronic eczema. We homeschool as well. When she had a severe eczema flare up for 2 years we came to the realization that her recovery (along with her pediatric dermatologist) had a lot to do with her dad and I taking a more hands off  approach and letting her handle her creams and steroids (within reason of course), whenever we helped she would get worse. 

Lately her skin has been progressively gotten worse again. She has been doing her lotions and bathing normally. Or so we thought. She came to me crying about 4 months ago to tell me she had been lying for weeks about about doing her lotions, brushing her teeth, hair, bathing properly and we've noticed her playing her Dad and I against each other a lot. 

We had a sit down with her and talked about the effect of lying, the boy who cried wolf and how our trust in her was broken and that she needs to be truthful and honest to earn that trust back. Simple things like making breakfast for herself has become a fight because if I trust her to go and serve herself she will eat all of something and then lie about it. 

She is not deprived, our family has food, clothing, all of those things including treats, games and fun. We do fun things together like going to the park or movies. I do crafts and baking with her, we have girl talk and chat, do our nails. I've worked hard at building a relationship with her. 

This morning she told me she was wanting to go make breakfast and after she broke a half a dozen eggs one morning "" by accident"" she's been banned from cooking for herself, so I told her no, wait for Dad or I and in the mean time she can finish getting ready for the day (brush hair, teeth, meds/lotions and puffers) but she insisted she had done it all and that she was done with the lying.  I just can't bring myself to trust her so I told her that I was having a hard time doing that and to come to me so I could confirm she was being truthful (her meds have a distinct smell) and it was obvious she had lied about it, again. 

I'm just so frustrated. I know lying is normal at her age and I can't make her tell the truth. She's been punished for the lying, she loses video games and other privileges as they relate to the situation (egg incident = no more cooking). I just don't know what to do, we've had talks with her, we ask her why, she doesn't know why or won't tell us. We've always been fairly good at communicating with her, she's never lied this much in the past. I'm scared it's becoming a normal and natural thing to get what she wants in life. Which isn't a good thing at all. I hate that she lies, I'm sad and disappointed that my almost 9 year old can't be a normal 9 year old because she chooses to lie about everything. 

It's tearing our family apart. I've talked to my therapist about it and she says we are doing the right things, unconditional love, talking with her, listening, appropriate consequences, encouraging trust building, but none of it works and I'm honestly feeling really alone and angry about it.

So. Parents of Reddit. How did/do you handle lying?",5.151834470003468,5.8300708894154845,5.530745578545833,82.90846607328635,68.38388625592417,8.450491272685241,27.919277154856854,8.482186458684032,1.811633945979271,2535,79,506,36,41,810,277,633,0.149,0.745,0.106,-0.9846,1,1,1,0,1,0,77.0,14,2,1,6,25,34,4,2,27,0,58,19,6,7,10,106,95,48,0,10,11,4,7,3,0,3,3,2,3,3,33,54,9,2,10,9,0,8,12,11,1,3,29,13,95,23,70,58,12,47,0,5,1,1,105,14,0,10,27,355,128,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758879445827722,0.0,0.06460460570665423,0.0,0.14595958002890685,0.0754827322615814,0.0,0.0,0.060642827178579065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681338931967092,0.0,0.0,0.056040987370317326,0.0,0.08885515760229931,0.16098266857555865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671288777236362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278052486595015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818954505177041,0.0,0.16011270410391962,0.04700221322772365,0.07513710684540433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491651256226803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457545383057748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550073995331868,0.0,0.13741143387098229,0.0,0.0368508214865509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812798984763066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423193732157642,0.0,0.12425984897993116,0.1222582435242786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305741145425945,0.07195489510708154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04885059545944299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016046845767205,0.0,0.08221293813930912,0.0,0.0,0.07452575641042343,0.051478002933726036,0.10681792008489832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153519246430506,0.0,0.18588245005409965,0.06577794449693314,0.0,0.1459458925976242,0.0,0.0,0.07938877061253881,0.08095435688738345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058172915808292765,0.0,0.05357591797124578,0.05404033517962978,0.05621031720817586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28563160853785624,0.0,0.08297549717821384,0.2294290366949451,0.0,0.049386049171869305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092572134939137,0.0,0.06957315748970548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04668943236357027,0.07493380236350106,0.0,0.07824691492260606,0.0,0.062239972504190035,0.0,0.05795789337407103,0.0729665913470347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233478090808655,0.0,0.0,0.08192129327596473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610735148597492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761910413454353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479743895915778,0.2928949201448643,0.1911036090068764,0.0,0.0,0.08462045384207363,0.2905133724914699,0.0,0.0,0.057859370063420214,0.08499498990670004,0.0,0.0,0.2089227452271916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766686477806078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597419963132767,0.0,0.05846073900426808,0.0,0.06552876820208325,0.0,0.1315275262381446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061164664234336,0.0,0.1485439229660011,0.051772568612921975,0.0,0.0,0.18773188811449826
parenting,MansonsMuse,2020/03/05,"Antibiotic- I’ve tried everything So I’m posting here kind of as a shot in the dark- my 3yo son will not take medicine, and currently has strep. At the hospital he spit out the Motrin so bad they had to give him a suppository to get the fever down. I have an easier time hiding the Motrin or Tylenol in various drinks, but the bubble gum antibiotic seems to be an impossible task. I’ve tried the ice cream, yogurt, apple sauce... I’ve even tried the vanilla creamer trick I read about online. It seems no matter what it’s in, first sip/bite he tastes it and refuses. Then when I try the just “hold him down” and insert at back of gums where it’s supposed to just go down throat- he like closes his throat and spits it back out. I’m at a loss, is there ANYTHING else that’s worked for anyone?? I’ve also tried different flavors of the antibiotic, to know avail. Any advice helps.
Signed,
A very tired mom who also has strep🤦‍♀️",1.309967071935155,3.694294398936172,2.6514285714285712,91.99833333333332,83.73404255319149,6.134143870314086,19.59067882472138,7.447530270364453,0.4885402228976701,729,20,158,12,21,235,126,188,0.08800000000000001,0.8590000000000001,0.053,-0.7465,2,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,3,14,5,1,0,16,0,7,9,4,0,0,19,16,13,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,7,2,2,3,2,0,1,2,3,0,1,1,3,8,2,22,13,1,22,0,1,1,0,13,13,0,3,8,85,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594004082998272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552326469258616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852008917371588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115822694837562,0.0,0.13132100542641753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454148300373282,0.13324290070462572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422037742605154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672746843299646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632795977447905,0.0,0.0,0.13330887963922572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540129567274438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342050093390346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135738937834022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337413025148925,0.1530839831171135,0.09069317282712606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696332402818612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617834537485968,0.08770116994573318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796288315832775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689854093832992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283383354355645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962350371744474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905518580304823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998453988486915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305256732961048,0.18341410149651666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5417228074256747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167047579184055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617637283663612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alliecomma,2020/03/05,"Why are people pretending to be parents here?!! It is so blatantly obvious when you post something like “yes I have 13 children and today is a tough day because Susie wouldn’t eat her sandwich” or “my kid is 15 and they back talked what do I do”. 

Could someone just explain to me what you get out of pretending to be a parent and taking the attention and advice away from actual parents’ (albeit less attention grabbing) issues? 

End rant. Sorry.",5.348112449799199,6.854908891566267,6.01222891566265,76.5965763052209,68.51807228915663,8.90682730923695,31.90562248995984,9.2995712137729,3.0893791164658637,350,15,59,7,6,114,67,83,0.061,0.8340000000000001,0.105,0.5781,3,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,1,11,2,0,0,2,14,14,7,0,2,2,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,5,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,7,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,6,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.19057340748256965,0.0,0.0,0.1908336642061926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347997636026306,0.1501648037838612,0.0,0.11904605836406575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559219782697733,0.0,0.0,0.12594492813106126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998288916210731,0.0,0.0,0.1729676482875435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203018218549116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383045879436207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540809779191974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.650534312709236,0.0,0.0,0.13538845833865526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703240241930508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654673142140688,0.15034262995848158,0.0,0.21860948975417696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683264973162172,0.15696550070471826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511066563971795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176217498089522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hamiltonteam,2020/03/05,"PARENTAL CARE SURVEY ! [https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/RGRKPPM](https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/RGRKPPM)

Hello ! We are students from the university of Gothenburg (Sweden) :) 

 We need your help for our project. It's about parental investment and if you have a child between 2 and 7 years old **we count on you** !!",8.692142857142855,11.164789880952382,4.8797619047619065,66.31107142857144,114.4761904761905,4.257142857142857,24.92857142857143,5.985473137389443,1.3023428571428568,253,9,33,3,12,68,37,42,0.0,0.774,0.226,0.8957,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,4,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,6,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,2,21,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499932358121215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23009097956268626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545351502971974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602109063139304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7623357841178203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210587896890604
parenting,michelle0509,2020/03/05,Today I would rather be living under a bridge Just venting I have 10 children. I had them fairly close together. I love them dearly but today I feel like running away. All but two are teenagers now and the mood swings are killing me. Especially when a large number are on their monthly.  So I am having one of those moments where I would love to run away just for a min because one of me versus 10 not good odds today.,2.4272590361445765,4.654289240963858,3.2417921686747,90.2995557228916,78.27710843373494,5.113855421686747,22.423192771084338,5.985473137389443,0.3277722891566266,329,10,65,2,8,104,61,83,0.102,0.728,0.17,0.6354,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,3,0,7,7,1,0,4,0,10,2,0,0,1,13,13,5,1,3,7,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,1,1,12,5,8,9,1,16,0,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,9,50,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38036165663166654,0.0,0.0,0.12339372631571995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234994351984014,0.1446093257060649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697808056207319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239484161431352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889248639577984,0.0,0.17874110897250312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36538501083723934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157020134642466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27433089084614426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5756132154551747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977355251239461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875875901623257,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QWin15,2020/03/05,"How to stop my 1.5 year old from kicking hitting Hi folks, my son thinks its really funny when he kicks or hits us.  Obviously he is young so he doesn't understand the consequences but we are trying to figure out what the best way to stop this behavior is.  We don't laugh when he does it, we don't continue playing, we just tell him ""No, Mommy and Daddy don't like it when you hit"".  He thinks us getting serious and saying ""No"" is funny and laughs.  As far as I can tell, he is plenty gentle with the other kids at school and we haven't had any reports of him playing mean, but we would like to nip this in the bud as fast as possible so any advice would be appreciated.",2.1019565217391296,3.824956949275364,3.9442753623188413,87.26684782608696,77.33333333333333,7.208695652173913,21.644927536231886,8.07648339933343,0.9716405797101446,521,14,112,9,12,176,88,138,0.11699999999999999,0.73,0.153,0.8989,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,8,1,0,1,7,8,0,0,4,0,15,0,0,1,1,27,23,17,0,2,4,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,7,12,0,2,5,2,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,1,14,7,14,16,1,15,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,1,12,71,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18017556432820447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250771619704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19349711242828327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135357957579433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963317752674784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801590713320468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008456143367177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934774715455776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078625487257282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181195735082062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662764784694549,0.0,0.18660402158025488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30830254520236866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223152884789125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23628856692927264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518300241282682,0.0,0.0,0.19194774684604576,0.4435767219335832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146353530816252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619587951450115,0.0,0.0,0.11873570439505307
parenting,Lupauru,2020/03/05,"How to avoid premature sexualization of girls in their preteen and teen years. This question is oriented to how to deal with constant sexual stimuli in social media such as instagram and tik tok in girls at an age such as 14 years where they already have a phone as all of their friends and taking it away is not a viable option. 
Thanks",9.18057291666667,7.709786328125006,8.586250000000003,71.5004166666667,60.71875,11.658333333333333,36.95833333333333,10.504223727775694,3.7266208333333335,271,10,49,5,3,86,48,64,0.069,0.884,0.046,-0.1295,0,1,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,2,1,11,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,14,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,4,35,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34394894839052365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29283559338613685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33681762356763595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32133055972128816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24080481770107906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34915528438237753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31772065042795417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343461502752321,0.0,0.0,0.28695500234821075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40142610767196185
parenting,Mama_Mush,2020/03/05,"Handling aggression/avoidance in my 5/6 year old son. Hi All, 

I have a 5 year old(6 in a few months). Have had ongoing problems with him hitting other kids in school/during play. When he is confronted he seems to almost shut down and will not look at/acknowledge teachers/authority figures. He does it with me to an extent but I think he is worse with other people. When asked he denies wrongdoing or says the teacher is lying. I am married to his father,we only have one child and are based in the UK, if it is applicable.  
Does anyone have advice on how to help manage his anger and encourage him to engage with corrective conversations? No suggestions for physical chastisement please, thanks.",4.8104474431818245,7.151205570312502,5.449744318181821,76.71627840909092,71.421875,8.717045454545454,28.04261363636364,9.339509955726095,2.787865625,555,21,93,13,11,179,95,128,0.16,0.7070000000000001,0.133,-0.6059,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,2,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,2,19,18,9,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,2,9,4,16,15,3,13,0,0,1,0,19,7,0,4,6,60,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052835889725893,0.0,0.0,0.21036051557938365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468898470425945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639246561893184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676774043405427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080934523342903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764107188343051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768045728502354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4408783165720416,0.0,0.14235276319876689,0.15977207222567427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564007220023367,0.0,0.0,0.2306000860133117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101411885231849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706066610564274,0.0,0.21260787171413756,0.0,0.19124507048251185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934095235813236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460805640678622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140851338098103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270563787362473
parenting,UstraVive,2020/03/05,"13 yo wont let me see his essay homework. I dont know how much of a fuss should i do, how bad should I punish him, should i yell or just let it go. Im having a hard time parenting him and am really lost since i diddnt have “parenting” my self",1.2877272727272742,1.825074454545458,3.932500000000001,91.35875,77.18181818181819,7.6818181818181825,19.204545454545453,8.07648339933343,0.3925454545454548,185,3,47,3,4,66,41,55,0.21,0.79,0.0,-0.8718,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,2,0,11,0,0,2,0,9,15,4,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,3,10,0,1,8,1,2,0,1,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,31,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324127548637066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712439108381184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153169363875358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073232170989748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24999303007243576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271924121460685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4733225916903552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526421944510546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013374682630647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.513969585931611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826527227159922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844263245785429,0.0,0.2414405744527156,0.0,0.0,0.19144811589905456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349535074886812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anthrbrickinthewall,2020/03/05,"Awesome sleeping almost-three-year-old has gone off the rails at night. At my wit's end. We have two daughters.  One just turned 6 and one is almost 3.  They have always been great sleepers.  The nighttime routine was brush teeth, read a book and then off to bed.  The younger one went to her crib, closed her eyes and was off to bed for the night.  

Last Friday, I was stuck at work for an emergency very late.  My wife called around 10pm to tell me that the youngest was having a meltdown.  My wife ended up rubbing her back for over an hour before she fell asleep.  It has been all downhill from there.  The next night she began violently throwing herself out of her crib to escape to come to get us so we had to turn it into a toddler bed.  Now she just screams, ""I'm not tired!"" all night long. She won't even remotely stay in her bed unless someone is sitting right next to her. She is even waking herself up every 5 minutes to check if someone is still there as she realized that we left once she fell asleep.  If she finds out we're not there she either comes to get us screaming or starts flinging toys everywhere to get our attention. We've tried positive reinforcement with a prize box of dollar toys that she can choose from if she stays in bed. We've tried letting her meltdown in her room. We are trying everything we can to avoid a co-sleeping arrangement, but we're about to jump out of the window. Nothing is remotely working.  I feel seconds away from snapping all night long. Our goal is always to remain calm, but wow, it's getting so hard going on a week of almost no sleep.  The last 2 nights we have fallen asleep on her floor in exhaustion.  

She is fully communicative and just tells us she's not tired. She says she's not scared.  The day comes and she is a bear because she slept about as much as we have, but the next night she just fights us again.

Are we missing anything?  We've been told everything from maybe her crib mattress stinks so get her a big kid bed to get larger crib rails and let her cry it out in bed jail.  This isn't our first rodeo.  Our first kid would fight going down a little, but after extra stories and made up princess tails about her she would end up sleeping through the night.  We are just so lost and feel even more tired than during the infant stage.",3.72803571428571,5.202652699561405,3.723598997493735,91.57152631578951,72.44298245614036,6.439498746867168,24.43208020050125,6.742157984588678,0.6586622305764411,1805,52,379,14,35,550,230,456,0.091,0.8490000000000001,0.06,-0.9034,0,1,0,0,2,0,47.0,17,0,1,7,23,15,3,2,23,0,34,14,10,1,3,62,60,25,0,5,19,3,4,0,0,3,4,3,10,3,8,28,0,1,6,4,2,12,7,11,0,7,16,10,58,4,64,39,7,81,0,2,1,0,65,33,0,6,32,242,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966415558862185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893335344276506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386672945474594,0.058271901230041036,0.0,0.0,0.06150037141954669,0.05033350990147019,0.0,0.039902865427928515,0.0,0.055700322319484616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668403992780227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915998369615656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190303700496856,0.042215286987282885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393028096476146,0.0,0.0,0.12970407269760176,0.0,0.055151569911201515,0.0,0.11765967366735645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619552135703627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059827840225892985,0.11135785348333832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051960401855829,0.0,0.07440309474037186,0.0,0.0,0.07216817559804684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863791660000661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446339067245123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671475175040401,0.07383998623221333,0.0,0.07112080078913989,0.13387140641941772,0.0,0.0,0.06560656652854202,0.0,0.1158573422186878,0.0,0.0,0.07145563403442312,0.0,0.0,0.06193837101378592,0.0,0.0,0.06576181432265762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048119494752413484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20884742234893755,0.4914265914299786,0.0,0.06280915114467396,0.0,0.06868763519969841,0.06971111618649067,0.13306902563444442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547616705679372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05590116126266144,0.0,0.05205518919099728,0.06553533084229284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620229055268755,0.0,0.11092546973059224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046331829995583065,0.13954000289608984,0.052275205177638936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442714636215301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225704587428722,0.0,0.0625483570685325,0.0,0.13332597848597047,0.14240000014383053,0.0639433971639157,0.0,0.31495383742468025,0.0,0.0,0.054010079146332365,0.0,0.0,0.05250682265953678,0.0,0.0,0.06068064179584338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530906688239316,0.0,0.0,0.09299961393197337,0.0,0.0,0.04215309763723782
parenting,chezvyk,2020/03/05,"My 5-year-old daughter wants to play with markers I have a 5-year-old and a 2-year-old. My oldest loves to draw and paint, so we only allow crayons and pencils at the house because the youngest has on many occasions drawn all over the wall, couch, etc.

My wife is insisting on getting her markers especially after she just spent a few hours in her classroom (mandatory in the UK where we live). I love that my daughter is so creative, I have saved everything she drew in school and at home.  I have framed a few of her drawings and encourage her to be as artistic as possible and  I would never want to put a limitation on that. 

Since we live in a rental and there is carpet in most of the rooms I don't want to go through all the trouble of getting paint out of walls and such (I'm already cleaning crayon off walls).

Are there tricks that some parents out there have used in this similar scenario?",7.321584595959598,6.372655312500001,6.786666666666665,81.2361111111111,64.05681818181819,9.86767676767677,36.03282828282829,8.841846274778883,2.8644047979797977,709,29,143,9,9,220,105,176,0.05,0.8240000000000001,0.126,0.9495,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,8,7,1,0,12,0,12,2,0,2,3,28,23,12,0,4,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,4,14,0,1,0,2,1,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,19,5,29,20,7,26,0,0,0,2,16,20,0,2,4,100,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407354213738746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615878971904496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17592536391903674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176941552011904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482862126801814,0.0,0.08964909493163951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582292897438531,0.0,0.15534527562800834,0.18201447212399652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27858026862498914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28473879080117365,0.0,0.0,0.15992684455966874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166127928452244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4965748548606792,0.0,0.0,0.11997081068103108,0.0,0.0,0.1751551543451831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783175501845427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857548351049708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596445384440284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048680391705256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623947647179294,0.0,0.0,0.2791230764773783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205624237924858,0.0,0.0,0.30474434416445473
parenting,mrs_a_dben,2020/03/05,"My teenage son is going to be a dad I’ll keep this as short as possible 
My (f42) son (m19) is about to become a father!  
He’s been very anxious about the whole situation as the girl (f19) and him only had a couple of weeks fling. They didn’t really know each other, he said he would support her decision no matter what
 so here we are, about to have a little bubs.  
They are not a couple at all  and there has been tension between them, my son says very little but he seems upset as he feels she wanted a relationship with him and he felt it wasn’t a good idea, and he is not stable enough ( he has had two breakdowns in the last 3 years also a volatile relationship) is this fair of him? I thought so as not to set up for bad situation 
He says he doesn’t love her but will support as much as he can as a co parent, he says this upsets her and causes arguments 
Recently I asked my son if I could message her to see if she was ok and I knew the birth was coming up and I just sent a brief text saying that we are here for any support she or baby needs she has said that my son doesn’t show interest at all there’s no communication between them 
I know my son is very hard on himself and feels he is letting her down, he only works part time at a burger place 

So my question is about my place in this whole situation?  
Also getting my son to open up about what he wants me to do as in involvement with his new son, am I overstepping by messaging her to see how she is? 
I don’t want my son to get upset with me",3.761499999999998,3.8114471499999993,5.178750000000004,86.43125000000002,71.25,8.275,25.375,8.07648339933343,1.1845437500000005,1168,30,268,15,20,394,158,320,0.09300000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.096,0.4920000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,4,1,16,12,0,4,15,1,34,1,0,2,2,48,61,28,0,8,9,12,4,0,0,2,0,6,0,1,10,16,0,1,11,1,0,4,10,5,0,1,14,12,42,7,44,42,8,29,0,0,2,1,65,17,0,5,7,183,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538115113466456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539774252362973,0.0,0.0,0.10864280706437264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899043797951934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029651449543038,0.0,0.10621033304434599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987913360437832,0.0,0.0828404761048144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678256317072693,0.2128167921119802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936756248017027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972511651763872,0.0,0.09233665029348476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004879362859772,0.0,0.054654661734612656,0.08066140831822352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614790843792182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856230633601187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547880471566438,0.0,0.0,0.10570316657132474,0.07839000083751547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833860351268447,0.0,0.0,0.19277180411374395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867956464358484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706947666010615,0.07130757674777413,0.0,0.0928799444991764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628065304616664,0.0,0.0,0.1067835176597112,0.1041408985970972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20095081261393974,0.0,0.0,0.1084153099773896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107730506421284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160787623741944,0.0,0.0949545955409049,0.2064975308748079,0.0,0.0,0.1829561533982544,0.305907571903346,0.0,0.0,0.15326737010597288,0.08754800952486658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32429159931014245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273919454475438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763468889980239,0.05607650975703868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939424564085904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23804675998785196,0.17016766693326096,0.0,0.07714041038830946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21473694769927806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001166858550402,0.0,0.0,0.0683152019232281,0.0,0.0,0.06192923292958762
parenting,rockerchickjoa7x,2020/03/05,"Daughters first birthday ideas It’s my baby girls first birthday at the end of march. We’re going to be laying out a table of buffet food and letting the kids play together and calling it a ‘party’. My mum is paying for the cake. I just have no idea what to buy my daughter for presents, there’s some stuff from Christmas she hasn’t even got through yet! Can anyone give me some ideas please? I’m stuck. She has all the fun of the mill toys and teddies already :/",2.8173387096774185,4.667664000000002,3.1545026881720446,93.15175403225807,75.66666666666666,5.0801075268817195,24.528225806451612,5.148860815047168,0.3132161290322584,364,12,75,1,8,112,71,93,0.07,0.843,0.087,0.4003,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,1,11,12,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,1,0,3,2,2,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,7,2,11,8,3,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,6,49,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196549899783399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917935234428538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032507924938065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762979067879479,0.0,0.0,0.1314696692929037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386211365487712,0.24069025884498996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094547658062333,0.1131238602201518,0.0,0.15919728378763007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6741046478394791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354059626296744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849550032251389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278629319062358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Xylose_Labs,2020/03/05,"What are 3 things a parent should teach there children early on? For everyone from expecting/veteran parents, what are three (3) things you plan on teaching your children from the beginning? 

It could be as simple as walking or as complex as computer science. Regardless of what it is, I look forward to hearing from all of you!",6.780762711864405,8.204145000000004,6.762500000000002,72.85019067796613,65.10169491525424,9.967796610169492,40.17372881355932,10.125756701596842,4.584081355932202,261,15,41,6,4,83,44,59,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,9,5,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,13,6,1,6,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,1,3,36,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24970992594181626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29885141275136834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35249833181134965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26263596446105275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6945562426022011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155618944113917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lexicon-Jester,2020/03/05,"My child loves swimming but hates getting face wet so won't swim. Hi guys,

MY son is 4 years old. He loves swimming and always wants to go, but when we go, he's afraid to do anything, afraid to let go of me for the duration.

He says he doesn't like water in his eyes.

Over 2 years, this hasn't gotten much better. I really want to teach him how to swim, but how can I get him over this hurdle!",1.3203697478991572,2.5841864823529437,2.750420168067226,96.97117647058826,78.29411764705883,5.798319327731093,18.025210084033613,6.1826913282559595,-0.4733025210084034,301,5,74,2,7,98,61,85,0.11,0.787,0.10300000000000001,-0.1597,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,4,7,1,2,1,0,7,5,2,2,0,9,18,8,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,3,3,0,0,1,3,9,4,10,15,1,14,0,0,1,2,15,3,0,0,5,38,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940695656860658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191931900741566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20627672532381772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437105204895745,0.0,0.39765716813858504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309385594958865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302705182477104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384978051304517,0.0,0.11394646502501025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210060023306805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145399737538394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447400930920985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941582182909266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547722325120045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751351867802188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003903980640521
parenting,nomnomatron,2020/03/05,"Introducing my single mother girlfriend to my parents What's up guys? As the title says. I'm (35m) about to introduce to my parents who are very devout my girlfriend (31f) who's a single mother of two.

As parents yourselves, how would you take it if your son introduces their partner to you being she's a single mom?",2.0664746543778847,4.6626095645161305,3.8513824884792633,83.22564516129033,82.38709677419354,5.478341013824887,24.98617511520737,6.868970318607317,1.3134949308755757,251,10,44,3,7,84,44,62,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,5,4,0,2,1,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,0,9,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,1,0,34,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416742485986715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858596124140366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8130546770454701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940995417103584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351525857273876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384274128633071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013887908769015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733850431049645,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaanviClinic,2020/03/05,"Best Gynecologist in Pune [Best Gynecologist in Pune](https://saanviclinic.com/) \- Dr Vaishali Chavan has launched “**SaanVi Clinic**” in Pune. A mother of two herself, she believes in the importance of promoting awareness of women health issues and its early prevention. Be it a high-risk pregnancy, child birth, gynecological complications, infertility treatment, menopausal symptoms or adolescent healthcare, Dr Vaishali Chavan takes pride in being part of the various stages of a women’s life.",9.260000000000002,13.819941666666667,8.016111111111114,51.84,69.83333333333334,9.866666666666667,38.55555555555557,9.725611199111238,5.652322222222222,408,22,44,12,9,125,54,72,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,5,0,3,7,0,1,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,10,2,4,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,2,29,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309147397297185,0.5759178873833689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29166735209397315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899116914562471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28639541908054483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938121726040539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29714131184945125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851998050840096,0.20630968748895245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26804248005966896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angela_rose9,2020/03/05,"Trying to coparent for 4 years now, need advice!!! So I need advice. I'll try to keep this as short as possible. My son is 4 years old, and I have been his custodial parent all 4 years. His dad wanted to have a child, but when I broke up with him shortly after our son was born, he did not continue to be a father. He moved to and from california twice to ""find himself."" He was at my sons first birthday party but not at his second or third. He has not taken any interest in his life, his health, activities, daycare, school, etc. He also has not paid any child support in 4 years - partially my fault for not going to court for it. Idiotically, I was trying to do the right thing by not making him pay child support and instead trying to convince him to be a parent to his child for 4 years. Throughout these 4 years, I have kept the door wide open for him. His family has been very involved in our sons life. For most of the 4 years, my son would go to his family's house for at least one weekend out of the month, whether or not his dad was there. I was trying to give my son time with his dad and his family and was hoping that with time my sons dad would step up. Over time, however, I realized that his family enables him to be a half ass dad. If he wants to lift a finger when my son is there, he can, but if he doesnt feel like it, he doesnt have to. Everyone else picks up and always has picked up the slack for him. Also, throughout the years I have tried extending many olive branches to him in hopes of building a bridge. Each time I thought progress was made, he burned the bridge once realizing -again, again, and again- that I did not want to be with him. In the past, he has not shown any interest in being a father to his child unless we are a ""family."" He has shared with me that if it weren't for his family that he wouldn't have any type of relationship with his son at all and wouldn't reach out. He even told me that a part of him has resentment for our son because of the hurt I have put him through. All in all, he has always put himself before our son. He has verbally and emotionally abused me over the years, threatened and harassed me. When my son was 2 years old I had a temporary restraining order put on him, but I backed out of it because of pressure from his family, and because I didnt want to burn his bridge with his son. Because of our tumultuous relationship and inability to communicate in a healthy way, I have always mostly communicated with his grandmother and the rest of the family regarding visits. However, as of late, I have gotten into so many arguments and conflict with his grandmother and other members of the family, that I decided I dont want my son going to their home unless I'm in communication with his dad. After all, my son never actually wants to go there, so why force him if it's not his dad asking for him? After I made this decision, the entire family came for my head saying I had no right to make this decision and that I was basically a controlling monster. I reached out to my sons father via text and Facebook that I wanted to communicate with him directly regarding visits, but I didnt get a response. After a very emotional and heated dispute with the grandmother, I decided to attempt to talk to my sons father in person. I went to go speak with him and was met with gaslighting and more emotional/verbal abuse. When I broke down crying, the conversation became somewhat more productive and he agreed to go to counseling with me to learn how to better communicate and agreed he would communicate with me directly regarding visits. A week and a half later after this conversation, he decided he does not want to do counseling, and says that all we have to communicate about is a visiting schedule for our son and that's it. At this point, he is threatening to take me to court. And honestly, I'm scared because this is illinois and fathers rights are taken seriously here. I have never tried to take our son away from him, all I have ever wanted was for him to be there for his child. Now that I have set boundaries and I am trying to set a higher standard, I am being chastised and threatened with court by him and the family. I dont want to bring this to court, but I dont know how to communicate with someone like him. Do I have a right to demand that he is the one that picks our son up and drops him off for visits - not other members of his family? Do I have a right to demand he communicates with me about visits and a schedule? I just want him to prove he wants to be a father and cares about his child, as he has proven otherwise in the past. I'm trying to protect my child from emotional hurt, but am being told that I am the one that will be causing him all the pain. I feel confused and could use input from outsiders, possibly with similar experiences. Please be kind. Thank you.",7.687939292801738,6.056682187759336,8.116445967887426,74.19753292440917,63.74066390041494,11.660616994407361,33.40465451921342,10.615612698934287,3.2308287750315703,3815,120,766,79,46,1269,317,964,0.12300000000000001,0.807,0.07,-0.9948,5,0,0,0,2,0,104.0,10,1,1,6,29,28,3,3,43,0,85,7,3,12,12,161,140,65,0,26,29,35,3,2,0,6,4,3,2,9,33,64,0,6,14,1,2,20,25,13,0,9,33,6,122,15,152,89,18,113,0,4,0,1,151,42,1,12,48,551,155,4,0.0,0.10820481358761724,0.044559857507656814,0.0,0.0,0.08924142142412733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303231448534707,0.11398417582113335,0.0,0.0,0.12420782961695125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04268812445392982,0.0,0.04290127206162982,0.03511152131698178,0.0,0.13917669489212828,0.0,0.03885528862008121,0.0,0.0,0.04038462950814936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222555300600685,0.04655579942898309,0.046907802018255916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05121419767751978,0.03645766335289213,0.0,0.05015793695885177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039959421930781926,0.0,0.16054776915731755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038145026268247034,0.1540919614164418,0.0,0.0,0.050925580010907794,0.030159545283291664,0.04130420124828205,0.0,0.04363232321475397,0.0,0.04466653097676804,0.5165566899465611,0.0,0.04617650276656771,0.032621185214641475,0.0,0.0,0.04173455202215222,0.03884036354753954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02385668829519974,0.04380347785573885,0.15570576255102425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04686273499267528,0.048536932740249984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04580305065407208,0.09070601450918757,0.0,0.052688210254659716,0.09776495994538824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04058678634108689,0.0,0.0475503009753947,0.025094828194412538,0.0,0.05150910905504468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645053230564784,0.044616626200309414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641362140040817,0.06095993378567292,0.09258889266545528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036447244585053634,0.048531841604536816,0.0,0.06771609386887459,0.0704352240565457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582989035528533,0.04862890243108334,0.09282595112758704,0.0,0.04858794978249575,0.0,0.1014052508202692,0.049447865056009725,0.08717974171823346,0.0,0.03987059449206823,0.0,0.05012353778338755,0.04316567119513773,0.10295485616093683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377097928357622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804853019946304,0.0,0.19497694668623164,0.0,0.07262505191937088,0.045715968753003794,0.04621272643538397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038689552970437135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363416587205496,0.0,0.0,0.06866479469451868,0.03670165967757055,0.0,0.04203974825202726,0.0,0.0,0.03033603007889793,0.0,0.0,0.03625079786593725,0.10650431193246307,0.0,0.0,0.08726464642950793,0.0,0.2790155869249765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03943760129381617,0.0,0.07535242620634053,0.3231939783414329,0.03624464052375839,0.03662757528148177,0.0,0.0,0.04232944716380007,0.041203160026107376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973116498363304,0.0,0.0,0.2940505021731971
parenting,tiredmomma24,2020/03/05,"My son won't sleep I don't know if he's just mad, or if he's been feeling me stressed out but my 3mo has not wanted to go to bed for the past 2 days. He's went to sleep, but doesn't want to go when he needs to. Is he a normal kid or am I doing something wrong? First time mom",0.0326865671641805,0.42057376119403145,2.3165970149253745,102.32056716417914,80.04477611940298,5.36,17.877611940298507,3.1291,-1.079743880597015,210,3,62,0,5,72,48,67,0.14800000000000002,0.8320000000000001,0.02,-0.7925,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,2,0,8,2,2,0,0,15,16,7,0,6,8,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,2,1,5,0,7,13,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,5,32,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886975502804046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245575597426804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095377784435744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800028681148559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538273254946093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885119457060268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826589477824208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24136216446244174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23516063878450036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930383965567988,0.0,0.0,0.1896455629155635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821831194523561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364358928872265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29059695482817105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283608471015251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26933553318438397,0.0,0.0
parenting,Celesschere,2020/03/05,HEY Parents/ adults pls read!!! look im an i adult legally but theres a lot i still dont understand.... Why do you guys solve every problem with your SO with sex??? like my dad and step mom wont talk for days then they do it and the next day they are like the fight never happened so like wth. Is that how all adults do it bc that doesn’t solve ANYTHING it seems so unhelpful. and if that what fixes it i dont want a SO:/,-1.5568944099378896,0.4040851739130461,0.3119875776397514,104.53021739130438,99.43478260869566,3.4981366459627328,14.180124223602483,5.288315135182226,-1.2833223602484471,324,7,82,2,14,104,66,92,0.126,0.664,0.209,0.8303,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,2,2,0,7,5,1,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,2,15,14,11,0,3,2,3,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,4,8,5,0,0,2,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,1,8,3,3,13,2,7,0,0,1,1,14,0,0,3,9,49,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246729329415893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25465081997309563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627707729286331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663424970310135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548580790156891,0.1745858646212401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132572624320348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893615967151483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579068555965432,0.0,0.0,0.1678471256078514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23122652745673836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522694612130186,0.0,0.20996804375014472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192216055730491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891294583407728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748248584370315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973200015686536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766710133651007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586859989326003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553061285445245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116448774053339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814901738403996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,john10058,2020/03/05,"would you allow your daughter to do a co educational swim unit in school or go to the school and complain? atmy daughters schools from 8th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable and give immature boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause distractions and goofing off among everyday? Not to mention young boys will be shirtless around young girls and I think that is inappropriate especially in a school setting My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is this just seems wrong especially at school. Giving a boys a chance to leer at girls like this this class also pretty much just gives students to look at all the other students in bathing suits. What is this a party or something? How is this appropriate for school? Why is the school providing an avenue for voyeurism?
can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who aren't known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls?
what reason do they have to put them together? They can easily separate boys and girls buy taking the boys of another gym class and putting them with the boys in the gym class doing the swim unit and the same with girls
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everyone knows at this age boys have dirty thoughts and girls should not be made to wear swimsuits in front of them",7.222691705790298,8.244979140845071,6.268967136150238,78.21914710485133,63.92957746478874,9.691392801251958,30.91862284820032,9.725611199111238,2.725297965571205,1252,43,229,24,18,378,147,284,0.071,0.802,0.127,0.9666,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,6,2,7,12,3,1,16,0,26,1,1,9,1,54,43,23,0,3,11,3,1,1,0,7,0,2,2,20,19,20,0,1,8,8,1,9,8,7,0,0,2,4,13,5,34,32,4,34,0,0,1,0,43,17,0,5,8,142,32,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221874600493935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780738141857983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830490143746336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482372016503597,0.10561627923110008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997150331009532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824130387430176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05198485326824116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958800124574907,0.05843044791383222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138405925788062,0.0,0.0,0.05650280481711864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022876630722912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633621422564433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728323194128864,0.06862783067634756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557867428987985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127691875190366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104596799611792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067089809827132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586402128059701,0.10570789370651236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16352051114448293,0.0,0.7283588670667794,0.0,0.09359621390288088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914972629124513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730185403890817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587779966675114,0.0,0.08162127034366105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703095268247212,0.0,0.08879658673479134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855437375994476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303471874147903,0.2248176377481816,0.0,0.0
parenting,jaguarwolff87,2020/03/05,"Eager for her future Our daughter is 13 months. She is a very happy baby as long as she is fed and had her nap(s). Assuming those are checked, she continues to get more and more of a personality every day. I find myself wondering every day what kind of person she will be. Kind? Empathetic? Competitive? Talented? I know that I shouldn’t wish to skip past the days currently going by to get to know her but I’m so excited to meet the person I aspire for her to be. We just can’t wait to learn and grow with her! Anyone else feel this way?",1.2602905198776782,3.5981873761467926,3.5414908256880717,85.85027905198778,83.49541284403671,6.936085626911316,19.175076452599388,8.07648339933343,0.9403388379204896,420,11,87,9,12,144,74,109,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.9439,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,0,0,17,21,7,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,5,1,1,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,16,6,15,15,2,12,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,2,9,57,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557059290147934,0.1840069126142424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474540245537953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002092297259134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026176265149257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080399520465793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641382016670095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765237553890704,0.0,0.10206276979942988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191172463012224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740220279198696,0.19739135902487287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892781462520925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433437018500396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143500210365115,0.0,0.4704222781053709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817712338435873,0.0,0.14254687848282616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065148498706317,0.0,0.1947531797508704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,niwat32642,2020/03/05,"5 year old too emotionally attached hi. my 5 yr old is extremely emotionally attached to me. i have her 50% of the time. the days she's with me she wants to be with me at all times. if i go to another room in the house she wants to stay in the same room, if it's bathroom she'll sit near it till i get out. during bed time, it doesn't matter how long i stay with her, if i leave while she's still awake, she gets very sad and cries silently sometimes. whenever i go somewhere without or her without me she gets sad and i can tell how hurt she feels. how do i help her start to detach emotionally without making her feel like im abandoning her or choosing to leave her. shes very sensitive and i want to help her understand it in the gentlest way possible. thank you.",2.3569086538461548,3.8079216812500007,3.812500000000004,89.65019230769232,75.9375,7.4230769230769225,25.43269230769231,8.139509932561175,1.335471153846154,599,21,135,10,13,198,90,160,0.11900000000000001,0.79,0.091,-0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,4,1,30,22,13,0,6,8,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,7,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,2,32,3,21,20,2,26,0,4,0,0,22,8,0,5,13,84,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093127668095075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371577495187705,0.0805272489125133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213671440304829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262704485893332,0.08920319737922572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570958511858794,0.0,0.14192670375127692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673880351560447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440768257799247,0.13366999024404413,0.0,0.13487504698457284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644268748101747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061002469517186665,0.0,0.0,0.1105011205774465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334799869974126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620484990948551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076592090148524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349414677016775,0.0,0.08837970964760945,0.2661778078128728,0.09971692151614522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913704436297568,0.1149584215418202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21842841768022214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998830965649766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20605251782423964,0.22094488636810936,0.09911159883696567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36109465985446654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804086203864939
parenting,BlackMesa_ThrowAway,2020/03/05,"Qustodio allowing my child to text after 9 O'clock on school nights. [iOS] Hi, we limit our son's screen time during the school week to make sure he's going to bed, we use a app called Qustodio. For some reason despite having the measures in place to block them, he can still send and receive messages at night. 

Does anyone know how to solve this?",4.531791044776117,6.037147850746268,4.6061492537313455,85.90564179104479,70.49253731343283,7.151044776119402,25.34029850746269,7.554174236665415,1.2426441791044769,274,8,52,3,5,85,57,67,0.043,0.8959999999999999,0.061,0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,5,1,13,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,10,6,1,14,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,1,7,25,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270431439889206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522090250990855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161465728063027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403726802316852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357417311687098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487076300923995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4635752586425454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25805670793759394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539515080067786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999432902881341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19725014627556256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23278941622686586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440244934797336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21332396585029806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981241090276757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AnonyMissCatLady,2020/03/05,"(NOT looking for advice or rude opinions) Sick of my experience as a mother of 9 years being dismissed based on the fact that I'm a young mother. I'm going to start this by saying I'm looking to vent NOT for advice. Super fed up with the way people are regarding young parents. 

Everything is always a competition between other parents and even in my own family my experience gets dismissed and disregarded because of my age. Even though I'm the one who went through it etc.",5.821465201465203,6.80161028571429,7.052472527472527,71.51336080586081,67.021978021978,9.143589743589745,32.74908424908425,9.2995712137729,3.1299875457875457,380,16,64,7,6,129,64,91,0.132,0.868,0.0,-0.9009999999999999,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,6,0,3,2,0,0,1,9,14,5,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,2,3,4,1,15,11,2,11,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,2,5,44,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37831744012687857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610694560271563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180011929363427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158866898269104,0.2557082078004821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739722411455103,0.3787059280055399,0.1824847713673932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113466484191076,0.0,0.1100128254370251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251075835840353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117106252350302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298830553518767,0.0,0.0,0.1342001559170987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393817855410025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370129977326405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901859222065043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365039465362018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944546195524022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465560439864418
parenting,scates84,2020/03/05,"Kindergartener crying everyday before school My 5 year old son, who is in Kindergarten cries every single morning before school. Since the first day. From the time we walk out of the door to the time I walk him into his school he cries. Going on 7 months now. It rips my heart out every morning and I dread waking him up. I thought he would eventually get used to it and it would just stop. He says it’s because he wants to stay home and recently said it’s because he doesn’t like the rules. He has rules at home so I wasn’t sure what to think about that. I have tried a reward chart but he couldn’t go a day without doing it, and watching him try really hard not to cry (while still crying) is worse. Does anyone, I am so desperate here, have any tricks, tips, experience, advice they would be willing to share about this? I feel so bad for my boy waking up every day and being sad, just a horrible way to start ones day.  I’ve also talked to his teacher and she said since starting her teaching career in 1997  she has only had one other student ever do this, but gave me no advice to help him.",4.2012368024132725,4.992060737556564,4.785864253393665,86.99197888386128,70.5837104072398,7.34129713423831,23.783107088989443,7.3011,0.828865822021116,857,20,178,8,15,274,139,221,0.16399999999999998,0.7709999999999999,0.065,-0.9740000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,2,12,8,1,1,8,0,19,3,3,1,2,28,32,13,0,5,6,1,2,1,0,4,0,3,3,1,12,10,0,1,3,0,0,4,6,4,0,3,6,6,22,4,24,19,1,34,0,1,1,0,28,9,0,0,20,110,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951074130456352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754475352610328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594112210144441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780182464286763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096368563105104,0.11822079119952435,0.0,0.1650241431049991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5325703952094191,0.2501436713794743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485678008437625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771251816298993,0.24509751972227986,0.0,0.0,0.09485267336432204,0.0,0.0,0.04902960492165899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248037706000651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050661437388007366,0.0,0.11021755748076563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686369788737723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490677479872193,0.06499516968538692,0.0,0.19453231346933472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0473733484451384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739841241429214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175092053977083,0.0,0.1314151696955838,0.07374803801607532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211976641111853,0.0,0.09574355837120348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18447630736008602,0.07711232747577773,0.0,0.2944084004282853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042478534976673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726797664926574,0.10335429153675224,0.0774382497339712,0.08106904521880072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139057835737968,0.0,0.0,0.0779386816302295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062132761520022825,0.0,0.07698124331531889,0.11308488134970847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166892899400853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837486554695809,0.0,0.0,0.057193854456110936,0.07696816774500455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347306362269428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881801222795546,0.2066484666398109,0.0,0.0,0.06244379320560186
parenting,DeviantTofu,2020/03/05,"Tip/no tip for bright horizon back up care nanny / sitter? My company has a benefit where we get a set number of hours to use with bright horizon (we pay a small co-pay). For this kind of service, is tip expected (e.g. for a 4-hour session baby sitting)?",1.939,4.171886900000004,3.649999999999999,86.705,80.0,6.4,26.0,7.554174236665415,1.548000000000001,195,8,38,3,5,65,38,50,0.026000000000000002,0.716,0.257,0.9054,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,8,5,0,7,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,20,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786776372719772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695100553761005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18934883132007205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7138189026875073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774033431295786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31301342510953617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mangojambojr,2020/03/05,"Down by the bay Sequence Sheet - SuperSimple Hello parents.

Here is a sheet I made to help you remember the next verse in **Down by the bay** from **Super Simple Songs**: [https://imgur.com/gallery/H8iMdQr](https://imgur.com/gallery/H8iMdQr)  


I am not an English native speaker but I'm rising my kid speaking in English to him and my wife (and most people around us) Portuguese. So any fun and joyful material I find out I spend a time learning to sing and play with my son. I find out this song so catchy and gives me the possibility to make my own verses as well.

Oh, if you may wondering what song is this here is the 3 versions. They are at the beginning of the videos. Here is one: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PGWuZl32s6A](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PGWuZl32s6A) and here the other two: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cmd5Gs5FKuc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cmd5Gs5FKuc)

I hope it's useful for someone else. Cheerios!

P.S.: Watch the videos first to understand the sheet.",7.540271374379928,11.754170993288591,3.567394222351912,81.02466588853227,80.6778523489933,5.2758681062153485,20.57222060110884,6.895973343053719,0.7451450831631168,814,21,118,10,23,210,101,149,0.0,0.83,0.17,0.9813,1,0,0,0,0,0,83.0,1,2,1,2,8,6,0,0,13,0,7,0,0,3,0,25,16,11,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,1,5,10,0,0,6,7,1,1,1,0,1,3,1,6,16,6,20,14,3,13,0,0,1,0,13,8,0,5,4,82,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227444174336334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624710352877927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477359790723268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824403088708802,0.17795950731535234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069959768437964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023345657930567,0.0,0.0,0.20779926059184356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19796577690280395,0.13965368487342694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22250419539476946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177056220157191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323102415490652,0.0,0.0,0.14504442661274247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23586024697860916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370015891464264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772685205802195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199586427186256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437418824821268,0.21780182748472304,0.2516617732020216,0.1806959424403076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18811082206749025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22688644526705304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,emoly999,2020/03/05,"Three year old and youtube videos 
I don’t even know if this is the right place to post this but my friend allows her three year old to watch youtube videos completely unsupervised. When i’m around and see the things she allows her daughter to watch im shocked, like I could not imagine letting my child watch these things. When I bring up how weird these videos are she just laughs and brushes it off. I understand handing your child a tablet is an easy way to distract them so you can get things done but her child is ALWAYS on her tablet. she allows her daughter to watch all these russian videos and videos in all types of languages and wonders why her daughter is so behind on speaking. I don’t want to tell my friend how to parent but I just hate how she allows her child to watch whatever she wants and it makes me sad for her daughter because she constantly has her watch her tablet instead of actually interacting with her. any advice on what I can say to my friend about this?",4.806830357142856,6.234927093750002,4.016904761904762,90.69000000000004,69.72916666666666,6.9440476190476215,26.73511904761905,7.1686216300943375,1.053236904761905,790,25,162,7,14,232,102,192,0.081,0.797,0.122,0.8674,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,0,13,10,1,1,4,0,13,1,1,8,2,32,24,17,0,4,7,5,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,4,12,8,0,0,4,5,0,1,3,5,0,2,1,11,32,5,22,21,2,19,0,1,7,0,36,9,0,2,8,109,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.15513975048823242,0.0,0.0,0.15535161721034813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228256391573107,0.0,0.0,0.10811059983836112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415242670006324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691161025652502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668557521817076,0.17179891205194855,0.0,0.12693112393772296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268985288296553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500357478217752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36847839426910856,0.0,0.08305952659199711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569580188440559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172369270759832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737023864937729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256593886527038,0.0,0.07766869828021046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061191557408302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336416701170781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652643197691925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609833957073833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225713087593065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576647930106905,0.0,0.12642581309904422,0.0,0.0,0.12668500989783982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895391837266108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168540745289665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550187037625844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875388745373696,0.12618946293590247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345306119254572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17240503208060404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047534444213627
parenting,raeshivahn,2020/03/05,"What are some ways that you discipline? My 5 almost 6 year old son does not take me seriously. I have spanked him a hand full of times. I will sometimes take his tv time away and he will just sit in his room. Most of the time though I say things and then don’t follow through. I have to repeat myself several times. He is the type that if I say don’t turn on the light, he will turn it on because he wanted to, but then immediately turn it right back off. Anytime I say no he will ask why. He will complain and complain about whatever it is I said no about. He comes out of his room several times after I lay him down even though I will tell him not to get out of his bed. I don’t like taking him out anywhere because I will constantly have to repeat myself. Everyone says he is great with them so it is obviously me who is the problem. He is not a bad kid. He does not really throw tantrums. He does not yell and scream or anything like that. He just does not listen. 

Is it too late for me? Will he never take me seriously? What are some ways to discipline him without spanking or is that what I need to do at this point?


I need help.",1.4449712313003469,3.2850555780590724,2.9506041426927503,93.0956185270426,79.71729957805907,6.334407364787112,21.32125047947833,7.348242739294969,0.4732042194092827,880,25,203,12,22,288,119,237,0.063,0.8109999999999999,0.126,0.9411,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,0,10,11,1,0,6,0,25,1,1,0,2,34,41,13,0,5,13,1,1,2,0,8,0,8,3,1,15,9,0,2,0,1,0,3,13,8,0,0,1,10,31,3,27,32,4,37,0,0,0,0,38,15,0,7,18,135,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666889998529754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766058757287437,0.0,0.09958602837264073,0.0,0.1000832749483454,0.08191076564755545,0.08894350852519425,0.1298726937633064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176142500032207,0.0,0.11511514169835843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728812335569202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035842803375565,0.0,0.0,0.10178872539406464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556546549616399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744363804938188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714011273566773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016427663251204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408498053060944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797313495438287,0.08215826194119348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177954409976364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070008489134576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019295606898203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824232284271654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097134152924076,0.10132919399907736,0.3388502340416675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24068472951913705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535545498363567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203726694542272,0.0,0.09310710883998048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077014487743084,0.0,0.2093195621008854,0.0,0.3105764649300033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476042023343717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283091044776817,0.16910838064345474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612179302538187,0.0,0.0,0.10268581730687212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859828588630687
parenting,Ryantacular,2020/03/05,"Parents of reddit who don’t tell their kids to stop talking over the McDonald’s booth to my child and I, why? I try to be nice and say, “cool!”, and “awesome!” while they teach me my McDonald’s box can turn into an origami dragon. 

I know Ishouldn’t be at McDonald’s to begin with but please send help.

Also no, my daughter can not open her toy real quick to see what it is - we have rules and I make her wait until she’s finished eating. 



How do other parents handle the above situation when a child isn’t taking your hints and the parents either can’t pay attention past their phone game to notice or simply don’t care/realize this isn’t normal restaurant behavior even if it’s a fast food joint? Or am I the one wrong about what’s sociably normal McDonald’s etiquette?",4.2264935064935045,5.376137753246756,5.194675324675323,82.75487012987013,70.81818181818181,7.937662337662338,26.98701298701299,8.296473431620573,1.7754753246753248,610,20,118,9,11,200,107,154,0.067,0.831,0.102,0.7449,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,3,0,6,3,0,0,7,1,13,2,0,2,0,24,20,14,0,3,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,9,2,2,2,2,1,1,7,1,0,1,0,3,17,2,13,18,1,14,0,0,1,0,23,4,0,3,9,76,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559329273112708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287290385880602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734973765780402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198966049625987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050269124261216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364932724034425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318314527975216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317946315845274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33225634041508634,0.0,0.19303980520700512,0.0,0.0,0.11489504294991255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5648132045043506,0.0,0.1618596962498868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612077624203424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19299102413825744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483716069949175,0.0,0.0,0.1351136023497789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058723399189625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417558026809065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748446592370608,0.13628210798050208,0.14819878442672405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511690231028154,0.18442745095547572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299726369724684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853820767619001,0.0,0.0
parenting,ineedhelp34420,2020/03/05,"[Serious] Son says he doesn’t love mom, what should I do? I’m the father (44M) of a 16M who says he doesn’t love his mom anymore.  He is moody and angry most of the time, and exceptionally lazy.   He doesn’t want to do school work, or really anything except text his girlfriend or watch basketball on his phone.  His mother (44F) and I push him to do something, anything, but she calls him out on his laziness. 

I think if he searched deep down he still loves her, or at least I hope he does, and I know she loves him but feels like he’s going nowhere fast.

What should I do?

TIA",1.9185000000000016,3.391040516666667,2.955000000000002,95.25,77.16666666666666,6.133333333333334,21.166666666666664,6.742157984588678,0.10406666666666632,442,11,105,4,10,141,74,120,0.045,0.7290000000000001,0.226,0.9791,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,0,3,0,10,4,0,0,0,21,21,10,0,5,8,5,1,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,4,17,6,11,19,2,11,0,0,1,4,34,6,0,6,4,57,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144708649762774,0.0,0.0,0.28452534489813386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652628858491812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512854358516957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741157916708794,0.12350304345604822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824972857447023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170542360651406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500843199362152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445875108801798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6241113517581063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049418571595763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107491461161618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749567461813144,0.0,0.17496030029620194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308881589144084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805943792525896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107723142202611,0.0,0.0,0.1008057078421826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196706958274393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585618897381842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pepesilvia189,2020/03/05,"I can't do this two year old thing. I'm losing it on a daily basis. My kid has always been pretty easy going. All of a sudden, she is losing it over nothing, which I expected. She usually snaps out of it pretty quickly, but sometimes she just hangs on to the kicking and screaming for a while. I dont have any help, so I just started turning on the tv to help her calm down. She never really had tv time or phone time, but now she can't stop.

I expected the tantrums, but I just can handle them. I find myself screaming and sometimes cursing. 

Anyone have advice on ways to cope?",2.3919491525423737,4.06513073728814,4.0120000000000005,87.31562711864406,76.37288135593221,6.07593220338983,23.664406779661018,6.742157984588678,0.7986379661016954,449,14,90,4,10,150,78,118,0.158,0.7490000000000001,0.09300000000000001,-0.8398,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,2,6,6,1,0,6,0,11,0,0,0,2,16,15,8,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,6,3,0,1,1,2,0,2,4,5,0,1,2,2,16,1,13,13,1,22,0,2,0,0,11,7,0,1,12,68,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720182466313408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508881086525554,0.0,0.0,0.12331635743993676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267960534532158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21252730093472594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574004877570073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305881429758948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430946675266525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40574265917162816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985938395196987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399912373526172,0.0,0.19028418818566226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368972771292482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617004798696122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586967075943654,0.0,0.12835228105078725,0.0,0.0,0.1516070554901437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047320173147945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21147980509218567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972441498839514,0.17714130620153454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997186721636013,0.0,0.0,0.14393801292216835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677600983194095
parenting,Fournote,2020/03/05,"Can't put my son to bed - feeling inadequate So my son is 3 1/2, almost 4. I'm having serious issues putting him to bed, which my wife isn't having. Whenever it's my day to get him ready (we alternate), he's very uncooperative. He won't do anything I say, and he'll actually hide from me so I won't be able to do things like help him brush his teeth or help him get dressed. It's not a fearful thing either, he does it with a smile on his face like it's a game. So I'll go into ""my way or the highway"" mode and hold him down like an animal and force him to do this stuff. Getting him to brush is teeth is like getting a farm animal to take its meds. I hold his arms and legs down and push his mouth open while I force the toothbrush in and get it done, all the while he's screaming and crying. I can't do it any other way. Same with getting him dressed. I can't finish the process because he'll hide from me and my wife will have to hold him like a baby and calm him down while he whimpers in her arms. Then I hear her reading to him and laughing with him while he's super calm. Even if I manage to do everything by the book and he's calm the whole time, after I've read to him and when it's time for me to say goodnight he'll scream and cry out like me leaving him is the worst thing I can do. He grabs me, telling me he loves me over and over and freaks out if I try to leave, even if I've been with him for over an hour. Then my wife will have to calm him down all over again.

Basically it ends with my wife calming him down whether he's been cooperative or not. I feel like I'm failing as a father in the bedtime realm and that I'm not pulling my weight in parenting because my wife has to do damage control every single night now. What do I do?",4.0080747263208,3.4133251858638762,5.113231794383626,89.32975725844837,70.70157068062827,8.201999048072347,27.04950023798192,7.348242739294969,1.0417602094240834,1359,37,333,12,22,451,166,382,0.08199999999999999,0.778,0.14,0.9667,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,3,9,23,0,1,16,0,31,9,7,1,2,47,49,34,0,3,11,9,4,7,0,7,0,5,2,0,18,26,1,4,2,4,0,5,9,8,0,0,3,11,53,15,44,38,7,42,0,2,0,1,54,18,0,7,24,209,71,5,0.11090827768776028,0.0,0.1082304803118582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105861943677242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542143203457356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126806253933042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521731333008552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243930641490935,0.0,0.0,0.2436550703769922,0.07152666389571671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705658120225327,0.11349767460612553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823181471048424,0.0,0.0,0.1465077428237738,0.0,0.09344500738673134,0.0,0.09967720857873033,0.0,0.0,0.12480264673534384,0.11215711523962364,0.07923289574065767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476699851290251,0.0,0.06303173009221646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500168952220553,0.0,0.14867896137589715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922231275120052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575942703085665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234871704360474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792892759932029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009905076146784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319409402964847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407990547718693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315051726249696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229869042960918,0.0,0.0,0.22187658208562688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639742789923665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696344337952864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338922211573385,0.0,0.096938723179322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22104759461786394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934301724095212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529944033943865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151094434687906,0.0,0.17606765694629756,0.0,0.13505640335972158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238251312754486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allmyexesliveintx01,2020/03/05,"Living next to a potential sociopath? Our neighbors are mostly all very nice. Except one family. Their child is the same age as our oldest, and they used to be always together, until I learned more. My child isn't allowed to play with this kid anymore.  This kid bosses my child around, in front of me, and outright lies to his parents about what goes on between him and the other neighborhood kids. Anytime I text his mother about his actions, she starts listing off all the times she has had to get on to my kids. She either believes all of her child's stories (he gets picked on by the other kids, he got choked by the other kids) or she tries to change the subject to things my children have supposedly done that she has corrected them for. So conversations with her are pretty much nonexistant. Her husband came over and told me one day that he isnt allowing this future sociopath to go to another house in the neighborhood because that father ""gets mad and cusses at his kids, and then (sociopath) comes home and starts repeating those words and calling their siblings bad names"". The parents honestly believe this kid is good and that he is the victim! He once held a cat by the neck and shot it in the head with a nerf gun. And the crowning achievements, he threatened to shoot my niece with his father's gun, and 2 months later, wrote ""kill (my son)"" on our driveway next to where my husband parks.  I am just looking for advice on how to handle this. This family is not stable or rational, so bringing this up is not going to get me anywhere with them, however, if I don't tell someone I am afraid I am leaving my child defenseless against this tiny monster. Any words of advice?",7.616577205882358,7.139000606250002,6.980551470588236,78.54224264705886,63.25,9.654411764705884,34.44852941176471,8.841846274778883,2.813012867647059,1334,50,246,17,17,413,180,320,0.109,0.855,0.036000000000000004,-0.9697,4,0,0,3,0,0,39.0,3,0,5,2,8,9,3,1,15,0,19,2,2,6,4,46,36,21,1,1,8,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,14,19,20,0,1,1,1,0,7,5,5,0,2,7,1,39,4,47,28,8,35,0,0,1,0,57,14,0,4,14,172,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541006804335018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108183905980724,0.0,0.0,0.08841548441625016,0.13633333739587492,0.0,0.0,0.1289411485458138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574199608756262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855810846199668,0.07925667769118347,0.0,0.0,0.2929675020768783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276109185433174,0.1487039128587258,0.0,0.0,0.13753991557773235,0.11199745650904526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384970248402497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305172826496384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24513543207342176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27171242375847177,0.0,0.14778242203470676,0.109051432281104,0.10398584407258196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343414592222366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304168641803284,0.0,0.0,0.1500212554090138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438436780188741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766839846784018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148066995541703,0.0,0.10918087489581436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377770211630127,0.0,0.09557687763408863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765474385900262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384630253449986,0.17620470380233713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887352400013869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227323198433186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016231676469204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405229185533528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363990231136947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637699581301263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581350033221254,0.0,0.0,0.1242360648321764,0.0,0.08827247526713762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229226477464564,0.0,0.1072769934958126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grit1963,2020/03/05,"Daughter corrects Dad So my college student daughter finally visits home after 6 months, and we were about to seat for dinner when I told my daughter: “Come sit by Daddy, I don’t have cooties....”
Daughter reply’s in her ROLLING MY EYES voice: “Daddy, they don’t call em cooties any more. They’re STDs now.”

Here and in the lesson.....",2.2838095238095235,4.897779285714286,2.7168253968254,91.61428571428574,81.53968253968254,4.234920634920635,26.46031746031746,5.288315135182226,0.7101174603174605,257,11,48,1,7,79,50,63,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,6,6,4,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,8,0,7,4,1,10,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,0,5,27,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775418636407141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167455632404486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515671831440787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4470856092065891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40938688255531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257648480905163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899849578675555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onceuponamovie,2020/03/05,"Need pointers on how to make my toddler listen to me... If it can be even done... Looking for advice, my son (2.5yrs old) has always been so well behaved but these last few weeks he just won't listen to anything. We ask to put his toys away, he throws them everywhere, he'll flat out say no to my face for certain things (like the talking back way) & he goes out of his way to do things we specifically told him not to do.

I'm just getting discouraged, we're very big on talking it out here (explaining that mommy and daddy make the rules etc)& time outs but it doesn't seem to be working. He's becoming the worst to take out now.

I know he's a toddler and he's learning to be a person, but I just want my well behaved little boy back instead of spending the little time I have with him (a bit in the morning & between after work and bedtime) during the week fighting. I'm just tired and need some tips.

From a mom who feels like she's doing it all wrong. 👎",2.9782579564489104,4.1587884673366835,3.8744522613065335,90.9140569514238,73.87437185929649,6.311691792294807,25.82948073701843,6.42735559955562,0.7803223450586265,751,25,163,5,15,241,126,199,0.11199999999999999,0.826,0.062,-0.9248,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,2,0,1,2,14,9,1,0,10,0,13,2,1,3,2,36,32,10,0,4,9,2,1,2,0,2,1,3,0,2,9,12,0,1,5,1,1,2,4,4,2,0,3,5,16,5,27,24,5,26,0,1,1,0,29,12,0,3,12,103,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254213340907592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679680032421296,0.417198851554062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056204397988995,0.0,0.11998915824970782,0.0,0.12058828042614506,0.19738519513726127,0.0,0.0,0.1417515863903835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012406336608882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134577391609994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431432642462802,0.0847734234761623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489720231039216,0.0916926804605094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670571495886639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053735318632384,0.10462171294785183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540985321326634,0.25727919554729345,0.0,0.0,0.107780986365465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713481497598907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032100940424206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033858262040526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468087466927747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206955407895157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902637705823436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206842018851472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684427380797932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650261076328248,0.20632441960909453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053898527367542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496828790467521,0.14751850248539905,0.0,0.12264314260673845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059015160332217,0.07570367229105879,0.2037552112275412,0.20590794198493825,0.0,0.2308026554422095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868794646127188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032968069183346,0.0,0.0
parenting,dewihafta,2020/03/05,"My kid’s school had a threat today I was volunteering for the book fair and was there for the entire day. In the morning, the principal declined a monthly meeting with parents, saying that they had an urgent issue with a student that she couldnt see getting out of “anytime soon.” Around nooninsh, the school librarian went to the front office for something and came back saying that the place was filled with officers from the sheriff’s department, and had no idea why. 

Then, at the end of the day, a text message pops up on my phone from the school, basically telling us to check our email for a letter from the principal. She explains in it that a threat had been made by multiple students, all of which had been identified and were cooperating with the sheriffs dept. I read the email out to the rest of us who were still there at the fair, and the librarian mentions that the kids who were up in the office with the sheriffs guys were all junior high girls, in the nerdy groups.

I dont know why Im posting this; theres really nothing to be done about it. Im just a little freaked out about it, I guess. Im going to be there for the rest of the week, so at least i’ll be close to my kid. Im rather grateful for that. 

Thanks for reading.",5.514268292682928,5.794988394308945,5.579983739837399,84.26704878048783,67.4959349593496,8.511219512195122,30.221138211382108,8.238735603445708,1.9184621138211373,979,34,202,12,15,308,129,246,0.051,0.898,0.051,0.0498,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,1,0,13,4,2,0,31,0,20,0,0,1,2,26,30,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,13,16,0,0,3,3,1,6,3,3,0,0,18,3,13,1,43,8,5,35,0,0,1,0,26,18,0,1,10,142,26,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059596883815708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152478144236337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613572255752734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352574945006392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180643277414464,0.13949931467913598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542301396339847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06218694321002545,0.0,0.06764605724971591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112218341120602,0.11785591410273265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575906280458954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436753163392534,0.5142803945262174,0.12423375999147165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541438763339523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929679997407235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262667517186573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950065952627924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142100728192758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216592546140046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12435837806906372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399541918428426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23811937181760806,0.0,0.07625204860339667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931085167608155,0.0,0.3613864789853395,0.09484948734149838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163316570656342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505549559535796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403525983356343,0.10958450748751328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282412914620962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863507948398163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547666112604372,0.0,0.0,0.11033966216579473,0.2148075659883352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jillanelle,2020/03/05,"Parents with adventurous little eaters: How did you approach the first solid foods? I fed my baby her first food (homemade green bean puree) today. Her response was quite ""meh,"" but we're excited to start the journey.

I'd like to instill in her a love of vegetables and a diverse, adventurous palate (spices, herbs, seafood, international cuisines, etc etc). I'm roughly basing my approach on the French customs outlined in ""Bringing Up Bébé.""

For those who have done it, how'd you accomplish it?",5.229568965517242,7.9716483218390835,4.927112068965517,79.1072198275862,71.52873563218391,7.108620689655173,33.86350574712644,8.07648339933343,2.8538747126436776,392,20,64,6,8,120,69,87,0.0,0.7659999999999999,0.23399999999999999,0.9695,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,0,4,1,5,0,0,5,0,4,5,0,1,1,5,9,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,3,8,5,9,5,2,13,0,0,1,1,8,5,0,0,5,37,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255427497764762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.491602043484239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749393150858847,0.5330100874325491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076748885763626,0.22089579091095324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19891698430919275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24472489322948554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23441944115497035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559981991554709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208910676958712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reddSauced,2020/03/05,"Daughter possibly has the flu but HATES blowing her nose What ways have you kept your kids comfortable through it? Mine HATES blowing her nose for some reason and she will sit and suck snot in all day and when you tell her to blow it, she does this sad little blow and then continues to just suck it back it. Doesn’t that keep the sick around longer? Any ideas on how to help her want to blow her nose better? She’s going to be 8 so it’s not like she can’t do it, just doesn’t want to. Thanks!",1.296634615384615,3.234095394230774,1.7410000000000032,101.104,80.63461538461539,5.313846153846153,17.130769230769232,6.2581,-0.6605430769230769,387,7,94,3,10,117,68,104,0.242,0.621,0.13699999999999998,-0.9522,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,1,7,9,4,0,2,0,8,5,3,2,1,18,18,9,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,9,5,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,3,13,4,11,15,2,12,0,1,0,0,16,4,2,1,6,58,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140934976147936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21129602412895426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251112968926397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992096261149168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153074159407676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771071616283585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489415798763882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686772952762694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909386650133334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679445894936013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109717821308381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595952760388778,0.23789178612017106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26758178512533204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24404018492576354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074584882969317,0.21852433781098587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799959286076917,0.188401129858564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,misssunderstood8,2020/03/05,"advice I’m a young 21F. Who takes care of her younger siblings. I Have been doing this for a few years now and i often initially feel exhausted and hopeless?? I make sure they have everything they need always with very little help. ( which i don’t really mind , i manage alright ) just lots of overtime 😂 i have constantly put everyone beyond my own needs and I have thoughts of not running away from a responsibility i took on but just taking a mental break figuring this all out ? i just have not yet had time to myself to even heal properly from losing a parent Idk what advice I’m looking for maybe just a little prayer and guidance I’m thinking a months of vacation but realistically not possible damn it lol . 

I admire all the hard working parents out there!!",2.37977777777778,5.221666475862069,3.827528735632182,81.96895593869733,84.24137931034483,6.53256704980843,23.917624521072803,7.793537801064563,1.6949923371647508,609,23,108,12,18,200,100,145,0.07400000000000001,0.79,0.136,0.8669,2,0,0,0,0,1,12.0,0,0,2,2,10,8,1,0,8,2,9,2,0,1,3,29,23,6,0,2,9,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,4,3,15,4,16,19,5,18,0,2,1,0,7,7,1,2,7,77,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117367304992774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132722577072744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986204918444634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262798673719395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237036893504554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535284949435336,0.0,0.0,0.15241574558087145,0.1433545797786764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065151679917576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288691496895067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691415988609383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31973577632079553,0.0,0.0,0.13394568214066216,0.1784474993904515,0.0,0.13560712207082046,0.0,0.0,0.1064721412239874,0.0,0.16024619079533334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074550955740152,0.0,0.1610565696117264,0.0,0.12731694185655695,0.0,0.0,0.2365447946479922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35422722813806873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17982014257762974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603485612072773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218424954213716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033343175931904,0.0,0.2398587814591468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220562591761023,0.0,0.1266307172653595,0.093009797065281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721811295399084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160995536542336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612297405014735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271725919009198
parenting,LB95678,2020/03/06,"What do I do? Ok, so here's the thing. 

I have a three boys and my oldest one is turning 6 soon. He is quite athletic and loves sports, especially baseball. I have never been really interested in sports, as I am a more brainy and intuitive type of person. I love my sons dearly, though, and want to help them to reach their full potential. 

How do you think I should approach? I want to encourage my boys in the best way possible and be interested in what he's interested in, but this has always been a subject that I have a hard time getting into.",3.7903899082568806,5.007620642201836,5.312740825688074,81.24048738532112,71.93577981651377,9.119724770642202,26.469036697247706,9.516144504307137,2.2042009174311934,426,14,88,10,8,144,73,109,0.064,0.757,0.179,0.8434,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,2,2,5,9,0,0,6,1,14,2,0,1,1,13,21,10,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,14,9,10,17,3,12,0,0,0,2,13,6,0,0,4,66,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442485286311185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578252609587036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835729063480555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200803903361686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467365150481467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4434703080654943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894830165294321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16647864727216935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145176824911872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769664890405806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613101695326964,0.0,0.0,0.15738844617317696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321840573013632,0.15742137095890074,0.2413786581432604,0.0,0.14325757153944374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26722852236807776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28981602486808355,0.19500878747693573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mef720,2020/03/06,"Had to share the story my wife loves telling everyone. So we just have one kid right now. She is 14 months. When she was around 2 months she would cry and we would rock her back to sleep. Like every baby right? Well one night I pick her up and rock her, so I think. My wife wakes up and asks says ""what are you doing?"" I told her I was rocking Maya(our baby). She looked really confused and said no maya is in her crib. I look down and I was rocking a pillow. I put the pillow down and just say "" oh.. nevermind"". I just thought that was a fun and silly story. Any other funny stories??",0.2827142857142846,2.502795366666668,1.6178571428571438,98.73000000000003,87.0,4.428571428571429,16.07142857142857,5.773587663045528,-0.7648571428571431,444,9,102,3,14,141,76,120,0.063,0.7879999999999999,0.149,0.871,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,0,10,7,0,1,4,0,12,3,2,1,0,19,20,10,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,3,2,1,3,10,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,1,1,2,8,5,22,6,8,10,0,15,0,0,2,1,23,8,0,1,7,68,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262610157187139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528441916946812,0.1735750787789136,0.0,0.0,0.14276769374630055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394824018132746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564338044003586,0.1774143051771096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070830010259576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118297264878121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757316164228267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29639781232143697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742374047662387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516276987383584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18664822629919045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894406029686393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31711994203595545,0.17661335750011378,0.29530224786127857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858026889243628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622825411944677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189689427313349,0.0,0.14740013003310282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774143051771096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669383704542386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637872945152259,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ooohcalmtheforkdown,2020/03/06,"My 9yo son was caught stealing an iPhone at school today and then lied to the teachers about who it belonged to. I’m not quite sure what to do. He plays baseball and has practice tonight and his first game tomorrow and at this point I want to just pull him from the season. I want to call the non-emergency police line and have an officer come over and talk with him too. His lying has gotten so much worse this school year and now we are stealing. I am beyond disappointed in him. He has a therapist already. He has lied this year about his dad beating him and CPS and the police got involved in that one too. 

What would you do in my situation? I need other perspective outside of my own. I am livid!!

TLDR: my 9yo was caught stealing. He’s been lying this entire school year. Baseball starts TOMORROW with a practice today. I need perspectives on what to do!",2.244880952380953,4.758528964285713,3.010714285714286,90.10095238095242,80.78571428571429,5.8761904761904775,23.023809523809533,7.1686216300943375,0.8895809523809519,678,23,134,9,18,213,98,168,0.21100000000000002,0.765,0.025,-0.9887,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,3,8,6,0,0,8,0,15,0,0,0,1,21,26,11,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,13,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,4,0,2,7,0,19,2,20,18,2,26,0,1,0,0,20,9,0,0,13,93,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004996903549687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585672341747033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835299602975285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464909504723857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774073084958274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660212642454946,0.2553991272761175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670129187934153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280435154564304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317805235298407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5228900247924113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935834292891186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189879026706404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231609462761756,0.0,0.0,0.1384245799733749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19996165816825945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264904201844089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316061587253667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550773955038326,0.12234073675367765,0.0,0.0,0.3327137051447299
parenting,100percentdatbish904,2020/03/06,Any other moms feel this way? I have a 6 month old baby and DH and I have been discussing trying for another baby next year in 2021. I don’t know why but for whatever reason I have an aversion to being pregnant again! I know I want another little baby and I LOVE being a mom and breastfeeding but it’s just...pregnancy. I didn’t even have that difficult of a pregnancy and my birth story is pretty uneventful. I just cringe whenever I think about being pregnant again...any other moms feel this way? Any advice on how to get past it? I want another baby so bad!! I would love to give my sweet LO a sibling :),1.2266510538641704,3.6486013606557393,3.4774238875878214,85.65229508196722,84.57377049180329,6.76440281030445,21.009367681498823,7.957251820313856,1.2968646370023411,474,15,92,10,14,162,73,122,0.1,0.6809999999999999,0.21899999999999997,0.9515,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,5,0,12,2,0,2,0,18,23,9,0,3,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,14,3,9,17,0,12,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,7,59,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021839344443354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927377563721803,0.4513905632197693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198095458692902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947748908332486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510739361800526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496847209009459,0.13765027930292367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771853191183122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438163440368623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25901365827036665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041671082295089,0.1145336772910445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260501264346116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057036357268808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697902979979226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598260856998901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753332919352613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194366441322056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742142088093078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692702024492058,0.2277940079443153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947890814595855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019323611967816,0.0,0.0,0.09240392711877472
parenting,amyafields,2020/03/06,How to get my son to sleep in his crib all night? He is now one and although I love the cuddles he’s starting to take up the entire bed any time I put him in his crib he sleeps for like two hours then screams till I get him and won’t go back after.. any tips?,0.3562711864406793,1.5238392033898336,1.8120000000000007,103.08850847457629,80.6949152542373,4.7200000000000015,18.57966101694916,3.1291,-1.015599322033898,199,4,54,0,5,64,45,59,0.037000000000000005,0.846,0.11699999999999999,0.7059,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,2,4,2,1,1,4,8,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,8,2,9,7,1,14,0,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,10,31,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559981745950612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20126971922219636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27350731467303235,0.0,0.14875865022101026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25777118595848275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787790860595344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23623974239474546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456347974467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736868525590066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631312106737205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5238783936229918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852681132811117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19680354809820474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526286255519811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556918764156915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ErikaFitz,2020/03/06,"Toddler prefers grandma I may be overthinking it because I’m 7 weeks pregnant and my hormones are all over the place but I am pretty heartbroken at the moment. My mom looks after my 16 month old while I work. My husband usually gets home first and my mom is already gone by the time I get home from work. 

I came home first today and my toddler had a tantrum as soon as I tried to pick him up and he realized my mom was leaving. He was squirming out of my arms and screaming. It made me feel so terrible and I feel so bad for having to work full time. Does anyone have any experience with the psychology behind this type of behavior.",3.4633070866141717,5.0185085984252,4.50788188976378,85.3633976377953,73.25196850393702,7.599685039370079,29.23543307086614,8.238735603445708,2.011432125984252,500,21,101,8,10,163,88,127,0.177,0.792,0.031,-0.9735,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,5,3,4,1,0,5,0,10,1,1,2,1,18,19,12,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,3,9,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,6,4,17,0,16,11,2,21,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,1,13,66,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827695393194466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753632154731352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002885659071374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975683494158836,0.08743270311866623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16404403318822544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551527671983756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030062810657207,0.0,0.0,0.14504355275058098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24400047563316302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987097852305245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316115423854504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187010814358026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204438452264808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571554690184764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5039452968888624,0.11448328751334093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050411923889365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149852290904577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591838264650156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726866328565795,0.0,0.1359534796480211,0.0,0.0,0.09737855974298547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579662668566859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504971856187975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132530431040019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IT_Chef,2020/03/06,"Have to go to a very ugly funeral on Sunday of a family member that committed suicide. Need input on how to deal with my almost 5 year old. In short, and being frank about the facts. This is the hillbilly side of the wife's family. I say this because there are specific behaviors we expect from them, and we have witnessed them at other funerals of elderly family members. 

My wife's 23 year old 2nd cousin shot and killed herself last Friday. A HUGE fight with her mom over the course of several months, in combination with extreme lifelong depression ended with her ending things forever. 

This will be a very ugly funeral, I am expecting houling/wailing, verbal arguments, and possibly a physical altercation.  

The extended family has asked us to bring our son. We are in a hard spot, we do not want to, but we begrudgingly agreed thus far. 

I am in need of any advice you can give us. For now, if I do not like what I am seeing, I am taking him outside to get away from whatever chaos may ensue at the funeral home. 

He has gotten on this kick of handing out ""happy stickers"" and wants to hand them out at the funeral home. Is this a bad idea? 

Please, any help here?",5.297202380952378,6.262295625,6.564357142857144,74.59730952380954,68.19642857142857,10.616190476190477,30.11190476190476,10.650279960617883,3.3985944047619063,916,34,167,26,15,310,143,224,0.18,0.732,0.08800000000000001,-0.9585,0,0,0,0,1,1,29.0,8,1,3,0,5,6,2,0,14,0,19,2,2,2,2,33,31,8,7,7,4,5,3,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,9,16,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,5,24,2,35,26,0,30,0,1,1,0,28,18,0,3,11,114,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165692583567027,0.0,0.0,0.1246656577404812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932431683381574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638779185450175,0.0,0.11696893191901887,0.0,0.1039497078676892,0.07589215222413602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283508330695941,0.107228994042533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22053459432557646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4694583741936227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504448970664073,0.11942876686182627,0.07075445499248513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252926073417698,0.11152476507612342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344764506392141,0.0,0.24976107496034924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054184169741568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773736960339894,0.0,0.0,0.1014815865671402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060822894773181764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458092598457088,0.09937223456639413,0.0,0.0,0.18462574168411214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612770993053995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666020602146914,0.0,0.1403515441654192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900492858776767,0.0,0.0,0.09920790739348698,0.0,0.0,0.14064605577506056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617939749004138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360617191395516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827102056996004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995088738248852,0.0,0.0,0.2054459550337049,0.14686298965272754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603438383833477
parenting,emichi23,2020/03/06,"My 6 year old comes off as mentally vacant randomly and I don't know the right way to address it My daughter is 6, and up until recently she's been a conscious, happy, outgoing, polite person. But now, I find her spacing out more and more. I try to talk to her but it's like she's mentally not there at all. Blank expression, monotone voice, not paying attention to what's going on around her, just completely unlike her usual self. And I have no idea what to do help or fix this. 

I got her today from school and she was like this, I asked her what's wrong and finally after some time she told me her friend was mad at her because she accidentally bumped into her. This is the third friend she says was mad at her for ""accidentally bumping into them"". The kid before this one that she bumped into actually punched her in the face, which I didn't even hear about until 8pm that night when her teacher finally remembered to call me and tell me! I feel like there's more going on with her but I can't get her to tell me anything and it's breaking my heart seeing my little girl like this! I just need some advice and want to know if any other parents have dealt with similar issues. :(",3.994411764705884,5.086412474789917,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,71.31092436974791,8.121008403361344,25.344537815126053,8.4952907291091,1.5462201680672272,931,27,190,15,17,306,136,238,0.1,0.778,0.122,0.5475,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,1,0,9,10,2,0,5,0,12,2,2,0,1,40,26,18,0,3,9,2,1,4,2,0,0,3,1,4,15,17,0,0,8,0,1,3,6,3,0,2,7,5,40,7,30,19,6,35,0,0,1,0,40,16,0,5,18,134,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.12779895551682993,0.0,0.0,0.1279734842608169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905790873170515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107769669237005,0.11658297403499872,0.12243077117666384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983255438571454,0.0,0.11143808754545696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372573005222985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281122674177725,0.13731002109752666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649844505011955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621777035500312,0.093558499316024,0.0,0.2869225482431927,0.11969589796101494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236014634079935,0.0,0.06842166956420849,0.0,0.1488562047769351,0.0,0.10474140216442973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941032247989035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760246201204955,0.1551893073177627,0.08778033653928505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783892526385856,0.0,0.13668916393184746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439453809550058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559235395267856,0.13125723514542426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639555871955717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710585437391424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289794124490758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374214436457004,0.0,0.08874250100495701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541659089154074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435001404674232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293080980629013,0.0,0.14835318021169525,0.11183990043989417,0.0,0.10414537095474667,0.0,0.13253943123611284,0.10435888863835216,0.0,0.1366207892483382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526141767221098,0.22893121301421604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636435900108407,0.0,0.1241356285553367,0.12513876043387534,0.0,0.0889138604823114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423493887440333,0.0,0.07724413700953965,0.10395067356809566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318519503505228,0.0,0.08433453145687593
parenting,Maybekindofstrange,2020/03/06,"Would you find my family of rapunzels strange? So I (Jasmine, 44F) my husband (Markus, 43M) and our 4 Kids (Erik, 21M), (Natalie, 19F), (Riley, 16F), and (Sara 16F) all have super long hair past our knees, some (Me and Natalie) have hair that touches the floor. It's super fun and we love it. I've always told them they could get cuts whenever they wanted and I'd never be upset with them, but they kept growing it out. Some of my coworkers have found out about my ""House of hair"" and think its very strange and have told me they'd never let that happen. So I got curious, how many people would find our life style strange. What do you think? What are your questions?",2.293066157760812,4.29016506870229,3.079713740458016,92.4263390585242,77.70229007633588,6.504071246819338,21.603689567430024,7.492282038375204,0.6495033078880406,508,14,109,7,12,160,85,131,0.055,0.8190000000000001,0.127,0.8689,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,3,6,2,4,6,1,1,1,0,12,6,4,1,3,29,23,11,0,4,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,8,11,0,1,6,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,4,21,4,7,12,3,8,0,0,0,1,19,3,0,3,4,64,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591748965550851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273553765769612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033831690836435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496850130139149,0.0,0.0,0.20974790343686486,0.0,0.0,0.09994508090739566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299813612198132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916380277739845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207317030598672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561471849565865,0.1351191257575898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929232305784253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265351894088246,0.0,0.0,0.19394570306803816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950809466910991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261516920745244,0.13262164325046805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429705054003506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451515076273223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655860377530839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157840523390596,0.11283225873048315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27178459965546725,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Plzcuturshit,2020/03/06,"Bye everybody, best of luck! Too often I find the comments in this sub pushing therapy, it feels like almost every single post has “seek therapist” in the comments, instead of trying to work things out as a family. Too often I read long posts only to find out that the child is atypical, and it just doesn’t apply to my family. Too often there are posts with comments just blindly supporting the op when there are two sides to every situation.

Please don’t get me wrong, everyone needs support at times! I happen to find that many of the posts just don’t apply to typical situations. 

If anyone has any recommendations for other parenting subreddits where most posts aren’t about atypical situations, I would love to hear!",8.658344155844155,8.421338189393943,8.7491341991342,65.92227272727278,61.04545454545454,12.391341991341992,34.76623376623377,11.765960540728905,4.333368831168831,579,21,95,16,7,190,87,132,0.022000000000000002,0.8170000000000001,0.161,0.9616,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,16,7,0,0,6,0,10,2,0,0,0,20,18,4,0,3,4,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,7,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,3,6,6,19,17,3,16,0,0,1,1,8,7,0,7,5,68,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567373886517475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855562295164016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077227687882589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122812161989545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465636143371856,0.11038158678185392,0.0,0.0,0.21779857568147706,0.0,0.058408941718772436,0.08252547472602376,0.0,0.0,0.3167417457806093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035294284980415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215143385335324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019622308315515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643584427768548,0.0,0.0,0.10222904224658544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042587375671992,0.0,0.0,0.1171162585187746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565450268515452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785599764137372,0.0,0.0,0.12826812405176125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680314106629276,0.0,0.0,0.5531674869379511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155484101397551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895383482478349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26217498475770273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321039279395767,0.13412431412096482,0.07674446121719501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735897887188118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842856180538857,0.0,0.11284346982034828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409786068121286,0.0,0.0,0.0820600686974357,0.1262998688562992,0.0,0.0
parenting,80sChicago,2020/03/06,"Constantly butting heads with our 15yo daughter My wife and I are having a difficult time with our 15-year-old daughter, an only child. It’s been this weird shift in attitude. She was pretty respectful at 13 & 14, once 15 hit, it was like a whole new kid came into the house. Everything is a battle, if we ask her to do the dishes, she acts like we asked her to build a space station. Asking her to keep the room semi-tidy is seen as, “ a total waste of f\*\*king time”. Getting her to sit down to do homework is a battle as well, as it’s “ not important” and “ nobody cares”. Fights over what is and is not appropriate to wear happen all too often. They’re clothes she buys with money saved up from chores, but most of the time they’re obscene and “ everybody wears this now, it’s fine” becomes the reasoning.

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How I was raised, my parents did more, “ let’s sit down, calmly discuss the problem and the solution”, which worked for me. When I try that with my daughter, she refuses eye contact, rolls her eyes, scoffs, constantly asks if I’m done talking. My wife’s more the screaming and cussing, which is only causing screaming and cussing from our daughter in return. We take the phone, we ground, we take the laptop, nothing really works. 

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Would some type of therapy help? Or is there something we're missing?",5.939166666666665,6.656688511904764,5.630277777777781,82.74875,66.65873015873018,8.522222222222224,32.019841269841265,8.472884824447931,2.3872888888888895,1043,41,197,14,16,322,159,252,0.11800000000000001,0.7879999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.8261,1,0,1,0,1,0,52.0,8,0,0,2,7,17,3,0,17,0,19,6,5,3,2,38,34,17,0,4,7,7,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,2,10,18,1,2,1,0,2,2,2,9,1,0,8,5,25,8,27,23,7,24,0,1,3,0,37,11,0,6,11,126,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36648529583424505,0.27400087369188675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216144123526944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452064975668177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895299408261438,0.1149534927392062,0.11582264175149805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436797792479509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537973949571645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013300968445868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05890586518457409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997021571251532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571136427239975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557220838037708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009536661892718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021507322809076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529185960137653,0.0,0.110165373140864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088921454899596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818417508465113,0.0,0.1183094344879542,0.1200723057296926,0.0,0.1714989628790177,0.0,0.0,0.12519264953947135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470464343173425,0.0,0.10788403889047304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222887415304162,0.1159231095074366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679846004516859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954403264830478,0.09062209265030717,0.0,0.0,0.12893648266542893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723175413030336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654808647567461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137345673889823,0.0,0.0,0.12587845027807362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416290605503406,0.0,0.0,0.0800925210185293,0.0,0.27400087369188675,0.07260563169597986
parenting,303doja,2020/03/06,"Looking for international traveling advice. I’ll start of by stating my current dilemma and then try to provide some background as to why I’m feeling perplexed. 

My 12yo daughter is scheduled to travel from USA to France 3/20-4/3 with 24 of her friends from school, chaperoned by 8 adults. They’re traveling as part of the curriculum for their French class. 

We’ve already paid for the trip in full, and purchased trip insurance. The school district hasn’t said anything about canceling the trip yet(due to corona),  but I can sense everyone in my families judgement about me letting her go on this trip. Especially from my dad, who granted is the most paranoid, non adventurous person I know.

I grew up relatively poor and never was given the opportunity for international travel, especially at such a young age, and to such a beautiful place. 

I 100% want to let her go on this trip but obviously have some reservations about it, as no experience is worth her getting a virus of such magnitude in another country, so far away from home. 

Would you let your kid go?

TLDR; school trip to Paris booked for 12yo child. My family is begging me to cancel. I want to let her go and need advice",6.896405529953919,7.977430230414747,7.040253456221201,72.19466589861753,64.66820276497695,10.255299539170508,35.776497695852534,10.290406445055957,3.8519456221198167,948,44,163,22,14,305,137,217,0.068,0.8270000000000001,0.10400000000000001,0.8023,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,1,1,7,3,0,0,9,0,13,0,0,0,2,19,29,12,0,4,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,4,6,0,0,2,5,5,15,3,0,0,0,4,3,20,3,40,20,5,34,0,0,1,0,17,11,0,3,7,105,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26087262490252344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472998557908444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13996670739923808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984367840386394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541000889244974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754703484082794,0.0,0.13057025532819494,0.25166844698136603,0.0,0.06749212021334045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031272666687612,0.0,0.06973843309232029,0.0,0.3034418348260633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389255641596667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335779280611418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5459744024950045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209061453371016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897464021647127,0.1029489529189675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454716371762635,0.0,0.0,0.11655066084321553,0.1394594746223308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697121599036104,0.0,0.0,0.4052703909254907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447870114655592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062499277961468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746137488091033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204460477966268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948212355551424,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Charlietd76,2020/03/06,"Advice about my new partner, a challenging ex-wife and my daughter? This is quite a long story really so I’ll try to keep it brief. 

Married in 2015, got diagnosed bipolar, moved out 10 months later. We stayed together a while, continued sleeping together until 2017. My ex reacted badly to this, insisted we go to mediation (£200+ a session), I saw my daughter in a contact centre (supervised, it was awful). My ex and I slept together again, she dismissed the contact centre and I saw my daughter at her house again. This continued to 2018, when after a pregnancy scare I formally ended the relationship as I saw the damage it was doing to my daughter, my ex and me. My ex told me she would ‘never stop loving me’, almost immediately I was over the relationship. I saw people casually for two years, nothing serious, then came 2019/20. 

My ex messaged me in December to tell me she’d met someone. I struggled with this, but eventually told her I’d like to meet this guy. He was alright, I asked all the sensible questions and gave him the green light. I have massive anxieties about him being in my daughters life, but my ex is entitled to live the life she wishes to. I have no emotion about my ex being with someone else, it’s fine, and I wish them well. 

I’m stable these days. I’m a nurse, work a full time and very demanding job. After a period of ill health (depression, quite severe, out of action for about a month), my ex insisted that I saw my nephew (adopted, calls me dad, I brought him up from 18 months til about 5 when I moved out) once a fortnight, then my daughter the fortnight after. Ostensibly, one child a month. Oh, and my ex refuses to talk to me directly- we communicate through a social worker friend of hers. I assumed this was because my ex struggled with her feelings towards me, but sadly this has continued despite her meeting this new guy. Curious. 

In December I started something casual with an old friend, it escalated, and now we’re in an adult, sensible, mature relationship. We discussed my daughter and nephew early on, she’s happy to meet my ex wife first. So, after 3 months of dating I messaged my ex, saying briefly, hi, girlfriend is around, you’re welcome to meet her, no current plans for her to meet the kids yet, let’s work together on this, maybe summer? I ended by saying you’re welcome to meet my new partner, she’s up for that, etc. 

I’ve heard nothing and it’s been almost a week. Message wasn’t acknowledged (on WhatsApp, read almost immediately), nothing from my ex or her social worker friend. 

I wasn’t unreasonable, in fact I was the opposite. My ex gave me 4 weeks to meet her partner before she introduced him to the kids, in what she knows is the worst time of year for my mental health. I haven’t given a date for my partner to meet my daughter, I’ve said I want to work with her on it, and have been polite in messaging letting her know about my girlfriend. Opposites right? I’m not suggesting I’m going to shove my girlfriend down my daughters throat, I’m saying let’s do it slowly, quite unlike the way she introduced her partner to her. 

I’ve been reasonable, polite and appropriate, I think. My partner and I are holding off moving in together until we’re sorted with the kids and they are comfortable with her. As usual it’s double standards- I do the polite thing, my ex is like a bulldozer. Any advice or comments appreciated here. Please also comment for further details, story is patchy so happy to fill in. 

Edit:- no, nothing legal is in place yet, although if this escalates I will have no option but to take that route. Legal will likely mean a protracted period of time where I don’t see my daughter and may mean a contact centre again. I also don’t want to waste my partner’s/ parents money because my ex doesn’t know how to behave. 

Edit 2:- yes, relationship is new but we are taking things gradually. Probably won’t be til end of summer before we introduce my partner to the kids.",4.716458294017741,6.213367778071338,5.9400884600868125,76.55189151254955,70.03038309114929,8.736072843932817,30.955109454614078,9.188382445141503,2.868382543876203,3116,132,553,63,56,1043,326,757,0.066,0.815,0.11900000000000001,0.991,3,0,1,0,0,0,120.0,6,0,2,11,24,27,0,3,36,3,46,11,3,3,3,75,88,42,0,6,9,31,1,3,14,5,7,5,0,16,26,34,0,4,11,3,1,10,13,9,1,3,28,14,109,18,94,48,5,102,0,3,7,1,134,32,0,11,61,369,135,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526760660889252,0.0,0.0,0.19254845292450995,0.0,0.0,0.1025149879360165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043587431962379096,0.0,0.04903321283332199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057058968946047714,0.05992104446154184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05351742624940235,0.07814457092526515,0.0,0.1090818351357946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544911331604139,0.07330867129285312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041336573861675774,0.0,0.05520573263922182,0.06505602215812194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05354392689407308,0.07209929685218568,0.17030991422722605,0.0,0.0714839075995641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03240882927920826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545199673400107,0.0,0.0,0.14856107508259794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285439092713357,0.0,0.051263372400085966,0.0,0.0,0.12693010041100686,0.0,0.13646262375757462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362619577205455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395810028327181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360532272370963,0.05697140973059262,0.0,0.0,0.10567634454975808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19662730047611773,0.09054570516549207,0.09394210485253407,0.0,0.05659788258450092,0.05672288317598005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578490814462945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439297915575554,0.13963852145912145,0.0,0.0,0.06459362431604518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558038085789731,0.20437149739790755,0.0,0.0,0.04943473444125978,0.2476170036031209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460071031863976,0.0,0.06725789893768815,0.06826007612102232,0.04343306259725668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117094766710667,0.0,0.0,0.044436049082583085,0.0,0.06696660721453866,0.07035808610728607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910625593246318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180211331016048,0.20452174143495724,0.0641132776507693,0.0,0.041061495553534125,0.06590129365031798,0.0,0.2752601765772818,0.0,0.05473757603930436,0.06096990951532921,0.15291497415559754,0.06417120993937264,0.0,0.0510761595794613,0.0,0.0,0.0724101594089305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414222169699686,0.13067546254303386,0.1086165510148254,0.0493441801909661,0.0,0.0,0.0453674308393537,0.06831773568316944,0.0,0.05358706949653362,0.0,0.13401397048749614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096384328626884,0.051517882537226965,0.056022670043731015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516497880369968,0.041070085389544785,0.0,0.0,0.1121245608519034,0.0,0.0,0.12249282032211414,0.0,0.04351693071932088,0.0,0.06261241243317663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059261411275218,0.05288585688354736,0.0756108831735316,0.05087636770410493,0.10282778149828473,0.0,0.057629940822708586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741431801527835,0.0,0.0,0.1399878064571112,0.0,0.0,0.04553191136145085,0.0,0.0,0.0825513579715812
parenting,chucks97ss,2020/03/06,"11 year old son asking girls about tea bagging in school. So today I started off my morning with my 11 year old step son asking me to sign a misconduct form from school, claiming “he forgot” to ask his mom to sign the night before.

Having been an 11 year old boy before, I knew one does not simply “forget” to have a parent sign a misconduct form. 

So I decided to bring this to my wife’s attention, instead of simply signing like he was hoping I would. As a step parent, he’s more concerned about his moms reaction, than mine. (Which I’m sure will get me downvotes, but I’m just being honest)

So her and I read it, and he’s got 3 misconduct strikes that we need to sign for. 

1, he apparently knocked someone’s books out of their hands. His teacher made a note stating that he did apologize for doing it. However simply apologizing for being a bully or whatever his motive was, is not good enough. 

2, he was apparently being disrespectful to his teacher when she asked him to do something. He said he wasn’t, but we know how he acts when asked to do something he doesn’t want to do. So this is no surprise to us. 

And finally #3, he apparently asked 2 girls in class if they knew what “tea bagging” meant. His teacher did not make a big deal about his question to the girls, just simply said he should have been focusing on his work. 

This is the one that really concerned me the most. I understand his motive was probably to make one of his friends laugh. But that’s the problem. He’s always trying to be the “class clown”, more concerned with social acceptance than completing the task at hand. 

Some relevant back story. We’ve had major issues with him this year with what we can see as obvious bad influences in class, which are clearly effecting his ability to behave appropriately. 

Because of these social distractions, he’s failing several classes, which will likely lead to him being held back a year. Something my wife and I have concluded might simply be the best thing for him, because it will bring him down a notch and make him realize there are actual consequences to what we choose to do with our time. (Another thing I’m sure will get me downvotes. But I don’t know how else to get through to a kid who lets everything go in one ear and out the other)

He’s a good kid at home. Everyone in my family adores him because he’s such a good and well behaved kid. But whenever he’s at school, it’s a different story. 

So I don’t know what to do. He obviously needs a talk, but every time we talk to him, he forgets the next day anyways. It truly takes being a parent to fully understand what the term, “in one ear, out the other.” means. And I don’t know how to combat it.",4.666882774615225,5.619357045540799,5.613663820366856,80.8888617436222,69.62618595825427,8.967510014758592,28.68063461943917,9.225670689056813,2.349016909129243,2101,74,411,41,36,692,235,527,0.073,0.826,0.10099999999999999,0.9179,8,0,3,0,0,0,59.0,7,0,2,8,22,20,0,1,28,0,45,6,4,13,5,87,86,28,0,8,13,9,2,2,1,7,0,4,1,7,28,21,2,2,20,2,0,7,9,4,1,5,19,7,50,16,62,52,10,45,0,1,1,0,84,16,0,7,23,265,78,14,0.0,0.0,0.07179966244735428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061221211242959185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715095856917616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127023421171597,0.0,0.0,0.11315096230454455,0.061432972215591436,0.13455392731553695,0.0,0.12521568798719704,0.0,0.07721358016822688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714314350670258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04745049923921612,0.07585373084307903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687136711715692,0.0,0.0,0.06438694301768245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146339246338446,0.0,0.0,0.07602378189557339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061991039570603625,0.0703051188634273,0.06612545660913265,0.0,0.06936100122311645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805990237912508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05684471418920645,0.0,0.1153214302635118,0.0,0.041814994547317325,0.18513643165791105,0.05884553038211859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380282972081657,0.0730776711144712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679433521837567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174200675785938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523654962207123,0.0,0.07189113430561447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961948707237957,0.1473378590092762,0.0,0.0,0.08014594507074482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780526174953952,0.0,0.17234288373910187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911149527807863,0.0,0.0,0.07824901958908717,0.06904618790641917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316172278612256,0.0,0.2492853557027241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24509266366146495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932748261917716,0.07040239331273329,0.0,0.0,0.08242207335322099,0.0,0.07359601312318703,0.0,0.04713473521158098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399754442520177,0.0,0.0,0.22338883096264475,0.058630627670724376,0.0,0.0,0.0831200530900914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000314144881746,0.062340792787299384,0.16992743465722682,0.0,0.0,0.052077543962195036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868921152083807,0.0,0.055320072334569,0.1182753681676129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776138621104828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580563396802357,0.0,0.06974154203310046,0.0,0.0,0.049953343857183564,0.0,0.0,0.1531906347667161,0.08850299198256073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04339709147772936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615375217875266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05356427882340065,0.0,0.0,0.05226635213276945,0.0,0.0,0.23690298824320444
parenting,marcustrelle,2020/03/06,"Question about Youtube disabling comments on videos with children Youtube have disabled comments on videos featuring kids younger than 13 years old.  But there are ways around this.  I have seen some videos from a gaming podcast recently which had an 11 year old kid in them in the call in section at the end asking the podcast questions, not in a bad or sexual way, and the video is an hour long but it still has comments because the video from the 11 year old boy is only about 40 seconds long so it doesn't come up in the video description or the tags and is not present in the thumbnail image so the algorithm doesn't catch it.  These videos were made 11 years ago.  Would Youtube consider this to be deceptive since they were obviously made long before the new change was made?",10.909591836734698,8.070916387755105,8.654795918367348,76.64913265306124,58.59183673469388,11.97687074829932,42.18707482993197,9.725611199111238,3.8990870748299318,627,26,120,8,6,183,93,147,0.013999999999999999,0.972,0.013000000000000001,-0.0323,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,15,0,15,0,0,3,1,19,21,8,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,7,5,0,0,2,8,0,2,4,1,0,1,8,1,3,0,18,11,2,33,0,0,1,0,14,12,0,5,17,73,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244842043229955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296951417185335,0.12913765990186565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153370281162931,0.08420586718745296,0.0,0.11754278529205694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410513687175496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461286064656779,0.11899114652369908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234668681666655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603523594618994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36673561661300624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3921202791424296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341172823573672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.434848612375426,0.0,0.0,0.10505795861298306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30948582329314545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639173411812094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426677178922873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031485927585012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929040552127615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812720283690524,0.0,0.0,0.3558178695304041
parenting,tossawaylater555,2020/03/06,"13 year old daughter with 15 year old boyfriend I created this account just for this post, because I have been wanting to get some advice on an issue I've been having with my 13 year old daughter. 

I'll call her Katie. 

Katie is a very good girl who gets As and Bs in all gifted classes. Our family moved into a nice neighborhood recently, and Katie has found a great group of friends. The neighborhood kids are all like Katie, a bit ""nerdy""...they like to go to the skating rink on Fridays and they solve rubik's cubes and play video games. This is the very first time in Katie's life that she feels like a part of a group. This is the first time she comes home talking about friends, and we LOVE that for her. 

Most of the kids are around Katie's same age. However, one kid, we will call him Sam, is 15. He's a sophomore in high school. This kid is not like the typical high schooler, though. He has a childish spirit and, like I said, enjoys things like rollerblading, rubik's cubes, and chess. He ""plays"" outside with the other kids and enjoys being a part of their group. The rest of the kids, including Sam, have been friends since they were little. So at the end of the day, he's still only 2 years older. We have taken Sam home after skate night a few times and we have spent a little bit of time around him, and he is very polite. We also monitor Katie's texts through Qustodio, and their conversations are always very innocent. We didn't love the fact that our 7th grade daughter has a friend in high school, but we decided that it was okay because they're all part of a mutual friend group. 

Fast forward a few months, and it turns out that Sam and Katie are more than friends. Their texts include things like ""I love you"" and ""Do you want to be exclusive"" etc. We confronted Katie about this and told her that it is inappropriate to have a boyfriend in high school when you're in 7th grade. We told her that she needed to end things with Sam, but that if she was able to be just friends with him, that'd be fine. Again, their texts were always innocent, he NEVER said anything inappropriate/sexual to her, and we REALLY don't want to put a dent in Katie's friend group that means so much to her and is so important to her. I called Sam's mom and explained things to her. She was very nice, agreed, and said she'd talk to him. 

Fast forward a few more weeks, the ""I love you"" texts are back and now they've been speaking in code. We literally found morse code texts that we decoded saying ""my love for you has only grown"" etc. They also go through a third party friend to exchange messages sometimes. He asks her to send videos, etc. I don't think the videos are of anything but Katie talking, but still, of course all of this upset us. Katie isn't one to lie and sneak around. 

I immediately blocked Sam and Katie from being able to text, and texted his mom. This was her response:

  

*Of course we respect your wishes.* 

*Sam would like you to know that he takes full responsibility for the texts. He also would like to ask that you please don’t get Katie in trouble as this is no way Katie’s fault. (His words)* 

*He wanted to come talk to you in person, but I told him that’s probably not a good idea. At least not today.* 

*I would also like to add that while I understand and respect your decision to block Sam, I am 100% certain that he has always had the best intentions, and would never treat her inappropriately.* 

*Sam is not like other teenagers his age. He’s got a gentle pure heart  and lots of love for everyone around him.*

​

My question to everyone (those of you kind enough to still be reading) is, did I overreact? Should I allow them to keep communicating even though he is in high school and she is in 7th grade, because of the circumstances? Or was I right to think its black and white and shouldn't be allowed?

Katie is understandably upset, calling it her ""first love"". She says she tried so hard for this not to happen. 

​

Any feedback would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!",3.3854398577612836,5.2728329413265325,3.5368599257885016,90.86246907854051,74.17857142857143,6.690290661719232,22.848175633889927,7.463857097105799,0.7105976190476189,3142,86,662,38,66,963,307,784,0.065,0.762,0.17300000000000001,0.9977,2,0,0,0,0,0,126.0,16,11,8,4,26,51,1,2,38,1,69,9,1,3,9,117,115,50,0,14,14,5,2,11,9,8,1,6,2,8,39,56,0,3,14,8,3,10,14,5,0,6,25,10,83,46,85,72,27,81,1,0,2,7,138,33,0,6,51,408,122,10,0.0926936406787835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045289576437712566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825414192306638,0.1156928018662241,0.1004335209484679,0.11263291924928523,0.03151742713097591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627896826859723,0.16503398479431944,0.08665604131294782,0.0,0.0,0.035637844022504486,0.0,0.0847577745097784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04863812857460596,0.0,0.10119744817877728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930114180672444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984736378890918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029889864942124908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209905271122367,0.04788865469660312,0.15506686772126851,0.030611637726895336,0.0,0.0,0.08857274596728124,0.0,0.0,0.043691657454598375,0.0,0.023434344929733557,0.03311017771099405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826774511320745,0.0,0.10163379259484072,0.32226694583359816,0.0,0.0726429021985984,0.0,0.05267993212354037,0.07774702798136905,0.03706778608802451,0.10219506608565697,0.0,0.0,0.04098434016339942,0.0,0.04151764758083408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054921205253418766,0.0,0.2448398015278877,0.09297927937831713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523199188088126,0.0,0.04837403915237363,0.0,0.0411951834254132,0.0,0.04826308134260951,0.0254710003844658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0327361298440265,0.24906986884455865,0.09290337945329544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03940240927457137,0.2928087039988516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050485274385557735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085616716639458,0.03699358982044438,0.04925933529376485,0.03407024568294899,0.03436558002323084,0.07149105007316463,0.0,0.0,0.04349335126880618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589957471553405,0.0,0.0628116098542198,0.07049769067163572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505672698886697,0.0,0.0,0.04046825584016011,0.0,0.05087489104371362,0.0,0.0,0.04438744244068892,0.0,0.049969711166418,0.0,0.0,0.046591355518762326,0.05191904574823999,0.0,0.04635936244718957,0.0,0.029690959887575023,0.0,0.0457618937630824,0.0,0.0,0.03957993133511654,0.13225931837348126,0.07371370351808254,0.0,0.1876218260884464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03833856871957121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04583819040078592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103789177500016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03484704096226415,0.14900727440980455,0.0,0.042669925276820515,0.0,0.0,0.12316307213847633,0.059394342141797674,0.09107103133558517,0.0,0.10810081460462204,0.0,0.043931366490283036,0.13285911895092184,0.0,0.03146644872525914,0.050412031704769086,0.0,0.09649734896342832,0.055749518334812884,0.0,0.0,0.19120490305841886,0.10934622176352883,0.03678794871849435,0.03717662367915295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053296556104970506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646172570693304,0.0,0.11263291924928523,0.1193833310334994
parenting,DragonRider87,2020/03/06,"Open concept kitchens are a stupid idea They were clearly designed by someone who never had or dealt with curious young kids. My kitchen. Is very open, as I. It's just along one of the walls of the main room and my youngest, who is 2, has recently gotten tall enough to open the oven. Fortunately never while it's on (she knows what hot is and that she'll get hurt.) But today she opened up the oven and dropped a toy inside as I was telling her not to. I'm so glad we'll be moving soon to a place that has a totally separate room for the kitchen, where I can put a gate up, or even a door in if necessary to keep them out of the kitchen!",4.414179104477611,4.240895305970149,4.767873134328358,90.71285447761196,69.82089552238807,8.491044776119404,29.436567164179106,8.07648339933343,1.5579134328358206,497,17,118,6,8,157,94,134,0.026000000000000002,0.903,0.071,0.6964,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,0,5,3,1,0,12,0,13,4,0,0,4,23,18,11,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,10,1,7,10,4,1,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,4,1,12,1,18,11,3,25,0,1,0,0,11,15,0,3,7,80,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26333746833675725,0.0,0.1683319615410785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315330516040075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27283182360692465,0.28770478206134903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265303834414491,0.0,0.0,0.14006383766144034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27087477671682514,0.0,0.0,0.3931259346138809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17269904976407316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662734041832276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562036809432228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251642509613463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159411981011916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22275799363984172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415765259103425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028536058896927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StarlightCrystal,2020/03/06,"What are your child’s schools hand washing habits/structure? Found out my kid plays on the monkey bars/outside and then they immediately line up for lunch when the bell rings. No time allotted for hand washing... 

Wanted to see what other schools do and how they promote it. Thanks!",4.449411764705887,7.239001392156869,3.427215686274512,88.6584705882353,74.29411764705883,5.648627450980393,27.84705882352941,6.742157984588678,1.2492635294117649,225,9,41,2,5,65,43,51,0.038,0.7190000000000001,0.243,0.8999,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,5,2,1,0,7,6,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,4,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,4,2,6,5,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,3,25,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011763391001697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7405945936260631,0.2915646611788445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33685969942051786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133517206708564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21580970178099326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway2939299q,2020/03/06,"Caught my 10 year old drinking one of my beers. I never drank around him and he came in one day like 2 years ago asking if he could have one and I explained to him no and that I only drink then to calm my nerves and that's why some people drink.

Well last night (the story is on my profile) he came down to get a drink and I thought it was a soda but he ran beside me with it and I didn't see what it was until I heard him spitting it up and I called him in the living room asking if he was ok.

He walked in and the beer spilt on him and I could smell it on him.

I took him to the hospital and they said he didn't have enough in his system to even do any damage since he probably spit out most of it.",1.2209915611814353,2.0105398544303803,2.8386708860759486,98.16197257383966,77.67088607594937,5.772995780590718,17.59704641350211,5.46131890053228,-0.7514447257383972,539,7,140,2,12,178,92,158,0.047,0.902,0.051,-0.09,0,0,6,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,6,1,11,10,2,0,1,25,25,15,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,9,15,8,0,2,6,0,6,4,1,1,3,14,4,23,4,20,9,3,29,0,1,1,0,23,12,0,4,11,93,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254963262783116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962748045244841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603039074177916,0.264704139827144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456232696253496,0.3238446350663997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22606976861562464,0.0,0.0,0.0913031667403494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5547523553876575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628322453785342,0.0,0.09350793216984002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396628728817099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540126181846486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916563922296476,0.0,0.1250119549833904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919017663531773,0.0,0.0,0.13285709757074898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855752636545094,0.0,0.28780151226112743,0.1076729924786395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814920830753526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526401300048904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346687762089348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128157144843546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171110253983136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123935097863876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729331826242632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729153881450686,0.0,0.12774802327801568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182337327393006
parenting,GreatNorth1978,2020/03/06,"Son’s Winter Jacket from Carter’s Clothing My 7 year old son’s winter jacket came home the other day with a big rip. It was new this winter and cost about $100 and came with snow pants, hat and neck warmer.  I bought it in November. He said a classmate grabbed the hood and it ripped.  It’s a pretty heavy duty jacket so  I’m not sure how this is possible. I don’t think he’s being bullied. I think he gives as much as he gets so I’m not inclined to follow up with the school. My question is, could the jacket be defective and therefore I should follow up with Carters and ask for a refund or replacement? Anyone have any experience with Carter’s refund / return policy. I don’t have the receipt but could look through my bank statement for the purchase date and exact amount.",3.638269230769232,5.103433211538462,4.305641025641027,87.34769230769234,72.65384615384616,6.7384615384615385,23.89743589743589,7.1686216300943375,0.8779589743589749,615,17,123,6,12,196,96,156,0.044000000000000004,0.93,0.026000000000000002,-0.3427,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,10,0,12,1,1,2,2,30,26,14,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,7,14,0,1,4,0,6,4,4,1,0,0,5,3,8,1,16,16,2,17,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,2,9,68,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629463748611073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014054987387106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873686212971653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584614568287361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200432066543384,0.0,0.0,0.12925637266856374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19605233151614146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471284114184813,0.19226418023374028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104079441390532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683049961507245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147334100753943,0.0,0.0,0.19356995940144764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21031041612411916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259470250975953,0.0,0.2039024309084404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22451983435939987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906483438190424,0.0,0.0,0.2028389616396894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889647840239307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568461663225772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906595894929038
parenting,Nexxisvain,2020/03/06,"Feeling overwhelmed with my nonverbal 18 month old. My son is 18 months old. He's never said his first word, ever. He doesn't make noise a lot unless it's to cry or scream or laugh. He sometimes babbels, but never words. He also cannot point to things he wants at all, for example if you hold up a sippy cup and ask if he wants it he just screams and throws a fit. But he won't point to anything, nor will he follow you if you point to something. 

I spoke with his pediatrician and she agrees it's abnormal and she's worried about his development. She reccomended me to the early steps program but I have been waiting for almost a month now because of insurance and their really long waitlist. 


Right now I'm just feeling overwhelmed. He can't communicate so it's hard to figure out what he wants or what's wrong. He also has meltdowns where he bangs his head down on the floor and I worry he'll hurt himself. I try reading to him and talking to him about everything, describing things, etc. Hoping he picks up some words, but he hasn't so far.

Prior to this he was meeting all his milestones. Babbling as a baby, rolling over, sitting up, eating food, walking on time, etc. 

I love my son to death. But right now I'm lost about what to do and I am feeling overwhelmed about it. 

Any one else in a similar situation? Even if no advice I'd appreciate relating to others.",3.132565537084397,4.978946319852946,4.162615089514067,86.2822570332481,74.77205882352942,6.9363171355498725,26.531969309462923,7.7425588080867325,1.4800055626598458,1077,40,216,15,23,349,157,272,0.12300000000000001,0.775,0.102,-0.8740000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,3,1,2,16,11,0,3,8,0,13,4,1,2,5,49,31,27,1,8,15,2,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,12,11,2,2,4,1,0,4,9,8,0,2,5,8,25,3,33,23,6,40,0,5,0,1,40,19,0,11,16,135,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167349312557284,0.0,0.0,0.11962193591791626,0.0,0.0,0.19106424068204705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812368977341164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830540289263877,0.0,0.11167897583975996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282170835633776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122120265192708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222374051419456,0.09979350279528146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26645895983562545,0.07890220458539739,0.10805841091158136,0.0,0.0,0.10736294686131903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120769896078376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161261657008318,0.14445150845241167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701269734579597,0.0,0.12260042613678845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865073638717714,0.0,0.0,0.1278844027394484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571834247377873,0.0,0.0,0.13040470367899828,0.10156062166540936,0.10781731572351824,0.0,0.07974047887476117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860555013490628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426983584552634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25070635326845625,0.0,0.08094918892074666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387849439750933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949232944969013,0.0,0.07652913615033394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204036377768546,0.11363381784983652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342780472871941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196614573226462,0.11814899644031628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601742444398167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587278341971563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965808776614467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110549971375604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21138181262626315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426348612643844,0.0,0.0,0.13061075890681698,0.0,0.0
parenting,NoSleepInSight,2020/03/06,"Overcoming Reversed Cycling Hi! My son is 5,5 month old. Two months ago he started refusing to nurse during the day. I nurse him every 3 hours during the day, but he makes a few sucks and refuses to eat more. At night he wakes up every 1-2 hours and does not settle down until he eats for 20-30 minutes. I am so exhausted that no words can describe it.

To break this pattern I tried:

1. To feed him during the day in a dark and quiet room
2. To stretch time between day feeds
3. To feed more often during the day
4. I introduced solids two weeks ago
5. I removed sleep associations such as rocking and nursing to sleep. He falls asleep on his own for naps and at the bedtime 

I really don’t know what else I can do to make him sleep better. I would be extremely happy to get at least 3 hours long stretches of sleep at night. 

Did anyone experienced that? When did it get better? Is there anything else I can do to make it better?",1.8126984126984127,3.84301283597884,3.3642592592592595,89.64416666666668,79.37037037037038,6.104761904761905,22.14021164021164,7.1686216300943375,0.6819227513227513,722,22,152,9,18,238,116,189,0.065,0.8440000000000001,0.091,0.8028,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,3,5,6,1,0,7,0,13,12,6,3,0,16,21,10,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,7,5,5,2,1,2,0,2,3,2,0,2,2,2,14,4,24,17,5,35,0,0,0,0,13,11,1,1,21,85,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004139468973421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904322048337603,0.0,0.09302584751182208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999355571596614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645211886537493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892585063968892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313451321367188,0.18886805608930765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904894388253972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812198820776898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033778606174952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33397766737416684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062126204680572325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004067036792283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263738943145717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804618034912936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216888244545126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862100303310387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724190892896033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4525038572209088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001335510324054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659170550124842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674967628159703,0.0,0.22085575917340988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067733882302748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030344511227648,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VieringHJ,2020/03/06,"How do I know if my hips are too narrow to give birth naturally? They’re around 37 inches or so, but my waist is about 32”. I’m 5’4” and 135 lbs or so. I’m worried I won’t be able to give birth naturally. My mom had to have an emergency c section because I got stuck, although she was also 4’8” and size zero pants at the time while I was an eight pound baby. Is there any way to tell whether my hips would be too small without getting a medical examination?",2.7362002945508124,3.58307378350516,4.6555228276877765,86.36587628865982,74.05154639175258,7.604712812960236,26.228276877761417,7.957251820313856,1.313254491899853,355,12,81,5,7,122,73,97,0.10099999999999999,0.899,0.0,-0.8583,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,4,0,12,4,3,1,0,13,20,13,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,9,0,8,11,1,11,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,3,4,52,9,0,0.26040082298043044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082424440572241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708148915139976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23181194063303795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587379247358144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360486823596566,0.4996003947658379,0.0,0.0,0.2082663262053418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310948224019632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262326433596767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30497829665992754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276017969157712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184181396783575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066940526212487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510171009280969,0.0,0.0,0.2644496758933738,0.0,0.18498127338069412,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Priad978,2020/03/06,"Abuse and possible fictitious disorder in the co-parenting home. My daughter is 7 years old and I share 50/50 custody with her mother. There is no primary in this case. For the last year my daughter has had some behavioral episodes that were not consistent with her personality. Being a firm believer in positive discipline and firm but fair principles I eventually brought her to therapy. It was revealed through her my daughter, in therapy that her mother was being emotionally, and physically abusive with her. Luckily we got the mother to come in for therapy and it seems like things got better. Fast forward to now and it seems like the mother is regressing. My sister came into town this week and my daughter very much forms a very strong emotional attachment to her. Throughout the week she revealed some of the things that went on over in that household. While not right out admitting to abuse, it does seem very much stifling and inappropriate for my daughter's personality and development. Currently after my daughter  leaving my house this week he mother is claiming multiple wounds as infectious disease. my daughter had a diagnosis of ringworm earlier and we have been applying the ointments. My daughter was kept out of school today due to a claim of weeping wounds. I quickly requested that we go to urgent Care together if this was of urgency. I don't believe for a second that the wounds are weeping as I myself a nurse have seen the ones for myself. My question to this community is what are my options and best course of action here? I can't exactly kick down the door and pick up my child, and I do feel like calling CPS or the authorities may be more damaging than helpful.",6.988298204527713,8.573173016393444,7.174613583138175,69.49267759562842,64.73770491803279,10.924277907884466,37.802498048399684,10.914260884657429,4.688200624512098,1370,71,220,39,21,442,169,305,0.087,0.763,0.149,0.9659,2,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,3,0,0,3,4,11,0,0,17,0,25,3,0,1,1,45,40,19,0,1,5,14,1,3,0,1,3,0,2,3,18,24,0,2,8,0,0,7,5,3,0,2,15,2,33,8,40,21,7,37,0,3,1,0,35,16,0,10,19,166,51,1,0.0,0.3775912652654068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393669567233805,0.11148056981132703,0.09395073932891933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847147995310916,0.12149744535321001,0.10830733944257694,0.0,0.0,0.09150670342369388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174740585559325,0.0,0.09296153708171616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389861997173395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053712472138285686,0.0758898745891113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037227400460165,0.0,0.16992174805405053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120292416036403,0.0,0.10655614586241652,0.0,0.0,0.12257377045749375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659064862140214,0.0,0.11248095896172558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569407478537955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618077889329354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114692540001082,0.0,0.07198338281636812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550977813266584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975700868904438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900056547603388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071881315424844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750921496341292,0.0,0.2901201243504601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644456656812926,0.0,0.14114738646502453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069247959272803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629496508399915,0.0,0.0,0.2556310026437004,0.0,0.0,0.09847516010072432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681572625861066
parenting,reacraf,2020/03/06,Should I take my 4 year old toddler to go watch Sonic at the movie theater? For the record he is super well behaved with really good attention span. I’m only worried about scenes not being suitable for kids his age. Thank you in advance!,3.67195652173913,5.784907282608696,4.286304347826088,84.81467391304348,74.0,6.339130434782609,26.71739130434783,7.1686216300943375,1.4458434782608696,189,7,34,2,4,60,43,46,0.042,0.728,0.23,0.8685,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,4,7,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,3,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182017583937963,0.3220303734568727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028800907485183,0.0,0.0,0.2920034147192642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459615794749109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28867484471905497,0.0,0.0,0.3534800577988447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34520786636518513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899093646832146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24724455503595635
parenting,AntiVaxMommy1234,2020/03/06,"How do I become childfree and not go to prison? So first off I know a lot of you would probably think prison is worth it if you get to become childfree but for me I got too much shit to do on the outside so preferably I would like to become childfree and not to prison because of how I did it. That's not saying I'm ruling out anything illegal I just don't like prison. I've been there before and it's fucking boring and the drugs are really expensive.

So anyways why all of a sudden do I want to become childfree? I have many reasons some of them better than others but foremost among them is my child is contaminated by vaccines. Hubby took him without my permission and went to the doctor and got him injected with shit and now I can see the autism in his eyes and it freaks me the fuck out because I like being normal and dont want to catch that shit. I have tried reversing the vaccine but I don't know much about medicine to do anything beyond just trial and error. I have even tried aged urine and exposion therapy like make him hang around autistic people all day so he's motivated not to be that but honestly it's going to be a struggle his whole life and I didn't sign up for that.

It goes without saying I am furious beyond rational behavior but I am trying to keep a practical focus. So I need advices. What is the best way to become childfree that is cheap and easy and won't put me in prison.",2.9132433217189337,4.650271083623694,4.245178571428571,85.92586309523811,75.09756097560975,7.013298490127759,25.198751451800238,7.793537801064563,1.3682660859465738,1119,38,224,16,24,369,149,287,0.111,0.705,0.184,0.9671,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,2,4,18,16,6,1,11,0,28,10,5,5,2,53,47,27,0,8,14,0,0,4,0,3,3,2,0,1,13,18,0,1,6,0,3,7,11,9,0,1,7,4,31,7,36,34,8,24,0,0,2,2,13,11,5,3,9,166,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784044484247012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647877673969511,0.0891319800076342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206985969202905,0.5528978929344205,0.08519852468516388,0.0,0.10507442352854683,0.0885519314421726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457198128670683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248160788830843,0.0,0.0,0.11734509903694655,0.0,0.11611256402800765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613124891276312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516579827374014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18512686444094476,0.052310887881923215,0.0,0.11380605425460336,0.0,0.16015732384539913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899520350456057,0.0,0.0,0.1100515484672848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072085363318502,0.19566297735496507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512221916208862,0.0,0.0,0.06683384177412084,0.10151046791160463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472059690421931,0.07424100424888477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810069364201547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941368047137468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795108176593528,0.0,0.0,0.10065271765212423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414228066794875,0.10294460093857404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592459481954788,0.0,0.0,0.07978621623548661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30832889924483103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467180496662803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450102409101146,0.0,0.0,0.06415569887556295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112419378864421,0.20393376907330776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811197874527304,0.07947412077058626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281635981029608,0.09034673454405368,0.11178536260547016,0.0,0.19303277614085707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225106019758593,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,panoramicjazz,2020/03/06,"Toddler sleeping - training them to NOT wake up at 4am Almost every night at 4am, my 2yo wakes up.  He wants to play, talk, climb, and turn on/off the lights witch above the headboard repeatedly.

Thing is, he has been in and out of the hospital for the last 9 months, where the nurses check his vitals (BP, temperature, O2) at midnight, 4am and 8am. He won't go to bed until midnight anyway because of the 12am vitals, so the total sleep is low.

How do you train a child NOT to wake up?  You can set routines to PUT a child to bed, but how do you stop him from waking up?",5.6437500000000025,4.034291875000001,6.468333333333334,84.31000000000003,67.75,9.0,29.166666666666664,7.1686216300943375,1.416666666666667,435,11,100,3,6,145,81,120,0.055999999999999994,0.902,0.042,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,1,1,5,5,0,0,9,0,8,6,6,2,1,13,11,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,4,0,1,0,1,1,3,3,2,0,0,1,1,7,3,20,9,1,21,0,1,0,0,12,11,0,1,6,57,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27855076411159746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957209688103445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23437332772542466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809251609199654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267486811835516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220355819849633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610471600165949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796413862046886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5567491587954373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23256565702887544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235854715246492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848062362564339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30257309044462904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640740470508786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tittyboi77,2020/03/06,"Ectopic pregnancy Over the last weekend my girlfriend was having pelvic pain and stomach pain so i took her to the hospital. They ran some tests and told her it was just period. Later they told her she had pregnancy hormone. They made her stay overnight because of some internal bleeding. The doctors told her the pregnancy was ectopic and that they dont know where it is.  They told her there is a slim chance that it could be a normal pregnancy. Because we are so young and not stable she decided to do the syringe medication to terminate the pregnancy. The whole week shes been feeling terrible mentally. She dont think she can get over it and she is hurt because of this. She kept thinking what if it was normal and that she gave up so early instead of waiting to see where it is. How can i support her more than the ways i already am? For those that went through this can you share your experience and how you cope with it and got over? 

Thank you",3.7231521739130433,5.84881870652174,4.158043478260872,85.73423913043482,73.89130434782608,7.643478260869566,29.43478260869565,8.472884824447931,2.2515500000000004,758,33,146,14,16,238,103,184,0.08,0.863,0.057,-0.7542,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,4,5,0,10,7,0,0,10,0,22,6,1,3,0,28,42,14,0,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,15,10,0,2,5,1,0,3,3,4,0,0,17,2,29,3,15,23,4,18,0,1,1,0,32,6,0,3,7,114,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296470607349807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534946004743449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067251373074848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187796132016345,0.0,0.0,0.32491065987995704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355917194961732,0.0,0.0,0.07008772870334687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242043016756394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086279316793757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483898428597966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617898303119243,0.11298943517622588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116052732712652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963967041722927,0.13969095822703173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27162584008619844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949915076784865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104579244431624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477447668022001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729825488856808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761774035336276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763733319749378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5298089286027975,0.15400596932313776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002585210150292,0.1111883059818271,0.0,0.0,0.12849716332901034,0.0,0.1547582993544026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OverAgency,2020/03/06,"My ex is a party animal and is not present in our daughters life much Hello all. I hope that I am posting this in the proper sub. If not, feel free to point me in another direction. Thanks!

My ex wife and I separated a few months ago. She basically moved out with the guy she was seeing during the last few months of our marriage. We just recently went through the courts to finalize our custody agreement and the judge signed off on it. We have a split 50/50 with our daughter. She is 7 years old. My ex pays me child support of around $100 per month, which is the equivalent of half  the medical insurance for DD.

Here is the issue. DD informed me that her wonderful mom drops her off every friday and saturday night at grandma's house. My ex will leave her there until 2 or 3am. And this happens every single weekend my party animal ex has DD. My DD has also expressed her concern that her mother doesn't spend much time with her in the weekdays and that on the weekends, she is too hungover to interact with DD. Basically just plops her down in front of a tablet or tv while her mother sleeps off her hangovers, which is most of every saturday and sunday. I have spoken to my ex MIL about this and confirms that this does indeed happen. Thankfully, my ex gets Uber back and forth from the clubs/raves she goes to.

Now, I was thinking of asking my ex if it would just be in everyone's best interest to allow me to have DD full time, full custody. This way, my party animal ex can live out her irresponsible life the way she wants without the worry that my DD getting in her way. Frankly, I do not want my DD to be exposed to her mother's behavior. 

I plan on speaking to a lawyer about this, but right now, I am so broke due to the separation and going from a household with two incomes down to one. Any thoughts?

Am I overreaching here? Part of me thinks I am, but part of me thinks that my ex is behaving in a manner that is a poor role model for DD too, and quite frankly, I worry about her safety while with her mom.",4.223476190476192,5.150406232098772,5.114281305114642,84.15819444444446,70.62962962962962,8.254850088183423,27.550705467372126,8.527137837955566,1.819181657848324,1584,53,324,25,28,517,200,405,0.04,0.878,0.081,0.9123,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,6,0,0,3,17,9,0,0,22,0,27,4,1,1,1,50,47,22,0,6,13,18,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,18,22,0,0,7,3,4,4,5,1,0,3,4,3,56,9,56,39,12,58,0,1,1,0,54,24,0,7,25,229,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632274499138574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689735753603207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389422240729003,0.1139420998660198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673265782827202,0.10158476393241052,0.0,0.0,0.08355475088025421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140345839598682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509128113826934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746585143936545,0.10383167005561376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054943022125843836,0.0,0.0,0.11903445126598212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135433369199646,0.0,0.061755399712052864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759295337754796,0.1921797699199751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792637518087728,0.0,0.12538192926506264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341541278130872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885744359494065,0.0,0.1150578919745001,0.0,0.0,0.15350306669359884,0.0,0.0,0.09595097336981356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946603126280223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545284003515172,0.2602000990571974,0.11549103493461528,0.1597588725440413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019723900221813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402300890399353,0.0,0.0736325184324132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235341784767216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272118005733663,0.0,0.1040686325750058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557593835584845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072911041074336,0.0,0.0,0.0927971765204112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658993947917239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874096918273422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330891096898282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000836512069816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20887961649226047,0.0,0.08626588285805464,0.12672394868412953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061474677789572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818390912451466,0.2587536907643731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073122097844284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474676699920524,0.1178398399763541,0.0,0.2207040753908892,0.0,0.07719071836294575,0.0,0.0,0.06997508377232325
parenting,Vigilantx3,2020/03/06,"My kid stepson (8) threw-up last night in his bed after waking up. Just all over his bed. Is it appropriate to discuss with him the importance of making an effort to get to the bathroom or at least make an effort to puke anywhere but the bed, as its far easier to clean? I had this discussion with him, and his mom was not too pleased as she doesn’t believe him to be responsible. I disagree, as I cannot remember an instance in childhood where I was unable at his age, to puke at least on the floor. Thoughts?",5.398867313915858,5.252952009708738,6.1127669902912665,81.81277508090619,67.7378640776699,9.196763754045307,31.729773462783168,8.841846274778883,2.3762375404530762,399,15,83,6,6,131,70,103,0.12,0.775,0.105,-0.4057,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,7,0,7,1,1,2,1,12,11,6,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,13,0,22,6,3,16,0,0,0,0,12,11,0,1,5,62,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682631586835333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077265348119755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664373246021954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363677606800165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828185034317971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30673919048517106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35879789529951145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702725525186264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259493055606644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShameYourBrains,2020/03/06,"I should have paid closer attention to what my daughter was trying to tell me. So yesterday I was at the grocery store with my 2 daughters (ages 4 and 9.) When finished up and headed out to the truck. My youngest was in the cart, and my oldest (H) walked next to me. As I loaded up the groceries I told H to get in the truck. She went to the door then came right back to me, about 3 feet away. I asked what she was doing and she said she wanted to help load the groceries (she never does this.) I told her I got it and to just get in the truck. Looking back, I should have noticed the look on her face didn't seem right. She did as she was told, I finished loading and then got my other daughter buckled into her carseat. 

When I got into my seat H told me that there was a man in the car next to her door, with the window down, and his penis out. I jumped out to look at his plate number and he quickly drove off. I called the police,  they took it very seriously but I don't think much can be done,  because the plate number I gave them was registered to a vehicle that didn't match the car we saw. 

I just feel like I failed on multiple levels. I should have been more aware of our surroundings. I should have paid more attention when my daughter was trying to tell me. I know the situation could have been much worse, but it could have been better too.",3.1863978494623666,4.1013418602150535,3.9343709677419376,91.70155645161293,73.05017921146954,6.870322580645162,23.26899641577061,6.961326702584282,0.5242858781362005,1045,26,236,9,20,333,137,279,0.038,0.9179999999999999,0.044000000000000004,-0.1397,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,2,2,12,4,0,0,17,0,31,3,3,0,1,35,58,18,0,7,4,4,1,1,0,4,0,1,3,1,9,17,0,0,6,0,3,8,4,2,0,0,31,6,48,2,37,20,4,47,0,1,4,0,34,23,0,1,17,170,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458424224069418,0.0,0.11515637693684555,0.18849397182423944,0.0,0.07471612456991282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840115909417697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515531266243488,0.14018478191171976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957206498339328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725980915971847,0.12542929874025094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061973905465708364,0.08756238032540044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807311568012675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940857290097654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578980798880773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215453720758943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735999553975383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059880380900971135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087779637125208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802027060265299,0.0,0.09453175653433772,0.0,0.26070425197095065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954412440899092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093442705786468,0.11658993837768505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158101923332817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777121595419808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21425912224815646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853642498074212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684747111023171,0.13617721048408227,0.16643082829821107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113117838158503,0.07229359761201534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136214741166737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249069446492555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ninnins89,2020/03/06,"Books about discipline? Hi guys,

My son is about to turn 3 next month and I’m having a hard time disciplining him. He is mostly a good child but he’s just at that age and I think he’s feeling a bit left out when I have to tend to his sister (8 months). He has started pushing her over, she can walk holding the furniture but she lacks balance and it’s becoming dangerous near the tiles.

I have anxiety and I lose my temper very easily since I’ve had two kids, I’m going to see someone for help shortly.  I don’t want to be the mum that screams and spanks their child on the nappy but that’s the way I was brought up and I don’t want that for him. 

Please share some books that have helped with disciplining without spanking. 

Thank you.",1.2303947368421078,3.4436525657894776,2.4768421052631555,94.22539473684212,82.55263157894737,5.905263157894738,21.34210526315789,7.1686216300943375,0.4925447368421057,578,18,129,8,16,185,101,152,0.125,0.723,0.152,0.4981,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,5,7,2,0,8,0,13,0,0,0,0,24,26,10,0,3,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,6,8,0,4,2,2,0,4,3,4,0,1,3,4,17,3,17,22,4,20,0,1,1,0,23,8,0,2,7,76,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275246672191622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22052771497183085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21799572261286496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009627623789776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348112108696667,0.16747971268860073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771176329960485,0.0,0.0,0.17887149821369236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676787578938138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21694979850818186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22338764592540225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187607786593553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21235890529358736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918553946799973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591168295042428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16517499487143472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918579403251155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413325084999882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18383588444097132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794504967598844,0.0,0.0,0.11643334698095675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171913912384304,0.19505555304093936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475455363541142,0.23554950304889266,0.15849442073214326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19248163892922127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DarthRoacho,2020/03/06,"Daughter wants to move back with recovering addict mother I'll try to make this brief.  About 8 yrs ago I took custody of my then 6 yr old daughter as her mom was found to be iv injecting heroin and other opiates.  

For almost 2 yrs we barely heard anything from her.  I haven't received one penny of child support in all these years.  She eventually started getting her act together, and recently got a job and moved out of state.

Come to find out her job transferred her back to our hone state and shes gotten a trailer with a roommate.  

I learned last night that my daughter wants to move back in with her mom (over hearing a conversation as I walked past her room).  I am not okay with this.  I am scared that she will spiral into bad habits and run with the wrong people as I know her mother still likes to party pretty heavily (i dont think shes using heroin again).  

I dont know what to do.  I cant afford a lawyer as saving in these past few years has been almost impossible.  Im really scared for my daughter and her future if she moves back in with her.  What the hell am I supposed to do?  Im losing sleep over this...",3.464003627882871,4.7257396916299585,4.4846074112464365,86.69321845037575,72.78854625550662,6.9270795542886745,24.366157035501427,7.285733465282438,0.9458496501684376,878,25,181,9,17,286,132,227,0.122,0.8270000000000001,0.05,-0.9457,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,7,10,1,2,7,1,16,3,1,2,1,33,33,12,0,3,2,8,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,1,10,17,0,0,6,0,0,11,5,6,0,1,7,2,31,4,35,24,2,41,1,1,0,0,30,10,1,3,19,115,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702834832708385,0.0,0.0,0.0951601133442149,0.0,0.2149928790261801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834066022062899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33018492423253537,0.08963353410017716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247331202948243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25162895732685914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811679600057906,0.0,0.0,0.11770474276657147,0.0,0.0,0.05608642492357594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585833737033455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099228880121167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319148300942022,0.0,0.21305844704637927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799451626143415,0.08750532768869097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244623697896946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009822011260235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165757265446301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514561999758021,0.0,0.4563881552836367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007415662142838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126467321100828,0.0,0.07274376161596169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20495720018776836,0.07442361114601125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921447893280826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877174819189058,0.0,0.10599608253068807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21495399676155455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074284474919624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598353366670076,0.0,0.0857305833360669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182055178358447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878613485830813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927082200753596,0.07288422794077946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927167273496467,0.0,0.0,0.12663670789577516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737137872622065,0.0,0.13826094560824076
parenting,stoneflowers33,2020/03/06,"Teenage help My son is new 14. This year has been a big leap in his growing up.
He wants to shave a small part in his eyebrow because he thinks it looks cool.
I have said no a few weeks ago but he bought it up again tonight. I said I would think about it, but it’s probably leaning to a no but I’ll think on it.

I can’t really articulate my thoughts very well. But my thoughts is it’s silly and I don’t want anyone to make fun of him I guess. But I also remember being little. So I feel like I’m stopping him from exploring and being. Does that make sense? I feel like who am I to say about his body when he is his own person, although I would not like for him to do it, but it is really my choice now, something so trivial? 
Any thoughts?",-0.2356180555555553,1.7808471187499997,1.7416666666666671,98.40777777777781,87.1875,5.055555555555556,19.51388888888889,6.42735559955562,-0.12590277777777814,569,17,139,6,18,188,95,160,0.051,0.789,0.16,0.9461,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,0,4,1,15,1,1,2,0,27,33,13,0,4,7,1,2,3,0,2,0,3,0,1,11,2,0,1,10,0,1,2,5,0,1,0,7,7,22,7,15,22,3,19,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,1,12,89,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527771323570767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204049847989068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377861874142977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067070059675449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302837157010456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951299611545526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354821918944768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432629940327694,0.21804625706602465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681148290374788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228987193207853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236695635492635,0.15295322736858485,0.0,0.0,0.12815221750440314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373394322583885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738968008601222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652595058154035,0.0,0.0,0.13325134937296426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453714899406782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955290825888124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287502421205087,0.0,0.2903301575441316,0.12135994320906048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748503255632435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758705444154642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29335497927464216,0.0,0.3634609260047785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259175163856547,0.18002421028936494,0.0,0.1224128682477566,0.0,0.13721284754497826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168165756508436,0.0,0.0,0.09827449702605058
parenting,vonbrom,2020/03/06,"My son was abused in his first week of school and I’m still not sure how to deal with it. As the header says - my son was abused by a boy 2 years older than him in his first week of school. This was 6 years ago now, and I’m still worrying about if we handled it right. 
He was 4 years old in reception class (UK). I’d picked him up from school and asked the usual “how was your day? What did you do today? What did you have for lunch?”... and he very brazenly and confidently told me “a boy touched my willy.” He seemed calm about it all but the fact he felt he needed to tell me showed me he knew it was wrong and unnatural. I didn’t press the matter as we were still only just outside the school, walking home. 
When I got home I called my mom for advice, out if earshot from the little guy. She suggested gently probing for information throughout the evening.
Over dinner I brought it up in a casual way so as not to highlight the sinister weight this could carry. He casually and willingly told me about what happened, gave a fantastic description (even stood on the second step of our staircase to indicate the boy’s height) and said he felt okay. His innocence in it all broke my heart. Needless to say what he had described was full on sexual abuse. 
I don’t know how much detail I’m allowed to post in here but to keep it brief and tame my son had gone unsupervised (he’s 4 years old in a school which accommodates children up to 18 years old) and the other boy entered his cubicle, locked the door and interfered with him.
Fast forward to the following day, I called the school after sending him in (to keep his routine normal - I still doubt myself on this to this day) and asked to speak with his class teacher. She called me when the children were on their first break. I relayed everything my son told me and she decided with my permission she’d speak with my son in private at lunch break. 
She returned my call again at lunch and informed me as she was speaking with my son the boy in question walked past the classroom so my son pointed him out.  Nailed him. 
The head teacher obviously had to be brought in as the incident was quite a severe one. However, from this point on it the way everything was handled was appalling. The head decided to contact the parents of the other child and informed them of the allegation. They had the perfect opportunity to coach their child into coming up with a less horrific account which twisted everything my son had said. The head took sides (the accused boy’s brothers had previously attended the school when it was private and the parents had to pay for the education which I only discovered much later) and had the nerve to compare it to boys “giving wedgies” to each other. And preceded to brush the matter under the carpet.
After 2 weeks of trying to chase the head down for a meeting on the matter (this told me she found it to be a nonsense matter) I finally sat down in her office with my ex partner and had my opportunity to discuss what was to be done. She asked US what we wanted to do about it, as though we were making a mountain out of a mole hill. To summarise - nothing much was done, other than toilet cubicle doors were removed to prevent it or anything alike from happening again. Which brought an uproar to the PTA.
Fast forward again 5 years and I’m having a conversation with my son regarding his reception year and he genuinely can’t remember being in school then. To the point where he started to cry with frustration as he’s systematically telling me he was not at that school at that time. 
I’m worried it’s damaged him and I’m frightened of how this has affected him and how it could affect him in the future. 
What would you do? Was I wrong to keep him at the school? Should I have changed schools or would that have damaged him more? What do I do now? Would therapy be wise? Or not?",5.020554338756778,6.009135981382978,5.397024405506886,82.6312254901961,68.84042553191489,8.55761368377138,30.037651230705052,8.78556168762146,2.2470027325823945,3046,115,601,50,51,971,311,752,0.10400000000000001,0.8370000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.991,5,0,0,0,3,0,68.0,6,4,4,7,29,16,1,1,52,1,59,10,5,10,6,102,101,49,0,11,12,14,5,0,1,5,0,7,5,13,41,43,5,4,13,4,2,17,7,7,0,5,53,13,80,9,111,35,9,116,0,3,0,0,115,48,0,8,50,416,121,15,0.0,0.1855194513148284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051002104214009816,0.04626568108239122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0429501465345194,0.0,0.14637939226131547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131783364221996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521295807562702,0.04495939120535506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334325097250317,0.0,0.057331232226282475,0.10097992473947248,0.05380838385652399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682250986887347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689455746911589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072230511401834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022635741214866,0.05717455374202516,0.0,0.1331852566498502,0.0,0.05722660366139794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050067995486465,0.0,0.0,0.04174327158135672,0.0,0.0,0.051678980578506124,0.09230766779331354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21425907886346252,0.0,0.0,0.06184860301677315,0.0,0.0,0.10470707102148326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391738146017617,0.0,0.0,0.028683743991959068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052310798790835285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034839033782752535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112746162979275,0.0,0.0,0.1151029237362269,0.03870022710700885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05113776627500468,0.05008030509145465,0.0,0.16430238257262916,0.0,0.035367125546432295,0.07938980333425685,0.0,0.0,0.11590763767877195,0.0,0.049823839664455256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801692032441474,0.0,0.049986180998333914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846777095797059,0.055513362967884665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05912415686218313,0.044572282222892064,0.09929442297810533,0.08301146278107589,0.0,0.5810398080318183,0.0,0.047514275563776916,0.0,0.058962897053789036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03694226301959768,0.0,0.16672463654121802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049191003839416325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912374438457459,0.0,0.05968690323008121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05127906459274301,0.0,0.030433984184345977,0.0,0.049472578642522635,0.19948945323245135,0.05798801219871365,0.035435418552382456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278139403452955,0.0,0.05748288738299215,0.04306444510659972,0.03078460783057722,0.08285627475190678,0.12559751168021407,0.06355665008474888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600844449078038,0.0,0.11122859378499166,0.11412905229957895,0.0,0.2352727216058276
parenting,AcaBlueberries,2020/03/06,"Working parent life 5am - 9am: Parenting

9am - 5pm: Work

5pm - 9pm: Parenting

9pm - 5am: Sleep 8 hrs OR get chores done OR have a life (choose one)

Repeat eternally.",-3.587229729729728,-2.810436918918917,0.8840202702702733,96.96224662162165,120.8918918918919,5.093243243243244,15.435810810810812,6.6274283507984215,0.12965135135135109,122,4,31,3,8,46,22,37,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,6,0,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412524132667657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316878330161993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33303206459477513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597491839287272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7853119349202349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23591860575169174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432552147175949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aryaliana246,2020/03/06,"Daughter hates school This is a throwaway account, since the main one is too public.   
I’m the mother of a 15 year old daughter who actively hates school. It‘s a struggle each morning to get her out of bed and sometimes she refuses to go at all. She has severe anxiety and depression, and is currently meeting multiple doctors and a therapist. She is also on medication for that.

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We’ve tried almost everything to make her happy. In the process, we’ve probably been spoiling her, especially since my husband and I have been trying to make up for some mistakes we made in her childhood. This year, we’ve raised her allowance, gotten her a dog, and enrolled her in shooting lessons. She does almost no chores at home and has a considerable amount of freedom. 

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However, she’s still having several issues. Almost everyday, she tells us that she hates school. She says her teachers are awful and there’s too much work. Admittedly, her school is very stressful and is known for high levels of anxiety and depression due to its rigorous curriculum. Her friends apparently have similar mental illnesses, some of them being even more severe than she is. Yet, she refuses to move schools, which is understandable since she has a hard time making friends. So, what can we do to help her enjoy school?",5.5546153846153805,8.054315444444448,5.614025641025645,75.65180769230773,69.76923076923077,8.953504273504274,33.494871794871806,9.516144504307137,3.613675897435897,1050,51,169,25,20,330,140,234,0.17,0.745,0.085,-0.9545,3,0,0,1,0,0,38.0,3,0,1,2,8,12,3,2,10,1,20,3,0,5,1,33,33,12,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,0,3,1,3,0,9,14,0,2,5,0,1,2,1,8,0,1,4,2,28,4,24,28,8,22,0,2,0,0,41,10,0,5,10,118,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26138477384462394,0.0,0.0,0.06958211434668224,0.0,0.1885512714377365,0.21145410346704172,0.0,0.0,0.1331252996599043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988370689726746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905874034826336,0.0761433095913413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746948986443502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819925715490543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444790102711893,0.0,0.04545929632896409,0.0,0.04944996494867344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262409411074844,0.07794414817426104,0.2577140052177911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05832117742831223,0.09193117086940188,0.08727843641537515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908161587946204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233126017936218,0.17424017490607868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765373447918083,0.08768592854014509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247819066885772,0.06396259018950666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130268478440924,0.0,0.058960438642497226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381183179507263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919409172088195,0.0,0.5283544805214675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29489065511074625,0.0,0.21592748543249574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605542252081205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948654683623817,0.0,0.09967001738212547,0.09096206912040927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605084703170117,0.0,0.0,0.10102567750039364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050736412117859384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814857945331173,0.0,0.0,0.09058080243328816,0.10466269095020436,0.0,0.0,0.07179261911029118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633445427649366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21145410346704172,0.11206357520009798
parenting,theeme99,2020/03/06,How old should children be to be able to start spending the night at their fathers house? Me and the father of my baby are not together and my daughter is 18 months old at the moment. He wants her to spend a week at his house where he lived with his parents and grandparents and brother and brothers girlfriend. I am definitely not ok with that especially because my daughter isn’t attached or comfortable with his side of the family whatsoever .. they come see her about once every 3-4 months .. since she has been born they’ve viste es her about 5 times. What should I do ??,5.952233766233764,6.6910241454545485,5.771298701298702,81.67409090909094,66.63636363636364,8.83116883116883,31.168831168831172,8.841846274778883,2.372246753246753,456,17,88,7,7,142,78,110,0.017,0.924,0.059000000000000004,0.6859999999999999,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,5,1,11,0,0,1,0,16,15,7,0,3,3,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,9,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,15,2,13,10,0,16,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,1,10,56,17,0,0.20774921252402945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266419916961723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895755121702148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750376717015592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195847468361226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4794293966190591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344636080073215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316468787871601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949585626361885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4359957027297374,0.22124613113727365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306809150462004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554922500043304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718522954210031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704596190383667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211402364976731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253586814316685,0.0,0.1666438870474533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Latinboy714,2020/03/06,"Hi everyone! I want to share a piece of advice from my boss My boss brought an interesting point to consider in preparation to this Corona Virus situation here in the States. If you have young children and infants, you should consider to buy Infant/children Tylenol just in case that it’s needed, and there’s a shortage of it. 


I don’t want to panic anyone, but please stay safe and get ready!",5.789200000000001,6.843686853333337,5.836000000000002,79.93800000000002,67.13333333333333,9.2,31.0,9.3871,2.6838,314,12,59,6,5,99,56,75,0.047,0.743,0.21,0.8942,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,4,0,3,1,0,2,0,13,8,5,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,3,11,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,1,37,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30234626443867885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163426543717894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956490320804168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616509569844546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229419340222408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36301923721212936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396329679070079,0.29248703639114626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477833546195811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32978377631506545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36498930086214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Honeyvixennnn,2020/03/06,"My Mother is extremely worried about possibility of CPS coming to our home. My mother is a director of a childcare facility in Oregon. Recently she has had to deal with a very difficult employee fighting with their coworkers, and calling the state on my mother’s teachers stating lies (teachers let the children scream all day, don’t change diapers, don’t watch kids etc.) causing the state to show up randomly to investigate. They found no findings but this still shows up under my mother’s name because the license for the center is under her name. Anyway, this woman has also made false claims to the HR department of the center saying that my mother is a terrible boss, and lies about the teachers in the center. HR has decided based upon this woman lying and fighting with workers and refusing to do her job seriously that they will get rid of her. 

This woman is very revenge-driven and my mother fears that she will retaliate against her and our family if she is fired. My mother is stressing out and believes that the woman will call CPS on us and that they will take away the kids and that she will lose her job due to the lies the woman told HR. I am my mother’s oldest daughter of 7 kids and I am very worried about her. She has really high blood pressure and almost has panic attacks when she is under extreme stress. Please help me reassure my mother or give me tips on what we should expect if CPS does come to our house. Thank you. 


(P.S I’m sorry if this was hard to read or understand, if you have questions I can answer them.)",7.4270550847457635,7.110451084745763,7.640625,73.12229343220342,63.57627118644068,10.222457627118645,33.35275423728814,9.673873057562805,3.125411016949151,1230,44,216,21,16,401,156,295,0.215,0.747,0.038,-0.9952,3,0,0,0,4,0,26.0,5,2,5,2,7,15,3,5,17,0,29,1,1,3,1,42,40,20,0,6,7,10,2,0,0,6,0,2,1,9,12,18,0,1,6,3,0,3,3,13,0,0,5,5,38,2,35,28,2,29,0,1,1,0,57,17,0,9,6,156,50,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339021081221027,0.0,0.0,0.09854152900773144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018415131981202,0.11577222973476692,0.0,0.0,0.07511570412937968,0.0,0.0,0.1388303222302379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251649278928398,0.0,0.0,0.12658414472673749,0.1303537809744209,0.21229170970693745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946875426279912,0.1270376833317536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783343135357884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742641336903733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616384337356045,0.13866033063163585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262375012202915,0.0,0.0,0.13510785184467125,0.0,0.0,0.06437902340179848,0.11820689825260434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038376183898023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259389717138002,0.130192050442828,0.1236028921300696,0.0,0.0,0.14218300038174753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445599762694798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260040456762124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785521422838107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659674816412847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445758466498296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526204358326346,0.0,0.1389156158662519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803815762014582,0.0,0.12325652154097146,0.0,0.07893992159887575,0.0,0.1216680201499827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799201505296068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379382566538307,0.0,0.0,0.09840618720774386,0.0,0.28230346264348954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264849273751838,0.0,0.0,0.11344734453639807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774502489864395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827967149792505,0.14822230817693682,0.0,0.0,0.3050160745338904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25027823243345243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrewBeer,2020/03/06,"I've been waking my son up with obnoxious music, what other songs should I play? preface: before everyone gets mad and says this is so mean. he agreed to it, and I said I would stop as soon as he told me to.

so my 6yo of course has trouble waking up on days for school, so as a joke I decided to play music to wake him up. I usually also include jumping and dancing on the bed, pretty much being an annoying father. 

Here is my list so far.

1. Chattanooga Choo Choo (polka)
2. Welcome to the Jungle
3. The Marriage of Figaro (opera)
4. Achy Breaky Heart
5. Enter Sandman 
6. Smells Like Teen Spirit 
7. Bohemian Rhapsody

what should be my next songs?",1.0162790697674424,3.4121940387596936,2.948496124031009,89.24088372093027,85.35658914728683,5.300465116279073,21.0031007751938,6.742157984588678,0.5874161240310078,497,16,98,6,15,166,95,129,0.096,0.7609999999999999,0.142,0.6809999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,7,8,2,0,5,0,9,4,4,0,0,10,13,11,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,4,1,0,5,4,0,1,2,7,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,5,11,5,17,5,1,14,1,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,6,58,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107932845928593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22429616176750813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999411214985222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518720867514225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771519417646666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31235609606575204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287770386368079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871274063108712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937693989857321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803315628900645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26816637347821115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507349948884961,0.20961780200574973,0.0,0.2667677305300329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22037352036621755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518720867514225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903077744321779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724717903028024,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway_3959558328,2020/03/06,"Embarrassed by my living conditions My husband, my 6 year old daughter and myself live in a one bedroom apartment.  She just started kindergarten this year and i have been approached by a few parents for play dates. While I’m all good and happy to meet somewhere else (ex: a park, or children’s museum, or whatever child friendly place is available) i know eventually my child will want them to come over.  I have no problem but I’m worried other families will. 
     I haven’t been able to find a job that will hire me hours that i don’t have to put my child in daycare while I’m working, which for us means i would just be handing over my paycheck, and then some, to a daycare facility. So that’s why we live in a one bedroom. She has a bed and a play space, but we opted out of a dining room table to give her a play space and her bed is right next to ours in the bedroom. We are a regular family that makes it work but I’m worried other ppl will judge me and potentially take it out on my daughter because our living situation is “unconventional.”  Am i worrying too much? Any advice would be helpful.",3.5930942788074134,5.099686885844747,4.844163309159281,83.277219983884,72.83561643835617,7.527370400214881,29.320709105560034,8.124751697461798,2.0063266720386785,864,36,171,13,17,286,128,219,0.066,0.843,0.091,0.6428,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,1,2,4,8,0,1,12,0,21,2,1,1,1,30,33,16,0,4,7,5,1,0,1,6,0,0,6,4,10,13,1,0,3,4,0,3,3,2,0,2,2,1,28,6,21,23,4,28,0,0,0,0,24,15,0,3,10,118,38,4,0.13086291562589128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278777265991515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899127010619444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977281873987427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272681441726495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931917404286336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24673182070170416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960633410045518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110436399306587,0.0,0.0,0.1255356330264309,0.0,0.10976160487801903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930600706978954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771465387216261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887361156454455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298612512795617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191883606708578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4622174080696709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735201234747579,0.0,0.0,0.14254807889489654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619930026508597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917419537554462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731861643753146,0.0,0.17735219677395975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530778122060342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672389407726787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521813683118352,0.0,0.13155337478384854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175621492168801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470954001047319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262544522773612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983926264598759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574119747721283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718633817738221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808342692791594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19053952229090346,0.3986929291655459,0.0,0.1859225212403182,0.0,0.0,0.1685428543077019
parenting,biscuitpleasedarl,2020/03/06,"Tips for returning to the workforce after very traumatic birth? I'm a first-time mum with an 11-month-old. I've always been very career-focused, working long hours in finance and startups in Australia and London. We moved back to Australia when I was 4 months' pregnant with a much wanted baby after many years of trying. I found freelance work, however I couldn't work during the last two months of my pregnancy because I had full placenta praevia and spent a lot of time in and out of hospital on bed rest. Pretty much everything that could go wrong at the birth did go wrong. I ended up with a massive haemmorrhage and total hysterectomy, my baby was moved to a different hospital for CPAP because she couldn't breathe. Fun times. 

In the end, I was physically OK, milk eventually came in and my daughter thrived. I've struggled with PTSD, post-natal depression and anxiety, but after excellent treatment and lots of amazing family support, I'm in recovery. I'm also in a situation I never expected - unemployed, with over a year off taking care of a baby and no experience working flexibly or working part-time. Any advice on how to negotiate finding a new job with a baby at home? Any questions to ask or techniques that have worked for other Reddit parents with prospective employers? Interview tips? I can't rely on my 'stay at the office till the work is done' approach any more. Any advice appreciated! It helps so much just reading other people's stories.",7.102539508340652,8.10158840671642,7.6418173836698875,68.35322651448642,64.18656716417911,10.335733099209833,37.03336259877085,10.328600350310266,4.223769271290607,1175,57,184,27,17,388,165,268,0.062,0.804,0.134,0.9765,7,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,8,6,10,0,1,17,1,13,2,1,1,2,36,26,17,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,19,1,0,3,1,2,6,5,4,0,1,10,0,14,6,42,13,9,48,0,1,0,0,9,18,0,5,23,121,19,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860201884680182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611647533186232,0.07919849150111663,0.0,0.0,0.2589062736320564,0.0,0.07281345704101214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898169515394284,0.0,0.0,0.0731885676914817,0.0,0.11604331083498423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886208509445948,0.09704370958974083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599454714842775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197954018652147,0.0,0.0,0.09944423169196176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740354699412654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860481439246305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554284221007043,0.09310560475076177,0.08972848714275787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699401140074324,0.08096119080109444,0.0,0.10436141569580236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818748675626087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379803926235476,0.0,0.09547463475046268,0.0,0.09373443737757932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445278345242736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758548775411328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423248199982887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183952635172738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649892947030413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279184889255455,0.2023253815976347,0.20990768809055646,0.0,0.07340970955356926,0.09192672177004106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987679476797404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568760317915113,0.10307210519814967,0.0,0.06598674987799617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115740373269096,0.09683363106710988,0.0,0.0,0.1112618814517828,0.0,0.10662487303728754,0.0,0.09520708756841413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698780302856248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145063365958233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950419235383463,0.0,0.0,0.10801064550297217,0.0,0.0,0.07156451480914454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100199807539717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462187530437824,0.0,0.0929783291671032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706913113596194,0.05614041458494344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850519936670628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20813168540418972,0.0,0.1225873119465688
parenting,KatNipCrazy,2020/03/06,"My boy won’t go to bed like he used to. I’m not sure how this goes it’s my first post on reddit so bare with me. My son just turned 2 he used to be so easy to put to bed. I had a routine with him dinner, shower, brush teeth, read a book, then to bed. Now I can’t even get him to lay down without screaming bloody murder. That or he would just climb out his crib and start doing whatever he wants around the house. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to resort to spanking him to stay in bed. Please help!",-0.2706403162055331,1.2583434695652225,1.5185770750988148,102.79581027667984,83.8695652173913,4.529644268774704,14.802371541501975,4.851557810540192,-1.3520434782608697,389,5,104,1,11,127,80,115,0.017,0.8009999999999999,0.182,0.9531,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,8,4,1,0,3,0,9,2,1,3,1,19,19,7,1,3,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,5,1,4,6,1,0,1,2,0,3,6,2,0,1,1,2,12,2,19,15,0,14,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,1,5,60,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206855213537334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347570663378665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19765060067647014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140176715715235,0.0,0.13205908615886838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575018916365774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26811943695262713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770240578277653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352240508582115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255068347617047,0.0,0.0,0.22254262104591369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233592246029538,0.0,0.0,0.2324291164736669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447001702376138,0.2476714890605822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190024264239788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527477378950084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40137964081727506,0.0,0.0,0.2741112514562999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22399275840669847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506630633900138,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LiveToSee22,2020/03/06,"Can you observe sleep apnea in your children? We brought our five year old son into the ENT because he was mouth breathing and snoring some at night. The ENT recommended a sleep study for him. Between that recommendation and the sleep study we had him on Flonase nightly (recommended by his pediatrician) and the snoring went away and the mouth breathing lessened. He did the sleep study and we got the results back and he got a score of 7 (meaning his breathing is interrupted 7 times an hour on average when he sleeps).

The part we're having a hard time understanding is that we never observe him stopping breathing when we sleeps. While we know the sleep studies are typically well done, it kind of begs the question, is it possible to observe sleep apnea or can kids stop breathing without it being apparent to the naked eye? The recommended next step from the doctor is to remove his tonsils and adenoids and while that might not be a terrible thing, we'd hate to put him through an unnecessary surgery.",7.71907114624506,8.378429326086959,7.094505928853756,73.99160079051387,62.80434782608695,9.51699604743083,38.466403162055336,9.339509955726095,3.6204413043478265,812,40,140,13,11,252,109,184,0.051,0.895,0.054000000000000006,-0.2874,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,8,2,0,0,4,4,1,0,19,0,16,17,16,1,1,28,24,13,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,7,15,0,2,4,0,0,5,3,2,1,1,8,2,17,2,18,12,2,27,0,0,1,0,25,6,0,4,16,96,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549929395572246,0.07815911590374584,0.0,0.0619621538410128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040384771453024,0.0,0.1040186378703508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259038494694902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105440349512027,0.10035388829524858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001003433493796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584814743975174,0.05586170897365952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072174875790697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782981343090732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839527645416038,0.0,0.10810114323123717,0.19077483366919215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665985446348994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007217207179876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459002962147725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218180296776716,0.11386622354837375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8137512636253935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699603800862251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752875415424807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854061784204177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581655104155724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139151234243,0.09422639757328896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798263553159953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545636992890401
parenting,Dadality0628,2020/03/06,"Dad looking for help with 3 year old daughter Hey all. So first things first, my daughter is my best friend. Im the bread winner in my family. For the past 3 years with my beautiful daughter ive worked a 24 on, 72 off schedule while my wife worked a 9-5. So since I had 3 days off in a row with my daughter, we formed a great bond. 

Recently, my wife has stopped working, due to mortgage, her student loans, everything else, I've had to pick up a second job and overtime. No big deal, I do what I have to, that is not what this post is about. 

While I'm home, my daughter is great. We share our bond, do things together, everything is perfect, we're a happy, loving family, with a 2 month old to boot. 

But since I'm working extra, I have to spend 36-48 hours up to a week away from home. My daughter and i still have an incredible relationship, but when I'm away she changes. 

My daughter always behaves with me, I tell her to pick up her toys, she does it, eat her food, she does it. But she reacts incredibly poorly to my wife. Especially while I'm away. My wife will tell me how poorly she behaves while I'm gone, to the point where I hardly believe its the same girl!

My wife disciplines her properly, with my support, and I talk to my daughter how it is not ok to treat her mother how my wife describes, but she still acts up to my wife, especially while I'm gone. 

How can we, specifically I, improve my parenting for my 3 year old girl to respect my wife the way she respects me?",4.723424707602341,4.554783674342108,5.630219298245617,84.77764619883044,69.16447368421052,8.860818713450293,30.046783625730995,8.515128840125781,1.9524077485380118,1143,40,253,16,18,377,145,304,0.027999999999999997,0.8390000000000001,0.133,0.9831,3,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,4,0,0,8,11,13,0,0,14,1,17,4,0,7,2,30,28,19,0,0,6,19,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,10,12,3,2,0,1,4,3,3,0,0,3,4,2,50,13,36,23,5,45,0,0,1,1,48,15,0,0,25,159,60,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823858499606743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989005063712454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194772808337234,0.1112885047224268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218237519747253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839075583802551,0.10932854382288312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560275527891065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851130838725352,0.08858764258197731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061422029867986,0.0,0.199941049109582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18040497439990968,0.1282309794001417,0.0,0.08193070739250216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338316959962207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288770585645093,0.09499619031962596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108025169840979,0.0,0.21274512970435594,0.0,0.10443373305264884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454764109705938,0.0,0.10523407457406757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890517477817438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571045771443598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464473070992119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338316252202003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775129020004994,0.0,0.10123269735631092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002475401315734,0.0,0.10156254449839462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470741534284553,0.1138534823375992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544433188684425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693765954860656,0.0886590213856723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033949565263807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852355818768559,0.18537737361476367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090420969103312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417420498419581,0.08506352898703845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30881036645646315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048700184741063
parenting,Mister_Johnson_,2020/03/06,"My wife wants to take our 4yo son to hand out food to the homeless this weekend No law enforcement presence, no real organization. I said I'm not comfortable with it, I don't want him to go, and I explained why.

As a former taxi driver I've spent a lot of time dealing with the homeless. A good percentage of them are unpredictable due to serious mental health issues and/or drug abuse, plus there's the common presence of communicable diseases, blood, and fecal matter.

She's not fighting me on the issue, but she's not happy with me. I'm not thrilled about *her* going either. I know things would most likely be fine, but I feel it would be irresponsible to put him in that situation at his age. 

Am I overreacting?",4.228814229249013,6.041915478260872,5.3780895915678535,78.84918972332021,71.7536231884058,7.9167325428195,27.03820816864296,8.575989854853784,1.992744927536232,568,20,106,10,11,188,99,138,0.151,0.782,0.067,-0.8914,0,0,1,0,3,0,19.0,1,0,1,0,2,8,1,0,7,0,7,5,2,0,0,26,19,6,0,4,7,2,2,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,7,1,0,3,1,1,3,7,2,0,0,2,3,17,6,19,13,3,13,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,2,7,69,22,0,0.0,0.2302931774817561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003838994615409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254040767774759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982778232735196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23502941487632534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209265535188644,0.16302586436499222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690734468603045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066030908489936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057374153276447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068190504957606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495792539640643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524391984705855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19587627619739464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953925751915058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22123226137906024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488757926822555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847671390044168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613983636253636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291288349828278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333699304686885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292854502723528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753860356132516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27614555894846843,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,proxysever07,2020/03/06,"Finally sleeping in his own room and I’m freaking out... For 9 months of his life, my son has slept next to my bedside. We had no choice in this because at the time we lived in a small apartment so we couldn’t give him a room of his own. Some points were hard since I had to make sure to be quiet when he was sleeping or turn off lights late at night. But I was able to watch over him, hear his breathing, jump to him quickly when he cried.

We bought a house 2-3 weeks ago and have been living there for a while. My son finally has his own room. Daddy and his godfather put together the crib and tonight is the night. I wasn’t prepared for this and didn’t have the things I wanted for him - a good night light, soothing music and anything else I thought would be best.

I’m laying next to the baby monitor just watching it for any cries. I know I need to let him be on his own, but my heart hurts so much. He cried a little bit ago in his sleep and I was just so heartbroken that he sensed he might be by himself. My son is a cuddle bug and super sweet and when he is upset he likes being held close. The rocker is next to the crib so I can cuddle him when he cries badly, but still...

I’m just freaking out. Did any parents freak out at this stage? I know it might not be normal for babies to stay in parent’s room for 9 months, but it’s so hard to let go. I just want him safe, but above all I don’t want him to be afraid when he is alone.",2.449906158357773,3.115179058064516,3.4183577712609967,95.65208211143695,74.54838709677419,6.410557184750734,21.51026392961877,6.1124844417494595,-0.040806451612903416,1108,23,271,6,22,355,153,310,0.141,0.77,0.08900000000000001,-0.96,2,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,0,0,2,17,14,0,2,14,0,34,9,6,1,2,46,52,26,0,7,11,5,2,1,0,3,1,2,4,0,8,17,0,2,3,0,1,3,6,7,0,0,14,9,38,7,35,25,9,52,0,1,2,2,37,23,0,4,25,172,46,0,0.09471916867113997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679256559987138,0.0,0.0,0.0981004929366496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288245655101374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794580522013664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908654941808335,0.057739926070388324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940192381204367,0.0,0.10340880013927993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4161782364629354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912571132647922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752043888569213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086325749352532,0.05383108635990744,0.07944594476083297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969954077715182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675538707186966,0.11224267093031698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929320340747624,0.10139882909089806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411035596279483,0.0,0.10684734793763463,0.0,0.0,0.1937135347725168,0.06690295001103368,0.046275001362705175,0.09493349062693322,0.16727752254446268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322578059438455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20096413922794606,0.0,0.0,0.15120787351944687,0.0,0.06962948750051783,0.07023306338742198,0.0,0.0,0.30220473134189235,0.26666257003622906,0.09280467451399324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103488551028484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954023033517626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521892612442837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835267512564842,0.0,0.28436272116590344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095803101702548,0.0756428504545105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927169551723259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292720686398882,0.0,0.0,0.07519643969107477,0.055231508963518715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302725622021702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760345931383086,0.0,0.0759780037358092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067285779798265,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AiNamaste,2020/03/06,"Another toddler doesn't like my toddler because ""I am black"" So my 3 year old toddler keeps saying that another kid doesn't like him. He even started hating going to day care for the last few weeks.

Today he said that the other toddler doesn't like him because ""I am black"" (implying the other kid doesnt want to play with him because he is darker) and he was very upset about it. The other toddler is a blonde white kid and mine is darker (neither black nor white)
If he was older, I would just ask him to ignore the haters and move on but he is just beginning to talk and it's hard for me to have any decent conversation.

Not sure what to do. I have video recording of him saying it, to show as proof to day care but what can I expect from them.

Complain to the other toddler's parents? Raise it up with the daycare?",3.1420250231696016,4.586845704819278,4.175542168674698,87.86941149212238,73.87951807228916,6.312511584800742,24.817423540315108,6.67199483983844,0.8446539388322516,641,20,130,5,13,208,92,166,0.134,0.828,0.038,-0.8588,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,0,5,12,2,1,8,0,17,0,0,0,2,19,27,10,0,4,6,1,1,3,0,1,0,3,0,3,12,6,0,2,0,3,0,2,7,5,0,0,3,10,15,7,19,23,2,14,0,0,6,0,23,2,0,1,13,86,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175567198416598,0.3625360434349374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160900331235367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161376692025708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525025491456168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297216486005889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417821972588126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824532942027828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485650033749282,0.17067216235725172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536537426307721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091115398231965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533649082840437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837321890093061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813967381556404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191950357685418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443782643242674,0.27494443492977083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235743463209707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292680915556346,0.0,0.0,0.13894540264477107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638594204183561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263487389234916,0.10196250398375344,0.0,0.1386649334143689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280104394297076,0.0,0.0,0.11132184697173483
parenting,defchick,2020/03/06,"Very odd behavior in 6 year old tonight Hi everyone!

Tonight my 6 year old son was playing around us in the living room while we watched tv. He started dancing funny to which we laughed and cheered him on. 

Then we asked him if he wanted music to dance to, he asked for the ""birdie song"" and started dancing really oddly and talking in a baby voice and looking up to the ceiling saying things like ""I'm a birdie! Fly with me my fwends"". The whole thing was surreal, it almost looked like he had autism. Then he stuffed his head into the couch cushion and became emotional and said ""I'm free I flew away!"". Me and my bf looked at each other like what is going on. My bf and I have been together for 3 years. I'm separated from his dad, 50/50 custody.

So I sense that he's emotional so I bring him on my lap and hug him and ask him if everything is ok and if he wants to talk and he starts saying he went to a ""bird school"" with his dad in another city with his new girlfriend's son. That they left at 4 am to go there, dad did homework at this school. They had pizza and danced, there was lots of people and then they had cake. He kept referring to it as ""bird school"". We asked him if it was someone's birthday, he said no. Then he said he didn't like it at bird school. At this point we were kind of worried and I messaged my son's dad to find out what this may be. He said he has no idea. That they went to IKEA that weekend...I asked my son if he may have dreamt that and he said yes....

Now in parallel with all this, my son's dad has decided to make a bold move last week. He was sleeping with a family friend's wife for a while (they're all friends, kids are friends, etc) and she left the husband, took the 4 kids and moved them into my exes house with my son the next day. They were at IKEA to get everyone beds and my son refers to them all as his new siblings. I couldn't believe what I was hearing and when I told him that they weren't his siblings, they're friends for now, maybe eventually they will become step brothers/sisters he started crying saying that dad told him they were his siblings. 

Im really worried about my son. He's never displayed odd behaviour like this before. I know hes going through a lot right now and probably can't process it all and he's also in for a surprise when he goes back to dad's next week because after only a few days, they've realized how impulsive their decision was and she moved out with the kids to a family member's place. 

Any insight would be helpful!! TIA",3.1892257671205044,4.254083293436294,3.9865474497053452,90.76033732981102,73.20849420849422,7.2286933550091454,25.793741109530586,7.573540080772713,1.094759845559845,1958,63,435,23,38,626,235,518,0.034,0.855,0.111,0.9888,0,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,6,0,11,0,14,18,0,0,19,2,34,4,2,2,5,72,71,42,0,9,5,17,0,5,7,4,0,11,4,3,24,41,1,1,9,7,1,16,7,0,0,0,29,15,58,19,57,35,10,78,0,0,4,1,105,28,0,10,39,250,82,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989880011040042,0.0,0.0,0.05582237515719552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474692340726077,0.07319576596195343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214051690816231,0.3262874132932525,0.0,0.06558332213956343,0.05367510338699929,0.0,0.04255197842300727,0.07709322930206633,0.05939821333819189,0.07864540370712778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667661072386676,0.09003583886718257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704060756324592,0.0,0.0,0.07785010929749565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340176510290874,0.0627354933218306,0.0,0.13161033139625475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379975320282369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21572213608916246,0.0,0.03646980144084328,0.0,0.11901396734461135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163922414585988,0.0,0.07867438073412544,0.0,0.04678826845921849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054464821286524,0.0,0.07880041928151045,0.07540048965723242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269030862820612,0.03836255016277558,0.05689972092482259,0.0,0.0,0.1516848851906416,0.0,0.0,0.17051397477631194,0.0,0.06163836719576715,0.0,0.1758537842403867,0.0,0.0,0.1186900301922837,0.0,0.0,0.04659483021073341,0.0,0.07012767815308261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222572379490583,0.0,0.0,0.05383728462219956,0.1348346183200181,0.1484750683806389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649548294841308,0.0,0.0,0.05308922213357311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048393427192123285,0.0,0.07293050794226709,0.0,0.0659875100042347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526070913218755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943668649643759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05961238578633338,0.3319987867909828,0.16653324994378993,0.0,0.2825822153157075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985458877916535,0.0,0.05914485268061041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763102314858888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122119067347437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274958701652383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340176510290874,0.07755500911723409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396583021427688,0.0,0.0,0.057595756540608875,0.08234462436095903,0.0,0.11198540059258427,0.0,0.0,0.12941834290345122,0.0,0.07793387081129928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177906031358414,0.0,0.04958688458763617,0.0,0.0,0.1348548041765866
parenting,TooStonedToBeSad,2020/03/06,"Expecting 2nd baby! My wife and I just found out we are pregnant! I noticed the wrapper to the test on our bathroom counter and asked her about it. She had put her test to the side and was going to show me the “expected” negative results, and to our surprise it was positive! We are over the top with joy! We’re excited to bring another baby into the world!
What was it like having a second child for yall? Was the pregnancy mindset or challenges different with the expertly got through the first?",3.8515625,5.804229364583339,4.823333333333334,81.855,73.0625,8.55,31.79166666666667,9.188382445141503,3.0258791666666665,393,19,73,9,8,128,67,96,0.035,0.785,0.18,0.9236,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,1,0,3,2,5,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,1,0,16,13,5,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,7,0,12,5,14,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,1,2,57,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596852501277011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206763897379182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583817676665865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29177172147666497,0.0,0.3761025450837919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19494555935237934,0.0,0.2743435688541903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675817196846218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905293184259663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34482876102765475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redditaccount1_2,2020/03/06,"This Playground/Swingset worth it? https://www.amazon.com/Step2-Naturally-Playful-Adventure-Center/dp/B003NY672U/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=step+2+glider&qid=1583437042&s=toys-and-games&sr=1-1

This playground is a plastic step2 playground/swingset. I am leaning towards this so my small 20 month old can play on it (she was a preemie and is 20 lbs and in 12 month clothes). She is really adventurous but the bigger playgrounds just don't seem safe for her or something that she would be able to do alone. 

That said, I have a 4 year old too and I'm worried that she might get too bored with this playground to make it worth the $950. 

Anybody have experiences with this playground? or do you have a suggestion? 

The other option I was thinking was a plastic/wood playhouse and a metal swingset like this: 

https://www.amazon.com/FITNESS-REALITY-KIDS-Ultimate-Station/dp/B0757RNM7S/ref=sr_1_8?keywords=metal+swing+set&qid=1583465239&s=toys-and-games&sr=1-8",15.510367965367973,20.58185873809524,8.262987012987018,56.22292207792211,48.920634920634924,6.486580086580088,31.29581529581529,7.348242739294969,1.9398031746031743,835,25,100,6,11,207,78,126,0.09699999999999999,0.8170000000000001,0.086,-0.5303,0,1,1,0,0,0,75.0,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,9,0,17,0,0,1,0,17,23,8,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,13,6,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,10,4,8,16,0,10,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,5,6,68,23,0,0.12972164046403878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435249752092107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8433200594739426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689265600505906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777420307919653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337544103757282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659020231479239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137614160791488,0.0,0.0,0.2070851516035109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722420802766273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310300459370741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339498603806298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180937094743728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099866056455161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312038927908795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173862272950612,0.0,0.09215053148996316,0.0,0.0,0.08353648336779394
parenting,frieshahn,2020/03/06,"You work and I stay home: What the ratio?

My husband wants a HUGE family. 
How many kids = per $50k? 

[All you working moms— We love you! You’re incredible. You’re worth is beautiful! Please don’t hate on the stay-at-home moms. They’re also beautiful]",-1.0558823529411754,0.6489693921568679,1.2068431372549036,95.49379411764707,109.98039215686272,5.177254901960784,14.903921568627453,6.742157984588678,0.009876862745097805,193,5,43,4,10,64,40,51,0.067,0.637,0.29600000000000004,0.9114,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,3,0,2,2,2,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,5,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,5,1,3,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,0,17,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068929047636372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24389184160292934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554257878785976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595104992532663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334988227438925,0.0,0.0,0.2622946443282727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030018494620609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28398947512790684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5515078357590857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259578688415376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37669267674925305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GrUvGrL,2020/03/06,"Teen girl at the gym? I haven’t been to a gym in well over a decade... and when I did back then, I don’t ever remember seeing kids at the gym. 

Is 14 too young? 

My daughter expressed interest in going when I mentioned I was thinking of going back to the gym. I thought it would be kinda cool 🤷🏻‍♀️but... is she too young?",-1.5122857142857136,0.4679223428571469,1.1314285714285717,99.41857142857144,97.0,3.9428571428571435,17.0,5.6839178017228535,-0.6108857142857143,244,7,59,2,10,83,49,70,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.7682,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,5,1,9,0,0,0,1,7,14,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,2,8,3,8,8,0,15,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,8,41,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5199750686207371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058419868012485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843140918341762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830153926684268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26943177526239515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664874782662574,0.0,0.2684234462204943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30400361718606955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24018531953484645,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Der_scharfrichter,2020/03/06,"Looking for books on how to discipline/understand toddlers 2 years old I want to read some books on child development and how to understand my 2 year old. I want her to be disciplined without having to spank or anything and to pass the info off to her father who I can imagine might also have some difficulty. I love her and I hear how bad it is to spank and I just want to be able to stand in line, do college homework, read a book, whatever and her be content with herself. 

Any and all help is greatly appreciated",4.695714285714286,5.6881003921568665,5.82619047619048,79.24500000000003,69.58823529411765,8.965826330532213,32.21848739495798,9.23628265651192,2.80310756302521,408,18,80,8,7,136,65,102,0.057,0.805,0.138,0.7574,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,3,1,24,17,11,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,7,0,1,3,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,12,2,17,13,3,10,0,0,1,1,11,4,0,4,4,58,14,7,0.1906330649124398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244919313664876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963702122680018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568747694331286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917064645344628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21017362705980397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485731894546448,0.0,0.127777325038262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600837623621945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205378389525197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223155637865334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40007466738488495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38136930585432255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39691148721994535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373209624532745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376347181880656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24552288730613556
parenting,Symeswashere,2020/03/06,"I love basketball but I don’t think my daughter does Hello, fellow parents! I have a bit of a dilemma on my hands. Recently, I’ve started taking my 7 year old daughter to play basketball with me. It is my favorite sport and I am (relatively) good at it, so I really enjoy playing it. When we play together, she loses interest in about 30 minutes and wants to go do other things. When I ask her if she enjoys playing, she assures me that she does, but I get the impression that she is only interested in it because she knows I enjoy it. Knowing this, am I a bad dad if I continue to bring her with me to play? I really enjoy the quality time, but don’t want to ever feel like I am forcing my interests onto her. Am I simply overthinking it?",2.8435999999999986,4.332443426666668,5.490333333333336,77.96350000000002,74.73333333333333,8.733333333333334,29.16666666666667,9.2995712137729,2.784666666666668,574,25,110,14,12,206,88,150,0.053,0.586,0.361,0.9955,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,1,5,19,0,0,5,0,10,2,1,0,2,18,23,10,0,4,5,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,4,6,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,31,17,14,23,1,16,0,1,0,1,18,5,0,2,10,82,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984672992090344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725757526063432,0.1294131475740563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317713101427725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715618172503928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920331092685968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073428021051827,0.1516636912341921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091544907600637,0.0,0.1206522210415366,0.17806309209610766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333437151231546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371668250910088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23750395991845386,0.0,0.0,0.19160465341585114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276803871809006,0.0,0.0,0.16146002120665676,0.0,0.0,0.23572863077685294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720034070575678,0.0,0.20961584037863693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502635935613246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596195256654032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103945852623756,0.13603015432714702,0.0,0.0,0.12379100401895594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25043434921919433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671111051120968
parenting,-NotNowSilentSinger-,2020/03/06,"I really need some real life advice with my 11 year old Sorry this is really long and probably a bit muddled. 

My daughter is 11 and a half and I am at breaking point with her. She doesn't wash, clean her teeth, won't tidy up her room, won't keep her things tidy, she lies compulsively, tries to control everything, interrogates me when she gets home from school. She is hyper critical of me to the point where she's made me cry over a jacket potato being slightly over done. She says some really nasty things. She's causing problems with her friends, she had one girl message her saying she made her feel suicidal. She won't even do the most basic of tasks like clean herself after going to the toilet. She is playing up at school, not doing her work and disrupting other children. Everhthing is a battle, last night was an hour and a half just trying to get her to wash conditioner out of her hair because she just refused to do it properly. The night before I asked her to run a bath for herself and she turned the shower on spray, on cold, and drenched the whole bathroom. 

I cannot find a reason for why she is like this. I have got the school and the professionals involved but when they talk to her she is the sweetest kindest child and no one believes what she's putting me through. She has figured out that the worse she behaves, the more attention she gets from them, so like being taken out of lessons to go to inclusion groups etc. There is a two year wait for a mental health assessment. 

 She's not being bullied or abused by anyone. She's very intelligent and is more than capable of doing the things she needs to do.

Ive tried everything I can think of. Reward charts, lists, using tech as an Incentive, using other rewards as an incentive. She simply doesn't respond to reward based parenting,if I offer a reward (xbox time in exchange for tidying her room), she will refuse to tidy her room and use what would have been xbox time to make my life a misery. Ive tried to send her to her room but that turns into a battle where she refuses to stay in there, instead she will be in and out coming into the living room with anything she can think of. I've spent hours upon hours talking to her, taken her out for ice cream to chat with her. I have a rule where she can ask or say anything to me about how she feels and I won't get angry or annoyed and I make a point of letting her know she is very mu h loved and cared for by everyone.

I know this sounds like I'm just being horrible about her, I love her to death, but I feel like I have no control over this situation. I also know it probably doesn't sound that bad but it's the consantness of it, I'm exhausted, the professionals don't want to help me and I don't know what to do. She can honestly be the kindest most loving person, and she can be so much fun to be around, she's genuinely funny and clever and intelligent and I tell her these things all the time, but I'm seeing it less and less.

I will happily try any suggestions that anyone has, I just need to get on top of this",5.099296814630378,5.414473835236542,5.638999313127848,83.36585193612092,68.39641109298533,8.801734352193698,27.87709281360007,8.6894789155246,1.8467676998368685,2403,72,494,36,38,776,270,613,0.11,0.74,0.149,0.9886,2,0,0,0,1,0,55.0,0,0,2,9,20,24,3,0,34,0,57,11,2,12,1,95,103,37,2,6,14,1,4,5,1,8,6,5,10,4,24,35,0,11,14,5,2,6,14,6,0,5,10,12,90,18,79,76,13,58,0,0,2,3,89,34,0,7,21,349,114,6,0.0,0.0861462733127451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104874197297745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814400963985436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049443464126023205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167728353943524,0.0,0.11966384233983846,0.06472492085761768,0.1359430404060159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070756696937987,0.044321701408351705,0.0,0.06186856577135055,0.08191624054692424,0.0,0.0,0.07937755163007709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412994836232474,0.07469043565040158,0.0,0.06263090972889655,0.0,0.0,0.16309486147020974,0.0,0.0,0.07986556610186077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440482169846074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810878701006658,0.04802249261967921,0.0,0.0,0.06947495062933827,0.13068928429482454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028900183080304,0.05194211688208625,0.0,0.0,0.06645316425177486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561734874455689,0.0,0.18993284328807652,0.0,0.08264247977118916,0.0,0.058150677847465276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728447071752823,0.0,0.0,0.048734177373572884,0.0,0.07293136024874125,0.0,0.21480616410729506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462559793967212,0.0,0.0,0.15983214474071347,0.059266161868633024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434815067547336,0.1027106467061319,0.17760559569894627,0.0,0.06420188690150358,0.06434368149646535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968635582166427,0.13759482966209824,0.0970653881821094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327186766581599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344823875341262,0.16173464756378866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646177045119465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629409129190108,0.0,0.09853671004358784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634852187509041,0.0,0.0,0.2061957274475617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678155524416545,0.06957107645448847,0.0,0.07309092857109074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275683658004587,0.13973449393263213,0.07475522419559785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345931381136995,0.0,0.2207510385186021,0.057938312723764575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172606289923144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813898810516303,0.0,0.0774963185795714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952999640459947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168787635516862,0.06354939375510893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932140245338929,0.09317581707329516,0.0,0.0,0.12718865169464774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468174547140651,0.15816934997622156,0.0710244772083738,0.0,0.0,0.1883873147901223,0.0,0.11998229075998752,0.042884655294147166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560703849064288,0.08117511522866926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293178771208547,0.0,0.07409496057833713,0.051649187039334014,0.0,0.0,0.09364224783752527
parenting,RKJ98,2020/03/06,"We're sending my 8 yr old stepdaughter to boarding school Firstly, multiple disclaimers: my stepdaughter (hereby referred to as J) is whats called 'callous-and-unemotional' (the child version of psychopathy). She is exactly what you would expect from a psychopathic child. Shes incredibly intelligent and self aware, completely self serving and unable to feel empathy, guilt, or remorse. All avenues have been explored including every parenting approach under the sun and professional support. Nothing makes any difference, in fact it's just giving her more ammo and refining her manipulation skills. Her father and I are completely exhausted and burnt out. She's simply put unpleasant and upsetting to be around, and the only attachments she has to us or 'friends' are exclusively for the sake of the attention and sense of power it provides her with. She doesn't care about us or anyone else but herself, and often finds entertainment in other people getting hurt. There is no cure for any of this, children who are born this way are just like this, this is their personality. This completely shatters my heart. 

Her younger sister (C) is 4, and copies a lot of J's antisocial behaviour. I could sit here for a week and list out every negative thing she's learned from her sister at this point. Suffice it to say that we're extremely worried about C's development, and it's become clear that the best thing for C would be to grow up without J's influence. J's presence is a constant source of strife in our home, everything she says and does is a constant reminder of the reality of what she's like. She's extremely manipulative, but we're so used to it at this point that it doesn't hit us until the end of the day what actually went on during the day, and when it does its always a f*cking sucker punch. We walk on eggshells around her and are essentially powerless over her influence on C. 

After exploring every other avenue available to us, we've come to the decision that we're going to send her to boarding school. The school we found is extremely suitable for her, as it focuses highly on academics and sports, two things she excells highly at. The teachers and faculty are lovely and very kind. The school is in the middle of about 100 acres of fields and woods, and she'll get to do horseriding, swimming, carpentry, piano, and a second language. This will mean that she will be home with us maybe 2 or 3 times a month, and C will be able to outgrow any damage that's been done to her development and have a normal, healthy childhood. 

The part that's causing me to be sitting here at 2 in the morning despite the fact that we're leaving at 6 to make the 3 hour drive to go visit her school so she can familiarise herself with it, is that I am so relieved, and that makes me feel so crushingly guilty. I was severely abused for almost 10 years when I was a child, by my stepdad. I found out years later after extensive counselling that he's a clinical psychopath. I spent my entire childhood being gaslit and walking on eggshells around him. I'm so indescribably relieved that I will not have to spend another decade walking on eggshells again around another psychopath. But I feel like an awful human being for that. This is apparently the singular exception for labeling a kid as 'bad'; no such thing as a bad kid, unless theyre one of those kids who was born a psychopath.. I keep being reassured by her father and my friends that I'm not horrible for being glad that she's not gonna be living with us anymore, but after getting so badly mistreated when I was a kid, I'm having a very difficult time trying to believe that this is okay and that I'm not actually being a literal fairytale evil stepmother.",9.624770683453237,8.048351424460439,9.24750674460432,67.44600831834532,59.93525179856115,12.54361510791367,40.855440647482006,11.395327392982844,4.6807059352517975,2980,133,515,67,32,964,329,695,0.11,0.794,0.096,-0.8802,4,0,0,0,1,0,71.0,9,1,1,5,24,28,2,2,38,2,55,4,1,9,5,95,84,51,0,5,17,5,3,3,2,8,2,2,2,12,50,42,0,1,13,3,2,17,10,11,0,4,11,5,60,17,89,52,6,78,0,2,0,1,72,31,0,7,30,359,110,9,0.06465985029895795,0.0766113493472993,0.1261973731924858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474749997838201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05380217524134349,0.0,0.0,0.13191274645210946,0.1356029816693254,0.0,0.0,0.06412519687649337,0.04521167074543445,0.06625165777887351,0.0,0.2302439018016407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196482246763572,0.0,0.0714117245887634,0.0,0.07284950910150795,0.06785652369300732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602493655989418,0.0,0.0659250267329103,0.06642347763252944,0.0,0.05569873565813059,0.20338386849997436,0.13974865468104067,0.0,0.051625629043813334,0.0,0.0,0.08340050853375251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755578141480456,0.0,0.0,0.11316854146331998,0.06616947627635743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054015007954008605,0.0,0.057269435304519625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343613790004438,0.0,0.05811210415748784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808188936682093,0.046193009973224536,0.0,0.0,0.059097931761291585,0.0549996356327938,0.0,0.14179237683134635,0.09991207989056247,0.0,0.10134630913290522,0.06202762027615996,0.07349536602346536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662223392930617,0.0,0.13663336382594707,0.12971820378359689,0.0,0.06367692780949187,0.0,0.06921970707186721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747264588637557,0.0,0.067333283960522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846544532124381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476861028262804,0.0,0.05709583243735275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549714924660459,0.05835803938391326,0.0,0.1294828564995617,0.0,0.06495951049988184,0.07043353266022177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051610875617673066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335292470685172,0.06204287024765631,0.0,0.0678496359311904,0.0,0.043815187972652464,0.0491767298368028,0.0,0.0,0.07179711177961122,0.07002031681735825,0.0,0.044826998762881695,0.05645848723435909,0.0,0.0,0.12224891688625565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500100872094124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284021642817924,0.0,0.3271961026360045,0.0,0.0,0.13490865130234955,0.07304722614316429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337523186536457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182852563598652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540735738012876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043899793968946825,0.0,0.06316327829836603,0.0,0.4666670313135859,0.055845350127488466,0.0,0.10670229644794987,0.0,0.05132397949901743,0.05186623168777823,0.0,0.0,0.059940329026453736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623297882960567,0.0,0.0,0.06566521664241645,0.0,0.0918650049412876,0.0,0.0,0.08327764727212696
parenting,ahoward777,2020/03/06,"My daughter hates her grandparents My 7 month old daughter absolutely does not feel comfortable with my wife’s father or her step mother. They don’t see her much and we chalked it up to stranger danger, but other strangers do just fine. We thought it was my FIL’s beard but my (S)MIL has a hard time with her as well so idk. We have a spotty history with them at best and they’re going through a religious journey that honestly is a little disorienting. He’s Christian with standard pro-trump boomer Midwest mentality and we’re wondering if it might just be a vibe she’s getting from them. I know that sounds kind of outlandish, but I seriously have no other idea what it could be. Anyone else ever run into this? Any advice or suggestions would be great. I hate to see my daughter uncomfortable and crying every time they attempt to hold her and it’s causing issues when we need them to potentially help with her. TIA everyone.",4.347796610169489,6.506763779661018,4.812000000000001,81.58003389830509,72.22033898305084,7.8838418079096035,28.749152542372883,8.648137234880735,2.295756610169492,747,30,137,14,15,237,119,177,0.138,0.7140000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.7935,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,5,2,6,11,3,0,5,0,13,0,0,1,1,37,24,14,0,4,9,6,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,11,15,0,1,5,0,0,4,3,4,1,0,2,5,25,7,16,16,2,14,1,0,2,0,25,4,0,5,6,91,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559426371522587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523855046712912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849030986840592,0.17363170460377278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783772168581485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408200841616378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529994980710902,0.0,0.18614375494315466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829551003374974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156201096950613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328619120819126,0.14277728371294746,0.16192620694807794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568402267185925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853580926623793,0.0,0.09630797259236126,0.0,0.0,0.18683015005734885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518027948835392,0.3346131573189787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358540624144182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129961271996626,0.0,0.17687211995426216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764664200502983,0.09313073529306956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984334947780885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077573283106212,0.17977018597963307,0.0,0.0,0.13526128417042368,0.0,0.12457253284812884,0.12565237674324795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781967030619245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700752179410399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345322404305947,0.19762687365919476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523648112521855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837720447385586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037945868938064,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tw0_Sc00pz,2020/03/06,"Intense toddler behavior normal? My daughter is 21months and ever since she was born she has been intense (she screamed for like 3 months straight). She rushes through every milestone\*. She's sensory-seeking. She hits her face or slams it into the wall if I tell her to wait or no. She is perfectionistic--she'll throw a puzzle piece if she doesn't get it right the first three tries. She is also extroverted and plays well with other children and animals. I do my best to follow RIE/Respectful/Gentle parenting but I just feel fried to a crisp--how do you meet the needs of a child like this? She seems different compared to other kids, it's hard to describe, maybe like Finn the Human from Adventure Time or Don Quixote. How do I prepare an environment for her so that she's not so frustrated or whiny? Do any of you have a child like this?  


  
\*for context, not bragging   
she's speaking in sentences with a 500+ vocal in English, has comprehension in Spanish with 50+ words and a handful in Russian, reading sight words, has been counting for months, has been walking since 9 months, has known colors/shapes for months etc. I don't push these things on her--I just have books and puzzles available in the living room.",4.4660663615560665,6.527097300000001,4.471052631578949,84.56815789473686,71.65217391304348,6.9290617848970255,29.496567505720826,7.669130373188453,1.8835217391304344,969,40,178,12,19,299,142,230,0.022000000000000002,0.845,0.133,0.9703,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,2,0,2,9,10,1,0,12,0,20,2,2,1,1,32,27,16,0,4,11,2,3,4,0,0,0,2,1,5,10,9,0,1,3,3,0,5,5,2,1,2,4,6,24,8,24,22,3,24,0,0,1,0,27,11,0,9,12,118,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356082078980516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531608507793313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795737416739574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716866140674487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911975308775475,0.0,0.1533893249696693,0.14287334688867692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574167245418515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423949540439154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859537778290053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190493058875715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313810202575541,0.0,0.14973688399395527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035980163171274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5414091617751202,0.0,0.0,0.12573691796741207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614644418953445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882917778533249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16961981578961824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481520684577914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437373409526184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28054660895128497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821508618887771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265738194744243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887992032262756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512956508864773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246732509232647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovezelda,2020/03/06,"9 year old has complaint journal Would like people’s opinion or to know if they’ve seen similar. I’ll try to be be as brief as possible. My son is 9 and he’s a nice kid, love him to death but he’s been on the difficult side in some areas.  He’s had issues with frustration management relative to his age/peers, he’s really stubborn/determined to get what he wants, even if it means lying or pretending he’s sick or tired etc. Overall he is fine, has friends, does well in school, seems pretty happy most of the time. Definitely still has issues with frustration and talking back.  He doesn’t really like to talk that much about his day or his feelings, and if you press him on it he gets irritated.  He also really does like to complain a lot when things aren’t how he likes or that he’s too tired to do what you want him to do.  Half the time he is manipulating to get what he wants.

Anyway I recently got him a chromebook and taught him how to write in  it.  My wife found a document file where he is basically using it as a complaint journal, complaining mostly about my wife, myself also sometimes, what he was forced to do, disciplined, that my wife was a bitch once, that I was stupid, sometimes he updates it multiple times a day. Always negative, nothing positive anything anyone did for him. Overall he acts petty normal, shows my wife and I lots of affection, likes to play games with us and spend time with us.  It’s not like he’s sad and furious all day not by any stretch. 

What do you think about this?",5.147736842105264,5.648743900000002,5.868561403508775,81.11068421052636,68.33333333333334,9.649122807017543,29.456140350877188,9.682069395223575,2.5231666666666657,1190,41,241,25,19,389,162,300,0.21,0.629,0.16,-0.9734,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,3,0,0,15,22,5,0,10,0,22,4,0,5,1,47,39,24,1,8,11,5,2,6,1,1,3,0,0,1,17,11,0,1,6,4,1,2,5,9,1,1,10,3,23,13,32,26,8,25,0,1,1,1,47,9,1,15,20,144,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564783204336204,0.0913799757058155,0.0,0.0,0.07468213265857143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678948584893616,0.0,0.09037343060429476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444566822963716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247662597693484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922104175749776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224795871184038,0.07253581899676273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05552886184319991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041319790506967,0.08484753071936496,0.0,0.17213101932953911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783398804988929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690663238885207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292494494677765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035481962896815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32191833383888296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673199079875188,0.09911785531383388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196274030649232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073116492759001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760138776240134,0.1053763337730864,0.0,0.11523879945798605,0.11695591666318768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613614207124134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380682038108624,0.0,0.11172756812285556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211062679310988,0.0,0.10843511453265472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114484414726797,0.0,0.0999770299252689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21723180652496046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770329432039405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765401247430536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296027729245423,0.07036894414904238,0.0,0.0,0.25615033052198377,0.25244646154848915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456133675595407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26420258903938243,0.09485019360353332,0.0,0.0,0.19432603918273667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874238265153867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801377808697554,0.0,0.0,0.07072120551286476
parenting,obviouslyfakecozduh,2020/03/06,"I hate being a parent I hate being a parent. Nothing about it gives me any joy. I tolerate my baby - I don't enjoy my interactions with her and feel like every time I do something with her, all it is for is to stop her from grizzling. I am struggling under huge lack of sleep and experience post natal rage fairly regularly. My mum just says I need to have more self control. To be clear, I have never hurt my baby and always put her in a safe place before taking myself away wherever possible. My husband knows and does his best to support me but he also has work. People keep telling me ""this soon will pass"" and ""it gets better, I promise"" but guess what. Pretty much every day that passes my resentment for her grows and I find myself more and more wound up. I'm under Maternal Mental Health for my area but its such insipid bullshit. My case worker hasn't really helped me at all, I've asked for help getting counselling but she has been no use at all - cant even recommend an affordable counsellor or help me set up a session. I just feel like I'm drowning.",3.8827857142857134,5.352333885714288,5.093511904761908,81.92169642857145,72.04761904761905,7.5357142857142865,25.505952380952376,8.07648339933343,1.5707380952380947,836,26,158,12,16,277,137,210,0.14,0.7,0.16,0.5939,3,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,5,7,15,4,1,5,0,16,3,1,2,5,33,33,13,1,2,7,4,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,7,9,0,4,4,0,0,4,5,6,0,0,1,3,33,9,21,28,9,22,0,1,0,0,21,11,0,2,7,111,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655057490502462,0.11086489178936364,0.0,0.0,0.09060657427231618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455977149939693,0.0,0.12518171536904169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337593145568348,0.0,0.1398253160338168,0.11783839857035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494380191643567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592764430337821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659768445244915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800260299715952,0.0,0.22451793273513596,0.0,0.0,0.1303325682097232,0.0,0.0,0.13473851819028432,0.19037085504941573,0.0,0.0,0.12177734041979935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392229656746541,0.12781426362449233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677694623604706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26309036141307823,0.0,0.1416260219614912,0.0,0.0,0.2679203575144412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263429498510327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842827243433098,0.0,0.0,0.07322425395114521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301869509535909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427281112044634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794543929996836,0.09879446903601596,0.1027615469902015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278456877524602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29589060265797096,0.0,0.0,0.0923706215370618,0.0,0.13920560577154814,0.0,0.0,0.15020609973154966,0.127605406480269,0.1355511932910356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394123500993754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535583031858435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595639874002354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899654578083648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333446621027087,0.0,0.0,0.1025733090042612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139313728242012,0.0,0.1392895408587469,0.0,0.0,0.1511971793757902,0.0,0.0,0.10017857714073077,0.0,0.11645609722160186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769229105114048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507506287711447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969990278690307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rileyfigs,2020/03/06,"My child seems like a different person? So my son is almost 8, when he was 4/5 he was sexually groomed/assaulted by some older kids at his bio dads house/neighbourhood while his bio dad knew about this and was bringing him back to this house anyways. Bio dad is no longer in his life because of this (sons choice) it was reported to cps but by that time that we found out about it we had already left that province and cps wouldn’t do anything. We did do a statement with the police but again nothing came from it. My son has changed from a lovely little boy to a sullen, moody, irrational, angry, and disrespectful 7.5 year old. He has been to therapy. I think he will start going again. Sometimes I do still see my lovely little boy in how wonderful and caring he is with his sister and some days he has are good. He takes everything to heart which makes him have bad days. I feel like he has no trust left, understandably. Whatever parenting we’ve been doing is obviously not working for us. No regular punishments have helped, no tv, no games or iPad etc etc. We do not spank. We try to spend time with him and take him out separately without his sister but he just seems so unhappy. I know he loves us but I know I could do more. But I’m at a loss. Bio dad refuses to apologize to him so my son refuses to talk to him which kind of came around with when he was in therapy. I’m looking for some help on what I can do to repair our relationship and help him manage his feelings and just make everything a little easier.",3.803661099913618,5.251097347682119,4.691134465879647,84.81621796717538,72.21192052980132,8.563432191189174,26.04434206737691,9.085049710711278,1.9226934638640945,1197,39,247,25,23,388,162,302,0.12300000000000001,0.7340000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.8745,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,8,0,0,2,16,13,1,0,7,0,31,5,1,3,1,57,59,21,0,2,11,11,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,5,12,22,0,2,12,2,1,4,9,4,0,0,13,4,33,9,35,43,6,33,0,1,2,3,60,14,0,8,17,159,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342689045700754,0.0,0.11397964035626633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499630154193256,0.09194722119766456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942123512145548,0.08624023041734867,0.06296272331047471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362653493246391,0.10530785776372137,0.0,0.10926382357849124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246616906708894,0.0,0.0,0.13322298564514698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791280599960454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303843474755184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565517534822049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044498997978868,0.07378816763543461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113248732623428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05870031409200811,0.08663213444398411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239544998375995,0.2076930552010129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191791918380972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755739119843492,0.11352753601120773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444299444078655,0.0,0.0729545778265127,0.1009215045907748,0.3105617642783869,0.0,0.0,0.08673496564725948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27966132508564656,0.0,0.1378895887327638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910654692281808,0.0,0.10838220572757366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468785694642568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018611956455552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089145497262194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230627067973405,0.18805699254690328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215336525587666,0.0,0.07310698520507954,0.0,0.0824850357060897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531775894205596,0.08301808162297364,0.0,0.0,0.23623509740395346,0.0,0.0,0.0661820620959716,0.0,0.0,0.12045482055694792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012501152055947,0.0,0.0,0.107525284579252,0.24848279827371586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995648664188906,0.11201021532395516,0.07519407870512894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651336425968073
parenting,notyourstar15,2020/03/06,"How Do I Make Parent Friends? I joined my local MOMs Club back in November when I switched to working nights. It's been awkward, and even though I've gone to many events, I find that no one tries to talk to new people. I'm not the kind of person to insert myself where I'm not wanted, so I'm usually on the edges of conversation, even in the small playgroups. They all talk about things just assuming everyone else understands, and then I can't contribute. There's only one mom who ever makes an effort to talk to me, but we don't have a lot in common, she's just really nice. So we haven't really ""clicked."" I've been giving it time to try it out before making assumptions, but today I had a really bad experience and I'm feeling really down about it. I went to our monthly meetup with my toddler, and not one mom tried to engage me in conversation. I had two moms say one sentence to me and then go back to other conversations. I had one other mom say hello, then go back to her conversation. That's it. I stood there for 45 minutes, either hovering over my kid to give myself something to do, or standing awkwardly, trying to make my posture as friendly and inviting as possible. My child got overwhelmed by the crowd (she can be fussy, which also makes it really hard to meet people) and was crying, so I used that as my excuse to leave. Not one person said good-bye as I walked out. My child stopped crying, but I cried the entire way home. I just don't know how to walk up to groups of people when they don't seem to want me there. 

Granted, I'm really shy at first. But I have many friends and people generally like me. I love being social, even if I am more of an introvert! My weekends are usually packed with meeting up with various people, and I haven't struggled to make friends since my awkward middle school days. I just want to make some friends with children who have morning hours free so that I can have some adult time and my child can socialize with other children to get used to being around them. I've tried this MOMs Club, library storytimes (my child hates storytime, but loves the library), mall play spaces, the playground, swim lessons (she loved it, but it's too expensive to continue), other membership places that we get into free with library passes, etc. etc. I just haven't met my people yet. All of my friends with kids either live too far away, so we can only meetup on weekends a few times a year, or they work full time like me, but normal daytime M-F hours. So how do I make new parent friends? Or am I just a socially awkward loser who doesn't realize it?",5.842141927083333,5.858645388671877,6.323031250000002,80.12717708333334,66.79296875,9.404791666666666,29.957291666666666,9.120678840339163,2.336554479166667,2037,66,401,33,30,662,240,512,0.084,0.759,0.157,0.993,2,0,1,0,0,0,68.0,5,0,4,6,36,27,1,6,14,0,31,3,0,13,3,81,69,41,0,5,23,8,2,2,7,0,0,3,1,11,24,25,0,1,8,7,3,8,13,9,0,8,12,6,57,20,62,54,13,66,0,2,1,3,67,24,0,9,34,271,81,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622056331283975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05145194356131014,0.0,0.0,0.05430256388557342,0.1333279087876055,0.048258418365997466,0.0,0.0,0.04918133405352917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19046320389967986,0.03727454429399025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04828231486639208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891876762906151,0.11452392125947415,0.052281061125771404,0.0,0.05522789663302945,0.0,0.0565369518281073,0.0,0.0,0.029224104216440817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05282578041422793,0.04916244254597605,0.0,0.0,0.3125789181626863,0.0,0.06039351646204219,0.1108890734640466,0.06569519357633165,0.04847772052213927,0.04622586408782881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051775121658480784,0.05706297088274855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057975508994788885,0.0,0.11383760161028507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018710244268038,0.0317639418539145,0.0,0.0,0.061199105835227814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647378453302228,0.0,0.051036166867664864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049137286255350014,0.15649324174413845,0.0,0.30864172923371097,0.11719499253629775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4061497280335015,0.046133336668661165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164218640416727,0.0,0.054238948603557664,0.056629184633417075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234990101650306,0.08791506079575806,0.0,0.0,0.12835435515967472,0.0,0.0,0.2404166564923221,0.10093292811696064,0.06038598591139685,0.0,0.0,0.06515788909450003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22215898297367648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05497856693287121,0.09192563138639256,0.0,0.05849405877706813,0.0,0.052616586128427525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047810610073778834,0.0,0.0,0.17675152516258325,0.0,0.0444952655324937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048321217965902816,0.0,0.06042239610454218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393660926756307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03839802719666607,0.0,0.0567856562415152,0.0,0.13480852489626394,0.0,0.054785181174564414,0.0,0.0,0.1962032178892913,0.0,0.056459665680173875,0.0601691361796805,0.0,0.09983680020838373,0.1273113504945748,0.0,0.10227121955210597,0.04587688926155031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05357877280541258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415439734418588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03721963338734243
parenting,Sunshineok2020,2020/03/06,"No Toilets My 13 year old goes straight from school to after school cheerleading practise, the practise on a field/park close to the school the problem is there are no toilets and the practise is for 1 hour from 4 -5pm.  I know in an ideal world she would go after school before practise but what kid is always going to remember this.  I have heard a few parents say it's not ideal that their arent any facilities, but then another parent said the school toilets are just across the road.  

Anyway last night i went to pick up my daughter from cheerleading and she wasnt there, the tutor said she had gone over to the school as she was really needing the toilet, but she had only just gone near the end of the lesson so she would be back soon. I waited a few mins but she hadnt come back and then I got a txt saying come and get me from the school, so i told the teacher she just txt ill grab her from the school. I turn up at the school and my daughter jumps in the backseat (which she never does) and is very quiet, i asked her how prac was and she said ok.  When we got home and she got out  she went straight to her room, on the way I noticed she had a big wet patch on her shorts.  I waited a few minutes then went up to her room, she knew I new at this point and burst into tears and said i couldnt hold on any longer and i peed my pants, dont tell anyone!

She said she went from school with a friend to the dairy to get a drink and snack before cheerleading and it wasnt until about 15 mins into the lesson she thought oh i need the loo, however she thought ill hold it, 45 mins in and she said she was busting, and thought oh my gosh what am i going to do, she thought ill go over to the school, so she asked the coach and said thats fine but come straight back.  My daughter raced over the school in agony at this point but the first block of toilets were locked it was 4:45pm at this time, she then panicked and raced to another block by the PE sheds they were also locked, she said she just couldnt hold it anymore and while looking for somewhere discreet to pee (a bush or something) fully wet her pants.  She was so upset and to embarrassed to go back so she waited there for me and thought she could get home without me noticing and change.

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I am not sure what to do as it doesnt seem right them not having toilet access, 

Being just 13 she is obviously mortified by what has happened (i think she last had an accident as a maybe 6 yr old) what can i do to help her move on from this, as she is sure she is the only person in the world this has ever happened to

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Thanks",3.879052653399668,4.513738916044776,4.108084577114429,92.12837479270316,71.22014925373135,6.9257048092868985,24.40381426202321,6.56203326957186,0.5358774461028197,2033,51,456,13,36,631,216,536,0.092,0.8420000000000001,0.066,-0.9449,4,0,2,0,0,0,46.0,1,0,3,5,24,11,0,2,39,1,43,6,1,2,5,83,94,46,0,10,16,5,3,0,1,2,3,12,4,2,20,30,2,8,12,2,0,16,15,3,0,1,39,16,70,8,67,48,3,86,0,0,1,0,67,39,0,2,30,305,90,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04173290142100409,0.04342269954169544,0.11308641161018752,0.12682272359660798,0.07097615823418972,0.10944255513038094,0.0,0.0,0.05175421150779679,0.036489468794720016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757320727064407,0.0,0.0,0.1605103897570797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881240810144951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520557216880457,0.13486013079319478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041666051020515474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045668075235715484,0.0,0.06116127516811976,0.05112213827810266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046221058367911134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720497141888375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04438914676353697,0.0,0.0,0.04031855781120858,0.0,0.08179465442423695,0.0,0.14829173645062535,0.0,0.12521306259429718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229531968053202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03497898808084573,0.0,0.10469306422494183,0.0,0.05139242217636314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028679906931460462,0.08507665385256112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382286148131048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242756996643586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05546516157223209,0.0,0.07739010025793991,0.04024884440308847,0.05040129355515878,0.0,0.04897276305203277,0.0,0.0,0.11882757618414848,0.10952026909088718,0.0,0.0,0.07937918326044599,0.0,0.0,0.115892132568346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045566557797320086,0.0,0.0,0.09866474660991832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04993468619402179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033431508516670164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05911624774938135,0.04456631973265722,0.3971245609531924,0.08300035823332721,0.0,0.633776816297609,0.0,0.047507919519393815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040175116811116886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983688469939672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045612619449083736,0.048045599593250936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033438502201918976,0.0,0.2071481623487967,0.0304299129920162,0.0,0.0,0.049865691819367314,0.0,0.0,0.056763077841276335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043058684321631784,0.0,0.041422595481927935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935067410245529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05030517181761388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414247639743364,0.0,0.12682272359660798,0.03360589269686341
parenting,ashtuesdays,2020/03/06,"What's the over/under... ...for a two-year old crying ""FINGERS!!"" because she bit hers while voraciously eating?  My daughter's at about five times so far this week. She is the light of my life!",0.8554054054054028,3.4024891351351343,1.966270270270272,94.14562162162164,90.08108108108108,4.0410810810810815,18.210810810810813,5.6839178017228535,-0.3639362162162159,146,4,30,1,5,46,33,37,0.114,0.8859999999999999,0.0,-0.6093,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,4,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21869622450721746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3916720319958984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940800379860265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671001354059286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534021702412922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764573377727707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20919532299769789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35045552222738824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28777491925363297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310291054460395
parenting,anonymous61099,2020/03/06,"Please help - potential discrimination I have cried so much this past week, I don't know what to do but ask for help. 

I am a single mother and my son is in middle school.  My son has been bullied at school by multiple kids, a kid even stole his phone in front of him, but every time an incident like this happens the school never takes action with the other kids and accuses my son of misbehaviour.  They even went to the extent to accuse him of mental illness, but of course the result from the diagnoses is that nothing is wrong with him.    


I don't want to make any accusations, but there has been documented evidence that the other kids who have bullied him have had even trouble with some of the adults.  My son has never had such issues, yet the school always accuses him of misbehaving when the other students go after him.  Remember: a child stole my son's phone and yet my son was accused of misbehaviour because he was looking for his phone, rather than looking into the child who took the phone!  It's been months and at this point, I'm wondering if the fact that I am new here and that my son is the only child of color has something to do with this, even if the school didn't mean to.   


We have a meeting tomorrow and I don't know if it's smart to bring up potential favoritism or discrimination here... I am completely alone and I am afraid if I make the school angry things will get worse.  Any advice is appreciated",8.356444382955175,6.652280305755397,8.157913669064751,74.66270890979527,62.489208633093526,11.431543995572774,33.614831211953515,10.214889679676881,3.0675580520199226,1127,34,222,20,13,363,138,278,0.165,0.758,0.077,-0.9824,0,1,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,0,13,5,0,1,20,0,31,2,0,3,3,36,49,18,0,6,10,8,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,8,17,13,0,0,5,0,0,6,6,3,0,0,10,3,26,2,31,38,4,26,0,0,3,0,37,8,0,7,13,159,43,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602404473194448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237232471533017,0.0,0.0,0.0902799257948346,0.0,0.0,0.14756618925620346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014319930005648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614003178975696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375922053757699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918114406791801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012428176919364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866504748295107,0.0,0.09141515397610477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668629088604968,0.0,0.061662527222170485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594537764709904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544929180576946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324485001554005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925651315569573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0530071697263568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222380111817205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484795610396145,0.0,0.0,0.11818730513235093,0.0,0.0,0.10934155284478198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660293008728567,0.0,0.07975930747078913,0.0,0.16736235767882404,0.10478908704775902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410779298292724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251843908882674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035746482759896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909940759039538,0.10256670009606908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229083064022422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6588411654472714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352789215750421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157780488056163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208196729159483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632666857624677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054646948437325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399556818261475,0.0,0.08703141698315822,0.0,0.0,0.10057973366972524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766262341882272,0.0,0.0,0.11056983131041442,0.0,0.11862671092402804,0.0,0.0
parenting,BurritoNai,2020/03/06,"How to wean off pacifier ? Trying to wean my 23 month off the pacifier. We’ve cut down to using it only during nap and bed time. 

But as soon as she gets home from daycare it’s the first thing she asks for. Also she now cries through bedtime routine as I no longer give it to her until she’s in bed. 

Any tips on how to make the transition smoother for her? 

How did you wean your little ones?",1.888606271777004,3.4719245853658585,3.0810104529616744,93.8376829268293,77.53658536585365,6.149128919860628,21.470383275261323,6.868970318607317,0.3053358885017423,304,8,69,3,7,98,59,82,0.091,0.909,0.0,-0.7608,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,1,6,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,5,0,7,6,10,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,10,0,18,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,6,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23875865420098985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20303131873575733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791136832183941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279545940775652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25395533455668645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598549302986198,0.2864063530194545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994804371059649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992359681998411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992913938633141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23830807301629964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20231226247659856,0.2270686475359593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835027183457607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17409297762772705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270292223001746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578603369256761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,biohaz121,2020/03/06,How do you prevent yourself from being a helicopter parent My son is only 3 but I'm worried I'm going to be a over protective parent when he gets older when he wants to explore I'm wondering what you parents do with your kids when they get to that age when they want to walk to the park on there own or going to a friend's house,7.7838967136150226,4.6465075774647895,8.431549295774648,76.76544600938969,64.77464788732394,11.156807511737087,34.93427230046949,8.841846274778883,2.781925821596244,262,8,56,3,3,89,51,71,0.043,0.919,0.038,-0.3182,3,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,3,2,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,15,7,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,10,13,1,12,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,2,6,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745741252264751,0.0,0.23610682887311946,0.0,0.2568335930109689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607244997355934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185078325187522,0.0,0.0,0.7526968508577919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665510554554407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450411594944121,0.0,0.2294707059589427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bojoan,2020/03/06,"Am I Being Petty? 9th grade son didn’t make baseball team.  Almost every other kid who tried out made it.  They posted list of those who made the team just before school.  It was hard for him to keep it together .  The coaches had us pay for uniform pants 3 months ago, suggested paid workouts for all who wanted to try out, suggested playing on a paid fall league, suggested paying for batting practice.  Asked us to donate, or find community donations For a baseball fundraiser auction, suggested all parents and those trying out pay $25 each for attending the fundraiser.  Some parents and kids have been saying-“everyone makes the team, but you gotta pay $250 when you do” to cover extra expenses.  I’m pissed😬. Would love advice.",5.555555555555557,7.2691277037037025,5.757962962962968,77.82583333333336,68.25925925925927,8.362962962962964,30.537037037037038,8.841846274778883,2.6756814814814818,580,23,97,10,10,184,98,135,0.05,0.894,0.055,0.6808,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,2,1,3,2,2,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,4,2,21,21,5,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,6,0,1,1,6,10,2,1,0,0,0,8,1,7,2,15,10,5,10,0,0,0,1,23,4,0,3,3,57,16,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044381961474642,0.15461517759485588,0.0,0.1746591140135661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306165607869486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842084984651605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469586267317997,0.16666834097237287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594191652945318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562484569673248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503488804789875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15742327437764025,0.33008590547272737,0.23285698035919036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922251533814975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38735147878595305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704870806035818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652505938971225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35526464137863456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196180045859476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287901302990353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390486410482494,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamiBear7,2020/03/06,"2.5 year old drank some of my Starbucks while I was heating his food up. He is currently under the dose of little remedies fever & pain reliever for his penis fires king being prematurely retracted & pain when he pees. I was out of the room for quite literally 15 seconds, and I ran back in cause I just had that mom feeling, and sure enough he was sucking my coffee down. He didn’t drink much but I’m worried about him being on the medicine while he drank the coffee ? Any advice ? Please be nice, I do not let him drink coffee or condone it although he has been known to steal a few sips once in a while.",4.7261475409836065,5.392886491803278,5.059139344262295,85.95297131147542,69.32786885245902,7.739344262295082,27.54508196721311,7.645422480735847,1.4089803278688515,480,15,99,5,8,152,89,122,0.09300000000000001,0.8190000000000001,0.08900000000000001,-0.3527,1,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,4,7,1,0,6,0,13,10,1,1,1,12,19,9,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,2,2,0,1,2,4,0,1,9,2,11,3,14,6,4,18,0,0,0,0,11,9,1,2,8,63,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906438483633133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970906345374627,0.0,0.12461252996247155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090369393406504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824255773569565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590196565390875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893405319363113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926539148507232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157995230276809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873798957550296,0.0,0.0,0.18365910877859415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21461372000292075,0.0,0.0,0.13470577700876518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228425647602854,0.19514939049892133,0.0,0.0,0.3899700923369168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011474114995736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490306024098686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270575357098933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860936641020361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180034370636376
parenting,mypoorbrain87,2020/03/06,"My Son has been super sad the last few weeks and avoiding school i thought it was a bully but he finally told me tonight he’s scared of climate change.. Not only is he scared of climate change but now with the virus stuff he feels like climate change is taking a back seat...i wasn’t ready for this to be the reason. I thought he was just avoiding a subject or a bully, but he just flat out thinks we are all dying soon. I’ve tried to tell him that we are working on it and we all have to do our part (we recycle,compost and vegetarians) but it’s not doing anything. I’m shutting off YouTube i know he’s getting stuff there but also the kids in school. Any advice? Any good news i can share with him?",0.5427477840451225,2.8236794794520605,1.9032473811442363,96.71383158742952,86.39726027397259,4.257211925866237,20.917002417405318,5.5289334501034215,-0.17486897663174794,548,18,122,3,17,175,92,146,0.138,0.762,0.10099999999999999,-0.6917,0,2,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,0,2,7,9,0,4,8,0,14,0,0,1,2,31,23,10,1,0,10,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,10,0,2,6,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,7,1,13,4,12,15,4,12,0,1,0,0,19,5,0,1,8,76,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906480082721527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219898477520834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747109456086954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255311940033481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172973681578177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.484115825736692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831719326243487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713112451540136,0.1089778804319573,0.0,0.16710513413677516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796982484673749,0.0,0.0,0.12794715862368147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383451332123089,0.12434419483600966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452557783143213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601702914133917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519091781100428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568412373824841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30544747800026856,0.3087665235197909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34925410266796353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146945418578102,0.0,0.1333306890415952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774440917776134,0.0,0.24220671869543425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576288601959778,0.0,0.10356775843160083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223620629745321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105427307539703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,its-k-la,2020/03/07,"How the hell do people have more than one kid? My husband and I want multiple children. We have a 6 month old and would really like our kids to be fairly close in age. However...how!? We barely manage to keep up as it is!
Some days I feel like we don’t get enough time with him and other days I feel like all I do is feed him and try to get him to sleep all day long. I can’t imagine having time for the same routine with more kids. 

Please share your advise!",0.931995464852612,2.6014616326530664,2.5036054421768696,96.50726757369615,80.63265306122447,5.580045351473924,17.011337868480727,6.42735559955562,-0.4708063492063488,352,6,84,3,9,115,67,98,0.045,0.7979999999999999,0.157,0.8540000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,3,0,11,2,1,1,2,21,17,6,0,2,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,10,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,14,4,11,15,7,12,1,0,0,0,15,3,1,1,12,54,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256928283051645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22734413934844994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22250201067447786,0.3143711137040612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299074549040725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19556789766776253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322478591198159,0.0,0.0,0.19471477123065956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17562146801620365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308787154643871,0.0,0.1490943050485309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15253729442253494,0.0,0.0,0.2415208443848737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095333779649682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201834131951492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25659612715010555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938220230069651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297761590679929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15629910202085545,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,j_rainer,2020/03/07,"11 month old WILL NOT sleep and it's driving us crazy Hello all, I have a problem with my 11 month old boy and it's really stressing me out. 

As of a few weeks ago, he NEVER wants to sleep. He's always been a bad sleeper, usually waking up 3-4 times a night for a feed, but as of recently he's been a total nightmare. He wakes up around 6am, naps once in the day (twice if we're lucky) and starts getting tired around 6pm. 

But even though he's tired, he will literally fight sleep off for hours, by which point he's screaming and crying because he's so overtired. When we finally get him to sleep at around 8:30pm at the earliest, he wakes up after 2-3 hours and he's ready to go again. He usually nods off again about 1am, then he's back up at 4am. 

Last night, between the hours of 8:30pm and 7am, he was awake for 4 and a half hours. 

Of course, either me or my girlfriend has to sit with him during this time and try to shush / feed / comfort him back to sleep. As you can probably imagine, it's killing us. I'm constantly stressed and feeling sick with worry. I'm worried we're getting him into had habits because we keep resorting to taking him out of the cot and putting him in our bed. We try everything and nothing works. We've tried soothing music, lights, TV, medicine, singing songs, rocking - nothing makes him go back to sleep when he's in his cot, so putting him in our bed is the last resort. 

We've tried the cry it out method and he just cries and screams until he's blue in the face, struggling to breathe and vomiting. I also have mild autism and I have a great sensitivity to sound, so when my boy cries it's like my ears are being drilled (not to mention the emotional impact). This makes the CIO method torturous for me, so I really can't go through that again (the last time we tried it was around 9 months and it didn't work). 

He has 3 teeth now so I don't think this is a teething issue. 

Has anyone experienced this? If you have any advice, please help, I'm feeling constantly sick with worry and I'm not enjoying my life at all. The past three nights I've spent what little night time I have to myself crying on the sofa. I don't mind doing 3-4 night feeds, but having to sit with him 4-plus hours a night is killing me.",2.948792626728107,4.113312776344085,3.802181259600616,91.46612903225807,73.92473118279571,6.948694316436253,24.683563748079877,7.33818517376401,0.8516402457757297,1751,53,393,19,35,560,220,465,0.184,0.755,0.061,-0.9965,0,0,2,0,1,0,62.0,8,2,0,2,24,16,4,3,22,0,27,23,14,2,4,60,47,38,2,4,11,0,2,1,1,2,6,5,3,2,14,34,3,1,4,5,1,6,8,11,0,3,7,10,37,5,60,37,5,82,0,0,1,0,44,26,0,4,49,215,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060384356021242015,0.05477662933908798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941661852268766,0.05141753641402151,0.0,0.0,0.04202202118997173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043207783262743736,0.0,0.0,0.22003895106261567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254725461458248,0.051595386987382065,0.07533806575567534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335546659338656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393888929917316,0.039852001013398516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950990328403918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04081433690236322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553643915342983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062489779709367914,0.0,0.0,0.06769227783283745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968544025755958,0.0,0.10535681806047567,0.0,0.0,0.06812807426690898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04141919807739079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304273083726699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449685406927515,0.0,0.05492532317544803,0.13673175294262466,0.0,0.0,0.1511110085375993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04364691116018619,0.03018941426472805,0.0619337956074697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249591469976765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623942980566865,0.0,0.14797008101590886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04765932207256969,0.0,0.0,0.3479367502389269,0.0,0.11858596890848015,0.0,0.12968476127668807,0.06580856536036493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898934012642786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783122685085237,0.05841527881890875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666243552421268,0.05912848746859841,0.0,0.12424002255912014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917360388342366,0.0,0.0610140942474177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710316040159683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04373809270781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415695764167876,0.06460047832639539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646137794302675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0395950832800382,0.06071226551381955,0.0,0.1441302522281099,0.14204616524574376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20977025973773625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866108398129796,0.0,0.1361146639087133,0.0,0.036447686774171636,0.0,0.04956739842769636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899734977788355,0.1882643398357372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YouGuysAreHilar,2020/03/07,Ritz cracker warning Today I ate a bag of Ritz crackers that had been left open in the van. Turns out it was actually a bag of Ritz sandwiches that my daughter had eaten all the cheese off of. Be careful out there folks,2.6959090909090904,4.7615813181818245,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727276,76.72727272727272,6.218181818181819,26.90909090909091,7.1686216300943375,1.3060181818181822,174,7,35,2,4,56,34,44,0.055999999999999994,0.907,0.037000000000000005,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,3,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,1,7,2,1,7,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.4257402322066386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4448101490462605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740126896968763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135364887180655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4745405446230563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwitawaysundae,2020/03/07,"My daughter wants to visit a nudist resort for her 13th birthday???? I have a friend I go to for parenting advice that just laughed at me and said I’m on my own with this one... so I’m bringing it to Reddit, hopefully its not too weird to discuss.
But anyways, I am a single mother living in central Florida with my (technically step) daughter and 9 y/o son. Oldest has moved out.
I asked my daughter several weeks ago what she wanted to do for her birthday coming up in April and she told me she’d think about it. She told me this past Sunday she knew what she wanted so I said great what is it!? But I couldn’t get her to tell me. I was confused and threw some guesses out but nothing stuck. Monday I had a girlfriend over and I asked my daughter in front of her what she wanted... her face turned bright red and she started stuttering but didn’t really say anything so we were just standing there confused for a minute and she said it’s just weird and she’s scared to tell me then runs to her room.
She finally got the courage I guess to tell me she wants to visit a nudist resort(there are several family friendly resorts like that near us).but I have no idea why or even how she knows stuff like that exist.
It’s safe to say I over reacted though because I immediately shot it down, I’m probably the only parent on Earth who has ever been asked this. But She cried... a lot and it made me feel terrible so I told her I would look into/consider it. But to be honest I have done neither, I really want a second opinion on this before I say how I feel about it. As I right now though I’m leaning towards hell no...",1.7918712006079005,3.8935998085106402,3.3041859802431617,89.6852455357143,79.790273556231,6.057788753799392,23.04720744680851,7.1686216300943375,0.8367301671732519,1263,42,262,16,32,415,176,329,0.079,0.795,0.126,0.9309999999999999,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,0,0,19,19,1,3,10,0,19,1,1,4,1,54,57,26,0,9,11,8,2,2,3,1,0,6,1,0,23,15,0,1,6,0,0,10,6,8,0,2,17,11,54,11,37,36,5,40,1,0,3,0,52,17,1,9,14,186,77,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502307376123033,0.08619854599838242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002130510301975,0.0,0.2727224690496251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05927739443649624,0.0,0.08274518486236616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376477034829742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681500288303414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995116122271818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422696210628885,0.08796032378756087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167044418639304,0.0,0.09833624696697008,0.0,0.0,0.10652309196296876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025677563709713,0.0,0.05080456620697787,0.0,0.05526447219920845,0.0,0.0777727514509244,0.10720887747809613,0.214244511932986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658255291934964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977359240682892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344127586695672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501437549409138,0.0,0.08586585019298519,0.0,0.08165820186582058,0.0,0.0,0.08267107660009032,0.0,0.09201207005972242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033521136477426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330565077711084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589322208000542,0.0739563911565871,0.0,0.0,0.21594991372168693,0.0,0.09282782474301804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048425691621181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459053465951422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304353960770157,0.27749623542401386,0.23199055624572756,0.09735550603205242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21970998264730332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882789323923101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131802469483833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25497954907786763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230829915247544,0.1910781687264044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27875469043717904,0.0,0.0,0.10577061178136513,0.0,0.0,0.11696931191590425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344132632056222,0.0,0.07800110603631151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774514909952005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907743013398979,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HKNinja1,2020/03/07,Daylight savings Did you know it is almost technically 6pm MST? My clocks do. My kids do too. Because I changed the clocks in advance... which is the only thing they don't know. Almost bedtime. Lol,0.3721804511278215,2.5777774210526303,1.7429323308270668,92.23552631578951,103.73684210526315,3.2240601503759403,23.849624060150376,5.288315135182226,0.4355518796992488,154,7,29,1,7,49,30,38,0.0,0.9309999999999999,0.069,0.3657,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,18,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7203503334061784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21926221763243794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38050177954792813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953497879279737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735586219204913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23896045363122456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lizzyyy1987,2020/03/07,"Can’t stop thinking my baby will love my sister more I have a beautiful daughter Luna. She will be 3 months on 3/17 and is my first baby. I unfortunately had to go back to work after 7 weeks, and am lucky enough that my sister takes her during the day for me. 

She is a great aunt and loves my daughter so much, but I can’t help but feel jealous and afraid that my daughter will love her more than me... 

When I get home from work I try to spend quality time with her, but I have dinner to make, laundry to do, etc etc and it just feels like my time with her is nothing compared to my sisters time with her. 

Everybody keeps telling me she knows who mommy is and won’t love her more, but I just don’t see how that’s possible... 

Anybody care to give me some insight on this?",3.3824675324675297,4.017151391304353,4.26352343308865,90.5641840767928,72.35403726708074,7.096781479390176,25.19536984754376,6.980632752743323,0.7803987577639749,598,17,136,5,11,193,94,161,0.042,0.759,0.19899999999999998,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,6,10,1,1,3,0,17,5,0,2,0,26,33,13,0,0,6,7,2,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,9,1,2,5,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,1,3,28,8,16,27,8,14,0,0,1,4,24,2,0,2,12,95,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855059205178582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719106944764466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942972933489497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930336198959716,0.34389040602201265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591041164057715,0.11014221758475323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114066042591016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805497573362895,0.14789812685255416,0.08762086082634342,0.0,0.0,0.16997781321417038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333984616528456,0.0,0.1546494873804274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370372849064802,0.0,0.0,0.08473021470723298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532182105766096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.556593638333448,0.0,0.10291260490376287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306053005241238,0.0,0.11333591882025285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793448875405582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738084636421373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285703066359208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889669651190927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159199567381385,0.0,0.13475521550736674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878872612201328,0.0,0.0,0.26970098621634425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467429297325033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236693988802158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22448158948042946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,walker1812,2020/03/07,"Getting Rid of Toys If you have a house full of toys always getting underfoot and everywhere, then you usually want to get rid of some.  Of course, you also don’t always know what toys your child may have outgrown or aren’t interested in anymore. I have a tip that worked for me.  

You tell your child that their toys have a “recycled” cash value (of whatever amount you decide) and that if they select toys for you to take away, then they can get money to go towards new toys.  

The bonus is the lesson that used things are usually worth less than new and it takes “recycling” multiple toys to get a single new one.  Less clutter.  

With my daughters it was $1 per toy and a limit of 20 could he “recycled” each month. 

Their response to this will also inform you of their potential future personality traits as well.  

Just my advice. 

Sincerely, 
Polonius",4.791190476190477,6.353315608695652,5.253680124223604,81.29285973084886,69.93167701863354,8.59648033126294,27.08126293995859,9.075114841892004,2.164167287784679,667,22,125,13,12,213,102,161,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.9325,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,9,5,4,4,4,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,0,20,24,12,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,9,6,0,1,4,8,4,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,18,4,20,20,7,14,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,5,9,87,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734280335777354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575285985690116,0.2679561348070545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596844348921672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512796704953957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855803648746306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42062062160122266,0.0,0.09150900552597124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579064683366048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849008800801214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128521297535683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665302694048742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910849201106876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405928101281219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421277276137289,0.0,0.14073493052021727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069717613007242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906597735113055,0.3546723722608578,0.0,0.0949713069878038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477256637780878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722144029694012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,athaliah,2020/03/07,"How much school project help is too much? My 2nd grader has a major project due soon, they had the option to create a 3d model at home to go along with their project if they wanted to. She came up with an idea of what she wanted to build, and we purchased craft supplies. 

Well, now it's built and I realized.....it kind of turned out too awesome.  Like she clearly did not do it 100% on her own. I felt like I needed to help because she's 7 and it involved hot glue and an exacto knife, but I probably (definitely) also gave her advice that made it turn out better than it would have if I had not been in the room and kept my mouth shut.

So....is that exactly what I should do in the future? Or is it okay to help?",4.075630126771067,3.9188824093959767,4.9633109619686815,88.96533929903059,70.54362416107381,7.964504101416852,25.280387770320647,7.3871296695380915,0.9087935868754652,545,13,126,5,9,178,98,149,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.9638,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,3,1,7,6,0,0,7,1,12,1,1,2,2,31,23,11,0,7,6,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,10,12,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,9,2,18,6,19,12,4,15,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,4,6,87,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884271599154436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420273882823832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754483031061115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053876823169198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205413690390815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514302661510293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958735734953153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3877412482606827,0.0,0.19342001981776252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767688027971946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007984190062622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884099115808202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245645350159254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834983294881848,0.14297790246570355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20789884775876988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19515002462330835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194782423174593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274673295159067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733735699001884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369779302983963,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AnonMom06,2020/03/07,"Is this normal for 13 year old boy I just discovered that my 13 year old son has been looking up porn and saving pics to his iPod. I know that’s normal. 

Here’s where it gets really really weird:
One of the pics on his phone was one that he took off my iPad...of me. It was a pic I took of my butt, before I started a squat routine. I was in a t shirt and panties. 

I asked him about it. He said he knew it was weird, he didn’t know why he did it...apologized profusely. 

I’m kind of freaking out. Should I be? Is this normal?",-0.4195507246376806,1.3589667478260914,1.8970652173913043,98.53052536231884,85.86956521739131,5.5724637681159415,16.53985507246377,6.816661863887847,-0.4010144927536232,396,8,101,5,12,134,71,115,0.078,0.922,0.0,-0.7903,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,0,12,3,2,0,0,12,23,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,3,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,3,0,2,11,2,14,2,11,10,0,13,0,0,1,2,13,6,1,0,5,57,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009440120606398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548221463478488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505896926230853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946815010124687,0.1999848824327863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527883235840381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5348036249686753,0.0,0.0,0.3818422108288352,0.0,0.2465818425367205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331177822938813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307175373509798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878190045285515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042960990490517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417743627977965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343337625220399
parenting,yellowyoloyoyo,2020/03/07,"How do you know if someone is child free? Don’t worry, they’ll tell you. 😂😂😂

I have all the respect in the world for my childfree friends but can’t understand how anything I say about my kid results in a big rant about how they never want children. 

Cool, bro. Do your thing. Thanks for sharing that with me as a response of telling you I have one :)",1.3338747553816042,3.270545479452057,2.216868884540119,97.7431506849315,80.50684931506851,4.719373776908023,25.497064579256357,5.288315135182226,0.3108489236790604,272,11,62,1,7,85,54,73,0.109,0.67,0.221,0.8742,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,4,2,0,5,6,0,0,4,1,8,0,0,4,2,12,12,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,12,7,9,11,1,5,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,1,1,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505411999039509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352218125744892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732095737338984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23481509876553944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630714413128307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421154893410847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579644296908711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5322156151181173,0.2803020156492512,0.0,0.0,0.2022669195575251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169492475529549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957593178981415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30918966552681504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ellieonthebeach,2020/03/07,"To the strangers in Target today To the strangers in Target who witnessed my child's re-enactment of The Exorcist today, thank you!  Thank you for your kind smiles and encouraging words.  Thank you for talking to my other kids and putting my bags in the cart.  Thank you for being the kind of people who show empathy instead of judgment.  Had I been met with rude stares and whispers instead of encouragement and understanding, I might have given in to the fit just to stop the embarrassment.  Thank you, awesome strangers, for being there for me and helping me stay strong and follow through on his consequence and allowing me to hold my head high as I carried my kicking and screaming four year old out of the store.  It takes a village.",7.557055555555558,8.099447844444448,6.637175925925927,77.5335416666667,63.148148148148145,9.416666666666668,36.13425925925926,9.188382445141503,3.215314814814815,589,26,104,9,8,179,81,135,0.066,0.682,0.252,0.9823,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,6,0,1,4,13,1,1,9,0,6,1,1,1,0,17,16,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,10,0,2,1,1,1,2,0,3,0,1,4,3,18,10,25,9,0,16,0,0,1,0,16,8,0,1,5,75,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226325740389724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597569891353396,0.16704858362641462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292879396821047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772639842931433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590655846417576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961139273569402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894106881469355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16852088138763754,0.0,0.13218441876376724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887668589812266,0.12708030916980612,0.0,0.7278177951926996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29973364229095034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459482248649535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181563737441368
parenting,Zorobeans,2020/03/07,"Book recommendations for 7 year old My son is 7 and in the first grade. A few months ago he finished reading the DogMan Series. While he was reading this series he was very engaged and had no problem meeting our nightly reading goals. I’ve struggled to find something similar that keeps him engaged and wanting to read every night. We’ve tried Caveboy Dave, My Big Fat Zombie Goldfish, I survived, and different Pokémon and Minecraft books. We already read Captain Underpants prior to DogMan. Any suggestions on graphic books that are funny and engaging?",6.483015463917525,9.036667237113406,5.926378865979384,74.16936211340209,67.35051546391753,7.32422680412371,38.92912371134021,8.07648339933343,3.6681762886597946,450,26,64,6,8,138,73,97,0.07,0.7909999999999999,0.139,0.8067,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,1,3,0,5,1,1,0,0,11,7,7,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,1,1,1,8,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,6,3,6,4,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,10,33,9,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777448355821187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151485301760502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569402201951893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623855716853201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095188465554214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205522064132775,0.13220404068567698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381484791245688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124058390959847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917108181200405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630919173545772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872030139231607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7773330378367707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196534100045295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248348331067228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552306540196388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824152904432046,0.09167342501338682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000883127815412
parenting,FloptimusCrime8,2020/03/07,"Can anyone recommend books on how to be more patient? I’ve always been a very patient and easy going person but lately my 3 yo has been testing me!  I don’t yell but sometimes I’m really fighting not to and I feel awful because I do get short with her sometimes... I know there’s a communication problem here, I mean she’s 3 and sometimes I just can’t understand what she wants and I try to talk to her like she’s 30.  I need to learn some additional skills here, if anyone has struggled like this and found that a particular book or something really helped I’d love to hear from you.",1.472385261797026,3.844039470588239,3.3497478991596634,87.35056884292179,82.86554621848741,6.01447963800905,22.59922430510666,7.321109707123232,0.9545987071751778,463,16,94,7,13,155,80,119,0.11900000000000001,0.741,0.14,0.3569,0,0,1,0,2,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,5,6,1,1,3,1,9,1,0,1,0,24,21,10,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,6,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,3,16,3,9,17,2,4,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,3,3,57,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547769690794569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601279719121614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339125021548503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405330726056887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395266758344524,0.0,0.0,0.0971836453614055,0.0,0.1057149636001707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964915667817924,0.0,0.12467999027608045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222738602582597,0.0,0.2098297519482057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175223334521756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788318347249265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262170921169326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792561587721527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241859169720627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798845909207436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238328229915584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320120301288433,0.551912172364179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944602354327501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950948070179956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12629000636585674,0.0,0.0,0.19364515712090904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347946401747553,0.10971475652663372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kalgo7,2020/03/07,"Help with an overly emotional 4 year old Disclaimer: I'm not the parent. 

I try to help my sister and her husband with their children. One child is extremely difficult, she is 4 years old and extremely stubborn. She refuses to learn when you try to teach her and shes in preschool. I try to do her homework with her and teach her letters and numbers but if she gets something wrong she gets upset with me or argues. 

On top of this she keeps secrets. She does the frustrating things that kids do. Shes been peeing in pull ups at night, taking them off and throwing them behind her bed. Her mom reacted horribly and was screaming at her, it's been a couple of days and I tried to talk to the child calmly about it and asked her to tell me what was going on and that I would not gst mad and I would help her. She agreed then when it came to talking to me she gets hysterical, crying and screaming and tells me she doesnt want to talk to me or anyone. 

She does this all of the time. Even with simple things. At Christmas she told me she didnt want me to leave and was hysterical and when I asked her why she got angry and told me she doesnt want to talk about it and started screaming at me. 

Shes always been this way since she could talk and have conversations. I don't treat her badly and I wont speak to her parents treatment of her because parenting isn't a one size fits all. 

I don't know what to do. I think she needs a child psychologist but I don't know how to gently bring that up or what else I could do to get her to open up. Any suggestions?",2.8615887850467274,4.205353376947041,3.75404859813084,91.01735327102804,74.42056074766356,6.880548286604363,23.43190031152648,7.404127859558343,0.7390754143302183,1218,34,270,14,25,390,148,321,0.154,0.767,0.079,-0.9734,3,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,3,1,7,13,4,1,8,0,28,1,1,2,2,54,51,30,0,9,8,6,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,5,15,26,0,3,5,0,0,5,10,11,0,2,11,4,60,2,43,35,2,34,0,0,0,0,70,16,0,4,12,188,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512358680397154,0.0,0.0,0.06956897233737219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071532044234044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127740712825053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854180248454539,0.06236244312016195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700640977573297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335989002332174,0.1131953868133681,0.11237411166594594,0.06597642563541611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905060751761562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546032196031056,0.11507615297416375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756960742303138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21379461094372829,0.0,0.058140671276991775,0.0,0.08182037747716235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20571293076948333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093085435704486,0.0,0.0,0.1124451760474161,0.0,0.0,0.1083232090846209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198150455223099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758557504094043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600364073834533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146978016371492,0.0,0.13864517335932447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407833038031031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462539837475958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875719564480299,0.0,0.0,0.07240999065521392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691848762491181,0.4111329784472931,0.17883318227611966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359300098161617,0.06555108905761747,0.0,0.0,0.059653208283974274,0.0,0.0,0.1955081830898195,0.0,0.2778257872161673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810213817291585,0.08120268751982844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231178127525652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534502903068308,0.1118513449773892,0.0,0.13175846524049212
parenting,chobblergobbler996,2020/03/07,"My three year old is out of control Basically my three year old daughter is a nightmare. I can’t even leave her for two minutes to go to the bathroom without her destroying something. Most recently she put magnets in the microwave and turned it on, resulting in a fire. Anything she can destroy, she does. Crayons, tubes of toothpaste, my personal belongings, etc. it doesn’t matter how many times I redirect her or send her to her room, the message doesn’t get through to her. I get down on her level and explain things as best as I can and she says okay mommy and then GOES AND DOES IT AGAIN. She does these things when my attention is diverted, like when I’m switching the laundry out or doing the dishes. I’m out of ideas honestly. I do everything I can think of to get her to stop, I mitigate the chances of these things happening such as moving things out of her reach and locking up things she can destroy. It doesn’t matter. She’ll always find something to break. We try to keep her attention on other things such as coloring or her letters or taking her to the park but the second we’re not doing those things, something is bound to be destroyed.",4.460824579831929,6.050622151785718,4.7729306722689095,84.31177521008405,70.78571428571429,7.949159663865548,31.033613445378148,8.4952907291091,2.385248739495798,918,40,175,15,17,289,118,224,0.06,0.875,0.065,-0.4382,0,0,3,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,2,7,8,4,0,10,1,17,1,0,3,0,33,29,19,0,0,7,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,15,11,1,4,6,0,0,4,6,4,0,4,0,3,31,4,34,27,3,29,0,0,1,0,27,13,0,5,12,133,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031793396100022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204282520342216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013212331041307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907843936112935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325544143534175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382946626651202,0.081901946726829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114447232555338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333529813793408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943572950598638,0.0,0.07047301802092705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965428490445607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998281442049418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021839956461332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129988523070452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06058096214423031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571825077852372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179417223679893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26023782855455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827349269968747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246559479003555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122436709154238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861112091482294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863876773031155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367096522967163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323383864468744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766684899461277,0.07945527595373664,0.0,0.0,0.0723063826073552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418900779406449,0.13487823068831165,0.12113163293479975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953320410503505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970604555055154
parenting,jujubee_1,2020/03/07,"To aba or not? My child was recently given the autism diagnosis. I am trying to learn more about this but I'm limited to the internet and medical advice currently. My big question is should we pursue aba or not? The medical staff made it sound wonderful and so helpful. But online I have read horror stories about it.
Please share your stories and any resources you can.",3.0877173913043485,5.992495362318845,4.362155797101451,79.15019021739131,80.8840579710145,8.08768115942029,27.46557971014493,8.841846274778883,2.8846362318840577,296,13,50,8,8,97,52,69,0.08900000000000001,0.726,0.185,0.836,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,2,0,1,0,16,10,8,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,7,1,5,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,4,2,35,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721387312553021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189383812048926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666702366467225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635154496174931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5611018998522181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057001056397432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31197428523854925,0.0,0.2785669257811251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749768200118358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907748993809187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020122193444407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lucas_Enmer,2020/03/07,"How should I punish my nephew? I have the custody of my nephew 2 years now and I have never been in any situation like this. My nephew is in a football trip, and he was expected to be back on Monday. Although, his coach called me this morning to tell me that my nephew got in some serious trouble. As it seems my nephew and his friends managed to sneak alcohol in their hotel room, they got drunk, and two of my nephew's friend needed to go to the hospital. That happened yesterday. I got the phone call this morning. The trip is now cancelled and they are coming back tonight. To be honest, they will he home in 3 hours or less. It is just so much. I am feeling angry, but sad in the same time and I keep blaming myself for letting this happen. How should I punish my nephew over this? I just don't know how should I act from now on, and I think I am getting crazy. 

A huge thanks to whoever give me their advice. 

Also I am 27 years old. He is 16. If that matters or anything",1.7001084369214468,3.711804221105528,2.8444855858238576,93.32380851626556,79.6532663316583,5.596508860089923,22.533985718064,6.5966054737557815,0.4261999999999997,756,24,164,7,19,242,115,199,0.13,0.7859999999999999,0.084,-0.8928,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,5,0,12,10,2,0,7,0,20,2,0,3,1,31,36,18,0,6,6,7,1,1,2,4,1,0,2,0,10,8,2,1,4,3,0,5,2,5,0,1,5,1,30,5,21,24,4,30,0,1,0,0,24,11,0,5,15,118,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768428361400533,0.0,0.172450409533957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904375576408306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109733923551694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278987586460958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24815987899400666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295439843002228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900190008220942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815911338294505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493408294076133,0.0,0.08430669846354888,0.1547962799170905,0.09170760703800523,0.0,0.3871756651877325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28538956759493816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618625323188924,0.0,0.15891229580585645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342887475924276,0.0,0.0,0.08868213757928001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650069311817942,0.0,0.07883492471767793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862204740328346,0.11965031014135533,0.12445485145024372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932571633598462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690089005493515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813813351650876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104036679762694,0.1485634693093723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339635549733042,0.0,0.0,0.09409339217636302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763043083748404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782789893565395
parenting,PuzzleheadedBee,2020/03/07,"My small brother (5 yo) is scared of getting a haircut Long story short, I have a younger brother who desperately needs a haircut, but is scared to get one. My family literally tried everything and we are completely out of viable options.

Any help?",6.689333333333334,7.967391711111107,7.304444444444448,69.41000000000001,65.22222222222223,10.444444444444443,39.444444444444436,10.504223727775694,4.62811111111111,197,11,32,5,3,65,37,45,0.158,0.768,0.07400000000000001,-0.4678,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446433729710706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152443490733205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702207296506001,0.0,0.2834427362913379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314172913409701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153121259889156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26608144127803185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229412799490471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20374020585559494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6020416125975043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204133622930797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlarmClockCoffee,2020/03/07,What should I expect to be done for my child at his first shots appointment? I live in Texas. He’s having his shots done at his appointment in a couple weeks. What other bloodwork or check up things should I expect to be done? Or is it just shots?,1.8448,4.054289879999999,2.47,95.165,80.2,5.6000000000000005,16.0,6.742157984588678,-0.3976000000000002,194,3,42,2,5,60,33,50,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,9,2,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,7,0,8,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,2,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041172721928828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8438036326674286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337880190583605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24269836351529905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259871253675897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204687980710481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,candyandsugar1993,2020/03/07,"My 15 year old niece just called me crying. She told me that she’s pregnant and begged me to not tell anyone. Help!! I’m 27F and don’t have any kids yet, although my boyfriend and I would like to have some soon. My niece and I are very close, my older brother had her when he was very young himself. He’s on drugs and hasn’t seen me or my niece in almost three years due to his addiction. She has a stepfather but he’s kind of strict if you ask me. She just called me crying and begged me to not tell anyone, but that she just found out she’s pregnant and wants an abortion. When I was very young, I got pregnant as well, but it ended in miscarriage. I always will remember the people that wanted to force me into an abortion, and I didn’t want to be that person to her. I didn’t say “if you want to keep the baby-” or anything like that (I don’t want to further traumatize her by calling it a baby) but I did say “I will support you and love you no matter what you decide to do”. I just don’t know where to go from here. This all just happened 20 minutes ago and I’m in shock. If she has the baby, she’ll be a teenage mom, and my brother will be a 38 year old grandpa. No big deal though, if that’s what she wants I’ll support her and love her. But if she wants to have an abortion, I’m fine with that too. No one in our family graduated from college and I’ve always dreamt that she’d be the first. I would love for her to live in a dorm and do the whole college thing that I never got to do. What should I do from here? Should I tell my parents? She made me promise to not tell anyone. I just don’t know where to go from here, I’ve never been in this situation before",2.383660256410256,3.1481358916666693,3.6094444444444456,93.84615384615385,74.80555555555556,6.4273504273504285,22.45726495726496,6.297961479604792,0.1801880341880344,1291,31,309,8,26,421,152,360,0.066,0.8140000000000001,0.12,0.9613,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,1,5,0,1,18,12,0,0,13,0,35,5,0,1,3,63,63,31,0,16,21,5,0,2,0,8,2,2,1,2,17,18,0,1,5,0,0,2,15,1,1,3,13,3,58,11,34,37,3,34,0,0,1,3,52,14,0,9,20,214,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003276114620879,0.0,0.0,0.08158012152408663,0.0,0.09215597050796964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531546909598459,0.0,0.0,0.06258438382807427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193051101458284,0.0,0.07573385048679207,0.0,0.08603676512066644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831178772704031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819224885178132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021839420808121,0.0,0.09488014423072333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672699439579762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151234244864307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675884135021585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828170664530851,0.0,0.1009074798400502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460692360310896,0.0,0.1472115437944408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138290175360287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616865851979788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818015747494219,0.0,0.0958363509470234,0.10115590069722012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899236084502937,0.0,0.08126525119860144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491853009689549,0.08708216328029232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077858497173494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196029705907254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19314256303143545,0.0,0.06236273480763059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218977594391117,0.0,0.0,0.06380285844754167,0.08035810936686907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042534290857297,0.0,0.0,0.14637383613811816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034469444981874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20887187014348552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217573623623086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061141451585871635,0.0,0.0904202039880842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793977229306922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278061783359908,0.3799767759588823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274711709445565,0.0,0.0,0.10274956778534702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075267290490586,0.0,0.0,0.17779526024662598
parenting,pareech,2020/03/07,"Found a Way to Wean my Daughter from Her Pacifier I don't know if anyone else has thought of this when trying to wean their child from their pacifier; but what I did to get my daughter to give up her pacifiers, is one of my proudest parenting hacks.

My wife and I had decided it was time to wean our daughter from her pacifier. She was turning 3 in a few weeks and we told her she was a big girl and that she no longer needed a pacifier. We told her about the Pacifier Fairy; who would collect all her pacifiers the day after her birthday and leave her a gift. Our daughter was super excited about the idea, she told her friends at daycare about it and she even explained it to the daycare workers. Every night when we put her to bed, we would talk about the Pacifier Fairy.

Well, D-day arrives or more like P-Day and we thought she was ready; but when we went to take her pacifiers, she threw a tantrum of the likes we had not seen before and didn't care what kind of gift she would get from the Pacifier Fairy, she wasn't giving up her pacifiers for nothing. This is when I had my stroke of genius. I remembered when I quit smoking, I wore a nicotine patch and so a plan began to formulate in my head. We had some bandaids for blisters and I told her these were special patches to help get her over the hump of the pacifier. So we put a ""pacifier patch"" on her arm and she immediately calmed down. The next day she was proud to show off her patch to her friends and educators at the daycare. She wore the patch for a few days, until it came off in the bath. She still asks for the patch from time to time; but more often than not, she goes to bed without the pacifier patch.

I hope my idea might help other parents who are trying to wean their child from their pacifier.",5.436359015516317,5.411724117977531,5.439967897271267,86.25473782771536,67.65168539325843,8.803424291064742,30.99732477260568,8.418075326091056,2.02219090422686,1390,50,298,18,21,435,154,356,0.036000000000000004,0.797,0.16699999999999998,0.9951,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,11,0,4,5,15,14,1,0,25,0,23,5,2,0,1,47,50,24,0,6,8,7,1,2,2,4,2,0,3,3,13,21,0,0,9,2,0,5,7,1,1,1,28,2,62,13,51,18,6,37,0,0,1,1,71,13,0,6,20,211,75,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379311594553167,0.10813394381258937,0.0,0.0,0.0986617678350787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980323014979677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070489045022675,0.10760082653891268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403094430418159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816165558649433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970542962043241,0.0,0.08891850028174242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571460566699653,0.16307346254104138,0.0,0.16541436795390665,0.20247919616314106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083102230212531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147690324725784,0.0,0.0,0.10482090580495028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382742439859852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989934121808492,0.05799973985388782,0.0,0.0,0.11174722060814776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311896510023827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195685277789984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825349107571597,0.0,0.0,0.11223856735704307,0.0990382403866242,0.0,0.10126448862191643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151381917395096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23437013084247346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21218534480304752,0.0,0.11225036074280813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955153825276027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428106133334122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934982057955328,0.08482571376914136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675673433132625,0.1846163979748493,0.0,0.0,0.4033760862710258,0.0,0.14330382102336156,0.11479269287616067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837694406668114,0.08465448822150687,0.0,0.09488939808865768,0.0978327846932991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017327875470256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22490890678886816,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lizdavis17,2020/03/07,"RSV can go to hell RSV hospital stay

My 2.5 month old boy was diagnosed with RSV on Tuesday of this week. We were transferred to Dayton’s children’s hospital which is about 90 minutes away from home. Being that we’re exclusively breastfeeding (and lets be honest even if I wasn’t) I am here with him 100%. It’s so hard to wrangle a sick coughing kiddo with all the cords and the high air flow tubing and get him latched and happy to eat, my back is super sore from uncomfortable chairs and beds, but I’m here and we’re pulling through and I’m just feeling a bit like a bundle of raw emotional totally exposed nerve endings over here, all while missing my 2 year old at home. I could really use a good dose of happy go lucky cheery toddler, but I will stay here and he’ll heal and support the baby.",4.4356352343308885,5.331900683229815,4.9964426877470345,85.30952569169963,70.11801242236024,8.090570299265952,28.92207792207793,8.296473431620573,1.8663614906832304,634,23,130,9,11,203,111,161,0.084,0.715,0.20199999999999999,0.9741,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,9,10,1,0,7,0,12,7,0,1,3,24,22,14,0,2,4,0,2,1,0,2,6,0,3,2,4,13,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,3,2,10,8,18,13,4,21,1,1,0,0,6,6,1,2,10,75,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826991756530326,0.12953223336706768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839102761851629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344983749012548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709792511766006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237249988485784,0.0,0.1894902789504033,0.14920197821576953,0.0,0.0,0.1112635713676846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517639378874196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801128517677234,0.0,0.19147480575083814,0.14129286504704364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586489989651384,0.15090345004866929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798296826839358,0.3379501214250941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722576300703309,0.0,0.08229907193218848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445993833637715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535323806957268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791720011516387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591032744300961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116182459527736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549186086554602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351252082243463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848011376476632
parenting,MopvivII,2020/03/07,"Calm, classy television for a 2 year old? We limit screen time, I don't consider television especially educational (even if the content is educational, I'm skeptical that children understand to ""apply"" it to the real world since viewing is so ""passive"") so, with all the utmost respect, I'm asking for advice for those times when 8 month old is demanding a feed from Mommy and I'm in the kitchen making dinner - at times like that, 20 mins of ""television babysitter"" is a lifesaver. I'm asking for help and advice on finding good programming for these times, in the nicest and most polite way - I'm not looking to discuss the method. 

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Problem is... I'm a terrible snob. Even the better 2-year-old-appropriate television ('Hey Duggee', 'Shaun the Sheep', etc.) is still pretty irritating, and hyperactive, and obnoxious and just a bit naff. In context yeah, it's better than some other options in the same category. But objectively, it's not much fun for anyone but kiddo.

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So can anybody recommend anything that will keep the little hurricane calm for a little while, but is also calm, and classy and won't start to grate on the inevitable 3rd 4th 5th viewing?",6.9770412999322975,8.291322848341236,7.232880839539607,70.05029620853085,64.59241706161137,10.009614082599867,34.502708192281645,10.125756701596842,3.766364658090725,935,41,150,21,14,303,130,211,0.068,0.765,0.16699999999999998,0.9605,0,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,1,0,0,3,9,13,2,0,17,1,11,3,0,1,1,29,24,18,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,10,3,2,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,4,2,9,22,22,7,24,0,0,4,0,7,10,0,4,14,91,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403969160070925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836655944607632,0.0,0.2665503919312526,0.2989275740483345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600752353980988,0.0,0.10122212532277218,0.0,0.22998498466491746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757475918516425,0.1342889267435724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718240011341667,0.16248646779889564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242377627963772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317023929967137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244724409902585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933194598801163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600937276100794,0.2465654093489345,0.0,0.0,0.10329270101572492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210637979658134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818092378383222,0.0,0.09042237346875226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872172204635023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513967685988014,0.0,0.11769858099186127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000591523430914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175049546981813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706313432647222,0.0,0.0982314579579213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868993761130231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280518991250254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976351526527964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989275740483345,0.15842157765914291
parenting,CommittedIndecisive,2020/03/07,"Is it ok to let my daughter sleep in and skip her first class? Trying again as my first post was removed.


Me/The Dad (48M) and my wife/The Mom (46F) are having a disagreement.  

Occasionally my  daughter (16F) will ask if she can skip her first class so she can catch up on sleep.  I'm fine with it but my wife thinks it's a problem.

Some background - my daughter is in 10th grade. She's an 'A' student with occasional B's.  She does various sports throughout the school year and plays club soccer.

The important bit, she's severely dyslexic. For her it manifests as an inability to associate sounds with letters/letter combinations and with a very poor working memory.  She reads ok silently (albeit slowly).  But she really struggles to read out loud and has a really hard time writing. She knows what she wants to say but figuring out how to write the words is a real struggle. She has an accommodation at school where she can have more time if she wants it and they don't mark off for spelling.

Because of the dyslexia it's not uncommon for her to be up past midnight doing schoolwork, especially when she's studying for an exam.  That she is able to get the grades she does with such a significant handicap never ceases to amaze me.  She does it on her own without us having to nag her about studying or schoolwork. 

Sometimes she just needs some more sleep in the morning. She always makes sure she's caught up and won't miss a test or anything. She doesn't do it often, maybe once a month but it has become more frequent. 

My position is as long as her grades are good and missing class doesn't interfere with anything I don't care if she skips an occasional class.  My wife thinks it sets a bad precedent.",3.935020202020201,5.814536724242426,4.552424242424241,84.19308080808082,72.66666666666667,7.555555555555558,27.373737373737374,8.285830014693849,1.8275252525252528,1349,50,262,22,27,430,176,330,0.127,0.8109999999999999,0.061,-0.9798,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,1,4,9,15,1,2,21,2,27,3,3,2,2,48,41,24,0,7,12,7,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,12,16,0,1,4,6,1,3,8,7,0,3,2,4,40,8,38,35,8,32,0,2,0,0,41,13,0,8,14,175,52,15,0.117324458562917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762334819076332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930960654110872,0.0,0.10968253111860404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796102225412763,0.0715199009737005,0.12957564676817446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280879219823488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962010477016495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30801427297194856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993883735551693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129718721067388,0.0,0.0,0.09840618942134094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050996700001726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447845412651494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199722078558484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382845384278012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831498713009848,0.0,0.11786818810549556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740898788079373,0.09364726348429443,0.0,0.0,0.08699459941158649,0.09048785526716577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249467193134047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119994712375063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123643998274514,0.0,0.0,0.1122636618304813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23471241645527416,0.1335409194374091,0.15032210483972733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330111850818636,0.0,0.23747723143914864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325432430966798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522275666512755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603688949736238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453059959219585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057691371761534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035355138622894,0.0,0.0,0.13682567057267947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965560598449609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411268778716218,0.0,0.0,0.0968049655257038,0.13840201086462536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309659132158473,0.0,0.08541360316136105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555310468104609
parenting,The_Goodest_Dude,2020/03/07,"When should I tell my son he’s adopted? If you adopted a child as a baby at what age would you sit them down and tell them that they’re adopted?

If you have any stories or experiences with this I’d love to hear about them!",3.741875,3.7869477708333332,4.416666666666668,91.895,71.29166666666666,7.2333333333333325,26.416666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.6931166666666666,175,5,42,1,3,56,38,48,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.7052,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,5,6,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,1,6,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,13,2,0,3,2,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25585067043338394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680271020460688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4240408224402499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395640808746105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6576867250416688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26726442746146045,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WomanOfEld,2020/03/07,"What tracks by metal and rock bands do play as your kid's lullabies (e.g. ""Silent Lucidity"" by Queensryche)? Most kids' music gets under my skin, so I'm working on an unconventional lullaby playlist for my 9 month old. He really seems to calm down to ""You Need to Calm Down"" by Taylor Swift, which I can sort of tolerate, but he's becoming more appreciate of Queen and Pink Floyd, which is finally making our nighttime teething drama a little easier on all of us. Do you guys have any soothing favorites?",10.312446808510641,7.898253755319152,9.894148936170216,65.98250000000002,59.319148936170215,13.655319148936169,39.45744680851064,12.161744961471696,4.6777106382978735,399,15,72,10,4,130,77,94,0.0,0.794,0.20600000000000002,0.9571,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,3,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,1,1,9,10,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,3,16,10,3,9,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,3,3,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20420656680902705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316452010983799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289515179014129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688841604333048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973329565736822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30096809749530984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044499335779367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23968752080495104,0.0,0.0,0.22266021537169664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151024048562493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19237258671877167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733714921364037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612102502243981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21861370020916854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oryhiou,2020/03/07,"NPR releases a just for kids “Comic exploring the new Coronavirus” Fellow parents, this was shared with me earlier. A great comic explaining all things Coronavirus for your kids to read.  Helped cleared many anxieties, so I’m sharing with you for the same.

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2020/02/28/809580453/just-for-kids-a-comic-exploring-the-new-coronavirus",16.563333333333333,22.72399422222223,9.422222222222224,43.54000000000002,51.22222222222222,10.711111111111112,33.44444444444444,10.355215969177356,4.914911111111113,320,11,32,8,5,82,37,45,0.032,0.746,0.221,0.8548,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,6,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,20,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245830295178404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542872392394613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21539275102450312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32579637446307824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6207196874276603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35681885934347063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214349021615149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21348929295479732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DamnJester,2020/03/07,"Help: toddler with broken arm. So, my son broke his arm a few days ago and the Dr. said ""3 months feet on the floor"". No parks, no bike, no scooter, no swings, no slides, etc. It's been three days and he is going nuts (and driving us nuts). Anyone have any recommendations of thing we could do with him to keep him busy?  Any age appropriate games?  Outdoor activities that don't include possible hazards?  How do you keep a 3.5 y/o from jumping?  Any help appreciated.",2.305333333333333,4.629208644444447,3.518888888888892,87.64500000000002,79.22222222222223,6.222222222222222,23.333333333333336,7.3871296695380915,0.8763333333333341,358,12,75,5,9,116,71,90,0.198,0.718,0.084,-0.8665,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,4,3,1,0,10,11,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,6,0,2,0,2,0,4,6,1,0,1,2,1,7,0,6,8,2,11,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,0,5,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356104440657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684870148847361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056887022036087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833479894307521,0.0,0.0,0.29619620797624485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561080948939681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305090886296369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30784425112845565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082272416124808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329559276130447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588833751703206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21843919696303504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256189263801312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762273426000264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KayleeBee1993,2020/03/07,"Appreciated gifts for new parents My friend is currently awaiting the arrival of her baby boy. I'd love to get her a gift but have no clue what to actually get - what was the most appreciated gift you received/desired as a first time parent?

Is it better to go practical or sentimental or is the last thing you want more stuff crowding your space? (she has a small house)",4.056384976525823,6.1292293098591575,5.312323943661976,78.0523356807512,72.80281690140845,8.11361502347418,28.734741784037556,8.841846274778883,2.35170234741784,295,12,56,6,6,98,56,71,0.033,0.659,0.308,0.9696,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,0,5,11,4,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,7,3,6,10,2,8,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,3,5,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.2471946170381396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22403265144595125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546587735623648,0.0,0.0,0.1957071506421988,0.0,0.26468867975696875,0.0,0.1439622584737776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922864363757807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648195788179505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22862271744119095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24464896776687214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5625429151757421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28998004696656104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828831502708702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770745505936536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940916214295816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amatharra,2020/03/07,"What is a good age to start a child in self-defense classes? I know my daughter is too young right now, and it's going to be a few years before I can even do anything like this. But as a father of a girl, I know the dangers of existing in the world as a female. I want to make sure my daughter is well prepared for the world around her. What is a good age to start any kind of self-defense courses? And what kind of self-defense courses would anyone recommend?",4.134375000000002,4.276935354166668,4.908333333333335,88.37000000000002,70.45833333333334,7.2333333333333325,29.541666666666664,6.42735559955562,1.3028041666666668,358,13,78,2,6,116,58,96,0.034,0.765,0.201,0.9143,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,0,10,0,8,0,0,1,1,10,15,5,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,7,14,13,1,14,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,8,52,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751581964603373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111401455272675,0.0,0.1543078868732327,0.16692704446531298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956043966802155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385110178032607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656841841364273,0.3145553714422252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905335515155349,0.20610537006921134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160977496054254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251669229906125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013576757890774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5868533913424734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654464770353116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672954502105856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106005023461254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685974330055254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332044292565167,0.0,0.0,0.12075274454944915
parenting,NoSubrannke,2020/03/07,"14 year old girl will take responsibility for nothing, refusing to not miss school and sleeping in. Our daughter is a smart young lady and very ambitious. She has straight A's and works hard at school.  But she misses a lot of school.

My wife and I work and 3 days out of the week she has to get herself up and get ready by herself. Shes been sleeping in and missing school. 
 
It's gotten so bad we've been alerted that legal authorities have been notified.  We had to go to a school meeting with the principal and the counselor and come up with a plan to make sure she will go to school.  After that everything was fine first a month.

A week or so ago my wife took her to a doctor appointment and they got home at 11am. My wife had somewhere to be and when she got back at 2:00 our daughter was sleeping at home. My wife took her phone for the evening and made her go to the last part of the day.  This was at least an accepted absence because of a doctor's note.

Yesterday we got a call from school that she wasnt at school. My wife called and our daughter was sleeping. We have grounded her for the week.  No phone. No friends.

We have tried talking about this with her. She is mad at us that shes grounded. She feels we shouldn't have to ground her. She says she doesn't care if shes late or it gets us in trouble. She wants to sleep in. She doesnt care about the consequences and she refuses to take responsibility for her actions. She claims that we are just trying to ruin her life and that we don't care about her. A lot of this seems emotionally manipulative.

We have her set up for a child psychologist. We just dont know how to get through to her. She is full of rage and hate and refuses to take responsibility and she's been like this for a long long time.

Anyone ever have to deal with this? Anyone have any advice?",2.3626539589442817,4.240395177419355,3.302600195503423,91.46253665689152,77.06451612903227,6.444574780058653,23.100684261974592,7.348242739294969,0.6760634408602155,1434,44,319,18,33,457,167,372,0.10300000000000001,0.825,0.07200000000000001,-0.9342,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,14,0,1,5,12,18,3,0,22,0,35,8,5,4,2,57,65,26,0,3,7,8,2,1,1,3,3,1,2,2,13,33,0,3,4,0,0,7,9,9,0,1,18,3,53,9,55,43,5,49,0,4,0,0,69,20,0,6,22,215,66,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141664327072099,0.06478437884981345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049699489976893566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220378412940237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619693081018681,0.061021920074736516,0.04455120598525943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925346159666827,0.0,0.22354141385991044,0.0,0.0,0.06295522219845279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426600952727207,0.0753461884382372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960873172956546,0.0,0.0,0.08565366900142417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822094379026291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04827116046185408,0.06610848099586895,0.0,0.0,0.065683006740212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03695336507356259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216504272823716,0.0,0.0,0.056464362390798266,0.0,0.1527330757767096,0.0,0.12460562283576185,0.0,0.17535537296476952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546872945031446,0.07215512166241146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661802006610591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04016494503338009,0.05957305115700413,0.08244170941863195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05162124910464109,0.03570505295009939,0.0,0.0,0.1293537259225699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426646608360895,0.0,0.06915365841108845,0.048784003834806106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05833479169635372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012587693632527,0.0,0.07668915381400923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914263315956208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811917092617085,0.0,0.5917176567984962,0.0,0.0665327464523097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656828999557768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888061634843798,0.0,0.16484976605146073,0.0587419898699152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042615751355669786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239758123689998,0.09923820536051654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582162504467624,0.0,0.0,0.060301788744331085,0.04310671862557114,0.0,0.17587024742583368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064117532764563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706357088929557
parenting,ArbitraryIndividual,2020/03/07,"Other kids with poor behavior Our neighbors kids are bossy to mine.  They don’t reciprocate or blend with others when we have big cook outs.  I think it’s because they are never told “No”.  I don’t know truly why.  All I know is that when other kids are visiting all the kids play well together and their are no issues.  

I’ve tried play dates with our neighbor’s kids without the parents and it’s hard.  These kids don’t listen well.  Last play date one of my friend’s kids complained that the others were bullying them.  But what really happened was that this kid was being disruptive to the group’s game and out of frustration was yelled at.  And it turned out the kid had no interest in playing the game and was making it hard for the others to focus on it.  I tried to address this issue with my friend delicately.  But his feeling was that his kid is very mature for his age and has a hard time playing down to other kids’ level. 

We are getting to the age where they are forming their own circle of friends and my kids have preferences to have certain play dates with certain kids and birthday parties are getting smaller (by not inviting the whole class).  My kids are sought out by other kids to play with and they receive positive feedback from parents that things went well.  

TLDR:  Here comes the issue.

While I remind my children not to talk about play dates and parties with others so to avoid hurt feelings, my friend’s kids still find out.  They get upset that they are not among the same circles or as many as my kids.  The circles my kids are in tend to conflict with my neighbor’s kids.  There is also a tug of war affect that my kids expressed to me where they feel they have to pick a side.  And now where we stand is that my friend tells me that my kids treat his kids poorly or rudely but hasn’t used the word bully.  I can’t find a way to get him to understand that his kids behavior is causing these issues.  When he talks to his kids about what happens they tend to omit the part where they overstep and start entering into conflict.  

Am I too involved?",4.816587301587305,5.890831913580247,4.7063800705467385,87.08263888888891,69.37037037037037,7.267195767195767,27.05687830687831,7.310402129719878,1.2773544973544977,1635,51,324,15,28,503,184,405,0.09,0.802,0.10800000000000001,0.0998,2,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,5,0,13,0,19,27,3,2,18,0,34,1,0,5,5,65,57,26,1,1,10,2,6,0,8,0,0,2,4,25,30,30,1,3,10,11,2,5,13,7,3,1,9,8,47,20,51,47,7,42,0,1,0,0,74,19,0,3,16,231,77,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361719447385743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06373926306475597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074126934451369,0.0,0.09006982819578503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586071715991992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19113326353176371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039168826767111,0.0,0.21851470639968834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492545286749928,0.0,0.28099768412529297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193444608855413,0.0,0.0,0.4365370315402364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149277080540144,0.0852309672721947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979511294952577,0.1060081896443227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806436968244731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085307065649266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23220467920977586,0.11322910352334498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698429426203005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400863744218904,0.0,0.08350235049158965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16808394127443296,0.09139070472144327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946551658802855,0.06699830700304797,0.0,0.0,0.06097021452707708,0.0,0.0,0.0999122780458037,0.0,0.14197977221180286,0.1137320712717058,0.0,0.10885142890205173,0.0,0.09030691688209083,0.0,0.08627356972832524,0.0,0.08299545691977822,0.0,0.0,0.2820380160780168,0.09692886335066074,0.09434981402737112,0.11673834395935588,0.0,0.10079283231424616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sonofacrakr,2020/03/07,"I am walking on eggshells around my 14 year old daughter, please help? My child is a Freshman in High School. We had a great relationship until the start of the school year. 

I co-parent with a single dad going through a divorce. I have primary custody and she attends school in my town. Her grades started slipping as she started demanding her phone overnight in her bedroom (a solid rule I never break). She became angrier at home claiming I don't let her have a social life. She has stopped doing any chores. She does have her phone after school as I work full time.

I came home one night to her begging to go ice skating until 11pm. I said no, it is a school night and her grades are not passing. This is where she turned and had a huge meltdown claiming I never let her do anything. This meltdown lasted for an hour where she threatened to walk to the rink (7 miles away). She asked if she could have her phone overnight at least, just one time, I was stupid and said yes.

This led to an every night negotiating scheme of ""well if I can't do X then I should be able to have my phone until X or overnight"" plus a lot of ""Dad lets me keep my phone in my room overnight"".

Cue these past weeks. I received an email with all her missing assignments (a whole list) and her teachers collectively state she has done no work in class due to playing on her phone. When she came home, I tried to talk to her about it and was met with anger. I didn't blame or shame her at all.  

The following day, instead of coming home, she ""ran away"" to dad's. My ex let her do this stating ""You guys really aren't getting along so she asked to come here"" (Yes, this violates custody). My ex does all her laundry, cooks for her, and acts as her servant. She ended up staying there an extra week and a half. I put my foot down and said I was calling a lawyer and he returned her yesterday.

Now, when I try to talk to her about ""running away"" or even open any line of communication, she just walks right past me. She literally comes downstairs to get food to take to her room and then runs as fast as she can away from me. If I talk, she keeps headphones in.

A. This is super frustrating because she is just throwing dirty dishes in the sink and throwing clothes everywhere to spite me and B. She is getting away with sitting in her room all day with straight F's and playing on a cell phone. I feel like a prisoner because she won't talk and I can't think of ways. Maybe a letter?

I am walking on eggshells here. Help?",2.98566645486094,4.651284501002007,3.39225670853903,92.419182266973,74.7314629258517,6.150857813187352,25.79798621633511,6.697824305789354,0.8020906300405688,1942,68,419,16,41,602,242,499,0.08199999999999999,0.8440000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.7861,1,0,0,0,2,0,66.0,1,1,0,3,18,13,5,1,25,2,40,5,1,1,6,55,68,35,0,5,10,6,1,1,0,2,1,3,9,2,9,30,3,3,2,3,0,23,11,7,1,3,14,4,80,6,68,46,10,101,0,1,0,0,81,36,0,7,37,278,89,12,0.07233650039882561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838260159099048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952677635895619,0.06439482158362636,0.1352497263262519,0.0,0.3398126164833969,0.0,0.0,0.08819131848000282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738636546127944,0.16546737158533867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18693446994633908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05775480949385387,0.0,0.0,0.09330211701574684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266043179321726,0.07402535460450872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406866874253596,0.0,0.0,0.04777757629164104,0.0,0.060946621433690534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03657550807029399,0.05167721033843722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746958341395968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337850763830255,0.0,0.0822210003439169,0.0,0.0,0.07975124705998496,0.0,0.0716245081232293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969712628586916,0.07642748422082095,0.2902376314310248,0.0,0.07123688181445624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859201043180796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05896390244914106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958758904225809,0.05109340947615712,0.03533996023709709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149790586134798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267173733710218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158073702274188,0.0,0.0,0.203648716246122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590498885945958,0.0,0.09803416950717786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810674935261688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940375519452726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271816237629318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04634061443744067,0.0,0.0,0.07766233024878083,0.0,0.0617749761006738,0.20642573031359088,0.0,0.0,0.36604200132527936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373795260630432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536004418886392,0.07710108474751481,0.0,0.0604765533474942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054388045911366936,0.23256535585056284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046350308635698285,0.0,0.0,0.08435999019456401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822347095642013,0.07868134048493168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741734702964235,0.1160479546989924,0.0,0.0650392011230045,0.0,0.0,0.08076111940993215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532366762781352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316466922303644
parenting,hipsterrorism,2020/03/07,"“Mommy I miss you!” I’m not sure there is a way to say this without sounding like an asshole, but here it goes...

I am divorced and 50/50 split custody with my daughter’s father. He was a bad husband, but he is a pretty good father. Our daughter is 3.5. 

I have PTSD and anxiety (diagnosed) that normally are generally well managed without medication. I know threenagers are trying to figure out their life and place in the world. Asserting their independence and whatnot. 

But this new phase she’s been in for about 3 weeks, she’s throwing a tantrum every time she doesn’t get her way (and sometimes when she does). The repetition of everything, the possessiveness - this morning she got mad because I used “her” cup. We do not, nor have we ever assigned cups. Another tantrum was that I couldn’t reach the things she dropped in the back seat while driving a manual transmission car on the highway at 70mph. Screaming like a banshee. Interrupting adult conversations, despite being told that I will listen to her in a minute. Also wanting to be on top of me. All. The. Time. 

The one that gets me especially bad is “mommy I miss you.” She says it in the car. She says it while we’re home. She says it over and over and over. I can’t think of any way to respond other than “I’m right here! Do you need a hug?” Because by the 400th time I hear it, I want to scream. (It’s not just her repetitiveness I’m annoyed by... [its things like this](https://youtu.be/Y9j3heYZAk8) annoy me too. 

I do my best to be a present and engaged parent. I never ignore her to play on my phone. We take trips and go to museums and playgrounds. Yesterday we spent the whole day together. If we were any more connected, we’d still be attached by the umbilical cord. Sometimes it just feels like too much, and I don’t want to be resentful towards her. Any tips are welcome. Please tell me I’m not alone.",2.196488919667587,4.782272218836563,3.2599439058171766,87.76492970914131,81.65927977839334,6.269279778393352,25.64549861495845,7.554174236665415,1.476389972299169,1465,60,287,24,40,469,200,361,0.151,0.733,0.11599999999999999,-0.9305,1,1,0,0,1,0,65.0,7,3,2,2,14,25,6,0,22,0,28,4,0,2,4,48,51,20,0,7,12,6,1,4,0,1,3,9,1,1,18,18,0,1,4,2,1,6,12,13,1,1,7,10,48,12,36,36,5,45,0,2,0,1,49,18,0,1,21,193,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160370370145152,0.0,0.08959632955278966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285679780345023,0.11748106293450515,0.08570836293300553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614990383872535,0.18709322629199504,0.13659401167273771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175764195205486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225490377281213,0.0,0.0,0.11371568037076965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804475077310143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013443118442678,0.09439640616570567,0.0,0.10069205974291184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056649514514548034,0.08003959566364324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706991468625852,0.0,0.06367347985203177,0.09397171978349844,0.08960660484908127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262743787552318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238272399949008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157286710195485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791353830589193,0.21894340732573075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286597072633893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823604364925758,0.08307436927143548,0.08641020883928048,0.1082064930424924,0.0,0.0,0.10977293925173674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591949369158682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440435901424188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170553170775542,0.1229835050755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398239189420645,0.0,0.0,0.1309658146118134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567939284740194,0.0,0.3563867929647467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216158582811696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947327353127205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559399577911467,0.0,0.0842382391613657,0.0,0.09792569279329448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886544223201953,0.07178909112528062,0.0,0.0,0.1959898607473673,0.0,0.0,0.10705661014446637,0.0,0.07606609227301821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676440756923343,0.0,0.0,0.1982478194550853,0.2667904020109287,0.08986970572588608,0.0,0.10073514661645104,0.0,0.0,0.12508584152628352,0.0,0.21600025873648915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Babsyyyy,2020/03/07,"Autistic child’s GPS tracker caught fire Autistic child’s GPS tracker caught fire, keep the public informed, vote “helpful” on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-reviews/R13E5E8RXV02BM",16.602028985507253,23.03281673913044,7.408695652173915,55.60115942028989,55.52173913043479,4.8057971014492775,38.10144927536232,6.42735559955562,3.2051275362318847,167,7,14,1,3,39,16,23,0.183,0.6459999999999999,0.171,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6020931222129913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7984258714394293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krimzen_rogue,2020/03/07,"Swimming Lessons Question: Parent of 2 yr old and 5 yr old. Does my 2 yr old need lessons right now or is it okay to wait a bit? I'm the dad of a 2 yr old and 5 yr old. We have an above ground pool and we swim for fun. We're in Ontario, Canada.

That said, I'm not sure about starting the 2 year old this year with swimming lessons. I'd like to start our 5 year old with lessons and have our 2 year old watch. What are your thoughts? Lessons can get expensive and I almost feel the 2 year old would not get much out of it. When did you start your kids with lessons? Thanks in advance.",0.9204438081603428,2.331741803149612,1.734774516821762,103.18880458124552,79.78740157480316,4.933142448103078,22.56907659269864,4.851557810540192,-0.3749937007874018,447,14,117,1,11,138,72,127,0.016,0.89,0.094,0.8473,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,3,0,7,3,5,0,0,6,1,7,0,0,0,1,28,20,7,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,11,0,1,9,4,1,4,2,0,0,0,3,3,9,5,13,16,2,28,0,0,1,0,12,5,0,3,20,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269636391251758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106342468912004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100940041264344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04680661808311628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672892755922018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522545575337577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805024772236576,0.06864013413539974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8742380927662742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278900658114423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037005708017178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905502523384722,0.08805610485525965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965664347590741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724695833066567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522682848852119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734909379992136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575969675822235,0.0,0.0,0.29806305648452697
parenting,aVerySensitiveSoul,2020/03/07,"Question for parents of autistic children I am looking for a definition of “stimming attendance.” I googled it and searched Reddit for it to no avail. 

As a caregiver, it is an option for something I can provide. I was under the impression it meant being aware of what stimming is, aware each child’s stim or stims will be different, and encouraging or helping the child to use their stim if they need calming. 

Could somebody please let me know if that is correct and if I missed anything or if I am totally wrong? I don’t want to offer it unless I am completely clear on what it is. 

Thank you!",4.321754385964908,6.10484907017544,5.083333333333336,81.17833333333336,71.45614035087719,7.873684210526315,33.719298245614034,8.515128840125781,2.864445614035088,470,24,86,8,9,152,76,114,0.066,0.768,0.16699999999999998,0.8737,2,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,2,0,0,6,0,0,5,0,15,0,0,1,3,23,23,12,0,7,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,1,12,4,14,16,2,3,0,1,1,0,11,2,0,9,0,68,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22009194048694708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28042054137882905,0.0,0.0,0.2135403405234752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27943261583125595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926884941106108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698578200535872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734899437260197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245940888140436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983138305342324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969761334047606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935842931814435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996098082166906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589923725174172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462358070061812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23099447510375026,0.0,0.0,0.1577513610836211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924190790171384,0.0,0.0
parenting,don-t_judge_me,2020/03/07,At what age we should start cleaning the penis under the foreskin? I don't remember at what age I stared it or when my parents showed me to clean it. My son just turned 3 and I was thinking of going to the doctor but thought I would ask here first. So is it time yet? If not when should I start cleaning it.,2.388307692307695,3.5430112153846167,3.2769230769230795,94.72307692307696,75.30769230769229,5.815384615384616,23.76923076923077,5.6839178017228535,0.2261384615384614,239,7,55,1,5,76,47,65,0.0,0.963,0.037000000000000005,0.2982,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,13,13,7,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,6,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,9,0,6,8,0,13,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,2,9,42,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877275662653508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31502019329809344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26179279177411136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491531382319644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417471064643777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348648457244809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43568868267964705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972094415515099,0.0,0.2443385362690277,0.17946575810659846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347702242829697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21863414032858186,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VisualChest,2020/03/07,"Raising our grandchildren, please help. My granddaughter hasn't had an easy life. She (15f) and her younger brother (6m) have recently been taken out of their home because their parents are not fit to take care of them.

Because my wife and I were the only relatives willing to take them, we saved them from having to be placed into foster care.

My grandson seems to be adjusting well. Unlike his sister, he wasn't exposed to the majority of the things she was. She made sure that he never had to go through what she did. He calls his sister 'mommy' as she was the one who took care of him for most of his life. He doesn't know any better. He hasn't mentioned missing his actual parents at all; he actually seems to view being taken out of his house as a vacation.

My granddaughter however, isn't adjusting well at all. She's a brave young woman who has suffered so much. She's seen her own mother overdose and has been the victim of verbal and physical abuse; she suffers from PTSD and has also been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. While she was living with her parents, she was tasked with mothering her little brother and even calls him her son when out in public. It's an odd dynamic. She wasn't happy to be separated from her parents. She claims to miss her old life.

She's become violent and throws things when asked to do something she doesn't want to do. We searched her phone and found several anti Christian posts online about the church... We've also discovered that she has a girlfriend, which is the most saddening part of this all. We've done everything we can from putting her into therapy, physical discipline, and even taking away her electronics and banning her friends (especially her close female friends that often stayed the night, in case she decides to try something)

My wife and I weren't present in the past few years of our grandchildren's lives because they lived so far away. Now that they're in our care, we want the best for them. We don't know how to help our granddaughter move on from her trauma. Our grandson is beginning to act out because he wants to be like his sister, or in this case, his 'mommy'.

Please, my wife and I desperately need advice. How can we help our grandkids? How can we help our grandson realize that his sister is not his mother? How can we help our granddaughter realize that she cannot say things against God and rebel but having a girlfriend?",5.98092105263158,6.984142969298247,5.838438596491232,80.2767368421053,66.67543859649122,9.237894736842106,30.989473684210523,9.3871,2.7034136842105267,1918,72,354,36,30,599,213,456,0.076,0.828,0.096,0.8029,5,0,2,0,1,0,51.0,16,0,7,2,17,25,3,0,16,0,45,4,0,5,5,66,71,29,0,4,4,21,0,1,4,1,4,1,1,1,16,32,0,2,10,0,0,6,13,9,2,1,21,3,73,16,55,44,11,42,2,5,2,0,111,21,0,6,14,252,89,0,0.0,0.09701378348542204,0.1598051038603252,0.0,0.0,0.08001167091296905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095796591680506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568084769119767,0.0,0.06263757080111447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765462519801656,0.0,0.1538569156414104,0.0,0.0,0.199651860900602,0.09042944219881573,0.0,0.0,0.0859274527039627,0.07241573777251886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672161880617261,0.0,0.33392630852873384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052266794287436,0.08310593898507461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379112624315897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816123605306496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358798844619956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977661314540289,0.12651975155979822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046533989985347135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716221886557766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27441041557862,0.0,0.08213178493261553,0.0,0.0,0.0944779155825818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999763128228179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735016743850629,0.04000217338336751,0.08206473992688992,0.2169032175984983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747633472832675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702491908567249,0.060190831973384686,0.06071258986786244,0.0631504953412802,0.0,0.0,0.07683833637543397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591873065639011,0.0,0.055483648252722215,0.06227302692818139,0.0,0.0,0.3636698487316953,0.08866748743068982,0.07816321942571687,0.0,0.0,0.08554661949176835,0.17975814128096818,0.0,0.0,0.07841789914103542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571271932571293,0.08231148309111097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084609908334421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511384132479732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907998948924753,0.0,0.09250049557459487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606963328473322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727262111852177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717043192105852,0.0,0.18468951531914046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363631035732173,0.0,0.1631912457294736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909711044366327,0.055590785744438494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488389933419782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472389545762459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052727694463446204
parenting,jakerbake,2020/03/07,"My 4 yo son cried at his first movie - the Pokémon movie My son has been into Pokémon recently so I let him watch the remade movie that’s on Netflix.  I had not seen in before.

Not to spoil the movie, but there’s a part where all the Pokémon get sad and cry.  I look at my son and he’s wiping away tears.  Did not expect my son to be able to empathize this early, it really caught me by surprise.

Apparently [it’s a normal thing.](https://www.ladbible.com/technology/gaming-pokemon-the-first-movie-still-leaves-kids-in-tears-20191002). Still made me go awww.",2.9835591766723866,5.591216858490569,3.085162950257292,90.10692109777015,78.52830188679245,5.741337907375644,20.957118353344764,6.980632752743323,0.464218867924528,441,12,86,5,11,134,73,106,0.131,0.841,0.027999999999999997,-0.8689,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,1,1,11,12,4,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,6,3,11,1,10,4,2,13,0,1,3,0,7,7,0,0,4,50,15,0,0.2231620680858861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096681090127553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898944832781204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4902661058178385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796430822229188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659296990018522,0.0,0.12682814606508624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819833431051684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873999323890933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111613446559356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21865144493070854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24166277275223516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429633352071567,0.0,0.22034561976231806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564350316871676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482589619361268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gotary,2020/03/07,"My teenager plays 18+ games but he is 14 I mostly got concerned about him playing a war-like game where you shoot terrorists and suicide bombers in it.
There is way too much gore in the game. Should I take away that game from him?",2.6837234042553213,4.449914340425536,2.5499468085106405,97.70875,75.80851063829788,5.5510638297872354,24.51595744680851,5.985473137389443,0.30449361702127664,182,6,41,1,4,54,41,47,0.26899999999999996,0.664,0.066,-0.9359999999999999,0,0,0,1,0,1,5.0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,5,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,0,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451500618673652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789406021772799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34829701954052195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5182595602370864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562381269541977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760798502276045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,X__Heisenberg87__X,2020/03/07,"What's the one toy your toddler played almost everyday? Need some inspiration for a 2.5 year old. 

Fire away.",2.391833333333332,5.338455850000003,2.9400000000000013,85.85833333333333,90.5,6.666666666666668,21.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.5041666666666669,87,3,16,2,3,27,20,20,0.10300000000000001,0.647,0.25,0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768248237588098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44738616358682776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530809460097207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4996701139934534,0.0,0.3226714435305554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066438819787505
parenting,wHOLEassbitch66,2020/03/07,"All kids in school All of our kiddos are out of the best. Hubby and I have waited 16 painful years for this. Just kidding parenting is amazing. 

The youngest was accepted into school early, finally. It was a very long list and my husband looked at me like I was crazy when I asked him to drive me to the preschool the moment we left the hospital with him. I have been looking forward to these extra dates with my husband. When you have been living in diapers and breastfeeding for 16 years it sure can do a number on you. My husband and I have an amazing marriage, not saying we don’t have our hardships but who doesn’t after 20 years. Sometimes hubby gets stuck in a continuous loop and get in a funk. I love him and will try to pull him out any way. He can sometimes drive his mind so wild he adds extra events. 

What’s some fun things other parents do when they finally have a house to themselves?",3.2904119850187254,5.159224146067422,3.8211460674157287,88.80269288389513,74.3932584269663,6.544419475655433,25.911610486891387,7.3011,1.1917471161048696,710,25,142,8,15,223,111,178,0.034,0.8290000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9501,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,2,1,1,5,9,0,0,11,0,20,2,0,0,3,24,28,11,0,0,3,5,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,8,14,0,1,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,6,3,23,8,21,21,6,30,0,0,2,1,26,11,0,1,17,102,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091198590607394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001057947298382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839527265291673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35155718870478275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16766984641508687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515193751896725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434274659171875,0.0,0.0,0.07839376918118242,0.0,0.14169114106303773,0.14200407638201878,0.26949581873398204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482348076072205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202116931405927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074318901367042,0.0,0.3563487651833685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760605276109085,0.0,0.3247928064433966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31740261382041424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123380846469225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066040147993996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894336126401764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323981934613643,0.0,0.1273674961669218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30999735961411445
parenting,PowerVector,2020/03/07,"Wife lays with 6 year old at bedtime every night I (m32) love my wife (f32) more than anything. We have a good relationship and have been married almost 8 years and together for 13. We have two boys, 6 and 4.  

Every single night my wife will read books to the 6 year old while I read to the 4 year old in separate bedrooms.  When it's time to go to sleep, I will tell the 4 year old goodnight and head to my room for bed or back downstairs. As for my wife, she will turn the light off and fall asleep with the 6 year old.  She then stays in his bed for hours until she wakes up and returns to our bed.  

It has gotten so bad that when I try to change that routine (I read the 6 year old books), he will get upset until she comes in to lay down after.  Even tonight, my wife was very tired and went to bed before the kids (she deserved to).  As I was getting the 4 year old ready the 6 year old went into our room and woke her up.  

She sees no problem with this ""he's only my baby for so long"".  
Any attempt I try to change it is fought.  It has taken a toll on me emotionally as I climb into an empty bed every night and my wife doesnt see my concern with it at all.  

This has been going on since we moved into our house when the 6 year old was 10 months old.  

I do not know how to handle this moving forward.",3.0666666666666664,3.1964761146953435,4.158225806451615,92.85733870967744,72.79928315412188,6.7734767025089635,22.310035842293907,5.82211442006289,0.06437777777777763,992,19,240,4,18,324,141,279,0.07,0.895,0.035,-0.8264,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,6,0,0,2,8,6,1,1,13,0,18,6,4,1,1,27,34,23,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,4,1,0,8,2,10,20,0,0,1,5,0,10,3,4,0,1,11,3,32,2,42,19,3,65,0,0,2,1,28,17,0,2,39,141,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678197909609013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605735043797026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557343586136311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05207863777005547,0.056550036199297465,0.0,0.0,0.05763152451379205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329444967239666,0.058341659683881913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618486412134821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04473369353433495,0.0,0.1711912384499611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077015073783931,0.0,0.07698274623685178,0.056807018199294824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950844933674981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669841977704201,0.0781489982115311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03722152781817795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059937133037409725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061127148279493226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0540598292886726,0.14396825340712094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906743700351455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7106912432391923,0.0,0.0,0.05151018245934174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480653217266635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323893128439266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271450647275908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794086620231988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602528681892507,0.0,0.06777689461307086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218901760957555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919724173936083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039492731118126685,0.07784335243558348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196570836540917,0.07366859613469735,0.06616039742122354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588267842437332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556903621171508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4361460003549976
parenting,Burnshaggis,2020/03/07,"Electronics kill switch My son is turning 11 this month, but he thinks he’s been 17 for the last two years. The biggest issue is that all he wants to do is play video games. He gets home from school before I get home from work and always does his homework before anything else, and I’ve never had to ask. 

Other than homework he does no other chores without an act of god, since he never wants to get off his video games. I plugged in an Alexa enabled smart plug and plugged the surge protector into it that all of his electronics are plugged into. 

He doesn’t know the phrase that activates this electronic “kill switch” since I always use the app on my phone to activate it. Recently, however, I noticed that he stopped throwing a fit when I activate the kill switch. I looked at the Alexa app while I was still at work and noticed the plug that should be off was ON! He had discovered the button on the plug. 

Another issue related to the electronics is that he likes to try to kick me out of MY living room when he’s playing video games. While he was at his mom’s for her two nights I moved his video game system into his room and plugged it into his tiny TV. I thought he would be upset but he likes this arrangement!

As far as the kill switch goes, when I moved it into his bedroom I made sure it was 11 year old proof. I plugged it into a socket behind his dresser and pushed the dresser against it so he couldn’t reach the button. 

He is smart though so I figured he’d find a way to reach the button. My solution for this was to wrap the plug and cord that was plugged into it with a hand towel so he couldn’t see where the button is. I secured the towel with a heavy duty bulldog paperclip that I attached to the cord that’s plugged into the plug. 

If he pulls on the hand towel it pulls on the bulldog paperclip and if he pulls too hard, it unplugs all of his electronics. If he does that, there’s no way he’s able to plug the cord back in and he gets caught. 

So far there’s been no problems.",4.9135135135135135,5.106625049140053,5.110551351351352,87.4189081081081,68.77886977886979,8.281041769041769,28.319312039312038,7.9765259561132025,1.5566965896805898,1573,49,337,18,25,495,167,407,0.095,0.7959999999999999,0.10800000000000001,0.3869,4,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,3,15,14,4,1,30,0,26,2,2,2,7,49,42,26,4,10,6,2,3,2,0,2,0,0,10,0,26,20,0,3,5,11,0,9,9,6,0,2,13,5,32,8,49,22,3,57,0,0,2,0,42,28,0,3,19,202,58,6,0.10117351128455003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683689324595027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608924806280616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325717924534146,0.0,0.09458357563095146,0.0,0.0,0.07779618510966896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218241264387882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656128645641125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845174863768285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247075640137943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21143593545397216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906315936081024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029705620045768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111977201552364,0.0,0.0,0.44773400053426665,0.0,0.055602315886085836,0.08246991514557885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885653428435802,0.0,0.08933806404891075,0.0,0.08496026827908287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573282265060357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849319362936453,0.08075573145572695,0.2150628620784714,0.0,0.0,0.1560624981035447,0.0,0.0,0.0949444866589355,0.0,0.0,0.23037342634195584,0.10616458087666697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680938651815853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998966367301468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239299481594402,0.08062218951512277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738354806559486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079729680299401,0.08458558568383176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535483704636427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482790082380499,0.09940246115109604,0.08032046676905631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869017295850809,0.110047727572469,0.19766363887767605,0.0,0.0,0.08738142966910267,0.0,0.0,0.11934951654183405,0.16061364803671802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975276544931366,0.0,0.14731104237171236,0.0,0.0,0.07187075960669513,0.0,0.0,0.1303048483267691
parenting,that_mom_friend,2020/03/07,"Do you parent your groceries? The post about sleep deprivation reminded me of a stage I’ve mostly outgrown. 

Who else has found themselves absentmindedly rocking the grocery cart back and forth or jiggling a bag of flour or a gallon of milk on their hip while grocery shopping?  Bonus points for shopping alone and still trying to sooth the bag of cat food while waiting in the check out line!

Was it just me?",6.731199999999998,8.019657053333333,5.678666666666667,81.06600000000002,65.13333333333333,7.6,32.33333333333333,7.554174236665415,2.1263333333333336,329,13,58,3,5,98,60,75,0.073,0.882,0.045,-0.2805,1,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,1,4,2,0,0,7,0,3,4,2,0,0,9,5,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,10,3,1,10,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,3,4,37,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247655474509567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411171588217222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26194878524193504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791719511349138,0.3438150087764769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481840867368206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29642646079736834,0.0,0.30031485636177124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137979978473913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504186370854841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289449244047434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lothire,2020/03/07,"Snuffly baby Hey there. My baby is just over 2 months old, and I love her more than words can describe. With the virus spreading, I've heard reassuring things about how kids tend to handle it *extremely* well, which has settled most of my anxieties about it. 

However, since my baby was only a few weeks old, she has had such as snuffly nose, that we need to use one of those ""sucker"" things at least 2-3 times a day. It makes her cry horribly, and breaks my heart. There's little saline squirts that come with it, then you use your mouth and a filter to suck out the boogers, as gross as it sounds.

Has anyone else had a baby who is very frequently snuffly? My wife and I live in Canada, so it's to be expected, but I just want to make sure that I'm not damaging her nose or lungs by having to clear it out a few times a day. Plus I don't want to cause any emotional trauma or anything because of it.

I hope this isn't a ridiculous question. Thanks to anyone who can relate or knows about this stuff! 

PS. We've already spoken to a doctor, and they've reassured us all is fine, I'm more looking for anecdotal experience from others who have gone through the same thing and that this is completely normal. Thanks!",3.742966023875113,5.031955123966942,4.183911845730027,89.01202938475667,72.14049586776859,7.5265381083562914,25.014692378328746,7.984000788550335,1.1970433425160705,948,28,201,13,18,298,150,242,0.078,0.7879999999999999,0.134,0.9178,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,2,0,0,11,15,3,0,11,0,17,7,5,6,3,40,37,17,0,6,7,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,25,13,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,6,1,1,5,5,18,9,31,31,8,19,0,1,1,1,19,6,1,6,10,131,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268243340207588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408876370804052,0.0,0.10584414287362573,0.0,0.0,0.19348745227546055,0.14176499409673338,0.11385754604098824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434227181816484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213265343320666,0.0,0.11918389964104918,0.14506662365845432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198070180143075,0.17846002645570355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161614751889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558106680580088,0.15563508561129044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534150598047154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395590547970296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742155856635807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603840651783575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867191761456574,0.12217340093504025,0.0,0.1161865888914517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487426558246142,0.0,0.18471121581646915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043671543566724,0.0,0.0,0.10259133542400303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556229833605138,0.0,0.0,0.29036868086696993,0.0,0.09375553869190976,0.10522814143428276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549935788556811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144518719173926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838778317308566,0.0,0.0,0.13040158035194105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25476448316206185,0.0,0.0,0.2757584195523758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135631819998186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642866296297398,0.23899524922312135,0.0,0.11416054279380712,0.1632152710169064,0.0,0.11098312518577262,0.0,0.12440122394125615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elegantlybold,2020/03/07,"Whiny this, whiny that?! Why is everything to be cried about? My 6yr old son and 2yr old some whine and fight constantly! Now my 9month old is starting to whine all the time toooo. Any remedy to this or is patience the only option?",1.91,4.431124444444446,2.3422222222222224,94.3,82.33333333333334,6.266666666666668,17.88888888888889,7.554174236665415,0.3113555555555556,180,4,38,3,5,55,33,45,0.21600000000000005,0.784,0.0,-0.884,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,4,2,7,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,7,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17114567460758054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719681580154006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764500107350926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261866772482819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7922626753726391,0.0,0.0,0.19140799117475488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813482480260676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675203946893495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270949469249837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Saltlakesuchi,2020/03/07,"Any good series of documentaries about religions? I was watching Hail Satan? On Hulu while my SD 8 was in the bath and she came out and started watching it along with my partner. Kid got super into it and now I have to wait until tomorrow before being allowed to finish it. She has had some exposure to Christianity. She went to a Christian preschool and kindergarten but never went to church much and says she doesn't believe in it. 

Anywho. It would probably be neat to watch more documentaries about various beliefs. Her exposure to most is probably nil and even an over view of Christianity might interest her. She likes Greek myths and fantasy stories. Plus that kind of stuff is important to understand just to get popular culture. 

So like. Looking for something that isn't super hard to understand. Isn't super serious. Can be a little questionable and isn't preachy or pushing an agenda",4.623981481481484,7.4822573703703785,5.330354938271609,74.88034722222223,74.06172839506173,8.741358024691358,31.72993827160493,9.354420925462401,3.588393827160494,722,35,114,19,16,233,110,162,0.013000000000000001,0.764,0.223,0.9893,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,3,7,11,0,0,5,0,17,0,0,1,1,28,27,14,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,1,2,8,14,0,1,4,2,0,4,5,1,0,0,7,7,11,10,26,15,5,18,6,0,5,0,12,7,0,5,9,88,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447537495258786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155755933737548,0.2062265445397484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20935219019853987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089803739795606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563230369067584,0.0,0.0,0.15352760901474305,0.1463960415548774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397038782060327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061089985306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885092405302058,0.1834569640433308,0.0,0.0,0.15370984426581127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941794756564048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455751284798942,0.0,0.1411738849530871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39470217590186896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20504981767185965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556297451607852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091528347666646,0.0,0.0,0.1295586298646422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20954020354179875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811080023834905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33936500289870203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002834725194118,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kalamitykim,2020/03/07,"My husband yells in front of our children at no one in particular. He does not yell *at* our kids. He yells/screams out of anger or frustration in front of them though. 

This makes me extremely uncomfortable, but he says he is just expressing his emotions and he doesn't want to stifle them or shove them inside. He thinks I never let him express his emotions and that I want him to shove them down in an unhealthy manner. I feel that he can express his emotions but he needs to control them, especially in front of our kids. 

For example, tonight I was getting our toddler to sleep while he paced with our newborn trying to get him to sleep in the living room. Two times I heard him scream. I left our toddler's room and went into the living room and he was seething. He had a huge scowl on his face and was breathing hard. As soon as I saw that, I said ""give him to me"", grabbed our baby and left the room. 

The reason he was yelling was because there was a cup where he usually sits on the couch and he couldn't move it because he was holding our baby and he wanted to sit down. During this time our baby was getting more and more upset and crying, which made my husband more stressed and upset. So that is why he said he screamed in frustration... Obviously, he has more going on them just the cup but I guess that was the straw that broke the camels back.

Do you think yelling is a healthy way to express your anger or frustration in front of your kids? He really doesn't seem to think and/or want to admit it's an issue. I think it scares our kids though!

I really think he has PPD for dads or whatever you would call it. I had PPD after our toddler was born and I can see it in my husband but he thinks he doesn't need to get help.

The yelling happens maybe once every week or two, so it's not an everyday thing but it's enough to make me uncomfortable. My dad was abusive to my mom, so the rage I see from him scares me. I know he won't hurt us (and never has), but my visceral reaction is fear.

Sorry for the long rambling...I guess I just want to know if anyone else actually thinks that's a healthy way to deal with emotions in front of kids or if I am actually being unreasonable?",3.494830015732948,4.731486119638831,4.16238456802791,89.13038716738492,72.67945823927766,7.265859497913674,26.06532594568712,7.686295010490155,1.1951992475545519,1713,56,370,21,33,545,187,443,0.17300000000000001,0.787,0.040999999999999995,-0.9961,0,0,0,0,3,0,47.0,12,4,6,1,12,16,6,6,18,0,32,4,4,5,3,68,70,35,0,11,19,6,3,0,0,2,0,11,5,7,18,17,0,2,13,0,0,8,10,16,0,3,19,17,59,0,50,46,5,53,0,2,3,0,82,27,0,11,14,230,77,0,0.0,0.09872367388804797,0.16262170582722482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05826110983076445,0.08537386578917677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640699478199117,0.0,0.10158538559448496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508170605205283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345339790931616,0.0,0.0,0.09152598016747794,0.0,0.08590195749252601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291618198214575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960535319823141,0.37490690831613466,0.0,0.08609453494548149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020289690335466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376110706232572,0.04213041776303072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413050951911718,0.07993064485048333,0.04735416233625635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18357850883215246,0.0,0.07368191336278195,0.0,0.07464069690719148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055849392541500564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919858279235655,0.0,0.0,0.0869671622776561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915838603773646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106053022689886,0.08520301922775066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471507913627565,0.07373789236073285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884187307167471,0.1112369851905088,0.0,0.08370876619657966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975864397739539,0.0,0.08855875343980064,0.0,0.12356532665101805,0.1285270748950446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873586573396902,0.056461560403362726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067572016712776,0.08566952569290362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851777530902245,0.06626148785871598,0.16684094694154072,0.0,0.13279467285135438,0.07585377941569345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676557940814507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327284589035602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544577408840564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055355843077019316,0.3737283713899695,0.16372809258303805,0.0,0.09717217386431208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565705862181839,0.0,0.16278817542188942,0.0,0.10022684673183703,0.0,0.09176808881099216,0.0,0.24572918602587804,0.13227522704836614,0.06683637589691746,0.0,0.0,0.07724089897861224,0.07518570013118127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059189995130057724,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ec15a316,2020/03/07,"2 year old biting. My 2 year old has been biting me recently. It’s never out of anger or frustration, we are normally playing and laughing when he bites, and he bites pretty hard. I immediately stop all activities, tell him sternly not to bite. It doesn’t seem to help as he keeps doing it. He thankfully doesn’t bite my wife our his 6 month old brother. Does anyone have any experience and advice.",3.33818181818182,5.563379181818185,4.944155844155844,79.20766233766237,75.36363636363637,8.036363636363637,25.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.0705636363636373,315,11,59,7,7,106,58,77,0.079,0.723,0.198,0.8749,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,13,10,6,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,8,3,5,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,10,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19709814900855024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716239006056302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103278837408795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765083516672774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19730054581523915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068288849258693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519473937256893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927953935236104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099439765834556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556287724922266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19762241641917647,0.0,0.0,0.6349482238394465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520062475246384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991536522368283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836193998154716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16862958420743945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629401354511529,0.18569754791063456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597753768081628
parenting,INeedHelpPlz2003,2020/03/07,Hi parents of reddit I’m 16 and wanna know a few things How can I get my parents to trust me I’m 16 and I’m gaining their trust slowly but surely but I want them to be able to trust with me most stuff I understand you can’t trust your child for everything I just need some tips what makes you trust your teenager,0.6740546218487395,2.6840774558823526,2.080924369747901,97.44558823529414,83.26470588235293,5.0621848739495805,18.537815126050425,6.1826913282559595,-0.32635966386554616,249,6,58,2,7,80,47,68,0.0,0.672,0.32799999999999996,0.9746,2,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,4,2,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,16,12,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,13,6,7,11,3,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,0,36,16,0,0.28419117812367656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554127061446108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847816101130495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561840392553875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896998181782182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107241576053635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6311213430957741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253309068079497,0.0,0.0,0.2678468221171216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18880399084581684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958530389669461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676233199968745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cmahlum13,2020/03/07,"Help with a scared kid. So my kiddo was shown something on youtube a while back and it has terrorized her ever since. Shes afraid to go I to rooms alone regardless that her mother and I are literally less than 30 feet away and in the direct line of sight. I understand the whole irrational fear thing, I was once 7 too. I just dont remember how I ever got over it enough that it didnt cripple me to do things. Also it doesnt happen all the time, kinda seems like she picks and chooses when to be ""scared"" from time to time. Anyone ever run into this experience or have any ideas on how to get over this little hump?",4.5,4.860067373015877,5.2556746031746036,85.43446428571428,69.71428571428571,8.522222222222224,24.48015873015873,8.472884824447931,1.2666539682539688,483,11,104,7,8,157,91,126,0.11599999999999999,0.8440000000000001,0.039,-0.8651,0,1,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,5,5,0,11,2,1,3,4,22,17,11,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,6,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,4,1,12,1,17,12,4,20,0,0,1,1,7,9,0,3,10,75,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064015843518746,0.0,0.1317573445811686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204145672942628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520300170526825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479607146035967,0.12668914700379105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19309578133702024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023961412594393,0.0,0.0,0.44710059497936816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116546640000687,0.0,0.1853991626346473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607953677565082,0.0,0.09363607490866276,0.0,0.1317724550858168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456954324323179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043417612342216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599233671403945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049270016634646,0.16513134028639798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546246752187475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663930759294828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32990408097007384,0.0,0.0,0.14998998654095005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362899665131697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268391731471344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189165054672884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882160881567285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715194502308274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394702558092504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1eyeRD,2020/03/07,"Toddler acting different after being away for a few weeks To keep a long story short, my daughter's mother and I broke up on Valentine's day. She took our daughter and her son and went to another state. She led me to believe she would be bringing our daughter back to see me but kept having reasons to stay longer. When she finally did come back she didn't bring her and only brought her sister to help move her stuff out (and some of my stuff but that's another matter). 

I had already had enough and had been to speak to an attorney that morning just to make sure my rights were protected. When I realized she hadn't brought her I call my summer back and he advised an ex parte restraining order that would force her to bring my daughter back to the county she lived in prior to them leaving. The judge ruled that she would stay with me until a hearing in a few weeks to sort everything out. 

Before they left my daughter was with me 95% of the time and was a Daddy's girl. Since she's been back though she doesn't act like she used to. She doesn't seem as excited to play with me and doesn't hug and kiss me like before. When she gets upset and fussy she yells for Mommy. 

Is this normal? Did I do something wrong? I just truly feel she's better off with me in a stable home.  

Any advice?",4.148464800678543,5.012620725190843,4.588956743002544,88.08706530958445,70.7557251908397,7.348939779474131,25.242578456318913,7.3871296695380915,1.0373911789652244,1018,28,212,10,18,322,142,262,0.087,0.823,0.09,0.4266,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,2,1,11,11,0,1,11,0,23,2,0,4,1,40,40,19,0,4,4,9,1,2,0,3,0,3,1,1,7,18,0,4,4,1,0,12,5,3,0,0,17,5,44,8,35,18,5,46,0,1,1,2,41,12,0,3,20,149,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297133096051812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757690282912554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861777414355803,0.24245127645664866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861803246426732,0.4444791703144731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19674871153851398,0.13025123971072866,0.0,0.10224636212819399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804924899034652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958652377029543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455794666982599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078632220629687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945452981712998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390150465070327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058455153373776665,0.0,0.0,0.12664350878950606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060400692548589874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029923099199453,0.0,0.0774899699596718,0.0,0.11596479553705523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275818558674643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122412755287249,0.12560902106266375,0.0,0.0,0.11296098973730945,0.0,0.10208446218791736,0.1023099232400206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716960067570854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287358611137646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132718268680424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792550705095356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519278692311886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886483756236878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872906469778124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212504148912108,0.1052456762870232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563258206505763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900110510985608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24644665088663556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26468824700980464,0.0,0.0,0.1089596843240894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135848072688196,0.0,0.06741227156648352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844534590876636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998486630301055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546840081087526,0.0,0.0,0.1071702782991432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463749775505469,0.12639979406971547,0.0,0.0
parenting,jack953,2020/03/07,"I love my kids but... I love my kids but sometimes I want to run away for *just a minute* of time to myself. 
I love my kids but sometimes I miss having the freedom to be spontaneous. 
I love my kids but sometimes I cry because I can’t deal with another second of being screamed at. 
I love my kids but sometimes I miss when things were simple and I was my own person. 
I love my kids but sometimes I wish that they would *just behave for 5 minutes*. 
I love my kids but sometimes I get sick of cleaning my house 10x a day. 
I love my kids but sometimes I wish they’d hurry up and grow up. 
I love my kids but sometimes I miss that beautiful thing called “sleep”. 

I love my kids and they stress me out but sometimes, when they’re sleeping and the house is quiet and I can finally hear myself think, I look at the two perfect babies I brought into this world and I know that these frustrations and exasperation’s aren’t going to last forever, but my love for them will.",1.259625850340136,3.528560132653059,2.498979591836733,93.7698299319728,82.87755102040815,5.161904761904762,21.578231292517014,6.42735559955562,0.2786965986394563,750,24,161,7,21,240,93,196,0.10099999999999999,0.565,0.33399999999999996,0.9968,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,4,1,4,18,1,1,5,0,12,14,2,0,1,30,36,20,0,4,13,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,11,7,10,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,6,0,2,3,4,44,12,18,28,1,18,0,3,1,11,29,8,0,0,6,110,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242255355489426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489052471189763,0.0,0.0,0.042102475405596584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052491685806482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586662798833863,0.04454236714735473,0.07120482993604994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565929478063761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036084548242294866,0.0,0.03925224959175822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784329431127221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938760998247978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03795730268209881,0.056298653778395776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799871044271504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6856902405348448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060306458825951065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382333426101141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6147794107266739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911577699112245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176981543427047,0.0442552115788764,0.0,0.0,0.040273401890327284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746822007824455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04073738343580584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588468047154996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04906306748036659,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,enchanted19995,2020/03/07,"Multiple ear piercing My 6 year old daughter has long been fascinated by my ear piercings. I have a large collection of ear piercings with 12 total. She has for a while now asking for more earrings like me. She already had her ears pierced when she was a baby. I do not see a big deal with taking her to get a few extra holes in each ear for good behaviour etc...

My concern is the reactions of other parents and teachers at school as I do not wish my daughter to be judged or gossiping behind my back for bad parenting. Do you think this will be a big deal or am I overthinking?",5.330283251231529,5.476965353448279,6.131477832512318,80.61844827586208,67.8793103448276,9.387192118226602,32.950738916256164,9.23628265651192,2.7893635467980293,455,19,91,8,7,150,82,116,0.07200000000000001,0.852,0.076,0.1079,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,7,0,14,5,5,0,1,11,20,6,0,1,4,4,0,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,6,16,2,15,14,6,11,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,2,8,69,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392256045358661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20266298833144533,0.0,0.0,0.16669286659905475,0.1810048811561142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44698783214707616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417705242276714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326025219999797,0.0,0.0,0.1818274269844644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590930042827584,0.0,0.0,0.19184627228248055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274774565445799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4814240828480248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193961285051564,0.17274810921413394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629939551569506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890589376182924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249289932112188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960124566985094
parenting,bemydarkling,2020/03/07,"A wonderful ending to a really long day... I just had one of those awful toddler thing happen where there’s really nothing else to do but laugh or cry. 

I was putting the baby to sleep and I hear my husband calling me urgently. I run down with the baby in my arms and he’s like “we have a leak!” I go look and there’s water dripping from the ceiling. As he’s pointing more starts to drip down. He frantically tries to clean it up. I head upstairs, still carrying the baby, and try to find the spot above where it’s dripping. It’s on the other side of my bed, and as I turn the corner, what do I see? 
The toddler. 
He turns and looks at me and says “I Pee.”",1.011170568561873,2.801011666666671,3.086231884057973,91.84299331103682,80.8840579710145,5.985284280936455,21.48494983277592,7.010146845296331,0.4733705685618732,502,15,113,6,13,170,86,138,0.08900000000000001,0.8079999999999999,0.10300000000000001,0.4574,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,11,1,5,5,4,0,0,14,15,11,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,7,9,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,5,15,2,18,13,1,19,0,0,3,0,9,11,0,2,6,73,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033590243483825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204752359111747,0.1202129974096688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557138229830004,0.0,0.16509564747148314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703668153261146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593578385467403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483347741582213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913008414211807,0.0,0.210087077465904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106594114521434,0.0,0.0,0.16495870778068888,0.3130591962097056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885644899518804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630990316153728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620886236005115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873841354296785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23882605632154424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823327685210988,0.0,0.0,0.14853718307104755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653526430404785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319353380428772,0.0,0.1488597982646069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383630789749014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531076086442924,0.4055007574290312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214355142078394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megwolf36,2020/03/07,"Teen parenting at its best I’m 18 with an 11month old baby and his father is 17, we are still together and today he got in trouble at school, his parents decided to punish him by taking his right to see his son away.  They say it’s to teach him how to take responsibility for his actions.  I how ever feel like Roland is his biggest responsibility and not a luxury to be taken away.   What should I do?  I don’t want to lose my man but I also don’t want to sit back and let his parents walk all over me.",3.4706738544474405,3.878733075471701,5.6779784366576855,81.32537735849056,72.01886792452831,8.321293800539085,25.52021563342318,8.418075326091056,1.4450932614555252,390,11,86,6,7,138,76,106,0.057,0.875,0.068,0.0129,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,1,2,6,5,1,0,2,0,9,0,0,2,2,17,18,8,0,3,2,5,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,3,17,2,16,13,2,16,0,1,1,0,19,8,0,0,6,61,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355966131557304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373242176741109,0.1380374740705159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883919916063363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238338286001705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076917724189228,0.1282469639399449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435761253611752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356827120319805,0.0,0.08770292700562089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083357813191047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18837286891781968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5979970742800184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330651713762095,0.0,0.14275910506249442,0.0,0.18168076425577426,0.14305178819518768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433624893905613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26994885045375994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016110343138008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117675278260457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ivan_jagganov,2020/03/07,"Early teens and the opposite sex So our son is on his 3rd girlfriend in a year and a half. He turned 14 at the end of last year. 

The first one was pretty platonic, the second one a good friend from a coed sports club. The third was around him when he was with the first, they would “double date”, but she was always talking to our son. He and GF 2 split up, then a week or two later announced he and now GF 3 (other girl from double dates) are together. 

I understand that his only income is allowance and birthday/ Christmas money, however whenever they   “hang out” they are laying all over each other, legs intertwined like snakes. The first time we saw this was at our house, they were laying on his bed watching TV. The second time I saw them at our house, they were on the couch downstairs wrapped up in a human pretzel. Mom told them no more in his room after the first time, I told them they need to sit up on the couch (we thought they wouldn’t be so bold out in the middle of the living room). We know that if he goes to her house, her parents don’t watch them, they are left to themselves, upstairs. 

We told him no more “hanging out watching movies”, and tried to explain that we didn’t want him having the opportunity to make a bad decision, and he now thinks we do t trust him. We offered suggestions for low/no cost stuff for them to do, and he doesn’t want to do any of it. 

Anyone else already been them through this? How’d you handle it, what was the outcome?

TL/DR: my 14yo is balled up in a pretzel with his GF whenever they’re together, and think that’s perfectly acceptable show of behavior, in public or private.",5.513370040485832,5.428034766153848,5.6404372469635655,85.08977327935223,67.49230769230769,8.688259109311742,28.797570850202426,8.20500826718156,1.7182000000000004,1269,38,266,15,19,401,176,325,0.031,0.866,0.10300000000000001,0.9711,3,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,11,1,14,6,6,9,0,0,23,0,25,2,1,2,2,44,41,17,0,6,4,4,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,2,12,23,0,0,8,5,2,2,6,1,0,11,16,5,42,8,42,22,6,50,0,0,5,1,64,26,0,3,22,182,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136513179467634,0.0,0.1029337032634266,0.0,0.0,0.0841246500973629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864984488020876,0.12675191015846304,0.0,0.11012499661933654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328974556767306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334089236297413,0.0,0.10956722536321427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208986828824144,0.0,0.0,0.09557532142291617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375912820965144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42822201456368997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798584751440759,0.10083729402746916,0.0,0.0,0.1344074550708292,0.0,0.0,0.0604367386371853,0.0,0.1092350903531617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257503758810178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488353704700785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172678920881512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765342802506533,0.09408435428085407,0.0,0.0,0.13736140901259647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258539658680429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161432581342506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943058462223534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853223772606442,0.0,0.09820912886496518,0.21640273409840052,0.0,0.0,0.3546205357291212,0.0,0.08398858123217211,0.13455712962346586,0.12084325803454055,0.1287828109054816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593057686940514,0.0,0.0992298783087006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787753577343642,0.0,0.0,0.1593258375582989
parenting,Jangsterish,2020/03/07,"I feel like a bad father when I can't give each of my kids the attention that they ask for. My wife and I have three wonderful children ages 6, 3 and 1. We love them. Can't imagine our lives without them. Want only the best for them. You get it.

My wife stays home with our kids and so I give her respite throughout the week as often as I can. She will go out to run errands or whatever she wants to as a break from the house for an hour or two.

During these times (or even if we are all together I suppose) I feel inadequate with how much my attention is split amongst our three kids. They each have their own needs and wants that I try to juggle between them all. The oldest will want to go outside while the middle will want to build blocks. Add on top of that prepping supper, cleaning up a mess, or keeping our one year old from climbing and flopping off of the kitchen table.

I either have to say no to so many things or I forget my ""I will in a minute"" commitments. Often at the end of each day I get overwhelmed with how much I don't feel like I was there for my kids. 

I don't like how divided everything is.

Am I alone with this?",2.3550699533644237,3.7340066033755295,3.3152431712191905,93.51091938707529,75.79324894514768,6.508461025982678,23.444148345547408,7.0608816371341465,0.5811907172995778,883,26,202,9,19,282,135,237,0.075,0.813,0.11199999999999999,0.8307,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,1,7,3,10,8,0,1,13,0,17,3,0,3,3,48,36,21,0,7,8,3,3,3,0,4,0,1,3,5,7,16,2,2,7,0,0,4,6,3,0,4,1,4,39,5,32,31,10,25,0,1,0,1,30,8,0,9,14,145,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247298675204346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376285394485446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292050774378185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449573961171362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494314288931764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303910557597386,0.0,0.0,0.09723580552833484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230964428449227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22331285505866288,0.2103444990194811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383019086214586,0.2824489835133536,0.16733425636714427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767120936903388,0.0,0.1449796353057641,0.16986929072821075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085372563187644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576918092398048,0.0,0.1299957967352268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132869589631458,0.0,0.0,0.14925549236131386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164436815230669,0.10915995040250356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544800575549523,0.0,0.0997584241522054,0.11196558317951692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707330728274222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569143239240592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780480088629157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584373923511468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995105509263227,0.0,0.1438101580498763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341636361273102,0.0,0.11808904125015696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191246793317766,0.15965115669891766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948032776232281
parenting,Neat-Citron,2020/03/07,"how much should I be charging my 18 year old son rent? my son is 18, he's about to graduate soon from highschool. 

he makes about 210$ per week working at the local Taco Bell. This means he would make 840$ per month. I am thinking about charging him 500$ per month for rent, and the rest he can keep for himself.",2.511363636363633,3.6062777121212117,2.96709090909091,97.30063636363636,74.9090909090909,5.8860606060606075,23.806060606060605,5.6839178017228535,0.1271915151515155,243,7,58,1,5,75,48,66,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,3,0,9,11,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,8,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,6,28,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749313739833931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129373095170488,0.0,0.0,0.3369322502928209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4937809536072394,0.0,0.2273804527299778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32457168698504746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981951132885433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24811202131625285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22518335747803486,0.0,0.0,0.21972689476861806,0.0,0.0,0.1991872623360277
parenting,UnwishingCoder,2020/03/07,"Hand foot and mouth breakout So recently our son was sent home from daycare because he had a rash and we all thought it was his overly sensitive skin ( it’s super sensitive) but then they had called me before the test I had to tell me that SOMEONE had to pick him up because another child at the daycare has a confirmed case of hand foot and mouth. At this point I was already stressed out from the test I had and now I have to pick him up. But long story short, now there are 10 kids at the daycare with the same thing and I wanted to know everyone opinion on this situation here.",2.89769230769231,4.737476418803425,3.596931623931624,90.11334615384621,75.41025641025641,6.731282051282051,27.084615384615393,7.554174236665415,1.3858553846153845,459,18,96,6,10,145,76,117,0.042,0.883,0.075,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,1,1,5,2,0,1,7,0,11,8,8,2,1,18,15,9,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,10,3,13,1,16,5,2,16,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,1,5,68,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27656952910318583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628008435425554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055558112414208,0.0,0.2132623433206696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559148598236013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394817236924139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513960457026281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773625305678766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22179412311783847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692044293108025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474607076506447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28171158433954546,0.0,0.0,0.21235268148903416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870886472545069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21905619533689427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650327642473112,0.0,0.0,0.19896725451521172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782437521388406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jjsjdj,2020/03/08,"Safe to go to a osteopathic doctors? I am looking for a new pediatrician for my son. When I searched for one I saw a pediatrician who was a DO. 

Apparently this is a doctor of osteopathic medicine. 

Is it safe to bring my son to one of them? Are they licensed enough?",1.3823270440251605,3.8143936792452853,4.330471698113207,79.74841194968555,83.90566037735849,7.306918238993711,27.701257861635213,8.344100000000001,2.159857861635221,207,10,44,5,6,74,34,53,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.7461,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,6,2,0,0,0,2,10,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,7,2,9,8,1,4,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,2,34,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.680254005905003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433586383757948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18885589789757812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790514849844548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209410644647822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4503552870794335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unlimitedboomstick,2020/03/08,"Tips to make eating less of a fight. My 4 year old daughter makes every single meal time a fight.  First it was just taking bites of everything, that goes ok most of the time.  That's evolving to wanting seconds of 1 thing, tonight it was French fries, despite not taking a bite of the rest of the meal.  Half the time this leads to her screaming at my wife and I or just refusing to eat, then demanding a bedtime snack five minutes after we put her dinner away.  What tips do y'all have for us?",5.136666666666667,5.272114737373737,5.1480303030303025,87.54204545454546,68.2929292929293,7.8121212121212125,28.62121212121212,7.1686216300943375,1.3668303030303035,385,12,81,3,6,120,73,99,0.121,0.857,0.022000000000000002,-0.8245,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,2,1,0,2,2,4,2,0,8,1,4,6,0,3,0,12,9,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,4,2,1,8,1,14,7,4,13,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,2,9,55,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145397848444738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467312545647128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19239243063861386,0.0,0.2052238099609489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19423207840550247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30484716303339365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23961205659540746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22955208479226236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433774704626406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517037853053115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3994534031678891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746736603266937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468514110877858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704816066764098
parenting,pineappleandpumpkin,2020/03/08,"Boyfriend's teen son [14M] found sex toys and things... I recently noticed the box of toys and roleplaying outfits was moving along with our lube. This has happened three days straight and always when my boyfriend and I are not home. We have one other female housemate that is here temporarily, but neither of us think she would have a reason to be messing with those things. We are going to try to catch whoever is doing this with a recording... also to see what they are doing with our things! Any advice if it is his teen son is going through our toys and using them??? I know it's a very odd situation... also give me your opinions because I want to know what everyone else thinks of this situation lol",6.40572222222222,6.662150933333336,6.2001388888888895,80.66687500000003,65.5925925925926,8.824074074074074,31.689814814814817,8.472884824447931,2.3037592592592597,556,20,106,7,8,174,91,135,0.026000000000000002,0.9179999999999999,0.055999999999999994,0.4665,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,6,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,4,1,15,1,0,2,0,25,27,10,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,13,12,0,0,6,3,0,4,2,1,0,2,2,1,17,0,14,23,1,8,0,0,1,1,14,1,0,2,3,78,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787167452961987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747615789121528,0.14294344606363096,0.0,0.0,0.11682342131458948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472188566338957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107906514912886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350890724149135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641531711349023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835940070180213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479708773163815,0.1952649840266886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191375927712053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231986423258092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882311661119286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258609932802372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558460674284955,0.0,0.0,0.11640967917453116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662923110341827,0.16962237980345332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368947754213352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861994076355376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423898960812845,0.2201528134545816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663446325832913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664280245491,0.14837182247826713,0.0,0.14174514216901596,0.10132647948350887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203503222737197,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,antonin2,2020/03/08,"My 6 year old son is sensitive, not that competitive and is moody. How do i handle this? i don't baby him further than giving him love and affection but i don't run to him whenever he falls down.  i was very athletic and competitive as a child and still am now.  my son however is not.  if he falls on the ground- he'll cry and show everyone the wound to gain sympathy.  if he's playing soccer he does not show emphasis on scoring, he prefers to stay back and defend the goal yet celebrates all the wins and thinks he's better when his team wins.  if you laugh at him in a way he does not like he sulks and gets ""mad"" at you. 

how do i handle this?  my partner says to ignore him and not give in to his moodiness but i don't want him to feel rejected.  at the same time i cannot enable this behavior.

any advice appreciated!",2.3177815126050447,3.8293314000000014,4.2774789915966425,86.02294117647061,76.17647058823529,8.38655462184874,24.495798319327733,9.04235418022936,1.7526386554621856,638,21,141,15,14,218,98,170,0.11800000000000001,0.6559999999999999,0.226,0.9795,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,7,7,12,1,0,7,0,11,2,0,3,1,29,19,18,0,5,10,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,2,4,9,0,1,3,5,0,3,9,5,0,0,1,2,20,7,16,17,2,23,0,1,0,1,28,10,0,3,9,86,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090525634672276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372997204627945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382779192609946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19993354636445146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483185889444445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956569137613353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21601201305277254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430378425243175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810811077041275,0.4337187082044331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044251750836157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040298607478776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372141339390331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977364608745702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409521076144973,0.1805334757361588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485145819837406,0.0,0.0,0.13181862163342464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652489798822067,0.13333727674865142,0.17943756337191166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557657313129882
parenting,sarnian-missy,2020/03/08,"ADVICE PLEASE - Mother of adult teen with suspected depression in a meltdown. My (18) son is in tears in his room and hyperventilating. He won't allow anyone to speak to him while he is worked up. This is a regular occurrence.

The reason he is in this state and yelling at his phone is because of his on/off gf (17) who is manipulating him and demanding things and behaviours which are completely ridiculous. (Eg. She's angry at him for covering in a different department for a few hours at work today because of staffing issues and is angry and upset that he once had a female friend visit before they were together. She's also demanded he sell his motorbike, his games consoles etc.)

He is constantly telling her he loves her and begging her to understand and realise that she's being unreasonable. He can see this clearly at times but she's managed to work her way back into his life a few times now before reverting to her narcissistic behaviour and the cycle starts again.

He won't allow me to take him to a therapist and won't go on his own. His school has tried to help a little with other things but the gf situation is upsetting for everyone to hear. His siblings and I would like our beloved boy back and I don't know what to do anymore. 

I've considered getting in touch with her Mother through fb but I haven't a clue what I'd say to her and idk if that would make me an interfering helicopter type parent but I desperately want this girl to stop mentally torturing my son so he can escape this toxic situation and heal.

Sorry. This turned into a bit of a vent as well. It's so hard hearing him so upset and angry while not being able to reach him.",5.552519534129442,6.359288857585143,6.519407341884122,75.71683178534576,67.54489164086687,10.115229249594575,30.86082854194309,10.181067101454742,3.1107509656494177,1323,50,248,32,21,441,179,323,0.147,0.772,0.081,-0.9555,2,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,1,0,1,3,9,10,2,3,15,0,25,3,0,5,1,39,38,27,0,4,6,5,2,1,3,5,2,5,1,3,17,20,0,1,4,1,1,3,6,6,1,0,2,8,36,4,39,29,5,34,0,1,1,1,60,16,0,1,14,168,53,6,0.12441751749152152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215793581384801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949664378715878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338874536733893,0.08699562108144343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913387822319057,0.0,0.15168752772237012,0.0,0.21174028720424126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583170524622878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044939994753166,0.13445113627548244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071606255046732,0.0,0.0,0.12998982485991478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875842028849725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888626975872635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612466538295317,0.0,0.06500301774565864,0.0,0.07070934239324743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145365758144354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804551692053747,0.0,0.08339443936585621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225261927287742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985956357529446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837661381415955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787977206738709,0.060784114474800977,0.12469903818113301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229166712029867,0.0,0.08304965904344723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538359431903448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250059557996782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815092935382914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657307232640162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792192968956073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894180366275186,0.0,0.12591717003566533,0.09914465305045053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797010051002093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927522461957212,0.08806335925394708,0.0,0.0,0.10401861567056056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935464892025248,0.0,0.1087463942116566,0.0,0.0,0.14445832728697938,0.1653149403765496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450977099769559,0.0,0.11793325882348905,0.0,0.0,0.08447132739640223,0.13533053164124706,0.0,0.1295230235280944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338467536322356,0.09875683422602052,0.0,0.0,0.11186629016804596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717323036179278,0.0,0.0,0.17676526942601906,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wr2020,2020/03/08,"Daughter (9) hates literally everything in her closet Anyone else go through this phase? Even outfits she picked out in the fall she refuses to wear. I told her we could go shopping for a couple more things but now I’m thinking it’ll a matter of weeks before she hates those too. 

She only likes dressy outfits but is “disgusted” by anything I pick out for her. She said today she wants to throw it all away and start over, which obviously isn’t going to happen. 

Any tips or advice?",4.508663594470047,6.060618268817207,4.944116743471586,83.27903225806456,70.61290322580646,7.464823348694317,26.1889400921659,7.957251820313856,1.5286294930875577,381,12,72,5,7,121,72,93,0.111,0.838,0.05,-0.7851,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,3,0,4,1,1,2,2,16,16,4,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,1,1,1,1,5,1,3,0,0,2,1,12,1,14,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,5,47,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20596680055903474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333416513505146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737871634740826,0.2159638013449029,0.17344978999565816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19802996423491814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17935392229672248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828661302840725,0.2332184265616562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760753894847099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921483878640845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18943089635417426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35936471236627704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638755493966985,0.0,0.0,0.41619316932661415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297397333623874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030381532058652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049520435803955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918756464692665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002948311004784,0.13505605024899392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19978996740308216,0.20140445703548365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432050165465312,0.0,0.16907091735144353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,supercharged0709,2020/03/08,"This this sub, why are couples vacations rare? I’ve noticed one of the threads in this sub is that once you have kids, the couple starts to neglect vacations with just the two of them without the kids. Why is that? Your relationship with your spouse is extremely important and time away from your kids with just the two of you is very important for your relationship.",3.860231092436976,6.661623720588236,3.642689075630255,86.24852941176474,76.5,8.003361344537815,27.36134453781513,8.841846274778883,2.3370226890756296,295,12,56,7,7,89,41,68,0.042,0.895,0.064,0.1396,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,7,0,12,7,0,4,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,0,2,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19674172122732503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4634025445688401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384075632949216,0.0,0.2230081651644975,0.1418974039834972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.449642531986938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821705577611624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210501367898527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091140826883791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278002863404174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779086369232157,0.0,0.0,0.20185774749093235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,revelmama,2020/03/08,"Have children they said, it will be fun they said https://imgur.com/a/eIuYEwZ

I get it, pineapple on pizza is like a big dividing thing, I love it. Absolutely LOVE pineapple on pizza. When I make pizza at home, I use crushed pineapple as a sauce. 

I left my ham and pineapple pizza unattended while I put my 1.5 yr old down for nap. My 3.5 yr old (almost 4) found my pizza, picked off all the pineapple and closed it back up.",2.9376851851851846,5.377125530864198,3.218009259259261,90.0247916666667,77.64197530864197,6.025308641975308,23.70524691358025,7.1686216300943375,0.9107395061728396,332,11,65,4,8,102,54,81,0.033,0.79,0.177,0.925,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,4,7,0,3,1,9,12,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,5,3,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,12,4,8,7,1,15,0,0,0,2,7,9,0,1,6,38,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22722907649833626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744886057316714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488076825564567,0.0,0.0,0.11855710381854564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276207394927303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465508444078226,0.0,0.0,0.11086236947497158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096109780265687,0.0,0.15147184532007954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4762318272841519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22811875652420935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43170857068751417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075654353207507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598729434236534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bbdbdn,2020/03/08,"My son (20M) has become so lazy that I (57M) don’t know what to do with him? My son was always a bright kid growing up. He entered college early and graduated at age 18. I was so impressed with him. The whole community of our town was so impressed with him. He did have aspirations to become a surgeon. 

But 2 years later here we are. He works full time at a lab in a hospital. Hasn’t applied to any schools. Hasn’t even passed the med school acceptance exams yet. He’s been studying for it for 2 years now and has taken it twice. Not passed it at all. He is doing his retake in a few weeks. Now he Is doing some graduate program online.

I’m afraid he will never go to med school and people around us will think he’s unmotivated and not cut out to do it in this world. He told me he is applying next year to schools but then he will be 22 when he enters. 

That means he wasted 4 years. 

I talked to him this morning and he told me he is interested in osteopathic med school and then become a sports medicine doctor. That’s the same type of doctor he has interned for. 

I don’t know what to tell him. He hasn’t moved at all in life. 

TLDR: son has become so unmotivated. What do I do?",0.6978598014888321,2.7673997661290315,2.879999999999999,91.40346153846157,83.59677419354837,5.58957816377171,19.61910669975186,6.844919456158928,0.16934689826302707,914,25,206,11,26,310,129,248,0.047,0.888,0.065,0.3373,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,0,1,11,7,1,1,9,0,30,4,0,0,3,26,39,15,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,12,12,0,0,5,1,0,7,8,2,0,1,8,1,18,5,28,27,7,39,0,0,1,0,34,15,0,1,17,128,30,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989908778009344,0.0,0.0,0.07347184706080218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617973923009383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4772928877715605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116987240121905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136031618331831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061402409214269364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875343992745248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076312825766765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176887422651583,0.36002886942764184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483089447562406,0.0,0.0,0.08332817706476696,0.0,0.11490323921930914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490229305088987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467182510787295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086839573158118,0.0944329330744569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922855733091045,0.0,0.0,0.06299980075128829,0.0,0.0,0.20647634778117965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996048401371932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666428252029547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062434856955645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786554154361997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278300440034389
parenting,axmarunning,2020/03/08,"Son rolls on stomach and cries. Hi everyone,

I'm a first time dad and in dire need of advice. My 6 month old son has been absolutely perfect little child except his newly started nighttime habit. He has decided to roll into his stomach and forgets he is more than capable to roll back (like he does all day daytime) on his back and starts crying. He settles quite easily after 5-10min but this is now happening on the hour, every hour more or less. Leaving my wife and I very sleep deprived.

Anyone that has gone through the same? What can I/we do? We've tried a slightly more rigid sleep bag as to make it harder for him to roll and also leaving him a couple of minutes, hoping that he'll sort it out himself but no luck so far in finding a solution.

Tl;dr

Son rolls on stomach, refuses to roll back and cries several times a night.",3.6419720279720273,5.244939127272732,4.664242424242428,84.22867132867134,72.87878787878788,7.258741258741258,27.843822843822842,7.882392219407189,1.7706689976689969,656,25,126,9,13,214,112,165,0.10800000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.096,-0.2541,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,3,6,6,0,1,7,0,8,5,5,1,2,26,17,13,0,2,4,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,9,4,21,14,6,27,0,1,0,0,19,10,0,4,17,75,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852679427320475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336588147701157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912229089490933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32701539794939505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568553811067582,0.4671520087905307,0.09142384401378027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405563543803096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943939943356795,0.13545830546347784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295665983306266,0.12058147359790565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253584092588397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408002383953447,0.2792112238968286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002079629214829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925705687094479,0.14208133907491827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462628532441794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315193935478653,0.0,0.0,0.1051136709239203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330326975292518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487538779036227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077982231865453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014910043022745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837259077516506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067773077867235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532346384488136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624612575185468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696732163715252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JackBurtonPorkChop,2020/03/08,"Talking about death with my 4 year old Unfortunately my wife and I learned that her stepfather committed suicide yesterday. In the coming days we need to tell our 4 year old that he is gone. Though not particularly devout, we do come from a faith background so I’m comfortable talking about how Grampy went to Heaven. My issue is the why. My instinct is to say he was sick, but we have three kids at home who are always sick so I want to make sure there’s a distinction so he doesn’t think the common cold is going to kill him and his brothers. Is using another term like “big sick” helpful? I don’t want to shield him from the realities of death but I want to do so in a way that makes sense for a child of his age.",2.8481278538812766,4.481309726027399,4.026232876712331,87.86665525114157,75.02739726027397,7.3324200913242015,23.81050228310503,8.07648339933343,1.1298146118721464,564,17,122,9,12,184,94,146,0.17800000000000002,0.679,0.14400000000000002,-0.8939,0,0,0,0,0,1,9.0,4,0,0,0,9,6,1,0,8,0,12,3,0,4,3,24,26,10,4,4,3,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,2,4,8,0,0,2,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,3,2,17,5,18,23,1,19,2,0,0,0,22,4,0,0,10,72,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820007458509482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676170533261735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068484403019951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486488724380728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012228471941651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938199829134978,0.0,0.1786567865475539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858984161863496,0.0,0.0,0.19705004748848545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701454324235082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377768668849952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206478122533194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737886455507874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416385831672823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194821179028119,0.0,0.1678646262809771,0.0,0.0,0.2863128322381184,0.15567419058975945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412437671176533,0.17499014742613206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382807511033006,0.0,0.0,0.315158034112662,0.14137379307878567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510784540825468,0.16071471355619255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22939134861440685
parenting,jehornahel,2020/03/08,"My daughter keeps on waking up and cry almost every day at around 11PM Hi everyo ne. My 3.5 y.o. daughter wakes up almost every night and cries without any particular reason. When asked she cannot tell anything just cry. During the day we ask her if she had a bad dream or any pain and she says “no. I just wanted to cry”. 

It’s very difficult situation. I am sleep-deprived and can hardly control myself during sleepless nights. I don’t think I’m here for advice. I just want some support from the people who went through similar things.",2.196217948717948,4.870053365384617,3.220769230769232,87.40756410256414,82.65384615384616,5.005128205128205,21.166666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.4870474358974355,426,13,78,4,12,136,81,104,0.21100000000000002,0.736,0.053,-0.9571,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,3,0,5,3,2,2,0,21,14,7,0,3,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,6,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,2,12,1,10,12,1,11,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,5,5,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177362170134438,0.0,0.0,0.27006510495642977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834049177063433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096985994359032,0.12004487340514887,0.25213263855123824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259391429160938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512454688147938,0.0,0.0,0.5925045033716747,0.1739338746523625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272334723368264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079889494596666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986065986030375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530947236612674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434896489031382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348784223191188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864800923704632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723793912000944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157677668268346,0.13494714373163122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302590603141647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786463123049387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958818646643693,0.08640627919492155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126517201022812,0.15907576085366354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500707560181445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999035347856566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lucifer_lamp_muffin,2020/03/08,"Bedtime screaming match!! Hi, I'm hoping someone may have some advice or suggestions as I am loosing my shit to be honest!
I have a looong list of medical issues so I struggle with most things as it is but at the moment my biggest problem is getting my 7 year old daughter to sleep! She has been sharing my bed for probably a couple of years now and will not go back to hers which isn't an issue in its self......IF she actually settled to sleep that is!! She will lay there demanding my full attention all night, I have to face her, not allowed to look at my phone, have an hour long conversation, watch a video with her ect ect and if this doesn't happen then it's screaming and crying witch sets my anxiety off so then I'm getting crazy stressed and end up shouting back and so on!! I'm dreading bedtime every night and I really need to sleep as I have chronic fatigue syndrome so any sleep I do get is already crappy quality!  She used to be such a good sleeper as well so I don't no what happened! Any advice is welcome!! (Also this is my first ever post so, um, hi! Lol!)",2.73096839959225,4.358572596330276,4.18103975535168,86.65781855249745,75.3302752293578,6.6793068297655465,27.70744138634047,7.3871296695380915,1.510436493374108,838,34,170,10,18,278,136,218,0.185,0.728,0.087,-0.9739,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,14,15,1,3,7,1,23,9,6,2,2,24,36,22,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,3,3,3,1,0,9,8,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,9,2,1,1,5,23,6,23,30,4,27,0,1,2,0,15,8,1,6,16,118,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.12025976443775185,0.0,0.0,0.2408479945590393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359930919517397,0.09855113354932156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760830449796982,0.0,0.09427457981666118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952050203058976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635738910138054,0.13536806490726844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091497964652514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147328089086384,0.10383095911458358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482378607474528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19315589468520675,0.0,0.07003739603808623,0.10336382698340824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179529356000044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240034582794397,0.12136183416130235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25725103290804996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090592614353634,0.10348651848549424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414648468017425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913773287528605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23129574735923264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293145970927076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11802524263113498,0.0,0.13286837358346984,0.1179194295217086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894761563171401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856117537002262,0.0,0.12649914727199987,0.0,0.0,0.4932967390529303,0.0,0.1044167730030823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116548894949468,0.12883217341088896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187198153939207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643563303067907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108032319723442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871883844365942
parenting,cntthnkofausrname,2020/03/08,"How do I prevent my daughter from developing an eating disorder My daughter is still a toddler, but I want to raise her to have a healthy relationship with food from early on. It seems like my mom did almost everything right, but somehow it had the opposite effect on me. 
My mom was very anti-diet culture and discouraged me from focusing on my appearance, but this was the exact reason I started my first diet. I was 11 and naturally underweight and I started a diet out of curiosity just for fun and it ended up turning into full blown anorexia. 
She only kept healthy foods in the house and allowed junk food as treats, emphasising that all foods are good in moderation, but this led me to develop a problem with binging still
The only issue I can find is that I was never allowed to choose how much and when to eat snacks/meals even as a teen. People say that kids can naturally regulate their appetite and won’t overeat on unprocessed foods, but when I was a kid I’d secretly binge on things like oats and spinach, so I’m not too sure about that. If left to my own devices, I’m sure I would’ve become obese. My sister doesn’t have an eating disorder, but she is overweight now, despite being naturally thin most of her life. It makes me wonder if it’s because of the way we were raised.
Is there anything I can do to improve on this way of parenting? I’m a 21 yr old single mom, so I don’t have many mom friends to ask",5.7208197747184,5.955820180851068,6.612745098039216,77.1979411764706,67.04964539007092,9.614017521902381,33.25490196078432,9.478462496947786,2.984900458906968,1129,47,217,21,17,376,162,282,0.071,0.8170000000000001,0.11199999999999999,0.9147,3,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,1,2,15,10,0,0,14,0,25,14,0,8,5,50,38,24,0,4,10,8,1,2,1,1,3,1,0,2,13,13,13,3,7,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,9,2,29,8,32,27,6,31,0,1,0,0,22,15,0,8,14,152,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326274779268827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664340094718043,0.0,0.08707005180585188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0567751438576462,0.1028619431172852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134849881124045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28590566268068096,0.0,0.0,0.0824912915991874,0.0,0.0,0.06151577760440573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370507765630726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512507057049416,0.07922185641798703,0.5631051068390587,0.0,0.0719570262279438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811847450591254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746701231584588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972103048152085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011930760553412,0.0,0.06578506191273692,0.09100357545236776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216933468848165,0.0944257891879049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363213566044721,0.0,0.0,0.0684660414139926,0.0,0.07183260785067873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773108592283992,0.0,0.0,0.1416690050911682,0.0,0.0,0.10341705749845166,0.0,0.0,0.06456911975476487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891190488750188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575983035290032,0.0,0.09999374197346546,0.0,0.0795380591960121,0.0,0.07406588031112449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478796853050409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184498331020206,0.0,0.1487578529671771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556009161591854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187574985647708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130576346825684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768473637271584,0.054934318770352514,0.14785483168715788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100255761150516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616149495867735,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonymous_1977,2020/03/08,"How can I improve confidence in my 6 year old daughter? My wife and I have a 6 year old. She is a very sweet girl. We have enrolled her in Ballet, swimming, basketball and Kumon in addition to kindergarten. I was hoping all these activities would help build up as a well rounded individual. However whenever we leave her in class or any public space she holds me or my wife tightly and does not let go and we almost need to force her to go. Also we had a recitation in her religious class today where she is supposed to recite something. Although she knows it well she froze up with the mic and had to be taken to the judges directly where she recited. I am concerned as to why she has not built the confidence I would expect to see in her even with all these activities. She has a 3 year old baby sister as well and is very nice to her and in general is a very sweet child. But the lack of confidence is very concerning to me and I am not sure what to do to address. Any thoughts are appreciated.",3.782981574539364,5.163386125628144,5.119678391959802,81.98641876046905,72.16582914572865,8.522747068676717,28.342043551088786,9.029198982220553,2.2579605360134005,785,30,158,16,15,262,107,199,0.026000000000000002,0.7959999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.985,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,10,0,21,0,0,1,3,37,29,17,0,6,6,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,15,0,2,2,2,0,3,3,0,3,0,5,6,29,8,27,20,3,22,0,0,2,0,26,12,0,4,7,117,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344870518980915,0.0,0.0,0.1145605850783122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483596723584834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536299275302265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461825707421506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628296860425074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602048272570314,0.0,0.0,0.14228405830379762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872893583205365,0.0,0.0,0.15168584864056905,0.0,0.1464874488985117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622140880380614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45096455114925804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141553024154547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028432557422584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501568644153858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372808440599615,0.0,0.0,0.13578853131882845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4727999157140607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864090434931508,0.0,0.12926491931494904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20352779667914567,0.0,0.0,0.27675363550165233
parenting,PickleRickFlavor,2020/03/08,"Poopy question My son just turned 3 and he still doesn't have solid poops. They are very soft and mushy, no constipation problems. He's a picky eater but daily has bananas, toast and apple sauce (among other things) I can't get him to eat rice, any other food ideas to get him to have more solid poops? I want to start potty training but I think it'll be easier to  do with solids and not diarrhea. Any advice is appreciated!",2.603928571428572,4.830765583333335,3.5359523809523807,88.4132142857143,77.69047619047619,6.104761904761905,18.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.23571904761904736,335,7,68,4,8,107,65,84,0.075,0.804,0.122,0.7875,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,10,4,2,0,0,14,16,6,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,7,0,7,14,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,2,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606704874200287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36280591423750025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27295757693562583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225619333630333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787375847178566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30113460558471794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552490854324356,0.0,0.0,0.2988273246536027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881098841157654,0.0,0.21303136871452988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772205691227828,0.1709262189434192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901534946874369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22010130894416785,0.15733936573594742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thepianist2003,2020/03/08,"My daughter kept me awake at night for several months but I found a solution Hello.
I am a single mother and my daughter kept me awake at night for almost 7 months but I finally found a solution. About 10 days ago I saw an ad on Instagram for a some baby lullabies so I decided to give it a try. It worked brilliantly because my daughter fell asleep much faster than usual and also slept through the entire night. Sadly, the playlist is only 4 hours long but if you put it on repeat it does its job perfectly!
I know that this problem isn't anything unusual so I thought I'd share it with you. 
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1huZHe9EB3QbibKut5fv5s?si=YHXLoSIWSgODFZzpgAzfuQ
Besides that, getting some proper sleep is really important for your health too because a lack of sleep quickly leeds to depression and other illnesses.

I hope that some of you find this helpful, take care.",6.2782692307692285,8.83367182692308,5.731025641025642,75.3473076923077,67.91025641025641,8.646153846153847,29.948717948717945,9.265573868473778,2.867425641025641,719,28,117,15,13,220,103,156,0.11199999999999999,0.6890000000000001,0.19899999999999998,0.9491,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,4,0,2,6,7,0,0,9,0,4,6,4,0,1,24,17,10,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,6,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,7,1,17,4,16,10,6,20,0,2,1,0,12,4,0,6,14,76,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392718075208945,0.0,0.15128917546367013,0.0,0.0,0.12082211850013105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432956575336357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841992629286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540405875156949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743692168450503,0.0,0.13012874907590405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221495294898092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165505545672008,0.13808837979472935,0.0,0.0,0.3313124334531943,0.0,0.0,0.07893534911321015,0.14493389753561212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059562347163386,0.0,0.0,0.10126867049774683,0.0,0.0,0.15006087251832198,0.14878767377233348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992792749796896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830320202012514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337049157540711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24118821019383904,0.0,0.11106439814329064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253473479637002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490647378653394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445673405675181,0.0,0.151881524645452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967885180781202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068233702918847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023869686478693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359664581125699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994411587110075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257637182600808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639809181635626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099912229477504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CountryStrong89,2020/03/08,"Is 7 years old too young to have a sit down about their behavior? I know this is a dumb question but I had 0 experience with kids until I had my son. He has been acting out lately. Like all of a sudden one day he will just not listen to anything I say and blatantly do things I just 5 seconds earlier told him not to and then he just looks at me almost daring me to do something about it. And he will also argue about EVERYTHING. It is not a consistant thing. He just has days like this. And before you say it is a normal behavior know that he recently lost his grandpa who was one of his favorite people, and unfortunately has had to deal with me getting assaulted by my now ex boyfriend. He also will randomly say he hates my ex or he will come home crying because someone treated him bad at school and when I ask him why he doesnt find someone else to play with and he will tell me things like ""They aren't mean to me ALL the time"" or ""they are my friends"". This behavior worries me because I was like that and have since been in multiple abusive relationships. And no he does not have a dad in the picture if that helps anything. I just don't know what is normal and what isn't. I'm looking into a counselor but is he too young for me to sit down with him and talk to him on everything and have a heart to heart talk with him??? Any advice is appreciated!",4.299032258064514,4.734931752688173,5.342455197132619,84.3670161290323,70.18279569892474,8.493906810035844,28.403225806451612,8.515128840125781,1.827567741935484,1065,36,228,16,18,352,139,279,0.13699999999999998,0.763,0.1,-0.9252,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,3,1,14,13,4,0,10,0,33,2,2,0,3,47,47,22,0,3,14,5,0,4,1,5,0,4,1,1,15,20,0,0,6,1,0,2,9,6,0,3,9,6,31,7,32,33,2,27,0,1,2,0,47,9,1,6,18,160,46,1,0.0,0.13389994732106114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104333645736694,0.0,0.0,0.1131645234046695,0.0,0.0,0.1807502409198224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685158030934583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599739221881792,0.0,0.10565033894703237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435974078274066,0.13778131671959573,0.0,0.09616431888514232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973492548299087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413764034785868,0.14576591842280148,0.116509719807113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889697720664188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440646563737122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031345943309102,0.11054676675656183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329030903434372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873122738867122,0.0,0.05904375600435921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157529241743808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267837942397964,0.07574911289971298,0.0,0.11335957923457855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632421581921868,0.0,0.12748170363863678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22084651134406025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18980211058501328,0.0,0.12336521749394926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310246971485304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214542193331475,0.0,0.0,0.1185863811868736,0.0,0.15315880509569374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783478273656425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659855442273582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158505543699122,0.12133187603511572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696134387307687,0.0,0.11437350021863825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348414071533598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915082678062962,0.08700164373110908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816684539063649,0.0987768843488153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252391198588641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589781583827185,0.0,0.0,0.1079871696321588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197514831425944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476849219019256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277559185265026
parenting,jackietrahan,2020/03/08,"Bed wetting My 6 year old has been potty trained for 3 years or more but for the last 2 years started wetting the bed at night. He says he doesn't feel it when he has to go. I have tried limiting drinks in the evening, making him go before bed and even get up in the night to make him try. No luck with anything. The doctor calls it bladder immaturity. I'm at the end of my rope! Any suggestions please help!",2.2623697478991573,3.7601566823529424,3.3057142857142883,92.99000000000004,76.29411764705883,6.26890756302521,23.907563025210084,6.868970318607317,0.5557563025210088,318,10,73,3,7,102,63,85,0.032,0.8440000000000001,0.125,0.8513,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,0,5,3,1,2,0,9,13,4,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,4,5,1,11,12,1,17,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,10,37,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683636962137372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558675701799913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122323614410778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20546792178155615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059569999918472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971188067456633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822102476309887,0.0,0.0,0.2658075709864161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174278094826496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512904468490394,0.0,0.2287157080979167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487339583016733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16402100004210832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686315687929031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776623177747519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211146339773768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22087892410680895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600180677636482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242441583766727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732300825539016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887368774752103
parenting,organize_me_,2020/03/08,"In your opinion, would you rather have 2 kids or 3? I come from a smaller family than my husband. It’s just me and my brother. I loved having and older brother(and still do), but always wished I had another sibling too. My husband has 3 brothers and they’re all so close. What do you think is the perfect number? 2 or 3? Why?",0.6072727272727292,2.9741105606060643,2.466893939393941,92.07034090909092,87.33333333333334,4.512121212121213,23.40151515151515,5.985473137389443,0.5290969696969703,251,10,51,2,8,83,53,66,0.0,0.845,0.155,0.8723,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,0,2,16,12,7,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,10,2,3,10,1,5,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,3,2,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955403339616225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37243987170567294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059583160681329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348344968877082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32056611784747924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836492425477212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275866358433625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204970054834285,0.0,0.4084424027126749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25231149222077703,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wndigownedio,2020/03/08,"Recommendations for shows that teach kindness and other values of life? I definitely wasn't born a long time ago but i still grew up on kids shows from the 70s-early 90s (jem, fraggle rock, arthur etc so much more) and looking back at them all now they taught kindness and acceptance and love better than any of the kids shows on popular channels nowadays do, like sesame street is the only one left that i can think of that really teaches such things and i would cry in the backround if i saw my child watching teen titans go

When they get of the age for their beby brains to be able to process what tvs show them i thought of making dvds/files or whatever of these old shows to give to them to watch as though theyre channels themself but at the same time i dont wanna force my oldness culture on them, so what would be good modern shows that actually teach these values?",8.48311403508772,6.815791076023395,7.444495614035087,79.76042763157895,62.21637426900586,10.187426900584796,33.655701754385966,8.472884824447931,2.406619298245613,698,21,140,7,8,213,117,171,0.022000000000000002,0.7759999999999999,0.20199999999999999,0.9871,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,7,1,8,8,0,0,7,0,9,3,1,1,1,18,19,14,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,10,5,0,0,3,9,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,4,16,8,24,11,5,24,0,0,4,1,13,9,0,2,14,89,26,4,0.1721973018745733,0.0,0.16803972687016008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264251832114528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171000701717988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240909603644022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522945200427523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922291379589406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18915065034684794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20181395533841495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920455098912059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996598304792733,0.16518734274625216,0.09786369494369897,0.1444309269667409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586339829352568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870928723292292,0.0,0.12162804679323208,0.08412690367422893,0.0,0.0,0.15238919342591756,0.1446023645759547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541478797333222,0.0,0.11494303613524046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658483015330496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613842032266932,0.0,0.116685348251411,0.13096380758321582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031400094476693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751698771335705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440023586042727,0.11033707801892167,0.16918297479831276,0.13670542306314046,0.2008192629941664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24464804533948956,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heskens,2020/03/08,"How much freedom is too much freedom? DS is 18, senior in HS, attending college in the fall, SUPER responsible in every way - in school, life, financially. We haven’t worried about leaving him home alone over night for a couple of years now as he has earned our trust. He’s always been honest about parties he’s attended, talked about making responsible choice, etc. 

Left him home alone for one night while we went out of town to attend the youngest’s tournament. Realized there were signs he had someone over - not a big deal as we’ve allowed him to have people over when we’re not there. However this time he said it was a college girl he met last summer, and she spent the night. But he doesn’t even know her last name!!! He doesn’t see the big deal, he explained he’s responsible, was safe, and he’s been talking to her since last summer. On one hand I am FURIOUS and want to lecture him that not knowing her last name is NOT safe. At the same time I’m not going to be able to stop him in 6mos from doing the same thing or worse. Do I let it go? Or is that giving him too much freedom/permission to do this again in my house?",5.642795662487295,5.402516017621147,5.827048458149779,84.3864283293799,67.23788546255507,8.922941375804811,28.91528295493053,8.384062270229773,1.7595912572009489,884,26,188,11,13,281,132,227,0.064,0.762,0.174,0.9807,2,2,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,0,2,12,6,1,0,9,0,21,2,1,3,0,30,35,11,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,7,6,0,3,4,0,1,7,8,1,0,2,10,3,16,5,29,23,6,42,0,0,1,0,35,16,0,2,18,111,23,6,0.12306585818465055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25491822871677106,0.0,0.0,0.10240065260997988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617003133128314,0.0,0.0,0.25375099196935136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725096286633448,0.08128383866921045,0.0,0.10368829330750864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805598505322056,0.1398823265203034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24689017987189815,0.0,0.0,0.14200147720668085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526755441609595,0.40126039920711304,0.0,0.1303089745103992,0.1337114150034641,0.12584317796079647,0.08692505512562945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214741596030434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714026977145395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464669135892877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667852209507251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531837062860029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706381293155906,0.0,0.0,0.12454921865546552,0.09806755558279476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180134961783124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427330227604983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288856796671914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783135031393376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175948780512682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352138315377055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258743168374597,0.09768394998278837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408328348124447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497935274542715,0.1254146233005615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925037779826173
parenting,B-LCC,2020/03/08,"Baby Gate Needed for Stairs My uncle is going to be staying with me for a few months with his children and my parents need a baby safety gate to fit the top of the stairs. They tried many different kinds but can't find one that fits. I've attached the images below. The banister for the stairs is farther than the wall—so nothing can fit between it and the wall. The only way anything could fit is that it would need to be between the wall and the thin metal ""pillars"" that are under the handrail. I used a box to demonstrate. Is there anything that can do that?

[https://imgur.com/gallery/nZzP1CD](https://imgur.com/gallery/nZzP1CD)",6.973384955752213,8.745970088495575,5.373617256637168,81.69458517699118,64.92920353982299,6.711946902654868,28.28429203539823,6.6274283507984215,1.319266371681416,512,16,87,3,8,148,70,113,0.0,0.897,0.10300000000000001,0.8608,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,14,0,13,0,0,1,0,13,18,4,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,15,14,1,18,0,0,0,0,4,14,0,0,1,62,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683626871827648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17869871446250218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23383988760873145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456359813403666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719968425177186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330697273261762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269141048984825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864764644969508,0.0,0.0,0.4978697676943993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21475730872762386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166338715216432,0.17022201116132532,0.0,0.0,0.2485209732989125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23855787680351603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195624523551648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933050010494048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765457443221835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899233182386535,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acupofearlgrey,2020/03/08,"Splayed/ loose hips? My 7.5mo old is desperately trying to be on the move but not going anywhere yet! When she is on her hands and knees (she needs a little help getting there), she rocks briefly and usually her legs slide out to the side so she is making a M shape with her legs. Is this normal and did your LO’s do the same till their hips/ legs strengthened? She’s standing and bearing weight on her legs quite happily but Dr was a little worried about loose hips when she was born. At the time she was x-rayed and she got the all clear but not sure whether to get a second scan?",3.4067419962335217,4.764333610169494,3.523333333333333,93.15434086629006,73.0677966101695,6.261393596986817,23.280602636534837,6.42735559955562,0.35692354048964203,458,12,100,3,9,140,77,118,0.087,0.785,0.127,0.8473,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,6,1,0,0,9,0,10,11,9,1,3,20,16,13,0,2,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,5,3,15,1,11,10,2,21,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,0,8,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515447681966435,0.0,0.13681338004368598,0.0,0.1925351419795312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135739267716048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4825528374136512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069028760045098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558597131234225,0.0,0.178499514734151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358659663530403,0.0,0.0,0.2526074371414362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560478088055871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268867903628234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037259764164878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634410309405204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26513197131919874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931463726785544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24447473973478964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Angelinatrump,2020/03/08,"The girls made their divorced mother happy by putting her favorite animal crossing everywhere The daughters made their divorced mother happy by putting animal crossing everywhere in her room
https://nintendosmash.com/the-girls-made-their-divorced-mother-surprised-with-animal-crossing/",33.762,33.38768186666667,22.46333333333333,-12.554999999999973,13.666666666666671,18.666666666666668,66.66666666666666,15.903189008614273,10.486666666666666,256,11,15,5,1,67,18,30,0.0,0.722,0.278,0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,0,9,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220301381603585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6960294652106299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4929782129170434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,halesofbae,2020/03/08,"For those of you who kept the gender a secret until birth, what was your experience? Between names, baby shower gifts, clothes, etc, how  did you feel keeping it a secret from yourselves and family? Did you name your baby once you saw their face? Would you do it again?",3.3520000000000003,5.9358422,3.649999999999999,86.705,77.0,5.6000000000000005,20.0,6.742157984588678,0.3828,210,5,38,2,5,65,40,50,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,7,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,1,0,10,9,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,8,0,5,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,13,0,0,0,3,30,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4641350075514226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070901242117936,0.3923241900856969,0.0,0.21042599274930815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369907389977168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4432031209508833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29563232807528506,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mithr4el,2020/03/08,"Lost daddy seeking for advices Hey,
New to this channel. I was looking for... Advices or simply a shoulder to lean on.

My daughter is 3 for a few weeks now. Only child.
It has been 3 years during which she constantly want her mother and uniquely her mother. I'm only there for the necessities and for the bad moments.

She almost never cuddle with me, almost never have a nice word for me or a kiss.

Every year, I take the whole month of July off to be with her and the last two weeks of December. (+ Some days here and there). But, nothing changes.

It's really hard for me and I don't know what to do.
I love my daughter from the moon and back, but this situation is really painful.

Talking about it to my wife is difficult as she's also annoyed by the situation. She's exhausted of having to be there constantly for our daughter. Carrying her every time, having her on her knees at every diner, having to be the only one to put her in bed...

Days, weeks are passing, and I get the feeling that it doesn't improve. 

Anyone who's living/lived the same situation and has advices ? 

Thanks in advance guys !",2.103062421449515,4.420910963133643,3.9176476749057407,84.54322475911187,79.92165898617513,6.157436112274822,24.149350649350648,7.348242739294969,1.2559050691244251,857,31,162,12,22,288,123,217,0.111,0.838,0.051,-0.9205,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,2,8,10,1,0,13,0,18,8,2,0,2,24,28,14,0,1,4,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,10,10,1,0,2,1,0,3,4,6,0,2,3,3,23,4,31,22,4,27,0,1,1,3,24,6,0,5,18,122,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432504163429703,0.0,0.0,0.2344929597672701,0.0,0.0,0.09363504059565407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187048529024266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003326122302721,0.09776339012136127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386332641925275,0.0,0.0,0.2530605480566254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102383952048154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29595446713702456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05920309032490542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117352278208516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593529242975692,0.0,0.0,0.1048876359538017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434837162928006,0.09544215314511563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832423038181144,0.0,0.12781512311523374,0.0,0.105676276195357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345833417359246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806105998522582,0.11308408970902616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234886506573337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934169747014931,0.2671515564683771,0.12458963357258505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770554019785134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001883648362208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948346492454772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803542492143647,0.09411070751500553,0.0,0.10779867958311616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682748153449884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437772950100668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906139539172243,0.0,0.2817622190316887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072430430706672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15080135910896808
parenting,vihu2018,2020/03/08,"Make my baby's brain develop well Hello Parents,
My baby boy is 15 months old and super active physically. What should we do to make him super smart and let his brain develop fully. We give him Omega-3 suppliment for now. What else can help ?",3.979130434782608,6.168375826086957,5.0558695652173915,79.29728260869571,73.34782608695652,8.078260869565218,24.54347826086957,8.841846274778883,2.0051913043478256,192,6,34,4,4,63,36,46,0.0,0.684,0.316,0.9517,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,2,0,7,8,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,4,2,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,3,20,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6040927300228465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22602708653983675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25955605353158673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135782524117425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766768548045454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612160634611149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21596693755122956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28391841662549394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30043672327768656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432755379968573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ieatdani4lunch,2020/03/08,"Video call with a parent of 5-10 year old Hello,

I am launching a new product and want to talk to a parents (moms or dads) about reading to their kids. I am happy to pay 30$ for the one hour video call. If anyone is interested please let me know :)

Thank you!",0.9403636363636352,2.5700004909090914,2.860000000000003,94.15000000000002,80.45454545454545,5.127272727272729,20.090909090909093,5.6839178017228535,-0.23980000000000026,197,5,46,1,5,66,46,55,0.024,0.71,0.267,0.9245,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,7,3,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,8,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,2,4,25,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126146088794454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4417898385271223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23028501632912865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21303935392152185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888812755779887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212098807916596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533605605169433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893078319897632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269996857548869,0.0,0.14658934811632834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4804129480844599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374630145890517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21638638894925755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387612951665704,0.0,0.19916561747163505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759576935299893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393080412424806
parenting,Amarella,2020/03/08,"From post-partum depression to loving motherhood, there is light at the end of the tunnel Hey! Just wanted to get something off my chest that I have been thinking about a lot lately and maybe provide some hope for new parents going through a rough time right now. Here we go..




So when I found out I was pregnant with my son I was so excited! I had always wanted to be a mother. I thought I wanted 3 kids and I felt so confident that I was made to be a great mother. I absolutely loved pregnancy and found it to be incredibly easy and such a happy time.


I was in shock when my birth turned out to be really rough. Because of my rough birth, the first few days in the hospital I felt no strong connection to my son outside of having to care for him on a base level. I immediately turned into a closed off version of my former self. 


Once we left the hospital I thought that I would snap out of it but I never did. Breastfeeding didn't work out for me which was absolutely devastating. I had spent so much time fantasizing about all the bonding time that I would spend with my son during feeding and I felt like that part of the experience that I had so looked forward to was ripped away from me. I also felt like I had failed my son.



The rough birth, followed by the inability to breast feed just sent me into a spiral. I felt like a failure. I felt disconnected from my son. I felt guilt for feeling all of these things. I tried to bury them because I didn't feel like I was allowed to feel them. 



Then my son had colic. He didn't sleep. He was never happy. I felt like all I heard all day was crying. I was on the cusp of losing my mind.



Motherhood was nothing like I had expected. I went from yearning for a large family, to feeling like an utter failure and never wanting to have another child. I ended up isolating myself. I lived in a haze. My husband was as helpful as he could be and honestly I don't know how I would have survived the first year of my son's life without him. He was my rock.



Fast forward to now. My son is turning 2 soon. He is SO easy. He is happy. He is affectionate and kind. He is adventurous and silly. His personality amazes me. I look forward to every day and the new memories we will make.  



And I feel like myself again. I love being his Mom. I have no doubts about our bond. I feel nothing but pure love when I look at him and I can't imagine my life without him. Most days I feel like I am kicking parentings butt.




I am honestly so amazed at the stark difference of how I felt then versus how I feel now. It is hard to believe there was a moment where I felt so defeated that I felt like my son was better off without me. Parenting is hard and post partum depression is a soul sucker. But it does end. THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.



So I guess what I ultimately want to say it that for anyone who feels they are drowning in self doubt and pp depression, you can do this. It WILL get better. There will come a point where you aren't in survival mode and it will be refreshing and it will be worth it.",1.679112374405079,3.7928449403225852,3.4094182971972486,88.72183236382868,80.24193548387099,6.5171866737176085,22.26070861977789,7.63801259472672,0.9264098360655746,2373,75,503,38,61,790,259,620,0.10400000000000001,0.6970000000000001,0.2,0.9962,5,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,4,2,3,11,34,44,1,3,31,0,66,12,4,6,8,98,122,39,1,12,9,16,26,10,0,8,2,2,0,5,23,29,2,0,27,1,3,9,14,12,0,2,46,33,92,32,73,59,11,76,1,7,3,6,54,32,1,7,50,354,115,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04268141179827442,0.04440961585285468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05596498930965954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03731880580782915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05014456607149182,0.0,0.0,0.06506991179752962,0.0,0.0,0.06013174559866034,0.0,0.09440604557063016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441611048558441,0.0,0.0,0.04597508266109114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04261304201388415,0.0,0.058626419753468585,0.13768159109933378,0.0,0.1379071678691917,0.0,0.0,0.05576217481566595,0.0,0.0,0.04670602471433085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890863044533008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04496804616825074,0.0,0.0,0.05220786485145056,0.0503141861611279,0.0,0.24287748642301596,0.15251530770239996,0.5636983105905838,0.0,0.0,0.09079605720559927,0.0,0.11703885498489115,0.0,0.0,0.055769128745045526,0.0,0.06066485151252673,0.0,0.0,0.05884260153240481,0.05879505850041625,0.0,0.0,0.17044583110048067,0.09562130489212356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03577399470754528,0.0,0.0,0.05301024327557967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557852003909599,0.029331747288046495,0.0,0.06020571880908096,0.0,0.057988620424736924,0.0,0.07539616609320708,0.26074767167445545,0.0,0.04712828011075187,0.0,0.13445661816275045,0.05970939588890721,0.0,0.04537479855274031,0.19268054492888465,0.0505016907373379,0.035626093126541615,0.0,0.05361915005013458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0538903067193694,0.06250841094480084,0.0,0.0,0.03923441644731756,0.0,0.12349087486461845,0.10309364037223408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024233693804132,0.0,0.0,0.05683922862325845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778921423757935,0.05779646190521591,0.0,0.0,0.046602199975448,0.0,0.0,0.05045360538856351,0.0,0.10223086842140952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034191343842663174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557922838036263,0.0,0.04244340015355325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135686155232223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05341034775547992,0.0,0.0,0.04108822167336864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035457854546895484,0.034198496481227185,0.0,0.08474250022803301,0.12448611078301156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036235951008208936,0.17415958760022848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740036194390056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049476196347411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434554134665773,0.0,0.03885530844109188,0.0,0.0,0.11374139320936415,0.0,0.0,0.03436969144737073
parenting,coxxinaboxx,2020/03/08,"1st ever birthday party that's not just for family help me! My son is turning six on march 31st, he has high functioning autism so we mostly have done family parties at home.



Well now he is in kindergarten and asked for a chuck e cheese birthday party. And I have no idea what to do lol. I'm not sure who his friends are at school, and the website asks how many children/adults are coming.


Do i invite his whole class? Should I send invites out now to get an estimate of how many are coming? Do I just invite who he wants to come?( he has named just 2 friends)


I just want it to go well for him",1.8521286031042123,3.6384730894308968,2.8733481152993363,94.37813747228384,78.26829268292683,5.773540280857352,20.937915742793788,6.574015621080383,0.1509414634146342,462,12,103,4,11,147,84,123,0.032,0.765,0.203,0.9588,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,3,1,14,0,0,2,2,24,25,6,0,3,6,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,1,1,0,11,5,13,23,2,15,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,1,4,67,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137950599381117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4337096628189253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174741284894635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181100683386098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31642863121910497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593286542256122,0.0,0.08768376485591754,0.0,0.09538113100818542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124922913618911,0.1773206323104892,0.16834624628278527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894585975751862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403046806953973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698519839791169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581769171166814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825498403887553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797987360383712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017969879730357,0.0,0.0,0.18737516883972952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whatsupdock96,2020/03/08,"Getting back into fitness after second child?? Hey everyone. We had our second about a year ago and I'm really trying to get back into my fitness routine, but still finding it hard with everything else going on. I heard about this remote personal trainer [service on npr](https://www.wesa.fm/post/can-t-afford-personal-trainer-artificial-intelligence-could-help) that seems to have great reviews. I really just need someone to kick my butt in shape but know I can't do anything in person. I'm trying to see if anyone's tried them out at all?",5.065260770975058,7.761330877551021,5.63421768707483,74.0623696145125,71.85714285714286,8.029024943310658,29.256235827664398,8.841846274778883,2.9026630385487526,438,18,66,9,9,141,77,98,0.018000000000000002,0.875,0.107,0.8267,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,1,15,14,4,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,3,8,1,16,12,1,18,0,0,1,1,8,11,1,2,6,43,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406779571107964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373046074731897,0.0,0.16159358638680288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019887215260518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678333966751484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403971236863224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763740519642744,0.17648230023861092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947618809864266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518765715310774,0.0,0.11160008263982757,0.0,0.0,0.2164956817673189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590656305959315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162088643353612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791835271007283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560389187913866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34292076804202504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806562745504773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25159588811455685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564793434535455,0.17876544813998865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638140700992451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681920861479715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999615948500749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645412657244928
parenting,sahashekhar89,2020/03/08,"Teach my 16months baby to speak My baby boy is 16 months old. He started to walk when he was 9. Overall is very active physically and can climb ladders, get up/down from bed etc. 
But he have not spoken a word yet. He will just utter anything gibberesh. Neither he understands his name. He don't have any hearing issue. How can we teach him to speak or make him understand things",2.1622972972972967,4.678890027027029,3.1661486486486474,88.83814189189192,81.16216216216216,5.321621621621622,24.114864864864863,6.6274283507984215,0.8652486486486484,298,11,57,3,8,95,59,74,0.0,0.9590000000000001,0.040999999999999995,0.4576,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,2,0,12,15,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,4,13,2,7,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,5,31,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18747145854746408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22686067264283796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074554250392449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403111831536045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107107412768661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28773768994660986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18401815304237906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004468231892071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892791762444109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512731186700116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831491564732916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5739839956148531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274643923745836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,murdershethrew,2020/03/08,"How can I be fair when assigning my kids' bedrooms. I have 2 kids(8F,5F) they currently share a large bedroom, but they're getting old enough to need their own space. We'll be moving before the next school year, and as I've been looking at homes with my husband, I'm noticing that there is usually a nice master bedroom, and then other rooms, but rarely are there two rooms that seem the same size and equally 'nice'. 

How have you successfully dealt with separating kids when one has a significantly better bedroom?

Flip a coin?

Switch rooms every few years?

Battle Roayle? 

Also: not going to just give the bigger one to the oldest.",5.278717948717951,7.151330034188036,5.011623931623934,82.28615384615388,69.17094017094017,7.2512820512820495,26.67521367521368,7.793537801064563,1.5491982905982908,502,16,90,6,9,154,87,117,0.027999999999999997,0.8370000000000001,0.134,0.9129,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,2,3,8,6,1,0,8,0,10,0,0,2,0,14,17,12,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,2,3,5,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,1,1,8,5,7,13,5,18,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,1,10,58,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17938254771866327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19087333365047826,0.0,0.0,0.1983860919894469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317746748891188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18899287412787535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171939724676687,0.21518089662287784,0.1274819079641059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500362962652426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836592408317654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23840858540084,0.0,0.1663248046478388,0.0,0.0,0.2385587854674851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553811576639866,0.2353781336476776,0.0,0.30399977918478915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270161274066707,0.0,0.20420558719919055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21912062396349272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470484213990145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888996664530658
parenting,Mjh122,2020/03/08,"HELP! my daughter (5 months) will only sleep in my arms So about 3ish months ago my daughter started refusing to go in her cot. As soon as you get her off to sleep and put her in her crib she would wake up immediately 

Obviously we have had to resort to co-sleeping however, it’s not working for us as my husband and I have no alone time anymore. 

I don’t know what to try; I’ve tired to just keep putting her down but the most she will stay down for is 5-10 minutes and that’s after a lot of crying and being awake for at least 6 hours. 

Any advice?",2.2192307692307693,3.3319396410256417,3.8013675213675207,90.96307692307694,75.66666666666667,6.567521367521367,24.11111111111111,6.937597516519254,0.6343264957264951,426,13,99,4,9,142,85,117,0.099,0.882,0.019,-0.7978,1,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,9,5,4,0,1,15,14,9,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,16,0,23,9,3,20,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,2,8,66,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735087182100267,0.15739544760811067,0.0,0.0,0.18389770049739784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207462911536505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609093663617845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504035706533004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276731232604818,0.0,0.1009109404094082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901413613100685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485996778589408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578227052399299,0.0,0.0,0.09758184941989648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095441523990205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28345199300154844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504171276612928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35699191785757417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5330620567152711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567725985210132,0.1892543981686748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353615144371968,0.20407808977683384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055098798395818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21358176048308214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926515492677218,0.0,0.0,0.12613290525528514,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chicknstirfry1,2020/03/08,"Have you ever ""banned"" your child from seeing a certain friend or a group of friends? What happened? What was the situation? I'm asking because our 14yr old has been getting into an extreme amount of trouble lately (including legal trouble). His views have also shifted. We are a very tolerant home and now suddenly our 14yr old is saying extremely sexist, racist and offensive things.

We grounded him briefly for a smaller offense and when we took his phone, dad replied to a group message explaining our son is grounded for the week, and that he can hangout again later. That message was met with a barrage of slurs, including the N-word.

After a more major incident (which involves the county attorny) we put our foot down and said no more. We took his phone and sold it back to the cell phone company and explained to our son he wont be hanging out with those kids ever again. Period.

It's been a few weeks and the guilt is creeping in on us. Our son has been depressed this last week, begged to talk to his friends, said we were killing his social life. 

I'm not sure if we're doing the right thing or not.

Due to the incident, 2 of the kids in our sons 6+ friend group are banned from seeing our son. 

We gave him the option to find a supervised activity to do, but if his friends arnt there, he wont go.

We offered to let him have ONE friend over and gave him his phone back for 1 night to see who could come, but none of his friends wanted too.

He doesnt have any friends outside this one group of kids.

They don't seem like very good friends to me. They have never wanted to come over (even before this) for a sleepover (which our son begged us for multiple times, just to have his friends say no) And our son hasnt actually had ANY friends up until this last year when this group adopted him. And our son is definitely the kind of kid to do whatever he can to gain favor. 

I'm just wondering.. has anyone ever had any issues like this? What did you do? Are we doing the right thing?",4.835860246623604,5.596595824427485,4.987442748091606,86.2272357604228,69.12722646310432,7.9799960853395975,29.110295556860446,8.012643519586192,1.7403330201605,1561,55,320,19,26,489,197,393,0.059000000000000004,0.802,0.139,0.9907,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,22,3,2,1,16,25,3,1,23,0,40,2,1,0,6,53,66,21,1,5,10,9,0,2,11,2,1,4,1,5,20,26,0,2,5,1,1,7,11,7,0,2,17,8,42,18,42,44,6,48,0,1,4,0,98,13,0,7,30,211,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.07633915439652439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255883033820779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959298143103925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054698772664565305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313253465917469,0.0,0.0,0.12030486616584685,0.0,0.047687007068828696,0.0,0.06656618856063919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477283317495886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245861964784578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737758314967689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05166879592275521,0.21228486620110332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149889134949329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6648255704443968,0.0,0.04087085356689188,0.0,0.04445872328686843,0.06561385833402639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917668132701488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784689707571936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164961245204368,0.0,0.0,0.08654759056668633,0.08146232889407509,0.0,0.12753237308887666,0.08824448840090653,0.0,0.0,0.0799933367663444,0.055254685401092685,0.07643640950988627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06033418580033045,0.0,0.0,0.07341159302725657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417406169615964,0.0,0.1060185110019775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864065495419079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361241322897435,0.1488253104018683,0.12441994570058475,0.0,0.0,0.1870125451384552,0.07121575006139318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793144701906258,0.0,0.07974350146437853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372887817672197,0.0,0.0,0.06287662980639733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591343959567178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04561532266519715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382816992579414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819708447696248,0.0,0.0,0.12909243476216467,0.09228169475330313,0.0,0.1882491292147576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483483002467039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050376208411164726
parenting,risouille,2020/03/08,"Newborn and hobbies Hey! I'm due May 7th with 1st baby. My husband would like to play hockey every Wednesday night from 9:00pm to midnight, from April 1st to July 31st. 

I'm all for him having his own activities. But how realistic is it for us to expect him to attend the hockey games on a weekly basis while we have a brand new baby at home? Should he skip this season (and the admission fee) or would he most likely be able to attend most games? 

I just have zero idea of how things will be...!",2.3866666666666667,4.375530494949498,3.8373737373737375,87.1427272727273,77.38383838383841,5.612121212121212,19.080808080808087,6.42735559955562,0.08834141414141428,385,8,76,3,9,127,74,99,0.0,0.94,0.06,0.7044,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,1,18,13,7,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,3,14,6,4,12,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,10,52,10,0,0.29736635050146026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250543975603012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29828269532317936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356904141595637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29055635660093104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871982743213265,0.0,0.2790581757965899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755698994111104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576951059002275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23852934951051635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4224810470776724,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zivaaaaaa,2020/03/08,"I Wish Schools Were Different Hey all! Mother of three kids here (2, 8, & 16). I’ve been thinking about this for years but have never reached out to see if any other parents felt the same way.

Wouldn’t it be amazing to have a school that taught certain life skills on top of the normal curriculum?! I wish they would bring back woodworking and home economics, and teach the older kids about managing finances... when I left high school 20 years ago I didn’t know the first thing about savings or credit cards and promptly flushed my credit down the drain. I’ve since repaired the chaos, but it would’ve been nice to be taught how to effectively manage my finances (especially since many parents are too busy/distracted to even consider it).

I also thought schools should have gardens and some livestock for children to learn from. How great would it be if they got to spend a little part of their day learning how to care for the animals and plants?!

I also think schools should work with different trade companies to offer high schoolers a trade internship/apprenticeship. Even if they decide to go to college, they’d already have that trade experience under their belt if they can’t find a career in their field once they receive their degree.

And don’t even get me started on summer break. It should be in the wintertime. Especially for parents that live in colder climates and send their kids to a school with no transportation, why are we trudging through snow and ice every day to take them to a school that is riddled with little Petri dishes, only to have our kids return home to spread all that illness around? And the days are so short and dreary. Many parents use their vacation days in the winter anyway for holidays. I just don’t understand why it can’t be reversed. Kids should go to school in the summer and stay home in the winter.

That’s the end of my rant. Thanks for listening 😂",7.638295774647888,7.741132963380284,6.5561619718309885,79.67283450704228,63.028169014084504,9.57887323943662,33.24295774647887,9.120678840339163,2.7314478873239434,1522,55,279,22,20,458,194,355,0.052000000000000005,0.82,0.128,0.9848,7,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,13,5,19,9,0,0,19,0,30,3,0,5,4,57,52,25,0,14,8,5,1,0,0,7,2,1,4,6,15,17,1,0,11,2,8,6,8,0,0,2,9,3,26,9,47,30,5,47,0,0,1,0,31,19,0,6,19,178,41,25,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674095236661264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391782168210721,0.121626714020097,0.0,0.08239499397439885,0.0,0.051713376052558484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769639286905045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058474101390938386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753319805114503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19617157447387465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890219661660435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735351792471754,0.0,0.0,0.15068150646723882,0.0,0.06407140088521478,0.0,0.0,0.07438684406573416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301536315776082,0.0,0.06950397860625937,0.06468404873819251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03973050320524927,0.0,0.08643653331875076,0.0,0.06082033135001181,0.08384015391296952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606919584701949,0.2288387509998151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041792479311300805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262338399387929,0.0,0.05371300728623611,0.0,0.15243463174378216,0.06714934682082363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419589053169347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865078296940565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450819668706372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098570681726447,0.0,0.05783583750965837,0.0,0.0,0.33775699232776346,0.08234959256670288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6156948032502122,0.060598216704598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258108292452266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382521763518644,0.08105411577108658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717656222735831,0.0,0.0,0.07001224696434998,0.0,0.0,0.050521083453427484,0.0974534481450231,0.0,0.06037143223668904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916578460359586,0.0,0.06567867782916796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036117790883992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723801570673552,0.0,0.17489656352398328,0.0,0.0,0.05536184592795506,0.0,0.0,0.16206108609418166,0.0,0.0,0.09794129239176994
parenting,Mamasan2k,2020/03/08,"A waiting room game to play I invented. So your kids are over about 3 years old and you find yourselves with some time in a waiting room with magazines. (This works with kids til about 13yo or so). Parents can play too, as Its kinda fun and makes you see past the ads to the common items they use in them to sell stuff.

Have the children each pick any magazine and lay it on their lap, closed.

Then the Parent picks a common object (dog, sun,  tree, car tire, flower, etc) and the children must page through the magazine to find it.  First one to find it gets to choose the next object. Many magazines have the same ads so this works across most magazine genres.  It also keeps the kids entertained for a while. Young kids may need help choosing g their common item and you may need to referee depending on the competitiveness of the kids but this has worked for me for 10 years. Hope you enjoy it.",5.518665265370469,6.143216063583817,5.071960063058331,86.71112454019968,67.55491329479769,8.60304781923279,26.13189700472937,8.575989854853784,1.4818254335260117,701,18,145,10,11,213,109,173,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.9355,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,5,4,4,7,6,0,0,15,0,8,1,0,5,1,35,18,15,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,7,10,10,0,3,5,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,11,6,25,15,8,24,0,0,1,0,20,9,0,8,14,92,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314530389665974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322172477507594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856849772445976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4565178839919118,0.14161983074030807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869863165481236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159751274033967,0.0,0.0,0.1653662485187117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147987641899451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113613154136244,0.168798926040755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24690659088108186,0.0,0.0,0.17706840711228058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470759298335028,0.0,0.1128207384130742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697440792429129,0.0,0.15893749618239753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326742738013323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059595734304474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708407215683666,0.1913605220713014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379748050498892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636291513625695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443353533959794
parenting,GodDadbod,2020/03/08,Does anyone else think constantly about all the naps you never took? I am a dad of two boys (4 and 2). This is all a fine time but I find myself thinking about all the times when I could have napped and didn’t. I’d love to have those naps back. Anyone else?,0.10933333333333196,2.1389563272727297,1.286818181818184,102.1635606060606,85.72727272727272,4.393939393939394,12.803030303030305,5.46131890053228,-1.4321515151515154,198,2,49,1,6,62,42,55,0.0,0.8590000000000001,0.141,0.8205,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,0,4,11,10,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,5,2,4,7,3,7,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,6,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163247802364827,0.4635316665292911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393173785023447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444388901774233,0.0,0.1806001137826068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197946754775054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37791758718071794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067402063294573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204151866971345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445727878644274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898761535818713,0.0,0.0,0.2637948936436051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513134891887057,0.0,0.0,0.22096186446244145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slrudnick,2020/03/08,"Impulse Advice My son is 3 yo and I am having issues with him in sand boxes where he will knock another child’s castle-type figures. It doesn’t happened all the time but often enough that it gives me anxiety when he walks near another child’s area. I can see him thinking and hesitating and then doing it anyway. I have been taking the empathetic type approach. 

Me: How would you feel if they did that to you?
Him: sad
Me: How do you think that makes this child feel?
Him: sad
Me: So what should you do?
Him to child: I’m sorry for knocking it down. 

Then next play day we may go through it again. I do help him build his own so he can knock those down but maybe that is making it more confusing? We have also been reading books with him on empathy and talking through those situations. 

Any tips that have worked for you?",1.1366463414634185,3.644309371951224,2.2140975609756097,93.79370731707316,86.3780487804878,5.231219512195122,19.175609756097558,6.742157984588678,0.15177170731707346,643,18,136,8,20,203,105,164,0.107,0.8340000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.8151,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,5,1,1,10,4,0,1,2,0,21,0,0,4,1,26,33,15,0,3,3,1,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,15,8,0,0,5,3,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,4,25,1,13,26,4,17,0,2,1,0,27,7,0,4,7,99,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19384188065984734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863397246330355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489632337432908,0.4160100708485253,0.1517501682630691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793026759741905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496607870524894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060057304614268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19029164689442696,0.11273650494285707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541523237256204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296118034147456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070435508997397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648229492839492,0.0,0.19928625633940897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096549405731774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984206236795754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807277073117518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297275491995752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220555518876013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14914725389066116,0.1594398345904099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25421105443886505,0.0,0.0,0.1156693595525254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441349687374996,0.0,0.0,0.1409141847165229,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Myskaria,2020/03/08,"Complete personality change My daughter turned 7 in December and in the past few months has undergone a complete personality change. I’ve read this can be a very hormonal age and we do suspect that she’s some form of neurodiverse (we’re going through getting interventions and support at the school and they’ve been awesome so far) so it’s not unexpected but I’m a little at a loss for how to handle things at the moment. 

She’s gone from being the most unspoiled kid ever to hour long meltdowns because we said no to something or she has to do something she doesn’t want to. We try to limit when we say no or control her because of the neurodiversity aspects and keep it to safety or practical issues which has definitely helped but we’re still having near daily incidents at the moment. 

Is this just a case of weathering through a difficult age/time and things will slowly improve? Or are there other things we should be doing/trying? Have to admit I’ve been quite unwell lately (chronic illness) which is killing my tolerance and patience which doesn’t help!",7.179883333333336,7.736717755000001,7.371000000000002,71.90133333333334,63.95,9.666666666666668,35.16666666666667,9.516144504307137,3.3589166666666674,861,37,147,15,12,279,126,200,0.091,0.785,0.124,0.7244,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,5,0,0,4,8,4,1,0,12,0,20,2,0,2,1,31,30,17,1,2,8,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,3,12,12,0,3,2,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,4,2,12,1,22,21,4,22,0,1,0,0,19,9,0,6,11,106,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468597046459945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32049908633652285,0.0,0.3176553061096737,0.0,0.16990171750682845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702557202045504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914391905349832,0.0,0.08609161027867858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307250301849264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918081368471678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810950236402113,0.0,0.1346455674431118,0.16759413871487785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708800780362521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182634477790566,0.0,0.13405820267315555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091274947591756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446082192187814,0.0,0.2645392406564689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611214353549445,0.15152457505874345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409557535028694,0.12046582407498985,0.0,0.15330947175008428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332389236371692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097498382548486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190177306808094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019168812443949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056948163225517,0.16477063701241895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124989819340501,0.08934894114361504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ilyna88o,2020/03/08,My son is 14 m he doesn't walk and speak yet Are these something that i should be concerned about? He can only speak gibberish but he's quite talkative. He only try to walk if i held his hand. He's too afraid to walk on his own. He never succeeded crawling.,0.04603174603174765,2.3588060370370383,1.840793650793653,95.605,90.48148148148148,5.307936507936508,18.825396825396822,6.868970318607317,0.20593968253968287,202,6,45,3,7,66,41,54,0.055999999999999994,0.863,0.081,0.3187,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,6,1,1,0,1,6,7,3,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,3,5,1,4,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,2,24,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417391510125835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6739814545685571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712818970410843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411131552837561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30082975314381305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hectik-Creed,2020/03/08,"Need some opinions and votes on this one! Baby boys name! Hey. So my last name is Creed and if I have a baby boy I want to call him Optimus Creed. I know instantly you think of Optimus Prime from Transformers, but in Latin, Optimus means “The best” which is what I would consider my son when I have him. Does anyone else agree with me that Optimus Creed is a strong name and would serve him well in the future? Or is the Mrs on the right track with the “flat out not happening” haha. Give me your thoughts!",3.162896039603962,4.6764569108910905,3.7040470297029735,90.99290222772278,73.95049504950495,8.218316831683168,22.525990099009906,8.841846274778883,1.2359990099009908,392,10,87,8,8,123,70,101,0.028999999999999998,0.804,0.166,0.9428,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,2,3,4,0,0,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,23,16,8,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,14,4,10,13,2,9,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,4,3,56,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808064796563478,0.2649477185181183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713657550885608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26404103524826394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262867668066941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160120003475018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24805532462490765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286631237916089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421098519773297,0.21077876428621856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816714994179038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917352053904748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522179035191762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22082753321053947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568884305010326,0.0,0.2052851479547274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251830664817892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23249618619958606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673783311519071,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bok_bok,2020/03/08,"My son peed in a cup. I thought son was offering me a drink... Right before my lips touched the cup son says, ""I do wee wee's mummy!!"". Oh my fucking god. My heart skipped. I was milliseconds from drinking my son's piss.",-0.41000000000000014,1.8136790000000005,1.2327777777777804,99.5825,92.33333333333334,4.777777777777779,23.055555555555557,6.42735559955562,0.4225555555555558,165,7,39,2,6,53,31,45,0.077,0.867,0.055999999999999994,-0.2242,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,0,3,6,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,9,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,2,2,0,0,17,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866262937018484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6599505332195496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114034381195836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399157388271788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28765978362644146,0.0,0.2678689336873864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26741358010858995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WeAreNeverAlone,2020/03/08,"I am terrified of being a biological mother and i'm terrified of not being a biological mother.. So my wife and i are going to be mothers. My wife really wants to be pregnant and my body is not qualified. I have a lot of health issues. 

Before there are any comments, yes i am very capable of taking care of a child. I don't work, i will be a full time mom (with disability income) and my wife only works 20 hours a week so she can help every day. (Yes, we have a good and stable income. My wife only works 20 hours because she can) We also live near family and friends who will have our best interest in mind and are willing to help if we need it. 

So none of my health issues are genetic, and i won't give them to my child if we use my egg. This was tested and we're been made sure. But somehow, i fear giving at least something to my child. 

I feel like every time that kid will get sick or something will be wrong, i'll panic. Maybe it did get something from me. There's also the thing that, some of my health issues aren't linked to genetics RIGHT NOW. Because there's just not enough information yet. 

So we explored the thought of just impregnating my wife and me not being biologically involved. And i felt really bad about that. She'll carry it. Have a bond with it. I'll have nothing to do with it. Will i love it as much? Will it always feel like it's not my child?

Also, and i kid you not, my wife's family was actually in a magazine once. They were all really ugly babies. Like, the worst. And the article was about how they all grew up to be beautiful people. But my wife is beautiful, she looks like her mom. But her brother and sister are not attractive people, they look like their dad. And yes i am shallow, but doesn't everyone want their child to be beautiful? My sister in law had 2 children with an attractive man and even to this day (they are 12 and 16 now) she talks about how much she loves them but she regrets that they took after her. As a mother, she can see that her children look like her, and feel bad about that. They are now saving up for plastic surgery for the oldest child. She has a very long and crooked nose and gets picked on because of it. 

I don't know i'm feeling a little lost. Does anyone have  take on this? 

I am however, extremely looking forward to being a mother.",1.9361339406861795,3.93986140724947,3.688154196549721,87.60536174646248,78.8507462686567,6.7369839116107775,21.533291335530144,7.7669595915474945,0.8855155650319824,1796,51,377,29,44,601,205,469,0.08199999999999999,0.8009999999999999,0.11699999999999999,0.9171,3,0,3,0,0,0,59.0,6,1,10,5,24,25,0,2,19,3,54,9,2,5,3,74,86,39,0,6,17,18,5,6,1,9,4,0,0,11,20,29,1,0,10,0,0,5,13,8,0,0,12,11,63,17,43,55,12,31,0,2,5,2,72,13,0,6,21,265,83,8,0.0,0.0,0.08032732594221803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974812373099822,0.06849246949728212,0.0,0.0,0.05597685547188919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755638997051645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374587627450016,0.15053493021928435,0.0,0.07004379295934478,0.0,0.08638425599683706,0.0,0.0,0.0914331352569226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392537778178155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617241331194954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203419601027636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505314509192158,0.0,0.05436811874507829,0.0,0.13870746104791198,0.07865527505076737,0.0,0.0,0.15519804865414552,0.09262698321096767,0.16648325179067064,0.11761135353306305,0.07903507260008544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359617481651363,0.0,0.12901818478174787,0.1579276254425209,0.04678137169150714,0.06904171033054851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26249020314696664,0.0,0.0,0.1103476890870234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212690346098912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577456516648174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045238036129046415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412889858064643,0.08250100845630431,0.07268543593442378,0.07284596707214183,0.27649464772775223,0.0,0.08985627780353128,0.06998106032072586,0.14858455869094173,0.07788821060396416,0.0,0.0,0.08269623433464048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311443632850793,0.19281209025297788,0.0,0.0,0.12102163102087822,0.061035347148543376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898322658701704,0.0,0.0,0.08766252663897621,0.0,0.12520815945504848,0.0,0.09657862821574624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141333721786788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819881777231068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029635022954088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559420167965772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901097576920292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758068157125501,0.0,0.12378090175073644,0.06616148130711558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054686264998083566,0.0,0.0,0.0653487200972813,0.09599679013089936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145472054249168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710935184872003,0.0,0.1358365856392959,0.09710274932369883,0.0,0.0660279305786189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797783640164884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999826160680974,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mr_Dove,2020/03/08,"Do you ever keep your children's mistakes from your spouse? We have four children.  One of the children has always been an absolute angel.  He's is always kind, funny, sweet and just amazing.  I recently found out that child has been looking at pornography online.  I spoke to him about it and put some steps in place to help him avoid looking at it again in the future.

Now, my wife is very sensitive about pornography due to some past experiences.  Combine that with that fact that this is the ""angel"" son, I'm having some difficulty convincing myself to share this with her.   I know I should tell her but I'm scared that this will break her heart and change her relationship with this child.  

I'm curious to hear stories about times that you had to make the tough decision about sharing this kind of behavior with a spouse.",5.602792207792209,7.094276032467537,5.271298701298704,82.20551948051948,67.8961038961039,8.716883116883116,28.285714285714285,9.095868883498916,2.23592987012987,655,22,122,12,11,201,95,154,0.065,0.7829999999999999,0.152,0.9253,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,4,0,0,8,11,0,2,6,0,13,1,1,1,2,24,24,4,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,5,13,9,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,5,5,17,7,22,17,3,17,2,0,2,0,28,6,0,3,8,84,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198363671343418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20331243605765198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384762726231368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799953016093565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21072734740580068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661305633367356,0.22774708301045854,0.12882147577064626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082805841437046,0.0,0.4002743909991517,0.10562306511944683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227838195585977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828888498537153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023349412565066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346791349326247,0.0,0.0,0.2007985328633084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320488805625446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976527862938244,0.2063410478424749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241656915077965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798327434787755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120680303885197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857757938093214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mjane_724,2020/03/08,"My 14 year old daughter doesn't understand that there could be creeps on the internet Hi all, my 14y/o daughter plays a lot of video games. I don't mind her playing games and make friends through it but recently she told me about this 25 year old guy who always want to play with her and invited her into a discord server. My daughter talks and plays with him for hours and I'm worried that this guy has bad intentions. 

I read some of her messages with him and he asked her for multiple selfies(she sent some)  and his comments are quite inappropriate in my opinion cause he would always comment that she was cute and gorgeous. I have talked to her about it and she doesn't think it's creepy she thinks he is just being friendly. I also told her not to share too much information on the internet and tried to explain that there are people out there with ill intentions. 

Now I don't know what to do I don't want to take her phone and laptop away cause she gets lonely. She doesn't have many friends to hang out with and I try my hardest to spend as much time with her as I could but as a single mom I can't always be with her as I have a job. I'm worried that she'll get in trouble when I'm not around.",3.2146222410865875,4.55088766935484,3.7271392190152817,91.58899830220714,73.51612903225806,6.8339558573854005,25.14940577249576,7.273561745256523,0.8876419354838712,954,30,210,10,19,299,131,248,0.10800000000000001,0.777,0.115,0.2434,1,2,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,11,13,0,0,6,0,23,1,0,5,1,49,41,19,0,5,5,4,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,12,22,0,0,6,8,1,2,9,3,0,0,4,0,36,10,35,30,7,20,0,1,0,0,49,9,0,4,9,141,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100226616600885,0.3128546142648873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157056191172096,0.11716693666920025,0.0,0.11775196710968094,0.0,0.1046455873459749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574975377189904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20013213453710751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904896974364785,0.0,0.13095984526737364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24819345473553514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342512545913563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243710099909225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887826962162344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655136150092764,0.0,0.0,0.08365896596057938,0.12706527941878332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654790182654416,0.14678536332644013,0.0,0.0,0.18426442093388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26302618908431513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688826764410038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330422915421694,0.1253642423903979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374857718317232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423280776904304,0.20147153758124767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061322485538065,0.0,0.0,0.07308112110111029,0.0,0.0,0.2395169952406998,0.0,0.1701821292150904,0.0,0.0,0.13047328961073118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784614720762032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25455805991894764,0.0,0.08903106784693521,0.0,0.0,0.16141724194444818
parenting,The_Dowager,2020/03/08,"Any sane parent would....right? So my ex husbands mother contacted me on Friday to inform me that she left her husband, that he’s abusive and that she couldn’t stay any longer.
Now her son was abusive and as such I left him, I struggled to find sympathy for her because she to this day stands by her son, my abuser, and even defends his actions. But I was as understanding as I could be as she cried down the phone to me asking for me to understand her while she explained that the police were involved and her husband is on bail and ‘cannot’ go near her.

She then asked if she could have a day with my children on Sunday(today) and I had said that I’d need to think before making that decision.
My children have been through a lot, they’ve witnessed abuse from their father towards me, they’ve witnessed their father and grandfather assault my boyfriend(when we first started dating) and they’ve been subject to some nasty words from their father when I tried to make joint custody work in the early days. And because of all this I said that her having the children wouldn’t be ok right now, that considering the nature of their separation it wouldn’t be fair to put the children through more hostile behaviour. 
She tried to guilt me by saying everyone said my answer would be no and that she’s done nothing wrong etc.
I snapped and reeled off all the things my kids have seen and how it’s effected them(my autistic son has violent tendencies which are most likely linked to witnessing abuse) and I said how dare she try to make me feel as though I’m doing something wrong by trying to protect my children.

Any sane parent would say no to this visitation....right? 
I don’t for a minute think either would physically harm the children BUT the emotional and mental ramifications could be huge.
I have said that once she’s on her feet and she is in a position where things have calmed down we can discuss this again",6.616132637853951,7.048626117486342,6.0189468455042245,81.54089418777947,65.14754098360656,8.840337804272231,31.93691008445107,8.575989854853784,2.348539890710382,1533,56,291,20,22,469,185,366,0.083,0.865,0.052000000000000005,-0.8574,2,0,1,0,3,0,32.0,2,0,4,3,11,11,3,2,13,1,35,1,1,6,2,55,56,30,0,11,4,13,1,1,0,5,0,7,0,7,19,18,0,1,12,0,0,3,7,8,0,1,13,9,55,3,43,29,8,34,0,0,1,0,65,16,0,4,14,207,74,1,0.0,0.4880291643258268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806195939222698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402678689164978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004351416168182,0.0,0.07009859693364724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19731916600893692,0.0,0.09048963811028538,0.1593832278017867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430248125414781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266546612364948,0.0,0.0,0.09187453841101766,0.05441065768902595,0.0,0.0,0.07871681685897783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04165337808822988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529305904821422,0.07007167069834029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046817974579267715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901039493167042,0.0,0.0,0.04024629603366665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003581521147974,0.0,0.0,0.16496618527246884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301881664856726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108310269482872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904502499251906,0.0,0.0,0.08773111594081487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829446146626151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281380823253966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21105405543245934,0.3918072249953878,0.13102242764322422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341950140317645,0.0,0.0,0.058308392856867335,0.08780522276898271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861205835874138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945810573485944,0.10557047773052954,0.08093710561316063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808581054171408,0.0,0.0,0.2237201662392737,0.0,0.0,0.17151921988592314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997300899975048,0.0,0.0,0.2340791643757413,0.18013735688946653,0.0,0.0
parenting,cbairdy1,2020/03/08,"birth order theory effects on personality and behaviour  Hello.. I am a student looking to complete research on the effects that birth order has on behaviour and personality. If you could find a spare minute or 2 to complete my questionnaire I would be forever grateful 

[https://forms.gle/W6YrrWoSbBPBWsdP6](https://forms.gle/W6YrrWoSbBPBWsdP6)",12.53212765957447,17.58175114893617,11.173872340425536,31.69400000000001,58.787234042553216,10.568510638297873,41.314893617021276,10.355215969177356,6.181573617021277,292,15,28,8,5,92,35,47,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,9,6,4,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,5,3,0,7,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,2,2,22,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6588641076116588,0.0,0.0,0.2508626244109933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871725252261317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638483314626578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5486935283971393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231982123795737,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ciara-manley87,2020/03/08,"Pet peeve I’m going to sound like an asshole but...

When parents KNOW their child is sick and bring them over to your house without giving you a heads up or asking if it’s okay to still bring them over. I feel like it’s common courtesy. 

It’s even more irritating that this happens almost every time the kid comes over! 

So now my little one is miserable and sick. 😡

P.s. Whenever Ava is sick I don’t ever bring her around other kids. But that’s just me. 

End rant.",1.317157894736841,3.5519656105263167,2.5234210526315834,93.89144736842108,82.36842105263158,5.063157894736842,17.921052631578945,6.2581,-0.26817894736842085,363,8,78,3,10,116,73,95,0.2,0.71,0.09,-0.9092,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,3,0,8,4,0,1,3,1,4,4,1,0,1,14,15,8,0,1,6,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,3,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,0,2,10,3,9,15,1,18,0,1,0,0,12,6,0,3,9,48,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241473935655919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21467199948793472,0.22543993807752855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20772682983772506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21358470891372885,0.0,0.0,0.1592753513556103,0.21813131147993706,0.20317678911826206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219311934817684,0.1722754997760824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313302226720123,0.13704942501319706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324553876671493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474864428933647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782513171794507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252811142640325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356245343756261,0.2416926944020771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163407481135068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26776525975426396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925803445956638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061478335126232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23245714959611266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cory0527,2020/03/08,"Advice needed for apartment living Hello all!

Father of three girls here, ages 7, 4, and 2. We live in a downtown three bedroom upstairs apartment with a small living space and balcony.

I'm constantly stressed out by not having a yard or place for the children to stretch their legs and play, especially during the cold and wet seasons. A proper home can't come soon enough!

I'm the worker in my family, and my wife who is home with the children struggles with terrible social anxiety, so sometimes going outside doesn't even cross her mind.

What are some things we might be able to do when we're stuck inside?",5.744282608695652,7.091970330434787,5.510163043478261,81.16089673913045,67.43478260869566,7.489130434782607,30.02717391304348,7.645422480735847,1.982934782608696,488,18,85,5,8,151,89,115,0.107,0.872,0.021,-0.8353,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,1,1,5,4,0,2,8,0,8,1,1,0,1,19,14,8,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,3,12,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,3,0,2,1,2,6,1,12,11,3,17,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,3,5,54,9,1,0.1929591587468416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18855745670203367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761322828889084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16621722948883466,0.0,0.20852030060832855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993783922199439,0.0,0.12744770451112078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819047219411712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966313666138837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871075383024449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511159417047387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469917434739304,0.1948337438613867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430767712341604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160125162702835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196697562422552,0.0,0.0,0.19084154195353972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103406440356227,0.20172280864724246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819349102314734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toastyarmadillo,2020/03/08,"Access issues with absent parent Me (f40) 
Ex (m36)
We were together for less than a year, a rebound thing after I got divorced from my ex husband ( not my ex in this thread)

I will start by saying as a rule my ex and I get on pretty well, he typically has a coffee with me when he collects our children ( F11 & M10) we split up before our second was born, so hes never really lived with children. He currently lives alone.
Hes also never had a real family, he was moved around alot as a child in foster care. He has no contact with any of his family.

Up until the children were 6 ish, we always did contact at my house, meaning they had all their toys, any necessary equipment etc and I would feed them and their dad. Obviously I was also there in case of issues etc. He was quite stressed at the thought of managing 2 children. 

Eventually after realising this arrangement was giving me no time out I requested he have them at his flat for the visit, or take them out to the park, he wasn't keen and it took alot on my part to get him to agree to this. 

So hes been having the children for a the day every two weeks, unless hes working etc. 

Recently my eldest has got to the stage where she is incredibly clingy and tearful and just doesn't want to go, and I just dont know what to do.

Their dad can be incredibly moody, and quick tempered, which is part if why it didn't work out for us. 
He also has a few odd personality traits, initially the kids found it a source of amusement that he has been known to Hoover his flat multiple times a day during the visit! He wont talk to them if they dont eat their dinner, If they say or do something that he doesn't like he can be in a mood with them for a few visits in a row. It can be anything from them spilling something to them talking about something they have done with me that will set him off.

I know I can sit him down when he comes to collect them and say that the kids aren't happy and stuff, he wont be shitty with me, but he will definitely take it out on them, hes very passive aggressive. 

He has done exactly this in the past. The kids have said not to talk to him about it because of this. 

He does definitely love them, so it's not that, and when hes not ""grumpy daddy"" they do enjoy their time with him. 

He had a girlfriend last year, and he was fantastic with the kids every time she was also with them, unfortunately she's not been around since before Christmas, which has really highlighted to the kids the difference between ""nice daddy"" and "" grumpy daddy"". 

I feel it's really important they have a positive relationship with their dad, and I encourage them to go etc.

I just dont really know what to do now? I'm stuck, if i talk to him, he will probably take it out on the kids (my opinion and the kids opinion) and if I dont I have to literally cajole them into going because nothing is going to change.",5.19978016462558,4.9684427081911275,6.193880746837988,81.35346316000805,68.16382252559728,9.351455531017868,28.32744428829552,9.007467420416297,1.9891131901224648,2241,65,474,36,34,748,245,586,0.042,0.866,0.092,0.9886,2,1,3,0,1,0,66.0,6,0,25,3,22,15,2,1,34,0,68,4,0,0,5,76,96,38,0,7,17,9,1,1,1,7,0,4,0,14,25,39,3,0,8,2,0,10,20,4,1,2,27,5,76,10,78,58,12,64,0,0,0,1,113,26,0,11,26,338,101,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631644278013143,0.0,0.2357065755400128,0.061312630210061614,0.07983871811309685,0.0,0.10021797330599083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060637275165123,0.13119227192916394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983656722143893,0.0,0.12540266711793294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512775770741162,0.0,0.07794998624326947,0.06347393887432824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504271000425384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698615578008802,0.0,0.0,0.0644830892341008,0.15081266182740458,0.34543763396911403,0.0,0.0,0.07539914341389478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287173398884501,0.0,0.0,0.12416721617760658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892914996782774,0.0,0.037257840636097286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079286319064594,0.0,0.0,0.0769957564868802,0.07068629711982159,0.16750974022653045,0.0,0.11786680369701838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784400856467412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502371654228294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381801770585782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148764678661612,0.06006390058916895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03599924310194812,0.0,0.13013212365722313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650446515367947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026562351824787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831652515648281,0.0,0.0,0.1136623258947441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707036758941718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181954995215614,0.159589450536381,0.07034159646203751,0.0,0.06433974712902896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496512245351965,0.0794459388923649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837409967669247,0.0,0.08387076619599264,0.18882047783131356,0.0,0.07275600620129323,0.07911115597563255,0.0,0.0,0.07009223174182189,0.1757941235358741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609537961420665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018117989100007,0.0,0.0,0.0521553090893723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440703010296824,0.0,0.08435280686273318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662080381642254,0.236903967242358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048953684514616375,0.0,0.0,0.058498429673125185,0.1718675275646845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186782434248227,0.0,0.0,0.0719804860638237,0.0,0.0886351496440681,0.0,0.0,0.06079864257653904,0.0434618944634527,0.0,0.05910644076372695,0.0,0.06625253669430448,0.0,0.06649012714179738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728852805392662,0.0,0.0,0.052344399198960716,0.0,0.0,0.09490269806110473
parenting,Southbknybk,2020/03/08,"Major FIT My 21m and I went for a walk to a store and a park today. She was so cute and happy. At the park we played and she eventually got on a swing and watched the bigger kids run around and play. After a while I decided it was time to head home since it was cold out but she started having a major fit. She started screaming, falling back to the ground and crying. At one point, she was screaming, crying, being angry turning red that she was seriously shaking from the rage she was feeling. I picked her up but she wouldn't stop screaming and crying and that basically went on for 30 mins while I carried her back to our apt where my partner intervened and card her down eventually. 
 
What should I have done in this situation? I tried picking her up, I tried leaving her on the ground to cry, I tried hugging her, I tried putting her down, I tried putting on her favorite YouTuber show. This is the 2nd time I've seen her having a tantrum like this and I couldn't help her at all and calm her down. Any advices appreciated.",3.54054268292683,5.065162478048781,4.257606707317073,87.3581173780488,73.0,6.685975609756098,26.95884146341464,7.1686216300943375,1.1932987804878037,808,29,167,8,16,258,110,205,0.20199999999999999,0.648,0.15,-0.9487,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,0,5,14,2,1,13,0,15,2,1,2,1,26,23,17,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,2,0,3,1,2,8,15,0,1,2,3,1,8,2,7,0,1,11,8,34,7,24,8,3,42,0,0,3,1,24,22,0,0,13,116,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692529181129678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883284620963977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562807784043212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975208901778466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5707045614971517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292077303545355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567540044680628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388349673554302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382684543167108,0.0,0.0,0.13330281430081878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706135411485337,0.0,0.1302885022972964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375328993130921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345683663190485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801563777979586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278637711595415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611471274515395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744490024214508,0.14599983186216914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387113967913946,0.0,0.0,0.1085923905993577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514777628534556,0.0,0.12311887083150268,0.0,0.0,0.4409279685151812,0.14128111451270034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24081541274167265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blu_indig0,2020/03/08,"Help! My seven year old is very angry and mean when I set boundaries! Not to sound like a kid, but he is very mean to me if I give him a consequence like no more tv for the day because you’ve watched enough.  He gets very mad and will yell, “You’re a fat meanie you big fat guy!” 
Also I’m a woman and not fat.  Sure it sounds ridiculous, but he will literally repeat it over and over and try to drive me nuts.  
Not sure how to handle this behavior because it’s new to me and I usually just tell him, “ok you need to go calm down in you’re room and you need some space then we can talk. “ 
Well today he actually pretended like he was going to punch me because I told him we’re not turning on the tv today.  How do I stop this behavior before it progresses to completely out of control anger?",1.3827911646586344,3.096907198795184,3.156120481927712,92.14570682730923,79.42168674698793,6.595341365461848,21.30763052208836,7.554174236665415,0.5948647389558235,609,17,140,9,15,203,101,166,0.201,0.743,0.055999999999999994,-0.9783,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,3,0,2,6,11,3,0,6,1,7,3,3,3,2,28,18,15,0,3,8,0,0,3,0,2,3,3,1,3,6,9,3,2,2,3,0,3,5,3,1,1,2,4,17,8,16,14,3,24,0,0,1,0,20,9,0,2,14,78,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.14560168013820002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931846608374742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27286030628208524,0.0,0.12696170099660636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643766172235055,0.0,0.16734508694278144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622430213640693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416772164593154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795298487472815,0.14313016980801824,0.16959225861328325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477355183453761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000836416486518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21868076224481264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250540144842794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22126590144526412,0.0,0.14410225100264593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656460571930084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474130979248135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812461998589845,0.0,0.0,0.1199246050550422,0.13041096117000894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28285608453643923,0.14257091300863178,0.0,0.10129979092116427,0.1622912174231113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432723843332264,0.3693270290276737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415240596339914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608254953360676
parenting,_0x0_,2020/03/08,"Is netnanny still relevant and recommended to limit screen time? When we saw our 9yo son's grades went down in 2nd report card, we decided to enforce time limit on computer/tablet/tv, and my plan is to limit all screen time to 1,5 hour combined. I couldn't find an app that can control everything together other than netnanny, but even with that I cannot control Roku or Amazon Fire Stick for TV screen time.

We are trying to limit minecraft/online gaming on laptop as well, seems like netnanny works for different platforms, I just wish there was one that could include Roku as well.

Any suggestions from fellow parents?",8.769210526315787,8.482368552631577,7.967368421052632,71.78157894736844,60.842105263157904,11.459649122807019,35.66666666666667,10.864195022040775,3.9210982456140338,501,19,84,11,6,156,83,114,0.026000000000000002,0.838,0.136,0.8959,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,8,7,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,2,1,22,12,7,0,3,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,6,3,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,3,5,8,3,16,7,1,13,0,0,4,0,9,5,0,2,8,50,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462357532695918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44407109729632793,0.15805963291586786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20683219186940285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075458540072382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779189526834817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809372122584558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495649779369872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967161209826406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341467921140443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198176630966363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802206865280961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809579385396588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.461741946680924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440582610480534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559901710259254,0.1835163382655764,0.0,0.0,0.2276509724492488,0.0,0.0,0.14412150597065562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xrblizzardx,2020/03/08,"Hey everyone, I’m new here and I’m looking for some advice as a 3rd shifter My daughter is 13 months. Her mom and I are coparenting and it’s working out great, we get along and all is well. We do every other week but I’m having trouble with my sleep schedule. Since I’m on 3rds my parents help me out a lot and take her in the evening so I can get some shuteye and go to work all night. I get out around 7am and pick her up on my way home. My issue is that around 9am she wants to nap on me and I usually end up falling asleep as well. We sleep till noon or 1 and I just want to break this cycle. I’ve tried forcing myself to stay up but that just means I’m even more tired the next morning so that doesn’t work. And she refuses to nap in her crib. I don’t have room for her swing as I’ve just moved into a new house and there just isn’t room for it.",-0.7524302985442901,1.0566515906735745,1.4450629163582531,101.0714335060449,87.49740932642487,4.505206020231927,17.4806316308907,5.622346879071545,-0.7593368369109309,659,16,171,4,21,220,110,193,0.053,0.883,0.064,0.0027,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,3,14,4,0,0,5,0,11,4,3,1,2,39,25,20,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,7,22,0,1,1,2,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,1,24,3,28,25,6,33,0,0,1,0,16,16,0,4,11,107,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969462187567636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545217014138517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266162881940265,0.0,0.0,0.1888417377069122,0.0,0.12044631385913432,0.1366002646702454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22406530492819685,0.0,0.08124499915069149,0.0,0.0,0.15760912595450904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582016924680682,0.0,0.1433961884462581,0.0,0.0,0.16495164445780333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492085737936591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004675476355332,0.0,0.0,0.12153579471364773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572062868107625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742794773256,0.11410584837105307,0.15193924869607792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27613494521631915,0.15203497211661576,0.13415420804294714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15873534893871338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825440381189915,0.0,0.28611781285814725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237171862730028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748486944682854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430650792991494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705751305691493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744546898681472,0.0,0.1686379107982834,0.11347155328069125,0.11467041195706727,0.0,0.25706862324212026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122202813579309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway36272818273,2020/03/08,"Co Sleeping Teen My wife passed away about 3 months ago from cancer, and ever since then, my son, who is 13 has been sleeping with me ever since. Is this okay? I heard from somewhere that it’ll cause development problems, help?",1.7600775193798448,4.5473273720930285,1.7491860465116282,95.28641472868219,89.23255813953489,3.7968992248062015,18.794573643410853,5.46131890053228,-0.3802217054263566,179,5,35,1,6,53,37,43,0.154,0.746,0.1,-0.5625,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,5,3,2,1,2,6,6,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,1,5,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308753920339124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244703660849466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675564225643413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711883246444569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457579462677988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20789066965255107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24921783047617194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308979346593331,0.0,0.5212811136654499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inneedoftherapy-67-4,2020/03/08,"SS had an accident and tried to cover it up So my SS (step son) 11 has had a very long weekend. Yesterday he went to school then his mom took him to run a 5k. Which was awesome and we went to cheer them on. Then he stayed the night at her house so I’m not sure how much sleep he had. Today he went with us to a birthday party and run around with the cousins for probably 3 hours. Just having a great time. We get home and he passes out on the couch. He finally wakes up for dinner after 2.5 hours of sleeping. He goes to the bathroom then his bedroom then sits down for dinner. Not out of the ordinary. But then I’m getting ready to start a load of laundry and come across his jeans which are soaking wet. I’m not upset that he had an accident; he was obviously so exhausted that his body couldn’t even wake him. What gets me is that he didn’t say anything. After dinner he went and sat in that same spot while we all watched a movie, this before I became aware. He tried to go straight to bed without a shower. I tried talking to him about it but I also don’t want to embarrass him. Any advice.",1.5460490746516946,3.362078847161573,2.8846912039925137,93.80334788937412,79.3056768558952,5.933957163651487,21.38511124974007,6.868970318607317,0.3263984612185489,852,24,192,9,21,276,137,229,0.047,0.885,0.068,0.4036,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,1,0,9,6,0,2,14,0,13,9,5,1,3,29,29,19,0,2,7,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,10,15,3,0,0,1,0,11,7,3,0,0,13,3,19,3,34,15,3,43,0,0,1,0,31,12,0,0,18,117,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312605016260036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074193808354442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134537393747948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053774870493996,0.11957742450535673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430039086571805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149204414215693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570879933996098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872017006279427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714609759884445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053726998905756,0.0,0.07633979891233639,0.0,0.0,0.14809341015315788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473858459249755,0.0,0.2645654618703411,0.1549926210819677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887309578123287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731941652805118,0.0,0.0,0.09874407955692817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605459255709972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482470073067036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682035979957943,0.0,0.13594372560663398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688433322316375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507568461891344,0.1431722134473824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659940092579205,0.0,0.0,0.10796507233763816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832578855477462,0.0,0.1273240700442639,0.0,0.14923963798746856,0.2735928773641924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615760251611048,0.0,0.0,0.11083191084075,0.07922816378802254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4980812165118329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948417736297196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unicorns_n_fairies,2020/03/08,"Considering corrective/eye muscle surgery for 4yo with intermittent exotropia in one eye So my son always had a lazy eye and I didn't think much of it, but it seems to have gotten worse. And when he had his appointment he was told to try patching until he could see a specialist. When we saw the specialist, she told me basically that for his case, he'd need eye muscle surgery to fix it. His vision isn't as bad as expected, she said that might be because of the patching, so I'm continuing that, but patching won't fix the alignment. The doctor said she's also worried about his depth perception.  She didn't mention his binocular vision, so I'll have to ask about that during his check up in a couple months, which is when I'll also decide whether he'll get the surgery or not. 

The surgery would be a day surgery and I've done some research. And I'm leaning towards him getting it. But I'm also worried about the risks. I wear glasses and I'm paranoid about losing my vision, like dust in my eye, eyelash in my eyes always make me worry I'm going to blind myself. And the thought of surgery being done on my son's eye which could leave him with vision loss scares me. (He has been sedated for dental surgery, so I'm not worried about that part)

So, has anyone had eye surgery done on their child? Should I be this worried? I just feel like this decision is a lot of pressure and I'm worried I'll make the wrong decision.",4.7282105263157925,5.519173049122809,5.206666666666667,84.45000000000002,69.3859649122807,7.964912280701755,30.438596491228072,8.032893268588372,1.9813859649122807,1129,44,227,14,19,361,137,285,0.16699999999999998,0.7659999999999999,0.067,-0.9822,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,1,2,17,9,0,3,14,0,28,10,8,2,0,37,54,26,0,6,8,2,1,2,0,5,2,2,0,1,13,10,0,0,8,0,1,1,6,7,0,1,17,13,28,2,30,25,4,17,0,2,10,0,29,9,0,5,9,143,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539847693213119,0.17617920874384618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402448267367709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989711063163795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839430171328341,0.06453537906916909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905194697134032,0.11713952871933225,0.0,0.06827528597310296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083590892850317,0.0,0.3250152783155088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352940218257637,0.07563121667546982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062199915431407,0.0,0.06016650523083085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209758647195726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344227842370048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184377968629122,0.0,0.09000411231230387,0.0,0.0,0.14133373543390412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230787591046143,0.0,0.0,0.0845018178922207,0.0,0.0778242314470575,0.07849884260971962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173803952496137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464335742503667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20140701654873716,0.0,0.10599107038991253,0.0,0.08436208122533045,0.09637709951630433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678351291109459,0.0,0.0840463622035044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232040432596268,0.0,0.07187656382639772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6450768500432819,0.10788724746783036,0.07520469111706413,0.11574865554262573,0.0,0.0
parenting,AWildBradHD,2020/03/08,"My sister (13) is out of control. Hello so my 13 year old sister in grade 8 (high school no middle school where I’m from) is drinking, smoking weed, swearing (which we all got yelled at for till we were 16), stole my moms van last weekend and hit her today cause my mom wouldn’t let her sleep over at her friends house and prolly smoke dope. Side note her friend is my friends sister which I know for a fact he gets his sister weed. So my mom has 5 kids 2 in high school so she is no novice but my sister is the only one acting like a crazy person. Anyone got any tips that could help my mom out cause honestly if I start getting involved I’m taking her fucken door off and putting soap in her mouth.",2.314770114942529,3.8507231379310376,2.9569827586206934,95.38420977011498,76.24137931034483,5.3850574712643695,19.66954022988505,5.46131890053228,-0.3551494252873564,545,11,122,2,12,170,98,145,0.052000000000000005,0.8340000000000001,0.113,0.8807,0,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,10,3,2,3,2,17,20,9,0,3,2,9,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,2,3,7,1,1,1,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,1,20,5,14,13,1,23,0,0,0,0,28,14,0,1,8,63,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500110085647528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739963092916796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25680924125995297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019287497400112,0.0997985885175689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244782304045447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897132122246059,0.0,0.13060978678303972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999403447940556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378172523531083,0.264128827227744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422781197014956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869415652483364,0.10188786508832856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781617885734153,0.0,0.06106639742798599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.585572011567232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116155721060754,0.0,0.08470006073130236,0.09506456999211843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091410882576246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565481608103535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795057976007672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508558568742156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847232770454289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398092144621778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848094383736266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049288509171403
parenting,xkokopellix,2020/03/08,"Hold them tight while you can Tomorrow, my sweet daughter turns 16 years old.  I find myself a little sad because the years just went by too fast.  I remember the day I found out I was pregnant.  I didn’t have to take a pregnancy test. I was taking a shower and I knew. I touched my belly and I knew.  I loved my pregnancy. I loved how easy she was as a baby.  

She was born at 6 lbs and 4 oz. She was such a cute baby and she didn’t cry.  I remember the first time she said mama.  Her first steps.  I used to call her my chunky monkey. My Chiquita banana.  When she was two years old she had a pair of fairy wings that she would wear everywhere (the store, to visit grandma and grandpa, to the park).  She was my own little Tinker Bell.  

At three, I remember she came running to me one Saturday morning at like 6 in the morning fully dressed with her Dora the Explorer book bag asking me to wake up because she wanted to go to school.  I couldn’t stop laughing because it was such a genuine request.  She just really wanted to go to school.  

Around four years of age, she was totally a Little Mermaid that she would wear a red wig and dress up in her mermaid pajamas everyday. 

She was a total Disney Princess. My daughter has been creative since I can remember.  She’s a great painter, she loves to cook, has great taste in music and is the chillest kid ever.  She loves to paint with water colors and oil paints. She’s a fan of Bob Ross and absolutely loves cats.  She’s obsessed with musicals and broadway plays.  She loves to travel with me and likes to try new foods.  I love that I can sit down with her and talk to her about anything. 

About a year ago she came out to me and I admire her for her being so open about her feelings and thoughts.  I love that she’s got her own identity and isn’t afraid to be opinionated or wanting to hide her identity.  

One of my greatest worries was that I didn’t know how to handle a strong willed child and I thought she would grow up to be difficult to handle.   I was absolutely wrong.  My daughter is not easily deterred, she knows what she wants and isn’t easily swayed by peer pressure.  I just misunderstood her during her pre-teen years.  So parents, of your child is strong willed, everything will be okay. You just have to learn to pick your battles and be clear with expectations.  Not be demanding but asking them how they can contribute goes along way.  

Shes empathetic, loving, and so thoughtful of others.  I just can’t believe how fast time flies. 

Tomorrow morning I plan on making her pancakes with bacon (her favorite), taking her to the mall (so she can get whatever) and taking her to the movies.  She had plans to hang out with her friends but something happened that they had to cancel their plans.  She didn’t want a party.  She just wanted to hang out so that’s exactly what we’re going to do.  

🥳",2.901651172924687,4.835517439501782,3.8325274166606143,88.0135002541942,75.67259786476869,6.936509550439394,24.63664754157891,7.817275551320576,1.262539283898613,2219,74,451,33,49,712,265,562,0.044000000000000004,0.818,0.138,0.9936,2,0,1,0,0,0,63.0,0,4,5,7,24,29,1,3,25,1,50,16,3,7,5,91,93,35,0,11,11,5,3,2,1,6,0,1,1,3,11,37,4,3,16,5,1,14,10,7,0,7,31,9,98,22,67,49,5,63,0,1,2,9,83,20,0,2,29,308,109,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06171113111896963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057288730271809835,0.06197375013825422,0.1301647017489628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731334449180196,0.0,0.0,0.0784343427022163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108658060845649,0.15924624512463725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647083337707035,0.0448971046514578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297242037728867,0.0,0.0,0.06256712981118691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03520036770945039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362853353340428,0.11843210264351064,0.08418096321851246,0.0763312753518706,0.053785800418422985,0.0,0.036371927279376826,0.0,0.11869456905351987,0.0,0.05567894918275182,0.15350563094863556,0.0,0.0,0.06156194459058253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651919284700417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802254627836668,0.2093230978727285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5654872716685592,0.0,0.0464697834664306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672363810402587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610233239684078,0.0,0.09434834939575214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773012658534825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04459833243997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154492497298936,0.0,0.06622156004655089,0.0,0.0,0.14091192411041625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575877721536244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053594447120547686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820279820968397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20937280886424586,0.055955381581341834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658039918387867,0.08118828230922273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047265266810779236,0.07572313449806849,0.0680055401519096,0.0,0.0,0.0601266004980399,0.0,0.0,0.2463709072254672,0.05525860979046913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453551117267803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069928362276306,0.0,0.14836142416277304,0.07611508948069551,0.0,0.2689857875284333
parenting,Direct_Test,2020/03/08,"Gender What is the notion about what gender a woman ""must"" be hoping for on her first and possibly only child? Same for men...

Do you think women generally want a girl or a boy when pregnant with their first child?",2.8796341463414663,5.262269097560979,3.9489634146341466,85.00685975609757,77.53658536585365,6.051219512195122,17.567073170731707,7.1686216300943375,0.25928780487804826,167,3,31,2,4,54,34,41,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,9,7,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,5,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,3,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6678619142974402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899235676196121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985771137373882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44257842255840996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25155137820938506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315556650239229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,D4Y_M4N,2020/03/08,"2 YO Daughter Cannot Relax if I (Father) am in the Room Wife and I are hoping we can find some advice here, as google searches aren't turning up much. Any ideas/options are appreciated!

So my wife has to put our daughter to sleep as she just cannot calm down if I am in the room. I work a lot and I think she doesn't feel that she gets enough time with me as she spends the vast majority of her time with mom who is a homemaker. I make sure to always spend lots of time with her when I am home. I'm like the play guy whereas my wife doesn't really run and jump around etc. like I do with my daughter. That's fine, I love playtime!

The problem is, she never wants playtime to end. When it comes time for naps, going to bed etc she just absolutely can not calm down while I'm in the room. I have to not be there for her to go to sleep. I can tell she's trying too, she will say ""sleepytime!"" and she's tired and wants to go to sleep but she will give it her best, lie down for a minute or so and then it's like she just has to get up and try to get me to engage with her. She will start asking where things are so that we can go get them together, start saying the names of games we play, say she wants something from the kitchen.. Anything she can do to get me to get up and play with her or just do something.

We've been trying some different things to change this but nothing so far seems to be working. I'd really love to be able to just lie down on the sofa with my wife and daughter while we watch a cartoon or something and just hang out but she cannot calm down enough if I'm around.

Have any of you had similar issues? If so, how did you fix it?

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Thanks!",2.1951397916021875,3.1676378774373286,3.269093160012382,95.3069472815434,75.51810584958217,6.432724646652223,21.09573919323223,6.605766666666668,0.020397008150211608,1294,28,316,10,27,416,159,359,0.03,0.847,0.12300000000000001,0.9878,1,0,3,0,0,0,39.0,5,2,1,3,20,19,0,0,13,0,35,7,3,2,2,61,65,34,0,9,18,10,1,3,0,3,1,3,7,1,11,25,1,0,4,6,2,9,9,1,0,0,3,5,47,18,52,56,11,43,0,0,1,2,51,21,0,13,16,212,58,2,0.09572668803490963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354301164866063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965227295013749,0.10371982649163676,0.11631840377055515,0.1301948609434864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877490781030574,0.17043409517498706,0.08949153115962888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045925322531483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126614303506852,0.08246006552184504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001401460952287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478543241260088,0.19782251619349814,0.21352112273223933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048402289735600686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874924586287313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000794611493705,0.09182976187341237,0.2176147313305224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478447128301408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602167317607704,0.09507820064307636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999137917341008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030167329622267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627668138970426,0.17279414674187285,0.0,0.06389830759321688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211394006990917,0.0,0.0,0.07037013015955232,0.0,0.07383032317564753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918523389325491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915975122778004,0.0,0.0962317613637324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264993515420138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283771135398427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871459815440155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873874621125179,0.0,0.0,0.2210852436963292,0.0,0.0,0.1355116849873368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902212705940836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366934466707987,0.08813227305639819,0.0,0.0,0.1271931159212693,0.061337796418518775,0.0,0.0,0.2232760064271556,0.11002374593144566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949764125326117,0.10412314797153002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693862423878647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938033797753235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631840377055515,0.0
parenting,wrentintin,2020/03/08,"Poop Anxiety My son is 5 and for over a year pooping has been his biggest struggle. He's been diagnosed with autism and although he's very high functioning he is still in diapers. He refuses to use the toilet although he has a few times in the past. When he feels the need to poop, he runs around, bounces, kicks, anything to fight it. We've used just about every laxative there is.. sometimes it helps, most times it just increases the cramps and he fights them harder. At a recent dentist appointment he had to be sedated to receive a filling. As soon as the sedative (Versed I believe) took effect he pooped in his diaper with no issue. Currently he only poops once every 1-2 weeks. I'd love to treat his anxiety for pooping rather than just keep giving him laxatives. Anyone have any experience/luck with a similar situation?",3.341730769230768,6.003204519230772,4.3240384615384615,81.42721153846155,77.52564102564101,8.002564102564103,28.33974358974359,8.841846274778883,2.698405128205129,659,29,117,16,16,213,107,156,0.083,0.841,0.075,0.1779,1,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,1,1,10,5,2,1,10,0,10,10,6,3,0,19,18,8,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,7,0,2,2,0,0,5,1,3,0,0,4,1,7,2,21,13,3,23,0,0,0,1,24,8,0,1,10,67,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258441465348237,0.0,0.275800037907272,0.0,0.0,0.12604345697207853,0.0,0.1483403552694755,0.16047149359520813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030936661813188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829622447778195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037572006731936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114593789846068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292383931969793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082589099605867,0.19045681380935467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814680682137092,0.0,0.16022524382340822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269359005725134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366206873005995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919732615291463,0.0,0.13709745578996346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208057883515154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798708432227928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262216168553396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828383375661752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395755202383967,0.0,0.0,0.18844909401611487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102245692010884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20027783430294915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113771674361562,0.0,0.14873511738688905,0.0,0.0,0.14459538951460865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608288720164398
parenting,bigcrybabyqqqq,2020/03/08,"To young parents: do you ever feel negatively about your kid? Like I’ll start by saying of course I love my son so much, but sometimes I just can’t help but to feel like my youth is being taken from me. Like I’m 27 most of my peers are still out living their best lives and whatnot on a Saturday night, and I’m at home for like the 8th straight weekend because I’m a single parent. Again, I love my son so much, but sometimes I can’t help but to feel jealous of my peers who have so much more freedom than me. I feel like being a parent has made me age a lot mentally, like I feel as though I’m just a boring person now who has nothing interesting to talk about because so much of my time goes to my son. I feel very guilty for having these feelings but it would be dishonest to act like they aren’t there...",8.192005012531325,4.719399929824566,8.152347535505433,80.12421052631579,64.32163742690061,10.941019214703426,34.37009189640769,7.957251820313856,2.3301004177109435,632,17,143,5,7,206,97,171,0.094,0.652,0.254,0.9867,4,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,2,2,1,14,13,1,0,6,0,14,2,0,1,1,22,30,13,0,1,7,6,7,7,0,1,0,1,1,2,4,3,0,0,7,1,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,8,21,11,21,24,9,17,0,0,0,2,20,4,0,2,19,95,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307555158670615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231555532375506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615321374434566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153631851003047,0.16767512950406002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731953168057825,0.0,0.11771541100621173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40133190814978015,0.0,0.2072510776765679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997699881823947,0.21183273869731828,0.11104298528617623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826500956593845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34507412838359564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101285739118992,0.0,0.11260411812966307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39092245848371454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246879521503123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933244370620995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321317807101794,0.0,0.08306361036418025,0.0,0.09371888127442687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432452406248686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152994942110513,0.0,0.06842993356354672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682915978879264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336475913428261,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeanBlub,2020/03/08,"Parenting apps to keep track of interactions with our child (4 yo)? My husband and I are wondering whether there are any good apps out there to keep track of our interactions/activities with our 4 year old child. 

We think our child is angry often and start to get worried, especially when we play together and just try to have a good time together. We have been thinking about consulting with a therapist, but wondered if there is any light-weight way of observing the behavior and keep track of it with an app?

Any recommendation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.",8.341089743589741,8.838492980769235,7.962307692307696,68.84935897435899,61.5,12.31794871794872,37.52564102564102,11.855464076750405,4.668614102564104,466,21,82,14,6,148,68,104,0.034,0.8270000000000001,0.139,0.91,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,7,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,25,19,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,12,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,5,15,16,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,4,5,51,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616798696126768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262415462436667,0.0,0.0,0.29739668391732704,0.0,0.19545746349217094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4727374638816973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860309040398128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968541382499683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125483315808419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322031349375188,0.0,0.20584168100872796,0.0,0.2271942845282089,0.0,0.0,0.1033763753640858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036495475800288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072067114414533,0.0,0.2158855073409788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845162862026568,0.0,0.18004163837146436,0.0,0.12593825806361825,0.0,0.0,0.11416580056563486
parenting,emteereddit,2020/03/08,"I'm hoping you all can help me! Hello parents!

We've got our 2nd child on the way, and we got this Graco swing from a friend.  It is model # 1G00SWP2.  The problem is, it is missing the power adapter!

I have searched all over trying to find information, and am running out of luck!  I can find tons of information on the 1G00SWP, but not hardly anything on the 1G00SWP**2**.

I found some possible replacement power supplies on Amazon, but I'm not totally sure it's the right one.  It appears that there is a 6v version, and a 5v version, and I'm not sure which on mine needs!

Here is a[ link](https://imgur.com/a/hERsiew) to some pictures of the swing and the model information. 

I'm hoping one of you either has this swing, or is a better detective than I and can tell me which power supply I need!

Thank you!",2.3462500000000013,4.740787076433126,3.569359076433124,86.94919785031851,79.50955414012739,5.963216560509554,25.09912420382165,7.1686216300943375,1.2141213375796176,629,24,121,8,16,204,87,157,0.057,0.8059999999999999,0.138,0.9166,4,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,3,0,4,2,10,0,0,13,0,12,0,0,0,5,35,26,9,0,5,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,6,0,0,2,3,2,0,2,3,1,13,8,15,23,9,11,0,1,0,0,14,8,0,7,0,85,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334983011365874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481106404193896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406402886373669,0.0,0.0,0.2043227010274332,0.14397322680322958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980815723291921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693262501456085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490619847793873,0.0,0.0,0.3701743695146708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27635171151046345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25255060258268897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691916071380265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008115709894928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831138540281266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914152705311674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35126455626092484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287775063240734,0.17156566064506562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651913563663575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479156263977309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hiranya_Usha,2020/03/08,"EVERYTHING is a HUGE deal for my son (4y), and he is EXTREMELY stubborn, I’m at my wit’s end! 😭 He is sick at the moment, with earache. I tried to give him pain killers with lovely sweet flavours, but no amount of explaining, reassuring, begging, pleading, or threatening will get him to even TRY to take it. Then I tried to apply some sandalwood powder with ghee on his head, by way of a spiritual or placebo medicine and he resisted with all his might.

When he is not sick, he also resists things and fights with all his might against normal things like shower/bath, cleaning of ears, applying and wiping off sunscreen, and so on.

He absolutely lacks any kind of healthy respect for our parental authority and if we have to force him to do something, for example take shower, or have immunisations, he seems to be totally traumatised by it and he doesn’t trust us anymore. He makes every normal childhood thing into a HUUUGE drama and acts really obnoxious at those moments. We really don’t have any “power” over him to do those necessary things that nobody likes but still puts up with. I don’t know why this happens as we do have clear boundaries and rules. Forcing him only sours our relationship more.

He cries over every little thing and though I know he’s just a kid and try to understand and let it go, I really don’t feel any good feelings around him anymore and I rather just keep my distance because he near constantly annoys me.

His Kindergarten teacher suspects he has “sensory issues” and we are going to try to get some therapy for that. I thought I was a sensitive, fussy kid but compared to him I was a breeze to my parents. He’s sitting beside me now, resting his head against my shoulder and it just feels wrong to me, I just feel like pushing him away. I’ve done my best and failed to get him to do the sensible thing, and now I feel resentful.

Meanwhile my husband doesn’t think there’s a problem and tells me I’m making problems out of thin air, and that he will be OK. But he can easily say that because he is not staying at home with him all day.

I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel extremely sad and worried about my sweet little boy but at the same time he makes my blood boil and I just feel like giving up.

I hope you good people here have some experience and advice for me. TIA.

PS. he doesn’t have autism. Some people suggested this to me but the total picture of his personality and behaviours doesn’t match an autism diagnosis.",5.503966122283707,6.2794964623430936,5.9511634498582815,79.85925023619923,67.64016736401672,9.263976245107305,31.528141449588343,9.370254747372089,2.724852530705899,1951,77,375,37,31,629,242,478,0.132,0.72,0.14800000000000002,0.8259,5,0,1,0,1,0,49.0,7,1,0,3,19,27,4,0,12,1,37,10,5,3,6,95,70,39,0,8,18,4,8,4,0,4,3,2,3,4,19,37,1,2,16,1,0,5,11,10,0,0,4,14,54,17,59,59,15,42,0,2,0,1,62,22,0,12,16,248,73,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054837281900107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591820256921453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816303025043935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349424467592366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337901996776545,0.0,0.0,0.0774444781646046,0.0,0.0,0.1004955423523243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650383646298776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907614266494653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054405771491336,0.053159693117886604,0.08498037150539081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435317996169947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300736312874719,0.0,0.0,0.054443379739205634,0.0,0.1388994717639769,0.0,0.0740816016054985,0.08063108660157367,0.0,0.0,0.2917489962255889,0.11777416121506255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291967827739408,0.1581462423519399,0.093692260924596,0.1382745675271526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289142824646366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691912562247702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268270812939632,0.08187029920655713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860341484042182,0.0,0.07326641699687553,0.0,0.08583680782982904,0.13590197544875696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428893169268215,0.0,0.16108199908778745,0.16523042679899969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439512106463615,0.0,0.16506539436167494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748876517477729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615252518118085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269074164236467,0.08770994973267572,0.0,0.1830546358076508,0.0,0.0,0.11429136534179613,0.07197356246488601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774626961886865,0.0,0.08286361166634565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158417810089318,0.0,0.0,0.0884975770088555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555061164029415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750399937672485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345764128597561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785802799184741,0.06582766725605775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395224984838575,0.0,0.07204631804113981,0.0,0.09426440355509087,0.0,0.3285717983845835,0.0528169834040786,0.08098578041592461,0.06543918137777054,0.048064838543953686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798183867647767,0.0,0.0,0.08581118495379828,0.09915157836567852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542806627257647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437908186896212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371034725328279,0.0,0.0,0.09012284488823648,0.0,0.0
parenting,haddisonjones,2020/03/08,"Fighting back against daylight savings time It's that magical day of the year here in the US of A  where we spring forward and lose an hour of sleep and destroy sleep cycles across the country (except for you lucky ducks in AZ).
Solution? Set up an active day for my 5 year old and put them to bed an hour early.",4.761666666666667,5.186725761904763,4.974722222222223,87.44875,69.15873015873018,7.56984126984127,30.035714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.5783999999999998,245,9,51,2,4,77,49,63,0.12300000000000001,0.7659999999999999,0.111,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,2,1,1,1,3,5,2,0,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,12,0,0,19,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,12,32,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677529514773752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133011269125064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4784156257984029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27174324279508016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548829470175508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441818358275213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4861513295123936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163708627224514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921790873419149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128395880993995
parenting,Justthegoodbits,2020/03/08,"4.5 Year Old Is Stressed Out My 4.5 year old is stressed out. She’s been obsessing over certain things she can’t “get out of her head” like scary green monsters and dying (a couple of kids in her class had grandparents who passed away and began talking about it at school she previously didn’t know about people dying until now). I think the realization about dying is what is causing her the stress and I’m hoping with further conversations and maybe watching the Sesame Street episode where they talk about death in time she might be better. 

I’ve told her to try and think about different things while she’s trying to fall asleep like her favorite breakfasts, what she wants to do for her birthday, what she wants to do the next day etc. but tonight is the third night this week she’s been hysterically crying before bed about not being able to shut her brain off from thinking about something she doesn’t want to think about. 

I worry, and I don’t want her to build a foundation of worry for her future. Has anyone else experienced almost 5 year olds who do this? Anything help? I feel like a lot of what I say hasn’t worked and I wound up cuddling her to sleep which is a habit I don’t want to start consistently. Thank you!",7.959943977591037,7.017372571428576,6.820630252100841,81.48735994397761,62.78151260504201,9.614005602240896,31.177871148459378,8.344100000000001,2.018864425770308,984,27,197,10,12,296,139,238,0.096,0.7979999999999999,0.106,-0.4122,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,1,2,10,11,0,4,9,0,22,7,4,1,1,30,40,10,4,6,2,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,1,1,12,11,1,0,6,0,0,2,7,4,0,1,6,5,29,7,36,31,2,34,0,0,2,1,30,14,0,4,21,123,41,3,0.1032113196386697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335122777389484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216775447407013,0.10575219391928088,0.08493412188825739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697043230941252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782523113961795,0.0,0.0,0.09128202484147806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521796674954615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602645613538496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420136206951392,0.11337278819287624,0.06656276270750547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32135116445717404,0.1078338616128201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621981377083879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510790407732495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05218674436247877,0.07373418737246241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392365462108247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592459041571176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918037195255555,0.0,0.0,0.1025121286308732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05672224206421751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127151211097806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774657308507909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036896431212875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949089978703268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976640934261754,0.09685683175435307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249087538441603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155373352036043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207778397570645,0.0,0.10445536566370887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328585761936508,0.0,0.0,0.07945711630670005,0.0,0.0,0.07305350326599723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35468465379434266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591469830052147,0.0,0.09502311624517093,0.0,0.0,0.13713802924426946,0.2645345845361198,0.0,0.0,0.06018335048475434,0.0,0.0,0.09862283893868233,0.0,0.14014742213140371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043835521798535,0.0,0.08278989500331163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513906993783567,0.20963221017949565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939411779379893
parenting,t0mt0mt0m,2020/03/08,"With all the mass hysteria with the corona virus, I feel more obligated to own a firearm now This slow mass hysteria that have grown has made me feel more obligated to own a firearm.  My wife is against having firearms in the house with young children and I agree with her.  These recent weeks have made me feel more nervous about the actions of others honestly and I feel the need to protect myself and my home if nessary. I am in Virgina so purchasing and owning a firearm won't be an issue. What do others think.",6.3260606060606035,6.756925595959598,5.982373737373737,81.5602272727273,65.76767676767679,9.024242424242424,33.671717171717184,8.841846274778883,2.6743050505050507,410,17,79,6,6,127,65,99,0.081,0.8390000000000001,0.08,-0.024,0,0,0,4,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,9,0,9,0,0,2,1,18,17,6,0,2,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,8,0,1,5,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,4,10,1,12,13,7,11,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,5,60,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5468739373885525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712255493039968,0.0,0.0,0.3119964405011543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822193380908317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5117035131281069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004924835140176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669798014368697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325648446265868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168924140102049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ILikeHappyPosts,2020/03/08,"Tonight I cried during bedtime I have a Facebook acquaintance that always posts/shares news stories about the poor, innocent children who have been hurt and/or killed at the hands of their parents, guardians and those they trust. Her goal is to spread awareness and ensure people are being vigilant about the signs of abuse but man, they hit me to the core every time. (Yes, I realize for my own mental health I should just hide her posts). 

Tonight while snuggling my daughter to sleep, I just wept thinking of those that don’t get to feel the safety in the arms of trusted adults. Those that don’t get reminded they are loved daily. Those that aren’t nurtured and cared for as they deserve. 

I’m often hard on myself for not being the perfect mom, but I know without a shadow of a doubt, that my daughter will always have a safe place in my arms.",7.329201388888888,7.340532906250001,6.019583333333332,83.56930555555556,63.6875,8.361111111111112,32.15277777777778,7.3871296695380915,1.9914444444444444,675,23,126,5,9,199,102,160,0.126,0.6859999999999999,0.188,0.9219,2,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,5,2,5,11,1,1,11,1,14,6,4,0,1,20,23,7,1,1,6,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,10,3,0,1,4,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,1,3,19,7,20,17,1,10,0,2,0,1,16,5,0,2,4,85,29,1,0.0,0.24875571123309764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34938944378532755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21405740863098613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306195605998789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176891426970406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615672637015816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937979532614285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807342671563956,0.0,0.0,0.22316639758539572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247551780605207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322779076954614,0.0,0.11538270117195346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18948753307170693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21157961747709012,0.0,0.0,0.2458902031968913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23312396606220334,0.0,0.0,0.14555248086227476,0.0,0.21935244055768344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20107349258432775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010102582849188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452709998055956,0.0,0.0,0.1224231851880544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238373231498985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LJS0817,2020/03/08,"Am I so bad?! So today I took my son (2.5) to the zoo. We had an awesome day. We saw all the animals, ran, played, laughed, played some more, ran some more, and saw some more animals. Then after, I picked up my niece and nephew and they were to stay the night. That’s fine. But. I’m exhausted! They played some more in the house and around 7:30, I said it was bedtime. I had some margarita mix and my favorite tv show waiting for me. I needed some me time. My husband works until 8 on weekends so it was just me with a 2.5, 4, and 8 yr old. I was overpowered. When my husband came home, he said I should have let them stay up because it’s Saturday. My mom said the same thing when I FaceTimed her. (We live in different states) but am I so wrong in wanting to just have some me time?! Or should have I let them stay up longer?",-0.2473200442967887,1.9183480000000013,1.325215946843855,100.14957364341086,89.34883720930233,4.904097452934662,18.65559246954596,6.42735559955562,-0.23148261351052035,624,18,151,7,21,200,95,172,0.043,0.871,0.086,0.4988,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,3,0,4,1,9,8,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,1,1,32,28,17,0,4,5,5,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,5,12,0,1,0,7,0,4,0,3,0,0,15,5,29,5,15,9,13,29,0,0,2,0,17,8,0,8,13,102,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030702495203748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159843226826895,0.0960780790925674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802647640200571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016459253886258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466973734292112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809648040692573,0.0,0.0,0.18186169875698527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223354372239069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391732215057158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184591860809416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686640905677642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790705633934784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538601868874953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.449771881986485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5039764171463762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047096103098978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380824665864032,0.0,0.14939660681431746,0.0,0.17511139496069986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929629317531606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474253750905054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232266459864334,0.0,0.0
parenting,boushiki,2020/03/08,"Wife doesn't think the kids need to learn to defend themselves. Is she right? I have a couple daughters, 5 and 3. I've dabbled a bit of brazilian jiu jitsu, but only for a year or 2. I've heard and sort of agree with the position that kids should learn to defend themselves. Some reasons are: confidence, strength and ability to defend against potential assaults in the future. In particular that they are girls I feel like I would feel better knowing they have some fight in them. However, my wife also has a point in that most people are able to avoid violent, dangerous situations their whole life, just as she has. 

I may be biased as I'm an avid fan of the UFC, but I'm also aware of the injury rates in BJJ and ask myself if it's worth it to put my kids through that.",4.865324675324676,5.491901246753252,5.43418181818182,83.53127272727275,69.0,8.497662337662339,28.387012987012987,8.548686976883017,1.9033864935064928,608,20,123,9,10,196,100,154,0.149,0.685,0.166,0.2289,1,1,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,4,2,3,8,4,1,10,0,13,1,0,1,0,26,22,12,0,4,5,3,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,4,6,5,0,1,7,0,1,1,1,5,0,0,1,3,13,3,21,17,5,10,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,7,3,78,19,2,0.22737586166240326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36366478884557535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256573716921906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20109547213698897,0.2482355511034812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515870661714418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22993613507347105,0.16243736100346626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495982717716082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060229539525572,0.11108436080985022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685963203535902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729295887429924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576337931857843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21494368364440725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285755426051085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337802551852341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417774349909125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25557999518369345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456932711183707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538570294859286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615212883927975,0.0,0.0,0.14642260010013286
parenting,Elaine_dance,2020/03/08,"Can’t be the only one I can’t be the only one at a family event this weekend where I’m the only parent who is actually playing with the kids while all the other adults sit and talk. 

This shit is stupid. 

I want to be sitting, drinking, catching up with family too. But the kids need attention, need auntie (or uncle!) or mom (or dad!) to supervise/problem solve/PLAY WITH them. 

Sigh. I’m sure some of you feel me. 

I wish the other parents would step up too.",1.0470967741935482,3.272687956989252,3.135924731182797,89.1438870967742,83.40860215053762,5.870537634408603,20.052688172043013,7.1686216300943375,0.5481320430107526,352,10,73,5,10,119,62,93,0.075,0.8190000000000001,0.105,-0.3365,2,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,1,0,3,5,2,0,8,0,8,2,1,0,2,18,15,6,0,5,4,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,4,1,0,2,3,0,2,2,2,1,2,0,1,6,2,9,11,2,11,0,0,0,0,11,4,1,4,3,49,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.1879910306382638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18871604888318652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36321190550432775,0.0,0.0974057013632289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256202552556575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856835499310052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610787256886784,0.4395392974466673,0.0,0.0,0.4278128046203552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433260028158854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977444840483951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156302497471732,0.0,0.0,0.15483852989735725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362538033633858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152906100918932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684751529780773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,88giggles,2020/03/08,"The walk of all walks This morning I took my two kids and a dog for a walk to the beach. I had my coffee was going to enjoy the blue sky and let the kids throw rocks and sticks in the ocean. It was going to be epic...at least in my head....

Reality: 
We start walking kids are all the road, running, not watching for vehicles, (thank goodness we live in a small town that wasn’t awake yet). Dog is charging after them in all the excitement. We make it to the beach. This is when my three year old decided that it’s a good idea to go waiting into the ocean (she’s 3). We live in Canada snow in the ground. It was about -2C so not crazy cold but cold enough that you shouldn’t be in water. She figures this out, takes her boots and socks off crying because there wet. At this exact moment, my son (6 years old) climbs on a rock slips falls hit is knee, elbow and heard, so now I have two crying kids. And a dog who is off leash and running crazy! 

Don’t worry my coffee is in my coat pocket, just in case you were wondering. 

First thing I do pick up my son no broken limbs. Check, scrapes yes, but we get him sorted. Back to my daughter who is standing in the snow bare foot. Get her picked up and put her socks in my other coat pocket. Pick her up. Get the dog back on the leash, pick up her boots and walk back home booth kids crying. 

It was not the walk I pictured...",1.2711902834008093,2.997566042105266,2.348157894736844,97.7511437246964,79.80701754385964,5.086369770580298,17.628205128205128,5.634304966280588,-0.6606167341430496,1042,19,246,5,26,330,149,285,0.08,0.865,0.055,-0.9045,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,5,2,1,2,11,5,0,0,20,1,21,6,4,5,4,38,36,14,0,1,6,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,5,16,16,1,1,4,4,1,16,7,0,0,4,9,6,31,5,33,22,5,58,0,0,2,0,27,27,0,2,14,155,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225356377029009,0.0,0.08523212582209926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607525272640568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446999816215256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892963672638572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21914835598564766,0.0,0.2383864115191999,0.23454642985362326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349422970416084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024946415812095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783818990198706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429739999064716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469247853095286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333000669678176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934322186128311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405563194207926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989643305412278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512619274167788,0.0,0.0,0.1287261892274187,0.0,0.0,0.09288927052879224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553436183272766,0.0,0.0,0.27316492758701905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162731635312734,0.0,0.1419925836051454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007719912232892
parenting,Roseyposey21,2020/03/08,"I’m so tired I know that’s such a general thing, because everyone is tired. I just feel like I’m failing every step I take is like 2 steps backwards. I feel so stuck and like I’m just doing everything wrong. I want to be the best mother I can to my daughter, I just can’t get it out of my head that I’m going to be like my own birth-mom. She essentially chose drugs and men over me and my sister. I mean I don’t do exactly that, I just feel like everything I do is never good enough. I go to school, I don’t get to spend enough time with her. If I go to work I won’t be able to spend much time with her at all. I don’t want her to feel abandoned as she’s growing up and like “mommy’s gone all the time”. Even though I know we need the extra money. It’s just this argument I keep having with myself in my head. I have depression and only one therapist was ever good enough for me, maybe I should be less picky and just talk to someone? But then it doesn’t help because the connection just isn’t there. So many decisions and I’m so scared I’m going to make the wrong one. I just want to breathe for a second and not have to worry about it but I can’t get the anxiety out of my heart and head. Sorry for the long post, just needed to vent...",0.4069824660633508,2.1017983125000046,2.5025000000000013,95.75403846153849,82.41911764705883,5.949321266968327,18.18212669683258,7.010146845296331,-0.0839557692307693,959,21,234,12,26,323,130,272,0.111,0.8029999999999999,0.086,-0.8107,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,3,19,15,0,1,9,0,24,8,5,1,5,51,54,19,0,7,13,3,4,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,9,15,0,2,8,0,3,8,10,6,0,3,3,4,37,9,29,45,10,23,0,3,0,0,12,7,0,1,13,154,46,3,0.10063408039534594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769847960548488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269120271447705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560925874554407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667598598394892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167035840526015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119457187012389,0.0,0.06646786099850964,0.0910292871274232,0.08478855304537655,0.09616017639652506,0.18088684507274816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353445905471787,0.14378601428415033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577314604642184,0.0,0.2287706680078715,0.1688141841680219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098387982555656,0.0,0.0,0.11925186980269065,0.0674529028136273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944819451207386,0.0,0.0,0.11061171755343156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949883707445235,0.0,0.0,0.08905799438005108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671740301003343,0.10202716237739197,0.10110045989687018,0.10962001544212067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117861418691512,0.0,0.0,0.07397762819627494,0.1492377909666928,0.07761520669515869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638451461271514,0.0765367528859988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637963118957517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075227023300874,0.10184706195722876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526692974904232,0.0,0.0,0.11265161396907793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756643043914677,0.08088586187056451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684392371006548,0.06685681138726787,0.0,0.09887247304129326,0.0,0.17604162466908982,0.2313281430863758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806976386887613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326280907392473,0.1021987935359826,0.0,0.0,0.22005513821941688,0.0,0.0
parenting,Demas513,2020/03/08,"How do I stop my 2 year old from sucking blanket? My 2.5 year old son is the youngest of four. We’re having a unique problem with him.

We never gave him a pacifier because we didn’t want to have to break him of it. Over the last year, he’s taken to sucking on his blanket. It started out as just a little nibble and we figured he’d grow out of it. Instead, he’s gotten worse about it. He likes to shove a chunk of it in his mouth and fall asleep. It’s usually wet and we have to wash it constantly because of how gross it gets.

Is there something we could wash it with to give it a bitter taste (but of course keep it safe)? We don’t mind him having a blankie, we just want to stop him from sucking it all the time.",1.4062587412587426,2.8155788766233774,2.8222077922077915,95.92803696303696,78.41558441558442,5.517682317682318,22.885114885114888,5.8734145424116955,0.13275484515484506,553,17,131,3,13,180,85,154,0.10800000000000001,0.856,0.036000000000000004,-0.9013,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,7,0,0,0,7,8,4,0,9,0,11,5,2,2,2,31,23,7,0,4,3,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,12,14,1,4,1,0,0,2,3,6,0,1,4,3,18,2,24,17,1,22,0,0,0,0,21,6,3,0,14,86,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24039059498922735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21307479350178904,0.0,0.15742720776835997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030151545522864,0.18914704276639047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525710257735028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072293551036754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632914230914597,0.19761991267872814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990892954754704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207256351607598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138013978941383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18866866491483675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179399790557796,0.0,0.0,0.13956060623885053,0.0,0.0,0.3296921940315097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497360843264252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171590464632376,0.0,0.232596391259596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093691231552624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809203216229017
parenting,thosedoubledees,2020/03/08,"Please help: How to help kids from snooping I want to keep this brief: I have 5 kids, blended family; 3 from my first marriage and 2 from my husbands first marriage. They range in age from 6-12 and are on opposite schedules (meaning we have 2 one weekend then 3 the next). 
Our problem is that they keep snooping in each other’s rooms. When one set is here, they sneak into the other set’s rooms. Even siblings that are together in the house for the weekend are snooping in each other’s rooms and at times destroying property or stealing. 
They generally have good relationships and I’m really struggling to find some good reading material online. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. This needs to be handled before they turn into teenagers.",5.944598540145982,7.661956927007303,5.945700729927008,76.83606934306572,67.32116788321167,8.39970802919708,33.408029197080296,8.841846274778883,2.973450218978103,597,27,101,10,10,188,86,137,0.09,0.784,0.126,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,5,2,4,7,1,1,4,0,11,0,0,1,0,21,18,8,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,7,9,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,4,0,4,0,1,11,3,17,15,3,24,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,2,10,67,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538315968492425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568918440223863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217797330149494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17381488789561902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685178790003796,0.3136631576234893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092945367623485,0.0,0.2032770669506193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471689737664658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21274711264969332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277667456936478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008413692436321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671372951261498,0.0,0.0,0.1960877773962471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498782047053135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023913487981958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17642455970139173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844275968482985,0.0,0.11811707692103188,0.0,0.0,0.19795265011528093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927516064280574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751212054299138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20054999397677065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087507454791976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097662917879785,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hapa-Papa,2020/03/09,"Living in Seattle and wondering if we should prevent our college kid from coming home for spring break. I have 3 kids. My boys are 16 and 14 and out of school for at least a month due to the coronavirus. My 18 year old attends college in California and has spring break starting on March 23rd. She planned to come home but I am thinking that may be a bad idea. Having her fly on a plane and come to an area that has been deemed unsafe for travelers, should be have her go elsewhere? She was thinking about going home with one of her roommates and the roommates family is okay with that. I would love to see her but she has an underlying health condition and I don't want to risk it. To make things worse, my wife is Asian so she has experienced a lot of racism since the outbreak and wants to protect our kids from that.",3.5636479471448794,5.214587460122701,3.778527607361962,90.30478055686643,73.1717791411043,6.978574799433696,25.421897121283628,7.61054688173877,1.0937007078810763,648,21,137,8,13,200,104,163,0.091,0.8240000000000001,0.085,-0.47,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,9,1,20,2,0,1,0,31,34,12,0,6,3,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,4,6,15,0,2,4,1,0,7,1,2,0,1,2,2,18,2,25,26,2,25,0,0,1,1,17,8,0,4,8,93,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027549920934534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341591617032394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837828972506282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095996898786946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785793477195261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5055621635472022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896549534222758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14834973933040066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283015466827476,0.1516292794213298,0.0,0.1121433164177208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409840294204356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629090205662246,0.0,0.1138431902466342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700280194328832,0.13387665074392724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389738292858795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891339802438385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161373737564316,0.21529909542887152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818506094442612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182192102167126,0.0,0.0,0.17120942417714513,0.1193445209120928,0.0,0.0,0.10818843282847744
parenting,Viile_,2020/03/09,"In regard to a previous post How would you go about talking your parents about them being homophobic and how it hurts you? I can’t really explain the way it made me feel being told I had to keep it a secret by my mother because she didn’t want my younger siblings thinking it was okay to be with another female. I’ve tried talking to her about it before but she always just says she isn’t homophobic and gets upset at me for thinking she is so the conversation never really goes anywhere, I’ve considered that maybe she just doesn’t realize how it hurts me when she basically has me hide that part of myself ? Maybe she doesn’t think that makes her homophobic ?",5.9697692307692325,6.4405997846153875,6.8136538461538425,75.15509615384616,66.53846153846155,9.884615384615383,30.865384615384606,9.827888789773867,2.8846923076923074,532,19,99,11,8,177,82,130,0.095,0.884,0.02,-0.8907,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,1,0,10,4,0,1,4,1,13,0,0,5,1,22,25,8,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,3,0,1,7,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,5,2,22,1,13,16,1,7,0,2,0,0,22,2,0,0,2,73,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237685469505188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920252828194629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163290094474733,0.0,0.15582812154962378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259482996256037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567662615468436,0.0,0.104075649907102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920838218607529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277224799711906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732797873513496,0.12223911221574915,0.0,0.3679526282385686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123931445957494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203341556732438,0.1983093730600932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538564434347326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23463249264774455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563043822290114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943820976974349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520223646861985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498629419232306,0.0,0.12433163708980713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108013418356703,0.1453581854527693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008861116401635,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PantsOfThanos,2020/03/09,"Moving away with 9yo and 7yo We are thinking of uprooting and moving to a different part of the country, starting over.  We love our actual house but haven’t really got any connection to our area, close friends etc and my work takes me all over so can live anywhere within 2hrs of where we are.  
We want a change,  
However my 9yo and 7yo obviously have their whole lives here, close friends and a school they love and sports teams they play for etc.    
Parents who have made big moves, what happened, any issues or tips, how did you approach the idea to your kids and how did they cope?",9.072589285714283,6.975224651785716,7.685285714285714,79.85971428571429,61.41071428571429,11.46,34.9,9.888512548439397,2.956440714285713,459,14,94,7,5,138,78,112,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.9692,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,2,4,2,5,5,0,0,5,0,8,2,0,3,2,24,17,12,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,14,0,0,2,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,15,5,12,13,5,14,0,0,0,2,20,9,0,1,1,61,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.14837569562133665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067940086866845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428529273032514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084530150196125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885649292201642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391446374234971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349418847589685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160567622522413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445443945261562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544153605596824,0.0,0.17164227428327525,0.0,0.1586973046866249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26852013288897586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27445625751585995,0.14387031179623064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4848049002369673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168829923070649,0.16465181410005006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740504184227602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538794290405979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761947268633937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432023403289406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742541843413556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968111292545701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975476719181692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069184533708294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seattle-mom,2020/03/09,"Battling depression while parenting I need advice. I suffer with severe depression that makes it hard to function as a parent. I’m in therapy and on antidepressants. If I had to tell you why- I think it most likely stems from a tough upbringing and an alcoholic/absent father. However, I can clearly see the negative effects it’s having on my children (2yo son, 1yo daughter) and that shit is compounding the depression and feels like the last nail in my coffin. 
I’m really hoping there’s someone out there in the universe that’s conquered their depression and can tell me how to get back to my kids. It takes everything I have right now to keep them fed and in fresh diapers. Dad is an opiate addict and currently incapable of showing up for them or himself. 
I think I’m close to finding the ladder out of this hole... but I’ve spent too long looking, and it’s time to ask for help",5.185980392156863,6.494770088235296,5.969117647058822,77.49936274509805,68.70588235294117,9.666666666666666,31.22549019607843,9.928628108626363,3.1983137254901965,705,29,127,17,12,231,112,170,0.141,0.795,0.064,-0.8424,4,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,3,2,6,11,2,0,9,0,7,3,1,3,1,27,24,14,1,3,3,6,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,9,12,1,1,5,1,1,0,1,8,0,0,3,4,16,3,23,21,1,18,0,5,2,0,17,11,1,4,9,84,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666904855075962,0.0,0.14941831033384093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294679142128605,0.0,0.0,0.11757554070100595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5267920424119436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374223631257163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773140421835672,0.10923632317988184,0.0,0.0,0.13975362889062692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988725411014423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697405095178733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248989970066606,0.0,0.0,0.151870501486829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591018475925445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463907903888186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940463280976926,0.0,0.0,0.13531730334531886,0.12840281907054812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206617240024694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337811709887775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395688010062895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795571978229292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058118287672935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184655984579125,0.0,0.0,0.1727406464093554,0.15695616547407562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955704963371234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149665417577182,0.0,0.2672937697120604,0.0,0.17486173104301894,0.0,0.0,0.19595242314581648,0.0,0.0,0.08916091921365638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797419299848454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rabbitkind,2020/03/09,"Tired of people telling me my kid looks tired! My son is 16 months old and is pretty much a blessing. He sleeps through the night and takes a two hour nap after lunchtime every day. However, every time I take him in public, without fail, someone tells me “oh he looks so tired! Poor baby!” 

He’s extremely well-behaved in public, and I often take him on long walks if he’s being fussy at home because he loves people watching. I’ll plop him in the shopping cart, let him hold onto his cup, and he just quietly watches people and babbles to me as we do our errands. I guess him being quiet and calm is interpreted as “sleepy.” Usually I just let it roll off my back. It never seemed to be harmful, but I just never know how to reply. But today an older woman at a child’s consignment store loudly chastised me in front of a large group of other moms saying that I ought to “hurry home and put him down for another nap because he obviously isn’t rested enough.” 

I’m not a confrontational person so I just rolled my eyes and walked away. I just don’t understand why this happens so often. Has anyone else experienced this sort of baffling casual momshaming?",4.629650000000002,5.849809684444447,5.522819444444448,80.5135625,69.93333333333334,7.758333333333333,27.395833333333336,8.07648339933343,1.795983333333333,909,30,168,12,16,298,145,225,0.055999999999999994,0.873,0.071,0.2956,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,1,12,7,1,0,8,0,13,6,2,1,3,33,25,17,0,2,10,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,2,4,6,9,0,1,4,4,3,4,6,3,0,1,0,10,25,4,25,19,3,29,1,1,5,1,29,11,0,6,14,107,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461005587818005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309299321563349,0.12176167037357975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165046678704883,0.09137765749726123,0.0,0.14488281772402506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663948019964828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927234750372632,0.0,0.0,0.1227895010738443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024914915122288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309114075687528,0.0,0.10508640746722624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384046784650848,0.0,0.11702966166099485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530923553553279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24303601216002035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516624567337206,0.1995848584281435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725425737766728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391794526679819,0.09485387438342506,0.0,0.0873582374651537,0.0,0.18330751668310652,0.0,0.0,0.11151966861798236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469854011495303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471580529541132,0.10376313503528878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089907827088653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194631449713439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450326945530868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818396004945573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892196354149305,0.0,0.10068947705620676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680499672060996,0.0,0.2077360511742176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929430976435019,0.4097539894594156,0.11264276699793555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608564268006605,0.12371261428449028,0.0,0.0,0.13088122082008355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068479628565381,0.0,0.10723113392553314,0.0,0.0,0.11455379972966633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dumbytchenergy98,2020/03/09,"Need ways to play with 7 month old Okay so my 7 month old is very active and is constantly trying to walk instead of crawl, she has some toys but I dont really know how to play with her aside from like, what immediately comes to mind like bouncing her, putting her in her play chair, she has a Walker toy now too ect , but it's like I have a hard time coming up with new ways to play with and entertain her in the house basically. Ideas are appreciated thank you!",4.483824561403509,4.797745821052633,5.24184210526316,85.6820614035088,69.73684210526315,8.85964912280702,24.25438596491228,8.841846274778883,1.2297017543859647,363,8,83,6,6,118,67,95,0.013999999999999999,0.6679999999999999,0.317,0.9856,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,5,10,0,0,3,1,7,0,0,1,0,16,12,6,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,2,7,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,11,10,14,12,1,17,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,11,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33098573310881696,0.0,0.20761158388082335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251611656498377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210022184106974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216786735663377,0.0,0.2168781267332708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558316937745132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815778273911378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19398467218053456,0.0,0.3066939186475032,0.0,0.0,0.14245325278075988,0.0,0.18554900917197606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031915845934143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313191107573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230758745031794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687667856867414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120257002665784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304356851053301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851768176116418,0.0,0.3049890590840447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Autmada21,2020/03/09,"My 11 year old boy hurt a 14 year old girl. And its causing a rut between my husband and I.

Last monday shortly after my son got home from a neighborhood park, a woman and 3 kids knocked on my door.

The 14 year old girl is an aunt to an 11 year old girl my son is ""dating"". For whatever reason she kept calling him goofy names and picking on him while the three of them plus another child were walking at the park.

My son ignored her the entire time which apparently upset her. She then continuously said ""fight me bro!"" While calling him a host of other names. She then proceeded to punch him several times before finally slapping him in his face.

Unfortunately, my son then reactively swung and slapped the side of her arm, and picked her up around her hips and dropped her on the ground on her back (a wrestling move).

When they came to our house, the mother said ""you're son punched my daughter in the face and threw her on the ground!"" After my son explained his side of the story, the 14 year old girl started screaming at her mother ""I fucking hate that kid bro! Fuck him bro! Fuck you!"" And the two other children had the same story as my son.

He was continuously verbally & physically attacked and instead of punching the girl, he performed a wrestling move to get her to leave him alone without hurting her.

We have a strong NO HITTING GIRLS policy (he has a younger & older sister, so he knows better). So the problems were:

1. Physically hurting a girl.
2. Immediately coming home afterward & not saying a word about it to his dad or I.

I understand completely that he was so frustrated & didnt know what else to do to get her to stop. We have talked it out and I've told him the power of walking away and about calling me when he needs help, and why it is never okay to hit a girl etc. Etc.

My punishment would have been grounding for a week (no technology, no friends, no activities, extra chores) yet my husband basically wants to permanently take things from him & we cannot agree at all.

Any advice?

TLDR; my son hit a girl after being taunted, dad & I cant agree on punishment.",4.015882352941176,5.686257009803923,4.797696078431375,83.3746323529412,72.0392156862745,7.649019607843138,28.19117647058824,8.278499904357787,1.8878294117647048,1652,63,325,26,32,533,213,408,0.145,0.823,0.031,-0.9927,2,1,0,0,1,0,67.0,4,1,2,4,11,20,9,1,32,1,19,7,4,4,2,45,44,26,0,4,3,20,0,0,1,1,0,4,4,15,11,21,0,3,5,0,0,7,10,16,0,2,14,4,54,4,45,25,5,66,0,3,0,3,89,21,3,1,37,201,65,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655064048558408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113417528600249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5092728366802886,0.0,0.053272285216712616,0.08214385163697085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973711299369449,0.0,0.08912038088636394,0.07360079661564335,0.06023681385495092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665956643571086,0.0,0.0,0.06928328135719365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23997448402758295,0.08959739700521561,0.0,0.08047434097228866,0.0,0.06748094506395817,0.08213553081576176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544105070438244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473436459096475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085815061474017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06052347054790519,0.21726567270098948,0.08185637295861059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626537713445707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773422065867011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250807245684894,0.0,0.15715809129032618,0.0,0.0,0.09039112503295184,0.2515862090082165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861046424631961,0.06385563662607427,0.0,0.08294825546597245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652103919840894,0.0,0.058086371486714285,0.06041882153186377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110109054346073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495854696326927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054414663658585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903407992199116,0.06229723990281012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849924143155748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055447788649478816,0.0,0.0,0.0654937793217796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058900160136349376,0.06296483203353312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204405073946387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135862207033653,0.0,0.0,0.07485497731125132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652449669724863,0.08155225163643022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620557294341753,0.0,0.06283773392415562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068754037518689,0.0,0.0,0.07551469472611569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564881570914401,0.0,0.0,0.2522343763383864
parenting,lmccowan,2020/03/09,"Should I allow them to post photos on Facebook? So quite a few months back myself and my Husband decided to ditch Facebook. We were sick of the social media negativity and it has been great. 

However we have a 3 year old son and are about to have a baby in less than a month. I know that my family (mum and sister) will want to post photos which always seem to be for them to either get comments or to be vain and jump in the photo with them.

I don't particularly want my children on any social media sites but is it okay to tell them from this moment on I want no photos of my children being posted by them onto these sites?",5.7433258928571425,5.0899462343750015,6.844553571428572,78.55937500000002,67.125,8.876785714285715,26.098214285714285,7.957251820313856,1.4223714285714282,490,10,99,5,7,166,85,128,0.071,0.847,0.08199999999999999,-0.3094,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,5,1,3,3,0,0,6,1,13,1,0,1,0,19,19,8,0,4,3,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,16,2,22,12,3,18,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,2,6,77,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608618961213724,0.0,0.0,0.13146763689805968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865500024193226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822496149144799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100433906802513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314150715871505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062463701767144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308620358753208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202862078309597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5554557617957429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056249460772484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599582926282653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941410055063925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897458078571848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420843011528808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449496869437968
parenting,engineertee,2020/03/09,"I just realized I’m not ready for my son going into the real world My son is 4 years old, he’s a sweetheart and super kind (a bit more than he should be), but honestly he is exactly like his parents. He recently moved to the older room at daycare and he came to me today saying one of the kids called him a baby and stupid. He seemed upset about it, and iI made me realize....I have no clue how to handle this! First instinct was to go back to daycare and punch that pos in the face, but then realized that’s probably not the right way to handle this.
Honestly this doesn’t sound like a big deal, yet here I am clueless on how to handle this.",5.645756929637527,4.505575388059705,6.6697441364605545,81.33932835820895,67.50746268656717,10.045202558635397,29.590618336887,9.23628265651192,2.2004618336887,498,14,108,8,7,168,91,134,0.10400000000000001,0.743,0.153,0.804,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,7,9,1,1,9,0,8,1,1,3,1,21,14,10,0,1,5,3,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,1,7,7,0,0,3,0,0,4,4,2,0,2,3,2,8,7,15,9,2,22,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,1,11,67,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531057016966802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347084723697808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952422027885354,0.2458861257223175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22164059836126196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286654644427364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443624145821677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238743031103023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21006210040385997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034244670739784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228495550921906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255911054225257,0.0,0.14567973067785633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23871594283767555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317907177246148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447005518937961,0.0,0.0,0.21227223356277808,0.0,0.0,0.1835964322688174,0.0,0.17096508910860495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19571471417424036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20378110522778392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064547378866465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384436058297999
parenting,thebop995,2020/03/09,"Phone usage in toddlers My family is currently on vacation with another family we are friends with. We have a one year old. They have a two year old. I knew that they already had their kid watching tv and playing on the phone, but sharing a vacation home with them has brought the actual usage level to light. They have a separate phone for their two year old to play games and watch you tube kids. In the morning she is on it. During all meals she is on it or one of their phones. During play time she is on it. They also always have the TV on. Before I had a kid I often left the TV on when I was alone for background noise, but rarely have it one when he is around or I mute it and if he starts to pay attention to it we turn it off. However, this two year old is watching TV on top of the phone screen time. They were struggling to get her to bed and sitting on the couch watching TV with her one night and said “she won’t sleep”. I said I have some books if you want to see if it helps her unwind. They said they have a ton of books, but this is their night time routine looking upset at me. The next day my kid picked up the phone when their kid set it down and walked off. The mom grabbed the phone and said “oh no you can’t have that, we can’t have you watching any of those evil cartoons”. I have never directly commented on their practices. They just see that my kid doesn’t play on the phone and we don’t watch TV. He gets my phone maybe once a day for a couple of minutes because he likes to look at himself in the camera or just see it change when he touches the screen. Then I take it away after a couple of minutes and we find a new activity. 

Am I being an asshole here thinking this screen time is out of control or is this too much?",4.015292230933714,4.172447554644812,4.6084366832976995,90.36522808267999,70.72131147540983,7.785982418626753,26.022333095747207,7.423996415210882,0.9965898313138511,1359,37,312,13,23,434,162,366,0.054000000000000006,0.873,0.073,0.6249,2,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,4,15,2,11,10,1,2,25,0,32,2,1,2,2,44,50,25,0,4,12,1,2,1,1,1,0,4,3,6,19,21,1,1,4,14,1,2,7,3,0,7,10,21,48,7,46,38,4,57,0,0,14,0,63,26,0,9,28,213,67,3,0.0,0.0,0.09271645802118407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840213459814788,0.1048463537249068,0.07597979323662636,0.07905627503995359,0.0,0.0,0.06461033912980764,0.099626702517133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457941126660684,0.0,0.0,0.08926541090204361,0.0,0.0,0.05791746612868249,0.0,0.08084686392064253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050841940225938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656225748119726,0.0,0.2102544305088904,0.0,0.1225477132019336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913472400864588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683779655107511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340480967740225,0.0,0.09927803913943324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368347734076937,0.0,0.09530319127435996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322909211093273,0.0,0.0,0.04641728880570402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956963647447145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545073048632326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127504782604344,0.0,0.0,0.06984358585690931,0.0,0.07327788798841273,0.09176164926918076,0.10104465247660432,0.17832167351043568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39878978539254784,0.10118298942255494,0.2575260599226868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615066410793972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271329952215688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507902874294663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672488595911936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932551301488224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143600665389943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060878836527900125,0.0,0.0,0.22160534433182413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334404680725257,0.27843410489527626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603960343388277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447343646569302
parenting,Usernameunavalible27,2020/03/09,"! Please?! Mummy's and Daddys of Reddit. I need you to save my sanity. HELP.

My little girl is 8 months old (20/06/2020) up until now she has been the most brilliant little baby. She never really cries, never complains and has ALWAYS slept through, even at new born she was sleeping 5 hours. 

Then she got a cold, it was the cold to end all colds. She had conjunctivitis, a blocked nose and was just grumpy but ever since then..
SHE WILL NOT SLEEP.
She wakes up every hour through the night, if you put her in her cot she just screams and shes just having none of this sleep thing really.  She's over the illness and otherwise back to her bubbly chatty self. 

I just dont know what to do, honestly. We have tried everything.  I dont know what too do. 
So any advice would be helpful, from science to old wives tales I am willing to try anything. 

Thanks mama and dadas! (Or in my house: gagaga and dadada) ❣ xx",1.3305671482075958,3.831571393258425,2.2999839486356346,93.66986891385773,85.06741573033706,4.96350989834136,18.026752273943288,6.42735559955562,-0.10351128945960396,700,17,144,7,21,220,122,178,0.043,0.833,0.124,0.9306,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,2,0,0,10,5,0,0,6,0,20,7,6,0,4,27,26,14,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,5,8,0,1,2,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,7,5,23,3,18,15,3,26,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,3,17,99,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227787104225738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126351707500518,0.0,0.0,0.09205337054429613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113945009150936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408792721469373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869295022221346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31729536599801617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198939001136664,0.0,0.0,0.08940781932901376,0.1224460955245733,0.11405150576486135,0.0,0.12165803232047892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826437811175382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814656544495553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666160468229329,0.1561939325997546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878698231181012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27134414170585697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804767208165264,0.0,0.0,0.10037200875254863,0.20880486518260025,0.13073711136171193,0.0,0.1270316121910131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840872248810453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485909740406735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607999459811432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343756652398715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121602804102434,0.0,0.0,0.11197596992338536,0.0,0.40639061093374135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462662089394227,0.0,0.0,0.08993100761224775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838089544671334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615996445404963,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elegantlady101,2020/03/09,"Tears No More ""Free Report for Parents"" There are several reasons why children are irritable.

Sometimes there are medical problems like chronic ear infections, severe

allergies, or urinary tract infections that may make your child uncomfortable

and experience pain.

A common problem frequently overlooked is intolerance to milk. Children who

rely on a diet heavy in gluten (wheat products) or sugar products can

experience frequent mood swings and become picky eaters.

Some children are born fussy and have a difficult temperament.

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parenting,SnwAng1992,2020/03/09,"Opinion on Leash for Toddler My daughter is 15 months old. She is a good toddler. However she is INDEPENDENT. To be clear...I foster this in her. She is not disobedient outside of regular 15 month olds parameters. 

She started walking at 9 months old and had it perfected by 11 months. We started working on walking with someone, holding hands with an adult, behavior in a crowd that sort of thing. We live in an medium sized town, so we’re never anywhere exceptionally crowded. It’s great practice. 

We are going to be at a major convention in a month and I am concerned about her. Previous conventions we’ve attended shes ridden in a backpack or in a wrap. But the last one was 6 months ago. I don’t know how long she’s going to put up with being cooped up. 


We don’t take strollers to con. The crowd size and lack of elevator access makes it more hassle then it is worth. She’s an easy going kid. Just ready to do things herself.  

Has anyone had any luck with the toddler leashes, whether the back pack or the wrist ones? Is there still a lot of stigma with it? I just feel conflicted. I want to give her a chance to be a big girl. But it’s a big convention and obviously I don’t want to put her at risk. Any opinions would be helpful, thanks!",1.679729689366784,4.094349891129036,3.3131899641577083,87.66848864994026,82.34677419354837,6.254719235364398,25.314217443249703,7.526774132740827,1.4035452210274784,975,40,197,16,27,322,145,248,0.018000000000000002,0.8490000000000001,0.133,0.9772,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,0,2,8,6,0,1,18,0,23,2,2,3,3,41,36,12,0,4,9,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,10,13,0,2,2,0,1,9,5,1,0,2,3,2,22,5,34,27,4,43,3,0,0,0,25,16,0,7,18,130,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244341298603262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252246223190038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886953190848631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975385550008331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413833958064102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168450052300465,0.21627252985452888,0.10639438177185148,0.0,0.13985075904023664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502377840987257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971253845652428,0.10339833943015962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200942130541072,0.11225680236058548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784193515652034,0.0,0.0,0.08467226185846341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6074948798419647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783327121620077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3993180306867842,0.0,0.17191145622018852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550352647573433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747819942907053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956783690069775,0.0,0.10130126004286537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537417637744132,0.0,0.0,0.11678492253533665,0.0,0.0,0.16854482103721422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963689244052258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234711309010908,0.0,0.0,0.09010943183097064,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SofaKingSleepy,2020/03/09,"My daughter told me she wants to be someone else. She's only 4 years old. My SO and I have always worked with her on expressing  her emotions and being able to tell us when she's sad, angry, frustrated, happy, etc. She still throws temper tantrums and we've been working with her on ways to calm down when she's angry and using her words to tell us how she feels instead of screaming, throwing things and hitting. 

She's getting better all the time about voicing how she's feeling. The only problem is, mostly she always says that she's sad. She comes to me at least once a day and says that she's sad. I ask her why and she'll usually tell me. I've started back school part time this semester and usually she's sad about missing me while I'm in school. Sometimes she'll say she's frustrated because she didn't get her way or she's sad that she misses a friend, or a toy that broke.

Well today she told me that she wants to be someone else, she doesn't want to be herself anymore. I asked her why and she just cried and said that she's sad. I asked her why she thinks she might be sad and she just cried and said she doesn't know why, but she always feels so sad. I talked to her for a while and told her that I like who she is and asked her to tell me some things that she likes about herself. After that I told her some of the things that i think are great about her, talented drawing, creative, kind, strong, brave.

I still feel concerned adter hearing her say this. Is this normal for a 4 year old? Should I be concerned that something's going on with her? I'm worried and sad for her.",2.7986679174484053,4.225978829268296,3.2525609756097573,94.21270168855536,74.73170731707317,5.899812382739213,23.28611632270169,6.093298490706669,0.27965816135084465,1248,35,276,7,26,387,142,328,0.14800000000000002,0.722,0.13,0.7683,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,0,4,17,30,4,0,8,0,19,0,0,3,1,46,51,26,0,6,5,1,4,2,1,4,0,9,0,0,18,19,0,0,7,1,0,4,3,18,1,0,8,13,69,12,28,32,7,31,0,12,0,0,75,6,0,6,21,180,87,4,0.08014622133819194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006422959991288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948351563538028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29970359202640257,0.0,0.0,0.06162749707806794,0.0,0.04885639263743008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088281976003742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903887305142617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607372152675885,0.05168768243167133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339037675791198,0.09015371161898944,0.0,0.0,0.08938422248890801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620973505323848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192077179458909,0.0,0.08374618547181663,0.0,0.045548944556890014,0.0,0.0,0.08836149196637323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853171429274354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033061629808584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345995629090243,0.044046267242706785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831079080765893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502247543748602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852628025739453,0.0,0.0,0.16819995449771594,0.08535311003547408,0.0,0.12190962570949172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679054751700775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668910983703056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247481958526865,0.25494196816763265,0.0,0.16222450959359305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358152665110627,0.06170047677624405,0.079266662237045,0.0,0.056727907973509614,0.0,0.1280097517795494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441849682673198,0.2802053201491223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597367645938422,0.10270892494186776,0.0,0.0,0.09346781236227727,0.0,0.07596924657691978,0.30633259631801235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281207225177865,0.06922060245009024,0.17653947966231054,0.0,0.14181695358677462,0.12723267999744714,0.0,0.0,0.07206107815727464,0.0,0.2892779952417481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669480734218585,0.08139237815909774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322307768942247
parenting,sharpyz,2020/03/09,"My 7 year old daughter used the B word. She was grounded and her older brother informed me she was using the b word then she admitted it. 

We took a jalapeno and made her take a small bite off the tip and chew it.. we allowed the heat to cause her discomfort for only 1 min then gave her milk to take away the burn. . we did this to teach her that swear words are not going to be tolerated and will come with a punishment. 

Were we to severe? anyone else have any tips?",2.3306250000000013,3.905527479166668,3.3483333333333327,92.43000000000002,76.29166666666666,6.466666666666668,22.416666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.5296291666666666,362,10,81,4,8,116,68,96,0.106,0.879,0.015,-0.8299,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,8,0,8,2,0,5,0,21,18,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,10,2,0,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,7,0,14,0,9,9,0,13,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,6,50,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676806723184589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241222439381668,0.25264705990956915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316670105192609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25330228548905803,0.0,0.21240407072793768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598326756019636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013527182052868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333169201745025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587408618689116,0.0,0.0,0.18753275956812845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27856158680915155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707901176437432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739558858386196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259263539162218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878736808151436
parenting,DigBickBrando,2020/03/09,"What are some good books to read to my 4 year old daughter before bed time? I’ve always read my daughter a book before bedtime, never miss a night when she’s with me. She loves being read to and also loves looking at the pictures in picture books but I was looking for an actual book book where I can read maybe a chapter or two a night? I always have her follow along the words in her books with her finger as I read them and I want to start introducing her to more complex words/sentences that you don’t see in “Mickey Mouse’s 5 Minute Bedtime Stories” or “The Icky Bug Book”. Any suggestions are much appreciated, thank you!",6.1878514285714274,5.873557088000003,6.289485714285713,81.77560000000003,66.12,8.422857142857143,29.857142857142854,7.447530270364453,1.6964742857142858,496,15,99,4,7,158,81,125,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.94,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,0,3,5,0,0,8,0,7,3,1,0,1,13,17,8,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,1,12,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,4,17,4,14,15,3,14,0,1,3,2,14,5,0,3,8,61,19,12,0.0,0.0,0.13756082873072867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272910492365525,0.23458719073102816,0.0,0.0,0.0958605622449366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23990048452159374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823417222787885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23674902926807334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544515803354173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161759270023042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362498478756647,0.0,0.10872036329321838,0.0,0.0,0.2645709048024815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791832685038042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7050122668700821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233030151501544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977526163097557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978099420956105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219742068468337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770164446798866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831444001920885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907763916450616
parenting,schrodingers_cat42,2020/03/09,"Do you think it’s okay to put your child on a leash (attaches to a child harness)? My mom used to do this to one of my brothers at the store etc when he was like 4-5 because he was an energetic child and I guess she didn’t want him to run? I’m not sure how I personally feel about this, though.",-0.5875324675324656,1.1951863939393943,1.853809523809524,98.565,86.57575757575758,5.58961038961039,18.51948051948052,6.868970318607317,-0.21263376623376606,226,6,60,3,7,77,52,66,0.031,0.8290000000000001,0.14,0.7182,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,2,1,9,11,4,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,3,1,8,3,9,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,2,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19007854801217566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477543532936245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576622186090912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34349760254244993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233627174308742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365192073040038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112928224304656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722634243940225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31345857975200986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938804293205169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19979742943490364,0.30635507189211786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26930665356084915,0.0,0.0,0.1839156158562575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Centauri5921,2020/03/09,"My adult son cant get dates and doesn't have any friends Hi there,

My son recently turned 21 and like the title says, he has no friends or relationship. he dropped out of school and works a dead-end job that he nonetheless seems to enjoy, although has confessed to me that he often cries to himself out of loneliness. he hates himself very much. is there anything I can do/he can do to better himself?",4.112573839662447,5.620321797468356,4.182974683544305,88.52399789029535,71.53164556962025,7.2919831223628675,29.62236286919831,7.793537801064563,1.7500109704641351,318,13,65,4,6,98,57,79,0.17800000000000002,0.725,0.09699999999999999,-0.7276,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,3,6,1,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,13,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,7,5,8,13,1,5,1,0,0,0,17,2,0,3,3,38,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833877228048238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037080599218304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893302447581636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719160476055081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925098266055806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825045869439056,0.0,0.12933180237275455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443989787429685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456497539716199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093775571185515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197371586607827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444203640511002,0.2657701893445023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968573497277292,0.0,0.2505282849191541,0.0,0.2253552472960505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692573695841146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042501661135195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18021536952492392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigred0514,2020/03/09,"Parent/Teacher Conferences.... Oh the joy So parent/ teacher conferences for my youngest son (kindergarten) and my nephew (2nd grade) were last week and it got me thinking about previous conferences I had in regards to my eldest son's (8th grade) conferences. 

Has anyone ever gone to a parent/teacher conference and been completely blindsided? Sitting there asking ""Wait? Are we talking about my child? Am I in the right room? Are you sure that was little Jimmy?"" 

Was it positive, negative or flat out hilarious?",4.558683385579936,7.965164701149424,4.855464994775343,74.33830721003136,80.14942528735631,8.68087774294671,32.04702194357367,9.095868883498916,4.029468965517242,407,21,59,12,11,128,66,87,0.04,0.8170000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.8645,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,2,10,14,5,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,0,9,2,8,7,0,11,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,3,40,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633851399043155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090253809364877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344286423295709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224890436489307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882441870475496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18225474469653466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224094754229335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7448068327952345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909436456919388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21072983342818988,0.0,0.0,0.17971223831548022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326669905017175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934947889908515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fizz16,2020/03/09,"Sons dad wants 6 months off a year... Ok so I am a single mum to a 6yr old boy. I was married to his dad, but found out about an affair when son was a year old. Ex didn't want to stop seeing new one, so we divorced. 
My son is great very well adjusted, his dad has seen him regularly 2/3 times a week since he was a year. Often just for a couple of hrs after school/nursery and one over night every week or so. I would give my ex his 'duties' each week to enable me to work p/t. With always the caveat he could ask to have him more. We are friends, all very civil. But he would never have him anymore than that, bit lazy with my son, no day trips etc etc. Like babysitting rather than parenting. So not the closest relationship.
Ok so last year he retired early bought a motorhome with the plan to spend winter in europe and summer back in the UK. So he left in September and he comes back in April.
So my son has coped fairly well, asks after him/gets upset maybe once a month. This has increased slightly recently, perhaps because he knows dad is coming back to the area and more a conscious part of his mind. Plus maybe his age, he sees his friends with dads etc. We initially facetimed/called once a week, but my son did not enjoy these and seemed to make him worse. So he now messages him whenever he asks or when I try to encourage him and I send pictures to his dad once a week.
My son is very conscious his dad is going to leave again in september and its very difficult to answer his questions in a fair but honest way (dad loves you but likes his own time etc). Its really unfair on my beautiful son. I dont know how to help my son. My guess is in a few years he will realise dad is a bit of a waste of time etc but I want him to be as undamaged as possible. I feel he needs to make a decision and he is either in his life full time or not at all? Or is it better to have something for 6 months than nothing. I just dont know?
Any advice or suggestions.",2.059338235294117,3.5668595906862777,3.3483333333333327,92.43,76.86764705882355,6.466666666666668,21.558823529411764,7.1686216300943375,0.4363999999999999,1515,39,342,17,34,493,210,408,0.07400000000000001,0.774,0.151,0.9901,1,0,1,0,1,0,46.0,3,1,0,4,23,16,0,1,23,2,28,2,0,3,3,68,53,33,0,8,18,22,1,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,6,20,0,2,12,0,2,6,8,2,2,2,8,4,41,14,49,40,19,64,0,0,3,1,74,17,0,9,42,211,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253231088900902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176157173915725,0.0,0.0,0.05047589319431253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361176252464527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208172500936255,0.0,0.0,0.1712245102761793,0.0,0.0452471829396091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564643314456665,0.16207006887274342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787741174771458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926303123369736,0.0821291168018464,0.0,0.04786931446343625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398349360232687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139053303509601,0.0,0.0,0.06253819484933974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03753064889580928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138444230601834,0.1146928922871427,0.0,0.038779766269876635,0.07120387423576588,0.04218406877409859,0.0,0.0,0.08183388858628585,0.08176776929377526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04975179582383764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237720004387735,0.06050369870713526,0.0,0.07859409947447614,0.08064623554240742,0.0,0.052427673957505035,0.07252567139197587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699142218317715,0.0,0.0990922107370293,0.0,0.14913900599305238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494660740866492,0.0,0.17773828563713148,0.0,0.0,0.055037276348879685,0.05724729040930712,0.07168746163891129,0.0,0.06965561446953683,0.0,0.07122138026046408,0.0,0.15577437671403993,0.2371432422098793,0.10059425527309074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824186466429944,0.08037899584756272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836781117493423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314956030668995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04755076338858023,0.0,0.07328873807991257,0.07969042134413072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512018045767636,0.11829624548350348,0.06757211805216534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061400110226953235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057142425165810785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205585130222471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312597089622034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05039425009091189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449752824022927,0.13134038958829644,0.05891675620081205,0.29769614098826497,0.0,0.1334752981213631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054037056471798316,0.0,0.07564213759085077,0.10545534762392797,0.0,0.0,0.2389939794810268
parenting,Martinl792002,2020/03/09,Found a new video on kids safety Click on kids safety on link for video i found giving safety tips for your children. Check it out by clicking on the kids safety link [kids safety](https://youtu.be/yh25OOUEWCU),5.573333333333334,9.004341888888893,2.9977777777777814,89.60000000000002,74.55555555555556,4.711111111111111,20.11111111111111,5.985473137389443,0.06507777777777822,172,4,28,1,4,46,23,36,0.0,0.6729999999999999,0.327,0.9118,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,8,1,0,6,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,0,1,13,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8496143252220857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716670523743629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741912619994924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wheelsof_fortune,2020/03/09,"Should I send my daughter to her half sister’s birthday party? My daughter (8) has a half sister from her dad who is turning 1. Their dad is on and off drugs and hasn’t seen my daughter since her birthday in October. Me and the mother of this baby have been on good terms but now I think she’s trying to be in a relationship with my child’s father, and it complicates things. I’m not sure how to be okay with a woman who is okay with man who doesn’t see his daughter. Anyways, their dad and his family will be at this party. His mother also hasn’t seen my daughter since her birthday because she and I got into an argument after she took my daughter to see her dad without my knowledge. At that point the last time he had seen my daughter was when he showed up at my house promising he was going to rehab and then he disappeared for months. 

So now this party is coming up. Daughter has accepted that her dad isn’t around because he’s on drugs, and she doesn’t talk about him too often.  I feel like seeing him at a party, with his new baby, is gonna reopen old scars, and leave her with more questions, and hurt feelings. On the other hand, this is her baby sister and I’d like for Daughter to have a relationship with her sister, but with the current state of affairs, I’m not sure that’ll ever truly be possible. 

What do I do?",4.682720588235295,4.961476830882353,5.53014705882353,83.91191176470588,69.29411764705883,7.723529411764706,27.39705882352941,7.285733465282438,1.3699794117647062,1046,31,212,9,17,343,131,272,0.059000000000000004,0.8,0.141,0.9738,2,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,2,0,12,10,0,0,10,2,28,4,1,1,3,38,45,18,0,1,5,21,3,2,0,4,3,0,0,3,14,21,0,0,6,1,0,5,8,1,0,2,9,9,36,9,36,28,2,35,0,1,6,0,59,16,0,2,15,152,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160132636594442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914398844011793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686792717500466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496586129190665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33647271440174725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122506724392818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676007186709974,0.0,0.14670456025061895,0.10363878477243303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824472190217983,0.12167871115022667,0.11602656856449788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739251031800353,0.1553015559581499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825226546186025,0.0,0.1536092918844243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174877122400056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579432544355255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011052092938805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222765996925824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713903026866645,0.16354580786585018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251277340940626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115040257346221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468085255027622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400085379603047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734554894005754,0.0,0.0,0.1166026121701913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637875728641003,0.09295566903420913,0.0,0.0,0.08459209398031313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117927077612906,0.09849371801792194,0.15779564064546905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984331217798332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EliasWeber,2020/03/09,"My Baby can’t sleep Hey guys,

I was wondering if some of you can give me some advice on to bring my little son to sleep. He currently has some problems. It’s really exhausting. Sadly most tips I found online don't seem to work. Do you have any recommendations?",1.5621794871794847,4.078534961538466,3.674615384615386,84.15371794871797,84.0,7.3128205128205135,18.28205128205128,8.344100000000001,1.1034897435897435,206,5,41,5,6,70,43,52,0.163,0.8370000000000001,0.0,-0.8211,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,3,2,0,0,9,12,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,7,0,5,10,4,4,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,7,1,25,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670341923946717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18583151714507726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29962410625429997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26214343399336976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27057814682811765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738861881073874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261480438627867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17506239003814436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487727986506445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5469304262429053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963473398805077,0.1989422583876133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,discountonme,2020/03/09,"Update: [I previously posted](https://old.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/d9ri4c/terrible_2s_threenager_or_something_more/) and wanted to follow up. 

My son has his good days and his bad. His bad outweigh his good by a LOT. He and our 1 year old share a room and I have noticed that poor sleep contributes a lot to his mood. That being said, I think my husband and I clash in our parenting. I've noticed that my husband will do something that I perceive as giving in to avoid a tantrum. BUT, I'm not sure if he's really giving in or just picking his battles. 

Examples:
1. We were driving to the park and my son used his finger to create a hole in his pants. He started SCREAMING and crying and kicking, saying he wanted new pants. I told him to wait until we got to the park to get out and get pants. My husband pulled the car over and changed his pants for him. 
2. My son will find a new obsession every month or so. This month it's teenage mutant ninja turtles. I used to buy him character stuff but when I realized it was an ever changing whim, I stopped. He told me the other morning to go to the store and buy him a ninja turtles toy. I said no honey, you have a lot of toys. He started losing it so my husband assuaged him and said we'd look for toys for him. He told me later he wasn't going to actually get him the toy but wanted to assuage him and calm him down...except now he keeps asking for it.

I don't know what I'm doing. Am I venting or asking advice? I don' know anymore. I just know I'm tired of arguing. I walk on eggshells with him, unsure what will set him off. I need help, a hug and advice.",2.1384699890142818,4.278226120743035,3.524941575951264,88.34851892539702,78.8142414860681,5.777649056226907,23.422450813941875,6.828538100315305,0.7508312993108963,1259,42,255,13,31,412,163,323,0.12,0.813,0.067,-0.9331,2,1,2,0,0,0,53.0,5,1,0,1,7,16,3,2,16,0,15,4,2,3,2,51,50,26,0,5,10,8,1,0,1,3,1,5,1,0,13,18,0,4,7,4,4,7,4,9,0,0,10,8,51,6,32,35,3,34,0,1,1,1,58,10,0,7,16,159,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.10085741772605587,0.0,0.0,0.2019903074755929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024981995191507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932418208138145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259053120045426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186671030578663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352819068747755,0.06665400170353955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348851886304256,0.0870791861706756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446258094933843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619927067676879,0.19829083444403545,0.11747554872876527,0.17337483944973972,0.08266067049287842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927519896131344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186471171856396,0.0,0.0,0.17039997734727252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679031655104592,0.11562533940866974,0.0,0.2636005475430696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649904276038959,0.0,0.0,0.07663478686995735,0.0,0.1996375441663017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353356810443353,0.21690274212713465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147610463053877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662104460745502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949365227726681,0.08219028974172389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342743374346797,0.0,0.0,0.07956602986774683,0.0,0.0,0.14630727851661895,0.0,0.0,0.08640756327464158,0.0,0.0,0.11831422172358752,0.0,0.0,0.09740878483036602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662242969308404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878883242384587,0.0,0.2962740700913971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852725974810782,0.0,0.0,0.18288046631728253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655581051878946
parenting,Wkappan,2020/03/09,"At what age should boys stop letting their mom see them naked? I was 10 years old living in a singe-wide mobile home with my single parent mom. I didn't run around the house naked - watch TV naked  or hang out naked since I was about 2 years old. However, I thought nothing of coming out of the bathroom completely naked in front of my mom to go to my bedroom to get dressed or get undressed in my bedroom walk down the hallway naked to grab a towel from the closet on my way to the bathroom. One day I came out of the bathroom and saw two girls who were friends in the living room. They were sisters, ages 9 and 11. They laughed and I ran into my bedroom without my towel. My mom said she told me they were there but I didn't hear her.  I saw the 11 year old a couple of days later and she told me off. She said ""I can't believe you still let your mom see you naked and you are in the 5th grade."" After that I always covered up in front or my mom. Was she right? Should my mom insisted that I cover up in front of her at a younger age? Or  should my mom have let me alone to figure it out myself. And if she had waited for me to figure it out myself what age should she wait until she definitely said something?",2.0112410948631414,3.4667840236220497,3.0176940382452213,94.97014435695542,76.8740157480315,5.468016497937758,21.544056992875888,5.622346879071545,-0.07747934008248958,938,24,214,4,21,299,129,254,0.017,0.948,0.035,0.6662,4,1,1,0,1,0,21.0,0,4,5,0,4,2,0,0,13,0,19,0,0,0,0,33,38,13,0,5,7,10,1,0,1,4,0,4,6,2,7,16,0,3,3,1,0,10,4,0,0,2,19,10,46,2,41,12,1,51,0,0,5,0,38,23,0,5,17,143,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376446742044633,0.0,0.0,0.06729637321394731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199792330130579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112099521917974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250205866941223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696686125715268,0.08479828593592552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948916843262225,0.0,0.10431830540947204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06248558340565261,0.0,0.08451007804882896,0.0,0.04596442020442817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115456889817508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112650292767068,0.0,0.0,0.09332151859842044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24810748529312365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428322342518411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7577799125108539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760392833043614,0.0,0.254601290834825,0.0,0.054804535857893424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980464466967078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906875245333728,0.2307984327471599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889743673442347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669025191046236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226327896170426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645886976997991,0.06761702482218462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420752367375117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456340774140614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900534747370032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419661777051619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796280869132037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624694371737932
parenting,Jnapalm88,2020/03/09,Headphones to fit my friends 4 year old. My friend is looking for a pair of headphones that fit and stay on her.she has tried a few different kinds but none seem. To be right. Any suggestions?,1.6191891891891892,4.355978486486489,1.3284324324324324,98.71859459459463,88.45945945945945,5.122162162162162,26.318918918918918,6.742157984588678,1.0339016216216217,152,7,32,2,5,44,32,37,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.6858,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,5,4,2,7,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,2,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108482451363182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239418102471732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790959315025582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32287489596380314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26036837355153736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32535089414782176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647855432470666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822627121544141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304777095589383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105072050082468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996654560533768
parenting,ChampionshipVinyl34,2020/03/09,"My teenage daughter is moving in with me full time. So my 13 yo daughter decided she no longer wanted to stay with mom and is now living with me full time. I had her every weekend previously and also most of the summer, so I have the basics down (I think). I am just curious if there are little things to help the transition that I wouldn't think of that will make this change easier. I already signed her up for a razor subscription and pad subscription, and the took her to get her toiletries and what not. A trip to the grocery store is in the cards for tonight to let her pick out the food she wants around the house. Any advice is greatly appreciated here.",6.768175824175827,6.215898015384622,6.720549450549452,79.95730769230772,65.0,9.89010989010989,30.87912087912089,9.23628265651192,2.376065934065934,522,16,105,8,7,166,87,130,0.017,0.898,0.085,0.8372,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,10,0,11,1,0,2,0,23,18,9,0,4,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,10,1,0,3,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,17,1,18,13,3,19,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,6,79,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20110865532403369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271091183951532,0.16458086757209806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995333779067504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832086176076243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21771265962790376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173398201689572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488582321666227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752375807037744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268989239665681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794564981389584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746943844352136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21044787272742888,0.0,0.0,0.2062690268544093,0.18172813177941746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373753366613714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410344004662113,0.0,0.21873639504465872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193589920005645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367266034018409,0.26374095810810394,0.0,0.0,0.2400111810988955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22865509841049944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427763003466228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlaahBlaahDotSheep,2020/03/09,"Advice needed, how do I organise playdates when my OCD prevents me from inviting people to my home. Hi all, thanks in advance for reading.

I have been suffering from some form of OCD since my teenage years. It sort of comes and goes. I have never sought professional help as I always figured I could cope. I also never felt it was severe enough to need help.

However being a mother to a 4 year old, I am starting to realise how I’ve created a highly unhealthy environment for my child to grow up in. I constantly wipe down the house and cannot invite guests over. Outside of the home we behave normally and can make as much mess as we can, however once inside the home I obsessively control what surface areas are cleaned.

I try very hard to not let this affect my child but it obviously is not healthy. She is a happy and healthy child, loves playing at home, at playgrounds and at playcentres etc, however struggles with anxiety around other children. She isnt making friends at kindergarten. I know this is my fault and I absolutely hate myself for it.

At this very point I am feeling like a complete failure, the worst mother I could ever be, and constantly in tears. I hate myself so much. I want help, but cannot afford professional assistance being a SAHM. With our single income, it is already difficult. I don’t know what I can do, but I was hoping I can get some advice.

I know to help her make friends, I need to organise playdates outside of kinder. However the very thought of having someone in my home gives me so much anxiety. Does anyone have any advice?

I love my daughter so much, so much. She means the world to me. The fact that I cannot even cope having another child in my home to play with her breaks me apart. I know I have failed her. I just want the best for her. How do I control my thoughts. Help please.",3.4789147074904316,5.576086714689269,4.363548387096774,84.11723619464189,74.5084745762712,7.166611991981046,27.521049753963915,8.049812674583475,1.8673669764898853,1443,57,272,23,31,465,177,354,0.188,0.6709999999999999,0.142,-0.9364,6,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,0,0,5,13,21,2,2,14,0,34,2,0,9,6,58,61,22,0,9,6,3,3,1,3,0,0,0,7,5,12,14,0,3,10,3,0,3,9,10,0,0,6,3,54,11,41,49,14,34,0,2,0,2,30,20,0,4,11,195,66,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337332511639593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798386876313287,0.06375992983333714,0.06634161972163136,0.0,0.0,0.05421903000703096,0.08360369634379387,0.1219862294363034,0.0,0.0,0.055748962827591404,0.0,0.0,0.07097646753142528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367155547670284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868020341987749,0.08359522764655321,0.17231928010105613,0.17884760593446508,0.1273155902917039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977212639203849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238224507353911,0.0889198550285284,0.052660811987653725,0.07212021122350945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04031380625265507,0.05695901862135683,0.07655315642129762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319816401407326,0.0,0.04165555432487133,0.07648413429642588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487390469271258,0.0714222823662598,0.15743343476539173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672061790260975,0.08423896081865866,0.4798532238398158,0.07918972801728504,0.0,0.09199753869378563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526975516312535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152917041100076,0.0,0.03895197592981557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439185995413996,0.0,0.15966087593729011,0.0,0.0,0.08684917697909147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930530568618672,0.17735601387246372,0.12298514637768412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811832180207867,0.0,0.0,0.08366306241349224,0.08490968494501594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527463697980541,0.0,0.0,0.08751942957274404,0.07537047637078742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975142302020656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007203290148612,0.0,0.06595335333670319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755484062259019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056433196067707934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335094728102345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340453106681186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659318520151172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413133250247952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973564212586445,0.0940534589691404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268681483335576
parenting,topher78714,2020/03/09,"My toddler says people make her nervous and she doesnt like people. So I have a toddler who is almost 4.  She has been in gymnastics since she was 2 and daycare since 3 months old so she has had plenty of exposure to coaches and teachers.  

She still will cry when she has to go into gymnastics (but has fun after like 5 minutes into it) and will cry 50% of the time at daycare dropoff.  Often when I pick her up from daycare I notice she is sitting by herself playing when other kids are all having fun (now she does have a few friends at daycare that she loves to play with and we had had playdate and they go well).  

So when I asked her smwhy she cries and why she is never playing with other kids she says ""kids make me nervous"" (she uses nervous to express fear/shy/etc.).  Then she followed it up by ""I dont like people"".  I asked why and she said ""because they dont love me.  You, mommy, baby brother love me.  But they dont love me"".  

That just broke my heart feeling like my kid wont play with others because she is afraid the kids dont like her (which again she has friends and 1 on 1 with them she seems fine but really struggles in larger groups).  

Any advise on how to get a kid over the nervous point?  With kindergarten coming up in the coming few years I really want her to be confident and able to make friends.  I was always the kid growing up with very few friends and it was tough, and i dont want that on her and cant help but put the blame on myself thinking I did something wrong.",4.477533539731682,4.6517085490196095,4.997588579291367,87.91756965944273,69.71895424836602,7.22641898864809,28.52356381148951,6.339386263674448,1.1683555555555554,1160,38,247,6,19,371,146,306,0.139,0.7440000000000001,0.11699999999999999,-0.6155,1,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,1,1,4,0,14,30,0,6,9,0,32,5,1,6,2,44,54,26,0,2,5,1,1,5,4,3,0,3,0,7,11,24,0,0,3,5,0,7,9,9,1,0,9,4,49,21,35,41,4,39,0,1,0,4,57,17,0,3,19,173,60,1,0.08894727943443467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906785194569206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401126190744252,0.0,0.0,0.060487200147593526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663073985421508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844287192886357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324041060479518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931132294487553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783836363821238,0.0,0.5212277452619347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919972872085923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009041817940648,0.0449744170487639,0.06354395420046692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27488178979111066,0.0,0.046471282340918116,0.0,0.10110157738689636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540295439425804,0.05961948647671993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172757391551885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211135696928968,0.0,0.17811899912828796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099686983802066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860162532567805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126706717470252,0.093335207223539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18499453215869974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408392936701556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941658323503515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396380966191587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460923146418584,0.14146889337729282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097426257092327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715621740797638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847596127952695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103341225422438,0.0,0.0,0.09298700898974023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569938251278559,0.0,0.0,0.051865873933292166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768218908632953,0.0,0.07339082084609032,0.10492681990994923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997428635038306,0.0,0.16052216965055802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724988688370244,0.0,0.05727913170466727
parenting,hrhrhr123,2020/03/09,"Daughter threatening with suicide Hi all,

My boyfriend’s daughter (12) who lives with her mum and siblings in another city about 3hrs from us was admitted to the hospital to be watched for a day last week as she was mentioning suicide. She’s now back in school and seems ok but apparently her friends told the teacher that they’re worried about her. Her mum only told my bf today about it. We have no clue why would she feel this way, but this is not the first time shes talking about killing herself, the first time was couple of months ago and she brushed it off. My bf speaks to her almost every day on the phone and goes down to be with her every 3rd weekend. She’s not super open with him (or anyone for that matter), they don’t really tend to have deep conversations. Her mum re-married and had a bunch (4 I think) more kids so she might not have the capacity to pay enough attention to her as the other kids are much younger and problematic. What can we do to help her?
She’s such a beautiful, lovely girl, I want to make sure she’s happy in life.

Thanks for the advice in advance!",3.575302249932232,5.129741612903229,4.070262943887233,88.61615071835185,72.963133640553,7.317863919761454,26.128761181892113,7.928766900206844,1.350180482515587,858,29,180,12,17,270,135,217,0.11699999999999999,0.743,0.14,0.7631,1,0,0,0,0,2,23.0,3,0,1,4,8,8,1,0,11,1,17,2,0,1,2,32,28,12,3,2,6,5,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,3,9,13,0,0,5,1,1,1,5,1,0,2,6,4,29,7,31,18,5,25,0,0,1,1,47,9,0,4,14,120,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482507899792907,0.13137557794742424,0.0,0.1484067890633832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540679642985875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362900321651143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396118007359678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639869967338918,0.0,0.19116107466512244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313630077946438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497397063028348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493735032786268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521277061398265,0.0,0.0,0.1145035018352312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577679242141157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993392830334868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396785712573406,0.0,0.0,0.12080757992581148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468220203534,0.0,0.0,0.13086851482694462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376160073968385,0.0,0.09892858142924787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572230269446157,0.0,0.0,0.11829652625546695,0.0,0.10894838085531787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271725663777127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494448721895744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999227152392064,0.0,0.13492107469093678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324226374518548,0.0,0.13968229599189708,0.0,0.0,0.11912227925859124,0.0,0.13644807006641502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496434907650383,0.0,0.0,0.17284009088036412,0.0,0.14048185306375013,0.2832341554224279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827343578803315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741567293529301,0.11763893589632342,0.1188818241348415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337327624441447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051027388402932,0.0,0.10528121097478868,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cynthiapineda4156,2020/03/09,"Much needed help..! Me and my s.o have been together for 8 years now we have had MULTIPLE bumps in the road because of his choices,recently we had a bump in the road that has cause a few court orders and i delt with them the best i could, now fast forward to today hes been jobless for a year and not to mention im 7ms pregnant i recently had to leave my job due to the pregnancy and he is showing little to no interest in working i feel like all that time i was blind as to what he really was this whole time because the only job hes ever really had or cared about was the one his mistress was at, he stays stuck to the living room tv and plays video games LEGIT all day and spends no time with me or his children 2yo daughter 4yo son im starting to feel used and neglected here he only acknowledges me when he wants something and its really coming down on me i dont want to believe it but i feel like its the truth, im stuck and dont know what to do.i pay for everything the house is under my name and so are the vehicles i pay the bills the mortgage everything you can think of im honestly not even happy anymore i feel irritated to be around him i get so mad and so sad because of the way he is and ive tried explaining to him what i need and want from him and he just gets offended and acts like hes going to do something about it but never does . im not sure what to do anymore i dont know if i should ask him for some time apart or just have him leave the house in general i dont wanna lose my family but i feel like i have a pet more than a so called loving husband im tired of doing the work im tired of doing the cleaning and the cooking i just want to rest!!!! I know im at fault for the most part for allowing this but i dont wanna be a part of this anymore i really dont at this point id rather be alone with my kids than with anyone ever again and i know that might sound selfish but i really dont care at this point, am i overreacting?",1.2540102778835198,2.760985955399065,3.3594251998477382,91.48399505138944,79.11737089201878,6.8589265321659685,21.60741022712854,7.730073105063049,0.7167026519477222,1531,43,356,24,37,522,195,426,0.151,0.769,0.08,-0.9785,6,1,2,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,1,4,19,21,2,0,24,0,42,5,0,3,7,79,71,32,0,12,16,3,5,4,0,2,3,1,3,2,16,25,1,1,12,6,4,4,13,7,0,1,12,7,48,14,51,53,12,45,0,3,1,1,35,20,0,7,24,238,64,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271283243582641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015170455416293,0.04233884103425045,0.0,0.0,0.053903449025214524,0.056607243792372475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073443772135654,0.0,0.0,0.068220522144349,0.06354479988035397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182959504074765,0.0,0.12347206732258435,0.0622028121070873,0.0,0.052159539250746775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834524505157595,0.0,0.0,0.03905054618383872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298880585581247,0.0,0.496759288263149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03999352874734279,0.10954414229344166,0.0,0.0,0.10883911607438826,0.0,0.05708232842747533,0.0,0.15308265372535154,0.12977347268331565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327105665475957,0.0,0.034412670086249535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445793027314214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04058622569227872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973602265370708,0.0,0.0,0.5232459146384707,0.0,0.12017554240812428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310953111204574,0.0,0.0,0.1282300590976514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832912637048695,0.06068825866226366,0.05346786202382022,0.0,0.0,0.06774135897620849,0.0,0.0,0.054649866103334326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423530612201375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451213496992625,0.08979596745786945,0.04670085592589451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041031093252559436,0.09210390648325807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114220350714875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448100398234325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939534023618483,0.0,0.05978705321403596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093230619155763,0.0,0.0,0.04285848554267359,0.06453957460040789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05706883538138442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03879879526652188,0.0,0.0,0.14123168041749856,0.1391895060501772,0.05739550377259023,0.0,0.0,0.04111032323385831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052296837576801036,0.0,0.0,0.14285878143888964,0.04806276285362582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760330685409419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816406054874529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779860379284261
parenting,zedkayen,2020/03/09,"When will I get a hug? My 21 month old son is an awesome kid. Super inquisitive, has 50+ words, great sleeper, great eater.... but he has yet to hug anyone. He is happy to sit in my lap and let me cuddle him, and he’ll reach up to be picked up, but never once have his little arms wrapped around me. He doesn’t hold on when being held (with his legs either) and despite my hug lessons- nada! He will rest his head on me when I’m cuddling him, and that’s as close as it gets (the head resting is reserved for me only, and he doesn’t even do that for my husband). Do I just want to too much? When will I get a hug back!",1.6847014925373145,2.4829095597014934,3.285253731343285,95.37579104477614,76.5373134328358,5.6585074626865675,20.86268656716418,4.935628992294339,-0.32854985074626875,467,10,115,1,10,155,86,134,0.0,0.763,0.237,0.9856,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,2,10,8,0,0,4,0,16,10,4,1,1,19,23,13,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,16,8,15,15,4,18,0,0,0,6,14,8,0,0,9,75,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921740442836584,0.0,0.0,0.18997526991285615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640949055608235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095167481750542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33448516606155315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705584801234979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22717308304216635,0.0,0.0,0.4380292157392617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822058343131087,0.0,0.0,0.21388739548951127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703374543114422,0.0,0.15687687909086573,0.0,0.1645907241581729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239321484505014,0.22726885229252916,0.0,0.16230375616596066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587151682343936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AniMeagan,2020/03/09,"How do I tell my son about his father’s suicide? My husband (24M) recently decided to end his life, leaving me (24F) and our son (2M) struggling to figure out what to do now. My son is still quite young, but I have a feeling that he knows what’s going on. The funeral will be in a couple days, and I’ll tell him that his daddy is sleeping/has to go, but I have no idea what to possibly tell him when he’s older and starts to ask what exactly happened to his dad. Has anyone gone through a similar situation? I’m not a born homemaker, so I’m struggling on what I should do.",4.348384074941451,3.8039761803278687,6.102224824355973,82.35483606557378,69.98360655737704,9.594379391100704,31.362997658079625,9.23628265651192,2.4616800936768137,442,17,99,8,7,154,77,122,0.128,0.857,0.015,-0.9187,0,0,0,0,0,1,18.0,1,0,0,1,6,2,0,2,5,0,11,1,0,1,1,15,21,8,2,1,3,6,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,5,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,15,0,13,17,0,17,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,0,10,63,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324787220797396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17815307652823692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085717035137427,0.0,0.12289902275185995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878452556744009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635567428192973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21660560156941136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685164976143084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151253244037777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472984945982007,0.0,0.0,0.20178141524991905,0.0,0.0,0.1346020925253079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483403877802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268993295522114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881605030215783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21420367669508106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488328601148195,0.0,0.1521859044194147,0.0,0.0,0.3984410044026368,0.0,0.20844779539198854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4996881035688224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KarenWhite7,2020/03/09,"Should I vaccinate my Child? I have recently become a proud new mother of a beautiful baby boy, Derek. Obviously, like any other parent, I have done a lot of research before I gave birth to him, and one of the topics I researched was side effects of vaccines. The list of side effects include diseases and disorders such as autism, mercury poisoning and worst of all, premature death. I have read how the government knows about all of this and doesn’t do anything due to population control. At this point I am certain that I won’t vaccinate him, but my friends and husband aren’t very supportive, so I would like to ask more people regarding this topic and if you vaccinated your child and why!

Thanks everyone!",8.385081788440566,8.157396450381682,8.192540894220281,69.65832061068703,61.59541984732825,11.760523446019633,39.32497273718648,11.20814326018867,4.598837731733914,569,27,96,14,7,183,91,131,0.055,0.7759999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9379,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,4,4,9,1,0,6,0,12,1,0,4,4,21,17,12,1,3,2,3,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,3,5,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,15,7,13,11,5,8,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,2,6,69,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477801596898026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882992264663386,0.0,0.20315813803734545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24000492023603595,0.18491719160626333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24373478981186825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490593021613775,0.0,0.0,0.22238644938517996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076516983574579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789533443450858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942943466270264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123361197127661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18475157602684725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098820616798636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472567810826689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24130015323218715,0.0,0.0,0.15065733707541884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054308428706136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173716133963812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145701785844566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466039963683843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007243437593464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793058233467005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19609100608748228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543727819933229,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ReeferChiefer24,2020/03/09,"Kind of weirded out.. So, I've Googled to no avail.. I hope some of you may have experienced the same thing and may be able to help me ease my mind on this one. 

My 2yr old daughter has been having some itchiness in her nether region due to, I believe, pull-ups. We've been struggling with potty training. So, I started putting 'medicine' there for her but mostly petroleum jelly or diaper rash cream. Now, she refers to them as medicine and if she sees them, she'll say, ""it's scratching, need medicine"" and I'm knowing that's not the case. 

I'll tell her no and she throws a full tantrum and it's starting to weird me out a bit. She seems to enjoy it. I, myself, was abused as a child and by her being so young my brain has went to, 'she learned that from somewhere or someone'. Which is pretty illogical because she's not around too many people. I think this is just triggering for me and I was hoping someone with similar experiences would share theirs in hopes of putting my mind at ease and help me make more logical sense out of this.",2.5566836995401125,4.6471605242718494,3.0733725089422594,92.33900102197242,77.25242718446603,6.084414920797138,24.919775166070515,7.0608816371341465,0.8628970873786409,812,29,173,9,19,252,129,206,0.09,0.77,0.14,0.9022,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,1,3,0,8,10,1,1,5,0,16,2,2,2,0,42,29,17,0,6,7,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,10,14,0,0,6,0,0,4,4,4,0,1,5,5,30,6,27,18,7,19,0,0,2,0,22,9,0,12,6,117,40,1,0.149808149259513,0.17749816006267288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336101401300615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132165731962896,0.0,0.0,0.16878248375927393,0.0,0.0,0.16355169902090266,0.0,0.0,0.1672354391031996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654111590588245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20082648925678726,0.0,0.0,0.4463798831545156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600213435467256,0.08233064101146151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999981029100684,0.15188195003035745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025270504984941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108084446376214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719845220469364,0.0,0.10151387900362216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385810809144436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240874479875724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30119713458855946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913345314999578,0.0,0.0,0.11937769923336287,0.1363797126852615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25386391744353226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120699582083919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661200444246298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309389255142778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952587771430693,0.0959910130575506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388736552271915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641941102817633,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stonetelescope,2020/03/09,"Do we feed the babysitter? We just started using a babysitter for our 11mo.  She's great, but my wife just walked in on her eating food out of our fridge.  What's the protocol here?  Do babysitters typically expect to have full run of our fridge?  My gut says it's kind of ghetto of her to eat our food instead of bringing/buying her own - I don't expect my employer to feed me.  On the other hand, is this some unspoken agreement between the guild of sitters and the ruthless parental class?  If not, how do we politely say ""don't eat our food""?",3.178369678089304,5.010142766355145,4.0447975077881635,87.23880581516096,74.60747663551402,6.6247144340602295,26.84215991692627,7.3871296695380915,1.3893642782969888,424,16,84,5,9,136,70,107,0.0,0.888,0.11199999999999999,0.9203,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,8,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,0,7,10,2,2,0,15,9,4,0,3,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,8,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,17,3,15,9,3,8,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,1,61,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5614652120640488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6634998242315776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016508152177625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904649621636541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20309174563030308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909030538652983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945943570995527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796916284796705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sammyren,2020/03/09,"Help with defiant kid Hi, I'm a Caregiver who's really passionate about his job in an orphanage of sorts & lately I've been having trouble with a kid of mine. As I can't go into details on how the child is raised & what circumstances they're currently in I'll refer to the kid is Case 1.

So Case 1 is currently with us for about a year now currently 12 years of age. The first few months were fine. We found out early that *they* were really slow at learning & often times go into tantrums because of it but we managed it well as we've done with many other kids at the orphanage before.

The trouble really begins when *they're* at the age of 12. We suspect that because Case 1 had a big sorting test coming up at the end of the year & *they're* under a lot of stress. It just seems like *they've* completely given up, probably because of the really really bad scores *they* had up till this point & not seeing any results to their hard work. 

Case 1 started running away from a lot of things after that as a coping mechanism & *they've* been returning late for no good reason & is often very keen on pushing others away by either being mean or completely ignoring them. Case 1 would often do over the top acts to get attention & acknowledgment from peers & the other caregivers only to push them away after *they've* gotten the attention *they* wanted.  

We've tried talking to the child, we have active psychologists & counselors working here too but all of it is not working because the child is not willing to open up to anybody. Is there anything I can do to help this child?",3.2099566408032882,5.334811099041534,4.37731058877225,83.5897084664537,75.38977635782747,7.53852122318576,24.916590597900505,8.418075326091056,1.7731306252852574,1266,43,238,24,28,414,169,313,0.09,0.823,0.087,-0.1927,4,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,5,0,6,5,16,12,1,1,22,0,23,1,0,3,1,44,37,10,0,2,8,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,8,15,13,0,1,10,0,0,7,5,6,1,1,10,2,15,6,55,24,5,55,0,0,1,1,25,24,0,9,25,155,30,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7838354331218259,0.0,0.049195678719199484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05953207411854061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390571546071404,0.0,0.06040333162817391,0.1763983346487205,0.0,0.06155851209670955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062317035575431924,0.15170038863568291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403194270747404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407437072111859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153486627419145,0.0,0.07932029773133835,0.0,0.0,0.03779619936341147,0.0,0.08222831784234796,0.06067782427241567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480506302356982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969798930998813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178920346230519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632119706462277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03534310542023165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300675809473645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334438465889664,0.0,0.07880266775588242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05774344307717221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055020064396669996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838745990050811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799792305439293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317236932798696,0.0743805891661369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057647955471442074,0.0658582939240531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051204704003087735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286859128369939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814651342117149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04806143361428671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0421837490293268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04911610632076616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870196473002729,0.0,0.0,0.059690500378140436,0.04266973928964817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504498947695525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799956182354605,0.0,0.0,0.05139034767504441,0.0,0.0,0.13975944102793622
parenting,ta1111111123,2020/03/09,"How to tell my parents I am going to be a father Hi.

I am 20 and learned very recently I am going to be a father and the mother is 17. I am going to college and I am still living with my parents. I did not plan ahead for this but got some jobs to start saving money. I am deathly afraid of how my parents are going to react and I don't know how I should tell them. I am excited to be a parent but I am just going to have to bear through this, and I don't want to upset my parents too much. 

Any help is appreciated.",0.4568695652173922,1.7712698608695658,3.5680434782608725,89.9642391304348,80.82608695652173,5.643478260869566,21.065217391304348,6.2581,0.17719130434782615,394,11,92,3,10,143,61,115,0.012,0.8590000000000001,0.128,0.9266,6,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,2,6,4,0,2,4,0,19,0,0,4,0,20,28,10,1,2,4,8,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,1,5,3,2,0,0,2,0,17,2,15,22,2,9,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,4,73,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968960334850001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048931759100765,0.0,0.11395985551339735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550602018130602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413963430050264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830711865829981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258186151187185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047443261411606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7910746536138383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068870444207954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085301885948736,0.0,0.11379028745824622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490798043418468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756668215494072,0.08404251338019247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ashby238,2020/03/09,"A bit of a read but I hit a point in parenting last night that just about killed me. So last night my almost 15yo son said he wanted to watch Hook. Great, I love this movie! We started it and I started crying almost immediately. Now, I love Peter Pan. I read Peter to my boy when he was an infant and again when he was 7 or so. He knows the story, we’ve seen the movies but Hook never hit me so hard. My boy is on the cusp. He wants to watch the kids movies and Shameless, he knows way too much about sex and not nearly enough, he makes poor decisions and wants to play with his puppy and build a fort and ride bikes with his boys and check out girls. He talks about getting his license and getting a job and what he wants to do as a grownup and I’m not ready.
I’m watching Hook and he’s asking questions and I’m looking at this almost 6’tall boy and thinking he’s just like Peter, mischievous and open and loving and I hope he never forgets what he is like right now. I hope he remembers, I don’t want him to grow up and forget what it is like to be a child because it is so hard to remember when you are an adult and have a mortgage and a career and family. I forget all the time. 
Sorry for the ramble, I guess “Hook” made my sons too soon adulthood hit me like a ton of bricks.",2.280794236513792,3.451443833948338,3.46352134949921,93.21563345633459,75.60516605166052,6.047513617993324,20.65383939553681,6.1826913282559595,-0.034999086276577,993,21,228,6,21,322,140,271,0.10300000000000001,0.736,0.16,0.9686,3,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,1,1,0,0,18,12,1,0,18,0,11,4,0,2,3,59,41,32,1,7,7,3,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,10,9,26,0,0,7,4,2,2,5,1,0,0,5,8,23,11,23,32,5,28,0,0,5,4,40,9,0,8,20,131,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376705587837842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508301811269047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852072953449959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271658292726093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347104646470335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614387854857205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059649428271084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745340608434718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392633932727455,0.12382621061505884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013846765502414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232860283165111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154410507862364,0.0,0.12435890632689656,0.0,0.12354912844832402,0.18324931213869214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966061049105853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09439145592533883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30434830340741303,0.10635983963880052,0.07503086523585327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263022842863703,0.0,0.1733865336082721,0.0,0.0,0.2109679856090392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481187619484757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625856877222263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591874593146735,0.0,0.22486980249363925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546647345832002,0.09599281431208533,0.1069224036980944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582761602497905,0.1591209432164617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034646562713773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202425401061224,0.0,0.0,0.06554395796866844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33149538185788074,0.08922144660528494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HoodratHoochiemama,2020/03/09,"Has anyone had experience with a child who is afraid of loosing baby teeth? My daughter is 6 years old. She lost her first tooth in January in a traumatic way. The tooth wasn’t loose at all. She was running in the kitchen, tripped on a toy and knocked her face hard on the ground. Blood rushed out, she was spitting blood out into the sink when we noticed she lost a tooth. Obviously not an ideal way to experience something for the first time. 

Now she has a real loose tooth. It’s very loose and she’s afraid of loosing it. We’ve told her that her first lost tooth experience was abnormal and everything. She’s barely talking because she doesn’t want anyone to see it and yesterday she only had a few bites of food all day because she didn’t want to loose it while eating. 

When I woke her up for school today she threw up within a minute of getting her out of bed. I know she’s not sick and it was only because of not eating yesterday. Regardless, she’s not allowed to go to after vomiting. So now we’re home because of a very loose tooth. 

Any anyone experienced anything similar? She obviously can’t miss school and I can’t miss work every time she has a loose tooth.",2.8969752707950143,4.976229042918463,3.93027590435316,86.64629470672389,76.16738197424894,7.013202534232577,25.25832822399346,7.957251820313856,1.4383641528714488,929,33,187,15,21,300,114,233,0.141,0.836,0.023,-0.9714,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,8,5,8,0,2,15,0,16,18,12,1,4,27,30,10,0,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,7,12,4,0,1,1,0,5,9,7,0,3,14,3,26,1,29,16,3,38,0,5,1,0,27,14,0,0,17,115,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107574135252428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500905211857441,0.0,0.09811038629964937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29070898353952823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688898427650827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24398982529659244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045053567928036,0.0,0.10714996206603712,0.3498689694929891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042331175478716,0.14416494799691634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228910675645321,0.0,0.06775718927765857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068004073695698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959040905676732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655218533727138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904380271105893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357361975054408,0.12510450312587273,0.0,0.0,0.1813489569148984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570189703163454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413201207830342,0.09500531040504624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178370485024456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582694670388096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390398024632497,0.0,0.11300948177107288,0.11392270398665268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19674295368435216,0.1406416513114203,0.18926736645068398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679577787942774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677571545142076
parenting,breee42,2020/03/09,"How do I help my 1 year old sleep earlier? My issue is that my 1yr is overtired and falls asleep at 11pm-12am and I need advice on how to change that. 

I work late shifts from 3pm-11:30pm and so my partner is the one doing the night routine..he has trouble getting her to sleep at an earlier bed time. I have to be up at 7am to get my eldest ready for school and my 1yo will wake up at 8:30am...just in time to put her in the car for school drop off. She has her first sleep at 11am to 1:30pm and then she’s usually tired at around 3:30pm but that’s when I’m picking up my eldest from school If I’m off work or she’s in daycare and refuses to sleep there. I’m assuming she’s well overtired and everyone in the house is exhausted. 
I don’t know how to adjust her naps to suit our lives and routines. She seems to want to nap at the most inconvenient times. 
She needs to be able to adjust to our lives as at this point in time, we can’t move our schedules around to suit her.

Does anyone have any helpful advice on what to do? Currently watching Moana at 10:30pm with her fml",1.445334591986576,3.271890546255509,2.6089741976085605,95.61046989721001,79.66079295154185,5.909712607509965,21.382211034193414,6.868970318607317,0.2617796937277115,842,24,195,9,21,269,123,227,0.055999999999999994,0.892,0.051,-0.2731,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,3,9,3,0,0,6,0,16,8,6,4,0,29,26,18,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,5,12,0,1,5,2,0,4,2,2,1,2,0,1,28,1,45,23,1,43,0,0,1,0,20,24,0,5,14,122,33,5,0.12137953849802922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237221360452574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254224846038981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487139553266368,0.0,0.0,0.2161070464395979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840345737846395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622005210190101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598335064071486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324537343965767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683159821903567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627162921687342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400556906979349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668870279781025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670702000935061,0.0,0.1369214063463376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143607125399847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900724021395354,0.0,0.18000277960348182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390647440496353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736740741758126,0.0,0.08224991661341141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147428972146629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201996144400865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36852771931288,0.0,0.11049937315195613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858687893964138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28310954002637073,0.13950792385205182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336824132835461,0.0,0.0715927966415402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913478220628653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673149929978335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816444320824027
parenting,SlickRebel231,2020/03/09,"Teen Woes Have Begun! I'm trying to find out how to approach this situation. My step-daughter \[13\] recently succumbed to the effects of peer pressure and - long story short - got into quite a bit of trouble following a fight she instigated as well as some very inappropriate behavior and content (language and conversation topics) on social media. 

I've always been wary of her having access to social media at her age, mainly because it's just not healthy for a child's psyche. But, her dad was allowing her to have them, claiming that he trusted her and whatnot. I wasn't going to push the matter very much until these issues surfaced.

After we found out about the fight, we went through her phone to try to confirm some of the things we were told by the school administration. Her punishment has concluded (which was almost just as much of a punishment for us). Immediately, we stripped her of social media. I've added an app to her phone which allows me to restrict websites, applications, and schedule screentime. Additionally, until we are certain we can trust her, I will periodically go through her phone and review her conversations. I'm not trying to invade any private conversations, but it's our responsibility to ensure her safety, and this is the only way I know to keep those tabs on her.

Well, during my peruse of her phone tonight, I noticed a conversation with a friend of hers. I always read these conversations, because this child tends to be a bad influence on ours and has been involved in a lot of the poor choices our daughter has made. Today, I noticed that our daughter was talking about wanting to go live with her mother. This is troubling to me for a couple of reasons: a) we provide her with a very good life, and b) her mother has chosen to take a very hands-off role with her. Even when she's at her mom's house, she's constantly texting us about how bored or hungry she is. She's left with her infant sister frequently - it's just a bad living situation for her. And when she's not watching her sister, she's allowed to do virtually anything she wants to there.

How do we go about this? Do we talk to her? If so, *how* do we talk to her? And once we've done so, what's the next step? I hate that she feels this way, but we're only doing what we know to do for us to keep her safe. Sorry for the poor construction of this post. It's 4 am, I just got off work, and I'm so tired I can't concentrate long enough to really word everything right. Thanks in advance.",5.924314544189286,6.528398651356998,6.5509874739039695,76.53363500347947,66.66179540709811,8.89188587334725,30.7892136395268,8.841846274778883,2.4304304244954764,1970,71,366,30,30,646,232,479,0.111,0.8190000000000001,0.07,-0.9658,1,0,0,1,2,0,68.0,18,0,1,5,22,21,5,1,23,0,30,2,0,12,1,74,55,31,0,3,12,8,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,22,32,0,4,8,1,2,10,5,12,2,0,14,2,68,9,70,39,8,45,0,1,1,0,88,15,0,6,17,257,90,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838280099120825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468840325522203,0.0,0.0,0.060021972646424775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072633056751252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739209675032913,0.1076088011468812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636050622458407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538111540667513,0.0,0.0,0.0976615031492082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032385274147099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119943421551084,0.0,0.05829698200524035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932523323134429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462850360576997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067092541942443,0.0,0.0,0.09677599465415264,0.06819189525876386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006479419652264,0.0740309475047886,0.14118421744218312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714159321824519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184383140570287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212380321321446,0.0,0.15690469672218071,0.0,0.0,0.0970142443417235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958981770788937,0.0,0.06234287722416405,0.0,0.0,0.15587596733226095,0.15622023088460893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503817877815225,0.0,0.08351673217331461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337274137233386,0.0,0.0,0.1297671504682632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386886756364717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009763758650508,0.0,0.0939973803759566,0.0,0.13425621461881088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453170510867425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387873076657796,0.0882870411073667,0.0,0.05654363774086853,0.09074922441536497,0.08714921824937931,0.0,0.0,0.07537625282899084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893270258590132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842297049958765,0.0,0.2699195164245955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880337675623216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636290870932834,0.21282774395519,0.0,0.0812608553720802,0.0,0.0,0.05863811881141617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144551360780586,0.08366315140008014,0.08433922784328286,0.0,0.1797746672168621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185091267733709,0.0,0.0,0.2913053889466861,0.10411979227247922,0.14011836959428695,0.0,0.0,0.158718354165084,0.08182082973800386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425662866346361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shuboni,2020/03/09,"Pretending to sleep? Hi everyone!

I've tried searching the net and even older posts in this thread for advice but I'm getting nowhere and losing sanity fast.

My daughter, 11 months, likes to pretend to sleep. She does it very convincingly, too. When I put her to sleep and, as soon as I shut the door to her nursery, she scrambles over to the baby monitor and cries as loud as she can. It's like a game to her. So, I'll pick her up and soothe her, rock her back to sleep and hum her a lullaby. She'll act like she's asleep but do it again.

This goes on four or five times until she's finally asleep for the night. Sometimes, she'll get up in the middle of the night to play the game again.  I tried the Cry It Out method once but she just made herself sick. I'm considering co-sleep but I know that's a bad habit. It's just that that's the only time she'll pretend to sleep but won't get back up.

Maybe it's actually something waking her up? I couldn't imagine what. I make sure to shut the door extremely carefully with no noise.

Any advice someone can give? All help is appreciated!",1.0884077380952384,3.3148155491071414,2.483928571428571,93.87773809523813,83.24107142857143,5.8761904761904775,20.047619047619047,7.1686216300943375,0.3235244047619048,849,24,191,12,24,274,124,224,0.09699999999999999,0.743,0.16,0.9364,0,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,1,11,9,0,0,13,0,9,9,8,3,2,24,19,19,0,1,8,1,0,3,0,4,1,1,2,0,12,8,0,0,2,7,0,2,3,2,0,2,1,1,25,7,29,13,1,30,0,1,0,0,24,12,0,1,18,112,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.1103034678572102,0.0,0.0,0.2209082077494644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686601297711193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17383011435079024,0.0943774614695988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524422233619484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483219066027761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891554998301616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465693608135987,0.0,0.0,0.10800744953969003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382163825072902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716453312918756,0.10843112572485836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576333852494617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062119735787955724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656659896119734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264545156567928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695413589380533,0.0754501077090543,0.0,0.11355639340471575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022150645074514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21214679035525866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037598134860993,0.0,0.08596635098898353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825394193784106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362893687494753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6786851103681826,0.0,0.09577211645596344,0.08701798257299133,0.1117920864400532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065318447447262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182038279496386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348336943926824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326369502624288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,69trumpman2020,2020/03/09,"Why can’t I tattoo my baby Why am I aloud to circumcise my son but I’m not allowed to tattoo my son, I was interested in getting matching skull tattooswith my 5 month old son but recently told I’m not allowed. Circumciseons are permanent but perfectly acceptable why is that. I’m heavily tattooed my self so it should be acceptable for me. Oh and plus ear piercing baby’s is alowed aswell",1.4842822966507183,4.20989513157895,3.5624401913875623,81.8275358851675,91.10526315789473,7.500478468899523,27.961722488038287,8.296473431620573,2.8927000000000005,314,16,56,9,11,106,52,76,0.0,0.805,0.195,0.9455,3,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,2,2,2,1,13,13,6,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,9,4,5,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887654366053898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744731928550574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990109666297221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281357394953031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972688480859173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27228546526296826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7713791591702053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QueenoftheWildHunt,2020/03/09,"Anyone have experience with children and sleep apnea? My husband (has sleep apnea) suggested my 5 yo might have sleep apnea and I totally blew him off thinking it was something that affected adults only.  Tonight, I read an article that says children can have it and some of the symptoms children present with and now I’m not sure.  

If your child has been diagnosed what was your experience?  Did they get treatment?  Did they outgrow it?  Were they initially diagnosed with ADHD?",5.295357142857141,8.190680440476196,5.2216666666666685,76.32750000000001,71.97619047619048,8.485714285714286,34.3095238095238,9.188382445141503,3.706195238095239,383,20,60,9,8,119,57,84,0.055,0.945,0.0,-0.5457,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,13,6,3,1,2,15,16,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,5,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,1,10,1,5,9,2,4,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,3,3,45,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23810512150029445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853207823260716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40218097180227375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38760425803556775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351099317133264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101769967154184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506813279105306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981764289887208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755521387279664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5947976882052836,0.0,0.0,0.15252462173105416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18672840764115853,0.20592546376366533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694909945325744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ViseumUK,2020/03/09,INSPIRATIONAL PARENTING? https://www.viseum.co.uk/discrimination/institutional-discrimination/ Mixed-race parents fighting for their children's lives.,24.71,33.172884333333336,18.015000000000004,-20.737499999999983,39.0,19.0,67.5,13.023866798666859,14.593,135,9,6,6,2,39,15,15,0.172,0.55,0.278,0.368,2,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694827806138373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9292375771727416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fezzikthebfg,2020/03/09,17 spoiled child ran away 17 year old daughter left school on friday at the end of the day with her maternal grandmother. I had no knowledge of it. I ended up calling the cops and finding this out for myself after leaving work. She apparently went to the court house and filed papers. I have 4 other children she is the oldest and has always had a hard time adjusting to my rules. Her mom is not in the picture and the Grandparents believes everything she says. Any advice would be much appreciated.,4.4374468085106376,6.6392205638297925,5.06058510638298,79.70875000000002,72.08510638297872,7.67872340425532,28.77127659574468,8.472884824447931,2.303110638297872,399,16,70,7,8,128,75,94,0.039,0.9259999999999999,0.036000000000000004,0.1779,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,10,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,2,10,0,13,4,1,17,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,8,49,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713845559579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763792774339443,0.0,0.0,0.1441495305049255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915647008146498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388220126621904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164490664330498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367056384506829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754919414596128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19050848586485272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937403172852992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988699114225172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24458943674570005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224449768448668,0.2303102779315958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482612863060675,0.0,0.0,0.15582521691809456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22243096503101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857016452760576,0.0,0.2145289178486385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360369397936445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19650194207602806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431953408514545,0.0,0.0,0.1505801867705807,0.0,0.0,0.136504250863165
parenting,ConversionPlastics,2020/03/09,"How to get my 19 month old to start talking Hey I’m 27 yr old father to a 19 month old boy and he’s a great kid. He hasn’t started saying words yet and he only makes noises. I talk with him often but I was with a friend of mine who also has a toddler and she told me that I need to start having conversations with him so he can pick up stuff. I’m kinda confused and not sure what she’s talking about. I read books to him often, sing songs to him, and have general conversation as if he can talk. He can definitely understand a lot of things and he usually responds by pointing or shaking his head. I’m wondering what I can do to get him to start talking? I saw a specialist a weeks back and she told me he should already be talking by now and should be able to say at least 10 words. She gave me this whole development packet with ages and what they should be doing at those ages. He can point to some body parts too but he can’t say any words. Is this normal at this age? His mom told me that she didn’t start talking until she was 2.",1.073488472312004,2.9117144570135807,2.823787976729154,93.56147812971344,80.9004524886878,5.83848308554191,20.02607196724844,6.868970318607317,0.13811036414565825,809,21,187,9,21,268,120,221,0.033,0.9159999999999999,0.051,0.6962,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,2,7,0,22,2,2,3,1,39,41,18,0,6,5,2,0,0,1,3,0,4,0,2,12,13,0,0,2,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,8,5,26,3,25,27,5,26,0,0,1,0,48,6,0,9,19,120,38,2,0.10100026760512024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145630683300556,0.08076987751342304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868364541823542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766297141388162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218852842882078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803255620971948,0.0,0.10553694238272034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135315159691238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036554131407629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586681571412431,0.0,0.0,0.06741846290634895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829029272584644,0.16123490000729446,0.0,0.0,0.07489041865945276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895881786571628,0.0,0.0,0.3179483723334874,0.0,0.0,0.07681525476005982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937344741211777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909557981167629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102759971193223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409583999604925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574425462821428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562114230554946,0.0,0.0,0.09519155692875646,0.0,0.0,0.5682613249519929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06710008989808779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895302519042176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051448405426775,0.0,0.0,0.11123752555671204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101632243060099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127631918536198,0.0,0.0,0.1095304818347886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OhOhSpaghettioo,2020/03/09,"When to move out So my parents are divorced and I’m now 16 doing my HSC course at school, so my life is really packed right now. I live with my mum mainly but I go to my dads on Wednesday afternoons and I’m at his on the weekends from Friday-saturday and Friday-Sunday every second week. I can’t ask my friends with divorced parents for advice because they are equally confused, but is now a reasonable age to move out of my dads? Of course I’d still see him from time to time, but it’s getting a bit fucking ridiculous having to pack my shit and move between 2 houses all the time, especially now that I’m in the most stressful time for my schooling. So is this a reasonable age to stop sleeping over there? And how do I bring it up? Because I’m pretty sure he will me furious.",2.388348214285717,4.210986281250001,3.838392857142861,87.89875000000002,76.8125,6.321428571428572,26.42857142857143,7.1686216300943375,1.2732321428571431,615,24,125,7,14,203,97,160,0.146,0.787,0.067,-0.9373,2,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,11,8,4,2,6,0,10,4,2,3,2,20,20,13,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,9,0,1,2,1,0,5,1,6,0,1,0,1,17,2,24,19,5,32,0,0,1,1,13,10,2,2,17,85,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413629744598988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524034356741807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637040066356338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793448964993184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188478669573208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117662473758031,0.1337385794389123,0.0755804281095933,0.0,0.08221529637808822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692163799519116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217972988600507,0.0,0.0,0.1277400478362646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4612615112411797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212622043227506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717424198021994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267479924546487,0.297475241791771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235413810978273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928132861425388,0.11527765297989732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849445400407674,0.0,0.0,0.14476743817519475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552803016869448,0.12094471574395915,0.16571093685477886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634313184862773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33741655135733617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603990403595835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mcpoopz1064,2020/03/09,"4 month Baby not sleeping long at night. Hello everyone, first time father here. We have a girl that will be 5 months old on the 18th and since she has been 3 months she has progressively gotten worse and worse at sleeping at night. We know about the 4 month regression, but the sleeping issues have been going on longer then the estimated 2-4 weeks I've read about, and started earlier too. Lately we have been lucky if she sleeps for 4-5hours at once because she is waking up about 30min-2hours right now. Often times, like tonight, she will cry a few times within 30 min, eyes closed so not awake, but hard to calm her down. She used to sleep fine in her crib, but now she has to sleep in bed with us, as she wont sleep otherwise. She is teething, breastfed, not sick. Anyone have any suggestions to help her sleep longer? I have some friends and their babies sleep like 9hours straight at night.",5.053940269749519,6.2101043699422025,4.151575144508674,90.97549373795765,68.88439306358381,7.385163776493258,24.821290944123305,7.492282038375204,0.870437764932563,708,18,148,7,12,207,110,173,0.044000000000000004,0.794,0.162,0.9688,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,1,2,9,6,0,0,6,0,17,13,12,1,0,21,22,11,0,1,7,1,1,2,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,9,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,1,4,2,18,6,22,14,2,37,0,0,1,0,23,15,0,4,23,85,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06078105941367658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249615718752756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054484854858670544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817907794589943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540585043153404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602607506184504,0.0,0.0,0.0690543055235793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050796374827855616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006638974177663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059909130211221566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328887588385128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491205827576084,0.0,0.10082386037902218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733252376382257,0.0,0.0,0.0790979596001438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285367148969052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516295467187164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378864886784548,0.0951861478298362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940359095852207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632952233288677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393556629783903,0.0,0.8049955712302137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326320191730128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563535470672853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751241756221333,0.07719510741841963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169476630348674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217049637489305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brutalbears,2020/03/09,"At the end of my rope Sorry to do this here, but I just need to rant somewhere where people might understand. I love my daughter more than life itself, but I’m so tired. She is just over a year and still will not sleep. I can count on one hand the amount of nights she has slept a full night in the past year.

My wife and I don’t live close enough to family for help (and our families aren’t the kind to help much anyways). She just hates sleep. She is the only kid in daycare who refuses to sleep. she wakes up 2-3 times a night and fights going back to sleep with everything in her.

My wife and I trade off every other shift and have become pros at it, but it’s just brutal. An entire year without sleep. I feel like a zombie. There are so many great things about our girl...but I feel like this is just going to destroy us.

We saw some friends who were traveling through town today. They have a girl who is 6 months and been sleeping for two. That broke me a little bit. 

right now I’m lying in bed as I listen to my child scream at 1 am (after I tried to put her back down for an hour) and my wife quietly cry as she tries to get her down. We will be up again before sunrise. Every night has been like this; This has to stop.",2.266505791505793,3.4133786138996167,3.1284536679536683,95.69847200772202,75.60231660231659,6.26108108108108,19.12760617760617,6.508806274219699,-0.2262850965250971,947,16,225,7,20,300,153,259,0.18,0.7120000000000001,0.107,-0.9635,1,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,5,0,1,0,17,13,4,0,13,0,22,12,9,0,0,30,36,15,0,1,10,4,3,3,1,3,2,3,1,3,13,12,0,2,3,1,1,4,4,6,0,2,5,7,31,7,38,27,7,44,0,1,1,1,32,20,0,2,23,152,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933773935004468,0.0,0.0,0.1072464499989558,0.082630440759484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601509823004887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666688076933584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600749618111073,0.10033692594296034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636327525790965,0.0,0.08727302006428206,0.0,0.1830866465604928,0.0,0.09819988248294853,0.1387457413449502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502420605285959,0.0,0.05073411468304407,0.0,0.1103756721011998,0.0,0.0,0.10706020917204677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587252004907264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301768193984528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095630297317905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112142947285548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858916076529938,0.14232392625546025,0.09732617843529917,0.0857467786123851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876423666963051,0.0,0.0,0.09845070365048204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301460287844064,0.0,0.0,0.07750944572768442,0.0,0.07138441744931709,0.07200320576185189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645113184253987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580184686988097,0.07385383461786185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269909887830026,0.06732138887712999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761880800129873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292838177140817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5830595031905023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870272586426208,0.0,0.0,0.07754934019672176,0.0811853443058674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451321365341234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05662355467111827,0.11160958479258673,0.09204556473834807,0.0,0.0,0.13185781707324667,0.0,0.09485889616593483,0.10109124403240233,0.11680710865558327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360715712207256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760011928642392
parenting,thoughtsandthingsyo,2020/03/09,"Anyone lost a loved one to this bug going around? Has anyone reading this post lost a loved one to the coronavirus?

I'm asking because I'm a curious semi-sociopathic soul moreso than because I care.

And my curiosity is piqued because half of the comments on my timeline suggest it's the end of the world as we know it and the other half I'm reading almost seem like the writer want to come down with it themselves just so they can not die and personally prove to everyone else what a not-big-deal it is.

Many of us know or love an elder human or two and they seem to have a hard time kicking this bug. 

So if you've lost someone you love, I'm only semi-sociopathic, and as a fellow human feel for your loss.",5.822844827586208,5.275184413793107,6.859439655172416,78.16640086206898,66.93103448275862,9.18103448275862,30.53879310344828,8.472884824447931,2.1739137931034485,560,18,112,7,8,189,89,145,0.069,0.737,0.19399999999999998,0.9649,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,2,4,4,10,0,0,13,0,5,4,0,0,1,22,26,12,1,2,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,9,9,0,0,6,2,0,2,1,4,0,5,3,2,9,6,16,23,0,9,1,4,0,4,17,4,0,6,3,69,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337449940268232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867820266669679,0.0,0.0,0.11890022503360916,0.12486425538924363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442580169198564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617733981319938,0.0,0.0,0.115053508944523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861828413193225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157553447746593,0.0,0.11829800818996684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762606975138527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675339419122223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590746587196022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196470568502486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680649837394566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652525951859779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43740245919239656,0.0,0.4821866871415618,0.0,0.0,0.13541287287596418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810127666903928,0.10158139604583764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662288181696563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279173353643933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26720017137101665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24318319185418186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316829410507402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788220831500177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047256313448533,0.0,0.1606609761931345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877947315192027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Random_redditor3626,2020/03/09,Son has an unhealthy obsession with glue My seven year old son has recently became obsessed with glue. I have no idea when it started but all of a sudden he has been hoarding large amounts of glue. When at target he begs for it. I have no idea what  he's doing with it but I do know I need help.,1.2092473118279583,3.1482613225806446,2.7141935483870974,94.0079569892473,80.93548387096773,5.423655913978496,21.623655913978496,6.42735559955562,0.25144301075268816,230,7,51,2,6,75,42,62,0.153,0.7909999999999999,0.055999999999999994,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,11,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,5,0,7,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,7,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21873410880239216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7367803961294073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934406417616633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24197175988801475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424315534804084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322214435553717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309801534854319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101477313342425
parenting,West-Eggplant,2020/03/09,"Became a Mom at 20- 7 1/2 years in and I feel like I am Failing My Daughter (PTSD/DEPRESSION) I've never made a post before so please bear with me and sorry for the novel. My daughter's bio father is a heroin addict (we used pills recreationally together before I got pregnant, at which time he graduated to IV heroin use.) I discovered I was pregnant just after my 20th bday- he went to jail 3 days later. My entire pregnancy was based around his drug use, rehab, jail time (second incarceration 1 day after gender ultrasound,) and enabling him- mostly to save face for myself. He started cheating with a girl who was also an IV drug user.

What I remember most was the shame. I spent my pregnancy hiding, covering for him, competing against another woman, and even drove him to/paid for drugs at times when he was withdrawing and we were supposed to spend time with my family. He told me constantly no one would want me, I'd be attractive once my belly was gone, etc. The stress sent me into labor at 27 weeks (I had to call HER to inform him-My boyfriend's girlfriend) He spent my hospital stay leaving to buy/sell drugs. I went into REAL labor, later, while my parents were out of town, and he took my car and phone to get high rather than get me to the hospital. He returned 5 hours later, high. He nodded off throughout labor/birth and left to use immediately after. When we came home, my parents confronted him and he reacted by stealing my baby shower gift cards/cash/cash value items from the nursery and disappearing. Said he'd be back in an hour and never returned. I forced myself to push through as a mother. He hasn't seen her since she was about 10 days old. He lives ten minutes away, and now has two more children. I've spent 7 1/2 years being afraid to go anywhere and chance encountering him.

I entered a relationship when she was a few months old. He seemed to be exactly what my ex wasn't, and was a dad. Our relationship has been declining for 3 years and is emotionally abusive but I find myself unable to leave- mostly due to him being the closest thing to a father she's ever known, and my own fear that if I fail- her father would be right about me.

In the past few months, I've felt all of that trauma resurface. I've felt suicidal, stopped working, and essentially fallen apart. I know my daughter has noticed the change, my anger/sadness, and told me today she heard me crying a lot. I feel like everything I pushed aside to be a good mother has come back to haunt me. I can't seem to pick up the pieces. I truly feel I have some form of PTSD due to the emotional distress I went through between pregnancy/becoming a young mom. 

I don't know what I'm asking for. Advice? Similar experiences? Hope? I just know I am failing my daughter, and I'm all she has.",3.7626092415871466,5.548501567219155,4.869363385233552,82.1321816926168,72.92265193370166,7.661962163067138,25.96890172442659,8.367750914986694,1.7692655616942914,2193,74,416,37,44,720,286,543,0.12300000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.063,-0.9877,3,0,4,0,0,0,79.0,4,0,0,6,18,18,2,5,24,0,37,10,1,7,6,75,79,28,1,6,5,15,5,2,1,2,9,2,2,3,8,31,0,1,14,1,4,16,7,12,0,4,34,8,72,6,59,35,15,82,0,3,1,0,64,21,0,9,45,256,80,7,0.0,0.08789745239506855,0.0,0.0808729297056684,0.0,0.07249301885210352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932595947387768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778975783259101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604064727446933,0.06935324340235176,0.0,0.06969953357336643,0.11408783661842642,0.0,0.0,0.08193183798441803,0.12625245656062295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757514880967868,0.08484822267975227,0.0,0.0,0.07847821324904013,0.0639040691449279,0.0,0.08016795701128494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148907114017806,0.1435301484249691,0.0,0.06389569219525901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34412559372970764,0.0,0.0,0.1668969601134814,0.0,0.0,0.08273622210116305,0.04899869253318345,0.06710485314957698,0.0,0.0,0.06667296624165407,0.07256746072584365,0.06993530071741652,0.08347908986719188,0.11253095363660286,0.10599598962029147,0.14245904809866125,0.0,0.06780402235296558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751751716787869,0.0,0.042161216917225686,0.062223111899708784,0.059332763232630086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676168994264858,0.07441390694056774,0.07368274412128471,0.14611515861510765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231090614807312,0.0,0.0,0.15710304731875452,0.08060254804886995,0.0,0.0,0.07248638295180346,0.0,0.06550698109843353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306969115262648,0.0,0.07019592679375103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376985897348754,0.11842800110744015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144325570771966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446045840383236,0.1556899909763768,0.07900492583907986,0.05026988079205479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474799800597068,0.0,0.07081826531948042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143318453425831,0.0,0.0,0.07104901292408825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734372970166366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844391152853836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159294503264132,0.08403748598371784,0.06335384285140566,0.07056721078268044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507102607906754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061366848700228536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304437232245955,0.052508738821474416,0.07907166161920512,0.0,0.062022234548950436,0.08497901317732233,0.0,0.0,0.08114667999130999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04928541848198228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303218549279978,0.0,0.07031899235266083,0.1417744710423482,0.08242260052405115,0.0,0.0,0.0724682608340302,0.0,0.0,0.2562891292810727,0.0,0.0,0.04375641339134452,0.0,0.05950697474366823,0.0,0.0,0.20631155548234156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05400778364164676,0.0,0.0,0.1053982205951606,0.0,0.0,0.1433187073267454
parenting,Ager9494,2020/03/09,"Can my parents refuse to give my son back? So quite a while ago, the father of my child && I got into a domestic dispute so I asked my caseworker to help me && my son get out of the relationship && into a safe environment && they responded that the father && I would have to pick a safe place for the child to go or else he’d be apprehended. At first we chose his mom but she was being over controlling so we moved him to my parents && then we had to get a guardianship order to “finalize” everything. It’s been 6 years && over the years I’ve been trying (not very hard, but still trying) to get him back. I’m now 25, my son is 6 && I’ve done everything they’ve asked && I’ve done everything to prove I’m stable, healthy, sober && able/willing to take him back && the court order was stated as when the father or mother are ready, able && willing then the custody/guardianship will be returned to who ever but they won’t give him back, what can I do? 
Ps the order was only temporary",5.744630321135175,6.365214941747578,6.056019417475728,79.86765870052277,67.05825242718447,8.66855862584018,32.351008215085876,8.617729084823388,2.5501565347274093,842,34,157,12,13,270,109,206,0.027999999999999997,0.892,0.08,0.8812,2,0,0,0,0,0,64.0,3,0,2,3,11,2,0,0,14,0,22,0,0,2,2,20,34,13,0,1,6,10,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,9,1,24,2,21,17,0,30,0,0,0,0,33,7,0,2,17,105,28,0,0.036942504885541766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03274730159783626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9606525266176558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907251039278732,0.0,0.0,0.1136260237289733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041434160514085216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561001732329929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03086072247318053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033416610667291784,0.0,0.0,0.09960462397397653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040468708366737965,0.0,0.031423275783554465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057902802171107326,0.07087723384746214,0.02099527686681256,0.0,0.02954629591901437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03309322812999027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02476178231019681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04326661523335618,0.0,0.039264036268778696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02809643965848051,0.0,0.0,0.08204055964938793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03859705479403545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0392929012885833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039662424900565464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02950233212217262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02777616612246786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501630716951484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03048143546266795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026242895538443032,0.0,0.0,0.047579523877378266
parenting,Obvs_Opera,2020/03/09,"Swaddle Baby Swaddle Baby Swaddle Baby Swaddle....... Ok. I'm pretty new to Reddit. Ive only been here a couple weeks. I'm too old and was still using Facebook. :o So I hope this is how it works. My baby gitl is 4 months old (and a few days) she's been attempting to roll for a while now, but literally just today started rolling ALL OVER the freaking place. She's been swaddled since the day she was born and sleeps like a dream, but I know not to swaddle babies who can roll over!  Now she's refusing to sleep. She's upset and wants to play. I'm totally worn out and so ready to collapse and sleep. Does anyone have any tips to get little baby to sleep?",1.1763859275053292,3.3548865746268675,2.9368869936034123,91.05432835820896,82.50746268656717,5.0226012793177,20.76545842217484,6.1826913282559595,0.1925070362473349,507,15,105,4,14,168,84,134,0.138,0.731,0.131,-0.4711,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,2,9,6,0,1,6,1,10,4,4,2,2,19,20,12,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,6,0,9,4,12,14,3,19,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,15,61,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164459663611302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479494315853644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165646087973567,0.0,0.21175852337843432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367060617781047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577463594702589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306277041597386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022625965071633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802075883744122,0.16454643144079753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310428797522675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856119093787308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445479882353129,0.0,0.0,0.12486244841789106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152788117935508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670249473624051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580721619550207,0.0,0.6571740656697759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162038754852108,0.0,0.1311103281265883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15561865729390306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179444572286629,0.0,0.0,0.09683463986241736,0.0,0.13169124299719068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952131981047455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a_serious_dilemma,2020/03/09,"Teenage daughter, am I in the wrong? Ok, so hi I’m a 17 year old senior, and I live with my single mom. To preface, I’m chronically ill but also an honor roll student and involved in many extracurriculars. Ok, so we frequently get in fights because I feel smothered by her. She constantly nags me about how I could have better grades or I could be better in so and so activity. In addition, she is always on me about every little thing that I do. It’s exhausting to me. I try to explain that I’ll be leaving for college in a few months and need some space to sort out my study habits and such so I don’t fail, since that will have an affect on med school acceptance and such. However, then she turns around and guilt trips me, saying how she does so much for me and can’t believe I would ever insult her like this. She says how she gives her whole life to me and I just turn around and piss on her. In reality, I feel like I base my whole life off of pleasing her, and I seldom ask her for any help. I’ve never been to a party. I rarely hang out with friends. I miss a lot of activities. I never get to do a lot of traditional “teenager” things. I get that some of it is due to me being ill, but I can’t help but feel resentment towards her for this. I will admit, I’m quite blunt in our arguments. I’m not afraid to tell her that I want freedom and I want to leave, but I never call her names (like she does to me) or say anything horrible, although I do come off cold often. Am I in the wrong here? I just don’t want to fight like this, and I want to feel like someone my age and not like a five year old. Thanks for your insight.",1.7390868083400193,3.224490444767444,3.443183640737772,91.50430232558139,77.69186046511628,6.489013632718525,22.036487570168404,7.237678284180719,0.5150239775461105,1259,35,290,15,29,420,170,344,0.156,0.664,0.18,0.8575,1,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,2,1,0,5,21,28,7,2,10,2,22,7,1,4,4,64,47,32,0,8,10,2,4,6,1,3,6,3,0,0,12,23,0,0,8,0,0,3,9,14,0,1,1,8,57,14,46,38,9,39,0,2,0,0,39,21,1,8,21,201,69,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816532576284871,0.08133030150332793,0.0,0.0,0.06646883323308432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043445297687478,0.17402461767419855,0.09137684263904636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059583442050285776,0.0,0.0,0.11012328986732478,0.0,0.17289210911971256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980689392327627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419724563383295,0.0,0.10562584290420672,0.0,0.15608023120246822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710717374644544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884144606041205,0.08235299231133321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768790879889356,0.139655744832475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551627369036021,0.0,0.15320060650066078,0.09376433268663607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103062116922545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20699220005727506,0.0,0.0,0.13807804464855222,0.28651479657702617,0.09796451991479288,0.08630917329797974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661958103476781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909642064909226,0.0,0.0,0.10857083285827736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144758361675354,0.07801781351789246,0.0,0.07185261249591172,0.07247545930795063,0.2261571034283908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513041795880188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072928521253704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396208962034137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331883173287788,0.0,0.09892149363377888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085431339386791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281762759031748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543200057353445,0.08998894914571445,0.0,0.0,0.12987268390319948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636132207317917,0.21263340528402452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306062531330361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21825393071400864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943407507191582,0.2137340295942365,0.0,0.1258870320902057
parenting,CrimsonGandalf,2020/03/09,"Teaching Secular Morality Does anyone have any resources for teaching secular morality to their children? 

I was raised Catholic, but I will NOT be using Catholicism as a model to teach my children. I’m open to other models. 


Thanks! 

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parenting,NHToStay,2020/03/09,"Peanut advice LO (7mo, baby boy) had peanut for the first time yesterday and had a full blown anaphylactic reaction (hives, facial swelling, wheezing, cough, vomiting....). Thankfully we spent the night at the hospital and with epinephrine and steroids we are back home safe and sound. 

My wife and I threw away everything containing peanuts in the house, but I can't help think that we previously enjoyed peanut products without issue, and he never reacted from contact with us. 

We currently have a follow up plans in 3 days with his PCP, and plan to see an allergist for further testing. In the meantime, I imagine that my wife and I are absolutely peanut free. 

Any parents with similar stories? We are a bit down in the dumps about this currently, although we will certainly do anything for our little guy. Do other families with this keep an absolutely peanut free environment? 

Thanks in advance 

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parenting,breakfastfordinnerma,2020/03/09,"Nannying Pay Rate In the United States, in the Midwest, what would you expect to pay for 4 children to be watched? Ages are 10 months, 4 years, 6 years, 10 years. Sitter has 10+ years of experience. Also homework is completed with the sitter, as well as pick up/drop offs, and light tidying up.",4.534999999999997,5.642299649122808,5.079780701754388,84.02388157894737,70.05263157894737,7.805263157894737,28.285087719298247,8.07648339933343,1.76479298245614,228,8,45,3,4,73,43,57,0.05,0.862,0.08800000000000001,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,5,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,11,3,0,11,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,6,24,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23809714033278745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31216760589510434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912402097372417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23764780754557804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676979119579824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115011298799292,0.0,0.0,0.7669217022544771
parenting,Holly453,2020/03/09,"Hates diaper changes, help! My LO is 16mos. He hates getting his diaper changed, he screams and flails around. It's a nightmare to change him. How do I fix this?",0.6619354838709697,3.13613067741936,1.2925161290322578,96.83877419354843,97.06451612903228,5.060645161290323,22.32903225806452,6.742157984588678,0.7593819354838707,125,5,26,2,5,38,28,31,0.237,0.6859999999999999,0.077,-0.68,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,13,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262202430645291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8064742492309469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276695716348308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017808171890493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033095297639142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,briechei,2020/03/09,"42-year-old man dating my 19-year-old daughter. Advice?? 
Sorry for the new account. Can’t remember my old password for the life of me and I recently switched phones. 

My daughter is a freshman in college. She’s my youngest and it’s been a struggle because we spent a lot of our savings on our older two. I feel very guilty about the amount of debt she’s had to take on for school, but there isn’t too much I can do. 

I recently found out that her “boyfriend” is 23 years older than her. I feel like it’s maybe a sugar baby situation because I know he gives her money regularly. I feel so ashamed that I have done something wrong to lead her to this lifestyle. It’s perfectly legal so there isn’t anything I can do. But as a parent, this just isn’t what you envision for your child, you know?

I found out about it because her sister (my eldest daughter) told me. When I confronted my youngest about it, she got defensive, but hasn’t denied anything. Looking back on how things have changed with her recently, I’m sure it’s true. 

I don’t know what advice anyone could give me in this situation. I just want to convey that I’m worried without driving her further away? I wish she’d stop but I know I can’t force the situation since she’s an adult and no longer lives with us. But I really feel like she’s being taken advantage of by this man. What’s worse is that my older daughter said she did some googling she’s pretty sure the guy is married. And who knows what problems and dangers that could open up!

I’m just mortified and have no idea how to navigate the situation. I expected college would bring some level of growing pains, but I never expected this.",2.6183988269794725,4.796647006060606,3.651309872922777,87.84470674486805,77.42424242424242,6.561094819159336,27.00879765395895,7.601502580125103,1.545143695014663,1312,54,262,19,31,422,167,330,0.147,0.74,0.113,-0.915,2,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,4,3,0,3,15,16,3,2,12,0,27,3,0,3,5,57,53,18,0,8,10,6,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,5,22,12,1,2,13,0,4,4,11,8,0,1,11,7,51,8,32,37,5,30,0,0,1,0,40,12,0,3,16,175,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978237840719782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432127915669214,0.0,0.1513992337357816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642727339895122,0.07073433738646592,0.0,0.1682280503420684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731281752691348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689244801696585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413731642849084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605085758205187,0.13143480170441066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172373420597156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648964585592405,0.0,0.0,0.07357250022374985,0.0,0.0,0.09108418353757912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384508071582764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527754391690882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497498702930228,0.0898829607013396,0.0,0.08122851724645762,0.0,0.07724811020521875,0.0,0.0,0.07820628289711219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241593464375356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762295304552311,0.0,0.07094806370433993,0.08884414543981665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895828865504199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978834383678352,0.0,0.1021435835765248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358651147718412,0.0,0.08802164011640119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058930904256990074,0.0,0.2724859475930218,0.0,0.10420630389484697,0.0,0.08750319129318626,0.0,0.0,0.0930984036185275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609476187762328,0.41360073543507225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081810146642868,0.0,0.1029748450669704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690743893621027,0.0,0.09616752090290087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733982509697823,0.0,0.06916474382648606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061113814100926575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879000212883125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986048931384158,0.0,0.11065218301470343,0.0,0.0,0.07590106805754095,0.054257859547231516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578351986402686,0.08867470824826874,0.0,0.0,0.0934199214694593,0.09374527873996334,0.06534678469227054,0.1005762055506602,0.0,0.17771489228510534
parenting,Ckc1972,2020/03/09,"Other parent inviting their kid to your house I have son in 4th grade. My son's best friend lives 2 doors away (only one house between us) and is always over. Another kid from the class lives down the street farther. My son is friends with him but not super close. One day I had the best friend over and 2 other kids over and the mom of the kid down the street asked if he could come over too bec he saw the other kids playing at my house. I said ok but was surprised that she did that bec I wouldn't. Today I had 2 brothers over who are from another town (so they don't know the kid down the street) and the mom asked again if her son could come over but I said no bec they were going home soon. I feel a little annoyed that someone else would basically invite their kid to my house. if I already have 2 or 3 kids over, I don't necessarily want to add another. I feel like she should just invite my son and a few others over to her house another day. What do other parents think?",3.5182142857142864,4.218137642156865,4.1487394957983215,91.27147058823532,72.08823529411767,7.0050420168067244,22.904761904761905,6.868970318607317,0.4221761904761907,765,17,174,6,14,243,106,204,0.054000000000000006,0.7909999999999999,0.156,0.9617,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,4,3,5,11,1,0,12,1,18,0,0,0,0,29,31,13,0,9,9,10,2,1,3,3,0,2,2,8,10,10,0,0,4,1,0,3,5,1,0,2,8,5,26,10,23,18,3,29,0,0,1,0,39,21,0,4,6,113,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866544146635002,0.0,0.0819359445769737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130226460432153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411459875838254,0.0,0.0925169539877036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667894335335116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964847601125116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724251523699795,0.0,0.0,0.1270115829752152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226006993567657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958001654660767,0.07034786024973379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282358641754112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05596346439665514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877466392539083,0.0,0.0,0.5681128425309009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054117208041210486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04810806480668936,0.09869403316941912,0.17390378516027796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306566087731053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345329616332033,0.0748918011643662,0.0,0.0,0.2186812761815804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733736248463392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834343463482554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309638258493383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333920395758233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844875491275772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580808776881236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995113041125434,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ltthefifth,2020/03/09,"HELP! My two year old is regressing with his eating habits and I feel completely defeated. My son is 2 and has just totally regressed in his eating to the point where he won’t even eat the things he loves like crackers or applesauce.

To start from the beginning, he’s always been a picky eater. He has always had hangups with certain textures and never liked how pastas or certain fruits would feel. Whenever it would get especially bad I would purée the food and he would eat it right up since he totally understands how to eat purées. 

I took the advice I would see often and consistently put healthy options in front of him and do things like eliminate snacks and drinking before mealtime. I set up routines and tried to give a wide variety of different options/textures/flavors but he wouldn’t even put them in his mouth.

Then we got desperate for a while and resorted to things like chicken nuggets and fish sticks which I hate. We even got him some fast food that he ate and I hate that because I didn’t even want him to have any of that until he was older. 

But now he is refusing all food and will not even touch anything we put in front of him. No crackers, no chicken nuggets, not even the purées I make for him. It’s been this bad for about 4-5 days and all he’s had are some occasional nutrigrain bars, cereal, potatoes, and lots of water. After he refuses the 4th dish I put in front of him, I take him out of his high chair (which clearly upsets him) and he drinks some water and goes to bed with the hope that hopefully he’ll be hungrier in the morning.

What am I doing wrong? How do I come out of this regression and what can I do to set him up for success in the long run? Sorry just a really frustrated and defeated dad this evening",5.7061987577639774,6.019893408695655,5.8664182194617,82.26434782608699,67.08695652173913,9.701863354037268,31.211180124223603,9.606745405546679,2.649596273291926,1386,51,280,27,21,440,178,345,0.141,0.769,0.09,-0.9752,1,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,1,3,16,19,3,1,14,0,28,20,1,4,8,68,50,28,0,9,8,2,3,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,17,27,18,3,3,3,0,10,8,9,0,1,10,5,33,10,39,30,8,43,0,2,1,1,38,17,0,10,18,184,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164980426727167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390503123899613,0.0,0.0,0.05682083955435984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875934065541632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953128015911667,0.050934867307865436,0.0,0.07109986954376893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197596155031906,0.0876067133070995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053886607340127006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729807361262693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370583525759805,0.0,0.4274924436334594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863149310962094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449669116583665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031081767311045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04365448014349392,0.08015437979520773,0.0,0.0,0.13365448373626526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498819577067453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056005721328495066,0.08828133731426598,0.0,0.16597961377914913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328466033762132,0.0,0.0,0.07394429308854236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103619106158664,0.07541241195544802,0.0,0.05577417506709899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444341838086785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767780326219367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898728074708873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359868082569287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352801359628608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135623471482264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658319010448631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911825806420452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935339271697402,0.05914125684076502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282359645768795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166532371089178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283361772694368,0.05672893370811381,0.0,0.08162191899829348,0.08698458094447659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049283401980126484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29677837321379097,0.0913551992126444,0.0,0.05380722441214583
parenting,slow_cars_fast,2020/03/09,"English feels arbitrary Teaching my daughter to read and it all of a sudden hits me just how arbitrary the language is with how letters sound. I mean, I think I noticed this before, but not too this extreme. Like why is the 'o' in focus a long 'o'and not a short one?",5.798993710691825,5.48914537735849,6.216981132075473,81.9561635220126,66.9245283018868,8.576100628930817,34.647798742138356,7.793537801064563,2.4818855345911963,207,9,41,2,3,67,43,53,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.5023,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,2,1,12,6,4,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,4,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,29,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178095163466104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888460043922604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246664607722846,0.0,0.0,0.3305238135295732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068363070077892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252168736668664,0.0,0.0,0.2530841289991587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735875865348498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393150785869411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370134883795854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,somesass,2020/03/09,"Am I allowed to just say ""no"" sometimes? I feel like there's a shift in parenting styles that we try our best to be logical and communicate with our kids. To make them feel like real people and I'm not saying that's a bad thing. Just sometimes, can I just say ""no."" And be listened to? 


There was a minor incident that happened today that's bringing all this up. I have two girls, 5 and 3. This morning they asked if they could go outside. I said ""no, please find something else to do, I need to get dressed"". The next thing I know I'm brushing my teeth and I hear our back door slam. I go out and check and they're out back riding their scooters. Now while normally it wouldn't be a big deal, they go out all the time, but I had literally just said NO! I don't always want to have to sit down and explain ""no, because blah blah blah blah blah"" 


At this current moment there were a buttload of reasons I didn't want them outside, the biggest one safety because I wouldn't have been watching (and we don't have a fence). I don't think they realize that anytime they're outside I've got one eye out the window watching. 


I know we've got to be clear with our kids and communicate with them, but gosh sometimes they ask things and the answer is just going to be ""no"". For whatever reason, and I don't want to argue about it. I'm just so burnt out with all the negotiating. 


Any thoughts?",2.357176089517079,4.025150434628976,3.477301236749117,91.13430285630156,76.45583038869258,6.2714369846878695,24.51251472320377,6.996647511020387,0.7832097762073031,1075,36,235,11,24,347,142,283,0.067,0.856,0.077,0.7552,3,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,6,0,9,1,14,5,1,0,12,0,25,2,2,4,4,62,55,17,0,9,10,1,2,7,0,2,0,7,2,3,13,23,0,1,13,0,1,6,14,2,0,3,10,13,32,3,27,37,4,27,0,0,3,0,31,11,0,1,11,152,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827767987476288,0.0,0.0,0.08031942084787135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22083538171758327,0.0,0.0,0.18163988959245364,0.09861761723725196,0.1439985426198097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239500388785602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430189433311942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176708898355687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866645049803882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944077826426105,0.16875681424537614,0.0,0.0,0.10795116726867424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617080386358229,0.0,0.2685004471262448,0.0,0.18892805547422376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444502503572428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311949981043264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982125671581454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540598004638974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883990231033901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757769068828206,0.0,0.0,0.1256122174252926,0.0,0.11572354510836792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006992274617082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114810945389208,0.0,0.0,0.08188318435830715,0.0,0.0,0.12965023342002432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443599276072493,0.0,0.2428752280559971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470091037458173,0.2817794398565533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092749438811117,0.3504439201593781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23540278009284102,0.07568065665139515,0.0,0.0937668132144212,0.06887138015854202,0.0,0.11195526522173503,0.0,0.0,0.08018950681631339,0.0,0.1153771277202428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20899449931585184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MattProducer,2020/03/09,"Extremely proud dad! Every now and then, when I have a few extra bucks and I'm going to a counter service restaurant, if there's a homeless person sitting outside, I'll buy a $5 gift card to give them so they can get some food.

I gave my daughter (turned 13 yesterday) cash to go spend time with her friends and get lunch if they wanted to go walk somewhere to eat. She went over to the local bagel place, ordered herself a sandwich, a drink, and asked for a $10 gift card. When she left, she gave the card to the man sitting outside. She recognized him because he's there often, and she wanted to make sure he had something to eat.

I wasn't with her, nor was my wife. She actually went over by herself, so no one was there to recommend she do it. She just decided to help someone out, rather than put the extra money back into her own pocket. I am overcome with pride over the amazing, thoughtful young woman my daughter is becoming. Or, as my mother would say, I'm kvelling at the mensch she has become.",6.124572591587516,5.572841800995028,6.389099954771599,81.80161465400273,66.31343283582089,8.702125734961557,33.198100407055634,7.686295010490155,2.2357223880597017,786,30,157,7,11,253,127,201,0.013999999999999999,0.843,0.142,0.9751,0,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,3,2,12,5,0,0,13,0,11,6,0,1,1,24,29,15,0,6,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,10,6,0,2,1,5,7,3,0,0,1,9,1,26,5,24,19,5,27,0,0,0,0,35,9,0,5,8,104,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.1621451474980027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533425426250932,0.0,0.0,0.12776438528428888,0.0,0.10128769248281802,0.3670144416990525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277048685521892,0.0,0.3400399408739628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999433858202534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20091756012111867,0.0,0.1283723941383282,0.0,0.17362022496478355,0.15939282069346455,0.2832923537826236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137145493894368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052993744204224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091100833803123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259220278130905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450817795734332,0.17359857602009965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703355830553118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213462086916505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078418612414464,0.1279156847320645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660089401476449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191000365929512,0.09688741354533686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073097344566208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19600726685310574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080581867975634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180330810324406,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IcyPassage4,2020/03/09,"My son is dating his future step sister I have a son who is 14 and my SO has a 15 year old daughter. My SO proposed and we've been on a mission to get the kids comfortable with each other, this includes a bunch of sleepovers and hangouts etc. We thought leaving them alone would help them get comfortable faster because they wouldn't have us to hide behind when they ran out of things to say.

They're dating now. Ok so this didn't happen out of nowhere, my son would stare at her while she just browsed her laptop or something, she began with harmless complements about his shirt and that turned into her telling him how much she liked it when he wore nothing but swim trunks and that his new pair were a little see through. 

We don't know how to handle this, we told them how do they think this is gonna work and my SO's daughter just held him and said we'd make it work. 

Not only is this my son's first girlfriend, she is going to live with us. So I gave him 'the talk'. He complained that he has internet so all of that was unnecessary and that he's not very interested in that right now. My SO has had to wake her up twice now because she keeps wanting to sleep in my son's bed. 
She's already had the talk, and already had sex.

I'm worried about teen relationship drama and a messy breakup because they will have to see each other everyday. We told them this and of course their response was they won't breakup and won't have relationship problems, then my son looks at my SO and goes “Your daughter is perfect”

I'm just not sure what to do about all of this",6.201757329891205,5.404563009404386,5.821652222017335,86.74619030057167,66.24137931034483,8.634408998709201,31.303890835331,7.285733465282438,1.6670042780748666,1236,40,270,9,17,381,162,319,0.057,0.883,0.06,-0.0047,0,1,1,0,0,0,19.0,7,1,10,4,22,10,0,0,9,1,31,4,3,4,4,51,56,30,0,5,8,10,0,1,1,7,0,2,1,1,20,25,0,2,3,3,0,4,8,2,0,2,17,6,46,8,32,31,7,32,0,0,4,1,63,11,0,1,18,185,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570907433913293,0.2891929462698508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23962668335874265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613471320985644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145529195289523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691705824103412,0.0,0.07446819768062281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158706863152581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878276248366631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646678114994576,0.0,0.0,0.07201146301044797,0.0,0.0,0.13874339546377454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640153521351848,0.13132794495827393,0.11570317876441333,0.0,0.11003342431044198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746451625247137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632319892118804,0.0,0.0,0.12655099945755732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572821869614398,0.0,0.13749547419000496,0.0,0.0,0.09965532895242372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537940992600066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281357499281844,0.0,0.11190014990667957,0.1246409232601585,0.10420147528820467,0.0,0.0,0.20883021599258386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311260881937409,0.0,0.0,0.100874418633856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349559926423664,0.0,0.0,0.21063624646626453,0.11452727047256392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705147893368692,0.08395966800704162,0.0,0.10402434196395093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504123483051979,0.0,0.0,0.14252460058865676,0.0,0.0,0.3152294230159949,0.0,0.0,0.1081146762685065,0.07728574933259089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907849252271111,0.13306880687163694,0.0,0.1861619777691839,0.0,0.0,0.08437996345862027
parenting,picklejuice2391,2020/03/09,My daughter has developed a slight tremor I have a fairly healthy 2 yr old daughter who has been healthy since the day she was born. Yesterday she started doing something I noticed. She has a slight tremor that looks involuntary. Her face was kind of blank when it would happen then she would snap out of it and act normal for a few seconds. I gave her a bath thinking she might be cold but after the bath she started doing it again. My wife mentioned she could have a bladder infection cause she held her private and said it hurts. She’s been fine all day today but she starting doing it a little while ago. She doesn’t seem like she’s in pain but her face is so helpless. Just curious if anyone has seen anything like this? I plan on taking her to her pediatrician this week.,3.597009109311742,5.6136244802631605,3.8752631578947394,88.10414979757088,73.9342105263158,6.2558704453441285,26.16599190283401,7.010146845296331,1.117914372469635,619,22,121,6,13,192,97,152,0.08800000000000001,0.812,0.1,-0.2855,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,9,0,20,5,3,1,1,18,32,10,0,5,5,3,0,2,0,3,2,1,2,0,9,3,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,3,0,1,8,4,24,4,8,19,2,21,0,2,2,0,25,4,0,3,18,85,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559336342112527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061997868027025,0.0,0.15372645679668145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919025129834766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915039532661806,0.0,0.0,0.2409504552030412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519304181682484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998103394342867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19453101312970408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252918108061345,0.18722994911917634,0.0,0.0,0.15687104859212112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981729804410696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183031450466302,0.0,0.21268130203703556,0.1960227935104818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987760940141058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769648133595034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006231221609727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545288947056219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438133542274199,0.0,0.0,0.3966694173317589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045580999770918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969854834792312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707143832903527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149845514788185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654050334582167,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dillonsuxx,2020/03/09,"Go to ask parents to respond to my last post, I'm interested in getting feedback! I was the one that was asking for opinions on my mom that was overly controlling. My post was flagged so I moved it to ask parents if you want to respond, thanks!",3.1505102040816304,4.823324,4.3589285714285735,85.62982142857145,74.3061224489796,6.53265306122449,32.65816326530612,7.1686216300943375,2.0740163265306117,192,10,38,2,4,63,33,49,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.7568,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,12,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,6,2,9,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,2,1,26,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5830161589597826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331538743394464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860815080924087,0.0,0.11814237536350322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944905722151793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243465267452006,0.0,0.22094238340265804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086412964961206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616498584236745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981810662896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138697130302884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261236732303048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Doctor_FatFinger,2020/03/09,"2.5 Years And She's Blowing us Away with Language Skills Her attention span is still on par. She's a single child and her frustration levels seem a tad bit more sensitive than others at her age. Her linguistic and logic understanding are phenomenal tho. She can be explained fairly complex ideas and she listens as long as she feels like it and grasps them. She's been potty trained for half a month now. She's curious about words and ""reads"" us her story books occasionally.

I feel like it would be fun to her to try reading. She knows and can read the English alphabet readily, scrambled or not. Like I'd like to further her curiosity and provide this interesting exercise. But I'm curious how? Like I said her attention span is not terribly long.

Are there tips for teaching basic reading prematurely? I think she'd enjoy it if it can be incorporated with making her laugh and fun.",4.365818181818181,6.846255763636368,5.291515151515153,76.71727272727277,73.18181818181819,8.763636363636364,29.78787878787879,9.3871,3.034624242424243,711,31,125,18,15,232,105,165,0.040999999999999995,0.779,0.18,0.9738,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,1,1,6,12,1,0,4,0,13,1,0,2,0,33,24,16,0,2,5,0,2,5,0,1,1,2,0,1,6,11,0,0,13,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,4,24,10,14,17,3,14,0,0,0,0,25,7,0,3,12,82,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173695076399348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646989027456434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255763721123042,0.2155473299714134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030139345667247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290813435817736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685103172421244,0.0,0.0,0.26701084937640096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069952146342002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204141756872354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6035991036889375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435014090837343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373363234408099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047615341857525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666432460601204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024233253233174,0.0,0.0,0.15704948867943014,0.3629294873965962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716587068250642,0.0,0.0,0.09714821856279164
parenting,Ballistica,2020/03/09,"Baby food is insanely sweet! I don't think I'm going to give my son certain ones. There was a post on r/videos a while ago showing a baby, maybe 7/8 months old eating ice cream and the comments were pointing out that it's irresponsible to feed a baby something so sweet so young.

So I started thinking, how sweet is the actual food I'm feeding my 7myo son?

Today for breakfast he had baby porridge and apple/mango/banana puree from the local supermarket and I decided to try some myself.

Holy shit is it sweet. Like sweeter than anything I can remember eating in my life, my teeth are still aching from it. It can't be good having this much concentrated sugar so young.

The difference between a treat and fruit is the fibre and nutrition from the rest of the pureed fruit but sugar is sugar. All of the natural sugars (glucose, fructose, lactose etc etc) spike insulin levels and functions relatively the same once inside the body, so it's surely excessive to be giving my baby something so intensely sugary. It doesn't even need to be so sweet, they could have used varieties of the fruit that are naturally less sweet.

So from now on I think I will aim for the pureed veges instead and if we do fruit, blend my own.",6.431373626373628,6.77763061111111,6.863614163614162,75.62384615384616,65.53846153846155,9.249816849816847,31.244200244200243,9.04235418022936,2.6269789987789984,969,34,173,15,14,316,143,234,0.034,0.831,0.135,0.972,0,0,2,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,1,0,14,12,1,0,17,0,22,20,3,2,6,28,33,19,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,9,9,15,0,5,1,0,1,3,1,0,1,3,15,15,11,20,25,9,19,0,0,1,0,8,7,1,2,11,117,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.14380616014641995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062943414448874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126814535023735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368835806764592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765828860178434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539641796844054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015806451691846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32869997904905923,0.09733263617835823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563866482943802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28273025560775794,0.08375044669328764,0.12360206363298548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040876624904212,0.07199468368421233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804710325833126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117624664549103,0.0,0.10832961167092976,0.10926865551268973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546338939355677,0.15693801824988682,0.09985776690977792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930676110553175,0.0,0.1411341276318432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693486347737985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512671899536181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268962559492545,0.0,0.0,0.10430510912987734,0.0,0.1176852065062003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888897442359266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832750053909076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396839904341345,0.0,0.0,0.1000505896785038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727531739693432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scorned2,2020/03/10,"My six month old baby is standing up This is my first child so I don’t know if this is normal or not, my baby boy has always had this strong little legs but imagine my surprise when he stood up holding something and trying to walk. 

Not sure if that’s normal, I tried to get him to lay back down as I’m not sure his back can support him but he wouldn’t have it.  My friend baby is 13 months and just starting to stand.",2.059238095238093,3.1960900666666667,3.190952380952382,95.085,76.1111111111111,5.142857142857143,20.63492063492064,3.1291,-0.4415079365079366,326,7,75,0,7,105,62,90,0.051,0.8140000000000001,0.135,0.8423,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,0,2,19,16,10,0,5,9,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,2,0,10,6,8,13,0,15,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,8,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806090226020027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338072588469101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846287885303189,0.0,0.0,0.16769789524514675,0.0,0.11340345599229568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928898971915987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21754839050684185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465060570182516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253400446712882,0.0,0.0,0.22776507407859256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16710127782842582,0.0,0.0,0.15363424087115854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24631399847594526,0.4091477843980375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947352535690076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Planta-Claus,2020/03/10,U/Mablexeno is a man-hating feminist and should not be a mod in this community Saw a post showing her saying that parental alienation is fake and chalking the poster up to being an incel and blocked the person when they questioned it.  Apparently the mods of this community have not addressed it at all.  It's dangerous to have someone with radical views that are completely not based in reality as a Mod...,6.605600000000003,7.862861026666671,6.9373333333333385,72.04200000000003,65.4,10.266666666666666,37.66666666666667,10.355215969177356,4.195266666666667,327,17,56,8,5,106,56,75,0.158,0.8420000000000001,0.0,-0.8689,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,8,0,8,0,0,0,1,11,9,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,9,5,1,6,0,0,2,0,6,4,0,1,1,42,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075918658189266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43165545477858985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394372472539932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723103692489877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.435483506836676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091457253050708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293824816277902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zjames1989,2020/03/10,"Lying and sneaking (6year old) So my wife and I have a 6 year old daughter and a soon to be 4 year old son. My daughter started kindergarten this year and has been acting out all the time. She constantly will get warnings at school for not listening , distracting other kids , being a bully sometimes and poking and pinching other kids in class and on the playground. She tries constantly to sneak and lie when she is doing stuff she KNOWS is wrong. My wife and I have a great relationship and I don’t think there is anything wrong in our home so I’m not sure what is causing this behavior from our child. We have tried talking to her about it calmly and seeing how she is feeling. We have tried the endless types of punishments and timeouts and taking stuff away and nothing seems to be working. My son is now starting to act the same way since he sees her doing these things and we are lost at what to do. I know that “kids will be kids” and they will misbehave, but the behavior needs to stop , especially the bullying and not listening to her teachers. 

Does anyone have similar experience and advice that has worked for them ? I’d like to think this is just a phase but it’s been happening for 6 months now.",5.672948717948723,6.399913559829062,5.622205128205128,82.53946153846154,67.24786324786325,8.804102564102564,30.129914529914533,8.841846274778883,2.2590037606837603,959,34,186,15,15,300,132,234,0.10800000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.043,-0.9265,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,2,3,10,9,1,1,11,0,28,0,0,2,2,41,46,24,0,1,6,6,1,1,0,3,0,2,1,5,15,22,0,1,6,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,3,5,23,4,22,36,2,27,0,1,2,0,31,7,0,1,18,133,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240721374474993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758798983330975,0.0,0.10308217373068863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176903078271636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868135124510008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707332762450003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961998191739812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253291167394027,0.0,0.0,0.06333759541176608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544563492582098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810477246580394,0.0,0.0,0.11077115930789118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125650706187851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768440482731906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061198004387616564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674121588838994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998508735369947,0.0,0.0,0.09288218681292634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019485674569615,0.0,0.39433268827396656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344874073267441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677456257939734,0.1996394934701419,0.11403627702216568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362025315866172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238899899578071,0.0,0.17732599685220482,0.0,0.0,0.1047268970388601,0.0,0.0,0.28679622123577153,0.0,0.0,0.11806049601452015,0.0,0.09418346398770966,0.1006830198185266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322029969439461,0.1605291218340005,0.0,0.0,0.0730428531247591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551395233425293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942928718286496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182388384999956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27391456714609064,0.0,0.2419990768650012
parenting,13unknownuser1313,2020/03/10,"Trigger warning; includes possible signs of inappropriate behavior with children. My daughter, 2.5 years old, has been touching herself in her privates and her butt a lot lately. In therapy, she made a baby take a shower with a grandpa doll in a doll house. Should I be concerned? Is this alarming? The second this is new. I am aware that it can be normal for toddlers to explore their bodies. But I’m very concerned about the grandpa thing. How do I ask her about it?",3.434367816091953,6.144705770114943,4.184597701149425,82.27850574712646,77.50574712643677,5.705747126436782,31.50574712643678,6.937597516519254,2.1331057471264367,370,19,62,4,9,118,66,87,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.5522,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,7,0,10,2,2,3,0,12,14,3,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,10,0,10,9,1,8,0,0,0,1,11,3,1,1,4,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498126004291173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968187705305068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083334998678054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014333527985001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271790442977992,0.0,0.2528479729512443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580806465258753,0.0,0.0,0.2618167388717481,0.0,0.0,0.2804001629812431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30124795447650154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20091455340327155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055868782577567,0.0,0.1775276533613967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22048269606649565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207952222087325
parenting,unknownwreckingball,2020/03/10,"Trigger warning: may involve signs of inappropriate behavior towards children. My daughter, 2.5 years old, has been touching herself in her privates and her butt a lot lately. And at therapy she made a baby take a shower with a grandpa doll. Should I be concerned? Is this alarming? The second thing is something new. I am aware that it can be normal for toddlers to explore their bodies. But I’m very concerned about the grandpa thing. How do I ask her about it?",3.683751633986926,6.522721270588237,4.196862745098041,81.79477124183009,77.47058823529412,5.189542483660131,32.97385620915033,6.42735559955562,2.1690522875817004,368,20,59,3,9,116,68,85,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.5522,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,6,0,11,2,2,3,0,13,15,4,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,10,0,9,9,1,8,0,0,0,1,12,3,1,2,4,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561610726762968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30436180768683113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090936600501293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329523313753441,0.0,0.25927358293360386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646392341198927,0.0,0.0,0.2684702715507209,0.0,0.0,0.28752595507392864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21094522369620766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20602038258940594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133527387963728,0.0,0.3640783053908811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260858092583725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645256853339136
parenting,Unhappy_Cheek,2020/03/10,"5 yr Old with Anger Problems Looking for advice on how to help my 5 yo with anger issues.

My son is such an amazing and loving child but he has been struggling in pre-k for awhile now. He currently has an IEP for a young child with an emotional delay.

It seems nearly every school day over the last few months he has a “melt down” when he’s not getting his way. He’s never been intentionally violent but recently he has become more aggressive.

It always happens at school. For example: he finds out the snack that day is something he doesn’t like, he knocks chairs over and tries to grab anything he can throw. The other day he was upset because he felt he messed up an art project so he flew off the handle.

He always calms down after a few minutes and explains what he has done wrong and apologizes but, unfortunately, the damage has already been done. When he asked why he gets so upset his answer is almost always “because I didn’t get my way.”

I have scheduled appointments with a psychiatrist and a counselor but the soonest anyone can see him is April. I’m terrified and anxious everyday he’s at school bc I’m worried there will be another “incident”. I don’t want him to hurt someone or himself. I feel like a failure of a mother and it breaks my heart.

We talk about every incident, role play what could be done differently and discuss his emotions and offer additional outlets/options. He says all of the right things, shows remorse and then it inevitably happens again the next day.

He lives in a stable home and nothing has changed. His father and I have been married for 10 years and we don’t exhibit violent behavior. He has a 14 yo step-sister who he adores and who has been a great role model for him. We don’t give him everything he wants and we explain to him that there will be many, many times he won’t get his way.

Outside of these meltdowns he’s a happy, healthy kid. He has friends and loves to play and be silly. I’m worried that he might eventually scare his friends away if we can’t help him control these outbursts.

I feel desperate to help him and yet I feel alone as we wait for these appointments. The school has not offered much in the way of support besides names of therapists etc.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I love this little boy with all my heart and I don’t know what else to do.",4.053201754385963,5.76959440789474,4.669298245614037,84.14675438596494,72.02631578947368,7.522807017543862,28.675438596491226,8.167268648758528,1.940125438596492,1854,73,358,28,36,592,238,456,0.135,0.688,0.17600000000000002,0.9752,2,1,1,0,0,0,38.0,6,0,0,1,12,31,5,4,25,0,47,6,2,3,3,66,76,32,0,6,8,3,5,2,2,5,0,1,1,4,18,32,1,3,10,4,0,2,11,14,0,0,12,8,34,17,42,53,7,49,0,2,2,3,79,17,0,5,27,213,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886807850445887,0.0,0.0,0.08081858730153323,0.08359037188011514,0.08906458923812831,0.0,0.2014695145699848,0.0,0.0,0.054885011358916484,0.08463061443337326,0.0,0.09117840264345738,0.0,0.05643373659844862,0.0,0.06641677987340769,0.0,0.07545219018061085,0.0,0.07582893322187703,0.0,0.0,0.09839913639722334,0.08913695046074338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537961284302845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052221039324404,0.06443971441780848,0.0,0.0,0.20820298180401736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432391705963305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24778054427999674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742216513968241,0.18157393306022665,0.0,0.0,0.09001207237829813,0.0,0.0,0.13600193349560769,0.0,0.07253620857478371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242696229411736,0.057658655708530925,0.0774934715578456,0.0,0.07376673012833987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471142752707355,0.0,0.16866886567214867,0.07742360162274879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779643160473558,0.0,0.0,0.14274172609699454,0.08591642496243569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128153841064727,0.16229299014517498,0.0,0.08095789011608938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640084853997558,0.0,0.0,0.08423941704763409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044355655669952025,0.06578875539683865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886085904092845,0.08089180337256105,0.07126768631889369,0.0,0.0677753857075724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185295634087724,0.0,0.0,0.16365288537203396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561968767822263,0.0,0.0,0.06442129901862068,0.0,0.05933053524765392,0.0,0.06224789667983618,0.0,0.08583513062505586,0.0,0.0,0.0774426368156618,0.0,0.08469070970636701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722778710901311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969058034321014,0.0,0.0,0.06892520039422839,0.0,0.06418318091265605,0.08080397095836707,0.3267280039468811,0.06431476855778391,0.07347460801856648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838462795147472,0.062133871355741464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437476081188075,0.0,0.0,0.0915878232250072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487098323855216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937095808987196,0.05361959421075063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04706217303863956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479623665134923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520873322885433,0.2562527677015087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282748319587504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639281839657477,0.0,0.057333487194734176,0.08824282051808123,0.0,0.051974067018617176
parenting,lovelylibra1987,2020/03/10,Parenting while grieving loss of my dad by suicide! It was so unexpected. I have a 5 yr old and 2 yr old and just lost my dad to suicide! The grief is trying me. Im trying so very hard to keep a level but every little thing is causing shock to my mind and body. My sons birthday is in a few days and since the funeral was unexpected my funds to survive and raise children are gone. Im slowly getting back into work but I feel horrible not being able to do for his bday. Not to mention I just bought a house and had to move. Im ranting because there is nowhere else to do so ATM! Im trying to keep it together but im only 1 person and there's so much going on. Anyone whos ever gone through a hard time cuddos to you for making things work. Ive never asked for help so if anyone is feeling in a giving mood ill leave my cash app tag here! $librag. Anything would help! Have a blessed and beautiful evening. Thank you in advance!,0.2530634427684113,2.4766681173469403,2.5436823425022195,92.00380212954748,87.21428571428572,4.837267080745342,21.27684117125111,6.280692351149826,0.3092735581189001,725,25,155,7,23,246,121,196,0.18899999999999997,0.723,0.08800000000000001,-0.948,1,0,0,0,0,2,17.0,0,2,0,6,13,8,0,0,9,0,16,2,1,2,2,27,31,18,5,2,8,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,9,0,2,2,0,4,5,3,5,0,0,7,4,14,2,21,22,2,20,1,4,0,0,15,7,0,1,8,94,18,2,0.11046766990485947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544831265974748,0.0,0.0909054798762192,0.0,0.10327235932175076,0.0,0.0,0.084942819394513,0.0,0.06734006625016001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270467811076015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348072671243616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124250832631811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228156330371126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296285412675188,0.09992433182240233,0.09307377632637956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171154617198914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057714798140354115,0.10597065489589036,0.06278132253538359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791466834620214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480883011573672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746485939693838,0.0,0.0,0.5966201992228892,0.0,0.0,0.19637748138854985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696931215688655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071762614284264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058851108114615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373802745700854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154085581107404,0.0,0.0,0.11740965078330168,0.08120644795307798,0.0,0.08519947714645935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23183447380583946,0.0,0.0,0.08401564082649808,0.0,0.0,0.1226612744620012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096456108424263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137999808670252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24166740249513746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170378864887387,0.0,0.0,0.14677962261305105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441458667899266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250008897313104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114739678180593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084355870867276,0.0,0.0,0.07847306322812496,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ziegfeldsgirl,2020/03/10,"Mum of 3 struggling to accept no more babies So itd basically just as the title says. I (36F)have 3 kids 5, 10 and 17 years old.

I feel so desperately sad that I wont be having any more. OH is set against another one for various reasons but I adore being pregnant, having children and raising them. I feel anxious and depressed that there will be no more children for us. 

I can't help but feel selfish for feeling this way, this id something I have felt about 1 year after our youngest was born so Im worried it wont go away. 


Has anyone else felt like this or am I just going crazy??",2.409008264462809,3.9613373801652902,3.9521404958677695,88.27911983471077,76.02479338842977,6.162314049586778,27.802479338842968,6.742157984588678,1.2300208264462809,457,19,96,4,10,152,87,121,0.237,0.674,0.08900000000000001,-0.9561,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,1,0,7,7,0,1,1,0,15,0,0,1,0,16,23,10,0,0,5,1,6,1,0,3,0,1,0,3,7,3,0,0,8,0,0,2,5,4,0,1,3,7,11,3,10,13,4,10,0,2,0,0,9,1,0,1,6,62,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008794245596994,0.20059069366728804,0.0,0.21611020026476496,0.0,0.1337587165863216,0.19600551295957547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17972903088162656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476309448579782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980338751488707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869003268628336,0.0,0.3673486082678066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174360219884904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822177761763345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066326695871875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345763660189196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073313092331707,0.0,0.1296272226525105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668430348353588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212637728370038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726912286917496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998427179789616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301057158932699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184198050421516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942705270041219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463768986146776
parenting,patrick-thegamerdad,2020/03/10,"My 11 year old son is spending way too much time with a gay kid, and I’m worried he will turn gay or start acting gay. My 11 year old son Christian is in the 5th grade, and has been beginning to hang out constantly with this gay white kid at school and after school.

I’m not a homophobe or a racist, but it’s just the amount of time spent with this gay white kid that makes me anxious. They go to school together, spend the day together, share classes, share food, walk home together, and hang out after school most days. 

My son is black and straight, and I do not want him changing from the influence of this gay white kid. I don’t like this kid one bit. He’s one of those weird white fuckers who have a horrible sense of style and do cringey shit all the time like flossing and dabbing all over the place. He’s flamboyantly gay and wears girls clothes and makeup. I’m not sure what my kid sees in this lady boy. 

My son is starting to act a little more feminine and isn’t playing sports or video games anymore. What does he do with his free time now? He makes fucking tik toks with his little gay friend. They do stupid dances in sync with each other to ratchet music.

I miss my son... he used to play basketball with me and we’d play Minecraft like the beautiful black gamer family we are... and now he’s turning into a white washed girly boy who is losing touch with black culture. 

Does anybody have any advice? Is my kid gay? If not, should I stop him from seeing this gay white boy so that he doesn’t become gay?",4.172380952380951,5.034783614379087,4.129458450046688,91.40970588235297,70.69934640522877,7.5279178338001875,25.35574229691877,7.62386473244151,0.9823232492997204,1190,33,262,13,21,364,157,306,0.102,0.765,0.133,0.8849,0,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,2,1,5,18,4,0,13,0,21,17,2,4,3,47,39,19,0,3,10,5,1,3,1,2,1,0,1,11,15,26,1,1,0,7,4,7,7,7,0,2,2,12,21,12,29,34,8,39,1,2,11,13,39,12,3,5,22,133,36,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400716852061403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793386228992259,0.0,0.0,0.13180226668036996,0.11570386373169247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288512605517207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737185281740598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341986890259553,0.0,0.0,0.1260772682620003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048314148849826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041948896532168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998473702270116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107608827998394,0.0,0.09013784159659467,0.10785820560195444,0.0,0.0,0.06630543241581167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702808026464775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099509871762414,0.23386509812104914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052227822179285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575434216985065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576481713086362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448480601205039,0.0,0.15811527404213402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218938156581608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722992535474285,0.1859394775775352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975860232639493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515721735462074,0.0,0.0,0.09754014190901726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995873897449912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721215069165981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25380378648215185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076417844992548,0.0,0.0,0.06881414064907458,0.09260607404543264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848258794338838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026145760501006
parenting,cyndcastle,2020/03/10,"Pirhana child So my 2yo daughter has in the last few weeks began taking her frustration with my boyfriend out on him by biting. We recently moved in together and her dad has never really been around so I understand this is a big adjustment for all of us, though my bf has been around her for a year and a half. Time out hasn’t changed the behavior and neither has (gasp) biting back or spanking. Occasionally she will bite me or she will bite someone else and biting was never really an issue until I removed her from daycare about two months ago, where she was bitten on a weekly basis. Advise and tips are appreciated!!",6.7566222760290575,7.109495025423732,7.0842857142857145,74.296186440678,64.84745762711864,10.13268765133172,31.26392251815981,9.957137785484203,2.9855481840193705,495,17,89,10,7,161,83,118,0.027000000000000003,0.94,0.033,0.1984,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,8,1,1,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,3,18,16,11,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,11,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,5,0,16,0,16,9,3,25,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,2,13,72,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116195844538832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638658291842618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571481617164991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21619670093542984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707251788541379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330951790453564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658908844660866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312644030615184,0.2172133079628368,0.0,0.0,0.3152459809601715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618497214918125,0.0,0.20179103643286952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316230966035384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366104708863118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20079280260297755,0.0,0.11916997759772585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996401073139516,0.21275671152472525,0.2458323325441285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278670879369536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160778609151866
parenting,throwawaymom1023,2020/03/10,"I basically became a mom overnight and I'm constantly terrified that I'm gonna mess the child up. Here I am at 21 with legal custody of my cousin's nine month old daughter. Without revealing too much, it's a permanent arrangement. I'm literally Diane Keaton in Baby Boom, minus the nice job and money. I became a mother basically overnight because there was no one else and even though I am hideously unprepared for parenthood, I didn't want to see her go in foster care. 

It's been about a month and a half and I'm still terrified I'm going to mess this kid up every day. She has no father figure. I'm working on getting my GED and work retail in the mean time but I don't have the brains or money to go to college so I'm never gonna be a great role model. I had zero experience with babies or children before this. I'm mostly on my own. My parents aren't supportive and are unwilling to lend a hand, I didn't really have friends to begin with, I have no significant other. I feel awful that she's in daycare half the day with strangers, if I had my way I'd be a stay at home mom. The title of 'mom' still feels so foreign and dirty, like I stole my cousin's kid. 

Most parents have at least nine months to prepare themselves, I had about two weeks. I know plenty of people my age and younger have had babies but I was barely on my feet as an adult to begin with. I've read everything I can in the mean time on how to be a good parent but I still don't actually feel like a parent. Luckily she's still so little but once she's walking and talking, that's something else and I'm so afraid she's gonna grow up to be rude, inconsiderate, selfish, shallow, mean, whatever bad...I want the opposite of all that for her no matter what and for her to be confident, kind, and successful in whatever she wants to do...but she just has me and I'm not that great. All of my free time and money is devoted to her but it's obviously not enough. I'm realizing now there's almost definitely someone else out there who could be a better mom, but the possibility of her ending up in a bad or abusive home just paralyzes me and I refuse to give her up.

Mostly just wanted to get this off my chest since I can't to anyone else. Thanks if you read. Advice would be appreciated.",2.4894707077362312,4.114551798715206,4.493276231263383,84.17567232196784,75.98072805139186,7.530642947345303,24.39405918849173,8.303829127061777,1.4660635699774884,1778,58,371,32,39,610,220,467,0.138,0.73,0.132,-0.0343,6,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,0,1,0,4,22,21,1,1,22,1,34,4,4,1,4,66,71,34,0,8,17,13,4,2,1,4,0,1,2,5,14,22,0,1,10,2,5,5,14,6,0,7,9,6,45,16,55,50,9,50,0,0,1,0,38,22,0,9,23,240,59,8,0.0,0.0952742448327102,0.07846983203677017,0.0,0.0,0.07857699442452883,0.0,0.0,0.0805203043387426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622545255493861,0.08239088225927246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428015806652754,0.0490179838198159,0.0,0.0684240960876971,0.0,0.0,0.07111726274769037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976560750938584,0.0,0.0,0.08198468230968026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689605165917043,0.0,0.06420188213714498,0.0,0.0,0.103717276055227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686933012560193,0.0,0.0712205469179118,0.08308637106086446,0.0,0.05311090710464236,0.0,0.06774999069747419,0.0,0.07226849398182059,0.07865768383146003,0.0,0.0,0.12197511231433117,0.057445850768114225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621255730537157,0.0,0.08402317368973768,0.07713784877735705,0.13709878933563258,0.06744518567774307,0.0,0.17730749036858515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131818603679873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797958103348403,0.0,0.0,0.0837359978136362,0.04419194906691044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785698016063908,0.0805932501859603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26277444630359664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37670698381502665,0.19255060411497948,0.0,0.059111559781384077,0.0,0.062018153898267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437813562340507,0.0856354131124387,0.054488779819995024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35714894277414433,0.0,0.0,0.05574707261569653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906516618565302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086612642745712,0.0,0.05151353960559861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407739742377691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665170606014684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813223589519446,0.06190454941562274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570774969195842,0.2568662810647767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124979346998102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463155924308757,0.0,0.07403192399432232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900369670418801,0.0,0.14066543189286607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855015859014207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18971467904260356,0.06382674930331017,0.06450109674965089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751362638933659,0.0,0.11708077222577125,0.0,0.0,0.05712188237709787,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lifeisboba,2020/03/10,My 9 year old still sleeps with a stuffed animal and my husband thinks I am setting him up for failure. Am I wrong? My oldest just turned 9. My husband wanted to make our son give up sleeping with his stuffed elephant when he turned 9. He says he can still have it in the room but actually cuddling with it every night is going overboard and he believes our son is going to have a hard time if other kids find out about this. My son has high function autism and only has one friend who has ever slept over and the kid didn't think anything of it but now that he is getting older and we are hoping he has friends over more often my husband is worried about the stigma. My thought process is that he's still so young and it's not like he's going to go to college sleeping with his stuffed elephant.,3.694814814814812,4.946223604938272,4.0243827160493835,90.25472222222228,72.20987654320987,5.893827160493827,28.314814814814817,5.46131890053228,0.9184962962962966,632,24,130,2,12,197,98,162,0.067,0.861,0.07200000000000001,0.5974,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,5,0,16,5,4,1,1,26,31,11,0,3,5,6,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,9,12,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,3,2,15,4,18,28,1,26,0,0,0,1,27,8,0,3,14,84,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.143354008600238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088685723735752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655069180930069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288020097359485,0.1237702757482736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426468719031812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269904166397052,0.0,0.07674961479523591,0.14092065128738168,0.33394848296677004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159427952046449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520878063847476,0.0,0.1459056593909557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717683198934571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805743735468278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785646725300438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541476981136091,0.0,0.09954379674563084,0.1117246924181837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168214273985646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4410207269028044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519455513261742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18825622637998232,0.0,0.11662284126797536,0.08565904887658833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195718147775957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664590908745938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918491238221687,0.0,0.0,0.16061298464820814,0.0,0.09459931107319523
parenting,Mama_2_Mercy,2020/03/10,"SAHM needing help and advice. Hey guys. I'm new here but I just needed someone to talk to. I am a stay at home mom to my 15 month old daughter. My husband works on a work over rig in the oil field. His company is locally based but they go out to various parts of surrounding counties for jobs that they are contracted to do. Every now and then he has to go out of town but that's pretty rare. His average day is anywhere from 8-14 hours. Depending on the job. Mostly he works from sun up to sun down. He's an amazing father and husband. During the week I get about 2 hours every night with him. I spend my days alone with nobody to really talk to. I have family here but they all have their own lives and never really ask to keep the baby. Understandable. His mother moved here to ""help"" but as a lifetime functioning alcoholic I have taken on the role of basically doing everything for her. I love my daughter. I love my life. I just don't know how I can express to my family that I could use a break every now and then. I got excited today about a movie I wanted to see. Today is $5.00 dollar ticket day and it was a childrens movie. I planned it so I could go and baby would nap and presto I could do something for me. It didn't go over as planned at all and I found myself frustrated with baby. I immediately felt a pang of guilt. I wasn't taking her to the movies because I thought she would enjoy it. I was doing it for me. She was just being a 15 month old. I ended up letting her climb around and explore an empty theater and then we came home and she is currently napping. My husband is always on board with self care and taking time for yourself but he never takes initiative to actually help me find time to do that. He tells me to set boundaries with his mother. As a recovering alcoholic myself I just feel so sorry for her. I know she takes advantage of me. She helps us tremendously financially. So maybe that's why I feel so obligated. How can I get people to understand that my job is hard too? I'm always on call. I work from the time she wakes up to the time she goes to sleep. I do everything in my household to maintain it. I cook I clean I do laundry. Are my needs invisible because I don't report to a time clock? Also I am still nursing my daughter. I would like to ween her soon but I just feel so alone in every thing. Any words of wisdom or anyone out there who can relate? I just need some sympathetic ears.",1.0052237521514655,3.328892630522091,3.0902624784853714,88.74609939759037,84.5421686746988,6.127423981640849,20.539443488238668,7.447530270364453,0.7655804934021804,1902,58,396,32,56,642,234,498,0.04,0.838,0.122,0.9934,4,2,3,0,0,0,49.0,2,0,4,8,26,11,1,1,20,0,39,9,3,4,4,73,76,35,0,11,14,10,5,1,0,3,3,1,3,3,14,24,3,1,12,4,2,8,6,2,0,0,11,8,77,9,68,57,7,65,0,0,1,2,56,23,0,4,32,274,91,8,0.0,0.0,0.07323502837717287,0.0,0.0,0.07333504185120189,0.0,0.16040480015608075,0.0,0.15545207988905685,0.0,0.06001504406590572,0.1248902011468502,0.0,0.0,0.05103452095364889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247459445880828,0.0,0.0,0.06680772450150403,0.0701587971912757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149588683594627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663135896164278,0.08583375419796271,0.07651539935282968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975672451975527,0.0,0.0,0.14519728393610554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646935056681341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25292127496629435,0.0,0.13489477599631222,0.0,0.1414952304704389,0.0,0.1138380264082004,0.0,0.07205687126722934,0.0,0.06859158158496631,0.0,0.0,0.08228514174436671,0.0,0.0,0.07841790086443187,0.0,0.17060371638986474,0.0,0.060021926851872624,0.0,0.0,0.07430831064635074,0.0,0.0,0.0672273547775687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012096393562697,0.0,0.15055648298855825,0.0,0.14781231961100755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234176478744022,0.06670520544005333,0.0,0.0,0.082487716870382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767406232670387,0.05300790250179948,0.036664164436700834,0.0,0.06626785967074013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546566183428416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539478000972162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878941178204802,0.1198035694345525,0.07976306469323838,0.0,0.2225855437363634,0.11576171740781015,0.07248084246951278,0.0,0.07042650840273619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749836584070656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126856778985951,0.0,0.05202812774012017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634976015661063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615403619207016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598027279638719,0.0,0.07829036893964428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510117962522668,0.0,0.06358706396678274,0.057774832893803585,0.0,0.0840089517060807,0.0,0.07999009705912148,0.059932616442019575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257039617822718,0.1206398421500501,0.06559436974157752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985787989328978,0.0,0.0,0.059578920555365074,0.2188024923925346,0.0,0.14227152707317808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625310902378733,0.09027227856481897,0.06481649653803245,0.0,0.0,0.04426465414358488,0.0,0.06019816186946799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771822807608087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185403856187124,0.0,0.0,0.15993366756095634,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,steve_fox123,2020/03/10,"Help me decide. Me and my wife have serious troubles. Our 1 year old baby has to hear yelling mom and dad to each other quite often. We tried everything, but in vein. 

So my question is simple: what do you prefer for a baby to grow up in a situation like that or to grow up with seperated parents?",2.625,4.273018166666667,4.626666666666669,83.265,75.66666666666666,7.466666666666668,25.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.643733333333333,230,8,46,4,5,79,49,60,0.051,0.865,0.083,0.4497,1,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,2,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,11,5,5,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,1,10,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,3,3,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27101565366551666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398712210966092,0.0,0.20212406867198876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732316233186246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.353174266661336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164282845967044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33483800771547684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378074531617718,0.3207378604206848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389572829579184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047341346655164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418971605310295
parenting,SouthernKittie,2020/03/10,"Struggling to get my 2 year old to stay in bed for nap time Hey guys, 

So I have a 2 and a half year old that gets very fussy when she gets tired, but HATES nap time. She's transitioned into a toddler bed, and at bedtime at night she lays right down and goes to sleep just fine. However during the day she just will not stay in bed. She's constantly getting out of bed and wandering around the room, sometimes she'll grab a book or toy and play for a minute but she mostly just roams around. 

She'll do this the whole entire nap time, and then when she comes out an hour or so later, she's fussy and upset because she's sleepy. But she will not actually sleep. She will spend the whole time trying to fight sleeping. I try to explain to her that she has to take a nap and she can run around and play when she wakes up, but she doesn't seem to understand. Any advice on how to handle this?",3.921738738738739,4.305625097297298,4.1360135135135145,92.86816441441441,71.0,7.463963963963964,22.984234234234233,7.1686216300943375,0.44828828828828815,693,14,162,6,12,215,102,185,0.085,0.87,0.046,-0.802,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,12,7,2,2,11,0,10,5,4,1,0,32,20,22,0,0,11,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,5,1,4,16,0,0,3,8,1,2,3,4,0,1,0,1,21,3,25,15,3,36,0,0,0,0,22,15,0,4,17,100,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.12646516818572134,0.0,0.0,0.1266378754419919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812844643742428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34609873044665285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899937347888249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163386042898933,0.0,0.1400452059410887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357748716693349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27083031826018217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831855481900406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794736480330218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127624104706118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161530386818666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719744603967358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067267147690367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797762079214792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38906313779257395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817189965210948,0.0,0.0,0.2762601804610506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547991345495666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974386510099162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022694971304397,0.14894937833795172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597180312567542,0.0,0.0,0.13491205062736364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692872224456224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893744166568741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690873037930726
parenting,domesticsuperpoo,2020/03/10,"My rascal has found a loophole My eldest is 4.5 years old and has found a loophole. He has a lot of ants in his butt, and is being tested for ADHD. A condition that I have. He rarely has the capacity to sit still for long. This is especially disruptive at dinner time. We spend a lot of time getting him to focus and eat his dinner. As you can probably imagine, that's not the only time he's bouncing off the walls, but dinner's the worst.

We don't yell. We're stern and stubborn and for the most part it works. He jumps through a lot of hoops to move about. ""I need to pee/poop"", ""I just want to get something from 'place' to show you"", ""Can't I just watch 'show' while eating?""
We get around most of this fairly easily.

But now he has found out that he can practice 'offensive affection'. ""Can I just hug you?"", ""I want to kiss you!"".
Now we cuddle a lot I general. All of us are fairly tactile in nature. But during dinner and sleep time he does this to move out of his seat. Because how can we say no to that! (We can't/won't)

He's sneaky and I love him to death.",0.9113636363636352,2.889010318181821,2.6309090909090926,94.01136363636364,82.18181818181819,5.636363636363638,18.63636363636364,6.782984794422108,-0.026181818181818084,810,19,184,9,22,267,118,220,0.10400000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.6642,0,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,7,4,0,1,9,6,2,0,12,0,17,12,2,2,1,41,27,13,1,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,16,6,1,4,2,1,3,4,3,0,0,3,3,26,3,30,23,9,24,0,0,1,5,26,9,1,6,11,122,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022176493165038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868086769038814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126912958655857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666706992911788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27283423426967324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43852737508047457,0.0,0.0,0.2089587226587869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798181981856735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533671900488596,0.12032427693584745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833908742760721,0.0,0.0988532600948478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989432252981793,0.0,0.0,0.10139398996522682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436989454772586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928844487214245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373884716798513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601945175232996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334138114866185,0.0,0.0,0.10263434879224817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646755259766373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31095409812236263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603645750308402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726826803260818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970567504886239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858521190800953
parenting,ipalush89,2020/03/10,"Family dog passed away Looking for recommendations on how to explain to my four-year-old Basically our dog is being put down today I opted for a barrio at home more sentimental, I don’t want to sugarcoat it and get my foiled false beliefs but I also don’t wanna scare and shock her looking for advice",5.343813559322033,6.410292152542375,6.962500000000002,71.41629237288137,68.15254237288136,9.289830508474578,28.309322033898304,9.516144504307137,2.6064542372881347,243,8,43,5,4,84,47,59,0.133,0.813,0.053,-0.7665,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,9,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,7,0,11,8,1,7,1,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,1,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27930176761207465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22857160053082184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685390019209209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26944736773490896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933010039255404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28670258284902306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800366735863839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999219122597501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873298665031665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28615749675542984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27092565838466576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858511065045206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840598764868794
parenting,poptrimoxup,2020/03/10,"My boyfriend has taken on a parenting role with my siblings I'm 24F and I have two half siblings who are 7M and 11M. My mother was a single mom and raised me by herself but I have raised my brothers since I was 17 My mom sees them about once a month but treats it as an obligation. 

My siblings live with me and they are around my boyfriend (22M), I came home to his voice raised talking to my oldest brother telling him to just go do it (he'd been trying to get him to shower for 3 hours) that's when I realized he's basically taken on a parenting role. This concerns me, he's 22 years old and didn't sign up for this, yes I was taking care of my brothers before we met but he didn't know that I raised them. I love my boyfriend and want to marry this man but we are still pretty young and I can't say for certain if we'll be together forever and I don't want someone to leave my brother's lives.

My brothers are attached to my boyfriend. In fact the oldest listen to him better than me half the time, he's even said he enjoys having a male role model and that he looks up to my boyfriend. I asked him did he look up to me and said yes but it's different.

I don't really know what to do, I feel bad that he has to be a parent. I told him this and he said he enjoys spending time with them and if they look up to him that's great.",0.623364532019707,2.4085799620689663,2.4058374384236463,96.26112068965521,82.13793103448276,5.384236453201972,20.357142857142858,6.367922702773337,-0.0309064039408864,1039,29,247,9,28,343,135,290,0.027999999999999997,0.82,0.152,0.9904,5,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,0,5,1,6,9,0,0,9,2,25,1,0,0,2,36,50,21,0,4,8,11,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,2,14,19,0,0,4,0,1,2,5,1,0,3,15,11,50,8,33,31,1,21,0,0,4,1,55,8,0,2,11,156,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110860356858952,0.11665810662798552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419113475008153,0.0,0.0,0.10618373285044393,0.0,0.0,0.11036311563366592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272199140197608,0.1272276888107094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037485703310886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242000543516269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309557344529594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519555784034495,0.0,0.07091878472303083,0.0,0.0,0.13757705447471524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251705769565115,0.0,0.12288911749084999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715829312080502,0.0,0.0,0.1321304033278366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22037672676745665,0.0,0.3143665473606859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262427703549405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922958140436689,0.09960303010473524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094196231647606,0.1328930647006905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156804045910553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695226853858566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994113536627565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561003117979473,0.0992348710449494,0.0,0.0,0.09943832127614224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032243054237887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057308104666296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965429624350362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382357556733176,0.10029829567028233,0.10906850296544142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552749197457085,0.0,0.0,0.1192384130042263,0.0,0.0847215329705314,0.0,0.1218978332487661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720408415369335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035812131674852
parenting,amberA1990,2020/03/10,"Aggressive child in my daughter’s (9) class is causing school lockdown In my daughter’s 4th grade class there is a boy with severe anger issues. I say severe because when he gets angry, he has a major outburst, throws the other kids’ belongings and hits them. The school has a process in place whereby they remove all of the other students and have a school-wide lockdown/hold and secure. The teacher will try to calm the boy down in the classroom until one of his parents can pick him up. 
My daughter came home today visibly upset as the boy became enraged at a child who sits in front of her. She was worried she would get hit, and also thinks some of her belongings are missing after they were thrown off her desk. I’m sure her thins will be found tomorrow, but my daughter is still upset about it. 
I want to address this with my daughter’s teacher or even the principal, but I’m worried about saying the wrong thing. My concern is that my daughter is in a class where she doesn’t feel safe, she is afraid of this boy. No one wants to see their kid come home with a red crying face, knowing they are scared of a classmate ... but I don’t want to come across as insensitive to a child who has obvious issues (he is not special needs as far as learning goes). 
Has anyone had this type of situation with their child, if so, how did you handle it?",7.6530506993006995,6.3730114204545485,7.1693939393939425,79.83178321678324,63.58333333333334,9.486713286713286,34.32284382284382,7.882392219407189,2.433893123543124,1061,37,207,9,13,332,154,264,0.155,0.8029999999999999,0.043,-0.9816,1,2,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,6,0,10,14,3,4,18,0,25,1,1,3,3,35,44,18,0,6,6,7,2,0,0,3,0,2,3,10,11,11,0,2,5,0,0,6,4,9,0,2,6,6,27,5,35,32,3,28,0,1,2,0,41,15,0,3,6,139,38,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060465316765553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272256365219793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083657700032272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166817045866227,0.0,0.1362248957235118,0.0,0.22846001827656334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456636089933789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758630194793544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705056518960321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539777527983289,0.0,0.0,0.13856436394342667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660331770284763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768164994921857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287786267736099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832711648374476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971716102252375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724543811956406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854708616227654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21091033258775516,0.13276369406209956,0.4026189824867064,0.10567136930534972,0.0,0.0,0.29961848186554835,0.0,0.0,0.14905689462638866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059008821354525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498142584787696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809883124676919,0.08496982146531636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125696833496193,0.0,0.0,0.09003209510931627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346468183528075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26933962534338185,0.0,0.094200884723312,0.14498597887566053,0.0,0.0
parenting,VJohns11,2020/03/10,"Looking for insight: Son currently in an Asset Protection office Like the title says.

My son directly defied me and walked up to Target with his friends. I have a geo-locator on his phone so when I checked on him and it was off, I knew something was up. I shot him a text asking him where he was and he tells me his friend got caught stealing something and he's now sitting in someone's office.

\*activate mom rage\*

I call him immediately and demand to speak with someone. The Asset Protection officer then proceeds to tell me, just as my son had, that he'd been caught with a group of other boys, ages 11-13, and that I can pick him up in about 30mins once the gentleman is done with his report on the ""incident"".

I'm shaking with anger. I know that's not the response this situation needs. I don't know what's going to happen next. I don't know if this will result in my 11yr old going to court, restitution, etc.

Further, I have no idea how to punish this situation.

I'm so out of my depth here. Help.",1.9936633663366337,4.2070028712871315,3.5371188118811894,87.69241089108914,79.69306930693071,6.614257425742574,23.466336633663374,7.734863291789972,1.1863437623762376,788,27,161,13,20,260,122,202,0.08199999999999999,0.835,0.083,0.0772,1,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,0,9,8,3,1,9,0,14,0,0,3,0,25,29,13,0,2,3,4,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,9,12,0,2,6,0,1,6,4,5,0,0,10,3,27,3,28,17,1,30,0,0,1,0,29,15,0,1,9,105,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040606705355562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520447037445644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558802249567732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135935594422396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26512775253266274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502808105596625,0.0,0.13722985012180802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172945167560287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500784005179962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936952641160868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828910437417795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382632904982795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408571889518393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009548384686141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722592562550045,0.0,0.0,0.1824794705844276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004651193629193,0.1827292972901524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364489433181706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857308556961506,0.0,0.0,0.29076185039451696,0.2641845097174454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999405717409188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mckenziettyl,2020/03/10,"Failing Kindergarten I just need some kind advice, please. My daughter (6 years old) started kindergarten last year and I thought at first she was doing great. She'd come home, we would read and do her homework. Everything was fine. Until the spelling tests and sight words started. She couldn't just sit still and concentrate and try to learn. She gets extremely agitated if she gets something wrong or doesn't know what the answer is. She'll eventually just give up and not even try to sound words out, she'll just guess at them. Her teacher just messaged me a month ago and wanted to discuss how she was doing. She said she was progressing but the only thing she needed to work on was sight words and reading. She can count to 100, can sound some words out, can spell some words now and so on. We've been trying to work on all of that and even bought ABC mouse to hopefully help her out. Well, I just got a message today from her teacher saying that we needed to have a meeting and discuss retention. At first I was like, okay I want to do whatever is best for her and if keeping her behind for a second year of kindergarten is what she needs, that's what we'll do. Although I wasn't the happiest about it, I was just trying to think about what was best for her. Now, I'm beginning to realize how far she's came and how much she's learned, and I believe I've figured out why she can't seem to pay attention. She was diagnosed with sleep apnea when she was 4 years old, she wasn't snoring then, only grinding her teeth horribly bad at night. They threw out that getting her tonsils and adenoids taken out might or might not help, considering her tonsils weren't even enlarged I just wanted to wait it out. They agreed that she should come back in another year for a second sleep study and see if it had gotten better or worse. Well, we moved and kind of forgot about it, until the end of last year. She started snoring very loud, and still grinds her teeth. I remember reading something about sleep apnea and difficulty in school, so I made her an appointment asap, which isn't until March 18th. 

She'll turn 7 years old after school starts next year and I know she'll end up being the oldest in her class if she was to have to repeat kindergarten. I'm starting to panic a little because I really don't think. she has a learning disability. I think its due to sleep apnea. My meeting with her teacher is Thursday and I'd really like to bring up maybe summer tutoring and even an occupational therapist. So any advice as to what I should do or say or just anything to help my daughter would be greatly appreciated.",5.046655462184873,6.126206937254902,5.178347338935577,83.88970588235296,68.84313725490196,7.946218487394957,28.296918767506998,8.146662555663855,1.7755977591036411,2078,70,404,27,35,652,230,510,0.06,0.815,0.125,0.9857,0,0,2,0,0,0,49.0,4,0,3,9,31,18,0,1,15,1,51,7,6,4,1,105,95,45,0,17,21,2,0,2,0,11,1,6,2,0,17,37,0,3,15,3,2,6,10,4,2,4,26,9,65,14,61,54,7,74,0,1,3,0,61,22,0,17,47,277,82,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609048141795602,0.06172606903837018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047353300347254206,0.07301700053643399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730259769604665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05354401311735496,0.05814122660833292,0.04244805407124303,0.0,0.0,0.07845332867554522,0.1461525334000426,0.06158534438318514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964239629406994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996652466966802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067673450709587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334957054406145,0.0,0.0,0.1839695949011468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258227493533706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118460770554334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914219462177052,0.06679898520258883,0.0,0.0,0.05569242694016962,0.1535427888276286,0.07670936546258902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400219935519779,0.0,0.06984827353095523,0.06916197089349617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061893627468297005,0.0,0.14502555535406628,0.07653771523534188,0.1135215103958409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803901195150057,0.0697912556796733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588908575066174,0.0,0.0,0.0699564058935336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774069225390848,0.0,0.0,0.0555809508945912,0.07400959759114448,0.051188777879137386,0.20653000965910506,0.0,0.0,0.07405622446270564,0.06534650551206451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192065473279453,0.0,0.0,0.10591912551392388,0.0,0.08170013750277003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643688635228417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208957616186072,0.0,0.08921825600242657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888140200100822,0.0,0.06623758976936779,0.11075101809213347,0.0,0.1409460335316304,0.055489039300091456,0.06339190054362115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787359339343169,0.0,0.0,0.10721484059848299,0.0,0.0,0.2464354381296681,0.0,0.1112191173324936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085008675126175,0.04626153272622175,0.13385537994647706,0.0,0.05528137556117658,0.0,0.0,0.0660046006748793,0.0,0.0,0.1891068317418881,0.07574146419093554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745509089156783,0.12321527212916687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521810870287636,0.0,0.06283357878450406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138831838557437,0.0,0.07096268403728777,0.0989315578832121,0.07613351405096691,0.0,0.3587345316857356
parenting,AnnieBananie827,2020/03/10,"Need advice with my 9 mo old I just can't tell if I'm crazy here or not and need some input. 

My grandad is about to die and is in a nursing home. My grandmother and mom are understandable really struggling with this and trying to spend as much time with him as possible. I am very close to my grandad and my daughter is even named after him. I drove down with my daughter to spend as much time as possible with them because I want to be here and my daughter really cheers them up. 

My problem is I am getting non-stop advice from the staff there and random family members how I should definitely not be taking her to a nursing home right now with COVID 19 being so highly transmissible and how a baby is at high risk. The thing is, I have looked it up on a few different places and no one between the ages of 0-9 have died from this. It's mostly the elderly that are affected. There is also a pretty low transmission rate for anyone under 20. I am not currently working so I have the time to help support them right now so I feel that I should, but I don't want to feel like I am being a bad mom for making this choice. 

Am I crazy to bring her to a nursing home or are people making a bigger deal on this than is necessary?

Thanks for the help!",5.041997405966279,4.824897272373544,5.968264591439687,82.78941374837875,68.49416342412451,9.187963683527887,28.02827496757458,8.841846274778883,1.8856077302204923,977,28,208,15,15,324,134,257,0.096,0.813,0.091,-0.1007,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,3,1,15,9,0,2,14,0,27,0,0,5,0,43,44,23,2,8,8,5,2,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,9,16,0,0,3,0,2,2,6,5,0,1,1,3,29,4,38,37,5,27,0,1,1,0,17,16,0,6,10,154,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317251959515009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481823078813748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290501632299545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989987469241103,0.07227752848643301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222376849459629,0.0,0.0,0.2461082859779427,0.12387759772121792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831258656632571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177470271815178,0.0,0.11990238368216985,0.08470450621923091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194652305778305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894633019289087,0.2505457345745136,0.3567980222171309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05792599604518608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956667406882404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828919324963245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777291886770947,0.0,0.0,0.1743212230711664,0.17583230825358445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441644118963835,0.0,0.08034427425875833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219964011223563,0.0,0.12387759772121792,0.0,0.0,0.2673336421286722,0.0,0.12062557466755396,0.0,0.11345289780151747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191450305124496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20251166086728067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912757588097364,0.0,0.12395229066845286,0.0,0.0,0.1345487723679381,0.0,0.0,0.08914785730460767,0.0,0.10363305043530932,0.10916084421330187,0.0,0.0,0.07877084880813788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074126467148362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049941697717945,0.0,0.0,0.12343274576714156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783044380871156,0.13986813665368514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631841000303242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KrazyKarolyn,2020/03/10,How to explain to 3yo how a baby is born? I just found out I’m expecting and I made it known to my 3yo that she’s gonna be a big sister and that there’s a baby in my belly. I’ve been babysitting a 3 month old nephew recently which I think has helped with the idea of having a baby around the house. She’s been asking how the baby is gonna come out and I’ve been telling her I’ll explain when she’s older because I honestly don’t know how to explain it to her. Any tips on how to approach the subject?,2.0549778761061965,2.6059486902654854,4.016095132743363,91.42732853982302,75.3716814159292,6.711946902654868,23.85951327433629,6.6274283507984215,0.5428061946902658,394,11,94,3,8,135,66,113,0.0,0.9640000000000001,0.036000000000000004,0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,6,0,24,21,9,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,11,1,13,13,0,14,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,6,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916936701292672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509402981231005,0.2635274530678039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17183645522257635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24282175939100525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30907590633427595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889437458843818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252611828869704,0.0,0.31821751235111084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491840515000302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26672946925311264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250005044659272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29579429005307833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27833063057641977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463827472192648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806226025804736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Momart685,2020/03/10,"Is kindergarten too young to use the school bus? Pretty much the title. My son will be 5 in August and will be starting kindergarten later that month. The school offers a bus route that picks up/drops off at our home curb. I feel like he'd be fine, and I'd appreciate the extra time to work on my own schoolwork (online college). Is it too soon to start?",2.8623004694835714,4.6385628591549315,3.3179577464788754,92.35092723004698,75.33802816901408,5.2967136150234735,20.284037558685448,5.46131890053228,-0.19914272300469493,277,6,58,1,6,86,53,71,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8611,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,6,12,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,7,6,3,12,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,9,35,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632712102097528,0.20674428901127004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29028740310064155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413840821719198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309928231784387,0.0,0.21273907925361926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944193855126607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5857676358042031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40967141920795797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874891349156645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499448988794069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21068345830943055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Big_Poppa_Ruan,2020/03/10,My babygirl (3) just said her first bad word So my child (3f) said the F-word and I didn’t tell her it was a bad word I was told just let it pas cause if I tell her it’s bad she will start to say it more.. what do I do ? how do I stop her from dating this word!!!!!!,-2.5757142857142843,-1.1687336507936514,0.09460317460317393,110.41428571428571,91.85714285714286,3.6,10.587301587301589,3.1291,-2.3305174603174605,192,1,61,0,7,65,41,63,0.217,0.7829999999999999,0.0,-0.9309,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,10,12,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,6,3,12,0,2,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,1,4,38,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5820657484170075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387112870040921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976565255931537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376173412240765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4420802531070103,0.18479249577357001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644749472953845,0.0,0.0,0.1942744005576586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062088389098932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22204255116278634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wannarax,2020/03/10,"Do you think it’s inappropriate for a teen son to sleep in the same bed as his mom? 
I’m just wondering because I don’t see anything wrong with it. It is kinda weird if it’s regular and the kid is over 11 or so but if it’s just a one time thing I see nothibg wrong in it.

For example me and my mom had booked a hotel and came late at night to find out that there wasn’t two seperate beds jut one king size. We just rolled over to our own sides and that was it. I am 18 and she is 38. My dad thought I should have slept on the couch but luckily he wasn’t with us. The staff fixed the problem then next day and everything was fine.",1.9877142857142864,2.5812994857142897,3.4400000000000013,95.335,75.57142857142857,7.314285714285713,22.57142857142857,7.554174236665415,0.4404428571428571,488,12,127,6,10,161,93,140,0.08,0.872,0.048,-0.5112,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,8,0,13,2,2,0,0,27,21,14,0,4,8,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,10,11,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,4,0,3,8,2,13,1,15,12,2,15,0,0,2,0,12,8,0,5,6,81,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510975787383916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192857654276364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21000397414422348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841497922912755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501922416899684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678186496708372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712308407616925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300898689257043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527415259908287,0.17230804813180578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24884138789643975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756925232710345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29263104368274434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837452681825156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219840960917068,0.11765158197714945,0.0,0.1457679465236137,0.10706602171709301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936289404560748,0.0,0.22086342873857825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912010313843947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015032510381308,0.0,0.0
parenting,hhachatz,2020/03/10,"Potty Videos or Books Recommendation Please Ok, so my son almost 3 has basically mastered going pee on the potty. Does a very good job, finally is ""holding it down on his own"" which is nice (we taught him to pee sitting-less mess etc. ) But he wont go poop in the potty, there have been a couple times where he said he was but he always backs down. 

So at nap and night we put a diaper on him, now he waits until those times to poop in his diaper. :/

He already has a sticker chart that his get 1 sticker for pee and 2 for poop, but only pees.

He also has a prize that there is a picture of in the bathroom. Pretty much every time he pees he says ""when i poop in potty i get me prize"" but still doesn't go poop in the potty.

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I think a video about pooping would help him (it is very rare that he gets to watch a video on the tablet so it is a super special treat) or a book about it that he can read with us. 

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Any recommendations?",2.155640862944164,3.5546015786802023,3.64740799492386,90.84238102791879,76.36040609137056,6.143274111675128,20.434327411167512,6.6274283507984215,0.10415761421319747,729,16,164,6,16,241,114,197,0.03,0.8079999999999999,0.162,0.982,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,0,0,4,13,9,0,0,15,1,15,11,11,0,0,16,25,14,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,10,5,0,2,1,7,0,4,2,1,0,0,4,3,14,8,22,19,3,27,0,0,1,0,24,13,0,3,10,98,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114827547350198,0.0,0.1555497763133895,0.11272342263140844,0.11728768299276884,0.3054541365625922,0.3425568552502233,0.09585573023877468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838738672152973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596646174442852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335259639933885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572045393541764,0.0,0.0,0.1187625211904858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441172364981662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209329590252924,0.0,0.2403276768902941,0.1182282124438407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448064051141414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398782718380028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361976140317047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227878433977558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072043030573932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472867793260967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340414834135812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170091954225578,0.0,0.0,0.14099534591806592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340825769278678,0.11209482376157946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125686027186943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031968273289312,0.0,0.0,0.2465798321735881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955415707747767,0.0,0.0,0.2326089059456973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100131951258016,0.0,0.3425568552502233,0.0
parenting,antlark,2020/03/10,"Should I let me 17 year old go on vacation with her boyfriend? So I have a bit of a dilemma. My 17 year old daughter(turning 18 in four months) wants to go with her boyfriend and his family on a weekend vacation a few hours away. Her boyfriend just turned 18 about a month ago and they have been dating for 9 months, but have been friends at least 9 months beforehand.
His family is going on a Mini early spring vacation this coming weekend at an resort. The family has asked that my daughter goes with. 
The old school father in me is screaming ""hell no"" but the other side of me understands that she is almost 18 and an adult. 
The boyfriend seems like a decent kid( good grades, respectful towards me, headed to college next year), they haven't had sex yet, and I know they will be in different bedrooms on this trip( like that really matters).
I am split on this decision and was wondering what some other parents think.",7.803289141414144,6.974003710227272,7.25598484848485,77.8713383838384,63.03409090909091,11.004040404040403,33.76010101010101,10.25414643259724,3.175086616161616,727,25,140,14,9,227,107,176,0.075,0.825,0.1,0.6757,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,3,0,4,7,1,0,13,0,17,2,1,0,0,23,29,8,0,2,3,3,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,2,9,9,0,0,6,2,0,5,2,2,0,1,4,1,19,5,21,21,4,37,1,0,0,1,16,13,1,4,21,94,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509693152973666,0.0,0.13001781842750154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138456622928212,0.0,0.12199065586742952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175362922856868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184722347361893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565705740994907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672099122653351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031546134030207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137628073884308,0.10890515103329856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325515777913313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786802951032689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713576638454703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277204912789742,0.0,0.1268683008967383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4145539801341174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380882393634425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408741417714305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417396572990893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317998912202351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140684498063387,0.0,0.1182031085095272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319738991213829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824612114057373,0.0,0.13516990470289647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658406440263757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080790569710722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508416083797533
parenting,Charliewarliewoo,2020/03/10,Terrible two's... Help me! My little girl is two tomorrow and is starting to become quite a little snot. The worst times? Dinner time. She will eat a little then point blank refuse to eat anything else. It's really beginning to frustrate me. Any ideas?,1.7692705167173273,4.563015957446815,2.8455927051671743,86.62000000000002,91.55319148936172,6.089969604863223,19.480243161094226,7.447530270364453,1.1150753799392104,198,6,35,4,7,63,37,47,0.243,0.7070000000000001,0.05,-0.8847,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,0,3,4,1,10,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,6,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305093842821264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100597723755974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160836740995645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004042970325124,0.16344320827473655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114226819856048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208687361145288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5882879542187368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849555886487508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081013448278715,0.0,0.0,0.12534050001796432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384843973479087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281739998672576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822496465806349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,no1friendmary,2020/03/10,"Toddler poo problem Four days now and this boy has done so good at going potty. Only two mistakes in four days is awesome. The problem I’m having (I really badly need some help with this) is that he refuses to go 💩 in the potty. He acts like it’s bad, like he is doing something wrong and is going to get into trouble for it. 😧 

My son wasn’t like that, he just went to the potty and was proud of it! So experienced mama’s and daycare workers, what do I do to help him overcome this? 😐 #help #pooproblems #toddlers",0.6713836477987414,2.9268690000000035,2.9946226415094337,89.3257704402516,85.41509433962264,4.665408805031447,22.040880503144656,5.985473137389443,0.3946691823899369,398,14,80,3,12,136,70,106,0.161,0.65,0.18899999999999997,0.5484,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,4,12,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,13,19,6,0,4,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,7,0,3,4,1,4,5,11,15,1,12,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,6,51,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382229960840685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612416335978508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072675860214216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581820112155177,0.0,0.3453225253549576,0.16987999641816673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072726096393239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968507866353401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018000720628638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403993888559206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3876046940095522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975158768929085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592431879781468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978510478672064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775556346789216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22144446141626467,0.0,0.0
parenting,TeenyMom,2020/03/10,"How often do you play with your kids? My son is 3. He woke up at 5:30 am today and all day hes wanted to non stop play. Play pillow fight, play house, play restaurant, play coloring, play hide n seek, play with slime, play play play. It's now 10 am and I am EXHAUSTED. I need a break and he will not let up. My only brief break was while he quickly shoveled down a bowl of cereal. Even while I type this hes making me play hide n seek with him.  

How often do you guys play with your kids? At this point I'm tempted to tell him to go in his room and play by himself. I dont want to play anymore.",0.3629743589743626,1.9118520923076936,2.1596153846153854,98.87455128205127,81.92307692307693,5.256410256410256,16.98717948717949,5.985473137389443,-0.6865128205128204,452,8,114,3,12,149,78,130,0.087,0.662,0.251,0.9670000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,4,0,0,7,17,1,0,2,0,12,1,0,3,1,19,19,8,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,3,8,0,1,0,15,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,17,15,16,15,1,19,0,0,1,0,19,8,0,2,7,63,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738989773553888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811496191045578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236840101365633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241603628186276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569609652268093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734642459199724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186776983260749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28241547265184713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843540641733044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047859362603506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100493513949752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610818753698334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23090106292329024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413958102660388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617888600113146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32579936647714075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nowworld78,2020/03/10,"My new stepdaughter has had a negative influence on my daughter My daughter (14F) has always been a very well behaved kid, she always hung around a great group of kids, her boyfriend (14M) is a boy a trust very much and know his very well, and she was always a good influence on others.

I've recently married and she has a step sister now (15F) my stepdaughter isn't exactly a model child. She smokes weed, drinks, skips school, pops pills, has sex with every boy she sees, very irresponsible, disrespectful and manipulative. I wasn't aware of all her behavior until my wife moved in, now she's around my daughter 24/7 and has already had a pretty bad impact on my daughter.

I've caught my daughter smoking cigarettes not weed, caught her so drunk she couldn't walk, broke up with her boyfriend and is now dating a boy (17M) who is doing heavy drugs, just leaving school mid-day, swearing, she's even hit me a few times. Her now ex boyfriend (the boy I trusted) said he's glad she broke up with him because she kept trying to get him to take little white pills

I've spoken to my wife about my daughter's recent behavior and her daughter's behavior but she said it was my fault because moving in was supposed to help her daughter and that my daughter is somehow to blame for her daughter's actions. This is not a reaction I would have thought to ever get from my wife, we dated 9 years before we married so that was shocking to me, but while I didn't use those words I was basically saying she has a bad kid so I understand the defensive reaction

Anyway so do any of you have any advice? I just didn't ever think I would have one of the kids you talk about with your neighbors ya know",7.2598263642806575,6.3098510421686775,7.131892274982281,78.71445428773922,64.18072289156626,10.100921332388381,33.98724309000709,9.168548406835145,2.7726369241672577,1334,48,264,19,17,425,165,332,0.08,0.85,0.07,-0.7923,0,0,4,0,1,0,36.0,2,4,0,0,21,14,1,0,16,0,31,6,0,4,4,42,47,16,0,3,6,15,0,0,1,2,3,3,1,9,7,16,2,2,5,2,0,7,8,7,2,1,17,5,52,7,29,26,3,32,0,2,2,1,62,10,0,1,15,170,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134671717929752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813684876552595,0.0,0.28985334059415896,0.0,0.0,0.15792566855472426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20673564401833575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390395210848527,0.14156642238003694,0.0,0.09880612922932276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488518787366713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374943454783047,0.13465764869631755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669349616459753,0.2100670663474372,0.09783270395798002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213315927068386,0.0,0.0,0.09739255778300243,0.0,0.12801825532508074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783008006446739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762858934386134,0.0,0.0,0.1229500353384702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637869622243982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24682577757698645,0.08535859074003073,0.0,0.0,0.1121455172941037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868317929318724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813167529951588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293010034363575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090573563131874,0.09234007158452856,0.0,0.23503110039203434,0.09252938617439413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730475076930913,0.09332960988889652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440241832028145,0.0,0.09218310160117316,0.0677081497912256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883511448013346,0.0,0.0,0.12088080893689428,0.0,0.10028690735081618,0.0,0.3832313090907689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20880438519642225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649708922640344,0.0,0.0,0.07477487093650481
parenting,FluffySpeaker3,2020/03/10,"Best large play sets for kids 1-5? Hi all,

I have two kids (ages 2 and 4). We have tons of little toys that I feel like my kids hardly play with. I've been considering getting them some larger interactive play sets (like a kitchen set, treehouse, water table, little cruiser car, etc) but have no clue where to start. 

What are your favorite play sets for your kids?",3.1939906103286404,5.052636873239443,3.484154929577468,91.15937793427231,74.63380281690141,5.860093896713615,21.6924882629108,6.42735559955562,0.21001220657276945,282,7,59,2,6,87,55,71,0.037000000000000005,0.743,0.22,0.9024,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,2,1,1,1,7,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,1,7,8,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,3,2,0,1,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,7,7,5,7,5,10,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,4,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221096017076834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342313931227431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519568151184976,0.2192745993217999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603609964706946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749536899963009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999061122025787,0.6152594976407603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172503451728267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29983113351465224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,csp92,2020/03/10,We made a podcast!!!! i started a podcast. just letting everyone know since i cant promote it. im just throwing out the fact and im super stoked. recording didnt go as awakard as i thought.,-0.4269230769230781,1.8098220769230802,1.7706410256410263,93.94519230769232,97.46153846153842,3.6256410256410256,32.141025641025635,5.46131890053228,1.5182102564102573,147,10,30,1,6,49,29,39,0.062,0.794,0.14400000000000002,0.5972,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,1,9,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,4,1,3,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,17,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30274986688102723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006489765593242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6844733482763684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412448697418015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32398573177747514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29979738010872936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620895728026073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242577746390399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515319703291077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The_John_Hanson,2020/03/10,"HELP! 9 month old (and wife and I) still not sleeping through the night!! It's been 9 months and or little dude still is walking up between 3-6 times per night. We are so tired and just want ONE full night of sleep. neither of us has slept a full night since June 1, 2019. 

Do any of you more seasoned parents have any tips that helped you? 

Things we've done:
- consistent nap schedule during day
- consistent bedtime routine
- making sure his little tummy is packed full before bed
- cry it out

Among others. Any suggestions welcomed. Thanks!",3.29940594059406,5.8370605742574275,2.8361287128712886,92.71815346534656,76.92079207920794,5.228118811881188,23.961386138613854,6.2581,0.5638190099009899,422,14,81,3,10,124,81,101,0.063,0.812,0.125,0.6868,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,8,4,3,1,1,12,12,6,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,6,3,8,9,5,23,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,1,14,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003954240171262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529484854894832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174197485021524,0.0949609942862345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068299628075632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739075238129947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951568132716053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828733671125467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350594810895644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.552718707739022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450910319994818,0.0,0.09977718092779916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349840645665994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180277870679435,0.0,0.2947031444094616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351804672881137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877688995849485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556362794719762,0.0,0.0,0.0978231903377871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085859879744216,0.1692367352112075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711788602267708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684905368603521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bbartl3,2020/03/10,"Parents of toddlers: Do you give your toddlers a bedtime snack, yes or no? If yes, what is your go-to snack? I'm just curious how common giving a bedtime snack is. My daughter is just about 13 months and she was sleeping terribly, so I tried giving her some oatmeal with peanut butter before bed and it has helped a lot. I'm curious what snacks other parents offer so I can branch out a bit as she gets older.",5.207926829268292,5.41255906097561,5.915756097560978,81.8597317073171,68.14634146341463,8.023414634146341,31.03414634146341,7.554174236665415,2.000616585365853,321,12,62,3,5,105,59,82,0.067,0.7559999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.8105,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,2,7,5,1,1,0,11,13,8,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,9,0,5,12,3,4,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,4,3,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952290917171801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504794981791806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198683564750211,0.6602740707536376,0.13039106420061827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378292781812594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195054240591318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18312983144993195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5095124940794379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22959693824435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576875559668005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amiacrazymum,2020/03/10,"My children don't feel comfortable at their dad's anymore and idk what to do. Lengthy, sorry! 

I (38F) have got three kids (4,6,10) with ex(43M), who I divorced almost three years ago. He almost immediately moved in his GF(24) and due to my work schedule (70h/w) the kids live with him. He was a SAHD when we were married due to his lack of career/education, and even now doesn't have the means to finance himself and the kids, so I pay for everything child-related and the mortgage as I don't want the kids to be in a situation he loses the house they grew up in. I earn above average, money is not the issue here. 

Recently I had some drama with GF forcing my kids to call her mum. Details in previous post, but that's the gist of it. I got angry at her, and this sparked them(mostly 10yo) sharing more information regarding their home live at their dad's. 

10yo told me he regularly fights with GF/ex, is sent outside/to his room for extended periods, is being forced to empty his plate even after feeling stuffed, and apparently ex has also been telling the kids that I don't care about them because I'm not around a lot. She pushes bathing ""as a family"" even after 10yo told her no, and has been telling my 6yo daughter she shouldn't play in the dirt/with ""boy"" things. They also say GF is overbearing, controlling, enforces affection, and mothers them.  I addressed things with ex, but he tells me it's no big deal and that I just don't what's normal in a classic family setting as I've always been at work. 

My 10yo recently asked if he could stay with me longer after I had them for the weekend and my 6yo chimed in. I agreed and they stayed an extra night and I dropped them of at school, but now they've been asking more often and it's come to the point my 10yo flat out asked to live with me. 

I work crazy hours and am barely at home. They'd be alone 90% of the time, and I don't want that!! Plus, I don't even know if these issues are serious enough to warrant a change in custody agreement!! I'm worried I'm spoiling them when they're at my place because I don't parent them full-time and that my view of raising kids is warped because I work so much. I feel like they need a stable family live, with parental figures who are at home at reasonable hours and have the time to regularly spend quality time with them, but I also don't want to leave them in a home environment where they don't feel comfortable! I looked into working fewer hours, but at my current position it's not possible without losing my job. Even working a different job wouldn't make me be at home more as I'd still need to finance three kids/rent/mortgage by myself as my ex absolutely cannot contribute anything! 

I don't know what to do? How serious are these things, should I get my kids away from this situation? He's always been a good dad to my knowledge and I'm so surprised about his passive stance in all of this. We did not divorce amicably as he cheated on me with GF, so I'm also worried I'm viewing everything they do as bad just because I personally don't like them.",6.353382034632034,5.646761297077923,6.727337662337664,80.07826839826842,65.89935064935065,9.9991341991342,33.11471861471861,9.339509955726095,2.696147835497836,2413,89,499,39,33,785,269,616,0.114,0.8240000000000001,0.062,-0.9739,10,1,0,0,3,0,79.0,2,0,19,10,28,17,2,0,25,0,49,0,0,5,1,82,80,45,0,13,14,11,4,2,3,3,0,1,8,11,22,36,0,1,11,4,5,5,22,7,0,3,15,8,78,10,77,56,10,67,0,2,3,0,85,32,0,7,27,319,100,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059453087091438726,0.0,0.13432088205430556,0.06946380069904713,0.0,0.2145418993641693,0.11161443510977964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665149465943274,0.0,0.0,0.055192504309175945,0.05970609673722362,0.1881028562187561,0.0,0.06301402644912557,0.0,0.05600025180608135,0.16353983947955275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848548375818052,0.0,0.06838185059789753,0.0,0.07095066425587676,0.057774456970598374,0.0,0.0,0.07522417522692391,0.05354955814578671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069145735171919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007337851294722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930074804881768,0.0,0.22149394328504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055552864699967,0.0,0.18968153715818267,0.0,0.13564946803817807,0.047914481998675484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03504105857426994,0.0,0.0,0.056254735404619914,0.10728325198059364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33638101001062576,0.0,0.19814991573578186,0.077389226822336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000631759822973,0.13311230895654605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371931374469827,0.0,0.0,0.07101694280752757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553356411945603,0.0,0.2368944770738837,0.0,0.05632150903508304,0.15006728531424987,0.0,0.05702011165177201,0.0,0.0,0.044769428682546686,0.0,0.0,0.07305837473478109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128429073384626,0.04930381792919409,0.0994624057756349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294020571624162,0.0657138942058422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894554054455933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05856252216149559,0.07007337851294722,0.0,0.06340237982867243,0.07561081195764349,0.06423406513718112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895864202373762,0.1324461290468068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05333637818410294,0.0,0.06787793988257934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507779122093634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750788420767584,0.0,0.14297437934513982,0.05356180923242765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586516294772206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367403644864242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173263380060808,0.0,0.0,0.12817561051064325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867803051474063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465262863415412,0.0,0.2929644775832901,0.13622471636188807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043190575082953785
parenting,immatthrowawayacct,2020/03/10,"15 year old son's immaturity is negatively affecting his life Hi everyone, throwaway for obvious reasons.

My 15 year old son is a smart young man with a lot of potential. However, he is also quite immature in many aspects.

First, he has immature interests -- while many boys his age are interested in girls, sports, and social media, my son is not. He would rather sit on the floor all night and play with his toy cars than go to a school dance or sporting event, for example. He also still likes to watch immature TV shows like Curious George, and he still likes wearing childish clothing like cartoon t-shirts (even to school). He also likes talking about these things to his peers, even if it means that he receives social ostracism (which he doesn't care about). He is also so uninterested in girls that it's almost like he still thinks girls have cooties (he doesn't, but that's how uninterested he is). Also, we basically had to force him to get a phone, and even then, all he wanted was just a flip phone with basic call and text functions to family and trusted adults.

Second, he is immature about school -- he doesn't take it as seriously as he should be and doesn't understand that it should be his priority at this point in life. He instead would rather play with his toys than do homework or study for an exam, for example. I've just let him experience the natural consequence and fail, but that hasn't helped. He says that he would like to attend university when he graduates from high school, but so far, he's not putting in the appropriate effort. He doesn't understand that in a few years, it's going to be hello adult and that now is the time to start making some decisions and start seriously preparing for this.

Third, he is immature in social situations -- these can vary from ignoring when someone greets him with his name, or talking about his more immature interests when it's clear that the person he is talking to doesn't want to talk. This is something we have been working on for YEARS -- we've been to multiple speech therapists and social groups, and while there has been *some* improvement, his social skills haven't yet gotten to an age-appropriate level. I am very worried about this with him, since good social skills are so crucial in all sorts of situations, like job interviews. 

For the record, he has been diagnosed with high-functioning autism (on the very mild side of the spectrum), and he is in therapy, but it isn't helping because he doesn't take it seriously. What should I do? I am very worried about his future; all advice is appreciated.",9.110118412727113,7.856299869022872,8.58562957606436,70.75628581759017,60.70478170478172,12.440061466148428,36.71345927867667,11.467429594995785,4.065610973515321,2051,76,379,49,23,653,223,481,0.055,0.833,0.11199999999999999,0.9766,2,0,1,0,0,0,70.0,2,0,0,7,32,22,0,0,16,0,51,4,1,4,6,66,67,38,0,11,14,3,0,8,0,6,3,2,1,8,26,22,0,1,6,9,0,7,13,5,0,3,7,3,21,17,56,50,9,53,0,1,1,0,76,19,0,9,34,235,47,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152994214647952,0.0,0.0,0.07329896941399486,0.0,0.0,0.2926890420723404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462188420983914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747451223148457,0.0,0.07463201698483769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429619878951549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504322061558275,0.0,0.0,0.06994549180105389,0.0,0.07160339505279,0.06900620354242974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226366440982321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0382438447602062,0.0,0.08320220221665714,0.061396471892561325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981284901402978,0.15467909586243755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263945049800505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485169714246362,0.10340628718677967,0.2860935776190046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223180425893932,0.0,0.0,0.048861397178099085,0.14842610146897672,0.0,0.07973597988964723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869300056919123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362163451968047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06391519256084673,0.0,0.0,0.0691974178364529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358596010202502,0.0,0.07785693752530602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526152769730926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821137403771996,0.0,0.29632819339745736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055158423177929,0.16455915724067222,0.0,0.4477075212996423,0.06202190510830013,0.05635273874666185,0.0,0.0,0.10362231038404833,0.0,0.1753722290968277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007419455268597,0.2353407242082887,0.0,0.0,0.08371028609006814,0.08499054404979949,0.04863065697227381,0.04690343994576754,0.0,0.0,0.04268335907982311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524070289801831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119236340443956,0.08635021048870269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329028505804154,0.14867578540771045,0.0,0.15599699269445505,0.0,0.0,0.18855293941255347
parenting,Zachmcmkay,2020/03/10,"Dealing with a co-parent who isn’t taking good care of the child I started dating my fiancé when her daughter was a little less than 1 year old. From her daughters birth the father has been completely out of the picture. After a few months of dating I’d watch her daughter while my fiancé worked because I am a student and work from home. I took on the dad role because I genuinely love my fiancé and I love her daughter. We worked hard together and have turned this child into a wonderful toddler. We haven’t had any significant issues whatsoever. 

Now at just past 4, her biological father has sued for visitation and got some visitation on a step-up system. It’s his right to see his daughter so that’s fine but the issue we’re facing is that he appears to be doing this just so his family stops calling him a deadbeat. By appears, I mean he’s all but told us that exactly.  

(Not speculation, this is what we’ve been told by him) When he gets her he gives her his phone and just completely checks out. We’ve gotten her back after a full day where all she ate was Oreos and ice cream.  We would limit her screen time to about a movie per day at most and she was fine with that rule. Now she throws tantrums when the shows come off and of course she screams about how she wants to go over to his house instead because there she can watch tv all day. We guarded what she watched if we felt she couldn’t handle it but he doesn’t and she’s learned some violent things from something she’s watching over there. She got in trouble at school the other day because she told another student “she was going to slice him up with a knife”. Any conversations with him about this just get generic response like, “I’m a good dad! Leave me alone.”.

What do we do? If we violate the court order we could get in big trouble. He’s also coming in an creating issues for her that weren’t a problem before him. We also have to fight getting her back because she doesn’t want to leave Oreo and ice cream tv land. We really feel stuck.",4.67869817578773,5.511997201492541,5.1281094527363225,84.81531509121064,69.5223880597015,7.846102819237148,27.575456053067995,7.921354282810032,1.5470341625207302,1593,51,323,19,27,508,205,402,0.096,0.8340000000000001,0.07,-0.9267,2,1,1,0,1,0,31.0,11,0,0,4,23,16,4,0,21,0,27,4,1,1,4,63,61,24,0,8,10,9,3,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,17,29,1,3,5,3,1,10,7,8,0,0,18,12,56,8,44,39,9,57,0,0,8,2,78,21,0,8,25,211,73,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168573392252922,0.0,0.1570303544755378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353266735987365,0.10295116467856416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099000154752798,0.0,0.2992506247084581,0.0,0.08354465811822051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025360848251963,0.0,0.10010190336624268,0.0,0.0,0.1691481894140431,0.20588147233088752,0.0,0.0,0.07838940666193883,0.0,0.0,0.2532740617539569,0.1012201284382914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255615214149898,0.0,0.04964317952246754,0.0,0.0942689971623239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051817333741632,0.0941840020191078,0.11159686073930522,0.16469885029815054,0.15704836339875006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795074231372255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848338137651416,0.0,0.0,0.1132875000782137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074258466027616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079186533891108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047966196040129916,0.0984029883974296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722407129902978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069477105964818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836700475918652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030242691737614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937247151591144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093945798239246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289715613185813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384589552845115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993642453284892,0.07823741294314786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558440246345609,0.0,0.0,0.0694928994265166,0.0,0.0,0.08208357321953691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381976818654466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522698329142625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725003367955514,0.0,0.0,0.2814479821413328,0.10908251878156627,0.0,0.10679255372898667,0.0,0.0,0.11809945425334653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581919898735844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647292603319183,0.21443044878406625,0.0,0.0,0.06974484731442307,0.0,0.0,0.06322523791743093
parenting,xmaken,2020/03/10,"Dealing with my wife So, I’ve started this topic a few time , hope it doesn’t sound like a rant or a vent, but I’m not really sure about what to do.
We are from Italy, Covid19 red zone from last Sunday. Our son is almost 11m and we are facing this emergency the best we can.
My wife (39f) owns a pharmacy: in Italy is a high revenue job, and she is in front line facing this emergency. We had to wait a lot to get the permission to open it, my wife invested a lot and she’s a lot involved in it.
I (40m) have a stable job with a really flexible schedule and remote working available ( in Italy not quite common), so we agreed to give priority to her job because now she’s economically stronger.
Problem is, she feels really guilty because she can’t stay with our son as much as she wants, to the point it’s becoming challenging for me to deal with her.
For instance , today when I had to step in because she couldn’t put our son to sleep she got angry because “it seems I’m not able to deal with him “ (had to step in because she was going back to work).
I know she faces a huge pressure because she has unrealistic expectations, I guess she’d like to be that super mom + super manager + super wife and so on, but since this is unrealistic she reacts with anger and I’m starting to feel tired to deal with this attitude.
I’ve asked her to see a therapist to talk about her expectations and how to deal with them , but she doesn’t want to do it because in her opinion this would mean to admit she has a problem. 
We have been together for 22 years , she always had this “huge expectations” attitude, but it was after our son this started to become really toxic.",7.172555637982197,5.354243071216619,7.890843842729971,76.00374350890209,64.87537091988129,11.273664688427301,33.822143916913944,10.125756701596842,3.040329525222552,1293,43,272,24,16,436,161,337,0.10800000000000001,0.75,0.142,0.8872,3,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,10,0,1,8,9,13,1,1,16,0,28,5,4,2,1,56,51,19,0,10,8,9,2,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,17,22,0,1,6,0,1,5,7,4,0,0,8,5,41,9,48,39,7,33,0,0,2,0,52,13,0,9,16,178,58,7,0.09376769108081599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389479790252328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802223055235757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766013345270147,0.0,0.0,0.07210156650699723,0.0,0.40011939913835776,0.20711809569083992,0.0,0.0,0.09840340678250108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4833518608941133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482352402867693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0489897484709987,0.08995051348930913,0.05329033971851666,0.0,0.07499458839892591,0.0,0.10329568318848567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907071383036144,0.0,0.09313247464665868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791498944168637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051532270781044026,0.07643318323788015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162031494612476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23915381337763475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021405045275936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098195865137902,0.0,0.0,0.06893004199321502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864077646758414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944603352210078,0.0,0.09426242834627893,0.0,0.09973348155768524,0.0,0.0,0.2402799358612977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472070964752085,0.08536258429178874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756560303063431,0.0,0.09383540898590724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910776309997685,0.09994388250386184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088374939148627,0.0,0.0,0.07536691823374987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887151648898603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467669472902071,0.10777216711280868,0.08888080717627574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106132272731391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652799174928978,0.0,0.0,0.06660987741732456,0.0,0.0,0.06038331876153296
parenting,ForeverYoungAtHeart,2020/03/10,"Do your kids 13 and under like wearing Jeans? Looking for de-clutter advice! We live in a cold climate so I remember as kid I hated how cold and stiff jeans felt. Also hated spending the night somewhere only to have uncomfortable jeans on.

So in this day and age, kids, mine included, seem to be inclined to wear leggings, and either cargo or sweat pants. I remember saving my jeans from my older daughter (9) for my youngest daughter (4) and she doesn't like jeans. My older sons (13,11) had tons of jeans they never wore so they are basically like new, and wondering if I should just donate all the jeans from the 3 storage containers I have put away for my youngest son (2) when he's older. I could seriously turn the 3 bins down to 1, maybe 2 if I get rid of the old jeans.  


TLDR: Should I save my older kids jeans for my younger kids if all of the kids have shown a distaste towards jeans?",5.19590909090909,5.6021290454545465,5.668181818181817,82.92227272727273,68.20454545454545,8.218181818181819,29.63636363636364,8.00094639256281,1.8658249999999992,696,24,139,8,11,224,108,176,0.076,0.863,0.061,-0.565,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,2,0,7,8,2,0,8,0,11,5,4,1,3,29,20,17,0,6,6,4,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,6,1,7,0,2,5,0,2,1,2,3,0,0,3,4,21,5,21,13,4,19,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,6,14,84,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891631629729145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480506010346687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818738471268984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455708356904907,0.0,0.0,0.12484244362633184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858662017333782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113704026589622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822383806703778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837187708985418,0.0,0.1709338076631506,0.0,0.16255760981204626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447612898651767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930006217538674,0.1869598089859123,0.0,0.1816607824896439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031286019168271,0.0,0.0,0.14722555606225807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19460036658205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4385745526587561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17622705554061807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21055836948000853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992817304666908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zazumomma,2020/03/10,"10 months later and still enjoying our baby in our bed. Currently typing next to my napping baby and thanking the sleep gods! My husband and I have been co sleeping since the third night (the first was spent in hospital, we didn’t sleep the second and then we caved by the third) and I remember how anxious and nervous my husband was at the time compared to where we are now with things. 

I just wanted to share with those interested in co sleeping that it can be done safely, it doesn’t impede on your sex life without it being used as an excuse, and it’s such a magical feeling to be by my baby’s side when she’s having a bad dream or needs some more cuddles. 

That being said, she does have her moments where I’m ready to exile her to her own room, but considering that we didn’t intend to co sleep, and bought her her own cot and Moses basket; it’s been an unexpected but delightful surprise.",7.196567349472375,6.033881418994419,7.328677839851025,77.94386716325262,64.41899441340783,9.966728739913098,32.73805090006208,8.841846274778883,2.532321663563005,710,23,140,9,9,230,109,179,0.028999999999999998,0.851,0.12,0.9223,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,6,1,0,1,8,8,0,1,10,0,17,8,5,3,0,29,26,16,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,10,15,0,1,2,2,2,0,4,2,0,4,10,2,21,6,18,12,4,21,0,0,0,2,19,9,0,2,12,105,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177164784695153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309402351314909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372364245790721,0.1604838627946849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929416684538834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333931364635071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107683679449045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517422152092256,0.0,0.0,0.11628189498239977,0.0,0.0,0.1667825054572784,0.14716729068018425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764931921875446,0.0,0.1491741073398888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972519068821398,0.0,0.7846787653540027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523864926979694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438108615050282,0.0,0.0,0.10418589916447454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914444595644043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354442865793582,0.0,0.0,0.0924979722969439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117129159597414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,canzior,2020/03/10,"Question for the women with a dad who weren't/isn't so expressive.... Simple question...I have a daughter on the way, just wondering from the women's POV, how did having a dad who wasn't emotionally expressive affect you positively or negatively?  Did it every make you doubt that he loved you?  Did it cause you to be less expressive?",4.0375956284153,6.7361957377049215,5.397950819672133,74.4699316939891,75.22950819672131,8.656830601092896,28.19945355191257,9.2995712137729,3.0255224043715843,264,11,44,7,6,88,45,61,0.040999999999999995,0.831,0.128,0.7461,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,4,0,0,3,2,0,1,6,0,7,1,0,4,0,10,10,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,5,5,1,2,0,0,0,1,17,1,0,4,0,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308109561504726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373796015493365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25270300290002545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706975088586359,0.0,0.200204845035704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6719779370011397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23806957090689174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32526005781058503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LonelyHeartsOnly,2020/03/10,"7 year old doesn't seem to be connecting the dots in her daily life  

 	She does math every day even with the same problems and forgets them as  if she’s never seen them before, this behavior has been going on since  pre-school. It’s not just educational wise it’s in other areas too.  Simple things like brushing her teeth or getting dressed. For some  reason she doesn’t seem to know that she has to do it. I have to remind  her to do these things. Now she’s began to lie about very simple things  like I’ll ask her did she eat anything while she was out with another  family member and she’ll say yes then I’ll find out later that she  didn’t eat anything because she’s hungry and asking for food. The other  day she was chewing gum and I told her to spit it out before brushing  her teeth. I saw her chewing it after brushing her teeth but she took it  out then when I questioned her she was being adamant about the gum  never even being in her mouth to the point where she started crying. I  never raise my voice at her, I remain calm and try to work through  things with her but it’s getting frustrating.  

 	I’m beginning to think that she doesn’t understand her actions. She’s a  very sweet child and doesn’t have behavioral problems. She just doesn’t  seem to be understanding social cues or lacking common sense, things  just aren’t clicking. Her teachers have noticed too and they think it  may be a hearing problem but she hears perfectly fine. I want to get her  tested but I am not sure what type of test she needs. Her brain just  seems to function differently from what I’ve ever seen. I am worried  that if she keeps moving on in school eventually the fact that she's not  picking up what she's learning is going to catch up to her and she's  not going to know what's going on at all. Has anyone else had such an  issue or know of a test I can try to get done so she can be accommodated  properly?",3.880356210369268,5.0949985117493535,4.563964005967924,86.70425261096605,71.7154046997389,7.038008205893324,24.90572547556882,7.310402129719878,1.0049292055203285,1502,43,307,15,28,481,186,383,0.068,0.873,0.059000000000000004,-0.5236,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,3,2,16,12,1,0,10,1,35,12,6,2,8,67,70,23,0,8,17,0,0,2,0,2,1,4,0,1,26,15,5,1,15,0,0,8,14,4,0,0,14,12,55,8,45,48,4,45,0,0,4,0,53,18,0,12,21,215,81,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605381789000382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405100440748115,0.09385818206742724,0.15076306184266686,0.0,0.17127303124369989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584038820534302,0.0,0.15589495080750748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225933382405254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062168359193513,0.11815281876573835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570572336319666,0.0,0.0,0.08016247385402465,0.0937417562045232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746564205661012,0.0765226202767944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121005942699023,0.08286023152092159,0.07717954690592466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635523269850026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372355688929617,0.0,0.11076680966285024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19143531705941705,0.0,0.20824056866218715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648666054188344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560981777609212,0.0,0.08142102767457621,0.0,0.0,0.15102797376477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470196543280149,0.08950527706412964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735957868585766,0.0,0.06792252417544066,0.21194983062877085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042907153392502,0.09612202465474066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659452067563839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629553329613511,0.0,0.0,0.10261641554185252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094183224172731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284644702466334,0.0,0.18541441770687653,0.0,0.3335680198191606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577501555179783,0.0,0.0,0.09337780566092486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483713250844662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863348201616068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042850847851311,0.1173911116088701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753066986183565,0.10177439397350603,0.12438495860171105,0.0,0.0,0.1907240766314352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151164271246626,0.05402987077626617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668813426211788,0.09302737570268496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058989381110299964
parenting,IndependenceSpirit,2020/03/10,"Why is my partner assuming she is going to miscarry and talking like it is a sure thing and why can't she even see how upsetting that is to me? So we are expecting. Long story short, we have had one miscarriage in the past. My partner is pregnant again now but even though the pregnancy is still viable and ongoing she keeps talking like she knows it is going to be gone soon? 

Why is she doing this? Why is she writing this one off and why is she just assuming she is going to miscarry now? 

It's more than I can bear and to make it all worse, she is acting like it is completely fucking normal to act this we?! She keeps saying ""next time we should do this"" and I respond ""What about this time?"" And she just gives me this blank look like I'm a total idiot for not agreeing with her that this child is going to miscarry?

Im starting to think she gets a kick out of upsetting me like this and then acting like I'm insane?! Wtf is going on?",2.4650841968911905,4.047146528497411,3.910229922279793,88.5128060233161,75.94300518134716,7.3120466321243525,23.461463730569946,8.07648339933343,1.1802955958549222,732,22,156,12,16,242,102,193,0.113,0.795,0.092,-0.815,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,0,0,13,11,2,2,5,0,24,1,0,2,3,33,43,13,0,3,4,0,0,6,2,1,0,1,0,3,17,14,0,2,4,0,0,9,2,4,0,2,2,3,24,7,17,39,3,26,0,0,2,1,26,5,1,2,18,115,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316669379500452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658871698679629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609553771300155,0.06560971769533441,0.12046658700600656,0.3568465091109977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564660746852186,0.0,0.0,0.2232403392331174,0.0,0.0,0.06901480092606208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681086259708855,0.0,0.0,0.11113324860984224,0.1054545284393998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382479573262985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355443320757412,0.0,0.12304051940577555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701908321032509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987913351821695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986526828616206,0.0,0.0,0.10007001095078197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888529087313282,0.0,0.10028735791593164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118356492732684,0.0,0.0,0.2018708967983757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342894641726728,0.08046579712570948,0.12338049159603888,0.0,0.14645196669293686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5665764803601293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279754823345187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smith615,2020/03/10,"My son is a liar. My 9year old son is lying about small things. Brushing his teeth, getting his school clothes ready the night before, having his snack ready to go. Little things that I kind of can’t avoid. This morning getting ready for school, he came out of the bathroom really fast. I didn’t hear any water running. Only him brushing his hair (he’s mixed so it’s easily heard). I asked if he had brushed his teeth and he just shook his head. I asked if he had gotten his snack that he wanted for school and he just shook his head. We go to leave and I check the toothbrush, it’s bone dry. I asked him, “I thought you brushed your teeth?”  His response was, “I dried it off”. Then as were literally walking out the door he has to get his snack. When I asked why when he said he did that last night. He said he forgot. 

How the hell do I stop him from lying about small stuff like that? I’ve already decided he’s grounded from his phone and has to read when he gets him from school because he HATES reading. 

Any other suggestions?",1.5001976284584977,3.807121077294688,1.9317193675889364,97.97172924901186,82.18840579710144,4.7298199385155915,19.5540184453228,5.852544927426893,-0.3146985507246378,801,21,177,5,22,243,111,207,0.127,0.813,0.059000000000000004,-0.9273,0,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,0,0,9,8,3,3,6,0,13,11,7,1,0,19,33,13,0,3,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,12,8,4,3,2,2,1,7,2,6,0,0,13,9,30,2,17,20,0,24,1,0,0,0,45,7,1,2,11,92,42,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310797193223214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155268767240502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441833503407612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240886243814393,0.0,0.10107537224053477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585582292706924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482363390416305,0.0,0.13501394935555278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727337483052125,0.24381074246588816,0.0,0.13387679311529524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369395626503099,0.0,0.09682379569422343,0.0,0.12577378231243114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580312521341354,0.11905152173555952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22293913028357268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246425156448864,0.0,0.0,0.09033963460414554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376297903695901,0.0,0.07609527182339501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22597919413665654,0.0,0.0,0.4808579416180049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930769847974813,0.0,0.0,0.13597783123969054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782796326675486,0.0,0.0,0.09430023604102963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006114402720094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718295719910728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weeblebloooop,2020/03/10,"Is every kid an asshole or just mine? My daughter is 11. She has always been a sweet kid and, I thought up until recently, a good human. Good moral compass you know. Did the right thing. We always have had stellar reports from teachers, babysitters, etc that she is a joy to have and  is well behaved. The last few month with her have not been like this. Her behavior has recently taken a turn for the worst. We live in a house but have two kids that live in a different house on the same land as us. A girl who is 10 and a boy who is 7. My daughter and these kids have been friends basically since birth. They always have been outside playing when it’s nice and tearing up one house or another when it’s not. Always seemingly having a fun time and playing well. Recently my child has been saying rude things to the other children where she’s constantly trying to one up them. Some I specifically remember are “my grandfather taught me karate and I’m way better at it there you and you could never beat me”. The little girl across the way got a ukulele for her birthday and was really excited to come show my daughter and my daughter just said “I took ukulele lessons before and your bad at playing it and I’m way better” ( my child has never had ukelele lessons or karate lesson in her life, her grandfather doesn’t know karate, he does reiki). They were playing  the other day and the other little girl ran out my daughters room crying and ran straight out the front door down to her house. I called her mom to make sure she was ok and her mom said that my daughter told the little girl she hated her. And I believe it. I told the little girl she didn’t have to play with my daughter if my daughter was mean to her. And that she should never let anyone be mean to her and if they were mean they weren’t her true friends. Yesterday I was waiting at the bus stop for all the kids and when they got off the bus my daughter asked the other two kids if they wanted to play and they said no and my daughter got all uppity and was like “why not?!” And the little girl said “you said you hated me” and my daughter said “yeah so” and the little girl said “well you hurt my feelings and you can’t just take something like that back” and walked away. My daughter looked at me upset and I told her that the other girl was right. That saying you hate someone is very very mean and rude and that if she truly doesn’t like the little girl then she doesn’t have to play with her but she’s is not to say mean things to her or pretend to be her friend when she’s not acting like a friend . My daughter stormed off to her room immediately and the rest of the night went pretty much the same. I feel like my daughter is turning into a bully and I don’t know how to stop it. The mom of the other kids and I agreed that they are going to take a break from each other for awhile. Myself and my husband have had multiple sit down conversation with our daughter about being nice and feelings and being a good person and how to make friends and not be a bully and all that stuff but ever response is just “I know” “ok” and “yeah whatever” 

She is a pretty master manipulator when it comes to her grandmother as well. Which I won’t get into in to much details because my mother in law is her own piece of work but her grandmother thinks the other kids are the evil ones because of things my daughter has said to her. 

The school also called recently and they are having a problem with her constantly asking to go to the nurses office for every little thing. I asked them how her behavior towards the other kids has been but they haven’t noticed anything. 

She has also started sneaking things to school that’s she knows she shouldn’t be taking, like the family
iPad and toys and things.


She also comes home with small things and sometimes even clothes and says that a teacher gave them to her as a gift but I am suspicious 

We have had no major changes at home. She does have a little brother who is three but she is really good with him though can be a little overbearing at times.


 I am starting to dislike my daughters personality and it making me feel terrible. 

Are these behaviors more concerning then just “kids being kids”? 

What do I do? Are these any good books to read on preteens being ahole? Should I get her in to see a counselor?",3.3977319759679574,5.141092788551403,3.887787716955941,88.96949532710279,73.80140186915888,6.526942590120161,24.14445927903872,7.1686216300943375,0.8742433110814427,3401,102,689,35,70,1067,306,856,0.107,0.7559999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.9758,2,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,5,9,13,8,28,52,6,1,54,4,87,1,0,7,9,140,154,80,0,10,26,23,4,7,5,4,1,12,5,27,47,64,0,3,21,12,0,12,21,12,4,6,43,19,118,40,79,96,17,94,1,1,2,0,152,46,0,10,38,508,165,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452658107926464,0.14501192647459346,0.0,0.0,0.029628482187704763,0.04568600042507507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030464527895576726,0.0,0.03585365714102705,0.0,0.12219368188723315,0.0,0.04093460384994607,0.03350194869781173,0.03637837878888594,0.05311863818275462,0.0,0.03707409525884157,0.049087456084026086,0.0,0.07706665705241254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897784525406846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046090330960673706,0.11259276586522675,0.0,0.0941654382310081,0.0,0.034786381263974125,0.0,0.047858610728177216,0.028098465250682637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04552043650425425,0.0,0.0,0.07625522639326908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04859106370040927,0.02877697977562376,0.039410745513746,0.07341769208568072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04107307012292859,0.0,0.08811938467512093,0.03112577389217716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830689370390595,0.0,0.04552611321793739,0.0,0.0495226473939493,0.18271847065119629,0.10453856864166032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904639894214376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740671982639693,0.0,0.0,0.20109156775014525,0.04664162288732703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972219021210412,0.0355146317576526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044552356856761115,0.03077414396636685,0.14899963120032772,0.4366768441901539,0.07694462740838018,0.0,0.036587071014159485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724813811991658,0.0,0.0,0.2372976142148009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308281074764907,0.03477644011040039,0.0,0.06405660355161877,0.0,0.10080952808444613,0.0,0.0,0.0408866490908742,0.0,0.0,0.04960370935777468,0.0,0.0,0.08857064962884173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608571552144562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865087656608754,0.0,0.04168974476095328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043580890622570735,0.0,0.05582296248416098,0.0,0.1720769209492439,0.0,0.0493552972441037,0.07441554703559751,0.3315535321502896,0.1385915888755245,0.0,0.08818851090200086,0.034718931953196794,0.03966367248593136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03604080992047455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03691595721686819,0.033541621931679734,0.04309095416203955,0.0,0.061676866748464926,0.0,0.0,0.07285143733357413,0.0,0.0,0.049876195919160315,0.0,0.0,0.04106336132436465,0.0,0.09827562333886726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23156299363353836,0.027917320168389718,0.04280641973929323,0.034588998847281234,0.050810985406254575,0.0,0.0,0.12489642707677602,0.048406873443176665,0.029580559088542492,0.09478133968256497,0.08512136012540353,0.0,0.05240826302514805,0.0,0.0,0.07189814118932826,0.025698184137542032,0.10374937130482284,0.0,0.0,0.15669541409256288,0.04038899239044038,0.039314336195246234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031718823854930266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,palf_070,2020/03/10,"Got that dad feeling again My sons are staying with me every other weekend and some days in between. This last weekend my oldest one was having a rough night being sick, most likely ate something that had upset his stomach. He had to throw up a lot, feeling miserably and in pain. 

I comforted him, made sure he knew I was there for him, hugged him and told him things are going to be ok soon. And I just had this overwhelming feeling of pride in being a dad.

They grow up so quick and becoming their own person in the blink of an eye, which is great and I really try to stimulate him in getting his own opinions and beliefs and all that. But damn, it did feel good to have my boy cuddling up to me and to have that 'little man' with me again. None of my friends are parents yet and they don't know the feeling of it, so wanted to share here I guess.",4.5162050739957715,4.937575546511631,4.983763213530653,87.18153276955604,69.69767441860465,7.649894291754759,27.845665961945034,7.348242739294969,1.3553302325581391,662,21,139,6,11,211,108,172,0.092,0.752,0.157,0.8163,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,3,1,10,15,1,3,6,1,17,7,2,2,2,32,32,13,0,1,2,4,6,1,1,0,2,0,0,3,11,12,1,0,8,2,0,3,2,5,0,1,11,7,22,10,23,18,7,24,1,2,1,2,22,9,1,5,12,108,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21180937308534056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368423763226337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158553845066445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4848565044803338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817115205618758,0.0,0.10019875739625844,0.0,0.10899475885614797,0.16085857033260753,0.15338646969099345,0.2114415515603308,0.21127071321892935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539897956660946,0.15632882844478904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369553831543076,0.19221705557035612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304713860153436,0.0,0.18146981214014168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997545335753856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995719609835818,0.0,0.20407074663491634,0.0,0.21295244335508512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745761085201347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286116867290735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764400477241818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044152735785717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18075330786612348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741217392074927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325697659008056,0.0,0.13020814008742396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311864492343372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Renots123,2020/03/10,"Love my kids, not so much being a parent. Does anyone else love their kids, whole heartedly.  But really dislike being a parent in general? My wife gets really mad at me for not loving being a parent. And I just can't get there. I will always be there for my family, and love them with everything i can. But am i wrong to feel this way? Is this normal?",0.9851056338028172,3.308229535211272,3.493785211267608,85.8212411971831,84.63380281690141,6.930281690140845,14.508802816901408,8.07648339933343,0.4877732394366201,271,4,54,6,8,94,50,71,0.161,0.685,0.154,0.3628,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,0,4,6,1,0,3,0,9,5,1,0,0,11,16,5,0,1,5,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,10,4,6,11,2,3,0,0,0,4,12,2,0,0,0,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412515355552407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127096117216722,0.16516086446391695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410607278733091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465573099295658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486951240529494,0.0,0.1519580346572332,0.0,0.08150382032776883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843295788396695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19101400353118608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5819304486077306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849510583684955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793452060965146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369559092594237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20652821039307126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794718058344412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996577800658525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623880035779088,0.0,0.0
parenting,somewhereinGA,2020/03/10,"Bugs love my son It does not matter how many people are around my son, he will be the first one to get ate up by anything that bites. His legs look like he has chicken pox and I am constantly doctoring his legs. He wears bug spray, but it does not help sometimes. I even bought the Johnson and Johnson Aloe lotion, that has been said to repel mosquitoes. I dont get why he gets ate up! I even had our yard sprayed for mosquitoes at 50 dollars a month last year. Do you have any suggestions? Does anyone have a kid that has the same problems?",2.2982568807339447,4.302904009174316,2.8426513761467898,94.09627064220186,77.71559633027523,6.194862385321102,22.82660550458716,7.1686216300943375,0.6219754128440371,423,13,92,5,10,131,78,109,0.07400000000000001,0.8859999999999999,0.04,-0.5826,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,5,0,13,7,3,1,0,10,22,4,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,5,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,2,6,2,10,2,8,14,1,9,0,0,1,1,15,4,0,0,6,52,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300754530597619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374587476888494,0.0,0.15740531921016862,0.17027778198050406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067033330102941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578091817911208,0.5021654362062808,0.0,0.2241761395694613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252674346143807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270078628803514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998042440390685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820946738693156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591692435882884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344866398359887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062516493914106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726356690321314,0.0,0.0,0.19392565185145333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267610316681013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961477748878136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260793206609742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302700770737407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819489757979828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917862041987168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259844969252558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317662231305625
parenting,kikipopsy,2020/03/10,My (27M) child (3M) has become very clingy recently with me to the point I can't always do household tasks/life admin He plays on his own and is a lot more independent with my partner (28F) and we parent very similarly (although I probably am more of a fan of playing games) Any tips to encourage a bit more independence in my toddler's play and remove some of the clingy moaniness that I am often subjected to?,7.487682926829269,6.0602015487804906,8.522073170731709,70.47628048780491,64.0,12.102439024390245,36.35365853658536,11.20814326018867,3.9843073170731698,325,13,63,8,4,112,62,82,0.0,0.845,0.155,0.8773,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,2,0,11,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,10,6,7,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,3,1,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477881239849177,0.0,0.0,0.2025098540870204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32888962550309403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251134741979243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253173462405763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33066454201157425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815111994873035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210718589125053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940352456498435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4914218011282741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cocktail_bunny,2020/03/10,"13 year old wants a bodycon dress. I told her that it wasn’t appropriate and that it’s meant for women in their 20s. She let it go for the moment but it’s been on my mind. I went to Facebook and asked (to a general audience) if they thought it was appropriate for a 13 y/o to dress that way. 

I shared my opinion with the book facers about how it looks like something a prostitute would wear and I was promptly told that I was ‘slut-shaming’ my daughter for wanting to wear the dress. 

I don’t even understand the correlation but several of them seemed certain I was ‘body shaming’ and ‘slut shaming’ my daughter. One even went as far to call me a 

I peeked at some of their profiles and the trend I saw was that they were all 20 somethings without children. So I wondered what parents think! Is it appropriate for a 13 year year old. So?",3.3668956043956086,4.799124059523808,4.2702380952380965,87.4645054945055,73.28571428571428,7.312087912087913,29.58974358974359,7.882392219407189,1.797940842490843,654,28,138,9,13,211,96,168,0.0,0.9390000000000001,0.061,0.8516,1,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,5,0,6,6,0,2,11,0,12,4,3,1,2,26,28,12,0,4,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,13,6,0,0,6,1,0,3,3,3,0,1,15,2,22,3,19,11,2,14,0,0,2,1,17,4,0,5,7,93,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499993074742344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841656057289955,0.0,0.0,0.1692995861909189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901770059394773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422754267575438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954098086197292,0.0,0.08100114563120607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922962429463284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740999275866764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479568746252332,0.0,0.11234987232313788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18410046184542392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093742311934155,0.0,0.18730597563261045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25528074756096564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623747380197797,0.0,0.13162609579681014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168566041796885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260288123046902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955854034415368,0.13160373858099145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073951579225087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598245741034135,0.17980222947385185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777904025608685,0.0,0.0,0.32030787055739196
parenting,ekcs2,2020/03/10,"5 month old sleep pattern My 5 month old has always been a good sleeper. We’ve just never had much of a problem with night time things. And we know that is uncommon. Well now all of a sudden she is waking up in the middle of the night and wanting to play (squeak, coo, kick around). This is the fourth night in a row. I thought she wasn’t getting enough to eat so this last time I went ahead and just fed her some formula. But now she’s woken up two more times wanting to play. We’re up for like 45 minutes if I take her out and rock her. Thoughts? Solutions?",0.8760256410256417,2.9250773931623972,1.92873931623932,98.60028846153848,82.76068376068376,4.925641025641027,20.006410256410245,5.985473137389443,-0.2412102564102563,433,12,101,3,12,136,81,117,0.024,0.85,0.126,0.8645,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,7,0,7,4,2,0,2,21,17,7,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,2,0,3,3,0,1,2,1,1,1,8,0,11,5,16,9,5,25,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,2,17,64,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204703374853653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519709154086411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468219243621153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763923400625929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919058587696317,0.0,0.0,0.14318610833223455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093819494199945,0.13915401907938882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340183225388753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725232486519094,0.0,0.125493823131956,0.0,0.1316645215430536,0.0,0.0,0.480608239430033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582695116586164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334944924863246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083645792572294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835505901206304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341424519775035,0.0,0.0,0.2710543777210583,0.2986326683990305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676196239035485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201382102463198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349164248050232,0.15825281974057312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluzey1234,2020/03/10,"How old were your children when you told them where babies come from? Just asking what is an appropriate age? I have always told my children the truth about where babies come from, I was at school pick up yesterday and another mother brought up that her son had asked, she told him babies come from her “wee wee” and another mother said she told her that a doctor gets them out. 

I am just concerned maybe I should not be telling my children the truth and maybe wait till they are older. 

What do other people tell their children?",5.4948571428571436,6.8234606000000015,4.7314285714285695,86.58500000000002,68.0,7.314285714285713,25.285714285714285,7.447530270364453,1.098271428571428,420,11,80,4,7,125,67,100,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.6298,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,4,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,2,2,16,23,6,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,5,7,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,9,1,18,2,9,12,0,16,0,0,0,0,28,6,0,0,6,56,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870255887991333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243818796229094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892017674256677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997182143707471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583171154907086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808116602468799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107850263458092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230610982257113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072326429518822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713199469456092,0.0,0.0,0.15654004870951374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703867287051479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5911969734914503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ripkrustysdad,2020/03/10,Baby proofing rock overlay on fireplace How would you do this ?? This subreddit does not allow pics to share what I'm dealing with.,3.17625,6.225134125000004,3.2633333333333354,85.915,82.75,4.866666666666667,28.83333333333333,6.42735559955562,1.6546833333333333,105,5,17,1,3,32,23,24,0.064,0.8390000000000001,0.098,0.2249,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,6,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.674922612501135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5728947450502491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4650495438428607,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peachnkeen519,2020/03/10,"Nanny cams? Just hired a nanny because I'm going back to work. Our twins are 16mo and let's just say I'm a bit paranoid and would like to be able to have eyes on our nanny until I can trust her. My husband thinks having cameras in our home might ""scare her away and she could quit"" because of the cameras. But she hasn't said anything about the cameras. I had cameras up to spy on our dogs before we even got a nanny and they're still up and obvious, not hidden at all.

What is the general consensus regarding nannies and cameras? Is my husband rightfully worried and we will be without childcare suddenly when she realizes there are nanny cams? He also mentioned that people don't like being watched while working. Which I understand but these are my kids.

Any insight? Thanks!",3.0380000000000003,5.543852133333335,3.8859999999999992,85.01299999999998,77.66666666666666,6.133333333333333,28.0,7.3011,1.7656,620,27,110,8,15,198,102,150,0.035,0.8909999999999999,0.073,0.7616,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,6,0,0,3,9,5,0,1,6,0,19,1,1,0,2,25,27,13,0,2,6,2,0,2,0,3,0,2,1,1,4,9,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,4,17,4,15,16,2,15,0,0,2,0,18,8,0,1,8,81,21,3,0.19510732842704467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560272600527714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267967384576498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055670707369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330975759771725,0.15002549230374726,0.0,0.23787123297675264,0.0,0.16602196615765902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130066702873047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557773257211886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886655032502414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088399099523752,0.0,0.15604515393675766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570855849151592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19951046224258584,0.0,0.19063917083525214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069780429056489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526285522763165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752066001792566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666205924283652,0.18559174846276366,0.15515717859993625,0.19533647250411107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558129645122484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962861451934795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501689796741794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031136097220541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807650218241975,0.0,0.28408091762391,0.1981409627527619,0.0,0.13859864821184667,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krowbear,2020/03/10,"Now that you are a parent, what do you judge other parents negatively for doing? For me, I get very grumpy when I see parents letting their children be mean to other young children. Or not paying enough attention to notice what their child is doing.",6.612536231884057,7.7063375,6.5508695652173925,75.40644927536233,65.30434782608695,7.872463768115942,30.55072463768116,7.793537801064563,2.2289507246376816,199,7,32,2,3,63,36,46,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,10,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,4,8,1,3,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,1,3,30,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485558944548629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256791867591031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459820785119407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620330976345338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738715612499845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8013180181483108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191689859933099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984816905170307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hownowbrownmau,2020/03/10,"Pinning down toddler to brush their teeth Ok. I feel really weird about this and I need more experienced people to set me right. Some context: I was molested as a child. This has started to impact my parenting. I need people who haven't gone through what I have to tell me what is ""normal."" 

I have a 17 month old. She is fiercely independent. She wants to do EVERYTHING by herself. She gets SOO excited to brush her teeth morning and evening, but... you know. She's not really brushing. She just moves the toothbrush around and chews on it. She freaks out if you try to do it for her and will full on scream and cry. 

This is how most things have been. I can't feed her with a spoon or fork. ""no, no no"" she'll say. But she will eat when allowed to do it on her own. I feel like i'm being permissive but she is eating so I let it go. But toothbrushing is different. She's not good at it and I don't want her to get cavities. 

All of my internet scouring has pointed to two things 1) She needs to be brushing at this age and 2) Force her to brush her teeth at this age by any means possible.  The best method I've seemed to have found is two people, with one holding down the toddler, while the other goes in and brushes their teeth. I'm thinking, ""WTF?!"" I couldn't even if I wanted to - I don't have a second person. Hubs is deployed. Another video suggests laying them down and brushing. I tried it. The best I have been able to do is lay her down and while she is screaming, to brush her teeth in between wails. I did it once and my skin crawls from the experience. 

So here are my options:

A) Let her brush her teeth miserably. Grab a second tooth brush, randomly jab it in and get a couple strokes in here and there. No meltdown, no tears. Questionable quality. Takes 15-20 minutes to brush teeth. 

B) Let her brush her teeth by herself. Explain its ""mommy's turn"" to deaf ears and proceed to pin her down on the ground to brush her teeth because thats literally the only way she will let me. 

C) Let her chew on her toothbrush and roll it around her mouth until she has the mental acuity and motor skills to do it right

D) Hope and pray to the gods that Reddit parents have a better answer.",1.152964262628128,3.4807583891402767,2.3976424415920228,93.93901422107308,83.88687782805431,5.508615753993905,21.011358389509653,6.868970318607317,0.3926466340382309,1696,53,367,21,49,542,220,442,0.078,0.86,0.061,-0.1231,4,0,1,0,0,0,66.0,0,2,3,4,13,14,1,1,18,1,45,20,13,3,1,60,70,32,0,11,10,2,5,1,0,4,2,5,0,2,24,22,5,1,10,1,0,3,12,6,0,5,6,24,62,8,55,52,8,40,1,1,0,0,49,25,0,10,11,259,86,0,0.09823841996440008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668054943147546,0.10301154889830236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490604304566562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059885228994250125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20619032184753908,0.0868838991979921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869894316599804,0.10791029141007026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263823988095032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104485774402334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977109975576304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829035741411627,0.09609602520004262,0.0,0.0,0.0993445937365026,0.07018154685153186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077133568861105,0.0,0.0,0.15397655937042448,0.0,0.055831157971045035,0.08239772577587286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757291718718812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053989266455800745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022772013509346,0.0,0.04799432978034292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701043892089966,0.0,0.0,0.0990012214011476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841296956638784,0.10441189346581987,0.0,0.2185276308873094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625279357358824,0.0,0.0,0.10308469627167308,0.10462071110689887,0.06656889579816938,0.07471474517567099,0.0,0.0,0.21816427927455606,0.0,0.0,0.20431845309805416,0.08577799908041349,0.0,0.0,0.09286706032985176,0.1107490579160265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004951327872338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258680947354082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779014776798062,0.0,0.07812313455714946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943256795856963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953365928117501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386306589101566,0.0,0.0858647090825207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053048209395382,0.06294721281964606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333948772331611,0.10685519104883544,0.19192932340900146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17383069609409604,0.0779770851456795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chunkyswampert,2020/03/10,"Mother of niece (7) and nephew (3) got arrested and my brother and I have no clue how to raise children It's a long story but the mother of these 2 kids got arrested and has 2 felony charges and is going to serve 4 years at least, her side of the family wants nothing to do with them and our mother is not reliable enough to get consistent help. My dad is trying his best to help us but he lives about 45 minutes away and he does not have a car right now. They do not have a lot of clothes and I am going to take them to get some tomorrow after school. The boy has enough pull-ups for a while. Could anyone give tips on just general child care? Neither of us have raised a child and I am the youngest so I really don't know what to do. I'm not sure what I'm asking for but any advise on anything would be appreciated!!",4.562601156069364,4.139035809248559,5.4806994219653165,86.58185838150291,69.52023121387282,9.00092485549133,26.5485549132948,8.548686976883017,1.4451900578034689,637,16,147,9,10,210,109,173,0.095,0.784,0.12,0.8220000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,3,1,5,3,0,0,9,0,18,0,0,1,1,27,32,15,0,3,8,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,10,0,0,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,2,0,14,3,22,27,7,15,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,2,6,96,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596136481658245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923352032963508,0.0,0.14032575105938586,0.0,0.1594158174538219,0.0,0.1602118022986584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895317876669212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17385937935027454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614859589649894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922566858032454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35239131257578554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075373819312624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818227036068246,0.16358102678484274,0.1938240961771523,0.0,0.2727653528083752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285957030457551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371488210481006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057477384518012,0.15090732932133918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497240328510852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362124444892054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924128473335168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562555623253418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257819723181536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071573943486814,0.0,0.12821193852565532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577380110846235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102359121578342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057877710434536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113451851760128,0.0,0.0,0.10981110502345268
parenting,Hooligan_UTK,2020/03/10,"what do my parents expect bruh Does this make any sense: I am a 15 yo male, and ive been trying to get a job for myself but my parents have been holding me back. Then they want to claim that all i do is mooch off of them and the house that they have and complain when i try to do something to help because im “trying too hard” like wtf what am i supposed to do?!?!?!",8.270583333333335,3.5221552250000023,8.232499999999998,83.53583333333336,65.5,10.666666666666668,35.41666666666667,3.1291,1.8981666666666668,278,7,69,0,3,91,56,80,0.17,0.736,0.09300000000000001,-0.8301,3,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,1,1,9,15,6,0,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,12,1,8,13,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,4,48,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607151300920232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817261515184692,0.0,0.14406692843339772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20681735487409916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347468834298382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170871925363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584096056974935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726975454448441,0.0,0.0,0.2552811255755461,0.0,0.23452489068200094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546078707217496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15775468775164034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5248415700637803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18194135285419316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813655359047777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939583474538364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vanellope09,2020/03/10,"My 2 year old wailed on another kid My almost 2 year old started hitting a younger child in the back in a bounce house after they collided. I have to assume that he thought he was pushed and was retaliating as toddlers do. I grabbed him and told him, we use nice hands, we don’t hit friends especially babies. I took him over to her and had him give her a hug and say sorry (although 2 year olds don’t understand what sorry means yet). She messaged me today saying that what my son did was not okay and they will be not be attending his upcoming birthday party. She is upset that I didn’t message her afterwards to apologize.. She implied that I don’t care because it didn’t take me five years to have my son like she did with her daughter, who is her “heart and soul”. I’m currently pregnant and she said “not everyone can have pregnancies without worry” as though she knows anything about me or my pregnancies. I responded telling her that I did apologize in person and that I don’t know why my son did that and that is not something he does all the time and is out of character for him. I’ve chosen to not speak to her anymore but worry that this is going to negatively impact my relationship with my best friend (our mutual friend). I guess I want to know if I handled the situation badly?",5.924934895833331,5.962002144531255,6.5074062500000025,78.80530208333336,66.6171875,9.951666666666668,32.69166666666666,9.725611199111238,2.9238201041666683,1023,40,203,20,15,335,143,256,0.038,0.846,0.11599999999999999,0.9564,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,2,1,5,11,0,1,6,1,27,3,2,1,1,36,47,17,0,2,9,4,2,1,3,1,0,4,0,3,14,15,0,0,7,0,0,4,13,2,0,1,14,6,46,9,23,28,2,25,1,0,0,1,51,6,0,5,16,142,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218161371219677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756192451209294,0.0,0.0,0.12064533423357195,0.0,0.0,0.100108599202217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354228890766923,0.101573697976705,0.07415746236274512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766546349383834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403153942541252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064578135788384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624296614835958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819623219773749,0.0,0.0,0.11669894744094893,0.06913719902956003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340125479630832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415729654488954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14036918939441342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20056900820598064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05943264748395113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251385575330085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829575145154206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622116413662053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306078972780737,0.0,0.0,0.11571818020389647,0.19348388602263636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367410826057114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936530623178328,0.0,0.2723571906766762,0.08610536868086076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914665873505448,0.0,0.10632853942474634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952171852670372,0.0965774902344936,0.07093581211390375,0.0,0.1153111443483432,0.11624296614835958,0.13515899572237053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266432235611827,0.0,0.10506760617824287,0.0,0.0,0.0717530489548345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977131592435306,0.0,0.0,0.11726744724338001,0.0,0.0,0.24708546391218386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31335762161267555
parenting,cemetery_slut,2020/03/10,"New to parenting in general, how do I get my little sister who I am caring for to eat healthy foods??? Hello all!

I (23F) recently gained custody of my little sister (10F). It’s been kind of messy and it’s a long story, but basically her mom was not fit to parent due to drug and alcohol problems and her home was not fit for my sister to live in. I did not even know that said sister existed until roughly 6 months ago and her mother just started letting me get her for visits. After a month of visits, she basically kicked little sister out and told her to go live with me. Things have been stressful, but I love my sister and I am so happy to give her a safe place to live for what I hope is the rest of her childhood. I’m just scrambling to make sure I’m doing everything right. 

She has adjusted well for the most part and is enjoying the school I enrolled her in and our nightly bedtime stories, but I’m still trying to figure out how to set routines and whatnot for a small human. One of the things I’ve noticed is that she will NOT eat anything remotely healthy. I encourage her to try my home cooked meals and different snacks, but literally the only things I have witnessed her eat are chips, Mac and cheese, goldfish crackers, popcorn chicken, pepperoni pizza, and yeah that’s it. She lived pretty secluded and only ate what her mom fed her, which was unfortunately mostly fast foods. She also won’t eat any meats other than pepperoni and popcorn chicken and she won’t go near a vegetable. She will not eat school lunch. Won’t drink water, will only drink fruit punch and sodas. I did try sugar-free fruit punch drink mix today though and she liked it, so I guess we’ve made some progress. 

My question is basically just how do I make her eat healthier? I’m not sure if I should approach her in an authoritative manner and be like “nah you gotta eat what I make or eat nothing” or if I should continue my approach of just suggesting she try different things? I’ve made very little progress by being nice and just making suggestions, but I don’t want to come off as overly authoritative if it’s an unhealthy way to handle this problem. 

Overall I just want to make sure she builds healthy habits and learns about nutrition. Should I even be stressing over her dietary choices, or is this something that she’ll get over with time? I’m honestly lost, but I’m doing my best :(",4.9389798387096775,6.011251969892474,5.506004704301077,81.46900705645163,69.08602150537635,8.221102150537636,29.154905913978496,8.472884824447931,2.0848615591397848,1886,68,360,28,32,608,228,465,0.075,0.745,0.18,0.9953,4,0,6,0,0,0,47.0,1,1,0,7,18,22,0,2,12,1,37,28,0,10,4,82,71,41,0,11,24,11,1,2,0,11,2,1,2,1,21,25,26,1,5,4,0,7,10,5,1,1,14,4,57,17,46,42,7,46,0,1,0,1,52,20,0,12,19,235,78,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058267243738179875,0.07024726659141746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256566880655817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446998543099441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409164197238785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898143215048327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067017915317458,0.0,0.0,0.056622095350059576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735140848420582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931763163768899,0.07622797906800399,0.5380800452478048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683042184215503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907547206805496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589662225607806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030264028670516,0.06305589863243757,0.07471375379704366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241094992832559,0.0,0.0,0.0699726862319071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131868639682508,0.06528647422791801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844951828073999,0.03612445906776328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721518328361377,0.0,0.06422644038159364,0.26352198795962906,0.2321694113993336,0.058170543660262336,0.0,0.0,0.07175398640727104,0.0,0.059325484347078135,0.12439397094064525,0.2193823181168877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396849770941642,0.10493293557902753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348414833935233,0.0,0.06168480875953595,0.0,0.06307140141414255,0.07483605023970706,0.0,0.0,0.04454154518687288,0.14997590804830616,0.0,0.0,0.1459746926392073,0.07118109609540292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867570424210291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687283610831382,0.0,0.1257928438741755,0.0,0.0,0.07363462033919484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490218810235683,0.0,0.0,0.05613456824775144,0.0625259610379885,0.0,0.0,0.13304811107624726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506035241416279,0.0,0.0,0.04652528166114256,0.0,0.052493472522357296,0.0,0.15059102968757418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18585423212506652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467705590550078,0.0,0.06458112547765824,0.0,0.038328720833813036,0.0,0.062306027506364124,0.06280951843112212,0.0,0.17851021504074874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423559019929215,0.07754059622095225,0.0521748155788462,0.0,0.0,0.059100750897396234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pandchicka,2020/03/10,"Daughters fear of spiders My 11 year old daughter is deathly afraid of spiders. We don’t have any poisonous ones near where we live. She is afraid that they will crawl into her ears while she sleeps. She is extremely ocd and has to wash her bedding every day after school just in case one went on her blanket. She cries herself to sleep every night because she is so scared. I don’t know what to do anymore. They are apart of life. It’s not like our house is infested, they just occasionally pop out like in any other house. Does anybody have any suggestions to ease this poor girls mind?",3.605789473684212,5.742156245614037,3.4507368421052647,90.62715789473688,74.26315789473685,5.963508771929827,25.43508771929825,6.742157984588678,0.8627466666666663,468,16,93,4,10,141,83,114,0.16899999999999998,0.812,0.02,-0.9564,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,3,0,4,7,1,4,0,0,13,6,3,0,0,10,15,3,1,0,3,2,0,2,0,1,3,1,1,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,5,0,2,1,1,17,2,14,13,0,15,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,0,8,58,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36054882702308777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526937417558808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077333997318501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941303849865508,0.11397668661189725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546582342417039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978064890008577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887118146637667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078470192815352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712657565141168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483012617633235,0.17268339461753998,0.0,0.15605645373070848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17844763563027444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584979814610934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854491495847636,0.0,0.23951460422471285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769382704343372,0.17886091251199288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537166832168163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383113765061208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380878212595075
parenting,CounterStreet,2020/03/10,"I now have ""Dad Footsteps""! 😁 I have 2 daughters, 3 & 2, and over the past couple weeks I've noticed I have finally achieved ""Dad Footsteps""!

Whenever they're doing something their not supposed to (getting out of bed and playing, rummaging through drawers, etc), all I have to do is take 2-3 loud steps and I hear my 3 year old yell to her sister ""Run! Hide! Daddy's coming!"" followed by overly dramatic ""Ahhhh!""s and the sound of little feet fleeing the scene of the crime 🤣

They have no reason to fear me either; we don't spank and rarely even yell, mostly just talk sternly if they're deliberately misbehaving - so I don't know where they got it from. But it takes me right back to being a kid myself and living in fear of hearing ""Dad's footsteps"" when I was up to no good!",4.1041558441558434,5.223414350649353,5.118051948051949,83.3042207792208,71.07792207792208,7.418181818181819,28.935064935064936,7.686295010490155,1.7343714285714285,606,23,120,7,11,199,106,154,0.134,0.835,0.032,-0.9345,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,3,1,7,4,0,2,5,0,12,1,1,1,1,18,21,10,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,2,9,0,0,2,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,2,6,16,2,18,18,4,21,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,2,8,75,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744643293843334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401238374082338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569752509995822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016343394528276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323493331281986,0.12036138170801147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4101194575074789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199624365095373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952078003569354,0.0,0.0,0.15284611354372776,0.14574620248075595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4107735407493319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014899650619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826426148137421,0.16091267641862927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747038232280812,0.1912200250989746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173959422656934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736307890830245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556236639772231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402897730026711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274028984406067,0.14646979681808628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617413916832758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173503260777208
parenting,tlaloc1313,2020/03/10,"My 2 1/2 is really pushing my buttons and I am running out of ideas.. Yes the terrible twos I know. I just need to vent I guess. The problem is how I react. I snap back and say abusive things like: ""What do you want!"" ""You are such a pain..!"" ""I am tired of you!""   It cannot be good for her psyche or mental health.
I very much suffer from parent guilt afterwards. I know I am not perfect. I am just trying the best I can. There are some bad days and good days. But when it's constant whining, crying, screaming, shouting I loose it. And it's always NO for an answer. NO, NO NO! She is mayor of NO-ville. Everything is a negotiation or hustle.  OR change your mind like the flip of a coin. I know I should be patient but there is a limit.
Does it get better? Any advise for those who have had multiple kids? This is my 1st one but we have almost 4 month too. Thank you!!",-0.8554615384615403,1.2889364111111128,1.5322222222222237,96.40807692307692,96.0,4.102564102564103,15.811965811965814,5.8734145424116955,-0.6082393162393163,654,16,148,6,26,220,114,180,0.19899999999999998,0.721,0.08,-0.9292,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,5,0,4,10,16,0,1,9,1,21,3,0,2,1,32,29,12,0,4,9,1,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,1,10,6,0,1,5,0,1,2,6,8,0,1,1,3,26,8,10,25,3,10,0,2,0,0,13,1,0,6,9,104,36,2,0.0,0.19615155043989585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577599293145032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775217615326513,0.0,0.0,0.11258075102366577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729894569898484,0.13822865373696824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737361688998123,0.14641691860685924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751316196897608,0.0,0.0,0.17890244409682926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818506363097924,0.2135341459946236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487530279894742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878708477176544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864938673671032,0.0,0.0,0.27771362058288235,0.0,0.0,0.18237372920149345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597358740215044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18688758217844267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729484555345221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161760278760639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683705392686238,0.0,0.16715990178246212,0.0,0.13214169125353056,0.0,0.12169945949609105,0.1227543984571248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121820347360091,0.0,0.17615855277667625,0.0,0.1838254372577986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584105032933733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605658097870344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131653260723262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241765179070976,0.0,0.0,0.10998511317334048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902771869432814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239865534759004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659739100066234,0.09764661084628648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jordierosie,2020/03/10,"2nd cousin (19M)asking to move into our home? Advice! My husband and I have two young kids (1+3) at home. My younger cousin just asked if he could move in with us until the end of his school semester (about 6 weeks). 

I’m torn. Part of me wants to help him out and the other part has many questions and concerns about how this would work. 

Does anyone have advice or suggestions for ground rules to have in place regarding this?

It seems like he’s expecting to not pay us anything as he’s asking to stay with us to “save money”. 

I guess I’m just trying to get positive or critical feedback to consider all angles. 

Thanks community!",3.5720161290322565,5.285110879032256,4.1863225806451645,87.13448387096777,73.2741935483871,7.540645161290323,24.49677419354839,8.238735603445708,1.3785219354838718,495,15,100,8,10,157,90,124,0.033,0.833,0.133,0.9159,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,1,23,15,9,0,5,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,7,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,11,3,22,13,3,14,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,6,5,59,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656569748034977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504489031486743,0.0,0.11185818871168388,0.0,0.38122649173986206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852844340862512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895260043625952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039296728405295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101742150892405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974139084203836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111050928617792,0.0,0.2726962363296118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640816424237371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781092195412178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288942556417374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943962575145544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420171324978882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227186599030226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756765531444784,0.0,0.12374488171397292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488249179758328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514538836239075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228703637423466,0.0,0.13278312344610432,0.0,0.4905184443913031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017459193905914,0.0,0.10903424316183194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895811103792508,0.0,0.0,0.09656023737301432,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lysolme,2020/03/10,"English not my first language. How can I help my 1st grader with vowels? https://imgur.com/a/gtfCDad

English is not my first language, so I am having a tough time explaining short and long vowel phonics to my kid. Is there any resources out there that I can use to help him with it?  Or is this something that he will pick up eventually? Thanks!",4.3795238095238105,7.0473760793650815,4.051031746031747,84.72035714285717,73.92063492063492,6.104761904761905,26.37301587301588,7.1686216300943375,1.3174253968253975,275,10,49,3,6,83,46,63,0.027000000000000003,0.835,0.139,0.8109999999999999,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,3,0,11,11,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,8,1,6,10,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,4,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337586376763025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5847792686000574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4608105484714935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042038335209465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646319780584899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164745510795867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044068832667866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29688563048220284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Raven6614,2020/03/10,I Need Advice.... So my 4 almost 5 year old is fully potty trained. Never had an issue with her pooping in her pants or anything like that until about a month now she keeps pooping herself sometimes 4–5 times a day. (She also poops herself at school) I’ve tried asking her if anything is wrong and is something is going on but she won’t tell me anything she told me today that she is hurting but she wouldn’t tell me where she is hurting. when I tried to ask her questions about what’s wrong and everything she shuts down and tells me “nothing or she’s tired”.  I’m making her a doctors appointment as soon as I can but if anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. Please and thank you ❤️ has anyone ever had this happen to their child just wondering if I should be as worried as I am or if it’s just a faze,2.1305588822355297,4.004799221556887,3.4490059880239516,90.16460678642716,77.74251497005989,5.411417165668663,23.10938123752495,6.079149491110277,0.4381699800399206,638,20,131,4,15,208,103,167,0.096,0.8170000000000001,0.087,-0.3593,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,0,11,6,0,0,5,0,17,5,3,1,2,28,28,22,0,8,12,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,29,2,14,20,0,19,0,2,0,0,26,6,0,10,13,95,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552634823754475,0.0,0.0,0.13078823794399375,0.0,0.0,0.10444971978241227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882008662668851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265275889489704,0.0,0.3224456365643119,0.0,0.2442076589613931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842334110074089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336860852949097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181452970954388,0.0,0.0,0.11738491383471628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422934802476759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549904211797535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796439560431394,0.0,0.0,0.1363241463251892,0.0,0.11609322503521965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638100289864695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871839821418428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425260408565308,0.0,0.0,0.09684654086627044,0.10073540003985076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532495740203212,0.0,0.13705447054395484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337186252062145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631442223281788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218549516257175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055087353775168,0.12917780456156105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424798054611735,0.12024923366021507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616043401716609,0.15011834681962807,0.12380413417251293,0.12480458726667006,0.0,0.17735284609351476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164226178719905,0.0,0.1326420013396612,0.0,0.09278244047259604,0.285605660581721,0.0,0.08410932275747689
parenting,Wickedvix11,2020/03/10,"Wife not letting me speak to my child, and the relationship is pretty much done between my wife and myself. Need advice please. I was told by r/legaladvice to ask for advice here as well

*3/8/2020*

My wife and I have been married for 9+ years (living in Chicago) and the past 2 years have been extremely rough. Currently we are at a point where we can’t even be with each other and we just purchased a house she first wanted to get and now hates being here due to all the new bills. The latest current argument is about her car breaking down and after seeing 2 separate mechanics comes down to a fix that I can not pay that amount without her help. She comes lashing out at me in front of her parents and is now using our daughter as a pawn for me to not talk or see my daughter. When my wife and I were arguing because so much has escalated to our breaking point our daughter who is 7, says that I am making bad choices, (my wife always tells my daughter that I am always the cause of the problems and even swears in front of her to me).  She now locks herself in our daughter in our daughter’s room when I come home from work. It has reached a point where I can’t stand being in the same house with her but am coming home to at least get a glimpse of seeing my daughter or hearing her voice. My wife texts me so many things but I don’t respond to escalate the situation even more and she refuses to talk reasonably for whenever we do talk she comes out accusing me for every thing without look at the full situation. I personally feel stuck and lost for I have done so much to make them happy but all efforts I feel went to waste. I have gone to spiritual retreats, confessions, advice from therapists pro bono, advice from family and couples therapy.  A few days ago when this happen I felt my lowest. I personally feel that this marriage is no longer salvageable and hate leaving because she is pushing so much to her family and mine for me not to see my daughter. Someone please help on what I can do.

*UPDATE* 3/9/2020

So I have currently been not responding to her text since that is the only way she likes to communicate when she is angry. I have been screen-shooting all her texts and now claims she has pressed charges against me and said to look out that I am going to get what’s coming to me. (Unfortunately I didn’t get that I’m the recording).  She also tries to call me at work when she knows I cannot take personal calls at work to communicate with me via text.  I just found that I have a plan with my work that helps with getting legal help. She is currently trying to talk to me yelling but I refuse to say a word to her in that state. My wife is currently making my daughter raspberry sounds towards me and now saying she hates me because my wife is telling her to avoid me, hate me and not love me.",5.75048128342246,5.779032426024956,6.058181818181819,81.90727272727275,66.98573975044563,9.224242424242425,31.438502673796787,8.927757054556999,2.3723197860962566,2225,81,453,34,33,714,244,561,0.115,0.841,0.045,-0.9913,7,1,0,1,1,0,46.0,9,0,1,8,28,13,5,1,20,0,47,1,0,6,3,78,93,38,0,3,16,18,6,1,0,0,0,9,3,4,20,38,0,3,8,0,3,13,14,9,1,1,17,21,93,4,76,72,14,71,1,1,6,1,87,27,0,2,27,328,113,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579332056038118,0.058494917096708676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277106383801492,0.10981561173604204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169043817269216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05509772910115621,0.12067812396754868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134763488012034,0.0,0.0,0.06778847506751272,0.0,0.3410600427464598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730151366696637,0.0,0.04255719133402796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350585080054147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307545543929935,0.0,0.055598246052195995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244163685313705,0.0,0.10009746476539744,0.0,0.06335940950796996,0.0,0.0,0.05612987397982988,0.0,0.07235309971852391,0.0,0.0,0.17238161351742434,0.0,0.037502845114658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058353505758888174,0.07024609742244298,0.0,0.2606003443842754,0.0,0.0,0.07437395410792846,0.0,0.17692308467912524,0.0,0.13238390304756514,0.0,0.0,0.15228398149245306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036265611735940805,0.0,0.0,0.06987240503758843,0.0,0.06747781981042585,0.0,0.03223869934898159,0.0,0.058269147469973914,0.0,0.1108276176374741,0.0,0.07203435784798275,0.0,0.05955729267369711,0.0,0.13214371939466632,0.06690208847920552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403687064281827,0.04892971471049786,0.0,0.06373220622468337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018730791071003,0.0,0.0,0.07327253698936241,0.0,0.06299359054980508,0.0,0.17285611461397793,0.0,0.1448713452829156,0.18714168430521844,0.0,0.0,0.06713413494818239,0.0,0.06314218334097715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678472766616185,0.0,0.07084706657376326,0.0,0.0,0.06277027490340363,0.15743036263126545,0.0,0.0,0.2103374994845168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05458645623293271,0.14834791440075742,0.0,0.0,0.05591193115143121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049615218821740095,0.21215656542773412,0.11535389924052715,0.0,0.07546372115403048,0.07661785685456365,0.08767979441246686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630549402683562,0.0,0.08960386282080224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699296784334311,0.0,0.0,0.038921789126966255,0.05237868339086823,0.0,0.0,0.05933168110080257,0.06117209824856225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722132145039533,0.0,0.1921619623907115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498899661680846
parenting,orangetrout,2020/03/11,"Virtual science fair I am running a science fair and STEM night at my son's school and it is scheduled in a couple weeks. I'm thinking I need a contingency plan for if school is closed at that time, so I'm brainstorming a virtual science fair and would love suggestions. What features would you like to see in a virtual science fair if your kid's school was doing one (particularly for elementary kids)? 

At the moment, I'm imagining uploading videos of the kids presenting their projects and maybe encouraging comments and questions by text, with prizes for the most questions, etc. (Ideas for other incentives would be great).

Thanks!",6.8900000000000015,8.58222514912281,6.528903508771932,73.63440789473684,65.05263157894737,10.261403508771927,36.17982456140351,10.411451182825502,4.091635087719299,513,25,86,13,8,160,75,114,0.0,0.768,0.23199999999999998,0.9771,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,1,2,1,6,0,0,8,0,9,1,0,0,0,19,17,8,0,6,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,6,13,12,2,13,0,0,1,1,13,6,0,5,7,51,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20013446960188533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172315734270804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994150494420987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418557559953032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836626608060275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324652289703812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171299670363011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134116334612377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973869925191695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256541107491895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40524222827720097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5491647076359517,0.14413375711111467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665251676951958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589723582995785,0.0,0.0,0.10546952076455164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508681354253902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854646966614425,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pavlovsgiraffe,2020/03/11,"My kiddo is almost a teenager and thinks it's okay to be verbally abusive Title sums it up. 12 year old hormone laden afab kiddo with ADHD thinks it's okay to call me a bitch and scream profanity at me, even after being sent to their room. Today I got a voicemail cussing me out and demanding I unlock their phone. I have parental controls so it's a glorified paperweight right now but apparently there's a feature I didn't even know existed where they can call the parent device even when it's locked. We are already in family therapy but I am getting to my wits end today with being screamed at because I want my kid to clean their room and do homework",3.044051282051285,5.258844200000002,4.338076923076926,83.25608974358975,76.23076923076924,7.102564102564102,26.98717948717949,8.07648339933343,1.9060256410256409,526,21,98,9,12,173,88,130,0.09,0.828,0.08199999999999999,-0.2642,3,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,4,1,8,5,1,0,6,2,10,0,0,1,0,16,17,8,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,5,8,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,2,17,2,13,11,0,18,0,0,0,0,12,9,1,1,8,65,22,1,0.0,0.21026869448805904,0.0,0.0,0.21328015629017266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770698999312107,0.0,0.1958386133307386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818188569562752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362426124389761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904368628084448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718257801413074,0.0,0.0,0.3516447006086036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729955169105698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271888257685176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193611220061014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975309062118307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862211603148644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941109271806421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155535756931798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294832371393212,0.0,0.0,0.2274266391389144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364348412113787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467429565448967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428255944538128
parenting,Emergency-Bowler,2020/03/11,"My daughter just turned 6 months My wife wants to start pureeing food on her blender and food processor I got her but she doesn't know where to start. she did carrots and sweet potatoes this week but at the doctors office this AM, the pediatrician advised we might not want to start off with sweet foods just yet. and definitely not to be mixing them yet. So I come here, fellow parents, what should i line up for my daughter to start eating?",4.146369747899158,6.112097082352946,3.861008403361346,89.0088235294118,72.29411764705883,6.26890756302521,26.26050420168067,6.868970318607317,0.976344537815126,352,12,70,3,7,106,61,85,0.015,0.855,0.13,0.9046,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,2,0,6,5,0,0,1,18,16,6,0,3,6,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,6,4,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,12,2,11,11,0,14,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,8,48,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429814150562854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833394312080868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832869978797805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6497867807166754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326059701184066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844102134673403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900206270232716,0.0,0.0,0.14297384124055346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889429772808065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5071352057148938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483380370909956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113021394592157,0.0,0.143681235521121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway99229933,2020/03/11,"Teacher says: ""I don't blame her, cause he would've got fucked"" Kid is in elementary school.  Special needs autism.   Has a full time teacher assistant.  Teacher assistant was ranting at him about having a bad day.  Kid got upset, spit at her.

Teacher assistant gets up and runs away in anger, calling the office for help.

The teacher in the room says ""I don't blame her, cause he would've got fucked"".

Our son told us this.  School denies it.  What would you do?",2.1389655172413806,4.790854678160925,2.451275862068968,92.98381034482759,82.67816091954023,5.319080459770115,22.49310344827586,6.742157984588678,0.5896399999999997,355,12,71,4,10,108,57,87,0.17300000000000001,0.731,0.096,-0.86,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,1,0,0,1,6,3,1,5,0,8,3,1,2,0,5,16,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,5,2,9,1,9,10,1,12,0,0,0,2,17,9,2,0,2,36,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719987788078644,0.0,0.1485896996413887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171770899641135,0.0,0.0,0.3656291942971606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147698894503372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290434851586135,0.09297708850840654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269941386214453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928326466883155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195555844095844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830428849419828,0.0,0.3602113338473746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377027937134148,0.0,0.0,0.17004901632477884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406473627716407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792543947330727,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greenscarf_25,2020/03/11,"Activities for Social Isolation My kid’s school just got cancelled for the next week and a half due to fears surrounding Coronavirus. She’s not yet in grade school and I have no idea what to do with her to keep her inside for 9 days straight. 

Just to be clear, there have been no cases of Coronavirus in her school but they closed as a precaution. 

What are some good activities? Games to play or general things to do to keep her occupied?",4.035546218487397,5.973747647058822,4.2774789915966425,86.02294117647061,72.52941176470588,9.092436974789916,25.084033613445378,9.606745405546679,2.112697478991597,350,11,72,9,7,109,60,85,0.095,0.7859999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.6261,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,1,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,15,10,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,8,2,15,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,5,49,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444953415144945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25204145139597234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18786505049979108,0.17913846191036234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528478436890976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981700865230749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382068599630188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6800436894143833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22832092655442426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880335215224538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966444419121608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aprillance,2020/03/11,"Am I right to be upset with my son's first eye doctor visit? What to do? Hello guys,
So I am a single 23 year old mom to a 4 year old boy. He goes to daycare, and had one of those free vision screenings done and they recommended he get a real eye exam because they think he may be farsighted and have astigmatism in his right eye. 
I am pretty broke right now due to a series of unfortunate events, so I had to save up to take him to the optometrist/ophthalmologist. I finally had enough to take him to the eyeglass world by my house, which is known for being cheap but good.
 I make an appointment, and we arrive and fill out paperwork, son is being amazingly patient, not touching things or trying to run around, all is good. We get pulled to the back to a machine thing (sorry don't know what it is, I have never had an eye exam because i see fine) and my son followed directions and put his chin and forehead and kept still like she said. I guess he must've been moving his eyes too much in there because she said to look at the picture and stop moving. Then she looks at me and tells me to keep him still.
I mean, he is being very still, it's only his pupils he is moving around and he's trying not to. She gets increasingly more vocal, saying you need to stop looking around kid, be still, don't move your eyes, (her voice getting more stern each time) and thew her hands up in frustration saying I don't think the doctor will see you he can't listen.
I was kind of shocked because I'm not a confrontational person but I felt upset and angry at this point but I just apologized saying to her it's his first time and telling my son good job for trying I know you were being as still as possible. She might have felt bad because she said let me see if the doctor will see you anyways. So the eye doctor lead us back, did a series of pictures cards at a distance. 
He said my son probably needed glasses in about a year but we can't do anything today without him staying still in the machine to get the images they needed. He asked if i wanted to dilate his eyes and have him try the machine and I said yes sure maybe he can focus on the image if this lady isn't getting irate about him focusing on the image every 3 seconds. My son did perfectly fine and the guy got the images he needed after a couple tries and very clear instructions to my son from me to stare blankly ahead and focus on nothing but the picture. 
So we go over the results and they align with the results of the quick screening at his school, so my son does need glasses. But then he said to me ""I am not going to prescribe him glasses today, he won't wear them yet because he's only four,  he can't stay still. Come back in 8 months to a year for glasses."" I was like ohhh okay. He could see I was skeptical and he then said that 4 year olds will not wear them and he will see him when he is five.  ?? I did not want to further argue because the man was very stern and intimidating. I'm concerned as a parent because his schools test thing had a pamphlet that specifically highlighted the importance of getting glasses for kids if they need it ASAP so it doesn't negatively affect their life and they can see properly and correct their vision asap. I don't know if I should just wait and go back to the place in a year even though I feel I had a horrible experience. I can't just take my son to another place, I can't afford it and all the other practices that do eye exams in my area are significantly more expensive than this eyeglass world place. I can't immediately afford another exam for a better place anyways.
I just feel terrible after all this and feel I should have done something differently like insist my son gets glasses if he needs them and pointed out the pamphlet the school gave me about correcting vision as soon as you know theres a problem. Idk what to do and I feel like a failure and I'm worried my son will have trouble seeing until I can get him either back to eyeglass world in 8 months or some miracle win a couple hundred bucks to take him somewhere better before that. Argh. Sorry for all the venting, thank you to all who read this.",6.694593930595496,5.690121655462185,7.009053854099778,79.3149426282141,65.33853541416568,9.525547893576036,31.61699098243949,8.428315365350997,2.2325613724559594,3261,102,657,37,43,1062,329,833,0.08,0.8109999999999999,0.11,0.9793,6,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,5,7,11,8,40,33,5,2,46,2,73,18,13,5,11,125,144,63,0,19,26,13,8,4,0,10,5,12,0,7,25,45,0,5,14,1,4,16,22,13,0,6,29,43,100,21,87,96,15,104,0,1,23,0,111,39,0,12,51,442,125,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670942537491957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037948020700396115,0.12315412518148755,0.0431105103306951,0.0,0.0,0.17729469516700885,0.03850339355612941,0.22488608884803776,0.0,0.03923974976379985,0.0,0.0,0.08156844602021827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03972326163699575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03681840073119378,0.1020488716544088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817947747868222,0.0,0.1887991682386181,0.040354808134396535,0.09438158290133614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04764824960247818,0.0,0.030457964718211408,0.0,0.038853164798280194,0.0,0.0,0.04510849257826794,0.0,0.0,0.09326681015006401,0.0329439618204134,0.0885536416678974,0.05051580318112548,0.0,0.07844935402450136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21683468606935505,0.0,0.07862321161766032,0.11603509699458835,0.036881702668894206,0.0,0.0507999411113854,0.09132052777479367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053209543908182624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576118368777052,0.04098838012280168,0.0,0.04802079659507509,0.10137253523890966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047154848209812895,0.032571791705352536,0.09011618801875614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617282912738998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030781556801142276,0.0,0.04632786724704237,0.05023183404112802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0489198315029352,0.0,0.054008341448281406,0.07361575774569679,0.19604819706876905,0.033899210170004204,0.2393514333485533,0.03556607947968772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04424777579664989,0.0,0.14516714651903334,0.0,0.031248145131957894,0.07014378630600092,0.0,0.0,0.05120431231163513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04026510177546646,0.19271790991472887,0.0,0.08718556450038935,0.05198678141635594,0.0,0.046914674363701225,0.04971885899292375,0.04412501884982232,0.0,0.04635746297615784,0.0,0.0,0.04612663452941244,0.05248800450047656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181437102035581,0.30705585263894764,0.11001548174421186,0.0,0.14000996149776748,0.2939760913701457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03550092974843964,0.0,0.10324204306188464,0.0,0.09830310791158696,0.2577877684045291,0.07710699751252452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04346204571086041,0.0,0.13868842348544996,0.0,0.08061160873867865,0.04245571864546978,0.0,0.0,0.09190858732995087,0.059096177524237424,0.045306923530479534,0.0,0.053779069689314236,0.0,0.08742165463484748,0.0,0.0,0.15654242246557407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05546965104082412,0.0,0.0,0.11414702297065896,0.05439864724416789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04445240020275742,0.0,0.0,0.04683116322687931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817602493215226
parenting,wtf_ever_man,2020/03/11,"Kids county mental health worker wants to end services As title says.  She wants to end her services with him.  He is mostly set up with talk therapist and a skills worker and I would like to get ot going.  He is more asperger than anything and immature for his age.  He is 13 but probably mature of about an 8 year old maybe but I would say no older.

I'm not sure how I feel about her being the one to bring up closing his case.  Her workload for him is minimal yes but I feel like it's like giving up on him.

I have an idea what her job is and I would be losing her experience and I guess knowledge and the opportunities through her for him to develop more as a person.

I am wondering what you would do in my shoes?  I want to either tell her no, keep the case open or tell her that if she doesn't want my kids case I can either request another worker or she can pass the case to someone.

Yours all thoughts?",2.182659574468083,3.824398276595748,3.7425,89.15875,76.87234042553192,6.827659574468084,22.388297872340427,7.645422480735847,0.8200255319148937,708,20,154,10,16,235,110,188,0.057999999999999996,0.812,0.129,0.9156,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,6,3,6,0,0,8,1,17,2,1,1,2,39,32,15,0,9,9,0,2,3,0,4,1,2,0,3,4,10,0,1,6,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,1,4,31,5,24,25,6,17,0,1,0,0,32,7,0,6,9,107,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092647524424718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118444732446768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25496412846782784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079425582410404,0.0,0.0,0.14555386777092866,0.10282588318274727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519913907568251,0.13807380900957136,0.08180053568259132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855861049392778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299422578177035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248302580929488,0.0,0.0,0.14283145888261853,0.12793441205804426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109554249866212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610243970674839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460021206977056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505077877920136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103364648236844,0.0,0.09753283890176374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256768895640248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518429794979974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22892286272451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195410522194315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356553064112334,0.0,0.0,0.11568802745171172,0.25160786393944057,0.0,0.0,0.1671175004028108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142668570169306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395820440371123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608937971031028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40898396844677176,0.0,0.0,0.09268824044050494
parenting,Frostgate,2020/03/11,"Best way to remotely watch my son play video games on his Android device Not sure if this is the right place for this, so please move if so. My son lives 3000 miles away. He wants me to watch him play video games on his Android tablet, and I'm just wondering what is the best way to achieve this. I've tried things like Teamviewer and AnyDesk, and while they work, they are too laggy and drop the connection often. I also tried Parsec and couldn't get it to work right on his tablet. What about Twitch? Looking for options. Thanks for your help!",3.442481827622018,5.33985403738318,2.7214330218068556,96.72665628245069,74.04672897196261,5.8770508826583585,21.234683281412245,6.42735559955562,0.025345586708203527,430,10,93,3,9,124,70,107,0.033,0.765,0.20199999999999999,0.9662,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,2,5,7,7,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,1,15,10,11,0,4,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,11,7,12,9,2,13,0,0,3,0,13,8,0,5,2,54,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025454249322973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18827621101871184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206010539116085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469728900397604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431948273193414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790210086737132,0.0,0.176951057836064,0.0,0.16827999919260406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129864876252657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20936846830997585,0.2199717939168012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34226976491835515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886842316061345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449533388431452,0.0,0.0,0.13313248130264407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27210795079006195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181972288583404,0.31812593238473064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173181116014444,0.2917775872592973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cannonmandan,2020/03/11,"Concerning So my 5 y/o shakes his arms and legs very quickly, closes his eyes and sucks in his mouth like he's eating a sour sweet/candy when excited. It's normally when watching videos on his tablet but he's started doing it just randomly when we're sat eating dinner or we're driving somewhere. I've never noticed any other kid do this and what I've read most kids grow out of it by now. Should I be concerned? 

Thank you",1.701954022988506,3.9820019540229854,3.0995402298850583,90.05781609195402,81.183908045977,5.705747126436782,22.310344827586206,6.937597516519254,0.7149448275862067,338,11,68,4,9,110,69,87,0.022000000000000002,0.894,0.084,0.6059,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,7,5,1,1,1,0,4,7,4,0,1,13,8,9,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,5,3,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,3,7,3,5,5,1,14,0,0,2,0,9,4,1,3,8,37,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072132970978995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6235889467629678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886594909293718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23501119138135645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29855117331063186,0.0,0.3469144352111233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047925296731303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21567535644672314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805360941039861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514177202305943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ELCoch90,2020/03/11,"Public school pre-k advice/4 year old behavior My son, 4, goes to a tuition pre-k offered through our public school district. He is pretty hyper active and does have a difficult time listening on occasion. His regular teacher recently had emergency surgery and has been out for a few weeks, with at least 2 more weeks of being out. My son does not like change very much and even though the aide in the classroom has been the same, the substitutes have been different almost every day. My husband and I have already been on the fence about how to handle kiddo's behavior. When he decides he doesn't want to listen, nothing seems to work. And now with there being a different teacher in the classroom all the time, he has been acting up more at school. Specifically during nap time. From what we are told, he does not like to sit still, he runs around, he will yell or scream sometimes, and today we were told that he has kicked some of the other kids on occasion. We do not by any means think his behavior is ok, but the director of the preschool program and the principal of his particular school made a unilateral decision without requesting a meeting with us to cut kiddo down to half days, or at the very least have him leave school during nap time with the option of coming back after nap time. The director told me that this would be for the remainder of the school year, but the principal told my husband that he could go back to full time after the regular teacher is back in a few weeks. We have no idea where to go from here. We have an appointment with his pediatrician on Monday to discuss his behavior. How much of an issue should we make of this with the district? Or should we drop it and go with just picking him up before nap time each day until the end of the school year? I can go into more detail about his behavior if that helps at all.",9.159947478991596,7.133717128851544,8.547729341736693,73.52058560924371,61.18487394957983,12.062254901960785,36.87832633053221,10.686352973137794,3.697778851540616,1473,52,280,28,16,467,177,357,0.054000000000000006,0.9209999999999999,0.025,-0.7529,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,9,0,0,1,17,6,1,0,30,1,32,0,0,5,2,62,49,19,0,6,11,4,0,2,0,4,0,4,0,1,9,28,0,1,6,4,1,7,6,3,0,1,12,4,24,3,56,29,15,59,0,0,0,0,44,20,0,8,32,199,33,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178444506622902,0.0,0.09012899444424922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055540938617192406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270693750730771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840617596202652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949833055956414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639997913207885,0.07035468841594995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520982932086915,0.0,0.0,0.1580184017363977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066333359187486,0.0,0.0,0.2144197003503387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233868469362152,0.0,0.0,0.053944729844088,0.0,0.06881364194955092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18566825675664345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474418109471338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921997023088468,0.0,0.08524615692970282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648068965874682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980332012047045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728166020919447,0.0545178504598248,0.0,0.0,0.08896663785618958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007918135484814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836814881215158,0.0,0.08570284295811889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309154789847167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064295736893606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5786072414717832,0.0,0.07435269835684398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077740955165325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522474804842758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05233322976201903,0.08024402722014827,0.0,0.33337227039751466,0.0,0.07741714828010586,0.31217100472583004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982434436321328,0.0,0.0,0.13477876528362467,0.048173283353300886,0.0,0.19654122449566455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873056332044527,0.0,0.05945944978130836,0.0,0.0,0.0580186760310289,0.0,0.0,0.15778561730212134
parenting,CentaurianXcention20,2020/03/11,"Sleep training 3mo boy! 😔Is it even possible? Help❗❗ A LITTLE BACKGROUND INFO: 

I'm a 30yo (F) with an 8 yo daughter.  I breastfed my daughter and also breastfeed my son. When she was an infant it was soooooo much easier. I didn't even know what sleep training was nor did I need it. She just sort of ""got it"" as far as her circadian rhythm. She was on a feeding schedule and stuck to it. My son on the other hand is a totally different situation. I'm doing all the same things but getting a totally different result. He doesn't like to eat every hour on the hour or every 2 hours. He eats when he wants! even if I just force the breast he pushes it away or starts gumming (biting) me! Lol  for the first month and a half I had his feeding and sleeping schedule down, now he's all over the place. He no longer sleeps for 2+ hrs. Its sporadic. 30mins here 10 minutes there all throughout the day. Now at night he only wakes twice for feeding. His bedtime is  7pm in which I give him a soothing bath at 6p and play soft music with no lights other than the projector on the wall. That hour is his winding down which involves me feeding him, walking around the room and then rocking him. NON OF THIS WORKING ANYMORE❗❗ HELP ME. #2NDTIMEAROUND",1.7505999999999986,3.9366928600000013,3.0364000000000004,91.10420000000002,80.4,5.44,24.8,6.55674776486733,0.8102399999999998,965,37,199,9,25,312,152,250,0.04,0.88,0.08,0.8888,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,2,14,2,0,0,19,1,12,13,7,1,5,27,22,17,0,3,6,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,15,9,6,0,2,3,0,2,5,0,0,3,9,3,22,2,24,13,7,36,0,0,0,1,26,17,0,4,18,128,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986687095880772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117009919240473,0.0,0.0,0.11732931733409865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805375754479869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609470344148144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555678053009368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24744712842864466,0.0,0.21043437293871173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062232684731237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524489407929761,0.11979673111534073,0.0,0.0,0.0998783241254044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674095004178814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4919284515563826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863104330419845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101029226257972,0.12516304350287935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967840393473897,0.0,0.09180151825827836,0.09259729006115823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171918664095594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497722877586326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304735172074072,0.0,0.0,0.1407839722356025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037088649515075,0.4998826498402947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883910431554487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296503876786351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365773985834582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091447331899354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burnmeatthesteak,2020/03/11,"Teacher calls, toddler chaos, I don’t know what to do My oldest is 5yold, and is a difficult child. When he was two he would headbutt, bite, scratch, ect whenever he was upset. He would sleep maybe two hours and no one would help. 
He was diagnosed at 4 with ADHD&ADD, and insomnia and has been on medication for it. He got less violent but lies, steals, breaks stuff, irritates people for fun, manipulative, disruptive, refuses basic chores, kicks the cats, headlocks or punches his younger brother (3yold). I don’t know what to do, the teacher called today saying he had “weird behavior” basically telling other kids to hit him, people were going to jail ect. I got him a outside of school counseling, mental health appointments, I have read multiple parenting books,childproof all eltronics, schedule, play, read,tried all methods of discipline ect. I am so lost, anxious, frustrated and tired. I feel like theirs something wrong with him, but no one cares. I have suggested possible ODD to his counselor, so we’re going to test for it. I mainly needed to vent because I am at a loss on how I can make life better and help him through school.",6.128656957928804,7.876166655339809,6.091242718446607,75.85197734627832,66.9126213592233,9.765177993527507,33.636245954692555,10.047579312681364,3.640436634304209,905,41,153,22,15,285,138,206,0.231,0.67,0.099,-0.983,1,1,2,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,1,3,4,14,2,1,5,0,21,7,1,3,2,25,33,13,0,4,3,2,2,1,0,3,6,1,1,2,6,8,0,2,3,2,0,2,4,9,0,4,9,3,18,5,19,20,4,12,0,2,0,0,26,4,0,1,6,92,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797881743250278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424273381961359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485024585835538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013144151376872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625791875556743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684527784190196,0.0,0.1340232760219579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342021775684354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646568474731901,0.09390877535793188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941351130284006,0.0,0.21026709232069896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972649624089634,0.0,0.0,0.17621795914162386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945296945600607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448430172287247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284788171312053,0.06422042454167347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434945309830068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774470777266148,0.0,0.1320604152539659,0.0,0.0,0.13242327128982687,0.1324719086113777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746941144852364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814949261693042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459610197596565,0.0,0.0,0.1822634445875617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819149573520285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629735782024811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453528345428173,0.0,0.266071297958248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154614903168724,0.0,0.0,0.10119756861417174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048019350477285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489415719865413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108383615207155,0.12460038308804078,0.0,0.0,0.08924674734291926,0.0,0.2568174758921314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801375181208332,0.14372126972354504,0.0,0.0
parenting,indoubt345,2020/03/11,"Favouritism among Grandparents How do you deal with a grandparent who seems to favour one grandchild over the others? 

My MIL (who I admittedly don't have a great relationship with) visits her 8 month old grandchild 3+ times a week. My husband and I have daughters (7, 4 and 10 month), she used to spend a far amount of time with my older 2 but since the birth of her other grandchild she has only seen them a few times and only met my youngest daughter 3 or 4 times. She lives very close to us (5 minute drive or so) and literally drives past our house to go visit her daughter and baby. We do try to invite her to go out and do things with us or for dinner but she rarely agrees. However, she often complains to my husband that she never sees the children. I'm not sure what to do in this situation. My husband has talked to her about it but it hasn't gotten any better.

Do we just give up and stop begging for a relationship?",4.158684863523572,5.14487819354839,4.771720430107528,86.33527295285359,70.82795698924731,7.443507030603808,26.135649296939626,7.61054688173877,1.2113321753515298,728,22,152,8,13,233,114,186,0.08900000000000001,0.89,0.021,-0.9061,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,1,1,1,5,5,0,0,9,0,11,1,0,2,2,31,22,15,0,0,8,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,15,1,1,2,0,1,6,4,1,0,1,3,2,26,4,23,19,2,26,0,0,2,0,37,7,0,5,13,100,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721402665576606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394372241403066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254026468648394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512415845900751,0.17920332213178075,0.0,0.0,0.17382041519224942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191816719150716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921643507954418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516849937413523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159690758291353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543737139045078,0.0,0.10683431717342368,0.2398146668326941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050405729246985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338535107256371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563439707466606,0.14352750209178533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304177625782219,0.17721614860592427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181059857723615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859243506684808,0.0,0.0,0.12672092350754294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474212286099574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677306390006429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070406114805148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792904998213075,0.1361673913599285,0.0,0.13008579341218404,0.0,0.0,0.1264651300864186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikismonkey,2020/03/11,"Pushing your buttons ? My daughter, who I would give my life for seems to purposely say and do things , deliberately trying to  push my buttons emotionally, especially when I'm trying extremely hard to communicate with her, father to daughter.
  Curious if I'm over reacting, listening to hard, or j",9.05,9.898072431372553,10.012549019607842,53.55647058823529,59.98039215686275,13.858823529411767,44.450980392156865,13.023866798666859,6.762498039215688,238,14,34,9,3,82,38,51,0.068,0.8859999999999999,0.046,-0.0222,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,7,7,4,0,2,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,8,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,3,1,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531574282733454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011745086524133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5624845203875811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175589619826072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496698367160235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285813091933436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20857793492029586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263100476747248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22302482025235504,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,veevyxo,2020/03/11,"Am I psychologically damaging my child? I need serious advice. Please help, I don't want to ruin my kid. I'm a very young mom, I can't find a parent hand book there are no guidelines to this thing. My 2 year olds biological father has only tried meeting her maybe 3 times in her life, he left when I was pregnant. So she doesn't know him at all and doesn't care for him he's basically a stranger. When I was around 4 months pregnant I returned with an old ex (not the father, he obviously knew this) he raised my daughter, she has his last name, he signed the birth certificate. He spent countless nights feeding her, he burped her, he bonded with her. She was born Nov. 2017, he was in her life until June 2018. He became aggressive with me, never with her. He has tried multiple times to see her and be in her life. I was scared of him and my older brothers absolutely hate his guts due to his aggression towards me. He was never at all aggressive with my daughter, he had so much patience and they had a great bond. Now that I've been seeing a new partner, and I have introduced my daughter to him, she has absolutely gone nuts. She clings to everyone, she throws huge tantrums when someone she likes leaves(her grandma,uncle's, cousins, etc.), She often times bites, hits, sometimes she sees it as a game and laughs about it, sometimes she does it because she's upset. She absolutely hates my partner and his family. She's never acted this way with new people. I thought it was just a phase but it's been over 3 months and she has yet to come around. Should I let my ex who raised her see him? Is he technically her dad? Is he not her dad? I'm so confused and I need advice please. I've done a bit of research and I fear I might be psychologically damaging my child, I'd like to prevent further damage if possible.",2.356607142857144,4.5970650972222264,3.531984126984128,88.06000000000002,78.58333333333333,6.447619047619049,23.8968253968254,7.554174236665415,1.0683825396825395,1425,49,294,21,35,461,187,360,0.12300000000000001,0.8170000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.9619,1,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,0,0,1,0,14,20,6,4,11,0,31,7,2,0,6,44,50,20,0,5,5,13,1,2,2,2,4,0,0,5,11,19,1,1,4,2,1,4,10,15,0,0,16,5,62,5,29,28,5,45,0,4,4,0,74,12,0,4,30,177,73,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20966996968031035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19100791677548215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539827118968078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712444429984092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938141615120456,0.0,0.0,0.09241416933816032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938834304851695,0.10978700168624106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964808097456485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025127988721794,0.0,0.0,0.10113616878695228,0.12072237105412074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805404393458267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827907265331908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21183804612445745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719090388412382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895952555090676,0.08744936234614023,0.0,0.0,0.1165624916244741,0.10970338154504253,0.2273299032048005,0.10482538840565192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777945194854298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380952636316387,0.0,0.12564768869901233,0.17126335607677778,0.0,0.07886480666439012,0.15909687588769625,0.24822808271130498,0.20722775441815647,0.0,0.10067713543719628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22514937441177832,0.0,0.0,0.08159299461534288,0.0,0.0,0.11912425601034747,0.0,0.0,0.07437601241114944,0.0,0.0,0.2355274149515381,0.0,0.12094463100891507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740825985719726,0.0,0.34196029190046395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089991249358502,0.0,0.21220980074192308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127356787196883,0.0,0.0,0.08517013252528938,0.18767144923297213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567522748299186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851910170129687,0.06327785774654712,0.08515566603957732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908625937513989
parenting,chkn_nuggg,2020/03/11,"What values are you trying to teach your kids this year? I try to reflect on my goals all the time and I think parenting goals are some of the most important. I was pretty inspired when I listened to a podcast episode called ""How are you Teaching your Kids this Year?"" by The Irish Mummy. They were talking about teaching your kids to be grateful and how to express emotions and they mentioned a couple of other values as well. What are some important values you hope to instill within your children?",5.470921658986175,7.261878150537632,4.944116743471586,83.27903225806456,68.56989247311829,6.604608294930878,31.565284178187408,6.868970318607317,1.9504574500768048,400,17,68,3,7,121,58,93,0.0,0.737,0.263,0.9763,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,7,2,2,5,3,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,2,1,13,10,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,14,3,13,7,4,6,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,4,4,55,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28887900902736946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31303048973097064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182315599243521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809898345096251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31413401636677946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878174594888613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22738940377508374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18127496259133036,0.0,0.0,0.1649649648173718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841496755320889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543667798031056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3643648214077347
parenting,firsttimemommy2020,2020/03/11,How to deal with depression as a new mom. Growing up I had a lot of depression. In my late teens I had an event that really made it spiral but I slowly recovered. I am in my 20's now and prepared myself because I thought I would get postpartum depression but I felt great. Now months later I just feel like a bad mom all of the time. Has anyone else  dealt with this?,1.0444736842105264,3.21155318421053,3.020263157894739,90.32934210526315,82.94736842105263,6.957894736842108,21.34210526315789,8.07648339933343,1.1093210526315789,286,9,62,6,8,96,57,76,0.174,0.674,0.152,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,2,1,14,10,5,0,1,3,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,5,2,11,2,9,4,2,12,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,1,9,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363644459557356,0.1998238609126692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628358556980816,0.11888406231901967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20105989868727075,0.5039184436030826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291648840884385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860936554122594,0.1393242963192778,0.18725243003779174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189134108300933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501327769917888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21999416409634326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527826792001927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580137362539776,0.0,0.1845352477967082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4568165910749996,0.15566530373366194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835419363781256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493657175409048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548262845280435,0.11371933773500055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385385708490391,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RadDadRules,2020/03/11,"Avoid Panic – How to Talk to Kids about Coronavirus Wanted to share this post I did for talking to kids about coronavirus. [The original post is here](http://raddadrules.com/coronavirus/).

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# Avoid Panic – How to Talk to Kids about Coronavirus

*Help Your Kids With a 5-Step, Science-Backed Approach*

“I’m afraid I may die” my ten-year old son quietly tells me last night, when I asked him about the Coronavirus. He went on to say, “I’m also afraid others might be hurt.”

Your kids may be more scared about the Coronavirus than you know. Along with calming them down and assuring them, you can use this approach to build resilience and problem-solving skills.

This five step approach is science-backed and evidence-based, leveraging work by experts at Harvard and elsewhere.

1. **Stop yourself (parent) and actively listen.** Our first instinct as parents is often to go to assurance mode. While this is important, don’t do this yet. Actively listen to your kids. Even if their concerns seem silly to your adult self, really listen. Imagine you were their age for a moment if you can.
2. **Confirm to your kiddo that you heard them** (and potentially repeat #1). As you listen, validate your child’s emotion (empathy, not sympathy) – “honey, I can understand how that is scary to you” or “it makes sense that you would feel this way.” You aren’t agreeing with them, you are just meeting them were they are at. Studies have proven this can stop the fight/flight response in times of trauma. You may repeat the first two steps a few times.
3. **Confirm that you will protect them and keep them safe.** First ask your kids if they feel like they heard you. If not, keep repeating the first two steps. After this, confirm that you will keep them safe and make sure they are okay. After the empathy step, they can take this in and feel safer.
4. **Ask your kiddos for ideas to prepare reasonably**. During this step, your kids will have lots of ideas. Your job is to say “ok” or “that’s an idea” – you aren’t grading them yet. If they are stuck, you can offer ideas as a question “what about if we got another can of soup?” Having your kids suggest ideas supports them resolving future issues on their own.
5. **Act on their ideas (and yours).** Write a list with your kids and do the items you agree to. This may even turn what was fear and panic to fun and pride. In this step, you are demonstrating how they can rise above issues and act – a great life skill.

While subtle, this approach builds more life skills for your child. They are learning how to calm themselves, express concerns, hear others, brainstorm, and take action to resolve. Great job parents!

News stories and rumors are rampant right now about this virus. It’s one of those times when everyone has an opinion. You may end-up going through these five steps a few times because of this, or just the first two empathy ones.

To gain facts as a parent, we recommend your trusted medical professional [or the CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html). If you catch yourself feeling panicked, do your best to identify your concerns. Giving them a name, color and texture can help. When you define it, it doesn’t have the same power. Call a friend or seek out mental health support as you need, so you can be there for your kids.

Remember, as parents, we often jump to protector mode before empathy mode. It’s a natural reaction but isn’t always the most useful in teaching skills to your kids. Do your best and remember to hear them first and then confirm that you understand them.  In doing so, you will help build a lifelong coping skill pattern for them.

As my son and I finished our conversation, he was very excited about going shopping and getting a few extra cans of his favorite chicken noodle soup, making sure he knew where our board games were located, and was no longer afraid.",3.7891810344827586,6.701467395114943,3.3895448275862097,87.2899379310345,77.63505747126436,6.35567816091954,24.940919540229892,7.603071568975378,1.4590441609195404,3041,109,538,46,75,906,316,696,0.042,0.831,0.126,0.9931,10,2,0,0,1,0,155.0,6,45,26,19,30,38,0,10,27,2,60,4,0,12,5,114,105,56,1,10,17,7,4,1,2,11,4,11,0,16,33,31,0,10,23,2,1,21,8,12,0,13,13,17,87,26,74,78,13,72,0,1,1,0,140,14,0,25,35,370,120,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488456494555683,0.0508234483586761,0.06618014841545647,0.07421887873679618,0.0,0.0640476997931633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130464871771373,0.0,0.0,0.09393349090395356,0.0,0.0372337976633587,0.0,0.05197457648181777,0.0,0.12819937157710806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062369503437066875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339139090166038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870677255959627,0.05409874553720951,0.0,0.0,0.08068552048655521,0.0,0.0,0.05836455217662679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873197495133943,0.12353552167225294,0.0436355602050443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31172767221292336,0.0,0.0,0.04719025215939507,0.0,0.03191177609116815,0.058593496299653824,0.1041395052227906,0.0,0.04885125128683994,0.13468181891873288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492517781986548,0.13768318569933358,0.0,0.12282189820961535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538739729367647,0.4137112739833307,0.0,0.12750329014958328,0.1212249392921828,0.1628721164417598,0.0,0.0,0.03356796754340633,0.049788347675767015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862852127921291,0.02984059999505685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051928026999186284,0.0,0.0,0.1223141116715008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061531668418547764,0.061554268189066064,0.06479622166888988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04529004190717574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057319437073844515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409317936375912,0.0,0.08277876993875173,0.0,0.0,0.21499263903177848,0.33911052726629953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699550113411154,0.0,0.0,0.058445305609147125,0.0,0.0,0.06842357254348179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03912940845647122,0.06280040710380799,0.0,0.0,0.13838345364798912,0.0521619814837637,0.0,0.09714652623963546,0.061151729887431235,0.0,0.0,0.05560493289929107,0.0637197552129343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102131220602105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862570763308493,0.11513434374341068,0.0,0.09184910858220044,0.1472813574934308,0.05338660731695122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246494371209764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643749434729361,0.17899883778090522,0.12717285654805474,0.0,0.10550700805478147,0.0,0.0503973921960252,0.036026563226299727,0.048482456516472386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05662176674479667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04446696338377189,0.0,0.0,0.043389475552424416,0.0,0.07421887873679618,0.03933351380851437
parenting,mbcobb,2020/03/11,Helpppp my toddlers are crazy I keep getting calls from my 4yr olds daycare about him acting out not listening and just being dosrultive and thinking its funny. We have tried talking to him does not seem to be working. Then my 3yr old will hit and throw things when he is mad and refuse to go stand in time out. Also he wont let his dad do anything for him because he is a hige mamas boy and dad only got in his life at 1.5yr old. Any tips on how to deal with acting out and tantrums.,3.657957142857143,4.53031871,4.023428571428571,91.66100000000002,71.9,6.514285714285713,26.285714285714285,6.1826913282559595,0.7428714285714282,381,12,83,2,7,119,77,100,0.098,0.875,0.027999999999999997,-0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,2,0,1,0,10,1,0,1,0,19,18,10,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,11,0,2,2,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,1,1,10,0,15,11,0,18,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,1,6,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677056300383647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261051747023568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257409831827697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783774124110295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21413814711600407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162025994146533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351931136497607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956522381549552,0.0,0.11918346553503015,0.0,0.16772486324855332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640057137803376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21444347454618987,0.14812492141660702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6601685398495076,0.0,0.0,0.1594944934013602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091281227817805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685575762744188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932251971187634,0.1343741960986604,0.0,0.0,0.12228403864990395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142379849630857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526719409668579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sketchesbylyssa,2020/03/11,"Parents with one (or more) Littles over the age of 1 How did you cope with them growing up? Was the first birthday an emotional one? What about hitting at or above milestones? It feels like my daughter is crushing this life thing and I am kinda falling apart. She will be 11 months old on the 22nd which means her big 12 months is not far away. It doesn't feel like a year already. Where did time go?

It's like she was just a little bundle of drool then BAM! rolling over all over the place then BAM! we have a crawler. Then suddenly she starts standing up all on her own. She starts talking (kinda). She looks at me and says Momomomom! And daddy is Dadadadada (followed by vigorous claps).

She took her first steps 2 weeks ago and continues to progress each day. She knows to clap when we say ""Clap!"" And waves hello and goodbye. 

Why is it so hard to watch them grow up so fast?",1.4899710982658938,3.9922169999999997,1.7661589595375735,97.8066950867052,84.20231213872833,4.6160693641618495,21.94479768786127,5.985473137389443,0.07630890173410433,683,23,147,5,20,205,121,173,0.032,0.879,0.08900000000000001,0.8766,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,1,2,3,7,4,0,0,8,0,13,2,1,1,2,24,24,15,0,0,4,2,3,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,8,11,0,0,4,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,5,8,18,4,20,16,5,46,0,0,2,0,21,18,0,4,23,94,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497051191971005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18047315730485272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536535126998872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547134896112573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839632409690083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538395048255458,0.23366951401640404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27821824420715696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294494162166236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650190974505908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987865201601597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551486703273753,0.23969573666651744,0.3278249926173739,0.0,0.0,0.1373344664903417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814566919012648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26107604225256537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161028761084304,0.0,0.22164118956616244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159453375140253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086704916334625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26011103636723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315123718544791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144922423916314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865033503659292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536291617762907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170167642584326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118388647297904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475716212622358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053159740931959
parenting,autumnsilver,2020/03/11,"How can I fix my toddler's sleep schedule? For the past week, my 3 year old daughter has been waking up between 2 to 4 a.m.  She has shortened her afternoon nap down to less than 2 hours and she has been going to bed around 9 p.m. each night.  I have tried to make sure she doesn't take a nap, but by 5 p.m., she is having nuclear meltdowns.

Anyone have any ideas on ways to reset her sleep schedule?  Anyone have a similar situation and how did you deal with it without going crazy from sleep deprivation?",5.500231023102309,5.553425376237622,5.929455445544555,82.53332508250827,67.51485148514851,8.713531353135314,29.704620462046204,8.344100000000001,1.9443848184818482,397,13,81,5,6,128,75,101,0.039,0.9109999999999999,0.05,-0.2584,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,13,4,4,3,1,12,17,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,11,1,16,14,2,16,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,0,9,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133477064514262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744869433103713,0.0,0.0,0.17473072709817844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023559609917537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310078387553373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329616651677944,0.0,0.0,0.2215761187994088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310183591451298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18419539225466414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20596273997853368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737137659594452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206268343636532,0.589264960890174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18499148535321144,0.0,0.14757805944381475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326116973578228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579785063165422,0.15744389846999185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920682187236829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639782200547028
parenting,RepresentativeNaN,2020/03/11,"I've been having trouble finding a part-time job after many of my online accounts were hijacked in August. ​

Now to add insult to injury, I'm left trying to regain access to account(s) for entirely different reasons eight months later. Trying to get a response from Sittercity support for example, as to why my account has been closed for a second time, after having made no new postings and only waiting for replies for jobs I had already inquired about.

 [Support correspondence](https://i.gyazo.com/cee04b426c2c2f72dd7c98f1d260971c.png). 

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I don't really want to get into everything thats happened over the past couple of months here, since I know the proper channels I'll want to go through to sort out the mess that is currently my life after hopes of an online career have been heavily hindered. All while I've struggled to contact the people in my life I care about. I've been waiting for any response from their support, there were plenty of other jobs I've applied to unrelated to the Sittercity service, which have been met with similar problems, accounts randomly being closed, or other problems entirely. It's very stressful to still be going through this over eight months after losing so much. Recovering accounts again and again, or having to make new ones. Not really sure what I expect from posting here at this point, any suggestions?",11.719520309477758,10.862399791489363,10.015009671179888,61.31090909090911,55.3404255319149,11.779497098646035,43.06576402321083,10.637119530657019,4.933340425531916,1121,51,154,19,11,344,144,235,0.135,0.818,0.047,-0.9546,5,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,1,1,10,14,1,2,9,0,18,2,0,3,2,29,37,7,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,9,8,0,2,4,1,4,2,3,8,0,4,10,0,10,6,44,25,2,34,0,1,0,0,5,11,0,5,19,111,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600363744910028,0.0,0.0,0.227797119063326,0.2554670420231922,0.14297176944355935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717786540105136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631438701633325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982907108817697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447597651794164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607868953097064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984276753396116,0.0,0.11948537357712855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929581530923732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044088720779149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129491160555072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777175242336945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421427403051122,0.0,0.14850014213040416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760351003871752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946803187643877,0.07016908374760314,0.10657619456055076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517197377526422,0.0,0.07727603034386989,0.0,0.0,0.2030530336130295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123271012206386,0.07994925739911098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383579898411215,0.10034988914569416,0.07287766540021448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099373323066994,0.0,0.2013537196563333,0.0,0.0,0.20117320011071385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468640869585166,0.1080818958310946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869571774528422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394976635403346,0.0,0.12041575028114998,0.10989529336857758,0.0,0.0,0.35787019502463585,0.099075298401228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129690043418533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274051729095022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673583412422381,0.12400617872877336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485535193338157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554670420231922,0.0
parenting,mhendrix92,2020/03/11,"My 15 year old niece won’t stop smoking weed Hello! I’m not sure where else to post this so I’m sorry if it’s the wrong sub. 

(I should note that she is not in my care, but I’ve always seen her as a daughter and am very close to her.)

My niece, we’ll call her Hailey, is smoking weed all of the time, having sex, and getting into fights and suspended from school. 

Hailey has had a pretty hard life. She has been abused most of her life, since she was just 3 years old. It took me years to get her taken away from her mom, calling the cops and other hotlines reporting the abuse. 

(Parents were split up since she was a baby)

Last year, she finally was put into her dad’s care. She’s not getting beat, physically or mentally anymore. She’s going to therapy and is on anxiety medication. But the issue is, she’s still so damaged from being in her moms care. I believe she is running to weed and having sex to numb her pain from what she’s been through. She’ll have sex for weed, hides it in her private parts at school and she’ll smoke it there. Or she’ll just skip school and have sex and smoke. Recently, she’ll even bring it home and try to smoke in her bedroom or even the bathroom, trying to cover up the smell but she still gets busted. I don’t know where she’s hiding her weed at home. 

She wants to be an adult. She wants her own job and own money. She talks back and has no respect towards her father, or any other parental figure as myself. She’ll say “no” often and scream when she’s not getting her way. 

It’s gotten to the point that her father has grounded her til the summer time. He doesn’t know what to do anymore and he’s asking me for help. Whenever she’s not grounded, she will stay at a friends for days at a time, and not tell anyone where she’s at. I even got a call from a police officer one day telling me to pick her up at Target, where her and her friends tried to steal clothes and got caught. It was noon on a school day. 

Her father is almost at his breaking point, wanting to give up and is talking about giving her to me. I’m only 28 and not ready to be a full time parent to a teenager. 

Tl;dr There’s a lot more to the story, but I just need to know, how can I make her learn discipline, obedience, and respect? How do I get her to stop finding comfort in weed and sex?

Thank you all in advance. I appreciate it!",2.2166803278688505,3.6788638647540974,3.3860327868852487,92.51593442622952,76.3360655737705,6.027540983606558,22.24098360655738,6.508806274219699,0.3084465573770494,1818,49,405,14,40,588,223,488,0.142,0.785,0.07200000000000001,-0.9855,4,0,3,0,3,0,58.0,1,1,0,2,22,17,1,0,22,0,41,10,0,4,3,68,74,38,0,6,19,10,1,0,2,9,5,2,3,1,15,24,0,3,6,0,1,7,12,7,0,1,15,5,67,10,58,47,9,69,0,1,1,5,80,33,0,9,25,267,82,7,0.0,0.18073284401378256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637249515621426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346200809892609,0.0,0.0,0.05186560918861907,0.0,0.05834565927789635,0.0,0.15127692310827218,0.05332913403857932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130132091513483,0.0,0.07165733810195951,0.058646236658688476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592916765659088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336378616607652,0.0,0.23328431768856864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475617962735197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637130535496775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112508064527214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354908040461465,0.06970858347717644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785064813370352,0.0,0.2390847679350481,0.14632855726241747,0.043345492007455015,0.0,0.12199874683548005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832214047516638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051121575772766825,0.0,0.15300826894387115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960513398272052,0.07568532171271906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574652233768455,0.06216950296510695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774225381928212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484126867438428,0.0,0.0,0.05091022219198832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683310294020419,0.07686132272587368,0.0,0.0,0.17865091626884474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056552577582493636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006319914238729,0.0,0.051681921808985315,0.05800609386483885,0.08115570886205231,0.0,0.2540634575906087,0.08259201218202639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419791985582867,0.0,0.07304472325561336,0.07759310262800533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667151975515052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530654351269833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060652256331499316,0.0,0.3087536386367811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618118946048154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537702277034158,0.0,0.081292721779364,0.12181721720701072,0.12752877969362622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188273219423869,0.0,0.0,0.12260444084924485,0.1333251251277669,0.07021834806877603,0.08722037253798554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789252212609413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473778589605295,0.15534515479539496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293000209543867,0.13495648884991138,0.0605388683268864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338829726685894,0.0,0.19645922128375493
parenting,hawkptoot,2020/03/11,"Sometimes I hate being a parent I have 2 teenagers. I love them to death.

But sometimes, I hate being a parent. 

I hate it when I'm forced to do things that make them upset with me. I hate that they put me in that position. 

I don't enjoy being upset or angry. I don't enjoy the discipline. I just don't enjoy fighting or arguing, it exhausts me. I'm getting better at putting my foot down and sticking to my guns,  but it breaks me inside. IT BREAKS ME. It puts me in a bad mood and I can't focus, sometimes I will even cry when I go into my room.

I just want shake them.....WHY CAN'T YOU JUST DO WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO???? 

I'm not an unreasonable parent by any means. Am I perfect? NO. But for fucks sake, WORK WITH ME!!!",-0.7415168716493241,1.423205721854309,1.6712393566698192,95.88766004415012,94.43046357615894,3.9357931251970992,17.124251024913278,5.622346879071545,-0.5137457584358245,548,15,122,4,21,185,83,151,0.303,0.62,0.077,-0.9859,3,0,0,1,2,0,31.0,0,1,3,3,6,19,7,3,5,0,13,4,1,1,1,19,27,9,1,1,9,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,10,5,0,1,1,0,0,5,7,12,0,0,0,0,28,6,13,23,0,15,0,0,0,2,10,6,1,2,2,84,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236432716076848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340656800264252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012444444639316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919523554235986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897098392639747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556621510618068,0.07096193434715911,0.0,0.07719136567279652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5363885437577354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225855996578846,0.0,0.09066293622942838,0.0,0.0,0.14795111227736926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524462487494367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096190199265217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4029973890674646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023479487910943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011195011881504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225591708492263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888079332350448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mcawesomest04,2020/03/11,"Disinterested grandparents It’s hard not to notice the oodles of Grandparents at stores, parks, and activities especially during spring break. 
My parents live 20 min away and we see them about 3 times a year. This is always on their schedule and doing what they like (even if it’s not kid friendly).
I’ve tried to invite them to various things but it’s usually a comment like that doesn’t sound very fun or I don’t think so, or I have plans. 
We have 3 kids and they have come to 2 birthdays out of all 3 and zero school activities. 
Is this normal?",2.449924242424242,4.868409935185189,3.753905723905724,85.63621212121214,79.27777777777777,6.8902356902356905,21.855218855218848,8.00094639256281,1.1269703703703695,435,13,87,8,11,142,78,108,0.012,0.878,0.11,0.8747,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,5,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,18,11,10,0,2,6,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,8,9,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,10,4,11,11,2,12,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,3,8,56,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486403667888285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426110579143662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22243812871379226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055529674934425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995041343771998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23131904168794104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523115600739526,0.0,0.22801756583261096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530058510992572,0.0,0.29399108020883696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867285047426462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26133766927678764,0.2057720368248553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17155333622254046,0.16546026938516534,0.0,0.0,0.1505731797023252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17531794763366618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843985552236628,0.2130628179517899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628855039544438
parenting,Mamamiasmeatballs,2020/03/11,"Expectations.. Just a random though I've constantly had as I've been watching my 4-year old grow...
Why is it that we as parents have these kind of high expectations for our kids at such a young age...for example; I've seen parents in public or even at home(even in my own home)  want their child/grandchild to immediately stop crying if they're upset.. or how they're expected to share toys or food everytime they're asked even if they don't necessarily want to..
But as adults if someone was to tell you to stop crying while you're upset, you'd probably look at them like they have lost their mind..",7.522307692307693,6.653599820512824,7.4457692307692325,76.4117307692308,63.61538461538462,10.876923076923077,32.32051282051282,10.125756701596842,2.853605128205128,477,15,96,9,6,153,79,117,0.133,0.805,0.062,-0.8481,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,5,1,6,6,0,2,2,0,8,1,0,1,0,19,14,13,0,8,8,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,5,3,11,3,15,8,1,13,0,1,3,0,17,6,0,7,7,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432645895034808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839161256034064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626627732248277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270991091782152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19961402423212699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441488905983155,0.33117513158466433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190423953799155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064919717000124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862467418383162,0.0,0.18020308655162626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666825994745037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17322250425984495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666010975711384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779829418063369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987079040549927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760266532481417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428620806737993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218915110858004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473558852547646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895800332610548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630537961895288
parenting,awareness-is-power,2020/03/11,"Is Minecraft Appropriate For My Child? Recently my 14 year old child has become interested in the building game Minecraft. At first this game seems innocent, it is rated everyone ten and up, but I no longer trust ratings after I found My 10 year old daughter playing inappropriately in the game “Little Big Planet”. I have also found that their is multiplayer with strangers, swords and other dangerous weapons, scary monsters and it’s own version of hell. My son insist he will only play to build and says that most of his class is allowed to play, I find this hard to believe. So reddit what do you think?",7.07830115830116,8.024572351351356,6.646537966537968,75.65351351351353,64.22522522522522,9.225740025740027,33.87516087516087,9.23628265651192,3.003791763191764,485,20,85,8,7,151,83,111,0.175,0.7020000000000001,0.12300000000000001,-0.8767,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,2,8,3,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,13,12,7,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,8,5,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,3,0,2,2,2,11,5,12,9,3,13,1,0,0,0,12,6,1,2,7,53,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716528096609071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370603074173651,0.0,0.24183321607562744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051040262005671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19618310510969905,0.18257828957410066,0.0,0.4706978389703656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228119404474392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151322843772824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4504710016353584,0.0,0.0,0.16324841277853053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211937623811234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069559278763455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195406204432838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753687518411992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764507477870333
parenting,shitaki_taco,2020/03/11,"Friend of mine wants to lock her toddler inside while she goes for a run I just finished having a talk with this chick about how much progress she’s making on exercise, and she casually drops that she’ll start going for a run while her 2 year old naps around lunch time. I was shocked and told her that was illegal as hell, anything more than walking to the mailbox is wrong. She laughed and said don’t worry, I’ll lock the door! 
I got serious and warned her she could get her baby taken away for that. Literally running miles away from her home with no way to see or hear what’s going on and no fast way to get back. 
This isn’t the first time my “call cps” flag has gone up about this chick. She has a cousin living with her right now that she doesn’t even ask to watch her kids, she just goes to the gym after putting them down to bed and assumes the cousin will stay home and listen out for them. A few times she’s come home to no one there(because she never flipping tells them she’s leaving)
Not to mention. I’ve babysat this little two year old, she’s my sons best friend. Every time I’ve had to change her, she’s super red and inflamed and smells. Chick says it’s because she sweats in her sleep a lot. But I’ve seen just how lazy she is about changing her diaper. That poor little girl will be wailing up a storm because she’s sitting in her own poop for hours. Practically every time chick rolls her eyes like a damn teenager when she has to change that little girl. I always have to feed her when she comes over to play because chick is lazy as hell when it comes to feeding her. The other day, little two year old comes around the corner asking to go on the potty, chick said no. I said hey man I’ve got the training potty in the guest bathroom she can go if you want. Chick said no. Well, little girl comes up a few minutes later with tears in her eyes wanting to go on the potty. This chick turned around and screamed in her face that she’d better go sit down before she tears her butt up. (She only spanks, I’ve never seen her like physically abuse her as far as I know) 
I’m so fed up with this chick. I’ve said my piece about it all but she just won’t change! It’s actually gotten worse the last couple months. I’m not sure what to do. But I truly feel it’s getting close to time for somebody to step in. But calling CPS can drastically effect a family. I’m so conflicted.",2.7175609756097567,4.26144941463415,3.23748780487805,93.75903658536586,75.17886178861791,5.895609756097563,21.039837398373987,6.2581,0.01554373983739854,1880,43,417,12,40,585,231,492,0.098,0.8440000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.9257,0,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,0,1,3,6,22,19,3,0,22,0,24,13,7,4,4,54,68,29,0,5,12,3,1,2,3,4,2,9,6,14,21,25,4,1,4,5,1,18,13,7,1,4,17,18,59,12,66,44,9,89,2,0,7,1,85,34,4,4,33,245,80,0,0.0,0.0813389325157524,0.06699242154864016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571222350009502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564930369147828,0.18333895712281334,0.12835682107139051,0.0,0.12899772412565494,0.05278755294217725,0.0,0.16739342242928507,0.0,0.05841602779325049,0.0,0.07204385836357348,0.06071527772795748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019849291145225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904900616563779,0.2956791480314218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481137706949982,0.07595983357077,0.0,0.044273520785112416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04534262639835411,0.0,0.11568104120816353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471703730336946,0.0,0.034711463545953836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058393589060110836,0.0,0.0,0.10607751975345422,0.0,0.10760025335035503,0.0,0.23409199817522505,0.0,0.10981122872277417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737345205005358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20658440910211995,0.0,0.0676063452482355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03772820208866035,0.05595884946989574,0.0,0.07269035572523698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707776904303676,0.34402628693679965,0.0606191393457849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05836370921645335,0.0,0.0,0.04582435638450209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054795713229306126,0.0,0.050465592043277184,0.0,0.10589410482424053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610963670175906,0.0,0.04651896420093818,0.05221135959122874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901213340911942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05862665876984146,0.3265089851454757,0.054593173826221884,0.0,0.0,0.054705100145262135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869950071353481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04859076852751649,0.07317168328662252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470173957478592,0.0,0.0,0.05517820734126105,0.060003058185675875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401819314783967,0.0,0.0,0.06559794293433377,0.0,0.0,0.07467140242428176,0.13412199823538531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147450895299047,0.10898222627526667,0.0,0.0,0.06172452490612755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971732870670368,0.0699601360160875,0.0,0.07505791347449049,0.0,0.13262489805846805
parenting,jerrymandarin,2020/03/11,"Quarantine planning: how do you work from home with a baby/toddler/young child? We are preparing to go full on self-isolation mode in light of COVID-19. I feel fortunate that my job easily lends itself to remote work, but it does *not* readily accommodate the imperious demands of my lovely toddler. Any tips from others who regularly work from home with their young children?",5.6931818181818175,8.503304681818186,6.042424242424243,71.3336363636364,70.36363636363637,9.854545454545457,32.21212121212121,10.125756701596842,4.025412121212121,303,14,47,9,6,97,55,66,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.8485,1,2,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,1,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,7,5,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,11,5,1,5,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,1,30,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851556644933453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382688222853914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766992113282694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547395952922192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.546226066799877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701899438440632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457379256654348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840411747494333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5946561694183714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PinkClutch,2020/03/11,"I’m flying with a <2 year old! How should we best prepare so we’re not all stressed out? Fingers crossed nothing major is happening for Memorial Day weekend, because that’s when my husband and my myself will be flying with our 16mo for the first time. She does really well in public so my main concern is, what do we do while on the plane? The trip is only an hour long but I assume the pressure change will cause some distress (?). How should we prepare?!",3.184185393258428,5.3233321797752815,3.7307724719101145,88.1296418539326,75.51685393258427,5.798314606741574,26.85533707865169,6.6274283507984215,1.1791449438202242,360,14,68,3,8,113,69,89,0.094,0.8440000000000001,0.061,-0.7294,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,2,6,5,0,3,6,0,10,1,1,3,1,17,12,8,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,1,1,0,1,10,2,7,7,5,15,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,10,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307476285157085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28074066345145765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748117670111509,0.2829955755003697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252515177378192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341043254439534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22754826443798695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23656277874556755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634485527237455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367425046335403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566880177145689,0.0,0.28071216693090306,0.0,0.0,0.20345733924150053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713770661336749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064377200237031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599024521057284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405282624637145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227099675504495
parenting,Muma_chef89,2020/03/11,"Just had my first experience with ""mom reflexes"" and it was terrifying! So this just happened an hour ago, and I'm still a bit shaken.

I'm a first time mum, I've seen and read about Mom/Dad reflexes but never thought it would happen with us, boy was I wrong!

Our LO is just gone 8 months old, and over the last week her physical development has rocketed, she's gone through sitting up, kneeling then standing and starting to crawl, it's been amazing and scary. I thought they would be months apart! 

Anyway today, she seems to have learned how to climb!

We were face timing with her Nana, (grandparents live in another country) she was getting tired and fussy so popped her in her travel cot to settle/play as normal, (it has a removable elevated section like a large basinet) she starts standing up so she can look at her Nana on the TV all laughs and smiles.

Then I guess she spotted something she wanted as I'm sitting talking to MIL when I see her reaching out, only her legs in the crib and she's going over! 

Never moved so fast in my life! 
Managed to grab her by her one dangling leg and an arm before she was all the way out, scooped her in my arms and held her tight. She was crying from the shock and that made me panic. 
I've checked her head to toe twice and she's completely unharmed. Been happy playing and even settled herself to sleep. 

Now I feel incredibly guilty for not lowering the cot this morning as planned (SO convinced me she's not strong enough to pull herself over) and terrified LO could have been seriously hurt. 

Has anyone else experienced this or am I just an awful parent? I feel like an awful parent rn.",4.036603773584904,5.725377729559749,4.399101886792455,86.17891698113209,72.01886792452831,7.226364779874214,28.12880503144654,7.839951260653429,1.6625701635220131,1290,49,255,17,25,405,188,318,0.157,0.7440000000000001,0.099,-0.9724,4,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,3,0,1,5,16,13,0,1,14,2,22,10,8,2,4,49,45,29,0,5,8,4,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,8,21,0,2,6,4,1,8,4,5,0,4,17,8,42,8,34,24,5,51,0,1,3,0,36,16,0,3,24,166,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573301939018354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507370149770458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340216330665146,0.12221471779978342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149705118762747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022101483201404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506103206612348,0.0,0.0,0.09523401974158464,0.0,0.13102161573823176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964171728480578,0.0,0.0,0.12324637282384295,0.0,0.07878219465423765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667706873189344,0.0,0.0,0.1206213885268046,0.08521244399714413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291612838996032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623179906534973,0.0,0.06778860876303898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139849908185172,0.0,0.21095482008083305,0.12697397226108384,0.0,0.0,0.12241395138898965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174651023611949,0.0,0.12768989108480186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972277373796886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424979338274892,0.11654670841723322,0.0,0.10532492744807864,0.0,0.10016373410066977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286401499090393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793946153852461,0.1904136080659712,0.12677396016097864,0.0,0.0,0.18398956217724494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686741244545595,0.0,0.0,0.1251625149641572,0.0,0.08082606553476697,0.09071652485105912,0.0,0.13994738944725665,0.26488888124948257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931058210426765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504936503590022,0.10858648790987804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936444506573834,0.0,0.0,0.09182626559993687,0.0,0.0,0.16885159456368692,0.0,0.09525580741392813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587138233326743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893872992460443,0.13910427619788007,0.13709286355734265,0.1130618850628594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347711300249555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035343391731577,0.09467756553005817,0.0956778604728188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946376937537322,0.13041210047556662,0.0,0.0
parenting,BebeboxesUk,2020/03/11,"Baby Sensory Boxes Hi All,

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parenting,aitaquestion12345,2020/03/11,"In anger, i told my 14 year old adopted daughter that i don't consider her my daughter TL;DR We were arguing, and she said that i'm not her father, to which i responded that she's right and that she isn't my daughter. (Obviously i didn't mean it.) I have since apologized, but maybe i should do more


So, some days ago me (adoptive father of hers since the age of 3) and my 14 year old adopted daughter were arguing, and she decided to pull the 'you're not my father' on me during the argument. I was hurt by it of course, since i do consider her my daughter. I was pretty tired and busy with work stuff that evening, so i couldn't really think straight, and for some reason i decided that i'd fire back. I told her that ""You're right. I'm not your father and you're not my daughter."" She istantly started crying and ran to her room. After that, we didn't really talk at all for two days. During those two days i was still really busy with work, so i had kind of made her my second priority. Only after getting some of that work stuff off of my shoulders did i start to realize what i'd said. I decided to make an AITA post about the whole incident. (As if i didn't already know i'd fucked up.)  Pretty much everyone agreed that i was horrible, and i can't blame them, because i was horrible.

And a day after that i apologized to her. I told her that she is my daughter regardless of blood and that i will always love her as my daughter. I said i was so sorry for saying that and that i didn't mean it. She started crying and we hugged. Later she apologized to me for saying that i'm not her father. 

Now she's mostly fine. She's talking again, smiling and pretty normal all around again. But she still seems like she's a bit touchy or scared. I think that maybe my apology wasn't enough and that i should try to do something more. A lot of people in my original AITA post told me that we should get therapy. I didn't think it would be necessary at first, but the more i think about it the more logical it seems. I said something terrible, and she got badly hurt by it. Maybe she still has doubts in her head about my love for her. 

I really need advice on this, i don't want to traumatize her. I tried other subs, but i think that you guys know the most about this.",2.6965676835633943,4.1076247639485,4.135196612921933,87.8476238255423,74.9656652360515,7.784618953717666,23.53880060317829,8.441846121484758,1.3054943278041988,1764,51,381,32,37,585,181,466,0.145,0.738,0.11699999999999999,-0.945,0,0,2,0,0,0,56.0,4,2,1,4,17,16,4,2,11,0,33,8,3,4,3,73,69,28,0,10,11,13,1,1,0,5,1,6,1,1,35,23,0,0,17,0,0,2,16,10,0,4,27,7,88,6,45,35,16,44,0,2,0,4,70,14,1,11,27,270,123,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392884442262028,0.06706327888932713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348678307127655,0.0,0.06295072599282849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673486746066406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05817375284842498,0.06316846926666286,0.04611836996649565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259527898946348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620615220223373,0.1951639515250093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817147302189625,0.0,0.049969180130127966,0.0,0.0,0.07229125630822664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435180319186946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994150109260984,0.07905285995088078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050793154494205,0.0,0.0,0.07490999389116415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764349310454413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619797264195579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878267170021376,0.08315562974193184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03696103854451949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431887454594445,0.13656254343829693,0.07158625524513215,0.05050006363564952,0.0,0.22801578157925495,0.16482017670517662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05561486970405416,0.05609696135102246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741254900229519,0.0,0.0,0.15877364887415954,0.0,0.0,0.05753876736941061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052449405689355584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491247587748218,0.23090391978401514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386521375889967,0.07778557629403791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921730853262145,0.28785957212980123,0.12032722201980305,0.0757434986497524,0.0,0.0,0.1377462965554692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877469147555315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648528519872628,0.0,0.08468918219734366,0.16064624337470845,0.0,0.18125369393417848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732129387811028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161667732564813,0.0,0.0,0.08651768100486662,0.0,0.0,0.2423822116013707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695388626474919,0.0,0.2891650252329065,0.0,0.10272907698933356,0.0,0.14780719207478352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462307032212525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844657104134376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16523244986939795,0.0,0.0,0.05374288984086458,0.0,0.0,0.09743822310601763
parenting,Cali4u,2020/03/11,"So my pre-school is now closed for at least 2 weeks starting tomorrow. The Archdiocese of San Francisco will close its school buildings, cancel classes, and student-related activities from March 12 - March 25, 2020. This closure applies to Archdiocesan Preschools, Elementary, and High Schools. This closure includes any planned school events such as fundraisers, community events as well as field trips. This closure means that school buildings will not be open to children, parents, or community members during this time.

I haven’t chosen a side on the raging debate of childcare costs.  Losing like $400 in tuition already spent plus whatever comes out of pocket for some childcare in the coming weeks.  I doubt they will be open on the 25th, any thoughts on this?",9.26970930232558,10.624074914728682,7.072393410852714,73.07742732558141,59.542635658914726,9.550775193798447,40.9312015503876,9.516144504307137,4.181022480620157,620,32,93,10,8,179,95,129,0.081,0.884,0.035,-0.7096,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,2,4,5,1,1,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,16,13,8,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,10,0,0,2,0,3,3,2,3,1,0,2,0,4,2,19,6,2,26,0,1,0,0,3,13,0,3,11,52,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125602972360093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21106905038391904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26736489594387985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396676096028234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581799756485219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361791969348814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904741111400026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723201352167923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7853028520383337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098442844015838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320352919488654,0.09049254000614848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489681224241529,0.0,0.1395344521974749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,enneyeessaye,2020/03/11,"16 year age gap between me and my little sister. Trying my best to raise her to be good but my parents are turning her into a spoilt brat. I was 16 years old when my parents had my little sister who is now, 8 and expectedly, she is loved by everyone and spoiled like crazy. 

I take great care of her, taking her out when I can, paying for her gymnastics/swimming lessons and throwing her birthday parties. I am quite strict with her as my parents don’t make her do any chores and let her do what she wants. 

My mother has a huge problem buying her everything she wants. It’s reached a point where we go out and we don’t buy her something she acts up and gets angry at us. This happens every. single. time. we go out. I tried talking to my mum but she won’t stop. She’s too blindly in love with her. 

She’s acting really selfish, acts up when we take her out if things don’t go her way, always has to be centre of attention. I’m trying my best but because my parents are so lenient she doesn’t care what I have to say. I will be moving away soon and I’m worried it’ll get worse in her teenage years when my parents will be of old age. I’m exhausted... no matter how much I try, I feel like it’s all for nothing. Would appreciate any parenting advice for someone who is not even a parent yet.",1.386346153846155,3.3782294888059745,3.0038805970149265,91.88537887485649,80.6044776119403,5.4663605051664765,22.99425947187141,6.490185161304077,0.5081849598163033,1005,34,216,9,26,331,149,268,0.10300000000000001,0.715,0.182,0.9776,7,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,0,4,12,13,0,0,4,0,28,4,0,2,1,37,49,19,0,6,5,11,1,2,0,5,2,1,1,0,9,19,0,1,3,0,3,8,7,3,0,0,2,3,49,10,27,37,5,41,0,0,1,2,45,16,0,1,18,147,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517566980423066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252744572132347,0.0,0.0,0.11854904273962305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818934643798695,0.0,0.0,0.053134376478549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294651905451087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773905150116587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757101196958021,0.0,0.07343944470197726,0.08328895473927495,0.07833739920603347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04407274659674972,0.06226999203116119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107920391348732,0.0,0.14861196074669844,0.07310904301245699,0.0,0.09609863780140364,0.0,0.0,0.07707885344662083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913111417085832,0.0,0.08516787295341989,0.17472249012737084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733785910452108,0.0,0.05818265900023473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264155701539856,0.06407558261073565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836362263067794,0.0,0.1829279491075123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6774972894552178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239817111655771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340419367687313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270966260596177,0.0,0.0,0.05583950203272153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931632579450403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385378977821386,0.06710311967288482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287302217665417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966094820121632,0.07005913612933165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790790061245792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050826039977404834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367145870944952,0.0948094220433096,0.0,0.0,0.10484758169380567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282319257367864,0.06918674051038896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885192915425492,0.0888275811945872,0.06191881768423806,0.0,0.0,0.16839230984347153
parenting,ell19924,2020/03/11,"UK parents - parenting difficulties Hey!

I am working on a branded content video with News UK, and am looking for parents who are happy to speak honestly about some of the difficulties of being a parent (from lack of sleep and sex - to dealing with the mess, tears and tantrums) for a short social video.

If you are based in the UK, and happy to give a warts and all run-down of the reality behind the other side of parenthood please do drop me a message or reply to this post!

Many thanks

Ellie",7.356210526315793,6.7184132526315805,7.5947368421052674,74.45315789473686,63.842105263157904,10.126315789473685,34.78947368421053,9.3871,3.093484210526316,389,15,72,6,5,127,66,95,0.124,0.7240000000000001,0.152,0.7170000000000001,5,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,1,6,1,0,10,0,6,3,1,0,1,13,9,7,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,4,18,8,3,6,0,0,1,1,12,4,0,3,0,50,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807824169560155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569946841791236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677510641783449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505067121889084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751222853422252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7671900487464276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896069438432578,0.0,0.0,0.16542870428884174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285590470353684,0.1760776654037135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902764526427074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575034193501966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PinkPoofyThingy,2020/03/11,"How to talk to my preschooler about private parts being private and an event with a classmate? I will preface with the fact that this is not an abuse situation. Just want to figure out the right course of action for a conversation because preschoolers are tricky.


Yesterday I picked up my 4 year old son from school, asked the normal ""how was your day"" questions etc, then we went home. We had a routine night and went to bed. This morning I took him to school and dropped him off at the before care program. The teacher who supervises his age group is a sweet lady and he loves her. Let's call her Miss Love.


I just got a call from his preschool teacher. She told me that during before care, my son told Miss Love that one of his male classmates touched his penis while they were in the bathroom during lunch the day before. His preschool teacher said it was ""boys being boys"" and that her and Miss Love wanted me to know.


Now...I believe they were just being boys. The classmate might have been curious because my son is uncircumcised and so it probably looked different. The event is not my concern. What I AM concerned about is the fact that my son did not tell me this happened and instead told his teacher (although I am very happy he at least told someone!). 


How do I approach a conversation with my son with the message being: 


1. Mommy needs to know if/when someone touches/wants to touch him inappropriately


2. That someone wanting to see or touch his private parts is not normal/appropriate


How do I approach a conversation so that I can get answers for these questions:


1. Why did he not tell me?


2. How did he feel when it happened/how does he feel about his classmate now? Does he feel safe?



I want to make sure I don't scare him or coach him or phrase anything in a way that isn't suited for his age. Thank you in advance!!!",4.391318267419962,5.993455005649718,4.4233333333333364,86.70179849340867,70.9774011299435,6.600376647834276,28.930320150659128,6.937597516519254,1.4107088512241046,1448,56,283,12,27,447,172,354,0.018000000000000002,0.843,0.139,0.9928,1,0,0,0,1,0,45.0,2,2,2,1,16,15,0,1,21,0,31,5,0,7,3,53,66,22,0,6,11,5,6,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,17,15,1,1,9,1,0,7,7,4,0,1,18,10,46,11,32,41,4,32,0,3,2,4,62,9,0,6,14,184,63,4,0.0,0.10956728046124553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609871716168351,0.0,0.08645126865120419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127433167328897,0.0,0.2360672227687073,0.10418720807285144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18885381351787636,0.0,0.18856803737302996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927693464454422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661627568390327,0.0,0.0,0.16185029277700336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313362451641014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027381023804095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04831416220129777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396038602382737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177498413902222,0.09844093217438823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092759564581324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164324442655394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456154472592064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765537439958897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338477509048622,0.0,0.0617275141515344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981009378731635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856874479676645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678114850646756,0.18121094925318645,0.0,0.0,0.09703653770103199,0.0,0.06266318280466418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028196229605272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997032603617357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718543354112834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897280386236873,0.08796452188900496,0.0,0.09258320778607436,0.18717846610860864,0.07369028415901159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394532590127367,0.0,0.0,0.2350602876534442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715621691922401,0.0,0.0,0.07432758129617535,0.16165375427048212,0.08513818811804047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534537761372757,0.10274268413802842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630123043371005,0.2181756620876364,0.07340203382482646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714497629224256,0.08344394377269593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955061105538061
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60. **Food Addiction Treatment for Overeating & Healthy Eating Guide on What to Eat Healthily:**  [https://www.audible.com/pd//B07VMNXFDT](https://www.audible.com/pd//B07VMNXFDT)",26.061730292824144,28.220775781049944,10.816947579747259,21.290614266130408,131.77848911651728,9.043535322607582,35.412935617658526,6.895973343053719,5.911164474196961,7699,260,442,160,368,1693,370,781,0.081,0.812,0.106,0.9518,1,0,4,0,0,0,1479.0,1,12,1,20,17,32,1,5,29,0,2,89,12,20,4,72,23,42,0,6,3,1,8,0,0,0,24,2,1,4,5,30,58,3,4,16,2,11,0,21,2,1,2,14,15,12,62,21,5,58,0,13,1,0,24,20,0,3,24,165,20,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21787868908536304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679565606879887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052833432105986,0.04047562823959183,0.0,0.0,0.15289360811553315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03789524488288065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357715995272915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029460229940759763,0.0,0.11100061363644836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191022555638458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607026915168828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908822962339766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03263138663287364,0.0,0.34084725663895743,0.0,0.0,0.11801206107452394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030131049389675764,0.0,0.0,0.029937125923002305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.016842675120848888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139457441930125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017403243049680352,0.0,0.018930996040332874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03298240775471084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106221789073866,0.0,0.0,0.044654348293630006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03527076996561315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02797224029590377,0.29812540447020786,0.0,0.028319203305243575,0.0,0.031518986152343734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726776099706072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024699145694335928,0.0,0.03217126967280657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514380674024512,0.0,0.0354444795055892,0.039082428800714164,0.03698711666727938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05817049188845937,0.0,0.07312935473358638,0.0,0.03755232836055846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031873433046252016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026489666428319403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0347498799148236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023577182998863397,0.0,0.0,0.055697760288273904,0.1144704170989434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026444636330042542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03467716941709893,0.08013631516242582,0.1438469061841185,0.0,0.0,0.05894178697049946,0.0,0.0,0.2433776353735413,0.05989987247909255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024250275799070728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04047562823959183,0.0
parenting,slws1985,2020/03/11,"Grand parents and Corona Virus My in laws are currently in Vietnam for their holiday. I think they're back next week sometime? But I know we were supposed to meet up pretty soon after they get home. 

NHS currently has Vietnam on the high risk list and they have just said (somewhat flippantly) that they are 3 doors down from a hotel that is shut and under quarantine. 

My kids are 3 and 6, no really health concerns. I think the easiest thing is to just put off seeing them until either they (my in laws) get tested or 2 weeks has passed. 

But am I  being dramatic? I don't want to be part of spreading the disease *or* the panic about it. I'm usually a worst case scenario thinker, but can rationalise my way back to a more measured approach. But I'm not seeing that I'm being crazy here? Am I?",2.837142857142858,4.855536140127392,3.9657370336669717,86.60409235668794,76.13375796178346,7.033484986351231,25.22702456778889,7.957251820313856,1.508945768880801,622,22,122,10,14,202,106,157,0.086,0.863,0.052000000000000005,-0.6335,3,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,6,0,7,4,0,2,7,0,16,1,0,0,0,23,28,11,0,1,10,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,5,5,0,0,4,2,0,3,3,3,0,0,2,3,17,1,18,23,5,25,0,0,2,0,11,10,0,3,11,86,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036419043779431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063109200170688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098719471147729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086086452269647,0.19805073954735375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850913229019453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998214102491225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316560143232908,0.21923632413285246,0.21381078560342195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20086981527629036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984840596464424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264866022391726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18781285458464106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31467192285819123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952754972739686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117190026124084,0.253026125062758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174548145880812,0.0,0.11645659243529301,0.15672051878317758,0.3167526297368544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elcachicamo,2020/03/11,"9 month old baby wont sleep/ eat and it is taking a huge toll on wife Long story short we have been having issues with our 9 month old baby for a while, for the last week she started refusing to eat so her calorie intake has dropped but its not affecting her mood, happy baby when awake and we have a doctors appt next week.

Furthermore she wakes up constantly every night, I have offered to help at night but my wife refuses.  
In my opinion she has very high expectations of how our girl should be behaving and since that is not the case, it has lead to a lot of frustration and its taking a big toll on her and our relationship.   
Wife is always up at night swearing and showing her frustrations anytime the baby wakes up, which most of the time lashes out at me. I have tried talking to her, I have offered help, but she is just miserable 24/7 always in a bad mood, and not open to communicate with me or anyone.

I know this is not r/relationship_advice but I was wondering what can be done when sleep training is just not working, we have been at it for more than 2 months and the baby still wakes up several times during the night. Wife is 100% against cuddling the baby to sleep or even bringing her to bed, and I feel like we keep trying the same thing over and over and it does not get better. 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",6.245681818181819,6.082048871212129,6.4709696969697,80.01645454545456,65.96969696969697,9.464242424242427,30.1,9.029198982220553,2.248174545454546,1058,33,211,16,15,340,146,264,0.08800000000000001,0.8340000000000001,0.078,-0.4058,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,7,0,0,3,8,10,2,1,14,0,28,10,6,3,0,49,37,22,0,3,14,4,1,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,11,19,2,3,3,1,0,2,7,4,0,0,4,1,27,4,32,27,4,45,0,1,0,1,30,20,0,6,23,148,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132334014066887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18958459682503748,0.0,0.0,0.07747092238069046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965696862264536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512018002254144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007548238350926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310929918585987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660407831834205,0.09969398175054764,0.11658184288743499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23314146132864225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524446080039822,0.0,0.09598426758592958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760242768387105,0.08138595821288606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951958593520139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559949769234724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127217476488597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271914051053498,0.12036493449193116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189050558232536,0.0,0.10125918097140288,0.0,0.0,0.06260859700074085,0.09286170188689807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055656574886012285,0.0,0.0,0.10081745773708732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685248030675772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727945571495645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115742672812313,0.42763262701862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23908412280802604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230968202324555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869952613827929,0.0,0.09423752354904552,0.0,0.34201306578708496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063463606207544,0.0,0.0909783219219073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131045591796154,0.09156625429788667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568476927189959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328577644158857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546912314041444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939976486157266,0.0,0.0,0.18276284516848607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235436384436529,0.08293663257214783,0.0,0.0,0.08092697853757437,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,izwald88,2020/03/11,"How to best help my lost SS Hello,

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I have an 18 year old step son who seems very lost in life. But let me be clear, I understand that most of us were sort of lost at his age anyway, so I'm trying to take that into consideration when approaching this issue.

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The issue is that I think he's on a bad path and seems to have no inclination or desire to improve or even try. He's mostly interested in smoking pot and hanging out with his friends. That's fairly normal teen stuff, but he has no desire to succeed.   


He doesn't want a job and regularly talks about how he can't do normal things because of how his brain works. He's struggled with some community college courses and has some more coming up, but he's saying he's going to fail them. Really, the only reason he's going is because his mom is willing to give him spending money so long as he goes to school. He does well in math courses if he actually does the homework and his GPA is very good. 

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But I'm afraid it's not enough. I have struggled talking to his mother about his problems as she seems to take it personally and get embarrassed at his problems. She also seems a bit scared of him. Not that  she's afraid of him being violent, she's afraid if he's pushed he'll just shut down or throw some sort of fit like he did when he was younger. She's also scared because he once drank so much that he got very sick. Much later, he told her he was trying to drink himself to death that night. I understand the need to take such things seriously, but I can't help but think he made up the suicide part just to exert more control and guilt. He was/is a stupid kid with access to unlimited quantities of his father's alcohol, of course he drank too much.  


Finally, I worry about my personal things. Everyone, including the boy himself, says that he's stolen things in the past. Apparently, he does so cleverly and in small ways. Such as taking small amounts of cash he finds so that a person wouldn't notice unless they specifically counted it. So I can't help but wonder if I need to keep everything of mine under lock and key? How do I bring that up with his mother? How do I tell her that I don't trust him to be alone in the house if we are gone?  


Anyway, I hope I didn't paint too bad of a picture. He's a smart kid with a lot of potential. I want to help him realize that potential and stop being so negative.",4.7232370669669494,5.1590982833675545,5.6078214214744655,82.83793203947806,69.24640657084188,8.665801152546864,27.61932834337948,8.654491914285503,1.809768947473008,1892,58,393,29,31,622,229,487,0.187,0.7070000000000001,0.106,-0.9933,2,1,2,0,0,1,55.0,2,0,2,8,30,31,2,9,17,0,30,7,1,8,1,81,67,44,2,16,19,5,0,1,1,3,3,2,1,6,22,19,4,3,13,1,3,10,12,20,1,0,14,2,47,11,58,45,16,42,0,4,0,0,80,20,0,21,12,243,69,9,0.0,0.0,0.06792239930360916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438434262840339,0.0,0.0720876230730879,0.0,0.1113228431147502,0.0,0.22624416999715655,0.2537254602772146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623104418616068,0.12728786274860085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304395933188397,0.0,0.07598835014717592,0.0,0.0,0.07769986603420438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995674344674842,0.0,0.0,0.07806558142760528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827299253722428,0.0,0.0,0.06818435317750861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191841151436924,0.0,0.04597206526513285,0.0,0.0,0.06650856276700193,0.06255460701131041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624658516249276,0.063615798293762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053775035200058816,0.0,0.03636464744461669,0.0667694530507207,0.0791138749044574,0.05837961817686953,0.055667805051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661345220904688,0.0,0.0,0.06913139405431619,0.0,0.08031241246439297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529470816892212,0.06907014774516612,0.06186626399861974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117369067581783,0.04916259336217104,0.03400446578892846,0.0,0.0,0.0615963846062888,0.0,0.0,0.2279393933254201,0.05917390460891834,0.0,0.06585995586970712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151808634926329,0.0,0.0,0.1534984412244802,0.10321935087543872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531761550843676,0.13639214636985764,0.0,0.07924337375807429,0.07303654502053021,0.07412482699372934,0.0,0.052936149080160345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537316820342517,0.06644385282374245,0.0,0.18232372752295264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320116857160572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458940609168367,0.07156338328471837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107020545356374,0.13936930941304204,0.0704418603069645,0.0,0.2534554987209135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819114892999939,0.0,0.14552814678255332,0.07967867899446687,0.0761342859522824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20933090293388112,0.11188836424338944,0.06083601075035178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496432112253897,0.08919746789383168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650856276700193,0.0,0.14176742002816226,0.0,0.0,0.1449181668761683,0.08372373011379132,0.0,0.0,0.17228906916062334,0.08210719871077064,0.055247549789571734,0.0,0.0,0.06258137458810316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548138626030966,0.050671747061771015,0.07068513317375108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537254602772146,0.044821991678502905
parenting,throwaway11111116090,2020/03/11,"Husband sleeps in, brings kids to school late My sons are of an age where they will happily watch TV for an hour or two in the morning, if given the chance. I’ve learned that my husband will occasionally let them watch TV in the morning while he sleeps in for an extra hour, and then brings them to grade 1 class late!

He does this if he’s had a rough night, or is extra tired (he’s always tired and he has no discipline when it comes to getting up in the mornings). He refuses to see a doctor about his tiredness or mood. He prioritizes his sleep and does not pull his weight in this regard. He works from home. 

I’m up in the night with our baby and I leave for work early in the mornings. 

I’m furious about this. It happens at least twice a month, and would happen more if I didn’t step in as much as I currently do. 

I am planning to separate from him for a multitude of reasons. This is one of those things that I realize I will have even less control over once we separate, as we will almost certainly share parenting access - and I cannot make him buck up and put his kids first in the morning. 

Any advice? I guess I just want to vent because this behaviour seems so selfish to me.",4.717617079889808,4.937098392561985,5.33009917355372,85.58363360881545,69.20661157024793,8.767382920110192,28.53002754820937,8.648137234880735,1.8337743250688705,929,30,201,14,15,300,141,242,0.07200000000000001,0.882,0.046,-0.805,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,3,5,7,5,1,0,14,0,16,7,3,3,1,32,30,20,0,5,8,4,2,0,0,5,3,0,1,2,11,11,1,3,4,2,1,6,4,2,0,4,3,5,24,2,37,21,6,36,0,0,3,0,28,16,0,9,14,134,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259582745666774,0.0,0.0,0.12907338434575896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725400742704227,0.0,0.0,0.08765550602263966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785754241416233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103477844820367,0.0,0.0,0.1445708028812969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193323604786908,0.22560016453177464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513634644039715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964113071977316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734422752540313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419964014543863,0.0,0.22796931114316699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929586145559224,0.0,0.25387842248290243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29080659619731924,0.13648506492610493,0.0,0.1318076086395415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604085361717838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288567724229132,0.0,0.0947553432342012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419253131446567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372728615601039,0.0873450650490609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312670306559006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957875106067895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252928613576184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045232117401284,0.1027155400551018,0.11734449508565585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869752344060588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563453931960219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963000860168653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591525694529004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602776680116265,0.0,0.0,0.1569638371844667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876795131004496,0.0,0.0,0.09156590675061432,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,khiller_05,2020/03/11,"Eczema and the beach I’ll be bringing my 7 month old to the beach for the first time in May and she’s got eczema controlled with eucerin and one bath per week. Will sand and ocean water exacerbate her eczema? I’m thinking yes, and if so, anything I can do to combat it?",3.4007142857142867,4.345254785714288,3.7771428571428594,92.91785714285713,72.57142857142857,6.314285714285715,24.714285714285715,5.985473137389443,0.3981214285714288,212,6,48,1,4,66,44,56,0.044000000000000004,0.9,0.055999999999999994,0.168,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,5,1,0,1,0,10,9,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,0,5,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,5,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135118156273509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4272983813590433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240590544786638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047023099951149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30409240645053864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399771536913112,0.0,0.2581600445686704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24411483880194215,0.0,0.0,0.22215089838494195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30559696999321645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wellaways,2020/03/11,"Daycare biting My daughter is 1.5 years old and at daycare full time. When I picked her up today she had a very pronounced bite mark on her wrist. It freaked me out some but I figured what can I really do, plus she maybe even did it herself? Idk. I sent pictures to my husband and sisters and the FREAKED OUT. My sisters want me to basically cause a scene at the daycare. I don't know, it's upsetting but what can I do? Obviously it's not okay for my daughter to be another kids chew toy, but outside of asking her daycare to keep a close eye on her (which I know is hard when all the tiny babies need constant attention anyways) what can I really do? It's the first time this has happened and it's one spot only. What should we do?",2.3314307692307707,4.095995886666668,3.699333333333332,89.09146153846157,76.8,6.482051282051282,27.538461538461537,7.321109707123232,1.3946307692307691,573,24,121,7,13,188,91,150,0.081,0.885,0.033,-0.7075,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,7,1,15,3,2,2,2,26,23,10,0,3,4,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,12,9,1,1,4,1,0,1,2,3,0,2,3,2,22,1,14,18,3,19,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,1,9,87,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472896614231686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22047041355334845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422636890736347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25484983497405844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557643374181113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005979677821177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20854482360679166,0.0,0.21125850646355335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096176790122964,0.0,0.0,0.2592134098579742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692422039661276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486590721033374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474652591050625,0.0,0.15980537987537036,0.17936031673546154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021591157883401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27503023378675656,0.0,0.22354048007104696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458550569361802,0.13909940015399302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186761341473373
parenting,Ehazy,2020/03/11,"Looking for a specific parenting comic strip I've been thinking a lot lately about how I need to be better at recognizing what my toddler needs from me in terms of learning through play (rather than our normal power struggles, me yelling, etc) and I remembered a comic strip I saw a while ago that I would love to be able to find again. Basically, it was repetitive frames of the little kid trying to play with the dad but he kept not having time. At the end the child was a teenager and the parent wanted to engage, but the kid shrugged him off.
If anyone else has seen this and could direct me to it I would be really grateful!",7.889756097560976,6.5621400487804875,7.754593495934959,75.97871951219513,63.14634146341464,10.476422764227642,33.508130081300806,9.2995712137729,2.8153642276422763,498,16,95,7,6,160,88,123,0.026000000000000002,0.845,0.128,0.9106,3,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,4,6,0,1,11,0,11,1,0,1,0,23,20,8,0,9,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,5,4,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,4,11,5,18,8,3,13,0,0,3,1,10,5,0,2,8,69,16,1,0.19145738428172848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971541928821354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387145469569894,0.19617071558354307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932849777788586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528631423198118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993807729242315,0.0,0.169574414911253,0.0,0.21352559294804108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498858069053272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597226876646167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918905967098568,0.0,0.0,0.16077598302225873,0.0,0.0,0.1627702215354728,0.17279776430961194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839264489943884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18758758634439027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42518153558202015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265250291738655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168838940046768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20015282790611166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267816113738447,0.0,0.0,0.11164034043417524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998699633452154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292652573914305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720116652260551,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Daxtonbaratheon,2020/03/11,"My friend is somewhat ignoring her kids due to a video game addiction, any advice or insight My friend is a stay at home mother of a 4 year old and 7 year old. The 4 year old isn’t in any kind of daycare or preschool so he’s home with her all day long. Her husband is a truck driver ( comes home in the evenings ) and her 7 year old is obviously in school. 

Before my friend met me she wasn’t into video games at all. I introduced them to her and she quickly became very addicted to them. I am childless and currently work to support myself and pay half the bills with my roommate, so the only person I have to take care of is myself meaning I have lots of free time when I’m not working to play video games or basically do whatever I want. 

A standard day for my friend and I on my day off is I’ll call her at 9am after she puts her 7 year old on the bus, and from 9am to 10pm we’ll be on the phone together. This means I hear literally everything that goes on in her life. On days I work, I call her from when I get home until I go to bed and during that time we usually play games together. The all day long calls aren’t forced and they’re mainly her initiating them. Unless either of us had plans that day it’s an every day occurrence. While we play together her 4 year old is left to fend for himself entertainment wise. She will get up to make him food and get him drinks but other than that she expects him to entertain himself. When her 7 year old comes home she will spend half an hour ( still on the phone with me ) helping her with her homework but after that it’s back to our game. 

I think her parenting is horrific. I know I don’t have kids myself but I can still apply some common logic to know what you should and shouldn’t be doing overall, and she’s constantly going back on punishments ( if she takes an electronic from one of the kids she’ll give it back just to quiet them down ) she always ignores what her kids are saying, pushes away their attempts at interaction if she’s busy playing the game, and generally snapping at anything that distracts her from what she’s doing. I think she loves her kids and wants to provide for their basic needs but I don’t think she likes them. I know she became a mother young and she probably wants to be able to only focus on her own wants and needs but that isn’t something she can do. It’s why I’m perfectly happy enjoying this time of my life now where I want to play video games all day long on my days off work without a worry because I’m getting the experiences now so that when I do decide to have kids I’ll be ready to change my lifestyle. 

I know this is a long post but I was wondering if this is somewhat my fault that these kids are being emotionally neglected? I’m the one who introduced her to video games and I’m the one who answers the calls and remains on the phone with her all day long. I don’t at all try to convince her to play. Because I work, she’s usually on before I am and playing 3x as long every day. I’m not sure if there’s anything I can do at this point.",4.280078864353314,4.534956400630918,5.257746056782338,85.59772318611991,70.16719242902208,8.485110410094638,27.206466876971607,8.395991825355821,1.5882588012618304,2394,72,523,34,40,788,244,634,0.064,0.8340000000000001,0.102,0.9723,3,0,2,0,0,0,38.0,5,1,7,8,20,31,1,1,26,0,47,7,0,1,9,91,87,43,0,14,19,4,0,1,4,6,4,3,7,8,25,29,2,3,14,23,4,6,11,6,0,5,4,3,99,26,77,72,13,97,0,1,0,1,99,31,0,12,59,344,124,8,0.054774538725384216,0.0,0.0,0.11942466447249125,0.0,0.05352504530575726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557680411633076,0.0,0.0,0.07449712926445698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014955655565186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05146248220005442,0.12635471774796794,0.0,0.06678010081621304,0.0,0.0932181962397943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22372371279673334,0.0,0.05584629276217146,0.0,0.057944199126808274,0.09436683008560508,0.0,0.05919181735076156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3885755070267789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05365819506619477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161398361469976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036178066237138255,0.0,0.09229982256524018,0.0,0.04922782352372964,0.053580009283360604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662335896481791,0.0,0.1692746909804551,0.0,0.11446974299319385,0.05254472865543745,0.06225926527475225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05830851500158045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173488603572571,0.0,0.03671421870990215,0.0,0.274716641922322,0.0,0.05394188715390081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703925314937425,0.1204106160221224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059512696593267266,0.0,0.07737775315459185,0.026760072852402464,0.0,0.0,0.2908424587065095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656735406828067,0.04943615974043122,0.0,0.03656242993045775,0.0,0.0,0.11933106075641832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122925283842466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40233665026181975,0.0,0.11134993504957366,0.08331700987180056,0.0,0.0,0.06082064312491045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478270144625567,0.0,0.0,0.05177964379102809,0.0,0.052458867017935035,0.0,0.05905621700341113,0.0,0.0,0.0550635402481223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04355891168342977,0.0,0.05543475746314696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042168115952642776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838237029698004,0.08748603476249593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621574974379152,0.051624354518635535,0.0,0.08236727269207259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529193814886784,0.0,0.0,0.09581842204783103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03718831629938399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588702587556629,0.0,0.12065283183493572,0.04519473090219829,0.16153721049797332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04942550156516245,0.0,0.0,0.052800700697297774,0.059400650722290525,0.19938258276843696,0.05562620289500965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469110495974705
parenting,Sondra282,2020/03/11,"Newborn (1 week old) is laughing in sleep Please don’t shut me down with “babies aren’t capable of laughter”. My newborn (1 week old) laughed several times today. Once for about 4 seconds before bed and then again, multiple times at night for nearly 10 seconds total. I mean, the night random laughter creeped me out. But, I’m concerned she has something wrong with her? She is not laughing at anything in particular I don’t believe. She also makes numerous uncontrollable faces all day long. Tl;dr Should I be concerned?",3.2808156028368813,6.38101307446809,3.658617021276598,82.78416666666669,83.14893617021278,5.686524822695036,30.17375886524823,7.1686216300943375,2.2366482269503543,415,21,67,6,12,129,70,94,0.054000000000000006,0.743,0.203,0.9378,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,8,2,2,1,2,12,11,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,0,10,3,13,9,2,21,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,1,13,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589716026013085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358652342712834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691549157382929,0.2239672860451089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820254921045068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17592213244526553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269329387503426,0.0,0.0,0.21653964935438225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731002811262713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171915228003332,0.2117039452108019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182107793138905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245751439397028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989327020931655,0.0,0.0,0.15303759112573004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318310910884568,0.0,0.18842885992486727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31891331298643066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173447170048164,0.0,0.0
parenting,MadDany94,2020/03/11,"Pathological lying 5 year old. How to fix that? So my mother is taking care of this girl from a family that couldn't support her. And one of the big problems she's having is her habit of lying constantly. She lies on just about anything, big and small. And my mother hates that, she's trying to make her understand that telling the truth is okay, even if she's the one at fault, she wont get any harsh punishment if she speaks honestly. Yet she lies all the same and she gets punished for it, every single time.

My mother is in her 60s so I am a bit worried about her being too much stressed out whenever she gets angry at her.",3.2037007874015733,4.694422322834646,4.136228346456694,88.02796456692914,73.8031496062992,7.2847244094488195,22.936220472440944,7.908726449838941,0.990565984251968,493,13,103,7,10,159,83,127,0.249,0.6659999999999999,0.085,-0.9736,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,9,11,3,1,6,1,9,1,0,2,2,16,18,9,0,4,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,0,2,0,1,19,5,14,15,5,13,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,2,5,73,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464109070138725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750313108061873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322097742932455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168585226438617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298496359992284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048420420149876,0.0,0.1792061941070041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005115761043032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33337583559899325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999401607128568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197673913208345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635659203928748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318947051130425,0.0,0.2882576588586861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20352207430285044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436434203210601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413657630423129,0.0,0.0,0.1599214933234221,0.0,0.18590634351028415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402519140556535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440713847633888,0.0,0.0,0.2214248286489252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160038846530312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696974010990154
parenting,BeAGoodPersonPls,2020/03/11,"When it comes to clothing sizes... Did your child follow the sizes fairly accurately?? 

I never considered my son to be small for his age (though I'm not around other 2.5 year olds to compare) but he's still in 18-24 month clothes fairly comfortably.  

He's growing in height, he needed jumpers and trousers in 2-3 to avoid them being too short around his ankles and wrists. But always needs the trousers adjusting to suck them in around his waist 😅

He got some 2-3 pyjamas for Christmas last year and they literally just fall down on him.

I don't think he's gained more than a kg in almost a year, we were struggling with his eating for a while but now he seems to eat a normal amount I'd say!  

What is everyone else's experience with this? Thanks!",4.073624078624079,5.440087959459459,4.327542997542999,88.000257985258,71.43243243243244,7.543980343980343,24.94103194103194,8.00094639256281,1.1927081081081083,590,17,123,8,11,184,104,148,0.096,0.835,0.069,-0.6043,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,3,1,9,5,1,2,6,0,6,4,2,0,1,25,16,9,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,10,3,1,3,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,1,13,2,22,11,3,29,0,0,0,0,19,13,1,3,12,68,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627629023262625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464774371389819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47013252486771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164085865463725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602609528217385,0.14705687821456442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821153028151933,0.0,0.17219861273461656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407933999092206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349419023012766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051158257196786,0.0,0.0,0.26105939210036705,0.13577109756405215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247953274550173,0.0,0.0,0.18472191388976966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999221471664944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602580762700805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058390453128106,0.0,0.0,0.1840327865382194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207182806466128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127978259297338,0.1729561094440257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34008744875091074
parenting,SirTuk,2020/03/11,"My 2 year and 2 month is now in a bed. HELP! So my 2 year old started climbing out of the cot so we just recently turned the cot into a bed. The biggest things we need help with is putting her to sleep and trying to keep her in bed.

Before we used to have quiet time, read a book and then say good night. Place her in the cot and that was it. We would leave and we wouldn't hear a peep out of her. Now she will get out of bed 3 or 4 times and will continue to do so until one of us stay in there with her (up to 30mins or more) until she falls asleep.

Early in the morning she'll wake up and come crying into our room. She is obviously still tired and grumpy but it's hard to but her back down.

Have any of you experienced this? If so what did you do to help your child? What are some things that worked or what're something that didn't work and I should avoid?

Thanks for any advice.",0.32841282894736423,2.1263845989583388,1.6875109649122813,100.96253289473688,83.21875,4.875438596491228,15.313596491228068,5.750287758089431,-1.053160416666667,681,10,173,4,19,217,111,192,0.05,0.875,0.075,0.7749,0,1,1,0,0,0,17.0,7,3,0,3,10,3,0,1,9,0,17,4,3,1,1,38,26,22,0,5,7,0,1,0,0,6,1,3,5,1,10,22,0,2,0,2,0,4,2,1,0,1,3,5,23,2,30,17,2,39,0,0,0,0,26,16,0,5,18,117,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318413723018914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21320446171157648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053882634207146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333912833102396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503492960384672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219358848559624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190067247588018,0.0,0.0,0.13148291881153784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042624207898946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766800046663296,0.0,0.3152189345210268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933556300179065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598629178938298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512440136166786,0.0,0.0,0.1162356140272952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710871713549045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449333550136871,0.0,0.10622468811108043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637809203367322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758717918994722,0.0,0.0,0.15680250286246755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478166866405355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246619085849608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687329161415434,0.0,0.0,0.12068156923415747,0.0,0.0,0.1109555924250146,0.16708538913528684,0.1251888034678766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443236215334436,0.0,0.0,0.20828886498971355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828161281422444,0.1801726531816592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642980524019796,0.17050995372713687,0.0,0.0,0.18856307651412985,0.1353903788670071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22824641246459346,0.0,0.0,0.11135786413037717,0.0,0.0,0.20189670562699927
parenting,chaostrulyreigns,2020/03/11,"How to deal with child who hates school? I need advice, support or just sympathy.

My son is 7, hates school. Has lots of friends and a best friend, playdates etc but hates school. No bullying, just hates the lessons. He has additional needs so finds sitting still hard etc.

Every morning I take him to school and he grabs the railings and starts calling for me when the teachers try and get him in.

He's an active, sensitive boy. He hates the lunch hall so they moved him to a quiet room to eat with his friends.

They've put lots of interventions in place to help, but nothing works.

I don't know what to do.",2.3683333333333323,4.735008739495799,2.4573319327731116,95.10739845938377,79.25210084033614,5.64733893557423,23.36204481792717,6.816661863887847,0.5371002801120452,476,16,102,5,12,143,81,119,0.17800000000000002,0.67,0.152,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,3,7,10,5,0,7,0,5,2,0,1,0,20,17,11,0,2,5,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,2,7,2,0,3,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,3,10,5,13,17,5,11,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,3,3,57,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444143592714386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290283355911387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958543331048872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073832655257445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983580251404675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612238312150094,0.0,0.0,0.09867272572911312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703913014769396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714435633533663,0.0,0.06118669159231495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491021509115572,0.5781240446461525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849835313735788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436222388849358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991305130694972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447254991638446,0.0,0.17367556217871055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237305038016836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235812427914305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773087864251446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740982998232504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828931608119742,0.0,0.09352656671843247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289840708771244,0.0,0.0,0.0880543762871837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951201708850382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525963477672471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Misfit_Eleftheria,2020/03/11,"Airbnb sleeping arrangements Hello! My fiance and I are travelling to San Diego in a few weeks with our 8 month old. Half of the week with be in a hotel, which hopefully has a crib or bassinet we can use but the other half will be in a Airbnb. I'm sure we can get creative but does any one have experience or tips on figuring out a sleeping arrangement for this situation? Thanks!",3.7228,5.430015613333335,4.703666666666667,83.60350000000003,72.86666666666667,8.733333333333334,27.166666666666664,9.2995712137729,2.263666666666667,301,11,61,7,6,98,58,75,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.9199,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,0,8,2,2,1,1,14,13,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,3,10,10,1,10,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,3,4,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018537756447905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900420704623108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448022950636709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075051765988055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485646416046619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997551394311053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626057652302961,0.0,0.16958264857804958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28130271851327804,0.5008814571480025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358670824506045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23040577879997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161442829207769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014869431515864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,manontheverge123,2020/03/11,"STBXW won’t let our daughter FaceTime a girl in an older grade. My stbxw doesn’t want our daughter FaceTiming with an older girl...

My daughter who is in 3rd grade has apparently become friends with a girl in her school who is in 6th grade. (The school is K-6.)

Tonight when I dropped my son off at his mom’s house after t ball practice, I heard my stbxw tell our daughter not to FaceTime the 6th grader, simply because stbxw thinks the new friend is “too old”. Meanwhile, my daughter’s friends are friends with this 6th grade girl and are allowed to FaceTime her. 

I personally don’t see the harm in the friendship. 

Is my stbxw being unreasonable or am I missing something?",6.2195312499999975,6.8799943906250025,5.492187500000004,84.18406250000002,66.03125,7.65,34.75,7.1686216300943375,2.2309812500000006,534,24,102,4,8,161,73,128,0.044000000000000004,0.828,0.128,0.875,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,1,0,9,19,3,0,1,2,7,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,5,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,2,16,4,13,15,0,15,0,1,1,0,26,7,0,1,7,60,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307060972711018,0.22297225858027875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6239205744138363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329545965471084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20644677313739995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23645178041693515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19498715810584452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118501780281558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628304717698565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4086480444131113,0.16088063514931006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554252143349646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646124559098514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936331700559794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908028138091993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blondegrrl1,2020/03/11,"First time mom, too much tv time for 18 month old? My boy is 18 months and 4 weeks and I let him watch tv for the past 2 months I thought it would just be something to keep him occupied while I do things, not something he would do everyday but then I noticed how much he likes it and it's too much.. I'm really worried I'm not doing the right thing. 
Some days I take him out to the park and we play but the weather has been bad and I've been sick so weve been indoors lately

My parents don't help me and I'm a single mom, I was never prepared to have a baby but I'm trying my best.

If anyone has any advice I will appreciate it so much",-0.607007042253521,1.3206742676056358,1.7487147887323964,98.3325088028169,88.01408450704224,4.676760563380283,17.325704225352112,5.985473137389443,-0.5594098591549295,494,12,122,4,16,167,87,142,0.11699999999999999,0.773,0.11,-0.0453,1,0,2,0,1,0,8.0,2,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,6,0,18,1,0,1,1,22,25,15,0,3,7,3,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,8,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,1,6,1,16,3,6,14,7,17,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,2,16,80,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466250700996355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067195107336492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351267548390902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360681679073107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535834444272886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954732443272856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592234131417335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922777068467564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158432866449135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669950283364224,0.0,0.0,0.1513804406608519,0.0,0.0723246324124347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34676419660709296,0.3544912009113533,0.0,0.4353043276277301,0.0,0.11417720528455864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854397636324395,0.15534257482745004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16438036926727215,0.0,0.1413204742392312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483790820556866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642494243890445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279361123283345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113072963800638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19670175996352135,0.0,0.0,0.117526843851461,0.1726460709124899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050911749101726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874837449603386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034132003567746,0.0,0.21032605714477956,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abitchaint1,2020/03/11,"Step parent title It’s minuscule, I know, but something that I really struggle with is what to call me husbands children. I actually feel completely stupid while I’m typing this to post, but it has been on my mind for a long time and I’m just going to post it. 

I love them as if I had birthed them. I will supply for them. I will care for them. I will clothe them. I will feed them. I will protect them. I have done all of those things and more. This man has even sent me flowers and hand written cards to me thanking me for this aside from pulling my to the side mid-act and thanking me while i’m just doing what is natural and what I ultimately should do for them without giving it a second though. One of the things he specifically mentioned in the past while he was damned near in tear was “even in the last month, you have done more for my kids than my step mother EVER did for me. Thank you for loving them.” His dad was married to that woman for the 25ish years until his death.

I don’t expect for them to ever call me “mom”. They have a mother whom is an active part of their lives and I am not here to replace her nor am I attempting to. I also understand that there a boundaries within that exact topic that I’m careful not to cross, which is where I don’t want to say they’re MINE. At this point, my pure existence has stepped on her toes, though, so I don’t know. 

I feel weird calling them “my husbands kids” because it makes me feel detached to them and completely impersonal. 

I feel like saying “step kids” is also kind of inappropriate, too, though. I’m also no “evil step mom.”

When asked if I have children, I have told people, “I have 3 bonus kids”, which either gets me a confused, blank stare or a correction of “oh. You mean you have step kids.” No. I have BONUS kids. Although they are children and they may not always be perfect, I took them on as a bonus with my husband- they aren’t his baggage. We intend to have our own children in the near future and guess what? They won’t be perfect all of the time either. 


Help me parents and fellow “bonus” parents.",3.0727807912056093,4.532320403341291,3.8372358429160367,90.16619150936577,74.0835322195704,6.415303391914371,23.67548998336588,6.850034144686104,0.6337089896579147,1615,46,344,14,33,514,199,419,0.109,0.752,0.14,0.9537,5,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,2,4,19,7,18,21,3,2,15,0,44,5,2,2,9,52,75,31,1,5,13,11,5,1,1,8,0,2,0,12,24,13,1,1,8,0,4,11,12,6,0,2,12,8,73,15,48,53,8,43,0,0,1,2,70,14,1,6,17,257,97,1,0.0,0.0,0.09388537246855563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308131050414369,0.08005296995282946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994172532200295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058647655399906615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947181357737254,0.0,0.1961814428697572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20174503652666936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969088823038981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270892817337919,0.17405173784699832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945831249926936,0.06873119205365713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050264839066780934,0.09229171868867647,0.054677364823602616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598423249378597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448636108235363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018608603718608,0.10574707478191513,0.07842256338768876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04700249062047146,0.0,0.08495364616832267,0.08514127255175663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366340124168514,0.0,0.06421975303829187,0.0,0.0,0.1047989871864439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714290524035528,0.2253558760671693,0.0767925061863657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651931991693341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204836239173013,0.10418415785464827,0.09184165951969664,0.06669868586062176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094789222147624,0.0,0.18428181556685755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061633467633511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301732167403595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406581011490425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005777505316472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657268880930118,0.0,0.0,0.12783297086106005,0.0,0.2835723474464617,0.0,0.11219960693959072,0.0,0.0,0.09193110449201246,0.10689090420258564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015617980316548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056746117719230826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927413184921973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195495781455915
parenting,Wintrepid,2020/03/11,"A poem to announce our first pregnancy We thought we'd write this pretty verse 
Everyone should read 
About our future gift (and curse?). 
Relevant! Pay heed. 
Evolving throughout life's progression 
Pushing towards change  
Rugrats, teens, wedding procession
Endless growth, it's strange!
Gone are times of just receiving
Now we turn the tide
Announcing here: we've been conceiving
New life grows inside!
TL;DR: read the first letter of each line.",5.382876712328766,9.062123520547946,3.9063150684931536,80.05837671232878,80.91780821917807,7.303561643835616,31.957534246575346,8.238735603445708,3.379669589041096,359,18,51,8,10,103,63,73,0.042,0.825,0.133,0.8371,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,8,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,2,1,5,0,0,0,2,3,0,5,0,5,2,1,12,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,6,25,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27272968092081196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463493028784613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4385875322928904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641988369195985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489953127786283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622863057747279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5157612083054911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467300673189728,0.1503315722439031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804241582787627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notabangbuta,2020/03/11,"I just want my kid to sleep She's over 2 now. She's just a nightmare to put to bed. We break down and co-sleep and then my husband is on the couch and I don't sleep because my daughter is a squirmy sleep-talker that smacks you around all night. I would love to co-sleep if we could actually get any rest beside her - I'm not opposed to it at all, but she's literally the worst bed-mate. She's given me black eyes with how she kicks her legs around. 
We have to lay beside her in her bed until she falls asleep and that can take hours. We start bedtime at 7:30 and I just traded off with my husband at 9 because she was just not having it and I was losing my cool.

I feel like we do everything right. We have a solid routine. We don't watch tv before bed. We've tried to encourage her to soothe with teddies  or blankets. She just needs physical contact with us to fall asleep. I'm so exhausted by the time we get her to bed, we don't get any time to ourselves to just decompress and have some adult time in the evening.
Just ranting at this point. Having a rough night, in tears, just want to sleep, haha. Ugh. Good night, people.",1.4564329738058568,3.3160986186440686,2.543636363636363,95.93241140215721,79.76271186440678,5.477349768875194,20.47303543913713,6.351523495107088,-0.04233220338983035,878,23,202,7,22,279,124,236,0.08,0.8009999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7497,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,10,1,0,1,14,10,0,0,8,2,16,9,7,1,2,46,29,14,0,6,13,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,5,2,5,22,0,1,1,1,1,3,5,4,0,0,3,6,37,6,32,24,5,30,0,1,3,1,33,15,0,3,12,128,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.11383913362122396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865975009162314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20769660762027345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422244616833691,0.0,0.09926540703934232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314008262334167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704998843118017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484261950689548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058984626103223636,0.08333885407721862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284336251280428,0.0,0.0,0.09784526492778862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488236419053136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699208161597542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050788687347514,0.0,0.0,0.10528632213548357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649872204956614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284204107593805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087437278464656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102773412188028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727119717477875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962332883608614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7004396730840258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825695035840094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771056703850606,0.09376343134485364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20406862715897645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079201561572166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032244145393044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376131064440054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286886096016084,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashrosarie,2020/03/11,"Baby names? Hey. I posted a while ago asking for advice; I've since made the decision to keep my baby. To explain the situation, I'm 15 and pregnant. My partner and I recently learned that we're having a girl.

The only issue is that we're torn on names. We still have plenty of time to decide, but it seems like a conversation to have at least once before the baby is born. My partner is set on the name Selene. While I don't completely hate it, I'm also the one who is carrying the baby. I should have some input, right?

I've thought about the name Amber. It's not painfully common but also not super out there. I'd really like to honor my late Nana; I'd use part of her name, but my partner's family is very religious and spiritual. They believe that naming a baby after a deceased family member brings some sort of bad luck or fortune. 

However, my Nana always told me that she'd come back to visit as a dragonfly. I want to somehow incorporate that into my daughter's name, whether it be her first or middle.

If you have any ideas of names that are dragonfly related, please suggest them. Or if there are any baby girl names in general that you think would be fitting, it'd be greatly appreciated.",3.8715248721524884,5.268852305439332,5.634358437935848,78.31621455137147,71.97071129707112,8.323663412366342,26.666899116689912,8.841846274778883,2.1172201766620176,947,32,177,18,18,325,138,239,0.044000000000000004,0.823,0.132,0.9701,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,2,2,3,8,9,1,0,14,0,20,1,0,2,0,47,35,17,0,5,11,1,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,5,13,7,0,1,8,0,0,3,3,3,0,2,3,0,21,6,21,25,4,26,0,0,0,0,31,9,0,11,14,116,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027632868731186,0.1363205852861644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459626465211799,0.12796093411557086,0.0,0.0,0.20915732101963347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376764778310147,0.0,0.0,0.1182507054222194,0.12840354430437795,0.0,0.0,0.13085919140980987,0.17326234845847774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247163728788805,0.16124000984813014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28994847790509765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080892584767154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695478358296323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518302496843752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360386062828234,0.0,0.16051095151205064,0.0,0.13669063417463412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347549331287848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026257262154968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455145106991515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637753592181347,0.10420828444723552,0.11695996041867872,0.16363743641095493,0.0,0.0,0.1665335110862265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880908256960564,0.0,0.0,0.14728293824915722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851821982136362,0.0,0.15184353507816006,0.0,0.0,0.13133103107991045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999953535250964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721203878395926,0.17286010067899513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281241464081773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098538829283852,0.0,0.1220876298997646,0.08967291606950846,0.0,0.0,0.1469475774853283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282033925708792,0.0,0.12688822956050502,0.09070601921532176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924402026579806,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemonkissy,2020/03/11,"My husband yells and curses at me in front of my son. I grew up in a very peaceful home with two brothers. My husband has an abrasive personality and a mother who says whatever comes out of her mouth without thinking about how it might affect people (she has hurt me so many times and is often too buzzed at dinner to even realize it). For context, we are a financially stable family in a house in a West Coast city. 

My husband thinks it is ""real"" to ""turn over stones"" and ""constantly push people around him to be better."" We have one son (3.5 years). I am working part-time as a contractor as much as I can from home and our son goes to school for 12 hours a week. I am freaking fried. My husband thinks the answer is to put him into school full time (like most people in the city do). I believe in the value in one-on-one time. I give my son my full attention when are together, and he is one happy dude. He has had a lot of developmental delays (speech, social, extensive autism testing, you name it) and I believe that personal attention is critical to development.

The problem is my husband goes off the hook and YELLS and SCREAMS at me in front of our son all of the time. He wants a bubbly, happy wife and I just can't be that person, especially when I am constantly criticized and am also tired. When my husband gets home from work and then works out, it's 6:30. I've spent the whole day entertaining our son/working in insanely loud indoor playground environments/planning and making amazing vegan meals/trying the best I can to be a conscious good mother and contributor to the household.

I've contacted therapists and am going to give it a shot. I want to have a happy marriage. But more than anything - I don't want my son to witness his dad being an utter jerk to women. It's not okay to say ""fuck you"" to your spouse in front of your child. 

I don't know what to do. I'm strong and will do what is needed when I get pushed hard enough. My fear is that my husband will treat our son the same way someday. Have any of you experienced something similar?",5.411130221130222,5.727837808353812,6.212271253071254,79.52013660933662,67.72235872235872,9.165562653562654,30.039213759213762,9.065960079200117,2.3522739852579857,1616,56,319,27,25,533,216,407,0.077,0.823,0.1,0.8978,0,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,6,5,0,6,15,19,2,1,24,1,37,4,1,3,1,54,56,28,0,5,4,20,1,1,0,3,1,7,3,5,13,24,1,1,9,1,1,9,5,7,0,3,2,9,45,12,53,47,11,49,0,1,0,1,53,23,1,4,17,216,58,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534202691874516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640680068026382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752919420772825,0.08386946066797768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122913654767421,0.09887063241030984,0.08332365925817692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811560763691398,0.0,0.20362136335357767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0607595303539201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734711663236446,0.0,0.06222673589365092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881554307675718,0.10601571203742087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709831350367173,0.09844470981894883,0.18075520848535526,0.05354336563748875,0.07902131568188413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008741710713395,0.08439625850754047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28350967921457193,0.0,0.09278073470066216,0.10870904429856268,0.1008568644691294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05177694927699592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04602766701145344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009644362634258,0.0,0.0,0.06288784635418593,0.09551709942010868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999450049620326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925732621231069,0.06985767605824192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152331013734955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202339625623763,0.0,0.1959460996024625,0.2467892267681432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014902734549828,0.0,0.09470999234536093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072349128989245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498437686178584,0.0,0.190696981390717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603819319260504,0.0,0.0725296978925956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938844536680924,0.0,0.1811034781122259,0.0,0.0,0.2197452125986784,0.10828387620994276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639643789008213,0.10247658785008036,0.0920323195264334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773551425335043,0.16670763885664674,0.07478181956150748,0.07557191038713253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518534505227076,0.0,0.0908178794232413,0.0,0.27435247065780005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067002259567857
parenting,minorfall27,2020/03/11,"My Kindergartener's Goals.  Yesterday morning, my Kindergarten daughter woke me up with, “Mommy, I’m gonna run SO FAST.” I groggily accepted this as fact and kept on encouraging her and her sister to get dressed, brush teeth, put. shoes. on., etc.

On the way to school, my mind returns to her proclamation, and I ask her what she meant. She explains that she is trying to earn her fifth “foot”, a charm given out via this Super Sneakers program in her PE class. Today would be the last day the charms would be up for grabs, and so, she was determined to run the necessary laps and add to her small collection.

She didn’t make it. She was one lap short.

She was entirely devastated, sobbing on the way home.

These were mature tears. Big Feeling Tears. Not the same tears cried over a skinned knee on the playground, or her wanting to wear the \*purple\* dinosaur shirt, not the green one.

She had a goal. A real, relevant, achievable goal. And through no fault of anyone, it just didn’t happen for her. She tried her best, and it just wasn’t enough on that day.

I reach my hand to hers in the back seat, and...commiserate. Been there, done that, darling. In contrast to the dinosaur-shirt-tears, these are emotions that I can entirely relate to. Most grown-ups could, I think.

I wanted her to know that regardless of her foot-earning-prowess, I was rather proud that she had set an honest, tangible goal in the first place.

I invited her to run with me, to be my makeshift running partner. We could help each other.

We could set goals together. Cheer each other on when we crush our goals, and lift each other up when we fall short.  


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parenting,LooseCustard,2020/03/11,"Another new social media app to worry about?? My 11 yo daughter told me tonight that a 12 yo friend informed her she’s recently been on a website or an app that allows you to video chat with strangers and text with them.  She described it as being able to “swipe” to the next chat with a stranger..My daughter couldn’t remember the name of the app, but said she believes it started with an “n”.  Anyone know the name of this platform?  I will be reporting this first thing in AM because of what my daughter told me this girl is seeing /hearing in this app, but wanted to have all the info and sure as hell want to make sure my other children can never get near this!!",6.624480519480523,5.882311621212125,6.3354978354978355,83.2268181818182,65.36363636363636,8.754978354978356,33.25108225108225,7.447530270364453,2.130035497835498,522,19,105,4,7,163,89,132,0.061,0.863,0.077,-0.4632,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,1,1,1,4,1,0,10,0,9,0,0,2,4,24,20,7,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,12,6,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,3,12,3,20,12,1,12,1,0,1,0,22,5,1,1,7,71,24,1,0.19646723574753275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601302697514187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737445932543785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976460336874245,0.0,0.0,0.22135129624586614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711493036151745,0.0,0.0,0.1517900989804937,0.0,0.10264602179196873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143285349123512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797325470474796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131143405454566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515276440293923,0.18974928054980306,0.2089451340896951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19398769331676335,0.0,0.22255907910325626,0.0,0.18688533174019067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655895019202248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002736051422027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906052067341654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703360891956403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130524101502677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754657263503775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317629318689002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952201464818975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FNaFittor,2020/03/11,"Should my child watch porn? Here is some insight into my dilemma.

My 14-year-old son had his phone locked, and I needed to see the time. I have my fingerprints on his phone but don't touch his phone often. It accidentally opens and what I see is, ""Pornhub"" just the search he didn't click on it yet. We had a serious talk about it and he knows what he did is normal, and it's okay. But my 2 questions are, did I make the right choice by letting him watch porn. And, I need to know what type of porn a 14-year-old boy watch? Asking kids and parents.",1.3376025744167352,3.3294339911504447,2.2004344328238155,97.58340305711988,80.76991150442478,5.1710378117457765,20.007240547063557,6.1124844417494595,-0.24598407079646026,423,11,99,3,11,132,70,113,0.06,0.9179999999999999,0.022000000000000002,-0.4423,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,1,13,3,0,1,0,23,21,8,0,4,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,7,15,1,8,14,1,7,0,0,6,3,19,5,0,3,2,61,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114944046468547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24866005787723425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23133538600785986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101020562787568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354931878833044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216572551550418,0.0,0.0,0.4747804188478145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25120151593265244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534292474935882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931990865692386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605518581652559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18183501295392887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319164658357668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29136925872836666
parenting,CoffeeBeanMcQueen,2020/03/11,"I'm so worn down Twelve and six.

And my god.

They are not bad kids, they're jsut kids.  But I'm alone right now (dad works away for a few months here and there) and just so tired.

Six laid down in the bathmat and shrieked because she was too tired to shower.  She'd had dance, and was sweaty and stinky.  It was 7 pm.  Tired yes, shrieking at me?  Come on already.

Twelve does not do a damn thing unless you ride him.  And he's started just inhaling whatever junk food is in the house the second my back is turned, or like the expesnive prepackaged lunch snacks I need for my sanity (I pack, school hot lunch is awful).  I try to keep them active but he is really gaining weight doing this and it worries me.  And he's taken to stealing his sister's food!  Like getting out of the car this morning she hadn't quite finished her granola bar and handed it to jim so she could get her bag- he started eating it, laughing that it was no big deal.  She was HUNGRY.  He never completes any simple task without being checked up on and told to finish whatever it was.

I'm so fed up.  Just once.  One thing being done all the way.  One ""thanks mom"" and no fit.  One night neither of them comes knocking on the door where I am tucking the baby in (one of those too).  I'm so tired from them constsnty waking baby, omg.  Just... to be treated like a person too.  

My 12 year old was always so nice and he's becoming SO selfish.  Not just snacky shit, like everything.  He wants, he needs, and mouthy to strangers when he thinks they can't hear! Like what is happening?!  It's awful and I want to shake him sometimes.  Stop that!

I just want them to quit bickering.  My twelve year old to pull his head out of the clouds and care about school amd other people.  My six year old to quit being a whining screaming bansheee when she is the least bit hungry or tired.

The baby is a happy one, at least.

I don't know what i'm looking for.  I'm just ground down so far right now.",1.082867430055483,3.355346913705585,2.0895797426513987,96.40126490378942,83.67005076142131,4.781867548105301,19.061267855034824,6.018495889221684,-0.2411539841813246,1500,39,328,11,43,471,208,394,0.127,0.735,0.138,0.6287,1,1,0,0,0,0,59.0,0,1,6,5,27,19,2,1,16,3,29,18,4,0,2,49,59,32,0,6,16,3,3,5,0,0,5,2,2,3,17,21,9,2,2,2,1,7,11,8,0,9,14,7,34,11,38,39,6,50,0,1,1,0,37,23,2,2,24,200,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721732518683807,0.0929290666795308,0.0,0.07007039914710878,0.0,0.0,0.05726645038066468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911912076271968,0.0647531544344504,0.07031276899858452,0.05133431808132806,0.09300456762708953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193673425017908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585885080365925,0.0,0.0,0.14508084931686688,0.08829375876810996,0.0,0.0,0.06723572824135207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681796862657093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369371996262196,0.08617721482897671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616900068160352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568352609030778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036568449050505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799367065456486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446761668070592,0.0896443047960873,0.0,0.0,0.08642490562588573,0.0,0.09491205427180413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971683278743232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485071410652157,0.0,0.0,0.04628023009623552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20570650162169676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071613299434189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862704778771801,0.06721651380524797,0.0,0.0,0.12488295919744842,0.06494880839516241,0.0,0.0,0.07902643296273358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26509621871372896,0.089682096103731,0.2853181768374067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058381388518068324,0.07352990316855262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687066805807944,0.0,0.0,0.05394780081794931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438316753745998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045230166430494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644150613117288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328695249194935,0.0,0.1192101305395776,0.0,0.0,0.07040426834545206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753028660801249,0.0,0.0,0.11189225456186347,0.05395908639719855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4839414813625337,0.0,0.08046733543534443,0.0,0.05717382377350753,0.09159751842092263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490097039864335,0.06684286858629948,0.0,0.10254645944729786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117651609935951,0.0,0.06130669944257852,0.08552048164550373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268760393648599
parenting,rotflol92,2020/03/11,"Don't buy Kiwi Crate! I absolutely loved the product.  It was a super cool gift, and the idea was lots of fun. But, they have an auto-renewal for subscriptions even when bought as a gift.  They also are yet another monthly subscription that requires you to go to their FAQ to figure out how to cancel. I really hate that business practice and won't be buying from them again.",3.9333333333333336,5.9063101111111145,4.9872222222222256,80.68000000000002,72.8888888888889,8.133333333333335,25.88888888888889,8.841846274778883,2.0927888888888893,296,10,54,6,6,97,60,72,0.07200000000000001,0.6890000000000001,0.239,0.9299,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,4,2,6,5,1,0,5,1,7,1,0,1,0,9,11,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,3,1,7,4,9,6,1,6,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,4,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953300305348232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38724450071661015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243919954945916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20988237847265132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646084713235933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168960952849312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139666678653312,0.3333087450706966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294772688831427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365838006672638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DoseiTakoyaki,2020/03/11,"My fiance and I are stressing about the night shifts. So my fiance an I have been arguing about night shift duties and wanted to see what your guy's input would be. The situation is this. I work 8am-4pm with an hour commute each way there and back. I work in construction and get a half hour lunch break. I get home around 6 and take care of our 1 month old until midnight while she rests. She is a SAHM and takes care of our daughter alone until 1PM. She then goes to her parents house and they help her with the baby until I get home from work around 6 and pick them up. She is upset with me because she feels like I turn my back on her and the baby at night but I simply need sleep because my work is demanding and labour intensive ( I'm not sitting at a desk.) With her being helped at her parents home from 1PM to me taking care of the baby until midnight, I feel like she should have plenty of opportunities to rest so then I can then sleep from 1am untill i wake up for work at 6am. Is this unfair of me to believe so? She also exclusively breast feeds. But is starting to pump.",3.49166479820628,4.488329946188344,4.291364910313902,89.11982763452917,72.40807174887892,6.83060538116592,22.906109865470853,6.9077264865688965,0.5278612107623317,850,20,184,7,16,273,118,223,0.065,0.851,0.084,0.6611,2,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,2,6,11,9,1,2,10,0,15,6,4,1,0,28,32,25,0,4,3,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,3,1,3,17,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,3,35,6,36,27,3,32,0,0,1,1,24,10,0,0,21,127,38,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120191690034363,0.0,0.08586296108421658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116237064487884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512028735184187,0.0,0.13090230779691722,0.0,0.0,0.12096811034897692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284095942557643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085779983283021,0.15340888900174485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828763375149547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631220362439306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393437264533576,0.0,0.32309962379500257,0.0,0.2114737003707004,0.12388942562132657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491015288622206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570092199559881,0.0,0.0,0.07961276283808448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022756366040901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126657179669623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384411658393471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855592024268629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068726944956047,0.2148931076834087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599634018552623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299084188654988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421844071186084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678665459988527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332902583497549,0.0852245250813537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908296019307855,0.0,0.0,0.07627186642714767,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EZMDS,2020/03/11,I'm in a situation A couple days ago my daughter (12) came to me and told me a boy had called her fat a school and told her that she should't be wearing those clothes (jeans with a blouse and sweater). Obviously the kid stepped out of line and should not have said anything but the fact of the matter is that she has horrible eating habits and is very close to being overweight and does not seem to be interested in working on it very hard.  I'm not sure how to approach her about it as she is a middle school girl and is very sensitive to the topic. Please I need help,6.4270114942528735,5.377209517241379,6.2931034482758665,84.37890804597703,65.89655172413794,9.457471264367816,32.264367816091955,8.344100000000001,2.0779643678160924,448,15,99,5,6,141,76,116,0.102,0.807,0.091,-0.3144,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,10,0,11,4,2,1,3,23,19,10,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,5,11,3,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,5,2,10,2,14,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,1,2,62,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585603086138082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397030071694562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105367043907545,0.21399664588089184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20702654797869732,0.0,0.12066632776999665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373560014851632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914536686159476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760805312865967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541158295907204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387349307572489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053835402010081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797834697917805,0.0,0.0,0.3787176156103485,0.0,0.17033206839056508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21031225865655528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634290601630673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35757096986122416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4631401355948192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621363165608558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,morgdoodles,2020/03/11,"When do Daycare drop-offs get easier? Guys, I am having such a hard time sending my LO to daycare... 

We live in Canada so I’ve been lucky to have had 11 months off with him but he started daycare Monday (staggered entry) and I’ve been sobbing every drop off and every night after he goes to bed. He is a shy, sensitive kid but once he gets to know someone he really opens up and shows his great sense of humour. I worry that he isn’t able to open up at daycare (the staff confirm that he has been shy and withdrawn) and that breaks my heart.

When does this get easier?",2.316724137931036,4.052828258620689,3.5822758620689648,90.04031034482759,76.75862068965517,6.019310344827588,21.944827586206884,6.742157984588678,0.4800372413793101,442,12,92,4,10,144,79,116,0.12300000000000001,0.741,0.136,0.5707,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,11,1,1,0,0,13,16,10,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,9,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,7,3,14,12,0,19,0,1,0,0,13,8,1,1,8,50,11,1,0.2344103922637581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513411393377234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3950017310390677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674092650769911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584382850121744,0.0,0.23210314229049275,0.0,0.0,0.20998566857498271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777774434745877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128825821226797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698867096636867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710413869933976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21997827374407708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24963941743330784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016929970530332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19861516467460744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591688214795566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668658480743687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23805513189506355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,5606070000706065,2020/03/11,"When the best friend finds a new best friend (kindergarten) My daughter has had a best friend all through preschool but lately the best friend has been wanting to spend more time with a different classmate and less time with my daughter. My kid is very attached and can't stand the separation. No matter how many times I try to steer her towards other kids for a while, she just wants her best friend back.

Does anyone have any recommendations for how to help her through this? I would love age appropriate books about diversifying your friend group. Or movies, or TV shows, anything to show her the bright side of having lots of friends. 

Thanks. I thought this was too young for the drama of girl friendships.",6.54829457364341,8.115704139534888,4.635658914728684,87.35643410852717,65.74418604651163,7.283720930232557,29.06201550387597,7.3871296695380915,1.4188201550387598,570,19,109,5,9,160,90,129,0.017,0.603,0.38,0.9962,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,5,7,15,0,0,9,0,10,1,0,2,1,18,15,9,0,3,4,2,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,2,5,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,12,15,16,10,9,13,0,0,1,1,21,2,0,3,10,72,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879206561077777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101539139071241,0.0,0.09534689249165956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909291144796855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6079650159751372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105409912502485,0.0,0.0,0.10139410387408404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589836635281027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6266182256124658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766176114437799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070058828767758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850414514747906,0.10457254340594732,0.0,0.0,0.11746876389715437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190298622708986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667277941332784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198374217485436,0.20268516307287884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866462202627207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560062884749093,0.1366801713172684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230705930259942,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stephanieisateacher,2020/03/11,Should I postpone my son’s birthday party? My son’s 5th birthday party is on scheduled for March 28th. No one has rsvp’ed yet. Should I just postpone the party until the end of April? We live in MA. I can still get our money back at the moment.,0.7288666666666686,3.1097532200000018,2.056000000000001,95.16466666666668,86.8,3.333333333333334,20.333333333333336,3.1291,-0.4758666666666666,191,6,39,0,6,61,38,50,0.11199999999999999,0.73,0.158,0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,0,6,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,9,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095337024457797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717222652819138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782596002441712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4702923168753346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609010568082439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253321170015593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kyngken,2020/03/11,"Newest Podcast Episode: Daddzombie Podcast “Ken Got Korona!” Check out our newest podcast episode. Like, Subscribe, & Share please


https://open.spotify.com/episode/1jeCPNl12wUi85Y2KCRFaJ?si=Af_7zrwUTeuBDgcRoPdNFw",24.510666666666665,30.5936114,9.310000000000002,34.251666666666694,85.0,5.333333333333334,43.33333333333334,6.42735559955562,5.006833333333334,188,8,11,2,6,40,16,20,0.0,0.7,0.3,0.7424,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6003470054442336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44314954143270857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706962023600961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6082150302400815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoelBeebe,2020/03/11,"There’s got to be a better way to sleep train. My toddler is 2y21m and he just officially figured out how to open doors. Now he gets himself out of his room approximately 60,000 times per night. 

I recently installed a small lamp on a timer that turns on from 7-730am (in lieu of the exorbitantly priced “ok to wake” clocks). He can recite back the rules, so I can only assume he gets it and getting up so often is just a game at this point. 

I’ve made the expectations for staying in his room all night abundantly clear. We have a solid bedtime routine: dinner, play time - usually some toys followed by running and wrestling, then bath time, books, and finally bed. 

Since learning how to open the door, I can hardly get the door closed behind me before he’s opening it again. 

My issue is that I’ve tried a number of things, going downstairs and giving him the opportunity to go back in his room and close the door, standing near the door and giving him a window of opportunity to close the door and return to bed, and finally instantly putting him back in his bed the moment he turns the knob. 

Every night I follow the advice of, explain it the first time you re-enter, then silently put him back into bed every time after. 

Still, the cycle count on this door latch is ridiculous. Help!?",7.3472921836228275,6.665544479838713,7.313709677419357,76.60498759305213,63.87903225806453,9.566253101736974,31.57692307692308,8.617729084823388,2.3274034739454086,1013,31,193,12,13,325,146,248,0.01,0.893,0.09699999999999999,0.9531,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,0,4,15,6,1,0,21,1,9,3,2,3,2,33,24,15,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,8,19,1,0,4,5,1,7,0,1,0,1,2,1,18,5,31,21,2,60,0,0,0,0,22,24,0,3,26,116,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906847219202348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37477441599068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368368810679614,0.0,0.0,0.10776466933943783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20532441950601948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669570939174571,0.0,0.10364386118435293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546422395825069,0.2337754420200153,0.13849807232699873,0.0,0.09745299038316067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091518900216602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167215748328653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271776728482287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529554003657735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343038329793838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267090776265044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151857610138586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449818238686369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031021713081655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007939389706248,0.0,0.1219360143809328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987377394078858,0.09730798393353428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095040836920349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552527935260047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272680536498485,0.26507130634961945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419837638775153,0.0,0.0,0.09671728449511782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pablok2,2020/03/12,What kind of attention tactics do you use to teach basic math (addition)? There are the topics that everyone needs to learn... I know math is one of the more difficult ones depending on the child. Any specific attention tactics for teaching the harder subjects?,6.070333333333334,8.877856866666667,6.104166666666668,71.33625000000005,69.22222222222223,10.722222222222225,35.694444444444436,10.686352973137794,4.933777777777777,209,11,31,7,4,66,37,45,0.068,0.932,0.0,-0.4859,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,6,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,21,4,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800987892149395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3935777942752032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289192322605831,0.22636353970563514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054106325105356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5582135811941626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557400336518521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frumply,2020/03/12,"unexpected songs that calm down infants? Our second kid hasn't been as kind to us as our first, with fussiness that's well beyond what we remember with our first.  In any case, during one of her fits of crying my mother who was visiting suggested some random Japanese song that supposedly puts babies to sleep.  We're thinking no way, then she plays the song, baby immediately shuts up, and few mins later is asleep.

The song is ""Poison"" by Takashi Sorimachi, and googling it later there were other dumbfounded Japanese parents that found the song to work miracles.  There's 30min endless repeat versions on youtube that I'm playing now to keep the baby asleep.

Are there other songs like this that people have discovered? As wgood as this song works the endless repeat is slowly driving my wife mad.",7.601458333333332,8.605159006944447,6.875000000000004,74.27000000000002,63.09722222222222,9.455555555555557,32.66666666666667,9.444778638647367,3.0556166666666664,643,24,105,11,9,198,103,144,0.092,0.838,0.07,-0.6742,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,0,0,4,6,8,2,0,5,0,9,4,3,0,0,11,13,7,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,7,0,2,13,5,0,1,3,9,0,3,2,2,1,4,4,7,9,6,18,9,3,20,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,2,10,69,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699516080873074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25359281787545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927449108366575,0.0,0.253130015113866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520217020067544,0.0,0.2404089072696212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278829082936735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643914632909234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563467006625021,0.0,0.0,0.16005174788563073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320816772754872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615234482317241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310303212779512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479280693968177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27770047851974583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832487753801154,0.0,0.0,0.20757409692472584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33614289251948665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jkress416,2020/03/12,"[Academic] Understanding Experiences of Parents of Adolescents with Co-Occurring PTSD and Addiction (parents, stepparents, legal guardians, adoptive parents, caregivers) 

**Research Participation Opportunity**

My name is Jocelyn Kressler and I am a psychology doctoral candidate at Adler University. I am completing a study that seeks to understand the lived experience of parents of adolescents who currently have (or have ever had) a diagnosis of PTSD **and** currently have (or have ever had) a diagnosis of a substance use disorder. My aim is to inform the psychology field with information from parents on how mental health providers can better assist parental caregivers.

Eligibility:

-  English speaking parent (can be adoptive, step, or biological), caregiver, or legal guardian of an adolescent child between the ages of 13 and 17 years old

-  The adolescent child must have a current or historical diagnosis of PTSD **and** a current or historical diagnosis of a substance use disorder

-  The parent, caregiver, or legal guardian must either currently live with the adolescent or have lived in the household with the adolescent during the time in which the adolescent met diagnostic criteria for PTSD **and** a substance use disorder

-  Parent must not be directly involved in the event/s causing adolescent’s diagnosis of PTSD (such as due to sexual or physical abuse)

-  Parent must not have a current substance use disorder (excluding caffeine or nicotine), however it is permissible to have a previous diagnosis of a substance use disorder

Involvement: The study will require a 1 - 2 hour time commitment. Participants will be asked to engage   in an interview about their experiences of living with an adolescent with co-occurring trauma-related and substance use disorders. Participation is **voluntary and confidential**.

Compensation: All participants will receive a $20 Target gift card following completion of the interview.

If interested or have any questions, please contact Jocelyn Kressler at [jkressler@adler.edu]. This study has been approved by the Institutional Review Board at Adler University. Any questions or concerns about your rights as a research participant may be directed to Dr. Janna Henning, Dissertation Chair, at [jhenning@adler.edu], as well as Dr. Peter Ji, Chair of the Adler University Institutional Review Board, at [pji@adler.edu]. 

Thank you for considering participation in my study!

Jocelyn Kressler, M.A. *(she/her/hers)*
Doctoral Candidate
Adler University",8.211894124847003,12.339311118421055,8.444406364749081,50.26049571603432,69.39473684210526,12.798041615667074,43.83720930232558,11.301545707204747,7.635318237454102,2035,133,231,88,43,663,186,380,0.036000000000000004,0.89,0.07400000000000001,0.8883,18,0,0,0,1,0,99.0,0,2,1,4,7,6,0,0,33,0,33,6,0,8,8,55,45,26,0,5,16,10,0,0,0,8,6,1,0,2,5,14,0,1,6,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,4,1,8,6,49,29,2,32,0,0,0,0,30,12,0,16,17,158,13,14,0.0,0.06950010771280284,0.0,0.06394585022021902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977886797209416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483728771831966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187821147134648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602578976803061,0.0,0.0,0.12300354006050444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40336272256157657,0.1200778444776254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061189919586128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213626332042645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06235068370160711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057766288928261335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718426385414104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059113441583305726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06155167668585676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6513273874776141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643888411132725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428401647494706,0.0,0.13142071142968004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009358954344064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054004381780467695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840787304892335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221300398445955,0.0,0.3039699377849263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05274056342781061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037773812266665534
parenting,syinyjuan93,2020/03/12,"Ladies I need help! Daughter and period is out of my experience circle! Alright so let's get the truth out of the way. I am a man. I have no idea on how to deal with this. I never had a period... ever. I think that's believable. Now, my daughters just came from their flight. Honestly it never gets old seeing their gorgeous faces again and again. But anyways one of them said daddy I have news for you. Mommy sent you this. I'm thinking another apology note... again. But nope.. it said I'm so sorry about this. I asked about what? Daughter pulled out one of those period pads things...

 I probably looked at that things for like 5 minutes. No idea what to do. I've flown jets before many many times, I've trained with FBI agents, trained with marines (which they dont train you nah they try to kill you and see if you can survive) I trained with swats (I enjoyed my time with swats than any other combat career. I would've loved to join one day, but the consequences of being away from my girls again is one I will never take again), I learned from great business leaders, but I never trained for this crap. Ladies, please do me a favor.. what in the world am I supposed to do!",1.3003083770465764,3.760087420600861,2.1077443967572727,95.32141948815769,84.66523605150215,5.1685900492767445,19.788427912891432,6.605766666666668,0.12298137021141288,911,26,194,10,27,283,136,233,0.057,0.816,0.127,0.9194,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,5,5,1,14,11,2,0,7,1,15,3,2,1,6,32,32,11,1,2,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,16,12,0,0,5,0,0,3,8,2,0,4,5,5,30,9,31,24,0,30,0,0,3,1,23,8,1,1,19,130,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604222064675851,0.13267385430474293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828500778376205,0.0,0.1188756209052894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766455953872492,0.14255180878359505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471237663518627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159899422515107,0.13044305632732095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828787761909354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445027929085665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237669968368515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220953587398498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949568898201958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480790973560144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856655766767185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998260106197544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938171097381904,0.0,0.06181435756312504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625022291304906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419492284634918,0.0,0.0,0.2565556118878647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381764592410452,0.3903395209958703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276806455651716,0.0,0.34294997315585424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388878788351612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641674797782266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24071096511759346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016501543893748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163583049133455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513202885824913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681168990164217,0.16214588425941046,0.0,0.0,0.1475570024109582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590305017403321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004306851452159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988065108336724,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Radiant_Shame,2020/03/12,"School will ban all distracting haircuts including long hair on boys, short hair on girls, and ethnic hairstyles. Can we fight this? Due to a few bullying incidents our school district has decided to ban haircuts they consider to be distracting. This includes long hair on boys, short hair on girls, and ethnic hairstyles. Boys are not permitted to have haircuts that touch their eyebrows, ears, or shirt collars. Boys are also not permitted to tie their hair back in ponytails or manbuns. Girls are not allowed shaved heads or partially shaved heads unless there is a documented medical reason. Neither gender is allowed to have dreadlocks, afros, twist, cornrows, tight braids or knots, mohawks, or jewelry/beads in their hair. 

My DD12 either wears her hair out in an afro puff or does bantu knots. This will not be permitted under the new rules. Is there anything we can do to fight this? This is a public school in the Midwest, USA.",7.004550102249489,9.039447773006136,5.706273006134971,78.34484918200411,65.13496932515338,8.868916155419223,33.828732106339466,9.2995712137729,3.276562781186094,749,33,120,14,12,221,94,163,0.128,0.872,0.0,-0.965,2,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,3,0,4,0,4,4,2,2,6,0,17,13,12,6,1,28,17,10,0,0,12,0,9,0,0,2,1,1,0,7,6,5,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,10,9,0,18,13,4,17,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,6,5,76,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956434918698948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448677579384808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630418617576099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555329709400906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4352182573509785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37528868562118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21360300100567664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478476810532967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180073410411224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6437723578165766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,El-Eternauta,2020/03/12,"My almost three-year old doesn't speak fluently yet. Hi

My son, who's going to be three on March 26th, doesn't speak in full phrases yet (Spanish is our native language). He understands almost everything we tell him, doesn't seem to have any cognitive or physical impairments (in fact, he's very active) and does say some words and two-word phrases, but his vocabulary is very limited. For example, although he recognizes colors, he only says the name of three: ""verde"" (green), ""azul"" (blue) and ""rosa"" (pink), while having a special name for red: ""ca"" (nowhere close to the actual word in Spanish for red: ""rojo"").  All in all, he doesn't speak at the level he's supposed to.

His therapist says that's OK, that he has a speech delay but it's nothing to worry about. However, I'm somewhat worried that's not the case. It's very frustrating for me to try to communicate with him, specially when I try to understand why he's crying or upset. I'm trying to be patient and while he does seem to have improved a bit in the past few months, I remain worried.

Any parents with similar experiences? Any advice?

Thank you all very much.",4.5596962616822445,6.0834616401869175,5.451483644859816,79.80049649532712,70.44859813084112,8.90140186915888,29.26285046728972,9.354420925462401,2.649243925233645,877,34,163,19,16,287,127,214,0.102,0.8170000000000001,0.081,-0.5721,2,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,2,1,0,1,4,6,1,1,8,1,12,0,0,0,4,31,20,12,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,6,8,0,2,4,0,0,1,5,2,0,2,0,13,12,4,25,18,9,21,0,0,6,0,29,10,0,8,10,88,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.11979392394964385,0.0,0.0,0.11995752061598315,0.0,0.0,0.24584844809754566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504385807202138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401974506083156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484370062196108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485239045144067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103268128311626,0.12008070299609745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976609786193617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798412046640273,0.0,0.09024112213822208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778943875050332,0.0,0.128813681634318,0.0,0.0,0.09336285352273732,0.0,0.0,0.1363080313123815,0.0,0.11718622919237465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29286583597040583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350821709546712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729574514368057,0.1130189073001448,0.0,0.14253129017131774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25003350452151163,0.0,0.11991655238882876,0.2555904390845485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051522297993175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076983847635437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739995739816353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905201108113437
parenting,RaleighMidtown,2020/03/12,"Phone app with children stories with specific character names  I thought I'd share this with the sub.

It's  a cute little phone app with a couple of stories. You enter your kids  names and it uses their names as the characters. My son likes to watch  the words on the screen.

The name of the app is Kibity. I have it on iPhone. Not sure if it's on Android. It has a purple frog face as the icon.",0.8633333333333333,3.1244908888888894,1.905185185185185,97.43333333333337,84.55555555555556,5.0814814814814815,18.876543209876548,6.42735559955562,-0.15810123456790134,306,8,69,3,9,96,53,81,0.025,0.8740000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.7217,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,10,0,3,1,1,1,1,15,5,4,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,4,12,4,0,5,0,0,3,0,13,4,0,1,1,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5086532302812868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22458793219981568,0.4607437218488528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332651520210514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649532663788854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970362656169428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,atib18,2020/03/12,"Disney+ vs. Minno I've seen a lot of coverage about Disney+ warning parents about “outdated cultural depictions” in classic Disney content. But what Disney isn’t warning parents about is its newer content, which so often contains elements that parents of faith object to and would want to know about.

What are your thoughts on alternatives like Minno?  [https://www.christianpost.com/news/new-christian-platform-minno-offers-parents-faith-based-alternative-to-disney.html](https://www.christianpost.com/news/new-christian-platform-minno-offers-parents-faith-based-alternative-to-disney.html)",24.7825,32.689164250000005,13.876666666666667,13.384999999999993,31.5,8.666666666666666,41.66666666666667,9.2995712137729,5.254166666666666,525,19,35,7,6,130,46,60,0.076,0.82,0.10400000000000001,0.2023,5,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,8,3,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,10,5,1,3,1,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,2,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310966724687419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165397743775862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20280023026885668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607715003393907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7946193644207966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18937603149717824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069849636697346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694536869928543,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newmummaf2019,2020/03/12,"Worried about my 13 month old He’s not saying many words. Can say dada and good. I’m so worried about his physical development. He’s not standing or cruising and not putting any weight on his feet. Every time I’m at mothers group someone always say “he’s not standing yet”. The YET part makes me feel like a shit mother. I try to practice with him everyday but he has a tantrum each time. He started crawling at 10 months and 2 weeks. 

With eating he’s not attempting to use a spoon and doesn’t try to feed himself wetter textured foods. He’s happy to feed himself crackers,bread, and cherrios but that’s it. 

I’m trying my best to introduce him to new things everyday, but I get nothing from him. He could just be a late developer but I can’t help but to worry something is wrong like autism. I feel like he’s 8 months as far as development goes.",1.7743859649122804,4.122758163742692,3.0892690058479566,89.8346052631579,81.39766081871346,5.671345029239768,25.28947368421053,6.937597516519254,1.0658561403508773,670,27,136,8,18,217,105,171,0.098,0.763,0.139,0.8502,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,6,9,2,0,5,0,7,7,2,2,0,26,16,14,0,1,12,2,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,8,5,0,2,1,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,6,14,6,17,14,3,22,0,0,0,0,23,4,1,1,17,69,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183409176339966,0.0,0.0,0.09139867254630417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410476930233423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730988682019843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752785836363432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132403535816147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591642551715735,0.1920351098445376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252068318848475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022003840681004,0.0,0.0,0.11273088888866843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307452976804486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900875211378308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151612477448246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196987601543908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971506939141803,0.1362635819054668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32183766031346034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12980728853647847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289633367687576,0.0,0.14103337600765242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455453892175981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13511217234996245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206480634678615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796278380753227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387925523900387,0.10347002253384817,0.0,0.0,0.09513115980615952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929140419204704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674298087495336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737525145644061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608106889175612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781000745738427,0.16366668800849907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40947841778012894,0.0,0.0,0.14694861962134098,0.0,0.0
parenting,brownlaila,2020/03/12,"My toddler is on some kind of rollercoaster ride First time parent here. My two year old keeps having this mood swings, where he is extremely happy and then switches to extremely angry mood and lately he has been super clingy. How do you deal with it?",6.546099290780141,7.456391978723412,5.83489361702128,81.13333333333334,65.38297872340425,8.819858156028369,26.30496453900709,8.841846274778883,1.854679432624113,201,5,36,3,3,61,41,47,0.065,0.7929999999999999,0.142,0.6486,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,7,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,3,4,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,6,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242462141122773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675222220601348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348019644629462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27955112353564243,0.0,0.32751398325599906,0.0,0.0,0.3547812134630827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300255567413328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492263659530322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339343137381087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072307728690898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025342621806006
parenting,Im-Depressed666,2020/03/12,"my 2 month old baby won't sleep I need serious advice on this. My babygirl is 2 months old and she doesn't sleep at all. She sleeps around 2 hours a day and all the other times, she's awake, most of the time crying. I'm unsure why she isn't sleeping.  I've tried changing her nappy/diaper, changing clothing, bathing her, feeding her, singing to her, patting her bum, reading to her, rocking her and nothing is working. I'm so tired I don't get much sleep at all. Sometimes my boyfriend helps me too, but he also has to work. Please help this one tired baby mama here 😥",1.870658307210029,3.899142241379317,2.8658307210031384,93.298605015674,79.17241379310343,4.907836990595611,24.33855799373041,5.565023196281405,0.3891482758620693,444,16,93,2,11,141,78,116,0.098,0.818,0.084,-0.3862,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,3,0,7,8,5,0,3,10,11,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,17,0,8,10,5,12,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,8,52,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699587714183405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392934905962158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569238059662265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27496191180612034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275548502171306,0.08381375836439213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789898698160148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742195408525752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798489444825598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746643079490196,0.0,0.09553590638884818,0.09636404934235494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470058580196595,0.0,0.27274332452048905,0.0,0.08806458478473457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14265758085588245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999564934801586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6502716805046581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285342379950997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156200223401933,0.2987409080535905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823463522337728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726911931763928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892255548096355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smartapple,2020/03/12,"Coping with COVID-19 cancellations and staying home Here in New York state, all of our kids fun activities outside the house just got canceled all at once, and they'll probably be staying home from school for who knows how long. 

It's for all the right reasons, of course. But this is still a lot, emotionally, for a 9 and 5 year old to take in.

A lot of us are in the same boat. So, how are you all handling it, or planning to, with your kids?",5.674943820224719,5.2636043595505635,5.671101123595508,86.10732584269665,67.20224719101124,8.917752808988762,31.28314606741573,8.238735603445708,1.8904858426966284,344,12,77,4,5,108,65,89,0.0,0.961,0.039,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,1,1,6,1,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,3,4,19,8,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,15,5,7,13,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,3,5,52,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22065710308764167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688956400637938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3935351997729449,0.0,0.0,0.2263458989319856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078061186507222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735981850981263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335417333643016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945556016421272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584019244706045,0.2089073168672669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21149701737803026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20168835455385348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752222956674034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985275464199287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4181675634440917,0.15665611813088035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749025071255426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359600760710169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632261548475698
parenting,alwyzfamprobs,2020/03/12,"Shared custody advice Advice on what to do regarding shared custody.

As you all know with the Coronavirus becoming more and more of a threat to the US (I am in california) 
I am getting nervous about what to do regarding my 3 year old. His father and I share custody with a calendar of every other day. I have him MWF and he has him T-Th-Sun and we alternate saturdays. (Well technically there is no custody order in place yet, he hasn’t signed it officially, I’ve been trying for the past two years to get him to sign) 

My household is preparing lockdown for self isolation, you name it we have it, tight security around the perimeter, food, water, supplies for months, medical supplies, everything. Call us paranoid if you will, were bracing for the storm. Sons father on the other hand doesn’t believe it’s an issue because he’s healthy and covid-19 doesn’t affect children. He’s not planning to shut down his Jiu jitsu gym any time soon (or so I believe) and he’s still nonchalantly going to stores and parks and gatherings and restaurants etc. 

I feel letting my son go back and forth like this not only puts him at risk, but also everyone else in my household. I don’t want to keep my son from seeing his father, but at the same time, his father has a blatant disregard for anything that doesn’t seriously harm his own person, and since “the virus doesn’t affect children” it’s a non-issue, and I refuse to let him keep my son the entire time this is going on because he has zero supplies and zero disaster preparedness, as well as the fact that my son could very well still become a carrier for the virus. 


I’m at a loss. I need advice. My lawyer tells me if I believe it’s in my sons best interest to keep him safe, I can keep him from his father because there is no actual custody agreement filed yet, but I worry about repercussions from a future judge or even his father. 


Thank you",4.83987214420457,6.0871187983651245,5.573310626702996,80.24575927478517,69.46321525885558,8.479941312093901,29.64671976524837,8.841846274778883,2.384438356738629,1497,57,279,26,26,487,189,367,0.1,0.794,0.106,0.3529,0,2,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,4,0,3,17,19,1,2,19,0,26,4,1,2,3,49,42,25,0,5,9,12,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,14,18,2,9,2,1,1,5,10,6,3,3,2,4,44,13,40,36,7,37,0,1,1,0,52,14,0,4,18,191,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.09602072481847276,0.0,0.0,0.2884555667902346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786875919750044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669129486438532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097188049570198,0.08759368668595707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566078338012026,0.0,0.17994465694714473,0.2173422594174409,0.0,0.3325772552774448,0.10326098592759607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047375954339133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856154521434552,0.0,0.0,0.06345755919519384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219759387397932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973803279349023,0.06498991604269833,0.0,0.08290323866333613,0.09402200848318787,0.08843236940308698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04975219304130582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189813574397996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028161502302754,0.0,0.16776288137808007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20540062385468547,0.0,0.34983708301616484,0.0,0.0,0.054076106325261185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012340387491188,0.0,0.048071527001319767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991240544864533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853909411832495,0.0,0.0,0.07295970834340976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325050444346832,0.0,0.0,0.07483492126147015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393052915209177,0.0,0.08591597002782059,0.10280332994306868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891559251073667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840921772623748,0.0,0.10264893915482486,0.0,0.0,0.08139454623471581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715903710427132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600281949996988,0.09059021559151413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721272542157012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680471914182258,0.0,0.096119017546732,0.0,0.2367175874956249,0.0,0.0,0.08118736218938791,0.05803676558731076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654106307946655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999263540573014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267281536843093
parenting,thegigimoon,2020/03/12,"Advice on what to do regarding shared custody. As you all know with the Coronavirus becoming more and more of a threat to the US (I am in california) 
I am getting nervous about what to do regarding my 3 year old. His father and I share custody with a calendar of every other day. I have him MWF and he has him T-Th-Sun and we alternate saturdays. (Well technically there is no custody order in place yet, he hasn’t signed it officially, I’ve been trying for the past two years to get him to sign) 

My household is preparing lockdown for self isolation, you name it we have it, tight security around the perimeter, food, water, supplies for months, medical supplies, everything. Call us paranoid if you will, were bracing for the storm. Sons father on the other hand doesn’t believe it’s an issue because he’s healthy and covid-19 doesn’t affect children. He’s not planning to shut down his Jiu jitsu gym any time soon (or so I believe) and he’s still nonchalantly going to stores and parks and gatherings and restaurants etc. 

I feel letting my son go back and forth like this not only puts him at risk, but also everyone else in my household. I don’t want to keep my son from seeing his father, but at the same time, his father has a blatant disregard for anything that doesn’t seriously harm his own person, and since “the virus doesn’t affect children” it’s a non-issue, and I refuse to let him keep my son the entire time this is going on because he has zero supplies and zero disaster preparedness, as well as the fact that my son could very well still become a carrier for the virus. 


I’m at a loss. I need advice. My lawyer tells me if I believe it’s in my sons best interest to keep him safe, I can keep him from his father because there is no actual custody agreement filed yet, but I worry about repercussions from a future judge or even his father. 


Thank you",4.6946703296703305,5.960598467032972,5.495274725274726,80.59972527472529,69.82417582417581,8.457142857142857,29.384615384615394,8.841846274778883,2.34590989010989,1478,56,278,26,26,482,189,364,0.10099999999999999,0.797,0.10300000000000001,0.1928,0,2,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,4,0,3,17,18,1,2,19,0,26,4,1,2,3,49,42,25,0,5,9,12,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,14,18,2,9,2,1,1,5,10,6,3,3,2,4,44,12,40,36,7,37,0,1,1,0,51,14,0,4,18,191,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.09832007852877292,0.0,0.0,0.1969086988424913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057187900683385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851527498561158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291086808613887,0.0896912429047941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747258914724177,0.0,0.18425368935012146,0.22254683094656952,0.0,0.34054129374236297,0.10573371805465237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028797475447385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044281387605394,0.0,0.0,0.06497714129018331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416593292587868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123658670797006,0.06654619261598375,0.0,0.08488847538985342,0.09627350006965944,0.09055000908016746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05094358052438686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183053636656735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527823012977314,0.0,0.17178020372673544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103192358257064,0.0,0.35821443276388365,0.0,0.0,0.055371036101646884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20605287587528326,0.0,0.04922266853018496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014977218680973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041982515640021,0.0,0.0,0.0747068330021643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572298557638288,0.0,0.0,0.07662695057793162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617983013502676,0.0,0.08797335091961223,0.10526510284243687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128426797195696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080286838688185,0.0,0.10510701494575678,0.0,0.0,0.08334365516132318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609224352222929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806228012669791,0.09275952798455253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624908771959194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840445377322332,0.0,0.09842072501711728,0.0,0.2423861289915402,0.0,0.0,0.08313150979744408,0.05942653901944519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271766268286723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231923365066832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297628407367596
parenting,throwawayaccount8165,2020/03/12,"I'm starting to think I hate kids... Hi there, I'm 21 years old and not yet a parent.  However I am majoring in elementary education with hopes of becoming a teacher and have always included having children in my future plans.  The problem is I've been nannying for a 5 year old child and its starting to make me rethink my entire plan.  Before I get into it, I want to inform everyone that I have already given this family a notice that I will be quitting and I'm only staying on for them until they find a new nanny.  The things this child does that makes me think I might hate kids and need to rethink my future are:
1. I hate how he begs me to make him meals that are labor intensive and involve significant clean up and then he doesnt eat it.
2. I hate how he begs me to let him watch tv after I've already told him no 1000 times.
3. I hate how he touches me with hands that are always dirty.
4. I hate how he climbs on me and does it more when I tell him to stop.
5. I hate how he clings on to me and needs constant attention.
6. I hate that he never plays by himself and insists that i play hundreds of rounds of connect 4/some other game and if I tell him to go play by himself with his toys he starts climbing on me again, throwing a tantrum, making a mess, hurting himself on purpose or pretending to be hurt for attention, etc.
7. I hate the rude way he speaks to me, ordering me around, telling me no, calling me names.
8. I hate how he doesnt cooperate with timeout and how he knows I am not willing to get physical with him to move him to timeout, so he can do whatever he wants.

There have been times I've thought to myself ""if this were my biological child I would spank him"" which is something I was previously against.

Should I rethink my major and rethink my plans of having children in the future?  Do I dislike all kids or only this one?  Please don't tell me I'm a bad person, I'm doing everything I can to give this boy the attention he needs so that he won't misbehave, I just cant keep it up much longer which is why I already gave the parents a notice.

Any non-insulting insight would be appreciated.",3.4808131103876896,4.414672433486238,5.024060372891392,84.09300236756437,72.37155963302753,7.91938443326428,28.74341521160107,8.259297600419973,1.8874586564072209,1655,64,347,25,31,559,211,436,0.161,0.7879999999999999,0.051,-0.9943,3,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,0,0,2,6,16,21,12,0,15,0,37,3,1,11,2,68,77,29,0,12,7,2,3,0,0,7,0,1,1,10,22,20,2,2,14,7,0,5,10,17,0,1,8,5,60,4,45,58,6,42,0,2,2,0,55,12,0,6,22,222,82,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314910440438601,0.0,0.11636595835740515,0.0,0.0,0.047551216072584605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224783702729333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058384231065285286,0.0,0.07722637358480731,0.05950079734696422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140097016351703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556379485666727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238320963990945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155045830382166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798456075396676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681607867497788,0.06284384099822653,0.0,0.06591881486896703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390993891505997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730655736212316,0.06707817523814613,0.03973983702231841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6903619700138046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945103715781749,0.0,0.0,0.14971174519440392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06215231529119185,0.0,0.0,0.038428804414566295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150277675438561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18670120826697909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417909130473299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743189247780828,0.05140272419393345,0.1555449099020806,0.05393026459865975,0.06753374259201989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921954332524346,0.1467484887723816,0.0,0.04738280855910092,0.10636182032925297,0.0,0.0,0.1552862813083462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06105557949065059,0.0,0.0767563585262081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06690852567404375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437356045590493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053831475463164864,0.0,0.0,0.14847925716491767,0.07453046130049636,0.0,0.05846020757831302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24446919382741836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04645488534868448,0.08960989058329229,0.0,0.055512427113258885,0.08154734794063798,0.0,0.0,0.06681607867497788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248683809421904,0.05550299810675315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309619518566396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934504777500287,0.0,0.0,0.0900584706018014
parenting,Hazerdus,2020/03/12,"The “Dad Beer” Y’all ever get the “dad beer” when you order take out and leave before you place the order so you can down a beer or two at the place you ordered from before heading home? If you ask me, it’s the best tasting beer you can have.",8.497647058823526,4.483072980392159,8.005980392156863,83.08191176470591,64.29411764705883,10.2,31.382352941176467,3.1291,1.3944823529411758,186,3,43,0,2,59,34,51,0.023,0.897,0.08,0.6124,0,0,4,0,0,0,3.0,0,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,6,0,3,6,1,0,1,5,6,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,1,4,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,2,2,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411458518927395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389882101725919,0.0,0.2706997174550014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23332804905766225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476678809101156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26472828910598906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587421164680778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27312888570213395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5389999353392739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939442248103434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25197697521692075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RTCJA30,2020/03/12,Driving 2300 miles with an 18 mo old You read that right. We will soon be driving 2300 miles with our travel trailer across the country with our 18 mo old. I think we will give ourselves about 6 days. Please share your tips on how you have survived long treks in the car.,3.985555555555553,5.3091773703703735,3.0046296296296298,97.56583333333336,71.5925925925926,5.4,24.61111111111111,3.1291,-0.02280000000000016,214,6,47,0,4,61,41,54,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,4,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,7,3,0,15,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,5,25,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052889837735125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305359939795304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817016979410724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6680430637460607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494179281898642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184044633055109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718421075954798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20396552750899014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SoggyAnalyst,2020/03/12,"Suggestions for fun/engaging activities for children in case of quarantine/lockdown? I'm a working mom, so I'm not great at having fun activities up my sleeve. Parents who have great ideas, please share!! I'll be looking to buy up some things (materials) soon so we have them on hand just in case :)

If you post, please post target ages (my kids are 1.5 and 3, so appreciate younger-kid suggestions but would be silly to only ask for those ages so more can benefit).

Not only applicable for pandemics. School closures/summer also could benefit. Need fresh ideas!",4.218529411764706,6.9507734019607845,4.931137254901961,77.87611764705883,74.78431372549021,8.393725490196081,28.82745098039216,9.120678840339163,2.8646556862745105,445,19,77,11,10,143,75,102,0.040999999999999995,0.755,0.204,0.9302,1,2,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,1,1,7,7,0,0,1,0,9,1,1,0,0,13,14,8,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,5,7,13,10,2,11,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,2,3,45,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780698350520854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727893454149322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475702169324113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075473170948552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4172969079207803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520907350235352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646846428422287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704771155133053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28114023303753743,0.0,0.0,0.20522975810030344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057715532955374,0.0,0.0,0.3540285020069868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705592838183907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227915924363812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345570751264242,0.0,0.0,0.13129659588435968,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pinkadink88,2020/03/12,"My daughter told me my youngest spilled her juice!! My oldest is three, and had had difficulty with her speech and cognitive skills. Since she began 3K special needs, her communication and thinking skills have vastly improved! Today she told me her little sister spilled juice inside their room. I walk in and she was right! Just an accident and an easier clean up, but she told me right away! Used the correct grammar, wording, and asked for help! I'm so proud of her 😁 We've struggled with her asking for help also, but today was a step in the right direction.",3.3490129870129866,6.074943295238099,3.6412987012987017,85.95779220779222,77.95238095238095,6.103896103896104,24.78354978354978,7.348242739294969,1.2805238095238105,446,16,81,6,11,138,70,105,0.059000000000000004,0.765,0.17600000000000002,0.9281,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,3,3,3,0,1,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,16,16,10,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,8,1,18,2,9,8,0,16,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,0,4,50,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467932010540095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432084265570717,0.0,0.17246105644040946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24607335963624685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839757632641588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610772507942726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4702787855622683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518430757663536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189720556856885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761810488931808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479876288181945,0.5261995410594826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853726604741633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ApocaNips,2020/03/12,Grocery Pick-Up I just have to say stores like Walmart that have this feature and/or delivery are a -lifesaver- as a parent. If you haven't tried it out yet it is amazing. With this virus going around I hope it becomes more common. There is no fee at places like walmart and I don't have to cart my two germ catching/spreading children around the store.,2.816397515527953,5.313498507246378,2.619503105590063,93.83869565217393,78.42028985507247,4.522567287784679,25.799171842650104,5.288315135182226,0.5147084886128366,283,11,55,1,7,84,54,69,0.032,0.7979999999999999,0.17,0.8591,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,10,3,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,5,4,8,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,4,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5361847782351858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33260276960564794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115370363448545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991155254144839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29425889033577624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343977248148196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31464357051773656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23949107102392256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446492705886174,0.0,0.2941853234939869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JP_816,2020/03/12,"Don't know how to deal with younger sibling stealing from older sibling I have two girls, 4 and 7 years old. My youngest daughter is constantly sneaking thing out of her sister's room and snuggling them away in her room. From what I can tell she maybe plays with them a little and then hides them and forgets about it. We usually find a stack of her sister's stuff every time we clean her room. We have talk to her 1-2 times a week telling her it's wrong to take other people's things, she's not allowed in her sister's room, etc. We've started keeping my oldest daughter's room closed as a reminder, but she can still technically get in. I am not even sure when she is getting the stuff out of the room. She and I are out of the house most mornings and she is the first one asleep each night. Leaving the afternoons, but our bathroom is upstairs and she is the type of kid that will play in her room or take a nap on her own, so when she wanders off upstairs I don't question it. I have started to check on her more often when she does it and I have yet to catch her in her sister's room or with her sister's stuff so idk when it happens. 

Has anyone else dealt with this or have tips on ending it?",4.167459999999998,4.5079274560000036,4.42775,91.147625,70.44,6.8900000000000015,27.225,5.985473137389443,0.8048199999999999,944,29,210,4,16,295,132,250,0.045,0.927,0.027999999999999997,-0.4424,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,3,1,12,5,0,0,11,0,18,1,1,2,1,37,27,22,0,0,7,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,2,15,20,0,1,3,3,1,1,4,2,0,3,0,0,38,3,31,26,5,46,0,0,0,0,43,23,0,6,22,148,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763214736258403,0.14306685660218926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118645032038087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508898147600531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395181617731778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221906593450906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664247592286675,0.0,0.12367023502637214,0.0,0.15572372918314198,0.0922239248129537,0.0,0.11764382099239325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761877381240122,0.11876872591645148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459012333877233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347384806586145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611136207596198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410905724077576,0.0,0.0,0.07673668574431837,0.0,0.0,0.14784741056099152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994537564454235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027653473447954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103276580833165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651760363004482,0.0,0.09461651866287868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680146910921204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564169226803276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976608652492164,0.0,0.11150824700295107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795268904106272,0.0,0.0,0.13159908985838906,0.0,0.2099679157534383,0.11222885062826322,0.2440845608742208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855271842357457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283809261136886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639766885528576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378209574110213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200231028388707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266286756472186,0.0,0.08991677808436921
parenting,BigGayNigForLuis,2020/03/12,"Help me please. I am concerned Yesterday I was planning on spending time with my baby brother, however that plan was ruined as he wasn’t feeling good at all and was crying for a while when I got home from school. My mom took him to the hospital and my baby brother had been poked by 45 needles and had a big tube going through his penis at the hospital. He’s been gone for over 16 hours and my mom just texted me saying that he has went from the hospital where I live to the one in Santa Barbara. (1 hour drive from where I live) if anyone has had a similar experience please let me know. It breaks my heart knowing my baby brother is in pain. Please tell me if he’d be okay",3.4789928057553965,4.4901904604316565,4.602223021582738,86.82434172661873,72.45323741007195,7.5743884892086335,26.849640287769784,7.908726449838941,1.4682886330935254,530,18,112,7,10,174,90,139,0.066,0.823,0.111,0.5267,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,7,1,16,2,1,0,1,12,24,9,0,2,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,1,5,1,2,0,1,13,2,18,2,17,8,1,21,0,1,0,0,14,9,0,2,6,73,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113067502281856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485865688936644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571473007177958,0.0,0.0,0.08048936761727396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046923298813307,0.1335179015053878,0.12731581233200706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863651161920664,0.10669920988580536,0.0,0.15967682094614616,0.0,0.31353284592806363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496923593744368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277875940603415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281128808353826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728741010642996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078687450267586,0.0,0.16938542841076382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5242162074490873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659132138508522,0.0,0.16110501678560155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913582762287507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282280166703523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176861817459819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756727901316224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AidanNaut,2020/03/12,"So I called my wife an axe murderer... Some context: We're new parents and our 1 year old decided last night that sleep is for losers. I've also got a problem with my own temper which I usually try to treat with some mindfulness stuff.

My wife usually handles bedtime routines, though for the past few weeks I've been slowly incorporated into the process. We seemed to be making good progress in establishing a routine until a few days ago. Normally our kid would be sound asleep by 8 pm but no more. The kid will scream in protest for upwards an hour until settling down. To make matters worse, we also just got back from a checkup involving vaccinations so the kid is no doubtedly sore. When we've asked about how to handle the screaming, the few doctors we've spoke with suggested that we'd just have the kid cry it out. My wife is NOT a fan of this idea.

Now I'm sure most parents would agree that the bloodcurdling scream of an infant is not pleasant. After a solid hour and a half of each of us taking turns consoling, giving positive reinforcement, singing lullabies, and massaging, I was ready to lose it. I was strongly fighting that urge to smash something, combating the compulsion with directed breathing and the like. After come back from my umpteenth attempt, my wife looked on me and let out a sigh of exasperation. 

She was going to go in for another round when I said ""no, I'm fucking done. We're going to let the kid figure it out on her own."" She protested, and after a few steadied breaths I restated ""no, I'm done, we're done. We've tried everything in the book except what the experts have suggested.""


At this point my wife's demeanor changed. Knowing better now she was on her way to a full on panic attack, but having never seen her like this before I thought something had snapped. She started stammering and sputtering and pacing. This confused the hell out of me, and in most cases when I'm confused and frustrated that's when the worst of my compulsions bubble up. Yet I sensed something different, close to dangerous. I put all of my effort into suggesting as calmly as possible ""I think it would be best if you went out for a bit.""

She didnt like that one bit. Her panic worsened, and somehow I reached into myself for some sense of calm and resolve. I said that I felt it would be best that she take a step out away from the house, away from the screaming child, to have some quiet time for herself. I would stay home and continue to check on her. After further protest I suggested that she only be gone for an hour, and that I text her every 10 minutes with updates. Eventually she did agree to the terms, and had left. 

After about 40 more minutes the kid did eventually go down (though it felt like she more passed out from all the screaming). I provided updates, and made sure our kid was safe. Apparently at one point the kid ripped off their own pj pants (This one puzzled me, if anyone has insight please share).

At this point, I actually was feeling pretty good about myself. I don't normally make judgment calls when it comes to our kid because my wife is way more experienced in the matter, drawing from years of working in ECE and youth programs. But I made a call, she (reluctantly) agreed to it, and I didn't even have an emotional outburst! I kept my anger and frustration in check! So I was blindsided when my wife came back home to a sleeping child absolutely livid. She exclaimed that we could have endangered her and that her leaving was wrong. To which I sputter ""well you were the one looking like you were going to turn into some sort of axe murderer!""

She didnt like that one bit, not at all.

So, here I am. After several hours of arguing, discussing my clear character flaws, and trying to back up my decision I'm still frustrated and confused. I'm at work having had no sleep, no breakfast, and I forgot my lunch and security badge. At least our kid got a few good hours of sleep. Parents of reddit, just how badly did I fuck up?

TL;DR: I made a parenting judgement call based on a rough situation, and initially explained my reasoning to the call by calling my wife an axe murderer. My wife is not an axe murder, she is a lovely person who I trust and respect.",4.9660177975528335,6.348180972704718,5.406826388294686,81.04960297766752,69.29776674937965,8.585915975014974,30.77000085565157,8.987727104682813,2.5657739197398817,3328,136,625,61,58,1064,357,806,0.174,0.684,0.14300000000000002,-0.9861,6,0,3,0,2,0,103.0,10,3,1,12,34,65,19,6,49,0,55,15,7,9,7,122,106,51,4,11,13,13,5,6,0,6,3,10,2,14,32,50,2,4,15,2,2,13,15,37,2,6,41,19,88,27,108,50,32,109,1,2,4,3,86,46,3,17,53,438,120,5,0.0,0.0,0.05335306232229449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0484644074630796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744412222612223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05732951605147405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03822870517751556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051111971442481086,0.062198548092414374,0.10273436092638036,0.1681609672772052,0.04564975772226645,0.033328216433882216,0.0,0.04652278421091712,0.0,0.11475209811365045,0.048353917079757926,0.17906660642456962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349641089342727,0.06253146531868929,0.0,0.0,0.05783689410416041,0.09419207514909483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04365202435079266,0.0,0.06005583693941347,0.035259628762045414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057121756576625535,0.0,0.0559602381261166,0.0,0.1678487009181088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149988263467359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03611106922491904,0.0,0.04606444772716494,0.0,0.0491366600803182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02764436387063128,0.0,0.10498950648780912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108880638316432,0.0,0.052447422740723566,0.15535992329526846,0.13757161579435415,0.13118122604689225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968316115813466,0.0,0.2692099694286154,0.06308542088322394,0.0,0.06171927901417749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03004690785633015,0.04456587647131925,0.0,0.057890922429524365,0.0594024869199607,0.11181390508190843,0.0,0.16026310033867974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918232743276621,0.06116521797398247,0.0,0.0,0.049344610485794686,0.15519903740532334,0.10948416338195496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520424898131268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216726790618582,0.05280362404629968,0.0,0.05130700397357901,0.10713606645452907,0.0,0.0,0.05737022511332807,0.0,0.18523954940031725,0.041581358873257486,0.0,0.12829421394913518,0.24283204522779575,0.0,0.05219166367773061,0.0,0.04773844513297027,0.0,0.06001464961398133,0.15505126413804998,0.061635709407211005,0.0,0.055622201591138835,0.0,0.05231477628195115,0.0,0.05496156982619162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562130561866201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401328287921427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04977234004477587,0.0,0.06176504487050673,0.0,0.0,0.06145485904296544,0.21885035103073613,0.0,0.0,0.12627007847261434,0.0,0.0,0.038697904055528136,0.05827425383905398,0.04366201107619043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258762307773777,0.0,0.0,0.10305750603112784,0.0,0.08221473935491623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03503231711720164,0.10743209318901173,0.043404337131058186,0.03188032631808455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135834531144913,0.11893727365395422,0.0,0.0,0.06576501178424532,0.0,0.12042939868636045,0.0,0.0,0.08679392946357423,0.04385546579388494,0.0,0.04915768601885221,0.05068251468736027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960534099750383,0.0,0.05571656331653056,0.1941910203786336,0.0597764559455183,0.0,0.07041537224688292
parenting,ThrowawayNMS23718,2020/03/12,Help with my 19 year old teen Alright so the other day I snooped my teen’s phone and I found out he had been sending nudes to other guys and I confronted him and he told me he was being smart about it he said he never showed his face while sending nudes like he never showed his body and face in the same angle and that he used a fake name in this app called yubo to find other teens to trade nudes with. He also said he was just experimenting and that he still liked girls I’m pretty disappointed in him. as a rule I told him he had to sleep with his door open and that I’m going to turn the WiFi off at night and he’s pretty angry about it am I wrong in this?,1.1972727272727255,2.890719636363638,2.480419580419582,96.87139860139862,79.9090909090909,5.23916083916084,15.895104895104895,5.8734145424116955,-0.8533524475524477,520,7,125,3,13,167,81,143,0.094,0.782,0.124,0.5719,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,6,8,1,0,5,1,7,7,7,1,2,21,17,12,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,10,13,0,0,2,2,1,3,2,4,0,0,10,2,14,4,18,6,1,19,0,1,0,3,30,8,0,0,10,70,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604122921120274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20284976404004196,0.0,0.0,0.18647554180904088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777485769996145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863750134212852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691146435231405,0.0,0.0,0.20023351533273612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037872121788938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808226120018128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224064045860872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784379142155562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28169576093739296,0.0,0.0,0.17137659425683327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162907654348796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715805927262933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34742707226661856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275198757889835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584064897835194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34900266604047697,0.0,0.0,0.19863822977759615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772513333795005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966641283443368,0.0,0.1176013579472719
parenting,FacelessOldWoman1234,2020/03/12,"Yesterday a working mom asked me what I do all day and I blanked She wasn't being rude, she was making the transition from full-time to part-time herself and was genuinely curious.  When she asked me what I do all day though, I drew a blank and responded ""Uh... Mostly I clean and do laundry. Uh, I prepare for the kids' after school activities."" 

I do so much more than that! I do all our errands, grocery shopping, thrifting, sorting through the clothes, meal planning, appointments (one of our kids has complicated health and there are SO MANY daytime appointments), I volunteer at the school 1-3 times per week, and yes, I play video games and knit sometimes too.  

I'm just so frustrated that I didn't draw on any of that and instead made it seem like I just scrub the floor over and over and over.",4.185196078431371,5.897624202614383,4.344591503267973,86.62316176470591,71.6797385620915,7.975816993464052,30.39705882352941,8.59863814320734,2.26523137254902,625,27,125,11,12,194,98,153,0.03,0.865,0.105,0.8404,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,2,10,4,2,0,7,1,12,2,0,2,3,20,18,15,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,6,10,1,0,1,4,2,0,2,2,2,1,5,0,20,2,13,12,6,13,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,8,85,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739550570220153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40525868366074697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795679825137166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23039210228681206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589171716149527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509140953757504,0.1446804166149881,0.21974760687661413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538516616265463,0.0,0.0,0.1593341065235936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687348938665476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347160593112913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4387194078716152,0.0,0.1973184798003736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21436848974126385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21295299046375507,0.0,0.12638701573936842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17386150286689075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779451855676302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hisayaa,2020/03/12,"Save these children's future  Hello amazing people !  


As you already know Morocco by being such a wonderful country . Kids here are full of positive energy and they are always wanting to learn new things .  


Unfortunetly , our school is not equipped and therefore we are unable to offer the proper education they deserve, as all the school's equipment comes from volunteers just like you.   
( i.e computers , tables , paint brushes & drawing papers & paintings , football vests , balls ) that would allow the development of kid's creativity and their ability to learn new things .  


**If you feel privileged in this life , and you want to give to those who are not as lucky , you can make a contribution here to support these kids' education!**  


I will be the happiest man alive if i could help these little guys.   
And to make good use of your donations we 'll make sure it goes into educatif equipment and keep you on track if purchased . ",6.257435897435897,8.610895987654326,6.023086419753086,74.07542735042736,67.51851851851852,9.182146248812916,32.21462488129155,9.661875296680813,3.439433428300095,738,32,117,17,13,230,114,162,0.012,0.732,0.256,0.9915,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,7,3,0,4,8,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,6,2,36,24,12,0,7,6,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,6,10,10,0,1,5,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,15,8,18,19,2,9,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,5,4,77,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867848389809336,0.0,0.14226739974482966,0.37050920131776577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728241480221216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651202709385246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645161835733754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401768533454916,0.0,0.14340824144255224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929510943227405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146029549634262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197310982376294,0.0,0.0,0.09396504195103488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076682374770373,0.08353121846754008,0.17136488194326774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423874448029764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302632518728157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853462288006596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460777451458625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19402381774218236,0.1611447494678528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271803828986708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767010283205384,0.0,0.0,0.2016945184741051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541835666759893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145787156296915,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,taway847592,2020/03/12,"I'm at a loss with my 14 year old daughter Throwaway for obvious reasons.

Over the past couple months or so we've been having a lot of trouble with our 14 year old daughter. It all started when we moved to a new city over the winter break and she started at a new school. For a while, since she knew nobody at this school, she was lonely and had some trouble fitting in. However, a little while later, some of the ""bad"" kids at school invited her to a house party. She caved to peer pressure and went to the party; we found out when she didn't come home from school on time, and we used her phone tracker to find her. She had alcohol at that party. When we found out she went to that party, we grounded her (took away her phone and her privilege to walk to and from school) for two weeks and had a talk about safe alcohol use and peer pressure. Since she was a really good kid before this, we thought it was a one time thing and that she had learned her lesson.

But actually, it has gotten worse and worse. As soon as the initial grounding was over and we thought we could trust her again, she immediately broke that trust. As soon as she got her phone back, she snuck out at night with one of her ""bad"" friends. They got really drunk in a nearby park and were brought back home by the police with a strict warning. We grounded her again and decided that it might be time for counselling. She refuses to talk to the counsellor since she thinks counselling is stupid and unnecessary. And the problems have been increasing more! About a few weeks ago she started skipping classes she didn't like, and now that has extended to all her classes. Before all these issues started, she was a straight A student, but now her grades are rapidly dropping. The school is going to call a meeting about her truancy to determine next steps. She rarely stays home at night; she usually goes to a friend's house or just sleeps outside on a bench or something. She also acquired a burner phone from one of her friends, so she doesn't care how much her phone is taken away anymore. And then yesterday, I found out she stole from the Target, and she even stayed at the police station for a few hours while she waited for me to pick her up.

I really don't know what to do. At this point I just feel like locking her in our house and home schooling her so that I can constantly supervise her, but that's clearly not a sustainable solution. What should I do?",6.733015384615384,6.334279766315793,6.216684210526317,83.03152024291502,65.02105263157895,9.412955465587043,32.163967611336034,8.730908602173464,2.3291101214574907,1919,66,388,25,26,591,214,475,0.073,0.866,0.06,-0.4575,1,2,3,0,0,0,50.0,11,0,1,3,22,22,1,2,32,0,31,4,1,5,5,79,59,41,0,3,9,2,1,2,3,2,2,0,4,2,19,37,3,3,14,1,0,10,5,11,0,4,28,1,63,11,66,27,11,87,0,3,0,0,73,31,0,7,44,274,82,13,0.0,0.0,0.06801471045710085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061782632478790324,0.14897087200345147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05573706920942551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912119623768807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096619965679515,0.10718615766096147,0.11638901006884995,0.0,0.0,0.1186148858203958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116894479602437,0.0,0.07106125098620532,0.0,0.0,0.06003822873295622,0.0,0.07531824192887643,0.0,0.055647786047415666,0.07711896311934943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460345444239454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03524115247731605,0.04979191117835267,0.0,0.0,0.06370225648400557,0.0,0.0,0.22925914885324386,0.1615443573748164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03961069801667065,0.05845896004272767,0.11148692275730354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796491194123169,0.0,0.06863800249081861,0.2412646874616527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274608677238746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038303925754708125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810136033458601,0.06985520975278997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059254325963980316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393803812463143,0.0,0.0,0.05563188318063175,0.07407741719360876,0.05123568534356618,0.0,0.0,0.13462856841842208,0.07412408679227556,0.1308127731677024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627161329073998,0.0,0.1416864986106152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653415453215494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588667002625019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669109900291646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395001836833542,0.07166064278271184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4937631690534536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296348799929911,0.0,0.06974783925650332,0.0,0.0,0.05365654411631608,0.0,0.0,0.1973290098127003,0.14857653260928694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204042812911053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04630392504912308,0.0446593466551994,0.0,0.11066406665537228,0.12192352619071715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743649206133263,0.0,0.0,0.06808433450404729,0.0,0.0,0.12039253189535362,0.07676195447503703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181426812630972,0.0,0.0,0.12922056997872142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205542312629452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976581561841174
parenting,mom1786,2020/03/12,"My 3 Year Old Son is Not Eating But Eats Non Edible Things My 3 year old son has become a really picky eater in the last 3 months. If he eats, which is rare, he'll only eat a small selection of things that are somewhat unhealthy. He was a really great eater before this time period. He won't even eat his favourite foods. He only wants milk and throws the plate of food I put in front of him.

I have tried to make his favourite foods, play his favourite cartoons, tell stories and sing. I have tried discipline but that doesn't help. He eats in a moving car so we take him on drives some days to get him to eat. 

The second issue I have with him is that he tries to eat non edible things (cement covered by paint dirt, soil, styrofoam, plastic, toys, paper.) I and the paediatrician suspect PICA but not sure. 

I am a SAHM. I also lost my dad to a battle with cancer in January. He lived with me and my husband during his treatment.

I am at my wit's end. I don't know what else to do.",2.2319685497961568,3.831389069306933,3.531246359930112,90.90906523005242,76.62376237623762,6.733139196272568,20.29819452533489,7.510576382923642,0.4415808969132207,760,17,168,10,17,248,120,202,0.129,0.8490000000000001,0.022000000000000002,-0.9696,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,10,0,15,13,0,1,1,22,22,10,0,2,6,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,9,8,12,1,2,3,0,6,5,2,0,1,2,0,24,3,19,18,2,23,0,1,0,0,23,7,0,3,10,93,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446863605668326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028445604323231,0.07923890588752343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06005518484100314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7622862596190013,0.07779044382093739,0.0,0.08247735135957565,0.0,0.0,0.06150538202612004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378059684757846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048651752328879305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266596378900113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06241688079018998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719387720308624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117673295400342,0.07590584595057806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222733484385106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165230692760843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062158828665297164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432810014032465,0.09897262807777978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542914060737893,0.0,0.0,0.1416450643837524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361208132221308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931108337944635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776521181945006,0.0,0.07001522055060867,0.0,0.08139164643933075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559588033896698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054299462502707306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966864502175726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492503539568688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993342937537167
parenting,imjustpassingbi,2020/03/12,"Just told my kids they would be staying home from school and my 15yo son did not take it well We are approaching spring break and with the latest public address by Trump, sports suspending their seasons, schools rapidly closing or going online, we made an executive family decision to keep our kids home.  My son cried and was frustrated and I could feel the sheer hatred coming from him.  I asked why and he doesn't like missing out on hanging with friends.  
I'm having a difficult time getting idea of the potential seriousness of this pandemic to be accepted by my kids.  We have done a great job providing everything for them so they have lived a care-free lifestyle but now I feel like I need to become Frank Grimes and make tough decisions.  He has cooled down now from crying but I can feel the resentment.  he is probably on a reddit sub somewhere posting about how insane and overprotective his parents are lol.  There has been only 3 cases discovered so far in my region but that is the sign that many more will follow.  
I guess I just wanted to share that I've discovered my teens are not as forward thinking or rational about major situations as I had hoped they would be, since we are a family who have always prepped, taken health seriously, and talk about world events together.  Anyone else have experiences to share about their kids viewpoints on this whole global mess?",8.261586051743528,8.31011092913386,7.559730033745782,73.17748031496066,61.75590551181103,11.194150731158604,34.28458942632171,10.7630783206399,3.671910911136108,1112,41,193,25,14,346,170,254,0.134,0.79,0.075,-0.9167,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,6,0,13,18,2,0,11,2,27,1,0,3,0,46,48,18,0,6,9,3,3,2,1,3,1,0,3,4,7,17,0,1,8,1,0,6,3,8,1,0,8,4,27,10,27,33,3,26,0,1,0,0,31,11,0,4,10,125,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916936080957623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173846920262263,0.13443045936062056,0.0,0.0,0.12265479555973045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449006902173371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376769614801035,0.0,0.0,0.11301764923859665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475295652683098,0.0,0.28823526833676355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426370584071531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960121716290754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791458686780873,0.1283393050268691,0.2473683880114572,0.0,0.1990168077989412,0.09372969308445712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013652129294062,0.0,0.06854686784700284,0.0,0.07456429126941752,0.0,0.0,0.14464906021591487,0.14453218817562666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946004043294752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632096811866376,0.13031174135641999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810944160306933,0.0,0.0,0.1301962928932988,0.11661706961300305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819591479288042,0.0,0.1158524818767313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414512469248662,0.08757738026047299,0.1330167563726002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728353910879907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997839239567318,0.0,0.0,0.14568267483227748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565385160673226,0.0,0.14145637429158686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26556390498285104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853044374296997,0.1474749057674203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984232048393158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864647912203746,0.10545402549398727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406800936703276,0.0,0.0,0.07650409085320815,0.0,0.0,0.12536773990802622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738547868347309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179650433874764,0.0,0.11838808179242488,0.1464807191772854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640220075158614,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,novaqod,2020/03/12,"Transitioning from Sippy Cup to Breakfast Hello - 

My son is 20 months old today (I am going to stop counting by months on his 2nd b-day lol). For a long time now, he has waken up to a sippy cup of milk every morning. He literally wakes up asking for it. Because it makes my morning routine easier, I give it to him while I get him dressed for the day. I would like to start introducing breakfast but he time is so limited in the morning for me as a single mom working full-time. He refuses cereal and would make a mess anyway. He likes the fruit and veggie pouches but he is adamant on having his cup every morning. He drinks Soy milk and its dull of nutrients and protein do he;s getting his vitamins and nutrients and a full tummy just as if he has had breakfast. 

Has anyone else ever had to transition to another routine from sippy cup to actual breakfast? If so, how did you do it?",4.540180952380954,5.488163051428572,6.0780714285714295,77.46034523809526,69.91428571428571,8.804761904761904,30.583333333333336,9.075114841892004,2.665504761904763,694,28,129,13,12,237,102,175,0.068,0.8909999999999999,0.040999999999999995,-0.6855,0,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,0,1,0,2,7,4,0,0,8,1,15,10,1,3,1,20,23,16,0,4,5,2,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,6,8,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,13,2,24,18,2,20,0,1,0,0,20,6,0,2,15,85,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.1821611514045295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19573779271217376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052268508551185,0.191263541516838,0.0,0.0,0.17450948761430676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137911492911332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407709808517036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286368576394024,0.0,0.0,0.15593725595253352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688519954521532,0.3145518728092854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19505276953840373,0.1790690636825556,0.10608779057002553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239322239837305,0.0,0.0,0.16519540618821438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492048302899969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862343824604286,0.2979934142740486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958767839763515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212465138578122,0.0,0.0,0.1560629011831431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176953560481083,0.0,0.1769395449009538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589660970590625,0.0,0.0,0.2652073438701995,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mmmmliz,2020/03/12,"Sex? Sexual intercourse? When two love each other? Birds and bees? Sorry if this is long..

How did you approach this conversation with your child(ren)?  What was your lingo and attitude/demeanor towards it?  I would like to hear from people that have actually gone through this already.  I don’t have to actually worry about this subject for quite some time (~4yoDD, ~1yoDD) but I actually never had this talk with my mother so it’s going to be interesting.  It’s probably a reason why I’m already thinking about it, amongst other “another story for another time” moments.  I’ve gone through sex-ed in school and was a huge prude until basically right out of high school but then found out what life was outside of my cocoon and let’s just say I didn’t hold back. I have no regrets.  

My approach to the actual sex part with my girls will be more of a conversation saying that it isn’t necessarily when one loves each other because let’s be real, that’s not really true.  I want to explain the actual reality of sex in and of itself so they don’t go into meeting someone looking for love in all the wrong places.   I’ve been there done that and I also don’t plan to control every single aspect of their lives so to me, having them be safe aware and protected with a certain mindset, is better than expecting people to be in love with them just because of sex.  Of course I’ll explain the significance in the repercussions of that action, so I don’t want to come across as if I’m pushing them toward exploring anything before they’re actually ready to.  

Is this a way that anyone here has done?  I am a very straight forward parent and enjoy explaining situations as they come, right then and there, so I just hope that by doing this it more so sets them up for success rather than searching around figuring it all on their own.  I know now that I was craving some sort of guidance growing up so this is what I feel I can offer without being overbearing and controlling.  Opinions? Stories? I’d love to hear them all!  Thanks for reading.",4.595595544130248,6.31349192287918,5.5744550128534724,78.19157112253642,70.6452442159383,8.374327335047129,29.162039417309337,8.936278230431713,2.4894019880034266,1614,63,291,31,30,531,207,389,0.048,0.769,0.183,0.9963,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,3,9,6,24,17,0,0,11,0,37,11,0,4,6,66,64,30,0,9,10,2,1,1,0,2,1,4,0,1,30,23,0,6,10,1,0,13,10,2,0,2,13,6,31,15,58,41,12,48,0,1,1,10,32,22,0,7,14,220,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.5000074547213404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884741198476544,0.06829147675489486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909115961731484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059711154152797666,0.0,0.07027396767242408,0.07602090835477299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566456667147652,0.0,0.10411371559044144,0.0,0.07266605360385757,0.0,0.0,0.07552618335447013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471228882349769,0.0,0.0,0.19155866631704008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478034910030174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195015699401702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043178989842066376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363275378982837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970654934398014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19249591684268286,0.0,0.0,0.0902259938121207,0.0,0.08481790184297351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04693163261724773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746472262602021,0.06031800855718895,0.0417203714891384,0.0,0.07540659294245056,0.07557313395580313,0.07171147522174573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853679623263829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586297449670021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786681624750732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482260528120227,0.09247598822105492,0.0,0.1184062340190334,0.0,0.08922107083112919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207177146770304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082959173276134,0.08541951764361229,0.09719980814224753,0.054707125769074286,0.08780173034302302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585613194591762,0.0,0.13582130266376372,0.0,0.1728514483147339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959891407441972,0.0,0.0,0.07235609951449633,0.0,0.0,0.09559428743130947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863839812278573,0.0,0.07862153926700406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05471857019487116,0.0,0.0,0.09959066467886854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341988219160539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046098016964389,0.10073802815808924,0.06778369392399257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705697580529727,0.0,0.0,0.08231909009097872,0.0,0.0,0.08672419772959017,0.0,0.06066315821618541,0.09336756657324816,0.0,0.0
parenting,paperparenting,2020/03/12,"Dealing with a controlling, difficult, divisive grandparent (in-law)? Tl;dr: my wife’s mother undermines my wife’s parenting and personality, almost with the aim of turning her granddaughter (my daughter) against her mother (my wife).

My wife’s mother is quite difficult. 

The main issue at the moment seems to be causing problems between her daughter (my wife) and her 9 year old granddaughter (mine and my wife’s daughter).

The grandmother has always been a bit mean in a “joking” way to her daughter (my wife) but now includes her granddaughter (our daughter) in the ""teasing"". 

This seems to give my daughter a sense of superiority over her mother, or something like that. 

Then, when the grandmother goes home, our daughter is quite mean to her mother (my wife) for a while. And is a bit difficult as she seems to feel a bit superior to us, or something like that. 

The grandmother has always done this apparently to her daughter (my wife) but now as she is including our daughter in the teasing, it is starting to cause problems. 

My wife would never say anything to her mother about this as she looks up to her/is scarred of upsetting her (when people call the grandmother out she usually cries and get upset to shut them down, or pretends it didn't happen, tells them they are wrong etc). 

I don’t want to push the issue, as don’t want to be seen to be causing a conflict between my wife and her mother. 

I’m not sure whether to bring it up with my daughter and say something like “mummy doesn’t like it when grandma makes fun of her so don’t join in”. 

It’s all very subtle so it would be hard to call it out after the fact. I’m sure it was just be laughed off by the grandmother. 

There’s other stuff going on like undermining us by giving treats before meal times, taking our daughter off when we’re all out together, trying to break up the group up, being late on purpose etc.

She not a bad person but she does seem very keen on causing conflict, disrupting the dynamic, and undermining us.

Are there any books on this? Is this a particular type of behavior with a name I can research further?

We only see her about six times a year, for a few days each time, but it is starting to disrupt our lives once she’s gone.

My main worry is that my daughter and wife will fall out or not be as close as they were as this continues. 

Thanks",7.249345637583892,6.787722662192397,7.2222958612975425,76.45545721476513,63.98881431767339,10.224049217002241,34.95609619686801,9.621722640351123,3.1680485458612986,1838,73,346,31,24,589,194,447,0.11199999999999999,0.768,0.11900000000000001,0.8218,3,0,3,0,0,0,64.0,9,0,4,3,14,27,2,2,27,0,32,1,0,6,6,62,59,33,0,6,13,32,2,5,0,3,0,2,1,2,20,20,1,3,7,3,0,5,9,11,0,1,7,7,53,16,65,42,11,54,0,0,3,0,80,24,0,9,28,241,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149053753642634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542972879292478,0.0,0.0,0.05534134198168692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696898911545086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794908657624496,0.0,0.0,0.06924857545462174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26653837719981144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619661215863596,0.0,0.0,0.3343996230971621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127483949216457,0.0,0.0,0.0893923531518461,0.052483511127811716,0.08389943605690374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121638116636476,0.08328022227984908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152092007022924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041148285724077714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251780743828322,0.15613464983504444,0.046250255883920385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196426203988318,0.0,0.07290069470131114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163099855681223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987961819611433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180043571096104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987913303239492,0.0,0.07186022746767172,0.0,0.06833889081038072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432193048083828,0.0,0.0,0.17729383957642472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276544456321552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539485394076367,0.08666728105408869,0.0,0.0618933263836084,0.0,0.0,0.09036310644328932,0.0,0.0,0.056418799591514864,0.14211614270072262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573976468511674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311576794600292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943363867165286,0.0,0.0,0.06484950104052653,0.2963419927335262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795141359402887,0.0,0.0,0.1152026807671632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316088477368256,0.0,0.0,0.1533997933186253,0.0,0.06118779946498758,0.0,0.07112990148842209,0.07492397514760057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236038663639047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055251829174289,0.08851831321673254,0.0,0.0,0.2936711629404191,0.0,0.08962881782911628,0.13429441286254645,0.09600032749934448,0.06459583272373276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264556629094615,0.0,0.11562035037571285,0.08897649807858507,0.0,0.1048123903353854
parenting,indefatigable_,2020/03/12,"Where to buy clothes for tall 3 year old girl (in UK) I have three year old twin girls, and one of them is pretty tall. We really struggle to find clothes that are long enough for her - most dresses go down to her mid-thigh, and trousers come up to her shin. She’s also very lean, so if we try the age size up they tend to not fit around her waist. Has anyone had the same issue? Any advice on UK based companies that sell long dresses or trousers?",3.9503623188405843,4.3829434565217396,3.729130434782608,95.63688405797105,70.95652173913044,7.0028985507246375,24.02898550724637,6.42735559955562,0.3226463768115941,346,8,82,2,6,104,71,92,0.054000000000000006,0.9109999999999999,0.034,-0.2175,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,2,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,5,1,1,0,0,12,8,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,10,0,14,7,3,19,0,0,0,0,11,10,0,3,7,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21462026034551776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563833137515697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935618630865205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357066471886552,0.0,0.0,0.19551759791311046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919212048546688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269368880655548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073818362503634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248210033812968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292370495256295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887319406616019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4609302650881634,0.0,0.14882722604144769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22344304971390772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070084205233346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22960535460506815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911460757094888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812180607614001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828695210095772
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parenting,MattTheMillenial,2020/03/12,"8:30 PM to 3:00 AM screaming Does anyone have any insight on why my 1 month old screams from 8:30 to 3:00 every single day like clock work? 

You name it, we tried it. Am I just getting slapped in a face with a good ol dose of being a parent? Is this normal during this time? Is it normal to start feeling beaten and worn down and like I am not doing a good job?

Tonight my fiancé and I took her on a walk to get some fresh air. She fell asleep, get back to the house, back to screaming. 

If you couldn’t tell, she’s out first. What the hell am I doing wrong?",0.5703954802259901,2.5172372542372905,1.745000000000001,100.06603107344635,83.23728813559322,3.9333333333333336,16.612994350282484,3.1291,-1.1504429378531071,428,8,101,0,12,135,83,118,0.16399999999999998,0.723,0.113,-0.8156,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,2,0,3,3,10,2,0,7,0,11,3,2,0,0,16,18,4,0,4,3,1,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,0,1,2,4,12,4,14,14,2,19,1,0,0,0,9,6,1,2,12,61,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299617661553072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336289798888104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29390452030775444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232505312657439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724217997158505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101892884781518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663126508088596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255858460193426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29954221292062577,0.0,0.0,0.3205890197761184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051598136364947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964778849982072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18673397832537345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254266312762554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744956362801124,0.0,0.0,0.2005384336792667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21220571254914705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352690712061243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670390939733147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143813175534016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123309161392795,0.12975155725674442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244759737567672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913079794099184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20894944760164508,0.0,0.0
parenting,fenchelfen,2020/03/12,"I am working on an application, could you answer this little questionnaire for me? 1. Have you ever had a chance to deal with babies?
2. When you talked to the baby, did you feel inexperienced? If so, how did you solve this problem?
3. What would help you dealing with children at that time better?
4. Imagine you have an app that always backs you up by giving you valuable advice, or maybe by training you on examples and pop-up quizzes in advance, would it solve you problems?",2.642666666666667,5.345767933333338,3.5222222222222217,85.84000000000002,80.77777777777777,5.377777777777778,24.555555555555557,6.742157984588678,1.0366888888888892,374,14,68,4,10,119,68,90,0.069,0.757,0.174,0.8636,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,11,0,3,5,4,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,1,15,11,6,0,6,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,13,2,12,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,2,4,52,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22092841089464754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812148312174384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384601197212904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995450272808726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051110125659345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4661690305305317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20450753471724867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431576519165534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168820845722404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154053491188285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265973498072713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271335573939725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326671222740595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171918869883946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318324384191475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459314296503094,0.0,0.0,0.32120970758188633,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pikapikaappofficial,2020/03/12,"How to save your kid from the dark side of the Internet? Provides a safer and Secure atmosphere to the kids is called [parental control.](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.floydwiz.pikapika&hl=en)

It includes following things like:-

\- Screen timing

\- kids Mode

\- Educational Games

\- Educational Video 

\- Data Security

\- Block Notification

\-password Protected

\- Choose Appropriate Apps

\- Periodic Monitoring 

\- Block in-App purchases

\- Remote with Parents Smartphone

[Download Now](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.floydwiz.pikapika&hl=en)",13.162214611872145,18.722480643835624,9.25099315068493,39.572745433789954,71.32876712328766,12.844292237442925,40.329908675799096,10.317481424215053,7.6044621004566215,489,25,45,19,12,139,58,73,0.07200000000000001,0.75,0.17800000000000002,0.8146,2,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,5,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,3,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6022146819333283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837696165238631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31169138605841096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576916843636014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6171558789379281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462613282237905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620472354973463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IAMADummyAMA,2020/03/12,"My daughter's third birthday is next month, trying to figure out what to do. Originally I was planning to have a party at a local children's museum where they have fun kids exhibits and invite a bunch of kids from her daycare and from of my coworkers who have kids her age. We had a party at a zoo for her first birthday like this that went well, but with the Coronavirus going around this doesn't seem like the best idea. I'm trying to decide if there's a safer option I could do instead or if I'm overthinking it. Would it be better to have an outdoor gathering? Sounds we just go to a park and rent a bouncy castle or something? Is the children's museum fine?",5.468656716417911,5.5572798582089575,6.1768283582089545,80.61136194029852,67.58208955223881,8.789552238805971,28.690298507462693,8.472884824447931,1.971570149253731,527,16,103,7,8,173,87,134,0.0,0.7809999999999999,0.21899999999999997,0.9794,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,1,4,6,7,0,0,12,0,14,0,0,1,0,22,20,8,0,4,6,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,5,7,8,0,0,4,2,1,3,1,0,1,2,3,1,10,7,16,14,2,14,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,6,7,76,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316828727381316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27312244485438103,0.2301751387243437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077931089630026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137348235062568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958187799983781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29379716198838923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542957122584487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077337264364877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767850356254322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369271398539373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035765858932345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35339325992138754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340012533026763,0.2412597686722952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848782797924988,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rgunsthrowaway0405,2020/03/12,"Any other business owners write letters to their kids?(Mine Inside) - Could use some advice from others who have figured out how to juggle family/work It was again one of those days. Here are my letters:  [https://imgur.com/gallery/CdVqg0X](https://imgur.com/gallery/CdVqg0X) 

Background: Without getting too detailed, I grew up in a good family. My dad did some bad stuff and ruined our family name and his reputation. As a result, if i have anything that bugs mentally, it is my drive to rebuild a good reputation through honesty, hardwork, and something of value for my son to be better off than I was when everything was lost (we went from being fairly well off to my dad not being in the picture and me and my mom going hungry for days at a time at one point in our lives).

I have since gotten my family out of poverty. I own my own company and after a few years in on my own have created a stellar reputation for myself and my firm in my area...it still amazes me every day how people view me (when i still view myself as trash privately). 

I keep telling myself that me working nonstop and pushing harder than anyone around me to build something great is for my son, but after legitimately missing his entire birthday today (aside from 10 minutes I was able to play with him before my wife put him to sleep earlier this evening...after letting him stay up 2 hours past his bed time because I called her before my final meeting of the day at 6:30PM begging her to keep him awake until I could get home and see him after being gone since 8:00AM this morning..when everyone was just waking up as i was leaving)...i cant figure out if what I am doing is right or wrong for my son and family.

I feel like on one end, given I am the sole provider for my home, if I dont push as hard as I am pushing to continually grow my firm year after year I am failing my son in giving him the biggest and best thing I can possibly give him by pushing with everything I have. (I'm about 5 years in now...and have grown yearly by more than 100%...teetering off to 87% growth from 2019-2020 per my most recent meeting with my financial planner and accountant).

On the other end, I am missing literally every important moment in his life up until now. I barely saw him as an infant(when i see pictures of him as a baby...its almost like I cant remember him being that small because I was never home). My wife is absolutely the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. She is the only person in the world who understands me given she knew me when I was at my lowest, knew me when I decided to change my position in life(it was an ""epiphany"" type decision in a single day...I went from blaming everything and everyone to saying I could do anything God allows for me to do...and I pushed for it)...to now where we are very comfortable financially...but able to continue growing as I am only getting better and better at managing my firm and the people under me every year. 

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...but there is also the religious side to it. As a Christian, I know I am supposed to provide for my family ( 1 Timothy 5:8 ), be there for my wife (Colossians 3:19), and raise my kids properly (Ephesians 6:4)...but in the Bible I cant find if how I am living currently in not being there emotionally for everyone as much as I could is correct.

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I know this is a weird, random subject but after having a successful day at work...and failing miserably to be there for my son on his birthday...I figured I'd reach out here and see if there is any other parents out there like me that may be entrepreneurs or business owners that have figured out how to juggle pushing for greatness and at the same time not neglect their families emotionally. (i am doing miserably in this area of my life and I know it). 

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Thank you for reading.",8.693718775181303,7.025202486301371,8.77010475423046,70.42673650282033,61.80821917808219,11.327961321514909,37.22401289282836,10.056822442137396,3.6690193392425456,3005,115,539,50,34,989,314,730,0.06,0.8290000000000001,0.111,0.9867,3,0,2,0,0,0,141.0,4,1,2,10,35,30,0,2,25,0,62,5,2,7,3,88,94,51,0,9,15,12,2,3,0,1,3,1,4,3,23,31,0,3,15,2,1,17,9,12,1,3,21,9,108,18,114,58,13,110,1,9,6,0,57,49,0,14,46,408,131,8,0.11956119386218365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058416907446434324,0.0,0.0,0.059861632537152834,0.0,0.0,0.047806521767659337,0.0,0.1943167553963052,0.21791990575103928,0.08130571175432036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04179998334233091,0.0,0.09838867527464126,0.05321740549122332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049914301400259695,0.07288339405150697,0.0,0.10173776987869053,0.0,0.06273604830944263,0.15861323990061071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104267333807222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323994492881692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091976903212907,0.0,0.0,0.23132123697097515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006241438058565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449025059821446,0.105895730119434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054074972427936865,0.15110319369134625,0.1713687666265754,0.16118083753956938,0.0,0.3381349586985225,0.0,0.030226866014320463,0.04270727039230007,0.0,0.06548672188551806,0.054638382578189766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369868363004356,0.11469399168663698,0.03397469088033638,0.1002822568691783,0.0,0.13181663832115065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355167274436447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989443880147854,0.0,0.05887184609288856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106271482609732,0.0,0.0,0.09856155802696548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112971062140075,0.16889921413886727,0.08761734007783209,0.0,0.10557472464292267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525758334244887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024478116008479,0.0,0.0,0.07001431261501131,0.0,0.0,0.043945617187994016,0.0,0.046106481710158735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152663884355012,0.09093167556592636,0.0,0.0,0.06637927833530193,0.0,0.057067344086265424,0.08288867766579316,0.10439622279022838,0.0,0.0,0.05651198689643092,0.06739364084006373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06009601142741273,0.0,0.0,0.05979677440962083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059026127484502575,0.0,0.06771976279201977,0.05105230314352015,0.0,0.04753993009707222,0.0,0.0,0.14291218780231216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989022550740848,0.0,0.05982376976325411,0.0,0.0,0.09204404826654423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371816226702562,0.09548172386183013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843448110359322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05225087665424339,0.05503794187765182,0.0,0.0,0.039715572278684316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457564044003638,0.0,0.05666501592894714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223370968125112,0.0,0.05163124181407034,0.0,0.049325253198734695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053749936002124736,0.1108344245425883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762636216599624,0.0,0.13056295964792405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06536069822882312,0.21791990575103928,0.2309804666385792
parenting,momto5SHARE,2020/03/12,What do about kid leaving for college? Looking for advice on how to handle my 18 yrs old DD going off to college.  Senior year came out of nowhere I feel! I have a 14 yr old DD too but not the same relationship. I feel like my heart is getting ripped out.,-0.13730458221024475,2.1467372641509432,1.8345552560646887,95.39528301886793,91.45283018867924,3.7832884097035038,20.77897574123989,5.288315135182226,-0.18396280323450176,197,7,43,1,7,65,43,53,0.0,0.9309999999999999,0.069,0.5487,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,9,9,2,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,1,10,8,1,10,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,5,26,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26273617097903323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075150889595987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718970032633447,0.19208042990170388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047322050445235,0.0,0.1528047372292165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186116609785988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846939867815266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135606025547722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257826698089003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5642666388655511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886652294823746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314314761589011
parenting,youarethebonusmom,2020/03/12,"What do we do about the finger sucking? My stepdaughter is 5 years old, and she is constantly sucking her fingers. 

I know the general advice is “she’ll grow out of it once she’s in school” but she’s in school. She gets in constant trouble about the finger sucking because her teacher has a “no fingers in mouth” policy. And even if she has a good day and is able to keep her fingers out of her mouth, she gets home and it immediately starts again.

We’ve tried rewards, distractions, gentle reminders. We haven’t done the “hot sauce” route because she touches her eyes a lot and we don’t want her to burn her eyes. 

Any suggestions that have worked for any of you?",3.3553216783216806,5.2602905461538505,3.9052447552447553,88.11339160839161,74.30769230769229,6.881118881118883,27.202797202797203,7.686295010490155,1.497153846153846,521,20,105,7,11,164,76,130,0.066,0.833,0.102,0.7013,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,1,0,2,4,7,3,1,7,0,13,9,9,0,0,17,22,7,0,2,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,10,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,9,21,2,14,20,1,14,0,0,2,0,20,6,3,2,7,69,25,3,0.19974112656728407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951847171646242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716616309616735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24352067365061375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316983969680374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881650246478055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20440452111624846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319271302942612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087129892408567,0.0,0.0,0.16753338031107548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003566358429826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753909084339853,0.0,0.0,0.10977249947964164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16981276299722475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959471225831855,0.21271778094899216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40429736751180506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137779744626008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356111135872892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178124915635257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541391904631876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12862673673925612
parenting,orioncygnus1,2020/03/12,"How does coronavirus quarantine work if you have family to take care of? [USA] I'm a single parent of a 4 year old who is in preschool full time. Our closest family member lives 1200 miles away. If I or my son get the coronavirus, would we have to be separated until the symptoms subside? If I get the coronavirus, would my son be sent to social services in this situation?",3.802500000000002,5.742980916666671,5.315000000000001,78.33000000000001,73.16666666666666,9.244444444444444,27.277777777777786,9.725611199111238,2.7650111111111118,294,11,55,8,6,99,52,72,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.5775,1,1,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,1,0,8,13,6,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,9,8,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,4,4,37,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233192734670459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24234263471774176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800569878035333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44814935610647305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483683136369633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20988621696475326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494175634212649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639286185546472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671755457228072,0.0,0.242296860154866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470527941183732,0.1787146549164728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860000192825114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304246364464484,0.0,0.0,0.3376988746022947,0.0,0.0,0.15306572824601622
parenting,MastermindParenting,2020/03/12,"Would you let your kids walk through a dark alley in a predator’s neighborhood? Parents: Would you allow your kid to walk down a dark alley alone in a neighborhood where sexual predators are known to live? 

If your kid is on social media, you gotta have these hard conversations about bad guys online. Because every time they get online, they are potentially walking straight into a predator’s back yard. 

If you don’t know how to talk about this stuff, I get it. It’s uncomfortable. Every day I teach parents how to talk about anything and everything with their kids in a productive way. Please learn how to have these tough convos. I have a ton of free resources to share.

Psychological sexual abuse and even worse is happening on these social media channels. Avoiding the awkward discussions or thinking ignorance is bliss is neglectful parenting and jeopardizes your kids’ safety.

And while I personally believe in waiting until high school for social media, the solution is not necessarily abstinence in my opinion. The solution is being a parent that controls the narrative and arms your kids with the right knowledge about hard topics. 

There are bad guys. Period. Disturbed and sick child predators. Our kids are growing up in a different world than any of us have known. Head in the sand or denial parenting puts your kids at risk. 

We gotta talk about this gross stuff. 

“Over the course of one week, over 52 men reached out to an 11-year-old girl. We sit with that stat as we soberly shut down the TV and the camcorder.”

Here’s the link to the article that got my mind running about the importance of preparing our kids to protect themselves in this world:

https://medium.com/@sloane_ryan/im-a-37-year-old-mom-i-spent-seven-days-online-as-an-11-year-old-girl-here-s-what-i-learned-9825e81c8e7d[I spent 7 days online as an 11 yr old girl](https://medium.com/@sloane_ryan/im-a-37-year-old-mom-i-spent-seven-days-online-as-an-11-year-old-girl-here-s-what-i-learned-9825e81c8e7d)",7.969218732410222,10.866493471124619,5.588969942586965,76.69560846560849,64.13677811550153,8.521490487447934,30.422267252054485,9.150863307647796,2.8172869751210183,1628,60,249,30,27,458,185,329,0.134,0.774,0.092,-0.9298,6,2,0,0,1,0,92.0,6,10,3,1,14,12,0,4,23,0,19,3,2,5,0,40,29,18,0,4,5,5,3,0,0,4,1,0,1,15,13,15,0,6,7,3,2,6,2,10,0,1,2,3,25,3,46,21,1,42,0,1,0,0,48,25,0,5,9,149,38,3,0.0,0.0952278057614145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324126521322506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05465578970399651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613939696284435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618011901892679,0.1342147065287589,0.04899409121747223,0.0,0.0,0.09055184331872562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014415360944084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103666721637443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397174681607887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05308501950819965,0.0,0.13543393528450565,0.0,0.07223326849406837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398221867445184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428091711929859,0.0,0.0,0.1591620465541299,0.07107278991457626,0.0,0.1439952446468903,0.0,0.08248497044389938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849175451274351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736313377199461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044170408795696336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218592608807475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097004409206592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115291784509783,0.1882616836622226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5060220455442892,0.0,0.054462220613618516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462185742079222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017782484895467,0.0,0.08822443959475723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079616774158814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863734132107017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134086443632564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457877286641606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18401367023277365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380016857016374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149920169909495,0.0,0.0,0.046865622670498035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667775029808663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379563853495221,0.06446965728732959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819060447134821,0.11418807946017084,0.0,0.0,0.2587850131299527
parenting,Tjaart22,2020/03/12,"Sister’s got the virus and I’ll be taking care of the kids. My sister is an ER nurse and has been diagnosed with the coronavirus. The kids have been tested and their negative. She has three kids, 8,5, and 2. My girlfriend is currently pregnant and due in September. We have a house and two spare beds but it’ll be crammed. This is all just happening so fast.  

Is anyone going through this?",1.333947368421054,3.9802697631578963,2.27926315789474,92.2578421052632,88.21052631578951,6.197894736842105,20.757894736842104,7.554174236665415,0.9622989473684208,306,10,62,6,10,96,55,76,0.032,0.94,0.027999999999999997,-0.0644,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,13,1,0,0,1,11,18,8,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,3,0,5,1,4,12,1,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,3,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26141757953110245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811838986459253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37946870329008814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247810991973684,0.0,0.2990168289671384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33061071961158883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313941043625229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281102617315215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652152432273401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sprinklesadded,2020/03/12,"How to talk to 7 yo about her appointment My 7 year old daughter has been having behavioural, confidence, and temper issues so we will be speaking with a specialist next week. Do you have any suggestions on how I can make her feel comfortable with the appointment and speaking with the doctor? We speak a lot about how she is feeling and about how the doctor is there to help, but because of her self-confidence, I’m worried about her going down the negative “there is something wrong with me” path.",10.402419354838713,8.153082333333337,9.083951612903226,71.34592741935488,59.0,12.740860215053766,40.45430107526881,11.20814326018867,4.411862365591396,399,16,71,8,4,123,63,93,0.14,0.785,0.075,-0.8591,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,2,1,0,0,11,3,1,0,6,0,11,2,0,5,0,18,16,9,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,5,11,1,14,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,4,55,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531577592464433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819100134138172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.497644615316452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24583649542491695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815886395913132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294425338052146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537323806239304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667422614976852,0.0,0.0,0.16227058769438665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25853873160525553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550916915578327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25360545855694155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18714962245712846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539390925777075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949994954929994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468790135707317,0.0,0.0,0.2657907866380682,0.0,0.1565478990421363
parenting,DownWithClickbait,2020/03/12,"If you have it then you won't need it A great medicine to have in your home is tylenol suppositories. Now hear me out, they're weird and kinda disgusting. However, when your child is running a dangerously high fever and puking up anything you give to them suppositories are amazing. I only had to use them once having them. It saved me a trip to the ER. I called my pediatricians emergency line and told them what was going on dangerously high fever and would not keep down medicine. I told the doc I had the suppositories and they told me to try them, but if the fever went up 1 degree to go the the ER. They worked and we did not have to go to the ER.",2.5087913486005067,4.559471221374047,3.80032442748092,87.25992684478375,77.2442748091603,7.114758269720102,22.36704834605598,8.07648339933343,0.944083460559797,514,15,113,9,12,168,76,131,0.102,0.865,0.033,-0.7141,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,5,7,1,2,7,3,0,10,0,13,4,0,1,0,19,25,11,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,1,4,8,0,1,0,0,0,6,3,4,3,0,8,1,21,3,14,15,0,17,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,3,3,76,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586431836671946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340385759972084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169469997532744,0.32292997264178913,0.0,0.0,0.20881987102649754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347339463540008,0.0,0.0,0.40023392702229466,0.18998883088585705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168352019707046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044153525351108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171032689331475,0.0,0.14405116839376478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5429542764965128,0.0,0.12859367905223604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635852559110834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558049221291452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788922117753946,0.0,0.0,0.1345480000419626,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skipNdownrabbithole,2020/03/12,"Grounding from sports How do parents feel about grounding a child from sports? Grounding from practices and/or games. 

My youngest daughter is 13 years old and is becoming very disrespectful and is starting to lie a lot and some of the lies are pretty disturbing. 

Her father and I are divorced and taking away her phone would and has resulted in the police being called. My ex says since he pays for the phone it’s his property and I am not allowed to take it from her. My ex is a narcissist and this is a battle I will not win. She is his golden child. 

I am trying to find a way to discipline her and since the phone is not an option I was considering sports practices or games? I know it will affect the team but I’m kinda lost for how else to discipline her. 

What are your thoughts?",2.4365909090909104,4.9118628376623406,3.105308441558442,89.94224837662338,79.71428571428572,6.1876623376623385,23.26136363636364,7.413659706084162,1.0007935064935063,623,21,124,9,16,195,90,154,0.07400000000000001,0.912,0.013999999999999999,-0.7806,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,3,3,4,1,1,11,0,19,0,0,5,0,30,27,13,0,1,5,5,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,5,9,0,2,4,6,1,0,3,3,0,0,3,2,18,1,15,20,2,9,0,1,0,0,26,5,0,5,3,86,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210229696190182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24712511726691444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284837718717105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869225992185052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131396772314242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20451240186179895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229725333010496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442602522130317,0.1902325787570528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347982678274544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484587757841942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276441579329766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794277263937971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701928347861338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583783368958779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33647904208650825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764028560877515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191821504162933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462526758874692,0.0,0.1776101126998287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895254070375406,0.0,0.0,0.1440939738281812
parenting,TaiDollWave,2020/03/12,"Hug a Youth Leader Today This is my first year doing Girl Scouts. I have a split level troop, Daisy (5-6) and Brownie (7-8). One troop could be up to twelve girls, and we have FOUR that are active. More than that have signed up, but they don't come to meetings. This is way more difficult than I thought.  


We hosted a discovery night, which is just a meeting to talk to kids and parents about what Scouts if about and what we do. I have one night a week that I can do this. I told them at the meeting what night of a week I could do it, so that's when meetings would be. I had one woman stomp up to me with her arms crossed.  


""Um, my granddaughters do a choir on that night."" Okay, cool. Probably a badge in it somehow. ""And it goes during the time you want to do the meetings sooooo."" Okay? ""So you need to change the night.""  


Or, here's an idea--YOU become a leader and have it whatever night you want! I politely told her I was sorry to hear it, but I had one night. She stormed over to the staff member from council and repeated it--I HAD to change the night. The response she got was that they'd put her girls in a troop in another school. That wasn't good enough, so they left in a giant huff. That same meeting I had two adults volunteer for coleader. They promptly disappeared and didn't return calls or emails.  


I finally got a coleader. She's a nice lady, I do like her. She is quitting because we're not allowed to take the girls out into the wilderness without parents at this age, and we have to have real plans on how to do things. Like, we have to submit them to council and get approval. I see the reason for this, it's liability. She's mad none of the parents want to communicate or pay dues or anything. I get it, I get mad about it too. I had parents get pissed at me when I said that girls who didn't come weren't earning badges, and I wasn't handing out badges that weren't earned.   


What really, REALLY pissed me off about my coleader quitting was when she said ""(Her granddaughter) doesn't want to do it anymore. She said it's boring. She only wants to camp.""  


Oh, word? Well, we can't camp in winter time anyway. Also, this kid cannot stand in a line, cries when it isn't her turn at a game, and can't listen to instructions. A lot of kids this age can't. That's part of why we can't take them camping without parents. It is a safety issue, you know?   


For that matter, her granddaughter is what I call a 'What Else?' kid. We lay out a craft/activity, and she starts tearing it apart without hearing instructions. Then she does things wrong and rushes and goes ""What else do you have for me? I can't be bored!"" Then she's upset when we can't fix the stuff she ruined. She isn't the only Scout I have that way, but when I tell the other ones to pull out notebooks and draw, or start in a small game, or help pick up the room, or anything, they get to it. That isn't good enough for her.  


Then when I explained to some of the parents that the cookie money doesn't ALL go into our troop. A lot of it does go to council. Because council gives scholarships to memberships, uniforms, trips, and everything else. Everyone wants a grant, but no one wants their cookie money to go towards it. Where do they think this money comes from, the sky?  


If your kids are in Scouts or another group--hug the leaders. They're trying so damn hard.",1.7851735088365253,3.7694307010309287,2.7806459407216515,94.02318540592786,79.25036818851251,5.716504050073638,21.21320416053019,6.699566421736803,0.2512144513991164,2582,72,568,25,64,819,269,679,0.1,0.8320000000000001,0.068,-0.9818,7,0,0,0,0,0,114.0,10,6,10,7,24,21,5,1,42,3,64,5,4,4,1,84,104,47,0,13,19,6,2,2,0,1,0,7,1,12,52,36,0,0,5,3,5,12,25,11,2,9,22,11,78,10,75,75,11,85,0,1,1,1,90,35,3,14,37,386,130,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048361885583695606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268267517709397,0.0,0.0,0.05997501180578664,0.0,0.0,0.09953164715661243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737300735075619,0.06678995517989085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350360053576827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794919470738972,0.15628173439051027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965688329143788,0.0,0.0664290163994432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584426934982734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155746403262246,0.0,0.0,0.12497381100602575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057786513762647575,0.054351086665935015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662474749045894,0.0,0.05144005721719591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797862054198286,0.058013190439205324,0.10310811489789973,0.10144722630841643,0.09673486386964976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05417377743282049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631958112557796,0.0,0.04053515959347867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826898444410635,0.0,0.06312025327217698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033235512757141955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657063322879789,0.0,0.0,0.0590901215889249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282747095444406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484149252203097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540139952498631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24587680449485355,0.09198802019158844,0.0,0.0,0.40290240058650456,0.06548859936998334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520234572157013,0.0,0.0,0.06079414107585465,0.0,0.1286453458536094,0.0,0.06883386073205112,0.07748374710222328,0.06217843629505961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257689908927096,0.0,0.0,0.061203991798098475,0.048190795031419084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769688123454635,0.08560912091599482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922947796111117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093944147999106,0.048607564434084136,0.052857870118251715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035388860823056,0.03874997813512796,0.0,0.048010444446803933,0.07052699047188808,0.0,0.0573232880290384,0.11557302752529515,0.0,0.04105859770895045,0.06577950208265594,0.05907534863297007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496883107709041,0.0960045793637756,0.09701889457859764,0.0,0.05437434389598742,0.0,0.05456933755725641,0.0,0.0,0.1748874064016412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04295974924259492,0.06611998724306196,0.0,0.03894395745812386
parenting,Complementcomplement,2020/03/12,"What the fuck do you do with a kindergartener when the entire school district is threatening to close (second largest in the US)!?!?!? Parents need to work. Period. This will cripple our economy. Our school district has a million students, figure at least 1.5 million parents who need to be productive.  This includes all the health care workers, myself included, needed to deal with an outbreak in the first place.

Online instruction and unsupervised minors at home may be fine for high schoolers, but our kid is 5. He can’t be left home alone with a tablet, obviously.

What the fuck are we supposed to do.

Any contingency plans from others undergoing school closures for COVID-19 would be very helpful.",6.496198347107438,9.063687421487604,5.7075123966942165,75.69399586776862,67.34710743801654,8.476363636363638,34.414049586776855,9.120678840339163,3.45018611570248,562,27,87,11,10,170,87,121,0.1,0.841,0.057999999999999996,-0.7562,3,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,1,0,4,1,4,2,0,10,0,15,3,0,0,2,15,21,3,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,7,2,15,14,2,11,0,0,0,2,13,8,2,1,3,62,13,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577532047594887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088472289655513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319324718090789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501625727811928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614813034579645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959483381979394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013776498812733,0.0,0.0,0.10728577086566143,0.1691136387880715,0.32110923488411885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390716062223727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560504613950153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554584469717401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672300775787474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4859719936445749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253413553369197,0.0,0.0,0.132067403700483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652659291768608,0.0,0.0,0.11370301387511515,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andieboo,2020/03/12,"Best guess I'm a father to a 13 year old son in the 8th grade. I remember exactly what it was like in the 8th grade, damn near like it was yesterday.  

So today I decided to just peek into his room just to ask what he was up to. He had his head phones on just one ear looking at his school laptop.  Probably listening for footsteps or whatever in the other ear.  So I asked him whatcha doing? His response,  ""oh just listing to music.""  So i asked him what song? He couldn't think fast enough to tell me a title and stalled.  ""Just a song.  Why do you want to know?""

He's not the defensive type at all so I'm thinking oh shit I struck a fucking chord. Now I'm probing just for fun. He won't tell me the name of the song. 

I'm obviously thinking probably inappropriate shit like what I use to sneak around to view.  I'm not the type to invade his privacy or want to embarrass him as I feel like its healthy and expected at his age. But it's his school laptop, and he's smart enough not to view that shit on there... Or is he?

Humor me, wtf could he have been looking at besides porn?",0.8150376811594207,2.83870284,2.7523285024154625,92.75365217391304,82.82222222222222,6.401932367149758,21.78260869565217,7.586124646067393,0.7597188405797097,829,27,190,14,23,277,118,225,0.10300000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.121,0.4915,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,0,1,13,15,6,1,12,0,12,8,6,1,3,37,33,12,0,5,13,2,1,4,0,1,0,6,1,0,10,5,0,1,7,3,0,0,5,7,0,1,5,11,21,8,29,25,4,21,0,0,4,2,29,14,5,4,11,111,31,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173099837064344,0.3695827428691858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382924390442248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105213673927081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723229307797672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663070337431813,0.09414192870964487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182624827435913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516785991412948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524181380262287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242151109208668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575194748674656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213199545200958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827840169999644,0.0,0.08929589790559385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841570363851265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927830841068734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266731890269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058033731948511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303588246130149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25331325487628303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490973646668906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381351796547975,0.0,0.0,0.15545166057071727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890876828254818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486044032575363
parenting,cuppycakepie,2020/03/12,"I think I have the annoying kid My son is 4 (just turned so). He is spunky, super sweet, outgoing, and I fear, annoying. He’s loud, he’s stubborn, he can be aggressive in his playfulness. He’s very friendly with adults but wants constant attention from someone when he’s with them. He hangs onto people, makes them play or do the same thing over and over and over again. I try so hard to redirect him when this happens but he just will not let up. As an introvert, this is very embarrassing and awkward for me and I don’t know how to handle this anymore. Any tips would be much appreciated!",2.162126436781609,4.556470155172416,3.438620689655174,87.6267816091954,80.20689655172413,7.314942528735633,24.32183908045977,8.344100000000001,1.632128735632184,462,17,95,10,12,150,80,116,0.139,0.7190000000000001,0.142,0.33,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,2,1,8,12,4,3,3,0,12,0,0,2,0,22,18,14,0,2,6,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,7,0,0,0,3,11,5,13,13,2,11,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,4,62,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181528025361467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505676434381464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273032230563925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843091300016207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19520200817004535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22342356379284525,0.0,0.2263308557810866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885356349712324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583586844175246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686503683371305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573181072169986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516040479459954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21407527712232133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16785394369620638,0.1618922683340247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715373746673271,0.27481803382980685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4169366219942488,0.14902352005844768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794801335807676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MisterYouAreSoSweet,2020/03/13,"Movies for 2nd grader I’m struggling parenting my child because we have so many arguments!

We have a great relationship where i take him to school every morning and we play basketball outside every weekend. And listen to music, dance, have fun whenever possible.

But i have to say the same things over and over again. Sit when you eat. Dont interrupt others when they’re talking. Clean up after yourself (toys). Be gentle with your baby sister. Dont speak so loud when i’m right next to you in a quiet room. The list goes on and on.

Are there any movies or tv shows he could watch, that will help him understand WHY i say the things i say, and WHY its important that he listens?!

Thank you",1.7467271118973893,4.467280090225568,2.632605042016809,90.12268907563028,86.44360902255639,5.8361786819991135,20.605484298982752,7.285733465282438,0.8187332153914197,544,17,105,9,17,171,94,133,0.040999999999999995,0.7829999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.9534,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,4,0,0,8,5,0,1,5,0,10,1,0,0,0,14,17,12,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,2,1,6,9,1,0,1,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,9,14,4,13,14,1,18,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,1,7,64,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148879942487916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029869461314568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348883667166122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960031878073048,0.0,0.0,0.17287231160523842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846859090743272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626181185272853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323987889569748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128311799434384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967429994880804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875927775079066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045944138917006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813830739720299,0.0,0.1442776056782663,0.0,0.4030541346529813,0.0,0.17098076555408348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17661738232151636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127025173248526,0.13579111973734626,0.0,0.15554131717121314,0.0,0.0,0.22447832217881025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587709216654432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30489211037404196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iyauhhi,2020/03/13,"My son said he loves his brother more than everyone else My son is 15 and my step son is 14 but they've known each other their entire lives and I have 2 daughters aged 17 and 13 and a step daughter aged 16.
We are a close family and everyone has a great relationship, but during a family night the boys said that they loved each other the most and they were the most important to each other. This upset the girls who said they didn't have favorites. It even made the 13 year old cry, the boys felt super bad and said they didn't think that was a secret.

The girls have been visibly upset with the boys since, the boys are sorry but unapologetic at the same time. They said how muched they love their sisters but they are still hurt.

I wasn't surprised by them saying this. While they are close with their sisters, the boys are a unit, they have a relationship 10x closer than any other two human beings on the planet. I thought we were all aware that the boys were closer to each other.",4.876369701726844,5.666180647959187,4.85938775510204,87.07682103610676,69.05102040816327,7.8675039246467815,22.729984301412873,7.882392219407189,0.8242288854003141,781,15,162,9,13,242,103,196,0.121,0.7559999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.5256,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,13,1,3,10,0,2,20,0,21,3,0,2,1,32,33,13,0,0,4,8,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,9,12,17,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,16,7,22,6,9,16,10,16,0,1,0,3,47,6,0,2,8,110,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875272971034616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897218424811593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336145589102264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902614486124956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620203666612082,0.0,0.0,0.24941988284352234,0.0,0.0,0.24607045800727004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253121201071324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389009357170882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397159437039496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524460949054592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533769019032525,0.12349374120930495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594143880139208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247680095573747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369505349719758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802423881369244,0.0,0.0,0.6207346540109079,0.10378849100057227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796098973781544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146097653993678,0.0,0.0,0.10422716248759263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362690857550921,0.0,0.1036120597132094,0.07610267757740655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749139527171008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404553825971571
parenting,MateJoe,2020/03/13,"Childcare Woes I (31) am the proud father of three beautiful children, ages 4.5, 1.5 and 5 months. I work full time and then some. My wife has largely taken the last two years off teaching. Now she is highly motivated to return to work. The trouble? Daycare.  Again. My son is teething.  He gets a bit of a fever sometimes.  Weve had issues in every daycare with this woe where they say he is warm. Wife takes off work, or I do. Get him home or to the doctor...and he will be fine. This happens everywhere. I feel like there is no hope for my wife resuming her career as a result. That means that I'll be working extra forever and that theres no hope of us buying a house or tackling the frozen student loan debt of my spouse.. no family in the area to help either.",1.4832107843137263,3.7406061895424862,2.7929697712418293,92.07023897058822,81.87581699346406,5.393627450980394,21.327205882352946,6.6274283507984215,0.3797323529411765,589,18,123,6,16,190,107,153,0.10800000000000001,0.743,0.15,0.7931,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,1,6,5,9,0,0,10,0,12,2,1,2,0,15,21,8,0,2,4,6,2,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,3,0,3,3,0,2,3,3,14,6,15,15,5,17,0,2,0,0,18,8,0,6,10,76,19,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931299065027928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106551142560798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904659210813326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676637348111026,0.0,0.08944638282258162,0.12637799945940095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848467810495515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643283356024293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857290791118735,0.18690545593089336,0.1774459717730049,0.3514049099436594,0.0,0.2041198246865529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846385225476392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419779982394204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642481756444924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269688114320227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120056724361993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067865271930302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495945966387635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300742032648324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315230568158112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280642147528089,0.0,0.2127899360576196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5151436899692551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391834465904555
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parenting,yellowpad34,2020/03/13,Child just diagnosed with autism My youngest was just diagnosed with autism and I’m so overwhelmed with everything. We go back to the dr next week to discuss next steps but I’m so worried I’m not going to be a good advocate for him. Our home life has been crazy and unstable lately and my husband and I are going thru a divorce. I feel like I missed a ton of signs.,1.4695,3.778643333333335,2.6982500000000016,92.415375,82.33333333333334,6.416666666666668,24.041666666666664,7.645422480735847,1.1815666666666664,290,11,62,5,8,93,52,75,0.161,0.7340000000000001,0.105,-0.6748,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,2,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,4,0,5,4,0,0,0,14,13,7,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,8,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,2,1,8,2,9,10,1,9,0,2,0,0,7,0,0,0,6,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589162869951488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643449461425206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558224207011105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566089953685653,0.16341625717985409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900050346117249,0.191861373117216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294509857952134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580355605432237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615701329168107,0.11175378843032806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4865481377920903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348632101161613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323027647868796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dementedpixie,2020/03/13,"Schools closed for 3 weeks. What to do about daycare? I need some input, since I am at a lose. All schools in my state have been ordered to close until April 6 by the governor. I'm a teacher, so will also be home for 3 weeks. My youngest goes to a private, in home daycare. My oldest goes in the summer when I'm teaching summer school. We have been clients for 7 years. We do not have any kind of written contract.

She is keeping the daycare open. It is very small-Tue/Thur, my child is the only one there unless her grandchild shows up. Mon/Wed/Fri there are two additional children.

I feel like I should send my kids M/W/F, so they have a chance to socialize and play while still limiting exposure to the public. She would charge me the 1-child rate, since it is half time care. My husband says they should stay home and we do not pay her, because this is government ordered. I have no clue what to do.

So, what do you guys think? Do in home daycares typically get paid even if care is not needed for a week?",2.0165092879256967,4.0117695931372594,2.8267801857585155,93.91945820433435,78.55882352941177,5.667285861713108,24.46233230134159,6.5966054737557815,0.6233372549019611,783,28,171,7,19,246,129,204,0.025,0.8959999999999999,0.079,0.8591,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,1,2,2,10,6,0,0,11,0,26,0,0,0,1,25,38,11,0,6,5,1,1,1,0,4,0,1,4,4,6,9,0,2,2,2,2,1,4,1,0,3,4,2,22,5,21,29,2,27,0,1,0,0,19,9,0,2,14,108,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755402374385653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145986916842663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819856999056097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742492055734429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883137477873272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800371465647764,0.09608184414947528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026705472593248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316924001333502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5396298810798364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954358047058534,0.0,0.1400537895087859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570649865795562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046329333057565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944974821455008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113595465219876,0.10228800623079866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695425187575047,0.0,0.40834236553986253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225080406865141,0.0,0.0,0.13709870219040504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335167010662264,0.1074063037387381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617770002384996,0.0,0.0,0.07842396461846705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313801431201669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109708311240772,0.0,0.0,0.3236465772116351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553998638187708,0.0,0.0,0.08660909876811959
parenting,jaejae_fah,2020/03/13,"Correcting grammar in kids? I always figured my kids would figure this out on their own, and the younger one has (2016). But the older one (2014)... Gah! Me is hungry! Me likes chocolate. And we're bilingual and he screws it up constantly in two languages in the same way! He can't have ever heard it the way he uses... We just keep using it correctly and correcting gently but it's been like two years! Any tips? Advice? Sympathy?",0.7936022514071297,3.3147556585365905,2.123658536585367,91.07171669793621,96.07317073170731,4.962101313320827,19.72232645403377,6.67199483983844,0.5870851782363977,332,11,63,5,13,106,61,82,0.017,0.8390000000000001,0.14400000000000002,0.9007,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,4,0,6,1,0,2,4,20,10,6,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,2,1,6,2,6,7,2,12,0,0,0,1,8,6,1,0,6,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308555595195132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19657449246951053,0.0,0.0,0.16065447829797405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552965632336809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21369683130351305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998511947362053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23083442735394824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3201710079395402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4615534341693544,0.0,0.0,0.4080790900683679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37504004907898897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782143696827742,0.0,0.0,0.15213382333651249
parenting,Cruise25111,2020/03/13,"Do I deserve this as a husband and father? My gf has not spoken to me for five days. I am trying to work out if I am in the wrong and don’t realise it or am being abused. This kind of thing happens all the time and need opinions. What does everyone think of the below? Is she justified to blanking me for 5 days and treating me like dirt/acting like I am not around?

I went to the hospital Monday to have blood tests - when I was there my gf asked me to ask for our daughter results as she had had tests the week earlier but I forgot. I should add I work and my wife is on maternity leave. The next day the following conversation happened -

Me - I tried to get through to get the results but couldn’t. Maybe you can try? (I was at work).

Her - they don’t pick up they call you.

Me - if you want Sarah’s results then can you call them please I didn’t leave them a message. Enjoy the rest of your day.

Her - I just said they call you

Me - (I had been told at my appointment they will call and turned out I was right I should call) I got that, I didn’t leave an answer phone message so they don’t know i have called.

Her - they don’t have to. They call you with the results and will leave a message. It’s not the other way around.

Me - she told me yesterday I should call which is why she gave me the number.

Her - they call you Chris

Me - what makes you right? I’m guessing they haven’t called you yet with Sarah’s results?

Her - Did Sarah go for a test no. You did. They will call the person who went gir their test. If soo important why not ask the questions yesterday Chris. Bad day at work don’t take it out on me. Stop messaging me.

Me - I am far less negative than you these days Jess. If you don’t want me getting annoyed with you then don’t be so blunt/standoffish

End of conversation.

Is she right to cut me off for five days? We live together and it has been very painful. Am I being a douchebag and is it justified?",-0.03832500000000039,2.212135817500002,1.4540000000000006,98.887,89.575,4.9,18.25,6.4601748715692375,-0.2304999999999997,1477,41,348,17,50,472,174,400,0.10400000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.057,-0.966,0,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,2,14,13,4,8,10,2,0,20,0,49,2,1,7,1,54,77,23,0,11,12,4,0,2,2,6,1,1,0,1,15,19,0,2,4,0,0,4,17,5,0,2,20,1,81,5,40,47,3,42,0,0,0,0,73,18,0,8,21,240,96,8,0.0,0.07695073307508125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563193430640085,0.18214804100209367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422743900411111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7294916541851201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931948874173657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683493569055111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05752313550177768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205896292082212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179526726356736,0.0,0.03691047306508802,0.0,0.05194348074617541,0.0,0.07154566009913574,0.0,0.11486357880218885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763156640965012,0.03569278226960968,0.0,0.0,0.27507497271185066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345895306534838,0.0,0.05734876358421926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04335215262135773,0.0,0.06524727727355396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04815685080379113,0.0,0.0,0.0690711157846568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910743118374825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05670859497982725,0.0,0.07129152297138837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275470800385289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639132936278406,0.06177879395621365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05429800620437704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883152711052617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04314742894998256,0.04161495995671214,0.0,0.0,0.03787070374749967,0.0,0.0,0.12411792584164424,0.0,0.13228280234727027,0.07064291328362449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053587490642167036,0.07661400860781199,0.05155134168014831,0.052095996013901816,0.0,0.0,0.12041172224855964,0.11720784922203074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18912668932908766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100857223359193,0.0,0.0
parenting,incessant_penguin,2020/03/13,"Uh so I have like maybe 50 staff who I’ll need to send home for an extended period pretty soon who have kids. Working from home is fine, but can anyone direct me to like crash courses for managing kids full time while you’re expected to work full time? We do a particular type of business service that everyone relies on. Like everyone. We can’t just halve everyone’s hours while they get used to wfh with kids too. I would really love to give some direction (I.e. not coaching) - looking for some informative how-to stuff for wfh with young kids around (say 2y to 16y). Please help reddit.",6.1483312262958325,6.718304920353982,6.160581542351454,79.64646017699117,66.16814159292035,10.350948166877373,29.417193426042985,10.290406445055957,2.796032616940581,468,15,91,11,7,148,85,113,0.027999999999999997,0.77,0.201,0.9661,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,1,2,5,5,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,1,0,15,13,4,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,4,4,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,6,5,16,12,4,13,0,0,1,1,15,4,0,2,11,47,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622345013632255,0.0,0.0,0.16070065084459687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5174824303651607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431400186738567,0.17317077882580234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099843334744627,0.0,0.3621516072529921,0.0,0.17777537059957585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645781665944259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159093715876626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292592051517518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813561277270371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385294145973647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19815623097417054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365325627457912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156454310687736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355637290446438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665166879233546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105247750691385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591091085423636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26284073037067457,0.0,0.0,0.12823589218554346,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashenrenee,2020/03/13,"How to deal with guilt I am a first-time mom of a beautiful little girl who will be turning two in April. My daughter is going through a phase where she will not eat anything but fruit pouches and junk food. I've spoken to my mom, to my daughter's doctor, to her developmental therapist, her physical therapist, everyone says that this is normal. Fine. I get that all I can do is offer her food, I can't MAKE her eat, but I feel SO guilty. I feel like she's going to starve or that she's missing vital nutrition. I give her vitamins per her doctor's instructions but I still feel awful. She can't have things like pediasure because she's lactose intolerant so even that option is out for us, the doctor tried to prescribe a lactose free pediasure but it's unavailable in my area apparently. How do parents deal with this? I don't even mean how to get her to eat, how do I stop feeling guilty? I feel like I'm failing her.",4.8382792792792815,5.4498123189189185,5.858175675675678,80.52113738738741,69.05405405405406,9.193693693693694,30.5518018018018,9.2995712137729,2.5493693693693693,729,28,146,14,12,242,101,185,0.152,0.711,0.138,-0.5765,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,10,9,0,1,5,1,16,10,0,5,1,25,31,12,0,1,6,5,5,3,0,2,4,1,0,1,9,4,6,1,6,0,1,2,4,3,0,1,0,7,29,7,16,28,1,11,0,2,0,0,26,6,0,2,6,94,38,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875841247181882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315728433168578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247451103016546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685074831396503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36840209351495545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853160123641594,0.0,0.0,0.1146751716567135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034045628970938,0.17147104433208435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208086640495817,0.2902343357363512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540106159131387,0.11512500302916145,0.1364094607919818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589319882468993,0.12028204466225903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801079378313978,0.0,0.0,0.13072661218923304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811096844169545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758480522564504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332574532814964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954371631146085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958405369555506,0.10033414818820734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786828708226017,0.0797296407885179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147924894028273,0.13053695752965774,0.11723281617215275,0.0,0.1443578499233922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dbcooper000,2020/03/13,"Desperate for advice: Is it wrong for me to want to keep my sons mother far away from us? My son is XX months. My ex (never married) has some pre-existing mental health issues (which i never knew about until she was pregnant). Up until she got pregnant things were mostly fine. Then all of her issues came forth and her whole personality changed. I tried so hard to ignore it and see if i could get her some help dealing with whatever she needed that i couldnt help. She became abusive, and violent. She was constantly convinced by her mother that no one loved her, and she was being used. Her mother kicked her out and essentially disowned her. I took her into my home worked 2 jobs so she could stay home and just relax and focus on having our kid. During this time she constantly wanted to kill herself, kill our kid for ""ruining her life"", she became abusive towards me emotionally and physically saying things like she cheated on me, she doesnt care about how i feel and shell get rid of the kid if she chooses to. Going forward she has the kid and things seem to be getting better (so i thought) once she comes home with our kid i continue to work 2 jobs to support our house and my parents offered A LOT of help so she's not alone in taking care of a newborn. A few weeks goes by all while shes still talking a lot of crap about me and this kid. One day she's texing me while im working saying she's going to kill herself and our kid (i told my mom out of fear who was home with her) when i get home she tells me she wants nothing to do with our kid and goes into a psychotic episode screaming yelling and lunging at me and my parents. I had to call the cops and she told them everything. (Later Child services got involved) since then its been 2 years since then and she is still not in his life, still threatening to kill him and me, and ive been in and out of court attempting to keep my kid safe. She's dating a drug addict who has access to weapons. She has failed all drug and alcohol rehab (she became an alcoholic and drug user) and emotional/mental rehabilitation.

I mean i havent even talked about the shit im going through after all of this. I feel like a failure, i feel anxiety and fear constantly, i get depressed. 

TL;DR: Ex became abusive during pregnancy, threatened to kill our kid during and post-birth, has become an addict and i fear she will harm my kid if i dont keep her away.",4.21812599778951,5.323852726513568,4.956186294977282,84.6218712391011,70.79540709812109,7.555962176102173,26.61433132752057,7.827709963407826,1.4538097261451548,1892,60,378,23,34,611,221,479,0.191,0.733,0.075,-0.9964,4,1,5,0,1,0,52.0,8,0,1,6,15,31,10,3,13,0,29,15,3,2,6,77,65,43,5,10,6,10,4,2,0,1,11,4,5,14,14,38,2,5,8,1,0,7,9,20,0,2,16,9,87,11,56,43,11,49,0,3,1,1,92,17,2,9,28,261,101,7,0.0,0.22597722257468675,0.0,0.13861182956871956,0.0,0.06212455768957665,0.0,0.13588425136786275,0.0,0.06584431849529322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048634547140022716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946123262569973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021337055724408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622674326818608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649169777567286,0.07271263341205668,0.12963748901598146,0.0,0.06725370750956694,0.05476405994751274,0.0,0.20610531672148275,0.0,0.10151860757258484,0.0,0.0,0.041000485873046506,0.0655428260969528,0.05475688112807317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745091908202921,0.0,0.22117974915353555,0.0,0.0,0.07151309181879995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041990555079542746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713692991686808,0.0,0.0,0.21461797079694514,0.09643598558535343,0.045417849030841485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607604233841652,0.0,0.10839306987534596,0.0,0.1016931486836698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695053244356,0.0,0.0,0.06757703832990572,0.0,0.0,0.12783854279292226,0.0,0.3188535343015271,0.0,0.0,0.07335678220475317,0.0,0.0,0.137343384585889,0.1327111455825865,0.1261763562945804,0.16952460702063704,0.3516804779160379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980952117429046,0.06211887090238609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080980411222434,0.05737873812533144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925159358364044,0.0,0.0,0.06406844433022199,0.0,0.0,0.07445803609401473,0.05074479793613208,0.0,0.0,0.04713990782460046,0.09806560833411604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100173415807913,0.0,0.0,0.06770508596233228,0.0861598581150419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118458119732727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055511062197638704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060887083640356915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111446356800508,0.0,0.0,0.050660883659463404,0.05787610920824453,0.0,0.0,0.06525861746758449,0.1051794612135744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776227672204957,0.1523127495526954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214392838647675,0.0,0.0,0.04780033678496818,0.10219803035660743,0.05556717640374904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267088144026157,0.0,0.0,0.05047128894580185,0.03707097648854863,0.0,0.0,0.1214968895577178,0.07063394078853108,0.043163115287840836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647265530779428,0.05490821409202276,0.0,0.0,0.1124941906571188,0.0,0.0509958688979046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097899257525953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884963229535727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950906244858703,0.0,0.04094008610438581
parenting,Love34787,2020/03/13,"Whats the best, Undefeated phone parental controls? Need to make my kid's phone Valley Forge. He is a smart kid and knows how to get around Screen time and Our Pact on IOS. Looking for suggestions on the very best and undedefeatable parent controls. Does Android do it better?",4.17235294117647,6.893127803921572,3.6585882352941184,86.99964705882354,74.88235294117645,6.432941176470589,25.88627450980392,7.554174236665415,1.3743615686274513,222,8,41,3,5,66,42,51,0.0,0.754,0.24600000000000002,0.9367,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,5,2,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,0,10,7,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,6,7,2,4,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,0,1,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990289746488759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692559230686271,0.1977337440120104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5015163034393407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565181612808188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680860648691688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287086435243963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774652517087706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923791661544114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577788299208426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4965067192983064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036826515629718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844726265368087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,matthewfaraci,2020/03/13,Stuck at Home? Family-friendly streaming options for kids.... # New generation of innovators aim to make streaming TV safer for families [https://angelusnews.com/arts-culture/keeping-kids-safe-in-the-digital-world-of-streaming-tv/](https://angelusnews.com/arts-culture/keeping-kids-safe-in-the-digital-world-of-streaming-tv/),45.39348484848485,59.00802350000001,21.597272727272724,-46.71742424242422,-4.181818181818187,12.024242424242425,43.6969696969697,10.504223727775694,7.532951515151515,295,8,13,5,3,64,20,22,0.084,0.7979999999999999,0.11800000000000001,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791987724593506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927267020360126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.509886316266943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393074875362059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4909385372599741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RobbertvanderVelden,2020/03/13,"My wife just basically sent me to my room. My son has been driving me crazy lately.  
He's 4 years old and has been testing me to no end.  
I have to tell him numerous times to drink his drink, eat his food, put on shoes, (which will take him about 10 minutes AND he'll end up having them on the wrong feet.) grab his coat when going out, leave the cat alone, etc etc.

I tell him not to climb onto the couch, the kitchen, the table and NOT jump off it, which he'll then proceed to do anyway.

I've been grumpy pretty much all day about this, and I've been sniffy all day. My wife has been working from home today, been in the bedroom most of the day so she didn't see our interactions.

Just now, my son knocked over a bowl of eggs a few minutes after peeing his pants. (he's been potty trained for almost two years now) I kinda lost it at the pants part and gave him a different pair of pants with a hole in it since he'll be in bed in about two hours. He didn't want the one with the hole, but I told him tough luck, shouldnt have peed your pants. My wife  came to help him out and got him a different pair. 

She told me Ive been grumpy all day and that I should lighten up. I tried explaining what was going on but feel like she doesn't get it. She then told me I havent done anything in the house all day and that I should just go upstairs and stay there for a while.

Which I did. I have some games to play and some Reddit to browse.  


So. what can I do about this? I feel I'm going to snap one of these days. I don't want to argue with my wife over this, I want to be on the same page when it comes to parenting but we're not.",2.2957102272727252,2.9278670142045486,3.1426772727272727,97.60914090909093,74.88068181818181,6.427454545454546,19.76181818181818,6.152001189255117,-0.3532387727272729,1247,20,318,7,25,395,171,352,0.045,0.899,0.055999999999999994,0.8903,3,1,2,0,0,0,39.0,1,1,1,3,15,7,1,0,18,0,33,9,3,0,4,46,59,20,0,6,9,7,3,1,0,7,0,0,6,0,16,17,6,0,3,4,0,11,10,4,0,4,21,4,45,3,46,29,14,55,0,1,1,0,43,19,0,6,25,205,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608414035683562,0.10972244181805924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871800316411367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116774645579435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125838825017543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4099372758521985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213706166235493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841394665404992,0.0,0.207562780002776,0.0,0.10840361296971247,0.0,0.0,0.18766373419915308,0.0,0.2363033960087019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713343291532458,0.07568393768315987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281037125827616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534955576813523,0.0,0.2408337843905472,0.0,0.08473032180093731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710097058954022,0.0,0.10626699209707134,0.0,0.10433008455136696,0.12224115081389195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950553525833728,0.11217572745630483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051757192983004366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564660596838296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787848116146047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116676788583034,0.0,0.14357609335353216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763442427563554,0.11472327301537225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777960799990828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649949627075224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442088834398509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763510335585137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291851195370475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965409608039642,0.0,0.185193390083915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177477653131424,0.0,0.10041923763769547,0.3036921567467845,0.0,0.07192666754072095,0.0,0.20697701324804646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874594129200033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712596950474576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582934161416095,0.0,0.1364444592417162
parenting,lanzemurdok,2020/03/13,"The ever growing concern of how much screen time for my toddler. What's the verdict on how much screen time for a toddler this age? I try to limit it to ipad/phone use twice a day.  2 hours after she wakes up for about 45 minutes, and then 45 minutes at night 2 hours before she sleeps. I'm concerned it's too much but at this point she knows where we keep the ipad and she asks for it. It also doesn't help that her grandparents show her youtube videos as well. It's increasingly tougher to keep her away from it. The part that makes me feel guilty is how much calmer and less ""bored"" she acts when she uses it.. but i don't want to rely on that to keep her entertained. The issue is she has a much smaller attention span playing around with toys and books than with the ipad. So.. tldr: 2 hours average screen time divided into two parts in the day.. is that bad?",2.9196347402597382,4.396227278409093,3.325357142857144,93.61250000000004,74.51136363636364,6.392207792207793,22.798701298701296,6.868970318607317,0.4261474025974019,675,18,150,6,14,209,106,176,0.071,0.836,0.09300000000000001,0.2593,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,12,5,0,0,10,0,6,2,2,6,1,26,17,14,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,4,3,6,0,3,2,2,1,2,0,4,16,3,26,17,9,29,0,0,3,0,14,12,0,0,14,99,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776846602625173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996602019195513,0.12598351078852246,0.0,0.12661256358195686,0.0,0.1125199553487898,0.0,0.0,0.11467183755852535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738196236684551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189920147909428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813930113920208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032757752917794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981378467397431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065565865000754,0.0,0.35934578295133224,0.0,0.0,0.07406121957826707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995413330987807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4953248613174389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646423736376985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918664485939818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273928726612353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348585017464075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357409812976521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149399447267037,0.0,0.13164209015637632,0.0,0.0,0.2327807806798849,0.0,0.0,0.07948563481846574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116648393936888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sphyrci,2020/03/13,"Spoiled 5yo I have 2 daughters (5yo and 7yo) and am 7mo pregnant. I am going crazy from the 5yo. If I don't help her (she wants me to do everything for her) with something that she is perfectly capable of doing, she throws tantrums. She demands I play with her constantly and I want her to play on her own (because she's a kid, has hundreds of toys to choose from, and needs to learn some independence). Once she starts throwing tantrums, everything is wrong for her. She screams at her sister for little things. (Like I'm still trying to figure out who gets their way when the 7yo wants to sing and the 5yo is annoyed by it. Tell the 7yo to stop, but then she'll never get to sing, or tell the 5yo to ignore it, which she claims she can't do and it gives the 7yo power to annoy the 5yo?) She refuses to try to do anything except sit there and whine.

There's a calm-down corner I tell her to go to when she is like that, which works until she comes out and demands the same thing that I told her ""no"" to before. And I tell her ""no"" again. And she tantrums again.

I know I've babied her and she's spoiled. I'm trying to change that. Any ideas on how to stop the tantrums and crabby attitude while getting her to be more independent? Because if I have to spend all summer listening to her screeching and whining, all while taking care of a newborn and not being able to get out much, I'm never going to make it.",4.512431281455669,4.777125634146343,4.854117305458769,88.65975125822689,69.66202090592334,7.771506000774294,27.094270228416573,7.3871296695380915,1.1767647696476966,1095,32,240,10,18,346,141,287,0.124,0.82,0.055999999999999994,-0.9496,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,1,3,8,17,6,0,12,0,18,0,0,4,5,50,41,25,0,6,6,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,2,13,20,0,4,5,5,1,6,7,11,0,0,1,2,40,6,41,37,7,32,0,2,0,0,43,8,0,4,18,164,53,2,0.1307354895574999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890461601006222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758416852018864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593902819826178,0.0,0.11124627248963763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329354466750434,0.0,0.1383008130445447,0.11261704814242095,0.0,0.1412786195781085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349932562825013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27321558954180697,0.12541339433044071,0.222899974548199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876292428645461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758445453193586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184880603237745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774151298628422,0.13103130598205948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872669544573449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610562744298694,0.096938708963513,0.2016625382680476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922902963393274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064656701949257,0.0,0.0,0.09253525240067033,0.0,0.10440553083853583,0.21860144643556112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829681791481544,0.0,0.4570743210928516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370970018566645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492336281851342,0.0,0.2662824471198693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313335369422481,0.103771746374601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517699345002564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293873463014853,0.0,0.0
parenting,eggGreen,2020/03/13,"2YO naps fine at daycare but not at home I have a 2 year old daughter who naps just fine at daycare -- she goes down with very little if any fuss, and naps for 2-3 hours.

At home, the moment she gets an inkling that we want her to go upstairs and take a nap, she starts freaking out. Every step she fights tooth and nail... going upstairs, going to her room, turning out the light all cause her to bawl and scream and kick and generally be excruciating.

Usually she'll tire herself out and pass out after an hour to an hour and a half of tantrum, but some days she just keeps going for a full 2 1/2 hours until we give up and let her go back down and play. And then of course she's tired and cranky for the rest of the day.

We're keeping her home from daycare full time starting on Monday due to the [Thing Which the Automod Says Must Not Be Named], so this issue just went from annoying to urgent. Any tips? I would really appreciate not having a couple of hours of screaming in the middle of every day when we're already trying not to go stir-crazy!",8.535727699530518,5.585075342723004,8.0437558685446,79.54572769953052,63.17840375586854,10.781220657276995,33.52582159624413,8.167268648758528,2.2793906103286385,820,21,177,7,9,260,126,213,0.13699999999999998,0.8009999999999999,0.062,-0.9690000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,2,0,0,0,6,9,3,0,15,0,8,3,1,1,2,39,24,19,0,4,10,1,0,0,0,3,2,3,4,0,5,19,0,2,0,5,0,9,4,6,0,1,1,4,17,3,34,17,5,49,0,0,0,0,21,18,0,2,22,110,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232266840221985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075982727004375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523467329332053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387063362589415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265034533636295,0.0,0.21446186852785265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18678713454305246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057913099644545066,0.10633475805388552,0.3779821922585019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33356641169937523,0.0,0.5458109372962262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569570315272693,0.0,0.1970522121543732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334879697256235,0.0,0.0,0.11109803935595283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163155153892034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710115702898431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815016184251928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569164717694302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334331756382189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364197037912562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463590789715268,0.2548051560871961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525798909453789,0.12056994945303495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208255718489085,0.09146056890520084,0.06538056484272682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275648745383142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874268777811932,0.0,0.0,0.07138197817804996
parenting,clownstatue,2020/03/13,"My 11 year old is always calling from school with an upset stomach. Good day r/parenting. My 11 year old son who is in grade 6 regularly calls me from school with an upset stomach. It’s primarily on a Friday (my day off) and happens every two weeks or so, sometimes more. Usually I’ll go get him and take him home where he will make a very speedy recovery, eat everything in the fridge and want to hang out with friends when they finish the school day. 

We’ve had talks about bullying,teachers, social anxiety etc. And he always denies these things being the source of his troubles. Anyway he just called from the school saying his stomach was upset and wanted to come home, I said I wasn’t able to pick him up. Am I being a bad dad making him tough it out? Should his teacher or some other school administrator be getting ahold of me? At a little bit of a loss on this one. Thanks in advance for any advice.",4.2683025354533735,5.5369547988826815,5.007932960893856,83.68269445638163,70.84357541899442,7.518865492049849,25.50107434464977,7.882392219407189,1.3641986248388491,715,21,140,9,13,231,122,179,0.12300000000000001,0.821,0.055,-0.8884,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,2,6,10,0,3,11,0,11,4,3,3,0,21,23,9,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,7,11,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,7,0,2,4,2,16,3,24,14,4,27,0,1,0,0,22,12,0,3,11,86,23,6,0.11184040926333574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928915353987743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612035971096394,0.0,0.0,0.0760553134701186,0.0,0.08555760696579005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338207015786952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210076050352192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426046870957578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963406095537476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21638343494592488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444065966517401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473162000565567,0.0,0.0,0.09423036844165886,0.0,0.1005149483346666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640762276472272,0.0,0.11686399559486073,0.0,0.06356148194759659,0.09380642905780888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989001045529441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437009880142064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209347161160506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930868327657454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347153918800507,0.0,0.0757859557693781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241855390668387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638584040545128,0.08893998239153787,0.0,0.5659423252448962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400721284912227,0.0,0.0,0.11061302451329902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409006905536069,0.08989308452646175,0.0,0.10296762261680953,0.0,0.0,0.07430179833927801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925182880321446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317641010955845,0.09228005051744463,0.13193274213720346,0.0,0.08971163020155637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404311346746956
parenting,Whoopwhoop765,2020/03/13,"Great Wolf Lodge is hell! I was hoping for a vacation. Nope. Just screaming kids everywhere. I don’t mind my kids but I struggle with others! 

We dished our well over a grand for a suite and it’s a shit hole. Chipped paint, AC doesn’t work. What did I pay for?",-0.9855555555555569,1.0452085925925942,0.2981481481481492,103.61166666666668,101.96296296296295,3.8814814814814818,15.25925925925926,5.82211442006289,-0.8608740740740743,200,5,48,2,9,62,44,54,0.20600000000000002,0.5710000000000001,0.223,-0.2828,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,2,8,2,1,4,0,5,2,1,0,0,7,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,2,1,7,4,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,29,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42572706959393397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.383529873602646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898971452939736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3963730791436732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036833952551782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471914173580376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811187162023232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_irish_kid123,2020/03/13,"Nobody Wants to Raise Their Kids Coronachan exposing a dark side of parenting:

[http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/2020/03/coronachan-exposing-neglectful-parents.html](http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/2020/03/coronachan-exposing-neglectful-parents.html)",67.995,84.98321135714286,36.22714285714285,-139.73214285714286,-64.57142857142857,14.171428571428573,42.57142857142857,13.023866798666859,7.2158,245,4,9,3,1,55,14,14,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.2732,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8831369224765365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691153122193648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slaughtermane,2020/03/13,"Update: My separated Wife just died Hello all!


I did randomly get a message about it recently so figured I should do an update.


A year on, my little girl is growing up way too fast! She has so far shown no adverse effects to the death of her mother (and is actually INCREDIBLY blunt on the matter, especially to her friends). She sees her maternal grandparents twice a week to maintain a relationship to her mother, which she enjoys. 
There is still quite a lot of strain between the two sides, but everyone is civil for her. 

The health service here has said that she doesn't need counselling as she's not showing any negative signs, although she might when she's older (but my partner does a great job at filling in as a second Dad).

I'm alright. It was a shock to the system at first but nothing really changed. After a bit of a cry and a chat with my loved ones, I realised I was just sad that my little girl wouldn't have her mum. So now she has two awesome dad's instead.


TL;DR: Everyone is fine.",4.482091836734694,5.695220576530616,5.523061224489798,80.40051020408163,70.27551020408163,8.253061224489796,30.3265306122449,8.634040054169528,2.3642183673469392,787,32,150,13,14,260,127,196,0.10099999999999999,0.754,0.145,0.9039,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,3,13,10,0,1,17,1,17,2,0,1,1,20,23,12,2,3,6,6,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,3,5,3,0,0,2,2,0,2,5,4,0,6,4,2,23,6,21,16,3,26,0,1,1,1,30,10,0,3,12,112,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.16421569702798894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443525887272253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371671220928615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801650862840726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848462055285621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464668062156724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726178879883775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32159494084693296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313774166992616,0.0,0.0,0.1300116747732889,0.0,0.08791865405993532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18552781599887247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887234581419334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699060357244971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373188500986451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306449846957792,0.15187806009240715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851706470435688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477649364990888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146791213785114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140299746551286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789850680383441,0.0,0.0,0.1078036181949304,0.0,0.1661548748101193,0.18066830360159886,0.0,0.0,0.1600715404581578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409630438299194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438755472381353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328767596660455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335717670577188,0.1349829901107769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836593938278274
parenting,PLUMBUM2,2020/03/13,"Any advise of weaning my 5yo from putting hands and objects in her mouth Ever since my daughter went to a new classroom 2 years ago she developed this strong social phobia that manifests in her putting things (hands, clothing, objects she is holding) In her mouth. My sense is telling me that she’s afraid to talk (she’s bilingual and her first language isn’t English) but this habit is so strong now I am at a loss what to do.",6.16397590361446,6.502966361445786,5.2430361445783165,87.0390120481928,66.10843373493978,7.60385542168675,34.672289156626505,6.742157984588678,2.071122409638555,340,15,67,2,5,101,58,83,0.055999999999999994,0.852,0.092,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,4,3,4,0,1,2,0,6,4,4,0,1,5,7,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,1,2,13,2,9,6,0,13,0,1,0,0,13,4,0,0,6,43,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495888031805003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914726426685475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546900494344602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23949752841151234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719355093601215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5660976024226002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329120025679809,0.0,0.0,0.28701824148122845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22630984827471926,0.2460986619234577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870580901443081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610119228762478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131748023534136
parenting,CarlSagansturtleneck,2020/03/13,"My daughter is horrible to my son. I've got a four year old daughter and 18 month old son.  Our daughter is increasingly becoming violent with our son and I don't know what we're supposed to do about it.  He just wants to play with her or otherwise get her attention.  She is constantly making mean faces at him, pushing him, slapping him on the head, and so on.  We have begged her not to do it.  We've tried discussing with her how her actions are hurting him.  She can be really sweet with him but when he is playing with a toy she wants or something else sets her off, she's a nightmare.

What the hell do we do?",2.22517818181818,4.033026776,3.473818181818181,90.3969090909091,77.24000000000002,7.105454545454546,26.56363636363637,8.00094639256281,1.5142000000000002,477,19,104,8,11,155,76,125,0.10099999999999999,0.852,0.047,-0.8361,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,5,0,13,2,2,2,0,22,20,9,0,2,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,10,0,0,3,3,0,3,2,3,0,1,1,1,22,3,14,18,1,14,1,1,0,0,28,4,1,2,6,70,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723585857825197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664950760755534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600890486966586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884222952029262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972345291177468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530904198924297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639984069134283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355290212115227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646124072873911,0.0,0.0,0.2686278402807735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968397371044415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5175461311008748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798306590454006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898504856198288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674302906193599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909109611930928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880713124453036
parenting,Tirux,2020/03/13,"What cartoon do you consider the worst to watch with your kid? I am sure your kid makes you watch cartoons together sometimes. Some might be ok, others a little entertaining, but there a few that you could consider unbearable. Which is it in your case?

For me it's PJ Masks. Boring characters and plot, no jokes, silly concept, etc.",3.883169398907104,6.5434137377049195,4.237295081967215,82.79124316939892,75.55737704918033,8.001092896174864,26.560109289617486,8.841846274778883,2.3348666666666658,262,10,47,6,6,82,52,61,0.125,0.738,0.13699999999999998,-0.4509,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,6,0,0,1,7,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,1,1,8,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,8,5,4,4,4,2,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,2,0,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31751287210758483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4435151813349893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39857701187586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26545260830932765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42187264778060457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933129035187947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37480603956909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brokenemochixx,2020/03/13,"So many questions: Ferber method?? I need SLEEP. sure, I’ll sacrifice a lot for my baby girl but I would like to SLEEP.
I would love to try the Ferber method but I cannot bring myself to let my baby girl cry without running into the room to make sure she’s okay. 
I bed share and maybe that’s contributed to her bad sleep habits. She’s 8 months and wakes up 1-2x a night just bc and I “nurse” her to sleep but I don’t think she’s actually hungry. 
Tips??? PLEASE",-0.820204081632653,1.3319004489795925,0.986938775510204,100.4544897959184,95.53061224489795,4.0244897959183685,13.122448979591837,5.773587663045528,-1.1543959183673471,356,6,85,3,14,115,64,98,0.086,0.685,0.23,0.9314,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,4,1,5,6,5,1,2,18,10,7,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,15,6,10,7,1,7,1,0,0,1,10,3,0,2,3,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.16245454722502514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899878280471234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828638015054574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023087834972267,0.0,0.08133075612768725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415301870861304,0.1502492266711985,0.0,0.1111226448639038,0.1687784418234325,0.16724544416818224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287790733278754,0.0,0.0,0.12343831404111914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622451153131653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182738390366654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864889074898252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6663766452985685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313799428780514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666977616278912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302487479861095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047493351264913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365166152990923,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grillmaster806,2020/03/13,"My ""old man"" mindset might ruin my relationship with my son I'm 40 now. I feel like I've lived through so much hardship and crap and came out the other side that I am a bit wiser, and much more knowledgeable. 

My confession, which I'm cringing to say, is I think anyone younger than 30 is completely stupid, and I invalidate their opinions, mostly on the inside. I keep it to myself, but I also am finding that I just shake my head and think I know better than they do because I've been there, done that. 

I dont know why I feel this way. I feel like I'm becoming one of those grumpy old men, but I'm proud of what I've lived through, and what I do in life now. But I'm very smug about my experience. 

I really dont want to be this way. And it makes me wonder about the older men I had in my life when I was younger, and if they felt the same way about me back then. It is a weird juxtaposition.

My oldest son is 21, and I'm bringing him on to hopefully one day run my company. I dont want to allow this attitude to smirch our relationship, as we work together everyday. But I get very annoyed at his, and his generation's optimism. Life is hard. Arguably my children have it much much easier than I did. And I'm proud of that. But I'm also smug in the strength I've gained from a very very hard life. And the success I've been blessed with after so many rough years. I know if shit hits the fan, I'll once again make it out the other side. I dont have faith in anyone younger doing the same. See, invalidation. And I really dont mean it. But I also cant help it. 

I dont want to feel this way about the younger generations, but I cant help it. Any advice?

Tl;dr: I have no respect for younger generations and it might ruin my relationship with my son.",2.7785376409017744,3.7422964048913054,4.4755555555555535,87.25092592592594,74.08152173913044,7.9518518518518535,24.77093397745572,8.401726058763845,1.2947708132045097,1359,41,311,23,27,460,166,368,0.13,0.7140000000000001,0.156,0.9603,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,0,3,7,16,21,4,1,13,0,30,7,3,3,0,60,62,31,0,6,10,3,8,2,0,2,4,1,0,4,23,21,0,1,15,0,0,4,9,10,0,2,8,10,48,11,35,50,9,33,3,2,1,0,22,11,2,8,16,196,71,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587357731123602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862774999846996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280111081105373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858206660942668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970404067183267,0.0,0.04733153529517962,0.08575255579085356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867049538822734,0.08476798649963332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880493991217407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140907127384121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05007445767632046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945756440858642,0.5459946012025694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595149062415707,0.0,0.0,0.15703812856008373,0.11093888819202892,0.0745511621032818,0.0,0.0709659193874395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040566191234298735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391089381388866,0.0,0.07968594156707166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408731448220784,0.0,0.0,0.07711878289957705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901424522654476,0.0,0.0,0.12801461631175926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193712084728744,0.07586663195977435,0.0,0.13712352095414093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365698293829732,0.07871961689658677,0.0,0.0845779243362923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473767627165495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283113796299922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629502640941404,0.08268915329418589,0.10522822051276494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994824645168844,0.0,0.0,0.2500842977719782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06174624298450657,0.0,0.0,0.06187283444654211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970124765140829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950327569398876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562602900814068,0.13739070327932332,0.2465232391875683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006233423491569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420244838971977,0.05652632229184769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050000690607588036
parenting,airevgeny,2020/03/13,"Home or backyard BD-party ideas Now it can be dangerous to organize parties with a large number of guests. So I wrote 15 ideas for organizing a children's quest at home or in the backyard. Such ideas can be useful to any parents. They are for kids from 8 to 12 years. 

[List of ideas for home BD party](https://zen.yandex.ru/media/id/5a650b60a815f1c726fc219b/kids-adventures-games-ultimate-guide-5b4c5897a4dd5400a75265ea)",6.9241176470588215,10.809341705882357,3.689705882352944,83.74867647058825,73.11764705882355,6.9294117647058835,27.617647058823533,8.07648339933343,2.232523529411764,348,13,52,6,8,92,51,68,0.051,0.836,0.113,0.4215,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,12,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,2,28,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965197316123252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5294763208855553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7945041319641586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19537155406343248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519642304709295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330597403586748
parenting,echamussy,2020/03/13,"Keep your kids and their grandparents connected even in these hard times For the past 18 months I've been building a new kind of app that allows children to play games and read stories with their grandparents in a video call. The app is called ""Together"" and I developed it for my own daughters and their grandparents that live far from us so they can spend meaningful time together despite the distance.

Given the current situation in the world with so many grandparents isolated and children staying home I decided to make it completely free for the next weeks to help families stay connected. Here is a link to the app in the app store:

[https://apps.apple.com/us/app/together-family-video-chat/id1405515604?ls=1](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/together-family-video-chat/id1405515604?ls=1)

If you have a chance to try it please send me all your feedback. I hope it becomes useful to some of you!",12.552142857142858,14.007696071428569,8.850714285714286,62.776785714285744,52.57142857142857,11.571428571428573,36.785714285714285,11.20814326018867,4.1945000000000014,750,27,110,16,8,209,92,140,0.027000000000000003,0.826,0.147,0.95,5,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,4,4,0,4,4,0,0,12,0,5,0,0,3,1,18,10,8,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,7,0,1,3,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,14,5,18,8,3,17,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,3,8,69,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833505244422564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112741282314665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980865125164515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067145666670606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368727473449247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653768206152805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216338965380392,0.0,0.15288890418645928,0.15138667581520412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547720511029007,0.0,0.1587211617141073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458896284939767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174101225441036,0.15452916494985305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165956646228993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720743151946966,0.16209956859236754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550139115432786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731053185797812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246046583119888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132558830003172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32491721491839065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777537446737673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348264465827167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5500246608140619,0.13164126754552735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222615037170004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twilbo,2020/03/13,"Can you share a success story or suggestions regarding teaching your child how to lose? I have a 3.5 year old who is actually good at everything, but for a 3.5 year old. I'm starting to see her competitive nature appear and wondering if anyone here can suggest games or strategies that can help a child deal with not always winning. Thanks!!!",6.929761904761904,7.893323841269847,7.035039682539686,72.67732142857143,64.55555555555556,10.109523809523813,34.79761904761905,10.125756701596842,3.684114285714287,274,12,46,6,4,88,51,63,0.12300000000000001,0.7,0.177,0.4124,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,3,2,6,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,11,6,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,5,5,11,0,7,0,1,1,0,12,1,0,5,5,28,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.2468239437079531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104586607025432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685507380557874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607605154881931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273178650627023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21214632784348314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953416213002168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829648320258905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5308165866223407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155307490995156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902569930322748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328646687048292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27429262841607205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257582436533654
parenting,GuardedGardener,2020/03/13,"How to Not Worry So Much? We have a 2 year old boy - I know kids trip and hurt themselves constantly BUT I always gets so upset with myself anytime he does. I know I shouldn’t coddle him too much but I get this immense guilt like I didn’t try to prevent it enough. For instance, we have 2 small steps that lead down to our hallway from our living room and he trip on it last night while I was in another room and his dad was in the kitchen. He didn’t cry but he came to me rubbing his bum and I thought he needed me to fix his pants. Later on his dad said he had fallen and when I checked out my son he seemed fine. This morning his lip was red and he had a chipped tooth and he must have hit his mouth and now I feel SOOOO guilty! Does anyone else get the same way and how do you make yourself feel better? Thank you!",1.12932142857143,2.8295326000000043,2.0939107142857156,99.5311517857143,80.14285714285714,4.832142857142856,19.50892857142857,5.148860815047168,-0.5723071428571433,635,15,153,2,16,199,110,175,0.106,0.809,0.085,-0.6882,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,2,0,2,7,7,0,2,4,0,13,4,3,4,1,33,28,18,0,3,4,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,3,2,5,14,1,1,6,0,1,6,4,3,0,0,10,5,27,4,14,15,4,25,0,1,1,0,28,9,0,1,10,88,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493795025084744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824802017357786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552832396152197,0.18394497313493186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587756148112075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20532921530729267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400316454529606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972002064967916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142077499203034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997042368578425,0.0,0.0,0.18549771374671345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18154685844310453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813838134133664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19218563858794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973249141406851,0.14633715040422668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770703535024932,0.0,0.15852420476570295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198345890943183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639436301151371,0.13311579885206554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684724132398429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18838169303225444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707697528458636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634331687785848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528285529713888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142523103187056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188595263833515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249889507119706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231674370328715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560846251832603
parenting,AnxiousCantaloupe84,2020/03/13,"When do kids begin to calm down? I know this is very individual, but I just want a ballpark-range of age to keep in mind.

I have a 4 year old who for going on 8 hours now has not gone 5 seconds without singing, talking, repeating the craziest sounds and random sentences (incessantly), but *mostly* nagging on mom... and I'm just sitting here in my office hearing this in the background all day. It's beyond crazy, to be honest. So when do kids begin to sort of calm down and play ""normally""?",3.213750000000001,5.007999541666671,4.577500000000004,83.61750000000002,74.41666666666666,6.883333333333333,27.625,7.645422480735847,1.64515,380,15,74,5,8,126,73,96,0.08,0.7659999999999999,0.154,0.7438,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,18,15,8,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,2,4,4,16,13,2,22,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,3,11,50,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18982905110866075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728381922841498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317497394199127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898718723926866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616285685811961,0.0,0.0,0.1617650612718941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29720591422020776,0.3447348985791663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288396936505322,0.0,0.0,0.3088669897419978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23658445399695194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24286657290143496,0.173613108990952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837393866310946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895494048916002
parenting,mamabug27,2020/03/13,"5yo and stepdad My son's biological father hasn't been in his life much. He was 18 months old when we divorced. I think his biological dad took him for maybe one visit and it wasn't even overnight. For about 6 months we didn't hear from him and then he came back for a little while and decided he didn't want to try to be a father at all. That was a little over 2.5 years ago now and he hasn't seen or spoken to his biological father at all. I don't know how much he remembers about him, if anything at all.

Anyway, that's just context for this. My husband and I have been a couple for 2 years. We got married about 6 months ago and he's been in my son's life for about a year and a half. They've always gotten along great, my son calls him dad now. They were especially close after my daughter was born 2.5 months ago.

Sometimes things are normal and he seems pretty happy, but other times he has a little attitude with my husband. He says he doesn't like Dad and doesn't like when he tells him what to do. When this happens we try to talk to him to see what's going on or what he's feeling that's causing him to say those things, but he'll just get start talking about something at school or something he saw on TV.

I'm using the EAP at my job to see if there's a therapist he can see, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced this.",4.980611888111892,4.356977227272733,5.780550699300702,85.45621066433569,68.68531468531468,8.548601398601399,26.96590909090909,7.645422480735847,1.2138748251748257,1061,26,241,10,16,349,139,286,0.025,0.9420000000000001,0.034,0.3202,1,0,2,0,1,0,23.0,4,0,1,0,18,4,0,0,9,0,22,2,0,3,3,45,46,25,0,5,12,12,1,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,14,18,0,0,7,1,0,4,8,0,0,2,16,10,25,4,34,28,5,41,0,0,5,0,51,14,0,8,25,145,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902429517824692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908147490529561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631450800257603,0.11182870671197948,0.0898144298900427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392333341795394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144601529635864,0.12482918237269082,0.0,0.1121187280135734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076336340339346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117399752765512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208715201182121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05518539061250306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570221035987384,0.0,0.062027819433286314,0.0,0.08729069494120473,0.12032925728279928,0.0,0.0,0.09651376335436616,0.116183511770666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301077909801082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083064293776916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998149765750429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418021011477545,0.1066423742448838,0.32816637075141786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964764190642648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348463882480397,0.0,0.16046361201177928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693582430850232,0.0,0.0,0.11452599514397672,0.0,0.07395733132713339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103648236939123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363642198609445,0.0,0.0,0.17358793404880882,0.0,0.11045736280625527,0.2609157331567737,0.09935862658743687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804543199215027,0.10794406456943878,0.0,0.07725115185082101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754481438902118,0.09539477353173302,0.0,0.0,0.12672208137304122,0.1450179696803453,0.06993368026918907,0.0,0.0,0.06364148109722381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126059341610078,0.14820028204743746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426350207686683,0.0,0.0,0.06437468145701579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835966328745295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085128820945656
parenting,AndroidFox2254,2020/03/13,"My brother is literally wasting away and doesn’t listen to any advice. What can I do to help him? I know it’s not my child but I basically raised him since my mom and stepdad were always working to support us. I’ve tried doing my best with him and teach him good work ethic along with hygiene and the likes but he just doesn’t do anything at all. He quite literally just sits there and just plays with his phone or watches tv.

To make a long story short, I’ve been working hard to try and motivate him to get a job, clean himself up, and help out with the ever growing bills. It isn’t as though he hasn’t had a job before but when he loses them, he simply gives up and only moves to eat and shit. I’m looking for any ideas that anyone has because I’m running out of them.

I’ve tried positive reinforcement, writing down step by step what he should do, tough love by taking almost everything away from him but nothing has changed. Any help at all would be phenomenal. I know I’m being a little vague but if you have any questions I’m more than happy to give more info",4.021780821917808,4.8329176621004555,4.9213515981735165,85.78312328767127,71.00913242009132,7.301187214611873,26.47214611872146,7.3011,1.1848414611872151,844,26,176,8,15,275,133,219,0.057999999999999996,0.725,0.217,0.9924,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,2,7,7,10,1,0,6,0,20,3,1,2,3,41,35,19,0,3,11,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,5,16,1,0,6,2,1,5,5,3,0,0,3,4,20,7,29,28,5,20,0,1,2,1,31,11,1,4,4,109,25,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213457973123446,0.0,0.0,0.12434683460948565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332646339394744,0.0,0.0,0.33778256501929504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682849757099677,0.0,0.10218832842747007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23333958518167744,0.0,0.0,0.07569806369944818,0.0,0.10566676106596158,0.0,0.13031767916361606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136439217383553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270656111995063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232656658396196,0.0,0.0,0.11160363267914572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487814327059616,0.23824667337811795,0.0,0.10415503788205542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321903270244319,0.11123954879900616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497027017877372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018241640886406,0.0,0.0,0.2464560091202263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364905169403322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060667344751634,0.12445948427311915,0.0,0.1098940687249573,0.10427866854106367,0.13892398279309376,0.0,0.0,0.11207594847412128,0.0,0.08289011594934431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454363635277114,0.0,0.13198209801142294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191526240852378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944433482944353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910834451457013,0.1320791248643648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746745027424114,0.1027217420655006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409162952120387,0.0,0.0,0.09336678110375912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200475008496522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25292715959085915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937145109804698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27121029048763623,0.0,0.0,0.08821284667089724,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cwizzle72,2020/03/13,"Co-Sleeping. How old is too old? It’s been a while since this happened but my step son (7) came and slept in my bed last night. 

This is not uncommon. It happens about once a week, maybe twice, and usually happens because he had a nightmare. I’m a 26 y/o male and my biggest concern is quality of sleep. Last night he came in around 2am and after some initial cuddling he calmed down (from a nightmare) and fell asleep. Sometimes after he calms down I send him back to his own bed, but last night I let him stay. 

Here’s why I even ask the question. 
1. I’ve known my step son for almost 4 years. When he was 4 there was no question about him getting in bed to calm down. Now that he’s getting older and bigger it just feels a little weird to sleep together. 

2. He is a wiggle worm made of elbows. He tosses and turns, kicks, and wakes me up several times throughout the night when he does come to my bed. 

3. This is even harder when my wife is in bed with me. Our bed is meant for two not three. We have been sleeping in separate beds the last few weeks because of our schedules. This isn’t forever and when we are in the same bed it’s uncomfortable to have the 7 y/o in bed with us. 

So how old is too old? Is it weird to you or totally normal? Should I stop allowing extended stays in my bed or will this behavior start to end on its own as he gets older? I love my son and don’t want to cut him off from the affection he needs because of my own hang ups and discomfort, but maybe I’m over indulging his desire to co-sleep.",1.5721428571428575,3.1778277352024915,3.033719403649311,93.73146028037388,78.50155763239877,6.330262572318647,22.67923898531375,7.1686216300943375,0.5694921228304408,1177,36,272,14,28,385,167,321,0.059000000000000004,0.862,0.08,0.8655,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,5,1,0,0,19,8,1,1,13,0,22,9,7,5,1,47,43,25,0,5,8,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,10,1,12,19,0,1,5,0,0,8,5,4,0,3,10,1,28,4,41,30,7,62,0,0,0,2,33,20,0,6,32,162,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905542976404525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917089320955173,0.08314210192888757,0.0,0.0,0.06838542853681323,0.0,0.16264162130620516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034356068280348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660951917842257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782750761922144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787699011558906,0.0,0.0,0.1174812911154496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04496814452320238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939440314829274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359344462815485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28997516938264856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094193425750316,0.0,0.0,0.08913610784675771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026719609647767,0.08415232819927311,0.0,0.0,0.17869406932346388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594408223238059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338374188002227,0.08713729392581357,0.0,0.0,0.3732887595168063,0.09471273836306612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925482531848668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047109339237624,0.0,0.07356784685741186,0.0,0.4449955088566388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795886451296872,0.0,0.06294856161124142,0.1895854851918153,0.0,0.07435353696163759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185864026487875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967356046949716,0.0868764492226738,0.0,0.10697770324264362,0.0,0.09794919916250816,0.0,0.0524560929489614,0.0,0.142676383018304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024989091240146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057271143055979065
parenting,bicycwow,2020/03/13,"What are your favorite baby development and parenting books? Would like book recommendations for parenting a baby. I'm looking for something that includes advice on brain development, activities to do, and helpful routines to establish. My LO is currently 8 months old and I haven't done much reading yet, I've just been following my instinct. I'm a FTM and feel like I need something more structured and to know whether I'm missing out on doing some key developmental things with her.",8.912674418604652,9.622038406976746,8.680790697674421,63.46072093023258,60.27906976744186,11.531162790697675,42.78139534883721,11.20814326018867,5.249328372093023,397,22,61,10,5,128,64,86,0.026000000000000002,0.845,0.129,0.8225,3,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,8,1,1,0,0,14,17,6,0,2,2,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,6,2,9,14,3,8,0,1,1,0,5,3,0,1,6,39,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22717349950152746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595208348465672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237904335188022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754718336867563,0.16608137084410085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582420338270705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776309138377312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22715270438611665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522184188099068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556065036714425,0.0,0.17089709265259026,0.1723784961207166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439451456672125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5162756336474603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23253956937027326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35794377804357164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444716150932222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514474768036114,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CapLou51,2020/03/13,"Interested in Your Opinion on 12 y/o boy parenting... I’ve been known to be a mom that overreacts, so I’m interested in other parents opinions to know if I’m crazy or not...well, I know I’m crazy, but you know what I mean...lol

So my 12 y/o is a good student, but we’re in full hormonal adolescence here and it’s an emotional argument every other day. 

My latest gripe: I caught him looking at a YouTube gun video, the YouTuber was showcasing his latest gun. Obviously, my irrational thoughts are “omg, my child is now into guns?!!” 
This, the same day that he ordered a small (boyscout looking) switchblade off Amazon. It was small and dull, but still! His fellow boyscout friends have them so you know how that goes.  Of course I flipped out, and now I’m on Reddit seeking parental advice from strangers. Lol.

Thanks to anyone who has any input.",1.4065352030382672,4.051032662576688,2.6395968448729192,89.96280163599184,87.40490797546013,5.8041484078293895,25.553315804849554,7.2636822038024595,1.4281892491966106,656,29,130,11,21,210,110,163,0.124,0.736,0.139,0.5596,3,0,0,3,0,0,35.0,0,3,1,0,8,6,0,0,7,1,9,0,0,1,1,21,22,12,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,10,5,0,0,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,15,5,14,16,2,21,0,1,2,0,17,12,0,4,7,73,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761435343434204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360343995447205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270912367574764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344410989683991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20445620923298752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314114367752138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042778768118888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524521666187834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39956348638717937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052662506677665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19799057693282945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128758164349588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6054709048287277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515424891386036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16734073897903176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429761251419765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thirdcoownerthrow,2020/03/13,"To tell or not to tell? Apologies for the throwaway, but the reason for that will become clear by the end of this post.

My ex is very controlling and high conflict. For the last two years we’ve been spending odd weekends at my wife’s parents with my son with no questions asked, she’s always known he’s been there.

Suddenly, today she demands to know their address. The problem is, is that my father in law works in law enforcement and has had high profile cases and hence does not give out his address to anyone for safety reasons. I for one am reluctant to give the address for the following reasons:

1. My son may no longer be safe there if she reveals the address to anyone (she has been known to take matters into her own hands and do things irregardless of what I say or ask if she thinks she knows better). By extension, my wife and her family may no longer be safe there
2. In two years (including the christmas just gone) she has never cared to ask for their address before
3. She has used my wife’s parents location (gained from Facebook, presumably) in court to argue that we plan to move away without gaining any relevant permissions
4. There is the concern that she may send threatening/harassing mail to their address

I know that ordinarily I should disclose, however I did tell her the town and location and she was... more than unhappy with this. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know realistically the risk is small but my wife’s niece and nephew also stay with them regularly so it doesn’t quite feel like my choice to make in regard to other’s safety either.",5.699032786885244,6.6074130918032825,5.871598360655737,80.12805327868854,67.26229508196721,8.854098360655739,30.98770491803279,8.982922981607832,2.5073245901639347,1263,48,237,21,20,401,171,305,0.122,0.807,0.071,-0.9325,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,4,7,7,8,1,1,14,0,25,1,1,6,2,57,44,17,0,4,11,11,3,1,0,5,0,1,6,0,11,16,0,4,14,2,1,4,8,3,0,3,8,4,34,5,41,29,3,28,0,0,0,0,45,14,0,8,9,159,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106417721138613,0.0947514376288144,0.0,0.0,0.07743752807908806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592452640256317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31936758056936426,0.0,0.10698740876952452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576375468066156,0.0968975148448444,0.0,0.0,0.10071139286936184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610108756088447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771822462179658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965100806710338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085765683175957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073493066836384,0.0,0.05757759781501195,0.08135087631181606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847466826375084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200781894276947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24062610094286685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25032643677135824,0.09282167329830217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055632583788568425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601109525519242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102895151042155,0.0,0.0,0.08782585860257616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716327512340726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528849262394609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189730225679038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905883294583893,0.0,0.0,0.10896105848702696,0.0,0.0,0.1275637933978877,0.12111792613998752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512411523968236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905563604902406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137344039518842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561830576380891,0.0,0.29858999871715186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565214490221214,0.07296520458714878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793826577298613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247470096785726,0.0,0.0,0.0983496891292586,0.0,0.09395713037054082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976948462880676,0.0,0.08290088224367759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666092525039526
parenting,kindaza,2020/03/13,"any good video games for my 9 years old boy hello, my kid enjoy video games a lot, I try to keep him from violent games like GTA and action games, he like more the stunt games with motocycles and cool cars, any suggestions for games that I can download for my android phone",10.910000000000005,6.622774814814818,9.362222222222227,76.03000000000002,60.111111111111114,13.022222222222226,36.25925925925926,10.125756701596842,3.1297703703703696,216,5,46,3,2,66,40,54,0.064,0.718,0.21899999999999997,0.8176,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,8,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,5,6,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,1,4,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5141463404002126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31707339044124633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360101811653789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693724486232011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213873462336291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.396678595697798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566573627703025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24343874303486115
parenting,jonashendrickx,2020/03/13,"Raising a child without authority  I have been raising my (step) daughter. She came into my family at the age of 5 somewhere last summer.

I hated all the tantrums she was throwing the first 3 months. But I did notice she was very good at picking up routine and actually sticking to it.

I realized that authority wasn't going to make a difference. She has an extremely strong personality, so I took the approach of being a friend rather than a parent. And guess what it's working.

Now I just let her do what she wants, and to my surprise it is actually working. In the evening she will tell me around 8:30 PM - 9:30 PM that she is tired and wants to go to bed. Even when I tell her gently it's time to sleep, I tell her to plug in her tablet to charge and turn off the light and she seems to consistently do it. My wife is really chaotic, so I can tell when I don't spend an entire week with her.

Occasionally she'll ask me if she can help with dishes (at the age of 6).

When we go shopping for groceries, she'll dance in the stores and maybe sing nursery rhymes while we're shopping. I just let her do her thing as long as she's following. People seem to find it funny, and she is enjoying herself.

She has a bunk bed with no bed below, so she puts all her toys under her bed. But you'd be surprised how clean her room is for a 6 year old. Everything is nicely organized. She kept asking me to help her, but I told her that it is her private space, that she should take care of it herself, after 5 days, she did.

Occasionally she'll come home with some new swearing, rather than punishing, I explain the context she should be using it. If I tell her not to do it, she'll continue because she finds it funny being punished. I just tell her not to do it in public because some people might find it offensive.

For games, I only give her educational games, Lego, few dolls or puzzles.

I realize developing personality is crucial in early stages of life, and too much authority can make children timid when they become adults. Still I'm amazed that I feel like I'm doing a good job, despite having some autism myself (not the extreme one).

Also we speak English at home rather than my mother language. At school she is learning Dutch anyways. She watches YouTube For Kids in English too.

I'm just going to continue this path to see where it ends up.",4.477284482758621,5.450000262931038,5.399913793103452,82.1739655172414,70.07758620689657,8.041379310344826,28.724137931034484,8.278499904357787,1.8850896551724128,1838,66,368,26,32,603,234,464,0.068,0.84,0.09300000000000001,0.8893,2,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,2,1,1,4,25,17,5,1,19,0,44,4,1,5,2,64,75,27,0,9,17,4,1,1,1,8,2,1,8,6,23,19,1,1,10,7,4,13,7,6,0,2,10,5,73,11,53,50,7,60,0,0,2,0,74,21,0,11,26,260,96,5,0.0,0.0,0.17946916850432415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735361909111768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185923479267819,0.17193058122861932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210954031070802,0.10155681143899024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517175207591267,0.0937540095492672,0.0,0.0,0.07921088626828922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059303215038241326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607315597355684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144462657822035,0.0,0.0,0.12147050769924005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264301188958516,0.0,0.08668676698353209,0.0,0.04649509120697657,0.06569250120572387,0.0,0.0,0.252134962999907,0.07821667460544285,0.0,0.0,0.07104402194706114,0.0,0.0,0.08821138787322412,0.20904004410668145,0.1542545852211374,0.0,0.0,0.10129853873988344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907862912096324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327067890363623,0.0,0.18447625005163576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125091362634698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495540504927965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18805995100197015,0.06495036867577357,0.04492445248653377,0.0,0.0,0.081377071787096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276103695701295,0.0,0.09238091919773712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975494722677545,0.0,0.0,0.07339741468909912,0.0,0.06759733140493737,0.0,0.0,0.08881048330795037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469110737879428,0.09649105552552742,0.0,0.062310927354396126,0.0699357410562829,0.0,0.0,0.10210488242449473,0.0,0.0,0.1274997092411393,0.16058270473676942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243993509513283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058908575944187025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093063129592044,0.07327604084954342,0.16742432568144752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920211718333578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343519267680429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913853801724945,0.0,0.48223509665855996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06109065870606139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053619561904343714,0.10568847320983664,0.0,0.08786671687536543,0.10216512537316952,0.0,0.10002037689000096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941939121764525,0.0,0.07587230992441807,0.1084746036059,0.0,0.0737605644157135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886411103144096,0.0,0.13388832557559915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05921585264745804
parenting,carr2016,2020/03/13,"Mommy going insane My 3 yr old sweet baby girl (most of the time) is being very stubborn about using the bathroom!! It’s gotten to the point where she’ll just pee on herself then walk right up to you and tell you. I’ve tried everything no water before bed, taking her to the bathroom all the time. She even got to a point where she was almost day time potty trained!!! But now she’s doing this thing where even butt naked she’ll just stand there and pee. She knows how to use the potty, get on the big girl potty all by herself, knows to wipe front to back, and she also knows how to ask for help when she needs it. She’s even laid in bed with my mom peed on her and my mom then roll over and say “meme the bed is wet” immediately after!! I work ALOT so she spends most of the week with my mom. When I am home we stay in our routine of pottying and sleep etc. I think it mostly has to do with my mom not doing her part and just being lazy. She starts Headstart in august and if she isn’t mostly potty trained they won’t let her attend! I’m at my wits end. And I’m a broken record when it comes to telling my mom you have got to keep reminding her to go potty. Someone please help!! Rewards don’t work by the way and getting excited about it just embarrasses her for whatever reason. I’m open to any suggestions! My mom has potty trained many many children in her life even me and I had neurological problems associated with my bladder and she says my LO is the hardest she’s seen yet!",2.012664742664743,3.750399246753247,3.3023953823953853,91.70388407888409,77.63636363636364,5.861664261664263,20.498316498316505,6.605766666666668,0.12173410293410306,1160,28,256,10,27,377,163,308,0.064,0.884,0.052000000000000005,-0.5942,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,3,1,3,24,6,1,1,14,0,20,8,5,5,2,47,43,23,0,3,7,6,1,0,0,3,2,2,4,3,7,19,1,2,5,0,1,6,5,3,0,0,6,5,44,3,37,31,9,45,0,0,1,1,46,18,1,7,18,168,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428228264290063,0.0,0.0,0.07529544060922495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640283915690519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802188900051815,0.0,0.0,0.07239911501237628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011867341913713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110589505271124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072196085382656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339307445048566,0.0,0.10500732483210497,0.2487530366996586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462012944097091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838383840481503,0.0,0.1070205162312269,0.0,0.15060815163489508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262197561124538,0.0,0.094444792132035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368898020006624,0.0,0.0,0.15523480195525236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627951010371416,0.06650421468091937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091607647637768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6616367377137553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981448089277707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879946799827397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196031202940337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335353299122177,0.17801315785948038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900932854088579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680666294797056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040755773844024,0.0,0.1497511155732033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422264864030057,0.0,0.0797769304837654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664314678532092,0.100356330586497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079258006951257,0.0,0.1645906305010044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255216659150539,0.06033049874022995,0.0,0.0,0.16470700299412191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392482774357734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263877637807098,0.0,0.07768744797645526,0.0,0.0747355796455528,0.07552518193354148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137091415012548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hamnbananas,2020/03/13,"First tooth! My little one (6M) lost his first tooth tonight and it was not what I pictured. It has been loose for about a week now and he asked for me to check every single night if it was ready— well, tonight was the night! It was so fast and I smiled and showed him how exciting the experience was, but he panicked. He cried hysterically about the blood and about how the tooth was gone from his mouth. He couldn’t breathe because of the tears. I tried to calm him down and tell him that the bleeding was normal and it was exciting that his tooth was gone because it meant that he was getting bigger! That was also the wrong thing because he suddenly didn’t want to be big if it meant losing more teeth. I explained that the tooth fairy was going to bring him a prize for being so brave, and we called his grandparents and dad (stationed away from us at the moment) to tell them the good news, but he kept sniffling. I’m really worried because I’ve only ever seen him this scared when he lost me in a crowded museum. He really panicked and I’m not completely sure why. I’m not sure how to comfort him and assure him that this is a normal and okay thing. Has anyone else had a similar experience? If so, how did you comfort your child? He is normally a happy and free-spirited child, he is rarely upset about scraped knees or tough falls, so I am not sure why this was so traumatizing. He finally fell asleep, but now I’m not sure if the tooth fairy is a good idea because he spent a bit of time telling me that he wanted the tooth back in his mouth.
I’m sorry for the ramble, this is just very unlike him and I’m worried it will happen again if I don’t find a way to show him that this is a good thing!",4.964852216748767,5.020770017241382,5.28377668308703,86.69603448275862,68.65517241379311,8.467651888341544,26.91625615763547,8.11559375814309,1.3833290640394091,1338,36,292,16,21,425,163,348,0.149,0.7090000000000001,0.141,0.4379,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,2,1,6,22,25,0,2,23,1,31,16,14,4,6,53,54,34,0,11,15,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,25,15,0,1,5,3,2,6,8,7,1,3,26,1,29,18,24,24,3,33,0,3,1,0,43,8,0,6,18,183,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856193073686789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869120100605082,0.10065776969616304,0.0,0.0,0.09184048185435224,0.0,0.09229905386349252,0.0755399558458256,0.0,0.29942881973144464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725186914095816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031330658368627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103002034372808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791125536781687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206632728977215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888630689161642,0.08277084518992459,0.0,0.0,0.1921937672429684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761634853834907,0.08978893818177892,0.16712459257627868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05132597827868559,0.0,0.05583165670825097,0.2471953854930779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687268635999597,0.10457755896635404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090020917592916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846158450828653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990464528997147,0.2144795962158058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18438185162704526,0.28876096018630376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656949045510108,0.0747154125991063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586921910939872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835467480529853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099708506080956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703575012072416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257596428324236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957974721752592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057284124405606075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669803442177942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816977903541133,0.0,0.0,0.08105770890863945,0.1158881659438884,0.07797778171145002,0.07880163877047942,0.0,0.08832892653919493,0.0,0.1772913717398668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995335505687144,0.0,0.0,0.1074092499789393,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeatpumpChump92,2020/03/13,"I shut all the fuck way down during horse play and now I can't get it off me To spare the grim details my parents are the product of the generation that was socially expected to beat the shit out of their kids. So discipline for me was the tried and true ""my mother made me pick a switch from the yard, I'm only using my hand"" method I am also the oldest of 7( only one shares mom and dad).. so if you are the oldest of a narcs litter you know exactly what it means to be ""keeper"". My dad gave them hard, but ""as needed"" my mother however was super Saiyan 3 trimming a rose bush, fucking dynamite in a sink full of dishes, she used to fuck me up. I'm talking choke slams into walls, boiling objects(wooden spoon) to beat with, giving my step dad the A OK to wet his belt and get after it. Sick shit that I don't ever think about unless I see something that takes me back. This brings us to my shut down. My son raidyn and I go hard core with play time.. I promise you've never seen a more realistic game of monster.. and lately he's been on this ""spank your butt"" kick.. he never gets spanked I physically can't do it without crying, but I say it All the time "" don't xyz cuz or I'll spank ur butt"" ""noooooo no spank uh butt"" well he decides monster needs a whopping, he swings, I catch his arm, pull him forward and raise my hand... And it hits me like a ton of fucking bricks. I go from being a 27yo father to be a terrified little boy in the blink of an eye and I shut down, I go to the bedroom, I shake, I sob, how could my parents do that? I can't even pretend to beat my son.. I look exactly like my dad, my son is my carbon copy... For a split second I was my father getting ready to beat the shit out of my childhood self.
 And now I can't get it out of my head.. it plays over and over
..",0.8346276751685728,2.6121091609498706,2.806598504837293,93.69178576663738,81.40105540897099,5.477601876282615,19.762606273819994,6.42735559955562,-0.030771386690120483,1368,35,316,12,36,459,203,379,0.085,0.763,0.152,0.978,3,0,2,0,0,0,60.0,1,3,2,5,11,21,7,1,26,1,21,18,11,6,8,46,51,22,0,5,6,14,5,2,0,0,1,1,2,3,15,17,2,1,4,6,0,9,10,10,2,2,8,10,52,11,46,38,5,43,0,2,4,7,39,21,11,2,16,196,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136824657928884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785366204182411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122188714421986,0.0,0.12550178052714678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546316420564488,0.10334856483757704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.422500987048105,0.2984629193366698,0.10960208488412516,0.1947981877177472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469685972220175,0.0,0.11725675014858528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279057336439771,0.0,0.12888259150447867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163668940065516,0.11451172657749875,0.0,0.0,0.09594391660530896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810914488415843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445523447368892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381197256260827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694346072857642,0.17623823001685454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774209284510996,0.173789421354555,0.0,0.0,0.2537293258928533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908587342242054,0.0,0.0,0.09104501179265642,0.0,0.1191910102774489,0.0,0.3518378185137808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646675402182645,0.0,0.08795769894164103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590419100333697,0.09183239816293146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320884027702279,0.0,0.0,0.13324392500740473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757042626427177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374325377171604,0.19735617061579167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068887590073216,0.0,0.0,0.10272735235018493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013601226709653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GreenSwimmer,2020/03/13,"My 17 year old refuses to see me... I am a father of a teenager daughter who recently turned 17. Mine and my ex-wife’s custody agreement (dated back to ‘05-‘06) states that my daughter should visit me every Thursday-Sunday. As she’s gotten older, however, she’s wanting to spend more time with her mother. Despite never returning to court, I now see her every other Friday-Sunday, if even that. Seeing as she’s hardly wanting to visit me at all now, the new normal is that I see her every other Friday-Sunday although even that’s rare for her. Usually, she’ll come with me on Friday and want to leave Saturday or come on Saturday and want to leave on Sunday.

I’ve tried talking to her and expressing my sadness over her not wanting to visit with me but she just doesn’t seem to care. Compromising [with her] is officially out of the picture. She recently received her drivers license and is now starting to leave her mother’s house whenever it is my time to pick her up (she has her own car, I just prefer picking her up). 

I would like to go about this in the most civil way possible but she’s shown me time and time again this likely won’t be possible. Her mother sees no issue with her in doing so as she deems her “old enough to make her own decisions”. Surely someone here has been something similar. How did you go about it?  Would there be anything I could do to get her to see me without going to court or would that be my only/best option? (I say this because I doubt I would stand a great chance in court trying to gain custody of my nearly legal aged daughter). 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",4.082763713080169,5.5831075506329135,5.22854430379747,81.02779535864978,71.59493670886077,7.418565400843883,27.090717299578056,7.937092434478242,1.7622894514767933,1270,44,233,17,24,420,164,316,0.036000000000000004,0.853,0.111,0.98,1,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,0,1,0,1,15,9,0,1,6,0,25,0,0,4,3,50,48,17,0,15,9,7,1,2,0,8,0,1,0,0,13,14,0,1,3,0,1,10,6,2,0,0,3,8,51,7,45,32,6,50,0,1,6,0,43,12,0,7,27,173,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023661945232328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279648214519372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599051231286916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100615245503086,0.0,0.056291503444016976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690839800844826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414995613765613,0.0,0.0,0.1590908272326277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372846020595554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954151186616694,0.0,0.1219835079788506,0.0,0.2334091615455581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04824546424144285,0.0,0.15744215430046846,0.0,0.0,0.2036172120302174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827212895324798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655155201479843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963822165210118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29333406416605795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022835932990622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163974373193243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122070007180853,0.08918555215085114,0.0,0.0,0.09047664260353963,0.0,0.0,0.19379712268477706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20820596597201693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235536375996528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343494834767055,0.0,0.0,0.4415130231822411,0.08406570020347542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824201839147207,0.07109023842023322,0.0,0.0,0.06536092934164422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703228939946124,0.0,0.0,0.07422189482737718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538404280241288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538982178569752,0.1004427879120934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170289076769068,0.0,0.27233179734511265,0.07329766339298585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901546385287402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279894834494658,0.0,0.0,0.05946593597666201
parenting,theopalsea,2020/03/13,"Does it really get any easier? or is that a lie all seasoned parents tell the newbies?? My daughter is 18 months old. She is everything to me and I definitely am loving this stage more than I ever did the newborn phase. Seeing her little personality shine through more and more gets me through the hard times and I truly can’t imagine my life without her now. What’s crazy to me though is I don’t feel like it’s gotten any easier, just a different kind of hard. 

I remember my mom taking pity on me during those first few sleepless months and reassuring me that it would get so much easier around 18 months, the age she is now. Part of it may be she is developmentally behind in some ways (we’re seeing a specialist in a couple weeks) but I’m really wondering if the “it gets easier” advice is just something more experienced parents say to new parents in the thick of a different stage to reassure them it’ll be okay. 

I really don’t wish for my old life, but I do fantasize about having more time to myself or even going to the bathroom alone again. She needs so much from me, and I know I’ll miss it eventually it’s just hard to see that when I feel like shes literally attached to me/needs me every minute all week long and I can never catch a break. I’ve heard some people throw out a magic number, like 2 or 3, and others say it never gets easier you just get better at it! 

With that being said, does anybody feel like there’s a certain age things slow down or get a little easier in any way or is it just different stages/personal preference? Also, do you think there is a “good” age for your first to hit before deciding to have a second child?? Not planning for that at all right now but it’s also something I’ve thought about/know my husband’s really hoping for in the future. I’m not sure what I’m hoping for but it’s just been a long day and needed some perspective! Thanks!",3.3520472440944857,4.879614480314963,4.910506561679791,82.47678346456694,73.48818897637796,8.229606299212598,23.461154855643052,8.841846274778883,1.5929806824146984,1491,41,300,30,30,502,189,381,0.036000000000000004,0.777,0.187,0.996,6,1,2,0,0,0,31.0,0,3,1,4,22,18,0,0,20,1,27,3,0,0,8,59,61,24,0,8,19,6,7,4,0,3,2,4,0,3,24,11,0,0,11,0,0,3,8,2,0,3,6,16,34,16,37,48,15,52,0,2,4,1,28,15,0,13,33,200,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958645393133265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435176064754303,0.0,0.13026199806170352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661548060077356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250271840144824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930312378271189,0.0,0.0,0.0720308888987577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011659894268798,0.0,0.05252485331810991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552759621243943,0.0,0.0,0.1425449591396603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05379320999093117,0.0736710567213836,0.06862035832474611,0.0,0.07319690972012441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354209687031885,0.17455153085909653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855300620824668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978590962722444,0.0,0.04628668802877893,0.06831163754917395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887435960504492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617851874125018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481173378029838,0.08951934454371455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505307378199572,0.1591583374176242,0.16325722407878307,0.0,0.14415133332377508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350668509010369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953866116685134,0.19502425482264785,0.0,0.11974190318182433,0.12077987327189604,0.12562977202879494,0.07865943871428388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092424195618205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713028611830463,0.08819626965777802,0.0,0.056463241678162364,0.14222809010076734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870128600291968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226054608641948,0.0695530104181884,0.07747220572337184,0.12953559583888424,0.0,0.0,0.19470175241960566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253996441652752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676031452495084,0.0,0.061235998177212626,0.0,0.07118593177031507,0.07498299408844288,0.0,0.0,0.05410799204686336,0.05218623628718503,0.08001863795123823,0.06465769837125114,0.09498168428780313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929343200810706,0.13065945325554626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365695687131396,0.07850942506601809,0.0883228986579159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785571328567856,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greeneyesredface,2020/03/13,"7 year old desperately needing to gain weight Hey all, first time poster. I actually don't have any kids technically, but I (23F) and the eldest child in my family, and my 7 year old (turning 8 in May) half brother does not have a dad. I live at home and have always had much more of a parental role to him than anything.

So, kiddo has ADHD, ODD, is on the autism spectrum, etc. The autism diagnoses is somewhat recent. I'm not heavily involved in working with his doctor/psychiatrist and whatnot in finding the right dosage and medications to help, that's all stuff our mom takes care of. So before anyone recommends getting his meds readjusted, just know that is definitely next steps that I believe my mom will be taking on soon.

What I'm seeking advice for is what sort of recipes/meals/snacks I can try, or techniques to encourage him to eat much more. Kiddo has very aggressive and violent outbursts somewhat frequently, so sending him to school unmedicated is not an option. But the meds kill his appetite, and he is now very underweight. It's really worrisome. 

Even on days he does not take his medication, he will eat a bit more but still not enough. And he is extremely picky. Even super basic foods he likes, like chicken nuggets or mac and cheese, he will one day wake up and decide he hates them. Or maybe he will eat the nuggets, but only 3 which is not nearly enough for an almost 8 year old boy.

He has strep so he's staying home from school tomorrow, so I think I will try to make it fun and see if he will help me prepare brunch. (French toast, bacon, eggs, etc) I am also thinking of making something like a sticker chart where he can earn a sticker for every time he tries something new. Yesterday I made broccoli fritters that I KNOW he would like, but I could never get him to try it. Maybe adding some sort of incentive will help encourage better habits?

I'm sorry this is rambly and all over the place. I just don't know what to do! Tonight I made fajitas he has loved before, cut up the smallest breast into pieces, gave him 3 chunks of pineapple, a wheat tortilla and some shredded cheese. He cried and said it was too much food. I told him to start by eating the chicken and we'll see if he's full then. He took one bite and cried and said it's busy (it's not. He's had it before and  liked it). I told him to eat the pineapple. He ate maybe one. And no, I didn't let him have any sugary snacks. The only thing he ate after was maybe 5 Ritz crackers? Couldn't even get him to eat the damn tortilla.

 Does anyone have any suggestions that have worked for their picky eaters? Or maybe kid friendly recipes that are high in calorie? Our mom has even mixed prediasure smoothies with ice cream and he hates that too! Any suggestions help. I'm at a loss and just want him to be healthy :(",3.862354810013976,5.4868800874317,4.219903418477571,87.54817765916891,72.35154826958106,7.21990934892193,26.064345321303,7.8205782467293705,1.3439967890879827,2204,73,447,29,43,690,271,549,0.09300000000000001,0.764,0.142,0.986,1,0,2,0,0,0,73.0,3,0,2,8,19,21,7,0,21,0,47,20,2,4,4,74,84,39,1,7,21,6,1,5,1,10,3,2,2,4,22,24,14,0,7,0,0,3,13,8,0,5,15,6,39,13,44,54,20,49,0,1,3,2,70,20,1,15,30,257,61,5,0.0,0.0,0.059551256506109825,0.0,0.07333977166658726,0.05963258272633457,0.0,0.0,0.061107373026866675,0.0,0.0,0.04880139139139366,0.05077739825054762,0.0,0.0,0.1659954213344433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533970980598707,0.0,0.05021808817104402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578245007869165,0.0687538843812701,0.0,0.05397134473176369,0.06662311369277718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062218698818010724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048723218236692414,0.0,0.13406542734750046,0.07871170295847685,0.0,0.0,0.06193873624971239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246131617826204,0.1602092500964776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746607170262164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610955488954848,0.13611723410160714,0.16122482590652984,0.0,0.051415900475245926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05752860994836904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577542549842555,0.05190753700261809,0.14758250054324767,0.0,0.04714749401753869,0.0,0.09564858441095507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204984178646359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361414899843074,0.06447589431264078,0.12242540128384807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751473482469128,0.0,0.10061265684200812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240184023795115,0.0,0.14906781012682166,0.0,0.05388588489430006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507713012765003,0.11548600066221745,0.08146885687061023,0.0,0.3065373212158219,0.0,0.13556926057166552,0.12295183161360093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21441400126515714,0.0,0.0,0.13458042030858175,0.045249005507751405,0.04706597293467467,0.05893798824588534,0.06490040869367696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19210531745482026,0.0,0.12405564863111783,0.09282399398840993,0.0,0.0,0.06776065320256683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375777190492674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039093954083566265,0.0,0.06025448083608915,0.0,0.0,0.05211471855759287,0.1160968352925138,0.0,0.0,0.1235204096120526,0.09725749198594416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395951553502616,0.0,0.0683121006807389,0.043193562100307135,0.06504415842352748,0.04873436515160098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985862542425457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764882891815858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04054206655160625,0.07820426464173526,0.0,0.0,0.07116792954069705,0.0,0.0,0.11662333845088366,0.06780063269675089,0.16572692917926998,0.06637729666497802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070345625769628,0.035993920279281236,0.0,0.0,0.07431158483352134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885334551860859,0.0,0.0,0.04335016121808948,0.0,0.0,0.11789362349951972
parenting,ChicoMentality,2020/03/13,"Potty Accidents We started potty training my kiddo (4M) when he was about 2.5. It was a lengthy journey, but he finally got it. A few poo accidents here and there, but totally age appropriate. Fast forward to the last few months and his poo accidents are frequent. At first a couple times a week. We did a prize chart. For every five days accident free, he gets to pick a prize. This week, he has had a poo accident literally every day. Even one pee accident (totally out of the blue) and, today, two poo accidents. Quick Google search shows he should be good by now. Definitely isn’t constipation. He seems to be able to control it. Mostly seems to be surrounding him not wanting to leave play, TV, etc. Also lies about it. We try not to shame him, but it’s hard to hide the frustration. Any experienced parents have sage advice for us? Tips and tricks?",2.196491228070176,4.901803691358026,3.687115009746592,83.81412280701757,83.07407407407408,7.608057179987006,24.57569850552307,8.532816995589336,2.0992419753086424,666,26,127,17,19,219,109,162,0.18600000000000005,0.67,0.14400000000000002,-0.7317,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,0,4,9,8,2,1,10,0,12,1,1,2,2,22,18,9,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,1,2,3,1,2,3,3,0,4,5,3,8,6,16,9,6,22,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,3,18,78,14,0,0.17955436571113614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545844808878686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358956138799006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210312586513035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138548896265168,0.0,0.19867349048075472,0.0,0.2315954234432471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025058082096994,0.11859396513465142,0.0,0.30256459445584977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19669303108849068,0.0,0.1527288517485022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938097452509196,0.0,0.0,0.15060168305932034,0.14360602886266238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084544360552752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636077285653035,0.0,0.19012214768434946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331858166205774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167068510937465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993738742956446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269191019061219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708950421159068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469959458412316,0.0,0.17019654395324066,0.0,0.0,0.12190562805974885,0.0,0.17539852503001946,0.0,0.2159817940045562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590581698963064,0.0,0.2880553632421861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sammydad,2020/03/13,"My 4 YO hit a kid in the face with a toy shovel 4 yo son (in pre K) goes a school with pre-K and K classes.  An older kid, who is quite a bit bigger physically, has been known to pick on them. I don’t think anything too out of the ordinary, but enough that I’ve noticed it before and have actually said something to the teachers (to no real effect). 

He and a fellow pre K friend are playing in playground during pickup time this afternoon. The older kid apparently kicks my sons friend, making him cry. My son witnesses this and sees his friend crying. My son picks up a toy shovel, walks over to the older kid, and full on hits him in the face with the shovel. Teachers don’t see any of this until the older kid is crying. My wife witnesses the whole thing. 

I (40M) feel very conflicted about what happened. We talked to my son and he said he saw his friend get kicked and was crying, and so he was defending him. We have always taught him that we want to resolve conflicts with words and not physically. I’m not condoning the violence and I’m quite shocked that my son did this. But the other part of me is super proud of him for standing up to the bully. 

We will probably get a phone call from the head of school tomorrow before we go on corona break, but any thoughts?  What should I be doing/saying?",4.0708407266582185,4.888768532319394,5.093884664131814,84.56593895226024,70.90114068441066,7.973722010984369,25.25749894381073,8.167268648758528,1.367825686523025,1016,28,210,14,18,334,142,263,0.10400000000000001,0.764,0.132,0.8427,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,5,0,1,6,3,9,0,0,21,0,16,3,3,4,0,40,35,15,0,2,5,7,1,0,5,2,0,2,0,5,13,20,0,2,6,3,0,2,5,1,0,0,9,6,24,8,31,21,5,25,0,0,3,0,40,13,0,0,8,127,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.11760331177833523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027647690589324,0.0,0.0,0.16390595626616028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917193736265324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205095387526292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156899234277766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305725551917232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5295115225461694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452215261302703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093499794918202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724322047137947,0.0,0.12592614557157591,0.0,0.06849031977501661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656925513785707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368111440172555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044336876247064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720485857369832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305038439576634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993340571613407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25636083688872074,0.0,0.13717018696992506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292709359706412,0.0958367811468422,0.0,0.2439311963317436,0.19206652930368376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277680143384813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686379102765344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006348770016956,0.07721986954308706,0.0,0.09567386706541132,0.07027210421273386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943585289602352,0.0710816946120114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454846987114746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,j_birdddd,2020/03/13,"7F was physically aggressive with 3F, three times tonight. Should I be worried Hi- not sure if I’m overreacting or not but my sister and I are 14 years apart so I never grew up with a sibling most of my earlier years. 

N- 7F
L- 3F

I have 2 daughters, they are half siblings. My eldest daughter is at her dad’s half the time (M-W, and we alternate Thursdays). Today is my Thursday.

Tonight, N and L were beginning to pillow fight but N hit and kind of pushed L with the pillow really hard that she flew back and her body almost hit our coffee table. I told N that, that was too hard and how would you feel if someone hit you that hard? Please be gentle. N got upset, started throwing her socks, pushing things and then went to her room and cried because I told her she needed to go to her room if she was going to throw things around. 

As I was putting them to bed, N and L were playing and N was stepping on L “smooshing” her but was going at it really hard. I told her to stop and to be gentle again. She stopped.

After hugs and kisses N gave L and hug and kiss on the head but then pushed her towards L’s bed pretty hard. I told N to not push her sister and again be gentle with each other. I asked how she would feel if someone pushed her and she just shrugged and started to pout. She said he friends at school make her mad and that’s why she’s in a bad mood* and I said well it sounds like you need different friends because they shouldn’t be making you mad all the time and regardless if you’re in a bad mood, that doesn’t mean you get to mean towards other people. She started to get teary and said she just wants to move [place we are moving to in the summer] tomorrow. I think she was maybe trying to deflect?

Anyways, I’m here asking advice on how or if I should handle this. N is a very emotional kid and I want to make sure I approach this the right way. I’m now a little worried she’s going to hurt L when I’m not paying attention. But I don’t know if I’m just overacting.",2.0220413080894986,3.5797626120481962,3.3364543889845097,92.26072289156627,77.09638554216869,6.092254733218589,22.459552495697075,6.742157984588678,0.4327432013769359,1544,44,343,14,35,503,193,415,0.132,0.742,0.126,0.4728,1,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,3,5,3,0,22,22,4,1,11,0,28,6,2,6,4,82,72,44,0,17,21,5,7,1,2,5,0,4,6,1,14,30,0,2,7,1,1,19,8,8,1,3,20,11,55,12,38,39,3,66,0,1,0,4,56,19,0,11,28,211,69,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490210853977026,0.0,0.0,0.08700184664341408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734524360715016,0.16244975563631714,0.0,0.0,0.06680848750006325,0.14508914012805466,0.10592744640208772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650861617493647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543807213855188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077536177441922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773288550323173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878623936577996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342528353274725,0.0,0.09078668209069582,0.0,0.1975128789809655,0.0,0.06948912852171941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891553088459331,0.0,0.08916812281394056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930111948936924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904763897770061,0.047749213160176524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04244716836517005,0.08708066432132805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739873760050552,0.0,0.08728672724705862,0.18928444832941765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468803467217368,0.0,0.1288468753589372,0.06701035172278308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602344750477608,0.0,0.09077536177441922,0.09537261906794106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883923355079635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734248881106943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132032124397492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419852183498236,0.2479399430768552,0.0,0.0,0.08793131828523082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723318267376492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449097775066275,0.0,0.0,0.1452779473923448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377441721344332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544383212739773,0.05567180441736374,0.0,0.0,0.15198840136132366,0.0,0.08235594013974007,0.33208581237768897,0.0,0.05898858093114018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168845774094877,0.10249295222874254,0.06896453137177676,0.0,0.0,0.07811921411010342,0.08054240419253983,0.07839936004812015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646998293486355,0.0,0.12343990230459707,0.0,0.0,0.1119009861263059
parenting,m1ghtymouse,2020/03/13,"My 5 year old daughter is out of control I am at my wit's end. My daughter has always been emotional and quick to anger but lately it has been unbearable. She's terrified of everything and is completely unpredictable. She hits and kicks. I'm currently sitting in the living room listening to her scream in her room because she kicked me in the face. The thing that set her off tonight was that I asked her to stand in front of me so I could floss her teeth. She wanted to sit on my lap and I told her I could reach if she did that. She lost it, screamed in my face and told me she didn't want me as her mom and that I was ugly and rude. As I brought her to her room as a time out and put her on her bed she kicked me in the face. This is almost a nightly routine now. I don't know what we can do. We've tried time outs in her room, in the hallway. We've tried ignoring her behavior. We've tried yelling. 

Any advice would be amazing.",1.34,3.0688969393939414,2.645454545454548,95.68818181818185,79.60606060606061,6.420202020202023,22.61616161616161,7.3871296695380915,0.6074828282828286,726,23,172,10,18,234,104,198,0.149,0.8140000000000001,0.037000000000000005,-0.975,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,3,7,2,0,7,0,19,4,4,1,0,23,30,14,0,6,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,9,12,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,6,0,0,10,4,40,1,26,15,0,37,0,1,0,0,29,19,0,2,11,114,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289093886392798,0.0,0.0,0.17716675366230006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721737102840332,0.0,0.0,0.1203163729019206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540278712290354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107853008452297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550450978262364,0.0,0.1984385855430872,0.2825234984059726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19901897165038573,0.15670473671357962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901050767218894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723440837054956,0.0,0.19958127251799795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622971209621694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313663364347916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072146707358902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16603392936439454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856550405669939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786042246741568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754238419889244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20633502009731405,0.0,0.0,0.3381225088095101,0.0,0.3603652953327426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871216324930825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568380791577385,0.0,0.0,0.11393513591075273
parenting,Jiggyrela,2020/03/13,"Time-out procedure For the record my kids have outgrown time-out so I'm asking this mostly out of curiosity. 
 Do you have your kids face the wall or face the room?  I had my kids sit down facing the room when they were little because that's what felt right to me, but I'm wondering what the reasoning behind no longer using the standing in the corner facing the wall model is.  I very rarely see anyone asking their kids to face the wall even though it seems like that would reduce distractions for them, it just felt... gross.",5.111302521008401,6.206910774509808,4.900700280112044,85.88029411764708,68.70588235294117,7.789355742296919,22.414565826330534,7.957251820313856,0.8983036414565824,417,8,82,5,7,128,69,102,0.091,0.878,0.031,-0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,3,0,5,3,0,1,9,0,7,5,5,2,0,12,17,5,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,4,7,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,3,10,1,9,12,1,14,0,0,1,0,11,11,0,4,2,51,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629787698006388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358068728249989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420867300846563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395074489534394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475971793944852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113873779822205,0.23361285988242686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396506682998498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905370520552512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857389301393269,0.2121922443600749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290052763198324,0.0,0.27182800673146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013109958734076,0.0,0.19231991124488626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527712334325181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557721984397755,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chandrago,2020/03/13,Ex’s new girlfriend kissed my son on the mouth. Just witnessed my ex’s new girlfriend kiss my son on the lips after a scout meeting. Ex got mad that I brought this up and expressed I didn’t think that was appropriate in anyway. Ex said talk to our son he wanted it. Am I in the wrong for thinking no she is the adult she should have declined ? Not sure I know how to feel about the situation.,0.9796296296296312,3.2696723950617286,2.050864197530867,96.38888888888893,84.30864197530866,4.587654320987656,21.34567901234568,5.82211442006289,-0.07674320987654326,308,10,69,2,9,97,59,81,0.126,0.809,0.065,-0.6202,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,6,0,6,4,2,1,1,11,14,2,0,2,2,7,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,2,10,3,10,8,0,9,0,0,0,2,18,5,0,0,3,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709057702810266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23266372758403334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598740718064824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619167484911168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767177763411042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32699000491068553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741750199088521,0.0,0.0,0.2338188462280625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728010355756468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158361907775338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31805953064676035,0.0,0.0
parenting,lrskate,2020/03/13,"How much is too much supervision in my son's life? I recently had a fight with my 15 year old son over a rule I'm starting to enforce- I want to meet everyone he hangs out with. He is super upset about this, especially when it comes to girls. My son has been very good about telling me things in the past- i.e. when he's vaped, used marijuana, etc. He feels that this rule is an invasion of his privacy/ crosses a boundary in our relationship. 

I'm now unsure about how I feel- is this too far? I'd like to get some of your opinions.",2.5791111111111107,4.121852345454549,3.9803030303030313,88.29489898989902,75.54545454545455,7.7979797979797985,24.949494949494948,8.515128840125781,1.4321919191919197,418,14,94,8,9,138,75,110,0.065,0.833,0.102,0.6191,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,1,0,1,10,5,1,1,5,0,7,1,0,3,0,12,16,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,2,10,3,16,14,4,17,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,2,9,55,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164870352669141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28028449004154465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401438227891705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541464923336608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130257350957858,0.0,0.0,0.21079247691879668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751237761040328,0.12278061751333427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694932996518791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26371454132888816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399101732784866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481448663767973,0.2698200224758678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778832137791644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196618236363539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669636107969249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21705688898843006,0.0,0.20736255088418773,0.14823306771784076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183967866526314
parenting,Original-Strawberry,2020/03/13,"Advanced 2 month old boy. Wondering how to nurture his intellect My husband and I are new parents to the sweetest baby boy. I've been told by many friends and family that have seen the videos or heard him in person that he is way too advanced at his age to be doing what he is doing and saying the things he says. If he is a prodigy or ahead of development at his age I need help in understanding how to nurture his intellect and to figure out how to keep him on the right path. 

We don't see his pediatrician until his four month check up and I was hoping to talk to him about it as well. Our baby says ""Hi"" when you say it to him and says it to his stuffed animals, he says ""Da"" and ""Dad"" as well as ""Yeah"". His motor functions are amazing as he blows kisses and is starting to wave. He loves to blow kisses back at us when we do it. He is currently two months and twelve days old and has been doing this before he hit his two month mark. Is there some magical guide out there or a way we can figure out if he is advanced and how to help him? Any advice or help would be appreciated! Thank you in advanced!",2.9935037246339573,4.084296873362447,4.400647315694837,87.50471101977912,73.71615720524018,7.309632674030311,24.387618802979713,7.724431198458867,1.0238762394040588,860,25,189,11,17,286,121,229,0.0,0.777,0.223,0.9944,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,2,0,5,13,11,0,0,6,1,23,3,0,4,0,36,36,28,0,5,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,7,0,3,9,17,0,1,4,1,1,4,1,0,2,3,6,9,25,11,33,26,1,35,0,0,2,3,52,12,0,9,17,129,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154558279899325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034675816683295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085085604748787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005378320477182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619764583460929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138228450007433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128319973036174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375824529960341,0.0,0.0,0.11735064101067448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501807227363966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663592572167564,0.0,0.0,0.11978660911905865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772281287649919,0.0,0.0,0.08760749841397272,0.0,0.11411100981853893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24795928080461116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311927466992993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316493005316547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090034183396213,0.0,0.5637506912162988,0.0,0.0,0.09415108110437877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836279136023941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496532975511296,0.0,0.10877760272011687,0.0,0.0,0.07849430039983045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289838112152265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308327943868093,0.1229993985341054,0.14212115249605187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756559073527354,0.0,0.0,0.2124639470592167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812976192932166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393110826510103,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tyler765,2020/03/13,"Found a bag of disturbing stuff in my sons trunk not sure if or how I should approach him Found a bag of some disturbing stuff in my sons room, not sure if it’s a kink or fetish any idea as to what?

Today I had to use my sons car because mine was in the shop, and in the trunk I noticed a big travel bag I’ve never seen before, certainly not using it for school. I know I should’ve respected his privacy but I looked anyways because it was so odd. I found a variety of strange items and I’m guessing it may be to a bdsm or knife playing kink? 

Here’s the list 
-Duct Tape
-Zip Ties
-Handcuffs
-Saran Wrap
-Various needles and syringe
-Surgical looking knives, cleaver, and some saw 
-Lots of plastic Sheeting
-Staple Gun
-Latex Gloves
-Heavy Duty Rubber Gloves
-Leather Gloves
-Ozium Air Freshener
-Ski Mask
-Lock Pick Set? 

I’m so confused please help reddir",1.24642857142857,3.911835071428573,2.100714285714286,92.46928571428572,91.14285714285714,5.180952380952381,23.07142857142857,6.816661863887847,0.9429000000000008,684,27,133,10,24,213,110,168,0.133,0.799,0.068,-0.8414,0,0,0,1,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,3,9,0,6,0,0,4,4,34,19,14,0,3,9,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,5,4,1,3,4,3,0,0,8,5,13,5,13,8,5,13,0,0,4,0,6,7,0,11,2,72,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116868906678821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20023487864005526,0.0,0.1397537139281198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5402326576911182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809257316975917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110084696457315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854037459171047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026043982966854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275835675572487,0.0,0.0,0.1396285476733941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666981127730118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698507836699807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028306594084967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662167591454018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760244757232135,0.0,0.0,0.3095831313689941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567760990454216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836963226868813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,livnichole91,2020/03/13,"I created a specific fb page for posts ONLY that are conversations with my kids. Things that are down right hilarious I will certainly have to go back through my personal fb page for many posts I've made of conversations with my kids to add to the page, but two that occured today between my son and myself are already posted. 

If you want to follow a page that posts nothing but hilarious conversations between a parent and their kids to relate to and laugh at, then this is the page for you. 

https://www.facebook.com/pg/notasoccermom91/posts/",10.132631578947368,10.184430684210524,9.085263157894737,63.76684210526317,57.94736842105264,11.810526315789476,35.84210526315789,11.20814326018867,4.010326315789475,445,16,73,10,5,139,57,95,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.9178,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,10,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,2,17,8,5,12,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,3,53,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896665441785799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321600169363296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767960033237882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263074397582425,0.0,0.17425262654262055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649171396011494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071744726269138,0.0,0.0,0.19084504406474906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007320234753704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8230359194873577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677892389574912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141850338187736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291586370167546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678953140500681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137537017577453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tiggler95,2020/03/13,"39F parent issue with 15M son and his internet usage and drawings Throwaway account, but I could use some advice for a pretty unique situation.  I tried posting this before, but I revealed details that went too in depth and broke the rules.  I simplified everything and I hope it doesn't break any this time!

I have a son who was pretty into gaming and art from a fairly young age.  I used to monitor his internet usage pretty closely and he didn't have a personnel computer.  He mostly watched minecraft videos and played minecraft, but his interest in drawing grew pretty rapidly and after trying a tablet at school he really wanted one.  We got him a cheap tablet and laptop and as he got older and more independent he had a ton of freedom.  

He used to share a lot of his art when he was younger, but as he got older he sorta stopped.  I just figured it was teens being teens, but one day I walked in on him without him noticing me and he was drawing something I considered very, very inappropriate for his age.

He slammed his laptop shut when he noticed me and I told him I wanted to see what he was working on and what he was doing.  He argued with me, but gave up pretty quick and I confiscated his smart phone and laptop until I could talk to his father.

That night me and my husband has a discussion about what we were going to do and how relaxed we had gotten over the years with letting him use the internet unsupervised so we decided that he wouldn't be getting the laptop back until he logged in for us and let us look over his internet history and see the drawings he's been doing.  He had a COMPLETE meltdown to the point that he was crying.  His reaction just kinda confirmed that he was doing innapropriate stuff, but he refused to login for us.  I'm not super computer savvy, but I know we could take it to a professional and probably get in, but I feel like at this point we would shatter any trust between us and him.

His father tried to talk to him about it, but he refused to talk to us at all since this happened.  I'm torn between getting into the laptop and seeing what he's been doing or just shelving the laptop till he's 18 and giving it back to him, but I know going forward he won't use the internet unsupervised and if he draws I want him to do it in the living room where the content can be seen, but my husband thinks I am overreacting really bad and its harmless.

I'm not sure what to do going forward now.",6.689376299376299,6.155960234927236,7.252027027027029,76.01966216216219,65.15384615384616,9.811642411642412,33.26091476091476,9.162432508145574,2.824728066528067,1927,71,364,29,26,637,217,481,0.065,0.81,0.125,0.9872,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,11,0,0,2,15,14,1,0,22,0,39,0,0,7,2,91,76,49,0,10,20,7,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,23,38,0,3,7,6,2,8,7,3,0,2,23,7,56,11,52,42,6,53,0,1,6,0,79,25,0,8,23,255,79,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495822825169864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432822219210378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796752616184313,0.06404802583593666,0.0,0.0,0.06527290907498354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042694126931213,0.0,0.0,0.1837354318781056,0.0,0.08426020175827084,0.04947035267211266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894025798478229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03878589985463606,0.054800253248743984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023038571264193,0.07358536067514923,0.13078487436831632,0.0,0.18405132851215614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783268394966065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618841151204866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006328505251459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431348715498484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687837655291464,0.0,0.03747568334494639,0.0,0.06773462216098079,0.0,0.06441545081420874,0.0,0.0,0.0652144493365313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198531777664695,0.0,0.0,0.17466526900179874,0.0,0.0,0.10395873308253553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517522262203049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502782149582047,0.0,0.07346511722303806,0.3901983693139373,0.08270426243520408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828229466114584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763265176635306,0.18337917670595905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345369974650615,0.08622307315790669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905361205144659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413137275308428,0.0,0.0,0.08781237622949188,0.0,0.0,0.07229643855973089,0.0,0.05767491453443181,0.18496509845485573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915142738470283,0.0,0.0,0.044729086539769584,0.0,0.0,0.07329783839142608,0.0,0.1562392120665288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613517556308399,0.3312556739131147,0.0,0.12658436570726966,0.13573320332357408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110913994058159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394383231455118,0.0,0.05584438112362379,0.0,0.0,0.054491204820791415,0.0,0.0,0.049397475539236464
parenting,leaaleee,2020/03/14,"An ex parent story... Hi I'm a female 21 no kid of my own 
My fiance is a male 25
His ex is 24 and she and he has a 6 year old daughter
I'm not sure what to think or do..

I been with my fiance for a year and half now
When we started dating his daughter loved me
Reacently his ex started turning his daughter against me she doesn't talk to me anymore or nothing

I stay with my fiance so I do care about his kid
But I'm not sure what to do or think.
When his daughter go to visit the mom she cries she doesn't wanna go
But when she comes back she ignores me and aviod me",-1.137906976744187,0.7229598604651173,1.4849302325581384,99.7339069767442,89.93023255813951,3.7500775193798455,17.902325581395353,4.604124745555138,-0.8435916279069766,438,12,109,1,15,150,70,129,0.086,0.856,0.057999999999999996,-0.1395,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,0,2,21,22,13,0,1,7,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,8,0,1,2,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,1,0,25,4,11,21,1,16,0,0,0,1,30,0,0,3,11,73,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206256126125912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992056602614876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120452067362266,0.0,0.0,0.17915275128252267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284516696598944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363948997053729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770629515278256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435787637753829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995584059673295,0.0,0.2182356350994815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23093253298252475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944127080517593,0.2216745493222728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39202949327885467,0.0,0.0,0.16716308406999827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26652501223331626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262179676094859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678592153457465
parenting,wifeyteachermama,2020/03/14,"Some insight for parents who will be “homeschooling” for the next several weeks from a teacher mama I am a middle school teacher in a state where all schools are closed for two weeks. I will be teaching from home in addition to supervising the schooling of my daughters, 7 and 9. I have been teaching for 11 years, in settings ranging from early childhood to homeschool to college, and I just wanted to share what I plan to do and prioritize for anyone who may benefit from this. 

It’s important to understand how big of a transition this is going to be for kids going from learning at school in a hands-on environment to being at home contending with online content or work packets. It isn’t considered within elementary and secondary range for many (not all) children to handle the self-regulation required for remote learning independently, so understand they will need a lot of support and guidance. 

For this reason it is also very important for structure to be established from day one. Structure is very important for children of all ages, particularly younger ones but this is something that I have seen apply to all ages, even with some adults. Without structure and knowing what’s coming next, children are prone to begin acting out and displaying behaviors. The right amount of sleep plays a role in this as well. I have spent most of the day coming up with a schedule for my own girls. We will get up at 7:30 (normal school wake up time) and they will help me make breakfast (I have selected recipes that they can actively participate in making) and at 8 am, we will eat and be cleaning up by 8:30, when we will do Cosmic Kids yoga. At 9 am, we will begin schooling which will last until 11:30. Around 10, they’ll be offered a snack. At 11:30, we will prepare lunch together, and eat at noon. At 12:30 we will practice “midday mindfulness” which will be some kind of art/sensory activity. At 1 pm, we will read together until 1:30, at which point schooling will again resume until 3:30. At 3:30, we will go play outside or so some large motor activity until 4:30, at which point their day is done and I will begin dinner. 

Along with structure, it is helpful to establish a few understandable expectations for behavior. Again, given that their whole lives have been suddenly disrupted, it is likely that a number of behaviors may emerge early on. Being clear, simple, and consistent with expectations will help them know what they should do. In my classroom, I operate off of five and plan to do so with my children: I expect you to follow our homeschool schedule. I expect you to follow directions the first time they are given. I expect you to stay on task and complete your assignments. I expect you to speak and act respectfully to all others at all times. I write the expectations on a piece of large paper so that in the event an expectation isn’t met, I go to the paper and point to the expectation as I remind them what they should choose to do. It is also helpful to give them a visual reinforcement so they can literally see and be reminded of what is expected of them. I also give a brief explanation as to why these expectations are important so it isn’t just a “because I said so” situation. For example, “This is school at home, and we have a schedule. I expect you to follow our schedule.” 

Posting a breakdown of the times on the schedule and having a magnet or something along those lines to move down through each period of the day is also helpful for enabling them to understand what they should be doing and what they can anticipate to come next. This reinforces the overall structure. Also, making sure you manage time with a timer and practice good time management is also pertinent. If you’re in possession of an athletic clock that shows time counting down by a color that reduces until it is gone, that’s also great. Unfortunately, I haven’t got one of these! 

As a part of the overall picture, I plan to implement in-house a replicated PBIS system where meeting each expectation during each period will earn points and I will have them set a goal for what they would like to earn individually once they reach a certain number of points and then a goal for what they would like to earn together when their points add up to a certain number. 

I have had success with them I’ll say doing this in a much more relaxed fashion over the summer and we have always been very happy and productive. The girls have been better able to replicate structure for themselves and have a decent ability to self-regulate.

This may not work for any of you, but since it has worked for me, I just thought I would share.",8.398053613053612,7.9828574766899765,8.143202797202798,70.639675990676,61.645687645687644,11.076550116550116,36.43263403263403,10.454891242816936,3.8102776689976694,3697,149,636,74,45,1185,353,858,0.004,0.8759999999999999,0.12,0.9983,1,0,2,0,0,0,91.0,12,8,23,16,27,21,0,0,47,0,93,8,2,6,10,131,131,60,0,23,12,2,0,3,0,29,0,5,4,9,45,58,6,1,12,6,1,15,7,0,1,6,15,8,75,21,142,76,23,122,0,0,3,0,73,52,0,13,52,491,120,31,0.057648343355230676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227095154738363,0.047968039784052,0.0,0.0,0.039202850327483926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04030906206472376,0.0,0.0,0.0513192477446971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035141895036770704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05098527495476996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897682980208926,0.06044319120232874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871364934267706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05899427032970906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797729435419413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03807618709165487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903565140828936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030118880055481287,0.11060308784060284,0.1310515281414862,0.04835269529924252,0.04610664645756634,0.06355750206567203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136773346823195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320234688043253,0.0,0.1734779662317226,0.0,0.0,0.0665184482171979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060031878438388135,0.06336404374722063,0.04699109405640526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449220589919973,0.0,0.05090454334927952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04901055999635004,0.0,0.0,0.11544215050901675,0.058446371896928265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582083930933915,0.0,0.0,0.06127106571002055,0.0423781654694952,0.042745516138397235,0.0,0.0,0.18392900149345215,0.0,0.056483136585881076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139360423492673,0.11719202822507073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401166307450623,0.06242753806366536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269779083718741,0.0,0.05521117746035554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766394381565995,0.0,0.0,0.059272098287204714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049231370240170325,0.0548367758686196,0.04584427647115552,0.0,0.4667456093892669,0.045938265897943815,0.0,0.1202795895120449,0.06512621904285762,0.0,0.04768730534498958,0.06479915330218187,0.057689976299360984,0.0,0.0,0.0887610223161794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061445463660523364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541865687573932,0.05433288137218502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576634524161309,0.2353064882429225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056314054826150414,0.240055834043274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426977620729697,0.034002486527988623,0.0,0.09248404749019876,0.0,0.051832783964065536,0.0,0.052018663251882806,0.06436231661508661,0.0,0.055570945808512386,0.0,0.1259060416531907,0.0,0.0,0.12285518732334565,0.0,0.0,0.03712364304558817
parenting,lukerobi,2020/03/14,"Child safe lock advice So, on a cabinet, know how it can open a little but you have to press a button or do something to open it all the way?  And it locks itself back every time the door is shut?  Looking for that functionality with a real door.  I have 2 patio doors that lead to a pool area, i figured something like this should exist.  I found a lock called ""Safety 1st prograde top of door lock"" on amazon, that looks close to what I want... however it seems it is easily defeatable.   

I remember seeing one made out of metal years ago, and cant for the life of me find it again.",2.414615384615381,4.134414777777781,3.8994957264957257,87.94411538461542,76.43589743589743,6.731282051282051,20.247008547008548,7.554174236665415,0.5549152136752133,447,10,94,6,10,148,83,117,0.0,0.855,0.145,0.9394,1,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,3,4,3,0,0,9,0,8,1,0,3,1,23,16,6,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,5,1,12,7,0,1,6,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,4,7,2,13,13,1,17,0,1,3,0,3,10,0,2,6,59,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21589177316580746,0.1958425064912808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16988273998116382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255958345248208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861443763631504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20192745239952198,0.0,0.0,0.24224006297611445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141821297163408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605050156150113,0.10793600538120307,0.22143147387183668,0.0,0.0,0.3710537514002471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905079336588253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970894953584288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25146849465194443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25027240069055395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760538571242545,0.201127803651184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34016783253794663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882697510848484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303111640819651,0.17536519668916728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227268750630712
parenting,CeruleanPimpernel,2020/03/14,"Looking for online activities to do with my 6-week-old My daughter is six weeks and a couple of days old. I'm home with her until at least mid-July. I'm someone who needs a routine and to stay busy, and we had plans for baby music class, new parents' group at the hospital, the baby friendly movie at my local theater, trips to synagogue, etc. Now, with activities are cancelled, we're stuck at home, and I'm already a little stir-crazy after a couple days. I'm diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and depression, and while I'm stable, this isn't helping.

Does anyone have any suggestions for online baby classes (music, storytime,etc), PPD groups, parent support groups, etc? I've heard a lot of resources have moved online, but I'm not sure where to look. I'm open to activities where we're just watching videos or following instructions, but my ideal would be ones with interaction with other humans. Thanks!",8.136640368178831,7.812962887573963,8.211439842209074,69.63591058514136,62.136094674556205,10.824720578566732,35.34582511505589,10.25414643259724,3.694585272846811,724,28,120,14,9,236,107,169,0.065,0.847,0.08800000000000001,0.7721,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,7,0,9,1,0,0,1,24,24,11,0,3,5,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,1,3,14,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,2,3,4,6,5,22,19,4,22,0,1,3,0,15,9,0,2,9,68,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153817266841446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338362641496152,0.0,0.10505090625904152,0.0,0.0,0.09601869153760716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30388822369877505,0.0,0.17712257854993374,0.0,0.11827518347937906,0.13937887587644704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017135283177655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4594507789117496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609458820830507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204400002990323,0.0,0.27549019955577336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763265706145406,0.0,0.0,0.2306316840369078,0.0,0.0,0.11674620051487852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595148726468488,0.0,0.10182247659641,0.0,0.132626382866649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881925465704581,0.0,0.09305289871494583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049595210968286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163524319487855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463669140237405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558313072447627,0.1294243008792516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642759019148234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203027501322652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975495643837602,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AfroGacha,2020/03/14,"I need help. New Foster Parent and im losing my mind. I have 2 foster girls ages 1 and 3 that ive been taking care for a about 9 months. They attach to my wife whenever they get the chance and barely give her any breathing room. Whenever we tell them to go play in their room, they start bawling and screaming until we tell them to come back in the living room. Bed time is my main issue right now, we give them melatoinin to help them sleep every night. We have a calm down time before bed where they watching Children bedtime videos until they get very sleepy or are already alseep then we just lay them in their beds. But lately it doesnt seem to work, they wake up in the middle of the night screaming and wanting my wife. Its so irritiating because i tell them that they are safe and okay in the most calm manner i can. And they just get louder until they get their way and go in the bed with her. I dont know else to do and im losing my mind. Its been going on every night for the past couple of weeks.",3.414919871794872,4.4258928317307715,3.9439615384615396,91.48437179487179,72.60576923076924,6.123589743589744,20.59743589743589,5.6839178017228535,-0.10846448717948708,791,14,172,3,15,249,116,208,0.049,0.845,0.106,0.875,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,18,3,7,10,0,0,9,1,12,3,3,0,0,28,29,16,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,5,16,0,1,2,2,0,4,2,4,0,0,2,3,36,6,24,27,2,38,0,2,1,0,37,15,0,3,18,105,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370911123988105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239667585026995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316876881231194,0.0,0.07386134706840454,0.0,0.1031028923497294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353627388322318,0.0,0.0,0.1043733253395423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340672900812224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420050307030896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121820417980604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20417427184201611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532158326421293,0.23246592277633474,0.2065833898636117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624293235459762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617590035573674,0.12646527291210966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658937461929636,0.0,0.13667992992820147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699133156438012,0.0,0.0,0.2711063403139745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24468517250230745,0.0,0.09671312370473363,0.0,0.0,0.08984266215048071,0.0,0.11702236781528805,0.0,0.3411167622831386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453991760617207,0.0,0.1156661531116102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347465098730467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030449498391036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125297618004313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576154466398006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110135565878126,0.0,0.3177118891411728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130512213309854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999742038131207,0.07146653463066355,0.09617551182580536,0.09719163298986536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820990663541521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemonlife18,2020/03/14,"Kids fighting My girls are 8 and 5. They constantly fight over everything. Right now they're bickering because my older one thinks my younger one stole her Evie gloves. Oh the joy of having kids close in age! 😂😒 In a few years from now, they'll be fighting over who gets to drive the car instead of Evie gloves. 




What's something your kids have recently argued about?",3.0784708249496973,5.546877450704226,2.824869215291752,92.87521126760565,77.30985915492958,6.310663983903421,24.227364185110666,7.447530270364453,1.0204631790744465,293,10,59,4,7,87,56,71,0.14,0.809,0.051,-0.68,0,0,1,0,5,0,7.0,0,1,2,0,4,5,4,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,7,1,9,5,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,7,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214286785067961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925350735982323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32645808483052746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897787185867928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4922837525647783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35865721064061323,0.0,0.0,0.3102063005410841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796410929720586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23275051935893185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339156500337092
parenting,SaccharomycesC17,2020/03/14,"Paid Maternity/Parental Leave in BC, Canada Hi everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask but if anyone is from British Columbia, Canada could you please help me out with a few questions. What are the strengths and weaknesses of the EI maternity leave policy in BC and how does it compare to other provinces in Canada? Also does the entire policy overall fall under the federal or provincial law?",6.621315789473684,7.783596394736843,7.106421052631582,71.18594736842105,65.31578947368422,10.81684210526316,33.62105263157895,10.793553405168565,3.98065052631579,330,14,55,9,5,108,59,76,0.085,0.79,0.125,0.7414,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,1,1,14,7,8,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,10,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,4,0,36,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874211650221587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502805546347066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206433416692894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843977744483867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130788362696104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225523649072185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581967229376922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4998142789910681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620681242150109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24658675643669445,0.2590749772749831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643922241682354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155659502798615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244253032188646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ForyouForthem,2020/03/14,"Love my wife, but man, oh man, my in-laws! So my wife and I have been together for four and a half years, married for almost two. My wife and I have a 10 month old that she carried, and we just adopted three boys with significant trauma. 

My father in law cannot understand that stop means stop when the kids say to stop messing with them. My mother in law thinks she knows everything and will not stop giving them candy, sugar, etc. Even though after each sugar rush they have behaviors that are uncontrollable and dangerous. 

How in the world do I get them to understand that they can't just let them go buck wild and that as their parents, we DO actually know best?

Also, feel free to share horror stories of in-laws to make me feel better?!",6.5374655172413805,6.167299737931041,6.452543103448278,81.08364224137931,65.41379310344827,9.732758620689657,28.46982758620689,9.188382445141503,2.0371551724137933,582,15,118,9,8,184,95,145,0.111,0.723,0.16699999999999998,0.8135,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,7,2,8,9,1,1,4,0,11,3,0,2,0,33,24,14,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,5,12,2,4,8,0,2,2,3,4,0,4,1,5,21,6,14,21,3,15,0,0,0,1,25,4,0,1,9,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.16248007882023266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667257983865377,0.0,0.0,0.1331500691173014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747315817943396,0.14725580719109105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185691622840503,0.10997174517377158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496395531072814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837490577400074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698942975586747,0.15972206673636252,0.09462584333035498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300820025323092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025763208454933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027284006030414,0.0,0.11114010906195497,0.0,0.0,0.18136741912630686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289879061983612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471384570277762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487865612262835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324075616506991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568061530054813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668654054145617,0.16358550202543007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626464034367695,0.3466649502658586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722060491782404
parenting,prettykitty9017,2020/03/14,"Helping a friend Tw: Stillborn

A close friend just lost her child at 33 weeks. How can I be there for her? I’ve never gone through child loss so I don’t know what to say or how to help. I don’t want to offer meaningless words/overused phrases. I’m two hours away so I can’t see her but I want to help somehow.",-1.3372058823529436,0.6870091029411753,0.2502352941176476,105.38005882352944,97.6764705882353,3.308235294117647,17.094117647058823,4.935628992294339,-1.0517164705882345,241,7,61,1,10,76,47,68,0.08199999999999999,0.703,0.215,0.7615,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,1,11,12,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,2,8,2,8,9,0,7,0,2,1,0,12,3,0,2,3,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24564476087154016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039976232185492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5257415746399696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574796512801234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368835175967196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854080671410607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20164954252927836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20791881749320926,0.0,0.0,0.20834509034511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25540269339985994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30842483882045124,0.0,0.20972273172689967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PuNkRoCkPrInCeSs6969,2020/03/14,"Coronavirus and play dates. Have them, don't have them, what are your thoughts? With heightened anxiety, concern, panic, worry and so on surrounding the Coronavirus any parents here still letting their kids have play dates with their friends?",8.861538461538462,11.624037205128205,5.515897435897441,78.67076923076927,61.564102564102576,9.302564102564103,38.641025641025635,9.725611199111238,4.177317948717949,197,10,29,4,3,53,30,39,0.165,0.669,0.165,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,4,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,3,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,3,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24668856977101494,0.0,0.2775096535985451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802667151653725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709456705643577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256195433656244,0.4028009565784934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28969981801425226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879901373749075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683993885254109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Biscuit1020,2020/03/14,"Can a three year old eat too much cucumber? Sorry if this sounds silly but my friend’s son eats around half a cucumber (occasionally a whole one) almost every day. He loves the stuff. 

She’s heard that it’s possibly too much in terms of the toxins that naturally occur in the cucumber. 
Does anyone have any insight?",4.273500000000002,6.330966016666667,5.413333333333334,77.62500000000001,72.16666666666666,8.8,23.666666666666664,9.3871,2.0725666666666664,251,7,46,6,5,83,48,60,0.02,0.87,0.11,0.7438,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,2,3,4,3,4,7,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,2,4,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270225516290314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541741292556992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585245586233776,0.0,0.0,0.20182461910299535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621256620574494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19840002359717948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639725549815292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19101735751367774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515962255602402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461934458360484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333235571461925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23789949390080795,0.0,0.15362810574892216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25558735468141425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537891359993853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595346946126806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531194552977156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599717351012034
parenting,bammysammy86,2020/03/14,"School Closures and Daycares So this morning I log into Facebook and a friend has posted a recommendation for a daycare in the area which is taking in more children due to the temporarily suspended caretaker-to-child ratios because of school closures. While that is very nice that they are taking in more children, it is infuriating to think that the whole point of the school closures is being negated by the increase in daycare capacities.

I thought about it more and now I’m furious. Rich people can work from home or afford to take off work to care for their kids and lessen their exposure, but poorer people who need to come into work or risk getting fired and not being able to pay for rent or food have to cram their kids into daycares which are over capacity, increasing exposure to COVID-19 for their kids and for themselves and potentially putting their kids in unsafe situations where they are not being supervised properly due to the lack of coverage. 

The government needs to step in and close everything and let this thing pass and ensure that while everything is closed, expenses and basic necessities will still be met. Stockmarket be damned.",13.0714756097561,10.120567239024393,11.211554878048782,60.32221036585368,54.65853658536585,14.542682926829267,45.625,12.602617957971056,5.6874024390243925,944,41,150,22,8,292,119,205,0.115,0.8240000000000001,0.062,-0.9145,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,7,3,5,7,2,1,10,0,18,1,0,0,0,28,30,18,0,3,6,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,6,12,17,1,0,2,0,4,6,3,3,0,0,2,1,9,4,32,21,7,29,0,0,0,0,16,16,1,3,6,110,21,9,0.15412374010809504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939524014450585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713942484902466,0.0,0.0,0.13276395505452554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770329593060485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636703831576745,0.0,0.11907561928704655,0.0,0.08052329298369497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459867781007064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760196646339766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285616007906653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21369999080457566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569675159746714,0.0,0.14760793928676982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493692807129525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467944359789517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324154141307022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308341794007599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476456148755055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239296451288232,0.09875626941740097,0.0,0.12235703385699664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716822673301004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720736517546167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366117552107357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,silversnake84,2020/03/14,"Desperate for help with 3 year old and potty training Hey everyone ,

Me and wife are at the end and we simply don’t have the energy or patience anymore and our out of ideas.

We are having a regression for potty training with our 3 year old when we thought she finally figured it out. I’ll try to keep this short as possible. 

We moved into a new house in April 2019 and welcome our 2nd baby girl at the end of April. She also started a new daycare around that time. A LOT of change for the little one but around August the new daycare told us they think she’s ready for potty training. We were hesitant at first because of all the change but trusted their judgement. It did not go smoothly and the daycare was not being consistent and some times we would pick her at daycare with a diaper and we would ask why and they would apologize that they forgot to remove after her nap. 

Throughout the months she would get pretty good at peeing in the potty but never going #2. We started picking up on her queues ( she would go in a corner or hide under the table or have an embarrassment look on her face ) and everytime we would notice we would say okay let’s go on the potty ! and she would scream and freak out and then we would just let her do her thing and then go clean her. After months she still wouldn’t try and we just got more and more frustrated so then we would carry her to the potty and then she would resist and scream and cry and we would do the same. Granted I’m writing this and realizing it’s not the best approach but we’re just sleep deprived with the new baby and with her as well and just so frustrated . She didn’t start sleeping thru the night until maybe 18 months and even now she has night terrors / sleep walks , it’s just very difficult with no other family around to help us.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago with off and on moderate success, she’s consistently going pee in the potty. We decide to go to the store and create a treasure box as rewards for when she goes to the potty for #2. Treasures are flying out of the chest and she’s going all the time looks like she’s finally mastered it. We go back to the store  to get more treasures still everything working great. During this time it’s spring break and then she’s sick so she’s been away from daycare for 2 weeks. She goes back to daycare and then mid week she has an accident and ever since then, she 100% refuses to go in the potty for #2 and goes back to hiding in the corner or table or whatever and goes in her underwear and we just can’t handle it anymore. We ask her why and she says she wants diapers again.

We love her to pieces but we’re struggling with her. She’s very strong willed , very stubborn and has such a strong character that we are losing every power struggle and don’t know what to do anymore.

Any and all help would be appreciated.",3.9523280423280447,5.267696940035272,4.575881834215171,86.30075396825396,71.663139329806,7.375308641975309,25.14021164021164,7.793537801064563,1.2464857142857142,2243,66,451,28,42,716,240,567,0.124,0.736,0.14,0.8578,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,25,0,4,10,26,29,3,4,34,1,40,9,7,2,5,129,69,64,0,15,19,1,1,1,0,15,1,4,1,1,16,73,0,4,7,1,2,15,10,13,1,2,9,7,65,16,72,41,11,104,0,2,2,1,80,34,0,7,57,322,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05288080111746777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047706301163939584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040567632070694144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17748600624138755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931752486824527,0.1115392568713678,0.0,0.05604809377084315,0.13761367050264509,0.0,0.03636530140562778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260452975498428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621474003180996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552851742911615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567373250045864,0.0,0.0,0.03940174593647478,0.05396161077386808,0.050262141360170313,0.0570031708958926,0.053614313788183335,0.0,0.056237683260475735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069887375170314,0.0,0.0507427456947866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233483709808366,0.0,0.3390346704088268,0.050036013609726405,0.04771177232979966,0.06577015032309894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995701829790464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883417686843481,0.0,0.06734354322083835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302434863550277,0.0,0.0,0.03278497853823775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220031191201135,0.0,0.029144553632596864,0.05979025667487401,0.0,0.0,0.10019081139854788,0.0667389925163691,0.0,0.05071678076725746,0.05384121399412679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993174107117056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284881198329225,0.06340411550536784,0.0,0.0,0.04600982503526314,0.2304617419372018,0.0,0.11196486721216407,0.0,0.0,0.0679179249824319,0.12519635019136086,0.0,0.04042395763691062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725235820493104,0.0,0.06069086024207442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488053674123653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04934745921579385,0.0,0.17909506934796504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266729302064926,0.0,0.09528155795023877,0.0,0.0,0.12472929012569575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03963231337417356,0.03822469088413126,0.0,0.047359624095508576,0.13914188030635852,0.0,0.0,0.0570031708958926,0.0,0.08100403051003416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435158992215033,0.0,0.0,0.14766554627353867,0.03518622629306934,0.0,0.1435555876543245,0.0,0.05363725574769812,0.0,0.10765921222479434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04342975005300633,0.0,0.0,0.5509061368734443,0.0,0.0,0.07683208132146355
parenting,HeathenRunning,2020/03/14,"""Social distancing"" vs. Social isolation I'm very worried right now about the effects ""social distancing"" will have on the mental health of myself and my family. It sounds to me like complete social isolation, and that is how my social circle is interpreting this. My kids no longer have any way to contact their friends, my office is shut down, and my community is posting angry rants on Facebook about anyone who dares to leave their home (even to play outside or run). This screams severe depression to me, for not only myself, but my older daughter also seems susceptible. What are you doing to keep yourself and your family mentally healthy during this time?",11.811637931034484,9.94078378448276,10.547655172413792,60.76286206896553,55.98275862068965,13.073103448275864,41.30344827586207,11.602472056035307,4.988177931034482,533,21,78,11,5,168,84,116,0.139,0.7909999999999999,0.071,-0.5642,0,2,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,2,1,6,5,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,2,0,13,12,8,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,7,4,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,14,3,13,11,0,11,0,1,0,0,14,5,0,2,4,57,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382708279601618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679424105173898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952554565470018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923794495302073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259490297870315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401244044484497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683658666702501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099694404636481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129788780821352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427759116180613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651592714340254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071464274026913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695388122418121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28688502905375024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825392625013336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631978224046093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155527158171045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957852688092358,0.0,0.16080062781565865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7254747327082213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299802093018384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744317453325008,0.0,0.11298071892921972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455043153941727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CultAtrophy,2020/03/14,Father of 1 about to be 3 needs car monitor options My wife and I are expecting twins. We have a toddler that we currently use a mirror to see in the car. She’s still ear facing and will be for a while. I’m looking into options for being able to see all three in the car while driving. I’ve come across some car video systems but none that can connect three cameras. I think headrest mirrors are going to be annoying to get positioned properly. Does anybody have a good solution to keeping an eye on three kids while driving?,4.000576923076924,5.555729442307693,5.0242307692307735,82.19576923076926,71.88461538461539,7.892307692307693,32.230769230769226,8.472884824447931,2.642734615384616,418,20,78,7,8,137,73,104,0.035,0.897,0.068,0.5023,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,7,0,10,3,3,1,1,16,21,6,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,6,0,1,1,1,0,8,1,1,0,3,0,5,6,1,15,16,3,19,0,0,4,0,6,5,0,3,5,53,8,0,0.31331774573775484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698954949038882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741864707061384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369559043491547,0.0,0.17806569531305005,0.26279605986506804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784912084925388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631079953290317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323211384298044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993473559354024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25021595647520256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200761360252672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27060593445516085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sanderbach,2020/03/14,"Am I really bad at vacuuming? I swear that I vacuum a room, then turn around to see more of a mess! I'm sure this croissant wasn't on the couch a minute ago. Maybe my 2YO can shed light on the subject...",0.6620454545454528,2.222554750000004,2.913636363636368,93.76545454545456,81.04545454545455,7.127272727272729,17.81818181818182,8.07648339933343,0.2694272727272731,155,3,39,3,4,53,37,44,0.19,0.755,0.054000000000000006,-0.6969,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,4,1,6,5,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503548453123035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35184582180567137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300074145652725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970699276216347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531997320397401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31495369919680194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3725073561594024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4299057008449224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kj00000,2020/03/14,"Walmart price Gouging $242 kids meds! How is it that Walmart can charge $242 for kids meds.

They said yesterday this was going to be controlled. All stores are out.


Advil model 017030 price $242 for 8oz

[Walmart Price Gouge ](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Advil-017130-Children-s-Grape-Suspension-Liquid-12-3-4-Fluid-Ounce/157572159)",11.836000000000006,17.101291600000003,4.1172222222222254,78.9025,66.33333333333334,4.777777777777779,23.055555555555557,6.42735559955562,0.6405555555555558,282,7,36,2,6,64,34,45,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,1,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4117173772721949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862303518298986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8154980285479312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491821815006885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alightforalltosee,2020/03/14,"Advice video for unexpected homeschooling/mealprepping/family time  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M8-saj-ORcs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M8-saj-ORcs) 

\^\^ This video has some excellent advice for the people who will be spending a lot more time with their children in the coming weeks",19.700196078431368,25.86037294117647,8.959411764705887,51.01401960784318,40.17647058823529,11.5921568627451,31.92156862745098,11.20814326018867,4.989050980392157,256,7,22,6,3,58,29,34,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,16,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6642309575176962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927665429688533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203976913596948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28894397010919115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356219634863865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39636000842282143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726219395939888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_raakshas_,2020/03/14,"A Very Complex Situation I’m 19 M, in the workforce
Girlfriend is 18 F, working but also seeking out college opportunities 

Her father and step mother are locked up facing potentially long term charges
Her stepmother is 6mo pregnant

There are no other adults capable of taking care of this baby, so the responsibility is being put on my GF and I

I’m stressing out and I don’t know how to go about this!!!! We’re obviously going to help out but this is life changing for us as well and I have no clue where to even start with preparing for this situation",2.9339167374681416,5.50119518691589,4.966253186066272,76.78237892948175,78.43925233644859,7.255395072217502,27.48428207306712,8.296473431620573,2.2371943925233646,443,19,80,9,11,152,81,107,0.096,0.75,0.154,0.8388,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,2,8,4,0,1,3,0,9,2,1,1,1,14,17,10,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,2,0,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,7,3,16,16,1,14,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,0,3,55,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608354754594156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372447971184224,0.0,0.2461570694508277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536907386336056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644882234484837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596840789926492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788132728311982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16435709910788646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20592491968117416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339195278444104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5231106628335318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470045295037528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26654766950633635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495527395387953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279899583543586,0.0,0.0,0.19199510358504265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20921787241189624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940240097686887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OfficiallyDepressed,2020/03/14,"My baby (11m) seems to have problem moving eyes with head..? Idk if this is normal but she seems to have to sort of realign her head and eyes... 
say if she is looking straight ahead and you are 90 degrees to her side and call her
Then she will turn her head quickly towards you 
But her eyes are still looking in the original place 
Then she will move her eyes towards you 
But her eyes might not focus
So she does a much smaller head turn and then bring her eyes to focus on you 

Does that make sense?
Is it normal?",1.2407272727272731,3.4430099904761966,1.8432034632034653,98.84922077922079,82.42857142857143,4.199134199134199,20.021645021645018,4.851557810540192,-0.5076666666666667,399,11,89,1,11,122,59,105,0.027999999999999997,0.9179999999999999,0.054000000000000006,0.5845,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,10,10,10,2,0,20,18,13,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,9,18,0,12,15,1,17,0,0,8,0,19,7,0,6,7,62,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125742666960806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592593534136378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6080970037274965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487840066334684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988780133305502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714266119561554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148777751630276,0.10889269105974564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902721566255205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476446000350766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174053087144714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177990264402677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697042175097533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829691472826499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222460938618259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kimmi_1992,2020/03/14,"Supporting sexually active 15 year old My little cousin is 15 now and dating the sweetest boy her same age.  She came to me with some questions about sex.  She is giving her boyfriend oral sex, but he does not want to go down on her because her mom won’t let her shave. She looks up to me as an older role model because I am older and married. 

She was nervous about pregnancy, but I have talked to her about how to keep track of her cycle on a phone app so she can know when she’s fertile. I would like to give them some alone time at our house so they can experiment. 

Do you think that is the right thing to do? She’s pretty responsible, so I think she would be careful about being safe. It’s a lot younger than I started having sex, but I think I might have been better off with more experience, and it seems weird to think her giving a guy blow jobs without any sort of mutual interaction.",5.0127423405323945,5.140829259668512,5.495781014565548,84.9678905072828,68.55801104972376,8.349773982923152,26.95178302360623,8.00094639256281,1.3829955801104965,700,19,150,8,11,225,119,181,0.045,0.804,0.151,0.9646,1,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,2,1,10,7,0,1,6,0,20,3,0,1,0,30,37,12,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,2,7,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,1,30,5,25,27,5,20,0,0,1,3,33,8,0,7,11,103,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887576638397865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775106803892364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525040878712853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713017138942348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440521023527713,0.14655691615008873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579162469863622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812190582212293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4136779548364429,0.08169321067824457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232947804969182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658616478956481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264405929143598,0.127766557884283,0.0,0.0,0.0789981200322766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698830803445334,0.0,0.07022621483401971,0.14406957344972568,0.0,0.0,0.12070902739439628,0.0,0.0,0.12220628206388998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249000972185564,0.0,0.1683516124133744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508354853501709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623965230520564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102653786940152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275686542675927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308594319237456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174297083059372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16311935295154378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553624093900107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549734020530654,0.36842222911805306,0.0,0.0,0.08381847001316667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478412529508855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856439670426055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422368398656576,0.0,0.0,0.09256663040794023
parenting,This_Is_BadAdvice,2020/03/14,"A little confession, expecting my first child I am so excited for this baby to be born and to meet them of course but I’m more excited to introduce my dog to the baby. She’s been so helpful and supportive and affectionate. But even more than that, I cannot wait for my man to hold this baby. That, besides giving birth, will be the single greatest moment of my life.

Just had to share. Having some strong emotions right now.",2.76774096385542,5.079338710843377,4.094804216867471,84.1838930722892,77.55421686746988,7.523493975903612,23.62801204819277,8.472884824447931,1.6890975903614462,335,11,64,7,8,110,59,83,0.0,0.664,0.336,0.9885,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,0,0,11,12,7,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,8,6,11,7,5,7,1,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,5,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159018523971114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24420632917137694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144962073045943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546832829079771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24782542330403734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611546030895117,0.0,0.3705713733174674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157514742085074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4195706365369638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,positionofthestar,2020/03/14,Home depot projects My family really loves the free Home depot projects for kids. Does anyone know how to get similar kits? I don't have a wood shop at home so it is amazing to have projects with precut pieces and including nails screw and instructions.,4.988617021276597,7.327288234042555,4.558457446808512,83.30875,70.91489361702128,8.955319148936171,26.643617021276608,9.516144504307137,2.5055574468085107,205,7,37,5,4,62,39,47,0.026000000000000002,0.754,0.21899999999999997,0.9046,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,4,2,0,1,0,5,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,7,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,19,3,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939374358986383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24272070014136024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614715032325282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449098061552405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8346478492074385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243049010633594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503293582294961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776847198412675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eddiehe101,2020/03/14,How soon is too soon to teach my son to drive? I have an 11 almost 12 year old son. I feel like it’s not too early to teach him how to drive by example right now and at 12 give him a shot behind the wheel. Is that far fetched? I feel like he can do it.,-0.3622033898305084,0.6269127796610228,1.8120000000000007,103.08850847457629,82.22033898305084,5.397966101694917,15.189830508474572,5.6839178017228535,-1.182717966101695,190,2,55,1,5,64,42,59,0.0,0.907,0.09300000000000001,0.6553,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,7,8,3,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,7,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,8,33,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34996840005729724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534299847640328,0.4993580848544801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33526710737336685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34149085732873474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667358359664373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29846651508023936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22506309113165013
parenting,RunRynn12,2020/03/14,"What to say to your child when other kid(s) won't say hello... I have a very friendly, talks to any child, wants to play with everyone, a beautiful soul 7-year-old girl. I've had to have this talk and let her know it's okay- A LOT.

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Scene: She will go up to a child around her age or so and say ""Hello!"" wanting to play or talk to them. Which is awesome, I'm so glad she is so friendly. But, of course, she has many times either gotten the ""blank look"" with no words or maybe a kid runs away. We do get the few that are open to it and friendly. But,  more of the shy ones. 

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I've walked her through it a good amount of times so that she knows it's nothing to do with her, that some kids are shyer than others or whatnot.  I do feel it does hurt her feelings sometimes, though.

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Has anyone gone through this? Any luck helping keep their confidence up about it? Any suggestions or what worked for you would be great.",1.869725146198832,3.8943572473684185,2.127719298245616,98.60847953216377,79.15789473684211,5.064327485380117,20.555555555555557,5.82211442006289,-0.24547953216374285,727,19,165,4,18,219,116,190,0.046,0.743,0.21100000000000002,0.9882,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,1,2,2,1,8,11,0,0,9,1,17,0,0,0,0,29,30,16,0,3,8,0,2,0,3,3,0,3,0,6,16,9,0,1,4,2,0,4,2,1,0,1,3,6,16,10,25,22,6,13,1,1,1,0,33,5,0,8,4,106,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.356845009486608,0.4001900437070026,0.2239657930406978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676185937704139,0.0,0.0,0.09772891446565052,0.0,0.0,0.10314344325817333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960706331184352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490103993322676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111017768566917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544510156396362,0.0,0.05735636397841536,0.0,0.062391423039007424,0.0920796120510481,0.0,0.121034620653969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358430398969278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752349189411958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757894563102294,0.0,0.0,0.12066621167902335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122591416376754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218890933853974,0.0,0.0,0.09333240521421826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113013290521727,0.11029039024612708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533842264122803,0.0,0.11519734011730655,0.0,0.07439086506386226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619082452033107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857682663414192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647149166343722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785988162118634,0.0,0.1280290877945994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058133154670046,0.12950408447312473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992232489874956,0.0,0.0,0.07798571115276055,0.0,0.4001900437070026,0.07069576221975157
parenting,littlebugs,2020/03/14,"Resources for Elementary Children to Learn at Home I suspect after our state's two week extended spring break we will be transitioning to online learning. For middle and high school students online learning is much more viable than elementary. So, for non-homeschooling parents and caregivers of young children who find themselves suddenly faced with a month or more without school, what are the options?",10.726818181818182,12.250725772727275,8.366212121212126,64.4693181818182,56.42424242424242,10.236363636363636,43.77272727272727,10.125756701596842,5.04970909090909,335,18,43,6,4,98,56,66,0.035,0.965,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,12,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,11,2,3,11,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,6,30,5,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26392961337664017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051002785900531,0.2896588285932319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304926423283788,0.0,0.21227842419067025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206437753201343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5844992424836548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28208533063771185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316330549764636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783629889667487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Working_Dad_87,2020/03/14,"Toddler bed or twin bed on the floor? Our oldest (2.5 years) is starting to outgrow her crib, and our second (3 months) will be inhering the crib soon. I just wanted to get some other parent's opinions on this. Should we get a toddler bed that has the side rails, and that's more similar to the current crib? Or should go for a twin bed that she can keep for longer and grow into? If we get a twin, we'd probably just put the matress straight on the floor and/or do the pool noodle under the sheet trick. Our oldest is rather tall for her age (I think 36"" at her last check-up) and is a little bit ahead of the curve.",3.315870516185477,4.1866244015748055,3.850341207349082,92.59096237970252,72.70078740157479,6.589326334208224,22.772528433945762,6.42735559955562,0.3098108486439193,477,11,107,3,9,150,80,127,0.01,0.97,0.02,0.3049,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,13,0,11,0,0,0,0,20,19,7,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,5,7,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,12,0,14,14,3,25,0,0,0,0,11,12,0,5,10,68,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132352271821696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497013785002149,0.0,0.1630595514375728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550218977117762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23387279269649694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28756269740749424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22901161482293225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185834828704396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093412751236325,0.0,0.0,0.2884273090535371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307884887649225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18384258288069316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922901333985346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18476288429713925
parenting,wrckedteacher,2020/03/14,"Curriculum Hi there,
My district has posted a curriculum for K-12 students as they have cancelled school for next week. Go to Resources, At Home and click on your grade. There are printables, website links, etc. Good luck my friends!

[Long Beach, NY Public Schools](www.lbeach.org)",6.724666666666668,10.441638800000003,3.653333333333333,84.90000000000002,72.1111111111111,7.155555555555559,31.222222222222207,8.238735603445708,2.7613555555555562,226,10,34,4,5,60,41,45,0.039,0.78,0.18100000000000002,0.807,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,6,4,1,7,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,1,3,18,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38543347221342616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26700839824260164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196411484794171,0.2898714669628622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466632848911119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058436304146283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675477251058687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33098765030852145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497639419447766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772181193906155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yagirljules,2020/03/14,"Tips for Working from Home with the Kids Like many parents in recent weeks, I am new to the work from home game. I have been searching for advice to keep the kids busy while I actually get some work done. Most of it is obvious (do a craft, read a book, etc.), or it applies to very young children (because school-aged kids are typically at school). The rest recommends going out among other people and scheduling lots of play dates, which of course, we’re trying to limit right now.

So Reddit, what are you doing to keep your children, tweens, and teens healthy and entertained in the coming weeks? Do you have a particularly fun game you like to play? Are you setting a daily routine to keep them from sliding into screen-induced ennui? And how the hell are you doing all of that while getting some work done?",6.679607843137255,6.938931732026143,6.233464052287585,80.65058823529417,65.01307189542484,8.630065359477124,30.0718954248366,8.167268648758528,1.9834130718954248,637,20,120,7,9,197,100,153,0.042,0.8240000000000001,0.134,0.9162,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,6,1,5,3,7,1,0,10,0,15,0,0,1,2,20,22,9,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,5,6,8,0,4,0,7,0,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,10,6,23,19,7,21,1,0,0,0,15,7,1,5,12,81,16,7,0.0,0.0,0.14490547034666038,0.0,0.0,0.14510336061606174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905185319821639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279115608206066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30391501312132474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560634474401234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516048891025153,0.0,0.08439066767012816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978964911276818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959559810264668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509007807590138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262414544762423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054622917340846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341321088967665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488131232474484,0.0,0.0,0.10294473134645736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853085005899466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661661899865255,0.0,0.0,0.12681021774573367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005609638213135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008154152858468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225203509606776,0.0,0.0,0.2382205114955237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4324118945475929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vailixira,2020/03/14,"Schedule during School shutdown With the school shutdown was announced yesterday, I wrote down a schedule for my 9 yr and 10 yr old boys. This was to instill some discipline for the next 3 weeks and limit their screen time. I work from home and it will be very busy in this situation. I have a project launch in 3 weeks and it is going to be crazy. My wife usually rants that I am way to lenient with my kids as they have far too much screen time.",5.9913333333333325,5.552208800000006,5.721111111111113,86.105,66.55555555555556,8.977777777777778,31.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.9626000000000008,352,12,76,4,5,109,62,90,0.055,0.92,0.025,-0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,11,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,9,0,12,5,2,16,0,0,2,0,6,4,0,1,10,46,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012479765966268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24731813774691586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124876362188366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622176125021465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587215227448309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990604459308313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771419265003231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875403244217274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715491995179661,0.2034364682913017,0.0,0.195706549446732,0.3955484876855331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949742223262596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jaginoleruffr,2020/03/14,What to do ? I have a 6 year old son..yesterday we were in CVS and he wanted a LOL toy..a surprise doll in an egg looking thing for like 9.99 .Did I mention my child is male ? A boy ??? I have 5 kids 30 male 28 female 20 male 17 female and 6 male..I have 2 granddaughters ages 6 and 2...yep..me and my 28 yr old daughter were pregnant at the same time.Now in high school..same daughter was ....fiance...ALL OF MY KIDS ARE STRAIGHT !!! Even my 6 year old son doesnt act feminine...I bought him the damn toy..I tried to talk him out of it..so did the cashier..she was like dont you want a truck or ball..this is a girl toy..i could tell my son was embarrassed..I continued to pick on him with the cashier even when he lied and said its for my little sister kaitlyn..lol..he has no little sister.I feel bad for picking on him...Fuck it..it dont mean hes gay does it ??? I bought him the damn doll...so what ??? He has guns army men...trucks..construction toys..dinosaur stuffed animals he sleeps with..hes a kid..it dont mean hes gay..it wont make him gay.....will it ???? I would still love him of course but i dunno i say fuck it..one doll wont hurt my son and make him flaming queer will it ??? I loved my daughter when she had a girlfriend...her girlfriend even moved in with us..my.son will be straight...right ? No offense to anyone gay...i love all people...thank you,-2.308154761904764,-0.8927431249999991,-0.14539682539682453,105.265,112.19444444444444,3.02936507936508,14.170634920634921,5.148860815047168,-1.2692115079365078,1012,26,255,7,56,328,149,288,0.078,0.8140000000000001,0.10800000000000001,0.9002,0,0,0,1,0,0,108.0,1,2,0,0,6,12,4,0,13,1,30,8,1,4,1,26,45,10,0,4,2,7,1,2,1,5,0,2,0,8,7,10,1,0,3,0,2,2,8,6,0,0,11,4,29,6,20,27,2,24,0,1,1,6,41,12,4,2,12,115,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428450187784314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064602168970196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624153136449874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548553048596596,0.0,0.4238166064372457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23884697123004256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060948740684432075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22287492217868665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735732632847874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290407639109795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777969389512614,0.2416258700631269,0.0,0.0,0.1012233987727558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263766765711072,0.0,0.16092302248290405,0.0,0.0,0.2626072037544891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811514305645672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37945994957270224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294066160095018,0.114661321845004,0.09585839531858,0.0,0.12199310519765348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062724029472005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626354953570368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688563682202794,0.10535743699743658,0.11097720966892828,0.0,0.0,0.08008154450416873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702879527555444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818388749233795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499500397637674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219545148522092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562829081320672,0.0,0.0,0.1552478575147267
parenting,VoltaicShock,2020/03/14,"Fun Printables for the Kids while they are home from school I have seen some people ask for printables on this sub and I found this cool site that has a lot of printables.

https://www.withashleyandco.com/?s=printables

I figure we all need some more activities for our kids to do while they are all at home since schools have been closed.",6.5830508474576295,9.297201542372887,4.412000000000003,84.44783050847458,67.47457627118644,8.109830508474579,21.969491525423727,8.841846274778883,1.174739661016949,277,6,52,5,5,77,44,59,0.0,0.899,0.10099999999999999,0.7118,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,0,2,11,11,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,7,2,8,8,6,6,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,3,2,36,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629996175592274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084568389987497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5643810759625875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23917128945921626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085979065365011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19503438265437895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5694290641413412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23271381333014615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lapanim,2020/03/14,"Elementary E-Learning Database Hi Parenting - 

Here is a small database I'm working on for parents of elementary aged kiddos that 1) are free, 2) do not use youtube, and 3) require minimal parental supervision. I'll keep updating it as well and I'm working on a middle school and HS version. I hope this helps any parents out there with the younger kiddos!

[https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hlB2cR6EpKS\_8g8kNBGu-\_XcAMmkSk80Ljjgl7Y82d4/edit?usp=sharing](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hlB2cR6EpKS_8g8kNBGu-_XcAMmkSk80Ljjgl7Y82d4/edit?usp=sharing)",17.02869936034115,23.144534343283592,9.981663113006398,40.5468656716418,48.85074626865672,8.007675906183369,37.929637526652456,8.841846274778883,4.082357782515992,479,19,48,7,7,124,54,67,0.0,0.8240000000000001,0.17600000000000002,0.899,4,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,8,4,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,7,8,1,7,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,2,24,4,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305971510428899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872368139872473,0.0,0.0,0.1907439670089567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706983748924323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8529727569515125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19435974150737206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586517577261892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726714731143633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27962202070574904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FullSpectrumWizard,2020/03/14,"I need an honest opinion. I’m a single father, sharing a two bedroom apartment. So, basically I’m a 25 year old single father. My son is 2 and 1/2 years old. I live with a friend in a 2 bedroom apartment in Colorado, I can’t afford a 2 bedroom on my own. I can barely afford a 1 bedroom on my own. 

My room isn’t big, and When I have my son he shares a bed with me. He rolls and kicks and moves all night and keeps me up all night and it really drains me and makes it hard for me to be energetic and interactive with him later in the day. 

My question to you is:

I want to buy him his own bed, but the only place I could put it is in the living room of my apartment where all of his toys and everything else are. 

Is it wrong of me to have my son sleep in his own bed in the living room of my apartment so I can get better sleep? Or should I continue co-sleeping until I can get my own place that he has a room in.",2.591062452399086,2.583460886138617,4.723465346534656,88.87336252856058,73.8019801980198,7.403503427265804,24.44935262757045,7.010146845296331,0.7177337395277985,697,18,169,6,13,244,96,202,0.028999999999999998,0.89,0.081,0.7747,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,14,0,16,2,2,1,3,25,24,15,0,4,2,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,11,0,5,12,0,1,1,1,1,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,31,5,23,21,10,35,0,0,0,0,19,22,0,3,11,115,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260695289567248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119712368438286,0.0,0.0,0.09669685958751002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525299261534373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475356625139098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584083274940565,0.0,0.15667162381023733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431396047794364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327075498942392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971909372705324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008400679284186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593591351950964,0.0,0.11117626903246393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814111397808823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314666988681336,0.0,0.0,0.1140337252998349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313304176419892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072793976529886,0.16796357850247828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605338079734828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4501353759375647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646650866000685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843663456464082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393240003209414,0.0,0.19310882167563986
parenting,CopperHero,2020/03/14,"Neighborhood Friend My son (5) has a neighborhood friend (6-7).  When they play together we originally thought his friend was just a little stinky from playing, or maybe had trouble wiping that day.

Since then, a “suprise” rolled down his pants leg into our living room floor.  On another occasion, we saw him shaking his leg to get another one to fall out in the yard.

My wife and I are at a total loss for how to address this with the kid/parents.  Advise?",5.179108527131785,6.406445127906983,5.367441860465117,82.10992248062018,68.65116279069767,8.989147286821705,30.6124031007752,9.2995712137729,2.622347286821706,355,14,68,7,6,112,71,86,0.096,0.757,0.146,0.6838,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,1,1,3,8,0,1,6,0,4,2,2,2,1,12,7,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,6,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,3,0,1,4,1,11,5,12,3,1,15,0,1,1,0,14,9,0,1,4,43,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.541011518577639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663703674378698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5979247513633875,0.0,0.13477953540366933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585553565697342,0.22779368588452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591671878373675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480826077743675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133968078232352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480066780125755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,West-Taro,2020/03/14,"Deodorant or just a dirty boy? A few days ago, my son (4th grader) and I were roughhousing and he reeked of smelly armpits. I told he stunk and needed deodorant. He seemed uninterested and nonchalant about it. I bought him the Arm and Hammer deodorant. Now I'm leaning towards the idea he doesn't shower long so he basically stinks and this is not puberty-related.

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Thoughts?",3.1828888888888898,6.266461542857144,3.963333333333335,80.50055555555558,83.57142857142857,8.253968253968255,27.777777777777786,8.841846274778883,2.98473015873016,308,14,54,9,9,98,54,70,0.161,0.8390000000000001,0.0,-0.8786,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,0,3,2,2,0,0,13,9,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,4,3,5,0,3,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,4,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760962939018032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374738647474583,0.3784659364511159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20087015059392546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35160781055844426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756380856286778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23094849200155765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835474391315237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472696407209536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976196255054148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784659364511159,0.0
parenting,_mywifeleftme,2020/03/14,Do you now or did you ever think that your baby was 'the cutest baby in the world'? Why or why not? I am genuinely asking because I have always been curious to know if every parent looks at their baby and thinks they are the cutest they've ever seen. Is it just me?,3.0860909090909097,4.070108472727276,4.576136363636365,86.74420454545454,73.36363636363636,6.954545454545455,19.204545454545453,7.1686216300943375,0.278545454545454,206,3,43,2,4,69,44,55,0.0,0.8240000000000001,0.17600000000000002,0.887,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,2,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,2,11,14,4,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,8,0,3,10,0,6,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,3,3,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23024629312671185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586880769697183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868087797814438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5006031315908367,0.23314153343943025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207350827755625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23236812811668725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30725558530497193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546113558558651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993785212434205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway273628k,2020/03/14,"How do I prevent my 7 year old daughter from touching herself in front of us My 7 year old daughter recently started masterbateing. I know it’s normal for kids to do this but she will do it when people are also in the same room.

I have talked to her saying that if she wants to do this she has to do it in her room with the door closed or in the bathroom. I have also made sure she knew about boundaries and all that but she still continues to do it and it’s making my 12 year old son uncomfortable. What can I do to make her stop doing this in front of people",1.9351260504201693,3.4534954957983217,3.4291512605042023,91.67246638655465,77.23529411764707,6.104537815126051,21.984033613445376,6.742157984588678,0.3525791596638652,440,12,99,4,10,145,68,119,0.053,0.912,0.034,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,4,2,21,21,10,0,3,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,11,4,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,18,1,17,18,2,22,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,2,12,76,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978417446096116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023421955441644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620681979821368,0.24860793688325555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245704874773072,0.0,0.0,0.5862228644326869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582043981817621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387077889680936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809041941542853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180818748262008,0.0,0.14871633702798995,0.1556891005764504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551109560030098,0.0,0.0,0.14967739178838516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22400094306441432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983797495998247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597606697299834
parenting,LearnPlayForKids,2020/03/14,"Family friendly video to help encourage young people to wash their hands! We have created a family friendly video to help encourage young people to wash their hands!

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Stay safe and wash your hands!",12.010530191458026,15.160924721649485,7.331811487481589,67.17824742268043,54.360824742268036,10.491310751104573,38.59941089837997,10.608840637214634,4.819852430044183,546,24,66,12,7,144,63,97,0.018000000000000002,0.655,0.327,0.9884,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,2,2,1,1,5,0,0,2,0,7,8,4,3,0,12,10,5,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,2,7,0,1,0,5,2,2,2,0,0,1,1,5,9,5,9,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,0,2,38,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677333579175829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833302371465995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636962367398505,0.27960291485069594,0.0,0.3325640728263126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347382238623973,0.16559457122289542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34397330303137624,0.0,0.0,0.27231610114922417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26441906609306365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176228110595782,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Covid19Boi,2020/03/14,"Children are annoying, so Frozen 2 will hit Disney+ three months early lol. Funny, but kinda true. My 3 kids are already getting on my nerves from having no school! 

https://betanews.com/2020/03/14/frozen2-disney-plus-early/",10.23387096774194,15.085505290322585,5.0989677419354855,69.54845161290325,76.74193548387099,5.060645161290323,25.55483870967742,6.742157984588678,1.7051883870967748,188,6,21,2,5,48,29,31,0.171,0.628,0.20199999999999999,0.2852,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,3,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,12,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6215596267484247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942745205700117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4495802306526643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5700383786605475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aye_Yer_Ma,2020/03/14,"Corona console? All the kindergartens/schools are closed in our area. The wife and I are expected to work from home during this period . I can see problems ahead keeping our 4 almost 5 year old son entertained.

Has any got a console for their kids this age? I was thinking of getting a Nintendo switch, would the controls be too difficult? Any game recommendations?

I don't like dumping the kid in front the TV too often, but it's going to be long few weeks!",3.6595689655172414,6.0116979885057535,4.248951149425288,83.96928879310343,74.86206896551724,7.108620689655173,28.11637931034483,8.07648339933343,1.995713793103448,363,15,67,6,8,115,70,87,0.079,0.879,0.040999999999999995,-0.4724,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,3,3,5,1,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,1,12,15,2,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,2,1,4,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,1,7,2,8,10,2,13,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,2,8,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26440041220960564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591158943000011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29614610377685124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379513027252478,0.0,0.15006143155016127,0.0,0.21117889946097695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648561455108224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346930965397581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899782298737064,0.0,0.0,0.23366929412815896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770681758286893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25265300257570034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672250957619069,0.21040767830299412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918776559690155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117989581464325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222607696614347,0.0,0.0,0.18756820867387614,0.0,0.0,0.1700347061581383
parenting,IllustriousShopping1,2020/03/14,"How to build positive relationship with rebellious late preteen daughter? I am having a lot of trouble at the moment with my 12yo  daughter .

She has been constantly acting out and pretty much doing the opposite to what I ask. She has been coming home late from school, not doing homework and constantly arguing with me. If she doesn't get her way or say no to something she will just do it any way. One of the most concerning behaviour I had written in another post where she had been hiding from me that she had pierced her ears numerous times.

In recent months it seems that I am constantly just telling her off and it is gotten to the point whereby I get worked up by even petty things because I am just so exhausted. The communication has not been very constructive or positive for a while now and this is very upsetting for me.  

I don't want to be constantly telling her off and dishing out punishments. However, it is difficult when I feel like she is making poor decisions that are in her best interests. 

Is there any good tips for changing the cycle to establish more positive relationship and constructive open communication?",7.933493589743584,8.329659721153845,7.848846153846158,69.66282051282053,62.365384615384606,12.31794871794872,37.52564102564102,11.855464076750405,4.794383333333332,914,42,156,28,12,294,123,208,0.132,0.758,0.11,-0.2769,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,10,10,2,1,8,0,27,3,1,2,0,29,37,13,0,2,8,2,1,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,10,13,1,0,3,0,1,2,5,6,0,1,9,3,24,4,26,26,5,30,0,0,0,0,21,12,0,6,14,124,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763981359494827,0.13599963141741386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125009516831745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07906267945360118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361100190852745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720325623246854,0.1117233179782692,0.0,0.5606297234391933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566428679195927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557919124590375,0.09265625656726333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552367377094082,0.0,0.0,0.1087845047958164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300976400778424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926099216047641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336387744927903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026457710315296,0.0,0.0,0.08657440292257591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035236832512998,0.0,0.09534293209972146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788670192070537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260650490895313,0.0,0.12421480461530356,0.1319494640113131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806109971762852,0.27849416599759064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314103242379699,0.0,0.13126127113701036,0.0,0.11807216189988508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984783472853527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22672348706289044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616556902294871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562793003229787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21402881868334955,0.07649922379469935,0.20589642525007168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442166775660144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CanalLady01,2020/03/14,"Daughter lies to her counselor My daughter either tells him things that didn’t happened at all or makes out a situation worse than what really happened. Her counselor thinks I’m the bad person in the relationship and I’m 90% of the reason she is like she is today. When does a counselor make a judgement call like that without talking to the rest of the family? She’s always been a person who acts spoiled. If she didn’t get her way, all hell broke loose. Including hitting/verbal abuse. Now we don’t talk because she says I’m toxic. I’m at a loss for words. I’m not perfect but I’m not an abuser.",1.4200236127508887,3.9065278677685953,2.8964167650531287,89.69059917355372,84.37190082644628,5.110035419126328,22.692443919716645,6.5431188927421005,0.6515733175914993,476,17,94,5,14,155,81,121,0.158,0.78,0.062,-0.8133,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,2,7,1,0,11,0,6,0,0,3,3,18,18,5,0,1,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,3,1,11,3,11,15,4,9,1,2,0,0,21,4,1,2,5,56,16,0,0.0,0.4223917914503362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831743193227756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14883045418398788,0.1086589247455631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201213966029445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559868850103946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803727611395985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312773593867976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152499715325303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416689742696775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379651587087151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112802707258092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141908619489064,0.1832696404266771,0.0,0.19137269843586246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417507445708833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035932367536333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28653955894220345,0.15579746657382074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184207029767792,0.11421475004077525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895919246511248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414857447992105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182565744757822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816509405027015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhosThis85,2020/03/14,"6 month old discovers the ‘falling out’ move. My gf (30f) has a 6 month old brother. We watch him often during the week. He’s the first baby I’ve spent the most time with since i was younger when i would be with my younger sister. I know the basics while watching children. But one thing that i have a question about is that he all of a sudden discovered ‘falling out.’  He would  just stretch out in my lap if he wants or needs something and cry a little bit.  I have no idea how to nip this in the bud (if possible)so that he wont keep this in his arsenal for later times. Is this possibly just a phase? Or is this something i could curve? Should i just roll with it? Kids cry, i get it, but the falling out and tiny theatrics arent necessary. We look at him and laugh like: ‘where the heck did he get this from??’ Any tips?",1.154316045945002,3.2115159526627224,2.2515558649495304,96.6263626870867,81.78106508875742,5.3965889314305615,21.183780020884093,6.522977012572876,0.126691333101288,632,19,145,6,17,200,106,169,0.047,0.897,0.057,0.685,1,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,13,0,15,0,0,1,1,34,23,12,0,8,9,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,2,11,11,0,1,3,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,3,3,16,2,14,14,3,26,0,0,3,0,18,10,1,7,13,91,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188626147140853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082448010327416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395549123064054,0.0,0.3839953441891381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867556037147392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264023180705236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973156731798099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536062620919094,0.0,0.0,0.09605954485115774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539314898657531,0.17518464549316773,0.0,0.0,0.1467788629171696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27903006139716163,0.1857732031159428,0.0,0.12960393882255547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668236171752183,0.0,0.1184416505612524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970485023132776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958038486279489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458738981029162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26912245178763994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612214355062984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384191614422065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309516838023708,0.0,0.1402053117591794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24833039221137054,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jennknowsalittle1,2020/03/14,Help for itchy head. My three year old grandson that I have custody of continuously scratches at the back of his head. He has had eczema since an infant and we have a body cream that works really well on his dry skin patches. I tried googling what might help and have been using Suave kids 3 in 1 shampoo. Also have been rubbing Aveeno baby eczema therapy nighttime balm on the back of his head but it makes his hair greasy. I asked his pediatrician but she didn't recommend anything. I live in the US and any help for our little guy will be appreciated.,4.7137616822429935,6.275793214953271,4.844941588785048,84.14909462616824,70.12149532710278,7.592990654205607,26.45911214953271,8.07648339933343,1.4540102803738315,442,14,88,6,8,138,79,107,0.038,0.823,0.139,0.8802,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,5,0,12,6,6,2,0,9,15,6,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,5,14,1,10,8,0,11,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,1,5,55,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132191883299464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017480850255023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145424472092163,0.0,0.16520817399047202,0.0,0.0,0.27177161784497594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962946905048364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497934408326676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5440932560549553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35535255489810835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711861105671786,0.15604589201568028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796113645353627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18747066486863329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854365986070673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321055503415214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618357440757473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020932893924923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998042968732142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257089489424005,0.1526282585534358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889137741264373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865335316684534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380107968304765
parenting,MarxMarv,2020/03/14,"Talking to your kid about CoronaVirus (4F) Hello, 

We just got notification that our Pre-K is officially cancelled for 2 weeks starting Monday. Just looking for some advice about how to explain this to our 4 y/o without freaking her out.",4.647093023255814,7.290887139534881,5.616453488372091,73.9423546511628,72.95348837209302,7.090697674418602,34.00581395348837,8.07648339933343,3.007283720930233,189,10,30,3,4,62,37,43,0.048,0.895,0.055999999999999994,0.0854,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,9,4,1,4,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,1,3,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4361658534463365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35698506866552704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748196927116295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159272333268903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587574124371045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580332401114857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4302633010517848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowRaNorwegianpal,2020/03/14,"Am I the worst parent ever? I feel so bad So. I have a Babycall next to bed. Plugged in and all. But it soemehow turned off and when I turned it on it had almost No battery at all. I checked and everything was Plugged in.

So this made me not hear my 9 month old daughter for 4 hours. She usually gets up at 7 AM and I woke up at 11AM. She seems happy and all, and we are playing as usual. Cant really notice anything different about her. I feel so so bad, I really dont know how I can make this up to her.  Am I the worst parent ever? AND Yes i Will buy a new babycall",-1.2836700000000008,0.6857504080000041,1.711275000000004,96.70851250000004,92.92,5.045000000000001,18.2125,6.6274283507984215,-0.037870000000000285,431,13,105,6,16,151,78,125,0.154,0.782,0.065,-0.9224,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,4,1,11,0,0,3,5,23,22,16,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,8,0,0,4,1,2,0,4,4,0,0,4,3,18,2,15,17,5,20,0,0,0,0,9,10,0,2,10,77,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950694907223978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108293869681165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26600269969203644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642521470735352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668789153964774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881756981082139,0.0,0.0,0.14316049950073667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610846538462597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322298454210136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695682550082406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17953255880254998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686957001546803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754217991482538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072501658749105,0.1063279941531823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714457409893032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384426172965113,0.16940780909888653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813538844113959,0.16714913203845436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537476583957068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20409181524783435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450125639488619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465257809082581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508731127091509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway-23A,2020/03/14,"Advice on introducing 4yo to a new language? I'm a monoglot parent living in the states and want my son to learn more than just English. I've picked a pool of French, Spanish, and German for him to choose from since they're the ""easiest"" for English natives and have the most plentiful resources available.  


How can I help him make a choice, and how long should it take?  


The *current*  plan is to spend at least a day on each language (kid shows, sing alongs, etc.) and teach him about the countries and cultures behind them to help him make his decision.   


Does this seem appropriate?  


I would *like*   for him to learn Spanish for practicality, but it's much more important that he make his *own*  choice, so he feels like he has some say in the matter. That being said, it's something I think is important he do, and am unsure how to approach the possibility of him not *making*  a choice, or simply refusing to participate?",6.035948502364688,6.788980046242777,5.95866526537047,80.3538991066737,66.45664739884393,8.83426169206516,30.756174461376766,8.841846274778883,2.325756069364161,720,26,138,11,11,226,111,173,0.035,0.872,0.092,0.7804,2,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,13,0,10,0,0,8,0,35,21,13,0,3,4,2,1,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,6,9,0,1,7,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,13,2,24,17,9,11,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,4,6,90,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19528680483582586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288838774977237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488622900484774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288066787902205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104793872475974,0.14276973470085694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679045827217371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19526892857977626,0.0,0.17646732382952374,0.1768570649090155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5335939523163635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690950860503882,0.0,0.0,0.19301212326843448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219048857609512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252958836956132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009892729175565,0.15892524025323804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819319261810009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531434330194736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385090443730018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502590181399236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805298939094406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178741111568878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196457852998626,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DOEsquire,2020/03/14,"What do I do to get better after losing my baby? Medication, all that ""breathe in, breath out"" crap, none of it has helped. I still want to leave. I've posted to other subreddits about this, but I get the same cookie cutter crap or tell me that I'm 14 (I'm 25) so I just delete the posts cause I don't care for the drama. But I think people here would understand it better.

It feels like everything has just been ripped out of me. Like there's absolutely nothing left. I would dream of taking her to school for the first time, hr walking for the first time, wondered if her first words would be ""dad"", I bought her some cute little dresses and little bows to go in her hair and she'll never get tp wear them. 

I don't really sleep anymore. Lost my job cause I just lay here in bed all day. I have a long history of depression and a couple of suicide attempts  and I'm getting scared that I'll lose control. The thought of death crosses my mind on a daily basis. I'm not really sure where to go from here.",1.8478972917731231,3.762328577669905,3.187935615738376,91.51764179867143,78.75728155339806,6.084414920797138,20.065406234031684,7.0608816371341465,0.296780582524272,781,19,169,9,19,254,126,206,0.195,0.727,0.078,-0.9806,1,0,0,0,0,1,26.0,0,0,1,10,11,14,2,1,9,0,13,8,7,3,4,34,33,9,2,5,8,1,2,2,0,4,1,0,1,0,9,6,0,1,5,2,1,4,5,7,0,3,4,2,22,7,24,24,5,26,0,4,0,0,9,10,2,4,12,104,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198965570222826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21384575086602095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326174595770095,0.2483874252713992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559538233649035,0.0,0.13376935965261666,0.0,0.07796805557075769,0.0,0.10412773067846952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865372036552998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06112875756660668,0.08636827836883901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085027697873305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526531249040738,0.0,0.13741620724031084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103418285843379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997083631829387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801163300636356,0.13135408862279893,0.0,0.0,0.11812756545145996,0.2423395310066188,0.0,0.10698934368381924,0.0,0.27050387547621624,0.13197249723584575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179021517083415,0.0,0.0,0.12207071099256933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324261209793304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600317648616915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381421149728784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23157030555745356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489841890861447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210381992309832,0.12235342139447508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098352230250778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654787147344808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322408342297297,0.0,0.11394324953681885,0.0,0.0908989060834856,0.0,0.10566861844448867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746541139725642,0.0,0.0959780884899462,0.14099110746497334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258572208502677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130771844753207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110678537309606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576436020424816,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yourguardianangel_,2020/03/14,Industrial engineering Any thoughts about industrial engineering course?,20.25,27.539594,17.029999999999998,-12.784999999999995,46.5,23.20000000000001,70.5,14.554592549557764,16.60885,64,5,4,4,1,20,6,8,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6505479227356333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.759465206724016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nepaliparent,2020/03/14,"Welcome song for my daughter I am a new parent from Nepal currently living in Australia , So we created this song and video compilation from our archive to welcome our beautiful daughter into this world and celebrate maternity and paternity. Enjoy this super-duper cute video. Welcome welcome welcome little baby welcome .[little baby welcome](https://youtu.be/dn94RyUcZj8)",8.395535714285714,12.83660891071429,7.157857142857143,56.21214285714289,75.96428571428571,8.514285714285714,42.714285714285715,8.841846274778883,5.998435714285716,313,20,29,8,8,95,41,56,0.0,0.546,0.45399999999999996,0.9862,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,8,6,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,2,20,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7596184656584396,0.3346213601101908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659939857660709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207811003025079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsWpw,2020/03/14,Schools close What is your plan now that school is closed for the next 2 weeks? Is this reasonable and necessary??,4.23,6.860714142857147,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,74.23809523809524,8.009523809523811,24.785714285714285,8.841846274778883,1.6177428571428574,91,3,19,2,2,25,19,21,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,11,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40403480876044784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906070935282128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7689711987973982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047380304711616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ync_13,2020/03/14,"SAH parents with kids home for the next three weeks.. What are you planning on doing with your kids!? My kids are 10,6&5. Normally when my kids are home we like to be outside. Riding bikes, go for a walk or just sit home and watch tv. I went to the store this morning to buy some fresh crayons, markers and blank paper for drawing I also bought some puzzles at the dollar tree to keep us busy. Does anyone have any other tips or ideas of things to keep kids busy and off of tv/video games all day?",3.2361000000000004,4.822431009999999,3.091000000000001,95.16550000000002,73.9,5.4,22.5,5.148860815047168,-0.04129999999999967,391,10,84,1,8,117,73,100,0.0,0.945,0.055,0.6654,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,17,11,7,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,4,6,0,2,1,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,2,1,8,1,15,8,3,12,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,5,5,49,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086464694604066,0.0,0.2179528029281909,0.0,0.1367932044880878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065318525773313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297291936349379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603326271010653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432177977991738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6053286103096646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22708101529582064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575939829617903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827482357931096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139320423762192,0.0,0.1970904969556309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233603027184656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363932946053594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419663010560697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613554768917328,0.0,0.0,0.18647393613116214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lolhahahanope,2020/03/14,"As a new first time mother It’s just, like, we’ve lived a full life of defining ourselves and then it’s flipped on its head and we’re supposed to be this new person who knows what’s going on. We’re ourselves but a different version. And sometimes it feels foreign and like it was better before. I felt (and sometimes still do) really trapped by it all. By her schedule, by her dependence, by my lack of financial contribution to the home. I feel misunderstood by my husband sometimes and that he might not understand the gravity of how everything has changed for me, that he doesn’t respect that enough while I’m sitting in a chair with my nipples being bitten while his day to day at work hasn’t changed one bit. I miss my autonomy and being able to do little things like workout a little longer because I’m in the zone or try on a pair of jeans in the store or grab a drink with a friend after work without planning it or bringing a pump. It’s like the pile of expectations keeps growing but I’m still trying to get a grip. Some days I almost regret it or wish I’d waited or something. But then again I couldn’t imagine returning to life as it was before. I can’t say it necessarily gets easy, but it gets easier. It helps a lot to shift my perspective from what I’m not doing to what I get to do. 


It’s funny because I think we as moms have this filter that we are struggling so hard with some parts and want to get it out into the world but immediately have this impulse to be like “but it’s not like that all the time, I love being a mom”. And I do love being a mom. But I also don’t want to apologize for the shitshow that is adjustment.",4.748972728557297,5.019948430267063,5.724951250529887,82.6000791295747,69.14836795252225,8.555546135368095,29.697470679666523,8.418075326091056,1.99219751307051,1299,46,270,18,21,430,170,337,0.062,0.75,0.188,0.9925,1,2,2,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,5,7,14,0,1,21,0,24,6,1,2,2,59,49,31,0,7,17,5,6,6,1,1,2,1,1,1,30,16,1,2,8,2,1,3,9,3,0,2,3,7,22,11,42,38,11,35,0,2,0,2,20,13,0,11,24,185,52,2,0.10004542497121052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018104157697172,0.0,0.0,0.08000629020406058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197352494877535,0.0,0.17026257591354094,0.0,0.0,0.08848204828181165,0.10922369253066967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166958813918574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935630676647764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452617551165673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800642878070917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337366782310084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991437699788203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117194578824024,0.0,0.09605929719008001,0.0,0.0,0.08509858737228262,0.0,0.0,0.07729484715935038,0.0,0.2613480266240935,0.0,0.056858120558862135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896210498500836,0.0,0.10267546912626496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705833949115313,0.0,0.10035371845147302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892497052401935,0.0,0.0,0.05498234915028025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133008470377156,0.29326284690793203,0.20054359739468053,0.08834194316673262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505504265226997,0.1805898041413911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613238584704424,0.0,0.35151597771983273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932489897193954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677933691564413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833944588832893,0.0,0.0,0.08735580615292808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409166104607451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795601374664354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701985592007074,0.2968424503542592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979281123190514,0.0,0.0,0.10458920037051564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646573488009551,0.06410506866434595,0.0,0.0,0.11667458368941674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584855280256194,0.0,0.0,0.10415081568644337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801876747120167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504730132461373,0.0964402195429313,0.0,0.14566852182860374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hookinforlove,2020/03/14,"Complicated Situation, Help? Trying to make a long story short. My dad and stepmom have had custody of three of her nephews for 3-4 years. Two have the same father, the third a different. Kids are 9-12. They're three of five (that I know of). My dad is late 50's, stepmom early 40's. They've struggled the whole time, especially with the youngest. He has trouble following directions at school, kicked off the bus, my dad has had to pick him up multiple times from school. They live 1 1/2 hours away from us, so we don't get to visit as often as I'd like.
Today, I got the feeling my dad was all but asking if we would take them. Things like he's really overwhelmed, he doesn't know if he can do this for another ten years, etc. Heard her say, ""I'm raising kids that aren't mine, definition of stupid."" I can understand venting in frustration, but it feels like that's the all the time attitude. They talk a lot of adult talk around the boys as well. I feel like the boys have the bare minimum to survive, while at the same time, damn near unrestricted access to the internet and Xbox.
The youngest is the only one that ever wants to talk to his bio mom. He's allowed to whenever, and it seems detrimental to him. Broken promises, etc. lead to bad behavior.
We have five kids of our own, 3-13. We've thought for a few years that we would love to take the boys in, give them a better chance at being happy, well-rounded people. My husband makes decent money, we aren't by any means wealthy. We hope to buy our first home this summer.
Are we insane to even think about taking them in? Thank you in advance for reading, and I appreciate any advice.",3.0766564729867483,4.7901212935779816,4.000611620795109,87.95139653414884,74.59633027522936,7.290927624872579,24.34352701325179,8.045849151850463,1.2400083588175337,1281,40,268,20,27,412,190,327,0.067,0.779,0.153,0.982,2,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,10,1,5,5,7,18,3,2,21,0,23,1,0,5,3,43,49,13,0,6,4,8,3,4,0,2,0,2,1,7,10,13,0,0,10,2,2,4,4,7,1,9,6,5,32,11,44,40,10,33,0,1,0,1,51,13,1,6,20,163,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575658170703227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471939293650342,0.11348373968225145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963435268672778,0.10117611417855422,0.0,0.1016813002688172,0.0,0.09036366567720808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571654736400537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130724799371132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24139979742391215,0.0714818380097438,0.097896045680345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641660008271862,0.15463245584744786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205644678213663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654329042922152,0.1038196391535776,0.0,0.0,0.08655771717159724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520792174494575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254118606763668,0.0,0.1085588730351418,0.1074922147325485,0.10658019182674873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189556690610401,0.0,0.12208293443796492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21149380182191688,0.0,0.09556498692724097,0.09577604923814573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200934174403594,0.09767762431596594,0.0,0.1444825534013022,0.0,0.0,0.11788915829012432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675224855955808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333631347639,0.08231027280555077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502984662606765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825466008221632,0.0,0.06933194505868376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606516026661902,0.0,0.2190597102186937,0.0,0.09852431469936708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164985344686212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131406578557444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24411603450359776,0.26096236535909506,0.0,0.09963938269940133,0.0,0.0,0.07190012871844684,0.06934644891516352,0.0,0.08591885707946842,0.2524283407254553,0.0,0.1025849989151688,0.0,0.0,0.07347792400354553,0.0,0.10572046342415846,0.1126664298152382,0.1301817979908031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383412887617841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946152149108135,0.0,0.0,0.12082976373492507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376039934119082,0.0,0.0,0.20908077524636548
parenting,Lurker_wife,2020/03/14,"Skill a Day quarantine challenge Newly found quarantined parents?  That’s us.. 16 days minimum. 

Had a brain explosion tonight while watching Hulu- my kids (7/9) know bare basics in the kitchen.  

I’m going to use this home time to start teaching home skills every day.  

Simple stuff- I realized they have never used a can opener!!  They know toaster oven and microwave, but can they do other basic things, peel an apple, knife skills, preheat the oven etc.  We’ve baked lots- measuring, pouring, cracking eggs, weighing- always good to practice those too. 

Now to make a schedule.. I’m type A and if we don’t schedule this out we’ll be on iPads/video games waaaaay too much and the kids will be at each other’s throats..",2.8909090909090907,5.824947409090914,2.9138636363636365,88.86579545454548,82.4848484848485,5.118181818181818,25.674242424242426,6.6274283507984215,1.1913696969696963,566,23,99,6,16,171,100,132,0.0,0.9540000000000001,0.046,0.6792,1,2,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,3,4,3,2,0,0,9,0,10,6,2,3,1,18,20,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,2,8,7,4,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,8,2,8,14,4,17,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,2,11,56,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642712361607028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22038866868605728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38196331017699175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22017814105319608,0.0,0.0,0.16633687074136816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646345074121415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219968871705133,0.16558852653280984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39606148993958973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169963551013699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784144842636342,0.0,0.0,0.13178097232059516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512816573778967,0.0,0.15226431092305534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21921419072554174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397365773919898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22600139334248054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311586575602072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151185779838771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374748163540791,0.3410191003660511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZealousidealComb9,2020/03/14,4 year old hits teacher Our four-year-old only listens to his main teacher. The other teachers he on occasion will hit. The school's response is to just come pick him up. They say the other teachers aren't as stern as his main teacher... and that's it. So is it an overeaction to just find a new school since this one isn't working with us to find a solution,2.685585585585589,4.207227108108114,3.7308108108108087,90.28153153153154,75.21621621621622,6.554954954954956,27.1981981981982,7.1686216300943375,1.2482144144144145,282,11,60,3,6,91,51,74,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,9,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,6,0,9,6,2,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,3,39,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19503308585180532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138712257171894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866921873431905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4751606553801522,0.0,0.15342199812099153,0.17219581843007498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005116743370345,0.0,0.4582801733056485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728957374941085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723446355557857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482995284319946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916026070977825
parenting,CatFurStuckInCarpet,2020/03/14,"Baby gate suggestion Hey,

I was hoping someone might have a solution for a baby gate at the top of these stairs. It's an awkward connection spot and I'd prefer to place a standard gate several stairs down because of falling concerns. Does anyone have a gate that could solve this niche purpose? 

[Top of stairs](https://imgur.com/kZWls4B)",6.4233898305084765,9.097884559322038,5.412000000000003,77.27833898305086,67.8135593220339,8.109830508474579,33.83389830508475,8.841846274778883,3.3232142372881364,275,13,41,5,5,82,46,59,0.055999999999999994,0.7909999999999999,0.153,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,2,0,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559792921446368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231656346081576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29229382062797193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203686422022675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636108995548595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38836462666763777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824871061325631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135785502495419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101876592214533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SsSailorScout,2020/03/14,"Anyone else having trouble with kids who don’t wipe? I have a seven year old who seems to not wipe herself. 
I’ve tried jus about everything I can think of from throwing away all her underwear to positive reinforcement. Nothing works. I’m at a complete loss of what to do. 
He dad just called me to ask if I bathe her regularly and like...I do. She just for some reason won’t wipe and it’s embarrassing and I don’t know what to do. 
Can help? Anyone?",0.3730072463768117,2.7728953586956564,2.4065217391304365,91.46420289855074,89.97826086956522,5.67536231884058,19.6231884057971,7.1686216300943375,0.5182797101449284,351,11,76,6,12,117,64,92,0.092,0.8370000000000001,0.071,-0.212,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,0,10,0,0,1,1,14,15,4,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,3,0,1,0,0,9,0,13,14,2,5,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,3,2,49,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595985422619759,0.2634717891079927,0.0,0.0,0.24039253144338935,0.0,0.24159284402778045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625701566478268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26960790369072873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480867440064647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311021424144003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235648447547736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413182085875505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562631708417038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467341433191681,0.0,0.2698266816021797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26438422341189044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340919060946331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647658494959216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458215607336836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872020282013528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559065429520714
parenting,trowbridgecs,2020/03/14,"Who is watching all the kiddos? I'm a professional Family Assistant and Nutritionist. I also assist in guiding nannies in communication with their employers (parents)

Parents, what is watching the kids for three weeks off of school!?

ALL perspectives and views are much appreciated. Right now, there's A LOT of panic from the nanny angle in terms of pay and job reliability. 

I understand that not everyone has a nanny, but let's discuss babysitters and general care during this time period. 

Parents-  if you or the children have tested positive, do you expect your nanny to expose themselves to care for your family? 

If you relieved your nanny of working until things are under control, are you paying her normal wages or a percentage? 

If everyone is healthy, and you're working still, are you able to afford the care? 

Clearly there are so many angles and situations but I would really like to be able to understand it from a parent's view. I would like to approach the nannies from an objective point of view that will encourage a mutually beneficial agreement during this time frame. THANKS!",6.6556250000000015,8.959503729166666,7.347833333333337,65.18050000000002,66.39583333333334,10.12,33.63333333333333,10.355215969177356,4.205993333333334,884,40,128,24,15,292,118,192,0.024,0.72,0.256,0.9955,8,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,8,1,3,6,10,0,1,13,0,16,0,0,1,3,27,23,16,0,7,8,4,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,8,7,0,1,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,5,14,9,23,18,5,16,0,0,5,0,19,7,0,6,10,99,22,10,0.2452097687906992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980470817550364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37501155248479096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751180315431066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343084423132985,0.0,0.0,0.2311619469053117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166642951837155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537180102930648,0.0,0.11979710700729128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042342883207697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430210917934932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012869712938627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201267552256616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385041513986738,0.5445528592447788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590124515442643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854382842115101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470390137192148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408268857047687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781302700365786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791241905331176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287810506552312,0.0,0.0,0.08145323730266589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298378810658174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552720170980797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834624284932733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851563211388022,0.0,0.0,0.17418998433694646,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wishyouamerry,2020/03/15,"I bet all you stay at home moms think the rest of us are a bunch of asses right now. 😂 We’re all crying *boo-hoo, I’m going to be home with the kids for * **two weeks** *what will I do??* And I imagine you’re all sitting there like, “Giiirrrrl.  Welcome to my world.”

So what are your expert tips and tricks? Help us! Please!!!",-2.8757352941176464,-2.5316771029411718,-0.4947058823529389,105.73382352941178,128.85294117647058,2.188235294117648,9.882352941176473,4.514644488427479,-2.043994117647059,239,4,60,1,17,78,53,68,0.066,0.759,0.175,0.8228,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,2,0,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,5,1,1,0,3,9,8,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,2,7,6,5,8,0,0,0,1,8,3,1,1,3,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25552235747007485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322034156207854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592041100638976,0.0,0.4666740377321003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364647551609698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724419569451663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553471158444702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19865637261139665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24794217314441194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905362598571822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272361261575085,0.0,0.5596268974524672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18659388626798729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway785374,2020/03/15,"My 18 year old stepdaughter is in a relationship with my 14 year old son and my husband and I aren't on the same page  I have a son 14M, my husband has two daughters 18F and 14F and we have a son together who is 16 months.


His oldest daughter (18F) is in a relationship with my son (14M). At first we all thought it was a joke but they seem to be taking this seriously, she kisses on the lips. My husband said it was completely inappropriate and told to stop or he'd kick her out of the house. She said it was only a 4 year age Gap and that he's old enough to decide who he wants to be with, that he could consent to sexual activity if he wanted. Then she was very quick to say that they had no sexual contact. My husband repeated what he said.


We came home and I was upset because my son had been left alone with her, my husband said he didn't know I'd left the house and thought I was just upset stairs, he said he yelled he was leaving but should have checked. My son was cuddled up with her and he was rubbing her back. I told my husband and he said he told her she needed to leave by tomorrow morning. She cried saying she wouldn't have anywhere to go and that she loves my son.


Her being his step sister is the least weird thing about the relationship. 


She came back 2 hours after leaving the house and my husband let her back in. He said we need to arrange somewhere for her to go. I am not okay with this girl being in the house one more second. I told her I would call the police if she didn't leave and he said no, that's his daughter and he needs to find somewhere for her to go, that he can't just kick he out. 


She hugged my son again and I'm just so angry at my husband. He is begging me to let him find somewhere but I'm just not okay with any of it and want her out. He's told me that he can find somewhere but it's going to take a few days to a week and we'll just keep an eye on them. I feel like he's not listening to me, it's his house so I don't even know what I can do",1.7326586061676394,2.8424348545034666,3.3296515419100667,93.87357254449124,76.89838337182448,6.387420187474527,22.204116288547755,6.794906146795322,0.2760963727754384,1544,41,375,14,34,512,174,433,0.083,0.862,0.054000000000000006,-0.8859,0,1,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,0,3,1,14,11,0,2,18,2,43,6,2,0,1,72,81,27,0,12,15,20,2,1,0,4,0,12,1,1,20,33,0,2,10,1,1,7,11,4,0,4,31,15,64,7,43,38,7,46,0,0,1,4,101,16,0,4,24,239,84,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915908036186072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045409499035090485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403826940195867,0.0,0.0407056077666052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818505505296786,0.15274632564771454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001263963339205,0.0,0.0,0.0533146496142904,0.0,0.0733495399431492,0.04306454926057218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689967429828669,0.0,0.04410446093982772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033763601928942205,0.04770429313823573,0.0,0.0,0.18309426440742332,0.05679904258769392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179978473442526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698107811382073,0.0,0.06576022718863819,0.3852486981051141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05935296159273625,0.0,0.0,0.07339592553507875,0.0,0.0,0.2828216368959403,0.1451031343199397,0.13656455250601046,0.0,0.03262304237406049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602673222497644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329941350463232,0.0,0.0,0.1485391335803087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020835773595747,0.0,0.04524867663237074,0.050785630489861414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150750714129019,0.0,0.0,0.5081488718482932,0.1062048096396652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060789732193081085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05582714720831542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041344214905752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04436254728367596,0.0,0.0,0.10602427082357667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190333403344045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652297727570421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055096622099603434,0.11815741964820095,0.0,0.053563123984421035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04743526268806536,0.0,0.0,0.12900332646546167
parenting,x_xkmx_x,2020/03/15,"Should I leave my mother..? So in the past month or so I've really realized how my mother is detrimental to my mental health..she's manipulative, makes everything my fault, she is drama obsessed, she's just...mean. she got a new job and is starting tomorrow and I'm thinking of leaving. I'm 18, just lost my job, and I have a place to go. I just, I'm scared, km starting college in a couple months but I feel like I can't do this with my mom, I can't keep staying here. She scares me because of how much she screams and yells at me and makes things my fault, she takes out her stress on me, and she just uses me to do stuff for her. I'm tired of being hurt by it, the thing is she pays for my phone and I'm going to college soon, I don't have a car on a liscense. I'm moving in on campus when I do go to college it's just a semi long ways away. A couple months. I just want to leave, I spent the last four days at my friend's house and honestly, I have never felt that loved by someone and their family ever, including with my own family. I'm stuck at home now, she won't let me leave, and I'm just crying, and she's mad at me for crying. I feel broken, scared, alone, and stuck...please someone help me, give me advice, help me figure out how to leave, just tell me what I can do..because I really don't know what I can do..",2.3694947735191647,2.8909850696864154,4.150054006968642,90.86765940766551,74.60975609756099,7.273101045296168,22.01550522648084,7.365786028017652,0.491497700348432,1013,22,243,11,20,344,134,287,0.215,0.731,0.054000000000000006,-0.992,2,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,0,1,1,17,15,1,5,10,0,21,2,0,7,2,44,51,20,0,2,9,3,3,1,1,2,1,2,1,0,9,16,0,1,7,1,2,5,6,11,0,1,5,5,48,4,30,42,2,38,0,2,0,1,23,15,0,1,17,153,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120755998825528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966686903278002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769291843833549,0.0,0.0,0.11379439319337376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065506049834661,0.20505200258160652,0.06019446115816661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442840450098743,0.0,0.0,0.08388502319770794,0.0,0.17597910078745058,0.0,0.0943876975269894,0.06667976954809005,0.08961788583971604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211171631849404,0.0,0.0,0.08953708424777213,0.15913622230304414,0.0,0.07464989936271675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921256595662864,0.0,0.0,0.125123268416744,0.0,0.0936243377460799,0.0,0.0,0.10769804023261444,0.09991888639458177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852445798220674,0.0829619629732692,0.0,0.0,0.051295418907750176,0.07608188215300027,0.0,0.4941505347534312,0.0,0.0954431172803622,0.0,0.04559960549371175,0.0,0.0,0.08260005774889187,0.0,0.0,0.1018880527500138,0.0,0.0842400315470515,0.0,0.12460596724950032,0.0,0.0,0.10167104782658136,0.0,0.0,0.09406145809201233,0.0,0.0,0.10931483532786504,0.22350143199304606,0.09920215935264236,0.06861322673697133,0.0,0.07198703047200387,0.090145183266559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891004580119409,0.0,0.0,0.09751700395777144,0.10245568719652663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958778235779215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28033901046763193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816779549931662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212841793050226,0.09948452188503952,0.0,0.0,0.1069168944105638,0.0,0.10684821078973578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017759557433882,0.0,0.08158040497523324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401753531364287,0.059806399727665216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727682624614933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806129559210751,0.0,0.0,0.055052414183550696,0.0740863417921689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rewilde,2020/03/15,"8 year old son's nightmare sleepover - what would you do? My son, 8, has been excited for weeks about his first ever sleepover at a friend's house. He's been packing toys, talking about sleeping in their living room with his buddy and generally super excited to get to do this.

I'm divorced from his mother and she took him to the sleepover. She picked him up today, this afternoon (the friend also had a birthday party during the day today). After pickup I got this message:

> Hi, just to keep you in the loop. SON's sleepover at FRIEND'S was a disaster. SON was sat on his own at the party, sobbing, when I went to get him. They fell out, physically fought, FRIEND was mean, had violent outbursts, showed SON 'horror stuff' (I haven't managed to get specifics on this yet), and SON very much felt massively out of his depth. He told FRIEND's mom that he wanted to go home, she told SON that she would message me, then didn't. So he felt that I had ignored him and couldn't come home. I am livid, and can quite safely say that he is never going back there again.

I'm really upset for my son and I know he's been going through some stuff lately about only having a few friends - this kid is one of two close friends, and presumably won't be anymore. I'm really not sure how to proceed here, I want to help him, but I don't want to make it worse by wrapping him in cotton wool or blowing this up into a big incident. Obviously furious at the lack of supervision from friends mom and won't allow him back there again.

What would you do? How would you help an 8 year old boy deal with this? Any advice or opinions greatly appreciated. I'll be seeing him tomorrow, collecting him from school.",4.784621438263232,5.4771742477611935,5.3892333785617375,83.54588534599729,69.20895522388061,8.240162822252374,28.063093622795115,8.296473431620573,1.7692686567164182,1323,43,267,18,22,427,181,335,0.094,0.7959999999999999,0.11,0.5613,1,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,0,4,2,3,18,20,3,1,12,0,30,1,1,5,4,49,57,17,0,9,5,11,2,0,8,6,0,1,3,2,16,15,0,3,5,2,0,7,8,6,0,3,19,4,35,14,40,29,5,48,0,1,1,0,63,18,1,4,23,170,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897033102170097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281046280248481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191526053796969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029441911661136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001944946174086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784291546342869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058717952060165085,0.09386572960538064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823574613448072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483929993634878,0.0,0.0,0.0774447548387779,0.0,0.0,0.5627431122793389,0.0,0.14270531021360064,0.0,0.15523277212621409,0.0,0.07281881302265747,0.10037992815996333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205412151129084,0.0,0.1826556553432387,0.0,0.0,0.10505631650619787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809269901408647,0.0,0.0,0.05003719429296239,0.0,0.10270527766428468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039640071342989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060774754608580915,0.0,0.0,0.09917716011281237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21326690651422456,0.0,0.0,0.06693021385553387,0.0,0.07022126160581632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19107757206516102,0.0,0.06169598128635227,0.06924554575981923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683997073249824,0.0,0.0,0.1166544153126558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724044373859303,0.0,0.09214469027405743,0.07255288015983066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111301558856524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20845466503573595,0.0,0.0,0.08581096725966922,0.0,0.0,0.07318034066356642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260431765139975,0.17399912182989835,0.10115685852806046,0.0,0.0,0.08893994562599937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512352667495592,0.16110610285216512,0.0,0.07303262196661213,0.0,0.0,0.0844017243569072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278493871435224,0.2587094515840431,0.0,0.0,0.11726290369630372
parenting,chris_mccow,2020/03/15,"My daughter’s mother passed away. I found out this morning that my daughter’s mom passed away. My daughter is three,and her mother was my wife. We were just separated. So I have some advice or thoughts from my family. But what do you guys think. Should I tell her today. Should I take her to the funeral. I guess I just want some outside thoughts,it seems unreal and I feel sort of lost.",1.4431024531024548,3.9548996883116914,2.305108225108224,93.77448773448776,84.58441558441558,5.500144300144299,20.243867243867246,6.937597516519254,0.35873564213564224,304,9,64,4,9,95,54,77,0.073,0.9079999999999999,0.019,-0.5849,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,19,16,4,1,3,4,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,17,0,6,9,2,6,0,1,0,0,14,3,0,6,1,42,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24403139578521066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692555154362485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23542141462680144,0.0,0.12627002397295525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738139569485037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27510364176231866,0.24727006772919444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27260770630882725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924785165673157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273430707270029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877644419285108,0.0,0.21827335472402146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001567418654467,0.0,0.19825620570316252,0.0,0.0,0.23671302596789906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729609558996376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BigWeeve,2020/03/15,"Taking my baby out after her vaccinations? I’m not sure about taking my baby out after her injections?

My baby is 13 weeks old and is due to have her second set of vaccinations on Wednesday. We attend a baby group(not so much a baby group more of a group led by health visitors for new mums with mental health issues, more for me than it is for her, it’s the last session and it’s very helpful for me) and because of a certain illness I’m not too sure whether to not to keep her home because her immune system will be weakened. I don’t think there’s been any cases in my town but my doctors surgery is saying not to go there unless it’s completely necessary(which I think her vaccinations would be but I’ll ring Wednesday to make sure) so maybe it might be?

I know I over worry about a lot of things, especially when it comes to Isla so I don’t know whether I’m being overly worried about it or whether it’s better to be safe than sorry?",3.270312500000003,4.733360822916668,4.582208333333334,85.00862500000005,73.58333333333334,6.786666666666667,25.3,7.3011,1.15500375,746,24,149,8,15,247,104,192,0.083,0.848,0.069,0.317,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,6,0,16,5,0,2,4,34,29,14,0,1,11,1,0,0,0,3,5,2,1,0,9,8,0,2,4,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,1,2,20,6,31,20,4,23,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,3,10,107,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401673781656147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864836486062469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527898949116993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317598398825488,0.16037363404877802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655907365063038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692960033059148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251745673574605,0.0,0.0,0.10252457509150772,0.0,0.15342942311369698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964849309337406,0.0,0.13595616722962128,0.0,0.0,0.16812351832568376,0.12468124815791155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003948760861408,0.0,0.0,0.10210070443150103,0.0,0.15366694775348594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414576593781998,0.16226434840146453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244178650186054,0.0,0.0,0.1477278643356358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050377195730628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163840246960413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712240448341231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4324835334139053,0.0,0.2300108767376136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161855003322298,0.196018719696782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620643295544776,0.0,0.0,0.12269374343500496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106727048083252,0.0,0.10865702963319164,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Momof3Todders,2020/03/15,"Tips needed on successfully staying at home with your whole family (without getting on each other’s nerves) while on hunkering down? With work/offices and school closed, my family and I will all be in close quarters for the next few weeks. Any advice or tips on how to do this successfully? I was thinking of scheduling individual play time, but how long and how many times a day. What else can I do? The kids are 4, 4, and 5. I’m a SAHM and husband will be wfh. I’ve already scheduled in two 15 minute breaks for me during the day, but advice for keeping the kiddos getting along well would be appreciated.",5.1653205128205135,6.248344623931622,5.847083333333334,79.19062500000005,68.57264957264958,8.585042735042737,29.15491452991453,8.841846274778883,2.2066247863247863,479,17,92,8,8,156,84,117,0.0,0.884,0.11599999999999999,0.9107,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,3,1,23,17,12,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,11,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,6,4,17,10,4,22,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,1,10,62,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737499628292162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103523471329347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300479949826368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24666461446053894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975431500716053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605632163961955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998273048830764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918267123745732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699805947088757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16923908784159328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388471541510185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180011457991565,0.0,0.0,0.2033831525307278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354246617582255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383363156192208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253720896624387,0.0,0.0,0.223024140531828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18681115934952408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533991131194266,0.0,0.17194539612771875,0.0,0.0,0.2135097361112434,0.0,0.18434603660997706,0.0,0.13922311036415136,0.0,0.0,0.1358495674944697,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bopdababy,2020/03/15,"I think it's best for MY children to forgive their father... Me (27f) and my husband (29m) have only been together a few years, we have 2 children together. He has 2 children from 2 other relationships and I have one from a previous relationship. I have been supportive and put up with a meth addiction. I have stayed even though hes physically abusive. Recently I found out he was sleeping with someone he works with, told her he was separated from me and it seems they spoke very seriously to eachother about the future. He got her pregnant. He didnt tell me, she did. I've stayed this long and been through a lot already... I told him if he has nothing to do with her or the child i would forgive him. Is that wrong? I'm sure this woman will be fine without him.",3.0305399898115115,4.937714264900666,4.334701986754968,84.67319918492106,75.22516556291393,7.560061130922057,28.83392766174223,8.384062270229773,2.0896088639836985,598,26,121,11,13,197,95,151,0.064,0.836,0.10099999999999999,0.5279,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,2,2,3,8,0,0,6,0,20,2,1,0,1,22,29,8,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,5,6,11,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,12,1,23,6,16,14,3,9,0,0,0,0,33,2,0,4,4,83,29,1,0.0,0.19594075049572607,0.0,0.1802817045264649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249395120606687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354945829455726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922774581803403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18132368746672006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226442678376213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635048919997948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059477585806146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586804913737403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206147506362228,0.1257741239808666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624620947509058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328654300368234,0.3550988529124772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054997328708214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549309552205846,0.0,0.1401205693909932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525326456783724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18766407486600772,0.15586272180554325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454387203401195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596476680490877,0.16247878586008588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31604324699097697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364505926586044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15941431133923248,0.0,0.12039399744819887,0.0,0.0,0.11747670655747312,0.18081014149019894,0.0,0.10649521803908896
parenting,YESmynameisYes,2020/03/15,"Virtual birthday party? I’ve just joined the “no unnecessary travel” crowd and am starting to get concerned about how to manage upcoming family events. 

Have you ever hosted a “virtual party” before?  Have any thoughts about what would make a good one?

The only idea I’ve really come up with is that I’d need to have an MC to keep things smooth and entertaining.  What do you think?",4.5207511737089225,6.708932929577465,5.312323943661976,78.0523356807512,71.8169014084507,8.67699530516432,24.509389671361504,9.2995712137729,2.214378403755869,302,9,53,7,6,98,55,71,0.028999999999999998,0.809,0.161,0.8738,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,2,1,14,15,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,8,13,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995999603324788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497592652956812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528367969042685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26550071621561205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766993974018606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334923899954575,0.0,0.0,0.2461860804271949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313422023771058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608892199046407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959232425687644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217637321121875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889305658137968,0.22323104298955104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803293781454333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20775111054345335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949980261008134,0.18807227325711925,0.0,0.23301776831222554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20850431632337624,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curtbc,2020/03/15,"Juice baby! My daughter is only interested in straight up juice, no watered down juice, no water, barely will drink milk. Any alternatives? Shes a year and half but I get 100 percent juice products. I just dont want her sucking down sugary juice all day.",2.293125,5.122662062500004,3.2633333333333354,85.915,84.625,4.866666666666667,24.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,0.9780166666666674,201,8,36,2,6,64,41,48,0.105,0.8240000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.1343,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,5,7,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,4,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,2,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30956845211297845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935823151283059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5335200369842032,0.44594696611331897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23783615222526644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462189487749928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685033622435947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931498250360781
parenting,throwawaysparkjoy,2020/03/15,"How to go Jogging with a 5 yr old? Kiddo is too big to fit on a stroller anymore but not fast enough to keep up on a run (obviously). What are my options if I want to go for a run, and I don't have any childcare?",2.020136054421769,1.467246387755104,4.506530612244899,91.8444217687075,74.91836734693878,7.34965986394558,28.578231292517003,6.42735559955562,0.9694027210884348,159,6,43,1,3,57,39,49,0.0,0.9159999999999999,0.084,0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,1,10,8,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,8,1,12,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,2,28,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27659621488662123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033754253157804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.420269731093456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623178714843342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615279813189671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4268037695693609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399049811891217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cuntdracula19,2020/03/15,"My daughter lost my brand new wedding ring and I’m at an all time low So a while back my original wedding set broke a prong and I lost a diamond. I was devastated. My husband just bought me a new ring on Friday as an early birthday gift, we picked it out together I was so elated and happy. Well it needs to be resized because I have skinny ass alien fingers, so I kept it in the box way up high where My daughter could never get to it. Or so I thought

We just transitioned her into a toddler bed this weekend cause she was climbing out of her crib. Every morning she comes into our room and hangs out with us/wakes us up. Well this morning she brings us the ring box. No ring. I’ve torn the entire house apart, put my arm down the vents, down the toilets, looked everywhere. Fucking. Everywhere. The garbage. The garbage disposal. Shoes. Turned every bed upside down. Turned every drawer in the house out. I am absolutely devastated and haven’t stopped crying all morning, now all day. I’ve been screaming and crying. Said things I already regret.

I have been having a really really hard time with my daughter lately. She will be 3 at the end of May and is SUPER “that age.” And super “that kid.” Defiant. Doesn’t listen. Smart as a whip, gets into everything. Nothing is safe from her. I really truly thought I had put it where she couldn’t get to it. I know that this is really my fault, but goddamn I am mad at her. She’s with her godmother right now because I told my husband to get her out of the house and away from me because I am not in the mental state to be around her and I feel awful for admitting that but it’s true. 

I get that it’s just a ring at the end of the day but goddamn. The price, omg. I don’t even want to say the price. I love my daughter but omg. I feel like the worst mother, the worst wife, the worst human being in the entire world.",0.9319954183747292,3.314060925729444,2.5563654448999285,91.99558988425372,85.63129973474803,5.3370870508801564,20.76977333011816,6.782984794422108,0.4445496021220157,1447,46,302,18,44,473,180,377,0.166,0.741,0.09300000000000001,-0.98,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,5,0,0,5,16,22,2,0,29,1,26,7,5,3,5,57,54,22,0,5,9,8,4,1,0,2,0,9,3,2,17,25,1,3,6,1,3,6,7,12,2,0,14,14,50,10,42,32,6,60,0,5,1,3,36,32,2,2,20,204,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069528642948456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627873048470554,0.0,0.0,0.0910588784372948,0.07452496389287874,0.0,0.17724332821573668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995628249811572,0.0,0.08348740035385316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773821794978427,0.0,0.2129226134665839,0.12500986895662033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168347600039566,0.0,0.0,0.06401428758872592,0.0,0.24497608636753246,0.0,0.0871048228990237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801062649237814,0.06923917161881166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960033672095488,0.2531816861127473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317240351423393,0.08682066134317973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240056809768326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354955996944924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05326431595494744,0.0,0.10932919875006823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04734987736051123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138780734430905,0.0,0.2115977430059013,0.0,0.08747345770674572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767186485027453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186443738773424,0.07475014372365164,0.18721053948157476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929966880982895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486134377620665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483559569057161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276855782211504,0.09219245436635852,0.07707412223964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810288796302699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438888038695477,0.0,0.0,0.15388620604943076,0.11302885354278057,0.0,0.0,0.0926105503315022,0.0,0.0,0.210840747840534,0.0,0.0,0.3497459755133077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057165517810250914,0.07693003393268108,0.0,0.0,0.1742841913878086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hmsimon22,2020/03/15,"Calling all parents with mental health issues I’m really at what I believe is my breaking point. I’ve been suffering depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember, but it actually got worse after I had my little princess in July 2018. Unfortunately I don’t have much support in my life so I’ve turned to prescription antidepressants and anxiety meds plus I’m adding therapy in. But last night was my first thoughts of self harm because I feel I’m in the point in my life where no one understands my struggles so I’m only causing them turmoil. 

I’ve come to conclusion that it’s best I don’t have anymore children due to my mental issues (which is hard to accept in itself). I’m really just curious how you parents do this on a day to dat basis? My whole purpose in life is my child. And I feel I’m ruining that too.",3.2457662337662327,5.136893200000003,5.097337662337662,79.50886363636364,74.57575757575758,8.593073593073594,29.361471861471863,9.23628265651192,2.774238095238096,658,29,125,16,14,225,103,165,0.18600000000000005,0.723,0.09,-0.9199,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,3,6,9,0,2,2,0,12,4,0,2,1,19,26,11,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,8,6,0,0,7,0,0,1,3,6,0,2,5,3,18,3,21,21,4,22,0,3,0,0,8,13,0,0,7,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.13066153024382665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20485755846153725,0.0,0.1327871751861182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162072747094798,0.0,0.0,0.15085303435272102,0.14051381575480748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367210588766997,0.0,0.0,0.1375463373289875,0.0,0.1153380906373901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635075194086751,0.0,0.1153229713907896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540197052361055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113890430091165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708750968536808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199430005576363,0.0,0.0,0.14232338835672914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27950174169823266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914173175710412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28372052866137193,0.0,0.13419727203808315,0.0,0.11849224928244438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148726392015763,0.0,0.2698679406252217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842772254840408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565073792610792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073024839741373,0.10183265483764438,0.0,0.0,0.2973475676994411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531467992863046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17155224468913052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167614997014264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396809646379026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997540242329345,0.0,0.0,0.15194167414088436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311981034556968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629712451187956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456385585215092,0.0,0.13938869679449198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494882133801283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644973889011172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,May2211,2020/03/15,"What’s the best phone monitoring app/ software? I need something for my 12 yr old daughter’s phone that will block certain content, alert me to potential issues with her interactions on the phone, and also track the phone. There’s so many apps out there right now and I’m a little overwhelmed. Some have expensive plans without free trials and I’d hate to get one without knowing how well it works. Has anyone used one that they love?",4.588240418118467,6.842083085365857,4.376132404181185,84.55231707317077,71.8048780487805,6.636933797909408,27.567944250871076,7.447530270364453,1.5714334494773516,351,13,63,4,7,107,66,82,0.134,0.723,0.14300000000000002,0.4312,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,3,7,7,1,1,4,0,3,1,0,2,1,14,10,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,5,6,8,9,2,6,0,1,0,1,9,4,0,1,2,38,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868032713674264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333281198327287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24514017384123474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204206997795312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306235335708356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24380914140283896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837593972351327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341203419729184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21082571197322264,0.0,0.0,0.2368254130254184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320535365844758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24511529094070744,0.0,0.316575686815187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948611372314107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983037345464675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20174830795064594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100270739164949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45034830276627535,0.0,0.17005760636717715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aquar-an,2020/03/15,"when does corporal punishment turn to abuse? Is there a certain age when you stop hitting your children. As punishment? 
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My mom (F40) and i (F21) got into a disagreement. She was fussing at my cousin for using a decorative towel. My cousin(F17) looked at me and snickered I responded to my cousin I would’ve done the same there’s no clean towels. My mom rushes into the room and tells me that I need to mind my fucking business because this has nothing to fucking do with me. I respond okay, you don’t have to yell at me. About 10 minutes later she rushes back into the bedroom and she proceeds to tell me that she sick of me and that I’m a bitch and I ask her do I need to leave to respond no just shut your fucking mouth. She then begins to explain to me how I am not on her side if I don’t agree with her or side with her when She is disciplining the other children. I explain to her I am on your side but I’m not on anyone’s side if everyone is in the wrong I’m on the side of the truth. So at this point she’s like you need to get your shit and leave and I was like I already called my grandma to come get me in she’s a good kid the fuck out and I was like OK. So I attempt to get my stuff and belongings and then she grabs onto my shirt and she begins to attempt to drag me out of her home yelling at me the entirety of the time telling me that this is her house and she will do as she pleases and I better not try to fight her back. Im yelling get your hands off me I am getting my stuff. She lets go and slaps me in the back of the head I turn around and I say don’t hit me she proceeds to punch me in the face I said don’t hit me. I can I go grab my things and as I’m trying to leave she snatches me by my shirt and tripped me and I fell face first on the floor she cracked my phone. Before I could get up she bent down and she said get your dramatic ass up there’s nothing fucking wrong with you, your bring this upon yourself. I get up and I try to keep walking out and she punched me again. She pushes me down onto the couch after she punched me. my brother (20)  comes out and goes maybe you should beat her ass mom, then she jumps on top of me and starts to punch me. I cover my face and I use my legs to push her off. I DID NOT KICK HER at all I just use my lega to push her off of me and my other youngest brother(16) comes out of the bedroom and he grabs me from under my arms and he pulls trying to pull me from under her and as my middle brother(20) realizes I’m not gonna fight back he grabs her off with me. So I’m grabbing my things and as I’m trying to walk out the door I realize I forgot my purse so I go when I start packing my purse and she comes up behind me and she push me into the wall. Told her from the beginning if she put her hands on me I was going to call the police should I call the police on her or not or is it OK for a parent to treat their child that way. I am a 21-year-old girl I am her oldest child and she has always tried to instill in me and my two younger brothers that respect is the most important thing. she is a poster child for disrespect? My grandma says I should stay away like she does . My mother treats everyone in the family terrible. No one really likes her or wants to be around her so I feel bad and always swallow my pride. What would you do ?",0.4688773646060476,2.3039671785216207,2.18917594829788,97.35396723436855,82.93305439330544,5.155196731294321,20.00096253953287,6.161110907111825,-0.16724073703027065,2565,71,615,20,71,841,267,717,0.092,0.8170000000000001,0.091,0.3964,3,0,0,0,7,0,48.0,0,13,1,7,27,31,11,0,31,3,38,21,14,4,3,100,96,61,0,12,16,9,8,5,0,6,1,7,7,7,19,56,1,4,5,0,0,23,13,15,0,3,11,16,160,16,105,73,3,112,0,0,1,7,101,61,9,8,31,434,179,0,0.0,0.0802915749550573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478141593841706,0.0,0.11277340558387497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04738353104895928,0.0,0.0,0.1206521335086169,0.06335201976034377,0.0,0.06366834500600907,0.20843134438382546,0.056581741452302436,0.041309496904700635,0.0,0.057663836112308686,0.0,0.0,0.05993347984579615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075898488095952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334974777025967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410560053161948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860488696348727,0.069348099327888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950654721192986,0.0,0.0,0.0638837109216599,0.0,0.0342645027528477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057641686310632476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31324266501551123,0.28323931447022777,0.0,0.1540518145208851,0.05683886753141761,0.054198624380729664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954741983297441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797477769847705,0.0,0.0,0.07819281310409193,0.0,0.0,0.0731988595957797,0.0,0.0,0.06023349404971764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21526308366878333,0.0,0.06929527979762866,0.0,0.16553511198016949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569063345190265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808000969544284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842429617990277,0.2381000007939189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507427898889328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004652207165962,0.0,0.07110896982569029,0.0,0.04591996459073158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524607295292994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438666834703675,0.06406073092937492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812350139158291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043412605722624405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892188202362054,0.1077804139476177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956077850895193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593018282100922,0.07222949098892807,0.0,0.05665537235123087,0.0,0.0,0.15515161016380938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769129351119176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350620671388013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03951487304969938,0.0,0.0,0.06475327360596493,0.0,0.27605180913787336,0.1474197981043668,0.06619749080400683,0.0,0.0,0.17558408070816967,0.0,0.0,0.03997011574106468,0.05378946046565687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627797960525182,0.14818286641615666,0.0,0.04363905292751848
parenting,Annual_Support,2020/03/15,"At home activity for bored kids If you have bored children at home and at least want them to learn something while watching their ipad, here’s a suggestion that can open their eyes and minds to our beautiful world.  9 year old Isla “Nature Treasure Hunter” shares her travels near and far in search of awesome nature finds and kids get to learn some fun facts about these amazing creatures along the way.  So if they can’t go on a trip at least they can experience it online.😜 Check out https://www.naturetreasurehunter.com/",9.315319148936167,9.272388829787236,7.182425531914895,77.05300000000003,59.638297872340424,9.647659574468086,32.629787234042546,8.841846274778883,2.4127217021276604,426,13,77,5,5,123,75,94,0.04,0.76,0.2,0.9485,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,5,0,3,6,0,0,3,0,4,1,1,0,1,16,7,8,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,7,0,0,3,1,1,3,1,2,0,0,0,2,8,4,15,7,3,18,0,0,2,0,13,11,0,3,3,45,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30160684779615315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818089160793095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109020329590892,0.0,0.1752315928718402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6185621952332684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113263793231962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235414808656351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23736824050773225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186159170826324,0.2447387683534511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198555032401021
parenting,galaxygargoyle,2020/03/15,"Adventures in Naptime We just had our 2nd 2 weeks ago and DS (2.5) has been adjusting. DS normally takes a 3hr nap, but is now protesting. In today's protest he initially complained of a poopy diaper - a logical problem that clearly needed to be solved. So DH changes the diaper and does the whole naptime routine over again. This time, DS throws all his stuffies and blankets out of the crib, takes off his pants, then takes off his diaper to play with his penis (DH and I are watching on the video monitor, also worth mentioning this is the first time DS has ever removed his diaper). The piece de resistance is when we notice DS playing with something in his crib - remember, he's thrown everything out - so DH goes back in to figure out what our charming little boy is playing with. It was poop. Naptime ended.",4.765899122807016,6.659308703947371,5.1868421052631595,80.43622807017546,70.51315789473685,8.750877192982456,31.08771929824561,9.2995712137729,2.96181403508772,641,28,114,14,12,204,100,152,0.079,0.7859999999999999,0.136,0.8248,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,0,1,9,9,2,0,9,0,11,1,1,0,3,24,15,10,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,12,0,0,4,5,1,2,0,4,0,1,3,1,11,5,19,11,3,27,0,0,1,0,15,12,0,0,13,74,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534491973334766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720852129988875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077665349576106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221188601212717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829753281168422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519092992476446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913311081176096,0.0,0.0,0.18791584990468088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778511279917662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20956226248584933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503695869163134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048629775643964,0.0,0.2380493882148501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007008273510704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368572525368907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096704629446615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.471627068119325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24384313486138065,0.0,0.19819207029873392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677187076645561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23344057397841106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eakachtah9337,2020/03/15,"Second child or not?? Absolutely terrified. We have the most amazing baby girl in the world (1+yr). We had always said we wanted a girl and then a boy ~2 years apart. But now I feel like, how can I possibly have another child. It would take away from my daughter. If we have another child I cannot dedicate as much attention, time, money, etc to her. And that absolutely breaks my heart. I get the whole “your heart grows - blah blah blah” but a person only has so much quality time and finances. My husband wants her to have a sibling because he has a relationship with his, but I have 3 siblings and 2 that don’t even speak to our family anymore. A sibling doesn’t guarantee a positive relationship. 

I honestly don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to be lonely. But I also don’t want to take away from the life experience she could have as our only child. 
Thoughts??",2.0222807017543865,4.4322240058479565,3.779327485380119,84.88723684210528,80.87134502923976,7.542690058479532,24.119883040935672,8.515128840125781,1.8194233918128648,679,25,136,16,18,227,100,171,0.042,0.826,0.132,0.9425,0,2,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,11,0,20,3,2,1,0,28,31,16,0,7,7,2,1,4,0,1,1,2,0,8,4,9,0,0,4,0,2,1,7,1,0,1,3,3,23,3,14,25,5,12,0,1,0,0,27,5,0,3,6,95,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729566047866535,0.12204505435958884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076023078047929,0.0,0.0,0.14546183501883894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756113141041648,0.0,0.0,0.08941150210368991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171077688724846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358100067709122,0.09687721958886243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434759473017097,0.13827180143686393,0.0,0.07416310750614627,0.104784395573714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663144815109307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476203206694656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060854892536175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103600639328189,0.07165782264157898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156454811023464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310535361207606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807064236099175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535362377576016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31494735418842124,0.0,0.0,0.13952117538927147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220562158055157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164432842784086,0.17105432985354044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460500229195741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375700289943704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419345938626566,0.0,0.0,0.09445366235355583
parenting,wickerocker,2020/03/15,"Toddler is acting out after staying at grandma’s house The title pretty much sums it up, but I’ll elaborate...

My mom watches our 2.5 year old son pretty regularly, with him spending the night at her house at least once a month - more now that we just had another baby (two kids total including our son). He LOVES going to her house and she loves having him. She makes sure that she has a lot of enriching activities for him, and will often take him places like indoor playgrounds and the children’s museum. She also brings him home to our house from daycare three days a week. Obviously she is a valuable asset to our family because we don’t have to pay her and she adores her grandson. 

The problem is that she really struggles with discipline, which has been an ongoing issue since we moved closer to her a year ago. Right now our son is very invested in testing boundaries and rules, and although we’ve stressed the importance of having boundaries to my mom, she does not really set any. He pretty much gets to do whatever he wants at her house and she won’t say “no.” We feel like we are pretty relaxed as far as parents go, but some clear rules are things like not eating sweets or candy except under certain circumstances (like doing a good job eating dinner means getting a cookie for dessert). We also expect certain things like that he will let us change his diaper or put him in his carseat without a fuss. I learned recently that my mom has been using candy to bribe him to do things like change his diaper or get in his carseat. Add to that the fact that when she does say “no,” it is usually very passive and she will often give in after he keeps insisting. I’ve talked to her many times about this but with no progress.

He’s really good when he is with us and we feel lucky because 95% of the time he behaves. But, when he comes home from being at my mom’s house, he is like a different child. This last time has been the worst of all, which is why I’m reaching out for advice. We went from maybe one mild meltdown a week to several really emotional meltdowns a day, starting with right when he got back from an overnight visit with my mom. The meltdowns always happen after we tell him “no,” and it is always in response to a consistent rule we have in our house. He will burst into tears and start screaming “I want ______!” over and over again. If he wants something tangible and can get his hands on whatever it is he wants, he will fight us for the object. Often during these meltdowns he will also say “I want grandma!” at a certain point. Over the last six months or so we’ve noticed that this is a pattern - it only happens after visits with my mom, never after daycare, and after he has been home for 2-3 days he gets back to his usual, well-behaved self.

So we have talked about stopping the overnight visits with grandma to see what happens. That seems like the obvious choice, right? Since my mom won’t follow our discipline guidelines, I have no way of knowing if he would still act this way were she stricter with him. We really don’t want to rob either of them of their time together, though, and we enjoy having a night to ourselves once in awhile. What do you think we should do?",5.260398007999374,6.099172837620583,5.446521057171989,83.03445651321465,68.21221864951768,8.254787859775702,28.354011450082346,8.331364938255728,1.8846331581836724,2523,82,484,34,41,797,279,622,0.075,0.763,0.161,0.996,3,0,1,0,1,0,63.0,24,1,2,1,22,28,1,2,30,0,51,7,1,2,11,99,89,38,0,12,16,12,3,8,0,10,0,4,3,4,26,43,4,4,7,2,3,13,13,6,0,4,8,10,72,22,76,69,10,88,0,0,2,2,109,29,0,13,50,323,98,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05109625721182726,0.046351090353971364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254466098646022,0.08701736141344707,0.0,0.0,0.035558348962574364,0.0548296310127315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041410796381658,0.0,0.06374984249793718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062976913345164,0.04504238898607935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011663398448906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05463093100390682,0.0,0.0,0.09151700492565884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700950995304916,0.0,0.058818146470272635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04929346536021534,0.0,0.05287783239779945,0.03735530975824048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659435964837166,0.050160424062548455,0.059434147400076076,0.08771515327935815,0.041820332208926135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387171100745129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735054999969408,0.0,0.0,0.4223418251678699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05457618598628531,0.05188881655700504,0.04647691265314094,0.0,0.0,0.028736695934375774,0.08524511389516883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346909916550735,0.0,0.20436631975372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044454282804524126,0.0943858232807643,0.0,0.034903348765874524,0.053012892433751735,0.052531381650022635,0.056958107545163464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.428682146588536,0.08347324613441366,0.05557498798239973,0.07687694050662376,0.0,0.040328541026498285,0.0,0.0,0.09813946776436308,0.0,0.0,0.059531433166489386,0.05486856493358175,0.111372269374262,0.03543241541918754,0.03976818087879285,0.0,0.0,0.05806080512677132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05463093100390682,0.0,0.04943005619835663,0.0,0.0,0.2127870597490938,0.0,0.05003356172547401,0.0,0.05256494038332425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748853076248854,0.0,0.051629131427948304,0.0,0.0,0.1339636961304106,0.0,0.12474706051324322,0.0,0.0,0.04166760518404005,0.0476019898169905,0.054548885874582134,0.05907174616115765,0.0,0.08650808960965707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04025466744672957,0.0,0.0,0.07402092138456623,0.055733172990136,0.04175810509950683,0.04371598947797845,0.05989693330021565,0.05466387114257542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04928181343538312,0.0,0.03931486024224033,0.08405591991071011,0.045702936868350814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421556969584686,0.033504713685922984,0.051373728876326734,0.0,0.121960668708007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05107880667549203,0.0,0.1886918769612776,0.045160953005204285,0.11517800860432167,0.08628788940229634,0.1850486285753272,0.08300923249308435,0.08388624823594175,0.0,0.047014138117499014,0.04847247579432267,0.04718273709757082,0.0,0.0,0.05040478094660559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037144642853033615,0.0,0.0,0.06734487126062974
parenting,hicd,2020/03/15,"Do you ever fake an injury to help them understand some of the (dangerous) things they do have consequences? à la [Arrested Development.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zI-ouFNzt0U)

Not to that extreme, of course. But oh, you left your toy on the stairs again? I can stomp loudly on the floor and fall down in pain so you realize it's dangerous to leave toys on the stairs or in the hallway. 

I've only done it twice, but the second time my daughter immediately started sobbing because she knew it was her fault. I don't want to scar her, but I feel she's old enough to know that toys shouldn't be left on the stairs..",4.80377589453861,6.508357211864407,4.723333333333333,84.55095103578157,70.10169491525423,7.956308851224105,26.670433145009408,8.515128840125781,1.6442116760828618,493,16,99,8,9,152,82,118,0.156,0.828,0.016,-0.922,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,4,2,0,3,6,2,0,8,0,9,1,0,0,1,15,15,6,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,5,3,0,1,3,6,0,2,3,2,14,0,14,10,2,19,0,1,0,0,12,13,1,2,5,64,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394198503918965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584292927570171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609344549508278,0.0,0.0,0.2284308711148429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276884485502881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926778002087478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878572376860582,0.0,0.0,0.26739635264402417,0.5487564431096714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649912680929545,0.0,0.0,0.19206299077764816,0.2687132872460857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17874440352913254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777193524295436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725422606514751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628961213829844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489507115911037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angelamvl,2020/03/15,"Fat phobic son So, I am fat but I have never talked bad about myself        I express how I need to get healthy and that is why I go to the gym. My son is 7 and homeschooled so he hasn’t really been exposed to teasing and bullying. He told me he’s scared because he won’t be able to play with kids because they’ll make fun of him. He ate something and began to cry because his belly was poking out, due to it being full. He doesn’t eat much anyways and I’m wondering if this is the reason why. Any advice or articles I can research would be great!",1.5452586206896548,3.0897492155172412,3.4805517241379316,90.76962068965518,78.39655172413794,6.019310344827588,23.66896551724138,6.742157984588678,0.6754682758620691,423,14,93,4,10,143,84,116,0.139,0.7020000000000001,0.159,0.6756,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,5,6,1,1,2,0,16,4,2,3,1,17,25,11,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,7,4,0,2,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,5,0,12,3,10,14,2,6,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,3,3,57,15,1,0.21217205038087675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073320720451613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442842699486209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17715479963556705,0.3880143378072288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23306103451144145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21710497635008266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085113924557094,0.0,0.12058226573827205,0.0,0.0,0.2339204345780542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162649117220732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155970869858952,0.15732288693513155,0.16364016524573882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592284844984112,0.21814820499663176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242123614471128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334041017171552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705358571617229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273948657239452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829045484347961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300915379843444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072093707705725,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babbyboop,2020/03/15,"low contagion playdate ideas Our preschooler is a huge extrovert but we're keeping him out of school to do our part to flatten the curve.  We're trying to find ways to get him some social interaction without also picking up new microscopic friends.   We figure outdoors is better so there aren't tempting toys that kids will all want to handle.  Here are my ideas so far:
 
- run races
- ride bikes 
- kick a ball
- follow the leader 
- dance party 
- simon says 

Who's got other suggestions?",4.515681818181818,7.0333419318181845,4.656818181818182,81.2677272727273,72.86363636363637,6.672727272727273,26.90909090909091,7.645422480735847,1.7488590909090909,382,14,64,5,8,119,73,88,0.038,0.805,0.157,0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,1,13,11,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,4,4,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,1,6,2,9,9,3,11,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,1,1,37,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497049255655535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21562540260168409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228330355330251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836286977317376,0.0,0.12737786828915393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19499285261961985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5504515534394557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167047773296865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354680526715321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640166801169805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938832453065158,0.0,0.24674332448538014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485281402264097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16552735532078486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438023008321534,0.1935207850182616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350189848646844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Themermaidmomma,2020/03/15,"Tips for parents with small children to find resources! In this midst of the current climate around Corona Virus in the U.S. I just wanted to let other parents of small children who are having trouble finding young child, infant, toddler specific foods and necessities know about Facebook groups as a resource .

Join your local (county/city) moms or dads Facebook group! 

Mine has a giant thread full of other parents with extra supplies! You know all that formula samples that companies sent you for your newborn ? Someone could use those! And if you have stuff laying around as well you could help another parent and child. If you have diapers your child out grew or gaining pants, wipes, things like that or need them, my moms group has helped so many others in the group! 

Also if you need these items this is the place to look!",6.460448402948406,8.419742182432433,5.124840294840297,82.28404176904179,66.36486486486487,7.003439803439803,30.346437346437348,7.348242739294969,1.9416270270270275,665,25,109,6,11,194,102,148,0.018000000000000002,0.895,0.087,0.8679,5,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,9,1,1,7,3,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,1,1,26,18,13,0,8,7,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,13,8,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,13,2,19,14,4,16,0,0,1,0,32,12,0,6,3,78,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118031727855085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659925963320575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489147740238548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232481587868675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555611369427246,0.0,0.1690545221961028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741864165220767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536679445209409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296157399085402,0.0,0.06830237276925502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740221233897805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174180344197818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274792643898291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732943208859936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6209541000424454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606799079836633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845755693846302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600449443382766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288119749286873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074789037620268,0.0,0.0,0.08246147032852819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570279451120592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Make-2Day-Your-Bitch,2020/03/15,My kindergartner had a fire drill in class and screamed for everyone to RUUNNNN.... And they did. I found my child's kindergarten agenda and this note on her folder.... Good thing her teacher is my friend...26ish 5/6 year olds screaming and running...,3.843863636363636,6.8954356590909125,2.5919999999999987,92.15300000000002,78.77272727272728,5.3381818181818215,26.981818181818184,6.742157984588678,1.2329509090909094,195,8,35,2,5,55,38,44,0.158,0.779,0.063,-0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,3,7,1,4,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,21,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122384414571837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4730276317068986,0.3333125206424714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618529977021036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527006784699165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286614987200462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778190840972493
parenting,caramba80,2020/03/15,"Locks on kids' bedroom doors Hello, 

Looking for advice here.  

We are doing a massive home renovation and have reached the stage where we have to select door hardware.  DD is 5 and DS is 8 - so locks on their doors have never been a thing. We will likely be in this house for many years and certainly until after they are teenagers.  

Question - is it right/sensible/reasonable to give them room doors which can be locked from the inside? Perhaps the bathroom type locks which can be opened with a penny from the outside in case of an emergency - with some ground rules, e.g., no locking at night, only when privacy is needed while changing for example?   

Yes, parents' room will have a bolt on the inside. Yes, we will be chatting to them about knocking and privacy, but they are still at the walk in at night and jump in to our bed stage. Which we are OK with for a few years. 

I have no idea and am getting conflicting feedback from friends so I thought I would ask you guys? 

Thanks!",5.146265508684864,6.377750177419355,4.771720430107528,86.33527295285359,68.73118279569893,7.658560794044665,29.36145574855252,7.882392219407189,1.7864934656741105,767,28,149,9,13,233,116,186,0.051,0.8490000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.8618,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,1,5,0,7,5,0,0,12,3,26,0,0,0,2,25,33,12,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,9,2,6,15,0,1,3,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,15,5,28,23,2,29,0,0,1,0,21,15,0,2,11,106,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335084531142988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184976546007712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931434654679532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286957910982668,0.0,0.10337600577395263,0.18980960490837287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591690840360199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847417086103808,0.0,0.0,0.2283090033330769,0.0,0.2233648738627998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666657313508016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615630006919027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060349081883846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467139785740259,0.1526052576673898,0.0,0.0,0.3713647551911336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048482626693474,0.0,0.0,0.21970505010149602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221653461409409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343760337321248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897515461506166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580148010865323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821669967038776,0.0,0.0,0.1314523450107683,0.0,0.0,0.15708226737629613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055722446854296,0.0,0.0,0.2548364302232721
parenting,Money-Patience,2020/03/15,"Son's classmate's mom stole our sitter - wwyd? My 9yo son's sitter announced he was leaving for another job. The job? Same thing but different family. The kid is in my son's class and apparently his mom made him a good offer. My son is crushed and we found out the hard way. After he quit, he showed up at my son's school and my son thought he was back. He wasn't. He was there to pickup another kid. That kid is in my son's class. I feel a bit betrayed by it. He gave no indication he was unhappy or needed more money. I was very good to him. WWYD?",-0.22296703296703413,1.9167605555555558,2.1923626373626384,94.22942307692308,88.74358974358975,5.736019536019538,18.61355311355312,7.1686216300943375,0.2433399267399272,423,12,99,7,14,144,69,117,0.14300000000000002,0.795,0.062,-0.879,6,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,15,5,0,1,2,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,10,2,13,2,10,5,3,8,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,1,2,50,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843919939221101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093902662094251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001056774623289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914994876906687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278990472089706,0.0,0.0926771485337445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20096849561194305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30747063260745694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419222313053008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637749386636282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940781000374668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343383638967738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42933507209350014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590753118173285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495193368501576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854997002978848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177001709110327,0.0,0.0,0.1455121274675923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123380025563854,0.0,0.14548741165407264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HallieJV,2020/03/15,"If wider hips make for easier births, how come black woman have the highest rates of c-sections in the US? I’ll admit that the difference is slight, but still, the average hip width is larger (at least stereotypically and with my personal experience) in African-American women than Asian American ones, but African-Americans have a slightly higher rate of c-sections.",16.42734375,10.560777046875003,14.22125,50.09875000000002,51.96875,18.425,53.875,15.247664890283005,7.683368750000001,297,14,46,9,2,94,52,64,0.0,0.9440000000000001,0.055999999999999994,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,4,2,2,2,0,9,7,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,8,7,1,7,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,1,2,28,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367793090575505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084722771332723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824360421851214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609702981073852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649260985424646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413731047312638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31222291045243705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4702793774062562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovelylolbit24,2020/03/15,"My sister seems frustrated with me and I don’t know why 
My sister(14) lives alone with me(21) since Im her legal guardian and lately she seems frustrated with me.

I don’t know why because I don’t recall doing/saying anything that would make her mad. For example last night I went to give her a hug and she tried to push me away and told me to leave her alone. She has never done this to me before and I’m worried something happened to her but she refuses to tell me what’s wrong. Is this normal",1.3537165775401083,3.6631309313725495,2.487147950089128,93.74671122994656,82.82352941176471,5.277718360071302,20.057040998217467,6.574015621080383,0.17206666666666634,393,11,83,4,11,125,63,102,0.16399999999999998,0.8029999999999999,0.033,-0.8765,0,2,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,7,1,0,1,1,18,17,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,0,21,1,11,13,0,7,0,0,0,1,14,1,0,2,4,51,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605867910334084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432522250270156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355299709144913,0.0,0.0,0.10611697267246488,0.0,0.14812844937414513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814330632594766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699248628439958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539375283367088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803524529239812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19133858580207547,0.14189765915056962,0.1963687498906953,0.1843245781131059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537149897536143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161991171126632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342604944057007,0.0,0.0,0.163361395272124,0.17056050777191764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843464697587296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169500569497398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399998841333872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401455683665373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215276187912471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16633999154114407,0.0,0.11818824758403527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613730226674457,0.3141585313474009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678572449982313,0.0,0.12366076200710238,0.1903281129553224,0.0,0.0
parenting,Phoenix_RebornAgain,2020/03/15,"Ideas about in-home exercising/gym -school closings What are you all going to do to tucker your kids out? Mine (3) had been absolutely crazy. Some of my thoughts are below, I would love to hear yours. I’m looking for physical activities that will wear my kid down. 

Learn a dance routine watching YouTube. This could be a half hour a day?

Circuit/obstacle course
-jump over marks on floor
-crawl through a tunnel
-jump and touch a mark on wall
-run to kitchen and back

Bike rides 

What do you plan to do?",3.4302083333333333,5.802270770833335,3.0741666666666667,92.02083333333336,75.66666666666666,6.3500000000000005,26.291666666666664,7.3871296695380915,1.149716666666666,398,15,82,5,9,118,78,96,0.028999999999999998,0.919,0.052000000000000005,0.4673,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,11,3,1,0,1,11,17,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,4,4,1,0,3,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,3,4,8,1,15,10,2,18,0,0,2,1,8,9,0,1,3,49,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540501196000089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26379015741079503,0.0,0.0,0.21307472356015167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877686967827586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723744263863373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32536837073784075,0.0,0.0,0.3729709805803089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774450480717369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298190582476063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33437311280139664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26229337801386865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347001340500832,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,this_material,2020/03/15,"My [55M] son [22M] keeps talking to himself and it's disturbing me. How can I help him to stop? He talks to himself all the time. A couple of days ago as I was on my way to dropping him off at work, we stopped by the gas station so he can put gas in my truck. As he was standing out pumping my gas, I looked through the side mirror and I noticed he was mouthing to himself. I asked him, ""WHO ARE YOU TALKING TO?!"". He told me, ""I'm thinking out loud."" The reason why I looked out my side mirror because a car pulled up behind him to their gas pump, and I noticed he didn't look behind him to acknowledge its presence. And as I was looking I saw him talking to himself.

What if the guy from that car would've just came out and came up to my son and put a gun to his head and shot him, while he's just standing there talking to himself?!

He does it at home as well. He's been doing it for a long time. I remember when me, him, and my other son went on a road trip a few years ago and he was doing it quietly to himself, but loud enough to where I can hear him. I flipped out and said, ""IF YOU KEEP DOING THAT, I AM GOING TO TAKE YOU TO GO SEE A THERAPIST. IF YOU KEEP TALKING TO YOURSELF, AND ONCE SOMEONE SLAPS THE SHIT OUT OF YOU, YOU'LL SEE WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT."" He once again said he thinks out loud.

My son did admit that he has Social Anxiety and possibly ADHD. I ask him, ""Are you sure you don't have Schizophrenia? Do you hear voices in your head?"" He says, ""I am positive I don't have schizophrenia and I don't hear voices in my head.""

He tells me he thinks out loud, but talking to yourself is not a good look. I don't think he's just thinking out loud, he is literally having conversations with himself.

He told me that he has been dealing with Anxiety all his life. Within the past year, he has been trying to make efforts to turn his life around. He started working full-time, he has gone to therapy, he is working on getting his driver's license, etc.

He is trying to look for another therapist, because he thought the first one wasn't a good fit.

I don't really know what to do with him at this point. He is making these changes to his life, but is still doing the same bad habits like talking to himself.

How can I help him stop?",2.3844799054373524,3.513240457446809,3.711879432624112,91.70361111111113,75.27659574468086,6.498817966903073,26.034278959810877,6.816661863887847,0.8884208037825063,1725,61,391,15,36,566,194,470,0.076,0.88,0.044000000000000004,-0.9291,0,0,0,1,0,0,70.0,1,10,1,5,14,8,1,1,18,0,45,8,5,5,3,64,87,28,0,3,10,4,0,1,0,1,3,14,1,1,16,29,0,6,11,0,0,12,8,3,1,2,21,23,72,5,65,65,6,63,0,0,9,0,96,29,1,3,19,256,88,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032947194654297,0.0,0.118500406218109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008824925346137,0.10226582828423274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059502349358049926,0.12497396946731446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05580915064284883,0.08149087944485392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289579362593567,0.0,0.0,0.07070854472901518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739579076684659,0.0,0.04310668952865186,0.06890977497535278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849270306661768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906425886996767,0.07454499304902787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056854622569893015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03492148077169808,0.0,0.07597416324352484,0.11212553162945232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618275196884041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20579337065218475,0.0,0.2260028104475872,0.0,0.08960375723404904,0.0,0.06704662159764782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782331220398859,0.0,0.0,0.03673387309321456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416345829887612,0.0326549652381058,0.0,0.0,0.059151871715810274,0.33677586947887744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923330552835823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219704561644187,0.0,0.14236622117727515,0.045292954150567916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380696340630554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631860188633874,0.07535278965145645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438662911024502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04281983181120271,0.06872332028355503,0.0,0.0,0.0757174264115446,0.0,0.12716152861928293,0.05315436750406373,0.0,0.0,0.10652668799670367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861096648841243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813562502428418,0.05663386566502495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04731015595169416,0.0,0.0533790292677125,0.16764532846388058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299652140499858,0.0,0.050255850224184564,0.4835158418361941,0.05842167404154855,0.0,0.07643810826074221,0.15521429230878558,0.0,0.21414394740679124,0.0,0.053064009764035976,0.07795064082722684,0.0,0.0,0.12773821054409593,0.0,0.0907608273503667,0.0727034332009781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05305499663095382,0.0,0.0,0.06009777140485945,0.06196195200759225,0.06031329004178788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598236735672862,0.0,0.0,0.04748167986229398,0.0,0.0,0.08608637402212824
parenting,Xaldis,2020/03/15,"Imagination going a bit too far? My 4 year old son has always been very imaginative. He often gets ""stuck in imagination land,"" or at least that's how I describe it. But lately that has started to take a strange turn that I'm not sure how to handle. 

He absolutely loves to pretend to be his favorite characters. Batman, Sonic, and Spiderman are his favorites at the moment. I have no problem with him pretending and try to encourage his imagination whenever I can. However, as of late he refuses to respond to his own name stating ""I'm not [name], I'm [character]!"" He will even go so far as to pretend to remove his ""mask"" before talking to us as himself. 

This has taken a new twist in the past few days. He now says ""[real name] isn't here right now,"" or ""[real name] is at the doctor."" He is completely absorbed into his characters. He gets angry at us and even at strangers if they address him as anything other than whatever character he's pretending to be.

He doesn't understand that not everyone can see what he sees in his imagination.  I'm beginning to worry that he thinks his characters are real. I dont want to discourage him from using his imagination but I'm trying to teach him that there are certain settings in which pretending to be spiderman or whatever are inappropriate. It's a work in progress but extremely frustrating when we're trying to reprimand him for something and he keeps insisting he's ""not [real name]""

Has anyone ever dealt with this before? How did you handle it? Did your children grow out of it?",4.247494252873565,6.2634895827586226,5.805258620689652,74.96352011494255,72.13793103448276,9.385057471264368,30.70402298850575,9.827888789773867,3.3718505747126435,1209,54,212,33,24,410,157,290,0.069,0.855,0.076,0.5885,1,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,2,2,1,2,14,7,1,0,7,0,23,2,0,4,3,49,46,20,0,3,11,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,15,8,0,3,8,5,0,4,8,3,0,0,5,3,25,4,39,37,4,36,0,1,2,1,46,16,0,5,14,142,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910877286473482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328423872537365,0.0,0.09801709551338723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027070835069739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003689180643765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488420488016255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768158724066177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191377682248612,0.0,0.0,0.1395956260834089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734160474394093,0.10774150017891262,0.0,0.11381437765109464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445975511183302,0.0,0.1353855212202065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587013223047333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687217529815107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750111206817968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503684496286425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498554428877368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370364120433492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397185168837808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5422914455590152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171899274847836,0.0,0.09472077667510746,0.0,0.0,0.18982994432025185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169642995189303,0.0,0.0,0.08430642535671844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225943822688332,0.0,0.08955563558043854,0.09573582718493624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763206561232956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426029072111004,0.1295570991267454,0.0,0.12399734926712265,0.2865484936401948,0.10287249719010873,0.0,0.09827793779125088,0.07025395928851445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867132458798301,0.12096163421150825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670271128610817
parenting,Thieving--magpie,2020/03/15,"Advice on formula and overfeeding Hi all, our daughter is about 3 weeks old and we've just switched over to formula feeding after breastfeeding for three weeks (long story short, my wife found it very painful and weight gain was bad). 

We're trying to follow the 150-200ml per kg rule but find that she's still hungry after a big feed. We give pauses throughout the feed to burp and see if she'll stop/ has had enough. If we were still breastfeeding I suppose we'd let her dictate how much she wants and when but right now we're concerned about overfeeding her and setting bad habits. For parents who do or have formula fed, do you have any advice about whether to keep going or not? One thing I'm concerned about is misreading boredom/wanting to suck for hunger. I'm also unsure if this is maybe a growth spurt or if she's just greedy :) grateful for your advice!",7.336460412508321,6.933875766467067,6.343672654690617,82.63105123087159,63.790419161676645,9.338389886892882,32.328010645375926,8.515128840125781,2.31689008649368,691,23,134,8,9,208,113,167,0.10800000000000001,0.815,0.077,-0.6529,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,2,0,1,12,4,1,0,4,0,14,8,0,1,1,28,25,19,0,5,13,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,8,6,2,2,0,0,3,1,4,0,2,5,2,14,0,17,17,3,20,0,0,1,0,18,5,1,7,11,82,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.491821879058533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416374582183302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408776922408527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801579951155975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334885118551846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333661185314107,0.0,0.0,0.1839485917861104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093803710215826,0.0953462335912578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911961437243362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17155381012303594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484691094233655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854517494662208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332854172173074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17604394907051987,0.0,0.11368371567675642,0.0,0.17851663035903492,0.0,0.18628614459123374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327267429859195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368911276956255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26795895742189285,0.14026128502803986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114573858826652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390323599544774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842589856075624,0.0989537190190122,0.0,0.26914621204402445,0.20429582630671425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,klwb88,2020/03/15,"Tips for (nearly) Irish twins? Any other parents, or soon to be parents, of Irish twins? 

My daughter is 5 months, and I’m 6 weeks pregnant... there’ll be around 13 months between them. I’m surprisingly calm! But keen to hear from others about their experiences, and I’d love some ideas on what helped",2.738421052631576,5.326236438596492,2.8132456140350897,91.81355263157896,79.35087719298245,5.203508771929825,21.780701754385966,6.42735559955562,0.2888385964912281,235,7,47,2,6,71,47,57,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.8968,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,7,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,10,5,1,7,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,2,4,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808196263935784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367054213272351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600990764728455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996861527053751,0.0,0.17822569476174355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001662582620497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23998315164240555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244741845514286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5904960943030846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21328718160602425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,broxiloyal,2020/03/15,"Arguing over money Need some advice, my twin girls split their time equally between myself and my ex. My ex is the one who gets child benefit, tax credits etc for them - this has never been an issue as she is the one who buys most of their clothes etc. However, she has recently been awarded disability payments for one of our girls, I have said that due to this money being to help us with things she needs to help make her life easier that i should b getting half the money as she needs things in my house as well as my ex's. My ex is refusing but is so refusing to buy anything for our daughter to have at my house. I only work part time and already struggle to feed us sometimes without even thinking about buying extras for our daughter. Where do I stand on this? What do u guys think? Am I being unreasonable?",7.413990683229816,6.175382968944103,7.430178571428572,77.63669642857145,64.03105590062111,10.286024844720496,34.410714285714285,9.188382445141503,2.8653037267080754,642,23,126,9,8,207,101,161,0.062,0.857,0.08,-0.2824,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,0,3,2,5,6,1,1,4,0,16,2,0,1,1,17,25,8,0,4,2,6,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,10,3,1,2,2,0,8,0,2,2,1,4,3,1,26,4,24,19,7,11,0,0,0,0,31,5,0,2,5,99,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415013070605904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597953954120645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191617868858232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229906480361777,0.0956420238457798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130877666613152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337924703523833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941188430755328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33416996272548816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113830391580416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227971920659698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665814563849676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221121640121978,0.11168217749176466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29436988349324683,0.1101303672878143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680919073504082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297700023646084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774226428259342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143215379016051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513811311775628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924033857234326,0.1855697868278134,0.0,0.0,0.16887336738405978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34836403132291266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301966593438348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958639585829605,0.0,0.10541941965928818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vicksvapourdropsss,2020/03/15,"i need help asap so me n my boyfriend had sex but the condom got stuck inside me , he didn’t finish but there was possibly precum. i took the morning after pill just incase within 24 hours but now my period is 8 days late and i’m worried. what do we think, please help !!",0.8991666666666696,3.078571535714285,2.8000000000000007,91.61166666666668,83.64285714285714,5.161904761904762,16.476190476190478,6.42735559955562,-0.2662523809523809,210,4,44,2,6,70,48,56,0.08800000000000001,0.764,0.14800000000000002,0.5624,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,0,0,8,11,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,0,7,0,2,5,0,9,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,7,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626960748613556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434029006140901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079759882725513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997067007579225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34330087863536163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256590625368477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340662433699081,0.0,0.34308972945014793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950042973034447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33812515970396306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30906493311568417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loserson76,2020/03/15,How do you tell your loser son to stop fapping to your wife I recently discovered my bastard step-son has been taking hidden pictures of his mom while changing and taking a shower. I'm convinced he is fapping furiously to these pics. What intervention can be done for this gross manifestation of oedipus complex?,7.017321428571428,8.860140375000004,7.359285714285718,67.2357142857143,64.89285714285714,9.171428571428573,37.214285714285715,9.516144504307137,3.9854428571428566,255,13,38,5,4,83,48,56,0.243,0.715,0.042,-0.9173,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,1,1,5,2,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,4,10,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,6,1,6,7,0,3,0,1,0,0,9,0,1,0,3,26,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36859014145627933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35656234872755216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080741281444688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440301648525834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913010281374085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5239483011318872,0.0,0.3045410308133624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OvidPerl,2020/03/15,"Dystopian Parenting Given all of the sad news from the COVID-19, I thought I'd share something a bit fun [from a Twitter thread I created](https://twitter.com/OvidPerl/status/1238809613811793921). My apologies if it's out of line or offends anyone.

# Dystopian Parenting

Me: You get in here before you catch your death of coronavirus!

Daughter: Papa, kids don’t die from coronavirus. You do.  
.  
.  
.  
Me: Well, damn.

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Me: So, if Sally has three bananas and Jimmy has twice as many bananas as Sally, how many bananas do they have together?

Daughter: Zero.

Me: Zero?

Daughter: Papa, bananas went extinct years ago.

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Daughter: you used to slaughter each other for food?

Me: No! We killed animals.

Her: Humans are animals.  
.  
.  
.  
Me: Yes. Yes we are.

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Daughter: Papa, this my my new girlfriend, Robbie.

Me: As long as you're happy!

*Robbie whispers something*

Daughter: Sorry, Robbie is non-binary on weekends.

Me: Uh, OK.

Daughter: Robbie's a new model and was built last month.

Me: Do we have any soy whisky left?

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Daughter: Papa, is it true there used to be people who didn't believe in vaccines?

Me: Very much so!

Her: What happened to them?

Me: Years ago, before the erection of the great domes we live in, there was a young scientist who traveled the world. His name was Charles Darwin...

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Christmas time!

Telling your daughter a bedtime story about Santa living in a giant submarine at the North Pole, followed by singing ""I'm dreaming of a wet Christmas."" 

We end with a quiet round of sobbing and another soy whisky.

---

Video call.

Daughter: Papa, try AcmeEnergy Drink!

Me: I want to talk about your grades!

Her: AcmeEnergy Drink is great!

(phone rings/switch calls)

Me: Hello?

Her: Hi papa!

Me: Weren’t we just talking?

Her: No.

Her: Damned DeepFake sales calls!

---

Daughter: Papa, I'm going to emigrate to Mars.

Me: No! It's an unlivable hellscape with only a handful of people, all trapped in dome cities!

Daughter: The punchline's too obvious.

Me: I'll get my coat. I'm coming with you.",1.0901799671592798,2.4471947542857184,1.7909655172413816,89.38766666666668,120.02857142857141,3.552052545155993,23.451559934318556,5.654381343151486,0.912329392446634,1524,68,251,17,87,469,198,350,0.106,0.809,0.085,-0.8314,4,1,6,0,0,0,145.0,6,8,2,0,11,14,4,0,17,3,19,4,1,3,4,30,34,13,4,3,4,14,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,8,15,3,0,1,7,1,6,6,6,2,4,8,5,46,8,35,25,5,31,0,2,1,0,54,12,3,3,13,151,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044447619766452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842014216298941,0.1209208971791182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063297314267709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625411807082466,0.1299238098037391,0.0,0.0,0.1258973050010148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532574785627787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933617984813443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968179787901127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259353253928949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213745173909387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944289041627325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049771054963287,0.0,0.06553783322948464,0.0,0.0,0.2542768347647534,0.0,0.0,0.10197525859943443,0.1227580735226622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758219619519667,0.0,0.0,0.09399949864651122,0.0,0.0,0.12529326091961304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20365567772983734,0.10205273314551568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23382854842341916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204566606223284,0.0,0.08477194216652753,0.0,0.0,0.22274953754204047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770447698122341,0.0,0.0,0.2560938134068749,0.0,0.0,0.1598938560649967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775547423317626,0.0,0.12908897375049289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853763569274988,0.10079294767747628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915495498451451,0.06724280835171499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829330015247442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919532026707484,0.0,0.09514936366975922,0.06801749885902078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368466203886904,0.10690087008211996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852192332566772
parenting,RomanFro,2020/03/15,"Bilingual environment Hi all. 

I’ve met recently one girl from Asia. And it gave birth of the question.

She speaks English plus own local language. I speak English too plus my local language. Also I’m reading now the book “After three it’s too late”. So theoretically will it be easy for potential mutual children to learn several languages simultaneously just from early childhood? How it works for infants? Could each parent speak with a child by his native local language before a child will start to speak by himself (and after of course)? When in that case is the best time to involve a child into English language?

I will be glad to hear as theoretical answers, maybe references to real research in the direction, as real cases from your life or life of yours friends. 🙂",4.880472527472528,7.57514372857143,5.551428571428573,74.4428021978022,72.42857142857143,7.164835164835164,30.76923076923077,8.139509932561175,2.6127582417582427,622,28,98,10,13,201,97,140,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.9344,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,2,8,3,0,0,7,0,7,2,0,1,1,18,12,11,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,3,2,5,0,6,5,7,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,8,3,25,4,4,17,0,0,0,0,23,6,0,2,11,69,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050082467570662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18142267020896988,0.0,0.22374662657200567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022770567307066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472248807235748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24029874684201505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405057441787111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011875182816254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141941636131168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447395722556836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367401199474749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388396034437772,0.0,0.21326377600398091,0.4853503902413651,0.0,0.0,0.21051528204524766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24086218303664306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090836037274302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432217946240105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552165650833263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeveralCobbler,2020/03/15,"Odd question about sleepovers My 10yo has been at many sleepovers at his friends, but tonight he has two friends sleeping over. I went to go check on them and all three were sleeping in the spare bedroom in the same bed. The bed is queen-sized. Is that normal for boys to share a bed together at a sleepover? I don't think I did that when I was his age.",2.690416666666668,4.354682763888892,2.5288888888888903,98.305,75.52777777777777,5.355555555555556,27.277777777777786,5.46131890053228,0.5204277777777779,277,11,63,1,6,82,53,72,0.023,0.8490000000000001,0.127,0.81,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,9,2,2,0,1,7,12,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,5,0,8,3,11,7,2,12,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,3,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442690450807937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628216365471513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904608304064106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28070414337482563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209398211398732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5734035451024877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835743441447512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798638580543859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655836141872103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iEngineer0,2020/03/15,"Bathing more than once a week I‘m reading frequently that parent have a bedtime routine where they bathe their kid every day. Our daughter is almost a year now and we were told by our doctor and by the medical staff in the hospital that bathing once per week is sufficient, at the most it should be twice per week. Is this a cultural thing that kids are bathed more in certain cultures or countries?",6.2288,7.392472946666674,5.364000000000001,83.32200000000002,66.2,8.666666666666668,33.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.7716666666666665,321,14,59,5,5,96,56,75,0.0,0.9670000000000001,0.033,0.3353,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,7,0,8,2,0,0,1,8,10,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,2,6,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,5,1,6,6,3,11,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,3,7,41,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23267790491392945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498548639010691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378333000853227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957757862800531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23408120140105626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4949178638375781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580115302263228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324258059886049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437160262087174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220327328004196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5591625682345427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963410556322088
parenting,Scabby_Oss,2020/03/15,"Free Kindle Ebook that really helped my daughter with her fears of the bogeyman This free Kindle Ebook short story helped my daughter's fear of the ""bogeyman' no end. The methods used were simple and fun to do, such as visualizing the bogeyman and in her mind and 'changing' the color of him to black and white, imagining him dressed in a ridiculous and silly way and shrinking him way down to a much smaller.  
These techniques are based on NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) methods they say.  
I'm not really sure what that is and I haven't had time to look it up but the main thing is it worked for my daughter.  
If you don't have a kindle you can use a free kindle app on your phone to read the book with your child. You can get the Ebook free from the link below. Just type in the search box Bye Bye Bogeyman which is the book title.

Hope this is of use to some people on here. x

 [https://www.amazon.com/Kindle-Store/b?ie=UTF8&node=133140011](https://www.amazon.com/Kindle-Store/b?ie=UTF8&node=133140011)",7.954696969696967,9.710274772727278,6.086818181818181,77.54606060606064,62.63636363636363,8.366666666666665,26.03030303030303,8.59863814320734,1.6036303030303034,824,20,143,11,12,238,105,176,0.049,0.838,0.113,0.9283,0,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,0,5,1,1,3,11,1,2,15,0,13,0,0,3,1,22,20,10,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,10,9,0,0,2,3,4,0,4,3,0,0,2,5,15,12,24,18,3,14,0,0,4,0,21,10,0,3,4,94,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820341761733572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864982271821252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561462929455518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967649522703428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210759858594354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23633553677354005,0.0,0.0,0.17510211539763654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804458418294522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780091190476783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129598147297731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222173387043013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634411970403313,0.0,0.2258799909298401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019798235823655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615728135403066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712350208140428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279985522048853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567904862839926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27987177087994136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834588717303774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,takemetothrowaway,2020/03/15,"Help me with my childs phone. So recently with my child getting a new phone, and the 2 weeks of no school, I have been worried that he (15M) will take to watching porn on his new phone.  I want to trust him, but at the same time I don't want him to get into that.  Is there an app anyone can reccomend to track what he types? (It's an android) I have a keylogger installed on the kids computer that sends an email to me every day of all letters typed.  I just want that same sort of app for his phone, hidden so he can't see it.  I don't want to put blocks on yet, because I want to trust him, I just need to see if I can.  Please help!!",1.8867391304347843,2.5494534710144947,3.1311304347826088,97.19321739130436,75.8840579710145,6.389565217391305,21.771014492753626,6.2581,-0.027712463768115647,481,11,123,3,10,156,82,138,0.040999999999999995,0.794,0.165,0.9317,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,8,0,10,1,0,0,1,19,21,5,0,7,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,3,18,2,19,19,3,14,0,0,3,1,20,5,0,2,7,75,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409863817052278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690870553116901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368371299610338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158485304710754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20039666475871595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570952563114917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220413992395026,0.0,0.3704490665952101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051936617119324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279417472243507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893618771884916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940939189141624,0.3056513141852907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419641646041287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182979710757887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5655908255187615,0.0,0.15383618702191454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476422750445693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unluckywife_19,2020/03/15,"Scholastic is releasing 3 weeks of free materials for each grade level for all families during this current health crisis. https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html?caching

My friends just told me about this and I’m so excited and grateful, so grateful to be given some additional activities to do. We just bought some kid friendly board/card games and of course there is always tent making or movie watching, but I’m not super creative and this helps.",11.49310810810811,14.062491283783785,8.838756756756762,58.05354054054058,55.08108108108107,9.703783783783782,35.07027027027027,9.888512548439397,3.716992432432432,401,15,53,7,5,117,59,74,0.115,0.698,0.187,0.4843,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,16,10,8,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,3,6,7,6,4,3,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,3,2,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798962937252222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171104716366357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5197749112243594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575577263664585,0.0,0.0,0.2254693795047541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453721417154807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38172165638690864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214268682416441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26982489004919075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ackdaddy54,2020/03/15,Can I get my child rights even if I’m not on the birth certificate? Okay kinda personal but I’m very serious about knowing the answer. First off I’m 17 about to turn 18 yes I’m an underage dad so I know that’s an issue. But I just wanna know because the mother of my child signed adoption papers and gave our baby up to her parents completely but I’m not on the birth certificate  so I have absolutely no say and no rights to what happens but they kept me from signing the papers and now I want to know if there is physically any possible way I can get rights of my son even though she adopted him off and I have no rights it sounds to me like no but I just want to know.,0.7933100233100241,2.888089916083917,2.816111888111891,91.85237296037295,83.4055944055944,6.330815850815853,20.72214452214452,7.554174236665415,0.6668055011655012,530,16,119,9,15,178,81,143,0.11199999999999999,0.812,0.076,-0.8063,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,1,1,11,3,0,0,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,28,23,14,0,5,11,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,4,0,1,6,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,2,2,18,2,17,21,0,14,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,3,5,77,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401726929639128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220641806710593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579251383202912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22148098116046466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261491256474482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751950396210857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482647212897839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749976552993962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607187474433607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191216125851776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18617103006306487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463977375090999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189015967777135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5727365588586891,0.0,0.13333314216812026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472902851077334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18237028583503206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834035901601904,0.19778514219363486,0.1330838789114232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BellBivDevvoe,2020/03/15,Is it illegal to have sex in front of your children? I’ve been thinking about fucking my wife in front of the kids (don’t ask why) and I was wondering if it was illegal🤷🏾‍♂️ so if someone could tell me that be a life saver,-1.0182352941176482,0.8942988431372534,1.8387254901960801,97.01926470588238,89.98039215686275,5.752941176470588,22.225490196078432,7.1686216300943375,0.6434549019607845,175,7,44,3,6,61,43,51,0.079,0.9209999999999999,0.0,-0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,8,3,0,0,0,6,12,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,6,7,0,4,0,0,0,2,6,2,1,3,0,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35989028868618644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073632106525652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35589391961842315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719121492635008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32617957724278274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364763594524723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466700141833488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473710158567019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174780979561188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WordlessRejection93,2020/03/15,"Am I overreacting? AITA? Hey Reddit peeps,

I need to vent! So I have two little girls 1yo and 4yo. Their grandparents on their dad's side had mentioned a get together, which I assumed was a small family-only get together at an aunts house,  would have a kids entertainer. My 4yo loves that stuff so we gave her the choice between that and hanging out at home doing some baking and she chose the get together (not a problem).  Fast forward to kids being dropped off by their grandparents. I finally checked Facebook after doing other things and found that the get together had been a full blown party not at the aunts house but at a hired venue. I have four problems with this: 

1) myself and husband were not invited to bring the children ourselves  despite always inviting aunts/cousins etc to our gatherings/parties

2) it was not just family at the party meaning my children were with strangers without me there to monitor 

3) grandparents clearly knew the nature of the party and chose not to tell us

4) one of his stupid and socially irresponsible cousins posted pictures of the all kids at the party ( there was like eight of them) where my eldest features front and centre - she has a moderate following and I'm nervous about the type of people she could have frequenting her social media pages 

I was angry on seeing this and got a little more than annoyed and definitely ranted to my husband about it. He thought I was annoyed at him (I wasn't) and that I was overreacting- so my questions are: 

1) am I over reacting? 

2) AITA if I stop the kids going to 'family' functions without us for his side of the family?",5.189657662862924,7.000994647840535,5.704610717896872,77.47266936299293,69.29900332225914,8.557041744908277,31.02715585728731,9.085049710711278,2.8570926188068766,1283,54,220,25,23,413,170,301,0.102,0.813,0.085,-0.8146,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,4,0,9,9,3,1,22,0,25,2,0,1,2,42,42,17,0,6,10,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,7,12,16,1,1,6,1,1,6,8,6,0,4,17,1,35,3,37,22,6,32,0,0,1,1,38,20,0,4,7,166,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094292287886131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050023116472502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466715947032333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719358397727515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440659019239185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419705499969654,0.0,0.0,0.2748401503405896,0.0,0.07474178495021591,0.0,0.10518284229655307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319181142417384,0.0,0.0,0.30349634971089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425053689791828,0.2636208563049249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869548423926644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325605099220887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751511394366373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911651262365851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117445310576934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595295945377913,0.0,0.0,0.2516800778250212,0.0,0.0,0.14732449324479438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479871663985664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681215832119154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995063368048867,0.0,0.0,0.1505507522596696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494802999405684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737129567663605,0.0,0.0,0.10440651497975552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846894760194344,0.0,0.31638753828968835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25354739406721016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342295732740533,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trapmitch,2020/03/15,"Pi day So my daughter has been sick all week. It's been really rough. Two er trips and a doctors visit. She doesn't have any corona virus symptoms, shes just sick. Anyways, kne of my nicknames for her is pie. Short for cutie pie. Today is the first day she has acted like herself again and started to feel a little better. It was kind of ironic that it was pie day and my little pie was all smiles and ready to play",1.0924289405684746,3.254849534883725,2.2692248062015534,95.81285529715765,82.72093023255813,4.28733850129199,17.695090439276484,5.033348758259628,-0.6582413436692502,324,7,70,1,9,103,60,86,0.087,0.75,0.163,0.7363,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,0,12,4,0,0,2,8,14,5,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,5,2,8,4,6,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,9,44,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569555273414474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154953847580388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714170676577973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24939392244578296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232006254812136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072550668102612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537319403161908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903881683130325,0.4884179392376411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560933254270597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246213393674986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532535861018919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23095895558744925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380181125395939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954474641507897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MaterialEmpress,2020/03/15,"How do you handle days alone with your toddler. I feel like a bad mom. I'm a single parent and work Monday through Friday but on the weekends I hate my life and can barely tolerate my toddler. My kid gets up around 530/6 by 4pm I am locking myself in the bathroom so I don't freak out.

I am worried daycare will close due to coronavirus and I don't think I can last a week alone with my kid. 

What do you do and how do you cope with being home all day with your kid?",1.1091309130913096,2.6952394950495058,2.806468646864688,94.92959295929596,79.79207920792079,5.280968096809682,21.123212321232124,5.82211442006289,-0.05092167216721721,363,10,84,2,9,120,66,101,0.142,0.805,0.053,-0.8327,1,2,0,0,1,1,7.0,0,5,0,1,4,4,1,0,5,0,12,1,0,2,1,17,17,8,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,11,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,17,1,12,15,2,13,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,8,57,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5011230848979165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153647157445372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019974336108315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120434751630579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232464824118384,0.1728314085093772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639592992402746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23885104532655704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24267069717064024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720132423469255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087892065919982,0.11819243075317255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283339865880306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26862930047139344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501589721830833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19405779969455095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612442415403606,0.2456867800769123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leroy_twiggles,2020/03/15,"Schools are closed. Events cancelled. You're mostly isolated for weeks. How are you keeping your kids busy? Due to COVID-19, schools have been closed for weeks, clubs and activities and social groups have cancelled their events, and authorities are recommending you avoid crowded public places.  For safety reasons, you're keeping your family isolated from any places where they're likely to get infected.

You've still got things to do - maybe you're working from home, and you've got chores and projects to do - but your kids have nothing but free time.

This is a situation those of us in many areas are already in, and others likely to encounter in the next few weeks.

What are your best ideas for keeping your kids busy given this scenario?",7.384342663273963,9.052213015267178,5.579796437659034,80.9832485156913,63.88549618320611,8.264970313825277,32.1128074639525,8.515128840125781,2.471436980491942,599,23,102,8,9,172,78,131,0.102,0.8420000000000001,0.055999999999999994,-0.2989,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,7,1,2,3,5,0,1,2,0,12,1,0,2,0,18,19,9,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,6,8,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,9,5,15,15,3,18,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,1,11,58,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038627737582138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499855048084626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620352123671753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555631973936572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066859224557242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469785235071717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487764148555744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430089116639086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4117183672847952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086588640427845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565392383150167,0.15511740811739805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420811570991506,0.0,0.0,0.1481527362340266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226341342713485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875081408944516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125258241415073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355414497361918,0.0,0.1573932385174151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330551429398028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257772623354587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090032958528907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857264106881259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715555443527821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124063833788634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigcrunk4life,2020/03/15,"13 Year Old Son Obsessed With Money Hey guys, so recently me and my wife have been becoming pretty concerned about my son's obsession with money. Ever since he was little he loved counting up the money in his piggy bank and trying to sell things t his siblings to make money, he never wanted to do anything with it, just have it. He's always also been in love with technology, I first gave him my old computer when he was 4 and ever since then he's been able to do anything with technology. Our house is basically a mini data center now, he's got piles of electronics in his room. As he's gotten older he's noticed how easy it his for him to make money using his skills, it's gotten to the point where he keeps a set of tools at school and fixes his schoolmates phones during break. A few months back we finally agreed to let him have his own debit card. Since November he has been spending more time at his computer than ever before. Nearly every weekend he has a new method to earn money online or through technology, reselling computers, web design, hosting servers, half the stuff he tells me I don't understand at all. Yesterday I asked him to show me the money he's made since November, I was then shocked to see it was legitimately over $10,000. Anyway, you may be thinking that this is good, and yes, for the most part it is. He's learning new skills constantly, he's learning how to save money, he even now pays the electric, internet, and cellular bills for the whole family under the condition that he can use as much as he wants. There are three main downsides to this though. First of all we've noticed his physical health has been getting worse. He was always very tall (currently 6,1), and always a decent weight for his height. Recently though I have noticed he's been very rapidly gaining weight, he's outgrowing all his clothes, and hes gained nearly 100 lbs in the last year and a half. I contribute this to the fact that he now does virtually no exercise, and nowadays he is always eating junk. We never have anything more unhealthy than apple sauce in our house, and for the three other kids this is fine they never complained, but this son has always begged that we buy more unhealthy stuff. Now that he has his own money he gladly takes a two hour walk to town every week to buy chips and energy drinks and other stuff. I've regularly seen him eat two large bags of chips and an 8 pack of red bull in one day, this really frightens me. I've tried to stop him but he then just does it in secret. My second issue with this new lifestyle is that he seems to no longer care about his friends. He used to regularly go into town to hangout with people, but nowadays I rarely see him using snapchat, something he used to be glued to. Thirdly, I find my self worrying sometimes about what he's doing online, I know he has the expertise to get into anything he wants, and I have concerns about that. I once saw a bank statement he left on the counter and saw that he is paying for porn, I don't love that, but I can live with it, I'm just scared he's getting into worse stuff. Anyway I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas of how I can better this situation?",9.117827200190543,6.670593110932478,8.742032868881747,73.41800226271287,61.62057877813504,11.594236036679769,35.73800166726212,9.816601858774405,3.241165582946291,2513,79,482,37,27,809,292,622,0.057999999999999996,0.867,0.075,0.8273,1,0,3,0,0,0,63.0,5,1,1,8,28,15,0,3,22,1,45,11,0,11,10,79,83,36,0,4,9,4,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,33,30,5,2,11,5,19,2,7,5,0,11,19,8,51,10,71,60,14,72,0,0,6,4,83,29,0,6,39,300,84,9,0.06602863112758202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052803072457239975,0.2747055527075236,0.0,0.0,0.044901733384995486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04616875412654788,0.0,0.2173437496560671,0.0,0.06172785689427333,0.0,0.0,0.05077194163294644,0.0,0.0,0.07292343547433061,0.05618550185109528,0.0,0.0,0.05839695847255246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732059001215271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135349314796496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04258300466492612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155642001176803,0.0,0.0,0.0646829211426237,0.0,0.1351275474186968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436112881289166,0.17918003119611206,0.11126393903299392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062245917029401264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723311379462743,0.060348972641098474,0.11232783981275883,0.0,0.0,0.05101355661806855,0.0,0.10349170359873754,0.0,0.03752559270020632,0.055381683082630515,0.05280912814297302,0.0,0.0,0.06537872582290406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018534725062874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502490120578533,0.1523763502950345,0.0,0.07453828751043648,0.0,0.0689167361202671,0.0,0.05868928117853677,0.0,0.0,0.03628760886983567,0.053822147092980915,0.0,0.0,0.07174030091728513,0.06751874890458014,0.0,0.0,0.06617803473363296,0.0583044909862551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787802525675541,0.062477887278428526,0.08814924799676893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270342341614998,0.0,0.048538641230442964,0.0,0.15277605258474675,0.1913125901803862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22552210252071775,0.13857188231422507,0.07031833720947545,0.04474270928645442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150257306804013,0.0,0.045775939043870506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062418398755240335,0.0,0.0,0.06717485557813133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229963186005813,0.0,0.13039061497014962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610617854654198,0.06682449980148929,0.10523254050598467,0.06010998591659676,0.06888226257543613,0.0,0.0,0.21847826395913175,0.07421894787859831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508320661090629,0.06530400453290483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520289218904567,0.0,0.0,0.3023479417179591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04964531324340852,0.0,0.05771193393523065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386648857041072,0.04230848070728327,0.12974558967435595,0.0,0.03850182579867892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965821260489848,0.0,0.1290007565525969,0.0687381336285581,0.0,0.2851376864244014,0.0,0.10896107151582954,0.11683619214567215,0.0,0.05296418510491365,0.16081016899320438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371860863558707,0.0,0.0,0.07160523386503329,0.0,0.06705528001608678,0.1345776322055547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504054722491021
parenting,beepboptatertot,2020/03/15,"What's your experience with Sensory Processing Disorder? I didn't even know about it until *today* when my sister forwarded me a website with a checklist ([spdstar.org](https://spdstar.org)). my 16 month old fits this to a T (trouble eating, will **not** be touched by anyone else but myself or my partner, trouble falling asleep and will bang head on crib to get to sleep, can't calm self, extremely active, and overreacts to texture changes - like will not touch grass, certain types of plastic make him physically recoil and can spark a tantrum). 

I have a phone call out to EI for my county (in USA), just waiting for a call back, but would they even evaluate a toddler this young for SPD or even autism at this point? I really don't think my son has autism, but maybe I'm in denial about it? 

I'm afraid I'm going to be laughed at for reaching out so early.",4.096149068322982,6.314459080745344,4.139720496894412,85.86560559006216,73.09937888198758,7.084472049689442,27.64906832298137,7.957251820313856,1.7850670807453417,676,26,126,10,14,208,112,161,0.10400000000000001,0.8,0.096,0.1704,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,1,1,0,9,8,1,1,7,0,12,4,3,1,1,21,21,11,0,1,8,2,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,6,7,1,1,2,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,1,2,13,4,24,14,0,20,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,2,10,79,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725641267755298,0.20113091886982196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509413607764035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008852488774361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20765768990307426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497498475037048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200862279733268,0.16398213338013795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38895974609244827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19201751202771009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255781748637396,0.0,0.11156091029685343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145880110518766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788047267785812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590148787813536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310307131864243,0.0,0.19720813748967644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566835183401078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598216070866213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556544702805747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575378817411514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047820530808107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964401747078361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578009516570354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860679404349728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944475863148784,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CADUBER1,2020/03/15,"Would it be a good idea to hire a PhD to my kid to learn research? That person asked for USD15000 for 3 months tutoring and he will publish a paper with my kid who is at high school.

If my kid has a publication, it would help him apply for college and scholarship.

What do you think? Do you think that it is worth?",2.7506153846153865,3.995307446153853,3.8215384615384624,90.81846153846158,74.53846153846153,7.046153846153848,23.76923076923077,7.554174236665415,0.8215230769230768,244,7,55,3,5,79,45,65,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.7929,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,12,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,7,3,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,8,8,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,1,37,13,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884781491764244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588200245039565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20683288012943016,0.3260288917856889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483462460169385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24630348123689474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694378226442961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31229673266305136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954477872059685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384089641977637,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Probably_unique,2020/03/15,"I'm so annoyed with everyone spoiling my 4 year old daughter. I dont know what to do about it. 

At her preschool she is spoiled by every teacher, even the ones whose class she isnt in. She walks in the school and no matter how many kids are watching their tv they let her choose something else. She gets ""better"" snacks than other kids. For example, she will get crackers and cheese and all the other kids get carrots. 
I've seen the teachers spoil her, and I've asked that she not be given special treatment, but the spoiling continues.


All of our friends spoil her to death. Here is the example from today. We go to pur friends 3 year old daughters party. It's time for the pinata and the dad comes over and gives my 4 year old daughter the stick to hit it first, and he let's her go 3 times longer than other kids. When the candy falls out, all the kids rush over for it. She doesn't, she waits and then cries that there is no more candy. But guess what, here comes the mom of the birthday girl to give her a huge bag full of candy. I told them no she doesnt need that because she didnt do anything for it, but then I looked like an asshole. Next up, my daughter was asked to ""help"" blow out candles on the cake. My wife told me to let it go, she could probably see the anger on my face. If that wasnt bad, she got the first piece of cake BEFORE THE BIRTHDAY GIRL. 


Another example, we go to walmart, my daughter likes to hold the reciept so she can hand it to the checker at the door for her smiley face. This time she didnt ask, and she was being a real butthead. So I said ""we will skip the smiley face this time since she cant remember her manners"" guess who whips out a stack of stickers for my daughter and calls over the nearby manager to give her a stuffed toy. 


No matter where we are, what we are doing, my daughter has been spoiled by everyone we encounter since birth. It is not me overreacting. Literally people treat her like she is more important than any other kid on the planet earth. Which she is, to me, but I'm not trying to spoil her

I just dont get it.",3.8205570917371503,4.571668275943393,4.2219746258946005,90.83415094339622,71.42924528301887,7.074690956408587,26.41314248536109,6.953978226594392,0.9467727065712426,1615,50,356,13,29,507,202,424,0.061,0.8290000000000001,0.109,0.9699,0,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,7,0,3,3,12,11,2,0,28,0,34,5,4,1,3,47,66,22,1,3,9,10,1,3,2,2,0,1,1,8,25,22,1,2,3,2,0,9,16,3,0,3,12,6,55,8,46,45,7,45,0,0,4,0,73,17,0,3,22,233,80,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648732129030318,0.1000320439463421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850358038345195,0.0,0.2675498761716997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965248767342797,0.05815310926354115,0.0,0.08117579765568238,0.0,0.0,0.08437087021556604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741097539609343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643520903307739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616672037288222,0.0,0.10478909528145756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360908361991685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969192982191875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300880091876555,0.0,0.08037606414242987,0.1823117915895588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228923290399805,0.0,0.0,0.14740692930713062,0.0,0.1993639239920563,0.2745404073407077,0.21686519259111092,0.0,0.07629767394207962,0.0,0.21018104169373145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394258008200356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242768148325976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926496045315387,0.0,0.1398184268785891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010943093078449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967175574175285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172778173955784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707356466667969,0.0,0.0,0.10145576298025427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003092268175749,0.0,0.0646434577594405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613624943979468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285407174039413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858264026474346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080661738162834,0.0,0.0907443669560625,0.0,0.0,0.09654682961992864,0.07601903634808138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782672364761938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344125044616151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225069683414754,0.0,0.09042517587497637,0.1823117915895588,0.0,0.06476828260673008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842975685885924
parenting,theboyfriend778,2020/03/15,"I think were pregnant and I'm freaking out Hello reddit for the last couple weeks my girlfriend has been getting cravings, gaining some weight, and her general behavior is shifting, she says she feels pregnant (she says its intuition and her body feels like its changing) we went to the doctor a few days ago got a test done and it came up negative doctor said to come back in a week (good chance it might be positive dr's words not mine) we'll know for sure in a few days, were 23, financially struggling at the moment and cant really afford a baby. She's a really sweet kind hearted gentle soul and I think if we abort that would mentally destroy her. Recently she feels as though shes lost herself and her self worth, I'm not sure if a baby would make this worse. Aborting would be hard on me as well that's my possible future baby..... but I dont want her to feel further lost and become more depressed. But I also dont want her to hate herself forever for making the decision to abort, I dont know how to approach this I'm not ready.",4.612129120879119,5.444463317307693,5.408131868131868,82.75115384615384,69.67307692307692,8.442857142857143,28.79945054945055,8.634040054169528,2.0799796703296702,822,29,162,13,14,268,125,208,0.15,0.755,0.095,-0.9273,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,3,5,14,2,1,11,0,18,6,2,3,2,43,42,17,0,7,7,0,6,1,1,5,3,3,0,1,8,13,1,0,9,0,1,4,8,7,1,0,10,10,26,7,17,25,4,21,1,3,0,0,23,7,0,4,11,103,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004111359580516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025187578712518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678023373428842,0.0,0.0,0.12464192960986158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535892642421798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907859092313834,0.0,0.0,0.11938797142027822,0.09721649952074374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248743642068358,0.0,0.1455671372446636,0.0,0.09720375576695202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102828786209614,0.0,0.11549211634159146,0.3968034539777167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22825599990033274,0.08062521848766893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05896323795523481,0.0,0.0,0.09465927927779456,0.09026222626430674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109789915707132,0.11142313704176596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373634571863666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752342473365734,0.12404675015774175,0.09199369483595388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05513633566520516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24639396836332644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506661376073404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373353059457945,0.11972367272657936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722955523725735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445984463713397,0.0,0.11143288674747626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735305756001584,0.17949717768223433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177346907403682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798286730254424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273318312236936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462869556039093,0.1108816428504221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313222141900927,0.0,0.1810545043236232,0.13742968658721788,0.10147219183202252,0.1046197709736135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501114594588124,0.2405115871120534,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Helloimluanne,2020/03/15,"Parents of young children with grandparents living nearby, how often do your kids see their grandparents? We've got two small children under 3 and live close to one set of grandparents. Admittedly we haven't been going to their home to visit often after having a baby, buying and moving into a new home, and having a few health issues in the past few months. But they come to our house weekly and we have an open invite policy where they can visit whenever as long as we are free and have enough notice.

We just got in a disagreement with them after they said that we are keeping the children from them and pushing them out of our lives. They also don't like that we have ""parameters"" to visits (by this they mean we tell them what time the kids can visit as they have nap schedules). I'm kind of baffled by this and curious to hear how often other people visit with their parents/in laws. 

Thanks in advance ☺",7.805079365079365,7.036947171428577,7.636761904761907,74.94346031746035,63.0,9.834920634920637,29.73015873015873,8.841846274778883,2.2948539682539693,725,18,129,9,9,232,103,175,0.027000000000000003,0.915,0.057999999999999996,0.6694,5,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,9,1,13,1,9,4,0,0,8,0,14,1,0,2,0,33,26,14,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,5,6,22,0,1,2,1,2,10,2,0,0,2,4,3,23,5,27,22,3,31,0,0,1,0,38,10,0,3,11,99,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068502969182585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076982905452426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885410902515796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287401221209468,0.0,0.2614000344374885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370531225824346,0.18418355996627453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32784243943984964,0.0,0.0,0.1885620186094708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056556156716482,0.0,0.14525310926973084,0.0,0.17017432731291812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983760559726455,0.0,0.4329023169177803,0.14461947118767746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800972024107953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043840317394367,0.17368709196147405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782977747737625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860520691477424,0.0,0.0,0.11073602386164368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18145595285786525,0.0,0.1560006308886584,0.11329321713170852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155447600311708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022270334465408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283422249729694,0.15045300939094175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529014153039048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596352912417752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310837756390813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kisha127,2020/03/16,"A mom “first” happened today I made the mistake of not worrying incessantly about my daughter and husband today. They were home since work and school were closed. When I came home from work my first thought was “he’s already bathing her? He must be ready for her bedtime to be here. Haha! Been there!” Then I hear before I turn the corner into the bathroom “don’t freak out... she’s okay.” 

SO. MUCH. BLOOD. ON HER TINY LITTLE FACE! 

Oh my heart. And stomach. And imagination. My little tiny two year old baby fell outside running and has a cut right under her eyebrow, on her nose and her lip is swollen. My husband was somewhat of a medic in the marines so I trust him when he says she’s okay. But I can’t help myself getting carried away with what could be wrong. Poor girl, she’s so little. I don’t ant her to ever get hurt again.",0.15489510489510394,2.5218300303030325,1.2595454545454563,97.33547202797205,97.1818181818182,3.2657342657342654,19.679487179487182,5.069623422648166,-0.38840792540792535,645,22,134,3,26,201,110,165,0.099,0.789,0.11199999999999999,0.2854,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,1,4,10,9,1,0,7,3,15,8,6,1,2,21,23,13,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,1,1,11,0,0,2,1,1,3,4,5,0,3,8,3,25,4,15,10,2,27,0,1,0,0,23,13,0,1,11,86,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16129514404569306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732549390816598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437444029705738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671721959869675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669972441566236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221332525418675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24865333130804906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272887472637828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925197022235455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647369764105822,0.17320454489908055,0.09797036602685304,0.0,0.29322797443093995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647113437715707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43948291420988894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383035125643486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147244428682901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711850172194342,0.0,0.0,0.10744704838296874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337408883004816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482289786619308,0.0,0.11623514462003252,0.0,0.1479253452780013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209080229852039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603755511849508,0.0,0.0,0.2770919649208003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898400205481694,0.14278057831224505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128176526652843,0.1484362094525043,0.0,0.0,0.1598069285247316,0.0,0.09412455273323768
parenting,Throwawy-m,2020/03/16,"Am I being too strict with my rule? 

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years. She recently moved in with me, I have a 16 year old son and they get along good. They’re not really close though.

So I grounded my son for a week from his computer. The reason: I came home from work late at night, my girlfriend was staying over with his family that weekend so my son was completely alone that day. He was asleep when I got home, I checked on him and I saw pile of his clothes on floor. I picked them  up to put it in laundry basket and there was a skirt there. Next morning I asked him about it, He acted like he didn’t know what I was talking about. I asked him if he had someone over, he denied it at first, but then quickly said that actually his friend came over and they did homework together. She changed and accidentally left the skirt here. 

I have rules that he knows. He can’t bring home strangers(to me) without asking me about it first. So I grounded him for a week. He’s fine with it, he didn’t have any reaction. 

When my girlfriend got home I told her about it and she got upset. She told me that I’m being too uptight and it’s his house too. She said that I should shorten the grounding. I don’t think my grounding is unreasonably long so I told her that I wouldn’t be doing it. She called me dick for not taking her advice in consideration and she’s still giving me cold shoulder.",1.6853722334004004,3.807766591549296,2.7002213279678067,93.76887323943666,80.26760563380282,5.74728370221328,21.410462776659962,6.868970318607317,0.3250054325955727,1088,32,241,12,28,345,145,284,0.066,0.884,0.049,-0.6855,0,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,3,3,19,6,0,2,7,0,23,3,3,2,0,31,45,18,0,3,5,3,0,1,4,2,0,2,5,0,16,17,0,1,5,1,1,6,8,2,0,2,21,4,53,4,30,19,0,44,0,0,1,1,49,18,1,1,20,159,69,3,0.0,0.0,0.10605429032908482,0.0,0.0,0.10619912345397782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255788642496703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739049334991598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047984664445965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097263934649564,0.2485979206798104,0.0,0.0,0.11496717324306292,0.0,0.11394707244420425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700884774530201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245217749632274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488331976600933,0.0,0.0,0.08396454268453311,0.0,0.056779897608847614,0.1042540757034044,0.0,0.0911541559030564,0.2607597619956841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360525642336308,0.0,0.0,0.12540010358667286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194534428047224,0.0,0.12259379432210984,0.0,0.11807923144172852,0.0,0.0,0.05309470107415396,0.0,0.0,0.0961768271326394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550777555445026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558054674076106,0.10198717109169017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403953673098527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925165359915028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962206676638417,0.11173933644310786,0.10730665613349824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20675579658234355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208272451778347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583654932540392,0.08679058703423413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171251524612902,0.08735145686530751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696366313147082,0.10677582415890416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115401618926755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435026592197678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476195021932504,0.0,0.07911905688651756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997045355690738
parenting,Tacoies,2020/03/16,"Cell phones and babies Does anyone have a positive experience with the toy baby phones? does your child know it’s fake compared to the real thing? Asking because It feels like tv remotes and phones are my 9 months favorite. He has reached the development stage of not wanting to be changed- like at all, you can take the diaper off but don’t expect to get a clean one on without a fight. Anyway I’ve tried every parenting trick in the book and nothing holds his attention long enough to make things easier. Changing his diaper is like entering a war zone and the only thing that seems to keep the peace and poop where it needs to be is by giving my son my phone to chew on/ look at or having my husband keep his upper body occupied while I do the dirty work. I feel guilty relying on technology this way and have thought about getting the fake baby iPhones but I just don’t know if it would make things worse",5.9242798774259455,6.418698516853932,5.8355158324821295,82.04640960163434,66.64044943820225,9.16935648621042,29.10316649642493,9.095868883498916,2.1839707865168547,728,23,143,12,11,228,123,178,0.121,0.7290000000000001,0.15,0.4471,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,4,8,3,0,13,0,14,3,2,2,1,32,32,11,1,5,7,3,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,10,7,1,3,7,3,0,1,4,5,0,1,1,3,12,3,19,28,2,15,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,3,6,86,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103347189493725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817571308093266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009924566595408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417564687853164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127116352466338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25868654058795765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271985451754064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453027603412264,0.0,0.0,0.14457954870393278,0.0,0.0,0.1494671241469072,0.10559038576273902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444177785305813,0.1417859619171993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26274792889509874,0.0,0.0,0.16245716225591786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166270204894996,0.0,0.0,0.13080087140132948,0.1241171691247419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19731910052155893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797482496121538,0.0,0.0,0.10959394066943774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182082109554908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015503650835902,0.11241072787912834,0.0,0.0,0.16411757393280862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823200176511602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345541637957161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112934910867843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927745846712139,0.0,0.0,0.11733895337295645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034843329700174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717795052694073,0.11731902288509514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14247667329982094,0.0,0.1076022353174072,0.0,0.1506237315722454,0.10499490415832458,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,masopa,2020/03/16,"Video chat games to play with friends My two oldest (6 and 9) are already (day 1) bemoaning the loss of school and being able to play with friends.

I thought I could try to set up some things they could do with friends over skype/facetime/etc. 

I'm thinking, Battleship, maybe card games, etc. Any ideas?",3.534827586206898,5.573479379310349,2.56503448275862,97.33341379310345,74.17241379310343,6.019310344827588,27.11724137931035,6.742157984588678,0.8690027586206899,236,9,51,2,5,67,45,58,0.054000000000000006,0.7240000000000001,0.222,0.8934,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,8,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,5,9,4,2,5,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,25,5,1,0.21224416914630834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23421671843855615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433331318217224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33891939719620023,0.0,0.0,0.13687993057734602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734167056209473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4919379557640369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395978325171223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21322779546275114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480243035146088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100559501230722,0.13599749354502166,0.0,0.16849816239841545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409985877717685,0.0,0.20733171297196454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ebwhy307,2020/03/16,8yr old in trouble I feel devastated learning that I failed as a parent already. I have a 8yr old son and I just found out he searched for naked girls because older kids at the bus dared him to. He didn’t tell me I found out on his tablet when I was trying to download apps for him to use while he is at home. He has limited use for the said tablet and I try to put parental controls for some reason he figured out how to sign on as me. Anyway he did it and I don’t know what to say and I feel horrible knowing his innocence is gone. Any advice? Obviously electronics are completely forbidden without supervision now.,2.6396581818181843,4.550453664000003,4.040218181818183,86.33610909090912,76.36,7.4254545454545475,27.363636363636363,8.296473431620573,1.8512400000000002,488,20,101,9,11,161,82,125,0.147,0.833,0.021,-0.9422,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,5,1,26,19,9,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,3,7,0,2,9,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,7,4,15,0,21,12,1,16,0,1,0,0,18,8,0,1,6,63,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043857409935184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247383580713012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186097500132654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632317166952544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828732283143744,0.0,0.1956238411827642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763812624862735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824791497884191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495478037667905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171038141118268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660432478014349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873395578013748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753375682569067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933004110362746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591080043867512,0.1387036433922423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152448414366275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23683580525772785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012811057085876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681320601764368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dmr302,2020/03/16,"Road trip with 18month old Should I take my 18month old son tomorrow on a road trip from SC, USA to see my family in PA, USA... my PA family is taking precautions is there a difference being stuck at home there versus here? How much of a risk do we think that PA may close in or out road travel for passenger vehicles??",4.821249999999999,5.1344136250000005,6.1374999999999975,79.5575,69.0,10.775,26.9375,10.686352973137794,2.72941875,248,7,51,7,4,84,48,64,0.07400000000000001,0.9259999999999999,0.0,-0.5632,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,11,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,10,7,1,15,0,0,1,0,5,9,0,2,3,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801914679197096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5056332800603521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690068353355541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714347178328967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5628204926725029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137050796439873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032766127139141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17183918958322347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Feldenkrais112,2020/03/16,"My daughter victim blames whenever a woman is assaulted. Something we are struggling hard with is my daughter, 15, victim blaming whenever a woman is assaulted. This has been an ongoing issue for a while now but it needs to stop. Whenever she hears a story where the woman is the victim she immediately jumps to asking what they were wearing or why they were out walking alone or whether or not they fought back hard enough. 

I don't know where this is coming from. We don't talk like this is the house. She is a modest dresser and takes martial arts and self defense classes but we never insisted on any of that or made it seem like not doing that would be making her a target. It's like she completely lacks empathy but I know she doesn't. What can I do?",3.9835714285714303,5.863297646258509,4.840561224489797,82.17676020408162,72.5374149659864,7.621088435374148,27.215986394557824,8.344100000000001,1.961431292517008,602,22,111,10,12,195,91,147,0.209,0.763,0.027000000000000003,-0.9678,0,1,1,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,3,0,4,11,7,1,10,0,20,1,1,2,1,29,31,11,0,3,10,2,2,3,0,1,0,1,1,4,10,8,0,2,3,1,0,3,6,8,0,0,5,3,17,3,8,24,2,12,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,5,8,85,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20516363916922226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470939790038286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18518934145841312,0.0,0.0,0.15232057143462288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706387747838307,0.20769576257915945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20468205775904008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549031641835841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326415553006027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22857164807540745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206756651205876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177324380859488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903333326244616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187439502729254,0.13222799241626054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468827570914576,0.15278081346235714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803355772748651,0.2066532273485417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250095048385198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561383734087748,0.0,0.2070888380186291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894058094047313,0.1592188992387175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17874727851947106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071892030823516,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stxph170691,2020/03/16,Safety advice We have a 6 month old daughter. We’re moving from a 2 bedrooms appartement to a house in June so of course I’m a already looking at baby proofing the house. The only thing is that at the house there’s a fireplace. Im really not sure how to baby proof it. The first source of heating will be electricity so we won’t use it that often but still what should we do ?,0.6661040787623058,2.933755835443037,2.770042194092828,90.83694796061887,85.58227848101266,5.030098452883263,20.17018284106892,6.42735559955562,0.23872039381153345,297,9,62,3,9,100,59,79,0.024,0.9490000000000001,0.027999999999999997,0.0721,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,9,0,7,0,0,2,3,12,10,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,8,6,0,9,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,1,5,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023515243687629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285126725712491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613809026033034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7168110609056135,0.0,0.0,0.22367678955389012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389104530843594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528547804669536,0.22008820505959134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21729062675194852,0.0,0.0,0.15749004841657452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265769887438686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653705512442179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516595963115813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757158574576495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884651794875273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stellaflora,2020/03/16,"Partner moving in, how to best transition preteens? My partner and I have been together for 2 years and have decided we are ready for him to move in to my house. I have custody of my 13 and 11 year olds during the majority of the week. Would love to hear any tips, what you wish you would or wouldn’t have done in a similar situation. I would love to make this harmonious for all of us though I don’t expect it to be easy all the time with preteens. 

Background: divorced. Live 5 min from ex. Decent relationship with him. He is engaged and moving his Fiancée in (have met her, seems nice. She has an 8 yo boy). Kids know my partner and like him. Partner has no children of his own and we would like to have one sooner rather than later, I’m 38.",2.406698930208865,4.158926052980134,3.7095364238410617,89.15531839021907,76.5496688741722,6.765359144167093,24.860417727967395,7.61054688173877,1.1248406520631686,578,20,124,8,13,189,98,151,0.013000000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.21,0.9855,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,5,0,19,2,0,2,2,26,28,9,0,8,2,1,0,2,4,5,0,1,0,7,3,10,0,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,3,1,20,7,22,19,5,14,0,0,0,2,27,4,0,2,9,85,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702133699807846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515680444051511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105067955952249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773746212290514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159121604102166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648994426150335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537723025360376,0.0,0.13896622931769834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840766597966488,0.0,0.10504995759408532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017985669516271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514004023466544,0.0,0.10664230994594093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896333870422828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326954829497834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17689764812537398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154621497097857,0.0,0.0917674344220006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930441131492887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623784151806727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097507350595807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471826680852704,0.0,0.0,0.20269046152457432
parenting,mortality1984,2020/03/16,Single parent worries I'm a single father of a 3 year old girl and mom has been gone for 2 years now. Because I'm doing it alone I take the time to really think about and consider what will give her the best chance of becoming happy and successful in the future not just force my feelings into her. Not having a co-parent who sees everything and knows all the details had different opinions giving input I often second guess my decision. Also I'm concerned about the lack of a mother figure in her development especially puberty and teenage years. I have no way to give a woman's insight because I'm not one. I know some things in a girls life need another woman no exception. Was wondering if other single parent have similar concerns,6.245460992907798,7.081082340425532,7.424964539007096,69.73333333333336,66.02127659574468,10.238297872340423,31.97872340425532,10.25414643259724,3.5550340425531903,594,23,96,14,9,202,97,141,0.08199999999999999,0.804,0.115,0.765,4,1,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,11,0,9,1,0,0,1,27,26,7,0,3,6,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,5,6,0,0,8,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,4,2,9,3,13,21,7,13,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,6,7,71,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16606605070066469,0.0,0.12822551306826124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813266398045856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954861021228466,0.1770852432113388,0.0,0.0,0.16826913326698947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675233590991458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441051334008903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107377947236083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.461444235621473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766348915009205,0.0,0.0,0.17068713851751374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623964094601016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325436148145618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18779072028734656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889162955471028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16825205314487288,0.0,0.10865195124707247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560818359892882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027192499498358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777188778913884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055729838875635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065241612218476,0.10274073824441232,0.0,0.0,0.09349676330100573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727208934521902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738841590733573,0.0,0.16283517764920755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097651507405233
parenting,lovely_tissue,2020/03/16,"I can't stand it when my toddler touches me while I put her to sleep. Sorry bout the English. 
As the title implies, my 2 year old daughter strokes my arms/upper arms every night when I go to sleep. And I can't stand it. I don't like it when she is so restless and I don't like the touch. During the day everything is no problem. I also like to stay close to her and cuddle with her or hold hands. But this rooting and restlessness and touching  drives me crazy. Sometimes it even makes me really aggressive. And sometimes when it is especially extreme I get loud and impatient. I am very ashamed of it. I don't know why it stresses and upsets me so much and I don't want to be angry with my child because she needs my closeness. I do not want her to think that I do not love her. I also tell her that I love her but that I don't like the touch. but a 2 year old child doesn't understand that. I don't know what I can do about it. I feel like a terrible mother. Is anybody else feeling this way or has any tips? I try to never get impatient or loud. I'm really desperate and I feel like there's something wrong with me. Why can't I find it nice? Even simple ignoring does not work. I am really helpless.",0.879139556096078,2.9349711264822136,2.7567786561264818,92.62941547582857,82.79446640316206,5.947643660687139,21.983733657646702,7.1686216300943375,0.6470834296138639,937,31,208,13,26,312,121,253,0.263,0.73,0.006999999999999999,-0.9943,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,12,20,1,5,7,0,22,8,4,2,1,41,39,26,0,4,9,2,9,6,0,0,1,2,0,2,16,15,0,2,8,0,0,3,15,11,0,0,0,11,42,9,13,38,1,21,0,1,0,3,16,2,0,3,18,134,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976277248572428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402756693949205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532329697753314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968837737926765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813144425780848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322163290506044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632253437144399,0.0,0.10410776355652487,0.0,0.11105110431145808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874325888737632,0.17654789284844027,0.0,0.0,0.11293500174815102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911388783535507,0.0,0.07022410973591454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581477834007802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622019535698395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230421635214556,0.0,0.0824797427440688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083355179570746,0.09162093288314316,0.09529995850602622,0.0,0.0,0.11595618100344887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25931867746069936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823379261881505,0.0,0.12421566736349425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374742496349573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24730591294958965,0.0,0.0,0.09512538861315492,0.2444153576547323,0.1383194684909556,0.0,0.13170248509310692,0.0,0.0,0.14154182404957708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800013777576403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917464264146715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838916551031282,0.0,0.0,0.12863419047202104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019530098325186,0.14576216723898172,0.0980791297038264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22299407680752756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995585996700632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509753071788436,0.0,0.15914196926972146
parenting,msgordy,2020/03/16,"Feeling lost without my kids My kids (f12 & m8) went to their dads house this weekend based on our normal schedule (75% time with me, 25% dad). On Friday their dad became really sick, he tried to get tested but here in Southern California there aren’t many tests available so he was turned away. Now my daughter is also sick. The can’t come home because they are quarantined and with me having asthma and my dad having cancer it’s extremely important that I don’t get it. 

I just miss them so much. The longest they are ever with their dad is 5 days and now we have to be separated from each other for 2 weeks or possibly more. This morning my daughter and I cried on the phone together for 10 minutes, I wish I could be there to tell them everything is going to be ok. I feel so stuck. I feel so powerless. What can I do to help get through this?",3.0381344537815096,4.728602729411765,4.138655462184875,87.01823529411767,74.6470588235294,7.210084033613445,25.084033613445378,7.957251820313856,1.3559915966386558,664,22,136,10,14,216,111,170,0.151,0.774,0.075,-0.9444,2,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,7,1,12,3,0,0,3,1,18,4,0,0,1,21,32,11,0,3,4,7,3,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,8,10,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,4,3,24,1,19,24,3,16,0,2,0,0,23,5,0,1,8,93,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525886432713875,0.0,0.2067397848277023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926987374374367,0.0,0.0,0.11631444627348665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436371694315444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234421713360707,0.0,0.20959301656470308,0.12305501566224344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259625617227914,0.0,0.0,0.17148542647966125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894339289869442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29906704112273097,0.0,0.10844026704537076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789420702908474,0.0,0.19139542286853714,0.0,0.0,0.22016617098364516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082888638873948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344879884173105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026542522857308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869507819342742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21510672269533712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223613392255245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677411540542564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126135447609152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954572890240268,0.2075437063033736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15305422148830458,0.0,0.0,0.17688041132663385,0.0,0.0,0.21941914287467293,0.18393156612208186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrincessOtterpop,2020/03/16,"Parents: What is more readable for your children? I hope this is okay to post. I'm designing children's activities and puzzles for a company and I'd like to know if children are more comfortable reading text that is center-aligned or left-aligned. My brain is saying left-aligned, but my design lizardbrain is telling me that center is more pleasing to look at in this specific situation, even though I would normally go left.",7.20269230769231,8.30960875641026,6.681179487179487,74.94715384615388,64.0,9.82974358974359,41.24102564102565,9.888512548439397,4.363961025641025,345,20,58,7,5,107,54,78,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.8882,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,8,1,1,0,0,10,13,6,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,4,7,12,3,6,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,4,1,37,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264235716710695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396624403244994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527205282902173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145436479244105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146918318120463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6611209440480128,0.0,0.0,0.0990917100591461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032477077623498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872876560270825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252169329801861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22264467290158527,0.0,0.0,0.1942535384430328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028832863565604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612972831140429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22798761765404854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728095997296114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19927787132850144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408347458735662,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,keeksmarie0987,2020/03/16,Toddler Math Please explain to me how trying to put socks on my almost-3-yo so we can go play outside ends up with her being completely naked streaking through my downstairs..,5.463440860215055,8.45909448387097,4.046451612903226,84.4563440860215,71.90322580645163,5.423655913978496,36.13978494623656,6.42735559955562,2.5033784946236555,143,8,22,1,3,41,29,31,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,15,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127428285809871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4321671786578666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650727630675378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342537184466446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524543567979406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4143588587830618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798459422049557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LethallyBlond3,2020/03/16,"""Potty trained"" 3-year-old has accidents on days at home, but nowhere else My daughter just turned 3 last week. She's been potty trained for almost a year. Her initial potty training was SO easy. She was ready, took to it right away, and had very few accidents. Last summer we had a max of 2-3 accidents a week before getting down to 1-2 per month.

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Last October my husband returned from a 9-month deployment. We traveled between trips and family's houses for about a month. The next month we moved into a new house and she started a new school (morning program). After we settled into the new house/school she went through a major potty training regression. We weren't totally surprised since so much had changed. After a few weeks of lots of accidents at school, errands, home, and everywhere else, she went back to normal. Even better- now she would tell us when she has to go! Yay!

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And here's the catch... it's been months since then. She has no potty accidents at school or out and about. BUT, on weekends or days without school, she has accidents at home. She will pause playing, crouch down, and start peeing in her underwear. Most of her accidents are small and if we put her on the potty right away she'll go more. Sometimes she just completely pees her pants.

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We always make her carry her underwear and pants to the laundry room and get clean underwear out. We try not to make a big deal of it or shame her, but to be honest, it's getting hard. For months now this happens on weekends or days off. Now her school is out for at least the next two weeks and I'll be working from home with her every day. It's day 1 and she's already had two pee accidents. Yesterday we were home all day and she had 4 accidents. We take her potty frequently at home. We make sure to play with her and give her dedicated attention. Still, accidents.

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I'm at my wit's end. She has perfect control when we're out and about or when she's at school. On rare occasions at new places, she'll have a very small accident and tell us she needs to potty. At home, she doesn't even tell us she's starting to have an accident. What should we do??",3.0535641634691544,5.2849962042755365,3.559192399049884,88.77179182654244,76.26840855106889,6.883269383031854,26.23430172361289,7.882392219407189,1.555817053413728,1706,65,337,27,39,533,190,421,0.109,0.797,0.094,-0.4145,0,0,0,0,0,0,80.0,15,0,0,4,18,9,0,1,18,1,29,3,3,4,4,65,49,31,0,5,13,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,9,0,7,36,0,1,1,5,0,10,5,1,0,2,14,1,51,8,58,28,10,90,0,0,0,0,55,34,0,9,46,215,58,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500139006558325,0.0,0.0606132373415578,0.0,0.045703609063114686,0.2380532394868549,0.2669689466917241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321132486101743,0.04223542168872781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04673877514138499,0.0,0.0,0.048578409395060335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05810541295540315,0.0,0.0575898451067573,0.0,0.06160522683799936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253997002499653,0.056627256959564165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176881031285956,0.0,0.04864896020805838,0.0,0.0,0.07255744355138655,0.0,0.04627831074277835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517802248561704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609116772365294,0.05269091993958107,0.06243248459043355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048571706199240255,0.0,0.04920374397489402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856733517976289,0.0,0.0,0.12675661404928246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431834624912284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04669691494840348,0.0,0.0,0.10999246456644887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26305292736445873,0.05837863808273053,0.040377616349328856,0.04072762546865406,0.0,0.2121950999115904,0.1168308345510866,0.0,0.053816733074798055,0.0,0.0,0.05763657736445734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738695526501464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055216739434117784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381460277416973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38912292621401817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087225455001392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432414204975058,0.0,0.11663269944642235,0.0,0.04386472031980942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051767985114382915,0.0,0.04129821850940822,0.0,0.14402568354672238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102584452464961,0.037291782581427166,0.05974473135613687,0.10731126633983848,0.0,0.19821101531793608,0.0,0.0,0.09064094567028323,0.0,0.0,0.17623629275223734,0.0,0.0,0.10183563592552992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05294760415338446,0.0,0.039987462015036834,0.0,0.0,0.039018517872037486,0.0,0.2669689466917241,0.0707422890905072
parenting,mamacleod,2020/03/16,"Sharing an idea! Just thought I'd share something that I do with my son. I have a notebook where occasionally I write letters to my 17month son. I write his milestones, funny things he did, whats currently going on in the world, etc. I plan on giving it to him when he graduates high school, or college if he plans on going. We will see whats going on in his life before i decide when to give it to him. I think it will make a nice sentimental gift.",3.0599068322981395,4.316988282608698,4.542236024844723,85.9058695652174,73.78260869565217,6.9962732919254655,26.186335403726712,7.447530270364453,1.2253118012422357,350,12,74,4,7,117,62,92,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.9485,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,1,0,12,14,4,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,14,3,11,10,1,15,0,0,1,0,17,9,0,2,3,48,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21526900908932614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28214175046898426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4853666827633738,0.4313264217594022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672893231263051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28558583198405946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786886350417997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16886741813327594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560312426020636,0.20159386293916398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947578670786185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806996850908226,0.16210062058481367,0.0,0.2008394124053597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Infinitelyregressing,2020/03/16,"Is there a way to limit YouTube to only subscribed channels? There is a lot of good content on YouTube, but there seems to be absolutely no reliable way of filtering out the garbage so my kids (4 and 7) are just not allowed to use it at all unless it's with me right there with them. 

If not, are there any petitions going around to convince them to give this feature?",9.383105022831053,6.261046671232879,8.771232876712329,75.5174885844749,61.73972602739726,11.925114155251142,42.141552511415526,9.725611199111238,3.920656621004567,289,13,59,4,3,92,54,73,0.043,0.893,0.064,0.1457,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,1,8,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,17,9,5,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,15,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,3,0,45,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22266838452865387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914883457473046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31410740147231114,0.1860899897425202,0.2746386158136165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783752234357584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490305891661121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27962940418710985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980863420867707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28280043204557337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.519808490536293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ezoodd,2020/03/16,"Self isolating and working from home with two kids The title says it all, I am working from home at the moment and I have two kids age 2 and 6. As we are all showing mild flu symptoms I am keeping them at home.  And it's so hard as I need to work at the same time. They are watching cartoons majority of the day and I feel so guilty but I need to work and don't have any other options. My family live overseas and husband is out of town for 3 weeks. I just feel like an awful mother letting kids watch Netflix for hours..",1.4113636363636353,3.157985590909096,3.0745454545454542,92.6118181818182,79.45454545454545,5.490909090909091,23.72727272727273,6.2581,0.4672000000000005,405,14,90,3,10,134,73,110,0.08900000000000001,0.88,0.03,-0.6476,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,5,1,9,2,0,0,2,21,14,12,0,2,2,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,3,4,3,10,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,11,1,15,13,4,11,0,0,2,0,10,5,0,1,7,59,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451779444163405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860408735478136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875256017590594,0.0,0.17029622909162126,0.12030501440604685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508533488981828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5067568789290169,0.0,0.16584010701823007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496816833395754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722004391615491,0.0,0.08227174798309092,0.0,0.14870031088864916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497329755130945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391846218815934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17567795698783464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750321094094561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981954111801414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290047178143489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508034557614587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.490388907151871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheCrankyBear,2020/03/16,"I believe giving my daughters cell phones and access to the internet has been the absolute worse mistake as a parent. My daughters are  17 and 19, and I rue  the day I gave in an bought them cell phones. Additionally, if I could do back, I'd limit the house to one computer. 

It's not that they lay around and  veg while surfing, while I conceded, that is an issue. It's that it's sucked the life out of them and affected their mental health.  I've only recently started reading about the effects of internet on children and teens.  And how the internet, specifically social  media, is especially harmful to girls. I was watching one video that indicated that the number of inpatient mental health admissions for girls jumped soon after the release of the iPhone. Looking back, I can peg my older daughter's, often severe, depression to when I gave her her first phone.

And it's  not just children, the mental health of adults can be affected by social media  as well.

To parents of younger children, I implore you, ***please*** please fight the urge to give your children cell phones and access to the internet, and limit television screen time to as little as possible.

Yes, there's plenty of good on the internet, but overseeing and managing your children's usage is an incredibly time consuming activity.  Unless you have nothing better to do than to hover over your children and monitor  what they're consuming, you won't be able  to manager it all.

Please heed my advice. Social media is a toxic cesspool that you'd be throwing your children into once you give them unfettered and monitored access to the internet.

Again, this  has been my greatest failure  as a parent.",5.862303056392598,7.8013547194719495,6.3326445688047075,73.12486439948343,67.8118811881188,9.361974458315398,32.645860238197734,9.761364909221204,3.5341799110345824,1332,59,213,31,23,431,161,303,0.073,0.866,0.061,-0.33799999999999997,3,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,0,9,5,5,12,8,2,0,21,1,21,4,0,4,1,33,30,25,0,3,6,6,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,10,13,17,0,2,1,2,1,2,3,5,1,3,6,3,30,3,37,18,2,25,0,1,3,0,48,8,1,2,15,155,43,4,0.10745813488637523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500684573724932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566052249646476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525734546561768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106851994308165,0.0,0.09503798781429314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579657675875366,0.0,0.0,0.06930160721201592,0.0,0.09255353411768748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140383463933714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092509040230741,0.0,0.09013078522601396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426689172458695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399226005351388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215837432145154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759008585848429,0.0,0.10770128142110368,0.0,0.0,0.09023776928171602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32487757662721856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310897858540162,0.0,0.0,0.1144394065998585,0.14563282647479478,0.08172675383009903,0.0,0.0,0.3579586259352953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3538702890988942,0.0,0.12114290120293099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748721458378767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610194435430864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139710567956895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286201079839095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605942095656132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531940521535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966177684660478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095090198545138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bobamilktea1,2020/03/16,"Is it wrong to ask ""why""? Whenever my mom tells me something like 

Mom: ""Dad went to temple today""
Me (17F): ""Oh, why?""

She ALWAYS gets mad at me asking why. I was literally trying to understand why he went to temple today to see if theres anything I'm missing out on/should know. 

Is it wrong to just ask why? Please tell me!! Im open to discussion..",-0.4994366197183098,1.7294518028169037,2.1367464788732384,92.38906338028171,94.35211267605636,5.093521126760563,16.959154929577466,6.742157984588678,0.05578197183098599,262,7,57,4,10,90,48,71,0.16399999999999998,0.774,0.062,-0.8370000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,14,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,1,7,1,9,11,0,7,0,1,1,0,11,3,0,1,3,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128665567966692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006083965954004,0.0,0.3751009046775963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987630616721432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446768263854912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350282136516179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534111092754406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132813410927091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681198115166133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657754626873783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296352918261227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337982635282129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535494746748992,0.0,0.0,0.09080415864071499,0.0,0.0,0.13923338887380945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479661362303809,0.6034208498294209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924585906952313,0.0,0.0
parenting,MomofTwo1205,2020/03/16,"Fiancé thinks our toddlers “suck”, because they aren’t “good at anything”. We have two toddler girls. They are almost 2 and almost 3. 

Lately, my fiancé has been making comments about them to me about how they don’t have any “skills”. He says that we’re lazy parents, and that their lack of “skills” looks poorly on us. But they’re freaking toddlers?! 

He doesn’t want them to have any toys besides golf clubs and basketballs/soccer balls. He never wants them to watch TV or the phone, but we’ve failed at that rule for the past week. 

In his mind, he thought that our oldest [3F] would have mastered the game of golf by age 3. It makes him sad that she prefers her toys, but she’s barely 3!

They’re normal kids. Our oldest knows her number, alphabet and can count on her fingers. She knows all shapes and colors. Her speech has been drastically improving. 

Is all of this crazy or is it just me? Is he putting unrealistic expectations on them? My parents were never like this towards me.",3.3903692115143897,5.6061189255319155,3.3474092615769706,90.76029411764708,75.17021276595744,5.700125156445558,22.760951188986233,6.522977012572876,0.4481310387984983,770,22,153,6,17,233,116,188,0.11800000000000001,0.84,0.042,-0.9434,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,8,4,4,6,1,0,3,0,18,1,1,3,4,33,28,11,0,7,6,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,9,6,0,0,5,8,1,1,5,4,0,1,4,6,27,2,17,23,3,17,0,2,3,0,35,8,1,4,9,92,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617676408849101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456813678909731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865046873641186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011583049182007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151138530869873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854889138005893,0.0,0.20376860960400547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825106911035081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169122732876675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411558106311733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239385042742792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786397966583207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698782286581968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011563652578453,0.0,0.17244032251244046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159204284308805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365134753364134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574614864453793,0.0,0.14340715290346184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645801141500633,0.0,0.2172864216809503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309107200386526,0.0,0.14489767392982345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283207310266279,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justnognomes,2020/03/16,"I feel like there should be parenting aptitude tests for before you decide to have a child. When I met my husband, he had excellent problem solving skills. He never froze up and if we were in a bind, he could figure stuff out on his own. 

However, these skills did not translate across when we had a baby. 

Our son is nearing in on 11 months now, and for things I have to do for him every day alone, my husband needs help. He is just shit at solving problems when it comes to our baby. 

Now, I know you'll probably say I spend more time with my baby, well, he spends almost half a week at home. He has 3 consecutive days off a week to learn how to do things with our baby and believe me, I give him plenty of opportunities to grow and learn.

For example, last night I said I had a lot of things to do today, so I asked if DH would take DS downstairs in the morning so I could catch up on sleep I would miss in the night, and then I'd have the energy to crack on. 

He did take DS downstairs, but I came down 3 hours later and DS was still wearing the same nappy. I asked why it hadn't been changed and he gave me some BS reason like DS kept drifting off to sleep and he didn't want to disturb him. Right. Fine. Whatever. Not the end of the world. It took me 2 minutes to change.

But then I said I needed to do some coursework today. I've got a lot left to do and it's due in a week, and I've got a whole 4 hour segment on safeguarding and abuse to do before I even get started on my essays. DH said he needed a breather and wanted to play some of his new video game. I said fine, 10 minutes. 10 minutes passed and I said it's time for me to do my coursework and he blanked me, so I said fine. I'm going downstairs to do some meal prep and forced him to watch our son. 

It took me over an hour to do some meal prep, and when I came back up he'd put DS in the bouncer, who was asleep. He told me he had *just* fallen to sleep and he was about to get him out. I said ok, and watched him get DS out. 

I want to tell you all at this point I was really fucking thirsty I had brought up some dilute juice and just wanted to have a drink when he said ""oh my god he's shit up his back"" and just stood there. He was about to set our baby down on the sofa and I had to tell him no, and to put him on the mat in the bathroom, wipe him down and then he's next to the bath if he needs to. He choked up and I had to drag him to the bathroom, watch him strip DS down and then he just held DS legs up while I wiped him down because he said he couldn't figure out how to do it. 

So I got annoyed, because I feel like any parent should be able to handle a fucking blow out. 

All he saw was that I was free, I'd done a task I'd set out to do, and therefore I would just go help him when I really needed to just sit down and have a fucking drink. 

He got shit on him, and freaked out while our baby was still covered so I got in the tub with our kid and started washing him down while DH employed soap, baby wipes, antibacterial wipes, toilet paper and so on to get a tiny bit of baby poop off of him. 

So now we're all out, it's 16:20 and my husband says he's tired and wants a nap. Given that our baby was dropping to sleep I have said that I will get baby to nap, DH can nap with him and I'm going to do some coursework but oh my god, I wish there were a test that you could do, and have your partner peer review it before having a baby because I feel like every one should be able to handle basic parenting.",1.9539219664087568,2.7646837040951158,3.414857284393282,94.65651502642008,75.89564068692206,6.19974523494999,21.57598131722966,6.0857270901146805,-0.007007152292885621,2672,61,653,15,56,881,273,757,0.07200000000000001,0.85,0.078,-0.0507,5,1,2,0,1,0,71.0,10,5,0,4,36,25,7,1,32,1,65,20,11,4,4,119,130,62,0,26,15,8,4,4,1,8,2,12,3,3,20,51,4,2,10,9,3,16,7,12,1,2,52,20,88,14,105,62,18,118,0,1,4,3,97,54,6,13,48,411,108,8,0.11028533689718327,0.06533504511570815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521741710931016,0.057111174354059824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037498905467715636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310190257272034,0.0,0.0,0.0848026165663549,0.0,0.1008433766115516,0.0,0.14076704820093414,0.062126904229653813,0.0,0.0,0.060201512119947564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613704506139445,0.0,0.0,0.11666726312340475,0.04750052620291238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208080126929372,0.0,0.0,0.07112491862040034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643009494847116,0.0,0.10803764409297738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04884003703432775,0.0,0.0,0.03642121244740265,0.0,0.09292015290345422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836453700582294,0.11818180007310003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293552527080434,0.14404884167340168,0.05289787223028185,0.09401654772788312,0.0,0.22051314668484107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392193660705311,0.0,0.0553125925123044,0.0,0.16291326233152312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030304968473981418,0.0449486345795196,0.0,0.0,0.05991267061466515,0.0,0.0,0.10775968976084416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376064958901628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04401435186392187,0.0,0.0,0.20443794972207924,0.04252942534523305,0.053257132803366115,0.0586448534750114,0.10349531774439688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037366099244242015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18368822285195024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521276453695012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059453123108419874,0.10552817305052016,0.0,0.11086722459611514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065161083378305,0.05669584716361339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04709153756067568,0.5245330523862584,0.08770332642993896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698094702231232,0.0,0.0,0.2207299672970832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806052909134015,0.0,0.08807401250746791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312516260579817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292084816715789,0.0,0.09639424547113093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990301603715864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430826683593348,0.0633783855674321,0.10453760405256053,0.05269118278977086,0.12253106721657385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626228727412732,0.0,0.13269636742492202,0.0,0.04957988130353805,0.0,0.049757681381441564,0.06156482006463376,0.06341134734220953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751530863629203,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway100020139,2020/03/16,"I'm not sure if I would be a good parent My wife really wants a kid, and I do as well, but I am not sure if I will be a good parent. Most of my life I didn't really have any friends, and struggled a lot socially. I was really depressed during my teenager years and even through college. I don't want my kids to have a life like that, is there a way to help them be more social? I'm afraid that they will end up having to go through what I went through because I won't be a good example of how to be social towards others",4.658811594202895,3.2605548956521737,6.045000000000003,85.86083333333333,69.6086956521739,9.405797101449275,29.60144927536232,8.344100000000001,1.7661884057971018,403,12,97,5,6,138,67,115,0.11199999999999999,0.696,0.191,0.8833,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,0,4,11,0,2,7,0,18,2,0,1,2,16,24,8,0,5,5,3,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,1,0,3,0,15,8,12,12,3,7,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,4,3,71,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661170279309633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556798135720763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502922506854212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885523984667822,0.0,0.0,0.1035477550178014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112321121219145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909828272745607,0.3944838044243432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508231423216187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22146823920772854,0.07659186231282311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328365698937275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348157970248745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30130033565444897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4794340804596888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389423451314386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955152981150959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493874591597048,0.12443991188891013,0.0,0.0,0.14095866276951874,0.1453310778987234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136775862038303,0.0,0.0,0.10095732238628936
parenting,Fow2219,2020/03/16,"Please help. 2 year old wants nothing to do with mother My wife and I just had our second baby and ever since our 2 year old wants absolutely nothing to do with her. If I take him in a room with her be just screams no and try’s getting out. It’s breaking my heart because I see how sad it’s making her. I don’t know what to do, any advice?",0.4435428571428588,2.0563940400000007,2.5912380952380967,95.568,81.93333333333334,4.819047619047621,20.047619047619047,5.288315135182226,-0.3618380952380957,263,7,63,1,7,89,50,75,0.105,0.825,0.07,-0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,2,1,16,13,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,12,0,8,11,0,9,0,1,1,0,9,3,0,1,5,40,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21758728547190545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142096601232866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573553069535696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141474406791954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163341408880445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638610670685333,0.14924877020982527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237177443096645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486317262018149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273093358944669,0.0,0.4673024112957369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444211297958365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743650120055726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841921641294761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16741761893347287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117604756110725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626691331818615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867800603732585
parenting,finallyhomemusic,2020/03/16,"My really good friend's 10 year old kid was crying for a half hour wanting to disappear. Not really sure how this is handled myself. I've never had kids but wanted to try and post something on her behalf to figure out what to do. She was just randomly started crying the other day for about a half hour about how she wanted to disappear and that most of her friend she feels are her friends becauase they feel bad for her. I think her daughter is a very smart girl and this may just be a preteen/teenage phase as it was in my teenaged years, but so young? Is this normal? My friend was thinking about putting her into therapy. Is that wise at that age and with how sensitive she is at the moment? Does anyone have any similar situation or some advice on this matter?",4.398404575556891,5.718992874172188,4.8457555689343765,84.77069235400361,70.58940397350995,7.875015051173992,26.31005418422637,8.296473431620573,1.6284781456953639,608,19,119,9,11,193,99,151,0.095,0.755,0.15,0.9115,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,9,9,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,3,2,32,23,12,0,4,6,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,10,7,0,0,5,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,5,2,16,8,21,16,2,22,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,5,11,87,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056863012005015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104782075728753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773877813827752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128653301137651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385070177961252,0.09937112185181578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483952461743878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581851239803454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761781739618714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923794413444942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034824541840999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883870773404813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096913223654218,0.0,0.0,0.16168473210186785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756941725915293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489649335856315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974196938392618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731963296482088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862101970140553,0.0,0.0,0.10906110683306833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452218918508172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620793090714645,0.0,0.0,0.1974609929388804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046125941544434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713503896569975,0.2726473525709789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984494670380092
parenting,notthrowinawaemyacc,2020/03/16,"How to make my (f22) newborn love me? I gave birth to a baby boy two weeks ago. So far I didn’t have problems since, you know, he’s basically a Snorlax right now, but I’m very worried about the future. Do children naturally love their mother, or is it a myth? I don’t love my mother since she abused me, and now I have ASPD (I’m a sociopath, in other words); I’m not intending to abuse my son, but I’d like advices on what to do for him to love me back, because I doubt he will. What do normal mothers do to form a healthy relationship with their son? I have an example of what not to do, but no examples of what to do. I kept this child because I know how to teach and how to take care of kids, but I know that being a mother is more than that and I feel totally up for it, I just need clear, concrete directions. Thanks in advance",1.4472881355932188,2.8858385875706247,3.4786666666666686,91.13935593220344,78.37853107344633,6.527909604519775,23.664406779661018,7.3011,0.7771125423728815,638,21,148,8,15,217,103,177,0.079,0.7,0.22,0.9859,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,0,1,2,1,9,9,0,1,8,0,15,4,0,5,2,29,33,12,0,3,8,6,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,10,4,0,1,4,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,3,1,22,7,22,28,3,14,0,0,0,4,24,6,0,2,8,100,32,1,0.0,0.3797833549729066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566122860308901,0.14206813994743078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323639699419135,0.0,0.1953960840286386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634041695036784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103644634719699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26423772828993664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829897499063161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5785934375438566,0.0,0.1069803061640251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883688193943955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702886385307005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335507741025614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720681294791112,0.0,0.1368682159318366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651511169940931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050178376072924,0.0,0.0,0.14755347848220332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655879936597458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322380968145179,0.0,0.0,0.12855752866909195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276019476191875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,python521,2020/03/16,"My wife raises her voice everyday to our 1 year old My wife is an extremely hard worker and I love her to bits. She is an amazing mother and sacrifices herself for the good of the baby. However she has tendencies which I feel are harmful to not only the baby but to our relationship. Sometimes the baby refuses to eat or needs to be entertained while eating (remember he's 12 months old) and when he refuses to eat she'll let out a roar and scream at the baby and me. Same applies if he cries too hard or doesnt poop. When she gets upset she brings everyone down with her and it creates a horrible negative energy around the house. I told her what she's doing and the effect it's having on us and the baby but her reasoning is that she's exhausted and doesn't get much sleep which is true. Our sleep hasn't been great but I still feel like she should exercise some restraint. For the record, I help out with the baby alot. I feed him, put him to sleep for his naps, play with him, work in my family business and do the home shopping. She cooks, cleans, changes his Diaper and bathes him so the responsibility is shared. I don't know what to do at this point really.",3.6080769230769216,5.065741858974358,4.809914529914535,83.7323076923077,72.71794871794873,8.78974358974359,24.538461538461537,9.2995712137729,1.8905230769230768,921,27,189,21,18,304,136,234,0.121,0.753,0.126,-0.2208,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,3,6,13,0,1,17,0,20,12,4,2,1,38,29,21,0,3,7,3,4,1,0,2,2,2,3,0,8,17,5,2,6,7,1,2,6,4,0,0,2,6,36,9,24,23,5,20,1,0,0,1,38,9,0,5,10,132,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011469064447672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473066313844794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273612836595986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821227493771408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4141956528159755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892966251346316,0.0,0.0,0.12719828404904798,0.0,0.13644748844664845,0.09639272196926532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409888148953259,0.0,0.0,0.11317135953722735,0.0,0.14875879975350456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24173830143765365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043951790867004,0.0,0.1353439704287786,0.0,0.0,0.15568900911227745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415300152628355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797321031907278,0.0,0.06591909546258236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177795446249652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769838958076923,0.0,0.09918774064600047,0.10004753914056766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283168864545614,0.0,0.0,0.10261896441180766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275507469992876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564009284069828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643845002660072,0.1387286459270494,0.0,0.14486237469339336,0.15284733036491774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4050768840742196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13344742457875952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775382243837983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892966251346316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230199268860224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822932530550914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688932702599032
parenting,482838294,2020/03/16,"Teen wants to meet online friends Throwaway account just because. My daughter (15) has been online friends with E (12) and L (16) for 4 years now. They videochat almost every night but my daughter has never wanted to meet them in person until now. She claims E and L told her they accidentally saw each other in public, but she doesn't believe that and thinks they've been hanging out. She's upset and feeling left out so she wants to meet the girls. I told her I don't think that's a good reason to do so but she says it doesn't matter because they've known each other for a long time and it should have happened already. She wants to go to their city by herself and they would have a sleepover at L's place.
Anyways I don't know if I'm okay with this and I'll admit her friends being nowhere near us is comforting which is stupid and probably made me overlook some things. Could use outside opinions and advice.",3.884120879120879,5.41034851098901,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,72.13186813186812,5.859340659340661,26.736263736263727,5.773587663045528,0.7939296703296708,727,25,145,3,14,224,113,182,0.084,0.816,0.1,0.1974,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,5,0,6,8,1,1,4,1,17,0,0,3,1,41,34,16,0,8,5,2,1,0,3,2,0,1,0,2,9,15,0,0,7,0,1,2,5,2,0,0,6,3,22,6,18,24,3,18,0,0,1,0,31,8,0,4,8,93,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568544887162932,0.0,0.0,0.16073370152207286,0.0,0.17713352312600686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956982662997004,0.0,0.0,0.1808466930130252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815905559887392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524174892681584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116177013512092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720430541628876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122500659960134,0.13463330066688647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194386937016246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821545831616699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744012273682419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205170961493854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518842280477146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379992251019965,0.0,0.0,0.15063349919399915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401564792238331,0.16770517486610353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306351952946675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503729896487265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764885638326848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663977358884068,0.20570448880450606,0.0,0.0,0.09359823682576704,0.0,0.0,0.3067600511124965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308112114082626,0.1386343849845072,0.0,0.0,0.37870625112525336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402604185093396,0.0,0.0,0.10336711459568086
parenting,thisisallme,2020/03/16,"We’re in the process of adopting. Anxiety is through the roof due to everything that’s going on. My anxiety sometimes gets the best of me. It certainly is now. 

 Why did we do this now and not years ago? Why couldn’t this corona shit happen some other time? Why did we spend so much money throughout this process and now think, what happens if we need that $x because of some huge emergency? We’re comfortable now, but holy hell. Stocks dropping, people out of work, hard to find milk. There are local posts about not finding formula, for fuck sake. I can’t exactly be a good mom without formula. 

When they tell us we have to travel immediately to some unknown part of the country, we’ll have to pack up and be prepared to hang out at a hospital for days/weeks on end. I’m immunocompromised. I don’t really want to be around a lot of ill people. 

The first time we did it, there were definitely road blocks. A lot more expensive, staying in a different state way longer than expected, even had a car accident while there. My husband and I got through it. I am legitimately panicking now. I don’t think I’m strong enough for this.",3.1240909090909064,5.2961132272727305,4.200909090909093,84.53636363636366,75.81818181818181,8.036363636363637,27.363636363636363,8.841846274778883,2.1999272727272725,890,36,178,20,20,289,140,220,0.145,0.752,0.10300000000000001,-0.899,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,7,0,1,4,13,8,3,0,11,0,20,4,1,0,2,33,32,9,0,5,5,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,11,12,1,1,4,1,3,4,7,3,0,1,6,1,16,5,30,21,10,35,1,0,0,1,11,12,3,6,14,118,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618546095263944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21779605815017614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672245811024252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677577161430389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149388460044461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872636562279226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608062249790308,0.14708650575963167,0.0,0.0940214098173054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793578682730308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26021224009569416,0.12108358081179195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160108931827175,0.07437245641529375,0.0,0.08090128224311706,0.11939715942560228,0.11385099803857615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25176081573768466,0.0,0.12751842265591715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420432453333754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667196233182852,0.0,0.0,0.10464427158427997,0.10555136944322158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415212468728867,0.0,0.19737634494506084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633278799687842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119361506771603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612112665354507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078865441326613,0.0,0.0,0.15172709143207766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442093835508028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242538452742826,0.0,0.0,0.16601187891681846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123057437301106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396223374362237,0.11299149799360872,0.11418528475169845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853485679104885,0.0,0.0,0.13722116285489472,0.0,0.1036331317546224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166929578055352
parenting,Spektr44,2020/03/16,"What are some good sources of educational videos for kids? Now that many schools are closed, it would be useful to incorporate good educational videos into the ""home curriculum"". 

What are some good sources for anything from ""how it's made,""  ""how does it work,"" science stuff, nature, history, etc, and produced for kids. Mine are 8 and 10, and I figure other parents out there would benefit from some recommendations as well!",9.37390410958904,9.641398958904109,8.176815068493152,68.94412671232878,59.41095890410959,11.135616438356163,37.42808219178082,10.686352973137794,3.9659890410958902,336,14,57,7,4,103,52,73,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.9432,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,5,0,17,9,6,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,8,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,10,5,4,4,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,3,1,40,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579077213155493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975742298051404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517949900642688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5680994651918541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264673015385396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136305265180366,0.0,0.2288969443624053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25069261967448736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284928908251595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584544420212542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19499415468234396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20299576316036191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436439808448133,0.0,0.0,0.3207633033461533,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Content-Oven,2020/03/16,"Love My Toddler, Love Being A Mom, I Want More Children My son turned three in January, and I realised he's growing up so fast. I only have one child at 33 years old. I had three miscarriages in my 20s, two with my first boyfriend when I lived in Denver. Then one with my second boyfriend when I moved to Indiana, whom I had my son with. Me and my son's father separated 6 months ago now and he says he wants no more children. I'm very depressed because I want more children at least one more so my son can have a sibling. I work full time and attend Colorado Technical University online. I know I got a busy schedule in my life , but I'm a great mother and can handle more children. I'm still very able to get pregnant again as well. Hopefully my dream will come true to have more kids",2.4177857142857166,4.247735350000003,3.4696428571428584,90.54250000000002,76.75,6.321428571428572,25.17857142857143,7.1686216300943375,0.9884821428571424,616,22,131,7,14,198,94,160,0.025,0.804,0.171,0.9688,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,4,0,9,3,0,0,1,16,23,12,0,4,1,7,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,6,1,9,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,1,1,8,3,1,22,6,14,18,8,26,0,1,0,2,20,8,0,1,14,82,23,1,0.17507844686836793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519647951980278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672619619156448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081457947196086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079480974276402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892163746736772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147126239231072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002622768113285,0.1930246057535892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389240180918358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621853570191218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236630847079294,0.0,0.0,0.1545974761706091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160302676352853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20504976096712724,0.13974594594451673,0.18608068156232246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371537862357945,0.0,0.3559130599914742,0.13315504818036236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922940808403486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981787382712813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208965031251913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19043507515117114,0.17102620269707974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889161087293192,0.30979741226732244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741654981086015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745919449441026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274477961087034
parenting,companion_2_the_wind,2020/03/16,"How are you explaining the gravity of this situation to your kids? Good morning parents.

I'm really struggling with how to keep my kids (7 and 5) informed and prepared without just scaring the shit out of them.

I want to be honest, and I want to have them prepared for things like quarantines and recession/depression so that *if* they happen they are not blindsided but at the same time I don't want to scare the ever-living shit out of them... how are you handling it?",3.610666666666667,5.807268011111113,4.530833333333334,82.61625000000002,74.44444444444444,8.055555555555555,29.027777777777786,8.841846274778883,2.524777777777778,371,16,69,8,8,120,61,90,0.021,0.7140000000000001,0.265,0.9581,1,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,5,0,5,8,2,3,4,0,6,2,2,3,0,22,13,10,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,12,3,14,12,1,4,0,0,0,0,13,3,2,1,2,53,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732850048629132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967370738773493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182424852870254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19233049592800466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331993699218952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625728400078237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415029430330433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933314570855215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4355017480120565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465118794994187,0.0,0.24447398297262546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273734532217833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449430349475326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682333789098962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848533301217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20965783913885647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YoPierre_YWCOH,2020/03/16,"6 mo. old has his first cold and pediatrician said stay home TLDR - 6 mo. is sick and pediatrician said to cancel his 6 mo. check up until he's well. Is this customary (as normal as can be in the midst of an epidemic) or abandonment of duty?

Our LO turned 6 mos. yesterday and his check up was scheduled for today. We felt the need to preimptively contact his doctor last evening because he's exhibiting a slight wheeze when inhaling along with what we assumed is his first common cold. Our pediatrician is coincidentally out sick, but the emergency doctor advised that our LO probably has a small virus inflaming his bronchial tubes, and that it should go away soon. He also said we should wait until he is well before rescheduling our son's 6 mo. check up.

We're in the US and I'm aware of the healthcare infrastructure being inundated with concerns of COVID-19, however, the emergency doc's reluctance to have our kid seen didn't sit well with my wife. Another pediatric friend says we should have been seen regardless of our guy's cold, and having us reschedule was 'an abandonment of duty'. Thoughts?",4.669754901960786,7.0967307794117644,5.31529411764706,77.14049019607846,72.08823529411767,9.043137254901964,28.98039215686275,9.586721724236666,2.9737568627450983,885,36,157,23,18,285,121,204,0.10800000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.053,-0.8936,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,12,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,10,0,20,7,0,0,0,31,32,14,0,6,2,2,1,0,1,3,7,4,1,2,5,15,0,5,3,0,3,1,1,2,3,2,11,11,19,4,25,16,0,23,0,2,2,0,33,8,0,2,12,96,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895898292159465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598214602086286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975982348246824,0.0,0.0,0.09067941054547013,0.0,0.12657919026507786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045132293429064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825099635854992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282772347961148,0.0,0.0,0.253061137469349,0.0,0.0,0.11492741857801775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845406551817893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729042017205732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921297124187127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125483572991574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029963531664833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457479036348985,0.0,0.0,0.15609290723546626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038259545767405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244990066794159,0.1182956116321597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855258857267865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809451951829968,0.0,0.0,0.14100194728459847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180226578013648,0.0,0.0,0.3578668852527376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012446931396963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImJustABoiNamedNoah,2020/03/16,"Would you as a parent say that this is reasonable? Mom- 
* plays songs about having sex and doing drugs
* puts on shows about sex
* constantly (publicly) talks about sex
* when he visits, constantly makes out with and does romantic and sexual things with her husband openly


Oldest child(13)-
* not allowed to say the word polyamorus, only monogamous
* not allowed to say boyfriend, girlfriend, wide, husband, or anything marage related
* not allowed to talk about their own or any gender identity or sexuality(anything LGBTQ+)
* not allowed to draw anything deemed ""inappropriate""(anything LGBTQ+, cleavage, or anything you couldn't show at a daycare for toddlers)
* not allowed expression of religion (satanism)
* not allowed to cosplay certain people because they're inappropriate
* literally not allowed to ever day""penis"",""vagina"",or""boob""/""breast""
* not allowed to have ""the talk""

Youngest(7)-
* don't look up adult websites
* don't swear
* don't talk about sex
* don't hit people
* don't lie
* don't date",8.50662087912088,11.960848801282056,6.153150183150184,70.79423076923078,64.19230769230771,8.303296703296704,37.42490842490842,9.04235418022936,4.014560073260074,807,41,107,15,14,230,99,156,0.0,0.9470000000000001,0.053,0.7139,9,0,1,0,0,0,59.0,0,2,1,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,12,5,0,10,2,34,15,9,0,2,12,4,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,1,3,7,0,0,1,4,0,2,15,0,0,0,0,5,4,2,21,12,1,14,1,0,1,4,21,6,0,4,6,62,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515113692268012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5757156607266919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529459563357289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024099732729823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902375254137846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244588571308793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226403834218475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656663337818613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749847263903325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339841174789304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163873885424151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641629137355688,0.0,0.0,0.155365808020871,0.0,0.0,0.19400732735111173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406593384020858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438621807523641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338125920326227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498530768683232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295735254788877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993959253218705,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sisu124,2020/03/16,"Shared parenting and quarantine Hello. Sorry if this belongs on the megathread. Mods, please let me know, and I can change it. 

My question is as it sounds. I live in a state that has closed down bars and restaurants, though daycare is open for now. The governor was really clear that they will eventually close. I coparent with my ex husband, and we have a toddler. 

Are any of you doing anything different to restrict the time your little one is out in the world, (daycare) or extending and flexing your parenting time? Any advice appreciated. I do have a plan in place in case one of us becomes symptomatic, but prevention-wise, when it comes to co-parenting, I was wondering what others are doing or have planned. 

Thank you!",3.7656493506493507,6.629594136363636,4.356839826839828,80.61954545454547,77.33333333333333,8.013852813852813,29.12554112554113,8.841846274778883,2.8559268398268394,574,26,99,14,14,182,94,132,0.023,0.892,0.085,0.7928,5,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,4,1,2,3,2,0,0,7,0,17,1,0,0,1,21,21,12,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,12,1,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,15,2,14,17,0,19,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,5,4,75,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283381552481265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544714219532065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396892518993194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20663935353848564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979290060076669,0.16117172348920036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954816674675157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282631351014376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132437377118572,0.0,0.0,0.18752526162346012,0.1652144094340038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25357018528749464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41550904559455815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954816674675157,0.20538170536268927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959695318884852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986227096438885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944526369573105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225829562016928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838266710858402,0.0,0.2182012501561572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22506055372018727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029040340680463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,intermediatewino,2020/03/16,"Discovered my (11f) step daughter’s secret tiktok- need advice I’m on mobile and this just happened so sorry for any typos. 

So, title is self explanatory. We were having breakfast and her little brother let it slip that she had some secret accounts. I kind of shrugged it because didn’t want her to panic or have a melt down. Being the super snoop that I am managed to find two of them pretty fast. One is public, the other is private. In her moms house she has a really tough time with her partner and other issues we’re dealing with through the correct channels. This worries me but I also understand the need for some privacy and to explore her uniqueness. I’m sure they are all dancing videos and lip syncing ones. Still.... this happened 20 minutes ago. Haven’t told her dad cuz I’m afraid he might get very angry and instead of explain why is dangerous will just make it more desirable because is forbidden. Her mom is on the same spectrum and her partner is showing early signs of abuse and would not want to expose her to that. 

I’m really not sure what to do, please, parents/kids/ anyone who knows how to navigate this.... what do I do?????!",3.2261406926406937,5.615977713636365,4.103896103896105,84.29893939393942,76.4090909090909,6.008658008658007,27.294372294372288,7.07126945348624,1.5593008658008656,907,37,160,10,21,291,145,220,0.113,0.7979999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.8609,1,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,1,0,2,1,8,8,1,2,7,0,24,2,1,3,4,42,40,15,0,6,6,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,15,11,1,0,7,4,1,3,4,4,0,3,4,0,20,4,20,31,5,13,0,0,0,0,30,5,0,4,5,115,35,1,0.0,0.1710591323875332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108023123648175,0.12797850375012798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545553231789495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817901286253726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009493924515698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17601763830984593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884286352355072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319548737766822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542925801747692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25533823197835376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658777432144534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068855057290054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503429091540512,0.07934396624369149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763180878403107,0.0,0.0,0.14470029625853922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637051290084214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315759639504956,0.0,0.3381772793312095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410242080409692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19566260361821505,0.0,0.0,0.16939133686424526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15847888095065704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468798755116278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18497887664430326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061317311314065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16161444833802946,0.0,0.0,0.1152969599908794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27214085784771186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418541925561447,0.0,0.0,0.13795518158024667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410320491222582,0.15029803076422346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119123357111234,0.17031060416794452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027473680703608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661841988933902,0.0,0.10255887786805487,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,healthygoats,2020/03/16,Strange Poop Our 14 month old son frequently has poops which smell more like vomit and contain undigested food pieces. Does anyone know what that means and how to help him?,5.0076344086021525,7.890076645161294,2.90451612903226,92.64344086021508,72.87096774193549,6.713978494623658,23.23655913978495,7.793537801064563,1.0320881720430104,140,4,26,2,3,38,30,31,0.051,0.7929999999999999,0.156,0.5709,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,6,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715220276579781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398210167705376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695574883654688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602823796248238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21341024521023025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897132959846532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229937820855479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099529251156772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074759994520392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Im_making_my_lunch,2020/03/16,"Motrin, Advil, anti inflammatory makes Covid-19 worse As a mom myself I'm just finding this out.
Seems like important information.
Use kids Tylenol, not Motrin. DON'T hoard supplies either! Take care of yourselves, your elderly and those with compromised immune systems. ❤",5.958172757475082,9.739102093023263,4.368504983388704,74.6837209302326,86.2093023255814,7.108305647840531,31.72425249169435,7.957251820313856,3.438597342192692,222,11,30,5,7,64,42,43,0.109,0.688,0.20199999999999999,0.5562,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,2,0,11,7,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,7,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823845655915123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34278540463021384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832286142330008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503462305988272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392495412048137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414279472042729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819880445909402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239194734849504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822040880803757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aYd3n22,2020/03/16,Training pants/pull-up size So my girl is a little on the older side and still has trouble potty training. Pull-ups sizes are thinning and huggies pull-ups have a tighter fit to them. She started having trouble fitting into her pull-ups which are 5t. I want to know if Up&up training pants and pampers easy ups are stretchier than the pull-ups and will fit better for my girl. (All 5t sizes of course),3.242035714285713,5.276709275000002,3.617142857142857,89.48500000000001,75.0,5.571428571428572,27.67857142857143,6.1826913282559595,1.0929821428571422,322,13,62,2,7,100,54,80,0.068,0.78,0.152,0.6908,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,1,9,11,6,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,1,8,10,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,1,3,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4971763325146446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40582578039253614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521783252650367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598998525453013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247845895708109,0.0,0.3664474522152042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27064844982691805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,normaaaap,2020/03/16,"In need of formula? (FORMULA PARENTS) 
If you run out of formula or are low, call the number on the back of the can and tell them your due to the virus affecting you to find formula. They’ll send you a case of free of charge. 
So far only (enfamil & goodstart) are doing it, not sure about the other companies but it’s worth a shot calling them too.",0.9851056338028172,3.308229535211272,2.9951936619718325,89.39588908450705,84.63380281690141,6.930281690140845,22.959507042253517,8.07648339933343,1.445660563380282,271,10,57,6,8,91,53,71,0.043,0.877,0.08,0.3857,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,3,0,4,3,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,1,1,10,6,5,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,11,5,0,9,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,2,2,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299322962110001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341464403381297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6218696686308846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27831311286324645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22578745862161045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23159065560192724,0.0,0.0,0.3381180538548403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869934513106823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26615180474395744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RawketLeeg,2020/03/16,"Five Year Old Son's Adjustment Disorder My five year old son had a great start to Pre-K. The first three months were perfect. About October, his dad got re-married. Long story short, his father and I divorced after domestic violence issues when my son was about a year and a half. Since then I've had some custody and he got awarded standars visitation about a year ago. So he's over there one night a week and every other weekend. 

After his dad got re-married he began having defiance issues in school. They've since gotten worse. He began to see a behavioral therapist at school and he was diagnosed with adjustment disorder. She basically said if it goes away after 6 months, then we don't have to explore further issues (like anxiety). He is a very sweet and smart boy. He doesn't experience a lot of social anxiety (always worrying about having friends, finds everything quite embarrassing, etc). At school he will have days that he doesn't follow instructions from his teachers, will purposefully annoy the other kids, and refuses nap time. He's had to be put in a special room with other kids that refuse to nap. This past week he had an amazing week. We started a daily reward program at home and we made small goals everyday (""I'm going to listen to my teacher today."") and all was well until Friday. As per usual, when he has to go to his dad's, the next day is rough. It all makes sense I guess, since he has a hard time adjusting to things. But I'm at a loss. He has been more defiant at home too. I'm trying my damnedest to do positive reinforcement and to not lose my cool, but when you're dealing with a five year old who won't listen, is constantly ON with unbound energy that his three older sisters simply never had, and he just shuts down when you try to talk to him. He says when he is bad at school he knows that it means they will call me and I will have to show up. 

So it seems that he is obviously attached to me, but doesn't seem to respect or care much about my discipline and direction. Yelling doesn't seem to help, just makes him clam up. Spanking I haven't tried, because it was never something I had to do with his sister's. Taking away privileges is hit and miss. I don't know how to get him to listen to me, to be honest.",4.331372191011237,5.5513359258427,5.239729634831459,82.26487535112359,70.64044943820225,8.528792134831459,27.164676966292127,8.930421266530582,2.040125,1777,59,349,33,32,581,229,445,0.083,0.828,0.08900000000000001,0.7855,0,0,1,0,3,0,56.0,3,1,1,8,18,22,1,1,17,1,42,1,0,4,6,57,76,31,0,1,8,9,2,1,1,5,1,6,3,3,16,22,0,3,11,4,0,6,11,6,1,8,20,11,31,16,55,48,7,72,0,3,1,0,63,20,0,8,47,213,47,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323505940469897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874403151778223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640368499128415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552429384611559,0.0,0.0689818135328929,0.050362607079173234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436127906488708,0.0,0.08423362243642722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927971665519993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656236781366576,0.0851745850490289,0.0,0.08385460034624574,0.0,0.0,0.18937266985293624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921398865792942,0.0,0.0,0.06960845582015104,0.0,0.07425090717702422,0.08081536032006746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551051728689405,0.07027404874332924,0.0,0.0,0.0638297535201338,0.0,0.04316401606435225,0.0,0.09390638455906936,0.0,0.19822928588663966,0.09108562586388406,0.0910120314491001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400867887549024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537648935854023,0.0,0.16574334121861434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586923107265189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080837657871688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04036253368902959,0.0,0.0,0.07311351880149915,0.0,0.0924273834408978,0.0,0.07023808970016325,0.0,0.07817428169727535,0.11029508910237476,0.0,0.0,0.08999422360496594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188833515397694,0.0,0.06073306217673166,0.0,0.12743877545169285,0.0,0.08786420522652436,0.07753053592462973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26007819330730075,0.0,0.055983473706004004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886735420794086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305298758192811,0.0,0.08787343749393096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858776522069312,0.06570042054732507,0.0,0.3344515955528988,0.06583511882031186,0.22563446892444994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050251148301446,0.0,0.0,0.0842177120818544,0.0,0.06360266693327209,0.0,0.0,0.11695359339750235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062117764724410975,0.06640448197622649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592480127680036,0.054887119010466175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634937117614566,0.0,0.07831133468751103,0.0,0.0,0.1682747290432825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099104506319028,0.06816774597991554,0.0,0.0,0.1988113222110044,0.0,0.07428267968675215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839016582924232,0.08419386592976008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26601346428474304
parenting,GVJoe,2020/03/16,How do I talk to my child about COVID-19? How can I help my three year old daughter to understand the changes that she’s seeing around her because of the pandemic without overwhelming her?,7.90942857142857,8.211842942857142,6.406428571428571,80.30107142857145,62.42857142857143,10.428571428571429,40.35714285714286,10.125756701596842,4.058142857142858,153,8,28,3,2,45,29,35,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,7,0,6,4,0,3,0,1,1,0,7,1,0,0,2,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241478548098359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22196681344181848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851952626730159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440648646958753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820872347042028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901599497050503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29266934571806585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790662717174855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510028627698321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344841318761718
parenting,FriendlyZombie195,2020/03/16,"Spanking is just as dangerous as getting run over by a truck I think spanking is outdated and causes pain on a child. It will encourage them become more aggressive. I’ve always thought that spanking a child is just as dangerous as them getting run over by a truck. 

There are more humane methods of discipline than to cause inflicting pain on a child.",7.201615384615388,7.978406969230773,6.904423076923077,74.50432692307693,63.92307692307693,10.807692307692307,37.78846153846154,10.686352973137794,4.304615384615385,283,14,48,7,4,89,40,65,0.21,0.743,0.047,-0.8858,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,2,0,3,6,3,0,5,0,5,2,0,2,0,8,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,1,13,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,0,34,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326193376430477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30875606793349186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5743777199161794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29212091887006114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5949508314333372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179133087442363,0.0,0.2219422966703473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayyeaokay,2020/03/16,"I'm the worst For staying with my kid's father even though he isn't that good of a father to them. He is great by providing for them economically... but emotionally he is the worst and i feel we have ruined our oldest.. we have 2 other babies who aren't aware of his personality yet. He isn't patient, he expects the kids to act and understand like adults do. When he is ""teaching"" them something, he doesn't even give them an opportunity to try and learn, expecting them to know right away. He calls them names whenever he is mad which then turns into an argument because i go off on him right away. He thinks spanking will fix the crying (makes absolutely no sense) so i forbid it. Blames us for things we can't control, he's never at fault. I'm starting to hate him and myself for keeping us in this situation.",4.0305693581780515,5.403774453416151,5.253680124223604,81.29285973084886,71.5465838509317,8.099585921325051,26.46014492753623,8.59863814320734,1.7619933747412009,641,21,129,11,12,213,106,161,0.223,0.711,0.067,-0.9848,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,6,2,6,11,2,0,7,0,13,0,0,2,1,23,26,9,0,2,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,7,9,0,3,5,0,0,2,7,7,0,0,0,1,20,4,20,25,2,18,0,1,0,0,36,9,0,0,7,83,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190388572717928,0.0,0.0,0.10349990003434577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337037251187307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904293080127714,0.0,0.0,0.18650182292350848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909862688704121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22428395244774288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584884531098605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287409263237465,0.0964932315673328,0.14240834549833828,0.0,0.18718953839417848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676284112599911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15091349641093654,0.0,0.0,0.09330988250273796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294880754247197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333339712168895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309493420288418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825048645670907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899924374072532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908464492899006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070946980887546,0.0,0.0,0.1201753237900262,0.18096916343793729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279819811206143,0.10879193991058456,0.16681377066189465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527347136012135,0.18467828841010636,0.0,0.17675309484692708,0.4084630306533384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jadensoups,2020/03/16,"baby formula For parents who cannot find formula in stores for their babies right now grab the can on formula that you do have, and call the number on the back and they will send you a whole case during this time.",18.690930232558134,6.757042279069767,15.99860465116279,56.948139534883715,56.44186046511628,19.990697674418605,52.30232558139535,13.023866798666859,6.209483720930233,170,4,35,3,1,54,34,43,0.0,0.9690000000000001,0.031,0.0772,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,5,4,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,3,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31344635697031403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41624118193127374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3725712472847123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.452630721413677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481182890382828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376954011439724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4551102158904012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Codus1,2020/03/16,"Continuing childs education with scholl closures. With school closures appearing to be inevitable in the coming months. Many of us parents are probably worried about the prospect of interupting the education of our children.

I thought I would share an online education resource that can help best continue your childs education at home. [Khan Academy](https://www.khanacademy.org/) is an entirely free, non-profit organisation that offers a plethora of online resources. It is organised by year level with a focus on math and science. Additionally, they offer material for learnibg standard English and grammar.",11.200015527950306,14.478904684782613,9.287888198757765,51.88195652173914,56.5,11.778881987577641,46.83850931677018,11.491704259439757,6.857268322981367,509,31,56,15,7,154,73,92,0.022000000000000002,0.826,0.152,0.9134,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,9,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,7,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,4,14,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,4,39,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978852076449181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445134017201568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026004158690896,0.0,0.2847267437705814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877814200309735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22656799322142254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151841029689953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060405123098551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287273422420778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253468161631331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414390588609205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28826552894265794,0.0,0.20164034777290613,0.0,0.0,0.1827914097255338
parenting,jennamarielewiss,2020/03/16,"World: being a single mother is HARD And I think I am starting to fail. I’ve never failed in life before.. 
I am a single mom in my early 20’s, (my children’s fathers the only one I’ve been with, he passed away 2018) I know I’m young and everything, I get it. But it seems ever since I’ve been on my own, I feel I’m never enough. I have 2 young children, my prince & princess. Without them I would have never made it this far, they are my inspiration, the light at the end of the tunnel; but I school full time, take 2 classes online and have to work 30+ hours a week. My son has some special needs which obviously takes more dedication and time and most annoyingly, financing. I don’t have all this family to turn to like everyone seems to.. I feel like I’m still a kid myself and lost to the world. 
I’m from a “middle” class family, so it really has messed me up recently that I’ve had to go to the food bank, take the bus back and fourth to work in the evenings because I don’t have enough gas to take them to and from daycare. I have been adapting and stepping away from my comfort zone, obviously as a parent your comfort comes 1,000,000th to any need of your kids, but I’m worn down, folks. Obviously especially now, losing work hours and blah. Anyways, needed to vent. Happy Sunday everyone.",2.9107142857142847,4.3850911969697,4.286341991341992,86.7227272727273,74.53030303030303,7.301298701298702,23.55627705627705,7.957251820313856,1.0880413419913415,1012,29,215,15,21,335,149,264,0.07200000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.099,0.8462,1,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,0,2,3,7,7,13,1,0,14,0,20,2,0,1,8,38,46,15,0,4,4,5,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,4,8,12,1,0,7,0,2,4,6,6,0,1,7,4,27,7,30,37,10,37,0,4,0,0,15,14,0,4,21,133,35,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367014007755014,0.0,0.07761879881064214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447570351348047,0.08776625813181246,0.0,0.06957840202684246,0.0,0.09712433876132788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983211040630966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109375090255752,0.2358733051883385,0.0,0.07538808736240203,0.10324574534831553,0.0,0.2181304368776894,0.10258125561885756,0.0,0.2152011936493977,0.0,0.1154247582964973,0.08154130765986409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801798056294853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596331968695988,0.0,0.06486812892218388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150365898768355,0.1022466053867932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22480890352711005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272810423680107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062013011542013,0.1115256242164887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769294554648544,0.1245967871883761,0.0,0.0,0.10800158918583826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367884561790816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25389906010563196,0.2640943410131724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773439038660557,0.08680826080944035,0.0,0.0,0.12673844774576093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731207097721359,0.0,0.11269902236720705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551530452601287,0.0,0.2078166944410191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09441740405287433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078855138597875,0.0,0.0911519812644758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432749063375003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313600621707679,0.0,0.0,0.13311136320223602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415103968567577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155585136500882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002644007759972,0.0,0.2492848258350239,0.0,0.0,0.08108145188454327,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bbb7777777,2020/03/16,I miss my potato Although my LO is about to turn 1 and I absolutely LOVE his new funny personality and quirks... I miss my little potato a lot sometimes... and my baby is getting bigger and bigger. Faster than I can cope with !!! Arghhh!,2.014666666666667,4.561787800000001,4.440000000000005,79.26000000000003,82.1111111111111,5.377777777777778,20.11111111111111,6.742157984588678,0.6055777777777775,181,5,32,2,5,63,32,45,0.066,0.742,0.192,0.8440000000000001,0,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,6,8,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,4,8,1,5,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,1,2,23,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20227661561716395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880388986352824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32915201983944525,0.34942959842230065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37392430427741136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380556771629806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829139698302849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211220167834625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xL0Tu5,2020/03/16,"Way to go adults. Schools are closed. Everyone is freaking out over a crazy flu hybrid thing sweepinggggg the world. Capital America is cutthroat. AND WE PARENTS HAVE TO PUT WORDS TOGETHER TO NOT FREAK OUT OUR LITTLE PEOPLE. 

Seriously 
Look
At
The
Title

WAY TO GO ADULTS.

And then y’all wonder why they wont tell us about aliens. Y’all had one shot. One opportunity. To seize everything you ever wanted. In one moment..... (moms spaghetti) lol

AND YOU BLEW IT ! 

- :P i hope you all are safe. 💜",1.5916483516483524,4.329758219780221,2.6351098901098915,87.74739010989012,93.1758241758242,5.676923076923077,20.785714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.0018000000000002,382,13,71,7,14,121,73,91,0.096,0.733,0.171,0.8341,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,5,1,1,2,6,0,0,3,1,7,1,0,0,2,15,13,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,7,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,3,0,3,1,1,10,3,11,11,1,16,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,2,3,43,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743349107421786,0.0,0.19799822818653653,0.18622716892161886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355246663640989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580648514045305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20767905887313215,0.0,0.0,0.17400438278875935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24268208469420216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212329873550581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230082408085428,0.0,0.0,0.14365346414304142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083034852488748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209707787248448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811108500525747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766125118463138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492483603618506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221794600377665,0.32894762764021057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697497817620135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22471062550189272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lickthebackofthem,2020/03/17,"The guilt of wanting another baby is real!! I have a perfectly beautiful LO who just happens to be autistic. He is such a joy to be around and such a happy go Lucky wee dude, but im am exhausted! I work full time and he doesnt sleep!
I feel stretched thin. His father is a great help, but it seems to be just me that he wants, just me that hears him getting up in the middle of the night and has to move quickly to get him back to bed / sleep again (sometimes multiple times a night). 
My guilt is this - i dont want to deprive him of a sibling(s) - i always imagined myself with a big family, but i honestly dont know if i will be able to cope.
Recently many of my friends have got pregnant again and everytime i see a post i am so happy for them, yet so so envious, and it is tearing me up.
I have talked to my husband about it and he is so kind and says that we are strong enough to survive anything thrown our way (and that i could be worrying for nothing) (side note - i am a natural born worrier).
So this post is just to ask - how many parents (esp mothers) have felt like this, and have overcome it?",2.310805434255215,3.569951698689959,3.851142649199417,90.11146409509949,75.68122270742359,7.359631246967492,26.69602134885977,7.984000788550335,1.4499284813197484,845,32,190,13,18,281,131,229,0.063,0.7190000000000001,0.218,0.9921,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,1,4,19,16,1,2,12,0,27,3,2,1,1,33,42,19,0,5,8,4,3,1,1,1,1,2,1,0,12,12,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,6,26,11,23,33,2,26,0,1,1,0,22,10,0,3,12,132,38,1,0.12915213106057913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746491920390704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354272703987707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628119938811012,0.11497277848578565,0.12073980828549408,0.0,0.0,0.09931001670030384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311746744732064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027306714562356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334486759263985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121753134918603,0.0,0.06530319805156858,0.0,0.12400629957692128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997826160816903,0.0,0.13495331584304526,0.0,0.07340013239375537,0.0,0.10329475748085122,0.14239068044136435,0.0,0.0,0.1142088029654072,0.2749696901762101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556383819624824,0.0,0.08656795103982479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950646416238707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449207003420288,0.0709786336108718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309720751007357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618799793337868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726827603770028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424010519901129,0.0,0.12392495300486255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340815741852775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24738408121910885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700340014679447,0.0,0.0,0.12752214839313575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270695840634028,0.0,0.0,0.1029175270725042,0.11757524950274045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584908063700926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773476003035286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380759075071924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061929247069833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22853181934758424,0.10251495009901687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402428960655863,0.1311602582856485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fownger,2020/03/17,"I can't find one post, maybe someone can help me. I saw post here or r/family, about 2-3 weeks ago, the question was what to do with toddler inside bc they can go outside or smth and i don't find that post anymore, but there was good answers, i forgot to save that. Maybe anyone know that post?",2.01467741935484,3.3409665967741944,3.1395483870967773,94.6393225806452,76.58064516129033,5.605161290322582,22.07741935483871,5.6839178017228535,0.02295741935483875,227,6,52,1,5,73,46,62,0.0,0.836,0.16399999999999998,0.875,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,11,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,1,6,2,4,7,0,7,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,2,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169414360845008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090023332497895,0.12754427565522772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195851502185666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3334361581838765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366696329647714,0.15299560897788614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222645833246514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002469500449886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665077435547875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360473126806372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6987877441500613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043392841641799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455414374002044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631710889056035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,baronfebdasch,2020/03/17,"3 year old potty training, just hold it in We are trying to potty train our 3 year old son. We’ve been on two days of no diapers during the day and taking him to the potty every 15 minutes. 

He generally doesn’t resist sitting in the potty and can sit for a few minutes at a time. 

Yesterday he pooped on the floor. I was able to stop him midway and transition to the potty where he finished. He simply did not pee at all until just before bedtime when he peed on the floor. Like his poop I got him midstream and he peed for like half a second in the toilet. 

Today was another day of being half naked. Similar to yesterday, he just won’t pee at all. We are now at dinner and despite being uncomfortable and drinking lots of fluids he simply will not go *anywhere*. 

We’ve tried pouring some warm water on his penis, blowing bubbles, etc. he just won’t go anywhere at all until he’s about to burst. 

So far this supposed 3 day process is ending day 2 with nothing but tension watching him every second to intercept an accident. 

Any advice? Should we just put underpants on him to wet himself? We’ve just seen no progress whatsoever and are losing hope.",2.77326410740508,4.929645894273133,4.376375078665827,82.93910425844349,76.84140969162995,6.438346968743446,25.346968743444513,7.447530270364453,1.4494889448290331,906,33,166,12,21,303,131,227,0.059000000000000004,0.867,0.07400000000000001,0.3281,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,0,2,11,6,0,1,11,0,16,7,4,0,3,30,22,12,0,2,9,1,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,11,3,2,0,1,0,3,7,2,0,5,6,4,14,4,30,10,7,42,0,1,2,0,23,17,0,3,22,107,16,0,0.1588926619335359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155268070286889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080524587763496,0.16661281014372242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520595230790547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5123631104258866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565431762669402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073173663243374,0.0,0.17720731943421175,0.0,0.0,0.2677478413266397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060472291931925,0.0,0.12708097686915454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578162652667971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525385728471966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776024553475211,0.0,0.1350848591205308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246179448401784,0.0,0.33346224015312537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597310116909099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328413801188653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946750733825598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265158895438408,0.0,0.1506116646816859,0.0,0.0,0.21575537492922897,0.0,0.15521504270228506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464332956928552
parenting,Gnomeopolis,2020/03/17,"Elephant & Piggie AND Pete the Cat fans, rejoice! The authors are making videos to entertain their young fans Mo Willems is on YouTube, today was the second day of his ""Lunchtime Doodles"" where we learned how to draw the Pidgeon and got a behind the scenes look at what went into the book.   

James Dean is doing Pete the Cat Club daily on Instagram at Noon. We learned to draw Pete and he read us ""Pete's Big Lunch"". 

Sorry about weird mobile formatting",5.546156862745097,6.944405752941176,5.205588235294119,82.97348039215687,67.94117647058823,7.0784313725490176,29.46078431372549,7.1686216300943375,1.736607843137255,359,13,63,3,6,110,64,85,0.034,0.903,0.063,0.5411,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,8,0,5,1,0,2,0,10,9,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,2,5,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,1,5,1,11,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,0,4,36,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36444755002375934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21692534416448048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690190226730552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824589493023652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245239164075368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364525290955549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765291664083361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188313769223437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046014752893546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31181048489970503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,girlwtheflowertattoo,2020/03/17,"Entertainment and Online Activities for Quarantine/Lockdown Hey all! I've started putting together a list of some online resources to keep us sane while we stay put at home, and I'd love to share it with you. It's far from comprehensive, but it's a start. Feel free to add in the comments some resources or activities that you plan to do with your littles!

**Virtual Museum Tours:**

[The British Museum, London](https://britishmuseum.withgoogle.com)

[Smithsonian National Museum of Natural History](https://naturalhistory.si.edu/visit/virtual-tour) 

[ASSORTED MUSEUMS, Google Arts & Culture](https://artsandculture.google.com/project/streetviews)

[Yellowstone National Park Virtual Tour](https://www.nps.gov/yell/learn/photosmultimedia/virtualtours.htm)

**Live Animal Cameras:**

[San Diego Zoo](https://zoo.sandiegozoo.org/live-cams)

[Smithsonian's National Zoo](https://nationalzoo.si.edu/webcams) 

[Monterey Bay Aquarium](https://www.montereybayaquarium.org/animals-and-exhibits/live-web-cams)

[Georgia Aquarium](https://www.georgiaaquarium.org/webcam/ocean-voyager/)

[Zoo Atlanta Panda Cam](https://zooatlanta.org/panda-cam/)

[Kitten Academy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4MeEoa0Ep0I)

[Daily Videos from Cincinnati Zoo on Facebook Live](https://www.facebook.com/cincinnatizoo/videos/152751482590378/)


**Educational Websites for Kids:**

[Khan Academy](https://www.khanacademy.org/)

[PBS Kids](https://www.pbskids.org)

[Seussville](https://www.seussville.com)

[Highlights Kids](https://www.highlightskids.com)

[Nasa Kid's Club](https://www.nasa.gov/kidsclub/index.html)

[ABC Mouse](https://www.abcmouse.com/redeem)
You might have seen the code school7771 floating around social media for free abc mouse well the code has been updated to AOFLUNICEF. Once you sign up you should be in the clear. Doesn't ask for a credit card or anything!

**Youtube Channels to Keep Active:**

[Cosmic Kids Yoga](https://www.youtube.com/user/CosmicKidsYoga) 

[Zumba Kids - Zumba with Dovydas](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymigWt5TOV8) 

[Yoga with Adriene](https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene) 

[Christian Yoga (Caroline Williams)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0n6WQ3_PAePXz_IZzXZFGA)

[GoNoodle](https://www.youtube.com/user/GoNoodleGames)

We also started some seeds over the weekend, so that will be a fun activity/something to look forward to for us! Watering the plants each day and waiting for them to sprout.

EDITING TO ADD ANY LINKS/OFFLINE ACTIVITIES YOU GUYS SUGGEST!",16.560776085081926,22.90337908450705,8.733084219603333,42.773973843058364,66.25352112676057,10.628226501868355,39.95084794481173,9.397733822452864,6.574957832710551,2116,97,171,59,49,531,206,284,0.011000000000000001,0.8640000000000001,0.125,0.9818,0,2,1,0,0,0,289.0,4,7,1,1,4,8,0,0,11,0,10,2,0,0,2,28,21,9,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,5,13,1,3,1,11,3,3,1,0,1,0,2,3,12,10,31,14,5,23,1,0,2,1,24,13,0,6,8,84,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840914433172947,0.0,0.160430556927066,0.0,0.10069065267810508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184654332124885,0.13181104198283866,0.13842267838109815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549098017982084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486713545026764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660963125692822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852329613132248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632175455859092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840205506432655,0.5229835740312421,0.0,0.12433900719776585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363626865385805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707571194690448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768654648925368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976965078301776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150935682834309,0.0,0.1139892277568171,0.0,0.0,0.3144078016905941,0.1578197449523046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35621279391205674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313003528740974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsbeenaminuteortwo,2020/03/17,"Help My child was packing for her dads house today. She tried to bring a bunch of toys and while I attempted to limit the amount she began screaming and throwing a fit. She is 7 years old. I gave her a timeout in her room and when I came back she threw a purse at me. 

I was really shocked and am at a loss. It feels like somewhere along the line I have really done something wrong for her to think this behavior is okay. We have been experiencing a lot of transitions with moving away from our hometown, starting a new school, and now the virus shutdowns. Ultimately she was not allowed to bring any toys and we talked about how very unacceptable that behavior was. However, I can’t stop replaying it in my mind and feeling like her regulating skills are really lacking. What can I do to help support her and respond better in the future?",6.004259259259257,6.509246092592599,6.2428148148148175,79.15866666666666,66.46913580246914,9.689876543209877,31.63209876543209,9.642632912329526,2.7840720987654315,665,25,129,13,10,213,107,162,0.09699999999999999,0.774,0.129,0.55,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,5,5,9,0,0,11,1,15,0,0,2,0,25,26,11,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,13,0,2,4,2,0,6,2,4,0,0,10,4,24,5,19,16,4,26,0,1,0,0,21,8,0,1,14,91,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492460980369972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259538916055708,0.14125657339526088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247072665003767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010774767349916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799235616870733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577191495907644,0.2624754878555348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462650301758926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196905630240132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949640166872394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617805931607112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548806359098746,0.0,0.0,0.1952476391930867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742188609884302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276581350925615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35305530142787633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859176457944508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414238503833027,0.0,0.0,0.13002621031434694,0.0,0.0,0.15358426605990874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084644385756418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765383240358787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770971954305212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412934101934108,0.0,0.0,0.1247225483404934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515745419692041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008508269973842,0.0,0.11829896508087866
parenting,second_moose_here,2020/03/17,"My 4-year-old can forget things that I never could: her Halloween candy stash, new toys, the cupcakes we just made yesterday. Like I put something away, and she never asks about it again. Should I worry, or is that normal? And yes, she  has too much crap, maybe that's a factor....",4.301603773584905,5.8184194905660425,4.049198113207549,89.63153301886793,71.0754716981132,6.054716981132076,20.797169811320764,5.985473137389443,0.0930415094339625,215,4,42,1,4,65,46,53,0.136,0.769,0.095,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,2,1,5,1,1,1,2,12,7,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,8,1,2,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,1,6,31,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503744912711641,0.0,0.251624645137754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21383157568252945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084277219995993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534166911031202,0.0,0.0,0.2690600529819623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968776856433057,0.0,0.4131168472805699,0.2586611342656582,0.0,0.0,0.2624056300150045,0.0,0.0,0.28103085288005897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692319371829204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20618005115773802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17792695732950106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719830634948017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724665719832695
parenting,Philanthropist69,2020/03/17,"Dad Advice I came into my sons life in December and have since got back with the mum and she has since fell pregnant. Obviously everything for the first couple of months was fantastic and went smoothly but now she is very off with me acts like she doesn’t care about me and I’m not allowed to tell my son what to do in regards to behaviour. It seems to be falling apart and I feel useless, we live together and I just feel used for another child. I sometimes shout and get frustrated with my son and she doesn’t like that but generally it’s because of his behaviour. I just feel like she wanted another child and wanted biological siblings and now she’s pregnant she’s changing.",2.3391228070175423,5.000620406015038,3.5717593984962406,85.24736340852131,81.78195488721802,7.155689223057642,26.15989974937344,8.238735603445708,2.0147247117794485,546,23,105,12,15,177,82,133,0.073,0.8109999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.7311,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,2,0,8,1,0,2,1,31,21,12,0,2,5,5,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,16,0,0,4,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,4,5,19,4,16,16,0,15,0,1,0,0,17,5,0,1,8,68,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804921178137016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873597308470185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202716050530326,0.0,0.11259478394906018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112539337814135,0.1883196099154748,0.0,0.19539397221755425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437316892353946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660014311506133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801780152500375,0.1319536760178005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571104395577048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650102218694134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772589500575872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046298661456615,0.27071339376108144,0.0,0.16309837743355768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743020132693113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814898826339342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055806658584436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826785038178512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144078482063726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952628421691153,0.0,0.15240141597191134,0.21788822830093574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122388779907693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krazykat4531,2020/03/17,"Limiting screen time Anyone have any recommendations to limit the available time on a specific application on a computer. I want them to have unlimited time on the computer, but only limit the time for a certain application. Thanks!",8.016153846153845,10.568679333333336,9.44923076923077,50.470769230769264,63.35897435897437,13.405128205128205,38.641025641025635,12.45797560212912,6.497317948717949,190,10,25,8,3,66,25,39,0.0,0.8009999999999999,0.19899999999999998,0.7871,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,6,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,4,17,2,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379787279582168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446939249370504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26615355816177994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32218792788037715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8162371326805191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20641020802699575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LexieM3,2020/03/17,"Face prints in the sand So....my kid has this weird obsession with cat litter, and while cleaning my bunny cage, I turned about and she's about to put her whole face in it. The only place this child cant reach is the refrigerator. I dont have a question.  I put her back behind the baby gate, so shes safe from litter.",0.8397402597402639,2.9769594242424238,2.390173160173159,94.71954545454548,83.54545454545455,4.983549783549783,15.48917748917749,6.1826913282559595,-0.7006640692640689,246,4,56,2,7,80,49,66,0.087,0.861,0.052000000000000005,-0.044000000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,5,0,6,2,2,0,0,5,7,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,8,1,8,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,2,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281235217571059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476989996129893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22563347914089696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099605453085025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5964773905888202,0.33234208991087144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226954527372842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312252413461224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BittersweetEnouement,2020/03/17,"Help! My 7 year old won’t play alone and only wants to play one specific thing with me So my daughter is 7. She’s an only child, she’s amazing in school and a great kind kid. She’s sweet (yeah she gets pouty sometimes) but here’s the major issue:

She wants to play LOL dolls with me CONSTANTLY. Now this use to be a thing with my little pony when she was 3 and 4, but not all day every day. 

It’s gotten to the point I tell her no and she pouts and cries and yes I use to give in (major problem because I felt guilty) but now I’ve been not giving in and sticking my foot down.

She before said she has a hard time deciding what to play (so we went through all her toys and donated a bunch and she’s down to just basic toys. Blocks, doll house....etc) so I assumed all this playing with lols was her way of trying to be close to me so I suggest she draws with me (I love drawing! She says no she doesn’t want to. So I say okay well I love to hear you read will you read a book to me? And she says she doesn’t want to) but she keeps saying she wants to play with mommy (apparently dad doesn’t play as well with lols as I do)

So I suggest other things like let’s go skateboard outside! “No”. let’s build a puzzle! .... “no”

And so she just lays around doing NOTHING while whining and saying she’s bored. 

She says she wants to play lols so I say okay go play them and she refuses to play with them alone..... 


I literally have no idea what to do anymore or how to fix this.

PLEASE any advice on how to approach this appropriately to set her up successfully in the future but also socially/emotionally now.",0.2330169172932344,2.3774700773809516,1.9762781954887207,96.6424060150376,86.32142857142858,4.8463659147869675,17.473057644110273,6.202715092499727,-0.4368083333333339,1230,29,287,11,38,402,166,336,0.083,0.684,0.23199999999999998,0.9953,1,2,0,0,0,0,44.0,1,2,2,1,21,25,0,0,10,8,18,3,1,4,3,56,39,34,0,7,10,2,2,1,0,2,0,9,0,2,11,24,0,3,4,15,1,4,11,3,2,1,7,12,52,22,41,26,6,30,0,1,0,2,53,12,0,3,13,184,63,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267003917060483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964374733936938,0.0,0.07583818518434389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448992100425435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404918763742068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442177559556256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780952190795954,0.0,0.08069618481972297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024811469311237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041699674549749,0.12231931375204105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667473969269256,0.0,0.0,0.10576423860323436,0.0,0.0,0.07990117639041644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105487519041944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04954650438141402,0.18194555595021372,0.1077919414880679,0.0,0.0,0.1045540886237388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495204261578175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688406286146886,0.0,0.06356478666256872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705529410467617,0.0,0.09898136515487473,0.0,0.08429222708504773,0.0,0.09875432694021473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939470240860456,0.0,0.04633077814833045,0.09504791709477607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711815780227755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099514433810592,0.0,0.0995116342974128,0.0,0.06426152332827256,0.14425005199513474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409852590044036,0.08964815612848089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074269580495443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897180001148321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020821992160104,0.5279069303372861,0.0,0.09597639976159436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379259498689672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828885163201622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900916530664336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055298081323205364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438561067004034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638111091630174,0.0,0.0,0.33561095458422185,0.07527428863102123,0.0,0.0,0.17053311763556686,0.08791145331709982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06106955967234061
parenting,Faelixx,2020/03/17,"I finally lost my patience The way I was raised, if someone was mad, they gave you the silent treatment, or they yell. I've always feared becoming my mother and I see her tendencies come out in me with some of my interactions with my 17 year old step daughter.

I've been in her life for ten of the 17 years. She's a pretty good kid. Got a kidney transplant at 14 so she has had a bit of a rough time for the past few years, and she's about to go to college in the fall. She tends to be a bit whiny, she makes up these miserable scenarios in her head and states them as if they're fact, as if I have no idea what really went down. Example, she's here for March Break and said last night that every conversation we've had has been a fight. Uh, wrong.

So I lost it last night. I lost my stupid mind. She gives me so much attitude, I just cannot comprehend why. I asked her what she likes to do so we can do things together, she throws it in my face. Apparently, I have the audacity to ask her about herself because I don't know her, and I should just be a mind reader and make her do things that she'll hate and just complain about?? So that opened up this conversation, I told her how lucky she is that we're even having this conversation, because it wasn't like this in my house when I was her age. ""That's the difference between you and me, I don't WANT that"" she says. So I totally flipped out. I told her that I don't have to be nice to her. I can be every bit the mean step parent that you hear about. And I feel disgusted with myself. That I would talk to her like that. It just brought back so many memories of the terrifying arguments I used to have with my mom where she would basically degrade me and make me cry if she was angry.

I don't want to be angry anymore. I feel so guilty. When these things happened when I was a child, my mom never apologized, we just ignored each other until she wasn't angry anymore. How can I negate the feelings of anger I have when I feel like our communication has totally broken down, to the point where I can't control my temper and the things I say? These next few months are so crucial, I feel, for setting her up for either failure or success in her adult life. Any advice would be greatly appreciated",3.0375254551064472,4.250132727861775,4.147112619561864,88.89136933045359,73.77321814254859,7.624041962357296,24.243690219068192,8.146662555663855,1.1182642270904042,1755,51,393,27,35,572,210,463,0.183,0.767,0.05,-0.9955,2,0,0,0,1,0,49.0,3,3,3,5,29,25,7,2,20,0,45,5,3,7,4,64,78,35,0,10,12,5,6,4,0,5,2,5,0,3,27,22,0,2,8,0,0,8,11,16,1,1,21,12,85,9,48,46,11,53,0,4,1,0,65,19,0,8,26,278,112,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613986294904531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733484602919884,0.0,0.0,0.059945512126893925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484365402375365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481804665738548,0.0,0.0,0.06778246213275999,0.0,0.10747172093310264,0.09735554411852672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28871326481387377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593403951435353,0.0,0.0,0.0988685276094034,0.0,0.0,0.09682942621248362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209874002994506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582227189089996,0.0,0.14854156629991302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099194066878928,0.22285826224541508,0.06297489167658936,0.0,0.09656480451953624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456220259541396,0.05009808536769758,0.07393664129561213,0.07050218316433939,0.09718647952906023,0.0,0.0,0.07795139019654275,0.0,0.0,0.08703058567889851,0.09046806976552936,0.0,0.0993522675583863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171409504555083,0.0,0.09951143265591383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04844533013706808,0.14370920354428454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124526920322376,0.17226395567493144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886807705795917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765238694504162,0.0893709938449042,0.0,0.09602197588440367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780141956474346,0.20648211474251235,0.07036106335657362,0.0,0.06480092163824523,0.0,0.06798726925449661,0.0,0.09374929031442927,0.1654469576522662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249935164518296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788094215193603,0.0,0.08414983629464566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333092282744481,0.0,0.0,0.08968097256189311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056471608186903374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385152062597684,0.14020198063117265,0.0,0.0,0.07024471058786938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468981863465145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085220930319455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23425368459744364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05140139347256286,0.0,0.0,0.16846358033697614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613391889721655,0.0,0.0,0.1039871566215736,0.06996993811911352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817166001888175,0.0795423134476632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878592260517428,0.0963789737217318,0.0,0.1702985198112212
parenting,Superb_Yam,2020/03/17,"My 17 yo is selling weed My 17 year old son (18 in 5 months) is selling weed. It’s legal in my state. He’s been upfront with me. Says selling to people he knows. There’s a part of me that is impressed my his business savvy (haven’t told him this). He’s making good money. Easy money. I’ve stressed the risk (namely legal) but to be honest, likelihood of cops taking it seriously is low given all the other issues out there. I don’t know how to handle this. He’s a good kid but I think e joys the risk and (of course) easy money. His dad and I value honestly and we make an honest living. In a way, maybe his way of rebelling? I’m not a prude to weed. I smoke on occasion (never in front of kids) and I definitely smoked in HS and college. Would love some insights.",0.2942569444444416,2.4423303562500003,2.5529166666666683,92.5915277777778,86.0625,4.805555555555556,18.26388888888889,6.139981653823899,-0.18415277777777786,587,15,128,5,18,199,100,160,0.07400000000000001,0.677,0.249,0.9875,0,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,0,3,14,1,3,8,0,9,2,0,3,2,24,19,8,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,6,8,0,1,4,0,6,1,4,6,0,0,3,1,16,8,17,14,3,16,0,1,0,2,17,8,0,1,4,71,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36820011181480455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290933439810192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412548860862602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381606792641307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981007236858362,0.0,0.2930261519894173,0.0,0.2205099104794729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519697230848133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928629501442125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23032065713116534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376891955361653,0.0,0.1521685956097909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454939810783113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25142813657595503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503118783904416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064205401534613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097346729235254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484461640085549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592131052031644,0.0,0.0,0.14134609700415798
parenting,Hootie4u,2020/03/17,"Home with kids - exercise ideas Hi,  
Currently school has been cancelled for several weeks. As the gyms and parks are being avoided, I am looking for physical workout video or some idea on how to keep the kids in shape.

We currently live in an apartment, and the kids are 7,11.  

thank you!",3.9541509433962285,6.480515358490568,3.9062641509433966,85.9363773584906,74.66037735849056,8.013584905660379,29.467924528301893,8.841846274778883,2.5786407547169814,226,10,42,5,5,69,44,53,0.083,0.872,0.044000000000000004,-0.2942,2,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,4,0,6,1,0,1,0,11,9,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,8,7,1,8,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,2,3,26,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875334417150266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6471861871132917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547877968422531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531173070463445,0.0,0.24071390556395905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901052242864005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238330431358599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639089172254515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299334352617925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowRaCityLove21,2020/03/17,"Advice needed My son’s father died when he was two and he doesn’t remember anything about him. I’ve tried over the past eight years to find someone I thought would be a great husband for me and father to him. Unfortunately, that hasn’t worked out. I’m at a point where I feel like I can’t do it on my own and am too old to find someone decent (I’m 37). Would it do more damage to him to raise him on my own or send him to live with my sister and her husband, where he’ll have a positive male role model? Would it be more devastating if I were alive or dead?",4.145501770956315,3.625842487603308,5.291924439197167,87.90983471074381,70.40495867768595,8.23659976387249,25.550177095631643,7.447530270364453,0.9161631641086184,435,10,104,4,7,145,78,121,0.146,0.755,0.1,-0.7873,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,0,0,18,20,8,2,5,3,6,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,3,1,15,2,14,11,4,13,0,1,0,0,18,8,0,3,5,68,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19867006337435603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673050252622113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21100143457177345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279855009749853,0.14524315795326992,0.0,0.0,0.3716393559325208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22414760583715249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932593870999183,0.0,0.17952454308517046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075018355496467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21333737278298054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408033327715227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219161898324694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23030814457139026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445241376885617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140371129161782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803267449433665,0.0,0.19860221301996964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480105252711948,0.0,0.0,0.4332721584109607,0.0,0.0,0.13092358003660415
parenting,THROWitback-,2020/03/17,"Sons father is “away”, son doesn’t understand where daddy is. Need advice? So, my son is 18 months old and his dad was recently arrested and has been in jail for the past month. We broke up when my son was 2 months old and have been co parenting ever since. He gets our son one week, then I get him the next and so on and so forth. 

We’ve been doing that for the past 16 months of my sons life and it’s what he’s accustomed to. So you can imagine his confusion about wondering where daddy is and why he hasn’t seen him in a month. He’s recently been acting out for the past two weeks and I can only assume it’s because of the circumstances. My son is not himself. He’s recently started hitting, hardly sleeping or eating and almost every day he’s asking for his daddy then crying uncontrollably for an hour. My heart is broken into a million little pieces for him. 

His dad calls when he can and they’ll talk but that seems to make it worse when we hang up the call and I have no idea what to do. I took him to his grandparents house (where his dad lives) for the familiarity but it was an almost constant “daddy?”. My mom had an idea of showing my son pictures of his dad and printing one out for him to keep but I’m scared to do it because what if that makes him miss his dad more? 

I just have no idea what to do. He doesn’t understand the concept of a “vacation” or jail, not that I’d tell him his dad is in jail or anything but all I know to do is tell him his daddy loves him and he’ll see him soon. 


Any idea on how I should handle this?",1.5497251989389935,3.2512274738461566,3.1222281167108754,92.63846153846157,78.87692307692308,6.3289124668435015,20.129973474801066,7.237678284180719,0.3023931034482761,1199,29,273,15,29,395,150,325,0.087,0.897,0.016,-0.9572,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,1,0,15,6,0,3,14,0,33,5,2,3,2,51,54,31,0,3,11,17,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,14,18,1,1,11,1,0,3,7,5,0,4,10,3,40,1,33,40,3,45,0,2,2,1,59,15,0,10,27,181,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099056477619813,0.0,0.0,0.18648175643242615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332115953621871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662542851169034,0.0,0.08704963438086992,0.0,0.08748428503738838,0.0,0.0,0.1135236608277114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19016095049445106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062386421363836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022820779647727,0.06005125033369808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527953981723683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422753782348066,0.07845311420082751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729712983182312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341244274507176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034131641904296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169918024711034,0.10744181192126147,0.0,0.4204604534560876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276458515995658,0.0,0.0,0.051173380117271836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657696356951262,0.0,0.09332534802681128,0.08222194773114003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840396130344676,0.0,0.12430951267610342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905476044069544,0.3716161527245295,0.0,0.0,0.06904333802891574,0.0,0.0,0.09902849367340703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954163370936877,0.0,0.12619380229792965,0.07081789226326703,0.0,0.0,0.10339280679491428,0.0,0.2666654276477213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27581846991600295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322401525536923,0.0,0.0742003257273775,0.08476808624088858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702540617271136,0.0,0.09318190290698096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659070332110083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484203386709151,0.16277262815326485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345380963243968,0.0,0.0,0.0909594894246277,0.1938712828030964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938192189501334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402149453719869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097887309426593,0.0,0.0,0.09489179009893303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gullible_Contest,2020/03/17,"When Should I Allow Dating I have two sons (14,12) who have recently started asking about dating. Personally, I don't agree with letting them date until their mid-20s, but I'm curious about what everyone else thinks.

I should also mention that they're very mature for their age and they're also homeschooled so it's not like they're going to have much of a chance of sneeking behind my back if I restrict it.",6.296923076923079,7.178868179487183,6.076051282051285,79.2856153846154,65.92307692307692,8.291282051282051,29.70256410256411,8.238735603445708,2.123191794871794,330,11,58,4,5,103,60,78,0.10300000000000001,0.7559999999999999,0.141,0.4632,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,10,12,8,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,9,1,9,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,10,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604448373176385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691346516688641,0.0,0.0,0.2213666489238287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24049190469081966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750875157932843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361231100791146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943830529978681,0.0,0.14064661196370226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162941591201048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25137104751542844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842528034059761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376727084417326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18446579535875507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28122289859559385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375361911406288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Juliana187,2020/03/17,"Anyone with sick kids at home right now? How are you coping? Canadian mom here. We started quarantining last Friday. I’ve been working from home, looking after my 3 year old, trying to reach out and help my community in whatever way I can. Then last night, het gets a fever, starts coughing, the works. He’s in daycare full-time so I’m used to this, but it’s just the worst possible timing right now. Praying we can ride this out at home. Trying to keep it together, but my anxiety is through the roof. Anyone in the same boat?",1.7016666666666684,4.2715382524271845,2.9943932038834937,88.88213996763756,83.95145631067963,6.151779935275083,22.175566343042068,7.492282038375204,1.0347935275080908,412,14,82,7,12,133,77,103,0.098,0.843,0.057999999999999996,-0.7383,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,0,2,6,1,0,0,5,0,5,3,0,2,0,13,12,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,0,14,11,2,23,1,0,1,0,7,9,0,0,12,47,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499828902388716,0.0,0.0,0.2467824321272567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921977601600606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118283439538458,0.0,0.5310383352310829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568537404035283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876915483902822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481895009211336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667834014843728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560418626485013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851745124431054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894226344797286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014070946458262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24981130898117196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290048314812944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396217115386336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524125419414135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007286479781333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569430428059339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364023932762216
parenting,jjhemmy,2020/03/17,My kids are addicted to social media Does anyone have any suggestions on how to limit your teenagers social media? I wish I had never allowed many of the apps in the first place but feels very hard now taking it away without a lot of conflict. Looking for suggestions on how to motivate them!!,5.569545454545453,7.1703935454545435,5.863409090909091,77.51511363636364,68.0909090909091,8.40909090909091,30.113636363636363,8.841846274778883,2.6349090909090904,235,9,39,4,4,75,45,55,0.035,0.823,0.142,0.7381,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,4,1,12,7,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,5,0,11,6,1,8,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,1,3,30,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26159526782045894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318317968797766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16778782315606766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22545329096452785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999338123105207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133258541844524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041125440633102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21495986069074785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150862085125595,0.0,0.0,0.2040081002193316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432849838135465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507438474737892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507104320258242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4892244512907882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18042243496934174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19799474064517766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27594579517818923,0.2313159262540631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flowerboy_209,2020/03/17,"My mother let's my brother act out. I know you're supposed to be a parent or guardian, I don't know if being a brother is a guardian, but here I go anyway. I'm 21 years old living with my mom and little brother, he's 13 going on 14. 

When I was young, my mom used to hit me whenever I misbehaved, now it wasn't abuse, it was the usual belt, slap on the butt or hair pull. I honestly believe there was nothing wrong with that and I don't resent it. I had a phase where I used to get mad at video games and my mom would get mad and scream at me if I ever hit my keyboard or controller. I quickly learned that it was dumb to express my anger that way, so I stopped hitting anything. I guess my brother picked up from me because he now is a ""gamer"" and he gets easily angry whenever he loses his games. He also screams into his microphone and calls his friends idiots. It gets intense because he slams his keyboard and desk, my parents were generous enough to get him a 1500$ computer, a new desk, wait not only this, but one computer and desk at my moms, and one at my dad's. 

Whenever my mom has had enough of him getting angry, she goes up to him and tells him to calm down, to which he just answer: ""I can't calm down it's this game, shut up mom you're stupid"". I kid you not he starts screaming at my mom and disrespecting everyone around him. I get so angry, as soon as he's done screaming he goes to my mom and asks her when we're eating, my mom answers 15 minutes and he gets all pissy because he wants to eat now, so because he can't eat now, he doesn't eat at all. It's always a fight, always. So when I confront my brother about his attitude, my mom gets angry at me. I would love to provide exact detail. 

Tldr : my brother gets angry, disrespects my mom, she doesn't do anything about it and lets him throw his fits and when I confront my brother, my mom gets angry at me.",3.2478699003572125,3.8703807563451775,4.596542583192331,88.09864542207184,72.65482233502539,7.2583568339913525,27.536755029140817,7.242747475848597,1.2837647302124462,1454,51,319,14,27,484,176,394,0.16,0.7340000000000001,0.106,-0.9801,2,0,0,0,3,0,49.0,0,1,0,2,24,21,10,0,10,0,25,7,2,4,4,49,52,33,0,5,10,23,1,0,1,2,0,4,0,1,14,20,4,3,5,4,0,5,9,16,0,2,9,5,61,5,37,34,4,46,0,1,0,2,64,22,2,6,18,198,75,8,0.0,0.06768083681524459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04568085277389225,0.09506101312240957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401392160848757,0.0508511469850889,0.053401838408525436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928541421646598,0.0,0.0,0.06435751072884148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05832847215351392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406775522660413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845616301193916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23380236460025425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804565087270212,0.0,0.0,0.05167058306893866,0.0,0.05458300882292202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044132711618811986,0.0,0.32828570769032417,0.0,0.06492808072027755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292688779564885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278607820186663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682327882284528,0.0,0.0,0.05725176435482428,0.05044022525311708,0.0,0.0,0.06390548034611854,0.0,0.0,0.051555297929751005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8028143579678437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055169278725206286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481059154493338,0.0,0.059940468044954676,0.0,0.07741538590485345,0.04344424495258352,0.0,0.0,0.12685558073473727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040431608501885256,0.0,0.0,0.04775697839974997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049927593882472886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867102096673844,0.06291237753881407,0.0,0.03369233798778591,0.04534119175260827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115638820401619,0.06245450040269376,0.0,0.036785025348081896
parenting,RicochetRed,2020/03/17,"My kid is eating my mattress topper! My son is 7.5 years old. Lately, he's been taking chunks of my foam mattress topper and eating them! I've been finding chunks of foam in his stool. I'm so worried about him and possibly obstructing his bowels, but he sneaks around to try and eat it. He's well-fed and doesn't have any other weird things he's compelled to eat, so I haven't really considered pica. Anyone else with advice or experience??",3.73256157635468,5.473183241379314,4.7192118226601,83.3648275862069,72.9080459770115,7.270279146141214,22.773399014778327,7.957251820313856,1.1761605911330055,350,9,66,5,7,114,60,87,0.061,0.9229999999999999,0.016,-0.5614,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,7,5,1,1,0,10,9,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,6,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,9,0,8,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,3,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616790749309236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259684510113025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605623817756598,0.18471856082592603,0.0,0.16048776591258018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7378873709726949,0.1506011300965074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763488113833472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647730074796051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336412877008256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891739395201837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323904848988586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549223212650594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554841470180487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977027831612035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223985487210612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16209371853627486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18308348381250206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609465837382968
parenting,daisy679,2020/03/17,"Anyone here ever fire a babysitter/nanny? Why did you do it, and how did you do it? 

We've had some problems lately with ours but I'm absolutely terrified to say anything! I know she means well, and this is a difficult time for anyone to be laid off. Obviously we would give her a few weeks notice but I have no idea how to come about this. I've never had to fire anyone! Our nanny is consistently late. When we brought it up to her, she gives excuses such as car problems, traffic, family problems, etc. Which is totally fine, we're very understanding. It's just been super consistent. She also tells us she's only ever 10-15 minutes late, which is true but of course then we're late to our work as a result of that. She's a nice older lady and I know she means well. It's just a few things I'm picking up on lately such as kissing our two year olds face, leaving him alone for longer than you should, relying on too much screen time with the older one, and a few other little things. Am I overreacting, or are these legitimate reasons to fire our nanny? Ugh.",2.248521126760565,4.333143089201883,3.909039906103288,86.00553169014086,78.2018779342723,6.701314553990611,21.917605633802815,7.734863291789972,0.9689194366197188,830,24,168,13,20,277,127,213,0.155,0.735,0.11,-0.8564,0,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,8,3,0,2,15,12,0,0,8,0,17,2,1,5,6,38,28,16,0,5,6,0,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,14,9,0,0,7,0,0,3,2,5,2,2,6,5,24,7,23,19,7,26,0,0,1,1,25,6,0,2,17,120,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137165425261566,0.0,0.08599402134000096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22556851199225506,0.0,0.08849041436544754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263007180156167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199276086228536,0.0,0.1945393289864368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137244800837962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20631071251334535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139155523592512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819453930667605,0.0,0.6065089754443787,0.11386181465515807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777621578236517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342697050647183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904905444972926,0.0,0.08293600173141984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242691945949058,0.1128376896486796,0.0,0.07286707606464791,0.08178361612565786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086833882113279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056173085707577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551447819480097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093988494370624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288016127431172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254065975816763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050440182324964,0.1119455413302485,0.12934883861434354,0.0,0.0,0.08872590431882027,0.0,0.0,0.08625640615621433,0.0,0.1933699827004464,0.0,0.09703171664568984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828523196579601,0.0,0.0,0.07638828694417701,0.0,0.0,0.06924766204415808
parenting,cariBOUhighlands,2020/03/17,"No sympathy for pregnant daughter My soon to be 20 yr old is 7 weeks pregnant. I am having a hard time because she has stomach issues that we have been trying to figure out for the last year. She vomits all the time, can’t keep food down and basically failure to thrive since she can’t gain weight. When she’s not vomiting, she’s nauseated to the point she can not hold a job since she feels so sick and has lost 2 jobs due to having to go vomit. She is not anorexic or bulimic. She had an endoscopy at the end of December and they took biopsies and checked for gluten allergies and for any abnormalities and all normal. We have checked for tick born illnesses, all negative. During this time I told her that if she ever got pregnant she was going to be in trouble because she will be very sick from morning sickness. She has a long term bf (21) and she stopped taking birth control because she thought it was adding to her nausea and was hoping she would feel better. So for the past 5 months or so I have several times a week told her she needed to start  back up, keeping track of her cycles, because she cannot get pregnant, as it will make her more sick and she still can’t hold a job. Well now she’s 7 weeks pregnant. Same week we found out she got a pretty decent job. She started training yesterday and called in because she’s vomiting and feels so miserable. Now today she says she can’t go to work again. I am beyond frustrated with her. I told her I have no sympathy because this is a consequence of your life choices and that had she listened to me she would not be in this predicament. She needs a job. She lives at home and my husband and I have been paying for everything for her (phone, car insurance, health insurance, bills, food, gas etc). We have other children who are younger and she is completely depleting is financially. She doesn’t even help out around the house to make up for her lack on monetary compensation. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. I am a very loving and sympathetic person, and I feel so angry with her it’s SO difficult for me to be sympathetic and I’ve been cold to her. I’m struggling now because I want to be there for her, to understand which I do understand she can’t control her vomiting, but we have been dealing with this so long and now she went against my warnings and got pregnant and now it’s so much worse and I just feel awful. 
Any advice or tips would be appreciated.",4.41542564852028,5.514115465838512,5.097292047253684,83.81975611983925,70.32505175983437,8.332456460845208,29.31975398855194,8.671277953709913,2.1156479600535865,1922,73,388,32,34,620,225,483,0.1,0.8420000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.9556,5,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,5,1,1,6,26,10,1,2,16,1,53,17,1,5,4,81,91,39,0,10,11,2,8,0,1,5,12,2,1,2,15,34,3,7,12,0,4,6,15,6,1,0,20,11,71,4,52,59,9,57,0,2,0,1,69,15,0,6,36,274,86,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553094363141986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051253378494771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880817609274778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059434426191005314,0.0,0.32982455233299623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836038974455706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892596374152179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810414401346562,0.0,0.1733839114697614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968686921055539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068459670086038,0.0,0.08620340312422027,0.051052053595499615,0.0699169790538849,0.0,0.0,0.06946699330058052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23449345193518706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18692877316201395,0.08474904010292451,0.0,0.0,0.04038300040725076,0.0,0.13178413103076211,0.0,0.18545756541176764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924037153339113,0.0,0.0,0.08216006137828476,0.0,0.0,0.05180863590134999,0.0,0.07753232931281981,0.07677052605833921,0.0,0.08918706527256587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067500541691022,0.3835125596597565,0.13740517452046366,0.0,0.0,0.04247884051026307,0.0630050442420625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459514026059835,0.0,0.0,0.06825214586392826,0.13680577150812828,0.0,0.0,0.08437568958063779,0.0,0.06976098335608036,0.0,0.103188883571411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169544886988961,0.0,0.05682008993231862,0.1146252578080766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757318507045659,0.0,0.0,0.08110720258735482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378600713033212,0.0,0.06749026577735404,0.0,0.0,0.07306795041637212,0.0,0.0,0.07863593290588504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146740622475001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732038260671626,0.0,0.12787703046195706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094183868979999,0.0,0.06172720380184115,0.06462136597137373,0.0,0.08080462239784886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811557743893728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613629170515619,0.18028334942901636,0.0,0.0732658114078933,0.22157360288417444,0.08587663878142526,0.052477650529967085,0.0,0.0,0.1609318611129471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275515285493445,0.04559008916592868,0.0,0.24800280226762336,0.09412344508002457,0.06949671873834723,0.07165244651322322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056271057909968315,0.0,0.07876933687218847,0.16472262815126298,0.0,0.0,0.04977489499832144
parenting,lilasdara,2020/03/17,"4MO won’t nap or sleep w/o me So I guess I’ll start with the current way he sleeps. He goes to bed around 7:30pm. The routine is we change his diaper, put him in a sleep sack, turn on white noise, and darken the lights, then he eats, usually in bed, until he falls asleep. He will then sleep until about 6:30am waking about every 2 hours to get a snack. He is exclusively breastfed. Throughout the day he will have 1-2 naps in my arms that last for 1-3 hours and 0-2 naps in his swing for about 20m-1.5 hours. 

The problems are that he associates eating with sleep, and won’t fall asleep otherwise, he cries if I set him down when he’s trying to sleep and he will not stop crying if I just pat his stomach or stand next to him. He only sleeps significant amounts of time if I am next to him and if I leave after he falls asleep he starts screaming if he wakes up when I’m not there, usually after about 20 min. 

I would like him to sleep in his crib by himself for naps and bedtime but I’m always stuck holding him while he sleeps on me or laying in bed next to him.  I don’t want to have to bounce him around or fight with him for hours to get him to go to sleep without me. This is extra problematic because my husband now has to sleep in another room because he can’t get enough sleep for work with the baby waking up every 2 hours in the night. 

I’m grateful that he sleeps as well as he does when I’m there, but I really wish he could sleep well if I’m not around. If I try to fight him on his sleep routines he just won’t sleep at all and gets crankier and crankier throughout the day. I’ve read lots on sleep training but they usually say to either let him cry it out or start breaking the associations, but he would never stop crying if I didn’t pick him back up. What do I do? 

TLDR: 4 month old only sleeps in bed with me, wakes up every two hours and only naps during the day in my arms. Cries as soon as I put him down and won’t stop unless I pick him back up. What do I do?",4.594462875197472,4.029516436018959,5.192618483412326,89.15189770932072,69.47393364928911,8.170774091627171,25.403238546603475,7.1686216300943375,0.8165921011058455,1544,33,363,12,24,498,181,422,0.065,0.8640000000000001,0.07,-0.179,1,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,1,0,1,1,21,7,2,0,12,0,26,31,28,2,2,61,44,41,0,14,25,1,0,1,0,9,0,2,5,0,7,20,3,4,0,6,0,6,12,4,2,1,2,4,44,3,67,31,6,80,0,0,1,0,49,27,0,15,44,210,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037567342950754576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047342358321618906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057577015941072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943314122344474,0.0,0.055044468305528296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776134796655568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036047570616569415,0.0,0.24796868589799706,0.08735154737611432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039509939786990925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239680206568868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046650685749260325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411920457668966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943533487239222,0.0,0.025659051964994614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04973639343815297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26677430505427513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03680222402240134,0.0,0.04780596422210892,0.0,0.04616761420918263,0.0,0.02205737882953418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03838381813975147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03603726904387232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03482146796540106,0.0,0.14404849372209816,0.04236900524932041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04737597561208234,0.0,0.0,0.10301288377404516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04320121736300233,0.0,0.09077384606889033,0.0,0.0,0.045160927212543035,0.0,0.028923419295957074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035904065796195116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8132636733934643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586946652999023,0.0,0.0,0.11323902787728098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026326575486975347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613060199927229,0.04910883097344032,0.04410372865194618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491747742981388,0.0,0.026629878525910797,0.03583694396719225,0.0,0.0,0.08118822366044723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05191878757344092,0.043521744659248456,0.0,0.03286879811120946,0.0,0.0,0.06414469545740874,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,libertine78,2020/03/17,"Pulling my hair out already and it’s only been one day if school from home. Well, as you can tell from the heading it’s been a bumpy morning. Anyone else stuck trying to teach their kids at home using untested electronic formats and educational websites while the kids lose their mind at how frustrating it is? Hope it’s not just me. How’s it going for you? I don’t know how teachers do it. They are truly special people.",2.248099062918339,4.793707036144582,3.0765461847389592,89.43107095046857,81.04819277108433,5.13467202141901,23.680053547523432,6.42735559955562,0.6806904953145918,336,12,65,3,9,106,63,83,0.087,0.7879999999999999,0.125,0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,3,1,5,5,1,0,3,0,7,2,2,4,0,13,12,8,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,1,1,3,1,8,3,8,9,0,7,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,2,2,43,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25900752161640744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411418249330378,0.24048738911741974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513680655002642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960694822063524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339068998246606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408794299988723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708650801318717,0.2331192692430095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289900794807332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625796426589101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236989459874605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904507920996092,0.17850698020656391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271785878077874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375383170484823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205146251768612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935219115001864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20271345497999732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103182586972294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TrashyThrower,2020/03/17,"Our really talented parent-friends are livestreaming a daily hootenanny on youtube (link below) We watched the first one yesterday, which is here (if you want to see what it's like):

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zt1U1eQR7Y&feature=youtu.be](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zt1U1eQR7Y&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR0GkfKpshQwppIh1yhf95C2bIIjgQwo9w40jAEvA1ZOKZeJvwbdbUXelXw)

Second one that's livestreaming today at 1pmEST/10amPST is linked here:

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjD4-\_misM0&feature=youtu.be](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjD4-_misM0&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR0LeXwhZuXNTsD1iPwwurvOEeQih0-NbS3wZsyaQlLviwoMdBPGNNEoO8k)

Enjoy!",47.70021739130434,60.74873184782608,21.47326086956522,-38.40706521739125,-19.47826086956522,9.817391304347826,35.413043478260875,10.125756701596842,4.398452173913044,619,11,32,6,4,127,41,46,0.0,0.807,0.193,0.8536,1,0,0,0,0,0,76.0,2,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,3,3,4,5,0,6,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,1,4,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9269797242615606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128730717564712,0.0,0.0,0.1101649764113982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696624587521498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324586795732104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583297461982775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913470507646123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362607423501216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515901069355524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410350244799225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SkyVirtuoso,2020/03/17,How are you all handling quarantine with kids? How are you dealing with having to keep your kids at home? Particularly parents without yards. Are you letting the kids play outside? Mine are young and need to get their energy out. How are you dealing with also feeling under the weather?,4.061176470588233,7.235314627450979,4.15245098039216,80.43102941176474,79.19607843137254,5.752941176470588,30.068627450980397,7.1686216300943375,2.1736509803921567,230,11,36,3,6,71,35,51,0.0,0.873,0.127,0.7149,1,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,3,1,13,11,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,9,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,1,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414098206191954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.622441008452195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526373815242495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771754962161966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028058557402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26832091736808483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086882695071713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238369438120092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351971463984936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29099732084757074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jwdeez,2020/03/17,"10 year old pushing back Why is my 10 daughter pushing back so much?  I have taken things away, timeouts, tried to reason etc.  I am at my wits end.  What course of action has worked for parents in the same circumstance, I’ll try it.  She continues to say that I treat her 8 year old brother different because I love him more.  The truth is I like his attitude a lot better because he is easier to get along with.  I’ve told her that her mouth is the problem if she would only learn to control it she would be better off.  I’m 38 and I know that this behavior is somehow cultivated by my own behavior.  I try so hard not to argue but she gets the better of me every time and I can’t do the same thing I’m telling her to do.  Control my own mouth...",1.2092473118279583,3.148261322580648,3.1329032258064515,91.00602150537635,80.93548387096773,6.197849462365593,23.23655913978495,7.3011,0.8667978494623658,575,20,126,8,15,193,99,155,0.022000000000000002,0.852,0.126,0.9165,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,6,7,9,1,0,6,0,14,3,2,3,1,20,22,6,0,4,3,3,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,2,3,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,2,23,7,16,17,8,16,0,0,0,1,19,4,0,3,10,86,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371591670150668,0.22450928772231973,0.0,0.17798408878777866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38733971353525104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274726531512885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252487054651145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930075003439195,0.0,0.16281359032946804,0.0,0.0,0.1229999626667194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254389145417716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307752719327422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023038866044002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132165307203436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411254220641355,0.13175855886745702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731690988339658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306376648165448,0.0,0.0,0.11102934782448347,0.0,0.0,0.16210078472127307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396894101001696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009848491592914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609436208997652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275986771842143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19397395071122192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512592987443526,0.0,0.0,0.13949640230878654,0.0,0.2973458489519349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173015241717964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062799453144237,0.0,0.0,0.20740930965464224,0.0,0.0,0.1880211005421904
parenting,DoubleDeMedici,2020/03/17,"Educational but entertaining YouTube channels suitable for a 1st grader during Quarantine? My sister’s school didn’t provide learning tips/alternatives during this time. Whatever, no biggie. I know we could find all sorts of stuff online and I’m sure there’s just too much chaos since this is new for everyone.

 (I just don’t know where to start entirely) 

I didn’t intend on enforcing strict learning right now anyhow since this overlaps with her break but I’d at least like to throw on an occasional video outside of our reading/ writing. She does much better with those and likes to discuss them as well. If anyone has any links I’d be grateful! Alternatively, if you have resources outside of YouTube, those are welcome and appreciated too. :)",5.536854636591481,8.276357616541354,5.412199248120302,76.00045426065164,70.57894736842105,7.741604010025062,31.384085213032584,8.59863814320734,2.802043107769423,605,27,98,11,12,188,100,133,0.051,0.71,0.239,0.9836,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,1,1,8,7,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,2,25,13,8,0,3,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,6,4,0,1,4,0,1,0,2,0,10,7,14,9,4,12,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,4,6,61,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406911774980156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841658394109354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003746223780412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089036883815846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982648888287936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164885599821765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20707247295330414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24902378872053502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137233238366533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33309652289047104,0.0,0.0,0.21881383903225912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22662211740824334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934816911309952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292916320225547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748268812595539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036090518081644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593579196294487,0.0,0.0,0.21353087920621186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210942842000056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037053742049214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newmommy1994,2020/03/17,"My 4 year old has severe ADHD I just. I’m at my breaking point. Every single day is a struggle. I stay in the bathroom on and off all day because I’m so stressed that my stomach aches all day. He doesn’t listen to anything I say. I’ve tried every tactic. He hits himself when told no or he hits me or his little sister but it’s usually himself on the forehead. He has zero impulse control. He spits on my floors and pees wherever he feels like sometimes. He even refuses to wipe his butt after pooping on the toilet. We’ve talked to doctors. I’ve spent hundreds and hundreds on items to help him. (Things like fidget toys, fidget chairs like you balance in, and all types of sheets and blankets for his sleep). I don’t know where to go or what to do (other than medication which he isn’t currently on and is a last resort for us). Someone please help me. This is just rambling really. Maybe some of you have a similar situation or a success story? Idk. I love him to the moon and back and I just want him to be ok.",1.0908695652173923,3.408541661835752,2.9122705314009667,90.21304347826089,84.07246376811594,5.145893719806764,23.0096618357488,6.498293943080001,0.6513458937198076,792,29,161,8,23,263,127,207,0.047,0.7909999999999999,0.161,0.9829,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,2,0,2,8,8,0,2,8,1,11,10,7,1,3,25,23,15,0,1,8,1,1,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,7,8,0,2,2,1,1,1,4,2,0,1,2,3,23,6,24,18,6,28,0,0,0,2,28,14,1,5,14,102,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873304744411657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827116950100706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985762353692075,0.0,0.0950194538761019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17482614807717686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30157785450267377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595438290575465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295342636894386,0.0,0.2626614403337636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788146693343365,0.11135654594646203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885868891006234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089583554779961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856643733347683,0.12705826164491538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284567537672228,0.15622687883123867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068253395409866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659656558065216,0.0,0.0,0.1570268384137851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635637319456303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17110304243850166,0.1473514838937791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998569916408959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239574049457556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609345654218814,0.0,0.0,0.17520911015084886,0.15598675132216974,0.0,0.1320716876058457,0.0,0.1541635505560247,0.0,0.0,0.16614113706951966,0.0,0.0,0.17855334752313953,0.16295353774055818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252857621605493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355587956374564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894445964623831,0.0,0.10582833694918012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874974472843848,0.0,0.17167338847109692,0.0,0.09193863042782248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037786193351757
parenting,FartassaurusRex,2020/03/17,"Parents of Reddit, what would your kids like to read about during these strange times? Hi. I’ve been writing silly stories all my life and now I’m looking for ways to help kids pass the time as we adjust to this new situation. 

Do they want to know about the virus? Or would they rather be distracted by a tale of Fartasaurus Rex? Whatever it is I’d love to hear what’s on their minds and maybe I can muster something together for them in a fun Dr. Suess sort of way. 

So if you’re at home with your little ones and want to ask them what they’d like to read about, that would be fantastic!",3.3537098255280067,4.5460170247933895,3.5987878787878778,93.20707070707071,72.96694214876031,7.03067033976125,23.36179981634527,7.3871296695380915,0.6211755739210281,464,12,105,5,9,143,89,121,0.033,0.7859999999999999,0.182,0.9526,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,6,0,6,6,0,1,4,0,10,3,0,0,1,19,18,7,0,7,3,1,0,2,0,3,2,1,1,2,7,5,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,11,5,21,11,1,11,0,0,1,1,18,4,0,3,6,62,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176029232063569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122207333087976,0.0,0.1262093269754494,0.0,0.1888739769184874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348131693152836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299743929835514,0.183981623642984,0.18871979718314733,0.0,0.0,0.15811932125970224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994245467649938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891663733990492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012300407473426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818552704722739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759271344262024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090779187121479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37668939623329467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21165005650548946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495772268116827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195911917044223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221210564716936,0.2989176179292157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012754181790067,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemondigs,2020/03/17,Are you Putting shamrocks in windows today? I saw on Facebook that local neighbors are having their kids decorate shamrocks and hang them on windows so when people take walks they can see them. Thought was a cool idea for St. Patrick’s Day!,4.943863636363638,7.5678738409090975,3.7181818181818183,87.99727272727276,71.95454545454545,5.3090909090909095,33.72727272727273,5.985473137389443,1.8992,195,10,33,1,4,56,39,44,0.0,0.9390000000000001,0.061,0.3802,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,9,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,6,1,4,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,0,3,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652710827837376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643367087955896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851614866343995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4134959910576802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32777337089952524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30926577640172864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265467026317685,0.0,0.0,0.3898887191230685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaysoul78,2020/03/17,"My 17 year old teenager and friends are treating the virus like a snow day. I'm all stocked up and ready to distance myself socially but my teenager won't.  Without going into too much detail, I failed as a parent and have zero control over this kid. The only way this child is staying in is if it's mandated by law.  I'm met with lines like:  ""everyone still goes out"" , ""you joked about the virus 3 months ago and all of a sudden its serious?"". It seems no other parent is taking it seriously either. The only difference in my town is school is closed and there's no food on the shelves, other than that nothing has changed. Unless an outside force is involved, I can tell you this right now, there is nothing that I can say or do to keep her inside.  
Is there a point at all in me distancing myself socially if she won't?

My bad parenting has finally come back to bite my backside.",5.890857142857144,5.691906800000003,6.406428571428571,80.30107142857145,66.71428571428571,9.285714285714286,32.35714285714286,8.841846274778883,2.542428571428572,690,26,136,10,10,225,118,175,0.068,0.8440000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.4186,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,2,0,2,8,9,0,0,10,0,17,1,0,1,3,24,25,11,0,2,7,3,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,2,11,10,1,2,1,1,0,2,5,4,0,1,1,1,15,5,20,22,5,27,0,1,0,0,16,13,0,4,12,97,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119241943171855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138023000068716,0.1235732050705105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656359929132105,0.1274882627990226,0.0,0.0,0.1659937613096093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544728281431897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546277327992941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414196409108785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212596161693466,0.0,0.0,0.17896129976030095,0.0,0.1143438656854467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411139344006059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154854766344856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460993114776616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813160202449036,0.0,0.10879648943045972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840185743348825,0.0,0.15530033337751215,0.0,0.0,0.22512022159754969,0.0,0.0,0.4930070106591584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990714384030886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639056440131324,0.0,0.11769495647779768,0.0,0.14978315836720715,0.0,0.13473297318711167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301733227141028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577475254917272,0.11819240490464322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127702920061876,0.0,0.1293578817047247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747492845122134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14266601093547732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530667487569287
parenting,GoatCheese1,2020/03/17,"I think my daughter is training to be a dystopian despot. She was building with blocks earlier when she ran out of pieces. She repurposed her ""workers"" into her foundation so she could reinforce the tower. 

She has a tiny puppy toy that she decided is ""poison puppy"" that follows her around. It poisons people. 

The foot of my bed is the ""poison railing"" and the workers are now lying in a pile on top of the poison railing with poison puppy standing on top of them. 

Kids are weird, man. Kids are really freaking weird.",4.5384375000000015,6.6617076354166676,5.192083333333336,79.21125000000002,71.60416666666666,7.300000000000002,29.70833333333333,8.07648339933343,2.355358333333333,407,17,67,6,8,131,62,96,0.261,0.7070000000000001,0.032,-0.9774,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,4,4,8,5,0,8,0,10,6,1,0,0,10,13,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,3,6,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,13,0,13,9,1,13,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,0,2,52,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5386276624990828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4830875724277843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194692909834659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.387614038200186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3876951248965833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrMitten,2020/03/17,"Baby (5 month old) with GERD and Severe Congestion, Help? My son (5 month old) has GERD and severe congestion, I am hoping someone out there has a similar experience and can help. He is currently taking baby claritin to try to help with the congestion but 4 days in there really hasn't been a change. He is constantly congested, wakes up with coughing fits throughout the night. We are going to give it a few more days but in the meantime does anyone have anything that worked for their little ones with congestion?

We run a humidifier every night, recently its been a hot humidifier but we also have a cold ultrasonic. He is eating enfamil A.R. and was on Lansoprazole but we took him off of it when he started Claritin as the doctor didnt like him being on it long. We use saline spray multiple times daily we are also sucking snot out 3-4 times a day.

Any suggestions are greatly appreciated, it sucks seeing him like this and I pray he will grow out of it.

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parenting,Grove-Knight,2020/03/17,"House is consistently destroyed Anyone else have this issue? No matter how much my wife or I clean, the hours upon hours picking up trash, toys, etc... It's exhausting. I have since stopped and just do the dishes now. Wife does the laundry. The rest of the house is slowly getting more disgusting but we don't have the energy to do anything about it. As soon as we get it clean, the toddler will destroy it all within a 24 hour span.  
  
All ears to advice as well. Thanks for reading.",2.2625806451612926,4.790068860215058,3.009043010752688,90.05356451612906,80.82795698924731,5.440430107526883,22.203225806451613,6.742157984588678,0.6189922580645164,376,12,73,4,10,118,69,93,0.154,0.723,0.12300000000000001,-0.311,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,6,6,3,0,8,0,9,3,1,2,2,12,12,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,5,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,5,2,11,11,6,10,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,6,53,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891353010643272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533500453075042,0.19831535216112295,0.15927556364099724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937734017740794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616866005095037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585996174270847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224428751156173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.571824741588791,0.44666256319227293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201642802654213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228188208919385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360286987135966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010696737524474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181687822975346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819528903572596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740251371107235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaRealHyperow,2020/03/17,"Am I overprotective My child is planning to buy a bike next year (he is 13) and I don't allow him to go outside of our townhome because I think that roads are dangerous, strangers are bad and he is likely to have an accident. My child (A smart honor student) always talk about wanting to go outside of our townhome (a townhome is a group of houses that looks exactly the same. There is a gate before entering or exiting a townhome) and go out with his friends but I won't let him since I think that he doesn't know how to cross a small road not a highway but a road like 2 meters wide (he believes he does) and stranger danger and non disciplined drivers. We live in a big city called Las Piñas. Should I let him ride a bike to school (he knows how to ride a bike well)",4.450000000000003,4.8228753057324845,5.038732484076434,86.90077388535035,69.828025477707,8.063439490445859,30.349681528662423,7.908726449838941,1.8260272611464967,601,23,129,7,10,193,95,157,0.08199999999999999,0.856,0.062,-0.4648,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,2,5,9,2,0,14,0,15,0,0,3,1,24,24,10,0,2,4,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,2,3,8,0,1,4,3,1,7,4,3,1,0,0,1,15,6,14,20,1,19,0,0,1,0,19,10,0,1,4,75,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665784547565976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723430626005464,0.12209530635661213,0.0,0.17043257031359926,0.22565894736328895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20451912260758456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17527567622774068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547440405230848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414893347426454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23110849044842904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014897959303684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096214696333368,0.0,0.1957037652297824,0.0,0.1768602919299158,0.0,0.16819368105017454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130113526102399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270480614860611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656824752713406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098601801121454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25667629105158724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813660035058955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180085326382849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128980596122716
parenting,Porchopcutie89,2020/03/17,"6month sleep regression? Is there an “almost 6mo” sleep regression? It’s like someone flipped a switch and overnight we went from 9:30pm-7:30am with AT MOST one visit (since like 2-3months old).... the last week or so, she’s like a newborn, 9:30, 10:30, 11:30, 12:30, 3:30, 5:30.... HELP ME!!!! 😴",3.8780769230769216,6.456706038461545,2.3083076923076935,97.03669230769232,75.15384615384616,5.6984615384615385,25.784615384615392,6.742157984588678,0.7736876923076923,222,8,45,2,5,61,46,52,0.0,0.7709999999999999,0.22899999999999998,0.9093,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,6,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,3,3,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,6,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805944450166794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187821939731014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284122987703326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4106960981680283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294038085563962,0.0,0.18988066499235864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317964128040369,0.0,0.5608339353293651,0.0,0.23742492127614964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477124986134972,0.0,0.0,0.2597617415793733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,qptbook,2020/03/17,"Is your child getting enough sleep? A study of almost 800 children followed over several years shows that those who get the fewest hours of sleep are at greatest risk of developing psychiatric difficulties later. For details, watch [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2ym0xFvXKA](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2ym0xFvXKA) or read [https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2758001](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2758001)",33.00642857142857,41.304318214285715,15.717619047619053,7.3107142857142815,9.714285714285722,11.314285714285715,40.19047619047619,11.20814326018867,5.369133333333334,423,11,29,6,3,92,39,42,0.10300000000000001,0.8079999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.3485,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,5,2,6,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,3,17,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042902153886707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31398750853713264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175277320379937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29925890706063546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303960526859308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432959756603693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6081955006931942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956876577007452
parenting,lovelybrazil628,2020/03/17,"Not in love anymore. (Sons Father) So my sons father and I currently have a 2 year old who is almost 3 . 
We have been in a relationship for 5 years,  he was working a lot when we first got into a relationship now he is so dependent upon me as the years go bye he continues to make excuses to why he can’t work anymore.  We have built a great friendship but financially he can’t do anything for our child and he waits for me to do everything.  He has moved in with me and became very insecure which has caused many arguments . 
Now I find myself enjoying dating more than being home with him . 
I’ve met incredibly nice educated men over the years but I would always feel guilty for leaving my sons father . 
I’ve tried to break it off many times but he blames me for everything and doesn’t really take me seriously when I say it’s over . 
I find myself stuck in this relationship, we barely get along because of his insecurities.  
I really want to move on , I’m just so used to being around him , my son is my first child 
I’m 24 years old 
He’s 35 years old .",2.6853990610328644,4.417723384976527,4.592136150234744,83.21571596244134,75.71361502347419,8.301408450704226,23.10093896713615,8.998388855275968,1.6350826291079803,823,24,173,19,18,281,123,213,0.11800000000000001,0.812,0.069,-0.8919,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,0,0,4,9,7,0,2,7,0,18,1,0,4,0,30,32,13,0,2,5,7,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,5,13,0,1,3,0,0,3,4,3,0,2,5,2,25,4,28,24,2,34,0,0,0,1,36,11,0,3,20,103,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137419563090388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451430043901847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22529751245592056,0.0,0.0,0.09347323093341016,0.1011173861071418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924217959404866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668614685194174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041711082069324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057433496679633524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20763471561347407,0.1932357590716852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05934503246882637,0.0,0.06455466785550712,0.0,0.09084668573375508,0.12523115125053852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393800743014858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027327221912608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656844042477723,0.10251758860345883,0.0,0.0758208600674928,0.23032077099275025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24145209763860584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575744389318349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553473982151208,0.0,0.0,0.3658529509340131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903297224425001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540402632982866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623406580465943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711878372537792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810354649035977,0.0,0.0937219811167148,0.06699713479741705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249548635212692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538680756978566,0.0,0.0,0.08068964347542579,0.0,0.0,0.4388816180103504
parenting,calam_n_fish,2020/03/17,"How-do-you-make-babies joke Okay, so this is my first post, so be gentle there. Our parents explained it to us , so no dialogues here. When we were little, my brother and I of course asked my parents how do we make babies, because we wanted a little bro or sis and they did not wanted us to get one. So we asked them how babies are made. 
They explained to us that you need 3 things ; a mother's belly , dad's seeds and a little bit of love.  That was cute, they said that daddy had to put his seeds in mummy 's belly with the love. When we asked how, they told us to guess -this is why we thought  babies were made by the bellybutton, they did really had fun with us- and then, finally, we asked them why they would not make us a little brother then. My father, had this brilliant idea to mess with us, which we sometimes did not notice, as we were little. 
He basically told us with a huge smile accros his face  :"" You know what ? If you find the good seeds, we'll make you one"". My mother laughed but we took it seriously. We have apparently searched for hours  even going in the basement, searching  in mom's gardening seeds, ripping of the labels and bringing them to the parents to ask if these were the good ones . We eventually got fed up, and never asked my parents to have a sibling again.",4.455671778439001,5.120858412451367,4.952574959945071,86.48124971389336,69.93385214007782,7.447837033646143,25.62348363469901,7.285733465282438,1.0463670862897692,1000,27,208,9,17,319,132,257,0.022000000000000002,0.8690000000000001,0.109,0.9557,5,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,22,4,9,1,13,11,0,0,13,1,20,4,1,8,1,49,50,22,0,6,7,13,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,12,22,1,0,6,2,0,4,5,2,0,4,20,1,44,9,23,27,1,24,0,0,0,2,64,10,0,4,9,145,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792761487563874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121864609933668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382016269473465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04466033715315754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407102945006283,0.06180063879404365,0.05751491658414708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035327049284515036,0.0,0.03842825318319519,0.11342772684302475,0.054079426882731374,0.0,0.07448765925053738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658904462112425,0.0,0.0,0.07633127095890216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037160490234046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388495811681544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205381830489208,0.1279615269433642,0.1805392733961787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919211807087362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501370885149621,0.05215033622483385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698231020900924,0.0,0.0,0.13745692234349566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003223455920385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475831716203294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797367930636321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043317129609663066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431917389179541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687486164750693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044921676321243366,0.0,0.0,0.05368028063939777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922172713432753,0.07512488472934746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6506786228614887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976442119744134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202750414548838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048033119087156635,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NeatDisk3,2020/03/17,"My dad pushed me down in parking lot 
I’m a 26 y.o female . I had car issues recently and my dad let me use his car . I told him I’d put gas in it but drove passed the gas station without thinking and headed home . As soon as I pulled in the driveway my dad said did you fill up the tank ? I apologized and said I forgot but I can go to the bank around the corner and get money for a full tank or drive back to the gas station . I had a long day at work and must’ve zoned out . My dad became infuriated by this and said he was coming with me and screamed at me the entire time . I said I was sorry and that I am going to pay for the gas . When I got out of the car my dad got in my face and shoved me on the ground . Thankfully two men told him to stop and I got up and ran away . This is probably a stupid question - but is this abuse ?",0.8811594202898547,1.9831994347826123,2.9179130434782614,95.99085507246376,79.1086956521739,5.993623188405797,19.331884057971013,6.42735559955562,-0.24308942028985525,632,13,161,5,15,214,104,184,0.139,0.826,0.035,-0.9666,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,1,0,14,0,10,2,2,1,0,27,30,18,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,5,16,0,2,2,0,3,14,1,2,0,1,17,5,27,1,26,12,2,39,0,0,0,0,19,17,0,3,8,103,32,2,0.0,0.17265581046984224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297227754437875,0.0,0.0,0.13690987771057087,0.11205061898478018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552592310579172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397812802653402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613332006526335,0.0,0.16563344849905645,0.0,0.34963970095405456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955200647228362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461702593529545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520950881987876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14900981456511428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895868910143585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388696538206273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711211551271428,0.0,0.0,0.14649006886950255,0.1632411099143863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388211921100338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544569785944536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631229690691015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182946014258413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341605158909962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337227017688914,0.0,0.0,0.08497121193384995,0.0,0.0,0.27848573007245825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234845227825274,0.0,0.0,0.12585634203522264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404700505389118,0.0,0.10608677956235706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zinfandelightful,2020/03/17,"Success stories blending families with very involved extended families? I'm about to initiate a divorce after a year-long separation. One of the issues I am dreading dealing with is sharing my kids with their grandparents, aunts/uncles, and cousins on their father's side. My kids are VERY close to all of them, in fact closer to some of them than they are to their own father. Right now, the kids and I spend a LOT of time with their father's family -- multi-week family vacations, holidays, birthdays, baby showers, graduations, weddings, funerals, etc. 

I want them to continue to spend as much time as possible with their extended family, but I anticipate that when we get divorced, I will no longer be welcome, and my future partners will really not be welcome. 

Is this basically a fact of dividing up families? Or is there a version of events where we can do everything so smoothly that I am still going to be allowed to be around for things that they want my kids to participate in? I don't want to have to be apart from my kids for as much time as is taken up by these family events, but I also can't in good conscience deprive them of the opportunity to participate in them. I am especially worried about how to blend future partners into the mix.

Does anyone have a success story where the two parents got divorced, but everyone stayed cordial and still had a good relationship with their ex-in-laws? Or is this just a pipe dream?",9.877189054726363,8.017337365671647,9.807313432835825,64.52711442786072,59.67164179104478,13.261691542288554,41.36318407960199,12.00992498983062,5.029655721393034,1146,51,196,29,12,379,145,268,0.07400000000000001,0.815,0.11,0.8361,4,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,2,0,13,3,14,10,0,1,13,0,24,0,0,2,3,32,32,17,1,3,7,5,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,7,15,0,0,0,2,2,1,4,2,0,2,3,1,29,8,47,22,8,31,0,1,0,0,37,16,0,4,13,151,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918131585758937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797633836260795,0.0,0.0,0.09927512131712582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497069182006142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759060366108872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124372622398402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656071974813608,0.1002256501924334,0.0,0.7359081148843714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058263821136248714,0.0,0.06337854180834683,0.1870728782199788,0.08919154355830755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163963558520726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869037616289816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480905319701782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395787947285698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556783163386696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382811316810925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572036927849745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144161606555073,0.0,0.0,0.11972915007157672,0.0,0.09523620216561486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886389858307747,0.17811765967273194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408794584688484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950820280634108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893738451774247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840289074637401,0.19732952781827245,0.0,0.08945342574158284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325246484238985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718142671423952
parenting,Tossaway478,2020/03/17,"My daughter said her friend's mom told her she had ""nappy"" hair. What do I say to the mom? With school being closed and me having to work, I dropped my daughter off at her friend's house today. The mom agreed to babysit. When I picked my daughter up I asked if she had fun with her friend. She said she did and asked if she could get her hair styled differently tomorrow. I asked what she had in mind and she said that her friend's mom told her she had ""nappy"" hair and needed to tell her mommy, meaning me, to do something about it. The friend's mom has never said anything to me about my daughter's hair before. 

My daughter wears her hair out most days and it naturally kind of just puffs out. Sometimes I put it in a ponytail but my daughter doesn't like having her hair touched so I don't always do it. It looks fine though. My daughter is African American, as is the woman who criticized my daughter's hairstyle. I know I need to say something. She made my baby feel bad about her hair but what do I say? My daughter is 7.",2.1888516746411497,4.128583004784693,2.8148325358851665,94.4738277511962,77.80382775119618,5.356937799043063,22.961722488038287,6.05967700443912,0.240515789473684,804,25,175,5,19,250,97,209,0.055,0.9059999999999999,0.04,-0.7206,1,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,7,10,0,0,5,0,19,8,8,2,1,26,36,13,0,5,5,14,9,1,5,0,0,7,0,1,10,10,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,12,17,43,9,21,22,1,15,0,0,1,0,54,8,0,3,6,113,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141048485669318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805137531152804,0.0,0.2744007925612125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169207947244328,0.0,0.0,0.08325439552516596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811705516804075,0.0,0.0,0.0630985253530246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222168332751387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04947070221104837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37795362503675256,0.0,0.05111721553967973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128939007234011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018850124484784,0.053770151408782434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779954514041747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216072327736007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925783087751066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065761378293151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879022627973844,0.5729434881286581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509382538635654,0.07546002372861907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835594216048704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.372271915345299,0.2334182171435269,0.0,0.099019020102178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064359301874986,0.09676598488287247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855162277823861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961270281880035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274061450754333,0.18698009067036567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122848146056003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imhidingmyidentity19,2020/03/17,"Strong willed 2 year old I'm sorry if I'm all over the place, I rarely post anywhere,  I'm emotional and on A mobile device. 

Backstory: I am going thru a divorce. Because of this I had to quit my job (father refused to watch the boys, a 11 year old and 2 year old), and move in at my parents to save up and basically start over. I hate it, but that's another story. 

My preteen is well..a preteen. All symptoms of preeteenness. This post is more to do with my 2 year old

My two year old is STRONG WILLED and alot of energy. Way more than I remember with my oldest. He is not fazed by disipline of ANY form. I have to constantly stay on his butt. It's tiring. He also doesnt seem to feel pain like ""normal"" people, and I could just reading to much into it, but when given shots, a paddling (please dont come for me, it's very rare) or a fall, basically anything I have seen kids wail over Mali looks at you and then walks off with no pain, no remorse nothing. 

I have noted this and brought it up to his doc but he didnt seem fazed by it, so I dropped it. Well, my mom wont drop it. If the two year old is hyper at bed time she mentions getting him on some type of meds, If he tells her no, she says he needs medicine, Running around not wanting to listen? Medicine. I dont allow him be disrespectful, so it takes a lot of patience, Dr, pepper, and energy keeping up with him. It's just constant and tiring. 

But tonight just topped the cake. Me and my boys was talking before I put them to bed and she came in to say goodnight. And Mali was in his bed but he was acting silly and wouldnt be still. She started her crap up that if he was on meds he wouldnt be acting like this and I am just a GET THIS defiant 31 year old that is making him suffer just so I dont do what she thinks is right. And was comparing my 11 year old to him at that age, and tried to get my 11 year old to agree with her.  And I just broke down. 

And now I'm here feeling like a really stuiped middle age woman that might just be over my head with a preteen and toddler. He is really strong willed and no discipline seems to faze him but I dont feel like doping his up right now is a solution to the problem. 
I just needed to get that off my chest.",1.5174999999999983,2.9837705350318515,3.182292462845009,93.21968073248408,78.25690021231424,6.153736730360935,21.753768577494693,6.853354925485097,0.3371345647558388,1706,47,396,17,40,566,209,471,0.098,0.802,0.1,0.0146,2,0,0,0,1,0,57.0,0,1,1,5,19,17,2,0,16,0,40,10,4,2,2,80,72,38,0,12,21,3,3,4,0,7,6,3,3,4,22,31,0,3,8,1,0,11,15,7,1,2,11,9,51,10,59,49,9,79,0,2,3,1,44,30,2,12,36,255,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05106536074613968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04342404914578772,0.06695824359697393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254778020300579,0.056845089517081775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03892582718871872,0.0,0.05433647678461341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303388159643935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0550060104037404,0.0,0.1380106004645357,0.0,0.05098356102216322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29935350515380543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182904036623038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968620447696342,0.09123701488532326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334478199232761,0.0,0.03629065202598828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630442596220922,0.06553434557881478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336690498930919,0.056757858507960376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478663058948188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05362268508234928,0.0,0.0,0.054287811936267284,0.0,0.0,0.042624159343200685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418585208289859,0.0,0.0,0.06774078083491412,0.0,0.07478699555794104,0.0,0.06786847758213715,0.046941268930273485,0.09469634876291176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256500429240494,0.06127124298237688,0.0,0.6030521092158103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589388210098566,0.0,0.07090417099856226,0.0,0.0,0.044269485315679535,0.0,0.06671559006551912,0.07009435636316831,0.0,0.0,0.12231217186544605,0.0,0.0,0.0611012576987908,0.0,0.06419259108327338,0.0,0.0679183712032643,0.06387295590177226,0.0,0.08181516187763435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233603259036703,0.10906479620564033,0.0,0.1015611925105806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439542657837426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148120094796595,0.0903947517755387,0.06806165397391216,0.050995225059084784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637049690090645,0.0480115211512121,0.05132477327671762,0.05581267507011994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040916138576748286,0.0,0.0,0.037234757984712465,0.14678541121848426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0433538121690821,0.0,0.1247554330331412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268761991783347,0.03766373194132814,0.050685663093183835,0.0,0.0,0.11482784233373047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700886537469246
parenting,KaliRa73,2020/03/17,"Found a bunch of vaping stuff in my son's room today. Found a bunch of vaping stuff in my son's room today. He's 17 years old, he'll be 18 in May. He's at work right now and honestly, I'm not sure how to handle this. Some of the cartridges are nicotine and some pot.

He struggles with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. He was bullied a bunch in middle school and we didn't find out about it for awhile. He is taking meds for this. We have tried to get him to go to a therapist on a regular basis, but he hasn't found one he likes. So right now he goes to see a psychiatrist every couple of weeks, but that is just a check-in to continue the prescription. I include this because he asked us what we thought of him getting a medical marijuana card when he turns 18 to treat his anxiety and depression. He says he feels like the meds don't do anything.

These are crazy times and I am really worried about his health.",3.800481781376519,4.549183542105265,5.01526315789474,85.13722672064779,71.47368421052632,9.004048582995951,26.19433198380567,9.265573868473778,1.8960607287449398,723,22,157,15,13,240,114,190,0.127,0.807,0.065,-0.8389,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,1,8,9,0,1,11,0,13,2,0,1,1,26,27,11,0,0,4,2,1,2,0,2,2,1,2,0,9,11,0,0,6,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,6,3,12,5,24,18,5,24,0,3,1,0,25,13,0,3,12,90,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19967127710891608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073941410892951,0.0,0.1220041557750562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955437434222301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440082405065394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22480678917119185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099557285228471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598703162468182,0.09323249061432333,0.0,0.0,0.11927881234529387,0.0,0.0,0.4292745736781531,0.0,0.0,0.1363665025005127,0.0,0.07416875439542472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872025483986186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275158813541851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28992231340260066,0.13146962411755028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369425925872045,0.0,0.08843327386097971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360456906063166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22290037878543464,0.0,0.10378247183364804,0.0,0.13207759176436715,0.10399524550550336,0.0,0.1361447281052696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364317117493178,0.2987930185459563,0.0,0.0,0.1229990124110166,0.0,0.09812319486199744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515258639704878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360605077833844,0.07609826403679812,0.0,0.2474061450065679,0.0,0.0,0.08860403622870595,0.14195149641867472,0.0,0.0,0.1569809286519665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468289383683883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950088809870652,0.1325337252941571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404066407646915
parenting,Pheonix_0113,2020/03/17,"I'm sort of at my wits end Heya, I'm new to this sub, and I could really use some advice or guidance or something.

I have a 4 year old little girl. She is absolutely the light of our lives and I just love her to death. But I'm losing my mind. My husband is losing his mind. We are collectively losing our minds. 

Our girl has been screaming and tantruming from the time she gets home to the time she goes to bed for several months now. She throws herself everywhere, slams doors, and WAILS. Its non stop, and we simply dont know what else to do. 

We have tried holding her or giving her space during a tantrum. We have tried giving her alone time, and we have turned time outs into moments for her to decompress- ""If you need a minute to calm down, please go sit in your room, and when you feel better we can talk calmly."" We have tried cutting out triggers, and we minimize sweets and processed foods already. We keep a routine. We talk to her about it. We have asked her about it. Recently, we are just heading down the road of discipline because at this point her screaming for hours on end is always accompanied with smiling while making eye contact. Maybe we aren't setting boundaries, right? Maybe we are too lenient?

We don't spank, we try to handle things calmly, but at this point we are so worn down we are having issues being calm. We grew up in screwed up homes and we refuse to do the same to our kid. Unfortunately voices have been raised but it is literally useless. Everything we do feels useless.

We feel like we are literally powerless handling this child. We are out in open water without any inclination of how to get through it with our sanity intact and getting through to our kid that certain behaviors are just unacceptable. 

I dont understand how to get through this or how to set boundaries and get her to ACTUALLY listen to those boundaries. 

Halp? Please?",3.998750000000001,5.987974708333336,4.298888888888893,85.61500000000002,72.75,7.133333333333333,26.722222222222207,7.908726449838941,1.562705555555555,1485,53,287,21,30,464,192,360,0.12300000000000001,0.794,0.083,-0.9572,1,1,1,0,0,0,43.0,30,3,0,4,12,20,4,0,9,0,33,6,2,6,1,81,58,26,1,3,12,1,3,1,0,0,0,4,5,5,14,43,2,5,6,0,0,3,5,11,0,0,3,10,55,9,49,53,2,47,0,5,1,2,63,24,1,7,18,193,69,0,0.0,0.0,0.0948991522818274,0.0,0.0,0.09502875138368387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007186788126967,0.10731460520268056,0.0,0.08091738666436576,0.0,0.0,0.06613137023266351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091292139978197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05928093625694383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600716698612662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764390507243442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22794577969120824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123748277253046,0.0,0.17226415176703466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739943284631256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751318382695955,0.06947335553678588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759159264548524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540380088824595,0.18657658026806415,0.05526777424781434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980359168896888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19509356277659295,0.0,0.09576881540655892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150071830231673,0.0,0.08643770050097133,0.0,0.0,0.05344446897970079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04751002629841202,0.09746715296524372,0.08587098067192837,0.0,0.0,0.3263839271193216,0.0,0.0,0.08776931446767426,0.0,0.06491320173569491,0.0,0.19539558782031166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945755802563766,0.0,0.0776217162170162,0.0,0.0,0.07210750060060922,0.0,0.0939218657990362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204448428065976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21349625026032795,0.18385990589807327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229898946791304,0.0,0.09601979014397137,0.0,0.0,0.08304850145377153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986155515221124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486557711985764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130293924215183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632708835027534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460665942634021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268222898830708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26409761963241835,0.1057769315685137,0.0,0.1012376721654914,0.0,0.08399028049335115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374274474286363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262395111897981
parenting,bri-14,2020/03/17,"Ideas for learning while stuck at home I’m a nanny for a 10 year old girl and 8 year old boy. For the next few weeks they’ll be out of school but their mom wants them to continue learning and maintaining a somewhat structured schedule. The girl is no problem, she was assigned work from her school and works through it on her own and asks me for help if needed. 
The boy, on the other hand, is not having it whatsoever. His school didn’t assign anything specific so his mom bought math and grammar workbooks but he refuses to do it bc it’s boring and wasn’t assigned by his teacher. He has bad adhd so sitting down to work is always a challenge and I can’t imagine how I’m going to try to force him to do that everyday for the next few weeks. Any ideas on fun activities or games we could play instead that are educational? We played a math dice game and a word game on my phone today and that was a success! But I need more ideas bc I’m trying to fill at least 4-5 hours a day with learning. I feel like the kids should be allowed to just have fun and play given the circumstances but their mom has a much different viewpoint so trying to reach a compromise!",3.8322781655034888,4.939532686440682,4.5741176470588245,86.99441176470589,71.71186440677965,7.417347956131606,27.44167497507477,7.724431198458867,1.4463412761714858,918,32,192,11,17,295,141,236,0.062,0.7859999999999999,0.151,0.9732,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,4,5,6,11,0,0,17,0,20,1,1,2,0,41,32,21,0,7,8,3,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,5,8,14,0,1,8,6,1,2,5,3,0,0,7,2,18,8,27,20,7,26,0,0,0,0,30,8,0,3,16,121,26,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287041920971466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891751787031368,0.0,0.0,0.08084234138592834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782794718157233,0.0,0.11113656653923576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925966839901618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491584792994463,0.0,0.0,0.07666763710086294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420408999015535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060109199430913626,0.08492775373882665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756213061460822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968262487342925,0.0,0.11924613348168897,0.0,0.11707265768098342,0.0,0.0,0.4026024764060536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05807866602125241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176917591787584,0.0,0.0,0.08739033237571661,0.17629573255572029,0.0,0.0,0.25286003450081124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24948870727295186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375191469159394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609381165472643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268415129822892,0.0,0.0,0.2421347446426007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011838682400491,0.0,0.1907164116256471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596377334007852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310938870568602
parenting,DreaGrace,2020/03/17,"My son is asking really hard question now and I don't know how to answer because of my mistakes My son is only a child. I try to avoid these questions because I have no idea how to answer him without saying anything that wont hurt him. My son finished coming out of a heart transplant surgery and He asks me questions like why isnt daddy here or why his dad doesnt loves him like how his sisters are loved by the man who's raising them (which is not their biological father? I know I'm hated, I know I'm going to be called a w, or will gonna say this is my karma. But if anyone can give me advise, I would so appreciated.",9.218409090909091,4.860640992424244,9.634787878787881,73.00718181818183,63.31818181818181,11.469090909090907,37.763636363636365,7.554174236665415,2.8763527272727263,489,15,104,3,5,167,91,132,0.11599999999999999,0.7659999999999999,0.11699999999999999,0.2792,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,6,8,1,1,4,0,14,3,1,3,0,25,28,10,0,3,6,6,1,2,0,4,0,2,0,2,5,4,0,1,9,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,0,3,20,4,9,23,0,5,1,1,0,2,29,1,0,6,4,66,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831386907572628,0.0,0.1274744298933658,0.0,0.2896323774146171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18885850590985626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817633403878734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343779299214376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859993959301526,0.08803664321498318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876533928053433,0.1529375936020195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835643425087672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583006479581286,0.17487000607390948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25539684082173203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513584829963792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27961740555600073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781298477348798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5205904778936924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923674298603677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463749194459043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517099806323853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795571215183193,0.0,0.0,0.14932384531926568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004076993611618,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wyrdwarrior,2020/03/17,"FaceTime Games/Activities for Kids?? My only kiddo is already sick of being home with just adults. We’re arranging FaceTime with friends and cousins, but just a chat isn’t enough. What are some games or activities that elementary-aged kids can play over FaceTime?",6.231739130434782,8.980478478260874,5.312391304347828,77.45815217391308,68.56521739130434,8.078260869565218,33.23913043478261,8.841846274778883,3.0619304347826093,214,10,35,4,4,64,38,46,0.047,0.8290000000000001,0.124,0.5484,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,8,5,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5221294551468966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4888873078521521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655521810761735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4746049964160188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598495971603739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spookymama2020,2020/03/17,My baby doesn’t like me I’ve been feeling this way for a while. When I pick her up she starts crying. When dad leaves the room it’s like we took her favorite toy away. It’s breaking my heart because I’m a good mom. She’s always smiling and so happy. Is this Normal? She just turned 1 in January.,-1.5207528409090898,0.33646945312500165,0.6915909090909089,100.46704545454548,104.46875,2.952272727272728,15.193181818181818,4.851557810540192,-1.0918875,231,6,53,1,11,76,51,64,0.045,0.672,0.28300000000000003,0.9359,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,1,0,6,8,5,0,1,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,10,4,4,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,6,30,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177205809548686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24583648939879785,0.0,0.0,0.1595044083040581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874192429477787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230224638257065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946648140466396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785400162845336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100662233509318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770582502251775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556659564347146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064509179849816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563694778230193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520301862625746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907118845870577,0.0,0.284608981358292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20769209763948585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hungy_Bear,2020/03/17,"A little humor in chaotic times I feel that over the last few days, the tension in the air has been palpable. Today however, my 2 y/o daughter put a thermometer in my ear and told me “you are very sick. Your temperature is 8 o’clock”.

Kids are the best",0.8288235294117676,3.2001227647058847,3.226960784313725,87.06632352941178,86.05882352941177,6.537254901960785,24.18627450980393,7.793537801064563,1.5336509803921559,195,8,40,4,6,67,43,51,0.161,0.7290000000000001,0.11,-0.4257,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,0,5,2,1,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,6,2,4,5,2,12,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,5,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888192476296205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23894329693876654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733706726186128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020087796978012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713405836109734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724570893195822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21604283837856705,0.0,0.3511928062752641,0.35403077232568875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057031540028625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theowaway_1,2020/03/18,"Are you paying for daycare this week? I send my 18 month daughter to daycare and my 3.5 year old son to preschool. This week they are home due to all the craziness. I requested for a refund for this week and I was told that emergency closures are covered by the contract. A few of my friends mentioned that their daycare is refunding them. 

I asked my daycare to show the contract and she did not reply yet. Before I make a big deal out of this with the daycare provider, I wanted to check to see if other parents who send their kids to daycare did get a refund or not. 

Money is tight right now and the refund would go a long way to cover expenses for us.",3.6364122137404595,5.0560697786259565,4.201442748091605,88.27285114503815,72.58778625954199,6.461374045801527,29.130534351145037,6.742157984588678,1.4142512977099235,515,21,103,4,10,163,80,131,0.042,0.934,0.025,-0.2732,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,10,0,9,0,0,1,1,15,16,6,0,3,4,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,8,6,0,1,0,1,8,3,2,0,0,0,4,2,17,1,17,11,2,17,0,0,1,0,20,3,0,2,10,73,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20661709136498174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806557611806698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22785444573314245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075390624141354,0.0,0.1154700425050274,0.0,0.12560664188850093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169381351014314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558933327970715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475277301324269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641027242972734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23191570799043856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454085092943411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887436851483676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611855109059624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21118715866420096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658511316421435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035904912237706,0.17542963759558894,0.5318493022512009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570011199626054,0.0,0.0,0.14232496801073471
parenting,ImPavlovinIt,2020/03/18,4 year old learned about her Jana today I’m sitting in the bedroom doing laundry while my husband is helping our 4 year old go potty. I can hear him talking to her wiping her “front butt” and how it’s time to call it a vagina instead. She’s explaining to him how she wipes her Jana and it’s a pretty hilarious conversation to over hear 😂,3.6025714285714305,4.597248400000002,5.210000000000001,82.64500000000002,72.14285714285714,7.314285714285713,29.714285714285715,7.554174236665415,1.810657142857143,268,11,54,3,5,91,49,70,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,2,2,0,6,8,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,11,0,7,8,0,12,0,0,0,2,17,2,1,0,7,33,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562501787266594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262187637249613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5656825691855996,0.0,0.16820792018179773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5266640829903488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25530853101094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017058129425844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463322027461108,0.0,0.2378732723405373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232098826488057
parenting,parentingasasport,2020/03/18,"Help! My 6 year old is peeing in his bedroom! My 6 yr old son keeps peeing in his bedroom on purpose. I'm not talking about bed wetting. This is an ongoing problem that we have talked about a few times. Last time (about 2 weeks ago) his dad had him clean out a bin that he had peed in. I thought it was over, but I've just found an area of his room that he must have been marking for days. I just lost it! Help!!",0.07882646691635388,1.8858009775280917,1.5250936329588003,101.74159800249687,84.1685393258427,4.404993757802747,20.001248439450688,5.033348758259628,-0.5951732833957553,313,9,79,1,9,100,63,89,0.054000000000000006,0.85,0.095,0.56,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,4,0,9,2,2,0,1,11,14,1,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,7,1,10,0,11,6,1,17,0,1,0,0,14,8,0,0,9,45,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010834719851293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152861506202675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598856610295738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31774570123534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106786965714694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193206997402687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587407696282979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4974356979872598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268008989284415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810234078598475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817136148422006,0.27642234874922633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901271451754291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263631863684088
parenting,indpers,2020/03/18,"Allergen-free kids snacks for daycare? Hi all,

I have a friend whose kid has a few allergies. She struggles to find snacks to pack for daycare (wheat free, egg free, nut free) and her kid is over chopped fruit and veggies when he sees his daycare buddies having treats.

What go to snacks would you recommend? Also, are there any suitable snacks that you can buy in the grocery store (beyond pouches and puffs)?

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Thanks!",4.255714285714287,6.7088047012987015,3.2584415584415574,91.29337662337663,73.41558441558442,5.9584415584415575,27.883116883116887,6.868970318607317,1.27484935064935,330,13,62,3,7,95,61,77,0.03,0.7809999999999999,0.19,0.9264,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,0,4,7,0,1,3,0,7,6,0,0,1,6,10,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,3,6,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,9,8,9,2,5,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,0,1,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32819314357130946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27908302198429985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37509406405129336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31707055540744983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23323722767516086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32703208987149435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290344967334452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778370501060185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29153319769888536,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hillyc88,2020/03/18,"My mom bought my kid a chrome book : a lesson in being grateful. My mom works in a middle school in my home town about an hour north from me, and like most public school workers she is home for the foreseeable future. All of the middle and high school kids in her district use chrome books normally and have for a few years. From what she has told me the high school students regularly take the chrome books home. They have offered wifi also to their students who may not have access during this time. Their district was really prepared for distance learning in the midst of all this mess going on. My kid is in first grade in a charter school and his school generally follows along with what my county’s public school does as far as holidays and inclement weather/emergency procedures and closures. The kids were out of school last week as a one week extension to spring break and today it was announced they would be out through at least April 17th. In the email today the admins included brief instructions on distance learning for our charter school. 

My dear mother went out and bought my kid a chrome book to do his school work. We have a laptop but she said she wanted him to have a dedicated computer to use because she wanted to have him up there a few days a week, help him with his school work and give my husband and I, and his dad/my ex husband a break a few days a week while we all work full time through all of this. We have jobs that thankfully won’t be pausing during the crises, but make it difficult to shuffle around and entertain a seven year old, let alone educate one! I was super annoyed that she made these executive decisions while I was at work before I could digest what was happening but honestly I needed her to do this. It has been overwhelming having to constantly figure out what to do with my son every day, and she has felt useless being out of work and not having kids to take care of. This is a great solution. Pretty nice of that lady. I am very lucky to have her. 

Also, this makes me  feel super guilty for how annoyed I have been in the past about school projects and extras.. I would give ANYTHING to have school back in right now!! My kid misses his friends and he needs the social connections and educational stimulation. I have taken it for granted and I AM SO SORRY. I will never complain about making a poster or doing a science project again. I WILL MAKE ALL THE SHIRTS. I WILL DO ALL THE BAKE SALES. 

We will survive this chaotic time, and I will be a more grateful person for it.",7.010864197530862,6.8249666707818974,6.58061728395062,79.94277777777779,64.39094650205762,9.422222222222222,31.37448559670782,8.841846274778883,2.3740238683127566,2006,65,382,27,27,624,230,486,0.063,0.7909999999999999,0.146,0.9926,1,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,5,0,4,12,12,20,2,1,33,0,50,3,1,9,7,74,79,32,0,8,6,7,2,1,1,9,1,1,4,8,21,33,2,0,7,6,3,4,4,8,0,4,16,3,55,12,62,47,14,65,0,3,0,0,56,30,0,4,30,275,76,35,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06069133337171322,0.0,0.09372388067940804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04822233515785534,0.052165913539659034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045059341985465136,0.0,0.03572166660017696,0.0,0.049863796047749584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597460209410715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332516240673684,0.0,0.04678687392033913,0.0,0.0,0.11337534718509515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128075317687133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049372544345283785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029629630842073824,0.0,0.05626463922416642,0.0,0.0,0.049844642393262736,0.0,0.0,0.04527377168606902,0.0,0.0,0.11242781940638236,0.033303404603077895,0.0,0.0,0.06460607478209084,0.0,0.0,0.051819279480124616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03927796047659445,0.12382702322544364,0.17634000857728946,0.0,0.05770863131815451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581508889339469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047766353900495793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059921884006658,0.0,0.028628719901479638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544819439367731,0.15646228934725442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726188057084784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869014647360705,0.0451954903909526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057414996304038575,0.0,0.0,0.06149024080964561,0.0,0.0794169761585932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593978342354665,0.0,0.05116675908636868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05961668380149347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037540293251357895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050043590197657264,0.05574147390053399,0.0,0.0,0.7709747274844718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973473589419837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559726055567328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811895214023815,0.0,0.0,0.05395047900003073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025093908129193,0.0,0.11109080927142766,0.05599426341014357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122217990736954,0.0,0.04835066403437016,0.06912692022208225,0.0,0.1880197016594014,0.0,0.0,0.054322255609210994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25596648320628346,0.0,0.0,0.08325470281885937,0.0,0.0,0.07547221904060071
parenting,Feeling_Criticism,2020/03/18,"Time to buy new clothes? My 13yo son plays sports. His clothes don't stink after the wash but does shortly after he puts them on. I ended up buying new gym clothes. He wears a school uniform and that is starting to stink after wearing it. 

What I learned about his laundry is that not all the bacteria is washed out and grows because he's damp after a shower. I've tried washing it professionally and even dry cleaning. 

Should I just buy new clothes?",3.38887931034483,5.673775517241381,3.2995258620689683,90.7761853448276,75.4367816091954,5.269540229885059,28.11637931034483,5.985473137389443,0.9933,358,15,70,2,8,108,62,87,0.0,0.9229999999999999,0.077,0.6571,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,5,5,2,0,1,10,6,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,5,4,0,0,1,3,3,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,7,1,10,5,1,16,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,10,39,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239908370802394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331343445140375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359573091208517,0.0,0.0,0.17595914757328535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7718919053403872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678123684366746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26961785644402464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856407070286027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534391984763807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180872697640429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DRF0320,2020/03/18,"Quaran-crazy diary-potty training edition Quaran-crazy day 16 (because mine started 2 weeks ago with my foot surgery). So potty training has gone less than stellar for those keeping score.  I decided we needed to take drastic measures.  I read/heard, just let them run around naked.  Cool. I can't walk, I'm fed up chasing her and trying to change diapers; oh I'm sorry, ""pull-ups."" We're going naked. 3 min in, she finds the diapers and runs them to me and says put one on. ""Hell no kid. Get out of here with that sh*t. And don't be peeing on the floor either. You have 3 toilets to choose from, pick one."" Enjoy being naked playing in your room while I sit on the couch doing nothing per usual for the last 2 weeks. 2 more min go by. I hear her run in hands outstretched and turn my head. Turn my head to her outstretched hand.....turn my head to a giant, steaming log of SH*T!!!! JESUS F**KING CHRIST!!! My child just shat on the floor, picked it up and bought it straight to my face!!!
Potty training attempt #503,081=FAIL",1.5563907734056954,3.9536374228855733,2.1801469923111725,95.70487449118048,82.73134328358209,4.2515603799185895,21.57417458163727,5.238671369647483,-0.09720099502487534,786,25,163,3,22,242,135,201,0.043,0.902,0.055,0.3111,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,1,2,2,1,5,4,1,0,6,1,8,8,7,2,0,21,23,8,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,4,11,1,1,3,1,1,8,3,1,0,2,3,4,22,3,27,17,3,35,3,0,0,0,13,16,1,0,10,84,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629334429718493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687335674818574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372680519605314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16265098726778618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915839219363916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052806148172314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032994238727298,0.0,0.1747634986091359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4733868450839138,0.0,0.1732915514217437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666331923865924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253297556653004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572235364081446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400639208318755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475307853391902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208374920940536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456489724219785,0.0,0.0,0.153795269810901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227108315217496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211463648411834,0.10882763324894637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156036188592544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438864376542968,0.5017194979708359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693379364141316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466638265747019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yungwashington,2020/03/18,"Fun at-home smartphone Charades game for adults and children which helps pediatric psychiatry research at Stanford Stuck at home social distancing for the foreseeable future? Spending time with a bored child who is looking for something to do? Want to help pediatric neuropsychiatry research in a fun way? Play the ""Guess What"" mobile Charades game on your smartphone. This game is similar to the “Heads Up” game by Ellen DeGeneres except that this version helps pediatric psychiatry research. Search for ""Guess What Stanford"" on the iPhone App Store ([https://apps.apple.com/…/a…/guess-what-wall-lab/id1426891832](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/guess-what-wall-lab/id1426891832?fbclid=IwAR3OO_K07WHMiGWLzjXMSWxYGRi2Gxro08gLdwNhc6ENysYPJl-MWqzythQ)) or Android Play Store ([https://play.google.com/store/apps/details…](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=walllab.guesswhat&hl=en_US&fbclid=IwAR2S6G9YIQqW0bapANQJxYJmUlZuGexgktwjSU95Imo0VJLl72oPd57Q7a4)). All children are welcome to participate (with or without autism or any other developmental delay). Also, please share the videos if you would like to help create new machine learning models for adaptive at-home therapies. Thanks for helping children all around the world receive free and personalized psychiatric therapy!",21.606564263322888,27.45252525517241,11.604702194357367,35.34097178683388,34.37931034482759,9.962382445141069,42.1473354231975,10.230975488527342,5.234586206896552,1122,42,94,17,11,271,97,145,0.024,0.713,0.263,0.9890000000000001,0,0,1,0,0,0,82.0,0,2,0,0,2,10,0,0,8,0,5,4,1,0,2,19,11,7,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,6,8,5,0,1,1,7,4,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,10,23,9,3,14,0,0,1,0,22,8,0,6,5,55,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778080868153396,0.0,0.2920608076414344,0.0,0.09165271849202557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997975982551776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5938865360502589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831968793902474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4516896134518249,0.0,0.1351919318007546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584504525699904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317841051945834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016809263197635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768173985040058,0.0,0.1479442483602746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738778408199429,0.0,0.1037576212373754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408419739403714,0.3082576056099893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785893268551303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211967077048678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949473825870783,0.10697940202363317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299198453677866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574143890873854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sillysongs4321,2020/03/18,"Looking for a website with free printable math worksheets for kindergarten / grade 1 As the title says, I’m looking for somewhere I can easily print math worksheets. Whenever I google, its linking me to Pinterest, or these silly websites want me to make an account/ give my email. 
I just need one that is easy to use. 
Thanks guys!!",5.215500000000001,7.50693621666667,4.823333333333334,81.855,70.16666666666666,7.466666666666668,33.66666666666667,8.238735603445708,2.833566666666667,263,13,44,4,5,80,49,60,0.0,0.768,0.23199999999999998,0.9097,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,8,11,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,4,8,11,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,25,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32430378713345176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347385681005809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5677807231571098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256617323310107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250671713372677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22908232381368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688437143710706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112458242053298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29198054768996085,0.0,0.0,0.19940013191806708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Santosmang,2020/03/18,"Anyone having issues logging into ABC mouse or Duolingo? Can’t log into ABC mouse on iPad, was able to on laptop. Can’t get on duolingo period. Trying to get the kids into a routine at home and this ain’t helping!!",1.3813953488372093,3.8679964418604666,3.6802790697674443,83.99437209302326,84.5813953488372,4.370232558139535,20.227906976744187,5.6839178017228535,0.3157106976744184,169,5,29,1,5,58,31,43,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.4184,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,1,19,1,1,0.4230852296616133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29583102980097137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4420891405986144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835851111882949,0.0,0.4243889816116657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4415910587731695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28724709889637184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,help_me_pls4,2020/03/18,"Looking back on childhood behavior concerns me, would like to know if my behavior was normal. So first some background: I am currently a 20 year old  male who is on college and has been very successful in school and in developing career and has never caused any trouble in his teens/adulthood. To keep it brief, to an outsider I am almost ""doing everything right"". However I've been thinking alot about my early childhood (4-10 yrs old) and I've realized that I've done some messed up things. This really scares me, because I'm afraid that I have some physcological problems that will really get me into trouble and hurt the ones that I love. I do have intrusive thoughts about hurting myself and others that really disturb and depress me. I would like to hear your parents opinions on the following childhood behaviors to see if they are normal or indicate some sort of mental illness, so that I can seek help now:

1. When I was around 4-5 years old, I jumped on my dogs tail and broke it. I don't remember enjoying it or disliking it, I think I was just confused. I was scolded by my parents and I never did anything to my dog's tail again.
2. When I was the same age, I forced my dog through an invisible fence. I wanted to see what would happen, because it kind of seemed like magic. Again don't remember enjoying it or disliking it, though I kinda remember feeling bad, but don't remember doing it more than once.
3. Around the same age,  when I was in preschool, there was a kid who wanted to jump off the playset. He told me he wanted to do it, but he seemed scared to do it. I ENDED UP PUSHING HIM OFF THE FREAKING PLAYSET MYSELF AS HE LOOKED OFF OF IT. Thank god I don't think he was injured to badly. I kinda remember feeling bad about it at the moment when I saw him cry and I certainly felt bad about it when I was put into a timeout.  
4. I used to pinch my dog a alot. Not too hard or anything, but would clench my teeth and pinch her. This behavior continued for a while, probably until I was like 9. I would never do any such thing any more to any animal and feel so terrible for doing it. MY POOR DOG I FEEL SO BAD
5. Fast forward to when I'm ten. When my dad described sex to me in second grade, he used dogs as an example. Consequently, I thought that a human's vagina was the exact same as a dog's vagina. I saw another dog humping my dog and my dog being open to it, I decided to try humping my dog one day in my room as well. I didnt understand that I needed an erection or anything, so no penetration occurred. My dog didnt really respond to it well so I didn't really end up trying it for very long before I quit and felt like i was doing something wrong.

I feel EXTREMELY terrible for what I have done, even if at a young age and it really makes me scared of myself. I loved the shit out of my dog and was absolutely shattered when she died, and so it makes me really sad to remember all of the terrible things I've done to her. I absolutely love animals and r/aww is one of my favorite places to be, and I really care about my family and the people in my life. I'm just really scared of myself/my potential to hurt these people/animals again like I did when I was younger, and it really is making me depressed. I worry that I'll never beable to be in a healthy relationship with someone because I lack the necessary phycological mechanisms, but I want to love and be loved so badly.  I would like to hear your thoughts on these incidents, so that I can get the appropriate help and prevent any damage to myself or to others from occurring.",3.2537480063795883,4.825361853146852,4.980426941479575,81.69738805054595,73.82517482517483,8.486075328180593,27.369034474297628,9.08713915112311,2.2893822843822846,2795,106,554,62,57,950,290,715,0.179,0.7040000000000001,0.11699999999999999,-0.9953,4,0,1,0,0,1,75.0,0,2,1,3,40,52,1,7,28,0,60,15,4,6,7,117,111,61,1,18,16,3,8,7,0,7,3,2,1,3,43,30,0,3,25,0,1,7,13,31,2,6,32,16,90,21,80,68,13,79,0,8,6,10,35,31,1,23,50,393,133,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285399598427752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17946936879371592,0.05534699757519258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030636889087782,0.0939751362237261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04058644346385604,0.2644268297357219,0.096527068839829,0.0,0.04491397455022879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053815222199590805,0.054222112378449074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579790392522669,0.034040311553352826,0.0,0.09092288803898596,0.0,0.05477984642466107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204430601459668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934991622724446,0.0,0.0,0.034862308257315504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04743745968266391,0.0,0.04975859325281938,0.0,0.1334419549906728,0.0,0.101358852493785,0.0,0.0,0.04489672221851016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055153299795053866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667534332028757,0.0,0.04728270473454424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897930713601106,0.0,0.07075792286416879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695141026679418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04691546385417995,0.0,0.05496479588008611,0.029007852338631082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03728180308272925,0.1805078612708431,0.0,0.0,0.04671080438296681,0.0886479232965492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381910946582882,0.0,0.1056980791497061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05319229173264788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03913751544102132,0.16283630738907345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343118202760458,0.0,0.0,0.16615889661712818,0.056211583127102005,0.10730025575953403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721732140852688,0.0,0.0,0.036592702627771305,0.0,0.05514642265423321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690840489341459,0.05050567308860869,0.0,0.05306093756604791,0.0,0.05614062920951505,0.0,0.0,0.3381378694243455,0.0,0.0,0.05666859450105941,0.3587533368834392,0.04507592110290401,0.0,0.0,0.21137774856731206,0.05341865400384156,0.0841215525433556,0.09610231425280072,0.0,0.0,0.054180423056839934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472239582273653,0.04063450620426365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048594985397013145,0.0,0.0,0.10519893671934452,0.1014625817945981,0.05185848591405658,0.1257101005242352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050435889785721534,0.0,0.07167163318800028,0.0,0.0,0.05494838851142343,0.0,0.09117417390213826,0.0,0.08710209274267121,0.12452981849264642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491551704168057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053603136767964535,0.0,0.22497081449709655,0.057709319564108574,0.0,0.06798033029801423
parenting,cthsys,2020/03/18,"Girlfriend, coronavirus, quarantine....... A quick rundown of my situation:

\- Separated from the mom of my kids since May 2019, we are still friendly

\- 3 kids: 8yo boy, 4yo twins. We share custody (every other week)

\- I have a girlfriend since Nov (but she was a friend before and had met the kids)

\- To this day, the kids don't know she is my girlfiend and have seen her rarely since we have been dating, as to not confuse the kids and take it slow.

\- I was supposed to announce things to my kids tonight, and they would have gone to their mother's for a week after that (the idea was that I would announce, talk things out, and then they'd go to their mother's and be able to ask questions). Then my girlfriend would have started to be more and more present in my life when the kids are with me.

\- Now coronavirus situation, their mom just came back from a cruise in the middle east (talk about poor timing), and she feels like it would be best to self quarantine for 2 weeks. It's probably the right call, but it makes things pretty hard on me (schools are closed, and I have to work from home)

\- My feeling is that I'll still go ahead with the announcement to the kids, and instead of gradually increasing the presence of my girlfriend, she would stay with us during the 2 weeks of quarantine and help me with the kids during the day. Their mom seems to be ok with that.

What are your thoughts?",3.659080732700137,5.487251115671638,3.4706105834464047,91.877170963365,73.2910447761194,6.663772048846678,24.495251017639077,7.348242739294969,0.8555313432835825,1081,33,227,12,22,325,136,268,0.013000000000000001,0.899,0.08800000000000001,0.9534,0,3,0,0,0,0,56.0,4,1,6,3,9,7,0,1,19,1,29,1,0,1,0,41,44,17,0,5,4,5,3,1,6,6,1,0,1,11,14,22,0,0,7,1,1,6,2,1,0,0,10,4,31,6,35,23,4,37,0,0,1,0,46,8,0,4,23,154,45,2,0.10715389953491772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017443135197343,0.0,0.0,0.08239473452686552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911800762465946,0.0,0.11245140669164916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941611194933797,0.1225555149433946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821080115817694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028178186795953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836046243858606,0.07655076723810672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557367394787398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179606093655512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598884681246724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182300015099316,0.0,0.10748409802846028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209637097574434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888898086782361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756859681588002,0.052349982760229966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152606000322381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764920562069515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090140383492649,0.11553002710661214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003689080105548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150884472385963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844546700300693,0.0,0.09754888571757372,0.1117848866120572,0.0,0.0,0.26591643897938577,0.2408909452992882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584408160890893,0.11421179962422552,0.17114648516984018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056639698292238,0.17225249105718546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21356486855562976,0.0,0.0,0.08506822702399834,0.062482300527644224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288929476288425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34380957913331395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800931505820417,0.0,0.0,0.3805952791701752,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jskeezy84,2020/03/18,What are some good resources for home schooling during school closures due to covid? We are in an area that closed school for about a month and will most likely remain closed for the rest of the school year.  Anyone have any favorite go to sites or resources for home schooling during this time? Asking for a 6yo and 4yo who love school!!,6.630714285714286,7.51999996825397,4.6001190476190486,90.13446428571429,65.19047619047619,6.3000000000000025,25.273809523809533,3.1291,0.3464952380952382,270,6,51,0,4,75,46,63,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.9009999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,6,3,10,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,3,5,30,5,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005409979245478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287738990082183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754758865807673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361791658698196,0.12340647071044415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29516870329829537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188075637446249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13279143797517431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743853050549663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8934263335971775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579324739253867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474751593097083
parenting,omltherunner,2020/03/18,"Looking for (needing) resources Hi there, so my girlfriend and I are expecting our very first child which is due early April.  Originally, we were signed up for a newborn class through the hospital, but due to the pandemic that's happening (perfect timing, right?), the class has been canceled.  We are way behind on everything because we also just found out at the very end of January (very very easy pregnancy and an IUD that has just completely vanished).  What online resources would you all recommend for taking care of a newborn?  I'm looking for anything from how to comfort and soothe them to proper feeding, diaper tips, if it feels like there should be a question that needs answered then I likely want to know it (if I'm making sense in this ramble).  Any help would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks!",7.5360416666666685,8.523494409722222,6.956944444444449,73.68250000000002,63.236111111111114,9.733333333333334,36.83333333333333,9.725611199111238,3.753116666666666,641,30,104,12,9,199,106,144,0.0,0.7759999999999999,0.22399999999999998,0.9894,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,1,1,2,7,7,0,0,8,0,12,1,0,3,2,30,27,10,0,9,5,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,3,8,7,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,9,7,18,19,1,16,0,0,2,0,13,6,0,3,11,71,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344670718125015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434570616085665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837062993194027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250083272626542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714370431560543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629889977159574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489283074787517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111965519102274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502016069623579,0.12012422954899488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430257274789926,0.0,0.18436447454559812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18538262893666,0.0,0.0,0.14869181097954534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270537015258765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240917773782156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429623301921378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824022131790186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122394087029524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493576965565007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836308955706613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359659433825048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264255959056456,0.0,0.0,0.154807139470269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804785088549364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5549554427974288,0.09917743992563947,0.13346723883725098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23889356739219345,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cdavit,2020/03/18,"Toddlering is hard. Advice needed! My daughter turned three in early February and has been so extremely difficult recently. In many cases I must remove myself from the situation in order for her to obey or behave - but that's not always an option and of course isnt sustainable. I feel like I am the problem and I need advice on how to handle her before I go completely crazy. Open to reading any books anyone recommends as well.

Some background:
- I gave birth at the end of February to her baby brother. I had to spend a week away from home as I was recovering from preeclampsia so I didnt see her for about a week which is the longest we have been apart
- The nanny we had her whole life quit to go into nursing at the beginning of February. Fortunately we were able to get a new nanny which she seems to like. She hasn't asked about her previous nanny which I actually think is weird
- She started school in January. We were just getting into a routine and now we don't know when and if she will go back due to the coronavirus 

I realize the above points to a lot of changes in a short amount of time. I'm sure all of these points have had adverse effects on her behavior, but I need strategies that will help us get through this regardless!

Examples of diffuclt situations:
- Meal time: she has always been a good eater. We eat mostly at the table but recently she does not sit still and has to be running around which makes meal time difficult. When the nanny is home I sometimes literally have to leave the table for her to eat. When I am feeding her I cant just ignore her because she needs to eat 
- Dogs: she has always been loving with our dogs. Starting a few months ago she started being rough with them and even hitting them even when we explain that she can hurt them and they can bite her. When we tell her not to hit them or pull their legs, she laughs hysterically and does it more. Unfortunately this is not behavior I can just ignore as the dogs could hurt her
- Time out: yes I call it timeout which might not be what is recommended but it's what she understands. I give her a warning and say if you do this then we are going to time out and of course in zero seconds flat she usually tests me and off we go to the couch in the living room. I sit next to her and ignore her and set a timer for 3 minutes. She then tends to jump around on the sofa (which could be dangerous as we have a coffee table) or she gets up and starts zooming around the living room like a mad woman which then makes me act like a mad woman

In the difficult situations I try to acknowledge what she is doing or might been feeling and then try to divert the subject to something else. Sometimes it works but most of the time she keeps on pushing my button until I explode and put her in timeout on the couch or send her to her room to go to sleep.

Now that we are stuck at home together with no end or break in sight, I really need to work on our relationship because or else I'm afraid it will just keep going downhill as she gets older. Help!",4.974235438953984,5.584261435430462,5.668874172185433,82.00392341653935,68.75165562913908,8.843878417388352,28.23552385804041,8.914623046629139,2.0398703175411783,2393,77,482,40,39,779,272,604,0.111,0.82,0.069,-0.9788,0,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,15,1,6,4,25,24,3,1,34,1,52,10,2,5,3,101,97,49,0,12,23,2,4,4,0,6,1,1,9,2,23,40,6,5,10,2,1,15,11,15,1,3,14,7,86,9,84,69,9,98,0,2,2,1,75,38,0,17,44,350,109,6,0.07065164024160675,0.0,0.06894580925417783,0.0,0.0,0.1380799303054847,0.06262841619814519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636347339773575,0.0,0.0,0.04804553811226977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04940126958938984,0.0,0.0,0.18868481649781413,0.06604974635552906,0.0,0.06637954171676744,0.05432675028030902,0.0,0.08613716825293477,0.0,0.060119342106419976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214322401361528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474006730243925,0.0,0.07407690058961786,0.0,0.0,0.11281917151326674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365545297686367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21688279850545875,0.11804075920279837,0.0,0.1251527654724589,0.0,0.0,0.09332948409618512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144718430084153,0.05047354590546908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456282993662915,0.0677754911669641,0.2810706872189539,0.05925924379029265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328999226006883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471261036257968,0.0,0.21260806723489625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126808426123992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255968481870397,0.0,0.0,0.03882829377677049,0.0,0.0,0.07480988572433908,0.0,0.0,0.04990334291987893,0.13806729067941512,0.0,0.1247733854627844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006549800684989,0.06376586374225189,0.0,0.09432103696050012,0.07162967399156421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990045062043653,0.0,0.0,0.05639346518488485,0.0,0.0,0.2619364800773425,0.0,0.06823579440358034,0.07513882092233186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357727331318942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760407799878418,0.0,0.07102441255679019,0.0,0.07514671607924568,0.07067075957884529,0.0,0.04526124987741624,0.0,0.13951994252239816,0.07585342098123947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056185020069322605,0.0,0.07150323183555958,0.05630020997386233,0.06431859978592537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382462114577529,0.0707026640112365,0.0,0.0,0.05439108438482933,0.13975255751342447,0.0,0.20003037842002366,0.0,0.056422491161391385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665883347998969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175264766826325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527071827862382,0.0,0.0,0.2471852375419273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593565205716764,0.0768486964536511,0.0,0.07355084915543095,0.08498522410363375,0.0,0.07781280013758038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334496832114647,0.0,0.06352430949809429,0.0,0.0,0.07888003321422231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028704711057276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,getitgirl17,2020/03/18,"Help adapting kids to sleeping together Hey all! I have two kids aged 3 and just over a year. I want to take the chance we have while at home to try and get my youngest out of our room and in with his sister. Problem is I have zero clue how to make this work. How do I put one down and read her a story without waking up her brother? What if her brother wakes middle of the night and wakes her up. Any tips and tricks please I am lost. 
Thank you!!",1.5626578947368408,2.9988855157894747,2.4559868421052653,98.60503289473688,78.05263157894737,5.171052631578949,20.296052631578945,5.148860815047168,-0.4505526315789474,344,8,83,1,8,108,70,95,0.067,0.813,0.12,0.6341,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,1,0,2,3,4,1,0,4,0,6,4,4,3,1,18,12,10,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,9,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,3,1,0,14,1,15,11,1,14,0,1,0,0,15,9,0,1,4,56,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356545529969158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334737362914406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17107558772461032,0.0,0.2560169472538277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786141814689385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036830440044007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23951648350320204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729507554209531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28016638511225256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24422106690856896,0.0,0.25657709304881904,0.0,0.0,0.25529951468156953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554147700736752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19190153134416404,0.0,0.0,0.2349819031070716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732847188626114,0.0,0.24932305901288546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054152966562492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460330417333708,0.0,0.18581080424822705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436003897077558
parenting,10ksquibble,2020/03/18,"Using VR for kid get-togethers? I'm hoping there are some tech-savvy parents out there who can steer me in the right direction. I would like my kids to be able to hang out with their friends in a virtual environment.  Is this possible?  Since we can't have in-person get togethers at the moment. 


 We have a PS now, and will get PSVR if it seems like the right choice. Beans, rice, and virtual technology, amirite?.",3.242035714285713,5.276709275000002,4.059642857142858,86.31250000000004,75.0,8.571428571428571,25.17857142857143,9.23628265651192,2.015607142857143,322,11,67,8,7,103,62,80,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.887,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,15,3,0,3,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,9,12,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,4,4,39,9,0,0.25870037134513696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998712651672352,0.0,0.4054807996913065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25694784096386314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527758679574668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872561472539177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258871857200814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916457982465792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418574072278656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355111019661691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21399962051257065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234340591430861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377332132732255,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drewsuhfir,2020/03/18,"Children, Coparents and the Corona Virus Reddit, i am trying to figure out things that my children can do with their coparents online or through the phone that keep them engaged but safe during quarantine. I have two medically fragile children and cannot risk them being exposed to anyone who has potentially come in contact with COVID-19. Someone suggested  [Netflix Party](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/netflix-party/oocalimimngaihdkbihfgmpkcpnmlaoa?hl=en)  which i think is a great option but really struggling to think of or find things they can do with their co parents that dont require them to leave the home or have the coparents visit when we are doing our best to limit unnecessary exposure. Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated !

TIA

TLDR; looking for stuff that medically fragile kids can do with their coparents online or over the phone during COVID-19 outbreak.",17.39958620689655,13.551416682758624,14.437241379310349,43.20689655172416,47.68965517241379,16.013793103448275,54.51724137931035,13.348371206891418,7.298696551724138,749,37,94,16,5,230,97,145,0.043,0.765,0.191,0.9811,5,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,7,3,1,7,0,2,6,0,17,2,0,0,0,26,23,10,0,0,7,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,9,9,0,4,5,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,3,13,5,15,21,1,6,0,0,1,0,21,3,0,6,1,72,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290559601375951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269761416714604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19916093900705428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347746526723606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222419113303293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345420812010384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184631670662979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19036341582078334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868394516841465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094814230986333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936623241247827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823639604516421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107266836231305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215770348186784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607987973477213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983978047621956,0.2172511001940286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25216094674024203,0.2432049361134885,0.0,0.15066301500542228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288472163505873,0.0,0.1853861225425967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,its_ryanmiller,2020/03/18,"My 11 month old son won't stop swatting my hand/the spoon when feeding him Hi all, I (32M) have spent the last couple weeks at home with my 11 month old son due to COVID-19. Normally I only work from home a couple times a week. 

Lately (this past week or so) I'll go to feed him a pouch with a spoon. When I get close to his mouth he'll either swat my hand or the spoon, causing a mess. He'll do this repeatedly.  

I try to tell him ""no, that's not nice"" in a stern voice, but it doesn't work. He thinks it's funny, although I've never laughed at this before. He's not doing it because he's no longer hungry. 

He does like to feed himself when I cut up food. Although when he's done he will throw food on the floor. Could it be that he solely wants to feed himself?

I plan on asking our doctor for advice at our 1 year visit, but since it's a bit frustrating now, I thought I'd see if anyone had a similar experience. If so, any advice? Thanks in advance!",1.4405337159253977,2.7696692829268343,3.100258249641321,94.31334289813486,78.12195121951221,5.799139167862268,20.35150645624104,6.2272716619740125,-0.08676470588235352,733,17,174,5,17,243,120,205,0.085,0.838,0.077,-0.1775,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,4,7,7,2,0,11,0,10,9,2,1,2,21,21,14,0,5,9,2,1,1,0,4,1,1,2,0,10,3,6,1,2,0,1,4,7,3,0,0,4,3,19,4,18,11,3,35,0,0,1,0,23,10,0,4,22,90,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26322344107134205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158979036313734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941742376741026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591143027902518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210216278903364,0.0,0.11460622893701232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470401283940665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835764674407536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753427554185407,0.2980507372750487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378548590938903,0.1178629427455349,0.13782857131529125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174687041959054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32572103922769896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036687095989172,0.0,0.07654406432810187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701982198923213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978549818718898,0.15192950443438624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657998364998257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21500708940193736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387666261321113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196179858703982,0.0,0.0,0.2826565634463087,0.0,0.0,0.10243330908433336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857119060062444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732577116437378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141205966007206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126019184979416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771981908264895,0.12399900203382225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630011775576145,0.0,0.10692411218445556,0.07853536796148321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144164687816178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794401577157912,0.0,0.32410632584628424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610322317785905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673212931350614
parenting,whattodo10100,2020/03/18,"Husband refuses to help pay for childcare, so my only option is 3rd shift. The title is pretty self explanatory, but here’s a better summary. 

We have two children together, 3M and 2F. 

I’ve been staying home for about 4 years, since I was high risk in my pregnancy with my first. 

My mental health has been absolutely scary this past year. I’m not used to being at home 24/7. I’ve always been a very social person.  

This thing is, my husband REFUSES to help with childcare in order for me to work. He says that if I want to work 1st or 2nd shifts, I have to pay for childcare on my own. 

My only option is 3rd shift when the kids are sleeping, but even that seems almost impossible. I would work all night and be up ALL day with two kids. 

Why should I have to pay for childcare on my own? They’re his kids too. I’m becoming resentful that he gets to work and I have to stay home all the time. 

He also makes almost 3 times what I would make, so there’s that. 

Has anyone gone through this? What can I do to make him change his mind?",2.2102568134171925,3.8474502877358496,3.530691823899371,90.72678197064992,76.78301886792453,6.5979035639412995,21.211740041928717,7.3871296695380915,0.5158482180293498,799,20,176,10,18,261,122,212,0.078,0.861,0.061,-0.569,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,6,9,3,1,1,5,0,22,2,1,4,3,31,32,11,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,3,6,10,7,0,2,1,0,3,1,1,2,0,3,5,1,21,1,26,22,5,20,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,7,9,108,31,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24645765687982116,0.0,0.0,0.0984126462899159,0.10239745202089882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860478199101285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135912323423839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883834881426917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018329093089626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936481687585234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128129809783831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467648427991864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429482191243778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080916379069515,0.0,0.0,0.1649717448040607,0.13002177192707928,0.3703236947739909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464345451920377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401756329262223,0.0,0.12425755077396004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548536152470575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18718841055850868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747661491796366,0.0,0.10745300188737224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519830748372274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786385104585202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203103355950192,0.12838051702341868,0.0,0.0,0.10179816776029696,0.0,0.1231508856062244,0.1254462233565811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26233546108641226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175693236707764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351689731349404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042740762903436,0.0,0.0,0.10628606621606557,0.0,0.10153904774330308,0.07258516292338807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110443244815874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583624406963366,0.0,0.0,0.17483944457038714,0.0,0.0,0.15849580156766946
parenting,veal152,2020/03/18,"Help with autistic child in bed My family really needs help with my autistic son. My son and I recently moved in with my boyfriend and his 4 year old son. We’ve been dating for quite a while. Everything was going smoothly until recently when my boyfriend suggested I need to get my 6 year old non verbal child out of our bed. Before we had moved in I had fallen on hard times due to a divorce and my son and I lived in a studio apartment for over two years. He had his own bed but technically was in the same room with me every single night. Fast forward to present day: he gets out of bed in the middle of the night and wanders trying to find me in our new home. It’s been this way for over a month now. He will not stay asleep In his bed. If I try to put him in his bed he just simply gets out and follows me. If I try to explain to him he needs to sleep in his bed he throws a tantrum, self harm and a lot of yelling. So what winds up happening is that I just sleep in his bed with him, which isn’t healthy either. It’s really starting to affect our day to day routine because my son is getting little to no sleep before school. Please give me suggestions because as of now our doctors have simply advised us to use melatonin and Benadryl. Which he did try put it simply puts him to sleep but doesn’t keep him a sleep more than 3-4 hours a night.",4.4848623279098865,4.412880556737591,5.0645181476846055,88.29794117647059,69.67375886524822,8.053733833959116,27.58114309553609,7.510576382923642,1.2739075511055489,1055,31,236,10,17,339,143,282,0.05,0.912,0.038,-0.5336,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,6,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,11,0,14,7,6,2,0,35,29,17,0,5,8,5,2,0,0,1,1,1,11,3,8,17,0,1,2,0,0,10,4,2,0,1,8,3,36,0,47,20,6,61,0,0,0,0,40,23,0,3,28,144,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570364135744828,0.0,0.16151045916209247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836132207422742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713696103820256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799596394503487,0.0,0.08529245041832162,0.0,0.08946584358210309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867393719028814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983310286699692,0.09103934203850657,0.05393540600031002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392216683893489,0.0,0.0850142013546537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722259303023106,0.0,0.09519517168559254,0.0,0.0934600680309787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435390304210519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511746290529577,0.08380084541523564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068290356299586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575045015986294,0.20173315653817173,0.0,0.2111075056029741,0.0,0.09165764377381236,0.0,0.26717933730391924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991688923491358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417469396996716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862103546507397,0.0,0.10094073049733436,0.0,0.0,0.121594232302337,0.0,0.18740998478636836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604662493555084,0.0,0.0,0.09900424033024484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47485631613467605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717263765086835,0.10115367829453037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055338542492722326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577308844521315,0.0,0.09270617301899688,0.0,0.11415629384861033,0.08196548422913849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532936623370996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334273136099666
parenting,bidoofslay3r,2020/03/18,"Does anyone have any recommendations for sleep music for my kid? We live in a fairly busy part of town, so there are lots of outside noises that are consistently waking my kid up, so I would like to have some music to put on for them through the night to drown out those noises. Does anyone have any suggestions?",8.038,7.023216133333335,7.550000000000002,76.55500000000005,62.66666666666666,10.0,28.333333333333336,8.841846274778883,1.901333333333333,248,5,48,3,3,78,44,60,0.065,0.8909999999999999,0.044000000000000004,-0.3142,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,2,0,0,5,6,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,13,5,3,7,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,2,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746325625470352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852038076065105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820984532776663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345715568589562,0.0,0.2432284816144793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23417878457711935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584923187397034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982868383666652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769045651791027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27565015647797725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567264992495492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AndreiCosmin1989,2020/03/18,"Hello everyone Hello reddit, I m a little bit worried about everything that is happening today and I want to ask if you have any tips to protect my child against Covid-19. Thank you very much!",3.2183333333333337,6.0644163888888905,3.9811111111111153,82.55000000000003,79.55555555555556,6.933333333333335,28.44444444444445,8.07648339933343,2.4025777777777777,154,7,26,3,4,49,32,36,0.052000000000000005,0.765,0.183,0.5818,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,4,6,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,16,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21105088349372664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29013843679505025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388254180248537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965558738690307,0.2789255304127089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27444439436465634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110555349535571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281453819930529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857316173322241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941786355951778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25607397171802154,0.1830544147368918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151788366157697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rustyray84,2020/03/18,"My 10 month old son has been shrieking for weeks! My 10 month old has been an easy baby, he sleeps well, eats well and is generally in a good mood, but for the past month he’s been shrieking/screaming all the time. Sometimes it’s in protest of something, sometimes it’s impossible to know why. He can only say around 5 words, so I understand he might just be trying to communicate.

Parents who had the same problem PLEASE tell me it’s a phase.

What should I do? Wait it out?
So far things we tried:
-just ignoring it
-saying « no! » which he understands in turn of « don’t touch, don’t go there »
-consoling him
 Thanks",1.074473140495865,3.6604509669421503,1.9874741735537207,94.28302944214876,88.91735537190084,5.339049586776858,21.612086776859503,6.9077264865688965,0.5745739669421495,481,17,102,7,16,150,86,121,0.09699999999999999,0.778,0.125,0.3492,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,8,8,1,0,6,0,14,2,1,0,1,19,21,4,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,9,4,1,2,3,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,4,3,7,4,11,14,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,8,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776073812587913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15834837674532462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879482652352454,0.12979736234515787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504681791793801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641658065510994,0.0,0.0,0.37056107535246346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32476919837835555,0.0,0.0,0.11769471500307285,0.0,0.0,0.17183209694885415,0.0,0.14772684559949095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698695587091442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480753119137157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24612758927924275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486224110301114,0.0,0.0,0.1191344815878368,0.3061043676227933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352587423075324,0.14247345258582725,0.0,0.0,0.10280934408021038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023625061529834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21013083859033305,0.16832408686561035,0.0,0.32220141898555177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413150237997354,0.0,0.27827853648718925,0.0,0.13963824024761562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LaughingLady3,2020/03/18,"Son keeps gaining weight Over the last 18 months my son (16M) has been putting on a lot of weight and I don’t really know why or how to stop it. He’s always been very slim and sporty but since summer of 2018 he’s gone up around 3 or 4 clothes sizes.

I haven’t changed what I’m feeding him, we’ve always been quite healthy as a family and my other two sons (19M, 11M) are still as fit as ever. 

I took him to the doctors to see if he had an underlying condition that was causing it but he just lectured me about nutrition and exercise which I’ve always been good with.

I know he sometimes buys snacks and the like on his way back from school but that’s not enough to account for all the weight he’s gained.

Me (47F) and my husband (45M) have talked to him (just a chat, nothing serious to worry or upset him) about how he’s doing at school and if he’s worried about anything and mentioned his weight but he just says everything is fine and seems oblivious to the fact he’s gained a lot.

Any advice on how I can help him or what the issue might be?",4.445084511900653,4.068986713004485,5.1224215246636735,88.89021386685066,69.76233183856503,8.475888237323218,27.467747499137634,7.882392219407189,1.311015453604691,819,23,191,9,13,265,132,223,0.035,0.816,0.149,0.9762,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,4,13,5,0,1,11,0,16,8,0,4,3,40,24,25,0,2,14,4,4,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,8,11,6,2,3,2,2,3,3,2,0,1,8,6,17,3,26,14,4,20,0,0,1,0,26,9,0,10,8,112,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153333221563335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29462044554903805,0.0,0.0,0.08026150524580186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971250728429113,0.10506787230172226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075445762354474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121244878341984,0.12485551290629344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080427799272178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195207096610462,0.0,0.0,0.10676097876877197,0.0,0.0,0.10607386499319317,0.0,0.11126410095015396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098994335233019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911012106573173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231881390906111,0.0,0.10490664154977908,0.0,0.0,0.12972764702385284,0.09620667657091256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057661382360027935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068241392585506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252065881300611,0.0,0.0,0.0942069665488809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324881688339465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864840076691792,0.0,0.12553483182362105,0.0,0.0,0.0756102686576024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938587527626794,0.0,0.2388965653231365,0.09405118093584032,0.1074461404107438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763205675434586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673040898998105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425545530886106,0.09867474787721872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948645656179776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113086597479087,0.0,0.0,0.1152939331983398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738354127747696,0.0,0.0936832859732322,0.0,0.5748938960356199,0.0,0.0,0.10649981260529824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239721601062658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sjrem,2020/03/18,"Gaming during school hours during coronavirus I really need to talk about this: can the companies that are behind streaming / gaming competitions etc (Mixer, Fortnite, you name it) please get on this bandwagon and support families who are trying to get their kids to “do school” at home right now?How can we ask for this? What would it look like? Help!",5.273005464480871,8.278451737704923,4.624180327868854,80.01747267759565,72.60655737704919,8.001092896174864,24.92076502732241,8.841846274778883,2.2294568306010927,280,9,45,6,6,84,50,61,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.8759,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,12,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,8,11,1,4,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,0,2,29,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22438578922439306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676851374622894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262689800256788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508005165312871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087998060821349,0.0,0.24075908232957455,0.0,0.23637081393071901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726138136252233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015558908969786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797138384890693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263469283978081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376260826740246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049753022528256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4858250029047599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723712320145278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929185453318415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629574539600206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050293361110366,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WholesomeHeart,2020/03/18,"Kid Friendly Podcasts for Parents Who Need A Break During the Isolation - What If World I have a 4 year old who is having a hard time keeping busy. We choose to limit TV in our home, even for adults. When we've exhausted all crafts, hot wheels, and Lego options available, there is one thing that can occupy my son's mind for hours...his favorite podcast ""What If World"".

We found it last week and each episode is about 30 min long and are funny creative stories based on questions that listeners phone in. 

So, if you are desperate for a break and don't want to sit your kid in front of cartoons, try out a kids friendly podcast. Also, if you all have other Podcasts good for kids, pay them in the comments.",4.466277372262773,5.816456248175187,4.309204379562043,88.56891605839418,70.45985401459853,6.93985401459854,29.028467153284673,7.1686216300943375,1.4843991240875916,554,21,110,5,10,169,100,137,0.08,0.794,0.126,0.8617,1,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,3,1,1,6,4,0,0,7,0,10,1,0,0,2,23,15,11,0,6,4,2,2,0,2,0,1,1,1,5,9,8,0,2,3,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,9,3,15,14,3,20,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,6,8,67,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901826615793113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707629244446272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607547408977877,0.3674746003504921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19947013310496156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21303787177918646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385504592926786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211383224143812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938530981193465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104611064597353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24012799795974601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633874887425255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24954958274365485,0.0,0.16115137135737895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640683187301398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266410157017597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579954567457232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867336435745148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146255049317096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027099154788594,0.0,0.19076294660294285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314674753530352
parenting,PenguinInDistress,2020/03/18,"5 yr old check up.... delay? My daughter ped said it's okay to delay the checkup and shots if I do not feel comfortable. I did until the receptionist said that they are now separating patients with COVID- 19 symptoms, but they didn't at first. 

They didn't at first.  

We have 4+ cases right now with suspected community spread. 

What would you do?",2.406609808102345,4.890668552238811,3.641364605543711,86.00358208955225,79.8955223880597,6.8136460554371014,23.004264392324096,7.957251820313856,1.2760891257995746,271,9,54,5,7,88,53,67,0.122,0.855,0.023,-0.6609,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,3,2,2,2,0,0,2,1,8,2,0,0,0,12,11,4,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,5,3,8,2,7,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,8,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843984930969945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5330729681903561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288095130116541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676003265816663,0.5961377495503759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256920154617505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22259579674231,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Local_Box,2020/03/18,"I told my sitter that there were going to be winners and losers after this virus drama I do have two boys, 7 and 9, whose school got shut down. I asked their sitter if he could work full time and he expressed concerned about getting sick. I am a single dad and work in private banking. I cannot work from home. If our clients call and we don't reassure them that we're open for business and their money is safe, then they will pull out and we'll all be out of jobs. And we are lucky one because we still have jobs. This is the time to step up is what I told him. It's not like guys in their late-20s are dropping dead. Was I wrong?",2.6434586466165437,3.725616240601504,2.9939924812030085,97.28587593984966,74.56390977443608,5.620751879699249,22.32255639097745,4.935628992294339,-0.18755578947368434,492,12,116,1,10,151,94,133,0.133,0.8029999999999999,0.064,-0.8572,2,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,5,0,5,4,3,6,0,0,2,0,18,1,0,0,1,21,24,11,1,3,3,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,2,7,14,0,1,0,1,2,3,3,2,0,2,5,0,19,4,13,14,3,18,0,1,0,0,23,9,0,3,6,77,26,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18458428584096084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036055067302835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20161327208038396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576436500668104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315678722901743,0.0,0.1122124609184182,0.0,0.15791468705693534,0.0,0.0,0.1955014481692188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805328771104946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918671036575481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22272639594392668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646158257321916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13379374330742572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998247338096337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767971583620674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026336491139554,0.0,0.0,0.3773340395345437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287493296575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4312266168509914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21587495295938727,0.0,0.0
parenting,simplyblissedout,2020/03/18,"My daughter 7yr old daughter refuses to wipe her ass, and won’t wash her hands, please help me! So I’ve tried everything, serious talks, I’ve upped her bath schedule, new underwear that she likes, getting wet wipes that she won’t use, even taking her tablet away, even a healthy choices sticker chart and it all has worked for a few days but she always goes back to shit in the underwear and butt hands that she refuses to wash on her own because she doesn’t like the way soap feels on her hands, and I don’t want her getting sick or being made fun of by her friends. Its getting to the point where teachers are starting to notice and talking to me about it. So if anyone has any suggestions I’d love to hear them because I feel like I’m up shits creek without a paddle. Literally!",10.28923076923077,6.429862282051285,9.148717948717946,75.7796153846154,60.794871794871796,12.451282051282053,41.384615384615394,9.725611199111238,3.776815384615385,620,24,128,8,6,193,103,156,0.09699999999999999,0.731,0.172,0.9059,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,1,7,9,2,0,6,0,8,11,7,2,1,17,21,10,0,2,4,2,6,3,1,2,3,1,1,0,6,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,7,19,6,18,17,3,15,0,0,0,3,25,8,4,2,9,74,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413052245228518,0.0,0.0,0.11548455163895645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874325261160824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955303893667108,0.13058237340297002,0.0,0.20704341435191773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952092114136268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22433120845389312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262475705924855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717338668487394,0.12132062721205755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120379258041773,0.0,0.2661744232895427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914013520979888,0.0,0.1138278784256598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488988538778456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327067764205465,0.16068935998158246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401481661026635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19334308448608,0.17819926417553522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18641318523394665,0.1605363590858454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486389853813998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020064439713228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768475309700245,0.2729924337517838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152977591605284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466713883392975,0.0,0.0,0.10016521448037387,0.1347965284671602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370201929806175,0.0,0.12363219041040673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mead-seed,2020/03/18,"Keeping the minions from going stir crazy I’d like to hear what everyone is doing to keep kids active without the usual playground, sports and recess options!

My kids (9 and 6) are already getting a little cabin fever. We don’t have a yard and our apartment is pretty small. There are parks nearby but they all have big beautiful playground structures and it will be extra stress on me if the kids can see it but can’t play on it.

All I know is that if my son (6) doesn’t burn off some energy, we will all hate him by the time our quarantine is over!",8.043243243243246,5.803151702702702,7.844576576576575,78.36145945945948,63.50450450450451,10.321441441441443,33.91171171171171,8.238735603445708,2.4901733333333342,433,13,87,4,5,139,80,111,0.085,0.773,0.142,0.7126,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,1,0,1,4,1,1,6,0,16,1,0,0,3,19,24,8,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,3,5,6,0,2,1,3,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,2,10,2,9,21,5,11,0,0,1,0,11,8,0,4,3,60,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835927902641345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455631698091279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342656903709545,0.0,0.14605227574591534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25372257252168073,0.0,0.0,0.2896442981985817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4568457130842379,0.0,0.0,0.14123395462819766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555141863535013,0.2575696180059585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614493156302722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478626608526265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943790329761372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498518443984213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830361165830785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24772738527470414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JayDLion,2020/03/18,"Isolation fun So my daughter and I are home quarintine for the time being, due to her having mild symptoms (just a cough). 
She's 19 months old and doesn't understand why we can't go outside and play like we used to. And she has become quite restless around the house.
We can go for some walks and a bike ride (government rules(and she has not been confirmed to be infected with covid19 and doctored won't see her when it's not critical)) so what can we do around the house. We tried alot already but it would be nice to get some new inputs. 🙂",2.0188573811509585,4.301179009174317,2.5644537114261894,94.32589658048374,80.0091743119266,6.165471226021682,23.67055879899917,7.348242739294969,0.8718000000000004,428,15,92,6,11,132,77,109,0.052000000000000005,0.862,0.086,0.5652,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,6,0,15,4,0,1,0,24,21,10,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,3,14,0,0,1,2,0,4,5,1,0,0,1,1,12,4,9,15,3,12,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,3,7,60,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22405691683056614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614928214950133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22423895362628835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078174723803801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060787074051652,0.0,0.23078176683715246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20366315510669214,0.0,0.0,0.4685560015830418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919386080633334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206258581331842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960948710957062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21305368905106584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21595536084287345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179459056618598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103369167467886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839279202412872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378491266062385,0.0,0.0,0.21136918548657196,0.0,0.17535919976160566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320975243898785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423200602936773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhlchd,2020/03/18,"Is my kid having difficulty in focussing ? Hello parents of reddit. I have a 1 year and 1 month old boy. Average weight. Physically, super active. He keeps climbing furnitures most of the time. Eats good amount for most of the days of the month. Crawls very fast, started standing without support sometime back. What i worry (or am i unnecessarily anxious) is that he does not focus on one task for long (is there a general rule how long a toddler can focus on task at hand?).

We have received lots of toys as gifts which he plays with. Is that the reason he gets distracted soon ? 

Or is it too early to worry about focus?",2.9693589743589754,5.538344504273506,4.2483974358974335,81.96951923076924,78.3162393162393,6.293162393162394,25.134615384615394,7.492282038375204,1.4767384615384611,485,18,87,7,12,159,86,117,0.11,0.7979999999999999,0.092,-0.3222,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,2,6,5,0,1,7,0,10,3,1,2,0,14,14,5,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,2,1,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,5,4,16,14,4,20,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,5,13,56,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21799224500287614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483759416651761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444458913485774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688624313327111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974483981536805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081473140558088,0.0,0.0,0.16184745184248292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715135777842092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415307671603535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16404947438176518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080410095356809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248126096232485,0.0,0.1307561107476131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214261573066242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983971733896613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084444784733298,0.0,0.13657956534568416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897110084082533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251775045373676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592139385557469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23497584971439786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18600857552868072,0.0,0.0,0.3919247519796515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426126388310113
parenting,Redvelvet_dinosaur,2020/03/18,"Deleting social media to be a better mother I quit Facebook and Instagram a few days ago. I know it’s early days but I’m already feeling happier. I’m an over thinker and have depression and anxiety so seeing so many negative things online and other things triggered my low self esteem. Plus I was always looking at my phone and not my two mont old daughter. Don’t get me wrong, I play with her a lot, sing and read to her and give her many cuddles. But during breastfeeding time I was always on my phone.

I don’t read my books anymore and find it hard to concentrate on my assignments. I’m on maternity leave and want to make the most of being with my daughter. 

Yeah I know I’m on reddit but it seems to be worse when I know the people and it’s not anonymous if that makes sense ? 


Of course please don’t think I believe that being on social media makes you a bad parent. This just applies to me and my situation :) 

Has anyone else deleted social media ?",1.938403141361256,4.312609895287963,3.5177460732984294,86.85169764397905,80.93717277486911,5.914240837696338,22.639005235602088,7.1686216300943375,0.9500322513089006,754,25,145,10,20,249,111,191,0.152,0.7390000000000001,0.109,-0.8985,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,4,6,0,0,7,1,11,1,0,4,0,36,29,19,0,2,7,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,14,0,0,8,5,0,0,6,4,0,1,2,4,23,2,18,23,3,15,0,2,2,1,15,8,0,4,7,95,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581647725981985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417942685186574,0.0,0.21742841823971312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999495980978966,0.0,0.1295732009312156,0.09135599083176632,0.1338699884530872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909024589199433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720179493141372,0.0,0.11555243592232588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685214451789207,0.0,0.11253169986528752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914426496664027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606235394550529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941496571891455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826108049335171,0.125334777853512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703990607349132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154113009503884,0.0,0.0,0.13834323067328722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097160650441605,0.0,0.0,0.11107696483974172,0.0,0.0,0.26163675122400537,0.2649243590234044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709890866385302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507529090036594,0.0,0.0,0.09057871165734263,0.0,0.0,0.14341834897225944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389661189324448,0.2613777871630078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411395312203377,0.11894207297087445,0.1363001334422924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686004962048022,0.0,0.39955448178046993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360080874939002,0.08371751087339849,0.0,0.0,0.07618512804199372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762952082925472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706284116758633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314711612352054,0.0,0.14284913224123888,0.0,0.0
parenting,MKatUltra,2020/03/18,"Sleep problems Sorry if this is long, I tried to fill in all the relevant information I could in hopes someone can help me!! For the past 3 weeks my toddler is having nap and sleep issues. He is 1.5 years old and we have generally been lucky in the sleep department. His sister was born the end of January and for the first week, there was a bit of a struggle with her waking him up throughout the night. That seemed to resolve. So up until 14-16 months his schedule was 5-6am wake up, 8:30-9:00am down for first nap. 2pm down for second nap, 6:30pm in bed for the night. This worked well and he would almost always go right to sleep. Between 14 and 16 months he dropped that first nap which was fine. His schedule then became 5-6am wake up, 9:30-10am down for nap, 6:00pm in bed for the night with it taking much more at nap and bed time to fall asleep.

Currently he is consistently waking up 3-4am, is ready for a nap around 7am, refuses and is trying to drop nap time all together, and generally doesn't fall asleep until after 8pm - despite bed time being moved up to 5:30pm. My toddler has been miserable. I know these are times of change and a general increase in those big feelings. But on days he won't nap at all, it is tantrums all day and whining and crying even when he is playing. Around 2-4pm, he will be so tired he will start to fall asleep on the floor/couch. 

Okay, I don't know what I am doing here and I am suffering (don't forget my new baby yall). We share a room and there is no way to change this currently. When he wakes up at 3-4, I ignore him. He is generally on full blast though. Bouncing, yelling chatting. I quietly talk to him about it being too early, that baby sister is still sleeping, we will get up a little later, etc. When that doesn't work I blast the white noise or get up so my baby can sleep. At nap time, I give him 1 hour to settle and then it becomes ""quiet time"" with books, stickers, and quiet toys. He will scream, cry, kick, slam himself into the crib eventually moving to the bouncing, chatting and yelling. If we transition to quiet time, he throws everything out of the crib and continues to go crazy. Bed time is now the same. Lots of intense screaming, biting his crib, kicking it hard, and then loud noises and chatter for hours. He is waking my girl up throughout the day and at these times. I am stay at home and default parent with their dad working overnight and sleeping all day. I am EXHAUSTED with these issues!! I am not sleeping well with my longest stretch from about midnight to 3 and occasionally get a ""nap"" which includes me laying on the couch in the other room, while my toddler goes nuts and my baby cries in her crib in our bedroom. I am feeling out of it most days, struggle to keep up mentally in conversations, etc. Their dad is not willing to give up his sleep or work with me on a schedule to get me another nap or sleep in time, so please don't recommend that. But please any other advice or recommendations!",4.1552879665379665,5.24207956418919,4.697007722007721,86.4925225225225,70.92567567567569,7.462419562419562,26.595238095238088,7.7094869923839395,1.3341393500643501,2330,74,480,27,42,742,266,592,0.098,0.8390000000000001,0.063,-0.9701,3,0,0,0,2,0,91.0,5,1,2,8,21,20,1,3,25,1,49,21,19,0,5,79,66,46,0,6,10,5,3,0,0,7,2,9,10,1,23,40,0,3,7,17,0,11,9,11,2,4,6,13,46,9,88,49,15,119,0,3,1,0,49,49,0,12,55,304,69,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969184088686352,0.0,0.0,0.0611680967177547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05082785682670191,0.0,0.0,0.04154009362514035,0.06405325534371688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087577223736686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746390637299624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668931849199346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924027975449995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877163553065747,0.0,0.2012979765034299,0.1969748011122352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410343810722667,0.0,0.13625249668022404,0.04034625960773139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054899522124626704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177311862288565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558773558647631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765817658028078,0.11719715749615345,0.06943235891317964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472042373371317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04094418396094773,0.0,0.06127352899909407,0.0606714785484145,0.12031341689612572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751434989062727,0.0,0.054295414701368325,0.0,0.0,0.0671417585134547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061223510798394526,0.0,0.05405856164804206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051932531279278674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615596074572961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751539542141016,0.1298479975228747,0.04490471857426046,0.0,0.0,0.0589965561731669,0.0,0.1719732270279432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409873885924837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782798839888814,0.0,0.05831282366593634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410661526033266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845037520338674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216650605726195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05560975611724813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.611294075989038,0.0,0.0517573701324042,0.0,0.0,0.06837998386209944,0.04323648445784619,0.06510879418144895,0.048782793522491485,0.0,0.0,0.1277192215850729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045928537824995085,0.049098044266808465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060015989764916414,0.0,0.35619325309842426,0.07020855775505265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294580776952327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04848666192492592,0.09799787412093904,0.0,0.10984602806849764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788328194009453,0.0,0.0,0.0433932391914888,0.0,0.0,0.03933692563009608
parenting,Owl170,2020/03/18,"How Did You Teach Your Kid (Almost Three Years Old) To Not Run Near The Road? Or Discipline Them After They Did? \*Post in one sentence - How do/did you teach road safety to a three year old?

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First post on this sub. I'm a Dad to a two-year old. (He's 2 years 9 months). We're expecting another who's due next month as well.

Today my wife's parents came to pick up my son to take him to their house for the afternoon. He goes to their place several times a week, if my wife or I don't drive my son to their house, they sometimes will come to pick him up, usually when I'm at work.

Basically, we opened the door to go outside, but my wife told our son to wait, because he hadn't put his coat on. At that point, he started laughing and started to run off to the car, parked at the side of the road, just as I was about to take him back inside to put his coat on (he was standing next to me). I chased him and caught him after five or six steps, he only got about halfway to the car. We live in a congested Taiwanese city, so the traffic and road is very hectic. I wouldn't worry about him running to the car so much if we were in the countryside, however, here, it's really dangerous.

He's done this several times before, and my wife said that he occasionally runs to the car by himself. He's run once or twice near the road, but he's not run out into the road, nor looked like doing so. Regardless, the road here is very chaotic.

He will listen to us 8, or 9 times out of 10, and most of the time he'll walk with me, or his Mom or Grandma. But, occasionally, like today, he'll run off. I think it's mainly because he thinks it's fun.

He's run off at the mall and supermarket several times before, and had developed a habit of opening the car door by himself before his Mom, Grandma, me, whoever it is, would open it for him, after we would reach our destination, and try to get out of the car unassisted (we use the child locks, he would just do this when we would be about to open the car door ourself). Although he hasn't done these for a while now, thankfully. We have told him many times that he needs to wait for his Mum, Dad, Uncle, Grandad, whoever it is, to open the car door first, otherwise he'll get hurt.

We discipline him after he does something really naughty or dangerous by taking toys away, but putting them up on a shelf where he can see them. We tell him that if he's good, the toys will come down. e.g. We ask him daily, Can you run off by youself? (He'll say no). If you want to go outside, whom should you ask? (He'll say Dad/Grandma, etc.) Then, if he's well-behaved for a few days, we give the toys back.

I suppose my question is, how do you communicate road satefy in a way that a two-year old, or three-year-old, understands? For example, at his age, he doesn't seem to understand the concept of death, and at his age, although he knows some things are dangerous, occasionally he'll do it anyway, or forgets. We try to communicate road safety to him by telling him that if a car hits him, he'll be really hurt; that if a car hits him, he might only have one leg, or, if a car hits him, he won't see Mom and Dad again. (e.g. We ask him - If a car hits you, you might not see us again. Do you want that?) This has been by and large very successful, as he will tell us himself that the road is dangerous, and he seems to understand this. It's just that regardless, sometimes, like today, he'll run to the car door.

Anyway, thanks in advance for any advice / suggestions",4.718886904761902,4.4165486069444455,5.501547619047622,86.1525,69.18055555555556,9.134920634920636,27.97619047619048,8.77342768361299,1.7142023809523814,2687,78,613,41,42,879,267,720,0.065,0.878,0.057999999999999996,-0.8992,2,0,1,0,0,0,139.0,18,10,8,5,26,16,4,0,41,0,45,2,1,6,0,105,101,52,1,21,30,15,0,3,0,21,1,4,5,2,27,38,0,4,9,4,0,36,11,6,1,9,16,8,79,10,91,58,6,133,0,2,4,0,131,49,0,28,47,365,106,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058641304011152286,0.0,0.0,0.06009157871689647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650210611149072,0.0729190001196498,0.04080901548237677,0.06292596046139852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830439792336252,0.0,0.0563815882195489,0.09228832813218794,0.0,0.07316336065646874,0.0,0.15319286197262827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863571830441055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338700210354598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03870163500720868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05251535827553193,0.12282260453744576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692727147791744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208934507531983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270573859953672,0.05756728256212393,0.06821039536971711,0.050333735292152106,0.04799566443280241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848750080583894,0.12848438866854814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032980054010173385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795390411353046,0.0,0.05299013414358012,0.0,0.050393480773417855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084095609645882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273227452649225,0.0,0.21084977469682914,0.0957991890300891,0.0,0.04411442526021932,0.04449682651445095,0.0,0.0,0.12764312470314074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31485321748586376,0.06390893837598252,0.08132897232891911,0.09128097094140908,0.0,0.0,0.06663426071417154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269791973473235,0.0,0.0567290660996834,0.0,0.11494642746424542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809805737767293,0.06722519363542183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533227347874178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570834726743643,0.09544508996980476,0.0,0.0,0.14346115565085107,0.10926212246120363,0.0,0.20338344220078652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04619880829676695,0.11870330747342855,0.0,0.0849511019193244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536067791013456,0.0,0.15735476303022258,0.11049871767878088,0.0,0.0,0.03986813150125728,0.07690426689836062,0.0,0.0,0.2099546926145759,0.0,0.17064804888549442,0.1146846963895394,0.0,0.08148601647388044,0.0,0.11724255333876288,0.18741830312601368,0.21655476007663385,0.05182957263645807,0.06609279217814948,0.14854417811691,0.07079117908868914,0.04763332877963356,0.04813658821198551,0.0,0.10791281070709836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436881634900551,0.06094330338850613,0.0,0.17051818765514026,0.0,0.0729190001196498,0.2318677307115392
parenting,MAJINDURAG,2020/03/18,Am I a bad parent? Left my 5yo(soon to be 6) at home alone watching tv(as she normally does) for literally 2 minutes while I went for my morning run around the block. I told my partner and she couldn't believe it and refuses to speak to me now...,4.895533333333333,4.8849900200000045,6.25,79.93833333333335,68.8,9.866666666666667,34.66666666666667,9.725611199111238,3.1782666666666675,191,9,40,4,3,65,41,50,0.17,0.83,0.0,-0.8126,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,2,9,0,7,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,2,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31589276681872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271518746519242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25466608949617586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436357226576952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669115688458381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059444685956833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313883754277908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298839735951864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386714982079588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914449528777449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827423071944776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AestheticHeretic,2020/03/18,"Can anyone recommend any good websites/learning materials for children in quarantine? Even though schools in our country haven't closed yet, we took our daughter out yesterday as her mum has a fever. The school have work packs ready in the event of the school closing, but until then I don't have much.

Any recommendations for online material would be great :)

Thanks!",6.900937499999998,9.26574596875,5.811375000000003,76.19612500000002,65.875,8.870000000000003,33.1125,9.3871,3.2101599999999997,298,13,49,6,5,89,53,64,0.0,0.737,0.263,0.9598,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,0,0,6,10,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,9,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,5,32,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31591438240208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241436963139322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341760903611085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482399551732466,0.0,0.2560876166447917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075125736766766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7052340408478482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138506267493075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282122244587149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580697085820154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910134959273987,0.0,0.0,0.1650038211674661,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Obdurodonis,2020/03/18,"Preparing for the likelihood that my child may have to learn at home for months. How do we do this? Any advice is appreciated. It’s looking like covid 19 will probably keep the kids at home for months. Ok how do I help my Daughter learn at home? I’m not a teacher and I’ve never considered home schooling. I want any advice I can get.  Are there any changes we should make, habits we should pick up? I just need help starting thanks so much.",1.4888636363636394,3.9555101590909096,2.323818181818183,94.07572727272728,83.77272727272728,5.792727272727273,21.3,7.1686216300943375,0.5301099999999996,346,11,75,5,10,108,62,88,0.0,0.8009999999999999,0.19899999999999998,0.9445,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,1,11,0,0,4,1,19,20,4,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,4,2,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,9,3,8,16,1,8,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,1,5,43,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31886934189901506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328561019363789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259797293850634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524255189108408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21872076317707986,0.0,0.6546372025886423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145021018758441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797100382715365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370103915762554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089082494330919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604599682390624,0.0,0.1199388211788762,0.12097849823188825,0.12583637274600945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591033266157372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651231169411441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548303034606598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502126102969038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962339475089636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rmanskrilla,2020/03/18,"Quarantined w/ wife + children in an apartment. How do YOU stay sane? Our county in the Bay Area is under a shutdown, limiting the amount of places that are open + activities that can be done. I will be working from home for a few weeks along with taking my college courses online. My wife will possibly be WFH longer than myself. 

I did all this research on how to keep my kids occupied, but none on how not to lose my patience & become extremely irritable. I am woman in a same sex marriage with THREE beautiful little girls, so yes, my house is NUTS. Oh and yes, I CAN wait until they’re teenagers. 

Although I’m appreciative that I have the opportunity to actually be with my family, how the hell am I supposed to remain cool & collected? I guess what I’m looking for is anyone who can relate + provide feedback on how to be a chill mom. I love my littles to death, but they will be the death of me lol.",4.779166666666669,5.58278547222222,5.927777777777783,79.28000000000003,69.27777777777777,8.888888888888891,30.555555555555557,9.075114841892004,2.5047222222222216,715,28,140,13,12,239,118,180,0.121,0.6990000000000001,0.18,0.9079999999999999,0,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,1,4,6,5,1,0,10,4,22,2,0,5,1,20,30,11,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,6,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,2,20,3,24,19,5,16,1,1,1,2,13,13,1,1,2,98,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.1876908710023321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167890196394522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344848572836462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241850680045266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968251211875013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131598797844006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21187829782466625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929273330900916,0.0,0.0,0.2219283594556339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095587162133938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3855396891183244,0.0,0.0,0.1615126628789899,0.21517327285236426,0.0,0.0,0.17358952828991644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252600141662479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094876991849794,0.0,0.0,0.21682841583869095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050031429122409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446117183071781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427925248871174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002191381258086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notkeepingthis-2018,2020/03/18,"Please help me. My four year old daughter has recently discovered her lady parts. 

I had caught her clearly playing with herself about two weeks ago, and did not know what to do. 

I didn’t react the best way, but I didn’t react in the worst way, either. 

Of course I felt the normal uncomfortable-ness that other parents have felt, and then a rush of emotions I didn’t know how to handle. 

Something happened the other night, that I did not expect and I did not see coming and it has been destroying me mentally. 

Before I get into this I would just like to say that I have severe OCD, and severe anxiety, with pretty frequent intrusive thoughts. I hope to start therapy very soon I’m the hopes of figuring all of this out. I’m not looking for a diagnoses, or for people to tell me I need therapy I just desperately want to know if this is common or not. 

My daughter was laying next to me and I thought she had started playing with herself, now of course she doesn’t understand privacy or the fact that she needs to go somewhere else and do this. I have not yet had the talk with her about doing this when no one else is around, because of the thoughts that are going through my own head. 

As I was laying there trying to figure out what she was doing, I froze, heart started beating because of how uncomfortable I was and then the worst thing that could have ever happened, happened. I got turned on.. I’ve been sick about this, I’ve been worrying about what’s wrong with me and why this would happen. I don’t fantasize, I don’t visualize, and I would never ever touch my daughter out of my own sexual pleasure. It makes me sick to my stomach that I as a mother can have a reaction like this to my daughter possibly touching herself. I can’t even believe I’m writing this. 

I’ve wondered if it’s maybe the “taboo” part of it, or the fact that I maybe only have sex with my boyfriend once a week, and my needs aren’t being met. I’ve wondered if it was because I was on my period and my hormones went out of wack, or just the simple fact that something is wrong with me and I don’t deserve to be a mother. 

I’ve never had a thought like this ever go through my head. I never thought I’d have a reaction like this to anything of this matter, especially of my own kid. 

To clarify. I’m not thinking about her in any sexual way, I don’t think about her during sex, or masterbation, I don’t want to touch my daughter, i don’t want to touch myself to the thought of my daughter. I just got turned on when I thought she may have been doing it to herself. 

Please try to not be so harsh. I’m very sick about this entire thing and would give anything to not feel this way.",4.7614673081128345,5.149310066914502,5.495674611852176,83.84474961731905,69.14869888475836,8.336846708943801,29.764049857861362,8.219915518859313,1.9423855674611843,2088,75,429,27,34,680,206,538,0.124,0.7859999999999999,0.09,-0.9827,2,0,2,0,0,0,52.0,0,0,0,2,25,15,1,0,21,0,58,10,4,5,11,107,112,33,0,18,24,9,8,4,0,5,4,1,0,1,36,28,0,1,20,2,0,7,25,5,0,3,34,11,70,10,64,69,10,49,0,0,2,2,31,11,0,14,31,318,106,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191997622426178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750205670507943,0.0,0.05343692783853463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149652178473257,0.062183484008599625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774420304767947,0.0,0.059439284271059586,0.07869978312217209,0.07330582956465889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017169464197988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577149193459312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089875944582574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167055060151362,0.07857459669624321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046136879926635864,0.18955660195380836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03531949410313827,0.0,0.13413859955833712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03649501850853768,0.06700882852232133,0.11909625962898188,0.0,0.11173475990713416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470811392531052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337751826706854,0.0,0.0,0.08277548149528861,0.04682062023757829,0.0,0.0,0.13875847466282926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151672279183783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650550141919152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058658459484252364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0466270482360917,0.0,0.14035233596261362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039483325596453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538410456373208,0.16162353134197532,0.0,0.07428886578114753,0.06555178599062242,0.06844056323889935,0.0,0.0,0.07329838867222357,0.07439057225010369,0.04733382329454262,0.05312593071040912,0.0,0.0,0.07756287167262177,0.15128677778716307,0.0,0.04842688885852273,0.0,0.0,0.15335401263436768,0.0,0.07874813416355965,0.0,0.07106504712119226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897086057920399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554946648890605,0.0,0.0,0.0556633533885493,0.0,0.0,0.1578267561730019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107551646883901,0.0,0.0,0.1483257564351209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614474786496236,0.061054114210815996,0.0,0.15976471295536915,0.0,0.09281371877820116,0.08951725014405391,0.0,0.38818526104186296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485044736952493,0.1519587990927516,0.06823568703037299,0.07271885682961643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527116232712604,0.12360234240676035,0.2217824721323136,0.11206283296994744,0.0,0.0,0.0647539146500014,0.0630309651178866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150398984703367,0.0,0.0709385467680749,0.0,0.1984846858836815,0.15274536199526775,0.0,0.044982683205928936
parenting,katekatekatekates,2020/03/18,"You know, all the kid time stuff now. Hey y’all! Since it seems kinda like we have time to spare with our kid people these days, I was wondering if anyone knew of some good parent +kid meditation for beginners? (YouTube/whatever) I’ve always thought it would be beneficial and cool to try with my tiny human! We got the time now. Well, more so than before...

Happy social distancing and good luck! 😬✨",1.803717948717949,4.380065782051286,3.069487179487183,88.49217948717953,83.48717948717947,6.5435897435897425,18.923076923076927,7.793537801064563,0.7516307692307689,313,8,63,6,9,101,64,78,0.0,0.7340000000000001,0.266,0.9688,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,2,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,1,17,10,4,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,7,7,7,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,6,8,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187634396535692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576751222164555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188423076961952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14542910225565922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782780719909239,0.18035326903698565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400493680357395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392912201640326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016810454931744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503915070597539,0.0,0.0,0.15633358360790106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528709416438154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865362604163633,0.0,0.0,0.22986925897716395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581440065049333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790221282694411,0.3944732884749365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309996877365767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275194032622984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24454556365242774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018901361874038,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KodakMoments,2020/03/18,"Hello darkness my old friend. My ‘kind of’ depression has come back. By ‘kind of’ I mean hysterically crying in dark corners of my house, hating my life, and wishing I could end everything. I haven’t felt this way in three years but it occupied most of my twenties. Now I’m thirty with a one year old and I LITERALLY don’t have time for this pity party, but here I am. Can any other parents with depression or anxiety help? Being quarantined with a one year really isn’t helping my emotions.",4.542766917293232,5.97173681052632,5.8502255639097775,77.29157894736842,70.36842105263158,9.218045112781953,29.360902255639097,9.606745405546679,2.7968796992481204,387,15,72,9,7,130,67,95,0.17600000000000002,0.691,0.133,-0.5473,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,2,0,9,1,0,0,0,14,15,5,0,2,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,3,1,1,11,3,11,12,1,14,0,3,0,0,5,3,0,2,9,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396735933688452,0.0,0.12820635524571358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128866831636547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443644680007828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338074623068745,0.0,0.1840904117756557,0.0,0.0,0.2886910875860077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188516875217194,0.14843553381871707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061963080444152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609132639427039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294800868441909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546102751396208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246649017376676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337705873867486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490396542345015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837420160373205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18255530133248896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517162994640892,0.0,0.2271274644670657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608953549097834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073628339173227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977234303696272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133025622727527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272092660964368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237685677083003
parenting,FunBuilder7,2020/03/18,"Just realized how different my twins are and I wonder if I should worry? I never really paid attention to the ""macros"" of them until their school shut down and I've been working from home. They're 10 and fraternal. One is incredibly social and truth be told, if he wasn't so likable and confident then he would just be flatout obnoxious. The other one is very shy and sort of rides the other one's coattails. He's like a ghost. They get along better than most brothers because they are tolerant of each other. I think because I see them together all the time and they hangout with the same kids, I don't really get to see who they are individually.  I just wonder if I did something wrong for them to be so different because most twins have similar personality traits. These two boys do not.",3.1893640350877166,5.688516927631582,4.431736842105263,81.33782456140351,77.09210526315789,8.000701754385965,25.26491228070175,8.841846274778883,2.152845964912281,631,23,118,15,15,207,96,152,0.08800000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.0169,2,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,8,2,6,4,0,0,6,0,16,0,0,1,3,32,25,15,1,5,7,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,5,10,0,0,5,1,1,1,4,1,0,4,5,2,17,3,13,15,5,7,0,0,2,0,18,2,0,8,5,85,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117061881768048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074529221857674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35615877294815984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781015942068592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097084557769845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327111621781051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145816319476586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464950724723554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882653353108913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21838364641815133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250005845202412,0.2716461693280463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737478361590637,0.0,0.13121735891923705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921466552990268,0.0,0.0,0.09938820672824172,0.0,0.0,0.16286808603397504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650059567810166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063547996102535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36968198980559575,0.12408643513858875,0.17309579206209072,0.0,0.12107967205600075,0.18635551912856832,0.0,0.0
parenting,242576k,2020/03/18,"Keeping the kids entertained? I live in Vegas where it was just announced today to stay home for 30 days and basically all non-essential businesses will close. Schools have already been closed

What should I do with my son for 30 days to keep him from dying of boredom?? Like I said we can’t leave the house sooo I’d appreciate any ideas!!",3.5512820512820547,5.892058923076924,3.884230769230772,86.50993589743591,75.15384615384616,7.410256410256411,26.21794871794872,8.344100000000001,1.7538717948717948,270,10,53,5,6,84,57,65,0.053,0.812,0.136,0.7596,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,11,10,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,6,2,8,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,30,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653412698547719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351345393881847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31013921498993324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24954792997098915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411897876801759,0.0,0.0,0.2774456736636616,0.0,0.2714374685051458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274439470925117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546005994348745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747115581374158,0.0,0.2123207275666789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228721905428919,0.0,0.0,0.2433470591566673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562864666235907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279173817465037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,glassheadedwallaby,2020/03/18,"Newborn - Baby Wearing Shirts Hi all, first time posting in here as I am 5 days into being a new parents and wow, the paranoia that comes with this is real. I bought my husband one of those ""baby wearing"" shirts (the Lalabu) and he's been LOVING it while he's on his shift taking care of our baby - it allows him the freedom to do so much and baby seems to like it, too.

But at some point in the last 24 hours I've gotten it into my head that the shirt might be terrible for my baby's legs...my husband always makes sure to position them okay but I can't help but feel like it's doing damage. I have tried to find information on the internet but nothing has come up. Am I being a paranoid FTM? Has anyone else used them?",3.0131299572910315,4.0742069328859065,4.58131787675412,86.34273947528982,73.63087248322148,6.492007321537522,23.61256863941428,6.574015621080383,0.6911422818791944,559,15,115,4,11,188,102,149,0.087,0.7929999999999999,0.12,0.4835,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,2,1,3,9,0,0,8,1,14,7,6,3,2,24,25,10,0,0,4,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,2,0,2,3,1,13,7,17,18,3,19,0,1,0,1,15,9,0,3,9,77,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15961403748344985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412872763378192,0.19654771467180085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19557870366472227,0.0,0.0,0.3304810647985102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371146552654458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024544482757014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969926481944748,0.13704005074638542,0.0,0.0,0.17532487214555245,0.16316652373421062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686812539932466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285764720663717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889093051837242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636324273148786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874323289724809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312984547373433,0.0,0.12804489420781962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20349635627348292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101368582455048,0.0,0.0,0.1852660945458428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406157321461752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299858049240597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21299932278552505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133693586425614,0.0,0.1837156362514628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21833921613716686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746305717277652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079309896684714,0.0,0.14422877169410034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185488982005716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023680415602898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567549115887273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,doogie88,2020/03/18,"Should I advance my kid in math at home if he enjoys it? I was always very good at math and my son (9) is as well. I enjoyed it and he does as well. First, I feel the school is behind on what should be being taught, he's in a 3/4 split and what they are teaching is very basic, catering to the younger grade. My concern is if he goes too far ahead he might get bored in school but I also don't want him to be held back. I have seen some of their activities and they do do fun and creative ways to learn and understand how math works, so I do see some positive in what they are doing, but I think he's capable of more.

Keep in mind our schools are now closed, I doubt they reopen before next year so he will be solely learning from me now.",5.406962025316453,3.8760123227848102,5.854272151898737,88.26723101265827,68.17721518987342,8.912658227848102,27.97784810126582,7.1686216300943375,1.1488455696202524,569,13,137,4,8,184,99,158,0.037000000000000005,0.805,0.158,0.9636,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,5,4,10,8,0,1,3,0,22,0,0,1,0,27,32,16,0,5,4,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,5,7,0,2,5,0,0,1,1,2,2,1,4,3,20,6,18,20,3,19,0,0,2,0,16,10,0,6,7,92,25,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681927313030602,0.15276410139216262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117170117326078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622413920931252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066349050903234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283014812911716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616413047708416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591977632039196,0.0,0.0,0.15398911609754062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18415877003406989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318591328470047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476318306854032,0.18537661543864267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952532614048758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5574178185992492,0.14629986843337314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176389951497832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19112681035466889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30296694065308905,0.10828792093510302,0.14572759508080793,0.0,0.0,0.33014435030372624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365790638644226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822788664689575
parenting,boysmomma33,2020/03/18,"Social Distancing Teens If my teen asks me ONE MORE TIME if he can go party with his friends and how unreasonable I’m being by making him participate in social distancing, I’m going to lose my mind. Prom was postponed a little over a month and one of the school parents said she was going to throw her own prom for these kids. How about we stop catering to every little thing kids want and actually be responsible citizens?  Ugh!",5.162357723577234,6.700965073170736,6.0009756097561,76.38040650406505,69.0,8.881300813008131,27.081300813008127,9.2995712137729,2.3293349593495942,344,11,62,7,6,113,64,82,0.11,0.787,0.10300000000000001,-0.1669,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,3,0,13,14,7,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,2,3,1,8,1,10,9,2,11,0,1,0,0,15,4,0,2,3,39,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.19757497426417084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927585414566592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058406168346166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642264267219352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451936759842146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40584282948115735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265046436148461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351458243193475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443021631765013,0.0,0.161604273749182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743887425571888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22481153376246546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258896109704027,0.0,0.0,0.20490366771436036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.412771673307316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926838377507442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450761957857413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180579778866204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194180994672377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stayhealthy247,2020/03/18,"""Do you want to see something?"" ♧°•advice saught•°♧ So my child who is male age 5 constantly asks if I want to see something, i.e. how he climbs a wall, a pantomime face he makes 20 times a day, etc. After being asked if I want to see something for the 65th time of the day I start to just be like ""No, not right now"". Then he wants to know when I'll be ready to see it. At times it seems kind of unhealthy, and I try and tell him he should get joy out of doing things themselves and not worry about whether someone sees it or not. I'm just wondering how to respond to this obsessive need to be seen doing something. Im guessing this a nornal thing among some kids his age, but I get really annoyed.",3.2187837837837847,3.733023310810815,4.134702702702704,91.77921621621624,72.64864864864866,7.0010810810810815,26.28648648648649,6.742157984588678,0.8505059459459461,542,17,125,4,10,175,97,148,0.055,0.866,0.079,-0.1768,0,0,4,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,1,8,5,1,1,6,0,9,1,1,3,0,28,31,13,0,8,10,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,6,9,3,18,25,2,19,0,0,6,0,15,5,0,7,14,72,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944533991627954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24767775735286254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314990063927166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086067178421432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773585874694312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841720924512071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14592747095325967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430872247960938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794412448068094,0.07280046673232674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471674534371763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884228335254521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822269355168868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486183129518989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312619963632263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.527795734057887,0.12059309406962447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223896382522487,0.4079186535527741,0.0,0.0,0.09376091178086828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578210461815487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17601054141039296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317279348643336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993648145067693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31253016605725115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365494470993065,0.0,0.13452679396839204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quarantine-tutor,2020/03/18,"Virtual tutoring for homeschooled students Hi Parents! My name is Brenden and I’m a professional tutor working out of Jefferson county Colorado. School out here has moved online, and a lot of students have been asking for help. 

I tutor all subjects, but my specialties are middle and high school math and science (algebra-calculus, physics, and chemistry). 

I’ve begun using FaceTime/google hangout to tutor virtually to some students and it’s been going great! I can see their work and they can see mine and the experience is much like we were in the same room together!

Since studying is taking place online, I’ve decided there might be students all over the country that could use my help. I’d be happy to do a session for free to see if you think it would be a good fit!

PM me for details!",5.473894348894349,7.18815177027027,5.922137592137593,76.56782555282558,68.45945945945945,8.354791154791156,33.724815724815734,8.841846274778883,3.0998027027027018,634,30,106,11,11,204,102,148,0.0,0.7979999999999999,0.20199999999999999,0.9873,1,0,0,1,0,0,18.0,1,1,2,2,2,5,0,0,7,0,18,0,0,2,2,26,28,10,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,11,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,11,6,14,19,6,12,0,0,3,0,10,9,0,4,2,71,14,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547212506149586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132096705936015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314102913627835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059379801457784,0.14846011590620034,0.0,0.195144325770937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842095083243995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23728019820784035,0.1870113688306737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647379153899509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047999646464172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877701844479761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812414614555248,0.13011616660781994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653876294955394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492846550864486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582691039238003,0.4231408551807512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641713010944454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308279106143006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341515100303046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057442216960647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577178020989784,0.0,0.0,0.1257364953964802,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quintuplet-sister,2020/03/18,"Found out our previously diagnosed twin pregnancy is actually triplets! Help! We are completely freaking out. At our 8wk scan, we were told there was twins. Hubs has twin siblings, I am part of a set of quintuplets, my mother has triplets and twins on her side of the family, so multiples weren’t really out of the realm of possibility when we started TTC. 

But wow. I was really not expecting triplets. We went to our 12wk scan yesterday. Doc went on to mention baby A, B, and C. We suspect baby C was hiding behind B as they are identical, and the 8wk scan was only a 2D ultrasound, but at this 12wk one they used the 3D after thinking they saw a third heartbeat. 

Obviously, I’m still pretty early in the pregnancy and anything could happen, but at the same time I am in a whirlwind of excitement and completely freaking out. I didn’t sign up for three. We will literally be outnumbered right away.",4.8073438914027165,6.528251417647059,6.029999999999998,75.12192307692307,70.11764705882354,10.171945701357467,31.312217194570128,10.389873798559362,3.585520361990952,711,31,129,21,13,238,106,170,0.055,0.867,0.078,0.7226,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,9,0,3,0,4,4,0,0,11,0,17,1,0,1,1,28,27,11,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,15,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,3,12,4,18,2,25,12,2,25,0,0,4,0,17,15,0,0,7,90,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.19222525238378627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16209875725997108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507033709017634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130621154696241,0.0,0.0,0.1572734728365905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19993178828581373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18569636000004572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597973660616093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418983917594466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203235720792467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347957018787854,0.14981309143210522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133114617477758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220667245880651,0.0,0.20040071316638688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523824225143821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822088257055465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942431886780468,0.0,0.15730945391671064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621760975525045,0.0,0.0,0.11486133139935045,0.0,0.0,0.18822399377300125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012852567610448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36520712225928703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,atwalm,2020/03/18,"Looking for feedback on startup for parents My wife and I are parents to a 5 year old daughter. We have always struggled to find an easy way to research and select age appropriate activities for her in our city. Selecting a dance studio was a 2 week project. Our startup tries to make the process of searching for and registering your child in age appropriate activities in your community easier. For example, let’s say I want my daughter to do Tae Kwon Do on Saturdays from noon to 1 pm, I would be able to search for all gyms that offer Tae Kwon do in our city, read reviews from other parents, and register my child in the program directly from the site rather than having to go through the business’s website.  

As fellow parents, your feedback would be highly valued.  Most importantly, would you use this kind of a service?",8.441883116883115,7.937917571428574,8.391525974025972,69.18586038961041,61.59740259740259,11.076623376623377,41.327922077922075,10.411451182825502,4.441132467532469,662,34,113,13,8,215,98,154,0.016,0.898,0.086,0.8641,4,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,9,0,13,0,0,2,1,15,18,5,0,5,1,7,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,3,5,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,15,1,29,11,2,21,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,1,9,76,18,8,0.1609838247998993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395143837884058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713629939921918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149081750748113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008824952639615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763988067069854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461686784572546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518586801959634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745795311381903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16892544373335389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7150139451562567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102738930917007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802079889848228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829524701658058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092974497833396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390383370707792,0.0,0.0,0.09495243081405896,0.12778146694590478,0.1291315138598587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430748708588132,0.0,0.0,0.10366830510911307
parenting,Mishishi_Kiseki,2020/03/18,"Witnessed some strange behavior teaching two sisters (9 and 10). What’s going on? (Not sure if this is the best place to ask, but thought parents might help me figure this out.)

I tutor ESL to two girls who are sisters. 9 and 10. Overall, their personalities are extremely different. But something strange happened yesterday.

We did a drawing activity where they had to draw a person based on a description that I gave first and then a description each of them gave to the other. 

When the class was over and they had finished drawing they looked at each other silently for a couple seconds. And then they exchanged the drawings they had done. They then folded each other’s drawings and put them in their respective bags. 

Normally, I’d expect them to put their own drawing in their own bag. This really took me by surprise, especially since they did it without uttering a word. I decided not to ask them about it and just let them go home.

What on earth is going on here?",3.744499999999999,6.425829783333337,4.174444444444447,82.94500000000002,76.16666666666666,7.1111111111111125,29.44444444444445,8.167268648758528,2.353277777777778,771,35,136,14,18,242,108,180,0.02,0.898,0.081,0.8981,2,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,16,2,5,4,0,0,10,0,13,0,0,0,1,28,24,14,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,12,12,0,0,3,0,1,6,3,0,0,4,11,1,22,4,20,11,7,24,0,0,1,0,29,11,0,3,7,107,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104708393482998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17426044825142667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373245059066529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348812038439848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992798877594786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412430321717682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28311210324288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683849271067054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130059257857028,0.0,0.1665628528213931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16979856177460176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944115364587556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615404029072182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626948811495414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18438016274568086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899789366625255,0.17348812038439848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33385455959257704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637662530719336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735923577205045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783429576795458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650125350102104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182607322827686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844889489703666,0.0,0.0,0.3244157109815852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006739303396805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weliftedthishouse,2020/03/18,"Favorite Screen-Free Activities? Hey Parents. What are your favorite screen-free activities to do with your kids?

Ours are 8, 11 and 13. With schools closing here until August, we’ll have to homeschool them on screens, and let them FaceTime their friends, and keep up their hobbies with things like online art classes.

That’s enough screen time. More than enough. I really don’t want to end every day with a mindless movie night too. We need some new screen-free activities to spice things up.",4.418377028714112,7.303191786516856,3.2486891385767787,89.38429463171038,74.95505617977528,5.7533083645443215,26.742821473158553,6.937597516519254,1.1886469413233458,395,15,72,4,9,113,64,89,0.032,0.82,0.14800000000000002,0.8637,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,2,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,10,4,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,9,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,10,2,13,8,4,11,0,0,2,0,13,4,0,1,8,43,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956097463537694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913456103948445,0.5112877179045424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20845619858875772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911507390717405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21991212172987368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529966465764609,0.0,0.12087353812250565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345367076880906,0.0,0.2389531033910649,0.0,0.2321804241018481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747229563216291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849916039080492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25039525514340977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32874052571924123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442685620242004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593065033137256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ewwwdavid,2020/03/18,"What to do when 13 month old hits us? First time parents here and we’ve entered new territory with our little guy! When he’s frustrated for not getting his way, he’ll hit us in the face.

A few examples:

He wanted to get down from his high chair. I asked him “how do you say ‘all done’?” He usually signs “all done” but this time he got frustrated and swiped at my face.

He wanted my AirPods. I said “sorry, you cannot have these right now” and handed them to my husband. He got frustrated and hit my face. 

We want our reaction to be consistent, but can’t decide on exactly what to do. How should we handle scenarios like these? We’ve done things like saying “no sir!”, feigning crying, smacking the top of his hand, walking away, or time out for 10 seconds. Afterwards, we always speak to him and let him know that he has hurt us. He usually hugs or kisses us after he’s calmed down. 

Not quite sure what reaction is most age appropriate to help teach him not to do this. Help!",2.5817586416009743,4.459112979381448,3.7626500909642218,88.4118526379624,76.42268041237114,7.451303820497272,23.26743480897514,8.313332769828598,1.287067677380231,754,23,159,14,17,245,121,194,0.11900000000000001,0.725,0.156,0.862,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,9,2,1,3,6,10,3,0,3,0,15,7,5,2,4,31,29,13,0,4,7,2,2,2,0,2,0,4,0,2,9,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,6,4,0,2,6,6,25,6,21,16,4,29,0,1,0,2,40,11,0,3,17,98,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977854895985734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986470147372224,0.0,0.11041327086132956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290894561664147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607892025818709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996187466344504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279798989681195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879818736766651,0.0,0.0,0.11636260444888474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575414477335193,0.12416561521246228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580686404461716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458554559099801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017146820739685,0.0,0.11482800851444748,0.11778523337658145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380280106234626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135008928212801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331675882721678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304912988301971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499626394228805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036085827597747,0.11178778621058004,0.18691216235668395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155325874738075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076056954169576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807461515703018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20557938394703346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5654450950085449,0.0,0.2588618588157242,0.0,0.2079478215710024,0.09328136717420277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WooSte38,2020/03/18,"Parenting every other weekend during COVID19 outbreak I would like to hear some opinion or views on a situation Im in now due to current events like Covid19.
Im female 35 years old, and am married to a man 39 years old. Together we have a 1 year old daughter. I have a 15 year old Son from previous relationship that lives with me. My husband has an 11 year old daughter whom he brings to our home every other weekend. However, we live in a studio and the daughter doesnt like to sleep with us all in the same room. So she sleeps over at my mother in laws, which is her grandmother. My mother on law is sick with a cold now, so I suggested maybe not having my stepdaughter over, with the COVID19 OUTBREAK distancing measure being recommended, at least not this weekend. 
Taking into consideration the well being of all family members included, he texted his Ex Wife to tell her he wasnt going to pick up his daughter this weekend and gave the reasons why not.
I thought the Ex (F39) would be on board, as we are going through this outbreak and it is being implemented into our lives to maintain distance, especially having a family of her own. Instead she blew up on him, telling him infinity of things, all very upsetting. I never thought that would be the response he would get.
I know in a time like this I wouldnt want my Son visiting his father, not knowing whom the father is coming in contact with and overall just as a precaution.
Was my husband really in the wrong? 
Im having a hard time assimilating the response from my step daughters mother.
I dont come between their conversations, but as his wife i would like to give him my support.
What do you all think of this situation?",6.561408382066276,6.7638940524691415,7.121637426900582,74.37657894736844,65.26543209876543,9.907472384665368,35.26250812215724,9.682069395223575,3.3684839506172835,1339,59,244,25,19,441,167,324,0.028999999999999998,0.9159999999999999,0.055,0.8058,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,6,1,1,0,7,9,0,1,21,0,28,3,2,2,5,49,45,12,0,7,7,19,1,5,0,6,1,1,3,1,15,17,0,0,7,4,0,7,9,2,1,0,5,4,38,7,44,29,8,49,0,0,1,0,56,20,0,3,27,173,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664833443776555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656387285284273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532171151730963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143271973717647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750476032504298,0.08722391352863923,0.10334998218931027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145128448454987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024795160060896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912055737390553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946450527322821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994042626725932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221077489812576,0.0,0.2408663396655612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091346769414627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012726150092183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4770544759788571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009618786209954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824912925795511,0.09348643833732537,0.0,0.0976198345242544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20440788244552655,0.18198209841868312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318104823099676,0.0,0.0,0.06836457295264507,0.0,0.1589455866018592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060406784893161786,0.05826131465114024,0.0,0.1443691968393982,0.10603864520779482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937204158603843,0.0,0.0,0.07502296426371456,0.05363014726949118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175283990164679,0.0,0.08204601650718071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229539200291785,0.09941263368108197,0.0,0.29276483090083705
parenting,banaghaisgeach91,2020/03/18,"Help! Sleep Regression or teething? Hey parents how are you all doing?

I have a loving 7 month DS and I'm stumped at what to do or trying to figure out what's going on. 

We just got back from Utah on Wednesday of last week and from there, he has not slept in his crib. He goes down at 730-8 pm and on clockwork, he wakes up at 11 pm crying and we've tried soothing him back to sleep in the crib. It was unsuccessful and he'll only sleep if he's sleeping on me. I do not feel comfortable co sleeping with him because my husband is a dead sleeper and I like having my space. I'm just trying to figure out what's going on. And I miss my bed!! 

​

Help a momma out please!!!",1.2476282051282084,2.9242465833333355,2.9063888888888885,93.95442307692308,79.69444444444444,5.264102564102566,21.493589743589745,5.8734145424116955,0.02893653846153832,524,15,119,3,13,173,91,144,0.095,0.785,0.12,0.5756,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,4,0,9,9,8,1,1,24,19,11,1,1,7,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,12,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,1,13,3,23,15,1,24,0,1,0,1,17,16,0,3,7,72,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761957188623973,0.17676521090482158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237189999804118,0.0,0.08867878643237995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597948917708623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355535045225202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653509360200374,0.0,0.11634777948217027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501452200363595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857963805570484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107059607244533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129475990831022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611489341343358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063851707771168,0.0,0.0,0.16153017909324524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968530168694756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7278886187251853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962991716321772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668939718822673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676521090482158,0.0
parenting,scrmu,2020/03/18,"Loosing it with quarantine! Need to find sanity. Young kids at home as school and daycare is closed, husband and I need to work from home. Really loosing my mind handling kids and work and not stepping outside. Just needed to vent out.",3.353023255813955,6.329329418604655,3.4058604651162803,85.96181395348837,80.3953488372093,6.2306976744186064,27.20465116279069,7.554174236665415,1.8924548837209296,187,8,32,3,5,57,33,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,14,4,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,18,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410021364776881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5289925268141352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662453821639825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5865543957795497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689225384352481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668619947681453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839297667711985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cantmourn,2020/03/18,"Not able to mourn Hello r/parenting. I learned of a new struggle of being a parent to young children: You don't even have the luxury of mourning.  


My cousin died this weekend. She was from my mom's side and we are all very close. She was young and this was unexpected. I am completely distraught. I am in so much pain I feel like I can't breathe.  


After I found out from my mom,  I cried for about 10 minutes. But then I knew my wife needed help with the kids. I texted my wife what happened and then went right to work helping with the kids and the household.   


My children are 4 years old and 9 months. Of course I can't tell them what happened or even cry in front of them. Obviously they are way too young for that.   


I am currently working from home for obvious reasons and when I'm done working I go straight to work my other job as a parent.   


I don't know why I'm posting this. I'm just hurting and looking for support. Has anyone else experienced not being able to mourn because of taking care of young children?",2.1908584568216654,4.190473067961167,3.245217169136435,91.10696218702095,78.02912621359224,5.8902401635155845,25.405212059274398,6.8360192770164,0.911295145631068,796,30,168,8,19,255,121,206,0.11900000000000001,0.785,0.096,-0.7787,5,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,3,4,7,10,0,2,7,0,18,2,1,1,3,27,34,14,4,1,5,7,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,7,12,0,0,6,1,0,3,6,7,0,0,7,3,27,3,27,25,2,26,0,4,1,0,23,7,0,1,15,107,34,6,0.2411017371342025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429197024942328,0.1235186108895502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348669056579625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290964479838558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639529211635134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648389369765332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251127690450454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336539291173775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070478193822173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924542349250226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095414129584496,0.08612156459153962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321778051153948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851183670253996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21320546989706066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160541219455712,0.0,0.12092235028982785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905219809344956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962813574867676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625160468690353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058895065122310526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012323680842875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28237544056634817,0.09622255316788736,0.0,0.08861875915753349,0.0893869415479964,0.0,0.11642878006211572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649785772235886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282746236235942,0.0,0.4015724199309295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545440874935947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394637060578775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029497830775492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602594222606853,0.0,0.0,0.13679969705752162,0.0,0.0,0.0906392504217568,0.0,0.10536677262226314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946709167614624,0.0,0.09568766828750858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117518629091735,0.10877840839367398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510498722830595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763080694173356
parenting,misterwashburn,2020/03/18,"Participate's ""Learning at Home"" Community **Looking for budget-friendly, creative ways to keep your kids entertained? Just looking to keep your personal sanity intact during this health crisis?** As a team of creatives, parents and educators, [Participate](https://participate.com) has created a free social space to provide resources to make learning at home a seamless experience. 

I think it's going to be awesome! Check it out:  [https://go.participate.com/LearningAtHome](https://go.participate.com/LearningAtHome)",12.570149253731346,18.04609504477612,10.09464179104478,34.62255970149258,68.70149253731343,8.650149253731344,38.04328358208955,8.841846274778883,5.295090746268658,436,21,39,10,10,131,53,67,0.0,0.7559999999999999,0.244,0.9473,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,9,9,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,2,0,2,3,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,11,8,0,6,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,0,0,24,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21809440295401825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225576832847445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38013423672557306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369925117468819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472874327790617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3963482608257902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744548954435513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882530691736315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475669942395125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946771623185181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227276245034381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286163000958485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769726249711114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,last1yoususpect,2020/03/18,"Still paying for daycare, even though it’s closed due to COVID 19? Wondering if this is normal for other families who have kids in daycare. My son’s daycare will be closed for at least 3 weeks because of COVID-19. The program is not part of the state’s school system, but is following the governor’s mandate for public closures. During this time they will still collect full-tuition... obviously that is not my preference, but I understand and would still comply since my partner and I have enough PTO to make it work for those 3 weeks. 

However, due to the growing number of COVID-19 cases in our community — including within neighboring schools — several schools are closing “indefinitely”,  likely through the remainder of the school year. Today the daycare released a memo indicating that, even if the school remains closed through the rest of the school year (it follows the school calendar schedule) it will STILL collect full tuition, but may “be able to make exceptions for families who are impacted by COVID-19”. Uhhhhh... what families aren’t being impacted by not having childcare for their children, let alone financially?

I understand their argument of having to pay teachers... but, they are acting as though there will be no gov $$ assistance and as if families aren’t being impacted at all. Are other families facing the same issue with daycare? I don’t want to be unreasonable, but also don’t know if this is to be expected.",7.118568291611773,8.960210687747038,7.008662714097498,69.84845300834435,64.65217391304347,10.523407992973214,37.7709705753184,10.62613485830676,4.621294422485726,1156,60,178,31,18,367,134,253,0.044000000000000004,0.9359999999999999,0.02,-0.7744,3,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,4,1,10,1,0,0,13,0,31,1,1,2,2,37,40,17,0,9,13,1,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,3,15,8,0,0,5,0,3,4,8,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,33,26,7,29,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,7,14,137,27,13,0.0939542725502934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730829123605292,0.0,0.07513519781372589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727365249462936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970798791046166,0.0,0.12411182183124125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44285863222146427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806385045616103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05163481107714183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607460927939508,0.0,0.04590131175445497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543041298840749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205523871838736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174332139494592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6656071786008034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614158496139264,0.0,0.07771994515026573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001280136973833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461919149753206,0.0,0.054785491884321406,0.0,0.0890576645929417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561942240048186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554166642214265,0.0,0.1507289004109777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018894007598549,0.06839982940659901,0.0,0.0,0.06674241953995741,0.0,0.0,0.12100694222112525
parenting,irina_icleanu,2020/03/19,"I think my son got it My son is 12. We were watching American Pie the other night and for those who have watched it, you sure remember that scene when the whole high school can see Nadia naked. And do you know what he says? His first, genuine reaction? 
,,Poor her, what an idiot.""
And I've also been impressed by the fact that the only relationship he liked was the one between Oz and Heather.",2.1001623376623364,4.491873480519484,2.7221915584415584,92.68900162337664,80.42857142857143,5.927922077922077,22.61201298701299,7.1686216300943375,0.7059883116883117,306,10,64,4,8,95,62,77,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.8205,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,2,0,1,2,4,1,0,6,0,7,0,0,0,2,10,11,6,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,4,8,3,3,7,1,4,0,0,3,0,12,1,0,0,4,42,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230795939389617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23727832233401794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231051776758824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29473045566999684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330594745701914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628294441754835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26177964444662394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902660309083424,0.21215725921268414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29949244327449986,0.3160007594509051,0.0,0.0,0.22183559710708356,0.0,0.2823165696079962,0.22229040198608413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629110569414381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17874260449518706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31144243156474066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway42693-,2020/03/19,"My 2.5yr old son sudden behavior change. Help? He’s been in daycare since last August. He’s done really well. He’s always been very easy going and sweet and loves my family especially Mimi and Pop. However, for the past 10days or so it’s like something’s changed. He’s been extremely clingy to me. And doesn’t want Mimi or Pop or any of my family like he used to. He’s fine when he’s at home with me and his dad, but I can just see and feel a difference and idk what’s causing it. 

I originally thought it was a daycare worker he didn’t seemed to like and they had her moved to a different class, but it hasn’t seemed to help as much as I thought. 

Life at home is the same and good. 

He’s very bright and smart and sweet and funny. And he’s still the same with me. But I can just tell. In his eyes and how he’s acting. He’s still himself around me and his dad. But he’s just not really himself lately 

Has anyone else dealt with this?",0.37061671996345424,2.4975430854271394,2.2281795340338064,95.1985872544541,85.4824120603015,5.829237094563728,17.085655550479668,7.1686216300943375,-0.04365527638191002,730,16,170,11,22,241,104,199,0.008,0.777,0.215,0.99,2,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,1,10,11,0,0,6,0,13,3,1,4,0,42,23,27,0,1,11,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,6,19,0,0,5,0,0,3,4,0,1,0,9,6,18,11,17,14,3,18,0,0,3,1,27,5,0,5,13,95,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516875600501784,0.0,0.0,0.09412399431773988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967799508719291,0.14181807660073514,0.0,0.12321483113502407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421858736036212,0.292840248917339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892193585701449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416421591518784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562434499644544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609625018501259,0.0,0.06998458788656517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786619670960036,0.1160922937892258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185547494103498,0.0,0.2776743522719547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128231603825155,0.1561332519201255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776354163108797,0.2028613695564416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249210235197416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471086258411348,0.10174775998495646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452387032780021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212863535921834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733882452605013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029537501036084,0.25200773094179946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449472729214695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655528731118484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106986189051728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097701652650746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21976520500323452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954236931865188,0.0,0.2284065781664883,0.08163819268278281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444780475275873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShanShen,2020/03/19,"My 5-year-old is chanting ""Elephants don't have toenails"" ... because she saw a chicken pot pie on the counter and asked what it was. My wife and I told her it was an elephant toenail pie. Not only does she not believe us, now she is claiming that elephants don't even have toenails. :D",6.65922619047619,6.028569803571433,6.018571428571431,85.15976190476194,65.25,7.466666666666668,40.095238095238095,3.1291,2.456066666666666,223,12,44,0,3,68,42,56,0.0,0.927,0.073,0.6166,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,8,3,3,0,0,4,11,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,1,8,0,1,7,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,1,30,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32704414991547665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132533319338724,0.0,0.0,0.3941390037169566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061388932786284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23105964422626266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670881003633839,0.0,0.0,0.2660617421172736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342778872847124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.420802832803347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22527927320685834
parenting,ThinkThink23,2020/03/19,"Does anyone else just un-ironically love any of the shows their kids watch? My toddler's favorite thing to watch is the Wiggles. And I just gotta say, I love them! They are so wholesome, upbeat, and they have quite a few bangers! Propeller, Big Red Car, Taba Naba, and Highland Fling are some of my favorites. They also have a lot of cool cultural songs and they do really good on all the classic nursery rhymes. I don't know, I just never get sick of their songs. 

Oh and Say the Dance do the Dance just slaps.

Anyone else feel this way? I feel like kids shows get a lot of crap because they can get old fast.",2.4149627421758595,4.376157426229511,2.953487332339794,93.6416616989568,77.19672131147541,5.747839046199702,21.746646795827125,6.574015621080383,0.2619409836065576,474,13,102,4,11,147,78,122,0.02,0.78,0.2,0.9727,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,8,1,6,6,1,0,8,1,9,4,1,0,2,17,18,7,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,2,2,5,0,0,3,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,10,15,5,7,17,5,9,0,0,3,2,15,2,1,3,4,58,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746730174444972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254006094303716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578782362128031,0.37788607172663263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124105777344387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137262451356907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080906931891446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864797607734888,0.13173779845836026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28902943659199165,0.0,0.0,0.1546687908525664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134326503682277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009016796284658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135462876155893,0.3328624670805945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222324066517894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19350030814093594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19613567384776512,0.0,0.0,0.11813351543582475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932899092975884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250939965133124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637080526343088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CrochetKitten,2020/03/19,"Potty training frustration I'm trying the oh crap potty training method. I'm trying to put him on the potty every hour or so, but he won't sit still long enough to go. He holds his pee until I put him in the diaper for nap time or bedtime, and he pees in the tub at bathtime. I try offering him more milk, juice, and water so that he'll have to go, but he won't drink it. And he won't poo unless his diaper is on, either. 
I don't know why he is so vehemently against the potty (except as a toy. He likes taking it apart and putting it together). It's very frustrating. I guess even though he's physically able to hold it or decide to go, he's not mentally ready for the potty chair yet.",3.0647260273972594,3.638153417808218,5.0560547945205485,84.81736986301371,73.04109589041096,8.305753424657535,23.50410958904109,8.548686976883017,1.270914520547945,533,13,118,9,10,185,86,146,0.077,0.897,0.026000000000000002,-0.7273,0,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,7,4,3,0,7,0,7,6,3,0,0,18,16,16,0,0,9,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,3,2,2,3,0,6,5,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,17,12,3,19,0,0,0,0,16,6,1,4,7,66,15,0,0.18617617732449124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238177576703896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236975920542995,0.0,0.12296760925347976,0.0,0.15686145910856955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31742463601559545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509404901075254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334603232958374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231755812987288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095627611878604,0.0,0.0,0.16476005830953805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762179763885248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5614754412490089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868053570491105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998131543686915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829171489532298,0.0,0.10856082618706887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792042104342605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361484423931696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799504218340738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karorinashi,2020/03/19,Gave my son eye drops for the first time tonight. My son (6) poked himself in the eye and could not for the life of him stop irritating his eye. So I sat him down and gave him eye drops for the first time. He was scared at first but then he was able to give Mommy eye drops too and that made him so happy. 😁 He gave a big thank you and kiss then went back to bed. 🥳 What a little champ he is. 🙌🏻,-1.103595505617978,0.6945049887640451,0.6090898876404509,106.54756741573034,89.0,4.009438202247192,12.270786516853931,4.935628992294339,-1.8186053932584283,300,3,84,1,10,96,57,89,0.055999999999999994,0.769,0.175,0.9405,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,4,4,5,0,1,6,0,4,7,5,1,0,9,12,9,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,8,5,10,4,9,3,0,19,0,0,5,1,17,5,0,0,10,46,12,1,0.2359581568146057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18143725776263106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883933881264969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6021176629416699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226352564756786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511818455532452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666642242698773,0.0,0.236492061560217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326931320753174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362352782046912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727158460387131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21723856881672884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751781975276578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187355753307546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,senia26,2020/03/19,"Struggling single mom 

My daughter is one year and one month old. I have been debating writing on here but i feel as if this might help. Im not looking for an type a response just maybe looking for an outlet to vent. Im 26 years old and i been raising my baby girl by myself. Her father is not around and will buy diapers and wipes here and there. Im not working so basically my family helps me financially but i do everything else for my daughter. Im afraid of leaving my daughter with anyone because of what I lived through as a child. I just want to give up sometimes but i know I’m all she has. Could i be going through postpartum, i don’t know. I only get up every morning because of her. And i don’t know how much longer i can go like this i feel like im on auto pilot. I started to look for a work from home job. I just want to take my daughter far away from here. I know being better starts with me. But i sometimes i feel like its never going to get better. I lost faith. I lost who i am.",0.028160377358489086,2.2048682877358523,2.3002188679245315,93.67496981132076,87.82075471698113,4.712754716981133,20.744150943396228,6.152001189255117,0.134837132075472,775,26,171,7,25,262,117,212,0.038,0.8109999999999999,0.151,0.9726,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,6,10,10,0,2,5,0,16,0,0,1,2,35,40,15,0,4,11,6,3,3,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,9,0,0,7,0,1,3,6,4,0,2,4,6,33,6,27,31,3,18,1,2,3,0,16,7,0,2,11,115,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078488111697437,0.0,0.0,0.09011935938345762,0.0,0.0,0.0951122918110141,0.0,0.0,0.12342211577182492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790657704014416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082678552250505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456767585707993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529366717877307,0.0,0.09098222464296772,0.0,0.09543402069863624,0.0,0.15356023708236305,0.14464259628008094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578074680479488,0.09711248566632948,0.1726001492815278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570948521196338,0.0,0.10154554656063647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.546748254053891,0.0,0.10045871916575937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254133805127588,0.0,0.0,0.10719175663673836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837285819954146,0.0,0.08939111615911302,0.0,0.2550321620967844,0.0,0.22101684783201184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170274958519007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073928429850252,0.0,0.11856355908930112,0.08080368707252104,0.0,0.07441833798804473,0.0,0.07807758677430965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124552503384004,0.0,0.13719700336777665,0.0769927082504724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024522146097856,0.0,0.14330731450761938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583133021722167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611506228470939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942039051667976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473985208920622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038222796608545
parenting,TheBigMiddleChode,2020/03/19,"My fiancé is pregnant. We’re overwhelmed, stressed out, HAPPY, and have no idea what we’re getting into. And tips for new and for young parents? Anything is welcome, everything is appreciated.",4.675000000000002,8.0521636969697,4.791136363636369,75.40670454545456,78.6969696969697,5.724242424242425,35.52272727272727,7.1686216300943375,3.0344,154,9,22,2,4,48,26,33,0.111,0.602,0.287,0.8091,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,5,0,4,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,14,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29765516422816496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250801546983808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889776913586981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38504527968435664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083247159453948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493401921406109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016343332012284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4143357091639477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PhonesAreForCalling,2020/03/19,"Did I do the wrong thing by telling the truth to my daughter(15)? I became a dad at 18. Her mom & I had dated for a couple years beforehand. So, we have our daughter and things start going south. She doesn't like/can't handle the responsibilities. We fought pretty much daily, things got nasty at times. My daughter was 3 when her mom left. She felt she was missing out on life  Alcohol had started to become something of an escape for her as well, she and her older sister would go get liquored up and be gone for 3-4 days at a time, Thursdays through Sundays usually. Any time my daughter had asked about her mom, which albeit was a rare occurrence, I was always able to dodge it, because I just didn't want to go into it. I was either dodging the question, or I was giving very fluffy, rainbows and flowers answers, which I felt was appropriate. I told her that her mom was beautiful, and fun, things like that. 

A few days ago, my daughter was home and we were just talking about life in general, and she asks about her mom again, by now she's realized there was a whole other layer past the fluffy stuff. I told her pretty much everything. I told her about the boozing, the selfishness, the fighting, I mean, I went all in. I did try and lighten things a little bit, tell her she looks just like her mom and acts in certain situations just like her. 

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I wanted to reiterate that my daughter was not at fault for her mom leaving. She broke down, then I broke down.

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I don't know, there's a part of me that thinks I shouldn't have done it like that, like I made it too real.

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TLDR: Should I have been that honest with my daughter",3.4826851851851863,5.343731774691361,3.912839506172842,88.3827777777778,73.84567901234567,6.404938271604937,25.271604938271604,7.093109894594671,1.0050419753086426,1301,43,260,13,27,407,170,324,0.075,0.7959999999999999,0.129,0.9488,1,0,2,0,2,0,60.0,4,0,0,0,16,18,2,0,17,0,30,5,0,1,3,41,56,14,0,5,7,15,2,5,0,3,3,0,1,0,19,15,3,0,8,1,0,6,5,8,1,0,30,3,53,10,33,22,8,41,0,3,1,0,53,16,0,2,24,183,72,0,0.06977486109408461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185120438569339,0.07456810661931228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805827397786041,0.3024041313752465,0.2543522804053249,0.047449298225916633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046015241816142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04253410769610772,0.07706085214599226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617607678415632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720455666153618,0.0,0.0899980261508954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140390821358851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270914604234765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398961761943576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0364544850704703,0.06693440471567927,0.11896398456621958,0.0,0.055805330471805484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998987477179869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038346438887047946,0.0,0.0,0.07388150320402799,0.07581059073721112,0.0,0.09856809575708828,0.2045308359971992,0.06993274132999343,0.0,0.0,0.05859331007121461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660226606527844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760052789329122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5720363180814267,0.0,0.0,0.10258510260513376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755593750543172,0.06660800010440407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197223649609686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816381315250358,0.0,0.0,0.07941906758619093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842986732182985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371609696151327,0.0,0.0,0.09877401162326443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987552246346838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608239032266215,0.12197260809544727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23177658649105964,0.04470891360368194,0.0,0.0,0.1220588478555898,0.0,0.0,0.2000186097341386,0.0,0.04737255054071108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684715177700968,0.05757156781722031,0.082310041755211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273597974752933,0.06468199527863644,0.0,0.07790114060760231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956605938267258,0.07628785716518306,0.2543522804053249,0.04493272288590867
parenting,bflyme,2020/03/19,"Corona or what? I feel like we’re drowning and the work just stairs in awe. My adult child has been sick for almost a week and I have no answers. Fever that we can’t break, chills, shortness of breath, even stomach pain from shivering all day and the hospital literally turned us away. They wouldn’t check for COVID-19 because she hasn’t left the country, her flu and strep were negative and they said that if we already knew it wasn’t strep or flu they had nothing else to test for. I was lucky to be able to test her at a clinic today but as I sit here watching shiver with 102.3 fever and no answers for another 3 days I can’t help but feel like we’ve been abandoned. Our system has failed us and nobody cares.",4.282916666666669,5.25560479166667,4.2023888888888905,90.5815,70.52777777777777,7.14888888888889,26.20555555555556,7.1686216300943375,0.9880272222222222,566,17,121,5,10,173,99,144,0.151,0.754,0.095,-0.7684,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,0,3,2,3,7,0,0,5,0,14,9,2,0,1,26,20,13,1,2,6,0,2,2,0,1,7,1,0,2,4,10,0,1,5,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,8,4,17,4,14,10,1,13,0,2,1,0,15,6,0,5,6,73,21,4,0.1922341961174486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924947792395272,0.0,0.21213521562170926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015743158374741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806103552151196,0.0,0.0,0.1171841816998965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19599557467930848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24795030671499566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605870039028497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696887353169212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19439877109660028,0.2746642962330277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288505295345821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20886301655127454,0.0,0.0,0.1878318361973522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18445389575963167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204550738187542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828587416956591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822155405647708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20909560393675972,0.0,0.0,0.4624681375140206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541986767374571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994878427172838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blorbasaur,2020/03/19,"A rant from a teenage girl I get that as a parent you'd get upset if your kid is bitching at you, but for christ's sakes sometimes you need to just deal. We're just kids. We don't know how to handle our feelings, please don't act like we're supposed to. Sometimes we have bad days and that isn't our fault. We're not trying to be irritable, we're not trying to do anything at all. And bitching at us for speaking up, bitching at us for saying how we feel, honestly why would that ever help? We're at a time where everything is stressful. Just juggling social life and education is hard enough, not to mention romance, extracurriculars, jobs, and all that. It's just going to add another layer of stress to us. So just let us have bad days sometimes. Yes, parent us. But don't act like we're perfect and we need to do everything you say. Quite frankly, a lot of teens have grown up in a time very different from their parents. Social stigma was different when ya'll were growing up. Expectations have changed. Teens are going to see things differently, we're going to want to have our own ideas. Just because your parents did it when you were young doesn't mean you can do it now. And especially to the parents who say it's bad to be gay, what the fuck is wrong with you? I'm sorry but it just disgusts me. Actually, no, I'm not sorry. Because you're a disgusting human being. I understand that you're religious and that's your belief, but your belief is wrong. And besides, it's not just a belief if you're acting on it. I don't mind if you keep those thoughts to yourself, but when you judge people for it you're not just practicing a belief. You're just being a judgemental asshole. I should be allowed to be myself, I should not have to be afraid to go outside because of the judgement. Yes, I am lgbt. Yes, I identify as gender fluid. And that is okay. I'm not saying you're not entitled to your own opinion, but that does not mean you can make your child or others feel like they have to fake who they are. A parent should love their child no matter what, it just disgusts me how some parents will shun their kid for being proud. You had nine months to choose if you were ready for a child. You had all these years to love your child. And you're seriously going to stop loving them over something as simple as being gay? You're supposed to love us.

Thank you for your time.",2.8814756864549764,4.7440229245283065,3.790084368768216,88.611247123792,75.51991614255766,6.414664825893543,24.003119087794648,7.217587316427113,0.8939189957559956,1873,59,384,21,41,600,197,477,0.177,0.695,0.127,-0.9723,12,0,1,0,0,0,59.0,13,22,6,3,21,32,7,4,15,4,50,8,0,5,5,87,80,32,0,12,32,7,4,3,0,5,1,5,0,9,25,16,0,2,14,0,0,10,18,19,0,1,8,10,51,13,52,56,8,36,5,0,1,7,73,12,4,8,17,255,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.06274733019811117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742394751494095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291325733929846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106294352663,0.11758968522883018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802066337006597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829361042194713,0.06629027120370139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153881888304934,0.0,0.0,0.056269188966449835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643888262021362,0.0,0.0,0.058162851033575415,0.0,0.0,0.11557702972201125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753573379324464,0.0459357905209892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059444129702811724,0.067187984056506,0.0,0.18271529284810875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057599991725933615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043098801077497806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258664847572707,0.0,0.0,0.0638076306466396,0.057152617325734525,0.0,0.0,0.035337488920585115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575090273668324,0.045416850858030565,0.09424090425004583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466539123581926,0.23213232252316446,0.0,0.04292061631309463,0.0,0.0,0.14008266635183927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649244689694543,0.0,0.0513234875222998,0.0,0.0,0.09535497506890482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4997812357415927,0.0,0.0,0.04457738575706488,0.0,0.0,0.0705818723825876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839075294257156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20453512952354888,0.0,0.0,0.05123861629398259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310910988494453,0.0,0.049501128040228326,0.1907824413227987,0.14395672532958778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375751260194539,0.147310409081612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919861760244969,0.0,0.0,0.042717930503556004,0.0,0.0,0.05104685945748577,0.112481192750682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873106879521823,0.0,0.0,0.06693836026049163,0.4640684598362055,0.0,0.0,0.053054069658835946,0.037925688447175435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05802056900472635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04567673361877323,0.1406034763901056,0.0,0.04140696354698073
parenting,catrapeisfunny,2020/03/19,"Dayhome - Corona Virus Rant So, I live in a small town and my 2yr old toddler attends a dayhome with about 4 other toddlers. If my kid ever so much as has a runny nose, which he always does, he gets sent home. We pay a pretty good amount to have him there, and he gets sent home atleast 3 times a month, and the people who run take at least 3 days off a month for ""sick days"" leaving one parent at home, so every month a quarter of what we paid goes down the drain. so now...

With the corona virus, our town and entire territory has not had a confirmed count of the virus, and on Monday, my kid coughs, once, and the dayhome wont let him come back. Now my wife and I have temporarily lost our jobs as the town is legit shutting down, like no business except grocery is open for 2 months, and so we messaged the dayhome today for an update to see if they are shutting down.

We text, saying that our toddler is fine now, can he come back? They say no, and plan to keep us updated. So we are potentially now dumping half a months pay to darcare again, down the drain. It is a matter of time before government shuts them down, so we ask what their plan is? We receive a hectic text saying ""You dont plan on taking him out right?? We rely on that money!!"". They want us to god damn pay them for 2 basically 3 months of not doing their jobs.

Am I worng for being upset by this? Should I say something? I mean if he loses his spot at the dayhome, that sucks, and it might be hard to find a new place, but we are getting gauged for what we pay. They even threatened that he would lose his spot if we didn't pay, even though they are 100% getting shut down by government soon anyways for who knows how long this whole thing will last.

Rant over.",5.246590909090912,4.834807750000003,5.454113636363636,87.30679545454547,68.0909090909091,7.835454545454546,26.975,6.508806274219699,0.9558450000000004,1336,33,292,7,20,423,190,352,0.10800000000000001,0.861,0.031,-0.9668,3,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,16,1,9,6,23,10,3,1,22,0,27,3,1,1,1,46,46,26,0,7,8,2,1,1,0,5,2,4,3,2,16,27,0,1,3,0,7,7,7,7,0,3,6,7,40,3,41,32,4,61,0,3,1,0,52,27,2,5,28,193,56,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102150739914356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102990392439317,0.0,0.0,0.1497464905291662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285660790409706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775513268766046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255940840486179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852111069709577,0.0,0.11411954486654165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12862689774550098,0.08807876943300051,0.08204031526455452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889964670386067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20349191455435856,0.0,0.0,0.08167121853619302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722640483429159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930169001674512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19325385492355374,0.08654892451919123,0.0,0.0,0.05351323884004065,0.0793713750223061,0.0,0.10310314703443756,0.0,0.09956971673917553,0.0,0.04757115999354754,0.0,0.08598147546139477,0.08617137188151043,0.0,0.21786926853142388,0.10629330684604972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606691945036456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329656335659278,0.0,0.0,0.4663295774168211,0.0,0.07157980318992294,0.0,0.0,0.09404272009354347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217579038335677,0.10369826205476897,0.06598195259944067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812035381831246,0.0,0.0,0.0675056537334442,0.0,0.10173327043380402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906257817901956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315536440807612,0.0,0.3097372669000356,0.0,0.0,0.07759307170170279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496191066720287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642361883984806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468979227489488,0.0,0.09566773541886953,0.0,0.11355707713522185,0.0,0.09229750194647413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23425364099068044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743267238392856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087126331476445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917044844548773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MiscLeine,2020/03/19,"Feeling guilty because my 3.5 yr doesn’t have any friends...... Does anybody feel guilty because their kid doesn’t have friends? I’m a STAHM and a lot of that’s great for him but so far I’ve really sucked at making play dates and finding him friends. We don’t do preschool because it’s $$$ where I live. We usually go out to places with lots of kids to get interaction, he has a gymnastics class, but I’m jut bad or forgetful at making connections with other parents and setting up play dates. I feel like he gets bored and lonely with just me at home and right now it’s worse because of all the self isolation. 

Just now the neighbors kids are all out on the trampoline and he gets up on the fence and talks to them, made me feel bad. I’ve had him meet the neighbor kids and play once or twice. I was just never sure their parents were into having another kid around , they have a lot of step family and the mom works a lot.  

Just feeling poopy about the whole thing.",4.996708967851099,5.1403081928934,5.068337563451777,87.96497673434858,68.5939086294416,8.597123519458547,29.107021996615906,8.344100000000001,1.7260087986463626,762,25,167,10,12,238,112,197,0.16699999999999998,0.721,0.11199999999999999,-0.9341,2,3,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,4,1,10,14,1,0,12,0,13,0,0,3,4,45,28,14,0,0,8,3,5,1,5,0,0,0,3,6,5,18,0,1,6,3,0,2,4,5,0,1,4,5,15,9,23,24,7,24,0,1,0,0,29,15,1,6,7,98,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535829934633879,0.13161927349214028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173992897525936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20960888422997406,0.3060647244869669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984390627847636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832963269650695,0.0,0.3173348860592123,0.08967192812790974,0.0,0.0,0.11472353701303352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909306684793769,0.0,0.1967379686637123,0.0,0.0713362387903573,0.0,0.0,0.13838688365023716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590737703936922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06132301557437345,0.0,0.11083697264354896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42685243714202575,0.0,0.11877060867812753,0.1675719249666471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470081873898045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680921014538928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336753221885401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787515016243648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311422914238438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041169831001023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719389031885737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094534097723626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183016620927864,0.0,0.0,0.10088868835167124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833902965518275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382431865285781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013924605892294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138047789186024,0.0,0.12791619553558106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Klevvers,2020/03/19,When is the “right time” to start a family? I’m 18 and don’t think I plan on having kids until I’m at least 25. I’ve always been a little curios when people thought “this is the right time to start a family” is there even a “right time” to start a family? I hope I’m posting this in the right sub reddit.,1.6495522388059705,2.4390300746268667,3.9016716417910473,90.95638805970152,76.61194029850745,7.151044776119402,16.385074626865677,7.554174236665415,-0.11407223880597073,233,2,56,3,5,81,39,67,0.0,0.943,0.057,0.504,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,15,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,7,13,1,18,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,1,9,31,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452994529288268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153361525494834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938541068218517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343899963211756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501707096797273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106087472245596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672395602709863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5965047723473194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707949496893088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189069606399908,0.0,0.13863032460978478,0.3054703938546827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mister_Capitalist,2020/03/19,"How many times do we tell our children to do something before we punish them, and is a punishment even necessary? Let me admit first and foremost this seems petty, small and almost not worthy of a post. I'm posting because my wife and I disagree on what to do.

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We have a 5 and 8 year old daughters. We're on lockdown for the Coronavirus and so it's been plenty of board games, crafting, and movies. The new problem we've run into is they turn on Disney+, start watching a movie, while we're in the other room and as time passes the volume continues to creep up. Thirty minutes pass and it's like there's a Regal Cinema in the living room, my wife goes into the living room, tells them to turn it down (instructing them that it is too loud for them six feet away from the television), they do, and ten minutes later the sound starts creeping up.

For me, I let it happen twice then I told my wife if they are incapable of not listening to being two times not to do the same thing, or simply choosing not to do it, then they don't need to be watching a movie and can move on to other activities. My wife thinks that's a bit too much. Help me out?",3.7373617773289567,4.903750703862663,4.59392072708912,86.53812168644285,72.00429184549354,7.1990911386013625,25.293865185559202,7.510576382923642,1.1677394092400903,906,27,184,10,17,293,136,233,0.08199999999999999,0.887,0.031,-0.8954,0,1,1,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,8,1,6,4,2,0,16,0,18,1,1,1,0,32,30,19,0,3,6,5,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,13,17,0,0,4,2,0,4,5,3,0,5,2,5,22,1,30,24,3,37,0,0,2,0,25,17,0,4,15,132,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844268198798924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061985562193046,0.1801299312943456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927798784389314,0.0,0.0,0.09036678442304756,0.0,0.1261427961465682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184157801380905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791226645469456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609434224363866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108967479459302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936330873621133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031744310734761,0.0,0.07242342269752905,0.0,0.2618003320643197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029384966270515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755750168265845,0.10897473056643736,0.10991936655347216,0.0,0.1431727893514458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555476169577698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28394920456520995,0.0,0.0,0.14184731786621918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495370602803536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412372839345565,0.0,0.0,0.20985252303237895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591396170816296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848522026319168,0.0949873166795574,0.0,0.0,0.259322839681929,0.0,0.0,0.14165132851015175,0.0,0.0,0.3224888733387262,0.14481063264054556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801299312943456,0.09546281566741346
parenting,Tfelv22,2020/03/19,"Looking for a way to entertain the kids? My stepson was supposed to be going on a trip with his mom and visiting an aquarium, but with everything going on lately it is unlikely he will be going. In an effort to salvage his Spring Break I printed off the ABC sea animals from the free home crafts bundle on creative fabrica and we colored them so he and his mom could make their own aquarium. 
I figured I would share the link so that others could take advantage of all the fun things offered. It has coloring pages, paper dolls, super hero masks, and board game templates! [Creative Fabrica Free Home Craft Bundle](https://www.creativefabrica.com/product/the-free-home-crafting-bundle/)",10.353750000000002,9.914142875,8.92666666666667,66.68500000000004,57.75,12.0,41.66666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.870666666666667,555,26,86,12,6,170,86,120,0.0,0.742,0.258,0.9888,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,2,4,2,8,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,1,1,15,15,7,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,5,7,0,0,2,2,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,10,13,8,3,14,0,0,3,0,15,5,0,0,2,55,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170213298773987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842665438851865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33848883454008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.597427647388319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22395135551295325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671584522129984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252083033208936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4650336758353725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492704312884058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189502170947656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758448407059844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103056260566202,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lisapilates,2020/03/19,"Free at home parent & child workouts So I’ve had to suspend all my classes so I’m going to be working out at home with my kids and putting the workouts on my channel. Suitable for all levels, I will add parent & child workouts all next week. This is free, I don’t get paid by YouTube. I’m trying to stay positive and keep people moving until I can start teaching classes again. I hope this helps to get a little activity into your day.
Please delete if I’m not allowed to post this. 


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parenting,jmeftw,2020/03/19,"6 month developmental activities I am a FTM and work full time...usually. Keeping my baby home for obvious reasons. I looked up his 9 month ASQ as one does when they are home for 4 days in a row and I realize I have no idea what to do with him to help him develop. When does he need to be drinking from a cup? Or eating real food? Those are the thoughts going through my head as I recognize how much I need his daycare teachers. Any good resources for activities to keep my baby happy, busy, and growing?",2.508140814081408,4.441729891089113,4.442112211221122,83.20286028602862,76.82178217821783,7.657205720572058,28.05390539053905,8.515128840125781,2.1269991199119915,393,17,80,8,9,134,74,101,0.023,0.858,0.11900000000000001,0.8534,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,6,4,1,2,1,16,13,9,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,3,2,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,14,2,14,11,2,10,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,5,51,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449475154792065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180658336832814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32041383031089044,0.0,0.0,0.1793401632850012,0.0,0.18732762830033686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221370524442774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404363011655522,0.1535515080578544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488278702608536,0.0,0.0,0.18788395442578246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270882332498168,0.0,0.3672708510502667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666519719526408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254443393621662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537337716767722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29225150609045303,0.0,0.13457845889034065,0.2714900762053309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240538406042772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837520167811396,0.0,0.18822777140814795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533815098940694,0.10675033847467433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327807581214834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pazark,2020/03/19,"Confiscated teenager's vaping stuff. What now? My son, 14 years old, was caught awhile ago vaping. He ""just tried it and borrowed a friend's"".

Today, I found his stash while cleaning out the entrance and had some fun moments when I realized he was looking for it all over the house. Without a word. 😂

So, help me out:

- Do it just throw it in the trash and talk to him about it?
- Should I hold on to it and wait for his friends to come around and ask for it? Then ask their parents to pick it up. 
- Give it back to him so that he can return it and never do it again? (naive...) 

We've talked about vaping and the dangers associated with it.",1.689651162790696,3.5988876744186062,2.872267441860465,93.61677325581398,79.23255813953489,6.16046511627907,20.82751937984496,7.1686216300943375,0.31573333333333364,486,13,111,6,12,156,86,129,0.044000000000000004,0.899,0.057,0.39899999999999997,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,1,0,11,4,1,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,2,25,15,12,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,15,12,0,2,2,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,5,1,10,3,19,9,2,23,0,0,1,0,18,7,0,1,13,77,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511648359155256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590426868789936,0.3904584381877317,0.0,0.0,0.1605784975470135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988980621577713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289729101538589,0.3226853262961797,0.0,0.0,0.2003301593772429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997532147888525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409634593942365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536582561489528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106369119239894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913348149207376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318826158669081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390620520704929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357016242788479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794780014588292,0.0,0.0,0.14178284904809338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013060692592457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448060941489204
parenting,OhEmGeeZ,2020/03/19,"How to handle a teenager Short context, have been in a relationship for five years, happily married with a recent addition (newborn). We are having trouble with our teenage son 14 yr.. Old. We have quite a good relationship overall but my son recently went on a sprea of creating issues for us, starting from bad grades to being suspended from school for bringing in a vape that he claims he found. After this issue and with the coronavirus impending we decided it's best to just pull him out of school for the remainder of the year since mom is as home with the NB and can also work on the teenagers school work. 

Ever since he had brought in the bad grades and got suspended I made it very clear that there will be strict guideline until he can earn back our trust. We took away all the electronics and started to create a schedule.. Our teenage son although he does really great has been lashing out, giving us attitude and ignoring some of the guidelines  we set. 

I am being persistent and mom is being very attentive but it's this is breaking down the household because it leads to lots of arguing and disagreement about simple stuff like leaving the house during a quarantine. 

I know this is a teenage phase but maybe someone that has experienced this can give me some advice that would help.. Maybe some techniques. Thanks",7.861580796252923,8.189766680327871,7.06943793911007,75.4204098360656,62.52459016393442,10.577985948477751,36.28103044496487,10.290406445055957,3.749589929742388,1066,46,185,22,14,328,150,244,0.10800000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.8682,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,10,0,0,7,7,11,1,0,19,0,23,0,0,3,3,39,36,15,0,1,4,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,13,19,0,1,4,0,0,6,0,5,0,1,9,1,16,6,33,21,6,30,0,0,0,0,28,10,0,4,13,128,29,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098168050192338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987054791321808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055850647353172,0.08641357407499102,0.1876658434741624,0.06850603552604588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179362736925543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834482635588264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016544860575575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232192842441671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156109981254722,0.0,0.09425932945517017,0.08988085465806253,0.12389976379764893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753261986882458,0.0,0.11272668235659512,0.0,0.0,0.12967186806336642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23459183518287305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176131690506455,0.0,0.0,0.118994594158983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05490337627825754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554177885820384,0.0,0.10633703117786608,0.0,0.0,0.2258023898750917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632370816291024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792430259650395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953036548110785,0.0,0.0,0.07199374799391256,0.0,0.2219241317746857,0.2413089381928159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412048275817596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592442044954985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521952983342144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908682033860164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864864636726767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346475354554108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485873528586375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703595160935253,0.0,0.0,0.18545116302216766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417773656174027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362850767177256,0.0,0.0,0.07983179638363955,0.0,0.0,0.14473855816120554
parenting,TheGaelicBeagle,2020/03/19,"Do not want my 2.5 year old to lose out on structure and learning provided in day care these next few weeks.. I will be home with my daughter the next few weeks, and I want to continue with learning activities she would normally be doing in order to keep her brain working.  What are the best resources to find actives for this age group that are also learning exercises?  What do you all do with your kids to fill time but also continues an education?",8.981511627906977,7.368002848837211,8.574069767441861,71.88459302325583,61.20930232558139,11.855813953488376,38.94186046511628,10.686352973137794,4.009451162790699,359,15,67,7,4,115,63,86,0.046,0.88,0.075,0.5481,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,3,2,3,0,0,3,0,10,2,1,0,1,18,14,5,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,6,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,2,13,10,4,17,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,0,11,49,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33655432773965666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208285374372348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349044045852091,0.0,0.0,0.2145427799956604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357070132589779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19232505772700514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21107389283684166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870358167941973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354122643378052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475797266260207,0.0,0.20617227267165505,0.0,0.0,0.22080612228412247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270077758180767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482287757976637,0.0,0.3375812217498883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531922406094985,0.0,0.0,0.1494802089672877,0.0,0.0,0.13550709679379608
parenting,hell_houndstories,2020/03/19,"i have my child most of the time but ex-partner gets all the benefits.... ok so i live in the uk

and the mother of my child has her own flat and bills paid for by the government (because she chose to have a child)

i live with my dad at home (i get a little money, unemployment benefits)

ever since our daughter was born, with no previous experience with young children (no younger family members) i basically taught myself everything about caring for a baby and looking after her as my partner completely changed after the birth and wasn't interested in her child.

my ex-partner said she had postnatal depression although it seemed more to me the novelty had just worn off and she was totally uninerested in raising a child now the pregnancy hype was over.

we split up after she did some horrible things to me behind my back while  i was at home everynight caring for our daughter.

fastforward over 2 years later.

shes now in her own flat getting her bills paid and what not

over the 2 and a bit years the rountine went from me looking after her:

friday+saturady then

friday\_saturday\_sunday then

friday\_saturday\_sunday\_monday

now its friday saturday sunday monday tuesday

and itscommon fir her to make an excuse not to pick her up and that she will have to pick her up the next day.

i love my daughter more then anyone, i love spending time with her and would love to be in my own house, working, a new partner and most importantly my lovely daughter.

i really feel like it would be better for everyone if i just had full custody of her.

problem is thats not really a good idea atm as im unemployed,broke and living with my dad..

also i think its pretty unfair that she gets acsess to all this finacial help in order to look after her daughter, yet its me whos lookign after her most of the time, with no help

basically im looking for some advice on what to do :s

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thank you.",7.84409732431638,7.4129860530726255,7.909259041458394,71.91696706850928,62.770949720670394,10.888797412525728,34.7638929726551,10.307518312809881,3.486629050279329,1509,57,271,30,19,490,181,358,0.095,0.753,0.152,0.9797,4,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,1,0,2,11,16,0,0,20,1,21,4,0,3,4,45,47,23,0,4,7,8,1,1,2,3,0,1,2,8,12,19,0,0,4,0,7,1,7,2,0,0,15,6,50,14,53,27,15,52,0,1,4,4,49,18,0,7,33,204,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248211963489508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386807685110567,0.0,0.11363144589517475,0.1274339617771409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333066882312086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064199495588173,0.0,0.063930504327302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927529473784499,0.11449576046782912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21385302612355295,0.0,0.11094328483311007,0.0,0.10995888789358553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763535797431304,0.0,0.09032822850250162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486496351582774,0.0,0.10021205167478207,0.09425441250736724,0.10258735681678216,0.09886631800293247,0.0,0.0530276838414974,0.07492234328968499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191703309916184,0.0,0.0,0.08796373083552979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059029497823475,0.0,0.210395291418104,0.0,0.0,0.1210110592256144,0.0,0.11839051279331288,0.2265648512223379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123636928904078,0.10511177180816612,0.27781823878296164,0.0,0.3522725705047782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37861321987624463,0.0,0.07000452399192282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128841794718164,0.11153519005913784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669504041930374,0.0,0.10035070547834686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437054362644058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975963826924653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547377991033527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675324644630716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965543228924933,0.0,0.0,0.06967393871996018,0.06719932659762175,0.0,0.0,0.18345944287274554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972196856368472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634986419410468,0.0,0.0,0.14899963090756135,0.0,0.1274339617771409,0.1350714422137937
parenting,colocop,2020/03/19,"Am I wanting to unreasonably put my kids at risk? My wife and I have been divorced a little over 3 years. She has the kids the majority of the time because I am forced to live with my parents who live an hour away because the majority of my income goes to her after our divorce settlement (I didn't have affairs or was abusive) it was important to me that she not have to work full time so our kids didn't have to have a nanny. It KILLS me not having more access to my kids. 

I work as a police officer. Obviously with all the COVID19 stuff we as a department are taking extraordinary measures to keep our officers and their families safe. We sanitize our cars at the start of every shift. It's mandated we wash our hands immediately every time we come into the police department. We have a bleach boot bath for us to dip our boots in when we come into the PD. We are minimizing our contact with the public whenever possible. If a report can be taken over the phone we do that. We have severely limited our traffic stops to essentially obvious DUIs only. They have issued us N95 masks for when we have to have contact with a probable COVID patient or anyone showing symptoms. We are not allowed to congregate in the PD or have lunches at the same time. When we are done eating we sanitize the table. I also take my temperature twice a day to make sure I'm not starting to get sick and go to work and expose my co-workers. This week I had only one extended in person contact with anyone really. That person ended up passing away and was tested for COVID and was negative.

My ex has been keeping the kids at home and said she feels like my exposure as a police officer puts the kids at undue risk. I outlined all of the steps the department and myself are taking and she thinks that's all fine and good... But still puts the kids at undue risk of exposure.

During the conversation she says it feels like I'm just concerned about me getting to see the kids and not their safety. I don't even know how to respond to this. Of course I want to see my kids. And of course I will do everything in my power to keep them safe. If I had a possible exposure to a COVID patient or thought I was symptomatic I would wait the appropriate amount of time before exposing myself to them.

Am I being unreasonable to want to see my kids? No matter what I or my police department do to keep our families safe am I unnecessarily putting my kids at an unreasonable risk?",5.0920906964656965,5.958027249480254,6.414391242203744,75.84688831860709,68.60498960498961,9.754703742203745,30.415865384615394,9.903583721103773,2.9489110706860706,1941,74,367,45,32,658,216,481,0.079,0.873,0.049,-0.9393,4,1,0,0,2,0,33.0,24,0,5,5,10,13,1,4,34,0,44,6,1,3,6,78,75,29,1,6,14,3,3,2,0,2,3,2,2,13,13,34,2,10,5,2,0,14,10,5,0,2,15,8,71,8,64,56,9,52,0,0,3,0,64,20,0,7,20,270,84,6,0.0,0.10383721275723587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008442347370931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255766056336324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467838599480966,0.0,0.0,0.10684715105884462,0.0,0.07457385189098267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098550055876886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651953935325256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968454471406866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967599625878568,0.0,0.0,0.07762163946811873,0.0,0.0,0.057884358678864364,0.0,0.1476783197958045,0.0,0.07876377292112573,0.0,0.16523543065152765,0.0,0.08862525026716363,0.12521782856852715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915749285473637,0.0,0.049806941291776916,0.07350695990262686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087908494234338,0.0,0.08630620341520516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914717552201155,0.0,0.3115882651574905,0.09695894176909296,0.0,0.04816379101692194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563142347674206,0.0878367336424538,0.15477268448758588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849933477353465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938607052709456,0.13330595537798634,0.0,0.0,0.09731210890723398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530449992292818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197598331333334,0.0,0.0,0.09448905380501346,0.0,0.0,0.3524033255905186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614342450362173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336421909922162,0.06969359973575164,0.0,0.0,0.20950945434116885,0.0,0.0,0.0990064843782974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406186837163605,0.0,0.069988166067116,0.07326965445587677,0.0,0.0,0.1003250388551037,0.0,0.0,0.08259818625833568,0.09108988839005264,0.19767958538702007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615516939510854,0.0,0.0695751267586056,0.2555133762311607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108364893284344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550742558403952,0.0,0.07029826495112856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25520729294124905,0.0,0.0,0.062255828570452365,0.0,0.0,0.056436277727711925
parenting,lambosambo,2020/03/19,"Can I stay up all night to play video games with my daughter? My daughter loves to play video games like yoshi's woolly world. I'm pretty sure if i let her, she will actually stay up all night playing games. Is it ok for me to stay up with her all night just for one night to play games with her? (That's if she can even stay up all night)
It's just a one time thing. I pinky promise I won't do it again...",0.6439606741573023,2.152176584269668,1.7420084269662937,102.38806882022472,80.91011235955057,4.899438202247191,16.742977528089884,5.148860815047168,-1.0816415730337083,312,5,82,1,8,98,47,89,0.0,0.73,0.27,0.9704,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,0,1,1,7,1,0,0,5,12,9,2,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,12,9,13,6,4,16,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,2,8,50,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.1405275029320441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511353548423312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14725423612353053,0.0,0.07035326659319473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996957611982252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6756917820177947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516219079785424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465042259424212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6139580388290754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572242482983726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567011194159183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397011258840299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,titsdraggingabody,2020/03/19,Should I continue with my 16 month old daughters regular checkups? I live in PA. Corona virus is pretty widespread around me and it is now in my county. Am I crazy for not wanting to bring my daughter to the doctor for her regular checkup/vaccines? We are in quarantine right now.,2.8042138364779885,5.589443037735856,3.885188679245285,82.94086477987422,80.88679245283019,6.552201257861638,29.58805031446541,7.793537801064563,2.409669182389938,223,11,38,4,6,72,42,53,0.045,0.887,0.067,0.2869,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,0,7,7,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,9,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,5,29,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499712988598553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023878008639074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34714322474954884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137946331498934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125264561311009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999571146753532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357330308759874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318797507294823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fuffii,2020/03/19,"How to persuade my 13 year old son with level of sugar 6.2 to stop eating sweets By chance I have found out very high level of sugar. He is not obese, hyperactive teenager. At home we don’t eat anything sweet, but when he is at school or out he eats everything that he can see. 


I would be grateful for advice.",4.5373809523809525,4.906732857142861,5.162023809523814,86.10589285714286,69.63492063492063,7.56984126984127,25.273809523809533,7.1686216300943375,0.960780952380952,242,6,51,2,4,78,52,63,0.024,0.831,0.145,0.7906,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,0,11,9,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,4,6,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,4,2,11,6,0,11,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,1,4,28,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171675061287968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288218406890386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6822120545608927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997323609111821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243671491458838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23480568060515275,0.2229219150681643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23320043505522697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249157933889956,0.17709418258687568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858001531017773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18336886861330248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787084797614026,0.0,0.0,0.1431133955820404
parenting,pmags3000,2020/03/19,"Does a teacher have it out or my kid? So he's in 6th grade, 11yo, and he has one teacher (math teacher) out of 4 that keeps having an issue with my kid.  If the other 3 teachers, or even previous years teachers had issue with him I really wouldn't point at this teacher.  But his other teachers give rave reviews.

Incident 1: The class was winding down, the teacher asked if there were any questions, he may have even said, any ""serious"" questions.  My kid asked if he could go to the bathroom.  I realize this could be seen as a joke but my kid swears it was genuine.

Outcome: dressing down after class by the teacher.  Not a big deal, but it put us on notice for this child teacher interaction.

Incident 2:  Watching a video in class two kids got out of their seats and started dancing to the music in the video.  My kid stayed seated but snapped along to the music.

Outcome: Lunch detention for a week for all 3

Now lunch detention hasn't happened yet because of school closure, but I'm really not sure what to do with this.  It seems like overreactions.  I don't want to fight the teacher as these are not too awful of consequences, but I don't want the next step to be an unwarranted suspension.

Thoughts?",3.763939462389878,5.583492879828326,4.436408402981705,85.0977659814773,72.99141630901288,7.308696634289586,29.43053986898577,8.032893268588372,2.010421459227468,943,40,182,14,19,301,133,233,0.052000000000000005,0.893,0.054000000000000006,0.1229,0,0,0,0,1,0,32.0,1,0,1,0,7,5,1,0,17,1,19,2,0,0,2,37,34,16,0,8,14,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,7,13,9,2,1,5,4,0,4,7,2,0,2,8,3,13,3,31,20,1,24,0,0,2,0,24,12,0,9,8,119,26,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959325698096234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881345907516528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394092745440193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460804742378428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887540338153927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485825193754244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035696894305037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783147921014475,0.08758137605446542,0.0,0.12325178040353095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627446974597904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32169099264152523,0.0,0.1369755315080054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528787862781207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389232821183627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754494701545566,0.0,0.0,0.10442548047191913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456789582985114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491800631051314,0.3452655526891752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744711266776765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658906636415334,0.0,0.0,0.15596240393915495,0.0,0.14029132926023408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907625389224343,0.16425533791207134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524206113621374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223420909343928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053811223188776,0.0,0.1853692415049537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179014631127785,0.0,0.12361366948019595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923851444378967
parenting,ReckonedForce,2020/03/19,"Pandemic situation and school I have a Pre-K and a kindergarten grade kids. What are some options while we are stuck in limbo in regards to homeschooling. I need resources for them and myself. I'm a college student so I have how to handle my own course work and learning style down, but my teaching style is leaving a lot to be desired and my kids are suffering for it. 
Also, I'm on a super non-existent budget for the next while. So, any help would be great and even better if there are free or low cost resources.",3.7388235294117638,5.3403834215686325,4.537401960784315,85.24080882352943,72.62745098039215,7.060784313725492,28.43627450980393,7.645422480735847,1.7071921568627446,407,16,79,5,8,131,71,102,0.07200000000000001,0.703,0.225,0.9666,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,3,6,6,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,1,0,18,14,15,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,7,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,5,10,10,3,8,0,2,0,0,5,5,0,5,3,57,11,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429770672434201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066184974532909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687177288232038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068042246695092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349796116607121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036544704449633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217178283422729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583099999412757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225290106295898,0.0,0.0,0.3231324049926573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074976554616777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.341523730537416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221195796813748,0.0,0.0,0.2158359574796548,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ana_S_Gram,2020/03/19,"Isolated at home and wishing you had something different to do? Worried about how to entertain your kids? Feeling helpless? Suggestions:  My sister works at a nursing home. Her nurses and staff have all brought suitcases weeks ago in the event there is an extreme lockdown. Right now, they are the only people who go in and out. The residents are extremely isolated. Most don’t know how to navigate the internet and aren’t able to chat with people online.

I asked if there was anything I could do (send new games, puzzles, whatever) and she said no. They would have to use precious gloves and sanitizer to wipe everything down and use their isolated area to have it sit for days before able to use it. I asked if there was anything I could do.

She suggested I have my son draw pictures for each of the residents. Great! I am trying to come up with new activities for him and this will let him focus on others as well. This idea selfishly made me feel actually *useful*. 

Then I wondered… other kids are sitting at home with parents who are already running out of activities. Maybe some of them like to dance. Maybe some of them like to play the trumpet. Maybe they are bored and want to get out of the house but can’t really go anywhere. Maybe they’ve already gone through all the performances they wanted to get off their chest on Snapchat or TicTok and would like a new audience.

Here is my suggestion: **Call a local nursing home.** Ask how many residents there are and if you can send them some artwork from a 4-year-old. Ask if you can send a resident or two a small letter. They’ll know which people have families who don’t call. Include your address if you like the possibility of a pen pal. Talk about your grandpa or your kids and ask about theirs and their life. **Ask the nursing home what their protocols are** to schedule something outside their facility. Ask if there are large windows that your kids (or you, no judgement) can perform a dance routine. Or perform with a saxophone for 15-30 minutes. Whatever you’ve had them practicing for a couple days to keep them entertained and occupied. 

I can absolutely picture a brother and sister performing a little dance to some loud music in the parking lot outside the big windows of my sister’s care facility. I can picture those residents (6 feet apart) watching with smiles on their faces. I can picture that family being excited to get out of the house and do something for others without risking anyone’s health or safety.

When you’re on the phone, ask about the nurses working and the staff working in the laundry and kitchen. Some of them are working for minimum wage and they are on the front lines of this. You could maybe send them a letter or word of encouragement as well. 

If you like this idea, please spread it far and wide. Post it on facebook. Add it to every subreddit you know about. Take the karma. I really think this is a great idea to help my family as well as people who are feeling more isolated than we are.

**TLDR:** Call a local nursing home and ask their protocols for sending letters or drawings through the mail. Ask if you can schedule a performance, that your kids practiced for days, outside the facility that the residents can watch and enjoy. I think this can help you, your family, and other isolated people. **Please share any of your ideas or experiences**.",3.6734506556245705,6.38342308534622,4.158633540372673,82.80391304347827,76.60064412238327,7.421118012422363,28.21463077984817,8.418075326091056,2.3565442374051067,2660,114,471,54,63,837,267,621,0.036000000000000004,0.836,0.128,0.9956,4,1,3,0,0,0,85.0,1,18,21,9,19,23,0,1,39,0,51,6,3,8,2,95,89,50,0,16,19,7,3,5,1,4,2,2,10,5,26,36,1,1,12,8,1,15,7,4,3,1,8,7,63,19,79,72,11,62,1,1,2,0,96,30,0,25,19,327,89,8,0.10904778281623786,0.0,0.05320745284843202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04833213994993993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033693998261648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03707811586142535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03812437261617698,0.0,0.0897370337845042,0.0,0.5097247828227868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639581571395161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702496779261616,0.0,0.05559074111745148,0.0,0.0,0.04696750457280871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059867191987945,0.060329648782094625,0.0,0.10549019792772786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05696586170275721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045938730107493934,0.0,0.04900255787680391,0.05333482811162578,0.20560108927002316,0.0,0.08270675326673102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545944861034158,0.0,0.06197436798160914,0.0,0.0,0.12022556552739395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795634691472268,0.0,0.0,0.07309243019311583,0.0,0.32815145213228536,0.0,0.0,0.12582650033435874,0.0,0.24620334691557705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04846333990501857,0.0,0.0,0.08989471438486571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575437307146533,0.03851183696458964,0.1331880961693583,0.05464726313116075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463542626823746,0.0,0.05159182438290357,0.0,0.05527866802468151,0.2738828871428116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797854224550129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057213652127064224,0.0,0.0,0.041467876356519336,0.0,0.0,0.0605423289411975,0.0,0.0,0.1890000055210948,0.0,0.0,0.11970171909763973,0.0,0.06146749519743031,0.05221881617331279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985880200014608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656310534905229,0.051864706574619786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259254662068759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0409951807568963,0.043824238585547085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987341607216152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03701814322388288,0.0,0.05326191927444667,0.0,0.0,0.18836454411331252,0.0,0.0,0.06431920763564708,0.0,0.043735776857162505,0.0,0.14707057929605385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269978428324405,0.052559085627824416,0.0,0.1587761692860925,0.05537165837761643,0.0,0.07746441617891893,0.0,0.0,0.03511159843082917
parenting,moonmama14,2020/03/19,"Teething pain is a nightmare My DD is 8 months old and teething like crazy. She makes her rounds through chewing on all her teethers and usually ends up chewing on the metal bars of her play pen 😫. Any tips/tricks/old wives tales for relieving teething pain? 

I’ve given her Tylenol, tried cold teethers (she doesn’t seem interested), and various room temp teethers that only seem to help for a couple minutes.",6.497368421052627,7.6288634736842145,4.777473684210528,87.8833157894737,65.57894736842105,8.185263157894736,36.252631578947366,8.238735603445708,2.6617031578947365,328,16,64,4,5,93,58,76,0.111,0.764,0.125,0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,0,3,9,3,1,1,7,7,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,7,4,8,6,2,8,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,2,5,27,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707806788057607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555810738070465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458460205386167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482471863376338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284785283677533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541846218022079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437043064504804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847608743712029,0.0,0.0,0.17567488924023988,0.4915697374408544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4205610668590721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682399925243753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543979062827302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hezzyb,2020/03/19,"Wife Now Working From Home and Sees My Efforts I'm a stay-at-home dad with a toddler and my wife works in a medical office. She was recently approved to work from home since she's pregnant and at a higher risk. The other day, she pulled me aside and told me that she always knew what I did all day, but she never KNEW all that I did. She has watched me play with our daughter, clean, do laundry, take care of pets, make meals, and everything else I do throughout my usual day (not trying to brag). It felt really good for her to notice all that I do and to thank me for all MY hard work. 

Has anyone else had a significant other that started working from home and realized everything you do at home while they're normally away? Do you need that realization and validation, or do you believe your job is your job and it doesn't need validation?",4.766006493506495,5.431346488095244,5.4675541125541125,83.06532467532469,69.23809523809524,8.728138528138528,28.36796536796537,8.841846274778883,1.9968738095238088,662,22,136,11,11,215,98,168,0.019,0.847,0.135,0.9674,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,5,0,7,1,5,0,1,6,0,14,2,0,1,5,27,27,12,0,3,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,10,11,1,0,4,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,8,4,25,4,16,19,4,14,0,0,2,0,18,4,0,1,9,90,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026116920904503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622785262147503,0.12635538763986034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586271745258543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893883218164335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573243579515864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23859260141798735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20603521473164704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216632064331166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840604658455432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343453483039372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047003792363293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4947980012131699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447511246491307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231671515463937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423140927032085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18287967404908945,0.0951115907687968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082691403996515,0.0,0.14040005328957364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900162113914216,0.0,0.12176311602487505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826966490000803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020111539832034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728616761057978,0.13144216494718672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272090691392622,0.0,0.0,0.1135360151210727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783705455560027,0.0,0.08372583675974238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358189924691456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488902762689071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snoopychloe,2020/03/19,"Tips for children self isolating on the other side of the world!!! First post. Be forgiving!
My (F51) son (20) lives in Berlin. We are Australian. He is choosing to self isolate although Berlin is not in complete lockdown. He is living with a girl he grew up with who lived down the road. My son is gay and his friend is a straight girl the same age. 
Yacking to him tonight and 3 days in THEY ARE BORED!! 
I sent them a list of things to do. 
Here it is. 

Here is a list of things you can do to relieve boredom!!
Here goes!!
1. Learn how to braid hair. 
2. Experiment with tattooing using implements found in the house ie needles and ink. 
3. Learn how to play spoons using YouTube videos. 
4. Pluck each other’s eyebrows. (Not too often, won’t work on a frequent basis). 
5. Learn Auslan. 
You’re welcome. Xx ❤️❤️
Auslan is Australian sign language!",0.063211306765524,2.4114527168674726,1.2590361445783138,97.40762743280816,97.13253012048193,3.758665430954588,20.84244670991659,5.634304966280588,-0.02851640407784961,645,24,136,5,26,202,111,166,0.040999999999999995,0.857,0.102,0.8789,0,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,1,2,2,7,6,0,0,10,0,15,2,1,4,0,23,19,6,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,6,8,0,0,6,2,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,1,9,5,21,15,2,20,0,0,0,1,21,12,0,1,5,77,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144976062738607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193678712907506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20011790672580865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17401513123205675,0.0,0.2243107502270431,0.15805753523444574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360571576685877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5419420688924719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959305120930035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42684185796169855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718269229780911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35338182950945585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893623810399728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pandamonkey89,2020/03/19,"With school being out what educational resources are you utilizing for your kids? Hi all!

My kids are out of school at least until March 27th. I definitely want to make sure they are academically engaged in the interim until they do go back. What resources are you using to keep the kids brains engaged? I know the internet is jam packed with great resources, but I thought I'd turn to you guys for some help before I just do a broad search. 

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Thank you!",4.815320197044336,6.824873126436787,4.854844006568143,82.39241379310344,70.60919540229884,7.730049261083742,27.37110016420361,8.418075326091056,1.8445513957307065,370,13,70,6,7,115,60,87,0.0,0.797,0.203,0.9397,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,5,2,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,8,1,1,2,2,15,17,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,5,14,15,3,10,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,4,46,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426758475609831,0.27215305093319064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722222604909944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905854656016832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500291721832528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272896445012091,0.0,0.0,0.2469322398008173,0.0,0.22176957561802144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501251204009388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990784741744099,0.0,0.0,0.12309030985178572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950445327004716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533475002864337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110929419190019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062052626279891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778104200245602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24361950881923386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344171338650032,0.0,0.0,0.13210572921002614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27215305093319064,0.0
parenting,UniqueUser12975,2020/03/19,"[Meta] Does anyone else find it a little sad reading posts on here since Coronavirus happened? Reading so many posts on here by Dads who feel totally overwhelmed because, due to working from home for the first time due to the Virus, they are finally having to care for their toddler and have no idea wtf to do.

I am a dad myself but it makes me sad that so many guys basically see (or are forced by legal structures, jobs and so on, to see) looking after kids as womens work they are not cut out for.

On the flip side this also feels like an epochal moment where a tonne of well intentioned guys suddenly have a lightbulb moment about what their partners do all day. 

It will be super interesting to see how society changes after this",9.816809523809523,7.374550300000003,8.765714285714285,73.77595238095239,60.28571428571429,11.61904761904762,38.33333333333333,9.725611199111238,3.5316190476190474,582,21,109,8,6,181,101,140,0.086,0.773,0.14,0.8178,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,4,4,10,9,1,1,8,0,11,0,0,3,2,15,20,10,0,0,3,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,5,8,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,6,7,5,22,18,2,21,0,3,4,0,12,8,0,1,12,74,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239047866801002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701301371486928,0.15681326183327027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329515257631216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560401478999637,0.0,0.16190190887328912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870172475821172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393120050677348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278499266160121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476886681302754,0.10933577831327873,0.0,0.16765392966508266,0.13988086876285452,0.1301804747589276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030783314607169,0.13533768285796718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351717478792842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276980794789384,0.0,0.0,0.15187410252336553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477032976002905,0.15339185716733758,0.0,0.0,0.12851972450206992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021590994092846,0.3103283518404633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931506806728572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061739516781762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658724882271205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266008683782928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924209652589145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760633805668812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22283798021370366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tamrielsavage,2020/03/19,"9 month old doesn't want anything to do with SAHM Hello, my 9 month old daughter doesn't seem to want anything to do with my wife who is a stay at home mom. She headbutts and flails anytime my wife tries to hold her, she can't soothe her when she's sick or upset, she can't put her down for her nap, and overall she is feeling very rejected. By contrast as soon as I get home she's the happiest baby, she always wants me to hold her and if I hand her to her mom so I can do something she gets very upset. She is favoring me and my wife is having a really hard time.

Everything I have seen says it's a phase but she has been like this since she was 6 months old. How long can these phases last? Is there anything I can do to help? My wife is taking this phase much harder now that it's been so long.

Thank you.",1.749085714285716,2.966078051428571,3.0404285714285737,95.52807142857144,77.05714285714284,6.142857142857142,20.5,6.5431188927421005,-0.01608571428571448,629,14,151,5,14,204,98,175,0.076,0.816,0.10800000000000001,0.8593,0,1,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,2,4,0,23,2,1,1,0,17,33,13,0,4,3,7,3,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,7,6,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,5,31,3,15,29,1,17,0,1,1,0,30,2,0,3,14,95,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398485334604926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381879505080997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311583389162956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926516586135796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314098059986555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271419382460105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182005883259116,0.0,0.2748199374516034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166336979170388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692533710404996,0.0,0.0,0.2424598480537691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208769955608478,0.3280271510558402,0.0,0.10070182141820627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4312370698679459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771061138636487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775791545964894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893822540686236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470858091156298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331775346017164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545992870568442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601080627133184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029978042597756,0.0,0.0,0.12611999441216418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987870874765461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300574846696902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260586223093855,0.24239692456115636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontkiIlmyvibe,2020/03/19,Can a Woman raise a boy to be a man? Why or why not? Curious what the masses have to say.,-3.127142857142857,-1.5480265714285686,1.187619047619048,99.01571428571432,100.42857142857143,4.704761904761905,11.761904761904766,6.42735559955562,-0.9684095238095232,66,1,18,1,3,25,17,21,0.12,0.88,0.0,-0.32299999999999995,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,12,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032385725548107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9150948877597112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EllenDEgroot609,2020/03/19,"my 15 year old son, scott. He is always wanting to play rocket league EVERY DAMN NIGHT!!! my son Scott has just turned 15 and will not stop banging on about f%$#ing rocket league!!! He has turned into such a little weirdo. we used to call him ""scooter"" now, he calls me gay whenever I say that. When his father left, I bought him an xbox to give him something to lift his spirits. he used to play it for an hour to 3 hours a day. but now that hes a grumpy little sh\*t, he plays for a minimum of 12 hours per day!!!!! He has started hanging around with some ""new friends"" and all I have to say about them, is that they are ruining his school work!!, I have caught him drinking alcohol with them, once- a video went viral on facebook of him DROP KICKING A RABBIT!!!!, however, this was when he was 13 though, and weve since dealt with these issues. but, he keeps playing rocket league until 5 am every f&\^%$ng night. Once I told him to get off it and go to bed and he said ""shut up you stupid woman, I must game"" and slapped me with his Minecraft sword plush toy. Also, did I mention he is autistic.",3.5225171232876735,4.64411865753425,3.757257420091325,92.50383133561644,72.4703196347032,6.38824200913242,24.18978310502284,6.322622252153567,0.4850111872146119,842,23,183,5,16,260,137,219,0.073,0.867,0.06,-0.6897,1,0,3,0,1,0,57.0,2,1,3,1,11,8,2,0,8,0,17,3,0,2,2,25,32,13,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,2,1,3,1,1,7,13,2,2,0,9,1,4,1,3,0,0,9,3,28,5,26,21,2,32,1,1,0,1,41,10,1,1,17,103,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709248821746187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025856048381322,0.10673937695468616,0.1389915095642773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419654742434066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26197679035327426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546019335954332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566572889270286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21616315019577487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910894039067077,0.0,0.06702109375676113,0.123058027162655,0.07290457628535661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.378990379308164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389116824769512,0.0,0.11402130836403425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937677900900672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571408595833636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389378662701707,0.0,0.24076449742163364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346084583645675,0.27322838684008033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202381662396515,0.20402707842551576,0.0,0.12982637962389032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611468144388048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875634133208752,0.0,0.0,0.09079736390374443,0.0,0.0,0.10724796532651357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603461477172956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257719884740804,0.0,0.0,0.2790639746840401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22158575751576148,0.0,0.0,0.07566296732672176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891700188779948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338949087346607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260822303378104
parenting,frontporchstripes,2020/03/19,Mom shame and judgement.. How to move forward? Good morning parents.. My husband and I had an awful messy separation this summer. We have decided to reconcile but I can feel so much shame and judgement from so many other parents loved ones. I want to move forward and do the best I can as a family but I feel so defeated and in my head.. Any insight would be so helpful thank you.,1.1736486486486477,3.799776364864865,2.923027027027029,87.28616216216219,89.4054054054054,5.662702702702703,26.318918918918918,7.1686216300943375,1.648901621621622,297,14,56,5,10,98,52,74,0.162,0.596,0.242,0.8659,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,2,5,7,0,2,3,1,7,2,1,1,0,16,12,13,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,5,0,0,4,0,3,0,1,1,2,9,4,6,9,2,6,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,0,3,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823571087562773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287593950786315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054946894999378,0.0,0.2204372054309975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283354655492626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22371313810533955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610920886322526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967378972703648,0.0,0.0,0.2210002439584991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552987035724004,0.0,0.4633622252341529,0.1602423658356166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771071888720108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840879834458506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068918316631484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857184413659048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484865577802984,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Master_Painting,2020/03/19,"I think my 14yo is jealous that my 7yo ""replaced"" him I raised my 14yo as a single dad all of his life and then took in my nephew a couple of years ago (but he sees me as his dad anyways and I treat him very much as if he were my own son). On one hand, my 14yo values his independence from home and from me. He's hit that stage where he absolutely wants nothing to do with me except to ask for money and he's like a roommate who pays no rent and eats all the food. Growing up, he was very attached to me and was very playful and affectionate all the way until the 7th grade. 

My 7yo is very physical and affectionate and playful. Probably a bit more than my 14yo ever was. My 14yo really doesn't interact much with him. A few times I've caught my 14yo looking over at us with scorn when we were roughhousing or cuddling. It was a look of jealously. I felt bad. I do make overtures to him to spend time with him and he always declines. The last he wanted to spend alone time with me was when he wanted to go to the store just to make sure we stocked up on his favorite cereal.",3.636086309523812,4.188598174107145,4.667928571428573,88.19373809523813,71.72321428571428,7.937619047619048,25.647619047619052,8.021203637495839,1.2026569047619042,837,24,189,11,15,274,124,224,0.069,0.8029999999999999,0.129,0.9248,1,1,0,0,1,0,18.0,3,0,0,0,6,10,2,0,11,0,12,5,1,3,5,35,27,20,0,4,5,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,17,2,0,2,2,6,4,2,3,0,1,10,5,32,7,33,16,10,25,0,0,3,1,28,8,0,2,12,123,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072711604003967,0.0,0.0,0.15273895400251064,0.0,0.0,0.12271047580673697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786861269038692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313492493444007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100379819832247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317756683565848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509030803611015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339899555743914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415985061622188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832657330187876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381307348517272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479288006077555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021128101752765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416549701708903,0.07204851976807748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24768262868690225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19688055186867945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682123647284496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150561932401598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993243841104488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900229575855365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447584697212028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751796595088845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899283262662068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449561079273903,0.0,0.0,0.25798044396726505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384943271736815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773934888906473,0.0,0.0,0.4867271446949949,0.2609525833812917,0.11705827722333513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949686483398504
parenting,585AM,2020/03/19,"I don’t know too much about video games, but, for probably obvious reasons, can anyone recommend games for kids in the five to ten year old range? Thanks For what it is worth, we have a Switch and an Xbox. My daughter is ten and can play more advanced games, but I am more looking for games that my seven year old can play also. If you have two kids relatively close in age, you probably know how those things go. Thanks.",5.539759036144577,5.723709000000002,5.2430361445783165,87.0390120481928,67.43373493975903,9.049638554216868,27.443373493975905,8.841846274778883,1.6753392771084337,329,9,71,5,5,101,58,83,0.0,0.762,0.23800000000000002,0.9699,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,1,12,15,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,3,8,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,2,7,4,8,15,3,10,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,1,5,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679096951375126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457848233896204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256401494519092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429904645654544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564456110996416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251314635070174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639551503658432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767053962252194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272985410469308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070662639662671,0.0,0.0,0.14687022331526206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21595494123385986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28472587090546125
parenting,Umbristopheles,2020/03/19,"March 19th, 2020. 8:12 AM... All three of us had to poop at the same time. I didn't think it was possible to be late for work when you're working from home, but there it is.",-0.5668421052631594,1.2000252105263165,0.8465789473684211,105.91355263157897,86.36842105263158,4.852631578947369,14.76315789473684,5.985473137389443,-1.1926526315789472,130,2,36,1,4,41,36,38,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,0,1,4,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,6,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,23,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3576263411485265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.402178761984675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019313996177598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22844854689257,0.0,0.0,0.2078941623376448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288589112795657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5191128070383242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ResidentLazyCat,2020/03/19,Virtual Playdates! I highly recommend keeping your children socially active and safe. I have begun setting up virtual play dates with my kids classmates.  It's really helped them feel less isolated and I recommend every parent consider this.,6.5030769230769225,10.408271615384619,7.11866666666667,57.918000000000006,76.43589743589743,11.325128205128207,38.56923076923077,10.355215969177356,6.628390769230768,199,12,21,8,5,65,34,39,0.045,0.6459999999999999,0.309,0.8973,1,0,0,1,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,2,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,14,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438624468618239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063599819712614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735572123398969,0.431205883336092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627597585706328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531738974873738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614549698521951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41603147497473386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EZ_Duzit123,2020/03/19,"New Parents - Newborn Sleep Problems So... my wife and I are having a **very** hard time with our newborn sleeping during the night and I have no idea how to fix it. She is 6 days old and the last three nights have been **absolute hell.** We have her on a good feeding schedule and she sleeps most of the day perfectly fine. Even when she is awake during the day she is content and just sits quietly looking around the room. But for the last three nights she has NOT wanted to sleep at all. Every night after her 10:00 feed she is wide awake. She wont cry if you hold her but the second you put her in the bassinet she starts to cry. We have tried so many different things to see what her fuss is all about:

* increasing the temperature in the room to 73
* decreasing the temperature to 68
* swaddling her
* letting her sleep in just her pajamas
* breast feeding and then supplementing 2oz of formula
* giving her a binky helps for a moment but she will spit it out after a few minutes then cry

For each option we try out we let her cry for about 15 minutes to see if it will pass. NOTHING has worked. My wife picks her up and breast feeds again and she will calm down but then cry once she is in the bassinet. During the day she usually lays in her SnuggleMe pillow which looks like a cloud and she looks incredibly comfortable. Part of me thinks she is cranky because the comfort difference between the bassinet and the SnuggleMe is like night and day. But I do not want to let her sleep in the snuggle me without me being fully awake and paying attention to her. I have been brainwashed for the past 9 months about infants sleeping with anything in their bassinet (probably a good thing) so that is not an option to fix this sleeping issue. 

Should I stop letting her sleep in the SnuggleMe during the day? 

How can I reverse her internal clock so she is awake during the day and not the night!?",2.8021857923497255,5.193939737704921,3.076639344262297,91.11255464480877,77.85245901639344,6.033879781420765,24.374316939890708,7.1686216300943375,0.9567792349726774,1488,52,298,18,36,456,176,366,0.023,0.8490000000000001,0.128,0.9917,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,5,2,1,2,15,11,1,0,30,0,33,16,12,3,3,55,43,30,0,6,14,3,1,2,0,5,0,1,3,3,9,23,4,2,3,0,1,3,7,2,0,3,2,7,50,9,42,31,7,55,1,0,5,2,47,18,1,5,35,212,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05428947336095667,0.058729216745530215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040216021496075824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623366456035318,0.29782613592173784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785374893591895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043573994998401484,0.0,0.05558439719316045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328651533270853,0.0,0.11066864957128003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909810458926204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04421975381296776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447454790989358,0.0,0.06885780365243421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755224479039213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269844047565819,0.0,0.06446133814805467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620001770244042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668854239680326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265835536766122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637163312933195,0.0,0.3714624655287055,0.0,0.06330207481331783,0.0,0.06922669297258756,0.07025820619661917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325428567555316,0.07144142938474166,0.06297789959878393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112915564540419,0.06312645537726648,0.0,0.06632025082929784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514255346281537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5941783139702769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046695440316693766,0.0,0.0,0.05515568678073185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765795442291134,0.04227230164079369,0.0,0.0,0.03846890190039058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958154356878696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265902296239382,0.05443394805510382,0.07782418834834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063594816069366,0.0,0.04802852428525749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,phancymom,2020/03/19,Indoor physical activities for a 3yo when is raining? We all know that tiring your toddler out with outdoor activities at the park or someplace is the way to have a successful nap time and for us not to all go crazy. It’s been raining here since our COVID-19 shelter in place order. Any ideas on how to burn some toddler energy indoors? It’s projected to rain all next week here again and I’m not sure how long indoor basketball is going to last everyday.,5.492651515151515,6.636716295454544,6.086818181818181,77.54606060606064,67.86363636363636,9.503030303030306,32.84848484848485,9.725611199111238,3.2048803030303037,366,16,67,8,6,119,67,88,0.049,0.8809999999999999,0.07,0.4401,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,2,4,17,9,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,12,8,4,17,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,8,43,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18893464228183976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157955784217755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136374394800362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268868001823593,0.22646938862389165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458717377820812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954764752403628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902743155372796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22982471686309974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618524780836836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200552041275815,0.31932592314974456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.334196546570919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22052935674372665,0.2228593110369744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thelivingbeat,2020/03/19,"How to do anything? I’m at home with my 18 month old and trying to figure out how can be semi productive with housework or yard work or remote computer based work while caring for him.  In general, how do people do it?  I don’t want to just sit him in front of a screen for hours.

Why does it feel more exhausting to care for him then anything else I have ever done?   Right now his schedule is waking 6-7am napping 1-3 dinner 6-7 bedtime 8

Any thoughts, suggestions, advice, I’d love to hear how other people do it.

Thanks",3.1290887850467293,4.2975255887850485,4.514100467289719,86.52105724299066,73.48598130841121,7.219158878504674,24.589953271028037,7.645422480735847,1.1529822429906544,406,12,84,5,8,135,80,107,0.026000000000000002,0.8320000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9155,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,1,0,10,4,1,4,1,17,19,9,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,4,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,3,7,4,15,16,1,15,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,2,8,50,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335749915541955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455923789086485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32566236433798923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034858613910746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315846764725093,0.2024909920880948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165296042280473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789858774217316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004965129648767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22301528389792505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848100101565552,0.0,0.19486332688223307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785865319805614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793894699589706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20763259535472176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743580261665446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898096961067302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821732656745365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708767309820534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434159273240587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167095921694477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854802966629413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881052588299757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jjajjajuuko,2020/03/19,Psychic Ability Get 25% off black magic for love in 2020 by top psychic. https://m.locanto.co.ug/mbarara/ID_4291926461/Powerful-Love-Spells-in-USA-TURKEY-CANADA-27611875952Lost-love.html%26image_featured%3D2,18.9204,24.40233484,8.165,58.7875,40.6,11.4,48.5,11.20814326018867,6.7566000000000015,181,9,17,4,2,40,22,25,0.0,0.591,0.409,0.8074,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946393204076584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9818876811813316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ihazdragoncatz,2020/03/19,"Working from home? How are your ""coworkers"" treating you? For those working from home, tell us something your kids are doing, but call them coworkers, and see how much of an HR violation it would be.

Credit: Book of Faces mommy group.",3.2921428571428564,6.296251547619049,3.4193333333333342,85.50900000000001,81.14285714285714,6.217142857142857,25.06666666666667,7.554174236665415,1.581860952380953,183,7,32,3,5,56,34,42,0.09699999999999999,0.8320000000000001,0.071,-0.3094,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,3,1,2,2,3,1,0,1,0,5,1,1,2,0,5,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,5,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,23,7,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29889641797007865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5872373148175271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151804114185696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23325726459043306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253475709522713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558472460938089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35210207766936713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42620240152552097,0.0,0.0,0.20793750319506896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ssksterling,2020/03/19,"Misguided ‘Unit’ I’m in a dilemma and need some suggestions. My daughter used my phone yesterday and saw my husband’s text with a graphic pic. My husband and I are very open with one another so I jokingly asked him to text me a picture of his... well you know ...his ‘unit’. 

He’s very shy and would never commit to such a thing. However, he surprisingly did send me a text pic of his ‘unit’.  Unknowingly my teenage daughter who was on restriction from using her phone, borrowed mine to text a friend. 

The misguided text pic of my husband’s ‘unit’ popped up in full view on my phone while my daughter was using my phone. Oh no! She saw it. He is her stepfather. So now we have this awkward situation in the home and we are not really sure how to handle it. Any suggestions?",1.9415976821192047,4.34988750993378,3.5634726821192046,86.32348716887421,81.18543046357615,7.483609271523179,25.99379139072848,8.472884824447931,2.0240096026490058,598,25,121,14,16,198,88,151,0.095,0.855,0.05,-0.5996,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,0,0,6,6,0,1,8,0,8,0,0,4,3,24,17,9,0,2,1,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,10,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,5,3,24,5,16,11,2,13,0,0,3,0,29,8,0,2,4,79,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532210429217821,0.2362610608166715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21063789519153828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407680637072642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260080129202533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238265175311002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706725424920005,0.17377581625338162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267839486810356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434172625886474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532620400422291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21235549658375968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968841114540948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5837960862087808,0.0,0.3718147999406452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20258407616207788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005638852605733,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chronolibrarian,2020/03/19,"I hope it’s not coronavirus but we don’t know... Tonight I took my 11 year daughter to the ER because her cold virus had progressed to causing severe headache and chest tightness. She called me at work to say she felt miserable and it was painful to breathe. Upon seeing her I called our pediatrician and spoke with a nurse who said they were trying not to see cases like this in the clinic and we should go to the ER. So I took her to the ER and they asked us questions at the door to determine how big a risk we were (I.e. did we recently travel outside the US (no) and did we know anyone who tested positive for Coronavirus (no)) and we were allowed to go in to be admitted in the usual way. 2 hours later we leave with a diagnosis of viral bronchiolitis and an inhaler of albuterol. My daughter is having less trouble breathing and sleeping peacefully right now. I was surprised that she wasn’t tested for coronavirus. When I asked the ER Dr why no test she said they had a limited supply and were reserving them for people who exhibited symptoms AND were being admitted to the hospital. Which I totally understand, and see the importance of protecting other hospital patients and all the staff. But...I am wondering how this practice is going to affect the “flatten the curve” effort. Can my husband and I still go to work?",5.7002170868347335,6.8192715753968285,6.299112978524742,76.30340336134456,67.37301587301587,9.580205415499533,33.474323062558355,9.773937934552695,3.3490496732026145,1055,47,188,23,17,344,143,252,0.08900000000000001,0.823,0.08800000000000001,-0.0671,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,10,0,4,5,6,7,0,2,18,0,21,8,4,5,2,45,43,19,0,2,3,3,2,1,0,1,4,4,1,0,10,23,0,3,8,1,0,7,7,4,4,0,18,11,33,3,27,22,3,25,0,1,3,0,38,8,0,3,10,138,43,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923160595878402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468540736300564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048218217122098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696278141131097,0.0,0.0,0.1356276735200142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676622830959836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001350083899519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113219115836938,0.1300195937268092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511671913631813,0.0,0.0,0.13979709278100966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450152161792835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404855974181541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915306119129896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789999344250354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130360327119569,0.0,0.0,0.1127499841446319,0.25117503654954954,0.10499284135356664,0.0,0.0,0.3156242895347328,0.0,0.0,0.1491524637372477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212193528893007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543660313677634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722617624735528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933727926826117,0.08963738630120073,0.0,0.0,0.1374443335121759,0.3176234569535041,0.0,0.1454086332983713,0.0,0.0,0.10479655964040738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191334595860812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317720201344128,0.1922338559182531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850207935379732
parenting,Momofbadasskids,2020/03/19,I don’t wanna be a mom anymore Has anyone just not bonded with their kids? Just didn’t want to be a mom anymore? Sometimes I feel like my life would be better if I never even had them. I know it’s not their fault. I thought I could do this whole mom thing. It’s like I have force myself not to run out the door.,-0.0505590062111807,1.7344587681159425,1.5934161490683252,101.19521739130435,84.5072463768116,3.9428571428571435,15.65424430641822,3.1291,-1.318479917184265,241,4,60,0,7,78,47,69,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.8695,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,3,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,11,1,0,0,1,16,15,1,0,5,6,3,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,3,1,12,3,5,7,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,3,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389818819197981,0.13742148923065364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17381879047120047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691680286746598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12980918102134115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993737463588118,0.14040428318407092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080102191591272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881812671289406,0.1920336547715141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6905364790376638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157951925256893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437764187959367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056878619990667,0.0,0.0,0.15602643667689645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115921137751074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942374608910808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396124670806145,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheTone25,2020/03/19,"Slow divide First time poster, long time reader. Lately I’ve been thinking how much effort we all put into parenting and the toll that takes on our relationships with our significant other. I’ve realized how close I’ve gotten with my 4 year old and how distant I’ve become with my wife. 
Does anyone feel more connected to their kids than their spouses? I find myself being short with my wife and having more patience with my kids. I feel myself prioritizing them over my wife’s needs or even over our relationship. I think this is a slippery slope and in the long run this would hurt my kids. 
Parenting has its ups and downs - 100% and 100% grief. Has anyone found a good way to balance their relationships in a way that isn’t sacrificing one for the other?",4.936704545454545,6.683429513888887,5.2487878787878826,80.7477272727273,69.83333333333333,8.014141414141415,24.202020202020197,8.575989854853784,1.5326194444444443,606,16,113,10,11,192,89,144,0.05,0.9159999999999999,0.034,-0.504,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,4,2,4,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,3,1,28,16,10,1,2,1,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,14,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,3,2,19,1,17,11,4,23,0,2,0,0,20,10,0,1,9,74,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200438947099007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377939973661646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376970050633578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392740582623132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912057352256626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438139628512592,0.13384081845158854,0.0,0.17252484990998715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197671749695356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684451567885291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774963127006064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784974929225819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566948104120138,0.11667214976839355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511110846811164,0.0,0.10662362670950884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34943446779177273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817901532064574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5068012113407241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830672374469642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20164552954085554,0.0,0.0,0.1835027143890772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497923247420653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177608094070753,0.0,0.0,0.10132747554947756
parenting,BheanGorm,2020/03/19,"Remote Learning Troubles   

Today was the first day that I approached the children’s school as it has become online during this process. For context, we are in a more high-end school district in the state of Colorado. Governor Polis has just extended our school leave until April 17th, and our school district will continue their newly implemented remote-learning techniques during this time. 

My children are in kindergarten and first grade, for context. 

The gravity of this all is hitting me as I try to log into their respective accounts. Each account is different, and requires a different set of log-ins. The kindergarten class has an assignment to watch a live streaming video on a website containing videos of animals across the world. Cool, if it worked. Every video is marked as restricted, even when an account with an appropriate age is entered. So, that’s a bust. Try to log into the first grader’s account in something called Seesaw… login won’t work. New password won’t send, and it created a strange new google account for each of my kids that is attached to the school somehow? I’m flipping through accounts looking for the student IDs, I’m trying to get links to work, I’m searching for the next step so my kids can check in and not be counted as “absent” for the day… 

It’s just all so heavy. I wanted to know if other parents are experiencing this, and what it is like in different states.",6.7831815060654606,8.026465715953307,6.2840924696726965,76.93494621194783,64.99221789883268,8.537331197070268,36.129320210574505,8.671277953709913,3.2159390707255664,1127,54,186,16,17,348,144,257,0.035,0.9259999999999999,0.039,0.25,4,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,2,7,8,4,0,0,20,1,18,0,0,0,2,27,26,17,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,4,14,12,0,3,3,3,7,4,3,1,0,3,1,4,12,3,35,20,5,32,0,0,2,0,12,11,0,3,15,124,26,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245118955130425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246002232500933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468743582503236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758980893257981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622072040266403,0.0,0.0,0.07921139415562757,0.0,0.1010446160635928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30603240041053825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265749440346888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671064643347396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590935999544408,0.0,0.0,0.1269865659761061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585908230818871,0.0,0.10589872977159914,0.0,0.10070941862903354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23165465697652135,0.12754491933833007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316598802675889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6068683155358018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232652822378183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993105294288014,0.0,0.1136778377525269,0.0,0.0,0.244269969632932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707367141609153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26192730558758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arsis_qp,2020/03/19,"Toddler proofing the front door? Our toddler has figured out he can reach and operate the deadbolt and now every day is a constant battle to keep him inside. 

Our landlord won't allow us to screw anything into the door itself, so we can't do a chain or latch toward the top. 

I bought [these](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001LR1YA6) on Amazon, which screw into the inside of the doorframe, but there isn't enough space between the frame and the door for the door to open while these are installed.

The main mechanism is a handle rather than a knob, so those little knob covers wouldn't work. I found a few different cheap little products on Amazon designed to prevent the handle from moving, but they're held in place with a command strip and I think this persistent little guy would find a way to destroy it.

Anybody have a solution I haven't considered?",8.9925,8.42059343312102,7.847189490445862,73.7563893312102,60.528662420382155,9.63343949044586,35.54856687898089,8.472884824447931,2.959930573248408,687,25,114,7,8,210,106,157,0.073,0.86,0.068,-0.4005,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,3,5,4,4,0,19,0,13,2,0,1,1,25,18,10,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,1,6,10,0,3,4,0,2,2,5,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,18,12,3,21,0,0,0,2,7,14,2,1,4,81,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689575820359828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218736667822956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324118409735378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145115309919251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21214632258798308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298759349244433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765511337557889,0.0,0.0,0.2251184073374549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032951294732204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249430324169771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.617341740915849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21821842567738528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145115309919251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155820880481556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469698799373626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629702919329966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14947250046137836,0.0,0.0,0.14585060258231178,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JPpizzalyfe60,2020/03/19,"Very upset 10 week old - HELP - is gripe water my problem?? Has anyone had a bad experience with gripe water?! my 10 week old has all of a sudden just been losing her fucking mind & we don’t know why. i’ve been doing some reading & i feel like gripe water might be the issue. 

i’m not really looking for suggestions or anything as to why she’s crying, i’ve already been to pediatrician/trying different things to help her/cope. i’m just curious if anyone has had a bad experience with gripe water!! thanks in advance:-)",3.96970588235294,5.628611411764709,5.578578431372549,77.77610294117648,72.13725490196079,7.845098039215688,25.495098039215684,8.472884824447931,1.83336862745098,412,13,75,7,8,140,68,102,0.175,0.7020000000000001,0.12300000000000001,-0.7829999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,2,2,8,1,1,4,0,13,5,0,0,1,15,20,3,0,2,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,2,1,0,1,2,6,0,0,5,2,6,2,9,13,2,7,0,1,1,1,6,1,1,4,6,40,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710889472324827,0.0,0.0,0.3359685104722484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168131839065496,0.0,0.12758355530873902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589015053051927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030261891612705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198233573703716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033149951714461,0.0,0.0,0.07839217310697673,0.11075960478117444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433306848052588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078382071907496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182001513108474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520515838330353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574402726479808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301933741363954,0.17344853287206075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447145102837415,0.1565447865841915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253738548166157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835099905136012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508055279488805,0.0,0.09932169532359733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273871016203005,0.0,0.0,0.10300075487939267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526103046313603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279230796030508,0.0,0.0,0.24872522169726585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797964384309876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lupin_atreus,2020/03/19,"I’m so done with the WHINING LO is currently 9.5 months, teething and has a cold. We can’t go anywhere because of Coronavirus and she. Won’t. Stop. Whining. 
Tired but won’t nap, we’ve tried teething rings, celery, washcloth, Tylenol. NOTHING.WORKS. And I think I may just hand the bundle of joy over and run away to the circus.
That is all.",0.8527272727272717,3.4138560909090927,1.2870303030303027,97.59054545454543,94.15151515151516,4.458181818181818,23.266666666666666,6.2581,0.5447321212121219,266,11,55,3,10,80,51,66,0.1,0.7609999999999999,0.139,0.7706,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,8,5,3,0,1,12,11,6,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,6,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,3,4,1,6,7,1,7,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634299618656551,0.0,0.0,0.2358017769010299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958509851608567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983862259721115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087558963432525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32339869696862705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247858526770683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4445924889490608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626252717852532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28160944188631565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sunshinetrooper87,2020/03/19,"Finishing uni to be a stay at home dad Got a wee nipper (<12 months)  and I've decided I'll be a stay at home dad for a beat untill the Corona pandemic settles. 

I'm rather excited, but don't know what to expect. Any tips?",1.5456250000000011,2.9255523125000025,4.085833333333337,87.14250000000001,77.95833333333334,8.133333333333335,22.416666666666664,8.841846274778883,1.4380666666666673,173,5,39,4,4,61,37,48,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,6,3,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,18,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20877013626499485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455354848756951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6158909083842857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871885509475612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450440118620925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6544410783457726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IAmFlyFFx,2020/03/20,"Wife doesn’t want my parents there when she has our baby. So let me preface this by saying that I don’t mean in the delivery room. When I married my wife 6 years ago, she had an 18mo baby which I then adopted. I love her as my own. Our plan was to have our 7 year old meet our baby before anyone else did.
Due to the whole COVID-19 stuff, children under 12 aren’t allowed at the hospital. (Assuming my parents are healthy) I told my wife that although it’s unfortunate that my daughter can’t be there to meet her sister, I still want to my parents to meet their grandchild, especially since it is my first biological baby.
She said that she would rather wait a few days until she gets discharged and then they could meet their grandchild, but I don’t think it’s fair as it’s my child too and I would like to share that moment with my parents as well.
I told her that she was being selfish and she was only thinking about what she wanted and didn’t care what I had to say.
We got into a big fight and now I’m wondering if I’m wrong for thinking the way I am.",3.715696969696968,4.418408872727274,4.665454545454548,87.73651515151518,71.63636363636363,7.13939393939394,26.484848484848484,7.0316486544052195,1.0503121212121216,832,26,180,7,15,271,128,220,0.063,0.84,0.096,0.631,6,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,5,0,3,2,11,8,1,0,7,0,23,1,0,1,0,25,41,17,0,8,3,9,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,2,15,8,0,1,6,0,0,0,6,3,1,1,11,3,41,5,19,24,3,22,0,0,0,1,42,6,0,3,16,129,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116954339920741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225353644253226,0.13518522152598572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226881341338782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451873721772614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534109383345508,0.0,0.0,0.08508855928666617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021657511367244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122256887772348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893172543546364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552220695153493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349146945908417,0.0,0.0644578364993617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907844643326378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371825603684882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844586492355407,0.0,0.0,0.10034416254307917,0.0,0.0,0.5860024510328704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255024612793937,0.20984346514053534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913978981764004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536519380574412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510364931179915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536200320281009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25214323855302273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23345988242120666,0.1047255837933508,0.0,0.0,0.11862736018686845,0.0,0.0,0.14730313773715892,0.0,0.0,0.14308023200577155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874487591680139,0.14425258274817884,0.0,0.1699264225541437
parenting,baby_hornet,2020/03/20,"Friend’s kid repeatedly gets my kid sick whenever we hang out. Should I say something? My husband and I are friends with a married couple. They are very fun to hang out with and they have two kids that are close in age with our two kids. Their older daughter and my son are around 3 years of age and they get along so well which is another reason why we like hanging out with them. 

However, over the last few months since October, we’ve all hung out about 7 times and 5 of those times their daughter was sick which got my son sick. Each illness was a cold and only one of those times it was a really bad cold. Each time their daughter was sick, they didn’t mention it to us prior to us hanging out with them. 

I am a person who lets my visiting friends or family know whenever my child is sick so that they are aware before coming over. I don’t like being around sick people during cold and flu season, especially this year because my youngest baby is under 6 months old and cannot get the flu vaccine yet. 

So because our friends never mention it, I would find out after it was too late and my kids were already exposed to their kid’s cold. So my question is: should I make them aware that they are doing this? Should I simply ask if their kids are sick before we hang out in the (probably far) future?

I understand that I might sound like a germaphobe and I probably am. I know they say kids are supposed to get sick so many times in their first year of life and that these may or may not strengthen a child’s immune system. I can deal with the colds. I’m grateful they didn’t give my kids something more serious like the flu. But anyone who’s had a sick toddler and baby knows it really sucks. We also really enjoy spending time with them and I would hate to ruin our friendship if I say the wrong thing. Anyway, thanks for reading. I’d like to hear some advice about this!

Hope everyone is staying safe during this pandemic!",4.361657986111112,5.439186919270835,4.6759375,86.86975694444445,70.43229166666666,7.563888888888887,25.940972222222207,7.793537801064563,1.298580555555556,1523,45,309,18,27,479,183,384,0.155,0.735,0.111,-0.9555,1,0,2,0,0,0,31.0,9,0,18,1,14,21,2,0,13,0,39,15,0,2,2,65,58,24,0,8,6,6,0,5,4,8,15,5,0,12,22,38,0,1,7,1,1,7,6,6,1,4,10,10,51,15,38,38,6,51,0,1,0,0,62,17,1,10,30,203,73,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115484987444307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029398638217302,0.07459820290463312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978151249496952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652254864709886,0.0,0.0,0.1660828968978885,0.0872068040585351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788722220361385,0.11372862983541104,0.0,0.1587535449108875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035485239145759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321561826216884,0.0,0.0,0.09617044684757377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913569077775294,0.0,0.0,0.08793870001228611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525876803499426,0.07934628229235155,0.0,0.0,0.2882801678302629,0.0,0.1949456030929938,0.08948533952505701,0.0,0.0,0.07460675815060686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920974296968367,0.0,0.0,0.10513646903904872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265084535126678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379732372134736,0.0760379133781767,0.10522703534189763,0.0,0.0,0.09538795937925083,0.06588838395312728,0.22786626424653664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062266977866476135,0.0945740943641971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895828482956946,0.0,0.0,0.14891484494393958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194542816875542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788458239929693,0.0,0.06321082373675957,0.07094575523913256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467053203599248,0.08145092261712181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20114922142884908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449805878211456,0.0,0.09330802044396193,0.0,0.17927800637983013,0.09591023077469543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254662462303856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716447692638306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362727792919067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942702840015966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588224794090675,0.0,0.0,0.061972931930035564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263636238729753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18224743683153494,0.09711066044237136,0.22441538976949849,0.0,0.0,0.0769680602225032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387241915411707,0.0,0.08417319685401231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253081644987275,0.1019900726549127,0.0,0.1802131495892261
parenting,KeKitty127,2020/03/20,"Flying to my moms, picking up my sister, and flaying back. How would I book that? If in the event that I have to pick up my sister from my mom in Virginia, how would I book a flight so that I could bring my sister home with me and when I return, fly back with me where I will drop her off and return home alone.
I ask in this form because maybe some of you parents may have faced similar circumstances with children who's parents live in other states",5.8420652173913,5.151924293478261,5.6946956521739125,87.00682608695654,66.93478260869566,8.229565217391304,28.18260869565217,6.742157984588678,1.1896321739130435,353,9,76,2,5,110,60,92,0.048,0.9520000000000001,0.0,-0.4767,2,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,4,0,16,9,8,0,4,1,7,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,16,0,14,4,2,17,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,3,6,58,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133239603981956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255519108265487,0.0,0.0,0.3167581514943665,0.0,0.12555808165396695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644511775381358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132116500167036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187627058014424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20692567222648964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4824617675762696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4574131025492718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926319449651688,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waspocracy,2020/03/20,"Almost 2yo lost interest in toys I’m not sure where to start. I’ll preface this: We have a toy rotation schedule for our kiddo every couple of weeks so toys seem new to him.

Our son got really sick about a week ago and is still recovering from a bacterial infection. Needless to say, he isn’t 100% in energy or the smiling little guy. Maybe I’m overthinking this and he’s still not feeling well.

Our daycare is currently open to a toddlers and infants only, so he’s there during the day and from what I hear pretty happy. When I pick him up, everything is fine. I’ve tried giving him food and water in the car, but it hasn’t solved the ultimate problem: as soon as we step in the door he’s screaming and refuses to do practically anything including eating, playing with toys, etc. I have to take him for a walk outside to calm him down. I try to let him play with toys and guide him to build things, but he just screams “all done!”

In the mornings he doesn’t want to do anything and again the “all done!” screaming. As soon as we get in the car, he’s fine.

I’m worried about the weekend with freaking everything closed. The only thing that really works is this game on the tablet that lets him build trucks like a puzzle, but only that game and real puzzles are no good. I let him play it a little when he was sick since he could barely walk. 

How am I supposed to entertain him? What am I doing wrong?",3.3180270793036755,4.784856418439716,4.431076724693746,86.12454545454548,73.46808510638297,7.538620245003225,25.58413926499033,8.150884317080207,1.4813914893617015,1098,36,225,17,22,359,156,282,0.129,0.735,0.136,-0.5641,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,6,0,0,2,16,20,0,0,18,0,22,6,0,2,3,39,35,22,0,3,7,1,1,1,0,0,3,5,1,2,12,17,3,1,2,12,0,5,6,7,1,0,5,6,23,13,34,26,3,35,0,1,0,0,34,14,0,5,17,142,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071225597694383,0.0,0.12100966846360793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889168522372871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648558256153343,0.13371364094829788,0.0,0.07793557968056923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24733453459318186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365547971258943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477507340707373,0.0,0.0,0.1018178455737553,0.0,0.21721692606411525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110329571811556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612728855089818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313697194114504,0.11592635650350633,0.0,0.10135977037537383,0.09665147038433408,0.0,0.0,0.11965639662768665,0.0,0.12864266064801105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362020623269558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707192254227735,0.0,0.05903918099739557,0.2422385897693431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191752697531084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140590496580578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671368059646252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757261566390735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294368024603718,0.0,0.11563316343766974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754904045656155,0.15483389935626685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610147495157878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001352849249324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996494072718637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553531874496352,0.0,0.19301531313371312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389578896552995,0.0,0.09086104413001496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056923376766402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409280715322222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127801677526466,0.0,0.19387051247045106,0.0,0.10865493739283537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797722230967055,0.12272483259033735,0.0,0.0,0.13212597264718695,0.0,0.0
parenting,External_Caramel,2020/03/20,"Had a dad moment today Was out taking a walk with my 9yo son and we were holding hands, talking, his asking a million questions, etc. His friend comes down the street with his mom and almost instinctively my son pulls his hand away from mine as if he would be ruined if his friend saw him holding his dad's hand. Wasn't sure if I should laugh or be sad.",3.9558333333333313,4.847281805555556,4.120444444444445,91.169,71.2222222222222,6.315555555555558,22.73333333333333,5.6839178017228535,0.15726333333333375,278,6,60,1,5,86,53,72,0.099,0.703,0.19899999999999998,0.8496,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,4,0,8,3,3,0,1,18,12,7,0,5,4,5,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,5,4,12,4,7,3,1,9,0,2,1,0,19,4,0,6,2,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749667858768856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567088452552113,0.0,0.25799062741222845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365388984352437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306245519234765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4243021504607149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216018289040267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076087501539663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588021222963864,0.0,0.20646093475879254,0.22070870517975028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602835345657312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195064096310312,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Containsgrubs,2020/03/20,"I'm looking for parental controls for a 10yr old's computer My son has been saving for a gaming computer and now that he will be learning at home I made up the difference and bought him a used entry level one from the local computer store (all he plays is roblox for now). I need to set up parental controls and monitoring that I can use on my mac laptop. I've heard of Disney having one and that seems odd to me. I'd rather use one that doesn't market to children in anyway if possible. 

He really wants to have a streaming youtube channel and all that which makes me nervous because I don't have time or desire to micromanage or scrutinize every keystroke to make sure he stays safe. 

What do you all use?",7.448024316109425,6.2080268723404295,7.5806079027355615,76.59000000000002,63.9645390070922,10.610334346504557,35.036474164133736,9.606745405546679,3.1086303951367777,563,21,110,9,7,183,94,141,0.033,0.894,0.073,0.6705,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,1,6,0,12,0,0,9,4,29,26,8,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,5,0,3,2,3,2,0,2,1,0,3,4,2,10,4,17,20,3,13,0,0,1,0,12,7,0,4,4,70,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703400508777657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35706543555000897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630811400528867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341151232617184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966945664457982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336702203366122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061896291472174,0.21250635854279326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11802916792372345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703152197109974,0.0,0.32359131034737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534987532089249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794503390864882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197410571909994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491052969235516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966357184828434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002426824124493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281852067559478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499179884333211,0.0,0.0,0.0938878636824104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amaphotog47,2020/03/20,"How is it possible to love you kid so much, when they drive you SO insane??? I have a young adult son. College student home due to closure. We have never really seen eye to eye on a lot of things, and we get along better when he is at school. He’s not a bad kid, but we have very differing viewpoints on most things. But he is home now. And driving me CRAZY!!! (To be fair, I’m sure I’m driving him JUST as crazy). He makes me want to pull my hair out, or send him to his Dads house (for the record, I do get alone with his Dad, as does he. Son just happens to live here). But then, he’ll walk into the room and smile at me, and my heart just melts over how much I love him.  It’s strange how we can still love someone so much, who drives us so crazy!!!!!!",0.7534920634920645,2.112862938271608,2.033968253968254,101.09000000000002,80.1111111111111,5.3693121693121695,18.361552028218696,5.773587663045528,-0.6684670194003535,564,11,147,3,14,180,98,162,0.063,0.768,0.16899999999999998,0.9644,0,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,2,1,1,15,6,0,0,5,0,9,7,4,4,2,29,21,20,0,1,8,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,5,12,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,1,0,0,1,4,21,5,20,18,5,23,0,0,3,3,31,8,0,3,8,91,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033260279574414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731855371221802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545290689405246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718273522134732,0.0,0.0,0.143921441113266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184878027428185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454328362633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948877697959512,0.0,0.0,0.3299367577907792,0.0,0.0,0.1897665877815916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522259242174207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981935816367588,0.4452990037730473,0.0,0.10977938489451568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362694563980098,0.0,0.1268429129044144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540572601322786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535830247881073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16644390396524028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934776707177446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133923403551506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550030973163295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21852193828895766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782703684919312,0.0,0.0,0.1356980312400799,0.09700370374601852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JollyBox6,2020/03/20,Help me please! My 3 year old Daughter is telling everyone her name is Reeree her actual name is Rowan and we call her Rory. She won’t do anything unless we say “ Would Reeree please do this” then she would. Do you know any ways to get her to use her real name? Thanks:),0.3109350649350624,2.670069600000001,1.2051948051948074,100.41636363636366,89.36363636363636,4.5974025974025965,15.129870129870133,6.1826913282559595,-0.7681948051948053,208,4,48,2,7,64,39,55,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.7644,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,0,12,13,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,12,1,3,10,0,4,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,3,27,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.2278599185674926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878633553249316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214858178677155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384270969731586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231169076991773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199282843981694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565084804862475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832414259541802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24501639181560414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5126203662421861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657713219145308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18568661730419853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040871435295378,0.2149731652902798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166690653716896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18533948042433754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317399089313291,0.0,0.0,0.15036476153094042
parenting,ElusiveWisdom,2020/03/20,"Does it get easier? My son is 6 months old, I have very little help taking care of him. Most days I find myself holding in my poop for longer than 3 hours because I have to be watching him or holding him, and when I finally do get to poop I have to do it to the sound of him crying right in front of me (i would cry too if I had to watch my dad take a shit in front of me) 
But I feel like getting household chores and other very basic things done are nearly impossible to do... parents of reddit, will it always be like this? How much longer until I can take a shower in peace  between the hours of 8am and 10pm? My hair is starting to fall out please help? Lol",2.5198591549295766,3.150544647887326,3.991661971830986,91.73608450704224,74.35211267605635,6.525070422535213,21.946478873239432,6.2581,0.17240901408450734,508,11,119,3,10,169,91,142,0.065,0.7659999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9309,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,4,1,16,4,4,1,0,14,25,9,0,2,3,3,2,2,0,2,0,1,2,0,6,4,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,5,20,3,23,19,2,20,0,0,2,0,9,8,1,3,11,80,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531981196242596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913673041023777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658104376095958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35727920382628864,0.10488182942170084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423171617335528,0.16642526156615858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222977829738176,0.11618172305330607,0.0,0.17815140410247085,0.14863936220855595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25489979602929097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21801270486147065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203123241345825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890399060211458,0.16299632693869534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12980839440917144,0.0,0.11955054674865526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065109235346362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805795327397187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851708780304226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388837191084748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693566039008145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510918051690235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668288310902671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804304693323567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683708349434954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552651113843655,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kuquok1,2020/03/20,"Abusive dad wants more visitation time with daughter due to school being out My ex husband has sent me a text message (that sounds like it was written by his lawyer), asking for us to change our visitation schedule from him having 3/4 of weekends to every other week, since the schools in our area (CA) are closed. We have 50/50 custody, but she’s mostly with me during the school year and then we go every other week for summer. Visitation was originally the reverse of that, and I was able to get this schedule after a long court battle that wasn’t settled till last July. 

The problem? She doesn’t want to go. Her dad has a history of being extremely controlling, and emotionally and verbally abusive to her (he was to me throughout our marriage also). He never was that way toward her while we were married (just to me), but she told me last January about some of the things that were happening and that it had been going on for a while, she was just afraid he’d find out if she told anyone. I notified CPS but they declined to investigate. She saw a therapist for a while and her anxiety levels went from extremely high with the old schedule to normal as soon as she was able to stay primarily with me. His behavior has improved slightly since then. I believe that’s because he knows she’ll “tell on him” now, but that could just be me being cynical! She still complains on the weekends with her dad that she doesn’t want to go. 

He asked before and I declined, citing the current schedule. I think this text is his way to show an attempt to work it out with me to the court before he files again for a change. School is scheduled to resume on 04/13, but that could be postponed through the end of the school year or even the end of 2020. If I knew for sure that school would be resuming, I’d blow him off. But with it being uncertain, there’s a possibility that he could get the change granted. 

Does anyone have any advice? She’s 14 and in 8th grade, and school is still in session remotely, if that makes a difference.",6.343657289002558,6.519539120204603,6.401125319693098,79.44854219948851,65.72634271099744,9.255242966751918,31.83375959079284,8.964715089967882,2.5199319693094626,1600,58,306,24,23,509,189,391,0.076,0.888,0.036000000000000004,-0.9559,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,7,0,1,3,12,8,2,2,23,0,37,0,0,3,2,57,59,28,0,12,13,6,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,22,23,0,1,4,3,0,9,4,6,0,0,19,2,46,2,56,27,3,63,0,0,1,0,55,16,0,7,36,221,68,11,0.16620889578565975,0.19693036282623827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120870466613793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066458596955086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056513874340071386,0.0,0.06357467517113813,0.0,0.0,0.11621712448264948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538288100791206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05065970008787119,0.0,0.14143152844997753,0.09363025440289444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26374045984219197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320870482644446,0.19905641811586253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682646016791827,0.0,0.0,0.07272526238200709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934813183265483,0.147211748252159,0.0,0.0,0.05488970405649937,0.0,0.1400381632303128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595595981003103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683728802881649,0.0,0.1889206915209938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348898881497556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780441194957793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04567203119282784,0.13548243367112356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040600635472630583,0.0,0.0,0.07354482124068948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05547286428507765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409527344165347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142471418997058,0.0,0.0,0.0872041383906817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368777832641956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951973313259625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5887429660158785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748971614923508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857828405512039,0.13273463887521114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832495863824965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263695043514755,0.0,0.0,0.09649066927833724,0.05521090247346179,0.0532499745991929,0.0,0.0,0.048458871874575815,0.0,0.0,0.15881972264894714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996441843429002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705146958757248,0.13192888508736622,0.1333227506332124,0.0,0.0,0.0770386557844889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060501027835177565,0.0,0.0,0.059035015399972475,0.0,0.0,0.10703307951326134
parenting,athena94_,2020/03/20,"Neighbourhood Safety & Children's Outdoor Physical Play  Hello everyone! I need your help! I am currently working on getting my degree in early childhood studies at Ryerson University, and this semester I am enrolled in a research methodology class. I am conducting a study with another classmate of mine about parental perception of neighbourhood safety and whether it affects outdoor physical play. We created a questionnaire for parents in the Greater Toronto Area or beyond, with children 7 to 17 years of age to complete. 

Our goal is to collect as much data as possible and then analyze the results statistically. It's a huge process that we need to go through and it is extremely important that we get some participants (50-100) to fill out our questionnaire, because if we don't, we won't complete the study and the assignment successfully. We know it's been stressful for the past few weeks but it would be much appreciated if you took at least 3-5 minutes of your day to complete the [questionnaire](https://s.surveyplanet.com/W7F_pJCo).

 Prior to the start of the [questionnaire](https://s.surveyplanet.com/W7F_pJCo), it is important that you read the introduction to our questionnaire because it informs us that you agree with being a participant in our questionnaire. ALSO, it is completely anonymous. If you have any questions just DM me or contact the professor (416) 979-5000 extension: 7676. Thank you!",10.252303951367779,11.510536178723404,9.334300911854104,58.037500000000016,57.42553191489361,12.671732522796354,46.14741641337386,12.161744961471696,6.38140121580547,1162,69,161,35,14,366,144,235,0.009000000000000001,0.8540000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9748,3,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,11,7,0,3,4,5,0,1,15,0,14,0,0,2,0,33,23,16,0,6,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,13,15,0,0,4,3,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,25,4,31,17,6,25,0,0,0,0,27,11,0,7,11,119,38,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651057808279293,0.0,0.15785822146768205,0.0,0.09907618383081336,0.1527717332239085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776261074764409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6110250324002163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395988261915132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921583169505633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223707828525146,0.0,0.08280064577569858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765489537708744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006902041714695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21420212445750536,0.21605891303784971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235494993403406,0.0,0.13908038073663812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424688019641287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16320941742790526,0.0,0.14573234982061298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312220095120696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668907513338183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341344692637808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187019846468284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525064796899847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168660749666553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606618331776607,0.0,0.0,0.1034960725401079,0.0,0.0,0.09382146584060004
parenting,BigEastIsBest,2020/03/20,"Daughter (19) is extremely spoiled My wife and I are worried that our daughter has been spoiled. We have a soon-to-be-23 year old son( lives on his own). Our daughter is soon-to-be-19 and still lives at home, but, does attend college. Our youngest, he has just turned 17( does the same chores we ask our daughter to do)

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Our daughter feels like because 1) she’s the only girl and 2) she’s the middle child, that she should be given anything her heart desires & just special treatment in general. About a month ago, she went way way over on her debit card, which we gave her for emergencies, she turned into “I’ll spend it on non-emergencies"". 

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Unfortunately/regrettably, she’s used to getting anything she wants due to, us, in the past giving into middle child and only daughter reasoning. We now deal with “ Dad & Mom are  being mean” outbursts/pouting. As of right now, she rolls her eyes at us, scoffs, etc if we try to discipline her. When we ask her to do dishes or clear the table, she turns it into a fight. We threaten to kick her out, she turns it into us being heartless. We've told her she needs to get a part-time job, which she says will sink her grades. This should've been handled a long time ago, how can we "" re-direct the ship""?

TLDR: Our daughter needs a serious reality check",4.328527147909302,5.8219976047430855,4.388138131890994,87.31868317037657,70.97628458498023,6.907343457457874,27.54503848554192,7.273561745256523,1.3509256916996049,1026,36,202,10,19,317,150,253,0.057,0.89,0.053,0.0387,1,0,0,0,1,0,64.0,17,0,0,0,8,5,2,0,12,0,17,3,2,3,1,37,36,10,0,6,5,11,1,1,0,2,0,1,2,3,8,18,1,1,3,0,3,2,0,3,0,0,6,3,41,2,25,25,3,33,0,0,1,0,62,16,0,2,14,120,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939640888143914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41410813576434297,0.23220438642168706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725696485311824,0.0,0.17865037181776772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058245632969142515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850656879747444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723071526043742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656211675219918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04831232042880293,0.06826004822513895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984055961225688,0.09165907036141398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322573233837735,0.0,0.0,0.09584318981464096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481739392470738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046680294355294936,0.0,0.1687425988428653,0.08455763964919286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408060307913347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190554469180714,0.07626610304559223,0.0,0.0,0.1416963792913561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002623432291108,0.0,0.0,0.1453382644759689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346998832643378,0.09121209629242434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824003169251716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815981129810019,0.0,0.07598420342103995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630535756041923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571524624917795,0.0,0.0,0.09130092813050752,0.0,0.06487133129300156,0.4157184229370253,0.0,0.0,0.344800155705508,0.08252344445754317,0.0,0.0,0.0563571300942976,0.15168430538471867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857465128053045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970343967046894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23220438642168706,0.06153026423442096
parenting,_Dadadadada_,2020/03/20,"Sugar or ""sugar free"" (artificial sweeteners) for children? We all know sugar should be limited. But is sugar free an okay substitute? Examples:

Jello

Pudding

Some types of cookies. 

These have no sugar but obviously are artificially sweetened. What's the current consensus on which is ""less bad""? Sugar or artificial sweeteners?",5.7323076923076925,9.498858000000002,7.141153846153848,55.441346153846176,84.38461538461539,10.292307692307693,35.346153846153854,9.516144504307137,5.787761538461537,264,15,30,10,8,89,41,52,0.055,0.825,0.12,0.5661,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,2,11,7,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,6,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,5,3,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,23,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8352979897386758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.549797479385389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CzarAri,2020/03/20,Hole In The Ceiling .. How Do I Go About Fixing It? Hey everyone so like all of you my 4 rug tats are home. Yesterday they were playing in the attic when my 3 year old son falls through the ceiling and breaks his arm. I took him to the emergency room and got him fixed up but now I have to go about fixing the ceiling. I’ve never dealt with anything like this before nor do I have the funds to do it due to being out of work and a single parent. What should I do?,1.054545454545455,2.7125423333333347,2.7646464646464644,94.8336363636364,80.21212121212122,5.612121212121212,20.090909090909093,6.42735559955562,-0.011860606060605685,357,9,83,3,9,118,69,99,0.019,0.897,0.085,0.7538,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,1,1,1,6,3,0,0,7,0,10,1,1,1,2,10,14,8,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,5,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,12,3,14,9,2,17,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,9,59,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24464180886248355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529692770360221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840703968760093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379100210185047,0.0,0.23776751167294435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29820302516081776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290478750113969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292860037879878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119526188397559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33010194877824545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33029671238097924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21642842213664204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914430328240796
parenting,mcdrizzle123,2020/03/20,"How to teach a 5th grader internet safety Went to charge my kids tablet (f), and noticed spam like pop ups. Searched a little deeper and noticed usage of a mp3 site with a lot of recurring porn pop ups in the search history. I've explained a few time the pros and cons of the internet, but I believe it is not resonating.",7.7822916666666675,5.9642055625000046,8.033125000000002,75.46604166666668,63.6875,11.658333333333333,36.95833333333333,10.504223727775694,3.6755270833333338,252,10,50,5,3,83,48,64,0.028999999999999998,0.909,0.061,0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,8,0,1,1,0,1,0,9,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,9,2,2,8,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,3,29,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632584246831068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751877400073494,0.3231508722810463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274111081899957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7341576344432972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800646832947987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29888779987243563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kae7mae,2020/03/20,"What’s the least heartbreaking way to tell a 6 year old that their birthday party has to be cancelled? Because of covid19 we had to cancel our 6 year olds big birthday party. We’re planning on having a party with just 4 of us at home on his birthday and taking him on a trip in a few months to make up for it, but I have no idea how to actually tell him the news. I know disappointment is inevitable but I’d love to hear suggestions on how to keep the heartbreak to a minimum.",6.358484848484848,5.0364442424242455,7.030989898989898,79.91981818181819,66.17171717171718,9.940202020202019,33.94141414141414,8.841846274778883,2.6045498989898994,376,14,80,5,5,125,69,99,0.147,0.728,0.125,-0.4956,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,8,0,6,1,0,3,0,13,12,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,9,1,19,10,2,15,0,3,0,1,12,8,0,0,5,54,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.22028118089166468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760370170918482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544155740791603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264268929671964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548231549090295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20064034590496707,0.0,0.0,0.12405601584315575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037313060455386,0.0,0.1506773916307778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18017656533267348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4737340420927897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972184054216544,0.0,0.3945982010713044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27152695321734605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917499431400724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907271049929577
parenting,denismr,2020/03/20,"Restricting content on TV  Hello parents of reddit! How do you restrict what your children can watch on television? Do you have any problems in doing so? What are your experiences?

Thank you so much!",3.466857142857143,6.683764828571429,3.9971428571428578,78.87285714285716,86.42857142857142,6.2285714285714295,29.857142857142854,7.554174236665415,2.6762571428571427,159,8,24,3,5,50,28,35,0.212,0.7290000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.7596,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,4,7,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,4,7,1,3,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,0,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054718197160352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43940439310321455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302141353002173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987841200085037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298243195498634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135635712677544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beachxbunny,2020/03/20,"How to get through to my 14 year old niece she needs to not run away/do drugs and be a role model to her siblings? Some background:

My niece is now living with her dad (my brother) and his wife (nieces step mom) and their 5 kids. It’s only been a few months. 

My mom had guardianship, but bc of my niece abusing my mom it was best (luckily) the court decided she went to her dad.

Her relationship to my mom & step dad was more of a mother/father relationship. With her dad (my brother) he was never in the picture but started his own family. With my other 2 brothers she had a sibling relationship too. Our family has always been dysfunctional.. to the point of police being called. I have been on my own journey of college/work and have not lived at home since after hs. I am the only “regular” relationship (aunt/niece) she has.

She is not very different from her biological parents. She has had depression due to my step dad passing. This has brought her to self harm & being in extensive hospitalization. She has ran away enough times that the local police know her, stolen, done drugs, missed enough school that my mom was having to pay fines to the state, broken windows/walls at my moms house & stolen my parents credit card/added it to multiple apps so she could feed herself/buy whatever she wanted when she ran away. 

Part (*part*) of the reason she had to leave from my mom was the crowd she was with. She’d so drugs and somehow not remember getting someplace hours away from home. I was scared she’d been trafficked. 

I am the only one in the family that has some shot of a career/making something of myself, even if I’m not there yet. She’s always had respect for me and pretended she was getting things right when I try talking to her. She genuinely does seem disappointed in herself when I talk to her. I wasn’t as serious as I am with school until the last year or two.

She’s a freshman in hs. Part of me wishes I just gunned for college straight after hs, maybe I would’ve been a better example? 

I hear she’s cussing out and wanting to fight her siblings ages 2-9. She runs away. She and my brother get in fights & she threatens/hopes he dies in his sleep.

I called the other day & spoke to her about the pandemic & tried to make her realize how serious this is. How it sucks being confined but she chose that life bc she said she didn’t want to be with my mom. She was so spoiled & taken care of. I love my brother but they don’t provide as much & they have other kids and bc of her behavior, say she’s just like her mom. That really messes with her too.

When I last spoke to her I also mentioned I’ll have some books or journals brought over. Suggested working out. Drawing idk.

My question to you is, how do I get her to realize she has an opportunity to change her life around? She needs to be a role model for her siblings? 

All I can think of is telling her how guilty I feel that I wasn’t more successful at being a role model for her.",3.5344954465334912,5.032233329391897,4.3585223266745,86.7362426556992,72.9695945945946,7.377555816686251,25.87632197414807,7.967736418589885,1.3910480611045828,2329,77,480,33,46,749,259,592,0.09699999999999999,0.828,0.07400000000000001,-0.9005,3,0,4,1,2,0,89.0,1,1,3,5,24,21,3,1,23,0,56,8,1,7,2,63,88,33,1,8,14,22,1,1,0,0,5,5,2,3,16,19,1,1,10,2,2,12,10,11,0,2,32,6,101,10,76,46,16,58,0,3,0,1,111,23,1,9,23,332,117,9,0.0,0.06259127692119729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04224567899141452,0.08791247976139263,0.4579036760449626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047027170059860963,0.0,0.0,0.2481632111224663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543860670205687,0.04672112903475858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107884409376233,0.0,0.05386057861441888,0.0,0.05588389019141849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04217800719138798,0.0,0.0,0.034069001326033965,0.0,0.045499759723291136,0.0,0.05482601584173494,0.05519290102819427,0.0,0.0,0.04622920479698065,0.05406029326763298,0.0,0.0,0.1837874114598572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091686860090956,0.0,0.0348916908232616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940159200848285,0.0,0.026710884442995124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799945991297513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059539792493293275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105979441478479,0.0,0.05202388753064687,0.0609551876518194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02903230066626342,0.0861220017285947,0.0,0.05593609411849016,0.0,0.0,0.07462644968285169,0.025808570923989783,0.0,0.09329429881027423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047678369259598716,0.0,0.03526238778265915,0.0,0.05307175431582263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568323859497583,0.042165953679878916,0.0,0.03883387387658679,0.07834100245339841,0.040743387172512496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554329794182285,0.0,0.035796896766801034,0.1205317883649599,0.0,0.0,0.11731611422657237,0.17161926048936255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04993852657167562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917825463139939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03384228579619345,0.054314885125049325,0.0,0.22686542315279296,0.059842616749871014,0.04511391188121425,0.050250510240079024,0.04201009719794827,0.052888975361952265,0.10692735236805274,0.0,0.04809165548590747,0.055110011928201835,0.0,0.0,0.043698984624868605,0.0,0.0528650836753494,0.0,0.0,0.04066875368005962,0.0,0.0,0.03739117486119678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492057490533847,0.04617306761790875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03509586674386846,0.033849365413759644,0.0,0.0,0.03080380927817265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173203929975476,0.0,0.05160423719077919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04358775195842934,0.09347608080878876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04897109585989432,0.0,0.0,0.06074836551215941,0.0,0.0,0.07691727233732837,0.0,0.0,0.03752673730873261,0.0,0.0,0.06803762531483512
parenting,paranoidbutsane,2020/03/20,"Ipad apps and games for preschoolers/kindergarteners I've read through the old threads but wanted to get a more age appropriate list for my guy. We have homer and khan academy. I didn't like ABC mouse or reading eggs. At this point, I don't even need it to be educational. An RPG that is time consuming will do. Getting desperate.",2.8071428571428565,5.551096063492063,3.2787301587301587,87.5857142857143,80.42857142857143,7.409523809523812,26.46031746031746,8.418075326091056,1.9863079365079368,264,11,53,6,7,82,56,63,0.094,0.9059999999999999,0.0,-0.6823,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,0,7,11,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,6,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,29,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905574622583986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307329554993814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313400472689531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463366567320866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346925061748069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321301606304932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992098030084709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6332030450259959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456294846432614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866892600756412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mum4evugh,2020/03/20,"My daughter puts her extra binky in her eyeball.... she seems to find it soothing.. but it really creeps me out.😳 She uses the wubbanub type binkys with the little stuffy attached. Hey finger goes into the back of the binky so it's sheathed in rubber, then she rubs the side of her eyeball with it. This can't be normal right???? 

Beside that, I can't keep it clean enough for that not to gross me out... I'm scared she'll get an eye infection or something worse. 

Anyone else have anything like this? What did you do?",1.6769518716577534,4.0666501176470575,2.255775401069521,95.40553475935828,82.13725490196076,4.493404634581107,19.07664884135473,5.565023196281405,-0.3345019607843138,400,10,83,2,11,123,76,102,0.109,0.83,0.061,-0.7404,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,6,0,7,3,2,1,0,12,12,4,0,1,3,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,10,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,3,12,1,11,9,2,10,0,0,1,0,10,7,0,2,3,53,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034155604641253,0.2642664351372811,0.2122437065471873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19832224479105365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21545654968455108,0.0,0.0,0.2664971958869505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357314559987207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347509819717255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292484709890989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260052132627064,0.2585005808743334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527038889151998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592778117695356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522822792497302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025969994422906,0.0,0.0,0.2582199006429364,0.0,0.0,0.2347979407114565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985570993324952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22275746889900114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628394469392437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kayayloo,2020/03/20,"I’m getting a little irritated with thus homeschooling mania Since I feel no obligation to do EVERYTHING during a goddamn pandemic, when only the preservation of life matters, here is my lesson plan for the day:
1.  Eat what I give you because that's what we've got
2.  No more snacks in the living room, because I'm not vacuuming this bunker every 5 minutes
3.  Yes, we will go outside for walks
4.  Bathing is not optional, but the rules are relaxed to an “as needed” basis.
5.  Screen time is allowed, but if I need you to do something, you'd better hop to it without 1 word of protest.
6.  You are allowed cabin fever, we all have it. You can argue and whine.  But my tolerance for bullshit right now is low. Room jail IS a possibility.
7.  People live through horrible things. Children live through horrible things. You are still blessed compared to so many others. Suck it up, buttercup.
8.  Read a book. We might not be in this mess if more people read science and history books.

Kristi",2.337147922998988,4.976602329787234,3.65568389057751,84.79833333333335,81.55319148936171,6.559675785207701,27.569402228976692,7.793537801064563,1.9901359675785204,770,35,143,14,21,251,131,188,0.18100000000000002,0.72,0.099,-0.9555,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,3,6,0,3,5,9,3,0,9,1,16,4,0,3,1,27,26,10,0,4,9,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,4,1,11,6,2,0,2,6,0,2,6,6,0,0,1,2,14,3,18,21,3,15,1,2,1,0,12,8,1,4,5,87,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091283580964803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517059172140827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062380557817117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551983064047785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452292007455933,0.0,0.15416170057175838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673162031271289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961827367472608,0.16454891046928274,0.09748546171737046,0.0,0.13718963164787545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115796676429895,0.0,0.1719199033869202,0.4543971046160258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739062987171233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819681082626393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543772780795112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045764578845667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378370723622648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933763052399316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34315639150701893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464872001693971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189285834483567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205354207936734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698549854397996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279161811710828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002155848494684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535051172742066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Easy-Length,2020/03/20,"Help! My son (7) killed my pet and now I resent him??? Hi all! I’m completely devastated and can hardly process my emotions. I got a pet rabbit as a gift from my late mother while she was in hospital dying of breast cancer—this is genuinely the last gift she had ever given me and felt as though Bibi (the bunny) connected me to her. I had her for 9 years which means of course, she has been around since my sons birth. That being said, he knew how to handle her. No picking up (unless mommy does it when she needs to take her to the vet), no grabbing her by the ears, gentle pets when she wants it. On top of that, he’s had several class pets and we have a cat as well, so he is no stranger to animals smaller than him. 

The night prior to the incident, he put himself to bed quite early which I thought was strange, and as Bibi was free-roaming, I’ve always just left her water and hay refreshed and out for her before I sleep (and with a 5 month old and a 7 year old, you don’t always remember to actively check on your pets). In the morning, he got up on his own and avoided me, went to school (this was about a week ago). I found Bibi in a corner between the couch and the wall, of course she had passed away. 
The vet said she had broken her spine, but it also looked like one of her ears was tearing (someone had clearly grabbed her ears) and some ribs were crushed. It was unlikely to be an accident. I asked my husband, who was disturbed and told me that our son had told him “he might have hurt Bibi” but he thought nothing of it. 

Since then, I’ve had a hard time being around my son. It has me grieving for a beloved pet but also on a small level, my mother all over again. 
He’s been home from school due to virus, but my husband took him to his grandma’s for a fun visit to give me space to sort out my emotions without taking them out on our son; I would never hit him but I was very snappy and angry at him when I found this out. 
He hasn’t shown much remorse for his actions and it has me worried that this might be something bigger. I tried contacting a school counselor for advice without telling her the situation but got no reply. At this point, we are afraid he will do this to the cat. 

I don’t know how to process my emotions or even approach him. I feel almost afraid of him. I love my son, but this is a loss nonetheless and I’m in pain on top of being severely confused and dumbfounded. What should i do?!?",4.316282888357364,4.454736971943888,4.923413278169242,88.4342491434482,70.062124248497,7.801435128321159,27.519619884931153,7.359569317364363,1.2376030900510695,1875,57,415,17,31,602,243,499,0.135,0.7959999999999999,0.068,-0.9875,0,1,1,0,0,0,63.0,4,2,1,4,18,15,2,5,26,0,44,10,7,3,5,67,74,41,3,4,12,10,6,1,0,5,1,5,9,0,21,26,1,1,10,0,1,7,10,11,1,1,35,12,71,4,66,28,5,63,0,3,1,2,70,32,0,7,25,281,92,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888297664534516,0.08058039386205892,0.0,0.09102664057787599,0.0,0.0,0.14539085854440376,0.15127784917214826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184662652259407,0.084982423297737,0.0,0.08540675208833566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735211202429637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531050261125357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434339445010327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955019230042483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067623246367549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06004084921786744,0.08222734447480001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04596349868629945,0.0,0.08728153532688694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19934180820601696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720284024347097,0.0,0.0,0.2181112988994886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286321173148388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060930643867586926,0.0,0.0911835384853435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973139873916437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057116181210682,0.0,0.04995814033720624,0.0740984171033663,0.10254301320099646,0.0,0.0987668279250654,0.0,0.0,0.0444108175561054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633597518615702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204388242947801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902046973601636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19286831895730785,0.0,0.0,0.07255823972088425,0.0,0.06682447055318351,0.06740373144578649,0.07011031876446464,0.0,0.0,0.0853066983481182,0.0,0.08722427973804116,0.0,0.19077568787398128,0.0,0.06159850756817401,0.0,0.096727644243108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593311110201342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138304119874928,0.0,0.09668697289019533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297585024702358,0.0,0.1729399313852717,0.0,0.0,0.2759973315702405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205389971861916,0.0,0.15039249087272422,0.10217924876502343,0.0909690657847258,0.0,0.0770221697437734,0.06998189110271376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669611216298355,0.0,0.07945359268531173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931214509525226,0.14433431726186682,0.05300651314305736,0.0,0.0,0.17372421994794598,0.10099704041812232,0.06171745269529075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500483872616252,0.05361719023349835,0.0,0.07291723744621112,0.0,0.08173308842709276,0.08426837774790293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525529907454615,0.0,0.0,0.09231683193595594,0.0,0.06457517888155805,0.0,0.0,0.11707763958364445
parenting,wayhaight,2020/03/20,"Two-Mom Household + Teen Son: Unexpected COVID-19 Situation Day 8 of quarantine. We are two moms raising our 14 year old son during self-imposed lockdown (I recently returned from international travel).  Our son is on a 2 week break from school. Last night, our son brings down 3 empty tissue boxes and asks for new one. We immediately know why there’s a sudden increase in his tissue usage but are trying to be prudent with our resources. We’re all about healthy expressions of self love so today we had to have a talk with him about other, sustainable resources for his frequent activity. Most awkward conversation ever. 😱",5.28089285714286,7.911806732142857,5.95121428571429,72.34378571428573,70.96428571428572,8.051428571428572,31.735714285714284,8.841846274778883,3.0822828571428573,502,23,79,10,10,163,89,112,0.034,0.866,0.1,0.8504,0,2,0,0,0,0,16.0,7,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,2,11,10,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,11,1,15,8,3,20,0,0,0,1,21,3,0,1,13,45,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648309801010634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217469869189996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17076162259123698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374812855882164,0.1538802695968234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038062674681087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44219190837988176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232415801724652,0.0,0.17715652038708607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980920472404666,0.0,0.12792169282280064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863967164840112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910546605909572,0.0,0.0,0.393875819083762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21219576560223685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173359534688965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894063796482426,0.0,0.0,0.12816870630761534,0.0,0.3688197567112028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142731241918536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703438935824266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215676356335584
parenting,AlexanderTheBaptist,2020/03/20,"PSA - The Tinker Bell Movies Are Extremely Good Since the schools have pretty much been shut down, I thought I'd share this with all of the parents practicing social distancing, and starting to go a little bit insane.
If you need a movie night, or even a movie marathon, the Tinker Bell movies are actually extremely well done. I feel like when I tell other parents this, they never believe me. I promise, they are hilarious and also have very good plot lines. You'll even want to watch them in order if you can, because there are some overarching plot lines that connect between movies.
If you have Disney+, all 6 movies are on there. Last I checked there are also a couple of them on Netflix.
Cheers.",5.2505384615384605,7.116151438461543,4.82,83.66000000000003,69.23076923076923,7.353846153846155,29.153846153846153,7.908726449838941,1.8951384615384617,557,21,101,7,10,169,84,130,0.032,0.792,0.17600000000000002,0.9545,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,4,4,0,9,7,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,0,3,15,19,9,0,5,4,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,2,14,7,10,15,5,13,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,5,6,68,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.17475402612342478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864167819933777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916411826842877,0.0,0.0,0.20175927112501296,0.0,0.0,0.1955064936286772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814609523436147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832586858703399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23655829525044256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054707781965604,0.1279331616398678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017739972639944,0.3004037968197663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597224605470996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748833026685719,0.1794829246196092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164273191500975,0.13278386308690726,0.13811578035984312,0.0,0.0,0.16805231269671367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976892396447349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821864246738565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812362169546005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481349436373904,0.0,0.0,0.18254718758993527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675213458957682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652182374168594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421677094943681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477578766433843,0.1056246812210358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101238003569898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheFunkFox,2020/03/20,"I’m an awful mom My child annoys me so bad. As soon as he wakes up in the morning he’s mean. I walk in his door to get him dressed and he says “leave!!! I want dad” he will throw things, doesn’t listen, he screams at everything. He hardly eats, he asks for a food but changes his mind or doesn’t eat it. He just wants to watch cartoons - we have crafts, toys, swing set, hot tub but he will destroy everything if he can’t watch cartoons. 

If I put him in time out he destroys his room and I have to clean it up. He doesn’t hug or kiss me. He will hit and kick. If I try to do anything for him he cries because “daddy do it”

I just don’t want to be around him. My favorite part of the day is when he goes to bed. I feel like an awful person. I’m just dying inside,  I wish he would just listen without screaming. He’s only two",-0.07583333333333186,1.6566173055555566,1.7488888888888887,100.335,84.27777777777777,4.4444444444444455,18.333333333333336,5.033348758259628,-0.7593333333333332,625,15,157,2,18,205,106,180,0.132,0.725,0.14300000000000002,0.5032,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,8,9,3,0,5,2,15,6,1,0,0,26,28,14,1,8,12,2,3,1,0,4,0,5,4,2,4,6,3,0,2,1,0,3,6,6,0,1,0,10,20,3,20,22,1,17,0,0,2,2,33,9,0,5,5,83,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883681865246658,0.15019076646200308,0.1577243290777357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408687085648472,0.10284617141616688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847649114424247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18532383551533546,0.10880623722921864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750979557316879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452720186452988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032575940848014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530660471946104,0.12052894376403606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20400900960637314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814582986511726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113413930194164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17864321492985916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242488424093901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377843968225965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035251991045405,0.19759518860221528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831420399828608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270025774270268,0.0,0.0,0.14731410308219828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696036462935227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416773089411269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208573935451292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837818689810804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145453782207084,0.0,0.16480855485253593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298534745013692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19401217564168505,0.16263377408647506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984921550759932,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redfenix,2020/03/20,"Sons's mom suddenly won't let me pick him up. In the U.S, haven't been in public for a week or so, noone in the house has symptoms etc etc.

Son is 10, has been at her house for the better part of two weeks.  

She is taking the stance that me leaving, picking him up, and bringing him back home directly is somehow dangerous or contradicting guidelines to be safe etc.

How the hell is 
a) getting in the car by myself
b) going nowhere but her apartment 
c) going back

a problem? 

I'm furious.  The last time we talked about it, I was picking him up today, and the only way I found out that was changing was when I called today to see what time was good to pick him up. 

This is fucking outrageous, and she's using this shit to put him in the middle and turn him against me, which he's never acted like before.

Am I the crazy one here? I'm not picking him up to go to the mall or something. what the hell.",3.8415597147950113,4.122026128342245,4.874665775401073,87.86925356506241,71.13903743315508,7.516755793226383,27.348039215686285,7.1686216300943375,1.2018167557932269,694,22,153,6,12,228,112,187,0.184,0.779,0.037000000000000005,-0.9863,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,1,8,12,7,0,15,0,18,3,1,7,1,23,31,11,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,8,6,0,1,1,1,0,7,4,8,0,2,7,1,21,4,24,21,4,35,2,0,1,1,20,14,4,4,14,109,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872559720027148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549048599174333,0.0,0.0,0.12003618179488175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858860909680348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357719817583556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541018888608779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881353401801448,0.0,0.1254739540585929,0.07090979434758846,0.0,0.23140394560650665,0.11383821953223368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614148209439206,0.0,0.0,0.3132128070309049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063256035980903,0.0,0.14371132079251545,0.0,0.1387862147286745,0.0,0.06630752242723803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895742554465314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104678134510416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196958414244677,0.10322364462750044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469750494562346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986881674923642,0.0,0.13643934940176006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108153855040676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393179617865911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448638573094204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106842026183306,0.10204699014505307,0.10908920415728296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828263258530234,0.0,0.2572995353118985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476279179095734,0.1325818901381901,0.0,0.0,0.11722130761415805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773079540378258,0.21773800273722704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Snugglebunny0416,2020/03/20,AITA So this is my first post but I just want to know if I am in the wrong here. Yesterday my mom came home from the hospital after having a minor procedure. When she came home everyone said hi and asked how she was. Well the first she did was go into the Kitchen and complained that we touched her painting ( we didn’t she left it on our family table and things get moved around) then she started asking for hugs and handshakes which cool but we asked her to take a shower first because of everything going around. She got offend because we didn’t ask her more in depth questions about her procedure and how she was doing. She took a shower and went straight to her room because she was hurt and offend that we didn’t comfort her more. So while my sisters went in and apologized I left without saying goodbye or sorry. Now I am grounded and can’t drive for a week. AITA??,3.252868217054268,5.275054674418605,3.7692093023255815,88.46261240310079,74.93023255813954,6.447131782945736,24.83875968992249,7.3011,1.1100173643410849,692,23,135,8,15,217,102,172,0.10400000000000001,0.7879999999999999,0.109,-0.2047,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,6,0,0,3,12,9,2,0,8,1,14,2,0,2,0,30,32,20,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,6,19,1,0,2,0,0,9,5,5,1,3,15,4,28,4,17,17,2,34,0,1,0,1,33,13,0,3,11,102,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22114343910421932,0.4644719696730538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271486781255675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28412240854179033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868635225962955,0.11163040989498978,0.0,0.11709252978064146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31695454632609904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489370957434644,0.0,0.14118087709141408,0.0,0.09934072313289297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24918210188985046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296755272021965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06826163265058048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699053599824582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547125827803686,0.0,0.1320137646609859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189572158317346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914172097443395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815053549987865,0.09877542450067936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904102133732096,0.0879152731328177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338918272627143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825184745350741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799999009737424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326127271293922,0.0,0.09963240510659016,0.0,0.11167817736907416,0.23028467461202465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973236758559552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580227610831938,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamapolkadot,2020/03/20,"I'm tired of seeing people who don't know what to do with their kids now that school is closed. This isn't so much directed at anyone here. I figured you all would probably commiserate. People get so offended when I imply preschool workers and teachers are raising their kids, not them, but the proof is kinda on the pudding now isn't it? I think it's an absolute tragedy the amount of articles and slots on the news I've seen dedicated to telling parents what to do with their own damn kids. My daughter is almost two, my son is three and a few months from turning four. I think the stretch are the most fun ages. They just want to play and spend time with you, what's so fucking hard about that? Especially when the majority are off work anyway? Apparently everything for a lot of parents. I'm seeing WAY too many people I even know personally who are just completely at a loss for what to do now that they have to actually raise their own children. I truly just don't get it. In any case, it reaffirmed my belief that preschools DO raise your kids for you and I won't have it, not for one flat minute. I do with my kids in one day things apparently an entire generation can't fathom doing for two weeks. 

Play with your fucking kid. Make them put the goddamn iPad or whatever else you bought them so you didn't have to deal with them DOWN. Draw with them. Color with them. Do sidewalk chalk. Tote their toys outside on a sunny day. Play a game. Watch a movie or cartoons, but make sure you don't turn to that to raise your kids in lieu of a school. Do a craft project. Jump tope. Hula hoop. Hopscotch. Read them a book, or read with them if they're old enough. Dig a hole in the yard, for fuck's sake. Seriously, yes, the bar is that low. Just spending time with you and doing something they consider fun is as good as Disney itself to kids under 5.

And while I'm at it, WTF do these people do during summers?! They're acting like they've never spent more than one unstructured hour with their kids, but uh...they're usually off school in the summer. Unless they are shipped off to something else so mom and dad don't have to deal with them.",2.6946370530877597,4.789065877934274,3.2953521126760603,90.89173889490792,76.84037558685446,6.341061755146263,22.89490790899241,7.321109707123232,0.7329581798483211,1688,51,355,21,39,528,212,426,0.077,0.818,0.105,0.9267,4,0,2,0,0,0,50.0,0,10,19,3,19,16,5,0,23,1,36,5,0,2,4,54,58,26,0,3,14,6,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,11,22,21,1,0,6,10,4,3,12,8,0,7,4,6,41,8,56,52,11,42,2,2,5,3,52,19,4,8,20,231,63,10,0.0,0.0,0.10164900280231426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430516325734868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083506729478077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728338653973444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921393420535627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435427871753236,0.21477694563502087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403125139568193,0.0,0.0,0.10762921935199744,0.0,0.06879931567310454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361585410090903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888937180752336,0.10884274371640447,0.0,0.0,0.08736779078037255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933104516459403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258052207595723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144915807246069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050889251170582864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855647705448771,0.0,0.0,0.13906050931926792,0.10560591007721278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199557543184815,0.0831426820951154,0.0,0.07657249862662498,0.0,0.08033767036031464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930255770674367,0.0,0.2117525928953932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313235095742333,0.0,0.0,0.2888567080341615,0.09095195536829932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230637064581918,0.0,0.0,0.10471355386376026,0.0,0.0,0.2083843040260326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162584771366751,0.16601038593385514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038101659440324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817330311872448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104389554324144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920190904944254,0.133488124048316,0.0,0.0,0.12147768987166566,0.11972115320989135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266009622825053,0.20350611396517596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472188991329503,0.0,0.06143860462389331,0.08268050600330848,0.08355404865892042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583260620780853,0.0,0.0,0.07399509124859953,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frothyandpithy,2020/03/20,"Social Distancing Skype Dates? My family moved to a new city recently, and what with social distancing- it's not a great time for my toddler to be out making friends! Anyone else at home with their kids and want to set up Skype 'penpal dates' for their kiddos (parent facilitated obviously!)? At a younger age, they don't always have the desire/ability to focus long, so it could be 10 minutes or something. My son is 2 1/2, and we're in PST.",4.8812156862745075,6.114309141176469,5.89970588235294,77.9970098039216,69.35294117647061,8.960784313725489,27.10784313725491,9.2995712137729,2.2650784313725487,347,11,65,7,6,115,67,85,0.04,0.895,0.065,0.2617,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,8,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,13,5,0,14,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,7,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949900152886025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638562814668715,0.240109469649674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871017696102637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576136428537308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22091530720055252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105083946872005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583611578726867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350625641576012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20738391150684984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564240606456627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490667972535745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22632745325861026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602073217446052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23138290940909165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777611264234361,0.0,0.1804067163926309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664579268837432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822006064436546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CapriJ0390,2020/03/20,"Lockdown with 3 kids and no money Anyone else struggling with the thought of isolation for maybe 3 months?? What are you going to do to keep the kids entertained??

I found this group earlier on FB which has been helping me a bit [https://www.facebook.com/groups/3101117816611074](https://www.facebook.com/groups/3101117816611074)

Would really like some other suggestions too? I'm a mum of 3 and we have't got a lot of money so need all the ideas I can get. TIA.",7.728342857142856,11.150563586666667,5.108571428571427,77.52000000000002,66.46666666666667,7.485714285714287,22.714285714285715,8.418075326091056,1.3612285714285712,379,9,61,6,7,105,60,75,0.09699999999999999,0.743,0.16,0.7172,0,2,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,6,0,6,0,0,0,1,14,14,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,1,3,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,2,9,9,4,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,2,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571255866597575,0.27213692126649963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899646351811671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187336075199005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912149083026164,0.0,0.0,0.1387641883176472,0.0,0.1509456767386602,0.0,0.2124232826701192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780249916101957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998282356548041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360760384405877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975794971097376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258022398030426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26682926566788284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119980882793936,0.0,0.0,0.1969378290373751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014911950684689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776610882369755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108554414380324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867346459687984,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nakedreader_ga,2020/03/20,"Kudos to all the Stay at Home/Work from Home parents I’ve spent the week trying to get stuff done, but can’t because my 9yo needs something every two minutes.",5.262812499999999,5.68564965625,5.031250000000004,87.48875000000002,68.0625,6.4,28.5,3.1291,0.8667625000000001,127,4,25,0,2,39,29,32,0.0,0.929,0.071,0.2846,1,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,13,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387695979012787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751075790464278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265018190491788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045316823726295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.539319078967947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933487428867167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985051524621487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20695933542882491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865382122120944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077473230773595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251868866233026,0.0,0.26260894834236426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156401143979444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19571226218491886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sesquidistus,2020/03/20,"Oobleck is for grownups too These are unsettling times to be a parent. How is everyone coping? 

Here are some thoughts on mental health and staying present for our kids, hope it helps:

[https://teachplayhome.com/oobleck-grownups-too/](https://teachplayhome.com/oobleck-grownups-too/)",15.632647058823528,21.871766382352945,7.885529411764708,50.63888235294121,61.647058823529406,6.249411764705883,30.329411764705892,7.554174236665415,2.4243129411764714,243,8,27,3,5,60,31,34,0.0,0.8490000000000001,0.151,0.6705,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,0,6,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,2,18,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.341404987231624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797815399580638,0.0,0.0,0.2394833109380048,0.0,0.0,0.3548686322857689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36006331517019485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39672719455157307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808225758419433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28364758671322743,0.20833811138390287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xDoomQweenX,2020/03/20,"My 5yo son recently lost his grandpa, my FIL, a week ago. They were extremely close, my son is not reacting to this at all. When I say close I mean like, he was there every single weekend, FIL visited during the week. They were as close as two people can be. 

When FIL passed, I picked my 5yo up from school, and I told him I had something sad to tell him, and I told him. He immediately cried and continued to cry for about 20 minutes. Once he was around family again it subdued and he sorta just hasn’t really cared since. 

He’s asked how it happened, and showed some sadness here and there. He’ll accidentally ask for him or bring him up then remember. The thing is, my son is extremely intelligent, I realize every parent says this but he’s an only child, only ever been around adults, so he thinks a lot different than kids. 

He continues to tell me and MIL and SIL to not cry and “be brave like him”.
Last night MIL broke down for a second and said “how will I live without him, I can’t” and 5yo says “You can live without him. You have to, you have me and mommy and tata and SIL & her husband” 

I was so shocked and hurt that my 5yo is already thinking like this, but also extremely proud of him. I don’t ever want him to feel like he has to suppress these feelings for the sake of us, and I don’t want this to come back on him later on because he hasn’t dealt with it now. 

How do I help my son grieve, or is he just handling this better than me?",3.719314381270904,4.284303765886288,4.763576923076926,87.53767307692308,71.54180602006689,8.12046822742475,25.31789297658863,8.238735603445708,1.2597570568561869,1122,31,251,16,20,368,157,299,0.098,0.789,0.11199999999999999,0.6665,3,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,1,3,2,3,21,15,0,0,7,0,26,0,0,5,3,54,44,31,1,2,10,7,2,4,0,2,0,4,0,3,11,23,0,1,7,2,0,4,9,7,0,2,11,6,42,8,32,29,4,33,0,6,0,0,53,11,0,5,22,165,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668486922658848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036257154553698,0.0872240471371402,0.0,0.11817839355751784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941926462519984,0.20393334133277333,0.0,0.0,0.08386887399066573,0.0,0.06648867521840905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646444461352807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120516370094248,0.0,0.0,0.09395501714231157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594281480819048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395599066823135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19732194560888056,0.18379405991453995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282244097564026,0.0,0.1102991595521046,0.07792035120021151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645113376062096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310799875605069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676277185968255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890743050722939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131463440105959,0.0,0.19262339986789107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906389159999968,0.0927282721224904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881030494304765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235575403191627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615706575278335,0.0,0.16590683577375498,0.0,0.0,0.12111044870795255,0.0,0.0,0.0756161048799341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987368180579243,0.0,0.10769446376067476,0.0,0.12355619198975012,0.0,0.10375150733727716,0.2602129343671597,0.0,0.11038568494893952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902246664218446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839681920775654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906657401430008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246193239805884,0.1397765979811606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084440480138537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654652794477372,0.0,0.13119899523972786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866581503428873,0.0,0.17498037001207795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028112249358766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hulahoopinghippos,2020/03/20,"Irrational fears for newborn son during this pandemic. I have a 6 week old son, no other children. I have these irrational fears that 1) he won't be able to get his vaccines at 8 weeks because either the pediatrician will be closed or shots won't be available and 2) daycares will be closed for a very long time and that he will miss out on critical and vital interactions, stimuli, etc. by being kept home alone with two adults. Obviously playdates with other children are out of the question. I'm just scared and anxious and a new mom and things seem really overwhelming right now. 

Anyone else feeling the same?",5.18938596491228,7.187979517543867,5.393859649122809,78.95201754385967,69.6140350877193,8.224561403508767,30.21052631578948,8.841846274778883,2.579094736842105,491,20,86,9,9,155,84,114,0.196,0.772,0.031,-0.9493,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,4,6,0,13,0,0,0,1,21,19,7,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,4,7,12,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,1,3,1,11,8,3,14,0,2,0,0,12,7,0,3,7,54,10,0,0.19172241752299715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856660409798133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659176018448406,0.0,0.1340567721003238,0.19644227345940227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687220621887608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601594785571804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213821175070429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4314820434364985,0.09694061491371928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016705010479914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19231321686599076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966830635521496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22454297823813452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851667055417128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118042600838926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477298536226386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282228999830727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372989701114754,0.0,0.0,0.19194758618667795,0.0,0.0,0.1745368883225138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737185510803195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179488344849987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18728494356312725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819107325234674,0.0,0.0,0.3075763176379942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joselawB,2020/03/20,"Any activities or ebook you can recommend for a speech delayed child (5 year old) My community is under quarantine and Amazon seems not accepting book related orders.

  
Can you recommend an ebook for a speech delayed child? or a YouTube channel that  can help or is an alternative for my child speech therapy.

Thanks!",5.821636363636363,8.663664254545456,6.292727272727273,69.53909090909093,70.0909090909091,10.945454545454542,34.63636363636364,10.793553405168565,4.8180181818181795,254,13,40,9,5,82,36,55,0.096,0.703,0.201,0.7655,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,7,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,4,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,4,4,24,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292323976300963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881304690805669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510726044168666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913343377609167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.395763339867486,0.4915898321377472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768199469990025
parenting,tiggzez,2020/03/20,"Cute Story Alert: My 6yr old has a crush on a boy and he has a crush on her too So this afternoon it was just me and my daughter together talking about her day. I asked her who she played with at lunch because her two best friends have been away with a cold all week. This was the exchange:

Me: so who did you play with at lunch today? 
Miss 6: *giggles* Leo *giggles some more*
Me: o that's nice. What did you guys play together?
Miss 6: Mum I have to tell you something... I have a crush on Leo *giggles*
Me: ...says nothing...
Miss 6: *giggles again* and he has a crush on me too *almost falls off her chair with giggles*
Me: *getting way too excited at her cuteness but trying to be a mature adult* aw baby that's really lovely.

So she tells me they played at lunch today and everyone was watching them to see if they kissed but they didn't and I told her she's too young to kiss. Apparently they just spent lunchtime hanging out together and running away from everyone else. Then later on I told my husband and he immediately knew who I was talking about because the same boy was waiting at the school gates for our daughter to arrive this morning and they ran off playing together straight away. 

I honestly thought we had years before crushes began but apparently not lol... Just nice to know that kids will still be super cute even when the world is dissolving into madness. 

TLDR my daughter has her first crush and it's adorable.",1.1316977928692715,3.7520154587813614,2.160876249764197,92.64727928692702,89.75268817204302,4.94401056404452,23.112714582154307,6.5966054737557815,0.7436394265232981,1119,44,224,14,38,352,148,279,0.06,0.731,0.209,0.9936,2,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,2,3,6,3,16,28,1,0,11,2,21,6,0,0,1,32,37,18,0,1,8,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,5,12,16,3,1,3,5,2,4,2,4,0,2,17,4,40,24,31,17,5,39,0,3,2,3,48,19,0,3,15,151,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994169725629775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998548892194165,0.0,0.4220533664861648,0.0,0.0,0.18255866642293692,0.0,0.127416620998548,0.0,0.15714154733138394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965690861096139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508748558076546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890101160807406,0.0,0.0,0.2861635256245245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736767779470226,0.0,0.0,0.11568776277230493,0.0,0.07823230038288692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482648735900284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229248389673796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351450399891175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367833925158316,0.0,0.15712559671248014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959264576006642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907823933429593,0.0,0.15154357768645474,0.1193223722189109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152761813742764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958153433181401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407086204855952,0.2617564806240197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887581682231872,0.0,0.0,0.2838695940398285,0.2861635256245245,0.0,0.1016627610193971,0.0,0.14627297046976342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885562529208885,0.12011136819414503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642682558912016
parenting,teddyjr32378,2020/03/20,Transitioning out of Merlin Magic Sleep Today for the first time my almost 6months boy started sleeping on his side with the Merlin Sleep suit. I know this is probably not good especially if he rolls over completely. Any suggestions on what to use next?,7.631333333333334,9.143361911111112,7.042222222222224,71.29000000000002,63.22222222222222,10.444444444444443,32.77777777777778,10.504223727775694,3.6907777777777775,206,8,33,5,3,64,41,45,0.053,0.9470000000000001,0.0,-0.3412,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,1,0,7,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,8,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,5,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23546343484451898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990644884491498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465447277756378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000139484245496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19722820490839366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292293689799442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500790395147156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25352574082973944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7059435092282635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16643661789939418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371147564554739,0.0,0.22288966606228613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308950871467807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amillionb,2020/03/20,"Moody 11-year old My sister and I are 8 years apart, so it’s hard for me to remember what life was like when I was her age. We had very different childhoods, she has TikTok and Snapchat, while I didn’t even have a phone when I was her age. She’s giving my mom and me a lot of attitude lately. I’ll ask her “can you come downstairs and eat?” or something like that, only to be ignored or get a mumble of an answer. She flipped out on me because I told her that we need to maintain a schedule despite her not being in school because of the corona virus. She claimed that cleaning her room and getting her homework done “doesn’t matter as long as it gets done sometime”. It seems like we can’t do anything right, she won’t spend time with us, will blatantly ignore us, and is in her room all day and night. I just don’t want my sister to resent me (or my mom) because I just want to make sure she’s practicing good habits and not making the same mistakes I made.",6.287121212121214,4.947355590909094,6.315838383838386,85.04709090909091,66.32323232323232,8.93010101010101,32.42626262626263,7.1686216300943375,1.869852929292929,749,25,163,5,10,238,122,198,0.068,0.8340000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.5606,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,5,1,0,0,6,10,1,0,7,0,20,2,0,3,3,39,34,17,0,4,7,4,1,3,0,2,1,0,4,0,7,14,1,2,3,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,9,1,36,5,16,21,3,23,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,5,17,109,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467420915649355,0.0,0.130274612147392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548416944379311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003876695712405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898700310670998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559240180300906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852094306472164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259112268023835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920401895042926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184158372757176,0.1336784213727132,0.0,0.11688122100232533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248313528731925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719428506271418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842791233067794,0.2042399524899504,0.0,0.0,0.12332147531866447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847145353386025,0.0,0.13185752660952754,0.1860360892413991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264130106986526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332718967806412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307717126627478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622570044785158,0.0,0.0,0.10598290863953777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785780671938252,0.11900521014758808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103090940761512,0.0,0.12686014865026565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727940398693987,0.13782195414247353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313369084402409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125683727332966,0.0,0.0,0.13315609567307754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352448031750324,0.0,0.0,0.11497937920639065,0.16438596102702416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794752784873526
parenting,Crazycatpants85,2020/03/20,"Give your wife or husband a break please I’m only posting this because my husband has been giving me a break and I absolutely love it. My PSA statement: 

Amid the corona virus outbreak, my husband has been fortunate enough to work from home. I’m a stay at home mom and the kids are out of school til mid April.  To say entertaining them and keeping them from bugging my husband while he works has been super hard would be an understatement. I’m exhausted. We have already been staying home and being smart and with new shelter in  place recommendations from our California overlord, I’m feeling wrecked. 

My husband gives me two hours after dinner, between 5 and 7pm, to have free time. Sometimes I hide upstairs while he does bath and snack, sometimes I go to my parents house 5 mins away. I’m not going anywhere else because of the restrictions so transmitting anything/picking up anything isn’t a concern. But I greatly appreciate those short two hours to myself. 

So for all the fathers who now are unexpectedly working from home and the kids are home and your wife looks like she needs a break...yes she does. Please realize she is now the teacher and jail house master too. She just got handed two new jobs right now. Give the lady a break. And wives, same thing, if you get a break, so does he. Tit for tat. Offer a break as well. Let’s all be supportive of one another. My husband told me he read that domestic abuse reports are up a lot because of the quarantine effect...let’s not be one of those statistics and be kind to our partners!! Hope this makes a difference to someone",3.8290574627783935,6.119448485049838,4.2820302694721315,84.21863295188878,74.11627906976744,6.85128583733235,29.420573397317586,7.793537801064563,1.9847843238587428,1258,55,233,18,27,396,175,301,0.032,0.821,0.147,0.9868,2,1,0,0,1,0,36.0,3,3,2,5,9,12,0,0,19,0,22,6,2,1,2,34,44,22,0,4,6,12,3,1,1,1,1,1,6,3,8,15,2,2,3,3,1,2,3,1,1,5,6,5,27,12,29,31,5,34,0,0,1,2,40,10,1,4,15,143,35,7,0.0,0.10422400928811974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707144234880158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223885587063298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238760851674733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264590880151289,0.0,0.0,0.1608677395415279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190458658709144,0.0,0.0,0.2309360013317365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348337731496844,0.0,0.0,0.0908912447888606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444776909054848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459580238627613,0.337535747737635,0.0999849470910467,0.0,0.07035355744388325,0.09698160061765217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787992624398135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411797792090582,0.08736898281367919,0.17325539288884406,0.20299934292699467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729157908408958,0.07818723504686041,0.0,0.09160189544616654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799001175227539,0.0,0.04297520146587792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386835219988785,0.0,0.0,0.07478460293644396,0.07939174666161715,0.0,0.05871724643688332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302341479844833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522485056203117,0.0,0.16991407579581322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192145706120088,0.06690126190096887,0.0,0.0,0.0976745992432016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190458658709144,0.1931180654272497,0.0,0.0,0.08424604787894135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798869350451613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512153453668745,0.0,0.06995321035016233,0.0,0.08902516384505807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453236495581378,0.0,0.17399904886832246,0.0,0.0,0.18751773505302333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982151355650658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058439963544645174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05129303414531335,0.0,0.0,0.08405422105023935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577867441360656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909099933018109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19211846045085929,0.0,0.0,0.06248773327859058,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wendego716,2020/03/20,"We brought our newborn son (our first baby!) home today And I left him and my wife in the car while I unlocked the house and turned the heat up. When I went back to the car I saw tears on my wife's cheeks and I thought oh no, what's wrong? When I asked her if she was okay, she gave a sob and said she's just so happy that we have our beautiful baby boy and that he's home with us and that she loves him so much already. It was one of the best, most tender moments of our first two days together as a family and it made me feel just wonderful.",1.765060690943045,2.664507336134452,3.0523809523809526,96.7287301587302,76.47899159663866,6.633426704014939,20.785247432306253,6.937597516519254,0.054326984126984,419,9,106,4,9,136,77,119,0.07200000000000001,0.754,0.174,0.9454,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,7,0,0,3,7,7,0,0,7,1,3,3,1,1,0,19,15,15,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,6,11,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,2,0,4,9,3,23,5,8,6,3,17,0,1,1,1,24,4,1,3,9,72,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20904512891504612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177095217730775,0.0,0.0,0.14566305247728462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987992952235233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216925813060785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785815154421188,0.0,0.09578352195253474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222649262380864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165601487446655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38003549380909263,0.0,0.0,0.2185814014144355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20582059462680927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097158045754884,0.17924703055677615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925578611589126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836538058531755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18019511338078975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503894355422183,0.0,0.0,0.17956128149705092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20604979400721524,0.1850494915791924,0.0,0.2278657768876026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756072153037964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205433091638203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20711634049879585,0.0,0.0
parenting,tpskssmrm,2020/03/20,"Am I a bad parent for not wanting to play with my 2.5 year old all day? With everything going on with the Coronavirus, my 2.5 year old can’t go to daycare, we can’t go to the library or park or anything. Being stuck inside all day with her, I feel like I’m going crazy! The second she wakes up (at 5 on the dot every morning) it starts. Mommy can you play? Mommy can you play? I can usually get her to wait until after I drink my coffee but after that if I don’t play with her she screams and cries nonstop sometimes until she holds her breath and passes out. And it’s always “can you make them talk” and then I have to sit there for an hour making a baby talk to the baby she’s holding, and I do love playing with her of course but not for 8 hours straight!! Screen time works somewhat, but only if she can see that I’m doing something like dishes or laundry. The second I sit down it starts. Mommy can you play? I’m so behind on homework, I have a 5 page essay due in a month and I haven’t even started. 

My mother in law comes to our house and watches her so I can work on homework but then I have to go in my bedroom to get anything done but i struggle to stay awake laying in bed! I set up sensory activities for her sometimes but generally they only hold her attention for 30 minutes. Should I just let her cry?? I don’t know what to do!",1.3544278336504476,3.1304167137809173,3.2069434628975286,91.45708004892636,79.74204946996467,5.3432454471323725,21.485322098396306,6.093298490706669,0.18706316933949466,1042,30,226,7,26,349,144,283,0.11699999999999999,0.836,0.047,-0.9402,1,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,2,4,2,2,5,12,0,1,11,0,23,5,2,2,2,46,46,24,0,4,14,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,4,0,6,16,2,4,3,7,0,7,7,3,0,2,2,5,43,9,41,41,4,46,0,0,3,1,27,14,0,6,23,156,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395810792589316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20562603086348996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431769359237124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762269642276907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744762166929679,0.16114885742693466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785456211167162,0.0,0.12239130281189152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252011933155519,0.0,0.10526533290143418,0.0,0.11228587633688414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317221434903499,0.08925546029834502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054949910443314,0.0,0.3550246416082285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460767767813829,0.14416123839868644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06866244824835052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277571806696753,0.0,0.1220764200400799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276107944339099,0.0,0.16679366227793485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972401587006777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622020296847431,0.0,0.0,0.19004137899199092,0.0,0.0,0.1387284410281003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955910697302643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618308335194724,0.2471330005641638,0.0,0.26529447028998204,0.13316687885380254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061192671394414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084025192097987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285213062264717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760113676955493,0.0,0.0736914449733383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191214991801136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609114613692718
parenting,laww6786,2020/03/20,"False positive? Pregnant after vasectomy? I’m not sure if this is the right sub to post this in, but I’m freaking myself out. Probably some TMI ahead. 

We have two kids, 5 and almost 3. We’re out of the baby stage, almost past the diapers stage, etc. We decided no more, and husband got a vasectomy last March. Right after, he went through a horrible time struggling with his anxiety and depression. Several months of awful... even had to take short term disability leave from work. This cemented the “no more kids” decision. 

Fast forward to now. We use zero protection because he was given the all-clear at his 3 month sperm count check. I am not even sure if I’m late, because my usual 28 day cycle has been 21 days for the past 2-3 months. If I base it on 21 day cycle, I’m almost a week late. If I base it on 28 day cycle, I should get my period in the next day or two. This morning I used a cheap Amazon pink dye test and peed directly on it instead of dipping it. Faint positive. Is it possible I invalidated the test by not dipping it? Oversaturated it? I took more in the afternoon, but they were negative, but the first was very faint and with the ‘first morning urine’. Does first morning urine really make enough difference to be positive with it, and then negative the rest of the day? 

Please tell me some stories of false positives or reassure me that I can’t be pregnant after he’s had a vasectomy.",3.1258695652173927,5.103185427536236,4.842101449275366,80.82989130434784,75.15942028985508,8.802898550724636,27.07971014492754,9.408791572840183,2.5425101449275362,1102,43,216,29,24,373,153,276,0.145,0.772,0.083,-0.9577,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,0,1,5,4,6,0,1,18,1,15,4,2,3,2,39,28,16,0,5,12,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,13,14,0,1,2,0,2,3,8,3,0,6,10,1,19,3,29,15,9,50,0,1,1,0,14,13,0,11,33,135,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250407773108489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277289882791113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191574219570215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4186812792923594,0.0,0.09319272098282028,0.0,0.0,0.11304623710177415,0.0,0.0,0.09468677219623453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111799787044797,0.12067188563955245,0.14293049577782904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761052445865183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056530167375220326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653762811084327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819764902479743,0.24410920075742845,0.1145684470369807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222451032274738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590932334694477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507219857255582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20657877279856351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877138793414226,0.0,0.12197952999286495,0.10362593486436382,0.0,0.11665817514585185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931585390353334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480485294683366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223549003901275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131143991970866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395491945847716,0.0,0.08135312598369561,0.0,0.09457179188649606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309243874532508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021446437802727,0.0,0.0,0.2113918538163086,0.0,0.0,0.18690056008027064,0.11916729433608958,0.08927654192536168,0.0,0.0,0.08679171792789322,0.0,0.0,0.1003027202879472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877107421319972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lunamamagoddess28,2020/03/20,"Craft Idea Thread Hi, not sure if this has been done before but let’s maybe try to share some craft ideas we have whilst we are stuck inside with our lovely children!

My ideas:
Balloons filled with paint and toss darts at
Making models with clay to paint",10.428979591836736,7.4709315918367345,7.4507142857142865,85.28178571428573,59.61224489795919,9.8,28.58163265306123,3.1291,0.9479306122448988,204,2,42,0,2,56,42,49,0.071,0.782,0.147,0.7439,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,15,9,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,4,3,6,5,1,3,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,2,1,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20109705875042985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24184479814366955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8003539999892589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416605951336748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329454378507226,0.0,0.15775025512980168,0.0,0.2374224580340041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22273560897663588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604506701341702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deten,2020/03/20,"Amazon is out of workbooks for pretty much all ages, does anyone have an free or ebook available which I can print at home? Hi Everyone,

I have a few kids from Preschool to 1st Grade, and since schools are closed we have a lot to cover at home.

I was looking for some respectable workbooks I could buy and have them do every day, along with computer programs and other tools.

Unfortunately it looks like every other parent has the same idea as me and all the workbooks are gone from amazon.

My goal is to get the ""best"" or ""better"" workbooks and all the ones recommended to me arent available.  What should I do?",4.473589743589741,6.146227299145298,4.406495726495726,86.6246153846154,70.88034188034187,6.567521367521367,25.82051282051281,6.937597516519254,1.0237282051282053,482,15,93,4,9,148,80,117,0.02,0.836,0.14400000000000002,0.9195,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,7,0,16,0,0,0,3,21,20,8,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,10,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,10,6,15,16,9,7,0,0,2,0,5,4,0,4,3,70,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815360196197272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223582591836018,0.1873933985226925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917142787000286,0.0,0.0,0.13664708183764054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542034357651788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570413290996019,0.2024633983828766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070018350005867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4250720845682919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391902486361073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351538835592657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558569083733112,0.0,0.0,0.1801354490951336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575847060804673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357748368422946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527112679616974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155613033848964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144370263438606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752719039549068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jyc23,2020/03/20,"How to handle bedwetting? Our five year old daughter lately has starting bedwetting once every couple weeks or so. In my opinion, it probably has to do at least in part to the added overall stress in the household due to, well, the obvious. 

My wife handles the problem by screaming and belittling the little kid, saying it’s her fault, she’s ashamed of her, other kids younger than you don’t pee their beds, blah blah, which I don’t think is quite the right approach. And mind you, this is full on screaming, at 6am no less, loud enough to wake me up even though I was sleeping two floors down (we sleep separately due to differing schedules, among other things).

Anyway, in my opinion, we should be trying to reduce stress, instituting a regular pee before bed schedule, ensuring she doesn’t drink too much before bed, etc., and giving praise when she sticks to it, and gentle reminders when she doesn’t (and if needed ramping up the firmness, but never crossing the line of, well, verbal abuse as far as I’m concerned). 

Am I wrong to think this way? Am I being too easy on the kid?",8.395219512195123,7.193148448780493,7.658658536585366,76.66652439024391,62.073170731707314,10.151219512195123,35.621951219512205,8.841846274778883,2.9534780487804886,852,31,157,10,10,265,136,205,0.128,0.8,0.07200000000000001,-0.8776,0,0,1,0,1,0,35.0,3,2,1,2,11,11,0,3,10,0,15,6,5,1,2,21,21,15,0,4,3,2,0,2,0,1,0,4,3,3,9,7,1,0,2,1,0,2,6,8,2,2,1,4,20,3,27,17,7,32,1,0,0,0,20,17,0,4,12,111,29,0,0.0,0.17613473567721158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529930328919475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448660923207348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531536520813866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562767846723462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360285490459955,0.16579232063769148,0.09818682479067428,0.0,0.12525028904281796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426057443852217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769204636229249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899378991454235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010161811239084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928030944609694,0.11022759431150113,0.11465376779674602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599095685366027,0.15831530210134695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098150077935905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027784331273975,0.14224507562392116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811546622636982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269526255961657,0.0,0.1182183481421942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29752955995559593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522048797836404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405731478273814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876138523386538,0.1905073461754152,0.14605516171708613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092863097805592,0.0,0.14521669990637026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799734164688405,0.11924401654233333,0.0,0.2673217496931561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625335536306935,0.0,0.0957305054346574
parenting,toddfan420,2020/03/20,"Does Xbox-One have a way to require passkey to use the machine at all? Very frustrated. Either google is failing me or this isn't possible. 

When my kids turn on the Xbox, I want the passkey screen to come up so I or the wife have to come and get them in.

I set up a passkey but it seems to only protect my profile. A kid was able to turn on the machine and just use their own profile completely bypassing my protection.",1.9087209302325585,3.8723691162790654,3.009476744186045,92.6330523255814,78.76744186046511,6.625581395348838,28.19186046511628,7.645422480735847,1.57193488372093,328,15,72,5,8,105,57,86,0.054000000000000006,0.8909999999999999,0.055,0.0138,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,2,3,2,1,0,8,0,5,0,0,2,1,15,14,7,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,3,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,9,0,12,13,3,11,0,1,1,0,5,6,0,3,1,47,11,2,0.23466620752064365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042883180259696,0.2460430538739609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535797958898147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260340793900106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847422528375034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26455088973393553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136313018804153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5104988953692638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053525166386415,0.0,0.1936241974379221,0.13841220918746275,0.18626711271702068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bo1555,2020/03/20,"Phone apps to monitor deleted messages, calls, and apps for my teen. Does anyone have software or parent app they would recommend to monitor their teenager? 

She is 14 and broke our trust and has without a phone for 9 months now since beginning of last summer). .   

We are ready to try again,, but want to monitor her usage.  

Any recommendations???",5.517540983606559,7.799579114754102,5.417180327868851,77.9536393442623,69.32786885245902,8.814426229508197,30.2327868852459,9.3871,2.9410695081967217,270,11,46,6,5,84,51,61,0.03,0.8440000000000001,0.126,0.6322,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,7,5,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,8,6,0,6,0,1,0,0,11,0,0,1,6,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371701989711794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438625811738453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561251151719733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052040786582897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842876738331881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27837859422700023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38725905746739386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28849962700649506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23678658394521815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057089325901444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361942349682053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477506012846548,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,student-momther,2020/03/20,"I’m sick of being patented while trying to parent. please no advice. just share similar stories or send good vibes. also i’m about to cuss a lot so fair warning.

wow i already screwed up the title. thanks autocorrect lol *PARENTED

tl:dr; my mom constantly belittles me, treats me like a kid, all while making me out to be a god awful mother. i’m sick of it.

i literally just need to rant about this. my (20f) mother (50f) is constantly shitting on me. when i told her i was pregnant, she cussed me out and told me i was too irresponsible to have a baby, that i couldn’t even take care of myself. i knew she’d be upset, but this broke me for a number of reasons. i knew i fucked up getting pregnant, but i didn’t feel comfortable getting an abortion. i’m very responsible, had and still have excellent grades (4.0 student omw to law school), have a job, etc. it’s like nothing i’ve ever done has been good enough to her and idk why.

long story short, hospital fucked me up so bad that i got sepsis, went untreated for four days to improperly treated for 5, and had to have a partial hysterectomy. the surgery left me with an 8 inch vertical scar down my abdomen. my surgery happened when my daughter was literally 12 days old. 

the next year, i spent a lot of time trying to recover physically and emotionally. while my mom helped in the beginning, i learned soon enough i couldn’t trust her, my stepdad, or anyone for that matter. my stepdad started talking shit about me and saying i wasn’t taking care of my daughter properly. keep in mind, i was couch bound for a week after i got out of the hospital. the whole ordeal lasted more than a month! my mom defended me at first but now she’s turned on me for some reason??

i could go on about all the things that have happened but i just need to rant about today. we’re on quarantine so i’m working from home and completing online classes instead of attending them face-to-face as normal. i took my daughter to my aunt’s, who is responsible for watching her while i go to school. i still did this because i know i could not watch my 16 month old while still working and studying. i know this because i spent an entire semester as a full time online student and it was damn near impossible for me to focus and watch her at the same time. not her fault, but i needed help. 

back to today. i take my daughter, come back home. my boyfriend comes over to use my wifi as well because he needs to do something on his computer. we’re sitting in silence as we work and my mom calls. she asks what i’m doing and i say working. she says “whats [my boyfriend] doing there?” and i said, knowing she was mad that he was here “he’s working on something. we’re just chilling” keep in mind, this means she drove to my apartment and just looked to see if his car was here. whyyyy??? i moved out for this exact reason!!! so anyway, she starts saying that i take my kid to a babysitter just to go home and bullshit around with my boyfriend which is just not true. then she asks if my daughter, who’s had bad allergies for about a week, is going to the doctor. i said i guess i’d make an appointment since she wasn’t better (though i’m reluctant bc we don’t have insurance) and my mom just shits on me alluding you the fact that i’m just a bad mom saying my daughter had been sick for 3 weeks with a cough. how is this possible when my mom hadn’t seen her in two weeks? how is this possible when my aunt says she hasn’t been coughing? how is this possible when i know she hasn’t been coughing? this woman has no idea what she’s talking about. 

so fine, i stop working and take my kid to the doctor. i pay $140 for the doctor to say it’s just seasonal allergies bc everything else looks fine. are you fucking kidding? hope you’re happy now, mom! 

god i moved out to escape her bullshit but she just keeps on. i’ll never be good enough for her so i just give up. i’m sorry for the mouth vomit but i’m too upset to make this more organized or clean. thank you for reading all the way if you did.",2.114051075965776,4.152815652709362,3.3995022037853246,89.71959035519835,78.43349753694581,6.391910811511536,23.861550427793627,7.426169396081106,0.99133842364532,3138,107,659,43,76,1020,333,812,0.129,0.755,0.11599999999999999,-0.9562,3,1,2,0,0,0,103.0,2,4,1,9,54,39,9,2,33,2,54,19,5,10,8,110,129,56,0,13,28,20,1,2,0,0,10,9,5,5,29,30,0,5,13,1,3,14,15,16,1,3,37,17,113,23,94,83,15,98,0,1,7,4,83,33,8,11,51,428,142,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04810613091191583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543255632792319,0.03936851324605251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034422148632669694,0.0,0.0,0.043824358174057366,0.0920451723244158,0.0,0.0,0.07570831634174705,0.12331278849737948,0.09002885248833599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0435391602452224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05026844047688212,0.0,0.10038474718575258,0.0,0.0,0.08481306378926773,0.05161580063705438,0.1063983896930458,0.0,0.07861090054411066,0.0,0.0,0.0634974256305042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116428547753089,0.0,0.0503784865672254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04112461675341818,0.0553761392417648,0.0,0.1526005368055509,0.05490348718510296,0.03251537258122667,0.044530561722423916,0.0,0.0,0.04424396297870118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024891724623991463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0418742683311672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365345975856012,0.05144037160947187,0.04722506223003013,0.1119121842374143,0.12387316244482713,0.07874605639634738,0.0,0.054231431010668935,0.0,0.08706630480196921,0.052405318667590656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599448917784619,0.0,0.14814247795032467,0.04889562872087325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557368960999423,0.0,0.0,0.048852310097927884,0.13127132395655086,0.0,0.0,0.10822015795513204,0.04012830716388509,0.0,0.0,0.0534875880418713,0.0,0.0,0.04810172735011625,0.0,0.0,0.04356622621975275,0.08268013217209891,0.0,0.0,0.08370568275966646,0.0,0.0,0.09858246904668164,0.0,0.0,0.05362494882361711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941476462599587,0.4612524470185547,0.07858843534346363,0.10464553739136237,0.0,0.14601108877537206,0.03796853585703007,0.0,0.05235573262326766,0.0,0.04823408988471849,0.04723667287783049,0.0,0.10331537030985778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932623423670958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403879570488542,0.0,0.16649532390201693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924244681211894,0.0,0.0,0.15184721790869204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365634191413948,0.2740428311825797,0.0,0.0996450048517982,0.03922923867906079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159896722546706,0.04072284068135844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579797064117515,0.0,0.05510797466708337,0.06968925570388626,0.0,0.1179433277601456,0.04115775259336965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507087571563965,0.07913701135452555,0.0,0.09064712778630124,0.0,0.0,0.032705642985841776,0.0,0.048367365079448325,0.0,0.08611769552879499,0.0,0.0933269080326885,0.09408107665987923,0.05469536892924544,0.06684668838942477,0.05354715118743908,0.04808970157185778,0.0,0.0,0.042518157609249735,0.0,0.04061918357827346,0.0,0.039075787769105454,0.15795453755519284,0.0,0.0442628952961312,0.045635891813355936,0.04442162795189747,0.05496255966735405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503633463751906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03170194227416013
parenting,JessieDaMess,2020/03/21,"Some people should not be parents Babysat a 6 year old today...found out her mom likes to watch scary movies with her....This little kid talked about Chucky, Jason, Freddie....I don't think I'm over protective...maybe I am, but I won't even let my 9 year old sister watch PG13 stuff.  

Just my opinion....then again...who knows...I could be way wrong too.",1.039891304347826,3.4360384057971065,1.2838949275362346,101.2197554347826,85.23188405797102,4.029710144927536,15.871376811594205,5.148860815047168,-1.0560884057971016,266,5,60,1,8,79,58,69,0.106,0.862,0.032,-0.6542,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,10,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,5,4,1,8,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,1,5,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937012205112945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838365438034706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463245137078498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297267320340337,0.0,0.10975593264981233,0.2251650674581884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256978857702025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631152522914922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714789031538497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24945471738267844,0.0,0.0,0.15574869281418438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25717821240379785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805705733832394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395096425653456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21294831592833088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832205897337422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245626872022417,0.0,0.2893431427761438
parenting,living_lice,2020/03/21,I need advice I just found out that my dad has been chating with other woman online on a dating app but idk if I should tell my mom because when this was going on she was pregnant with his 4th kid and I don’t want her to be upset since she is still nursing (the baby is now 5 months)and when I ask my father for anything he said that it’s not his problem...I really wanna expose him but the thought of me braking my mothers heart is unbearable.what should I do?,4.428750000000001,4.6444260416666685,5.399999999999999,84.845,69.83333333333334,7.2333333333333325,27.458333333333336,6.42735559955562,1.1688458333333331,364,11,74,2,6,120,74,96,0.08199999999999999,0.902,0.016,-0.7066,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,12,1,1,0,0,17,19,6,0,6,5,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,6,1,17,0,9,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,5,56,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707781949789202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22802908491572865,0.0,0.25905040736039914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891714015587653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30382504179015546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574818981983921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283639635058295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32453531043159983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20546559407310885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651465737739843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751688485332073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635848563489193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292193756821345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22129183117481305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421969714756925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199858643226484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634403260406629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fox_loves_hound,2020/03/21,"Live streams suitable for kids So we're on lock down... I don't want to just leave cartoons on, but want to put some interesting Live streams on. Our local zoo is doing one, but the camera angles mean a lot of the time there's no animals on screen.

Can anyone recommend something good? I've got a one year old and a nearly 4 year old - though it's only the 4 year old who's interested in the tv. 

Something that can be streamed through Apple TV :)",1.6374236874236845,3.7585655384615393,3.0060805860805893,91.51947496947498,80.42857142857143,5.8026862026862025,23.2979242979243,6.937597516519254,0.6814019536019531,348,12,75,4,9,113,66,91,0.066,0.743,0.19,0.9419,0,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,10,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,1,2,3,12,8,2,16,0,0,1,0,3,8,0,2,7,42,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741216159692395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283713169067836,0.14573763784706764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192944216377064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218064410837325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491656392758302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849053346591086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5736263647211222,0.0,0.2469533958080916,0.1385861956762063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831809992987696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805630580214972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790298043647176,0.0,0.1062536978362404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149556494886905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520302903001881
parenting,GonglezLefonglez,2020/03/21,"Ok. Need expert advice. 3 kids nearing lockdown. Found this on my son. Louse or flea? Sorry the picture is so lousy. I couldn't get my phone to zoom correctly. We can still get shampoo, took preventative measures and put flea collars on cats and bathed them in case it was fleas. But we found none on them.

http://imgur.com/a/HN9ea3x",2.3725000000000023,5.237324583333336,1.696666666666669,93.585,94.83333333333334,4.4,21.0,6.2581,0.4251999999999998,265,9,48,3,10,76,51,60,0.132,0.833,0.035,-0.7344,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,12,10,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,1,6,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,1,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28764243445905385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6454949201278748,0.0,0.0,0.3075789600772452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21826212292081235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959102729652498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295087692745907,0.0,0.0,0.23507402820962184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270416633848905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peachybee18,2020/03/21,"My 5 year olds crappy behavior I am at my wits end, and I’m hoping for some advice or tips that I haven’t heard/tried yet. 

My husband (22M) and I (21F) are young parents. I’ve met very, VERY few children who are as kind, loving and sweet as our son is. He’s always been a great listener, he’s so smart and loves to learn, honestly we had no complaints up until the last two years or so. 

When he turned 3, I don’t know what changed. He turned into a totally different boy. He was mean, hit his friends, threatened to not be friends if he didn’t get his way, and he DOES. NOT. LISTEN. I know it’s in their nature to defy at this age, it’s just what they do. That’s fine. We were prepared and we were so consistent with punishing bad behavior and rewarding good. 

This last year has been exceptionally bad. At his babysitters, she watches 2 kids younger than he. He pushes and kicks them and tells them they have to be mean to other kids too. He gets home and he doesn’t listen at all. We feel like we’ve tried everything in all the books to see what the issue is, why he’s acting out, but nothing is working and nothing is giving us any answers. 

He’s currently for absolutely nothing in his room right now except for his bed and sleeping things. He’s been on a 6 month string of constantly being just an awful child and getting things taken away and now there’s nothing else to take. We feel like terrible, awful parents and I don’t know what else to try to help him and help us. Please help. :(",2.8460784313725482,4.225901859477126,3.9204084967320254,89.66433823529414,74.52287581699346,7.060784313725492,24.514705882352942,7.645422480735847,1.0275843137254903,1163,36,253,15,24,377,175,306,0.102,0.7509999999999999,0.146,0.8516,4,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,8,0,5,2,12,19,1,0,7,2,25,3,1,0,3,48,50,27,0,2,10,4,2,2,2,0,0,3,3,5,14,24,0,0,9,1,0,2,8,4,0,1,10,8,29,15,32,36,5,34,0,0,2,2,57,14,0,5,19,147,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785546094881704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332434190200991,0.0,0.0,0.06809850306425544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408464558020553,0.0,0.16722511289867092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593463830761056,0.0,0.0,0.10821555662716896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462478520271924,0.0,0.0,0.08763302040430651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730791907242631,0.0,0.08869414640659183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999920196057141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126739110870217,0.14307979702405066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473553378832253,0.0,0.15695674895701694,0.09606322822589533,0.0,0.08399251945953615,0.0,0.11040449133213254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20136480640288526,0.0,0.10044839185863667,0.09946142406722017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451994192796048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042801996191475,0.16510265801739196,0.1632546172465113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784650340927796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076017203927172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816321479273149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993063898510347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843473844622688,0.0,0.1050798826794095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238681104120211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992343725383012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551884848044683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979846146096507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021212730658607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529267271365311,0.0,0.08752660562644796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305687692352952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039650679003834,0.2178467094573567,0.09782204107875082,0.0,0.2409117171510989,0.0,0.0,0.1652516574111768,0.0,0.07948631809707266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903606005498368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290297254497591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934602585203323
parenting,keyboardbill,2020/03/21,"TIFU by running around my neighborhood in socks screaming and accosting strangers. (Note: I originally posted this in the TIFU sub, but it was deleted, and now I’ve gotten several requests to repost.)

So this was last night around 10pm. My wife and I have jointly decided to operate under self-imposed isolation due to Coronavirus, so everybody’s home and nobody goes anywhere (except to the park/playground down the street for sanity’s sake) unless it’s absolutely necessary. I’m in the bathroom doing the business, 16yo in her room fondling her portable communication device, wife and 13yo  daughter in my bedroom talking, boys 5 and 3 in the living room watching Toy Story 62 for the 93rd time. 

So I finish my business and head down to the living room to get the boys into bed. Except only 5 is there. So I ask 5 where 3 went; “iono”. Okay he must be with wife and 13. Stick my head in there and ask her. “I thought he was with you.” Check the boys room; nope. Stick my head in 16’s room; “haven’t seen him.” Check the closets and bathrooms and basement and kitchen. Nothing. Now I’m getting nervous so I check all the locks. Front door is locked, sliding glass doors are locked. So that calms me. Until I realize that I had, by force of habit, locked the front door when I came to get the boys for bed and I couldn’t remember whether it was already locked or not when I did. 

So I ask 5 again, where did 3 go? Get another nonchalant but slightly annoyed “iono.” So I pause the movie, try to conceal my panic as best I can, and ask him to think about which way he went. “Umm I think he went outside.” 

I. Lost. My. Marbles. To make a long story short I ran out, in socks, screaming 3’s name from one end of the block to the other, ran to the park screaming his name, scaring the crap out of the teenagers hanging out there. (Park is a couple of acres at least, baseball field, tennis courts, trails etc.) Asked them to be on the lookout for a 3yo boy in white Batman boxers (warm day today in the mid-Atlantic US). “We got you dude.” My wife did the same, but screaming in the woods behind the house. 

Ran back home. Grabbed my keys, wife calls police, and I end up driving around my neighborhood stopping on pretty much every block to scream 3’s name, accosting joggers and teens out and about, running red lights, the whole nine. I literally was not even in my own body to be able to control of myself. So my route takes me close to home again and I decide to to check my block again. My wife is out front crying and babbling into the phone talking to emergency. I stop for a second and give her a big hug and run around back so I can search the woods behind the house.

It’s worth mentioning that we live in a sparsely populated area, and there have been sightings of medium sized predators (bobcats, coyotes, etc.) over the past few years. The kinds of animals who wouldn’t normally attack adult humans but might find a preschooler to be about the right size. So here I am thinking the worst, frantic to find my boy. 

So I’m searching thru the woods in my socks for the next 5 minutes, and 16 has joined me, using her phone flashlight to look around another section. I don’t see anything before reaching the impassable thicket so I turn around, and bark at her to look in the neighbors yards and then search every corner of the house. 

I get back in the car, and return to driving around like a madman, and...

Then my phone rings. It’s my wife. I’m too scared to answer and too scared not to. Fumble the phone into the crack of the seat. Almost hit a mailbox trying to retrieve it. “Tell me you found him.” “We did. He was in the bed sleeping.” And before I could even feel relief, I felt like the biggest idiot. Like, I’ve been embarrassed before, but I saw a few neighbors standing on their front lawns as I made my drive of shame back to my house. And I couldn’t even bear to look at them or tell them that we’d found him. 

3, who has never, not once in his entire ~1400 days on planet earth, gone to bed willingly, had gone to bed by himself, and was sound asleep the whole time. And I looked right at him before I went on my wild romp through the neighborhood. Just take me out back and shoot me please. 

So anyway, get back home, wife and I hug it out, teens and wife start chatting about the whole ordeal, I crumple into a ball on the couch to get myself together, and then there’s a knock on the door. It’s an officer responding to the call. My wife was on the phone with emergency when they found him, so the officer already knew, but he was obliged to knock and make sure. And there I was just barely holding it together trying to tell him my son was home all along.

Anyway, now I’m tending to the cuts and bruises on my feet that I didn’t even feel when they happened. Which is probably a good thing, because it can be my excuse to hide the fact that I’m too embarrassed to walk out of my front door today.

TL;DR thought my kid went missing, ran around my neighborhood in socks screaming at strangers, bruised and cut my feet.

Edit: I put a post on my local ‘Nextdoor’ app apologizing for the disturbance, and they all (including the late night jogger herself) responded pretty much like you all have, to say that I have nothing to apologize for. So thanks everybody for that.",4.303127301214257,5.478198606763287,4.5263722418070245,87.52219447708582,70.66183574879227,7.372372372372372,27.223201462331897,7.63319966405982,1.395907690298995,4118,137,837,46,74,1286,428,1035,0.11699999999999999,0.823,0.061,-0.9957,0,1,0,1,0,1,147.0,5,4,7,3,64,40,6,10,71,1,52,12,9,6,8,138,119,77,0,6,18,12,5,4,2,4,0,9,29,9,26,70,1,7,19,4,5,29,12,25,1,3,45,26,111,15,143,60,19,155,0,2,11,2,94,78,1,4,48,535,137,1,0.05091941923927285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05098844307326175,0.0,0.11238169064421627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678690163665734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04190234341822451,0.3626326293338991,0.2380139168619203,0.05792819035070833,0.0,0.23492334196096465,0.0,0.031040005351298423,0.0,0.1733147015207328,0.0,0.05343678901309759,0.0,0.0,0.05655999581346261,0.0,0.0,0.1039888403513308,0.05823825052166327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711045844294513,0.040655012911705986,0.056341368885422786,0.05593259104261517,0.06567762590175895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019898352329604,0.0,0.1135772247847767,0.13452718470023795,0.0,0.08580361369126241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051492776649475366,0.0,0.04889062770095808,0.0,0.09307885340327307,0.0,0.0,0.16749154492532065,0.0,0.0,0.18622306451695986,0.04884654676206558,0.028938679392155612,0.0427087930024194,0.040724911143118485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0450278742693245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677404317690036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25538164606332403,0.0,0.0,0.2350166929201123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053024739446359034,0.0,0.04150612280436149,0.057439322795688474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950662480438126,0.0,0.13488834022585228,0.04506208368607845,0.17103795111020714,0.0,0.055584561134211716,0.0,0.0,0.048181185664250406,0.06797821547596998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054017457083770176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486326400866848,0.0,0.039272195199951135,0.0,0.05415338002918319,0.09556885116000027,0.04989021963810916,0.09771711212882694,0.0,0.0,0.05422751965975764,0.034504316281458995,0.03872651284837531,0.0,0.059742967275520524,0.0,0.0,0.048608347316268855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589423151010446,0.0,0.0,0.09753345640738699,0.10360671045599287,0.05489974616415303,0.0,0.0,0.051188080373433496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057681775850544126,0.08696981162271814,0.0,0.04049316593490787,0.1529376648690579,0.0,0.040576184574267565,0.0,0.053120059379258386,0.057524450103926365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095619263488065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03604102701836984,0.0,0.0,0.08514182900939181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799095002644064,0.0,0.07657013253604053,0.08185420078241537,0.13351745033813064,0.04687975999579401,0.0,0.0,0.03382859956244727,0.09788132343747416,0.0,0.08084866224332013,0.05938304568308491,0.0,0.09653131117482924,0.0,0.0,0.10371282967501068,0.055385706253011535,0.0,0.0,0.061249791802116975,0.0439780293730651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404174648882605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360140588731877,0.0,0.17054913943006042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03279043653135443
parenting,tricha122,2020/03/21,"Coronavirus shutdown - looking to buy a playground for the backyard I have a 2.5 year old and 6 week old. We are going absolutely insane inside right now. We are not recommended to go to parks and this will likely persist for a couple months. FYI, I live in Toronto, Canada.

I am dead set on ordering a playground for the back yard. I saw Costco has some for ~2k that look good, but then Canadian tire has some for <1k with roughly the same dimensions.

I’m hoping to find someone who has done some research on this, as I have a couple questions:

- regarding price differences, I noticed the Costco ones were cedar, not sure about the Canadian tire ones - anyone have any feeling on durability of these things? As it would probably be used for 6-7 years.
- what kind of surface / surface prep is required? How are they anchored to the ground? The Costco site doesn’t provide any specifics on this. I don’t want to buy one to find out it’s just spiked into the ground and will heave like crazy in the winter.
- does anyone have any recommendations on particular sets that your children were happy with?
- should I be looking elsewhere than CT / Costco?

Any help would be greatly appreciated!!! Thanks!",5.6765909090909075,7.304026522727277,5.595227272727271,79.43784090909091,67.86363636363636,8.045454545454545,30.568181818181817,8.472884824447931,2.354454545454545,945,37,167,14,16,295,138,220,0.05,0.804,0.146,0.9758,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,1,1,2,5,9,0,0,14,0,25,2,0,2,1,30,37,8,1,5,4,0,2,2,0,5,2,0,2,1,11,9,0,1,4,1,3,2,4,0,0,3,4,6,12,9,30,25,4,30,0,0,4,0,8,15,0,5,12,110,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413500983746043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549109549739955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649408811502208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27770466578775177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111037362918182,0.0,0.0,0.10981717214711874,0.12841987133819616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345153043319866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22939123052573596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263775353560382,0.10525508451041383,0.0,0.1383532026455185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358647191095666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841133228361265,0.0,0.0,0.12463991630546073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306785567846188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261618119877415,0.0,0.1108099968167933,0.0,0.31614006273087125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016494582474696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287123249978875,0.2633613565335167,0.0,0.2551058789678238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352994785355056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057755491928484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716780115613904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632729638104714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827286948806788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553436080260315,0.0,0.0,0.08337000077741907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884646615471529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838309567777313,0.0,0.0,0.07401727185875648,0.0,0.10066053375310492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828903565401374,0.0,0.0,0.16162293174829626
parenting,ixxs,2020/03/21,"Parent's bad temper driving unwanted action towards infant. I'm currently living with my infant kid, and struggling with my own temper which quite often ended up in unwanted action, such as myself hurting him physically by pinching and yelling to him really hard whenever he started to cries uncontrollably.

The pattern that me and my spouse noticed is that it always starting by me doing something that accidentally or intentionally make him cries, and when the cries last way too long, i will always losing my control.

We agreed to not letting me teasing him too much and letting my spouse to take over the kid whenever i step over the line, but i wonder if this could always works in all circumstances, as i personally hardly predict my own action in the next seconds sometimes.

Any advice or story to share are greatly appreciated, as i'm working for the change myself and won't letting my kid to have a bad childhood due to my bad temper.

Thanks!",14.016182170542637,9.52385554069768,12.809767441860465,54.28135658914731,54.639534883720934,14.489922480620155,48.43410852713178,11.538034831475384,5.758066666666667,771,34,115,13,6,251,107,172,0.198,0.7290000000000001,0.073,-0.9527,2,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,1,0,0,5,5,14,4,2,7,0,10,0,0,3,1,23,18,14,0,4,5,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,6,9,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,11,0,1,0,3,22,3,22,12,4,23,0,2,0,0,17,7,0,5,10,88,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214909396054573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120314217367841,0.0,0.0,0.08500466268018543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131107221298551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223401088551287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019874951328407,0.09980277040433554,0.0,0.4119217146039866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071338807382272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781355127894826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22395188625121373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381567760629148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189213452260636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834646043179175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037777866015948,0.11062155611240028,0.0,0.13984364521407724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834388399578052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188978940681844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293950651077294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423139584043012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879832159630898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914566162563973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329534750326511,0.0,0.0,0.0800785552515397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623153288736253,0.12362874344712635,0.0,0.1769520699679876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067771881530393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398485955373563,0.0,0.0,0.1150837151037631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921962089469394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355577678626305,0.1820037830705656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FireFredditKitchens,2020/03/21,"Son has suddenly stopped doing chores, disobeying punishment So every time my son, 7 years, has to clean his room, he screams and cries, turns his TV on and starts watching it instead of cleaning, yells how it's not fair he has to clean his room. I've told him that he is allowed to be upset, but that it wasn't fair to make us listen to him scream. And explained that this is his mess and everyone else cleans their mess.

This just started 2 months ago and his sister, 9 years, never does this. Always does a good job on her room.

At first I told him that if he can't clean his room and cooperate that we would have to take away his video games for the night. And we did.

Then we said he would not be able to watch TV for the night if he doesn't cooperate and clean. And that happened.

Then he disobeyed the punishment and watched his TV anyway. So we had to remove the TV from the room.

He's shown in the past that he responds to reward, but that's the thing, he is rewarded for cleaning his room. 15 dollars a week for chores and a 2 dollar bonus if he cleans his room in under 20 minutes. We clean rooms every day. That's $30 a week for a 7 year old. That's good money!

I'm at my wit's end. He's currently grounded to his room. He has not cleaned his room in over a month without repercussions for not cooperating.

Does anyone have ideas or advice?",2.7380058651026395,4.121068745519718,3.5243678722711005,92.38230938416424,74.80645161290323,6.6497882046269154,23.07608341479309,7.1686216300943375,0.5669770609318996,1056,29,238,11,22,335,137,279,0.091,0.7859999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.9368,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,6,0,1,4,6,12,2,1,13,0,19,0,0,3,1,37,31,22,0,5,12,3,0,0,0,2,0,5,22,0,17,16,0,1,2,6,4,1,9,7,0,1,6,8,26,5,29,21,0,46,0,0,3,0,46,21,0,4,24,135,43,1,0.1351508045422341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206780202204033,0.1198030336937683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245629608435742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094500584948656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697862975986146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845681259677204,0.08716108818264436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3548141394603267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290115502257955,0.0,0.1197034979403593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277407636664705,0.1291423855005938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495920530180385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22671616532707134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195134101143113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525688077157137,0.0,0.0,0.1341163193969182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021421149513774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21575216554344864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423663224578557,0.0,0.0,0.2536597493926074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181803455468006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901673556785634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855936434249074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132087014473345,0.0,0.0,0.112992124249736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161658529060584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978818917627364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880752098255646,0.0,0.0,0.2582847710011876,0.0,0.0,0.14700526581145767,0.0,0.0,0.16256977718465151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21681964646584134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028055271100664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920145077615718,0.0,0.0,0.26109806109604616
parenting,Houshmandzadeh,2020/03/21,Safest Way To Save Memories! My parents have home videos of my siblings and I from our camcorder that they would use. I would like to do the same for my kids but would like to do it in a manner that will not be obsolete in 20 years. What do you all do to save these memories?,1.7482758620689651,3.3431910689655204,2.7684827586206917,95.8747931034483,77.9655172413793,6.708965517241379,21.944827586206884,7.554174236665415,0.5317613793103444,214,6,51,3,5,68,42,58,0.0,0.755,0.245,0.9309,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,1,11,11,2,0,3,2,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,4,9,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32499531818770705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165770493748197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597602265091451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798293039003992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257173666631541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6904743275897338,0.0,0.0,0.20864338761797546
parenting,dpace0033,2020/03/21,"Homeschooling? Nah. I'm a mom and a public school teacher, and I am abandoning any expectations of homeschooling in favor of just being okay. This is what I really want to tell all of my parents. 

Homeschool is not meant to be school at home. You aren't expected to recreate the school environment (schedules, work space, feedback, etc.). Don't get wrapped up in the school piece, but instead focus on the home side (however you define home). For us, that's lots of unstructured outdoor time, snuggles, slow days, baking, random crafting, pretend play, movie watching, you tubing, vlog creating, homemade basketball shooting, and, as it would appear, mess making. There's learning happening- I assure you - even if you can't see it or align it with standards or measure it or assess it. 

This isn't a Pinterest post - in fact, it is probably the antithesis of it. Aside from minimum requirements that your child's teachers have been asked to foist upon you, please don't sink too much energy into this endeavor (I hate that I have to assign work to my students). Because friends, lest I would need to remind you, these are not normal times.

This is an unprecedented national emergency - not an opportunity for you to abruptly try your hand at homeschooling. It's spring- the kids aren't going to lose much in academic gains. With standardized testing right around the corner, I can assure you that they were nearly done anyway. Don't stress about screen time  or reading levels (my kid watched Disney for 6 hours yesterday). This isn't bonus time for us to finish projects or accelerate skills. 

This is just be okay time. Do whatever you need to do to make sure that you and your littles are okay - physically and emotionally. This alone is enough for parents and caregivers right now  - more than I can manage a lot of days as of late - don't let the added pressure of schooling make life harder.",6.4340786901270794,8.03298290029326,6.0767631964809405,76.80181146138808,66.03812316715542,9.319696969696972,32.39015151515152,9.621722640351123,3.172598142717498,1503,62,255,31,24,466,201,341,0.078,0.792,0.13,0.9517,3,1,0,1,0,0,60.0,2,14,1,8,10,17,1,2,13,3,33,3,1,3,5,48,48,15,0,9,12,3,1,0,1,2,1,0,4,3,22,10,1,2,2,3,1,2,12,6,0,0,4,5,28,11,44,38,9,39,0,2,4,0,27,20,0,10,16,173,50,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020877826943069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703031685060036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774732980193188,0.09214873222498586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060086762553432524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713773299871808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087033467048842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087688572427913,0.0,0.10184815164393476,0.10993051805055884,0.06510391116706774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615418394800394,0.0,0.05149824710293488,0.0,0.05601904824328996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716426298533286,0.0,0.0,0.09731650505213828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966183057092122,0.0,0.09707063408067168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119015319081203,0.0,0.0,0.10079350597949277,0.06962221715588196,0.0,0.09879205772995348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110273525624231,0.0,0.1675997198233085,0.0,0.0,0.19738676810214295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544285038281622,0.0,0.0,0.14491914925767327,0.14617536565653655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096576715989782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188984740739595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081991893636624,0.0,0.0,0.09440187863758016,0.0,0.10627408000337836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985956988466501,0.0,0.06314584120689913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683548169901467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987855765690234,0.07854675088631323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129104847280305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929001392337634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615367216607545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873819547771036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692189750934087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23713280038510245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058138564584970284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435188478204703,0.0,0.0,0.14004121408234094,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sammylovvve,2020/03/21,"37 weeks pregnant with second and having OB problems So I am 37 weeks with my second daughter. We moved mid-pregnancy for my husband’s job, and I stubbornly tried to keep my old OB (2 hours away). She told me that it would be safer to switch to someone closer to my new home. I cried in her office because they were amazing with my first. My husband had been encouraging me to switch along with my mom. So I switched to the first person who would accept me because I was 20 weeks at the time. The new nurses and hospital are incredible, however I’m having issues with my OB. My new OB is fine as a doctor, but I am clearly not a priority at all. She never remembers my name (I’m seeing her weekly), she has forgotten that this is my second child multiple times, she forgets everything about my birth plan (she takes notes every appointment) every time I see her, and in general I spend most of my appointments repeating things that I have told her multiple times at multiple appointments. 

At last week’s appointment she asked me about the thyroid medicine I was taking. I’ve never been prescribed thyroid medication. She insisted and I repeated that no I don’t have thyroid issues. Then she moved on like nothing happened. 

Yesterday, I called because I was having consistent contractions for several hours and figured that I needed to get checked (early labor nbd) and she sent me to the hospital for monitoring. When I arrived, the nurses were very confused. She had sent over orders that I was leaving her office with high blood pressure. I have never had high blood pressure with either pregnancy and I hadn’t been to the office since my last appointment. I was trying to explain this to the nurses in between contractions that were every 2 minutes at that point (thankfully after around 12 hours the contractions let up). They monitored me and sent me home after 2 hours due to not enough progress. 

Am I overreacting to this? I understand that COVID19 is making doctors busier, but I feel like I should still be a priority. They have limited me to only one birth support person when I do give birth so I really need my doctor to be focused because I can’t have all of the personal advocates I planned on having. I really miss my old OB and wish I could switch back. I’m aware it’s too late for that. Is there a way I should approach this with her and stand up for myself? I am terrible at advocating for myself in medical situations.. I don’t know how to do this.",5.0216117216117215,6.661744213675218,5.837250305250302,77.02838461538462,69.47008547008546,9.280195360195364,30.892796092796093,9.678323770799102,3.10360884004884,1964,82,348,46,35,643,211,468,0.069,0.8640000000000001,0.066,-0.1121,2,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,1,0,3,6,13,15,1,3,14,0,48,10,2,2,6,59,76,21,0,9,5,4,1,2,0,4,8,0,2,4,19,22,0,3,7,0,2,6,10,7,0,6,20,3,79,8,56,47,5,71,0,1,2,0,40,21,0,2,43,257,98,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998246656969838,0.07349278418992053,0.0,0.07385974365074667,0.06044874287024767,0.0,0.19168764958062195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027292587405803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276628966809095,0.0,0.08635297248317453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413920019763345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122851012898072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198705181199096,0.0,0.07065252724912331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039749225292518266,0.05616132719970948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133736794135241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04107218264549243,0.07541300036018374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951744439645792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611844642022375,0.15771101494949044,0.0,0.30967289465259457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641036339050473,0.07801152830812252,0.06987507574260073,0.0,0.0,0.043203790664673024,0.1281605952306947,0.08867917913992558,0.08324008932929428,0.0,0.08038738248303083,0.0,0.07681293386783668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052474960135310784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838917373626887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207089760865017,0.0,0.16710690418038646,0.0,0.11658146935596875,0.18189417269466865,0.2277755232459112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543154123118324,0.0,0.16498278012718778,0.0,0.053270378125938295,0.05978892513341896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059261938077244,0.0,0.0,0.07431493882990874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522227092257851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072333212309348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905349653849662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252891770146793,0.0,0.0,0.08881060512911729,0.0,0.06502969935777317,0.08836459572194902,0.0,0.0,0.06660875836626444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278064936179299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920939353235287,0.0,0.0,0.1182147729019024,0.0,0.0,0.07237652591224117,0.0,0.0,0.052227155451008346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18336009164787545,0.0,0.0,0.15023667377035915,0.0,0.10674648370041044,0.0,0.0,0.0818391739896968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486417086965374,0.0,0.06239954502870186,0.3152940683148469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040136698013088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168920587121536,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GrindinLife,2020/03/21,"My neighbors complained about me yelling/ already having a hard time coping .. I just got a call from my complex telling me that multiple neighbors complained about me yelling and that if it happened again they would have to charge me a fee for the noise complaint.

I have a toddler who just came home from being in foster care for 8 months because he was taken from me for smoking pot.

He’s been home for almost a month on return and monitor, and I have been struggling with the adjustment to everything, and the stress has become worse with my job closing as well as the daycare closing. 

He woke up this morning super early, and started hitting me in the face, and i lost it.. he woke me up yesterday by taking a toy car to my face and I now have a swollen eyebrow with a nasty bruise. 99% of the time I’m very patient with him, I do my best to remain calm and redirect. I don’t ever hit him or put him in time outs unless they are less than 30-60 seconds. This morning I yelled, and I yelled loud enough for multiple neighbors to report it to the complex. 

I feel horrible, I immediately felt horrible after I yelled as I always do, but I don’t know what else to do sometimes, I just get so frustrated :(

He’s been hitting and punching a lot, I’m constantly flinching to protect myself from a toy being thrown into my face. From him punching me or hurting me in some way. I’ve tried so hard to teach him to be nice, and he knows what it is, but he enjoys hurting me. He laughs at me and it makes me feel hopeless, and it super hurts my feelings... 

I grew up with a mother who was extremely abusive and she yelled constantly, and I’ve never wanted to be like her. I don’t want to yell at him, I don’t want to get upset with him when I’m stressed. It’s been almost a month since I’ve been able to arrange a meeting with my therapist, I haven’t seen her since he’s come home and I feel like I desperately need to.

I need help to figure out how to better cope with the frustration of being a single parent, who just lost her job temporarily because of the virus, is trying to relearn who her child is after 8 months of not having him, and feels way in over her head.

I feel like I’m a horrible mother, and I feel like I don’t deserve to have my son home with me if I can’t keep myself from yelling at him because he deserves so much better than dealing with that. I don’t want to ruin him or scare him or make him feel like I don’t love him, because I do, but I’m starting to feel like I don’t deserve to raise him. 

If anyone can relate and give me advice on how to change my behavior for my child’s benefit, I would appreciate it more than you know, I need help to figure it out, I keep trying on my own and failing miserably.",6.8536173718202225,5.093974688612104,7.309272439699487,79.73216225121921,65.45907473309609,9.96293660208251,34.33794648741268,8.401726058763845,2.544400738104652,2133,76,448,23,27,704,228,562,0.154,0.71,0.136,-0.8887,3,0,0,0,4,1,54.0,0,1,2,8,16,37,2,6,24,0,41,6,4,4,2,93,91,40,0,12,16,4,12,6,3,2,1,9,7,2,20,38,0,3,18,2,1,5,12,18,1,1,16,22,84,19,81,65,9,49,0,9,1,1,56,21,0,11,27,306,104,5,0.07323770461891703,0.0867747040553323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715670373322656,0.0,0.0,0.14667396402266336,0.0,0.08081962821786846,0.0,0.06093963719313201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051209505930996914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858009987157591,0.08088529075737116,0.0,0.0,0.07685845259024834,0.12954559627299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478388488217999,0.08376442333691027,0.07467072089613085,0.0,0.07747578051373404,0.06308779761964665,0.0,0.158287881043641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550485760528522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061180704552108875,0.0,0.0,0.0756741265438267,0.0,0.0,0.0662476967655296,0.0,0.0,0.06582132651702756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332806560191631,0.2616051540666981,0.07031968163993818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652735577719891,0.07025627976241945,0.0,0.0,0.05857488277539018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476386032327447,0.0,0.13121319597465728,0.0,0.07516301401730295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981793792430068,0.0,0.29385355668083435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352074325983587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535424214213052,0.13019407386910778,0.0,0.0,0.12074858138134205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21468145858470164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989521210327404,0.0622640774619018,0.06609988780946875,0.0,0.0977734730664473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338305483934424,0.0,0.053838139733201326,0.16291448995002403,0.0564854327633833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132180388130711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362412153176086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332371874440713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116597215665033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072433962551367,0.0,0.10367604856333283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16778708639318987,0.07656395047818315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506563932862665,0.0,0.06401298191943385,0.0,0.0,0.085034619858153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128116483575929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917078196116038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042877638351887,0.17278998283093475,0.1162653619838946,0.0,0.0,0.06584949194714253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463547787882635,0.10405192813775817,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FragileBird90,2020/03/21,"Working from home with a toddler. Hi all, like a lot of you I have now been forced to work from home and my childcare provider has been forced to close.

I was wondering if anyone had any advice around how to cope with trying to work and keep my little entertained?

I'm being expected to work a full day and after only just one week this set up isn't going to work with my little as she was rather demanding of my attention, particularly during calls.",8.640842696629214,6.5209660898876445,8.467275280898878,73.98608146067417,62.258426966292134,11.596629213483148,33.48595505617977,10.125756701596842,3.0350876404494374,358,10,70,6,4,116,63,89,0.08800000000000001,0.857,0.055,-0.4576,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,1,18,13,6,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,8,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,0,8,2,17,7,3,12,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,3,5,50,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595520754586308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244882527814112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259040415851796,0.0,0.0,0.16029399770685926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838641709372176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612555919224744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233379421253526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36123518229359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600480203094295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796955043736185,0.3609403023651307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308288677085302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220151601924236,0.1369458136873032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225076831528592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444354540236498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527034057597945,0.6554390291805512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skankin_it_easy,2020/03/21,"Is it possible to avoid the dreaded ""NO!"" phase? Our 11 mo old has a small, but growing repertoire of words and I can already hear the no's coming.  What have you found that helps limit or mitigate a child from turning into a raging contrarian?",3.58563829787234,5.575843255319152,4.8095212765957465,81.50875,73.8936170212766,7.253191489361702,28.77127659574468,8.07648339933343,2.0972595744680853,191,8,35,3,4,63,43,47,0.17800000000000002,0.716,0.106,-0.5792,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,2,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,4,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799232863187945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965680977108474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37748698394946095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38803036400401375,0.0,0.23076468695320945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36126560541683306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881257539134024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744794977564167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jeremyjava,2020/03/21,"When your tween becomes a young teen, which resources, web sites, etc did you switch over to? More below. Our 13yo is very mature and just wants to do his DnD/Minecraft thing, still into lego sometimes, and we do long bike rides (at least before COVID-19) and bingewatch stuff and good movies, but looking for new... things that relate to him. Which catalogues and stores, and web sites, became your defaults? Which became your new places to go and things to do when they stopped being ""little""? Your insights are appreciated!",6.336428571428571,8.407319413043481,4.157453416149071,88.66456521739131,66.82608695652173,6.126708074534163,26.186335403726712,6.1826913282559595,0.8046596273291922,414,12,74,2,7,114,69,92,0.024,0.8809999999999999,0.095,0.7863,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,5,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,14,10,10,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,9,0,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,1,10,8,3,18,0,0,1,0,10,8,0,0,8,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459979473849193,0.18953465423370328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248413087170578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265878207548614,0.18682307371331744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324319473637688,0.0,0.1971171833791465,0.18704483024272586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4302458159223129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23271505705438644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22029476486698005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787981336103995,0.1862199453424871,0.0,0.0,0.2549830948545142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439340827999073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837831676703621,0.1313773515155838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fatfatbunny,2020/03/21,"Asking for support for a mother, wife and all around great human being in these difficult times =) Hey guys,

I am a psych nurse, husband and father of 2 ( 1,5 and 3,5) in switzerland and since this whole epidemic started my wife has been stranded at home with the kids, unable to leave the house like everyone here. Her whole family is back in the US and my family is in Portugal =/.

It's not the end of the world but it's really taken a toll on my wife, and I'm posting here to know if you guys would like to give her your comments for support!

It would mean a lot to me and to her too I'm sure!( she's not on reddit but knowing that people other than myself have words of support for her would be amazing =) )

Good luck to you all in these difficult times!",4.213653846153846,4.578164852564104,5.168358974358976,85.7933076923077,70.34615384615384,8.291282051282051,25.856410256410257,8.238735603445708,1.4147302564102555,591,16,126,8,10,194,96,156,0.035,0.753,0.212,0.9858,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,3,0,0,5,12,0,0,9,0,11,0,0,0,3,26,23,10,0,4,5,6,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,4,8,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,15,10,24,16,5,16,0,0,0,0,23,10,0,3,7,88,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263914065288438,0.13273119423754065,0.0,0.0,0.10917308304161924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575124765713608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356670137593622,0.0,0.0,0.2676903206885767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361991889295723,0.0,0.11908524456037793,0.0,0.15653234282589926,0.0,0.28116305320840834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241650788848098,0.0,0.0,0.1638246973555152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605588477071855,0.0,0.0,0.1503352551804956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872753029494692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070546403020994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465674773684282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984303580641802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597663025076212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095537954946742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744649154072005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004934631715447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4833482417875208,0.13381352220044734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557818708455802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078324914530216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170289543176773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025734126581533,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tstrong1985,2020/03/21,"Sleep Training. What exactly do people mean by this term? People use the term Sleep Training all the time, I’m a new dad of a 4month old(F), and I’ve read posts and books that refer to sleep training vs cry it out, and other methods, but no one really describes the basics. Just “at 4 months you can start sleep training” Am I just a dummy? Or am I over complicating things? Is sleep training just scheduled naps and a regimented bedtime and ritual?",4.045764119601326,5.9256662674418585,4.706079734219268,83.20453488372095,72.37209302325581,7.239867109634551,26.239202657807308,7.957251820313856,1.6044039867109636,353,12,66,5,7,113,61,86,0.07200000000000001,0.9279999999999999,0.0,-0.7013,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,7,0,5,5,5,1,2,17,9,7,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,6,9,3,11,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,7,40,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809800985558444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947092468514328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150911534705545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591253335399508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288692530678926,0.0,0.11164500776412634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284463838451695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577936425263425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648036530943557,0.0,0.1055488771857988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8243902698933602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661731559814127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945860309159117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607233689641374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229893416103406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cio_sunshine,2020/03/21,"How to help my child who is gaining a lot of weight My son will be 8 in a few weeks and since this last summer, he has really started putting on weight. Now his stomach and chest area have extremely noticeable cellulite and his chest area is getting bigger. I eat pretty healthy and I try my best to get him to eat healthy as well. 

The thing is, he's not with me the majority of the time, so I have little control. I've talked to his dad about getting him into sports, but he said no. His reasoning was that our son didn't want to and it's not that he doesn't want to. He thinks he'll be bad and is afraid of failing, so all the more I want him to try. His dad is also in denial of the weight gain and says he doesn't see it. 

Anyways, what are some things you know that might help him or the family be more active? I've looked at the parks and rec stuff and I can get him into sports specifically for the weekend. I only have him weekends except breaks from school I get him 50/50. We do a lot of hiking when it's warm out. We're in the PNW. I just have a 2 year old, so it's been hard to be as active. Any advice, especially trying to talk with the other parent about this would be helpful. His dad is bipolar and doesn't receive any treatment. It makes it hard to communicate with him when it comes to our child. He assumes I am attacking his parenting.",2.2339679633867284,3.6184769368421072,3.4854157131960366,92.14414187643023,76.12280701754386,6.500381388253242,22.215865751334853,7.079830092131019,0.452755911517925,1057,28,241,11,23,344,152,285,0.081,0.7979999999999999,0.121,0.8977,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,1,0,5,13,7,1,1,14,0,29,9,3,4,1,40,46,21,0,4,6,7,6,0,0,4,1,2,0,2,18,18,5,1,4,4,0,3,7,4,1,0,4,10,32,3,34,33,9,28,0,1,2,0,45,12,0,6,12,161,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092263113265459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893873068310188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520231620074551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716145033518678,0.0,0.0,0.09332837465576226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173021209711892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628521286576924,0.0,0.0,0.12536640072726726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287497105820772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537255931444067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919919944537494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002588611729149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22476349118497585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061429221393105776,0.09111244010280807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202901689100443,0.0,0.0,0.09386377251670336,0.0,0.0,0.19005608623252926,0.0,0.0,0.07461141474287812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857677832856613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725783076051445,0.1172902142446742,0.0,0.0,0.08501076091639784,0.0,0.0,0.24822826260467096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371647799006998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236585332205737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160663188635577,0.11492444714052305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632466762241044,0.08888884112851111,0.0,0.1131233806976334,0.08907108004400151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246234502849242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911569892791448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795689236623475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796827904428443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485181483186609,0.07162161159464177,0.0,0.0,0.06517754282211402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276659042859138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778531949538294,0.0,0.08966004523433098,0.4083395316338065,0.10050013772011726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940253446664762,0.0,0.0,0.07198014371253245
parenting,theinternetdelivers,2020/03/21,"How are you dealing with the stressors of the covid-19 situation? Tips and tricks, please Hi everybody, I was hoping we could share things we are doing to keep from losing our minds and offer advice.  Right now I'm having trouble with a rebellious teen who chafes at all the restrictions in place.  She keeps telling me that I don't know anything.  I asked her to do some research and get back to me with a detailed plan about best practice, but she said, ""No, because that's not fair and I'll just get depressed.""",5.082857142857144,6.445201571428576,4.5597959183673495,87.30663265306124,69.0,7.2326530612244895,29.306122448979593,7.447530270364453,1.604779591836735,406,15,79,4,7,122,77,98,0.11199999999999999,0.8079999999999999,0.079,-0.3056,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,0,3,5,7,1,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,1,22,17,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,9,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,1,12,3,11,14,3,6,0,2,0,0,15,4,0,2,2,54,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121139024472983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862641811585672,0.0,0.20292694853089727,0.0,0.0,0.16690997719570078,0.0,0.1323211191044741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22779685903845898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330914556233326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22378500769884554,0.18695820419285095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268155380320057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21559502757744406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38587559459357096,0.0,0.0,0.11929352658477972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24284078053329225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917428491922564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267872560905597,0.2382727445178164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537275802599013,0.20647900585396967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439907259695407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972482176648486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442086784837781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HarlequinnAsh,2020/03/21,"Recommended reading for teenager who got poor sex ed Recently I have taken in my cousins teenage daughter. (Really long story but essentially acs came to their house and felt it was not a good home for her and gave them the option of placing her with family or foster care. Ive helped take care of her on and off since she was born so shes very good with listening to me and not giving any lip like she does to her mother). The biggest issue though is that she was in a jewish school until 7th grade. For those that dont know, they often have different curriculum and especially when it comes to the girls, they leave them grossly uninformed about their own reproductive systems. The other day we were watching a movie and someone mentioned ovulation. She asked me what it was. I tried to explain it but didnt feel like I gave her the best explanation. I also brought up her sex ed class to which she explained they did it once and she didn’t remember much. I told her ‘as someone who does get her period and does ovulate you should know about it.’ This also makes me worried that she may be ignorant to more than just ovulation, but all aspects of sexual education. Can anyone recommend a book or books for someone her age? I have no problems reading the book with her and helping to answer any questions where she needs clarification.",6.311751968503938,7.058583354330711,6.396525590551182,77.47778051181105,65.85039370078741,9.65708661417323,32.01673228346456,9.673873057562805,2.9365047244094487,1068,41,197,21,16,340,157,254,0.095,0.802,0.10300000000000001,0.7251,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,7,1,10,9,0,0,10,0,19,3,1,1,1,42,42,21,0,3,8,3,2,2,0,2,0,1,1,1,15,15,0,1,10,5,1,3,6,2,0,0,16,4,39,7,28,23,5,20,1,0,1,2,46,8,0,6,10,139,54,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19875187842623485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901107150703684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689008215081817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617247764225945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041010918070842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212786264462904,0.2533961206994725,0.0,0.0,0.1070446554448641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014166384958854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983212741563724,0.0,0.0,0.32623956500089485,0.0,0.14563950639302525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171474722799087,0.0,0.06283291669368453,0.08877606965613752,0.11931540450217855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492415919053816,0.11920782692950012,0.0,0.20845782320702846,0.09938733607752884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658653843362947,0.0,0.12464951192222302,0.0,0.0,0.1433869490899274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297020241577832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658732514697544,0.0,0.0,0.13158036565273276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142074818307765,0.0,0.0,0.10997201295106528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294890716541843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135023467261214,0.09214209457120777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323398521886237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983212741563724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189063345915768,0.0,0.0,0.13920700945967726,0.0,0.2486004168113701,0.0,0.07960835324244507,0.0,0.1226982562210537,0.0,0.14076981093611113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257644133416188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279459919767027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31587201018619704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934330030717121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209128401657048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874204261694166,0.0,0.08436885081825851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253294283511476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261987441392443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Acdenver,2020/03/21,5 year olds Birthday in Quarantine We had been planning to take my 5 year old to Disneyland for her 5th bday which isn’t happening due to the coronavirus. She is already bummed about missing school and misses her friends and grandparents who she’s used to seeing daily. Her birthday is next week and I was wondering if anyone can share some ideas on how we can make it special at home? We have presents and I’ll bake her a cake. Any ideas are welcome! Thank you so much and everyone stay safe!,4.806830357142856,6.234927093750002,4.6314880952380975,86.28375000000004,69.72916666666666,8.402380952380952,30.380952380952376,8.841846274778883,2.333757738095238,395,16,78,7,7,121,75,96,0.04,0.7929999999999999,0.166,0.9167,1,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,1,0,1,3,8,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,3,0,17,19,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,12,6,9,16,2,12,0,2,1,0,14,3,0,3,8,46,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845091221479893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346178195042094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841641605352178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18915677793218486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294139533984516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505307408780188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856741156196944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469396158138456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213810093382908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455214654658037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052993951374704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41544598026517293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003434561335224,0.15774641729686392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109962481632563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488393278746866,0.0,0.0,0.18225257649688312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17097163388242229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878948479577762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21467635481575564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549561492137774
parenting,LaughterAndBeez,2020/03/21,"I like my child a little less after the way he behaved yesterday. I know that’s terrible to say. I obviously still love him, but I am angry and hurt and having trouble putting all of this in perspective. 

We are about a mile away from a huge covid cluster and I’m a healthcare worker who is still working while my husband works from home. It’s been stressful for all of us. My 8-yr old son struggles with anxiety anyway, and we have tried to maintain a sense of normalcy by finding ways to continue getting him the special treats he looks forward to every wk. One of those things is Subway for dinner on Friday evenings. Even though it’s right down the block from our place, I put in a takeout order yesterday afternoon to limit my time inside the store. I get there and realize after a not 6-ft away convo with the cashier there that i placed my order with the wrong Subway. So I had to drive to the busiest part of town, find parking, walk near people, get too close to another cashier, grab my order, walk back through the crowds and drive home. I was not feeling good about having taken this excursion when I walked in the door. 
 
So obviously my son leapt up to hug and thank me the minute I walked in - hahahaha j/k, he walked up and grabbed the bag out of my hands, muttering about how long it had taken. He began to eat his sandwich and everything was going ok until he realized they had forgotten his chips. 

My child began to cry - really wail - and yell angrily at me about how horrible the meal was now. I found in the pantry an almost identical bag of chips to the one he ordered and when I went to hand it to him he practically slapped it out of my hand. Then he went to eat the chips on the couch and fought me when I told him to eat them at the table. There was some more bickering and then he ran into his room to scream and curse at the top of his lungs. 

I recognize that he is struggling emotionally, but I risked the safety of our family and my patients to get him this freaking meal in order to help keep his distress low and it turned him into a monster instead. 

This morning started with more complaints from the moment I opened my eyes...I don’t want to be angry with a child but I can’t let it go. What do I do? Do I bring up his attitude? Do I leave my feelings out of it when I do or is it ok to say he hurt my feelings? This is the first time in a long time when I feel like I am maybe not cut out for this whole “raising a decent human being” thing.",6.79071856287425,5.444125213572856,7.0403704590818394,80.280028742515,65.32734530938124,10.251528942115767,32.814451097804394,9.174902378510234,2.564031313373253,1936,64,406,28,25,629,248,501,0.171,0.742,0.087,-0.9943,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,5,0,2,6,26,25,2,5,33,2,29,13,4,2,4,60,59,34,0,1,7,3,9,2,0,0,0,4,5,4,23,31,7,3,10,0,1,16,5,15,0,3,18,14,60,10,78,38,8,90,0,3,1,2,45,38,0,3,33,282,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728782279623027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187666593838007,0.07432416800245578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182562751080832,0.07470706133204054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067214387791634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982449059848262,0.0,0.10928756127640693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834140559643548,0.0,0.08185822375550457,0.0,0.08731765849611776,0.0,0.0915901458881182,0.0,0.1965002195796428,0.06940835353025268,0.0,0.0,0.17759787218767978,0.08264094840861817,0.0,0.1065266738918886,0.0,0.0,0.20304025673611176,0.0,0.11043212708478783,0.0814899462509605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651217011395537,0.0,0.19491102555863074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080152777439506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635682598542123,0.0,0.0,0.053394464230470826,0.0,0.0,0.102874305792534,0.0,0.09934871807628344,0.0,0.09493114809477486,0.09737595885975013,0.0,0.1719602226795216,0.08158667374453563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768719404167266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760638400791408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194900744378273,0.0,0.13167100643855478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521061318101074,0.0,0.06735582244235166,0.0,0.20301493936719595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19533747620002476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224070008072115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297079800627917,0.0,0.15452489679958584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876760376698066,0.0,0.15517801031542228,0.0,0.11129201039384322,0.2031373487812708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944830452358535,0.0,0.0,0.1290924217845693,0.0,0.09545539734759764,0.0,0.16995754951417585,0.0,0.0,0.0928368388551568,0.0,0.06596262987556116,0.1056779625070116,0.0,0.0,0.1168668531923692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057305198446883865,0.15423601604277845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801293983743121,0.0,0.10847134144418366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414616290225078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622496844163193,0.0,0.0
parenting,AnniesopteraonReddit,2020/03/21,"My teen daughter keeps insisting she has depression despite Counselors saying otherwise My teenaged daughter (14) has, for the last year, insisted she needs therapy. We’ve sent her to a Counselor who has said my daughter is not clinically depressed / anxious. So we went to another who said the same thing. She still insists she is depressed particularly when she doesn’t get her way. My wife overindulged her in the past but we are trying to be stricter and give her chores. She now insists she can’t do them because she is depressed and “has a bad back”. The osteopath disagrees and recommends she does more physical activity.

With the enforced quarantine and cancelled concerts, she has lapsed back into saying she is suffering from depression and I’ve had several
Conversations with her but perhaps I’m not approaching this in the right way. She is behaving selfishly but I still want to acknowledge her feelings without acting as an enabler. All resources I look for have teenagers RESENTING therapy, not begging to go into therapy. It almost feels like she WANTS to be diagnosed with something but I feel she will use the diagnosis to get out of things she finds unpleasant. I have realised that my wife has been picking her up early from school every Tuesday when she has PE. Every Tuesday without fail she says she is too anxious to attend classes. We wondered if she was being bullied during sports classes but when we ask her about it, she says no.

What’s the best course of action? Perhaps we’re sending her to the wrong kind of counselling?",6.451817403220283,8.508117312949643,6.041921891058582,75.32351318944845,66.5179856115108,9.036245289482695,37.698526892771504,9.48565724429506,3.968121754025352,1255,68,200,26,21,388,160,278,0.145,0.769,0.085,-0.9748,0,1,1,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,1,3,11,14,1,0,12,0,26,2,0,2,1,41,46,16,0,4,11,5,3,1,0,1,2,7,1,0,9,15,0,1,6,2,0,8,8,11,0,0,7,11,43,3,29,35,4,31,0,7,1,0,52,7,0,3,15,148,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403087647452816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893777397065003,0.0,0.2347323668788345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712317102408474,0.0,0.0,0.15977006876773592,0.08674385083066362,0.06333040916409084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090261961721312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4474017317964382,0.1054462121444694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909148813599286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750636928481692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758978988400876,0.07421907125550231,0.0,0.0,0.09495362200875283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855652465423138,0.09966080088208194,0.059043108589444726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234224837817816,0.0,0.1081854982610934,0.0,0.08468425537514475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507554299047143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724147518505566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703315441988492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917480649534656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872153359278089,0.19764645300803627,0.33047014496083105,0.0,0.10514227529290876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736618343941728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799796347810046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659334535268506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35642197297608663,0.0,0.1380398635561674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053452326600344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972764543386633,0.0,0.0,0.12255408435776192,0.16492616929537615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630711559327464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20029259845014952,0.11266432571609987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358745887044618,0.0,0.06690178492875037
parenting,Mpf06002,2020/03/21,"5 month old only naps in our arms. The minute you put him in the crib to nap, regardless of if he's sleepy or already asleep, he instantly wakes up and cries.  Good news is that he does great at night, can put him down asleep or awake and he will sleep for at least 8 hours.  Any suggestions or similar experiences?",4.761666666666667,5.186725761904763,4.787420634920637,88.79160714285715,69.15873015873018,9.474603174603176,25.273809523809533,9.516144504307137,1.6226857142857145,245,6,56,5,4,76,51,63,0.04,0.855,0.105,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,5,5,0,0,8,3,6,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,9,2,1,12,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,4,4,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27815586128798714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17141029602149435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768774512350348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22058050166809592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465642728189548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114170205851004,0.0,0.2778984219886134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248229560958924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20119288784800515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23654241144023425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644958844247454,0.0,0.0,0.1917039417056415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5067823593801355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522432892593482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pixel124520,2020/03/21,"“HELL”PPPPPPP! Need parenting advice! Hello. They say desperate times call for desperate measures - so here we go! My husband and I are in desperate need of advice/help/words of assurance/legal advice/anything!

Back story (and I’ll try to leave out the fluff) - My husband has a 6 year old daughter (DD) with his ex-wife. Ex-wife had countless affairs on him, and is now currently married to the man she last had an affair with. I came into the picture when DD was 2.5 years old. Fast forward a year. Mother accuses my husband of molesting DD. After numerous CPS and forensic investigations, supervised visitations, Guardian ad litem involvement, there is no substantiating evidence (BECAUSE HE DIDN’T DO IT) and we leave with more visitation than we previously had, joint legal custody still remains. During that long 7 months, 2 months there was absolutely no contact with DD due to mother’s refusal (no one else’s) and 5 months of supervised visitations. During this time, mother convinced DD she couldn’t potty, nap, take off coat, anything while she was with us. Along with other clauses in the new court agreement stating mother needed to attend counseling for her past sexual abuse, and DD too as she was diagnosed with adjustment disorder, there were also clauses stating mother had to include father in any and all medical/schooling as she had excluded him on countless occasions in the past and that parents shall refrain from making disparaging remarks about one another to the child. 
So, then it’s time. We finally get her back. Just how it should be, safe in our arms and our home. Except DD had/was being brainwashed. Mother made various attempts to keep father away. Another CPS investigation, trying to move, etc. We have come a long way with DD, and just when you think you’ve made progress, you realize you are constantly living in a nightmare. 

Current Situation - Remember I mentioned brainwashing? Every time we see DD it is something new that her mom has pushed on her - which DD says is what happens, “my mom said so”. As I’ve explained it to other people, if DD’s mom has touched any subject matter and has shared and/or pushed her opinion on DD, then that is the ultimate truth. The unfortunate thing is while she may not entirely understand all of what she is saying, DD believes it to a certain degree. For example -
DD believes her last name is stepdads (they got married when DD was 4.5 years old). How else would she know at that age to change her last name. Besides, she said that’s what her mom said. 
In recent weeks DD has now started calling stepdad “Dad” because he likes it and wants her to. (*Note: we have no issue with her saying dad if that’s how she truly feels, but this is being forced on her). My husband shared pregnancy and hospital photos of DD, explaining mom and dad, special people like step moms and step dads, and DD told my husband he was lying. She now refers to her stepdad as her “real” dad and her “first” dad, because they told her so. 
She often says that she doesn’t have to listen to us, only her parents, because we’re not her parents according to her mom. And I believe this has negatively translated into other parts of DD’s life. DD is has not been doing well in Kindergarten. Telling the teacher no and not participating. Fighting with kids. Hardly knows her sight words. Quick gives up on things (and would you believe now mom wants to homeschool her...). Even recently mentioning “my mom says I’m the boss of you”. 
DD will even say things like, “why is our house so ugly? My mom thinks so” (when we just purchased our new home last year). 
She hasn’t started saying things like we’re not allowing her to call her mom when she has wanted to, which has NEVER happened, so now all the sudden we’re awkwardly calling mom before bed. And then being sarcastically told that her mom is going to get her a phone because we don’t let her call. And that we need to stop putting her in the corner (okay - totally out of left field - I mean, who hasn’t been in the corner? But I can’t remember the last time it’s happened). Stating things like “I will just tell my mom you made me stay in my room”. This has become increasingly alarming with the statement. 
I am so overwhelmed right now I can’t even think straight. This only is a minuscule fraction of the things DD has said to vividly paint the picture of the awful brainwashing her mother has done, but I think I’m so mentally exhausted I just can’t get it out. Nor is there enough space or time for this. Am I making sense? Have I lost it? 

We try our best to love DD through all of this, and remember it is not her fault. We are supportive, and are there for her, yet we don’t waiver on our ideology of being parents. We are just that - parents. We have rules and boundaries that must be met, and we try not to give in despite the constant manipulation and spoon feeding her mother does to her. But it puts us in the difficult position of being the harsher parents. My husband and I pray and hope that we can help shape her into a well-rounded individual, who is a self-sufficient and contributing member to society, and feels the utmost love from us. On the other hand, we are also praying as she ages she sees through the lies that her mom is projecting on to her - but it is almost unimaginable when a 6 year old can crush your heart into a million pieces in an instant. When DD separates herself from the mind manipulation, she is the fun, innocent, and light-hearted girl we love. She gives us random hugs, kisses, tells us she loves us, snuggles and but most importantly, is just FREE to be herself, to have her own opinions, to have control over herself. But the second her mom is on her mind, her tune changes in an instant. She is reserved, she has an attitude, she thinks that she runs the house, and we hear some of the most hurtful things. Just like during Christmas break, we had her for the first time on Christmas Eve into Christmas Day, where she had a day visit with mom and came back after for a few more days. After adjusting and getting her to her usual self, having Christmas and quality family time, when she caught wind of going to her mom’s said why can’t she stay home and she doesn’t like it here. WHATTTTTT?!....

Who can relate? How do you handle your situations? We have consulted our attorney and we are in the mix of getting a parenting coordinator, but aside from that he doesn’t think we have any legal ground to file anything. We’ve even suggested appointing a Guardian ad litem again. I just don’t understand how she can continue to get away with this! It is mentally and emotionally damaging this poor child. It is this woman’s objective to set us up for failure. For example, she sent the child to us with no underwear on. Coming from a woman who dresses overly provocative, has near naked pictures of herself on the internet and has even promoted them occasion, etc. DD has even pulled her underwear up her butt like a thong and said, “I like it. My momma does it like this.” The stepdad acts like he has more legal authority than my husband. I mean the list just goes on... and on... and on...

I don’t know where this road will lead us or what lies ahead, but thank you for being a sounding board. Thank you for any and all advice. 

And my heart goes out to all split-family homes. It is HARD. But regardless of your resentment or hatred for the other parent, just put that aside. Choose love. Do it for your kids. Don’t use your child as a chess piece. Don’t be materialistic to buy your child over. Build them up for success, not failure. And ultimately, don’t be a fucking horrible human being. ✌🏼",4.387607460120357,6.282395776315791,4.970921769032383,81.59529085872579,71.5,7.998700926545037,28.79176616677811,8.66679701136268,2.2708254083484576,6007,236,1111,109,116,1922,528,1444,0.085,0.8029999999999999,0.11199999999999999,0.9932,11,0,1,0,3,0,219.0,41,15,5,11,69,49,4,3,60,2,126,17,5,18,11,224,209,99,0,16,35,52,6,11,0,9,3,17,6,13,71,100,1,6,26,2,4,28,35,13,1,6,37,27,175,37,160,149,24,189,2,4,4,9,276,66,2,15,100,772,246,11,0.0,0.032624273070739285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05381343778027328,0.0,0.0,0.027572156579133342,0.0,0.0,0.04403918997242716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489851914334804,0.057745343749678775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797646118159831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517397616026524,0.06351775792932292,0.0,0.08392488926691097,0.030410058343638517,0.023430113765825725,0.12408930521366335,0.0288961071362438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058070887405394,0.06298502427190797,0.0,0.0,0.05825640196334155,0.0474376388690988,0.0,0.059510742343339765,0.030882655119169926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327306569766575,0.0,0.0,0.027947274602033088,0.0,0.0,0.03155730266823167,0.0,0.04819183360130681,0.028177692748911094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460036374355245,0.030972979608928832,0.0,0.028450841701300782,0.06141723176543664,0.10911898002186854,0.0,0.023199283299861862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05191477763506315,0.0,0.027844876503361992,0.0,0.0,0.030163062267989763,0.0,0.04684222760628563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025455508243778624,0.08631487872312264,0.07924175878866324,0.04694603823737495,0.0,0.02202212028902268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730468822902965,0.0,0.04933160167543778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031033756530033686,0.09788672452436856,0.03691203459820617,0.0,0.11047872511153094,0.02734830076769176,0.0,0.06354299783769525,0.029476606855623637,0.0,0.0,0.028739210551979283,0.0,0.024474223590490986,0.0,0.0,0.045397270261819084,0.11222281442387493,0.0,0.05831082217190496,0.02991667524019445,0.02815623098558645,0.01944866595243259,0.1479734073958635,0.0,0.024313760878864284,0.04873491922039522,0.0,0.0,0.03005752148134488,0.0,0.12425630333848575,0.07816237064118059,0.0367594279821498,0.0,0.0,0.059987007732423214,0.0,0.0,0.055497268244080716,0.0,0.05560466149769271,0.5804723184263393,0.06593411996718539,0.029265168538000562,0.0,0.08166691534006931,0.021236559698508833,0.07977993619494315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155726961724598,0.0,0.03731662917423805,0.041882960595012265,0.0,0.0,0.2751675489741131,0.029817539513546012,0.05257022503438153,0.03817837072552487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304033317983515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031340666650271944,0.0,0.0,0.05437464901253754,0.0,0.09357479026542492,0.023514595849434692,0.15715158232802767,0.17517442686969836,0.0,0.027866719725006255,0.043883391883844484,0.0,0.0574496692355694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190060905690919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02119765869572099,0.0,0.0,0.03897859123862436,0.058696933995933974,0.021989352187563704,0.023020352254213044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03124620074439208,0.0,0.0,0.02070276670867612,0.0,0.07219996973588905,0.0507007472708673,0.0,0.0,0.1280504309288085,0.10585925018785593,0.0,0.0,0.1284462544869077,0.0,0.0,0.07893213509117622,0.0,0.07477737324268148,0.0,0.0,0.05732946179731423,0.3312101229646852,0.023781253924023932,0.03032572705858465,0.0,0.048722271471276495,0.02185586778614801,0.02208678113815206,0.0,0.049514241050782656,0.0,0.04969180573397068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039119908895783366,0.0,0.0,0.10638917321420416
parenting,dandan14,2020/03/21,"Parenting advice please. Kid accidentally broke ipad. Parenting advice please.  My almost 8 year old accidentally dropped the ipad onto tile floor and completely shattered the screen.  Based on some google searches, it is about $149 to fix.  He has a lot of money saved (because of chores, allowances, and interest I pay on their savings).  We do that, because we want the kids to make their own purchase decisions (and early mistakes) and understand the value of a dollar.  He is pretty upset about it, and I've told him about some things that I've done accidentally that have cost me money (like backing the van into the trash can).  Should we ask him to pay for a portion of the repairs?  If so, about how much?",5.3229999999999995,7.206610684615384,5.546153846153847,78.45384615384617,69.07692307692308,7.969230769230768,29.153846153846153,8.548686976883017,2.2682923076923083,559,21,98,9,10,177,87,130,0.133,0.738,0.128,-0.1909,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,2,0,7,7,0,1,10,0,8,0,0,3,0,24,13,8,0,4,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,9,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,10,4,16,10,6,10,0,1,1,0,15,5,0,5,5,64,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.376424222900925,0.0,0.0,0.1928668385093867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006037799756658,0.0,0.0,0.14810193423298412,0.0,0.2348213570992023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019434662058804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19710255530335355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409744140052366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16374652246972796,0.0,0.0,0.1285658348846059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415873890196997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021073366605773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.427731787873262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228465539446401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594929252197008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795870310130378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18404304971138974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20050938015237765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113603862610355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403178928327435
parenting,ManicLittlefoot,2020/03/21,"Looking for advice on infant reflux My little man is 4 months old and he’s had pretty consistent reflux since he was about 2 months old.

He’s breastfed and a great eater - putting on lots of weight but not too much, he sleeps great and is generally a very happy baby. Because of this, his doctor isn’t worried and doesn’t think medication or anything is necessary. But I’m a first time mother, so I’m a little worried (about EVERYTHING), and I don’t have any friends or family to ask.

Is there anything I could be doing to help out his little tummy?",5.152503276539972,5.764555862385322,6.071847968545217,79.26486238532111,68.35779816513761,8.43040629095675,28.415465268676282,8.418075326091056,1.9995520314547843,435,14,82,6,7,144,73,109,0.049,0.747,0.204,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,0,13,4,1,0,0,15,18,10,0,1,5,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,6,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,2,5,4,10,14,2,13,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,3,6,49,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366396541052207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997705691508263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24196603105709116,0.0,0.13744167533690546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896206069417345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173816463990633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047881471292912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321300018626546,0.0,0.1385951748504104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505315482833007,0.0,0.0,0.11358548699480105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32417499994613264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650304328513912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854284506782823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4420509842034511,0.0,0.0,0.1234578152861552,0.0,0.0,0.12498916546279715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810483528073098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346962028088152,0.0,0.10807490337329344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085406268433484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495698239935101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477933647024162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161453569768885,0.0,0.14712384420342622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420298649486446,0.0,0.0,0.08572718554547859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130497452139255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902791502621704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298607160179938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,worried--papa,2020/03/21,"About my son and electronics/physical activity Hi everyone I would appreciate some advice and please forgive me if my English's not perfect.

I'm concerned about my 13 year old boy and the overuse of electronics. I don't want to sound like that typical old-fashioned parent, computers = bad, but he used to be much more active physically and in extracurricular activities.

He just quit his piano lessons which he used to enjoy, because his best friend also did, who is much worse than my son in terms of staying at home on his phone (manipulates his parents by faking headache so they let him skip classes, for example). My boy doesn't do anything like that, he's a good student and a well-behaved kid but I'm afraid that he's slowly limiting all of his free time attention and interest to YouTube videos and online games.

We recently took him to the doctor because of hip pain while doing exercise in PE classes, and she referred him to a children's physical therapy center so he could learn exercises for his posture because apparently one side of his body (shoulders and hip) is slightly lower than the other. I've actually noticed this with his pants leg pulling up, but when the doctor decided it was such a big problem to be sent to physical therapy and probably caused by too little activity, I became really concerned.

He used to play soccer and run around with his friends and neighbors years ago, but hasn't really played any other sports in his life. We haven't pushed him because he doesn't seem to like them, now I wonder if that's a wrong approach. He has a bike at his grandpa's house and knows how to ride it, but he's too scared of falling down.

The only times he has physical activity is when we go to the summer house to clean together and in the summer when swimming. Otherwise he's all about school and then homework and sitting on the couch on his phone or laptop.

He doesn't like sports so I don't want to force him to do it, but I'm afraid for his health getting worse from just sitting in front of the screen. Since quitting piano he doesn't even leave the house for that. He used to take a walk with his friends around the school or to the store before-after piano classes, now all of his free time is just being at home.

Any opinions? I would really like to hear it.",8.596698841698839,7.087290265765767,8.362471042471043,72.76554054054054,61.88288288288288,11.610296010296011,38.03474903474904,10.504223727775694,3.842788416988416,1834,75,344,35,21,591,223,444,0.086,0.767,0.147,0.9852,4,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,0,2,6,23,26,0,3,19,0,26,12,5,7,4,67,44,36,0,8,14,5,0,5,4,2,7,2,6,4,14,24,0,1,9,11,3,12,9,8,0,1,4,3,38,20,57,33,9,53,0,0,1,0,62,20,0,8,23,209,52,12,0.0,0.0,0.08562897613049887,0.0,0.0,0.0857459154090126,0.07778293146072486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017170457452976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934272091942195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220877821236961,0.156227891855514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326556047992007,0.21396043078085625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208566708824538,0.0,0.0,0.0974677753132674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014093141265572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005929910081364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962672379748024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795644617413601,0.0,0.0,0.08384656890862774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033806779253996,0.0,0.04584448664880465,0.0,0.049868969406570166,0.07359850333068503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327156969360444,0.09889789509874528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603594582804186,0.0,0.0,0.30374676338314505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04822377280019536,0.0,0.0,0.09291201290275099,0.0,0.08972784122005054,0.06197870771180305,0.2143451658969738,0.08794612295358456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900912899074005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990119650661082,0.1841526399048972,0.0,0.0594600282105868,0.06673598536712351,0.09336960719500266,0.0,0.19486659714977828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632048800183762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460672772202412,0.08396257936346571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666069561131987,0.0,0.0,0.16864003167045155,0.0,0.08664014504445802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785063095098405,0.17761046242936496,0.0,0.07988209733693684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258570136667424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352724049584388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597525659605426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069400015015934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349895109111947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749078524022667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031429280717102,0.0,0.0,0.10351158720291434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889560860276837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515850277152356,0.0,0.0,0.17884455222023873,0.12466672033414496,0.09593819916847976,0.0,0.11301312365024195
parenting,dude4thought0,2020/03/21,"Corona and sleep overs I have worried about a stay at home order for almost a week now. My wife wouldn’t take this as seriously as I hoped. Everyday we have a different child spend the night or our child stays at a friends house. It caused a big fight when I questioned why she would let her kid leave during a national emergency. Her answer was well they would already be exposed if we had it. 

I’ve tried to explain the benefit of limiting our exposure to others so we don’t infect if we are sick. She took it as an attack on her parenting. 

Last night our state enacted a stay home stay healthy order. Our child is at another families home already. This child is 15 yr old girl and mom has no authority or will power to curtail her social activities. I’m a stepdad and have tried to let her take the lead in setting child boundaries but she is so indecisive and afraid of her children’s anger there are none set. 

Do I let this activity continue? Maybe we all suffer the consequences of a dead grandma or two because she could see reason in a time of tragedy? Or do I become prison guard and keep people home under threat? 

I know we need to adhere to temporary stay home order but how can I work with the ignorance my partner has continually displayed in crisis.",3.366875230033127,5.51178687449393,4.553818549871185,82.41097810084653,74.99190283400809,7.891718807508282,27.01674641148325,8.710501217029153,2.153374089068826,1006,39,192,21,22,330,151,247,0.221,0.741,0.039,-0.9943,3,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,10,0,1,4,8,13,4,2,16,0,25,3,1,4,1,42,35,20,1,8,8,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,5,9,7,12,0,5,5,0,1,2,4,9,1,1,3,1,30,4,25,23,2,35,0,1,1,0,38,11,0,10,11,127,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959007130393022,0.0,0.21137111893879956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042412940025224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895321419654357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058381046106000485,0.10577142452936784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838308613670887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646526333923677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006019706969532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028427243604216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399235264638633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4803300606655838,0.09512210394234503,0.0,0.11050674951377623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512556813157234,0.0,0.0,0.052633176947321725,0.07806605835592692,0.0,0.10140754511066627,0.0,0.2937966734956691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621473227078536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216570979030553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101290200455503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974898659726174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049543947535776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634224048999738,0.0,0.0,0.06639547698687374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728531587121323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984684263408088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631700045234717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584005537160027,0.09762636243717926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5103951342430557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401558206374973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584477658271236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640498352425476,0.1300442965460012,0.0,0.09355424423700742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682163177235123,0.0,0.0861095324325044,0.0,0.0864183327194797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697223491133847,0.09725998841639533,0.0,0.13606578601752914,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Loptastic,2020/03/21,"Welp. CDC: Keep at least 6ft away from people and avoid all bodily fluids.

My Toddler: *grows extra arms specifically to cling to me and then sneezes in my mouth*",0.4491397849462331,2.561047516129033,1.6508064516129046,92.4295430107527,106.09677419354836,4.6473118279569885,14.844086021505374,6.42735559955562,-0.14468172043010696,127,3,25,2,6,40,28,31,0.071,0.929,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6402503576101674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.605709416536614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4724357970125968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhydian9653,2020/03/21,"Teen vs. Teen Hello everyone! I’m writing this to get some advise. My wife and I have 3 teens (16 yo boy, 15 yo girl, and 14 yo boy). Since the coronavirus has hit there has been a lot more togetherness time; this has its ups and downs as I’m sure everyone is finding out. First, let me say that where we live there is no curfew or mandatory quarantine at the time I am writing this.

Yesterday our daughter (the 15 year old) went to my wife and told her that she and her 14 year old brother were playing basketball earlier in the day down the street at a friends and they got into an argument. During the argument, the 14 year old grabbed her iPhone and threw it on the ground causing it to crack (the phone already has a few cracks - no surprise, right?) and the screen now has a line through the display. It is still usable, but not all functions are available (some apps don’t work). He also threw the basketball at her head on purpose a few times and told her to go kill herself. All of this has been confirmed by our 16 year old who was walking back from a friend’s and saw it happen. We aren’t sure what the argument was about as our daughter didn’t want to go into a lot of detail. We are also not sure if our 14 year old was just trying to look impressive in front of the neighbor’s kid or not.

Here is where I would like some advise: my daughter then asked my wife and I not to say anything to her brother or give him any consequences because it makes things worse between the two of them. She has decided that she will not be going with him to play basketball or anything else with him and wanted to tell us why. While I can understand that, my wife and I are not sure if we should address it with our 14 year old or just let it be. We’d like to respect my daughter’s wishes and not make it any worse, however we feel that what he said and did can’t be overlooked. Thoughts?",6.237265624999999,5.212932778645836,6.248520833333334,84.46106250000003,66.265625,9.659166666666668,32.48125,8.697196308434329,2.2817243750000005,1473,51,321,19,20,467,191,384,0.065,0.838,0.09699999999999999,0.8721,2,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,12,0,2,2,13,14,1,0,23,0,37,1,1,3,6,70,64,29,1,7,18,10,2,2,3,3,0,3,2,4,22,26,0,0,5,2,0,8,13,1,0,2,17,8,40,13,38,37,10,49,0,0,3,0,61,18,0,12,25,217,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947567504975383,0.1373361696386252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167854783113958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413230172204109,0.0,0.08027437638904222,0.0,0.0,0.06602668807417708,0.0,0.05234393655505324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820941662264818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537733393374537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173114853832081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409985593298013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04341710968601554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848119776426236,0.07303871984039338,0.0,0.0,0.13268179557623566,0.0,0.0448621437484734,0.08237178169623123,0.146401173029436,0.0,0.06867595997358307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593220965291632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812466875844767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499949500031868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561035602343522,0.0,0.08390089493573721,0.0,0.07582243884829204,0.0,0.07210694360467049,0.0,0.0,0.14600269224481294,0.0,0.0,0.11463423919323093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5406200051728421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333024350773933,0.0816795085736636,0.13657031850488374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103035516006606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857377268213828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237158260729049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505184433652423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704644858152293,0.0,0.0,0.06816908049998538,0.15020981828944185,0.0,0.0,0.16409985593298013,0.0,0.05829829081334995,0.0,0.08387991910776248,0.08939093447922808,0.103287843536603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012935697219954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959988913624312,0.07748192310307023,0.0,0.09874320913320683,0.0,0.0,0.06251244987686468,0.0,0.17501232093183244,0.060997698274226075,0.0,0.0,0.3317745296724801
parenting,twistedorb1,2020/03/21,"Any other dads out there right now struggling to keep it together? What a juggling act; working from home, keeping my boy entertained. My boy complaining he wants to play with friends but he's only 4 so doesn't fully grasp the situation as much as I have tried to explain it to a 4 year old. It's exhausting. And there is no end in sight it seems. I love him so much don't get me wrong at all but holy shit. These are some trying times, boys. Anyone else out there feeling the same way?",1.1963636363636354,3.540237929292928,2.3422222222222224,94.30000000000004,83.84848484848484,5.6202020202020195,21.12121212121212,6.980632752743323,0.43767878787878794,381,12,83,5,11,121,77,99,0.131,0.715,0.154,0.38,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,6,9,1,1,4,0,5,3,1,0,1,16,13,7,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,7,4,0,2,4,2,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,2,6,4,12,13,5,12,0,0,1,1,11,5,1,2,5,49,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968410790878474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436256631371362,0.21046420372302216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17159156493980227,0.0,0.18193003017769613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386017717542118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869728427522942,0.0,0.10731691335239732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060404175757943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651511541855619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853882408613279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019962165489422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554056272548933,0.0,0.0,0.15622161971176066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541683769621574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699522548889405,0.0,0.0,0.21084779290426284,0.0,0.23088657703835855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147364626920125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977473438352962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27891634688197603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115463436118465,0.1630428707642383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953906805021672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245807982586982,0.0,0.1322756615355514
parenting,throwraltr9,2020/03/21,"My daughter saw me attempted suicide Sorry for my English. I don't know if here is the right place.

I  attempted suicide by hanging myself after something traumatic happen to  me March 10th. My husband was not in my country that time. I stayed at home with my 4 year old daughter. She heard me crying in my room, she opened my  door and saw I stand on the chair. She asked me what happened,  I didn't  know how to say and just tolded her everything was fine. But she asked  me several times from that day what happened to me.  I told her I was feeling very sad that day, and she asked me why I feel sad? I don't know how to answer can make her feel comfortable, I really need advice.",3.6067883211678833,4.743490737226281,4.4814671532846715,87.33387956204382,72.28467153284672,7.523795620437956,26.838686131386858,7.908726449838941,1.4828662773722634,529,18,110,7,10,171,82,137,0.166,0.7879999999999999,0.046,-0.96,0,0,1,0,0,3,14.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,3,0,20,27,7,2,2,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,5,5,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,9,7,33,2,13,18,0,19,0,2,2,0,18,8,0,1,8,71,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332021914697182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113384516345015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611056032543002,0.1891747430965859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131813853033591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22247605619679148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890885105907904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711785519737766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418112274917061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979006265243715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875090578106986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539011892389754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532346483074826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093957930554365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525187645710525,0.0,0.11663460969740178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656907191873877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291057456980096,0.0,0.16418046632130653,0.0,0.1563263339149911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208573775395001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710441304348298,0.0,0.0,0.2802911036259839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101472684778397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234316151071332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444803038591186
parenting,plasticpaperplates,2020/03/21,"Our toddler fell at the park and gashed his forehead on accident. I feel like my husband is overreacting over the situation. So our lil troublemaker has a good gash on his head he got at the park. He cried for like 2 minutes and was over it. Total trooper. He even stayed quiet when we were at the docs office. 

The entire time tho my husband was freakin out, cursing, huffin and puffin  

Like yea, it sucks, but he’s a kid, accidents happen. No need to flip out. 

We had an argument over it. Am I wrong for thinking he’s overreacting?",1.6980448717948704,4.248146048076928,3.334230769230772,86.5941025641026,83.71153846153845,6.1589743589743575,24.051282051282055,7.492282038375204,1.2935858974358978,415,16,82,7,12,137,72,104,0.185,0.752,0.064,-0.9285,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,8,1,7,2,2,0,1,12,13,7,0,1,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,2,10,4,13,8,1,14,0,0,0,0,14,10,1,0,5,51,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090771049348257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18584546150607786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422715990373983,0.20101427803849886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360039084617265,0.2250412040674625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24881888646869035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887718143739938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123966762009327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20863591606306156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162771661369017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29990819521809925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029366845169087,0.0,0.0,0.16407196144334235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30763927185868273,0.0,0.0
parenting,bjbishop92,2020/03/21,"Body positive? Covering up? When to start worrying about clothing? Chasing opinions and information about wearing clothing around the house with children. 

My wife and I have never really worried all that much about clothing around the house, but now we have a 10mo and I'm in two minds about wether we should worry.

Any parents out there which still go nude around the house?

Obviously, I wear clothing with guests.",5.050000000000002,8.351025111111113,4.145000000000003,81.37500000000003,75.66666666666667,6.933333333333335,29.83333333333333,8.07648339933343,2.5373,336,15,53,6,8,99,53,72,0.08800000000000001,0.861,0.052000000000000005,-0.5658,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,4,0,3,4,4,0,3,19,6,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,11,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,13,5,2,12,0,0,0,1,7,6,0,1,5,39,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285828016124178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4432179286393427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843438025922792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431871633694526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5744856000578511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675719770524985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199946767449014,0.0,0.1279983439741001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18427859567611435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631802701797433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746712273122123,0.0,0.13253562276704556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211850218782586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5056203630353544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashvani_patil,2020/03/21,"COVID-19 and the impact on parents with shared custody With the public being encouraged to observe social distancing and isolation during the coronavirus outbreak, family lawyers are being asked how best to manage shared custody arrangements.

Anecdotal incidents and reports of mother's refusing contact of their children with their father, despite having shared custody court orders, is on a steep increase, but is withholding children ethical or even legal under the current circumstances? Probably not according to many family law lawyers.

[http://www.familylawexpress.com.au/family-law-news/children/childcustody/breaching-parenting-orders/coronavirus-outbreak-and-the-impact-on-parents-with-shared-custody/4188/](http://www.familylawexpress.com.au/family-law-news/children/childcustody/breaching-parenting-orders/coronavirus-outbreak-and-the-impact-on-parents-with-shared-custody/4188/)",18.765238095238093,20.50644251260504,13.860966386554622,31.011729691876784,39.840336134453786,16.336694677871147,58.48879551820728,14.790194502661405,10.008528291316527,765,46,55,25,6,219,68,119,0.04,0.772,0.188,0.8909999999999999,6,1,0,0,0,0,64.0,0,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,13,7,6,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,11,5,2,6,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,1,33,2,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28948941029696906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249680679079677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20452688166957134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5838379856633954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31394567318949657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343839728689152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33386482925143285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156584045872716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ordinary-dude-1995,2020/03/21,"Parenting gone wrong I am a 24 yrs old guy who has a single mom and a younger brother who is 16 yrs old. The thing I would like to share with you guys is that my mom keeps an extremely casual approach towards him. He quit schooling after his 10th grade and my mom was okay with it. He is being home schooled by my mom alone because she thinks he can make it med school. Yet, he takes things extremely casually and does not study on his own. He constantly needs mom to push him to study. And my mom has made a very bad impression of me in front of him claiming my younger brother has better capacity than me to do better in life and shit. So he barely gives respect to me as an older brother. I feel extremely bad on the inside. My mom has brought up her own two sons quite differently. I never got a phone till i was in 11th grade, never got supported to do what i really wanted to do in life and most importantly my mom drilled into my head that giving me birth was a complete mistake. Through this emotional abuse I struggled alot academically with falling grades and barely passing each year. My mom used to diss me in front of my brother and still does, that your younger brother is smarter than you and stuff and you can't even do well in life at the age of 24. Last night I told my mom that I wanna switch off the wifi since it runs all day and we're not power-saving enough and she's like I pay for it and it's unlimited so let it run. She didn't get my intention that I wanted my brother to stop gaming on his phone and go to sleep, if I could turn off the wifi. She never confiscates his phone and things to bring him under army-like discipline. And when I tell her that she's being too casual and kids need to be disciplined, she starts abusing me over how I'm not successful in life and shit. If I tell her that she's favoring my younger brother more she starts pulling on all the plugs of how she has seen me fail in life yet she's tolerating me and stuff. This is not the kind of parenting I was expecting from her. You can't be this bias and casual if you want your younger kid to do better in life. My mom honestly needs some parenting advice. And most importantly she gives a shitty excuse that she's been brought up with the same behaviour and that's the reason she's like this. But this can't be a valid explanation if you know what's right and wrong. She'll even tell me to wash utensils and dishes and stuff but never tells my younger brother to do any chores at all. She's making me feel like I'm in jail and I'm losing my motivation to live day by day to be very honest.",4.290833556687215,4.8600963733583535,5.027191637630665,86.14385365853659,70.25703564727955,8.567976413830072,27.04845885821496,8.676224119757912,1.6599038220316262,2049,63,447,33,35,663,233,533,0.077,0.8290000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.6809999999999999,5,1,0,0,2,0,32.0,0,8,0,9,13,32,2,1,20,1,37,12,4,9,7,82,73,39,0,15,10,23,2,4,0,2,7,0,2,4,30,32,1,4,6,5,1,14,12,10,1,1,14,3,77,22,62,49,14,64,0,2,1,0,84,25,2,8,29,291,107,11,0.0,0.1260796231687284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05199179413162108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05510484708881158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03618156122978375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884873219300794,0.032433576038019635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116781041556722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05578494943969405,0.057496238712128486,0.0,0.04248025854619671,0.0,0.0,0.10293942846850383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05558841827100517,0.0,0.0,0.0931209747890505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059849020835484976,0.0,0.05497549926637891,0.0,0.07028345557249341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0538045940381792,0.03801001640143263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02779767526587014,0.15311867739763765,0.03023790904295348,0.0,0.08510658985093729,0.0,0.0,0.10536361040694754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05460418786035072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05336944979594187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04729148877808822,0.0,0.0554053357680148,0.02924034871769873,0.04336957983038259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05440622362400378,0.2254836883967033,0.10397406976428206,0.0,0.046981427030955036,0.0,0.0,0.05952333968956178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034432601275435,0.07103016238611984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590993108462617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6854499622721297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183536015779844,0.16414143165014425,0.0,0.0,0.049929753005573986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166043416831503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723521791935834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318118667689765,0.0,0.0,0.03408480262932189,0.05470411042772505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04543720219042552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154040494293265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922935247740627,0.04401213543938432,0.0,0.053243919571755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531824669867339,0.0,0.04248997719460389,0.04448217637109174,0.0,0.0556219357339619,0.18272268810043835,0.0,0.06037696543866813,0.0,0.0,0.040003910884394034,0.0,0.18601579172572005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604210054903768,0.034091932980057894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05084013073446006,0.0,0.0,0.057872300434423964,0.0519740377490182,0.0,0.0,0.04595246500541929,0.0,0.08780021133950773,0.09414593872641072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04783812990738612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037795657249441235,0.1163437133240234,0.0,0.034262594497750425
parenting,endriuftw,2020/03/21,"Daughter (2) gets random fevers. Should we be worried? We're from Europe and like most people we've been in quarantine for more than a week. To top it off, she's also been getting these random fevers (39C/102F). It already happened 2-3 times, she would feel like hell for a day or two, laying on the couch and not doing anything, then the next couple of days she would feel completely normal. Usually the fever goes a bit down during the day and worse the next morning. No other symptoms. Doctors are just saying to keep an eye on her, they're pretty swamped these days so I'm not expecting much help.

What is going on? Has anyone experienced this and should we be worried? I'm not ruling out corona, but frankly it seems too random. Her mother and I have also been sick in the meantime. I actually got well again for 2 days and yesterday it hit me again, sweating during the night and feeling very weak. This has never happened before, it never regresses and I don't know what to think. It feels like an eternity ago that we were well and that it's neverending. We need a break.",3.8950971010413764,5.733978014354067,4.3922656909653846,85.4693892485224,72.6842105263158,6.8315226569096525,25.212777934140163,7.510576382923642,1.2629688150858431,851,27,161,10,17,269,132,209,0.096,0.823,0.081,-0.6438,0,1,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,0,0,1,9,7,1,0,13,0,17,9,2,0,2,41,35,15,0,7,6,2,4,3,0,4,7,1,1,0,16,14,0,1,7,0,0,1,7,2,2,1,5,7,13,5,17,23,4,30,1,0,1,0,13,9,1,6,22,107,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.12019344523490767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091803141320679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591809634957205,0.19699357184804225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612138801703073,0.0,0.1013561322550579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480623740867624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134466710474703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913849283233145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628219260162525,0.0,0.3971633561550196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606687458562602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24910820037785505,0.1759813813551833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869958381723454,0.0,0.0699987727770459,0.0,0.0985080819633142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21783274190917093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255639515885484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947668942859802,0.0,0.0,0.0676894861646776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051985523691694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054208272045887,0.09132693723888033,0.1899883150163614,0.0,0.2619794837493064,0.1155840977789324,0.1206777303456204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538864612710509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530534799304147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794752147774824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212681647488416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801790743079555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789205849786583,0.0,0.0,0.07181979981273719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031648264868845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565129821642286,0.10162586034967633,0.0,0.0,0.09879731915493144,0.0,0.22148425545623315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25016459283380954,0.12551792549805196,0.17498892664863525,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tossNwashedd,2020/03/21,"I'm locked in a box with the people I love. I'm using you guys for a public journal entry because I'm vain and want attention, and I just dont know what to do anymore. I'm using a throwaway account.  About 2 weeks ago I was fired from my sales job. I'm homeless. I'm 23, I've been a step-parent since I was 19 to two amazing boys (5&6). My fiance is pregnant.  In those two weeks, I've used every dollar I've got to stay in a hotel. With the current turn of events we have been sequestered in this one bed, one pull out couch room. I'm absolutely losing my mind. My kids are driving me crazy, my fiance is sometimes driving me crazy. But shes the most wonderful person on this earth and I would endure this psychological torture forever for her and my boys. I have an interview on tuesday, but I still feel hopeless as the water rises above my head. I cant provide for her or my sons in the way they deserve. I'm terrified of what's to come. That's all for now, I'd really appreciate anyone to reach out and let me bounce ideas off of them or just to chat. Thanks, I'm sorry this is so long and pointless.",2.5480591320934667,3.7673501888412018,4.296959942775395,87.310981163567,75.00858369098712,6.7228421554601825,24.96161182641869,7.1686216300943375,0.9849763471626138,866,28,186,9,18,293,140,233,0.102,0.8190000000000001,0.079,-0.6497,3,0,0,0,0,1,30.0,1,1,2,1,6,7,1,0,11,0,16,3,1,3,1,31,37,12,0,2,6,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,8,12,1,0,5,2,3,5,2,4,0,4,5,2,26,3,28,30,2,27,0,2,0,1,17,11,0,4,9,109,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351698134095977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521873105893153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122533345117534,0.10662189462796634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295417054411427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135335691729225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871268756948633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847619789513454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710160304893597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195714185445472,0.0,0.0,0.1509853091658811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649483069162706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213835606009806,0.0,0.0,0.1513190218070948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838024261736727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559274679880677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494548614353474,0.0,0.17059305031220995,0.0,0.0,0.13762474651558068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396759033741522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665718731911456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571472940018692,0.13314506580945362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768656261814776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261381581496736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081274818476978,0.17069581364069245,0.0,0.16252999738022444,0.12177567413266024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038880330070233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586119514097614,0.29791371528845195,0.0,0.0,0.3950973457902732,0.0,0.0,0.08994030994456713,0.12103644576295025,0.2446304592856665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536477633860133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832181951423098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AcezennJames,2020/03/21,"Baby took a tumble, how to reassure my wife? Tonight while nursing our 8 month old, my wife was readjusting the pillow baby was laying on when she threw all her weight forward. My wife was unable to react in time and baby fell to the ground (carpet, about 1.5 feet). I scooped baby up and my wife was, obviously, devastated. She went into the next room and absolutely broke down. 

Baby fell onto her arm, was consolable within about 2 minutes. Had no visible bumps, bruises, etc. she was not tender or favoring her arms or shoulders. My wife composed herself enough to nurse baby and put her to bed. 

My wife is now absolutely distraught, feeling like a terrible mother (which is understandable... but she truly is an amazing mother). What can I do to support and console her? 

Also, should we call the doctor tomorrow even with no signs of injury on baby?",4.768653846153846,6.949104198717951,5.655384615384616,75.8896153846154,71.11538461538461,7.620512820512822,28.66666666666667,8.384062270229773,2.3726820512820512,669,26,109,11,13,219,105,156,0.10800000000000001,0.778,0.113,0.4314,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,0,7,9,0,1,7,0,13,7,4,2,2,20,19,12,0,1,4,8,2,1,0,1,2,0,4,0,2,8,1,0,2,0,0,7,3,3,0,0,10,2,20,6,18,8,3,26,0,1,0,0,22,11,0,2,11,80,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598235706661787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25024382783137417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508394867663113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25322277819556577,0.2733177847601915,0.16186639611052742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239147344166514,0.17507802713701054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119728802636417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956125025668052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606346808508566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571596959731095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24636299681216905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781024844052177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290226345264126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27228174090258805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551264693885793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984291869103926,0.0,0.2271823065433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ErikaCheese,2020/03/21,"Out of My Element w/15-year-old daughter. I need help. First of all, let me say that my daughter is an amazing young woman. She is a sophomore and even before COVID we have had a rough year. Mostly with her grades. She doesn't do anything. We have tried tutoring, grounding, doing nothing, buying planners, rewards and nothing has worked. It culminated right before spring break (and before COVID really kicked off) when she was missing 16 assignments. 

So we decided to follow through with a previously agreed to consequence. She would be grounded for the entire six weeks. And would have to demonstrate her willingness to do the bare minimum. No phone, no social life except friends could visit. However, that felt punitive. So, we told her that if she got caught up before she returned to school we would lift her restrictions. She has her phone and could socialize more but is limited because of the epidemic. 

During this, she told me that she thinks I put her grades above her mental health. She has been diagnosed with depression. However, this was an issue even before that.  I have taken her to the doctor and have tried, to no avail, to find counseling. No one is our area, that my doc recommends is taking teens. But I dont' feel I can stop ""parenting:"" her because of her depression. I told her that if this is something she was going to have, we would have to find ways to function. One day she will have a job or college or whatever, and she won't be able to not fulfill her responsibilities. 

The truth is I'm scared. Her father, my husband, is a brilliant but lazy man. And because of that he struggles physically and mentally doing labor-intensive jobs. I don't want that for her. And even though her grades are bad, I don't really care about that as much. It's the lack of effort and hard work that concerns me most. I dont' feel that if she doesn't go to college she can't have a great life. But I know that hard work is necessary for some measure of success. 

To make matters worse, none of her friend's parents punish. Just an example, no judgment. He bestie got caught with a young man in her bed at 4 am and there was no repercussions. So, now, my daughter ""doesn't want to be around me"" and says ""I'm always on her case.""

I want our home to be a haven, but I'm not going to let her do whatever she wants. I need help and I feel like a failure. 

TLDR: My daughter has depression, terrible grades and thinks it's unfair that there are consequences. She doesn't want to be around me because of it and we used to be so close. How do I parent her and be sensitive and helpful with depression?",3.4886309199782275,5.6013017385229515,4.136510161495192,85.68622414262386,74.52894211576846,7.508637270912721,26.35642351660316,8.367750914986694,1.8147880239520957,2045,75,396,37,44,649,230,501,0.185,0.745,0.07,-0.9962,7,0,1,0,0,0,78.0,9,0,0,9,17,20,1,2,18,0,64,5,0,3,2,84,98,36,0,17,14,9,7,1,2,6,5,2,2,3,21,34,0,3,10,0,1,8,19,10,0,4,15,9,71,9,48,66,8,34,0,5,0,0,76,13,0,8,12,284,92,16,0.07568019558864969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297198534382165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062278352598887275,0.13474283841423335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631898021526409,0.18453577917064587,0.0,0.3219913616807585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771610032232632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084895604794907,0.0,0.0,0.048807465288308566,0.0,0.26073296626090825,0.07681380546687734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774618870294503,0.0,0.0,0.17739325118642313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995816628813835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147985424752048,0.054065946850149434,0.07266485600461456,0.0,0.1383406554113627,0.06437353570645958,0.0,0.0,0.11694066275789725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290323976114641,0.0,0.1210567318593636,0.08343768281104698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558918028418032,0.0,0.0,0.08044450894524234,0.0,0.0,0.15218051949904576,0.0,0.07591340676139133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789904618624519,0.15020183295197126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041591856287421874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477625495904096,0.10691032054708896,0.036973520810277286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051711822177342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525356739627773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05563365163256777,0.11223181217741482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452343775469432,0.0,0.07941363449110732,0.0,0.10256571829945077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521017031616306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607949957687478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969653423925012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463047352314343,0.0,0.12036785822544813,0.07576907830110427,0.07659239830852434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429285754173122,0.0,0.0582623119639695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632720322469467,0.0,0.07911737236139328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569020885661139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698562700168653,0.0743554079165076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21694701026545973,0.0,0.10276377005236778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06536339012268116,0.0,0.0,0.2231907008222047,0.06007141663512455,0.060706087942188375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528825120594862,0.0,0.07712458484482526,0.21504415830115087,0.0,0.0,0.09747112937282376
parenting,DozzentAfraid,2020/03/21,"What are people's daycare policies during the epidemic? Wondering what other people's daycare responses/policies are during all this. We were contacted by our provider today and my wife and I were wondering if this was normal.

Ours said that with the child home, we could pay half our weekly charge to reserve his spot for when he can attend again. If the state shuts down the daycares, we have to pay full price to reserve our spot. 

I do understand a fee to retain a spot, just wondering how this compares.

We're in NH.",5.563469387755102,7.04518636734694,5.523061224489798,80.40051020408163,67.9795918367347,8.457142857142857,30.3265306122449,8.841846274778883,2.5296775510204084,416,16,73,7,7,130,67,98,0.03,0.9279999999999999,0.042,0.4824,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,7,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,1,1,18,14,6,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,6,0,1,4,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,11,0,9,9,2,10,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,5,4,53,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492480858844326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323275711058187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269323917581701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211437543467059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203178055675329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954284309988267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411181808755988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857866556730244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7535260045321723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mint_pineapple,2020/03/21,Kids picky eaters ideas Trying to get my children to eat a variety of foods is like pulling teeth.,2.9036842105263148,5.532547000000001,2.399210526315791,94.78197368421051,79.0,5.905263157894738,25.28947368421053,7.1686216300943375,1.026031578947368,79,3,16,1,2,23,18,19,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691942201263123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544605006601333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23956481653636275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5176284828088443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22401629551196486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113141320527946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,revolutionblues,2020/03/21,"My daughter keeps singing this song, and I have no idea where it's from. Daughter is 3, almost 4.  The way she sings it is: ""Whoo hoo / we're moving on! / sing with the bubble train bubble train song."" 

I've tried googling different combinations of these lyrics, and I can't figure it out.  Any ideas?",1.309236453201969,3.8435911551724153,1.8828078817733989,96.32155172413796,85.72413793103449,4.693596059113301,18.630541871921178,6.1826913282559595,-0.24324926108374398,229,6,49,2,7,70,47,58,0.047,0.953,0.0,-0.3595,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,5,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30662694164699444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082345625821876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199262157258666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6913518265443079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27217516726335284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32545474271613944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078977500000103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430567183627345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,speedqueenicecream,2020/03/21,"does my kid have a mask fetish? i’m new to reddit. i’ve been a lurker since i made this account but i’m at a loss with what’s been happening. 

I’ve noticed my 3 year old son in his room with either a basket or mask over his head. he will put it on his head, shake back and fourth and then slowly take it off. he only does it when he’s alone and when he sees someone he stops doing it and when i see him doing it i always see an erection through his pants afterwards. earlier today he asked me “will my blanket make my penis big too?” i didn’t know what to say to the question so i just said i’m not sure. i’ve asked him why he does the basket thing and he’s told me “because it makes my penis big” 


i don’t know if i should be worried about these behaviors or if it’s just a strange stage that he’ll get over. 

has anyone else had a similar situation? does anyone know how putting those things over his head arouses him?? i’m so confused

this is my first child, i’ve tried researching and all i can find is articles on head banging which isn’t what he’s doing. 

thank you for taking the time to read. please help me lol",1.0892644285175417,2.773096049792532,2.6855922293474173,95.31945586571106,80.20331950207469,5.709619011693702,20.08317615993965,6.574015621080383,0.0013717842323650586,872,22,205,8,22,286,137,241,0.094,0.848,0.057999999999999996,-0.7461,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,2,11,5,0,2,10,1,18,5,5,4,2,31,41,18,0,3,9,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,2,18,8,0,1,5,1,1,3,4,3,0,1,7,5,26,2,17,29,2,28,0,1,3,1,29,11,0,6,13,115,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156826366099298,0.0,0.0,0.09293943037444788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619988993042955,0.11444502583233487,0.0,0.0,0.20884003986979024,0.0,0.0,0.08588678473847103,0.0,0.06808841307044575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39098120969004174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330708374517896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020874730355099,0.0950079580162789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583561798329607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877177752501948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458526373293346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486699955599932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841544336166374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568878563656857,0.14911494900647615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787600869111906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716582985273175,0.11720541941421035,0.0,0.0,0.08494930248096116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226078887630063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22456923710573548,0.1251242893141925,0.0,0.11172551798027408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062478003217304,0.08882457903928091,0.0,0.0,0.2670200586160477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239549947857616,0.1255501876616935,0.0,0.0,0.09463905814848493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338226520186843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527149051882244,0.0,0.16796191733757607,0.0,0.0,0.1028340178138358,0.0,0.0,0.14841077728784993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513042278972903,0.0,0.10587407629471576,0.10672963776629377,0.0,0.0758337711575332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078762762112234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343199048709145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192810574736908
parenting,Dom-2019,2020/03/21,"Is it normal to bring a overnight bag when you are spending multiple nights at friends? Hello I am the legal guardian of my adult son chris (20) M he recently made some new friends at a transition program and wants to spend  3 nights   at a female 20 house I packed my sons bag with clothes toothbrush deodorant etc the female often has many friends over when I dropped him off he texted me saying another guy that wasn't spending the night kept giving him weird looks for having the bag even though he knew my son was spending the night for 3 nights

So my question is Reddit are spending the night bags normal?",6.612527472527474,7.003778726495727,5.5525030525030505,85.02384615384616,65.15384615384616,8.395115995115995,32.953601953601954,7.957251820313856,2.2256114774114777,489,19,94,5,7,145,78,117,0.015,0.8690000000000001,0.11699999999999999,0.897,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,16,5,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,2,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,5,2,11,3,11,11,2,17,0,0,1,0,18,5,0,3,10,51,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182542025534114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084375882862747,0.08933387060332905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31349029080242496,0.0,0.0,0.12974778584968366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339225435306795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606474543959215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357914184247953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798043206615933,0.0,0.13712614164086226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062897940124746,0.0,0.7615592701736968,0.2650400473601601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151522947256554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335468272709469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075592640701948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328861886062511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977620564713837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skarekrow1313,2020/03/21,"ExtremeColic Hey everyone. Me and my wife are at wits end with our 3 month old. He has an extreme case of colic. We have seen the doctors many many times and have switched his formula a total of 6 times to the softest of formulas.and the doctors still cant figure out his issue. If he's awake or not being held with a little pressure on his tummy, he's crying and screaming. We have tried so many different things to help soothe him and help him from white noise to peppermint extractAnd it seems like an endless nightmare. Along with the when he does go potty its extremely rock hard. 
I'm looking for suggestions that we may have missed or just some advice to maybe help. Thank You.",4.052272727272726,6.054791196969699,4.197575757575759,86.34136363636364,72.63636363636363,7.527272727272727,26.393939393939394,8.296473431620573,1.7412484848484855,546,19,104,9,11,169,98,132,0.08199999999999999,0.807,0.111,0.6267,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,1,0,0,4,5,0,1,8,0,9,2,0,0,1,23,17,9,0,1,5,1,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,12,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,5,12,2,16,13,2,12,0,1,3,0,20,4,0,6,8,63,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591471907586272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18650397734930746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739216265468413,0.0,0.3475701119431283,0.14858248912398211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503816367736503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622395639441472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649434623476208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209656121510573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414156446881882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721440004123434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294976574785658,0.17017202760099726,0.0,0.0,0.14257902935082126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5164146829237186,0.1705747133884594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552303963602105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816378407739342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545684791587814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559279396928772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631783783688874,0.0,0.0,0.11279950113068228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19800931801233307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152748029725246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,regretfulmother__,2020/03/21,"Regretful Mother Stuck With Her 7 Year Old Twins 24/7 and unable to take another moment. I regret being a parent. So fucking bad. Holy shit. i wrote a big post about it on this sb a couple of years ago. I don't know if I am allowed to link to it, but it's there. Love the kids of course, but fuck, becoming a mom was the biggest mistake of my life and if I understood what I was signing up for, I'd have aborted the pregnancy. 

The only thing keeping me from being suicidally depressed is the fact that we have a village. I went back to work the second my maternity leave was over and didn't feel any of the mommy guilt I was supposed to. Getting breaks from them and getting time to be an adult woman instead of mommy kept me sane. My parents being willing to have them overnight to have adult time with my husband kept me sane. My kids getting socialisation at daycare/school kept me sane because I can not handle being a SAHM. 

Now thanks to this Coronavirus lockdown, I am basically forced back into the role of SAHM. I can work from home. My husband can't work from home. I refuse to risk the health of their elderly grandparents so I am getting *no break* from these girls. 

*I hate this so much*. It has only been two weeks and I already am at the point where getting the virus and dying from it sounds more appealing than another few weeks or months in lockdown with them. I am starting to resent them more than ever and this is making me start to actually hate them. I can't even go and talk to my therapist because they are shut down too, apparently mental health services are not necessary right now.

I wish I never had kids. I keep going to bed sobbing every night. My husband is at a loss. He regrets it too. 

Why oh why did we do this? Why didn't we abort. Why is this pandemic happening? Fuck the idiot in Wuhan who ate that bat for ruining my fucking mental stability.",2.450053763440863,4.697254327956991,3.792688172043016,86.2756989247312,78.3010752688172,6.498924731182799,25.11827956989247,7.594959193182576,1.365502150537635,1478,55,290,22,36,484,201,372,0.177,0.79,0.033,-0.9947,5,2,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,0,7,4,15,22,9,2,20,0,37,10,1,2,3,44,70,16,2,7,7,7,1,0,0,1,3,1,3,7,18,15,1,6,4,0,0,3,9,20,0,2,17,2,45,2,45,47,4,41,0,7,0,5,32,16,6,3,19,202,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.09106509300788887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272094573573044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029789441623745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345956982936991,0.19570451944398232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351185722844814,0.07791679149837052,0.11377180604946426,0.1030626102115523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032548032909006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037482108200354,0.0,0.09684954911229568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061635784984874736,0.0844116462366389,0.07862460061413222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04718448121713542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34508465511238645,0.24377451589575566,0.0,0.10606975681446627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252096802513849,0.0,0.0,0.1842647875787592,0.0,0.19838574634351155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721150834656047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658909915682425,0.0,0.0,0.051285237237315866,0.0,0.0,0.09881049008042013,0.0,0.0,0.0659133979797035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422331067300752,0.0,0.062290617053624535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18808557550966204,0.0,0.0,0.10929313733512827,0.07448568966920195,0.0,0.06859960764043314,0.0,0.07197274170635155,0.0,0.0,0.08757280061237845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792174354058823,0.0,0.0,0.14194537851692532,0.0,0.0,0.20723761506304936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821585350576391,0.0,0.08937303135203016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079693225146983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444299121161312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578978194079232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321021916507482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020749546897322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016366596492682,0.07500562701547113,0.0,0.08591485248670876,0.0,0.10834961213426417,0.06199645948486841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088291751180352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115831284618783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970844774754696,0.0,0.0,0.0865068978795905,0.33682061028598703,0.0,0.1073113141422715,0.0,0.0,0.2038102631692754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018771076553532
parenting,poornana88,2020/03/21,"When does it get a little easier? So, after reading multiple posts on here, I realize  compared to lots of parents I don’t have it too hard. 

But right now it feels exhausting! My 11 month old is all over the place. I’m chasing her all day. She has fussy moments and can be picky with her food. She is getting really fast and gets into places she shouldn’t be...But mostly she is a joy!

I’m just exhausted from chasing her around all day and trying to prevent disaster after disaster. While also you know, living my life, keeping the house together, WFH or lack there of...

Does it get harder? Easier? When do they start playing with toys longer? When do they stop getting into everything? 

She isn’t walking yet she’s just crawling and standing but she’s on the verge.",1.7385533184190898,4.381070241610743,3.0812863534675614,87.71493475018644,84.83892617449662,6.2641312453393,23.04287844891872,7.594959193182576,1.3507222967934376,602,22,114,11,18,195,97,149,0.099,0.8440000000000001,0.057,-0.7262,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,2,0,13,4,0,0,5,0,12,4,0,0,3,27,23,13,0,2,5,1,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,9,1,3,3,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,2,17,2,15,21,6,30,0,0,0,0,14,11,0,3,16,79,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375600365254125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531294888747308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187041035586103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30106232174447073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545956568220009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697576479599749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080007719700089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4493527195994166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409132031218234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848178653967688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289450569580956,0.0,0.0,0.09453474143188892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149901941712415,0.0,0.1724038479486314,0.15189206870792876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624068612698848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730043561406094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805004169783526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910018887530065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.359437351352542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474246518061858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206117842804164,0.0,0.11019697591258774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689955314590342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217528396378626,0.0,0.0,0.1438119320042017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678664163643727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mckenzieefro,2020/03/21,"i think i’m failing as a mother. i am a 22 year old stay at home mother of 2 girls. my oldest is about to turn 3 and the youngest is about to be 1. 
my oldest daughter is in her “terrible twos” and “threenager” stage. my family members understand this stage she is in. i love being their mom and laughing and playing with them. and i would NEVER allow anything to happen to them or do anything to hurt them myself. 

but sometimes i lose my cool. i scream. i yell. & then i afterwards feel absolutely horrible and cry because she doesn’t deserve such a mad mommy. i’m constantly beating myself up and trying to be calmer. and have more patience.. but that is something i think i truly lack. patience. i don’t find that i have the patience to deal with her tantrums. her screaming back at me, hitting me, growling at me... especially if i’m already feeling stressed and i just feel like i’m about to explode.. i always take it out on her.. (not physically). 

i’m always reminding myself that her (nor her sister) were asked to be brought into this world. she didn’t ask for this. she doesn’t deserve this from me. but i don’t know how to be a better mother to my toddler. i don’t know what i need to do to be happier with myself, with my parenting style, my life. everything. 

i love them so much.. i don’t ever want to be without them. but.. was i meant for this??.. should i have had children in the first place?... 

please.. advice would be immensely appreciated. ways to calm myself down, to not blow up or even take it out on her, to understand ALL THE TIME that she’s just a toddler..",1.3268571428571434,3.703142892063493,3.0539682539682573,89.19714285714291,83.57142857142857,5.75873015873016,23.6031746031746,7.110495986334442,0.99364126984127,1221,46,248,17,35,404,160,315,0.13699999999999998,0.731,0.132,-0.4325,1,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,0,0,6,5,11,17,2,1,9,1,32,3,0,2,3,50,59,21,0,7,12,7,3,1,0,3,1,3,1,2,12,16,0,0,11,1,0,1,12,9,0,1,6,7,55,8,44,41,4,33,0,3,0,2,32,16,0,3,13,186,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564943166305018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189410001209993,0.0,0.2139820527576144,0.1393191968183861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162505292966607,0.0,0.2404147531853496,0.0,0.0,0.09887208491080962,0.0,0.0783827614346346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137208633534813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895211422504447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124195181335214,0.0,0.13256301782980745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492759670538114,0.11631032606434386,0.0,0.0,0.11556175267917508,0.0,0.12121623471434324,0.0,0.19504568291998944,0.091859437399921,0.0,0.0,0.117522169831277,0.10937229657382316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370517133669075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897883496871548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765033610701502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133127195830775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082169526153099,0.06281896495292685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385104279622055,0.0,0.0,0.2321016391300769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505943907835584,0.0,0.0,0.0945230082372403,0.0953423709896836,0.09917083043426107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492581210969612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277576410017911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434145290538632,0.14114508565461598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898916990138927,0.1271714823882846,0.0,0.0,0.13705194652433558,0.0,0.0,0.14729093750118494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335623056971407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478108035259328,0.0,0.0,0.07497754994498652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729914717177717,0.13986094882992522,0.0,0.26771804922753617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584135081272564,0.1020628853724319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394904097937635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826827841601804,0.0,0.0,0.08280298069817081
parenting,Carbsandtransistors,2020/03/21,"18 Year-old son and ""MJ"" Hi everyone. And blessings to all in these challenging times, Issue: have a very stubborn, arrogant 18 year-old son who keeps getting his hands on 'pot' and getting high. He did very well in school: SATs, grades, etc. A while back, we stopped giving him money (uber, fastfood), which he'd use to by MJ. We've had it. He refuses to get help. We've already told him: if we find it in the house, we'll throw it away. Next thing we know, he's smoking on the side of the house or in one of our old cars! (we've since hid the keys). I grew up getting thumped upside the head: serious discipline. Of course (sigh), we shied away from this 'hit first' approach in raising him. I'm trying to convince my volatile wife that we have to at least give him the \*impression\* that we'll kick him out. Please Help. Thanks!",1.8526136363636359,3.958643909090913,2.377329545454547,96.38599431818184,79.60606060606061,5.821969696969697,23.03977272727273,6.9077264865688965,0.5067045454545451,635,21,142,7,16,195,110,165,0.064,0.802,0.134,0.9002,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,8,0,0,2,2,9,1,0,8,0,7,2,2,1,1,20,21,6,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,5,2,0,1,4,0,2,2,2,4,1,17,6,22,13,3,25,1,0,0,0,29,14,0,2,7,74,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211309724299776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25901593420416835,0.105992702060011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537313003500868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171482354570513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259859377255905,0.11724912299387533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880689596766264,0.2644629912580912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146661043118994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478641626251374,0.14563862011063305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181044604237284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387220270898193,0.0,0.12252112670901333,0.0,0.0,0.07575486758447803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465975162892799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43392889153846026,0.0,0.0934059345029944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513101400109025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950440085538002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402509335678927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524285887951123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690724708074336,0.0,0.0,0.09157671548344518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037731903476532,0.0,0.0,0.13171482354570513,0.0,0.09358629894998398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905203098890638,0.0,0.2274697011355295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393734533095906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753265081320302
parenting,NMaudlin,2020/03/21,"Non-Toxic Mattress for 4-Year Old Looking for an organic, non-toxic mattress for my 4-year old, low off-gassing, preferably a hybrid, made in the U.S. at a decent price.  Any suggestions?",7.943636363636365,8.776268363636365,6.935909090909089,74.72386363636366,62.33333333333333,9.024242424242424,37.71212121212121,8.841846274778883,3.5286484848484854,148,7,23,2,2,45,25,33,0.07200000000000001,0.9279999999999999,0.0,-0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,5,1,0,5,0,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,10,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23855525820452755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29458269638774043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319343688580049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7362087980417216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4518059364690786
parenting,350Zamir,2020/03/21,"Potty training speech delayed twins Hey everyone! 

I hope everyone is staying safe, healthy and sane during this time. My husband and I (this is his acct, I'm just using it to get some tips/feedback) are trying to potty train our two twin girls who are speech delayed. They're currently 3 1/2 years old and are in speech therapy through a preschool program. Their preschool has already introduced potty training to them so they're familiar with how to use the potty, flushing, wiping etc. The issue is that they refuse to tell us they have to go! We've been constantly asking and taking them but they still keep having multiple accidents. When we ask if they need to go they say no, and refuse to go with us to use the potty and then have an accident a few minutes later. They're not scared of the potty so I don't understand the resistance. They're speech has progressed a great deal, but still not at the point they should be for their age. My girls don't get the incentive concept because they're extremely stubborn and once they see something they want they won't give up until they just forget and move on to something else (we never give in, but it's still a habit they have no matter how hard we try to break it) We're trying to use this unfortunate time productively and hoping to succeed in potty training them for the second time (we've attempted potty training before and failed miserably) but we really need some tips from anyone who has been through a similar situation whether it's with twins with speech delay or a Single child with speech delay. Please help! 

From,
two exhausted parents",6.605050540257928,7.414725033112585,6.238086441268735,78.64886197281281,65.2251655629139,9.271802021610318,31.7887765772046,9.276330184999452,2.774090066225165,1288,48,229,22,19,400,160,302,0.151,0.754,0.096,-0.9533,2,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,7,0,16,4,10,10,1,2,15,0,20,1,0,6,1,57,43,24,0,7,11,2,1,0,0,2,1,7,0,3,10,19,0,9,1,0,0,4,8,5,0,3,2,9,29,5,32,38,5,33,0,2,1,0,42,7,0,6,20,147,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899078568646199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539578540151774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160908994596768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573089625704201,0.0,0.09175361389719404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652366971581712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116584581876317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900763869376129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025662842191827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20606838759216214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267127047267267,0.20687672320892675,0.1838432672366158,0.0,0.0,0.11888065712631875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659263241948604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227477861468075,0.0,0.0,0.21419489930459515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125443288518126,0.0,0.09584240538476822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460400924678918,0.0,0.15990606561238513,0.08316353554901403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314725834934375,0.11483321051950572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973013920815975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836267072692627,0.10193223288540894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907732354099391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574908602827537,0.10795455380381447,0.0,0.08592488785270791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120309444875282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660223941659668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149302105964872,0.2583345369935768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107317284827566,0.0,0.09424635055476144,0.0,0.1233106182777532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18862597337110787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962422914360846,0.0,0.21066441019859225,0.11225266243386774,0.25940741086515073,0.3725147922616796,0.0,0.0,0.0635996980844113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943764208389286
parenting,useaway62,2020/03/21,"What's appropriate for teen relationships? I didn't date until my mid twenties, dated one guy, broke up with him then found my now husband. 

So I don't know what's appropriate for a teen relationship.

My 15 year old daughter has a boyfriend (also 15), he's for the most part really sweet but some stuff I'm not sure about. I saw him touch her butt once and he stares at her butt, he'll try to be discreet but I still see him. Sometimes she'll be sitting on the couch or something and he'll just sit next to her and start kissing her. I've told her to not let anyone do something she's not 100% comfortable with and she said “He wouldn't do anything that would make a girl uncomfortable”

I don't know if any of that is appropriate for a 15 year old relationship, I can't ask my husband because he hates any boy in her life and will look for *any* reason to kick him out of her life so I don't want to tell him any of this since he hasn't noticed, I don't need to listen to ""See! See! This is why she shouldn't be around him"" unless it's actually inappropriate in which I think having a sit down talk should be first ",2.7023076923076914,3.9350012820512816,3.952649572649573,89.87846153846156,74.64102564102564,7.08034188034188,23.256410256410252,7.594959193182576,0.7156512820512826,876,24,202,11,18,287,126,234,0.08,0.8859999999999999,0.034,-0.8463,0,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,8,6,1,0,7,0,24,5,2,2,1,33,45,15,0,7,9,3,1,0,0,8,2,2,1,3,9,9,0,0,5,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,5,10,30,4,28,27,3,25,0,1,6,3,39,9,2,4,13,121,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.1220051024388124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999814127390023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34008163005267145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741948237405991,0.0,0.1028838575548937,0.11129760515052327,0.11688028840818332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621329091769065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634510068987572,0.0,0.13708204079624345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237931254122236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343502620957625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741951863367616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278452102823477,0.17661588226582686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498842524670096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345429476414125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270349403393688,0.0,0.0,0.13296412998742455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234031824663804,0.2623826969708719,0.13314616685145056,0.08471929901148817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353884904255449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009338765529446,0.12854519272048331,0.0,0.4026860151731281,0.0,0.0,0.11892617480902225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29888312108417925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342090179074223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924987143936404,0.12365164235473952,0.0,0.08849242279555435,0.0,0.09984409333162496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312223202622687,0.0,0.0,0.11783336357023134,0.0,0.0,0.10048931929073153,0.10927622992804033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801101427455858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946550911983292,0.0,0.08488288978970647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374222121404951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128144487204478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888132538330137,0.0,0.0,0.16102233555688794
parenting,glitterberry2020,2020/03/21,"Are parents wrong for stalking online activity on my personal phone ? So i’ve always been so creeped out by this.

When I was younger I used to only go on my computer and my parents brought it up in a random coversation that they could see every website I accessed and asked me a specific name of a website and what it was. Since then i’ve felt a total invasion of privacy.

However tonight my parents said they had access to my screen time on mv iphone and what websites I access. Is this true ? I have an iphone 8 and it’s set up in my name but through my parents email. Can they see what I get up to and have access to my personal data ?",3.2216153846153865,4.5832925461538485,4.82,83.66000000000003,73.53846153846153,7.969230769230768,30.69230769230769,8.548686976883017,2.3672153846153843,501,23,102,9,10,169,78,130,0.017,0.96,0.022000000000000002,0.1568,5,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,1,2,16,19,11,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,9,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,5,18,1,18,11,1,16,0,0,3,0,15,9,0,1,4,72,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228842357373808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159864978365086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653220041189096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407763448510388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418996087954382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893421532794376,0.0,0.09718510194563486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005569632830244,0.0,0.0,0.7595155999877186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986269276251058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266327386608032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725349405877883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145567616615426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971338481529468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769192505543322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696523665157067,0.0,0.0
parenting,imsorryformymistakes,2020/03/22,"I don’t want kids right now. But I also want to know if I’ll be able to in the future. How do I go about asking? I am very stupid I know. But I have never been on birth control and I rarely use condoms with my partners. I only have 1 partner a time and I get tested regularly. But Starting now my bf and I are going to use condoms, I just don’t want to risk it. 

For years now I haven’t used protection. And now it’s starting to worry me cause I kinda assumed I’d get pregnant. I mean it wouldn’t be the worst thing. But i want to know if I can. How do I ask my gyno?",-1.3569767441860456,0.4494784186046523,1.7593488372093018,97.7664651162791,90.3953488372093,4.0601550387596905,17.127131782945735,5.2151,-0.7687854263565894,432,11,108,2,15,153,72,129,0.11599999999999999,0.838,0.046,-0.8991,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,9,3,1,1,3,0,14,3,0,7,1,31,33,13,0,7,7,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,4,5,0,2,5,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,21,0,11,29,1,16,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,4,11,73,25,1,0.1745228649131753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956587201769188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263106396776088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928305680151074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19574223298054172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823619875030443,0.0,0.19837073202231545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28773960716718505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19010656302146908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346027924143858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13273250306795664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904157305911858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24705636409960305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159452366079892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017656860065746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4521951621260892,0.0,0.14399964106637636,0.4117524298292111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723644086079068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238700304719622
parenting,abusiveson1020,2020/03/22,"My immature son [18M] bullies and abuses the rest of our family [59M 56F 12M 24F] and I don't know what I can do anymore. He is abusive. He is a narcissist. He is a bully. He is immature. He doesn't know what he's talking about. And he's an adult, if he does this in the real world his ass will land in jail. He doesn't seem to care, he still continues his abusive ways and then claims we're the abusive and toxic ones. He is lucky we haven't sent him to foster care yet. I don't care if he's autistic or barely 18, he's abusive.

Oftentimes he'll yell and scream at his 12 year old little brother for doing things that egg him on or inconvenience him. What he doesn't realize is that the 12 year old has him all figured out and knows what pushes his buttons, and kids will be kids and he always does them to arise a reaction out of him. We've tried telling the older one to BE THE OLDER ONE and ignore him or come to us, but he **never** listens, he always insists on giving the little one the reaction he wants and taking things into his own hands, which can include yelling or screaming at him, getting back at him, or even hitting him, although the last of which he's stopped. This is not allowed, so he gets punished every time he ignores our advice, and we hit it where it hurts: His phone and computer are gone. And then he plays victim and always is like ""I'm sooo sorry, woe is me, I didn't know, I'm gonna kil myself :("" No, we are not accepting it. He claims we can't take them because he paid for them, yes we can as we pay for the internet and electricity that flows through them. If he wants to be sooo adult and mature he can pay for his own stuff and then he can step to me. He constantly claims ""this was the death of his childhood"", he thinks he's sooo abused. No he's not, we feed and care for him and do the things we do because we love him and want to see only the best version of him. But his behaviors are not allowed.

Oftentimes his sister (23, and she is more mature and adult than him, she knows what he's talking about, **he doesn't**) and talk sense into him about how he's being abusive, overbearing, and narcissistic, and that he needs to grow up and act like an adult or he will continue being treated like a child against his wishes, oftentimes with an abrasive tone that is completely justified. He claims ""she's toxic"" and ""inherited our toxicity"" and all that, and often retaliates by calling her slurs (He's called her the n and c words and legit wished her dead!) or that ""he was never taught how to debate or argue"" and ""he doesn't like the feeling of being shut down by her"", to which we laugh at because of how immature that is. Seriously, he doesn't like ""being shut down"" and calls her ""toxic"". This is EXTREMELY immature and I don't care if it's because of his autism or not. You listen to someone and take in their advice, not plug your ears and shout ad hominems. If anything, HE is the toxic and abusive one here. Oftentimes he won't stop talking when we try to shut him down, and the sources of argument are over silly little trivial things. Immature! When will he accept that his daughter is better than him? And the be plays the ""Golden child bias"" card, no, we love our children equally, but that further proves he doesn't know what he's talking about. She argues with logic and facts, he argues with emotion and anger. Of course he's in the wrong. But he doesn't want to accept it and continues with his diarrhea of the mouth masked as ""explaining the full situation"". No, he just wants the outcome to be the best for him, which is selfish and not allowed.

Oftentimes he'll retaliate by throwing water at us or screaming, which just shows how immature he is. You never do that, especially if this were a debate stage! You don't get violent with your own family. And we often have to resort to threatening to ""call the fucking cops"" or his sister talking smack about him behind his back, which is totally justified. You don't do that. This would never hold up in a court of law and just shows he's not ready to be treated like an adult, and that he indeed is the abusive and narcissistic one.

I've tried offering him chamomile tea with lavender or CBD oil but he doesn't want to take it because it's ""naturopathic garbage"". Again, he doesn't know what he's talking about. Chamomile tea and lavender oil are known to mainstream science as calming agents, and the fact that he doesn't want to take them just shows he's not mature or knowledgeable. He wants anger management classes and therapy, well he's an adult and he can look that up for himself! So what if he doesn't know how to book an appointment or doesn't have his own insurance, I didn't either until I had to figure it out for myself! But he never wants to do it, and relies on us, showing that he's not mature enough yet, and he will continue being treated like a child.

I worry for him, I really do. What if he does this at college and gets kicked out, what if he does this at his job and gets fired, what if he does this in the streets and gets killed or jailed? He says he wouldn't do that there, but I can't be sure of that. And the fact that he has respect for total strangers but not his own family is just sad.

After this, I don't want him going to work tomorrow, or ever, and I don't think I want him going to college or moving out, even if he has his own money, he isn't ready to handle high stress environments until he gets treatment for them. He thinks ""we don't know how to raise a child with autism"", but that doesn't excuse his shitty behavior. I think I might start charging him rent to pay us back for all the grief he causes us and I'm setting the price high, I don't care if he wants to move out or not, he isn't ready for that yet.

And I don't care about his threats of moving out and cutting contact with us. He isn't ready for that, and if he ends up doing that, I don't care, that's his choice as an adult and if he wants to act like we're sooo abusive to where he left, that's fine! But it just isn't happening right now.

To be fair, I don't think he'll be able to live alone and independent because of his social handicaps, he needs someone to live with him and monitor his behavior so he doesn't get out of line. He claims we have Munchausen by proxy, but that's not true. This is what we genuinely feel he needs. I don't think he'll be independent at all with this crap that goes on. I'm at the end of my rope. And he's admitted he dislikes us because people online have told him we're in the wrong, so I'm asking here to see if that's true. He's actually threatened to put us in a nursing home, which is not okay.

TL;DR: Son abuses us and then claims he's being abused, the rest of us know better and I'm not sure what I can do anymore.",3.82280638556044,4.5794123825648425,4.730583649325045,87.16958091915669,71.42795389048992,7.8326831487941755,26.137903837403307,7.997740175438593,1.334457809798271,5289,160,1142,69,95,1720,422,1388,0.166,0.74,0.094,-0.9988,5,1,0,0,5,0,183.0,30,6,7,5,50,69,13,1,50,2,118,13,5,12,20,266,211,136,4,35,66,6,4,8,0,14,0,10,2,14,75,106,5,5,31,7,8,16,63,27,1,6,11,19,130,42,142,168,22,119,0,4,3,4,248,56,3,38,52,726,205,13,0.034493635984820914,0.4904318184109888,0.033660812954374834,0.0,0.0,0.06741356374005272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035725004143953284,0.0,0.0,0.08610440510081206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841683636092129,0.0,0.0,0.02838532336724728,0.0,0.032246893347221715,0.0,0.0,0.07957043072173535,0.0,0.1471890023659487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239788575568945,0.061013635865956574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088743584082106,0.0,0.28134848613483315,0.03543446586574124,0.0,0.029713213125661744,0.036165921061197065,0.037275366410908166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092806649413865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03880069776644687,0.06110224645794414,0.03564114670242965,0.0,0.045565442501490735,0.031201468546199318,0.029062376015532763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755259045450508,0.0,0.03488203754344418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03188881064492165,0.1441720090379651,0.03308943873080756,0.039207056472653865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030502608384394905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728888404999875,0.034599929331945264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03692615073609906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03422961125958828,0.0,0.03816209755985561,0.0,0.18956800250744604,0.028116917131896273,0.0,0.0,0.03747743642452468,0.0,0.0,0.13481478561064175,0.1037150551803222,0.060917025054606874,0.0,0.028965966783036173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226370639552771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03659229679580026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998382853676893,0.0,0.07672978204641047,0.13301809268350276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239053702389484,0.0,0.14024268267378284,0.02623396450922334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02391354403806557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03467563137093205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03926130936868615,0.02209750647190509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02945737666101203,0.0,0.02743072380830258,0.0,0.0,0.05497392394759285,0.031401710710214574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038772292073632704,0.0,0.035161918000516525,0.05845269166771825,0.0,0.0,0.03861280144943468,0.02441477308782632,0.0,0.027546662254724026,0.057676448412174876,0.03951234347878154,0.0,0.039486960672514254,0.0,0.0,0.06501968740055937,0.0,0.12967460737310396,0.1940727460622329,0.03014895821928238,0.0,0.03944647889882711,0.0,0.09166415616015902,0.13261277488258202,0.0,0.0,0.020113516533221684,0.0,0.0,0.032960147375792004,0.0,0.0702567438358835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149159700036008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644881226408106,0.02737944269815374,0.0,0.0,0.031013921269501924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933195813939904,0.0,0.0,0.025111777814171444,0.035029961703521295,0.0,0.024503289332852164,0.07542675209541694,0.0,0.04442554131189126
parenting,Ceve94,2020/03/22,"Absent Father More of a question for grown ups / teenagers (male) 

Those of you who have grown up not ever seeing or truly knowing your biological father, how has that effected you in everyday life? 

I’m talking about fathers who chose to stay away or who aren’t involved for any other reason not fathers who have passed x",8.744500000000002,7.905193783333335,8.33666666666667,70.91500000000003,61.16666666666666,10.0,36.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,3.254666666666667,257,10,43,3,3,82,48,60,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.4404,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,3,1,10,7,3,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,10,7,1,10,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,3,2,32,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451712788161485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387277522399867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261180513901787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19813665979253195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546514594607693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40387366608677777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706826420476527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872939927252989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842746835308636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897786030260694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NoMoLerking,2020/03/22,"What do I do when I get sick? I’ve resigned myself to the fact I, like most of you, will get COVID19 at some point. I’m in my 40s and in good health, so I’m hopeful that I won’t need to be hospitalized. But what if I do? Where do the kids go? Normally it would be my parents but there’s nothing normal about this situation. Friends? Again, under normal circumstances I think that would be an option. But I wouldn’t expect someone to expose their own kids to mine, knowing I’m infected. What’s the plan here?",0.0834285714285734,2.4296633904761933,1.944523809523808,94.47964285714285,91.28571428571428,4.904761904761905,19.88095238095238,6.5431188927421005,0.1968095238095237,396,13,87,5,14,130,69,105,0.095,0.7979999999999999,0.107,0.307,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,1,1,7,5,0,0,4,0,12,3,0,0,1,20,22,7,0,10,4,1,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,13,4,10,14,3,9,0,1,0,0,6,6,0,5,3,60,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464451977522232,0.0,0.22267730343792055,0.0,0.12111257475464332,0.1787424994448169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22652082229538345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166151045963608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711702402747305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411241795012306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801477761169547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6263934376788418,0.20448015072032727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366280634563917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145326006450046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953913119960646,0.0,0.0,0.18056331247805746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654918320285606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027675860471284,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pghdude2017,2020/03/22,"10yo daughter always wants to play the boy I don’t know if this is the right place to post this so please forgive me if it’s not. 


I have two daughters 10 and 8

Whenever they play pretend type games together my 10yo always wants to be a boy character. 

She prefers boyish clothes. Doesn’t like dresses. 

We just got Animal Crossings new Horizons and she was able to create her avatar and it’s a boy. 

My wife and I don’t say anything negative when she expresses these tendencies, really don’t say anything at all. Just let her be who she wants to be. 

Is this going to go beyond Tom boyish behavior ?  I will love her no matter who she is or wants to be. I just want to know if I need to, and how to, prepare and navigate this potentially delicate situation.",2.4909366130558155,4.586014370860929,4.011130558183542,85.51531456953646,77.47682119205298,7.757994323557239,26.017502365184484,8.634040054169528,1.971152885525071,594,23,120,13,14,197,91,151,0.048,0.805,0.14800000000000002,0.9056,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,0,7,5,0,0,4,0,15,1,0,1,1,28,27,13,0,10,8,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,9,7,0,0,4,4,0,3,7,0,0,1,2,2,19,5,12,19,1,10,0,0,0,1,24,4,0,4,3,80,28,1,0.1796122469966238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989035558766075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29561115064591115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041555582680753,0.0,0.1436523218142229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742038736656994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366569165609434,0.0,0.08774947131751758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621070654447688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318020528947866,0.0,0.1734706273840924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765656959340896,0.1971603106568095,0.0,0.0,0.1720188832119151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506420466047365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533878775504723,0.0,0.28566973583887284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20189169108235186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545506663546115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5296997843573182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shgnjkdshgjkshdg,2020/03/22,"TLDR; I think I'm abusive and I don't know what to do to fix it Let me start out by saying, I wasn't always this way. When I first began my parenthood things were \*amazing\*, I have never had a job so it was like summer vacation every single day. Painting, baking, walks to the park, you name it. I had one child in my early twenties and my second only a few years later. My kids were angels from the start, sleeping through the night, talking early, just absolutely perfect. Honestly, the only issue we had early on was that my husbands family was very nitpicky. They never really liked me (I have generalized anxiety and depression, they're not huge believers in mental illness) and they made it very very clear from the start. They started off harmless(ish), chastising me for not having the kids clothed at home (I had babies who liked to be nakey, sue me, I kept the house at 70+ to balance it out), complaining that my husband would cook dinner often, getting upset when he'd stay up late with the kids (I'm a SAHM so I kind of get it, but it's not like I asked him to, he always wanted to). Eventually my husband decided that we should start phasing them out of our lives (also completely his choice, they never got along even before I was in the picture) and they REALLY didn't like that. When we stopped visiting and answering calls as frequently they began bringing their ""concerns"" to Facebook. It was horribly embarrassing. Post after post about  what a horrible homemaker I was, tagging him and I in every single one (until they were blocked). I got really depressed over it and I'll admit that I got kind of lax on housework because of it, the kids were bathed and fed and happy, but the dishes pilled up and the laundry went unfolded for sure. Husbands family would still come visit occasionally, and during one visit things got heated, and they said that they'd be calling CPS to investigate me for neglect. When we asked them what on Earth they would investigate us for we were told that they could say whatever they wish (that we beat our kids, don't feed them, etc) and that they would take the kids while they investigate which would be how they'd get back at us for trying to cut them out. Even though I knew that it was crazy, and that no police officer would look at my perfectly healthy and happy children and believe them, I was still afraid. My anxiety got the best of me and my depression got worse. After weeks of being controlled through fear we ended up completely cutting them off. In the months that followed I was a paranoid wreck. In my brain every car door was CPS outside ready to take my kids away. Every time my kids screamed, or knocked something over, or giggled a little too loud I was sent into a tailspin. ""Shut up! What if the neighbors hear all this and call the police!!! What if they think I'm in here beating you guys!!!!!"" was my response to my kids innocently wrestling with each other. Every time they'd get hurt goofing off I would get angry instead of concerned, ""What if someone sees this and thinks that I did it to you!!!! What is the doctor going to think if we have to go to the hospital for this?!?!?!"". We bought baby gates and kept my kids holed up in their rooms (to avoid any unnecessary fighting/dangerous goofing off, or playful yelling that could be confused for scared yelling), stopped going outside (my husbands family lives in our city and I'm terrified of them seeing us and calling CPS just for the hell of it), and our house became a prison. No more painting (what if CPS comes over and sees a huge mess?), no more walks (What if my husbands nieces and nephews are at the park when they go?!), and no more fun (fun leads to noise, noise leads to complaints, complaints leads to police). The stress turned me into an angry, depressed mess, and eventually I completely stopped tending to the house. I literally BECAME the person I said I wasn't, all to avoid LOOKING like that person. My kids are still little, but I can already see what the stress of living with someone like me has done to them. My older child (barely school age) is bossy (because she literally sees another kid probably once every two months and is terribly unsocialized), aggressive and frustrated (all I do is yell at her to be quiet and keep her holed up in the house), and sad (she has, on more than one occasion, seen me break down emotionally and beg god to kill me). My youngest is just now getting a personality and has quickly gone from being a sweet, cuddly girl to the spitting image of her older sister. I hate myself for ruining them and often think of what they would be like if I'd died during childbirth and my husband had gotten the opportunity to find a fitting mother for them. More and more these days I wonder if I killed myself right now if they could fix what I've done to them. I don't know how to fix myself, let alone help them :( I know that medication for me would be good, but I'm scared that if I go to the doctor and tell them about my depression/anxiety that they'll take my kids away anyways :( I feel like I dug myself into a deep deep hole, and I don't know what to do anymore :( I know that kids in abusive situations can be healed (i have very close family members who work in CPS and a few who foster children, ironic given the situation) but I feel like I need to be removed from the situation for that to happen... Is there any scenario here that doesn't include me jumping off a bridge in the middle of the night? It doesn't feel like it.... Anyways, sorry for dumping this on whoever actually decides to read it, I'm sorry if this is cringey but I haven't spoken to an adult other that my husband for weeks and I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. please dear God someone help me",6.581981118560544,6.5085892590252765,6.679336427711881,78.49995387083834,65.25451263537907,9.41759211506504,31.84722938513552,8.976282227363876,2.5325914102343705,4521,158,859,66,63,1447,427,1108,0.183,0.72,0.09699999999999999,-0.9988,3,3,1,0,4,1,169.0,16,3,36,12,34,63,9,11,51,0,88,15,3,7,10,160,175,75,3,27,26,11,4,12,1,11,6,11,7,24,66,65,6,11,21,4,1,23,20,33,0,7,51,24,150,30,130,93,16,142,2,8,8,0,127,61,1,18,65,607,216,9,0.0,0.1024842337665374,0.04220406377504169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04479215505872313,0.047725531082901465,0.03458561843076875,0.07197203484285625,0.0,0.0,0.05882060060013174,0.04534957219536472,0.09925440310521552,0.0,0.042890653428018816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086257127644526,0.0,0.08126632908591863,0.03325524289762386,0.0,0.05272747657433683,0.0,0.03680108444327456,0.09745195958749453,0.045386381365073135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04827936196366831,0.17664523834844914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450909420497832,0.13603493543237566,0.0,0.048506601813038376,0.1035906510004034,0.0,0.0,0.05578310058261946,0.0,0.14899865416306493,0.0,0.044884866553260634,0.0,0.0,0.08853285475815126,0.0,0.08851597227682326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04864847219438332,0.07661024437540312,0.0,0.048233242805860166,0.05713013657386954,0.0,0.2186311493681928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308244464338814,0.048666316983306944,0.08747048023363814,0.1235862642495755,0.0,0.0,0.039528126741945904,0.03678694843053512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557258715635145,0.0,0.12289491596997268,0.03627458914821144,0.20753750915840985,0.0,0.0,0.04282257754284852,0.03824429407884553,0.0920771553577462,0.0,0.04269870369426173,0.0,0.0,0.04874393296030776,0.0,0.05797679498265911,0.0,0.0433815316973076,0.0,0.0,0.19961074475144985,0.04629815752654249,0.0,0.0,0.04513994788617124,0.04291722539656588,0.03844104121896905,0.09569558533173714,0.09007281652743844,0.1188405651161153,0.0,0.04878592179477099,0.0,0.0,0.08844855338399961,0.0,0.2535469872983541,0.08669223782949645,0.11456701954325353,0.0,0.0726352932161203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040922549942944315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043568072674891566,0.04358407465354228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904069810491792,0.0,0.0,0.03206803728835552,0.10006717439281566,0.0,0.0,0.08117112583816627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605798614053163,0.11722456280878407,0.06578450215805287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132881391554898,0.0,0.04747360300416815,0.0,0.0,0.08283975759236585,0.0,0.04662893976734332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04325996426121423,0.0,0.08311782965614357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03693377830570778,0.0822779992939874,0.06878550548201745,0.08659810729682219,0.04376954871012246,0.17231632190473872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583857106464793,0.04327949404429909,0.0,0.10993233275341643,0.033294623980817416,0.0,0.09682577406040728,0.15305670749076106,0.046096891507550745,0.1036143505057689,0.10847244734127698,0.0990814729483898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04076097385713673,0.0,0.09755192912891343,0.03476131370967475,0.03780088606779442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746444534349755,0.13855869573807425,0.04249119652257181,0.0,0.050436817177234416,0.0,0.0,0.041325566431452056,0.0,0.02936273010295814,0.04704168855574322,0.042247266454254126,0.0,0.1560669976959606,0.0,0.0,0.1427373775003685,0.025508944665587324,0.03432845627716187,0.06938229202547043,0.0,0.0,0.040091570924711835,0.0,0.0,0.04973336540107219,0.0,0.04690089384680191,0.031485248850361656,0.0,0.04407367242263065,0.2765009117258495,0.0,0.0,0.027850461920054824
parenting,hschlink,2020/03/22,Life Lessons for 14 Year Olds While my kids and I are home from school/work I’d like to teach them some practical life lessons. Last week I taught them how to fry their own eggs. Next week I was thinking about teaching them about checking accounts and have them practice email by sending their grandparents daily emails. What other ideas do you have?,4.493282051282055,7.068029123076926,2.6134615384615394,95.62070512820513,73.15384615384616,5.564102564102565,26.21794871794872,6.42735559955562,0.7601794871794869,283,10,55,2,6,77,51,65,0.0,0.9590000000000001,0.040999999999999995,0.3612,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,6,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,0,8,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,2,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,11,1,7,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,8,31,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285262876706409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210377763355337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23181297823504854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40174123241136894,0.1389368934719993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30244830058519045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984158239116995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878143506852189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222340517950966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.456235440319831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207036780617609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313560112056196
parenting,Murka-Lurka,2020/03/22,"Day 2 of home schooling due to social distancing Home Economics 
What do you mean you don’t want to eat that? The shops are frigging bare and I cannot buy you anything different.

Mathematics 
So let’s go through the odd and even numbers. Four is an even number, yes it is. No I am not going to change the rules of maths just to suit your belief that four is an odd number. It doesn’t become an odd number just because you say it is.

Physical Education 
Yes, Mummy scores a goal. What do you mean the video referee disallowed it? 

Social Interaction 
Let’s go to the park and maybe you will see a friend there and have an age appropriate conversation. Poo poo head is never age appropriate.

How long is this going to last?",2.243617021276595,4.737821304964541,3.72564539007092,85.09400000000002,80.63120567375888,7.164255319148936,22.16595744680852,8.238735603445708,1.3785948936170214,568,18,113,12,15,187,86,141,0.063,0.8370000000000001,0.1,0.5007,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,7,0,1,7,1,0,0,11,2,17,2,1,1,1,13,25,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,9,4,1,0,3,2,2,4,6,0,0,2,0,2,9,1,9,22,0,11,1,0,1,0,13,0,0,0,7,71,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347294995815626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980359203897388,0.18081841294764234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319648038845187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558733652591494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710549528275203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752878214546515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21627406484020806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649143977508862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721886152420453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802630960106385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32845362401819866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345552298085425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33483428041274993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488907993836242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448105212533334,0.3566831544051854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627272785076749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019854112766666,0.0,0.16569570428944808,0.1304654727315924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337885255169416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096567652091591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,compoface,2020/03/22,"A small victory I have 3 very fussy kids when it comes to food. My oldest (12) is the worst. I made spaghetti with mediterranean veg and salmon. As the fish was mixed in with the veg and sauce I told them it was tuna, which they all like. My eldest said ""I don't know what you've done to this tuna mum, but it is amazing "", eyes lit up and all. I admitted that it was salmon and said ""if I told you it was salmon you would have said you hate it without even trying it "". 

It may be a small victory but feels much bigger.",2.4508486238532114,3.335369440366975,3.25586009174312,95.9872763761468,74.77981651376146,6.55091743119266,20.04701834862385,6.6274283507984215,-0.11139541284403708,395,7,96,3,8,125,69,109,0.068,0.856,0.076,-0.0129,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,2,0,2,4,1,0,5,0,13,2,1,1,2,19,24,9,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,12,7,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,11,6,13,2,8,10,4,8,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,2,3,64,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679638277665467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22191201779721112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322685000272173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964547000417553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622149107556049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21409368841333626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917464802217713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594156457589952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518795416595595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940911138185365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6188197352635416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144174027591823,0.0,0.14722637096058802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789232984818195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20903488841112464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404344841970485,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,floatinguponthesea,2020/03/22,"Child can't sleep and I haven't slept well for years now I (29f) have 3 kids, the older two sleep fine, but my toddler (4f) will not sleep. She refused to sleep in her toddler bed after her crib was gone no matter how many times I would sleep on the floor next to her to assure her I would be close by. She refuses to sleep in her normal sized bed now that her toddler bed is gone. It usually went; I would sit with her in a dark room until she falls asleep then carry her to bed and go to bed myself. This would take hours sometimes. But then barely an hour later she is awake and comes running to my room and crawling into my bed. I would do it again, and put her in her bed sometimes twice or three times a night. 

I have very busy days and at a certain point I just cannot stay awake and go through it again. So she ends up sleeping in my bed. She's four now and I am so tired and just want her to sleep the whole night in her bed. I never had this problem with my older two (8f) (6m). I kept hoping as she grew older she would just be more comfortable in her own bed. Sometimes I want to cry because I just want to put the kids to bed and crawl into my bed and sleep. My sister told me to use these melatonin tablets? But I really don't want to give her any kind of sleep aid. I dislike pills and tablets won't use them unless they are medically necessary for health reasons. I'm tired all day because I don't sleep all night. (No help from husband/her father as he's no longer in the picture). Any advice for a mother who just wants some rest?",3.2718181818181837,3.768068137614684,3.919356408117874,93.43648248540451,72.51681957186545,6.679399499582987,23.12051709758132,6.1124844417494595,0.2261633027522936,1199,27,281,6,22,380,164,327,0.08800000000000001,0.826,0.086,-0.7755,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,2,0,14,8,0,0,10,0,24,18,13,4,5,57,44,25,0,14,11,3,0,0,0,8,5,0,14,3,8,18,0,3,1,0,0,11,11,1,1,5,8,0,49,7,40,26,7,58,0,0,0,0,37,18,0,3,27,180,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640823157419465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242818167730983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828537066006767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854020551920466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464918957345835,0.08765518377183065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019103437594791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519195805665548,0.07724473061885002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223667704701511,0.0,0.0,0.045551130769254336,0.0,0.0,0.06749809584576875,0.1338508099601744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076829006542336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889922333378984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846101018077834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05241376252734998,0.0,0.0722746051360652,0.19132326487767126,0.06658487286578874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424272144117253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502707898491529,0.0,0.1366340677043378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04353593685262101,0.06987262690239099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7480830503899213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016379972506867,0.0,0.0,0.07243468817980071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051096312836578256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925426217549103,0.15621653119141188,0.0,0.06493723156637461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327711032993013,0.0,0.0,0.11738859904543986,0.07484665497064935,0.05607285596008208,0.2004183354039119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110282712929053,0.06299818368651135,0.0,0.0758732062028303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896544888717258,0.0,0.0,0.04376302737272733
parenting,AbsurdGirl,2020/03/22,"I'm burnt out Single mom, works part time at a grocery store (used to be a break/escape now it's hell), anxiety through the roof, kid is hitting the terrible 2s and my pms is off the charts. Oh and if I go to my mom's house my step dad will scream at my kid for touching a kitchen cabinet, so, I'm basically not allowed to even see my family during this time to get a small break. 

I struggled with burn out before this but always had mom groups/playdates to help keep my spirits up. When spring really hits we can go out in nature - lots of isolated parks close by etc- but today we could only play in the yard 1hr because it was too cold. 

I feel like every other word I say is snapping at my son and I can't stop reading coronavirus headlines it's like a damn obsession and I feel like a terrible, rude and detatched parent. I hate myself and wish I was a better person and could handle this gracefully for my son but christ I need some way to vent this frustration to get over it each day is worse than the last and I'm just an utter failure as a mom wheras I used to be pretty damn great but now I can hardly read our favorite stories without getting upset or bored or distant and I can't force myself to just focus anymore I feel pushed wayyyy beyond my capacity and I just stare at my phone feeling hopeless. 

I'm so fucking stressed about work and money and child support stopping and I don't know what the fuck to do and at the same time I know I'm setting a pisspoor example as I freak out over nothing but I can't help it I am out of control with panic and anxiety and feeling like nothing I do is good enough I just lay on the floor and try to interact with my kid but really wishing I could sleep and all the stress would just go away.

Sorry for the rant parents, I hope no one else is going through this, but if you are, please let me know I'm not alone...",4.497920962199316,4.645810046391754,5.373762886597941,85.32995704467356,69.67010309278349,8.219243986254298,29.053264604811,7.937092434478242,1.7093553264604813,1470,50,313,17,24,482,213,388,0.196,0.647,0.158,-0.9451,3,1,0,0,1,1,25.0,3,1,0,4,15,31,8,6,20,0,27,5,1,4,1,77,62,34,0,10,19,9,7,4,0,2,1,2,2,5,12,30,1,4,8,4,2,6,8,20,0,1,3,12,41,11,46,49,9,43,3,1,2,2,23,22,5,7,16,200,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910197208961908,0.0,0.0,0.07158452447079107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316266660781472,0.0,0.08531944488133318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082877656306424,0.0,0.0,0.052443582363064484,0.0,0.07320588157978747,0.0,0.0,0.07608725891407349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649086710030733,0.20606580063144056,0.0,0.0,0.05548275434245942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186770128398902,0.0,0.0,0.0888928226831127,0.09594709271400892,0.05682253764981227,0.0,0.07248466665419011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110218972424814,0.0,0.21749880861462886,0.18438128038363027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590681923845698,0.13484263997887475,0.0,0.1955731642446183,0.0721585604802662,0.0,0.0948492701057822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706670625860855,0.08493761239755535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532927499509595,0.0,0.0,0.08544800453885022,0.0,0.09926800231153453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646813548707419,0.0,0.0,0.14184084738332098,0.0701265913206728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797233047456962,0.0,0.1681212298302916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731403169106013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.403032972654793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379075442317797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509776207221485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05829670234616205,0.06543030657412853,0.0,0.10093861742187378,0.19105406359742427,0.0931629819831716,0.0,0.0,0.07511878363434925,0.0,0.09443599318508944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752426089607214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210817935182013,0.0,0.11022707776189973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841515195678746,0.0,0.0,0.06855541594197867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609293893835485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630444668910856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438512162501677,0.19709600097766405,0.08993808035344905,0.0,0.0,0.09762674199425174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049576886365834,0.0,0.0815471471560168,0.0,0.0,0.058409271772675776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486059927818364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828725139653014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978623680901092,0.08293062939413752,0.0,0.1252629064451898,0.0,0.08767274369674402,0.06111381802622385,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2tinymonkeys,2020/03/22,"How do you deal with your angry kindergartner because of schools closing? So dear Reddit parents, I need some advice.. my 4 y/o started kindergarten beginning of February. She was so ready for it and so done with preschool! It all went pretty well even though she had a rocky start. 
Halfway the first week she got bad cold, the next week was vacation, after that she had one full week and after that I went to the hospital myself. We had to drop them off at grandparents, all distances were all too big for my husband to take care of the kids and also for our kindergartner to go to school the rest of the week. Then another full week of school and after that, covid19 intervened.. schools are closed and everyone is adviced to stay home and keep a distance from people including friends!

All and all we now have a very upset kindergartner in our house with lots of screaming, not listening, getting upset and angry at everything and everyone especially her 1 y/o sister. How do you deal with this??? Nothing seen to work so far and we're going nuts.",6.038902772354548,7.0794061116751275,5.773807106598983,80.65790706755176,66.56345177664974,9.310269426005467,32.412729402577106,9.466822959209583,2.9291291682936347,832,34,153,16,13,258,122,197,0.114,0.804,0.08199999999999999,-0.7715,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,3,1,2,12,8,0,2,9,0,12,0,0,2,5,30,27,19,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,6,18,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,4,1,2,11,4,18,4,28,16,10,31,0,0,1,0,21,10,0,2,15,109,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277346137595007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318534860755967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221870790799338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729387130675027,0.07103282388331288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880544742598405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24026521461093694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924597720384784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696395111873088,0.0,0.0,0.2226900942672621,0.1047255477539182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991164758429777,0.0,0.0,0.09002726235326114,0.0,0.06087973059805218,0.0,0.13244818056016594,0.0,0.09319603550814767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688451263161792,0.0,0.0,0.13445470747264746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357316102349594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906575820685122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640213387704368,0.0,0.0,0.12392612252362815,0.0,0.0,0.11180929799586116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896065074397539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938770618066228,0.0,0.0,0.08078406500106226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185482594744798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717198465729637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649546058897503,0.1242006099574173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876126256680393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448564867024615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961456877540431,0.0,0.0,0.4673483779484104,0.0,0.104770360586667,0.21604049210930565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483190479851438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rahul_222,2020/03/22,"The best child stories book The most children like the stories so I have to show you a book that helps you to tell stories to your child

The link for the book is :- https://amzn.to/2wkxZ0x",3.265285714285717,6.1851497428571465,1.6453571428571436,98.85089285714287,80.14285714285714,4.642857142857143,23.035714285714285,5.985473137389443,0.19085714285714328,151,5,30,1,4,41,23,35,0.0,0.764,0.23600000000000002,0.8617,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,1,20,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6567681637483126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194795006291866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057480832051282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5470014965746874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jn928,2020/03/22,"HELP my sister in law scares me with her parenting style. My sister in law just moved in with my mother a couple months ago. Her husband isn’t living with her at the moment as he works in another state. 
First of all she sleeps all day. She doesn’t wake up until 2/3 PM.
When she is awake, she is very absent. She lets the children roam free around the house. They destroy everything in their path. They are 3 and 4. Every time I come over there is giant mess because the mother is asleep and the children have destroyed the house. My mother is a very clean person and this has made her cry almost every night because she is exhausted from having to clean their messes. 
They spill food on the carpet. They pour water all over. They open the refrigerator and pour out things from there. Their room is cleaned every day but when we come home it is always a mess again. Toys everywhere, blankets everywhere, crayon on the walls, etc. 
When the mother is awake she rewards their bad behavior. She allows them to do whatever they want or they will scream in her face. 
She also has a 4 month old baby and the children treat her like a doll. They pick her up and run around with her and no one can be home to watch them because we all work full time. 
We’re terrified the children are learning bad habits from their mother. Their mothers room is covered in garbage and dirty diapers. 
She won’t send them to preschool because she is worried they will get hurt, but they are children sometimes kids get hurt. They will be taken care of in preschool and given all the attention they need! I think they would learn so much and they need to get out of the house. 
I don’t know what to do or what to tell my mother to do. 
Any advice appreciated!!",3.6654535820262812,5.556919367952523,3.7051155150487496,89.93566394658754,73.42136498516321,6.357312420517169,22.71820686731666,7.021680442328713,0.6106355235269185,1365,36,274,13,28,417,171,337,0.14,0.782,0.078,-0.9762,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,23,4,11,17,2,1,19,0,33,7,4,3,5,48,47,21,0,4,5,11,0,1,0,5,1,1,8,7,5,23,2,0,5,1,1,5,5,12,0,2,3,2,53,6,39,36,8,47,0,2,1,0,66,25,0,3,17,183,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502701494725313,0.09527344907566354,0.0,0.10762446781373186,0.0,0.0,0.08595073747907912,0.0894309506854172,0.0,0.0,0.07308925255541993,0.11270086675925027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135779301928454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948057534725784,0.2620722544572631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958177412416624,0.0,0.0,0.18516689555907184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892322017909543,0.11806038744417542,0.13862983666298487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986724477602526,0.0,0.0,0.2716665101957118,0.0,0.09659499263406264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142139104837936,0.1299637612682469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684596716314396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720407572790388,0.0,0.21561994907330945,0.0,0.0,0.37204822767182455,0.2301165029790941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059067523887752514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990432927388727,0.0,0.05250870046730348,0.0,0.0949057273640491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169901556513324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715770654807475,0.11423292843785525,0.07900926623857821,0.15938829950131386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086154945823894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278089441118068,0.0,0.07283039946391431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934246030230697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384632061770784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760500352702304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755639481408098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629925662916027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394118660602364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140412229416457,0.06886805917127622,0.0,0.0,0.12534347596410542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773624908073343,0.06339376613169667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649165642753904,0.1091499130834871,0.0,0.07634983799230073,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thenewmook,2020/03/22,"Separated parents, how are you all handling visitation right now? My ex had to work this week (she’s a principle) when other schools were closed.  I offered to move my schedule around to watch our 5 year old during the daytime.  She dropped him off and picked him up with no issues.  

Last night she informed me she wanted our child to skip my Wednesday with him because of the virus and restrictions (I’m in NYC).  I told her she could just drive him over (13 minutes) and pick him up like last week.  She then berated me and tried to come up with every excuse she could not to (she’s a narcissist).  In the end I held my ground and she gave in begrudgingly.

Have anyone else been having difficulties?",3.3799751243781064,5.5516671716417925,3.8232089552238833,87.54113184079603,75.044776119403,6.854726368159205,25.345771144278608,7.793537801064563,1.3263950248756218,547,19,109,8,12,171,92,134,0.037000000000000005,0.934,0.028999999999999998,-0.2406,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,1,23,14,8,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,11,0,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,6,1,27,1,19,6,1,30,0,0,1,0,27,12,0,0,14,74,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442049998989526,0.21131314427862988,0.0,0.1835937562614454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571954569643626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765404457572714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32932531394222997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722837065767207,0.0,0.18266387364451214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376271702103285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152567924622564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362197166867783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075648765689764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191962197069986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935385064304278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164099795756677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290006612500477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612440917403702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087218329675524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970673271301109,0.0,0.14002069997590808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164333068478556,0.0,0.33086014349736864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014225746328516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328092162760295
parenting,parkinglotguy,2020/03/22,"My daughter is 4 and has suddenly developed a fear of our front room.  It's her play area and brightly lit in the day time. But she refuses to go in there, and screams at the mention of it. She refuses to tell us what she's afraid of and will only pass through with her eyes shut tight, which presents an issue going up the stairs and leaving the house. Not sure what to do. Very afraid of her having something wrong with her, and not sure what to do next.",4.3496774193548395,4.798155956989248,4.41198924731183,91.03798387096776,70.07526881720429,7.920430107526883,28.403225806451612,7.793537801064563,1.4095032258064517,356,12,80,4,6,110,63,93,0.125,0.826,0.049,-0.7596,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,1,9,0,3,6,0,6,1,1,0,2,16,8,7,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,8,0,3,0,1,0,4,2,5,0,0,0,5,10,4,15,7,0,17,0,0,3,0,14,8,0,0,5,53,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735084998148802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27455219458266555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773258464919941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815272011059983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546580987368839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25834605100276803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594819852260921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556242342333734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783241980019905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599080234340389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132546054521064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227025694716375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29348523698674583,0.0,0.0,0.20131408472487636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26676049868208085,0.0,0.0
parenting,gplrn,2020/03/22,"Birth control Birth control missed


(F17)

Hello,

I’ve missed 3 pills consecutively in my second week of the pack on birth control ED pills while on holiday. I’m now bleeding heavily with bad cramping (endometriosis could differ the severity of the cramping as per normal) 
I had unprotected sex following. 
Curious about chance of pregnancy? 
Also 2nd day of missing the pill, I had ovulation like clear mucus which I normally don’t until period. 

Just looking for advice, no hate pls 


Thanks heaps xx",5.112643678160918,8.239825091954025,5.812183908045977,70.60954022988507,73.9425287356322,9.383908045977012,31.50574712643678,9.725611199111238,4.025174712643679,401,19,59,12,9,130,68,87,0.184,0.655,0.162,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,3,4,7,1,0,4,0,4,7,0,3,1,9,12,4,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,1,2,1,4,2,12,9,0,13,0,3,1,1,1,3,0,0,10,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19829806133536965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228076767683525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169435693076645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.68280015828297,0.1620208160812978,0.0,0.0,0.13087122331009288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120156797808176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034854742241764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913995471674808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17040769658549118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976510408591795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292499173646172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18682805460447696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277591848776776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OVERHEAD1,2020/03/22,"(GTA Ontario) Baby Formula free I have for anyone in need the following I will drop it off outside your house (within reason) lathered in hand sanitizer.
1 Similac Advanced
2 Nestle Good Start 1 Probiotic Pro

Stay safe people.

Ps very informative for teaching your kids
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parenting,agrees2retards,2020/03/22,"Do babies have nightmares? I have a 6 month old baby. When she is sleeping, sometimes she will start whining in her sleep then wake up crying.

If I'm holding her I'll try to calm her down before she wakes up crying. But it doesn't work.",0.4359863945578226,2.775701204081635,1.8031632653061216,96.68052721088438,87.9795918367347,3.2666666666666666,18.37074829931973,3.1291,-0.7887170068027212,185,5,39,0,6,59,40,49,0.16399999999999998,0.789,0.047,-0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,4,4,0,0,3,8,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,5,7,0,9,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,5,24,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293562878605459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5921478715605266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514200557123064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28283392941536506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5394636731308124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26657916310492713,0.0,0.1907798033307889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299805236028385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962262772396149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teal_heart,2020/03/22,"Been bonding with my 7 year old... I work many hours and go to school. I'm a single mom with no help from  my daughter's father. Even when I'm home I'm usually busy cleaning, cooking, studying, or preparing things for the next day. She's usually asleep by the time I done.I love my daughter dearly but I must admit I spend little time with her. I was sent to work from home due to the whole situation. She has been out of school as well. So, we've been watching movies, gaming, face painting, dancing, doing each other's hair & nails, cooking, hide and seek, board games, etc. & the biggest thing for me is the talking. Before, I saw my daughter as a quiet and shy girl. Then, realized that it's often her not wanting to disturb me. I had learned so many things about her that I didn't know. She told me about she had joined the music club at school, she can sing well and play a few songs on the piano, she likes a boy named Giovanni, and a few other things. I've been feeling quite shitty bc all of this had to happen in order for me to bond with my kid.",2.7505096232041204,4.1000902857142885,3.689617782596908,91.34518297641635,74.71428571428572,6.211873136351316,23.36378422336677,6.522977012572876,0.486678178368122,820,23,178,6,17,263,134,217,0.053,0.8290000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.8956,0,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,0,0,0,3,9,7,0,1,12,0,14,6,3,0,2,24,27,13,0,2,3,5,2,1,0,1,0,2,3,3,10,11,2,0,5,9,1,3,3,1,2,0,12,6,26,6,26,14,7,22,0,0,2,1,26,6,0,2,13,112,36,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815197105865665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054574581162024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837826459583754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132945323753501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488648580738234,0.08580580778282333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568753081741881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738321185251909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488096277438742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707743451153548,0.0,0.2606251336599252,0.0,0.12793738532710705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139636835259754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346855722958687,0.1302061913652579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725086665505348,0.0,0.0,0.2634212370329683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521516426936245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816313863783866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632103989694505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817765602906013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944343607691792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146026798307106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441853569154692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452316726122425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515057410826018,0.0,0.0,0.12413671040847278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28615995197262145,0.0,0.07662560371750253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336134070863404,0.0,0.0,0.1450423739813416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891553126154556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365922175190779
parenting,Commercial_Relief,2020/03/22,"If your kid has/had a male elementary school teacher, what was their experience? I already noticed fundamental differences, for better or worse, compared with female teachers. My 8yo's 3rd grade teacher is male and he is more of a man-child (do not mean that in a disrespectful way) whereas his female teachers were more structured. I wanted to see if this is just me.",7.6127611940298525,8.233928447761194,7.497723880597018,71.14121268656717,63.02985074626866,9.685074626865672,37.6455223880597,9.516144504307137,3.68828656716418,294,14,49,5,4,94,56,67,0.049,0.905,0.046,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,9,4,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,1,5,7,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,3,0,32,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454104128165721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768287783173039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270251314358425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061803798268233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34095579672551946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563599301363368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167792488782785,0.2494256241203912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846193202575452,0.2484499592776299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189803243760512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fernaxton,2020/03/22,"Screaming Child For those who have gone through a screaming phase, I need your help. 

Our 3 year old goes to a sitter who cares for other children. One of those children screams so loud and often, that when I used to stop over I was glad it wasn't mine. But now she's started modeling his behavior, and I really would love any advice to help us through this period. She just turned 3, and I swear I don't know this child anymore! Please tell me it's a phase.",4.5016129032258085,4.987828569892471,4.538870967741938,90.12830645161293,69.75268817204301,7.920430107526883,27.32795698924731,7.793537801064563,1.305202150537634,359,11,79,4,6,111,66,93,0.111,0.6990000000000001,0.19,0.8648,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,0,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,0,11,13,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,10,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,3,4,14,3,9,9,0,9,0,0,0,1,16,1,0,1,7,51,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417515367538161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682370877086674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24534936906562285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522356967684114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316473154999782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359618254339464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22328365198358613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344026231904206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25959944262022355,0.0,0.1676412587907801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27156542541120554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848757584184872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751074586781105,0.0,0.0,0.20683330274470035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21623413973908426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26909472541151386,0.0,0.0,0.29758573143782685,0.21366985344961575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574231424946676,0.0,0.0,0.1593142727876421
parenting,thebiscuitsngravy,2020/03/22,Workout Timing? I'm struggling to find time to work out in the weekdays. I'm the only driver (one car) and I drive my son to daycare and then my partner to work and pick them up again at the end of the day (partner is working from home now) but I'm still going to work. In the evenings I find it very rushed between feeding my 2YO and then getting him ready for bed and getting to sleep around 7:30-8pm. Usually my partner and I eat after my son is asleep and I obviously don't want to workout after I eat...and I barely get enough sleep as it is so mornings are tough. What do other people do?? I honestly don't know how other people manage it - it AMAZES me! Tips for a tired mom!?,1.5779469122426877,3.3950166971831024,3.2122535211267587,91.48751354279524,79.21126760563381,5.214301191765982,23.599133261105088,5.8734145424116955,0.4020426868905744,529,18,113,3,13,175,85,142,0.064,0.8370000000000001,0.099,0.8387,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,4,7,4,0,1,6,0,8,6,3,2,1,17,17,13,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,3,7,9,2,0,3,2,0,4,2,2,0,1,0,0,15,2,21,17,1,22,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,12,75,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331207881721506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382294739499402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32945867389252864,0.0,0.0,0.14258621856138526,0.1663420456067473,0.0,0.10633003727343464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942774123696079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25232633965353096,0.0,0.0914923140707467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614825435044806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847394721035719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18854539403410855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908859036861783,0.1224374557101873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232154799176366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222054411828982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856399339072336,0.0,0.0,0.168297999910164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877449966699949,0.18503025151749872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17730383959804694,0.13283068779559287,0.09495398400074813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4688002353354872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babybumpsally,2020/03/22,"Early crawling & standing - EXHAUSTED My babe starting sitting on his own, pulling to stand and crawling all at the same time around 5.5 months.

Now 6 months and I am EXHAUSTED. I thought parenting was hard before, but I didn't expect this.

I am SO proud of his skills & I love him no matter what. But I am struggling.

He moves NON STOP. He has no sense of his surroundings really so everyday is just a battle to ensure he doesn't injure himself or crack his head open.

Anyone else feeling this?",2.7006250000000023,5.249076145833332,3.395666666666667,87.81600000000002,79.20833333333334,6.34,25.225,7.554174236665415,1.4454325000000001,394,15,74,6,10,124,72,96,0.195,0.647,0.158,-0.3057,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,5,6,1,1,2,0,8,5,1,0,1,15,12,7,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,2,13,2,7,9,3,18,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,1,8,47,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850464559844055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650940964191015,0.2293436114129102,0.0,0.19925904390662025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19046560583043576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698395496783654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317681436574968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20051062264585776,0.0,0.2297174857848837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201824310502686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573231221427382,0.2378993167096833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485403302587731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433933086507319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843032323449469,0.0,0.0,0.1871346158345981,0.0,0.2339991076137221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769859451781309,0.13051896547543834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Clabla,2020/03/22,"Dissapointing mothers day OK so maybe I sound selfish being dissapointed with my husband for getting me nothing. This is the 5th year in a row. If I mention mother's day is coming up, he will run to the shop and get me a card, and act so hard done by even having to do that, he got up with the kids for a few hours this morning then kicked me out of bed because he wanted to go back for a few hours.... Its like this with anything, my birthday, Christmas. On these occasions for him he has a wishlist a mile long, but I am just expected to accept so little. I just feel like crying, I do so much, I don't ask for much, just to have some sort of effort made on days like this. His excuse sometimes is that he doesn't believe in all these 'commercial' holidays but what's the harm in making your loved one feel appreciated? Any other dissapointed mamma's out there? 😂",5.460228571428573,5.154320422857143,6.473857142857145,79.81764285714289,67.62857142857143,8.828571428571427,30.07142857142857,8.238735603445708,1.9500857142857144,674,22,140,8,10,226,112,175,0.068,0.778,0.155,0.9443,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,1,10,8,0,0,10,1,14,1,0,2,1,24,26,10,0,3,6,3,3,3,0,1,0,1,1,1,11,8,0,0,3,2,1,4,2,2,0,1,3,4,14,6,25,21,6,24,0,0,0,1,16,11,0,3,12,97,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007673315702867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530579035240868,0.0,0.1650733466589456,0.0,0.0,0.1357749117400617,0.0,0.10763819257306163,0.0,0.0,0.1989390252331241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210331977812305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19395882628298167,0.34162788623324025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069704618410934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662580957375968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856277234456186,0.1261448771583699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845058047156897,0.0,0.10035137268726782,0.0,0.1412227793949283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817609315487946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34778068114663824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587961838706967,0.17697406354968093,0.0,0.15626289965644727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936540427987114,0.16707908656046935,0.11786486769837907,0.0,0.1773928453033307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596051881052892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942802061350407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965146907908475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17463672190889948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414823073806832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370820597390915
parenting,yesitsa__throwaway,2020/03/22,"This pandemic is making me regret & resent my newborn son. I'd have never gotten pregnant in the first place if I knew COVID19 would happen. I have a 4 day old son that I regret ever having now that the pandemic has happened.

I was forced to have a natural delivery that I did not want (I had a planned C-Section booked) and despite my severe Tokophobia so they did not have to keep me overnight and could send me home a few hours after the birth. I was forced to give birth on my own as no one else was allowed in the room and the entire experience was traumatic for me as I had to give birth in a way I was terrified of and all on my own. 

I resent my son because i was put through that traumatic birth for him. I keep looking at him and feeling angry. I had tearing and am worried things will never be normal down there again.

I am going to have to go out frequently for formula and nappies and painkillers for me because of restrictions on these items to prevent hoarding. It is hard to get these things delivered because of shortages. If I didn't have my son, I'd only have to go out once a fortnight to the store at most. 

My mother was going to move in with us for the first month to help us transition and to give us some sleep, but she can't because she is stuck in quarantine since the day before my son because her stupid fucking co-worker ignored the orders to self isolate and and my mother was exposed to her. MIL wanted to come and help but because of travel restrictions, she had to cancel he flight, so now I am stuck doing it all alone. My husband is a doctor and won't come near my son and I just in case, so I am all alone and would have never gotten pregnant if I knew this would happen.

I don't feel anything when I hold my son. I just think what a huge mistake I made having him right now, and if I knew this would happen, I'd have not gotten pregnant. I will never hut him, but I wish I could give him back or hit a reset button to have never gotten pregnant because I resent what has happened, everything has fallen apart. I just wish I didn't have to worry about this child I am stuck with and don't want now in this world. I feel horrible but I'm just so depressed and angry.

I can't even talk to anyone about it because doctors have had to cut back on non essential health services and the baby blues is not essential apparently. 

I wish I knew this pandemic would have happened so I could have not gotten pregnant. But by the time I realised just how bad it was, it was too late because I was full term and then it went from bad to worse.",6.058314285714285,5.2334347219047626,6.534309523809526,81.61060714285716,66.54285714285714,9.176190476190476,31.702380952380953,8.192908349453996,2.1659238095238096,2019,68,415,22,28,659,216,525,0.175,0.774,0.051,-0.9957,2,3,0,0,0,0,38.0,3,0,1,3,25,13,6,0,20,0,66,5,1,4,9,94,114,40,0,22,20,10,4,0,0,8,3,0,2,3,22,26,0,7,8,2,1,12,18,13,0,3,34,6,69,0,58,67,11,69,0,3,2,1,36,24,1,7,31,313,91,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399129455066353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531850252435553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860587772474559,0.0,0.05720418451765149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690411008686396,0.1160827462876128,0.38137637273410063,0.0,0.05915138245646227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976049060719167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166504066631074,0.0,0.0,0.08966169250408712,0.0,0.059872395822212536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230126179661726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05807011394682478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04591341001757432,0.06287948672791795,0.0,0.0,0.0624747942828847,0.06799813231717293,0.0,0.0,0.10544525877883286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825732251857075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426466891285762,0.03631825019476634,0.26673705058815433,0.15802586878003028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688265549873428,0.0,0.06227098312577992,0.0,0.0,0.07389024181120886,0.0,0.0,0.09318767708884462,0.0,0.06972831403732008,0.0,0.06845738978376861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357465903879995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841493701148074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05837433969488906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577592588337841,0.04640120413380961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554854945234023,0.07388249131632381,0.0,0.0,0.268067811650619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810906257245987,0.0,0.0,0.07294335850379897,0.07403025195011373,0.0471045558364053,0.05286860843539739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262744324437989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698808743358425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936466490520403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251837082214567,0.07853115099501208,0.0,0.057502785078436536,0.0,0.06956430614653716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587280356097785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236416359961062,0.044541830917535566,0.0,0.0,0.04053423299707247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508507238088378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300365857158653,0.0551770600543114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444027073994019,0.0,0.0,0.2398133665506773,0.0,0.0,0.05060709554239745,0.1411898935945661,0.07084081062204392,0.2469041247392011,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,queen_beef,2020/03/22,"5yo stealing constantly The title says it all. My 5yo steals anything not nailed down, with absolutely no regard for consequences. It goes from stealing snacks whenever we aren't looking to stealing and hiding his tablet to stealing Mommy's makeup. This is an every day occurrence at least, if not multiple times a day. We believe in having the punishment fit the crime, so we will do stuff like take away tablet time if he steals his tablet, or make him clean up all the smeared makeup. He doesn't enjoy these consequences and seems surprised and upset every time they happen, and as I've said he just keeps doing it again and again.


Recently he somehow managed to fish his Easter stuff down from way up high in the closet. This includes some candy and decorations and small toys that we didn't think he even knew about, and I found them under his bed this morning. I don't really know what to do. My wife thinks it's probably normal for his age. I'm thinking we should hire a therapist. We are pretty much at a loss here.


I apologise for the slight rant, but what do you think is going on here/is the correct way to handle this situation?",6.0383289646133695,6.870399399082569,5.963591087811272,80.04100917431194,66.47706422018348,8.98086500655308,28.87418086500655,9.04235418022936,2.2653318479685445,911,29,168,15,14,286,137,218,0.128,0.8240000000000001,0.048,-0.9282,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,6,1,2,1,8,12,1,1,11,0,14,1,0,1,3,39,30,14,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,3,0,14,15,1,1,8,1,0,1,7,9,0,0,4,3,20,3,24,24,5,27,0,1,1,0,23,14,0,6,11,110,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256996989204176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435130413370543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209620838011247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506778078159298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970213865907152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088950422565553,0.0,0.2573958286682504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748177668484593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868109749958845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507574462336205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138807345909198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577063956376573,0.0,0.0,0.08394704732385001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462561612399952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827098203037166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196137639834607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228834688511194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966193000213707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540100204501894,0.1646896331015224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785514416987308,0.0,0.15082155405648565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529960989531346,0.1214724130235316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139057270223475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716966679242998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497229186787845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484850035726935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773537670356677,0.0,0.39150245968252334,0.0,0.0,0.2672081208742619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424906462568515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jinjujuju,2020/03/22,"Deadbeat ex I have a deadbeat baby’s dad. Please advise

I have a child with my ex fiancé who still lives with me. Ever since the child was born. I have been the sole provider of every aspect of the child. I don’t make that much money. ~40,000 a year. But I work, I pay rent, I shop for food, I care for the baby, I pay the nanny. While he sits around playing video games and not working. He has 4 other kids from his ex a few times a week for whom I provide shelter, food and other necessities. For the longest time he didn’t even want to touch my beautiful baby.
he doesn’t bathe him let’s him sit in dirty diapers. He is extremely verbally abusive. Threatens me with custody and says I will have to pay him child support. His abuse has gotten me depressed from the stress. I have taken antidepressants and it’s always been mild- moderate depression which has been well controlled with it never ever affecting my baby, my work or my life. The only thing it affects is when I see him being as trashy as he is. 
I moved to this rural area for him and there’s not much scope for job change. I’m 2 hrs away from a major airport. I want custody so I can move a little further out where jobs are plentiful so I can enhance my career. I’m the one provides everything for the child. I want to position my self so I’m not living paycheck to paycheck.
I would let him see the child. I wouldn’t want my child to not know his dad even though he is a deadbeat. But I want to provide the best for my baby.",1.313897058823528,3.5292389967320297,2.8315318627450985,91.79376838235297,82.23529411764707,5.393627450980394,21.654003267973856,6.6274283507984215,0.43280424836601306,1167,37,245,12,32,381,157,306,0.096,0.8140000000000001,0.09,-0.6948,3,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,0,5,14,8,0,1,20,0,28,3,0,4,3,33,44,16,0,7,7,5,1,0,0,3,1,1,2,9,11,11,2,1,1,5,6,2,9,3,1,1,7,4,42,5,30,31,5,23,0,2,2,0,35,8,0,1,11,163,53,10,0.0,0.2689179566243854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944270734761522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102406517642408,0.0,0.0,0.10662115701588888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190935667536379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570363680095645,0.0,0.12005012757143735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272810047257644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548574519565676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499091033272028,0.20530401617847271,0.09561445011543526,0.0,0.1019913396534242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744485559072776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22522903540312264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236737254222963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320884234407412,0.08015650640947615,0.0,0.11373993147771135,0.2004154047883568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575088522437512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412292622257965,0.16684634863495054,0.0,0.08752520289834237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689912081632334,0.086309050903361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457042263262386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024635741404816,0.0,0.0,0.1808627589887197,0.0,0.11838767737504445,0.0,0.0,0.09387443610293507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062779184308103,0.0,0.1299945672878476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287793361439464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539316367203372,0.0,0.1114966207329558,0.0,0.1323458771701157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33467651671871546,0.0,0.09102933940019392,0.0,0.10203498249840083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478512588757077,0.0,0.0,0.0806151752467828,0.0,0.0,0.07307942924809015
parenting,Kudiak72,2020/03/22,"Looking for some guidance on kids sleeping issues Hi all, first time posting here.

I (27M) and my girlfriend (33F) live together with 4 kids between the two of us. Her youngest (4M) has issues sleeping thru the night. On any given night he will wake at least 1-3 times and scream until she comes downstairs. Obviously this is an issue with the other kids and people living downstairs.

He will not talk to me during these episodes and I'm only met with ""I want mommy."" It is frustrating for me, not being able to do anything, and for her feeling that she has to get up constantly with him almost every night.

We thought for a while it was night terrors but that doesn't seem to be the case as far as we can tell. It seems he literally just wants her to sleep with him all night every night.

 I'm starting to feel like we have tried everything. Comforting doesn't work because as soon as she leaves he will start screaming again. We have tried ""let him cry, check on him, repeat"" to try and tire him out. He will go for literally hours on end.

I am frustrated and at a loss. Can anyone help or advise?",3.22072708653354,4.993394700460833,3.848072196620585,88.94607654889916,74.34562211981567,6.4812083973374275,24.49795186891961,7.1686216300943375,0.91990547875064,858,27,175,9,18,271,136,217,0.09300000000000001,0.85,0.055999999999999994,-0.8573,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,0,0,3,4,8,2,1,7,0,20,5,4,0,3,35,37,15,0,2,5,0,2,1,1,4,1,2,0,3,8,18,0,0,5,0,1,2,4,6,0,2,4,5,22,2,33,26,4,31,0,1,1,0,31,9,0,5,20,112,30,2,0.1036610759251234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380159372761727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049308631884274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248223452691309,0.0,0.08530423299028962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319082973663415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929483813054705,0.0,0.11202079680316453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386682435461745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181294503223474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17467785466492153,0.0,0.0931638909367396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482830930914826,0.07405549335337051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881740582266248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054158633717748365,0.0,0.058912978318679775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948183411090984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208527885262858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245856938183802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976211192693124,0.0,0.10600047338620834,0.0,0.050643565573819764,0.0,0.1830692584016679,0.0,0.08704919606800059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.583673385371181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883891938803718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186553789978974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927865616825368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18873830056899496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112078161432901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467436861608641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331884621684689,0.09060434940542936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229531523000487,0.12089121398445953,0.11914315761563625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21113719818427776,0.0,0.10126180863539892,0.0,0.12469151088628795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228397669300935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754664978709455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isobella83,2020/03/22,"Is it inappropriate that [36] I as a mom do out laundry naked? I do it naked so that I can wash the clothes that I had on that day too. My [15M] son walked in on me today and he looked pretty shocked and asked me ”Mom why are you doing lundry naked?”
I just told him the reason above.",2.5770967741935493,2.585308806451618,3.967903225806453,94.2218548387097,73.83870967741936,6.845161290322581,21.951612903225808,5.985473137389443,-0.08807741935483904,214,4,56,1,4,71,46,62,0.039,0.9,0.06,0.3094,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,1,0,5,10,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,10,0,5,8,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,0,2,36,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676542642414629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846414788432249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042206000672506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6706282427349955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29127265143979586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943667358111098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27138136930614365,0.27357438436524184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583435468829969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MindlessAccount2,2020/03/22,"One day they will suffer too. Oh my gosh this quarantine is brining the worst of me lol! I am pregnant and home with two kids( toddler age) , now my husband also works from home. We live in a tiny apartment so trying to keep the kids alive and not loud while my husband does his job is super hard as it is. Add to that we are the first ones in our group of friends/family to have kids so all I see/hear/talk about is how they are sooo bored and wish they could something. And every time my blood boils when they complain cuz I am so jealous of their boredom lol!! Like I dream when I could take naps all day or just play video games all night or just even be on my phone any time I want. My husband pretty much works 6 days a week and long hours so when I do get help from him i usually catch up on chores. Just venting I guess. My only hope is that one day they will all have little kids and mine will be older and I’ll enjoy the free time while they are in the baby/toddler hell.",2.7855072463768096,3.6714540241545914,3.302144927536233,95.96713043478263,73.97584541062801,6.0997101449275375,21.52946859903382,5.6839178017228535,-0.1281714009661834,761,16,180,3,15,237,128,207,0.105,0.726,0.16899999999999998,0.9154,1,1,1,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,7,4,17,12,2,0,7,2,20,2,1,2,4,30,27,22,0,5,6,3,1,1,0,3,0,1,3,4,4,11,1,1,0,5,1,1,1,6,0,5,0,2,30,7,17,20,6,30,1,1,0,0,24,8,1,4,22,118,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527152853142122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802254300997773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301737586155803,0.0,0.0,0.37184260754233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614097410584998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520544184082146,0.0,0.12144714053473155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588569124703076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260841262915925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530904490332396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587903487229848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912428983347007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246023387481484,0.0,0.09661636946555822,0.0,0.2891754258373569,0.14316704890360749,0.14195234113820585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430402114015261,0.12812139209018145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042124758426765,0.14446968450801578,0.12728137745534884,0.1275624877502869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596207961198403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526893796494402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29302615833178364,0.1096276496055239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664579012214193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148637307534775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096873129015283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837799536424997,0.1158571090204846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25215375381754124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786399475836484,0.0,0.14080728353041808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875373339329715,0.0,0.08501958837924806,0.0,0.11562324482933416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657579453225311,0.0,0.0,0.20987641255791706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mart2d2,2020/03/22,"Free iPhone magic trick to help entertain the wee ones while we're all stuck indoors I just released a magic trick for the iPhone and decided that I couldn't in good conscience charge for it while we're all stuck in doors at the moment. I made it free forever as a small token of help to all those parents like me trying to figure out how to entertain the wee ones:

[https://apps.apple.com/us/app/martys-magic-meter/id1494436752](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/martys-magic-meter/id1494436752)

The app store does show an in-app purchase, but I wrote some code that will bypass it if you download / launch the app before May 1. You will then have the full version forever so long as you don't delete the app.

(Sorry if this is considered self promotion - It's surprisingly hard to offer help for free without it sounding like I'm up to something. Suggestions + advice welcome!)",10.701689189189187,11.164835385135145,8.288513513513514,68.5885810810811,56.635135135135144,10.102702702702704,32.68918918918919,9.516144504307137,2.8029972972972983,719,21,116,10,8,209,95,148,0.055999999999999994,0.765,0.179,0.9633,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,3,0,1,3,12,2,0,11,0,7,0,0,3,3,19,12,11,0,3,5,1,1,2,0,3,0,1,1,1,9,2,0,0,2,3,5,0,3,2,0,2,4,2,8,13,18,4,6,12,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,4,7,70,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026621968792568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438991093261902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934547082032298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17189499892115306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358710735094566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121034039948932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024788762384052,0.0,0.0,0.18136655901665413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19392036804474966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777469927394354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275630073367561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21379842200579027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577737884191858,0.0,0.2294149529805793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914165750431276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930381851413744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755605371498985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Frozen_007,2020/03/22,Not a parent but I am curious because I heard this happened with a co worker of mine. What are y’all’s thoughts on reading a child’s diary? Would that cause trust issues or would that help long term?,0.2522764227642291,2.6716991463414668,1.4652439024390242,96.7284349593496,94.1219512195122,3.7089430894308943,19.028455284552845,5.46131890053228,-0.31075934959349594,159,5,33,1,6,50,35,41,0.0,0.726,0.27399999999999997,0.9064,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,7,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,3,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,21,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19868954155709606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33482939387524674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882270023670729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184702087878964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401958953514503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884459795629481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619169648441835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260274538160039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587593567531041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630757831290405,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Revwog1974,2020/03/22,"14 yr old DD demands I remove followers from my social media My 14 year old DD is fanatically obsessed with privacy. This is to the point where she does not want us to know even the names of most of her friends and she o doesn’t want her friends to know things like books or movies she likes. Sometimes I get follow requests on Instagram from her friends or schoolmates. Which is one of the few ways I even know who they are.

Periodically, she goes through my followers and sends me names of people she wants removed. I’m honestly not sure what to do. I do not post photos of her on social media without her permission. Nor do I check her followers. I feel that she doesn’t have a right to tell me who can follow me on Instagram. She’s treating me differently than I treat her.

She claims her friends follow me because they want private or embarrassing info about her. When asked if she can point out any post that includes private or embarrassing information, she indicated a photo of her opening a birthday gift. This is a photo she approved. But she doesn’t want her friends to know her birthday. 

If any of these kids were bullying her, that would change things. She says no, she just doesn’t think I should have followers I don’t know, or people she doesn’t want information shared with. I agree she should have some say in the information I post about her, which is why we talk about each post. But I am the parent. I do not think she has the right to give me this limit, especially since these are friends she claims to have good friendships with. Beyond having the right, I don’t think she needs this from me. 

Anybody faced anything similar?",4.667920609884334,6.294684302839119,4.7858556782334425,84.27586027865406,70.32492113564669,7.933175604626709,28.034831756046266,8.472884824447931,1.8665879074658256,1312,47,259,21,24,409,145,317,0.064,0.7929999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9837,6,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,2,2,9,17,0,3,11,0,31,1,1,0,1,53,58,13,0,12,15,1,1,2,6,3,0,2,0,1,16,9,0,1,13,1,1,10,14,3,0,1,1,3,61,14,33,54,4,33,0,0,0,0,63,13,0,9,7,179,77,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124087201438056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940780088366609,0.0,0.0902105236887186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882292882196692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207973510739624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081754683627904,0.0,0.0,0.0844441030096007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746909867898393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048791163233011935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4473143785589936,0.0,0.05041505974128993,0.09256754020706608,0.0,0.08093607789111887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26515777189268985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428592298772658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155039449740035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025121671323964,0.0,0.06538803449626325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071471386750069,0.0,0.0,0.13379604092082198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18243939520420568,0.0,0.3696651143632712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472205939163453,0.0,0.1534746267345952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982230227153665,0.0,0.0,0.19673058130417784,0.0,0.0,0.09543678890349316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094612599304218,0.0,0.0,0.07755964878082082,0.08434156060695644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821501038339345,0.18549178894782692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607253615971135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414942494215978,0.07659385471681447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707242801441567,0.0,0.0,0.09301848367719358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854782998819423,0.0,0.0,0.06214011538642991
parenting,856977Ah,2020/03/22,"I love my 5 year old with all my heart. But I need space. I love my son, I really do. I know and understand he needs more of ""me"" time. But with everything happening I try to play it cool, mediate and be calm. I try to interact with him, I try to give him attention. But there gets a point where I need a break. A long one. I just want to have some silent, alone time. Lately especially. My anxiety has been over the roof. What can I do to become a better mother? How can I discipline my self enough and start doing better at parenting? 
Is it normal for wanting space?",0.29415024630542064,2.5763818879310385,2.5948768472906423,91.21637931034485,87.8793103448276,7.107389162561578,17.768472906403943,8.192908349453996,0.8408024630541879,433,11,97,11,14,147,77,116,0.034,0.767,0.19899999999999998,0.9587,1,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,5,1,10,3,1,1,1,23,23,7,0,6,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,20,7,12,21,4,14,0,0,0,2,11,6,0,1,7,65,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705662456951703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598523769900422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818840453851613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913048453104194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701658748815896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480102133210612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604225144679951,0.1579829442071453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456323244938478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951550946817948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050776414563537,0.0,0.18577430606772602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574296700056838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972732095469624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663403593720805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135846458015454,0.0,0.0,0.17281148623901352,0.0,0.11159629155674053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828656178330288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556826114708146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550282101998093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718046399077474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656642972831845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19206083162232626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33543534334011343,0.0,0.0,0.17144515662579884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942735247969604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605314087594764
parenting,SitaBird,2020/03/22,"Afraid of newborn being exposed to COVID-19... How to approach routine well-checks for the next few weeks? What about vaccines? Anybody's doctor postponing (or considering postponement of) well-checks? Is there a SAFE way to get vaccines (e.g., at a clinic drive through) OR postpone vaccines by a few weeks or months until this virus gets under control, or no, not yet?",6.606562500000003,8.898255281250002,5.25825,80.16175000000003,66.5,6.995000000000001,36.2375,7.554174236665415,2.8617225000000004,294,15,46,3,5,86,50,64,0.122,0.8220000000000001,0.055999999999999994,-0.302,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,4,0,2,2,0,2,0,8,4,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,3,2,11,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,6,31,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292656549417866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004831024668184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067582214495569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23432615179655306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31221686235339824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23302357239549895,0.4709710631386288,0.0,0.5279124785618386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MyBoyBo,2020/03/22,"Waking for pacifier ALL night! My baby is 2.5 months old. She sleeps in my room right next to me in her bassinet. Until the last 3 nights she’s been sleeping great. Now she wakes every 5-10 min for her paci. She does this till she’s worn out and in a deeper sleep, but then it just extends to every hour or less. I want to nip this in the bud or I see losing my mind in the near future. HELP!!

-wubanubs don’t work
-she’s too young to put extras around her to find
-I’m not ready to move her to her crib in her room 

TIA!!",-0.3695983662355325,1.6610155663716808,0.9575221238938064,103.67956432947584,88.02654867256638,3.8309053778080333,13.117086453369634,4.713530739802397,-1.5992567733151803,401,5,101,1,13,126,81,113,0.064,0.7979999999999999,0.139,0.8754,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,3,5,5,0,1,12,7,7,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,1,18,1,20,5,3,28,0,1,1,0,14,12,0,2,14,60,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095302530136998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822194616174698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046686941716469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525068992669445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993359740766084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118845693307564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17805456027520508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473785973681032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20227233808631934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825595147637531,0.0,0.14431525011722154,0.1921650028567668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922860689508733,0.3393427832908021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897223610835075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817569789151597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440479601936571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440766028012723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428007983168045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664230897683724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162675603128754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,helpwitheating,2020/03/22,"Please, stop the play dates. Kids can't stay away from each other and you're helping the virus spread. Today while out walking in Toronto, I saw a bunch of crazy behaviour, but the worst was two families gathering for a game of frisbee by a park. These two families played together on the playground and on the grass. The parents told the kids to stay away from one another, but of course, that didn't work. They were all over each other - hugging, play fighting, tapping to play tag. Even the parents weren't staying six feet apart. We all know now that a decent portion of people with coronavirus show no symptoms, ever. The fact that your kids ""seem fine"" doesn't mean they can play with others right now. 

**Social distancing means no play dates.** It means not visiting friends. Sorry. It sucks, but the more people you visit, the more cases there are, the longer we're going to have to stay isolated. The less people you visit, the fewer cases there are, the sooner we can get back to normal. Social distancing is really hard, but so is not having an economy for 6 months or enduring the total collapse of our health care system, which will affect everyone, not just those who are sick or poor. No health care system means no economy, no jobs - without it we have nothing. And Coronavirus is serious: 20% of young adults who get it are hospitalized, and most of them have no underlying health conditions. A higher percentage have reduced lung capacity for life - permanent lesions. 

For those who say that social isolation is more damaging to health than coronavirus, please read something other than Facebook.

Your kids are vectors for the virus. They are the most at risk of spreading it while showing no symptoms at all. Please keep to your family units.",5.120681341719077,7.4807544433962265,4.922201257861637,80.7503668763103,70.60377358490567,8.233123689727464,27.815513626834374,8.94667605116694,2.430753878406708,1395,51,238,28,27,429,177,318,0.182,0.706,0.111,-0.9818,5,1,1,0,2,0,52.0,4,5,4,1,9,17,2,1,24,0,24,11,2,1,6,41,39,13,0,1,11,2,1,0,1,1,8,1,0,5,20,12,0,2,6,10,1,5,15,6,0,4,6,3,14,11,38,32,15,35,0,1,1,1,36,12,1,5,12,169,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917517945118896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441900476822865,0.0672824034511539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842497064670645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057793186325775764,0.07914911767922954,0.0,0.08361037813039368,0.0,0.0,0.24746275805463114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760258889976951,0.0,0.09143069093447237,0.0,0.04972849149737029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783831679916588,0.0,0.0,0.37203531700366,0.0,0.0,0.058649671013331024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683064150291249,0.07777437237007567,0.0,0.0,0.04808792931160285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061804117392855774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812543314804698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984198128915657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573180999227492,0.08395898986605388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059292532861407024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19431766958086624,0.0,0.0,0.1819852717887709,0.0,0.0,0.2881474768149638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875240748553812,0.0,0.05605499425684564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472486009469692,0.0,0.06958382691234738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965707423840622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675869036288652,0.0,0.06736207972764148,0.0,0.09794952956527764,0.0,0.3730551193750814,0.0,0.0731542490690124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189282950603514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829401442605002,0.08361037813039368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095034518521754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434725929043542,0.0,0.06370133041672582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YoureSoStupidRose,2020/03/22,"Working Dad Vs SAHM I hate admitting this. But maybe someone can relate. I am the SAHM. I raise our 2 kids. My husband works but with the CV(had to remove name for MOD purposes) having it's own temper tantrum, he is working at home. (I am thankful for that.) However, during normal times, I feel like I'm the lead parent and I should be. I know everything that is happening with them, every appointment, every teacher meeting, how often hair is washed or what they've eaten, their social struggles or achievements... but he is home now and I suddenly feel like I have a supervisor. Has he said anything? No. So it might all be in my head. But I feel like every action I make, whether it's a raised voice or frustration, or how much extra learning I'm putting into them is being recorded and watched. Maybe that's a good thing, idk. But I feel like suddenly everything is being scrutinized, judged, and it's making ME wonder if I should be doing better, be more on my tiptoes about being a better SAHM. Should I not have had the tv on to relax for 20 minutes? Should I be more engaging? Should I be calmer when I speak to my 5 year old if I have asked her something 7x in a row and I'm still talking to a wall? Does he think my job is easy because we have 2 relatively well behaved children? Is ANYONE else feeling this way? Because this job is HARD and I suddenly feel like Big Brother is watching me deciding if my job is necessary.",2.328799392097263,4.634902138297875,3.694594731509629,86.51250000000002,79.0354609929078,6.439918946301924,25.674265450861203,7.5804360353943165,1.4944393110435654,1121,44,216,17,28,367,159,282,0.081,0.7440000000000001,0.175,0.9841,5,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,2,0,3,7,9,17,4,1,10,0,37,4,2,5,1,52,58,23,0,9,15,4,8,5,0,6,1,3,2,2,12,10,1,0,12,2,0,4,2,5,1,0,3,13,33,12,16,40,6,22,0,0,2,0,24,8,0,10,14,143,45,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310440578504693,0.10712473116662943,0.08603646540986278,0.0,0.09774095888035776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746649131644675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493351313264972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914931790932752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733884403843077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642658753368952,0.0,0.18792717779759996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171843960736716,0.37345584556354106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769231723330052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245399734296146,0.0,0.0936570520306277,0.10322234814319102,0.10729936516380516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209746113132992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112518459303582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057458429060448374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553913929581929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957704766170104,0.0,0.21007082184242984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091196097388728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685692611585382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243766352976236,0.0,0.0,0.10970856054865707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609137877880997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510251091424028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945182819204128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065764551157638,0.08858562081039835,0.08048837483341294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349446731934737,0.0,0.0,0.1092992795479286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403403652127586,0.0,0.09625640287093283,0.0,0.0,0.06945895858542217,0.06699198192128755,0.0,0.0,0.060964458536976976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298762160163002,0.0,0.0,0.09400379661013794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338096883564275,0.2283428561305809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732733847952686
parenting,Main-Discipline,2020/03/22,"Advice for a working Dad My wife and I have two kids, 2 and 4. I’m the breadwinner, and I’ve given her the ability to be a stay at home mom along with providing her all the funds to start a home business. This business pulls in a very meager amount, and always will do to the nature and  product. Anyway, along with my very busy work schedule I’m too also take care of the kids. My down time is very important and helps me reset for the next week of stress. I’m also not doing as well at work because I’m juggling the kids and work. 

Sges spending more time at this dead end business than with me, and the kids. How do show her this is the wrong path for ya?",2.910652173913044,3.8276819492753615,3.900695652173912,91.67582608695652,73.71014492753623,6.679420289855073,23.220289855072465,6.742157984588678,0.49004115942029,511,13,115,4,10,165,81,138,0.09,0.836,0.073,-0.5239,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,4,6,4,0,1,13,0,8,0,0,1,1,16,16,12,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,13,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,2,1,1,1,0,10,2,20,13,3,14,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,7,72,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618320559121633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26487631892407304,0.13780068507963314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095424438572917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885030776055518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668119613539754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110048101985108,0.0,0.3322404209215529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939602873389661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612798386810638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721952391264573,0.17651809466416712,0.0,0.0,0.1897055555091404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451801771947428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313690311616846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177678657687336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40993647982095344,0.0,0.0,0.1328422545559581,0.0,0.1489031691098531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4822638538377483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106840352553727,0.0,0.0
parenting,pausetwoplay,2020/03/22,Hand Sanitizer Hand Sanitizer for sale at pausetwoplay.com,12.596250000000005,17.984836125,11.130000000000004,29.51500000000001,62.75,18.2,45.5,13.023866798666859,10.53885,51,3,5,3,1,16,6,8,0.0,0.484,0.516,0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SicksSix6,2020/03/22,"2yo boy hitting getting worse Hi guys, dad here, first time poster. 

My son, 2,  has experimented with hitting and it went away for a while but now he's hitting kids almost regularly over any small slight against him. 

We've been told to definitely stop him and firmly say ""no"", don't make a big deal, give the victim the attention not him

Now when we do this my son gets almost jealous of the other child like he's completely apathetic. 

We try to acknowledge his feelings and talk him through it but he shells up and states at the ground almost resentful of us. 

My wife and I are constantly apologising and embarassed and today have discussed a behavioural therapist. 

We're scared to be honest. 
Should we be?",4.0848997493734345,6.463771969924814,4.5249812030075205,82.36135651629073,73.66165413533834,7.741604010025062,27.624686716791977,8.59863814320734,2.142343859649124,564,22,105,11,12,178,97,133,0.14800000000000002,0.767,0.085,-0.8523,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,1,4,6,3,1,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,23,19,11,0,1,3,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,4,11,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,2,13,2,13,10,0,18,0,0,0,0,27,7,0,3,10,63,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5521815599435644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499802418229028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726968182005415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272270797786115,0.1986347739746864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18950143530295527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17980277528047545,0.0,0.0,0.09294054372046276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634984419055373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920676923269104,0.17632860025541616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200213968019194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980094311151801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226955064103694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461741667019466,0.18402723194914986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536745228433543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774060405226028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21341914976915616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718187894843736,0.0,0.17423167151599347,0.1756396262344155,0.0,0.12479584397373203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211024273017871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703949670973578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873194736224433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Excellentaccounter,2020/03/22,"How to foster 4 year old's love of dancing Hey guys,

I have a 4 year old son (almost 5) who really loves dancing. Even as a toddler, he was pretty rhythmically inclined, and would dance any chance he got. I showed him Michael Jackson, and he was instantly in love with his dance style, and started emulating his moves--and he is legitimately pretty good at it, especially considering his age. He really likes disco, pop, and hip hop music. I've never been a dancer; in fact, dancing around other people is probably in my top 3 of highest-anxiety activities. I don't know anything about the dance world. I've tried to look up dancing programs, but honestly I don't know what I'm looking at, and I don't know if putting him in something like that at his age would foster his interest or make it more of a chore. My current thought is to just wait until he's older to look for some kind of program (if he's still interested), but I thought I'd try posting here to see what other people think. If there's a better subreddit for this post please let me know. Thank you!",6.910597402597404,6.112791514285713,7.5325974025974025,75.06058441558444,64.80952380952381,10.493506493506494,34.8051948051948,9.800150414767053,3.1835714285714296,838,33,164,15,11,279,130,210,0.0,0.8059999999999999,0.19399999999999998,0.9886,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,0,2,8,12,0,0,6,0,13,4,1,2,2,30,33,14,0,5,7,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,7,0,1,7,8,0,8,4,0,0,0,6,4,17,12,24,24,2,33,0,0,4,3,22,11,0,6,14,89,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871809604281428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741422486203171,0.0,0.09833569217886808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578063457980737,0.1144312779461407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368658789649845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490199953612221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107816481308505,0.1028082582620358,0.0,0.0,0.1272786195418061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338586372385391,0.2825773494537968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144479409163054,0.0,0.125600062646189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32383337415799834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480475255784508,0.0,0.0858040169601053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914094035576304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269770290966505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823223858830792,0.0,0.0,0.1411025445397402,0.0,0.0,0.2462189479132605,0.2615506123219509,0.1385920097487598,0.0,0.0,0.12922207168177066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469696166481987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243280453919974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895933457535787,0.0,0.0,0.0909839975024644,0.0,0.10265528337163753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834590518742588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082365707675625,0.0,0.20409891426996687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454567043488378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262772358707766,0.0,0.0,0.16555604777593322
parenting,FrankieSaysRelax311,2020/03/22,"Shared Parenting during COVID-19? My ex and I have an almost 4-year-old daughter. He typically gets her every other weekend from Thursday—Monday. 

Given that all preschools/schools are completely shut down, and I’m pretty sure our state is next to be on a lockdown, (we’re one of the highest states in death).. my highest priority is my child’s health. 

My daughter and I have been in complete isolation for the past 4 days. Not letting anyone in our home, and we haven’t left out home. However, her father is still working, still out and about running errands, and if I know him as well as I think I do, social gatherings at friends houses hasn’t stopped despite the condition of the nation.

Since I am the domicile parent, come Thursday when it’s his parenting time.. if I do not feel comfortable letting my child go to his house given everything I have stated.. do I have the right to exercise my domicile right in this situation, and keep her isolated with me?",4.989904761904762,6.854664022222224,5.354285714285711,79.575,69.8888888888889,8.253968253968255,32.85714285714286,8.841846274778883,2.9393809523809518,764,36,134,14,14,243,119,180,0.055,0.868,0.077,0.5938,4,2,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,8,0,18,2,0,0,2,24,28,12,1,2,4,7,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,4,12,0,2,3,2,0,3,4,0,1,1,3,1,25,5,20,22,1,30,0,0,0,0,23,14,0,3,10,92,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335107437566518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322744182739408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485199623931468,0.27958795382681784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598682518816947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233628240490667,0.0,0.11982841422326218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741565827660823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301043361455477,0.0,0.06965942630394183,0.0,0.07577451626500176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172356394995256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674817386263155,0.0,0.0,0.30768985652208536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850983745340934,0.0,0.0,0.07327468563901635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486344405382445,0.2726779335871515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179797634229574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990741510970758,0.0,0.09034786418038493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441415867705708,0.0,0.12727857945480026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356445513671066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22772619704118804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349370864722069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029196059726433,0.14986851555224726,0.0,0.13591315274061178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21295503359431944,0.11146985699791442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566195485538134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543248564023141,0.0,0.0,0.07774580000699681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987968968374255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706583393987928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586015390028978
parenting,newbiemommie,2020/03/22,"Words that we have banned in our home Library
Dance time (happens at the library)
Museum
Science museum
Children's musuem
Gym (he goes to childcare there)
Skyzone (we have a membership)
Orange socks (for use at sky zone)
Costco (he loves the samples)


I have a 2 year old, so explaining a Shelter-In-Place is impossible.

Hang in there, all!",2.576451612903228,5.513103661290324,3.4195967741935505,84.34939516129033,84.96774193548387,6.325806451612903,27.10483870967742,7.645422480735847,2.06547741935484,265,12,46,5,8,84,49,62,0.051,0.8809999999999999,0.068,0.2481,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,1,1,7,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,6,8,1,10,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,3,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3876229200790411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396911068444399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956192759620825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599644560503822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555997806290599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785853194611638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822768110909702
parenting,glitchmodulator12,2020/03/23,"Toddlers are hard So long time lurker and I've finally decided to post (more to vent really)

These past few weeks of family isolation are really getting to me. On one hand, my wife has big panic attacks, while on the other hand my 19mo is going through the ""no"" phase. The baby challenges us at every turn, and throws her toys and food. Inconsolable crying that stops as fast as it starts, and sudden refusal to be put down for bed. Meanwhile after hours of this, my wife starts to break down into tears and lashes out at me in frustration... Believe me, i get it. I know this is just a phase and to just ignore the tantrums, and i understand my wifes frustration completely but it's chipping away at me that I'm continuously being the only one to be able to keep a level head lately.",5.257894736842103,6.081534263157895,6.097210526315791,78.42147368421055,68.21052631578948,9.237894736842106,27.7,9.3871,2.3413084210526307,616,19,115,12,10,203,103,152,0.114,0.851,0.035,-0.7992,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,3,7,4,1,7,0,8,4,3,0,0,19,18,12,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,9,1,4,3,1,0,3,1,6,0,2,0,3,13,1,26,15,2,33,0,0,0,0,6,13,0,0,15,80,22,1,0.17131295954405715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19489322302319834,0.16095416476942392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930110408206773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961837871649314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817924182229268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433855708322746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149861179518074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18766497346920652,0.0,0.0,0.2071523106884292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790079013602326,0.0,0.0973611028175896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346276245696805,0.0,0.17581652028222766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870875678308114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227082979778034,0.0,0.0,0.09414912234447192,0.0,0.1932484802329875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151606578292041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321721900025877,0.13029122539086666,0.0,0.20099884658581066,0.0,0.0,0.16353760435022516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407045996730188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221684129870268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194949372059174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24251238901649486,0.0,0.0,0.14322530506537318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998939643724666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863393062292259,0.0,0.17834283256137526,0.2060683971231372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741692270781894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jaxrdgirl,2020/03/23,"My 11 years old told his friends that I am a large bag of shit. I don’t know what to do. Yesterday my son and my husband were having lunch together and I was in my son’s watching his baby brother who was sleeping. I found his cellphone and checked the text messages to see who does he speak with. Well, I found a text saying “I don’t know why parents are such a large bag of shit” he didn’t say anything else, I guess because that was before I called him for lunch. 

I spent all day trying to decide what to do, last night I couldn’t wait anymore and decided to confront him, he didn’t say anything, just tried to excuse himself, he not even apologized. My husband thinks that it was very disrespectful and that we should take him to therapy and his dad (My ex) thinks that I’m overreacting. 

Has anyone here ever gone through something similar? It’s the first time this happens to me, my son is such a polite boy, he’s an honor roll student and never say bad words at home. Now, I feel that he’s a complete stranger. I don’t know what to do and I would like to know someone else’s opinion. Thanks for reading",3.7639159292035385,4.7393459557522135,4.381581858407081,88.80697455752217,71.7433628318584,7.065929203539826,28.72676991150443,7.1686216300943375,1.3887353982300892,870,33,185,8,16,277,129,226,0.051,0.865,0.084,0.7259,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,2,8,9,3,0,8,0,21,5,3,0,3,33,40,8,0,3,2,9,1,1,1,2,0,5,1,1,14,10,2,1,11,1,2,1,8,4,1,1,12,8,30,5,18,25,1,14,0,0,2,0,39,2,2,2,12,111,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673036758999592,0.08935164228754404,0.0,0.21031562731227746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669680815954033,0.07789776972706829,0.0,0.10873732588461738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048481545339016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339822392879366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241204408332589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182726570721532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21349928411361768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440210896558015,0.11559065833877408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461294727000427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869555776155224,0.0,0.28022370164266674,0.09872791997503826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077178842368784,0.0,0.11300162295186265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281807811075542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809135752999193,0.10416346131017408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624302739126721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855721298174007,0.0,0.0,0.11991944389968914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340909614510545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189234202672005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782158196667515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4064854087256749,0.0,0.0,0.10182969514974964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623430403341149,0.0,0.0,0.1278792872332422,0.0,0.10827351125381493,0.09837667646964048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607992145552384,0.0,0.0,0.11764910178599022,0.14613557237892902,0.0,0.0,0.1637615008420976,0.0,0.0,0.07451362791275139,0.0,0.0,0.12210595563697915,0.0,0.17351797102549335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054376587536246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489586049132675,0.0,0.1153078923963868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077621911468824,0.0,0.0,0.08229063897576447
parenting,LionsBSanders20,2020/03/23,"Seeking advice to stop 18mo old from biting Our baby is one of the sweetest I've ever met, but she's been written up at daycare (funny phrase for an infant, I know) multiple times in the past two weeks for biting other children. I feel like a huge ass because just 3 weeks ago, I was issuing complaints to the Director about my baby being bitten. And here we are...now she's the biter.

Our baby does display some biting tendencies at home and it's split about 50/50 between being playful and being frustrated about something. We've started issuing some discipline in the form of stern ""No!""s and pushing her away when she does it, but we're not sure what else we can do.

Does the biting thing just go away eventually, or are there forms of discipline that tend to work better than others when trying to break the behavior?",8.0625,7.259603745222929,7.922348726114652,73.21753582802549,62.503184713375795,10.397770700636944,34.27468152866243,9.516144504307137,3.164452866242037,656,23,114,10,8,211,107,157,0.10300000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.083,-0.5163,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,2,11,5,1,0,9,0,9,1,1,0,2,21,16,9,0,0,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,6,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,4,1,12,4,22,9,4,22,0,0,0,1,11,8,1,3,12,80,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199336762070075,0.15602082340045864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307313639491931,0.0,0.0,0.10729308460944878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566512317660236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620784005706266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703243003438193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592096709399684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889951335268778,0.12574043333935306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002962761661968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655077213204373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674140742152893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672961147732252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859888118051706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18469120390401947,0.0,0.11926784432796178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680199298390825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549986230717148,0.0,0.0,0.12457964866721995,0.0,0.0,0.1471509002707979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658858303469762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169321575172019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263191118579287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949814745484888,0.0,0.17193462796588332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823666373713585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813620860800284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AliS83,2020/03/23,"Birthday Ideas Hey Everyone! First off I hope you all are safe, healthy, and coping well with everything going on. I wanted to see if anyone had any potential birthday ideas for my sons 1st bday. Initially we were going to go to a baseball day game, but the MLB season is postponed. So we are back to square 1. We are leaning towards just inviting a few people over, but was looking at any other possibilities for something special for my guys 1st. Obviously parks, zoos and stadiums are all closed, so if anyone has any fun ideas, I would appreciate it. Thanks!!",4.455854700854702,6.7411991153846165,5.141666666666668,78.78111111111113,72.26923076923076,7.699145299145299,29.824786324786324,8.515128840125781,2.494011965811967,444,19,77,8,9,143,77,104,0.019,0.7559999999999999,0.225,0.973,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,3,22,18,8,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,3,9,6,13,14,3,13,0,0,3,0,8,6,0,3,4,52,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600510426696313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24680722114507114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570738547785255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138193270339376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686406137843721,0.1586148742739267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011950466232252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009043918785576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474958927988482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529112403062547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5976960378529519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482043863898705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223536623898996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198962246974637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063705739778534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586809108009204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248525006720382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040964336818426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868274674616256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537109454380746,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonymom18,2020/03/23,"Father not bonding with baby? I don't know what to do. I have an eighteen month old and a two month old and I'm worried my husband isn't bonding with our newborn. 

He's wonderful with our toddler: attentive, fun, playful. But I don't see him finding any joy in our baby. 

A little background. Obviously right now the world is going to shit. We moved to a new town 8 months ago and 3 weeks ago he finally found a job in his career. Of course they rescinded the offer last week because the economy crashed. 

Because he's home we split the childcare duties mostly down the middle. We take turns getting up with him, changing diapers and feeding him. But he barely actually interacts with him. When he feeds him, he sits on his phone the whole time. When he changes his diaper he doesn't speak to him or connect with him at all. He doesn't talk to him. And unless he needs a diaper change or to be fed, he doesn't hold him or spend time with him. 

I've tried talking to him about it in as gentle a way I can but all he hears is me saying ""you don't love our son."" Even though I've never said that and that's not what I'm saying at all. 

He found so much joy in our firstborn. He would talk to her and coo at her and spend time looking at her. He took so many pictures of her. He hasn't taken a picture of our son in weeks. He doesn't spend any time with him beyond doing basic care giving duties. It's breaking my heart. 

Maybe he's depressed? I mean, aren't we all these days? Maybe it's post partum. Men can get it too. I don't know what to do. I don't know how long to let this go and see if he gets there on his own. I can't force him to have a relationship with his son. 

Any advice?",0.9080738362760848,2.827765955056184,2.6628121990369173,94.08796629213484,81.86516853932585,5.416886035313002,20.28378812199037,6.474141703775902,0.07060667736757552,1304,36,296,12,35,431,177,356,0.038,0.89,0.07200000000000001,0.8875,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,10,1,1,0,12,8,1,0,15,0,25,6,2,1,6,54,53,24,0,3,10,5,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,2,11,22,3,3,9,1,3,4,16,2,0,1,6,8,45,6,40,44,8,50,0,1,3,1,74,19,1,6,23,174,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.09556181031413982,0.0,0.0,0.09569231437545862,0.1736112722076576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997794492163692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193897616494408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984225091588654,0.0,0.3107786917733053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315427472843635,0.0,0.08434366179811592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467930794050207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727332637102346,0.08950274006601583,0.0,0.0,0.21474196928141706,0.0,0.0,0.15348713724214874,0.09393969990210274,0.1113073917345352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036990419564104,0.11604297616289827,0.0,0.0,0.0982279271800019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971766077886835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145297668658215,0.07982289391580034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013613767260364,0.0,0.0,0.09814774273075852,0.0,0.08666157382738683,0.0822333146569599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838218655160852,0.0,0.0,0.09928176045639428,0.19675998837220504,0.10667030093510148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344911901644752,0.10408001508558924,0.07198699827157254,0.07261100999256948,0.07552669484601665,0.0945776996741025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055140729070557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378619608418463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513605258826607,0.0,0.08362840923204562,0.09315020709224564,0.15574963260106772,0.0,0.0,0.15606894876913666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051980039229548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362828847387398,0.23612802440309305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962119592026617,0.0,0.22840613556224126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879957168125964,0.06648543750100985,0.10651554652609596,0.09565963326924593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772923111435953,0.2356513865005779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093310652689713,0.0,0.0,0.1061967479065886,0.0,0.09944877327118784,0.0,0.0695639374626029,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HipHopSince88,2020/03/23,"7yr old daughter may have vocal tic. First, I’d like to start off by mentioning I have scheduled a visit with my daughter’s pediatrician this week but I wanted to make a post here to get some insight from the r/Parenting community. 

Also, I’m typing this on my iPhone, so please excuse any typos. 

Over the last couple of weeks my (7yr old) daughter has developed some sort of a vocal tic. It started off as her going through out the house signing and then I noticed she started to repeat herself continuously. At first I thought she was just practicing on hitting certain notes and didn’t think much of it. 
 
Then from there it sort of progressed to her breaking those notes down into shorter “notes”. Like “ehh!” , “yeah!”  

She’s doing it often now. She would repeat these “notes” continuously and when I ask her about it, she says she can’t stop. She would go about her day as she always normally would, but in between her doing things she would let out a “note” and it’s as if she doesn’t realize she’s even doing it. 

I tried to have a talk with her a couple of times, in attempt to get into her head a little bit. To see how she’s feeling. She mentioned that she can’t stop thinking of bad words and she makes the sound so she doesn’t say them. 

In addition to the notes, she started doing this prank thing where she would go “did you hear what I said?”  And I’ll say “no, what did you say?” And she will go “nothing!”

I honestly believe it started as a “prank” and her way of just having fun. Now she’s asking it constantly.  I don’t believe she can stop now. 

I’m starting to get really worried and stressed. All of this just happened within the last few weeks. She cried today when I tried to talk to her about it again. I asked what was she thinking about today and she just kept saying she didn’t know. 

I would love to hear your thoughts.",2.5342572867641024,4.513436038147141,3.5053108744116948,89.73934026917681,76.90190735694823,5.974370407067955,23.655272066716215,6.850034144686104,0.7108971843778381,1434,46,296,14,33,459,175,367,0.083,0.841,0.077,-0.5001,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,3,1,4,23,8,0,1,14,1,30,2,1,3,2,58,66,25,0,9,7,3,1,2,0,8,0,9,0,0,22,17,0,4,9,0,0,5,8,2,0,2,10,11,54,6,51,46,6,61,0,0,1,1,60,17,0,7,38,213,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539995059346568,0.06804804621689925,0.0,0.0,0.05561364156068218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293615846537243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682834208551995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842775590384865,0.0,0.0,0.08928328106355747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883758218866346,0.0,0.0,0.1809774517879334,0.08983219612017705,0.052741749137092835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05401534335446558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041350750291755715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912514617353286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818103165629335,0.0,0.1859112960194809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231835244597866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839305333479621,0.0,0.1843454564050409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943638818458706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044944502598103314,0.13332427818724638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362624818978133,0.0,0.07990778245793659,0.08196568874769752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738102231612484,0.0,0.109178428367181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011818234470315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012766638317677,0.07847073251412602,0.09310780399842153,0.17163005551112134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080772587173314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977058765571391,0.0,0.0,0.0783232496559261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239077396509114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779211899199187,0.3251762484076616,0.0,0.0,0.0651685842285929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34730855987201065,0.0,0.0,0.20511683811791068,0.09367945015243244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146436596051686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866285053911973,0.15720520146900285,0.0,0.12984939097783502,0.047686950546881886,0.0,0.15503697424973878,0.0,0.0,0.11104737663527424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048236342055306115,0.06491366777119766,0.19679849644485514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305221260816585,0.0,0.34856773395790586,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Country2828,2020/03/23,"Babysitter stole from me So i had a 14 year old babysitter (related) she spent the night and watched my child for a few days, when she went home i noticed a cleanser of mine was missing, i dont care about the cleanser at all but it is the fact she took something without asking, (this is not the first time she has took something small) i told her parents about it and she claimed that she thought me saying she could use it while she was here ment she could have it, i would completely understand if it was misunderstood but she moved a bunch of my other products around trying to hide the fact she took it, now her parents seem to be mad at me... was i in the wrong?",3.6530597014925377,4.940160723880599,3.4613731343283582,94.11310447761196,72.3582089552239,6.554029850746268,27.579104477611946,6.742157984588678,0.9513755223880601,523,19,116,4,10,157,84,134,0.127,0.873,0.0,-0.9434,2,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,7,4,1,0,10,0,14,0,0,1,3,18,27,8,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,9,3,0,0,3,0,1,5,3,3,0,1,12,2,25,1,13,11,3,19,0,1,1,0,19,5,0,2,9,86,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369841390994887,0.1438552578345363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688898531434015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133826731964038,0.0,0.0,0.2457182941984329,0.0,0.0,0.09923864886374363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034399513781224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088863903000678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435228756796054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354807517346442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444041792370063,0.0,0.0,0.17519124448178908,0.16146918799621593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34172685469629993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237004673727117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008484916742012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236925768827715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216202844283047,0.08972756152632927,0.0,0.0,0.1470371253427234,0.5128927156726876,0.10447313368867264,0.0,0.0,0.16019253597508915,0.0,0.13290127816742928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264654663649118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483330037960271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931059208763708,0.16824155358895526,0.0,0.0990924556832011
parenting,IcyStage0,2020/03/23,"I'm a single dad and I feel like I'm never going to be enough for my kids. They're getting older and there are so many things that I just have no idea about. I don't have time to work full time and be their only parent and have it be sufficient. My mother was my everything growing up and it kills me that they won't have that. I don't know how to be enough for them, I just know that I'm not.",1.121075441412522,2.08822348314607,2.8921669341894085,96.9726966292135,78.21348314606742,5.984590690208668,17.208667736757626,6.1826913282559595,-0.5972613162118785,306,4,78,2,7,102,53,89,0.07,0.879,0.051,-0.3612,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,3,1,6,2,1,0,1,0,13,0,0,1,1,14,21,7,1,0,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,1,1,12,1,7,15,4,8,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,5,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5142130827759275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236311720170276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581525651009232,0.17776325791458006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300027146930242,0.0,0.1414150724701491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808972909315628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752920661516107,0.0,0.27349946896737604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156512368171445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25227322518507683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19191201695846444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892454229426126,0.0,0.0,0.27629480101424186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165310717668198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901880073714758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18115024176437305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,artsyer1,2020/03/23,"Cloth Diapers? Hi moms, 

My husband and I are soon to have our first and we've been looking at cloth diapers as a possibility. For those who have used them, are they worth the cost, do they work, what styles/types/brands have been your favorites? Any other tips or info also greatly appreciated. TIA!",2.4192857142857136,5.280158071428577,3.333571428571428,85.41142857142857,84.35714285714286,6.057142857142857,22.285714285714285,7.447530270364453,1.0699214285714291,236,8,45,4,7,75,48,56,0.0,0.78,0.22,0.9225,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,3,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,5,10,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,7,1,4,8,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,1,2,31,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28885428476505964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24563074605435975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072394873858314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982281012561391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033199437020514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42303713899151896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072026410367115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119638257352628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26296042835047784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amralomari,2020/03/23,"[pregnant wife] am I late? My wife is now in her 20th week

I believe that I should have started reading about pregnancy and parenting a long time ago

Can you please recommend me with some eligible scientific sources that I can read?

Any good YouTube channels too?",4.074375,6.964032687499998,4.133166666666663,82.52850000000002,76.29166666666666,8.006666666666666,34.6,8.841846274778883,3.3994949999999995,211,12,38,5,5,65,42,48,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.8042,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,3,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,7,24,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24397316646815465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871645936379917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100878982758729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308483309602552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104693639579296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435682696051201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30560831182809883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021178812916294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5506053014852127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480791538203435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16048775930638182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22077143653971054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FondaCheese,2020/03/23,"Regular counseling sessions or am I being extra? My brother is 5, healthy and very happy considering the circumstances of him coming into my care. 
He’s obviously out of school right now but I’ve heard no complaints from his teacher and he has friends. But I understand that it’s hard to share everything with your parents and the importance of having someone you can trust to talk to. 

So while talking to an older friend I brought up the idea of regular counseling sessions and he said that it was being extra. He had some good points like what if other kids find out and pick on him about it in the future. 

i don’t regret petitioning for custody cause it was either me, my workaholic sister, the system or his frail grandparents. But I’m still second guessing myself on a lot of decisions. I’m in school, financially stable  and employed. 


I’m grasping onto any advice to raise this kid and my friends always been helpful since he has three of his own kids each in middle school.


Also I’m 22 and work as a legal assistant while I’m getting my bachelors in criminology. So yes I’m young but his mom is dead, dad had a stroke and my older sister didn’t want him.",5.048316666666668,6.372463106666667,5.942375000000002,77.50556250000002,69.04444444444444,8.647222222222224,30.0625,9.017664075816787,2.586383333333334,929,36,167,17,16,306,141,225,0.069,0.732,0.198,0.9845,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,6,10,0,0,9,1,16,1,0,2,1,36,31,22,1,3,8,6,2,1,3,0,1,2,0,3,9,15,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,9,4,21,9,27,20,7,25,0,1,0,0,32,14,0,6,9,115,30,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255667828907485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484748817139968,0.12990266151668947,0.0,0.0,0.10616557648606922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591726801890195,0.16037616495902113,0.0,0.13448181179756005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030876934863948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268900079757765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618490805594447,0.0,0.0815651983846494,0.0,0.0,0.13094435042904182,0.0,0.0,0.17198155031423398,0.0,0.0,0.16619048734654693,0.13985104086851982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464258778981024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762381909842757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762713567417953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132725919479119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828434854247142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335053587602609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758194812590092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332389760145913,0.14850394484321205,0.0,0.0,0.473999176200336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914240216530096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227825356137454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467601646862428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509634292576371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625243177291443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288136793387517,0.092082426508486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365574512676795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,idontthinkimjesus,2020/03/23,"Stop grabbing 
My 10 yr old son has the awful habit of ""readjusting"" or ""playing"" with his privates constantly. We have tried disciplining, threatening, etc but nothing seems to work. At first I thought it was an action done out of nervousness or stress, but this action is occurring continuously. I know that this is typically an issue with little boys and that they grow out of the habit, but my son starts middle school next year and this issue has to stop now.

Has anyone else had this issue with their kid? How did you get them to break the habit? Help!",5.127888349514564,7.018964932038838,5.011832524271849,82.06202063106798,69.58252427184465,8.256796116504855,25.496359223300967,8.841846274778883,1.8143019417475728,440,13,82,8,8,136,73,103,0.139,0.83,0.031,-0.8807,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,3,2,2,3,0,2,5,1,10,0,0,1,0,20,15,8,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,5,1,10,1,12,10,1,19,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,3,10,55,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278667741925606,0.18737165925126706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761722335398565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713923511272554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276420249879918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394809961452498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555489074873819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955418915181706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257373204251625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5726054927597445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050042668747614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328352115802687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944840431800272,0.0,0.0,0.17546844762458852,0.0,0.19189103020567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850739399037524,0.0,0.16647774325571082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943614324933747,0.0,0.0,0.305774582132557,0.20947666940171947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517814687009178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415654962483555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313134874152602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776211698732753
parenting,brizzopotamus,2020/03/23,"4yo constantly picking at lips, fingers, & toes Hi all -

My 4yo is constantly picking at her skin. It’s been going on for quite some time, and prior to our self-isolation, I only really noticed her doing it in the evening at bedtime.

Now that we are home together all day, I find her hiding to pick at her skin. I try not to make her feel ashamed of it, but just gently point out that I am noticing that she’s doing it.  I’ve asked her why and she doesn’t seem to really know.

I also have a history of doing this (and still do now), so it’s very possibly  something she picked up from me.  It’s a nervous habit I’ve never really been able to break. My concern with her is that there’s something underlying there (anxiety, maybe?) but I’m not sure how to tackle it.

I don’t feel like “take her to a therapist” is the right move yet because I don’t think we have really done anything to address it as parents.

Anyone have experience with this or any ideas on how to communicate with her about it?",3.3181937602627265,4.460650802955667,4.917556650246309,83.91048932676522,72.99014778325123,8.368998357963875,26.83382594417077,8.841846274778883,1.9330935303776684,775,27,162,15,15,262,119,203,0.048,0.915,0.038,0.2185,1,1,2,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,0,1,13,4,0,2,5,0,18,5,5,7,4,34,28,11,0,0,6,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,15,9,0,0,7,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,3,5,25,2,28,25,3,25,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,3,11,115,40,0,0.14070039266324993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251805317914924,0.0,0.15244881666662818,0.0,0.09568109183306006,0.0,0.10763541527347613,0.0,0.0,0.09838098599722114,0.0,0.11578443471144995,0.0,0.13153587398326558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576965343368742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040942794774801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074011341472916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439853518274405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293128237706966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763198231326654,0.0,0.0,0.14228469220863166,0.10051638863189352,0.0,0.0,0.12859760989167773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996327559234627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411339658500392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883361720615286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732525617456762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873910480391345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939186046591738,0.0,0.14135245584837333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954225052355252,0.0,0.0,0.10851681672596852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203766592060672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700898882291757,0.0,0.0,0.1562311352836731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300734945275908,0.1586185521053448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496521867510315,0.0,0.0,0.3605450975181556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015736656053097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808835314343892,0.1467811951632059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166360725428336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236351533097794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260845496436244,0.0,0.10578918490284653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633640003638503,0.0,0.09015513038575823,0.0,0.0,0.08204353044452628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552633080200827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609255928434307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696021983246106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lesparza0,2020/03/23,Okay so serious question I’m not even sure how to approach this but here it goes. So my stepdaughter 10 is always all over me constantly through out the day on my shoulders piggy back rides always on my lap always cuddling up next to me always trying to pop pimples on me biting scratching and hitting me laying on me asking for feet rubs an to rub he legs from the knee down an has also asked me to rub her thighs “which I did not do” an also like to rack me. okay that being said my SO knows everything an I would like to know why she does this is it cause her bio dad doesn’t want anything to do with her could that be the reasoning like she’s just trying to bond? Trust me I’ve explained boundaries with her as has her mom multiple times but to no end she still attempts to do so what could be the reasoning of this,4.2783903743315514,4.731920817647062,4.874919786096257,87.63804812834226,70.23529411764707,7.828877005347593,26.631016042780754,7.686295010490155,1.2816470588235291,649,19,139,7,11,208,105,170,0.031,0.86,0.109,0.9309,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,0,8,2,15,6,5,4,2,23,24,11,0,4,5,2,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,0,6,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,5,22,7,26,15,1,17,0,0,0,1,16,8,0,1,10,99,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410989180256589,0.5017224070592385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404899100367728,0.0,0.2818494988393696,0.0,0.0,0.11591238562564825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548550171695901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290008511585044,0.0,0.2407127105328035,0.0,0.0,0.09721703561198336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191658323214273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351392765727432,0.0,0.0,0.09956460762867372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354784664671298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568928339047995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22093686292130546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654887234662694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031733798299108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688671303540528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099786853703703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339151291168162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038389043545285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207388996527182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789970081372703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20468977509462724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889123751128021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360224904761261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708380097296212,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BenditlikeBeck,2020/03/23,"How to handle touch-up kids as a touch-averse adult I have 3 kids: 5m, 4m, and 1f. They are great, pretty easy kids, but I struggle with one thing. I don't like being touched. Personal space is big with me. I get super overwhelmed when my touch meter is filled. 

My middle son is super affectionate. He's constantly kissing me and hanging off me and generally touching me. It's sweet, but it gets overwhelming fast. 

So my question is does anyone have any strategies to help me cope? I don't want to discourage his affection and don't want him to feel bad about expressing himself. Help!",2.6782292490118564,4.9396414869565275,3.775968379446642,86.61146245059288,77.6086956521739,6.964426877470356,25.23715415019763,8.00094639256281,1.5488260869565218,461,17,91,8,11,149,79,115,0.09300000000000001,0.5760000000000001,0.331,0.9886,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,2,4,12,0,3,1,0,11,1,0,2,0,16,16,10,0,2,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,6,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,5,0,1,0,5,17,7,9,15,0,10,0,3,0,1,15,5,0,1,4,51,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786174452602976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288058238493696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183818217021265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826406869531689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288825919196516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224662830839612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732962784638402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883578132886925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506204898431664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777923896304502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723182889792516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283737994140544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660885471606998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929938415510117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734269663138112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376100197440475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085358090838101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QuteFx,2020/03/23,"Wfh vs playtime with toddler My toddler asked for me to play with her. I offered 5 mins. She cried and said “no, mama, I I want you to play with me for 2 minutes”...can’t argue with toddler logic 😂",-0.8965040650406486,1.2375891463414632,1.4652439024390242,96.7284349593496,96.56097560975607,2.7333333333333334,21.46747967479675,3.1291,-0.3866130081300816,149,6,32,0,6,50,30,41,0.174,0.6779999999999999,0.14800000000000002,-0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,9,2,8,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,19,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5120489928241393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6016502582500399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5210119589944797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230624309327526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Roosap,2020/03/23,"Narcisist mom blames me for the death of my future daughter 
I think my mom might be a narcisist, she definitely checks every box. However I realized this only recently, so I still don’t quite know what to think about the stuff that she says. That’s why I’m here to be honest.

She has made it VERY clear for years that she does not approve of my boyfriend. He’s the most honest, loving person I know, and I could never have dreamed of a such a smooth, happy relationship. Especially since all I have seen is pretty much problems within marriages (my mom and dad are still together, don’t quite know why, neither seem very happy together). But I haven’t really taken anything my mom says about my SO too seriously until now since she hasn’t liked any of my four siblings’ SO’s either. Plus she has strong opinions about absolutely everything anyways.

I visited my parents couple of days ago. The visit ended in her cry-yelling me about how selfish I am to be with my boyfriend. I’m 174cm/5’7 and my SO is 194cm/6’4. She says that if I decide to have kids with him, they will be freakishly tall, and the girls would have such a low self esteem that they would definitely kill themselves.

Now. My biggest dream in life is to be a mom. And this really struck a nerve. She’s the master of hitting where it hurts, when she wants something out of someone (me to break up with my SO, move back to my hometown to my parents house, and keep trying to get to med school -I have tried to get in for four years, and I feel quite sick of it and I have decided to pursue other paths). This still doesn’t erase the picture that she set in my head. Of my future daughter being bullied and having self esteem issues for being so tall. I will love my kids unconditionally, and I’m sure they will be perfect just the way they are. However, kid’s are mean. I have been pointed out to be tall all my childhood. And I don’t think I’m even that tall!

Anyways, I will be cutting ties with my mom mostly, just becouse of the incredible amount of pain that she inflicts on me every single time that I see her.

But what do tou think about the statement? Am I wrong? On the other hand I think it’s stupid, and I don’t think that it would matter as long as they get a happy and loving home, and support to go after their dreams. But then again, I do sort of have some control over the genetics. But I love my SO, and could never break up with him over such a thing. But am I then responsible for them possibly being bullied (even for a stupid reason)? I’m just heartbroken to even be accused of something like that:(

TL;DR My narcisist mom blames me for my future kids self esteem issues and suicide, becouse they will probably be taller than average. Is she right?",4.11254638218924,5.47924823005566,4.749108998144717,85.01427574211506,71.33766233766234,7.54213358070501,26.276484230055658,7.993328176185818,1.4768140630797768,2152,69,429,29,40,689,233,539,0.11800000000000001,0.7509999999999999,0.131,0.8317,4,0,2,0,1,1,66.0,0,0,8,8,35,26,4,0,21,0,55,9,2,4,7,77,88,37,3,8,11,12,3,2,0,9,3,3,1,9,25,24,0,2,17,3,1,4,11,11,0,2,4,8,75,15,64,59,10,57,0,2,2,4,57,23,0,8,28,308,100,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585360983342942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04490610675138222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05434122965875576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507768867494528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406393736000763,0.10544724772857612,0.07306654034437209,0.0,0.042587152190360175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778772795502815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848746488596083,0.0,0.0,0.13084660742319,0.0,0.11127477598592066,0.0,0.05934805596192315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033389311592286135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350178354674183,0.0,0.037529247640748366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21088665496468745,0.0,0.0,0.06777102495817572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623855158097121,0.0,0.0,0.07619559576982149,0.0706918998808921,0.0,0.0,0.137846897029045,0.0,0.05869499743290421,0.07305801244289521,0.0,0.10887342969742292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0466425173379133,0.06452279168604602,0.0,0.0,0.058438952066395385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383968873540319,0.062483972537761265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193154160424893,0.07335006759218309,0.0,0.0,0.07005276558576579,0.0,0.5413762674239412,0.0,0.0701848206077042,0.04854336882659597,0.0,0.10186062183986827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050222640475545234,0.0702659620248538,0.0,0.1466482437549727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765926924328249,0.0,0.0,0.06242447822047365,0.07444461070762105,0.0,0.06718139831564438,0.07119696587699928,0.06318663631882368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107092512764655,0.0,0.0,0.08460750357075016,0.06789504209079439,0.06520165741735655,0.07089694389688157,0.0,0.05639358233021116,0.0,0.15754119580256434,0.0,0.06683100841483693,0.052621395004541376,0.06011584054562991,0.20666691483604865,0.0,0.0,0.10924977171910152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595129393088102,0.10167403416321924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820705798018564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559434749675156,0.07223164014922427,0.07493580606138896,0.062237264653662236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04387076110539222,0.2538756089667938,0.0,0.0,0.03850557582296711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966694519011825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089716841726627,0.03894919060943424,0.052415558714609095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917274512132014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072824069721926,0.07219897418467519,0.0,0.08504883005594377
parenting,cosmicwitchball,2020/03/23,"I feel like I’m a terrible mother... Hello everyone. I could definitely use some advice/encouragement. 

So I just had my little girl 5 days ago. She was born exactly at 38 weeks, so she has had a bit of a rough time adjusting v.s a full term babe. 

I already feel like I’m failing. I live with my dad and stepmom, and my partner lives separate with his parents. I was let go from my job at 5 months pregnant, so I don’t want us to move out together until I start working again and can save money, even though he has a large amount saved up. But he stays nights and days with me, and definitely plans to more now that little one is here. 

Last night was my first night bringing baby home, and I encouraged him to stay the night at his place so he could sleep since he didn’t sleep much at the hospital. I slept a total of 6 hours during our 72 hour stay, but I felt ok. I basically told myself I’m super mom and my love for my baby would keep the need for sleep at bay. Well, I was definitely not ok last night. 

She’s been fine today and in the hospital, but last night, she just would not sleep unless I was holding her. I was fine with it, I wasn’t really tired anyway. However, as the night progressed, I felt the exhaustion setting in. Next thing I knew, it was 6am and I had a full on mental breakdown. Thank God I was able to lay her down for a couple minutes and talk to my mom on the phone. I felt absolutely awful for leaving her in her bassinet knowing she was fussy. But I made sure she wasn’t hungry or needed a diaper change before I did this. I felt terrible, but I knew I absolutely needed to step away to calm down for a minute for my own sanity. I wasn’t upset with her, or felt like I was a danger to her in any way, I just really needed a pause.

So there I was, hyperventilating and shaking because I was so angry at myself for needing sleep so badly. I’m still upset at myself because this was just her first night. There are going to be many more nights before she adjusts and things get a bit easier. I couldn’t even hold myself together the first night alone with my newborn, what kind of parent am I?! I feel absolutely pathetic. 

She got really fussy during my panic attack when she was alone, and it woke my parents up. They took her and held her and told me to get some rest, and they absolutely didn’t mind what so ever. At one point in my pregnancy, I briefly considered adoption, and they told me they would be more than happy to adopt her. So I know 100% they don’t mind taking her at all to give me a break. I just couldn’t bring myself to burden them. Since I gave birth to her, I couldn’t even leave her with the nurses because I felt so guilty for not having her with me. Family wants to hold her, and I even feel guilty for stepping away while they do it. 

I feel a bit better with a few hours of sleep now, but I’m still so upset with myself. I feel like I’m already failing. Thank you for taking the time to read my long ramble, I guess I could really use some encouragement. I love this little girl endlessly, I just need to know that I’m doing ok by her :(",3.1243536732236064,4.219321694968553,4.530214104108122,86.6850120433561,73.40251572327044,7.676916900843032,22.49417904456043,8.128838120801504,0.9664984343637092,2402,57,521,36,47,800,261,636,0.134,0.732,0.134,-0.8521,5,2,0,0,0,0,73.0,2,1,7,10,34,38,2,5,26,4,47,11,7,3,5,104,107,43,0,17,18,7,13,4,1,3,2,0,1,5,13,29,0,5,19,1,1,9,13,14,1,5,42,13,110,24,70,53,19,87,0,2,0,2,66,30,0,6,46,349,123,5,0.05023230026562398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04452790334191048,0.0,0.0,0.10405102761213243,0.11086518489678188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034159686719597813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057146493322466976,0.09438979929152584,0.0,0.0419418725172122,0.09186343200770944,0.0,0.0854879754846235,0.0,0.0,0.0444263875003621,0.16452198551506853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05313911311570835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031921296788138,0.055581084810292065,0.0,0.06479135611362075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271184229335115,0.045437991443720634,0.0,0.04799911556173971,0.0,0.0,0.04735454213019217,0.0,0.1523937619562742,0.10765789603994984,0.2893853143896655,0.0,0.0,0.12818270683427185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052488607254105035,0.04818739963158231,0.057096347689536,0.0,0.040175359330378684,0.0,0.055336541982191935,0.0,0.0,0.053473217698584714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050387092857838336,0.0,0.1484060917058947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498478070425474,0.044648776510867114,0.0,0.052309210772020186,0.08281907561353333,0.12283808739686974,0.0,0.10637750601942872,0.0,0.05136593036406844,0.0,0.09816385831316184,0.15103788409480295,0.08871208286589795,0.04445400501677234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067322437933588,0.04753101707754211,0.0,0.05092766819805658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05062234390463647,0.0,0.10144060729826378,0.11766292592302086,0.040094942827922184,0.05338898554942202,0.03692652049777992,0.22347968493476794,0.0,0.0,0.05342262120551282,0.4713961096994648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807741336427142,0.0,0.0,0.05893678120799696,0.1673310745590818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248206237746288,0.0,0.04748576026533632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024589383947112,0.0,0.1287203912868763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310535573198438,0.0,0.3016114645927594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03555468067223923,0.16062284538880026,0.08023115975966963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04734334852549562,0.0,0.07553687662569536,0.04037482018779286,0.0,0.09249430632440736,0.0,0.0,0.06674421649631816,0.0,0.04935297996765664,0.0,0.058581716484686776,0.05773463968545123,0.04761434714310826,0.14399734668521913,0.055809933881133145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042327227954517,0.0867691583903377,0.0,0.0,0.059256624341375186,0.03987206182973365,0.04029332130744022,0.0,0.0451648705955384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03656971285718298,0.0,0.0,0.10705075462078878,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pantelima,2020/03/23,ISO: A couple days ago there was a picture of mom's reward store for her kid(not sure if it was on here or another sub). It was a picture of a mom's DIY store with baskets of treats and a sign of rewards her kid could buy by earning Monopoly money by doing chores and other things. Looking to keep the little one busy! If anyone saw this post it would be great to get a look at it again! Thanks!,1.2355722891566288,3.1666160963855465,2.6731174698795184,94.37666415662649,80.80722891566266,5.113855421686747,21.218373493975907,5.985473137389443,0.0533144578313256,308,9,68,2,8,100,61,83,0.0,0.805,0.195,0.9515,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,11,13,5,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,3,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,6,12,6,0,7,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,3,3,44,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19674037085547966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327281161442981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551887256576661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720459010893386,0.2455773215765689,0.0,0.14313581454918192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159568190036542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24469454872749385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972744322035832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244665404422895,0.0,0.0,0.3727548935401912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5198773340905913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503953088620082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125614398661536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20918002527371188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043366379565928,0.0,0.0,0.1474500360494703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576629752265156,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,senshimars1776,2020/03/23,"Nightly bedwetting leads to sleeping in our bed and I’m over it My son (4 years) old is fully potty trained. He has no accidents during the day but without fail will wet the bed every night. We try to limit drinks at night before bed, he goes potty before bed, and he goes regularly during the day. 

There’s probably one or two nights that the bed wetting doesn’t happen. We don’t yell at him for it or get upset as he’s 4. He’ll wake up crying that he’s wet the bed, I go in there and change him into new pajamas. In the beginning when this started to happen, his dad and I would let him come to our bed instead of stripping his bed because it usually wasn’t just the sheets but his blankets that got wet. 

There have been times I change his sheets and get a new blanket but he just cries and has a little tantrum about having to sleep back in his bed. He expects to go to my bed. Last night I asked him if he wets his bed on purpose to come sleep in our bed. Which feels like a crazy question because I genuinely can’t see him doing anything like that or even being capable of that level of manipulation (even though I know toddlers are capable of some level of manipulation). He told me “no” in the most genuine way possible. I believe him.

But I’m just over him wetting the bed every night, having to change him, and then have him sleep in our bed. Because at midnight, 2 am, 4 am, whenever this happens, I’m too tired myself to deal with the screaming. 

Anyone experienced this before? Any advice? 

Thank you!",3.247543859649124,4.763830421052635,4.44934210526316,85.72372807017548,73.73684210526315,7.040350877192982,25.824561403508767,7.645422480735847,1.322636403508772,1184,40,240,15,24,389,155,304,0.107,0.8290000000000001,0.064,-0.9167,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,6,1,0,3,14,7,1,1,13,0,20,7,5,3,0,36,42,19,0,3,12,2,7,2,0,3,1,2,14,0,12,13,1,1,3,1,0,5,7,4,0,2,4,11,33,3,35,33,2,44,0,1,1,0,38,18,0,7,22,148,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794902981759628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061204527764316626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293157481369004,0.0,0.07406407591310618,0.0,0.08413983261456431,0.0,0.0,0.06920607462250747,0.0,0.16459337057138745,0.0,0.22975552492678694,0.10140156859001047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856309266614808,0.15505771374093946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977262048401446,0.11608784315544556,0.09278823352810113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816781323354722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889110258784973,0.0,0.15166133537258306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04550777602911644,0.0642975323643191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404478578403096,0.0,0.10230055755752626,0.0,0.0719829170496125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23876573189259295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04946281128016952,0.0733637400552619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203326531984647,0.0,0.08794097909764284,0.09020576843913206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384921627207614,0.0,0.5067653550968766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444208473796603,0.0,0.06098776564578324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014638670010753,0.0,0.0,0.09703750759065252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008229721223626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172003686232256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602684729953536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637039636287712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828618597404404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842662573217437,0.0,0.0524809598299289,0.10344419685686802,0.0,0.08600088241956012,0.0,0.0611055314460224,0.0,0.08791899321953159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912461954970844,0.0,0.0,0.07143949343886766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675883174856695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393492361489916,0.0,0.0,0.05795841431211843
parenting,garbagecan1526,2020/03/23,"Help, 6 year old step daughter gets very upset every time we do homework. Hello all, first time poster. I am 22 and currently in school for English Education. Obviously all of our lives have changed in the last few weeks, especially with kids doing school at home. My step daughter is 6, in first grade and every time I have ever helped her with her homework she gets very upset, mostly when it comes to writing. If she writes a few sentences, and I correct a letter, or tell her to try writing neater or smaller, I slowly start to feel the tension coming off of her. Eventually it turns to full on crying. I’m not mean, I tell her how great she’s doing when she does good and try including rewards for a job well done. I’m very patient and I never yell. But no matter what I do she is just soooo flustered when she does school work at home. Any tips or ideas??",3.3151932773109247,5.074476317647061,4.069243697478992,87.51588235294119,74.05882352941177,6.26890756302521,24.495798319327733,6.868970318607317,0.8436386554621853,674,21,135,6,14,215,106,170,0.075,0.804,0.121,0.7401,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,4,7,7,0,3,5,0,10,0,0,1,6,32,20,14,0,1,7,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,3,10,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,3,1,2,1,2,21,4,17,19,6,28,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,5,16,84,24,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817608136120889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371674980515849,0.2233884008574177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424300011950457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269399763400833,0.13269146342633908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728866436391595,0.21849530967150316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655620998688682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22058455199345214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548835332612202,0.0,0.0,0.10875615316549332,0.0,0.14295520418649071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382231868749834,0.0,0.2601274675530661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637506413598084,0.0,0.0,0.12867168032134846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569360386188384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144958368722098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412422925026385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000500075169733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360607336085384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936811847036982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177696626616133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266643979444279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22682465919994094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606691887738773,0.14103738197636065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209595571112689,0.0,0.0,0.10400877522918958,0.0,0.11658366006078975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943970593969481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349947369304843
parenting,CoffeeSlutt,2020/03/23,"Why is there so many myths around swallowing gum and why is it discouraged? I'm asking here because it's parents who discourage it and create the rumours.

I've swallowed gum since I first started chewing gum at around 4. Often times I'd have 4-5 packs of bubblegum or chewing gum sitting in my stomach. All that happens is it comes out of the other end undigested and you have mint smelling poop. Occasionally I'll swallow gum and only half will travel down and the other half will be in my mouth. That's easy (but gross) to fix. You just pull it out your oesophagus and reswallow it. In 18 years I've never come close to choking or had any adverse effects from swallowing gum.",4.509545454545453,6.10075995454546,5.023151515151518,82.5597272727273,70.66666666666666,7.40121212121212,31.381818181818186,7.908726449838941,2.214312727272727,542,24,101,7,10,173,88,132,0.083,0.88,0.038,-0.7184,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,2,7,4,0,0,3,0,9,9,3,1,2,23,15,10,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,13,6,2,1,1,0,4,1,4,0,3,1,2,6,0,14,11,1,21,0,2,0,0,7,10,0,3,6,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697607456665075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4109851193666014,0.21580005795306267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071519518666545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976887351873822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044517619838054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634858199316935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412709485514266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23403099408336445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803458957003007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556082071133045,0.0,0.0,0.2563155360383185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094953395441466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338657465488002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460205256898294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4165863192738482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486505116395701
parenting,furkaanhassan,2020/03/23,"My 14 months old niece swallowed a marble ( bass - 0.8cm) My 14 months old niece swallowed a marble-like little ball which has a bass of 0.8cm, we're so worried right now.
She has not shown any symptoms of problems like choking or anything.
Will it pass or should we contact a doctor immediately?",5.030789473684212,6.261231333333335,5.079780701754388,84.02388157894737,69.0,6.401754385964912,30.03947368421053,5.985473137389443,1.3707578947368415,234,9,44,1,4,73,39,57,0.153,0.8029999999999999,0.045,-0.7241,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,4,4,0,0,0,6,4,3,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,6,21,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084573512983548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188428331118777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721969690640146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992299421206302,0.2665379360354697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4245354748259052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5581106125808332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25446502763474377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271080614842663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764095366298011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700711196351823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WaywardEscapades,2020/03/23,"My sons father is letting him watch YouTube unsupervised. And other issues. I'm at my wits end. As the states my sons father is letting him watch youtube completely unsupervised. The father told him which shows hes allowed to watch, and ""trusted"" him to skip any ""naughty"" shows. Well, our son is 4 so of course he isnt going to do that. This has been an ongoing issue. When our son was only 1 he did this. I argued with him not to then, too. He agreed not to let him watch it on the phone (because our son was able to navigate youtube on the phone by himself and choose whatever show he wanted.) That was as far as I was able to get. But now our son is able to navigate youtube on the television with the remote. I went to pick him up for the week, and I hear youtube playing. As soon as I walk up the stairs i hear the show turn off. My son is (as fucking usual) alone in the living room. He was watching YouTube. And he looked guilty. He said ""a naughty show came on. But I can watch what I want and what i think is okay. So yeah."" I lost it. I argued with his father that this needs to stop. He comes home to me saying weird things that he picked up from watching youtube. One thing in particular that really shocked me that he picked up was that he ""wants a girlfriend named Lexi that will sit on him."" I almost threw up. His dad said its not a big deal. He learns so many awful things from YouTube and I'm scared of what will happen if this continues. At my home he isn't even allowed to watch youtube with supervision. No youtube at all at our house. Only dvds and Netflix, and we only watch new shows together to make sure its appropriate for him. So after I argued it hard enough he turned to our son and said ""alright, momma says no YouTube poor guy. Mommy's rules. Mean overprotective momma is taking it away from you."" And our son started sobbing. I was fuming. 
On the way home I made sure to tell my son that he wasnt in trouble, and it wasnt being taken away because he was bad, but just because he isnt ready for something as big as that.  Please keep in mind that the father isnt just letting him watch youtube kids, but just youtube in general. Not to mention almost every time I go to pick up our son, his father is either sleeping, or just in the other room (often times just in his boxers. Which is disgusting. He knows im coming to pick him up, and 90% of the time he is indecent and it makes me VERY uncomfortable.) Often times his house is a wreck and theres cat puke all over the carpets, and my son isnt dressed and ready at all. Hes usually in the same outfit I dropped him off in 3 or 4 days prior.

Ive already taken him to court once, but i went easy on him. Hes SUPPOSED to have him half the time. We have split custody. But he usually only takes him Friday Saturday and Sunday. And he usually just dumps him off with family members. He pays no child support and claimed him for foodstamps behind my back. I dont know what to do anymore. Ive been seperated from his father since our son was only 6 months old. To give you a better picture of what a selfish manbaby his father is, one of the last straws was when I gave birth. After hours of labor and pushing I was exhausted. I didnt know the nurses could watch the baby for you. I begged his father to hold him and feed him so i could rest. He said ""I would, but hospitals make me real tired. Ill hold him after i nap."" 

I'm glad I left him, but i wish I didnt have to share my beautiful boy with him. He isnt fit to be a caretaker of a child. He can barely take care of himself. What the hell should I do?",1.8813387607417449,3.6808054898236087,3.1427476255088216,92.41969357756672,78.22659430122117,6.094889190411577,22.292853912256884,6.980632752743323,0.5029621890547262,2774,82,613,30,66,898,298,737,0.111,0.831,0.057,-0.9881,2,1,1,0,0,0,96.0,11,3,0,2,23,29,8,1,30,4,63,6,1,11,5,100,113,49,0,10,22,25,1,0,1,4,3,8,6,5,36,33,1,4,7,9,2,10,18,17,1,3,32,21,95,12,95,69,7,89,1,2,12,1,127,42,3,7,33,387,131,4,0.20588666560320826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744383688958944,0.07107883113178788,0.07573368506313496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04666999758825945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680614162936659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289581998058696,0.05277137907448064,0.05730225529563712,0.1255066003807752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060696674841208574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849316553884028,0.06997172573647817,0.0,0.0,0.11823542131060615,0.07195608390907615,0.0,0.0,0.1095891662224708,0.0,0.0,0.044259955578397375,0.07075337059458618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804325462410288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060784825108161564,0.07091198751432642,0.0,0.04532873362251001,0.0,0.05782279852992577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469720829556892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344630157887854,0.03585576170630966,0.06583508341428135,0.07800675781491598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679533894675437,0.06068829948058738,0.0,0.06147800403933972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469949034792738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20652111257263955,0.0,0.06758563096953624,0.15837704615549222,0.0,0.0,0.07413097639355501,0.14326145856980935,0.0,0.061000509436330015,0.0,0.0,0.11314992701405505,0.05594170393127279,0.0,0.0,0.07456548819804631,0.2807107531035345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060600565915401874,0.0,0.05763098174164614,0.0,0.07491653886286521,0.0,0.0,0.06493831370835612,0.1374309480263009,0.06957892124389371,0.0,0.0747569788620509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929561352278825,0.0,0.05477892407037157,0.0,0.0,0.050887451254770566,0.0,0.066282208200199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720144738951942,0.07308752648451823,0.0930094220010135,0.2609768113328564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533391074233782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811469992795117,0.04396542333826371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611271554142277,0.10915289344889048,0.06870948982934172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056770525787023664,0.0,0.06867845149694049,0.0,0.0,0.05283387129791645,0.0,0.0,0.04857588053560101,0.0,0.0,0.057376823812967076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787924941971627,0.1293638305082806,0.0,0.15480114962193192,0.0,0.0599846735197765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678195215091146,0.04397462065978168,0.0,0.0,0.20009028401656112,0.07887881165295305,0.0,0.06557784402102836,0.0,0.0,0.14929704688797554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30234009961721536,0.056626020439527414,0.12143728971233975,0.054474417306790514,0.0550499547515563,0.0,0.061705612790603624,0.12723933446960714,0.0,0.0,0.07891983487563596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875199335583358,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,minervasweeneywren,2020/03/23,"I started an interactive adventure to distract your kids and keep you sane! Hey Friends with kids/Friends who know kids! I've started an interactive adventure for kids while we're all stuck at home! Videos will post every morning Monday-Friday for as long as this lasts (and maybe keep going!)

The story is interactive! They get to vote every day at the end of the episode for what should happen next, as well as solve puzzles! It's aimed at ages 7-10 (maybe 5-12 depending on the kid--I'm trying to keep it interesting but not too scary for littles) If you're interested, share it with your kids and see if they want to join the fun! I think having the ability to control the adventure will help kids feel like they have more agency in this tough time. 

The channel is kid-safe and produced through YouTube Kids. I'm a writer with a fiction podcast that people listen to all over the world, and I write novels for ages 8-12!

[https://youtu.be/R0TTuvMezVs?fbclid=IwAR2ePZ7DXNoS-2h1lGtqfCxtrLtUGfzet-rx-UpA9W4d4pHlJrlwXpapc44](https://youtu.be/R0TTuvMezVs?fbclid=IwAR2ePZ7DXNoS-2h1lGtqfCxtrLtUGfzet-rx-UpA9W4d4pHlJrlwXpapc44)",10.378833333333333,12.573274994444445,7.042222222222224,71.29000000000002,57.38888888888889,8.444444444444445,30.0,8.59863814320734,2.145,929,27,144,11,12,256,115,180,0.026000000000000002,0.75,0.223,0.9881,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,3,3,2,2,12,0,1,13,0,7,0,0,3,2,27,23,13,0,4,4,0,1,1,1,3,0,1,1,6,8,8,0,4,3,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,3,9,10,26,19,3,21,0,0,1,0,22,8,0,4,12,78,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953581846298572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233198013796973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542721784852548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29350908156607963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807086864695679,0.1244345477036344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691427659405167,0.0,0.09100209566841133,0.0,0.09899076326422566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540271959782059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167494835252018,0.0,0.174717192342478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.464458759042612,0.0,0.0,0.095725019662087,0.14198031364403507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509576927949525,0.17457456893339746,0.0,0.1541442163933191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349975345308204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852428837467834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207547921039098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681672239995984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879926678498128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465716368758771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160779874212913,0.0,0.0,0.10156602064426624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182570914944712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273614179159232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15660914205206536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alicekeeps76,2020/03/23,"Awkward scenario Hello, I'm a long time lurker but I never seem to come across posts with a similar situation to what I've had.

Basically I live alone with my 19 year old son, we have a very good relationship and we talk about most thing together. 

Last month I received a text messages from him and they were picture messages, I opened them up and to my horror they were pictures of his fully erect penis. I replied back straight away asking why he sent them but no reply for atleast 30 minutes, his reply finally came through claiming he was meant to send them to a girl he knows. 

There is a feeling inside me that I can't fight off, I'm concerned that it wasn't an accident and he meant for me to see them. I really don't know how to begin to ask him. 

Has anyone been in a similar situation to this? I'd very much appreciate your ideas/advice. Thanks!",4.314649122807019,5.3672189005847954,5.286798245614037,82.5396710526316,70.52046783625731,8.273099415204678,28.869883040935672,8.59863814320734,2.0478339181286542,676,25,136,11,12,222,117,171,0.068,0.8009999999999999,0.131,0.8991,0,1,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,1,6,0,4,4,1,1,8,0,11,0,0,1,1,22,27,7,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,11,0,0,6,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,10,2,24,2,22,17,2,23,0,0,1,0,30,7,0,2,10,84,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951771169964933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966772907290646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129771730509335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243513184214519,0.0,0.16298542432058086,0.13339152722950728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19840912653669324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943330738984675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771414617074641,0.0,0.0,0.1900333264119404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550255612322022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067458958525904,0.14140523621111847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531815575071256,0.15351987025696207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384660486401737,0.0,0.12752404724211794,0.0,0.1337945744764842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18203277655396352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661410475122015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113249392451162,0.0,0.0,0.18624717322614592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823707387256434,0.15792507761720004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899862202815226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943259228363164,0.0,0.1597124252479976,0.0,0.0,0.11524904733613273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115463736918699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862700001338631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653415848734584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171217906902713
parenting,Clara-J,2020/03/23,"Baby sucking mouth! Hi all,

I want to ask you ladies, because I noticed something. My baby is 2 months old and he’s been sucking his mouth continuously! Do you think it's normal?

Thank you",1.1099999999999994,3.72031891891892,2.923027027027029,87.28616216216219,89.54054054054055,4.0410810810810815,23.616216216216216,5.6839178017228535,0.5139016216216219,148,6,28,1,5,49,31,37,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.5242,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,5,9,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,1,1,8,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,3,14,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34276763157365003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235060297854413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926559989134001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592384985194917,0.0,0.41743269483089096,0.38473679707448266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28226456878361394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375614441869282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349340874145971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21625927568082728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stringged,2020/03/23,"Need advice on product/software to control tablet time Ok parents, here we go.

Background: My kids (5yo, 2yo) used to have an ipad a couple of years ago while overseas (to recoup my money ofc!). Screen time was unmanageable to say the least.

With all of us at home now, I'm back to wanting one, but I have a super-specific wish list of what it looks like. I know it's mostly a software (app) question, but I know certain apps don't exist without a particular hardware they are made for, so this question is dual.

The wish list is simple - I want to set the timer for screen time, and after that time is used for a given day, it's done. Over. Finito. No more for that day. Ipad is either off or locked. Automatically. Child-proof AND parent-proof (so I can tell my child - look dude, I can't do it even if I wanted to)

I am not too concerned about apps allowed to use during that time - I don't care if they use YouTube or Netflix or paint. All I know is the child gets 1 hr a day.

Thoughts? Comments? Advice? Direction? I'm sure someone has thought of this! And since Googling yields 1 million results - I thought I'd ask you!",1.3439000000000014,3.621847306666666,2.5933611111111112,93.16737500000002,82.6,4.6388888888888875,22.708333333333336,5.7366,0.1922333333333337,864,30,183,5,24,277,140,225,0.028999999999999998,0.872,0.098,0.9273,3,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,1,2,1,8,5,0,0,11,1,17,0,0,8,4,43,43,13,0,8,10,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,10,5,0,2,8,1,1,1,6,0,0,2,7,5,19,5,24,36,6,20,0,0,4,0,15,4,0,8,15,109,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255807194651873,0.10231583368913108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790524930313897,0.0,0.0,0.08875342989618303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176817957723342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945709934427133,0.0,0.1277137390917481,0.0,0.2233155320287104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811815905763302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623603272088242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030393536776295,0.0,0.06559774855782287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577902901323082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19030096031461335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639001753760749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938530842878388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921636262634754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558494996238941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821384773364194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563279368766261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25860113110003474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178927902384916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954793861554516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977978281338545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878513944001357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008850935763669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748997360179094,0.3365214119249542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388400758516778,0.3987548531554443,0.0,0.0,0.20423904336581314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265462307595456,0.11126398850783688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432885176052996
parenting,permafrost91,2020/03/23,"How to Best Discipline a Difficult Child? Yes, positive discipline is best. But what if it isn't working either? We're desperate because we have been dealing with her behavior for a while and have tried multiple forms of discipline and frankly we're at a loss. It's frustrating us to no end.

Our 3 year-old decides she makes the rules (I know, which 3 year-old doesn't). Time-outs don't phase her. Having toys taken away from her doesn't phase her. Being restricted to her room doesn't phase her. Her response to everything is ""no!"" She thinks she is the boss and only takes instructions/guidance from others when she feels like it (which is infrequent). She enjoys making her own rules and living by them. She has no respect for items belonging to others.

Positive reinforcements don't go far enough either. And it seems that positive behavior is few and far between so it's difficult to support and encourage.

For example, right now we have been trying to get her to do a time-out for taking her older sister's journal and pen. She did this while her sister was telling her to leave her stuff alone. And while one parent was watching it all go down. In fact, she did it with a smile. When asked why she is in a time-out, she says it was because she took the pen and journal but doesn't understand that she wasn't supposed to.

So ... how can we teach her and help her understand that she needs to respect grown-ups and elders? That rules exist for a reason? That she doesn't make the rules? How can we help her understand that everything in life has consequences (good or bad)?",3.535419103313842,5.709714052631582,4.016900584795323,86.31737816764134,74.59210526315789,7.924756335282653,25.403996101364523,8.735056554316923,1.8832060428849904,1248,43,243,26,27,392,148,304,0.054000000000000006,0.821,0.125,0.9740000000000001,1,1,0,0,0,0,47.0,6,0,1,4,8,14,1,0,11,1,32,1,0,8,2,47,52,26,0,2,6,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,21,18,0,4,9,1,0,3,12,5,0,1,10,3,38,9,29,41,10,21,0,1,1,0,48,10,0,3,9,172,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292658574910339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668080717790667,0.0,0.11726341030776112,0.0,0.10421140934671354,0.15216643324672285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619614750788241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867396628023353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105449036645039,0.12896243123972045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22434294739149055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310785123940901,0.08916452223269232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520824427130266,0.0,0.14186516967821847,0.10468498033262913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731546200869354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859249140530907,0.0,0.0,0.1321561146384651,0.0,0.0,0.0881572247291442,0.060976021144070115,0.0,0.11020980498359673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24993558644045535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925452756782784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26193488473573895,0.0,0.08457470739364441,0.09492387751753648,0.0,0.0,0.13858709733847124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832580283413672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106587336930137,0.0,0.09925418120014727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362263375211708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287796330210445,0.0,0.14163327951091628,0.0,0.0,0.18768366547254384,0.0,0.10908972665120112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997341763949506,0.0,0.0,0.21833371534545126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138668865175559,0.16947603793836644,0.0,0.0,0.3897958548643724,0.15013145536140565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126219067158872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086340421943988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074751647459132
parenting,friskyspatula,2020/03/23,"Get kids Moving with Joe Weeks I don't know if you need this, but I just found out about it.  [Joe Weeks](https://youtu.be/K6r99N3kXME) is doing a daily 30 minute PE class for kids.  I just found it and plan on using it.",1.6004651162790715,4.141477883720935,1.4849302325581384,99.7339069767442,84.11627906976744,4.370232558139535,13.251162790697672,5.6839178017228535,-1.2735916279069768,171,2,38,1,5,50,35,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,12,9,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,5,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,22,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7542635618052258,0.0,0.0,0.179703662050703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890301147111252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655725201454209,0.0,0.2550402196950035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970689513690933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275902058520188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tissuedigester,2020/03/23,"Unexpected benefit of a 3 year old who doesn't sleep through the night Every night our almost three year old wakes up and comes to our room. About three weeks ago my husband told her she had to potty before coming into our bed, and Presto! She's now out of diapers during the night. 

Just sharing because I had a lot of anxiety over her not sleeping through the night. Pediatricians, friends, and basically everyone else would ask if she was and I would feel embarrassed that she wasn't. But at least there's a positive side to it.",5.434537815126048,6.610429960784316,5.710504201680673,80.0744117647059,68.01960784313725,9.357983193277313,30.257703081232492,9.606745405546679,2.6743820728291325,424,16,82,9,7,135,72,102,0.040999999999999995,0.835,0.124,0.8622,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,6,0,7,3,3,0,0,17,12,6,0,3,4,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,5,1,12,3,14,5,2,20,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,3,11,56,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204954597989586,0.0,0.16046450440906376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225887314706377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498095760909255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768525523311618,0.0,0.1363586334964656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760776869092241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386604092645338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501524578513088,0.15312314439391567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081025840246117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380665191297573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623650794448888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6015248716772402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33630513016468555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32072601965823644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312314439391567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854070297886094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22767014163267574,0.0,0.0,0.2063879903059788
parenting,skittlesforeveryone,2020/03/23,"15 year old son rebelling and getting into drugs despite our efforts to stop it... what to do? Guess I have to clarify first. This is my brother, I'm more so asking for help given my parents aren't native and don't know how to use reddit. Asking for advice for my parents, and me as an older brother, on what to do with a 15 year old who's been acting unmotivated, reckless, and spiraling downwards.

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Visited my parents for the weekend and my mom pulled me aside and told me what's been going on. I've known my brother has been quite rebellious the past few months, knew he was likely sneaking out using work as an excuse to do stuff. Having super religous, Jehovah Witness, family I get that. I used to sneak out all the time too, was a lot more careful and never got caught. That being said I did not know my brother was caught smoking cigs. My mother saw a burnt cig in the bathroom and confronted him about it, after denying it my mom went out to grab a test and he tested positive. He came clean and said he's smoked three times (albeit given his suspicious activities these past few months I doubt it). My mom also expressed concern that he's been saying he hasn't been sleeping well and asking her for Nyquil, to the point that she hid it in fear that he would be abusing it...

He's also been very unmotivated school wise. Used to be in advance classes but got removed because he wouldn't put in the work. His teachers all agree that he's capable of the work but he just won't do it, he stopped bringing his backpack to school. He also started getting into a lot of trouble at school, not listening to teachers, supposedly stealing.   

He’s in a very Mid-90’s (the movie) situation from the sounds of it. Bad influences. In fact to me it seems like he looks up to it. Know he’s seen it because he’s mentioned it to me before and he’s i’ma very skater phase now all of a sudden... just thought he wasn’t being an actual dhmbass and smoking.

Basically, I had no clue that his actions went to this extent or ever got this bad. I thought he was just going through a phase but it's becoming clear that he's clearly headed down a dark path. He's been pulled out of traditional school to online school. He's dropped out of church, which I don't blame him as so I. I'm worried for him but don't know what to do. I feel like I'm the closest to him in the family. We like the same stuff and can talk to each other without hiding stuff, at least I thought. Lots of traditions between me and him and now I feel like I need to step up. But how? How do I bring this up? What's do's and don'ts?

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I'm a college student and ofcourse I drink and smoke, weed, but I never ever shared that with anyone in my family less my brother. So I don't know what caused it, I mean yeah his friends probably, but I don't know what to do or what my parents should do and I feel like this is possibly a bigger problem than we even know.

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Help please.",2.8102671118530864,4.512668739565947,4.014420367278799,87.61887262103508,75.29382303839733,6.528227045075126,26.170317195325545,7.24861992348623,1.215368186978297,2321,85,475,26,50,758,262,599,0.09300000000000001,0.804,0.10300000000000001,0.8613,4,0,4,0,0,0,80.0,3,0,0,8,20,21,2,2,26,1,45,4,2,9,10,97,100,41,0,5,15,14,4,6,1,4,1,5,1,0,43,33,1,2,17,2,0,18,17,9,1,2,33,12,54,12,70,59,15,70,1,0,3,0,70,27,0,8,30,307,97,13,0.0,0.07157045813714556,0.058946904682138576,0.0,0.0,0.05902740556882024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449184014988372,0.0,0.19634750333390089,0.2201973233533578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0422368228201765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941253477837198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008718825158314,0.07364507722109888,0.06671295948609514,0.05140050087214368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908762431495817,0.061587276639506,0.062052930352024416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917424308882304,0.07005102459981599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03989716171703088,0.10928018849862717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083435444092687,0.0679728085839502,0.091628274619179,0.12946077499027733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138075693942718,0.0,0.0,0.046669020922646916,0.0,0.0946779013416046,0.0,0.06865950100175396,0.0,0.14493502137066608,0.0,0.06654329941241087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061993312529845475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097686103961728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23238039119302534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706600687062288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072527764852189,0.0,0.0,0.15406339662974144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579913085537348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122380355450002,0.0964299426726208,0.0,0.0,0.04478979909270811,0.09317665430175218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677049991692946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682919555271753,0.0,0.11532747662837856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630693115527173,0.05710257724776376,0.06809795219429512,0.0,0.0,0.06512718022950746,0.0577997587529472,0.0,0.06072405737751644,0.0,0.06424852152461473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149186345578388,0.048036756090287146,0.0,0.3056671781120752,0.0,0.05499075885659896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789814043618995,0.06044897059484557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042755215211078064,0.0,0.0,0.10100314901975307,0.0,0.0,0.20744900993077775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04855152946389675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386529351587535,0.07044568671074494,0.0,0.0,0.057719897267589214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20868329966803006,0.0,0.14952221125448376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054311660962278574,0.11199272290237422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822859852940745,0.0,0.13192743519451627,0.06134456159318823,0.0,0.042910225093502216,0.0,0.2201973233533578,0.07779812545567502
parenting,violet_mage_,2020/03/23,"Feeding woes Ok, I have a 9 month old who is now rejecting being spoon fed. So, the doctor said she can eat real foods. I made her scrambled eggs, pancakes, chicken with veggies. All finely chopped but watch her eat is so frustrating. Seems like she barely actually eats anything! Yet she doesn’t seem overly hungry. Is it always this hard? First time mom Btw.",2.186699834162521,5.0605738059701535,2.8118407960199012,88.16247097844116,87.05970149253731,4.768822553897182,22.369817578772803,6.42735559955562,0.7316514096185736,283,10,50,3,9,88,59,67,0.153,0.774,0.073,-0.7058,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,4,6,1,0,2,1,7,8,0,1,1,7,12,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,7,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,3,3,7,3,2,8,1,7,0,2,1,0,8,1,0,2,7,28,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.1918229956467408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356116083912173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175954419422708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011967082528844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6034175037410938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672014971416208,0.23769202381429194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760872203998357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960336878537324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859983474909149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302192455394384,0.15689950620181167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626610663298092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237385646723072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698213973563607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35789808315267285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146209688881381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Escobar619,2020/03/23,"Ex girlfriend pregnant, not together anymore. I want to be there for the baby. Hi guys, me and my ex girlfriend aren’t together anymore, I haven’t seen her in about a month. We just couldn’t see eye to eye on things. What advice can you guys give about me a guy in this situation. She’s due in July. What things should I send to her door when should I start helping. I want to help and I want us to come to an agreement about co-parenting. I want the best life possible for this baby. And I am willing to give anything for everything to work out for the better. It’s sucks that I can’t be with her. She misses me and stuff but we just can’t be together.",0.9620542231491136,3.0212561386861334,2.6103701772679884,93.77695255474457,82.5036496350365,5.958081334723673,21.46454640250261,7.1686216300943375,0.5197115745568306,509,16,115,7,14,167,78,137,0.061,0.858,0.081,0.6658,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,0,3,7,5,1,0,6,0,13,3,2,0,0,20,25,6,0,7,4,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,3,9,9,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,4,22,3,21,17,1,11,0,1,4,0,22,5,1,0,4,82,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702633314518905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187265097147498,0.0,0.0,0.1322357993322074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863630843663416,0.14211898882590449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842190337467886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444195810109531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30830075975609866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773309422807197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154168802800181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350149052159912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826279723262007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18115605157843748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805069510016456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806245068257553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137386033272542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395386024576166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21351320897645973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932926542328312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791211487796113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698566787304422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,naddyliteVT,2020/03/23,"Son's penis is fused. Not sure how to proceed. Since working from home I've been able to help out more with my infant son and when I cleaned his diaper I noticed his foreskin is fused to his penis head. He was circumcized at birth, but I guess there was some extra skin that barely covers the ""ridge?""

The doctor showed us how to pull it back and clean it one month ago, and he is 6 months now. So it somehow fused in the last month.

My wife feels horrible and from reading online the only options are to have a surgery or just let him live with it.",1.7018912337662329,3.8152317053571454,2.4987662337662364,95.2825974025974,80.16071428571428,5.1441558441558435,20.003246753246753,6.1124844417494595,-0.09572500000000027,429,11,93,3,11,134,81,112,0.055,0.897,0.048,-0.2098,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,9,1,0,0,5,0,9,3,2,2,1,19,11,10,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,7,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,2,10,1,12,7,3,14,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,5,10,61,15,3,0.21077070733824624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868355148785848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206966384378166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157327500802759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657200258137944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23218769663273506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163115530795799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127516227299586,0.0,0.21142020465330488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718062576722412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155273284056788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861143960780368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5047055031826378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399638472834356,0.0,0.0,0.1428236860811756,0.16030062062255976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21082774488500136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435170715458914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19864889729743448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25353120941520124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534435852092522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tomaxxaes,2020/03/23,"Parents back in control - new APP Hi there!

I'm Tom - father of 2 - and building a new coin-based app for my own  2 kids because I couldn't find the right solution to keep my kids off  the screen. Many screen-limiting applications (parentcontrols) on the market are good, but only good for  just a single device. What happens when your child moves to a different  device like a TV? Right!

The app works by limiting screen time but doing so in a more fun way, using a coin-based system. 

We will launch this app in may 2020 and love to  hear some (honest) feedback on this idea!   
Positive or negative, it  doesn't matter.. we can learn from it! 🙏

More info: [www.EZscreenTimer.com](https://www.EZscreenTimer.com) / [https://www.facebook.com/ezscreentimer/](https://www.facebook.com/ezscreentimer/)

Plan is to launch this project on Indiegogo soon to get some extra funds to complete the AI part, so am building up my social network a bit ;)

Tx in advance! Tom",5.97907407407407,8.935233080246919,4.6466913580246905,80.98411111111112,70.0493827160494,7.03604938271605,24.997530864197532,8.021203637495839,1.5427353086419764,757,23,126,11,15,220,111,162,0.028999999999999998,0.777,0.19399999999999998,0.9825,3,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,2,1,0,5,7,6,0,0,12,0,9,1,0,4,0,23,16,8,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,6,4,0,3,4,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,7,6,20,13,9,21,0,0,2,1,12,11,0,4,7,75,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409273052078043,0.0,0.1117228523469882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000890353627411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216054566814544,0.0,0.20555870541507693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148356133822544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751019978425746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575372033222036,0.0,0.0,0.30744506133455224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206964179147787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656445476802904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689537677310108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629034063906512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953899834058827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654130109950777,0.0,0.0,0.18581227252614665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479251816956886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3540166335881798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938903772424094,0.0,0.0,0.2035054050066218,0.1984691665083804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130320150593618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18682597183919747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686923487415297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582909160791409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547531196742594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342651827678054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bmovieguy138,2020/03/23,"Parenting survey! Hello,
My name is Chris and I'm a Student at Daytona State College. My groupmates and I are working on a research paper dealing with the stresses of having a child under the age of two. We have concocted a survey to get some statistics. It is completely anonymous and should only take a minute or two. We greatly appreciate anyone who takes the survey!

https://forms.office.com/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=FFGz-HlgdkKsIq6A0d-6mGnXldsKpXJHnqhcOfDREFJUODFXODFYRUg2SEY5OUlEWEg4REY1RzhGOS4u",12.782484472049687,17.754922362318844,8.947039337474123,48.4734782608696,57.26086956521739,7.421118012422363,33.04554865424431,8.418075326091056,3.378041821946172,429,16,44,6,7,121,53,69,0.054000000000000006,0.9009999999999999,0.045,-0.1508,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,10,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,1,7,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,1,35,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877397889693982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815146614610257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768092715458221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027893222946478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29601958998876865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20420455005412008,0.0,0.0,0.298134848632588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075631332363689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037536125012213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5245663494772784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546947575533366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grace--A,2020/03/23,"How would you handle this? We're off school for Coronavirus right now, so luckily my son didn't get suspended. However, I got a call from the office saying that he punched someone in the face. When he got home and I asked him about it, he told me that the other boy was hurting my son's ""girlfriend"" so he punched him.



I haven't said much about it since, but now I'm wondering if I should. Do I ground him? Do I praise him for defending her? He's 11.",0.7571276595744685,2.8821236489361763,2.261106382978724,95.59400000000002,83.78723404255321,6.313191489361702,21.102127659574467,7.554174236665415,0.6317863829787234,349,11,81,6,10,113,66,94,0.021,0.868,0.111,0.8397,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,1,8,2,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,0,7,15,7,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,1,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,2,15,1,7,7,1,7,1,1,0,0,21,4,0,2,3,49,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436033297359504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660771699713287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361401743347926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168127682810964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261378914958846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27895193427742565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155329894000508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22253042991277347,0.24786739124960225,0.20722044709294246,0.0,0.2637167638504613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21555111117227185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078514926945386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24899147843097102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825834926671787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510567224859376,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ikbengeenloli,2020/03/23,"(From a 24M non parent) As a parent aren’t you always afraid that something might happen to your family? I am not a parent, just very curious.
Because i am getting pretty anxious about the idea of having to protect my family all the time, since danger might lurk everywhere. How do you cope with this, because i understand that you have to be alert at all times right? Or is this just a feeling that lessens when they age?",4.5305284552845535,5.912204573170732,5.137560975609755,82.5706504065041,70.34146341463415,7.9056910569105705,27.081300813008127,8.344100000000001,1.8573837398373985,333,11,62,5,6,107,61,82,0.085,0.7659999999999999,0.149,0.6633,4,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,1,0,5,2,1,1,6,0,10,0,0,1,2,13,14,4,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,9,0,9,11,2,6,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,3,4,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858867531660722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20173887987757105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177152810553278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366891664222578,0.0,0.09029286733105216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329804823401736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791325083421534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015893980369627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788796334854751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5948590935051801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18167493715655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525020434635407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771905549049325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747573160258506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20825699503742826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590283521640014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734304711027227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LazarBsherlock,2020/03/23,"I'm not a parent but I need to know if anyone else does this So, I'm 15 and my mom is forcing me to shave and wax my legs, groin and armpits.
I wrote this somewhere else and the response I got was that it was wrong to force a 15-year old to wax.

She got as far as using my social anxiety against me to make me remove body hair (basically she booked an appointment for legs, armpits and groin --after we agreed that I wouldn't do the first one-- knowing that I'm too anxious to speak up).

Thankfully I live in Italy and this COVID-19 thing forced every shop except grocery stores to close.

Do you think I should just give in ""because she's my mom"" or not?",3.218,4.350979429629632,3.485370370370372,94.1191666666667,73.22222222222223,6.5851851851851855,26.092592592592588,6.742157984588678,0.7547925925925925,513,17,117,4,10,158,89,135,0.094,0.8590000000000001,0.047,-0.7469,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,7,6,6,2,0,24,21,12,0,4,7,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,8,8,0,0,3,2,2,1,3,1,0,2,5,2,18,1,16,14,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,3,70,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140059036056091,0.20683321653747724,0.0,0.12801684306237895,0.18759156511279665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160652794682434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033654531300984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021835925595748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058869837036377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425647162415546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557314650665147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563120317175754,0.0,0.0,0.2928585792551266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012367549302154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166684619560473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221023352653397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288523847845358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357547348118155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192116240157302,0.0,0.12406270217320155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20329351779044166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663145103479006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855948267071225,0.0,0.0,0.12163311506356653,0.1173130667564962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812610560861054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001740091396929,0.0,0.11790032668187328
parenting,PawstheHorse,2020/03/23,"I'm a 50/50 single dad to a 4 year old girl Her mother and I split in January 2019. We've alternated 4 nights one week, 3 nights the following, ever since. Until 4 weeks ago, when we went week on / week off, as that's what's in our legal agreement. This is week 4, there's 
been some complaints from my girl, and a few questions around when she'll be with her mother. 

Today, after watching one episode of Shera, we went to bed. There was a bit of complaint from little miss. She was screeching that she wanted her mother. She's already spoken to her mother today.

She rang her mother. Her mother realised age was upset, asking for her, and hang up on her. Then didn't answer when my daughter rang her back. Didn't answer 3x. 

Then told me that i needed to deal with her when she has a temper.

Is this normal/standard? Her mother indicated i have to deal with this on my watch. Am I weird for finding this weird?",2.174648023143682,4.198926863387978,3.3098746383799416,90.50554484088718,78.18032786885246,5.180199292831888,19.507875281260052,5.900188976854957,-0.09131603985856572,708,16,144,4,17,228,103,183,0.09,0.883,0.027000000000000003,-0.8256,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,3,0,0,0,9,6,1,1,6,0,13,0,0,0,1,17,22,11,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,8,9,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,5,0,2,9,4,28,1,25,11,4,36,0,1,2,0,36,9,0,2,23,97,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292114304308982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085474556822665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976130495960686,0.13627012663380542,0.0,0.0,0.11208389961789936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913707653155235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005535889505149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185233145311967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332261082400463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609431830712352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808252651878576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735802095424469,0.14281825696388922,0.0,0.0,0.15295531791414002,0.0,0.19754758927878246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328959485394534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205778970564216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763353960842659,0.1392842221545362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597567613798814,0.0,0.584617429993141,0.0,0.0,0.2702502955628913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386755609542086
parenting,notlikelyevil,2020/03/23,"How the hell do I homeschool 3 kids? They are 8 and 11, the 11 is in an enrichment program.

How do I start out lightly? I don't want to plan the next few months or anything but where do I start?",-0.9188372093023248,0.9964413023255858,1.2105116279069783,101.70134883720932,89.4651162790698,4.370232558139535,20.227906976744187,5.6839178017228535,-0.3687079069767445,148,5,38,1,5,49,32,43,0.11599999999999999,0.884,0.0,-0.5348,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,2,0,7,9,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,3,9,1,7,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,4,25,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757170866354802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644287306714231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4855659258231247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6463232633811635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26929601178483353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,applerosey,2020/03/23,"Sad single parent B/g twins 20; g14
Last week was hard. My dad is having chemo and my heart is breaking. Mothers’ day started off well. Girls  made me a card. Son sulking in his room over being told off for not locking the front door at night again. 
Anyway I busy myself in the garden, painting the fence to do something mindless. 
G14 comes out and says she broke the tv and I have to look. The screen is smashed. All electronic lines everywhere. I burst into tears. I can’t buy a new money. Money is so tight. It broke me. The kids know money is tight and I’ve spent so much on food to run the house during lockdown (no hoarding honest).
Then she says ‘we pranked you’. I had a meltdown. It felt so cruel. I screamed at her. I feel so hurt by their actions and continued lack of empathy. 
I work full time, pay for Everything. Get no help. I just want them to leave now. I had breast cancer 2 years ago after leaving an abusive marriage. I’m so sad that things are not happier.",0.3689572649572668,2.8077664769230783,1.6287179487179486,96.24905982905985,91.92307692307692,4.11965811965812,19.52991452991453,5.82211442006289,-0.12529059829059808,753,24,158,6,27,238,143,195,0.242,0.73,0.028999999999999998,-0.9921,1,1,1,0,1,0,30.0,1,1,2,1,10,9,1,0,11,0,14,4,2,1,1,22,26,11,0,2,3,4,5,0,0,0,1,3,3,2,4,9,1,3,3,2,6,4,5,7,1,0,7,10,23,2,19,18,5,31,0,5,2,1,19,12,0,0,14,96,27,2,0.0,0.21314002793815087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594614767657561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495915651447972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160140558180016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167337619290115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095770108030253,0.0,0.17272244339526835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752349158062104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398500937545216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114595008044835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317030987591606,0.1205763584135144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075687066656428,0.192575779239796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886274381183874,0.14663421771721086,0.0,0.3809547032624422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510621473801231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17021610285947147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322397204553469,0.0,0.0,0.17373871485834713,0.0,0.16881441557469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19974636318194985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28611121967453385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848797663116716,0.0,0.0,0.12732694468894562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195108070365703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489520414190012,0.0,0.0,0.17189243769582802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610368012472336,0.0,0.1442967675829007,0.0,0.1617425574206212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096193576258908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584314998643427
parenting,derekwoodnz,2020/03/23,"Forced isolation and impact on six month old Hi everyone. I am a Dad of a six month old in New Zealand. Due to Covid-19, the government has just imposed a one month isolation for all citizens. This means we can only leave our houses for the supermarket and pharmacy. 

I was wondering what sort of impact this might have on my growing baby. She is a happy bub and we have worked hard to make sure she comfortable in large groups of people. She is a very social young lady. We are concerned that as she will be moving between six and seven months during our isolation that she is begin to forget people’s faces and become clingy. 

Do any of you have tips or words of wisdom for us as we move through this trying time? We have considered just moving into another family member’s house for time as a last resort.",5.044370629370629,6.3107617820512845,5.825524475524478,78.55583916083916,69.0,9.006060606060606,26.361305361305362,9.339509955726095,2.2568410256410254,642,19,116,13,11,210,102,156,0.10300000000000001,0.809,0.08800000000000001,0.128,0,3,0,0,0,0,12.0,8,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,8,0,16,1,1,1,2,23,20,9,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,11,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,1,1,17,4,22,16,1,22,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,4,13,83,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373961928077157,0.14454295225709862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223944740391565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171721554430624,0.0,0.0,0.12994840341883954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673902339705547,0.12348242962496304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181102373393698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123624233859903,0.0,0.14595840699818693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201289487261367,0.0,0.0,0.15015408397775945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623221763424635,0.0,0.0,0.4401076282256935,0.439523630904806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313197520581266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892911812508337,0.0,0.09340763079547426,0.10483766102274654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19112932952499911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051605654005264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991768638530096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075755744382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935879985179608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581107975833484,0.0,0.0,0.11373691604222033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494874886781502,0.10035311472785753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whatsupwithmybaby,2020/03/23,"Pushing sternum as hard as she can and looking like she's going to pass out This is a weird one and kind of hard to explain, so I'll start with the video link: https://imgur.com/a/4P4DHvE

Has anyone seen anything like this before?

My 18 month old daughter constantly pushes her sternum as hard as she can against the tray on her high chair. She also leans her head back really far and the longer she does it the more it looks like she is going to pass out.

She's been doing this for a couple of months now, but until recently we thought she was just unsuccessfully trying to take a dump (it looked exactly like that). The head leaning and looking like she's going to pass out is fairly new. It's also only her sternum that she's pushing. At first we figured she may also be pushing below the belt, but that's not the case.

A few weeks ago she helped out in a class on baby massage taught by my wife's friend, and the the friend commented on how tense her neck muscles are.",4.8574810681546445,5.756139953367878,4.995854922279793,85.68739736946993,69.15544041450778,7.3892387405340765,26.7632522917497,7.321109707123232,1.2455152650458352,773,23,154,7,13,242,111,193,0.07400000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.81,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,12,10,1,0,14,0,12,3,3,1,1,23,25,17,0,0,4,2,3,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,0,4,1,0,10,1,2,0,2,5,8,21,8,26,18,2,35,0,0,5,0,26,12,0,1,18,103,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507340221301872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114396680416424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076985353274812,0.0,0.1068269043413247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981992784478837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046323146838616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402841866674171,0.0,0.0,0.14363812458671735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136022155759152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042080039139757,0.0,0.0,0.20058990761217085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133102468766855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488669446322724,0.0,0.2664558327363524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701243755243519,0.1371569576802279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518262480031668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171059128844105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43604852023716417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20723461634012436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537639447699464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362192861750492,0.0,0.08796618504059826,0.0987303607875821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316298459998601,0.0,0.12817691582541302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188391463518852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760492560271164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030588220494947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813604547187656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412997741452897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AussieJayHi,2020/03/23,"New dad lesson 1 Your wife will be better at everything. This is not a passive aggressive statement, it’s a fact. On arrival of our son, my wife did that thing from The Matrix when Neo’s eyes are half closed and fluttering, then he awakens and says “I know Kung Fu”. She just knew stuff. Maybe I will get to re-write this when my son is old enough to play basketball or ride a bike, but probably not.",3.4040740740740745,4.5832698395061735,3.951543209876544,90.77694444444448,72.82716049382717,7.8691358024691365,24.61111111111111,8.344100000000001,1.2321999999999989,311,9,69,5,6,98,67,81,0.055,0.8809999999999999,0.064,-0.0706,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,2,3,3,1,0,4,0,7,1,1,0,1,13,10,7,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,2,7,2,6,5,1,9,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,1,5,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821944735081299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296880930359377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867625780646012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670267067209166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753543839908249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32055209445312105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081630566245196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348138361612866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440150676268951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537399567544854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652626800309662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197817438721106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,baby_cakes90,2020/03/23,"Husband teasing, over punishing IMO So to make this fairly short I’ll just tell of the situation that occurred tonight although similar scenarios tend to happen regularly. 

Daughter asked for lettuce wrapped tacos vs tortilla wrapped tonight but was disappointed when I made them for her because they were a bit bigger than last time maybe 2 bite size instead of making 15 bite sized and fell apart when she tried to pick them up- as tacos tend to do... I asked her not to be so picky that they are they same just a bit bigger and to put forth more effort in picking them up (she was picking them up with two fingers and dropping them, you know like purposely trying to let them fall apart and making a big gross mess of her food). Her attitude has been really gnarly lately, and I’ve been trying hard to stick to punishments instead of letting small things go . She turned away from her plate and wasn’t eating. We all finished I asked her multiple times if she wanted my help or a different utensil or anything to help her eat. I gave her a final warning that this was it and no other food would be served for the night, no snacks before bed, and made sure that her final decision was no dinner for tonight. She agreed and went to her room.

After we clean up, husband goes and says watch this: yells “hey where are the car keys I’m going grab froyo for everyone who finished all their dinner” and pretends to head out the garage. She doesn’t fall for it and knows his tactic. I just don’t understand why this is necessary, like is he trying to make her cry, trying to make her more upset? Like for what? So then we have to hear her sobbing because she thinks she’s missing out?... maybe this is necessary so she remembers next time, idk please tell me... 

Then he grabs Icecream from the freezer 5 mins later and proceeds to head to her room eating it at her door describing how delicious it is...

Childish in my opinion... she already had a punishment that was stuck to, do we really need to make her feel left out and tease and poke at her til the point that she cries?

I feel like this is bad parenting, it’s cruel and unnecessary but maybe this is where I’ve gone wrong and where her rotten attitude comes from because I don’t push things to make a memory of it?

Hubby thinks I’m not hard enough and that’s why this behavior happens that I have to make them feel a certain way so they remember it.

Any parenting books would be really great too, so it’s not just me saying hey that’s unnecessary teasing and such, it’s better to do it “this” way instead.",6.00319277108434,6.302248556224903,5.859100401606426,82.62214457831328,66.44979919678715,9.129959839357433,30.254618473895587,8.936278230431713,2.249536064257029,2023,68,400,31,30,632,242,498,0.157,0.754,0.09,-0.9868,3,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,4,1,12,2,22,24,7,1,14,0,34,11,3,14,4,76,73,38,0,5,13,5,8,4,0,2,0,4,5,0,33,28,8,0,11,2,0,11,10,16,0,1,16,14,59,8,55,50,8,64,0,3,1,0,71,27,1,4,27,256,92,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198887074602748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05052468260050126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061140312070029776,0.0,0.20837371803342264,0.0,0.0698047187767873,0.0,0.06203510629349775,0.1358727550074234,0.0,0.06322149355430169,0.0,0.0,0.06570988621669363,0.1622267238999428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400050827683909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632240964233759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762482032131005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280739270812404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676892750972332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07099421311350461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127007767421901,0.053077975329084745,0.0,0.16277802709905112,0.0,0.0,0.17968107643915332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444968680016146,0.0,0.0,0.08191298826293486,0.0,0.0,0.13140163819473633,0.0,0.13311149781509202,0.0,0.1525008411207718,0.0,0.08373840853009397,0.0,0.09959977065200606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166365893982361,0.060562180872488526,0.08381054218777087,0.0,0.08072418724755752,0.15194795838892075,0.0,0.14519154771017392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060372223168302,0.3967519684215923,0.0,0.22392474300986526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05509047473451242,0.0,0.0,0.07901597582705006,0.06972294276929761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649966230798415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155607726597837,0.07023492297056581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468926444186211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279017619584727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683286178558654,0.0,0.0,0.11816832186464235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351322993161778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700242855600679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298781550073969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987195925295453,0.09521336473657087,0.0,0.0,0.12996998432145754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522148029091735,0.08081408074793564,0.07257762438880005,0.07734606489143425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382244722267127,0.11794740889231276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887430169905523,0.13408343669649794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555727952576062,0.08123238727771069,0.0,0.0
parenting,LancelotLac,2020/03/23,Online Live Streams or Events to Entertain Shelter In Place 3 Year Old Currently under Shelter In Place with a 3 year old. The day care is doing a couple live streams a day with the teachers and that is going well. Looking for other suggestions of entertaining live events like zoo or music that could be used so I can get some of my work done.,6.277089552238808,6.566508014925375,6.2648880597014935,79.98001865671642,65.86567164179104,9.088059701492536,31.67537313432836,8.841846274778883,2.4787343283582093,275,10,52,4,4,87,48,67,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.9001,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,12,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,5,9,9,1,15,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,3,10,32,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19737650196089185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456476208164702,0.2142021279403464,0.0,0.24969729178636746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810837266588235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114206483041224,0.0,0.11002087503747142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457762208709324,0.0,0.5128268993512964,0.0,0.1625656857968281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062773869982533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045178131488675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719841318535816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405942008392164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093482232152346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249329450812341
parenting,jonkeydo,2020/03/23,"Continuing to pay for activities even though they are closed? How are people dealing with things like dance studios, music lessons, preschools who are urging you to keep paying even though technically they are closed due to covid-19? Some are offering to provide via online resources but some things just don’t translate.

I am feeling a lot of pressure, on a moral level, but also feel like I am flushing possibly thousands of dollars down the drain.",8.470769230769232,9.892645564102564,6.832461538461541,73.86253846153849,61.30769230769231,8.804102564102564,38.67692307692308,8.841846274778883,3.61908923076923,366,18,56,5,5,108,59,78,0.051,0.86,0.09,0.4784,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,1,7,3,0,1,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,14,11,6,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,3,1,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,2,10,11,3,8,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,3,4,42,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20768862699275412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677478449257888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430697545191114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626326312262699,0.1855356554382387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308406624829027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537607058434489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207947022940896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004902909815285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927820769337878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450772979000304,0.0,0.5103241558463046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_JaNJaN_,2020/03/23,"Is it bad if a 7 year old can’t read Theres a little 7 year girl in my family. At the age of 5, she was diagnosed with severe speech delay. She knows what sounds certain letters make, but she struggles to put them all into one word. 

She can read small words (the, can, be, with, were, am, an, I, etc) but struggles with words over 4 letters. She sounds out the first 1 or 2 letter then gets confused.

I do not live with her and I cannot go to her house due to quarantine. What should I do?",1.826730769230771,2.8419520576923105,3.208846153846157,95.21115384615385,76.5,6.353846153846152,20.69230769230769,6.6274283507984215,0.02465769230769244,370,8,90,3,8,121,75,104,0.15,0.8340000000000001,0.015,-0.9118,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,3,6,0,12,1,0,1,2,22,16,6,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,3,7,0,1,1,2,0,2,3,4,0,2,2,3,13,1,13,12,2,17,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,3,8,59,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439593739017506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21199647969372165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23294287389759996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19690202818408456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766289369808907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912483533761913,0.0,0.11870441731929893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410054655167912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478831263818473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093404657229847,0.18443414564864888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942091740143658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917168208855647,0.0,0.14153426642895248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996988743269848,0.0,0.0,0.41784876211932304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359612281772137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.436708071453775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690081056812139
parenting,Abject_Lettuce,2020/03/23,"At what point to you draw the line with your job? I am a medical receptionist at a very small primary care office. I work part time (MTUF) and another woman over 65 works WTH. We do not have any PPE in the office. A patient did bring 4 N95 masks but the receptionists don’t get one. My coworker is already hesitant to come to work which would be noooo big deal for me, I’d take her days except guess what folks... my daycare closed. I know she won’t take over for me voluntarily. 

I’ve asked my usual back up person and she can’t watch my son. The doctor I work for is mentioning all these solutions like maybe another coworkers daughter can take him and I’m a straight up no I’ve never even met her. I don’t have mom friends and honestly if I did I feel extremely irresponsible asking anyone to take my child given I work in healthcare. We are supposed to be staying in doors but I’m supposed to go asking random people to take my son into their home when I work in the place that people are supposed to go first to be screened? Kinda crazy. My husband can’t stay home he makes 10x more money than I do. 

Anyway.. my husband has 3 paid sick days left for this year so he is taking off tomorrow and I am calling a local daycare that I know is affordable and still open. If that doesn’t work, at what lengths are we as parents supposed to go through to make it into work? I know legally I can’t be fired but there is only one person to each job day to day. If I’m not there no one else knows how to do my job. Do I just put my hands up if I’ve tried everything else and say fuck it sorry I can’t come in?",1.0895693277310947,3.1496889583333365,2.9789985994397803,91.30619747899162,82.03571428571429,6.0957983193277325,21.48949579831933,7.285733465282438,0.6235794117647067,1254,39,277,18,34,419,181,336,0.102,0.8390000000000001,0.059000000000000004,-0.9477,6,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,2,1,9,10,5,1,0,10,0,33,5,1,3,2,43,65,18,0,5,11,7,3,1,1,2,3,1,3,4,11,18,0,0,5,0,2,7,13,1,0,4,5,6,39,4,39,54,4,47,0,0,2,1,33,25,1,7,14,169,50,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175383890466793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565422300106565,0.1743719659978747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813771804188397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23319126586862665,0.0,0.0,0.06393425343479026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490151065341964,0.0,0.08477303653921345,0.0,0.0,0.14324608383594511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144895408526646,0.08572002487513974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510360292418064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891587064507616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054917244804411534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747263941063224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04204118932867437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072406872176062,0.0,0.0,0.06423850561021653,0.07686727153594053,0.043440429191611216,0.0,0.14176161144261967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159485303348487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668047261277545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24752915866551506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277978800173605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033853015693002,0.0,0.0,0.0406210067223184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100139526384592,0.0,0.08353147856103724,0.0,0.0,0.08376099397731071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737976047434624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412743305698683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690259396947931,0.06323639021375146,0.0,0.0,0.09232395467902886,0.09003917283331184,0.0,0.11528613615781805,0.14520001396913354,0.08687002508947678,0.0,0.07859998252305843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358484115161204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612115198896479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307530239450064,0.0,0.17724545589834556,0.06640061904534908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750933216263644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048483185971314825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056450774806218774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157373225524816,0.0686042776459313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842510723866141,0.0,0.0,0.05906463604568497,0.0,0.0,0.05354339152338553
parenting,Ddelly15,2020/03/23,"My two year old is regressing on potty training He was trained, virtually no accidents for months except the occasional wetting the bed. Lately he's been waiting for the absolute last minute and wetting his pants in route to the toilet. I guess this is more venting than anything else but any tips would be greatly appreciated.",5.085574712643677,8.206032844827586,5.4731034482758645,73.0405747126437,74.0,8.004597701149425,33.804597701149426,8.841846274778883,3.5621287356321836,267,14,41,6,6,85,51,58,0.053,0.867,0.08,0.5632,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,3,1,7,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21706025181580413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626663019133117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26664241804531724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35190827421766424,0.3516239430374911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601825791690617,0.3600603993089932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25477453754796986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349363755271727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118024026116196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267435290590575,0.0,0.0,0.20554799562995368
parenting,DropsOJupiter,2020/03/23,"DD doesn't believe I actually love her My 8 yo disclosed to me at bedtime that she often feels that me and her dad (divorced) don't actually love get; she feels like we are lying when we say so. This did not come after any kind of argument or disagreement,  in fact we had had a nice evening together. 

I tell her frequently that I love her, and do things like hug/ hold her, talk with her,  joke with her, do activities with her... all the things you do to show love to a child. 

She is currently being treated for OCD (overwhelming fear of being sick/ dying), but she doesn't feel like these feelings are related.  I reassure her over and over that I do in fact love her,  but she just cries says it feels like I'm just lying to her. 
She says she this started happening a month or two ago, and only really happens at night/ bedtime, and that during the day she doesn't have these thoughts. Overall she is a happy child, does well in school and has several good friends that she has kept in contact with since school has been out.

What could this be, and what can I do? Obviously I want her to know and feel just how loved she is.",6.324466666666666,5.565692968888893,6.406944444444445,82.52375,65.97777777777777,10.166666666666668,31.19444444444445,9.516144504307137,2.4172444444444445,878,28,189,15,12,280,121,225,0.11599999999999999,0.7290000000000001,0.155,0.8937,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,3,1,0,0,9,22,0,2,6,0,27,8,0,1,4,43,49,15,1,2,8,1,6,4,1,0,1,3,0,2,16,17,0,2,8,2,0,1,5,2,1,1,6,9,37,20,22,39,1,19,0,1,0,7,45,9,0,3,13,132,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.2083980235164064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946514247409858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261206511092243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203011863625596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197898601116328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525279713320129,0.0,0.11728959101910386,0.06886237288072213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081773458304764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344132832788092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052524378148589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015388287255127,0.3239381513214791,0.2288446677256236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249569483054142,0.0,0.05578660891714385,0.0,0.0,0.08955953534061638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884521024548515,0.11366617021673547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119188093431133,0.05868188195283985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20866351995216995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5782228150826966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522843383014712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002030413554568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120876878600683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840412142790372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547402212042413,0.0,0.21612817879373947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062768951911773,0.0,0.08832709080460018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557735552912842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582335945826608,0.09332786038907266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418758735637848,0.0,0.0,0.08476906175985828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430567628471032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297987888836333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600540401115927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yaman111,2020/03/23,"How much screen time does your child get?? My 9 year old son gets 2 hrs a day during the week for Xbox. And 4 hours on the weekend. He gets to either play fortnite, Minecraft or watch YouTube. I always thought that was a little bit of time but my husband insists on that time. After he’s done with his time he could watch regular tv. Of course on the weekends he doesn’t use up the 4 hrs in one sitting and does some chores before playing. And on weekdays he needs to do homework before getting on. He could also use the tablet 1 hr a day. Let me know what your rules are!",1.6959244992295837,3.6150740932203402,2.3936363636363645,97.00783513097076,79.25423728813557,4.629892141756549,22.59167950693375,4.851557810540192,-0.12207796610169465,445,14,99,1,11,138,83,118,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.5502,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,3,0,16,17,7,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,4,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,7,2,14,11,4,22,0,0,3,0,12,8,0,2,13,51,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367528928713263,0.14229012545052985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29102586489779264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866935197915135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730676668798302,0.0,0.0,0.22056856936867028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29929581637984315,0.17499781445869375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35737288751571955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684057941091283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398005186822823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486452598437788,0.0,0.0,0.1713922556626256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570858655397013,0.12679827821111775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794413174767537,0.0,0.11587763069617447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575912284842778,0.3988583098501325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953873831243508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717015307271654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012181965154334
parenting,a_glitter_explosion,2020/03/23,"10 year old stepson left home alone by his mum for 9+ hours a day, two days in a row... thoughts? My 10 year old stepson is currently on a fortnight on/fortnight off rotation between his mum and his dad and I (fortnightly is not ideal, it was weekly but his mother randomly changed her mind... no court orders).

His mum is a nurse who has an hour commute each way to work. (And yes, I realise healthcare professionals are important during this current shitshow our world is in).

We got him back last night for fortnightly changeover and he told his dad that his mum worked all weekend and left him home alone during this time (at least 9 hours each day including travel).

In NSW I know there is no actual age that it is legal to leave a child home alone, his dad and I feel that anything over maybe 30 minutes is irresponsible, especially when working over 60kms away.

She refuses to ask us to have him when she can't find a babysitter even though we are more than happy to have him. We would love to have him full time if we could.

She refuses to talk to my partner. Won't talk to him in person, won't answer calls or texts (about school or sport for example) unless it's her sending him a text ordering him to do something.

How do we approach this? Should my partner call docs or facs or start a mediation (which we know she won't do). 

He is a good kid, but he can sometimes be a space cadet (like any kid) and we feel like 9 hours or more each day to be left alone is beyond a joke. What if she didn't make it home? What if someone broke in? What if there was a fire? Of course we try to teach our kids what to do but at that age they shouldn't be left in a situation where they might need to handle that without an adult...

What do we do?",5.4477762039660025,5.059515555240793,5.667437677053826,85.86642563739377,67.66855524079321,8.986345609065156,29.54801699716714,8.395991825355821,1.7813491218130308,1353,42,299,17,20,430,184,353,0.078,0.841,0.081,0.7343,2,4,1,0,0,0,47.0,12,0,2,4,11,8,0,0,15,1,37,1,0,2,1,55,49,24,0,10,15,8,3,2,2,7,0,0,4,8,19,19,0,2,7,4,0,3,10,1,0,1,6,3,44,7,38,32,8,54,0,1,0,1,67,22,0,11,28,193,63,7,0.0,0.0,0.08610039352791586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655214055287431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05999987212386281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260631273670701,0.0,0.08248375376470726,0.0,0.08289560635870062,0.06784392885988179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018673056820986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333633583614792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044499999249113,0.0,0.0,0.22760589776244136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058275516636654576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922414213872214,0.06303199878601581,0.0,0.0,0.08064122180375304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400368877680158,0.07056611619830865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392317471476903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35401017028988685,0.0,0.3475576966048857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697852299833253,0.07191976121103848,0.0,0.09342352595932003,0.383451466718024,0.0,0.0,0.08621008433598486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963161243948504,0.0,0.05889464847907382,0.0,0.08863955367580717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359878379880954,0.0890878115485023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542191398706276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279849441777114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851664644553523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703960622785097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929413500482518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991749548664776,0.0,0.0,0.07475754911472461,0.06792427009855004,0.08726237554249469,0.0,0.06245011294308051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183291949815918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668617225028889,0.07004528597116377,0.10289601092451052,0.0,0.0,0.08430817353224265,0.0,0.059902824296596525,0.0,0.08618853119402965,0.0,0.10613061647307577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700333885007871,0.07077331082504128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505120455425949,0.0,0.192698906730184,0.0,0.0,0.06267652706862968,0.0,0.0,0.11363530033660064
parenting,BigNinja96,2020/03/23,"Squared Away Redditors of r/parenting, how are you organizing your children's day while quarantined? We've got two at home right now - 1st grader is in the local public district, closed until 4/13, and toddler (3) at a private Montessori, which has been continuously open.  The district set up on-line curriculum last week and it goes live on Tuesday.  

While day cares are considered ""essential"" services, I'm pretty sure if our area goes into a ""Shelter in Place,"" we will be keeping 3 at home.

Up until now, we've done some online worksheets we've found and stuff like that, but it's really been an extended ""Spring Break"" with no structure.  Little too much iPad/TV time and play for our liking...and we've pretty much failed at maintaining our normal schedule routine.

What have some of you Super Moms & Dads been doing to have a structured day while the kiddos are ""locked up"" at home?",7.899647696476965,7.815839804878053,7.2739837398374005,75.36749322493228,62.536585365853654,9.97181571815718,34.075880758807585,9.444778638647367,3.073340921409214,704,26,123,11,9,219,116,164,0.043,0.8340000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.9074,1,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,3,0,2,4,6,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,1,1,18,19,12,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,1,7,5,20,11,4,39,0,1,1,0,11,20,0,3,18,73,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17463183427958345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142816806658674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432751481771635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118314617620849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493684010681695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767188430517583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289054772968943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850116361894925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432587521999754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313782257753019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874141775002491,0.16153857209711453,0.14231949103169889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18876490315280475,0.0,0.0,0.2369626969872832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579161843299455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896452280001168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839240303139474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32794356298424104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325211618039676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764161495956798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450553487348745,0.0,0.0,0.15190447677956606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398178697333774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744346365700865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928396662989464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Practical-Half,2020/03/23,"Bring in new au pair???? Our au pair may be leaving and we have an opportunity to bring in a new au pair who lives nearby.

Do you think it is a good idea to bring someone new into the house during this time?",2.816515151515148,3.2958918636363634,4.343636363636366,90.0437878787879,73.54545454545455,6.775757575757575,21.484848484848484,6.42735559955562,0.07726666666666704,158,3,38,1,3,53,33,44,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,5,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21603483517915847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971975379664277,0.0,0.29076159770782145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727260811734611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274362279966678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7462789425458995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21823553755688047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503842331121174,0.0,0.0,0.150189288723928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Holophonist,2020/03/23,Is it weird that my 21 month old son can count to 13? It's hard to get exact estimates but from what I can gather that is extremely early. What are some good ways for me to foster that kind of development and keep pushing him to learn more?,4.707133333333331,4.64979598,5.541999999999998,85.01433333333334,69.2,9.066666666666668,24.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,1.3634666666666668,189,4,42,3,3,62,41,50,0.049,0.8690000000000001,0.081,0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,7,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,7,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,27,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129094292833468,0.0,0.0,0.3418037039063066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36505281524089744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622174800374402,0.0,0.4243634874065781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32527406769680284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276177609264999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234659242308239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momneedsadvice888,2020/03/23,"Codependent teen Hi! So I have two sons, one of them is 17 and now has his first girlfriend 

I was very happy for him and she is a really sweet girl, she lives close so I’ve known her and her family since she was 3.

My son seems like an overall good boyfriend but too needy in way that worries me. He constantly texts her and he gets anxious if she doesn’t answer for a while, we cannot have a conversation or watch a movie or he cannot do his homework if she hasn’t answered. Before on week evenings, we would have dinner the three of us (me and my sons) and have conversations and laugh but now he is sitting there just anxious and unhappy to not be with her and the whole atmosphere is so moody, like he’s a gray cloud at the table. He doesn’t see his friends anymore if he can be with her instead. She told him she’d stay home this week because of confinement and he’s been a mess. I tried to talk to him and say that it’s good not to be with your S/O all the time, that she has family and friends of her own and that she won’t just stop loving him because they are away for a little while.. there’s nothing that can make him feel better

Any suggestions?",2.1973770491803317,3.654766114754096,3.1442295081967218,94.24954098360656,76.37704918032787,6.68327868852459,22.445901639344267,7.365786028017652,0.5249219672131149,908,25,212,11,20,289,135,244,0.09699999999999999,0.759,0.14300000000000002,0.922,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,2,2,12,13,0,0,12,0,28,2,0,1,1,40,35,25,0,4,11,3,1,2,3,2,0,1,2,1,7,19,1,2,5,0,0,0,8,2,0,4,4,6,36,11,18,25,3,19,0,0,3,1,52,6,0,6,12,143,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025301378581784,0.0,0.0,0.3330931134333589,0.146204466650491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385092013180695,0.0,0.0,0.17973595583743626,0.0,0.12544651324136213,0.0,0.0,0.1303840774386448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931239604704425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973718104046862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779554510536883,0.0,0.07454173513399481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539832679424726,0.0,0.0,0.2277980117624512,0.0,0.07702267748880172,0.0,0.0,0.2473036214419324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693502329553474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787775884390855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440473198937808,0.14775704473552148,0.13017762340046712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305543590496285,0.0,0.098406309828371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145679383246276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989795744519464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944432487637215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723705910846648,0.0,0.0,0.11747741722581805,0.1342087886695178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219502163802634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713380185306994,0.0,0.1232526206548355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118493399489068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596380989300426,0.0,0.0,0.14086944162041812,0.0,0.10009085782080633,0.0,0.14401130702640166,0.0,0.17733228054899414,0.0,0.0,0.12163980075259448,0.0,0.11701788711053886,0.23650842759009666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459303752145255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971568812777802,0.0,0.10472540206897328,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lillypie_13,2020/03/23,"Co parenting and covid Hi friends! Hope your staying safe and healthy in light of everything happening all over the world. I have a bit of a issue and perhaps I’m over reacting... 
I have a 10 year old daughter and she’s due to visit her father this week for a sleep over and then spend the weekend. Her father lives with his girlfriend,parents, sister and her 3 kids. Her Dad and girlfriend work in the service industry and are still working. Since they work with the public I’ve been pretty concerned about her going there. 
I mentioned maybe she should stay home for a bit and he lost it. My husband and I have been off work for a week and haven’t left our home unless it was absolutely necessary. 
How are you handing your custody with your kids with everything going on? Am I being dramatic for wanting her to stay home? 
TIA Reddit",3.3325051759834388,5.655916577639752,3.7674285714285753,87.16923809523813,75.77018633540374,6.529358178053831,26.8824016563147,7.554174236665415,1.557004637681159,663,26,125,9,15,207,100,161,0.013999999999999999,0.863,0.12300000000000001,0.953,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,4,1,5,4,4,0,0,10,0,12,2,2,2,1,23,19,14,0,3,1,7,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,3,15,0,1,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,4,2,21,3,21,13,3,23,0,1,0,0,31,9,0,1,8,83,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979757282955519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452975297704893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543494658603253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15511597795767507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206783256760293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41066601462426894,0.1355436553861488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243728282121826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827303361555422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050386799896814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897109579261938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371005893844235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320035671607592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153171976414356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883715975404348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128878557870502,0.0,0.13656669584759554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363706393324065,0.1089836330378837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804924448509649,0.0,0.21893302085631916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3974017255406973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788100799787815
parenting,Abieticacid,2020/03/23,Switching from crib to bed Our almost 2yr old has started to try and climb out of her crib and I was looking for tips or any advice on what people found worked to make the transition smoother for her and us from crib to bed.,4.462318840579711,5.0220576956521725,4.24217391304348,91.9586231884058,69.8695652173913,7.0028985507246375,26.20289855072464,6.42735559955562,0.7467768115942042,178,5,39,1,3,54,35,46,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,11,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,2,24,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205433721968348,0.0,0.0,0.3284708211618613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230690408294154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596637589701133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754593632634042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21896001243288624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442082804323337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274120406005125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23217860806675275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227082339647244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945750879336941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388069550350664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pharmazy,2020/03/23,"2 year old on a bath strike? Any advice for a toddler on a bath strike? Bath time used to be his favorite time of the day. It was always part of our bedtime routine. Play in the bath, dry off, PJs on, snugs, then bed. I’m just guessing that by fighting the bath he’s trying to delay bed time. Should I try moving it to another time in the day? I’ve been doing sponge baths rather than forcing him to take the bath and cry. Every couple days he seems agreeable enough to a good nice bath so I’m not worried too much yet, but is this normal?",1.6011504424778735,3.279063849557524,2.705495575221238,95.79204867256638,78.64601769911505,4.873982300884958,20.14955752212389,4.935628992294339,-0.3867904424778765,417,10,94,1,10,133,80,113,0.071,0.8220000000000001,0.107,0.6169,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,9,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,12,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,0,4,1,0,1,1,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,3,16,8,3,19,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,12,51,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192458952554855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549095630538019,0.0,0.0,0.12660297235479684,0.1952170014033745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599517207076645,0.20450059954379934,0.36019555745119713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923648780551563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685747893851992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615178220748535,0.0,0.0,0.20508884499699492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978707918795488,0.1368574393586919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240849632000394,0.0,0.0,0.1953556228593441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160554167948708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948349899982135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997776358007544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4342322863489464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527963923903113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079236105286876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18906614783287276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988831207293475
parenting,icky_c,2020/03/23,"BED BUGS!? Okay everyone, hopefully this is allowed here. I have a 1 year old who lately (about a week) has these little red bumps showing up on her skin. At first I thought HFMD because there’s a couple on the side of her hand and one on her jaw. I’ve noticed one more though on the top of her hairline along with some splotchy looking red areas. We haven’t done anything different with her or her routine or taken her outside or anything. 

I posted a few photos online in some of my mom groups and I’ve gotten everything under the sun HFMD, Molluscum contagiosum, baby acne, but a few people feel STRONGLY that it’s bed bugs.

I have a hard time believing it because there are two kinds (red spots and red splotches) of things appearing (and the aren’t clustered/in a line like bed bug bites typically are) and if she had bed bugs, surely her dad and I would have gotten them in our bed? I checked (during the day) her mattress, our mattress, sheets, EVERYTHING and found no evidence, but a couple have told me that just because she gets them doesn’t mean I will. Everyone’s freaking me out now though and I don’t know how to move forward with this. What should do about this?",3.942236714975845,5.582025726086961,4.374202898550728,86.46033816425123,72.17391304347827,7.1980676328502415,27.560386473429947,7.793537801064563,1.6007487922705312,927,34,182,12,18,292,137,230,0.037000000000000005,0.879,0.084,0.8549,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,2,3,10,7,0,0,13,1,18,3,3,2,1,35,31,17,0,4,7,2,4,1,0,3,0,0,7,0,11,14,0,0,5,1,1,3,5,1,0,4,8,9,27,6,21,20,5,26,0,0,5,0,21,15,0,8,10,122,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234119370256082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601429626402738,0.0,0.0,0.16026711390502324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147939882780835,0.0,0.09173952553538277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862104423878986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557120730411616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27185207113306903,0.2556903768093036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192590830533954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099783481606576,0.0,0.1559698568238051,0.0,0.0,0.07431978915613954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274281197919718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128641389997493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813155535562667,0.07817691698195828,0.0,0.16046427220838486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949619769170741,0.14257193814996622,0.0,0.0,0.11945423017318728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495202563218474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660155991106945,0.0,0.1511893097137915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195264476826615,0.1492675168894633,0.0,0.19278465450737653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861828590691746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623624319221914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406900523485638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450462408697556,0.0,0.2795199383109225,0.11293066417271283,0.08294715835132327,0.0,0.0,0.13592603556653451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895764628356802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410442382181288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105036665584136,0.0,0.0,0.09160437967061093
parenting,dancegoddd,2020/03/23,"Help with a picky eater (2 years old) Hello fellow parents,

I have a two year old girl who exclusively eats Mac & cheese, shredded cheese, bananas, raspberries, or a German dry cereal that has vitamins added to it. She drinks lactose free milk or water. I am able to add nutritional yeast to the Mac & cheese to add some some value, but only a small amount, because if it tastes off she won’t eat it. Im concerned she isn’t getting enough vitamins and variety in her diet, I feel I have tried everything to get her to eat other foods; I offer a variety of fun fruits and veggies, but they go to waste. She won’t eat meat either, not even if it is doused in cheese. I have tried offering baked goods that are sweet but secretly have veggies in, but once it’s in her mouth (if I even get that far) she will just make a face and let it drop from her tongue to the floor. I’ve also tried the sly approach of, “this is my food it is so tasty and you wish you had some.” So alas, I am reaching out for ideas or strategies or just positive energy from those who have overcome this dilemma. Thanks and stay safe!",6.089155455904333,5.361815071748879,6.261984304932735,83.26619020926756,66.44394618834082,9.765171898355756,29.79409566517189,9.075114841892004,2.1014158445440967,863,25,185,13,12,276,134,223,0.05,0.7979999999999999,0.152,0.9753,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,2,1,0,7,6,0,0,9,0,18,17,2,1,0,33,26,19,0,4,15,1,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,1,16,9,13,1,3,1,1,2,4,0,0,1,1,4,21,7,20,21,6,17,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,10,4,114,37,0,0.12972100840635462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373784355565233,0.0,0.2811053168228408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907672269764435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707720293454358,0.0,0.530947905939808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340364782950846,0.0,0.17135900524885878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658487789672355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655908395304444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137183165561825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20332161856543127,0.0,0.07372343849914317,0.10880382727969276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694925753327831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643922879536295,0.1401209493156673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264851996271165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865897804113802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27224075380019536,0.13814864031704613,0.0,0.09865867234554568,0.0,0.0,0.1440398283889165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826533503179822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942967597344352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642161487918615,0.0,0.12671857601327147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917275774032884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707215268673636
parenting,rizkeebizness,2020/03/23,Shared parenting and coronavirus I share 2 kids with my ex husband.  I have full legal and physical custody and he has visitation usually after school until 6:30pm during the week.  The kids have stayed with me the last week but it is now technically spring break and he wants to have the kids during the day. I feel like it is safest if they stay here a few days this week and then he has them for an extended weekend.  This limits the amount of time they are outside the house.  He says I'm being overly cautious and the daily back and forth does not add any risk.  I just want them safe.  Any advice?,2.5265384615384607,4.985538000000002,3.1389957264957253,89.92336538461541,79.25641025641026,6.293162393162394,20.006410256410245,7.492282038375204,0.5880205128205129,474,12,95,7,12,148,82,117,0.013000000000000001,0.831,0.155,0.9357,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,4,1,4,5,0,1,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,19,13,11,0,3,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,10,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,10,4,8,12,3,21,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,1,16,58,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545595624508816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27203914643547594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538020319424239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579910254773242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503771006431626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011354633337712,0.14289339744317572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23079472186404565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304193458366456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977190322525884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220970929312217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590628963963594,0.0,0.20242960033531235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263866363518484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663251100657986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220292336842157,0.0,0.2359524201553502,0.0,0.4813288025225545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mothergripes,2020/03/23,"Daughter with sensory disorder... avoiding & seeking My daughter was not officially diagnosed as the COVID has prevented my meeting with EI... but in her evaluation she passed every test with flying colors, but they don’t test any sensory items. My Daughter hates getting dressed, everything is too tight ... has stopped wearing socks, hates to have her hair brushed (loves to brush her teeth, can wash her face, etc.) she can lose it on a dime... everything is so dramatic and from what I’m reading is part of this sensory disorder?? I’m so overwhelmed... is this something she will have for the rest of her life? Are there tools you use that help your children? I just started doing joint compressions (I’ll do for two weeks) & hope to see some progress. I’m at a loss as EI is unable to work during this time and I’m just trying to process this information without having a complete meltdown of my own! Help!!",4.355714285714285,6.756836,4.441095238095237,83.17057142857145,72.92857142857143,7.813333333333333,32.03333333333333,8.648137234880735,2.7818661904761908,720,35,130,14,15,223,112,168,0.127,0.789,0.084,-0.8375,0,1,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,1,4,6,8,2,2,5,0,18,8,4,1,0,19,30,8,0,1,6,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,7,5,0,4,1,1,1,1,3,6,0,1,1,6,16,2,20,28,6,8,0,3,2,1,20,3,0,2,4,84,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35892156187140484,0.0,0.11263454736215373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366062480986322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811166152864473,0.0,0.0,0.3796542353745524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472199929338187,0.0,0.0,0.13955099798997211,0.0,0.2977163643735037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653519817475637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270520269759449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222037517256006,0.0,0.0,0.16450864520819186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698985301204197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18529837286011386,0.0,0.0,0.1494881623134766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793618941989277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656755097279268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198621382868336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751059538362072,0.0,0.0,0.11723425325871173,0.0,0.0,0.13847467137811378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658058597131658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245236467226308,0.0,0.1617971148139741,0.0,0.0,0.14305173464433016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285894699314116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596620724090673,0.0,0.12058111330598395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hmg07,2020/03/24,9 year old drama I have 3 sons. I am a stay at home mom that homeschools. My middle son is 9 and has adhd and sensory processing disorder. He goes through stages where he gets mad and will call me jerk or lie. That's been happening a lot lately. He has habit of complaining if he receives something that isn't exactly what he wants. I bring this up because he'll go through spurts where it feels like I'm constantly disciplining him. We're in one of those spurts. I try to emphasize things he does well and make extra time for him because he always feels more loved with words of affirmation and quality time. Today he complained about something expensive we got him and got a talking to about gratitude and lost the item. He starts crying that I love his siblings more than him which is his go to in this type of scenario. Is this typical 9 or should I be concerned?,4.253226244343892,5.836504241176471,4.711176470588239,84.57721719457015,71.29411764705883,8.524886877828052,28.95927601809955,9.057496981413335,2.3296968325791854,691,27,137,14,13,219,113,170,0.10400000000000001,0.802,0.09300000000000001,0.024,0,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,5,9,2,0,4,0,12,2,0,1,1,21,29,10,0,3,3,3,2,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,1,2,1,1,4,1,5,1,1,4,2,15,4,18,21,5,21,0,1,0,2,27,7,0,4,9,80,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002695795964244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865830189474587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316508713295653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015865148642348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007925388914495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304683913769992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909845280189177,0.0,0.14582828405003767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851695636500466,0.1190480550937374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706281895748935,0.0,0.18941135008451448,0.0,0.26655537031109044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735970396597328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715407677093952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797781908494288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814121641970129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819078649998829,0.14167185181212769,0.30079923745023857,0.0,0.11123387314220147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516741924683614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486124418193075,0.0,0.11291996158583895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565761011750777,0.0,0.0,0.1179490517427062,0.1776166732820322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393937634632447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070858880188633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433891060717254,0.0,0.15795577371793484,0.0,0.0,0.11313800711510735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828892452964877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982988338256067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731106228275238
parenting,zlendermanGG1,2020/03/24,"Do you check your child’s search history on their phone/computer/tablet? Hey reddit, I have a 12 year old son and my wife is worried about what kind of videos and content he is looking at online. She wants to look at his search history on his devices but I’m unsure as I do not want to invade his privacy and/or violate his trust. On the other hand we just want to make sure he isn’t looking at anything super inappropriate and have used parental locks in the past but 12 year olds these days are savvy with technology. What do you guys think?",4.203611111111112,5.581392694444448,4.6435185185185235,85.81583333333336,71.12962962962962,7.992592592592592,26.462962962962962,8.472884824447931,1.6229407407407408,433,14,89,7,8,137,79,108,0.09300000000000001,0.762,0.146,0.8845,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,3,1,1,2,5,1,0,3,0,9,1,1,2,1,16,19,6,0,3,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,13,4,14,19,0,13,0,0,3,0,18,7,0,0,6,50,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671498843993296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065432324021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20059676962472492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096717039423216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5103758116376531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523094990332413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42516998615645984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249531379384923,0.0,0.19339586762566272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19093945651258426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981202143033813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497342774754632,0.0,0.0,0.3584799554393403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20574081841154632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609237002667257
parenting,barkaramdan,2020/03/24,"What Type Of Mom You’ll Be, Based On Your Zodiac Sign  In the months paving the way to my due date, I wanted to consider what sort of parent I may turn into. Of course, you can design everything out on paper and read every child-rearing book you can get your hands on. Be that as it may, in my experience, all that readiness will, in general, go directly out the window the moment you conceive an offspring. That is the reason I’ve generally been interested in what factors into your remarkable child-rearing style. For example, would you be able to determine what kind of mother you’ll be, founded on your zodiac sign? I wasn’t too certain myself, however having something to peruse — regardless of whether it’s only for giggles — is unquestionably an incredible method to take a break in the third trimester. 

to continue reading see link :  [https://momkidss.com/2020/03/20/what-type-of-mom-youll-be-based-on-your-zodiac-sign/](https://momkidss.com/2020/03/20/what-type-of-mom-youll-be-based-on-your-zodiac-sign/)",10.992255244755249,13.735958237179492,8.472960372960372,59.57506993006993,56.37179487179486,10.288111888111887,32.77156177156177,10.436869588844218,3.7922897435897434,839,29,112,18,11,245,102,156,0.0,0.92,0.08,0.8807,2,0,2,0,0,0,61.0,0,10,0,0,1,4,0,0,9,0,17,1,1,1,3,22,24,3,0,3,1,3,1,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,2,16,4,27,11,1,21,0,0,1,0,13,13,0,3,5,81,25,5,0.18057309542012573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214062094520064,0.0,0.16228745474320172,0.17663513658129176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19798907879489605,0.0,0.0,0.09434198947734848,0.0,0.1026238514358744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803909154348453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.634455080827212,0.14413172199652485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733397600232064,0.0,0.0,0.2005050530789446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612439221284633,0.0,0.0,0.1856592164984627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389337817236433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139013990857667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576849515693304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19641167494743267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650669016636932,0.14333051815874695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282739460912484,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shicky4,2020/03/24,"11 month old has started going nuts on the changing table? How do you change nappies like this? Our 11month old seems to have developed a fear of pooping, which I suspect is a big part of this problem.  This happened as she got constipated and ended up passing a large and painful poop.

This has been going on for weeks but more recently she is going absolutely bonkers as soon as she's set down on a changer or changing mat on the floor, this has been the case in different rooms too.

It's becoming very VERY difficult to handle her, we try to keep things fun but the situation is getting worse so we need alternatives.  I hear this is a normalish phase for most kids so how do you keep them sane while changing nappies!?",4.3042249836494415,6.096279043165469,4.873433616742972,82.62923479398302,71.5179856115108,7.932243296272074,31.34139960758666,8.575989854853784,2.491684892086332,573,26,109,10,11,183,93,139,0.133,0.825,0.042,-0.9072,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,2,1,0,6,6,0,1,9,0,12,3,2,2,0,16,24,13,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,9,4,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,3,1,12,2,17,21,3,24,0,0,0,0,12,10,0,3,10,74,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741269674887176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6031094864935826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891305026898868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623888170301906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038537620302387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446581037882609,0.0,0.2430084940026672,0.0,0.11399390634672273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260384157600972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064116847255006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533736366224339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963274167110016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376573187852758,0.0,0.0,0.1056838598727264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991215861782557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166149678567364,0.0,0.0,0.15434561986709194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638153616362933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073074176833045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297535548499891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020919282590007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088315341274803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469030384892592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967682127152986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23520362139261716,0.0,0.0,0.11432861266397175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452497943203123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tipitz,2020/03/24,"Should children beyond a certain age be able to choose their parents? I had a thought today regarding parent-child relationships.

It's, beside boss-employee relationship, probably the only institution left to total obedience or influence from another person. I'm thinking that we today to a greater extent can block out people we don't like and as we live in liberal societies, why shouldn't children's rights grow even stronger in determining the right sort of influence one wants in childhood?

What do you think? How would such a society look like? Would it become a social currency to have children as parents increasingly have to perform in order to keep a child happy?",7.938305084745764,9.64919312711865,7.962500000000002,64.24680084745765,62.64406779661017,11.323728813559322,38.478813559322035,11.20814326018867,5.103318644067796,551,28,79,16,8,178,86,118,0.061,0.836,0.102,0.6946,4,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,1,1,1,4,4,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,3,2,23,18,5,0,5,1,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,5,4,5,0,2,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,1,6,4,16,11,4,16,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,2,6,53,10,0,0.15531872703091565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628652277812004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153733123300813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025865543581179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533967306440325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805442104950724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875425137555172,0.0,0.0,0.15176176915072906,0.0,0.13714928153928946,0.0,0.13042861268498204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524798911639824,0.11812689083690245,0.0,0.0,0.5173891969071861,0.0,0.0,0.10767844887168602,0.13561832152081515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674598574753582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335083728405265,0.0,0.265282688474591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583278824595047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904393757217465,0.0,0.12330571999238164,0.0,0.0,0.2944479845664828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161100937229036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401509928628196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206679347415612,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BrokenAshcraft,2020/03/24,"Medicating children. Appropriate age? My 11 year old is autistic and I have felt for a long time he has ADHD. My doctor had discussed medication options back when he was six or so but I refused because I didnt want it to interfere with brain development. Now that he is older and his lack of impulse control comes out as aggression I feel it may be time, but I am still concerned for interference with brain development and especially puberty. 

What age did you medicate? Would you have done differently? All other avenues have been explored, and this is truly my last option.",4.5440000000000005,7.252704209523812,5.811666666666671,72.09750000000003,73.57142857142857,8.771428571428572,32.404761904761905,9.3871,3.5662190476190485,462,23,76,12,10,154,80,105,0.10099999999999999,0.8640000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.7176,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,1,5,1,1,0,1,0,17,6,2,1,1,25,21,10,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,6,8,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,7,2,11,0,8,11,2,16,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,4,13,58,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22432004783056253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435242606674963,0.0,0.11378163911614587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41673186707224696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078461209402922,0.0,0.0,0.20934666404756305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195012148501127,0.0,0.1910467555907462,0.0,0.19101032455852834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437711855249127,0.0,0.17921568293156107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214670978910586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651815998664597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.564098308223605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958604134369627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906093751556862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176771620062796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100924878163524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325925894903585,0.0,0.0,0.1201980983458622
parenting,razzbearyy,2020/03/24,"My 2 year old daughter got emotional from a song I was listening to Bittersweet Symphony by The Verve and when the line ""make some money and you die"" came on she made the saddest/ cutest face and started whimpering and then she just starting walking around back in forth looking at the TV like she is contemplating her entire existence and Am I a bad parent for finding this funny? Lmao",4.98,7.212943666666671,5.151111111111113,79.50500000000002,70.66666666666666,8.688888888888886,31.44444444444445,9.2995712137729,3.0820944444444436,312,14,54,7,6,98,61,72,0.105,0.7120000000000001,0.183,0.7561,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,3,1,1,2,0,12,11,7,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,7,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,4,3,8,1,8,7,1,13,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,1,8,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358730155985061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373999329880246,0.2212328219329234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030467897819003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749894938049717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980474215567626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24217114583438226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191490945430144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944741187659273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225019705714778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25071415285741644,0.1768646876457257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780338260274668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942097685837471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750839848562051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062731859841435
parenting,misslee_3,2020/03/24,"Not looking for pity. Just to candidly vent. I know this sounds petty, and horrible, and selfish, but I desperately need to go back to work. Not even for the paycheck but to keep my sanity. 

I started this job about a month ago to deal with PPD as my prescription medication does nothing but make me feel like shit. Things were going pretty good once I was able to get away from kid. Dare I say I was started to like my child (yes, I know, I am his bio mom.......but in no way feel like it). 

 Then it all came to a screeching halt last Wednesday when my work dwindled down to a skeleton crew (I understand it's the right thing to do) leaving me to once again play stay at home mom (major respect to stay at home parents btw) with my awful, awful, baby. 

Since then I have heard nothing but screams, followed by crying, followed by more screams. 

I am back to where I started with my mental issues, which is basically sitting on my couch trying to get my kid to stop crying even though I am 100% hysterically crying the entire time. Giving myself just long enough to pull myself together so my husband doesn't notice when he gets home. I have no family willing to help out, every time I get upset they just tell me to get over it because it only gets worse. 

I just don't know what to do anymore. I thought my kid might get more tolerable and he just seems to get worse and worse everyday. For all 4 months he has been here I have regretted ever getting pregnant. I desperately want to enjoy being a mom, but I just don't. It is by far the least fulfilling thing I have ever done in my life.",3.568785714285717,4.9603438190476234,4.625257936507938,85.2788392857143,72.71428571428571,7.2817460317460325,26.140873015873016,7.793537801064563,1.3952777777777778,1233,41,250,16,24,403,172,315,0.18100000000000002,0.698,0.121,-0.9746,4,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,1,2,20,14,1,1,8,3,23,3,1,1,4,42,55,16,0,3,13,4,2,3,0,2,2,5,4,4,13,9,0,3,8,1,0,6,7,7,0,0,8,8,39,7,42,44,7,44,0,2,1,0,19,12,1,2,25,165,52,3,0.08305033770149681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361911340174095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823636187084332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802852612049646,0.12772116660208888,0.0,0.05062671501746719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498746146810096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736806886650132,0.0,0.08562125144215225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267791018892937,0.08498932993000187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581319960029553,0.0,0.10970792957089848,0.15024757034513814,0.06997349144520487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829246709419757,0.0,0.08398549225063293,0.11866235569638288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3905133630547725,0.07966945155204473,0.09439884162308804,0.06965868296743181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05566689073532855,0.0,0.24991878067570136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668297540522893,0.08241464529140227,0.07381895608160659,0.0,0.0,0.13692688094032482,0.0676971098076343,0.0,0.087938316103777,0.0,0.0,0.05866090960884523,0.12172259989906972,0.0,0.0,0.07349693542410814,0.06974136690722034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055436745312190304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366447789559428,0.08369520675521354,0.08810328396524911,0.0,0.29180265529887833,0.13257997441379088,0.0,0.0,0.061580773078651924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937807780916086,0.09455335992708612,0.0,0.17689179836457788,0.0,0.06316352421353451,0.0,0.0,0.09221757167267867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449205057777764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092453461774254,0.0,0.06604496193670394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756059082908992,0.0,0.0,0.08524997818516486,0.06870009756518754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763503694485851,0.17704121958149874,0.0,0.06943380106640495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258965574291923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165524862200102,0.0,0.0815965351221245,0.0659326913222457,0.09685463957373372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05638572773197286,0.0,0.0,0.08645833047472748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04898524093639587,0.06592149239242502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092326994287565,0.0,0.25390616792001736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kcucken,2020/03/24,"My son (10M) is very clingy towards my boyfriend. My youngest son is very clingy towards him. Especially now that the kids are home from school. He walks around the house saying “Mark, Mark, where did you go”. “Hey Mark, Hey Mark”. My boyfriend isn’t used to kids and is taking it really well but man, give the guy some space.",1.7604761904761899,4.244462507936511,1.4057142857142857,101.01428571428572,82.65079365079364,4.8698412698412685,18.52380952380953,6.1826913282559595,-0.4792476190476189,250,6,57,2,7,72,45,63,0.0,0.973,0.027000000000000003,0.177,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,10,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,6,1,5,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,1,28,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25420496544672205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27393088712730074,0.16228778989842566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827448724111929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28643548213518955,0.0,0.0,0.3294927453875165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829341863545868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270852210121157,0.0,0.2889974442373525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147022228124197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466282961404738,0.0,0.4712264406464938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567487177937872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RocMerc,2020/03/24,"I’m curious if I’m the crazy one here. So sometimes when my son (18 months) is eating breakfast my wife and I will put on the news on our google home. It’s never anything too heavy, usually like five things from USA Today. So a couple days ago my son starts saying, “News! News!” while we’re eating. So we put on the news. My wife posts on Facebook, “anyone’s kids ever ask for the news during breakfast?” Well obviously that wasn’t a good idea since we got a message saying, “do you really think that’s the best thing for your little one to be hearing?” We’ve never thought anything of it and like to stay informed. So are we in the wrong here? Or is listening to the news during breakfast ok?",1.7035000000000018,3.8778943499999983,2.975714285714286,91.53928571428571,80.5,5.428571428571429,20.714285714285715,6.5431188927421005,0.261714285714286,539,15,112,5,14,174,89,140,0.038,0.8220000000000001,0.14,0.9293,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,2,0,1,10,7,0,0,10,1,7,5,0,0,4,21,16,10,0,1,2,4,0,2,0,1,0,4,1,1,6,5,5,0,4,0,0,2,3,1,1,3,3,4,11,6,12,11,1,21,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,2,13,67,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360817842987892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734125689975184,0.0,0.2526595281674723,0.0,0.14351580132740188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16110452062404107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986142680398564,0.0,0.09900447455810396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314168338654892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886310575047445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876109792824034,0.12277996878818168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302256132153132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539880611281714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732997482798564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149999348614462,0.15386235911830418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253420780866013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23680046269214036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20805147302628005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702493384722784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086499508121868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834563951650063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441625781404684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698919378660353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183025965862754,0.0,0.10865870662942374,0.1636265634144024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397708831475286,0.0983662128761511,0.0,0.12187376163837794,0.0,0.0,0.14551426928196629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907508327379048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380284207650969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678445525269443,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jendi2016,2020/03/24,"What to do in lieu of zoos and aquariums So, I have a 10 month old that I had been planning to introduce to the zoo and the aquarium, but due to circumstances, we won't be able to for the next several months.  I dont have that much for resources living in a small apartment besides a computer hooked up to the tv.  I was thinking maybe getting some nature documentaries or farm videos to play in the background to show her what animals look like.  Does anyone have any suggestions on what would be good for her?  Also, does anyone have any other ideas to introduce animals to babies?

Thanks",6.1066498103666245,6.666270840707966,6.3694310998735775,78.14911504424781,66.25663716814161,10.350948166877373,32.072060682680146,10.290406445055957,3.227183059418458,467,18,88,11,7,150,76,113,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.9372,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,0,0,9,17,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,7,4,19,10,2,12,0,0,1,0,4,7,0,2,6,61,13,1,0.20749952197218047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593729275364028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282213580805762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901769807342859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631684599849162,0.0,0.2431878943755945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840993600352526,0.0,0.0,0.17404075428212576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23424170337797084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137378522990537,0.0,0.1832258794689066,0.0,0.17424733836661874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846115965241488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312482775545621,0.0,0.15253602385055096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206780956481664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217735843133175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23441539743782286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103768139199853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329573152162966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740170695690874,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bocodofo,2020/03/24,"How child predators catfish kids in Omegle Hello!

After having discussed with a 14-year-old boy who has been ""catfished"" online by child predators in omegle (website in which you can discuss by cam with strangers), this video has been created:

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOTjle60lMs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOTjle60lMs)

Have a very nice day and please protect your kids by alerting them :)",16.681757575757572,18.71970141818182,8.079999999999998,69.78666666666669,43.90909090909091,8.787878787878787,41.96969696969697,7.793537801064563,3.5814242424242413,338,13,40,2,3,77,43,55,0.0,0.779,0.221,0.9126,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,9,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,2,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330078496586902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.537064011140228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5618194522540261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223011851259337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295922422313938
parenting,askthrowaway123450,2020/03/24,"I don't want the father involved I (26F) don't want anything to do with my baby's father (21M). I'm giving birth in a month so I can't wait any longer to figure this stuff out, I don't want him in the room, outside the room or in the hospital. I want him nowhere. I don't want him to hold my baby after it's born (keeping the gender a surprise), I don't want him involved in anyway. He's not abusive or anything but we weren't ever really together so I don't know him that well, it was just sex and I **do not** like him. He goes out of his way to be an asshole, he induces stress levels just by breathing, I honestly wish anyone else on the planet would have gotten me pregnant, not this scum of the friggin Earth.


He's asked to be in the delivery room and had the nerve to get sad when I said no. But can I ban him from the hospital? I don't want him to hold the baby after it's born. He even suggested we live together for a few months after the baby is born because other than breastfeeding he doesn't want me to be the primary caregiver and that he wants to spend just as much time with our baby. I just don't want him there as a father but he wants to, how can I go about this?",0.9443495178480816,2.5082857898832707,3.1849467095246164,92.13005413635595,80.20622568093384,6.181627474200642,20.901539502622228,7.079830092131019,0.3984533581458298,916,25,211,11,23,314,124,257,0.109,0.821,0.071,-0.5008,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,18,0,23,2,1,2,1,44,45,14,0,13,12,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,10,9,0,5,3,0,1,1,15,2,1,0,5,1,32,4,32,36,2,26,0,1,0,1,30,12,0,2,13,142,42,0,0.0,0.14621394484952593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391917211144538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628717271328043,0.12644231330212646,0.2031024880303318,0.0,0.1153663846864364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522613058177557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308847789942406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815073922227547,0.11162627619112044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447366602340965,0.11838067241306853,0.07013352124719825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968743335784996,0.0,0.0,0.06781978923063478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06028911936844278,0.0,0.10896827906382724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970003083221824,0.0,0.09071637730659182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905596997511889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738577153736245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135923633178304,0.0,0.14126842688354502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195805378159231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8006577442341728,0.0979526084824412,0.0,0.0,0.11095530764114604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190888254087744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766289120686502,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cobrakook,2020/03/24,"Separated Parents & Child Custody Question to the separated parents who share a child together.

How are you handling drop offs and or pick ups? Have you put them on pause for the time being?",5.261904761904759,7.702483571428572,5.48,76.55333333333336,70.42857142857143,8.095238095238095,34.52380952380953,8.841846274778883,3.269666666666668,155,8,26,3,3,49,30,35,0.057,0.873,0.07,0.1179,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,2,0,5,3,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,1,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671030867870994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7524221344440801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406000360638302,0.3795474215625471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975642312984253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bthai1007,2020/03/24,"want my brother that lives with me to stay away from my kids I want my brother to stay away from my kids because he is toxic but he lives with me, we all are staying at our parents due to situations. but he refuses and states he will do what he wants. Ive called the clerk of court and they have stated that not much can be done legally since he is at the same residency. Any more advice? also not in a position to simply move out because i cant afford to. i need immediate solutions",2.718,4.175647400000003,4.3889999999999985,85.85950000000003,75.0,7.4,25.5,8.07648339933343,1.4134000000000002,380,13,81,6,8,128,68,100,0.0,0.938,0.062,0.4497,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,0,1,17,15,5,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,13,0,16,12,4,13,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,1,56,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539742706090572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353962373765553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206066077821695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372771350867519,0.0,0.0,0.2188332171438961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328131892697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18368255263124905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169893079672521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907715052521961,0.13194721395420506,0.13309098449662576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930453594873296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847757121020555,0.2017564387247689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5739435143293132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31760695503298764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brittybratt13,2020/03/24,"Missing little girls please help us get her home where she belongs. 🖤🙏 PSA. PSA. PSA.❗❗❗
PLEASE NO NEGATIVITY. 
We are trying to find the address of DAVID ALLREAD and HANNAH MUNDEN. They took meela the week of thanksgiving and have not gave her back. I do not have an address. He had me meet him at a mcdonalds to drop her off.  I have not seen my baby in 4 months!! PLEASE help me find her. Ive contacted courts, attorneys, police, relatives of his. Ive done it all. This is where ive come to. Posting it to public Facebook because I have no other answers. ANYTHING is helpful. Please share to your family and friends. My baby doesnt deserve this. She doesnt deserve to be put thru such a harsh matter and not be able to see her family including her mother. Last located in JOPLIN, MO. They have me blocked on ALL social medias. He has a lawyer and is trying to take her away from me full time. He turns his phone off and doesnt let me talk to meela. I didnt get my baby for ANY holidays since Halloween of 2019. Please just share the ever living shit out of this. I'm BEGGING. BRING MY BABY HOME.",0.3240657698056779,2.736300726457401,2.072228699551569,93.44532361733931,91.06278026905831,4.9464275037369205,19.09252615844544,6.588339656340683,0.19507306427503798,854,26,180,11,30,279,131,223,0.09300000000000001,0.7709999999999999,0.136,0.7951,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,2,0,6,5,1,0,7,0,23,1,1,0,3,22,35,6,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,6,9,0,1,3,1,0,4,11,2,0,0,6,2,33,3,25,26,3,24,0,1,2,0,35,12,1,0,6,113,39,1,0.11889279462209322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085117735067229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097838639651353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170369425892923,0.09142122025015333,0.0,0.0724759440786053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024156150794414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166860759501665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754533947663324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22416309116391853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21733172072002016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185627819870047,0.0,0.12423315614181946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390740022479152,0.0,0.23851833386379756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691349602691976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121575937734375,0.0,0.0,0.11916181446919095,0.10498451586828107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489909436393007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6525429282945491,0.0,0.0,0.11386643224401337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195200970054257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474216421179736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122041745144211,0.0983493483156348,0.0,0.0,0.12119623159454525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939258516495922,0.09556152473822156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932734465466989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320942694583915,0.16144080644078804,0.12932121962341772,0.0,0.0,0.14301339304668498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536862834302448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RynnRoo96,2020/03/24,"My son makes me feel beautiful everyday Everyday for the last month, My 3 year old walks into my bedroom in the morning and says the same thing Everytime.

“morning mummy gorgeous!”

It was funny at first because Every morning I have said to him “Hello Gorgeous!”

It really is the little things.
I know he has 0 idea what he is saying but it really makes my day when he says it and then he follows with a big slobbery kiss and snuggles in my bed for an hour.

It is honestly the best thing ever ! It makes me feel beautiful and loved!",3.1424893162393173,5.101625278846157,4.574358974358977,82.84841880341881,75.05769230769229,7.699145299145299,26.94017094017094,8.515128840125781,2.088435042735043,415,16,78,8,9,138,68,104,0.0,0.721,0.27899999999999997,0.9889,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,7,0,6,2,0,3,1,16,15,7,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,10,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,6,10,6,8,13,2,20,0,0,0,2,12,6,0,0,12,52,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140542150095208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634954809256455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066380113560035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924235245057986,0.1576395315300379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892064177485983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591468736390284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425547491766114,0.0,0.0,0.21121274019809985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282507903822892,0.15251119324765827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18752301030606003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16886474633507156,0.0,0.3746714239952037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934116209722606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632961767399135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23972166393768565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797462028738606,0.4463674733641431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729020975640665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048604554273062
parenting,Two2Trees,2020/03/24,"Toothbrushing song This may not be of help to everyone but if you have little ones that are learning to brush their teeth and you're desperate to make their screen time educational (especially now that it's getting even harder to entertain them!) check out this song. It's two minutes - perfect for brushing and pretty catchy.  Our guy is still a baby (though we brush his teeth, too!) but his older cousins love Dr. Dan!

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCD5hbAfUi8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCD5hbAfUi8)",9.684120879120877,13.430811551282053,5.850586080586082,72.96346153846156,61.69230769230769,8.046886446886448,27.809523809523807,8.841846274778883,2.32898315018315,423,13,61,7,7,113,63,78,0.05,0.74,0.21,0.9569,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,3,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,5,4,2,1,1,12,8,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,6,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,8,3,7,6,0,6,0,0,1,1,12,2,0,2,4,40,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198170900626634,0.0,0.0,0.3066775163915155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768096165056906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177868535234116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151232400300488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216720602253871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896661629118721,0.0,0.2142338490752174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21748121614927332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265173146367037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25630777280320555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315327671059541,0.0,0.1871461078732477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31351746314263396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angryrubberduck,2020/03/24,"I'm concerned about my step son My step son just turned 8. My wife and I moved away from our hometown a few years ago and away from our family, including your father. 

The most important factors are: I've been in his life since he was a baby. I've been living with him and Mom since nearly the same time. We have expanded our family and our lives are stable. 

My problem is that he adores his father. Usually this isn't a problem, but his dad is unworthy of this. His dad hasn't talked to him in a month. He calls maybe once every 1-2 months for 10 minutes. We do everything we can do keep their visits, and I've offered to get his dad here to visit (see his school, meet his friends, etc) to no avail. The poor kid calls him and never gets a response. 

Its not that his dad is a bad guy. He's not a drunk or junkie or abusive, he's just a loser. He comes from an average middle-class family and is employed, so it's not like he is working to death. He pays minimal child support, so there is no extra strain. he isn't even one of those cool movie dad's that are busy doing cool things. He doesn't treat his son as a priority at all. He can't keep a promise, even when it's simple like ""I'll call child this weekend.""

My problem is this: why does he worship his dad? I don't like the way he is being treated and I know he doesn't either. I do not want him to grow up letting anyone treat him like this. Most importantly, should he have kids one day, I don't want him to think that this is an acceptable way to treat his children.

What am I not considering? Its it to complex for his brain? Will be figure it out? If so, around what age? Is it just how kids see their fathers? 

Any advice would be welcome. Its causing serious strain on our relationship on my end.",1.8096611035422328,3.4725578637602186,3.2871721730245262,91.9222841450954,77.99182561307902,6.440361035422344,21.822973433242502,7.292943589461545,0.5464442098092643,1364,38,307,17,32,448,189,367,0.18100000000000002,0.7340000000000001,0.085,-0.9893,1,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,8,1,2,2,14,25,0,2,16,2,39,3,1,2,2,49,53,18,1,8,13,14,0,4,1,3,1,0,0,7,22,15,1,2,5,2,2,7,16,8,0,2,3,4,41,17,30,43,8,32,1,1,2,0,76,11,0,5,16,190,63,4,0.0,0.1265596415419245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043794812047242,0.0946860499853001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263862794926862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468831826880502,0.0,0.0,0.09508899767295688,0.0,0.0,0.20071453140727188,0.0,0.0891870027462975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192421218255673,0.3272136194587107,0.0,0.0,0.10972958433393412,0.0,0.092012633627891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688875640121983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347551089651376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946073821333098,0.0,0.11912821505442996,0.14110208644387487,0.0,0.08999719233877594,0.0,0.0959994456967218,0.0,0.3020902090588752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252587328370471,0.0,0.11161403338394282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576475745664904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898861597874224,0.0,0.0,0.058703348872170436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922672492903757,0.07544738808651477,0.20873985293265696,0.0,0.18864119085154532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731115472636878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510175473361745,0.17051922393970514,0.113528636540113,0.0,0.0,0.08238318068265398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375568713071435,0.14476274158213656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066258176648214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468054353893055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108103621242346,0.17023724434934367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671880498084105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121367293556876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585475523278556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096388719308744,0.06844345991823378,0.0,0.0,0.06228534153855965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618527108675412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117642870929591,0.0,0.1260058361891618,0.1695713364466334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638493871765162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776341124699213,0.0,0.0,0.07587911056696676,0.0,0.0,0.06878608246042306
parenting,charloots,2020/03/24,"Bathing kids without a bathtub - just a shower. How hard is this going to be? I'm 3 months pregnant and getting anxious about the fact that our house has no bathtub. I cannot picture how I'm going to bathe this baby. I know at the beginning most people use a little basin to wash their newborns, but once they get bigger is this going to be a problem? Has anybody else dealt with this? I'd love to know how to work with my shower and avoid a reno.",3.0599068322981395,4.316988282608698,4.029192546583853,89.58413043478262,73.78260869565217,5.691925465838509,26.186335403726712,5.288315135182226,0.6654204968944102,350,12,72,1,7,113,62,92,0.12300000000000001,0.813,0.064,-0.3378,2,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,2,1,5,3,0,1,7,0,7,2,0,4,1,17,19,6,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,5,4,0,1,2,2,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,6,1,11,17,1,8,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,1,2,45,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780608302742063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056129815186008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571892217371041,0.0,0.4196500724970487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22048729772272446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840050476084612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27053710276484383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466904591003621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221451209175624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964614357470974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621241769901572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063799890605613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355165475726036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21258034347490876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372639400495415,0.0,0.17918814159719748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,patron_saint_of_NOPE,2020/03/24,"My son (7) was found playing ""Strip Tag"" with his cousin (F/~8) and another girl (12) his paternal grandmother just adopted. To begin with, his father has already picked him up and he will not be going over there again. This isn't the first time the adults haven't been paying enough attention, though last time it only ended in a bad haircut.

I live in Louisiana, his father lives in Texas. Due to school shutdowns, our son is staying with him, and had been visiting his grandmother a few hours away.

She and her husband recently adopted 3 girls from what I assume must have been an unfortunate situation.

My son's father called me to report that his stepfather had walked in on the three running around naked, and my ex was currently driving to remove him from the home immediately.

My son was immediately forthcoming about what was happening and said it was the girls' idea. He's never been a liar, even in the face of punishment he admits to wrongdoing. And he did admit he knew it wasn't right.

I know children do things. But one of THEM called it strip tag, and obviously that is something learned.

Also, this girl was TWELVE. Far past the point of innocent doctor-playing.

I trust his father to handle the conversation properly. We are in agreement that our son could benefit from a refresher course on privacy and the lack of propriety of girls and boys being naked around each other at their ages. He also wants to make sure our son understands that he knew something was wrong and did it anyway, and that is not okay either, although it was clearly a situation that he was influenced into. I agree with this, in the hopes that if something like this were to happen again, he would recognize and remove himself from the situation or get an adult.

I don't believe that anything bad happened, although it could have if not caught in time. Who knows.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for here, just needed to put this out somewhere because I am trying not to freak out. 

The girl's age and potential background have me very concerned and I'm just trying to remind myself that nothing happened and everything will be okay.",7.734690448791714,7.752784817721517,7.334804372842349,74.45468066743386,62.84810126582279,10.523590333716918,34.157077100115075,10.125756701596842,3.353227848101266,1693,64,301,33,22,533,209,395,0.054000000000000006,0.853,0.09300000000000001,0.9182,1,0,3,0,0,0,48.0,4,0,2,1,15,16,2,0,19,2,41,1,1,3,6,68,66,25,0,10,13,13,0,1,0,4,0,1,1,10,27,27,0,0,12,1,1,9,10,6,0,3,24,2,33,10,45,33,5,49,0,0,1,0,59,22,0,5,18,213,60,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152891016519796,0.16709483534233593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954957064015426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597278617374965,0.18600712369578573,0.0,0.0,0.09815628933070536,0.0,0.1744620119873757,0.06368607398073532,0.0,0.0,0.11770585491810752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133582422049647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668271722687929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069330509284709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253250881626322,0.10794904975332613,0.0,0.06900375934439887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389404246247184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886510303483157,0.0,0.11454979684591048,0.0,0.0,0.05458309011005856,0.0,0.05937469584219995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695422728774102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479543557057072,0.10376575537677353,0.10288534979599076,0.0,0.0,0.1179378613653792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483180328157022,0.08515984380980393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104047339186436,0.0,0.1845040234913679,0.0,0.08773142501618797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973687038523489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746577412191946,0.0805764013434793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024513787591792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079394524858762,0.07945680209666456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973177414854026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876122332450653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502472008942307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315497434484856,0.0,0.0,0.08921979546088178,0.09937821967710342,0.0,0.0,0.10573275636759663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522977631206585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412864059231461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135484698164623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969300687418742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940754906501867,0.0,0.10264468019634247,0.0,0.1827580084687131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186129305672168,0.0,0.0,0.10876059465767464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862015762359565,0.06162117524637147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421497465826166,0.11422536826129813,0.0,0.0
parenting,hammsandwhich,2020/03/24,"Sleep Troubles My 2 year old daughter used to sleep and take naps with no issues, but now we can’t get her to sleep without a severe 15-30 minute meltdown each time. We just transitioned her to a non-crib and had to put a child lock on her door because she was crawling out of her crib and walking around at 2am. 

I feel terrible for basically locking her in her room and letting her cry it out until she falls asleep. Keep in mind we read to her and try to calm her down for 30-45 minutes to relax but once we leave her room it’s full blown meltdown. She eventually crawls into her bed and falls asleep but surely there is a better way??",3.815606060606061,4.543132984848487,4.433030303030304,89.4028787878788,71.42424242424242,7.078787878787877,26.03030303030303,6.937597516519254,0.91249393939394,502,15,110,4,9,160,88,132,0.094,0.7809999999999999,0.125,0.7533,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,5,5,5,1,1,26,10,10,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,16,0,1,1,3,0,4,3,2,0,0,2,1,20,4,22,7,2,22,0,0,0,0,20,12,0,0,5,68,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746629133531807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467593721521625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663764627233664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664050234833467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511890148313684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982847053245422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963479447909768,0.0,0.16720930777330595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919145085453904,0.0,0.1923649947544984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994712791646265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739983224636315,0.20034119097144884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911211594961128,0.0,0.0,0.18817046700717804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125215557729198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5647662506359331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773004582262572,0.0,0.1414424967374637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969402777691377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772083219294542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247489902651022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932054983458584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18134054199009844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114282837170448
parenting,j0j053,2020/03/24,"Tuition during school shutdowns? Curious if anyone else is in the position of having paid tuition through the end of the year (thats how our preschool collects). Very tough times for everyone right now. 

The  schools are predicted to be closed through end of year in California and with our private school, we’re getting nothing aside from a daily email for the thousands of $$$’s we’ve spent. Any guidance on how other schools are handling shutdowns or if anyone has seen refunds (which i’m guessing won’t happen).",6.030135338345865,7.828531863157893,5.3533834586466185,80.85368421052634,67.21052631578948,7.533834586466164,37.78195488721804,7.957251820313856,3.1431954887218048,417,23,70,5,7,126,71,95,0.02,0.9540000000000001,0.026000000000000002,0.1298,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,2,0,9,14,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,2,0,14,9,0,11,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,4,6,40,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174011915636206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25035067490489865,0.18342771860719465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954870582442553,0.0,0.3171181587302154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710618161065789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353085339919463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972113289536748,0.0,0.15830728930704524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17177505479717656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288257943498304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7247134535893967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438832773513733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477107099185466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23056674145551684
parenting,lor_29x,2020/03/24,"What can I do I've recently found myself in a situation I thought impossible..  I've about been made hopeless, cant work due to my daughter and am couch surfing.. is there any way or tips or advisors that might be able to give me advice to get out of this mess.. I'm literally at the lowest point of my life and I'm running out of options",5.024577464788735,4.478229732394368,6.622640845070425,79.19621478873242,68.5774647887324,9.916901408450704,33.24295774647887,9.516144504307137,2.7936450704225355,265,11,58,5,4,92,56,71,0.084,0.9159999999999999,0.0,-0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,1,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,1,0,11,15,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,11,9,0,9,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,4,2,35,9,1,0.2856594728277084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27914313074873953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425823720355892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31321086755812466,0.0,0.0,0.14924528439253254,0.2740305959095405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20176973361246872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702979001466761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30303955827803164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27004053512360915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28205426720178045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210932161210769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267817129524481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267431931766429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796349840647288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PunishedConstruct,2020/03/24,"Insanely Confident 5 Year Old - Should I Be Worried? My 5 year old daughter always has the greatest and most unreasonable confidence. I think it must be genetic, or something, because I really feel like I've actively tried to discourage this type of behavior, if anything.  


    Two Examples:
    -Daughter Precariously Balancing On Something-
Daughter: I'm not going to fall. I have the best balance.
Me: No, you don't. There are people who have spent their entire lives practicing their balance and are much better than you, and even they fall sometimes.

    -Watching Show or Movie-
Daughter: If that had happened to me, I would have been able to succeed where INSERT PROTAGONIST didn't
    Me: I wouldn't be so sure. There were many factors at play, and overconfidence can lead to foolishness.

Lots of little things like the above two. 

This actually isn't really that big of a problem and I feel mostly blessed with my daughter after reading some of the horror stories about people's toddlers on the internet. But I just want to see if anyone can relate and what your thoughts are.",5.345657530027715,7.978925832460733,5.47239297813366,75.83955343393903,70.78010471204189,8.47317523868186,32.70126270403449,9.168548406835145,3.367049029873728,858,41,137,19,17,270,129,191,0.078,0.733,0.18899999999999997,0.973,0,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,0,3,3,4,7,10,0,0,6,0,22,0,0,1,2,32,32,13,0,9,8,5,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,4,3,1,4,6,2,0,2,6,4,19,8,17,19,7,15,1,1,2,0,12,6,0,9,7,101,27,4,0.16173340834331584,0.0,0.15782847621844134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345751519348488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308775960269644,0.0,0.13309281448706362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859118457086212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972923389796202,0.1430400565536433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682339086665793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355454160713415,0.11554237923632785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191682310936428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302031886521066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802954769306926,0.16209936405090442,0.14281356266054845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749996013207275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397229099790794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889266441680987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394240111372908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242511624200064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475702921065093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177717570053898,0.0,0.2072211256106724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888058675465536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24902055864421066,0.15995847636408242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243182332730842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744848995638176,0.10363223755759428,0.0,0.1283982604275717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980636780536336,0.0,0.31598007833608505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539455460900596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424812689910287,0.0,0.11489077292891164,0.0,0.0,0.20830202467002296
parenting,born_again_tim,2020/03/24,"Lost my temper and yelled :( Lost my temper and yelled :(

We have a strict ‘no distractions’ rule at dinner time to give us a chance to talk as a family (no TV, no toys, no devices etc). My 5YO has recently been testing this boundary - for example dancing on his chair, trying to get up while still touching the chair to see if I will get angry etc. Anyway today in the middle of dinner he got up an walked over to his toys and started being silly and not listening. I reminded him of the rules and he said he didn’t care about the rules. Then he hid behind the sofa. This back and forth between me and him goes on for another minute and it’s clear he isn’t going to listen. I just blow up and yell at the top of my lungs “SIT DOWN AND EAT YOUR DINNER OR YOU’RE GOING STRAIGHT TO BED!” In complete shock (this is out of character for me) he tearfully comes back to the table. He’s sobbing and stuffing food is his mouth at this point and my wife is consoling him because he’s obviously shaken up.

Nothing is said for the rest of dinner. Then I get him a Jell-O (we made it together earlier in the day) from the fridge and apologise for yelling but remind him why I was angry. We have a little hug and he has his dessert, but he still doesn’t say a word (he’s usually quite silly and playful).

I just feel like such an asshole because he’s actually a really quiet and obedient boy and my wife and I are a bit worried about his confidence already because he seems to be very unsure of himself when around other kids. He’s also an only child, so this means even more time playing by himself or with me and my wife but we can be busy with our own work commitments from home these days. Ugh I just feel like I’ve undermined him completely. I feel like a complete failure as a father. ;(

I’m not sure why I’m typing this. I just need to tell someone, even if a bunch of internet strangers (thanks in advance for listening by the way). What would have been a better way to handle my situation without yelling?",3.5422994210090977,4.7865629032258115,4.728404466501242,85.08850413564932,72.57320099255583,7.854722911497108,26.8328370554177,8.344100000000001,1.7209292638544254,1562,54,319,25,30,515,212,403,0.111,0.797,0.092,-0.7077,0,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,6,1,0,7,18,20,2,1,26,0,22,10,2,1,4,55,50,34,0,4,14,4,4,3,0,2,0,12,3,3,11,28,7,0,5,6,0,6,10,8,0,0,10,17,41,12,54,35,7,47,0,3,1,1,50,22,1,5,19,210,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.10106181041183084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142835107020298,0.08281868853807599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859404184143773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219235299322026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926594513898684,0.0,0.18939174682751087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915923882881204,0.11306314728009985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055886090895744,0.0,0.0,0.08920970256131837,0.3257491251869101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335781588548983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597002922174374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309985534083241,0.13680376994039128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976292661643796,0.0,0.15709254570465234,0.221954661884062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125227875657631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232099322552815,0.0993463404517134,0.11771361890207445,0.0,0.08282818654505306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388137396287493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517858428125493,0.10379657454791227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261008443932407,0.0,0.0,0.09799309862545176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128096432480524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767900911625448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937076551998797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876375271076898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789979417848983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015119346085876,0.0,0.0,0.06634462491042217,0.0,0.10225522140066642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970228177560252,0.08235685254338672,0.0,0.0,0.08252569964837947,0.09427917675976416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640830053893078,0.0,0.0,0.08774795266221254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330188882824026,0.0,0.16540988252654995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760618868620964,0.0,0.0,0.08323940828349426,0.09051796532071947,0.09534619958956173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077595376860845,0.0,0.09816489741781016,0.0,0.0,0.07031196518553696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457262738776174,0.0,0.11405917981362025,0.08544969662468195,0.0,0.1644057765861401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689763297430967,0.0,0.0,0.09983030689834846,0.0,0.07539454653099742,0.10517248508565363,0.0,0.07356764628291892,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mysoupiswet,2020/03/24,"Help with slang? Recently, I have noticed my daughter (15) has been asking her friends for ""Girl scout cookies.""  I am almost certain the context in which they are saying it is something drug related, as my daughter has never liked sweets.  I feel like I'm being paranoid here, and I refuse to go through her stuff because I believe in personal autonomy, but if girl scout cookies is a drug, I think it may be time to confront her.",8.290925925925926,7.2011795432098795,7.895154320987658,74.52569444444445,62.20987654320989,10.075308641975312,42.47222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.9263555555555554,337,18,60,4,4,107,62,81,0.10800000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.1472,0,0,3,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,0,2,0,11,2,0,0,2,11,16,4,0,1,2,2,1,2,1,1,2,1,0,3,4,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,12,5,8,12,0,6,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,3,5,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303243282519787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150306705269525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021350624892287,0.0,0.0,0.2591453608694301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5334830321913642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630124864352814,0.1643210007424562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777071137320759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072142410625756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541725535477294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22474501213696965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739984657724706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618707952593605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200838073295778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271096290891489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182915199614016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707488660142068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26330932220525644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473827447313786,0.0,0.0,0.13412215869055905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,In71grid,2020/03/24,"How do I teach my child to focus? Teaching your child to focus, the holy grail of skills, focusing skills.  It takes 10 minutes a day, and a lot of consistency!",2.4247311827957034,4.665642225806452,3.6658064516129047,87.18537634408602,78.35483870967741,6.713978494623658,23.23655913978495,7.793537801064563,1.1375720430107528,123,4,25,2,3,40,25,31,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,15,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940459947547315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6512776997648341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5759825629789801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kelsey_Amazing,2020/03/24,My 5 year old needs constant attention... I have a 5 year old son that needs someone to constantly be playing with him. Occasionally he will watch something in the TV or his tablet by himself but it's rare. I have a 1 year old that is completely the opposite. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get him to be better at doing things by himself. It's hard for me to get anything done with him constantly asking to play and whining when I say no. It also makes me feel bad because he makes it seem like I never do anything with him. Does anyone else have experience with this?,3.594106280193237,5.1474280434782616,4.887246376811596,82.78207729468602,72.91304347826087,7.893719806763285,29.299516908212556,8.515128840125781,2.1912705314009657,455,19,90,8,9,151,76,115,0.09699999999999999,0.804,0.098,0.0258,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,3,1,16,21,6,0,2,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,5,14,4,16,17,0,14,0,1,2,0,13,3,0,2,12,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638283962846033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176019040761512,0.14911595168331887,0.23952283061704685,0.0,0.13605388730650908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151413489702785,0.08871568195965956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871228010840982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258878104672194,0.4718090310007001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735707548058747,0.14893098162567364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157430600645995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235938565172654,0.0,0.0,0.07358595375151168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207017044398705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036915279327818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110016556952194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221122630291535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942890690931885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582203298755406,0.11224416812385614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4581378054122795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573383412676297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248795051964973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233097997889313,0.11203855992935133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966857848752662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28115580899979026
parenting,xandrew245x,2020/03/24,"13 year old daughter lying and being disrespectful. Hello, we have a daughter who will be turning 14 here soon. I am not her real father, her real dad abandoned her shortly after she was born and has had no contact with her since. October of 2018 her grandfather passed away and she was very close with him, I don't think she has processed this.

The past year it seems to have gotten worse with her. It started with her just being extremely disrespectful and getting angry about everything. She uses discord to meet and talk to friends, one day she left it logged in and we were able to see what she was doing. Unfortunately she was fabricating stories with people she talked to, making her life out to be awful and tragic, when in reality it's not. She doesn't have a perfect life, but we do what we can to give her a much better life than we had. 

She also was having online relationships with multiple guys at the same time, even while she had a boyfriend from school. She lied about all of this as well.

We had to take her iPad, computer and phone away from her because this was the only way we could keep her off of discord. If she had any of her devices, she found a way to connect to the internet. 

I don't mind her having friends and using discord, but every time she uses discord she gets wrapped up in these stories and drama, then she turns into a brat, starts self harming, even at one point she ran away. 

I had a talk with her recently and came to the conclusion that I don't want to keep her from her friends. I was the same way when I was her age, I had trouble making friends in real life, and the internet is where I socialized. I agreed she could use discord on her computer but I would be monitoring her.

Not even a couple days into this she's turning right back to how she was before, I also read some of her conversations and she is again lying about her life, and she is currently telling 3 boys she loves them and that they are in relationships.

I honestly don't know what to do at this point. Someone please give me some advice.",5.864270057899091,6.029529367245657,6.12599565756824,81.05001912737802,66.74193548387098,8.999545078577338,30.19117038875104,8.72156446121922,2.17018453267163,1617,54,321,23,24,518,192,403,0.11900000000000001,0.7979999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.8715,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,7,0,2,3,18,13,0,0,15,1,47,6,0,7,2,71,75,27,0,5,8,4,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,3,16,34,0,3,5,2,0,3,9,4,1,2,21,1,70,9,52,45,6,52,0,2,1,1,83,24,0,4,22,248,86,4,0.08326161917164025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813622906207594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331685735399325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05662075619929525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346810960499708,0.06402304570995791,0.0,0.05075551024062293,0.0,0.07084950540704472,0.0,0.0,0.0736381359736029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522911118391918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295525569788186,0.09212739795211312,0.0,0.1073937126076264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164980542611508,0.0,0.07015150519629583,0.0,0.07483017457127368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129206784881412,0.2573108817305312,0.0,0.08700151904116274,0.159744263980765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244209335304244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801350552013448,0.0,0.0,0.04575840841727798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046399285019688,0.0,0.2940507197977147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514686205305485,0.0,0.11115555466827713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407050014378864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120687029584365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736906320873833,0.0,0.11284045595668862,0.06332421329228627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794826367479166,0.057723123118068764,0.0,0.0,0.09139625485548393,0.15741828530173627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328415094826322,0.28430985271665943,0.0,0.0,0.08221080417541393,0.17878363839844064,0.0,0.0711049678388227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426520372739857,0.06634873056162327,0.07579825100614072,0.0868600274804291,0.0,0.0,0.06887487178061266,0.0,0.0,0.08487473536253966,0.07054729972996403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786600518977798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260237558071638,0.2007676067882557,0.07277432506043235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053350683608356514,0.0,0.0,0.09710103942237618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27169419744877105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876452236324953,0.0,0.06869955567877215,0.04910986022160061,0.19826759336724584,0.0,0.0,0.07486219495378346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485070317502959,0.059146665366975076,0.0,0.0,0.10723550581424353
parenting,wahooo92,2020/03/24,"Are my parents babying my disabled younger brother? My younger brother is severely mentally disabled. He has no level of conceptual thought, and struggles to understand consequence. For example if he burns himself whilst touching a hot pan, he'll cry but will repeat the same action. At most he'll ask if can, but doesn't know himself. You have to remind him each time not to. He can repeat things like ""we're going to the cinema on tuesday"" but doesnt really understand what ""tuesday"" is. I hate to say it but I would say he's not much smarter than a rather dumb dog. He has the academic ability of rough a 4 year old despite being 17.

The thing is, an IQ test said he still has an IQ of about 80. So I feel like that means he CAN learn something, at least how to take care of himself.

My parents baby him though, and I think it's hindering his ability to learn because he never HAS to. Mom still brushes his teeth, helps him get changed, makes all his meals, helps him shower, helps him ""go potty"" etc. When asked to do it himself he screams saying he can't and asks for our parents to help. Except one time when only my siblings and I were home and he was begging us to pour a glass of orange juice and we refused, and lo and behold he managed to do it himself (albeit with us giving him instructions). 

I had the thought recently because my nephew, who's 3, has learned to dress himself. And he knows how to use a knife and fork and all that. He is a very good kid though.

It annoys me because my parents are getting old, and haven't at all looked into care homes since they think it's cruel to leave him without family (He throws a tantrum if one of us goes back to college because he thinks we'll never come back). It's safe to say they expect one of us to take care of him, but none of us want to take care of a fully grown man with less independence than a toddler, especially if we have our own kids.

Am I being too harsh? What can I do to convince my parents? And if things don't change, what can I do when I inevitably become his carer?",4.206972954230235,5.008511313106794,4.8985714285714295,86.15,70.57766990291263,7.633287101248268,29.52011095700416,7.7094869923839395,1.7317576976421631,1599,61,330,18,28,515,208,412,0.1,0.7709999999999999,0.129,0.9535,6,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,10,1,2,0,15,16,5,1,16,0,36,2,1,5,5,66,71,31,0,9,15,9,4,2,0,5,0,6,3,3,16,20,1,2,14,1,0,6,12,7,0,3,6,12,50,9,44,58,12,32,0,0,1,0,76,6,1,6,22,218,66,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015404710804381,0.0,0.0,0.11051305465859927,0.0,0.17522273160380533,0.0793646190323946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930675410228716,0.0,0.15203841754502373,0.06190172498353516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893572566471542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014379890375692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774397639424737,0.0,0.0363349848053759,0.051337377154751264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508861475237293,0.06893543715758506,0.08168030892250061,0.06027343817027059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709476726683666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266714522499592,0.0,0.14416450357609226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898564391044928,0.0,0.0,0.0760902221042111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021512405348741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603449819480197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047967648806934216,0.0,0.0,0.07827748901003012,0.0,0.0,0.072418794823711,0.0,0.0,0.08416251237624263,0.0,0.0,0.052825963896890135,0.0,0.11084697378645006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081166399986098,0.0,0.14608423426156064,0.054653384317943865,0.0,0.0,0.398964627785484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04603587510582613,0.0,0.07095388070511474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835608644604364,0.2285864021638744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118226114283791,0.0,0.059444004774291674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055321962482079635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477627168053227,0.0,0.0,0.07512452146019365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16209115821321687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322338755851774,0.1381365166629422,0.14120576229932716,0.11409891271326245,0.08380523261659521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961927542068867,0.4321985333228348,0.062064667435523725,0.0,0.0592926942756237,0.04238536769660257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692712566595083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104785776817346,0.0,0.0,0.04627600571003758
parenting,Ruval,2020/03/24,"App suggestions for 'virtual play dates' for your kids in this time of isolation? In my area, March break was last week and this week we are staying home and isolated. My 10yo son is handling this way better than my 8yo daughter.  He has a PS4 account and online friends, so he's just hanging about online with them.  My daughter is getting increasingly bored and wants to see her friends.

The idea of having 'virtual play dates' with friends through a spare iPad etc dawned on me today, but to be honest, I don't have much of a need for video chat usually and so I'm not aware of the best apps for this.  I'm on IOS for my phone/ipad and I've used Facetime a bit - that certainly would work, but ideally I can see them wanting to screenshare (basically share a video and just chat while they watch).

Can anyone suggest good apps for this?  Ideally free, but a minimal cost is acceptable.",5.513253588516747,6.227945801169593,5.446996278575226,83.69846889952156,67.59649122807018,9.259117490696438,31.919723551302496,9.339509955726095,2.641802339181287,696,28,140,13,11,217,110,171,0.026000000000000002,0.726,0.247,0.9919,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,3,5,5,16,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,1,1,26,22,13,0,6,6,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,6,10,0,0,2,6,3,2,2,1,0,0,1,3,14,16,22,19,5,20,0,0,3,0,20,5,0,0,10,82,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286537093643128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19941271893471413,0.16805594380450325,0.20745101509848027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21192088467217046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44042352351125374,0.0,0.09927683666605376,0.0,0.0,0.1593785235288908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906040738900985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145077857612316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489045943286706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396854797977927,0.1408963286835605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028403255281025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253446504182246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108013301041146,0.0,0.18011534356029044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411499591646725,0.20927855983892535,0.0,0.22415569868870255,0.15082786063063947,0.3048427982709499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833574941972204,0.0,0.0,0.13498370836952334,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RPtheFP,2020/03/24,"My daughter won't get off the potty. We started potty training our 2.5yo daughter. She seems to have taken it way overboard and now just refuses to get off the toilet, refuses to go to bed because she is scared to she will wet the bed, and throws a huge tantrum every time we try to get her off.  We had her in for a UTI but the test was negative. We are at our wits end and don't know what to do.

Has anyone ever managed something like this and what did you do?",4.085189003436427,4.130565371134022,5.0696391752577314,87.51036941580757,70.54639175257732,7.7037800687285225,28.537800687285234,7.1686216300943375,1.367860481099656,359,12,79,3,6,118,65,97,0.087,0.8640000000000001,0.048,-0.6124,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,6,1,0,0,3,3,1,1,6,0,12,0,0,0,1,15,20,5,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,8,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,1,13,1,13,14,0,14,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,6,57,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122835321186264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507117808321133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26889866727852024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746227445166165,0.2557953146257179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758539579538068,0.0,0.17254235064281506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685011169921074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14832317255754432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30395563714497364,0.0,0.0,0.27638519529896965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337254002770345,0.0,0.0,0.214888987747534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703106198527058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061238430112444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409828141893121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saintamir,2020/03/24,"My Boy Is Starting to Use a Mobile Device My son lives with me for half the holidays, he's nearly 10. He's the bestest sweetest living thing on earth and I don't care if you say otherwise.

A few months ago I created a new google account for him. For Nintendo Switch and such games.

Today I read a notification in (my personal) backup email that the password has been changed yesterday.  

I got paranoid and in my rush I changed the password to something else.

It never crossed my mind that it was him, but it was.

I guess with the lock down he started using his mobile phone and got bored or something.

Google uploads all videos and search history automatically, and so I took a look.

It's all benign sweet stuff - attempts at making memes, and ""TikTok"" videos he made (huh).

They were hilarious.

I already had a chat with him previously about how to use the web/internet safely and such. 

I want to give him the account back - without looking like a creepy dad who snooped his stuff. 

I'll be having a phone call with him later today. And I'll be having him over next week.

Any tips on how to handle this are welcome.

Cheers.",2.6239840804356973,5.07121706451613,3.5913803937997493,86.8823952660243,78.81566820276498,6.157436112274822,25.071009635525762,7.348242739294969,1.2398221198156685,881,33,171,12,22,282,137,217,0.04,0.8320000000000001,0.128,0.9641,0,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,1,1,7,8,0,0,15,1,13,0,0,7,3,31,29,15,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,11,13,0,1,0,7,2,3,3,1,0,1,9,4,25,7,22,18,3,24,0,0,2,0,28,8,0,3,14,109,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204289536772266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193066756801688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362549680595833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586558470760933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058423435023062,0.0,0.1403715003854225,0.0,0.2912893145727765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501197778126407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207291001605725,0.0,0.0,0.2202267255868372,0.0,0.15166741068600434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672623264844427,0.0,0.2431437061817653,0.0,0.23122903688917745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027388465551373,0.09190087458324016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901513987172026,0.0,0.10989295576639606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106185461339598,0.1329698948538351,0.1464217014663989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021477965699336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771486875144598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948676242840727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198190289574312,0.0,0.0,0.19489784370919394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152158515673492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146688726520323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26100455445964704,0.0,0.15296489189788148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567277546372901,0.0,0.0,0.08120582221004947,0.0,0.11043667514687364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271630419310085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tonibabez,2020/03/24,"Screaming toddler My daughter will scream at me if I tell her no or I don’t give her what she wants, I’m not sure what to do help!!",-2.5730000000000004,-0.9365189666666645,-0.2699999999999996,107.68500000000002,105.33333333333334,2.4000000000000004,16.0,3.1291,-1.5177999999999998,101,3,27,0,5,33,25,30,0.298,0.622,0.08,-0.7466,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,6,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,7,1,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,18,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5225867062748579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651434334141733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5134330708674723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761472354248231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32131557602487915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lcrnmtn,2020/03/24,"Help needed raising younger brother My parents are 60+ and raising my 12 year old little brother.  I’m grown and live out of town with no kids of my own. They were pretty lax with me but I feel like they are really messing up with him. Any recommendations I give my parents, quickly gets shut down as they think I’m just being controlling and over critical or act as if I’m overstepping. “ they’ve raised 3 kids and don’t need my input” The older he has got the more distant and disconnected he becomes. You have to force him to even say hi to family members.  He is always extremely short and can’t wait to get back to his video and computer games. I don’t think my parents patrol what he does at all which really scares me. I recently found a couple instagrams of his with some questionable content that makes me feel uneasy.  I’m sure my parents don’t even know what Instagram is. My dad stays on him about school work and requires him to do well in school. He also is required to play one sport but you can tell he absolutely hates it and barely tries. I’ve seen his interactions with other kids and he’s pretty rude or possibly just extremely anti social.  I hear him talking awful and just being so hateful on his head set. He treats me and my other older siblings pretty bad as far as how he speaks to us or just shuts us out.  My parents excuse the behavior by saying that’s just to be expected from younger siblings. He found out recently he was adopted and I know this has to be a huge factor in his behavior. I’ve expressed my concerns over and over but I need help finding ways to connect with my parents so they will acknowledge and address these issues.  He was released from therapy as a young child and I’ve begged for it to be a priority to restart.  My dad has a lot on his plate and just can’t find the time to take him out of town for it right now.  I’m completely out of ideas of what I can do on my own for him . I’ve tried talking to him he won’t open up to me at all. I just feel like he’s turned dark and it breaks my heart. I think we’ve over compensated with him and afraid it’s to a point of no return.  He’s spoiled and disrespectful and never been pushed to be social and make friends.  My parents think it’s a joke when I bring it to their attention because I was also spoiled and disrespectful as a teenager; however I was pretty social and never experienced being adopted. Plus the path I went down wasn’t easy and I want better for him!",3.3442146476278225,4.8051146267465095,4.564510978043913,85.2177107323814,73.39121756487026,7.693351758022414,26.618608935974212,8.303829127061777,1.6777871027176423,1952,69,401,32,39,643,231,501,0.083,0.809,0.10800000000000001,0.8806,8,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,2,5,5,21,16,3,2,13,1,34,2,2,4,5,89,69,45,0,6,14,11,3,2,1,2,0,4,1,4,17,39,0,4,17,5,0,5,11,7,1,1,12,9,61,9,69,48,7,56,0,0,1,0,75,32,0,7,17,257,78,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682525065218086,0.06077779863395436,0.0,0.0,0.049671884734240015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056165716608348494,0.060988025865527686,0.044526460321827006,0.08067048214481984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460077977854035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658441162546957,0.0,0.08192416634730941,0.0,0.080820917965765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392060166621827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648869715017096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885863379373851,0.0,0.11079851873709436,0.10436416170368877,0.0,0.0,0.13352033370988528,0.0,0.0,0.16017621012956926,0.05643299964591295,0.0,0.07632412061586369,0.07006969881751005,0.0,0.0,0.058419324339715126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423008718466482,0.0749634021644549,0.0,0.0823250016081103,0.08655655061806063,0.097918642389138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245688855172946,0.0,0.07623812968364954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802852713773399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137044164404227,0.07320848139742431,0.06449848897649835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209872156138956,0.0,0.0,0.09751381418536932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624818348254273,0.11267084664007783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766465573467031,0.0,0.049495966654976326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5677408520875692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904943917604263,0.0823452396491821,0.0,0.29724479941178955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182510727164348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358669608758156,0.0,0.14424270755187,0.0,0.0,0.0623784986920716,0.0,0.11617377805834757,0.07312899154316807,0.14784724781569386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337504943971426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785433872515404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884235707999661,0.0,0.05491940045784215,0.11741872406476955,0.06384298141992853,0.0,0.0835312716645957,0.0,0.0,0.18721254780558205,0.0,0.0,0.04259208072730754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918308417636046,0.07945003307700539,0.0,0.0,0.17572396612251515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043082775292788235,0.05797829691999995,0.0,0.0,0.06567461419285707,0.06771178360876631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053176323797024416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703742974991676
parenting,raisedondnd,2020/03/24,"Entertainment during family self-quarantine What card, board, or tabletop games are you playing with your family? How are you encouraging the older kids to put down the screens and sit down at the game table?",6.680833333333332,9.336223194444448,6.462222222222222,70.10500000000002,67.05555555555556,10.355555555555558,28.66666666666667,10.504223727775694,3.6189,169,6,26,5,3,53,30,36,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.8105,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,5,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,1,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7929433794481798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227844518888898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43874150046503535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,salamanster,2020/03/24,"How can we get our 1yo baby to eat more, preferably without crying the whole time? Title says it all, I guess. Me and my wife have a 1yo baby who is wonderful most of the time, but when anyone tries to feed him, no matter what they're feeding him, he screams bloody murder and won't stop no matter what you do. This was bad for me at the best of times but now because the city is locked down due to the pandemic I can't leave to go sit in a park, I can't go to the office to work (which was the best part of my day until now), I've got to do everything at home. I'm working from home right now and in the last 3 weeks I've barely managed to do what I'd manage in 3 days at the office because of the constant stress.

Playing songs, rocking him, taking breaks after every bite of food, he'll still act like you're the devil himself until you stop. We've tried going through a bunch of baby cookbooks for recipes, the only thing he seems to actually enjoy are the dried gerber snacks, which aren't exactly nutritious. Also even with those he hardly wants to eat, he'll just put a bunch in his mouth and suck on them slowly instead of chewing them.

And we can't just stop feeding him, he's already really underweight for his age and the pediatrician is breathing down our necks to feed him more. We've tried to get him to eat by just putting pieces of food on the tray of his baby chair for him to feed himself, and he definitely likes that more than having someone else feed him, but he eats so slowly this way that he's still not gaining weight. Also a lot of the time he'll just fill his mouth and then not actually swallow any of it.

Is there anything else we can do to help him actually start to eat a healthy amount for his age? At this point I've got no clue what to do any more, the pediatrician just tells us to feed him more which is useless, we're trying for hours a day and we can't get him to eat any more than he does if we just let him snack at his own pace.",9.095983656174331,5.049010322033901,8.791160714285713,78.00916237893462,63.21307506053268,11.5840799031477,35.497730024213084,8.278499904357787,2.5665884987893457,1545,40,346,13,16,501,196,413,0.105,0.782,0.113,-0.4546,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,8,2,2,5,19,13,2,1,24,0,24,24,4,1,2,43,43,21,1,3,13,1,2,2,0,4,0,3,2,0,17,15,20,3,3,3,0,7,12,7,0,0,4,5,39,6,59,34,18,53,1,1,0,0,48,15,1,6,30,218,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.24346152067131605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177102339578252,0.13300879115014455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965845925691364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814860660100085,0.0,0.06843500780471486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694365605870511,0.10138922242475888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454618404849045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986827305964519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134924188689883,0.1608972842993967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277537954980537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5105711911309533,0.13894188806923272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054927530204092315,0.0,0.07006733387231506,0.0,0.07474038954314417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011189582151414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034569532752396,0.0,0.14178816184292234,0.0,0.13302404517612176,0.0,0.0916120077482836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449656440614133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05574154638032194,0.0,0.16683596682970478,0.0,0.08189754025244426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778789934752266,0.0,0.0880562514082576,0.0,0.0850384906961697,0.0,0.08125722918574188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070111847173388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06324823369843527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005603618621337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861470344065054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720099135747687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327552581678461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101965250214022,0.0,0.0661335357579973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570730443094237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046265351168371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058862291797726576,0.0,0.13282611031101307,0.20858075912162125,0.09526146661669037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252726208426003,0.0,0.07268700674452447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05524894996855397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396906536841368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22584538967722675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003330692459496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049050935727481836,0.06600990062698732,0.06670731367726633,0.10126856822468787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284708790222702,0.0,0.08016492820091295,0.0901853353715745,0.12108544182984553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,irelyn671,2020/03/24,"My 12 year old has become interested in baking and I’m scared When I was 13, I gave myself a second degree burn due to me baking cookies. I wasn’t unsupervised, it just happened. Now, my daughter wants to bake. I helped her make cupcakes, but I stood four feet away from her the entire time. She has kept wanting to bake thing but doesn’t want to because I am watching her like a hawk. I’m just scared.",1.78829268292683,3.8998645975609776,3.085548780487805,91.19710365853659,79.85365853658539,5.0756097560975615,21.22560975609756,5.985473137389443,0.10233658536585376,315,9,66,2,8,102,59,82,0.075,0.84,0.085,-0.0644,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,3,0,6,5,1,1,0,10,16,4,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,5,1,14,2,7,11,0,8,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,7,41,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25266489590507746,0.0,0.0,0.16393483660258815,0.2970077166134012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378104361568616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18025547645589207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138369415180304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179510240421439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821926729402125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5384838225581818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17866253175540125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568129544573892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758586923569403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317957242782067
parenting,Ulkavahini,2020/03/24,"TV/Movie suggestions for my 8-year-old niece who doesn't watch anything besides Sam and Cat My 8-year-old niece is a little jaded with all of the Netflix kids content and I keep comparing it to the shows I used to watch when I was little. I may be overly impressed because I was young, but they seemed to be much more interesting. I didn't live in the US for very long, but I liked shows like What's the Story Wishbone, Arthur, Zaboomafoo, Reading Rainbow. She doesn't want to watch anything not recent and she also does not want to watch cartoons. Does anyone have any suggestions?",6.124910714285715,6.761872383928572,5.505357142857147,84.08964285714286,66.23214285714286,7.828571428571429,30.285714285714285,7.447530270364453,1.7748428571428572,465,16,88,4,7,141,74,112,0.04,0.836,0.124,0.9015,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,1,1,15,15,7,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,1,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,4,13,4,11,9,3,8,0,0,4,0,8,4,0,2,6,54,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918815977858438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268639619408664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044376296450136,0.0,0.30703813757072473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372234409571146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265114992276715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581887095384892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822829361292836,0.3739547249895013,0.1647316967040202,0.1650955187868096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371395683307406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915166894171748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660572668772213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842007954702581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983288596465204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22440298641313425,0.16112383140442366,0.0,0.15392761245203332,0.2200702306463352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402709190326405
parenting,CS-Rob,2020/03/24,"Daycare charging parents even when they closed unexpectedly? Our daycare has shutdown for an unforeseeable amount of time. We received an email today telling us we are still expected to pay the fees over this duration, and they are still enforcing the 30-day notice for terminating service. Is this normal?

I'm in California, if that matters (for legal perspective).

Thanks.",7.203333333333332,10.688226737704925,6.7520491803278695,64.76173497267763,68.50819672131148,9.31256830601093,38.03551912568307,9.725611199111238,4.832899453551913,305,17,40,8,6,95,51,61,0.022000000000000002,0.885,0.09300000000000001,0.5362,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,6,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,7,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,5,30,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927976733384343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19745330205580008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929070025447831,0.0,0.34035594712428435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319480024016041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774828575522495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26129500898602703,0.27523250208138944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431983702599255,0.0,0.28336913740843744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595993975048785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Minnichi,2020/03/24,"Son gone, not when he can come home. My Ex and I are (obviously) not together. We have a 10 year old son. We actually get along very well. 

On that note, he lives approximately 1300 km away. For March break, my ex asked if he could have our son come visit. Not too much of an issue, they rarely get to spend any time together (due to distance). We agreed to meet halfway (approximately 7 hours drive). Now things are moving so fast, due to things outside our family plans.   
I feel like I have abandoned him as I can't bring him home. We all live in Canada, but there are still borders between us. I have no idea when we can bring my son home. And I am feeling like I betrayed him. I promised to never abandon him (like my mother did to me), and I feel like this thing that's going on is breaking my promise to my son.",2.2752207792207777,3.9252875393939455,3.524004329004331,90.78886363636364,76.63636363636363,6.411255411255411,22.69480519480519,7.1686216300943375,0.5568441558441561,624,18,140,7,14,203,105,165,0.06,0.81,0.13,0.8502,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,8,0,1,1,8,9,0,0,2,0,14,0,0,0,3,26,26,9,0,2,5,8,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,11,0,2,4,0,1,9,6,2,1,0,2,3,29,7,16,23,2,29,0,2,0,0,27,5,0,1,17,87,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.14239070429745573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922630663359418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640959478131295,0.0,0.13709070642926885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513834321017789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650020112756942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755443240666893,0.0,0.22133502389887053,0.3127222884587814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524677518537689,0.0,0.0829261074611944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390899571762334,0.0,0.14369558365469484,0.0,0.0,0.1647187851087526,0.0,0.1522959733385537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851442164933641,0.0,0.25768890706794073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508315092199568,0.10726334453536672,0.0,0.11253762603524127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311186282510378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116526854084328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908156980381393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508344076377188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551619229504142,0.0,0.0,0.1203940680936785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119392269509256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396362655842752
parenting,libertyhound23,2020/03/24,"How to stop twins from tossing food off plate/tray If my daughter doesn't want anything, she will throw it off her tray.

My son will throw food no matter what. For instance, he will eat one raspberry and then toss the next one off his tray and then eat the next raspberry. It is ridiculous, and it is infuriating because of the cost and mess.

They are 22 months (20 corrected), and it is only getting worse since they have developed a better throwing arm.",5.255517241379311,6.421527367816093,4.9845402298850585,85.15198275862069,68.42528735632183,8.098850574712644,29.44252873563219,8.344100000000001,1.930894252873564,359,13,71,5,6,110,61,87,0.17800000000000002,0.78,0.042,-0.9026,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,1,1,3,1,0,4,0,9,5,1,1,1,11,11,9,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,5,4,1,0,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,7,1,7,8,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,6,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353599350524404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285502844860676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18650592386034104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315650802627245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.509993048093138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101759195251884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832213409627853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4485458252888109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857950328151774,0.16038348535928176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744418353665342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630483978578956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243822882013902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149043912726324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunshineprincess97,2020/03/24,"I need hair help! My fiancé and I are getting full custody of his daughter(4yo). This is great news! I personally never wanted a daughter, only because I was never into doing my hair or dressing up pretty. But now that we’ll have her, I need to learn to do hair! Do any mommas have tips/ideas for me? She’s got pretty long, thick hair with (growing out) bangs. Anything helps at this point, when I do do her hair it’s an absolute disaster!!",1.381034482758622,3.844671758620692,2.9938045977011503,89.09415517241379,84.28735632183907,4.859310344827586,21.34367816091953,6.2581,0.4060767816091953,341,11,66,3,10,112,66,87,0.045,0.769,0.18600000000000005,0.9164,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,11,5,5,0,2,13,16,4,0,3,2,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,6,14,1,9,13,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,5,47,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685884865787067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18981611490207834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061011250651526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051197320862045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448238886699134,0.25430693213146804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30921728840126644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260390614757947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041296251455849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420675992048844,0.35580327535039985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542971616682662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20140616148330606,0.0,0.0,0.2180512293337571,0.0,0.0,0.4693346875675624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605109944125252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curiouskittycat89,2020/03/24,"14 month old will not go to bed until almost midnight and fights naps I am just at a loss with what to do. For probably about 2 weeks now my 14 month old just won't go to bed at a reasonable time. When I try to get her to bed at her normal time she just screams and cries and will not calm down. Another issue is she is fighting naps. She will be so fussy and sleepy but refuses to nap. After going at this for hours I end up putting the little baby bum on and she has been falling asleep during that the past few times so I'll put her down for a nap but the thing is when that happens it's around 3:30 4! So I know it's a huge reason why she isn't going to bed until midnight. I do the same routine I've always done for naps and she just starts crying and basically having a temper tantrum. Sometimes just walking into the bedroom she will try to stop me from closing the door and just starts crying.

I've tried everything. I do the same relaxing bedtime routine of milk, PJs, lotion, teeth brushing, brush her hair, and story. I even started giving her a bath every night because she loves baths and I tried warm milk just now but she just stood there and sobbed. My husband is sitting with her watching little baby bum now because it's the only thing that calms her down. I told him I'm not happy about using the TV to get her to go to bed but he said we have to do what we have to do until we address this.

The other day she only took a 30 minute nap, was up before 4 and still didn't go to bed until like 11:30. Yesterday she woke up before 9am, I thought yaay she's up earlier maybe earlier bedtime but no. I just don't know what to do. I want to try waking her up earlier again in hopes she will go to bed earlier but it didn't work out yesterday and I'm afraid of it making her more fussy because she's overtired.

Has anyone else gone through this? I'm just exhausted. I hate being up until this time and not getting to finish chores or take a shower. I feel like a failure. I don't understand where this came from and I don't know how to fix it. I guess I just need to vent, I myself feel like sobbing.

Thanks for listening everyone",1.9495728399291856,3.6295874476614713,3.3806236080178174,91.33077893895266,77.641425389755,6.119604819827537,22.20324367540403,6.900799576094004,0.5108790017703155,1680,48,365,17,39,551,209,449,0.12300000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.085,-0.9402,1,0,0,0,3,0,34.0,3,0,0,2,28,22,5,1,19,0,33,8,4,5,0,69,76,33,0,4,22,1,4,3,0,6,1,3,14,0,20,25,2,2,9,10,0,14,12,11,0,0,13,10,51,11,58,55,4,72,0,3,1,1,38,23,2,4,37,237,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894955745669703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391296466308374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931451037748354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211140362217865,0.09101595647972384,0.0,0.07907677199581863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244826707991972,0.0,0.15117411977904638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159687762011166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927239343334261,0.05728744992638825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090305623983236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420535240948617,0.0,0.07867625665597565,0.0,0.0,0.058670812559368624,0.0,0.07484238590161513,0.08488005481570783,0.07983390786380748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982936954176694,0.12691911799167482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392286860535368,0.08521301016253305,0.3533855515318386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097855317994737,0.0,0.0785513196336943,0.0945602767115578,0.0,0.0877003904142556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822738415463081,0.0874788146375916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271454892969948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645452516350846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301923000616309,0.17806027925278906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801717715583263,0.0,0.05929414411218184,0.0,0.08924081568396246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180515225074095,0.0,0.0,0.0658656855286602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833601352086075,0.08703370196754162,0.0,0.0,0.1864224901870322,0.0,0.0,0.1351171352596359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479747020851629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577284246098526,0.0,0.0,0.1785956511648192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266231123605506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449685864299755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785429584194672,0.0,0.18862117827147334,0.0,0.0709390700081656,0.0742651427947857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678846217853096,0.0,0.0,0.08178194221993712,0.0,0.0,0.11802827382416918,0.0,0.0,0.07052041888371055,0.2071879553706612,0.0,0.0,0.08488005481570783,0.09869244863477468,0.3015457930639607,0.0,0.0,0.09247427275893566,0.0,0.07671986071296848,0.0,0.0,0.052393731253445534,0.0,0.07125338209374484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015448694727716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466867557006879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smcharlie,2020/03/24,"Too young for kitchen or workbench playset? I want to get my daughter cool kitchen and workbench play sets for her first birthday. I saw a couple that I'm really excited about. But I'm worried that she might be on the young side for that kind of toy, and after she's done using the pieces for teethers, she will lose her excitement for them and not find them magical when they're more developmentally appropriate. My time and energy, when not spent on her, is split between the kitchen and the workshop, and I really want to share these interests with her.

Is this a realistic concern? Is she actually the right age for this kind of thing? I know nothing (or at least, not very much).",6.368307692307695,6.938125638461537,6.269038461538463,79.05971153846156,65.69230769230771,9.884615384615383,33.17307692307692,9.827888789773867,3.0079230769230767,543,22,106,11,8,171,82,130,0.037000000000000005,0.812,0.151,0.9081,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,2,4,9,0,0,7,1,7,3,0,1,0,19,16,11,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,7,7,3,0,2,2,1,0,3,1,0,1,3,2,16,8,17,10,4,14,0,1,1,0,12,5,0,3,8,74,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.2153449978439497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441704571710064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22582507647498196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169110760024908,0.1877043256470448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529252508517998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4595939050867037,0.12127609973823343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24687662074887085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23409916110099865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622200326325383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211741677686672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827375256800269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18845352077955674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660532365507992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867619033300662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905906042030784,0.0,0.18207832078628733,0.2603172842924606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22410412480955888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Isaidbeigesweater,2020/03/24,"My 2 year old has started biting his nails A few weeks ago my husband and I noticed that our two year old has started biting his nails. At first it looked like he just had his fingers in his mouth like when he’s teething, so we assumed that he was getting a new molar in. But it’s become clear that he’s biting his nails. He doesn’t do it constantly, but it does seem to use it as a coping mechanism when he’s upset or tired. We don’t want this to become a lifelong habit. Any tips on how to get him to stop?",3.425961038961038,3.537285881818182,4.484025974025972,90.90318181818184,72.0,7.012987012987013,25.714285714285715,6.1826913282559595,0.6663376623376616,397,11,92,2,7,130,68,110,0.09300000000000001,0.8440000000000001,0.063,-0.743,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,4,0,7,4,3,2,1,14,15,9,0,1,4,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,2,12,2,9,13,1,18,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,3,16,53,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694308489389531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997927784627228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221901813790604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065505006601953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726471500984005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258048854939114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19972171647965006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18675913978491535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050640187380902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460068568945992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761001052883835,0.40113091043875776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740033618256635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705745960592276,0.0,0.0,0.15979855388289935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21968312633044074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18671244865495973,0.0,0.0,0.1650804446698055,0.0,0.0,0.11273717617382285,0.0,0.15331805729249262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24617109591674075
parenting,HauntingPresent,2020/03/24,"Potty trouble Please help. My husband and I are at our wits end. We have a delightfully bright 3.5 year old who will. not. use. the. potty. She'll pee on the potty under great protest, but will rarely initiate. She pooped once on the potty when we caught her in the middle of pooping, but will then go right back to going in her pull-ups. We've tried underwear, and she LOVES to wear it, but will simply pee standing up playing instead of using the potty three feet away. I've cleaned more poop out of underwear than I care to admit. We've tried ignoring the problem, bribing with candy, handing out tickets to earn a trip to the ""prize closet,"" buying a toy and leaving it in the bathroom to see. We've even pulled the nuclear option--refusing TV if she has an accident. Each repercussion we put in place, she acts blase, and just says, ""Oh. That's ok. I wanted to just play anyway."" She talks about using the potty, knows she should...just...doesn't. We have her on Miralax to avoid her holding it in (she's been on it for awhile), Please. I'll take any idea into consideration.",1.9985500312044948,4.518850057416267,3.0285541918036216,89.53422716871229,81.91866028708135,5.548658206781777,22.005616808820466,6.895973343053719,0.6797936758893282,838,27,164,10,23,267,132,209,0.076,0.755,0.16899999999999998,0.9643,0,1,0,0,0,0,47.0,5,0,0,2,8,13,1,1,14,1,10,9,8,3,0,32,23,10,0,3,7,1,1,0,0,5,0,1,2,0,6,13,0,3,4,5,1,7,1,5,0,1,2,4,21,8,31,16,2,33,0,0,2,1,24,19,0,1,6,101,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790402986631247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289578130642665,0.13331816104591554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17677199201541313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356280705645833,0.0,0.0,0.11451554829681455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707117159778434,0.0,0.0,0.19115155044034174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621264824645818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572439222916596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952848586775466,0.0,0.0,0.18358389451538612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564818003609306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819326573756188,0.18464354726372129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811447130880161,0.3806373310953488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659008004620018,0.0,0.17429432135331918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806517634987165,0.0,0.1378783659122145,0.0,0.0,0.13816104260767395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035983366578144,0.1393559034760543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23542664792225165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492327546636951,0.0,0.0,0.1022637423971759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165073666403157
parenting,fishsocks,2020/03/24,"Quarantined toddlers breaking point Day nine of being inside broke them. Our kids are 2 & 4. We’re in the suburbs/semi-rural while they have gotten outside on the non-rainy days, it’s been over a week since they last went to preschool. Or the store. Or the park. Or the gym. Or played with friends. Or have even seen the neighbor kids. 

We’ve give them a surface level explanation of what’s going on. They don’t really understand why. 

Tonight’s bedtime rituals were interrupted with an unprecedented amount of screams & cries. After 30 minutes they calmed down. My daughter (2) is asleep now. My son (4) is whimpering in his room, “I just wanna go out...” He’s asleep now as well. 

We’ll take them out for a car ride tomorrow. Through the countryside. Something. Somewhere.",2.0094827586206883,4.854116758620691,2.5368103448275856,89.78797413793106,88.3103448275862,5.658620689655173,24.49137931034483,7.1686216300943375,1.3144413793103449,610,25,115,10,20,188,108,145,0.07,0.858,0.07200000000000001,0.0772,0,1,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,7,0,5,6,0,0,11,0,10,2,2,0,0,12,18,7,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,2,2,4,0,0,1,2,1,5,1,2,1,1,5,2,13,4,19,11,1,28,1,1,1,0,18,12,0,5,10,66,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993638505182552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531278047926606,0.2972298074988039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522036182901097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780375731201841,0.0,0.0,0.22105929518200268,0.2619290203292703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783956822092868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21784053042274745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762593121324502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062256424313745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774041703168934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326239675508506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398964374051273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848452765010143,0.0,0.2071934683583222,0.21362042955334726,0.2079364918155522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,appleXshampoo,2020/03/24,"How much and what should my 10 month old be eating? Hello! My daughter just turned 10 months old. We've done baby led weaning with her since she was 6 months old and around 8.5 months is when she finally got the hang of it and started to actually eat. I have given her a pretty decent assortment of foods so far but it seems kind of random to me. 

Any advice on a guide/idea sheet or something for daily meals and snacks? I'm struggling to find a good resource for what and how much to feed her to ensure she gets a well-rounded, healthy diet and plenty of exposure to new things. I try to proactively give her things that I don't necessarily like as well. 

Thanks!",3.1721462747778566,4.9178564812030094,3.941995898838005,88.33565960355435,74.41353383458647,6.6408749145591255,22.617224880382786,7.348242739294969,0.729457142857143,524,14,108,6,11,167,95,133,0.046,0.807,0.147,0.9322,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,5,0,7,7,0,3,0,18,16,13,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,8,7,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,4,0,13,5,17,10,2,16,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,3,12,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.13474211908492295,0.0,0.0,0.1349261297656905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389631781616044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291678681700648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129954097565658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28257214547499193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125535262470352,0.12619883215646427,0.0,0.16696187477596522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213893659088423,0.13245494397188248,0.0,0.11581147817465427,0.11043187658683827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587083628916326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378475773737895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745688941685432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4408433280427567,0.0,0.2030032847177897,0.0,0.0,0.13335452342702625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346621562668221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047278608461525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569907475856493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421777603069527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629754075871804,0.0,0.0,0.09773080249993517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434686557767848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712169836498002,0.0,0.0,0.18346292856759247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374444359860293,0.15018688330866894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482935559904552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwra-retracted,2020/03/24,"Need advice on situation - I accidentally retracted my nephew’s foreskin and his parents are extremely mad at me I am a single mum to a boy who is circumcised (the hospital told us it was a standard procedure and for health and cleanliness purposes). So my experience with changing diapers and cleaning boys is related to just my own.

I moved in with my sister in law and brother some months ago because I lost my job. 

Now today I offered to change my nephew because his mum was busy and his father is an essential worker (police officer).

To make a long story short, I have never changed an uncircumcised boy’s diaper and well, I accidentally retracted his foreskin while cleaning. I wanted to make sure that no brown matter got stuck ya know under the skin (which is why I got my own son circumcised to avoid). 

My nephew screamed when I did it an his mum ran in saying what’s going on. She saw what I had done and immediately began cursing me out and told me I have to love the fuck out ASAP. Apparently I wasn’t supposed to pull his foreskin back like I do with my own circumcised sons’s skin to clean it.

When my brother came home from his shift he helped convince my sister in law not to kick me out of the house. He said I can stay but no more contact with my nephew.

I think this is a bit harsh? I made an honest mistake and meant no harm and get they’re treating me like I did some kind of permanent damage to him.

Am I the asshole for changing a diaper on a boy who isn’t circumcised and as a result of my natural instinct and lack of training, caused some temporary pain and grief to my nephew?",5.364716088328077,5.888991488958991,6.374465299684545,77.59141403785492,67.86435331230285,9.746940063091484,31.62287066246057,9.766711354998122,2.9210505993690856,1270,50,247,27,20,424,171,317,0.147,0.7829999999999999,0.07,-0.9778,3,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,2,7,19,2,1,17,0,20,6,2,5,2,47,43,20,1,4,3,16,2,2,0,0,2,3,4,4,10,22,0,1,3,0,0,5,7,10,1,0,20,7,49,9,36,23,10,30,0,3,2,2,43,13,1,3,13,169,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362305123056098,0.11214252334895138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972775495792058,0.0,0.15423732529744816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811497373808168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469250067459016,0.0,0.12995950802836667,0.5353186461588482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946254682634606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374999768301664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116955456834768,0.06609568857700078,0.0,0.0718979339173947,0.0,0.2023614782472351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447306479365376,0.0,0.0,0.0847962615358321,0.0,0.12689876039992048,0.0,0.0,0.1459743068098954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255405812000456,0.0,0.0,0.13173957114763193,0.06952599324378868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361173496513647,0.0,0.0,0.11195641207870766,0.0,0.0,0.1380994291100321,0.0,0.11417923839806945,0.11970579776660505,0.1688913712295578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009782119703599,0.1344589596455948,0.0,0.09380476025477226,0.09757147715740276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13461440907810224,0.0,0.14047318293624558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033895196974495,0.10060496987582954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220132517626255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484167482636072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119233158738036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081061806920398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991566266304238,0.24176938654756175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217465260824956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461823800412512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374671105489385,0.0,0.11415462195655594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gimme_dat_brown_eye,2020/03/25,"Teenage Ghetto Single Mothers Are Terrible Parents! It is what it is! You cant raise no baby in those notorious housing projects off food stamps boo boo i'm sorry but no! Yall kids be **bad as hell!** As a matter of fact the **WORSE!** Nobody likes watching a ghetto single mothers child **NOBODY!** Not even the child's *own family* thats why she's on the hunt for a baby sitter so she can go out and fuck a random dick and post pics on facebook/instagram! Ghetto single mothers are all the same its all a routine. Once you fuck about 5 or 10 of them you will catch on to it. These hoes aint shit and *half of them dont even really know who they baby daddy is!* And these ghetto hood trap house ass bitches be letting they babies *""play""* with you and **they dont even know you** like wtf? lil man im fucking yo mama thats it! **Lol** dont start that step daddy shit",-1.9310890732059107,-1.6660062485875675,0.4787234042553194,98.33797692030295,131.25988700564972,2.636326481548263,12.805505469407382,4.9923923846348695,-1.131207621108306,662,16,141,5,47,219,114,177,0.192,0.7090000000000001,0.098,-0.9715,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,6,5,0,5,12,7,0,9,1,15,8,4,0,3,18,23,10,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,13,7,1,0,2,1,0,3,8,9,0,1,0,1,13,3,15,19,7,11,1,0,1,5,22,6,9,2,3,87,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119808374541162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5045085525322183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843218927756092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352698479885705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350899345712603,0.0,0.0,0.3979633030286271,0.0,0.0,0.08154882219568364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33113699219382764,0.0,0.0,0.15499410518903775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771698996330424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467285138780591,0.0,0.14020418733525075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528124452025007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932895417677856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742400589386394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192353562692136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945813822998265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062559973475335,0.10156314544427944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947764228449465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462288349170638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pick-em-up,2020/03/25,"International Pick Your Child Up Day-March 26th Reddit, there is that saying that one day, without even knowing it, we put our child down for the last time, and won't even remember that time if we try to recall it.  Therefore, March 26th has been named as  International Pick Your Child Up Day.  Post a pic March 26th.",3.1164999999999985,5.641849650000001,3.256666666666668,89.525,77.5,6.0,20.0,7.1686216300943375,0.28200000000000003,249,6,51,3,6,76,42,60,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,11,5,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,7,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,7,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.526424307888373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35942417794823417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953289099364814,0.22178869054634573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437441536836585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605858620307022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27352439954743113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30822357449719906,0.0,0.0,0.21637593786127832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31731433949598553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18473043760232646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26228389763595866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lookup2,2020/03/25,"Honestly, What's It Really Like? Whenever parents talk about having kids they always say how happy they are and how great it is and all the joyous moments.  

But is that really true?  

Or are those new parents just being nice and trying to stay positive?   

Would you rather still be childless for longer?  Do you wish you had kids later on in life?  Is the trouble, hardship, cost, etc. not worth the joys until later in life?  

Or was having kids really a great decision without any regrets?",2.5999090909090903,5.474342122222222,3.5964646464646464,83.85045454545455,83.33333333333333,6.383838383838384,21.51515151515152,7.686295010490155,1.3656666666666673,381,12,65,7,11,122,67,90,0.078,0.612,0.31,0.983,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,2,0,6,10,0,0,4,0,13,2,0,2,2,18,14,9,0,4,7,2,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,5,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,1,5,8,8,9,2,10,0,1,0,0,12,3,0,2,7,49,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617724591491762,0.0,0.0,0.13221181294222234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682894803460728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4286960006216904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696299453261655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746482482472051,0.09498346530166436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777140271733567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317593212651661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736500081448317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461005653016632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20722514000309505,0.15526352998134127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626689489461404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319979646667045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22357263735178606,0.187413298545452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810991556047186,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,glueisyumm,2020/03/25,Help me convince my SO to have a baby So I know parenting/having kids has its positives and negatives. I’m currently trying to talk to my husband about having a baby and I’d like to know what stories y’all have about y’all’s children that makes the negatives worth it? Thank you!,2.8621052631578934,4.8137587192982485,4.589333333333332,82.46400000000001,75.84210526315789,8.068771929824562,27.18947368421053,8.841846274778883,2.309501052631579,225,9,43,5,5,76,40,57,0.0,0.733,0.267,0.9229999999999999,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,9,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,6,9,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233779606321424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5302869135710622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23570208190331196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32204100869176683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3877773077898133,0.0,0.4441777440188979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275538008655586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jelly_lila,2020/03/25,"Did I failed it already? I heard it from everywhere. The terrible twos. They start testing boundaries and are pros in fake crying and real tantrums.

I just realised today how I never questioned her crying if she wants something. I noticed how, when I explained it to her, she instantly stopped crying and was not even phased. Did I reinforce her believe that she just need to cry and stomp to get what she wants? She is not even 2 yet, and not very verbal. I always thought she was frustrated and thus crying. But seems like she already has at least a few fake crys.",3.596355140186916,5.997519336448603,3.581130841121496,88.4455280373832,75.26168224299063,6.149158878504673,27.522429906542047,7.1686216300943375,1.4635727102803735,447,18,83,5,10,136,70,107,0.295,0.674,0.031,-0.9855,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,8,7,2,0,2,0,7,0,0,3,1,26,16,11,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,6,1,19,1,6,10,2,8,0,1,0,0,14,2,0,3,7,61,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310672789647665,0.0,0.11712678902624035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859264137411164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7731123278098481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594637398089606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354329519918935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877010067029023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437460177858617,0.10856574917512488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602605617927553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768771314302069,0.0,0.0,0.16022006402353112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814611079812152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836687908640603,0.0,0.0,0.09963336857968934,0.0,0.0,0.11768487100711525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175076337805026,0.0,0.0,0.13342765871877565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614490779055628,0.16605231666170375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,floppydo,2020/03/25,"Make sure your daycare is still paying their staff Right now, a lot of parents are in the position of having to pay for daycare that their children cannot attend. Please don't just send the check blindly. Request that the director verify in writing that the daycare is continuing to pay their staff their full salary. If they're collecting your money as normal, they should be distributing it as normal. This isn't just about holding your spot. It's also about making sure that the people who are actually looking over your children every day are taken care of. If you can, verify with the teachers themselves. When this blows over, if the teachers at your daycare have changed, you should be very suspicious.",7.69140625,8.717447828125,6.6906250000000025,75.591875,62.90625,9.2125,33.96875,9.188382445141503,3.1154343750000004,574,23,93,9,8,174,80,128,0.057999999999999996,0.882,0.06,0.306,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,7,5,0,8,3,0,0,8,0,15,1,0,2,2,17,20,7,0,7,5,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,9,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,12,3,16,15,2,14,0,0,2,0,19,7,0,4,5,71,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.21581546833948764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768576476244745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22548235608605266,0.0,0.2339527638167992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426267390012121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633270382839406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571457842269745,0.0,0.0,0.18801815111927725,0.0,0.0,0.29524548317145144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333700700863593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24556655835467045,0.0,0.0,0.15332109516271591,0.0,0.0,0.2427618800103885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886524068108554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17661474260146448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168721149622461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824761126025111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PhatPuggy,2020/03/25,"Haven’t been able to tell my family I’m pregnant Due to the lockdown and travel restrictions, I’ve not been able to see my family face to face to tell them the news (I just really want to be able to give them a hug in person when they find out)

I’m desperate to share my first time pregnancy news with someone - so hey, lovely readers, You’re officially the first to know :-)",1.5402631578947386,3.830484868421056,3.3307894736842094,88.10302631578949,81.89473684210526,7.484210526315789,20.026315789473685,8.472884824447931,1.1932684210526316,294,8,62,7,8,98,51,76,0.028999999999999998,0.807,0.165,0.8742,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,4,4,2,0,0,11,11,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,7,3,12,8,0,8,0,0,1,2,10,2,0,0,5,34,7,0,0.6049745545496966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802107791152731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843119276067565,0.34306069803238504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934489062009286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108260645763614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200438508823025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608014869214025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918739696778336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606954645521624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086432561777487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525162840062071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758850927814055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894322220787933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ihasmesomedoggos,2020/03/25,"People's favourite specific things? I'm sure every parent has favourite small things their kid does, I'd love to hear about them.

My favourite is my little boy (19m) stops every 10 minutes or so to come over and give me a 'leg hug', before continuing on his merry way.

Heart squeeze",4.5419090909090905,5.887516963636365,4.361590909090912,88.28238636363638,70.27272727272727,6.954545454545455,26.47727272727273,7.1686216300943375,1.1029090909090908,223,7,45,2,4,68,48,55,0.023,0.802,0.174,0.8646,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,5,7,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,5,7,0,8,0,0,0,2,9,4,0,1,2,19,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21153413750667927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414065940568214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21754520822230802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189002608060056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384728369568157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28018211890835865,0.2945836293209093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491552631560809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243646805916273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27603285206107026,0.0,0.0,0.17234292593605638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783468692744875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234295743705386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303079805100129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19732136974708805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Untouchables_1988,2020/03/25,"How should I handle my daughter piercing herself? Honestly.... I'm at a loss right now. I'm mind blown! My ex texted me earlier today asking if I knew our daughter had pierced her cartilage. Herself! I thought he was kidding. He was totally calm and casual and told me he had been planning to take her to get it done, but that everything has been closed. He wasn't upset at all and said that his girlfriend was going to the store to get her some supplies to clean it so it didn't get infected. I, on the other hand am flipping out, cussing, thinking of the worst punishments and continuously wondering...how dare she!? She's 12!! 
She's texted and called me a few times today. Which is rare. She keeps asking if I'm mad, if she's in trouble, what she's grounded from etc. I don't even have a clue what to tell her!  Hell yes I'm mad!! But what do I do? If we let this slide, she's gonna pierce something else or probably even get a tattoo, hell why not snort some coke too? She knows I'm mad and will get grounded at my house, but her dad is letting it fly. How do I deal with that? He would normally be the one to freak out. I feel like since our divorce...he lets the kids get away with EVERYTHING! He has so much leniency towards them, that he never had before! I'm getting off work soon and will have to deal with her face to face and the thing is...I don't know what to do! I've thought about making her take it out, I thought about tattooing stupid on her forehead, I've thought about lighting her ass up with a belt! I don't know how to correct this. It's not even going to make sense to her. Her dad isn't mad....she won't be in trouble there...just with me! I've stopped to googling ""what to do when your teen pierces themselves"" Ha. Not much luck there. I'm out of my element with this. Do I bring the wrath? Do I lecture? I know she was just bored with school being out. I know she really wanted it pierced and got inpatient. I know she's a kid...and they all f*** up. I get all that! I just don't want it happening again. I also don't want my younger too thinking it's ok or cool. 😒 Advice?",0.19041359596230129,2.3794425466970424,1.798038322390461,97.50305060520792,87.0865603644647,5.174344544195812,20.908526508553308,6.615977163443126,0.1889238554647368,1614,54,377,19,51,522,202,439,0.154,0.7709999999999999,0.075,-0.9916,0,0,2,0,1,0,82.0,3,1,2,3,21,22,7,1,13,4,43,7,5,5,6,74,90,25,0,10,14,5,2,1,1,6,1,1,1,2,25,23,1,2,14,1,1,4,13,14,0,1,20,6,58,8,45,58,11,35,2,1,0,1,54,21,3,9,11,236,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585112089465953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844148034893593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339934584204928,0.0,0.09215754185202164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346624039570448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001595071979098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20225023989348195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037877324382798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194050399513708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939480452821376,0.19435994014513866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17631155796318168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049596582825990575,0.07007457115402517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4099782863048245,0.0,0.11149211231066564,0.0,0.07845047635866269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673949400239211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318116476072282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718572389868849,0.0,0.0,0.32344183309160474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009069568634832,0.0,0.0479211734146749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094990845677495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990416028294652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421292909896924,0.0,0.07565203543991413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610607823043282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664674267599431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057561850389754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283811882357666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376719505474338,0.0933047948483022,0.0,0.0,0.09927097882894644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113996805251276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551345649476793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200652691863823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475009571215073,0.0,0.08573382799543462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651657591318987,0.12570252841560373,0.0,0.3114858148448453,0.057196296943344375,0.0,0.18595319505003488,0.09372793531595494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735657310028866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850977516672917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140972580614066,0.0,0.0,0.06967938254136857,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raisingsummit,2020/03/25,"First Time Dad! Hello Everyone! First time dad here, joining into the group. My little one (A baby boy) is due in early May, so we are in the final stretches here! It's kind of crazy time to be having a baby with everything going on in the world, we aren't even positive I will be able to join my wife in the hospital for the birth! We are thankful nonetheless though. I am looking forward to reading the stories and advice on this page. 

I also started a YouTube channel documenting the journey as a first time dad as I work through the experiences and lesson that parenting will offer me! I will link it below for anyone interested.

[https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE7TK0SU38-ca3k7iXL63Wg?sub\_confirmation=1](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE7TK0SU38-ca3k7iXL63Wg?sub_confirmation=1)",9.166031042128603,12.76897342276423,7.286356245380634,62.73911308203992,62.73983739837399,7.724759793052478,29.067997043606802,8.575989854853784,2.5480959349593504,653,22,88,10,11,193,82,123,0.045,0.873,0.08199999999999999,0.6716,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,0,0,5,6,3,0,0,12,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,16,7,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,2,2,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,1,11,3,18,10,1,26,0,0,1,0,12,12,0,1,13,69,15,2,0.18897268705779294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18466192270518486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112138956616564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213409662463518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481467755781407,0.0,0.0,0.1805715007303141,0.16983646609834166,0.18485154895819925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20701034175984276,0.0,0.4822202132238502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739753293222593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967859736701292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940027733809145,0.0,0.0,0.1586894631411395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805278340194154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20983180556792147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902382575068635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337558405365883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398066096160236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18566470556754328,0.0,0.4407659740059706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757436683191362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProfessorGerbik,2020/03/25,"11 year old starting to show interest in sex. Any help in how to approach it? Long story short, I just discovered my 11 year old has been browsing a lot of porn websites lately. Using the family tablet. 

It first started with one site, which he didn't notice I saw and I honestly didn't pay much attention since it was only one at the time.  

He's now been actively looking at others. This is my first time having to approach this.

I could use some tips, I know it's completely natural for the most part. I just want to make sure he's getting all the right information and making the best choices moving forward, now that he's showing this new interest.",2.890520833333333,5.128537843750003,4.1496875000000015,84.30989583333336,76.8125,7.3916666666666675,26.291666666666664,8.344100000000001,1.9431541666666663,516,20,98,10,12,169,88,128,0.0,0.8009999999999999,0.19899999999999998,0.9724,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,6,0,9,2,0,5,2,20,20,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,3,2,1,4,2,0,0,4,6,2,8,5,11,13,7,26,0,0,2,2,6,8,0,3,16,62,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346361168457547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509861165760274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493888118511552,0.0,0.0,0.1332160193236316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729117845446844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838447747351557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717215412761968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183592968300878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169630772304772,0.0,0.18821388526194568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765685658801656,0.1401118421094581,0.0,0.0,0.14184976606078212,0.0,0.0,0.22274712557834006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733497307332313,0.12265382926415633,0.0,0.0,0.16114461370179053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995964697174694,0.3501616766215072,0.0,0.2261235373105017,0.12689682069835428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068211566529715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424888504016275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801991056130808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361943488814016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725399817154997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458296516580745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288209378927074,0.0,0.0,0.0984123576600488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21489165117610715
parenting,anon184624,2020/03/25,"My boyfriends son will make himself throw up if he doesn't like the food i make I just need some advice because i haven't had kids before, and i didnt do this as a kid. What do i do if he throws up (he works himself up into doing it ive seen him, he spits it out and he makes himself nauseated) because he doesn't like what i serve him? I fed him enchiladas one day and the same enchilada the next day but with a different side (black beans and corn) and he threw up. He never got sick after eating before or after. He complains about everything i offer him, ""i dont like tomato, i dont like meat in my spaghetti, i only eat Motts apple sauce, etc."" I tried to feed him an apple one time and he threw up. Hes got his mother convinced hes allergic to fish even though i have fed him fish recently and he didnt mind it at all, its just become this whole thing now.  Hes 11 years old.",3.4408730158730165,3.537878656084658,4.8498544973545,88.34398809523809,71.96296296296295,7.7814814814814826,24.21560846560846,7.492282038375204,0.8394052910052916,682,16,158,7,12,229,107,189,0.08199999999999999,0.878,0.04,-0.6744,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,6,0,18,9,1,3,2,25,29,13,0,3,6,2,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,2,9,10,6,0,0,0,0,4,8,1,0,2,10,2,29,5,16,18,5,25,0,0,2,0,30,10,0,4,15,98,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448396522809202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18070805033890755,0.16369823070287895,0.25224997106493097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911803105906766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548591909107042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474273521292053,0.0,0.0,0.3033337676397108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530537464052258,0.09789844182382368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332112995139599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792291821363026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23709143119043785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28965278776043657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29681560888487796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966075702891446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990384659133476,0.11431702003259014,0.0,0.1576345044658034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553279828671174,0.0,0.2008765028527502,0.11272859901362448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635016049392827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847131473464377,0.0,0.1456261854165528,0.0,0.0864287416120538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063219509570948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548323217398928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790650916439662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954493368844552
parenting,xhelldevl,2020/03/25,"Something for your Kids to do in these weird Times Boys and Girls Club North lake Tahoe is putting together videos to help you and your kids have something to do while at home.    


Some great resources:  
 [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPz5fkPzTbrENaKGYgYtqgA](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPz5fkPzTbrENaKGYgYtqgA)",22.031578947368427,25.038791105263165,10.141052631578948,56.19736842105266,32.68421052631579,9.705263157894738,34.78947368421053,8.841846274778883,2.528378947368421,274,6,33,2,2,59,31,38,0.039,0.805,0.156,0.7269,0,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,2,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360677531900208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651120971624624,0.0,0.3967438645007197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976119101897747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.60898899916287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306338316917264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ReaMya,2020/03/25,Talking to my daughter I need advice on how to talk to my daughter. She talks to me about what she doesn’t like about our parenting such as her assigned home schedule  and cries about it and I get mad at her because it feels like she just wants to get off the schedule and She cries more because she said she is just telling me her opinion and  she just wont tell me what her opinions are and I feel bad because I want for her to keep on communicating with me. I dont know how to handle her in this situation.,4.0038814016172495,4.544376584905663,4.564770889487871,89.30650943396229,70.88679245283019,7.18921832884097,29.293800539083556,6.868970318607317,1.2634894878706202,402,15,90,3,7,128,61,106,0.111,0.8320000000000001,0.057999999999999996,-0.7783,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,9,4,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,20,15,8,0,3,3,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,25,2,18,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,2,4,66,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526242312580612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497529019327657,0.3279971708228393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940233774906281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020127649936515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137330484420366,0.1281303653553878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874098790292615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990644963026953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594178668943768,0.0,0.0,0.0985681385861352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524637987109515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13298854395953005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19915113063893364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17060650185136014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016011461779172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4324732868558256,0.31352619141187604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115749946600268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Endente,2020/03/25,"My adult child has become a recluse My son was always very successful academically: did twice as many exams as necessary at his school, never got anything less than top marks, won national and international olympiads, graduated from a world's top university coming almost at the top (2nd) of his class, published two papers in reputable science journals, speaks five languages etc etc. I never had any notion of him being lazy; in fact I didn't get much involved in his education since his early teens as he was very self-driven and I didn't see the need to interfere.

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However, although I was probably too late to notice, he struggled socially. Part of it was the fact that as a child, he had a stammer and couldn't speak fluently until approx. 8 yo. I also made a mistake of not socialising him enough, and he barely had any contact with kids his age before attending school at 6 yo. He later let me know that he was bullied for being rather feminine and preferring the company of girls, where he couldn't fit in. My son probably also struggled with repressed homosexuality, which in a conservative family like ours is a big taboo. He came out to me a year ago and wants nobody else in the family to know. My husband has a very negative attitude towards LGBT, so I think his wish is well justified.

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It was all getting better until we decided to enrol him in a boarding school abroad, when he was 15. He was always supportive of the decision, and we arranged the best conditions and support for him through our friends (a close friend of mine lives next to the school and he was allowed to spend his weekends with her). He continued to excel academically, but the cultural differences and language barrier probably made it more difficult for him to connect with his peers. He didn't not grow up speaking English, and although his English was excellent, he had hardly ever practiced it outside of classroom and had a very noticeable accent at the time he moved.

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Later on, he attended university in the same country he'd moved to and graduated with flying colours almost two years ago. He got into a top graduate school for a year-long Masters program and received offers of a PhD position from multiple laboratories. However, just one month into the program, he decided to intermit for mental health reasons (specifically, depression). He had been diagnosed with OCD prior to this, although he had learned to manage symptoms largely on his own, and had been suffering from insomnia since mid-teens. However, that was the first time that mental health affected his ability to work and study. He spent his year ""off"" with us and we arranged him to have regular appointments with a professional. He was also taking medication.

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He re-entered graduate school last September. Initially, he seemed fine but after a few months, his condition deteriorated and he stopped going outside except for shopping and laundry. He has fallen behind with his studies and there is probably no way he can catch up. With the current situation and the university being closed, he moved back in with us, but I doubt he will go back. He hardly ever leaves his room or even bed, has no social life and no concrete plans for the future. He considers himself exceedingly ugly and is afraid of meeting people. He is in touch with a psychologist (he has tried several) but none of them seem to help.

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When I ask him how he will support himself financially, he says that he doesn't need much and will do remote work as a programmer (he has no formal qualifications but has completed many courses online, and his research work was primarily CS-based). He has also found and enrolled in a remote CS degree program, but it is not very widely known or prestigious. He spends his time reading books, watching movies and doing some language studies – all very lazily. When I try to get him involved in my business, he refuses to help saying that he will fail everything and will do more damage than good.

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We are quite well off financially (10s millions dollars), but I have no intention of supporting him for the rest of my life. It also pains me to watch how he is destroying his life. He is in free fall and I do not know what to do. Does he need some tough love or something else? Please help.",9.198825224071703,8.732862145966713,8.991971510883484,65.37077416773371,60.06274007682458,12.163393085787453,40.26763764404609,11.45678717892309,4.8495415877080665,3460,162,558,85,40,1123,375,781,0.09,0.8140000000000001,0.096,0.442,5,0,1,0,0,0,117.0,8,0,1,18,23,34,1,5,37,0,65,11,0,8,8,119,98,60,0,10,17,3,3,1,2,5,10,5,2,5,15,52,0,7,14,4,6,14,19,15,2,7,35,12,61,20,96,51,19,91,0,4,4,1,114,40,0,10,37,376,76,34,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353097424188344,0.0,0.09435972703796687,0.0,0.0,0.18839322256335145,0.07840856514177484,0.3063009680987031,0.34350654920821433,0.06408098512017446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03877244968544871,0.0,0.044047095523309994,0.0,0.0,0.07245858435813557,0.0,0.0,0.05203591522264183,0.04009224184308106,0.0,0.04944533036453392,0.041670269105842185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388814691298771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040586258116652084,0.04940022477570801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040580937813171535,0.047821743564642055,0.0,0.049226187082635285,0.0,0.0,0.04123152509876474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871873675733583,0.0,0.0,0.04868341816553565,0.10509357888240144,0.031119670611587314,0.08523823059317444,0.0,0.0,0.04234481862414202,0.0,0.08883353452643279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040076841632733465,0.0,0.05166025706914376,0.07280340236624379,0.0,0.0738484888936195,0.0,0.05355421196837812,0.03951866155276513,0.07536593132660821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441335473850578,0.0,0.0,0.10016419977062027,0.0,0.0,0.09474257569696247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776811566748455,0.038405824753234064,0.053148895059016335,0.04988903613423231,0.0,0.048179297520538594,0.09983826284627656,0.02301849544003481,0.0,0.04160428715852274,0.04169617329039558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042524025395386265,0.08916458816190795,0.0,0.09553644841047508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047464408528806366,0.09496368316048648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521507605853646,0.15023054002179692,0.06927135573525285,0.10480774079194156,0.07267752054960104,0.0,0.050108395645606936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728374613061002,0.0,0.0,0.03192701786630442,0.0,0.050134741048674936,0.0,0.0,0.051022031616694635,0.0,0.03266429876527331,0.0,0.0,0.05171921430031022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203196047977378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050113660748804814,0.04712874567479237,0.0,0.0,0.04844309044693455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749370613068335,0.0,0.2861034165914817,0.03754534821909325,0.08578526534974483,0.049152258837021685,0.05322766378664018,0.0,0.07794967658489695,0.052960352931862,0.0,0.09605764774143633,0.0,0.03627219515150252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03939108188347712,0.0,0.0985117367790438,0.0,0.0,0.2138666929989579,0.0,0.04897155963100848,0.035425364895827635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03019002740289065,0.0,0.0,0.08242114747386856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397733622635418,0.0,0.09205096260159716,0.0,0.11334948249500144,0.0,0.0,0.2332537836329069,0.027790234830468462,0.037398484093180834,0.0,0.0,0.08472587656744697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0541810694846113,0.0,0.0,0.10290301743776296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34350654920821433,0.1213646251605953
parenting,ColdStoneSteveAwsum,2020/03/25,"Tantrums So I’m a stay at home father and I’ve been watching my daughter since she was born and she’s never done anything out of the ordinary. But now that she’s one and can express herself a little bit more. When she gets mad she does the “toddler plank” tantrum, and then purposely hits her head on the floor. Actually she just enjoys it until she ends up hurting herself. I guess what I’m saying is that I understand the tantrums but not the head hitting afterwards.",3.5183695652173914,5.593173010869566,4.029782608695655,86.65380434782612,74.32608695652173,6.773913043478261,29.97826086956522,7.645422480735847,1.9369304347826093,375,17,72,5,8,118,67,92,0.106,0.87,0.024,-0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,4,0,7,0,5,2,2,0,1,12,12,10,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,3,2,13,1,6,7,2,15,0,1,1,0,14,6,0,1,8,50,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.2246718788331233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946018745445514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513522132909709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147637143434816,0.2356058637407233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20391599768012544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028599914390888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536249898677297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4725660855739468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309400887327979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464666458056013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307515700054372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756805126785835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601022991544236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830886337806897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19044915213767485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453952130906579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396782001441368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeaTie,2020/03/25,"My 3.5 year old daughter is super dramatic. I don't really know where this kid got this dramatic streak but she's driving us nuts a bit.

Tantrums are one thing, but she puts words in our mouth and we're not even sure where she's picked this stuff up.

We'll ask her to pick up her toys and she breaks down in tears suddenly screaming: ""You mean I'll be ALONE forever?! No more hugs and kisses for me, EVER?!""

Okay, what is up with you kid? We've never said that once in your entire life. 

I'm not really sure how to deal with the specific dramatic stuff she says, we try not to respond to it anymore because I feel like maybe she's just saying it so we'll reassure and comfort her and then get out trouble. 

Anyone else dealt with anything like this?",2.1046778711484606,4.050507222222226,3.09436507936508,92.34250000000002,78.08496732026144,6.7243697478991615,22.039682539682538,7.7094869923839395,0.7959172735760967,587,17,128,9,14,187,105,153,0.15,0.687,0.163,0.6609,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,3,0,1,7,13,1,0,2,1,7,4,1,3,4,27,15,10,0,0,6,1,1,2,0,2,1,4,0,2,11,10,0,0,3,1,0,2,6,3,0,1,2,5,21,10,16,10,2,19,0,0,0,2,27,10,0,0,8,77,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719256358362786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646271060719936,0.1160708563567642,0.17008631901146154,0.13660361657812065,0.0,0.15518731978661304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119188197353683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812286888965305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711384111604216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867145641752954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964124234476998,0.15015624063234478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393444070371979,0.11859022541939908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672799667064983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132765131807712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122909890780873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725050380121528,0.16219814588995804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676901976684624,0.1808223477989832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280292092910003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741887706466414,0.17678427265149627,0.11248569905884148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687555717137542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21268732875551505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579037369982585,0.2640192629895043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38005990389860855,0.0,0.0,0.31290552278660244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028283067322378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127029060383866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199677211160154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689837020929407
parenting,Mattman_Fish,2020/03/25,"Realizations About Our Son's Coping Mechanisms My son (6) has always been temperamental. He can be the sweetest kid in the world one minute, then the next minute he'll fly off the handle. One of his biggest hang-ups is how he copes with difficult situations. The one recently happened at Taekwondo. The kids were all playing before class together when he and a girl ran into each other accidentally. She took the brunt of the hit and began to cry. Instead of saying ""I'm sorry! It was an accident."" and checking on her, he instead got embarrassed, which quickly turned to anger, and he storms out of the building to go outside. As I went out to try and calm him down, he would say things like (and these are his norm for when he gets upset)

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""I told you this is why I don't like this class!"" (he loves Taekwondo)

""I don't even want to be here!"" 

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So now that I'm talking to him and trying to calm him down, he's basically refusing to speak at this point. I'm asking him why he's mad, what was he mad about. Telling him that it was an accident and that everyone else knew that it was, even the girl that got hurt. He's still refusing to speak about it, other than to say he wants to go sit in the car (his little sister is still in class). I sit quietly for a while with him and ask him once more, why he is so angry about it and that's when he finally blurts out...

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""I'm mad at myself!!!""

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Here I am thinking he's unreasonably mad at us, mad at his class, mad at the girl for ""accidentally"" bumping into him. But no....it never once dawned on me that he's actually being harsh on himself. I think it might have to do with his competitive nature. He feels like he messed up and he needs to punish himself for it. It was a big realization for me and I feel like it's beginning to help us (mom and I) learn to help him cope. It's a daily struggle at times with him, but I feel like we'll get there. Obviously a lot comes as he matures. I'm sure a lot of you have dealt with similar things. Has this ever been a realization for you as well? Any tips for parents dealing with coping mechanisms like this?",3.0872735978112185,4.572370397674423,4.462818057455539,85.59218878248974,74.09302325581395,7.756497948016416,24.97264021887825,8.405096225971981,1.4587742818057463,1661,53,353,29,34,551,201,430,0.10099999999999999,0.8270000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.8342,1,0,0,0,0,0,85.0,4,3,0,0,23,26,8,3,21,0,28,1,0,1,5,50,62,26,0,4,2,5,3,6,0,4,0,6,0,5,29,26,0,2,7,1,1,7,3,14,1,3,16,9,40,12,63,38,5,53,0,1,0,1,74,27,0,3,23,225,69,5,0.0,0.0,0.07576294257268218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460056988473037,0.3364805372923649,0.3773519520962804,0.052796121827418184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516105312872066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606374358047189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687778048440741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528108279351475,0.0,0.08004079208591951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485611930195384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025575944413019,0.07022750974116966,0.0,0.07418590145769846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776746795171936,0.1663926089740098,0.0,0.08504802115731665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112471656683458,0.0,0.08824629316017511,0.0,0.1241875069334329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865453221454572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407747965296572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311248576917321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275783907984913,0.0778131114480214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200915110926106,0.07007082120091243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236105540589571,0.0,0.090928031960526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756717837520396,0.05987878029427175,0.0,0.08256829872763766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653626805976952,0.15782741682523393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620718988098586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339247589170476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665760622301962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18522122642425048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726773598033714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690875834606626,0.0,0.0,0.124002720510794,0.0,0.0,0.08116350968486465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317236885067706,0.0,0.0,0.06240203380354398,0.06785854498789863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315773134399156,0.09949387399378784,0.0,0.0,0.045271015887425714,0.0,0.0,0.07418590145769846,0.0862580530247659,0.10542145166045144,0.08444724108957569,0.0,0.0,0.18677656330214065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158514782320676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698053828729521,0.07197068514084239,0.2101671429044362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05515141018973567,0.0,0.3773519520962804,0.0
parenting,Martha_MacCoelho,2020/03/25,"Regarding nursery fees during lockdown Hi!

My son's nursery is now asking me to pay 50% of fees even thought the kid can't attend. 

I don't agree and they say it's to keep the employees; I mentioned the UK gov funding to pay 80% of salaries, and the managers replied she's keeping the staff to look after the key workers kids. 

I'm not a key worker and feel that she's just taking advantage of the situation.

Where can I ask for help?
Will the citizens advice bureau be able to help?

Thanks!

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parenting,BeeRuiz,2020/03/25,"Kids won't go to sleep I'm so beyond frustrated, and exhausted.  I have 2 boys, 5 and 2.  They share a bedroom so bedtime us a challenge with that alone. They were born cosleepers,  not by choice. I had every intention of putting my first in his crib but he was a horrible sleeper!  Up every 2 hours and it took him an hour to fall asleep each time. After 4 months, with pressure from all around I started cosleeping. My younger son was born in the midst of my divorce from their father so it was just our default. My younger son has always been a great sleeper and started sleeping in his own bed   for almost a year now.  My older son fought hard not to.  But he has been since the beginning of the year.  But now my youngest just refuses to go to sleep and keeps us all up.  He sits up in bed,  he walks around the room. I leave the room they follow me out crying. I take toys away they don't care. They have a routine. Bath time at 7:30, 2 books separately at 8pm.  I put my younger one to bed at 8 with a dim nightlight and kids meditation bedtime stories, at 9 the older one comes in and goes to bed.  For a while this split routine was working. The younger one was asleep by the time the older one came in but not any more.  Now we spend hours struggling. I need help.",1.4039803220035765,3.5290597558139574,2.3668217054263567,95.76772808586763,81.28682170542636,5.209540846750151,23.10137149672033,6.297961479604792,0.3303400119260589,979,34,218,8,26,308,139,258,0.11800000000000001,0.836,0.047,-0.9476,0,1,0,0,1,0,30.0,4,0,6,3,11,9,2,2,18,0,15,6,5,1,2,33,30,15,0,1,9,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,8,3,4,17,0,2,0,3,1,10,5,5,0,5,12,1,28,4,38,17,5,54,0,0,0,0,29,20,0,1,23,136,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165828609855313,0.1258307243027319,0.0,0.0,0.10109240403755004,0.0,0.0,0.08261981107777573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21631011612173093,0.0,0.0,0.11414723222067727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895630689612426,0.12387081765326845,0.0,0.0,0.10465597467526906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345500966794965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472718823249145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334239019830352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809522019515766,0.0,0.0,0.13394711785943206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883439772121943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143459603422518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589401553995412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798908990184976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128644175258315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697502874687228,0.0,0.0,0.0900859615633733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293088181393001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24426924030447875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050075761070587,0.0,0.3647440099216229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719875843232344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701148501953632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134806369052208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125316775431611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498385483954067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29228367235422953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844878444671338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647578425158504
parenting,j1cjoli,2020/03/25,"My 3.5 year old son tells stories of monsters, dinosaurs, bad guys, and uh, destruction. Is this normal? Forgive me if this is completely normal, neither my husband nor I have much experience with young kids. In the last couple months my son has started telling stories and singing songs he’s made up (yay! Huge progress from him being delayed in speech!) but his stories seem to focus on super heros bamming bad guys, dinosaurs fighting each other, monsters “deading” people. He doesn’t seem anxious about any of this and tells me his stories are good stories. He is the most gentle, loving, patient kid ever. Many friends and his daycare provider have said the same thing. He’s incredibly attentive to his younger sister and doesn’t hurt others. I know he has had a bit of exposure to these themes from TV and movies. We limit his screen time and pick kid friendly options and daycare seems to do so as well but even benign Disney movies still have villains...

Anything to worry about or do?",5.241666666666667,7.539602055555558,4.561111111111114,83.73500000000001,70.1111111111111,6.133333333333334,32.55555555555556,6.742157984588678,2.0444555555555564,790,37,132,6,15,236,123,180,0.113,0.693,0.19399999999999998,0.9624,0,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,1,0,0,4,7,16,3,0,4,1,15,1,0,2,1,31,23,15,1,3,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,7,11,0,2,6,3,0,0,4,6,2,0,3,4,14,10,18,19,6,15,0,1,1,1,30,5,0,7,10,81,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733922772272403,0.0,0.0,0.1617059936503752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177909578706388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390296792580449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562703930796326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500782086910372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838025435757735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454176456983948,0.129477153368214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400171194920667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117721656828407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005795444523562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834596440423293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323294399032628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866528877645533,0.11667714890847185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291882696211938,0.1354413034633952,0.0,0.14512018019398062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425194857591095,0.0,0.10522341780374374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28049107902607306,0.0,0.0,0.1501999922018403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923435508843426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13615768673109452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3909243029023389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131431201265352,0.0,0.11431075458054853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753286113571795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509499519184116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346532987990649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869888591350162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453643028774033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217663292656686
parenting,fade_starz,2020/03/25,"Boyfriend(23M) home with son (4M) How do I explain/get it through my boyfriends head that our son is ONLY 4! He is not his biological father but the only father my son knows. He seems to always forget that he is just 4 years old, especially when it comes to punishments/misbehaving. They’re home while I have to work and the fact that my boyfriend texted me today saying that our son tried to change his iPad password so he took the iPad until he tells him the reason he was changing it worries me. He’s 4, there doesn’t have to be a reason that he changed it, there honestly probably isn’t. How do I get that through his head? Not everything is worth an argument or a big reaction especially with a child so young.",4.362377622377622,5.40285240559441,5.087699300699303,84.05616433566433,70.39860139860141,8.517202797202797,28.28601398601399,8.841846274778883,1.9847711888111887,566,20,118,10,10,183,83,143,0.084,0.888,0.028999999999999998,-0.7643,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,8,0,12,2,2,4,1,17,17,10,0,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,10,4,0,0,4,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,2,1,14,1,10,14,0,10,0,0,0,0,23,1,0,2,7,68,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357943669860575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5179276603635056,0.14058120357943213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667244145604638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052913856291765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349778364087187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274031447677595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896897210003506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124955115997628,0.0,0.0,0.24823988504841904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595576873052332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355908268539399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978213267335012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856993982527408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264283082438725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546932568098375,0.0,0.18131972719201275,0.1108011842660698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881057542331618,0.16573617120422965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509459278067164
parenting,iFiAudio,2020/03/25,"11 year old has vivid dreams/wakes every night So, my 11 year old son has vivid dreams pretty much every night. He wakes up shouting out and often ends up out of bed on the landing. He talks to us but is still asleep. 

We've limited screen, xBox time, make sure he chills out by reading before bed, even tried hot milk and meditation. I think some of it is related to conflict at school with another child. He is, however, generally, a chirpy, happy lad with nice friends, he's pretty good at school so it's not school that worries him. Apart from the obvious at the moment, he's got a fairly stable life.

Will he just grow out of it? Would welcome thoughts and advice. Thanks.",2.9456818181818183,5.073391598484854,3.450000000000003,89.92000000000004,76.19696969696969,6.521212121212122,22.363636363636363,7.492282038375204,0.7887454545454546,529,15,108,7,12,165,91,132,0.034,0.701,0.265,0.9893,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,0,7,4,2,1,2,23,12,6,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,2,1,1,2,1,4,9,1,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,4,7,19,8,2,23,0,0,3,0,14,12,0,2,10,52,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869868039453488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956342446595562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948539034795778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477737881463958,0.0,0.0,0.10050679411774158,0.0,0.2564194338874227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756609933349706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276329055685298,0.12170418250691273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198770476458332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748211160079356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157460029448907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186239687491306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856023150714235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193534574143688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096230205135192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221109495934199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620122357117036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152309117928264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341834461399422,0.0,0.0,0.12230841408065166,0.0,0.14009761362910828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750433757680887,0.0,0.12080591545702404,0.0887315015155253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331338400975013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304167230220844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453593581464728,0.0,0.10809714208761842,0.0,0.0,0.1959848731440454
parenting,RedBlueFlora,2020/03/25,"Yesterday my partner's relationship with our 2 months old blossomed a bit. My little Edmund was born just two months ago, premature but healthy!  It's a surprise baby, didn't planned at all. He was moving on towards wanting a full relationship after a divorce, I was not available for this. After decade of abuse, frail mental state and major setback in life, I believed that I was not the right person for him in that sense. How could I be a normal girlfriend, if I was not normal? Well, Edmund decided that pills and condom couldn't stop his parents to conceive, so here we are. 

I was unlucky during the pregnancy and the last 3 months I was forced in a strict bed rest, which meant moving in his house with little plan or talks. But, we managed. He started to be more anxious towards the end and nearly break down during my hospitalization and the few weeks of NICU. 

He didn't bond with the baby. He is present, helps and play with him, but I can feel the disappointment in his eyes sometimes. At the beginning I believed that it was my fault. We were cold to each other, polite and our relationship didn't make any romantic progress. We were good roommates waiting for the arrival of their baby. Maybe since we didn't share our emotions during the pregnancy, he felt disconnected by it?

But yesterday, something changed. He is working from home and decided to ""delay"" his paternity leave. There was a very boring zoom meeting and a lot of people he managed had being disturbed by equally bored lovely kids. One of the main bosses asked about our baby since he didn't had the chance to show him off. 

Edmund was very quiet and well behaved. He even smiled (not really a smile, more like a grin), he had his superman sweatshirt and didn't cry for over 20 minutes, he was very interested in engineering stuff and reports. 

For the first time since NICU, he insisted to have him skin to skin again in the afternoon, he was constantly talking and playing with him. They watched some Netflix together while I was napping and pumping. 

And to see him this morning, super eager to change him and calm him in the early hours. Doing it with a smile, instead of a worry look, makes me cry of joy a bit. I love him very much and to see him loving this fatherhood thing finally, it's a blessing. Even if in the end, he doesn't love me and we go to separate ways, I would always be grateful to have him as father of my little boy. I never believed that my heart could love so much!",6.214937637564198,6.76872436170213,6.2715407190022034,78.96500000000003,66.02127659574468,8.780630961115188,32.16434336023478,8.641336200584522,2.5253037417461477,1950,75,358,27,29,619,241,470,0.083,0.7170000000000001,0.2,0.9971,1,0,1,0,2,0,59.0,10,0,2,6,13,25,0,1,30,0,40,12,4,4,2,66,59,30,0,9,12,2,4,1,2,1,2,1,2,4,17,31,0,3,5,5,0,3,13,5,2,3,26,11,49,20,56,25,16,58,1,1,5,6,64,23,0,5,30,251,66,5,0.0,0.09528545910248133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712881581642367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691652101496749,0.0,0.0,0.05468887971231799,0.0,0.0,0.0908525765244148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751825616985684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271819997138803,0.0,0.0,0.1755972988418016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014901741103847,0.0,0.0,0.08690627977241405,0.0,0.12841887805928742,0.0,0.17667687387631872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046253920843908,0.14245785988687518,0.0,0.0,0.10623431706440796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04066315647128407,0.0,0.07721654855462562,0.08809701996762394,0.0,0.06840586383595255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045704975523301335,0.06745312432378829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529899681461536,0.05390434532396229,0.0,0.08066858700945842,0.0,0.07919825655409744,0.09279476830923247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555365920929725,0.0,0.08515398104420054,0.0,0.0,0.05680356647917005,0.03928952483854002,0.2418082092809357,0.0,0.0,0.06753319029449784,0.0,0.0,0.0683708607380171,0.3629144129682978,0.0,0.10736297369841656,0.0,0.08079347033811116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104521857245105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19257326831371366,0.1709490975512905,0.1182370350334002,0.0,0.06202545375469452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759055460077476,0.0,0.0,0.08438806736495102,0.0,0.0544951934302784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892977452614675,0.0,0.0,0.05575363433352866,0.07022031229302622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515196030147709,0.0,0.0,0.25902542330469364,0.0,0.06867889611714538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281698793275663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19957467000722254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061911835900217024,0.07953819550819685,0.0,0.05692223322933512,0.0,0.0,0.06723536271558753,0.0,0.0,0.09206253839971916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927833342159345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053427984533680035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04689399631311771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855940434874703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654222224501357,0.047434252359584254,0.06383426204074047,0.06450868886125202,0.0,0.14461585643317568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058547276618116366,0.08167119321279934,0.0,0.0571286059171263,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iago303,2020/03/25,"Baking With Your Kids What to do with all of your time and your kids? the answer is bake even if all you make is something out of a box you get a chance to bond with the kids I know that by now they are driving you crazy, but baking is fun and educational, so bake, get some of the crazy out and make some magic and of course stay safe.",7.578333333333332,4.199187944444446,7.20888888888889,86.12500000000004,65.3888888888889,10.155555555555557,28.16666666666667,6.42735559955562,0.9948833333333336,260,3,65,1,3,82,44,72,0.061,0.8140000000000001,0.125,0.7184,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,6,1,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,5,4,0,2,2,20,10,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,9,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,12,10,4,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,3,2,45,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27710756840180595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43839314031468735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305726679595274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5601032397077059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229886307114725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471824603472692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446418756209043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yrotsa,2020/03/25,"I’m not a fun mom. None of this behavior is new for us, it’s just that it was more tolerable when my kid was in school for most of the day.

I’m a good mom, but I’m not a fun one. I am a self employed introvert, so this whole stay at home thing is pretty easy for me, the difference is that my kid and my husband are home now. Surprisingly, it’s gone fairly well, however, my daughter (7yo) and I are driving each other slightly bonkers. 

She is an only child, so am I, I get it. But I was so good at entertaining myself, my dad will still attest to this. I could spend hours by myself in the yard, my bedroom, with toys, with art, anything. My daughter is the exact opposite. She constantly needs to be talked to, played with, validated, and touched. I’ve talked to her about these things casually in conversation, “We are different people. We need to be understanding and that we need different things.” “I’ll spend more time with you, but when I’m doing things (especially work things) I need space.” Then by the time I have time to spend with her I’m simply exhausted because I haven’t gotten time away from her at all. 

If I give her my undivided attention for a while, play a game together, or go for a walk, she will just want more and more and more. And she uses guilt to keep me with her. But eventually I gotta be like “kid, I need to go cook lunch, I’d love your help!” “Nooooo.” Then a tantrum or guilt trip ensues.

She’s constantly at me about something, a question or to tell me something or show me something or to ask about the rules again — which, are really easy rules and they have literally never changed. She can do whatever she wants as long as a) her chores are done b) her school work is done. She can go around the block for a walk, ride her bike, the whole backyard is hers, I have endless art supplies (I’m an art teacher/illustrator), my husband has endless instruments (musician), we have hundreds of books, she has an iPad and can use my phone to FaceTime her friends. 

She won’t do the things. She refuses to find something that interests her. Art project? No. Music? No. Go outside? No. She literally just wants someone with her AT ALL TIMES. She won’t do her reading unless someone sits with her while she reads. She won’t do her writing unless someone sits with her while she writes. Which, I just can’t do with her all of the time, and I’ve simply said “no” a lot lately. 

She refuses to cook with me, but expects that I will play with her fake toy food. I’m like, we have a real opportunity here to learn how to bake real bread, meals, I don’t want to play with fake food. 

I would love a new perspective, some solidarity, advice, whatever ya got for me. I’m so mentally exhausted and I feel like a mean mom.

(We use the love and logic parenting method if anyone is familiar and that is helpful insight.)",2.2026351419283468,4.285781879218476,3.559579744629513,88.46225510238281,78.34280639431617,7.090974898622607,24.12175340996682,8.092016823424146,1.3143028184590635,2190,76,467,40,53,716,241,563,0.073,0.77,0.158,0.9947,5,0,5,0,0,0,93.0,7,3,1,3,20,28,1,2,29,0,51,13,0,4,5,95,90,41,0,14,20,9,2,3,1,8,2,1,7,5,23,34,8,4,9,21,3,10,14,7,1,1,9,3,83,21,60,69,15,49,0,0,0,3,80,11,0,11,28,315,106,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101068170732261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081140789959473,0.0,0.059799869669060375,0.06469024821438824,0.06793510838143238,0.0,0.06827431761153029,0.0,0.0,0.044297958613151785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687349085787551,0.0,0.0,0.1570573654842211,0.0,0.05801977348256384,0.0,0.0,0.0468650813857621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22776891290553286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872992721332118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0367433069530594,0.051914291888816716,0.0,0.0,0.06641756580182638,0.0,0.17574174205638154,0.0,0.05614339573957148,0.0,0.03796621954439703,0.06971011384734994,0.165196417658395,0.12190154759491376,0.05811952697574786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741614169774332,0.0,0.14578458295785676,0.0,0.0715636980313953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459097850296737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197307684627826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650627224685344,0.0,0.0,0.06430921308023503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178004219903367,0.19675809991976909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915714900160711,0.0,0.0,0.07323261648879377,0.0,0.0,0.25532491972227905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694133459244626,0.056046320157682634,0.14036711248967018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924196234222727,0.05526756339032847,0.0,0.0,0.08068961559035101,0.0,0.0,0.05037909198003744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392984826970059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814051956799974,0.0,0.14537605293877431,0.16542500875597918,0.046553213078977536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691242525585215,0.0,0.0,0.14708852258793853,0.0,0.0,0.0758089492987836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847150003354516,0.2237746193771839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745480439662454,0.058033047266632914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11681615249529513,0.06351535083272412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896657818962952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25424103542064885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565032698270625,0.08741109131931397,0.18828639715178264,0.0,0.0,0.17144672925407542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533758399887381,0.0,0.0,0.16226326068519697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580686511949942,0.0,0.0,0.051621518966332505,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OliviaPresteign,2020/03/25,"For parents working at home with young kids, there's a Daniel Tiger episode just for us: ""Daniel Finds Something to Do""  ""When grown-ups are too busy to play with you, look around, look around, to find something to do.""  ♫ 

 [http://www.neighborhoodarchive.com/dtn/episodes/401a\_finds\_something\_do/index.html](http://www.neighborhoodarchive.com/dtn/episodes/401a_finds_something_do/index.html)",22.86899224806201,28.49007155813954,8.111627906976748,62.435503875969026,31.09302325581396,6.663565891472868,28.286821705426355,6.42735559955562,0.8915333333333337,339,6,38,1,3,66,33,43,0.0,0.941,0.059000000000000004,0.34,1,0,4,0,0,0,38.0,1,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,11,5,0,5,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,2,21,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462401700218755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4581553893196233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514093657133814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4209439427654795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278302748667066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38590524442927177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014854736903967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824667348776132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PinxxDeath,2020/03/25,"Our big age gap problem! I have no idea where to post this, but I want to turn to you, parents of reddit, since my parents and I feel helpless!

Maybe it's a condition, and I should be treated for it, maybe it's normal. I am a 19yr old female, and I have a brother, who is 12 years younger than me - he will be 8 this year.

I was never ever a fan of babies, the thought of having a brother or a sister sickened me to my very stomach (I would love to have an older sibling though). And at 12 years old I was suddenly forced to have a brother. I was happy, at first. I loved to dress him up and cuddle him, but the second he learned to walk and talk, my hate grew. He is not a normal kid (he is healthy no worries, but it's how i see him), he is manipulative, he got a phone at the age of 5, he doesn't know how to act, he doesn't eat anything (which is why his skin is literally translucent and every vein is visible), he cries and screams at the smallest injuries (like a small paper cut or a scraped knee). But my dear mom is always here ""he is so small'"", ""he is my little baby"", ""ofcourse he can eat sugar for every meal of the day"". He has no comunicational skills, he is rude to others his age, he doesn't know how to act at all! He has no friends because of these very reasons.

And me? I just hate his whole being, the catch is though, why do I feel bad about not playing games with him? Why do I feel bad for criticising hum all the time? Why is it such a dread to do literally anything with him? I mean he doesn't even know how to talk! He has a problem in saying ""s, c, z,"". His voice is so squeaky and he is such a cry baby. Please someone help me! I want to be a good big sister! But I hate it when my parents, at almost 20 years old, force me abd scream at me to spend time with him! Sincerely, I have no idea what to do with myself anymore, I just want to move away. What do I do? Any advice, any criticism will be appreciated, thank you.",2.2417637540453086,3.0238624320388365,4.000466019417477,90.84178317152106,75.16504854368931,6.5612944983818755,24.412944983818768,6.588339656340683,0.5609463430420711,1470,44,348,11,30,497,190,412,0.204,0.6829999999999999,0.11199999999999999,-0.9928,3,0,0,0,0,0,74.0,1,2,0,2,18,25,5,2,23,0,48,12,4,6,4,56,68,26,0,9,11,9,4,1,1,4,1,4,0,1,14,14,4,0,12,2,1,6,12,14,0,2,5,10,47,11,42,54,3,42,0,1,1,3,52,16,0,3,20,221,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415295329177865,0.0,0.0,0.08623416382470828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165659825378197,0.0,0.0,0.11712560734047844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540534745875117,0.0,0.0,0.14173461000856594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091015777980758,0.0,0.14380890937026838,0.05249638438141194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891919002970545,0.05553861630460527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762392547759964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056879748552278175,0.0778981433269992,0.14511529346312665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063067637699247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325143968556548,0.0,0.0,0.06653411072417292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223121222262865,0.06887597360477145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167360272954657,0.0,0.2550693915983409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057722696255358724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19443218639074708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419836576698896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04207262502943823,0.08631228603488819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544868081088528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303306142445593,0.09380712454075332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085969005890376,0.0,0.09152919652188347,0.0,0.0,0.06641906892043227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875358862563392,0.0,0.0,0.2710972603864525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868696351864273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453107461965464,0.0,0.0,0.08247669031725367,0.0,0.0,0.16480549506591013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885430581225667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848403470556419,0.0,0.0,0.06862443991340242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123722579231684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296701670690202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843585201982575,0.0,0.07928535683530721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921987020032922,0.06836761788236516,0.10043152881698096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367103168274553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421117929717328,0.15238286957740868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108303337905603,0.09614703217252027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745642768319599,0.0,0.061175349538666386,0.0,0.0,0.2218271988941224
parenting,snarkisms,2020/03/25,"My 7 yo is the sweetest little girl One of her favorite games to play with me is ""Baby"". Simply, she gets to be Mom, and I pretend to be her baby. She likes me to pretend to be about 2 - talking and walking but still ""baby"". She puts me to bed, tucks me in and reads me a story. 

Last night she did all that and while she was reading the story, I pretended to fall asleep. She saw that I was ""sleeping"" and put the book away, tucked me in, turned off the light and put herself to bed after giving me the sweetest little kiss.

I love her so much. I think she's going to be a great parent one day, but even if she doesn't decide to have children, I am so glad to know that she has this sweetness in her soul.",3.759522744220732,3.524261536912753,4.804921700223716,90.10090976882923,71.21476510067114,6.890678598061148,25.280387770320647,5.033348758259628,0.4551694258016408,535,13,123,1,9,176,87,149,0.015,0.779,0.207,0.9872,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,7,0,13,4,2,0,1,14,21,12,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,7,0,0,3,8,0,6,1,0,0,2,4,3,28,7,20,13,2,19,1,0,1,2,22,7,0,1,7,90,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627079021879465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116864927384782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438346949100554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047917507171983,0.16612961919182487,0.0984219378035276,0.0,0.0,0.1909310819634738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517495997354536,0.14116445957184193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460678789812473,0.3471428403835711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630131893609436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282581365706173,0.0,0.0,0.1273069066867565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251729039463064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347019105458937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19229541268737066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5222798864997654,0.0,0.0,0.3464528600141896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330463336810953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383014244397681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391951745480851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096647266842737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883696371271177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MTBripper,2020/03/25,"Free NEW Unicorn Coloring Book ages 4-8 A loverly Unicorn Coloring book for kids you can print for FREE. We are giving it away for free to help parents considering the current situation. Enjoy guys!

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or Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1913485129",19.12614906832298,26.22430043478261,12.111987577639756,19.93021739130437,55.52173913043477,8.715527950310559,32.6583850931677,8.841846274778883,4.348090683229813,364,12,31,7,7,98,38,46,0.0,0.593,0.40700000000000003,0.9742,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,8,6,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,9,2,0,2,3,16,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32993987871927305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368784531713437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34771783590708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353847764538099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391663929512125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899375770148904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39473470329710136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4224195257829005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BalboBibbins,2020/03/25,"3 year old with worsening separation anxiety Self isolation is making it worse. We're on day 11, and I'm pregnant so we're being especially careful.

This kid gets up at 7am, comes over to cuddle. We hang out all day while my husband goes to work. I try and take her outside as much as possible, it's just better for everyone mentally. We're rural so it's easy. 

So around 2-4pm things take a nose dive. She's exhausted, but hates napping, so her behavior gets atrocious. I'm talking hitting, scratching, throwing, doing the opposite of what I ask. I know she's exhausted and it's not her fault. She simply won't stay in bed if I try to do nap time, she'll run around and jump on her mattress.

So after fighting, she usually falls asleep while hugging on the couch. This way she'll sleep for like 2 hours but if I try to transition her to her bed, she wakes up angry. Yesterday I was able to slide out from underneath and let her sleep.

Bed time is many times of checking on her in her room, and she'll get up to come snuggle several times. Last night we fell asleep on the couch until midnight. She gets up once or twice at night to snuggle, and the cycle begins again at 7.


Tl;dr is that this kid is at home with me now all day, and needs to be around me/snuggling constantly. Through nap, several times a night.

1. I'm exhausted being touched constantly.
2. I used to work from home for a bit, while she was in daycare and before she got up in the morning. Now I can't seem to carve out any time to engage in my work.

Anyone got hot tips? I'll do screen time in a pinch when she's especially tired and just won't nap. Maybe I just need to wait it out... She used to go to preschool 2 mornings a week and it was helping tremendously.",1.5924989939637797,3.691825867605633,3.090784708249497,90.96873239436623,80.46478873239437,6.648692152917504,23.66398390342052,7.760100539840176,1.1293364185110666,1353,48,293,23,35,443,180,355,0.091,0.8490000000000001,0.061,-0.8894,0,1,0,0,2,0,49.0,2,0,0,4,15,11,2,0,10,0,20,12,6,3,2,43,47,28,0,4,9,1,3,1,0,5,4,0,9,3,12,24,0,1,2,4,1,10,4,6,0,1,5,5,36,5,58,32,4,74,0,0,1,2,32,30,0,4,33,169,48,3,0.09556328058899924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498630780504408,0.0,0.07310564808238301,0.0,0.0,0.06682006774477532,0.0,0.0,0.2552147409487288,0.08933876725608643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813173132130413,0.0,0.0,0.08451795581334552,0.10433035173051228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743313351927006,0.0,0.0,0.16463860895255467,0.0,0.2065399136786229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848912306808572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131480987720908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19971147951520207,0.0,0.054310814615393666,0.0,0.15286137071768655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434895505454767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405405259130559,0.0,0.19171552436880035,0.0,0.0941105816231992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525190798160191,0.0778968283411887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977199290126017,0.0,0.046687391808031324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637892318541921,0.09688616726725724,0.0960061599295768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630531011023964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025000688490649,0.14171792335762273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690389955958334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027758750406957,0.10177177497920137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773324021733928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699722154241314,0.09969334323139982,0.2159186121184011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126459049471814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185774200879903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370338801183458,0.07681014506470586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348799731450377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900660218769348,0.10983593311057804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464358374433166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650719832832676,0.10524945249019464,0.0,0.0,0.0758536840269748,0.07665509940026992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087136192659104,0.0,0.0973871471196553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153961953408847
parenting,cdrinko,2020/03/25,"Don't be afraid to let your kids be bored. Many of us are stuck at home with our children without a teaching license. There's a lot of social media pressure to fill our kids' days with magical activities and step up as their interim teacher, but boredom often leads to creativity. Don't be afraid to step back and observe and help your children with some so-called soft skills, instead of stressing about algebra and parts of speech. 

https://www.playyourwaysane.com/bored-kids/",9.286097560975607,10.503649560975614,7.354780487804878,71.54265853658539,59.487804878048784,9.486829268292682,37.13170731707317,9.3871,3.499397073170732,392,17,62,6,5,115,60,82,0.125,0.795,0.08,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,2,1,2,5,5,0,4,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,8,6,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,1,2,6,0,16,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,2,43,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23018558907870376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19305927050023614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20065140926894529,0.0,0.3002775670477725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30611086538342275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545009957465433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034990795177364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241723946919049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30515481949785744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429102485827935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600873192735598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885676279539932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Brown_Eyes_,2020/03/25,"Newborn will literally not sleep all night Hi everyone! I’m looking for any tips at all about getting my 10 day old to sleep at least a little through the night. Even a few hours would be great. Right now he is awake, usually wanting to eat from midnight until 7 am. Help.",1.7355555555555533,4.21335218518519,2.7792592592592613,91.1666666666667,82.7037037037037,5.822222222222222,25.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.2020222222222223,214,9,44,3,6,68,48,54,0.0,0.871,0.129,0.7959,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,5,3,2,0,2,5,9,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,9,6,4,12,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,8,25,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472790190367353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467377419946128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328195408651061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028112731520393,0.0,0.0,0.21741424343447244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887480322842425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25085214117621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525082667507849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407078249738324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22804439148590094,0.0,0.0,0.1910675241126874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42704215420984337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387539967497957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943089995107864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4553877546712392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505916632342388,0.0,0.13420282851972076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163047001030045,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Traveler-07,2020/03/25,"Is it different with your own kids? My partner really wants kids, I can see it in his face when we visit his own nephews and nieces. He mentions as well how much he wants them and until recently I did too. Until this quarantine, his sister has twins and we are often taking care of them. I realize Im sick of being with them after a few hours, and now thinking of having kids sounds like I would be a terrible mother. Can someone please tell me if this was common before you had children? Did it change with your own?",4.4927739251040215,5.365298388349519,5.385464632454924,82.65922330097091,69.97087378640775,8.215811373092926,25.393897364771146,8.418075326091056,1.5895004160887654,406,11,79,6,7,133,73,103,0.06,0.841,0.099,0.5007,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,3,3,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,13,2,1,1,0,17,19,10,0,4,1,3,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,5,5,9,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,2,17,3,11,12,5,10,0,0,1,0,24,1,0,2,9,64,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21770318779703007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608485564276729,0.0,0.2706475210441142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26730103776504394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519534010073179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763538840196396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499175913386318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807373039416564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808383194834584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638993048950751,0.0,0.2526136779292945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387340838254306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677458372431505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923617765471905,0.0,0.22361768744059704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639335917161548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018051590080951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300332005606475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18174322493822714,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CyanNinja58,2020/03/25,"App to message own children online? For a friend, but an app where the parent creates an account and with that creates mini ""sub"" accounts for children which they can then message and call over internet. The problem is most are social media but they need a service that is them only. Imagine Discord but like that and where you can create child or ""sub"" accounts like ClassDojo (A school learning app, not good but for the example.).

Thanks for any help for my friend! (Please redirect if in wrong subreddit.)",5.876813186813187,7.897977780219783,5.299780219780222,80.22021978021981,67.9010989010989,7.397802197802199,33.879120879120876,7.957251820313856,2.734094505494505,402,19,65,5,7,122,62,91,0.121,0.639,0.24,0.9214,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,3,0,2,8,0,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,16,7,10,0,3,7,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,6,9,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,3,3,46,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780440940053053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26734376307975344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045573204123765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959913004674486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548997852286044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558204845509461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19413350381603608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912312976781035,0.0,0.0,0.2907160694354741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28739572700064303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250522884981148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649721208422132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26688879442679553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410453161552323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28625507479397005,0.0,0.0
parenting,korsakov1881,2020/03/25,"We found a parenting hack to keep the kids calm while staying inside We arranged a drawing competition with a small prize (first pancake) for the winner. We put some calm music on (we use this [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41Kr6r9byXPkmK6GMq9hwj?si=6ZGcUAePShi0cg3slcs6ew](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41Kr6r9byXPkmK6GMq9hwj?si=6ZGcUAePShi0cg3slcs6ew)) and the kids really got into it. The result, apart from some quiet time for us, was a tie with two happy kids. Thanks to all of you on this site for some great tips over the years :)",16.644599999999997,18.449099826666668,9.501166666666666,60.339750000000016,44.06666666666667,9.633333333333333,28.083333333333336,8.841846274778883,1.8865333333333327,457,7,60,4,4,113,54,75,0.0,0.713,0.287,0.977,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,9,0,1,0,0,2,1,16,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,8,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,6,6,13,3,4,13,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,3,4,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253800841893274,0.0,0.29052172309846225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191764689266865,0.2921261318046439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820614091656629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23551410149218024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29421356907664586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26636417949616104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697441098429205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824186765166525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439452449702997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450390133761704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25883344165413924,0.0,0.3187216715036045,0.22884569267602745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706295226989641
parenting,521993Mj,2020/03/25,"25 Years old with two sons by two women Hi I’m a 25 year old man. I work for Law Enforcement. I live in Memphis

I was previously married for 8 months to an emotionally abusive woman. We had a child together. We divorced and she moved to Florida.

I got in a relationship soon afterwards to another woman. We have been together for two years. She suffers from depression and anxiety. We’ve been at odds ever since she moved down here.  She’s highly insecure and with me being law enforcement I do get attention. She had called off our engagement 6 times for EXTREMELY petty things. I have never cheated on her. 

This is where things get crazy.

She’s Arabic. And she is original from Jersey. When her family found out she was moving away they cut her completely off and it’s been that way for a year. So she has no one. Other than a few friends and my family.  

She called our engagement off again because two weeks ago one of my coworkers messaged me on Facebook telling me how handsome my son was. All I said was “haha. He get it from his daddy!” My word is BOND, that’s all that was said. She called our engagement off again.

So I got to the point where I was like fuck this shit.  And I made a tinder account and started talking to girls. I didn’t have any sex or make any physical contact.  I DID intend to make contact, have sex, etc. I searched up tinder advice all that. But I did not act on it..

The climax of this entire thing is the day she tried to commit suicide. We were arguing and she told me I was about to lose my second family in two years, which broke me down. I in return told her that I’m attracted to broken women and I need to choose better women.
That hurt her. Later that day she overdosed on oxy in front of our 1 month old.

I’m aware of postpartum but I hated her for doing that.  Seeing her lifeless body fucked me up and I see dead bodies all the time.  Things weren’t the same afterwards, and she recently found out about the tinder account (which my therapist made me delete)  and she went nuts and left me again today, and she’s already texting other dudes. 

We are currently staying together in my house, with our son. I would never put her out because my son needs to be happy and henceforth, she needs to be happy. So we are going to stay together.

My question is wtf is wrong with me? Why do I attract these women and then shit never works out? My therapist says that I am a fixer. I think I’m getti NV a vasectomy and saying fuck it.",1.6487760826960738,4.033875496945012,3.3317765053990698,87.67587864581336,82.21792260692466,6.638450601391077,21.891442185758752,7.837336299996399,1.16641002958921,1923,62,385,36,53,637,233,491,0.145,0.785,0.07,-0.9911,2,0,0,0,1,2,55.0,11,0,1,4,15,28,9,1,15,1,38,9,4,7,9,66,70,27,2,4,4,4,0,1,1,1,0,4,0,9,25,32,0,0,6,0,2,8,7,16,0,8,28,6,81,12,58,38,7,75,0,5,2,5,73,29,5,2,36,272,106,2,0.0,0.08418852116474011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943409490977047,0.06298594422418954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841092694949198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663963317182593,0.07450733206980327,0.054356858022035034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675848386412493,0.0,0.0,0.0866289011372071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284234727365404,0.0,0.15785210827743434,0.0,0.0,0.2176652082098809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744997847953991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916491556102768,0.0,0.061199542058833135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992727818601106,0.0,0.0,0.07924507475082633,0.0,0.06427328888040558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009529076501772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581621547676633,0.05489689402511709,0.197067526062,0.11136986835625633,0.0,0.040382177253708414,0.0,0.11365830196582677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512786749283531,0.0,0.07015207291026371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507347762617031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198789604798719,0.07606581561981632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720143345957756,0.0,0.0,0.03471386950934964,0.0,0.06274284082610246,0.0,0.0,0.07949233694241582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446786243569936,0.09485948925110654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343079925591758,0.22656056631596685,0.0,0.15805908109412464,0.16440592117723432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22368071673238188,0.0,0.0962973739896086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671699142119855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142987096630911,0.0795978287645493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015821133073905,0.07628644684263651,0.0,0.0,0.1351790969279033,0.11301152911563267,0.0,0.0,0.11324322409829275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458738124645003,0.05877740594109021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029307390772031,0.15147028898719492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772260514663197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711129385282423,0.062105176177909636,0.0,0.0,0.16500059485305332,0.1888230606882177,0.04552915608571378,0.0,0.0,0.08286544953013397,0.0,0.06735180388797397,0.13579213880194574,0.0,0.04824166086578263,0.0,0.3470519079196857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056400128324642765,0.0569960114445597,0.0,0.0,0.06586866961432758,0.06411605907168406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345772971300776,0.0,0.0,0.05047541244664936,0.07768745595357562,0.0,0.22878535718436524
parenting,momalltheway,2020/03/25,"My son is going to live with his dad My son just turned 14 and he's been asking to go live with his dad for a while now. He wouldn't be far but wouldn't be close either, his father's and I co-parenting relationship has been crap since I told him he couldn't be in the delivery room.

My son said it's not that he doesn't want to live with me, but that he just wants to live with his dad more. He said he loves me, he really does but that he has a different type of relationship with his dad, that he feels more comfortable with his dad and can talk to him about more stuff. Then he said something that really hurt “I wish dad had been my main caregiver since birth, probably would of bit happier”, he talks a lot about his dad raising him to be a man and that I can't do that, at least not like his father can.

He's 14, if he wants to live with his dad then he can, it just hurts really bad. I thought my son and I had an amazing relationship but I guess not. I've cried because I've tried so damn hard to give him the best experience possible and it wasn't enough. Part of me doesn't understand it, yes he and his father have more in common like sports, cars, roughhousing and boyish things but his dad is also a lot stricter than I am, way quicker to punish for something minor. 

But I realized something, he's really always been like this. Hearing “I'm proud of you” from his dad meant a whole hell of a lot more than it did coming from me. He'd tell his dad secrets but not me. When he was younger and would draw something he was proud of but he didn't rush to show me, in fact he didn't care if saw his drawing or not, he just wanted his dad to see it. His dad would always be the first he'd run to, when something didn't go his way he would rather not tell his dad. His father's approval of him means more than my approval of him. 

My friends say “don't worry, he'll realize that dad's isn't the fantasy Dreamland he'd had in his mind and want to come back home in no time!” But I know that isn't true. He prefers his dad, always has.",2.9698318042813447,3.5520062889908246,4.016073394495416,92.15476758409788,73.26605504587154,7.739938837920492,23.019571865443424,7.908726449838941,0.7226338837920498,1586,37,382,21,30,515,171,436,0.12300000000000001,0.759,0.11800000000000001,0.4789,2,0,5,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,0,6,13,19,4,0,12,1,46,2,1,0,2,74,78,29,0,17,24,24,2,3,1,7,0,5,2,1,18,20,0,0,10,3,0,8,20,7,0,1,21,9,54,12,43,41,17,30,1,2,2,1,99,9,3,7,14,230,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552522369381399,0.20453517517189754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660030833267191,0.0,0.0,0.06300472071132161,0.06841421722056823,0.04994821336301549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859881339855823,0.0,0.08945430249899597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354053115598607,0.0,0.0,0.14116344557428068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000426899816781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560703183201157,0.0,0.0,0.07170387736281639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466312699766852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015039519161389,0.0,0.0,0.0414299573346322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969581965835718,0.0,0.0,0.06330454939952387,0.0,0.0,0.078601717754411,0.1397005557535599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902631660484673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339972049851573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234928435164154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218978574393468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543113387495396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045030593445771934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009126779728935,0.0,0.3617606548673949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898046948041168,0.0739516060737568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925373293311163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273330834051021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873010370297504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092371986672603,0.0,0.0,0.08834226038133726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996451235225466,0.0,0.0,0.2639099658600513,0.0,0.0,0.2338233875856485,0.06515982420010001,0.0,0.0,0.06529341414845588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555875114796814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31539665663511923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379859728085342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171618493835632,0.14323361141421986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443549669512054,0.0,0.0,0.06504905824178292,0.04777829453241941,0.0,0.0,0.07829459490842701,0.0,0.05563004351385982,0.08912424601341122,0.0,0.08529961179728625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416436919801783,0.1300760188011099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148006160352244,0.0942238433432867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321129848009387,0.0,0.2328236085071257,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anxiety_Blue,2020/03/25,"What to do about boundary pushes? Hi all, first time poster on this page and overall rather new to Reddit so sorry in advance if I make an major errors. 

Also not sure if this is the right page to post this so let me know if I should move it to another one. 

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I'm posting to ask how long I should 'ban' my father being in the car with baby for, and also if I should tell him.

My father does not have a car so he pays a family friend to drive him around, I sometimes tag along with them when they go to the nearest city, rarely to do anything other than see my fathers friends. Sometimes I have my LO with me, but not always. On the most recent trip, my father and I had been drinking (driver hadn't) and for most of the trip he just pushed and hinted at breaking my rules and boundaries. Like not small rules. The big common sense one in place for LO's safety, like making jokes and asking to drive when he knows he isn't allowed to drink drive with bub in the car. He also kept trying to smoke pot with LO in the car (cut it up, then was lighting it in car but getting out of car to breathe it out, so it 'doesn't count'), and talking about lighting a smoke, but breathing it out the window. 

Obviously I was furious when each of these occurred, but was a good hour away from home and my only lift (also in the city that day) only had 1 seat left and not enough room for the baby seat.

The topic of care of LO in the case of my death also came up on the ride home when I said how if first and second choice isn't available LO will likely end in another state, he ridiculed my parenting with some very homophobic and sexist remarks, while trying to argue that he could raise LO my way. 

The more time passes the more I think I'm just being petty because my parenting felt attacked and may be over reacting and unsure what to do with this. I only go with them maybe once every 2 months or so, I'm probably just going to avoid trips for a while and not bring bub If I can, but I don't know how long for and also if this is something I should talk to him about or only bring it up if he asks? I don't want to damage our relationship and he has been known to have outburst, but I our relationship is largely based on honesty and talking to each other when we have an issue so it doesn't occur again.",7.149631398013753,5.0046842037815145,7.251122994652411,81.61232620320855,65.15546218487395,9.662948815889994,30.66997708174179,7.348242739294969,1.7434823529411765,1795,43,387,12,22,581,221,476,0.071,0.862,0.067,0.2423,3,1,5,0,0,0,42.0,3,0,3,3,31,16,5,1,23,0,37,4,2,7,3,90,62,57,1,15,26,6,1,3,2,6,0,1,4,0,20,35,2,3,6,3,1,24,13,7,0,5,12,5,38,9,68,39,12,81,0,1,1,0,38,30,0,14,25,268,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4100860660572885,0.07111512909603762,0.09260311824860032,0.10385137792070727,0.0,0.1792385438686009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703318000977232,0.0760834702628197,0.23969944192564674,0.09723069335537196,0.08029876460662295,0.0,0.0,0.05209969832976663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775111985620544,0.08713898212739951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823819404412723,0.0,0.0,0.05511894179415425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479247260610686,0.0,0.0,0.16744962895832002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569811567411243,0.08830993301352696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720093688503763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057038493794308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206142123832776,0.0,0.0,0.14539583839188627,0.0,0.0,0.1320626987254419,0.0,0.04465281577100736,0.0,0.14571806119196498,0.07168540102591897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17146010856988267,0.0,0.08416746946192813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920501492899245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091076594176574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928598040854525,0.08739547667360748,0.0,0.12526411663226428,0.0,0.0,0.15127065472990836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409935272919533,0.0,0.08586277328922272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821869312618352,0.09083756116439416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254425762591491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101923093987743,0.11582887625138062,0.2600050630055431,0.0,0.0,0.18980128033954186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929449589996838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370691945359947,0.0,0.0921475425394374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438804135119295,0.18351847085563885,0.0,0.07298808260596366,0.08129838977501665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681058830939873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579643017651535,0.16905747507005384,0.0956729573807944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805513398157927,0.0,0.0,0.206084653636002,0.07470165039866551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547636012031959,0.0,0.0,0.09967262347337376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605253881973525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051896649811132,0.050410465591469465,0.06783947696208187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385137792070727,0.0
parenting,PROBIwan,2020/03/25,"Resentful 13 year old My son is 13 and wants to watch Joker(2019), rated R, unsupervised. I have to work early so I am about to go to bed and said that I would get it from the Redbox this weekend. My wife rented it last night and will be returning it tomorrow.

Here is the thing.... During the conversation about 13 year olds and R rated movies, he said that he would rather watch it with kids his own age(step siblings 13 and 11). Shortly after that he clammed up hard and walked away.

Should I compromise my morals and standards as a parent to alleviate his stress? My gut says no. What say you?

Some back story.... The other kids and my wife watched it last night while my son was punished for the evening. Since her kids watched it supervised and she says it's ok, my son wants to watch it with them tonight(minus my wife because doesn't want to watch it two days running). It just so happens to be 11pm currently and I am to tired to watch this evening.",2.2571556550951826,4.603292957446812,2.642351623740204,93.74184210526316,79.53191489361701,5.872788353863382,23.1926091825308,7.0608816371341465,0.664878723404255,748,25,159,9,19,229,109,188,0.09,0.899,0.012,-0.915,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,1,1,10,4,2,1,6,1,13,2,1,0,0,22,21,14,0,7,2,7,1,0,0,4,1,5,2,3,18,12,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,3,0,1,3,13,19,1,20,12,2,23,1,0,7,0,25,3,0,1,17,99,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497426960290268,0.12255333259425405,0.0,0.09715652947361504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278687333432407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105378887246936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326943822354395,0.0,0.09057929035356473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093915075304134,0.0,0.14277311695095668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25983183945609384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29913454586752164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33448486379033743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176972557218271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032136329212111,0.3802359656619993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184072977339106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825691778218859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588494728795354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18318379031747928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569103833958828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820192463504921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603049137394608,0.0,0.0,0.22643786693304785,0.0,0.0,0.20527090619061225
parenting,kt_07962,2020/03/25,"Homeschool /Distant /Online Learning Questions Teacher here! 

What are yours kids’ teachers doing to teach during this time? 

What is working well and what is not?  

What questions do you have for teachers? 

I’m trying to gain insight as a teacher (& in case this continues) and want to be resource during this uncertain time. 

Feel free to comment or private message me!",4.925178571428575,8.157398125000004,4.200714285714287,81.23000000000002,75.5625,4.9071428571428575,37.26785714285714,6.1826913282559595,2.760248214285714,296,18,42,2,7,88,49,64,0.035,0.8059999999999999,0.159,0.8282,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,10,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,7,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,4,3,31,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433784458993542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602422949359732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7100370901366903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695926356941644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151652189271579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18692531805885795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.284945620679352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307186844721096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JapowFZ1,2020/03/25,"11mo wakes up every 1-2 hours at night Father here. My 11 month old wakes up every 1 to 2 hours every night. Since month 7. 

Usually it’s me who rocks him to sleep in the evening and then my wife co-sleeps with him. It’s gotten fairly easy for me to get him to fall asleep, but then he keeps waking up all night and my wife just gives him some breast milk each time he wakes up and it’s really affecting her (and me!) If I try to pick him up, he screams and only the breast will soothe him. 

So, I’ve been reading this forum a bit trying to figure out what method I should start with in order to get him to sleep through the night. My wife wants to keep sleeping next to him, so is my best bet to just let him cry it out while I pat him on the back? I’ve been sleeping on the sofa above them while they are on a mat below me on the floor. Should I tell her to go sleep in another room for the time being while I sleep with him and let him CIO? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",3.0041172506738505,3.2962950047169817,3.952506738544475,93.69613207547172,73.00943396226415,7.000539083557952,20.33153638814016,6.5431188927421005,-0.08273692722371928,759,11,186,5,14,245,115,212,0.032,0.888,0.079,0.8998,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,2,1,7,3,0,0,9,0,12,14,13,2,1,28,21,15,0,5,4,4,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,7,12,1,2,1,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,30,2,34,10,5,41,0,0,0,2,26,18,0,3,20,116,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520273563467924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625244745139673,0.10215877152434226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491393185649739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224169137068707,0.0,0.10636303829335264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070169599737786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434839720495701,0.0,0.2462546894620151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180124666964567,0.09345908784576963,0.055368961753350036,0.0,0.0,0.10741157927478256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918883092209599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319191149714433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924764709772003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552766127973122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361275948422348,0.3657076394525477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223131334983374,0.0,0.0,0.07409622186572729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745152139636523,0.0,0.062413050137579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059109644006351,0.0,0.6824686123387115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895802740302341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515388120049817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361878476442976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229057257680718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730004605452703,0.0,0.05746388165895831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920803610177917,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lynnella04,2020/03/25,"If your looking to buy cool artwork check me out ! 
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parenting,cyanletters,2020/03/25,"4 year old wetting himself, possibly stress related Our 4 year old son has been potty trained for well over 2 years now. Last night he wet the bed and today he had two separate incidents where he wet himself while standing in front of the toilet. The first time he blamed his brother for getting in his way and not making it to the toilet in time. The 2nd time he said he forgot to pull his pants down. 

We have a feeling it’s due to the stressors of being sheltered in place. He hasn’t been to daycare or seen his friends in about two weeks. We go outside at least once a day but I don’t think it’s enough.

Any other parents going through this?

Any advice in case this continues?",3.8818248175182495,5.086839700729931,4.309204379562043,88.56891605839418,71.70072992700729,6.93985401459854,28.2985401459854,7.1686216300943375,1.3897275912408755,537,20,110,5,10,169,93,137,0.048,0.915,0.037000000000000005,-0.3632,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,8,0,8,0,0,1,0,11,17,5,0,0,3,3,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,4,3,1,1,3,6,6,10,2,19,10,2,35,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,1,18,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571750145966546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306486254631088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936895698258738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522769760278564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574779001169143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424978670595534,0.0,0.0,0.13102174266922426,0.0,0.0886016989485935,0.0,0.192759292871382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823524517449487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319998891654978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591449969130726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559040127645943,0.18060358252936207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883052122283027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718130216174113,0.0,0.0,0.191182763047261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131514511405998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426021930448564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866387759351223,0.0,0.0,0.2966609258314131,0.0,0.1607477230547992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33132181031234137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460949350762125,0.1360316804306732,0.0,0.15247820343890384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276235210878948
parenting,3Saur3,2020/03/25,"Toddler Constipation Any parents out there who have dealt with a child being constipated? Do they ever outgrow this issue? I give him fruits, veggies, orange juice, exercise, water, fiber, tummy massages, etc. and still constipated. Poop feels hard after it is out. Please provide any tips, home remedies, recommendations. Thanks.",6.138676470588237,9.994929803921572,5.406053921568631,67.65849264705881,84.29411764705883,6.471568627450981,29.90441176470589,7.645422480735847,3.087958823529412,264,12,32,5,8,80,48,51,0.026000000000000002,0.8690000000000001,0.105,0.6322,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,1,6,7,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,4,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941145555342765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231762827387017,0.0,0.2621185309632585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651920027986254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779790655582632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595819315318981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29066845473934555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024503374071114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217614016694641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180864825708108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314150897243213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667863491088556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redredblueblue7,2020/03/25,"Son is telling sister periods are disgusting My daughter is 12 and my son is 14. My daughter just recently started having periods and my son has been telling her how unnatural and disgusting periods are and she is. She just laughs. It doesn't matter how many times I punish him and tell him to stop, he still says these things to her. My son's girlfriend started her period at our house one day and he was super sweet about it, I don't understand why he isn't the same with his sister.",4.414330357142859,5.744939510416671,5.24607142857143,81.87750000000005,70.5625,9.235714285714286,29.339285714285715,9.606745405546679,2.669903571428571,387,15,76,9,7,126,59,96,0.128,0.777,0.096,-0.3343,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,6,6,3,0,1,0,13,0,0,2,0,15,16,8,0,0,2,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,2,16,3,5,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,25,1,0,0,11,52,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312985155046005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739751232220853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407279840632952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089621868894116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344444182727899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888226744887416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.336124032577206,0.0,0.18962075067813985,0.1985113721443705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6226019003870938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774530087022454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384538013549215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471845347979052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21425364024950352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yam1star,2020/03/25,"Videos for your kids to watch due to the stuff going on your kids could watch this YouTube channel if they are into superheroes and it is quite a funny channel

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 [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo0SRUnUUvy3aj\_mCL0R1rg](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo0SRUnUUvy3aj_mCL0R1rg)",31.32272727272727,28.559646727272728,18.3769696969697,22.085454545454553,21.121212121212125,15.624242424242425,51.18181818181819,11.20814326018867,5.6962363636363635,254,6,25,2,1,59,28,33,0.0,0.907,0.09300000000000001,0.4927,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,5,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,1,1,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.394870489586224,0.44283437987114943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909756129199411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20711959903969449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38762670345452827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171965047920236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44283437987114943,0.0
parenting,BumPanda,2020/03/25,"4 Month Old Behavior Change Hey all,
 I have a 4 month old who has been very easy from basically birth up to now. Boy seems to be crying all day everyday and nothing seems to soothe him. Sleep routine is generally perfect for us, sleeping from 9pm to 8am. For the last 3 days he has been up every 4 hours. He is going through a leap and possibly teething (which he’s been doing for 2 weeks), but previous leaps haven’t really caused any issues. Any ideas form parents who suddenly had demons around this time?",4.484384724186707,5.493347396039606,5.108429985855729,84.13653465346535,70.0891089108911,8.939745403111743,28.289957567185287,9.23628265651192,2.180724469589816,401,14,83,8,7,129,77,101,0.039,0.9129999999999999,0.048,0.2123,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,12,3,3,1,3,12,15,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,1,13,10,3,18,1,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,14,42,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23346428976302105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281046691506212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633826653777945,0.18158956497511106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18855634405962726,0.2214081771594704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462780467654665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755620983017152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690468410958074,0.0,0.0,0.19377902635258884,0.0,0.17916454041037366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992276463855385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740287821503768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647088135165961,0.0,0.3602487437202837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906039654183296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19351664420345654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996739730259214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125388289435827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34356046130996354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009414711896024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064813483756057,0.0,0.0,0.14163439390605748,0.0,0.0,0.1376922996755383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shmittninjah,2020/03/25,"How is everyone coping? Isolating our family of 5 has been awful! Mostly because we aren't used to being inside, our two boys 7yo and 6yo are ADHD while our 2yo girl is undiagnosed but has similar behaviours. 

We usually surf, go rock climbing, skate park, play at the park, jui jutsu training, and a whole other bunch of outdoor activities...a very active household. But now being inside is tough and tensions are a bit high within the household.

I'm still employed (for now) so a lot of the care is left to my wife at the moment, how is everyone keeping there kids entertained at the moment?",4.5526126126126165,6.537978855855857,5.8037837837837865,75.41936936936938,71.25225225225225,8.536936936936938,28.54954954954956,9.150863307647796,2.735781981981982,467,18,78,10,9,156,78,111,0.061,0.809,0.13,0.8831,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,0,1,7,5,0,1,8,1,13,0,0,3,0,13,18,9,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,0,1,0,3,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,6,3,10,15,5,15,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,7,56,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28171416540308664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289360140477395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25591400742070297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23899568285631034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4479758487328436,0.0,0.0,0.22098002175520867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322008393501306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24766606633953314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208353563584014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546861547551591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992862199780435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719939663225574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22898361330243103,0.0,0.0,0.20245418545133512,0.2581684880654273,0.19341204293500688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617093701481041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Num8er5,2020/03/25,"2YO boy won’t stay in crib, refuses bedtime, barely sleeps at night. This only started two weeks ago but every night. If I do get him to sleep by 8:30pm, he’s up between 1am and 3am, won’t go back to sleep. Used to be a perfect sleeper.",1.5549999999999995,2.5027298846153845,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,77.07692307692308,5.9692307692307685,24.538461538461537,5.985473137389443,0.4632153846153848,182,6,43,1,4,62,45,52,0.0,0.897,0.10300000000000001,0.7227,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,3,1,1,6,8,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,8,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,6,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993252677821688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290384628436944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894546711511868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748033155864157,0.0,0.1277934052408977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4220326974563857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101654442948694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6750686809178705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591574207185547,0.23967137656896506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196560370173416,0.0,0.0,0.1942072771603962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036953138728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monsieurR0b0,2020/03/25,"5 year old sexuality, am I handling this ok? So a few weeks ago my 5yo son (6 in October) was in his room with his door shut and in his underwear looking at his ""5 minute star wars stories"" book and it was flipped to the Princess Leia scene where she was in a bikini top.  We were a little taken aback by this because he rarely likes being alone and when he is he usually is playing with Lego. After talking to him a bit it seemed like he liked the way she was dressed and was acting out the scene (he LOVES reenacting movies and books). Later that night he asked to read that part of the book, which I reluctantly did.  While I was reading it he went to his dresser and got really long holiday socks and put them on. Then he said they were like Leia's boots.  I chalked it up to curiosity and acting out things maybe that seemed ""forbidden"".  No big deal.

Fast forward a couple more weeks. We are going through Disney Plus and he wants to watch Return of the Jedi, specifically asks for the Leia scene.  I kept my voice light and playful and asked why he liked it so much.  He said he would tell me but I wasn't allowed to tell his friends at school. I assured him that our conversations are only ever between us and mommy--we don't keep secrets from mom and dad. He then said quietly and with embarrassment that he ""liked naked girls"".  Well this was half expected by the way he was acting, but it also surprised me a bit because he's so young.  He is very mature for his age according to what other parents think (the way he talks and acts).  He said he doesn't know why he likes them. I asked if he's ever seen a naked girl in real life, or if anyone has ever asked him about being naked, adult or child. Thankfully he said no. I explained to him that it was normal to feel that way and he doesn't need to feel embarrassed or ashamed, but it's VERY important that he never asks his friends about being naked and he is not to act on anything with his peers or adults.  Hes never to keep secrets from mom and dad and no one is allowed to touch him, etc. etc.  We've been over this with him a few times since he was 3 in preparation for preschool, etc..  After talking a bit it was clear by ""naked"" he meant basically showing some skin in revealing tops, like shoulders/arms, etc.

Fast forward to tonight.  There was some junk mail on the table and he asked if I wanted it (he's really in to getting the mail for us, likes opening the mailbox, etc.).  I said no, it's junk mail I'm just going to throw it out.  Well one of the pieces of mail was a clothes catalog and there was a woman on the front in a bathing suit (not bikini) having bare shoulders and legs.  He said, well I could just take this one in my room and look at it later since I like naked girls.  In my head I'm like WTF!!!! lol.  He then immediately said he doesn't know why he feels this way and seemed apologetic/shameful.  I sat him down and told him the way we feels is perfectly ok and normal and he doesn't need to feel bad.  But I also told him that taking magazines into his room to ""look at naked girls"" is inappropriate for his age. He understands this word btw.  I reiterated that it's also not appropriate to explore these feelings with his friends. He can just talk to mom and dad about it.

I'm thrown for a loop because I didn't expect this until like 8 or 9 maybe.  Am I handling this ok?  He says him and ""Becky"" at preschool are going to get married, be secret ninjas, and kiss when they are teenagers 🤷‍♂️",3.526743429286604,4.585758086524823,4.295928243637881,88.88411764705884,72.39007092198581,7.345014601585317,25.171047142261163,7.654269350097167,1.0451309970796832,2701,80,591,32,51,866,297,705,0.05,0.81,0.14,0.9963,3,1,0,0,0,0,88.0,6,0,4,3,23,34,1,3,27,4,48,7,4,2,8,110,107,56,1,13,18,8,8,12,3,1,1,11,7,8,39,45,0,3,20,10,0,15,16,5,3,4,37,25,59,29,79,64,16,90,0,0,5,2,127,39,0,13,46,343,98,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649110568559815,0.0,0.0,0.054319280252946994,0.0,0.1258255534568136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03667216552653409,0.0,0.04315941654878725,0.0,0.3432160906040854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04379105867341149,0.09591362282024166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17177563824313954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04187466604289004,0.058031613754500534,0.0,0.0,0.054070559475606766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29246137298429914,0.0,0.1423239566972626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911269027272032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215612784742201,0.0,0.05480279114879502,0.0,0.08942052518103086,0.0,0.041946661225962384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382575835099599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323461612645127,0.0,0.0,0.057647004958773077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037044870852433416,0.3074754907928356,0.05256567758619683,0.0,0.0464139492379297,0.1321268258902307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047335469908662366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538013226661637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18427589602726055,0.0,0.0,0.03855458349074909,0.07777757968307021,0.08090072741291057,0.0,0.0,0.04921796157240163,0.10277385918875062,0.0,0.0,0.05503430947715975,0.0,0.1066183442958635,0.03988831084750373,0.0,0.0,0.058236192648882676,0.056794995765685585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052723726239352835,0.0,0.0,0.10492239631501013,0.059696174088653874,0.06719778909483405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39911289791193,0.041707963645864814,0.0,0.053079169328048216,0.0,0.1432373514318109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676940943541729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886724167988901,0.16861966466056055,0.09168198857296854,0.048286155959612866,0.0,0.0,0.034843459832434545,0.033605923248890536,0.0,0.0,0.030582270530688627,0.0,0.0,0.1002307221726167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459918211139273,0.1261745793799363,0.0,0.0577629666291276,0.08654854405697163,0.06186920510658076,0.2497799493762535,0.0841396481187921,0.0,0.14146846906379285,0.04861889931362467,0.1419757938931211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037256847753662885,0.0,0.0,0.03377415184034263
parenting,february_25,2020/03/25,"Infant acid reflux - tips/tricks? I have a 4 week old baby girl who has acid reflux. She will spit up a significant amount of milk after mist feeds, needs to be held all the time, and screams when she is uncomfortable. She has alot of hiccups, and is difficult to burp. We went to see the doctor and she prescribed something in lieu of Zantac as she said it was no longer being prescribed. We opted to try a probiotic instead. 

We’ve been using it for about a week and haven’t seen a huge change. I’ve also been eliminating things from my diet such as dairy, broccoli and spicy food so far. 

Has anyone out there had success with probiotics, and managing it though moms diet?",4.308538461538461,5.940181238461541,4.82,83.66000000000003,71.23076923076924,7.353846153846155,24.538461538461537,7.908726449838941,1.2713692307692308,531,15,102,7,10,169,94,130,0.076,0.8640000000000001,0.06,-0.264,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,8,0,14,9,1,1,1,15,21,12,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,5,10,5,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,8,6,9,1,17,10,3,12,0,0,2,0,12,5,0,1,6,68,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19808233692970398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319474577782062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620294389892227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535272688654778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299514888449382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900984666633972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18366338539071075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599152000461487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356155407583281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19738157813975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19068841976955467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455816232973214,0.0,0.2433599827910683,0.0,0.14443348228341574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816926981001326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139297455443063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973734508594956,0.0,0.0,0.2296165984669767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Smarty2_,2020/03/25,"How to deal with this? I got custody of my niece on December 14th, I see her three days a week. I'm not going to go to into detail on what happened there for personal reasons, but she's been adapting well to her new life. 






My own girls are young, so I'm not sure how to deal with the teenage drama that goes along with a girl who is almost 15. It's been a long time since I was a teenage girl, and things are so different now.












She is currently in her room, sobbing. The boy whom she likes ""snapped"" back, saying that he likes someone else. I'm not sure what to say to her and she's refusing to come out of there. How do I deal with this?",2.3398529411764706,3.2084179852941186,3.4228235294117653,94.74570588235296,75.02941176470588,6.910588235294116,23.894117647058824,7.1686216300943375,0.5842141176470594,490,14,119,5,10,158,84,136,0.094,0.833,0.073,-0.4473,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,6,0,8,1,0,4,2,22,17,8,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,5,10,10,0,1,1,1,0,3,3,1,1,1,4,3,14,5,21,13,1,18,0,1,1,0,22,6,1,1,11,77,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656694490759905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558528912761467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518908929866889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137169234369009,0.5453590399038468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422515061184105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472993542111012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200422444850562,0.0,0.14102554831576425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592620045281028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454562703115915,0.17228983354651373,0.0,0.0,0.15604466361503386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029860732191185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396274154838147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129447277133684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804460841642158,0.0,0.0,0.14051052580662693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586028047318114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940207740807204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33237396235875394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714443735145336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102818230206651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143962432585575,0.0,0.15853997939304315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AwkwardStop1,2020/03/25,"It's a shame that my kids and my nephews can't stand each other especially when I am very close with my brother I have two boys, 6 and 9 and two nephews who are 7 and 10. My brother and I are very close and we wanted our kids to be best friends instead they generally dislike each other. My kids tend to be a bit more reserved whereas my nephews tend to be a bit more wild. I also thought they would be more sensitive towards each other but they are nasty to each other. I asked them if they are that mean to kids at school and they said no. I asked then why are they so mean to each other and their response was because they don't like each other.",2.997867647058822,4.0298677573529424,3.943411764705882,91.01335294117649,73.63235294117645,6.322352941176471,26.1,6.2581,0.7300229411764705,509,17,113,3,10,164,72,136,0.107,0.858,0.035,-0.8613,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,9,1,4,4,0,1,3,0,15,0,0,0,0,26,24,14,0,3,2,5,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,5,10,18,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,1,23,3,9,16,12,7,0,0,0,0,26,4,0,1,3,88,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469491082479409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616829428021655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179200005200276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030046746737912,0.0,0.42237552404671136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945224254286113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450563165083344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42142849664689264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400694191870404,0.0,0.0,0.1957728888991092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357075789577862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779280182492252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192186071211113,0.11409667079328632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455065503140368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741512552561033,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,samanthawhitman,2020/03/25,"Too much Discipline? Stepmother here! My stepson is 7 and my stepdaughter is 5. We are in a week on/week off shared parenting plan. My husband works in the evening so Monday-Wednesday, it’s just me and the kids. 

The last week that they were here, my stepdaughter threw a fit and slammed her tablet (iPad) down really aggressively on her bed. We took her things away and I believe my husband spanked her. We save spankings for extra bad behavior. Then, once she was already in trouble, I went to check on her and discovered that she had went behind our backs and painted her nails on her bed. We have repeatedly told her she needed to to ask before nail polish is opened. A few hours later, their mother picked them up.

She has no rules or structure at her hours. Neglects to give my stepson his medication and never helps him with homework. She does not bathe them regularly or dress them appropriately. You get the picture. So when they come back, they are always a little wild the first day.

Mind you, my stepdaughter still has her iPad taken away from last week. So last night, she randomly pees her pants, tries to hide it from me and then also lies to me about a separate situation as well. I took all of her things away, sparked her, didn’t let her watch a movie before bed, and didn’t let her spend the night with her grandparents tonight with her brother. 

This kind of behavior is really abnormal for her and she has been very well-behaved all day. Do I give her things back? Everything but her tablet? Please help.",3.766169871794872,6.068333576388893,3.848749999999999,87.19817307692308,74.3472222222222,7.486324786324786,25.31303418803419,8.384062270229773,1.6220268162393159,1202,41,236,22,26,369,165,288,0.057,0.895,0.048,0.4392,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,2,7,3,16,8,1,0,12,0,19,2,1,1,3,34,32,21,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,8,19,0,2,0,1,2,6,5,4,1,1,13,1,57,4,31,17,5,46,0,1,1,0,56,16,0,3,24,166,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543329009356833,0.08365190779018315,0.08703903956782068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779076770933944,0.0,0.2948371509136047,0.24130242325844745,0.08734010306038557,0.0,0.0,0.17802086891057622,0.11785306591674767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901072202950684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492205714142766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153980405135473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909006016885727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401147277863477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897624381513614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054651355458537235,0.2006916810071945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022792501362688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20602805051304565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892913419544548,0.0,0.25579905161793604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392967850680608,0.0,0.0,0.10484084735327474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537768481114354,0.0,0.0,0.10562038082947467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689609243397484,0.07756265812124857,0.08067717570612129,0.0,0.0,0.1963278334152578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140001493226577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615053898859387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482395403516756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402420500366585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757945693884796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353701613093327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848306468961825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995375619553656,0.2324381380431257,0.07101935724981896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630938582733902,0.0,0.0,0.3356285854135704,0.0,0.1881034019596748,0.19393820589739488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615307324498463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thediabetik,2020/03/25,"What resources are there for a shut-in child? My sister whos about to turn 16 is basically a shut-in. She doesn't go to school. She goes to therapy but she clearly doesn't take the advice they give her and I doubt she tells the therapist what her life is really like. She's been on medication in the past but never found one that works.

She has people she hangs out with once in a blue moon but theyre not close enough to really be called friends. She does no chores and refuses to do them except for once in a great while. She doesn't communicate with me or our dad who we live with (our mom is dead fyi). I don't really make much attempt to communicate with her due to the fact that mentally and emotionally I've already gotten her out of my life. Our dad daily makes attempts to get her to go to school, and to do chores, and to communicate but she never does and she's pretty much made it clear that she plans to continue living this way. Also she basically hates our dad, most likely because our mom hated our dad and those feelings were transferred to my sister. And that has understandably created resentment in our dad. He is much less sympathetic to her than he was before, and although he still tries to get her to do stuff he's gradually trying less and less.

I think the best option for her to maybe develop some life skills is to be put in a more structured environment such as miltary school. But we can't afford that. 

So the second best option would be to have the state take her and put her in a place where she's living in close contact with people her own age who will interact with her regardless of whether she wants it or not. That way she can at least learn people skills. 

Is her situation enough for the state to take her? If it is I'll pick up the phone rn and call child services.",4.700020661157026,5.422259528925622,5.294424931129476,84.04345557851241,69.41322314049586,8.804820936639118,25.317837465564732,8.959647251330699,1.5880597796143243,1431,37,302,25,24,461,178,363,0.065,0.825,0.109,0.9602,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,9,0,2,8,7,10,3,1,15,0,28,4,0,4,5,59,49,26,1,4,12,9,1,2,1,2,4,0,2,2,16,24,0,1,5,0,0,5,10,4,0,2,6,2,48,6,49,38,15,33,0,0,1,0,68,16,0,8,10,207,64,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236758964031257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430939343558793,0.0755906701979199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762084752189076,0.0,0.08043281465808777,0.0,0.19839384928806686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303879126462936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543687575862318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632658267017628,0.0,0.19533676193796945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779408698900375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364049728859676,0.07302887416375345,0.0,0.098769596425639,0.0906758678387326,0.10744013822604123,0.0,0.0,0.10421285282328584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18664541941284005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20029492296115745,0.092359134452137,0.0,0.2503988126506439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944073047550392,0.12619077685137228,0.0,0.0949618889573931,0.0,0.0,0.09522281116120933,0.09525778524424104,0.0,0.0,0.22141032722425166,0.0,0.0,0.20845766640246866,0.0,0.14580520498342356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132958138646215,0.06405179138340178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902336883419601,0.19659275967704745,0.0,0.09875728070879262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616471385659292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004510732228475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166315174271647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869894775380296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624874179567734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548685024028506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820716713942127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132104625139312,0.0,0.0826179909912422,0.0,0.10809623385975477,0.10974944842011393,0.0,0.06056705155384954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835094747640216,0.10281478043506563,0.0,0.09840263733411693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575260211620104,0.150057228095833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881447173515884,0.0,0.0,0.06714701458780843,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,luotac,2020/03/25,"4 year old waking hysterically We have a 4 yo girl who has always been a challenge when it comes to sleeping. In the past 6-8 weeks we’ve have given into let her sleep with us, due to A few illness and lack overall sleep due to her not wanting to go to sleep.  She has never napped well either, the kid will not sleep until exhausted.    


last night she woke at 330 screaming of snakes and worms following her.  it was more than a dream and she was awake so it doesn’t seem like a night terror.   It took 1.5 hrs to calm her down all the while holding on to us for dear life and she was still scared all day and took forever to fall asleep.  It was the most terrifying moment for me to date as a parent.  we are going to go the paediatrician this week as it was that bad plus sleep overall is a concern.      


any experiences out like this?",2.539428571428573,4.106030270588239,3.72218487394958,90.00411764705885,75.70588235294117,6.504201680672269,21.55462184873949,7.1686216300943375,0.4221092436974794,646,16,143,7,14,210,111,170,0.128,0.787,0.086,-0.8631,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,1,4,11,0,2,12,0,15,11,8,0,3,23,26,12,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,2,10,12,0,1,1,2,0,8,4,5,1,0,10,1,13,6,25,14,7,32,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,2,20,95,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889536132659263,0.0,0.0,0.08082423350261309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923743521696744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238148483097734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665046430993583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626120963715178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264099210069286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688119937277817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153542226259947,0.08394951121771757,0.11613131395125735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166689432560836,0.0,0.0,0.22307130364116845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471641213748963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197238364061928,0.0,0.11345880244525852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899276059121068,0.0,0.0,0.10819946517221272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7136340459271437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949162977376003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26410049745486736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859314669833967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010268100023613,0.0,0.1906736930394605,0.0,0.10686327650173716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653754685997217
parenting,leviathan65,2020/03/26,What are you having your children do while schools are closed? I really want to find an online program that will be roughly 3 to 5 hours a day to keep my child's kind active.  Do any of you have any good experiences or bad with programs out there?,5.272333333333336,5.355378100000003,5.541999999999998,85.01433333333334,68.0,8.266666666666667,28.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.5606666666666662,195,6,41,2,3,62,44,50,0.064,0.735,0.201,0.7545,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,6,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,26,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282663611404361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262916537698476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307532782652235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080187898811229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28779996854423856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641113170873348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100991400949324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798850177204841,0.0,0.3279051639927474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172394302644767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186812981097176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857278367953175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,healing_mystic,2020/03/26,How to curb 16 month old behavior I know it's normal for toddlers to do things like when they are upset to fall backwards or something like that.  How do you curb that?  Mine still on occasion will sit in the floor and fall backwards.  Today she was hitting her forehead on the floor.  I don't understand why they do it other than they don't know how to express their emotions and things are going crazy in their little heads.  I can see her energy build up and she gets a little shaky and grabs her pacifier and bit it.  I know she's not doing anything unusual just need help for me to help her get through this.,3.994744990892531,5.294954303278691,4.301584699453553,88.36627504553736,71.54098360655738,7.38943533697632,25.850637522768675,7.793537801064563,1.28427577413479,483,15,99,6,9,151,77,122,0.053,0.846,0.10099999999999999,0.7089,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,5,0,6,4,0,2,3,0,11,2,2,3,0,20,21,10,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,4,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,2,19,2,14,18,1,20,0,0,1,0,16,11,0,2,7,69,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535830413211294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937683208320255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22603292197141245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996800537901966,0.0,0.11420007946449448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20622466268709816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693746336802937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312977238988907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634041183966947,0.4027937352389057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039014200945945,0.0,0.0,0.14899609059073535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968806858794516,0.0,0.0,0.21085503030232047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601249124036888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469511795259405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047269555495594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26699412961126656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19046970419053708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20918791037720813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131907536669875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brownbrownblue,2020/03/26,"Would you keep a secret from your partner if your child asked you to? What do I do? Would you keep a parenting issue secret from your partner if your child asked you to?

I found out today that my 11 year old was looking at some quite graphic things on his phone. He hasn’t been doing it for long (he doesn’t have a clue about clearing search histories). He was ashamed when I found out, and to be honest I don’t know what to do about it, except so far taking away his phone. I’m working today so we will have to approach the issue tonight. He has asked me not to tell his father about it as he is ashamed and worried about getting into more trouble. Should I keep his trust and keep it between him and I, or should I tell his father so we can approach the issue together?",3.1586497890295355,4.429465898734178,3.73487341772152,91.73665611814349,73.55696202531647,6.026160337552742,24.55907172995781,5.985473137389443,0.501656540084388,604,18,129,3,12,190,86,158,0.078,0.88,0.042,-0.6959,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,8,0,2,8,5,0,2,5,0,21,0,0,0,1,29,35,12,0,6,5,3,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,4,8,9,0,4,5,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,5,1,25,2,22,24,2,16,0,0,1,0,37,7,0,4,7,95,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845802162726616,0.0,0.12883349252194667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30070106553470843,0.0,0.0,0.0716421757532675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4293687585385315,0.0,0.4875321577460581,0.0,0.0,0.0753603379377642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135134868144795,0.11515050095956553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388966654334673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226113347491918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584936312687485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031009675084819,0.0,0.2397066646083809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910997860086942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25995701580646297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982866503115033,0.13925713817766328,0.0,0.194819393598666,0.0,0.0,0.08830403238016729
parenting,nathan9219,2020/03/26,"How to teach my 8 year old about ‘trolls’ ‘nasty people’ etc on YouTube So me & my fiancé have an 8 year old boy (he’s my stepson, but looked after him since he was 4) who’s OBSESSED with Minecraft & watches it on YouTube. Earlier tonight, my fiancé went into the bedroom & saw him typing something, when she asked him what he was typing, he gave the deer in the headlights look & went ‘nothing, I’m just watching a video’ (kind of like Jim in American Pie when his dad walks in).. turns out he’d been commenting on YouTube videos, she’s a bit weary now & doesn’t know how to approach him regarding comments, trolls etc & that not everyone on YouTube is a nice person.. when asked about comments, he replied ‘no one replies, so who cares?’ WE CARE. Has anyone got any tips or advice on how to approach it? Tried tonight but he just said ‘I don’t want to talk to you’.. any help would be appreciated :)",4.031486892995274,5.241319832402233,3.9531843575419,91.24470562956594,71.3463687150838,6.848474430597338,28.853029651912337,7.010146845296331,1.2736958315427591,706,27,151,6,13,215,116,179,0.03,0.833,0.13699999999999998,0.9697,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,0,0,13,5,0,1,7,0,11,0,0,3,0,16,26,11,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,6,4,0,0,1,2,0,5,4,1,0,1,9,6,15,4,20,14,3,26,0,0,5,0,30,10,0,1,12,77,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914742305927927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.726131321764846,0.0,0.1519133638856518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809999990019495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088401867664808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219424154262014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388087403915664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491397262521397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672971283920883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933299112622088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486705221694727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631353993100554,0.06138485438321242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456871593538175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759195956351365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717472016092387,0.0,0.23441100371144066,0.0,0.07568767355576515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743550594755748,0.09752808897941186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624787505572424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092395564468954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598855293263594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977650763241768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583382449850185,0.12149248865962985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588082327934687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708545443242304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934518630314584,0.0,0.0,0.14385631268223745
parenting,Ninotchk,2020/03/26,"A PE teacher from the UK is doing a daily half hour workout video for kids all over the world My kids are going insane inside, and daily walks just aren't cutting it. He does lots of aerobic stuff, no equipment required.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-8o8wMgAT-Y

There are 4 million views on Monday's video!",6.26471698113208,9.36497056603774,4.574188679245285,81.14769811320755,69.75471698113208,5.749433962264153,25.69433962264151,6.742157984588678,1.2407162264150946,252,8,38,2,5,72,46,53,0.10099999999999999,0.873,0.027000000000000003,-0.5889,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,5,6,2,7,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,2,25,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326126205085552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809528379488052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4868392266861018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42028219329327293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5659171925162791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GeniusIsaac,2020/03/26,Keeping these kids busy while at home! And while Im working as well... they are going stir crazy in this house... what are you parents doing to keep them busy??? and Dont tell me cell phones!!!,1.2923684210526325,3.5210190263157912,1.467631578947369,101.46092105263156,82.42105263157895,3.8,17.394736842105264,3.1291,-1.1023894736842106,145,3,33,0,4,43,34,38,0.105,0.895,0.0,-0.6259,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,7,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,4,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,2,20,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426876720303501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617622770589882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932985157548685,0.0,0.0,0.33738743696754764,0.0,0.0,0.3158394569471641,0.0,0.0,0.5197926349057467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246728015996346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25556828779724905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26290045244933025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128688498234119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newyorktoaustin19,2020/03/26,"Skills you learned as a single person that help you now What skills or habits did you acquire as a single person that help you now as a parent? 

I’m young and single, and looking forward to being a good a mom one day. Anything I can do/learn now?",4.801764705882351,4.594677411764707,5.385098039215689,86.73294117647059,69.0,6.8000000000000025,26.803921568627448,3.1291,0.6742627450980385,192,5,40,0,3,62,32,51,0.0,0.8220000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.8253,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,1,4,3,3,6,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,1,6,30,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25502386493525925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986187681753725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599320364850959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154430620054181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602405723910057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36295479238895095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099983766354019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441107437503049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5411909073130573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,missbanana99,2020/03/26,"Teaching a toddler how to peddle Just got my 3 year old an upgrade from his balance bike! (Bike with no peddles) he already has steering down pat, but we're struggling to teach him to peddle. Any tips? Thanks",1.881,4.6081750999999995,2.2800000000000007,92.965,85.5,3.2,28.0,3.1291,0.6041000000000003,164,8,30,0,5,50,36,40,0.129,0.7829999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.1882,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,6,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,16,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4591570649645903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829501706759108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327789529455771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43660828653882655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349794667316274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830725963014507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679433012679853
parenting,AncientQueen42,2020/03/26,Older kid stroller recommendations Hi everyone. Im looking for a stroller for my 3.5 year old. Something where the seat fully reclines and that will support her legs and not have them just dangling over the edge. And something where her head isnt touching the canopy when its pulled down. Shes about 40 lb and 41 inches tall so it has to have a high weight limit. Hoping you guys could share what strollers you have for your bigger kids! We go on a lot of day trips where her little legs cant keep up but shes outgrowing the stroller. I have a wagon but im not wild about that kind for this type of use.,1.7934552332913007,4.180293049180328,2.094590163934427,96.76043505674654,81.62295081967213,4.737452711223203,20.86002522068096,5.8734145424116955,-0.1292529634300128,480,14,104,3,13,145,87,122,0.0,0.9129999999999999,0.087,0.8497,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,1,3,1,1,8,4,0,0,8,0,11,4,3,1,0,16,17,8,0,2,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,5,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,12,4,13,15,1,20,0,0,1,0,15,12,0,2,5,63,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719952788960465,0.0,0.0,0.1350542929051964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001034397519822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901443845621967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735215038331145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21491852317982926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22125671249718765,0.0,0.20799471781672332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524047287607286,0.0,0.0,0.18613621638611272,0.0,0.21807178910888453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098872016461508,0.0,0.0,0.17585448034993562,0.0,0.0,0.1780357500324014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21974409426660674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224332711742242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376397993381822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086590612235265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25500905626829423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348553379934579
parenting,Clear-Photo,2020/03/26,"People assume I am disappointed in the gender of our baby.. So after asking this question I realize it's sometimes a common thing....anyway...

My husband and I found out the gender of our first child a week and a half ago. We have no previous children. I never expressed a preference in any way, shape, or form, because I DO NOT have one and neither does he. Yet whenever I tell family or friends the gender they apologize to me. I imagine this is only going to get worse when we start seeing people in person. 

It has really put a damper on things for me that people think I am disappointed when I am not and my biggest question is WHY they would ever think this. Has anyone gone through anything similar? 

I am also due the same month our grandmother passed away and everyone is being negative about that, but that's another problem.",5.366881472957424,6.6262964936708855,6.516881472957423,73.92299769850406,68.24050632911393,9.289758342922902,30.81933256616801,9.573946990214177,3.0781822784810133,658,26,111,14,11,221,105,158,0.092,0.887,0.022000000000000002,-0.8555,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,2,1,7,4,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,0,2,27,23,12,0,3,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,9,8,0,0,9,0,0,4,6,3,0,3,2,1,21,1,14,19,3,26,0,2,1,0,19,8,0,5,13,92,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491613295609246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073577813164394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117275530322124,0.17142418953028365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143097875789458,0.0,0.1345310173775653,0.0,0.15283276195730314,0.0,0.1535958767112563,0.0,0.0,0.09965656234632107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306341395929895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787801614540366,0.0,0.15621319870169922,0.0,0.0,0.1541154334332818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905694176849126,0.0,0.1792485901169863,0.12630509380162827,0.0,0.08541212831322198,0.0,0.09291007763772552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048905584218776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608670408161216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077902557695794,0.1243347447415398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400116356176101,0.14274539242591305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642933592077649,0.0,0.16434366120076013,0.3662724970892704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473018005505352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027327225097202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168698998785455,0.0,0.11571276536301794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288968878874192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21721915980550796,0.20950417804999996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976368927554607,0.13113467892245542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751626661309136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660120942540915,0.1161322842934068,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,perman,2020/03/26,"Parent Seeking Baby Gate Ideas Hello r/Parenting.

My wife and I are parents of a 1 year old who is getting to be very quick at getting around.  We have gates everywhere relevant other than the upstairs, though we hardly go up there with our daughter.  We are starting to really need a baby (toddler) gate at the top of the stairs but the floor plan and rails don't give us a chance to use standard gate types (also having an old cat doesn't help either).

Some images of my upstairs landing is found [here.](https://imgur.com/a/eoWdKeK)

Do any parents here have similar issues with their stair gates and if so how do they get around them?  Do you have any gate recommendations that might work with our layout?  We've been on the hunt for a gate for a while and I can't seem to find any that fit.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.",5.242039772727273,6.382706806249999,5.275227272727276,83.14886363636367,68.4375,7.8181818181818175,27.67045454545455,8.00094639256281,1.6516874999999995,659,21,126,8,11,206,107,160,0.05,0.887,0.063,0.4616,4,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,1,3,3,9,1,0,0,11,0,19,0,0,2,0,26,29,11,0,3,3,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,4,12,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,14,1,19,23,2,19,0,0,0,0,20,12,0,4,6,83,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690252113327676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636234240723303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380041301826005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217958203778714,0.0,0.0,0.1465714012410279,0.0,0.0,0.20952424766649927,0.12823644574823556,0.07597248190285001,0.0,0.0,0.14738084306080068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197495365820469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920354852927828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509065757920709,0.0,0.13952545745324618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418115949633532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912079614199726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805458638712839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.593735912396097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563776838007986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169574118956178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461821791548143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133829147294745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079858504189484,0.11545516626352585,0.0,0.11029863138985137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731942446973472,0.0,0.0,0.09496125814488628,0.0,0.0,0.08608446889391079
parenting,mysliceofthepie,2020/03/26,I need a better/prettier solution to keep my babies away from my tv stand (pic inside); please advise! [Here](https://imgur.com/gallery/HsGNhUz) is our current hideous and broken situation... I’m desperately looking to change it before our next one arrives! Show me what you have or send me links/ideas please! Thanks!,6.5313207547169805,9.697792320754722,5.464754716981133,74.76279245283024,69.18867924528301,8.768301886792452,31.35471698113208,9.3871,3.4352445283018875,255,11,38,6,5,76,47,53,0.10099999999999999,0.706,0.19399999999999998,0.6449,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,1,4,7,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,2,20,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321172124995336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022643040518435,0.0,0.0,0.2185009250026868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613524534154402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27889611368718115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959469398188594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746478867757195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831888682417171,0.0,0.0,0.26274682246846115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16741151631744014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5423865219745176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25134473549067426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777012568526517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274559403372618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JJA_KC,2020/03/26,"6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice Hi all! After trying for many years to conceive, my husband and I finally welcomed our perfect baby girl in February! She’s amazing and as much as we could cuddle and stare at her forever, the inability to put her down (on her part, not ours 🙄) has reached critical levels of sorts. Regardless of how tired she may be, the second she is put down she immediately wakes herself up and will not fall back to sleep unless being held! This has made our already sleepless nights that much more stressful. As she is barely 6 weeks old, I am advised not to start sleep training until several weeks down the road (at the very least!) but am not sure what to do in the interim. I know how frowned upon co sleeping is and the potential dangers it poses (trust me, I know all too well) but it seems like that is our only hope for getting a few hours of much needed shut eye at night. Any advice on navigating these new mom waters would be greatly appreciated.",5.2110677382319155,5.892753796019902,5.879800995024875,80.44601607347876,68.25373134328358,8.572675086107923,29.889399158055873,8.617729084823388,2.182507539226941,807,29,157,12,13,263,134,201,0.069,0.833,0.098,0.8083,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,0,0,2,5,11,1,1,8,0,17,8,5,3,4,31,26,14,0,5,7,3,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,7,6,1,1,3,0,0,4,5,2,1,2,2,2,22,9,30,16,9,37,0,0,2,1,22,16,0,4,18,111,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090804831873467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247341443838546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768659575024663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691499444829624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902472319358579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382154888793735,0.0,0.09614536355824288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059054801756173524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461870022032172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226674965633203,0.11131421697756062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423938191156708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155833615468712,0.0,0.05522195668329055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695405870438758,0.0,0.11459718619625595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647645318838934,0.0,0.0,0.2492756194102814,0.08381214629721817,0.0,0.10916746650888637,0.0,0.21214663724769448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23721713203529274,0.0,0.0,0.08596628894657138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240315302842103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34088656460486205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290051796715152,0.0,0.1276945207663908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524564137048118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000496597055086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947831561100445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653176786007842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591014382971604,0.12991419965031664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674162933471691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932636277172954,0.0,0.0,0.2720034948219267,0.0,0.10162976763511487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029502556461952,0.0,0.0,0.07278920652048547
parenting,Littlek1dluvr,2020/03/26,"How do you tell your children they can’t hang out with certain friends? 
Hey parents, I’m curious, sometimes there’s  parents that you aren’t comfortable having your kids around. So, when your kid asks to have a sleepover at a house with parents you aren’t comfortable with, how do you tell them no? What kind of explanation do you give your child, since you can’t simply say, “Well, I’m not comfortable with your friends’ parents.”",6.614814814814812,7.271449000000002,5.587259259259259,83.85866666666669,65.17283950617283,8.949135802469135,34.71851851851852,8.841846274778883,2.765491851851851,343,15,66,5,5,102,51,81,0.026000000000000002,0.7440000000000001,0.231,0.9490000000000001,6,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,11,2,0,7,8,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,2,1,10,13,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,1,13,8,9,13,0,5,0,0,0,0,29,3,0,0,1,43,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432116329156026,0.1620619064409322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26786461269882866,0.0,0.0,0.16629625266637074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002639867783556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805207543430306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7699531652551129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785747816265814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339961629385078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145081662168765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030367975987291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586540858446746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ceetothekam,2020/03/26,"14 month old refuses to sleep with the door closed. Our son has always been a great sleeper after the first 6 months. He’s love being in his crib and would sleep 12+ hours uninterrupted ( I know, it’s great) just recently he started refusing to go down for naps and freak out every time, which also drew into his night time sleeps. It’s now super hard to put him to bed. We came to realize, the reason why he’s freaking out is because we close the door to his room. If we leave it open he goes down no problem. We don’t want to keep putting him down with the door open because our home is a bit tight and we don’t want to wake him, and want to be able to make noise. What’s the best way to go about making him comfortable to be in his crib with the door closed?",3.2654488989271613,3.871068136645967,4.043647656691134,92.14058159232077,72.60248447204971,7.34522868435912,22.71089779785432,7.348242739294969,0.4971068322981367,594,13,140,6,11,190,97,161,0.092,0.772,0.136,0.8658,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,7,0,0,3,4,9,0,0,9,0,10,5,4,3,0,37,22,6,0,6,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,7,0,5,21,0,4,3,1,0,5,3,3,0,1,2,2,16,6,26,16,2,32,0,0,0,1,23,14,0,1,12,77,21,0,0.14132282090936932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301580882269376,0.11759190813173638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229815983070335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483095816192107,0.0,0.1542879181433206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16163565829124993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190705718194298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120209119270713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063403181696093,0.0,0.0,0.3116178179319303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659748890384245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417583121305941,0.0,0.1391745112813026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561421661563535,0.0,0.0,0.07766732646072992,0.0,0.0,0.14964046193856234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275493634820186,0.0,0.18866816069338604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256050547030015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132621893953005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829452748708358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522685354640726,0.0,0.2841369372779378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530339717741655,0.13953923633585244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4242746476814727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002902002421893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481294672054767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500675839611358,0.11217547720200452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752186451206318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039167722419813,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SquattingFrog,2020/03/26,"Calling any and all parents of a 3rd grader! I am a college student working to become a teacher, and like your children’s schooling, my classes are now online. Could I ask you a few questions for an assignment? I could also give you a few activities to do if your kids are bored. PM me if interested. Thank you!",2.4933333333333323,4.808375737704921,4.430737704918034,81.4043579234973,78.50819672131148,6.033879781420765,31.478142076502728,7.1686216300943375,2.181915846994535,244,13,44,3,6,83,46,61,0.036000000000000004,0.8220000000000001,0.142,0.7339,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,5,0,1,2,4,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,9,5,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,3,4,7,3,1,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,3,2,35,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223201327518674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898019572163437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609268544901772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082511461482433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849988917947915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4456875790361043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26774433964563377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635731343707513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099146831090688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126631009209445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824706285518182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569637203620591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20319282000765196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GhostRatOfVioletMoat,2020/03/26,"Newly Pregnant and worried about the Coronavirus! (UK) I’ve just found out I am pregnant (4 weeks) and I work in a (terms of exposure) a high risk place- specifically aviation. 

I’m worried about how it’s going to work in terms of my job, I know pregnant women are advised to self isolate for 12 weeks but selfishly I’m worried about pay and obviously my pregnancy.

If there are any women, or men who have some knowledge as to what rights I have or what I can do
Please let me know. Stressed pregnant woman here!
Thank you",2.1848930481283406,4.7007516960784335,3.4126381461675592,87.11141711229948,81.05882352941177,6.454188948306596,26.91978609625669,7.686295010490155,1.7274588235294115,411,18,80,7,11,133,70,102,0.166,0.775,0.059000000000000004,-0.7983,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,2,7,4,0,2,3,0,8,0,0,1,1,16,15,9,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,4,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,1,13,13,3,11,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,4,4,49,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187243900972434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21262357583303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020936301571273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20488742091772147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19243595375877726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314702692948687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982966229964628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20260541692866002,0.2128662323357851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560685805058653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023011426406636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22213502353036027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17853573818805474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111023002190577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28235254426939754,0.5908063669869129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Strikernonsense,2020/03/26,"18 Month Old Twins Not Saying Any Words, Only Babbling Hi guys, I'm new here. I have 18 month old identical twins, born at 35w5d. They're beautiful. They're perfect. They're easy kids.

And they're not saying any words.

I've heard everything from, ""this is completely normal,"" to ""this is a big developmental red flag!"" and I'm pretty nervous. They're babbling really regularly but they don't mimic words a lot and I've only ever heard them say ""mama"" a handful of times. Eye contact is good and I'm not worried necessarily about autism but I'm confused and wondering if this could just be a late bloomer scenario.

I've tried scheduling an appointment with my boys' pediatrician but for right now they're only scheduling sick visits not well visits at the clinic.

Can anyone give me some reassuring words/advice?",3.77811403508772,6.423498302631582,4.819894736842105,78.55492982456143,75.84210526315789,7.737543859649122,25.26491228070175,8.648137234880735,2.1115959649122806,650,23,114,14,15,212,97,152,0.07400000000000001,0.8009999999999999,0.125,0.7719,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,2,1,6,6,0,2,6,0,8,4,2,0,2,26,16,9,0,3,9,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,3,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,2,1,0,2,8,5,4,8,12,2,18,0,0,2,0,16,4,0,5,12,50,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066973043024338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22362304615293516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149665798683238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239168099969818,0.0,0.0,0.13127632548985976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487276821524001,0.0,0.0,0.14777047062815812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157727047971155,0.0,0.13790804650932245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280206486416954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547339418192074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397843604290341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624776194262856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587982651535461,0.0,0.0,0.16109710077320402,0.0,0.0,0.3450631423129876,0.0,0.0,0.3751474129508932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672746762409507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053319305803777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041413937281472,0.0,0.3922611494132817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587486850148368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163067160139266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783370270025034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783069306044081,0.0,0.16697691656204716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Neat_Imagination,2020/03/26,"Some sitters make me laugh I am a single dad of two boys - 7 and 10 - and needed childcare maybe 15 hours a week. I fully understand that there is no such thing as a perfect sitter and sitters generally have low job prospects (you don't see professionals giving up a solid career to babysit). It's a gig job. What makes me laugh is how many sitters try to charge $25, 27 or even 30 an hour. That's more than what a teacher makes an hour and all a sitter is doing is making sure the house doesn't catch on fire. I asked them what makes them so qualified for such a high rate and they really don't have an answer that relates to being a sitter. I interviewed one girl who said she had a Master's in Art History and another that worked with autistic kids. If you are stupid enough to hire someone at that rate, then you're making more work for yourself.

I ended up hiring one of their school's after-school counselors and he was happy with a few more bucks an hour than what he was already making.",4.642943640517898,5.144980133663367,5.190792079207924,85.52286747905562,69.44554455445545,7.799543031226197,25.934501142421926,7.61054688173877,1.2152584920030467,785,21,162,8,13,252,130,202,0.05,0.8340000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.9186,2,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,2,4,4,6,7,1,0,16,0,16,0,0,8,3,27,29,13,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,12,9,0,0,2,1,1,1,4,2,0,3,4,3,14,5,18,24,8,15,0,1,1,0,18,7,0,3,7,104,26,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280002139840974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618873004245745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125032131878114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065869971642484,0.12434511078466327,0.0,0.07948453571239658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544269209789786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281059416664537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714757780673128,0.0,0.0,0.4740492018312415,0.13885812568695613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388410698300743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623029777056825,0.12200756139575684,0.12089937895538234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923182081936744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309325528912832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709395304406805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447248274597507,0.0,0.0,0.2435843823385119,0.09589672746226616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196510344865964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342059643181435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994965585619505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170409207631829,0.0,0.11755632178097035,0.12527991883780076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653082591839676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522033285703092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nileana,2020/03/26,"Dealing with tantrums My son is 17 months and throws these huge tantrums that I know could last for hours. For example, my son kept waking up last night and wanted to breastfeed. He woke up about 5 or more times so I decided to give him pediasure (he is having a bit of an issue with gaining weight and eating so his doctor asked us to give him pediasure). If he wakes up 2 times or less then I just leave him alone. But 5 or more times then I assume he is hungry so that’s why I give him the pediasure. I know that my son uses breastfeeding at night to make up for not eating much during the day and he uses it as a crutch. I don’t breastfeed a lot anymore so I know I don’t make much and it’s obviously not enough if he doesn’t eat well too during the day. So he didn’t want the pediasure and threw a major tantrum with kicking, screaming, hitting, throwing the pediasure, and crying. His dad told me to just ignore him until he picks up the pediasure and drinks it himself. This went on for about an hour. I decided to just pick him up and took him to the kitchen and opened up a different flavor of pediasure. I let him look at the color, smell it, and poured it into a straw cup. He proceeded to drink it. His dad got mad that I gave into his tantrum and says he will think he can get away with whatever if he throws a tantrum. I don’t think I gave in because I got him to do what he needed to do. I got the crying to stop. I don’t want him to associate pediasure with negativity because then he won’t want to drink it anymore. I feel like I didn’t give in but I distracted him, asked him nicely to drink it, and finally got him to drink it. Is this a proper way of handling a tantrum? Do you guys have advice? Was his dad right?",2.8516318804992835,3.936273737569064,4.144413750767342,89.22924391242073,74.05524861878453,7.572907714344177,24.733374258236136,8.045849151850463,1.1767461428279098,1351,41,302,20,27,445,157,362,0.092,0.863,0.045,-0.932,1,1,5,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,0,1,12,13,7,1,20,0,22,13,2,6,1,60,58,31,0,9,13,6,2,1,0,2,1,2,1,1,17,21,10,3,9,5,0,6,11,10,1,0,15,8,45,3,46,38,9,44,0,0,2,0,53,18,0,8,20,194,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494318795696809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002923368551513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241468535430735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252835605508464,0.0,0.08166994111411154,0.0,0.0,0.105978698813109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490079768396237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940342502925048,0.0,0.1909684986473159,0.11212029855386926,0.08961700176930909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908192829328186,0.0,0.08897255623688875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4257724699626908,0.0,0.26684133280375283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898179077142492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04395245269631668,0.06210002984818449,0.0,0.09522330381675813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04541530436318391,0.33354977931025703,0.0,0.0,0.27809100181399554,0.0,0.0,0.08607051470434658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120941544628682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907282739905735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331694906124592,0.1417127618954917,0.0,0.0920421986028396,0.0,0.08888783617705284,0.0,0.0424677061935954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299603890677837,0.0,0.0,0.07390146961454655,0.0,0.0,0.11604770589189167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938359111489406,0.0,0.12780138435461091,0.06445460860465843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314853007228686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423442238075613,0.0,0.06912713106902434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267411966317616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139748182608544,0.0,0.0,0.15206194011149296,0.0,0.0,0.0830616225668499,0.09657810585182187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456140655096016,0.15015249760990024,0.0,0.0,0.20508508575738107,0.06899789948011703,0.0,0.10585258308972084,0.07815701166122188,0.08058137419082194,0.07843729314630643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mylynn83,2020/03/26,Do infants get fussy the week before they are going to have their next growth spurt I am a first time parent and my 11 week old has been super fussy. All he wants to do is cry and eat. I know he is due for another growth spurt and I was wondering if it is normal for an infant to be fussy the week before a growth spurt?,1.3169565217391297,2.8449817826086985,2.7471739130434787,95.84945652173916,79.0,5.759420289855073,15.847826086956525,6.42735559955562,-0.6235043478260871,249,3,59,2,6,81,47,69,0.042,0.799,0.159,0.8225,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,0,1,9,17,4,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,6,1,5,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,8,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23475970646514555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810140366609774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459237688097116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22908708923942644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904338408771932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696905918772385,0.0,0.1272372505516972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303964439895135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381009544223436,0.0,0.219356740166036,0.0,0.0,0.23492640676316906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485943698130281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054734391490036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320513529020901,0.0,0.5387536989194562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427903845486236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hysterical__Paroxysm,2020/03/26,"PDF of Community Resources available to during the COVID-19 Pandemic I created a PDF of community resources to help during the Coronavirus shutdown. While I did add all of the resources specific to Monroe County and Rochester, NY (where I'm from), most of the ones included are available all over the United States. Just use CTRL+F to search for the resource you need, like diapers, formula, food, or rental assistance.

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* Accessing Food
* Shelter
* Babies/Children
* Rental/Utilities Assistance
* Financial Resolutions
* Mental Health
* Pets
* Domestic Violence
* Physical Health
* LGBTQIA\* Health
* Sexual Health
* Veterans
* Educational Resources (for homeschooling)

The PDF itself is 35 pages of resources. It includes linked information, so altogether there is HUNDREDS of pages of resources to help you with anything you could imagine. It will open on any device.

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parenting,taaacossss,2020/03/26,"Strawberry Poptart Poops So... I'm obviously too tired for my brain to function properly. At about 2am my 10mo old woke upset, so naturally I went to change and feed him a ""tide me over till it's a real wake up time"" snack. While changing the poopy diaper I swear it smelled like strawberry poptarts. 

I'm sure it didn't really... I'm sure it was my drained brain from waking up at 2am and also being in the third trimester of my current pregnancy. The sleep deprivation is going to be so very real soon with an infant and 12mo old. At least this was a pleasant side effect of exhaustion. 😂",2.9906779661016927,4.812569423728816,4.812000000000001,81.58003389830509,75.10169491525423,8.109830508474579,26.206779661016952,8.841846274778883,2.084570169491526,464,17,91,10,10,158,84,118,0.121,0.792,0.087,-0.4767,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,7,0,6,10,6,1,3,10,12,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,4,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,5,1,8,4,17,5,1,17,0,1,0,0,2,8,0,0,8,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002131202408625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4188407525500068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39690565888314294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661574013378326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165045429310048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937031431506581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4270530800886291,0.12017948908031136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18773255401696332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536160435972988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093893622633061,0.21561523952082065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478723251939985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390436673184248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,j3nitik,2020/03/26,"Changed sheets = sleep problems? So my LO is 8 weeks and up until two nights ago, he was doing great sleeping in his bassinet. Actually, he had his best night (slept 6 hours straight) two nights ago but last night and tonight have been a different story. He is whiny and eventually starts crying when we put him in, despite us putting him in when he’s asleep like we’ve been doing. Our routine hasn’t changed. I thought it was because he’s been gassy but tonight when he whined in the bassinet, I laid him in my bed (not touching me or the covers, which would be the only difference from the bassinet) and he settled immediately. So I started wondering what’s different from two days ago, and I realized that I did his laundry and changed the bassinet sheets. Could that be causing the problem? Like it no longer smells familiar? If so, how can I fix it?",4.263363039399625,6.054469079268293,4.008048780487808,88.79623827392125,71.62195121951221,7.241275797373358,32.127579737335836,7.882392219407189,2.095267917448406,675,32,137,9,13,204,101,164,0.094,0.8370000000000001,0.07,-0.6136,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,0,1,7,7,0,0,7,0,18,4,4,2,0,21,23,18,0,5,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,3,0,3,9,2,18,4,9,10,1,28,0,1,0,0,16,7,0,3,21,82,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.11057490672163647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30132932026528203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907315649686872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891259838450532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640131101842904,0.35960311698721265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046938096339664,0.0,0.12446649317991518,0.07307603334651533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551567218624514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249254566988668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158822366477264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236335121714104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071577774874182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253376980893155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861779001736522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21684609114265568,0.0,0.2278171183537225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22678508128584904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040380608011706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995604602016816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33206429402084203,0.0,0.13629883135220786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089101596641397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122880630403615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049267663338644,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,digitalmarketingbham,2020/03/26,"How to Help Your Child To Learn Reading I hope it will help some others  


[https://medium.com/@RachelRobertss/how-to-help-your-child-learn-to-read-14cab6c65f8a?sk=98d52f81966b9c9d4967bf27189e9b21](https://medium.com/@RachelRobertss/how-to-help-your-child-learn-to-read-14cab6c65f8a?sk=98d52f81966b9c9d4967bf27189e9b21)",70.58812499999998,90.38050156250002,14.080000000000002,8.365000000000009,-60.375,5.7,20.5,7.1686216300943375,0.6363499999999997,299,2,13,1,2,36,14,16,0.0,0.581,0.419,0.8253,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,9,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6468552851498245,0.0,0.0,0.2396290679179756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7239862912255324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,phone_scissors_pen,2020/03/26,"Stimulus for new parents? The newly announced stimulus bill allocates $500 per kid. 

My wife and I just had our first child in February...and haven’t yet filed any tax year claiming a dependent. Not in 2018 or 2019, the tax years used for income qualification for the other parts of the stimulus. 

Assuming we’re out of luck? Or is there some other way to prove you have a kid and should qualify for the $500 kid stipend?",4.5305284552845535,5.912204573170732,5.425365853658537,80.50723577235773,70.34146341463415,9.856910569105693,29.52032520325203,10.125756701596842,2.958115447154472,333,13,66,9,6,109,60,82,0.0,0.9540000000000001,0.046,0.5484,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,2,1,14,6,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,10,4,2,9,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,6,5,39,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24734024600301602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309377761589481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35128044844777484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038650342934566,0.3938704072036449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141349796019657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887018743048326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684440507116184
parenting,JusticeMarketBIHub,2020/03/26,"Da MC (feat. Hietrev) Child Of The Continent     hie am new here, my post reminds me that my continent Africa is a child and has its parents and ...how are they rearing her to the best of the future ...but so far the Journey has been worth it ?",0.3306250000000013,2.6727241458333357,1.788333333333334,96.49000000000002,88.79166666666666,4.866666666666667,22.583333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.4353083333333334,181,7,40,2,6,58,39,48,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7269,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,4,6,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,3,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5130342027368616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4721493656243276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428273067348128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4681980333424386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,popzing,2020/03/26,"Ways we fundamentally think differently than our children I have a grown son of 26, something I really noticed with he and his friends, which is compounding in younger children, is that they don’t speculate. I mean that they have had smart phones for their whole social upbringing and they real time fact check everything. Its not that I don’t want to work off of proper data, I do, but in the course of riffing on an idea older folks that are pre-internet thinkers will float through ideation using place marker facts/points and repairing the outcome in editing. And I mean this could be talking about a hike or some other mundane pub conversation, like ‘you should hit this Jones trail, its like ten miles up the canyon’ and before you can explain the waterfall and eagles nest and killer lunch rock, the kids need to stop the conversation at every point and verify if its ten miles up or thirteen. Ill get to the google map eventually, but lets just talk and fix the facts once we agree that they are needed. 
It really is just a tempo of conversation kind of thing, but i find many kids just can’t riff or flow because of it. Does anyone else struggle with this? 
My solution is simple in that I point it out, and I agree that I may seem like a luddite to them but that fast paced, from the top of your head wit is a priceless skill. I am mostly curious if you have those conversations and what they’re like.",13.177381247418426,7.756025565055765,11.244361833952913,67.68142090045438,57.28996282527881,14.780834365964479,43.27178851714167,11.429527900616536,4.56271961999174,1123,36,219,19,9,346,170,269,0.059000000000000004,0.828,0.113,0.9184,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,3,4,6,3,4,8,0,1,15,0,23,3,1,1,2,50,34,20,0,7,13,1,0,4,1,3,1,0,0,4,22,16,1,1,8,2,1,2,4,1,0,2,1,0,26,7,28,26,3,24,0,0,0,0,30,17,0,9,8,143,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975950588561948,0.14301250835554594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508447328605337,0.0,0.11876922961777335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144039187111504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582762270336727,0.0,0.0,0.12214424154959752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659816577164725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759913045014465,0.0,0.12544226152226548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757029398443687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078363745089972,0.0,0.07292290420892264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14324564635933154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575647576861514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534733405691744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272631778577835,0.0,0.2727599001396292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150855447970478,0.0,0.3040792190197133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698825274906044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890864781661349,0.0,0.1486443025908364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582762270336727,0.0,0.3958344175931052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886849167542055,0.1788324220169474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270651054887789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422805547492064,0.0,0.1074527259301402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669211383644768,0.0,0.14591555058644173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437243425060627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272835307856164,0.08943491638144911,0.0,0.0,0.08138811683316242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054918879739512,0.0,0.0,0.0823257725180404,0.11078924351510623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558320575180932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161327599042352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElectricalTune9,2020/03/26,"Introducing my children to their half-sister? Situation is super weird. Sorry + thanks in advance.

My ex-wife and I had 4 children together (Jo 20F, Ripley 19M, Cosima 19F, and Morgan 17M) before she left us 10 years ago. The day she left, she was supposed to pick up the kids from school, but decided to pack a suitcase, leave a note, and just vanish. I was unreachable at the time, the school couldn't get in touch with the emergency contact, and they were left there for a few hours before I had to come and tell them that their mother had left. As a result, my children are deeply traumatized.

This past January, she told me she was moving back to our province and actually apologized for leaving, saying she had been overwhelmed at the time. She wanted to reconnect with the kids and attempt to coparent with me. I have not forgiven her, our kids have not forgiven her, and it is extremely unlikely she will *ever* be their parent again. However, because my children have expressed interest in reconnecting and gaining closure, we have been working with professionals to facilitate their relationship.

Even though my children are all adults (save for Morgan), they asked me to act as an intermediary in this situation and help them navigate. We have drafted rules for this situation as a family - she is not allowed to take them to her home, she has to have all visits be supervised, she needs to give 24 hr notice, she cannot bring a guest with her, etc. etc. - and gave copies to myself, the kids, my husband, and my ex-wife. The kids get final say in everything.

This weekend, my ex came to the house while my children and husband were out. She had a little girl with her, who she explained was her 9 year old daughter, and told me she felt bad for not telling our kids about their half-sister. I was upset, so I asked her to leave. I let her know that I did want to introduce them, but the kids couldn't be blindsided by this and I needed to discuss with our family therapist, my husband, and do some research. She would not leave, and then she finally took her child and left after I shouted at her - which I should never have done.

After talking to my husband, we decided that we need to tell our kids ASAP. We have made our calls and got some great advice from our therapist, but we wanted to reach out to fellow parents and see if anybody had some additional tips/advice. We want to explicitly broadcast the message that just because their mom has stuck around for this kid doesn't mean that they were... To blame, I guess? Our kids have dealt seriously with a feeling of guilt and responsibility.

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... Any advice?",6.855821501014197,7.158912634888441,6.9089655172413815,75.80758620689656,64.63894523326573,10.045436105476677,32.82150101419878,9.83838024301492,3.0689415821501016,2071,78,380,40,29,663,240,493,0.076,0.861,0.062,-0.7168,5,0,0,0,0,0,86.0,16,0,13,5,11,11,0,3,21,0,46,0,0,4,5,85,77,32,0,12,11,10,3,0,2,3,0,3,1,19,14,42,0,0,7,1,0,8,10,6,0,0,27,7,84,5,60,41,8,46,0,1,1,0,110,18,0,5,20,275,98,6,0.0,0.0,0.07370492173612067,0.0,0.0,0.22141673076115329,0.06695145889612966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183509914187193,0.09177539556870748,0.051361970577204666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672363787502331,0.1412179054386804,0.0,0.0,0.058076755076238565,0.06306314340248392,0.0920829462055942,0.0,0.12853838261423384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712304398534169,0.08638448397802724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506111575272994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048709634746968766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729187932985297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684684870648675,0.04988586250124415,0.06831985312911949,0.0,0.0,0.06788014648000558,0.0,0.14240309751977526,0.0,0.038189479419596585,0.0,0.07251920528996839,0.1654755618077636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892104876585752,0.07245382027023678,0.0,0.0,0.06040704180907165,0.08327043885299004,0.08320315887156522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05062516206360012,0.0,0.0757612445945067,0.0,0.07438035930330536,0.08714974935834738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04150848883959622,0.0,0.0,0.31989510788526576,0.4103096859669014,0.07723300935650645,0.0,0.0,0.0756993999252135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146689373005098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227267939090907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845806738354599,0.0,0.08027484348569881,0.0,0.1680102791404883,0.05825223605867425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598969884496813,0.0792544564062358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773092405098788,0.0,0.07210050031256822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108934418665181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012659077464835,0.0,0.15287775031809525,0.06018643648887526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546915985086776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454797311937966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678803301959238,0.060706948034029325,0.1980457164528144,0.06953649603097267,0.0,0.17538882174760775,0.0,0.0,0.07420636862989348,0.0,0.08808255248788341,0.0,0.0,0.14434143857645707,0.08391494352534414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908514869727987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819466676666387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05498564817662268,0.0,0.0,0.053653280002575375,0.0,0.09177539556870748,0.09727575652780472
parenting,TheRealJonnyRocket,2020/03/26,"22 month old boy not talking Hello. I have a 22 month old boy who seems to be behind in his communication development. He does have social skills, he responds to his name (when he is not distracted), looks at me for approval when he does something clever, points, babbles, and makes eye contact. He also has a few of his own ""words""; whenever he wants me to take something from him he blurbs something like ""ehh shah"" everytime. He sometimes says ""mmm"" when he eats something yummy. He also copies a lot of things as well, such as blowing kisses and shaking his head. Other than these things, he does not use words in his communication. His 5 year old sister (same mother, different father) was diagnosed with autism and is non-verbal and very reserved. My early thoughts were that my son may also have autism, but beside the talking, he does not exhibit typical autistic traits, and is fairly social. Has anyone had similar experiences to this?",7.683176470588232,8.191762729411764,7.212941176470586,73.62823529411766,62.88235294117647,9.623529411764707,33.47058823529412,9.3871,3.065105882352942,744,28,125,12,10,233,111,170,0.008,0.9229999999999999,0.069,0.81,1,0,4,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,2,4,0,13,5,2,2,0,22,20,14,0,1,5,4,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,7,6,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,4,3,12,4,16,14,4,15,0,0,2,1,35,4,0,3,11,74,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30044631733018284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756581456048755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710884311380113,0.0,0.130841814299795,0.0,0.0,0.4383689145952928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814460757210644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250188914732175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852517179359454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611825104546464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516416623027494,0.0,0.0,0.10646860503117113,0.0,0.0,0.08359398959060292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991954683948152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.394232852269489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838564921163977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959029574260664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400740564882553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553185134319222,0.0,0.3856418791316834,0.123858623850051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415961889190096,0.20131505836810784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639846044134726,0.0,0.0,0.0994210010171768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816108966340224,0.0,0.10333032765530868,0.07386565892117422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125994929245268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064593608057659
parenting,orogenie,2020/03/26,"FaceTime autonomy Hi. So my soon to be 2yo son is not currently in my custody. We're also not allowed our visits currently due to the current atate of affairs. We are allowed to FaceTime. Which is kind of a lot to ask to begin with from a 2yo to begin with, imo. I know his foster parents. Today before work we had a call. 
He had just woken up from a nap, or actually was woken up from a nap and it always takes him a little bit to ease into being up and about. But that is when they called me. He did not want to talk which I totally understand. Every other time he is full attention but he didnt even want to look at the phone today. 
The problem is this. Foster mother was pushing him to talk to me really hard. She kept putting the phone up in his face saying I was giving him kisses even when I wasn't and telling him if he didnt talk to me he was going back night night. All of this only further upset him and she kept telling him he was being mean. I dont see it like this at all. I said more than once it was okay and I'm not a morning person either. I said we can try again another time. She stopped briefly and spoke with me a little then went back to him again, who was still not in ghe mood. I repeated myself again, we chatted a couple minutes and ended the call. 
I cringed so many times during this experience but was unsure what exactly to say. Maybe I should have been more firm to just end the call. I want to be prepared for next time. I'm seeking opinions on how I might bring this back up to foster mother, if I should, to prevent a repeat, and what I should say, how to explain autonomy is important to me. I also dont want him to feel as though talking with me is a chore, or a punishment. 
If he was in my custody I might have a less difficult time with this expression but because he is not I feel I have to be more careful. I don't want to overstep any unclear boundaries, and remain respectful of foster mother, as, even though I disagree with how the situation was handled, I do feel she had good intentions. At least, she has stated that she feels badly that I cannot see him right now. 
I typically respond by just doing as I see fit when he is with me physically but as that is not happening for awhile and we have or attempt a chat at least daily, I want to address this in a way that does not come off as a correction or unappreciative because these calls are not a requirement and I do love to see my boy even if he doesn't want to 'talk.'",3.401155686018697,4.253386301369865,4.909434116112198,85.14622988693195,72.48336594911937,7.713002826701458,26.523211567732115,7.984000788550335,1.4646124809741248,1924,63,409,26,36,648,222,511,0.084,0.843,0.07200000000000001,-0.0814,6,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,6,0,1,3,30,14,1,1,24,1,54,3,1,6,5,92,95,42,0,15,26,5,5,1,0,5,0,6,2,2,22,25,0,5,9,4,0,7,17,5,0,0,26,16,62,8,67,59,13,66,0,0,5,2,74,23,0,13,35,303,84,2,0.0,0.0,0.07350637355174447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120474815005545,0.06267646768137475,0.0,0.0,0.05122361040038231,0.07898487245144417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041874453469114,0.0,0.0,0.17376091932874452,0.06289326231003195,0.09183489083357184,0.0,0.06409606133228242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223543497825571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845764398835197,0.0,0.0767988987226651,0.0,0.0,0.06488585247177238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334572437163525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659174503610365,0.0,0.17656077244785007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343125607442166,0.0,0.0,0.1990059148069271,0.0,0.06346459518356233,0.0,0.0,0.07368234314202432,0.0,0.0,0.15234641453192466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225864233466718,0.04280895626094306,0.06317907001982423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660968436041588,0.0,0.06747644075080214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843943812869346,0.0413966722213681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03680000986914009,0.15099095792998296,0.0,0.0,0.0632540627443329,0.0,0.0,0.06403865560248724,0.06798378974431404,0.0,0.0,0.07636776811774885,0.0756741273411402,0.08205105116402739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981592845272102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010903488843853,0.14137489530106306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021870956154488,0.0,0.05728808741404898,0.0,0.0,0.08363954312042207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657709197557577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207589068510033,0.0,0.07572247040346801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825514961529885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432717283547869,0.14330272514588033,0.17970448608423414,0.0,0.0,0.2400972189693808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466850127728054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06015467447396624,0.0629751065113868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566350559783752,0.302717070601598,0.13167481059155348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801293927035647,0.0,0.2196131836943688,0.0,0.14279866133127406,0.0,0.0,0.05114075788889978,0.0,0.0,0.078416023418269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31100062255753996,0.05978951088724381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982706699469285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483752644533176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bonobo77,2020/03/26,"Tablets, working from home, oh my! We have been very strict with screen time for our 6m. And have resisted the urge with use as a tool to quiet him down, or get some alone time.   But my SO and I are home and working from home.  Well, trying to.  It has been very difficult to balance our 2f, 6m and our jobs.  So we have resorted to giving him a tablet so we can work for at least an hour or two.  Since we use guided access on our iPads we easily limit him to what we think is good, YouTube kids, games, and Minecraft when I get the chance to go on the home server with him. 

But now he is being a MONSTER when we remove the tablet from him.  He has a fit and takes almost 20mins to calm him down...  I don't know if I am asking for advice, or just venting here...

Either way... this time home is a blessing and curse.",1.6441604010025088,2.9580632280701766,2.8367293233082727,96.47960526315792,77.53801169590643,5.821386800334169,19.231829573934835,6.1826913282559595,-0.3001398496240601,616,12,148,4,14,198,100,171,0.047,0.84,0.113,0.8603,1,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,11,0,0,4,9,5,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,2,0,32,25,19,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,3,17,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,1,1,2,2,23,4,22,22,3,16,1,0,1,0,23,6,0,6,7,99,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349873947337673,0.0,0.0,0.13832580624213792,0.14306987996779427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291408992405156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434338443084987,0.132515086865836,0.07850732278197008,0.11586406388600333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6928211563627529,0.0,0.1360386483062861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708119821400902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591733581104518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426963810081082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386299991447856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885136066427321,0.0,0.0,0.2416491025061504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378700948524342,0.0,0.13494129346206682,0.0,0.0,0.2386147135824088,0.0,0.22795754568096466,0.0,0.10964795314300801,0.0,0.0,0.12420314845811666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30169953429602536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,willyfranco26,2020/03/26,"I'm deeply worried about my cousin's (M12) future, I'd really appreciate any advice. So I (M17) have a cousin (M12) that lives in another city, which is 2h away by bus. Sadly he is having some very rough weeks now and I'm a bit worried. He has been bullied thought elementary schools by his peers in all the schools he went to, and he just started high school. The bullying continues, but it's getting worse since a few weeks ago he got a phone and he is getting cyberbullied too. As well he has failed around half of his subjects on the second term. Unfortunately his situation is only getting worse as his parents are divorcing. I understand that people his age might reject him because of his odd interests (he has a genuine interest in technology and electricity) and also because he isn't really popular with girls or plays any videogames, but still I know him to be very kind and it frustrates me a lot to see him being rejected. 

On the other hand my parents have always had a estable relationship and always been very loving and caring towards me. Almost all years I've been fairly popular and I've exceeded academically in school, piano and sports. So I get a feeling of unfairness on me having things so much easier than him and it makes me very sad when I think of him. Besides I was recently reading a book about drug addiction, and it the figures it showed related to children who go through divorced and bullying have a substantially higher chance of drug addiction than others. I know my cousin not to be very problematic or to join what you would say ""bad kids"" but I'm scared that when he is a bit older he tries new and harmful stuff, be it drugs or doing other activities. Every couple of days/weeks I try to check on him and tell him he can ask me anything since after all our age gap isn't really that big so that he had someone to talk to at least. Any advice on how to handle or improve the situation is welcomed.",6.897064981488576,6.809484632707776,7.534461891995406,72.6801251117069,64.60321715817696,10.7508745052981,34.38388867611388,10.398101306919678,3.5334768032682247,1540,62,283,34,21,512,202,373,0.16399999999999998,0.715,0.122,-0.9589,3,1,3,0,1,0,34.0,1,1,0,1,16,19,1,1,17,0,31,7,1,2,3,43,53,32,0,1,9,5,3,0,0,2,5,1,0,3,19,17,0,0,7,5,1,2,3,9,1,2,9,5,31,10,40,38,11,35,0,5,1,1,47,15,0,8,18,184,50,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838954786604932,0.0,0.16484055233153438,0.07476613505606176,0.0,0.08445863536973254,0.0,0.0,0.06745010817678518,0.1403624325981469,0.0,0.0,0.17207105381580018,0.08844235520816998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940817429573548,0.07508431118908822,0.07885053712379146,0.0,0.07924424857325872,0.0,0.07042396946129083,0.10283100780594814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416426653132556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599463757571754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933253663793644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934378398088477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710637125332815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042647013568980034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17626566733813906,0.0,0.0479348107835314,0.0,0.06745784364820323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911438633590961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783161172504159,0.09270684563779348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447756430082672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170650974122429,0.07612402596029297,0.0,0.056300476813154664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947597605369427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062002767062442864,0.0,0.0,0.08146025286500609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414764269429889,0.0,0.0,0.18730873273620552,0.0,0.0,0.05847371936364741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436712719142501,0.0,0.1620993596789032,0.0,0.08327982327255892,0.0905542158307944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670739746210431,0.08444336071028692,0.3414437479273615,0.06721148893934653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954095711242198,0.1896130596276407,0.0,0.0,0.07146465373738167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969933137439596,0.0,0.06735746886885151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655404707945403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779275538409425,0.07372063794535977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603460673251457,0.05404442332049193,0.0,0.06695995477571293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145284896827708,0.0,0.0,0.08780539338636252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34796441375417675,0.0,0.0,0.20296773550713368,0.0,0.07583565722388882,0.07818801335769443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131146656559862,0.17190809981353014,0.059915772486701435,0.0,0.0,0.05431496542533791
parenting,96919,2020/03/26,"Late walker doesn't care for walking My almost 16 month old doesn't really want to walk. She's taken her first steps and we feel like she can walk, she just doesn't want to. If she's just barely holding the tip of my finger, she can run across the room with me, but the moment we're not making contact, her legs freeze up and turn to jelly, so she just sits on the floor. She'll also explore and chase the dog while pushing her walker and seems very comfortable standing up. She also is a very good cruiser along furniture.

The doctor says it's nothing to worry about until she's 18 months, but as a parent, when all your friend's kids are walking around 10-12 months, it's very hard not to worry.

Any tips on getting my 16 month old to get past this psychological barrier? Or should I just let her be and stop worrying?",6.151909514304722,5.45511084431138,6.273013972055888,83.13763805721894,66.30538922155691,8.859347970725217,27.53759148369927,7.793537801064563,1.4442553559547573,649,15,135,6,9,207,108,167,0.081,0.809,0.11,0.8345,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,1,11,5,0,0,8,0,11,3,2,1,1,31,21,16,0,4,10,1,4,1,1,2,1,1,1,1,3,9,0,3,3,0,0,8,5,0,0,1,1,5,20,5,19,16,1,32,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,4,15,82,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377978470020807,0.0,0.0,0.22009542650387887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358040830045486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250323936915584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030389977038096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408510047796776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958041205790061,0.0983095458972352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705210824554363,0.0,0.0,0.10631815516441684,0.0,0.14379245741569846,0.0,0.0,0.11542183618619065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327270230983928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523154929698235,0.0,0.0,0.14071688583269454,0.0,0.06722993404988876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918566166275467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43936013247659295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204176137782872,0.0,0.2887998379648538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280107228080475,0.0,0.1313655644846254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815732761323479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943403539721684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527616644059056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504921527468565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968158697037945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34063122264831297,0.1623334296327485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192528891125365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PeanutSharks,2020/03/26,Sex after first baby. My husband and I welcomed a new baby into our lives in October. Here recently he has been expressing to me that he feels we haven’t been having enough sex since baby was born. He always wants to have sex when the baby is awake and in the room with us. I just feel that this isn’t okay then he wants to leave her to cry in the other room while we’re intimate and I just can’t do it. I’m just looking for some advice.,1.6314893617021262,3.1363306063829803,3.4286702127659576,91.40875,78.04255319148936,6.402127659574468,19.196808510638302,7.1686216300943375,0.2002382978723407,343,7,77,4,8,115,63,94,0.048,0.904,0.048,-0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,4,1,11,3,0,0,0,14,17,6,0,2,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,3,9,2,11,14,2,14,0,0,1,3,11,6,0,1,8,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26396808835579616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247699518464556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967253215740251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791166892801175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731718739511596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297725955744641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860288599665517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385299005107031,0.0,0.22684131960680615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608934139277556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26672096686078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345447873907465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249333497705865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31865956140641594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waldomaxine,2020/03/26,Due in June and can’t decide on a boy name. We don’t know what we’re having so we have to decide on a boy and girl name. We’ve got our girl name nailed down but can’t decide on a boy name. So far I don’t love anything. It was not this hard naming my other two children. Drop any ideas or suggestions you have.,-0.28142857142857025,1.3999571428571436,1.7957142857142865,99.99928571428572,84.71428571428572,4.571428571428573,14.285714285714285,5.288315135182226,-1.2202857142857142,240,3,61,1,7,80,47,70,0.039,0.846,0.115,0.727,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,0,0,17,11,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,1,6,1,6,9,0,9,0,0,0,1,17,6,0,1,2,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793276301831773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380165416222109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285184669762804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679559902317323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636926380922307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22574032284491635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707226166160459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012481579576941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,juliem122,2020/03/27,"Night weaning a 15 month old? Anyone? Anyone? I was so careful to not create “bad” sleeping habits in my older two. Then I had my third, we share a room, and nothing has gone to plan. Anyway, I’ve been nursing her throughout the night since she was a newborn. For a long time it was 2x/night for like 10 mins and she’d go right back to sleep in her crib. Now? She’s up every 2 hours and it is wearing on every fiber of my being. But I have no idea how to stop it because shes the most stubborn kid with a crazy amount of stamina, so she screams for a solid hour (maybe more) if she wakes up and I don’t get her. And we have no other room to put her in. Any advice?",-0.6442892156862783,1.3673963194444454,1.3163071895424852,100.71235294117649,89.27777777777777,3.3882352941176475,16.803921568627448,3.1291,-1.148300980392157,506,12,122,0,17,166,97,144,0.11900000000000001,0.7879999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.583,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,8,0,13,4,4,1,0,16,17,11,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,8,0,2,1,0,0,3,4,3,0,2,6,1,19,3,17,9,3,26,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,2,15,80,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354579892947935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381300523810875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23404907824772944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869229812295951,0.1397416374360053,0.10202331336844277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706383715299074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820221475059213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744058722478275,0.0,0.09511660589875792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32963891875116713,0.0,0.0,0.18893316287205544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176541409833217,0.0,0.0,0.14811154292366974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813925813011835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358805001797466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711782781515008,0.0,0.16058991355427624,0.0,0.17561997253488734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682466708869103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292762266562958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844492141979736,0.0,0.3349689892391529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992348589308784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759107657893004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348994431189234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dwpunch,2020/03/27,"What is normal shyness around adults for a 5yo? My son is great around his friends or other kids.  At parks / playdates, birthday parties, school, he seems to get along really well with other kids (even older or younger ones).

Around adults or family he just completely clams up.  Barely can muster the courage to say hello and goodbye, very short responses to questions, sometimes nothing at all.  Very hard to get him to open up if it's an adult.  Sometimes even a challenge for us.  Is this normal for kids his age?  It feels like he has performance anxiety or something.",4.824163969795039,7.245483174757282,4.110226537216828,85.97811218985979,71.62135922330097,6.907874865156419,28.92017259978425,7.793537801064563,1.9242392664509167,449,18,79,6,9,133,74,103,0.049,0.78,0.17,0.932,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,19,9,6,0,3,6,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,5,6,17,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,18,9,0,7,3,49,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927788298271964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513142593121429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771841642707373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22323432149264733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930995907149792,0.0,0.08544707958270187,0.12072741945003355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056226022145914,0.0,0.1765819601925791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18631350632935945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138301273465274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256061375894604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33115119014343714,0.16215171136530174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451287932357328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893089329874536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108260154913973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438866564717974,0.0,0.17102821898053386,0.0,0.15384333387904234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009775994671985,0.3342734362617857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032757281731372,0.0,0.0,0.2788710436280375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194347495247384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Canary_,2020/03/27,"WWYD if your 5yo child lost their 2nd tooth, but the tooth got lost and can't be sold to the Tooth Fairy? (The 1st tooth sold for $2.) Would the Fairy leave a conditional $ amount (""here's the money for now, but make with the tooth ASAP""), no money, or the usual amount with a note saying she picked up the tooth already (what about when/if it gets found)?
All creative ideas most welcome!",4.425000000000002,4.8420043205128245,3.958102564102564,94.47023076923078,69.8974358974359,6.752820512820513,20.72820512820513,5.6839178017228535,-0.2461671794871801,299,4,69,1,5,89,55,78,0.113,0.787,0.1,0.5009,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,1,2,3,3,0,0,10,0,3,6,6,2,1,14,11,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,2,0,0,6,1,3,1,7,3,4,3,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,3,2,35,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027021871925377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30076107412467273,0.0,0.0,0.14331294565828026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21938662082012653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309656750521636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29044919530101393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5988722231535192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831005957292985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181382007083696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021080030433172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948582722008644,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beavatt,2020/03/27,"My 12 year old wrote about how he's happy to be out of school because he has less pressure and responsibilities. How do I loosen up? My oldest is 12. We hold our kids to high standards. We want our kids to live up to their full potential and believe they'll have to work twice as hard as everyone else to get anywhere in life so we push them. Our kids start sports at 4 and start an instrument at 5. They have freedom over the sport and instrument and can switch things up but they must be playing at least one sport and one instrument per season by the time they are in kindergarten. We don't scold for bad grades but anything less than an A is dealt with. 

The 12 year old plays an instrument for his school orchestra during the school year and plays a sport every season. He is doing online schooling now and his sports teams aren't meeting. He has lessons through Skype for his instrument but there won't be anymore concerts for the rest of the school year. He wrote a paper for one of his classes saying that he's happy to be out of school because there is less pressure and responsibility. He showed me the paper before sending it in so he wanted me to see it. How do I loosen up? I want him to be successful but I don't want to push him so hard that he breaks.",4.614470588235296,5.377182839215685,4.790196078431375,87.43588235294119,69.62745098039215,7.725490196078431,26.764705882352942,7.724431198458867,1.262176470588236,1004,30,213,11,17,314,124,255,0.025,0.848,0.127,0.9796,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,7,0,6,4,12,9,0,2,13,0,24,1,0,3,1,33,34,21,0,5,4,0,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,3,5,16,0,1,1,12,0,3,4,3,0,4,2,5,27,6,39,24,6,32,0,0,1,0,37,15,0,0,13,139,32,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035374807683228,0.0,0.0,0.09156888831936184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290900762107067,0.1356629988483767,0.0,0.0946858412503076,0.12536751178156114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295501410475696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375300852595833,0.10632692166283722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058135988198783135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369061414052098,0.19935900659931324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756692021998252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859600321652115,0.0,0.0,0.09825683843379113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335263514301999,0.0,0.226206099208668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848942294664812,0.0,0.6756903939315811,0.08867084297941524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752039187979372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392539420568285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488467033866394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625287728997984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100868002862871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28662681613905233
parenting,frescafresa,2020/03/27,"Moms of Reddit, how did you potty train your 20 month old? When my daughter was 16 months old, she was using the potty every time she had to poop & every other time she had to pee. I would take her with me first thing in the morning/whenever had to go & she was doing that for about a month. During this time I was pregnant & almost due. I had to get induced early due to complications & our son ended up in the NICU for 10 days 2 days after birth. They wouldn’t let us keep her in the room we were first in(4days), then we got transferred & this room did allow us to keep her but it was the most uncomfortable sleeping situation especially because she used to sleeping alone in her crib. The whole time we were there we were letting her stay with my MIL. Well she didn’t have a potty the first week & didn’t really listen to us when we told her to pick ours up, a week later she buys one but by that time my daughter completely broke her routine & she won’t even say that she has to/is poop(ed). She’s about to be 2 in June & I have no clue what I’m doing wrong or different this time that it will not stick to her. I was thinking of buying “sues training tactics” guide but I’ve been having difficulty even purchasing it, so I need help! Right now is the perfect time to do it since were on lockdown here in California. 

TLDR; my daughter broke her potty routine & now I’m having trouble getting her back on track.",5.8897945205479445,5.291920136986303,6.2775,82.56125000000002,66.8082191780822,8.943835616438355,29.20890410958904,8.07648339933343,1.7389,1128,32,237,12,16,365,156,292,0.095,0.862,0.044000000000000004,-0.9468,1,2,0,0,0,0,42.0,10,2,1,4,14,6,0,0,11,0,35,4,4,6,1,27,50,9,0,3,5,5,0,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,14,7,0,2,2,0,3,1,6,4,1,4,21,2,44,2,32,22,2,48,0,2,0,0,42,13,0,3,33,161,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334056468164259,0.07585588019205376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7142120903079936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563180252812715,0.0,0.04464720597399889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679209116390763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446913614647348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765215515367485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487003707686978,0.0,0.0,0.09675035259235984,0.0,0.1234178786514602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689699228265802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653109430417393,0.0,0.041624708656277404,0.0,0.058577744285200475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909208775909722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302004341314245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497883470858034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857793047958563,0.17538147864139744,0.0,0.0,0.05430748289183012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370881082045815,0.0,0.04963018848016603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692024098084475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254765501960444,0.0,0.058244407485565114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06058594568832841,0.08232627015122687,0.14658835283513344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806546201759262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506832940429874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048658253611200915,0.04693005643374466,0.0,0.0,0.29895306546808004,0.0,0.0,0.06998518405696794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26430073443971946,0.12651390446153235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174994778535267,0.0,0.06585270883735694,0.0,0.0,0.08177127624650621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052028505649835285,0.08007784473825041,0.0,0.0
parenting,unicatseven,2020/03/27,"Son: Can we build this from here to the moon? Yes, we can! Hey guys,

my son and I started a little project. He is kind of obsessed with the moon. Everything is about it. Since the last days gave us the chance to spend more time together, we started a project! I'm working in IT and he likes to programm little apps.

Today we did the first version of his moon-idea. Please let us know, what you think about it:

[https://type-it-to-the-moon.com](https://type-it-to-the-moon.com/)

He actually did a whole lot of the coding. I just watched.. and made him take donations. Blame me guys... but if you are good at something, never do it for free.

And since I just noticed, my 13 year old son is kind of a programming genius, it shouldn't be.

I'm so proud!! Let me know your opinion.

Best wishes

Chris & Dan",1.090932711525653,3.565208000000002,1.9177148567621598,96.124853431046,86.08860759493669,5.098467688207864,20.974017321785475,6.5966054737557815,0.2411594936708852,616,20,134,7,19,191,100,158,0.02,0.7959999999999999,0.184,0.9806,0,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,6,3,0,4,6,8,0,1,10,1,13,0,0,1,1,22,24,7,0,3,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,9,0,0,3,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,4,1,18,8,14,16,5,14,0,0,1,0,21,4,0,3,11,78,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.14028626119458654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576083418422987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086428133546426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271148224362566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291996753366618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227977579566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205766941092932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846844005460016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228434732051772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994019422691912,0.15801036267271298,0.1171812809779182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940028933812983,0.0,0.0702324920550108,0.2881649024254404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221720556077538,0.0,0.13602651063757012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108743922441618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636684914393881,0.15084896788909286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780220374961418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378348339795382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106712931969045,0.0,0.0,0.2035041303992165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808750142134876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211379020134904,0.0,0.0,0.08382596218771501,0.0,0.13626498855677122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458443515349818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049974700757486,0.16531365145141722,0.0,0.0,0.1046569322694098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257490454313097
parenting,Itchy-Sale,2020/03/27,"Is this abusive? Help. have a stepson who is 12 years old. Today, while we were doing homework, he had a major fit. He didn't believe I was right about a question he asked me. He does this a lot! So, I told him to go to his room where he proceed to cry and scream at me. I said there will be ""no screen time for the day."" He got even more upset. As he wasn't listening after a good while and freaking out, I told him I was going to take his Switch away (a video game console).

Well..He lost his mind!! I was trying to get him to sit on his bed and close the door because he was crying and screaming so loud, but he refused to listen. I tried to close the door but he was holding the door open with his body and wouldn't let me shut it. He was trying to get me to ""promise him"" he will get his Switch back, which I told him ""no!"".

He then pushed me hard, were I almost fell down a set of stairs. I don't believe this was done on purpose to hurt me, he was just mad and wanting his Switch.

Because he was fighting with me and refusing to go into his room and close the door so I can work in peace without him crying and screaming, I said ""I'm going to throw it out in the garbage if you dont stop"". Well, he didn't stop. So, I took the switch outside and put it in my car. I did NOT throw it in the garbage.

When I told my fiance about this, he got mad at me and told me that by telling his child I was going to throw his Switch in the garbage, that I was being abusive!! I said ""I dont see it as being abusive"" and he told me that if I cant see that I am being abusive, then there is a problem with me! He now insists that I ABUSED his child... :(

As my last resort, I didn't see any other options for this child's grotesque behavior. Is it abuse to threaten to take a child's favorite toy away? Is it abuse to say you are going to throw it in the garbage when their behavior is absolutely insane?

I kept my cool and asked him probably 100 times to please sit on his bed and close the door. He just refused continuiously and then hurt my hand, stepped on my foot, and almost pushed me down the stairs. I didn't know what else to do.. I got the Switch and showed it to him. He had a big smile on his face and continued on with his day like nothing happened, knowing he has his beloved Switch back. What do I do? Is this abuse? Help. I'm so upset and been crying my eyes out all day.",1.8830567332929533,2.900743425196853,3.0553543307086635,96.35728144558857,76.36220472440945,5.840177670098933,22.671310316979607,5.716464563530887,0.01993442358166808,1812,49,441,8,39,584,197,508,0.217,0.7090000000000001,0.073,-0.998,1,0,0,0,6,0,75.0,1,2,1,2,21,18,3,2,23,1,51,5,5,0,1,60,90,38,0,5,8,0,2,1,0,3,0,10,10,4,25,33,0,7,3,4,0,17,14,13,1,0,38,18,73,5,58,44,4,80,0,3,5,0,77,36,0,7,25,281,98,2,0.0,0.5968897460057724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611420874930587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04282294463958728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774015830699085,0.0,0.11832805092102308,0.0968427667212759,0.0,0.07677398011209373,0.0,0.0,0.14189518052711714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994741052035999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766860110830478,0.12183469415655845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0551069966667625,0.06444195642098145,0.1476048276362929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052604810926921326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041592242357168255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870040997896674,0.0,0.21472975642035527,0.052817710362316604,0.15109276638886476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055685704375987966,0.0,0.056410312825712586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844172639038831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482510660862446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921524620941424,0.051330375279379135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439287369340653,0.0,0.030764812808873974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874109625240317,0.053536324015896385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358350921361741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604230857749834,0.0,0.06607825130118927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912406376498931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789418965079798,0.0602554535405017,0.0,0.0633039946367446,0.07054276393113174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377752445841473,0.1797016439584535,0.050077657541903166,0.0,0.0,0.15054097859872725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052943936879975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469382762616776,0.0,0.055040078982290484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343865950844634,0.0,0.05968984928042755,0.3610331942424324,0.06996392351454593,0.12826103978917586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037142365568647216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132383191358282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060702513109336026,0.0,0.045844178900806616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04055173788846931
parenting,oglkat,2020/03/27,"Is this a phase? Hello, everyone! 

Are any of you out there coparenting as a split family? 

If so, how do you deal with the child wanting to be with the other parent? 

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parenting,Valuable-Zombie,2020/03/27,"Opinion We live with my boyfriends mom because where we live there is not a lot of places for rent with or dogs and baby. So today i got in a argument with s/o over how he handles or sons tantrums badly ( hes not used to being home and hearing them since you usually works out of town) im a stay at home mom so im used to it and i usually just try to ignore his tantrums and not give in to them but he got mad when i told him not to act like that towards our son and we were arguing so i went to our room to get away from it and then his mom got in on it trying to say that everyone else disciplines my son and take care of him and im always just on my phone and that she raised all her kids and i never listen to her and im the omly one whos allowed to be right or say anything ( mind you im his mother) when literally no one ever helps me with him and i dont expect anyone to but his dad, i dont even let anyone take him with them or babysit him i just take him where ever i go and my boyfriend never defends me against his family and told his she wasnt being mean and that she was way worse to them when they were growing up and basically i deserved being talked to that way by her meanwhile his own brother told her it was out of line for to say that and she got upset. I just need to vent am i so wrong for being mad. Being that he wanted me to move here when i got pregnant im very limited on options of leaving besides one friend but she has her own stuff and i wouldnt want to push myself on her.",0.4844021634151048,2.0853627425149703,2.6023546455476136,95.59500193162063,81.75449101796406,5.507282209774001,20.05563067413561,6.3737218528115,-0.07089016805099435,1172,31,284,10,31,396,158,334,0.129,0.83,0.040999999999999995,-0.9803,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,2,5,2,21,12,5,1,4,0,19,0,0,4,5,65,44,35,0,5,15,9,0,1,1,1,0,5,4,1,12,28,0,3,1,0,1,6,11,9,0,3,14,5,59,3,47,22,4,41,0,0,0,0,65,20,0,7,13,200,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665663164919001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187556527103043,0.0,0.06583309239905394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516252936129272,0.0,0.06679656590445958,0.0487671899388424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156521877702244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875185487249551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682964208510417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283917233554704,0.1447289597664579,0.0,0.07644332247349615,0.0,0.0,0.0754167757526038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618077159661799,0.0,0.04179664024589386,0.0767431834125813,0.04546578064418675,0.0,0.3199160977070936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016568937033097,0.0,0.053622239421576616,0.0,0.16049282336793644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184816504712036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470833161612876,0.0,0.08180530688989457,0.0,0.03908390492437043,0.0,0.14128273570146505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680130449951588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714333213613444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077708271139035,0.2810847101319767,0.0,0.08502722167115219,0.0,0.059318904184702426,0.1234016928126076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262998605482673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358285713065178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831946828535299,0.0,0.19085736861415625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617673506216201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526923758885431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158073335570864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18044988176224125,0.0643008806163304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583054084285905,0.22932996742048845,0.0,0.1086293469049394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818843697348412,0.17621715136210206,0.06600828687599934,0.09437201477998204,0.1270003767554018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416069879526885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824087214917579,0.0,0.08152672170102926,0.0,0.08746732027347102,0.0,0.0
parenting,SHIL_Elijah,2020/03/27,16 m just letting you guys know something Don’t ignore your kids mental health I’ve seen several parents think that their kids mental health is not a problem or it’s just a phase or it will go away if they come to you asking for help don’t ignore take it seriously millions of teenagers are struggling with severe depression and anxiety and they feel like no one can help and for a teenager to cone to you and ask for help takes a lot of courage because we never know how something is going to react I know a lot of parents do take it seriously but for those who don’t please do take it seriously,4.855723140495865,5.616634768595045,5.424452479338843,83.11122417355371,69.08264462809917,8.033471074380165,30.001033057851238,8.07648339933343,1.948445454545454,481,18,96,6,8,155,74,121,0.14,0.747,0.113,-0.0698,2,0,2,0,0,0,0.0,1,4,3,0,3,10,0,1,5,0,11,2,0,2,1,27,26,9,0,2,7,2,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,8,7,0,2,5,0,0,3,6,8,0,2,1,2,9,2,13,23,2,5,0,1,1,0,19,1,0,5,2,64,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026797442092323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25095959096035064,0.0,0.12610633315460862,0.0,0.0,0.08182070978320209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562068525240195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560552896151152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786686223930903,0.09588848658534367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525633298871612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290124682383947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853442015263296,0.0,0.0,0.2698992721422125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22129530985907292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372514652199115,0.0,0.06557426921710151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22822211503264844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27052915520198106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352056482071616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095255032277164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29807611124437383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733585394668955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843267913932188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032661421364584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066618729409252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403183619325097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40367406650789256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600427381303379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mycleverlogin,2020/03/27,"Looking for book suggestions to develop attention span. I have read that parents should always finish reading a book even if the kid starts playing. This helps build attention skills. 


Also clean up the play environment to prevent over stimulation. 


It is hard to work from home with a 2 year old. My wife and I want to see if we can do things differently to help our lock-down weekdays.",4.985117370892019,7.288636549295774,5.14612676056338,79.24388497652583,70.83098591549296,8.67699530516432,30.143192488262912,9.2995712137729,2.852969953051643,309,13,55,7,6,97,61,71,0.019,0.7809999999999999,0.2,0.8807,2,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,11,9,4,0,4,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,3,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,10,8,0,7,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,2,4,33,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761174081071425,0.20561319618233687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581746941454411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321214211790047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135974095271796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33126183376141793,0.0,0.2478689231739605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750802483792904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592977038761011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743835832556153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4943486473824382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19691264685555573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17490392702128296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641672116082252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575037805674562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989716875044504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912909793477448
parenting,welchesgrapejuicer,2020/03/27,"What is working from home with a baby like? Hi! I work from home normally and have been planning on keeping my baby (due in July) home with me after I return to work from maternity leave. 

My job is a lot of computer work with two or three hours of phone meetings a week. I currently work 6am-3pm to keep up the same office hours as my company in a different time zone, but I have some flexibility in when I get work done. My husband is a doctor who has hours all over the place, so some days he may be able to help out in mornings or afternoons but I won’t be able to depend on him for a regular routine. 

People I know have been pretty negative about this being possible. It’s my first child, so I don’t know really want to expect. My husband and I are super excited, but this pregnancy was unexpected and we aren’t in the financial situation we planned on being in whenever we thought we’d start having kids. We are really trying to avoid paying for childcare if at all possible because of this. 

I thought with lots of parents working from home right now, maybe you all could offer me some insight into how realistic my hope to work from home with a baby/toddler would be and maybe offer some advice. Thanks!!!",6.622014805278404,6.133851928870293,7.527280334728032,73.84072417122626,65.27615062761507,10.868490505310593,33.86578693273254,10.389873798559362,3.4168993241068546,957,37,182,21,13,323,138,239,0.038,0.8320000000000001,0.13,0.9737,5,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,1,0,12,6,6,0,1,10,0,26,1,0,2,3,48,37,15,0,7,6,3,0,1,0,3,1,0,5,2,6,15,0,3,5,0,1,0,4,1,0,3,6,0,26,5,40,21,10,31,0,0,0,0,20,16,0,12,16,136,32,12,0.1872500969202996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148931377966772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057072960545025364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475198285589965,0.0,0.0,0.06038041084978785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781824856508052,0.0,0.09582920433195373,0.0,0.09581093049726004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963741839182525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891522358905767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627548964515176,0.0,0.4695677866268805,0.09299079833897103,0.27660544021023903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290841401472746,0.16643648976501454,0.0,0.0,0.1029077562543054,0.0,0.0,0.09913540792949367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04574046949376195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591933362748058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881178904800855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173266901093964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395953653751697,0.0,0.0,0.06490782010928213,0.0,0.09781824856508052,0.0,0.0,0.21109634943358066,0.0,0.09525033309646964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995720689990524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995527982639425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523847720496526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626829118557387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619736570014119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865566091592422,0.05459351866980869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635652621948535,0.0,0.09145806809394597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05522247932315777,0.0,0.07510036649886666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5452812027834759,0.0,0.0,0.06650854819222002,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BKK-CPH,2020/03/27,"Lockdown mode : All and any tips welcome to keep an 11 month entertained We’re lucky I’m still on maternity leave and my husband is ‘back at work’ from home. I usually have no issues entertaining our happy baby, but man, I’m so fried these days! 

Cabin fever + no social life is dragging the days out. 

We go for long pram ‘nap walks’, we go to the park where she swings and can ‘see’ other kids; all this takes maybe 2-3 hours out of the forever indoor times. 

I’m awaiting delivery of an outdoor overall suit and shoes, so she can attempt to stand and play with some sand at the playground etc 

How are you guys surviving the doom of indoor entertainment with a baby who is attempting to walk, and also trying to keep sane? :)",2.3819215291750524,4.677322021126759,3.5727565392354137,87.51323943661974,78.78873239436619,6.592354124748491,22.818913480885314,7.7094869923839395,1.0891955734406444,565,18,113,9,14,183,104,142,0.057999999999999996,0.787,0.154,0.9312,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,0,4,7,8,0,0,8,0,7,3,1,1,2,20,16,11,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,4,12,0,2,0,5,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,8,7,17,16,4,20,1,1,1,0,13,6,0,2,9,64,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425859095687595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396792859603646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579401956112697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649324753075723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22907569273137796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334675122077057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033786460233468,0.0,0.2186524989954412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20603330498237987,0.0,0.20227797649126905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21438460759322292,0.0,0.3651385490291315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174893201598592,0.0,0.0,0.14508034627056873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177285201093127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063522658802137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394860499738656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367749092936898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093797968678844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403299010018754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443550576680332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197705997142399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945335929191144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262194740414017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953390590483218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inamarifa,2020/03/27,"Finger sucking issues My daughter is 14 months old and has had a finger sucking habit since birth. She sucks the two middle fingers all the time and now she’s developed a blister on her finger 

How do I get her to stop sucking??",1.2646666666666668,3.9042926888888903,2.5438888888888904,90.18250000000002,88.77777777777777,3.888888888888889,23.055555555555557,5.46131890053228,0.428555555555556,181,7,33,1,6,58,36,45,0.115,0.885,0.0,-0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,4,0,4,4,4,1,1,5,9,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,4,6,0,2,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,4,0,6,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173504760638018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4342111942397144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33205891210680744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365373775297677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441316044899578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478068621976236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24258147877576866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40638584844456416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dodobird95,2020/03/27,"12mo will not sleep. Idk what to do anymore My little guy just turned 1 last week. 

He used to be relatively easy to put down for naps. Especially if I let him sleep on me or my husband.  

I'm at the end of my rope now. We tried sleep training with ferber method and it was ok at best he never went down solo without  crying for 20 minutes, then christmas came and it screwed it all up. Since then I was ok with rocking him to sleep but now it's becoming a nightmare. He just screamed at me for 2.5hrs. I had to resort to burito-ing him and just waiting it out. 

I'm going to try to go back to ferber I guess but he will cry until he vomits. 

I'm feeling like a failure right now, I professionally train dogs and yet I cant even get my kid to cooperate",0.7495047169811322,2.707352924528301,2.9799646226415097,91.3974941037736,82.64779874213836,5.484433962264153,21.25825471698113,6.6274283507984215,0.29088962264150897,581,18,131,6,16,198,103,159,0.085,0.818,0.09699999999999999,-0.4543,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,9,6,1,0,3,2,9,6,4,1,2,24,22,11,0,1,9,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,6,9,0,1,1,2,0,5,4,2,0,0,5,2,16,4,26,13,2,27,0,0,0,1,12,10,1,3,13,83,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954936515942768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595301227827293,0.0,0.0,0.1665426165904578,0.0,0.0,0.1582513666158406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724707435566526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33128521134341576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356072355341786,0.0,0.0,0.09959950447516697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624711763300764,0.10772887496320786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878481954224861,0.0,0.17140197404989332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611907620460226,0.14931200096475594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291907463049792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419938786950166,0.0,0.07367143335822145,0.15113746347335813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163033684316816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515918868469408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877917814489162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124740220723359,0.0,0.6036206344683923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047615177332047,0.164023023602228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302395480322238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095966016382526,0.0,0.0,0.13978963948630552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14536220899485114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThreeCherrios,2020/03/27,"Child’s Birthday Party I just moved during this craziness. My 4 year old daughter is having a rough time. We can’t go outside, she has no friends, and can’t meet new friends. We also don’t have our stuff yet. She is going to turn 5 in a few weeks and I want to make it special for her. She has been excited for months to turn 5. Anyone have any ideas?",-0.18173333333333366,1.9729820266666709,1.5053333333333363,99.11266666666668,88.73333333333332,3.866666666666666,19.0,5.033348758259628,-0.5870000000000002,272,8,63,1,9,88,57,75,0.067,0.735,0.19699999999999998,0.8442,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,1,0,8,17,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,1,10,4,6,16,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,7,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18552564007477246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776397923556545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221570568112173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35847621373631383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636952465419051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618931599415868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485789837280647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851755193096213,0.2465730695005065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22406139829786986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24343883761244714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655778006949255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527765607071007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5046860386187617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368361620072915,0.0,0.18609171560206308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939662809381773
parenting,-work-account,2020/03/27,"Looking for a online Grade 1 Program! School has been cancelled for the rest of the year and I am wondering if there are any online programs I can enroll my child in. I've searched around and it's very overwhelming. Everything seems very Math or English focused but I am more so looking for a WHOLE curriculum. Math, English, Science, Art ect. 

I am open to all suggestions and am also willing to pay for the best available.",4.125160714285716,6.379181337500004,4.35464285714286,84.19750000000002,73.125,7.071428571428572,32.67857142857143,7.957251820313856,2.5488571428571443,337,17,60,5,7,105,59,80,0.04,0.8590000000000001,0.10099999999999999,0.7777,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,5,0,9,0,0,0,1,11,13,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,1,9,11,5,4,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,4,1,43,6,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21344202417503144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815030151971194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376000246283192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800979582866985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23987497207926786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4482621596496647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701198214112293,0.0,0.2429782296770856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404454244485958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979873767627557,0.0,0.0,0.289444635443437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187661334798354
parenting,uaer2049,2020/03/27,"22 months old girl is holding pee, is she ready for potty training? First time dad, and I'm lost and worried! My baby girl is almost 2 years, for the last month and a half she is been signaling us when she is peeing, but since last week she's been holding pee at night, she wakes up at 4 am and cries until releases all the pee and goes back to sleep. Has someone have a similar experience? Do you think she would be able to start potty training? Any advices for the training? How can I tackle this? Feel like a huge milestone and I'm worried I could mess it up.",2.8978454106280185,4.278232678260872,3.861159420289855,90.13859903381643,74.3913043478261,6.502415458937199,24.951690821256037,6.937597516519254,0.8405748792270531,438,14,94,4,9,141,78,115,0.11800000000000001,0.815,0.067,-0.7312,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,6,0,15,6,6,1,1,16,21,10,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,1,11,1,10,15,1,19,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,1,15,57,13,0,0.1899675520958181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563409330620775,0.0,0.0,0.19022506266791486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918444969009052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607332156449312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167363254811067,0.0,0.20867043578821895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858247178650216,0.0,0.0,0.09605330222593117,0.13571285717456413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158630276773392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096978191790377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280855032231937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20737202369430133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30326057537343554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827167888702436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993389899427037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714312216417795,0.0,0.1901047443900397,0.0,0.16095889042277944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446001113104475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172353682944015,0.0,0.0,0.11077160730565784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285075750835062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523805116251649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858425407954421,0.0,0.13494749857353044,0.0,0.0,0.12233287521885815
parenting,Grizobella,2020/03/27,"Mostly just a vent...don't want to overburden my already overburdened SO with complaints about his ex... This is a vent.  I am tired, frustrated and pretty annoyed bordering on pissed off.  BUT I do know that everyone is going through similar issues and that my feelings are far from unique and that there isn't much else that can be done right now. This is me letting off some steam so I don't lose it and make shit worse. 

So we have all been dealing with having a ""stay home"" order for a week now like most of the people in this country at the moment.  My SO is the only one in our home that is able to work for now and therefore the only income.  My Mom has fragile health and my stepdad is working a ton so she is living with us through the crisis so I can be home with her and we also have my 6 year old full time who has some chronic health issues herself.  

My SO has a 5 year old that he normally has every other week but because of the crisis and because his ex refuses to pull him out of his daycare (a home daycare situation which probably isnt even legal at the moment) and to actually follow the stay home order he can't be here with all of this going on.  It puts my Mom at too big a risk and my own little one too at this point. 

Now his ex is pitching a fit because we are refusing to continue the 50/50 schedule at this point.  My SO is only at home a short time in the evenings right now basically just to eat and sleep and I have my own child and my mother to care for.  I am not willing or able to take on her kid too just so she can ""get a break"".  He told her from the very beginning that it isnt fair or ok to put that responsibility on me, especially knowing that during her time with him he is in daycare with who knows how many other kids being exposed to who knows what. 

She keeps threatening to get a lawyer and take this to court but until all of this blows over that obviously not going to happen so the bitch is SOL.  She made her bed.  Now she gets to lay in it.   She doesn't seem to get that and keeps showing up with their kid pounding on my door and sending him an insane amount of texts every single day about how he needs to ""suck it up and do his part"" and that she can't do this all day every day by herself. Well tough shit.",4.919294871794868,4.566806356837606,5.743504273504275,84.7570512820513,68.76495726495726,8.557264957264957,28.017094017094017,7.921354282810032,1.5043299145299145,1757,50,385,19,27,578,211,468,0.128,0.84,0.032,-0.9923,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,0,1,3,32,14,7,1,25,1,44,9,4,5,5,67,71,37,0,3,10,6,2,1,0,1,4,0,8,4,33,30,1,4,6,1,0,8,9,10,1,2,4,2,49,4,63,61,16,69,0,1,0,0,51,32,5,7,25,286,82,4,0.15841937351374108,0.0,0.07729722814002392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740985900984345,0.06334395788179778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485646954776882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075955469751987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325108531287554,0.08166170896065962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105901056812248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105128427225584,0.06616952932035855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463450211713066,0.0,0.20021273213532084,0.07568825015274272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040050797609064485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165535168284829,0.0,0.1350500711156315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004486440509289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839238602122664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767226450814192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534866730296144,0.0,0.1408104181095427,0.0,0.0,0.17412628931723112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099727132936912,0.0,0.03869785191358479,0.07938891526174102,0.06994360459505061,0.0,0.0,0.08861537842774546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495012081945332,0.052873080983508916,0.08030618991952686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18553885559641456,0.0,0.0,0.058228233749668866,0.058732979067922964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760867521281907,0.0,0.0,0.1662344834956697,0.0,0.10734906741852243,0.18072760831135928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577637183006538,0.0,0.05491402336753794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975751363722328,0.0,0.0,0.08058472782815439,0.08540143940487659,0.0,0.0,0.1592552261058774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528927939198387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210952391567302,0.0,0.0,0.16261521036428614,0.0,0.08903500667050036,0.07926689104534433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688539737972927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911165334804087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856341600607566,0.09103988271138297,0.0,0.07568825015274272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527950033702123,0.0,0.0,0.06535628708389586,0.04671992550142054,0.0,0.12707446572341954,0.0,0.07121902109538503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533119068363586,0.0,0.08072143787810859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201688255966528
parenting,Waander37,2020/03/27,"If your kid is struggling with the lockdown and loves Disney, check out Starlight Tales on Facebook. Every 2-3 nights a Disney princess actress dresses up like Ariel, Elsa, Rapunzel, Anna, etc and reads to children. She also talks and answers questions in character. A lot of princess companies have started doing this but so far this is the only one I’ve seen that’s been done for free.",6.234788732394363,7.788173605633805,5.570535211267606,80.4163661971831,66.46478873239437,7.370140845070423,35.32676056338028,7.554174236665415,2.7081132394366194,310,15,51,3,5,94,63,71,0.026000000000000002,0.856,0.11800000000000001,0.7684,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,1,4,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,9,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,2,4,8,6,2,7,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,3,3,33,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23250499160463886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975283705320429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242523980332872,0.0,0.0,0.2449613252307847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142041072821423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471770897933041,0.2624045608706807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728401686573866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970132184152763,0.221121174290846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32569578533811583,0.0,0.2908190769381313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20578755046065006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039449909758275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23368611922937066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yesiamhiswife,2020/03/27,"Sometimes I envy couples without kids and feel like crap and the most ungrateful person about it Hey! Long post ahead. I think. 
So as I mentioned in the title, I feel horrible about this, have no idea who to talk to because I feel like no one understands the feeling which makes me feel like even a worse person. We have 2 boys (5.8 and 1.8) whom we absolutely love. I was never a kid person, but I wanted my own someday. If it matters, I had my first at 22. I usually shake this feeling off, but now it’s a little bit different. 
Little over a week ago we moved to my in-laws (who I really like) so the kids can spend time out playing. This is for a limited period of time and it's a full house. Our best friends don’t have kids and while I was talking with them this feeling that I’m talking about hit me reaally hard. I feel like I could do soooo much more if I didn’t have kids, especially now in this period of time. I could finally concentrate on learning what I’ve been hoping to have time for since I finished high-school, my relationship with my husband would be better because we’d have more time to each-other (of course that includes the sex part also), maybe I wouldn’t feel so angry and depressed all the time. And you know what’s worse? We have help with the kids! They occasionally go to their grandparents over the weekend. Why on earth do I feel this way? Is this normal? It honestly started after I had our second. He was a lot do deal with, crying all day, not sleeping, etc. But now it’s all good with him. Sure, he cries sometimes when I leave the room, but that’s okay. They are really good and fun kids to have. So that’s why I don’t get it. Why? I feel like I don’t even deserve them. And they don’t deserve a mother like me.",2.6483076478520537,4.155749326815641,3.859119630129072,89.38209497206707,75.28491620111731,6.9491042188403025,23.797341552687346,7.6298220110432995,0.9527981891735696,1361,41,295,18,29,444,180,358,0.11199999999999999,0.7040000000000001,0.184,0.9825,2,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,7,1,6,5,14,22,1,1,17,1,32,4,2,1,5,60,55,23,0,9,8,2,12,7,1,2,0,0,1,11,24,19,0,1,16,2,1,3,11,3,0,3,7,12,46,19,33,41,14,44,0,1,0,2,43,13,1,5,33,198,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07094306356323495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400113243977006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757287463874896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398808338565805,0.07078132577054477,0.08737363016566076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779722275739472,0.08855329213084219,0.17582160931532226,0.05161367311438714,0.08250892469021076,0.06893098223418014,0.0,0.0,0.08361584552016467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892562371552431,0.10572005368316624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4451294387962476,0.2858724675476943,0.0,0.08767055634816656,0.0,0.06807472196197872,0.0,0.0,0.061832110167086514,0.0,0.041813136497590615,0.0,0.04548372502815359,0.1342531890196027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716924715071381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05364340298766323,0.08455763521127126,0.0,0.07948930125788319,0.0,0.09234556363948987,0.0,0.09034578081895314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04398319933147166,0.0,0.0,0.0847417642066655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27369531361685745,0.16042510287714173,0.0,0.07082532674690123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680398883084563,0.07223152043824366,0.0,0.05342162333523266,0.0,0.08040236203726765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506078012086278,0.0588323342046381,0.0,0.06172519842805085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841384193326575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054231390892555235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666627595236666,0.0,0.0,0.20964116089059745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664801928524613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025404096711006,0.0,0.0,0.08592384085102034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099611372955427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620285362268824,0.0,0.0800892612575399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830632758509944,0.0,0.05664668177913284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754287072074954,0.0,0.0,0.19297877645010245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128093027664379,0.0,0.0,0.2800019397480729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331557595604944,0.0,0.0,0.08814335027615068,0.0,0.04720463071114532,0.06352525056174506,0.06419641258961048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664784311035568,0.0,0.0,0.07714747487659895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631177971545745,0.056852055449665234,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,papapagod,2020/03/27,"Nearly 2 year old still not talking My near 2 year old still does not talk. He makes a lot of noise, but does not have a wide variety of syllables, and has 5 words at most (which are not even used consistently). He's done some speech therapy, which didn't really do much, and they don't think he has apraxia or any other diagnosable delay.

We constantly try to simplify speech and focus on words, but it doesn't seem to help much. He understands nearly everything we say, and is otherwise developmently normal (even ahead in many milestones), but his speech hasn't changed much since the 1 year mark. He communicates mostly through gestures and screaming.

Has anyone else gone through this? Did you do anything special to help, or did your child just come along at some point?",6.783750000000001,7.584351541666668,6.219444444444445,78.97000000000001,64.83333333333334,10.011111111111113,31.277777777777786,9.994966539143718,2.8944361111111108,618,22,116,13,9,190,96,144,0.087,0.889,0.025,-0.8374,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,1,1,5,2,0,0,3,0,15,1,0,2,0,33,22,10,0,1,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,1,5,9,0,1,3,0,0,2,8,1,0,0,5,5,7,1,16,17,8,21,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,8,10,73,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177497884905284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464682809520902,0.1533459332136825,0.12315869486907052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832206418643407,0.12892016418405575,0.0,0.1617309557667737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190331205704233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619396432168674,0.15315571609884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250230119508531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770007045579369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450614130718905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006299501499068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723688878080866,0.0,0.0,0.09990023963561484,0.1517333105609294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33005535502828953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663653237800575,0.0,0.0,0.31408921946689144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147852954000098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587701438979916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901686303995432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624624450072584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238015718834629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23903979724997595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24058455245079666,0.0,0.0,0.1711510133425338,0.0,0.0,0.0958970713268322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161036115541867,0.0,0.0,0.15580294052762814,0.0,0.12925951769429328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891313734233019
parenting,breadwithsoup,2020/03/27,"Blood spotting Hi sorry to have to ask it in this community, but I haven’t been getting responses in different ones. Anyway, so I had unprotected sex, then took a plan B. Then I had sex twice again where he ejaculated. For 2 days I was unable to get it. (Circumstances). So the third day when I wanted to get it, I thought I started menstruating. It was so little and it didn’t come for 25-27 hours, 2 days in a row in went like this. My friend told me she had this before she got pregnant. Anyway, after 2/3 days of it being like that. I started getting blood spots everyday at least 1 time. But it has never been this little menstruation ever for me. I also had menstruation 5 days to early. I’m just a bit worried.. because my friend told me that she also had this before she tested that she was pregnant... anybody any info? I haven’t been able to find to much about it.. thanks",2.051243315508021,4.192572840909094,3.868101604278074,85.76994652406418,79.11363636363636,6.413903743315508,22.28475935828877,7.510576382923642,0.9390231283422464,684,21,138,10,17,230,99,176,0.027999999999999997,0.861,0.111,0.9445,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,1,13,5,0,0,4,0,17,4,2,0,2,11,34,11,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,18,0,20,5,18,15,3,29,0,0,0,2,12,8,0,0,20,98,36,1,0.14089898944253956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253537419035922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581614445315076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317215351633068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589071618703371,0.0,0.2397893246293372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382520395292998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213720033556004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543409595393466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720945514624026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745120257015705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877912375006445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21771641945650164,0.0,0.29445562636958744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268979322484035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875712266082285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767225831752708,0.2824356058281842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103576969285776,0.0,0.10866998680525974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547680174077262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772488311075394,0.19945805986109647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972085910244752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185805904752977,0.08215933382360302,0.0,0.0,0.26927004501177565,0.15654396161682382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310587454014777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061477481980438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308976317860445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bubbly_Promise,2020/03/27,"Dealing with Depression My 12 year old is not only showing signs of depression, but has come to me about feeling this way. We moved out of state at the beginning of her 6th grade year and she is at the end of her 7th grade year in a new school. She is having a really hard time adjusting.  She has a handful of friends here but she says her old friends were the only thing making her happy. I'm so thankful that she feels like she can talk to me, so I want to do the right thing here and find her help. I know a therapist would help. She has even asked to see one. I'm just not sure we can afford it out of pocket. We make too much for Medicaid and not enough for insurance and the out of pocket cost for therapy seems like it would break us.

What can I do to help her cope with this change? Are there resources that will help me get her the help she needs more affordably? I am just at a loss on where to start. Any advice is welcomed.",2.654,3.8746951179487183,3.4584615384615383,93.42153846153849,74.74358974358974,7.2512820512820495,22.23076923076923,7.793537801064563,0.6541384615384618,728,18,169,10,15,231,110,195,0.053,0.725,0.222,0.9914,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,1,11,11,0,0,11,0,19,1,1,2,1,34,36,8,0,4,7,0,4,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,9,13,0,0,6,1,1,2,3,3,0,1,1,6,27,8,27,32,3,25,0,3,1,0,31,10,0,1,12,116,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398668518022556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628345908143754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861664601798315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422331796481676,0.10929678234220247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080878234515986,0.2185649100570266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237894238314224,0.13110203319605496,0.0,0.08380373119443074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283097337509319,0.0906438413209784,0.0,0.0,0.11596697318649712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960559556716168,0.0,0.06629010730436438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506722790293085,0.11366049110898728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252284375304353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973050212199487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397533562830428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938816075038854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485446713450575,0.0932721645413138,0.0940806844867762,0.0,0.12254250042018246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662806185004125,0.0,0.08597787735295986,0.1929974989114403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128324408912048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835571608074626,0.0,0.10090089674535488,0.0,0.12841038774209254,0.1011077626439472,0.1155077347627208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980705414891027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958387993453864,0.0,0.0,0.1019821749007785,0.0,0.11681501590629804,0.1450995286217593,0.14731866840908958,0.16858825200169994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739853555847593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262227034147927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483772558619299,0.10071226482895793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026530281693395,0.0,0.0,0.2451216920902508
parenting,Iron_in_velvet,2020/03/27,"My 8 year old daughter has been kissing her 5 year old sister and I’m freaking out To begin, I am pretty sure my daughter is not being sexually abused. I know where she is at all times. If she is not at school, she is at home. At family gatherings I never let my children out of my sight. Even for a second. Ive been made fun of it by a few family members but I don’t care. I was raped as a child and it has made me even more antsy about this kind of thing. Her father is always at work as he works a ton, and is either with me alone, us as a family or sleeping.

The other day, my youngest daughter told me that her sister has been making her kiss her on the lips for some time now. She said it is only a quick smooch. But she said it was a ‘husband wife kiss.’ I was freaking out internally but my husband advised me to approach the topic calmly. So we did. I asked her if maybe someone was teaching her to do this. She said no and laughed alittle at the thought of someone else teaching her. She confessed to being curious since she sees her dad being affectionate with me. We calmly told her that it’s normal to be curious but not right to be ‘husband wife’ kissing her sister. She apologised and said she will definitely not do it anymore. We told her if she has questions about anything to come ask one of us about it and we will have no problems answering. She was fine with this exchange and is blissfully oblivious to me well...panicking.

I am worried that someone is hurting her and she isn’t telling me. My husband is also rather concerned but keeps telling me not to freak her out about it and to remain cool headed. Is this something to be concerned about? I am sick that she has been giving her sister quick ‘husband wife’ smooches yet my husband thinks I might be making way too much of this due past trauma. He’s gently advising me to keep a keen eye on it but not to panic our girls. 

Am I overreacting?",2.8605184108527126,4.527629304909564,4.067130975452199,87.44356468023257,75.07235142118864,6.594605943152455,26.30563630490956,7.292943589461545,1.2547752583979332,1499,55,306,17,32,490,177,387,0.08800000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.163,0.9823,0,1,1,0,1,0,34.0,7,0,0,2,16,22,1,1,12,1,47,9,4,4,3,58,71,24,0,6,18,18,0,0,0,3,1,4,1,3,20,21,0,2,6,0,1,2,11,8,0,2,20,8,65,14,45,40,7,32,1,1,3,4,76,14,0,7,15,236,85,7,0.0,0.11590659478717755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131716802142918,0.0,0.07823059437710217,0.08139821289529278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701608538857713,0.0,0.0,0.0805016163288189,0.0,0.18290628593153346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997390781518019,0.0,0.0,0.08426755094495203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630890137689956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172021107434195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922494215233546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766620308335962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384262658487208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039664327902867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812642258986597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472365527065174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390265893636586,0.0,0.10186965412034353,0.05376204600044658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003266121836037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18512870671209933,0.13059785621880593,0.0,0.09827833245634683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377683562501723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719126099487763,0.0,0.07544864875032109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584770187628196,0.0,0.0,0.20530170334641773,0.0,0.06628873242851023,0.07440029899895947,0.0,0.11477652650489685,0.0,0.0,0.09338500443701564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952316474252186,0.0,0.09360528618856846,0.0,0.0,0.10958635639291596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354199116697475,0.3722157984141246,0.0,0.0,0.09900409379883096,0.0779538368554432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092182733230713,0.0,0.09789561953917952,0.0,0.2486603427310751,0.07531044236769402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219887794160377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17100667382797746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499056426836881,0.06268229174738321,0.0,0.07766210022730276,0.11408505515558548,0.0,0.0,0.28042785743800186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353427917222192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764890901073429,0.0,0.0,0.08795639769848282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243548870495168,0.09934600711027804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599214867555636
parenting,ChuSangSik,2020/03/27,"Bassinet vs Crib for easier back sleeping? Hello friends,

Tl;dr: Will my babby take to back sleeping easier in a smaller environment where I can more easily keep her next to me in bed and make the transition smoother?

As first time parents of our beautiful 6 day old girl, my wife and I feel like we are holding on by threads.  Thankfully grandma allowed us a full night's rest, giving me some time to post this, through a slew of problems with baby.

The biggest worry we have right now is she hard refuses to crib back sleep.  Right now we are sleeping her in the napper in the pack and play, and since this isnt a real safe option, we are shift sleeping to keep an eye on her, which cannot last forever.....
 Right?

So far right now we are working to shift her schedule.  I am sitting on the couch in the dark with her in the bassinet in front of me so I can see her, with this ongoing we have tried the following to her into the crib:

She falls asleep in our arms, and we as dead slowly as possible move her to the crib, drop down with her and gently leave her there after giving her chest pressure for a minute.  This will sometimes last for 10 mins or so until the fussing and inevitable sobs come.

Slipping her into the crib and putting her in her side with a pacifier to give her back pats until she passes out, then sliding her gently and slowly onto her back.  This one usually works for a while until she startles herself awake with her feet more loosened in a swaddle and realizes where she is.

My question is do you folk think this may also be to be plopped into such a wide open environment along with the time to takes to get her in there.  I wonder if I had a bassinet next to bed where after I burped her and felt her drifting off, if a slow, easier transition to a lifted bassinet would be smoother for her to gain confidence in back sleeping.

Ideas? Suggestions? Something to help me cry less?",6.379343801863911,6.163173932975871,6.205775564917655,82.20613047363719,65.7024128686327,9.249534022724374,32.50721307289672,8.704169506293173,2.4322971786033447,1499,55,298,20,21,470,190,373,0.069,0.813,0.11800000000000001,0.9668,2,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,10,1,0,4,19,9,0,2,26,0,23,12,11,2,0,56,40,26,1,4,4,2,3,1,1,4,1,0,3,1,7,32,0,5,7,1,0,9,2,4,0,2,2,5,53,5,64,31,6,78,0,1,2,0,51,35,1,8,32,216,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709231683112586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091701631383908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639622000105495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741878865941947,0.05719594460143139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484294248124454,0.06335819495231662,0.08515367585594517,0.0,0.0,0.07543733648768068,0.0,0.0,0.06851955565860479,0.0,0.04633543195866152,0.2552306979019022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944636336139704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059445199699600514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011711941604692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765861997757374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458390466729032,0.0,0.09390700096562103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04332811457207671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919943349175805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426052001308284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863981038306504,0.08322698394649837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306235863962653,0.0,0.06009678137564173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098476704760799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998155807356436,0.0849378778978311,0.0,0.0,0.0848617285863102,0.0,0.08915519003905134,0.09935002617527404,0.0,0.0,0.10094551590144887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30295373556958555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067226237801963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733630164214076,0.0,0.5325078422421683,0.0,0.0,0.06827578420141303,0.08771396605068872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333635617464773,0.0,0.0,0.08165131180772547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056827213996424576,0.0,0.0,0.1551427603169361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060212826708268025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667985179620408,0.0,0.09767648522526858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617754833280476,0.1291307604058608,0.09006621564665067,0.0,0.06300088363736618,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway142895126,2020/03/27,"Night cough - teething or asthma? Hello everyone

Looking to get some idea about my 2yr olds night cough that has persisted for about 3 weeks or also. Every night around 2:30am on the dot she starts coughing out of no where. It’s a hacking cough like she’s trying to clear something out. I can definitely hear her breath through the mucus once the coughs stop. Holding her upright sometimes helps. Warm liquid immediately solves it most of the times. The couple of times that it did persist and she threw up from coughing, she was able to go back to sleep happily. No symptom of cold or allergy during the day. She does also nap for almost three hours in the same bed without any issue. That leads me to either nocturnal asthma or teething. I’m certainly hoping it’s the latter. Any thoughts?",4.101836734693877,6.700718197278918,3.99751700680272,85.1040306122449,74.51020408163265,6.37687074829932,26.14625850340137,7.447530270364453,1.4715523809523812,633,23,112,8,14,193,103,147,0.042,0.809,0.149,0.9429,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,9,0,4,13,4,1,2,22,13,7,0,1,6,0,1,1,0,0,9,1,1,0,7,4,0,2,2,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,4,4,10,4,22,9,4,22,0,0,1,0,10,7,0,8,13,68,17,1,0.16128950492475494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150814096142627,0.0,0.0,0.25796631763206684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193647884032538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435818547438278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402167348015365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784637694238283,0.0,0.10401838752864023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411455326704464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589336425841247,0.15411903386548872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426710934436384,0.0,0.09166454256683784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178499421436287,0.0,0.10810895531421487,0.0,0.0,0.16019687117207998,0.158837673054245,0.0,0.0,0.1820762188340342,0.0,0.16834433881250918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879790505865356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354425623369684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540778229635253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692462036034582,0.1717680588248718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140598627628247,0.0,0.0,0.12416854078333832,0.15951944453254469,0.0,0.11416154173826752,0.0,0.0,0.1348452481830491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676415522652666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804585069772734,0.18809841475492936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095049865227462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937671201767698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547732711805845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Goodmorningbelle,2020/03/27,"Please may I have some Tips for caring after a 16 months old? Hey all,

Never thought I’d be joining a parenting sub but here we go!! 

I have become an overnight live in auntie/nanny for my 16 month old nephew as my sister is a doctor for the NHS - she was unable to claim for nursery as her husband is not a key worker and works from home. I have to keep him and his dad separated throughout the day as he becomes a crying leech and refuses to let go him. 

So far it’s been okay but I’m starting to become very very tired quickly. I’m still trying to figure out how he communicates with me and there have been times where I have been unable to console him or get him to eat, even sit in his high chair - he’s become very attached to his play car and I’ve had to feed him with him sat on it - I don’t want to change his routine at all but he really creates when I say no. 

My sister comes home from work very stressed and sad and I don’t want her to worry at all about me whilst I look after her baby! 

Please may I have some tips, I just want to beable to feel more confident and in control. I have never had to look after a family member in this way before.

Thank you x",1.6550774526678182,3.1216537389558248,3.345932300631098,92.19277108433737,77.87550200803213,5.867355134825015,19.889271371199087,6.42735559955562,0.0010885829030407024,907,20,205,7,21,302,142,249,0.092,0.7979999999999999,0.111,-0.4384,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,4,11,6,0,1,9,1,21,4,0,2,5,38,39,18,0,3,6,6,1,0,0,2,2,1,2,0,3,13,2,3,3,1,0,4,6,2,0,0,8,4,32,4,37,27,6,33,0,1,2,0,29,11,0,5,16,134,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4874887407694987,0.0938991675609349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250851471621943,0.0,0.11673497841550501,0.09505619232975257,0.0,0.0,0.12376617701238482,0.0,0.0,0.12121357720595895,0.07116620050626142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294723361206276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291493178074227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288470364504755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402754448323684,0.0,0.0557959459914424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765297984486501,0.0,0.12542815497558393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659014479446618,0.2213787868221329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808357077630726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283968475885865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974404960052281,0.0,0.18533132030527846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761595936084531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170216440046193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315861560005612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252989202363035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24226089370169876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069261800526269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775423065284066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810583650138309,0.0,0.08812513188169266,0.0,0.12640480533808493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015948537645524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760505619489872,0.0643455922428786,0.1268303425168722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491996379166603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641990753771096,0.19526071356527694,0.08759017612771826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067127924205155,0.1120651194103946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fuk_ur_mum_m8,2020/03/27,"Do you ever just get sick to the back teeth talking about the same thing with your kids? My five year old is **obsessed** with Pokémon at the minute. I like Pokémon. I play Let's Go Eevee with him for an hour most nights. I love that we have something in common. We have an amazing father-son relationship and this is just one reason why.

*But fuck me*. Sometimes I just want to bash my fucking brains in with a blunt object. For the past hour he's been talking about Pokémon. Absolute drivel. I don't fucking care if you want to catch **another** fucking Squirtle. Please tell me I'm not the only one this happens to.",0.13524990161353756,2.3892422809917377,1.1877213695395523,96.80980716253444,101.39669421487602,3.2964974419519883,19.811491538764265,5.288315135182226,-0.23103101141282997,480,17,97,3,21,149,83,121,0.075,0.7809999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.7725,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,3,0,0,7,10,4,1,8,0,8,8,2,1,1,19,20,3,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,5,0,3,1,0,15,5,15,18,2,14,0,0,0,5,13,3,4,2,10,64,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079047393276358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790907846325065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711782739177223,0.0,0.0,0.15634046039287933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870490719780146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5670418383805088,0.08011387791139496,0.0,0.0871467174932195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559815170186085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30201823809561984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680065024664405,0.0,0.07491423159829667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839543489107375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389930446255422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609046494883882,0.0,0.20781445224429207,0.11662206242934944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463804845404052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832139217216874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576591704932649,0.0,0.16462989080030938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804870719014135,0.15165728839170856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464979418912961,0.13402601373470754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187235461957424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808879380222096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383655975653346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874600254398244
parenting,earl_the_girl,2020/03/27,"I’m losing patience with my son I feel so bad! He is so sweet and in our good moments I’m overflowing with love for him. He is funny and silly and smart.
BUT my son is 17months and he refuses to speak.
He has said plenty of words in the past but only once and he could copy sounds but for the past few months he just refuses to do anything but noises. And he gets to frustrated that I don’t know what he is trying to communicate and when I try to get him to use a word or new sound he hits. Just in general the hitting thing is driving me up the wall. 
He is my first kid and I’m a pretty anxious person by nature so I have already been pretty on edge trying to get myself not to compare him to other kids or panic about the speech and now this attitude issue has got me feeling like I’m just doing something wrong.",3.8306883867577497,4.035986225433529,5.276584340514977,85.24407251707831,71.13872832369941,7.90940620073568,26.13189700472937,7.686295010490155,1.278588439306358,639,18,138,7,11,216,103,173,0.105,0.7609999999999999,0.134,0.3569,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,9,11,1,1,7,0,14,1,0,1,0,31,30,19,0,1,10,2,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,3,5,11,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,3,8,14,6,21,24,1,16,0,1,0,1,24,7,0,2,9,87,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852272243963964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962331259834345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812667744310675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014817437202906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401498333523265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974053407759015,0.11991244613236883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427735678826759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630849092028884,0.0,0.0,0.1407850538608268,0.13424539551929104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519233556206587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224625697269033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200328637126494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778179911214785,0.0,0.0,0.15149164901941692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339766849126285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211107965434465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875532740074254,0.0,0.12765788527181424,0.0,0.19693642162196676,0.0,0.0,0.3204646310008817,0.0,0.14656060111972233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415286475331614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966428337529806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292195319225682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151242815889664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418784584014817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144968958350784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835181956969754,0.0,0.0
parenting,friendly_exorsist2,2020/03/27,"Important documents My main account got perma banned because I was a litteral scumwad that put Hitler Osama bin laden shadman and other great men to shame I don't plan on karma whoring with this account though or even posting at all as getting perma banned on two accounts will really hurt my ego and I can't handle that without having a stroke, maybe I will go jerk off the other social media mods as reddit mods are as big a asshole as yours truly 

Goodbye and ass always your all cockmuffins",6.495992907801419,7.393840372340428,6.337021276595745,77.53333333333335,65.48936170212768,7.9687943262411345,32.687943262411345,7.793537801064563,2.4795730496453894,401,16,66,4,6,126,73,94,0.18100000000000002,0.7340000000000001,0.085,-0.8718,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,2,0,1,2,5,1,1,4,0,7,3,1,0,2,10,10,9,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,4,0,1,2,1,8,1,11,6,3,8,1,1,0,2,4,5,1,1,0,45,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369382196908069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735834544012775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807739533918266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877226277233266,0.0,0.16183231535722994,0.0,0.22774386397172056,0.31394239696327697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048351500205595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860737637611535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272715711406642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28625651686684195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824207659386023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902709417318052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27976945430464434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27816337615936354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27449278781620856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Paigelikesfish,2020/03/27,"Preteen Cellphone Use My daughter has had her phone for two years.  We have limits set for hours spent on apps, games, internet, etc.  my problem is she is constantly on the phone FaceTiming/ talking to her friends.  My question is what sort of rules do you have for time limit to talk  on the phone or do you?  Also, do any of you exist out there who do not allow there girls to call boys? Even if they are just friends?  Just trying to figure out a way to get her off the phone.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.  Also she’s 12.",2.428846153846152,4.647521115384619,3.216000000000001,90.529,78.23076923076924,6.083076923076924,22.9,7.1686216300943375,0.742822307692308,412,13,85,5,10,130,71,104,0.039,0.871,0.09,0.77,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,3,1,2,7,3,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,2,0,17,17,4,0,3,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,13,2,16,13,1,12,0,0,0,0,27,6,0,4,4,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512495025381056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986892766012863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224249828797404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23732405905806697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24492698569596555,0.14505257504412125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393455257609581,0.0,0.11473893378494555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162749546403517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21014035794092847,0.0,0.0,0.2460172613698165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530338534363716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805833571092218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910307824146454,0.0,0.2145303741691936,0.0,0.0,0.18967545987507192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743188894307448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600705357640587,0.0,0.0,0.14142382497016218
parenting,kmca828,2020/03/27,"Parents of teenagers & young adults Have you ever kicked your kid out of the house and what were the results? 

Background: I was kicked out of aunts house, where I was living primarily, when I was 19 and it changed my life for the better. It was like a huge dose of reality that I needed to get my shit together. Now my aunts daughter is 19 and she’s acting up worse than I did but my aunt won’t kick her out.",3.4405098039215685,4.315766482352942,4.0950000000000015,90.93583333333336,72.41176470588233,7.0784313725490176,24.75490196078432,7.1686216300943375,0.7415490196078434,321,9,73,3,6,102,61,85,0.053,0.8809999999999999,0.065,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,4,3,1,0,4,0,9,3,1,1,1,10,11,5,0,1,1,5,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,0,13,2,11,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,6,1,0,5,49,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28084337049906266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292415639022703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27419950350285266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344614722286748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542143634664214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5981645920784044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18308080719799968,0.12663215300932745,0.0,0.2288785759706491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219370647836745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878112114566946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26606533931752124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641472062929979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Seeweedy,2020/03/27,"Please give me some tips on how to build emotional resilience in a 7 year old, boy, please! My gorgeous, loving, friendly and caring son cannot emotionally self-regulate, especially when asked to turn off his iPad. He plays Minecraft and watches Minecraft videos constantly. 
Yes, we regulate the time he is allowed to spend on it. He can watch before/in bed, and he gets up early to watch it. However, regardless of how routine, how many warnings that in 15, 10, 5 mins, he’ll have to turn it off he has a complete emotional breakdown crying, running away, squealing.
My OH thinks that he’s just being naughty, but I can see he is absolutely distraught and it takes at least 5-10 minutes for him to calm down (depending on the circumstance).
He is bright, but can’t read - has a real block with reading and literacy, too. However, he can use siri etc to find videos etc on the iPad. (If I ever meet Jelly or Preston I’m going to kick them in the nuts!!) so I can’t get him to read a book. 

Any suggestions? Will he grow out of it?",4.505757142857141,5.588691890000002,5.262428571428573,82.77800000000002,70.1,8.714285714285714,30.785714285714285,9.04235418022936,2.488871428571428,798,33,160,15,14,259,130,200,0.063,0.809,0.129,0.8223,3,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,1,0,8,8,0,1,8,1,14,1,0,6,1,26,29,14,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,8,0,1,2,7,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,5,11,7,27,26,4,25,0,0,5,1,24,14,0,4,8,88,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919661112560852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642877071279054,0.0,0.12706004674954793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378836050225137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179390529900174,0.14614365180719002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855200110843686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4563718249001223,0.0,0.0,0.30165103578460045,0.0,0.1223300263456122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360458970513445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448412722243876,0.0,0.14131198374365012,0.12973209596553684,0.07685856587378292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220570889550032,0.0,0.0,0.13710955952147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190896637114814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969002431844445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058221757945315,0.15392983834472904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776674749897132,0.0,0.1410821664559681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016817404784688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665470462888987,0.0,0.0,0.07885805130514056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941990472216907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680174557257518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708849122045144
parenting,KiraIsGod666,2020/03/27,"Is quiet playtime good for kids? We've got a four year old, and a while ago he decided he didn't want to nap anymore, and after weeks of him refusing to sleep, we decided to change nap time to quiet playtime where he just goes into his room and plays for a couple of hours. At first he loved it but now he comes out a lot asking to come out. we don't want to just give in, if you give in on everything, they'll never listen to no, just push until you give in like always, but I'm just curious what others think of it. Is time alone to just play and cool the jets good for a kid, or should we just let him come out when he's ready?",6.729513381995133,3.80477086861314,7.182153284671532,84.23872871046233,66.5912408759124,10.593187347931872,28.67274939172749,8.344100000000001,1.589813625304136,487,8,118,5,6,161,86,137,0.046,0.763,0.19,0.9688,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,2,1,1,10,7,0,0,6,1,7,2,1,0,1,33,21,11,0,4,10,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,2,4,14,0,1,3,4,0,4,4,0,0,2,2,4,9,7,25,16,1,29,0,0,0,1,24,11,0,3,15,73,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493622191576144,0.0,0.0,0.16934058979553118,0.0,0.0,0.1360482300203623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215179954378992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285394835752258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296530294288515,0.4225320463346836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091380545198646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694664068730567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907621849936927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705431284009906,0.0,0.2742784004429105,0.1307688967688859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101827263962926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167193676850017,0.0,0.07987968040700788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900505356958634,0.14756853101245976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610418281680488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156969647708847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362184489461154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476661025496062,0.0,0.0,0.19068071980472664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928775129961459,0.0,0.13115285743179278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529106361230096
parenting,GW4C,2020/03/27,"2 Yr. Old Always Wake Screaming Out Our 2 Yr. Old goes to sleep and stays asleep through the night well, with few exceptions. However, when he wakes in the morning he immediately begins screaming and crying. How do we help him wake up peacefully?",2.7300000000000004,5.733579666666671,3.3305555555555566,84.5425,85.66666666666666,6.555555555555558,25.277777777777786,7.793537801064563,1.8614444444444451,195,8,35,4,6,61,37,45,0.155,0.6920000000000001,0.153,-0.0258,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,1,5,5,1,0,7,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,1,7,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,19,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255822392547008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33771854765623754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607674129340509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28852027961962057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6452325066597859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076712708987842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.327699976808756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764337851985356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NarcolepZZZZZZ,2020/03/27,"Should I allow my teenager to go to her mother's house for her spring break amongst the pandemic?? We had plans for a trip that we've cancelled, my daughter was going to go to her mom's that week. My county has a shelter-in-place policy now. Her mother works at a Dollar General in another county, with no such policy and is presumably in contact with many people each day.

My wife is a teacher and working from home. I'm a truck driver and am exposed to 1 specific person daily for approximately 7 seconds.

I think it's probably going to cause a huge uproar with her mother but it's probably in my daughter's best interest to not send her but I'm not sure I can even legally do it...",4.6578337330135895,5.2106616258992835,6.393045563549162,76.73586730615509,69.43165467625899,9.343245403677058,30.552358113509197,9.444778638647367,2.7750089528377297,542,21,103,11,9,188,86,139,0.051,0.835,0.114,0.8798,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,2,1,19,16,5,0,1,4,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,8,0,0,2,0,1,6,3,0,0,1,2,0,15,3,18,13,2,16,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,0,4,68,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21418285120693786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435669833574306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982974933557288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172983727914905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491081556976445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643392601436925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048879338624324,0.0,0.0,0.23568688949383146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070860635474846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23922509136013714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416071282193015,0.17835064718817978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404504291728232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925112228420391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088060184933195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384385132972176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29740524742677504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LadyHelpish,2020/03/27,"Free books, audio, video, and software!! [FREE Library Archives! ](https://archive.org/details/nationalemergencylibrary)",27.807666666666666,34.709507099999996,12.850000000000005,8.871666666666698,78.0,5.333333333333334,43.33333333333334,6.42735559955562,5.170333333333334,101,4,5,1,3,23,9,10,0.0,0.6829999999999999,0.317,0.6341,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,keeperofthenins,2020/03/27,"Easter Basket Help I’m trying to come up with Easter basket ideas for my big kids (8-13, all girls) but I’m stuck.  Anyone with any creative or fun ideas?  Big or small, I’m open to anything!

(I’ve got candy and the actual baskets covered)",0.3398639455782302,2.655704244897961,2.5256122448979603,91.50093537414969,88.18367346938776,4.082993197278912,16.329931972789115,5.46131890053228,-0.525043537414966,184,4,37,1,6,62,37,49,0.047,0.7559999999999999,0.19699999999999998,0.8378,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,11,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,6,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,0,13,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.3090530629361021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153665447492073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22144367938661755,0.0,0.2606167337957692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27280860799784873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532935502033596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21227702341788915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7150304552834943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501819641955397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jynx616,2020/03/27,Wife is babysitting and puts the opposite sex child in same crib for bedtime... Is this normal? My daughter is sleeping in her room and out of no where she (wife) tells me that she is having a 3 yr old boy over cuz supposedly she's started babysitting someone's kids (off a fb website for sitters apparently)... I wasnt shocked when it was a boy twice the size of my daughter and opposite race but I can tell you the shock did hit me when I seen that she was laying the boy down in my daughters own room in her crib to sleep together for the night... I'm literally laying in bed wide awake in worry.. Plz I need assurance that this is normal and what if not?,4.126031746031746,4.8764745187969964,4.989874686716792,85.60848788638266,70.72932330827068,8.01637426900585,29.063492063492063,8.167268648758528,1.7871978279030911,513,19,109,7,9,167,84,133,0.039,0.9109999999999999,0.05,0.1004,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,8,0,11,3,2,1,1,14,16,9,0,4,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,7,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,5,1,16,1,16,10,2,20,0,0,1,1,19,14,0,1,5,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18147834185388845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968043212411934,0.47960426712942,0.0,0.0,0.2568229885703853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460404258724653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4898516703600488,0.0,0.20737510151542968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323465876800068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42784296790637016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485545714693317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andrewitscold,2020/03/27,"Went for our Six month olds check up and he isn’t verbalizing like he should. We took our first born son for his six month visit today and the pediatrician has my wife freaked out. Our son is excelling at all of his motor skills but is behind with language. He doesn’t use vowels or say anything like dada, mama, gaga lala, etc....

When we took him today he only slept about ten minutes and was tired. The doctor said it four times “wow he doesn’t talk huh?”. My wife thinks he might be autistic, me not so much. He yells, laughs, smiles, screech’s, and does everything else normal. He still babbles also.

Can anyone give me some insight? Like I said he’s our first born and my wife is going to drive me crazy with all the googling she’s doing. Thanks!",1.8122297297297287,4.2418740743243255,2.289121621621621,95.12597972972976,81.90540540540543,4.510810810810812,18.033783783783786,5.602791699666715,-0.5145486486486486,585,13,123,3,16,179,101,148,0.051,0.778,0.171,0.9687,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,6,0,0,4,5,8,0,0,3,1,13,3,1,1,2,22,24,10,0,2,3,5,0,3,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,10,0,0,2,0,1,6,4,1,0,6,7,4,17,7,11,14,5,21,0,0,0,0,30,3,0,3,15,68,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129559380545136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328119571110452,0.0,0.13332046915262513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658241538071525,0.1417760888115506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533861028554914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806840340912036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456041888235956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756113359861673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554148049861065,0.0920740464253268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23744978479433584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718670635902392,0.0,0.0,0.2586297566655393,0.0,0.11909602978901156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587354535733996,0.0,0.0,0.17000229719722362,0.0,0.0,0.1232159454677423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308217319934886,0.12883689644835056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293814372967937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021754346176367,0.0,0.14915708971263428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038095000377176,0.0,0.0,0.09446936453126073,0.18620672284164286,0.3071331730852295,0.0,0.3599982591606383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399246684106672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018494188515213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rvy474,2020/03/27,"How do I teach my brown daughter(5yo) to stop obsessing over white skin? Im afraid it will destroy her self confidence. Our entire family is brown. But her favorite characters and heroes from TV, YouTube or fairy tales are almost all white and mostly blonde. We've tried to offer her stories and characters who have brown or black skin, but the options are so limited. Any material that we do find, seem to be of questionable quality. This obsession with white skin has now started affecting her real life.

She thinks she's white because she is a *lighter* shade of brown then my wife or me. She thinks our darker skin makes less appealing. She refuses to play with kids who she thinks dont have light enough skin. All her video game avatars look like white Swedish kids.

I fee insulted and helpless by her rejection of our bloodline. But most importantly, I think she's going to have confidence issues when she gets older and realizes that she isn't white.",5.891958041958041,7.6713035454545455,5.31159090909091,81.09459790209792,67.52272727272728,9.506293706293707,30.58391608391609,9.851270322608157,2.9958466783216773,768,30,139,18,13,233,113,176,0.141,0.7559999999999999,0.10300000000000001,-0.8125,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,4,10,2,3,2,0,14,6,5,3,2,35,24,15,0,0,6,1,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,6,8,0,3,8,4,1,1,2,7,0,0,0,19,25,3,13,22,6,8,0,2,13,0,30,1,0,9,7,82,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20682775042888074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045956271513432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590960015949332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420724417590669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134190544725679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19471485013257492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18878091486572454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791268203007726,0.0,0.11738585448593244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310702948277167,0.21558220339087675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589079444110842,0.10090880462602976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344810183388318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787223670335527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313807669667811,0.0,0.0,0.23509657511240414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803332745010268,0.2154743648138962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619557084034518,0.0,0.0,0.1726831797561536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5293898699485409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023237397459604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,indreansiforget,2020/03/27,"Development Delays in Speech? Developmental Delays

Hi,
Last week we weren’t able to go to our child’s 18 month exam with the pediatrician. We wanted to see if we should be concerned with the slowness of our sons speech development. At 18 months he regularly says:
dada
mama
hi
bye bye
owl 
i love you
ba ba and wa ba

But that’s it. We’ve heard and my wife has read that he should be saying much more than that at this point. He does understand commands though; sit, hug, kiss, get the X (toy), give the toy to Kermit, smell, etc. and physically he’s doing great - he runs, there’s, climbs up the couch, dances, and all that. 

Any thoughts or advice?",1.7231946006749157,4.179221842519688,2.9998256467941498,89.71253937007873,82.54330708661416,5.833295838020248,17.732845894263214,7.1686216300943375,0.07662474690663679,502,11,107,7,14,162,90,127,0.0,0.888,0.11199999999999999,0.9388,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,5,0,7,3,0,0,1,20,16,8,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,1,6,9,0,2,2,4,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,7,8,4,12,9,4,17,0,0,1,3,23,5,0,2,9,51,14,2,0.2211006589726541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160570050252136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035602996606426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19348667663801736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465856800742059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551596872004502,0.2120998989969135,0.12565659976084484,0.0,0.0,0.243764257071246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802265469745622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955197706888705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529608731372861,0.0,0.16253442451278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901158877783504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211604919510267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516562366913992,0.0,0.0,0.1761885992023879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172302748512712,0.17552922604102048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23017358352407066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041089718261506,0.0,0.17735361204170513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tsuchibones,2020/03/27,"When I have a disagreement with my parents, why do they laugh or just stare at me without saying anything? I don't really fight with my parents, but when we do get into *disagreements*, when I state my perception, they'll often laugh at me OR just stare at me without saying anything OR just completely ignore me. I *cannot even explain* what feeling it is that I get when they do this but it feels absolutely awful. It feels so awful. Parents, please for the love of god do not do this because there's nothing they do that makes me feel more horrible. Anyways, why are they doing this? What does it mean? What are they trying to convey to me?

​

I asked my stepmom once what that meant  (because she's usually the one who does this), explaining why it was upsetting, and she told me two things on separate occasions, respectively:

1. ""It reminds me of my old self who used to try to argue with my parents""
2. ""I'm sorry you took it that way""

​

Thoughts?",3.6276612903225818,5.6792512688172065,4.4233198924731205,84.05497983870971,73.94623655913979,7.4456989247311824,28.29166666666667,8.278499904357787,2.068753763440861,760,31,143,13,16,244,104,186,0.138,0.742,0.121,-0.6829999999999999,4,0,0,0,1,0,39.0,1,1,6,0,12,8,2,1,3,2,15,1,0,2,0,31,33,11,0,0,11,4,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,22,6,0,1,10,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,5,8,30,4,17,27,1,14,0,0,2,1,26,5,0,4,6,108,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23745229278542876,0.266295004559101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034432862289967,0.0,0.1024392827173017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335936959338758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488892813418185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178235505778848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237427798531355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162078481127687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449844977883675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889711473598524,0.0,0.07314319815383294,0.0,0.0,0.11936098666602643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051416552407978,0.0,0.11498215670575546,0.11669544980234504,0.07425190629869997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4866871660762387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028214693117313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019754394473844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742793416458535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431223964665363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266197681726343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279779099048027,0.0,0.0,0.08699154106253179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470508954387654,0.1217435791487754,0.14879056962389398,0.0,0.10704036747842494,0.0,0.0,0.09463895732850694,0.12068308921902808,0.0,0.0,0.08697676520333636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966273791191644,0.0,0.0,0.2112557683452264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266295004559101,0.0
parenting,helenmac11,2020/03/27,"Kidalist.com - crowdsourced ideas for busy parents I’m a web designer parent of 3 kids. I made a website for organizing resources for parents: apps, podcasts, virtual tours, printables... it’s crowd-sources so you can submit resources that you recommend.

[kidalist.com](https://kidalist.com) 

The key features that it has that I wanted are:
1. User-submissions
2. Moderated so no weird or low-quality stuff
3. Upvoting
4. Commenting
5. Ability to bookmark your favorites for quick access later.
6. Filterable
7. Organized into collections/categories

I hope it can help people out. 

Please add anything your kids have loved that’s missing. And upvote and comment!

[kidalist.com](https://kidalist.com) 

Thanks 🙏",5.9683573612931395,9.462513376146788,5.920524246395807,61.86024464831806,94.13761467889908,8.681695063346439,34.548274355613806,8.418075326091056,4.925966885102666,574,32,69,18,21,180,86,109,0.062,0.7390000000000001,0.19899999999999998,0.9387,3,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,4,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,0,10,12,5,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,7,3,8,11,0,4,0,1,0,1,13,2,0,2,2,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226189749975347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845559807400274,0.0,0.0,0.21998290752429533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500277047678163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989734001252876,0.20957286888004534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7377930350389413,0.0,0.0,0.15354864399222884,0.0,0.0,0.2431221708209132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535454074472475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039120801881036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063659823552118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StockIncident,2020/03/27,"Religious parents: How aggressively do you work your faith into your parenting? I'm expecting my first in early November. I'm a Christian who wants to work my belief in Christ into how I raise my kids. But how much is too much? Of course I won't have to worry about this for a few years, but I'm curious to see how you guys do it.",3.1495652173913062,4.125935260869569,5.012289855072464,83.70626086956524,73.20289855072464,8.998260869565216,25.394202898550724,9.3871,1.9648237681159424,259,8,56,6,5,89,47,69,0.025,0.8690000000000001,0.105,0.6443,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,3,6,2,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,4,0,11,10,6,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,9,1,10,9,3,7,4,0,1,0,9,4,0,0,3,40,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23283366632566616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710346510432619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4024444809047773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6078871096110715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181264970786836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145239994022642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985558051300986,0.2779849896279457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627243993761704
parenting,FrostySeahorse,2020/03/28,"Potty Training 18 month old Hello all! My daughter is nearly 18 months old now, and I’ve realized that at some point we should start potty training her. I just have a couple of questions for more experienced parents:
1) what age did you potty train your child(ren) at?
2) how do you know that your child is ready to potty train?
3) what method did you use to potty train them?

Thank-you in advance :)",1.8712842712842708,4.489431597402599,2.4583549783549827,92.67578643578643,83.67532467532467,4.461183261183262,20.243867243867246,5.82211442006289,-0.01645916305916284,311,9,61,2,9,96,57,77,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.7455,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,5,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,1,11,10,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,0,8,7,3,13,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,7,37,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961937371859449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711534568510512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273349827191565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5617909529949485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972379092045408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530534415460233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998739055240019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947225982918128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464528566881693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23119808999620586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cybercrusader,2020/03/28,Looking for advice for childproofing cabinet I am at my wit's end trying to childproof a cabinet that was built back in the late 60s. It's underneath a split oven which prevents us from using standard locks inside because the top is metal. The handles are 14 inches apart which is too far for a baby proof lock across them. We've considered a small bungee cord but are afraid it may snap and hit the toddler when he tries to go looking for snacks. Suggestions?,5.760265151515153,6.9707987386363675,5.550454545454548,81.39151515151516,67.29545454545455,8.593939393939394,30.57575757575757,8.841846274778883,2.4703348484848484,371,14,67,6,6,115,71,88,0.0,0.968,0.032,0.1406,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,8,0,7,1,0,1,1,7,12,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,11,9,0,14,0,0,2,0,4,9,0,1,4,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925782448560117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302264378404353,0.0,0.1825164703411614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651868115793336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016058983281734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377455105695443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5028549895161873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065570519322346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601512204116216,0.2585925679744123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lisagu,2020/03/28,"Bedtime stories that encourage self-enjoyment when singing/dancing rather than meltdowns for not getting everyone's attention please? He really listens to stories, and I'm looking for options that show appreciation for doing things because they're fun rather than to compete at who's the best singer or dancer for example.
Currently we have a meltdown until all the other people have stopped dancing to watch and praise him instead.

Thanks for your suggestions!",9.758831168831168,11.60083735064935,8.039376623376622,64.85335064935066,58.6103896103896,10.835324675324678,46.56883116883117,10.793553405168565,5.880789090909093,384,24,50,9,5,115,62,77,0.022000000000000002,0.7120000000000001,0.266,0.9694,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,3,4,5,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,11,8,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,12,8,2,6,1,0,2,0,9,1,0,2,4,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086420335405344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591868042349674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32704960592288873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881973570758586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28741704075404884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372839861636408,0.0,0.0,0.3757050294762848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192642132669283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35705783827188664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861495051761788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31511233154492696,0.0,0.0,0.2273861658416946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Curious-George420,2020/03/28,I think my daughter hates me?? I’m a 29(f) I have a daughter she’s 8 be 9 in June. Let’s just say I haven’t had the best luck in life. Trying to find myself and do what I can for myself as well as her. Her father is in the picture but just like me he’s not financially stable enough to take care of her. So she lives with my mom and sister. They do everything for her. I currently live in another state trying to make a good life for myself and her so I can take her with me. But on my path to that I find that my goal always ends up falling kinda short. Recently when I talk to her and tell her I love her or miss her she doesn’t always says it back. Which I guess I can understand cause of my absence in her life. I just wish she could understand that mommy is trying her best to be her best for her. I love her more than I love myself at times. I would do anything for her. I’d give my last for her. Her father has been spending a lot more time with her and I’m afraid he’s been putting stuff in her head to make her feel like I don’t love her. And a big part of me feels likes she hates me...excuse the post been drinking a bit guess I’m just ranting or nagging as some would say,-0.10264367816092346,1.7291854789272063,1.833639846743296,99.13367816091957,85.0153256704981,4.939463601532567,16.563218390804597,6.037888025583468,-0.7018367816091953,914,18,228,7,27,302,123,261,0.055,0.722,0.22399999999999998,0.995,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,4,9,19,3,1,9,0,23,9,1,3,0,38,47,16,0,4,9,6,2,3,0,2,3,3,0,0,7,9,1,0,7,1,1,2,4,5,1,0,4,5,58,14,32,37,10,24,0,1,0,4,46,11,0,8,12,158,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814138471267226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594587024953034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314465858450461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769104488946849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180955919816523,0.0,0.11030599219459357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301372790568493,0.1037926018461649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066964500181764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897757636301563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948859512296434,0.10439799948000854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080534028388708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102174460539281,0.1443613873621944,0.0,0.0,0.18469156749563512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692368307490876,0.0,0.0847448548951085,0.0,0.0,0.22260680171785566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995057991694915,0.10369288231889602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235845845877476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033169499395816,0.21409579083518854,0.1480843970409956,0.0,0.17843465035149894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589785470105447,0.36475854394777857,0.0,0.13488566642970107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833305209475214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094129835353162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676530322683403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156986743596416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099761628125698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24104550118306475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566293683461196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193416425274273,0.08120953415222845,0.08831059647934608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474028701911598,0.0,0.0,0.11783071437672216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057920180762774,0.0,0.0,0.21036569623286536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084419655739548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618730723975905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354725499644005,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ajeffery25,2020/03/28,"1 day old baby not feeding I'm sure this has been posted everywhere but we have just brought back my daughter and she doesn't seem to want to feed, all she wants to do is sleep, she's not even cried at home and we've been home over 3 hours",4.199371069182392,3.4922148490566016,4.435849056603776,94.7259748427673,70.32075471698113,7.821383647798742,25.213836477987428,6.42735559955562,0.4613194968553467,189,4,48,1,3,59,44,53,0.057,0.887,0.055999999999999994,0.2411,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,0,2,12,12,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,5,1,5,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,4,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20719440250462556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959838648184017,0.1737763009377553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797260643789087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5405710352157047,0.0,0.26535907668562275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827478862991333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580635800919778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24530187769043085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26964977933905804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25395832019135683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178632954076281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,laurenmxrie,2020/03/28,"3 Year Old Not Eating Dinner my 3 year old is just not eating dinner. she’s interested in eating fruit and smoothies and crisp and everything else but she will not eat dinner. she will go hungry as opposed to eating dinner. the only thing she WILL eat is pasta, and she used to be a fan of chicken but even now she’s going off it. i’m at my wits end with it. i have tried everything with her. i’ve tried a selection of foods for dinner and i have made sure not to overuse a certain food. i don’t want to waste money on foods for her to waste but i’m way more concerned on whether i can or can’t find the longterm solution. i’ve tried cooking things from scratch to ready meals, to just sandwiches but she won’t have none of it.

TL;DL - i am desperate for some advice on a very fussy eater. i don’t think i can tolerate it for much longer i am going crazy from the stress.",1.2579234972677575,3.2661197377049227,2.689754098360659,93.88632513661207,81.13114754098359,5.815300546448087,20.002732240437158,6.937597516519254,0.2125715846994538,684,18,153,8,18,222,99,183,0.107,0.809,0.085,-0.7159,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,7,0,17,19,0,2,2,28,26,12,0,1,12,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,7,19,1,2,1,1,3,9,1,0,0,1,2,19,3,25,20,4,16,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,6,97,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945380524072586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6876784348068907,0.09356906713138248,0.0,0.09920664347856087,0.0,0.0,0.07398082511253631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013327621718637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237410959943724,0.0,0.4063248361771781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19097172520507247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059855338022322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233943279672512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350690069208539,0.0,0.0,0.08518781926903661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128305821790036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556706702223273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882747831870788,0.07177078335155328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281400813139788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673973054866017,0.0,0.09241907682316608,0.06606575398852964,0.08890745489257795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426012442290045
parenting,Eks9119,2020/03/28,"Subscription boxes? We have a 7 week old boy (first time parents) and have been looking at those subscription boxes (Kiwi co, Lovevery, etc). Has anyone used them? Do you like them? Is it worth it to get one this young or wait until he's older? They're geared to specific ages. I think they look cool but I'm scared it's gonna be a waste of money.",0.8524295774647896,3.142599929577468,2.3304049295774694,94.16208626760564,84.91549295774648,5.240140845070423,17.325704225352112,6.6274283507984215,-0.14870563380281654,269,6,58,3,8,87,60,71,0.121,0.81,0.069,-0.7691,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,3,1,0,3,0,1,2,1,7,0,0,1,0,7,15,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,6,2,5,12,1,9,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,1,9,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042093354667879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257148399573808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484190223079173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258495648591014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426817059242072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4904997368800515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064591251932675,0.0,0.19790178667863734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242888449644312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923946952139154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713493342623466,0.0,0.0,0.1702976917907605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522388943035495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23426625319298125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,niiksa,2020/03/28,"Editing words in toddler books. So, my wife and I have had a conversation about this. Our son is 2 and a few of his books use the word ‘hate’ to describe feelings toward things (food, weather, not people). 

Very surprising to me, my wife wanted to use the word dislike instead. For instance, Johnny ‘dislikes’ corn. I’m surprised because she is an avid book lover and reader. She encourages friends to read ‘banned’ or taboo or controversial books. 

I just have this strong feeling against this. I agree that we don’t want our son to use the word hate when there are more apt words to use. I just can’t figure out how to explain why I don’t want to edit a book - even if it’s just orally while reading it...to a 2 year old. 

Thoughts? Experiences?",3.4427083333333366,5.293825631944447,3.7580555555555577,89.4925,73.93055555555556,6.188888888888887,27.277777777777786,6.816661863887847,1.1279277777777774,577,22,117,5,12,179,96,144,0.069,0.764,0.16699999999999998,0.9119,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,1,10,8,2,0,8,0,9,2,0,5,0,32,23,10,0,4,7,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,2,5,7,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,2,14,6,15,21,2,7,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,3,4,71,20,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071325800420528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607797920472485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191242789528555,0.0,0.0,0.17772400338058272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125116691268396,0.0,0.1357802261370242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34702379771717146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441491599699952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218395220224639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515853126251504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167572334256326,0.0,0.0,0.13952197625367144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6071493478920501,0.0,0.14500811070004505,0.31097703516929986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858261481578412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317408056317338
parenting,whitethrowblanket,2020/03/28,"911 potty training advice/ resources? Long story short, my now 2 yr old will randomly get sudden, severe diaper rash. We've seen doctors, tried multiple prescriptions, all the holistic options, etc. I do NOT need any advice on diaper rash, just know we have tried anything and everything possible to prevent and manage it. 
Yesterday she went from zero rash, to within at most  half an hour she pooped while we were doing something and I couldn't change her right away and it was blistering and bleeding. 

We've decided to just try potty training now. I haven't read much on it but she is already getting good at saying pee or poop as she's doing it especially is not wearing a diaper. I'm not sure she's totally ready but we are stuck at home anyway so we can at least dedicate to being consistent.
What were your best resources on how to go about it? She's going to be diaper free the next few days anyway except nap and bedtime where she will get her prescription cream on and she usually only pees while sleeping.
Any books or guides that worked well for your kids?",3.459482758620691,6.020117940886703,4.353721674876848,81.92683866995075,76.48768472906404,7.606798029556653,25.42093596059113,8.548686976883017,2.102227783251232,854,31,150,18,20,275,136,203,0.057999999999999996,0.838,0.10400000000000001,0.9292,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,4,2,0,2,11,5,0,0,4,0,17,11,9,1,3,33,28,16,0,2,10,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,1,7,11,0,1,2,3,1,3,5,0,1,2,6,3,20,6,21,17,8,28,0,0,2,0,18,13,0,5,12,105,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30691953828504004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329991502815453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135880912084788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292323066547955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475462672251477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648060452243042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612976916418895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101279193459184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073929256163244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514350684266375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411393561684233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461441214088469,0.0,0.1785013430902919,0.1317195026315479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575260785233685,0.0,0.15465488170000852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630625733947757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897735883885085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544404802118223,0.11644476260595743,0.0,0.0,0.16701610562623787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478931662219318,0.0,0.0,0.1194376298752643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704142545500945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570846454818257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411313602628502,0.0,0.12488621901866095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17741292657025548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715556160726907,0.0,0.0,0.12089871764333715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480103656392288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31986392920373496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729597388849756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119975073782784,0.14557964420613842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432855384951028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PurpleHairedMonster,2020/03/28,"Rediscovered Food What foods had you forgotten about how much you loved them until you rediscovered them by giving them to your little one?

For us it has been graham crackers.  Neither of us had really had them in a long time but now we are constantly munching away on them.

So what foods/snacks had you stopped eating and kind of forgotten how good they were until you started feeding them to your kid and ""found"" them again?",6.800506329113923,7.706699683544308,6.106177215189878,79.42584810126583,64.82278481012659,9.357974683544304,29.7240506329114,9.3871,2.476000506329114,341,11,62,6,5,104,55,79,0.07200000000000001,0.83,0.098,0.4956,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,7,8,0,6,3,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,2,0,8,12,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,0,18,3,12,5,2,13,0,0,0,1,21,4,0,0,9,53,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910011483259895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196882972249196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802023482602086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.491647162737953,0.2229010783441816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501786704830704,0.0,0.17051313281388006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21169913275531385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203753721407514,0.0,0.17990855091594846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348052553204344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944428045610564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377570905461845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023516700586596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389234615887653,0.0,0.0,0.16996265847495007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854220692772753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489074644829473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HappyCow117,2020/03/28,What dating apps are there specifically for single parents? Most people without kids don't want to date someone with kids.  Is there a dating app specifically for single parents?  I looking for an app because people don't seem to use dating websites sites as much anymore.,6.255625000000002,8.805403312500003,6.052500000000002,73.0425,67.95833333333334,6.466666666666668,32.83333333333333,7.1686216300943375,2.527858333333333,221,10,31,2,4,69,34,48,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.1341,2,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,8,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,8,8,4,5,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,4,22,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747953842117018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890937798458802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232682900718113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036904828863252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6153436052529639,0.0,0.0,0.384193825457684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522491719434987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347745192470411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23931379851007775,0.0,0.0,0.1634328155428827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671015288364377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MisSignal,2020/03/28,"Help with overnight potty training My son is 6 years old and still wears a pull up and pees over night. My daughter potty trained in 2 days at two years old. 

Here’s what we have tried: 

no liquids after dinner 
No pull (wash sheets and blankets every night)

I’m at a loss on how to prevent him from peeing his pants overnight.  Any suggestions are appreciated. Feeling like a failure of a parent.",3.33436090225564,5.612387473684212,3.5495488721804516,88.9518421052632,75.57894736842105,5.395488721804512,26.646616541353367,6.1826913282559595,0.9158406015037596,312,12,60,2,7,96,62,76,0.125,0.737,0.139,0.0258,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,3,5,3,1,0,8,5,4,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,5,1,11,5,0,17,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,0,10,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046774773565934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166478106327922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21120468700536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674892475300067,0.17908242947830416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802231804487625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246725191778998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704834313700972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5260829570889219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27834516985299224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018955698742102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701920217390677,0.0,0.2448732684456421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32285324994786674
parenting,GrapefruitBreakfast,2020/03/28,"The lock-down helped my sadness because now at least I can't miss out on anything. Is it just me? As bad and stressful as the situation is; with working form home, home schooling, the constant fear of getting sick and no outside hobbies to compensate for the stress - on the positive side I am more content and zen with my life now. The last few years I was deeply sad and frustrated because the hamster wheel of parenting, working and just being a responsible adult pretty much killed all the fun in life for me. I had no time nor energy nor leisure money to go out and  socialize and party and find some new friends or invest into a full-filling hobby. So for years I am living a very isolated life while jealously watching how the rest of the world is having big parties and hangs out with all their friends and travels and goes to crazy events...

But now, since I know that there is nothing to miss out on because everyone is at home I feel less miserable about being lonely. At least I don't feel sad about all the fun everyone else is having without me...

​

Anyone else?",9.638115942028984,7.341158995169085,8.771304347826089,73.1421739130435,60.49758454106279,11.71207729468599,40.874396135265705,9.994966539143718,3.9923874396135264,860,37,159,13,9,270,125,207,0.218,0.66,0.122,-0.9743,1,3,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,2,10,18,3,4,14,0,16,4,0,1,3,33,23,20,1,0,5,1,2,0,2,0,4,0,3,1,2,19,0,0,4,1,2,3,7,14,0,0,2,3,14,4,30,19,12,29,1,7,1,0,7,15,0,2,11,114,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904819213885405,0.15593801401197965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973305626678615,0.13149179486670154,0.10560669919565588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715226318119063,0.2346908722107709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386818235971495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144106452194053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24525437489827054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440972237053315,0.12977751912569901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729356488163348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19829871665286375,0.0,0.06704842584457707,0.0,0.07293430773510655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601855848523474,0.0,0.38618383330089695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198087883434876,0.0,0.07052817668804537,0.104608102273147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719350847872933,0.0,0.0,0.1133199339955234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433914141816056,0.0,0.0,0.12394431215064144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313847896116625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249803568170885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056027197059655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987932453734674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615795641343426,0.14425108825326458,0.0,0.13081880552777278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940088522714461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483170308856638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588773886359924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370793443486534,0.0,0.18685515268424635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593801401197965,0.1652838235178458
parenting,Nocomment69brah,2020/03/28,"A question for males and females Hey, just a question for new parents out there, we are having a son and we are not going to circumcise him as we thinks it’s unnecessary and it’s declining. I know most men these days even if they are circumcised, do not do it to their sons, might be a stupid question but if you are a NON circumcised man would you circumcise your son or not? (i’d assume no but just a question). And also for uncut guys.. when you were expecting a son did your partner/wife ever speak about circumcising or not due to you not being circumcised? All answers welcome :) but i’m from Australia so that would help much more, thanks guys! :)",2.8500131233595813,5.1081436535433085,3.7752952755905516,86.84567257217847,77.03149606299212,7.067979002624672,25.543963254593177,8.07648339933343,1.6056356955380586,512,19,101,9,12,164,80,127,0.016,0.8109999999999999,0.17300000000000001,0.972,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,6,2,0,9,3,1,0,7,0,14,0,0,0,2,37,19,15,0,5,14,5,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,5,5,8,0,0,8,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,1,13,2,10,12,4,7,0,0,0,0,30,1,0,11,5,78,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616437204623275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980967243406016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246132821172676,0.1540184140534656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676801988793536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371869375240472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412798498701712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357560545026572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18062891849843332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516759528477853,0.0,0.0,0.16444724075192074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890640108756656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.762962752457042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567611806378534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091017518422356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419089830051478,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wolf0133,2020/03/28,"Kids without romance? (Sounds weird but pls read the thing, cause i cant phrase this well) So basically i have an elaborate plan on how i want kids, this will be just the jist of it and you guys probably wont change my mind, im just curious on your opinions and anything you wanna say.

So im not really into romance at all, but i want children. What ive thought of is that ill find a guy that thinks similiarly in this aspect and have children with him, without us romantically loving each other. We'd live in one house and raise the kids together, hopefully be good friends too, just without romance. (I know theres a movie about this where the couple fell in love after a while, pls dont reference it lol)
So yeah, thats it. If you have questions ask them please and ill be thankful for any meaningful comments",4.059824016563148,5.440295267080746,4.887220496894411,83.92018892339546,71.48447204968943,8.099585921325051,28.94461697722567,8.59863814320734,2.06391884057971,642,25,130,11,12,208,109,161,0.128,0.653,0.21899999999999997,0.9348,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,4,1,1,12,11,0,0,8,2,13,4,0,2,1,34,23,13,0,5,10,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,7,13,8,0,0,7,1,0,1,7,1,1,1,1,2,15,10,17,16,2,11,0,0,0,2,22,8,0,4,2,88,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064651665630564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179313397739044,0.0,0.13836200317254535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520389460696854,0.15656661834176272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637615304863212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345738211465572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527125619036634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434607060344655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413715615470712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930907348758075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699949960127368,0.0,0.17077457507599286,0.0,0.0,0.31973537329768664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133809443881866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306885832863295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671553829719436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943995031156235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002900666848683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246188331110478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957131736425287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579624602491871,0.0,0.1480421712510611,0.0,0.09481394773907714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769722601562092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362604671774125,0.0,0.0,0.0983260319752114,0.09483378228849193,0.0,0.11749715110457068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802832706960306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459096969261914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307168001824302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280062859869658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jayjaybabyy,2020/03/28,"Potty Training My niece struggles to go on the potty.  She has to be forced to be on there.  We have tried a sticker system, treats and such. Any tips?",-0.375,1.8074115000000008,0.91,99.225,100.66666666666666,2.4000000000000004,16.0,3.1291,-1.1908,115,3,24,0,5,36,25,30,0.16899999999999998,0.831,0.0,-0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44462010974920224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37158104792330776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6835147608318123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439009512896478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ziom4,2020/03/28,"ISO recommendations for educational programs/apps/games for toddlers. Being stuck indoors, I really want to provide my three-year-old with activities that will help her learn and grow. She adores all forms of technology, so does anyone have any recommendations for apps or programs that are worth the money?",10.342941176470589,11.512149176470597,9.31843137254902,58.532941176470615,57.235294117647065,11.505882352941176,36.607843137254896,11.20814326018867,4.414654901960786,252,10,37,6,3,79,45,51,0.039,0.792,0.17,0.6997,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,6,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,22,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322710653750651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33181678531836106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152823928909824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31808123719123466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4979609845978147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040092402208405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799022153984069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055950018116059
parenting,doeslike,2020/03/28,"Playset dos and don'ts? Regrets and must-haves? We have a relatively small backyard but are thinking of putting in a playset since we're spending so much time at home.

Our kids are 2 and 4, the yard is shady with moss underfoot.  

Advice? Things you've liked about your playsets (or not?) Things that will help them enjoy it for as many years to come as possible?",2.952919254658384,5.483928971014496,2.790517598343687,92.6126086956522,78.1304347826087,5.681987577639752,25.799171842650104,6.868970318607317,0.9807954451345768,285,11,57,3,7,85,61,69,0.0,0.8079999999999999,0.192,0.9333,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,8,8,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,4,6,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,9,7,1,7,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,1,3,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965830253326748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614439632695914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034339998314219,0.0,0.30444175172623955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827793828760438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077079394378501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311218901271027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421579601223795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051078473456057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510637014548634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032724460818639,0.19447470108585585,0.0,0.0,0.17697707264087134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195448226044371
parenting,under_rated_human,2020/03/28,"4 month sleep regression a real thing? I have a 4 and a half month old baby. Hes been sleeping over night really well for the last month or so (9pm to 2am to 8am are his usual wake up times). 2 days ago he suddenly started sleeping a lot worse, waking up every hour or 2 during the night and old taking half hour naps during the day. 

I had previously seen that babies go through some sleep regression around 4months but I'm not sure if this is a true thing or just something people say? A quick google search says that it does happen but I wanted to hear from some real people about it. Could he just be teething? At his 4 month check up the pediatrician said he felt little bumps where his teeth are growing.",2.3047851458885944,4.214382682758623,3.4082758620689653,90.49315649867377,77.3448275862069,6.116710875331565,20.119363395225466,7.010146845296331,0.2697851458885938,559,13,119,6,13,180,97,145,0.034,0.907,0.06,0.5413,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,10,0,9,8,8,0,2,22,19,9,0,3,9,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,7,3,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,1,2,5,6,7,3,13,12,3,29,0,0,1,0,11,8,0,7,19,65,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743554546917937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078927501432118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676748963729732,0.0,0.0,0.1563265764458973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606200705105216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211533220693153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636998664071742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888014927652812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717582026623304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660001116121934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387130797654989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879331036195456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147317559236948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303900264421728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.386959342792048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22747398541868194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543557943398141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680481659439701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759018496574224,0.07764314291155673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528794394815815,0.1927645195192796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4851458641482473,0.0,0.0,0.09330486341944834,0.0,0.0,0.08578523185054639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422856437048355,0.0,0.09112651769167596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610383774671408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706720751786368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348350692465327,0.0,0.07148627356080617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897240032205786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351207174336434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PedCollistier,2020/03/28,"I want my kids to respect me, but I don’t want them to be afraid of me. So I have 2 teens and one 5 year old, and I feel that they have little respect for me and my wife. Lamar, my 17 year old son treats us like it’s free housing. He eats when he wants, comes back when he wants, does what he wants. So I’ve decided I that I need to make a proper punishment scheme, because quite frankly he needs to learn that if you do a bad thing, your punished. I want him to understand that in the adult world, his defiant personality could get him into a lot of trouble. My mum says that when she was young, her dad had no shame in saying that he was the “man of the house”, and he had the last say in everything. Of course times have changed greatly since then, but I want some respect in the house, how do I get it without being too intimidating?",6.840299999999999,4.48448630857143,6.898964285714289,84.56216071428574,65.91428571428571,10.35,32.160714285714285,8.472884824447931,2.0129571428571422,644,18,154,7,8,207,108,175,0.134,0.728,0.138,-0.5008,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,2,1,8,13,2,2,8,0,13,1,0,2,0,28,28,14,0,11,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,4,10,6,1,0,4,0,1,1,3,6,0,1,4,4,26,8,16,21,2,20,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,3,13,93,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712395584407016,0.10546288178757186,0.07699689823857886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361835484380186,0.10880416657643847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084759511550126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053400666187507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292458149787857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351853836803702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386571198731568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198265718256272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392563068590428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372314739721914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295883256707283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061708280792925965,0.12659497188001678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738354026458047,0.0,0.0,0.08431235240145506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18731329957134527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26508045479952697,0.0,0.08559036312808191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028829608278948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434535098545966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013383672033646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044842514348825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391420067697991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365189331976238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314923014685668,0.15193438058877354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5215029509991789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175753342164668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267792973802844
parenting,TerribleDoor1,2020/03/28,"A 5 year old girl that my partner babysits is attached to me and Idk what to do. ​

Okay, so I need some advice. So for the past 6-7 months my partner thought it would be a good idea to babysit her mums friends kid a couple times a week for a bit of side cash which is cool. Now, being 22 years old I grew up with a sister who is 10 years younger than me so I’m naturally pretty good around kids so whatever days my partner babysat her we would basically just go out and do super fun kid stuff, like going to parks, meuseums, beach etc to the point where the money my partner made from babysitting was actually just spent on our days babysitting her, and still being young and slightly immature I can easily match her energy (most the time). She’s never met her dad and as the days and days go of me being around her she’s really started attaching herself too me. I read her stories, taught her how to play frisbee, draw cats, make paper jets, play games etc. it’s gotten to the point where if I’m not doing anything on the weekend we will just go around to her house and while my partner gossips with her mum I’ll just play games with her 5 year old (sounds weird I know). 

Now I’m not gonna lie, I love this kid to pieces man, she’s awesome, smart and idk just dope to have around and i enjoy her company, but whenever we have to leave her she will literally bear hug me and not let go, Every single time I LITERALLY have to peel her off me while she’s screaming and crying. Even if she knows I’ll see her the next morning she will still scream and sometimes even hit me and just has these wild tantrums. I know this stresses her mum out and it makes me feel guilty for 1. leaving her in a mess for her mum to deal with and 2. Making her cry because I’m leaving her. 

So my question is, how can I stop her crying every time I have to leave her.",4.406605584642231,4.65911545026178,4.8887041884816735,88.36230584642237,69.89005235602096,7.832635253054103,27.43499127399651,7.492282038375204,1.2415284467713787,1450,44,321,14,24,462,196,382,0.11699999999999999,0.7909999999999999,0.092,-0.9440000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,4,0,0,1,26,22,1,1,15,2,25,2,0,6,1,60,53,28,0,5,12,6,1,1,6,6,0,3,0,11,11,28,0,1,7,8,3,6,4,7,0,0,7,6,59,15,38,34,7,52,0,0,1,2,60,16,0,5,31,200,70,3,0.0,0.0,0.0834681363307885,0.0,0.0,0.08358212465673243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267526578852422,0.10393228903446236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038659594533006,0.3045709890585318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214028945819039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338018142270116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946409399389405,0.281862852867055,0.2206475409193966,0.08818104892695575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19078441865953136,0.11298784054449973,0.0,0.1441309433999188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0432481929227065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660827947082393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24305265140388346,0.143482502941188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869391336822622,0.0,0.09655665430924401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410205502050148,0.0,0.0,0.3622695452023557,0.0,0.08746356691464613,0.0,0.04178723683830612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719711851473045,0.08093365122012594,0.17128237213496714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068271842641869,0.0,0.0,0.06342183829767048,0.06596853325923646,0.0,0.09096560641355964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692583459686232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165118757134789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16171317996277898,0.0,0.0,0.08701808862221116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581684120530856,0.0,0.08555641972931076,0.0,0.05479480502349952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815894471882789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459459428565655,0.0,0.060540891015975824,0.0,0.13661396494802475,0.07150964633071077,0.0979780754762562,0.0,0.09791513417008968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790386477007879,0.19950055779842013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860963248223155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215207664389724,0.0,0.10393228903446236,0.22032249451706007
parenting,whineandcheesy,2020/03/28,"Advice for my almost 21 year old boys My twin boys are turning 21 on Friday. We are relegated to a home celebration. Was hoping that I could turn to this community to ask for advice.

What advice would your adult self give to your 21 year old self?

I will be sharing your sage advice with them!",2.162126436781609,4.556470155172416,3.642068965517243,86.16816091954023,80.20689655172413,5.935632183908046,18.287356321839077,7.1686216300943375,0.26678390804597685,231,5,46,3,6,76,40,58,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.7088,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,12,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,8,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,4,28,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6482356304196824,0.0,0.0,0.16606683236892744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503990649876434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241136240351906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909078222454553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635307316978562,0.164718550981986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480466155524085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460188020915957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607770012799939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780941643499054,0.0,0.0,0.2135936537200114
parenting,Signet04,2020/03/28,"Advice on talking Hi team,
Not sure if this is the right place for this but........
We're first time parents and have a 2.3 year old boy. He understands lots of things we ask him to do/go/get. He can say a handful of words ball/book/car/door/owl(oddly) he can point to loads of items and animals in children's books and he can gabble for a past time but he's doesn't try to put sentences or sequences of proper words together. 
Does anyone have any advice on what we can do to help him start talking?",0.9486142983230366,3.1316450970873864,1.9239541041482795,97.94644307149164,83.46601941747574,4.910503089143866,20.0432480141218,6.1124844417494595,-0.15444854368932015,387,11,88,3,11,121,71,103,0.016,0.932,0.052000000000000005,0.5218,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,0,9,1,1,0,1,15,12,7,0,1,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,4,1,13,12,2,14,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,3,7,45,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969611061811499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812441760305286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202196205901793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898840788684388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774634333327582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276858024295055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611862994061433,0.0,0.1154343105751326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614296623576894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726801750215953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131338714332024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255339499069652,0.0,0.19389520111173705,0.0,0.0,0.2122107957253392,0.0,0.1920082884520374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041855707200476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345816147088886,0.0,0.16152432629553906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437650643938161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914324477311666,0.0,0.0,0.3265105192587978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493985040906373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368746978874457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379010058832224,0.0,0.0,0.21144873390874694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079869275170095
parenting,Little_Bit_Tink,2020/03/28,"Easily Overwhelmed Parent tips? I have a six year old, but every since they were born I have always gotten so easily overwhelmed. Now, I love my child very much. I feel embarrassed to admit this but I don't like parenting because I get so overwhelmed and stressed so much. It seems to increase each year. I'm not a stay at home parent, I do work as well. What can I do to keep myself from getting this way??",2.12361111111111,4.360854987654321,3.218009259259261,90.0247916666667,79.37037037037038,6.025308641975308,21.23611111111111,7.1686216300943375,0.6308629629629627,318,9,64,4,8,102,57,81,0.107,0.624,0.26899999999999996,0.9143,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,5,8,0,5,2,0,7,1,0,0,0,9,16,7,0,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,5,1,1,2,1,11,3,6,14,4,9,0,3,0,1,7,1,0,1,6,43,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559196403102502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398832416665006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754846079142995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454855517149224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539075281559656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756778891122944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620669724612214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913546347411999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687671906203069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27492063578644466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621619508818028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6228960214025243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702301004559271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546813572407223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930813130530245,0.0,0.0,0.2141982091903717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542876268151293,0.0,0.14842520281603352,0.0,0.0,0.16812787627911532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613208845156308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408328778684081
parenting,Always_Cookies,2020/03/28,"My toddler won't go back to sleep, it's been 3.5hrs My daughter is 3yo, usually good at getting back to sleep if she wakes up in the middle of the night to pee. Sometimes it might take her 20min or so to settle back, but she does. Sometimes she will ask to wake up and we'll tell her it's not time yet, and other times she will have several complaints before she can settle back down (wants the fan on/off, hair up/down, change PJs cuz she's too hot/cold). This started about 1.5 months ago, but again she goes back to sleep within 20-60min.

Tonight she woke up at 1am and it's now 4:30am, she is wide awake. She woke up to pee, couldn't settle back down and 1hr later she said ""I want to wake up now"". Tonight our usual method it isn't working. At around 3am, I decided to give her some warm milk and she asked me to cuddle with her so I told her I would stay for 5min. I have rarely done this but it's also rare for her to still be up this long in the night. After I left, it looked like she was trying to settle but then she started singing, chatting to herself, playing with her hands, etc.

We left her for a bit but then she got louder, started standing up in bed, etc. So we got stern with her, and she acted like she was going to listen and go back to bed. But she started right back up. 

My husband took her in the room about 45min ago, with him thinking it might help her settle if he's sleeping, too, but apparently that isn't working because she's still wide awake and playing around. He's quite frustrated now and thinks getting angry at her is going to help, and she just came out to pee and said ""I don't want daddy to get mad at me"". So I told her just close her eyes and sleep.  So far she's still up.

What do we do? Give up and have her stay up? I don't want to set that precedent but at the same time, I know we can't force sleep and my husband getting angry is not going to make her go to sleep but I think he is at his wit's end.",2.496330935251798,3.2634589568345334,3.3288417266187054,95.95383812949645,74.53956834532373,6.0396163069544375,21.8136690647482,5.46131890053228,-0.1390494964028779,1503,33,363,5,30,477,182,417,0.052000000000000005,0.8759999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.2893,1,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,6,0,0,3,30,8,2,0,7,0,29,18,16,2,0,60,69,35,0,8,16,3,3,2,0,7,0,3,3,0,15,27,1,0,5,4,0,9,9,2,0,0,14,8,63,6,60,46,5,89,0,0,2,1,65,37,0,6,41,234,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340231879062155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055663568442131967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392747195749125,0.1301436688102945,0.0,0.0,0.4281792428369108,0.0,0.042430924098575816,0.0,0.05922923387226413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759912810502335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961025649163332,0.0,0.0,0.07363348916973947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060912324447786236,0.07123068929525701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164989632460824,0.0,0.15525727362570044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454642001782807,0.13354405675397485,0.23735077908101165,0.05838186990362872,0.1113399043639419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331032498472418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03825341416568382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512533632735952,0.0,0.0,0.0680115547113388,0.0,0.0,0.061598760405100435,0.05845116841474341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646227454817206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768107128716415,0.0,0.0,0.05555852112270946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064026967342116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403411723154864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944279703026255,0.1324217189913858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863450887162655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4875910368896926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376834247214049,0.0,0.19706879100614608,0.14838060395168992,0.16676135204897422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05233474422901027,0.0,0.06083835722121965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338013624172873,0.0,0.0,0.12176274499333345,0.0,0.0,0.13302225606123838,0.07733437615061545,0.04725762935266182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332145616118892,0.0,0.16422073124085132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134740298531117,0.0,0.0,0.04944581695607405,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OolongTears64,2020/03/28,"Do I have to put my kids on my sisters kids’ schedule now that we’re living together? I’m living with my sister for a while, renting out her back bedrooms.  

I have two kids, 4 year old girl and 9 year old boy, and she has two kids 5 year old girl and 7 year old boy. 

She has always had her kids on a pretty exact schedule (e.g., wake up 7:00am, breakfast 7:45 am, 3:00pm homework time, 4:30pm TV time, 5:00 dinner time, etc.)

That’s fine and great that it works for her, but my kids and I have always done things a bit more loosely. 

My sister thought when we moved in we’d coordinate our kids schedules to match, but I explained my kids wake up between 6:00 and 8:00, my 4 year old eats whenever she gets up, and my 9 year old doesn’t usually eat breakfast at all, some days they’ll watch a couple hours of tv, sometimes they’ll go all week without wanting to turn it on, that it just depends. 

After a couple days she said it was disruptive to her kids that they saw these other two close in age kids who got to do things when they felt like it instead of following a schedule, and that it was causing tension, so I should just put my kids on something at least close to their schedule. 

For the last few days I’ve been pretty set that I’m not going to force my kids to stop doing what’s worked for them their whole lives just because her family does things differently. 

We were just talking about it again and I said “It’s just not a reasonable request. If I weren’t we weren’t family would you be asking me to modify the structure of my and my kids life to match yours?” And she said “If you weren’t family I wouldn’t have let you live here in the first place.” 

That really made me stop and reflect. Now I’m wondering if I’m being an asshole for unintentionally making her life harder when she intentionally extended me a kindness. 

Is this something that will work itself out over time as her kids adjust to having mine in the background at times, or am I being more of a pain than I originally realized? 

(Originally posted in r/amitheasshole but realized it would be equally well suited here.)",7.093923173087852,5.870845809069213,7.145605182407093,79.36949085123311,64.6563245823389,10.081191044436867,31.88555517672463,8.976282227363876,2.3791049210137523,1650,50,339,22,21,531,205,419,0.040999999999999995,0.907,0.052000000000000005,0.5303,5,0,2,0,0,0,48.0,5,4,7,4,18,7,0,1,14,0,36,10,2,8,3,62,58,25,0,8,15,3,1,1,0,7,3,3,3,18,27,20,5,2,9,2,1,6,8,2,1,4,17,6,55,5,45,28,11,73,0,0,2,0,58,21,0,7,45,227,82,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538377103046788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043606689735726,0.0,0.0,0.057934554304909076,0.0,0.045928740685502616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225566413795052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773986002718773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673245330459224,0.0,0.14577110803019666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871799412107447,0.0,0.0,0.06593366544678853,0.07710263038087531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419056239002754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402799622424748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21308163590450227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234164221994326,0.0,0.0,0.06408720177211535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0393639054000508,0.0,0.08563897373990728,0.0,0.060259135337236126,0.08306655141784848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419823920291735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845873350812077,0.0,0.0614150651575968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704390455049283,0.10643478269805982,0.03680906233267494,0.0,0.26611900909232583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129190724191825,0.05029241772873026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007829075738203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4743624125568653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801708701205365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871799412107447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215831274507603,0.15330299347426493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514821948677112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04826701993772035,0.07746573795380639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21500696444487732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600632159063365,0.07451671681755308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598119561529594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060558307242646166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016475926532233,0.0,0.0,0.05981437826633474,0.21966720651512986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195216822253477,0.22079915881199286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298029740279991,0.0,0.04443958940666719,0.0,0.06043606684099556,0.0,0.06774291742668656,0.0,0.0,0.08411840473143058,0.0,0.07262851240710504,0.0817068872382366,0.16455304791550812,0.0,0.0,0.10704382019502506,0.0,0.0,0.2911127313352757
parenting,megkah,2020/03/28,"My younger sister reached out to me.. My sister (14) sent me (23) a message tonight saying how her and our mom got in a small argument and then mom got mean (I know it’s kind of vague but I knew exactly what she meant). She mutters things like “ that car is too small and going too slow”
“for what?”
“for a head on collision” 
little sister continues to tell me she cries every night to the point of shaking. she said everything feels broken. she says she doesn’t know if she needs meds or what’s wrong with her. she wants to tell our parents But she doesn’t want to hurt them. Her words. 
I’m just wondering how I should deal with this? Obviously she knows she can talk to me and I’m always here and open to anything. 
When I first started taking medication for my depression and anxiety our mom was a non believer. Lol. She probably still is, she talks about Big Pharma but won’t actually commit fully to her ideas. We have argued many times about mental illness because she doesn’t believe medication will help. (It saved my life) 
She disagrees with  therapy too, and will make fun and ask things like “so what did you and your therapist talk about?” You. 
I really just need advice on how to help my sister, given this information about my mom. She came to me for help and I don’t know how I can help her.",1.9859907767689864,4.381420739299614,3.0903156074362315,89.86008502666094,80.90661478599222,6.608963827640871,21.19167026949129,7.793537801064563,0.9010488254791752,1018,30,211,18,27,326,145,257,0.14400000000000002,0.726,0.13,-0.6412,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,3,1,1,17,10,1,1,5,1,15,5,1,5,3,50,41,22,0,6,7,9,1,2,0,4,4,3,0,0,11,17,0,0,11,0,0,5,5,5,0,1,10,4,47,5,27,27,0,25,0,2,0,0,56,10,0,3,12,135,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.09800398151699677,0.0,0.0,0.09813782073133707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356477245979334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682772555784513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264431136610814,0.0,0.09388733254497772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061220439187719924,0.0,0.0,0.2262976403674173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486374548294152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031627571522933,0.0,0.10353764045884167,0.08649914275133085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461556070338773,0.0,0.090258892680396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050779797970366386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542465088835667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707597797905267,0.0,0.16064410542753274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306888017469283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26926112016992004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751106335844296,0.11337184439777227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458109784393856,0.22077207747936034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093580233609065,0.0981288373450145,0.10065599984868596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703697630745184,0.1018189984551147,0.0,0.10939635997780303,0.11155371092778944,0.2023428175978784,0.10120856772345127,0.0,0.0,0.4704837938461714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893330416929748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424558685580754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151425164912612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493763846192999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827918788754973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433723448033478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095530747525218,0.15972995974580784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108399234695313,0.0,0.08020253646654882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755099280664627,0.2421624963274849,0.17555832344775502,0.0,0.11484903808328288,0.11660552945419285,0.13344080961841076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05856081685357732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847096785986427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891070485991516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980308212201988,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeadBirdDeadRoad,2020/03/28,"Good baby wrap for newborns? I'm due with my 2nd little girl in May, and I really need to find a decent baby wrap but I get sorta overwhelmed looking at them all. I just need one that's definetly safe for a baby who will be wrapped on an active mother. I'm not plus sized, but not super small either if that matters. Thanks for any suggestions!",2.6377619047619056,4.426566585714291,4.131428571428572,86.22190476190477,76.0,6.3809523809523805,21.666666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.7260952380952386,271,7,53,3,6,90,55,70,0.071,0.733,0.195,0.8513,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,18,10,5,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,5,4,9,7,2,6,0,1,1,0,6,5,0,3,1,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24193917155961064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251718663079501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858777315438662,0.0,0.0,0.29840715523614914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565799734637551,0.0,0.0,0.2987613606015814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5276052468644844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108231914526934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791854830528174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275497815568293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SoftSkittles,2020/03/28,"I have a few days to make my bf step up to be a dad or I’m leaving and taking our baby without telling him.   My (25f) boyfriend (25m) have a baby girl. When I got pregnant he wasn’t happy, but I wanted to keep her. I even gave him the option of leaving. When she was born she was a very difficult baby. She was extremely colicky. Never stopped crying unless she was asleep and she only took 15 minute naps. Finding the right formula was an extreme nightmare. It would cause her to be in pain and be bloated for days. We even got xrays because my doctor was worried because she wouldn’t have BMs. But from the day she was born until now; 8 months later. My boyfriend won’t act like a father and I feel like it’s my fault.  He’s never woken up for night feedings, never put her down for a nap, never bathed her, never spent quality time with her just him and her. He always has an excuse and the main one is always, “she’s too little to know I’m not there” but I tell him it’s going to cause him to make excuses in the future. All I ever wanted from him was to go on walks with us, read her a book, play with her, eat dinner with us at the table, or give her a bath while I clean the kitchen before bed. What everyday is him going to work and coming back and playing video games until he goes to bed. If I say anything he gets upset. If I ask him for him he makes me feel guilty. I’m tired of raising my daughter alone when I’m not alone. I’m actually texting this as he’s out drinking with friends. I moved to his hometown because he got a job offer but i have no family or friends. I’m alone all day everyday with no one to talk to. I’ve become depressed and have anxiety but he thinks I’m making it up. He told me to “grow the fuck up I’m 25 and he doesn’t need to hold my hand”. I never asked him to. Never asked him for money. I asked him for his quality time. Why is it easy for him to play games for hours, go drinking, go to the gym. But going on a 15 minute walk is too hard? Why is it too hard for him to choose her? I’m tired of begging and I’m tired of watching him “hurt” her. If she was born older this would crush her. Every girl needs her dad I hate to say it because it’s cliche, but it’s true. I have no idea one what to do. So in a few days I’m packing up our stuff and moving back home without telling him. To be honest I think it would take him a few hours to notice we are gone.",0.22366503970277665,2.1032875135135143,2.254130545639981,96.30940591534932,84.0965250965251,4.7588548116850005,18.653893785969256,5.731675538569872,-0.4052774531944348,1844,46,432,11,53,616,222,518,0.136,0.769,0.095,-0.9713,1,3,2,0,0,0,53.0,6,0,0,1,15,18,2,1,23,0,34,15,2,6,11,78,85,34,0,11,19,4,5,2,3,5,6,2,7,2,15,22,6,3,8,15,2,17,18,8,0,3,19,8,73,10,63,57,6,69,0,2,1,1,85,15,1,7,39,270,88,5,0.0,0.0,0.06604733376265097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210292717133658,0.0,0.0,0.11263277944467505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517761253532778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055696067974903035,0.0,0.253092084329562,0.0,0.0,0.10408571737190353,0.0,0.1650319392146802,0.07474884602053512,0.05759193048347759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390549893674926,0.0,0.05830157777625222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434489669537307,0.21824468623058307,0.0,0.058293935236595776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692748337972833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260411227746746,0.0,0.06925502185568448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940592115282542,0.061221747963988125,0.05702454219496447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380404923566074,0.0,0.0684435512319898,0.04835164266928954,0.0,0.0,0.06185962076669928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458104349584907,0.06257041155880291,0.03536076510194933,0.06492621574038353,0.23078957257007535,0.0,0.16239311940099047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204816394274488,0.12125857359149247,0.06682142149058147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789001453555561,0.0,0.13330519321028664,0.0,0.07245439394297573,0.07640412083593126,0.0,0.0,0.06716339746435014,0.06015838410979092,0.0,0.0,0.037195955870997714,0.0,0.0,0.14332976999270766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613147722720876,0.06783459523087372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807115784515068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402268908567245,0.1438693442868467,0.0,0.10036987780070998,0.3654007562498695,0.0,0.0,0.06351445762071299,0.0,0.0,0.07705578143203083,0.0,0.0,0.13758810999128046,0.05147479391560626,0.07201783658253384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803855277324615,0.0,0.0,0.0676997673340272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057799590008093475,0.0,0.1076460139672646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056584724256164134,0.0,0.0,0.07747906963344044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177605734384362,0.05439978720648293,0.17746971608833614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673508287647022,0.0,0.0,0.07893119761610723,0.2333696174043472,0.0,0.06467252759301427,0.07519658324223226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282490616864465,0.0,0.0,0.055844285886916534,0.07984054764211512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214396609561046,0.0,0.0,0.1304850085798824,0.0,0.049272902972194985,0.06873379961028701,0.0,0.14423688438927212,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FatimaAscencio,2020/03/28,"7 year old kid tiktok addiction 
Hi I’m a guardian/au pair. I recently started to take care of a 7 year old girl, she’s an only child. Her parents let her have a phone because in their normal routine they are never home so they stay in touch through it but they let her have other apps such as games, messaging apps and tiktok (which is my main concern). Her parents are trying to get her started into the entertainment industry so she’s constantly auditioning for tv and movie roles, her mom got her into tiktok just knowing about the dances thinking it was a fun thing (maybe she also thought it would be a good idea because of the auditions). At first I was taken aback and cringed out about this, I really hate tiktok and the people in it, but I decided I was going to ignore it so I could get along with my host kid, after all the only thing she likes doing is dancing to the songs in it, I even started to find it a little bit cute and funny when she did it. 

But then I started to notice that throughout the day, tiktok is the only thing that occupies her mind when she’s not using the phone and the thing she looks forward to the most in the day when she gets to use it. She’s always singing the songs and dancing to the point it’s no longer an enjoyable thing but something she does like a glitch or out of unconsciousmess, she even has this kind of lost, empty look in her eyes while doing it, it might sound a little too exaggerated but I’m not kidding. She’s very hard on herself and has a perfection complex, every time she asks me to record her doing a tiktok we get to the point of repeating it not less than 30 times (not joking or exaggerating), and every time she asks to see it at the end she starts clenching her teeth, heavy breathing, kinda squeezing her head between her hands, and tensing her whole body to the point of shaking like a chihuahua. She always gets very frustrated when she doesn’t get the dances right and even starts acting rude, tantrummy and overall obsessive. 

Her mom realized this bad behavior when the last time she was doing a tiktok she spoke in a rude way to her and she proceeded to explain to my host kid that “it was only tiktok, not a big deal” but she was arguing that it was more important than that. So she reduced the phone usage throughout the day to only 1 tiktok, also because she’s not okay with the bad language usage in there; but this seems to only be getting her more obsessed with it, it’s kind of when a drug addict quits and seems to crave it more. 

When we have shower time I also started noticing that my host kid started asking me “am I fat?” And repeatedly saying “I’m fat, I’m fat” in a derogatory way. She also started smacking her own face in front of the mirror. I’m very concerned and I think she’s starting to develop this self image problems because of the constant exposure of insanely skinny girls on tiktok, and she’s very young to be having this kind of anxiety issues triggered by tiktok. 

I need serious advice here. I’m thinking about maybe speaking to my host parents about getting their daughter to completely quit the app, I’m sure if they knew all the things the people in there do, they would agree on it but I don’t know how to tell them without me seeming like I’m irrationally bashing the app or hating on it. I also haven’t done it because they’ve already started taking “action” into the matter by reducing her usage but I don’t think it’s enough to detox her mind from it. 

Thanks redditors!!",5.1324599708879175,5.891832114992724,5.685106259097528,81.4947918486172,68.46142649199419,8.144512372634644,29.38602620087337,8.167268648758528,1.9957671615720516,2761,97,525,35,45,892,293,687,0.107,0.81,0.083,-0.9473,4,0,2,0,0,0,52.0,2,0,8,5,30,33,6,3,47,1,39,15,11,4,5,88,98,50,0,7,21,6,4,4,0,3,7,6,2,9,44,28,4,1,17,11,2,10,13,15,0,1,15,14,80,18,77,74,12,86,0,1,4,0,89,30,0,10,49,365,124,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187264339021008,0.0,0.05321210473289409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600916662406519,0.21773539155155536,0.09062066777056713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04165738497460518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272223904846055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093411992804767,0.16597415744379254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059449984243026575,0.0604864435036008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551978073869825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709429000640734,0.11769149063607695,0.0,0.04347732184656115,0.0,0.0,0.10535554197155182,0.05613998483801009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04765331862524097,0.05572564770192065,0.0,0.0,0.06314969160055615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823034056577362,0.05626584105368486,0.0,0.10789964055035252,0.0,0.091760180624094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04977023713301745,0.046318793671670085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22760096392654974,0.0,0.03094762952061253,0.04567367726772241,0.04355207247842607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048780350471440886,0.10752468094475848,0.05588581451764976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054622095650116866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614722684169944,0.0,0.05683613405546864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011729902136627,0.059853310484094924,0.0443875165822052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136640764012347,0.0,0.10641446755608833,0.10915501416330407,0.0,0.0,0.09145578264290387,0.0,0.05944329323865825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941331262429944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776739936264184,0.10996662518881067,0.12755241927477193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040377168152981126,0.04199850763883574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335364524203951,0.0,0.12399314663780375,0.11428124027501313,0.0,0.0,0.24848966105515555,0.0,0.0,0.18139514390303169,0.0,0.0,0.07550350044065034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443072375001446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210540403494327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583768669335845,0.0,0.0,0.034884814375128574,0.0,0.05376704476460991,0.0,0.0,0.04650366855211314,0.0,0.043304239301601016,0.0,0.0,0.04339302117237657,0.14871942912383462,0.056807703472047485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041921575024234416,0.0,0.0,0.4239733162150333,0.0580410307931743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05132252656156483,0.0,0.08188570259055859,0.0,0.04759545211222645,0.050134196682048215,0.0,0.0,0.2170620750738667,0.13956844833545148,0.0,0.04323062591138215,0.15876368032397867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036970890364663785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406205042329363,0.0,0.1797219780313993,0.0,0.08644656603530508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06079627328089165,0.0,0.05249199509173686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736553452702045,0.0,0.0,0.0701335584696096
parenting,kcox1980,2020/03/28,"My daughter has insane screaming fits and I don't know what to do about it. My daughter is 6. Her mother and I split up shortly after she was born, she doesn't remember us ever being together. I have visitation every other weekend.

Most of the time she is fine. She's smart, easy to talk to, and rarely needs discipline from me. She's a daddy's girl and we have a very close relationship. The problem is those few times when she does need discipline she winds up having a full blown meltdown. 

For example, earlier today she was watching tv in the living room. She has a tv in her own room but her brother does not. He wanted to watch tv so I told her she was going to have to move it to her room if she wants to keep watching her show. This is a common thing and normally isn't a problem a lot of the time she'lleven stay in the living room and watch his show with him. This time however she started to argue saying it wasn't fair and didn't want to go to her room. I could tell what was about to happen so I started handling it like I normally do; I calmly told her that I wasn't changing my mind and that if she kept it up she wasn't going to get any tv and would have to go to timeout. She started screaming so I followed through and took her to sit on my bed and told her she'd have to stay there until she calmed down. She kept screaming until her voice literally gave out. 

I don't spank when she has these fits because nothing helps. Once she starts rolling all we can do is either give in and let her have her way or just ride it out. I do not let her have her way.

She does this with her mother as well. One time it happened because she didn't want the eye doctor to put the dilation eye drops in her eyes(the doctor actually kicked her out it was so bad). One time her mother called me to come to Walmart because she had a meltdown over not getting a toy she wanted. It's even happened at school once or twice this school year. 

I'm personally at my wit's end. These tantrums are getting worse. Her mother tells me she doesn't let her get away with but I know for a fact she will often try to bargain with her or bribe her with new toys to avoid or stop these meltdowns. When I ask her about it she denies it and gets really defensive about her parenting ability.

I just don't know what to do any more.",3.4708191084366935,4.3909327348642995,4.340319906668302,89.03732009087562,72.38204592901879,7.2219329485447625,25.57048999140366,7.39963492309942,1.0339558639322108,1816,55,396,19,34,586,210,479,0.095,0.8540000000000001,0.051,-0.9663,3,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,0,18,16,3,1,17,0,48,4,2,0,3,71,87,31,0,15,14,8,0,1,0,2,2,5,6,2,26,25,0,8,4,9,1,11,14,10,1,3,18,11,80,6,59,61,8,69,0,0,6,0,83,27,0,9,26,278,106,4,0.0,0.0,0.07952022073644706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082883317835768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617998057597307,0.0,0.07656035757360677,0.0,0.06803880888244848,0.14902239977705664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320803193493599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620316033764933,0.0701944207272816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506128159989959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681218638853784,0.2139312531614756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217389746965412,0.0,0.0,0.053821843973045035,0.07371027162826171,0.06865688475834708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128697470530416,0.07817040769293053,0.1852453052371435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21617785836475792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05461947407703433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242999393056096,0.0,0.0,0.13435049317785644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499800206351617,0.0,0.03981076424396672,0.0,0.143910228357109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692779113309181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227932706215799,0.0,0.0,0.0866085075895027,0.0,0.12084416407609913,0.0,0.07870130892358372,0.0,0.0,0.15968124944421042,0.07818962649390769,0.0,0.0,0.1735634390135302,0.11043632148760776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048242499066532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115189886677352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594540881602734,0.0,0.08191762523768187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052203094285118296,0.0,0.0,0.08748727218220738,0.09230965612887462,0.0,0.0,0.06480227364542114,0.0,0.16493976473525834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307095966821428,0.17371004875185694,0.0,0.06812734908166199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654967103171924,0.1424476477036282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413679358662549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28509672835458194,0.0,0.07724079233713313,0.2335949103530038,0.09053581056788017,0.05532478558599759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801964547465034,0.0,0.0,0.06723586990740953,0.240317724067238,0.12936225455690428,0.0,0.0,0.07326721040862598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304290739381495,0.05788650972745413,0.0,0.0,0.052475394106585284
parenting,th1sisathrowaway12,2020/03/28,"Two year old suddenly afraid of the darl after spending a week at BM I'm the step parent in this situation. My step son is almost 2 and splits his time between our house and BM's. He is usually great about going to bed with our usual routine which is bath, pjs, brush teeth and either read a book or listen to some of dads music. As soon as we asked him what he wanted to do tonight and he starting sobbing. He told us he didn't want to go to bed and is scared of the dark. He started clingling to me and my heart broke when he asked if i'd protect him. He had a full on panic attack about going to bed and i dont know what to do. We turned on his bathroom light and we will be getting him a night light tomorrow. My mind just wonders what the hell is happening at his mothers house for it to be such a quick difference. She is now married to a guy that my spouse and i don't like. My step son has been acting weird when we pick him up and when we go to drop him off he starts crying and asks to stay with us. I'm honestly torn i feel like I'm overthinking it and the other half is thinking the worst.",2.611854058078926,3.3882603417721526,3.9373541821792015,91.66445271779598,74.2742616033755,6.92668155869943,23.645817820799213,7.048011613610866,0.6083275750806654,859,23,200,8,17,283,138,237,0.151,0.81,0.039,-0.9751,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,9,0,0,0,10,13,2,3,12,0,18,2,2,1,0,33,42,19,0,3,4,6,1,2,0,1,0,1,4,1,9,19,0,1,4,3,1,8,3,9,0,2,4,5,27,4,31,35,4,38,1,2,0,0,39,8,2,5,22,125,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255680262017412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35169072771201343,0.1426583767879673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774386182921927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101426516244713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696557230106347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340501825316971,0.08958438686577529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551530177432505,0.0,0.2850663901964505,0.0,0.0,0.13825178493305207,0.0,0.12416377747097017,0.11088907515640987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859728454200447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893850103643833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891548490670392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252629927070333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126616276311976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767756851573888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315841517468767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712758476354154,0.13923968672399162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254319773385185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255453167555242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409526541323237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26627214044236297,0.13365762893464211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035000250545743,0.0,0.0,0.07312060720856799,0.0,0.0,0.11982320375559745,0.0,0.0,0.13639706166331472,0.12249566681347088,0.0,0.3016768113828749,0.0,0.2762164561883467,0.0,0.14792602924511355,0.0,0.10058674607870573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598882834544435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807522282572856
parenting,Cocobobonut,2020/03/28,Our preschool is asking parents to pay for May’s tuition since April was prepaid. They said they will have online materials for freaking preschoolers in April. No mention of refund and they have been closed since March 13th. I pay 1250 per month and I requested that they apply the April payment to May since they are closed for the month of April. I am not even ask for anything for the 2.5 weeks of March (worth $650 prorated). They responded that they will discuss with an administrator. WTH? What is there to talk about? They can’t just take my money without school for April and ask for a prepayment for May. Private schools are sharks.,3.9119467787114846,6.662018731092438,3.1514495798319335,90.13092787114849,75.97478991596638,5.9834733893557415,25.883053221288513,7.1686216300943375,1.1640750700280118,515,19,97,6,12,150,78,119,0.10300000000000001,0.897,0.0,-0.8832,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,8,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,15,0,0,0,0,12,20,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,0,3,1,13,0,18,12,0,13,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,3,10,62,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592426121012634,0.0,0.5427184459720764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278118271123816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089163898109765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148704541859952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840727512933284,0.0,0.0,0.39168581263877933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.480221531494549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549577564528107,0.15553636957669478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552224105320314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653716825826264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Real-Leopard,2020/03/28,"Being a parent to my three siblings... I officially adopted my three younger siblings (who I've had custody of for four years now) a couple months ago (right before shit hit the fan). I am so so so happy to finally have them, but finally being their actual parent is also really scary. 

I'm now 23 with five children. Which, even though it's been our reality for a while, is actually official now and is absolutely absurd to think about. 

Was anyone here a parent to their siblings or raised by their siblings? Any advice? Having a bit of a late-night-kids-are-in-bed-freakout.",4.798818181818183,6.208236109090913,6.185227272727275,75.20784090909092,69.72727272727272,8.772727272727273,28.29545454545455,9.188382445141503,2.5155454545454545,452,16,80,9,8,153,80,110,0.07400000000000001,0.895,0.032,-0.6358,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,4,0,11,2,1,0,7,0,11,1,1,0,0,5,14,9,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,9,1,11,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,1,1,1,9,59,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.3321792910787787,0.0,0.0,0.16631646599428274,0.15087111979054724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361080567157132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157411375852777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190070788066119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482678974301133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858131966842465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18832192569483686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241481606781027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728893099497555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18117997092838287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199185418247974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358511959554359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972020597773445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5669574513903234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903381989608407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453489924553914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747067993162139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905662916349863,0.16721962620936048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960255801588613
parenting,sw777y,2020/03/28,"Bathtime So recently my 2 year old is horrified of bathtime.  I don't understand because she used to love them. Now if you mention the word bath she goes running to hide.  We get her in the bath and she screams bloody murder.  I dont like putting her thru that.  
Yet! My friend/neighbor can give her a bath with no problem,  she'll even play and have fun.  
I have tried making bathtime fun. Adding bubbles and toys and everything.  I've tried taking a shower with her. Nothing is working for me. 
Do I just have to wait it out and deal with screaming and crying? Or has anyone dealt with this before, do you have any advice?",1.6127166276346614,4.1305563606557385,2.3167681498829045,93.97360655737705,83.75409836065575,4.797189695550352,23.46838407494145,6.1826913282559595,0.5033400468384075,484,18,98,4,14,150,85,122,0.20600000000000002,0.698,0.096,-0.9211,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,1,1,5,9,1,0,4,0,13,1,0,2,0,21,21,9,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,3,12,0,1,1,5,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,2,19,5,12,20,0,9,0,0,0,1,16,2,0,2,6,64,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118112096720605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740134245998698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156065979921202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213229297708598,0.0,0.18444317791987536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238096012644573,0.0,0.22346565991326692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540361239783984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316512820326274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480609106485602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746495429672187,0.0,0.11324593279526995,0.2079318658176132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589591039860664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956305265384924,0.0,0.14468614585716585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798298747942748,0.0,0.2274486967484157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20740597866767646,0.0,0.2178993964817153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21402015291915066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297334795921986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943258512363173,0.0,0.0,0.2256503794223057,0.0,0.1872073730629578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780076710810315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395835959940074
parenting,WRNGS,2020/03/28,"1 yr old baby has puking spell once a month, past 4 months, any info suggestions? Dr.’s no exact diagnosis Once a month my now 1 yr old son pukes formula/milk out until it’s bile. Go to ER get Zofran (stops puking) gets iv. Recovers faster each time. Dec thru March now at a month between each time. Ran X-rays, sonogram, blood work, etc. Everything looks fine. Possible crimpage in intestines. But Drs don’t think so. Very frustrating and scary. 
Gerber Formula mixed with Water has been his main food. (Used to drink symilac formula until 6 months, then switched to Gerber)Introduced whole milk now at 1 yr. Barely eating baby food. 
And no available appt for Gastroentologist until April 11. Any info/ experiences suggestions Appreciated. 
Thanks",3.431666666666665,6.623896409090911,3.9866666666666646,79.54166666666669,84.9090909090909,7.1757575757575776,23.24242424242424,8.167268648758528,2.0390878787878783,594,21,98,14,18,187,100,132,0.126,0.815,0.059000000000000004,-0.8416,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,3,0,4,10,2,1,1,13,12,8,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,3,1,0,2,3,1,1,0,2,1,2,2,14,10,5,27,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,21,39,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954860691495022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080313878822434,0.0,0.14707423905109815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602997409453516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291775107102102,0.14059797341473232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476038396062367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501886066968862,0.0,0.08168649689501653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069910717903365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5736295849654103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016461785115337,0.30614086125243056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720894303140185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620368071225618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016681301802913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232958275122922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209798777966696,0.0,0.0,0.16762316314001674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241387387154101,0.0,0.11859437239490353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047221275155807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463897803072243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Live-Command,2020/03/28,"I am at my wits end with my 11yo son He's been a bit moody and pushing boundaries. I decided to loosen the leash, so to speak, because I am a bit of a strict dad. Long story short, he is sporting a black eye. I asked him what happened and he says he doesn't know. He is convincing, but he didn't just wake up with a black eye. It's not huge or small. I assumed if someone hurt him he would have told me. This is the same kid who acted like he was on his death bed after stepping on a rose thorn.",0.3969724770642173,1.9293861743119287,2.084853211009172,99.52929816513763,81.75229357798165,5.093944954128442,20.074311926605503,5.6839178017228535,-0.3875658715596329,379,10,96,2,10,124,78,109,0.132,0.821,0.048,-0.8763,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,8,0,11,3,3,0,0,14,15,6,1,2,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,4,4,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,4,6,11,2,10,10,3,13,0,1,4,0,19,7,0,3,4,53,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611240486279452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026928453654824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6098844807329241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473922961130076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469994398927777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29901503616585484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350552926774136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646036478034956,0.0,0.0,0.2471870949156807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221243944491807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366647127387636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26689972995125977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841905533041254,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chicanes,2020/03/28,"Any creative ideas for how to get my teenage daughter to give us some “Mommy-Daddy alone time”? We’ve been stuck in this split level for 2 weeks. Wife asked for a glass of wine and a bath. My current thought is to tell my daughter that I have anal pimples that I need my wife to pop and there might be screaming. She’s better put on headphones and get far away. Do you have a better idea? Also, my daughters 17th birthday is tomorrow so I’d like to keep the emotional scarring to a minimum.",2.3866666666666667,4.375530494949498,3.122222222222224,92.27000000000002,77.38383838383841,5.612121212121212,26.15151515151515,6.42735559955562,0.8732909090909096,385,15,80,3,9,121,74,99,0.066,0.8,0.134,0.7807,1,1,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,5,0,8,2,1,1,0,12,16,6,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,3,1,2,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,10,3,13,11,1,10,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,2,5,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21607992609615825,0.0,0.1668430077702869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187697615737827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504284179286044,0.0,0.19601671721275676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690362603080415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346830212270884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800331311739654,0.20013891241847304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4710404718346072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544178851775453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192710123291712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22132567866093586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469805188503102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097328759928728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823536433375429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165630575797763,0.12165505001818205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509587172424964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167352078880675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EarlyYoghurt2d3,2020/03/28,"I want to go live with my father, but I dont know yet. My parents are divorced and I live with my mother and stepfather, while my dad lives about one and an half hour away from where I live. My parents have been divorced since I was age 2 and I'm age 14. I've always lived with my mother and would go stay at my father's for a bit in certain parts of the year when I was younger, but that stopped at around age 11. I don't have a good relationship with my mother, we argue and fight constantly. She treats my older sister better than me and gives her more attention. She makes it known that she doesn't want children and wishes that she never had me, but when she's with my sister she shows that she loves her and is proud of her. My sister knows how to deal with our mom better than me in certain situations. When there is an argument between my mom and I, I won't just shut up and let talk to me any type of way. She calls me out of my name and just expects me to stfu and let her and when I say anything she's like ""stop trying to get the last word."" 

I hate how my mom also puts her husband before me and my sister, he has called me out of my name many times and treats me like shit. She just lets him and when I talk bad about him she gets angry and protects him. 

But, when it comes to my father, the main thing stopping me from packing my bags and living with him is the fact that he doesnt live in the best area in my state. I go over there constantly to see my grandma mainly (they live in the same town), so I know that the town isnt the best. He recently just got a job after not working for maybe a year, so he was living off of his girlfriend. They lived in an apartment that was filthy, but recently they got a new place. My father suffers from mental illness, he had bipolar depression and recently started taking his meds. When I used to go over there all he would be doing is smoking weed and sitting down all day, but now that he has a job I'm sure that this means that he is back on his feet. 

I'm just comparing the two living conditions with my father and mother because I want to live with my father, well get away from my mom because she makes want to kms. Please reply because I need to figure out what I want to do and we are out for school, so it would be pretty easy to be over there while until we go back.",5.0636923889266034,4.2953124032586585,5.513220185562347,87.92530587614092,68.55193482688391,8.333137210530287,26.739156671946894,7.093109894594671,1.030145447688014,1814,42,414,13,27,583,210,491,0.096,0.7759999999999999,0.128,0.9184,4,0,0,0,3,0,40.0,4,0,3,6,31,22,4,0,18,0,35,5,2,5,7,90,69,45,0,11,12,22,0,2,1,4,2,1,0,1,16,41,0,4,7,1,0,7,8,7,1,3,9,2,83,15,64,50,10,76,0,2,1,1,78,29,1,0,38,289,99,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048331738519755404,0.05028872876341298,0.0,0.0,0.04109948031536969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04973480134980242,0.053802067830870624,0.0,0.0,0.11356578676490382,0.09294520538103232,0.05046267485005798,0.11052616923846334,0.0,0.05142774572952023,0.0,0.1268505706142353,0.10690387494136926,0.06598194884539922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234266128232906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206143798855862,0.0,0.13062264041893834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038977100215473175,0.062308268957995086,0.05205461344590341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083214102800456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472808540353002,0.05797702709816852,0.17173973499874776,0.0506919938740544,0.09667456282697684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059669385013732174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951862980882339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994951716779942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964438479357353,0.04926451849892484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854038997378314,0.0,0.059053286927656524,0.0,0.6404076009380941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454708105346305,0.0,0.08068482015592926,0.06127400153857,0.06071745592959527,0.06583400771270442,0.06713228728168855,0.0,0.060906648351457066,0.0,0.0,0.2831340432081653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044813539944791266,0.046613021313522386,0.05837078320031067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040953922286426366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421708189622827,0.06544777612728442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314418241883503,0.06634207717236787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06148652727611147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060756244189989185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902381854590238,0.0648871113731111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04806221799330962,0.0,0.061165839426000825,0.04816075461918935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203808610544812,0.04999441242019538,0.06793412987444307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04277787763110832,0.06441818906249219,0.0,0.15158502867285592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056961500752610035,0.0,0.04544137654782959,0.09715452844553024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04015189943884091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0352415132384929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04103300325258285,0.0,0.05903852318063229,0.0,0.0,0.052198478084972126,0.0,0.0,0.17823761717026956,0.047972366777128204,0.0,0.0,0.054340448881300664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694999864490971,0.0,0.0,0.04399912112924114,0.0,0.0,0.12879890902976002,0.0,0.0,0.07783936238520373
parenting,MilkGore-,2020/03/28,"I think My 12 month old ate a bandaid Took my daughter in today for shots and she got her 1 year finger prick for lead and anemia. I can’t find this darn bandaid anywhere and her dad swears up and down she ate it. I would have heard her choke if she tried to swallow it, she has no teeth and she sucks at swallowing anything that isn’t purées. What should I look out for? Should I just call the doctor?",2.2325000000000017,3.783030583333337,2.2947619047619057,99.98357142857144,76.5,5.276190476190476,20.333333333333336,5.288315135182226,-0.4770523809523812,315,7,75,1,7,94,62,84,0.133,0.852,0.015,-0.8677,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,2,0,7,10,3,1,0,14,15,6,0,4,2,2,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,5,6,4,0,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,5,3,15,0,9,7,0,11,0,0,1,0,12,5,3,1,4,46,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526414239211177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134894919366205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31423569542343244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28059974863506426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455423420491456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25780939673077713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450508553099681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221532500354385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19671832894650354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910076849970927,0.0,0.34109718253146554,0.20843827839142595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808967358624254,0.0,0.0,0.19770308532847772
parenting,smashignition,2020/03/28,"Learning to cycle - nearly there After a week of cycling lessons my 5yr old has got the basics of staying upright and stopping. However she just can’t start off on her own from a standing start, and I have to hold on to her help her get going enough speed to stay upright. 

I’ve shown her how to set the pedal and told her to push hard down on one pedal while pushing off with her other foot and then quickly get her other foot on the pedals to pedalling fast enough to stay upright. However, she can’t get enough speed from a standing start and immediately falls over. 

Any tips on how to explain to her how to push off on her own?

Thank you.",6.259169435215945,5.657286279069767,6.232801771871539,83.19976744186049,66.05426356589146,8.301661129568107,31.606866002214844,6.868970318607317,1.7545517165005533,506,17,103,3,7,160,71,129,0.024,0.935,0.040999999999999995,0.4939,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,9,1,0,0,6,0,4,2,2,3,0,15,15,10,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,2,3,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,2,1,14,1,29,13,5,36,0,0,0,0,15,12,0,0,13,74,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163869341472118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5305268425696711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682542784763417,0.0,0.09726770788526973,0.0,0.13688319038484462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533155512617524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147173158870811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795916919651733,0.0,0.11597473787126793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634196336745947,0.5472649875936622,0.0,0.14308791428727016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757065964241931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353984589687665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372851036977164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisGuyRB,2020/03/28,They poop in the tub?!?! First time dad here. My daughter is almost 7 months and the dream state is over. The little bugs can and will poop in the tub. It's gross. It's real. Brace yourselves.,-1.0119780219780241,0.9004084615384613,-0.10432234432234287,105.73384615384614,105.41025641025641,2.2285714285714286,10.699633699633699,3.1291,-2.1290981684981687,146,2,34,0,7,44,29,39,0.10099999999999999,0.8490000000000001,0.05,-0.4667,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,2,2,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4476663691536605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802693107336614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.448071924036208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568393112370213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5088525594983929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26068448895405744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GunRu89,2020/03/29,"A nursery rhyme makes my son cry Hey guy's! So my situation is kind of strange to me. My son just turned 3. So far in his whole 3 year's we've sang nursery rhymes to him amongst other song's to sooth him or make him smile. For some reason the song ""Rock a Bye Baby"" has always made him cry. We obviously avoid it now but has anyone else had this occur? He can be smiling and laughing and after the first few word's his whole facial expression changes and he immediately starts crying. He's such a sweet little boy and is happy almost all the time.",3.5971902654867267,4.531209637168146,4.642643805309736,86.93529314159296,72.09734513274337,7.065929203539826,23.85951327433629,7.1686216300943375,0.7429831858407083,431,11,93,4,8,141,82,113,0.092,0.7509999999999999,0.157,0.9,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,6,0,7,1,1,4,2,18,12,8,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,4,11,4,7,9,5,9,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,3,7,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363305830027131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428103376162282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124391930214665,0.17766675101663484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343210131992632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5714087108386601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448517862203081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749225751590486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169129008814452,0.0,0.18458540445398844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805673427293647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379035788634128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407338830481027,0.231489034366635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828203221557642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194906626733266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273200294605395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110977323159094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886072408410894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871853683545762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166263244710986
parenting,sylveongonewild2,2020/03/29,"I’m pregnant! After being told for years I’d never have kids. My ex and I tried for 4 years with no luck, and a month after we separated, he got another girl pregnant so I went to the doctor and they told me I would never have children because of scar tissue on my Fallopian tubes. 

Well recently, I found out I’m 12 weeks pregnant! I’m super nervous but oh so very excited! Any advice?",0.16622554660529332,2.556853240506332,3.0438204833141564,86.03153049482167,92.54430379746836,5.404372842347526,21.105868814729575,6.980632752743323,0.914281012658228,302,11,59,5,11,106,58,79,0.040999999999999995,0.818,0.141,0.8263,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,1,3,5,0,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,2,12,12,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,5,0,9,4,9,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,9,34,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239586620038865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585486474500726,0.2403223145850259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971012954635487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23458237357389602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25129146698054955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330159892613784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293469558722533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535259364074431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262942889748423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43799556624522784,0.0,0.15560277460786226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910309005181386,0.0,0.0,0.18383980491528795,0.0,0.2060664330933381,0.21245843463461114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280770780314732,0.0,0.0,0.2951775351730358
parenting,allowemojisinnames,2020/03/29,"My almost 4 year old son tells me “I want you to cry.” And then tries to hit me. I’m pretty sure this happens when he feels like crying and so he is projecting his emotion to me, but I’m really at a loss on what to do about it. Any suggestions?",-0.706666666666667,1.164540555555554,2.123703703703704,95.86666666666667,87.88888888888891,5.822222222222222,16.407407407407412,7.1686216300943375,-0.12001481481481545,186,4,46,3,6,65,44,54,0.133,0.748,0.11900000000000001,-0.4248,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,8,6,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,2,7,7,0,6,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,1,5,26,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605906727356607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697070080873703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5717182423750864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927326184933613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158410513568486,0.18591401287504156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301275218551089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271390963152717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730759068393669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647555088009169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671506710089606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24527114771174024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274594013102892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766844564986187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349506017625303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758467997785478
parenting,foxesgametoo,2020/03/29,The tall and the skinny As I sit on my bed altering a small pile of warm weather clothes for my tall and skinny kid I wonder how everyone else handles having a kid like this. Do you take them to get alterations? Do you hunt for hours finding that perfect fit? Or do you have a hidden stash of clothes like I do that you have your kid try on every spring and fall hoping that 1 in the pile fits. Also do you get sad when you see a pair of shorts or a shirt that they have worn for several years because damn it it still fits has to be donated?,4.230751879699248,4.251352701754389,4.9421303258145395,88.63657894736843,70.2280701754386,8.268671679197995,26.81203007518797,7.957251820313856,1.308234586466165,424,12,96,5,7,137,72,114,0.066,0.797,0.136,0.8146,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,7,2,1,4,7,1,0,8,0,11,3,3,1,1,10,18,9,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,3,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,14,5,12,16,0,17,0,1,1,0,12,10,1,4,7,61,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21898319261001734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669253244904537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287513327019001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23071510290941974,0.26165802099770585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502773055561151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861316284332212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719767651638332,0.2696691651177097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26756077272593565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21820849255623045,0.0,0.0,0.3093519924065074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186824302841908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588743582998367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591381832778506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969589076857202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633870214365166
parenting,doesnot_matter,2020/03/29,"Our 3.5yrs old has a serious oral fixation and we don’t know what do about it. She chews on everything that she gets her hands on. The other day we took all the objects around just to make sure she doesn’t have anything to chew on, guess what we just walked out the room and she had her foot in her mouth ..... please help if you have any experience with that",2.719086757990865,4.320217917808222,2.8947260273972617,95.97898401826487,75.3013698630137,7.0584474885844735,20.38584474885845,7.793537801064563,0.3291296803652965,280,6,66,4,6,85,54,73,0.017,0.8859999999999999,0.09699999999999999,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,7,5,3,1,2,16,12,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,8,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,1,12,1,10,10,1,11,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,2,2,45,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20297514407485806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456218032940786,0.26570852929769023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19249349313298453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26825260707026904,0.2919685687542613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594233499773807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288069552170672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000633824636157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640355969185872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923625396401126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31320224919037315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32763900100340226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813118008613234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316198261218912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gowiththeflowbee,2020/03/29,"My son (6) keeps drawing pictures of bad things happening to me and his dad Is this normal? Am I overreacting by being very hurt by this? My son has drawn pictures of bad things happening to me and his dad. In each, it’s either just me, or dad and I, are “minimized” and then either fall in lava, smooshed in a machine, or eaten by a dragon. I ask him why and he says “If I have no parents then I can do anything I want!”

On the other hand he says “I love you” unprompted, and always wants dad and I to play with him, and wants to sleep in our bed.  

I partly think this is just imaginative play without realizing consequences. Maybe it’s the tv shows? Lately it’s been fairy tail on Netflix, Pokémon and Garfield.  Maybe too much screen time and/or anxiety? There’s so much change in the world and his routine lately. 
But on the other hand I wonder if it’s something more sinister like the start of a defiant disorder or something. I miss my sweet toddler and my feelings are very hurt.  Has anyone experienced this?",3.486739949748745,5.162441276381912,4.559117462311559,84.5285254396985,73.42211055276383,7.588065326633169,27.010364321608037,8.278499904357787,1.7788716080402018,790,29,157,13,16,258,113,199,0.139,0.757,0.10400000000000001,-0.8153,1,1,2,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,0,0,5,10,0,0,8,0,12,5,3,0,0,34,26,20,0,6,11,7,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,12,13,1,1,5,5,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,8,25,5,20,23,7,16,0,3,1,1,20,9,0,6,7,109,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168626151603072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744107428555492,0.0,0.0,0.09820335433237566,0.0,0.11557538027178856,0.0,0.1312983795523477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23453367368683545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857361709795888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609636862305567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101389513128044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24839248915343698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007014475813531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248351701085684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168592032386621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861499300016864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675831539226828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821944742009677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648845626199533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376076046384004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559490523549462,0.15208971200372215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337715123112376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054777992243336,0.0,0.0,0.2162449255560321,0.0,0.0,0.09940865028618484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866126302039442,0.08999235090410883,0.0,0.0,0.0818953968518921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317658970214975,0.2485166904152906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267309869681083,0.0,0.0,0.13538527076258794,0.15230807688737333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moomoocowmoomoo,2020/03/29,"My almost 3 year old has made sleep a nightmare. My twins have been good sleepers since about 4 months old. We’ve had phases where going down for naps/nighttime sleep has been more difficult or staying asleep for the entire nap/night becomes a challenge. However, they were always just short phases. I am pulling my hair out now though. Every time one of them goes down for a nap she comes up with every excuse in the book, “I need water”, “I need to go potty”, “I hungry”... the list goes on. I’ve started bringing in a cup of water and each gets two drinks before settling in and lights out. However, the one with all the excuses has started demanding more and when I say no it’s time to sleep she throws the worst temper tantrums. Think high pitched screams that split your ears. Just now it was the drink of water and then potty. I told her she could go potty but after that it was nap time. She agreed. Walking back to the crib after she started losing it. I’m at a loss and losing my mind. I feel like it’s been going on forever... at least the past three or four weeks. Any advice?",1.2379177101967829,3.757729330232556,2.0694186046511653,94.95428890876568,85.93023255813955,4.4239713774597496,18.501788908765647,5.8734145424116955,-0.2564311270125219,846,22,173,6,26,263,132,215,0.106,0.846,0.048,-0.8846,2,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,2,4,9,11,2,0,14,0,13,11,6,1,1,25,30,11,0,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,11,5,0,2,5,0,9,1,8,0,5,9,6,20,3,26,20,6,44,0,3,0,0,13,15,0,3,20,109,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301935879861245,0.0,0.0,0.12606178541908064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475150812955762,0.0,0.0,0.08561028787644094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680251098490723,0.0,0.0,0.13903686635809676,0.10712408242043317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844406448115672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051382636888158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466507674538721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213741948911935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365433978138882,0.08993665103749693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577292136990485,0.0,0.2861873296742045,0.10559151004558248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301089460955687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150404889713588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28167995371055593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912123458479774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127114157463614,0.0,0.10048510181208924,0.0,0.0,0.18669336088910385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814030083610988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642031352060307,0.0,0.1706141805057914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017733195256085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011368238271323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041384466826425,0.0,0.3779461521789553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673191770777313,0.13418319812809415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066595518505576,0.12368739963201435,0.0,0.2202243972720396,0.0,0.0,0.12029437315353328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12297734488393855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098227378206187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106976257098639
parenting,dendermifkin,2020/03/29,"How to get almost 3 yo to pick up toys My daughter will be 3 this summer. Since she was a tiny baby I have modeled how to tidy up because I value that a lot. Until somewhat recently she would at least help me pick her toys up, but now she just says ""no,"" or stalls, or just rolls around on the ground when I say it's time to clean up. I don't give in and clean it up for her, but I also don't super know how to motivate her to do it. 

The latest thing I've tried is saying whatever she leaves on the floor right now goes into my closet and she can't have it back for the day. She just seems to really not get it, and I don't know what to do.

I've also told her that she can pick things up on her own, or I'll hold her hands and ""help"" (make) her do it. She really likes doing stuff herself and that threat usually works with everything else...except this. 

I don't super want to go down the reward chart path, and would prefer to motivate her some other way than with an overt reward.

I've cleared her room of all toys except like 4 of them, and that seems to help. But she has a ton of stuffies that she really does love and play with. They go in bins under the bed, super easy to put away, but she wouldn't do it this morning, and I just floundered trying to figure out how to make it fun, or some natural consequence that could come from it.  

I feel like I'm really missing something here. Any advice is appreciated.

ETA: We also have a dog that chews toys, socks, etc if left on the floor. So I can't just let things be all over the place and do cleanup time 2x a day. Her stuff will get eaten.",4.542633126934987,3.7997211735294134,5.410123839009291,88.14713622291029,69.61764705882354,8.687306501547987,24.071207430340557,7.85451343220497,0.8592058823529412,1229,21,291,13,19,404,172,340,0.057999999999999996,0.758,0.184,0.9935,0,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,2,8,19,13,1,0,14,0,29,4,1,11,3,67,49,29,0,7,16,1,2,3,0,5,0,3,5,0,26,18,2,2,9,5,0,4,9,2,0,0,3,5,38,11,46,37,10,45,0,1,0,1,35,27,0,12,16,202,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129091009191518,0.0,0.0,0.11570148788722165,0.0,0.0,0.27720355082855797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785744676931915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285942323759076,0.0,0.0,0.10855820042904288,0.08884686596289974,0.0,0.07043507482690446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953166672434348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225316955059724,0.0,0.0,0.14903375313530098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111408651843408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886306293779776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384427070579473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584229534644581,0.08254527179699309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110226282822534,0.1108411592486423,0.1313336144958503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323418542742421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270008677107715,0.0,0.0,0.12234532445536872,0.1255398295739006,0.11815244879300052,0.0,0.1693481480885792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982321089127192,0.10428374823976598,0.0,0.15425418389784826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071978729196528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161544990261276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29608398664918184,0.0,0.11408661081769085,0.0,0.0,0.0986746799815177,0.0,0.27565773333388177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103754038154847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557990304032384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895207902150655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26454244399570753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302886144351799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475027529151534,0.0,0.0,0.11040806626730353,0.0,0.15689475213237578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725634035443698,0.0,0.06815135269153004,0.09171413250414692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411803495251274,0.0,0.0,0.16415950824391276,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,areyouolsen,2020/03/29,"What are your favorite bingeable TV series that you can watch without having to wait for the kids to go to bed? In the past several weeks I’ve noticed that groupings on amazon and Netflix are either purely adult-oriented or the “Family” genre crowded with purely kids’ shows. It’s like there is no in-between. I can’t very well watch “Breaking Bad” with the midgets around and I’ve had enough Scooby Doo to have the theme song stuck permanently in my head. 

Any suggestions for shows that are a good compromise between interesting for adults and not scarring for kids?",7.8197142857142845,8.099845780952379,6.855952380952381,77.07821428571431,62.61904761904761,9.666666666666668,34.64285714285714,9.2995712137729,3.0729999999999986,457,18,80,7,6,139,77,105,0.069,0.7909999999999999,0.14,0.7816,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,6,0,9,1,1,0,2,13,12,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,6,0,1,0,5,0,1,4,1,1,0,2,3,4,4,16,10,2,8,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,1,3,50,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028001835354225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908972998590825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23362919976015026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891179554958151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637794432841521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902215637200454,0.2346908878340633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871652166213034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367007615936859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31856490883349986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671097773040648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316105029385681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23087209696432254,0.0,0.0,0.22444625973417506,0.0,0.25158229571596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697263209189231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,carolmandm,2020/03/29,"Underwear for 2 years old girl. My little (not so little) girl hates girls underwear. Any time she sees his brother’s underwear, she takes everything off and puts his on. I guess it’s way more comfortable for her than the bikini kind available for girls. I am wondering if anyone knows of girls underwear like boxers. My google search doesn’t find me anything.",3.9083766233766255,6.807771439393939,3.820476190476192,84.46500000000003,77.03030303030303,8.013852813852813,24.58008658008658,8.841846274778883,2.192063203463204,289,10,51,7,7,88,52,66,0.046,0.816,0.138,0.7453,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,8,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,10,3,7,8,1,9,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,3,4,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504923970126714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970653897044946,0.0,0.19972737091784334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21812960915303956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218300119009287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26736937773548664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23962314254070374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25274223203991136,0.13338554668236305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857449333277313,0.4865128133944207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546804109301828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439878030991119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340623950332286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18248563224273956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415245380550519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926497026843031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26320563856014617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15629549913925386
parenting,Craven_Hellsing,2020/03/29,"Locked down with a toddler, so now seems like a good time to potty train. Advice? Since I'm stuck inside with my 2 year old daughter for the next couple of weeks I figured why not start potty training. We've got a potty chair and I bought her some moana panties and pullups during my last supply run, but I'm just....not sure where to start. I KNOW I'm overthinking this, but I just cant seem to wrap my brain around how to make this work. Advice??",1.5483937198067643,3.609875119565221,2.1205797101449297,98.06596618357487,80.41304347826087,4.523671497584541,17.830917874396135,5.033348758259628,-0.7410618357487921,349,7,78,1,9,107,67,92,0.018000000000000002,0.893,0.08800000000000001,0.7024,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,2,1,17,13,6,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,8,3,10,10,1,13,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,3,10,36,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4172199067815381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900422491430498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383140171722003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23621129698012144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905669647595604,0.17073926798049666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732289460307525,0.17401449936675342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429542877701788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249939930131444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22703814950900755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22401109979467212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38868791645004064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765926657463457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022041496300025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012021499177082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244817663904904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712405887390092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263228118584866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541580977898192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374739679713315
parenting,SiriusSims,2020/03/29,"6yo Child has major food obsession, to the point of throwing himself in the floor and scream/cry I was recently given my nephews for temporary custody. They had been in a not so great situation, which I won't go to deep into. They are really good kids, except for the issues the older one has with food. 
He is 6yo and we will call him J for the sake of this post.
So J is obsessed with food. To the point that within five minutes of eating he is coming back and asking for snacks. I usually tell him he needs to wait a little bit as he had just ate. Which a majority of the time leads to him crying and begging for more food. Even when I had just given double portions. 
I'm concerned because he is so dependent on when his next meal is that it is causing severe emotional distress. 
I've tried making a schedule for meals and activities to keep him busy, which has helped a little but not significantly. I've also considered giving him smaller portions, then giving him the rest as 'seconds'. That way he feels like he ate more. I'm just not sure.
I also placed all of the snacks in a place I know he can get to. So when I yell for snack time he is aloud to pick what he wants. This way he feels like he has more control.
I'm trying my best to be sensitive to the situation. However I am far from being a mom and honestly don't know if I'm doing a great job. So if anyone has advice I would greatly appreciate it.",3.2031628787878823,4.519317687500003,4.7980934343434365,83.97897727272729,73.5138888888889,7.597474747474747,24.896464646464647,8.150884317080207,1.4097722222222222,1106,34,227,17,22,373,156,288,0.068,0.83,0.102,0.9174,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,2,3,15,12,0,3,18,0,27,12,0,6,2,38,50,22,0,5,10,2,2,2,0,3,0,1,0,2,11,11,12,3,4,0,0,4,5,3,0,3,9,3,22,9,34,36,12,34,0,0,0,0,33,15,0,3,14,150,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692206459746766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586358125922376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693521937872758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272423253334534,0.0,0.0,0.0762668519369821,0.0,0.06046202490965675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408814147536312,0.0,0.10828391851899734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127858846173617,0.0,0.0,0.10188992834911208,0.0,0.08543876935711334,0.0,0.0,0.11124398729637536,0.0,0.0,0.21789929960426246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014906296679992,0.0,0.1115693497482927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551050733011182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030144999049548,0.14171502740159792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4797377539977523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05181987124655686,0.19029385424736608,0.05636890633422175,0.08319135506417166,0.0,0.328054187379704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648136133504481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352297628605488,0.09842543279393247,0.08815984919959849,0.0,0.0,0.1090185485845981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691319249960598,0.198818095750558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620650529704536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616383041573736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354414037238567,0.0,0.0,0.10548397061180337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721006671517799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072536390221096,0.0,0.187523053990132,0.0,0.0949914506149026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635402085542161,0.0,0.09793284840073327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205039096271978,0.0,0.0,0.2229753413685691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348033233555383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669173127661017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156707012987604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467969523613882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092378483210291,0.0,0.05850165977942761,0.1574562723944222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045790964936399,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Joshhagan6,2020/03/29,"My wife is pregnant! We've been together since we were 12 years old. We are 29 now. Kind of a late start but I still don't feel ready. I am overweight (207lbs) and I've been a bit of an alcoholic for 8 years now. I'm much more mature than my bar days, but I realize I have to change everything about my lifestyle. Anyone who has advice for me would much very welcomed. Thank you!",0.4872433192686358,2.710470354430381,1.8738396624472564,97.26226441631508,85.96202531645571,5.536427566807316,18.904360056258792,6.937597516519254,0.07112545710267247,294,8,68,4,9,94,61,79,0.073,0.779,0.14800000000000002,0.7915,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,10,3,0,0,0,8,14,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,11,3,7,10,4,9,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,9,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335218589599081,0.0,0.2553896893830343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709562764076305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26089685618067365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25280197370668844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411795327662667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214773715671664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083203734584262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24885382820393345,0.0,0.0,0.2695721943454084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35134561781761164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507621884834768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768111211129355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914647086565907,0.0,0.1908443174037978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200144283978376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971779288590148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975971475723825,0.0,0.0,0.3077818295575225
parenting,StaunchCunt,2020/03/29,"How to set up an iphone for an 8 year old My sister has given my niece an iphone and there aren't any restrictions on it. I've set up screen time and know how to limit websites as I do that for my own productivity. I've removed the ability for her to add contacts as well, so I was wondering if there was some way on screen time or some other app we could use that would prevent her from texting anyone that isn't a contact. 

Thank you so much for the advice.",5.7989690721649465,4.5568229175257775,6.452288659793815,83.35637113402062,67.24742268041237,9.409484536082473,29.70927835051546,8.238735603445708,1.7731129896907207,361,10,81,4,5,119,66,97,0.023,0.9179999999999999,0.059000000000000004,0.3378,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,0,1,7,2,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,3,0,18,13,10,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,2,9,2,14,8,4,12,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,5,4,57,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294972690241136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527417126739828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21106652298956324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241009496879233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658935697239733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219007731303812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167497795588594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779108051187529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35203230642969285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607088763189322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396012737472027,0.0,0.0,0.2714070962653017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32735273077374605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443165954373208,0.0,0.0,0.19438701515199028
parenting,Ettina,2020/03/29,"Kid and pet with same name? I'm trying to conceive and I've been pondering names, and it just occurred to me that my cat has pretty much the perfect name I'd want for my child. Unisex, even, so I could use it regardless of their gender!

The cat is still quite young (probably around 18 months) so if things go as I'm hoping, he and my child will have many years together.

Do any of you have a child and a pet with the same name? Would you name your child the same name as your pet (or vice versa)?",2.4607692307692304,3.6334704615384577,3.208846153846157,95.21115384615385,75.15384615384616,6.7384615384615385,19.73076923076923,7.1686216300943375,0.05456153846153855,384,7,91,4,8,121,68,104,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.8964,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,4,1,2,6,2,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,1,1,28,15,11,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,4,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,10,2,10,11,4,6,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,3,4,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063081325893425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495489448263345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22381693765732705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851522134346643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931532515968094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784262693694678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28420585017856376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22375297588640386,0.0,0.20607134635330085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851916036205808,0.30223808048742057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981604569908329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238681425746017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862356697745106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19032247416450093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24211104986881604,0.0,0.0,0.16534312187785358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19913504653265013,0.0,0.0,0.18052029905472064
parenting,greem,2020/03/29,"Libraries are closed. I'm going to go nuts if I can't get some different books. We normally get a whole mess of books from the library every other week or so, but, since the libraries are closed, we've had the same books for a while. If I have to read the same books for much longer, I'm absolutely going to lose it.

Does anyone else have any strategies for handling this?",4.4704000000000015,5.197328573333337,4.734666666666667,87.83400000000002,69.93333333333334,7.6,25.666666666666664,7.554174236665415,1.0872666666666668,293,8,62,3,5,92,51,75,0.10300000000000001,0.897,0.0,-0.7465,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,13,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,5,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,8,12,5,7,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,4,2,37,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221966156106444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707929317996132,0.2594860251358507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645938499045974,0.0,0.0,0.22162203920052548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21155907914709648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21337525836604235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26462684659012103,0.0,0.4317858835846722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28332357885878523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616894572124001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481326379451588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533199704932416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949220576228295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314302691650346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28274618534472523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mandalins,2020/03/29,"Is 2 old enough to play outside semi-unsupervied? My husband and I are in disagreement about allowing our two children 5 & 2 to play in our fenced backyard by themselves, semi-unsupervised. 

He wants to clean the garage (which is in the backyard also) while they play alone and check in on them every so often. I think this is negligent on a good day, but especially as our yard is almost completely covered in ice, and we have a playhouse that is about 6 feet off the ground that is completely on 3 sides that they play on.

I'd like other's input please.",8.602500000000003,6.838806101851853,8.458074074074078,72.89433333333334,62.05555555555557,11.602962962962966,36.41481481481482,10.355215969177356,3.548001481481481,441,16,84,8,5,143,74,108,0.031,0.7979999999999999,0.171,0.9178,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,3,0,5,6,0,0,5,0,8,1,1,1,0,11,10,8,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,6,4,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,6,17,10,1,15,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,2,4,56,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25483411980191645,0.2635740063422253,0.0,0.2035148788815853,0.0,0.2757388844095217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5336540574632684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412444642902907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26295531804942823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144180823428873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134534223164223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433054246257995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670435500548798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27935266170838263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630663695522522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24859891786311136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501042924649728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seekingadvice3292020,2020/03/29,"When to Rehome a Dog Apologies in advance for the long post.

Last Monday, our dog (3.5yo) bit our toddler (14mo) on the cheek and scratched the back of her neck. My husband, the dog, and the kid were all in the living room (we live in an apartment so we have limited space) while my husband Facetimed his parents so they could say hi to their grandkid. The dog was playing with his ball and the kid crawled over to him to take it from him. Though they have safely and successfully played with his ball together many times before, it is a high-value item for him (e.g. he guards it against other dogs). The dog stiffened and growled as she approached and before my husband could intervene he went for her. I heard it from the kitchen - the barking and snarling sounds he makes when he goes for other dogs - and my heart dropped to my stomach. I came running out and my husband was holding the kid who was screaming and had blood all over her sweatshirt. It's an image I'll never forget.

Luckily the wounds were superficial and the kid was back to normal within minutes. I, however, am traumatized.

Right now, the dog is with his foster family who loves him and routinely takes him whenever we go on vacation. They have other dogs to whom he is deferential since he was with them when he was a puppy and she has children but they're all grown. He's always happy there. They agreed to take him temporarily so we could decompress and figure out next steps.

The dog is a rescue. Some sort of pit mix with something short like Basset or Dachshund mixed in. He has always loved people but has gotten worse around other dogs as he's aged. He is reactive when on a leash and protective of his space and things. We pretty much avoid socializing him with other dogs at this point save for a few we know he gets along well with.

We've had him for three years. He came to us with severe separation anxiety that we slowly conquered over time. He is goofy and affectionate and lovable and eager to please. He has always had the run of the house (bed, couch, etc.) except for when we leave him alone, which is when we put him in his pen with a high-value treat. We've done lots of training - basic manners classes, individual training for the separation anxiety, and more recently, individual training for his interactions with our kid because he has always wanted to lick her obsessively, which I considered unwanted and potentially dangerous behavior.

I have always worried about something like this happening, not because I think he's a ""bad dog,"" but because at 45 lbs. and with a serious set of teeth and jaws, I knew that if something bad were to happen, it could be REALLY bad. My husband, however, was never worried because he grew up with bombproof labs. 

After the incident we spoke to our rescue's preferred trainer who said that there were lots of good signs: the dog tried to give a warning (growling) and he didn't inflict much damage so it was probably just meant to be a correction and not a malicious attack. He also said that there are corrective measures we can take moving forward - the dog shouldn't be allowed on the bed or the couch, he shouldn't have access to anything he could guard while the kid is around, and all interactions between him and the kid should be curated (e.g. we run through his tricks and the kid gives him treats) and heavily supervised.

Even knowing this, my instinct is to rehome him because I don't think I could ever trust him again, plus, living in an apartment with a toddler (and no yard) is chaotic at BEST. How can we honestly expect to be able to responsibly manage this moving forward? Would the changes we'd have to make make the dog's life less enjoyable? Is it actually better for HIM to be in a less frenetic home with no little kids where he can snuggle on the furniture with the adults? He truly seems to love everyone he meets and I don't think it would be difficult for him to bond with a new family. He might experience a separation anxiety relapse but we've shown that can be worked through.

On the other hand, my husband - whether through denial or true love and dedication - is determined to contact as many professionals as possible to figure out what we have to do to fix the situation and keep the dog. He has admitted that I've shouldered most of the responsibility in the past and he says he's committed to being the one to take charge and ensure the happiness and safety of our household. I still think that it would be a practical and emotional burden for all of us.

I have never loved an animal as much as I love this dog and thinking of living our lives without him - especially in these currently crazy, anxious times - breaks my heart. I can't talk or think about it without crying. However, I also can't picture being comfortable and confident while trying to forge this new way of life.

Parents - what would you do? I'd especially love to hear from those of you with dogs. Thanks in advance.",7.384206061604347,7.311525146680946,7.257826552462528,75.01902775490034,63.593147751606,10.43943337176742,34.556827540767586,10.035473477838034,3.341327689013341,3933,155,718,76,52,1254,397,934,0.083,0.755,0.163,0.9985,8,2,3,0,0,0,109.0,23,2,6,8,31,43,3,2,59,0,81,21,10,5,13,161,126,73,0,19,16,9,2,2,0,8,3,9,8,11,41,79,1,8,15,5,0,18,16,13,1,2,27,12,87,30,124,73,20,95,0,1,0,7,140,41,0,12,37,498,128,7,0.05565592890279246,0.0,0.054312158144861566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764275739335786,0.0,0.0890160524712597,0.23155095675314702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772989982097946,0.06287535782982896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045800087294522736,0.09909115293126622,0.0,0.0633166538776983,0.0,0.08559194778156155,0.1394111276523851,0.1696366883974336,0.0,0.0947181924868351,0.0,0.05840746368553735,0.04922314628343143,0.06076185960264267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273111115123156,0.0,0.0,0.058876593066339286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666203827883639,0.0,0.061135424498632025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056955338593342085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626054289324094,0.0,0.0,0.06207107270699775,0.036760216136727655,0.05034397405463896,0.0,0.05318162514905329,0.0,0.054442178002380964,0.10493491303745403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02907792573795624,0.1067804768535012,0.03163054698684183,0.04668155258600076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843270824442303,0.11849354246963052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627282768231517,0.1319050874453176,0.0,0.11760708921667327,0.055827434596567284,0.0,0.0,0.0642194694457692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049469546844265376,0.0,0.0,0.061174085993379375,0.045367010353653536,0.0,0.058931592626322235,0.0,0.0,0.07862285705080722,0.05438135114469321,0.05578186209774428,0.24572602442525826,0.04925374568902647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463336095660428,0.3516215415111853,0.0,0.11145229415395387,0.1128527527279397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059042145332349014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830688892279558,0.12274053479042395,0.0,0.12877585034704814,0.10750568589672316,0.05919071179086687,0.0,0.054530993452134975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03771389781129345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359864522285427,0.0,0.053129881737338035,0.03858481336621215,0.0,0.0,0.06109349677349187,0.05261284239916095,0.0627436973809156,0.053302995169143816,0.05662208836175731,0.060006504688035166,0.0,0.0,0.05594958081801808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035654613206637625,0.0,0.05495351541021554,0.0,0.0,0.0475298591841557,0.10588306693206433,0.08851965705783227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050667067382598886,0.0,0.06287535782982896,0.0,0.046039159520889834,0.06255959597874818,0.0,0.05673421059999995,0.0,0.12853995951611905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044446896715464285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092316603454315,0.044734127442947504,0.0,0.05124050172382024,0.0,0.0,0.036975326118340236,0.21397243171798166,0.05468166756640799,0.0,0.0973602591490274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557344474774688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389445947255638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032827308862262115,0.04417708579278487,0.0,0.0,0.050041364091967126,0.05159360368577995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730065875167497,0.0,0.04051817910014694,0.11304259480773007,0.056718146370974075,0.15814550018373236,0.0,0.0,0.035840593462091744
parenting,Ecstatic_Biscotti,2020/03/29,"Azoomee is offering parents a FREE Month access to Games, TV shows & ludic activities for kids Titles says it all. I found the offer [here](https://getmefreesamples.com/australia/free-month-of-games-tv-shows-for-kids-from-azoomee/).
If you know of any other website or app offering stuff for kids to stay busy during lockdown, please share.",11.124210526315782,11.422294052631578,7.967368421052632,71.78157894736844,55.842105263157904,10.40701754385965,36.54385964912281,9.725611199111238,3.468291228070175,279,10,43,4,3,78,45,57,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.8192,1,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,5,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,1,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32367176466674713,0.0,0.2031453475074889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275399357533736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641731478576268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768838286446117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317021959162592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279137404691073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23756057014132936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184044007974796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419721971635136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,v0yev0da,2020/03/29,"Essential stores carrying arts/crafts supplies? Hey all,

I checked the list of resources abs see a lot of amazing activities I don’t have too many craft supplies though. Is there a list or post with stores that may still be open due to be considered essential services?

So far I have Target and Staples in mind. Any other suggestions are welcome. I’m close to the NJ/NY area for what that’s worth.",3.0276315789473682,5.6872799210526335,3.3307894736842094,88.10302631578949,78.73684210526315,6.957894736842108,27.921052631578952,8.07648339933343,2.005636842105264,318,14,61,6,8,98,62,76,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.8426,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,1,9,10,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,7,7,2,8,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,3,2,35,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690610926046828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.336374388893361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40113523761669895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995019166627002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789311136149655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152882994887707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31597308961110604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38873209881566106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noodleyoodle902,2020/03/29,"Crafts with LO make me crazy Does anyone else get serious OCD when trying to do crafts or project with LO? Mixing all the colors to brown or gray mush? Painting or coloring so hard the page rips? Just tried to make bracelets with 3 yr old and she just wanted to use the jewels as pinto beans and fry them up on her ""stove"". I know I should just let her play but I end up telling her she's wasting our stickers. (They easily lose stickiness) Then immediately feel like a shitty mom. Stupid but I'm hung up on it.",1.543080317740511,3.873762213592237,2.496769638128864,93.8396469549868,82.20388349514563,5.687202118270079,19.072374227714032,6.980632752743323,0.1271048543689317,400,10,87,5,11,126,78,103,0.184,0.73,0.086,-0.9076,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,2,1,5,5,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,3,1,21,11,11,0,2,8,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,12,2,13,9,2,9,0,1,4,0,10,5,0,3,5,47,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254031500940864,0.2528347595784592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21594132080607012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20613629918910892,0.0,0.21855609945249804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247692598617963,0.17628537854504653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892190456227998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22104847288865365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561283131396926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25232879737464325,0.0,0.1205544615772298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760612981225732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294284046633906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890023054513405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589330888202899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21567909832899426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33506765644200875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21312139418737575,0.0,0.0,0.14554542914499186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MissEmKayZer,2020/03/29,"How involved should a BF/GF be? When you have kids and start dating again, how involved would you expect your new partner to be once they become involved in the kids life? Do you expect them to treat the kids like their own? Be civil and nothing more? Help out with taking care of the kids without asking? Be involved by going to their events? Watch the kids solo? 

Curious to hear stories on how dating with kids has worked out for others.",3.276785714285712,5.6707442976190485,3.254999999999999,90.4275,76.26190476190476,4.6761904761904765,21.214285714285715,5.148860815047168,0.009171428571428386,347,9,64,1,8,105,57,84,0.027000000000000003,0.845,0.128,0.8476,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,4,1,5,3,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,3,0,14,15,6,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,8,3,14,9,2,12,0,0,1,0,22,4,0,0,8,46,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706496524478729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31973736752658105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29517134088394426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453331013268188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32629505360516803,0.0,0.19405021587124666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044871201253543,0.14143833359957736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796073423268728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27778945433703023,0.0,0.0,0.30831515111652097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20491430847812767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767298349605985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790740952278601,0.0,0.21076430106217567,0.0,0.0,0.20565722937578684,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SlightlyRukka,2020/03/29,"Don’t forget your SCARECROW shoes y’all! “Buddy, go grab your shoes. We’ll go outside for a little while.”
“My scarecrow shoes?”
**whaaat???**
“Your scarecrow shoes? What are those? You don’t have scarecrow shoes.”
“My SCARECROW shoes!! I wear them all the time!” 
“What?! Go get them. Show them to me.”
.....he comes storming back- his VELCRO shoes in tote 🤣🤣",-0.7476153846153828,-1.1138007230769205,-0.5255769230769225,104.61932692307691,140.84615384615384,1.3,14.019230769230768,3.1291,-1.651446153846154,263,7,54,0,20,76,43,65,0.209,0.7909999999999999,0.0,-0.8934,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,8,8,0,1,3,10,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,14,0,3,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,3,29,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177071727437416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559149114687743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21586763275992848,0.0,0.7044530647561054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4141113307220098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409265004754646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ohmygoditsnancy,2020/03/29,"How can I get the kids to slow down and stop rushing? I’ve got my nieces (8 and 6) for the week and they rush absolutely everything. We are on lockdown and there’s nowhere to go etc... but they are rushing their work, their colouring and it’s all just awful because it’s terribly rushed. 
I’ve tried ye olde “slow down!”... is there anything I can do to put it into the perspective that... “we are stuck in the house, we are not going anywhere, time essentially has stood still so calm it?”",2.8412628865979386,4.49039069072165,3.6150386597938144,90.74049613402063,75.08247422680412,6.911855670103092,25.527061855670105,7.645422480735847,1.1236402061855668,375,13,82,5,8,119,67,97,0.131,0.8079999999999999,0.06,-0.8108,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,4,1,6,2,0,0,4,1,9,0,0,1,1,15,15,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,9,0,1,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,0,3,1,11,1,9,12,2,19,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,0,7,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369718377051405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755416645092795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211586928452365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588056614441814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504505756608274,0.0,0.3273159196789174,0.0,0.23031306238987098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33227460011485616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021723298528334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894858016321644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22997036506115465,0.24075283194253536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679155426177022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19551030512689874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309893023696853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096429926013723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,have2gopee,2020/03/29,"Successful anti-bullying programs in your school? Just wondering if anyone has seen a successful anti-bullying program implemented in their kids' school, and what are the key points of the program?",10.414375,12.1167366875,9.45625,55.763750000000016,57.125,13.9,44.125,13.023866798666859,7.0323875,162,9,20,6,2,51,25,32,0.0,0.772,0.228,0.8385,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,3,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,2,0,14,3,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710329471952306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664262312010725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7845843566149089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4203574026677949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iamsoforgettable,2020/03/29,"Do i have the right to be angry at my father? My father you see,is a narcissist as my mother says so.
He disturbs me,my siblings, and my mother from sleep whenever he wants.
When he cant find something he ""DIDN'T"" lost he blames it on me and my siblings, and makes us find it.
Anothwr thing that gets on my nerves is he thinks we're all like babies including my mother. 
When we just want to get water he says ""dont spill the water, if u spill it ur cleaning it"" he has said it repeatedly THROUGHOUT MY LIFE I'm sick of it
HE ALWAYS EXPECTS US TO DO OUR WORST.
He thinks we're all dumb that we dont even know how to eat, he says pessimistic things with a harsh tone in our daily life.
He shouts and repeats instructions like a broken record with a harsh tone when commanding us, for example.

Me:*unconsciously puts cup at the edge of the table while preparing drink*
*Gets powdered drink's package*
Dad:""THE CUP IS AT THE EDGE OF THE TABLE ,MOVE IT AWAY THE EDGE""
Me:*puts away package*
Dad:""THE CUP IS AT THE EDGE OF THE TABLE ,MOVE IT AWAY THE EDGE""
Me:*lifts and places cup at the ""KING'S"" desired position*

THAT HAPPENS IN EVERY SITUATION ,IF I DONT DO WHAT HE INSTRUCTS ME TO, HE SAYS IT ON REPEAT UNTIL I DO IT.

Sometimes he accuses me of doing things i did not do, there was this one time he saw a handkerchief on the couch and asked my sister if it was hers, to which she said no ,then my dad being a ""GENIUS"" he was,therefore concluded it was mine,just cause my sister said it wasn't hers.Then it went like this

Dad:""JANE,put your handkerchief away, your infecting us with ur cold""
Me:""but it isnt mine""
Dad:""your sister said it isn't hers, and your the only one besides your sister who could've used that""
Me:""it isnt really-""
Dad:""OK CLAIRE(my sister),your sister said that isn't hers, put it in the laundry""

He said that with an accusing tone. Which meant he didn't believe me.
Me:""but it isnt rly mine""
Dad:""YEAH, THAT'S WHY ITS TO BE PUT IN THE LAUNDRY"" he said in an accusing and duh tone.

Then this night, he ""COOKED"" dinner.
And by cooked i mean boiled,he boiled water spinach, and called it sAw-TaY (something that sounded like that) then woke up my brother and mother from their SUPPOSED TO BE REST AND FORCED THEM TO EAT IT.
We we're forced to eat the ""extraordinary dinner"" (he calls it)
Now im still starving.

Now im a very organized person, im the one who cleans our house whenever it gets a little unpleasant (which it already is) 
The thing is HE MESSES IT ALL UP WHENEVER I CLEAN , THEN HE PROMISES TO CLEAN HIS MESS, AND IT ONLY ENDS UP WITH HIM PLAYING PLANTS VS.ZOMBIES ON HIS PHONE.
Thats why im always the one cleaning the house HE NEVER DOES, sometimes when it gets messy, he blames us for it, saying
""YOU GUYS ARENT PUTTING THINGS IN WHERE THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO BE AFTER USIN EM,THEN YOU COMPLAIN THAT THE HOUSE IS A MESS""

WELL EXCUSE ME MY SO CALLED ""FATHER""
HOW ARE WE SUPPOSE TO PLACE OUR THINGS IN WHERE THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO BE IF THE FUCKING HOUSE IS FILLED WITH YOUR BOOKS WHICH YOU SAID YOU'D CLEAN UP LIKE 6 YEARS AGO.

There was also this one time my parents fought, a i hearf was dad cursing my mother whenever she tried to speak, it was traumatizing, our house is small so there aren't enough rooms where we can hide in to avoid that beast.

AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THIS , I AM NOT A KID WHO'S JUST COMPLAINING ABOUT HER FATHER, IM ALSO COMPLAINING ABOUT THW WAY HE TREATS US,HIS FAMILY",1.6939803921568597,4.144010829411768,2.4704117647058834,93.49968627450987,82.61764705882355,5.509019607843138,21.419607843137253,6.860650240851648,0.4559613725490204,2684,84,561,32,75,837,275,680,0.111,0.821,0.069,-0.9811,2,1,4,0,0,0,122.0,15,10,2,3,27,23,3,2,35,1,47,19,1,6,4,55,78,37,0,8,8,18,0,5,0,0,4,17,8,3,60,25,13,1,8,6,0,8,18,13,1,5,24,19,68,10,63,47,6,69,0,1,1,1,114,35,2,4,30,335,128,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04507905793499621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056118722394819937,0.08133595061301864,0.08462930745643595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754168352481633,0.0,0.19111626245067195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05729511377696477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155783050523166,0.0,0.0,0.052241130453117526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04060283077201182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044502732681968464,0.0,0.1788017470790943,0.09963524156331294,0.0,0.15610920461407482,0.0,0.0,0.04504160497695179,0.052545840578917334,0.0,0.03358862858118898,0.0,0.0428467408668597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047940684109483656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092959383419549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701376121226503,0.13284574332899324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050353517013428016,0.04497007940819985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933938009058416,0.0,0.0,0.2746555698180268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027948062731497404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718394563744957,0.12422363068734375,0.050969130339151056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551321639401341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03394548152214991,0.0,0.0,0.05539498230328415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809964054192583,0.0,0.0,0.03922178795545042,0.0,0.0,0.04772309258826708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723001438866427,0.07735361201275005,0.0,0.0,0.056467418092528136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04440380573135473,0.1062633428884113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30673427202600473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03257841454874303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043429091404546205,0.38699087023756257,0.24264714918902225,0.0,0.0,0.040524103613518415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716209680878308,0.05089078856852035,0.0,0.0,0.07829988343864921,0.10059193604353243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04061211990183622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20271107618702205,0.06517045954297708,0.0,0.0,0.05930682545430206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03452657020284651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367027053234005,0.043921582024808115,0.0,0.04195992732586695,0.05999008714167204,0.04036558764981358,0.0,0.0,0.04572390940057066,0.047142225304690255,0.09177576289619484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032748348852193486
parenting,clickklack123,2020/03/29,"Best and worst parenting advice | Psychologist Adam Grant [Best and worst parenting advice | Psychologist Adam Grant ](https://youtu.be/2MctI_4Yklk)

Top psychologist Adam Grant tells us that the worst way to respond when when kids do something wrong is punish them. Instead, he says help them to understand the negative impacts of their behaviour. Understanding how it harms other people means they’re more likely to form moral principles around trying to do right by others.

On the other hand, Grant says the best parenting advice he’s ever heard is to show your kids you rely on them. The best way to put this advice into action is to ask your kids for guidance every so often. It makes them feel like they have something to contribute and offer as opposed to just being dependent on other people.

Scientists say that how parents interact with their child is the single biggest factor in building resilience. Parents can help their child feel effective And in control of their own circumstances, while giving them opportunities to test themselves.",10.411534090909091,11.282598903409095,8.772863636363638,63.51304545454546,57.125,11.35818181818182,36.35,11.00357731598739,4.3775495454545466,861,33,119,19,10,261,107,176,0.11699999999999999,0.684,0.19899999999999998,0.9313,5,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,1,3,10,8,10,13,1,0,6,0,9,1,1,6,1,22,18,11,0,0,1,5,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,5,9,7,0,2,6,1,0,2,1,6,0,0,1,7,14,7,23,16,11,18,1,0,0,0,38,10,0,2,6,87,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959360541722032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017376331842787,0.0946968755460194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252101747216609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361062510233705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162686004997878,0.08534515790345545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243529299009836,0.07236495760708388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717111126454872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357914113381457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989749526975298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761500226164216,0.0,0.0,0.11033962948135444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623789133089855,0.0,0.0,0.14044998873245287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182915647270277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650512474313772,0.0,0.24166084564879756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596322568987606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853603705609367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877245564564784,0.0,0.0,0.2109027208457355,0.12184505822131267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080604415369626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074985858499058,0.0,0.0
parenting,rahul0321,2020/03/29,Has anyone tried Nested Bean's new Zen One? I loved the 2 way zipper. Would you prefer Nested Bean's Zen One over aden and anais swaddle?,1.5720238095238095,3.9185502499999987,2.3785714285714303,94.63309523809528,82.21428571428572,3.733333333333334,12.904761904761903,3.1291,-1.4205380952380953,109,1,22,0,3,34,23,28,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.644,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29368235359933426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790774832058377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056504795671844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5692223850632737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851607693933337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33338619977624945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29836467464870464,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,swordsandstuff,2020/03/29,"14 month old HATES his cot Putting him to bed is always a drama. If he's not deep in sleep he'll wake up and start crying as soon as we take him into the bedroom, and if he *is* deep in sleep there's still a 50/50 chance he'll wake up once we put him down (though thankfully he'll fall back to sleep after a little cry).

We've tried controlled crying and had on and off success, but more often than not he'll scream himself into a panic if left alone. Putting him down before he's properly asleep never works - he always has to be held.

Any idea how to improve this?",4.60386554621849,4.3476248487395,5.02151260504202,89.33966386554623,69.42016806722688,7.472268907563026,24.56302521008403,6.1826913282559595,0.5531142857142854,443,9,99,2,7,141,77,119,0.109,0.79,0.102,-0.2214,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,3,7,5,1,1,5,0,5,6,6,2,1,20,14,12,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,1,8,0,2,1,1,0,4,3,3,0,0,2,1,8,2,18,7,1,26,0,0,0,0,16,14,0,4,8,56,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701285778522685,0.0,0.0,0.2362202601994618,0.0,0.0,0.0965278917651088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914742298762077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207852711375096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592040870691726,0.0,0.0,0.4677618077562253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014191649382504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602393316862081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422433567907862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422668055868502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329964274530285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947721581077437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894805444398168,0.1511674568342358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16654260573664922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280836729484845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261444059529802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046984317639908,0.0,0.11335795859373925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067254438111742,0.0,0.0,0.13068445947791665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946085477038106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963717610629123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333810475299432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pregnancy-by-choice,2020/03/29,"Parenting - Becoming a Parent **Being a parent** is an exciting time but it’s important to understand that it can also be overwhelming because you’re going to have to deal with positive and negative issues. Firstly, you will be tired in the first few weeks after the baby’s arrival because the baby needs to feed every 3 to 4 hours throughout the day and night.

Secondly, you need to ensure that you’ve assessed your financial situation so that you can cover the cost of hygiene supplies such as nappies and baby wipes, baby clothing and milk formula if you’re not breastfeeding.

Thirdly, you need to implement a positive, caring style of parenting with support from family and friends. A relaxed mother usually means a happy baby.

You’re going to be making decisions about your child’s upbringing and it’s essential that you have support from a counselor/social worker as well as family and friends.

Click to view more about [parenting](https://pregnancybychoice.co.za/parenting-becoming-a-parent/)",7.208020050125313,9.903852128654977,7.5981328320802035,62.34276315789475,65.7251461988304,10.967585630743523,36.19089390142022,10.914260884657429,5.153836758563075,818,41,108,26,14,267,103,171,0.046,0.6990000000000001,0.255,0.9914,7,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,7,0,3,6,10,0,1,12,0,10,3,0,1,0,19,21,14,0,4,3,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,7,9,2,0,3,1,1,2,2,1,1,4,0,2,7,9,22,16,2,12,0,1,2,0,16,1,0,1,9,79,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419417946807333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884915194107074,0.1438968826935952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328410130547443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402733068118576,0.13432496237437594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977632827442584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456547298594542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216520091740766,0.0,0.0,0.2013259996517099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809548605783887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386978762496199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283110226514928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135990623982798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697068312822878,0.0,0.0,0.14192579503251773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28982880607731665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222698803281088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5786938002679353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645326522346966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29570682386256464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597410454410017,0.14975107642757488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356381948681922,0.0,0.0,0.14349783679583109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045120965767772,0.0,0.11714783404283301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wareagle4444,2020/03/29,"8-year-old son wets the bed every single night; always has So my son has never had a dry night; ever. He wears goodnites so it’s never really been that big of problem or hassle, but maybe that’s an issue? We figured he’d outgrow it, but now we’re wondering if the goodnites actually enable his bed-wetting. At this point we can’t imagine not using the pull-ups - he’d just wet the bed instead. But we also feel like on the current path he’ll still be wearing goodnights at 12 or 13.

We are well aware of all the bed-wetting advice and treatments (and been to the doctor who says he’ll outgrow it). But my question is this: has anyone been in a similar situation where their child has never been dry, then by 9 or 10 they start to have dry pull-ups on their own, then become dry full-time? Or do you think if we continue simply using goodnites we’re on a path to teenage bed-wetting? 

Bed-wetting can be super stressful for all involved - parents changing wet sheets every single night and the child for having wet sheets every night. The goodnites solve all that...but we haven’t seen an improvement at all. Help, please!",4.7553544494720965,5.6838079140271525,5.266407239819003,83.54673001508297,69.40723981900453,7.160301659125189,28.307993966817488,7.0316486544052195,1.4761508898944191,883,30,168,7,15,283,124,221,0.028999999999999998,0.8590000000000001,0.113,0.9611,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,1,3,2,10,5,0,1,14,0,21,3,2,2,8,38,30,18,0,3,12,3,5,1,0,2,1,1,2,2,8,9,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,6,7,15,3,15,18,7,25,0,0,1,0,26,10,0,8,16,107,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.13222036583317262,0.0,0.0,0.13240093267963107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835267299987024,0.11273995825856815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473895525182348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963995067476216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433322655579047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868150833499124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256001039851665,0.3424728327830427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850868057245219,0.09679530600497173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081723839796822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141418145300251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619440645016818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611963585862671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134986828906832,0.0,0.0,0.5085991723744726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217575940802127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044751162587006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487292121935884,0.12808346247235738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964726966740095,0.0,0.0,0.15178172598627646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679946006284611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774844748754364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229836097883234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590173100637307,0.0,0.10820385609044196,0.0,0.15520529812431255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681761802610834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23404267258956854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182332083699132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693498179182904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725222014923972
parenting,BezHacku,2020/03/29,"Daughter (2y4m) prefers daddy to the point of violent tantrums Hello all,

I am a mother to a girl that has always been daddy's girl and I am getting desperate. I'm just after a tantrum and crying as I'm typing this, so please forgive mistakes and ask if anything doesn't make sense. 

A little bit of history, my husband has always been a very happily involved father. I had been home with the LO until she was 1.5y, getting her used to daycare for 3 months prior. During this whole time I have worked consciously on building a strong bond between LO and DH, and from a very early age she showed signs of missing him when being home alone with me.

At her 1.5y I returned to work full time. DH works on shorter hours so he picks her up from daycare and they have about 2h a day together before I finish at work.

One of the first things I noticed was that when she was little and DH was coming home, she would throw herself around him and he would have to peel her away to even take of his shoes. She rarely greets me with half of the enthusiasm.

It has escalated to the point where daddy has to be the one to change the diaper, daddy's the one that can soothe the boo boo etc. If I try to do it myself, or even come close, she would throw a tantrum, and even become violent towards me.

My husband will mostly relent with things like giving her food or changing the diaper, his reasoning being that he doesn't want her to sit in her own poop or go hungry. He keeps explaining to LO that this was not nice and mommy can do all those things so much better etc. but to no avail.

I have been really sad about these because I take them at face value. Don't get me wrong, we hug, we kiss, we play a lot and there are activities that she prefers to do with me still. I just feel like there are times when my daughter hates my presence and my husband is being more of a mom than I am.",5.401837320574163,5.2010410210526326,5.741100478468901,84.66633971291867,67.73684210526315,8.488038277511961,28.0622009569378,7.84624498591911,1.5257894736842106,1468,41,308,15,22,470,198,380,0.08800000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.098,0.777,1,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,2,7,18,19,6,0,21,0,40,6,3,4,2,54,60,26,0,9,9,8,1,2,0,4,0,0,3,2,16,24,1,1,7,2,0,5,5,10,0,5,10,1,47,9,46,42,12,41,0,2,0,2,44,17,0,7,20,221,63,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472427922952067,0.0,0.0,0.1682709720869351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320873857295219,0.09001347296707236,0.09452854503728886,0.0,0.0950005389112714,0.0,0.0,0.0616385500161763,0.11167318292478423,0.08604111675658492,0.0,0.0,0.0894276878665698,0.11039100555354966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21393177742300926,0.17420262937630676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106969124186553,0.06521058200977313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255391186748656,0.20035581120641166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112660344383147,0.07223632368903718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600806668914844,0.1222682319547806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584846883859109,0.0969983826238332,0.05746578381439805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982977962444793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30427870458010403,0.0,0.09957755884355976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987534377863861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879901759889964,0.20268687919984632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596405659099693,0.0,0.0,0.06749481173093147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842425194739804,0.08070874617510057,0.0,0.07433089960436326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511969526469178,0.0,0.0,0.2055537040814052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109935177381403,0.19117204823735204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477663175951276,0.1039626972596897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075028733882708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152051260644211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015282345323323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688229061290736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865020765828045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873305894263047,0.0,0.16686034594942986,0.05964003831713631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289089184532912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944506677915767,0.0,0.0,0.2154868313348824,0.1105529927440644,0.0,0.0
parenting,P4rent,2020/03/29,"4yr old kid keeps getting more and more aggressive, any idea how to handle this? Our 4.5 year old boy has been getting really angry really easily lately. If he gets told to stop something or the tiniest thing doesn't go his way, he'll start throwing items at us. When told not to do that, he hits and kicks us. This starts to be a daily occurrence.

This morning, I he was tearing stickers off of a parcel, and I told him that we'll go to brush his teeth after I have had my breakfast. We always give him a fair warning before he has to stop his things so fun stuff doesn't come to an abrupt end. I ate my breakfast but he didn't want to go brush his teeth, so I gently took the parcel away and told him we agreed to go after my breakfast. He yelled ""no"" and tried to grab the parcel from the counter top. As he wasn't able, he took a cardboard tube and tried to use that to get the parcel back. My wife took the parcel away and that was when he threw the tube at me.

He started hitting and kicking us, and it took an hour for him to finally stop it. He would cry for a bit, then take a new item, throw it and again start hitting me. I don't get physical with him, but I had to deflect the punches and keep him from hitting and kicking me over and over again. We've tried asking why he does this, but he won't say anything. We've tried naming his feelings (""you're angry that we took your cardboard box away""), but nothing. When he's in this state of mind, we can't leave him alone for a single moment as he'll start breaking things. We even have to take his glasses off whenever we notice he starts get angry as he'll throw them too.

What could we do with him? He's like a tiny Jekyll and Hyde, as most of the time he's the sweetest, funniest kid who considers others in his actions and is well behaved and smart, and in an instant he listens to nothing and sticks to his guns, hitting and kicking, even for hours on end.

As for the consequences he faces after behaving this way, we tell him about what could have gone wrong with his actions and we take all the toys away he had thrown. At times, when being overly aggressive, we take all his toys and he gets them back once he has behaved nicely and helped us with the chores (to his ability, of course).

We've done pretty much all the things the top 50 sites tell you to do when a kid hits and kicks and throws things, but these articles always assume the kid stops doing that after you take action - which our kid does not. It's usually an hour or two of just holding him on the sofa while he tries to hit and kick us.

We're at our wit's end here.",6.307810254284135,4.944721031716416,6.2197595356550615,85.82828081813159,66.29477611940298,9.13477059148701,29.553344389165282,7.526774132740827,1.5408900773908236,2027,52,449,16,27,639,229,536,0.064,0.8490000000000001,0.086,0.9204,0,1,1,1,1,0,59.0,19,3,2,2,19,8,2,0,30,0,31,7,3,2,3,73,84,48,0,5,11,1,2,1,0,6,0,3,2,6,28,40,4,7,3,2,0,19,10,3,1,1,21,7,59,5,64,46,11,87,0,0,0,0,91,22,0,5,43,278,87,0,0.062071476846346514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428733023485414,0.0,0.0,0.10329688235699336,0.0,0.0,0.042210732777153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05107953661195618,0.0,0.05802845181788019,0.0,0.233272783060852,0.0954582685024656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05281825501594847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776597634465427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346908111895436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991180469195357,0.0,0.06818260266370303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863833536107767,0.06352067157026789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493071408634788,0.0,0.0,0.08199525009394283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031385203732712946,0.0,0.0,0.06799626885535398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270084932254077,0.059544616605270516,0.14110660291809593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041605202519528976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18338370404039056,0.0,0.0,0.07007114199339616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034396126623654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001932952590596,0.06572473156655108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030324988235723268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267449702579626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045629677517727625,0.0,0.0,0.05994901913005572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911851222211516,0.07066878779654401,0.13026714680791018,0.06610409704750425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314900705147093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952915499754445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049361729754869736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04778565541430145,0.0,0.0,0.2636070647518925,0.0,0.0,0.20757813608117373,0.0,0.0,0.07105699051834212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23335012848923034,0.0,0.1085064133495912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061876555011117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238875462939746,0.0,0.0,0.23724782456554525,0.3448184734105819,0.2107122914995969,0.0,0.06063481354053728,0.0,0.3733217199339508,0.05360982652120955,0.06836296235405513,0.0,0.03661136526048589,0.09853889826240332,0.0,0.0,0.05580971216955625,0.0,0.0560098532532101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044093796233970986,0.06786541578780014,0.0,0.039971995995738835
parenting,tppdawgz,2020/03/29,"2yr old exploring himself? I know it is probably nothing, but first time mom here and I’m a little freaked out. My son is 2 (November is his birthday) and I’ve noticed these past few months how much he loooves to touch his private areas. During his baths, when he’s wearing training underwear, or even when we let him run around naked! Is this normal behavior for a 2 year old? I don’t yell at him when I do catch him, but I do try to distract him with something else to entertain him.",2.9582653061224486,4.583330081632656,3.997704081632652,88.2196173469388,74.71428571428571,7.348979591836735,29.5969387755102,8.07648339933343,1.9717714285714285,380,17,79,6,8,123,72,98,0.063,0.905,0.032,-0.4334,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,7,3,0,1,2,0,8,1,1,1,0,13,10,9,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,6,0,0,2,2,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,2,15,1,8,9,2,18,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,10,50,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20414911761627846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157278217682705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146792555541488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506492021360747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603179302185918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23450178317234116,0.0,0.0,0.2298453008039273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26858431013180656,0.18304614600961167,0.0,0.1685812919517717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469118315162506,0.22004486748756152,0.2610896284063915,0.4812789636572969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891799933457876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24725264811070996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654666797448565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372206907952033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569757343702298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767868399321268
parenting,campdirectormom,2020/03/29,"Parents of kids with ODD & ADHD - what works for you? My 4yo son has not been diagnosed but has behavior consistent with ODD and ADHD. He was scheduled for an evaluation through our local school district until the schools were closed. Now it’s possible that he won’t be able to get an evaluation for several months. We are now home with him every day for the foreseeable future, and things are quickly escalating. 

He is unfocused, impulsive, and defiant. He rarely hears or complies with the word “no”. He will scream at us, throw things, and hit/kick when he is angry, which can easily be several times a day. Even when he is not angry but doesn’t want to do something, he often gets extremely “silly” - laughing, throwing things, or fixating in one activity after another. He often says things like “I want to hurt you” or “I want to hurt the cat/dog” and I don’t know whether he means it or not. 

Instead of time-outs, we use “calm-down” time in his room. If I am with him during calm-down time, it often aggravates his mood and makes things worse. If I leave, he won’t stay there unless we lock the door, which doesn’t feel great.

He has good moments, too - he is curious and inquisitive about how things work. He loves to be active, running around outside and exploring in the woods and beach. But in recent weeks, especially being stuck at home under lockdown, the bad times are starting to outnumber the good. 

When I share these things with my friends who have kids, I hear things like “my kids do that, too” or “it’s normal for his age”. But I have enough experience working with kids to know that this is NOT typical.

What has worked with your kids with explosive or defiant behavior? What books, tools, or resources have you found to be helpful?

Thank you for your help.",4.788839285714285,6.339644633928572,5.033742857142858,82.91125714285717,69.92261904761905,8.828380952380952,28.02333333333333,9.281916038205594,2.306037047619048,1391,49,270,29,25,438,183,336,0.139,0.698,0.163,0.8158,1,1,1,0,0,0,52.0,5,6,0,4,17,16,0,0,11,0,33,2,0,3,0,59,51,29,0,6,19,2,1,2,1,3,1,4,4,5,23,23,0,0,6,2,0,4,10,4,0,1,5,5,27,11,38,38,1,38,0,2,0,1,46,11,0,12,24,177,50,7,0.09305665859911694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367203997345386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008268507134819,0.0,0.0,0.09757802030070653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284015531052498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769842295103623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002769282228327,0.0,0.0,0.09445054965082876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615240394571756,0.0,0.061463045366467364,0.0,0.07840424837053135,0.0,0.0,0.09102726828274588,0.0,0.0,0.04705224262745577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203182300720992,0.07189534359665542,0.0,0.09723652669218874,0.0,0.0,0.15610302037935234,0.0,0.10259529462439043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976323478629608,0.0,0.12474783341762265,0.0,0.18668683190216714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992381553478925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228301184841612,0.0,0.0,0.09853356513567696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092556583628428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839872675602244,0.0,0.0621160422117069,0.0,0.0,0.10136598170870864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427693708150593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117576762772173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305760019201535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103328406861245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490740055062167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188222392768584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400238993880412,0.0,0.1883566131204049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21025507338443306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163956212660062,0.0,0.0,0.06586598191644824,0.09918601648425268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567406868168831,0.0,0.0,0.4945816723598354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27131042985485115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193570253056928,0.08037107505096709,0.0,0.0,0.16466168476994122,0.0,0.07464443843709398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709854230384479,0.0,0.0948326851652576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,indylux,2020/03/29,"Keep Paying For Daycare, Right? We are keeping our child home from daycare for the last couple of weeks.  While schools in Washington are closed, the daycare is staying open to watch kids for parents who need to work. We are expecting an invoice for April to arrive tomorrow and plan to pay but fear many families will choose to not pay or be unable to. This could be hugely impactful for daycares across the country. How are other families trying to support thier childcare providers during this time?",7.419812734082399,8.961173247191011,6.2376966292134854,76.7611891385768,63.71910112359551,8.629962546816481,36.181647940074896,8.841846274778883,3.363785018726592,405,19,63,6,6,121,67,89,0.078,0.885,0.037000000000000005,-0.4423,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,15,13,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,5,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,16,9,0,13,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,1,6,42,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644430532302574,0.2445236880265353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166635943146748,0.2486776869289969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22167321520598768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928560781270723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801381546913509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22405142492063304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638629309046839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453857075795041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872614834942605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22365592479276405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23554830250759803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25077935231380355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886234062049085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003921103026288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726662879219335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608849681223557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikebaker1337,2020/03/29,"New dad who came of age during the grunge years trying to find some fun songs (not necessarily kids songs) to sing to my daughter. Most of the songs that I remember lyrics to that spring to mind when I'm on the spot and she needs lullabies are either depression themed, rage themed, or inappropriate in some way.  I am a fan of almost all genres and a font of song lyrics normally.... But I'm forgetful once the ""spotlight"" hits me and can only sing basic lullabies so many times on a fussy night before I too am fussy.  So what are some fun songs from any era and type to sing to my baby that aren't a traditional lullaby but avoids heavy adult themes?  Classic rock, golden oldies, rebel country, sugary pio I don't care, surprise me with something wholesome so I don't surprise my wife with something like ""Polly""

Much appreciated",6.085063291139242,6.813557759493673,6.106177215189878,79.42584810126583,66.34177215189875,9.10481012658228,28.458227848101266,9.120678840339163,2.147962531645569,658,20,126,11,10,208,103,158,0.111,0.805,0.084,-0.3365,0,1,2,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,5,10,2,1,8,0,8,0,0,0,1,25,14,11,0,2,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,2,5,7,0,1,2,9,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,5,11,6,17,12,7,13,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,6,9,69,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269021548568767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409236615604696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281565033730605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591643074779356,0.2310286980916471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516593625194806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20710371935130895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070286828628843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22973175836962126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287963489127671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657339290375292,0.16801731683548904,0.0,0.2188468571548799,0.0,0.21264405185154245,0.22201498339348444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413162732908593,0.0,0.17233570365667505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566879560855468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488877935373226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212936319801194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538431268026214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798605590647583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591974689189147
parenting,F4BadBubbles,2020/03/29,"Parents of Tweens/Teens: Specific Concerns While Social Distancing? I hope this doesn't get lumped into the mega thread but will give it a shot anyway.

I'm a mom of a tween daughter. I had been winning the war against screen time but this pandemic has tipped the balance. 

It's incredibly difficult to be a single mom, professional, telework, co-teach (now to a much greater extent), entertainer, monitor her screen time, etc. I thought I was over the hump in terms of giving it my all, but this pandemic has different plans. I'm exhausted before I can think about self-care or my own mental health and sanity!

Of course I worry about my daughter's mental health even more than my own: her social distancing, the gravity of the situation, this being her first catastrophe, first global recession/depression, the constant news. I'm seeing her understand the gravity, her gears spinning, including on a basic human impact level, which I admire, but I can see it all depresses her too.

As I said before, she's spending more time on a screen than ever before, despite my best efforts to make sure she follows a scheduled routine that includes posted assignments, virtual classroom instruction, some form of fitness, plenty of reading, and even arts (drawing, painting, violin practice). I have to worry about what she's seeing on the screen. I do try to monitor how much time she spends on it but otherwise give her her privacy with it. Although I stopped letting her take it behind her closed bedroom door.

I worry about her separation from friends at a time in her life when friends are everything. FaceTime can only offer so much. How will impact her future social development?

She's spending more time behind her closed bedroom door than usual. Also behind the closed bathroom door, especially taking longer baths. I can only guess that has to do with even greater struggles with hormones and boredom. I get it lol.

So why am I posting? I'm just curious what concerns other parents have for their tweens/teens during this unique time in history, especially their mental health. What are parents observing, what are their concerns, and what (if anything) are they doing about it?

I hope we can keep this a separate thread just for this discussion as I believe it doesn't deserve to get lost in the mega thread.",7.020254237288135,8.503120474576273,6.791071428571431,72.64534806295401,64.59322033898304,9.6772397094431,35.08898305084746,9.871247098662263,3.752362227602905,1848,84,291,39,28,582,210,413,0.11699999999999999,0.774,0.109,-0.7538,4,0,0,0,1,0,64.0,1,0,4,7,20,15,1,1,21,1,28,7,0,3,4,38,54,21,1,3,9,7,0,0,2,2,6,1,6,1,26,12,0,2,3,4,3,1,2,6,0,2,6,8,47,9,45,43,19,39,0,2,7,1,43,17,0,6,19,214,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552747946002452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742973196723466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917500519388865,0.09231844867818872,0.08599109420633727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854815333786868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114980002143795,0.0,0.0,0.08560997893297369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138488685920326,0.16236201725232913,0.07411952415810552,0.0,0.0,0.07364249081993539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939643800235446,0.0,0.0,0.12661345743395075,0.0,0.12843098263535574,0.2358132710729407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026627344114067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612955280633299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277004349476026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728321381310619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378931804762425,0.05787672568550047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944731375491832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054695662285584416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477290867903113,0.0,0.0,0.19193454207294092,0.0,0.0,0.18070623554080215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463829792659667,0.0,0.0,0.2729543984915206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695195750144367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819622880314389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794381239041548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958869858032276,0.0,0.08548140924426499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210412114934896,0.0,0.25058288139473545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850560423318057,0.0,0.08566159812608733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722758760380953,0.0,0.12321753611888127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052503916372980325,0.0,0.06505129761555896,0.334459575409672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055631958629373736,0.0,0.0,0.08530254831503037,0.0,0.0,0.09024545901892736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393820780089233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496424893171827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jesshopexx,2020/03/29,Urgent  I need help heavily pregnant 3year old girl and a baby boy who turns 1 in a week i physically have no funds and universal credit are useless i got a food parcel with 1 carrier bag and i dont know what to do please help me make money i have to wait until 14 april and am struggling all the time.,1.4186458333333327,3.2910844062500004,3.6887500000000015,87.61458333333336,79.9375,6.766666666666668,21.604166666666664,7.793537801064563,0.9306541666666664,238,7,51,4,6,82,50,64,0.12,0.693,0.18600000000000005,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,4,0,6,1,0,1,1,10,12,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,1,1,1,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,5,11,1,7,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.336432324747901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34711423864150315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295882027835909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38482069724740253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776073562858173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161486030891967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21285144293249927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012213090389332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151058111158885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000975666601466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738706545341464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122389810463095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230262314447102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Peachezz21,2020/03/29,"Is this normal? My toddler (she’ll be three this summer) has me so puzzled. I’m a first time mom. Whenever she misbehaves, I use a firm voice to say no and explain to her that she shouldn’t behave in that way. While I’m doing so, she hits herself! She’ll pop herself on the arm a few times while looking at me. As if she thinks I want her to spank herself. Basically she punishes herself. I don’t really believe in spanking toddlers. None of my family members spank her. Her teachers don’t spank or hit her either. I don’t know where she gets this from. Or why she does it. It breaks my heart seeing her punish herself. 
I usually stop her, sit her in my lap, hug her and explain that she shouldn’t hit herself and etc. But she continues to do it. I don’t scream or shout at her. Am I scaring her in someway? Is this just a normal stage toddlers go through?",0.583544372294373,2.9187862613636386,2.428571428571427,92.57833333333336,86.95454545454545,5.170562770562771,23.153679653679646,6.655083550727371,0.702147510822511,666,26,141,8,21,220,97,176,0.129,0.845,0.026000000000000002,-0.9499,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,2,1,5,0,15,3,2,1,0,22,30,13,0,6,7,1,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,10,3,0,1,4,0,0,1,8,4,0,2,0,6,41,1,15,22,4,22,0,0,2,1,32,8,0,5,9,105,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401437091707972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652639972208315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23771527800496484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093604747959345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130275230129245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136052430147086,0.0,0.12113636743349734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525802532875985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714003177664087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898982025053015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24963522194824414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41767766217128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654744345379788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950307098554834,0.21339735785157254,0.0,0.16985058430034158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782004586850193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365760084179116,0.0,0.0,0.2485754910825771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409059559852728,0.2347513370829271,0.0,0.12571963898841607,0.16918618887501705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923320389908421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waslessen,2020/03/29,"Lemonade stand wont be possible. Any thoughts on a way to have my kid make a few bucks from home and  still experience ""work""?  

He already has chores.  I'd like him to understand that there are some things you have to do around the house that nobody pays you to do but they still need to get done.

Thank you all.",1.9123809523809527,3.9674541269841295,2.178015873015873,98.14892857142858,79.15873015873021,6.104761904761905,20.02380952380953,7.1686216300943375,0.07869523809523793,242,6,57,3,6,73,52,63,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,1,9,15,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,2,8,11,3,6,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,3,37,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27327692607156834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840370926166984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204521254074908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534217248418709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24223946331036925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938169234583596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484031368854449,0.0,0.0,0.28574334061248324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098440766648882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653016399612231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362194105473026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791769201260924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955312884688268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22799366397114784,0.0,0.0,0.16452102915943034,0.0,0.0,0.196598518568292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578020000145853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965651255280847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028488792464847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,honeybunchesofOHYEAH,2020/03/29,"Help explain death/grief to children who lost parent Hi there . First post in this group! I am not a parent but have turned to this group for help. My  best friend (Female22) and her siblings (M10 andF12) lost their father. 
They all have had an incredibly dysfunctional upbringing and relationships with their father whose substance abuse and mental health issues contributed to these factors greatly. 
I want to gift the two youngsters a book on grief or something to help cope with the death of a parent. The only issue is that the books that I’m finding are 1.) geared towards younger kids 5/6 yo and 2.) about losing a loving stable parent of which they did not have the fortune.
If anyone has any book suggestions that may help early adolescence kids more so dealing with loss rather than focusing on the relationship with a parent. It would be appreciated. I hope this was clear.",6.258902953586496,8.299747569620255,5.5272784810126625,78.88602320675106,66.9746835443038,7.79831223628692,28.356540084388186,8.344100000000001,2.079124894514768,708,24,118,10,12,214,111,158,0.132,0.628,0.24,0.9722,5,0,1,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,4,6,4,10,0,0,12,0,13,2,0,0,2,22,21,8,2,5,6,7,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,11,8,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,5,0,2,5,0,9,5,18,13,3,7,0,5,0,1,31,4,0,4,2,80,20,3,0.0,0.14170223802948614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132968790365007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362461938423167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550909694346685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329868964974156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930898965799356,0.10172868023304037,0.0,0.0,0.092399921469159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185550958045505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712543496617876,0.0,0.0,0.3206519208226521,0.0,0.0,0.11878626128105844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496552456869075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13379783722406113,0.2611073083094083,0.0,0.10794046649962734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052509335085032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095849030483127,0.0,0.0,0.6639885284557219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454034066741668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568036615767627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207119103177602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008659584107465,0.11682835470738592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054108551210715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495788749104673,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rhodav,2020/03/29,"Cant find diapers anywhere. Best makeshift diapers? Title says all, lol. I have a few cloth diapers, but need something for while those are washing and drying. Only have a few hand towels and donated most baby blankets or else I'd use those",2.4160000000000004,5.341589599999999,3.59277777777778,82.6625,86.33333333333334,6.555555555555558,27.5,7.793537801064563,2.367666666666667,192,9,32,4,6,62,37,45,0.0,0.8079999999999999,0.192,0.8316,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,2,1,1,1,9,6,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,6,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,20,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43826471509758574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34886656114387593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3816956250720532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096587302889781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176175895609329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321068903955262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32150302479199805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606881863544512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,carpoolfor1,2020/03/29,"Where is the perfect baby monitor? I am looking for the perfect baby monitor that, as far as I have found, does not exist. I hope I'm wrong! Does anyone know if a monitor with all of these features?

1. Dedicated screen unit as well as wifi app access
2. Camera has a battery so can work without being plugged in.
3. Has a stable connection

Literally that's it. Lots of monitors have many other bells and whistles that are useful and I'm not listing here, but none have all 3 of those features. I've looked at dozens of monitors that either they aren't dual connected, or like the Motorola Halo+ (which I thought was close), can't use the desktop mode camera without the power cord.

We have the Kodak c520 which has all of those but the connection recently started failing all the time, and the product is discontinued so I can't reach out kodak as they no longer support it.

Please help! Thanks",3.0438816689466464,5.5121645988372086,4.272161422708621,82.45396032831741,77.43023255813954,7.070314637482902,27.55950752393981,8.124751697461798,2.1078915184678517,709,30,128,13,17,232,109,172,0.069,0.767,0.16399999999999998,0.9465,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,2,5,5,9,0,0,12,0,17,0,0,2,6,29,30,14,0,2,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,2,1,1,3,3,8,7,17,26,7,9,0,1,3,0,4,6,0,4,4,89,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362845374463485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34113143957114056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137070823890064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064304218178122,0.0,0.0,0.1935880939473993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711660046758438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952224355928088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32734805980074977,0.0,0.0,0.16570421530434215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760660137912134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213950975442838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244860495741167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795722167050314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22117982746301385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944553684064984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473555752421292,0.1136526990836776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366766848103132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524612643570306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757696288149101,0.0,0.14189569102231248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131018199776346,0.0,0.0
parenting,beedajo,2020/03/29,"The Ventriloquist Dumper You've heard of Ventriloquist dummies, I'm sure. Well, my son is a Ventriloquist dumper. You never see it happen; it's always just there: this dump left in the toilet for someone else to flush. He doesn't enter the room, just throws it through the walls into the toilet somehow. So every time I come home from work, there's crap that I have to flush. It's just there. In the evenings, before I go to bed, I'll enter the bathroom to find his Ventriloquist dump. Before you say I should teach him to flush, I've tried. And tried and tried. He's old enough to know better, but still too young to care. Someday he'll get it. Until then, I'll continue to flush his little, magic gifts.",2.6883840619811856,4.866842143884893,3.2663309352517977,90.6887825124516,77.20143884892087,5.715771997786387,19.32540121748755,6.67199483983844,0.04663873824017717,554,12,114,5,13,173,85,139,0.068,0.861,0.071,0.3506,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,0,2,12,7,3,0,8,0,4,1,1,0,2,14,14,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,3,1,0,1,3,10,4,16,11,1,20,0,0,1,0,11,7,1,1,8,63,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638002223328174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350204465975571,0.0,0.0,0.17410341158172046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007081309948536,0.0,0.0,0.16957428288973386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444818954785767,0.0,0.0,0.2034051944457188,0.0,0.1300217382089607,0.0,0.1658599341331252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992310382407334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284929865204824,0.0,0.11187797929241128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740793875497419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746293272580612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818708144450637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388496018108866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197301741739076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182772447241194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065675858062608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654804141400525,0.0,0.0,0.1568689944709608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679571526997708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572097059343693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18553474540157067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147884992473668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009575438291593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769974669731154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331374048694753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jazzmagz,2020/03/29,"Support a small theatre while teaching your kids social emotional skills at home! Hi! I'm an actor/educator at a small children's theatre based out of Minnesota. Usually we're touring but with the times being what they are we have moved our programming online! Everyday we have live interactive lessons that teach your children social-emotoinal skills they need! At 10am CST we have classes for Pk-2nd grade and at 1:30pm CST we have classes for 3rd-6th grade. We've been at it for over a week so you can catch up on our lessons. Check it out on our facebook page!

[https://www.facebook.com/CLIMBTheatre](https://www.facebook.com/CLIMBTheatre)",7.3379439252336445,10.668429009345797,5.2353364485981295,76.58571495327105,67.3177570093458,7.270654205607477,31.260747663551413,8.238735603445708,2.4909558878504665,532,22,83,8,10,151,75,107,0.0,0.9570000000000001,0.043,0.5136,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,3,2,4,1,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,12,11,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,8,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,1,16,9,1,20,0,0,0,0,18,13,0,0,5,49,16,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31981031254677594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851859592925841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510508050576952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021763748610725,0.0,0.2108121502145489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5796361732037512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226314468977539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578335904224187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131271311726922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22805621119217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sout4117,2020/03/30,"Single mother need advice - no judgement please Hi everyone, 

So I need advice. I am raising a baby as a single mother. Long story short, we had an affair but used protection and the protection failed (birth control and condom). I told him I wanted to keep the baby and told him I didn’t need help raising the baby but in reality I can’t afford to do it on my own. The baby’s father doesn’t want to be involved in the baby’s life due to the matter of how the baby was conceived but has offered to contribute monthly. So my question is for mother’s in this situation, what do you tell your child about their father? Do you mention their father? wait for them to ask you? The baby’s father also has children. So should he know about his siblings? 


Please help!",2.284399999999998,4.6030759733333335,4.122,83.32100000000001,79.26666666666667,5.6000000000000005,22.0,6.742157984588678,0.7948,596,18,107,6,15,201,89,150,0.040999999999999995,0.855,0.105,0.8177,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,4,3,2,7,1,0,0,11,0,14,2,0,3,0,21,26,12,0,6,3,7,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,5,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,19,0,16,19,3,9,0,1,0,1,33,5,0,1,4,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35015587793144104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327816493669138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749506514887494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009487529910404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711998105547877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24018101080523405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925006097938305,0.0,0.0,0.09846438411364793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654951963811847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855536395215122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300777287273264,0.0,0.0,0.3985456739766769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933386783287322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070577465369455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138893743709527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659808424753222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423996211095754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547410124600822,0.0,0.0,0.21135228727935254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,effffffd,2020/03/30,"Scared of her own shadow My daughter (8) has developed a fear of being alone. As in, she won't stay in her room by herself and insists on leaving the bathroom door open and won't allow me to leave while she has a shower or bath.  She has always been fearful and is scared of movies,  loud noises, unfamiliar places, and her hamster.  She says the new fear of being alone stems from her brother (6) and his scary book. It's called ""don't read this book before bed"" and is full of tales of the catacombs, creepy castles, the Loch Ness Monster and such. He thinks the book is great, but now she won't even go upstairs by herself. 
How do I get her to be less afraid of everything? As far as I know she has not experienced serious emotional trauma.",5.288299319727892,5.547143000000003,5.550068027210886,84.36278911564625,67.9795918367347,8.438095238095237,29.258503401360546,8.167268648758528,1.8066136054421764,579,19,119,7,9,184,97,147,0.153,0.821,0.026000000000000002,-0.9219,1,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,6,7,0,16,0,0,2,0,15,20,14,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,0,2,8,0,0,2,5,0,1,5,8,0,0,1,3,18,1,18,13,3,13,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,1,3,79,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430156333732096,0.0,0.0,0.13778938010693698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091024725849213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909232831903773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627353920031572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937478870961057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488272690212154,0.0,0.0,0.5590255990837657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651722753406596,0.0,0.09411218858418828,0.0,0.0,0.18257049590102176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910073910493747,0.0,0.0,0.35068512480180536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993393015292773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301287916390226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656411041320615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316888174886756,0.33158155244369925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650361337011974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061074170591966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluecities,2020/03/30,"How to get my 3.5 year old boy to be nicer to his 15-month old sister? My 3.5 year old boy is usually very sweet, but sometimes when his 15-month old sister comes near his toys, he will scream at her (a high pitched shriek).  Since she doesn't really understand what the scream means, she will often keep playing with his stuff which results in him screaming more.  

He has hit her before and pushed her down before.  Sometimes in anger, sometimes just because she is in his way and he doesn't know that it's rude to just push someone over.  The worst thing he did was he hit her on the head with a toy camera.  

We have tried to tell the baby to stay away from her brother's stuff but she's too small to understand.  We ask him to be nice to his sister and he tries, but sometimes I can see his temper rising when she gets close.  When I give a stern ""be nice!"" he will calm down.

I rarely yell at him but it just makes my blood boil when I see him screams at the baby.  After he does it and I get upset at him, I talk to him about why it was wrong and make him say sorry and give her a kiss and a hug.  He always does it and truly seems sorry, but he will repeat his behavior again in an hour or whenever the next time is.

Other than these times, he does seem to care about her.  He will yell to her or us if she is about to do something dangerous (like eating something she shouldn't), and sometimes he will randomly give her a hug.  So he doesn't dislike her.  He is just really possessive of his toys, doesn't want to share, and has trouble controlling his emotions.  He's only 3.5.

I am afraid that he might accidentally hurt her someday when he gets really upset (say, she knocks over a toy house that he put a lot of effort into building).  Does anyone have any advice on things I can do to help with the situation?",3.922032520325203,4.63049195663957,4.428730623306233,89.59994146341465,71.1680216802168,7.4216151761517635,23.70308943089431,7.404127859558343,0.7486443577235775,1408,33,309,14,25,446,175,369,0.162,0.7440000000000001,0.095,-0.9822,0,0,2,0,0,0,45.0,3,0,0,2,19,26,4,3,16,0,32,7,2,5,0,48,56,25,0,3,12,4,0,1,0,8,0,8,0,2,16,18,2,2,6,5,0,5,5,15,0,0,3,11,50,11,43,40,3,46,0,1,2,3,74,20,0,9,20,192,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125251795571854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918686520809178,0.0,0.0,0.05654436440578496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813991266459598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773335617783271,0.0,0.07812148939098612,0.0,0.0,0.0506870317405449,0.0,0.14150783283800197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477623661031396,0.0,0.0,0.07162574559399891,0.0,0.0,0.09325899229245917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910579949192235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508247573640466,0.0,0.09353175287155252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376827604367373,0.23929310946860985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085335153915802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055733212329212765,0.08785178372016605,0.0,0.0,0.08188529555651276,0.09594310985759326,0.08901302821757966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390690406579488,0.0,0.0,0.04569667192483573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040622540112120055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069054777943913,0.0,0.0,0.11100558542113648,0.0,0.0,0.0905739462843846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820825031314145,0.0,0.0,0.1327379303388318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843020680349782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490047452194536,0.0,0.0,0.06323877730466013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358799636989285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980268139881648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224729595170448,0.0,0.0,0.13251842789003104,0.15139197050376815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878194693579792,0.09346327899367456,0.0,0.0,0.07045211847285204,0.12802476220351347,0.4111838398091249,0.18615763173052705,0.0,0.08862607334108198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190372073693175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668322448111574,0.0726761391373532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048137913341066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697003229617178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129058114980661,0.0,0.0,0.17312267404650092,0.10001835070707564,0.0,0.09157718904370493,0.06860686736756011,0.04904360200547642,0.0660000313298246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502929573348338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091068902107567,0.0,0.10709082543257747
parenting,GretaTheBeeotch,2020/03/30,"Beginner (11 year-old) online piano resources We have a piano, my son wants to take lessons. Now we’re trapped in our home for the foreseeable future. I took lessons when I was his age, & now I’m ancient & it’s all gone. Suggestions please (& we will pay for lessons once this current BS ends.)",2.246836158192089,4.610065576271187,2.645,93.613488700565,79.67796610169492,5.967231638418079,26.78248587570621,7.1686216300943375,1.2355740112994344,235,10,49,3,6,72,48,59,0.086,0.873,0.040999999999999995,-0.3612,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,4,4,1,12,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,9,22,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7586243737461129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067116697692929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341062589582106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24490046849594346,0.24854961105898826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25618891642921954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547803015865532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593016205654079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765773987190227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029362024040266
parenting,Thentoa,2020/03/30,"13M son confessed to looking at inappropriate pictures and masterbating, my wife/his mom is super religious My eldest son couldn't sleep the other night and he came into my office when I was doing some work and began crying about how he's been looking at pictures of swimsuit models and masterbated after finding out what it means. 

I personally don't think any of this is a big deal, I told him that what he was going through was natural and the main thing was to not become obsessed with it. I told him not to cry and reminded him of how much I love him. I even told him about how I obce stole a Playboy magazine from a bookstore when I was about his age  He felt better and went to sleep. 

I hope I did the right thing. I'm also concerned because his Mom is very religious.  I'm not going to tell my wife about this because I think she'll make a big deal about him ""sinning."" I don't want him to have a complex about what are natural urges. 

Maybe I'm affected by my own life experience. I became very religious in high school (I did thisb to rebel against my alcoholic abusive secular father) and for many years I felt very guilty about doing exactly what my son just told me he is starting to do.",5.785178571428574,5.747681541666669,6.484880952380951,79.1025,66.91666666666666,9.523809523809524,31.72619047619048,9.23628265651192,2.597619047619048,950,35,189,16,14,313,129,240,0.063,0.8390000000000001,0.098,0.8465,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,15,7,1,1,8,0,21,5,2,5,1,34,45,14,0,3,4,7,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,12,12,1,0,8,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,17,4,33,4,30,26,4,21,2,0,2,1,32,9,0,2,8,126,45,2,0.0,0.13624487592629195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288981666171707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195781865664372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819744692565203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019421797389908,0.12699791400582588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016997054795858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151843718530593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526232122619572,0.0,0.237100202605238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595010552443099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248272177946918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22081772342549388,0.0,0.1050991850282752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070344159624755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214937203198752,0.0,0.11421145957213638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122115315414231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19312602823657726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103783367645948,0.0,0.07675701606730041,0.11658226445853173,0.11552335944597293,0.12525830702759488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693508427202192,0.0,0.0,0.08453120927240589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791074453277874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040522264345886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098201213158572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163764710764234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301469827896025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813908300052076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005067187981876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278908644296016,0.14736247023008278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43951319839991454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28463748382824633,0.06782434474537452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659729610255447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371441470495926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405007754523002
parenting,OldIllustrator4,2020/03/30,"Was it dangerous leaving 2 kids in economy whilst I flew in business class? 2 months ago I flew with my 2 twin sons (aged 11) back to the UK from a trip in the USA.

I had booked economy tickets for the 3 of us. We were all booked to sit together in the left 3 seats. However when we boarded, someone was sat in my seat and it turned out that for some reason my seat was double booked.

The air hostess asked if I would like an upgrade to business class, to which I said yes. It's rare that I fly in business and I didn't want to pass up the opportunity. I left my two kids in economy who were then sat next to the guy who had my economy seat.

The kids were fine with it and didn't complain at all.

However when I told my wife about this she was very angry as 'something could have happened to the kids' as they were sat next to a stranger and it was my duty to protect them. She feels that I was greedy and I should have given the upgrade to the person who had my seat. I thought she was being ridiculous but even up until now she keeps bringing it up and we've had many arguments over this.",3.6447307132459983,4.034586602620088,4.534305676855894,89.74544687045125,71.62008733624455,7.853391557496361,27.49374090247453,7.793537801064563,1.3239185443959238,848,28,195,10,15,275,119,229,0.057,0.895,0.047,-0.4858,6,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,2,1,6,6,2,0,14,1,23,0,0,1,2,25,39,14,0,5,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,6,15,11,0,3,3,4,0,5,2,3,0,1,26,2,29,3,33,9,4,34,0,0,0,0,24,16,0,2,13,133,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643254092883923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330234839290498,0.0,0.0,0.14254336956048475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480083455714464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243967358410004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937321148725352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355224513061424,0.16392815296051422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477147863974415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962873378687477,0.4028250209520107,0.0,0.0,0.09056577440204472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879430490245496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147966048165391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943008062808101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186393161296525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059829571329653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633585320915138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706921945668184,0.14271217038123452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716852711726688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713554239460189,0.0,0.0,0.2016368010660253,0.18108626461240804,0.0,0.22298554844676008,0.0,0.0,0.15295533108693085,0.10934008023211816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168640895139005,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,posty_malone,2020/03/30,"Not sure how to help my nephew (8m) learn I am one of his guardians and he lives with me. 

He is missing a lot of assignments and video chats by “forgetting” to do/attend them after he was told to. Now I am making sure he does by watching him do it. Today I noticed he had a little trouble focusing. He kept saying he hates math and was so frustrated to the point of tears. He kept saying he was stupid as he kept getting the same problems wrong. I told him to go slow and asked why he was frustrated but he ignored me. Yesterday we practiced his 8 multiplication facts through me quizzing him and he learned them perfectly so I’m confused why him doing them online is so difficult. His video games were taken away until he catches up on his assignments so when he was done with math that made him cry more. 

How can I help him?",3.3690129749768327,4.870212018072294,4.246626506024096,87.3597729379055,73.39759036144578,7.517330861909176,27.22706209453197,8.139509932561175,1.6415214087117702,649,24,135,10,13,209,98,166,0.195,0.7440000000000001,0.061,-0.9569,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,3,1,8,14,4,1,4,0,15,0,0,4,4,29,29,15,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,8,0,4,2,4,0,2,1,11,0,1,15,3,23,3,19,14,3,14,0,1,1,0,39,5,0,2,7,82,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888340591027418,0.0,0.16972666371113754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19843559152348492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580880715703334,0.1848677161707301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943821923444144,0.0,0.10266758353310836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17835451913068398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242171834159454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810588033439603,0.15951729920721006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358220796928812,0.0,0.17093544031071148,0.12058530766443032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056712733279113,0.0,0.0,0.12241314560607555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707726835763282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285769553758118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873203327494687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34052105860839066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123511960066715,0.3452377187589094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260171342025068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19751246505303144,0.0,0.0
parenting,hahayeahright13,2020/03/30,"Sleeping arrangements for an infant? We plan on co sleeping for the first 6 months with use of a bed side bassinet as well. After that, I’d like to transition baby to their own room and do feedings there at night. I want to let them sleep on a twin bed so that if one parent needs to sleep with baby, wants to cuddle, etc it’s easy. Would you think that bed rails would be sufficient?",3.2457692307692305,4.613445628205131,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076928,73.48717948717949,6.7384615384615385,21.974358974358974,7.1686216300943375,0.4398820512820514,301,7,66,3,6,93,61,78,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.7998,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,2,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,5,6,4,1,0,12,10,4,0,6,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,1,4,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,2,15,6,2,9,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,1,5,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20924067564353813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958549532842034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191849376002489,0.0,0.09165936852450501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975275845043765,0.0,0.0,0.13911438249726074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606426838733136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271329963385142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20832461005737046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7510032540660424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021632146615548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620393982495845,0.0,0.0,0.2213207533345708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868870435272898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26655308072917266,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,godihatevat,2020/03/30,"Should I even let my little brother have social media? My 12 year old little brother keeps following porn accounts on his Instagram and Facebook, I’ve had multiple conversations on how his friends and family can see when he follows that kind of thing but he doesn’t listen. Is there like a parental lock I can download or something? I tried monitoring him but I’m in the middle of trying to apply for colleges and I’m working a lot now, like I explained that it’s ok to do that stuff by himself and not publicly. Is there anything I can do? I’d like to let him keep Instagram and Facebook because that’s how he talks to friends and family but it’s getting disturbing. Is there a google play app or something? I got him that tablet because I thought it was a kids tablet, can I explain to him why he shouldn’t follow accounts with explicit images differently?",3.9947647562018846,6.01282037125749,4.7483704020530375,82.26522455089824,72.83233532934132,7.406159110350728,31.689050470487594,8.192908349453996,2.489756544054748,690,33,126,11,14,222,98,167,0.027000000000000003,0.835,0.138,0.9542,2,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,8,9,0,1,5,1,17,1,0,2,1,24,31,14,0,2,6,3,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,10,7,0,2,3,1,2,3,3,1,0,0,4,2,17,8,13,23,1,13,0,0,1,1,24,6,0,3,7,83,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198793069726428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19554543927335716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757420853890112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593658541893453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30240427142957177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478350092397477,0.0,0.08379755310161922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282791441032471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851253570115715,0.0,0.16702229671103866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280208412815499,0.0,0.2350764735431327,0.32150735876880804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635848996605754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830312376980605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809495989651522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781067120982414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634981830642125,0.0,0.24695328867450464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18360904898843275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289160187572055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655649518379574,0.0,0.0,0.12733234896472073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778959773100776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472771524356873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167663847594696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328639191456553
parenting,MsTiana02,2020/03/30,"My teenage son is dating a self destructive girl and its rubbing off on him. Back in December my 17 y/o son started dating this girl who he is just head over heels for. In the beginning she seemed to be ok... quiet but for the most part what I knew of her she didn't seem bad. As time has progressed my son has been showing signs of stress and depression. He is junior in HS, B-average student, athlete, and works on the weekend at a fast food restaurant. He likes videos games, sports and eating, as most teen boys do. Since January his grades have been declining, his B-average went down to failing in 3 out of his 4 classes. He rarely cares to eat, has lost interest in his athletics and all he wants to do is to be locked away in his room on the phone/facetime with her. When I tell him that he needs to eat he argues that he's not hungry. Drastic change from his norm. 

Her destructive behavior: Last month they set up to go out on a date to the movies. As I'm dropping him off I tell him to be sure to be polite to her parents when he meets them. He tells me that they dont know about him because she is too ""scared"" to tell them that she has a boyfriend. The reason she doesnt want them to know she has a boyfriend is because they disliked her last boyfriend. She constantly calls my son in a panic about how her ex-boyfriend and his friends are constantly bullying her, causing her to have anxiety attacks and she doesn't know what to do. When he asked us (my husband and I) for advice because he wanted to fight the boy, we told him that's not the way to handle anything and that she needs to tell her parents. She said she didnt want to do that. When I asked why she didn't want to tell her parents, he couldn't give me an answer. Shortly after that he tells us that she claims that she was raped by this ex-boyfriend but refuses to tell anyone and refuses to seek help. Soon after that he tells us that she hasnt had her period in 3 months. I asked him if its possible that he could have gotten her pregnant. He said theyve never had sex because they've never had the opportunity to. (They go to different schools and they have only been on the 1 date.) He then admits that he thinks she may be pregnant and would be extremely hurt if she cheated on him. Around this time she tells him that she is not ready for a relationship, he is overwhelming her because he shows too much concern for her and that she just wants them to be friends, free to date whomever. I felt relieved however he is still treating this arrangement as if they are still together. Every waking moment is spent on the phone with her unless she has more important things to do and he just sits around looking like an idiot until she decides to call him. A few weeks ago he admitted that he's been feeling very overwhelmed and depressed but he attributed it to school and work and not her. We had a long heart to heart about not settling for less than is deserved. I recently found out that she pops pills for fun. He admitted this because he was concerned about her and the possible baby if she is pregnant. He is avoiding having a conversation with her about all of this... he won't admit to why but my guess is to continue living in this fantasy world where she is perfect and everything she does is flawless. Lately he's been having a lot of headaches which is probably from stress and not eating and has been asking for tylenol regularly. I have stopped giving them to him since finding out she pops pills. I don't need him picking this habit up. I took his phone from him for a few weeks for him to focus on his grades and self care and love. He made huge improvements. Grades are back up to B-average. As soon as he gets the phone back the first person he calls is her and his behaviors are starting to resurface. 

I'm trying to handle this situation with care without just plain putting my foot down and saying this nonsense is over but I really can't think of any other way to handle it. Your suggestions would be greatly appreciated.",5.445163852775153,5.75693073842303,5.523079870245971,84.50781512605043,67.64831038798498,8.875390156062425,30.323644351357565,8.724045039944539,2.1311208449337173,3176,112,654,47,49,999,325,799,0.11699999999999999,0.78,0.10400000000000001,-0.9144,5,1,0,0,1,0,73.0,5,1,11,8,26,40,8,7,28,1,77,17,6,6,6,111,130,48,0,17,21,8,3,2,2,4,3,4,1,7,38,37,5,4,19,7,2,5,20,21,0,1,27,8,108,20,113,89,11,95,0,7,1,3,180,39,0,11,48,438,146,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443839997553655,0.04938285764319472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03788417643330365,0.0,0.042617396860466665,0.0,0.0,0.038953178311384055,0.0,0.045843937070576934,0.0991860244723846,0.2083223826912494,0.06337727431003905,0.05234064116596188,0.12851084243398175,0.04651486740578353,0.20375892170886006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065601100851316,0.0,0.1703977720245476,0.0572287094376717,0.0589329625095718,0.0,0.0,0.12040374033548235,0.0,0.04447927493995787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596453019940268,0.0,0.0,0.05820427239312986,0.0,0.0,0.04875150931361144,0.0,0.06529078487763924,0.0,0.0,0.228017738358411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04693741621118383,0.0,0.05006785013634856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028168252891568782,0.0,0.05348958260622974,0.0,0.05091721309511799,0.04738622967349007,0.06736380370135438,0.061082278611260386,0.0860816023666044,0.0,0.029105765434495025,0.10688271028303327,0.06332166121203521,0.0,0.0,0.06141960601849219,0.061369980845273876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571737265222247,0.0,0.0,0.13203137560078965,0.037340712399247626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596378666785831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184898264263568,0.09082089098908024,0.06284242084839639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544334167674918,0.0,0.0491922573331068,0.049300902055878025,0.04678170973109857,0.0,0.06081318883048788,0.0473619822662498,0.050279741415083665,0.052713406062559316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893312755733086,0.0,0.040952682882870683,0.123923030717823,0.08593276167876245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04236936822993164,0.0,0.06536276037958524,0.18557547097566526,0.06032765083519035,0.0,0.0,0.048643137583077985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560753851008533,0.0,0.0,0.06006395592771172,0.0,0.0,0.05600314789035615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035688749534683366,0.057278351199640816,0.05500612883273224,0.059810848133451715,0.0,0.0,0.10598444116620158,0.044302203635249664,0.05577464259376543,0.11276139915760355,0.0,0.1014311537749548,0.11623372158746045,0.0,0.0,0.09216647637745162,0.06261949159108768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886253797779215,0.0,0.08897890184806949,0.046575398089582165,0.12762943472698898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525052756837572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4869230924256582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0370107269192032,0.07139243084434453,0.0,0.0,0.06496898233549657,0.0,0.0,0.0532325421339487,0.06189498748157001,0.03782290001919671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103397842954104,0.0,0.0,0.04596593657391962,0.19715242968865415,0.0884387633596545,0.08937314361370298,0.0,0.0,0.051643000272142366,0.10053780273611128,0.0,0.0,0.05370169510606493,0.0,0.08111394377641908,0.0,0.0,0.07914845567646954,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dobbys_Other_Sock,2020/03/30,"How to stay at home mom I never intended to be a stay at home mom. I went back to work at exactly 6 weeks and my son went to daycare. And I loved it in a way, his development was make leaps and bounds, it seemed being around older babies helped him learn new things everyday. Due to current events I now teach from home, the daycare is closed, my husband still has to go to work, and I can’t really take the baby (3mo,) anywhere. I don’t want to stall his development but i don’t know if there’s specific things I should really be doing either....",2.6229365079365095,4.0810826428571465,4.224047619047621,86.94317460317465,75.25,7.8349206349206355,22.265873015873016,8.515128840125781,1.175621825396826,424,11,92,8,9,142,74,112,0.013999999999999999,0.9490000000000001,0.036000000000000004,0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,4,0,11,1,0,3,2,20,20,7,0,3,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,6,0,1,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,3,0,13,1,14,13,1,23,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,2,11,59,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464488241525354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264980751432935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349485350599636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026761991877912,0.0,0.4950509854976241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041042209439976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484767445434344,0.0,0.10981173693861926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853443685076852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688029357945144,0.15888483304062145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107787032550704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976377248503311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506916526663559,0.13137793977882128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369108533564245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21858633682236092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703229078997776,0.1305804217118488,0.1319600403652292,0.0,0.0,0.3050049321281155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953055385819624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greenthumb1441,2020/03/30,"Ideas to keep our 10 month old entertained stuck in the house 24/7 We have a 10 month old girl who is incredibly active and curious.  We live in a 3 bedroom apartment with a nice big living room full of toys for her, but shes clearly growing tired of it.  To be honest, trying to keep her entertained all day long with things that arent very entertaining is starting to take a toll on us as well.  We just chase her all over, she could care less about her toys at this point, and just wants to explore areas that we have blocked off for various important reasons.  I don't know what to do, best we could do is walk with her but even that is risky because we live in a small apartment building.",5.690881294964028,5.508121928057559,5.617904676258996,85.73174910071943,67.12949640287768,8.964388489208632,30.324640287769785,8.472884824447931,1.9316827338129487,544,18,117,7,8,170,93,139,0.084,0.693,0.223,0.97,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,8,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,1,3,28,22,5,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,8,11,0,3,4,5,0,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,16,8,22,18,6,25,0,0,0,0,17,15,0,0,7,79,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265847157010216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767312545089221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717007008899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689162865755706,0.0,0.0,0.1086076599394898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123028982803933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943174156671783,0.0,0.19010938861891252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29937321438389297,0.0,0.0,0.09255129634848101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4461156073748768,0.14903362884837068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688394364403685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534266308820242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919769587232294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731489724885495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919832827502505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662002929940305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188117679537044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935574277127458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433632668710822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257116386512727,0.0,0.0,0.13895223100098467,0.09932996763247594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514168309195211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kanecoleaaa,2020/03/30,"Recommendations To catch a cheater depend on the connection and the available chances because Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. I have been married to my wife for five years with no idea she was cheating. I started noticing changes in behavior, i suspected something was wrong. So i confided in a friend who convinced and introduced me to nineplanethacker atgmail com He was able to hack into my wife Mobile Phone, Text messages, Call logs, Instagram, Browser History, Deleted Messages, Emails and WhatsApp Recovery he is also expert in retrieve stolen or hidden files and documents, recover passwords, Erase Fines and fees, Spy and Track on Anyone, Background check, fix and boost Credit scores, Banks login, Money transfer, Credit card, BTC top up, BTC investment & Mining, ETH Investment etc. I filed for a divorce just couldn’t continue with lies. If you feel you are been cheated in your marriage or in real life contact him on gmail or hangouts..",6.374285714285714,9.27677214285715,5.775619047619048,73.60271428571431,68.64285714285714,8.527619047619046,37.390476190476186,9.21078282632365,4.133651904761905,792,44,114,17,15,242,127,168,0.127,0.759,0.114,-0.5325,0,0,1,0,1,0,27.0,0,4,0,2,3,8,2,0,5,0,11,2,0,2,0,22,14,13,0,2,5,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,10,0,1,3,1,8,1,3,3,0,1,6,1,16,5,18,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,5,3,69,18,5,0.23266219117430226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605987022355505,0.0,0.2520893869321197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626828137344667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182871224747082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375741103813975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461257483567925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609504310696513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25947984463205925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764099457438128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975423175774682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626472940965443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286723725296936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648874467265632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26482050979231114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713391956463847,0.17911472161220096,0.0,0.0,0.16467949641889715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543795821264407,0.0,0.14982682298667466
parenting,r-noxious,2020/03/30,"18 yo Son ran away So yeah, 6 days ago my son took off to various friends houses and his girlfriends house to stay. He got ticked off because I told him to clean his room of all things. He's 18. I don't think he has a drug problem but her certainly feels he's becoming independent.  


Do I continue to pay his car insurance and phone or cut him off?",1.2693542074364004,3.1899995753424686,3.0250880626223093,91.94863013698631,80.64383561643838,7.4590998043052865,24.127201565557733,8.418075326091056,1.4137256360078276,271,10,63,6,7,90,55,73,0.10800000000000001,0.773,0.11900000000000001,0.1893,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,10,9,5,0,1,2,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,4,1,10,2,9,5,2,12,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,1,3,31,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215694998153738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286140381188206,0.0,0.0,0.14833008301298248,0.2687359207705255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692599907519025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821824536306771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303361015152252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799409298759212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461109565505966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5615341424034042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328313945062652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25935456002016904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165586714697036,0.15591432912230266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23250969314618306,0.2703456188587469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Babygirlalyssa5150,2020/03/30,"Question about breast milk. Why is it when you refrigerate milk you can keep it for up to a week, but if you have it frozen and thaw it out you can only keep that milk for 24 hours?",1.9776923076923083,3.0304088205128217,2.792820512820516,98.19384615384618,76.1794871794872,6.225641025641028,18.128205128205128,6.42735559955562,-0.5585794871794869,140,2,36,1,3,44,28,39,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,0,7,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,6,6,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,2,3,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615062807537018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6525667356822805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791858419445006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4112209169430117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29445466606452025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312384899369625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adudewhoabides,2020/03/30,"My GF (39) just found out last week she is pregnant for the first time. And I (also 39) am beyond excited, and terrified. Yesterday she began having cramps and bleeding. “Mild” according to her, but it is happening. She says her pain level is about a 4 on a scale to 10, but today seems to be a little better. We do not want to go to the ER, which we’ve been actually advised not to, given the state of things, and want to see an obgyn, but her insurance is making us jump through hoops just to even do that. We spoke to a nurse that said bleeding can be pretty common in the beginning, but at some point, we know, she’s going to need to see a physician to do a legitimate determining test, but I guess my posting here is just to know if anyone out there has experienced this, and what the result was, or, if anyone is experiencing it now. I am not a control freak whatsoever, but I hate not being able to do....much for her while she exhibits a strength I will never come close to ever knowing. I just want to know that she’s going to be okay. I know age plays an issue here. We’re realists about that. And now I’m babbling. She’s taking a nap now. Thanks for reading if you’ve gotten this far. Any words of wisdom or optimism or harsh truths would be appreciated.",3.3632321981424163,4.568669760784316,5.007347781217753,83.06674922600621,72.9607843137255,7.878224974200207,24.79360165118679,8.371475516178862,1.4549607843137249,979,29,203,16,19,332,147,255,0.07200000000000001,0.77,0.157,0.978,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,0,4,16,11,1,0,16,1,23,5,0,3,3,54,53,20,0,8,20,0,0,0,1,2,5,3,0,0,11,13,0,1,7,3,0,5,5,3,1,1,8,7,24,8,31,38,1,34,0,0,2,0,20,11,0,9,16,144,35,3,0.1443484522701895,0.0,0.14086326690113296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543540512881115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816189746307327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20186358819200806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127664475680433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434341014530835,0.0,0.0,0.16189906341904758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534079134178366,0.13057143918324027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278271976058215,0.0,0.15827062732656974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24610965580961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901609416401966,0.0,0.12764685962444414,0.0,0.0,0.14251421206443382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066228126480194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966506716477039,0.11766325453148588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446750708737975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635371277445308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061127213643786,0.10703254832574813,0.11133042519058133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359693053808535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645594493838806,0.0,0.13824591567719308,0.14685427016411712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438751501139946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730843357191286,0.11479168296789442,0.0,0.0,0.23005405520444835,0.13140940959805986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853207172064526,0.0,0.0,0.13289666102420078,0.0,0.0,0.09589869763363404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417074333825096,0.0,0.1368254545306322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363341492488682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554213712651875,0.0,0.115787621446728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254099893332017,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ottometrist,2020/03/30,"Seeking advice for my very sad 6 month old I am seeking advice for a sad baby. My wife (33f) and I(34m) have a beautiful 6 month old daughter. When she was born she had the biggest frown on her face. It was very cute but also the nurses even mentioned something like ""look at that frown, good luck!"" My wife and I are very laid back, positive people with a great outlook on life and our baby girl is putting this to the test. She was very colic for her first 3 months. She cried almost every waking moment. It was tough but once we hit 4 months she settled down a bit. Now she doesn't last more than a few minutes playing with one thing until she starts whining and crying. We constantly need to hold her or change activities. I have been letting her cry it out a bit more in hopes that she will calm herself down but she continues to be upset. I became more concerned when we went on vacation a couple of weeks ago and there was another 5 month old there. He was really chill and relaxed and my wife and I were very jealous. I feel awful saying this but it is true. Is it something we are doing wrong as this is out first kid? Also I should mention that this has been very hard on my wife and she has moderate postpartum depression. Any advise helps. Thank you.",2.833071350959795,4.77390707171315,3.6212984425932646,89.42050977906555,75.89243027888445,6.316624411445129,22.96287576964868,7.1686216300943375,0.7735561752988045,989,29,200,11,22,314,149,251,0.14800000000000002,0.6920000000000001,0.16,0.6787,0,0,2,0,0,0,26.0,5,1,0,2,9,19,1,1,10,1,27,3,2,0,1,30,35,20,0,3,5,5,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,13,17,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,8,0,3,11,4,33,11,22,19,6,36,0,4,1,0,34,11,0,4,24,135,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19193086037419185,0.08705338841198354,0.0,0.09833877843323548,0.0,0.0,0.15707005480866906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678321350994103,0.10297719273885636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551408738087555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443028202458508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388856215415086,0.0,0.0,0.10612542564276636,0.0,0.0,0.10866269016074802,0.3236229043020658,0.0,0.0,0.08458438737570068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486390940823332,0.0,0.08274250052538636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965573028547969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670673611863878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237024468821792,0.0,0.10827208213568468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797297797497834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582518094757994,0.0,0.0,0.09754037490686764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005071675195324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100421936617829,0.06936555892641733,0.04797832282904403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246801708445099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919340873243131,0.0,0.0,0.07281824936239091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091509471488829,0.10458581826361492,0.06654669390311348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808343643602874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872380858997888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629130577583926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809707912068654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120702334611333,0.0,0.0,0.06951046858546489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041457344766762,0.0,0.0,0.06524347394366012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4861797054194723,0.0,0.0,0.07877465335054218,0.0,0.0,0.0910376267394991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737246795560766,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kidscompetition,2020/03/30,"Don't stop Kids Learning during Lockdown Interactive Kids Videos for kids age 2-7 years
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Bit.ly/nurserypoems",22.535625000000003,18.186208812500006,17.171250000000004,28.94875000000001,39.0,19.05,63.25,15.903189008614273,9.7125875,190,10,18,5,1,55,24,32,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.7259,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28966072896184303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38011904680737196,0.0,0.7908831747514841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30282537072496724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332525907505601
parenting,GoldenShowerShoes,2020/03/30,"Daughter has sensory issues and it is becoming increasingly difficult to do her hair. Advice? I have spent a lot of time learning to do the hair of my older 3 kiddos (6M, 6F, 2M). My Girl Twin absolutely hates every part of having her hair done and always has. I don't need to do anything fancy but I need to make sure I am keeping up with it so she has a healthy head of hair. It's a battle every time her hair needs to be washed, brushed, or maintained in any way. If it were up to her she would walk around looking like a caveman. 

This isn't her fault. She has sensory issues. She hasn't been formally diagnosed with SPD but she is hypersensitive to sound, touch, taste, and smell. She started seeing an occupational therapist a couple weeks before schools closed down but they were mostly focusing on other issues. She can't stand how paper feels, doesn't like the sound of the bell that rings in class, is overstimulated in the classroom, etc. Right now it doesn't matter too much how it looks but it will start to once she starts school again. I want to get a handle on this while we have the time. Any recommendations?",3.289726125267918,5.254714176470593,4.323691355084545,84.7809835675161,74.65610859728505,7.186568230531079,23.396284829721363,8.032893268588372,1.1877185520361997,887,26,178,14,19,288,133,221,0.039,0.878,0.084,0.8942,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,1,0,7,7,2,0,12,0,27,9,6,3,1,29,43,13,0,6,6,1,7,2,0,2,2,3,0,1,11,8,1,1,2,0,1,2,6,4,0,0,5,16,22,3,25,35,6,26,0,0,3,0,17,11,0,4,13,118,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821264173125516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917361067220192,0.0,0.0,0.1784486811702605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079710697195625,0.11680084486447115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449063310676931,0.11164634358600932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517655509877286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331709719251197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426893260307066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632898133398906,0.0,0.0,0.22109283635006413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634151844663037,0.09373334189504463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854953631340778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295384148441298,0.13465484875251432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108338279206642,0.0,0.11662160940806998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820090534172127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035940042412294,0.0,0.0,0.1115463508610384,0.0,0.0,0.08758078956719115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645124876474573,0.2918619788020133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972973414551634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208293202034508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204890739033993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655742431409766,0.10455391503752116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27860410112093426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365977147137845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233987121766054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295212072609184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738849122885386,0.10414493709295393,0.1052452574624625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320472860875352,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,only_one_catch,2020/03/30,"Telling your child they have ADHD Parents of children diagnosed at a (very) young age — when and how did you tell them about their diagnosis? 

I’m especially interested in hearing from those whose children started a med regime before they knew about their ADHD.

Thank you!

Cross posted to r/ADHD",6.5367307692307675,8.721803057692313,6.0453846153846165,74.8746153846154,66.5,8.276923076923078,32.230769230769226,8.841846274778883,2.891676923076924,237,10,38,4,4,73,44,52,0.0,0.888,0.11199999999999999,0.6989,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,5,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,8,2,7,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,0,4,24,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7285111700874641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193832124245165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20508681803261528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22773649556084075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224443296369374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243639052805263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935177871526828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301922749816018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35321898744543817,0.18602985582181866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672080074021114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WritingEternity,2020/03/30,"HELP: Baby seems to have forgotten how to roll over! My daughter has been progressing normally according to everything I've read, but more recently she seems to have forgotten how to (or maybe can no longer) roll off her back and onto her front anymore.

I have no idea what happened, and it's starting to worry me. She used to roll over all the time, even last night, but for some reason if I put her on her back on the floor all she does is start crying with no attempt whatsoever to roll over. She knows how to crawl, but instead of rolling and crawling over to me, she just starfish-style lies there and cries.

Any ideas as to what is going on here? Should I be worried?

For some context, she did fall off her baby rocking chair (wife was watching her, and got distracted) but when I looked her over there were no psychological or physical signs of damage (no bruises, crying normally, acted normally).",6.73122807017544,6.951132327485382,6.398298245614036,79.6469210526316,64.90643274853801,9.88093567251462,32.88947368421053,9.642632912329526,2.9023656140350886,712,27,136,13,10,222,104,171,0.217,0.772,0.011000000000000001,-0.9905,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,2,12,2,0,1,2,0,13,0,0,5,2,33,23,17,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,6,2,0,5,5,2,0,0,5,2,20,0,28,16,5,26,0,1,2,0,16,12,0,7,9,100,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546137771188884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392165610492816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21588295738303426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462593617169969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284512117624224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271788269019716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261620656186829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977965456037267,0.0,0.11227255048413078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413518274674165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409194513311324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316937769730239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714769287152361,0.11442623537167948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788157703548385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410278657959698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173458658834394,0.4126198470979696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411179589248327,0.0,0.0,0.1404152880456421,0.0,0.0,0.14433124415966914,0.13860564846156184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555884433520801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987195508517933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185513248789701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124091580281712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851199243604779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RhodesRacoon,2020/03/30,"I’m bonding with my girlfriends kid, and it’s exciting but scary at the same time. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now, and I know she has a kid (who was two when we got together), and I saw him every now and again and babysat him once or twice, but never had any particular emotional attachment to him. Anyways, about a month ago my girlfriend was freaking out because she lived with her grandparents, and with all that was going on she had to move out because the elderly are vulnerable. I asked her if she wanted to stay with me for a bit but she said that she didn’t want to burden me. One night though I was asleep and she phoned me at about 1am in tears saying that our country was talking about lockdown and she had nowhere to stay at all, so I insisted that she and her child stay at my house until everything blew over. I live in a fairly small bungalow with two bedrooms, one of which I had set up to make into an office for when I had to do all my work at home, but I told her to give me a few days whilst I emptied out my office and put all her kids stuff in that room. When they got there I must admit at first it felt a little odd, since I’d been living on my own since I left home, so I wasn’t used to living with people. After about a week I was really enjoying their company, and the three of us together gave me a family vibe that I loved so much. Growing up I was pretty awkward and I grew to prefer my own company to other people’s, so this was a real treat :). What I found so funny was one time I was watching tv and my girlfriends kid was playing on the floor and then my cat came into the room, and he looked at the cat as if to say “what the fuck are you?!” (Sorry, I don’t know if I’m allowed to swear on here). Anyway we’re all moving forward and coming closer together, and it’s exciting! However I’m anxious. Will this kid see me as his dad? I have mixed feelings, most are good but I just wanted to ask if anyone can relate?",4.664768740031897,4.2052136387559855,5.7407775119617215,84.92502591706537,69.311004784689,8.880542264752794,27.46451355661882,8.344100000000001,1.5828322169059017,1543,42,343,20,24,515,207,418,0.07400000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.113,0.9618,3,1,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,1,2,2,23,11,1,1,19,0,31,3,1,3,7,67,61,43,0,9,11,1,2,0,4,2,0,3,5,6,17,33,0,0,7,2,0,9,4,4,0,9,29,9,63,7,56,30,12,63,0,0,4,2,49,30,1,6,22,255,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895615193289337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824292306052708,0.0,0.0,0.11336939835338786,0.0,0.07016857698218046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763148195676468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234751397727665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095585886704346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477615884839527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644451656837572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471885363796875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128826945356303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845510391072906,0.0,0.09019006789486854,0.0,0.09460310340911816,0.0,0.05074107703550168,0.0,0.09635382932932676,0.0,0.0,0.08535951233966023,0.0,0.11003098475609167,0.0,0.09277397259201108,0.0,0.09626695445243416,0.0570324560409198,0.08417064671346043,0.1605216100614368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013228358542499,0.0,0.0,0.1157929412242111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103018664745895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903293629803018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057924699480186,0.3544512509878109,0.0,0.0842705561631994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057175971433763,0.0,0.06698585884545162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010015200029154,0.21331696997317756,0.07377039836191568,0.0,0.07739778709386351,0.0,0.0,0.09417372211085406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687179567847127,0.20400370122740275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391431310417125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209424347863393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088165752678648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422274978690745,0.06428817564266193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545790281136822,0.15960816143989753,0.0,0.0,0.0799676941604827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602471924550238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123360486303085,0.0,0.3208862121484904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148792361046257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065928034631004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859550652167633,0.0,0.11703232537330364,0.0,0.0,0.09589080769800801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960589946202483,0.0,0.12071131550725266,0.0866720624323135,0.0,0.0,0.1775709459347159,0.0,0.0804964649824843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305758162666455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462351321200838
parenting,isdrm88,2020/03/30,"How old were you when... How old were you when you realized that as a young kid, you would eat anything your parents made to make them proud but as you got older, you realized... they can’t cook for shit!? I hate to hurt my moms feelings but I’m 28 and I stoped eating her food 5 years ago. It’s not that she can’t cook, she’s just MAD lazy with it and puts no effort but continues to entertain it even though me and my older sister are more than happy and willing to cook because we take pride in it. It’s a lot of things I realized about a lot of the elders in my family but that’s just one and I hate the look on her face when I see her and she’s like “oh I’ve got this to eat” and I’m just like yeah cool I’m good",-0.7799516908212567,1.0873112981366475,1.4573395445134558,100.5452087646653,88.19254658385094,5.068461007591441,15.155624568668046,6.42735559955562,-0.7571907522429262,553,10,143,6,18,185,92,161,0.14400000000000002,0.6920000000000001,0.165,0.2047,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,7,2,3,11,13,4,0,5,2,7,9,2,4,0,28,20,19,0,1,8,3,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,9,7,0,4,4,0,1,4,5,0,1,5,4,25,8,16,13,3,15,0,1,2,0,20,3,1,2,13,90,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566791264546166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594555168826213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329670561278446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698192665267058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108683137976462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442801345429147,0.0,0.07738572158541858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506637874328846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836949100775186,0.24481310508971255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629225560408361,0.0,0.302206640440665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384116418233818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954314884658698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285218639038936,0.0,0.0,0.2602320553921592,0.0,0.1448178195885667,0.10216079999932576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792480934163935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32119648610394397,0.0,0.10370935836024353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994181103204795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538556199148337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219595262394854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571016826885469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507312954841407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167836180925112,0.0,0.1503689882641122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872098419580034,0.0,0.0,0.09855796316260937
parenting,jawn317,2020/03/30,"Balancing the unfairness of hand-me-downs with budget considerations We have three kids: a 10-year-old boy, an 8-year-old boy, and a 5-year-old.

There are a lot of cases, particularly with our middle child, where it would be easier on our budget to give him his older brother's hand-me-downs, like clothes and outgrown bikes/scooters/etc.

But we also want the two younger children to have at least some of their own new things, even if it means we have to stretch our budget more.

How do you navigate those decisions?  Is there a certain percentage of the time that you go for new rather than available hand-me-downs?  Are there certain items you won't hand down and will always buy new?  What if money's tight?  How does that change things?",6.0624920634920665,6.9085329000000035,5.310952380952383,84.69182539682541,66.42857142857143,8.507936507936508,28.41269841269841,8.515128840125781,1.7897460317460319,586,18,116,8,9,176,95,140,0.02,0.89,0.09,0.7982,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,3,1,0,9,3,0,0,8,0,11,1,1,2,2,24,15,9,0,5,4,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,8,8,0,1,3,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,12,3,14,11,6,12,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,4,6,76,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667085731407835,0.14220476820881356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807924352230004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955813714902008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19060172824466348,0.11287964619818396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639454784931735,0.09712796409165986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349444483895545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452953957560359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616318282942027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4951767860876672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5380010217449185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270803694285492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965476051273317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669471412528642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080286242681803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140440117501748,0.0,0.0,0.3301672787629589
parenting,velvetpants0124,2020/03/30,"Looking for a Time Tracking app Hi all other parents. 
Backstory here is that I am a bit of a data lover. 
I like being able to look back and see trends etc in my boys lives and see if things are getting too far off track etc....

My intention now that they are getting older is to be able to keep up the amount of true play time they have vs lowering screen time and other activities. 

Does anyone have experience with anything like that?
Looking for something along the lines of when they have their 1 hour of Nintendo Switch a week, I can just start and stop an app that records time and then be able to add notes etc. 

I’m currently trying out Toggl, but not sure if that would fit the need long term.",4.851349206349209,5.396571214285718,4.9738095238095275,87.10896825396826,69.0,8.222222222222221,26.984126984126984,8.167268648758528,1.4428888888888882,550,16,117,7,9,172,95,140,0.04,0.87,0.091,0.7357,3,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,4,0,6,6,0,0,8,0,13,1,0,1,3,23,24,10,0,4,6,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,9,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,9,6,16,20,7,22,0,0,6,1,8,6,0,2,18,74,17,0,0.41976936160071393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783749925167266,0.0,0.11514480597660202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075922427515327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275980785216822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244766570419804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4681537992043226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368716610236127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620811072992967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779608835931134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243700986092786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671873780576851,0.0,0.12355467894154795,0.1238275585483892,0.352500542129372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375122091622058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536806656761992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300122231554176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771965421190972,0.0,0.0,0.09903830489401083,0.0,0.0,0.11698199410865845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187588518077814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295870386533152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263611872602151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499861404743908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223788725950837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939737023659692,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Juggernaut84,2020/03/30,"13 month old sleep regression, need help! Hoping someone could provide some advice on sleep issues our 13 month old is experiencing, as we are running on fumes after a ton of lost sleep over the last week.

Our son had previously been sleeping quite well. We used to be able to put him down when he was nearly asleep, and we would sleep for 10-11 hours generally uninterrupted (with the occasional wake-up once or twice a week). Two weeks ago he got a cold (croup) and an ear infection, and he needed to sleep in our bed a couple of nights.

Following this, he seems to have had a huge sleep regression. It now takes up to an hour to put him down for a nap, and he will only go down if he is fully sleep when he gets put in the crib. He cant handle being separated, as when you leave the room he starts screaming. The only way he can go down for a nap is if my wife fully rocks him to sleep and puts him the crib. I used to be able to just lay him down and we would fall asleep on his own.

At night, he wakes up a starts furiously crying, screaming and running back and forth in the crib when he is alone after waking up. We tried the Ferber method on a few occasions at night, where we will gradual check-in on him at increasing intervals. Not once has he gone down on his own through this method. The last time we tried he cried for over 2 hours straight, and never once calmed down. My wife and I are hesitant to let him cry and scream full blast for hours on end. As a result, we now put him down in his crib and when he wakes up we bring him to our bed where he sleeps fairly well.

Any advice someone could provide would be really appreciated. We are hesitant to pay for a sleep consultant at this stage due to a lack of funds... but dont know where else to turn!",5.9940175438596475,5.046410588888894,6.254473684210527,83.96842105263158,66.72222222222223,9.801169590643276,27.280701754385966,8.99025400887824,1.6329999999999996,1372,30,310,20,19,441,173,360,0.075,0.89,0.035,-0.7956,0,1,2,0,0,0,40.0,14,1,0,2,14,10,2,0,23,0,28,18,17,3,1,46,47,24,0,11,6,3,0,0,0,5,1,4,3,0,4,23,0,0,2,3,2,14,4,6,2,2,7,6,31,4,60,28,8,86,0,1,0,0,48,37,0,6,33,187,35,2,0.12386044347877878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103499186056026,0.054897404916210216,0.0,0.0,0.06414103254435789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04211467446057815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047620517793140166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988924855017905,0.06852461242299109,0.2040823216846184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258175864634021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05173475355077562,0.0,0.05485179459742229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03235598478319126,0.0,0.07039274439403008,0.0,0.049531255758412586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04151052219886548,0.0,0.0,0.06151068389894111,0.2439551740804743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463906151918165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034035230252750084,0.10096279286837924,0.0,0.06557516280391082,0.0,0.06332784762942166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760415275265687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886422428720193,0.0,0.0,0.09184094940953384,0.047764404882483694,0.0,0.0,0.17435195350242685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997069986174034,0.19786099490598866,0.0,0.0942014486309544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311284890450539,0.0,0.06587041396151437,0.0,0.0,0.03967408586021176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563789479350779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6817244170536795,0.0,0.10494655181723793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766905940048357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656381943682928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03611201032588856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409311070904847,0.06736229754160633,0.06049682782620998,0.0,0.0,0.1069756549239934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049157327402183135,0.14903006491784668,0.0,0.11136541372869084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198035797638702,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CJDoober,2020/03/30,My 8 year old boy will not stop hiding his soiled clothing. This happens on a pretty consistent basis. We tell him every single time to take them to the dirty clothes. I am honestly starting to think he has an actual problem. He does good for a couple days then right back at it. I’m tired of having to explain to him that this is not the way to do things. He is super bright and a lot smarter than your normal 2nd grader. Very adult like. This is driving me crazy cause he absolutely knows better. If anyone has any advice help me out. Thank you everyone.,2.281545454545455,4.599512427272729,3.328181818181818,89.01227272727274,79.27272727272728,5.8181818181818175,20.909090909090907,6.980632752743323,0.5349090909090903,437,12,86,5,11,140,90,110,0.08199999999999999,0.6629999999999999,0.255,0.968,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,1,2,1,8,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,1,0,14,17,3,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,11,7,12,16,2,14,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,2,9,52,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.19567708512321397,0.0,0.0,0.19594431168821586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635942420119682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402071647168623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418631319384296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17734227683689802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598768671762308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22186985446974694,0.0,0.12931781379305402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547504960671076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894544505453332,0.191603974998123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818536495440056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731780588316326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440329238747226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019969783132083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796318762249627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17047361824594726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196465509971571,0.0,0.0,0.21041038572864929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20399935452143264,0.0,0.1918690790396792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124166336137986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192799319036156,0.0,0.0,0.16764240544117626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507649219266308,0.0,0.1752619662468372,0.18461045114107244,0.0,0.0,0.133215550319677,0.12848412818736374,0.0,0.0,0.11692392254854528,0.2304664644203268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654487238259815,0.0,0.1591622147312542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291273095619336
parenting,Jadeyeux,2020/03/30,"Two-year-old with the mouth of a sailor...HOW DO I BREAK HIS SWEARING HABIT?? First-time mom here in need of all the advice, tips, tricks, and strategies. I’m at a complete loss here. My precocious toddler is an expert in mimicry. When I water our plants, he likes to pretend to do the same. When I say “cmon dude”, he’ll reply with the same. Unfortunately, after hearing my spouse playing video games and talking to coworkers, he’s picked up on some not-so-cute phrases. 
AND HE WILL NOT STOP. Every time we FaceTime with family, it’s “fuck you” or some variation. When we went for an oil change, anytime anyone greets him with a smile his response includes the f word. At the grocery store- a big, loud f you to all. I’ve noticed he tends to swear more when he’s embarrassed, feeling angry, and nervous around strangers.
I’ve tried sternly telling him “no” and explaining why it’s wrong. I’ve tried time outs. I’ve tried offering replacement words when he says them. Any of you have any experience with a toddler Ari Gold? What worked for you?",2.9806677140612763,5.2728283184079645,3.271112856768788,90.45259230164964,76.76119402985073,6.221628698612203,26.001832940560355,7.273561745256523,1.1887751243781102,816,31,164,10,19,251,130,201,0.14800000000000002,0.789,0.063,-0.9416,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,4,1,2,8,8,2,2,13,0,5,3,1,1,2,29,14,11,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,14,1,1,2,4,1,1,2,6,0,0,1,6,17,2,24,11,7,20,0,1,0,1,29,9,1,3,10,84,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428509571764633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24257315860971726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470899977877613,0.0,0.0,0.15877253718689935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188674483756334,0.0,0.18700037986932988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027061928310376,0.0,0.0,0.17446406617984586,0.16813592222506318,0.0,0.09018095046166072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15170750018468354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488505004728068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010174949015341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713457096299733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088856070804768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224695117161328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305678133365632,0.18715212450288216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836679184010512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911161455476452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335388584862882,0.15588892731725032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799886312067334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632712067103527,0.0,0.1742255733854547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533559490399138,0.160936403172936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984356135982894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500168778068286,0.0,0.1148538853354078
parenting,qigger,2020/03/30,"Diaper Recommendation Good morning all. We normally use CostCo/Kirkland brand diapers for our 6mo but stocks have been low or no so it's time to look for alternatives. The only thing I'm concerned about is that he's a bit of a chunker and if there is a brand that accommodates wider babies, that's probably our priority. Huggies are out.",3.2325223214285685,6.044326671875003,5.122589285714287,74.62062500000002,79.15625,8.657142857142857,27.892857142857146,9.23628265651192,3.0518107142857143,273,12,48,8,7,93,54,64,0.09,0.877,0.032,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,8,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,6,7,2,3,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,2,1,31,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41778079154437503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209687148721095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213497005118594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749391766005665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910407479723699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.412587191872058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542315379146121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22314023083035614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33050738684375736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaygaskid,2020/03/30,"11 year old ADHD son lies, manipulates, and gaslights us regularly. He is driving us crazy. We need help. There's a lot of backstory here, so it's probably going to be a long read.

My 11 year old son's dad died in a car accident when son was around 18 months old. Before that, everything was normal. My son today has no memories of his dad, except from pictures.

When son was around 2.5-3, he started having behaviour problems with respect to tantrums and defiance. I thought it was just normal terrible two toddler acting out, so I tried all the discipline methods everyone uses. Time outs. Taking toys away. Reward systems. Nothing worked. I thought it was just a phase that would pass, since some kids take longer to learn discipline than others, so I kept being consistent with the discipline, hoping for improvement.

When son is around 3.5-4, the situation becomes critical. His behaviour is showing no signs of improvement. He refuses to listen to any authority. His tantrums become very aggressive and violent. He is poorly adjusted and cannot handle social situations, like sharing. He breaks toys regularly. He was expelled from one preschool after only a month of attendance. We are trying every disciplinary measure we can think of, but nothing works. Preschool suggests getting him tested and engaging therapists. He gets tested and is diagnosed with ODD at the age of 4. Therapy commences.

The therapy doesn't help at all. I don't get any good answers, but instead am given unspecific homework that doesn't really help. I pay $120 every week to go to a venting session. Meanwhile, son's behaviour is just getting worse -- it's like I'm falling deeper and deeper into quicksand and can't get out.

When son is 5, I meet my now-husband. Son blatantly defies husband at every chance he gets and has absolutely zero respect for him. Son's behaviour continues to worsen, and he gets smarter about it. He now starts lying and manipulating us, a problem that still occurs to this day.

When son is 6, he is now school-aged. Gone are the days of when half the time at school is playtime. He now has to sit at a desk, work with other children, focus on a teacher, and cooperate. Son is incapable of doing these things. He throws school supplies at other children regularly and rolls around on the floor whenever the class is doing storytime, for example. The teacher cannot manage son, so he gets moved to a low enrolment classroom for special-needs children. Still, they cannot manage him, so he regularly gets set aside so he can calm down. Son learns to use this to his advantage. The school is clueless, since it isn't a very good district.

Son's behaviour at home, meanwhile, just gets worse. He refuses to listen to us. He is still aggressive. He doesn't care about any consequence he might get. If he has to put away his toys, for example, cue a screaming fit that lasts for up to five hours. Son regularly breaks toys during his tantrums. Son refuses to eat healthy meals and regularly sneaks off into the pantry to eat junk food he isn't allowed to eat, like potato chips. We put a lock on the pantry, and cue screaming and hitting for a month until he accepts the reality. This remains the status quo for the next two years.

Son is now 8. His behaviour is not improving. He is now big enough to cause serious damage. He refuses to do chores and cracks our countertop by throwing a sugar bowl at it. He now makes holes in the walls regularly. He refuses to do his homework. He can't keep any friends, and gets into many fights with other children on the playground. He steals from other children regularly. The other kids aren't very kind about it, and this just makes son angry and worsens his behaviour. He gets suspended from school regularly, and spends almost entire days in the principal's office.

We end up moving, so we get a different school district and a better therapist. Son (who is 10 at this point) gets retested and is diagnosed with ADHD. We learn tools from this therapist to help improve son's behaviour, and it's excellent. This is the first therapist we have that does more than sit and listen without giving any advice. Son doesn't react well to this therapist and rebels against the new therapy tools at first. However, he soon relents and does them. His behaviour, for once, seems to finally be improving!

That is, until we get a call from the day camp we sent him to that summer. We find out that he told a few other boys that they don't have to listen to the camp counselors and that they can do whatever they want. We talk with him about his behaviour, and we think he learned his lesson and will listen to the counselors. But then, he gets kicked out a few days later for hitting a counselor; his behaviour has become too unmanageable. Now that he's been kicked out of day camp, we decide that we will make him do chores all summer instead of day camp, hoping that will teach him a lesson.

Unfortunately, it didn't teach him any lesson, and by August, we're right back where we used to be. Son starts lying again and sneaking around to do things behind our backs. He sneaks out of bed after hours to play on his Nintendo. We have to start keeping the Nintendo in our bedroom so he doesn't sneak onto it at night. Although violence isn't so much of an issue anymore, we have to continuously monitor him because he starts snooping around in the house to take things that aren't his to take. He refuses to do his homework when school starts and won't eat healthy, balanced meals.

The next year (son is 11), we seem to start making gains with his behaviour again. We start breaking tasks down into small chunks (since that's what the therapists say helps for ADHD), and he seems to be cooperating now. Although it's still an impossibility for him to work without parental supervision or interact with other kids in a positive, safe manner, we are making gains again. He starts doing his homework, and will do a limited number of chores. But then, around January, we find out that he's started stealing money. The cash in husband's wallet went missing, and we find it in son's room. We ask him where he got the money from, and he lies about it. We see right through the lie and ask him to tell the truth. He refuses to talk and lies about it for days. Since then, his behaviour has just gotten worse. We're back to violence. We're back to screaming. We're back to lying. And now, with current events, he's been at home, and, as I'm expected to work from home, I can't manage him and get my work done at the same time.

I can't believe we're back here again. I swear every time we think he is improving, we find out he's just being smarter about hiding his behaviour and is getting better at manipulating and gaslighting us. I don't know what to do now. I have no idea how to help him. It feels like we have tried everything we can. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I'm having a harder time loving him as a son because he's a manipulative liar who is constantly gaslighting us. All I want for him is to be able to gain the skills that he is going to need to be a happy adult who has a job he loves and is able to have meaningful relationships. I'm open for suggestions about how to curb his lying, how to help decrease his violence, and how to help him work independently. These are things we've been working on for years, and I've tried everything I can think of to help him. I seriously have no idea what to do now.",4.786845234172123,6.423118593794078,5.406055784769915,79.9077148939536,70.04372355430182,8.742401434164218,29.472364657342844,9.229143925075498,2.5865029250095564,5898,230,1094,122,107,1902,485,1418,0.14,0.7559999999999999,0.10400000000000001,-0.995,6,0,1,0,1,0,191.0,38,0,5,23,77,52,9,1,66,0,113,12,0,20,6,215,205,83,1,13,18,31,1,4,1,7,2,9,13,10,63,107,8,16,30,9,6,18,29,23,1,8,21,12,102,29,188,167,12,192,0,3,1,2,221,69,0,11,102,678,165,39,0.06878601451385583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400113344578875,0.03360844864176246,0.0,0.0,0.03443962870820814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403305459271009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0341086215221366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431947739749066,0.06430563814104304,0.0,0.06462672493290192,0.15867659776161652,0.0,0.041931315998942384,0.1139531231817896,0.029265916010965787,0.038749141601897234,0.0,0.06083564000132755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03511910577806026,0.0,0.035065963072214094,0.035331092442736314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03716662250506636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17744515534574662,0.0,0.0,0.06981635679733313,0.035694511577122695,0.035933372405043344,0.0,0.0,0.060195104841847084,0.03519598742090742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077053059004707,0.0,0.0,0.030461996044247725,0.03553717032676166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591036788880585,0.03286399231394085,0.0927306517458504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017390137863344427,0.02457037125639709,0.0,0.037675858333051065,0.12573834220388158,0.058509348806133975,0.04158816089429752,0.0,0.026571952091159232,0.0,0.3414096086816634,0.032992906485623565,0.0586390158338262,0.057694445443868314,0.027507229764371144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03661199576037104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747617011756428,0.0,0.10349697153931088,0.0683200330403254,0.06774036840867922,0.03968491268094857,0.0,0.07765103772368029,0.0,0.03589736399242131,0.03412975277442192,0.061140170226370576,0.0,0.03581502451954087,0.0189014973335632,0.028034891287926085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721074435134032,0.0,0.0,0.030436729137559605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02923970486426172,0.06208206368406517,0.0,0.11478799705038782,0.034869111162580735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036485545617731804,0.0,0.0,0.08235651079215263,0.07310864753282592,0.025282817643976472,0.051003958177598965,0.0,0.033216980725134376,0.07315470679580634,0.032275507464419886,0.06739568956983727,0.06600203609511507,0.0,0.1082690267687933,0.03662743026229927,0.02330559181531824,0.02615743182715657,0.0,0.0,0.038189364420820965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032512508660171816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03708147886280134,0.06581892613558459,0.0,0.06914894341111691,0.0,0.0,0.034402314493138485,0.0,0.022033041132071003,0.0,0.0,0.03692521857028649,0.0,0.058742880554434884,0.0,0.027350699804940683,0.0,0.24365291649325066,0.027406773906111032,0.0939303062870745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380100404184465,0.07731836233460511,0.0,0.035059339684904135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434354755629044,0.0,0.109865200090565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343704477857987,0.05528759289831699,0.030061004275713187,0.0,0.11799420353580264,0.2395975935965763,0.09139674313846888,0.08815060128589249,0.0,0.05460841205162049,0.10027419556376244,0.0,0.032600549410783886,0.03286399231394085,0.0,0.09340237724466002,0.0,0.06719394118121147,0.0,0.2482233181847597,0.08911354681398073,0.0,0.08513349874220996,0.04057177354445511,0.0,0.027587995867290296,0.0,0.03092344395810174,0.031882662295967215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630726335670489,0.0,0.20030815121426385,0.0,0.10514823801486513,0.024431805571736232,0.0,0.0,0.11073984527212492
parenting,TopTask4,2020/03/30,Have you ever had someone ask you if you bleach your kid's hair? Wife has dark hair and eyes and I have dark brown hair and blue eyes. Our 9yo has brown eyes and dark brown hair. Our 6yo has really blond hair and blue eyes. Initially people don't think they are related and assume they might be cousins. I've been asked more than once if we bleach our 6yo's hair because it's really blond and even more blond when he's sitting with a bunch of people with dark hair. Anyone get that before?,3.1419,4.704833990000001,3.091000000000001,95.16550000000002,74.1,6.6000000000000005,18.5,7.1686216300943375,-0.0777000000000001,389,6,87,4,8,117,58,100,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,4,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,11,11,11,0,1,16,15,10,0,2,2,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,10,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,19,11,0,4,11,3,3,0,0,12,0,16,0,0,4,2,44,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988254248425449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5077478320970773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554174261317076,0.0,0.231079355379553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936421347290224,0.2456434770629274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187999493836112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880844856814892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28920478590351617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765339504908277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479392847257834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300936958093042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740060358424419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Keibun1,2020/03/30,"Activities for a 1.9y/o that require little energy from me I work from home and have a 1 year 9 month old, and I need ideas for activities she can do that require little energy from me. I'm so tired always... like lethargic. As young as she is she rarely plays by herself for long and require my wife and I to always be doing something with her. By the end of the day I'm so tired I'm just following her around as she fiddles with stuff. By the end of the day I have no energy to do any work and tend to just watch a bit of tv and go to sleep. It's been like this for a while and I need a break! 

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So please help! Activities she can do independently or with little energy from me!!",3.161506849315072,3.7589722739726033,4.894410958904111,85.97627397260277,72.83561643835617,8.305753424657535,23.50410958904109,8.548686976883017,1.1589282191780823,536,13,123,9,10,183,76,146,0.091,0.778,0.131,0.5957,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,5,6,3,0,0,9,0,11,3,1,1,0,21,19,15,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,11,0,3,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,17,3,25,17,1,17,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,1,12,82,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513334579899585,0.16363790817733706,0.18351457883585345,0.10270367499095877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344462276881116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488258677455234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480009975323104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26753054402819904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583223822296702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123034869016848,0.0,0.15149259567540954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049132578504528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475685225513128,0.4541067922176009,0.0,0.13365431951311502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054847021233092,0.0,0.0,0.223969510386389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584776409638711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657825130598537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113627010768316,0.0,0.0,0.11626811713528795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289001113909744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471670989636351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198992007524493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351457883585345,0.09725656522381644
parenting,FreeMadoff,2020/03/30,"New parents in hard times Hi all,

My wife and I are expecting our first in early May. Given all that’s uncertain in the world today, we’re nervous (but still so excited) about bringing a new life into the world. We’ve had prenatal care cancelled, showers delayed, hospital tours & parenting classes cancelled, and it’s unlikely that our families will be able to meet our son until he’s at least a month old. 

We’re very fortunate in other respects and have no right to complain, but we’re seeing most of our “birth plan” fall to pieces & we feel very unprepared because of it. I’m doing alright with it, but I can tell it’s taking a toll on my spouse. 

Any wise words for excited, but unprepared, almost-new parents in this time would be appreciated.",7.089672413793102,6.856661579310348,7.429094827586208,74.08226293103449,64.24137931034483,10.836206896551724,36.05603448275862,10.411451182825502,3.757844827586208,599,26,109,13,8,196,100,145,0.083,0.7809999999999999,0.136,0.9169,4,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,2,3,9,0,2,5,1,10,1,0,0,2,20,17,9,0,2,4,6,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,8,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,2,3,9,6,17,10,5,26,0,0,1,0,16,11,0,3,13,65,17,1,0.1546926265270335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490232016321845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352187924242882,0.0,0.10519629067457696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429918932583056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771944246742473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458304409984896,0.0,0.07821723996543169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158146909912982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385742086398165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092639769205131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234741786401344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4482093079517347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623238894394406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5153035653605003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210665782793518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326999522017308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353773136910083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630960341342185,0.0,0.13520817393814108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18040502906612504,0.0,0.1466305222135715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552752352144796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988920353652376,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,badmomsince14,2020/03/30,"so my(f27) daughter (6) seems like a lot for me to handle. it's just so hard to get her to settle down for five minutes, it's been a constant struggle to deal with her since she was born, i am a single mother, i did not plan on having her but as much as i'm saying about how this is a struggle, i love her very much, but it's just hard sometimes, do you guys have any advice.",15.555,4.0570335243902464,14.070731707317073,67.20780487804882,61.3170731707317,16.400000000000002,48.3170731707317,3.1291,4.177639024390244,287,6,69,0,2,95,58,82,0.10300000000000001,0.804,0.09300000000000001,0.2999,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,2,4,0,8,1,0,1,0,9,12,7,0,0,5,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,3,10,2,12,9,4,4,0,0,0,1,12,2,0,2,3,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172879477717177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121265419103802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24029252929267314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292437435921567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161740984751286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22017169302896106,0.0,0.0,0.3983823717828744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108634028782312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904280679921792,0.20068888563010134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269208655421073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17682986483794524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024284994946733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18393876853844449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992005898872294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4649186075835894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347056544718904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LivingWithBacon,2020/03/30,"This is seriously panic inducing, school from home. I'm a (36) mom of 4 and this whole pandemic just keeps getting harder. We're starting tele school on 40 minutes. I'm a pretty good mom I think, however, I never saw myself homeschooling my children. I just don't have the personality for it. I have them in a great school and I value education. 

However, that's exactly what I'm doing now and for the foreseeable future, homeschooling. The school doesn't even quite know how this is going to work!

Maybe it would be easier if my kids were closer in age, but I've got a 7th grader with multiple teachers, a 5th grader who's also focusing on middle school prep, and a 3rd grader. 

This morning I feel so incredibly overwhelmed. Can I do this?

Do you guys have any recommendations for trying to navigate all of this craziness?",3.3933333333333344,5.828071815286624,5.1773503184713405,76.58585562632697,76.07006369426752,8.517876857749469,25.753290870488318,9.21078282632365,2.5368738004246283,653,24,116,17,15,222,105,157,0.052000000000000005,0.8590000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.5437,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,2,7,5,0,2,9,0,14,0,0,2,3,19,26,9,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,11,5,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,2,12,2,13,21,2,12,0,1,1,0,9,6,0,1,5,75,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146138011958986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974632365892467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466220950594226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246743507041825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748793393370313,0.0,0.08145266215299553,0.1202109066639464,0.11462694560451753,0.1580119764022704,0.0,0.14191038390759514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376271048851294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739034477158925,0.0,0.0,0.07876550729599849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439852700558429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33571179036718674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053803818342922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168156385561586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251424228542846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580904451781554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524395907695344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7252428295214771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101443385083081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183434923435403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973055929974437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001284700695373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433943980392588,0.0,0.0,0.10181117009168887,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TonyGiannelli,2020/03/30,"Kind of freaking out at the moment and could use some advice. This morning me and my girlfriend woke up and I'm sick so I went up to the bathroom to try and clear up my nose, pee, and to brush my teeth. My girlfriend had to change our kid on the bed because last night our cat peed on the cushion we use for our changing table. I hear my girlfriend scream my name so I run out of the bathroom to see what happened and my girlfriend said she turned around for a second to grab socks for our kid and she rolled off of the bed. She has a bruise on her forehead and shes only 7 months old and I'm very worried and stressed. I know to not let her sleep for a little while but besides that I'm not sure how to deal with this because I'm stuck with the thought that she might have some permanent damage or just serious damage at all. 

Any and all advice is much appreciated. Thanks in advance.",3.488607859531772,4.381921581521741,3.910434782608697,92.23623745819398,72.31521739130434,6.31371237458194,26.11036789297659,5.8734145424116955,0.6031535117056852,697,22,155,3,13,218,107,184,0.127,0.82,0.052000000000000005,-0.8852,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,1,5,9,0,1,10,0,8,6,5,3,4,36,25,17,0,1,5,0,1,0,4,1,1,3,2,2,5,17,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,0,1,6,7,24,3,30,16,5,23,0,2,1,0,22,14,0,4,6,102,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32054939707391955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153661679801956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14600916061580366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19996546411956184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34701471036460146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309535619222437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690934645593784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503895335517564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485813869129464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079759673376615,0.0901389950879662,0.13369506571348724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771764151466767,0.0,0.0,0.16438728628231086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399523218611135,0.0,0.0,0.1309161383839855,0.0,0.1205707534806568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391806042958187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210737505544452,0.0,0.0,0.12474168460691985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560169325802607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306996485465331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16413461587198913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787996326584844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458329479918198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100404879570167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021051451151675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135620997484276,0.1784024894829776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833146114222826,0.0,0.13533051358351147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520446284953504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665663774560965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AgilePinkNokia,2020/03/30,"My son, only child, doesn't want the inheritance due to resentment for me Dear all, I am using a throwaway account for this, and will try to keep it short.

I have a 23-year-old son, and he is my only child. Lately, whenever inheritance is mentioned, he raises hell and yells that he doesn't need anything. Furthermore, he is saying that, since he doesn't plan on ever being in a relationship or getting married, he needs nothing and will burn down everything that he is given.

The reason for that are my three failed marriages. He blames me for not having had a normal family, and having spent his life with his grandparents. I have managed to save a considerable amount of money, and have a small property to my name, all of which I have no one to pass on to but him. He has threatened to burn all his childhood possessions if I ever mention inheritance again.

I am at a loss here, please help me, I have a feeling he is possessed.",4.7419338203695744,6.128224731843577,5.535307262569834,79.90168886978945,69.83798882681565,8.412720240653202,28.853029651912337,8.841846274778883,2.2861539321014184,733,27,137,13,13,239,106,179,0.10400000000000001,0.828,0.068,-0.6441,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,3,4,6,2,0,10,0,23,1,0,2,5,27,32,9,0,5,4,2,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,7,7,0,1,3,0,6,1,5,4,0,2,3,3,18,2,19,26,4,14,1,2,0,0,25,7,1,2,6,97,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853728718950967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705161852179533,0.0,0.0,0.18406577132326812,0.0,0.1930721819488172,0.0,0.1035556985409962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700230087900388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727665579429438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820403347708016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102926596171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446600194582636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037210261897972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006656809422903,0.19651618079936314,0.0,0.21490867957270976,0.0,0.13878135178178855,0.31152727438800715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224814685284601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105739284785641,0.0,0.2198842144250601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286937148760566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941703626542648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904933498756425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688599638685848,0.0,0.0,0.12079945493989168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188787948195468
parenting,Blue_Berryhillo0o,2020/03/30,Question or advice(young daters).. My sister(20) that I am close to(I am 30) will sit on FaceTime and on call for endless hours of the day sometimes talking and sometimes(a lot of the time)not. She’ll drag the phone around while “hanging out” or spending time with me or my friends and I while this new important interest is somewhat present. Last time this happened after A DAY or so more like 15 hours total(took me a second to count but success) split into a only two separate calls I brought up the fact that this couldn’t be healthy.. IS THIS NORMAL???? The interaction isn’t negative or even seemingly stimulating(must be for her somehow) but do people do this to where it has any benefit because I grew up in a time where yes we would call and talk to boys we liked for a few hours every once in awhile but not to this extent.. eventually we knew when to hang up and go about our daily routines without someone listening and being there for every moment through a phone. There’s another turn to this too. She has a four year old while since I’ve been around and her daughter has been around my daughter(4 also) she hasn’t noticed this from my knowledge because they’ve been playing and distracted but when we’re not there and it’s mainly just her and her mother(my sister) is this situation effecting her negatively like I think it is? I feel like there’s some underlying issue within this but she says a lot of people her age do this but I have yet to see this from anyone in healthy “normal” relationships. I also want to show her your responses because this isn’t just something that happened but continues to throughout every new often fling.,6.836075478084275,7.461331389067527,6.425838551362329,78.14645456083943,64.69131832797427,9.248333051277713,34.37485192079878,9.134995656068208,2.9908675241157563,1326,56,239,21,19,412,171,311,0.031,0.857,0.11199999999999999,0.9736,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,4,1,0,2,22,10,0,1,13,1,26,0,0,1,1,56,38,30,0,5,17,2,1,4,1,3,0,2,0,1,19,20,0,0,7,2,1,5,9,1,0,3,5,4,30,9,38,26,8,48,0,0,1,0,32,18,0,13,28,182,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737633331707905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116524800377551,0.10973412441290252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317336302520214,0.0,0.0,0.27948072366754595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913800900743033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32057651743168203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498053902471635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691200072132532,0.0,0.2645151495801469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291393113403759,0.07476162310013439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085194344618855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059474722013543466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508241296973565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30917602986861925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922688831537307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530330918689226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20450583693016647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793852374550148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021422767757621,0.0,0.0,0.2050685799418676,0.0,0.1191441483903668,0.10981204541356496,0.11144830120072076,0.0,0.07959065978786099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510157221464168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723138920694183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235439810145728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322148204453847,0.0,0.0,0.0833921018033378,0.09526897366255188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656714711197283,0.1176304216826677,0.0,0.0,0.08866918102626938,0.08056429715483103,0.1035010305365368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822660672257775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705517349142907,0.0,0.0,0.24408785808494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626944410607044,0.0,0.1138286042111014,0.10222735449905784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06172498597156598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087838275102716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434000165277714,0.0,0.0,0.0673908463816661
parenting,glam-and-coffee,2020/03/30,"Baby staying with grandparents I am a stay at home first time mom to a 4 month old breastfed baby girl. My in laws keep pestering us to watch her and want her to stay the night. They have 6 other grandkids kids (3 from each daughter) who started going over there at a few weeks old and stayed the night at a month or so old. None of them were breast fed. I don’t feel ready yet to be without her, especially overnight! I feel like as long as I’m breastfeeding she should be home. 

 When did you start letting your baby be watched by others? How would you put a stop to the pestering in a nice way?",3.299826958105648,4.427435303278688,3.817978142076505,91.83348816029144,73.01639344262296,7.0615664845173045,25.030965391621127,7.3871296695380915,0.8853413479052823,465,14,104,5,9,146,88,122,0.019,0.895,0.086,0.7793,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,3,2,1,5,2,0,0,9,0,11,2,1,1,0,15,20,8,0,3,2,3,2,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,3,4,1,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,4,14,2,18,11,3,29,0,0,2,1,16,6,0,1,17,67,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819571660902769,0.097627749987102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624032900329485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766529203778316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741561196185657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146697318370585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974098673386542,0.0,0.0667636813207626,0.0,0.0,0.12093709743572426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005096426695326,0.2181565420542297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564865740580005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301954319871584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737797627813922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345298040670694,0.5826324893444217,0.0,0.11425132648654793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796857645535819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16438148068547678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060380778943507,0.10847192338792402,0.10961795957705704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173241994933038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707717401583582,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puddleprincess,2020/03/30,"If you didn’t have kids, how would you be spending lockdown?! I’ve always wanted to learn sign language and was thinking lockdown would be a great time to do it...if I didn’t have kids! Just wondering what others would be doing if they didn’t have kids to look after!",3.723888888888887,4.982518981481481,4.097222222222225,89.73250000000004,72.14814814814815,6.140740740740743,24.61111111111111,5.985473137389443,0.5777555555555551,211,6,43,1,4,66,35,54,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.7163,0,2,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,15,0,0,1,0,13,19,4,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,4,1,4,9,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,3,2,31,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709736984585228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590392994388383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27347085690109496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086686159129032,0.0,0.0,0.18989390697139805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920816354546656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531624107732155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6940146946527872,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justyouandme2014,2020/03/30,"Life hack: Getting an infant to stay asleep. My 1 month old falls asleep in my arms and wakes up when I put her to bed. Last night I thought I’d try making the transition a little easier by warming her mattress first. OMG! What a difference! She stayed asleep and slept for 5 hours! 
I just put a heating pad on medium heat for 15 minutes and moved it right before putting her down. She’s a stomach sleeper so having her face touch the cool sheets would wake her up. This fixed that problem. I’m now trying to fall back to sleep because she went right back down after her early morning feeding. 

I know this isn’t a cure all, but I hope it helps some of you who are having a hard time getting those little ones to sleep and stay asleep. 

One last thing...I don’t want to have to say it but please don’t put the baby ON the heating pad.",2.635739348370929,4.195926596491233,3.11275271512114,94.50065789473686,75.43274853801171,5.587468671679199,22.155806182121967,5.773587663045528,0.061556056808688364,652,17,143,3,14,202,113,171,0.021,0.8740000000000001,0.105,0.9126,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,0,11,1,8,14,12,1,1,16,18,8,0,4,3,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,9,4,1,0,2,0,0,8,3,1,0,3,3,5,17,3,19,14,2,36,0,0,0,0,14,11,0,2,14,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920537769470832,0.0,0.07612717681964212,0.0,0.10626575912913312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304755708060191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062249403829592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304918420133051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118701375821438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370606768671332,0.0,0.0,0.12403644177816472,0.12298404857613562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863212352812649,0.2035917142451932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882081611783987,0.0,0.2503300270337108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335999898927894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996799728311429,0.13273027104412155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171937109605406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310431141747198,0.0,0.16924714779339484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708341855004685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194956301426121,0.0,0.5021653832264457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132978442639566,0.0,0.0993115293707542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24994525889210506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3993241973964477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296634460288732,0.0,0.0,0.09914270852358756,0.0728199555322562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957395966438296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365889920037605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576727380305694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871290292103373,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vmcculloch,2020/03/30,"6 week old teething? My 6 week old is showing all the signs of teething. Chewing on everything, drooling up a storm, and being extremely fussy. I put my finger in her mouth and felt a bump. It seems to be a tooth. Is she really teething at 6 weeks!? If so what can I do for her? Every tip I find online is for much older babies and the rings in the store are too big for her mouth. Please help my husband and I are exhausted.",0.4184090909090941,2.619180386363638,2.055636363636367,95.99845454545458,86.04545454545455,5.3381818181818215,20.163636363636364,6.742157984588678,0.1999963636363633,326,10,74,4,10,106,61,88,0.03,0.9,0.07,0.5158,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,9,10,8,0,1,10,11,6,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,11,0,10,8,2,13,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,6,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906285870117255,0.0,0.2123391141157164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22685077458080335,0.0,0.21594128552384864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836297683470374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736814418899435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4958392677593818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593472472929095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23751087331182405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151356957397912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508614088337652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5685508990996113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rontuaru234,2020/03/30,"10 yr old pees when laughing I'm an older sibling, but I joined the subreddit to try to help my brother. 

When my brother laughs, he will often pee his pants. It could be a lot of laughter, or it could be just a small giggle. It's gotten to a point where if he starts to laugh at all we have to tell him to go to the bathroom. He often refuses, but if he doesn't go it'll be too late. 

When it happens, he stops laughing for the most part. Sometimes he'll do it a little bit, but not a lot. I'll ask him if he needs to go to the bathroom and he insists that he's fine and doesn't need to. I often don't find out until I become strict-ish and tell him he must go. Then he stands up, but doesn't move. 

 It's not a new occurrence, it has always happened, but today he did it on the couch which is harder to clean so I decided to finally post here. 

Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do?",1.6636923076923082,2.6384187538461603,3.5794871794871814,92.55384615384615,76.84615384615384,6.430769230769231,22.23076923076923,6.742157984588678,0.34106153846153875,687,18,164,6,15,233,111,195,0.01,0.823,0.168,0.9865,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,0,11,6,0,0,12,0,20,2,2,0,2,33,33,18,0,8,12,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,2,2,0,0,5,6,0,0,0,3,1,12,6,19,21,6,28,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,10,13,106,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321383532726517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104004055985166,0.16271433118110126,0.0,0.0,0.14846109371774238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753874754912919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337376148777542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535854945609047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266107124916407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396294622289096,0.14514475204258692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610098140436822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28086120130895664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644354065800203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913878308219788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916417499272315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27002040191941873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878441901381022,0.0,0.2355035618610071,0.0,0.15337470962152336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663897178653475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171970172551039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012190951623414,0.0,0.15209114453497172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706205309717955,0.0,0.11240288720096148,0.0,0.0,0.13276796187506484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776048696220105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052842522793367,0.0,0.0,0.10781806605484127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hnunezjr,2020/03/30,"Pillow talk 

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Thursday, March 26, 2020

Pillow Talk

     There is a pillow in my home that reads, “Enjoy Every Moment.”   Surely whoever created that pillow didn’t know the future.  How could they know that parks, streets, beaches and malls are empty or closed?  How could they know that 6ft apart is the rule of norm and that toilet paper can cost exactly the same as a leather bag?  How can they know that although schools are empty, kids are not crowding neighborhoods with baseball or bicycles? How could they know that even the city that never sleeps is taking a long quiet forced nap? Lastly, as more and more homes turn into makeshift hospital rooms, how could they write such an egregious thing like, “Enjoy Every Moment.”?

     Then I noticed that the O in moment is adorned with a heart.  It didn’t need it.  The pillow would say “Moment” just as plainly and obviously without it.  Yet there it is, right there staring me in the face.  Almost invisible like an object coming closer from a distance.  As if to say, “Don’t forget to Love in the moment your in.”   So while not every action we are taking right now screams or even whispers that it is out of love, make it as though it is.  So if you are disinfecting your house, do it out of love.  If you are standing in line at a Costco or Walmart treat those in line with you with love.  Amazon guy shows up at your house with a mask and gloves, say thank you out of love, take the package out of love, then go wash your hands out of love.  Your kids want and NEED to go outside but you know you cannot  let them, be patient, catch your breath and say, “No” out of love.  Notice someone in uniform, first responder, truck driver, sanitation worker or hell even the corner bodega owner, thank them and never again take them for granted out of love.  And if someone you love, texts you to say they feel feverish, have body aches and a banging headache, don’t punch the walls or get angry.  Turn off CNN or FOX and quietly whisper a prayer, out of Love.  

     Maybe some wise guys were right and all you need is Love.  Stay safe and see you next week.





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parenting,BackgroundVoice3,2020/03/30,"My (almost) 5 year old is shitting in boxes, I need some fucking help. Throwaway for obvious reasons. 

My 4.5 year old has shit in her room, twice in the past 4 days. I feel like I am about to lose my mind. Why is this happening? 

I'm also 99% sure I just picked up a bowl of piss, but it had no smell, but what other yellow liquid could have magically appeared in her room? 

The first time her dad and I were confused. He walked into her room and said it smelled like poop (unfortunately I have a cold, couldn't smell the first time.) So we asked her, she would neither confirm or deny. We assumed it was a pull up (she wets her bed sometimes, so she wears one at night) so we told her we would go outside and she could throw it away. She asked how she was supposed to and then showed dad it was in a stuffie bin, WITH TOYS!! We threw the whole thing away and had a long talk about why it's not okay, she's always allowed to go to the restroom at night. Why she did this. She said she didn't want to get in trouble for leaving her room at bed time. We tried to drive it in hard that she CAN ALWAYS leave the room if she needs to go potty and should go potty in the toilet even at night. 

A night passed and all was fine. We put her to bed at 730. At 800 she came into the hall, was shuffling around, so I asked her what she was doing. She said she was grabbing a toy from the living room, I said okay, go to bed tho, gave her big hugs, thought that was the end. It's now 9pm, I heard noise, so I opened her door and immediately smelled it. I asked where and she pointed to her closet. She just shit in a box. I lost it inside my head, my outward composure probably changed to mad mom, but there's only so much shit I can take. I asked her why, she said she was scared, I reminded her that she went into the living room not long ago, and this had been here for a while. 

At that point she just refused to answer me. I tried for about 10 minutes to get her to tell me what's going on. She's giving me 100 different reasons. I cleaned her up and put her back to bed. We let her know that if this happens again we can't let her have toys in her room and she will be grounded.

This isn't normal right? WTF do I do?

Tldr; my 4.5 is pooping in her room in containers, possibly peeing in bowls and play kitchen stuff. I am lost and need help.",1.8176829268292711,3.1380632479674797,2.9256991869918707,95.99440243902441,77.08943089430895,5.814308943089433,21.243089430894308,6.124889420169582,-0.07053349593495861,1786,44,428,11,40,572,225,492,0.106,0.8290000000000001,0.065,-0.9572,3,0,0,0,0,0,67.0,9,0,0,5,23,21,7,2,20,2,42,13,10,5,3,72,82,31,0,13,11,3,4,2,0,4,0,6,18,0,26,30,1,2,7,5,0,17,8,13,0,4,30,16,83,8,55,42,5,89,0,3,1,2,78,48,6,8,26,279,109,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062251319652100866,0.0,0.07032142966650755,0.0,0.0,0.05615989433629829,0.11686770557635345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251623750759584,0.3282602469388325,0.0,0.13195971798797726,0.05399963950325053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032010375518232,0.0,0.0,0.07429004440641547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213986773252553,0.0,0.0,0.04529011156388588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337146813256543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219959949267555,0.0,0.0,0.04638376555025632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03550849421197698,0.05016963593962635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946879833588595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492302216014571,0.0733806180627745,0.06736740319065859,0.2394671244924799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420165443816487,0.0,0.0629089122499192,0.0,0.07207237683879314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414232932399214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038594501891858535,0.0,0.0,0.14871888487899815,0.0,0.14362216544391124,0.0,0.06861798179911775,0.0,0.12402210328845299,0.12429601523638492,0.0,0.07856519320058676,0.15332046129460733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090847756898355,0.08224811705811129,0.0,0.0,0.051624362672013584,0.1562155890858091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636102551905974,0.06880679934249022,0.0,0.0,0.147381239511221,0.0,0.047587113948375226,0.053410215832305374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670388870688753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277298140459226,0.07916952768307882,0.0,0.0,0.07571575843264201,0.0,0.0,0.14119352452366107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444085304028778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997282053061472,0.33400615315017584,0.0,0.07030871177348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883448820351496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945554157430897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039223699259239,0.0,0.0,0.06618739489778537,0.0,0.05280138856124407,0.05644518714719594,0.06138082427628859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046655189714834865,0.0,0.0,0.055751785825328255,0.1228484461974844,0.0,0.0,0.06710417651844881,0.0,0.095358006872611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04142125259137722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510042292333182,0.25347301448068393,0.07840508286607943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977340416153556,0.0,0.0,0.09044678508659604
parenting,throwaway2358963,2020/03/30,"I can’t be a mom.. and I feel horrible about it. I have a two year old daughter. I love her, but I feel I cannot parent her. I have fibromyalgia and a lot of depression that comes with that. I am in constant pain. All my daughter does is scream and destroy the house. All. Day. Long. I know that toddlers do not have the speech ability to communicate solely with words but I’m saying she cries an abnormal amount. A concerning amount. And not just cries, screams at the top of her lungs. Of course I’ve brought her to multiple doctors. They say she is not in physical pain. I asked about anything neurological and they say “All toddlers act this way”. My mom has told me multiple times that NONE of my three siblings or myself behaved anything like her. She literally gets up at 5am and runs around the house literally bouncing off the walls until bed time. She causes absolute mayhem, which again can be normal for toddlers but again, an abnormal amount. She is violent and destructive. I usually end up just laying in bed completely ignorant to the huge mess she’s making because I physically cannot follow her around every waking moment to clean up after everything she does, my body won’t allow it. I just tune out her screaming. There is absolutely nothing I can do to console her. I’ve become so depressed. I cannot take it. I cannot be an adequate parent because I cannot cope with her as a child. I feel so guilty because I love her and I want wants best for her but I also feel so helpless. I want to be the beta I can be for her but I just feel stuck.",1.8474186179326109,4.329841174757284,3.4204311821816087,86.72694603083954,82.23624595469255,6.742090234151914,24.298591281172662,7.928766900206844,1.5381128117266318,1229,47,244,24,34,405,155,309,0.209,0.685,0.106,-0.9918,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,2,2,15,17,3,0,15,0,26,9,3,3,3,47,47,20,0,4,13,6,5,1,0,1,4,7,3,1,9,15,0,1,6,0,0,5,11,13,0,2,3,12,51,4,33,38,9,35,0,3,0,2,35,15,0,2,15,170,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750393770399499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18008832673191832,0.19481578507234054,0.10229386838524784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20010608606082994,0.12084690261299742,0.0,0.0,0.1148305934019652,0.0,0.0,0.12154206871375955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240551294483027,0.0,0.09425650651215778,0.1147258413153184,0.11824523325679827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403876706872748,0.0705674956787049,0.0,0.1884883015459517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119970345914371,0.19151011669062412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691453204360267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219191551522364,0.0,0.09834054326789513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27663273784680553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716795862537327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25251429591670704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013492242415264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345757569243703,0.0,0.0,0.096834145635755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302582502790677,0.19751345714518492,0.0,0.07303937012007783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25630511582612225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720935205508453,0.1049924048442476,0.0,0.1148189375473236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328633269200515,0.0,0.2429981526168157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610479236630412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227097771373904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760853523839694,0.0,0.0,0.10455645885987733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688842182704206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051177748837676,0.0,0.19361803022666907,0.08685330018209884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046353933957379
parenting,riiight_meow,2020/03/30,"Toddler thinks bedtime is a game Ugggggghhhhhhhhhh.  Here I sit in my toddler’s (2M) room, since 8:30p, watching him flail about in his covers. I am at my wit’s end about what to do with this child, and my husband is no help. To start, we’re located in the US, but this isn’t a quarantine issue. He’s been in a toddler bed, in his own  room for over six months with no issues whatsoever when the sleep troubles started. 

 About two months ago, our typically very good, super sound sleeper, woke up in the middle of the night and decided to climb into our bed. Being the first time he’s ever, ever done this, I made sure he was otherwise alright and allowed him to finish the night with us. From that night, he has repeatedly left his bed in the middle of the night to climb into bed with us. At the beginning, I would always take him back to bed. He soon figured out that my husband didn’t do the same. So, he now goes to my husband’s side of the bed to climb in.

After two-three weeks of this began the bedtime routine problems. Now that my son knows he can leave his bed at night, he decided to leave his bed as soon as we leave his room. He will leave his bed with his blanket to lay at the foot of the door. He’ll whisper things through the crack to get our attention, progressively getting louder, then he’ll rattle the door, and finally he’ll open the door and leave his room. 

We’ve tried ignoring his behavior, which prompts him to be bolder in how he avoids going to sleep. We’ve tried being immediately corrective of his behavior, either sitting in the room, or standing just outside the door (usually generating giggles and thrashing in bed, which has lead me to where I am right now). Eventually, somewhere between 9:30 and 10:30 at night, he falls asleep somewhere: in bed, on the floor, in the rocking chair. 

I am like, this close, to strapping him to the bed. I cannot continue to devote 2hrs of my night to watching and fighting with him about falling asleep. I am out of ideas about how to get him to stop dicking around at night.",6.476065128900952,6.0116366517412985,6.6826322930800535,79.69713704206244,65.56716417910448,9.49814563545907,32.70058796924469,8.841846274778883,2.474926368159205,1602,58,324,22,22,516,191,402,0.084,0.8540000000000001,0.062,-0.4491,1,2,0,0,2,0,58.0,7,0,0,7,21,12,1,1,25,1,22,6,6,5,4,48,38,17,0,2,4,4,0,1,0,5,0,2,21,1,12,22,0,3,7,2,0,7,5,5,0,3,7,4,41,7,73,23,3,87,0,0,2,1,47,41,1,1,37,207,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427886939334102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972383145706076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459497190969322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443288579849536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575098294444944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421715640495098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159405130881973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917929037392428,0.0,0.07127565582355642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133768188888956,0.0,0.04762241015821731,0.07028294657685538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616576341932791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945939196396388,0.0,0.17491961288952246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605132841115065,0.0,0.0,0.4436319859557234,0.09104309324175183,0.0,0.0,0.04093781574893336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792884897931494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337681228231361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6290845503509538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018012884505367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156014247150944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931577057315765,0.0,0.16771025884596594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862051809160673,0.0,0.0,0.07005604934075113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897543198398957,0.0,0.06300312132572339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05566941813791432,0.05369220514409597,0.0,0.0,0.04886131325554891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137820849049414,0.0,0.16371032400067415,0.0,0.30238380968723505,0.0,0.09228792885745457,0.06913933219470714,0.0,0.0,0.06721498490143965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952528956864948,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,womprat_bulls_eye,2020/03/30,Any interest in collecting parenting ideas during the quarantine in it’s own sub? r/Quarenting,5.825624999999999,9.532550312500003,7.442500000000003,55.95250000000002,77.125,15.7,39.25,12.161744961471696,8.51885,79,5,10,5,2,27,15,16,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.4588,2,1,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946118467760342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6550680580150013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6443347963228919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hailsagan13,2020/03/30,"Has anyone else dealt with the other parent wanting to terminate their rights? My ex (A) and father of my 2.5 year old son (B) has not spoken to our son in about 6 months. He had me blocked on everything, hasn’t paid child support, and is basically off doing his own thing (by that I mean drinking/drugging). I finally was able to contact A recently and asked him if he planned to be in B’s life at all. He decided he would rather terminate his parental rights and has been texting me daily asking if I’ve sent the paperwork yet and telling me he wants to get this over with. 
Now, my current partner treats B as his own and is willing to adopt him. B calls him daddy, and the way I see it he’s absolutely earned that. I’m not asking for legal advice, but emotional advice. I was with A for 5 years and thought I knew him better than this. It hurts and infuriates me that he would be so eager to give up on B. 

So I guess what I’m asking is, can anyone that’s been through this tell me how you dealt with it? It’s some heavy stuff. How did you explain it to your child? B is obviously too young now but he’ll have questions when he’s older. I’m just at a loss at this point. 

Worth noting that I absolutely don’t plan on keeping B from his sister (who A also doesn’t see) or any of his extended bio family who has shown an interest in knowing him.",4.450972689075631,4.431267210714289,5.6256722689075636,84.06521008403362,69.75,8.873949579831931,28.61344537815126,8.671277953709913,1.8734537815126044,1049,34,230,16,17,351,161,280,0.054000000000000006,0.872,0.07400000000000001,0.667,3,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,1,3,1,5,13,7,0,0,9,0,25,1,0,2,2,41,49,21,0,7,9,7,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,20,13,0,2,7,0,2,1,5,2,0,0,10,2,30,5,34,33,4,30,0,2,2,0,48,15,0,6,13,150,50,2,0.12408674181153667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425122559445055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923212259538083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438323954753214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352867007016076,0.1271415308786425,0.0,0.0,0.4640174124597015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974463933019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670643711902796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143901225568171,0.0,0.10365855032060264,0.13958088291913534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152116238090844,0.0,0.11697793674270432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593096034251614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483020110512927,0.11903530965205372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366955357683781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283742353228756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029399756348483,0.0,0.0,0.06819482815097122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764613542241476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516683910764055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904485345739722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020816189449275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27556728421173704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730207939136908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900554941387305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225206876028186,0.0,0.0,0.21193879901722773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977621353183485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204963188133496,0.0,0.14081216411331324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21691456337564316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243771752435254,0.0,0.0,0.09851101237479733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637915059413226,0.09849427988758913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629532232073236,0.0,0.0,0.1598155867659838
parenting,uncannykosmonaut,2020/03/30,"artistic mom ISO more “sciency” activities for my 3yo hi everyone— wasn’t sure what flair to put here. 

i have a 3yo daughter and a 6m son. my daughter is off-the-charts emotionally intelligent, loves books but can’t read yet, and has never been interested in toys except stuffed animals she can diaper, “nurse”, and put to sleep. she LOVES messy play— anything she can pour or smear etc. her favorite is probably messing with dawn, baking soda, and vinegar. 

since having our son, my SO and i joke that our 3yo is like a german shepherd... give her something that really gets her brain and she’ll be honed in and focused for a very long time... but if she doesn’t have enough, she’ll destroy stuff— not because she’s destructive but because she’s curious. 

tonight my SO showed her how to use a screwdriver, and she screwed some pieces of wood together and was SO freaking proud of herself it made me feel emotional. and y’all, she was working on it for literally 20 minutes at least. anyway, all of these details are here because my natural wiring is art— paint, drawing, coloring... but she has very little desire to do those things when given the opportunity. she seems to be much more curious about putting things together/taking things apart. 

any recommendations as to what kinds of things would be good for her to have around the house to let her exercise that part of her? i just don’t think that way naturally. 

thanks :)",5.89670843776107,7.086944819548878,5.921453634085214,78.9295405179616,66.96992481203007,9.520133667502087,32.071010860484556,9.725611199111238,2.99076925647452,1126,46,211,24,18,355,168,266,0.076,0.705,0.21899999999999997,0.9922,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,2,1,0,3,12,16,3,0,7,0,28,8,2,3,3,33,39,22,0,3,9,5,1,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,14,12,2,0,3,7,0,3,6,5,0,0,6,2,32,11,26,26,10,17,0,0,1,3,32,7,1,4,7,143,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769174167742114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611645984033898,0.114794566688753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23582371862326734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395301287213416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901071538301507,0.0,0.1332418258470868,0.14381550087016104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520197582809949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737206675982048,0.12370245181947402,0.0,0.10815876983862073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487932262352876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428360265781086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186209620365413,0.0,0.06299940464850748,0.12924372154684755,0.0,0.11411840970488504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327683223385599,0.12201744428872767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510269545172891,0.0,0.0,0.0947945138700452,0.0,0.09945568636061143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396423855843563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903200236145646,0.0,0.0,0.388896951731512,0.0,0.0,0.1289868370014696,0.0,0.0826099152635776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173930037853071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667037796160984,0.0,0.1290450683243674,0.0,0.0,0.09927350403036084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476191207057669,0.0,0.0,0.12153567809683825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872162182592301,0.0,0.0,0.3426797581313365,0.08262719679741855,0.0,0.0,0.07519291366989972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137307384565967,0.0,0.21279771215812485,0.0,0.10235604836835968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387854869435154,0.0,0.0,0.09160375891458347,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Questions12345bark,2020/03/30,"NJ Family Leave alternatives? I'm a soon to be father living in NJ. I intended to work after my child was born to ensure we had at least one steady income in the house. Unfortunately, due to what is happening in the world, I'm terrified of getting sick, and possibly spreading it to my girlfriend/newborn.

I've only been with my current employer for 7 months, but have exceeded 1000 hours. My understanding is that I wont qualify for family care.

Are there any other options that will allow me to stay home with my child, or am I out of luck?",5.203598382749328,6.042074481132076,6.791185983827492,73.34424528301888,68.33962264150944,10.58544474393531,30.23719676549865,10.608840637214634,3.33726307277628,429,16,80,12,7,148,80,106,0.069,0.813,0.11800000000000001,0.8105,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,11,1,0,2,0,12,17,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,10,2,18,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,3,7,54,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648574743352688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471686860060566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570738764654851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266571806456764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143758365350533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24317227894464985,0.0,0.2387400256861425,0.2797261749638811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25669332263499106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214065925784714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19350151137176688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427361466510546,0.1843753169047945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732980297552283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583930470313728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523732213935204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648845987051764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dreamerrrr_,2020/03/30,"Is this normal for a parent? I’m in my early 20s and know nothing about parenting.  Today at a grocery store a child started screaming, absolutely shrieking and having a meltdown. I have absolutely no idea what started it but immediately the parents of this little girl who I would guess to maybe be in the 5-7 range, maybe I’m overestimating, but their first reaction was to groan and tell the child to shut up, like they were just completely tired of her shit. Then they said they were going to send her to her room right when they got home. 

Is this normal parenting? Is this a normal way to treat a child? I try to never judge a parent because circumstances are different in every situation but I thought that was a pretty crazy way for the parents to deal with their child. So from what I got from their interaction was the child was going to go straight to her room in pure anger when they arrived home and the parents aren’t teaching her any healthy way to cope with this anger, right? They’re just throwing her and her feelings to the side and she’s going to be forced to put up with what the parents did because they’re her parents, they wont have any lasting repercussions other than theyre annoyed with the way she’s behaving but the child has to deal with the punishment of going to her room and the lasting anger. It just didn’t seem right. I just want to know is this a normal thing for parents to do?",4.692075812274371,6.0280991732852005,4.93424368231047,84.35486732851987,69.90252707581227,7.706064981949459,28.290433212996394,8.07648339933343,1.740756101083032,1129,40,222,15,20,355,129,277,0.147,0.79,0.062,-0.9821,12,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,9,1,8,9,6,0,21,0,23,2,1,0,2,35,42,15,0,6,8,10,1,1,0,2,1,3,5,7,15,12,0,0,6,0,1,8,5,7,0,1,12,4,27,2,40,26,0,40,0,0,0,0,44,17,1,2,12,148,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942939797877809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845262299200337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726915135242815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295301567449895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243542029035048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05841377841880764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03505548911022039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058972328340272814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19701007137400228,0.0,0.11089956859856602,0.0,0.07637515551629642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908791244201396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826548382510295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762042531405389,0.11302691605701855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03387128864666024,0.06948718678701933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393032349377344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347181102848386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717159438708276,0.06652430463077734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7698310727036771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705338524441917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969611315851487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776231240167067,0.06594900360800568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311571257689362,0.0,0.0,0.07116656941173195,0.0,0.07793017600377898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814470396608492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059774892588962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460599789227897,0.0,0.0,0.05504052380277829,0.0,0.0796849952436983,0.06571702960824892,0.0,0.0,0.04707073118250682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04089281456094356,0.22012469980370603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04925026477037413,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krath1,2020/03/31,"9 month old wakes every hour Hi reddit! First time poster. My son is almost 9 months old and still wakes up every hour at night - we did cry it out and the baby wise schedule but it seems like around 8 months he had a big regression and hasn’t recovered since. He has never slept through the night before. Me and my husband are dying here! Any advice? 
We have tried doing CIO again but now that he’s crawling he just plays in his crib for hours instead of crying it out and eventually sleeping.
We have an Appt with a sleep specialist Thursday but wanted to get some advice and thoughts before then! Thanks in advanced!",2.841750000000001,5.298858341666668,3.0599999999999987,90.935,78.08333333333334,5.333333333333334,20.833333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.2583333333333337,491,13,95,4,12,150,90,120,0.049,0.831,0.12,0.8449,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,5,0,9,5,5,0,1,23,15,10,1,1,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,13,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,7,4,12,11,1,28,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,3,20,56,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744236751455797,0.0,0.0,0.14060526240731694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548696261611866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499905108812355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23896551470844474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084783988939698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457285213300279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23661125720629386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943686170180742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336100181166817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148412439214517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859963870530203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33623355550641576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082966448586497,0.0,0.0,0.2635397863788521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946836825369684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278284722075228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615267524433355,0.0,0.2810326577891667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213553882249447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927519568169069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147376429663723,0.08187707073952946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533251558271463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282035956137862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,graingercaca1234,2020/03/31,"Am i doing enough Sometimes i just feel like im not doing enough for my kid..Shes taken care of by me and my husband , goes to Grandmas for daycare when we work..some nights i just feel so tired and we probably watch too much tv..anyone else out there who feels this way, and maybe how to stop feeling this way? We feed her well, and love her, play with her...I don't know how to stop these anxious thoughts.",2.2325000000000017,3.783030583333337,2.5757142857142874,97.96928571428572,76.5,5.276190476190476,21.523809523809533,5.288315135182226,-0.24479047619047645,315,8,73,1,7,96,61,84,0.111,0.7140000000000001,0.175,0.6964,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,22,13,8,0,0,3,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,9,1,2,6,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,11,5,9,11,3,7,0,0,1,1,8,1,0,0,5,45,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093406052492512,0.0,0.1295687600735104,0.1898656919704748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889296243815272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479758855557074,0.0,0.0,0.3829368226727849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747807761844184,0.13238110708170184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20015995572006795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018381495504454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053010078855804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724395888551166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616262331561376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621965068936354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738951098938407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997888909719384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18327024532589556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30984463101608634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711055783263974,0.0,0.21297951566005965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29417114103873204,0.0,0.0,0.16661041476476066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349034093671319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kingbants,2020/03/31,My child just took they're first steps I'm 16 and I was told to put my daughter Molly up for adoption as I wouldn't have time for her. But the happiness that I felt when mols stamped her legs across the ground made everything fucking worth it.,3.1889999999999996,4.763632500000004,2.9730000000000025,96.01150000000004,74.0,6.6000000000000005,24.5,7.1686216300943375,0.6677999999999997,195,6,44,2,4,58,43,50,0.0,0.879,0.121,0.6997,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,2,0,3,2,1,1,0,6,9,4,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,5,1,7,1,6,3,0,9,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,3,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023729689838154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323037714986863,0.0,0.0,0.2861779548413246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110358179325151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35814946784243795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183501798655011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33821779952466857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19618242072650188,0.0,0.0,0.3214853796950348,0.3738001747438984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XgothikaX,2020/03/31,"22 1/2 Month old (20 Months corrected) screaming every 30 - 60 mins throughout the night. My Son has always been a good sleeper, only waking to be given his dummy and then straight back to sleep, up until last month when he got gastroenteritis. 

He was obviously waking due to being poorly, but got over this after 2 weeks in total.

After that he got a bit of a cold but was still ok, but started to wake at 3am every morning screaming blue murder and was not easy to console ( would sometimes sit awake for an hour after).

Since last Friday he has been screaming every 30 - 60  mins throughout the night, most of the time without opening his eyes or sitting up.

Due to his prematurity he is behind in some of his development, for example, he can only say a few words so he can’t express how he is feeling or what is wrong. Which makes it really difficult.

If you try to offer him a drink or anything when he wakes he just cries and screams harder. 

We have been treating it as teething, but he refuses any medication throughout the night. We have checked he’s not too hot or too cold, he has a low blue light on all night as he doesn’t like the dark.

We are just at a loss as to what to do. We are exhausted and we have a 5 month old daughter too (who luckily sleeps through).

Any advice is greatly appreciated and apologies for the long and rambling post.",6.261106918238994,6.066036418867927,6.617735849056604,79.08295597484278,65.9433962264151,9.028930817610064,32.38364779874214,8.447377352677275,2.3826025157232698,1061,39,207,13,15,344,159,265,0.141,0.79,0.07,-0.9711,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,5,1,0,1,11,15,1,0,15,1,25,11,8,2,4,38,32,24,1,2,14,2,2,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,8,12,1,1,1,1,2,0,5,10,0,0,10,13,12,5,33,19,6,44,0,2,3,0,33,11,0,7,31,127,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484650713172412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779229011552763,0.0,0.0,0.15984545250713053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671511374486226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037138850964606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283095843252186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909843372575278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151322011432718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970659483782503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059425432379598124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857648609071018,0.2819924203864256,0.1295744772770744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574090768780305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916011879367169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057417997128875416,0.0,0.0,0.10400813400293224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845051500236318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839658589895448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752372984088191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411663671481064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24665066984567566,0.0,0.0,0.17876991067967293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255885185489817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529112225559917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346258060547724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972199577076618,0.0,0.2352247423252308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623769694577155,0.0,0.08318656531384491,0.0,0.09385760869404183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853122700600574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979345386251592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427346670758373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329231044181827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348815985956078,0.12849786514553302,0.0,0.0
parenting,xmckaylarose,2020/03/31,"4 year old hurt new kitten I have a 4 year old girl who is extremely hyperactive and does not listen well, she does at times aim to please us when she's in a good mood, but it's seldom. We got a cat like 8 months ago and she was kind of rough with her, and then another one a couple of weeks ago. She was way better with this one to begin with, she would snuggle her and want her in her room with her at all times and was over all good, but today she squished her extremely hard with a wooden puzzle box and laughed when she meowing. She came out and told us and said the kitten was sad and explained what she did and was petting her and seemed to feel bad.. but not too bad. She's great with the puppies my mom has, but it still has me concerned. When she gets mad she says she's going to kill whoever she's mad at and things like that. All i can think about is all the times i've heard psychopaths starting out with hurting animals.",4.279013605442181,4.287174928571432,4.6269387755102045,90.98115646258506,70.12244897959185,7.961904761904763,25.006802721088434,7.492282038375204,0.8357292517006791,730,17,170,7,12,230,109,196,0.128,0.726,0.146,0.4903,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,7,18,3,0,8,0,13,0,0,0,4,40,28,20,1,2,6,1,3,2,0,1,0,4,2,1,7,23,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,8,1,2,11,7,28,9,22,16,4,32,0,3,0,0,33,9,0,2,22,109,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336451644984375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381917670061958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007583937672304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655624716809394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507309721246834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458215043698161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306580655057645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663624175049268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885406877352579,0.0,0.0748984599934301,0.22107593651467736,0.10540332841918423,0.145297322152816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180566390655953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821646991579809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580448493223752,0.13723747626029273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128770440005159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434913626831545,0.1051923491731981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272821857546691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765797909347673,0.0,0.17860664044732089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446642331494188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253610735200366,0.10480353051650117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997533020591347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328060149798116,0.0,0.10524649216025801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875544449222011,0.08444477013203426,0.0,0.0,0.230540859058078,0.0,0.12492011902417953,0.12592959031878162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31705075540802435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773229089382888,0.10460760271561764,0.10571281127674743,0.0,0.11849371773488553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361879217248184,0.0,0.0,0.16973498793289735
parenting,aleus_x,2020/03/31,"Daughter pretending to be sick We have been staying inside for 3 weeks now. My husband is the only one who goes out to get groceries and always makes sure to wash when he gets home. I had been cooking and cleaning more than usual during the day and my 18 month old was angry at me apparently. Our kitchen and living room are in the same space so she was not left unattended. She started coughing and sneezing for hours, no fever, eating normal. I was so worried. Later I realised she had watched one of those kids videos on YouTube where the baby is sick and mommy and daddy take care of him. We snuggled with her the rest if the evening and magically she was cured. Now any time she wants some extra attention she will start caughing or sneezing.",4.634615384615382,6.347247846153848,4.580699300699301,85.37566433566434,70.53846153846153,6.5986013986013985,29.08391608391609,6.980632752743323,1.5458727272727275,594,23,110,5,11,183,107,143,0.098,0.857,0.045,-0.8429,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,6,0,14,8,0,1,1,22,22,13,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,5,0,4,1,2,12,3,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,8,1,17,2,13,12,5,22,0,0,1,0,16,8,0,3,13,78,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407010171950862,0.0,0.0,0.14226230996557418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329204735277654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491587411481887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406252706259973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817378800496666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185954038788297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20984338296912705,0.0,0.20601860893658686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272950319893181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472631107473853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964177656824184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698043022055556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497033806684944,0.0,0.0,0.21951887586690474,0.0,0.2835169467794385,0.15910506083678005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961438753253683,0.2229780111453653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197167327031668,0.0,0.1572914096748855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198546165352568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23040284545454476,0.0,0.12339083096347495,0.0,0.16780660233903416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21245146481727226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MomAtWhitsEnd,2020/03/31,"Am I in the wrong for wanting to find a job? Long story short, I’ve been a SAHM for the past couple of years. My fiancé and I have two toddlers together. My fiancé is a teacher, and he’s laid off of work with pay until next school year. 

My fiancé has a reason to believe that he will not have a job waiting for him in the fall. I need to start working to offset the possible loss of income. Plus, I genuinely want to start working. In my opinion, better safe than sorry. 

I have experience in nursing homes and rehab clinics, and that’s where I’ve been applying to. These institutions are actually still open, and I can hopefully get a decent paying job with my skills. 

However, my mother-in-law is acting like I’m trying to kill my entire family by going back to work. She doesn’t understand that I literally need to work for financial reasons, and even mental health reasons. She keeps saying how selfish I am. I know, r/motherinlawsfromhell. 

I will always take the proper precautions. I feel like it’s my duty to provide for our family while my fiancé stays with the toddlers. We wouldn’t even have to pay for childcare right now, and that would allow us to save a lot of money. 

My fiancé is supportive, but my in-laws think I’m being irresponsible. Reddit, am I in the wrong for wanting to find work?",3.91429411764706,5.559436694117651,5.30093137254902,79.7666911764706,72.25490196078431,7.923529411764706,25.69117647058824,8.548686976883017,1.864682352941176,1027,33,190,18,20,344,142,255,0.085,0.85,0.065,-0.7882,5,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,9,7,12,1,0,14,0,21,3,0,5,0,41,41,12,1,8,2,0,1,2,0,4,3,1,1,0,6,13,0,4,9,0,4,3,3,5,0,1,2,2,29,7,37,34,1,26,0,1,0,0,9,10,0,3,14,126,35,14,0.0,0.0,0.10170762156774106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672274454748598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014184789889926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742479444149087,0.0,0.09217768738292076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532190997985038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767798147923124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195110315485832,0.19650628494619898,0.0,0.052698802592634056,0.07445766989564176,0.0,0.0,0.19051775570148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445275547774808,0.0,0.059232919714546924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078527318800302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045452028604884,0.10351798135836998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31027881172566457,0.0926391092054257,0.11530845027747776,0.0,0.057278802762468814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183719578615534,0.0,0.0,0.0922349893364936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860754564554489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503331136240264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456159948621198,0.0,0.0,0.11084344133580112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949363255400773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749693709386835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32147899278534114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900675458663365,0.0,0.08288313417164407,0.0,0.10548028550351476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667027183248745,0.1475406137840278,0.11108895157323163,0.08323344726864998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827219737172967,0.0,0.0,0.07836350186506667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678255187066477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076127686247753,0.0,0.10181173575379364,0.10850089385865436,0.12536867875632746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442210478610047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.455258023318477,0.0,0.0,0.07403776260569166,0.2279052371255175,0.0,0.13423372007729936
parenting,piss-in-the-wind,2020/03/31,"How much yelling is too much? My wife and I have very different parenting styles for our 5-year old daughter. 

My style is to let my daughter figure out what the consequences are for different actions (for instance, she'll sometimes play with her hair and clothes when eating with her hands; I'll gently point out, hey, so remember, what happens when you touch your clothes when your hands are dirty? etc.). If little one continues to misbehave, I'll be firm; every once in awhile I'll lose my temper, but I make every effort to make up for the yelling to the little one afterwards. 

My wife's first reaction to anything is yelling. Her voice goes from 80 (her tone is almost always aggressive) to 5000 (full on yelling and screaming) in a matter of seconds over many things. Daughter leaves her socks on the floor -- yelling. She doesn't finish all of her veggies -- yelling. She says the food is too hot so eats slowly -- yelling. She starts whining about not wanting to go brush her teeth -- more yelling. She accidentally wets the bed at night -- yelling. She once rolled out of bed while sleeping and hit the floor -- wife yelled at her for that, too. She cries from all the yelling -- even more yelling, followed by lots of shut ups and stop cryings. On a typical day, there are at least 3 to 5 yelling incidents like this; since the coronavirus lockdown, it's jumped up to at least 5 - 8. 

I've tried to suggest to my wife that discipline would be more productive if we reduced the yelling and try to explain things and foster understanding. It works for a bit, but then the yelling starts all over again. When we talk about it again, she says she is yelling because it's the only way to get through to the kid, and she thinks that, if anything, she's being too lenient (I'd hate to think what she thinks of my parenting). On top of that, I have not once seen her follow up with the little one afterwards when calm. We've discussed this, too, to which she simply replies: ""If our daughter doesn't want to get yelled at, she needs to behave. It's her fault that I'm yelling at her.""

So I'd like to ask you fellow parents: How much yelling is too much yelling? Any other thoughts on this? Thank you.",5.392611073137388,6.383741880382779,4.572812713602191,88.86718899521532,67.99521531100478,7.78961038961039,31.196514012303492,7.83500028581142,1.872516473000684,1718,68,350,19,28,508,199,418,0.071,0.8759999999999999,0.053,-0.8306,6,1,0,0,18,0,75.0,4,5,0,5,22,12,3,0,17,0,20,8,5,4,3,48,45,26,0,8,8,11,6,2,1,2,0,24,2,1,20,16,3,2,8,1,0,5,4,7,0,5,2,32,44,5,62,36,16,57,0,2,1,0,55,31,0,6,22,220,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553884297867232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938835590578701,0.0,0.0,0.06488173893139419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702779559360502,0.0,0.08919501306261443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816075209540896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416247471554656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096057345909803,0.061531241297408876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19936526337064628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19525549668399192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640682467078916,0.06301708191487589,0.0,0.16077325529774752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115528096621631,0.1153695589205084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996950627998448,0.0,0.05422342358021783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437031511825684,0.0,0.0,0.09419713901370268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102489566693916,0.0,0.09756268876838524,0.0,0.09322453510557144,0.2868761837609898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673883754037013,0.0,0.08111375402556613,0.0,0.0,0.1273731783690172,0.0967302686214412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805478729647954,0.07074494317151317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953536246937703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011623175496186,0.3048240448400712,0.19395586077599444,0.07256323211941099,0.0,0.0,0.3178229116610537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019282658487444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808037652371442,0.0,0.0,0.1517469445539203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789237330931052,0.0,0.0954784141955448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436244558644093,0.0,0.13506268532854235,0.0,0.0,0.07976662300668376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668655056263947,0.0,0.08784025867745515,0.0,0.0,0.12677167871712716,0.18340368575288732,0.0,0.07574449406115351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295535896890419,0.0,0.0,0.09932466531926168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872283832741099,0.11255000264001458,0.07573162855761825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694592600298804,0.0,0.0,0.06777617888915402,0.0,0.0,0.06144059669501865
parenting,DamascusFlower,2020/03/31,"What is the best potty training advice you’ve ever received? Im on day four of potty training my 2 year old and I’d love to hear advice you’ve gotten about potty training your little one. I figured with the quarantine, there’s no better timing to do it than now.",2.286666666666669,4.32572025925926,4.136814814814816,84.6396666666667,77.8888888888889,5.060740740740742,21.91111111111111,5.6839178017228535,0.4290933333333333,210,6,38,1,5,71,43,54,0.039,0.7609999999999999,0.2,0.8779,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,3,3,7,4,1,9,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,6,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5317485634584489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855320918536761,0.2406334231802617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546965543827825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24611272801437706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066549199280848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938940338979717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726965145758611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24556361208767785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855031089802139,0.0,0.18436904214830446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865254600512874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521116273094156
parenting,Chuckles_Asher,2020/03/31,"Televisions Shows Involving Interpersonal Conflict We are looking for some new shows for our 4 and 5 year olds to watch. While Paw Patrol and Animal Mechanicals is really good for problem solving and cooperation, they don't involve much interpersonal conflict between the characters. What shows are folks having their kids watch that talk about manners, sharing, and caring for each other?  (Available in Canada)

PS: We are of course actively and directly teaching these things outside of Screen Time as well, we're just hoping to find some reinforcement.",9.703333333333333,11.647641329670329,8.608516483516485,60.35731684981687,58.78021978021978,11.341391941391942,39.34249084249085,11.20814326018867,5.156141391941392,455,22,61,12,6,141,72,91,0.073,0.745,0.182,0.8815,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,2,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,16,9,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,5,5,12,9,4,6,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,3,5,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099451934669994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778477431258894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549782536735831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019376056312377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25528090950450066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22347276730758173,0.0,0.0,0.2936021889956124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189937050849932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29088406545218864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947482572283138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443412667991436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019620933836064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726309059160086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733298041899347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576409577965795
parenting,EthanJSmith,2020/03/31,"14 month old shakes when excited. So my son, Khaydan, does this weird thing when he gets excited (it's not all the time) but he shakes and tenses up. He's done this since he was a lot younger. However, now he has added this weird whooping-cheering sound. High-pitched. I've been worried about autism but he's a great kid. Loving, talkative, laughs at himself, very good eye contact, responds to his name. If he's too loud, we whisper to him and he whispers back.  

It's not overly concerning but obviously this is about my son and I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this? 

Thanks in advance.",1.830109890109888,4.479772529914532,2.4949267399267403,92.06019230769232,84.38461538461539,5.736019536019538,24.59645909645909,7.1686216300943375,1.1031689865689869,474,19,96,7,14,147,83,117,0.067,0.713,0.22,0.9723,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,9,11,0,2,3,0,6,2,1,0,2,18,11,11,0,3,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,8,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,3,6,7,7,9,8,2,14,0,0,1,1,19,4,0,3,7,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535399700942114,0.2569578343042971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19283740853961606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946275988178895,0.2566390923797269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949784396515714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102428418442474,0.0,0.0,0.2103457126659623,0.0,0.2764902346091468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649670547083434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782432248006593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132075804004178,0.2263423424721765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20017338840832274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631556113720864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074511082749988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23088820434157314,0.0,0.0,0.16660973966300888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623416147321575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20692305619032686,0.1479188950456831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25468331545566825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strifestar,2020/03/31,"Son (11) doesn't play with his sister (9) anymore To put things into perspective, I'm a single father (35) of two kids. Their mother is out of the picture, so it's usually just us. Since a few days, almost a week before the start of this new ""outbreak"", my son begun distancing a bit from his sister. They have always been the kind to do everything together; play games, watch movies, swimming, etc. Even at school I know they sometimes spend time together during breaks.

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Cut to a few days ago, and I start to notice some different patterns. First was one day after we all arrived home, I was going to watch some TV and my daughter invited her brother to watch a movie to her room. He said that he would go later, but I noticed he never came out of his room until dinner that night. Situations like this where she would ask him to do things together but he declined kept arising, and I started to get worried if something could have happened. My daughter looks heartbroken, she doesn't understand if she did something wrong to make him angry. And when I try to talk with my son he either avoids the issue or says that everything is fine. 

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Nowadays, for obvious reasons we are spending a lot more time at home, and living like this has become impossible, with it being evident that for some reason he is avoiding her. I don't want to force anything, I just want them to get along again, like they always did.",7.195,7.0548373888888944,6.9448148148148166,77.33166666666669,64.0,9.57037037037037,33.185185185185176,9.029198982220553,2.7922296296296287,1125,41,203,16,15,355,165,270,0.107,0.8420000000000001,0.051,-0.9274,1,2,2,1,0,0,47.0,3,0,5,1,7,11,1,2,11,0,21,1,0,3,3,44,40,13,0,7,8,10,0,3,0,2,0,2,4,1,11,15,1,3,4,5,2,5,4,4,0,3,8,6,31,7,31,28,12,35,0,0,4,0,41,8,0,8,24,137,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119298814230446,0.0,0.1030150258270276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120143554230755,0.22293128032495932,0.2500101625219777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020249247399632,0.0,0.0,0.0846578308586359,0.0,0.09617477339911344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361798764925647,0.0875395353203307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231348097259798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766224893334955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213777383004177,0.0,0.0,0.19903870134276136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074830776405991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147334576166088,0.0679483456006897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18491586277911207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750590968116237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749648152475323,0.0,0.11693311759684913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909725292871918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20638517498690287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737537010438618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712907816560747,0.056537724389648734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077942529234314,0.0,0.09084101556219673,0.0,0.08638957128826072,0.0,0.0,0.08746113314074991,0.0,0.0,0.06867024369493388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934398383167256,0.09935786928155972,0.0,0.09654175610305604,0.0,0.0,0.2342490430057775,0.0,0.0,0.06971115057918648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341836510145264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21154644550949397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785822801477843,0.08181078462445003,0.0,0.10411557195198153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509973691817313,0.11563645415992105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583972839951754,0.10174657203414864,0.0,0.21844757980521304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268748857006247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366919187004999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199751476220006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984576101042005,0.0,0.10049448623342054,0.10709709940080336,0.1237466473594663,0.0,0.11330290930263105,0.0,0.12135735651918456,0.0,0.08252057915210625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044751378912612,0.0,0.14615971056467722,0.11247828919359798,0.2500101625219777,0.0
parenting,jammneggs,2020/03/31,"14 month old kicking and hitting....what do I do? He only kicks during diaper changes, thinks it's so funny, and sometimes it is, but I never laugh so as not to encourage him. But he also has been throwing things at my face, VERY hard, even brought me to tears a couple nights ago. He could tell something was wrong, but not that he caused it....at least I dont think he knew he hurt me. My husband says I'm gonna have to start spanking him, I say no way in hell will anyone put their hands on our son, including him.

But I have no tools to deal with this, I'm a first time mom. What can I do to help him put the two things together, his actions and their consequences? He is not talking yet, but understands what we say. If I tell him to throw away a diaper, he does it. Pick up toys, he does it. If I say no or stop? He acts like he has no idea what I've said. I'm at a loss. Help me!",0.39754508435136415,2.0365212879581165,2.2017364746945915,98.17676410703899,82.19371727748691,5.710413030831879,18.988074461896453,6.691623216298621,-0.18139813845258912,670,16,168,7,18,221,116,191,0.217,0.723,0.06,-0.9874,0,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,2,2,5,7,1,0,5,0,15,2,2,2,1,26,26,15,0,3,11,3,2,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,11,5,0,1,5,1,0,7,9,4,0,2,5,7,23,3,14,18,1,24,1,2,0,0,36,6,1,3,11,95,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091465362402032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908289509660092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953774303039908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815683010425302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012533719703374,0.1442982259222141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089081592173458,0.15092935246197056,0.0,0.0,0.14062739256974216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23873757589708325,0.0,0.15986544754783144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009410525962616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602588065917475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219193708781337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828585675803389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602419415293022,0.1539844523965078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664051098023309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975569097793066,0.10887703575187244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520381574935984,0.0,0.0,0.1280066947827145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313392572053416,0.0,0.0,0.10374202158988967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27424906342779737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975223189531868,0.4338983900884259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501110403014273,0.13490786699238894,0.0,0.09654804236313733,0.0,0.0,0.11404054759432825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963703726746407,0.23844767140687664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181242618972876,0.17480541748499526,0.0,0.0,0.07953875464398354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332477007451075,0.14200224098346093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112548272104806,0.0,0.10827180674550296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913727091433154,0.0,0.0
parenting,LeftoverScissors,2020/03/31,"Looking for advice on Pity Parties. As the title states, I am looking for advice from other parents who have dealt with what I find myself currently dealing with. My child, 8yo, tends carry around a victims mentality.
 “There’s nothing for me to do around here.” 
“I never have anything to play with.”
“I can’t do this. It’s too hard.” 
“My stomach/toe/arm/foot hurts.” 
“You never take my side on anything.”
 
And many more things along that same line of thinking. Obviously these things are not actually true and only occur when they are not getting their way such as when they can’t play on the phone or have to go to bed when they do not want to. I have read some articles and see that it is a common issue and just wanted some first hand accounts from others who may have dealt with this. It has gotten progressively worse recently (last few months) and I really think I need a better way of dealing with it because I find myself entertaining it more than I probably should.",5.0702977667493805,6.282913870967742,5.4061290322580655,81.78688585607942,68.89247311827957,7.873614557485527,27.21091811414392,8.139509932561175,1.6995042183622826,764,24,144,10,13,243,117,186,0.084,0.826,0.09,0.4784,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,4,3,10,8,1,0,5,0,17,1,1,0,4,34,30,11,0,4,5,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,17,13,0,0,4,4,1,1,7,3,0,1,1,5,20,5,26,27,6,21,0,2,3,0,12,6,0,4,11,111,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.13985351410553307,0.0,0.0,0.28008901033385103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23586995520947396,0.25515918401260385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736271142210515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267493360272572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29550029776806463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619722811687732,0.12190257408984015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487550184447325,0.0,0.08144848778410269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838094035057335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342029765691925,0.0,0.0,0.14958228601092666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168198068192733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406948548487301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529761460950485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444265185415728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439164126159378,0.0,0.0,0.10626530490402654,0.22106474643519333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375133762268359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899653940348103,0.0,0.0,0.15913292219943406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451642572236535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335249928203395,0.0,0.0918104365825791,0.0,0.14150500560247614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142024772049058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775407923727423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042253040490595,0.18365928562840045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690602863090027,0.22751151499388944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604892080288606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,firecrotch725,2020/03/31,"I need help with my kid’s iPhone I wanted to flair this as technology and safety but I could only choose one. 

Does anyone know of an app I can download to keep track of my child when she’s on her phone? I want all text messages and phone calls to be available for me to look at on my phone. I want to make sure she’s being safe. 

For context she’s only 11, I’m not some weird toxic parent trying to spy on my 17 year old or something like that. 

Any advice?",0.4093939393939401,2.2948960505050517,2.216454545454546,96.80468181818183,83.44444444444444,4.364040404040405,15.960606060606061,4.935628992294339,-0.9797199999999996,355,6,83,1,10,117,71,99,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.9417,1,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,2,19,13,6,0,5,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,15,3,16,10,2,7,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,2,4,47,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276389501702909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841601066928346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288613590010664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378710322351194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599399424336116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20385871745596404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614346808494187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070593069010222,0.0,0.0,0.1280248623053742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380905622411812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562182751778415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549791910496488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17273167854065494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444449593842241,0.0,0.15785496410399485,0.35434246809510683,0.0,0.0,0.2586667095851542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933858049600188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21955542118106466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581597779625218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122050991397179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500140776414308
parenting,whathefuckisreddit,2020/03/31,"6mo daughter is a terrible sleeper She's actually 5 and a half months old and ever since she turned 4 months old she went from being an unbelievably good sleeper to an awful one. Not the worst, but enough to drive my wife and I insane.

She's wakes up crying every hour or so. It's quite easy to get her back down to sleep either through feeding or rocking (mostly the latter), but nothing we do seems to be enough to get her to sleep at least for a 4 hour stretch. This applies to naps too, which are 30 minutes long on average.

Things we've tried:

1. Establish a routine: we've got that down pat. Dim the lights, bath, book, feed and then sleep. She's usually sleeping by 7:30 or 8.

2. Use whitenoise: been doing that since she was a newborn

3. Sent her to her own room: sooner than we wanted but we moved her crib to her own room to see if it did anything. So far it's been basically the same in terms of sleep.

Here's the thing. The one thing I do want to try is sleep training but whenever we go down that road all we find are people suggesting Ferber or a similar variant. My wife is vehemently opposed to CIO, extinction, Ferber, etc.

I'm at my wit's end. I'd love literally any advice on what to do.

I'll also add that my daughter is breastfed exclusively so there's also that.",2.278705609027547,4.08890310687023,3.7602422834384335,88.3926734152008,77.09160305343512,6.693926319283108,24.36840358446732,7.586124646067393,1.0882902090939273,1002,34,213,14,23,331,159,262,0.046,0.8909999999999999,0.063,0.6628,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,14,1,16,10,7,1,2,31,30,19,0,3,11,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,14,10,2,1,2,4,0,5,1,2,0,3,7,2,23,2,29,21,12,32,0,0,1,1,25,14,0,7,13,135,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.10390036128831533,0.0,0.0,0.10404225289832188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17028967966168984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240394771135218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761658124954301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186964578129388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695342092612734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430172543831823,0.2200260596279509,0.11874333666890953,0.0,0.0963091372472268,0.08970643020427327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731258751360464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125343175022737,0.0,0.06050993685270866,0.0893028438724239,0.08515460461095736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970502436829236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422350624041284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609425652335776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699683119363638,0.1131618492234229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021618195532994,0.0,0.22344685973070946,0.0,0.1442950433946149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381360244052364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324504034001112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484362168158678,0.09692722193860187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614786342580266,0.0,0.6392874996417888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21220385307846384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457367339648458,0.1158099007386238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919567802044236,0.1172627913807563,0.0,0.1255987376459957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869970640498024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,23ekr,2020/03/31,"SOS Separation Anxiety Our 5 month old,  breastfed baby has horrible separation anxiety. I cannot even be next to someone else holding her to calm her down. Even her own father just gets non stop screams until I can hold her again or she falls asleep. I know that preferring mom is common in babies this age, and especially so for breastfeed babies, but I didn't know it could be this extreme.  Is our only option to just wait out the phase, or are there things we can do to ease her extreme discomfort? I love my baby,  but being the only one who can soothe her is a daunting role to be in, and it makes me feel a lot of guilt for little things like taking a shower or cooking dinner.",6.983079365079366,6.09733583703704,7.402539682539682,76.34000000000003,64.7037037037037,10.084656084656084,31.87830687830688,9.23628265651192,2.610386243386244,538,17,104,8,7,177,93,135,0.10099999999999999,0.782,0.11699999999999999,0.7417,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,7,6,0,2,5,0,16,4,1,1,0,23,24,9,0,2,7,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,8,4,2,4,4,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,1,2,17,3,13,18,2,14,0,0,0,1,15,5,0,5,9,76,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327208616267168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362842140509335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166443173561625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872676829091381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995703706736676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361669256075085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23902658613376165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062426066722446,0.21795745451515366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488130093410124,0.19627100806705594,0.0,0.14515983882063255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546928405944461,0.1735788023662846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312769130989467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22819334888190854,0.0,0.14736017869734308,0.3307844622748301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842577222270841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181080643792552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350691202441445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28894868896630144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_luckyy,2020/03/31,"Recently broken up with children's father - how should I go about things, contacting wise? My ex-partner(26/m) and I(23/f) broke up 8 days ago after a 6 year relationship, we also have 3 kids together aged (5, 3 and 1yo). He broke up with me because he couldnt deal with my ""controlling behavior"" anymore and that towards the end we were just arguing too much. 

Anyways, 

For the first few days of our break up I didn't contact him at all. After not hearing from him for 5 days I decided to call him so he could say happy birthday to our eldest son. He answered and spoke to our son for about 5mins. After that I didn't hear from him for another 2 days so I decided to call him so he could talk to the kids, he spoke to them and myself for 20mins. He asked me to call him back later that evening so he could say goodnight to the boys, so I did. He said goodnight quickly and told me he would be coming over Sunday to see the kids (it'll be 2 weeks since he has seen them) and that was it. 

My question is; should I keep being the one to keep initiating the calls, should I be ringing him every day or every _other_ day so he can talk to the kids? Should I wait for him to contact us? Would that make me a bad parent if I didnt let my boys talk to their dad until he calls himself, somtimes? (If my kids _asked_ me to speak to their dad I would call him for them under that circumstance, but i would like to see him reach out to the kids for once as he hasnt seen the kids in over a week and i've been the one having to do all the calling, it isn't my intention though to take the kids away from their father).

**TL:DR - ex-partner and I broke up after 6 years together, we have 3 sons together. Since the break up i'm the one that has been reaching out and calling for the kids. Should I stop calling him every night / every other night and wait for him to reach out to us for once? He hasn't seen the kids in over a week and has only spoken to them 3 times since the break up and the calls have been short, i've had to do all the calling. Wwyd?**",2.955550387596902,3.6306084930232596,4.077674418604655,91.35689922480623,73.37209302325581,7.128682170542637,23.635658914728683,7.1686216300943375,0.6349519379844963,1572,40,364,15,30,513,175,430,0.044000000000000004,0.9259999999999999,0.03,-0.7514,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,8,0,7,2,17,8,1,0,24,0,43,0,0,4,3,58,65,28,0,15,6,8,0,1,0,10,0,9,0,13,13,23,0,6,4,0,0,2,8,5,0,4,17,14,54,3,68,29,5,54,0,3,5,0,96,20,0,4,30,243,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056595418523216014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051057435279207385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694785151635962,0.0,0.0,0.06331784310486044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937434363713438,0.0,0.059985197980321765,0.04909345239376165,0.05330854701449213,0.03891978580662157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7171303100052155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054997473338493766,0.0,0.0,0.07160845446904565,0.15292694475223506,0.0,0.0,0.2470514199454176,0.0658221803542601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654839744663288,0.0,0.0,0.042169525701145405,0.0,0.21517124294943732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05430717517373124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0362850196294208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796500415024027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391763486067105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349809910334048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06528662049202369,0.0,0.031191815850994807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04261754397104908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04693398353232014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982985102083812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598731225050145,0.12979062830820048,0.0485575813547048,0.0,0.0,0.07089316650051504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152186869556951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303999062029625,0.06854645810088494,0.0,0.0,0.060731943137933585,0.10154542996898516,0.0,0.0,0.1017536172824388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584416299502304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05337791844309256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048004069647537326,0.15395042264500802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04241628937262234,0.0,0.06272814004266078,0.0,0.037228979060627165,0.0,0.0,0.06100736459791992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535971885738635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363966492479958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141679879448214,0.0,0.0,0.0822291589104091
parenting,KtWallops,2020/03/31,Blog platform for kids? My 8yo would like to start a blog to share videos and drawings. Can anyone recommend a kid friendly option?,3.17625,6.225134125000004,2.7716666666666683,89.44000000000004,82.75,4.866666666666667,24.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,0.9780166666666674,105,4,18,1,3,31,21,24,0.0,0.626,0.374,0.8677,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,9,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458064959752769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5061328424642159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200514302259113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636870064366647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4653681128933744,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1dvs-bstrd,2020/03/31,"My 13 year old son says he is trans. Now what?? The title says it.  I woke up this morning to a note outside his bedroom door letting us know he is trans and wants to begin hormone therapy.   This caught all of us by surprise, mom sister, and me.  We love this child more than anything and dont want to screw this up on our side.  Any help is appreciated.",1.3753571428571445,3.3720961388888924,2.8436507936507947,92.99500000000002,80.66666666666667,5.2253968253968255,22.785714285714285,6.1826913282559595,0.2785214285714286,270,9,60,2,7,88,58,72,0.016,0.8059999999999999,0.179,0.9142,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,0,5,2,0,0,1,8,12,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,8,2,9,9,2,9,0,0,0,2,15,4,1,0,4,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589225841687898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886464365204176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686696364194449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365592009271095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598527657636932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23441523207953616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068996393682604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684851796892244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405506654032783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646044986461528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621579321561637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5514992250319561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704254600039361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147624178004769
parenting,Salt-End,2020/03/31,"What is your kids playing with neighbours etiquette? Any suggestions would be very helpful TIA My 5 year old daughter has become really good friends with our new neighbours son who is the same age. They chat over the fence to each other a couple times a day. They do not play in close proximity and so they’ve been happy to just chat over the fence like this. 

Thing is, they will likely want to play together when they’re able to. Yet I would never feel comfortable letting her go on her own into their yard alone (our yards are back to back to eachother and the gates are neighbouring) as I don’t really talk to our neighbour all that much. And am very wary of people I don’t know well enough to trust with my life (bad experience as a child). I would be fine for her friend to visit our yard and supervise them and what not. But am not too sure about his mother being ok with this, which is fine.

I don’t want to deprive my daughter of friendship and am happy for her to be friends with the neighbours son. But I also am concerned for her safety. And it would make total sense to me if my neighbour had the same concerns for her son. I’m a stranger after all. Would anyone have some kind of arrangement that could work best?",4.518293391430647,5.600314148148152,4.4554877753570565,88.57832244008715,70.06995884773663,7.363737593802954,25.405228758169926,7.510576382923642,1.0610258533042844,970,27,200,10,17,298,143,243,0.051,0.7390000000000001,0.21,0.9912,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,1,5,2,10,22,0,0,10,1,30,1,0,1,5,43,37,15,0,9,7,6,1,2,9,6,1,0,4,2,11,15,0,2,2,8,0,2,7,2,1,0,2,1,28,20,33,23,11,20,0,1,0,0,41,6,0,2,14,146,39,2,0.13434344048746766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913928848323595,0.0,0.1074344008208797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135814636434947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093936057229414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20660362641834776,0.1121711612777775,0.0,0.14837177519033906,0.0,0.0,0.14098515245997845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726230560399848,0.14864846164630666,0.0,0.08664040515888179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388126862888567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141366328186505,0.0,0.0,0.06792808007919895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113802266019137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635047317482882,0.11268090399952573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860221810100689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004757632056194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398980199420896,0.07383164150741943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737526994500493,0.09489074502384094,0.131266838145767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896752897192965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875788651266793,0.0,0.10361394331433448,0.12974973196976125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097084179245498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313682621733564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17212769607333858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661710277012644,0.0,0.0,0.10798016862474616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892518123731238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833674050957241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169481597086696,0.15847848383605928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207908869968314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780362469753036,0.0,0.0,0.477168628103431,0.0,0.0,0.0865127710512161
parenting,oodyboocs,2020/03/31,"Slowly finding a new normal I have three gorgeous girl beans. A two and a half year old, and twin 4 month olds. They are so precious to me but boy has life changed.

I finally got out of a toxic, abusive relationship. I was yelled at, put down, bitten, punched and threatened (including with her own life). Even though we werent poor, I cheated the system out of almost $40k to help pay for her lavish lifestyle. I was so blinded by the hate that I couldn't see the love.

By the time our first daughter was 1, we had moved 5 times to try and find a nice area for her to stay. Once we finally found a place, it still wasnt enough. 4 bedrooms, two living rooms, three bathrooms and a lawn.

After she sexually assaulted me, we conceived our twins. It hit the fan pretty hard. The abuse worsened. We had to have a spa pool. We had to have the most expensive buggy, car seats, clothes and beyond for these kids.

She threatened my beautiful twins lives twice before they were born and the twins could tell we werent doing well. So could our eldest. She started getting smacked and scared of mum.

It all happened on miss 2s last day of daycare. I wanted her out after a series of abuse from other kids not only went unpunished, but encouraged to try and get her to speak up for herself. The irony is strong, and I realise now what was going on.

I was diagnosed with psychotic depression half way in to the twin pregnancy. No wonder, said my lawyer, who ensured I would have every protection given to me by law. Everybody started asking why I didn't get help earlier. I was gobsmacked. You mean it's okay to talk to helplines? I thought those were for people who were slicing themselves. Hell she was doing that, and she didn't even want help. I was reminded just how controlling I was. When I said if she left, I would get the kids. She would say that the kids are all she had left.

Now, now that I have the chance to parent and make decisions again you can bet I'm scared. But I am the luckiest guy in the world. My twins adore me and while I get it right about 20% of the time, they love me so much. Their babbles and their coos, the way they have strongly started developing because they know dad is safe is priceless.

My two year old is the most incredible two year old you could ever hope for. Please and thank you, every time. Tidies toys, everytime. She is happy to say what she wants without a tantrum, because what she wants is daddy (or nanny or poppy) to play with. We would struggle, her mother and I, every day with her behaviour. Her mum gave me the bash because she didn't know how to cope with having her home from daycare. When I picked up my little girl and said ""baby, you're coming home with daddy."" She said ""mummy stay here?"" and I said ""yes beautiful, is that okay?"" ""Yes daddy yay!""

She danced in her car seat the whole way home. She is two and she knows she doesnt want mummy. She runs away whenever there is even just a phone call, because she doesn't want to be yelled at. She is happy that dad is happy and after two weeks in our new place she is starting to settle. We are starting to have so many joyous moments now that we are all safe and away from any yelling or hitting. The twins are developing beautifully (bar some scratch marks because I'm doing this with very little support and had no idea how to cut their nails or repair their skin) and I finally feel at peace.

Being a dad is awesome, and while I face so much uncertainty I am ready for whatever comes my way. I love these girls and now I can feel it. Their mother? Well, after her family ignored my pleas for help they now wish they had of listened because they were looking forward to raising my kids. They broke down in tears reading the court reports and coming to me to try and arrange access. They're stuck with someone who told me I'd taken her only reason to live. Thank goodness. If that's where she is, then we likely won't see her again soon as she fails to do anything about her significant issues. Neither will her family, as they sit there to enable her to do nothing with her life.

She had a man who loved her so much he would do anything. Well almost, because thankfully the line was drawn at giving me a bash.

Tl;DR I'm a new solo father and am excited as I am scared, but am loving seeing my children react now that they are away from violence and abuse.",3.550716633568445,5.157377331781145,4.117525679654868,88.04156688694107,73.1210710128056,6.869006368554406,24.85586865712525,7.45546127846077,1.0781887831267545,3404,105,689,39,68,1076,371,859,0.126,0.6920000000000001,0.182,0.9961,3,0,0,0,4,0,116.0,15,4,16,6,40,47,6,4,38,5,82,13,2,8,4,123,150,58,0,20,14,10,5,1,0,7,5,12,6,12,27,55,1,6,14,7,4,12,13,15,3,12,39,22,125,32,90,96,13,104,1,4,5,5,133,34,1,14,53,469,152,5,0.0,0.23093336728489314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758579062159156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03313592457853621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019608101172215,0.0,0.04555302114743789,0.0,0.13734142072120248,0.0,0.0,0.2079240212460348,0.0,0.041462955021848484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497555553271472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154653960459823,0.1259215836357347,0.0,0.0,0.05465129845118677,0.11671325908165398,0.0,0.0,0.06284956613171469,0.0,0.0419683590126387,0.04945672058568891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503478549692476,0.0,0.09655086197822542,0.044076219721754746,0.12316340197258875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187066318011232,0.0,0.04927551242759131,0.0,0.0,0.16013362632020478,0.08907090462105932,0.04144702829389276,0.0,0.05342646898266907,0.0,0.0,0.12728882333445118,0.04674322844160717,0.02769258814169565,0.040869764601819805,0.03897130812746204,0.0,0.0,0.04824723601054727,0.0430889868932466,0.1556118933270603,0.04364968095903602,0.04810767012845338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306423046517717,0.0,0.14663099129458493,0.04839675026711613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500667539895953,0.0,0.05085816511135302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033699681501175,0.03971888103820643,0.0,0.0,0.10588371633915668,0.0,0.10325163202538756,0.0238054745064224,0.09767419662342873,0.12908008690970188,0.0,0.0409182764744472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219889393965272,0.0,0.03252554648872063,0.04940137145354327,0.0,0.05307781746951081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038893301698944664,0.05178892338831838,0.10745950993691784,0.0,0.0,0.14118206762280705,0.0,0.0,0.04774196106237659,0.04675472062683382,0.0,0.20452250258135196,0.05189249818671536,0.0,0.07411792058243317,0.0,0.0,0.054105393410552115,0.0,0.0,0.033781058086640205,0.0,0.10181836121277626,0.05348744190190954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04957271758142942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04898393628597155,0.0,0.0,0.04874002979923861,0.0,0.0,0.050099310689138206,0.0,0.05231439453930108,0.0,0.041612458215381405,0.2317519331035457,0.07749908360315229,0.14635221280068295,0.0,0.11648695704627135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04128609647747114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244555356143634,0.1038726639792758,0.0389133202606286,0.0,0.0,0.05093987668712231,0.0,0.0,0.055294644704543934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03916479116440847,0.0425894090493687,0.13458339285139995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047873876460232764,0.038683670995681714,0.11365205747066218,0.0,0.0,0.046560587225109584,0.0,0.09924698491868407,0.0,0.28559427559623096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04020474907714279,0.17244212902818856,0.15470840168130706,0.039085734796744216,0.0,0.1314338528281499,0.045170272212191984,0.043968397394365935,0.05440178076955296,0.05603346542377943,0.04697093843142941,0.05284218336152388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307075834289196,0.0,0.0,0.09413546916332556
parenting,TheFlyingMunkey,2020/03/31,"Trying to teach our 3 year old the concept of sharing Previously she would see us holding or using an object and demand that we give it to her, threatening a tantrum if we didn't comply.

Now she demands said object, and says ""Daddy, share!"" before the inevitable tantrum.

Long way to go...",5.032222222222224,6.615810925925927,5.408333333333335,80.33250000000002,69.37037037037037,6.881481481481483,30.16666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.8988666666666665,226,9,39,2,4,72,46,54,0.18100000000000002,0.772,0.047,-0.7901,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,7,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,3,7,2,4,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,12,0,0,2,4,24,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660835619541061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999690860051689,0.17771387708829822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767285090314495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281246835756031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974480705364449,0.24867055667450225,0.0,0.0,0.2491803782897625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123018909003912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37613803396142,0.27007127729225283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24820567276196984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22213218438342736,0.0,0.0,0.2013677102689203
parenting,RsL2303,2020/03/31,"Help with Sleep  My LO is 6 weeks today. Over the last week sleeping hasn't been great. Bedtime routine is changed, feed, burp, wait 15-20min to make sure fully asleep, and place in bassinet. This worked the first time. I get two hours if I'm lucky. After that LO can't be put down without waking 15-20min later. And I make sure LO has been changed and burped again. 

It all started when we first started having gassy/colic issues. That's under control now. But one of the things done to sooth was laying LO head on my chest and running back or patting butt. That would settle LO enough to sleep. But I was a bad Mom and fell asleep myself like that. I always managed to get LO in the bassinet without waking though. 

It super frustrating because during the day this isn't an issue. Same routine with the exception of placing LO in a napper not the bassinet. LO sleeps 3-4hrs with no issue then. 🤦🏼‍♀️ And it's the same pattern the rest of the day. Until 11pm-1am hits. Then it goes out the window. 
I've been tried keeping LO awake a bit longer before and or after feeding to see if that would help sleep in the evening. 

Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated.",1.989094827586208,4.454282961206896,2.4740275862068977,93.8537310344828,81.45689655172414,4.401655172413792,21.78,5.414198509911553,0.00984875862068968,925,29,186,4,25,284,141,232,0.051,0.851,0.098,0.872,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,5,6,9,1,0,16,0,18,16,12,3,4,38,29,19,0,5,10,1,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,0,12,13,2,3,0,0,0,3,7,2,0,4,6,1,8,7,26,17,7,36,0,0,1,1,5,11,1,5,23,114,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856012138035904,0.0,0.0,0.06995932265943494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079105423754804,0.08589730393192208,0.06271235772919949,0.0,0.08754004258767767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231413179809432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176586917095604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538437121444435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326932364779168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527803867772828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062985830576642,0.0,0.06794873934252166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501283350731622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749710443707274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268426789019873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055806291170788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791145501981406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131230358856386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221279769446957,0.0,0.09144106583625976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385780839275274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0502600996724422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734128323993045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204873257075164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971155453598475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21496740095049366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341896438221763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197898722981536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5147523244391069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563256376559916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19391914348986325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683463553961434,0.0,0.10107531366149987,0.0,0.05998792142236594,0.0,0.09751457916890036,0.0,0.0,0.06984616574724846,0.0,0.1004950685711178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504211467198635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983379114442676,0.0,0.0748950762440913,0.0,0.0,0.21924083627954116,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AJM202020,2020/03/31,"Raising a child with low IQ Hi, I have a 13 year old daughter with an law of 75. I am naturally worried about her future.

I was wondering if there were any parents out there who have adult children with a similar IQ. I’d love to know what the future looks like for my daughter and would be interested to know what employment your child is in as well of any strategies or resources you found helpful. Anything positive would be great.

Thank you :)",4.045764119601326,5.9256662674418585,4.568870431893688,84.1882558139535,72.37209302325581,7.70498338870432,30.890365448504987,8.418075326091056,2.3566132890365457,353,16,68,6,7,112,65,86,0.043,0.685,0.273,0.9726,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,0,4,7,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,0,0,14,17,4,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,8,6,12,10,0,7,0,1,1,1,15,3,0,3,5,44,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32995050474363713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19963783827401693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659966581847021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26746562700966714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626086147775912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666515067443463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852133943689155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037215823567033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21895455596736213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545662442517922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693768484240277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22335204145872592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181251246828532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630876502414595,0.0,0.2463704830427225,0.0,0.3446699302821981,0.0,0.0,0.15622543588657195
parenting,Womanhustler,2020/03/31,"Thinking of teaching kids book summaries (out of boredom) Hi , out of shear boredom, thinking of taking kids(friends/family etc) through summaries and key takeaways of some good non fiction books online (zoom/Skype)

Obviously this will require me to read all these books, and write summaries before getting onto a session.

Do you think that’s a good idea ? Should I make it paid or keep it free(considering there’d be significant effort required to read, make summaries, taking through takeaways etc. )

Any other ideas ?",6.837790697674418,10.025701558139538,5.342034883720931,75.90979651162795,68.30232558139535,6.16046511627907,36.33139534883721,7.1686216300943375,2.9349581395348845,418,22,58,4,8,122,64,86,0.027000000000000003,0.88,0.09300000000000001,0.6868,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,2,20,14,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,3,5,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,12,10,4,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,34,9,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290551741657928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148663270555616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233040456834311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789052906813449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915088517208416,0.0,0.0,0.3183526432951465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4284712839123409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868291785573367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533558438661113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796576141811425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853780495380343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648051824337655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jordaneasb,2020/03/31,"The mother of my child is lazy - please advice The mother of my child is incredibly lazy - advice please

I’m not with the mother of my child, and single. 

She’s incredibly lazy and lacks any motivation to do anything. She’s unemployed, never worked (apart from volunteering in a charity shop 15 odd years ago), and failed university. 

I had to pay for a DNA test after meeting my Son when he was 9 months old, didn’t know I had a son until that point. I was unknowingly an in-between one night stand when she temporarily broke up with her ex (now ex again). My life was a reality TV show for a while! 

Discipling my 3 year old Son is her essentially saying “don’t do that” with no authority in her voice. I’ve said this to her many times, she needs to look him in the eyes and tell him off sternly. 

Once I was round hers, my Son kept trying to go into a shed filled with dangerous stuff to a toddler. Her answer was to just let him get on with it. I went to the door closed it and told him “no”. He started crying because he couldn’t get what he wanted and went inside to have a tantrum. Her response when he asked for his tablet was to hand it over to him! I told her not too as it’s rewarding bad behaviour. It’s no wonder he doesn’t listen to her! I dread to think what’s going on when I’m not around. 

My concern is for later on down the line. I discipline my Son like a responsible adult, she doesn’t and my Son May start seeing me as the bad guy because he can run round doing whatever he likes round his Mother, and has boundaries with his Father, which may result in a strained relationship with my Son. 

She’s also incredibly lazy when it comes to housework, I go round there to find her sink with an inch of dirt, washing up is 99% of the time not done and all over the kitchen sides, piles of stuff a charity shop probably wouldn’t accept, the list goes on. Worrying as shes my Sons mother, and is meant to lead by example by being a role model. 

She’s also incredibly stupid. She recently moved into a new house (on the tax payer 👍), and decorated some of the rooms before moving in. She didn’t remove the old boarder in my Sons room and didn’t paint to the ceiling! Her answer, she wants to put one up at some point, really?! Why not remove the half ripped boarder on there and paint to the ceiling until you put one on, you’d need to remove the old one anyways! I went round there to steam it off, along with the feature wall. She grabbed the streamer for me and said “I don’t know what goes inside it”, I said “It’s a steamer, water”, her reply, “I don’t know”. Amazing. She really is a tad thick. 

I removed the wall paper and said I’ll come back tomorrow and paint to the ceiling. She then says she doesn’t want me round because she’s isolating due to ‘19. I explained I’m self isolating and the only people I see in person is herself and my Son. She then goes onto the say her boyfriend (who lives and works in another county) is coming to live with her. He’s stopped working now so that’s fine apparently! Where is the common sense?! She won’t have me round improving my Sons bedroom, who’s been self isolating, then allows her boyfriend who’s lives and works in another county and move in. I swear she was dropped on her head! 

I can easily write a book containing her stupidity and laziness. I’m usually good at keeping my cool and not exploding, but she’s bringing me near boiling point. Her stupidity amazes me, for someone who has all the time in world, she has a dirty house, can’t discipline her one child, never worked a day her in life, and has all the time in the world to read/ self educate. 

Guess it’s good to get things out there. 

I try and think to myself, it’s none of my business, but I want the best for my Son. Him living in a dirty shithole with a lazy mother, not showing him discipline isn’t fair to him. When he stays with me, he’s always clean, my place is always clean and tidy, he’s disciplined and I spend quality time with him and play. 

If anyone has advice to deal with this or stories which may be of use to me, please reply",3.422101972770214,4.586827284503634,4.576697892271664,86.36789921803678,72.76513317191284,7.789274798555155,24.67899813440241,8.249195462096736,1.3014011272972654,3171,92,677,49,61,1042,341,826,0.07200000000000001,0.846,0.08199999999999999,0.9113,3,0,0,0,0,0,97.0,0,2,0,10,22,23,5,2,50,1,56,9,3,5,5,111,104,50,0,10,12,21,10,2,0,5,3,9,7,10,28,51,3,9,13,8,5,22,27,11,0,6,25,24,105,12,108,69,9,123,0,2,11,0,121,54,0,10,46,429,133,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18459874737188225,0.055818525566966606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071312593428748,0.10479107990197056,0.0,0.0,0.042821314353752166,0.13205769862754801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04402963058959861,0.0,0.051818406135049684,0.05605606790619304,0.05886783794712897,0.0,0.0,0.04841953994010547,0.10515354677501493,0.11515658594608386,0.0,0.053582275237798516,0.0,0.06608244336113506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272754677504422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916886938526942,0.04061001862109469,0.06491863039179759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443950309112231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755284113940285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869665241671446,0.0,0.10736079078831516,0.1056313991438768,0.0,0.0,0.06936783346170408,0.06234955222120385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462471529489029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531634091082835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055970047681537315,0.0,0.0,0.10381891673788847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439042223214557,0.08895422211660083,0.06152728316143325,0.0,0.2224123434479468,0.0,0.052878391112135006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384103306080449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05026153093626472,0.2007793471883441,0.0,0.09338194383750932,0.09713168260660708,0.060816186416850965,0.0,0.0590924652332827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643029427078398,0.06706029802150806,0.2133482913639641,0.047891024875199265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043655015694578914,0.05498240378182497,0.06578956386357128,0.20736429655655347,0.17857915539508973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678916048931031,0.0,0.0,0.12660316925904924,0.0,0.0,0.06298638605051543,0.0,0.08067955049293568,0.0,0.06217463215219257,0.06760551160973782,0.0,0.0,0.23959307019777296,0.1502272531991427,0.0,0.0,0.10035683163083704,0.0,0.19707228185489867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053353722227093205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914005390686193,0.06711694412624608,0.0,0.052645192545135236,0.0,0.0,0.1441696709735604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055037983585491314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041834035237858606,0.08069642820522561,0.0,0.0,0.18358965917667328,0.0,0.0,0.12033981652367645,0.0,0.08550410456164816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054385296887273525,0.0693518379927581,0.0,0.1485638061784956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751196428448904,0.05682004019511845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828756926638274,0.2292121679771544,0.06394842711366776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811003881366829
parenting,ilikecats03,2020/03/31,"Mom vs dad So I'm looking for opinion here. I'm a mother of two. They have different father's but one was an accident that made me a better person and one was planned. I am single. I live with my mother. Long story but I was with my daughters dad for 5 years and it didn't work. So my question is... Why is it ok for a women to live with her parents but when a guy says he lives with his parents it's a bad thing. I mean, I can afford an apartment. I choose to live with my mother because I'm saving for a down payment for a house. I have a job, I work on my car, I fix what needs fixed. I'm doing the same things a man would. But because I'm a female it's not so bad. If it were the same situation but I was a man would that be a bad thing? Everyone likes to think mom's are mom's. That's not true. Some mom's pull the dead beat dad shit. I don't get child support. All I ask is they're in they're kids life. If they can help then help. That's it. Why the bashing on guys?",-2.0305064954021295,-0.18305009502262407,0.8057071960297755,101.9836476426799,97.46153846153842,3.575594803678296,14.821339950372211,5.181179040167988,-1.1760122317909798,743,17,192,4,31,255,114,221,0.162,0.758,0.08,-0.9684,5,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,2,5,5,10,1,0,18,1,20,2,1,1,2,32,33,14,1,5,10,14,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,8,14,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,4,0,3,7,2,22,6,18,23,5,11,0,0,1,0,32,5,1,5,5,117,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101293211051179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714047460642577,0.1320990744798682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582732556937294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320334515058834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353366845186993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566087311958583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214568313440053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525028421796154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502207743968535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752127965269599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653125296399431,0.0529346439075453,0.0,0.3827023588923726,0.09588689630841717,0.0909872388345376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252398415459574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180255981194676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5075957845898874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034061785993872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684237952783466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24062110023411135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460758921323964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213775007228839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616476837265268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122036274528002,0.0,0.12179064574264795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295500880016495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159500284829572,0.06942670750545955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058428197306832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19553917806832946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577610954712532,0.0,0.0,0.1539383549984383,0.0,0.0,0.06977425210723405
parenting,Charlie8005,2020/03/31,"What is your most embarrassing moment as a parent? Here's mine.... I moved my family to a new city after accepting a wonderful job with a great company.  Once I was settled, I decided to have a casual cocktail party for my new boss and the folks in my department.

I like to think I'm pretty real, so I'm not about hiding my kids or shuffling them off for the day - no, they were there at the house, enjoying the company.  

The party was going well and so it continued through bath-time and bed-time, but there was a lot going on and our attention was a bit divided.  My 4-year-old was just getting use to dressing himself for bed at the time, when he had a moment that he felt he needed to share.  So in all his naked glory, he walked into the middle of the living room and announced, ""Look, Daddy - I'm all the way big"".

I love him, so I've chosen not to ever remind him of this moment.  But he's 17 now, so it's there if I need it.",3.368828218413712,3.8977414507772035,5.362694300518137,83.05734555599842,72.3160621761658,8.632762056596254,24.690713431646074,8.841846274778883,1.6121473893981668,712,19,152,13,13,248,118,193,0.019,0.802,0.179,0.9791,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,2,0,15,10,0,1,17,0,9,1,0,2,3,30,23,16,0,3,7,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,7,1,0,6,2,0,5,3,1,1,0,8,2,20,9,23,15,5,28,0,0,1,1,17,10,0,5,13,105,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939470110958427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778717336452996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520761090822192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721759814289271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536227175834054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542144281499744,0.0,0.2075961303231636,0.0,0.0,0.20136036059946025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107411129167993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812412223527406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922828669450275,0.0,0.1612737579644116,0.0,0.15337092748652806,0.0,0.0,0.15527331492432495,0.16483900693111947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19411656350079545,0.0,0.2708493022505543,0.0,0.3527881511056593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164911511092395,0.19450478520178266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027992155188146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580972437193205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788339216550528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702782344908758,0.0,0.0,0.10649838511595774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774162658510105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497049424013495,0.0,0.0,0.16421457311355395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806441939535746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761365546904835
parenting,santyjnu,2020/03/31,"How to engage an aggressive and hyperactive toddler My daughter(18 months old) is very aggressive with people and her first reaction is to hit them with her hands, or with  whatever she can lay her hands on. She does it playfully and is amused by it, but could it be a sign of a behavioral problem? She gets very excited upon seeing kids of her own age but starts hitting them. Also, it is very difficult to get her attention to anything. She doesn't respond when called by her name. She hasn't started talking yet but seems to understand what is said. She has learnt few words like paani( water in Hindi), etc. Overall, I see kids her age less aggressive and more attentive. can something be done to improve her behavior? What are the ways to get her more focussed ? Please help.",4.653528735632187,6.770373289655176,4.828706896551727,81.96489942528737,71.27586206896551,8.695402298850576,30.014367816091948,9.2995712137729,2.8134712643678164,617,26,112,14,12,193,93,145,0.07200000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.147,0.9209,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,2,1,4,10,3,0,4,0,15,3,2,1,0,21,27,11,0,2,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,7,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,5,19,5,17,20,6,13,0,0,2,0,25,3,0,2,10,80,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694188758716265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512075876626156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762556471386785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467065067797115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607976668075894,0.1880363087045175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20492574844455333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15629454918595448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879996479129982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231613034194992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976918392692736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666458140946112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19281088207743585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127386581427213,0.0,0.0,0.20169831139379185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582043892422114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478485381654935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928440982305331,0.16727577359395532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145691522154968,0.0,0.0,0.2601132207780359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768835380907738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912864277505511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548299401049487,0.0,0.1458492978350778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,44garand,2020/03/31,"Help me love my newborn Im a new dad with a son who will be 1mo old in just a few days. My wife stays at home and i am luckily still working despite this wonderful situation were all in. I love my son most of the time, but every night from about 11-2 he is the most obnoxious screaming inconsolable demon alive. I dread it. He wants to eat non stop, but is also too busy screaming to eat. Tonight my wife caught me telling my son hes a piece of shit and i just wish he would shut the fuck up, among other things. Im sick of people always saying ill miss him being so little, absolutely not. Ive always loved children, but ive never been more angry at a child than i am at my own son every night. Im not a very emotional person, and im in constant physical pain from a skydiving accident 6 years ago. I know paternal depression is a thing. But with everything going on right now, im not much of a priority. And to top ot all off, i cant even sneak out for a drink with a friend or for some time away. I just dont know how to handle my anger and borderline hatred towards this baby.",2.6027176984330858,3.5964489737991268,4.503704084253791,86.76584639095816,74.54585152838429,8.008322630362189,24.387618802979713,8.4952907291091,1.376146981762138,841,25,188,15,17,288,144,229,0.266,0.636,0.099,-0.9943,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,2,11,13,3,1,14,0,16,11,1,1,3,34,28,13,0,3,11,7,0,0,1,2,3,3,1,4,7,9,3,1,3,1,0,2,6,9,0,0,3,3,21,4,30,21,10,35,1,2,0,4,24,17,2,5,15,119,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597812981211698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658646369213321,0.18018483590930548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017267345800998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700543843857385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982759933728089,0.0,0.09325600599488958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268960065413433,0.1060670362989262,0.0,0.22158211509095152,0.0,0.12179337431159808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151377827870771,0.0,0.18245057662365471,0.0,0.09730944803803387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365201611125825,0.10009731975972852,0.0,0.0,0.0615344565885519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725735996856755,0.0,0.10860738045604344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5847710476032544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900882208802405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851872315423887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931638089875664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795936505393442,0.0,0.08350737633603261,0.10457144425270838,0.0,0.2032151240639168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361506725264492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521088382215655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506337225367157,0.0945404457382733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246517481484233,0.0,0.08610361680948189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114142910260044,0.0,0.12170421031773587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540539114049402,0.08646754156895678,0.09052168742828852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463601339358194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386451178495605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627056670983744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933716755120097,0.06386265191506704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450944736487728,0.0,0.11741824279718227,0.07882456581994456,0.0,0.0,0.07691455209246716,0.0,0.0,0.06972473297469282
parenting,Oscarthomaspros,2020/03/31,Should I be getting out of my son’s room if he asks? Should I? He has been asking me to get out regularly and I don’t is this right?,-2.9845161290322584,-1.4160120322580632,0.5312258064516122,102.29683870967743,104.80645161290323,3.7703225806451615,12.651612903225805,5.6839178017228535,-1.3309406451612902,101,2,28,1,5,36,26,31,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,11,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,4,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,0,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8108556539717701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531548489576248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37035630315711604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Imaginary_Educator,2020/03/31,"Overcoming the Common Challenges Encountered by Caregivers **Overcoming the Common Challenges Encountered by Caregivers**

1.Caregivers should reach out to others

2.Caregivers should always stay healthy

3.Caregivers should keep in touch with people

Source: [Overcoming the Common Challenges Encountered by Caregivers](https://www.onecaregiversjourney.com/overcoming-the-common-challenges-encountered-by-caregivers/)",18.103951367781146,24.954839638297877,9.875379939209727,36.220000000000034,56.8723404255319,13.749544072948327,49.267477203647424,10.914260884657429,9.657841337386019,361,20,21,13,7,91,26,47,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,14,1,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4726579241313202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5049034054317244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938100287815024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6054590813345121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChaliceMink,2020/03/31,"How to deal with parents - advice How to kindly deal with my parents - advice

Hi! I need advice - I am someone who has lived on my own for over 4 years but because of the distancing I came down to stay with my parents. It was good timing bc i just left and job and was about to start a new one that requires working remotely- so I came to my parents place with the intention of being with them for a week and then going back to my place.

Within that week my location became a hotsite for the spread and on top of that my parents were getting sent a lot of rumors and fake videos from fam who spams those videos bc they themselves dont know any better. So with that they became extremely paranoid to the point I got yelled at and treated like a criminal for going for a walk, and for a work related errand.

Now to the mix - my girlfriend is being affected by the distance. She is a nurse near where I live and she’s all alone, (and i know it’d increas my risk of getting it if i went to see her) I’m sure all of this is affecting her mental health and I want to be with her more than anything. However, right now my parents wont let me leave (they dont know about my gf btw) . My mom got super upset and said things like sorry for caring too much, you guys are old enough to make ur own decisions leave me out of them etc. in the family group chat, then she left the family group chat and hasnt talked to anyone all day.

I love my mom but I love my girlfriend too. I know leaving worries my mom and parents, but not being with my girlfriend is hurting her and the relationship (especially since now they are saying closing of business is until end of april - my one week is going to turn into 7)

I really truly dont know what to do :( I wish I felt secure in my relationship to not have to go see her but I worry about my gf :/ and i also know if i leave my mom will lose respect for me. Any advice on how I can get my parents to see my point of view? Or if I should even leave?",2.5483713503649628,3.8126723309002455,4.032687804136256,89.02633097627739,75.08272506082723,6.792001216545013,23.54934610705596,7.292943589461545,0.8119397201946472,1532,44,333,17,32,509,197,411,0.107,0.757,0.135,0.9124,10,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,6,7,18,18,0,2,17,0,29,3,0,7,4,64,63,32,0,7,11,12,1,2,5,3,1,3,0,1,13,28,0,2,8,4,0,9,7,5,0,2,11,8,61,13,62,43,10,50,0,2,4,2,52,22,0,5,20,235,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360317414459503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254108575075377,0.0,0.048290200040292934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212831513064835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042222890991571525,0.0,0.049692057014760656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464326620363715,0.0,0.036810392685205896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05340599846093955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812967148294306,0.06156696205793717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038943601534763686,0.12450943683377287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123137940585232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348356042019907,0.06239428281631505,0.06734570753301504,0.03988400162633862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385200311877383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05797947467889821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464667180760804,0.0,0.1372737072897397,0.05064842688451627,0.09659147634042536,0.0,0.0,0.05979106141833261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418687968157379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064643843016111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992321356702252,0.0,0.0,0.06288212450226126,0.19911749181572536,0.0,0.0,0.3196972138858856,0.13121787506027982,0.06174818508360168,0.0,0.05900253386514805,0.0,0.10664286761925608,0.0,0.0,0.06755584106233681,0.0,0.0513375262574705,0.1090004016557,0.0,0.04030773798828167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085430242641567,0.0,0.0,0.2828907050208969,0.0,0.0,0.04439023309865591,0.04477502516411818,0.0,0.058320616712337486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336434231486038,0.0,0.08183744927105298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5364069186912453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617982691187174,0.0,0.11416748389125385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03868444749701077,0.0,0.0,0.1296626889166642,0.0,0.051568820323298084,0.057440364305976876,0.04802091115196312,0.0,0.0,0.14435808927304558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049951444963671834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051164371979112715,0.0,0.0,0.06759653593867143,0.04274111239058834,0.06436282516073044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056912545465636524,0.0,0.0,0.048535514727421895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0401173910826075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03521122508998598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568199886716629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035616886342043484,0.0,0.14531262905725267,0.0,0.0,0.05597789103466072,0.0,0.0,0.06944025502109193,0.0,0.0,0.08792261259377873,0.12264865414249962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038886231860394534
parenting,rusticlife2,2020/03/31,"HELP!! Am I crazy?? I am a step parent to my so’s son(3y) 
First.... A tiny back story first, my so’s son is with us (custody is every other Friday-Tuesday) we picked him up on Friday at 3pm, mom then texted us at 5pm saying to keep an eye on him because she went to the doctors and had a positive strep throat test (she’s been sick for 3 days prior before she finally went to the doctors) 

Okay now onto the craziness...

So with the recent outbreak going around I have already been in a routine to disinfect and sanitize everything in my house twice a day (overkill?? Maybe but I have a heart condition and don’t want to deal with it or any sickness) so tonight being Monday night I asked his son to help me pick up his toys and he did I left out 5 of his toys he absolutely loves and I disinfected all the other toys and put them in the closet where he can’t get to them. Then tomorrow when we get back home I’ll deep sanitize everything mostly in his room and the living room and kitchen just to make sure and be safe. So my question is, is this over kill? Am I crazy? My so thinks I’m nuts and insulting his child, what do y’all think? Again I have a heart condition that’s been getting a little worse and his sons nose has been running and he has been coughing so to me this is all practical and I have been doing this for almost 3 weeks not just since his son came down.",2.691328671328669,3.92129533566434,3.961818181818185,89.8127272727273,74.66433566433567,7.158041958041958,23.839160839160837,7.686295010490155,0.9418867132867136,1070,31,237,14,22,351,158,286,0.092,0.8270000000000001,0.081,-0.7306,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,1,2,2,16,6,2,0,16,1,28,12,5,3,3,40,43,25,1,1,5,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,1,8,21,1,2,3,3,0,7,3,2,0,3,11,3,36,4,31,30,3,47,0,0,1,1,38,21,0,4,19,158,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356051994075465,0.0,0.13616752435320162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391164417610764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984615710760026,0.1153560357916342,0.0,0.0,0.18976359170390344,0.0,0.07521938245220662,0.0,0.1049985709629775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411290104417835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915688175133336,0.12721302687803748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525964485423621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396413855248383,0.0,0.22179580082467668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351712785375209,0.0,0.2099164779368792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340364731795387,0.0,0.0701272299480866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924432006328652,0.16541579451486044,0.0,0.12377349481164113,0.0,0.0,0.14237924822612227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967759389107608,0.1365163535165108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340671317083213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367245725748187,0.108958504108498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113672294900482,0.0,0.08236595532821975,0.0,0.12396510900254352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451668795761846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157962101578917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701360615769262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404430189450735,0.13822868455235066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218359522277956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812726836501943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207217496684973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629668176370245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581308297522254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968537835312419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278053832323463,0.0,0.09897862553533712,0.0,0.0,0.2287735656944699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574826778813367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,walnutgenius547,2020/03/31,"Cry baby cry? Okay, my son just turned 6 months old and his mother and I have different opinions on how to react to his crying. This is specific to when he's going down to sleep. I'm of the opinion that crying takes a lot of energy and will tire him out so my preferred intervals are more on the 5-10 minute range before picking up and trying to sooth him a bit. She pretty much goes to soothe him as soon as he starts crying and doesn't agree with me that crying takes energy and will eventually lead to a better night sleep, which we very much need because he does wake up at least once a night for some reason or another. Thoughts?",4.92482558139535,5.200026317829458,5.517354651162794,84.22626453488374,68.76744186046511,8.620542635658914,24.652131782945727,8.472884824447931,1.3407899224806203,501,11,104,7,8,162,91,129,0.149,0.748,0.10400000000000001,-0.8111,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,6,1,6,4,3,5,0,23,14,12,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,11,2,20,11,7,16,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,5,7,65,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293624249159847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146834614214179,0.0,0.09976250760607216,0.0,0.0,0.10368915150440944,0.12799559032147398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7726950556907555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249072732002488,0.0,0.0,0.10259741404272052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663012883818746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996731582851266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357975823290092,0.0,0.17236961156897013,0.08693188970620208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004338136571933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302353817180617,0.12485665197577815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927511225779835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054212877616804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346491098889562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298299452965117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629960672692038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307537342439616,0.0,0.13475000192956155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959818656286198,0.12752332936217214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673518405755606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,penneontopofcheese,2020/03/31,"Terrified I’m raising a demon child I’m very aware babies and toddlers go through Leaps and they push boundaries etc etc 

My son is coming up 18 months (Q) and he is one defiant, stubborn, cheeky little man!! I love him and his cheeky wee face to bits but I am honestly scared that I’m not going to get the behaviour under control before he gets into the habit of it. 

If he’s hitting I generally now just hold his hands, sternly tell him no and then say nothing else, if he’s throwing or hitting us with toys I take them away from him until he shows he uses it right. He’s super clever and definitely understand everything we’re saying to him but I still feel he’s far off the listening stage😂 

I completely understand he is still a baby but the amount of hitting and billing and ignoring he does is driving me mad. I don’t have many mummy friends so I don’t know if this is normal?? I’m part of a group chat with some other mums who’s kids are the same age as Q and they’re already talking about naughty steps, potty training and big boy beds and I just feel lost with it all😅

Maybe this post is just for a bit of reassurance that everyone is winging it like me??",2.3785357142857144,4.19873659166667,3.8138095238095246,88.07500000000002,76.83333333333334,6.904761904761906,25.595238095238088,7.793537801064563,1.3723988095238089,922,34,193,14,21,304,154,240,0.09300000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.126,0.9063,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,2,3,9,12,2,1,9,0,12,3,2,2,0,41,34,22,0,4,11,2,3,1,1,0,0,3,1,4,10,16,0,4,5,3,1,7,4,5,0,1,1,6,21,7,21,30,8,24,1,1,0,1,36,9,0,5,8,107,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568381638488759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353085389908148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209376696448847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103267708430826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242786261354352,0.149015065999325,0.0,0.15940495978327807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437430116444635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872696740284995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31701326591872514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358062615974906,0.12773253503714516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437250586797365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980520693820817,0.0,0.14850860154850254,0.0,0.16154550849197688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810802981405465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943495971477162,0.14244630800975552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514592202095542,0.0,0.12827310967958316,0.0,0.0,0.14409215980155438,0.14278338516938413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344259640412155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139252050706907,0.13637250298555356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630738920946123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390722295903622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611619587746626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137373523212547,0.0,0.2260465653169331,0.1422916396428273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22700197166293026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686010260013576,0.11423446720225998,0.1242232706103394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295913693849633,0.17095854008429348,0.12275012659134504,0.0,0.11726777938245972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yung-n123,2020/03/31,"Is it unreasonable to take my 17 year olds phone at 12am every night? My son is a senior in high school and is arguing with me in regards to his phone being taken every night. He's a senior in high school, and says he's old enough to make his own decisions.",5.035212121212119,4.180433490909092,6.363636363636362,82.09212121212124,68.63636363636364,9.515151515151514,25.60606060606061,8.841846274778883,1.5136060606060604,202,4,45,3,3,69,37,55,0.057999999999999996,0.9420000000000001,0.0,-0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,8,5,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,7,24,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218052989967995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556079740458553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.445934855548267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086583562577826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.396079419978536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428862285279123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782151801470785,0.0,0.4271523226224904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867018026501128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589801409706329
parenting,Crazynuff,2020/03/31,"14 year old lacks empathy I have a 14 year old that has always struggled with gender identity. Her father and I have always been very accepting of this. Born a girl we have had a lot of changes very quickly in the past year as puberty has begun to rear it's ugly head. This is not the problem though. I told her tonight that my grandmother, her great grandmother is now in hospice care and is not doing well. The first thing she says is "" can I wear a suit to the funeral?"". I, not so calmly, explained that what she said was very insensitive and very selfish. I may have gone overboard and told her that the world does not revolve around her and that she is not the center of everything. I feel bad and she started crying and telling me that she is sorry. Once things calmed down I sat her down and explained why I was so upset with what she said and that I felt she was only thinking of herself. I don't know what to do here. She is a really good kid and I try really hard to make her see that we love her. I do love my kid but right now I do not like what she has become as far as being selfish. I support her in every way possible but this makes it hard for me to like her as a person. Any ideas on how to help her become a little more empathetic would be great. Also, we already see a therapist as a family to get through the gender identity issues.",4.220256718812679,4.692162122743682,5.236215403128764,84.93080124348177,70.37184115523465,8.466024869634978,26.941235459286,8.515128840125781,1.6697189731247493,1056,32,224,16,18,348,141,277,0.109,0.775,0.11599999999999999,0.7857,0,0,0,1,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,1,11,19,0,2,16,0,29,4,2,3,0,40,51,22,1,3,8,1,4,2,0,2,0,3,0,4,19,16,0,0,8,0,0,1,7,6,1,1,12,9,43,13,27,35,3,28,0,0,2,2,40,12,0,2,16,166,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577056227101272,0.08389632134770113,0.17458669924642425,0.0,0.0,0.07134225486948659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339195547589374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759529276097817,0.0,0.23172924194088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696252301511666,0.0,0.1109806475263828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152384783884086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918072644088496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839102299475368,0.0,0.09428615484048282,0.0,0.09889961350089883,0.0,0.05304554212908381,0.0,0.10072985067721907,0.0,0.0,0.08923621398031148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481103540563784,0.0,0.0,0.0879933546374505,0.0,0.2313268281953575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879571313346397,0.0,0.107667711255857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031882099074611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843038351124364,0.0,0.1094985645856652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765567708486625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250724862081256,0.10514717060580696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919055204780765,0.18937036327670656,0.0,0.1400561992388593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201703542498316,0.11172550271462986,0.0,0.07978862288957292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014826556907172,0.0,0.09160318227355556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182700255038105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003845008778082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441579598591372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959238764294489,0.19958646922656345,0.08342847596516323,0.0,0.0,0.16719904020120233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743792107653912,0.07425568949573683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967449111068196,0.0,0.0,0.11905038672089907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169578075117356,0.0,0.0,0.12180835238368085,0.1393948060306036,0.06722195751062902,0.1030733362493402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049160075879605,0.0,0.07122686110976209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34624625594219466,0.0,0.08327250833939373,0.0,0.0,0.0943265005801616,0.0,0.0946647680126478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452490497369042,0.0,0.0,0.20267539592538933
parenting,mopeybopey,2020/03/31,"Kid TRICKING the tooth fairy!? My 6-year-old put some corn kernels under his pillow tonight to try and trick the “Tooth Fairy.” (IDK I think he read it in Calvin & Hobbes.) Help me think of a genius response! I’m thinking of a note from the Tooth Fairy saying, “You naughty boy, how dare you try to trick me, etc.” I want to teach him that trickery, cheating, lying etc. is bad but without ruining his childhood faith in Tooth Fairy/Santa/Easter Bunny etc.!",2.568160919540229,5.063353862068965,2.421379310344829,94.91988505747128,79.34482758620689,4.326436781609195,22.310344827586206,5.033348758259628,-0.02746896551724154,354,11,70,1,9,105,64,87,0.127,0.759,0.114,0.3823,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,0,0,1,7,4,0,5,0,1,4,4,1,0,9,6,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,10,1,10,6,4,6,1,1,0,0,10,3,0,1,2,35,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21894405127033945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872100415550828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6760883799765715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544406000176526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21203972315995226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031373596209687,0.0,0.0,0.20212587456145656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069512180769427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884371801841188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27438614908397235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191868240699032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947894174158529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301272219861427
parenting,CFAlmost,2020/03/31,"I need help My Mom is beyond overprotective and I really would like her to respect boundaries. here’s my problem, I’m a 25 year old guy working in finance doing really well on my own. I am about 175 pounds with abs and go to Muay Thai classes 3 times a week even though Ive been a T1D since 8 years old. So you’d think I’d be a parents ideal kid right? No. 

Last week my mom probably called me 20 times to make sure I was still breathing because of how terrified she is of the recent flu. I get that its real, but I’m just not really going to let it control my life. Terrible answer I should sit in my room and lock the door. Today I got $300 from the ATM. I honestly I just wanted cash but because I never really had a need to switch banks, she can still see my account that I’ve had since 16. She called me an hour later panicked asking if I was using it for drugs. I honestly just cannot deal with her anymore and I’d rather not see her again. Maybe it’s because I’m finally successful enough to just not need a parent anymore more but how do I get the point across that I really don’t enjoy calling her every day.",1.3150572956455306,3.1060418655462168,3.4038808250572963,89.9268143621085,79.92436974789916,6.5121466768525575,21.322383498854087,7.520522993642371,0.7151445378151262,876,25,192,13,22,298,145,238,0.068,0.8059999999999999,0.126,0.9239,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,4,17,11,0,0,11,0,19,4,1,5,2,36,37,12,0,10,12,4,0,1,0,2,3,0,2,2,7,6,0,1,2,0,5,2,7,2,1,0,6,2,32,9,18,26,3,30,0,0,2,0,20,8,0,1,20,116,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20852561670212724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828433583926947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922626847174807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220549320196562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791460666557127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780151688566162,0.10838659434687156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219198762947534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862957849860824,0.0,0.0694387705082183,0.0,0.08857834129450637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516709329022046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985438195808704,0.0,0.11949800757968257,0.0,0.08408375645817211,0.0,0.0,0.10409732281047254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046784067105215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353395613541268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856967056144121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750471062280972,0.07425792203105161,0.051362241016455236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017650320286146,0.0,0.10561934034873646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462589251811921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23386239369855746,0.08108436836524494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206369393737132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334735445742261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938383048543227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133502015476376,0.10059723576183674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966336334888725,0.33675162501851824,0.0,0.10380528044222433,0.0,0.0,0.08978225187525564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755336849009012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393274405523698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167917285869492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908577430748804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736441431631263,0.10329176931462117,0.0,0.12260676354611864,0.0,0.09965295235252952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080039237703748,0.0,0.0,0.06200964537342722,0.0,0.1686612825460818,0.0,0.09452639734695596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653743192045462,0.0,0.0,0.07468283818925837,0.0,0.0,0.13540327048327744
parenting,hannahtaylor_,2020/03/31,"My (24F) 2 yr old (M) slaps and kicks me My 2 yr old son is my first and only child, and he tends to slap or kick me when he’s mad or for no reason. I’m not sure why he does this, he doesn’t do it do his dad and if he does it’s not nearly as much as he does to me. His slaps/kicks (obviously) don’t hurt but I’ve tried a few different methods to teach him it’s wrong and he still does it. I’ve noticed sometimes he’ll kick me when we’re just sitting on the couch together, almost like he wants attention. Not just like one little kick, it’s more like a bunch of fast and hard *for his little legs* kicks. Other times I could just be talking to him or my BF and he’ll just run up to me and slap my legs, from time to time saying ‘no!’ while he does it. I have tried holding him arms still and looking him in his face and telling him ‘no not nice’ or ‘that’s mean, be sweet’, my BF will tell him not to hit mom. I have lightly spanked him or almost patted him per se but then he does it right back so it seems like that almost encourages being physical when I do it back. I’ve tried simply ignoring it and not paying attention. The only method I haven’t really tried is time out or putting him in his room because I’m not sure he would understand the concept of either one of those. He lives in a very loving home, me and my BF aren’t violent in anyway, with each other or him. I’m not sure where this came from and wonder if it’s normal or if anyone else has experienced this with their child? Thanks in advance for any advice!",2.5714584980237163,3.144156269696971,3.951106719367591,92.29013833992094,74.18181818181819,7.193675889328063,21.923583662714094,7.255503002510835,0.39598682476943337,1179,25,284,12,23,390,155,330,0.08,0.836,0.084,0.4869,2,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,1,2,14,17,2,0,6,0,18,5,4,1,4,64,34,34,0,7,26,3,1,4,3,4,0,1,3,2,19,18,0,2,7,0,1,4,14,5,0,3,1,6,34,12,28,24,6,36,0,1,1,1,44,14,0,16,21,166,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188316363784968,0.0,0.0,0.28246665657970066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394232718211147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574662845725861,0.09634289237375514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460359807177428,0.0,0.05731865238036711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075430883181956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507378063347965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823934368245946,0.0,0.0,0.493707703738649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854840576593135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998024734794941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423070177692801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431784324365328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065901763282868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183749505586582,0.18848170127085268,0.08302852824998946,0.0,0.07895991602274398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486402447880477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242415788652123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012456537339883,0.0,0.0,0.06912146691355223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212756648243693,0.0,0.10705160639370917,0.19733333145971854,0.0,0.12743173773173713,0.14302520265300092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094524203579765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023680370839597,0.09667653932789837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029947713556156,0.0,0.07477491307540697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559964385863829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929961876603288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018191207853834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658610928867692,0.0,0.0,0.07557621893779379,0.16436939439990805,0.0865684343949881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931414729307205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25535561025185155,0.0,0.0,0.09788656025100584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758302363563999,0.055460205072224614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484572824277717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196945522106657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679485903215569,0.10280495824517727,0.0,0.0
parenting,belmontgoer,2020/03/31,"My 4 year old “humps” Started about a year ago, she will put one or two hands on her inner thighs and lay down and hump the air.  She used to do it in front of us but we told her not to, we recently started seeing her do it a lot again, she will go in her “fort” and do it, at night time after we put her to bed she does it, and if we walk by her room she stops.

If we address this with her, she gets very embarrassed and shuts down.  

Anyone else experience this?  Is it a big deal?  Do we ignore it?  Continue to try and talk to her about it?  

Thanks for any input!",0.923360655737703,2.064314614754103,2.7089836065573785,97.37003278688525,79.08196721311475,6.191475409836067,17.937704918032786,6.742157984588678,-0.378110819672131,421,7,109,4,10,140,76,122,0.079,0.8909999999999999,0.03,-0.7385,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,7,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,7,4,2,1,0,22,15,10,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,9,13,0,2,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,2,1,2,22,1,18,12,1,29,0,0,1,2,24,11,0,4,13,75,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034462713573034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068028495845155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134367773593571,0.196898004560678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19811594405133287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681668107652666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605310363398167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879763945364984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039943002614653,0.0,0.10921304764008152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337368055623647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033589842171965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016471492624289,0.0,0.13021746731320774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38636222369867385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897419257081605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531323775667336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27203386494697196,0.0,0.0,0.16066038297322835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544567153263733,0.0,0.1769217382865122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205423905691224,0.0,0.0,0.1836239937107844,0.0,0.13046891387926696,0.0,0.18771943035703026,0.0,0.23115347937552855,0.16597076017018947,0.0,0.1585580644847109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24749875130850785
parenting,awesomom,2020/03/31,"Rotten teeth on 3 year old What would cause the front teeth of a 3-4 year old to be completely rotten? My friend’s son has black spots all over his front teeth. In addition, her 5 year old son is severely underweight. I’m not even sure if he weighs 30lbs. I have always been concerned about them possibly being malnourished. Would rotten teeth be a sign of malnourishment? Surely their pediatrician would contact CPS if they were concerned, right? The kids are very very clean and loved and the home is very clean.",4.068020833333332,6.5985005937500025,3.811666666666667,86.73333333333336,74.3125,7.6,22.125,8.515128840125781,1.316175,411,11,79,8,9,124,69,96,0.147,0.727,0.125,-0.336,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,3,0,2,7,0,0,5,0,13,6,4,1,3,14,15,4,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,4,7,4,7,7,1,12,0,0,1,1,12,4,0,2,6,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708719680160686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692461003595347,0.0,0.0,0.17273975932670166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881740794052447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728729737576114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526009265484148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869547549131154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5186397958126986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573357915527464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069765142187127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612331975760812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105543789155815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078139586381407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511061389732503,0.0,0.0,0.3182854364965204
parenting,stmathistrash,2020/03/31,st math is so garbage it is worse than soggy garlic bread dipped in fish sauce I an a kid and my school does st math and it isn't even a grade and my mom is forcing me to do it for some reason it's not even a grade.  Also the jiji is also the slowest (my math teacher even said that) and he cant jump.  Once you fail at 87% he goes up and just turns around he probably has GPA of 0.1 and IQ of 3.,-0.7952136752136738,0.7217194175824204,1.5797069597069608,101.7458485958486,85.5934065934066,4.484004884004884,15.605616605616605,5.033348758259628,-1.1698068376068376,301,5,81,1,9,102,64,91,0.07400000000000001,0.9259999999999999,0.0,-0.765,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,8,1,0,0,6,0,8,1,0,1,0,11,10,9,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,7,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,6,0,9,9,1,5,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,1,0,49,11,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888416086145657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21642592676026484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275357370730547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4817300198828515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28473602488354605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25891197314110903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26212155181523605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499650592434751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312602105345021,0.0,0.0,0.24604767098275224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644417922810296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775728265018904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnlikelyNewspaper,2020/03/31,"11 Month Old Happy all the time I know this is odd and its a good thing I know I am just curious if all babies are like this or we just have a happier than normal baby. He is almost always talking, laughing, smiling and happy talking. 

He is only in unhappy moods when he is tired. Is it a normal thing for children to be so happy?",0.35728260869565176,2.5838860869565248,3.1650543478260893,87.7327989130435,86.68115942028984,5.189130434782608,20.219202898550726,6.6274283507984215,0.4952159420289859,256,8,51,3,8,90,49,69,0.092,0.585,0.32299999999999995,0.9645,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,0,2,14,11,6,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,4,10,2,5,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,3,5,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955885038551948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625249926734289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382827992614085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6237772365022932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21468963068196367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542530961969678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590553995270226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827515738028832,0.0,0.0,0.2049594004916329,0.0,0.0,0.14855250035109896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139876352429913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595288177922511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138948392955536,0.2244958974693081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoCalico,2020/04/01,My 2 year old fed my AirPods to the dog. I called my husband sobbing and he came home from work and told me to go somewhere.... I started running because I can’t go to the gym and they were helping make it a little easier. I still want to scream. It’s just stuff..... it’s just money..... We’re all healthy ..... right?,-1.1515384615384612,0.9052296153846164,0.9234615384615416,100.01903846153849,99.0,3.2153846153846155,20.346153846153847,4.935628992294339,-0.4112769230769233,235,9,54,1,10,77,49,65,0.083,0.784,0.132,0.2831,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,1,9,10,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,4,1,0,0,1,1,4,1,2,0,0,4,1,9,0,5,6,1,10,0,1,0,0,6,2,1,0,4,30,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16649525643418087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27889248801085786,0.31238372368633593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104479391503679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18307080055805167,0.0,0.2739679466461028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737443038436654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231392503829227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866001053755639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332483664915211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933201997764384,0.0,0.21811901470887046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126642667664643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26098388268560624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610969672510147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988391981491633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17588438136813067
parenting,1shMan,2020/04/01,"TIPS FOR A FUSSY 10 MONT OLD My wife and I have a beautiful 10 month old boy. He’s definitely going to be adventurous and have the personality and wit of my wife. So lately he’s unfortunately been sick with a stomach bug and going through a lot of attachment growing pains. Between him never wanting to let go of momma and still being gassy and bloated from being sick he’s been extremely fussy the last few days, which for him is not the normal. We took him off of his formula for a few days while the stomach bug passed and just yesterday reintroduced it and seems like it might be upsetting his gut. He was totally fine on the formula (Kirkland signature btw) before all of this. No other major changes to his diet or daily routines. I’d be happy to answer any more questions if anyone had any ideas on how to help him through this time and will definitely help ease some stress on my wife and I while she’s working from home currently as well. Thank you all in advance for any help and tips!",5.873153846153842,6.3199874564102565,6.541346153846158,77.10740384615386,66.74358974358975,9.782051282051283,31.634615384615394,9.725611199111238,2.8761538461538465,794,30,152,16,12,261,120,195,0.09300000000000001,0.7290000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.9425,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,2,5,9,0,2,10,0,15,7,3,1,4,31,22,18,0,3,4,4,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,2,6,13,1,0,4,0,0,7,3,3,1,0,5,0,15,6,26,9,9,26,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,7,15,103,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216682108852897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024830906009936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416772208749012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679664526074625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033714943287537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26882682151239784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167845355341185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31705374859592017,0.0,0.15815841778971532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177993110572932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852416789763546,0.17786149772928933,0.0,0.0,0.16123085921227098,0.0,0.0770308408085122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404755876011404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726565274143765,0.0,0.0,0.1258527205950281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160678638614847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544856163858423,0.0,0.0,0.33090162378095594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777470390091753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376735839895466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766293346990254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435391625852975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591749757050388,0.0,0.18061336680240334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516369483846736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919401285639208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517999826845584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299935179663288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417665530579698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478749013829095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Some_Guy_You_Met,2020/04/01,"Kids and the Internet Today was a treat: I had to have a conversation with my 10-year-old daughter about why the ""kid"" on Roblox might actually be an adult creep trying to lure her into an inappropriate situation.

I have known the internet was a vile place for decades -- but I'm not sure how to explain to my kid (without fucking up her world) why she needs to be careful.

Good times.",3.958558558558561,5.79637602702703,5.006486486486487,81.13558558558559,72.51351351351352,8.176576576576577,29.90090090090089,8.841846274778883,2.383214414414415,302,13,60,6,6,99,55,74,0.066,0.833,0.10099999999999999,0.3832,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,8,0,8,1,0,1,1,12,13,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,7,4,12,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,5,1,1,2,39,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.24496204885768766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25593448121712736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23206653986054715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21054602055813373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662955290966267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18613023046481567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634062090436954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622654055138127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821601521668343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365860245757576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637341725493294,0.0,0.2379402694190849,0.0,0.0,0.17042800817511608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4530180778819636,0.0,0.0,0.2419770278828133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165045740462936
parenting,imagrady,2020/04/01,"BEP & BEM: Comic Strips On Parenting Topics Do you fall for stereotypes unknowingly when teaching your children?

[https://www.imaworld.com/post/combatting-stereotypes-how-to-talk-to-your-children](https://www.imaworld.com/post/combatting-stereotypes-how-to-talk-to-your-children)",45.149736842105256,58.12194805263158,21.6625,-51.786249999999974,15.84210526315789,8.215789473684211,36.328947368421055,8.07648339933343,5.177094736842107,259,6,11,3,4,57,19,19,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,6,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681883429930151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773232490862957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6508957856937264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5462592662364325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twoprobably,2020/04/01,"Re-entering my son's life and being a dad; looking for advice! Hello,

I will try and make this short, but I (22m) am re-entering my son's life (who is almost 3) in September. It is a difficult and complicated situation that I was unable to be with him for these first few years of life, but I have been working to get to him since we had to separate, and am so happy to be back with him again.

I want to show him the most love and care possible, and I want to know how I can do this as well as how to deal with parenting in general. As you can tell, I am young, he was born when I was 19, but I want to give everything for him and become an active part of his life now. The mother is supportive of me rejoining in their lives, and although I'm not sure we will romantically re-unite/marry or not, I know for certain I want to be a part of our son's life as an active father. I know that we will all benefit so much from having each other.

Please, I would love to hear advice for parenting, re-entering my son's life, being a responsible father, teaching my son how to become a good man, etc. I will happily read any and all comments, suggestions, and literature you think could help. I am beyond excited to become a part of his life, and I want to take on this responsibility of fatherhood to the fullest extent I can.

Thanks in advance\~",8.795019762845854,5.0907378695652215,9.629512516469038,70.71337944664033,63.42028985507247,13.514624505928856,36.68511198945981,11.567385478589935,3.8526637681159417,1036,32,224,24,11,361,140,276,0.026000000000000002,0.718,0.255,0.997,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,4,2,1,3,11,13,0,0,11,0,29,9,0,4,4,46,50,26,0,7,6,11,0,0,0,5,7,1,0,1,9,18,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,1,1,5,2,37,12,40,34,11,16,0,0,1,2,38,7,0,3,8,165,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833332471873288,0.0,0.0,0.10161918118544017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901098002168203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803309996188526,0.0,0.0,0.3362354213910904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346727268949922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102481413749074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462309185544047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317882924332805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120513445953277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632021221465122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301995677408846,0.09735041484921116,0.0,0.0851179662043892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802906913589906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437715866146643,0.0,0.06802098923587806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731492942236842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017562744844345,0.0,0.0,0.08961012770102429,0.0,0.08521900010989464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831822442491509,0.0,0.06773976786455332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460066566946917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22536665393905864,0.3296841081293062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139634192958496,0.0,0.11440527611776101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150908011512716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394664288335545,0.11406959026200462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516013720899948,0.09564522374199856,0.0,0.07630154700343662,0.0,0.08869940689522975,0.09343063913714032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502532300487356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889935702263973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29928243722949965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124416180791173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387982636087295,0.0,0.0,0.07208962959841632,0.0,0.0,0.06535083462426311
parenting,So_very_blessed,2020/04/01,"I was April fooled! I think most of us agree that we just are not in the mood for April Fool's pranks this year but I had to smile when my kid got me good today.

My 12 year old likes to write. He is pretty good and I enjoy reading his work.

He has been working on a ""novel"" for over a month now, but unlike his other stories he doesn't want us to read it until it is finished. This afternoon I got a message on discord saying that he had edited the first chapter and wanted us all to
 look it over.

So I waited until the baby was
 napping, the settled down in quiet room to open the file and give it my full attention. It was a Rick Roll!",2.3744852941176475,3.2516521838235306,3.8566470588235298,91.63541176470586,74.95588235294117,6.028235294117647,21.688235294117646,5.6839178017228535,0.06362588235294098,491,11,111,2,10,163,90,136,0.046,0.779,0.17600000000000002,0.9684,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,9,0,11,0,0,0,1,17,19,9,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,10,5,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,8,3,16,4,17,11,3,24,0,0,1,0,15,10,0,1,15,77,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144045871874327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245239700536696,0.0,0.284079275050709,0.27088340411273776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273404564362832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422082367054771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517059687778013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770044931418622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17228606293708568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387842446907839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467097071374795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085102678252792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16052048635913474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6111082248742047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997696646073798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24657223908607434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810692327211784
parenting,SlightSetting7,2020/04/01,"11 month old favors mom so strongly it hurts dad’s feeling. Best way to fix? Ever since my daughter ( our first child) was a few months old, it’s clear she favors me over her dad. I keep telling him it’s just a phase she’ll grow out of but she’s soon to be one and she still doesn’t ever want her dad. It’s breaking his heart. I’m a SAHM and he works a 9 to 5 so I feel like she just prefers me cause I’m around her the most. If he picks her up or holds her she cries. When I leave them alone together he tells me she looks for me and cries off and on the whole time. If he tries playing with her and I’m home she ignores him or just comes over to me. She never seeks him out and or ever seem to want him. Sometimes we argue about what to do. He says not to force her to spend time with him and he’ll just
Keep trying and maybe one day when she’s older she’ll be more interested in him. I see how much this hurts him and feel like we should be trying more. Maybe have me leave  more and give them more one on one time even  if she acts like she doesn’t like it? Is this normal? Has anyone dealt with this and if so when did your child start to be interested in the other parent. There are small moments where she laughs at dad while I hold her but for the most part she makes it known she doesn’t want to  spend time with him. I just don’t want this to hurt their bond long term. Please let me know if you have any advice on how to better her relationship with her dad. Thank you.",0.5052811345251199,2.2393923374613003,1.5521861579946084,102.492172176171,82.28173374613003,4.663097972635574,14.753720163787081,5.181179040167988,-1.3176207130730049,1147,14,295,4,31,358,156,323,0.084,0.7559999999999999,0.16,0.9706,1,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,3,3,5,23,19,1,0,8,0,20,1,1,5,5,68,42,30,0,12,16,8,3,4,0,4,0,1,1,2,12,22,0,5,7,1,2,3,6,5,0,5,2,6,58,14,34,31,12,45,0,3,2,0,66,15,0,11,29,191,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452123775972597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100180777378234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577818689735304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763429179259313,0.0,0.0,0.08610820492344808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015098059376033,0.08554783432766369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936604407681483,0.0,0.08332239171588078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21250178265507547,0.06238139662635761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388776657644123,0.2624873627758411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672537014514744,0.13820464777328426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227657468841308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279007167373056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462284940881864,0.0,0.0,0.09702581989183404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31064717065577024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195213704258128,0.0,0.0,0.053159041719661584,0.0,0.0,0.20484144161093368,0.0,0.0989106778226301,0.0,0.18902517085977733,0.0,0.0,0.08560101485507852,0.08122694844607384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456652419046886,0.0,0.1943520518226674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132863716781914,0.1544143343364246,0.0,0.07110602584590986,0.0,0.07460240383293998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947726576985674,0.0,0.0,0.20299900441324628,0.0,0.2621809067818131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074047193546373,0.10474672713821907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617802263963687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384940408927093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692178912254957,0.0,0.0,0.07707949332084152,0.08805731070819679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001419431012043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956662180161274,0.0,0.06846439926489448,0.0,0.07724690605308156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690886337972796,0.08905391636477401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22561091542369066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970153785058008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22821013218467295,0.07677798559886546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799307846464684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070418953980695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Intercoursedapenguin,2020/04/01,"Help! Making a birthday special during a ""stay-at-home"" order. Delete if not allowed.
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We were planning a trip to Disney for her 6 year birthday at the end of this month. But, obviously not going to happen now. I am at a loss for how to make this special for her now that we are not going and we can't have friends or family over... I can make her cake and I guess if we buy presents now they might make it in time...please help with ideas!",0.4741304347826088,2.5852485869565243,2.1066956521739115,96.34482608695652,84.86956521739131,4.5495652173913035,18.98260869565217,5.6839178017228535,-0.3841513043478262,338,9,77,2,10,110,63,92,0.054000000000000006,0.82,0.126,0.7601,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,1,2,4,4,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,6,1,24,15,7,0,2,7,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,11,3,12,13,0,15,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,5,7,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950664569129118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20762180646101355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015616902297032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503338923019479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426181796470848,0.0,0.1947566935445269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952432294828869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24862311685628144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.588045191739224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23363886272742504,0.0,0.0,0.17579273466518638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24175637632834585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23474555849253556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284231802801326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182674848319146
parenting,bmgga7,2020/04/01,"Parenting my mother I know this probably isn't exactly the right thread to post this to, but maybe parents can help...
I m a 21 year old male med student. My father died before I was 4 and I grew up in difficult circumstances, ranging from poverty to tons of fights etc. My mother for sure has mental issues, but i could not pinpoint them exactly (and i also dont want to). Ever since my father died she has been in numerous relationships, but due to her being emotionally unstable they were always filled with fights etc. Don't get me wrong, she is a very caring person. Too caring actually. The type woman who believes she can change a man even though she has failed numerous times.
Unfortunately I have very much been involved in many of these fights, I had to intervene, comfort etc. I myself have also developed a very short fuse and am easily on the offense.
At the moment it seems like her boyfriend and her are about to break up, and she is basically devastated. And I, as so often have to take care of her and the mess she is. I love my mother but I can't take it anymore. I know she has nowhere else to go but I just don't know what to do anymore. It burns me out and exhausts me. The thought of going through all of this again makes me feel so empty. I dont want to deal with all this anymore. I also have a very hard time to uphold respect for her... Which hurts me a lot.. 
I m wanted to go into more detail but it's too tiring.
Sorry for the mood kill... But if anyone has any tips in any way please let me know. Could be how I can improve my emptiness, my aggressions or whatever.",2.2098955067920585,4.290972460815048,3.7971253918495296,86.77821682340652,78.3103448275862,6.761170323928944,22.85903866248693,7.793537801064563,1.108285182863114,1241,39,253,20,30,412,177,319,0.19699999999999998,0.6779999999999999,0.125,-0.9738,2,0,0,0,3,1,42.0,0,0,2,1,15,21,6,0,13,0,34,3,0,2,6,45,55,25,3,6,11,7,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,4,12,12,0,0,7,0,0,5,7,12,0,0,6,3,46,8,37,44,9,28,0,2,0,1,34,12,0,5,9,183,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.08969124997624715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205020373008464,0.07647677961532286,0.0,0.0,0.12500438868399458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734511305898445,0.06426585847373238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820894409108252,0.10355149819963598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28112620268442984,0.0,0.0972289705811004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467658821293239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475554205656664,0.0,0.0,0.19077687910043054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215436507236638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677930939945161,0.10338678056707187,0.0,0.0,0.3075130296024073,0.06070592381739204,0.08313817966299178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04647263797862717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801936795068285,0.0,0.1567043214770872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233362662936045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061605574753756887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839193785429938,0.0,0.0,0.0959305334044068,0.0,0.0,0.10168519211043256,0.0,0.2020461136626636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398456691145864,0.0,0.044902757744917685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813889857785225,0.08295268540213803,0.0,0.061350876837597185,0.09318267586082724,0.09233630696405763,0.0,0.10209168666139493,0.0,0.09262402207452866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756468756494384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644445844082132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20411114866473634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025257838123015,0.0,0.10088997156804612,0.0,0.0,0.0880247154135723,0.0,0.09909490979571027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867732667695976,0.0,0.07849094248937069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836717368890998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602919689309234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288611958893093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662442353851535,0.0,0.13821029980752328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903014588692192,0.07296655678653134,0.10718733630870927,0.10563743454400594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30334267985611435,0.16263332920924545,0.07295416312668943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048954679520324,0.0,0.05918725635854059
parenting,lazilybusy,2020/04/01,"Toddler potty-trained when naked, otherwise wets whatever he’s wearing So we have a 3.5 year old son.  When he’s naked (at least from the waist down) he’s a master of the potty.  No accidents, wipes himself, etc.  But if he’s wearing anything on his lower half - pull-up, sweats, underwear - he has no qualms about wetting them.  He doesn’t even seem to mind sitting in them while they’re wet.  We remind him to use the potty but he just doesn’t seem to want to.  

A few other things worth noting.  

- He gets rewarded with a couple of his favorite fruit snacks when he successfully uses the potty.  

- He does not seem to have any accidents at pre-school, to the point that they likely think we’re insane for still sending him in a pull-up.  

- We have tried the cooling-sensation pull-ups; they did not help.  

Any suggestions are most welcome.  Thank you.",2.9878118609406954,5.176207699386506,3.560883435582824,88.8875419222904,76.30061349693251,6.555255623721883,23.750102249488755,7.554174236665415,1.0733177096114517,657,21,130,9,15,206,103,163,0.09300000000000001,0.763,0.14400000000000002,0.9129999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,1,4,3,8,5,0,0,11,0,8,6,4,2,0,19,17,8,0,2,6,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,4,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,1,4,13,5,18,16,4,16,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,5,8,73,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709318752954626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392838660918804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22041606619842388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432526037717458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221657513123694,0.13157273880173287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407616521584667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335226232647242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732128999504536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113982742310688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20903168490573693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831270591157528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160565842374306,0.0,0.5440450728949863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908502578820696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18340080276737167,0.0,0.0,0.13234266380214876,0.12764224401586882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524682593212356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440975760912951,0.0,0.0,0.11749601575881025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282812109849219
parenting,natemoody55,2020/04/01,Learning programs My child is 1 he will be 2 in May. Does anyone know of any good apps or programs online to help him learn and develop speech and such things at such a young age?,1.2712162162162173,3.5664857837837864,2.0499324324324317,96.84084459459463,83.05405405405406,4.781081081081081,20.06081081081081,5.985473137389443,-0.14299459459459518,142,4,31,1,4,44,34,37,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,2,17,3,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357746782938946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678415512259706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460368873296414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44124396683482975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35261475875019666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891152379891977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494986492021828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CoffeeBean_9313,2020/04/01,"Religion and parenting My fiancé and I are not religious but we believe in the concept of God. I believe that there is a being that created us and the world we live in, I believe that we are put here for a purpose, and I believe that the things we go through are for a reason. I do not believe in praying for things to be given or happen, but I believe in saying thank you to God for what has been given. I do not believe in Heaven and Hell but I believe in Good and Evil. 

I am not against anybody’s beliefs, Christianity or any other religion, but I also don’t think religion should be pushed on anybody. I think it’s something you feel inside and figure out yourself what feels right to you. 

My fiancé’s family is Catholic and believe in God deeply. I haven’t had any problem with anyone talking about their faith or practicing it. The only issues I’ve had are being given religious pamphlets and being continually invited to church when I’ve made it clear that it makes me uncomfortable and it’s not for me. In my opinion, if someone says they are not Christian, catholic, whatever, it is not anyone else’s job to try to convert them. 

My fiancé’s grandmother, grandfather and Aunt are all involved in our 3 year old boys life and they love him so much. They have talked to him about God and when he was younger I gave church another chance and took him once but once again felt it wasn’t for me and I didn’t go back again. 

His Aunt just bought him a book called “When I Pray For You” and it’s nice in theory, but reading through it feels so false to me. I don’t believe in praying the way the book portrays and I don’t feel comfortable putting words in his head that I honestly don’t feel in my heart. 

I don’t want to seem rude or ungrateful by not reading my son religious books that were given to him but as his parent I don’t feel it’s right to tell him something that I don’t actually believe myself. 

Has anyone else ran into this issue? How do you approach differing religious beliefs being told to your child?",4.723925925925926,5.513824256790123,5.468888888888892,82.57000000000002,69.39506172839506,8.469135802469136,30.80246913580247,8.626192665926032,2.30946913580247,1604,64,318,25,27,522,181,405,0.086,0.79,0.124,0.9213,3,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,6,6,5,0,16,12,3,0,10,0,38,4,2,4,2,69,65,37,0,4,21,5,7,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,24,24,0,0,14,5,1,8,18,4,0,0,18,9,58,8,44,40,2,37,12,0,0,1,44,19,1,7,9,226,82,6,0.0,0.0,0.06280870509361144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147082328557544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753767827228927,0.06748989673891398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501167684250354,0.13189437244622154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0494909389557051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7976618751059333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572150694277239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672453165214311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753354430088596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067541994385621,0.0,0.19526227237293048,0.0,0.061798279835205326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315760468760259,0.05398437421443971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569157179061055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605469287080283,0.0,0.0,0.07627010250267323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435586155095167,0.06387004265127298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04546127433336508,0.0,0.0,0.05683343814394819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808984438867575,0.06090153746201505,0.04296259815252438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047313985891961535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675378205758848,0.13708833747033813,0.0,0.04895072922123014,0.0,0.0,0.14293431016065453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06158640596264876,0.0,0.12940456950125984,0.0,0.0,0.12876022328681974,0.0,0.0,0.0661755692130287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993077832319396,0.0,0.10236759548946442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859337949163914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453430191751145,0.09909909291960252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346459113961552,0.05625583161764994,0.05925652140421527,0.0,0.0,0.08551942818080259,0.08248203116321391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150131249575281,0.07150932144939019,0.043698044472926655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742039633418564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03796278460979897,0.0510881108066723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041447464840862966
parenting,witchviolet,2020/04/01,"HELP! Trying to potty train my daughter and having a hard time My daughter is 2 and a half, she has never been the type of kid that cried when her diaper was dirty or wet she always seemed to not notice. I always knew that this would make potty training harder.  We’ve tried just sitting on the potty every couple of hours.  She has gone a couple of times and we cheer and give her a sticker but lately every time I try to get her to sit on the potty she screams, cries and tries to run away almost like she is scared of the potty.  I’ve been thinking about having her be naked during the day and see if that will work.  What have other people tried? Has anyone else had a little one that seemed scared of the potty? Should I just wait and give her more time? 

Also we don’t really want to use candy/food as a reward/comfort and I don’t want food to become what she runs to for comfort.  I also am trying to avoid just forcing her to sit on the potty even those she’s clearly upset as I want to validate her feelings and find a solution that works for anyone. 

Any advice would be helpful and welcome, thanks!",3.7713833333333326,4.778370168888891,4.631263888888891,86.90556250000002,71.75555555555556,6.336111111111113,21.17361111111111,5.985473137389443,0.2282944444444444,868,16,173,4,16,281,124,225,0.10300000000000001,0.741,0.157,0.9234,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,2,8,10,0,4,14,0,21,1,0,2,2,38,38,18,0,7,7,2,3,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,10,12,1,2,6,0,0,3,4,5,0,2,6,5,24,5,25,26,1,20,0,0,1,0,24,5,0,5,10,119,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482474414572833,0.0,0.0,0.10741719459570033,0.0,0.0,0.17157041109672655,0.1785174324723258,0.0,0.0,0.0729484904695446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500138487534055,0.10991261775816964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007853706411446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184732556334516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373883735440932,0.2356660315214437,0.06918142520978868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961180929644033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085200050428199,0.0,0.18076220636205104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423983628684465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804446562918416,0.0,0.2594269299189829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056045078771741634,0.2058097365840249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609444661464048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380402896592584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564109730958414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100724286333893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240757432432129,0.1075145071720732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160474766369054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273461160467674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212963514011192,0.0,0.0,0.07269013590141722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436874706917461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872105059177562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21479553559025327,0.0,0.08548172196790974,0.1953124035174376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876144472253244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687354266525378,0.0,0.0,0.2502041556617094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369829920581917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926483778356279,0.0,0.0,0.18981502954815835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619027022901252,0.0,0.0,0.1524055927349776,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,murdercolorlips,2020/04/01,"Looking for help on teaching my son words/numbers/colors So, I’m a single mom and have been since my son was born. I also work full time. Dad just came into the picture in January (I don’t want to get into that right now).

Anyway, I’m having a hard time teaching my son words, colors, numbers, and such. I made the mistake of letting him watch a lot of movies because I’m always so exhausted from work, long commute, and handling house stuff/cooking. I know it’s not an excuse, but now that I see he’s falling behind I really want to find ways to get him to retain things. 

Any advice will be great. 

Please don’t bash me, I know I made a mistake with the tv thing and I feel bad about it.",2.0837878787878767,3.6321556013986007,3.5805769230769258,90.61650641025645,76.90209790209789,5.605827505827506,23.105477855477854,5.985473137389443,0.3906135198135199,533,16,113,3,12,176,94,143,0.115,0.79,0.095,-0.2099,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,2,9,5,0,0,8,0,9,1,0,2,0,24,24,8,0,4,3,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,8,0,1,4,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,6,15,1,15,16,3,15,0,0,4,0,10,6,0,1,6,70,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071001445316505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397035957337521,0.145360304601013,0.0,0.0,0.11879864781811633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458630983037098,0.10649250187830606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998046370442412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833108358072607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596681421071984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254194246068509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926019470784632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564924818480719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170944325371718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20157467217689626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920156992304316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863755956725302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545996521994594,0.14669987266209866,0.0,0.0,0.1485195134470401,0.0,0.3306014252754998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20460077126466464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917627425224424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191414427350896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918864740467605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920936427315822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450957891453886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998407599720214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23211930292361796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037322169366483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607937373098764,0.1386648264656116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25436020383861835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,melancholyjack,2020/04/01,"Watching Niece I (reluctantly) agreed to watch my sister’s baby until further notice, which might be all of this lockdown. I’m bad with kids and I love her, but she’s a hyper little shit that’s constantly pissing me off. 

What are some good parenting things I can do so she listens or is at least better behaved.",2.8021857923497255,5.193939737704921,4.043852459016397,84.17812841530056,77.85245901639344,6.033879781420765,24.92076502732241,7.1686216300943375,1.2778174863387983,248,9,45,3,6,81,55,61,0.151,0.675,0.174,0.1505,1,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,1,0,6,3,2,0,1,7,9,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,8,3,6,7,3,6,0,0,2,1,8,4,2,3,2,33,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25991958871041765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753164719158629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364009446074797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611007489754596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120008904188548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809572602898524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33023641060338943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544131476997776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34565794250936355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195414011013533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20681157348664775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SunnysideKun,2020/04/01,"Paying the nanny ADVANCE PAY while she's not working and when I was on the brink of firing her?! For context, we are in NYC. Technically childcare is on the list of exempted activities, but (a) we wouldn't want our nanny doing her 1 hour commute on the subway to our house given the risks and desirability to stay home and prevent spread, and (b) she told us she can't work once schools are closed down because there's no one to watch her kids and she wouldn't want to bring them. So yes we are happy that she's not working but she chose not to work before we exercised the option to tell her to stay home. Though really I'd say it's been no one's decision slash mutual. 

Some more context. She's used all her paid time off, and up to now (2 years into this relationship) she has also had all sorts of extra paid time off when we've traveled for vacation or work. A lot of extra paid time off. I'm talking about 4 extra weeks of paid time off a year in addition to the 2 weeks specified in her contract. Also we give a 2 week Christmas bonus and above market pay. So I think we're good employers and relatively easy to work for. We're really only strict on safety but otherwise try to mind our business and let our nanny take her own approach, so we're not difficult to work for people. She's had a good gig and in return we've gotten sort of mediocre performance from her but kept her around for the sake of stability and because grass is greener can be a bad reason to change nannies. 

I told her that during the lockdown we will need to move her to 50% pay since she has already used all her PTO (plus more than 4 weeks of extra paid time off this year) and since we ourselves are suffering lockdown-related income loss. Honestly I have been on the point of wanting to let her go for some time because my child isn't super attached to her and her job performance is ok but not great, so I feel I'm supporting someone I'd rather disentangle myself from.

She's just called and asked for several months of advance pay because her husband isn't working either and they can't pay the rent. Meanwhile we're discovering we can probably get by without childcare and that we need to tighten our belts...

What are our obligations here? I get that all our decisions have cascading effects and that we also need to help each other out. But I also get that my nanny had a good income and clearly hasn't put anything away for a rainy day. I also can't be on the hook indefinitely for someone's welfare simply because I employed them for 2 years with good benefits.

What to do? Thanks for input or sharing your own approaches to similar situations.",6.453471308239013,6.092357120229008,6.97254540668597,77.25568702290076,65.58396946564886,9.975677809949989,32.763622005791,9.494082108488547,2.8415508818110027,2097,77,407,36,29,689,245,524,0.081,0.7879999999999999,0.131,0.9893,6,2,0,0,0,0,42.0,18,1,3,17,19,19,0,1,20,2,35,1,0,4,5,85,67,40,0,10,17,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,3,2,12,36,0,2,6,2,13,9,16,5,0,2,16,4,61,14,71,44,17,57,0,2,1,0,63,24,0,9,22,269,73,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267555913785903,0.2995655864913859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06165238574770612,0.06669426136043596,0.0700396427437582,0.0,0.07038936019998203,0.0,0.06255467421765831,0.2283512361622232,0.0,0.06375099792901702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650121181538119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925492377109004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048316895867543216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03788156306113877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742707930738087,0.07186963538913778,0.0425784927374348,0.25135577308632184,0.0,0.08259904110972463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975322778285968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05021697855898387,0.0,0.15030078483994586,0.0,0.07378064101110716,0.08644707328444509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434606856743428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153220581102696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369390124498969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564736337630358,0.0,0.05980005030407301,0.07962759880319589,0.0,0.1666556360785073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978684931379325,0.10153481852378478,0.05697967497810887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051939765580784066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082316751968845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077591971840435,0.0,0.0,0.07531481581755475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599073263616956,0.07702974981656392,0.0,0.08043553230046845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059579013551757924,0.0,0.0758225593453393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463773857071344,0.0,0.123948411016305,0.08421268541913197,0.0,0.0,0.1269581412924158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597084911756749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850177894505494,0.0,0.0,0.056330159160164935,0.06021747651842298,0.06548296730596409,0.06897583312162735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800540668121296,0.07360805319982842,0.0,0.26211706606377205,0.0,0.0,0.1431776340204248,0.0,0.050865439817930784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011896431330448,0.1294128304123877,0.0,0.0,0.13256843132331622,0.0,0.24038369641221616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221974885987145,0.0,0.4363384535252876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929828717873076
parenting,Luv2tch,2020/04/01,"Almost 3 year old only goes to the bathroom for me! My son has been potty trained (for me ) for weeks. Tells me he has to go, no accidents, pee and poop.  We’ve been home because of spring break and things going on. 

He’s just back to daycare -four days now and he refuses to go for her. He’s had one accident and the other days he has just held it (going half days). We’ve offered rewards to no avail. He will potty at public restrooms (for me) so I know it’s not because of a strange bathroom. He just only wants my help! Any advice?",-0.6063851351351346,1.5997597747747785,1.4669763513513523,96.90154560810812,95.39639639639641,3.856081081081081,18.64921171171171,5.602791699666715,-0.3244193693693691,409,13,90,3,16,135,69,111,0.091,0.8440000000000001,0.065,-0.4574,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,3,0,7,2,2,0,0,13,14,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,2,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,4,0,8,1,14,9,0,16,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,1,9,52,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21000652361181565,0.0,0.0,0.2152002544534348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461454450577165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525170515735332,0.0,0.2620129836181754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41579545150010055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4885508004070833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404892876496272,0.0,0.2155711839900613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810833009254455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255107752707081,0.0,0.14562785596027747,0.32689585783547465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878398813201332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277594676075894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267588577154574,0.0,0.17238698421525675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839430780515635
parenting,shamblingman,2020/04/01,"April Fools Joke for our amusement. Record yourself telling your kids that school starts tomorrow and that all vacations are cancelled to make up for lost time.

then yell ""April Fools!""

all credit to this brilliant parent: https://www.reddit.com/r/WatchPeopleDieInside/comments/fszed6/quarantine_aint_over_yet/",15.463947368421044,21.6198227631579,6.316105263157892,63.31573684210528,58.21052631578948,6.197894736842105,28.65263157894737,7.554174236665415,2.1583515789473693,267,8,29,3,5,61,32,38,0.15,0.621,0.228,0.5983,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,3,5,3,2,7,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,15,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654949396001392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28464302552202425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734962065212244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315664225108087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30182689856153305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727155899197999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486527436708162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Birdamus,2020/04/01,"An April Fools parenting story gone wrong. This story occurred four years ago. 

Background: my wife and I got married in April of 2015, bought a house that summer, and had decided to start trying to get pregnant around Christmas. I thought of it as “removing the goalie and we’ll see what happens,” but by February she had an ovulation tracking app and was in full-on “we are making a baby dammit, get with the program” mode. Still no success as of April 1st, so...

My wife is getting ready to leave work and drive home when she decides to send a group text to all of her family (mom, dad, brother, uncles, etc) and me, the husband, that says “I’m pregnant!!! OMG!!!”

Needless to say, I freak out a bit, and then I get pissed off that she decided to tell me in a group text with her family instead of in person, first. I call her up and she laughs and tells me it’s just an April Fools joke. Meanwhile congratulatory texts are pouring in from her family, who are going bananas, because it’s not only the first grandchild for her parents but the first member of the new generation in all of her mom’s side of the family.

When she gets home (she had a 45 minute commute), she realizes this may not have been the best April Fools joke, seeing as this has sent her family into ecstatic shock and her husband is still sort of angry and confused. So she sends the obligatory “April Fools” text that is met with mixed reactions ranging from “haha got us” to confusion to genuine anger that they had been fooled. She’s got a great and quirky sense of humor that I love, but she was beginning to understand that she went a little too far. 

But *then* she realizes that she hasn’t actually tested in a few days. So she goes into the bathroom and emerges 5 minutes later with the positive test kit. That’s when I burst out laughing... it was too absurd to handle. We eventually hugged and got all excited and stuff, but then we had to wait the appropriate number of weeks before we told everybody... and then told them the real story behind the April Fools text.

And that’s how we found out we were going to be parents.

TL;DR 4 years ago my wife sent an April Fools text to her family about being pregnant before she realized she hadn’t tested that day and actually was pregnant.",5.7973538905878375,6.277451190366975,6.10731906218145,80.0377488956847,66.91284403669725,9.21155283724091,29.680258239891266,9.150863307647796,2.3540070676180767,1773,59,341,30,27,569,215,436,0.127,0.754,0.12,-0.3627,3,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,8,0,2,6,15,26,2,2,27,1,26,3,1,2,3,62,57,37,0,0,8,12,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,21,34,0,1,9,2,1,10,5,14,0,4,27,5,48,12,53,26,7,60,0,0,2,2,64,18,1,4,32,227,69,6,0.0,0.0,0.1706163667091495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498306481664054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782130679221062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05328971711590973,0.0,0.14877399845038747,0.0,0.0917406855399078,0.0,0.09543873852557593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926441575665052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275584735048623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749512139400554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4944642474610857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22307527719332346,0.0,0.09585025246571208,0.0,0.0,0.2283636947189665,0.0,0.09936428947499976,0.0,0.2796673479692635,0.09637958630658834,0.0,0.0,0.0773041967933385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537646042629487,0.0,0.0,0.10086961117989568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925639356059917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761664942500881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889892155493453,0.0,0.0583527585089038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20476779172397375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844296661870419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648597161047969,0.0,0.0,0.2912048494075312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763307644060757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950178514417783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390379501148229,0.0,0.0,0.13932300417694413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187550912569183,0.0,0.13962560664341422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007366386936664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281584905308615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940079892682813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670649071690011,0.0,0.05935165809543111,0.0,0.0,0.09100610165448113,0.10515410811314974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012212522019905,0.0,0.0,0.08103814603371988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364196102555085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557878483679942,0.0,0.11258974134100627
parenting,redbaron-cheesepizza,2020/04/01,"As a mom, why is my career always seen as less important or “optional”? I quit my job over three years ago to be a SAHM. We’ve since had another baby in that time, and our kids are now 2 and 3. 

Even though my fiancé and I made a similar amount back then, it was decided that I would quit due to breastfeeding and childcare costs. I never planned on staying home and not working for as long as I have been. 

Recently, I’ve been looking for work in different fields that offer better hours and pay. This has been an issue for EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. that I’ve told. 

“How much would you even be making?! It’s easier to stay home. It’s not healthy to put the kids with a babysitter.” -My MIL

“Just stay home with the kids. You don’t need to work.” -My FIL 

“I’m not splitting childcare with you, so you might as well just stay home. You would only break even every month.” -My fiancé 

Basically, no one thinks my mental health and/or happiness is important. I need to work for my own sanity. 

I have goals too. I have dreams too. I have skills too. I have social needs too. I’m young enough to still get a very sustainable career going.

Yeah, I don’t “need” to work, but why is my job always pushed aside and put on the back burner? No one would ever say this about my fiancé’s career.",0.7671068156144116,3.1659180038910537,2.198089619681188,94.06934981799928,86.85992217898833,5.495117359106313,16.46152880632609,6.968188349444268,-0.07239892054725773,985,21,212,14,31,317,141,257,0.03,0.909,0.06,0.644,3,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,1,5,0,11,20,3,0,0,9,1,24,1,0,3,2,34,38,18,0,8,7,1,0,0,0,5,1,1,4,4,9,10,0,0,2,1,2,4,8,0,1,3,8,3,27,3,26,23,6,30,0,0,2,0,15,5,0,3,16,137,36,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080117726349789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040925890119675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477285949027407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899555430750382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799350719285626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442940709657324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338822657722627,0.0,0.17908834011213415,0.08175522068531044,0.15230058554912326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047220591548803766,0.0,0.05136587641054632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621276325816988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607128397700834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626399640825753,0.0,0.08900754921123444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433478049108628,0.17937934032537126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799847633008517,0.07589767780334035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552113918558198,0.06033033794373267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910832712017507,0.09588046458433253,0.0,0.1058536938987572,0.07214163291794637,0.0,0.06644078526613313,0.2680668808927664,0.06970776716087314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248965626429052,0.06873918625741772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891761983144845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171669650327066,0.0,0.19226365284008573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924080516408489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187497842240989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747644920266228,0.0,0.0,0.0921325341335956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853385167968621,0.07217876454898474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579128012311541,0.08879934258826218,0.0,0.05270216626170576,0.0,0.0,0.08636337480520515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457418431410981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126380250181625,0.0,0.16311045070780433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289939596846555,0.0,0.0,0.25681763330557883,0.0,0.0,0.05820270812959004
parenting,pKaram,2020/04/01,"Would you be interested in a science demonstration book with an explanation of the science behind the experiments? Hello, 

I am a father of a one year and a half baby boy. I am also a professor of chemistry and I can't wait to start doing some science experiments with him. 

I was checking some science demonstration books for young kids and none provides any explanation for the actual science behind what is happening. 

Would you be interested in a book that talks a bit about the science behind those experiments and maybe connect them to other phenomena that you might encounter in your daily life?

For example the volcano experiments; I can explain the reaction in a lame term and use it as an introduction to acid and bases in your daily life. I can also maybe link it to the use of carbonate in banking etc.  

Please let me know what are your thoughts.",7.962222222222222,8.307041980891723,8.424798301486202,65.73143665958955,62.31210191082803,11.563765038924274,37.826610049539966,11.20814326018867,4.5501824486907285,689,32,113,18,9,229,88,157,0.019,0.909,0.073,0.7236,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,6,1,0,3,3,0,0,17,0,15,2,0,2,0,20,23,9,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,8,8,0,1,4,3,2,0,2,1,0,2,2,1,15,2,24,15,6,10,0,1,0,0,14,6,0,3,4,93,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.15455842092062133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533167706179012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770549484070303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729126109726031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663829444697354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6197136958604528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400570744456561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704285058219091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195678236829636,0.2237404118913691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31823291127698605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801874685211804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107324044773328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738563649900428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210391088012278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730181114148806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573797109447984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735831630440871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22502069167372987,0.0,0.0,0.10199310282577917
parenting,Toronto_07,2020/04/01,"My toddler has started to run away and hide when he gets hurt.  For example he was running, fell, started to cry got up and ran away and hid behind a curtain. How can I break him not this ASAP!? 
Anyone deal with this? Any tips? I don’t want to yell at him about it because he will think he’s done something wrong. I want him to know if he’s hurt he can always come to mommy and daddy.",0.6395121951219522,2.465754597560977,2.3660365853658547,96.35564024390246,82.29268292682926,4.5878048780487815,20.006097560975608,5.148860815047168,-0.3715658536585367,295,8,68,1,8,97,59,82,0.196,0.774,0.03,-0.9364,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,17,7,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,4,1,7,0,13,12,0,13,0,2,0,0,10,4,0,1,3,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18158413067631207,0.0,0.0,0.14840330204855445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525908923181367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41006693092786256,0.0,0.0,0.13303046130919416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18798508515468695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397144686157841,0.0,0.22498466616469529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233241829545252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401572122688675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453778292980773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467237626654744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993303094908052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800345759159846,0.0,0.0,0.30892742420937186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983242445861824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25743440777709703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23859931195648226,0.0,0.0
parenting,NinaMomDeluxe,2020/04/01,"Does your kid go from happy to angry in seconds lately? My kids have been going from happy to angry really fast and I just saw this video and I totally relate!  ugh parenting right now is hard!

​

 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwpzFqY1jmg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwpzFqY1jmg)",11.340833333333334,16.51017275000001,5.595000000000002,66.82333333333335,71.5,6.666666666666668,19.166666666666668,7.793537801064563,1.588666666666667,250,5,27,4,6,63,34,40,0.23600000000000002,0.62,0.14300000000000002,-0.5862,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,6,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,2,4,2,5,4,1,7,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,3,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27823110060970985,0.3120271079980618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247180479889856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918785552146081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467139722984251,0.2300327753533317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896695167550669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851341300637087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16450580184114846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192966601873218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120271079980618,0.0
parenting,Sattalyte,2020/04/01,"Pushing a child for a accident? My and my partner got our 5 yo a new tablet with a nice case, as her school is closed for the next few months. It cost about £160/$200, and we're not the kind of parents that have a lot of money to blow on gifts like that. 

On the first day of having it, she dropped it, and smashed the screen. 

I get that it was an accident. We're now going to have to pay a lot more money for a replacement screen. Its rankles me, as it was an expensive gift. 

I considered sending her to the naughty step for a half hour for being careless, but I don't know if that's right. She's already in tears because she broke it. Is it right to punish kids for an expensive accident? Is that teaching them to take better care of things?",3.1488093841642235,3.9876730774193554,3.9893255131964804,91.55853372434021,73.06451612903227,7.442815249266863,26.994134897360702,7.686295010490155,1.2436451612903232,577,20,132,7,11,185,95,155,0.14,0.774,0.086,-0.8243,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,2,3,8,1,0,16,0,10,0,0,0,0,11,16,7,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,14,5,0,0,1,0,6,4,2,3,0,2,3,2,13,5,23,12,4,18,0,1,2,0,12,6,0,3,8,89,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458095480647621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357859922482513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19700377974891187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271079014081612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365496237272302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947056142097532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163773897070808,0.0,0.1265936410495335,0.0,0.17815307717267814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21936333073511471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319592660485051,0.122417267823423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882412576462527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787472196808647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779647930754694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151327989499387,0.23689655841350174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473368945225584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804536124649957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254343271475588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747985873899748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798483138030502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cm10,2020/04/01,"How to keep a 9 month old entertained while working from home My husband and I are currently working from home with our 9 month old son. We have our computers set up in the living room and his toys spread all over. We usually have the TV on PBS kids all day. I'm wondering if there are any fun things I can buy or give him to keep him entertained? I feel like a bad parent leaving him to play alone all day but the way things are right now, we don't really have a choice. Any suggestions are appreciated!",3.1615776699029112,4.5642698543689315,4.20989077669903,87.81153519417477,73.75728155339806,8.645145631067964,24.52548543689321,9.188382445141503,1.6857582524271844,397,12,88,9,8,129,70,103,0.036000000000000004,0.8270000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.8516,2,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,5,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,1,3,17,15,7,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,6,0,2,2,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,13,5,10,15,3,18,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,3,11,52,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18160634140285692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384835929439901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640720412352382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226168283165563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866058060365835,0.1252677464870112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820857130657785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517741553480275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31171247939917257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856668801750138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856655603282244,0.0,0.15483438440952296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799201908078662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679938154275275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19470180449642005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233161200816473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497451583539639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329851659491581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19311966191823865,0.0,0.0,0.1391820809320315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901560603385772,0.2553090309843952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rvnsh,2020/04/01,"My twins don’t seem to run out of energy (English is not my first language)

I have two five year olds, twins, that lately can’t stop running around doing disasters. I understand that the whole ‘can’t go outside’ thing is stressful, but they are by no means bored at home. We have a fairly big house, and they have siblings around they age. I’ve raised my older kids without problem until now. 

I could probably deal with them in a normal situation, but now I have a pack of children in my house, my husband is just like one of them because he can’t stand being locked inside, and I have quadruplets to take care of (yes, I am not kidding). 

Any advice you may have for me?",6.591278195488722,5.7634900827067685,6.547819548872184,81.959022556391,65.46616541353384,9.10375939849624,31.781954887218053,7.957251820313856,2.0808977443609016,523,17,106,5,7,166,93,133,0.086,0.8240000000000001,0.09,0.3584,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,5,1,5,5,0,1,4,1,19,0,0,0,0,21,25,5,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,7,0,1,3,0,0,3,8,3,0,4,0,0,19,2,17,22,1,21,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,2,11,77,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724439665495627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000532081321437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141905620662286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757417771011957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992243044325126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089654735153334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181932320025565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501048783284832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029169146060413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770133108328842,0.0,0.0,0.4072442514571798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906529809002896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621409064603247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222703438973301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290265554423787,0.0,0.0,0.18517506941465306,0.0,0.1195803096494175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026398298787695,0.1688574920228403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065121767458282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983591273464447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753641535757334,0.20214523188310848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268311251072115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172385036609844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723850730049418,0.18371098744604836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19702191012014786,0.0,0.17011031401890134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364058113697345
parenting,NevilleShlaungBottem,2020/04/01,Caught my kids arguing loudly this morning... Over who would get to count the blocks first. What is going on!?,1.9208333333333345,4.750470750000002,1.7600000000000016,94.31833333333331,91.5,4.666666666666667,16.666666666666668,6.42735559955562,-0.11183333333333324,85,2,16,1,3,25,20,20,0.22399999999999998,0.7759999999999999,0.0,-0.636,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,3,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6297971136657335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868365807531603,0.0,0.4207952367032243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5259699841030782,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pantry_girl,2020/04/01,"[Passover Help] First Passover Seder info for kids I'm not sure if this is the best place to post but I figured starting with fellow parents may help.

With social distancing, our plans to go to my boyfriend's mother's home to the Passover seder has been nixed to protect her and us. Now I've found myself trying to get a crash course on hosting a Passover seder. We most likely will have to modify it for many reasons including my newbie status to this all but I do want to make it accessible for my children who have never attended a seder. 

I know there are a lot of fun rituals and traditions that the kids will love so I'm not worried about that but would love to have a child friendly Haggadah, recipes, and other tips and ideas from parents who are much more well-versed in hosting a seder and one with children. Bonus points if it is web printable stuff as the pandemic is restricting deliveries and such.

If there is another group I should post at, let me know.

Thanks and I hope all are and will stay safe.",5.405990675990672,6.251140282828286,5.0702020202020215,85.83940559440562,67.8888888888889,8.314529914529912,30.38228438228439,8.384062270229773,2.0362815850815843,808,30,162,11,13,247,123,198,0.038,0.737,0.225,0.9927,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,4,6,11,0,0,10,0,20,2,0,2,4,41,34,16,0,7,8,3,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,5,11,12,0,3,7,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,2,0,14,11,23,25,7,14,1,0,0,2,22,5,0,7,5,109,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620113711851037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214287196378702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142139315607188,0.0,0.16940613776516844,0.11936974291979947,0.0,0.08072219015169121,0.0,0.08780843074858577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712213141931932,0.0,0.1549805454418205,0.1534577653970936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441670033748335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982319325025413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799125239096834,0.0,0.07548306243312447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313541451799848,0.2788925689943233,0.0,0.10313290985303533,0.15664324627109424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357853695113967,0.0,0.11916334487242072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046962035022604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431177805488101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142424958151852,0.0,0.14605663095914273,0.0,0.2959450787840637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885629146289362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749781388915468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935903405143954,0.1646811698319086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687061277364508,0.0,0.0,0.14561860114106806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224692506931882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489836916707676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858498112142382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113071860861248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891804195678845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690675317667158,0.0,0.10975551740269024,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellawhitegirl,2020/04/01,"Why does my kid wake me up? My kid (3M) wakes up numerous times a night and comes into my bedroom. I am a very light sleeper so he always goes to me instead of my husband. I sleep really bad and have insomnia so sometimes I don't ask what is wrong (don't want to wake myself up fully). However, he does this sometimes 2-3x a night.

Basically, he sleeps. Wakes in the middle of the night. Immediately gets up to wake me up and goes back to his room waiting to be tucked in for bed. He just did this 330a today and now I will not get anymore sleep.

Should I get rid of his nightlight? Lock his door? Tell him to only come get me if it is an emergency? I am getting irritated that I am not getting any sleep.",0.4437837837837861,2.533538986486491,2.8472297297297287,91.1246283783784,84.81081081081079,5.8621621621621625,21.41216216216216,7.1686216300943375,0.5994378378378373,542,18,122,8,16,186,91,148,0.102,0.898,0.0,-0.9284,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,6,0,12,10,9,0,0,14,23,7,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,5,7,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,1,20,0,18,19,0,19,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,1,7,74,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317930684216945,0.0,0.0,0.09249807676687896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489501681006638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271600808081362,0.0,0.0,0.10459077190853196,0.11357078815415506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343378967669795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238063554525496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263881513050889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829358907812248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344912953290826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713771830264877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5444718240476168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690539704860372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888723425741635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931419501905633,0.0,0.1289307941668356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223051759779633,0.0802279574790428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273664457019845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487162156719017,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlitzAtk,2020/04/01,"How do you deal with in-laws? This is a fairly simple question and I can go into detail if needed, but how do you deal with uneducated and resistant grandparents (in-laws), that maybe teaching your child too many wrong habits and not following nutritional and behavioral guidelines that you have laid out for them?

Thanks for helping out another parent! Cheers!",8.200714285714284,9.479950301587305,7.596944444444442,68.64875,61.85714285714286,10.744444444444444,33.21031746031745,10.686352973137794,3.785384126984128,291,11,46,7,4,91,49,63,0.059000000000000004,0.7759999999999999,0.166,0.8222,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,16,9,8,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,9,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,7,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,0,32,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881654429145708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5666403723427365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561825886245334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420139370854832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786172977309906,0.2760866447665521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203770393440326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051473686089125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30785350842364523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530109329116335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004649278381744,0.0,0.0
parenting,hooberjabber,2020/04/01,"20m daughter can't stand mom. So this started once we put the daughter in daycare, I have to leave early for work, so wife is left to do all the morning work. Eating is where this stems from. Daughter takes forever to eat and is picky, my wife only has so much time in the mornings so she started getting really frustrated, but in general wife has a really hard time controling her frustration. Well it's started to impact our 20m old daughter, she wants nothing to do with the wife ever. 
Fights her on most things and won't let her do anything with her, just pushes her away, But will do things for me usually without an issue.
We have been working on this for a week now where basically I take on most of the discipline duties but It's not really working. I don't know where to start with addressing this.
It's really hard on my wife having her daughter push her away all the time.",4.072185314685317,5.399542931818181,5.043409090909094,83.0173251748252,71.38636363636364,8.369930069930069,28.311188811188806,8.841846274778883,2.188517132867133,700,26,137,13,13,229,96,176,0.08800000000000001,0.897,0.015,-0.8904,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,0,0,5,13,4,3,0,9,0,18,2,0,1,3,24,27,9,0,1,6,11,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,7,2,3,1,0,0,3,5,3,1,0,1,2,18,1,24,23,5,30,0,0,0,0,24,13,0,2,13,100,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673525093436448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437221506658073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454739428781721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654389225308413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732459523931173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776492979878536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23237842007200665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537716423893956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712818665300295,0.0,0.0,0.1373376929717006,0.14092365725042136,0.1326310164154019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519076297165344,0.0,0.0,0.09534728392130322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244543816983221,0.0,0.13610241522621275,0.13813041100500972,0.0,0.09864565390599278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303882350677929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33236653573219604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672203269724349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950423686031192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233900390809864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22689414595393045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285051168159268,0.0,0.07650271551627498,0.0,0.10404063786794583,0.0,0.11661937496116437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502992258108953,0.0,0.37770391011240734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gaslampglow,2020/04/01,"Check out the new kids animation about the big adventures of a tiny mouse Mea Mouse- an exciting new children's series, following the adventures of Mea, brother Hugo, parents and pet cat Mr Fluffy. Captured in paperback & eBooks, including a TV series, to help children understand their experiences growing up. A donation will be made from book sales to a children’s charity.

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parenting,ThereminAndCoffee,2020/04/01,Dear Fathers of reddit: what tips would you give your former soon-to-be-dad self if you could go back in time? Asking for a friend. His first child is about to be born and this is a scary time to become a dad. What would a soon-to-be dad need to hear? What did you struggle with? What would have helped you?,1.0875897435897457,2.8164445538461567,1.5242307692307726,103.42993589743591,80.38461538461539,4.333333333333334,13.910256410256407,3.1291,-1.63274358974359,236,2,59,0,6,71,43,65,0.086,0.809,0.105,0.3094,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,5,0,1,2,3,0,1,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,14,2,0,6,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,6,2,8,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,1,6,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319943413639753,0.0,0.0,0.19081827478767308,0.0,0.0,0.2740711444403832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19813406434269146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110831683240952,0.0,0.0,0.1917263463157852,0.0,0.0,0.2380558791136605,0.14103397721531494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27969223446918523,0.0,0.1663351554876194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840061000314628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25888303825644804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594287457453466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28940598837811576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528853220880801,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yelhsaesorllenrud,2020/04/01,"5 y/o stepson regressing My stepson is extremely smart, he tested in the 99th percentile in school. He can read ALL words it’s insane, we can be reading something on Wikipedia and he can read every word on the page. 

Well school is canceled now and between his moms house and his dads and my house I guess he’s been hearing a lot about what’s going on.

So last week he’s using his uncles phone goes on the CDC website reads about every single virus. He’s reading about mumps, smallpox, chicken pox. Honestly it sounds unbelievable that a 5 year old is doing this but I swear he did this on his own.
Well we didn’t realize what he was doing we thought he was playing a game or something. But he started asking us questions about polio...

We took the phone away but the damage is done. Since then he won’t sleep alone. He’s playing with his baby toys, he refuses to go outside he won’t be in a room without a light on, even during the day. 

Idk how he is at his moms house (it’s split 3-4 days a week)
But we tried talking to him. Letting him know he’s vaccinated. We pulled up YouTube videos to show him how they work and why they’re good. We try to explain that he’s immune but he’s still so scared.

Idk  what to do to help him",1.4515748031496116,3.5101210393700804,2.6810614173228338,93.93677322834648,80.73228346456693,5.16636220472441,22.7584251968504,6.152001189255117,0.30036617322834624,960,32,209,7,25,308,142,254,0.07200000000000001,0.8320000000000001,0.095,0.6039,0,1,2,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,1,1,13,9,0,1,12,0,22,2,1,3,1,34,33,16,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,10,13,0,1,5,11,0,4,4,2,2,0,8,3,23,7,25,20,5,28,0,1,0,0,50,13,0,4,11,117,33,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125880851706324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042688638276767,0.0,0.10092833147680896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385591137125042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993199140940704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095250180855013,0.0,0.18101861178987907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210300581160333,0.09010210745129184,0.0,0.0,0.11833958529161613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107459211305124,0.0,0.07200400519859004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718584247476097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059037390190220376,0.08756485196369844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984826083563506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132799558969562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516272495380978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272335847373308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203394022958016,0.0,0.5372650717389524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755010810538004,0.21743753264086005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888621964849212,0.0,0.10750152419050224,0.0,0.0,0.16540040055107738,0.0,0.0,0.0760352204025085,0.0,0.08578890036605621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863432969625132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852826120879624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935195431567153,0.14586761283444954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921777775389176,0.09277979660636884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233801617306765,0.0,0.1931740533315417,0.0,0.0969334006467916,0.0,0.0,0.10355284849006006,0.0,0.07820591057434004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069177497841147
parenting,PotterQuoter,2020/04/01,"Help dealing with 3yo waking up at night and demanding attention Staying at home has taken a toll on our just-about-to-turn-3 toddler, but we're making the best of it. Fun energy-burning activities in our yard, different indoor activities every day, etc. Making use with what we have. 

She was a fantastic sleeper, god bless her. Slept 12 hours overnight at 3 months old and never looked back! 

...Except now all of a sudden, for the past 2 weeks or so, she has *nightly* gotten up in the middle of the night with some kind of wildly made up problem, screaming for daddy. She's a major daddy's girl, *only* wants him. So that's an issue in and of itself. But for the new nighttime stuff - Her socks hurt. Her bed is messy. Her teddy bear is stuck inside the covers. She wants a ponytail. Really really trivial stuff. 

She's at an age now where we would love to let her figure this stuff out on her own (essentially cry it out), but we have an infant at home too, and she raises her voice screaming *so much* that you can hear it all through the house and she wakes the baby up! Obviously we are exhausted by all this, we just don't know what to do. 

She refuses my (mommy's) help. She just wants daddy down there to fix the problem, then to stay and chat and play. If she doesn't get this, she will scream and tantrum until we tend to her - all whilst waking the baby and rest of the house up. We've explained this to her and she simply does not give a shit. 

From two extremely tired parents - please, help!",2.37747104247104,4.5225160135135125,3.442316602316602,89.21175675675678,78.05405405405406,6.1204633204633225,20.368725868725868,7.1686216300943375,0.4712928571428572,1164,29,236,14,28,374,171,296,0.139,0.726,0.136,0.5874,2,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,8,1,0,1,11,15,2,0,20,0,15,8,5,4,6,52,34,20,0,7,9,1,0,0,0,2,2,5,4,2,15,21,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,9,0,1,6,6,32,6,41,25,11,41,1,1,1,1,44,20,1,3,19,163,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558543508490292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168060389159468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226154540071844,0.07178147741163418,0.11474890579445468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628835082437362,0.0,0.0,0.09740234496854792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413269943038854,0.0,0.0,0.0937779049326292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815142639353728,0.10677235192034062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544700764929187,0.0,0.22381294456461348,0.0,0.2232927467343121,0.0,0.109611416898003,0.2568583319292941,0.11915257897038653,0.0,0.0,0.11617181962678885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590535085783825,0.061169431253351024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381525534640966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934668135120633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045565331603012,0.10531795700403104,0.14859175165589705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884130246868582,0.0,0.08182079697030464,0.0,0.08584403452302873,0.10749750578236113,0.0,0.3133520694425861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679418254413393,0.0,0.0,0.08465124215711227,0.0,0.0,0.12358924059421085,0.0,0.10625167816262904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221776963310046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130046210821041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426076009795572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142513283908024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372692046111736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822472507457469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792687120740245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210661246578792,0.10872723713870436,0.0,0.0,0.09613039079009436,0.0,0.0,0.19694886618166885,0.0,0.08928086420039298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790667334413674,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,levelupmentalhealth,2020/04/01,"Here Are 8 Reasons Why Your Child Benefits From Playing Video Games In MODERATION  [https://levelupmentalhealth.com/here-are-8-reasons-why-your-child-benefits-from-playing-video-games-in-moderation/](https://levelupmentalhealth.com/here-are-8-reasons-why-your-child-benefits-from-playing-video-games-in-moderation/) 

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If you ask your child why they like to play video games they will likely tell you that they do so because its fun or it helps them to relax. I hope that most parents can appreciate the value of this – your child deserves to have fun and to have a chance to relax.  

Moderation is the key to success with this. Too much of a good thing can easily become a bad thing. I don’t advocate an abstinence approach to screen or gaming time, the reason why is that your child is going to eventually be exposed to electronics and there is value in them learning structure and discipline around digital consumption.

But, as a parent you may have heard horror stories about children becoming addicted to video games, becoming overweight from sitting on the couch all the time when playing or even becoming aggressive in some cases. It is often underappreciated, but make sure that your child is making good choices as far as the content they are accessing and pay attention to the ratings (I cannot stress the ESRB ratings enough).  

Today, I’m not going to talk about those negative aspects of video game play. Instead, I’d like to give you a more broad perspective on the role of video games in your child’s life. Today we’re talking about the positives of video game play. Below are potentially positive aspects that may occur naturally through your child’s play or maybe intentionally incubated by parents and family members.

**\*\*\*A side note:**

Before we begin, I want to emphasize that there is a difference between potentially useful, high-quality games, and video games that are inappropriate for your child. You should always be aware of the content of your child’s video games and I’d like to point to [commonsense.org](http://commonsense.org/) as a resource to quickly educate yourself about the content and quality of each game your child owns. There is very little to no evidence (good evidence, scientifically gathered and analyzed) that long term video game use can result in a person enacting violence. However, there is some evidence that video game play, in some situations, can result in short term irritability and impulse control. I may address this topic in a future blog post if people are interested and have questions about this.

So how can gameplay enrich and develop our children into healthy, creative, and social adults?

**Behavioral Currency**

What is behavioral Currency? Very simply, it’s whatever you need to use to get your child to do what you want them to do. 

Everyone needs the motivation to get things done, would you go to work if you didn’t get a paycheck? This should be something positive for them that you can let them earn as a reward. This doesn’t have to be limited to video games but can include youtube, web surfing time, or phone time. It is very important to set an expectation and reward to motivate your child to follow through at an early age before they are old enough to learn the virtue of responsibility.

**Problem-solving skills**

What your children love about video games is the sense of accomplishment they get from figuring out the challenges placed in those games. From getting to the next level to beating a really hard boss, there are always problems to solve. I always think of video games as a very good looking series of puzzles. Each player is tasked to figure out how to either beat the game or beat another player. 

**Learning to not give up**

Sometimes those challenges result in your child losing at the game. Hopefully, your child isn’t getting so upset that they throw their controller, but children learn that if they want to get to the next level, they will have to figure out what they did wrong and adapt. In video games, your child has an opportunity to try something, fail, then try it again. This teaches them an invaluable lesson and instills in them an important value, RESILIENCE.  

**Achievement and Confidence**

For the average child growing up in the USA, there is a phenomenal amount of pressure to do great. Kids are sometimes unfairly judged against one another in the school system, they measure themselves against peers on social media, and even with the best of intentions parents will sometimes measure them against their siblings. In video games, a child can play through from beginning to end and feel a sense of accomplishment. In player vs. player games, they can experience their skill as a player increase and get a sense of satisfaction that way. A player also gets a chance to learn to be humble in defeat, and since video games are fun its likely they will pick the controller back up and play again – a skill which can translate to their real lives. 

**Creativity**

A lot of popular games these days foster the development of creativity. Sometimes this takes place as part of the game, sometimes creativity allows people to win in a unique way, and sometimes gaming sparks a child’s imagination. There are a plethora of examples of creativity in games like Minecraft where players have built cities, monuments, and replicas of real-life objects. In games like Roblox, there are several user-generated game modes and scenarios – many of which made by children and shared with the gaming community. This creativity isn’t limited to in-game either, I often have patients of mine come to the clinic and show me drawings of their favorite video game characters. A study published in PNAS showed that Individuals with a creative brain show a distinct pattern of activity across three brain networks: the default mode network, the salience network, and the executive control network. Furthermore, those brain regions work together in a synchronized manner which fosters creative thought. ([https://www.forbes.com/sites/daviddisalvo/2018/01/19/study-shows-how-the-creative-brain-is-wired-differently/#7a3c19c231a0](https://www.forbes.com/sites/daviddisalvo/2018/01/19/study-shows-how-the-creative-brain-is-wired-differently/#7a3c19c231a0))

**Exploration**

Some games rely on the player taking a linear path whereas others allow the player to chose the path that they want to take. Young children love to explore and discover new things in their environment, and this fosters an experiential type of learning that isn’t replicated in our standard public classrooms. I would say that you should take advantage of every clear weathered day and free moment to bring your child outdoors for explorative play, but unfortunately, there are limits on our time. Certain video games can be useful emulate outdoor exploration.

**Cooperation**

Cooperation with others to complete a common task is an essential skill to be successful in many online video games as it is in the real world. Many popular games require teamwork, communication, assignment of roles, and leadership. Through video gameplay, many children learn that to be successful, they must work with others to accomplish something they wouldn’t be able to do on their own.

**Socializing**

Many children socialize through video games and various forms of social media. Most children use gaming as a means to strengthen established friendships. In their teen years, children often practice self-disclosure to their peers which improve social connectedness, problem-solving, and potentially, empathy. It is important to talk to your children about what is appropriate and what is not appropriate forms of communication through video games or other online media. It is a good idea to educate your child to understand that what they say or post online is not as anonymous or impermanent as they may think.

How do you use video gaming and digital content to help your child develop?  

 [https://levelupmentalhealth.com/](https://levelupmentalhealth.com/) to read more.

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\-Dr. Mike

Level Up Mental Health",9.265896200170829,12.119749179984488,7.274845428685616,66.09598835523586,60.691233514352206,9.614597487677397,35.052785418184946,9.970917895940527,3.985259391431773,6619,284,909,142,99,1943,502,1289,0.046,0.754,0.2,0.9997,8,0,3,0,0,0,292.0,4,32,35,40,38,61,1,3,78,0,93,11,3,29,6,175,145,75,0,21,25,4,2,7,0,15,6,3,2,35,63,51,1,9,29,79,4,14,14,10,0,2,6,7,81,52,188,114,28,112,0,3,2,2,176,59,0,31,39,620,144,33,0.04500208632656795,0.0,0.0,0.04905891665338497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035988152176550416,0.11233602259702867,0.0975194834663266,0.10936492122117847,0.0,0.09437722263519284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04006139782699997,0.042070875880231916,0.0,0.0,0.03460382657211989,0.0375748623442826,0.02743285413041193,0.1988050748533463,0.076586921807268,0.0,0.04722691319164301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25118605711984593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038765312613293766,0.047183831312884505,0.0,0.2018946656812648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05804524550184559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701760200544085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046052758702728035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03985849115845115,0.09299836998259202,0.0,0.05944690718782749,0.0,0.037916198654201504,0.04300142200707738,0.0,0.04402067565072301,0.042423961905570434,0.0,0.02275440700811364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116055944171376,0.08634020367796344,0.07672716819862481,0.18872807450600512,0.0,0.049614959046362136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040313030038022266,0.0,0.0,0.047835113372713164,0.0,0.0,0.06032789972286245,0.04754717499000869,0.0,0.08939445166125684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080187778992114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046017682253547736,0.03178630444225965,0.15390022365184802,0.04510391297149738,0.039737666702801135,0.03982543026594212,0.037790418449255916,0.05034582351155411,0.0,0.03825916450501194,0.08123227981696833,0.0425820621871248,0.06007848413982274,0.2281252608919603,0.0452106444065552,0.04902046482330822,0.0,0.0,0.04535151841351502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033081711456444896,0.06673695358356957,0.0,0.04346329539994881,0.09572045869168654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04722211943399511,0.0,0.0304945783580307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998779649111798,0.04873287407037464,0.0,0.06239756073548064,0.03929408596897122,0.0940352040108817,0.0,0.04254151753838323,0.0,0.08619911795043604,0.0,0.0,0.12918275685003958,0.0,0.0,0.05041263589704092,0.0,0.0450142645302441,0.15366667935046446,0.02882948884507776,0.09253927966121113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157493059674526,0.0,0.04554451390921133,0.0,0.0,0.046946990628951635,0.05083954821441936,0.0,0.03722619084806551,0.050584230544566185,0.0,0.27524375858142763,0.0,0.10393441397162104,0.267049284464061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051549737840905184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0424139337849748,0.0,0.13534387335533374,0.10851291702168736,0.039333806996667095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958954603645565,0.057671039626921924,0.0,0.03572662976147276,0.1312053921710674,0.0,0.08531343176349422,0.0,0.0,0.061106925202421336,0.0,0.0,0.0468487589497725,0.0,0.23320412179319425,0.0,0.14852573687666185,0.10617358591704736,0.07144112290266187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182214984889905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828616445400848,0.0,0.0,0.06393638190691947,0.0492027168522376,0.10936492122117847,0.028979868142952774
parenting,asdfsparty,2020/04/01,"I am trying to make this pandemic easier on my kid. Any advice is appreciated. Any advice on how to make this as non-traumatic as possible for my 7-year old? He misses school and his friends. He got a stomach ache tonight and asked me in tears if that meant he has the Coronavirus. Ugh. :( 

Also, his birthday is in 2 days. How can I make this special all while being in our home without family/friends here? Wishing I was a little more creative right now!

Thank you.",2.0669999999999997,4.627119477777779,3.5222222222222217,85.84000000000002,82.0,6.711111111111113,24.555555555555557,7.908726449838941,1.6090222222222224,363,14,70,7,10,119,68,90,0.133,0.688,0.17800000000000002,0.7667,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,3,0,7,1,1,5,1,12,16,9,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,10,3,11,12,2,12,0,1,0,0,10,7,0,1,5,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928656381065079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075431327074247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733987618169829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18792503509619168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964021511169524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106125791553759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077274927372673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163780938580772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201473210405086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025439572250693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21093495835963488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266180021360283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17166858473017424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034413164868092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507070213926888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647827413882316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311611983372754,0.19377452978711826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944923593583585
parenting,nikkiheartsyou,2020/04/01,My kid found my vibrator 🤦🏼‍♀️ My 6 year old found my vibrator when we were moving and now she won’t stop asking what it is? Why do I keep it in a bag in the closet? What’s it for? I have no idea what to do.,-3.4951373626373616,-2.0310800192307674,0.6956043956043985,103.30653846153848,99.19230769230772,4.509890109890111,11.274725274725276,6.1826913282559595,-1.3454428571428574,157,2,47,2,7,59,40,52,0.10800000000000001,0.892,0.0,-0.6046,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,4,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,30,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709377854654885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6355341018789541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271657168506221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576007765879416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080273461788171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041119586113765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422982120796375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261512846358514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663127718296035
parenting,frustrated_father1,2020/04/01,"How do I get her to co-parent? Sorry for the length. I am very frustrated right now, and do not know what to do.

I have a son (8,M). His mother and I are not together and seemingly at odds on everything. I feel as if I am trying to instill structure and responsibility, whereas she has a hands-off approach.  I have my son in taekwondo, violin (he is improving, but he would rather not do violin), teach him English (I'm an expat in a non-English speaking country) and math (thank you Khan Academy). Most of these are crammed into my time, with the exception of violin. We do fun stuff as well - hiking, snorkeling, park, museums, play dates, reading books, doing projects, etc. I do feel myself needing to pull back a little on the schedule at times, but overall it seems ""pretty balanced"".

However, I am very frustrated with his mother. Her style is very different from mine, for example when speaking to my son about this past weekend, he said he spent the better part of the day watching YouTube videos and eating junk food. He said he didn't go to bed Sunday night until past 11 pm, because he had not started his homework until 8 pm. When I asked what he had done during the day, he said he had been home alone while his mother went to church for the day - this seems to be the norm.

I just feel anything positive I try to instill she just completely undermines. When with me, I cook vegetables and lean meats, she largely feeds him 7-11 prepared food and pastry/donuts from the bakery. I will help him with his homework (despite it being in the local language, at the very least I sit down with him, try to help, and keep him focused), she has acknowledged she doesn't even check to make sure he did it, much less did it properly. I will limit his screen time (computer, switch, tv), she gives him free reign with regard to content and time. I try to get him outside and exercise, he says she mostly sits on her phone and smokes cigarettes.

Her attitude is that these are the things he wants, my counter is that at this age he needs exposure to healthy and constructive habits. I admit things in my schedule might be a little too much for him at times, and I have reduced studying with him, but at minimum ensure his homework is timely and correctly done.

I suppose the biggest problem I have is trying to get my son to keep up good habits during his time with his mother, because anytime I have asked she just becomes hostile. I encourage him to exercise, ask for more healthy food from her, practice violin (I have tied in practice with his mother to screen time at mine, so he is much better about it), establish a schedule for his homework so he is not up until almost midnight on a school night, ask his mother to take him to the park, etc.

I suppose my question is am I damaging my son while trying to encourage him to continue what I consider to be good habits during his mothers time? Or should I just stay in my lane? If I am supposed to stay in my lane, what are some tips to keeping my mouth shut about it? Even his general practitioner has recommended more exercise, less screen time, healthier diet, as he has a BMI of roughly 26 (I understand that BMI is not the golden standard, but he is overweight) and has been complaining of headaches. Is it fair for me to allow his mother's parenting to affect his time with me? I have almost completely cut out sweets and the next step is going to be carbs. Or what triggered me today, she is trying to encroach on the holiday weekend that starts tomorrow. He and I had plans to go to the beach Thursday and Friday, and back to the city Saturday and Sunday, but she decided she wants to spend the time with him, so she had him tell me that he doesn't want to come with me until Friday evening or Saturday morning. I will admit, I was a little peeved, as I had already tried to communicate with her last week regarding this plan and she refused to speak to me. I told him that it was his choice (despite a court agreement), but that I had other things I need to get done on Saturday and Sunday, so if he was not going to come so we could go early Thursday than we would post-pone the trip to some other time. He got upset, and I mentioned to him that we had plans, and he had changed those plans without communicating with me, so such change would affect the viability of our plans.

I am at loss, I don't want my son to be upset, but at the same time his mother refuses to communicate unless through or in front of him. I suppose I could complete my chores on Thursday and take him during the other days, but I don't think he should be getting in the habit of expecting things are just going to change and be dictated without any communication (I found out this morning his mother made other plans with him when I was picking him up for school). But his mother does not communicate or agree to anything unless he is involved in the decision. At an older age that is fair he will make decisions I may agree with or not, and I do allow him some autonomy now. That being said, he does have responsibilities if only it be his schoolwork, and instilling healthy habits now (at least in my mind) is crucial to his future well-being.

Any suggestions for balancing this? Am I damaging my son? (In case it comes up, she was granted full custody by the court, because I am a foreigner. Don't at me for ""being racist"", the judge straight up stated despite the custom in this country to grant the father full custody, as a foreigner I would not be getting it. I had requested shared custody)",6.756324985717008,6.4529637612359565,6.982020567510954,77.24604932393831,64.94569288389513,10.087119913667241,33.83203199390592,9.612842014336671,3.0397494572462405,4339,168,826,76,59,1404,393,1068,0.05,0.847,0.10300000000000001,0.996,4,1,2,0,0,0,147.0,5,1,0,10,31,26,4,2,44,0,105,13,1,10,2,160,164,72,0,22,40,20,4,0,0,12,4,8,7,0,45,55,9,6,17,14,4,15,18,11,1,0,33,17,148,16,145,105,20,136,1,3,4,0,147,51,0,23,65,595,193,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421399371002073,0.05389407796025253,0.0574235262738365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077315280446665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564314362663736,0.0,0.194588258355768,0.0,0.0,0.08002564962377881,0.0,0.09516282693093886,0.05747018046719873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204403825254384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514302092271113,0.13447440494545518,0.1636777111058556,0.0,0.0,0.08309375624146333,0.0,0.0,0.13423684427431087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05436702406879485,0.0,0.0,0.09107491155773087,0.159754092129319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053246288286678815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606881359679412,0.1031087708446519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467670138551027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893359129660292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18876807766586184,0.05705529121651221,0.0,0.0,0.16312141203964256,0.04991811291142936,0.17744111236053214,0.08729142560641813,0.04161830973748349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975788292803965,0.0,0.05219681098765401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387571865840556,0.0,0.0,0.028597876895235783,0.042416659150055235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15646260661067726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049238155522232624,0.06946948066106136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055202459552166384,0.05254198947892493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475835386806872,0.11575312458521735,0.0,0.0,0.055341364293363976,0.0976653831080104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03957607178349022,0.0,0.0,0.05778032941732305,0.05635041398366111,0.09934937597905542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049836543341554684,0.0529397860622207,0.0,0.049791863411257804,0.0,0.0,0.05829274297886679,0.0,0.0520505406224605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044438851507923885,0.19799435425914805,0.04138148064234826,0.0,0.1053273488348946,0.0,0.1421161132647241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058250555358768476,0.07366334676268457,0.110927882856997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956929573255507,0.0,0.0,0.04904374660947524,0.0,0.07824988202739329,0.0,0.04548215860642296,0.047908179960597,0.0,0.0,0.13828284409289648,0.03334286167025765,0.0,0.0,0.4248002864379383,0.0,0.049324478495741265,0.04972306637375179,0.0,0.28263471819474284,0.0,0.0,0.05417178879349715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717421128936891,0.12276980651532166,0.0,0.04174050847273863,0.0,0.09357405160914886,0.04823831865496778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032257874977334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786082938057565,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,randomoffensivename,2020/04/01,"My 4yo (M) said he likes boys? Long story short, he basically was talking about boys and girls and said that he likes boys.

I dont have anything against homosexuality but to say that at 4 years old; clearly is way too young as I am straight and dont think I was thinking about girls until atleast 8.

I have been talking to him about it, my initial reaction might have made him uncomfortable but I am fixing the situation and letting him know that he can talk to me about anything.

After that topic, I have spoken to him about having friends that are boys or girls, and 'liking' to play with them etc. but I am not sure if he was exposed to the idea of sexuality??? How can I separate and specify exactly what he is trying to articulate?

I was not planning to have that sexuality talk until atleast 6 because I do feel that it is a proper time to talk about those things and he is not even near prepubescent or having any sort of hormone changes that would make him attracted to anyone.

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If anyone had similar experiences or advice I would like to know how to specify exactly what he meant and how I should handle the topic?

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\*Just want to reiterate that I have nothing against lgbt community and I myself have had a questionable phase in my early teens where I definitely had some confused thoughts but that was about it and has left me as I matured.",8.259938344098646,7.2155425687022925,8.258549618320611,71.74907516147975,62.24427480916031,11.11497357604228,37.711098062243096,10.214889679676881,3.69041009982384,1091,46,205,20,13,355,135,262,0.049,0.84,0.111,0.9503,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,1,14,9,0,1,5,0,37,0,0,5,4,50,49,26,0,6,13,0,1,4,1,4,0,3,0,7,17,11,0,0,9,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,14,4,28,8,33,30,2,17,0,0,0,0,31,7,0,10,13,151,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109309897462437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459989860544687,0.275879842407354,0.07719788218162585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875244774958716,0.0,0.18683551740642385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920108742158908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008971356253825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660905313543509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266054463019613,0.07497926759081575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104490293213826,0.0,0.0,0.05739941243843324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770571282184257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815090873916402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477587580717298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334043433026184,0.11608247677868755,0.0,0.22184167058551127,0.0,0.0,0.10046213450246187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741591064474916,0.07577586373900931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204273880638861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108926051115022,0.0,0.1191207447701158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271690217605325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21596812106073288,0.09027611574561974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760187997309844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699179625257092,0.0,0.0,0.4562176810265343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541802422959053,0.14547879837600494,0.0,0.09012265430528496,0.06619475881474808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707301713658342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695737495979302,0.0901073466140535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128351547846773,0.0,0.275879842407354,0.07310352686209852
parenting,Gina9r29,2020/04/01,"We never had any problems with our son until he turned 10. Now he's being defiant and disrespectful to us My son has always been a good kid, and I still think he is a good kid deep down. I'm assuming the stuff he's doing right now is a phase, but it's tough. He's our only child so we don't know if this is an age thing or the way he's going to be from now on. He's doing things like calling us names, shoving us and rough housing, playing cruel games pretending to be hurt among other things. Some days he acts like he doesn't like me anymore and won't speak to me or hug me, then other days he acts like he doesn't like his dad. He'll say things like ""I like mom better, I don't love you anymore"" and hug me in front of dad to ""make him jealous."" Then on a different day he will do the same and say ""I like dad better.""

He gets lots of attention so I don't think it's that. We've had to take away Playstation privileges for the first time ever this week.

Is this part of the pre-teen stage and can you relate? Thanks!",3.2593822393822407,3.2571255945945983,4.467258687258688,91.27783783783785,72.33333333333334,7.604118404118402,23.064350064350066,7.1686216300943375,0.5078458172458173,790,16,191,7,14,261,123,222,0.071,0.7070000000000001,0.222,0.9877,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,7,2,0,3,7,23,2,0,10,0,22,3,0,1,2,27,34,16,0,2,4,6,1,8,0,3,0,3,0,3,13,10,0,0,5,3,0,4,7,5,0,1,3,4,21,18,19,25,4,30,0,1,0,3,41,8,0,6,24,111,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560732397123348,0.0,0.0,0.07813701849667125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22790299630037555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079538222010058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203242230548006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732736588336334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230605183667815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200477016195409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039350626085423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977352301957412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003133619966066,0.0,0.06530121912608358,0.1927479974236509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258100304694465,0.1230045240648273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314690662721296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44908088740284857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976852193393256,0.103703167254404,0.0,0.07669770075616744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345713485999995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886191864377025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738783367517289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244272203585799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994529982571682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981253264734118,0.0,0.1827487057022414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176055485535352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153482579327944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639169285320987,0.0,0.0,0.10578594270246408,0.0,0.0,0.3053420320700204,0.14724859333362608,0.0,0.0,0.06700003870212039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497993054448765,0.0,0.0,0.4146373808247688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120353059042924,0.09216712138303952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,punkcore329,2020/04/01,"We’ve started online learning this week. My second grader is in dual immersion. ALL OF THE ASSIGNMENTS I NEED TO HELP HIM WITH ARE IN SPANISH. I only speak English. I’ve been trying to use google translate to decipher his school work, but that only helps so much. Any one have tips to help?!",1.4146428571428549,4.12182975,2.732857142857142,87.93714285714289,90.78571428571428,4.942857142857143,21.285714285714285,6.6274283507984215,0.7907571428571436,230,8,41,3,8,74,47,56,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.7103,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,6,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,5,0,8,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,26,7,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19410100538157213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5739496407782455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098226137931836,0.21164143904608854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341357674397225,0.4341621090953521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888686386420011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202759238254628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937870533650812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465183743915161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289533343831835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077951736021716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,selahvictor,2020/04/01,"STAY AT HOME Rap Please enjoy this comedic PSA I made with my toddler to help encourage people to #stayathome

[https://youtu.be/u5vkwivvmT0](https://youtu.be/u5vkwivvmT0)",15.04,21.13139871428572,6.2447619047619085,62.758571428571464,61.85714285714285,8.514285714285714,30.809523809523807,8.841846274778883,3.8120666666666665,147,5,15,3,3,34,20,21,0.0,0.514,0.486,0.9217,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29471900612534163,0.0,0.4410510070399583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160510511457749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30482989079822603,0.0,0.0,0.4826542446426125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4686575052876423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oklistentho,2020/04/01,"Trifecta of misery. Advice? Just looking for some advice. My son is 2 (26 months) and is just entering the defiant, “no no no no no no”, “I know I’m not supposed to throw this car but I’m going to throw it at your face and laugh”, whine about absolutely everything, destroy things, tantrums pretty much 24/7 stage. I get it’s a normal stage of development but... 

I also have a two week old newborn. 

My plan to transition him was to have one of us still take him out and about on all the normal stuff we did (story time at the library, aquarium, zoo, trampoline park, regular park, science museum, etc) for 1-on-1 with a parent time and because he’s used to being out and about constantly... but with C19 we are stuck at home. 

I feel awful for him having to adjust to a new baby, and we aren’t going out and about like we usually do, but he is literally breaking my spirit. Between the normal terrible twos, boredom and a new baby I know he has it rough but it’s really taking a toll. 

Any advice on activities or ways to help him through this rough time? Any advice on how to deal with it as a parent? 

I’m at SAHM, my husband is on paternity leave for the next 3-5 weeks depending on C19. I think also having husband home has thrown him through a loop.

Sorry for the rambling post, physical and mental exhaustion is real over here.",2.7692163994048613,4.6839822813688246,4.617854190775336,82.32147131757316,75.9961977186312,7.767829393288148,24.742767399570173,8.587818076936951,1.8088728384857007,1032,35,201,21,23,351,146,263,0.161,0.774,0.064,-0.9646,3,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,5,1,0,1,11,7,2,0,14,1,17,2,1,3,1,42,32,19,0,3,9,5,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,9,19,0,0,5,1,0,6,8,5,0,2,3,4,21,2,41,28,4,37,1,1,1,0,22,13,0,3,14,137,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.446338392478328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826345060744883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530546835693848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960882208875765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339821691551177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772429747016468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735140899464514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262610471076483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05773761131937965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059659268832853635,0.0,0.12979297925332955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653877388830936,0.0,0.2290826353200018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551105862132386,0.0,0.0,0.12091012814757555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05578719191789051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589036933556792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507609677411207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114492070360007,0.0,0.08394237640080035,0.0,0.0,0.22056974330878532,0.12144176372697088,0.0,0.33564421624169416,0.0,0.0,0.11982260740019007,0.0,0.07737771904829373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25358771699115834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936191759514964,0.11617171121123787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997258072415316,0.07315267855057514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278257280276817,0.0,0.0,0.09119183341446753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307195879629311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17171249401188918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586238925553909,0.07316798168320629,0.0,0.0,0.19975434033887093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154648943628123,0.0,0.1373558352285742,0.09862301207096257,0.125763534392027,0.0,0.0,0.09063826152233084,0.18319176017848127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NoMids,2020/04/01,"Ringworm and vaccinations Looking for a consensus opinion, I understand that this is reddit and most of us are not doctors:

Wednesday (04/01) is our appointment for our daughter to have her 4 month immunizations. Monday (03/30) after bathing our daughter we put moisturizer on a few dry spots (belly, arm, and back). Today (03/31) while bathing her the spots are more developed and look identical to pictures of children who have ring worm. 

Assuming this is ringworm would you delay your child’s immunizations until the ring worm cleared up? 

Side note- I’ve spent the last hour reading about ringworm. I was unable to find much about its relation to a child’s immune system. I was unable to find anything about vaccinations while a child has ringworm.",5.942512820512822,8.87721404615385,5.336538461538464,76.09762820512822,70.07692307692308,8.025641025641027,33.141025641025635,8.841846274778883,3.27648717948718,606,29,93,12,12,184,86,130,0.019,0.9520000000000001,0.03,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,7,0,11,5,1,0,1,15,15,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,2,2,4,5,5,0,1,4,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,4,12,0,16,11,4,17,0,0,2,0,16,3,0,3,12,63,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982212347511373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185219533151905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246547801160127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4403144011939048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372153094253324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634689234193392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40455200225895227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19226571146753246,0.0,0.17707229976599026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421479007722851,0.0,0.0,0.2409421699097771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283232169408781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507614365520561,0.2897453547666082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111209917117634,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowRA_StepSonQ,2020/04/01,"Does anyone have experience becoming a step father and helping to raise a step son that is older than you? I am new to being a father. I posted a topic on my problems in ""relationship advice"" and was met with hostility:  [https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/fs8bfw/my\_19m\_new\_step\_son\_22\_m\_is\_not\_respecting\_my/](https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/fs8bfw/my_19m_new_step_son_22_m_is_not_respecting_my/)   


The gist of it is that I am 19, but there is an age gap with lovely new wife, who is 44. She has a son who is 22 and still lives at home, who is now my step son. It is a little awkward because he older than me, and also we went to the same high school briefly, he was a senior when I was a freshmen. 

  
He has been very disrespectful of me. He does not pay rent to me and my wife, which I have not even asked him to do, but I do ask him to do some chores around the house. I am a stay at home father and am home with my new son when my wife is at work, and he never listens to me or even tries to get along with me.   


I am new to being a father and I want to help finish raising my new son, who is a little immature for his age.   


Wanted to see if anyone here ever had a similar scenario or had some tips for a new pop.",8.955131578947368,8.714467934210527,7.449824561403509,75.49210526315792,60.44736842105264,9.003508771929825,26.456140350877188,7.793537801064563,1.2228087719298246,1011,17,190,8,12,302,113,228,0.026000000000000002,0.9129999999999999,0.061,0.8264,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,1,1,0,1,11,4,1,1,17,0,29,1,0,0,2,30,39,16,0,4,7,12,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,9,15,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,3,0,0,8,2,26,1,28,29,3,33,0,0,1,1,35,9,0,5,18,138,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441959935062227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545364805391613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943404929373047,0.0,0.0,0.0951255450310958,0.19979407684798392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513914497399859,0.11801535971135488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870228762253501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115631888520475,0.09665843678901843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045268260981621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05582846606125305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432482302914275,0.1129004772910134,0.3215593917271292,0.0,0.0,0.1232988385325176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21419793303153956,0.09435684744930077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644277672332854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241484457314308,0.6192199805341535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242572697078891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233964016488473,0.0,0.0,0.10224788966048402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294492417750155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814517075762484,0.08515133742927587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389553583235547,0.08533628179565345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254901077287289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816836429765945,0.12605426640228326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905767620107267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779329953386549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Potential_Gold,2020/04/01,"How do I fire our nanny? How do I fire our babysitter

We have two children (1 and 3 years). Our nanny of a little over a year left us last month to take a professional job. We hired a new nanny two weeks ago, but she really isn’t working out. She isn’t doing anything majorly wrong, but her personality is not meshing well with our children. She’s said a few inappropriate things like ‘well if you choke and die, that’s not my fault,’ and ‘stop crying! We aren’t doing this right now,’  while my husband and I were in earshot. Makes me wonder what she says when we aren’t around. My son also told me she yelled at him last week. She does have a lot of energy and takes the kids outside on long adventures and generally seems to get the 3-year-old to comply with what she wants, but there have been some epic meltdowns too.

Anyway, I have another nanny willing to start next week, and she sounds like she will be a much better fit.

My question is, am I out of line letting her go so quickly? And if not, how do I cut ties with her (she has our car seat, so it will have to be in person).",3.7491891891891878,4.395168693693695,4.692810810810811,87.77786486486488,71.52252252252252,7.541621621621622,24.259459459459467,7.554174236665415,0.8711816216216213,838,21,186,9,15,273,135,222,0.107,0.8,0.092,-0.6748,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,10,1,0,2,14,8,1,0,9,0,26,0,0,4,0,38,37,21,1,3,8,2,2,2,0,3,0,4,0,5,6,18,0,1,3,0,0,2,7,2,2,2,4,6,37,6,19,27,5,31,0,0,0,0,36,12,0,7,19,133,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799289086422933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644703309748814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957614845314814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953717386382583,0.11849502357058955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772388768389015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621373054339798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814588526544022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164843792449124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954383703846866,0.0,0.07564877993409314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208991249890056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170028222362984,0.0,0.0,0.14462306511330555,0.1361127329317251,0.0,0.13006044021227006,0.13340995373559675,0.0,0.11779707034813358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316431392109387,0.0,0.0,0.08885113576136414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062461481057364,0.0,0.09785025963684488,0.0,0.0,0.12855727688566546,0.14156268408106648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967525994844887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23245088267688616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911228271843738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527288475998139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367415995734675,0.12661691927778995,0.1058534343303488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117722250982768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421507058302132,0.0,0.0,0.11128488965642974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20016245479790026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884315503516662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271911313804269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600558483310851,0.0,0.16011345777939548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785109996669622,0.0,0.3203154723284216,0.0,0.2393615349977875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435078006790267,0.09690476789264116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553354124886614,0.0,0.25715304594469673
parenting,TommyGplus,2020/04/01,"English or celtic songs to sing my baby to sleep Hello everyone,

I have been a regular reader of this sub this past few months as I have just recently become a parent myself. And I'm really impressed by the amount of great advice I've seen so far! 

I was born in Spain but I have mixed ancestry as my father's side of the family comes from Scotland. I was raised bilingual because of this and I want to do the same thing for my daughter, so I decided to accustom her to the sound of the English language from early on by singing to her bedtime songs, so far Scarborough Fair and 1916 by motorhead (I know the latter might sound weird but it works!) have been a great success.

I'm looking for something similar, a fairly long and calm song with not overly repetitive lyrics that I can sing to her before bedtime. Any ideas? 

Thank you in advance!",4.013062937062937,5.7082001151515165,4.8072727272727285,83.2032167832168,72.0909090909091,7.986013986013986,27.843822843822842,8.617729084823388,2.12248717948718,669,25,126,12,13,216,105,165,0.012,0.815,0.17300000000000001,0.9806,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,3,4,7,0,0,10,0,11,1,1,0,0,17,19,12,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,6,6,0,0,3,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,7,17,6,26,13,3,16,0,0,2,0,8,7,0,2,7,84,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026315034325685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101310160538638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264057989158978,0.2290147626993811,0.1764495774215626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862378766034534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814303963722,0.0,0.0,0.19548220438012145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4572341256670242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340861770319324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139605955232138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18350862458583692,0.1741316456805928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21997804899842155,0.0,0.0,0.1655141715223118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23025068518364625,0.0,0.19795025506454614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284124766876002,0.0,0.2047447130773654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20751150545323724,0.0,0.0,0.1596372069111319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091084064539324,0.0,0.0,0.1377619335274459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230733346053553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096182459575155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,basorino,2020/04/01,"My partner just gave birth to our first child! Help! So my partner just gave birth to our first child. The delivery didn't go that smooth. After a day and a half in the hospital we decided to diliver the baby through a C-section. As soon as our baby was born the doctor noticed some trouble with her breathing. Right now the baby and my partner are doing fine, but my anxiety is still through the roof. Will this get better over time? I never felt anything like this and I am starting to get kind of scared...any advice is very welcome.

Ps. Sorry for bad English post is coming from the Netherlands",2.1557625994694973,4.757602732758624,2.9451724137931024,89.84014588859417,82.01724137931033,4.948541114058355,25.30238726790451,6.297961479604792,0.9278867374005312,471,19,88,4,13,148,82,116,0.111,0.797,0.09300000000000001,-0.2971,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,3,6,7,0,0,10,0,9,2,1,0,1,13,17,7,0,0,3,0,2,1,3,1,1,0,0,5,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,3,5,2,11,5,15,11,1,19,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,14,63,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21678867877233896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086520836477124,0.0,0.16971419369872714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256316408488768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523499317948056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962077773766864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110362539003467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307451822603506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22707227474631744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130102270915272,0.0,0.0,0.3774099946925292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318143235670879,0.0,0.1260821339164596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487009851334449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102202450791326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838441713378373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711039438702164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525770270821273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247041278989293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945818651761248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24834225474860064,0.15702615635766085,0.0,0.17716922777786412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936217677250822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304899965596305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Helpwithcarseat,2020/04/01,Removing Graco modes stroller canopy Hi does anyone know how to remove the canopy from a Graco modes 3 lite stroller? My husband and I accidentally installed it facing the wrong way and it won't come off!,3.895263157894739,6.770410368421057,3.951842105263157,83.65039473684213,76.89473684210526,5.905263157894738,25.28947368421053,7.1686216300943375,1.2841894736842103,166,6,29,2,4,51,31,38,0.153,0.847,0.0,-0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,5,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34430588489609393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42416929417063937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4309130161360316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706167302770645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908536863699656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383751676836577,0.0,0.0
parenting,teardrop082000,2020/04/02,"4 year old is a nightmare when the mother is home and an angel when with myself the daddy? Child is almost unbearable when with mother is around but is absolutely an angel when it's just us , me being the father,  yeah I've read about how they feel safer with the mother.. what are the real world methods of reddit readers  to help this behavior?",3.344825870646765,5.507787686567166,4.439626865671645,83.1217288557214,75.11940298507463,6.257711442786071,20.12189054726368,7.1686216300943375,0.6284845771144276,273,6,49,3,6,89,50,67,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8862,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,8,1,7,0,0,1,0,11,8,7,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,7,7,0,8,2,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,6,37,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382285173180328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30068749200312245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078699062958608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264005482761483,0.0,0.3388115043015811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544334803542528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378620577448235,0.3844569496207825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40629650600435535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21751322577697987
parenting,ChildMindInstitute,2020/04/02,"My children have been incorporating the coronavirus into their play… ""Kids will play out themes of what’s happening in the world, so it’s shouldn’t alarm you, or make you nervous, it’s actually quite normal. It shows that your kids are picking up on the works around them.""

https://instagram.com/p/B-ay4scjckS",10.243205128205126,11.213048192307694,7.508461538461539,72.10320512820513,57.46153846153846,10.77948717948718,32.717948717948715,10.504223727775694,3.2379410256410264,254,8,42,5,3,72,43,52,0.091,0.863,0.046,-0.3321,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,2,2,2,3,0,2,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,8,7,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,7,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,0,28,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.41261022043358137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37639843315502336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738973264354464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822348760047201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142727153050225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497199093277516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078171698772875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lulab882,2020/04/02,"Keeping kids busy during lockdown Ok so on day 18 and going a bit mad. Trying to use the time productively (laughs). I have to work, but can manage it ok from home.

Managed to keep the youngest busy somehow, mostly doing some reading program http://readings.media/flashcards and a couple of craft kits. Although I'm afraid of when these run out...

My middle one is having the most trouble because of lack of movement.  He's used to doing a lot sports, all the time. We're not even allowed to go to the local park... But I've had him joining me on runs in the morning. Considering getting some excercise DVD's but not sure how kids do with these... 

The oldest is basically on social media most of the day. Taking her phone away only leads to her arguing with the youngest and me/hubby needing to get involved, then working into the night, when we finally have some peace and quiet. Oldest doesn't seem interested in anything else atm. I'm inclined to just let her stay on sm, but it just feels so wrong...

If anyone's found any great ""keep them busy"" resources, I'm all ears.",4.4545588235294105,6.233890191176473,4.884460784313728,82.75257352941178,71.1078431372549,6.668627450980392,27.45588235294117,7.1686216300943375,1.4384176470588232,845,30,155,8,16,268,136,204,0.086,0.8440000000000001,0.069,-0.3756,1,1,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,1,3,9,11,2,1,13,2,12,1,1,5,3,42,29,16,0,3,9,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,9,0,3,3,3,1,6,3,5,0,1,2,3,9,6,26,26,11,29,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,10,11,97,13,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071413077952174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016458215502087,0.0,0.12965253133773702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802604341245598,0.0,0.0,0.09604272549545312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720068535156031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432917825429342,0.0,0.2032170460116185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161514899235136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406213953262584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966343041460472,0.0,0.0,0.17259139301891074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274851480654382,0.0,0.0,0.1646296721546913,0.0,0.17908177589572905,0.0,0.0,0.17370251996037406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803830606241048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42012050749454377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16110841415202407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394575776811699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168234060327671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785263137030633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067618558541852,0.11982600520837422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575954376130759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343015329578293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060524012621136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793032342489125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849165093531924,0.0,0.11846009910564947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18374061122337734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696801024034044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721500692480765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22940063200089514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722592554826887,0.0,0.0
parenting,NnyBees,2020/04/02,"Parenting win of the day: schooling from home. We are in a shelter in place state, and we are remote learning kindergarten for my daughter since Tuesday.

Six year old daughter: ""I remembered what you told me, and it helped!""

The other day she was getting frustrated and upset and I said this:

""You know how when you get frustrated you get that tight, hot, ball in your chest? Here's what you do: take a deep breath, and imagine that ball is a ball of yarn, then imagine a little kitten is batting at that ball of yarn until it becomes unraveled..."" with accompanying 'mews' and batting hand motions.

Watching her calm herself, apply herself, and succeed was the absolute best.

Just wanted to share a high note in these trying times!",5.511954887218046,7.306578127819552,5.212037593984963,81.3836203007519,68.47368421052633,7.4252631578947375,32.096992481202996,7.908726449838941,2.3710908270676687,573,25,99,7,10,176,92,133,0.064,0.802,0.134,0.8774,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,6,0,3,4,8,2,1,8,0,7,3,3,1,0,19,15,11,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,10,0,1,5,4,0,1,0,3,0,1,4,5,16,5,13,11,1,20,0,0,1,0,19,9,0,0,9,68,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24283911452306225,0.0,0.0,0.2307494773878621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836075694816134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34463315529405025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738027950788418,0.2323142682582773,0.2205565957532373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083976500547612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22037655317608856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23072605521187764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441496427971371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297267883412248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908007906415394,0.0,0.20915531010164154,0.0,0.0,0.2225293179714825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188620646186865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532166689394506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821323109171862,0.0,0.0,0.21010383665777785,0.0,0.14928342868842231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296903492471388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159488683115568
parenting,WhatWeFear,2020/04/02,"Looking for new kids music in 2020 that isn't awful! Looking for new children's music that parents might like as well!  
I just found the kids group 'Big Kids' made by the bands Vallis Alps and Mansionair. Really really loving it! ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGPzTd\_jpQo&list=PLarZXnIi\_AB8\_znaCiZKrt0goShFSWXmB](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGPzTd_jpQo&list=PLarZXnIi_AB8_znaCiZKrt0goShFSWXmB)).",21.613409090909084,29.078509886363648,10.369272727272726,36.39390909090912,41.04545454545455,7.156363636363636,22.43636363636364,8.238735603445708,1.8202236363636368,361,6,31,4,5,84,35,44,0.0,0.743,0.257,0.9151,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,3,5,4,0,4,0,0,2,1,8,2,0,1,3,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4944591661076278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25018420075397724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147571094190123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832222675734247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593856689770584,0.2159065061850864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420596394873113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4407493566589479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25336345194906124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923519384425072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20515844204797504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bouryebunker,2020/04/02,Parents of teenage kids who work in fast food during the Coronavirus Pandemic. I don’t know why nobody is talking about this as I like a lot of parents have teenage kids working in the fast food industry providing food through the drive through window. We made a call to the managers and told them that they would not be working and they scheduled them off for two weeks until April 6th. Which they were very understanding. Well that time is almost up and they are putting them back on the schedule more or less because my wife is giving the ok for them to go back to work even though things are seeming getting worse here in my county and across the state and the US. So my question is should we as parents and all parents let our teenage kids work during this Pandemic? If it were just up to me I’d say No!,6.6051195499296735,6.554248063291142,5.67059071729958,85.67560478199721,65.20253164556962,8.541209563994375,34.0112517580872,7.793537801064563,2.2388964838255974,646,26,130,6,9,193,101,158,0.033,0.9059999999999999,0.061,0.5378,4,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,8,5,9,3,0,0,10,1,14,3,0,1,1,22,22,13,0,3,4,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,3,8,8,3,0,4,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,4,1,18,3,22,14,4,22,0,0,0,0,27,8,0,6,11,95,26,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876955206799948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240564863513067,0.0,0.07230280647057591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121112817377581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783399752217331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4302665934000368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619681879273539,0.11378034176614048,0.06740809841766171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651842791553309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128550526990885,0.0,0.05794625479559099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083693638953736,0.0,0.11223048782301387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5268040192246882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923457573391913,0.13286896943379126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432245603173164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797697131451134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533323804222664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879839773390762,0.0,0.11653251619365433,0.0,0.06916172872821129,0.0,0.0,0.11333576442891954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586353562914492,0.1234759145231236,0.14267174869692095,0.0,0.0,0.09786465854265547,0.0,0.0,0.09514080245676283,0.0,0.10664353028952032,0.0,0.10702596823601916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317429928770024,0.0,0.12087247160892987,0.08425626851418345,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GayVisualSample,2020/04/02,"Six weeks along. This year my husband and I started for a baby #3. Now the virus is everywhere and we bought condoms. SURPISE! I’m now 6 weeks and 2 days along now. I’m worried. I’m afraid. I would hope by November everything is better. But what about now? We wanted this for so long and now I’m too afraid to be pregnant. My main fear is dying. My husband works for UPS so he still has to go to work. I’m at home already with the kids. I don’t want him to live in the garage and miss appointments and possibly miss the birth. 

I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to have an abortion and part of me wants to keep it. This is so hard.",-0.8727536231884052,1.2177173768115992,1.081159420289854,100.96637681159422,92.6231884057971,4.515942028985508,17.81159420289855,6.139981653823899,-0.4434231884057969,490,14,121,5,18,160,82,138,0.08,0.867,0.053,-0.3936,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,3,11,7,0,3,6,0,11,1,0,0,0,21,28,11,1,6,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,12,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,5,0,1,1,1,12,2,20,25,3,17,0,2,0,1,7,3,0,1,13,77,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993236359704473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974769893449658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648786489687105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18745972225858626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623336609567736,0.0,0.0,0.2032527879795223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265307032777528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180408080118566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118110863668305,0.17940089179767976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605473618081931,0.0,0.0,0.09926650579783017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949474966198945,0.15984700556159484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3911974806319346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20362699331589607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784695635436807,0.0,0.14424696532380374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261480582945626,0.0,0.28977217025532104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629935859440582,0.1834329554853953,0.0,0.12831046803533938,0.0,0.0,0.11631626107458135
parenting,silk186,2020/04/02,"PC games for toddlers and young children I'm looking for PC games for my child to play on rainy days. Co-op is a bonus. Here are some games I've found for PC.

**Criteria**

* Controler support
* Clear visuals
* Simple controls
* Low difficulty (at least to start)

**Games for toddlers**

* LEGO games (23 games + DLC)
* Tembo the Badass Elephant - great aesthetics, easy controls
* Spyro Reignited Trilogy
* Yooka-Laylee & Yooka-Laylee and the Impossible Lair
* Unravel & Unravel 2
* Crash Bandicoot N. Sane Trilogy
* Untitled Goose Game
* A Hat in Time
* Super Lucky's Tale
* Yoku's Island Express
* Candle
* Donut County
* Supraland
* Rayman Legends & Origins
* Putt-Putt series (doesn't work with controller)

**Games for young children**

* Cart games: Sonic & Sega All-Stars Racing, Garfield Kart
* Rocket League
* Minecraft
* Overcooked
* Monster Boy and the Cursed Kingdom
* Owlboy
* Ori and the Will of the Wisps & Ori and the Will of the Wisps
* Night in the Woods
* SteamWorld Dig 2
* Pikuniku
* Hokko Life
* Trine
* Child of Light
* DuckTales: Remastered
* Sonic Mania
* Scribblenauts
* Terraria
* Spelunky

This is not an exhaustive list so let me know what I missed",2.0737961909097784,1.1243479738219941,1.4906123378101557,89.3059905910919,150.41361256544502,4.039183549586464,23.710524318992327,5.702364379191806,1.3426457394339484,897,40,139,14,69,259,138,191,0.063,0.818,0.11900000000000001,0.9212,0,0,0,0,0,0,80.0,0,0,0,7,2,9,0,0,11,0,7,2,0,5,1,17,14,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,2,6,0,4,2,10,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,3,6,16,10,2,12,0,2,1,0,15,5,0,2,7,49,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7089039837788196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.587057796935777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439032757979383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434752058408881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426754889502286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191421140216474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380759255178898,0.09242640361812432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098848239761098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279808450873048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261948904614636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849213661222346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630231161792322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526363492391507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dikdrieweht,2020/04/02,"Smart kids My 3 month old says ""Hey""  when he wants my attention. It's something I've said to him since he was born. Today, he said ""Hello"" clear as fucking day in his sisters direction. Even his sister was shocked motionless, y'all know, that's serious for a three year old. She mostly says hello to him because she's absolutely enamored and can't think of what else to say I guess.

His sister was the same. At 2 months she'd cry and yell out ""HUNGEEEE""  Today she *sounded out* the word CAT and later said ""Yeah I do want to do that but ultimately, I wanna ride my scooter."" What the fuck. Ultimately is not a frequently used word in this house.

No one ever believes me or my SO which is surely understandable. I even wonder if I'm being one of those crazy ""my kid is fucking amazing and oh so smart and special"" type of parents. But the things they do just fucking stun me.

Anyway we had a major victory(?) yesterday. I know we are supposed to be social distancing and all buuuut my SO's sister came over (we have all been self isolating for the past two weeks and she came straight from her house to ours). She obviously didn't believe that our three month old talks and damn near crawls as reported by her brother. Midway through the visit, it happened. Dads passing baby to me to be fed and I say my usual ""hey hey little man"" and he said it clearer than I've heard before. My SO's sis was completely shocked. *Finally.*


That just proved I'm not being ""one of those moms"" or fitting the mold of ""oh everyone thinks their kid is the greatest"". Someone else heard it too! Someone who doubted it at that. It wasn't just a gurgle or a baby noise it was a word.

 I'm actually terrified of raising these kids though. I came for some advice *please*.",1.3997440442427695,3.935820218023256,2.9810323312535445,88.63401871809415,85.19186046511628,5.914237095859331,22.925127623369256,7.3138001815848295,1.0744476176971074,1361,50,271,22,41,446,191,344,0.086,0.8340000000000001,0.08,-0.2812,1,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,5,1,2,0,14,14,5,1,14,1,24,5,0,1,7,55,52,24,0,4,11,9,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,6,21,18,1,0,8,0,0,6,6,9,0,6,19,12,39,5,32,28,7,37,0,0,0,4,59,11,5,9,20,174,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.08748619425763215,0.0,0.0,0.08760566984754002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05465026167723137,0.0,0.07628618039383722,0.20201137768871255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076097050833709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399709982509068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847713304716364,0.057817313516028326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978338642545747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842694231787085,0.08109423091046943,0.0,0.08566512817106378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820800839484607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315226743344445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876040226929776,0.0,0.07927785719550855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068898445931551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985394091038568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985359798296674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499786831710356,0.21467510658279326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822201261035052,0.0,0.18224899375187864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995465422042874,0.0,0.0855817797215914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840959573633523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411135509476653,0.2851754810525117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093525278508533,0.0,0.0,0.07416002219171157,0.0,0.0,0.09138764392986284,0.15192156960246095,0.06901752297709231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449476562265491,0.0,0.0,0.0720578724377139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955997099029765,0.11488915414438272,0.08808140118988501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699568462068577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757575051473039,0.09332958662220528,0.0,0.07742945872869958,0.09873762919323703,0.0,0.10575666363391836,0.0,0.07191241950697756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722240805551058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057732140077553375
parenting,ThisIsTheNewSleeve,2020/04/02,"My lovely daughter is the worst sleeper ever We have a 21 month old girl and she has never slept well. She wakes up every half hour to hour crying and rarely ever makes it through the night without consistently waking. We've tried pretty much everything, white noise, switching blankets, recently we added a pillow and tucked in her blanket to make it more like a real bed...

If we let her cry it out she will literally cry until morning. No joke. 

We have 2 boys and they each had their issues we were able to resolve, but their sister is not having it. 

Recently I've noticed when I go in at night that she is grinding her teeth and now I'm wondering if it's more physical.


Anyone having any tips or help with this?",3.975493506493507,5.645878757142861,4.713636363636365,83.9368181818182,72.14285714285714,7.090909090909091,25.584415584415584,7.686295010490155,1.3888571428571423,566,18,107,7,11,182,101,140,0.081,0.826,0.09300000000000001,0.3898,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,3,1,5,6,0,0,5,0,12,5,4,2,3,27,19,11,0,2,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,7,13,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,1,1,1,3,1,17,5,12,14,5,20,0,0,1,1,21,5,0,4,15,76,24,0,0.14987176795805945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191794153339023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479382484844907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938812989976021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711351888774189,0.12627342842101408,0.0,0.13469508125331925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517557952681312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045588690100472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295187004140035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642718784047166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325403686005934,0.0,0.07321977550889719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526512196663865,0.0,0.20008113777071093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962621532405288,0.0,0.11017299391581133,0.0,0.11559034675067804,0.0,0.0,0.2812890032732908,0.0,0.0,0.1706300011636404,0.15726520932700114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247346788651395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058688304192318,0.0,0.0,0.29596058038755474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175309260229837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475271827005253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447103612505774,0.1625295392489207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jonny055,2020/04/02,"Introduction to horror What's a good age to introduce horror movies to your kids? Me and the wife are planning on 8 years old, but the other night our 6 year old son walked in to us watching American Werewolf in London - we thought he was passed out hard.   He sat between us on the couch and we warned him that it may scare him and give him fucked up nightmares for a while, but he was down and made the choice.   He loved the movie.  It's been over a week and no nightmares at all and now he wants to watch the Thing by John Carpenter.  We have a massive poster of it on the wall...but that flick gave me nightmares when I saw it around the age of 8, but it was unforgettable and I don't regret it.  Maybe I should wait till he turns 8 for that flick?  It's more intense than American Werewolf in London",4.690975609756098,4.767209560975612,4.764536585365856,90.11339024390249,69.2439024390244,8.023414634146341,26.765853658536585,7.554174236665415,1.088116585365854,624,17,142,6,10,194,99,164,0.13,0.799,0.071,-0.884,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,6,1,0,1,3,5,1,1,12,0,9,2,0,1,1,23,20,13,0,3,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,13,12,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,9,4,15,2,25,9,2,26,0,1,3,2,22,12,1,1,12,90,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258136342922693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961048163695174,0.0,0.1967494016853209,0.0,0.17202709356015286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372818692174608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510962182965365,0.19406938832557424,0.0,0.0,0.20604925302180732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247127516582307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4304332558493892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20533962004662853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625849041457105,0.0,0.0,0.1628254910312842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230885352096515,0.0,0.0,0.4934170658620941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209725516856507,0.0,0.16451783909828166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641537302511928
parenting,TapirUngen,2020/04/02,"How do I get my daughter to understand that she doesn't have to be the best at everything? I have an 11-yr old Daughter, C. She is very intelligent, funny and talented. Now, I'm not just saying this - Her English is as good as her native tongue (which is not normal here), she gets good marks in school, she is in an elite-choir and is learning to play the piano.

The piano is part of her elite-choir experience. She LOVES to sing in this choir, and is well on her way to become a great alto singer. The choir demands that the girls play an instrument for at least 2 years. She takes piano-lessons and have been at it since this summer.

But.. She didn't expect it to be this hard. Mind you, she iks doing fine.. But she feels like it's the hardest and dumbest chore in this world.. All because she isn't THE best at it, after 7 months. I try and try to get in her head, that she is still learning. Mistakes are good, you learn from them. Noone expects you to play Für Elise now, or ever.

Tonight she got so upset with me, because I told her the rhythm was a bit off, that she I'm defiance played for 40 minutes straight, only one tune, more and more rapid (and wrong) and harder. Just to provoke a reaction. Which she didn't get.. This time around. I try to be as cool-headed as possible. We don't yell and scream in this house ever, but God gamn I'm close sometimes. She is in tears with rage, as soon as I tell her something is off with what she's doing.

It's not just the piano, it's everything that doesn't work as well as she wants it to, the first time around. The piano is just the most recent, and what gets to her the most right now.

What do I do? I just don't want her to be so harsh on herself. I just want her to be okay with making mistakes and not be number one all the time.. Noone is, and I tell her (and show her) all the time, using our family, her friends, myself, celebrities as example.. She hears me, but her temper just runs off with her.",1.7449889716018738,3.4998258362282897,2.713302315963606,95.54807313206508,78.47890818858559,5.668844775296389,19.63116901020127,6.42735559955562,-0.12413256134546467,1504,34,344,12,36,476,180,403,0.078,0.8059999999999999,0.11599999999999999,0.8607,0,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,2,3,1,4,22,25,2,1,21,1,36,2,1,4,5,64,56,31,0,8,16,2,2,1,1,0,0,6,1,1,24,23,0,0,5,8,0,1,11,7,2,3,6,8,54,18,51,44,12,46,0,0,0,1,50,22,0,3,23,243,78,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128373616085467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098541529382995,0.11865592424503722,0.0,0.0,0.2254973838320091,0.0,0.1172935744216926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19436616015632052,0.0,0.0,0.193115219337962,0.10509417748175004,0.10128221150803242,0.0,0.054323466263366975,0.07675314275907608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138601030476022,0.0,0.0,0.0830056986505273,0.0,0.2806574608543649,0.0,0.0,0.2703396274327373,0.08592732730734788,0.1184498700824121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624261034197568,0.0,0.2205230843273692,0.0,0.1210895099988164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396808076676008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248837921811112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696624945136928,0.0,0.07171515182004408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848092476154954,0.0,0.08575533195391075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526562518979657,0.0,0.0,0.11273724738432472,0.0,0.1456044271386541,0.08171081658840777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634399611182725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111927755944625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608125379397387,0.0,0.0,0.0917507645738161,0.0,0.085438357637461,0.0,0.108732161815787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887314540552352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827103899620694,0.10625811804329356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579947061860255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077938853284802,0.0,0.18780966136637375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505899342535384,0.0,0.0,0.10266082947559656,0.0,0.21882837829007112,0.0,0.0,0.11184589321009776,0.0,0.0927912282237126,0.0,0.08864692511635287,0.19010769684864112,0.08527863258392024,0.0,0.0,0.19319785476180126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782155465088474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174656904060586,0.0,0.06918602136364915
parenting,MissChanandlerBong07,2020/04/02,"Ideas for child’s birthday during quarantine? My son is turning 6 in three weeks. He’s been counting down the days since his last birthday. He’s been so excited. It doesn’t look like quarantine is going to be lifted before then...(although if it does, all the better) Usually for my kids birthdays we do a big party... family, friends.. clowns,bouncy house, the whole thing but it doesn’t look like we will be able to give him that this year. I’ve tried to explain to him that we probably won’t be able to do an actual party this year and that my husband and i will figure something out. I’m just looking for some creative ideas on how i can make his day just a little bit special for his birthday this year in the event we are still in quarantine. Ideas/tips are much appreciated. Thank You in advance.",2.7362869198312225,4.9841095063291165,3.5293924050632945,88.51961603375533,77.35443037974684,6.491814345991561,24.45738396624473,7.554174236665415,1.1866163713080171,634,22,126,9,15,201,99,158,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9758,0,3,1,0,0,0,24.0,4,1,0,2,5,7,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,2,1,19,27,6,0,1,4,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,10,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,3,15,7,16,19,5,21,0,0,3,0,19,9,0,2,12,79,25,0,0.3084624607234225,0.0,0.1505074327105796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123941737094086,0.0,0.0,0.1364049897869411,0.16838055801654128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989327687039255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496878903545395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539547775703093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915866599034936,0.0,0.0,0.14795264986494028,0.08765316247465897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779621323560437,0.0,0.34821657197698097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125719037712897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069917726873966,0.15458021082046391,0.0,0.0,0.388546168127656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029505438915734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337770038866847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628735213288498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758166753676564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873473618861186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316925979546475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199539529776253,0.0,0.0,0.10246437626110676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471288141175017,0.16775929002084752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986391061932446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371498991176184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219366078408094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979595670502753
parenting,machine43,2020/04/02,2 year old son walking around with his right ear tilted towards his right shoulder He’s had a low grade fever around 100 for the last couple days. We set up a online dr appointment yesterday and he was giving antibiotics for strep throat. His throat is red and tonsils are swollen a bit. Can the head tilt be from step or could be from a injury? He started the head tilt a few hours after the dr appointed.,4.253291666666667,5.720048412500006,4.212500000000002,88.60916666666668,71.125,7.333333333333335,25.833333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.2862083333333332,323,10,65,4,6,99,59,80,0.063,0.9059999999999999,0.031,-0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,9,0,8,10,6,0,0,8,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,10,5,2,18,0,1,1,0,9,7,0,1,8,35,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157295621584298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549218627626663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18643099765593965,0.25836365206481793,0.0,0.15058838312424852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239947743880144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4792773663525147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299507705584354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903339177397977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24501929664641955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988159782899477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527272142729252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036654420429385
parenting,lukasb1020,2020/04/02,"I need some thoughts on this So I was wondering what the parents of reddit think of putting an app that can look at when your kids on and pick up ""bad things"". You know apps like bark and life 360 the ones designed to spy on your kids and destroy their sense of privacy. I'm also wondering if you parents thing kids deserve to have at least some privacy and freedom because after all they are human.I want to know your thoughts on apps like these. Do you think kids deserve a good amount of privacy or no and why",5.7189644012945,5.652553533980588,5.425388349514563,86.74093042071198,67.05825242718447,8.808414239482202,32.70064724919093,8.344100000000001,2.2190530744336567,406,16,86,5,6,125,68,103,0.08199999999999999,0.799,0.11900000000000001,0.4939,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,6,2,0,3,5,1,0,4,0,5,1,0,1,1,21,17,10,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,8,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,1,10,3,15,14,5,10,0,0,1,0,14,7,0,6,4,56,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614808025678338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686004576718513,0.1230927134011539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936663371213334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219473955161964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262688250346264,0.19730248609717926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695676696770336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14972617616957173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683083707840712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484316676102324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20299222360471367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683024093311593,0.25877310171942697,0.0,0.3206146744419747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910166838575005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220754459812846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4379620387410843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allthatjazz92,2020/04/02,"2 month old seems to prefer her dad to me Hello all, this is my first time posting here but just wanted to get truthful perspective on something. Just some background.. My  baby is 8 weeks old and is breastfed. She also co-sleeps with us at night and generally goes off to sleep pretty well at night. She was born by c section and i was in hospital for 5 days recovering. My boyfriend is very involved in my babys care. Will take turns to get up with her in the mornings, changes her, does his share of everything that he should other than feeding.  

Recently i have noticed that she no longer likes to be held by me. She used to fall asleep on me while breastfeeding during the day but has since stopped and will kick and cry until i put her in her bouncer...she does not like to stay in my arms at all. This has really upset me. She will only fall asleep with dad. I really am feeling so rejected. I know i am sleep deprived but i cant help but feel very upset about this. Does this reflect poor attachment? Please any advice or opinion or experience..",2.5828640776699032,4.874591509708743,3.377485436893206,89.19312135922333,78.07766990291263,6.4500970873786425,23.89223300970874,7.554174236665415,1.1022085436893203,825,28,166,12,20,261,132,206,0.153,0.723,0.124,-0.8412,0,1,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,1,7,10,0,2,2,0,17,6,5,1,3,34,29,15,0,3,9,2,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,8,1,2,6,0,1,3,3,4,1,1,3,2,28,6,30,21,4,33,0,2,0,0,19,13,0,5,17,109,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693145436649728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038766275283715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833275067447127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243615434207107,0.0,0.1374112142316409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268306767442096,0.16754248223716514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34101479741428864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167408490636469,0.12706179816303415,0.0,0.0,0.13135717831886473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048824087599723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572908603892767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706558117151722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138664958406814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691983525489928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368059336135883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437944783791553,0.0,0.0,0.1478858101292661,0.2726049666279682,0.0,0.0,0.09879066123235893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258521317365208,0.0,0.0,0.12440307611078193,0.13214945887500035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057990341412265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664275542629728,0.0,0.1282552010152243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825112303550896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745011697333637,0.0,0.3899650854694375,0.0,0.0,0.09999917338114464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384503110427442,0.0,0.10859766304420987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766453867795316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574255874770107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412879740806757,0.0,0.0,0.15624715440211148,0.11218718861859706,0.0,0.21435322064086,0.07661517312385834,0.0,0.1041935757231202,0.0,0.11679080333226853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Connors_Town,2020/04/02,"different types of abuse and their warning signs April is child abuse awareness month, this topic is still scene as very taboo, and while it can be an uncomfortable and upsetting topic, it’s important for people to be aware of what signs they can look for.

So in light of social distancing and quarantine causing many children to be stuck at home with their abusers, I decided to make a list of warning sides you can look for in any children in your life.

if a child is experiencing emotional or verbal abuse, or neglect, they may show signs such as:
- constantly apologizing (whether the situation calls for an apology or not)
- not asking for help when sad or sick
- socially recoiling and not trusting anyone
- going mute or nonverbal 
- feeling guilty for having their basic needs met
- headaches or stomachaches with no clear cause
- extreme behavior, such as being way too obedient or way too demanding

If a child is expierencing physical abuse, they may show signs such as: 
- flinching when a hand is raised near them
- feeling the need to stick to someone they trust
- socially recoiling and not trusting anyone
- going mute or nonverbal
- having unexplained bruises or cuts
- suddenly becoming less hyper or active
- unexplained anger or tantrums
- getting anxious or scared by banging or screaming
- avoiding any kind of touch or physical contact
- wearing clothings that doesn't match the weather (ex. long sleeve shirts or pants to hide bruises)

if a child is expierencing sexual abuse, they may show signs such as: 
- having bruises on their wrists, thighs, or hips
- having blood or unexplained stains on their underwear or pants
- having bladder inconsistencies
- complaining about pain or itching of their genitals
- sexually projecting onto other children or family members 
- refusing to get naked in front of anyone
- masturbating or acting sexual in front of people or in public situations
- complaining of chronic back or stomach pain
- having ulcers or cuts in or around their mouth

Please feel free to share this. I am a survivor of all three kinds of child abuse, if more people were aware of all of these warning signs, it could’ve been prevented sooner. 
Stay safe, stay strong, and believe your child.",19.611016042780744,11.298080689839574,16.00188235294118,46.95047058823533,49.58823529411765,19.77283422459893,59.32513368983958,15.247664890283005,8.241943101604276,1774,82,264,45,10,539,207,374,0.22899999999999998,0.6890000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.9964,1,2,0,0,7,0,54.0,0,3,13,1,13,23,4,3,11,0,26,17,11,3,3,71,41,46,0,6,34,1,5,0,0,3,7,1,1,9,9,10,0,6,4,3,1,5,6,14,0,1,4,10,18,10,49,30,4,33,0,2,2,0,41,14,0,32,10,172,27,2,0.0,0.6891592204239133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301183401480155,0.0,0.0,0.09387115216113684,0.0,0.17430114111462613,0.0,0.0,0.07397016109084048,0.07768050130283118,0.0,0.0,0.06389319306712007,0.0,0.0,0.0917694102692264,0.0,0.0936170709662425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484698452609513,0.0,0.0,0.1707182792593564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979373975246932,0.0,0.06634279678037723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681423472706437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346815586056806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833244635692042,0.0,0.1260425678992908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682506106336546,0.0,0.0944470454443502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556953164745123,0.0,0.08334879973110981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305661769495342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869086421372428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353446589670276,0.13955395927287154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055465053529923036,0.08424300305215769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663238375236986,0.0,0.0,0.12322443736502695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683308154962032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281814425986955,0.0,0.0,0.09121088339889577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319033491645889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867994570831467,0.0,0.2541077728919733,0.07040421448287176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771316239038189,0.06635797470862727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856021805795531,0.0,0.1319103090820974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beat808,2020/04/02,"Anyone have experience with an infant with Covid that could give us advice? We were told our 2 month old likely has it. Testing won’t be available for a week and I can’t find anything online on what to expect. My pediatrician said there is no data to really help us understand what to expect or the outcomes. 

Hoping someone can help me understand what their infant experience with Covid has been like.",5.167200000000001,7.233169920000003,5.962333333333337,74.57950000000002,69.8,8.200000000000001,25.833333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.1379333333333337,324,10,54,6,6,106,60,75,0.027999999999999997,0.828,0.14400000000000002,0.8437,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,0,0,13,17,2,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,8,3,8,10,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,5,39,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862398134243196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326314998707706,0.0,0.15683720113921928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216854040143235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37286211997406976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419344196711278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282881229373904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25549344997252604,0.0,0.0,0.18929630376872847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622276531605547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152125054106674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999894288485205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209517652380625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812922730787847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148409587605367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182114439799553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39681643504895736,0.458506380930757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528777260099562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kiloutou,2020/04/02,"Nap question for baby I know the first three months are not easy to schedule and can change week to week but my baby is 9 weeks old and I'd really like more reliable/longer night stretches.

We've just recently had successful naps in the crib, which I'm encouraging as he needs to learn to sleep there right? Problem is he cannot link sleep cycles so they only last 30 to 45 minutes. Then we have a roughly 1h15 awake window before the next one. It means that by the time the evening rolls round we wouldn't have had much daytime sleep and we'd be looking at an overtired baby. He often yawns upon waking from these shorter naps. 

He sleeps much longer if I wear him - easily 2 to 3h. I'm thinking I need to do at least one of these naps a day to ensure he's rested enough.

Does that make sense? Or should I let him stick with his shorter naps? And if it makes sense, at what time should I so his longer nap? Early afternoon? Late afternoon?

Currently we have maybe a 3.5h stretch st night, then 2.5, then 1.5. If we are veeeeery lucky we'll have a 4 to 6h stretch, it's happened maybe 3 or 4 times. I'm so tired from such uninterrupted sleep (ebf so I need to do all wake ups) for so long. Any input appreciated!",1.6253846153846183,3.819343570850208,2.6429570850202424,93.71125344129557,80.90283400809716,5.733376518218624,20.406315789473688,6.918507183188421,0.2370169716599193,950,26,209,11,25,301,153,247,0.040999999999999995,0.841,0.11800000000000001,0.9684,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,0,1,2,10,5,0,0,10,0,21,10,8,2,1,35,34,19,0,10,8,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,9,9,0,0,6,6,0,0,3,1,0,4,2,3,18,4,24,25,7,35,0,0,2,0,18,10,0,8,26,115,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765635886734304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717133762921568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080292398110055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364617894716444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999326119507327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799372262651228,0.0,0.07542456796863778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713401222733108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098205714711384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062758458625016,0.09308397815795973,0.12881667347546205,0.0,0.0,0.11677188829775124,0.0,0.05578979596288628,0.0,0.0,0.2021175542393139,0.09589484532419228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245179017099975,0.0,0.2294479886850279,0.12439158085172534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114917518328418,0.0,0.16789258935754425,0.2540219229074274,0.0,0.0,0.12144743240836955,0.21432810999691776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198282005023064,0.0,0.15476266179991952,0.08685026768468282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926897165147433,0.0,0.0,0.12792427604957493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315609318500926,0.0,0.11275355788869296,0.0,0.0,0.09752170882894758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5713861957903231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317139703196293,0.0,0.0,0.19976366450939206,0.13125008830710186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27480046685667425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HouseHippoWrangler,2020/04/02,"Kids. They'll kick you when you're down. I was carrying a baking tray of chicken fingers and fries when I caught my foot on the baby gate and went ass over tea kettle. Silence fell upon the room while my 18mo & 4yo watched me crawl around on the floor, plum sauce in my hair, picking up french fries. Instead of asking if I was okay, my toddler pipes up and says, ""maybe you should've taken the gate down."" 
Thanks kiddo.",3.073571428571426,4.833003976190478,3.137619047619048,93.94071428571432,74.71428571428572,5.276190476190476,21.523809523809533,5.288315135182226,-0.08907619047619075,330,8,69,1,7,100,64,84,0.043,0.899,0.057999999999999996,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,0,5,1,3,6,4,1,0,6,8,7,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,11,2,12,2,0,18,0,0,1,1,6,12,1,1,3,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.435527219115786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578326826456009,0.37578155516399386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038263028663139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31965746098285885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37007392990289295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726241358205316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whyswayy,2020/04/02,"6 y.o. Won’t go to sleep without me (mom) My 6 year old has slept in the bed with me since birth. I don’t have a problem with that. 

She now has her own room with a beautiful bedroom set that her father invested a pretty penny in and she loves her bed and how comfy it is.....but she’ll only fall asleep if I’m there laying with her. Which is fine. Just put her to bed then go about my business right? Yea. Here’s where it gets tricky. 

She could be in what seems like a deep sleep....and I’ll get up and go to the living room or my own bed etc.....and she’ll be up minutes if not seconds behind me. 

She’s scared of the dark even when I’m with her. She has trouble falling asleep even when I’m with her. She will seek me out and come lay with me and won’t go to sleep unless she knows I’m going to sleep as well. 

A little back story. When she was an infant she had difficulties breathing. We were in and out of the hospital what felt like every week. So I kept her in my bed so I could monitor her breathing more closely. 

Fast forward to now she has asthma and same principle applies but only when she’s sick. If she has a cold I keep her in my bed or I sleep in her room to monitor her breathing. 

I don’t mind sleeping with her. Whether my bed or hers. I love her snuggles and enjoy them because I know they won’t last forever. But no ones really getting any sleep in my house. She’s getting big and it’s tough on a queen with 3 people (myself hubs and her) 

I told my husband let’s get a king and he absolutely refused saying he’s not spending any money on a bigger bed when she has a beautiful bed of her own. I don’t disagree. 

I’m just wondering if I’m fucking her up always letting her sleep with me. Like I said, I don’t mind it,  and I know she’ll eventually go to her own bed but......is it normal for her to wake up seconds after I move away? Even if she’s seemingly in a deep sleep? Anyone else with older kids in the bed can relate/explain/give advice?",-0.053837350005043305,1.9850073815165885,2.144403549460524,95.68036351719273,86.55924170616116,4.918503579711606,18.694363214681857,6.246984511938701,-0.19927877382272907,1513,41,352,14,47,509,190,422,0.064,0.8540000000000001,0.083,0.889,0,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,1,0,2,2,21,13,1,1,17,1,29,20,15,1,0,63,62,34,0,9,17,3,1,3,0,7,2,2,15,2,10,28,0,3,7,0,3,12,11,5,1,3,8,4,71,8,49,41,6,60,0,0,0,3,55,31,1,11,21,229,81,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668231677383673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529531943080223,0.0,0.0,0.10672783988067157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054869723576806105,0.08040424272971676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372739881843761,0.06034042840362449,0.0,0.047836044002626865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759702038765812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253076450575019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655536171649822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751746433370945,0.15549083160678895,0.0,0.06611637777871597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534580588985779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254646524381674,0.20499293935860552,0.0,0.2675860248954165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054660861558184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974987079705602,0.0,0.0,0.12937912917209693,0.06396547598419845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604866823346139,0.0,0.11501294608739852,0.07864995582808514,0.06929256299473392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164880158971066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846949917892358,0.09190592130488476,0.0,0.08340373768476544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768862864197115,0.0,0.0,0.08234357870323321,0.0,0.05317492613935336,0.11936358590902653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054402878512193165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983463765950959,0.0,0.07508748465960108,0.0,0.07888643179796156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05027142602116375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701499707554796,0.0746452182122995,0.06240439863155167,0.07856455761456264,0.0,0.0,0.14287664347229315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491317655074437,0.0,0.7067616068203628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498373685535258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294582236747699,0.0,0.07055610779923202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564458906334125,0.08509996561868903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050533649947118967
parenting,stefanais,2020/04/02,"Montessori toys opinion Hi everyone, so I found this [lock box](https://absorbent-minds.com/products/montessori-toys-for-children-diy-3-years-lock-box-wooden-sensory-educational-wooden-game-toys-for-children-montessori-baby-toys) toy thingy...It's supposed to be an educational toy for toddlers and I've wanted to get my daughter this type of Montessori toy for quite a while, but I'm not sure if children actually engage with this type of toys. Have you guys had any experience with Montessori toys? Should I go for it or am I just wasting money?",7.731945288753799,10.019007574468088,6.719483282674773,70.80500000000002,63.680851063829785,8.77568389057751,37.8966565349544,9.23628265651192,3.8946188449848025,448,23,66,8,7,136,63,94,0.08800000000000001,0.87,0.043,-0.5028,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,13,10,6,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,6,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,9,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,1,33,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.3360886235334679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342065304005268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290927815084292,0.0,0.3368931983549869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37762120994467335,0.0,0.0,0.17993687546740772,0.0,0.1957327302307561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34101410753346184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36631604797072703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245966945398782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20313840264639707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omenmedia,2020/04/02,"To the other parents of light-sleepers, you have my sympathies So my 8-month-old, cute as a button, is apparently the lightest sleeper in the known universe. Either that, or we have somehow managed to conceive Clark Kent. I swear, he would hear a mouse fart from the other end of the house, while the mouse was clenching his cheeks to avoid waking *his* kids.

Just now, he was sound asleep in his cot next to our bed, the room is dim, white noise is playing softly on the iPad, life is good. I enter the room, and in the faint light, I bumped my shin against the frame of our bed. I'm not talking a loud whack or a bang, just the most gentle of thuds. Think of the noise of dropping a ball of dough onto a floured board. That noise.

"".......WAHHHHHHHHHH!!!""

You've got to be kidding me. It's like this every night! Walking on eggshells whenever he's asleep. Please tell me this is just another phase? Are they all like this?",2.5168287873808737,4.711544882681569,3.0851856720341786,91.69736772921459,77.8268156424581,5.329083141636542,23.37857377587907,6.2272716619740125,0.3706014459415057,710,23,149,5,17,221,115,179,0.019,0.861,0.12,0.9515,2,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,3,1,1,0,6,6,0,1,19,0,12,6,4,0,1,16,16,6,0,1,7,1,1,2,0,1,2,3,4,2,8,2,0,1,2,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,6,16,5,21,11,3,16,0,0,1,0,17,8,0,4,7,90,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506114564936245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116823157949734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013670990544218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20046115498020706,0.19114946010657266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693694216515436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757729403622197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881217375121127,0.2335258331386045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190766848195082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25417831653817,0.22428452008208108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507894129458396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26538028196166363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262349306022577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391717609159183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920984705408934,0.20889579891489715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314101045621334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16977814503571478,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kindastillstanding,2020/04/02,"Mandatory Stay At Home Orders & Parental Burn Out. It's been 22 days. And I have another 30 - 60 to go. 

 Please tell me I'm not the only one genuinely struggling even though this has not impacted our financial security.",3.4450000000000003,5.880738976190479,4.800238095238097,79.3489285714286,75.90476190476191,9.914285714285716,29.54761904761905,10.125756701596842,3.5460761904761906,175,8,33,6,4,58,40,42,0.064,0.799,0.13699999999999998,0.29600000000000004,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,3,1,3,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142420203320876,0.0,0.0,0.3041165525087595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18704216397403625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915588101289261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482791945482514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909187721881784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652847967989107,0.22057711943374145,0.0,0.0,0.3220384956983673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183604118380811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30912811407026985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30319715328383195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534946769330065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28494813893167315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hammbone,2020/04/02,"My 4yo memorized the Lorax and ‘read’ me the entire book, is this normal? She got the Lorax for her birthday about a month ago. We have read the Lorax every night for bedtime. Perhaps an average of 2.5 times a bedtime. So she may have heard it 100 times or so. 

Last night she took the book and read to me. 10 minutes straight of memorized Lorax. She kind mumbled through some of the words that I think she didn’t know, and she forgot a few paragraphs but when I said the first word of the paragraph she would pick at the right spot. 

Is this a typical thing kids do? Or is there something unique going on here?",2.598595041322316,4.64009679338843,3.0355371900826467,92.89148760330579,76.93388429752066,5.722314049586777,23.396694214876035,6.574015621080383,0.5362661157024795,476,15,99,4,11,147,80,121,0.0,0.9640000000000001,0.036000000000000004,0.4922,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,14,0,9,0,0,1,0,19,17,9,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,5,4,0,1,4,5,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,2,14,1,11,9,2,15,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,4,9,67,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542040993583252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673358298918384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832788200912585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246728417268766,0.0,0.15827329548708152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20607534845259448,0.10875694492864628,0.16130939650307508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795648973680385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3714187850736062,0.19389335060666246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5938403540291759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899973882133604,0.1882417806855825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234787814934073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147147002102413,0.12680199245978968,0.0,0.0,0.23078626993910376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219866662140936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057767414830538,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gabyglow,2020/04/02,"My sister (19F) is not taking any steps toward self-sufficiency, what can we do?  

Hi everyone, I'm posting here because my family and I are desperate for some advice. Apologies for the wall of text.

My (26F) sister (19F), let's call her Daisy, lives with my parents while I’m abroad at college. She was diagnosed with Aspergers early on, and my parents have provided her with all the help she could get. Private education, therapy sessions, motor skills sessions when she was young, etc…. She's high functioning. If you met her you'd think she's shy and awkward, but probably wouldn't know she's an Aspie. She struggles a lot with social interaction, and sensory issues.

My mother has always helped her with everything. She is understanding if she couldn't eat a certain food or wouldn't communicate as expected. She gets her food cooked, laundry done, bathroom cleaned. If Daisy is unwilling to do anything by herself because it was too scary, our mom did it for her. She still cannot go buy anything (even groceries) by herself.

As she grew up, this translated to schoolwork. She couldn't study for class? Mom organized, learned and repeated the material at her until she learned. She couldn't write the essay/do the project for class? My mom picked a topic, did the research, and gave it to Daisy to piece it together. By the psychologists' definition, she is high-functioning enough that these should all be possible for her.

Last year she got into community college for digital design. My mom was the one who did all the research, helped her with her applications, did everything. They pay a hefty sum for her tuition. My sister said she wanted to do it. I don't know if other options were discussed, I was already living in a different country. Daisy didn't have any alternative plans she wanted to pursue. My mom has continued to do as much work for Daisy’s college degree as she can as well.

Yesterday my mother found out Daisy has been lying, not attending her online Zoom classes and missed out on several projects, to the point that she's likely to fail. She already had to withdraw from another class due to her not getting a project done. Because my family is leaving the US within 2 years, she doesn't have time (nor my parents the money) to just completely fail a couple semesters.

My mom and I are terrified that she'll just leech off my parents for the rest of her life, not get a job, just not do anything. What can we do to prevent this? How can we help her want a job? Or want to study? We want her to have self-sufficiency at some point.

I know that my view is biased, because there is a healthy amount of resentment due to being sidelined after she was born. But in my view, she needs to be allowed to fail.

Any advice you guys might have, is welcome. I know my view is probably tainted with my own feelings, which is why I want unbiased advice that I could help my mom out with. For the first time, she's receptive to the idea that she needs to step back and expect more. We just don't know how.

TL;DR: My sister who has aspergers has been babied by my mother for her entire life – she doesn’t cook or clean, or go to the shops. She is now at college, lying about going to class (on zoom), and failing them due to laziness. We’re worried that she will never be able to be independent if this goes on. Any advice?",4.810626235550345,6.33426122362205,5.288597755067851,81.20989110403751,69.83464566929132,8.427877366393032,29.88859105377785,8.902300299844763,2.4424196682861457,2627,104,491,48,47,840,283,635,0.09699999999999999,0.857,0.046,-0.9897,8,0,0,0,0,0,97.0,7,3,2,8,16,12,1,2,27,0,73,8,0,5,5,94,105,32,0,23,20,18,1,1,0,6,3,1,2,1,22,27,5,1,12,3,5,7,18,8,1,2,22,5,92,4,78,65,13,53,0,5,3,0,99,22,0,14,24,348,114,26,0.062355085142446635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24373067012225366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376207740242144,0.0,0.05188442600023889,0.0,0.0,0.1696143845753758,0.06538474361188465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153938766223961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047947211524838426,0.0,0.15204432457543893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636715136469035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537812041671477,0.0,0.0,0.0995709232135734,0.06899471569744285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632890988553526,0.0,0.06514779237050816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276218026477511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380481906479432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442947151707676,0.06954240275618949,0.041184945651772005,0.0,0.0,0.059582956022076486,0.11208145969386132,0.0,0.11756564962367165,0.0,0.031528604608697004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053039203568055096,0.15080003293165511,0.06836913238268794,0.0,0.0,0.13031183350279354,0.0,0.10631349557986028,0.0,0.049871057833847966,0.0,0.0,0.06174133774354298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089764959109929,0.13176314196946295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039130123877275,0.0,0.06508250852899591,0.12375560091280174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134362033966233,0.050827716813444286,0.0,0.06602503180231588,0.0,0.06376229924442392,0.08808648139011686,0.030463544923589405,0.0,0.11012136515779633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301206354916193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614889144374002,0.0,0.5112066546494786,0.0,0.0,0.045838162247749996,0.09247101106941846,0.04809208573091942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042253419454809316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769517712954907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789142080858175,0.0702959894744044,0.059718935028907974,0.0,0.13445865634399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059313965141285986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009990588466025,0.07044349754162621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356315674168901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049796851542105,0.0,0.0,0.06518707373136369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046883263841025424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130847415994322,0.0,0.0,0.039954620771294164,0.0,0.0,0.07271950318574442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491384270347472,0.07500548984723013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206718686893799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606471008773737,0.0,0.05626576562799188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04539524462918092,0.0633246157500162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030926087992818
parenting,anunesbr,2020/04/02,Exercising at home with kids Might be helpful: [Seven pilates exercises that can include your child](https://enciclopediavirtual.com.br/noticias/entertainment/seven-pilates-exercises-that-can-include-your-child/) :),24.90230769230769,24.67247692307693,19.51153846153846,1.4834615384615688,29.76923076923077,18.09230769230769,68.30769230769229,15.903189008614273,11.04566153846154,184,11,13,5,1,55,19,26,0.0,0.721,0.27899999999999997,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4172301530022615,0.0,0.6243906070680123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6603448865789364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darthk8er,2020/04/02,"Perineum stitches after birth Hi all. I couldn’t find anything online about this so I’m asking here. I will contact my OB once the office is open. Anyway, I gave birth 3 days ago and had a tear that was stitched up. No one talked to me about the tear so I have no idea what degree, how big it is, how many stitches were used, etc.   

In the last 24 hours I have noticed 2 stitches that have come out either on my pad or fallen into the toilet. Is it normal for them to fall out so soon? Between this and the insane hemorrhoid itching, I feel like I’m losing my mind! I’d love some advice or to hear person experiences",1.2191035735917666,3.3473376456692923,2.7144881889763792,93.00112053301031,81.99212598425197,4.537613567534828,19.218049666868566,5.369823440869387,-0.31189957601453605,479,12,101,2,13,156,91,127,0.10099999999999999,0.846,0.053,-0.6212,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,10,3,0,0,6,0,11,2,1,3,1,21,20,9,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,7,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,4,2,11,2,14,14,4,19,0,1,0,1,9,8,0,3,9,68,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470830093425949,0.185697612125992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17238997601090714,0.0,0.19584209412136533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804545268577132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351018037422369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233633413537408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20491851247921933,0.0,0.0,0.10592293660928366,0.14965757589212095,0.0,0.0,0.19146734998995527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361071075522139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630252632919968,0.0,0.0,0.2364853577091961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075988908624212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023447811244185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23436240155390545,0.0,0.0,0.18907022324537467,0.0,0.0,0.2123869678503971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21152218198165276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20525281082136074,0.0,0.2385023718111517,0.0,0.22309684973873764,0.14195383290774208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291599406334635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837773926428373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092953305643308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Successful-Nature,2020/04/02,"Just a quick poll - what's more important to you? Given that [meat and dairy is destroying the planet](https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2010/jun/02/un-report-meat-free-diet). I'd like to run a poll about which thing do you find more important:

  
**A) Your children's future**

**B) Cheese**  


Please post your responses, I will tally up as they come in. Thanks.",2.6862841530054657,4.491461344262298,2.0517377049180325,87.59585792349728,115.88524590163937,5.561092896174864,15.542076502732241,6.742157984588678,0.5698646994535519,286,7,49,6,15,83,50,61,0.063,0.731,0.207,0.742,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,4,1,0,3,3,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,6,4,2,7,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767681479347347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39976164689161786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368404720285775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4801170023745693,0.0,0.0,0.4188935911309559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026850219266536,0.0,0.0,0.2905789269777456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inter_net_meme,2020/04/02,"Play School: Hello Friends! (A COVID-19 Special) - For parents who need help explaining I know I am breaking the rule about posting COVID related stuff but I think this video puts everything on the table and helps explain to children the reality of the situation.

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=203365794285386",8.579844720496894,13.058547108695654,4.929378881987578,71.42586956521744,77.91304347826087,7.845962732919254,37.006211180124225,8.418075326091056,4.4202645962732925,261,14,32,6,7,70,41,46,0.0,0.8079999999999999,0.192,0.807,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,6,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,0,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682721229424464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306199901762017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40015587488774346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640475308109619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133361323082454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33144839405665544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858800291114452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000744656519286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30209745231310897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355259692790739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417105372147963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126644076464525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tumblle,2020/04/02,"My son keeps rubbing his feet together My son (12 mos) has started waking up at night this past week rubbing his feet together in his sleep to the point that he's crying. He doesn't fully wake up though. I thought maybe he was hot as we bedshare (no judgement please) so I've stripped him down to just his vest and made sure no blanket is on him but it's not making a difference. My other thought was maybe he's having bad dreams. The only way I can get him to settle is to alternate between breastfeeding and giving him his dummy until he falls back into a deeper sleep. He's got little blisters forming on his feet from where he keeps doing it, but it's only at night and only when he's asleep. Any ideas what's going on? The results on google seem to be people experiencing this with younger babies",5.284472049689441,5.661755863354037,5.713844720496894,82.77300310559008,68.00621118012423,7.930683229813666,28.522360248447214,7.554174236665415,1.6103982608695655,638,20,125,6,10,205,103,161,0.053,0.895,0.052000000000000005,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,5,0,10,8,8,3,1,20,22,10,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,4,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,6,4,16,1,21,15,1,25,0,0,0,0,22,14,0,1,8,75,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722218991783893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212398354778072,0.13164931685308098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319500257188386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647334094632601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237697643013939,0.15125310010469414,0.08960848332473338,0.0,0.12610449397558182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799220246283826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28029177398168503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802850521957965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919281262472509,0.10524711071602642,0.0,0.3168049104784657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959284938156573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597493894354471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505155166518562,0.10930973171448743,0.0,0.0,0.1730762224616117,0.14905075820387398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353843025716428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31557121706475216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160086902435842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860374887556632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549116838963119,0.2503474987328335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251524881072988,0.1264747591250078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Cinza,2020/04/02,"How do I get my 4yo to play alone? 
He’s not yet 4 but will be in a month and he utterly sucks at playing alone. He just can’t. At most, he plays by himself for 5 minutes and then he starts to run or destroy things or throw stuff etc. Especially nowthat there’s no preschool (he usually goes mo-fr 8-4), we really need him to play some for a bit here and there. I can’t entertain him non stop, I also have a baby to take care of plus house hold but he can’t ever sit and play unsupervised for a freaking minute. How do I teach him that?",1.6556410256410246,2.6283677264957284,3.4988034188034187,93.1323076923077,76.86324786324786,7.2512820512820495,23.256410256410252,7.793537801064563,0.7424461538461546,412,12,103,6,9,139,80,117,0.174,0.6659999999999999,0.16,-0.4276,0,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,9,10,2,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,1,20,14,13,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,2,0,6,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,0,10,7,13,12,4,13,0,0,0,0,12,3,1,4,7,61,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001061911154924,0.0,0.19307490204601235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26358369676528914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24615833354776614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692630362745832,0.0,0.21839112360873825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261394435654123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27858273712355525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19271053444480865,0.0,0.0,0.17902045529852015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466897848750671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088842210769167,0.0,0.0,0.20184986414735012,0.0,0.0,0.27638448159565543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152852751659224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039820392446294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26590574372399794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IOTAnews,2020/04/02,"Talk to your kids about the risks of online pedophiles especially now! With all the new webcams and quarentine there's a much higher chance for kids to go explore the online worlds.

Talk to your kids, warn them. Tell them that if they do engage in online sexual activities they are very likely to be recorded and posted online.

Don't think your kid is too young of they're 12, better safe than sorry.",4.796885964912281,6.697991934210532,5.0315789473684225,81.5493859649123,70.44736842105263,7.698245614035088,21.87719298245614,8.344100000000001,1.2149719298245616,321,7,58,5,6,101,57,76,0.06,0.81,0.131,0.7712,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,4,1,4,5,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,8,7,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,4,11,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,1,4,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880547356691491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510252877582128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912032155681782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394266043144452,0.0,0.0,0.314562601866176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31193008458684995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645939192805343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5235698336620012,0.28467571444635953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20869508524879665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26873619341383864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MaryAnnaLeeOswald,2020/04/02,"Baby name help! I'm looking for an interesting/unusual/strong girl name. Note this will likely be a middle name (first name unknown yet, but combo suggestions are welcome), I'm not going to set my child up for bullying.
This is the current list of possibilities, to give you an idea of the vibe I'm after:
Aether
Artemis
Astrid
Avalon
Echo
Ember
Hera
Io
Iris
Midnight
Nexus
Onyx
Zephyr",2.7183333333333337,5.653481944444448,3.5911111111111147,83.56500000000003,83.72222222222223,5.977777777777778,23.277777777777786,7.3871296695380915,1.335377777777778,308,11,54,5,9,98,59,72,0.079,0.895,0.026000000000000002,-0.6996,1,0,0,1,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,10,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,8,8,0,8,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,0,5,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500330868272884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947611496696799,0.2338725478878978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758287569089053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645485377015939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104466032608612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455676127234828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639195261620446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway117013___,2020/04/02,"Appropriate music for kids Hello reddit, I made a throwaway account to make this post. I have 4 kids, 16, 12, 8, and 3, and my oldest has been listening to some disturbing music around the other kids, he listens to violent rap music (that should be banned in my opinion) like lil Darkie, tupac, eazy e, and nwa, and disturbingly has recently been spreading this music to the other kids, how do I explain that this sort of behavior is not acceptable and is evil, for example the last few days he has played this disturbing song by lil Darkie, and fair warning it is disturbing https://youtu.be/co36qwwDo3E",10.303333333333336,8.96208562962963,9.65992592592593,64.27766666666668,58.444444444444436,13.084444444444443,39.19259259259259,11.979248473330829,4.836890370370371,480,19,77,12,5,154,73,108,0.22699999999999998,0.716,0.057,-0.9708,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,0,2,9,2,4,4,0,12,0,0,3,0,18,17,7,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,4,9,7,0,1,2,3,1,0,1,6,0,0,3,3,5,3,10,12,2,7,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,3,5,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38506738398715895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789634417502037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35259163869689153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21132547158371756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092958354070134,0.28873511630245563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142699787275571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4270977941812373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zak_Beer_123,2020/04/02,"First time parent First time parent - advice

I’m 21 and would like some advice on little things that makes night time feeds easier or just things that make changing easier. Would really appreciate the effort to let me know 😊👨‍👩‍👦",3.467173913043478,5.529261586956526,4.799347826086958,81.1364130434783,74.43478260869566,8.078260869565218,15.847826086956525,8.841846274778883,0.8062782608695658,187,2,35,4,4,62,36,46,0.0,0.764,0.23600000000000002,0.8777,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,2,0,9,7,2,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,4,1,8,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,7,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388759528843105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21042821564231406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338398048616336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093197915225148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034065011168412,0.0,0.097180985597299,0.1993674751731654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26555779545682906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18667048885214474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.441748426929992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127431569079344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26430374084682945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34797097692318874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826104032380721,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Diaryofamom,2020/04/02,"A victim of an alcoholic with adhd I am a mother, a women, a daughter and I am a victim.

Living with an alcoholic that has adhd is one thing but what you do not see or hear about is the verbal and mental abuse. The rage and violence that comes with it. The mess I have to clean up. Wetting the bed or the couch. Slamming and smashing doors and other items in the home. All in front of a 5 year old and new born baby. 

WE DO NOT DESERVE THIS.

But no matter what, it is never his fault. It is always mine. I am the reason he is line this. 

I cook, clean, take care of the kids and so much more with no thank you, But he needs to be praised for the minutes he spends doing any of these things and if he isn’t, I am ungrateful. 

I’m stuck.",0.21624999999999872,2.081746178343952,2.2916520700636944,96.10970740445862,84.03184713375795,4.9441082802547776,16.818869426751593,5.985473137389443,-0.5611015923566876,558,11,131,4,16,187,95,157,0.19,0.682,0.128,-0.9085,0,0,2,0,1,0,20.0,1,2,0,1,2,8,3,0,17,0,16,3,0,1,2,27,25,15,0,2,8,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,13,14,3,0,1,1,1,2,6,5,0,1,1,3,11,3,15,23,4,10,1,0,1,0,14,3,0,3,5,97,24,0,0.0,0.2230342281200132,0.0,0.0,0.4524570350076134,0.0,0.0,0.40234372436559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663118752461638,0.0,0.0,0.12801000476123495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192374989390806,0.0,0.0,0.16215253510881725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216074051159345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882058402884014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166219822846437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18970216376544347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837843723621546,0.13957795616104796,0.14518268928203784,0.181803861704658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19752675428722788,0.0,0.12755664418744925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935426001061497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000331830963792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153343992696207,0.0,0.0,0.17330657464990235,0.0,0.0,0.25011726663689904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122071949672768
parenting,notacoder1010,2020/04/02,"Did my Dad sexually abuse me? I remember when I was really young, around the ages of 6,7,and 8, my dad would do these random ""check-ups"" on my private parts. I am a male and even at this age it was really uncomfortable. He would make me pull my pants down and would check my private part. I vaguely remember this stuff because I was so young but I still remember it because of how uncomfortable it was. I remember once he just randomly came into the bathroom and opened the shower door and made me show him my private part. He is very verbally abuse to me and has been this way for as long as I can remember. I have been in denial about whether he was wrong for doing this but when I think about it I just wonder, what was he thinking? Is this something that normal fathers do? I am 22 and I don't have any kids, but I wouldn't randomly check my son's private part and try and convince him that it is my duty as a father to do this. Any insight?",2.6359132124352342,4.260405373057001,4.03250971502591,87.63612208549225,75.58031088082902,7.519300518134714,25.53400259067357,8.278499904357787,1.5154769430051809,739,26,158,13,16,244,99,193,0.102,0.885,0.013000000000000001,-0.9571,1,0,1,0,2,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,5,0,27,0,0,3,0,39,33,19,0,5,6,5,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,16,12,0,1,9,1,2,2,2,1,0,0,11,0,28,1,17,18,4,18,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,4,8,117,44,1,0.0,0.2631989980205193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510624861204239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887563130465694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541418511387818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270342119402862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336052654338895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829323920571498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509688900991147,0.07413992483243109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088247788778869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828566558487595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811108898203392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230826003911773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6291019109308944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550692481327192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870045089338646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714829781095466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233803013395274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540907374934101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164418115218476,0.0,0.08816200271665926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045041283975125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367023044858037,0.12143734254301207,0.0,0.0
parenting,UntidyButterfly,2020/04/02,"Child flees uncomfortable situations This is something I've been noticing for a while, but it's been happening often enough lately to make me start to worry. 


My son (7) gets up and runs out of the room if a scary, uncomfortable or embarrassing situation happens (or looks like it might happen) in a movie or show he's watching. It's recently started happening with books as well. For example, tonight I was reading Harry Potter to the kids before bed, and we got to the part where Harry gets taken up to Dumbledore's office and he's certain he's about to be expelled.


I know this doesn't really sound like a big issue, but it makes me worry because it reminds me of my little sister. She used to do the same thing, and she's recently been diagnosed with OCD, emphasis on the O. She has intrusive thoughts that make things like the sad part of Bambi unbearable for her.


Does anyone have insight into this? How should I be handling it? I tried tonight to talk to him about how life can be really uncomfortable sometimes, and running away will not make it better, and practicing facing those feelings with harmless fiction can help him learn how to handle real life (which has real consequences).",7.338671955846845,7.681271856502246,7.45067264573991,72.19783718523631,63.6188340807175,10.448982407726806,34.19420489824077,10.214889679676881,3.5338405657123144,956,38,164,20,13,309,139,223,0.145,0.769,0.086,-0.9368,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,8,9,0,1,10,0,18,4,1,8,1,39,37,17,0,2,7,2,1,3,0,3,3,1,2,2,15,12,0,0,5,3,0,3,2,2,1,0,7,4,16,7,29,24,4,22,0,1,2,0,16,11,0,6,11,112,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816395774532378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096975398069602,0.0,0.0,0.07117430460429286,0.0,0.09935205566840158,0.0,0.0,0.10326254421303643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850643192740995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217529847641872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206417363898318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059036113697339784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220019774782172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933816601472276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129931812392091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826010903933188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218645233720884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06416688323019427,0.0,0.13170757577700035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493858815150592,0.17112548976274236,0.11702171510911125,0.0,0.0,0.09804691633778027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117462229780545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386128484571125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292921807168145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25287404707061056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678912299766965,0.26579125384053803,0.14959572277030264,0.0,0.2305679438707173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624807040373868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988564835091947,0.1154761794406973,0.0,0.16528315676657576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384527730735197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513702541894395,0.0,0.0,0.09269243429938633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927069649977335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084101542734236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049790385659838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371458719252727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Roopnam,2020/04/02,"Really need advice, 5yo stands on 2nd floor banister, I’m terrified of a fall Title explains it. This is long as there is a bit to explain. We just moved into a large two story home. Our bedroom is down stairs, along with our special needs kiddo who has to be down stairs to be close to us as she has tons of health issues and it is vital/essential to her safety to be as close to us as possible (seizures, nonverbal, can’t ambulate on her own, tube fed, etc). Infant son sleeps in our room right now. There are two other bedrooms upstairs, where my seven year old daughter and five year old son sleep. They play upstairs some but mostly stay downstairs with me and the other two kids during the day. 

Recently, my daughter confided that she caught my five year old leaning over the balcony/railing on their part of the house. Not only leaning over it but climbing on it. Now, the railing isn’t actually a railing in the way you guys are probably thinking. The stairs are basically separated into two sets, with a small landing half way up the stairs. The first part of the stairs, you’re basically walking up a hallway flight of stairs , with walls on either side as you go up. When you come to the landing and begin going up the second portion of the stairs, there is now only one full wall to the right as you go up, and then on the other side, where there would typically begin a railing, it’s basically just a short little wall or partition. On me, it hits at about waist level and I’m 5’5. When you get to the to top of stairs, there is an L shape partition that serves as what would typically be railing , and again this hits at waist level. Anyway it’s not railing as I’ve said, it’s a partition. No slats etc. all solid. The top of the partition is about 5 inches in width, and apparently my five year old climbed up onto it . He not only climbed onto it, he walked on it. I asked him if he had in fact done this and he admitted it and I have had multiple conversations with his about how dangerous this is. How he could die, be seriously injured etc. This has been going on for a few days now. I want to move him downstairs becquse I am obviously terrified he’s going to climb up and fall down the stairs and kill himself. I’m at a loss because the only other room besides mine is our special needs child who is in a wheel chair and has a ton of medical equipment in her room as well as the washer and dryer in her room. We also have our second entrance/exit in that room. I have to be in the floor with my special needs child and she can’t be upstairs. So I’m trying to decide what to do to fix this situation since moving rooms is not an option. Again I share a room with my infant and there wouldn’t be room for my five year old to room with our special needs kiddo due to all her medical equipment. 

No amount of trying to explain on his level how dangerous it is seems to be getting through  to him. I’ve been waking him up in the morning and making him come right down stairs for the day and not letting him go upstairs til bedtime because I’m scared to let him be in his room, for fear of him getting up on the balcony again. What can I do? Is there some kind of temporary fixture I can put over the stairs? Should i ask the landlord to install rails that goes all the way to the ceiling so he can’t jump up on the banister anymore? I’m actually wondering if I ask them to do that, they’ll make me move out because they view me as a liability but I can’t just do nothing. I can’t just live with it and hope nothing happens. I have to do something. I even thought about offering to pay for the rails to be installed becquse I would absolutely pay for it. 

I’m here alone all day with four young kids and I hate to not let him play in his room anymore but I’m constantly scared he’s going to fall now. And I also caught him opening the door to our basement. Our house is three levels. The middle level is the main living space (living room, kitchen, two bedrooms) and beneath that is a large basement/walkout, so the middle level is more like a second story and we are very much up high  with the way the house is built, when I look out my kitchen window, you can’t even see the ground. The house is built into a hill. So on the middle floor, between the living room and kitchen, there’s a door to the basement with these gnarly wooden stairs. We kept it locked with a latch lock and none of the kids could reach it. Well, my five year old took the broom handle while I was in the bathroom  and popped the latch and opened the door. I have installed baby gates all through the house but when I came out of the bathroom, I see the basement wide open and ran to shut it. I asked how it got open and my seven year old ran and said her brother had grabbed the broom and opened it and when I asked him why, he said he wanted to look and see what it was like down there, and then said he threw a trash bag down the stairs. So even if he were to stay downstairs somehow, I’m scared he could still fall down those stairs somehow, (we’ve added another lock) or even the stairs out the back entrance in our other downstairs bedroom ( it walks out onto a deck that’s up in the air on one side). All I can think about is how I feel like he’s going to get hurt no matter where he is now. At one of our old houses, he would sneak out of the house to play if I told him we couldn’t go out right then. Twice, I’d got  busy with dinner and I had stuck my head around the corner to check on him and he was outside in the yard. I had to get the little covers for the door knobs that make it really hard to open the doors. It worked but this is something I’m not sure how to fix. 

Has anyone dealt with a child not understanding risk of injury? Dealt with a child playing on stairs/railing to stairs ? I’ve googled and it looks like you can put netting over the railing but I’m not sure my landlord would even let me? I’m just at a loss! My seven year old never went through anything like this, she’s been careful. My special needs can’t do anything like this, and my infant is too young to. So this is new to me. Im at a loss. Short of moving what can I do?!",3.6820764544733606,4.539404893735132,4.437380776440058,88.77124094333503,71.83108643933386,7.127535866195661,25.828355922428088,7.1686216300943375,0.9905669310071366,4805,145,1040,44,88,1543,394,1261,0.078,0.861,0.061,-0.9837,1,1,2,0,0,0,120.0,17,7,5,11,65,37,4,5,90,0,99,15,6,9,11,170,186,86,2,24,28,5,3,6,0,8,4,4,33,11,57,82,7,1,12,5,3,38,24,14,2,24,32,14,109,23,184,125,27,257,0,4,7,0,109,158,0,15,59,713,166,3,0.0,0.0,0.08059545391388047,0.0,0.0,0.04035275957941263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04276891542934293,0.0,0.06604680608904998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04330115430788396,0.0,0.0,0.08190660738548025,0.02887425493694956,0.0,0.06796413456729189,0.03676108960743224,0.19302512168634697,0.0,0.0,0.031753119920354116,0.0,0.07551870355826848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0450831804755836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04723020209051703,0.04210275792127168,0.0,0.0,0.07114355503975843,0.0,0.04462496315471347,0.0,0.09891151220785062,0.0,0.0,0.1065268106915949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04285743919123839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042258874656626484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816371280254286,0.13637399095842312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646808336388144,0.02087987040795401,0.029500983358519826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03512530005012013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078740333552006,0.0,0.21121886342966328,0.0,0.06605438062368849,0.0,0.0,0.04088830276184477,0.036516818111758255,0.0,0.03699199204117788,0.04077002423411665,0.04238033523481935,0.04389439671250914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04363017905505925,0.041422009231863885,0.04101501228336976,0.0,0.3335402446538591,0.044206892505866825,0.0,0.0446054248443129,0.04310099862570977,0.0,0.0,0.04568653138757025,0.04300213583711585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890675139736572,0.0,0.12104719724817273,0.08277639205457582,0.1458561114377713,0.036544561350131934,0.10403158908093622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269371485039277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320024849034452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944896270831224,0.030356398557764917,0.183717238829784,0.031849063102298555,0.03988273458982959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924686803271096,0.0,0.3899871178524883,0.0,0.08394719019052099,0.12562609705519245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943639751488468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04655363498134599,0.0,0.0,0.044522733475424826,0.0,0.0,0.08302527493553719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052908958761099516,0.0,0.0407735916775457,0.0,0.0,0.14106199076798304,0.1571230850083772,0.0,0.12402977002769823,0.0,0.09871972700099807,0.03759319675066222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03415945053686584,0.046417038162321685,0.08264916113898384,0.0,0.0,0.06358144435874998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802943514806788,0.032978047072735564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783964140274317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052920027020380525,0.0,0.032783425174143684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03945891090659325,0.04587999555712386,0.05607286003103228,0.0,0.20169489096183024,0.04298929940454725,0.09934501874296546,0.0,0.0,0.03407250007794937,0.04871343634455587,0.13111142711602192,0.0,0.0,0.07425789346659241,0.03828065437040359,0.03726209609646712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04478240352277532,0.030063075634283207,0.0,0.0,0.14667305635496378,0.0,0.0,0.21273976194543304
parenting,ShortyLove87,2020/04/02,"Behavioral Issues with our 9yr old son So, we're having some issues with our 9yr old son. He's incredibly lazy, unmotivated and forgetful. Every time he takes a bath or shower he never cleans up after himself and we have to remind him every time. He'll make himself something to eat and leave everything out that he used. He never hangs his jacket up on the coat rack that we put up for him and leaves his shoes in the middle of the floor. He acts like any sort of cleaning or helping or involvment is the end of the world. He and I share the chore of the dishes and he half ass cleans them. He hates doing any sort of chore and will half ass everything. Doing homework with him is a nightmare because he whines and cries the entire time and just wants us to give him the answers. He's to keep his door closed all times he's not in there so his little sister doesn't get in there and fall off of his bed (it's a high bed with a ladder), and he never closes it. He's also mad all the time about every little thing. Sometimes I think it's just because he's coming into new hormones, which I'm sure is part of it, but his behavior is problematic. Anytime I ask him for an answer about it he just shrugs his shoulders and says ""idk"". I'm going to go ahead and point out that my husband is not his bio dad but he did legally adopt him and has been in his life since he was 5. His bio dad never had anything to do with him. I've explained everything to him as gently as I can so he knows everything but of course doesn't fully understand everything yet. Idk if his behavior is subconsciously due to the situation or not. I've considered family therapy to help him through the abandonment and adoption because I'm worried about him acting out when he gets older. Either way though, all of these issues are happening right now and I'd love some insight",3.723663594470043,5.080643102150539,4.7220737327188935,84.87096774193552,72.27956989247312,7.572350230414747,24.844854070660524,8.07648339933343,1.3535757296466977,1462,43,294,21,28,477,191,372,0.083,0.855,0.062,-0.6041,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,1,1,16,8,2,0,17,0,21,8,4,2,8,70,44,32,0,2,15,6,0,1,0,2,1,1,11,0,11,30,2,2,7,1,0,8,9,4,0,2,4,1,34,4,46,38,7,52,0,2,0,3,65,23,2,9,21,182,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653280232071237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301611942295229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875453763386765,0.0,0.08946838980243649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501703271309774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824387424110923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512408106295863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979269708505365,0.0,0.0,0.08476350799192389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418990218324415,0.0,0.4300536384712701,0.0,0.09021926644780774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000006214887083,0.0918060158798768,0.10877922948207833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462890448208815,0.0,0.0,0.09448584693447012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829397856447966,0.10111434803784518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996638659437277,0.0,0.08506427648540739,0.0,0.0,0.052595280295013855,0.0,0.0,0.2026690604089084,0.0,0.0,0.06759710647135042,0.046755131030257815,0.19183696003083328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863747322006676,0.0,0.06388178431396528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952449264204136,0.09242952454831632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084616259691696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036358688118022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904692615562982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620687706983204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172892902539666,0.0,0.0761060193866903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916562904789845,0.10757298395929224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736760246333901,0.09465166016077982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019794053567344,0.0,0.07195594437585932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944350243146493,0.0,0.0635801127099511,0.06132193525447429,0.0940266645901421,0.0,0.2790228376599679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962908876466027,0.11511764355041815,0.08265574397011008,0.0,0.0,0.05644748042916494,0.0759637409258508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718995981127858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellywelly,2020/04/02,"""No"" to everything I know this behaviour is normal, but what should I do about it? Anything I ask my just-turned-2yo is met with a ""no"" straight away and she doesn't do what she's asked. The outcome is usually me physically making her do whatever I've asked, or any other tactic. For example, she won't stand up in the bath when it's time to get out (to make it earlier for me to lift her out). There's no water in the bath at this point. I've taken to leaving the room, which then makes her stand up because she doesn't want me to leave without her. But if I ask her to come to me to have her hair brushed or to get her dressed, etc, I have to go after her and carry her and make her stay there while I carry out the task. Once I've got her, she's usually fairly compliant. She also doesn't see it as a game. She just sits there, refusing to come to me, or leaves the room. Always with ""no"". She's not a particularly naughty child. She doesn't melt down when I do get hold of her, usually.

Is this ""no"" phase just something they grow out of? Does she need to be punished for her refusing to do as she's asked? I was researching time outs and it mostly referred to using it to get them to calm down. She's calm enough, she's just refusing to do as she's asked. Any advice, please?",2.9103742690058465,3.633027362962963,4.199512670565301,90.26464912280704,73.51851851851852,7.906432748538013,24.580896686159853,8.20500826718156,1.1112592592592592,988,28,232,15,19,326,123,270,0.08,0.877,0.043,-0.8703,0,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,2,0,10,3,1,0,9,0,20,2,1,5,0,40,45,18,0,5,11,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,13,13,1,4,2,3,0,4,12,1,0,0,4,3,43,2,45,38,3,35,0,0,1,0,41,17,0,5,10,160,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037905794970772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493887839842952,0.08837812063187414,0.0,0.0,0.14445761181625713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740464078887215,0.0,0.5957715738739494,0.0,0.09979105705356862,0.0,0.0,0.0647467491432694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829870096127442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294812862410944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974691337932296,0.11845610202546315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545782356130343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219686296812373,0.0,0.06036356611204712,0.0,0.08494861955799017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583721486976111,0.0,0.0,0.3373942052662315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835932800150519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875594664193457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406665524225316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131138855272513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165905013605023,0.10040606606726174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463838888195306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176832296027926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320943328346382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386786402551868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173434100307168,0.35093741432380704,0.0,0.06264746005221078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238600064547357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vickeeohh,2020/04/02,WERE YEARNING FOR SRUCTURE So I’m trying to be organized for the 2628299383 time in my life as a parent. Can anyone help me with some type of schedule for my kids? I have a preschooler and 2nd grader who are out of school as well as a 3 year old and 9 month old. ANY HELP IS APPRECIATED!! Also shout out to all the teachers in the world; you’re so underpaid here! I’m a stay at home mom and I salute you truly!,1.2775,3.0379802413793087,3.0282614942528774,92.72101293103451,79.91954022988506,5.729310344827588,21.219827586206893,6.6274283507984215,0.20847241379310333,319,9,73,3,8,106,63,87,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.9556,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,7,0,6,1,0,0,1,9,8,9,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,6,1,16,6,2,13,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,1,6,46,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955520289222466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629004065383146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098235239189902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278090837659227,0.0,0.24528537947484344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272007451592106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28639274264717657,0.19518298653023267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131900754461877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271523676621964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474792831132642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606384118692152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258848589236256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660210719615622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21986349667393976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15747049155100026
parenting,tenniskitten,2020/04/02,"Anyone else's kids actually miss going to school? My son (13) is getting really restless and missing friends. At first he thought this would be like a holiday but 2 weeks in he's no longer so thrilled. 
I have been having him do math, science, writing, music, and chores on some kind of schedule during school days so the days don't drag on and on. Then from about 3pm on he's free to do whatever he wants. 
Anyone else's kids feel the same?",2.3903651685393257,4.33234605617978,3.333019662921348,90.981327247191,77.20224719101124,6.247752808988763,24.608146067415728,7.1686216300943375,0.9213921348314608,345,12,73,4,8,110,68,89,0.08,0.742,0.17800000000000002,0.8812,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,11,16,7,0,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,3,0,1,2,1,3,6,11,12,2,13,0,2,0,0,10,6,0,1,7,38,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.20952925845936304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002651356474928,0.4399984048776513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769446980731838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35873090781429706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856552202016274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826350672465601,0.0,0.0,0.1658870028829467,0.0,0.11217886428228444,0.0,0.12202654582681195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22359091478652027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489809803703984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375508711312181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346027497833704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045841751412524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664349784776513,0.0,0.17223009940223974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525262046013793,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stayhome321,2020/04/02,"Found sex toy in my daughter's room It's a Fleshlight, for guys. She's an only child and I'm a single mom, so no men in the house. Why does she have that?? She's too embarrassed and won't talk about it",-1.6236231884057981,0.2803498260869617,0.7391304347826093,103.4185507246377,94.21739130434784,3.936231884057971,14.18840579710145,5.46131890053228,-1.2411768115942028,156,3,41,1,6,52,37,46,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.6933,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,0,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155675126182379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953843275376889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570552448781614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41608928885834734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223357453394446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742560452337155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898403153447566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253895600384999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katlenseb,2020/04/02,"Christian beliefs I was raised in a very strict church. By no means were gay, lesbian, trans, etc. people accepted by the church. I am the oldest of 5 sisters no brothers and have twins sisters. A few years ago twin 1 came out as lesbian and twin 2 came out as bisexual. My family and I are accepting of them and are okay with this as long as they are happy! I am accepting of this and know that I am no one to judge their feelings and life, I still have my Christian beliefs about man and woman being together  but completely respect the LGBTQ community and also have many friends who are. What I finally want to ask is does anyone have any advice on speaking to my toddler about this? He will be 3 and is very curious and my husband and I don’t really know what to say to him about his aunties having wives. I want him to know our beliefs but also respect them and others for who they are.",3.938625756266205,5.1613367865168565,4.997191011235955,83.6227009507347,71.58426966292134,7.948833189282628,28.86084701815039,8.384062270229773,2.0239605877268803,700,27,139,11,13,230,104,178,0.026000000000000002,0.815,0.159,0.9721,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,5,0,6,8,0,0,5,1,21,4,0,0,0,32,31,20,0,2,2,5,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,2,9,17,0,0,11,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,4,3,22,8,24,24,2,12,7,0,0,3,23,4,0,0,6,104,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17300209101505365,0.15693586946733562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28315871522454483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039372469231267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379095092030686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655091251167377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40497471825404907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856237712398252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492948093964468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744714253642606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689818483850555,0.0,0.08951708082295086,0.0,0.0,0.19393939725933615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678118032529646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846308231281425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29189076207092784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250490589715687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566754193442143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949144892891047,0.0,0.19284918785191776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996733795630315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273770715099945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341678480608013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078984446488338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138490553411534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29215418330909704,0.2088463449829705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400838518297307
parenting,GirlLunarExplorer,2020/04/02,"Potty training while Shelter In Place I live in a state that implemented Shelter in Place until May 3rd.  We've decided that since we're stuck at home, we might as well potty train our 2.5 son.  I bought the Oh Crap Potty Training book, and I'm about a quarter of the way through it but one thing I think might be a challenge is Block 3.  As far as I understand, block 3 involves going commando but going potty while out and about, (e.g., at the mall, shopping, etc), to get them used to other potties.  What do we do about this? The only place we've been going is the store, and that's less than 45 minutes.  All of the parks are closed, and the only outside time we've been doing is a 1 hour walk around the block with his bicycle.

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Will this be enough to count for block 3?  How long should I stay before switching to undies, if we're not really going potty outside?",4.933916883116883,5.321241737142863,5.246545454545455,85.78327272727275,68.77142857142857,7.7350649350649325,27.33766233766233,7.348242739294969,1.3147142857142848,684,20,140,6,11,217,108,175,0.11199999999999999,0.87,0.018000000000000002,-0.9534,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,1,1,6,3,1,0,12,0,16,1,1,2,1,28,27,14,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,10,0,4,3,3,3,5,1,1,1,2,4,0,10,2,24,16,4,26,0,0,0,0,7,12,1,4,6,89,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978624192112568,0.1904097346716936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394977483756291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334161720055876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191475982937234,0.1747638336167557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187017807113964,0.0,0.35622878160391125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718459607006044,0.0,0.15431962338015418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837048459167764,0.13867608599631304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324715109064218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618513704837518,0.2383574298743655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.491159817396089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038713072558376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962527733884288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702317756450855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041056559820399,0.1004081311538168,0.0,0.0,0.09137402974126788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313201091753485,0.0,0.1353399684260872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438252690762665,0.0,0.0,0.1408936602305263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904097346716936,0.0
parenting,wncash714,2020/04/02,"Please tell me naps get longer For those of you that had short nappers, when and or how did they become longer? We’re 3.5 months and doing 5 short (28-50 min) naps. Usually right over 30 min mark. I do all (most) of the things they recommend for naps. I know it’s fairly developmentally appropriate at this age, but I need hope that we’ll have longer naps in the near-ish future!",1.136432748538013,3.5959114736842115,2.1428070175438627,94.74020467836256,85.57894736842105,5.4830409356725145,15.023391812865498,6.937597516519254,-0.4741415204678363,296,5,67,4,9,93,60,76,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.7609,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,1,10,10,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,1,7,7,2,13,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,3,7,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828728227606522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112220683434144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443242691056483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19052228064761226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767108867161668,0.0,0.0,0.25705345620414194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38054258266426494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960566397871557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030072693233994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23031397512070115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818110636285009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coughsalot,2020/04/02,"Mommy with depression (hint: it’s me!) Hi, I suffer from depression and it’s so hard to let my kid see me so sad. So with all the free time we have nowadays, I thought I’d teach myself how to make an animation so I could make a short cartoon of my lows. I hope you like it. 
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parenting,Slime_Folf,2020/04/03,"Unnecessary corona protection Hi, from the mind of a child asking other parents, my mom has been homeschooling me this week because I'm tired of normal schooling, and we barely go out. I've had this rule for a while but my mom is going on a whole nother level of strict, showering once a day. I understand it, as I'm still going thru puberty, but every day? I'm not the active type, so I haven't sweat at all in about 3 weeks, and suddenly the Corona virus pops up, and although we have nothing to worry about, she still insists on me showering regularly. I used to have skip days, but now, even though we literally haven't gone outside in days, I still have to shower regularly. We haven't talked to anybody else other than my stepdad, who really doesn't care, and we haven't seen many either. We order food on Amazon too so... Is this normal? I normally smell nice, even after skip days, and I barely get sick. Is it a clean thing, or a parenting thing, or is my mom just being odd? I have no clue...",4.661484344800929,5.2834637839196015,5.856381909547737,80.3399033629687,69.45226130653266,8.937147274835716,26.362968689601857,9.057496981413335,1.932637108620024,779,22,155,14,13,261,120,199,0.096,0.841,0.063,-0.7657,5,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,6,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,9,0,17,4,1,1,1,27,30,16,0,3,8,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,10,12,1,1,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,4,2,20,2,23,25,3,28,0,0,1,0,17,9,0,2,14,107,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250341808433316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335929649447663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269657274500068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38805280291123656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053020349314973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896936094727765,0.0,0.101393228928866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455178857625991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287366830274012,0.0,0.20517920061495168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200778360207655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151099885015045,0.422828885906588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537284906866339,0.1154712848807994,0.0,0.0,0.1281601806397181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672508449344432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709409345146066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179241298333253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28831555589879576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672624918320848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989960292907512,0.0,0.11823529160208535,0.0,0.0,0.13831529450145136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528014700390272,0.0,0.10393675063868928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19306200345040367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435741762637166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221302637046053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-Economist-,2020/04/03,"Should my wife be working right now? After two years as a stay at home mom, my wife received a great job offer. She is a union rep for grocery store workers.  She spends her entire day in multiple grocery stores talking to employees.  The opposite of social distancing.  She’s been on the job one week.  Governor deemed the union essential.  

She’s 34 and I’m 47.  We have a 2-year old and 11-year old. We hired a nanny, which exposes as well. 

Despite it paying really well, we don’t necessarily need the money.    But damn.  I’ve carried us on my salary thus far.  Would be nice to double our income.  Took her only a couple of months of looking to find a job that interested her. She is a college grad.  

Need an unbiased opinion.  Everybody else we bounce this off are friends and family.",1.4740000000000002,4.165619400000004,3.1470000000000016,85.8585,88.33333333333334,6.466666666666666,23.5,7.734863291789972,1.6241999999999996,610,24,115,13,20,201,109,150,0.035,0.852,0.113,0.9118,6,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,0,0,2,3,7,1,0,13,0,10,0,0,1,0,15,15,6,0,4,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,5,2,1,1,2,2,2,1,17,6,15,9,1,18,0,0,1,0,22,7,1,1,8,69,21,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700486010873152,0.0,0.0991135699067096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283833962401914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487974950208954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046453898045985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873600160064228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943733011530782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541577441782039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575234479744798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290559889407322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799930319940885,0.12266923112125958,0.0,0.0,0.2279097161939179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225313491362837,0.0,0.10414036490786173,0.11688372975545508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845400887934798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312454338245315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666164829227014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380686735577993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352550720303207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707487577051553,0.0,0.0,0.15012709416822012,0.0,0.18486312311687705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327616391220834,0.0,0.27636103502746884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188389961718152,0.0,0.0,0.10917281859910573,0.0,0.0,0.29690268295780914
parenting,I_dont_like_pie,2020/04/03,"I don't know what to do with my 18 year old I'll try to condense this as much as possible. My husband started a new job in another state and I planned to move there with our 11 and 16 year old in the summer after school is out. I also have an 18 year old though, and at first he had a friend he planned to move in with, but those plans fell through. He has some mental health issues so he dropped out of high school last year but as much as I try to motivate him, he won't make much effort towards his GED or getting his driver's license or finding a better job (before the virus stuff). Now he has nowhere to go and no education and I'm worried for him, but my husband is opposed to him continuing to live with us because they don't get along very well and he feels like he needs to fly the nest like our other 19 year old has done. I can probably convince my husband to let him continue to live with us in the new state, but then what? He lives in the basement until he's 40? I want him to find his footing but he won't do what needs to be done and I have too much going on to baby him every step of the way. Has anyone else faced a similar problem and found a good solution?",3.1396218487394947,3.6226859126984152,4.379271708683472,90.06768907563027,72.80952380952381,7.357983193277312,26.728291316526608,7.285733465282438,1.0876607843137251,918,30,212,9,17,303,136,252,0.035,0.848,0.11699999999999999,0.9642,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,1,7,7,8,0,0,12,0,20,3,2,2,0,36,33,24,0,4,7,3,1,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,7,16,0,1,6,0,0,6,5,1,1,1,4,1,25,7,40,25,5,42,0,0,0,0,29,11,0,3,23,134,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708593396872772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107710332720032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740065239384599,0.09876664327696456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058760649107418926,0.0,0.08202386119104535,0.0,0.0,0.08525231346026514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19728825748099446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052449102484452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121577266496657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873950481036158,0.06886361324183468,0.0,0.0,0.17620402387984213,0.08199235422965345,0.0,0.1056906164419048,0.0744734628871241,0.0,0.10072336398459672,0.0,0.10956541831417048,0.08085038552712677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246189836993798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184513985876656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060988352920608,0.19131156550882855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0529754063740969,0.07857365648986601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856899565691724,0.0,0.09418609626221036,0.0,0.2553519672109816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434348224693358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714208544676822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20490230187398398,0.2834415740373202,0.14294927875094388,0.0,0.18619509569857048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045955082877771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086693102869438,0.0,0.0,0.103928613540114,0.09223566518584253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19511095621802452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822789229992343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034761987441737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470623102917286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088986558901872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23189928501968565,0.0,0.0,0.07953482224763417,0.056855447822613536,0.07651275975089852,0.0,0.0,0.08666943053543953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789238858705608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103716177383665
parenting,MediumSky,2020/04/03,"I’m losing my patience with my 5 year old and Idk what to do I just don’t have the energy or patience right now and I’ve run out of options. I’m going to lose my cool and I fear I’m going to start becoming an always-angry parent. 

She’s picking up habits, bad ones. Not wiping herself after using the bathroom. Not flushing. Not washing her hands. These are things she never had problems with. Suddenly, she has just stopped doing them for the past few months. No matter how many times I try to remind her, it’s always a very non genuine “Oops I forgot.” It’s like having to teach a toddler all over again!! Constantly asking and checking every time she uses the restroom. She’s almost 6. Is it laziness? It’s literally JUST this. In school, she excels. Teachers never have problems with her. She knows her manners 99% of the time and she’s good at picking up after herself. But this bathroom issue just doesn’t go away no matter what I do!

Another habit she’s picked up: She’s doing this sneaky trick where she’ll ask for some kind of desert (ice cream, cookies, etc.) about an hour after she eats a meal...... but then she’ll ask for regular food AFTER she’s had her desert.

 In other words — I’ll ask her first “are you still hungry?” And she’ll say no, she’s not hungry anymore from the last meal she had. She knows very well that regular food comes first, then sweets. After she has her desert, she’ll then say “Okay I change my mind. I’m still hungry. I want some regular food now.” .... I’ve told her many times she should have told me she was hungry first, so I could get her regular food before sweets. I’ve tried explaining. I’ve tried repeating myself and reminding her of the basic rules...But she continues to do it!! I already banned sweets for a period of time, but I mean, we all want sweets... so eventually the sweets come back..... and then it happens again! She knows very well what she’s doing and I don’t know what else to do to stop this manipulation?? I’ve already explained to her that lying to me about not being hungry in order to have desert before food is wrong. I told her how I can’t trust her if she continues. I’ve taken away privileges (tablet for example) to stop this, but it’s not working! I’m not a pushover parent whatsoever, but I’m not a helicopter strict parent either. This has been going on for a while now and I see no end. 

What is going on? Ugh please help me. I’m getting desperate to the point where I want to ask her pediatrician for a referral to a counselor because I’ve tried so hard. We have a good village around us with lots of loving people around her. She’s not apart of a dysfunctional family or anything. I don’t know where this is coming from",1.4647464440321585,3.879584508348795,2.9097894248608536,90.2011467223253,83.32282003710573,5.597043908472482,19.74400123685838,6.961326702584282,0.3953806802721087,2106,58,428,27,60,685,231,539,0.096,0.7759999999999999,0.128,0.9618,3,0,0,0,0,0,86.0,3,1,1,7,26,26,1,1,22,2,39,11,1,8,4,85,83,28,0,8,22,3,2,1,0,5,1,2,0,0,24,22,8,5,8,0,1,9,20,9,2,4,10,12,73,17,57,66,8,76,0,2,2,1,66,21,0,8,46,283,97,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718891794104785,0.0,0.14808854194510798,0.0,0.05583088055210557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035806487496597,0.0,0.0,0.06654314981005875,0.0,0.0,0.0552159066598578,0.1194628258214001,0.3136376905230329,0.0,0.12608149045696662,0.05159419204979676,0.05602399665236875,0.04090229563278687,0.07410442882003353,0.1141908495001708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709807482744733,0.17339686230991538,0.0,0.07250906131411462,0.0,0.05357226386559906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865796745711011,0.056051738495210716,0.0,0.059428879732657626,0.0,0.07483196559926009,0.0,0.0,0.05653292797217006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325398821160405,0.07550386303064507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122047985882669,0.4056756176613604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011183289169312,0.0,0.19066659401701305,0.11255717631062742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059334507331289074,0.0,0.060106595712935536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044974350420106814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066077977972253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003284106288528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987220344005995,0.1843764292681,0.05469379551649257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032780675608029115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013091582496424,0.0,0.057044288932101936,0.06055853153674413,0.0,0.0,0.1360536066419055,0.0,0.07308935245045442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774981543039042,0.0,0.05355695413566943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350017147466258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040802536673697,0.0,0.04546731642532985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235130431310169,0.0,0.06405259824054907,0.04651727931469665,0.0,0.0,0.07365341453776814,0.06342926327499157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840737815613254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057301294021384536,0.0,0.10671798702559268,0.0,0.06790672102546418,0.05346838952905638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047492283758673946,0.0,0.10716904029372504,0.16829070524206555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04457690533511791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562680987128314,0.0,0.0,0.19234493799321956,0.0,0.1822204505559773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071058826773166,0.11590219385637113,0.0,0.16608854031174175,0.1187283515669034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206582542546575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04884811639843028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336108962849311,0.0,0.043208888457150034
parenting,letithail1,2020/04/03,"Kids failed a math test Okay, I'm not sure what to do about this. I come from a very technical background, I taught very technical subjects like physics and chemistry to young adults in the military. I even have a training certificate for that. I KNOW how to teach, at least I thought I did.  With the schools being shut down, I'm homeschooling my three step children. Every day when I get home from work I sit down and go through hours of their work with them. I give them recess, snack time, I do my best to teach them creatively and make it fun. After two weeks of working together every day, my twins just failed THE SHIT out of their math quiz. And the thing is, they missed dumb shit like 4x1 and 2/1. They had a multiplication table to use as a tool. The hardest part is my own daughter, who lives with her mother, is effortlessly a 4.0 student, its so hard not to compare them.  The only thing I can think to do is drill the math over and over until they're getting better grades but one of the twins nearly had a meltdown when I told him my plan. 

On that note, is there any way the schools can fail these kids this year? I mean, we parents aren't trained teachers, we don't have degrees in early childhood development. Can they just hand us all the materials and fail the kids if they don't turn in the right answers or pass the quizzes? That doesn't seem fair.",5.281398692810459,5.7685882814814855,4.851525054466233,88.56774509803923,68.03703703703704,7.9825708061002185,28.845315904139433,7.724431198458867,1.4646034858387802,1076,35,230,11,17,326,164,270,0.10400000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.066,-0.8826,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,0,10,10,9,15,3,0,20,1,21,4,3,3,2,32,39,16,0,1,7,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,12,14,1,0,6,0,0,4,6,8,0,3,6,2,33,7,33,32,5,32,0,5,0,0,26,13,3,3,15,147,45,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756496153338484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056359529973853,0.12688813053585027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358726085465672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18505339989826686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476101094442277,0.0,0.2417604202209803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991498574691842,0.13763012026547428,0.08153767643938062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285215215172064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439127594116287,0.0,0.14128968987586074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884771692816436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018502480582815,0.0,0.12668721208429878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576777266326493,0.0,0.0,0.15628159725602586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972194252057778,0.1091158940415329,0.0,0.0,0.15930717775319014,0.1553647323836399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122523150831985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29039991381707503,0.0,0.13061029099791527,0.0,0.0,0.2945411201328189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521938932483268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906310490635513,0.09193019916067237,0.0,0.1138996699403559,0.08365888953116571,0.0,0.0,0.13709235397439756,0.0,0.0,0.1560548681101457,0.14014997754003666,0.0,0.17257752637095827,0.12391257668912765,0.0,0.23675662273275894,0.0,0.11388032362846295,0.11508350107781687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31334502486678495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239039446023824
parenting,RhaegarDragon,2020/04/03,"What’s a good age to introduce a kid to Calvin and Hobbes? I loved this comic as a kid. Bill Watterson uses big words sometimes but I never found that to be a problem even as a young boy, and would even ask my mom sometimes increasing my vocabulary in the process.",3.768396226415096,5.152775981132077,4.7171226415094365,84.84285377358493,72.20754716981132,8.318867924528304,28.34433962264151,8.841846274778883,2.1054943396226418,209,8,43,4,4,68,40,53,0.071,0.841,0.08800000000000001,-0.0387,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,6,0,2,1,0,1,1,9,6,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,6,3,1,6,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,3,27,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555323789335249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610718649450253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29969895241355404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292613730570003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466965243000457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3201279657018368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081367000920145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615457564916264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5406728330374609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360746509000813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417014059308252,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,micky1701,2020/04/03,"Hey guys i need a favour can we blow this up 😂 Right basically I’m trying to get my son some votes in a baby contest it takes two secs to vote and would mean the world to me and my family. I hope everyone’s staying safe during this lockdown 


https://www.babyvote.com/apr20//levi-mciver

Much appreciated guys!",4.431666666666668,7.488459785714286,4.485714285714288,79.5259523809524,76.14285714285714,7.3047619047619055,21.833333333333336,8.344100000000001,1.4067833333333333,252,7,45,5,6,78,47,56,0.0,0.785,0.215,0.9059999999999999,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,8,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,5,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,0,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590113089667129,0.0,0.0,0.25553308220614784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161868100713704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367878928459268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26922567741286385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952659276698351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19926172175847215,0.2009890010298516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314854239182809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889159723550762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038048520385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18403327081840712,0.0,0.2647881379371422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255463186288704,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Calcoholic9,2020/04/03,"Sympathy for the Dada, parody video I got the whole family involved musically to make a parody of a Rolling Stones song,  about my (jokingly imagined) role as dad.  In reality it was just to get everyone working on a project together since we're all stuck in the house.  I thought it was appropriate for this forum since it's dad-themed.

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8lcx2zSIOXk&t=65s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8lcx2zSIOXk&t=65s)

Edit: I could not figure out how to embed the video here. Is that not allowed on this forum?",9.066656626506024,12.942753903614463,6.653840361445784,65.83690512048196,64.18072289156626,9.451204819277107,28.44728915662651,9.827888789773867,3.3254831325301204,446,15,62,11,8,128,61,83,0.026000000000000002,0.935,0.039,0.2593,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,3,1,12,9,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,1,4,1,13,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,41,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5601035856329116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063670094705896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24697885794067656,0.0,0.0,0.24366221328755275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503974107440525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067218166136892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982393106043431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725305200048773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276175843498236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205196056425894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885721698363229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816900709489173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,racketjacket124,2020/04/03,"What to do about psycho parents? Brace yourself this is a long winded story I will shorten so you dont leave after two sentences. Basically, I am a Muslim female med school student who has been dating an atheist white man for three years, and I am agnostic but still celebrate all muslim holidays and the occasional family mosque going. So basically a non-practicing 21st century western muslim. Anyways, my immigrant parents dont approve of my boyfriend, asked him to convert to which he said no, dont like his job because he isn't in a coveted profession, and cant see the love and loyalty he has for me. After 2 years of pretending he doesnt exist after I first told them about him (and my dad threatening to leave the family if I didnt break up.... which I didnt.... but dad doesnt know yet) I plan on marrying this man in two years tops, after graduation. Ihave to tell my parents he's a permanent member of my life, my spouse, and the future father of their grandkids and we'll raise our children to be non-practicing/agnostic muslims also. My parents have had brain storming sessions on how to psychologically manipulate/control me so I dont ""move away"" from them, and my mom has been begging all of her children including me to move into her big house because she has room for everyone in her mind. They obviously dont understand freedom or privacy or personal decision making as adults and basically still try to micromanage us somewhat. I currently live 3 hours away from them. I am going to tell my parents that I plan on marrying my bf and moving in together with him. Is ky parents behavior normal? Obviously not, but they were good parents who loved me, raised me to follow my hobbies, be strong, and spoiled me in a good way. Which is why it's so confusing to see my dad behave this way put of anger and intolerance, and my mother to take his side and be anxiety induced emotionally manipulating me and going from crying alot to panicking alot for some reason. And my father might just leave the whole family and move back to his home country tbh. Growing up I have always been a daddy's girl and his little girl who he has doted on and been super proud of constantly. So it hurts that I might possibly lose him, but I dont understand their POV. And I was hoping to get some advice, thoughts, other people share their experiences with parents as such, and how it turned out.
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE! 💞",6.443416149068327,6.94021791304348,7.3884472049689425,71.35217391304347,65.52173913043478,10.745341614906833,34.254658385093165,10.608840637214634,3.793183229813663,1920,82,339,48,28,646,238,460,0.098,0.77,0.131,0.9379,10,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,3,2,8,10,17,15,1,1,15,0,40,4,1,6,4,60,61,38,0,3,9,17,0,1,1,4,1,1,2,8,16,25,0,0,7,2,0,11,14,4,0,4,12,4,61,11,56,42,8,53,1,2,3,2,68,21,0,12,19,242,77,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618214295496262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05059267336570416,0.0526412106459588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0483972416305726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914385576608053,0.0,0.11887833815387168,0.04864656808102188,0.0,0.07713101921433377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706242103208845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836655149679703,0.07095662223070377,0.0,0.0,0.06949318638301975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4448738015114292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116415363217403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060452031190488385,0.0,0.06188491294603925,0.1789206878728944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05381283176394825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03305313947700838,0.0,0.10786418096447414,0.10612668059842384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345954656439666,0.06283601713442727,0.0623028819015324,0.07299884798728014,0.06772605688295097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278034815532134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03476856662575326,0.0,0.0,0.20096421267120712,0.0,0.0,0.04468565405250047,0.03090788525516145,0.06340774389547567,0.055863796005620386,0.055987175312832926,0.0,0.07077689879023949,0.0,0.0,0.11419753310394315,0.0,0.0422296080871474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027270250886627,0.0,0.0,0.13422747428951212,0.0638792057375407,0.0740947284613339,0.0,0.2689610074594645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061985870265859375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619827626683277,0.0,0.0,0.04385970407177285,0.05524020368924135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132132462005432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359839127191075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504653985052104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017911681696385,0.0,0.0,0.06402714717067104,0.10082738184551472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104637378165918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04756710168893685,0.0,0.11059208818777287,0.058245538750329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022502131013529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060452031190488385,0.0,0.042952506869233686,0.0688137119316215,0.12360063224501608,0.13172134804291813,0.07609951762082104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043298078106412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05708645635909379,0.07063266045161841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222097394260732
parenting,justthinking1,2020/04/03,"For those who have in-house help right now, what did you do? Hi everyone,

I am a stay at home mom but I am a student at my local university. We have a part time nanny but she has been off the last two weeks. She works 21hrs with us which helps while I’m at school twice a week and then the third day I use my time to catch up on errands/homework and household duties. But I’m wondering what some of you have done during this time as they do depend on our families for income. We encouraged her to stay home the last two weeks with pay but honestly i don’t know if I should go back to our routine or have her stay home. She doesn’t go out much so I’m not worried about her social distancing skills but I am concerned for everyone’s health. Or it could be the news scaring me way more. Also, I have a chronic condition so I am extra careful. 

We could use the extra help since we’re working from home now and my eldest has a daily load of schoolwork as well now but I want to be cognizant of our health and our nanny’s well being too. (She wants to come back).",1.9055510974746284,3.4838527578475365,3.2214491385414235,92.87098418692473,77.47533632286995,6.309086617890017,21.602312957281093,7.0608816371341465,0.4057856502242152,827,22,187,9,19,269,128,223,0.025,0.848,0.127,0.9656,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,8,2,1,3,12,6,0,1,11,0,24,3,0,3,0,34,37,20,0,6,10,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,0,7,11,0,1,2,0,1,4,3,1,2,4,3,0,31,5,25,28,6,34,0,0,0,0,26,10,0,6,16,135,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522161731249245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638869398578679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086521918570714,0.0,0.0,0.09179806232679777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017020787373388,0.0,0.0,0.06872691983045455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090550734334657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036587325852198,0.0,0.0,0.10046191392821972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112900070772142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265515442943647,0.0,0.0,0.2142889064528656,0.0,0.4275816897868358,0.0,0.0,0.12296404743145975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058566454041000075,0.17373270944447808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481002037906352,0.0,0.0,0.07833903057741491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540171121287733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100766340130766,0.0,0.0,0.1066921902062964,0.10785152613596456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815335043855922,0.0,0.0,0.10863166923382953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340758832045958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864202807537976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082010117280599,0.0,0.128187018730328,0.1840794004061632,0.0,0.0,0.1257119935378821,0.08458795003585226,0.2564449361124295,0.0,0.19163312063597168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556740079772924,0.155164137595817,0.10822399429390456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,genescheesesthatplz,2020/04/03,"Replacement trampoline legs Hi r/Parenting!

Do any of you know where we can get replacement legs for that red/blue kids trampoline every kid has? I think its fisherprice. We lost two and for the life of us can't figure out how to get new ones without ordering an entire new trampoline, and I hate to be so wasteful.",4.050491803278689,5.968150114754102,5.030295081967214,80.72740983606558,72.44262295081967,10.125901639344264,28.593442622950818,10.355215969177356,3.2556596721311486,251,10,48,8,5,82,49,61,0.10400000000000001,0.8959999999999999,0.0,-0.7424,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,1,3,2,1,0,2,0,5,3,2,1,0,10,11,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,6,0,8,9,0,5,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923154912588266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220627874624006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27540107340082925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602134194723757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484706628248176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616199983419235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877096209432544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091006414876915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859678219415906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29265498399039874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888021834949613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574622814345402,0.0,0.31703325568570645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540648606019203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,5130039kq,2020/04/03,"Tried CIO for nap time And my toddler crawled out of bed and ran to Dad, whose now cuddling with him and watching tv on the couch. 

So cute, but that kid’s gonna be a wreck in a few hours without his nap.",2.5026666666666664,2.7408574888888886,3.108888888888892,99.49000000000002,74.1111111111111,6.0,26.11111111111111,3.1291,0.09477777777777784,157,5,41,0,3,49,41,45,0.086,0.867,0.048,-0.4026,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,3,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,8,0,1,7,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,3,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5993268497118551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3548667900478693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4131845886334751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5866475809643902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,purplehair0823,2020/04/03,i’m tired. i’m exhausted. i’m tired. i’m miserable. i have twin 3 year olds. it just never stops. i’m stuck in the home all day. i have no friends around here. it’s just constant chaos. i’ve already cried 4 times today just because i’m so miserable. their dad is at work all day so it’s just me all day. i’m just miserable. i sit here all day just waiting for bedtime so i can get at least a few minutes of quiet. i really just don’t know how much longer i can do this.,-2.1034789915966385,-0.3196392190476196,0.7540616246498608,100.65731092436977,103.09523809523807,4.375350140056023,16.652661064425768,6.2272716619740125,-0.3961036414565826,362,11,91,5,17,124,61,105,0.25,0.691,0.059000000000000004,-0.9644,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,1,14,5,0,3,2,0,7,3,0,1,5,17,18,4,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,8,1,6,17,7,16,0,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,11,49,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22339313989533835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18021094279464656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234030956118478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876137971333126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223664204349596,0.5222178448094179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640153743714927,0.0,0.10576444529582994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305979544778116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112535214835431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881373926519428,0.0,0.15613110900910318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242250958667894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296856736625825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924554533580433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180420489818942,0.465340763272685,0.19188564060518407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737580581032644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036213520703185
parenting,fernandocamargoti,2020/04/03,"My daughter (1y4m old) keeps hitting us My daughter has always been very strong willed. And when she gets really angry (it happens especially when she's sleepy), she usually hits us or anything else (even the wall). We've been trying since ever to make her stop hitting when she's angry, but it's not working very well. She knows that it's wrong to hit us and sometimes she walks away and hit anything else to show how mad she is out something like that.

Since always, I'm staying against any kind of physical punishment. My wife was raised being spanked, so we had some fights about it. Anyway, she has only hit our daughter in very few occasions, when she lost control (usually after my daughter hit her in her face) and she was really sorry afterwards. And even those times, it was just a slap on my daughter's hand.

Also, I've recently went through the ABC's Parent course (Coursera) and managed to convince my wife that no physical punishment has any good effect. So, she stopped completely. Yesterday, for example, she was hit my daughter in her face twice and despite how angry she was, she just walked away and laid in the bed to calm down.

So, when she hits us, we just put her away and ignore her or we try to talk, saying ""no"", that it's wrong and so on. We also ask her to cuddle us, which seems to work at the moment, but she'll hit us again soon when she gets mad. It's hard to think about a good technique presented in the course to deal with it, so I came here to ask your opinion.",5.992977190876353,5.927772911564628,5.964909963985593,83.09983793517408,66.48299319727892,9.094517807122848,30.89955982392957,8.671277953709913,2.2093655862344934,1172,40,236,16,17,369,148,294,0.17300000000000001,0.753,0.07400000000000001,-0.9862,1,0,1,0,1,0,45.0,11,1,0,6,28,17,5,0,7,0,15,4,3,5,1,40,39,29,0,0,8,9,2,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,14,17,0,5,4,1,0,5,3,9,1,1,11,3,44,8,32,15,2,41,0,1,0,1,51,14,0,5,22,157,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851713895671158,0.1441258072525322,0.0,0.0,0.11778972990110237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253826989358406,0.0,0.16192932973451815,0.0,0.2441067973317247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905388092658064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080445817853793,0.0,0.09713568830790413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928670283481499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469594566022684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440453323480874,0.07833983934539243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049583683387584,0.0,0.0,0.14528155151247185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658515934628958,0.0,0.07758172128633678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697915043542357,0.0,0.09018653857620387,0.04759624323281813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04231118412937525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454038283475556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057809996016736996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087814299800644,0.0,0.0,0.06586755882987516,0.0,0.0,0.09616541196725753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706267741137344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109636941850728,0.0,0.0855127083139783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887235109105201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884260218605492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432823065000393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06667332067075946,0.08565527960176318,0.09694802210175832,0.0,0.09231018290457003,0.0,0.1448125332925389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696104036867129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05549345358571616,0.0,0.0,0.05050049652471943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175992088723644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6250561645928517,0.0,0.1907679478921972,0.21437638732461076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786895049910672,0.08028437762198097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610000306405536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18937953618274408,0.0,0.0
parenting,mjsays,2020/04/03,Single Mom Single parents of two: how the heck did you do it?? I have a 2.5 year old & a 5 month old.. older child is very testy and younger child is starting to teeth 😭 I cannot help but to feel overwhelmed at times. Then I start feeling like I can’t do this and start second guessing my decision of being alone. I hope that does not sound ridiculous. I am opened to any type of advice. 😓,0.5295799457994548,2.6785781097560992,1.7779674796747995,98.54331978319786,84.97560975609754,4.132249322493226,18.86720867208672,5.033348758259628,-0.6018661246612464,303,8,69,1,9,96,64,82,0.052000000000000005,0.782,0.166,0.8420000000000001,1,1,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,1,3,0,10,1,1,1,0,11,17,5,0,1,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,1,3,8,2,7,15,2,12,0,1,0,0,6,2,1,2,11,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202790410419652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21412449693795035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22400710422771947,0.0,0.1405930513566402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092312141743955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090720188880616,0.1476979988247261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277518922425525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857618642663327,0.0,0.0,0.2053435020251887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100470538910443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213614607854636,0.16502113741322938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.433886228839896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295648137540821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390035324463241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055412483578945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019589069706749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058550270376285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313639721739434
parenting,logicallyauburn,2020/04/03,"Quarantine Preschool Treasure Hunt clues I’m the parent of a stir crazy preschooler and I’ve discovered that treasure hunts (follow the clue to the next clue style) are a great way to keep them occupied, and can double as reading practice if the clues are worded correctly. I did one today with 20 clues that lasted her an hour and I’d love to do more, as I’m sure lots of parents would too. But writing the clues so a preschooler can read them is hard! She just knows the alphabet sounds and short and long vowels (so ‘eat’ is ok but ‘oven’ is not, etc.)

So, Reddit, help me brainstorm: what are some clues to common household objects that follow common phonetic rules?",5.244374453193352,6.594122448818902,4.872388451443573,85.26340332458443,68.60629921259843,7.534208223972003,28.284339457567807,7.793537801064563,1.6877636045494318,529,18,99,6,9,161,86,127,0.022000000000000002,0.853,0.124,0.902,3,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,2,0,5,6,0,0,10,1,11,2,0,0,2,20,18,13,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,6,1,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,6,6,9,16,5,11,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,3,7,60,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122093206900117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23129202878948316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286455951026952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577858211720646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390075573834519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042350412837517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843356551435364,0.0,0.0,0.11397481823409734,0.1690485987626093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353152715229107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17631354745664693,0.1871754337531919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22055909812010965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053122586602096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460558842670084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148875056819161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546038769980456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965792248018349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461464823159616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732222268046666,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwinMamaNoDrama,2020/04/03,"Potty training regression My 2.8 year old twins potty trained just after their 2nd birthday, picked it up quickly and had been doing great. Until the past couple weeks where my daughter has almost completely regressed. It started small, just a couple drops in her undies when she went to the potty and has increased to the point of my husband putting a pullup on her after she wet her 4th pair of pants this morning. Daycare is closed, all their classes are canceled, we're face timing aunts we used to see every week, her little world has been turned upside down. I know the drastic schedule change is stressing her out, but I don't know what to do to help her feel better or more in control. How do I help her through this and preserve my sanity?!",8.617173252279635,7.667564354609933,7.24585612968592,78.99000000000002,61.482269503546114,8.908206686930091,35.74569402228977,6.868970318607317,2.4699779128672743,598,22,106,3,7,179,100,141,0.012,0.882,0.106,0.9273,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,2,6,3,0,1,6,0,13,1,1,4,1,19,21,8,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,4,3,19,2,17,17,3,29,0,0,1,0,17,12,0,2,13,73,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18649174267704052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471351385412394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19701647009468748,0.0,0.19526834797545434,0.0,0.20888319544894507,0.0,0.4121404551676709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691463085349971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416817884439456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205329470250276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496645352429322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470448196797866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666069134508645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542680179211824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778647186063085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760563230866865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722192202295385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484085984262696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182112516886718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21333647282713528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085976253383214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257486316422324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085094666453664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987798428286625,0.0,0.0,0.17264568393390953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993199406161027
parenting,MicahHerfaDerf,2020/04/03,"Early education for a 3 year old Hello all,

Father of a 3 year old boy here.

I was wondering what resources folks use for early education.  I was looking at Hooked on Phonics (only because I remember the commercials from when I was a kid) but I was wondering if there were other programs/resources folks here recommended.

I figured with the whole Covid-19 lock down this might be a good time to start him on something.

Thanks and best of luck to everyone!",4.700487394957982,6.803844258823527,5.5268907563025245,77.06529411764707,71.11764705882355,8.621848739495798,32.14285714285714,9.23628265651192,3.14681512605042,362,17,63,8,7,118,60,85,0.0,0.77,0.23,0.9682,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,1,12,13,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,7,4,12,6,3,13,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,5,9,45,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049172893909866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246474801906324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204547797974934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954714171963435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797602618135369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22708860027499564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492493547931175,0.0,0.0,0.16280569414126478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424933428273456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647973060690202,0.0,0.0,0.15151595095234469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708182601345003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482272817216322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488299287569787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389953633644486,0.0,0.0,0.4642876256920733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757010320853719
parenting,hitemwiththehein88,2020/04/03,"Quarantine activities for 2 year old Hi! Im working from home while wife goes into the office. I have a 2 year old and a 9 month old that are with me. Any activity ideas?! We’re running out of ideas and I can’t keep having my 2 year old watching movies from 7-4. 

Thinking about buying a train set?",-0.6600000000000001,1.5318953809523848,1.936825396825398,93.64428571428572,95.1904761904762,4.704761904761905,18.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,-0.041107936507936316,231,7,52,3,9,79,49,63,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,8,6,0,13,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,9,24,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212600783226395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886413527575595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025910761196267,0.1926104235728003,0.0,0.0,0.1584942561435036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232905434891646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7484449278901799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425682924729627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981519068658062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444863696689259
parenting,PikaSucio,2020/04/03,"Its taken time for me not to compare my son to others. A few months ago I took my son to a  Toys R Us that recently opened around us. They have a daily play time and reading time. 

It normally starts with reading time and a worker sits the kids in a circle and will read to them. My son has always been a delayed reader. He’s shown minimal interest and I’ve done everything to get him into books. The only ones he takes time to look at is the ones with bugs. He’s obsessed with bugs. 

So as the worker is reading and points to a page the kids read it out loud. My son had not interest and when it was his turn to read he didn’t. After that they lay some books out and let the kids read them on their own. Every kid there seemed to know how to read or at least know what the context of the page was. The age range is normally 3-5 years old. Mostly 4yo. I was like wtf how does everyone like books and read!? What am I doing wrong? Why is my kid so behind? Typical worrisome parents. 

Next up they brought out some animal matts and little realistic animals. Where you match up the animal to their natural habitat. My son was having so much fun and took the time to explain to other kids why they belong there. It was adorable. 

Afterwards some building blocks were brought out, this was my son’s time to shine. He was building helicopters, then deconstructing it, then he’d build a ship, then a car etc. He then was showing other kids how to do the same. 

It was at this point when another parent approached me and said “Wow your son is so smart, look at him go”. Then it dawned on me, that even though he isn’t as a proficient of a reader or writer as other kids he excels at other things. Mainly things that peak his interest. 

I told my parents this story and they said I was the exact same way. 

I’ve just always felt like he can do so much more but I don’t want to strain or push him too hard. At this point I’m happy how he’s developing and I’m proud of how I’m raising him. No one says it to me so I’m patting myself on the back lol",2.049042553191491,3.6575939929078025,3.4705141843971634,91.10875,77.15602836879432,6.780378250591017,21.20626477541371,7.594959193182576,0.6013257683215127,1581,40,352,22,36,519,200,423,0.039,0.863,0.099,0.9755,3,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,2,9,4,23,17,0,2,25,1,33,0,0,5,1,52,58,39,0,3,7,10,2,3,0,1,0,5,0,8,26,23,0,2,5,15,0,8,6,3,0,3,24,10,39,14,47,31,16,60,0,0,3,0,53,24,0,8,29,232,65,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560149681339449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315717092910075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760132149411493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065880671744146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05690573627345408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476279696069354,0.07573342028924382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253580354753239,0.048879999089877724,0.0,0.062352907607226636,0.07071551971335467,0.06651145899463377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105697908869281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866487014984557,0.0,0.0420590864367751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878033451339114,0.06629447904977727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134308178598941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567573732859488,0.0,0.10846619010231222,0.07417305051819928,0.0,0.0,0.12429212598524984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059070561754554815,0.0,0.10880525849887997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870579236274151,0.0,0.14501954506450093,0.0,0.0,0.07765642534313089,0.0,0.150444324143944,0.05628459160877318,0.0,0.0,0.2465233736738188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987763067182533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6662306188902445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307159928674001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407925403926498,0.058852221384249725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673719163765687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05238154271292232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564299910108587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833206095905674,0.0,0.07271012365481024,0.0,0.3020728126865731,0.0,0.0,0.07071551971335467,0.16444588336199115,0.0,0.08049683868050649,0.0,0.0,0.17803924309953284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04365041873916865,0.058742198503759925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335570815579884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091350311490537,0.0,0.04765717832810524
parenting,Kitchen_Particular,2020/04/03,"Turning photos into coloring pages? Anyone know of an online service that would let me turn pictures into a coloring book style page?

I am trying to find stuff other than watching TV for my kids and I thought it would be fun to have more creative coloring pages for them",5.0779411764705875,7.012105764705888,5.347205882352942,79.43492647058825,69.78431372549021,7.452941176470588,30.39705882352941,8.07648339933343,2.375623529411764,218,9,36,3,4,69,43,51,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.7816,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,10,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,1,8,5,4,2,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,27,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033396851626943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657932042761529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982044788721048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29737083888390603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329055355815131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308690343013704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974395136736727,0.6326310992381878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41316325794301895,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theDigitalNinja,2020/04/03,"Leaving kids partially unattended. So my wife and I are splitting up and we have two kids 6 and 4. I think we have a problem with her leaving the kids alone but she is so manipulative I always find myself second guessing everything I think.

​

So she hasn't been adhering to the stay at home order. She has been going out to to meet up with the man she was having an affair with and have threesomes. She likes to rub that in my face and post photos where she knows I will see them. But thats what ever. I'm doing really good about blocking all that out.

  
The main problem I have is she comes home at 4:00am and sleeps until 3-4pm.  I'm working and in meetings from 5:30 to 5:00pm most days. This means the kids have no one really watching them. She argues that its fine and they know how to get their own food. And that she is sleeping in the living room so if one got hurt she would hear them.  


Am I over reacting? My dad used to leave me alone for several days at a time growing up but my therapist says he was clearly abusive. I just dont feel comfortable not know what or if my kids ate.",2.917311507936507,4.448573330357148,3.8552976190476222,89.58692460317465,74.625,6.942063492063492,23.60515873015873,7.594959193182576,0.9174075396825404,862,25,184,11,18,277,136,224,0.14400000000000002,0.7909999999999999,0.065,-0.9575,0,2,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,5,1,9,8,1,0,9,0,21,5,3,4,3,46,39,21,0,5,8,2,2,1,0,2,0,2,3,6,9,17,2,1,8,0,0,3,4,4,0,4,6,6,33,4,26,31,4,25,0,1,2,0,33,14,0,5,6,131,42,1,0.0,0.1470872071954296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25714601162402073,0.0,0.0,0.1032955530049971,0.1345071074336175,0.15084533557076973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693678602542096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16012180941100596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549274475474155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229296378997752,0.0,0.0,0.11157024615277997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276959965821463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346295043556608,0.0,0.15011222052235262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648587347998424,0.0,0.07055239349193418,0.10412387962282227,0.0992871829760206,0.0,0.13675569952878255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991633060721384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490478040067243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289588922304488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046745281535796,0.0,0.0,0.3943433144366677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06064919595256296,0.0,0.10961909178283498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522633004329546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824279135001075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188931032724953,0.0,0.0,0.2375730242008385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905626303609954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872218901420292,0.0,0.0,0.09892458815038667,0.0,0.0,0.14024439692432816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484620189407409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231816803513466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413768258875626,0.0,0.1590895367198154,0.0,0.0,0.07238782304140297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126806643357806,0.0,0.0,0.10721827320735963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903763857336839,0.0,0.0,0.08818645756096885,0.0,0.15084533557076973,0.0
parenting,kafromet,2020/04/03,"Daughter is sad/frightened of distance learning Our 5 year old had her first online kindergarten“meeting” yesterday. It was her teacher and teachers aid reaching out to the families to test the software, say hi to the kids, and let the grownups figure out any technical issues. 

They did a little of their morning routine then went around and said hi and showed a stuffed animal. 

My daughter cried the whole time and refused to participate. I talked to her later and she said she was scared to be on camera, wanted her normal school back, and that it made her sad. 

She’s been amazing the last three weeks, but as a very social child who loves school, I think this was too much of a reminder of what she’s missing. 

Has anyone had any similar experiences or have any advice?  <3",6.0491666666666655,7.460548916666667,5.513500000000002,81.1815,66.77777777777777,7.982222222222222,31.06666666666667,8.238735603445708,2.271430000000001,620,24,110,8,10,189,101,144,0.07,0.8690000000000001,0.061,0.1655,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,2,1,3,5,0,1,10,0,12,1,0,1,0,19,20,11,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,6,10,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,11,3,15,2,15,7,2,16,0,2,0,1,27,5,0,1,10,74,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550593127646918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34553123736481683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184271039468668,0.0,0.0,0.15077477807291925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302347036021002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604446085249865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567588656091473,0.15966650661838291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406562417918187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17677777160334046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380587613638645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731918057170886,0.0,0.0,0.1697527504623032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286260123337614,0.16026153165888612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450608250509344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594616557836436,0.0,0.0,0.17772481650640098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222183907666449,0.13468943748432616,0.1695684327283976,0.3428219857307241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265089282573454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613280172801215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085251473068088,0.0,0.0,0.09876072708192096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974758889093708,0.09989852902149493,0.0,0.13585800989318794,0.0,0.0,0.1570072385998268,0.0,0.18909501659445893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090684156030952
parenting,jefhildy,2020/04/03,"Kids safe searching while they're at home Like the idea and it's something I worry about. 

My kids are on their phones and computers all day. 

Maybe keeping them off the 'entire' internet with [Seekadoo](https://seekadoo.com/free-school-version.html) isn't such a bad idea. Saw this article on [PrivacyParent](https://www.privacyparent.com/seekadoo-a-safe-kid-friendly-search-engine/)",10.275000000000002,13.987748913793109,6.430551724137935,69.61962068965519,59.86206896551725,8.088275862068969,32.289655172413795,8.841846274778883,2.8790027586206888,319,12,45,5,5,86,51,58,0.057999999999999996,0.778,0.165,0.6542,2,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,2,6,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,3,22,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420119277076009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869287188526466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907423236552691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6544088046127216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25763123639142244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416056506051007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29119242288849395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933428073982295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22314003131457166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29435587470502705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,suki1990,2020/04/03,"Essential employees and Childcare So I’m a part time pharmacy worker, I’ve had to ask that my hours be cut due to Covid-19 closing the schools. I have an 11 year old daughter and a 6 year old daughter, and I work 3 days out of the week from 9-1pm. My usual childcare is my mom, but she works at a hospital and I’m kind of scared with all that’s going on, there is some patients at her hospital with the virus. I’ve been having to leave my girls here at home for those few hours I work. I feel guilty leaving them but I know they are safe and my daughter has a phone to call me or my mom in case of emergencies. Doors are always locked and she knows not to open the door for anyone. I just feel this is safer for them not to come into more contact with the virus. Can I face any legal trouble for leaving them alone for 4/5 hours? I’m in the state of Texas.",2.857252747252748,3.666810439560443,3.67989010989011,93.61510989010988,73.72527472527473,6.918681318681319,24.43956043956044,7.010146845296331,0.6368989010989008,668,19,157,6,13,213,111,182,0.094,0.8540000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.7642,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,4,4,4,5,1,1,11,0,12,1,1,0,1,27,22,10,0,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,14,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,2,21,2,27,19,5,25,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,2,12,95,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506951461029402,0.0,0.0,0.11654884819093987,0.0,0.0,0.0952519025592774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793968601699264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309458536861546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430263790156635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065726817785535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033308750570866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164645676890691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960459051127883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050089213454556,0.0,0.4138200300959758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586058380185973,0.15395680850636295,0.0,0.0,0.44493937785654575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32809485774438085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29395826032989897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168136303821345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023376833789558,0.14175757290009014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167551412515264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542665052319711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235511456737213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30591627677557576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18040002706357855
parenting,mysticpark,2020/04/03,"Stay at home parents, I need your help/advice. What's you day to day like? The title says most of it. But I've been home with my 11, 7, and 4 yr old the last 3 weeks. I've always been a working mom, so this is just so foreign to me. e
Everything was fine until we started ""homeschool"" this week and I can not find the right balance. I'm having such a hard time dividing my time and attention to help each one. During meal time I've been sending them outside for ""recess"", but other than that what do you do? What are your secrets?? How do you get anything done during the day???? Hellllpppp! 

I've always respected stay at home parents. My respect has increased immensely over this. I just don't think I was made to do this. I've always worked and balanced everything really well in my life. This is out of my norm and I feel like I'm failing at this hard. Thank you to anyone who has any tips!

Love to you all. Especially right now 💜",0.8972525554724484,3.1418121832460737,2.599027673896785,92.62846422338572,84.23560209424085,5.522911992021941,21.137122911992023,6.868970318607317,0.4656714535028663,721,23,155,9,21,237,115,191,0.037000000000000005,0.7959999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9791,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,7,1,3,8,9,0,0,6,0,18,3,0,2,1,24,28,11,0,1,5,3,3,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,13,9,1,0,5,0,0,2,2,1,1,1,7,4,20,8,18,21,4,25,0,1,0,1,18,8,0,1,15,95,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223012966856352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124202255433619,0.0,0.0,0.08511058193742868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751220130734705,0.0,0.10299297832827163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24214639621599984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807835748655816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496484087295712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632827903751005,0.08941169218298198,0.0,0.0,0.11439059906151035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653890058353354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242309393843248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777927153059569,0.0,0.3766259477554455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201909625467237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840160238416164,0.12229010141160432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295845533385475,0.11842592576314763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658155649922155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928018173006206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133049277636213,0.0,0.08480915407376788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779425398685545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017833637913815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21376560814917814,0.0,0.0995293203521214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858627971191642,0.2667999457119022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522711408024565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019510924022905,0.0,0.0,0.2189389508384163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007856835935531,0.0,0.11253055249214512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18223056716581956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heathcliffcathy,2020/04/03,"How do I amuse a 10 month old every.single.day during lockdown? Looks like my town will be locked down for 6 months, which means no going anywhere except for essentials. 
I do two walks per day but I’m struggling to amuse her. 
She is active and likes being outdoors, doesn’t really like toys. 
So far all the novel things I’ve found have entertained her for a few minutes...leaving the day stretching on and on....",4.755384615384617,6.498013256410258,4.759487179487183,84.09384615384619,70.28205128205127,7.2512820512820495,25.82051282051281,7.793537801064563,1.3964205128205136,326,10,61,4,6,101,64,78,0.06,0.667,0.273,0.9575,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,8,13,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,5,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,6,6,8,9,2,13,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,8,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695510971535282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26610056013515593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792813480688404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25697704992357845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557029065029768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20380115880665134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643640358109772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874307834549969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546656813254681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547547435389575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537156203240036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612345738915133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370759854764238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pond395,2020/04/03,Toddler and Daycare Friends My son is 2.5 years old. His daycare has been shut down for 2 weeks now and at the beginning he kept asking about his friends but he isn’t as much anymore. Without knowing when daycare will open again I’m struggling with showing him pictures of him and his friends on the daycare app. I don’t know if this will keep him remembering them or make him sad. Is anyone else running into this problem?,3.2242682926829285,5.692502097560976,3.229451219512196,90.16539634146343,76.8048780487805,5.0756097560975615,32.201219512195124,5.985473137389443,1.6056292682926832,340,18,64,2,8,103,62,82,0.132,0.778,0.09,-0.6992,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,17,16,8,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,2,3,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,10,3,10,12,1,14,0,1,0,0,15,6,0,2,7,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285399598617032,0.16113281394430806,0.23611859217706985,0.0,0.0,0.2154353841315043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925075999924752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5341247397306333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20483050070498932,0.0,0.0,0.2532935808698745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382412462183628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940391817931186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418137304468792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22050516945406956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26104976762679044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24091161519632595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848494365004877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22214118644820952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839931175264512
parenting,DrMcLukey,2020/04/03,"How do I bloody discourage a two year old from swearing? Joke in the title aside. My two year old daughter has picked up the phrase ""fuck sake"" from somewhere. Course being a toddler it's coming out as ""duck sake""

We've told her this isn't something you say, which makes her say it more in an act of defiance. We've also ignored her which works when she says it more than once as she gets bored. This is first child so all new ground for us.

Side note. Yeah she says it in context. She dropped her doll the other day, sighed and said ""duck sake""",1.7249090909090905,3.904620945454546,1.826363636363638,99.77954545454548,80.45454545454545,4.727272727272728,19.090909090909093,5.565023196281405,-0.5259090909090909,424,10,96,2,11,126,80,110,0.136,0.826,0.038,-0.8807,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,0,2,4,6,1,0,6,1,5,1,0,3,1,9,11,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,9,3,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,4,1,3,2,5,12,1,12,8,3,18,0,1,0,1,18,7,1,0,8,55,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469075353614855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558563569911935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166857674388356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390013335641986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726813875296068,0.09452917467108428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077309636315055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474464739760934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797140798426892,0.19268600717292075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210716849149482,0.5755355591215177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928981036237362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288768044567984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534873219251328,0.0,0.2176381641014071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172019435046786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23302774415376976
parenting,metalman_88,2020/04/03,"Kids phones I have a 10 year old son that I'd like to get a kids cell phone for.  I've looked at some kids phones that can only call the numbers you program in, have gps, etc.  What has your experience been with them and which one would you recommend?  I live in the U.S.A. just an fyi.",1.84,3.2930430000000044,2.4633333333333347,98.77500000000002,77.33333333333334,6.133333333333334,18.666666666666668,6.742157984588678,-0.3564333333333334,220,4,55,2,5,68,48,60,0.0,0.882,0.11800000000000001,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,6,6,2,5,0,0,1,0,13,3,0,1,3,32,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544777315442824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38716266919393005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33957813250030383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137091647299375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959936525455094,0.0,0.3065387445645688,0.0,0.29151755473322866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642742618794628,0.0,0.2352370066367704,0.2640223004455671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24660454259090106,0.0,0.0,0.2235524411794738
parenting,jxs1,2020/04/03,"How to get our toddler less attached to mum ? Long story short my partner wants another baby and her pregnancy with our firstborn (18 months this month) was horrendous with her being hospitalised for all of it.

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I'm terrified of being left alone with him if such a thing this happens again as he's mum OBSESSED and I work full time. Other than being terrified of having no one to help out during work hours (Covid-19) the fact that he always wants mum scares me. Well, in the daytime anyway. I'm only good for sleeping on - ha. 

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She walks out the room ? He follows.

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We hug ? He tries to separate us and failing that, will have a hissy fit.

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He says 'mum' all the time too.

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So, if such a thing another horrendous pregnancy is on the cards and mum is out for 9 months what do I do ?",3.036249999999999,5.602166522292997,3.494199840764331,87.48805135350321,78.04458598726114,6.472770700636943,26.37300955414013,7.645422480735847,1.6258410828025478,652,26,121,10,16,203,100,157,0.163,0.7490000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.9348,0,1,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,0,0,3,8,7,0,2,8,1,11,2,1,1,3,19,18,9,0,4,2,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,9,11,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,1,1,1,12,4,21,13,4,21,0,1,0,1,21,11,0,2,8,81,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972572873428643,0.0,0.0,0.07208565055977481,0.4693344515904173,0.5263432854655629,0.0,0.18168464579043755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04526220109692782,0.0,0.0,0.07266370509731156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660933374726066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806831768506675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531611865513893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412707919454574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666753681964482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744905916001108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058704807291516566,0.06588835017890064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889409091434555,0.08673481186639287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669563090422656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511031849209424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010328744025012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05881816475813902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420891099705476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219685328208708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789353013370735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613980701644706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5263432854655629,0.0
parenting,TheLittlebluedragon,2020/04/03,"The Little BLue Dragon - AR-Book Check this amazing app for kids! The Little BLue Dragon  - AR-Book is not a game, it is a cluster of numerous features aimed at stir ypour kids love for reading and imagination. It is a tale of 12 chapters about  a magical creature that is on a mision to save his home - the BLue Planet. On the way it meets new characters, which are the animals that are either extinct or are already on the verge of extinction. What a great educational moment! Every chapter is supplemented by printable coloring pages. After your child is done coloring, use the app and amaze your kid by making the characters on the pages come to life!!! The app lets your child ""summon the dragon"", the  creature will appear anywhere and at any desirable time to keep your kid company! You little one can also ""visit the dragon"" in its little cave and brush teeth together with the Little BLue dragon or listen to a very calming lullaby before going to bed. the Little BLue Dragon App has a lot more to offer. Check it out!  

 [https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/little-blue-dragon-ar-book/id1482387408](https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/little-blue-dragon-ar-book/id1482387408?l=ru)

 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNw\_a-6nY84](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNw_a-6nY84) 

 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56JNd8drV-w](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56JNd8drV-w) 

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parenting,KikiNZ,2020/04/03,"My husband was married to Taylor Swift When our girls (x3) were really young, like under 5, my husband told them as we were watching a Taylor Swift clip, that he was married to her before he was married to me. Apparently they broke up because she was busy touring, then he met me and fell in love, the rest is history. Kids are still pretty young, but bring up the fact that daddy was married to Taylor Swift pretty regularly. It’s cute and funny so haven’t corrected them yet. It’s like a long game dad joke.",4.552857142857143,5.647490399999999,5.321428571428573,82.355,70.0,7.7142857142857135,27.285714285714285,7.957251820313856,1.6492714285714287,400,13,77,5,7,130,69,100,0.017,0.721,0.262,0.9783,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,3,0,4,6,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,0,2,6,14,7,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,9,1,11,5,9,5,1,13,0,1,1,1,19,4,0,0,9,47,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952307419031505,0.0,0.2725221643623232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129308768631569,0.0,0.0,0.28342469436355777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890519189100669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6516498537788519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051701390295191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25576426606262603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30602719940924056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wandering_eternally,2020/04/03,"Online schooling, stuck inside and earthquakes I have two teens. We currently are under a Stay Safe, Stay Home order, not going anywhere except to the store. None of us working at the moment. 
The thing that we are struggling most with right now is not feeling safe. We understand we need to be inside to protect ourselves and others from Covid 19, but it's been very difficult because we had a 5.7 earthquake two weeks ago (the day online schooling began). We have had several hundred aftershocks, over 700 was the last report I heard, and we feel many of them. We try to stay busy, do school work and make plenty of our own noise. But being stuck inside, hearing every single crack the house makes and wondering if it's another aftershock or worse, is really starting to wear on us. Of course we understand that the aftershocks are normal, will lessen and eventually stop. But not having a routine outside our home or anything to distract us from them has us hyper focused on it. It's like being inside is as scary as being outside. 
I feel like I can't even help myself right now and I have no idea how to help my kids or how to get focused on school work. They are getting it done, but not getting acceptable scores. But I don't know how to stress getting good grades right now when we don't even want to leave the same room as each other.",6.1010165369649805,6.700227066147864,5.963869163424125,80.91366366731519,66.27626459143967,8.448346303501946,30.070282101167315,8.278499904357787,2.1251247081712057,1064,36,195,13,16,333,147,257,0.155,0.7709999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.9582,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,16,0,3,3,9,10,0,3,11,0,26,1,1,5,0,55,48,23,0,4,14,0,3,2,0,1,0,2,3,1,10,19,0,4,9,0,1,1,9,4,0,2,9,5,27,6,27,34,6,28,0,0,0,0,24,10,0,6,15,139,37,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396812626809523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099327574496112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795072379938085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057743569607088326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108988255583346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693671191148086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513013071144455,0.0,0.07981002070790355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436876395027839,0.06767166300964908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979599159523352,0.0,0.05383448323884552,0.07945095800271088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676212360925708,0.0,0.1269845368745175,0.0,0.1900340890915921,0.0,0.0,0.10930010008755152,0.0,0.10693315950238884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052058462795984285,0.07721363653610804,0.0,0.10030025205697468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255584286679026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264595406050123,0.096036430032607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023749527297195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281053072581298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606833539065491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426842705557901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834676182996285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701245219168766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704694566874922,0.3028932051793492,0.0,0.07919446331011945,0.10850733434781568,0.09902728931185513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293117773134599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431215600329103,0.0,0.18506540647900244,0.19722443465500755,0.455770748273697,0.0,0.0,0.07815816561603997,0.05587134517329147,0.0,0.07598279814175747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027253797992524,0.2068831027053818,0.0,0.096533016056181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waltkemo,2020/04/03,"Clean teddy bear left outside for years We just moved into a new place recently, and while setting up a swing in the backyard for my 4-year-old daughter, she noticed a tiny teddy bear in the dirt. It looked like it's been there years. I tried to explain that it was old and unsafe to play with, but she believes all things have a soul and looked devastated by the prospect of throwing it away. She also loves Toy Story movies, so I'm basically asking her to betray Woody and all unloved toys. To her credit, she understood and fought her tears, but I couldn't follow through. Since then, I've been trying to figure out how to clean a stuffed animal so it doesn't get her sick.

It's a small bear, the size of my palm. So far, I've soaked it in detergent and scrubbed it by hand, run it through multiple hot cycle washes, and now I'm soaking it in vinegar. It had a musty smell when we first found it (says my wife, whose nose is infinitely keener than mine), but it had no mold or weird stuff. I'm mainly wondering now about what might be inside it.

What is the likelihood of dangerous bacteria/mold growing inside that I can't clean? Is it possible to save this thing.",5.5333004926108345,5.730407206896551,5.622857142857144,84.26500000000001,67.44827586206897,8.869950738916257,29.07142857142857,8.634040054169528,1.9232428571428577,920,29,190,13,14,290,144,232,0.12,0.727,0.153,0.7545,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,1,11,9,2,0,12,0,14,6,3,1,2,28,28,19,0,1,5,2,2,1,0,1,2,1,4,0,24,12,0,0,5,3,1,5,4,4,0,2,8,7,17,5,27,17,3,30,1,0,2,1,18,12,0,3,13,123,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656768824334548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965038252449454,0.0,0.1604475385846117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924035110473552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526004543599189,0.0,0.18724457775060002,0.0,0.0,0.08922222423256737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554615468805427,0.0,0.0,0.0834314171792577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868138414023038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412995658844214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116393780930445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150544620774967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493433025095078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442702072544674,0.3583965997150582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784221979813864,0.0,0.0,0.19252171861739792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861845368488498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358061225236314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126579217752988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954950608176869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269089527040475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318883022838664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519682283622285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299180445662487
parenting,browncj,2020/04/03,"Advice, help, please read 💕 sleeping nightmare! My daughter is 7 weeks old tomorrow. I love her dearly but I’m struggling.  Like many of us, this is not how I envisioned my maternity leave.  I am home with the baby and my 2.5 year old, my husband is working from home. 

The challenge I am facing right now is her sleeping, and lack thereof which results in so much crying.  I recently purchased and listened to TakingCaraBabies and while her approach has worked sometimes more often than not getting babe down for a nap often takes 3 hours of lots of crying.  At night if she’s unsettled it will be the same thing which in the middle of the night Im on the verge of losing my mind. 

Babe is EFF and we are giving her probiotics to help with gas and tummy pains.  

I don’t know what to do. I’m struggling with nap times because as soon as she realizes she’s not in our arms, once I can finally settle her she wakes screaming. Or, when she’s so overtired she won’t even settle in my arms. I try and put her down, let her cry for a min or so and go back to see her but literally nothing works.  She’s sleeping on my arm at night which has resulted in my entire body hurting.  And because is this shitstorm that’s happening I can’t go for a massage even if I had the time to.  
I didn’t want to co sleep but we are. I’ve tried every trick I can think of to get her to sleep in her crib/bassinet and nothing works.

I yelled at her today. I yelled at my 7 week old baby because she wouldn’t stop crying. I feel awful and a complete piece of shit.  I don’t know what’s going on, but I don’t feel like myself. I’m usually pretty patient but I’m losing my cool.  My husband and I are also not good. We are constantly fighting and I resent the fact that he can just hid away in his office and work while I’m dealing with what I am all day long.  He does let me sleep from now (8ish) till 11ish and then brings baby to me so at least I have that rest most nights.  
We are just constantly fighting and arguing.  

Then there’s the issue of my body. I lost a lot of weight after my son and felt amazing but this pregnancy changed my body far more than my son. I have an extra 50 pounds on me and I have so many stretch marks. I just feel gross and it makes me so so sad. 

My son was so easy, could be put down, rarely cried, slept great but my daughter is a totally different beast and I’m not sure what to do.  And of course I’m guilty AF that my son isn’t getting more of me, that he’s not seeing his friends at daycare and that he’s watching far too much paw patrol. 

If you’ve got this far, thanks for listening. Not sure what I need, but if you have any tips for sleeping at this stage please let me know. 

Also, how did you know you had postpartum depression? I spoke to my doctor yesterday and she said I don’t sound depressed but I tend to sugar coat things .. ugh. I’m struggling so bad",2.5006542819592923,3.7970342687813066,3.662562426739601,91.50348950378292,75.26043405676127,6.6337654956842975,24.096934607324265,7.125416948008024,0.7471961140908605,2233,68,499,23,47,725,269,599,0.201,0.721,0.077,-0.998,1,0,0,0,4,0,58.0,6,3,0,9,27,34,6,3,16,2,46,22,17,5,5,90,88,59,0,9,25,8,5,2,1,3,2,8,2,2,23,31,2,1,10,3,1,7,16,21,0,0,11,18,86,13,62,68,16,73,0,7,3,1,58,29,1,12,38,325,109,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059653078570148364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763632906403573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0415131185772686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057354374509319725,0.04694031776757605,0.05097054728434622,0.11163853981316003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20342378401649605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457817725236045,0.0,0.06400517673103168,0.1319372682812116,0.0,0.0487399645090393,0.0,0.3352787647904938,0.039369378167974665,0.06293535922473202,0.10515701531464637,0.0,0.0,0.06377968558491733,0.0,0.06248278426369895,0.05342143811730424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064011960875098,0.0,0.05143357222812843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259950716845072,0.043611006942887186,0.05861337356218677,0.06687249867720801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04716369871016502,0.0,0.09568145903012246,0.0585605263671358,0.10408090703909292,0.0512021742480484,0.04882376321119906,0.06730301745119502,0.0,0.0,0.05398244488498101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183519176238159,0.0,0.12246747915116213,0.0,0.06011764425853945,0.0,0.06535060450586813,0.0,0.06593975085288023,0.06371577270722921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419631683104866,0.0,0.0,0.06463850294629757,0.0,0.1872698636441477,0.0,0.059647618018384176,0.0,0.0,0.05402345743519428,0.0,0.1365888797863013,0.06663851129049657,0.1037976153096416,0.055096060252846656,0.0,0.040748428943833896,0.12378136521707575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616386794453094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897511172542935,0.0452645576858932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291487361632034,0.0,0.11714984785341155,0.0,0.1921713444555359,0.06501159867714107,0.0,0.0,0.06495684940208771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401952993984176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210534727280082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227354287701446,0.0,0.0,0.061062145156680576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060275190427588214,0.0,0.0,0.05213263049571664,0.05806836900920851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729091959002112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266245716589182,0.0,0.0,0.4276279823483504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060375684397317116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103687622932195,0.0,0.19145442610589428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506955888189098,0.0,0.045898713036498257,0.0,0.0,0.05620261007786749,0.0,0.0,0.08111200188990393,0.03911557180579674,0.0,0.0,0.07119239010741625,0.0,0.05786411494801778,0.0,0.0,0.08289194493629197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343037093862666,0.0,0.06723313185487544,0.0,0.0360062914652095,0.0,0.0979342368703927,0.07433712588116123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222097114997745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03931138126176666
parenting,RedSkattles,2020/04/03,"3-year-old almost 4 Anger issues Hello, I have a 3-year-old daughter who will be 4 in July. We have had here in daycare going on about 8 months now and just recently have had to take her out due to recent events. We have always noticed an anger issue with her, but here recently this anger has gotten worse. We are not big into physical punishment and more into time outs and taking her favorite things away for a time period. This does not seem to be working at this point. She is an only child and does not like it when she doesn't get her way. Please give me some slack as this is our first child and I am completely open to the fact that a lot of this is caused by me and the wife with our not following through with not giving her everything she wants. But I am looking to correct this issue. Before these recent few weeks we could usually get through a tantrum pretty easy, but here since we have taken her out of daycare this has become very difficult and frustrating. If we tell her no for something this starts a huge fit with screaming crying and pure anger pouring out of her veins. She does not want you to talk to her and tells you to not look at her or go away. Me being the father I tend to go towards being stern and not allowing this attitude in the house but only makes her angrier. Recently I had found an article on google with some tips on helping the child get through the anger which consisted of acknowledging that you understand she is angry and let her know you are there for her to get through the feeling of being angry. Once the child is calm then try to speak and go over what had happened.  Keep in mind this is something new we just implemented and still need to be consistent with, but she does not want to open up with us at all. We try to calmly just talk with her about the way she is feeling and why but she just doesn't acknowledge and says idk. Is this normal for a 3-year-old almost 4? are we just overreacting parents and this is the way of life that every parent deals with? At this point, I'm trying to keep myself from having blowouts and running and screaming. I feel that maybe without us realizing it is that she is sensing everything that is going on with the virus, everyone talking about it, and she is just stressed out herself? Maybe this is her way of expressing it? To be honest this kind of scares me that she is getting this angry and does build up pretty fast with little time to de-escalate the situation. Any suggestions or slaps to the face are welcome as I am willing to learn her to help my daughter.",8.050178571428571,6.484677470238098,7.537301587301588,78.42714285714288,62.98809523809523,10.780952380952382,33.698412698412696,9.516144504307137,2.807291269841269,2031,64,405,30,24,638,227,504,0.153,0.7609999999999999,0.086,-0.991,2,0,2,0,0,0,37.0,13,4,0,2,16,19,8,2,22,0,47,3,2,3,4,106,84,33,0,7,25,6,3,1,0,2,1,4,0,4,32,49,0,2,11,0,0,7,13,13,0,1,7,9,58,6,80,66,6,66,0,0,2,0,72,33,0,9,23,299,90,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394544405503858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05794009229067122,0.0,0.0,0.047352711852673424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084467092372462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690398937865743,0.05925240918075154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153209711377441,0.0,0.0,0.0730086968817508,0.0,0.0,0.05559614825877826,0.0,0.07648839346961499,0.0,0.07178838961872354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046807915931057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866866206977407,0.06653715261019216,0.12516299435799044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562535244095647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592296491772437,0.0,0.0763488033975324,0.0,0.0,0.1819013970512962,0.1335963100841227,0.1978697083916412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157608113645888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334683559654884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034693612846057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180357483762695,0.0,0.12378571654057585,0.0,0.07251187650696922,0.03826838202219701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120428590402658,0.0491837267437474,0.034019083190120536,0.06979038833198155,0.0,0.0,0.11694807856109128,0.0,0.0,0.059199341523855885,0.0,0.0,0.046480454380583916,0.0,0.13991107298679528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030930767873626,0.0,0.05558026014889541,0.0,0.0,0.05163186073937792,0.0,0.06725182061403202,0.0,0.0,0.06822538843333342,0.0,0.0792774378775704,0.21920382308561734,0.07415669081835713,0.0,0.10591780917840116,0.0,0.0,0.15463803327853834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643593641441163,0.13165106234183135,0.0,0.0,0.14168324205493366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437700926840846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537482085354915,0.06971460984715164,0.0,0.0,0.06339111272546144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057600996105342965,0.07827021782812198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107213508160148,0.0,0.0,0.04928647509874423,0.0,0.055608867565021015,0.0,0.07976417089581793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471044370132936,0.16790469205555122,0.12172432430008187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04626095779984685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181038851314632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182836117828584,0.0,0.0,0.0724902312143556,0.16751944038218744,0.0,0.0766907240117586,0.05745437685454442,0.12321374084160325,0.2210851955749536,0.05585525561520337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283279790502291,0.0,0.0,0.06712356275804257,0.0,0.050693529178875936,0.0,0.07096180213138709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452377753462685
parenting,momthrowawaysad,2020/04/03,"my daughter called a girl bad names after she stole her backpack,is this okay. i dont know how to use this site,my son uses it.im livid right now. we are an inclusive family,we are super diverse (i have a black nephew).my daughter is 11.shefriends with the black nephew, so its out of character.i know shes not racist.do basically theres a girl named janyah in my daughter class.shes a shady character (her moms a drug addict).i tell her to be nice to her.in the past the kid has stolen from other kids.she talks about it [alot.one](https://alot.one) day she had a show n [tell.it](https://tell.it) would have been a fun day. she has a stuffed cat named cowcow.she never brings t to school(she loves it).today wasshow n tell day. i brought her ro school and she was happy about pocow.i tell to be carefull because i lost a stuffed cat as a kid an i cried for days.anyway,i get acall in the middle of the day that she was bad.i shrugged it of and went on with wiork.when i got to her school at the end of the day,the teacher told me she called a kid a bad [word.it](https://word.it) was the nword.we are an inclusive family and dont tolerate this.but she was provoked.i hate racism,but she was provoked.kids will be kids,but she was racist.i dont know what to do.her backpack camemback the next day,but sh e was suspended becuase the school got mad.i think the other girl should be suspended [two.how](https://two.how) do it tech my daughter not two do it agian hwile telling her two stand up four herself.",4.08031490015361,6.856740716845881,2.675999743983617,93.62447580645164,75.52329749103944,6.136251920122888,27.168586789554528,7.310402129719878,1.3084479262672808,1216,48,235,15,28,340,157,279,0.10300000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.07,-0.8391,0,0,1,0,0,0,78.0,1,0,0,2,6,11,1,0,26,1,30,2,0,3,1,23,46,6,0,2,2,7,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,11,7,0,1,4,1,0,3,6,4,0,3,15,2,28,7,25,24,0,22,0,1,2,1,43,8,0,0,10,132,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713069788692666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318099449431386,0.054313720083611336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819594005458272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787070134356886,0.34476761346644474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31326892051924954,0.0,0.10332616612681192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891497258884399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399429315021634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04655037580795187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252068575527846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484718721832217,0.0,0.08796648696486045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624184917324294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689889084742844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972617195211814,0.0,0.08041502511474471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435128129545593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871838432430764,0.0,0.09475744257123488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037556227770315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505475885017362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608977432091724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606904287901599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716141330945012,0.4672569699566342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709082781428509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445511776038306,0.08513759403183813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481458023137663,0.0,0.0,0.15390528127583444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259535643990516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329313628000455,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fallinaditch,2020/04/03,"Hi everyone! I need advice! My son will be 2 in October and I just wanted to hear all about your opinions on when to start potty training and how you guys did it?

Tips, tricks, insights, all of it will help!

Thank you in advance! :)",1.1908695652173904,3.480008521739133,2.6197391304347843,92.66656521739132,83.34782608695653,5.419130434782609,22.243478260869566,6.742157984588678,0.5660660869565213,176,6,37,2,5,57,38,46,0.028999999999999998,0.7859999999999999,0.184,0.8346,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,10,9,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,1,7,5,2,6,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,2,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743426606529454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660506455865205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793107635013184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43176052185861796,0.0,0.2567713532449943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840499662978894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27114695055068705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35268983758228584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259513049520462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AmonAganon,2020/04/03,"Are my kids better off without me? First of all I have 3 kids (6, 4 and 2) and I love them all to death.
The problem is that I am a shitty father and hate parenting and I don't know what to do .
I have no patience and I am always angry or annoyed at my kids.
I can't play or even be around them for longer than 30 to max. 60 min without then being annoyed or pissed at them. 
I always feel bad when I was rough to them or vocal but I can't help it and it gets worse. I hoped it  would get better but it doesn't.  I try my hardest but most of the times I can only stay calm for a day but the next day I am even more toxic as usual. 
My wife tells me all the time that if I don't get this under control that she is going to leave me and now I am thinking that maybe it would be the best for my kids. 
I love my kids and wife and I don't want to lose them but I also don't want to hurt them or want them to hate me because I am such a terrible father. 
I hate myself for this but I can't change it...
Please help me I don't know what to do anymore 

P.S. English is not my first language",-0.8344939271255072,0.7484902145749004,1.68749149797571,100.56145587044537,86.12550607287449,4.275886639676114,15.952874493927126,4.744908652037736,-1.1250882914979758,821,15,215,2,25,281,115,247,0.205,0.672,0.12300000000000001,-0.9133,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,7,7,7,19,6,0,8,0,29,3,1,1,3,41,46,25,1,8,15,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,14,10,0,1,4,1,0,1,13,11,0,2,1,2,44,8,24,40,6,19,0,2,0,2,23,5,1,8,12,157,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007028934800826,0.20956086625523573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488465146571945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210074521870857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514286317402577,0.07676325735750286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321514587689787,0.22274244338279725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133212900716846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412365999826538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242357057182735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634573325375915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367191663242973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142250054989187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973732496724624,0.0,0.07156658862088057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729772551386995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881094727689488,0.0,0.0,0.12507282812397008,0.0,0.0,0.13480627605524242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384111583137589,0.0,0.0,0.1333373415267146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408788669498464,0.0,0.0,0.2273060751055359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650948805328813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392361892054105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577231829356378,0.0,0.0,0.13982580510608747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382288188951783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049407574204893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342202500886327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100647834520514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068822944763125,0.0,0.0,0.14685680517295124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549541734410684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868958369119605,0.0,0.22282306814233216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24277614000241915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283292461037417,0.17890828695755365,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sosuken,2020/04/03,"With our little ones stuck at home, how are we keeping bday parties magical & special? I have my youngest turning 2 in the next few months. I am more than grateful to be blessed with a spouse, a mother in law and two children at home. 

Realizing my little guy isn’t going to be surrounded by any of his other family for his day, I’ve begun to plan how I can best make special for him.

I’m really excited to see how the community can share ideas for all of our littles ones to feel as special as they should on their birthdays. 

One of our first ideas:

We’re going to plan (and rehearse a practice run!) getting all of the family on a zoom call and have them sing happy birthday to him for his little cake time.",5.821249999999999,5.339880847222227,6.589722222222222,79.87750000000003,66.91666666666667,9.422222222222222,32.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.5350166666666665,558,21,113,8,8,185,93,144,0.011000000000000001,0.787,0.20199999999999999,0.9824,0,0,0,1,0,0,15.0,4,0,3,4,3,8,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,4,2,19,20,8,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,6,0,1,4,1,0,3,1,0,0,5,1,2,17,8,27,16,5,20,1,0,1,0,18,11,0,0,6,78,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559635554542908,0.0,0.09788703906220103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15106062978775225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698319270755394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283214537135023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27139569243247097,0.0,0.07278254750938776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243892178111836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752049395355755,0.0,0.16361369067791107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252745731642727,0.0,0.15323135111306346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887756768551561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249911177639229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794428023519622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5770798927059263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608391738443166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489494230466248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308636322326238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926210861918805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221438470314967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147049459628006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393506089412459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657003016720708,0.14061263501173862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sadistfaction,2020/04/03,"Should they stay or should they go? I’m not sure what to do. I have a 3yo and am trying to work from home. 

They have been with me since mid last month at home but day home is still open. According to rules (at this time) it is allowed to be open due to the smaller amount of children attending (only 3 or so are actually attending now). In order to hold her spot for when the pandemic is over we are still paying for the space. 

Struggling to work full time with a toddler. I feel like I can’t give them or my job enough attention and there is no break. 

I have the option of sending them but am really hesitant to do so. Any recommendations or ideas?",2.499289131920716,4.077877766917293,3.7645522898154486,89.60784005468219,75.84210526315789,7.54313055365687,22.617224880382786,8.296473431620573,1.0429909774436092,505,14,113,9,11,165,89,133,0.084,0.8909999999999999,0.024,-0.7924,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,5,2,7,3,0,1,6,0,18,0,0,1,1,23,22,11,0,2,7,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,3,7,0,1,3,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,1,1,13,2,19,18,3,26,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,5,11,78,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.18107176007292533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618156554761648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966554048751615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172457816671698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382054945438267,0.1325582206241357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799816418378686,0.10545334618633047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5583706588750025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20946536140736494,0.0,0.0,0.18413149931306486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512494567435976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065122159802264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810565149787666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112048136847952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886921434470825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349034049596866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19777349697066346,0.2963637643189498,0.0,0.0,0.19397899623863668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748803460713885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163934569769796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12597747099967851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701677950283308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,0721217114,2020/04/03,"Struggling with self-isolation from my husband and daughter in the same house. I am a nurse and an self isolating for likely COVID-19 (I'm not severely ill so no test for me). I am at home and limited to the master bedroom. My daughter and husband (high-risk) are in the rest of the house. My husband has been bringing me food and I get water from the bathroom sink to drink. She's 3.5 and not understanding why she can't have hugs/kisses/snuggles like usual. She's throwing fits outside the bedroom door because she wants me. Usually we snuggle and hang out/read/play with blocks watch a show or movie every night. She even sits next to me and colors while I do homework (I'm a full time student too.) She's mastered air hugs and blowing kisses from the other side of the patio door on the bedroom.

Anyone have any suggestions on what else I can do? I feel awful telling her she can't come in or hug me. My husband is having a terrible time, she's just so upset that she knows I'm home and won't come play blocks with her or tuck her in at bedtime.

I felt guilty before the pandemic about how much time we don't get to spend together because of work and school. (I just took a huge paycut to have more work - life balance to spend more time with her in January.) My heart is in pieces being home and not getting every minute I can.",4.058415161036919,5.1163802500000015,4.617022780832682,87.0838295365279,71.1268656716418,7.283896307934015,28.284367635506676,7.475848149327749,1.5055268656716418,1049,38,214,11,19,334,146,268,0.10300000000000001,0.8340000000000001,0.063,-0.8268,0,1,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,0,5,8,9,0,2,16,1,20,9,1,1,0,38,35,19,0,1,8,6,2,2,0,1,2,0,10,1,3,20,3,3,4,3,2,6,8,3,0,0,3,4,34,6,29,30,7,31,0,0,2,3,24,15,0,3,11,136,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583123602678783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825319055105034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388025422299734,0.0,0.10740055465823904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21744788681519653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364366925197262,0.0,0.0,0.10543730658445087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336450472257569,0.0,0.2126849164269072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381862270795192,0.0,0.12118719269857728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262093780321215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782801617556087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956661631649756,0.0,0.1333541770802616,0.3798149405132235,0.0,0.0,0.29127273049650265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693650353105391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915012242495851,0.12332556444879998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278331275428876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342321915156615,0.11844520438915992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262501968742689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773737186614492,0.0,0.0,0.2633417149613689,0.14258820038605494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194841051575712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031838304960498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943903540875752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023066566482148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139534995068086,0.0,0.0,0.2780182750334653,0.0,0.07444549113908208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389034537216275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377356217824745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saraburke245,2020/04/03,"What’s the most toxic thing a parent has ever said to you? I’ll go first! 

From a very young age my dad would always get joy out of saying things like “I can’t wait until you turn 18 and I drive you so far in the middle of no where and drop you off. And if I never see you again it will be the happiest day of my life.” 
Even if all I would do was put a dish back wrong or a cup back in the wrong spot. 

His new thing is now telling me, my mom and my brother that his life would elevate if he could leave us and never see us again but he can’t because he’s the bread winner of the family and said we would never make it on our own. 

He’s not as physically abusive has he is now. He used to slap, kick and punch me. He gave me a black eye two days before my sophomore dance. I had to cover it up with makeup. I didn’t tell anyone when I went to school and only one person noticed and I just said it was a door that caused it. I rang the doorbell a few extra times my dad said and that’s why he punched me. Idk he’s always right so I must’ve done something wrong. 

Now my dad is mostly just mentally and emotionally abusive. I don’t think I ever heard him say the words sorry to any of us. And he never said it to my mom. I feel bad for her the most. She has such low self esteem and is literally an angel. 

Hopefully all you parents take this as a lesson of what not to do and a parent. Don’t beat your kids, watch your anger, and remember that words are so powerful and can hurt just like wounds.",0.9735058977719541,2.34410367584098,2.8936948449104416,95.1170298165138,79.51987767584097,5.8946701616426385,17.794779379641767,6.5431188927421005,-0.3473275666229796,1150,20,281,10,28,386,178,327,0.096,0.8,0.10300000000000001,0.7484,4,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,5,8,0,4,19,11,1,0,19,0,27,6,1,3,8,56,47,28,0,9,10,9,1,2,0,5,3,9,1,3,16,19,2,1,4,1,0,5,12,7,0,3,13,15,43,4,25,27,8,39,1,2,5,0,51,11,0,8,24,188,59,1,0.0,0.19799626533162887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390476718561983,0.0,0.0,0.056819760539557874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058423079826062686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849613358919626,0.06976431524594262,0.050933900066335885,0.0,0.07109851937343957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583323889754357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671127602604646,0.0,0.0,0.10777116809145304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550501520523368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398729399216674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055186799294807534,0.1511592196042882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876751816796533,0.0,0.04224754329645794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107120904846351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04365365115485848,0.0,0.04748581024810071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082988230932043,0.0,0.0,0.08944656114493947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847189478689815,0.0,0.0,0.11803368663309192,0.08164077979955513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577311592821727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420303974750439,0.0,0.0,0.1957154739213164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25776877846012025,0.08069722289670436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512707636276402,0.0,0.0,0.05661852752430546,0.06354677819842293,0.0,0.0,0.2783313461074352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295635512175334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399510698599058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465068622153136,0.07135487967617707,0.3973961647671281,0.13289139893862031,0.0,0.08456136969904055,0.13316385140974166,0.0,0.08716531345017302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432414978912779,0.0,0.09353215098176598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282240345189956,0.0,0.14606020833798686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652920867737944,0.05353819466095834,0.0,0.0,0.048721159681281816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088303933801738,0.08162036901664142,0.0,0.3015164533084469,0.07216405177289645,0.0,0.06894101324083769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745563412665074,0.07539472168144208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374181899680609,0.2740603931946536,0.0,0.0
parenting,buzzkill190,2020/04/04,"Teenagers suck I'm having a hard time getting my teenage daughter to understand the seriousness of this whole Covid-19 thing. She's borderline asthmatic and something like this would probably take her out. A couple weeks ago she told me it was just a bad flu and the media is sensationalizing everything. While I DO know the media can do that it's still something that everyone needs to be concerned with. If not for yourself then for people you may come into contact with. Thank GOD that her boyfriend lives almost an hour away I'm sure it would be harder to keep them apart. His mother is high risk due to autoimmune issues.
Anyone else having this issue?",6.039577594123045,7.898989909090908,5.549201101928379,79.22359963269055,67.26446280991736,8.352984389348027,29.973370064279145,8.841846274778883,2.469687970615244,533,20,92,9,9,163,92,121,0.10800000000000001,0.812,0.08,-0.3751,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,0,2,7,1,1,7,0,13,2,1,0,1,19,25,5,0,4,3,2,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,10,3,12,18,1,14,0,0,0,0,11,5,1,3,9,61,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405076630945175,0.0,0.17402153381877916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151518270600475,0.17806425126168285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327762842326346,0.0,0.1451040160619576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970121493850502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19229085729884612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451758683582925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605993050434698,0.15618761345687707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079599041439844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567808351621107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836144063612445,0.0,0.0,0.17114416232248725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627747787259576,0.0,0.15446894464048702,0.0,0.0,0.09550821773738484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490304091413238,0.0,0.15345618500676542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886008597966148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048130173078113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873706561312423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675778420892964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387856907158708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379120894164098,0.0,0.13066541264540502,0.0,0.0,0.15999876144095102,0.0,0.0,0.11545566853923885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133598978255688,0.0,0.0,0.16605993050434698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091731138876532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940061306955318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940258160883499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469051171008948,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EggsBenedictusXVI,2020/04/04,"6 year old refuses to use /l/ sounds, replaces them with /w/ Hi all!

First time posting here - my 6 year old son (nearly 7) is super smart but he's having trouble with speech patterns. He replaces Ls with Ws (reawwy instead of really, eweven instead of eleven etc).

The thing is, my wife and I know he *can* say Ls properly as he does it accurately when prompted, but no matter how many times we correct him (and he is a good sport about it) he never seems to remember.

According to some online sources, he's a little old to be making this L/W mistake, but as I said it appears to be more of an issue of forgetfulness/complacency than a literal inability to produce the sound.

He is excelling in all other areas of school and speech and is doing really well generally - we just cannot seem to help him routinely gravitate toward L instead of W no matter how many times we remind him. Is this a big deal? Do you have any tips on how to help him? 

Thanks!",3.8487006079027393,5.171258079787236,5.401398176291796,80.25500000000002,71.92553191489361,8.350151975683891,27.790273556231003,8.841846274778883,2.1692465045592697,741,27,144,14,14,251,119,188,0.106,0.78,0.114,-0.3353,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,1,1,4,11,8,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,6,4,35,22,13,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,7,10,0,1,4,1,0,1,4,2,1,2,1,6,13,6,25,19,5,20,0,0,0,0,26,7,0,4,11,93,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055647209008228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003985870119114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584667686377538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312739968625354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204230845115525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020325668739874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208100703448272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202439116443434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531277110523534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558565872103744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362017299654924,0.3147666501504058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972634562646622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4886771950130686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867165245691716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198894274001758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585032353473304,0.0,0.14766347067405533,0.12344863218236038,0.0,0.15710550883183935,0.0,0.2826391503521937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291898681918347,0.0,0.0,0.10313084314874063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27155529563371983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407268725067414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957437602038775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999317388502148
parenting,a_girlisnoone,2020/04/04,"Is there a toddler sleep regression? Does anyone have sleep advice for a toddler? My son is two years old (26 months exact) and started sleeping horribly about two-three months ago. He used to happily go down for a nap and bedtime, he would actually walk up to me and say “I’m tired” and ask to go to sleep. But now he fights it. I’ve tried not giving him one and letting him have quiet time instead but his behavior worsens and he ends up falling asleep anyway. Now bedtime has become a battle too. He’s started screaming every time he has to go to bed. And nothing has changed. He’s on the same schedule as usual of bath, story time then bed. I limit any screen time, including tv, hours before bed so he’s not too wired. I’ve tried changing his bedtime to earlier and later, with no results. He stays up an hour in his room after I put him to bed yelling at first then just playing around until he falls asleep and wakes up at 6am (thats not a problem, he’s always been an early riser since birth) no matter what. I’m just confused and want my good sleeper back 😭😂🙏🏿",2.377404470079309,4.158267547945208,3.722614756068253,88.90291276135545,76.71689497716895,5.889065128574862,25.224945926459988,6.5966054737557815,0.8941178082191783,839,30,171,7,19,275,138,219,0.131,0.8079999999999999,0.062,-0.9376,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,13,7,2,1,8,0,10,8,7,2,1,29,21,17,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,6,0,3,12,0,1,0,4,0,7,5,5,0,3,1,5,11,2,26,18,1,46,0,0,1,0,22,11,0,1,27,92,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.11787499188116216,0.0,0.0,0.11803596795641486,0.10707429691151348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050812959615307,0.0,0.0,0.08214230097773043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446016247775888,0.0,0.0,0.10752996424957084,0.11292366279592307,0.0,0.0,0.09288113835335553,0.0,0.0,0.13340462234948464,0.10278459328208768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555625910196621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570537697203113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698533655312163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177197269482377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274511171946436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587412719451935,0.2059456259863306,0.10131410387704287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23791041473145755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351740068932725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19282910223919375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590261574734492,0.0,0.12675026559118727,0.0,0.08185138558582179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558106622350307,0.0,0.12142872995560132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605817751878837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991990265358017,0.0,0.4835145768222906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099356354873246,0.12874757135147438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817377704179291,0.13883195676857168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401887699457807,0.0,0.2359913119665728,0.0,0.0,0.10432499546306437,0.1330346729364408,0.0,0.07124590327084326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580675205577074,0.0,0.0,0.07778570779846271
parenting,epsi00,2020/04/04,"Corona Quarantine - 3yr old and 1 year old - Finding Activities Hi everyone,

My sister in law is quarantined with her 2 kids and I wanted to help her out with new activities

There are so many links, right?! Too many links in fact.

Instead I've built a webpage ([https://rainydaykids.co](https://rainydaykids.co/?=reddit)) to:

* Easily see the images with the links
* Better filter Links out (currently by category)
* Add extra data to links, to filter further in the near future

It's ready to use, and people are adding links already, to help out others.

Do you think the content is helpful for you? Is there functionality that's missing? Would you share the site (if not, why/what's it missing?)

Let me know; give me a shout. I'm able to make changes/add more.

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parenting,bitch_whip_bill,2020/04/04,"How do we get our 15 week old to go to sleep on an evening? First time dad here. We are really struggling to get our little girl to sleep on an evening. We try to get her into her cot around 7ish every evening following a routine we have made. However she will fight sleep as much as possible even though she is tired and will only stay calm in her mums arms. For some reason she screams when with me at the minute and quickly becomes inconsolable.

As you can imagine this is making evenings a battle in our house and is taking its toll on my wife. Does anyone have any tips for getting her to settle better? 

On the flip side she sleeps great overnight, always has done, but is a terrible napper during the day too.",5.243333333333332,5.83005021276596,4.998014184397164,87.13333333333334,68.14893617021275,7.9687943262411345,27.723404255319142,7.793537801064563,1.4646085106382976,564,17,115,6,9,173,100,141,0.092,0.867,0.040999999999999995,-0.7619,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,7,1,0,2,12,8,2,1,8,0,13,6,5,4,0,17,22,10,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,1,2,1,18,3,21,18,2,21,0,0,0,0,21,11,0,1,7,80,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109626433091394,0.0,0.0,0.09079566815976957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335770721993596,0.0,0.0,0.11885782154900715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745827274922602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808432466407892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610697336897344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684102120365347,0.13663353933294944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4409313122749513,0.0,0.1124932483114824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356890369126706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790270417601949,0.0,0.07588039493025793,0.0,0.0,0.14720220133006331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540598936143515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381841697782929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633635926739747,0.08912317260698854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814984923406317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010290577202275,0.0,0.0,0.10154516898939718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051957649132744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553396602122383,0.13727700211240446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5344509289978387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231061981053975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958023500510566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038764758339157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117909507256356,0.0,0.0778544331192852,0.15345735542699418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064880914143857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709872899350728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dragomen747180,2020/04/04,"My 5yr old step son won't listen to me I'm really looking for advice because I'm at my wit's end with this one.

My gf then wife now, has a 5yr old that won't listen to me. Case and point we had to pull the dresser out of his room because he was going into the closet and climbing it. After I caught him the second time I had him go around the house with me and had him try and lift the refrigerator, the washer, the dryer, the TV stand etc. To give him an idea of heavy and dangerous. Because I was explaining to him why climbing and hanging from it is a bad and dangerous idea. 

Cut to just now I come out of my wife and is room to hear a thud. The booger was climbing the washer. He's also picked up this natural lying about stuff or giving me the ""I'm"" or clicking his teeth. 

Back story is her previous bf and his family were terrible to her son. There was one instance she told me about that her bf dad slammed her 5yr old into his bed because he didn't like something the kid was doing. And was always told to go to his room. Her exs parents had a little girls that my wife's son had to ask permission to play with. And with him being 5yrs old I know this is a crucial age for them as they're sponges. But I'm just lost as too why he's not listening to me at all.",3.164542124542127,3.4847712600732588,4.675183150183154,88.55731684981686,72.66300366300365,7.678388278388277,24.690476190476193,7.594959193182576,0.9567641025641024,986,26,227,11,18,332,138,273,0.084,0.888,0.027999999999999997,-0.9329,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,4,11,8,3,0,18,0,22,1,1,1,1,34,44,18,0,0,6,9,0,1,3,2,0,4,6,2,9,22,0,0,4,2,0,11,4,6,0,3,17,6,35,2,36,24,2,37,0,1,2,0,47,13,0,2,13,149,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197726022611675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982227408231677,0.10386415675531348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112045470934873,0.11669425210822774,0.0,0.0,0.09598249566783416,0.1042234174495988,0.30436793425037484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752543341450936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055764156513267,0.0,0.1392125456100594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767362581497068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23948646859064296,0.21282227483948835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068651817095068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403095402385513,0.0,0.2818238037765214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860039520105576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06098304730694441,0.1251071502848508,0.0,0.0,0.10482131701624514,0.0,0.1362609144003095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.523930134091146,0.0,0.16916890558573866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860306649322926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799969619894014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996590441844394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960961587873205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289442688602605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278629118897742,0.0,0.0,0.23855071593905305,0.0,0.08474778318652232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252697678920673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wiscalnevada,2020/04/04,Corona Virus Birthday! I am reaching out as my ten year old has been amazing during the covid 19 epidemic. She has been approaching her online school like a pro and has been a great example of how to utilize social distancing. She has been positive during a true bummer of a situation. Her birthday is in a few weeks and mentioned how sad  she is that she can't have a party. I want to make her 11Th special. Has anyone been in this situation or seen any cool ideas? I hope everyone is staying safe and healthy!,4.02568181818182,5.862240595959598,5.088775252525256,80.61982954545458,72.33333333333334,8.182323232323233,29.546717171717173,8.841846274778883,2.507635353535354,405,17,75,8,8,133,68,99,0.079,0.639,0.282,0.9736,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,7,1,16,0,0,3,1,13,20,7,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,6,2,11,8,8,14,1,8,0,1,1,0,9,3,0,2,4,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598307903420567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17066672904120836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233229334251635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690995629260972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424269648956424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27553712371944705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192453811596896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292559879150156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561213783983517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470224509345625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5487133151828639,0.0,0.24880928573439046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260157288713977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439649760562927,0.0,0.19578661801036087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571798102994971
parenting,spooookydascary,2020/04/04,"switching from co sleeping to crib? i have a 9 month old, she has slept in the bed with us ever since she was born. now she is crawling and standing and needs to be in her own crib. 

she will scream and cry and look for us. i always give in because i can’t stand to see her cry. not to mention she is cutting her first  tooth and going through the separation anxiety phase.

how can we get her to be more comfortable in her crib and let her cry it out if need be? she knows i’m a sucker and i’ll grab her every time.",0.9656756756756764,2.5634126396396404,2.5588198198198207,96.48741891891892,80.26126126126127,5.521081081081082,21.009909909909908,6.2581,-0.03889981981981983,397,11,96,3,10,130,73,111,0.163,0.807,0.031,-0.9241,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,4,0,12,3,3,1,1,17,22,9,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,10,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,2,4,19,1,14,15,2,15,0,0,2,0,18,5,0,1,7,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013762126197708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803342751603528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999241476640437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.594603063043124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632151431249799,0.15202553219261736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347919349249226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427062325169673,0.17309113096318904,0.1025462202879688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916318078220143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845085447164452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152121469047158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440226916797744,0.0,0.0,0.2675827547478027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933775254447724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437845281539014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925893618172578,0.0,0.18056680763356053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521397333768484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340857823964615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hrishidev,2020/04/04,"How to keep my toddler daughter busy with less attention during the current lockdown? My one and half year daughter is very active and wants to explore everything in my tiny apartment. This became a problem when my wife, daughter and I are in a lockdown situation. She needs someone to play with her or keep an eye on her. My wife and I take turns when one of us spends time with her while other works on household chores. Instead of playing with her toys, toddler safety crayons, balloons, balls, etc. or watching cartoon series on tv ( for the limited time period ). She wants to explore everything which we use.

During this lockdown, I wanted to utilize my free time to learn a few things related to my profession. However, I can't open a laptop when she is around as she tries to pull or push the display. So I stopped using my laptop. Sometimes I used to watch tutorials on tv but that stopped as we can't take eyes off her.

Then I started watching the tutorial videos on mobile. We are against giving mobile to her. Also If she notices that I am having a mobile in my hand, she wants it. If I deny giving she becomes cranky. So I started keeping my phone away from me. I tried learning using kindle, books, listening podcasts using Bluetooth headphones but nothing worked. Anything new grabs her attention then she wants it. She becomes cranky.

I understand that the lockdown is difficult for her as well and she needs something to keep her engaged.",4.694780986372487,7.000391764925375,4.893153796236213,80.73490914990269,71.64925373134328,6.899675535366646,32.92083062946139,7.7425588080867325,2.5721240752757955,1155,57,192,15,23,362,144,268,0.051,0.8540000000000001,0.094,0.8959,2,4,1,0,0,0,33.0,4,0,0,3,11,7,0,0,11,0,9,3,3,6,0,49,34,25,0,10,7,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,14,0,7,7,8,2,4,2,2,1,3,0,8,46,6,35,34,3,34,0,0,5,0,32,13,0,5,17,141,56,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534008788977585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781749732916827,0.09499913179124383,0.0,0.0,0.10026242093305816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23571705595894654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901563039853125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181743875344065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474184209712376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37941340765880827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825590200846024,0.0,0.10306618220392487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239608973343316,0.12149593546089325,0.0,0.0,0.14462593047117905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211201146923914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995232929249405,0.0,0.0,0.09041942253043887,0.08215455630691293,0.10554403800849817,0.0,0.15106710201556953,0.0,0.0,0.17843733146392082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047306334073086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089682126066145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866794323514169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490519940744725,0.11607546772270788,0.0,0.11109426198618837,0.1283652175323237,0.4608382445898621,0.0,0.0880511965213311,0.3147168792274597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594975942370754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537983855919174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872107470872553
parenting,cagirlgapeach,2020/04/04,How to make your Kids birthday special during Corona Virus My neighborhood has a few kids who have birthdays during this crazy time. We have organized a car parade complete with our neighborhood DJ for each child. It takes nothing and makes the kid feel so special. I wonder what my husband has up his sleeve for my 4/19 birthday?!? 😂,5.363114754098362,7.6067971147541025,4.6434098360655724,83.50118032786884,69.65573770491804,6.847213114754098,30.2327868852459,7.554174236665415,2.0430367213114757,268,11,45,3,5,80,50,61,0.044000000000000004,0.86,0.096,0.5109,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,3,0,9,9,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,5,9,2,3,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,1,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231561890813064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20406711126336696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5387986029749761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872552635658151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30344927526533244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23533643705133456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43767588322013296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FrenchReaper,2020/04/04,"3 year old cant recall yesterday events I work with this 3 year old, and when I ask her what she did today, or what she did yesterday, she typically ponders and seems clueless. She will typically answer goofily with jokes and just give a blank stare, or she will answer about what happened to others in her family.  

Just curious if this is normal and what age children should be able to trace out the day instead of just 1 event.",8.23897590361446,6.859439614457834,7.998885542168676,74.6725451807229,62.49397590361446,11.191566265060242,34.003012048192765,10.125756701596842,3.1512674698795173,340,11,65,6,4,109,57,83,0.031,0.915,0.054000000000000006,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,19,12,8,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,9,1,8,6,0,14,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,4,12,46,16,1,0.26573568388401403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484269927510606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137753234056313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505119528956267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549178820794291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349891876530605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603645491783486,0.0,0.0,0.5576897973655477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419157862737028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251886356664092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345874276428232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422501358693525
parenting,Devrij68,2020/04/04,"Birthday ideas during Covid lockdown It's my daughter's 4th birthday next week (my 34th the following day, which helps a little as she knows it's not just her), and I'm a bit stumped on ideas to make it special beyond presents. She doesn't really engage with video calls or anything, and she just misses her friends more than anything. If anyone has suggestions, I'm open to them!",5.5487671232876705,6.7391707260274005,4.9752328767123295,85.39682191780824,67.76712328767124,7.4838356164383555,31.03835616438357,7.554174236665415,1.9400926027397265,305,12,57,3,5,92,56,73,0.057,0.8240000000000001,0.11900000000000001,0.6746,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,13,8,5,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,8,3,7,8,2,9,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,2,4,32,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519598253711302,0.0,0.41237577761925776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735444470018345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25584773669814664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615891847808028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19358049277045605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794374890610825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5656989781977108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770012663646192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25112494449719586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672494136442523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664712803453014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051387361175834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009825178149482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Amberlynn585,2020/04/04,"How do I cut my sons hair? He’s in DESPERATE need of a hair cut With covid 19 closing everything.. my 3 year old son has not been able to get his hair cut. He’s actually needed one before this all started happening because I always let it go for a little bit and then take him. But now it’s BAD. To the point where I think cutting it myself would be better than what it’s at right now.

Now I have no idea what I’m doing.. do I just use my pointer and middle finger for length and cut all his hair like that?

This is probably going to come out bad but it would still be more comfortable for him and it’s not like he can go anywhere anyways lol. My boyfriend has clippers but he’s afraid of them",0.7521171171171197,2.7334530405405464,2.5296216216216223,94.50006306306308,82.7837837837838,5.568288288288289,20.001801801801804,6.742157984588678,0.1339634234234235,542,15,124,6,15,179,95,148,0.10800000000000001,0.789,0.10300000000000001,0.7155,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,8,12,5,1,3,1,14,5,5,2,2,24,27,9,0,4,6,2,5,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,0,2,0,0,4,3,8,0,1,1,5,15,4,13,21,4,21,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,0,10,79,26,0,0.18217205204420672,0.0,0.17777364416071192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158174079959966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042121082504305,0.11105039206629302,0.0,0.15501499868398722,0.0,0.0,0.16111637597831846,0.1988846986844564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569250922202182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372449385560744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517737831892988,0.0,0.3105977259999285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109414399025107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20565007269952376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186283265749346,0.0,0.17800012552603853,0.18258425446355592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701565365941788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19115892398279327,0.0,0.12344449711491802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221147239270498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964122836600649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557393707457098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894231607129564,0.0,0.14548283608373636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697071154563484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672849516486365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733816244260207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588195980013777,0.0,0.0,0.1173128287711292
parenting,thesewornoutboots,2020/04/04,"My 4YO believes everything is alive, including food I know most parents feel this way, but my son is perfect. He never had tantrums, always listened, and was always able to be reasoned with when conflicts came up. Until last week. 

It started with his dinosaur puzzle. He completed it, called me over. I did the whole “that’s so awesome” reaction and gave him a high five. Then asked him to put it away- which he never had issues with before. He got upset and refused. When I asked why, he didn’t want to hurt the dinosaurs. I thought that was sweet, told him so, but explained that the puzzle wasn’t alive and it’s meant to be taken apart and put back together. Well, he threw his head back, sobbed, shook with fear, and had a total meltdown. The things that always worked before- breathing techniques, mindfulness, and talking it out were useless. After what felt like an eternity he finally put a few pieces away but quickly reassembled it. It’s still out. 

This has transferred to everything- toys, empty boxes, socks. He got upset when I was pruning a plant because I was hurting it. And I get it, I mean, if someone asked me to put a live kitten into a toy chest and shut the lid I’d refuse to do it too. My husband and I have tried everything we can think of. 

Things came to a head last night. He refused to eat his dinner because he didn’t want to hurt his chicken. I switched it out for a grilled cheese- I mean plenty of vegans would agree with him- but he wouldn’t eat the sandwich for the same reason. 

After an hour we gave up. He went to bed without dinner. I feel terrible. 

What do I do? Is this a normal thing for kids his age? 

TLDR: 4 yo thinks everything is alive and needs to be treated as such, including food.",2.758125,5.0232607053571465,3.3603571428571435,89.67214285714287,77.36309523809524,5.985714285714287,25.380952380952376,7.04035,1.1052130952380952,1351,50,264,15,32,423,181,336,0.129,0.755,0.11699999999999999,-0.6488,1,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,2,0,0,2,12,16,1,4,18,0,27,11,4,2,4,62,57,24,0,7,6,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,24,24,7,4,13,2,0,9,7,11,1,1,25,5,29,5,36,27,6,44,0,5,0,0,40,12,1,4,23,172,53,2,0.08557686507377102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21362042148331592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24000845044904925,0.0,0.16080456350988676,0.1316066537941916,0.0,0.1043337253064526,0.0,0.14563921828767948,0.09641582190874126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738354730743032,0.1957542714148216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972571486185654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751329945165089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076438732007649,0.0,0.0,0.09629776499269076,0.08654046855678374,0.0,0.08216721071535554,0.09374527272419783,0.0,0.0,0.2069597698701197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04471037994619406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368872731897927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565310498372114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041665644636496,0.0,0.0,0.08427597395091657,0.0,0.2748354120128824,0.0,0.0,0.08932001356946427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703080701617784,0.13951313365430826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041808533620622736,0.0,0.07556593970098813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864365875659932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640823850252438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345416111168116,0.1320043079825594,0.0,0.0,0.0803080907359092,0.0838471580834204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502298132523307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441135435515011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597454020517586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725090000695825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605717455609224,0.0,0.06834179499205666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878344255226188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056039976340004,0.10966839939381952,0.0,0.06793847183998535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177236189397344,0.0,0.05810107397213466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095090448126046,0.06792693222036716,0.06864459924525182,0.0,0.07694387906965394,0.07933061128130912,0.07721981009919851,0.09554351372882668,0.0,0.0824930441135636,0.0,0.062300976989249225,0.0,0.0,0.06079134962819866,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,but-first----coffee,2020/04/04,"Naming dispute! Same shortening between a new born and a 10yo, or the two Roos. My partner is 8 months pregnant, and we are choosing a name.
 
We want the initials RST (my dads)

My partner desparately wants Rufus as the first name, and that's all fine and good, I don't mind the name, and we cant find any other R names we love or even like really. 

However, my dispute is: our first son is Reuben, who goes by Roo a lot. He is just ten, and says he wouldn't mind another Roo, but I dont think he is old enough to predict how he feels as a grumpy irritable teenager when the baby is 3-4 years old. Not to mention he can be quick to get angry anyway, as all have hot tempers in our house!

My partner and son dont think it's a problem, and I disagree!

So I'd just like some people opinions on the situation if you all wouldn't mind? 

**don't even get started on S names, we are far behind and cant find anything suitable for that either. To the point where I've suggested fobbing off the whole RST thing and just finding other names**",2.820957943925233,3.9128624392523395,4.07297897196262,89.68367406542058,74.14018691588784,6.658411214953272,26.45911214953271,6.9077264865688965,1.0171878504672898,798,28,175,7,16,262,126,214,0.09300000000000001,0.836,0.071,-0.8195,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,7,1,0,2,11,7,1,0,14,0,19,1,0,1,3,54,28,20,0,6,9,3,2,2,3,2,0,1,0,3,7,15,0,0,7,0,0,0,9,2,0,4,0,3,16,5,15,25,9,18,0,0,0,1,31,7,0,6,13,110,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325982586893188,0.1438031289384963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285444190334333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32145385233618184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170216304595687,0.0,0.18115920389753504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934204744623665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.376030116585109,0.2333022356030413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329986140687373,0.0,0.0,0.11502643063531275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824101681347275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399924314375794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165914277359076,0.12377410229204547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154165749673259,0.0,0.1094637493912247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324505574115112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878104839327474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507553010514212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964152071858492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312243506871288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785532326257968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905914251315957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415097889397672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706831785480577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911096471595248,0.1757474042130767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396574236793096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177731701757322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531117862579478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831359090297401
parenting,iareagenius,2020/04/04,"Why is it so damned difficult to find kid friendly versions of movies and songs? There were made for TV versions for literally everything (I remember seeing Dumb & Dumber & Grease) yet it's impossible to find on any streaming service. There are radio friendly versions of every current song yet impossible to find on Spotify & Amazon Music.

I'm no Ned Flanders but OMG why is this so complicated?",5.96125,8.437912625000003,6.626111111111111,68.93000000000002,68.58333333333334,9.244444444444444,35.611111111111114,9.725611199111238,4.118344444444444,327,17,49,8,6,107,52,72,0.128,0.8,0.07200000000000001,-0.5239,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,1,2,9,5,3,5,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,3,26,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608637422296879,0.0,0.1273325573989682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776141404029032,0.0,0.16828311980210028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5134137444252391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893289918453949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771751014562211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21211131165827768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920947916784846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379177467457928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jadkins0171,2020/04/04,"Kids, a messy house and anxiety I have a 2 year old, a 60 hour a week job and a messy house. Maybe it's just me, but here it is Saturday morning . I want to clean, not pick up, but clean. This is almost impossible with a child who needs so much at this age. The bad thing is, my anxiety becomes horrible when the house is like this. I try to avoid looking at the splatters on my cabinets or the tub that need to be scrubbed, I try to just play with my son and enjoy this time. I go take make breakfast and realize I notice it all. Then I get sensory over load and have to manage the immense stress of when does it get easier. I have to work these hours in order to pay my bills and create some form of retirement and savings even though bills get the most of my money. I don't have a fall back person and his dad isn't helpful. By the time I get home through the week I'm lucky to get a load of laundry or dishes done. I can't afford a cleaning lady and I'm just over worked and over whelmed. I love my son and love this time with him but I have yet to find a way to manage the balance or the stress I feel from the mess. I just want a break and being essential during the quarantine I had to not only cancel my stay at home vacation week but I also get to go into the world everyday and work. I guess I just want to vent on here because my child doesn't deserve it happening at home. I'd rather cry writing a post in the bathroom then explode in the middle of breakfast.",3.640000000000001,3.8620291538461538,4.827974358974358,88.23369230769232,71.56410256410257,8.163076923076924,26.4974358974359,8.07648339933343,1.3415251282051286,1144,34,261,15,20,379,158,312,0.11699999999999999,0.7440000000000001,0.139,0.8505,2,2,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,3,16,12,0,3,27,0,17,5,0,2,1,51,40,27,0,6,15,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,14,17,3,1,3,1,4,3,6,5,0,0,2,2,30,7,38,36,5,43,0,0,1,2,14,16,0,8,20,171,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444121557076899,0.0,0.0,0.08340853788987307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957817184831313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020013268855514,0.08708600303163079,0.06358020945167486,0.11519096991460084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145684678020066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912734857619708,0.10673494016435114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888905529640553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273712886916443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953281568080382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269541441132274,0.0,0.1185519961214282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489802370753675,0.0,0.09223199689582454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990997877809291,0.0,0.3138637064598398,0.0,0.20542864964534271,0.3610440073557118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350148943507327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095562947951568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758559021412511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18826934085849534,0.0,0.0696209476963325,0.0,0.10478319999621596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766723773407479,0.1546740075545447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874604991553525,0.10944512846138664,0.0,0.0,0.07932472209221714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910705901851341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989040782604224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116974327376376,0.0,0.0,0.23895021010374656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842049331638266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929217380264607,0.0,0.10247405528495553,0.0,0.18245421221799085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162547888193208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18455622951453088,0.0827883518065767,0.2509891016497311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277945594898909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716567214084443
parenting,rwallen,2020/04/04,"What lessons should be in books for 5-7 year olds? Im making graphic novels with my kiddo during these interesting times and it got me thinkin about what lessons I should teach in each book. 

What lessons are valuable to teach to 5-7 year olds we can make stories about in our books?",4.4941071428571435,5.710220196428577,3.7771428571428594,92.91785714285713,70.25,6.314285714285715,28.285714285714285,5.985473137389443,0.8613357142857154,225,8,48,1,4,66,40,56,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,11,8,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,9,4,1,8,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,26,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530189512618796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.341718980880164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223404374766903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6639252260065048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18446984314672102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074460387857444
parenting,yessie123,2020/04/04,"Why do my parents only support my brother? I moved out of home age 17 

My boyfriend supported me to a high extent, holidays, food, finance for 4 years. My parents had no worries at all and relied on him to sort me out financially and emotionally. 
My boyfriend at the time, took me to job interviews, courses, paid for everything , took me where ever I needed to go (almost took over the parental role).

My parents did not support me at all financially. 
However.... my brother on the other side, was treated like the only child, financially and they did a lot more for him. Food on table, roof over his head, job support, gave him a car, put money into his ISA account and did whatever they could. 

I’m now 22 and I still don’t live at home and I am now with another boyfriend. 
I am at the point where I do require help from them in the way of helping me be a mortgage guarantor to buy a house, or helping me fix my car, when I’m ill helping me buy medication (lock down corona virus). 

It is always I must see to myself, I am age 22 I am adult. 

The issue being why are they seeing to absolutely everything with my brother who is age 25. 

Are they used to me seeing to myself? 
Do they treat me different as I haven’t been around for 5 years?
Why will they still not support me?
Why will they support my brother but not me?












Abit about me:

Moved out home age 17
My boyfriend supported me for 4 years financially
I am a business women now
I am classed as successful however they will not admit 


My brother; 
Age 25 
Went to uni 
Parents bought him car
Lived in parents house since 
Food bought for him, free house, car given to him, £1000 in his ISA account, constant support",2.0655779681311586,4.339825492401219,3.613075435203097,86.91575757575758,79.790273556231,6.419489730128027,26.68702219766049,7.5764669431780325,1.5721460992907796,1293,55,258,20,33,427,152,329,0.022000000000000002,0.856,0.122,0.9814,12,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,0,9,2,11,13,0,0,13,0,28,6,1,1,4,31,54,11,0,3,6,11,0,1,0,4,2,0,3,3,3,13,3,1,1,1,10,12,7,0,0,0,15,3,58,14,44,32,5,54,0,0,3,0,41,24,0,4,18,172,61,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432769311908759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345333517464103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736188265006432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057187764247972575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942127939402158,0.0,0.0512909011671352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711776634962986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226204165599431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058109311162012164,0.0,0.0,0.11547063914422805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330400081309241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0365094200765359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592940106075885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722365116576735,0.06787373335618173,0.19331571429946834,0.0,0.0,0.22237512251019875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705050842021137,0.12749778932315156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03138471797685228,0.0,0.11345127421553475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05461507083415891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471565787153102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365552074526954,0.0,0.04763359961435063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771576004010464,0.0,0.0,0.4279895818313639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072814249372978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645795581733337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357435088691954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053140497874350566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260527103488523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5831958793223534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037459217314103815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141210500807649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548326261752985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099120744376946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955169068084856,0.23186864042454655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523945953406872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410654324544484
parenting,vacant79,2020/04/04,"Eczema, nothing is working My 17 month old has really bad Eczema and has had it since he was 2 months old. He’s a twin (fraternal) and his brother has beautiful skin (poor guy). I’m not looking for product recommendations because I’ve tried pretty much every product out there and the only thing that works is hydrocortisone. I use tide free laundry soap (have used other gentle hypoallergenic soaps) extra rinse, no fabric softener or dryer sheets. I have tired natural creams, creams specifically for eczema, creams recommended by different physicians including his dermatologist etc. I have tried different gentle and eczema soaps, no soap, bath him then lather on the moisturizer etc. I’ve tried coconut oil you name it. It is getting worse. He has had hives when eating eggs before. He gets skin irritation when he eats certain foods including peanut butter (thank goodness he just has that and nothing worse). I have allergies including food allergies and eczema myself. Has anyone had a child with bad eczema that had allergy testing done and found out that it was a food allergy causing it? I’m wondering if it’s eggs since they are in so many things. He doesn’t react to foods with egg in them, only mayonnaise or something with a lot of eggs. Before, I was told allergy testing would be inconclusive at his age. He was combination breast and formula fed and we tried different formulas but he always had the eczema. I am thinking about just trying to eliminate anything with eggs from his diet to see if it will help. I don’t think I can have him get an allergy test now with COVID-19. I’ve heard many people say their baby grew out of eczema eventually but this guy isn’t, it’s just getting worse.",5.583665594855304,7.779110543408363,5.7664231511254025,75.87721028938908,68.967845659164,9.220372990353699,29.803344051446942,9.692545771848811,3.0498233054662376,1373,54,234,33,25,435,177,311,0.059000000000000004,0.873,0.068,0.1424,3,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,3,2,9,6,0,0,8,0,33,18,3,4,1,40,51,19,0,3,10,1,2,0,0,2,2,2,1,3,16,18,13,0,4,1,2,1,6,2,0,0,14,11,21,5,22,34,5,17,0,0,5,1,29,7,0,6,9,132,37,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748890323592338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293162420072658,0.0,0.07406413403663535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502961392227091,0.05486449991330476,0.0,0.15317047015523347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245704181144043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28209939901494724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210348889845267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418941975368253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20075246665822868,0.0,0.0,0.07583072719619521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4353240236652227,0.09868275631219824,0.0,0.0,0.18808971917578626,0.0,0.0,0.07548956720397514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782326372910933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06032657107751595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557917232660248,0.0,0.0,0.07651664379104181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824961893783327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367777945343144,0.0,0.06616196574755889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271905817168792,0.0,0.1888843177072358,0.0,0.0,0.13690144294536372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062396186508479765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156458403433933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057657707824425995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715733542498328,0.0,0.0,0.07172009314631184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489014839540276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928808329879937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286192476823777,0.0,0.0,0.11958691222863932,0.11533953899108712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344427803713956,0.0,0.08600094991077953,0.0,0.3055278970001419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546599051246066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976035362801408,0.13104533310147487,0.0,0.27515976343772386,0.06393497378933734,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xtremeschemes,2020/04/04,"Is it too much to ask for 5 minutes of peace, quiet and dignity in the morning? All I want to do is take my morning constitutional. That’s all I’m asking. Especially with being home with the family for the last three weeks, I need a buffer. 

I’ve barely sat down and my 5 year old daughter bursts in. “Daddy Daddy look at all these new cars in Mario Kart, and I’ve never even SEEN this umbrella. Whaaaaaat!!!”

Yes love, I unlocked a bunch for you yesterday. Now why don’t you get in one of those little cars and go drive away for a few minutes, hmm?

Then not 30 seconds after the door closes, my two year old daughter comes in with a handful of Minnie Mouse dolls. “Watch me daddy! One, two, three Minnies! Watch me! Watch me! One. Two. THREEEEE!”

Yup, mhmm, that’s great sweetheart, here give them to me for a second. Ok now go count them off the floor as I throw them down the hall. 

BANG BANG BANG on the bathroom door. “Daddy, not nice! NOT NICE!”

Sigh. Go away and I’ll cast Frozen 2 so you can sing Into the Unknown at the top of your lungs for the 73rd time this week. 

You know what’s really unknown in this household? Sanity, serenity. Zen!

Ok I need to adjust my expectations a little bit. After all, they’re taken out of their routines of school and daycare and for them there’s no end in sight either. Take a deep breath, wipe, and chill, right?

Mid wipe -- BANG BANG BANG! 

“Hungry! I want a banana!”
“Paw Patrol eggo wjth ‘tella!”
“Daddy, hug. HUG!”
“Can I have hot chocolate?”
“There’s a fly in the house!”
“Oreos!!”

I look at my watch as I silently weep on the toilet. 7:02am. 

So if anyone sees any ads for two little kids online, don’t be alarmed. It’s my coping mechanism. I could never sell my kids, right?",0.2227328882510804,2.6232528768328467,1.8425070194047564,94.77524989080929,92.0791788856305,4.19245024021963,16.05297310788045,5.8928092327891965,-0.5337581456292502,1305,30,275,11,47,422,191,341,0.034,0.843,0.122,0.9835,0,0,0,0,0,0,70.0,0,5,5,1,9,12,0,1,21,4,11,6,3,0,6,34,34,14,0,7,5,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,10,15,0,0,2,1,1,8,8,2,1,11,3,12,31,9,45,28,9,57,1,1,9,3,19,31,0,1,18,162,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707888771157972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925387166217691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119256514858768,0.0,0.2129838250693339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374402758917165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763718913309052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904972302783282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039054962922556,0.0,0.0,0.0748636929408477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685213437254057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05921839239754021,0.10873141770310364,0.1932507318536765,0.0,0.0,0.1249639126753478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369486799988986,0.0,0.0,0.13078559232432718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229177179904698,0.09239178355556084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408061731918302,0.0,0.0,0.19036349688991333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022988199182172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332205006420026,0.1680886369782746,0.17483821246172113,0.10946987673348252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23787425900242826,0.0,0.2304177147527389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261208707528627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935930284114545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471178790399815,0.09032176000554497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044355468796218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609272479487095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428886851102775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370833085409214,0.0,0.18183799014766575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227676483225984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598168703817865
parenting,Imnotevilbydesign,2020/04/04,"My son kicked me by accident in his sleep ... A hard kick right in my side, jolted me awake and I got extremely nauseous and dizzy, thought I was going to faint. Ugh. 

It’s hard because he hates being alone and since this quarantine he refuses to sleep in his own bed. I can’t just drop him off with a relative like I used to. I’d do anything for a good night sleep. I don’t know what to do.",0.20520749665328,2.243410216867474,2.0813654618473905,96.56601070950472,85.3855421686747,6.098527443105756,20.065595716198125,7.3871296695380915,0.4023772423025438,300,9,72,5,9,99,59,83,0.21,0.727,0.063,-0.8578,0,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,3,0,6,4,3,1,0,9,12,3,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,2,12,2,11,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,2,40,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22495851684842386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17874092384226226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240594152896015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344241079078293,0.1821809592186252,0.1737184044448718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891454146692128,0.21444462856985946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936999787083664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611522289123858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383185465771148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854915883901516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967393495927358,0.0,0.6520845521313878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172436233894462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759508317821125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsthecurtains,2020/04/04,What age would you let your son use reddit? DS is 14 nearly 15 and thinks it’s fine for him to use Reddit on his phone since his friends do. I think it’s inappropriate considering what he could come across. What age would you consider okay?,3.311875000000001,5.130496437500003,3.84,88.905,74.20833333333334,7.300000000000002,20.333333333333336,8.07648339933343,0.5603583333333333,191,4,42,3,4,60,38,48,0.0,0.8540000000000001,0.146,0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,2,0,9,11,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,5,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,2,24,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677451724060428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481656501818364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24013989491555016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178360095173693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571147300181329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3983236921569597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5368999034281514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44159730549461,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brettfish,2020/04/04,Erik [with a K] has a big announcement for children A brand new channel is starting on monday with stories for young children being read out by fun characters. In this video Erik [with a K] shares the big announcement!,8.940750000000003,8.150187575,7.845000000000002,74.44000000000005,60.75,11.0,40.0,10.125756701596842,4.06175,173,8,30,3,2,53,29,40,0.0,0.8540000000000001,0.146,0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,4,18,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6190161261223707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6411054521602647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536549733121372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,novadako,2020/04/04,"A 17 yo w/o respect she is spoiled and has no respect for anyone.  it is due to the fact that he had a difficult childhood and the situation in the house, although it has improved, is still not very peaceful.  my mother never knew how to educate her children and above all she lacks discipline.  I'm the  older brother, same mother. Her father divorced with my mother long ago, but thats good. I don't want to take anyone's place, but I think I have more common sense than my mother and I think that smoking weed in the house and breaking the doors, simply because he doesn't give a damn, must have consequences. I know why she does it, but she deserves some discipline, thus i thought that she has to repair what she broke. But again she dont give a f**k about anything, and idk if take her stuff, like the pc, the phone and most important the guitar until she repairs it, woul make sense. Im scared to take away her guitar, idk if that could be good.
Thanx in advance",3.653368237347294,5.241068821989528,4.017884816753927,88.93579755671905,72.82198952879581,6.5593019197207685,25.82233856893543,7.0316486544052195,1.0413955322862125,759,25,153,7,15,237,114,191,0.08800000000000001,0.7979999999999999,0.114,0.8059,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,0,0,0,1,4,9,1,1,13,0,15,0,0,3,4,35,28,16,0,6,7,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,11,8,0,2,5,2,0,1,6,4,0,0,3,0,21,5,14,22,6,17,0,1,0,0,25,5,1,4,11,100,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512228460815213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894479983888874,0.0,0.13472239559695276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381437580509547,0.0,0.0,0.09979832961920647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130712038651946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326693001051696,0.0,0.1918711941249543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140981271974354,0.0,0.27463050688653423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778071736878114,0.0,0.0,0.1768388497817406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997274787364512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998222639728818,0.0,0.0,0.14488144026184605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928014151763847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126266069772781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104593348315922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390593705396506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840210168953625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074194299786382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741297634051493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692769011796471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098022099636137,0.0,0.1299703616754248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508091771355593,0.09656256029568587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772611710694342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HanPolio,2020/04/04,"Almost 4 year old girl who was potty trained started peeing everywhere but the toilet. So I have a daughter and she has been using the toilet for months now with 0 problems other than wiping or flushing. 
We usually ask her if she has wiped/flushed and see answers us honestly so we make her go back in to do those things. 

Very recently she has been starting to pee around the house. We have super thick carpet and you normally won't notice it but you feel it when you step on it. We have caught her a couple of times either when she gets out of the bath or right before bed. She pulls down her paths squats and pees, she gets it on her pants etc and doesn't even seem to care unless we catch her. She's very stubborn and refuses to listen when we try and explain what she is doing wrong but why now after all this time has she decided to do this?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you",4.097576923076922,5.2877483388888935,4.6255555555555565,86.56115384615386,71.16666666666667,7.316239316239318,24.401709401709404,7.61054688173877,1.0531324786324787,711,19,144,8,13,226,121,180,0.059000000000000004,0.8270000000000001,0.114,0.9154,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,7,4,0,1,10,8,1,0,6,0,18,3,3,2,1,38,34,19,0,4,8,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,11,16,0,2,5,1,0,5,2,3,0,0,4,4,27,5,18,27,3,29,0,0,1,0,33,8,0,5,16,105,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622828627219091,0.0,0.0,0.16629632618337276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293411647331952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783858453423673,0.15525416180204252,0.0,0.0,0.1276985082243575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131436654701304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693206649350784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18375463326710745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852132962039396,0.1096884668320708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397059280163792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353070400837728,0.0,0.0943820947935076,0.0,0.0,0.18309409344161148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916238772393273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085382110915618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255645405910105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271452388491955,0.0,0.18907317137036184,0.1742637969342995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890771794345476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397528322355787,0.0,0.0,0.14182390449672572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323372517090565,0.15118499084454035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350921120073799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289605623881,0.0,0.0,0.1103303315043458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19367491414647536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275144924020696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19976321578506556,0.14343220299974818,0.18290397358685104,0.27405227847480856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985343477323532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179722215657296,0.18157279598894036,0.0,0.10694441329142694
parenting,sickflutesolo,2020/04/04,"WWYD sleep deprivation, unhelpful partner Hi there, I'm writing this because my baby is coming up to 12 month old and the amount of times my partner has gotten up for my baby through the night can be counted on one hand, and the amount of times they've gotten up and taken the baby downstairs so I can catch up on sleep can be counted on one finger. 

I'm not a good napper, and I can't nap unless my eyes are shutting, but I'm so sleep deprived I feel wired, and alert, and anxious. 

Our baby is EBF, is weaning onto solids but has some allergies so it's been a slow process. I don't get along with a breast pump so I can't express milk and we do not use formula. 

I've asked my partner just to get up at least once a week and take our son downstairs before my son wakes up and in turn wakes me up. We go to sleep late any way, because that's just how our day falls, so it would mean once a week my partner got less than adequate sleep. 

I am getting less than adequate sleep every night. 

There are some nights where I get to lay in bed for 12 hours but for some reason or other whether baby related or not I am awake every half an hour or so. My partner has said he'd rather have the opportunity to have 12 hours of broken sleep than less than 7 hours sleep.

He's flat out refused to wake up if it means he gets less than 7 hours. 

We came to bed at 12am but it took us all a long time to get to sleep. Our son is going through some regression which is normal, and understandable, and by the time we managed to get in bed it was about 2. 

My partner said he'd get up at 7 with DS, so I reminded him to set his alarm for 7, so I could have the bed to myself for once, get comfy and catch up on sleep. He said no, he refused to get up that early when wed gone to bed so late. I said no that won't do, and reminded him he promised, he said whatever and went to sleep. 

This morning our son woke up around 6 ish, and then quarter past, and then half past, and even though I kept getting him down he woke back up. We got a good stretch between 7-8, but my partner didn't wake up and refused to take him downstairs till 10am. 

 By which point I'm wide awake, sleep deprived AGAIN for God knows how many nights in a row, but can't for love nor money get back to sleep. 

I was cross with my partner when he got up and told him I felt like he was putting his need for long stretches of sleep over my need for uninterrupted sleep which I never get the luxury of. 

He told me if I was so exhausted I'd be able to just go back to sleep, but he doesn't understand that's not the case. I've been laid in bed for an hour wide awake and crying because I feel disrespected but I also feel like shit for asking him to sacrifice sleep. 

I told him I can't sleep so he told me to take a sedative which I can't do as I am breastfeeding. 

Is he being selfish or am I? What do your partner's/dad's of your babies do to help you?",3.970509355509354,3.627362166666668,4.943066528066527,89.66139293139294,70.76282051282051,8.027997227997227,26.8007623007623,7.329194593529364,1.039597072072071,2248,62,537,20,37,738,241,624,0.106,0.8490000000000001,0.045,-0.991,0,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,11,3,0,1,31,14,1,1,20,0,49,30,27,4,2,86,111,58,0,8,24,4,6,2,8,2,1,5,6,8,17,33,1,4,10,1,1,13,17,7,0,5,30,12,64,7,89,72,12,91,1,3,1,2,70,39,1,10,39,326,81,1,0.04212974923304187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033691145240604424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02864967416912795,0.0,0.0,0.04759462487698349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03750440884293451,0.07877125686958228,0.0,0.0,0.09718552993795812,0.0,0.0770457122948024,0.0,0.03584931359466663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818520962934262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03629104854132869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03363717663368842,0.0,0.046277551271877236,0.027170202948117464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027826302033296075,0.0,0.07099226154004552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390620120866125,0.030097501270007043,0.04045116609065215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861437167288639,0.0,0.0718299221087693,0.07067286964852343,0.10108502726249843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02823868285390808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24893589961691925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023153408390353025,0.0,0.09504838435516527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04116493483886437,0.0,0.0,0.07456700465069732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03802374353804945,0.0,0.0,0.04271295319669019,0.0,0.0917832953479705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03362756389656107,0.0,0.0,0.06247735046437272,0.032493059825178014,0.0,0.0,0.15814366283091222,0.04127820925565088,0.0,0.0,0.0442080848334458,0.1346004239007536,0.05709641681357834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043522544685862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039826230563604716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042352034294025516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04331639891139336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20037519568060985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04324558216695313,0.0,0.0,0.7588831470136299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950289849337911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139226471704332,0.0,0.0982647823050216,0.0,0.0,0.16102712329164506,0.046807701552418236,0.0,0.04582506930351269,0.0,0.08771710947400717,0.050676901028144206,0.03638657661322221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03344063396277664,0.06758788721489391,0.0,0.0,0.039054699618925874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02992776509359605,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myexplosivethoughts,2020/04/04,"Daughter (10months) may have a milk allergy I always suspected my daughter to be sensitive to cows milk. When she was first born, I had her switched from Gerber Good Start to Gerber Gentle. She was still super fussy and colicky. I would have to take extra measures to help her release built up gas. She has always had a lot of spit up, occasional projectile vomiting, and reflux. However, her doctor didn’t want to change the formula since she was gaining weight. 

She is now 10 months old. A few weeks ago, she developed a really bad eczema rash all down her back and neck. I freaked out and switched all her products to no fragrance and hypoallergenic. I bought her aquaphor and Eucerin eczema cream to help with the rash. It did help significantly but there is still somewhat of the rash on her back. 

While she developed this rash, she was having very solid poops. I thought maybe her poop was just hardening as she’s growing, but these poops would make her make weird sounds when she pooped. Like a gasping sound. And when I would squish her poop with her diaper, they were super hard, claylike. And in very small amounts. 

About a week ago, her poop has switched from from that to diarrhea. Sometimes 8-10 poops a day. Very yellow and runny with sometimes a light green color. I spoke with her doctor her symptoms and she thought she could have a stomach virus. My daughter has not had any other symptoms such as fever or fatigue. Usually when she’s sick, she’s super lethargic and cranky which she hasn’t been. She’s only been fussy when she is pooping since I’m guessing her diarrhea is maybe causing stomach cramps. 

I looked up the symptoms eczema rash and diarrhea in infants and it came up with Cows Milk Protein Allergy. I thought this would make sense but not sure if this would have developed at this age. Or I don’t know if she’s always had it and it got worse?

I’m obviously not a doctor, and I’m not expecting medical advice, but have any of you experienced this with your child? I still plan on talking to her doctor when their office opens on Monday. Hopefully they can suggest if I should switch to Nutramigen.",4.5892310606060605,6.674114012500002,4.359272727272728,85.3979696969697,71.375,7.548484848484849,28.37121212121212,8.296473431620573,1.9739416666666656,1695,65,317,27,33,516,195,400,0.10400000000000001,0.807,0.08900000000000001,-0.7477,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,2,3,6,16,11,0,0,14,0,39,34,17,4,4,65,59,33,0,13,14,3,2,1,0,7,13,3,0,2,13,24,4,0,5,0,1,2,8,4,0,1,21,12,54,7,38,29,7,42,0,1,5,0,50,14,0,10,27,210,67,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910464666130529,0.165182470524069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325793626480586,0.0,0.0,0.12672012426330648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432868236433444,0.07779461417261302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656379049614907,0.0,0.0957131691134669,0.09856347736059896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439015148522944,0.0,0.0,0.06008814399632492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814614010015078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925193943658608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781481385358627,0.07451805059657933,0.0,0.10263931185677456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346368881412805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18735340823537133,0.0,0.0,0.0925406833488768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05120481948632795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551906617923141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824089934766709,0.0,0.0,0.07921138643071618,0.0,0.0,0.18657882699246106,0.0,0.18720731992985395,0.0,0.0,0.09386085022842594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436889247830153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776819747523788,0.0,0.0,0.07086140062338588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968828151509481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414545648133132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429871066105752,0.0,0.0659475244886172,0.0,0.22322151147030997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878133786389489,0.29052372291896605,0.07005364591779596,0.0748880145374765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190415649555711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026156443462944,0.23062963522967675,0.05495517905068442,0.0,0.1494736976065651,0.11345822901144235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495008873002757,0.33093309274614463,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thelonew0lf,2020/04/04,"Covid and spring break ideas while living in California Grade school parents who are living under covid lockdown, especially in socal, what are your plans/ideas to make spring break fun for your little ones?",10.197142857142858,11.067770571428573,7.417857142857144,73.04964285714289,57.57142857142857,9.285714285714286,28.92857142857143,8.841846274778883,2.209857142857142,170,4,26,2,2,48,27,35,0.0,0.909,0.091,0.5106,1,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,14,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6416043060399108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848208180555036,0.5018684186031065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18969089235175984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925662360975333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155458236697057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876031114586283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,azgaroux,2020/04/04,"Daughter is underweight, need help. She's 3 months at the moment, and last consultation, her pedia advice us that if her weight this month is still underweight she'll recommend us a formula for our baby. We supposedly have a consultation today but due to the v-threat we can't make it (we don't have any contact with her). What should we do? We already have Enfamil Gentlease formula but we're hesitating to give it because we don't have the pedia's recommmendation.",4.98025974025974,6.968662090909093,6.208311688311692,72.94318181818186,70.13636363636364,9.574025974025977,30.75324675324676,9.957137785484203,3.331488311688311,376,16,66,10,7,126,59,88,0.038,0.917,0.045,-0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,1,0,14,15,4,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,14,0,5,13,0,8,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,1,7,45,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23432201984671644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26461649431355755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630668194890052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461750104033939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300303882137097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072755914646614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546252856809812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006305801085186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827994593868306,0.0,0.0,0.17780276959141575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149824401664808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22729482897211656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5768806321101773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920021213253872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluemoonem,2020/04/04,"5 year old refuses to sleep because she wants to keep using my mom’s phone until midnight Hey everyone, so I am having issues trying to put my sister to bed. She is obsessed with electronics and her dolls but she refuses to give it up until *she* feels she’s ready to sleep (which usually ends up her sleeping in the middle of the night). She usually has been sleeping from 11pm-1am and ends up waking up super late like at 11am-12pm. I hate having to put on my mad/stern voice on her because she ends up having her feelings hurt. Any tips on how to convince her to sleep early without starting an argument or having her end up crying? She normally sleeps with me because I am her favorite person in the family and feels the most comfortable sleeping with me. 

tldr; little sister goes to sleep at midnight because she spends time on the phone/playing with toys and rebels against sleeping early",5.024792899408286,6.834336094674562,5.329704142011835,80.00568047337279,69.71005917159763,7.566863905325444,30.159763313609467,8.139509932561175,2.3279491124260363,716,29,121,10,13,227,96,169,0.09,0.775,0.135,0.8609,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,2,8,2,1,6,0,9,10,10,2,0,22,18,10,0,2,3,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,8,0,3,3,1,1,2,1,4,0,0,1,4,24,4,34,17,1,34,0,1,0,0,25,16,0,2,17,84,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952131018175271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21342240346149569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614421676996032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31009150345588504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363572737805662,0.0,0.0,0.08251259485436027,0.0,0.13276872896436182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396380165506555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641471732742596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369938310268844,0.0,0.0,0.09135536911586496,0.0,0.07779795223983732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873418339909948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0427612342236677,0.08772497263804169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025104762851756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213808953873138,0.0857578024220747,0.0,0.0,0.09184478379681547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642513452531655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759774687252334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7883112198493427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619520077592338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103765363082335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05942503641274771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755951603589784,0.19279708356172467,0.0,0.051625647897454115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437283194796018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056364469785606476
parenting,LittleSheff,2020/04/04,"My 8 month old won't stay asleep in her cot for longer than an hour. So as a baby she doesn't like to be apart from mum and dad. Fine.

But parents need sleep to.

She's a great napper in the day, 3- 4 naps A day totalling 4 hours.

We have a structured bed time, but the routine is out the window as we are still trying methods. We try each method for a week or 2 to see what sticks. 

Getting her to sleep is not the issue it's keeping her there past 12am. She wakes and squeals the house down. So.. We leave her for a minute. Got check on her still squealing. So high pitch! We try to calm her but she has none of it. So.. We wind, we cuddle, we sing softly, we bob her up and down, when patting and rubbing her back or tummy stops calming her in the cot. We try everything we can think of. 

But it all culminates to 1 of us taking her on the sofa to fall asleep and let the other get some rest for the 5am shift when she wakes squealing and we shift change. 

What would you all do as parents in this situation. HELP!",0.8164285714285741,2.4717256082949315,2.1272142857142846,99.13653571428571,80.93548387096773,4.892995391705068,18.68410138248848,5.341637118332708,-0.6404191705069127,775,17,190,3,20,248,129,217,0.022000000000000002,0.904,0.07400000000000001,0.9174,2,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,13,1,0,0,10,5,0,0,16,0,12,7,6,0,3,36,20,21,0,2,7,4,2,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,7,20,0,2,1,2,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,3,30,5,29,15,7,29,0,0,1,1,34,12,0,3,16,124,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110529890548906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285319801033107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637055465770602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298599405994544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098203578272626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556331663817823,0.15930275351313442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684982840090542,0.15266355234923026,0.0,0.0,0.2845906952701825,0.16672417285171715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081193115656374,0.0,0.12843097817748764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299598580077067,0.0,0.1477526865724614,0.0,0.07059140994472257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533200077962187,0.0,0.0,0.1071388616587036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161987023978182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32088215720584423,0.0,0.13793380205122216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514128169479362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624148717438765,0.2891923620629315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540090663396199,0.2307827253842155,0.12080164043069455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086398745008058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925845308261659,0.0,0.0,0.08425434848828807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3924018735708548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380588159359514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590263102225942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264285089827578,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,47piecesofflair,2020/04/04,"‘Spring break’ ideas? Anyone have some fun spring break at home ideas for elementary aged kids?  We have been sheltering in place for a month now and the kids have a break from online school next week. We’ve done the normal board games and movie nights so I’m looking for something new to make it feel a bit more like a break but at this point, I’m out of ideas.",3.0416894977168925,4.722947438356165,2.5714383561643857,98.29679223744292,74.61643835616438,5.962557077625571,17.646118721461185,6.42735559955562,-0.5563497716894981,285,4,66,2,6,83,53,73,0.0,0.9359999999999999,0.064,0.5278,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,0,12,10,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,2,10,8,3,19,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,1,10,31,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809972571086526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21562374064531545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20211565672165166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998642002196539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981130985303153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6688755580408754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649071335084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165854021731057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183577508509062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15764619287417014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907510590137007,0.21004825677274697,0.18534457661843348,0.19351245775142728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063501465384308,0.0,0.18670557415915776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998850795942297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520485990966256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584261818163768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sallyli0410,2020/04/04,"Kids Learning Mandarin 
Hi Everyone, 

I’m a user experience designer working on an e-learning platform. We're currently looking for overseas Chinese parents and kids (ages 8 - 10) to interview. The topic will be about the kid’s experience of learning mandarin. The interview should take 1 hr max. For those who are interested please complete the form below. Looking forward to chatting with you soon! 

Thanks everyone in advance :) 

https://forms.gle/x6CJRszWMmY2uhYk6",6.193995433789954,10.023522999999999,5.856472602739725,63.909731735159816,86.12328767123287,7.912785388127855,41.699771689497716,8.344100000000001,5.441311415525115,381,26,44,10,12,118,60,73,0.0,0.8490000000000001,0.151,0.8805,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,9,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,10,6,1,9,0,0,2,0,10,5,0,0,4,26,3,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639365898611456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4810821151197516,0.0,0.4924851031104244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227835636653207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27951899506217426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763265372718343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927140610480103,0.0,0.0,0.23176133561171866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326415606581556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Leyendah17,2020/04/04,"Advice on dealing with relationship with grandparents I'll try not to make this too long.
About 6 months ago we were visiting my in-laws. My husband went to use the bathroom but forgot his phone, so he picked up his dad's phone which was charging on the counter to scroll the news. He accidently stumbled across some weird porn his dad had left open (like fantasies involving moms or sisters). I'm 90% sure my mother-in-law is not aware of it. 

It was disturbing enough that we decided we don't want our children visiting my in-laws without us present, but we have seen no other red flags and still want them to be in their lives. Our children are currently 3 and 1, and we live in a different state, so it has not yet become an issue, but I know we will have to deal with it in the future. There was nothing to indicate any content involving younger people, and I'm not so much worried that grandpa would do anything as much as that he would say inappropriate things or be a negative influence. My husband's family has a history of brain deterioration (Alzheimer's/dementia), and I'm afraid that even with the best intentions, as grandpa gets older he may become less guarded. My brother-in-law, who lives down the street from them and sees them much more frequently, says that there are already a lot of inappropriate jokes when they have dinner with them, and he also has two small children. 

So anyway, what would you do? Make it a general rule that the kids can't spend the night anywhere without mom and dad to spare grandma and grandpa's feeling and avoid an explanation? Put them off indefinitely when they start inviting the kids? Just don't tell them that they have sleepovers at other houses (that one seems a bit risky with how much kids love to talk about anything and everything)? Address the issue/rules now or wait until a solo visit is requested? 

Any advice is welcome, I've been going round and round in my head on this for the last 6 months and just need some outside input.",9.45183454912308,7.508482617414247,8.64085363960888,72.82019090485802,60.55672823218998,11.767251280459414,38.652956697190746,10.328600350310266,3.7816793729629055,1588,62,298,27,17,499,215,379,0.057,0.866,0.076,0.8843,3,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,9,1,10,1,20,10,0,3,20,0,30,5,2,7,1,69,51,31,0,6,14,11,3,1,0,5,0,2,1,6,21,26,1,4,4,2,1,6,11,4,0,2,9,8,31,6,39,35,12,41,0,0,5,2,63,16,0,9,19,197,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20490711788553684,0.09293898275083397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569933382751488,0.08384470369751815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425967223486332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17255740473414333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315866693136715,0.0,0.0,0.11002861507520922,0.0,0.11446385169997594,0.0,0.0,0.11704196663858875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618168552132624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954096474235518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833316388807716,0.0,0.0692492948018736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942281447909422,0.0,0.09883876499680573,0.0,0.053012905582052884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05477731262964139,0.0,0.05958596828944843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760146813379476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209773347123161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943119502152307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762020412820947,0.08546286731760955,0.0,0.0,0.113914664311467,0.0,0.0,0.05122209025017853,0.0,0.2777408137529825,0.09278474159753752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913567709451678,0.0946269260854898,0.0,0.1399700289302911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455869650722949,0.1673729468583621,0.0,0.3082932717706747,0.07774141989061918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839015902402262,0.0,0.10060183925018844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104585070849592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268649089912431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053984286081808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125645547520001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675429231859396,0.0,0.0,0.08354808505893667,0.09544717236900123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421000329468634,0.0,0.08372954724285266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881540161888462,0.0,0.0,0.08427063560995204,0.09163936444282968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965452132383172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07118303841120588,0.0,0.1024185687174454,0.0,0.1261159192027803,0.09055262778736957,0.0,0.0,0.12368088264223735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971925915298945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021341474895754,0.0,0.0,0.10647543452809108,0.0,0.22343715940923028,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NubianMamacita26,2020/04/04,"💜💖 Virtual Baby Shower 💖💜 Hello 🥰💖💜 

So, I just recently found out I am 7 months pregnant (I’m extremely small with no pregnancy symptoms whatsoever) and unfortunately for me the world is going through a global pandemic. I have been panicking since I found out about the thought of giving birth literally ALONE since hospitals are not allowing visitors of any kind, even in L&D. Plus, It’s practically impossible to have a baby shower since we cannot congregate in groups of more than 10 & I have absolutely nothing for this baby. I was hoping I could ask for you all to look through my registries & see if you could donate something, if able. I understand money is tight for everyone, as I was just laid off from my place of employment as well & under no circumstances am I trying to demand anything. This is extremely hard for me to put into words as I am usually beyond prepared for things like this but, I have to put my pride to the side and ask for help. 

I will share my links below & even if all you can offer are words of encouragement I appreciate that as well. Thank you to everyone & God Bless. 


TARGET - https://www.target.com/gift-registry/gift/0c8e321f162f448db1c79c7d6196d3fa

AMAZON - https://www.amazon.com/baby-reg/adrianna-hines-may-2020-florissant/31WY0V1GNEJ96?ref=cm_sw_sm_r_px_MOBILE_CplBQWgVAkQGD

WALMART - https://www.walmart.com/registry/baby/0b3122a1-099c-4bd7-9005-00e409926630/view

CASH APP - $QueenNikki0126 

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parenting,cpapi0408,2020/04/04,"HE WONT SHIT So my newborn son who is now 2 weeks old wont take a shit, we were breastfeeding him but my wife couldn't produce enough so he is now on formula and hes barely been pooping these last few days. Its keeping him up at night and in turn so are me and my wife but were so confused on what to do. Any advice would be appreciated",0.8177103718199632,2.6261782465753427,2.7018003913894333,94.2664383561644,81.60273972602741,5.815264187866927,21.38747553816047,6.868970318607317,0.26317769080234843,264,8,63,3,7,88,56,73,0.052000000000000005,0.835,0.113,0.5659,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,1,6,3,2,1,1,0,13,3,3,1,0,11,16,9,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,8,0,6,8,2,12,0,0,0,0,11,5,2,1,7,44,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664674514485045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854371169789037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586113100929454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817594858245444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423775270766908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222770266118952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558991136402582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861400709229258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5598204036648683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20502735786250512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29660612148108445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187337781546352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19370965421165365,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DominicZappiaWriter,2020/04/04,"I Added Music to My Son Telling a Unicorn Story Here you go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPdVp5uCjpE&t=&fbclid=IwAR1r9djgKH456Ul5ltGvJRgrnYyhzJ7Sj3yuxgraCh0NsBHKQHmJ-x5adk4

It's loosely based on Star Wars and a unicorn story I told him once.",19.784022988505743,26.55522303448276,8.931724137931036,48.24402298850578,42.793103448275865,5.2459770114942526,26.90804597701149,6.42735559955562,1.1640252873563228,224,5,22,1,3,51,25,29,0.135,0.865,0.0,-0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,12,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7744199911376415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031014753987176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805871408594829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31235692994914954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414821291698669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,soft_warm_purry,2020/04/04,"Water play table or big plastic box for water / sensory play? Shelter in place for the next several weeks in a small apartment. Trying to keep my three year old occupied in a way that is hopefully not super messy because I have a teething four month crawler. Eek. 

I do have a balcony where he can play with water and stuff but would love to keep the mess to a minimum.

Should I get one of those water tables or a giant plastic underbed box for water / sensory play? 

My kid is an absolute threenager pushing boundaries every day and he’ll probably tip the box over sigh. Water table might help prevent that. 

But box seems like it would be more open ended play and can be used for rice, beans, etc... 

Thoughts? Pros / cons? Please share your experiences! 

Also suggestions for specific water play tables are welcome 🙏🏻 

Thank you in advance lovely parents!",4.3048824593128385,6.65994064556962,4.8683905967450265,80.25974683544305,72.92405063291139,7.805424954792044,29.00723327305606,8.634040054169528,2.522477757685353,674,28,115,13,14,215,109,158,0.028999999999999998,0.687,0.284,0.9923,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,2,3,16,0,0,10,0,14,10,1,1,0,21,25,8,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,5,7,3,2,6,0,2,1,1,1,3,1,0,7,14,15,17,2,22,0,0,0,2,12,12,0,5,8,66,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040482604593268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702703193062722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322938390249512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555046363620247,0.0,0.19580913608192785,0.0,0.0,0.14792694135140996,0.0,0.0,0.17174305801650722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172909810469196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176821780783756,0.0,0.0,0.17438256309181527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121128347713578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577558693785763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169210817233242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18625409495537087,0.0,0.0,0.14013985649721533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18672276205945734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842332285393228,0.0,0.1189720980587942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949518744119863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343532055453235,0.19272527929250444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18929625878586875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598341104691918,0.0,0.19834633043345015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20098787905113305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616430639487665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938451777847968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920183010727425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163779453923998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936084276383387,0.14083322901980774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494425536384352,0.0,0.0,0.11306258030376508
parenting,FedEx_Potatoes,2020/04/04,"Nephew(6) being super gross and annoying. How to curve this? He thinks it's funny to annoy the fuck out of me by being gross, sitting on me while being gross, or just being mean spirited. He even started picking at his 4 year old brother. I'm stuck living with my sister for a year but at this point I don't want to interact with him anymore or help him with his Minecraft. What can I do to help curve his nasty attitude?",2.9827226890756293,4.65942801176471,3.999831932773109,88.01352941176474,74.76470588235293,6.739495798319329,25.084033613445378,7.447530270364453,1.1668151260504205,331,11,67,4,7,107,61,85,0.20800000000000002,0.657,0.135,-0.6301,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,7,3,0,2,0,7,1,0,2,0,14,14,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,10,1,14,9,0,11,1,0,0,1,12,5,1,2,5,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996893457581603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995923573609236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793679833065505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051005608172352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26683758494533755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291713764720711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170955255125565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856653835453231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138902575069632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19362990095049967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823834161540075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891983938128276
parenting,55746e74,2020/04/04,"Thread on sexuality and coping as a parent As a teenager who has seen many different parenting styles and the consequences of them as well as my parents', I've come to believe that parenting in the U.S. is often wrong when it approaches sexuality

My take on it: https://twitter.com/oatmilsic/status/1246264821470896128?s=19

I believe that my parents did the right thing in educating me where necessary and giving me condoms when I might have needed them. If you do that for your children and teach them how to use them, you can potentially save lots of time, money, embarassment, and overall misery and boredom

I also believe that we in the U.S. demonize understanding sexuality way too much and know that if a lot of my friends could, they would ask their parents about it. I have acquaintances who ended up raped, with STDs, or pregnant because they didn't understand pregnancy, how to use a condom, or didn't understand consent

If you don't want your kids having sex behind your back, they will probably do it anyway. They might get hurt. Do your best to keep them from getting hurt. Teaching your child about sex, consent, and how to be safe reduces hurt",9.52258021390374,9.668411730392162,8.359393939393943,68.16136363636366,59.147058823529406,11.3397504456328,37.663101604278076,10.832165505486646,4.149917647058823,939,39,153,20,11,289,120,204,0.128,0.792,0.081,-0.8609,7,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,8,10,1,14,10,1,0,8,0,19,5,0,5,0,37,35,23,0,7,5,6,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,12,11,0,2,4,0,1,2,3,5,1,0,4,1,29,5,24,25,4,16,1,3,1,5,33,8,0,10,5,121,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780891739984225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096019407289713,0.0,0.0,0.07481590803161448,0.0,0.0593117610096686,0.0,0.0,0.3288634908686631,0.10210790955731423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381333368575188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768427815568113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016553640440528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617686262455786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517194413983819,0.0,0.10166804117196172,0.09333679794543093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31247752778734017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648264615993481,0.0,0.0,0.05347225890079221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654380117185998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864457332780688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20643491962340055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152498804418103,0.07214499487812842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6482253375580213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490335253255703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309168480550504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315574449903099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464025343525663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05673505809228273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30387094042993273,0.0,0.16806790709798067,0.0,0.0,0.05738869097902417,0.07723036742224341,0.0,0.0,0.08748229689166312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911747836113988,0.10637973610376532,0.0,0.0
parenting,mandiclrk,2020/04/04,"The containment of a 4 year old It seems it’s becoming a daily occurrence that my little man asks if we can go to the playground yet. I’m scrambling to find entertaining things for him to do that are not sitting on his tablet or in front of the big screen and he doesn’t seem to have much interest. I’ve offered art projects, baking and cooking opportunities and just good ole love/quality time snuggles with momma, but it only lasts for just a few moments and it’s back to the electronics. I know I’m the parent and I’m supposed to limit these things but we’re legit stuck inside and can only do so much. (with the exception of our courtyard.) We sit outside occasionally and he makes sure to tell everyone he sees hello.  My poor little social butterfly is bored. I understand. 

I’m in school full-time and work in healthcare so I’m regularly exhausted or on my laptop. Forever working towards a better future, but I feel so terrible for my little dood. Def can’t wait til this crap is over so he can enjoy the company of kiddos his age again. 

Any parents out there feeling it hard like us? What are some things you’ve come up with to keep the little’s entertained?  Feel free to vent! #Quarantimes",2.6265141843971627,5.097250621276602,4.0959840425531935,83.13645833333334,78.95744680851064,7.320921985815603,25.11081560283688,8.344100000000001,1.8911879432624112,956,36,180,20,24,316,149,235,0.096,0.773,0.131,0.7792,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,0,5,10,14,1,0,12,0,12,4,1,1,1,40,32,19,0,1,10,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,13,15,2,4,8,4,2,3,3,4,0,0,1,6,14,11,30,31,4,30,0,0,2,0,20,14,1,6,12,110,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973540237900736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336214348135588,0.0,0.0,0.10146692050686816,0.0,0.0,0.14573632979913734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167053957875886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366941991687385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609073332918144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001645340229563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060646515972408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499430214845577,0.11067941571955447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182077076283418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728959808154253,0.0,0.0,0.0725202110882176,0.10756270776630396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446760912296183,0.5290230133929673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119096500232446,0.0,0.08808243738136218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400741011034414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846685506843592,0.0,0.0,0.2007187519755564,0.0,0.0,0.29304564820957624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335477035384642,0.10515278201737817,0.24025770795854184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451371971722376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243680735358616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533638510889155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629994460838783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769452885203186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373720704065701,0.1587282311916105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19213278652473026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497609277494336
parenting,stickaforkimdone,2020/04/04,"Nose retrieval Long story short, I'm pretty sure my toddler shoved something up his nose. I can't see it with a flashlight, but he's acting like he's trying to get something out and keeps saying 'nose'.

With coronavirus doctor visits are strongly discouraged,  or normally I'd just go to the pediatrician without question. Is there a way to get this thing out myself or should I be risking the pediatrician anyway?",8.769210526315792,8.482368552631579,8.588421052631581,67.32894736842107,60.842105263157904,10.23157894736842,37.42105263157895,9.516144504307137,3.68364210526316,334,14,53,5,4,108,59,76,0.084,0.7909999999999999,0.125,0.2846,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,4,0,5,4,3,0,1,16,11,4,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,5,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,5,5,3,9,9,0,9,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,3,2,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26868191595131913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742929169602389,0.0,0.14918593362290056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333238351816571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824521570194145,0.0,0.0,0.23230600590306105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571962215172967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26705890098711044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940623117963397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20875212318720385,0.0,0.0,0.20918010447318944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041737222404941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474050245390691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439466191560082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822162412305814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836186587216612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253042556628566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,embaressedaboutmyart,2020/04/04,"Mental health and lost playmates. I am in hold and shelter with my kids and wife (Canada). This morning my 4 year old son asked to speak to some of his daycare friends, and he was obviously missing them. We live out in the country and quickly drop off and pick-up our kids, so we don’t really socialize with many of the parents, and don’t have any contact information. 

He is four, so he is not great at having conversations on the phone, but I really feel like he is missing playing with other kids his age. We phoned our only friend with a kid his age, and he just wanted to connect with, let’s say, Billy. But Billy just wanted to jump around and play with his toys, and not talk. My son said the saddest thing, “Billy, you are my last and only friend.” Damn, broke my heart. 

He plays with his sister, six, but being a big sister, she can be a bit of a jerk at times. He has been a bit more emotional and frustrated than usual.  I am unsure how to deal with this. I wonder if there is a way for kids this age to contact with each other. Moderated by parents of course. Any ideas?",3.43157258064516,4.588686336405536,4.49015841013825,87.02666618663595,72.7327188940092,7.083986175115207,24.161578341013822,7.413659706084162,0.9327882488479268,833,23,175,9,16,272,128,217,0.138,0.7609999999999999,0.102,-0.8241,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,1,1,1,8,15,3,0,10,0,18,2,1,1,1,45,27,19,0,3,8,7,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,5,6,27,0,1,4,4,0,1,4,7,0,2,4,4,22,8,30,20,5,21,0,4,0,0,48,9,1,3,10,116,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933199737437127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046969890259527,0.1370140535875895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32001167783838225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109718674097275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16486055961312765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410526821545027,0.10470267495385607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33969626673415343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158319776552385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578669685118068,0.0,0.17367460700198328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654486877257773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946616838857005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498677897796479,0.0,0.07160193720508934,0.0,0.12941538965252825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15998783050790566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485890943155785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769826499161645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379033279621113,0.0,0.0,0.2229313553016313,0.0,0.0,0.3254756363200271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877805035848245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941236379691851,0.11655059671479788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939972248769426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779958080011625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973681206198369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546046288688881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614154142313122,0.0,0.17289007045917335,0.116332708042599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893834394314987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437999860054068
parenting,maebert420,2020/04/04,"Spanking? Hi there! I am a nanny and I have been for over 10 years. I have seen/experienced a lot with different families of all backgrounds and parenting styles. 
I’m really curious as to what parents think about spanking as a discipline method. Do you use it? 
Why or why not? Benefits? Downsides? What made you pick the discipline method you use now!?",1.6688531468531451,4.33978827692308,3.0530069930069916,83.6988111888112,97.0,7.9020979020979025,25.90909090909091,8.296473431620573,2.870846153846154,278,13,50,9,11,90,49,65,0.036000000000000004,0.897,0.067,0.4503,3,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,4,1,14,10,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,1,8,8,2,3,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,2,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26114351854479995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356296835672137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21249771169246293,0.0,0.2365077986144944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5550775965822266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16012373736075394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015723435414886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317513888889067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510802123929669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095896879086458
parenting,NovelTeach,2020/04/05,"Dreams I have been going crazy with the shelter in place with my two small boys. My husband is a truck driver and gone a week or so at a time, but last night he was home. I don’t generally sleep awesomely because my youngest still wakes a couple times a night to nurse, but last night I dreamed I couldn’t get my breath, knew I was going to die, and was worried about what would happen to my kids.   I feel like I’m going crazy from the isolation. Nothing I would normally do is available, not even the park. 

Please, I know I’m not alone, but what are you all doing to keep your sanity?",5.039428571428573,4.816705133333336,5.255714285714287,87.915,68.5,8.523809523809524,27.142857142857146,7.957251820313856,1.3150357142857136,456,12,102,5,7,144,79,120,0.13699999999999998,0.779,0.084,-0.8095,0,2,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,8,0,14,3,3,0,1,20,26,7,1,4,6,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,4,0,1,3,2,0,4,4,0,0,1,6,1,15,1,10,17,1,17,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,10,62,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785304368515769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507933157666187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907317126911098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889996190790086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385328777496345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715891782420193,0.12314606048986172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090059792756084,0.0,0.293897219361642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243228462718902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290804148755856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321647000138008,0.0,0.0,0.09473381210639677,0.2810202892209687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421462483298735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4852920071591856,0.1688927199739051,0.1654002425239488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800971261532769,0.1892180242754785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250134467328307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376603800050536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20102866210053405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838714114055775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382703164073216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505706481162678,0.0,0.2449031457780872,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nerfherderparadise,2020/04/05,"Mother did not buckle the baby into the car seat Hello I am not sure where else to post this, but i was hoping to get some advice.  I live in Nashville Tennessee and have a almost 2 year old daughter with a women i am no longer with.  This past week her mother arrived at my house to drop the baby off at around 5:45am (she works very early) and I went out to her car to get my daughter.  She was asleep and wrapped in her blanket, and I carefully tried to unbuckle her without waking her,  when I noticed she was not buckled in. The car seat straps were underneath her blanket, and my daughter was just sat in the car seat. When I said something to her mother she tried to lie and said that she has learned to unbuckle herself, which again would be impossible because the straps and buckle was entirely underneath the blanket she was wrapped in.  I do not know what to do. I do not always babysit,  but her mother works early Monday through Friday very early in the morning and takes her to other babysitters.  I can not get it out of my head that if she is capable of not buckling her in when she is bringing her to me, how many other times has she risked it taking her to her other babysitters? Again the worst part is after I said something,  she tried to lie about it because she clearly knew it was not okay. I do not want to call DCS and invite the devil into our lives,  but I am not sure what else I can do to ensure her mother never takes that kind of risk again. Any advice is appreciated.",7.056262626262631,5.9075332794612825,7.030989898989898,79.91981818181819,64.6902356902357,9.266801346801348,32.25791245791246,7.793537801064563,2.1485229629629625,1172,37,232,10,15,375,134,297,0.095,0.8340000000000001,0.071,-0.7747,0,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,2,11,10,0,2,12,1,28,3,3,1,4,45,45,17,0,4,16,8,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,15,16,0,0,3,0,0,6,13,4,0,0,15,3,47,6,42,28,3,43,1,0,0,0,41,18,0,4,17,181,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468755473734141,0.0,0.0,0.12649054824433226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510779018938793,0.0,0.0,0.08590146659311926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245097254151733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540061652304764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898614504107012,0.0,0.12879096146186775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104715925111306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19798988700785197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296400613987093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254635830798316,0.0,0.14575553077450148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154212913396507,0.06942179256977207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22308454071210765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806795988181496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742524388247567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438153785704191,0.1325508730063724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679150956294275,0.12058608050556505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209789868991371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604757892094008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449356180917668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23810892091326225,0.0,0.2849292151274948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365780902624383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572875713563918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20845332995307594,0.07450640543142532,0.0,0.10132573587775716,0.0,0.0,0.1170992715245105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176731296426485,0.0,0.1839239330915184,0.0,0.0,0.08973361784911754,0.0,0.0,0.08134549799966412
parenting,daddyhammer982,2020/04/05,"TMNT popsicle We're just sitting on our deck minding our own business when I hear the damn icecream truck driving around the neighborhood! During a global pandemic! When we have perfectly good icecream in the freezer. What the hell are they thinking? 

Anyway, what's your go to icecream truck treat?",5.780192307692308,8.831261250000004,5.031384615384617,77.51361538461539,71.11538461538461,7.236923076923077,35.4,8.238735603445708,3.393880000000001,243,13,35,4,5,73,42,52,0.12,0.7040000000000001,0.17600000000000002,0.5337,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,1,1,1,5,5,2,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,3,4,5,1,9,1,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,2,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187499556978089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673354736042878,0.3945437609521407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301676761983966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4749633539127047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014091694092618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cygnisinteranates,2020/04/05,"7m upset and said he hurt himself to stop crying I have a son and a daughter. My daughter often wakes up at night with nightmares, she has never been a good sleeper. She woke Friday night and my husband had a sleepover with her. Last night my son wanted a sleepover with daddy so that was fine. In the night my daughter came into my room with a nightmare, it was the middle of the night so I just let her climb in and fall asleep. 

So tonight at bedtime my son says he wants me to have a sleepover with him, I said no, everyone should be sleeping in their own beds, and if he has a bad dream he can come into my room. He got upset, wouldn't calm down, I explained why I wasn't having a sleepover, I've got to work tomorrow and we should all be sleeping in our own beds etc. He couldn't calm down, I lay with him rubbed his back, told him I loved him etc. I put on relaxation music that we often listen to. I lay with him for another while, I told him I'd be back in a minute that I needed to use the bathroom. I checked on him after 10 minutes and he stopped crying. He said he found a way to stop crying, by hurting himself. I asked him what he meant, he said he hit himself in the legs with his fists so that he'd stop crying. I said he shouldn't do that, he shouldn't hurt himself. I tucked him up and told him I loved him. 

I'm not sure if I should be worried or if it's the equivalent of a toddler banging their head when they're having a tantrum? I feel super guilty that I should have just had the sleepover but I'm trying to get our sleep back on track, I think everyone is going a bit crazy stuck at home. Should I be worried? He's usually a happy, funny, active, clever, affectionate little boy.",3.46220588235294,4.0001712184874,4.391081932773112,90.07469012605043,72.10924369747899,6.846358543417367,25.79936974789916,6.42735559955562,0.7696630252100842,1323,39,294,8,24,429,165,357,0.138,0.769,0.09300000000000001,-0.3765,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,2,3,12,19,1,2,22,0,32,9,7,1,3,57,64,19,0,15,8,7,2,0,0,8,0,7,5,1,9,22,0,4,5,2,1,6,8,7,0,0,21,9,57,12,38,26,6,49,0,3,0,2,65,22,0,6,20,191,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532946521206627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607524865909236,0.0,0.0,0.1877185575021798,0.06794526941417002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884113464245909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307206587580176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009791773290545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575493255029105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18151072280626568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551584336850485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04114597414516431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922420095209069,0.0,0.0,0.04251541892402585,0.0,0.04624765769266262,0.0682540351090827,0.13016708361761567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662589352637702,0.0,0.0,0.08351489466960459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162641278873893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613429519263031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633201652339611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832121163847385,0.0,0.0,0.08155978032339957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468894040574172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060339014013800624,0.06276191860154813,0.0,0.0,0.3818276790238394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180500523105295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870343940748528,0.06471318375217361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443032581788933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721347515547603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669558790475196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052142231273439664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332737650527573,0.0,0.055248725303471566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028243482992869,0.08962378276916952,0.0,0.0959949345083894,0.06459220393672037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342886773836536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059242443013493074,0.1652818470554135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Casiaa_,2020/04/05,"Help with ideas for DIY stimulating toys for an 8 month old? Lockdown started here in the UK just as my sister was due to go back to work and my nephew to go to his daycare centre, but it's now closed and my sister is working from home. He's her first kid and she's really worried that he's missing out developmentally because this centre had a lot of age appropriate developmental and stimulating toys etc. She's trying her best to find idea's for things to make for him at home because she cannot go to a toy store due to her husband being severely compromised. Can anyone here give me any ideas for toys or activies she can do with him at home?",6.551417666303166,5.868294152671759,7.2017011995637965,76.76213740458016,65.48854961832062,9.92846237731734,31.69138495092695,9.23628265651192,2.4728835332606325,518,17,106,8,7,172,85,131,0.073,0.8270000000000001,0.1,0.5818,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,3,0,19,15,7,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,8,0,0,4,4,1,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,14,1,22,12,3,17,0,1,0,0,19,5,0,2,9,67,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063564263658244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935755322761986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026088671086488,0.0,0.19067829714481446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16413070517524825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442580607906633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294550746900495,0.13303258831283762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003180979808706,0.2666548239440854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483069984983917,0.0,0.4706417106789323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5296650233343224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296451589248945,0.0,0.0,0.10439729490380888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483588826572388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411404512338346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001929623217864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668592620828427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106997499104094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390429522093234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618439833094287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277201196041951,0.15883039281182496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PippinUnderwood,2020/04/05,"4 month old baby - sleep advice Hi there. I have a 4 month old baby girl and I'm wondering if anyone has advice for how I can get her sleeping longer periods at night. I exclusively breast feed.

Her routine is currently:

Feed, then go to bed between 8 and 9pm.
I wake her at 10 or 11pm for a dream feed, she goes straight back to bed. This seems to help her tank up and she will usually then sleep for a good chunk of time. 
She usually wakes somewhere between 5am and 7am for her next feed. 
She will then usually go back to sleep for another couple hours before she wakes wanting to play.

I would like to either cut the dream feed or the early morning feed.... she's been doing this routine for quite a while now and not really starting to sleep longer on her own. I would love her to sleep longer chunks at night. 
If I don't wake her for a dream feed she will wake around 2am herself for a feed. Then she will wake for the morning at like 6 and I won't get a sleep in, lol.

I know she is doing well with sleep at night because she's still relatively young. But wondered if anyone has ideas for how she could do better and I could get more sleep in a longer chunk?

Any ideas appreciated!",2.4027327935222687,3.8469548097166033,3.5107105263157905,91.88922368421056,75.80161943319838,6.721376518218625,22.066599190283398,7.365786028017652,0.5317418623481784,926,24,210,11,20,299,118,247,0.009000000000000001,0.838,0.153,0.9840000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,9,8,1,0,11,1,20,25,16,2,0,30,33,20,0,8,8,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,2,9,8,0,6,4,0,2,3,1,1,0,1,0,30,7,32,23,3,40,0,0,0,2,24,11,0,8,29,125,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013091662634882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571827883098472,0.08591548140164841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145810338164712,0.0,0.0,0.07293908813642473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600516672437928,0.0,0.049946518938069714,0.0,0.06972023622242285,0.0,0.0,0.07246441884897048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308360839078948,0.09065898076318556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842220473686647,0.0,0.0931305444019562,0.06872278256318692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05491897729047332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068899134196635,0.0,0.0,0.184988185265847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04502906584436799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005812924332385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739490973664843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079869394217106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871382846290309,0.230669971557504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719529780892259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714744062085912,0.0,0.0,0.0524893473982076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745901038409954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7379431705894276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05799367036659326,0.0,0.06543300831646484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047776673719007436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707178729825595,0.0,0.04832709890956713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366896757176059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770896958659566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640785514203655,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rck3_0boY,2020/04/05,"I need parenting advice....... I'm a new father. My lady friend has a little one that I adopted. I have been in her life since the age of 1 1/2 and now she is 6. My lady friend and I moved together. Everything has its ups and downs but now. Everything has been on the 1000x. My baby daughter doesn't listen to me. She does the total opposite. Between my lady friend and I, I'm the disciplinarian. But for some reason or the other, she still doesn't listen to. Please Help.",0.17142510121457374,2.555737284210526,2.6621052631578976,88.99242914979756,91.94736842105264,5.449392712550608,16.781376518218618,7.010146845296331,0.2505303643724699,362,9,74,6,13,124,60,95,0.026000000000000002,0.845,0.129,0.8627,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,7,0,9,1,0,1,1,11,14,7,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,14,3,9,12,2,11,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,5,55,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176105361922674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487791865089146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002796452159141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5161502814843258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492647184827815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729285474806026,0.0,0.22319433970319533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23668471222055554,0.0,0.16512215135636274,0.0,0.2150758299894452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090081619856532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24727139764880685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444472478997832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22896287771800897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18421184634800164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17784088575030435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aikisean,2020/04/05,"Onward (spoilers) We did a family movie night and we watched Onward on Disney +. My wife and I have two boys, 5 and 3. I find that since having kids, I get weepy during these movies. I guess I got re-wired and suddenly became sensitive to notions like family,  love, loss, and other common themes.

****SPOILERS****
By the end of the movie, I had already got a little misty eyed at the level of selflessness between the two brothers in the wake of the death of their father. I've always hoped that my sons would be friends and love each other into adulthood. It's something, as an only child, I find very sad when siblings don't like or even hate one another. As the credits rolled my wife read my mind and started emphasizing being good brothers to each other. I stood up and went over to my 5 year old so I could specifically talk about how important his role as a big brother was. Quick summary, our 3 year old had a stroke ar birth and while we are VERY lucky, he does experience some physical  weakness. So, I hope even more so my oldest sticks with him.

Well, as I leaned down over my 5 year old he looked up at me and his little face just crumpled up with fear and sadness and he says in a temblimg voice, ""I don't want you to die, daddy!""

The only thing I could do before I lost composure was say, ""Daddy isn't going anywhere, buddy."" And I scooped him up before he could see me cry. But cry I did. I was so touched by his little emotions. Then my wife cried. And we just let him stay up a little later than normal and hung out with him.

Damn you, Disney.",1.835485945441345,4.032040935691319,3.120008297894408,90.5622259101753,80.15755627009645,5.684928949279121,20.964733948760504,6.828538100315305,0.42158968986619616,1205,34,248,13,31,390,182,311,0.132,0.7609999999999999,0.107,-0.8068,0,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,5,2,1,2,13,19,2,1,15,0,21,7,3,1,0,45,38,29,2,8,4,8,2,2,1,1,2,3,0,3,8,26,0,0,2,1,1,2,3,8,1,3,12,9,42,11,35,19,4,42,0,4,4,2,37,21,1,6,20,159,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639420760887476,0.0,0.08022338823011466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109749833367301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640808233935926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23093394622954844,0.0,0.3177156529347808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006153315023368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437171728208588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845171406291916,0.08539335299260266,0.0,0.0,0.12735983180166874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431047150960772,0.18177930217907814,0.10849149533165306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623957774999915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448848989826341,0.0,0.0503718438073524,0.0,0.05479376303250383,0.08086669925280614,0.15422066089862366,0.0,0.10620985373346796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518793489350368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19151984293493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858888458564842,0.0,0.0942051008238734,0.38652485327769975,0.0,0.0,0.08096268696039806,0.0,0.10524624257316012,0.0,0.17403309917649673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734970489527496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047712428040444,0.0944643269806962,0.0,0.0,0.3035078596820635,0.0,0.0653319836853826,0.1466529511823054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643914932586466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533430678439763,0.0,0.0,0.07682872504984553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975387836488236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742234828130309,0.0,0.0,0.06824165910030916,0.10276349228380267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749316442723422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405255205421198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836309774043486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910174104653754,0.05686691992844345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668691840893973,0.08937587122750565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848907059154702,0.0,0.0,0.1862605461034022
parenting,Squirrel_Peanutworth,2020/04/05,"15 month old knows the meaning of many words, but rarely tries talking. Any advice? Our 15 month old probably knows the meaning of at least 200 or more words, since he can identify all flash cards in a whole bunch of different decks, knows the names of most of his toys, and in general understands a lot of things we tell him, for example if we say to go stack his blocks, he understands.

However he doesn't seem to care much to try talking.  The extent of word like sounds he has made is basically ba, da, ma, ga.  Sometimes repeating them like ba-ba-ba.

I feel like there must be some little trick or technique out there to help spark his interest in trying words for his own, but can't find it.

Have searched the web for hours, but I just see the same old stuff, read to them, narrate to them,  point to things, ask him questions, etc.  We do this already.  

I feel like he could probably talk more if he tried, but doesn't really care to.  Any tips to help spark his interest?",5.867428977272727,5.6866289531250045,5.598522727272727,86.01238636363638,66.76041666666666,9.898484848484847,29.43371212121212,9.573946990214177,2.197879166666666,757,23,165,14,11,234,117,192,0.044000000000000004,0.794,0.162,0.9752,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,3,0,3,9,1,0,8,0,11,0,0,1,2,41,27,9,0,4,9,1,2,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,5,0,1,12,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,5,17,8,24,23,14,15,0,0,1,0,31,7,0,9,11,90,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822417522389972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222160079810605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506283707961083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353683272088056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258351745046856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884253182881422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571077359151552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351616113970035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199763174737627,0.15824045867230732,0.0,0.0,0.10122401456315726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294210117820577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846754509674912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906700244537036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825968506811456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21642853709616328,0.1110011663574934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415617413511848,0.0,0.10479486716962,0.0,0.11228369498946562,0.0,0.2412796767416716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680009670194458,0.0,0.08141441207302699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486422788877799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469508639665884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23881569237458825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406598485730913,0.0,0.11078054067591374,0.0,0.07094965107165375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807329846543474,0.0,0.0,0.08825386536440913,0.10082315942639744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161401596781983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953514561355628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678290580690424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267051339024019,0.0968008797079238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715551511681882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007694686833595,0.0,0.0,0.2305904983947633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236490562727918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,possiblefail24,2020/04/05,"I don’t really know what I’m doing I(21f) became the legal guardian of my younger sister(15f) last year.

I’ll be completely honest I don’t know what I’m doing. I’ve been taking care of her and I don’t really know what to do when she acts up or does something wrong. I don’t know what punishment is to harsh or too light. I always try my best to support her and do everything she needs. The thing is I feel like I’m failing at being a parental figure. I’ve never really had any experience dealing with kids I’ve had to take care of or anything like that.",1.5607459207459229,3.4794909487179524,3.4846775446775453,89.02370629370633,79.6837606837607,6.6477078477078475,21.747474747474747,7.686295010490155,0.8750239316239309,439,13,94,7,11,148,68,117,0.102,0.708,0.19,0.8718,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,2,10,1,0,3,0,15,0,0,0,1,14,29,6,0,1,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,6,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,2,12,7,10,24,1,7,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,3,6,55,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772396745809735,0.0,0.0,0.12073039907641392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609679657439253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18631281826208773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36201906187179855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861428578368753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830315643734829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553627326536172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955768600384815,0.17366403154502116,0.0,0.0,0.08976741038231645,0.12683157644586324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39027602456417004,0.1447153329687807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347000114947364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316405102946811,0.13692651639768855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713244225795773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412018456924472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667569522553374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014654670687028,0.0,0.0,0.2669695812747025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179468646739676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205351216116358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194107474390557,0.0,0.11432720331873515
parenting,bluescooter74,2020/04/05,"How to help high school senior deal with quarantine My son is a high school senior. Not only is he missing his friends, but the events that used to be a right of passage. He has mild adhd and I feel that he’s slipping into depression. During the lock down he rarely gets of bed and eats very little. It’s not like we can have in-depth conversations because we all know what everyone is doing all the time. We’ve tried l watching tv together (he usually leaves about 1/2 way thru), projects like LEGOs which he tolerated. He says he’s fine, do I just believe him? What should I be doing to help?",2.613975346687212,4.761146745762716,3.593636363636364,88.40444530046227,77.3050847457627,6.6637904468412925,23.43913713405239,7.686295010490155,1.082583050847458,468,15,95,7,11,150,85,118,0.096,0.8240000000000001,0.08,-0.4402,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,2,2,17,17,4,0,1,4,1,1,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,6,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,8,4,10,14,2,12,0,2,1,0,19,6,0,0,7,50,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22822988620752904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576482262342867,0.0,0.0,0.21395882277898928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957845572752832,0.16356560081155136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19432105952474488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146314515943385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960220864614798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672076214678692,0.0,0.09921795064241133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545797304743039,0.4012918417308573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436726985589216,0.0,0.0,0.2010828386168132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855567780991604,0.190335517403546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443193034206633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217852900073385,0.0,0.15102072692521573,0.0,0.3843896482010681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073560833090712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128933583131607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640176511595818,0.2091544263286688,0.15669218651842307,0.0,0.15073839713376247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,3LlamasInATrenchCoat,2020/04/05,"Help with kid being scared Woke up this morning to find my son sleeping in a closed cabinet. In the middle of the night he moved his bedding to ""hide from the sickness"". He is 13, and on the autism spectrum. Really at a loss on how to handle this, because I don't ever remember him being scared of anything. Any advice appreciated.",4.104374999999997,5.7745844375,5.442625000000002,78.83987500000002,71.8125,7.620000000000001,28.425,8.238735603445708,2.09969125,260,10,47,4,5,87,51,64,0.14400000000000002,0.7709999999999999,0.086,-0.4728,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,2,6,0,4,2,1,1,1,7,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,13,2,0,11,0,1,0,0,7,8,0,0,2,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681127949842528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186582126472748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22578448497013215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672544075104146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481848600021277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507707118849121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18390552941608104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291613636149625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25747920137758945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576950078504947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31080958701019473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5493877601759847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745697918437056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drdougfresh,2020/04/05,"How to prepare a 3 year old for an upcoming move? We are scheduled to close on our forever home on 4/15 (we were under contract early March... what lovely timing 😅).

We have a 3 month old and an almost 3 year old. This is the only house either have ever known. Our oldest is very much a creature of habit, so I have a feeling he'll have a slightly rough go of it the first few days. We've been socializing the upcoming move, but I know he doesn't really grasp it other than ""wow there's boxes everywhere!"" Haha.

Anyone have advice for preparing his little mind for this big change?",2.236089341692793,4.355337577586212,3.984796238244517,85.27619122257053,78.39655172413794,6.631974921630094,20.890282131661447,7.686295010490155,0.9169068965517241,453,12,88,7,11,152,84,116,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.9279,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,10,1,11,1,0,1,1,15,16,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,8,3,11,13,3,23,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,1,14,56,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303201538005716,0.0,0.0,0.1773113191817242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381236317941732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873179461543874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419633339884698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017111945555507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953256469245137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506167489373468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063369479682853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761694152231924,0.0,0.0,0.2043164947766544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973137502474052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17747195101869026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981375267733158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787915256920941,0.0,0.14133661443220066,0.3763975171587012,0.1301677723376851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5574195972188507,0.0,0.0,0.13467069529044473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343640263408525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18050188118575572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032516932510332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461023587723254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22805621068151294
parenting,frankinthecoil,2020/04/05,"Struggling with being a ""mother"" and connecting, will these things help? About 4 weeks ago I got temporary custody of my 10 year old niece (my first cousins daughter) and I'm struggling. 

Her dad is out of the picture and her mom has left to go to rehab. 

Obviously times are different with everything happening right now in the world. But I am having a hard time connecting with her. 

She's a smart girl, and is super well behaved. She's not a problem child at all, so its not an issue of disobedience or anything like that. 

When she's not doing school work she spends a lot of time on the computer watching Youtube, I try to get into what she's watching but its hard. She's not really into crafting, finds just casual walking is boring, likes specific board games etc. She gets along pretty well with my partner, he's a teacher so she's enjoying the extra education.

I've been thinking of ways for us to connect but I don't want to push things. So I figured I'd ask you all!

My mom suggested we redo her room. This girl LOVES math, so I was thinking maybe give her a budget and have us research some decor and let her pick what she wants, and then we paint the room together? 

I was also considering doing a bake off, she likes cooking but she really likes to do it on her own. So maybe we have bake cakes and decorate them? 

I was 10 years old 15-16 years ago, so the thing I was into (Barbies, Bratz and silly games) aren't cool anymore. 

​

Any advice would be great!",2.8802133825079035,4.902887880136988,4.024931506849317,86.20905690200212,76.0205479452055,7.232033719704952,25.27186512118019,8.139509932561175,1.5623736564805055,1159,41,231,20,26,377,173,292,0.044000000000000004,0.789,0.16699999999999998,0.9906,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,5,1,1,3,14,18,0,2,15,1,24,5,0,1,3,45,37,23,0,4,10,6,2,4,1,2,1,0,4,4,11,21,3,0,4,4,2,3,6,4,2,1,6,5,38,14,27,26,7,33,0,0,2,1,43,14,0,3,19,154,49,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719494924676133,0.1944801067298497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772490531525444,0.0,0.11885699787401582,0.13329424794960062,0.07459793770294973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087902625888859,0.0,0.0,0.09027154563250513,0.0,0.1025521839803704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461034909053153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234150638831615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858887580590464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026136102402797,0.09330848237875823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462464179479527,0.1052316628454795,0.06234351361258785,0.0,0.08773496598848479,0.12094168000652107,0.0,0.0,0.09700497574248226,0.0,0.19653449978244986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735277997199404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449549939887756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918645662812735,0.11217293954731992,0.0,0.21437027356943655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326073667738463,0.09900611207442186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22041139986014452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569523453186881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23021776365790256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160160897700698,0.0,0.104965518072338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405498213308961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936809099218064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101954195131516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22935890855831725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186340705534647,0.14057922357015418,0.0,0.0,0.19189616430305398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447727798291445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263904732986436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12940464025300774,0.08707262478365173,0.08799257140180099,0.0,0.1972621254231121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986095375897567,0.0,0.0,0.07792582710927727,0.0,0.13329424794960062,0.2119244280520968
parenting,audiocoffee,2020/04/05,Buying a desk/craft table for my 20-month-old toddler- need help! we are starting to have classroom like lessons with my toddler. there are many choices for desks and I wanted to see if this group has any wisdom in choosing desk for home learning?,4.6958695652173885,7.063135760869567,3.77326086956522,88.49293478260874,71.82608695652173,4.6000000000000005,31.06521739130435,3.1291,1.1684521739130438,199,9,34,0,4,58,40,46,0.0,0.8140000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.8356,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,8,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,7,8,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,20,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578340347279009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25413529985169586,0.0,0.3803169378099853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523284376917226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843971485621206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026327778227764,0.0,0.0,0.2811338665536496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978526531545403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021323282854821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683633151098609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22363165481735714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dinosharktopus,2020/04/05,"TV time for 3 year old during quarantine. I just want to get a pole of what everyone is considering ok TV time for their children during this time, and what other activities would be suggested to substitute. 

We’ve been doing our best to keep it at or under 2 hours a day since stay at home has been ordered. I look at all these articles that say no more than 1 hour from 2-5 year olds, and that just doesn’t even seem possible if anything needs to get done around the house (we have an 8-month old as well).",9.690533980582526,5.827462300970876,9.345703883495144,73.9220509708738,61.9126213592233,13.406796116504855,37.40048543689321,11.20814326018867,3.7140893203883487,399,12,86,8,4,130,81,103,0.022000000000000002,0.9,0.078,0.6705,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,4,1,10,0,0,0,1,14,17,5,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,8,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,2,5,3,15,12,3,18,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,3,11,54,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367419233155189,0.14792455250400804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438283182697872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071644704326682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004732965370553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975225055152801,0.0,0.0,0.15878043334638356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363161191657714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667983035523382,0.0,0.32728357979840283,0.1917353063073062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476975565031507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395390835383642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263353548727788,0.0,0.0,0.1232113022735927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230953934056212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187329203121832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321432869710458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512729047457979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374557035280878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711274258347673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906813038351455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980100610339912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940478884384265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180408222791994,0.0,0.0,0.2140132026937049
parenting,daredevilkoala,2020/04/05,"We stopped arguing about chores after making one spreadsheet Like a lot of couples, we used to bicker about chores all the time. Whether someone did chores at the right time, whether someone was doing more than the other person.

A year ago, we solved all of our arguments about chores by making one simple spreadsheet. It tracks all of our household chores, how often they should be done, and who’s doing it.

This is really a system for communicating about mutual expectations, and what needs to be done and why. If you have lots of arguments about chores, consider giving this a try.

https://www.allencheng.com/we-stopped-arguing-about-chores-after-making-one-spreadsheet/",10.846711590296493,13.08680162264151,7.236469002695419,70.15179245283021,56.35849056603774,9.453369272237195,30.23719676549865,9.606745405546679,2.820470619946092,556,16,79,9,7,152,69,106,0.09300000000000001,0.845,0.063,-0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,1,1,0,7,2,1,0,7,0,11,0,0,4,3,23,16,7,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,1,7,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,7,1,16,9,6,9,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,4,7,64,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390418834570542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21707250321418228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015261732063409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819638906135214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584499169965184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335751504688754,0.0,0.0,0.26190704431428435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546703790772333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988155659906965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129922737752698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567970581503132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753901339707966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324500482547982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640175799498936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287915013411136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331952228492715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943892403203614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702443537401766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633527158031993
parenting,Salty-Advance,2020/04/05,Little something we did for the little one My daughter likes blues clues and really likes the mail part. And since it has become warmer out we take her out to go get the mail. This morning she asked for the mail and we said there wasn't any and my husband said we should put something in there. So I decided to get an envelope and address it to the baby and I just put a coloring page in there from a coloring book I had put away. So when she goes to check the mail she has something in there. I didn't put a stamp on it or close it. Just tucked in the page had it addressed to her and from us. She got it and we told her she had mail and when she got inside she started coloring it. She enjoys it so much we will do it every day since you can find them for a dollar at the stores and also gives her some enjoyment.,2.0639471511147818,3.4209492716763066,3.2119446738232864,94.04394508670522,76.514450867052,6.561354252683734,21.027663088356725,7.1686216300943375,0.30117208918249405,636,15,148,7,14,205,86,173,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.9287,0,0,3,0,0,0,9.0,7,1,1,0,12,4,0,0,13,0,12,0,0,0,0,26,24,17,0,1,3,2,0,2,0,2,0,2,2,0,10,19,0,0,2,1,3,5,2,0,0,1,11,6,27,4,19,11,5,21,0,0,4,0,33,12,0,2,6,108,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335012208391865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638865172268878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250857931819424,0.0,0.13317021266570472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654165428513395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141113486110483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942279573921186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954858681844847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810750829053548,0.13597075753759416,0.08055460252401618,0.0,0.2267262431366548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849485840387307,0.28412317568852313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041958479539927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604728141704012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534915490597628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5699548915237738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080283044751107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26965605034539625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344990238257874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273571383884548,0.0,0.0,0.10032491692793344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065714939522078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543947492420366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049681384685858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zirkel37,2020/04/05,"How to help kids deal with feeling guilt about seeing nudity in movies? Our family watched a movie called creep 2 tonight. There was a scene where he took off all his clothes and the girl did too. Nothing happened after that. The point of the scene was for them to lose their inhibitions.

After the movie, my 12-year old brother talked to me and he said he’s feeling anxious because he was the one who chose the movie. He said he didn’t know there’ll be that nude scene. 

I want to reassure him that there’s nothing wrong with what he saw and seeing that doesn’t make him a bad person. Any tips in having this talk with him?

I come from a very conservative country where parents don’t talk about the birds and the bees with their kids. 

Also, is there a need to still talk about it tomorrow? What if he’s already forgotten about it?",4.3582113821138195,5.6970880731707325,3.986341463414637,90.82430894308945,70.70731707317074,7.173983739837397,25.861788617886177,7.492282038375204,1.0461642276422771,660,20,139,7,12,198,100,164,0.091,0.836,0.073,-0.6131,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,3,1,13,5,0,1,13,0,10,1,1,2,1,19,24,7,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,10,9,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,9,8,12,1,21,14,1,14,0,1,4,1,33,6,0,1,6,82,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958692750818707,0.12289583023091677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450596047464797,0.0,0.0,0.17361181690364516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283142819047525,0.09368036923433302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692189563290904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323795468686501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843474036660452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448734570892219,0.0,0.1554079090782795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589649356200875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300677965010396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445712742879921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192579793366666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258091539622644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394990881303288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949153855206505,0.0,0.16125867048227574,0.0,0.10413584188670492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064066197479918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418525337536846,0.0,0.0,0.14527489745831826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923649624254705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449221196979483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272703903149147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940805689878621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074134175031125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680002056350145,0.09064296303584092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802220651696895,0.0,0.09896326262984197
parenting,JSP0421,2020/04/05,"Dad keeps falling asleep while night feeding 2 month old or I am unable to wake him for a night feeding altogether. Any suggestions on what he can do to be more awake and reliable? A few times my husband has fallen asleep while night feeding our 2 month old daughter or I am unable to wake him to night feed our daughter altogether.

I am starting to feel like I cannot rely on him during overnight feeds.

What can he do to be more awake and reliable?",6.4158426966292135,6.188524741573037,6.4666067415730355,80.40395505617978,65.62921348314606,9.367191011235958,33.530337078651684,8.841846274778883,2.6198116853932585,358,14,71,5,5,114,49,89,0.053,0.917,0.03,-0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,11,9,4,0,0,6,14,6,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,10,1,9,12,3,16,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,13,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13840398791575012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290836174507033,0.14539830985432542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090238284058352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943204083853363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249034470479927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7639777496313586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4271305288113808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405605164071278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867707170421544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bradhotdog,2020/04/05,"How to help my kid make their own book (connecting the pages?) So with us staying at home my kid (5) is writing and coloring books of their own (Which is awesome!). But we’re having a hard time putting the book together without ruining it. So far she just colors on a full page of printer paper sized paper. When we’re done, all we know to do is stack the pages on top of each other and staple three spots down the spine. But sometimes it overlaps over her writing or pictures, and sometimes it makes it difficult to turn the pages properly. 

I’ve tried looking stuff up on YouTube but everyone seems to be swinging for the fences and making these incredibly detailed difficult work to make binding books with glue and stuff with 50+ pages and stuff. Really overboard for my child’s 8 page book.

Wondering if anyone has tips on how to put these together without going overboard and with still doing a good job preserving the child’s story and art.",7.3258333333333345,7.218166583333335,6.835555555555555,78.115,63.72222222222222,10.088888888888887,35.22222222222222,9.642632912329526,3.2406555555555565,755,31,139,13,10,235,114,180,0.035,0.9159999999999999,0.049,0.374,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,2,2,7,4,0,0,10,0,9,1,1,6,1,35,19,18,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,11,14,0,1,3,6,0,3,2,3,0,1,1,4,9,1,25,17,11,19,0,1,3,0,13,12,0,4,3,90,20,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257116987299887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011788946629448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017146632671826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336902340677542,0.1230391447807047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140813184207242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832523867667772,0.0,0.14714505896965996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557018654516082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061864705013994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318519062603653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3916749178750147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29493400254867663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397530444921608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354381536082024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29016629402524946,0.0,0.0,0.15635524044019733,0.11714923469934113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5037852332829972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553787922438343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959493091799096,0.15955988103105204,0.0,0.0,0.1764536403756898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828136716937624,0.15908232191916227,0.10679426515150957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lexielo0,2020/04/05,"Roblox? For an 8 year old? I am very very over the top when it comes to my daughter and electronics. She’s 8. I trust her I just don’t trust the internet (Super ironic as I ask for advice from strangers on the internet) but we’re working on it. 

Her friends are allowed to do much more than she is and while I don’t want her to be like everyone else I also don’t want her missing out especially since this is the main way she can be connected with her friends. She’s been in the house since March 13th when the world started getting crazy.

Almost all of her friends play this game roblox which I downloaded, played for a few minutes and then vetoed a couple years ago when she was younger. I hate that you can’t turn the chat off I hate that random people can just walk up and talk to you. It creeps me out. 
Almost all of her friends play it and they play it together. I’ve downloaded it for her but I still am a little weary. What’s everyone else’s thoughts on roblox for 8 year olds? Right now our rules are 

-you can’t respond to someone unless you’ve met them in real life even if your friend says they have if you haven’t you can’t
-no playing it unless you ask first 
-no playing in the bedroom or playroom 
-if I want to see what she’s doing she has to show me 

I trust her to follow the rules. She’s a good kid and she knew I was serious when I explained the conditions but as I’m sitting here watching her play I literally have no idea what’s happening. 

Curious on others thoughts. 
Also if anyone has any other recommendations for apps for 8 year olds to play together I’m all ears.",2.2377633371763963,4.056161310030397,3.3244523634839136,91.43428571428578,77.23708206686929,6.6048003353946125,23.80683366523425,7.503015589744147,0.9047427104077146,1257,41,275,17,29,404,166,329,0.083,0.721,0.196,0.9897,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,7,3,4,12,23,2,0,15,0,26,2,1,1,3,39,48,26,0,7,12,1,0,1,5,0,1,2,1,1,17,10,0,1,5,11,0,3,10,4,0,1,7,4,48,19,37,39,7,40,0,1,2,0,46,16,0,8,20,182,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657491460682872,0.09667759961221717,0.0,0.21842129803678376,0.0,0.0,0.17443497774029398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416644997177979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625925181610578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20391800783994452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394795278210362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067592363470925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221596439585933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203495667940106,0.0,0.0,0.2084283753666321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276876953145614,0.0,0.0,0.4213082780520052,0.0,0.05698081624628281,0.0,0.0,0.0914767096513348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644388172052697,0.0,0.0,0.21535388888179555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584383841198787,0.0,0.1231186360719041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703428729309161,0.053282579450905136,0.10930958634088793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017371346556484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433292147888768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561041939959852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241373534102008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313904288739776,0.0,0.08673112309404413,0.0,0.0,0.08690893827996911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804357650840819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924085640546718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719521747918665,0.0,0.08709770006584343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766055456414913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316737565756232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862901790396753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997647863970326,0.19298421121891204,0.08656898124507942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939902380745685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28093149265532363
parenting,vortexvagina,2020/04/05,"I have an 18 yo daughter who is in an abusive relationship The controlling fucker is in his 60s and is wanting money to contribute to food etc. how can I get money to my sweet daughter without his slimy hands getting anywhere near it? She refuses to leave him, they live together, she’s entirely dependent on him. Appreciate any advice.",5.281290322580643,7.4189277741935475,6.565354838709678,70.07803225806455,69.64516129032259,10.121290322580649,36.593548387096774,10.355215969177356,4.565054193548388,270,15,43,8,5,91,49,62,0.14,0.778,0.08199999999999999,-0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,3,0,5,3,1,3,0,7,8,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,10,1,9,8,1,4,0,0,0,1,12,4,1,1,0,32,12,0,0.0,0.33911116860128115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27968037375962396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946321094889504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210080189147562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191989778756621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460853699875672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990650481622383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030542781128103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25272801778129983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072816315020473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881363537417024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758955106237319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wrightiam,2020/04/05,"Overnight Bed Wetting I need some advice please!

My son is 6 and although he’s been daytime potty trained since 3, he is an incredibly heavy nighttime bed wetter. Even when he was a baby I would have to set an alarm to get up and change his diaper in the middle of the night otherwise he’d pee right through it. 

It’s slowly been getting better, and he was wearing goodnites to bed and waking up completely dry maybe half the time. A couple weeks ago I ran out and because it was in the middle of all this panic, there wasn’t a single pack of goodnites left in the area. My husband had been talking about making him wear underwear at night saying that waking up in pee a few times would push him to wake up to potty, so we bought some of the bed pads and tried it. 

It’s been a struggle. Just like with the pull ups he wakes up dry half the time, the other half he’s soaked, even through the bed pad, and doesn’t wake up until he’s ready to wake up, wet or not. It’s frustrating him, it’s frustrating me, and I’m sure it’s frustrating my poor washing machine. I personally don’t believe this is something that can be “forced”, it happens when it happens. I remember my brother being in pull ups at night time for quite a while, and I know other moms who have boys that are a similar age with the same issue.

Would it be terrible to go back to goodnites until he’s actually ready and waking up dry most nights? We’ve stopped liquids an hour before, he goes to the bathroom right before bed time, and if I wake up in the middle of the night I’ll wake him up and make him go, but last night he pee’d after being asleep for 2 hours, and some nights he’ll wet the bed even after I wake him up. Am I missing any strategies? Do I just keep going with the underwear in hopes that he eventually gets it?",5.3655732401656335,5.023590508152175,5.866024844720496,84.21789855072466,67.83152173913044,8.639958592132508,29.208592132505174,7.957251820313856,1.7023450828157354,1409,43,299,15,21,456,177,368,0.046,0.8959999999999999,0.057,0.4351,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,2,12,12,3,3,26,0,28,16,15,2,2,42,47,23,0,6,6,4,3,1,0,4,1,1,7,2,21,18,0,2,2,0,2,7,4,8,0,3,11,4,24,4,49,27,8,65,0,1,0,0,30,30,0,7,28,187,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.09305254183722338,0.0,0.0,0.09317961911407566,0.0845262878414007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484454231006047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332196485941624,0.0,0.05812740860758313,0.0,0.16227984433281564,0.10743222021190037,0.0,0.08433358267005471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087274795684104,0.0,0.09997770663442554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550828627922727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889428628973666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945686161396834,0.0,0.16257701207399858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864389144020678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947088442613807,0.1878105649638485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995256502216742,0.0,0.08475573857913428,0.0,0.0,0.0524045111692122,0.07772689896990377,0.0,0.0,0.10360328271250842,0.0,0.0,0.04658554479698072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730015548211715,0.0,0.09579672564651644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167840385906604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070438518238145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6263882236913948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187832704765896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326014420963172,0.0,0.10467094953831196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142158047800756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801841417644427,0.16286497761530838,0.0,0.07582997410838385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887848621374499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340879322530527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972089289957016,0.0,0.09968555370406038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987078223993693,0.0,0.0,0.07664258625727945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27801078976288435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473965838750348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648787881986557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321196866683008,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rennyashe,2020/04/05,"Self-soothing for sleep I think my daughter (14m) is struggling with self-soothing. We are still breastfeeding, and she nurses to sleep always. She used to fall asleep with others when I was away from home but lately, I’m always here so I always put her to sleep. During the night, she wakes several times and absolutely has to be nurses back to sleep. I have had some minor success singing her back to sleep (a couple times successfully), but I have to sing for a long time to coax her back to sleep. 

When she was an infant, she almost never cried. As a newborn, she was a perfect child, never crying, she would whine a bit when she woke up but would easily go back to sleep if she was held or rocked. I’m wondering if her not crying when she was younger is why she never developed self-soothing habits. She doesn’t take a pacifier at all either, she never needed it as an infant and now she isn’t interested beyond chewing on them. How can I encourage her to learn self-soothing at her age? I know she needs to, I can’t nurse her back to sleep forever. It breaks my heart that she will scream and cry at night if I don’t nurse her right away, but sometimes she nurses so much, I’m in a lot of pain (I’m also 12w pregnant). I don’t want to wean her but this can’t continue as it is.",2.8211486732097413,4.314760206106872,3.9131188658669593,89.22891857506364,74.80152671755725,6.822537259178481,22.018175209014906,7.447530270364453,0.6639579789167573,1002,25,214,12,21,325,134,262,0.065,0.816,0.11900000000000001,0.9368,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,1,3,17,9,0,1,10,0,24,13,11,2,6,39,39,24,0,8,11,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,4,6,7,1,1,4,3,0,3,11,4,0,0,8,1,40,5,32,27,6,38,0,1,0,0,34,10,0,8,24,151,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748662070596972,0.0,0.0,0.06188213823241804,0.1931633845696297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540535743787794,0.2975088535806841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448080297435147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562140786701619,0.34000076927189005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04397781808261399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916977177513657,0.0,0.0,0.07762018038221741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04252697283904349,0.0,0.08728995730821315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848039234668991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578717615011788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056884472180447426,0.1147551384858231,0.2387262297361812,0.0,0.0,0.14523501552106713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233961215821653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077790007489813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608357109861546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229040656985785,0.08741932441667087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6195008803302523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653250554516887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179714624924312,0.0,0.0,0.08089618126823024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818142759037629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0495830854095066,0.0,0.0,0.1353657199514522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683296598271085,0.0,0.0,0.04564174681793858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982497165305061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391718083808307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993951575604087,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wild-Reaction,2020/04/05,"104.9 fever. No medical help available due to Covid. Okay. I need advice or help or anything really at this point. 
My 14 mo old son spiked a fever 2 days ago out of no where. It got up to 104.4 the first night and he vomited a few times (I think due to his first fever and it being extremely high) we called paramedics and they showed up. They couldn’t do much since we are dealing with the pandemic. 

We
Gave Tylenol and monitored him and it shot back up again. This time we went to ER. They literally did NOTHING and placed us in a coronavirus ward ??? 

We have not traveled and haven’t left the house in over a month. The exposure for something like flu or corona is extraordinarily low. 

Yesterday it spiked again and we took him to pediatric urgent care. It was a pain in the ass to even get in and seen. They checked for pneumonia - clear. UTI -clear. Ear infection- clear. 

It is now night/ Early morning of day three. It spiked to 104.9 and dropped with Tylenol and bath. He is finally now asleep after being away for 4 hours. It’s five am no luck with doctors or anything right now. 

I was told also they will not test him for covid and the flu tests are obsolete due to being used for covid. So even if he had either, we wouldn’t be tested. (Doubt it’s that) 

He has absolutely no other symptoms other than very high fever. 

There is a TEN HOUR wait to speak with the “telephone nurse” even then, they are basically uselesss. So, my question... what does one do in the midst of a pandemic where pediatricians aren’t seeing you and ER specifically said they won’t treat him. ?!? Where do you turn? Help!!!!!! 

Is this teething ?
Roseola? 

I can’t think of anything else. I’m baffled. And feel helpless and useless as a mother.",1.7766620604943952,4.369423910179645,2.5529940119760504,92.01249577767544,83.85029940119763,6.060371564563181,21.737755258713346,7.419758726546812,0.7987742361430978,1342,44,280,22,39,419,191,334,0.094,0.833,0.073,-0.8089,2,0,1,0,0,0,60.0,8,2,7,2,16,10,0,1,16,1,29,19,4,1,3,49,47,25,0,4,8,2,1,1,0,3,15,3,1,0,16,27,0,1,4,3,1,3,12,5,2,6,11,6,28,5,37,28,3,53,0,3,2,1,39,22,1,8,28,178,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694936169346015,0.10608860074076253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570760332766523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29545794036902817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244277160490433,0.09202610044929578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220608715885888,0.0,0.12202116325494355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436667335110954,0.12338424546900507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249697604251568,0.1047322826971724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997681351690514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371414202211958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060513519816330075,0.0,0.0,0.13110297444162214,0.0,0.2035985376449244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252756676708739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571857949138153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406558136664656,0.2528957942030703,0.0,0.0,0.2357202776813272,0.1380940029802653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003205956166727,0.0,0.0,0.05846932816369493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056444286709048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552698560121857,0.0,0.08797815742084021,0.08874078682254423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22462209050649426,0.0,0.11483564853095883,0.0,0.12558343793003393,0.0,0.0810978845153522,0.0,0.1273473600571875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250395402375478,0.0,0.11313575272068235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340683604833664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666971254839597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220558613258364,0.11384255185122374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953690171349897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900006784477601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213507837884898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243927605178464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337150284987408,0.0,0.0,0.1395720854658555,0.0,0.0,0.11435883175631788,0.1329682591929076,0.0,0.13017686172560272,0.0,0.0,0.14395962817053715,0.10336460859611596,0.0,0.09874807019268922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094403804072699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,javamoe,2020/04/05,Stepson jelously and temper issues with biological son So my 20 yr old stepson moved out of the house last November. He visits (precoronavirus) about once a week for dinner or to check in. It's actually nice because we don't have the typical weekend issues of arguments or his general grumpiness to deal with. My concern is when he does visit he yells and tries to get my son (7yr old) to be quiet or insult him in some way. I have tried to reassure my son to ignore him but it makes me uneasy and I feel like I have to drop whatever I may be doing to monitor the situation when he comes over. I know some of it maybe just typical brother harassment but the stepson is really moody and was just very difficult to deal with when he was living with us. He works on home construction and electrical work but work is intermittent. He rents a townhouse with a friend and also plays a lot of online gaming with lots of insulting thrown around. I know the stepson is trying to make his own way in life but I think he's not trying very hard with his job prospects and I don't want the insults or bullying to get out of hand. What do you think I should consider after we all survive this coronavirus situation?,5.0944734042553215,6.129497817021277,6.2062101063829775,76.7271875,68.70212765957447,9.789893617021278,30.006648936170212,9.978442167317967,2.942877659574468,957,36,181,23,16,320,135,235,0.142,0.76,0.098,-0.9061,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,1,0,4,9,13,5,0,10,0,17,3,1,2,1,48,28,20,0,2,11,4,3,1,1,2,1,2,2,0,5,20,1,1,5,3,2,4,3,8,0,0,2,5,23,5,35,22,6,24,0,0,0,0,31,8,0,9,10,119,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.12380755082368475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014584930602868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129418657972805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733923172159507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928791735293568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615963450637828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102544842586733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414966331691578,0.09063648925934227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980200268517745,0.0,0.1325694611157685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365127218220696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272617068122226,0.0,0.0,0.14639181168368587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648402022082341,0.1258996430490446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394496926547621,0.10341659458822282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961256284696223,0.06198264003567532,0.0,0.1120291967650725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21572194967839556,0.0,0.0,0.16937442178941645,0.0,0.1274587211166243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348435291784369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26625902065668483,0.13511320829968593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127665125929531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852160776962545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625873077634752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445476453567449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260989125071872,0.0,0.0,0.20936331171226044,0.0748316555480834,0.2014081922483854,0.10176806304713104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27709025140437393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,secpfgjv40,2020/04/05,"Toddler terrified of the bath 2.5 year old has watched pretty much every Peppa Pig episode several times over. For some reason a few weeks ago one episode that contained a spider terrified him and now he has a fear of anything that may resemble one. This includes small bits of fabric that may have come from clothes or the carpet and if he seems this on or near him he'll become almost paralysed with fear until it's removed.

So to the title - one bath time he saw a bit of fluff floating in the bath and from that point is absolutely terrified to go anywhere near the bath or shower (keeps saying ""bit scary""). Even if we run a bath with no bubbles and ensure the water is absolutely clear he will not go in, if we try he does everything not to touch the water. If we do manage to get him in he's immediate climbing out so even attempting to get him in is probably making things worse.

We've tried a number of things like having him see us clear out the bath before filling it, trying a shared bath/shower with his brother or parent, and made a point of showing him that houze spiders do not hurt him. For the last two weeks all we've managed for a clean is to wash his hair otherwise it's just been baby wipes all over. He's so stubborn generally that this could go on for a very long time and bath times are now impossible.

Anybody else experienced this or have any tips?",7.193550420168066,6.282193691176474,7.170966386554621,78.25470588235297,64.29411764705883,9.977310924369748,32.66386554621849,9.04235418022936,2.5724277310924366,1092,36,215,15,14,350,148,272,0.095,0.8240000000000001,0.081,-0.7863,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,2,8,6,1,2,19,0,17,4,1,3,4,45,30,19,0,5,13,2,2,1,0,4,1,1,10,0,15,15,2,3,2,8,0,8,4,4,0,4,3,7,13,2,34,22,8,37,0,1,3,0,25,15,0,14,15,134,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049032976650816,0.0,0.1185027066055263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047681375374982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738561934592167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306997590634749,0.10070057049607184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38759738329500654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194140209580266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448668711451964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356213344515812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885979600766362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632792980258325,0.0,0.0997084814331353,0.0,0.10635841741385876,0.0,0.0,0.26633594951342765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365792183213754,0.0,0.20176994786638225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266878665770368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518806279146573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646475939559516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057816064061599975,0.0,0.0,0.10472920058399086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197833400155656,0.07899439597068676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699519808444099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418032360678262,0.0,0.2405753905674877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314051056053772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237434269346647,0.0,0.0,0.1203966513930353,0.1275930018702632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216755816173194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941105370763837,0.0,0.0,0.09430348145495,0.10773437408024394,0.0,0.13369310028775014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724271490559485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760253585234649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24103993543297075,0.0,0.1156032192584051,0.0,0.14235120097993462,0.0,0.0,0.09764478114467016,0.0,0.0,0.18985408976356355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060090141248515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762085532629238
parenting,tm33ks,2020/04/05,When to let kids brush their own teeth  I’ve always brushed my kids teeth but my oldest just turned 4 and I’m wondering when is a good time to allow them to brush alone? She wants to do it alone but I know it’s going to be a painful chore and then my 3 yr old is going to want to brush by herself and I can just see this taking 30 mins long.,-0.4077597402597384,1.3610437272727296,1.3429707792207817,102.57731331168831,85.75324675324677,4.36948051948052,14.819805194805195,5.148860815047168,-1.2708948051948052,265,4,69,1,8,86,52,77,0.113,0.79,0.09699999999999999,-0.29600000000000004,0,2,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,6,3,2,1,0,12,16,8,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,5,9,1,8,14,1,10,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,8,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5078878448369012,0.0,0.0,0.20401854753886134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786953828480553,0.20565457143863464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475055713861828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507244019530199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169863125859674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572867009861132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609005031910233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538547597828906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435311190844025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297283945701614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666973913930077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28924000002419703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658991721379295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,art64love,2020/04/05,"Does anyone else agree with me? I believe that babies learn a lot from their surroundings from the first three years. I know that they continue to learn as they age, but would anyone else agree that babies learn habits from older kids? Like a 3 month old would pick up screaming from 3 year old kids that SCREAM a LOT? Especially if the kids are always around the baby.",5.352,6.781193057142861,4.367142857142859,88.68785714285715,68.42857142857143,7.314285714285713,21.142857142857142,7.554174236665415,0.5120857142857136,294,5,58,3,5,86,46,70,0.10800000000000001,0.775,0.11699999999999999,-0.3269,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,3,1,1,3,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,13,4,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,3,4,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,6,1,9,2,2,12,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,3,10,34,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652940471144869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778036390089233,0.4070840851021518,0.0,0.17684204300990147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22381232981150384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738413562333197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331895847318025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897295179583552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091737256688953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705113881091973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377729775748507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585618140474751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4169028805249069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282232797964445,0.0,0.0,0.25585023821127645
parenting,Agentssb7,2020/04/05,My Teen Is Holding My WiFi Hostage. He also has Linux on his PC. So I got a new router and he got to it first. He is now using the parental controls on ME. (cutting my WiFi etc). He uses Linux witch is a problem because I cant put parental controls on his PC. Not that that matters because he removed Qustodio hidden on Windows anyhow. I don't know what to do.,0.7158999999999978,2.8378671733333363,2.855583333333332,91.287375,83.93333333333334,4.283333333333334,28.04166666666667,5.148860815047168,0.8863666666666665,278,14,57,1,8,94,50,75,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.6456,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,3,3,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,4,0,11,12,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,0,9,0,6,10,1,9,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,3,36,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676247611561009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555521938932309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4701900912762669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337701672532105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829386097790206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352879701837896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519598172356345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20244230586589174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654934207824552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005681263863672,0.0,0.21071559254848465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36207087473706295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lizzowizzo00,2020/04/05,"Which name would go with addie best? Suggestions welcome as well? Which name would go with Addie best?

I’m having twin girls soon. I already want to name one of them, Addie. Short for Addalyn. Here are a few other names I really like :

Hallie or Callie,
Gia (gee-uh),
Mickey,
Lyla (not short for Delilah just like the name Lyla),
Reggie (short for Regina),
Emica (uh- mee- kuh) and Emmy for short,
Adia (aye- dee- uh),
Rudy (short for Rudianne),
Nexxus,
Nevra,
Zada (zay-duh) and maybe Zade for short,
Xyla (zy- luh),
Xzyza (Zy-zuh)

Any other suggestions would be great. 
Or which one do you think would go with Addie?",2.4905263157894737,5.016770596491232,3.0202631578947354,90.32934210526315,79.87719298245614,5.5543859649122815,15.640350877192983,6.816661863887847,-0.1944070175438601,464,7,89,5,12,144,78,114,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.9762,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,0,1,1,2,4,7,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,20,14,5,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,3,2,0,0,4,7,12,9,3,10,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,2,3,45,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249751458148998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863830214846626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278970829211449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475913333544021,0.0,0.0,0.22476692642435056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992007532239979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048143902614136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762946007366961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306040702772352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306313919208062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024755755480272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833032318920036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5792923877850278,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,univeralotherworld,2020/04/05,"What should I do? I have three kids (7,12,18) and the general idea has been that none of the kids are allowed to have soda at dinner time. Today, my oldest (18) wanted to have soda at dinner and I told him it wouldn't be fair to the other two and I want to be equal with all of them. He argued that he is older so he should be able to. What should I do?",0.4632467532467537,1.9743792207792232,2.492207792207793,96.78688311688316,81.46753246753245,4.919480519480519,14.896103896103895,5.288315135182226,-1.039566233766234,268,3,65,1,7,90,49,77,0.065,0.917,0.018000000000000002,-0.5457,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,16,4,0,1,1,14,19,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,6,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,8,0,10,10,3,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,4,52,14,0,0.3842815817730522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338071309068801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407768064248612,0.0,0.3642540066548864,0.3671975194095512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37538726709453535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.453318466644429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MongolianBBQ,2020/04/05,"How can I tell if my toddlers are just being toddlers or if something is wrong with them (behavior) We have twin two year old boys and a 1 year old girl. I work all day and I constantly get texts from my wife essentially melting down because they don't stop crying about every little thing. I see it too, but since I work all day Im not immersed in it day in and day out with no escape. We have friends with kids that are our kids age and they don't seem to be having the same constant meltdowns that we have. My wife is literally living in hell especially with this covid stuff and I'm wondering if this is normal or if I need to think about taking my kids to a psychiatrist. They don't seem to be on the autism spectrum. One might have some ocd tendencies but it's not overly apparent. I've read all the parenting books and none of the advice seems to help (at least not with 2 year Olds maybe?) we are struggling. I'm afraid all the constant yelling my wife does is going to mess the kids up in the future too (though of course I can never tell her that)",3.43157258064516,4.588686336405536,4.163891129032258,89.36583669354839,72.7327188940092,7.268317972350231,24.161578341013822,7.645422480735847,0.9164748847926264,833,23,182,10,16,266,125,217,0.083,0.858,0.059000000000000004,-0.8036,2,0,1,0,1,0,16.0,5,0,4,2,7,6,1,2,9,0,21,0,0,1,5,45,33,16,0,6,12,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,6,10,16,0,1,5,2,0,1,9,5,0,2,0,2,22,1,26,29,8,29,1,0,1,0,24,11,1,12,17,122,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170490696347625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07301767449239895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883236592133557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157432416793394,0.30899656461093883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482157467914148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092105758155204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254286931842644,0.0,0.06258087612138152,0.0,0.06807457177219597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028699682200931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293845460163729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005250419916234,0.10576923562524712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033658988511067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270692145059463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881644487689784,0.09238285667988884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736041204443155,0.0,0.0,0.3770715211710491,0.0,0.08116702643277621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300315117328726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981388809778752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545032624369164,0.3271336644723448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908447269154606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221363031666087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014267533035727,0.0,0.12522160347963734,0.13712112972529925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006076110619256,0.0,0.2093885748946207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957748858059263,0.07675113167405584,0.11768468957939035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700909470990255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989789850763064,0.1744046786404969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096223769423768,0.0,0.23140602529019386
parenting,Money44Line,2020/04/05,"Quarantine is killing my newborns chances of rest!!! We have three kids. Oldest is about to turn 4 years old
In May, second is going to turn 2 in June, and we just had a baby on Feb 10th. Needless to say quarantine is tough. My wife is on maternity leave but I am working from home and our two boys are used to structure of daycare. During the day I spend 10 hours super busy on my computer and my wife is trying to accommodate a new born while having two young boys who just want to learn and play and live and explore. I feel like we are all failing each other. It’s only been 2.5 weeks now but I feel like it’s only getting worse. How is everyone else surviving the this??",2.9153019243530203,4.441687948905108,4.081871267418717,87.98049767750501,74.62043795620437,7.025613802256139,24.863304578633052,7.686295010490155,1.1560861313868611,527,17,111,7,11,172,94,137,0.091,0.764,0.145,0.8476,0,2,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,4,5,7,1,0,4,0,15,0,0,2,1,23,23,10,1,1,4,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,4,5,10,0,0,4,1,1,2,0,3,0,4,2,3,12,4,15,20,3,19,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,1,14,71,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883271562664854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392592185867002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606871014943193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633519103039808,0.26327133561137056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626845483103973,0.0,0.10471943258005872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848282065999322,0.0,0.1814593792626966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20385683405334307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19510516031970185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800406498559195,0.0,0.16270531052574722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795984418034444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933502956692346,0.0,0.0,0.28027667719941063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465312671186773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251007175974014,0.4008448107299168,0.3599912767936632,0.0,0.0,0.15914182604977145,0.0,0.0,0.10868155895680437,0.0,0.14780257984362924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414376698290004,0.0,0.18777709115912303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186576574930597
parenting,Towelie01,2020/04/05,Is it normal for kids to listen to music with explicit lyrics? I was shocked to find out that a friend’s niece is a big fan of Cardi B and multiple other rappers.  This girl is 9 years old and her parents don’t seem to care that she’s listening to such explicit music.  Is it normal for kids this age to listen to such music or is there cause for concern here?,5.717400000000001,4.80784550666667,6.6691666666666665,80.64375000000003,67.26666666666667,9.633333333333333,29.416666666666664,8.841846274778883,2.103066666666667,283,8,59,4,4,95,50,75,0.032,0.887,0.081,0.5514,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,2,12,12,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,7,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,2,13,11,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,2,3,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081891659769563,0.31051934579859597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762735671578163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23353665594438014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5923299843838717,0.0,0.0,0.3171864122890828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356402430985541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751795018905563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946549734541681
parenting,fatnessmonster8,2020/04/05,"I need advice. We are trying to potty train our three year old When he was two we were almost there he was using the potty and telling us when he had to go. We had a second child and everything stopped he went back to pull ups. We are trying again and it seems he would rather wear a pull up or pee in his underwear. We are using treats and a timer, he will sit on the toilet he won’t pee or poop, within 10 minutes of getting off the toilet he pees and/or poops his pants.",2.152799999999999,3.470065280000004,3.209,94.31950000000002,76.2,5.8000000000000025,18.5,5.985473137389443,-0.3666,368,6,84,2,8,118,67,100,0.02,0.98,0.0,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,7,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,6,0,11,6,6,2,0,19,18,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,9,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,6,0,10,1,10,9,0,18,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,4,7,53,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376853063556257,0.0,0.0,0.2435635690161741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870318192529956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186029035308412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707964923880458,0.0,0.13823540415307173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803548202122012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552330126934075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143096481379546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335439264438904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21259710874461746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302796401937185,0.0,0.23760413140659345,0.0,0.29258037691769223,0.4201519068551022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22548021885881736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727863506595549,0.0,0.0,0.156634626785911
parenting,Another_Autumn,2020/04/05,"What part of the routine is “bedtime”? My MIL just asked me when my toddler’s bedtime is, and that got me [over]thinking. Is bedtime when we start the routine with brushing his teeth? Is it when everything is done and I’m snuggling him to lullabies? Or is it the moment he falls asleep? 

I was thinking of it as the point he falls asleep, but that makes me feel like I am inconsistent because sometimes he falls asleep right away, and other nights it takes a while.",4.296356340288924,6.052167977528093,4.0854253611557,88.41764044943821,71.47191011235954,6.8834670947030485,29.56821829855538,7.447530270364453,1.6610532905296944,366,15,72,4,7,111,58,89,0.0,0.9520000000000001,0.048,0.6381,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,0,9,4,4,1,0,11,17,10,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,2,10,1,6,14,1,13,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,8,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550409473097475,0.0,0.2563144014256171,0.0,0.0,0.1663027203129342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791798116874915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451844446779781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794116232193046,0.1948958424839624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21819144136583807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133281407387345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18210309611302491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560141299142066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954271359459622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578940586801894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329786366701844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26981651424767417,0.0,0.1930966431285149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20511950934526474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496118459872452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,donttouchmycornchips,2020/04/06,"My nephew calls me dad, can I call him son? I guess I am part of a very dysfunctional family. I live with my wife and my nephew, I have custody of him and recently he's started calling me dad.
I know I'm not his dad, but his real dad (my brother - waste of space) wants nothing to do with him so myself and my wife are definitely taking on parental roles. 
I never wanted kids because I had a bad childhood myself, but the feeling of providing for my nephew and waking him up each morning; its incredible. I really love him as my own child.
My question to you people, if hes calling me dad, can I call him son? I'm anxious of doing the wrong thing and leaving the kid confused. 
He knows he's safe and in a stable home, and if/when the time is right, I'll adopt him. I'm just very knew to the whole caring for a child thing and clueless on how to approach a child in this situation. Thanks in advance for any help",4.0638888888888856,4.31563672486773,5.3493253968254,84.76303571428572,70.64021164021166,7.993121693121692,28.448412698412696,7.793537801064563,1.5772888888888883,707,24,153,8,12,237,108,189,0.10400000000000001,0.738,0.158,0.9001,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,1,10,0,10,2,1,1,1,29,25,14,0,3,5,14,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,11,0,1,5,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,1,34,4,21,23,4,15,0,0,0,1,42,8,0,4,5,98,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886711116707241,0.0,0.0,0.14763158543896082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911262384042617,0.07966152120997387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6671961809843573,0.0,0.13323731413990447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319379256295325,0.0,0.06607590547742997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395912551245788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759227604389666,0.0,0.13108303419580775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363699253091775,0.0,0.0,0.1383716093578945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539313276815548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794410728849646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078873297463127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253913089306591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451050505489207,0.14151407151895362,0.0,0.0905972922895698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463918863371477,0.0,0.0,0.1487428343905907,0.08371717088521485,0.0,0.12903106853740434,0.0,0.0,0.1116002947615598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689017538094787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924962159561294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825535092594867,0.0,0.0,0.12031289791859565,0.0,0.0,0.17363641990705264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620075608327878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156499298647627,0.15415729851261467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589993068930784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428784352324338,0.0,0.0
parenting,Laodicean21,2020/04/06,"Daisy to the other Side Had to put my sweet Lab, Daisy, to rest after 14 years in this world. What a wonderful pup she was and the incredible adventures we had together on our weekly hikes. 

My three kids surprised me and came over to the house to be with me. Rubbed my back while loving on Daisy. Assured my beloved pup we would be their with  her as she moved on to a new adventure. 

So very grateful my son and two daughters were there for Us.",4.3503745318352065,5.129360235955058,4.5141011235955055,89.11849250936329,70.23595505617978,8.18052434456929,26.069288389513112,8.344100000000001,1.3571558052434465,347,10,76,5,6,108,64,89,0.0,0.746,0.254,0.9766,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,4,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,1,11,10,6,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,2,15,6,16,2,1,16,0,0,0,1,12,7,0,1,6,56,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21376621338630136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179599826311179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207767357773968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509074657540973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954719026500273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684958572305122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794685795103508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27156734965521184,0.0,0.3344019190672024,0.0,0.0,0.2293805881291953,0.0,0.0,0.22299626389749103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30148107812437863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748449249359004,0.0,0.0,0.17902403551937027
parenting,Acidburn91,2020/04/06,"Grocery shopping today.. The grocery was so weird today. I got most of everything I needed, it was pretty pick and chose, but I went in with a smile and came out crying. I can’t stand Easter, but watching employees putting up Easter decor with masks and gloves on really got to me. Two weeks ago everyone was still smilining and talking to one another, and this time it was so eerily quiet, besides the loudspeaker suggesting how to distance yourselves in an appropriate way. Mothers and babies in masks. Much bigger plastic shields were put up at registers, policemen all over the parking lot. 

I actually used to enjoy going with my kids and just cannot bring them all now. But it was sometimes my means of joy and getting out, and even that is taken now. 
I can’t believe it overwhelmed me so much to the point of crying the entire way home, but it did.",6.454658385093168,7.1225884099378876,6.593347826086959,76.4674130434783,65.52173913043478,9.172919254658387,33.49130434782609,9.120678840339163,2.9979759006211184,678,28,118,11,10,217,105,161,0.059000000000000004,0.846,0.096,0.7375,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,1,7,0,11,0,0,3,2,29,22,17,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,15,0,0,1,1,1,6,3,2,0,2,12,2,11,2,21,10,6,29,0,1,1,0,5,12,0,2,8,87,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.15441289032231614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402642867793819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592142773009286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782747607871051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097675889006468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476237336302066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451161243501772,0.0,0.0,0.15119871372815666,0.14220990086667631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267037641552982,0.0,0.08992763958462148,0.0,0.2531072742999345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872091682203934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452430620828476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236246806956007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23263938663783046,0.11732799834283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722298957131854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958162850495305,0.0,0.0,0.16098016758429454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181363724633929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136831358968956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564967948670206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636533001297462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718194508287795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226711864179143,0.0,0.29997336237513644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545709568678132,0.0,0.0,0.1366627799945471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511964810931093,0.12692522106337484,0.0,0.0,0.14668386857352508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VoodooYeti,2020/04/06,"Toddler (14mo) will not swallow food. My 14mo is doing great and gaining weight, but will not swallow about 80%+ of her solid food. She will eat her favorite purée packets and drink various things. She is still breastfeed. Most of the time she will take the food in her mouth and cheek it like a chipmunk, just chewing until she eventually spits it out. 
Anyone else have this issue? Will she just grow out of it and start swallowing?",4.478410714285714,6.820170162500002,4.059642857142858,86.31250000000004,72.375,6.071428571428572,26.42857142857143,6.868970318607317,1.213607142857143,343,12,61,3,7,103,54,80,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9179,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,9,13,3,0,0,12,11,6,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,6,10,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,9,2,8,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,5,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298245239798527,0.20952166439485045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031995379142706,0.0,0.20924181821640775,0.17082311217929794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7418014863188627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254482502978596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343187894417187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990228986710184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473734328244245,0.0,0.16330402485024534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153749191891817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585244463590412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923833724006873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490107516239149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fox312,2020/04/06,"Newborn, Daycare & Corona I'm currently on maternity leave and will be returning to work the beginning of May.  I work from home (always) but it's a demanding job and the plan was to use daycare for our new daughter.  Of course now things look very different.  I can see how many people are still comfortable using a daycare their child has been attending; but for us this would be exposing her to all the new germs in the world, at three months old, during a pandemic.  

Is anyone else in a similar situation, or have any advice?  I have no idea how to handle this.",4.726944444444441,6.234709472222222,5.7361111111111125,77.98250000000003,70.01851851851852,9.844444444444443,29.24074074074073,10.125756701596842,3.0607185185185184,445,17,83,12,8,147,83,108,0.083,0.8759999999999999,0.040999999999999995,-0.3506,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,4,1,13,19,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,1,13,12,1,15,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,2,9,57,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802358725339472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347161334083154,0.19984425450190674,0.0,0.12542777887952028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896705421316038,0.18898397249215887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19270400718414754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407872224744915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501168331057846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20821405186645392,0.0,0.0,0.1830315298463968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529883883719704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488593117732044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869965716614929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722089416359968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562730055024605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354223215395447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786977088763374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469774419212673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073220136819537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729666943651926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253594268743913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22186259777106854,0.3185996084062884,0.0,0.15218505115806946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685538597347126,0.0,0.0,0.131023238880767,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myca222,2020/04/06,"Milestone Delay: Should I be Worried? My baby boy is turning 3 months soon. One of the milestones I'm waiting to happen is for him to put his head up when we have him lie down on his belly, which only happened a few times. He also used to turn his head from left to right (and v.v.) when we shake his rattle, about 3-5 turns, but now he prefers to rest his head on one side (his left) and cries after a few minutes so we stop tummy time altogether. BUT if we lie him on his right side, he manages to turn to the left in no time, and he's just chiling on his left again. When we carry him upright, he manages to put his head up a bit and he can turn from left to right freely, but we still have our hand near his neck for support, since he's a little wobbly.

So far, this is the only milestone that is getting delayed. He is very talkative and demands attention when he's left alone. He smiles and usually responds when we talk to him or tickle him. He raises his legs up high and kicks really hard. He's been putting his hand in his mouth just recently. I have no other problems except for this. 

I am a first time mom and this milestone delay is really worrying me. I follow a checklist and this is the only one I haven't crossed out yet. I am seeing posts of new moms with their child already having their heads up. I know I'm not supposed to compare children and not be a textbook mom, but I just can't get it out of my head. 

I'm sorry if I sound shallow and all but this feeling is unsettling. Any advice is greatly appreciated.",3.5037485615650183,4.3004060664557,4.57510932105869,87.84451668584582,72.19620253164557,7.011277330264673,26.705408515535087,6.980632752743323,1.1009037974683549,1191,39,255,10,22,390,159,316,0.107,0.8109999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.3334,0,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,8,0,2,1,17,4,0,1,11,0,22,11,11,1,1,49,41,27,0,5,14,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,9,21,0,5,4,0,0,6,6,2,0,4,1,6,41,2,37,37,5,59,0,0,1,0,49,28,0,4,24,167,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130884871203877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557852676536546,0.08052805951424953,0.05835687264521376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04962447476554453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966814982415943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015795089834235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03689758855568806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207121231225202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625127207813519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045352904372383,0.0,0.0,0.12906043033076298,0.0,0.06536991252928064,0.0,0.4493511142916299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771004974614841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04010432103418207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4757154547265697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313860662158551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25639700443844554,0.05824674256888505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047825022949644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483461737806567,0.16649887967816296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988843055466827,0.0,0.0,0.06982577351635122,0.0,0.22007553503258406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349737106286056,0.0,0.07205251662302473,0.0,0.0,0.1869568821971914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815042268054641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036442403960105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168784630710209,0.0,0.0,0.0582767224358048,0.061009104190525174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280945033861514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865332612734555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702057126741033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968710048597934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630256645254671,0.08036998831901095,0.060210770678964964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821624022945967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bearbeetbattlestars,2020/04/06,"How are your children with behavioral or emotional difficulties doing? With schools closed, have you noticed an increase of emotional or behavioral ""outbursts"" from your children? How are they coping? How are you helping them cope? What challenges are you facing with helping your child?",7.666666666666664,11.617609000000002,5.488888888888892,71.74000000000002,70.1111111111111,8.044444444444443,40.111111111111114,8.841846274778883,4.707577777777779,235,14,29,5,5,67,29,45,0.042,0.726,0.23199999999999998,0.7882,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,6,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,3,0,9,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,5,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,0,26,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7425689936154957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44247813303678224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37578705780256505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33404861725989143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rockandrollracing,2020/04/06,"I don't like being a dad Not sure if this kind of post belongs in this sub, but i feel incredibly alone in this and have no one to talk to about it. 

I don't like being a dad. It's not that i don't love the kids or i don't have fun sometimes, but if you gave me the choice of traveling back in time right now and undoing my kids, I would. 

Now that's fucked up. I know it is. I'm not trying to defend myself as being right or anything, but the truth is, I don't like being a parent and I have no idea what to do with this. I've tried counseling/therapy/medications/etc. 

It doesn't work and frankly, my kids deserve better than what I give them, which is usually just me being in a shit mood all day yelling at them for this, that, and everything kids do and then rushing them through bed time. 

any other parents out there feel this way? If so, how do you get over it? I'm fucking up my kids day in and day out and aside from checking out of the situatino don't know how to stop.",2.4327044025157214,3.073526924528302,3.9484150943396266,91.92740251572329,74.56603773584905,7.351446540880502,23.567295597484275,7.554174236665415,0.6950272955974843,756,20,184,9,15,252,109,212,0.162,0.79,0.049,-0.9726,2,1,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,2,3,2,9,13,3,0,8,0,22,4,1,2,3,37,34,21,0,5,12,4,2,3,0,1,0,1,1,5,18,12,0,1,5,1,1,2,12,3,0,1,1,3,21,9,27,27,1,29,0,0,0,3,18,14,3,5,14,128,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151902907249618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060525697629293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833504096213308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991730554942735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792669114245773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017280224498849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739274776310032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015941929774078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770782876287162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28834984667265384,0.08147837725018388,0.1496031741471049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605059627500708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162399798047936,0.17141405825923556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285705117279866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075258554116624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567697369941187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34633202979584954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935871245063173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26636396503342524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008227851475382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542403148925837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303826853363875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698272304207818,0.0,0.0,0.12534814706526806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187349390297744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176206641229425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175887167204346,0.0,0.0,0.1237872774858822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135347655800268,0.0,0.0,0.11078368210055507,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cowabunga-gnarly,2020/04/06,"Kids Shows with Contemporary Music like Yo Gabba and Sesame Street My 8 month old loves shows with human music performers mixed with puppets and I'm down with that bc Sesame Street often has great artist cameos and so does Yo Gabba Gabba. 

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Are there any other shows like this that feature contemporary bands along with kids entertainment?",11.178000000000004,10.943116800000002,8.33666666666667,70.91500000000003,56.0,10.666666666666668,31.666666666666664,9.725611199111238,2.819666666666667,288,7,45,4,3,82,42,60,0.0,0.773,0.22699999999999998,0.9393,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,10,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,9,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,4,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413002549757072,0.3827571083379977,0.2142094753702737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756569158092437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472864615608804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077842715917018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28429803797476594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25142843781535273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33053746452381466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827571083379977,0.0
parenting,Yoshistrider,2020/04/06,"Lost my 6 year relationship, and she’s taking my daughter for quarantine Just went through a breakup out of nowhere. She said she wasn’t happy, I don’t know. I quit my job a few months ago because things were rocky and I thought I could better things and take a break.

Too much financial pressure on her I think to help with a month or two, but things were looking up. I got a new place lined up, I got a new unionized job that pays 29$ hour soon when I move.

But i feel like I lost everything. Her dad who she’s moving in with works in a hospital, and he says that the terms are that she can’t leave until it’s over and she’s taking our daughter the whole time.

I just got into my house today to grab some things and hav a shower and I broke down seeing my 3 bedroom house just empty and silent. I haven’t stopped crying and hating myself. I really feel like part of me died

I can’t accept that I’ll have my daughter growing up with split parents. I’ll never sleep in in the mornings to the sound of her and mom running around in the living room, I’ll only be seeing her half of the time from here on out. With a potentially 2-3 month wait before I can see her again it’s just too much.

Any mental help would be appreciated. If there are any better subreddits to post to I’m happy to know that, parenting was the first that came to mind.

Thanks",2.3712858464384823,3.84591556737589,3.4605334566759183,92.09021739130436,75.95035460992908,6.322787542399013,21.48072772124576,6.895973343053719,0.3088117175454825,1058,26,237,10,23,341,155,282,0.10300000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.136,0.8909999999999999,5,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,7,12,13,1,1,16,0,16,1,1,0,1,41,41,16,1,3,8,7,3,2,0,1,0,3,3,0,13,19,0,2,7,0,1,6,6,5,0,3,13,10,36,8,35,24,7,45,0,3,4,0,26,18,0,3,21,151,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428895981487937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932495110260506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464766145527594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057964201828675226,0.0,0.08091210218174244,0.0,0.0,0.16819359141995546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087542888340846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759192966332059,0.0,0.10444869320421298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868537745319084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545813688328854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615777009858767,0.13586045890352724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088102226862254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22814947441906674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202443931085614,0.0,0.09387880625266264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274697316878698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364162065623066,0.21943544898518094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887185108360805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045147456220509,0.0,0.0,0.1006834889712776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290948919263224,0.0,0.08396363433465336,0.0,0.07984919949522838,0.0,0.207597562157444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582541262608288,0.0,0.09601084522783483,0.11136483969021653,0.2276928018945177,0.20212503710215474,0.1397998903492566,0.0,0.07333701856884108,0.18367139013137268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231800966072037,0.0,0.0,0.2111659006412418,0.10297004223031578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993457610785894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106713881429132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113681482514128,0.0,0.0,0.06091521874062236,0.0,0.0,0.10208793932582597,0.0,0.0,0.09044958846859563,0.0756170630890324,0.0,0.0,0.22731627705747545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515575145303652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949705718327946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21448095286081226,0.0,0.0,0.0875434085568671,0.0,0.0,0.25268652507330897,0.060927961864867625,0.0,0.07548852074624676,0.1108920828530653,0.0,0.09013143426359617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288626115121484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814667644609818,0.0,0.10616132984673564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922452723165927,0.0,0.0,0.06754713394803973,0.0,0.0,0.061232962418748024
parenting,annabanana316,2020/04/06,"Help. My 18 month old is extremely difficult. What do I do? My 18 month old is very difficult, she screams and throws things when she doesn’t get what she wants. I have tried to redirect, it doesn’t work. I have tried to let her cry it out but she really won’t stop even if she’s already covered in hives from all the crying so I had to give her what she wants. 

She throws a fit when she’s changed, she doesn’t want to wear clothes, she gets mad if she sees me use a pillow (CRAZY, i know). It seems like EVERY LITTLE thing pisses her off. 


Is this normal? What do I do with her? I am losing my mind being stuck with her for the whole quarantine. It’s driving me insane

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks everyone.",0.617265500794911,2.8898270540540563,1.9971860095389504,96.24988076311607,85.8918918918919,5.644515103338633,17.48966613672496,7.048011613610866,-0.06228187599364076,556,13,128,8,17,178,90,148,0.195,0.6759999999999999,0.128,-0.8836,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,4,8,2,0,4,0,19,2,2,1,1,18,31,7,0,7,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,2,2,28,2,11,24,2,15,0,1,1,0,19,5,1,3,8,83,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741827715699206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073380956216214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669760982201776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34676444794670025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042532718108384,0.0,0.13298884504927178,0.1508249679867068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649320496037966,0.15141660261318005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115965733158415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674593466923924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140432406099184,0.0,0.07711371665010339,0.15819933184725068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658502591251007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937560691751834,0.0,0.2519762457152666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546518241714166,0.0,0.0,0.3312576337928797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101117742836884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257797822468036,0.14369359331428466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196313090126455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531987336711838,0.0,0.0,0.20972666263832612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214328959537766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632496540090253,0.0,0.13023632977728988,0.2792982234576499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17622515805734354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491098755503346,0.0,0.0,0.11212655656724403,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,00chill00chill00,2020/04/06,"Getting that best-friend type of bond with your kids as they grow older What's your secret?  We just have our first child, still very young.  I'm curious though, sometimes I see parents that have this relationship with their kids that you'd think they are best friends.  Sharing everything about their lives, enjoy hanging with their parents just as much as they do their friends, etc.  What is the secret?  I grew up in a household where we were pretty much the opposite with our parents - they set the rules, but we never talked about anything personal, and other than mealtime we never really spent much time together.  

How do you recommend setting that fine line so they trust talking to you like a best friend but you dont lose total control of the house? 

Maybe there's no secret sauce, I'm sure this question is asked a million times over.  I'm just curious what people have learned to really help!",4.840872540633018,7.069081029940122,4.183100940975194,86.31791916167671,71.03592814371255,7.166638152266897,27.497433704020533,7.957251820313856,1.7323313943541487,720,26,131,10,14,214,104,167,0.015,0.7120000000000001,0.27399999999999997,0.9934,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,6,9,5,11,12,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,2,4,26,19,9,0,0,5,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,10,9,0,1,6,0,1,3,4,1,0,2,2,1,23,11,17,16,7,17,0,1,1,0,41,4,0,1,9,91,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163327088447577,0.0,0.1154595705794424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38882949328814737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852024063035992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447457711913667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773960966390406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099743391753182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505244148611237,0.0,0.0,0.3816755440539975,0.0,0.06452574389826107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278212956381839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250703699029246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060337817223040234,0.0,0.1090562969593476,0.0,0.0,0.13816938776508278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407637063847025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723689573044201,0.0,0.1905078011101731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4114097373911828,0.0,0.0,0.08562212477145549,0.10783893126458244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564797109466228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383527480868326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15823965308226684,0.0,0.0,0.13259707866754644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841669992379057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214861652173538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863045598162694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640106080365968,0.0,0.0,0.19853567801969926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913637796786588,0.121342055451851,0.0,0.14403235417208785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190373649810554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,asuperbstarling,2020/04/06,"We had to fight for it, but my daughter had her first online meetup with her class today My preschooler was on Spring Break when they told us school was delayed a week, and then at the end of that week we got the email: school is canceled for the rest of the school year.

She was heartbroken. My daughter loves school, loves her friends, and had JUST started speech therapy for her delay. All the kids in her class also have an IEP (this is important). So there we were with a passionate, in-need student but no school, expecting that just like everyone else we'd get a zoom meeting for her class. Well, we were wrong. 

On the day class for *every other student* was to start online, she got dressed up and we waited. And waited. And waited. She realized before I did. She didn't have the words, but she did break down. Bless those Blippi videos on YouTube for picking her heart up, truly. Eventually I called her father and we hunted down why exactly we weren't getting our invite: IEP students were excluded from classes for 'privacy' reasons. Their individual needs - somehow - meant that instead of receiving *extra* help they would ONLY get that help. It made no sense to me.

A flurry of calls to anyone we could think of, one *extremely* helpful message from a close friend of mine who works in child therapy about ADA Covid-19 guidelines for our state and one 'discrimination case' threat later - not something we've ever done before, we're normally very quiet and compliant parents - we get an email from her teacher that the word came from on high. The kids can meet twice a week!

When I tell you I cried y'all... they just finished their first meeting today. Her quiet joy, her little ""Hi friends!""... my heart is so full. All of these kids are just as deserving of equal social time. Just because they each face unique challenges doesn't mean they needed to be isolated. Very little matters more to a young child's happiness and development than stability, and I'm so glad they all get it now.

I in no way blame her teacher (who is so happy to see her kids) but instead the thoughtless following of guidelines by the higher ranks without realizing the consequences. It was a dumb case of the wrong thing for the right reason. There was never any need to exclude the IEP preschoolers to protect them. Their classes are normal preschool classes. Their individual needs and therapies were already being handled separately. Speak up for your little ones if something doesn't sound right. Research before you make bold statements - because I'd never want to make an unjustified stink for hard working educators - but don't be afraid to stick up for them.",4.671328698153918,7.120006344329897,4.477290817549751,83.05189882522178,72.15463917525773,7.06832893790458,27.980100695276914,7.97965635744439,1.9191491249100927,2107,81,370,31,43,644,254,485,0.12,0.741,0.139,0.9622,1,0,2,0,1,0,72.0,13,4,12,6,21,22,3,1,26,0,36,6,3,6,7,76,66,26,0,11,13,4,1,1,3,1,0,5,0,6,16,25,0,6,8,1,0,3,12,7,1,6,24,8,58,15,58,36,9,55,1,0,1,3,82,22,1,2,27,252,74,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390192292592126,0.06080183553920272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05170357863002139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053162531360755216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269538913948898,0.0,0.19408993554329407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552719774600101,0.08695902648552226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060704439314213834,0.0,0.08351630796446093,0.049033602135531366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780594699703346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351401102770354,0.0,0.06734075737948071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877424792226867,0.06405926215757922,0.07265072616120034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293435878811788,0.0,0.0,0.17622371589873226,0.0,0.19861488006460293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216176171156674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618724866286817,0.06810869895275948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18019382372013776,0.15288560882677374,0.08033075718680335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03714482811700534,0.22860862807408225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724160367211244,0.07194221946490154,0.10150235261298823,0.0,0.0,0.08281987431919746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22550361887263476,0.11727934242347557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489881612863721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456139529473642,0.05782488014850499,0.0,0.0,0.08442325053826218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634473354659936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298598444252311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38473634751177627,0.060586735993428675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750386692246168,0.0,0.11706451082686385,0.0,0.0,0.1076300402221058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645430563952152,0.0,0.2608436761973119,0.0,0.05051151191818055,0.048717492489872234,0.0,0.0,0.04433419441768354,0.0,0.14413669315172326,0.07265072616120034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145573948125008,0.0,0.0,0.12546681172474836,0.04484495951519084,0.06034974210615302,0.1829620619988356,0.0,0.06836085638957097,0.0,0.06860600755314887,0.0,0.0,0.07329101690702201,0.0,0.11070271455996106,0.0,0.0,0.054010127535933934,0.1662555767495626,0.0,0.04896136840067376
parenting,shasides,2020/04/06,"I’m pregnant! I’m sure I’m not the only one who is just finding out, but I’m (23F) 5 weeks pregnant! My partner (23M) and I aren’t married but my immediate family is thrilled for us. I can’t wait for this new adventure 💕

Do you guys have any advice that goes as far as taking care of myself in this quarantine?",-1.3372058823529436,0.6870091029411753,1.985529411764705,92.9388823529412,97.6764705882353,5.072941176470589,20.03529411764706,6.742157984588678,0.4719600000000002,241,9,55,4,10,86,52,68,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.9236,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,9,13,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,7,4,7,13,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29907547556283864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20812933679513604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31204563155169185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28852341441819485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797306630540205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30304466710363337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955918737286363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739222538164084,0.2327702312771535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288455213631081,0.0,0.23011686501595485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368149031627938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455005606412539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,altaverse,2020/04/06,"Great little website full of fun and helpful resources for kids and parents! Hello all! I know that this is a stressful time for everyone (and for parents especially!) and I wanted to do something to help out my fellow parents so I put together a small website full of fun and educational resources for the whole family!

I'm no web design genius (understatement of the century, this is the first site I ever put together) but I put together a bunch of free online resources for kids and parents, including virtual tours to parks, zoo's, aquariums, as well as educational content for kids of all ages. Theres also a bunch of content on there for parents as well!

[https://lockdown.community/](https://lockdown.community/)

I hope you all find it useful and stay safe out there!",7.160444444444442,9.272632488888894,7.506111111111113,65.29250000000003,64.85185185185185,9.548148148148153,34.24074074074074,9.888512548439397,3.7536074074074084,626,28,96,14,10,204,77,135,0.026000000000000002,0.748,0.22699999999999998,0.9823,5,2,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,0,1,8,9,0,1,7,0,3,0,0,1,4,20,8,13,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,9,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,1,2,1,0,0,8,9,22,8,8,16,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,1,4,70,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411389429989422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177654377575012,0.0,0.12440331705908493,0.0,0.0,0.12273272225678007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899244241422985,0.1107406093714676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435363109643733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452889896284668,0.0,0.0,0.12930928553372067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715497053193153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048583335395433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7228098712025638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926344910851621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022758357877648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876654828589552,0.0,0.0,0.14913363515930614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591556390592137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244343771604176,0.0,0.0,0.07679017143877559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341151352841993,0.0,0.0,0.14535387942881767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,microtrEAnsactions,2020/04/06,"How much money that my son makes should go towards college? So I have a 14 year old son that wants to begin working.  We live in a rural area, and there are plenty of available jobs.  Excluding COVID 19 complications, he wants to begin working a summer job. How much of his money that he makes should go towards a college fund?  He brought up the idea of having a set amount of money that he has to make that all goes to college, but any more that he makes goes to himself.  What do you think is a good method to use?",4.113956043956044,4.822555999999999,4.6139010989010965,88.44538461538461,70.73076923076924,6.712087912087912,26.395604395604394,6.1826913282559595,0.8366142857142855,400,12,84,2,7,127,66,104,0.0,0.956,0.044000000000000004,0.6586,2,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,7,1,17,21,5,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,14,18,5,14,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,5,52,13,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390272645957984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323776884385983,0.17147587247182833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307896252329099,0.0,0.0,0.405753385041942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805256341880585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5458652885441909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30057612518452664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21452701594895834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099789024855912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657185853767474,0.0,0.0,0.24116984616945555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976717665663539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165365531701145
parenting,nomoresillydaydreams,2020/04/06,"School wants us to pick up/drop off materials every 2 weeks...anyone else? My state is under a stay at home order. This week parents were told to come to the school to pick up materials/supplies, and that going forward kids will complete activities in their workbooks, drop them off to be graded, and pick up stuff for the next couple of weeks to work on (in addition to online learning).

My parents live locally and we've been isolating for a while with the hopes that if we all stay away from anyone else/don't go anywhere, we can get together again eventually. I am a little frustrated with having to go to the school periodically because now I feel like I will be exposing myself, and I can't see my parents because I don't want to risk exposing them also.

What are other schools doing? I am surprised my kids' school is making this a requirement when we're all repeatedly being told to ""stay home"".

FWIW, this is an elementary school and the supplies are crayons, markers, etc.",7.652918918918921,7.358823724324324,7.889864864864865,71.4466891891892,63.10810810810811,10.643243243243244,35.25675675675676,10.125756701596842,3.5035513513513523,779,31,139,15,10,255,113,185,0.062,0.887,0.051,-0.2441,3,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,3,2,4,5,1,1,10,0,19,0,0,4,2,24,32,9,0,4,1,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,8,11,0,1,2,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,4,2,17,3,27,23,3,32,0,0,1,0,13,13,0,2,11,95,25,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247299820988292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442217431387073,0.10566883962879332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689399983757566,0.0,0.0,0.1257341426417358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883733574531584,0.10812980939706428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141113481118339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615185497834013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501717557970913,0.0,0.0,0.08689144606238199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214561056763276,0.07367606979924403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053881151786816274,0.0,0.1758334124644996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689553336603456,0.10243132817244566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050384093105626665,0.10336332122605743,0.09106565123897896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688400545075029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967989103192316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435408748157947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6262382012297719,0.08218123227393301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297684722677572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805913981738407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197090208067029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405265353637975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216574543521455,0.0,0.16544927937224707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507984503071606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,0letitgrow,2020/04/06,"Ideas for helping preschooler missing her friends? TLDR: Have you guys dreamed up any ideas for how to help your preschoolers feel connected to their friends through all this? Even if it's an obvious one I would love to hear it. 

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Longer story: 

My 5 year old daughter was just coming out of her shell at preschool. She suddenly would come home declaring this or that classmate her best friend. On days without school she would spend her time writing ""notes"" and drawing pictures to give to her friends on the next school day. 

And then the quarantine happened. 

She is so sad and it's breaking me and my wife's hearts. She's starting to say how sad she is and that she's never going to see her friends again, etc. etc. We want to be able to help her but don't know how.",3.3009428571428607,5.62350364666667,2.5912380952380967,95.568,75.86666666666667,5.352380952380952,28.04761904761905,6.1826913282559595,0.9337619047619046,617,26,126,4,14,178,102,150,0.042,0.816,0.142,0.8938,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,1,1,7,10,0,0,3,0,9,2,1,3,3,29,22,13,0,5,5,2,1,0,5,3,0,2,1,1,7,9,0,0,4,1,1,3,3,3,0,1,1,4,21,7,19,17,4,20,0,3,1,1,33,5,0,2,11,81,28,2,0.12443618819081513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348265579158579,0.15120358887136634,0.08462087506846844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058810240353505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214381515586568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050209406814792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775584861071722,0.08218892871439208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291867563838728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806954515945637,0.0,0.0,0.11937053046095672,0.07071995338192241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321139013854515,0.1100385102603154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024862783773634,0.14745748214300244,0.2502208618260938,0.0,0.12481964266201145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809466200850928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838687474221035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230851815536393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597285958042548,0.0,0.132339297838708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057484708633738,0.0,0.08432118155195897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895665135221714,0.0,0.25187213156026306,0.09915953118048394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807657447100466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255974202338182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339568782540806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995204490021492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651876935262975,0.0,0.15120358887136634,0.08013282539419765
parenting,tnpdynomite2,2020/04/06,"Delaying 1 year vaccines because of the Coronavirus. Hey everybody,
My daughter is turning 1 this week(WOO!), and with that comes her 1 year vaccines.
We are in no way antivax, but with the current situation we are very worried about going to the dr, to get the vaccines. Honestly we’re worried about going anywhere, she hasn’t been around anyone not in the household in 3 weeks.

A big part of our worry is that she is immunocompromised and has Cystic Fibrosis. 

The dr office still suggested that we come in to get the vaccinations. 
Has anyone with little ones been in a similar situation the past few weeks? 
We know that vaccines are extremely important, but if we can wait a couple months, we’d feel better.

Thanks!",5.685801526717558,7.614478229007638,6.3632748091603055,72.7736145038168,68.23664122137403,9.514809160305344,33.710687022900764,9.888512548439397,3.710052824427481,572,27,94,14,10,187,80,131,0.085,0.8079999999999999,0.107,0.6117,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,11,0,13,2,0,0,0,21,24,5,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,13,0,2,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,2,1,11,3,16,21,2,22,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,1,9,66,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21843916172659625,0.0,0.0,0.13905227365240075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521886270871772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381473563393405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691071779872666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283376752052912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898007063442664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321746462121056,0.0,0.1775455969692994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584414949624493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565547382143453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467838746081487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584604344228904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915078625975086,0.14911181545308144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511536116914312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474256000161275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438091707890257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990216013317372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288824312732715,0.0,0.12398532141582605,0.37588578297362907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758900072083685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20117703195610773
parenting,DixzieTrixxie,2020/04/06,"Over reacting or not?? So since quarantine has begun my children’s dad has had one of our three children in a weekly rotation. But he keeps taking them out and sending me the photos at first it was to a animal park which is mostly a very quiet place. However today he’s took one of our daughters to a busy place by the town and sent me the pics. I’ve said to him how the park was one thing now he’s basically just taking liberties, playing chance with my daughter. Me and my girls haven’t gone out unless we’ve really need to, which has only been to the local shop 5 mins away for things like bread and milk. But can’t help feeling like he’s gambling with my daughters health and making a mockery of the current global situation...",5.3523809523809485,5.6271409727891175,6.111972789115652,80.33421768707484,67.84353741496601,8.982312925170069,28.578231292517003,8.841846274778883,2.092872108843537,581,18,114,9,9,191,99,147,0.016,0.868,0.11599999999999999,0.9074,2,1,0,1,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,11,0,10,3,0,3,0,22,20,11,0,1,6,4,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,3,5,9,2,1,1,2,2,4,3,0,0,5,8,3,11,3,19,12,1,22,0,0,0,0,19,11,0,2,9,75,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18245685868409814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819312149651722,0.1387361888073003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518602788402256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064250277993024,0.0,0.0,0.13016785682449272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726134723753468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18975216981670603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296296996525697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399649679295548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947838987798006,0.14769749967622678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057943680579248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440919685746138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472823196088745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606438647024828,0.2182884174436764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29202776841098765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580350878729518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840784549439264,0.0,0.2157628323346372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023495713697844,0.0,0.0,0.15577515551226762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cowabungatortle,2020/04/06,"I love watching Thomas the Train w/ my 3YO bc the production quality is off the charts The last 6 months he's been in a bigger-than-usual Thomas the Train phase and I can't get enough either.... I really enjoy watching the movies with him during our ""movie nights"" on the weekend.  Usually I can't stand kid's music but TTT has some pretty catchy stuff.

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That and the movies have some top-notch production value when it comes to writing, voice acting and music score.  Lost Treasure is just amazing imo.

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They're also great to watch because each movie is about 60-70mns long so he isn't watching as much as a Pixar movie in one sitting.",4.4202380952380915,6.257047373015876,4.120825396825399,87.96028571428577,71.30158730158729,6.627301587301588,24.50476190476191,7.1686216300943375,0.9743390476190474,523,15,99,5,10,158,91,126,0.023,0.778,0.19899999999999998,0.9749,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,10,0,9,1,0,0,0,12,13,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,5,7,5,10,11,6,15,0,1,4,1,7,4,0,2,7,54,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419627287522405,0.0,0.3907382068291903,0.4382001594864334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991715552744068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532371787963453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18631157094665646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420612120964572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879576306793484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697919359209174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595713662048722,0.0,0.0,0.1968329831765996,0.0,0.16273955841495616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392414817391233,0.0,0.13255083142227053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921157322051114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218478238498386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18344318530218154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551315054921868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20641529118656146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858933903266948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4382001594864334,0.0
parenting,doodlido,2020/04/06,Should it be okay to feel uncomfortable or is it normal? What would u feel if ur mom still taking pics of u sleeping and posting it on social media?,4.4390000000000045,5.158129566666666,5.600000000000001,81.63000000000002,70.0,7.333333333333332,25.0,7.1686216300943375,1.068,117,3,23,1,2,39,26,30,0.096,0.843,0.062,-0.264,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,8,7,3,0,4,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570922913322985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135653908993631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3459788732489248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33818768083879897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35337118659234146,0.3599574666704828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819990297540711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654994142289185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508435959954676,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nocturnal801,2020/04/06,"This former CIA officer shares tips to schooling children stuck at home during COVID-19 Hey just wanted to share [this](https://everydayspy.com/beating-covid19-part-3-5-cia-learning-tactics-for-kids-stuck-indoors/) after seeing so many posts about Covid-19.

Good luck and stay safe!",16.1609756097561,16.887732048780492,9.673292682926833,62.22262195121951,45.585365853658544,10.151219512195123,47.32926829268293,8.841846274778883,4.9026,238,11,26,2,2,60,38,41,0.048,0.627,0.325,0.8883,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,5,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,1,2,9,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970885352651881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552943261977347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591060831451704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38356715646907613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392284078571388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35847218179036866,0.2822538028910391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775330968547105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089180107842444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fdshsdfahsdfa,2020/04/06,"i can't take this shit my parent keep giving my brother's kid good things when they are acting bad. while this will calm them at the moment, it won't teach them that there are consequenses to your actions and in the long run it wont do them good. so how do i get her to stop doing it. i try talking with her, but she doesn't listen to me. the kid is a spoiled, dissrespectfull, disobedient, selfish brat because of her. he always gets what he wants, and when i refuse to let him play on my ps4 because he was acting bad to his little sister, my mother gets mad at me. like come on. he doesn't fucking deserve to play on MY ps4 after pushing his sister, taking her toys, stealing her food, and screaming at her. i feel bad for his sister. today i told him he can't play on my computer becasue of how he was just behaving, and then he got mad and took a toy and treatened to hit me and them smashed the toy next to me. i wish his mother didn't leave him so that my mother doesn't have to deal with the stress of taking care of my brothers kids. like she has to work night shifts, and then when she gets home instead of sleeping through the day, she has to take care of my brothers kids, because the kid's mother decided to leave my brother for a better paying job in some other state. And she was already making good money as a barber, but instead of helping her husband, she keeps the money all for herself, and now her husband has to support him self finacialy on his own, so he has to leave the kids at our house for my poor mother to take care of while he makes money to feed his kids. piece of shit mother. i just wan't to text her and tell her how much of a shit she is to her son, daughter, husband, and my mother. The boy is 4 and the girl is like 2 btw. and im 15 yr old.",6.375913978494622,4.579903903225809,6.712473118279573,83.74704301075272,66.41935483870968,9.12688172043011,30.88172043010753,6.937597516519254,1.6316494623655908,1380,38,306,8,18,449,170,372,0.139,0.721,0.141,-0.7969,2,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,1,1,5,2,16,28,6,1,16,0,27,7,4,5,1,36,55,30,0,2,4,20,1,3,0,3,0,2,1,10,10,17,2,4,2,6,5,7,8,13,0,0,7,3,60,15,48,43,5,37,0,0,0,1,83,12,4,1,20,201,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763093610412353,0.0,0.08115590657335303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443098618483464,0.17836703542113105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626069002347919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983265241441715,0.0,0.0,0.08401670317321275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290121029841036,0.10055303004559814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049316002647881656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793821698830795,0.0,0.0,0.0901683950224586,0.20382946869463975,0.09356327571364108,0.0,0.2454200863704953,0.07800666254377404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537482742162799,0.0,0.09783431970827763,0.0,0.0,0.11254087082195376,0.0,0.0,0.1053532041508285,0.0,0.09678721304117598,0.17338498524104015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30982252626790585,0.0,0.0997348838427705,0.0,0.14295021433024518,0.0977544565647896,0.0,0.0863143136952725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302090923250052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169854038388067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372826663011768,0.0915288322660223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023452804643555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829970479233013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174898925478038,0.0,0.3003510275821305,0.0,0.0,0.0976042037124578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815425956431781,0.1117245994129046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106801618215566,0.0,0.0,0.36666626899935256,0.07839394659186555,0.08524881045272778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479710025941184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245060583754458,0.09319769312412897,0.10836360275100146,0.06621902482477267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057527942195473976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215901745394267,0.0,0.0,0.07100574326452701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tani4521,2020/04/06,"My teen is acting like a sad sack of potatoes Hi, I (27f) am raising my 14yo sister, and I want to know if I can do anything help her be less moody. I get it:
- Life sucks 
- Being a teenage girl sucks
- Being stuck at home during coronavirus sucks
- Sister is more of a nagging mom than a sister, and she “has no one to talk to about stuff and the adults don’t understand” 

I’m working from home, and seeing her constantly unhappy face is super depressing. 

What do I do? 
I know I can’t change her and everyone goes through it, but how do I not let her make me depressed? 

Personal stories and examples are very welcome. 

Please and thank you.",2.1082808398950164,4.18218286614173,3.4036417322834644,89.51023950131236,78.60629921259844,6.753018372703411,24.756561679790025,7.793537801064563,1.3253994750656166,492,18,102,8,12,160,88,127,0.16699999999999998,0.698,0.135,0.1216,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,2,12,4,0,5,0,17,2,1,2,0,16,30,10,0,2,3,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,4,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,8,0,1,1,1,17,4,10,25,2,3,0,3,1,0,17,1,3,1,2,68,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488625024885015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21196336582740785,0.0,0.0,0.2165272283365439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451542898052609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19146074322037426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468430134454168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343028204504776,0.0,0.4019720002910021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22023463813474686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20489042534670576,0.14152623770773168,0.0978899561484768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374756796497062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346692327875145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577492008658615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495409576330506,0.0,0.2199445064982659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596677984588888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293740604881505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610486566278642,0.0,0.18447244730734091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859073465057335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532504416411598,0.11818256653643025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458706961795143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emily129307,2020/04/06,children's privacy. How do you deal with your children's privacy?  issues like locked doors and privacy of cellphones and computers?,5.572575757575759,9.296555954545452,5.506363636363638,68.64621212121216,80.36363636363636,10.206060606060607,39.15151515151515,9.725611199111238,5.915224242424243,109,7,14,4,3,34,17,22,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6667383059680613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.675006020170133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159539588119099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheGermanPanzerClock,2020/04/06,"How you can easily deal with many types of Stomach pain.     Disclaimer for mods: Despite my young age, I'm what my country sees as a ""Guardian"". Therefore I am eligible to post here. Also after §5 of your rules, it is forbidden to ASK for medical advice, but sharing a trick isn't specifically forbidden.

Stomach aches and digestive issues are a very interesting thing; They can be caused by nearly anything (Stress, lack of movement, breathing wrong, wrong food or even rotten food). This can make them very hard to deal with. But there is a low risk, easy chiropractical adjustment, that can help anyone regardless of age, to get rid of them many times and even prevent them in the future. 

First some background information, because this really isn't black magic. As you should know our intestine is constantly moving, it needs to do this in order to digest food properly. But there is one part of this system that is often causing trouble: [The Cecum, the connection between the small and large intestine.](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/8/86/Tractus_intestinalis_cecum.svg/800px-Tractus_intestinalis_cecum.svg.png) It acts like a valve and if it tenses up (which our digestive system tends to do when something isn't right) it can and will cause many problems and everything will be slowed down and painful. 

In order to solve this issue, you must perform what is known as a ""**Cecum-Ileum adjustment**"" . Here a **simple step by step instruction** on how to do that:

1.) Remove any clothes that are on top of your (or your patients) belly. You'll need to remove them in order to find the specific spot you will adjust.

2.) Lie down on your back (On a flat surface. The Couch or Bed will do) 

3.) Draw a line between the bully button and the **""anterior superior iliac spine""** on the RIGHT Side. [(That is basically the highest, frontal part of the hip bone!)](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/66/6b/b7/666bb764d07793297233811d530bad3f.jpg)

4.) Press on the point on the center with two fingers and slowly move down until you find a tender spot. If you found it, you will be directly above the Cecum. 

5.) Now breath into your belly, so that it lifts up and down. That is called **""diaphragmatic breathing""** (The way you are supposed to breath! Not just with your  Thorax!). 

6.) While doing this press onto the Cecum with two fingers, while doing a rotating motion. 2 Centimeters deep for adults, 1 cm for children as a rule of thumb. Do this for 30 seconds, be careful to continue the diaphragmatic breathing! After that take a short break and try again 2-3 times, until you hear a ""growling"". 

7.) This might hurt a little bit, but those are just muscles that are tensed up. If something was tensed up and you did it right, the stomach will growl. (You will hear it).

The cool thing about this adjustment is, that even if you don't have any pain, you can do it most of the times on yourself and hear (and feel) the results of the adjustment. Which allows you to practice on yourself, before you try it on your Husband/Wife/Children. 

I hope this well help you and improve your life :)  
If you've questions feel free to ask.",4.589561403508776,7.592207390909095,4.178248803827753,82.29277671451358,75.0909090909091,6.696012759170654,25.46730462519936,7.85451343220497,1.670896969696969,2475,87,419,39,57,746,272,550,0.11199999999999999,0.7909999999999999,0.09699999999999999,-0.8575,1,0,2,0,0,0,159.0,2,25,5,3,20,23,1,2,37,1,51,26,13,9,1,72,70,40,0,13,15,0,7,1,0,11,10,3,2,2,38,21,6,1,14,0,1,9,5,13,1,5,3,14,36,11,74,52,6,76,0,2,2,0,47,38,0,14,22,294,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138441334941593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660239130091984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327230321374987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823428988346084,0.0,0.0685358483311976,0.0,0.15571907798997306,0.0,0.0,0.06404045382933604,0.0,0.05076931086462588,0.0,0.07086876966781724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092483966829164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504253949859296,0.0,0.08491385197763085,0.2566676250453036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000069598557353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172482668824748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502540147364114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485052119173788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422204685253408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522406065937111,0.07084154759417438,0.3021229672997513,0.09131689052317718,0.0,0.0,0.043512587549166634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460633677289998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816022361780327,0.0,0.11164736561058622,0.0,0.0,0.08272006048637437,0.0,0.0,0.08915752107387921,0.0,0.0,0.1738542555447421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045770850309528634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882613467031497,0.040688481772217226,0.0834727064116313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555928891516392,0.25331149791209645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390012832439447,0.0,0.08835143679148233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703597252135,0.0,0.1235084445291539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643556886150751,0.0,0.2658609685365373,0.0,0.0,0.18037747157068154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873054397809684,0.0,0.07976329758978175,0.0,0.0,0.07969178744205467,0.0,0.0,0.09329742983340232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053354028504872836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133729046825228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636677104391206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823258193438072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540183653488424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261939741426675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066072108321916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569116236863208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308908897466535,0.0,0.162713237434969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743647071941842,0.0,0.06610716770338328,0.0,0.0,0.07488255028071633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211652461536326,0.0,0.0
parenting,lgdiver,2020/04/06,"Daycare & COVID-19 Hey everyone,

So I have a quick question and I'm looking for your thoughts.  My daycare provider is open at the current time and hasn't closed since this virus has started spreading.  My wife is a teacher and is working from home with our children.  We are not using her services and haven't used her services since 3/6.

We've been paying our daycare provider in full since school was closed on 3/12 (and keeping our kids at home).  She is saying her business is essential and that full payment is required to hold our spot.  I never questioned this, knowing that she needed income and her staff needed income as well.  I also didn't have a change in my income and didn't feel as if it would have been morally right to change my course.  

Over the last week, I've had to reduce my staff at work (tremendously) and my income is now looking to be very uncertain as well (I'm taking e a reduction in pay).  So obviously, my first and most reasonable option would be to reduce the exposure with my Daycare provider, especially since we're not planning on sending our kids in anymore until September (remember, my wife is a teacher).  I asked her, if we could pay for one week per month to hold our spot, she declined and said I would need to pay in full.

I feel awful, but I had to tell her this morning that our kids are not returning.  We've paid in full every month and have never been late.  I'm surprised by her decision to not help, we've been there for years without any issues.  

Are we being unreasonable here?  Are any other parents in the same situation with daycare?  Thank you!",6.45940644227289,6.6350296221498395,6.244077090119437,80.6734482446616,65.48208469055375,8.776619616359032,33.993666304741225,8.344100000000001,2.583952732537098,1262,52,238,15,18,395,151,307,0.031,0.9329999999999999,0.036000000000000004,0.3541,6,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,10,2,0,5,9,5,0,1,9,1,35,0,0,3,3,58,56,22,0,9,8,3,2,0,0,3,0,2,2,4,8,21,0,4,9,0,5,1,11,1,2,2,12,6,38,4,35,37,6,39,1,0,2,0,38,21,0,7,17,163,46,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888701474466517,0.0,0.12040866716436782,0.0,0.15114361649187155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021051139684783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038909951348431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23512035691097136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887277896247414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363131923208436,0.10618891171285937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112380735523833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452661769452594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448769969094182,0.0,0.22294371437183672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599022965017555,0.0,0.09877692393938377,0.0,0.0,0.06107381636476247,0.09058529978387186,0.12535881270710436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18664142816670487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740486649633816,0.0,0.0,0.24720314380200606,0.1714197007572331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530416292858495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233960563316138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489807402928367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425954002519535,0.0,0.0,0.12588795590752164,0.09490390725152167,0.10570951540896928,0.08837456566832717,0.0,0.11246889383598413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677095787874806,0.12491411075837905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865796697914147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355548460839585,0.0,0.09713200083969993,0.10231302820143744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822433669553177,0.06480045149768061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919602557646944,0.0,0.09169340003272117,0.0,0.0,0.1782826157882049,0.0,0.19983736783747166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071247836727315,0.0,0.16180706517231802,0.0,0.0,0.23682942900479345,0.0,0.0,0.07156369524653937
parenting,LeRoyJamez,2020/04/06,"Day care activities On my 3rd week of self-quarantining with my 7 month old. We’re running out of activities to help him develop, and frankly I’m getting a little bored playing the same games with him. Does anyone know of a good free resource for activities I can do with my child?",7.004848484848488,6.6392802727272775,7.650909090909089,72.86303030303033,64.45454545454545,10.969696969696967,36.51515151515152,10.504223727775694,3.6916060606060612,225,10,44,5,3,75,44,55,0.031,0.731,0.237,0.8959999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,5,10,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23421704223041198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415216583630086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160263058986856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931322888321393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750066769244168,0.0,0.0,0.28095482000232297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245216332032214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18408936043218446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357254023673164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673678374363937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3514920104079201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494441231473529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26869069815951024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omgtherearenonames,2020/04/06,"Help with giving 18 year old attention and love My 18 year old son is currently living with his grandparents. We lived there together and I still stay there occasionally, but I mostly stay at my fiancé’s house. My son stays with us as much as possible, but due to my fiancé’s allergies and the fact that my son has a pet to care for he has to split time between here and there. Now my son is interested in war memorabilia, goofy internet videos, video games, and vinyl records. I am interested in none of these things, but try to at least feign interest to a point. I can tell he needs attention because when I do see him he is ‘picking on me’ constantly- poking, pinching, sitting extra close, etc. how can I give him age appropriate attention when I’m not interested in the same things he is? How can I get him to stop ‘picking on me’ and start showing affection appropriately?",5.026785714285712,6.375203345238094,6.024761904761906,76.80357142857143,69.1190476190476,10.123809523809523,30.07142857142857,10.317481424215053,3.110978571428572,694,27,135,19,12,230,104,168,0.044000000000000004,0.7909999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.9679,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,10,7,1,0,4,0,11,1,0,5,1,28,20,15,1,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,11,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,21,6,21,20,7,28,0,0,1,1,20,9,0,1,15,88,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604513376827052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063960950183315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026287609499066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571742697889867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231690012312498,0.30228558692464425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560696986351324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179933809470605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782509975787324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220112031057466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582234159861612,0.11682633538146825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306586151261107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894205769678293,0.1776215647981576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555233258291126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151948016595248,0.5038036028409937,0.1258250258523042,0.13172449978556758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771154604078004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209347410439966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918726092610134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697069246484067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952137347704956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292276546545002
parenting,youngdestroyers,2020/04/06,"My 14MO son can't stand. Even with furniture My son is now 14 months old. He can crawl, can show and name parts of the face. He knows many words and can say many of them. He can make requests, so we know that he wants us to read him a book and which one he wants in the moment. He can eat with his hands, sometimes with a spoon. But he can't stand... When we put some of his toys on a couch, he cries because he can't reach them, he is not trying to use his legs to help himself. I don't know what to do. Due to coronavirus we can't get any help from specialists",1.1475609756097571,2.3014990813008147,2.254154471544716,100.80903658536587,78.51219512195122,5.895609756097563,17.99105691056911,6.2581,-0.6125050406504067,429,7,113,3,10,136,76,123,0.032,0.9229999999999999,0.045,0.3871,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,5,0,13,4,3,2,0,21,21,6,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,9,1,0,3,4,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,2,14,0,14,21,2,11,0,0,0,0,28,2,0,1,6,61,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908261241027126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467528574918565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465884564155486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20927802655682531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508547279320984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685479463852056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741748306917109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372013768242668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652065041979364,0.4147083194931945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324825923384645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146124207903229,0.0,0.1385900370597465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214784131180668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20560204404871807,0.0,0.0,0.20457828654715127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264485062701986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20227841703598207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885765084173535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24601591425587915,0.17664215314136905,0.0,0.0,0.2412658577247504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovehappensmag,2020/04/06,"things to do with kids during coronavirus quarantine   It’s not an easy task to keep our children bored and locked down at home. Since the schools and most parks are closed (and it’s not recommended to leave the house) the ongoing challenge is to keep them entertained inside. If you’re desperate to drag them away from electronics, here are some ideas of things to do with kids during these hard times: [https://www.lovehappensmag.com/blog/2020/04/05/things-to-do-with-kids-during-coronavirus-quarantine/](https://www.lovehappensmag.com/blog/2020/04/05/things-to-do-with-kids-during-coronavirus-quarantine/)",19.1656,23.54246369333334,10.241333333333333,48.354000000000035,38.73333333333333,10.266666666666666,29.666666666666664,10.355215969177356,2.8960666666666666,527,11,62,8,5,127,55,75,0.147,0.789,0.064,-0.6757,0,3,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,7,4,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,13,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,1,39,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567325765430825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447832925941221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27409758832000736,0.0,0.0,0.3153002072453832,0.0,0.30847224591285466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4857641617704037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893381637802371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765491967182947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22603980792146125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630776799837408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933750388618806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pastwatch2002,2020/04/06,"Parents, what are your 2-year-old's favourite books/toys/things? I have one chance to order everything I need for the coming year, so I wan't to make sure I get as much as I can in advance. Thanks for your suggestions.",4.576666666666668,5.654371162790699,3.995348837209304,91.94713178294576,69.93023255813954,7.593798449612403,25.96124031007752,7.793537801064563,1.1159519379844958,172,5,37,2,3,51,35,43,0.052000000000000005,0.8190000000000001,0.129,0.4475,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,8,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,7,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787989249231648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290878993440232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909565179726033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21604129645857645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379226418391449,0.2399850492288528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396200170529849,0.0,0.21931606090772576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593790297073277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050396951257435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979767578846915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168446241240725
parenting,pole234,2020/04/06,"[Giving] Having new one water-based paint pens set left, work on wood and paper. Does any  

\[Giving\] Having new one water-based  paint pens set left, work on wood and paper. Does anyone wanna to take them off? Pls PM me.",2.772142857142857,5.040760261904765,3.395476190476192,89.42035714285717,77.33333333333333,5.152380952380953,12.88095238095238,5.985473137389443,-0.8413047619047621,169,1,32,1,4,53,27,42,0.0,0.968,0.032,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,13,2,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957309433519214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379369337701415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849583012256032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42199089997668016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4779512053457549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248568884592032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980867317318866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537453147717168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32025147981583835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rubci,2020/04/06,"Our 10 week old is much more interested in his favourite toy than us Hi all! 

Just wanted to gather some advice on whether my son’s behaviour is normal or not. He has a favourite toy, a large yellow cat-like creature that he is simply in love with. He is all smiles when he sees it, immediately starts to gargle and coo to it and looks at it with such love in his eyes that we are literally jealous at this damn plush toy. :)
In the meantime he does smile at us, but only rarely and with much lesser enthusiasm - mostly at his mom and after being fed. That gargling sound that he makes is also exclusive to that toy - he never does that to us, and he rarely coos back when we coo to him. 

What I have also noticed is that he is also much more interested in toys than us, there are hours we literally cant make him look at us no matter how hard we try - he just does everything to avoid our faces with his eyes. He is also very independent, doesn’t really care if he is left alone (which we obviously don’t do often) so we are a bit worried that he is not really “into” us. 

Are these thing normal and because of his age? Should we try to do something to change his behaviour or just let it be? My wife already suggested that we hide that plush cat but I vetoed it since it makes my son so happy. 

Thanks for any advice in advance!",4.094304006608842,4.755163810408924,5.240563816604709,84.10802457662125,70.74721189591078,8.208261049153242,24.60987195373813,8.344100000000001,1.2819638992152007,1031,26,220,15,18,342,142,269,0.062,0.8029999999999999,0.135,0.9747,0,2,1,0,0,0,26.0,16,0,0,1,16,10,2,1,4,0,25,6,3,5,4,49,38,21,0,5,11,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,21,19,1,2,0,5,0,1,7,3,0,0,1,8,29,7,31,33,10,25,0,0,6,2,46,14,1,6,10,151,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786594456934927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467841608801192,0.10087877406131436,0.2924183101399437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062165364569587524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029252600240682,0.0,0.05572576224375876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980155158925937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932037296926199,0.0,0.09670499518508037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23999376270991665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215794693125285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731301402815024,0.0818899235400338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002540402838533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993227126137013,0.0934780758895659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353122672429473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501129230226713,0.0,0.18306075484666973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070641945046369,0.0,0.0,0.2016017267260696,0.0,0.07050491737145967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913466743174247,0.0,0.10407663331163047,0.09592471084909594,0.0,0.0,0.06952526016327372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712563580534555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284595439832686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561946892504898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037576688634528,0.0,0.0,0.06470403854368376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416269037340264,0.0,0.0,0.060732093146285575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412962825848516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6597662526437134,0.0,0.0,0.07542698492947192,0.05391896134151747,0.0,0.07332763410150041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283641441576898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,uhhidkthrowaway,2020/04/06,"Would you be okay with your sixteen year old dating an eighteen year old? Okay so I’m sorry if I’m not allowed to post this sort of thing, but I wanted the opinions of some parents and not just random people with no experience with teens. So I’m eighteen (my birthday was in December) and I think I have a crush on someone who is younger than me, sixteen. 

I don’t really intend on asking them out, as we met fairly recently and I’m not even sure I like them, but I wanted some perspective. I feel like I was a very different person at sixteen, so I feel like the two of us are probably in two very different spaces in life and maybe it’s too big a difference. If it’s weird I want to try to stop feeling this way about them.",2.578752759381904,3.965474198675501,4.321473509933778,86.49205573951436,75.22516556291393,7.417439293598234,25.828366445916124,8.07648339933343,1.501449889624724,568,20,120,9,12,192,94,151,0.146,0.812,0.042,-0.9346,4,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,2,3,0,7,7,0,0,6,2,8,1,0,2,1,34,21,12,0,6,8,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,9,0,1,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,3,3,19,6,19,16,2,18,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,7,10,80,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325582600147998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4467724472635336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414644400438378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943164653095869,0.0,0.0,0.2162177923040189,0.20366146494047427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068034395209917,0.20891379465984625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320076866489742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991438803713763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827400046031126,0.0,0.0,0.09881941274475492,0.124460586408394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651408988708028,0.0,0.153682421574951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131488871750376,0.0,0.1407412307416442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077383123888907,0.0,0.0,0.15956206062928754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191699723015068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434243196121778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469736132661463,0.09133399128327346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677542506412896,0.0,0.2784820862754901,0.0,0.17145828501584545,0.0,0.0,0.2352211516385114,0.25222167226550124,0.11314175951516912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125645359520463,0.0,0.0,0.18358240402680484
parenting,Bludinosaur2,2020/04/06,"Parent won't let me play video games My mom won't let me play video games and whenever I ask If I can play more she totally avoids the question. I study one or two hours a day get perfectly fine grades and play video games 2 hours a week maximum. Whenever o asks she always goes like it's not good for you, it's a waste of time etc.",1.6437500000000007,3.0480492083333366,3.0205555555555565,94.78000000000002,77.75,7.5777777777777775,20.333333333333336,8.344100000000001,0.649316666666667,261,6,64,5,6,85,51,72,0.21100000000000002,0.675,0.115,-0.6257,1,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,0,9,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,2,9,8,4,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,10,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,9,8,2,4,3,5,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,3,6,32,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799478998740524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043528826545745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947155753234552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411900890666921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129883405063444,0.0,0.0,0.18139090134847413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259504147685304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44228654818777946,0.0,0.10565503667118772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253284273190985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654520979677713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401341474356533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422637302015639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261045258368949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125724430221854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347290188045678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Smitho15,2020/04/06,"Should I have a child if I have doubts? I love babies and children, they make me incredibly happy and I always just assumed I'd have my own but as I get older I have more and more doubts. I really like my life how it is, I'm really social and go the gym everyday- I also like a lot of time by myself to do my own thing. Having a child seems hard enough for the people who were completely ready, I don't want to do it then realise I've made a mistake and that I want my old life back. Did any of you guys feel this way before having kids?",0.2319230769230778,2.1209952051282066,2.634722222222224,93.53875,84.12820512820512,5.609401709401709,15.732905982905985,6.816661863887847,-0.3529196581196583,417,7,97,5,12,143,77,117,0.107,0.747,0.147,0.8298,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,0,4,7,0,2,6,0,13,3,0,3,0,21,23,11,0,5,3,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,5,6,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,2,18,4,7,19,6,8,0,0,0,1,10,0,0,6,8,68,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16759954599957302,0.17438578391295864,0.0,0.0,0.14252030762060838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115263698129564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783355430619567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21973867032030225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165502206298156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596899405505676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094959171294242,0.0,0.11910807472448758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20751528757768106,0.0,0.22309980470323773,0.1877408292344091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29606244674035803,0.204778565430918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817582214018554,0.18915243482138627,0.1983078835300118,0.13989502179466995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199169809955443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529507932837898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685222190976037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079204828129304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136384994666928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923438972135496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220668653777288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472292090678476,0.16635335575783827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Oddity_23,2020/04/06,"Is it ok for a teenager to be friends with adults? I'm just about sixteen now, and I've always been very mature for my age or so I've been told. My home situation caused me to grow up very quickly. When I was a freshman (14), one of my bestfriends and writing buddies was a senior (18). I've made friends a couple college kids before. My aunt (26) has always loved to have me over for sleepovers, and to have someone to show off her makeup. But today something happened to make me wonder if these behaviors are okay in this context.

 I made a friend, playing on a minecraft server and we hit it off and had a lot of fun working together on one of his projects. He was a seasoned pro on the server, and I was pretty new. He was the first friend I had really made on there.

Anyway, due to some lag we decided to pull up discord and voice chat instead of using the minecraft text chat. That's when I asked him how old he was, and he said he was 32! Twice my age. But when he found out how old I was he said it didn't matter to him, that people are people and I seemed pretty smart for my age. He said he had played with people older than him and other teens too. 

Even though I was hesitant, we started the voice chat and things really went great, he showed me a lot of his builds and it was really fun just talking with him. I'd been missing my friends due to the lock-down order and it was nice to have someone to talk to. I almost found myself forgetting how old he was.
Later on, his girlfriend (19) joined us when she got back from work. We had a great time and all worked together on a project. But it did feel a little bit weird because in the back of my head I knew the dynamic was kind of strange.

I know there are creeps out there but they really were so nice and understanding people. They trusted me with important stuff, access to valuable items in the game and other things. I wasn't really thinking about how old they were.

I was careful like I usual am, I didn't say where I lived and I didn't share any pictures. And they were supportive of that and encouraged it. 
I'm worried just a little bit though, because if I take a step back and look at it on paper, it doesn't sound all that great. 32 year-old stranger games with lonely 16 year old girl. He also dates someone who's a lot younger. I'd don't think that's all bad but it doesn't sound good and it'd be hard to explain to my protective, single mom.. 

I just wanted to get some advice from some other parents before I work up the courage to tell mine. I'd don't think my judgment it clouded, but few do until its too late. I really think they're good people. I'd don't think he's targeting me because of my age or being predatory because when we met and started playing together, completely by chance, he had no idea how old. But I can also acknowledge that I'm young and I don't know everything. 

What do you think about it? How do I even tell my mom? I don't want her to freak and from the game, but I really think she should be aware.",3.0905797101449286,4.191910996779388,4.078220611916262,89.868731884058,73.4927536231884,7.074718196457328,24.77214170692432,7.423996415210882,0.9583030595813202,2343,70,512,26,46,758,264,621,0.065,0.8029999999999999,0.132,0.9902,2,3,1,0,1,0,69.0,6,1,4,5,39,36,0,0,25,2,56,2,1,12,3,100,102,54,0,5,16,4,2,1,6,1,0,8,1,3,30,36,0,1,20,11,0,4,12,5,0,4,43,11,68,31,65,52,14,65,0,2,1,1,72,22,0,13,39,332,98,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852478104996275,0.0,0.0,0.05997217399333653,0.0,0.0,0.0957896041237054,0.09966820080686196,0.0,0.0,0.040727926096534806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598998978795644,0.0,0.0,0.13815742048581242,0.050006473954320126,0.1460359634050762,0.0,0.10192564048553192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307708961602517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610628545513188,0.06152454317387681,0.0,0.0,0.06279456222603606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626823990221481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911486644222697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382615889131423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03028268343264795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050943244431697135,0.0,0.1313347557372475,0.23135814669421795,0.0,0.03129056971018381,0.0,0.0,0.10046743970221958,0.047900294845814616,0.1980900795774243,0.0,0.0,0.052961403554722494,0.0,0.05365056212701805,0.0,0.0614654330036758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06007554492459464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760963633759783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062367248504906214,0.0658290422598471,0.0,0.06755964397290799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02925971189041573,0.12005300930079392,0.05288484031616001,0.0,0.050293346615363485,0.0,0.0,0.1527515307284985,0.054053955643238255,0.17001090496389026,0.03997770004884951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028720434796965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057843090134891036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4399186255787385,0.0,0.08116736793000491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665018553813431,0.0,0.0,0.2076043530873176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186133350681587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26857390690799826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091013558651538,0.047627718098786666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452250680578368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067319980684136,0.0,0.0,0.15223632123167372,0.04610700914535069,0.0,0.0,0.08478230018275197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685608533202158,0.0,0.06796358428820094,0.0,0.0,0.0450305700111908,0.09627621624679056,0.10469472793171143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957782339009609,0.26863009107240776,0.11768518471882215,0.0,0.0349229171681433,0.0,0.05676965446134216,0.05722840631837579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06234863145334961,0.07204148527803274,0.05172658489799237,0.06596146276814151,0.09883267601377023,0.07065051376835547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551954658932845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494922251608884,0.17440541242017374,0.06082220624895154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713566629796087
parenting,morningstar197654321,2020/04/06,"Baby names are hard to decide on! My fiancé is no help, he just agrees with whatever I say. Could I get some real opinions on some baby names? 

Boy- 
Leo Wesley
Samson Alfred
Phoenix Lee
Apollo Grey

Girl- 
Lyra Imani
Reina Harper
Cordelia Bee
Pandora Rae
Alara Maureen
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parenting,sandykwm,2020/04/06,"Should we have our 14 year old daughter quit her job at a nursing home? My husband wants my daughter to quit her job at the nursing home after all the covid19 scare, stating its not worth the risk. I understand where he is coming from but I'm worried what else we are teaching her by having her quit especially when she is really needed at this time. She has no opinion and says its ultimately our decision. No reports as of yet of any confirmed cases and they do have strict procedures set in place but husband states its not worth the risk especially since she is only 14. Need some advice on what to do?",5.224067796610168,6.2608044152542375,5.5625,81.4535805084746,68.40677966101696,8.272881355932205,30.85169491525424,8.472884824447931,2.2779796610169494,483,19,92,7,8,154,80,118,0.114,0.857,0.028999999999999998,-0.8613,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,1,3,3,3,0,3,5,0,11,0,0,0,1,18,17,6,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,6,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,4,3,0,0,0,1,15,0,13,16,2,17,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,2,6,63,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729604542177302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036474926730703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246815487457446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785916593927162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550869683276553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35128652352418066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624836352112269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857296880639361,0.0,0.0,0.13461499928837714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492529896272014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5647776668462383,0.0,0.0,0.11338948853668625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075596026045098,0.1772059340683102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641462299640828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320899126224203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842612210171109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043980407347337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975012004508514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398094653180313
parenting,Hubb1e,2020/04/06,Pregnant with our 5th...And probably 6th. Not sure if I'm excited or terrified We already have 8 yo identical girls and 4 yo boy/girl twins. I thought we were done. I just found out we're almost 2 months in to a third pregnancy. Part of me wants another set of twins but practically I'm crossing my fingers for just one. We still need to visit the doc to find out for sure. I'm freaking out. Sometimes I'm crying knowing how hard it was the last 2 times. I thought we were finally in the clear when they turned 4 and could play independently. I had part of my life back. Then I find myself laughing at how absurd our family is and wanting to go all in for 6. I'm so confused. Wish us luck.,1.3972827172827174,3.423936685314686,3.3292357642357655,89.38638111888113,80.74825174825175,6.882917082917084,24.899600399600395,7.957251820313856,1.3923390609390611,538,21,118,10,14,181,97,143,0.131,0.7340000000000001,0.135,0.3832,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,7,0,1,0,8,8,0,1,4,0,8,2,1,3,4,38,23,11,0,6,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,11,0,0,6,1,0,3,1,2,0,2,8,2,17,6,18,14,3,19,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,5,8,69,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484663532800847,0.0,0.1816661037144616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172622072482315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658529445791278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314384531820684,0.0,0.1808311625696162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684669760101304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519236575456333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803369755208176,0.3009257564831342,0.0,0.0,0.18050114864367464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355931738842292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747030266199573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047275928838933,0.13419010813840926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627843236256867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140089107295844,0.0,0.0,0.12206622442453595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155313048330108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35654237262586314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17749195484394367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628168310528899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146852371735648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103113631724884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613853088715099,0.09599327500862004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790630733312629,0.0,0.0,0.1980217767899404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941983874088435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893088774921418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ecstatic_Direction,2020/04/06,"$500 child stipend ****EDIT: in relation to CORONAVIRUS*****

I’m so pissed off. My uninvolved ex legally gets to claim 1 of the kids for taxes.

He’s going to get the $500 Coronavirus government stipend for our kid that he hasn’t seen for a year. And he is sure as shit going to pocket the money for himself and his pot.",-1.2830329670329623,0.07952563076923269,1.2884065934065951,94.09480769230773,115.76923076923076,4.934065934065933,18.48901098901099,6.5431188927421005,0.5695934065934067,246,9,52,5,14,83,49,65,0.177,0.77,0.054000000000000006,-0.8877,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,4,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,8,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,1,12,7,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,2,2,0,1,26,5,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799228262976175,0.0,0.5220531080540436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4714572266766005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4328778151943061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957693589549683
parenting,indaclubbebopping,2020/04/06,Stepson is very controlling over brother. Title says it all. My 8 year old stepson is very controlling of his younger 6 year old brother. The younger brother will do anything for his older brother and will let his older brother boss him around to the point where he will take blame for things he didn’t do. The older brother will push his brother into things that he doesn’t want to do. The older brother will constantly blame him for stuff he didn’t do and the younger brother will allow it and take the blame. My wife wants to separate them more but I feel like that might cause the boys unneeded stress. During the quarantine it has gotten much worse because they’re no longer separated during school time. The second part of this is that my wife’s older brother was the same way growing up and is currently serving time for beating his girlfriend half to death.  she’s worried that the older son is going to end up like him.,6.493251155624037,7.175402875706215,5.81878787878788,82.00442218798152,65.44067796610169,8.24427324088341,33.04006163328197,8.00094639256281,2.3757389830508457,747,30,136,8,11,227,94,177,0.14400000000000002,0.794,0.062,-0.9514,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,3,3,3,0,1,11,0,22,0,0,5,1,19,29,5,1,3,1,13,1,2,1,7,0,1,0,1,11,6,0,2,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,4,2,14,2,16,17,5,26,0,0,0,0,30,7,0,1,17,88,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135807780016334,0.14210042103576728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973061434096306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397922488950878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249831603762736,0.3580668493155724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138069769620076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071138281882309,0.11403639557428365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071877582329813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322775484664054,0.0,0.15596978469944753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693372912191536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173430130132985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33499994597040744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285871934843178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508975692712975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694050039547725,0.0,0.1615493955132654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285032097754456,0.0,0.18273285757586666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400368238704157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120960046956156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18615767278201176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263415293644557,0.18830235688283106,0.1267031880362183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621073107131606,0.16267188828197848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558700834443608
parenting,Khierson,2020/04/06,"3 Month old has smelly and raw looking rash So my daughter has a pretty bad and foul smelling rash under her armpit and behind her knee. I try to not scrub at it since it’s painful for her, so she’s been getting baths every day, not hair washed everyday, and I was prescribed some cream to put on the rashes. But it’s been 3 days and they haven’t really cleared up at all.. and no matter how much I try to keep them dry they always are wet and sticky when I check them.. and smell reallllly bad, like fish. Please does anyone have any advice?? I really want to avoid having to take her in again with all this going on.

Edit: she also has pretty bad cradle cap that the doctors thinks is causing her breakout and rashes",4.1077931034482775,4.988736089655177,4.63189655172414,87.68025862068968,70.86206896551724,6.90344827586207,22.77586206896552,6.742157984588678,0.4954689655172415,563,12,118,4,10,179,100,145,0.151,0.75,0.099,-0.8817,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,4,0,6,6,0,1,3,0,11,10,7,2,3,24,18,15,0,1,3,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,5,10,0,2,1,1,1,2,4,5,0,0,3,6,17,1,15,15,4,16,0,0,2,0,12,7,0,1,8,74,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182143287072213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061314488817528,0.1463066821186577,0.0,0.0,0.11957209397819593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229461357302645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404382478753006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18062835905062904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267947650043272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997196086562786,0.15387215988418684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814642076694465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918651966994146,0.0,0.09992963208043923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628795851649213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590285229950359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765497152289028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403477822037576,0.0,0.1292570805901204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845065756453501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18709812144749235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301122606644194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35776962440582033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767601751726009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252855368699023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545041772843928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322041180419435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266633267428533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387573800679247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371053330697803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kathara14,2020/04/07,"4 Year Old Son Answering in First Language I am bilingual and I have been trying to teach my son my native language. My husband speaks English only. I am the only member of the household that speaks a secondary language. Son understands my language, but only answers in English. Any idea on how to make it so that he answers back in secondary language?",4.420820512820517,6.977569876923081,4.79192307692308,80.0022435897436,73.30769230769229,5.564102564102565,35.44871794871795,6.42735559955562,2.5611025641025646,282,16,43,2,6,89,42,65,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,9,6,4,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,7,0,7,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,4,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827234379660214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419339094005855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480027205444957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291383172351604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462008130478625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059455595530467,0.0,0.0,0.6652387409492327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19795164477689867,0.0,0.0,0.30352660878104365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877565446244328
parenting,swerve408,2020/04/07,"Gf’s nephew is about the same age as my daughter (2 yrs old) yet act completely different? My daughter: talks in phrases/sentences, knows abc’s colors, songs, how to ask questions, can sit still, engage in learning activities etc

Could it be a boy vs girl thing? Or could he be developmentally behind?

My gf’s nephew: has to touch something at all times, still puts things in his mouth, babbles but no words come out, refuses to nap, doesn’t respond to no, extremely impulsive, etc

They seem completely different, and I’m really not sure why. I guess I am lucky that my daughter is a little more structured? I don’t want to throw around the learning disability possibility since I am not educated on the topic, but I would not be surprised if he has something along those lines",4.188785145888595,6.566323082758622,4.873103448275864,79.99108753315653,73.3448275862069,8.047745358090186,29.084880636604773,8.841846274778883,2.5020610079575603,617,26,113,13,13,198,104,145,0.08,0.8690000000000001,0.051,-0.6339,2,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,0,5,0,15,1,1,1,2,30,22,7,0,5,8,5,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,5,5,0,1,5,2,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,3,11,4,16,16,5,19,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,6,6,71,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439904409541712,0.15164209415748586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972737820064285,0.3401429060344973,0.0,0.0,0.2590189421363646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33894457774854164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618084278859779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868982283242746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914498700991097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257450491798867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020946038564996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828645576684495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306331592014225,0.18170949664060068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391426302611532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766759454782494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417970079295075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497504803490167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590782005805355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287862698462704,0.0,0.0,0.13037622532628745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21552687959168804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945844840036888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567417230928148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636701781096256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522753736835928,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,childtherapist88,2020/04/07,"3.5 yr old boy who cries a lot So I do have my masters in counseling but I don’t work with very young children. My only experience with a young boy is my own. My question is, is it normal for a 3.5 year old boy to be very emotional? Like he doesn’t have full blown kicking and screaming meltdowns but almost every question he asks he is crying. When he wakes up he’s crying, when he’s tired he’s crying, hungry crying, wants to go outside, crying. He never asks a question without starting to cry. I am not sure if I am supposed to punish this behavior. I just try to calm him down and tell him he doesn’t need to do that, just to ask his question in a big boy voice. What should/shouldn’t I do?",0.7069051724137942,2.9128702206896584,2.592650862068965,92.61587284482759,84.72413793103449,4.7284482758620685,21.47629310344828,5.985473137389443,0.19066379310344805,542,18,115,4,16,180,84,145,0.22899999999999998,0.695,0.076,-0.9798,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,5,5,1,0,5,0,15,2,1,0,2,22,22,8,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,5,5,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,2,13,3,15,21,3,16,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,7,10,68,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962421162341602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695547658012533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7390203392691537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811287448935916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097836357074313,0.0,0.0,0.09401581392651023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05462256891666984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04695538622709118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171084241474767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126570545983857,0.07412736979973336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416918870144132,0.0,0.0,0.2017063994722675,0.0,0.0,0.07309737905787385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306689914209225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802844924126386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058426404579784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400597730396676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104664120460238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525362485386642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586046537800552,0.056689248574286276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926483761078429,0.0,0.06997055824537059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189286853660321
parenting,ChewieWookie,2020/04/07,"Breaking a bad hygiene habit with a toddler My three year old has picked up the habit of wiping his mouth with his hand recently, something I think he picked up at daycare.  At dinner we encourage him to use a napkin, but he immediately goes right back to using his hand.  When we correct him he lowers his head as if in shame but then goes right back to it.  How can we break him of this habit now?",4.880125,5.2079117625,5.252500000000001,85.9025,68.875,7.9,27.25,7.554174236665415,1.2871999999999997,311,9,66,3,5,99,55,80,0.094,0.807,0.099,0.1027,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,4,0,2,5,4,5,1,15,5,7,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,12,1,13,5,0,17,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,1,8,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183954100760632,0.2271591251089293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792125275281536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28548169353567593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686268885229348,0.0,0.0,0.4646763028448411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094454383729336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743253612713148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4699457826614303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519802022979225
parenting,Nayners12,2020/04/07,"Baby Sign Language Has anyone taught their baby sign language successfully? My baby boy is 11 weeks and I'm very interested in it. 

Any advice on how to do this and what age to start at? I do not know sign language but think it could be helpful for when he is older. Im thinking basic words like milk, water, sleep, please,  ect. How did you do it? Any books/ youtube channels to recommend? 

Really any input would be appreciated!",1.9695121951219503,4.684039121951219,3.725073170731708,82.96078048780491,84.60975609756099,5.719024390243902,21.614634146341466,7.1686216300943375,0.9832351219512194,336,11,61,5,10,112,62,82,0.0,0.758,0.242,0.9718,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,2,0,15,17,6,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,7,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,34,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524016771418029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5269458510829914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060500566172516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062265532774979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312886564401495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790015889290289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195149792050868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618928633875826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835289890931106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654695994315736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584803010162098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828216558366774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310084294990364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311940629894854,0.0,0.0,0.20718767772078986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348447938313656,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,additional-one,2020/04/07,"Gift suggestions for first time parents. My brother is having his first child is 3 weeks, I have no idea what to buy him and his wife. 
My budget is £120 / us $150. 
Is there any items you recommend that you wish you had sooner? 
Any must have for first time parents?",1.8505555555555588,3.781289611111109,2.6071851851851875,95.60633333333335,78.81481481481481,5.801481481481483,20.059259259259264,6.742157984588678,0.06279703703703676,205,5,46,2,5,64,40,54,0.039,0.812,0.149,0.7399,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,4,10,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,10,0,3,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,0,6,31,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30926304319289555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5802479151181222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566931818891395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5049745504954115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651833441013911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27351956149709505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239680109154727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614847821211366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FancyForager,2020/04/07,"LPT: clean your bathroom while your kid is in the tub Of course you can't leave the bathroom while your little kid is in the tub, so instead of scrolling on your phone, take this time to clean the sink, toilet, mirror, and floors. Since I started doing this my bathroom is never dirty and I wouldn't be embarrassed if company stopped by unexpectedly.",9.480454545454542,7.710053409090911,8.008181818181821,76.83227272727272,60.36363636363636,10.618181818181819,37.151515151515156,8.841846274778883,3.02218787878788,279,10,53,3,3,84,46,66,0.027999999999999997,0.812,0.16,0.8,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,6,9,6,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,7,7,0,11,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,6,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510828247845543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269736962030455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285649895063461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3523996756556981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015319007200126,0.0,0.0,0.3561632347337785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203063218787803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24840971687956395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tokenflip408619,2020/04/07,"When people in r/yourcity say ""What to do? I'm SOOOO BORED!"" It triggers me. This one dude in my city complained that all he does is drink, workout, play video games, stays up till 5am surfing on his phone and he's 'literally dying of boredom'

Try being working parents with kids at home during the lockdown. My wife's work is meeting based. I have the kid 80% of the day and as a high-level IC what I can usually do in the office or at home in 2 hours now takes almost all freaking day.

BOREDOM IS A LUXURY WE AS PARENTS WILL NEVER KNOW AGAIN!!!!!!!!! STOP CRYING ABOUT IT!!!!!",2.1949137931034493,3.9007631465517254,3.684000000000001,89.311,77.01724137931033,5.67448275862069,24.53103448275862,6.2581,0.6768475862068959,439,15,91,3,10,145,90,116,0.131,0.828,0.040999999999999995,-0.8939,2,1,1,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,1,3,12,12,7,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,6,4,1,1,1,5,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,7,1,16,10,2,19,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,2,10,54,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495658260179724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21386075252512293,0.2511213272546608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020602502331156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037686481397013,0.0,0.0,0.19072469328853087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057034919478625,0.3905852383387349,0.0,0.1917330590442066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699799807453236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15015898713463893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192878977652767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43236633253502266,0.0,0.0,0.13497538113478208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482742310947248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20751647823063088,0.0,0.16277178728803016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638465570663095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218354086206266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442646661635745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28347716056176325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AmyNoelYouTube,2020/04/07,"HOW TO MAKE COVID-19 SCHOOLING ENJOYABLE **Crisis-schooling can be full of tears, yelling, and frustration!**  I have 5 sons (ages 6-14) on the dyslexic and ADHD spectrum, so schoolwork and behavior are particularly challenging.  **Using these tips has helped us be happy at least 80% of the time.**",2.413533333333333,4.263160420000002,2.7910000000000004,82.47383333333336,114.8,5.666666666666668,28.16666666666667,6.816661863887847,2.515066666666667,231,12,36,5,12,71,44,50,0.036000000000000004,0.7859999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.8233,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,3,0,6,8,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,5,6,2,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,23,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37811603700647467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33492232754134144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21088534983010632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100134797215158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6368311041961432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345936228312631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784530623087061,0.2717334933041105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ADM80,2020/04/07,"7 year old socially so awkward Hey parents! Wondering if I can get some outside opinions on my 7yo first grader.

He's a lovely sweet boy, very very active. He plays hockey 3-4 times a week (not during this time obviously), basketball, indoor flag football, soccer, etc.. He loves sports. He's doing pretty well in school, he was a little behind in reading, but he's catching up and on par. And he's great at math. BUT, socially, omg, he's so awkward. It's so sad that they're not in school because he just needs the social interaction. He was in a group at school once a week at lunch as well to work on his social skills, but that stopped after the new year. It's like he tries too hard, and over does it, and the kids are like, huh? I mean, luckily, sports saves him because he loves to talk about it and play with the boys at recess, etc. But he cannot carry a conversation with another kid. Normal for this age?

The biggest issue he has in school is that he distracts the other kids, doesn't follow directions very well, and rushes through things.  If he's told to make up a creative story and draw it, for example. It's narly impossible. We've been working with him at home. He cannot focus on that and gets overwhelmed easily. Maybe he's just not that creative, and thats OK, but its more like he won't think about it. 

He's a sweet boy, but will say weird things that he thinks are 'cool' -- or he'll make weird faces, noises because he doesn't know what else to do. I have seen some other kids doing it, but ugh, he does it a lot and it's like a fall back. Like he's just trying to get a laugh out of the other kids.. He'll go, ""What's up dude"" like really loud, and in a weird manly voice - probably something he heard on tv, and the kids are like, huh? Can he just say hi? 

These zoom calls are painful - I'm off to the side prompting questions and things to say. Hoping he will learn from it. But the faces & sounds he makes are like when he's amped up... When he was 3 he had some sensory issues we worked through, I wonder if some of that is back into play now? 

He's also that kid that needs to be constantly all over us. My younger kid can entertain himself no problem... But the older one needs us to tell him what to do at all times. We've been trying to set time aside for him to ""be bored"" and you'd think we're torturing him. The only thing that keeps his attention is TV/video games/ipad... but we limit tv/screens, video games only on weekends.... 

Does this sound like ADHD behavior? I go back & forth. He's doing OK, but socially is just so off, and I know it's because he SO BADLY wants friends and to engage, but he just doesn't know how to do it. We arrange lots of playdates (in normal times) and he's in a ton of sports with other kids his age.

THANKS FOR READING. Appreciate any thoughts, or tips on how to better help him. Or anything! Sadly, I think just more play dates, etc are probably what he needs, but it's going to be a while.",2.478753992536064,3.9255932207578255,3.5489674881484734,91.68218639679924,75.60626029654037,6.536650640486838,21.942944558383488,7.127189543769624,0.4693298524022453,2283,58,507,24,49,736,262,607,0.075,0.725,0.19899999999999998,0.9979,1,0,1,0,0,0,113.0,5,1,0,7,27,48,1,4,26,5,39,7,2,5,3,97,77,48,0,12,29,1,1,9,1,5,1,8,1,13,42,26,1,3,14,16,0,7,10,15,3,2,10,13,25,33,67,58,14,69,0,3,1,3,94,34,0,17,36,280,67,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596449162086928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050547919678446865,0.0,0.2054595770779028,0.0,0.04298403685516191,0.06627976126469601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201531790183255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581060768722828,0.05277656697653632,0.15412558003332624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05590289786122935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454307978828759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683060752447826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594289782994004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528027007640968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114829973095946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05376522956222656,0.0,0.0,0.0488348318088916,0.0,0.099071703168995,0.0,0.10776876557129546,0.0,0.0,0.06968773924322495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05662251827657156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04236741323367589,0.0,0.0634034109915657,0.06278043312843888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194677808678662,0.0,0.05618273583229148,0.0,0.0,0.10421343227484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27792490051155605,0.06335165414667987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074754360755402,0.1711447729522808,0.0,0.12657675680892772,0.0,0.06350156603934948,0.06885272981876744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18747359702033276,0.0,0.061047290065333076,0.0,0.0,0.12386207657969955,0.0,0.0,0.066326825797712,0.06731512951381577,0.042831804475758205,0.09614602490998332,0.06725844032887036,0.0,0.07018570491099732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430590202728019,0.13629919076155245,0.060482123719140475,0.0,0.0,0.07080813312117848,0.0,0.1264514730679479,0.0,0.04049306781194551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079812204773838,0.0,0.2558820380199239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32216619820956466,0.0,0.04866109253114318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05284524612937072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05080470360335485,0.05524712985988153,0.05819401542784072,0.0,0.0,0.16797202417554394,0.16200615494416315,0.0,0.05018059284358723,0.18428730634199372,0.0,0.0,0.06039855603058901,0.0,0.1287435347517582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206440175479646,0.0,0.0,0.15646122189726308,0.037282088467469186,0.0,0.10140430281535576,0.0,0.1704964519879618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370941288652163,0.1380499093688131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140857246549359
parenting,colecox77,2020/04/07,Covid-19 support @ bonfire.com/covid-together… please support the covid-19 fight by our healthcare workers and all people around the world. Show your support ware a shirt/sweatshirt.,11.561866666666667,16.633410519999998,5.596,69.78466666666668,63.8,4.933333333333334,44.33333333333334,6.42735559955562,3.7379333333333338,153,9,17,1,3,38,21,25,0.084,0.581,0.335,0.7783,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,9,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23734558366946865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483860119244885,0.0,0.0,0.29266531312177235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9076611591982732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,landops,2020/04/07,"Parents Are Not Ok - Parenting during a pandemic [Parents Are Not Ok](https://medium.com/@chloe.cooney/parents-are-not-ok-66ab2a3e42d9)

Therapeutic read. Absolutely no tips or fun activities to do with your kids. But this article hit the nail on the head for us.",11.853333333333332,16.84414322222223,7.58666666666667,56.70000000000002,61.22222222222222,11.377777777777775,34.0,10.686352973137794,5.273133333333334,220,9,26,7,4,60,32,36,0.11,0.8059999999999999,0.083,-0.0209,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,3,1,1,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,0,18,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26861728447619554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8718826305557841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26180745095207464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148369286499568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,those_silly_dogs,2020/04/07,"Ex spouse refuses to set boundaries when it’s time to sleep I’m at wit’s end. My partner and I are suppose to move in at the end of the month. He’s a divorcee who gets to have the kids 3x a week. The 7 year old is wonderful! He’s mischievous but he’s a very nice and sweet kid albeit really picky eater. The problem is the older one. He’s 10 and I get that kids grow up differently. But he’s A LOT more dependent than the one who just turned 7. He cannot be in a room on his own, it doesn’t matter if we’re in the adjacent room. He cannot sleep on his own! My partner has to be in the room until he falls asleep. This could be 30 mins to an hour. His ex refuses to set boundaries. She lets him sleep with her every night he’s at her place. She doesn’t want to lock to room so he can stay on his own bed next to his brother. This has become worse this last month. He starts to cry at bedtime. Cry that he can’t sleep, cry that he wants to be in bedroom, cry that dad is not next to him even though he literally was just there for 30 mins. The little one is starting to pick it up as well. He started crying the last time. The 3x he visits has become stressful and a nightmare for everyone. I’m losing it. I can’t stand his lazy ex. 

What else can we do aside from going to the pediatrician? I feel like the problem is the ex. She wants to take him to therapy but what’s the point of if she wouldn’t lift a finger to discipline him?",-0.5422191520594062,1.4971694728434493,1.6580709783265704,98.24225887229085,89.09584664536742,4.9173301096623785,17.085657542526555,6.382479282647008,-0.4415687937138415,1107,27,272,12,37,370,150,313,0.135,0.8059999999999999,0.059000000000000004,-0.9829,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,0,0,1,8,8,0,1,24,0,27,6,6,2,0,30,42,14,0,9,8,7,2,1,2,1,0,0,6,5,15,6,0,3,2,0,0,5,8,4,1,3,1,3,23,4,41,34,5,53,0,1,0,0,50,21,0,5,24,156,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21121152833945986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634550260914405,0.0,0.5251753067517321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990348169684522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987898660151793,0.0,0.16938345947338604,0.0,0.0,0.0631566982455414,0.0,0.08056472675543146,0.09136986135373816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834879677178324,0.06831158532600295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999159403528928,0.0,0.05434355728375268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416731860247272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558875808864114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777884197957493,0.0,0.04671553850031247,0.09583725566188282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697532079830677,0.0,0.0812934641035233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264736961501324,0.10162987693372852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338780977838755,0.08973373088620833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033804242110106,0.0,0.19438557609713855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990348169684522,0.0,0.09039265163417047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299256213339685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061257192802609085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827597985229696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20304288144561725,0.10191914956252493,0.0,0.0,0.1095334102804751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189501164356514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935082500650943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394704223744167,0.0,0.11151462376811816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400807375050816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788972512563006,0.16919904107601105,0.0,0.07670131289412864,0.0,0.08597466674288651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369677994025524,0.0,0.0,0.09744585946052424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157672027300416
parenting,mm_design,2020/04/07,"Passing by time while in isolation I am curious as to what people are doing with their kids while in isolation. Lets share the fun ideas! 

Here is a video I've made of how [I let my kids dress me for a week](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8iQ315urOzI) it was not at all what I Expected. Deffinetly a pleasant change where they prepare my outfits rather then I do it for them. I think it was really beneficial for them to take control and be creative with making mommy look different. 

would you ever let your kids dress you?",6.082455357142859,7.827386739583337,5.24607142857143,81.87750000000005,67.02083333333334,8.81904761904762,29.339285714285715,9.23628265651192,2.4683410714285707,421,15,76,8,7,126,71,96,0.053,0.773,0.175,0.909,1,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,4,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,4,2,15,17,6,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,15,3,13,9,1,10,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,0,5,60,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23437044689548664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484870825408552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23147251981077435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20040459345848727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501029010750333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6796494342170593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604614038250172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20963589831851212,0.14788629701539396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359482403862454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193055671053872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657797330287138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196024779194258,0.0,0.0,0.12918754442254787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777139882098748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738271196674453,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poltyy,2020/04/07,"Need help navigating an inappropriate playmate. My kids are JUST turned 3 and 6 last month. 6yo is in kindergarten. A nearby neighbor moved in with a 15yo son who is certainly intellectually disabled in some manner. Maybe the mental capacity of a 10yo. He has confirmed that he attends the non-mainstream school for similarly abled kids. 

I am very sympathetic to this kid, who is perfectly nice and I am certain he is bored. However, my concern is that he asks my sons to do things that are “too old”. Like, he has a fort in the woods where he lights a campfire. Or to go swimming in his pool although my sons can’t swim yet (pool actually hasn’t been open yet, but will soon). And he also started to tell my sons a story about a kid he knew who liked to drink out of a squirt gun, which my one son was doing at the time, but one day the kid who liked to do that got hold of a real gun...at which point I ended the conversation. 

So I finally told the kid after about three encounters that he was welcome to come hang out with me, but that my kids were practically babies and way too young to hang out with him.  The first time after that worked out great and we had a nice time talking while I was gardening. But twice after that I had to stop him after he asked my sons to go hiking and biking, reminding him that he was my friend but not theirs, and my kids can’t just go off with him. 

He also says he doesn’t believe in quarantine, which is a whole other aspect to this thing, and I’ve repeatedly had to remind him to talk to us from the street if he wanted to be here. 

Anyway, obviously the next step is to talk to his mom. What do I say? I have never even seen her one time in my life. What would you all say?",4.4915889554571535,4.792093487106019,5.439798124511594,84.31679017973434,69.7163323782235,8.523104975253974,25.892289658765307,8.438071523408619,1.3956234957020053,1333,35,292,19,22,439,184,349,0.021,0.863,0.11599999999999999,0.9853,1,1,1,2,0,0,37.0,2,1,1,3,16,12,0,0,22,0,34,2,0,0,6,43,48,20,0,4,10,7,0,3,2,2,1,3,2,8,23,19,1,2,1,7,0,11,6,1,0,6,13,5,32,11,45,32,3,54,0,0,1,0,60,17,0,3,28,198,55,2,0.1215345074883808,0.0,0.11860014774518685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438220345849996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272367170981661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369277715380787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469121680050517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837970303105901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905754866837905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076435002817297,0.0,0.0,0.08027239597683665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313511239372705,0.0,0.10337718998368478,0.0,0.0,0.09389725900614217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072125841084129,0.0,0.0972022480270075,0.13399222356044208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146201853199364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990668445976636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584341684143372,0.17812686424117993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209774812016032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247819832705815,0.0,0.0,0.14233974629947738,0.09700768437038998,0.1291719477257087,0.0,0.09011629734448166,0.093734904539767,0.0,0.12925332749281926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753002130436514,0.0,0.2470647828357079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488939300094947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833287681159476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28994735517811765,0.0,0.12299940999592868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602274993495303,0.0,0.0,0.10160829021529247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.293054500421516,0.1062265163951019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148425289472707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28347099468437714,0.0,0.0,0.11613143015204595,0.0,0.0,0.13219464463499284,0.0,0.0,0.1461910483593028,0.0,0.0,0.10027869680120327,0.07168420136715764,0.09646843507859718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356889373632978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847856892053939,0.0,0.0,0.08633462712437634,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,therachelsparkles,2020/04/07,"My son discovered the TV My 2 month old has started staring at the TV. At first I thought it was cute but then started panicking that it might be bad for his development. It captivates him and keeps him quiet so it's very tempting to let him watch. He only watches for minutes at a time, it isnt like we plop him in front of the TV for hours. He mostly interacts with us as he has started smiling and cooing more. And he likes to look at books and other bright toys, so it isnt just the TV that catches his interest. Is it okay to let him have a little screen time? I've read the cons to letting babies watch TV, but again, it's only for a few minutes a day. Definitely not even an hour for the entire day.",2.832475429975428,3.890667763513516,4.327542997542999,88.000257985258,74.06756756756758,7.273710073710076,26.29238329238329,7.686295010490155,1.2814243243243246,551,19,121,7,11,184,90,148,0.069,0.7829999999999999,0.147,0.9115,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,11,1,12,0,0,0,0,14,18,10,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,11,6,0,1,1,8,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,8,12,6,17,11,3,22,0,0,7,0,15,6,0,2,16,80,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099286124431976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178042641899249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153187282152026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363407826064534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33259045181501423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009245828835865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5180190385778133,0.0,0.16499505653538518,0.16924425923103456,0.0,0.0,0.1418016964629401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913608069725187,0.0,0.0,0.13478417560914172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719244509841955,0.0,0.0,0.2568545838791095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890786970224314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35856454595940324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405770343302334,0.19692978229309926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031204029086092,0.0,0.0,0.1393289775674183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,orangeleave,2020/04/07,"I've just hit my son I feel like I don't deserve to live. I come from an abusive household and I am very scared to repeat same behaviors. I havent been sleeping well for the last two weeks because I've been preparing for something crucial in my career. Needless to say it has been stressfull and exhausting, sometimes to the point where is nerve wrecking. 
This morning my son hit me hard with his hand several times because he didnt want to drink his formula milk- we ran out of regular milk last night and didn't want to risk going to the supermarket.
So he was not having it and then I grabbed his hand very hard. Then he slapped me and I slapped him, not hard though. I asked my husband to tell him to stop, but he was upset that I woke him up. I then told him to go back to sleep ""its not like you're helping anyways"" I said. 
He said I would regret to have said that. I immediately apologized  but he was spiteful and said he wouldnt talk to me for a long time. With this quarantine hppening, I begged him to please forgive me, that I was very tired and to please stop this because we need to be together in this. He said that he needed space but then I bursted into tears. He mocked my crying saying he did not feel sorry for me and that I was a miserable annoying etc etc and I just felt terrible. He said for me to stop this or else he would brake the quarantine in order to get away from me. And call the cops on me  He said I was the worst person to be around with.
I can't stop crying and feeling like I don't deserve to live.
Please tell me there is a better place after this and that I havent ruined my son's life forever.
How do I fix this?",2.2664461646727645,3.8970849941690986,3.437335880164877,91.48481049562685,76.60932944606414,6.713541771388358,24.072484166080226,7.503015589744147,0.9136511309942694,1295,42,287,17,29,419,162,343,0.193,0.7040000000000001,0.10300000000000001,-0.986,0,2,2,0,2,0,27.0,2,0,0,1,11,18,3,4,10,0,29,10,4,1,0,51,54,23,0,8,10,4,10,3,0,3,3,9,0,1,16,21,3,5,5,1,0,4,12,12,1,1,23,19,48,6,41,24,4,36,0,3,0,0,47,13,0,1,21,183,64,1,0.0,0.0968521617249143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276865570001183,0.07641872845143774,0.0,0.076800297549665,0.06285536896649221,0.0,0.14948943561868352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229509554409759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834688057064159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041440987261091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795818304587033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007708083418813,0.0,0.0,0.06828583924580875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233024382626706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399524472773653,0.11679451962674604,0.07848615852717812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04270737606542069,0.0,0.09291293178857672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196771826881176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479065137711103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326301123386078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057737542107820235,0.11980659324938557,0.0,0.1443612426658306,0.07234003755041203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122288939497343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671032624374635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137488874628364,0.08540410164790113,0.26918800522809944,0.07727361526612131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5442945964277588,0.1300107276295914,0.08183906523699701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923463928027465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360419168863718,0.0,0.0,0.06292980271884974,0.08084597846542914,0.09150466548641516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27336344011774955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570197684942207,0.14289407828810785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031214336566506,0.0,0.09533007360463754,0.09395162485875597,0.0,0.07810899874629397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798510938254969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20233976088480612,0.09642835169403548,0.0,0.06556935365691552,0.0,0.0734968296694085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613585181876565,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slinky_Girl,2020/04/07,"Kids with speech delays- How are they now? Parents who have kids with a diagnosed speech delay, how are your kids doing now?

My three year old son has a diagnosed speech delay. He has an IEP and is at a special pre-school to help him catch up. I'm interested in hearing from parents who are/were in the same situation.",1.272738095238097,3.8681541111111097,2.6526785714285737,90.07044642857146,87.25396825396825,5.68968253968254,22.160714285714285,7.1686216300943375,0.8759857142857146,251,9,51,4,8,81,46,63,0.071,0.799,0.13,0.594,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,7,2,0,2,0,9,9,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,3,2,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,2,8,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,0,7,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5317087785289094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952152045721729,0.0,0.1755667870007732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27485245872902125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5816866201693798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650880938764714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944213496711625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867493683477666
parenting,alidevos,2020/04/07,"My child won't keep her clothes on My daughter is 21 months old. She has had a fascination with being able to talk of her socks , shoes or headbands for a while now. Recently I have found her screaming as me naked in her crib on multiple occasions. She keeps trying to take off her pants and diaper when we are downstairs.(diaper flung off and everything. Which is a problem because a) she isn't potty trained b)she scratches herself and no cutting her nails and filing them doesn't help because it's honestly more of a danger to her and myself to try and cut them because of how much she moves. c) she was so cold because she was standing on the crib to yell for us instead of in her nice cozy pajamas and blankets.

She is trying to learn to use the toilet (not by my insinuation). She will go and sit on the toilet excited for me to help her through the steps of undressing her and she will sit there for a while.

I'm just not sure what I should do. Should I try to be more assertive with potty training her now that I am home and keep her out of a diaper? Or should I switch her to pull ups or is there something else I should be thinking of entirely. Im honestly exhausted from her getting up in the middle of the night again and at 530 in the morning. I'm trying to keep everyone entertained and happy, and clean the house more and cook everything here so its busy I just wasnt expecting this change too. We have carpet in our home and a senior dog (17) who also has accidents every so often I have another child who was completely different at that age and didnt want to learn to use the toilet till closer to 3.  I am trying to help do school work too and learn  a bit more french to help him do it and keep them entertained and outside around the yard while their dad works in the upstairs.",5.314462352052381,5.540880518005544,5.812869554268451,82.61356774112315,67.9196675900277,9.33371946612944,29.705489801057663,9.218907990703514,2.2791263157894743,1421,48,293,25,22,459,185,361,0.087,0.843,0.071,-0.2163,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,4,2,19,14,3,0,20,0,33,3,1,3,1,54,48,33,0,7,7,2,1,0,0,7,1,2,5,2,10,25,1,5,5,4,0,4,8,6,0,0,7,4,48,8,53,31,6,41,0,0,0,0,44,20,0,4,14,215,58,7,0.10557134055698808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442536290154856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107007555087556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398087551968266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574212373031342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525656115074988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168048004908684,0.0,0.11068954199519443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029958116761547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819130841682388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894840767384474,0.1008779400626101,0.18976142722657005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575352582503655,0.0,0.0,0.055156668144632534,0.0,0.05999862573103418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123826551140147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830489769079938,0.0,0.21179332467924974,0.0,0.0,0.12181515272325688,0.0,0.0,0.1140351639345422,0.0,0.0,0.4691832909857138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426603682324835,0.1122056275668373,0.0776070825035171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990715515139934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077936290357902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101751519206513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423896257860274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684383282855063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127397570981157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949973908946556,0.0,0.07937650958341412,0.0848542445684015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676458522450203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300560621203901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698932403374066,0.1823594842726797,0.0,0.0,0.06226871191962844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371438654816985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heeeeeezyy,2020/04/07,"3 year old doesn’t like his 18 mo brother. Pushes, takes any toy he grabs. My 3 year old got diagnosed about a year ago (mild-moderate). He’s very friendly, seems to like all of the neighbor kids and is not mean to them at all - let’s them play with his toys, etc. He has a high language comprehension level but can only request things by pronouncing the first letter of words and still can’t do K/C sound. He pretty much ignored his little brother until he started getting more active and playing, but didn’t mind him playing with his toys. Recently in the last few months he has started taking any toy 18 mo picks up even if he hasn’t showed interest in that particular thing in months. If 18mo is in arms length, he gives him a little push. It’s constant throughout the day, and it is DRAINING. If the little one is laying down he lays on top of him even though it makes him cry. It almost seems like a dominance thing? He makes him cry all day by doing these things. He doesn’t hit or anything. Started ABA a couple months ago and attended for a few weeks before Covid shut everything down, and seemed to be improving very quickly in various areas but hadn’t touched on this issue yet they were focusing most on language. Any advice on this? Or maybe a reasoning behind it that we could work on the core of the issue? 

I’ve also seen on here an adversity to ABA...I haven’t heard anything like that before and was so happy with the improvements I was seeing in that short time. What’s the reasoning behind that, just curious.

Thanks!",4.6940523494165864,5.7780245894039775,5.1788363292336825,83.54694260485655,69.66225165562913,8.136486912645854,27.29485966572059,8.418075326091056,1.7915482182276885,1214,39,237,18,21,388,172,302,0.046,0.782,0.17300000000000001,0.9901,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,3,3,13,13,0,0,17,0,22,2,1,5,3,39,41,19,0,4,10,2,2,4,2,0,1,2,1,1,18,11,0,1,6,8,0,3,8,2,0,2,8,6,15,11,34,29,10,53,0,0,2,0,33,25,0,10,29,144,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933915463627254,0.16943706799541486,0.0,0.09570123915868434,0.0,0.0,0.07642864350871277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497607321529334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729471021560648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264893277992185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327904110737893,0.0,0.07630621527455249,0.10574825378535684,0.20996202078353748,0.12327166324274184,0.0,0.0,0.09700325046560654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658769416130208,0.12624839571825736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589366971461393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812932280797234,0.0,0.0,0.07383844824619308,0.0,0.04993226184494342,0.09168107068959884,0.0,0.0,0.07643740867756668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173783788513746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097673449112564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199504021701969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790368063097282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977285250656829,0.0,0.18676599488622864,0.2873638136602718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758968630399126,0.0,0.09601460522886444,0.10410558486671208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650015937374387,0.0,0.22885322610101505,0.0,0.07025618651268804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20057281708941668,0.0,0.06476184847837435,0.07268657453531348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723076424933144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652722321176191,0.09436551098901998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615826077508216,0.2610146230782489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293839574119232,0.0,0.07632367263717021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371602905613107,0.0,0.0,0.08798956886392738,0.0,0.0,0.2539743284553702,0.0,0.09389869716463277,0.0,0.05572861921595091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577133015877915,0.0,0.0,0.07666184245984896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957732633823867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463509882597792
parenting,Unfair_Main,2020/04/07,"What should kid eat at every stage of their lives? Just curios to know what babies are supposed to eat when they are 2 weeks old, 3 months old, 9 months old, 1 year, 2 year... and so on. (Not necessarily these ages). 
I would like to see how things change.",1.4017647058823501,3.434391921568629,2.0389803921568657,98.61141176470586,80.76470588235293,4.864313725490196,14.121568627450984,5.6839178017228535,-1.230932549019608,192,2,46,1,5,59,41,51,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,8,6,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,6,4,0,13,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,11,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739471194253288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4205613330584181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314497086244005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129389636038711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039828692045416,0.0,0.18146273591789613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280607460440215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6469218526912428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375912373807114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136526927796598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648419490887117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598329177570007,0.0,0.0,0.2646741289110161
parenting,Toti0701,2020/04/07,"Not a parent but advice from a 15 year old son Please dont scare your kids and tell them that we are all going to die or tell them about all ur conspiracy theories on how the virus was made by the government to lower the population.

Every single time i walk past my mom and she’s watching the news she tells me “son we’re going to die” EVERY SINGLE TIME. It makes me feel unsafe and kinda scared, i’ve never been a mother but I’m sure u aren’t supposed to tell your kids that they’re going to die and make them feel scared.

My mom has always been a conspiracy theorist and I’m fine with that since it has just been little things that haven’t scared any of us, but these new ones about the virus being made to kill us is horrible on my sisters. Ive seen her talking to them about it and they seemed genuinely scared about it and it makes me scared since all my 3 sisters never seem scared of anything, im the one that always feels scared about stuff. 

Please just don’t scare your kids by telling them stuff about this virus, it scares the shit about us.",5.061591634172281,5.079015336405533,5.112626728110602,88.13839064161645,68.44700460829493,8.151577454803263,23.60475008862105,7.61054688173877,0.7531427862460123,836,15,184,8,13,261,111,217,0.251,0.6609999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.9935,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,3,6,0,10,14,2,10,11,0,14,1,1,6,6,35,30,12,4,0,7,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,16,9,0,0,5,0,0,4,7,12,0,2,7,5,25,2,22,22,5,15,0,0,2,0,34,3,1,4,8,111,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873420899354885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705494358742592,0.0,0.0,0.047832759627125784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057882795106251266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190015413817036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243648702293188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852685519510067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669615099464408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992539175074715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597791639160223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778194014316106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049790262812512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331124452847237,0.14085497840102276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164759779528986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084991550683919,0.06793359966216933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380868218363279,0.0,0.09532670999647903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781028539404148,0.0,0.0671462925134965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442164261932995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.704213559234495,0.0,0.0,0.12806750611989892,0.0,0.0,0.07220171247029405,0.11636987590328793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104207265174414,0.0,0.0,0.06629343613576136,0.0,0.0,0.0565356200390195,0.3073958236613329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04672993769491484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203017744740744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25382655431442025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045295846588938746
parenting,staarie,2020/04/07,"Advice as a teenager Hi there!

I’m actually a teenager myself, almost 15 (in a month) and am looking for some advice.

My dad thinks 9pm is an appropriate bedtime for me, and that no devices in my room, even for just a minute.


I want to ask if I’m allowed to stay up later and have my device in my room 8pm-10pm (at least 30 minutes before bed) and 7-9am 

I tend to stay up later and end up being yelled at about 11pm, I do respect my dad wants his sleep but I’m not allowed my door closed considering my room is within sight of his bed.

Please no “it’s your parent, they own you” I hear that enough.

Apologies if this isn’t allowed. I read about how people my age were given free range and they soon learn to manage themselves, and how I could convince my father?

No mother; and I’be made a slideshow but I’m scared I’ll just get screamed at lol",0.9695480225988716,3.0155297118644064,2.645,93.613488700565,82.38983050847456,4.611299435028251,20.567796610169488,5.46131890053228,-0.17097966101694873,657,19,144,3,18,216,111,177,0.08,0.823,0.09699999999999999,0.4753,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,2,0,9,5,0,1,6,1,9,1,1,6,0,29,23,15,0,5,7,5,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,4,9,0,0,2,1,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,6,23,4,21,18,4,22,0,0,2,0,15,14,0,4,6,90,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.1901106278474194,0.0,0.0,0.38074050515134017,0.0,0.0,0.1950783532342796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18212504697015425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577259730884553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554334456022914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254762166250331,0.20129522082502915,0.0,0.12867298977367758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178241681722784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21956984399015894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16359492383010915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843379752300365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549889382349075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21631819510591796,0.0,0.0,0.13505968727777548,0.0,0.0,0.2138475697839982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486699219755965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504307258597384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949549652265025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152921876446097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248291196833157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22981301099102955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FrostCA11,2020/04/07,"The Coronavirus Virus Has Shut Down School Would you all share your tips or ideas about teaching at home? My son is in kindergarten I’m legit gonna buy supplies to start teaching my son. He’s actually having a really really bad temper lately, So that’s something as well. He’s 5, Im going to the store to pick up things that could be of use. Any ideas tips apps anything please recommend. I want to work with him about his emotions as well.",2.245366161616161,4.625811693181821,3.1074242424242438,90.19919191919195,79.79545454545455,6.1838383838383875,21.141414141414145,7.3871296695380915,0.6948444444444437,351,10,71,5,9,111,69,88,0.081,0.7829999999999999,0.136,0.2701,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,1,5,5,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,2,1,10,12,4,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,7,3,14,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,2,38,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.19785762320225514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787895274854614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684839498331394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929023695256934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188172543576249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228069769112943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152291689590294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20337773154391206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4577667830099096,0.21900796913565385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22871414903303225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256184393330655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25977745190847223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051968010137812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608911979118606,0.0,0.0,0.14350957538450865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470004494003365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511344275398188,0.0,0.0,0.11958893790023345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645984876766318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476065560100898,0.0,0.0,0.1440298722020377,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,need_a_venue,2020/04/07,"Potty training during quarentine My son will be 3 in July. My wife and I were going to start potty training ""eventually"" and as we're all together, we got a copy of ""Oh crap!"" and are now on day 4. My wife says it could take weeks to get him to use the potty. I'm praying he just ups and decides to use it.


Our issue right now is our son is taking a firm ""no potty"" stance. He will sit on it, check out his ""bits,"" but as of yet won't pee or poop into the potty. 


The first day was nuts. My son really, really like the idea of peeing on the floor. Carpets, linoleum, whatever.


Day two had less accidents, but the ones that happened were major as our son started holding his pee back. He did not poop until the middle of the night. My wife said after she was done cleaning him up and putting on a new diaper he said, ""thank you, mommy"" which was sweet. 


Day three we had a meltdown because our son figured out we aren't going back to diapers. He's been holding it in until nap or night time where we put a diaper back on. 


Ya'll it's been a long week. I'm proud my son knows when he has to go and understands how the potty works, but he just won't use it. We've read sesame Street books, watched cocoamelon potty songs (which he pays great attention to), and have a round of high fives when we pick him up and out him on the potty. 


I know we just started this and he's had a lifetime of diapers and now nothing. Plus, even before, he was a private pooper which doesn't help as the potty is in the middle of the kitchen. I'm thinking if building him a screen to sit behind so he has something to assist in privacy but then we can't see if he's peed : /


 I'm wondering how long it took your little ones to go from ""no potty"" to ""I need to use the potty"".",2.8784615384615364,3.6568210327868895,4.4081967213114766,88.53052963430014,73.6448087431694,7.379403110550653,23.91298865069357,7.61054688173877,0.928907440100883,1342,36,299,16,26,450,181,366,0.035,0.9009999999999999,0.064,0.9253,1,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,11,2,0,3,17,6,1,0,24,0,29,7,6,7,1,55,60,31,0,4,12,9,1,1,0,4,0,4,3,0,12,22,1,2,9,4,2,7,8,1,0,6,17,9,30,5,46,37,4,63,1,0,4,0,46,25,1,5,30,188,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528847736053842,0.0,0.06682643504430746,0.0,0.09328287408715204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968220148209288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752671105631607,0.0,0.0,0.282796446167792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218452419966292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240633553634318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324704231978934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727458293096833,0.0,0.2492098511944401,0.0,0.08767719587641626,0.12086204454614315,0.0,0.0,0.09694110168432643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347938448227416,0.11582492240527302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375337870854028,0.0,0.11442010850133638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204941608637679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355727974036978,0.109873135915975,0.0,0.1940295031735813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128561236293802,0.0,0.10587659136919024,0.0,0.2057514343835541,0.0,0.10518822681390427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856959105741305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22040698056612626,0.0,0.0,0.10965475230529577,0.0,0.1404572746610705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361922463357622,0.20855712173684196,0.08717826857508225,0.0,0.0,0.08735700049370952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439474715395938,0.0,0.0,0.2327796007489226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484884362430308,0.0,0.0,0.1009280507782066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024332877004053,0.0,0.0,0.06392326934485883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217975043983217,0.0,0.0,0.10708778006944747,0.1141235808705982,0.0,0.3787235072951229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758692633328845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888372969089647,0.0798083683821356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cayemoon,2020/04/07,"Self isolating away from my 3 year old, is there any way to make it easier? I developed some symptoms on Friday night. And have spent 3 days so far in my room isolating from hubby and my 3 year old.
I have missed my baby terribly as I'm a stay at home mom and spend all my time with him.
So far he has seemed fine with just being with hubby and doesnt even ask about me.

But the realization is setting in that this could drag on for much longer. 
I am worried about what damage it might do to my son for me to have just dissapeared like this.
He's too young to understand any explanation, his dad just tells him I'll be back soon.
I want to do facetime or something but worried that will upset him.
I need advice!",3.0234213759213726,4.129040101351354,4.247813267813267,88.57187960687962,73.66216216216216,7.814250614250612,22.914004914004913,8.296473431620573,1.0163567567567573,557,14,125,9,11,183,99,148,0.107,0.851,0.043,-0.8534,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,2,0,15,1,0,1,1,22,24,10,0,3,6,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,1,7,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,17,2,21,18,3,22,0,2,0,0,12,9,0,4,11,82,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584627658437518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447460384675393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823012497567638,0.0,0.16907012085603734,0.13837140176108614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436764285298451,0.0,0.0,0.1160536677774234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188561019515732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18050577378066152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791508994230489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011885519051685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908998363600472,0.0,0.21075672641954749,0.0,0.0,0.13228487252251406,0.13343157002271014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688720557436541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776571268263085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382085741864416,0.18772839726998586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853526210939687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918040867830876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870382484724443,0.0,0.0,0.15728532217052482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493101966908527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873355951873308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061399082752002,0.1428369243907837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654984541811234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23176540718318375
parenting,nesquickbaby,2020/04/07,"I’m a middle child I am the middle child in my family. I have been the black sheep of my family since I was little. My sister is 4 years older than me and she has maintained good grades and good reputation since she was very young. And my brother is just the baby of our family. I’ve felt neglected since I was a little girl. I opened up about it to my parents when I was in middle school and they denied everything and they tried to convince me that I shouldn’t feel the way that I feel. Which I didn’t think helped. My sister was somewhat involved in school activities from middle school to high school and I remember my parents going to every single one they could. Same with my little brother. My dream since I was a little girl was to become a cheerleader and that dream came true when I was in 7th grade and my parents went to 2 out of many games. I’ve had auditions and other important things that my parents didn’t show up to. They tell me that it’s not personal but it’s so hard to see my parents basically dedicate all their time to my older sister. I needed help mentally for many years and just got it this past year because it took for me to say I wanted to die for my parents to finally help me. It shouldn’t get to that point. Right now that we are in quarantine my mom and my sister have breakfast together and my mom makes my sister a cup of coffee every single day so she can work on her school work. And I can’t even remember the last time my mom asked me to have breakfast with her or even her leaving me any besides like cutting up an apple for me. Today, my mom was saying goodnight and showered my sister with hugs and kisses and went straight to my dog instead of me and it honestly hurt me. I was sitting right next to my sister. And that probably makes me sound like a brat and an attention whore but after many years of living in my sisters shadow little things like that set me off. And every time I bring up the fact that my sister is the favorite daughter my mom always gets mad. My dad has become more understanding and listens to me a lot more because he relates to me but I don’t know how to get my mom to understand.",4.9834398782344005,5.2235107077625615,5.796484018264843,82.39821156773215,68.63470319634703,8.680669710806697,27.637747336377483,8.515128840125781,1.8025382039573807,1702,50,345,24,27,559,194,438,0.063,0.8290000000000001,0.10800000000000001,0.9375,7,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,5,2,12,15,2,0,16,0,30,5,0,3,3,60,55,30,1,5,7,25,4,3,0,2,0,4,1,5,22,28,2,1,10,4,1,6,7,5,0,1,20,10,73,10,50,32,8,57,0,2,2,3,54,28,0,3,23,237,95,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137222291811802,0.0,0.0,0.04198498781929998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771811296451175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527167145964161,0.13637288894305286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061355837471799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049293979502316884,0.0,0.0,0.03981688004863417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407586989192808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155673569111721,0.0,0.15605461436112186,0.0,0.05548749573094047,0.0,0.17460756219851434,0.0,0.062434708413184624,0.0,0.05927961712816247,0.067632621653872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676904625787948,0.0,0.035087989564265974,0.10356835312792492,0.04937873072337733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530647919715946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414808789678748,0.06523118807959558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609342849190714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033930423205013334,0.050325945564998885,0.0,0.06537323265190957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048842637385247,0.3093960714582634,0.05451712349007909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524887284285355,0.0,0.0,0.0824232122998957,0.1877825355816904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062218910544083614,0.0,0.0,0.4338514476621692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045779068598542964,0.0,0.0,0.06566067537445322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04183629367462242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41132655488452585,0.0,0.058937353714619924,0.0,0.05390856371164798,0.0,0.0,0.05836379831863452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656564020716231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398776717945774,0.10545041815043246,0.0,0.09819548186661756,0.0,0.3124184300570765,0.049198400576826666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428626156715748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396305800765798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203398174020586,0.03956018873298014,0.0,0.0,0.10800242431521713,0.0,0.058521841878614825,0.0,0.06859487364241558,0.04191707847713917,0.0,0.0,0.12854602642493138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050941566343836134,0.03641556597997344,0.04900595383069874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446629920517055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898942054982759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903289562436207
parenting,anoniam13132323,2020/04/07,"Caught 12 year old son watching porn Burner account obviously.

Went up to check on my 12 year old son before I went to bed and noticed an old Kindle by his nightstand. Strange because he has an iPad and an iPhone that my wife and I regularly (and with him knowing) check the history on, and we haven’t seen the kindle
In like 3 years. Well, with that in mind, I checked the history on the kindle and there were about twenty porn hub hits.  I was floored.  Not sure how I will broach the subject tomorrow, but something needs to be said. Wife is going to throw a shit fit but I totally understand. At that age I was just discovering Daisy Duke on Dukes of Hazard. If I had today’s temptations online I’m sure I would’ve done the same thing.  I just want to let him know that it’s normal to have these curiosities but that porn isn’t real life and pretty degrading towards women. Any help is greatly appreciated.",2.173152014113498,4.64374738547486,3.378065274919141,87.6234695677742,80.73184357541899,6.4499852984416375,23.387533078506323,7.669130373188453,1.1965128491620105,718,25,143,12,19,232,117,179,0.083,0.805,0.11199999999999999,0.6503,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,10,0,14,5,1,1,4,31,27,12,0,4,7,4,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,8,10,0,0,3,0,4,5,3,2,1,0,10,3,16,5,20,13,2,25,0,0,2,3,12,11,1,1,10,87,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619194820448072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519170841860472,0.0,0.13287789696796054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598025767739035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887474824678898,0.0,0.0,0.1721633736063394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10466858119511524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163933732935693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968086187297276,0.11029813412007326,0.07629030268274369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576738072054416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115788255135116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300046462564074,0.0,0.17778550050251446,0.4915807377570041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886755914372172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777405741894514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854083348778052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029266491603822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021709908384395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29435178698883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374360923309303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480183447557873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256468905932528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210529994734352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040367636603304,0.28951775259933205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109292783552712,0.0,0.0,0.3016794911487559
parenting,dammitgale,2020/04/07,"Ideas for LO during quarantine I have set a schedule for my son (3yrs) and I during the day to keep busy and not have us go crazy with this whole quarantine. Is there any fun activities you guys do with your LO, whether it be educational or just for pure fun? I want to change up our daily activities so we don’t get bored of our schedule",3.627391304347825,4.722441884057975,4.841275362318843,84.93234782608697,72.18840579710145,8.418550724637681,25.394202898550724,8.841846274778883,1.5422150724637689,266,8,59,5,5,88,53,69,0.063,0.826,0.111,0.5267,0,2,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,13,10,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,10,2,9,9,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,3,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308249670050244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590733759444167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890514921726686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733887809072876,0.0,0.19290666626610853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360904155193536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831766940417695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30170219210537746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082941376116295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002054127530959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789629959286126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,h__yina,2020/04/07,"When would you feel safe sending kids back to daycare? As title states, when would you feel comfortable sending child back to daycare after covid-19? I’m not sure if I’d even send child after shelter in place is lifted. Thoughts?",4.566428571428574,7.280703500000005,3.395476190476192,89.42035714285717,73.52380952380952,5.152380952380953,29.54761904761905,5.985473137389443,1.3203619047619042,185,8,32,1,4,53,31,42,0.043,0.81,0.147,0.6983,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,7,4,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,6,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,6,18,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528964511399675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22718083034324235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478307163559112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593626100881938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241760808497332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730640095012012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4886753918034217,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pmac1687,2020/04/07,My daughters first words may very well be in another language. I just went to turn the tv on for my one year old to watch some tv before she goes to sleep and I realize the random show i turn on that she likes is on in Cantonese! It’s now dawning on me that this show has probably been on all day in a foreign language. I’m a single dad trying to work on my computer all day from home with my little girl usually with the tv on in the background as she is playing and the thing about the remote is with one button push u can access the language menu and one more push and you got a different language so now I’m wondering how long she has been watching it in another language me completely oblivious trying to focus!? Just thought I would share,6.3832236842105265,5.503759822368423,6.880526315789478,79.57368421052634,65.90789473684211,10.23157894736842,34.131578947368425,9.516144504307137,2.9558131578947364,591,23,120,10,8,194,89,152,0.0,0.9329999999999999,0.067,0.8306,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,1,0,2,10,4,0,0,10,0,11,1,1,1,2,20,19,7,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,0,3,6,0,3,0,0,1,4,5,2,15,4,24,11,5,25,0,0,2,0,9,13,0,4,10,86,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35650490431431786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465149783103934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823439594534365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21926280638205675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760647363856513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445959343755855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595890814105854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051681039163116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830499790021745,0.1703776157967688,0.0,0.1504384300554939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17837902727239247,0.0,0.3455749100074052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328117449952416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701157379893873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293577644130948,0.0,0.0,0.13495543065321616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308281374886307,0.36980707568975335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872232412391342,0.14026200426055718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284409635282095,0.15758518729517346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435012574186005,0.12375690756635145,0.0,0.0,0.120758129331888,0.0,0.0,0.1094698999490622
parenting,Zulfihai,2020/04/07,"I don't know what to tell my 5 year old (death in the family) Contents may be triggering. Last week my sister was found dead in her home. She lived several states away from us and while she and I were close my kid hasn't had a whole lot of contact with her. They met in person once, roughly 2 years ago. We told him that she had died and he is handling it, I think in a very typical fashion for a 5 year old. He is sad, but more than that he can tell I am sad. I received the news unexpectedly over the phone and I'm pretty certain my reaction scared him, but we've had a lot of snuggles and talks since then and for him things are mostly back to normal except that mom sometimes starts crying.

I have told him that he can ask me questions or talk about his aunt all that he wants and I will be there to listen and answer as much as I can. Also, because we can't travel they will be streaming the funeral this week for me. I've told him he can watch with me if he wants to but he does not have to.

I am however struggling to tell him how she died. She was killed by the father of her baby. It is still being investigated and I don't want to talk too much about details, but there is clear evidence that she was killed. I know that child psychiatrists say you should be honest with children because they will find out eventually and you need to be able to answer questions, but I don't know how. This is too much for me to cope with, how can I expect him to at 5 years old?",4.184977005620848,4.205768093851134,4.996644523931192,88.20556463975475,70.32686084142395,8.058661216147161,25.324646567876,7.669130373188453,0.9877275080906144,1147,28,263,12,19,373,158,309,0.139,0.816,0.046,-0.9849,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,2,3,0,12,8,2,2,9,0,38,0,0,4,3,56,55,25,7,8,9,4,1,0,0,5,0,2,1,4,13,18,0,0,10,1,0,2,6,6,0,0,12,4,46,2,38,32,9,28,0,2,1,0,59,9,0,8,16,183,59,0,0.10085725807110556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940387390130446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065551284073941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942879215674266,0.0,0.09475871397571783,0.07755300590967604,0.0,0.1229632967938426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107869620991224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093478211406336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826086620309279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507924684333596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218170669370122,0.0,0.0,0.11058477769801624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116805324349272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22316722561940436,0.0,0.16628553417213846,0.0822121265668675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905880666741182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714904682447487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812280168802736,0.0,0.0,0.22242506840133228,0.07478437890204809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881869888618096,0.0,0.0,0.31749817898602106,0.10740968822091047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806466750189401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260809029709987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259664226149801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020573973206661,0.10097571002010444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139399937432002,0.0,0.08343016610656563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975040714573456,0.0,0.07138728637218693,0.0,0.08054473657821633,0.0,0.0,0.10543790459438968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24319573089756,0.26446106705323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670050807182489,0.06462525853437485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891202966893477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131886323289133,0.0,0.0,0.08321780053521037,0.1784646717953678,0.0,0.161803217617233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260352681605727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597950698507809
parenting,SB072017,2020/04/07,"Advice Oldest 16 years old likes to be on his computer all day playing games, makes excellent grades. It’s like pulling teeth for him to go ride a bike etc.  Other son turning 12 and hormones are high, his grades going down because he doesn’t want to concentrate, he finds something he likes other then school work, he might be ADD we are waiting for him to see a dr. He fights with my 8 year old daughter all the time. Not sure if I’m being to nice or should I take the electronics from them ?",5.279393939393941,5.450292040404039,5.1480303030303025,87.54204545454546,67.98989898989899,8.216161616161617,28.62121212121212,7.793537801064563,1.529254545454546,388,12,82,4,6,120,78,99,0.044000000000000004,0.7879999999999999,0.168,0.9009,0,0,1,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,1,2,0,8,1,0,4,0,8,2,1,1,3,16,17,4,0,3,3,2,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,8,7,11,12,3,15,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,3,11,42,11,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077776834266052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961609436597174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371275110985005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371364972221726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943381985546344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24168285774882056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465322386955716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116379956618913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193088390680822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225564774733098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462347708787959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215190952594476,0.1694370380825128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369147185312474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20039943411541844,0.0,0.15986984235476676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398513411782602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312782761139581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541354124124246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479576309217327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738510040605812
parenting,KatataEtc,2020/04/07,"My 4 yo doesn’t love me Hi all, first time poster. I don’t know how to explain the situation. Hubby and I have only one kid. This boy is my entire life and I love him more than my own life. He’s a happy and goofy little guy, always laughing and telling jokes. A couple days ago I jokingly asked him who he loved more, mommy or daddy. Without hesitation he said daddy. Funny thing, we all laughed and it’s actually cute cause they have a really special connection. After that my kid started acting weird. He talks to me somewhat aggressively. He doesn’t want me to kiss him or hug him. And tonight he didn’t want me to read a bedtime story (we typically do this as a family). I’m not a violent mom. I’m very patient, whenever he does something wrong I talk to him, explain stuff, hug him, say I know he didn’t mean to do bad things, etc... I just don’t get why he doesn’t want me around. I cried the entire time hubby was reading his bedtime story tonight. Is this normal? Am I overreacting? Am I too sensitive?",0.5481613508442784,2.9621899268292684,2.85378048780488,88.64577392120079,88.75609756097559,5.690431519699812,21.055347091932454,7.1686216300943375,0.7945272045028142,785,27,162,13,26,267,119,205,0.059000000000000004,0.706,0.235,0.9885,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,1,1,4,18,2,0,8,0,16,8,0,2,2,28,33,10,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,9,9,0,0,5,4,0,1,9,5,0,2,4,2,29,13,11,29,7,12,0,0,0,6,37,2,0,3,9,94,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.13324006046423922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103148909684827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360941834074632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154655291747235,0.12764332296999018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400238738594448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026073526117164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107519005675327,0.1499790826757143,0.08805483441272725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194841297070702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227444025519765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871458836738234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613799228684599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133475663342786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351927352649365,0.0,0.1453457872283903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007392810395226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928797268445848,0.0,0.1368455780911456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36968893247375656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487284229925113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991005714557813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377691317951984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925207577153568,0.10384226376717176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731471682238172,0.0,0.08746886483152781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987760680158197,0.10857941261698097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347289880461865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511257247605743,0.0,0.0,0.0966413332575163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630178138258666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21948595117195566,0.11933903739983555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141774718479745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923122015308475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126570234446413,0.24159853523146396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232030764966636,0.0,0.0,0.1316164441651678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492813768852896,0.0,0.0
parenting,unholyandunstable,2020/04/07,Is it ok that I use candy to distract my two year old when I need a quick breather? So my two year old daughter is incredibly clingy. I do understand cause she's only two but sometimes after spending hours with her on my lap I need a few mins to not be touched. When I put her down sometimes she is ok and will play but other times she isn't having it. Those times I offer her a treat. Like a fun size milky way or something. She eats healthy meals still so its not ruining her appetite for veggies or non sweet foods. I'm just wondering if any other parents do this or am I setting her up for failure and weight problems?,3.000468750000003,4.396494359375001,3.7832500000000016,90.73675000000004,74.15625,6.370000000000001,27.64375,6.742157984588678,1.1126599999999989,490,19,105,4,10,156,86,128,0.068,0.725,0.207,0.9616,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,1,4,2,10,4,0,2,0,19,16,12,0,4,9,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,3,4,0,2,1,1,1,3,3,0,3,0,3,19,7,9,14,1,19,0,1,0,0,12,3,0,5,14,71,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113002497792228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787557518795218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721768390419414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976060163566962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093407426450468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983791036944952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423451476855481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429599612731985,0.0,0.0,0.12428695547811568,0.0,0.0,0.18145664554806826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563692107903705,0.0,0.16428049412277615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580736534031522,0.3232496880543665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050603861341173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058101058221455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4789077019012639,0.1701241785385072,0.0,0.14114091294782602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971381334470658,0.0,0.19899942329275966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722013891406288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104720113187987
parenting,FLMojo,2020/04/07,"Mother passed away and kids don’t care My mother was an incredible loving woman. She passed away this weekend. We traveled frequently throughout the kids lives to visit and they always got along great. My mom adored them and they always felt the same about her, or so I thought. Since I told them, they haven’t been fazed at all. Almost no reaction beyond a token, oh no. 

I know you’ll tell me people grieve differently, but I’m totally disgusted by their complete and total lack of grieving at all. I feel like I’ve failed as a parent. I’ve raised two kids with zero empathy or love at all beyond what’s in their own little worlds. 

An I overreacting?",2.4707142857142834,5.131106706349208,3.4660317460317493,86.24285714285719,81.14285714285714,6.139682539682537,20.11111111111111,7.447530270364453,0.7821015873015873,519,14,97,8,14,166,93,126,0.156,0.7140000000000001,0.13,-0.5494,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,7,1,4,10,1,0,6,0,5,2,0,0,5,22,15,9,2,1,3,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,7,0,0,4,2,0,4,4,4,0,2,6,2,19,6,15,8,8,16,0,3,0,2,24,10,0,3,3,66,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938237134938132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221170671548353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637144849489285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973486775214157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029453732863004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022303938556016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978704250095312,0.13828025380835504,0.18584923258840333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480867886323268,0.2134020511704164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063762456565473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456428934841657,0.19399930442218585,0.17091820181046574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349393317406382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22669669191423736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149269520506728,0.0,0.0,0.13419105552963806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011593351947026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918113518115438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366607609975133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849561470156618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890812951900852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,11_20_2015,2020/04/07,It’s been a long day that ended in an ER visit Today has been traumatic. While my 4 year old was dancing around to one of the preschool movement videos he slipped and fell on his face on the wood floor. We had to take him to the ER which is the last place we want to be right now. They  wouldn’t allow my husband in. I walked in first without knowing that. I don’t know if I would have waited and let him go. I didn’t want to leave my sons side but my husband is tougher than me. He was visible upset as well not being able to be with his child. I had to hold my baby down while he got stitches inside his lip. His face and lip is still so swollen. I keep replaying everything and I feel sick to my stomach. I can’t stop staring at my son to make sure he’s okay as well. I’m scared he will mess with the stitches which will cause more damage. He keeps asking when we are going to take this “thing” out of his mouth. I don’t know how to help him feel better. I also don’t know how to get over this terrible feeling. Seeing him hurt and go through the pain of getting stitches without numbing medication was extremely painful to watch. This was the first time one of my children has had to get stitches. Some days are harder than others as a parent.,1.6491666666666696,3.5175037115384638,2.7042307692307688,94.96993589743592,79.19230769230771,5.410256410256411,22.371794871794872,6.21433560688645,0.21206410256410324,975,30,218,7,24,310,150,260,0.155,0.748,0.09699999999999999,-0.9734,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,1,3,10,14,0,2,10,1,30,12,6,5,1,40,55,17,0,5,5,5,3,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,10,12,0,5,7,2,0,8,9,9,4,4,11,6,32,5,38,36,2,39,0,2,3,0,29,14,0,2,17,145,42,0,0.12715810262201305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168828872586673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319767041688293,0.11887566086948775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246100837556752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062639870424025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164012913327668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262433639866012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142815034348763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928848720775362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632123426307487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930458108858176,0.0,0.21680064023914464,0.0,0.10169995078056543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523139580976949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612537880329773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260479283446822,0.0,0.0,0.2795310709175388,0.10365082520281796,0.0,0.1346420704961151,0.0,0.13002777515604294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253091938834793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487902089904263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809841068079586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343103840658868,0.0,0.17233124242847567,0.0,0.2706103730053167,0.0,0.14119402481485607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328531530174675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859232485913034,0.0,0.0,0.1273074436349916,0.0,0.1013285445746993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154862501075697,0.1063098675549303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198450068669162,0.0,0.19121413630125336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447819317237926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414691221726936,0.0,0.12053101307898675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000228695859952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286608106628012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24515174656029345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032946775848197,0.0,0.0,0.08188564904641903
parenting,hasn0name,2020/04/07,"How to stop a mischievous toddler from doing malicious things for fun? I know kids are just kids but many times my nephew got himself hurt when he disobeyed. Once my niece accidentally hit him with her bike because he was misbehaving and rebellious. He also chewed one of my iPad pencil tips. Luckily the iPad pencil was defunct before he broke it. Whenever I ask him if he did it, he would deny and I can never tell him to stop even if I tried. He would be doing malicious things in the background whenever I'm working. He often leaves the sink running and the lights turned on in a locked bathroom. (He locks it from the inside and closes it on the outside.) I tell him to stop, but he just slouches his shoulders, groans and manages to get ot of it even if I ignore him for a while. He never learns. When I told his parents, they just said that he was in his silly period and  he was just a kid. I know I shouldn't be so strict but it gets really annoying especially when he doesn't even obey his OWN parents.",3.9824666666666673,5.381956980000003,4.832000000000002,84.16766666666669,71.7,7.733333333333332,26.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.618133333333334,796,26,158,12,15,258,112,200,0.166,0.7979999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.9809,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,1,14,6,1,0,10,0,15,2,1,2,2,33,26,19,0,6,10,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,3,9,8,1,4,3,1,0,1,4,4,0,1,8,2,24,2,16,12,1,18,0,2,0,0,37,6,0,4,11,105,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716488796049574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865831931197598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969345634868003,0.0,0.1353107445345089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31508533371145764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661583979938756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717947178226846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702297163321042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747818640676178,0.0,0.0,0.16837478557206112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121707555292247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452855955268987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934665080431774,0.1077532300429779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531364834878059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186960144431854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512604521266196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988330190066132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779736584002842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112860803239791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927233991531153,0.0,0.0,0.1519464235019844,0.0,0.107961298747086,0.17296354167088568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576540551036126,0.0,0.0,0.225920541902416,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lamingtontea,2020/04/07,"How has parenthood impacted your body image? I'd love to know how becoming a parent (whether it included pregnancy for you or not) has influenced the relationship you have with your body image. Do you feel more positive, the same, or more negative about your relationship with your body?

I'm hoping to get pregnant over the next couple of years when the quarantine is over, and i've previously had some significant issues around body image relating to weight. I'm nervous about how the potential physical changes could impact my mental health. :S

I'm an app developer and building Body Posi as a daily habit inspiration to build and support a positive body image, and we're working with psychologists to find out what helps as well. I'm hoping it can help support young parents and parents-to-be. :) If you'd like to try the beta: [https://forms.gle/sYq2PXotBAM5mzLo9](https://forms.gle/sYq2PXotBAM5mzLo9)",9.031176470588235,10.742312281045752,8.50118300653595,61.364323529411756,60.17647058823529,11.610196078431372,35.56143790849673,11.407655852321104,4.594597908496731,741,31,111,21,10,235,97,153,0.052000000000000005,0.711,0.23800000000000002,0.9840000000000001,4,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,8,0,1,8,9,0,1,10,0,9,9,6,4,0,28,21,15,0,4,5,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,10,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,9,8,19,18,4,8,0,0,0,1,15,4,0,6,5,69,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991395875818942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299529097350223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7422168934611538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781074257704276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891690128616546,0.12322465488801025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05631013017060973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178674937162874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818427740764185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837713282455052,0.0,0.0,0.14929292093186894,0.0,0.0,0.221223660444358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623744763149653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120398720448581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544079321427486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051240291425384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122310023016303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843928710155778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24731811772488285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391313836164343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527542373608705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756103842048511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356141094983073,0.10013164750548913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107596786857901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07171622388906451
parenting,twirlywoo88,2020/04/08,"Gift for the most amazing grandparents I was an Emergency Nurse until Covid hit, I have now been redeployed to the Covid ICU which means I can't see my nearly 5 year old until this all passes. 

When I was redeployed to ICU, my parents selflessly offered to take in my child and have taken over care for him to keep everyone safe. Not only that but they deliver my food to my house every day, they have upgraded the security on my house to keep me safe whilst I live here alone. They had cable TV installed for me. They have essentially at their older age taken on the role of a full time parent and if that wasn't enough looked after me so I can continue my work. 

After this has passed, how do I say thank you? I'd like to gift them something really special and amazing to express my gratitude. 

They are quite well off so an expensive gift isn't really something that is needed but more something from my heart that truly shows how grateful I am for everything they've done for me and my child.",5.744880952380951,6.1171285561224495,6.192244897959185,79.75870748299323,67.01020408163265,9.798639455782316,29.08843537414966,9.725611199111238,2.5205761904761896,791,25,154,16,12,256,121,196,0.019,0.7340000000000001,0.24600000000000002,0.9944,3,2,3,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,7,2,8,10,0,0,7,0,18,2,1,2,1,18,30,14,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,4,1,5,1,2,1,2,4,0,1,0,8,3,31,10,26,21,5,24,0,0,2,0,17,8,0,2,15,110,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100935061580085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850151082829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025863667832524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908923333486752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063141273930354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309814904641561,0.14854839215114807,0.13971714177211916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187982469517269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842204765428019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587592106947343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763594239012208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594975005850282,0.0,0.13727375098357872,0.0,0.13054698280517602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693411727362378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527138742380914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312878943247347,0.0,0.0,0.1182340965640712,0.0,0.0,0.3452391680106832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535051208292928,0.0,0.0,0.1991829113823684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362778208505057,0.0,0.0,0.12388124239171705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590413843085248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688633675378482,0.0,0.0,0.14312639229730506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064979314109696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397769277655149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131765029998566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011094090514934
parenting,-Kree-,2020/04/08,"Not saying my kids are going insane from isolation but... They have discovered the thrill(?) of frozen bread. They would rather have their breakfast spread or tomato on a piece of ""frost bread"" than on a piece ""of that hot bread stuff"", because their tongues like it. 
Until this homeschooling stuff they all knew what toast was.... maybe it's my teaching /s",5.728571428571428,7.890339317460318,3.7462222222222223,90.64600000000004,68.52380952380952,6.944761904761903,23.711111111111112,7.554174236665415,0.8952120634920635,279,7,52,3,5,77,49,63,0.083,0.878,0.039,-0.4404,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,5,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,5,4,0,0,1,7,7,3,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,7,2,8,4,3,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,37,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21131843479764897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19701273775732445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935873534553986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34826280075593685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756749668217524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7936769477437139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462546566785551,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Waifu_Kayla,2020/04/08,"EXTREMELY EASY Nintendo Switch or XBOX games for 3yo? My son is 3.5 almost 4. He likes Minecraft and Mario Kart but REALLY struggles with the controls and directions of those even.  


Are there any easier games out there? I gave him my switch to keep him busy so I can get things done during this virus, but I feel like I'm spending more time helping him than actually getting things done!  
He also gets incredibly frustrated when he can't do things on his own.",3.821982758620688,6.2144514712643675,3.9776867816091968,85.91411637931036,74.51724137931033,8.02816091954023,24.66810344827586,8.841846274778883,1.8429551724137927,366,12,71,8,8,113,71,87,0.098,0.748,0.154,0.5557,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,1,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,14,8,0,0,3,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,1,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,9,2,7,11,2,4,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,4,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.2172729953385605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22295049263076244,0.0,0.0,0.17805206987042627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140873812679576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497194281050791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.455693805563428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705735404615566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257786303095248,0.15906026229687162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489742392375749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923671773832073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19790037789009626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21754979837573285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263444638641876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327607437435953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4437536713929288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298282364685657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautyandtheniffler,2020/04/08,What is it like having children with large age gaps? My stepson is 10 and lives with my husband and I the majority of the time (he is with his mom three weekends of the month). We are getting serious about having another child - by the time they are born our son will be 11 or 12. What is like raising a teenager and a baby at the same time?,1.3334285714285734,3.415906057142859,2.975714285714286,91.53928571428571,81.28571428571428,5.7142857142857135,24.285714285714285,6.868970318607317,0.8164285714285717,264,10,57,3,7,87,50,70,0.018000000000000002,0.9059999999999999,0.076,0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,11,4,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,2,8,9,2,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,9,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667225920430132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18271958684921644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34172100523972604,0.0,0.30881816031654397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095997652984573,0.2791512966916427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6117914492099288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rytmi-pena,2020/04/08,"Question: Can i give my 4 month old baby infant formula? As the title tells, we have a 4 month old baby girl and she has been fed exclusively with breast milk. Can i once in a while give her baby formula, in case my wife is sleeping and we dont have any milk stored?",5.22940476190476,4.2436150357142886,6.440000000000001,82.13833333333334,68.28571428571429,9.609523809523813,27.595238095238088,8.841846274778883,1.7546380952380956,206,5,46,3,3,70,40,56,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,5,2,0,0,6,11,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,4,9,0,7,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,1,5,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678603290503166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874443110613417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4705538014170421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915303151762586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5147207642343636,0.2611951837824994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27474868543610304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454383343297391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21436910753095556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jnjenkin9,2020/04/08,My step son is insistent he is cat boy. My 2 year old step son is obsessed with pj masks. Most of his toys and clothes are related to that show. Today he wasn't answering me and finally turned around and told me he is cat boy with the biggest smile on his face. He's super into pretending now and has been doing cat boys 'powers' all over the house and couches. Basically just a drunk midget trying to do parkour. I just adore his big personality and how funny he is.,3.6733282674772014,4.952327457446813,4.962036474164137,83.40500000000003,72.29787234042553,8.350151975683891,26.19452887537993,8.841846274778883,1.8231294832826752,367,12,76,7,7,122,68,94,0.040999999999999995,0.8170000000000001,0.142,0.8807,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,1,3,0,11,2,1,1,1,16,13,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,10,1,0,1,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,8,2,9,10,2,13,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,1,5,44,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957904482587638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639851782084523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833945835200877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34866112099804114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29012505636653124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149527923712386,0.3174979052444659,0.0,0.225589292657646,0.3614139832876876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139707712022636
parenting,laurelie33,2020/04/08,"My boyfriends 5 year old is a hoarder.. Help! My boyfriend has a 5 year old son and he saves everything. His mother brought him over the other day with 2 jars full of junk. Yes, glass jars filled with random garbage, screws, bullet casings.. You name it, it was in there. So now he is forming bonds with objects and trash, he had an 🥑 seed that wouldn't sprout so I threw it. A little later he was asking where his ""buddy"" went.. I didn't know what he was talking about and he was hysterical, lol. When I figured out I out what his buddy was I out it back. It's to the point that it's affecting me now, he took my paycheck and hid it in his room. I find my phone chargers in his room.. I'm a mother of 2 as well and have a degree in child development. I know his problem is past the ""normal"" collecting type of thing, he actually has emotional attachment to a lot of objects. I'm concerned for him. He has constant anxiety because he always thinks kids are going to take his stuff. He becomes hysterical and has to be removed from the situation. I know my BF is a good Dad, he just doesn't seemed that concerned. 

So guess the point of this is how can help without overstepping boundaries? Anyone deal with a similar issue or a hoarder?

Edit: I also found his coat pockets, packed full of cigarette butts the other day.... 🙄",1.984156186019301,4.189986855513308,3.385418250950572,88.80742834162037,79.68441064638783,6.1754314126937695,24.56405381690553,7.321109707123232,1.109296109973677,1025,38,210,14,26,335,150,263,0.04,0.878,0.08199999999999999,0.9072,0,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,0,1,0,0,14,5,1,0,16,2,22,2,1,2,0,34,38,14,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,17,13,0,0,8,0,0,7,4,2,1,0,12,0,26,3,27,24,4,36,0,0,0,2,37,16,2,5,13,132,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.14433157545950273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827763371227955,0.12306678846455946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314506305859612,0.0,0.0,0.10341691752793808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138268939814009,0.0,0.0,0.11372794869438488,0.0,0.09016003535278684,0.1633467711004628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598301374125718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19076984704649846,0.15248105776388773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663704868076112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329252952598914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518027169226826,0.0,0.0,0.16216753660158018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405644031084461,0.1240536605388154,0.0,0.0,0.16293135818167653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827195325413927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437185929056918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438501574132776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482372329443856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574147800814942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491311826214173,0.0,0.0,0.3103977396856147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118974088037697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796314745077703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152278710776567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464494708051195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624868825207886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693130600171881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120432774229863,0.11887848524497713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982598971220194,0.09476999634957728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432519997742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13298217497217102,0.1371071663869491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257280187766694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048881489813024
parenting,JenEvans93,2020/04/08,"Need advice on how to stay sane, working from home with toddler. Alone most of the day I’m fortunate enough to still have a job. I’m working from home and I still have a lot of obligations right now. The work isn’t letting up and I’m really feeling the stress right now. I’m hardly seeing my husband during the week and I don’t have time for myself. I desperately need some self care time and I was wondering how everyone else is fitting it in. Stay safe everyone. 


Some context:
My husband works at Amazon and is deemed essential so is there 10:30am - 7:30am M-F overseeing things. We’ve worked out a schedule from 8-10am where he looks after our 20 month old and that gives me 2 hrs uninterrupted to do the bulk of my most important work.  
I’m then with my son the rest of the day, taking calls and answering emails/slack when I can. I then work another 2-3 hours in the evening and go to bed around 11pm. I’m up by 6:30 with our son.",1.958333333333332,3.9648173333333365,3.2585416666666696,90.69895833333337,78.79166666666666,6.9750000000000005,23.166666666666664,7.984000788550335,1.0978416666666666,736,24,161,13,18,239,118,192,0.042,0.877,0.08,0.7116,1,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,7,12,3,0,1,11,0,12,0,0,2,0,26,28,14,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,13,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,14,2,25,26,7,32,0,0,2,0,10,12,0,6,17,93,17,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530233111127858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220615639432683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372695408061796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050396396703938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204850246411603,0.0,0.12030270507232398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219268429980265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856881207947092,0.0,0.0,0.1219193014069244,0.0,0.07793389708334536,0.0,0.0,0.2254965686640993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05966129098558031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131905571863172,0.06705868606413178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569941087681514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367151230065305,0.0,0.1162002815290901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709079752799048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065681739945674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908520801108807,0.0,0.0,0.10031424442679562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418165233534558,0.0,0.0,0.1749820509855858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238148112364704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558995153503302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153239253362176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402590858322483,0.0,0.12309343274964095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515317213685609,0.18846025613196665,0.0,0.1351616813595701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871677262880147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838994334559367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376064527351385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464763661343692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795941523603446,0.6013070521063462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dixxiepixy,2020/04/08,"How do you deal with children swearing? My 5 year old says the words bitch and shit sometimes. Just to make it clear, I’ve never said these words in front of him. « Shit » might have slipped out of my mouth a couples times but that’s all. I don’t know what to do. The more I tell him « these words are bad » the more he says them. But I don’t want to shrug it off like it’s nothing because I don’t want him to repeat them again. Has anyone ever dealt with this? If yes, what did you do?",0.5267307692307703,2.2729659038461563,1.400615384615385,103.54438461538462,82.26923076923076,4.16,17.130769230769232,3.1291,-1.2187161538461535,370,7,94,0,10,114,69,104,0.129,0.764,0.107,-0.509,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,2,0,4,5,3,0,4,1,11,3,3,2,4,21,16,5,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,3,13,1,11,13,3,11,0,0,0,0,14,3,3,2,8,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284187715527928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825119273476882,0.13324927272158882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418635674560957,0.0,0.0,0.22535472586445246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977254446567193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013029942155275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679110100096337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590924954053766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318874236399229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858861296410382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20974117072881676,0.0,0.22937143328357604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079273327532479,0.3476600503095844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487550728418893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618921340627376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105562807141024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746047495338067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578578415215968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407635652950564
parenting,wheredidigorogue,2020/04/08,"I’m really not sure if this is the right place but I need advice about sleep transitioning I am a single mama. I have a five and a half month old and would like to transition her from bassinet beside my bed to her own crib in her own room. My reasoning is she is very long in length and has outgrown her bassinet but also I don’t want to wait to late to do it and her cry and beg to be in my room at night.

Anyway, when I put her in crib for daytime naps she likes to roll onto her belly when I lay her down on her back. The problem is she starts whimpering and fussing because she cannot seem to go from belly back to back. I have to go in and help her roll back on her back. This has me worried about putting her in the crib all night. What if I don’t hear her whimper and fuss and she suffocates face down. Am I being paranoid or will she just sleep on her belly? People I’ve confided in just tell me she will fall asleep on her belly but that worries me.",2.5161326860841413,3.3663780242718464,3.685417475728155,93.10052103559872,74.58252427184465,6.852556634304207,22.47119741100323,7.0316486544052195,0.40237838187702296,747,18,177,7,15,243,106,206,0.08800000000000001,0.855,0.057,-0.7484,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,6,0,19,4,4,1,2,27,28,18,0,6,9,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,3,0,5,9,0,1,2,1,0,5,4,1,0,2,0,1,37,3,30,23,4,38,0,0,0,0,25,19,0,4,16,130,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661934865748845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180488921750208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5375209287514415,0.0,0.08522602666355053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357318536544598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891290182271994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757445643372353,0.0,0.09371075947647804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771019369095754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660684273083362,0.0,0.0,0.12372621403508292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159389297275288,0.0,0.0,0.10366630753254454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624018058304351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670561039179056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969256816972462,0.0,0.14607023327294372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377795139888005,0.0,0.2810925225938933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956497101347126,0.1437465288580549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939578296451052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727650122467887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798191419765135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895724871454782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317679536544107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219888123710015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153567393233884,0.0824627362989151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283964845406234,0.0,0.09931602018634443,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aylakunori,2020/04/08,"Parenting books for 4/5 year old? I’ve never read the parenting books. I felt like I was doing great and then today I just had a very bad day. My 4.5 year old was not listening, he started yelling at me and then I made him come back inside cause he was being bad. I told him he needs to go to his room, and that’s when he started hitting me a bunch of times. 
He doesn’t stay in there. He stops and he comes out but I don’t want to even be around him right now cause I am just so stressed and upset. 
I just want to know how to handle these situations. I am feeling like a failure as a mom. 
He’s such a sweet boy and this was so unlike him.",-0.7600672268907545,1.26993122857143,1.2760504201680691,100.58189075630257,90.28571428571428,4.436974789915967,16.092436974789916,5.900188976854957,-0.7990588235294118,492,11,123,4,17,162,88,140,0.13,0.757,0.114,-0.65,2,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,2,6,0,12,0,0,4,1,27,27,14,0,3,5,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,10,0,1,3,3,0,3,4,4,0,0,8,5,17,4,12,16,1,26,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,0,18,74,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501697509791888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116623588891144,0.2532734516830337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31161032123768473,0.0,0.2612976846376843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781352987630088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017550588334348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668806809111924,0.10835188994713836,0.14562538787415855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619661086834435,0.0,0.0,0.16721487649969485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833529513067147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819497636458476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351224724520809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763212271590184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124601497807815,0.11697597121565452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183008117302194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368194780368751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517093801713267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952393072519958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704815649537841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147032585073677,0.16165826666448402,0.0,0.12680152062728578,0.1737355671019269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843902673577922,0.0,0.14376384895095273,0.1449255951920799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514226165968273,0.17891582899482966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19533887221283905
parenting,zmcd69,2020/04/08,"Resources/Activities during Covid I work for a non-profit in Ohio. We, much like everyone, are adapting in this time of physical distancing. Part of that is attempting to still support youth and families from afar. 

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Stay safe!!

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https://youtu.be/-pyLBoBwuas",9.525769230769232,12.453246961538465,7.482564102564106,64.57076923076926,60.15384615384616,10.328205128205127,34.7948717948718,10.504223727775694,4.17462564102564,405,17,58,10,6,119,64,78,0.0,0.7979999999999999,0.20199999999999999,0.9431,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,2,0,2,2,5,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,10,5,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,6,13,9,3,11,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,5,5,38,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095260285124414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336200030056985,0.0,0.0,0.23048275255320136,0.0,0.12362113589530788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343649250430866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194451220912279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17972776641238294,0.18128571764694934,0.0,0.2361292889407803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26475808602151474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683758320632268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605930629023677,0.1952494703792552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5548871194265391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256367665387315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29409052409318703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799112187022484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pauciloquentpeep,2020/04/08,"What to do about Aeris? If you've played Final Fantasy VII, you'll know why I'm concerned that my husband has been letting my four-year-old watch him play, and she enthuses that her favorite character is Aeris. THE scene with Sephiroth is now coming up. Any thoughts on how we should handle it?

- Let four-year-old continue to watch and learn about sad things in life (and prep her for it before it happens)
- Don't let her watch the traumatic scene, but explain what happened and let her watch the game after that
- Decide she's done watching this game
- Another option I haven't thought of?",7.493569321533926,6.9801392566371705,6.4788938053097365,82.15633480825959,63.51327433628318,9.657227138643067,33.877581120943944,8.841846274778883,2.619243067846607,468,17,91,6,6,141,80,113,0.040999999999999995,0.887,0.07200000000000001,0.3378,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,14,1,0,1,0,18,22,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,6,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,5,12,3,11,12,0,8,0,1,5,0,13,3,0,2,4,57,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136960075122422,0.17531494912990095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422677201739362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402074184942282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109503381909671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831502034185769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29569392372910136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188411982430993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6838588717145233,0.11809235726003008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508788767127739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107465654552492,0.0,0.0,0.2654628777719426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086439578901026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21533179160872948
parenting,SheshCat,2020/04/08,"How to handle fear of ""the next step"" Hi everyone, first of, inglish isn't my main langage so sorry for any mistakes and errors.

I'm a new and proud dad(25) of a little 11 month old boy.

I wasn't really ready to be a dad when my So (34f) first told me. But when I saw my boy for the first time on is birth day I made the decision to give it my all, his eyes just pierced through all my fears and anxiety and destroyed them.. Or so I thought. 

After is birth, my boy repeatedly entered states of anemia (is body destroyed a lot of is red blood cells). 

Now he is fine but this episode waked up all my fears  of what's to come. 

At first it was just slight bits of anxiety when my mind wander in those territory. 
Last night it evolved, full blown night terror, creeping anxiety. I just can't think of ""tomorrow"" or ""what's next"" without going full turtle shell. My SO understand me and help me but I just keep asking me ""will I be a good dad?"", ""will my son grow up with everything he need and valors which he can be proud of?"". 

Reddit, please help me..",3.332819314641746,4.133548574766358,4.255308411214955,89.96461370716511,72.5981308411215,7.762741433021808,25.014330218068533,8.021203637495839,1.1179567601246103,801,23,182,11,15,259,124,214,0.127,0.778,0.095,-0.3169,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,1,6,13,11,2,4,8,0,15,4,4,2,3,32,28,19,0,2,10,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,8,8,0,1,4,0,0,5,4,7,0,4,6,3,24,4,24,17,8,37,0,0,3,0,18,8,0,3,23,114,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625051773410773,0.0,0.2910797770805317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857136048843694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138468350581379,0.14088242698667833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092550549554299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179653483602749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119398523652683,0.11398896327326602,0.0,0.0,0.4281658119634728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4315349813663032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216693876791286,0.07208188982195513,0.10638116791409558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002643743176496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273464308580455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338549767172583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271195859959601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782854151704853,0.0,0.12001207344254565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128064770771419,0.0,0.10123657180508397,0.0,0.0,0.09404476631036443,0.0,0.122495716075744,0.26977581940440315,0.238047607714722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308947886837755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922410842584373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125221172667071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197871251755229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126920923649897,0.0,0.10069091759686834,0.0739571094142698,0.0,0.0,0.12119398523652683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203721029443755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226210101865975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bloodthinnerbaby,2020/04/08,"Anyone have their toddlers sleeping downstairs and the master bedroom upstairs? It didn't really occur to me when we bought this house two years ago that my kids would be sleeping all alone downstairs. We live in a very low crime rural county, in a dead end street-no one drives down unless they live there. We also have a simply safe security system that monitors if windows and door open and close, but I'm still a little nervous. I'd like to move my 14 month old daughter to her room fairly soon, as I'm 11 weeks pregnant  and I don't want her to associate moving her in her crib to her room with the new baby. She currently sleeps in her crib in a large lofted hallway outside out bedroom. 

Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?",6.915211267605635,6.8384516126760575,6.622640845070425,79.19621478873242,64.56338028169014,8.790140845070423,31.834507042253517,8.07648339933343,2.273152112676056,587,20,107,6,8,184,103,142,0.087,0.866,0.047,-0.5625,1,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,2,1,5,5,0,1,7,0,7,3,3,0,1,20,12,11,1,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,1,4,11,0,2,1,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,3,0,16,3,15,7,1,28,0,1,0,0,15,13,0,2,12,64,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365918362696512,0.0,0.0,0.17953232421094606,0.0,0.13862330251823007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788000737384538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424126048860893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353151922533054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001594529066216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468722530146841,0.17373643809025152,0.3061322273890092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836169502976706,0.36847492554065736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674169186878163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818955892966372,0.0,0.11746252322578565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104873998563336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5204081928806604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843291043205114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761594040964614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933210577047844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302712774603246,0.10224290655310694,0.0,0.13904626971045295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123138753658754,0.0,0.0,0.1116279882559958
parenting,beardless,2020/04/08,"Two year old grabs hair and hits when excited or at bedtime So my little guy is absolutely great and so happy and fun. Occasionally he just seems to get over excited and slap us, or he will grab handfuls of hair and just stay there. He doesn't really respond to being told to let go and we can have to sowly calmly prize his hands open.
He's not doing it when frustrated and I know he doesnt seem to understand it's hurting us. It's rare but I'd like a y tips you have with it, as we really want to get him past this phase. 
Currently we are calmly saying no and stopping him. Telling him off for it just makes him laugh because he just doesn't get it.",2.4339880557398814,3.840827262773725,4.081871267418717,87.98049767750501,75.64233576642336,7.609555408095554,22.67352355673524,8.296473431620573,1.0829474452554746,513,14,114,9,11,172,90,137,0.059000000000000004,0.746,0.195,0.9532,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,5,1,0,1,9,12,1,0,1,0,12,4,4,1,0,28,24,16,0,1,8,0,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,13,0,1,4,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,7,13,10,13,19,0,14,0,1,0,0,22,5,0,4,8,69,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062535292301567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844392767348418,0.0,0.10313631021166368,0.0,0.0,0.2000766062718959,0.0,0.17968858217867048,0.0,0.19318329776767115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427252540099604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973380341087358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18557027700425685,0.0,0.08865942001764436,0.18188542347656766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211358373330856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042727392944672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323822969772226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325148059998073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431604382220364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304156821101335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934279894653162,0.0,0.15172105764925434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861697292328875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340694712661442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17727450904825806,0.18892166553965667,0.4365836769604157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703853814607732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686382050282385
parenting,bocackledumblegrotty,2020/04/08,"UK parents willing to share experience of school support with over weight child? My mum is writing a novel about a woman and her daughter who are over weight and how they found support. It's based a lot on personal experience but she needs some current information. Here is the message she sent me:

Do you think you could ask on any 'mum' pages you are on about children being over weight. There is a NHS program that weighs all children in the first & last year of primary school. If a child is found to be overweight a letter is sent to parents. I think it goes on age & weight not height so a tall/big build kid could be classed as obese but be quite healthy. 

I'm not sure of the height range for reception children or the weight range or what would be obese or normal. I want some people's experiences of getting these letters & how the school supported them. I think the teachers are not shown any results, it's between the parent & NHS. I don't know who to ask.

If anyone has any experience they are willing to share here or in a private message she would be very grateful.",4.412688679245285,5.957095221698115,4.3831603773584895,87.23719339622644,70.83962264150944,6.99811320754717,29.287735849056602,7.413659706084162,1.5889377358490555,865,34,172,9,16,266,115,212,0.027000000000000003,0.866,0.107,0.9311,4,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,3,3,2,8,6,0,0,15,0,24,9,0,3,2,37,41,14,0,9,11,6,5,0,0,4,3,2,0,8,8,3,9,0,7,1,0,2,4,0,0,1,4,7,16,6,24,25,5,18,0,0,0,0,38,11,0,9,5,111,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755369158407662,0.0,0.17677301265892748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060587043026319586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201036360326307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383644601744424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33903766056774715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370365296337729,0.0,0.19001246125708404,0.0,0.0,0.0452705617137884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762006169568216,0.0706305553048538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366593900088624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424918598455262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489768928622962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886406073146092,0.0,0.0,0.06007155360569701,0.07565862395418009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216194964668953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630804483214573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29498500653453136,0.08166572112630106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656367208638276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149455571216502,0.05110786529751562,0.0,0.0,0.5275761070547597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310602362671813,0.0,0.0,0.05579915888107863
parenting,high-and-deaf,2020/04/08,"Me and father don’t talk. Am I the asshole? Asian parents. Me and my dad don’t see each other much even though we live together in the same house, it’s a pretty big house and even my father tells me to stay so I don’t need to pay rent elsewhere and struggle, he tells me how he’s leaving his wealth for me but he is very mentally abusive. I’m always looking down on myself and never thought I was good enough, I’m 22 now and I feel bad, he’s still my father and I feel bad, but he will bark at me again and I loose my feelings.
He works non stop and I go to work with him as I don’t have any other choice or he’ll kick me into the street. I know I can manage on myself but I feel trapped and would hate to abandon my dad since he’s worked so hard for us as he always says, but I just don’t see that, I’ve already told him I want nothing of his wealth because of the way he talks to me putting me down all the time.

We struggled at first when young but after age 13 he started making more money at work and bought me playstations and always kept my stomach full, thing is he has always been mentally abusive to me. He compares me to successfull sons of his friends and brothers non stop while I’m working just as hard as them and tells me how useless I am compared to them.",1.918294625082947,3.197047956204379,3.13442601194426,94.77319840743202,76.73722627737226,5.565759787657597,23.40345056403451,5.565023196281405,0.16506423357664254,996,30,230,4,22,322,144,274,0.20600000000000002,0.747,0.047,-0.9940000000000001,3,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,2,6,13,11,1,2,6,0,16,1,1,3,2,46,38,31,0,3,8,8,6,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,5,19,0,4,6,0,6,2,6,7,0,1,6,10,45,4,28,29,7,30,0,2,3,0,39,12,0,1,14,143,50,7,0.0,0.2412223555754032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123340108599573,0.0,0.3388084809200669,0.0,0.0,0.06922452025863035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999020088125869,0.062053672235003715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518209920585317,0.0,0.13447010932517728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058837199616098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658731229878211,0.0,0.0,0.07864705251562368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785280336105236,0.08538134618633024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823777825586192,0.1005021114624272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23491698321516435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05594421698175708,0.0,0.0,0.10778687581288243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988740774973876,0.0,0.08548269272040745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794937459780179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051721082767073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483150203519758,0.07548017103780842,0.07851106664789649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767565403366923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303200227212085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356275360168678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233272597355393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095197208389916,0.0,0.0,0.1622358778371337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420639844698742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205147203743255,0.10850059902370957,0.08129412294888358,0.1702114123706658,0.0,0.21283779285180912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363894557762104,0.2669216067190261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762849444320353,0.0,0.10001369127412917,0.08081436086601132,0.05935785144734616,0.0,0.0,0.0972700884195671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244761113714805,0.0,0.0,0.08399205703125631,0.060041700994643565,0.08080063422543755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705421611905469,0.0,0.0,0.07231269608118654,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ancient-names,2020/04/08,"EVERYTHING is poop. Help! My two year old daughter recently became terrified of ""poop"". 

Bubbles floating in the bathtub, a blade of grass floating in the kiddie pool, the Cheeto she dropped on the floor, milk she spilled on her foot... All of it is ""POOP!!"" according to my little one. Baths are almost out of the question and are accompanied by banshee wails.   


I think it all started about a month ago when she pooped in the bathtub a few separate times. We didn't get upset or make a big deal out of it. Just a simple, ""Oh no, looks like there's poop in the bathtub. Lets get out so momma can clean it and run new water"".   


It's as if she's thinking about it constantly. Any ideas to help her through her ""poop"" phase?",2.174500000000002,4.465879450000003,3.0599999999999987,90.93500000000002,79.5,6.0,25.0,7.1686216300943375,1.0706428571428577,553,21,113,7,14,175,92,140,0.043,0.8590000000000001,0.09699999999999999,0.7733,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,12,0,7,9,7,1,2,17,14,7,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,6,2,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,11,1,21,12,3,24,0,0,1,0,14,12,0,4,11,71,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18854246148669032,0.0,0.2129846486577904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446407967667593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22984916890673826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21928057479285626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19115774494582666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222250105416091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851317305405442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401082649237329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174964060856648,0.0,0.10391268219659312,0.21317759807307504,0.0,0.0,0.17861134665366368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197645061185873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16977217983738602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542343906074675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318901695337226,0.0,0.1441285365357148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382685652984241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21001196410930129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505475557616861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725744374731618,0.0,0.0,0.1240249393658558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777340655536294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369694617647273
parenting,carmelabee,2020/04/08,"Anxiety when trying to write and read I have a 6 year old boy and he is resisting learning to write. Since school got cancelled bc of the bug, I’ve been taking him to the daycare but I don’t think they’re teaching the same things as school. I noticed that even though he knows his numbers and letters he doesn’t like to write. Even before school got cancelled he was the same. I’ve been trying to teach him myself. But whenever we start he’d get anxious, he’d keep trying to procrastinate and when I get him to sit down he’d start whining and when I’d give him a pencil he wouldn’t hold it as he should when writing and then he’d end up crying and not trying at all and then I’d get frustrated because I lack sleep because I work night shift and I juggle trying to get some sleep and caring for him.

I guess I’m here to ask
1) Does anyone else have the same experience?
2) How did you cope?
3) How do I teach him? Is there a way to make it fun for him? 
4) Why does it make him anxious?",1.4111729323308282,3.137703866666669,2.824335839598998,94.49943609022556,79.38095238095238,5.563909774436091,20.576441102756885,6.339386263674448,0.004952380952380597,772,20,177,6,19,251,111,210,0.121,0.8220000000000001,0.057,-0.885,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,1,11,5,1,0,8,0,17,2,2,4,1,36,36,23,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,11,0,2,3,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,25,3,18,24,6,17,0,1,0,0,29,3,0,2,13,101,30,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245332460795612,0.27306226069682354,0.0,0.08450424249808466,0.1238296674849468,0.0,0.0,0.11298259800520136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734350381366834,0.0,0.10283823687959136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321916783606432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275294009012115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115210898711734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095838652771852,0.0,0.10704117253154596,0.0,0.0,0.15964645082682324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182188437227178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252565851310791,0.11593460226030332,0.0,0.0,0.19331669026520887,0.0,0.13313480358382518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742098942404747,0.0,0.0,0.06641844593005755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059043380411080974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134256965923766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341371583214277,0.0,0.0,0.1375935940560732,0.12681641694727813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088715643569645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669334711021253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997205116017438,0.0,0.24188346228856206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108280561902553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908675070095086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029032746980515,0.07743865263537554,0.11873888499185466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102611973859041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959286382927944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090523447755999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798348006503112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782630440022409
parenting,lost2hopeless,2020/04/08,"How to get my stepson to eat more than three things I am new to this step-mother thing, I am not new to parenting (my DD is 12). However one thing I have never had to deal with is a child who will not eat anything but lunchables, pb&j sandwich and chips. That is literally it and it makes me feel bad as a parent my DD eats literally any food ( maybe not brussel sprouts) but my new stepson will not will throw a screaming fit if even ask him to try a new food. I have seen him force himself to puke because he was given a piece of potatoe to avoid having to eat it. What can I do, he will not even try new foods luckily that includes sweets but I cook every day and he just will not eat anything but the above. I am tired of the appearance of favorites between him and my own. I try to not do so but I am afraid this may drive a wedge between me and DD if she keeps seeing him just getting what he wants.",4.6829425837320615,4.3035900789473684,5.3063636363636375,87.78318181818182,69.26315789473685,8.172248803827753,29.90430622009569,7.348242739294969,1.5086842105263152,705,24,160,6,11,228,104,190,0.08,0.8270000000000001,0.09300000000000001,0.3561,3,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,8,0,21,11,0,2,1,31,32,15,0,3,16,2,1,0,0,6,1,1,0,1,13,6,10,2,1,1,0,3,8,4,0,2,4,5,22,1,18,22,3,11,0,0,2,0,16,1,0,4,7,113,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242641867444243,0.0,0.07056192842201423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077507871141984,0.0,0.09700375222649077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663719403336548,0.06325254060570497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691810539690407,0.10697438460479748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5308737330387014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370680532512703,0.0,0.08742422073866961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246534124365403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37640938849849054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842304785864804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222870801337983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692621471232654,0.0,0.1042431862007929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002788960396141,0.5010714240803881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703120261083904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304315298661239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268512628658678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20680520282529424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925951038123445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21134339044425346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120169835906991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HydroXtreme,2020/04/08,"Am I wrong? I have a 14-year-old daughter, she's distance and doesn't like hanging out with her parents which is understandable at that age. She basically spends her days with this ""stay at home"" order in her room sleeping or watching TV/YT. She asked if her friend can come over, I don't feel it's safe to be around anyone really (for example Sisters have asked to come by to hang out and I told them that's not a good idea and they think I'm crazy for distancing myself from everyone not inside the household.) so I said no she can't due to the coronavirus issues. Was I wrong? I don't want her to go into depression due to not having contact with friends (human contact in person) and she doesn't want to do anything with her parents so shes pretty much alone and because of that I feel guilty and want to say yes she can come over. what are you doing with your kids who don't have a sibling to play with? are you letting a friend come over? or vise versa?",4.2996350078492895,4.946198892857146,4.79918367346939,87.50845368916798,70.27551020408163,7.66342229199372,27.321821036106748,7.61054688173877,1.3377492935635793,757,24,161,8,13,241,115,196,0.155,0.755,0.09,-0.8421,2,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,2,0,3,10,0,0,6,1,22,1,1,0,0,35,39,11,0,4,6,4,2,1,3,0,0,2,2,3,8,20,0,1,5,1,1,7,10,3,0,0,3,5,27,7,31,34,1,25,0,1,1,0,36,12,0,3,5,109,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826750926277928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334749950688333,0.0,0.10986053201822074,0.11884482565854923,0.24961215436765735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138140312837318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599996075045652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860975584497112,0.0,0.11498482696146314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275666047293167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350049514258522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094292692973897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587209818303871,0.11197490016897647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339130999150908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070718039201844,0.0,0.1393411001165273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136514543208163,0.0,0.06522219193826899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813911754916027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008758694830106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29647569956789066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656854352813124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358192335181265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552461375447049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699069752939732,0.106165917937092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335981230600141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229505959580627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554250502699044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275666047293167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897998801111866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23622830191193955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919263242627114,0.0,0.0859707240353895
parenting,rz0809,2020/04/08,"Step daughter COMPLETELY addicted to sugar I am an almost stepmom to the most hilarious wonderful almost 11 year old little girl. Her dad has her full time, her mom lives in Colorado and struggles with addiction so she isn’t around much so I’m doing my best to step in and be a role model for her. I’ve been around for about three years and I recently just moved in with her and her dad. 
She’s been a latchkey kid for quite a while because her dad works long hours as an electrician. Over the years I’ve watched her become more and more addicted to sugar, and it’s starting to affect her weight (which I only care about because of diabetes and stuff).
We have tried removing sugar from the house but she somehow always manages to find it. She’ll get sneaky and put actual white or brown sugar on TOAST. 
I was wondering if anyone has tips or has gone through this, just looking for ways to help her make good choices?",4.126404761904759,5.776691338888893,4.502063492063492,85.685,71.7222222222222,7.80952380952381,26.74603174603175,8.418075326091056,1.768269841269841,731,25,143,12,14,230,116,180,0.023,0.884,0.09300000000000001,0.9097,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,3,9,4,0,1,8,0,12,9,0,2,0,28,21,16,0,1,6,5,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,5,13,5,0,3,0,0,6,1,1,0,1,4,9,20,3,26,15,6,26,0,0,4,0,24,9,0,9,10,95,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.12941469940684516,0.4337151006117445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26559279436874844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034765875312944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272863025884352,0.0,0.0,0.23611383175519784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168373187286816,0.14646464721073146,0.0,0.0,0.13917296999723755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352114913678064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390460120274132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120919605494912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928671493250535,0.0,0.0,0.11123253617815748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889013076141508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060066565803052,0.15302178404003616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291670156945598,0.11710291276813314,0.11736154317428114,0.11136456773448447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852262942468392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531899269274765,0.0,0.14095048871806928,0.09748848114002474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915884327490452,0.0,0.0,0.10086092204049794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331634077567653,0.0,0.1410541086979528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094292182597275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386673234927694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386396944468556,0.15181431158094436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732982265430371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003798568529901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052649070452112,0.0,0.16149132659677393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28763415349996,0.09654648513086808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562022825766703
parenting,teaguexolive,2020/04/08,"PSA Free, helpful book to explain coronavirus to children NosyCrow publishing house has come together with child psychologists, experts and illustrator axel schiffler (The Gruffalo books) to release a free children's book explaining the coronavirus, what's happening, what we need to do, etc. It is available to be printed, downloaded, or simply read online and is just great! Look it up now if you've been trying to find the right words to explain all this chaos in a way your little one can understand!",11.587413793103444,10.480919436781617,9.982155172413792,62.23461206896556,55.7816091954023,13.297701149425285,47.03735632183909,12.161744961471696,6.010335632183907,409,22,60,10,4,126,68,87,0.046,0.807,0.14800000000000002,0.8661,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,1,16,15,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,5,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,10,13,2,7,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,2,1,38,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368923790642964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30670316852416224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25134950528573063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031938837413057,0.0,0.0,0.24318593338548394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18432999408342596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31731874286969625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756271658509177,0.0,0.0,0.2309348623493241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20391265593062424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186350443961574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750793298837543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23485269023946426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18671028185571031,0.0,0.0,0.2862898095142791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21828609685495834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,s4hil_arora,2020/04/08,"Virtual events for parents to get advice Hey everyone, I was wondering if anyone had resources/knows about upcoming virtual events for parents? I came across Red Tricycle if you haven't seen their calendar before - seems great, but looking for additional alternatives. 

Thanks for your help!",7.12063829787234,10.826177659574473,6.654723404255321,64.09400000000002,70.27659574468086,11.419574468085113,37.05957446808511,10.793553405168565,5.832637446808512,238,13,31,9,5,74,39,47,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.8818,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,10,3,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,5,2,7,6,0,4,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,4,2,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513202366499502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983118526415245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21884726117687825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29415350251459776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457532751255438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343696335704645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28354966212178834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17238707752384022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134329238293558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159723718146088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711516295236289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341334570987993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367833078137715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789084158903335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beanery,2020/04/08,"How do I get my 1yo to keep her legs IN her car seat? We have this car seat:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015KFDKB0/ref=cm_sw_r_apa_i_kqEJEb3V3XVRH

There's a dip in the side of the seat and she has figured out she can throw her leg over it and chill. It's cute and casual, but not safe. Does anyone have any ideas?",3.4645864661654144,6.5608011228070255,2.2839598997493766,93.19105263157898,81.63157894736842,4.660651629072682,11.651629072681706,6.1826913282559595,-1.420005513784461,252,2,53,2,7,71,44,57,0.055,0.879,0.066,-0.2661,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,5,2,2,1,0,12,7,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,6,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377221843718473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472519058374444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346000828552668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25946618366266233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5606294318645026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414233203177925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sirenbythecity,2020/04/08,"stepmother of little girl whose mother is an addict but still has residential custody Hello. I am a (soon-to-be official) stepmother of a wonderful little girl whose birth mother is an opiate addict. The mother won residential rights in the legal battle in 2014 (when the child was 2) because my state is heavily biased towards mothers despite her having failed the drug test. Since the child is getting older, 8 now, she is starting to pick up more and more on signs that things aren't right at her mother's. My fiancé hired a private investigator during the custody battle and knows exactly who the drug dealer is and where he lives. Even a police friend can't help because the drug dealer is a paraplegic with a prescription for opiates, and there is no rightful reason to interfere when she or whoever is visiting. We still see her driving to this house (which is not far from where we live) all the time. We know her schedule like clockwork, and if she sees us catching her, she scowls at us with her greasy hair and banged up car.

The poor child basically had her entire molars with cavity fillings when I first met her at a mere 5 years old, because her mother has her most nights and obviously did a poor job of enforcing teeth brushing, so since I've known my fiance and his daughter, he makes sure she brushes her teeth every time before he returns her to her mother's, even though on Tuesdays and Thursdays it's only at 7 o'clock. 

DCF has been involved 4 times - never having been being able to help because they need direct proof of drug using. Like literally seeing a needle sticking out of her arm. Last time DCF was involved, the mother's sister, we'll call Ana, actually called. Ana has always staunchly supported her sister. Her whole messed up family has. They put on make-up and act normal, terrified of losing the beautiful little girl and repeating patterns in their own family. Ana had to call DCF because she started seeing a therapist and the therapist was legally required to call DCF. I remember the day DCF visited the mother. Her whole family was over, cleaning her sad looking apartment. They all of course looked better than usual, all ready to put on the same old act. And once again, DCF did nothing. This was about a year ago. I even had old friends of the mother ready to give verbal accounts of how they'd seen blood dripping down her arm and her nodding out - but all of this is apparently not good enough evidence. Ridiculous.

The mother somewhere knows what she needs to hide and what she has to lose, so I do think most of her energy is put into making sure she meets the most basic of what is required to be a mother. Her apartment suffers. Recently I got a glance inside it - wow - the living room was completely bare except a TV and a couch. Beige carpet, white walls, and NOTHING else. Also, let's note the beautiful little girl used to have diamond earrings she wore all the time. Haven't seen them in a year. Mother probably sold them, along with everything else. Also, her car is disgustingly banged up on all sides. Fucking frightening to imagine her driving around a little girl in a vehicle I've watched get demolished over time. 

Child has attention problems in school. She is incredibly smart, but definitely has ADD, like her father. Recently, my fiancé, contacted this wonderful program that helps children with all sorts of learning and behavioral difficulties. When they contacted the mother to debrief her on how they will help, she completely freaked out, yelling at them from manager to manager about how incompetent they are. The program called my fiancé back and told him how inappropriately nasty she was for no reason and that they have it all on tape. She was obviously defensive that her daughter needs help because she probably exacerbates the attention-difficulty situation by being a drug addict and emotionally unavailable. She also is probably scared of an outside organization finding out her habit. 

Father is amazing. Works hard at his job, contributes positively to the community, and is friends with everyone. He is such a loving, attentive, and fun father, I actually get envious that I didn't have as great a relationship with my own father, who is great, (a smart, and thoughtful scientist) and still married to my wonderful mother. 

This little girl is going to be an amazing woman. Smart, funny, creative, and very, very empathetic. She is wise beyond her years, no doubt because of what she's unknowingly been through. She and I have a very close relationship and I love her dearly. I do feel enormous pressure and strain sometimes, as if I have to overexert myself to make up for all the emotional and intellectual bonding she loses with her mother. She still loves her mother though and is defensive of her. Which is sometimes hard for me but I completely understand. There is a still a person in there somewhere, behind the drugs, someone that used to be a person that made my husband procreate and bring into the world a wonderful little girl. But it's been 8 years, and she's still a fucking drug addict and I'm fucking fed up with it. 

We have the child every other weekend and every Tuesday and Thursday. I brought up going back to court with my husband, but he says I need to be cautious of losing what we already have, which is almost half the time, and she is pretty cooperative, especially with me, since she knows how healthy and good for her daughter I am. I suppose I have to wait until the daughter deeply wants to live with us for most the time instead of with her mother. What are your thoughts?",7.2922675070028,8.122034997058826,7.2442857142857155,71.96166666666669,63.735294117647065,10.00560224089636,34.2296918767507,9.957137785484203,3.5131456582633054,4467,184,738,90,63,1428,423,1020,0.115,0.725,0.161,0.9965,3,0,7,0,1,0,121.0,9,1,12,11,40,51,10,4,65,0,82,24,6,15,16,152,141,66,0,9,12,30,4,3,3,2,11,2,4,16,32,66,1,6,22,2,4,17,10,24,0,2,31,19,114,27,115,100,21,131,0,7,11,6,169,60,3,15,56,518,146,16,0.04194391992788424,0.0,0.08186243073285084,0.18290025550602124,0.0,0.0,0.03718075426475718,0.0,0.042000777021095406,0.0,0.04628615864206171,0.10062761283722443,0.03490070143736902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03733898136324365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450457076175654,0.0,0.17898036995054034,0.0,0.03569118654295253,0.0,0.0,0.0370959886397151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414715928877331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193220608374562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02705035841956564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34049141562166696,0.0,0.0700775259469934,0.09436252884317868,0.0,0.04333928160204787,0.0,0.08311069058951212,0.0,0.10601868469702573,0.040079212958293225,0.03769649067161265,0.0,0.1186229843841929,0.0,0.021208106189320168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03833598293590743,0.0356774768635969,0.0,0.0,0.09721730546967404,0.11632943429402295,0.06574190097259916,0.04023642996622265,0.04767539258606133,0.07036114003941432,0.033546384416334826,0.0924866395910751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514702725979823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057062693887276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0483976520982907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324573695081451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220512585637826,0.0341898929216446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04289049991378095,0.0,0.0614750418225988,0.29427178781613555,0.1481489989782308,0.0,0.07044465778650108,0.18769807024038604,0.0,0.0,0.11356807600465264,0.039688351197320185,0.1119915690069549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244035406281862,0.03234973680902716,0.0,0.0,0.039361527493259975,0.04109613599189376,0.08049264480916209,0.0,0.13203926471261002,0.044668905821737416,0.0,0.03190024117057528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324762605723496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04267204567806567,0.13566791952299306,0.04013466672086646,0.0,0.12649567354783078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862506708717285,0.0828291215531643,0.09006414585742525,0.047514284799763946,0.10745963532218476,0.0,0.03335548863232793,0.041993181023804664,0.04244948624603153,0.13369549473961634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408933200256427,0.04714672338029645,0.0,0.0,0.03553894724173147,0.0,0.08296721862386595,0.0,0.05937624481825511,0.0,0.20097881181347105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047597463276224,0.07906329629225621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740024772723922,0.027865676641994845,0.026875970268531446,0.08241937673646571,0.06659757448283897,0.19566269611214634,0.0,0.0,0.040079212958293225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043665099876712056,0.1513601137637953,0.10867823927500428,0.046195302008191656,0.10382437998947017,0.024739610702958947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365777739149478,0.0,0.0,0.1819455678158243,0.03053567325717505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350525462406218
parenting,bitchpuddingx,2020/04/08,"My toddler slept in two hours, should I move her bedtime to two hours later tonight? She's 14 months. I would have woken her up after about 30 minutes of extra sleep, but I didn't wake up since she is normally my natural alarm clock. I don't want her to miss out on the day, but I don't want to mess up her bedtime routine.",4.396739130434785,3.9582297971014526,5.160688405797104,88.7871195652174,69.86956521739131,8.059420289855073,28.84420289855073,7.1686216300943375,1.3251420289855078,252,8,58,2,4,82,48,69,0.113,0.799,0.08800000000000001,0.0642,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,7,3,3,0,0,8,12,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,2,3,0,13,0,12,7,1,15,0,1,0,0,6,6,0,0,8,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698276394758201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5186588201476829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101894420435666,0.27988071044436497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258009881378595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21783131637206465,0.0,0.2635226165087429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5144750622533479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106405927838141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18706381068767167,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,paroleviolator,2020/04/08,"Carseat help...when do I move my child to forward facing? My daughter is 3, but it 30 pounds.  When should I have her face forward.  I know she be backwards until 40 pounds, but she will probably be over 4 by then. Should I keep her rear facing or go ahead and turn her around? What age or weight did you turn your child?",0.9659340659340678,3.175388846153848,1.465274725274725,101.09615384615385,83.61538461538461,4.32967032967033,18.516483516483518,5.288315135182226,-0.6950439560439561,245,6,57,1,7,74,48,65,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,4,3,0,0,10,14,8,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,13,0,6,8,0,12,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,2,7,37,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664273069815846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700906933216174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060458110356666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660184638775815,0.0,0.0,0.1644793355021435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318092835542378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226800975158813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6510727769585649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644487824048441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noswen7463,2020/04/08,"My 10 week old baby takes ages to go to sleep. Can anyone help with a routine? So he is approaching 10 weeks we are trying to get him into some form of a routine.

He currently wakes up around 5-6am and we try to get him asleep for the night around 7pm. Once he is asleep at night times he usually wakes up once at 1-2am for a feed.

However we really struggle to get him to nap in the day unless we take him out for a walk in his pram. Even if he is tired (yawning, not moving much, rubbing eyes) he just cries as soon as he is put down. It’s the same when we try to get him to sleep for the night also

It seems impossible for him to fall asleep at the moment unless one of us walks around with him for ages

Can anyone please help with some tips and bedtime routines please?!

Thanks",2.120579240037074,3.3116972951807284,3.3225301204819284,93.98507414272476,76.04819277108435,6.553475440222428,19.99814643188137,7.010146845296331,0.0800756255792403,605,12,143,6,13,196,95,166,0.048,0.8859999999999999,0.066,0.4694,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,6,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,9,0,7,11,8,0,0,24,16,10,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,15,1,0,1,1,0,7,1,1,0,1,0,2,15,1,37,16,5,35,0,0,1,0,23,13,0,4,15,86,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299487410545832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010864889426206,0.0,0.0,0.3439564169984605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147190702830434,0.08306015162371211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506586684045804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26915390808601525,0.0,0.07319543193287273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726530555534211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688545820817993,0.09467690060702183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625875551467371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514548405367552,0.27431844213459433,0.08727275697502787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827497663246569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947148008985146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250741965180038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724735216827115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577699195614145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346413075456546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19367103274422492,0.0,0.0,0.1185743217685218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509962046576897,0.14802739790797012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623238352438653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492085544061626,0.0,0.14184613488626685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20661826379123194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lilyfreelily28,2020/04/08,"My 4 year old won't stop talking. How do I handle it without flipping out on her? She literally talks from 7am-8pm.  She says ""Mommy"" 5000 times a day and insists I respond to every sentence out of her mouth.  Being holed up for a month means I'm losing my mind. I can't stand her voice lately. I just want her to shut up. I feel so mean! Has anyone dealt with this and have advice for me? Or am I just a terrible mom?",0.09727272727273116,2.2182814545454583,2.189727272727275,95.03709090909094,86.72727272727272,4.42909090909091,19.027272727272727,5.6839178017228535,-0.3128445454545452,320,9,72,2,10,107,68,88,0.081,0.8640000000000001,0.055,-0.6179,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,7,1,1,1,0,16,12,5,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,15,0,13,10,0,14,0,1,0,0,11,6,0,1,7,47,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757062787288367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556817883453727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359058295538932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759190425117708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257833570521628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511584647451395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908796870066965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850614075186694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22481264185554373,0.26076453926809456,0.17771679926341388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336333182603485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770599111179813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18614504853804756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35791465499302505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982878157099031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132451214982116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21462628452186708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337905282818025
parenting,triangles13,2020/04/08,"Constantly begging for snacks - Tell me if my idea is bad. My daughter is almost 2 and a half. She's a stubborn toddler and being cooped up in the house with me for the last 3 weeks has only made it worse. We have 2 set snack times every day 10:30am and 3pm (or when she wakes up from her nap) and that's it. I learned the hard way months ago that I can't just give her a banana or apple whenever because, even though it's healthy and I don't mind her eating things like that throughout the day, she will constantly beg and cry for snacks all day and then won't eat meals. So I've been strict with snack times to the minute but she is still begging for snacks all freaking day and it's driving me nuts. I've been giving her a bigger breakfast to hold her over, but 20 minutes after breakfast the begging and crying starts. I'm trying to be patient, but after 3 weeks my patience is wearing. 
Here's my idea: I'm going to buy a digital clock to keep at her eye level in the living room (main place we play all day) along with a little diagram that shows our little schedule. So 10:30am will have a picture of fruit and a granola bar to indicate snack time, 1:00pm will have a picture of the couch and a blanket for naptime, etc. My husband thinks she's too young to get it and doesn't think it will help at all. I think I need to try anything to help her understand snack times and this is all I've got. What do you think? Is there any advice you can give me?",4.326654507556018,4.543721491749174,4.649275664408545,90.13356956748312,70.05610561056105,7.303039777661978,27.498523536564182,6.5966054737557815,1.0062184818481854,1144,35,253,7,19,360,162,303,0.071,0.871,0.057999999999999996,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,2,0,0,10,5,1,0,18,0,24,17,3,1,5,46,41,24,0,2,7,2,1,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,13,19,14,3,8,4,1,2,4,3,0,1,4,3,31,2,30,30,7,42,0,0,1,0,25,13,0,4,26,154,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679620652868076,0.09687834077065163,0.0,0.10943741377346718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432044902785921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993575442476846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125197265817137,0.06662172257897456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362057431054592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24009825522845604,0.3524126786506519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366040780837204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188642165592775,0.07218452990742494,0.0,0.09208092078137588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570991310897181,0.31452066942254386,0.0621116088237218,0.0,0.08740861032476388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790171634141437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650858346719126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261051402854931,0.0,0.2467485586823461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971413217595002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908533898449701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05339321528346876,0.21907311305841068,0.09650442474648986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341214663210373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035100447423632,0.0,0.08723364997981467,0.0,0.0,0.08103660644047816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311941206954818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418402264103322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735550546155824,0.0,0.08727854954160953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095523636193648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726069325626037,0.2801125967134756,0.1073761496165843,0.0,0.25490980111751593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840047627332795,0.0,0.0,0.11377398090200568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674873289023127,0.1753305149999937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113750995854112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kolaporian,2020/04/08,"Low Energy Indoor Games for your Family's Self-Isolation I am not a particularly bright man, but I consider myself a bit of a genius when it comes to inventing games that require minimal adult involvement which never-the-less keep the kids occupied for a substantial block of time.   I thought now is the time for me to share them with the world:

\#1 - The Sleeping Giant

The ""Giant"" sleeps on a couch fully extending while cradling a treasure (lego figure, doll etc) in his chest.  The children need to steal back the treasure.  Starting outside the room they have to move quietly and slowly towards the giant without waking him.  When they are finally within arms reach (as glimpsed through his eyelashes) the giant roars awake and tickles the offending parties who then scurry as far away as possible and the game begins again.  I have kept my kids (2&5) occupied with this for up to 30 minutes straight, 25 of which is basically a nap (albeit an interrupted on) for me.

Note: if the kids are going to fast or making too much noise be sure to whisper ""I heaaarrr somethinnng""

\#2 - Escape Levels

This game involves the parent sitting on the couch and basically hugging their kid in a variety of different ways with the kid trying to wriggle out.  One of the things that makes it fun for the kid is that they call out different levels of difficulty.  Level 5 could be as easy as the kid sitting on their parents lap with a hand on their knee.  Level 1052 could involve the child  starting off upside down or curled up in a ball with an impossibly tight grip around their chest.  It's a fun game with minimal effort for the parent and a good way to be affectionate with a kid that feels they are too big to cuddle anymore.

\#3 - Bucking Bronco

The Bucking Bronco (parent) kneels on all fours  next to a couple of couch cushions.  The kids climb onto the bucking bronco who slowly revs up until finally they are bucked onto the cushions.  Have I read magazines while doing this?  Yes.  But it's still fun for all parties.  I've even done this with pairs on my back, although that makes the bucking/falling more precarious.

Note: You need to be sure you buck them onto the cushion side, although I have yet to have any broken bones as a result of this game.

Have fun and stay safe!",6.1883941236068924,7.289143191489368,6.202494934143871,77.50125,66.25768321513003,8.879736575481257,31.41919959473152,9.04235418022936,2.703822087132725,1802,69,315,30,28,570,224,423,0.055999999999999994,0.78,0.16399999999999998,0.9941,6,1,1,0,0,0,56.0,0,3,11,3,12,17,1,0,44,1,22,11,9,4,4,46,36,25,0,5,7,4,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,13,19,18,0,6,3,9,5,4,2,3,0,2,3,7,29,14,70,27,6,69,0,1,1,2,47,39,0,3,21,219,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182947895351486,0.0,0.07646354900357084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151098583584153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009608439113944,0.0,0.0,0.1056417628008296,0.17291995450467526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275615020379135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481455222231993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096857728717943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954953963443912,0.1244135239573249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349532524316337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506590063231067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254011311431172,0.07426603864848984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599910890389573,0.0,0.05685340920928718,0.0,0.0,0.2463466371517471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390265542129593,0.09430994572035882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994248304184583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251651718889272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950669648463424,0.0826568707374434,0.16674674625073566,0.0867212191507476,0.0,0.11958198703571213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619274549477785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994084762113479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267600233172903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247115342010533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730019896456215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250438574201573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917224828226328,0.11984685252234575,0.08979530852045603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21194810594650496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470062168110032,0.0,0.0,0.08926537618727844,0.131130182366991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633987171838351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850042821628906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838884679323982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mustangbex,2020/04/08,"Parents of Seniors: How can we help make their graduation feel special? It's not a competition about having it harder or easier of course, but with schools shuttered, and vacations cancelled the impact on the 2020 graduating class is bound to be substantial. 

So, with the likelihood that much of the traditional celebrations won't be able to go on, any ideas or requests to bring some pomp into the circumstances?",12.550000000000004,10.405697333333336,11.306111111111116,56.750000000000036,54.83333333333334,15.155555555555555,46.22222222222222,13.5591,6.345855555555558,336,16,52,10,3,107,59,72,0.033,0.857,0.109,0.5661,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,2,0,15,10,6,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,12,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,3,1,38,5,5,0.37775138089032106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25688389265222394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910024483371737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146848150439582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531987879534172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42643532896906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521519800318343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776907295853424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194482046167368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823045646447277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hanahbr,2020/04/08,"Friend won’t give child attention Hello everyone!!

I’m currently living with my family, my friend and her 5 year old daughter during lockdown.

Today her 5 year old daughter was really upset, so I mentioned that we should play with her more and make every day more fun for her. As she’s an only child in a house full of adults.

Her mum turned around and said “we shouldn’t give her too much adult attention because she won’t settle back at school”.

Can I have advice on this please? Many thanks,

Hannah",4.824138438880709,6.189605670103092,4.898821796759941,84.6215463917526,69.61855670103093,8.017083946980852,23.135493372606767,8.418075326091056,1.2801617083946986,398,9,76,6,7,124,71,97,0.028999999999999998,0.789,0.182,0.9394,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,14,5,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,4,2,8,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,14,5,9,8,4,13,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,0,8,44,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18162660164209254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654605991671698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291987271200396,0.0,0.11330249885150945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986852207473332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566005503491795,0.17760341466507834,0.0,0.0,0.17521840316839815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28720000787639194,0.0,0.0,0.3566001839092872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144649966897695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412353284686035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406733816126045,0.18843946741624368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663327032911726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900712705649291,0.0,0.0,0.14135985570448573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20402561242518288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907084517093147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680161324179114,0.0,0.0,0.1881068302393764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17112090970887353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761797179114094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021693890867637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393838760906572
parenting,Zunigle,2020/04/08,"Kids Toys Hi, so to make it short, me and my friend worked hard for the last month to make an app that only selects Kids Toys Videos from youtube and diffuses them in our app preventing your kids to see any adult content, so i thought this might be the place where we should be talking about the app, i asked my little brother to try it and now he's watching it everyday, it has nothing but videos of pretend play.

 [https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.anfastudio.kidstoysvideos](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.anfastudio.kidstoysvideos) 

And please, if you have any reviews or channels, playlists you want added just let me know about it, thanks",12.779358974358974,14.37912180769231,8.075769230769232,68.03589743589745,52.07692307692307,8.471794871794872,32.717948717948715,7.793537801064563,1.9643833333333327,564,16,89,4,6,149,77,104,0.035,0.84,0.125,0.8992,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,2,3,1,1,7,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,0,17,15,9,0,3,4,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,7,5,0,1,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,12,3,10,9,0,9,0,0,2,0,16,5,0,3,4,52,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155454173661919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689521649216395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17924802452906374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783269172820806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275049738934992,0.18911666196025345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372428656647171,0.0,0.0,0.2325319538496549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30973293404026125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461227520434744,0.0,0.0,0.18518576550135396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226169636381655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645177011031282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423979238023004,0.2546740040222165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487953254362413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647842984948854,0.0,0.2136008647613496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418763418926248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751751649621926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684373347006967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689038515078259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Empty89,2020/04/08,"How to disinfect my son's toys? Hi all,
I'm looking for advices about a little big problem I'm facing during quarantine.

WHO told us to clean and disinfect everything we can, for this reason I wash my hands as much as possible, I clean floors in my house and I start my washing machine almost everyday.

But how to deal with the toys of my son and other stuffs he can touch? I'm really scared he touches something infected, then brings his hands to the mouth.

I've found this device that could help: https://sanitizerpro.store

Do you think it's worth it?",4.879245283018872,6.539533292452834,5.496367924528303,79.25606132075474,69.84905660377359,8.69622641509434,27.400943396226417,9.188382445141503,2.2582301886792453,443,15,83,9,8,143,75,106,0.081,0.821,0.09699999999999999,0.1841,0,1,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,4,7,4,3,1,15,13,9,0,2,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,8,5,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,5,12,0,12,10,2,8,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,1,3,48,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22112113063500646,0.0,0.0,0.22658973997228374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806685642665576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332878389893704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033685713685294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24810763200891164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167272638704804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611002029489295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267950146627964,0.0,0.0,0.19002073083389226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634404291210966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25510008508802084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21652227270909244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449626853765914,0.2326566134174615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265487603720712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742037101123852,0.0,0.0,0.16016427347453152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590398995346024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499301076241242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622310553807453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27219058989224376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Murray_the_miser,2020/04/08,"How to get your kids to wash their hands? Ok here it‘s how it goes:
When we come inside the house after beeing in the garden, I ask my son (4 y): „would you be so kind to wash your hands, to get rid off possible Corona-germs? This way, we all stay healthy.“
„If course dad, I do it right away.“ „Thank you, son.“
„I love you dad.“, „I love you too.“


Ok and here it‘s how it really goes:
(Me getting tense because I know it‘s going to be a struggle) „Please take of your shoes and wash your hands.“ 
„No I already washed them in the moring!“
(Battle music starts)
„Well after beeing outside the house we have to… HEY! DON‘T WALK WITH YOUR DIRTY SHOES INSIDE THE HOUSE!
Stop playing with the cat and wash your hands first.
Only watering the fingertips doesn‘t count. No, use the soap! It is very important to do this so we all stay healthy! No, you‘re not done yet!

(...and it always ends with me forcing him, to clean this hands)
I don‘t even think he‘s beeing stubborn, it‘s just as a 4 year old he doesn‘t understand the precautions against the epidemic.


So if you have any ideas for this situation. Let me know.",0.5332868217054241,3.0158312976744206,1.4198837209302333,97.64734496124031,91.83720930232559,4.54108527131783,16.934108527131787,6.2581,-0.3527798449612405,839,21,181,9,30,259,124,215,0.065,0.805,0.13,0.9465,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,4,11,2,1,13,9,2,1,12,2,13,15,7,4,2,28,28,13,0,1,3,4,5,0,0,0,5,0,2,1,13,12,1,2,5,2,0,3,7,3,0,1,1,5,27,6,20,24,3,21,0,0,0,2,29,5,0,1,10,110,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545925531403822,0.0,0.11656591732566292,0.0,0.0,0.09526585265473217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309650313310021,0.0,0.13161895753360872,0.0,0.0,0.0853974281618499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067493901028148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336048062207848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124077962109313,0.0,0.0,0.09252797689010324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916029326612285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195733804191875,0.0,0.07961624898325087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4849343836286089,0.0,0.15814430712998231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588194578007174,0.15397935621529968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432512889741804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25287298751763804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700065595961154,0.0,0.0,0.10654458855593428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377650763988307,0.0,0.15793017537403933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974509873768692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963590463733627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746677955988458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991562656271186,0.2986341267783429,0.0,0.11712132688298488,0.0,0.14645225230470982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053300783712062,0.0,0.0,0.12897584556370312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976387291214219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458383990184161,0.0,0.120992588808589,0.0,0.11558873791270448,0.0,0.1111967448206299,0.0,0.0,0.1259575341730554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951575863868684,0.0,0.0,0.0902132237539999
parenting,Mermama_of_2,2020/04/08,"What the hell do I tell her? So I do have a question for the general public, my sister who just had a baby a week ago has been dying for us to see her little one. The only thing is during this pandemic her husband has absolutely banned ANYONE from coming to see their newborn. My sister wants so badly to have her family there to celebrate with her and hold him. But her husband has a strict no one is allowed to see him til this coronavirus pandemic is gone. She is stuck. She keeps asking me what should she do? She wants to respect his decision but she feels like she is trapped has no say so. Should she stand up to him and make him compromise, or should she respect her husbands decision on this matter? I am not married so anyone willing to provide advice would be absolutely wonderful! I don’t know what to tell her.",3.6989173789173786,5.416902851851855,4.857654320987656,82.43098290598293,72.95061728395062,7.9475783475783475,26.659069325735988,8.617729084823388,1.9803593542260205,650,23,124,12,13,214,92,162,0.10099999999999999,0.79,0.109,0.5215,1,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,0,6,5,1,0,7,0,24,0,0,2,0,28,38,10,1,6,5,5,1,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,8,4,0,3,6,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,4,5,30,3,16,28,0,9,1,0,3,0,36,3,1,3,4,101,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781928038629247,0.1613056999007631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544757428286623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170117675184991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519376075174354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156751308871409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18885645184160726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154541284231706,0.0,0.0920096560730796,0.12999962545749494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174357210345944,0.0,0.0,0.1000061231597918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889015015403852,0.1823820554223982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146659460573915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466155822751616,0.13839662026168925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038483924881088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447100938581441,0.0,0.0,0.4350203306592357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181001423168493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089298785974155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21888787690061112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21466160644814256,0.0,0.1459656059912771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19733903830585028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926648687691766,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meepsville,2020/04/08,Best duvets for all seasons I bought a cheap duvet off amazon and my bf hates it! He would always complain that it was too hot and say how pointless duvets are! I need recommendations for a great duvet that is comfortable for summer and winter!,4.388695652173912,6.679667217391309,5.0558695652173915,79.29728260869571,72.47826086956522,6.339130434782609,22.369565217391305,7.1686216300943375,0.9530173913043479,196,5,33,2,4,63,36,46,0.09699999999999999,0.648,0.255,0.8682,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,7,7,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,3,3,4,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494168516623141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44069245838484383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629762310756692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4145956592025365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113740677959744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339465782509137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983074630397239,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leadman123,2020/04/08,"Fun social emotional free resource Hi all, I'm a Psychologist who has been posting daily social-emotional videos and songs 5 days a week since schools were closed. Each day's lessons deal with a social skill or problem-solving tool and ends with a fun song to help remember the lesson. Please enjoy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W5ILBeH9yoA&t=258s",8.216488095238095,12.213340053571427,5.117857142857143,74.99380952380955,68.10714285714286,7.3047619047619055,28.97619047619048,8.344100000000001,2.566783333333334,297,11,41,5,6,81,47,56,0.0,0.667,0.33299999999999996,0.9583,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,11,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,5,3,2,2,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,17,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21159585803436295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518908650909595,0.2013346770717308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4393483194161049,0.172968341029816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308982907982473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21436898997741505,0.0,0.0,0.18703315149147415,0.0,0.0,0.18686547075738769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212246898313548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19764318178951815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154531410263798,0.0,0.0,0.5972184961967175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664928426132185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tlr321,2020/04/08,"Our daughter HATES her new car seat. So for the first 6 months of her life, my daughter has rode around in a Graco Verb Click-Connect Infant Seat to no issues. She loved it- rarely fussed, knocked out fairly quickly, and was generally a peach. We recently upgraded her to a Graco 4Ever car seat and she hates hates hates it. I’ve never seen her more upset in my life.

We took out the infant insert since she’s too big for it, we stopped putting warm clothes on her since she overheats pretty quickly, (only a blanket if it’s especially cold, otherwise just her normal clothes we have her in when she’s in the house) we’ve even tried the different tilt levels on the car seat, but none of them she seems to like. The only thing that seems to calm her down is when my SO sits in the backseat and plays a YouTube video that has been magically able to calm her down since birth.

I’m really racking my brain on this one. I love road trips, and I don’t want her to be uncomfortable while we are driving. We’re planning on driving to San Diego to see her great great great grandma after all this has blown over, and I don’t look forward to a screaming infant for 20ish hours. Any advice?",6.308163666121117,5.906712353191495,6.0217021276595775,84.0869230769231,65.8936170212766,8.762684124386253,30.417348608837965,7.882392219407189,1.803504091653028,933,29,193,9,13,290,136,235,0.078,0.758,0.16399999999999998,0.9796,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,6,0,1,2,10,16,4,1,13,0,11,5,1,0,2,24,25,12,0,3,3,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,3,9,13,0,1,2,2,0,10,5,6,0,2,4,6,31,10,30,20,3,43,0,0,3,2,31,19,0,3,16,118,40,0,0.12360571290656495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078607209353373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405612339696737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100352904197784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798485446732645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914166185243334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164040762154377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513895625431643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088272045379627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4881402053017966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172672873817282,0.14262439707348765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901225050205245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461274096223692,0.060387507760424675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379766794723004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311796357481653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866090077473226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533234584403444,0.11937916776110973,0.0,0.0,0.12110735467063928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375843000648177,0.18801542910437316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257514470819006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425788159808455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918498479311427,0.0,0.12204572959091856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849774990093407,0.22505199744844712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067437690675108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333991068733384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211814329417948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733049508319234,0.0839201653714692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290585198588465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wastedtimeandmoney65,2020/04/08,"Wife did something to our almost 3 year old that upset me, but I can't tell if it's just cabin fever on my part. My daughter got some candy for Valentine's day at daycare and we'd kept it in a small bag on top of the fridge. She would occasionally say ""that's the candy friendx gave me"" and ask for some, but honestly we rarely gave her any.

The other day as my wife was making dinner she started asking about it, I think the day before we'd told her she could have some the following day as a treat. My wife told her she could have some after dinner, but my daughter kept asking for it on a loop, over and over. Eventually my wife snapped and threw the whole bag in the trash.

I was in another room, I didn't know what happened but I did hear my daughter saying ""mommy no. No mommy"" like not crying upset but like ""oh shit, I really messed up and I'm really upset about it"" shocked upset.

A while later I was in the kitchen and my daughter was trying to look for it in the trash and my wife told me what happened. I was kind of taken aback because... Honestly I think it was a really mean thing to do.

Am I overreacting? I wouldn't have given her any candy either after asking so many times, but I also wouldn't have thrown the whole bag in the trash in front of her to teach her a lesson.",3.6593698175787717,4.239492134328359,4.878606965174132,86.60412106135988,71.68656716417911,7.448092868988391,23.09784411276949,7.3871296695380915,0.7534147595356551,1004,22,217,10,18,333,124,268,0.105,0.809,0.086,-0.6607,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,0,2,5,13,1,4,17,0,23,5,1,1,0,36,50,19,0,6,10,9,0,2,0,3,1,3,2,0,13,8,3,2,5,0,0,3,7,7,0,0,20,4,38,6,31,23,8,32,0,0,1,0,36,17,1,6,14,149,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033823159131272,0.0,0.0,0.0961041662951838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634466879050686,0.12601430957213916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4493908364000253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325776445444987,0.0,0.10226035270293553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919004411288732,0.0,0.13200695468809173,0.3100125785279396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611518793846398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125412911353622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544632860840194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514411091934485,0.0660452173518003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742318983317687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091700849754476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021796454303985,0.12183892021651785,0.0,0.1309061626763965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610379095409013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013816910425374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309621769337039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911364884446031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335824711283512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251683864474328,0.0,0.0,0.08506071561929537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503853351752436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983914791644853,0.15400699528922296,0.0,0.0,0.07007520011682758,0.0,0.0,0.34449802739722096,0.0,0.08159115912135406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683429237607796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536910493418871,0.0,0.0,0.07738897105802425
parenting,MVHmermaid,2020/04/08,"When do you start tummy time with a baby? Hello, Reddit! I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby, due in early December. I am very excited to embark on this journey of parenting. So I was an only child and never really around infants and young children until recently. I know that you start laying a baby on their stomach at some point to help them learn to turn over, crawl, strengthen their muscles, etc. At what age did you guys start doing so? Was it about 3 months/when they can hold their heads up on their own, or even earlier? Thank you!",3.3877568134171923,5.3174130377358475,4.36559748427673,84.74093291404613,74.28301886792453,6.975262054507338,23.09853249475891,7.793537801064563,1.1899048218029349,426,12,80,6,9,138,82,106,0.0,0.892,0.10800000000000001,0.8838,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,4,6,1,6,2,0,0,3,0,7,2,2,0,1,11,14,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,14,2,17,11,3,25,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,2,14,57,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493039121445653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567383431650921,0.1520475895411769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581142881414945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279381805751998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362557468295345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430090763109205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651411356073167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754753820051022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508053686105174,0.0,0.0,0.255614330541352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761721519666696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747459519629608,0.0,0.22729870585796266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4888187881082034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21194094030919725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423382011369306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25039587796536106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994243220737034,0.0,0.0,0.18465578575458788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theradhathepriya,2020/04/08,"What is everyone’s opinion on parents asking for rent? 
Context: I am an 20-something India living in India (have lived here and in Canada). I always felt there was an immense amount of pressure on North-American kids to either move out at 18 or start paying rent. I never understood this concept. In India, instead of becoming financially independent at 18, we have a tremendous pressure on us to get into college. And it’s almost shameful if we don’t have a good education. So while we don’t have to worry about paying rent or getting kicked out, we have to make sure we study (way toooo hard sometimes) out of the pressure put on us by our parents.",7.153031358885016,7.229862723577237,7.667735191637633,71.38536585365854,64.04065040650407,9.630197444831591,36.27061556329849,9.23628265651192,3.4604225319396047,517,23,86,8,7,171,83,123,0.111,0.847,0.042,-0.7655,5,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,8,0,0,0,5,6,0,4,5,0,10,0,0,2,2,23,17,7,0,1,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,11,0,0,2,0,5,2,3,4,0,0,3,2,11,2,23,14,2,19,0,0,0,0,12,13,0,5,3,64,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832435601544564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226691592060596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710760904364874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20210415312998373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486004287438608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757043780536157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912151923521184,0.0,0.0,0.15348794369771734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392802451241742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323176759235369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215091759975415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449525669246615,0.0,0.0,0.14113741133809146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4063896946043039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839610217480676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087887667382015,0.1809872292257155,0.0,0.12952515716119833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247109360456553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44024211103730704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525331059630675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18584081362041088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FineOldCannibals,2020/04/08,"How to wrap up in time in a timely manner and without drama When it is time for my sons (8 and 12, adopted, ongoing behavioral struggles, transitions are really tough) to wrap up game time, there is an inevitable stall and delay tactics and it seems to be the only way I can end game time it is to take it out of their hands. It escalates into raised voices, tears,name calling or over the top irritability. We are pretty good with being consistent and firm but sometimes sticking firm to that game time just does not feel worth the huge emotions it brings up. So sometimes I try a strategy of letting them finish until their character dies or they finish their level and it feels fair and they respect it— I would like to think I’m demonstrating flexibility and patience.  But then it starts to become the norm and I go back to being strict about ending at 45 minutes. How does your household end game time?",6.968430232558143,7.1948906104651185,6.828465116279073,76.74095348837211,64.40697674418604,9.438139534883721,31.734883720930227,9.120678840339163,2.652002790697675,723,25,130,11,10,229,113,172,0.047,0.821,0.132,0.9489,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,6,1,8,5,0,1,7,0,11,1,1,2,0,28,20,19,1,1,7,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,13,0,1,4,5,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,4,13,3,24,15,0,33,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,3,19,86,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195445837060253,0.0,0.0,0.16079951757752936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866995592189505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511058253123184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548243580035013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377608101814994,0.3868649422179044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723558429749367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274565184368013,0.12211914954902706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488819359740194,0.0,0.07113092844204694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073243895642652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812363542726906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327262700340948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13254527401391009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879966462487422,0.0,0.10305370999614767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220871663368218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947019113403472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329213911711702,0.0,0.0,0.5942880339918505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988502340842546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556745325962335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034950067978766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342733326972993,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FloodlitGet,2020/04/08,My son has a problem with foreskin retraction (Wait or see a doctor?) My son is 13 years old and he tells me he cannot retract his foreskin even over the head. I googled it and this seems like a case of phimosis. He has started puberty (indicated by growth and hair) but this has been a problem before starting puberty. I would like to have some advice other than speaking to a doctor because that's not a great option at this time. Thanks!,3.7171594684385374,5.515444104651163,4.568870431893688,84.1882558139535,73.06976744186046,7.239867109634551,29.727574750830563,7.957251820313856,2.05684584717608,347,15,66,5,7,112,63,86,0.11,0.769,0.122,-0.1238,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,7,0,8,4,2,0,0,14,14,5,0,3,3,2,1,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,3,6,4,8,12,1,8,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,4,7,43,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132249159710509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301419273664525,0.0,0.18567421985969929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466789223157229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412066518286867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405689795834043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223938672681995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132053976876868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289667734157849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175805656535314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738791077641857,0.19864332208726265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088896448303963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071856541243232,0.20089150633047084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272356076357515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500476518815365,0.0,0.0,0.14051522850391082
parenting,R1cky_Spanish,2020/04/08,Do you believe your child's teacher now? So many people post in here about how their child school or teacher is a problem and the school isn't doing enough.  Well now that you've been stuck in your house with your kids for a couple of weeks are you ready to admit it's your kid that's the problem?,4.324354838709677,4.766543854838711,3.967903225806453,94.2218548387097,70.12903225806451,6.2,23.56451612903225,3.1291,-0.03275483870967788,237,5,53,0,4,71,45,62,0.152,0.779,0.068,-0.6456,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,6,1,0,7,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,8,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,7,1,7,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,1,3,36,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27711495018431803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272152278326108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541444991470471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283807128261949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24936686603444397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051908355043824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355636089377856,0.0,0.0,0.470704838435822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4978533571510507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729588280931115,0.0,0.22114937977251448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,23569072358345672,2020/04/08,"Overly silly 8 year old. I have an 8 year old daughter who for the past year has gotten sillier and sillier. Kids will be kids and I am certainly not suggesting they should mature obedient drones. I’m sure this is a phase that all kids go through but the silliness is on another level!

I don’t know how to deal with it and I’m starting to feel a lot of shame because I find it hard to engage with and I feel I should be. I’d love to laugh along to the nonsensical butt joke or the strange sound or the story from school that she thinks is hilarious but it all comes across as overly silly and performative. 

I want to engage but also don’t want to pretend and be insincere. I think it would be unwise to ignore the behaviour, but also don’t know how to proceed. 

Any advice, or can anybody relate?",3.607592592592592,4.837337475308644,4.971296296296295,83.46583333333334,72.39506172839506,8.11604938271605,25.84567901234568,8.59863814320734,1.7136197530864188,629,20,128,11,12,210,96,162,0.106,0.6859999999999999,0.20800000000000002,0.9329999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,4,13,0,1,9,0,18,2,1,2,4,38,33,18,0,5,8,1,3,0,0,4,0,1,0,3,8,10,0,1,7,2,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,4,10,10,21,24,3,15,0,0,0,2,10,5,1,4,8,87,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18473610445371325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023641950555908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855953110066962,0.19823394108760586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524227218623645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284862983371476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490080603132812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911773053871491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278699596348646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074406762974841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935041312903035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20779233358636814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072235971308232,0.17062374291192672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967494096788473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804682804834068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191327276540888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380957246995892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17817606868395067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24226941951989905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230115253242409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429470173415267,0.0,0.0,0.3652233015830122
parenting,CheckYoSelf8224,2020/04/08,"My kindergarten son is lonely because school is shut down I'm a single dad, and I work from home while I finish my degree. I'm divorced from my son's mother and she moved to a town over, about a 2.5 hr drive. Because of what's going on I recommended to her that it would be better for all involved if I take my son through the duration of this madness, and she agreed.

I am pleased to have my son with me. I hated being apart from him, and having him in the house makes me very happy. I'm doing my best to continue his education and provide for his needs, although I make no claims about being a perfect father.

Where I am having trouble is that my son has very little interaction with children his own age. My neighbors have younger children, but have made the decision to shun contact from anyone outside of their family, which I understand and do not fault them for. 

I play with him when I can, but I have obligations to my work and to my schooling. I have to dedicate myself to those things and it's very difficult for him. I imagine it's like having a ghost in the house, my presence is felt but only occasionally experienced. 

I'm trying to avoid screen time. I don't let him on video games or movies until dinner is over and the dishes are done. The lack of things to do seems to make his loneliness more acute, however, and he confided to me yesterday that he feels lonely and bored. I have relaxed the rules about screen time to include educational tv during the day, but I don't think that is enough.

Does anyone have any recommendations on how I can help my son feel less lonely?",6.162222222222222,6.0599651656051,6.620976645435245,78.66392073602266,66.13375796178346,9.398159943382874,30.50176928520877,8.998388855275968,2.333844869072894,1258,41,247,19,18,410,168,314,0.109,0.794,0.09699999999999999,-0.5918,1,7,0,0,2,0,29.0,0,0,2,5,6,17,2,1,13,0,33,2,0,5,2,40,51,22,1,4,7,9,3,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,13,14,2,1,8,5,0,3,4,10,0,0,3,6,48,7,42,43,8,26,0,3,2,0,34,13,0,3,11,181,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951206623528166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956094850444718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053455574312198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467915190663191,0.12370919674017107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020862455288613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240666930622884,0.143141991510983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445295815231464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318629017242718,0.0,0.1414512931057011,0.0,0.13430315782204744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949490952209935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890089383365454,0.0,0.13809886113253106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937561174754757,0.0,0.1403073068559713,0.0,0.0,0.32279687830073595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430329662770505,0.0,0.06833648167284724,0.14019277258401774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235431178954546,0.2801054955984366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866634198060258,0.0,0.10371648422836284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638220885167682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354214394135324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831245122771761,0.0,0.12733810575597526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051695496460298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18585516118645248,0.08962706792435228,0.0,0.0,0.16312595954199458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496680779808662,0.0,0.0,0.14561613342592608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34623772330986696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036631856481214,0.0,0.0,0.09936409125064094,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayRAidk43,2020/04/08,"4yo throwing tantrums at bedtime I currently have my 4yo son half of the week every week and EOWE.
Ever since he was a baby, his mother,sister or grandmother co-slept with him.
When he comes over, he shares a room with my younger son, 2.
I finally got to the point that I could get him to sleep in the room with his brother, in his own bed, with just a tad bit of crying (normal right)?
I’ve tried to talk to his mother about co sleeping several times to no avail.
Recently he’s begun throwing huge tantrums, even biting and hitting me, to the point that I do not want to leave him in the room (with the door open and night light on) because I am afraid he will hurt himself or damage something.
When I brought this up to his mom she said “oh well he just gets in his moods”
And at this point I don’t know what to do, I’ve considered trying to record the tantrums or just audio but she would try to use it against me, she will barely speak to me about our son and I’m almost ready to give up overnights because of this issue.
If anyone has any experience or advice it’d be greatly appreciated.",5.18432218006209,4.9918332825112115,5.439910313901347,86.61398068299415,68.19282511210763,8.296516040013797,28.813038978958264,7.61054688173877,1.47204684373922,854,26,186,8,13,271,133,223,0.065,0.873,0.062,0.31,2,0,1,1,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,10,10,3,1,10,0,13,2,2,1,1,30,25,13,0,5,10,6,0,0,0,3,0,3,5,0,8,12,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,6,1,1,4,4,26,3,34,14,2,34,0,2,0,0,31,19,0,6,11,113,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377021524717221,0.0,0.0,0.14110770342294734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095828177202649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853222176814204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180300496975062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384452157582384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213872454520218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251050549549806,0.0,0.1547903601837407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307414061324712,0.12746720810244527,0.11872838376303532,0.0,0.0,0.137843556518765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436733911704684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724630229647048,0.1351801235396254,0.0,0.0,0.11270394499498955,0.15536114133611906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085422448405722,0.0,0.0,0.14708040655214494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774441241103855,0.0,0.0,0.1492104213496385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503991690685746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224076176027516,0.13806843064976268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39963544338055934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913822490756314,0.0,0.0,0.12034207798397738,0.13404403586123867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919574232086312,0.0,0.116567737007448,0.0,0.2820369042276524,0.0,0.0,0.10848454773248924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326349258528735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821696515282914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870195347974935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217067702377907,0.0,0.0,0.08311631111298091,0.0,0.2260697275140653,0.0,0.1267010221226913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001031690530975,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chukomoo,2020/04/08,"What to do with toddler when my wife is giving birth? Hi all. We have a 3 year old and my wife is currently 30 weeks pregnant. We live in the metropolitan Detroit area. She will, of course, be eventually in the hospital giving birth. The due date is mid June. 

Due to the current situation, neither of our families can come over from overseas to help out. I don't want to speculate, but I wouldn't want to bet that by June there will be free travel again. So, we can't really ask family friends to come to the hospital to help out.

My wife is of the opinion that I should just let my son stay at a friend's house for the day, night, or hours she's giving birth. I feel that it would be safer and more appropriate that he stays in the hospital with us.

What do you guys suggest? Thank you very much!",2.4107142857142847,4.181699401234571,3.7092768959435642,89.07888888888891,76.5925925925926,7.591534391534393,23.29982363315697,8.418075326091056,1.2286934744268072,621,19,138,12,14,203,101,162,0.013999999999999999,0.818,0.168,0.98,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,2,0,0,5,4,0,0,10,0,19,0,0,0,1,23,29,6,0,5,3,4,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,7,11,0,0,1,1,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,17,5,23,20,4,32,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,3,18,89,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472413726032498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713448540897829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157456247304117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969542350402683,0.0,0.0796368045720181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433684393314765,0.0,0.0,0.4532654657551694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594990355333402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21113805157641788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510591471415214,0.18173401846870169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105456701975435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390755116681598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578072718947988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780321470737331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526990553964455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008986245278982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770367595546267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357483924230333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500497071976004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894532793609483,0.0,0.0,0.12995411259612366,0.18579532987546807,0.0,0.12633711432777078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188358257694198,0.0,0.0,0.10142492814689734
parenting,GrizzlyxJim,2020/04/08,activities for distance parenting? Long story short I only get video visitation with my two years old and I am wondering if anyone has any ideas for activities that can be more enriching for her. Or devices that we can use that may share a screen or some such thing her age makes it a bit harder but I am open to all suggestions.,4.325156249999999,6.050202453125002,5.442625000000002,78.83987500000002,71.34375,9.495,26.8625,9.888512548439397,2.5996912500000007,263,9,51,7,5,87,52,64,0.0,0.973,0.027000000000000003,0.1531,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,15,11,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,5,9,4,7,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,6,4,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999746865459969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561749934047766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32104346421914176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363713474652116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319642596594254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26023879527686394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19629106616304606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085723717197952,0.0,0.0,0.2236501338718329,0.0,0.0,0.3265250396764685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953641127064547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28725935405004205,0.0,0.0,0.2539782550320186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189015906009053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893685999735172
parenting,V1ncentAdultman,2020/04/08,"Advice on tablets I'm looking for thoughts on the best tablet for kids. Our 3yo son doesn't get much screen time, but it's better if the screen is a bit bigger. We are leaning towards a refurbished iPad, but I'm open to suggestions. He mainly watches youtube cartoons, disney plus, and maybe will play some games on it as he gets older. If anyone has thoughts on what they like and why, I'd love to hear them Thanks!",5.539759036144577,5.723709000000002,4.958698795180722,89.07756626506027,67.43373493975903,7.60385542168675,29.853012048192767,6.742157984588678,1.3672669879518082,329,11,69,2,5,99,66,83,0.0,0.755,0.245,0.9743,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,2,2,0,6,0,0,4,0,5,1,0,0,0,12,15,8,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,4,6,11,12,5,9,0,0,4,1,12,7,0,3,3,37,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547631999719233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229478383171954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735994957549287,0.23057717546383866,0.2846282495319393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272420862591712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938395853103888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273699396687207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189310868175432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353013281511549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26191865350576715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165215258648335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400271223785086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139498953953088,0.15202233943455767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23525059842599874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twomillii,2020/04/08,"Mum reveals 'genius' way she uses Amazon Alexa to help potty train her son Potty training can be tough for all new parents, and anything that can reduce the amount of crying and tantrums has to be a win.

So when one woman revealed she uses an Amazon Alexa to get her little one on the toilet, struggling mums and dads went wild over the idea.

Posting on Facebook group The Motherload, the mum said that she sets a reminder for her son to go to the loo every day.

She said: ""I don't know if everyone has already thought of this and I'm a bit behind but thought I'd share.


""I have an echo dot (Alexa) in my kitchen. I ask her to set a reminder for every 40 minutes for '[son] to sit on the potty'.


""It's great because she says 'sit on the potty' and he thinks it's brilliant!!

""It has been so successful and really helped his potty training!""

She went on to explain that she rewards him with a sticker every time he does it right, adding: ""Potty training has been a nightmare in our house so I'm feeling happy this morning we are finally making some progress.",4.083700159489631,5.229378645933013,4.692803827751195,86.23429346092504,71.15311004784691,6.530271132376398,28.7658692185008,6.42735559955562,1.3380026156299842,823,31,160,5,15,263,122,209,0.03,0.78,0.19,0.9911,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,4,4,9,1,1,16,0,13,1,0,3,1,24,31,12,0,1,2,8,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,9,8,1,0,9,0,0,3,1,3,0,2,8,4,19,6,24,21,4,24,0,0,0,0,35,10,0,2,5,97,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216926746815222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093201834532355,0.0,0.13738374044192142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958282975050885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043756145944107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142393418324058,0.09477426812571037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286019219858788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37144954214519454,0.14042246746827844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430521663518287,0.0,0.0,0.160982784458238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677828704066714,0.0,0.08351830999551013,0.0,0.0,0.16201917628400953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643707357576833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197002613887256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695671453026132,0.0,0.1658950959833039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076300861651932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728821644292925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980940698109849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419307292526045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19916196895696436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317691203762047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407429367591288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414358341007277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549936348039134,0.2795770433874007,0.11686506973666536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363000346950015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416327772300626,0.0,0.2333328188358955,0.08569104952283714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538450798253725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166465931643518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724588094038964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_souma,2020/04/08,"Need advice What could I teach my child, during (maybe even afterward) quarantine? He is to attend preschool in August but I figured it wouldn’t be bad to home school him before he attends school.",2.7108333333333365,5.732535083333333,2.6235555555555585,89.07700000000004,87.05555555555556,5.102222222222223,21.088888888888885,6.742157984588678,0.7527288888888886,157,5,27,2,5,47,32,36,0.129,0.871,0.0,-0.6956,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,15,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072961702674758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26256908029479303,0.0,0.0,0.2675905694249793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25107848231148244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077042838328966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315438768857579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159271007461298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23317531230797006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6365202895512216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OrangeTieSoundGuy,2020/04/08,"Wanting to put rubber tires on my stroller In light of the isolation, my wife, our 5 month old, and myself have been going for walks any day it's warm enough (just 15-30 min walks and we give ourselves a good 6 foot buffer if we pass anybody else) but we have the Graco Modes2Grow stroller, very generous gift from my Dad, and the wheels are hard plastic. It's great for anything flat and smooth, but every little bump jostles the wee one around and wakes her up (she loves the walks and falls asleep almost every time). 

I am wanting to convert the wheels to tires, doesn't need to be anything fancy, just enough to absorb some of the bumps of the sidewalk. I am pretty handy and can work with tools, but I don't want to ruin or damage our only stroller, a nice one at that.

Has anyone heard of a conversion that might work or anywhere to start looking? I've searched around but found practically nothing.

Thanks!",5.801386748844372,6.311695949152544,5.152121212121212,86.78408320493068,66.90960451977399,7.566307139188495,28.520287621982536,6.980632752743323,1.33223615819209,721,22,143,5,11,217,120,177,0.062,0.757,0.18100000000000002,0.9808,0,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,2,4,8,0,0,11,0,12,6,3,0,0,30,24,14,0,5,9,2,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,13,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,2,0,2,3,6,14,6,21,19,3,20,0,2,1,1,13,7,0,6,6,83,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853713919947256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087360896036536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372002367964067,0.0,0.2441358802877745,0.2641010888695213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566448858659364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391574590530913,0.0,0.0,0.3065416099752257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499590601808409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626428357994809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422974673963965,0.08430280255753947,0.12441725122155242,0.0,0.16354103225436808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287997556460554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867170361215307,0.0,0.0,0.12456493286108995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387908756740913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736112064698576,0.0,0.0,0.11840042964421095,0.0,0.0,0.10998931056629654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423324523323353,0.0,0.15565374447368133,0.0,0.20103270943643836,0.11281625958659244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15091110304044042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911871321228193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499302831089743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656791650076305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649595075930573,0.3409809647789632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223927863290806,0.2624773582317645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21598083991981964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kekloktar,2020/04/09,"2 year old naturally skipping SOME naps? He always sleeps just fine around the same time in daycare but at home we gave up on his naps around the time he turned 2 (he's 2.5). He would just lay and cry in the stroller while we checked up on him every few minutes telling him it was time to sleep...He just didn't seem sleepy AT ALL. So after weeks or months (I can't remember) of intensively trying, we gave up and let him skip the naps when we had him at home on weekends and on the odd day if for whatever reason he wasn't in daycare that day.

However, he will fall asleep around 16:00 randomly some days. Now that is too late so we wake him about 30 minutes later and have a cranky boy for the rest of the day. 

Has anyone been in such a situation where he doesn't seem tired AT ALL on some days and on other days he gets exhausted and falls asleep?? Also we tried to bring it to routine to sleep around noon, we had done this ever since he was a baby but around the 2 year mark, as described, he just started refusing.",5.9685974025974025,4.936821314285716,5.959264069264068,86.34058441558443,66.80952380952381,9.35064935064935,29.09090909090909,8.296473431620573,1.624857142857143,796,21,181,9,11,251,120,210,0.068,0.91,0.021,-0.8986,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,7,0,0,0,19,2,0,0,11,0,16,7,5,1,3,40,24,16,0,2,8,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,1,6,18,0,1,4,4,1,3,4,1,0,0,10,0,14,1,33,11,8,50,0,0,0,0,28,23,0,8,24,112,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123041780887656,0.0949244094393204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976798569990673,0.0,0.0,0.5077807334807087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531246140653088,0.4414362793321757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674432177262105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319266378717136,0.09611803984760003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960253775454107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288647964966532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868817243899738,0.0,0.0,0.11665540253335945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105824934916704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197086659145329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729411815599912,0.0,0.0,0.12923136896383464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770984999396194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436886139196954,0.12823165981076096,0.3424897257906655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074701570413856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971169480209792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19956439032193746,0.13111915981835498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490682294227845,0.1240872101207678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150877990936734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103976561426314,0.0,0.0,0.14692865950758324
parenting,callmedonkeydad,2020/04/09,"For Muslim Parents - How are you making Ramadan/Eid special? Fasting and prayer without being able to see our community sounds super daunting at the moment but with Ramadan just two weeks away I know I need to start coming to terms with it. I have a 3yo and 1yo so it’s all still new for them and I want to make it special, even in the time of covid19. What is your family doing? Any online resources you can share? 

Note: I’m in the US and in a state where quarantine is already slated to last through May so I’m not counting on any community events happening.",1.6367983367983392,4.200451432432433,2.9418018018018053,89.17927234927237,84.22522522522524,5.217186417186418,23.85377685377685,6.67199483983844,0.8771352737352736,443,17,86,5,13,143,82,111,0.0,0.884,0.11599999999999999,0.8919,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,3,1,1,7,4,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,1,19,19,8,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,10,4,18,17,2,19,1,0,1,0,8,7,0,1,10,60,14,0,0.22530873896667603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486337961064405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064353373264216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21168497696934166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408352842063228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488142971501641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124010271335201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992397737746944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238237906035179,0.1836566938146451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007906656225739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706357506712505,0.0,0.21760458408163366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25017869113090696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795418941356699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947468509832852,0.0,0.1799318499819504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137933757635134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200938993302218,0.0,0.2710186714435806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289293179068232,0.0,0.1807290799854372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21718958420277598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,M3RM8D_L3GS,2020/04/09,"How to help my 11 year old son process grandma on life support w small chance of survival My son’s grandmother is in the ICU for a major brain bleed. She has 30% chance of survival, and if so, she will either have zero motor functions or not much at all. His father & I have never raised him together. We have shared custody and do week on week off. I don’t know how to help him right now. I know he doesn’t understand and or comprehend the severity of the situation. I’m looking for some support and guidance on how to assist him in processing this at the moment. He’s 11 years old and his grandmother has been the single most consistent thing in his life. I’m so worried he’s going to get lost.",3.979295774647888,4.972470309859158,4.9888450704225376,84.58678873239437,71.25352112676056,8.215211267605634,28.284507042253523,8.548686976883017,1.9502259154929584,552,20,113,9,10,181,88,142,0.036000000000000004,0.8440000000000001,0.12,0.8759999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,6,0,11,4,1,3,2,21,22,13,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,2,1,14,3,18,19,7,21,0,1,1,0,18,11,0,5,9,74,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567083488999112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159985989399395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435161479817697,0.0,0.10263432172063518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420933763458297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849675142899534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551142605439259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165139243915987,0.0,0.1971369754936163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275554525486227,0.0,0.13928331221361687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790008398933024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542241700996328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20401701262046507,0.0,0.0,0.2029924333293004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098662302704426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199769804212938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800213970426255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897192461239443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339945320038845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23259003403115644
parenting,jellybean1987697657,2020/04/09,"I feel like my kid gets ignored by his teacher. I’ve been struggling after every zoom meeting with my child’s kindergarten class. He is a very outspoken kid at home but during these meetings with his class, he is very quiet, seems uninterested and does not participate. 

What I’ve noticed is that there are a few kids, about 5 in a class of 20, that seem to get the most attention . They are always asking questions or have something to say ( I got a new tent or I ate pizza yesterday) which seems like over sharing and disruptions to the class but the teacher responds regardless. A few times I’ve encouraged him to raise his hand and ask a question. He had his hand raised for about 2 minutes, until another parent said to the teacher, that kid has his hand raised. She didn’t even notice him. 

It got me thinking that maybe he doesn’t like asking questions because the teacher ignores him. All week I’ve seen the same thing happen. He raises his hand, doesn’t get called on. He gets frustrated and puts his hand down, meanwhile other kids are shouting out questions, statements etc and gets the teachers attention. Even when the teacher asks a question, she asks the more outspoken kids for answers vs calling on the kids that haven’t spoken at all during the meeting. I think that’s odd. Sitting there during the meetings makes me feel ignored, so I know for sure my kid must feel the same way too. I’ve been struggling after each meeting and have been wondering if we should just not attend these calls and view them after they post the recording of it but I know that won’t help my son. 

I’ve asked him why he doesn’t ask questions or participate in class and he says that he tries but doesn’t get a chance. He is not as aggressive as other kids in getting attention. 

My question is, how can I help him be heard?",5.9835740259740255,6.631608531428577,5.6511168831168845,82.88270129870129,66.54285714285714,8.192207792207792,31.623376623376625,8.00094639256281,2.147771428571428,1446,55,274,16,22,446,169,350,0.064,0.7979999999999999,0.139,0.9831,1,1,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,3,0,11,13,2,2,22,0,26,7,5,2,4,63,59,22,0,4,13,2,8,3,0,3,0,6,1,10,17,13,2,3,23,0,0,2,10,7,0,0,11,16,32,6,31,44,10,24,0,0,2,0,71,10,0,16,12,166,49,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161618272653582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764870155639826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4845923954866569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514066940593036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268423834538323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480233836662015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258619639442462,0.09781968627157392,0.0,0.0623909776373382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232690110168486,0.052901893472361794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27081934091121823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845035010089015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548286198534277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926935653133076,0.0,0.07427897209949805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139274640776563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853241493899976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04942947201324337,0.0,0.0743939636424093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715187067162057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861461227401095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822246301158952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092017965002394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444148889506222,0.5806767622735081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043925116111001,0.11777630808885768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223915239910706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700790979420175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482791103524496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979198570046195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491960491640236,0.09489750215998033,0.0,0.0,0.04317960649747867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05027562017175345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221993007863691,0.0,0.05877806398865349,0.05939907066350768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681931291225664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030491430767836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sharptoothy,2020/04/09,"Suggestions for getting 6 year old to be content being quiet Hi, all,

When I was little, I had an active imagination and loved bouncing around the house pretending I was a ninja or a Pokemon, Jedi, whatever it was, but I also could play with legos or K'nex, draw and read *quietly*!  I can tell when my 6 y.o. wakes up because he immediately starts talking to himself about anything:  Pokemon, Minecraft, lyrics to a song from school, etc.  While he's in the bathroom, he's still talking.  While doing his school work at home, he talks to himself, if he makes a mistake, e.g. when writing a response to a question, he laughs it off and jokes about it, ""WHAT! That's not how you spell that!  Tsh!  It has 2 Ls!  I have to put another one there.  There, now it's fixed!""

I never minded it when I got to go to work but with this COVID-19 stuff, we're schooling and working from home and I can't get anything done!  I wondered if the community has any suggestions on how to quiet a 6 y.o.?  I'm not going to punish him or keep telling him to be quiet; I want to find some way for him to be quiet and be content being quiet!",2.5944025604551904,4.365295040540545,4.009184447605502,87.12958036984354,76.07207207207206,6.295305832147938,26.549075391180647,7.0608816371341465,1.2280594594594598,857,33,174,9,19,283,132,222,0.015,0.882,0.10300000000000001,0.9473,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,1,0,3,14,6,1,0,11,0,18,2,1,3,2,34,30,22,0,5,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,11,9,0,1,4,5,0,3,4,2,0,1,6,7,19,4,27,17,3,23,0,0,0,1,24,7,0,8,12,119,30,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725819713483016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912083094218334,0.1406397680656574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22074377173327972,0.11939799755612494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817601987969809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708638417215556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372545010732318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958271385775207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258608643777685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014757134195016,0.0,0.1524505007809713,0.0,0.10727049797082164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690728163855057,0.0,0.0,0.15476005332706572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921477666752445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134426584763675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105133711195765,0.0,0.08952821283819169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542609998660532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344400557932024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407396348256032,0.0,0.090885285830274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348307637193333,0.15024857104651507,0.0,0.13415939877041802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072192226474393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949330227401528,0.0,0.1071108834325787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353886443992584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234092094667595,0.23445900774315745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910928124994712,0.10646067636698857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545078406187134,0.29292964948346123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637088103244085
parenting,cat977,2020/04/09,"Boyfriends baby momma keeps sending their daughter to our house during this pandemic I don’t know if I am overreacting but aren’t we supposed to keep our kids home? I have a newborn baby who is vulnerable and I don’t let anyone around him right now with all of this going on, but my boyfriend lets his 5 year old daughter come over on weekends, right after she goes to his nanas house with all kinds of people, not to mention they visit his grandpa in the hospital every other day. So she potentially brings back all of those germs to my house. no one seems to have any problem with it except me. I don’t want her around my baby and I don’t understand why her mother is okay with her coming here and to her grandmas and this place and that place. Am I the only one who thinks we need to keep our kids at the house? I tried to talk to him about it but I think he just thinks I’m being a bitch.",4.980103754940713,4.95916814673913,5.427114624505929,85.94594861660082,68.6195652173913,7.995256916996047,26.5098814229249,7.348242739294969,1.1380500000000002,705,18,151,6,11,226,110,184,0.08,0.899,0.021,-0.9092,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,2,0,8,4,1,0,5,1,14,0,0,0,3,37,30,10,0,4,7,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,15,0,3,6,1,0,6,7,2,0,2,0,0,31,2,27,27,3,24,0,0,0,0,33,11,1,2,7,108,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424759804037264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662486604532656,0.0,0.0,0.22057188799348354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526167049602338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343584237115776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989704605837834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438037582723426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040799567640214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426904205402725,0.0,0.0,0.5717971464685082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33035011773020023,0.0,0.1290095368586031,0.06808520864216261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25336627292890823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918608476570709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129998859295795,0.0,0.16789845304556006,0.09422185830392987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588784044086165,0.0,0.2588716771204813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854339472320467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21159811882672525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112782325980452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995759021461408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381458982283176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411133031091242,0.0,0.0,0.12897102662676566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307192700156469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178899992304198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079779345914201
parenting,beedleblorp,2020/04/09,"Is my kid just loud? Being trapped at home together for over a month now, I've realized just how often I have to remind my son (4) to use his inside voice. Before I thought in the evenings it was just an affect of being at day care all day around lots of other kids all being loud to be heard over each other. Other times I just thought he was excited about something and being loud for that reason. But now ... HE JUST TALKS LIKE THIS ALL THE DAMN TIME. My spouse and I are not loud people and it's just wearing on us. If it weren't for the stupid virus I'd take him to the pediatrician just to get his ears checked but I'm honestly afraid to take him right now. He does hear birds and commented on hearing a woodpecker I hadn't even noticed the other day, so then I wonder if his hearing is fine and he's just naturally loud and we're basically doomed for a while? Has anyone else had this issue?",3.1260617760617784,4.367158351351353,4.233841698841701,88.24412162162163,73.5945945945946,7.231660231660233,23.484555984555982,7.7094869923839395,0.903455598455598,705,19,153,9,14,230,110,185,0.055,0.866,0.079,0.3244,0,1,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,18,9,2,1,9,0,15,2,2,4,3,34,28,14,0,2,13,2,0,1,0,0,0,11,1,2,10,8,0,0,5,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,8,11,15,5,21,15,5,20,1,1,0,0,20,9,1,5,12,104,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109521756649354,0.16048948913498826,0.0,0.13943698699557286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328353726181866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969825082549222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030468698501393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707099576451362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084715647561512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069098452398375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183451767473195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5296118772002704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711613078591058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634846368551121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652319635057628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331641658282678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250233328399984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832823156850153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858991868432544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104528342248128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376411840842306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058408938480344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355377362326971,0.1258960414124402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24869894110827506,0.1826684594572589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884107657643693,0.13528101806055012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986230507088287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jaystaylv,2020/04/09,"9-month baby cries (screams) whenever she's not held It wasn't until she was about 4 months that this began to happen. Prior to that, she was a peaceful little angel, to the point where family and friends thought that something was wrong with her because she'd never cry. After her fourth month, I assume that she became accustomed and dependent on being held.

She is now 9 months and the torment has not yet passed. It's strange because the second we pick her up, she stops crying. The second we put her down, she cries bloody hell--this can go on for almost an hour until we hold her again.

I assume that we spoiled her for her first four months, always carrying her around, being held nearly 24/7. We want her to be as independent as possible, but at this rate, it's seemingly impossible.

We've tried almost everything--putting her in her crib, putting her in her feeding chair, giving her toys to play with, putting her on the floor to crawl around and explore, baby-talking to her--but to no avail.

What can we do to suppress this torment?",6.445,6.9054066818181825,6.041969696969698,81.13295454545455,65.51515151515152,8.620202020202019,30.641414141414145,8.344100000000001,2.1683959595959594,825,28,153,10,12,255,115,198,0.077,0.856,0.067,0.006999999999999999,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,6,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,3,1,35,23,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,12,14,1,6,5,2,0,6,5,2,0,4,9,1,31,2,30,10,0,37,1,0,0,0,31,15,0,6,16,109,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310512686289417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959964542929036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054061763894684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065604247538865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069107954338371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087598570567433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813302128521896,0.0,0.0,0.08913399288689998,0.0,0.0,0.11067269284239596,0.06556700090250507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202064278216423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361546745193955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563029257849053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604331553533082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897987441737046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906122763239566,0.13006148975268655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639118277045073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502782813664656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881688161665734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645385513018556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272942942291408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159029405659473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832814465779311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804777010951271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613815898580968,0.0,0.0
parenting,petspluskids,2020/04/09,"How do I explain why he can't see his dad My ex and I have shared custody. We have two kids 5yo boy and 8yo girl. Because of the pandemic our kids of needed to stay where they were, because my ex and I have a pretty great co-parenting relationship, the kids are at our houses at different times sometimes. Our 5yo son is with me and our 8yo daughter is with him. 

My son will not stop crying for dad. He has a history of acting out (**badly**) when his dad isn't around. I'm trying to explain to him that this isn't forever and dad wants to see him too but he doesn't seem to get it, he just thinks I'm keeping him from his dad or dad doesn't want to see him. My Daughter and everything over there seems to be fine, while my house is chaos.",0.09111111111111114,2.2291560764331244,1.9416029723991528,96.67748584571837,86.96178343949045,5.2723283793347475,18.913305024769983,6.691623216298621,-0.023077565463552663,572,16,134,7,18,188,92,157,0.040999999999999995,0.882,0.076,0.3374,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,4,0,17,0,0,1,0,26,32,11,0,3,4,12,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,11,0,2,5,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,1,3,23,3,19,29,0,12,0,0,3,0,39,6,0,3,4,83,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582196339658413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615038771553884,0.21340449530155547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922722987201143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18287866764721936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731391096260566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145073694179916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19298129251083632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40394338026394105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558284851039372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978931967633314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807775405063414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879265519138576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41845064581982017,0.31869815560950915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311820557926125,0.0,0.0,0.18656845550479773,0.0,0.14634057600154815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215802634491018,0.0,0.0,0.10206674217710666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884010017933205,0.0,0.17098782572744106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648526406759632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579456168472713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,floralprintdress,2020/04/09,Ex wants half of $500 granted for stimulus check. Am I being unfair? My ex husband told me that it “is only fair” that he receives $250 of the money from the stimulus check. He is currently working still from home and we only have the one child together. I have one other child and am not working due to the virus. I have not received unemployment yet. I will not be receiving money for my older child. My ex husband has not done anything to help during this period and we have been reliant on the food banks and free school lunches. Should I be paying him?,2.86718181818182,4.975394081818184,4.254545454545454,84.1518181818182,76.36363636363637,6.945454545454545,25.54545454545455,7.908726449838941,1.6147454545454547,439,16,83,7,10,145,69,110,0.027000000000000003,0.845,0.128,0.8579,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,0,16,2,0,0,0,12,18,4,0,2,4,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,5,6,2,0,0,0,7,3,4,0,0,3,3,0,12,2,9,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,0,6,60,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22123724027393246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751226618462214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250894878923409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802017167145586,0.0,0.2696743235944679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3643538326941789,0.4089387909641916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720863690290114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147006555868683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25689374576075064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857225711391634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914459842574781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jessicalboyd00,2020/04/09,Covid Easter I don’t know who needs to hear this but the children don’t know it’s Easter if you don’t inform them. There’s a world crisis at hand. Stop adding more to your plate babe 💜,-1.6143554006968657,0.2291261707317105,-0.06668989547038251,105.9729268292683,104.3658536585366,2.342857142857143,8.296167247386759,3.1291,-2.4505637630662025,147,1,36,0,7,46,33,41,0.198,0.7020000000000001,0.10099999999999999,-0.631,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,7,7,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,3,7,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,1,19,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5837958350117142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5693313832654547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38407213921755107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43305056394014013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theassholeofalabama,2020/04/09,"My kid wants to go to a sleepover and she is really mad at me for saying no My 13 yo wants to go to a friends house where another friend is also staying the night and sleepover.

I told her its dangerous and she understands the dangers to a degree but thinks that her impact on the world by staying over a friends house for one night would be very small if anything. 

I am stressed out because I know that this quarantine has been really hard on everyone and I want to make things better for her but I feel like I can't do that by risking spreading the virus to other families or bringing it back into our house.

This is a vent post but I would like to hear everyone's opinions.",8.482871046228711,5.993620510948907,8.215729927007299,76.82850973236012,62.86861313868613,11.761070559610705,38.161800486618006,10.125756701596842,3.57645596107056,538,21,110,9,6,173,87,137,0.111,0.7509999999999999,0.138,0.7196,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,3,11,3,2,9,0,11,0,0,1,0,22,24,10,0,6,5,0,2,2,3,2,0,2,0,1,9,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,5,0,1,2,4,16,6,19,19,0,18,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,3,5,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923191045060583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322775285725195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124028957720965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050301795666244,0.0,0.08326471031569692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080379117384075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610374355917277,0.0,0.0,0.12876600012958409,0.0,0.06906460038496902,0.09758076016811072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165900006737813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525582094694268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235886036891595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394817735552987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4728236182760763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506693565504856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334630937568921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117566758325152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563631229112695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255771277425663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081658495123333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750076040811121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086227818963476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911760294402898,0.0,0.0,0.15646472538979078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074510494035913,0.0875221073482343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051871779586385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219622661421366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270202142174053,0.24169503560954195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406089839597293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brujahonly,2020/04/09,"Question from dummy father: How do I explain the concept of death to a 3 years old? My little boy noticed ants with coming of the spring (before Covid-19 lockdown anyway) and started to press his finger on them curiously.   


I tried to tell him about death (and killing ants) with these headlines:  


1. No turning back
2. No cure or treatment
3. Very painful
4. (The dead ants) Can't play with other ants and family anymore  


I don't think he understood very well and now when we are playing at home, he's showing me imaginary baby animals (from our picture books or cartoons), saying that they are dead but he treats them so they get better.

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Is is better to push the issue or wait a bit more? 

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Yours truly,

Blockhead Father",3.3966149068322977,6.037827978260872,3.7310973084886143,85.86913043478263,77.18840579710145,5.392132505175984,27.248447204968944,6.5431188927421005,1.3365925465838508,583,24,101,5,14,181,101,138,0.133,0.762,0.105,0.1227,0,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,1,4,2,9,8,1,0,6,0,7,2,1,1,0,19,15,11,5,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,9,0,1,4,4,0,2,4,2,1,0,1,3,14,6,14,14,2,12,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,4,7,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342243638504834,0.3748217271405885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295841623661954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859621802501405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124154430708998,0.0,0.0,0.2728144008782359,0.16838328688186874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328587015344173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453978341138615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058075811838733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15470900655488998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097994285071499,0.0,0.0,0.17063677052325704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458271602998802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559612376304326,0.16184235464032526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641155629165611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17277707555262567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265285251741495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916742787082204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134807078072949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882674644477407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471457844467837,0.16776200881757375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25451795968632024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386746459203377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748217271405885,0.09932146531409562
parenting,Taz_Brooks,2020/04/09,"My baby had heart surgery, now hes isolated for 12 weeks, but starting to pant. My son had heart surgery at 7 weeks old. After the surgery he almost died a couple of times as he got JET and his heart rate was beating at 240bpm. He was very very sick but pulled through and we took him home. Hes now 6 months old.
We've been told to isolate because of the coronavirus as hes extremely vulnerable, but hes has started to pant after eating or exercising like tummy time. He was due to see a consultant at the end of May but they have put his appointment back until the end of September due to the outbreak. I have spoken to the cardiologist and they told me to just keep an eye on him but not to take him to the hospital because the risk is too great unless he gets worse. But I dont know what worse would be. I'm feeling really down and useless over the whole situation and it's making me feel like I'm a bad parent because I want to help and dont know how to.",3.992560275545351,4.371598313432841,5.234029850746271,85.07586681974743,70.84079601990051,8.572675086107923,27.899349406812092,8.617729084823388,1.7617115193264443,755,25,167,12,13,252,118,201,0.179,0.737,0.084,-0.9729,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,2,1,6,6,0,1,13,0,19,7,4,2,0,28,37,18,1,2,10,2,2,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,2,7,1,1,4,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,10,4,19,3,29,24,1,28,0,1,2,0,23,6,0,3,21,99,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078622938571255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275142548604748,0.10071493213649856,0.22059147017543004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346674453898738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125187338681667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827378571554329,0.0,0.0,0.12342715525955615,0.0,0.0,0.2136718530226344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198094229224178,0.08617289471416335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302039227465435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647300765739583,0.13298697377849095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288155091634864,0.08085086607709283,0.0,0.12099442235560795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107215015124188,0.0,0.0,0.13258218385618498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786033544651207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051660173183099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627990367558772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531465057973854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339372549602567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212591490372862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727400265522875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612069014428476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558499029998908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075476301492826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069327317274532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067215520178672,0.0,0.0,0.23052035478047314,0.13401627934170274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990527519834356,0.0711464050243634,0.0,0.19351253902016816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467095832635684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458497119500023,0.08568691890082812,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1Melanj3,2020/04/09,"How can I get my 11 year old son to eat whole food??? HELP Since the moment I breast fed my infant son until now, I've always struggled to get my son to eat anything besides bread, cheese pizza, some fruit, cereal and kraft dinner. As an infant he would push  away depending what I ate during the day while breast feeding. As he grew older, school, friends and other family members would allow him to indulge in unhealthy foods. t's a constant battle to even get him to try an item that's not on the list. I've always had nothing but whole foods in the house and every meal is a screaming match between my husband and son and myself. We want what's best for him nutrient wise and I fear the older he gets the worse this is getting. Any ideas or tips are welcomed as I'm at a loss and not sure if my husband and I can keep argueing about the subject much longer.",4.804780564263325,5.206087074712645,5.227366771159876,85.75885579937305,69.05747126436782,7.476698014629049,27.31243469174504,6.980632752743323,1.2419839080459765,677,20,137,5,11,216,114,174,0.124,0.768,0.107,-0.5051,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,5,11,2,2,12,0,8,15,2,3,1,24,18,17,0,4,5,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,5,9,13,1,1,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,3,2,15,5,18,13,6,17,0,1,0,2,19,5,0,4,10,81,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22457882437559248,0.0,0.0,0.09177079236877396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110525508632306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679019488113816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416219534696418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458332699168533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870317420941557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27617557636665235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913336225792533,0.0,0.113701399449101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127219078126235,0.15185654092821346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895471057842455,0.0,0.10426222240128193,0.0,0.3525296585403896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904543027489704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571446078638493,0.0,0.15234239729662796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994997589798803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920395562523872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948839706390786,0.0,0.14160757816376904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13657684980328444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163223492382827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107929403524014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718900624703725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916223561189848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959714931734023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013342522349953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752582597116625,0.19172956036096125,0.0,0.0,0.08690353148941066
parenting,jasminequeen212,2020/04/09,"Need to find a way to communicate with my daughter 8. Separated because COVID. Hi,
I am a 35 y.o mom working at a restaurant. My ex and I have been divorced for a year and a half. He has remarried and has adopted 3 new kids in the process (..) 
We share custody.
We were very conservative when it comes to exposure to internet/ media, we have no TV and my daughter goes to a private school where most kids aren’t allowed their own cell phones until high school.
Anyways him and in made the very tough decision that since I am exposed daily to dozens of people it’s better that I don’t have my daughter half the week like we usually do before COVID . 
This has been extremely hard. I see my daughter  but she has crumbled in tears because she couldn’t hug me. 
I sometimes don’t know if this is worth the emotional toll it’s taking on her.but that’s another topic.
She is using her dads phone to FaceTime with me . 
But I am looking for another solution. Is there some kind of communication device that would facilitate FaceTime / Skype /zoom type calls with me and me only? Without having her able to access the rest of what a smart phone offers? Something she can have in her room and can call me
Or I can call her easily without having to go through her dad? 

Also besides my question I am
Wondering what other essential work parents are doing when you have shared custody?",4.545227272727273,6.14530428030303,5.246636363636366,80.95745454545455,70.5909090909091,8.007272727272726,31.003030303030304,8.548686976883017,2.470752121212121,1086,47,201,18,20,351,157,264,0.03,0.865,0.105,0.9662,3,0,1,0,1,0,27.0,4,1,1,3,6,8,0,0,12,0,32,1,0,3,0,35,42,15,0,4,6,9,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,12,15,0,1,5,1,1,2,7,1,0,3,4,3,36,7,27,36,4,19,0,0,2,1,41,9,0,6,8,144,48,5,0.13537517751841935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825948055177544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839053544144648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504690341651734,0.0,0.1151943052152146,0.0,0.0,0.11972834336793033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146995762955901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661372849470485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522788537074705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373045972370918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693683310590788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126956866177005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303130766121225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409724152918539,0.0743986571973761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613747367115608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368105400578052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809526620278408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854977175976745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037897879726207,0.0,0.13074619002341475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295892274188914,0.0,0.0,0.15031811406206286,0.0,0.0,0.09385210276679024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165118088545804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740138139688697,0.1078764893988619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198374577172096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042184254864533,0.13388951210004274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178528584513574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692068806427272,0.14909663237551846,0.2233973981764232,0.0,0.10745451471828064,0.1085898017004472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26099368050656185,0.14680860530027762,0.19710948308798384,0.0,0.0,0.09616664200549273,0.0,0.0,0.08717717587232167
parenting,deadwardalone,2020/04/09,"I am staying with my brother, his wife and nephew: who keeps staring at me? Hello,

I am at the present due to the \*current situation\* staying with family in Wales; I live in London usually, so I rarely get to see everyone in the family, let alone stay over for several weeks.

His son, my nephew, is 4 months old and a pretty chilled out baby. He is typically calm and likes watching what's going on outside the window, so we call him a 'little old man' sometimes.

He has since I arrived however had this habit of stopping whatever he is doing - eating with daddy, having a nappy change, watching something outside, sitting with mummy, - to a halt, then to stare at me from across the room. At first it was cute as we were sure it was because I am a 'strange new person' in the house, however, it has been almost 3 weeks now and he will still halt whatever he is doing and ignore whoever is giving him attention to turn his head and stare at me.

Today is was a little funny how my brother had to keep gently turning his head towards breakfast (they are starting him on soft solids now) because he would take on bite then turn his head to me again every time before taking his next.

I do play with him and help out with feeding and changes sometimes around the house, so I don't really stand out in terms of what we do together, nor do I not spend time with him at all making me unfamiliar. 

When we had our father - he is a doctor and came to check up on my nephew as his skin was bad - he didn't get the same staring contest.

I have no clue, but it is a funny cute thing that I would like to know other's hypothesis on.

Any thoughts?",10.532037037037037,6.150934919753091,10.127037037037038,70.5466666666667,60.913580246913575,12.898765432098765,40.580246913580254,9.928628108626363,3.8727024691358025,1270,44,252,17,12,417,179,324,0.031,0.877,0.092,0.9557,3,1,1,0,0,0,40.0,5,0,1,1,10,9,0,0,16,0,36,8,4,2,2,44,53,20,0,2,2,8,2,2,0,3,1,0,2,2,11,25,3,6,3,1,2,2,5,2,0,1,12,9,38,7,46,37,3,59,0,0,7,0,41,27,0,1,27,174,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913472319293093,0.10253468483693927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732375051554303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813145480360986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266130145401844,0.1206995998676301,0.0,0.0842421533436331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109060290947616,0.11323022427670935,0.0,0.0,0.2094588526754083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133123030629564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130225054110643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341221048870456,0.0945992423048583,0.0,0.0,0.18665776453516408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420979429305407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344737434773804,0.09497032269116823,0.05626427869131642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048092947621044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635796372835041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284666229647144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759924272910455,0.0,0.0,0.0544080983558374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123474226258992,0.0,0.09673330966069577,0.19844906484188699,0.0874192755864977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608361785705924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902127294198369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561532202890137,0.10528817935156548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20776879042512747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644343805920762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007191232258973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342227008985557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889059919353934,0.0,0.0,0.11184241161638406,0.0,0.08189425567236941,0.11128073581619362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621543933668529,0.19582809737622855,0.0,0.07007307973536989,0.316564155251701,0.07906194555545779,0.08276887018160498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330682130852973,0.0,0.14887214506431934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577154844303006,0.0,0.0,0.07859535679971873,0.11545600220989855,0.0,0.09384091998080307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230524209386912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903508940074576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882449586918568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065426215703214,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dancer_babe98,2020/04/09,"Dealing with stepkids So my significant other (29M) has a son who’s 7. I don’t have any children. The kid is great and very kind hearted. I love this kid and he’s always saying how he’s starting to see me as a mom. It warms my heart! Now my problem is that this young man has just been put in our care due to his mother’s negligence. He’s behind because mom didn’t put in the work. In school, when it comes to taking care of himself, communication skills, and a lot of other things. He’ll be 8 soon and from what I’ve seen he’s not doing any better. I’m more than willing to give examples I know this is vague. What are good ways for dad and I to correct the behavior that he came to us with?",0.8517428571428596,2.5659811266666672,2.905904761904761,93.312,81.06666666666666,5.61904761904762,20.714285714285715,6.5431188927421005,0.11162857142857163,539,15,126,5,14,182,101,150,0.043,0.785,0.172,0.9662,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,3,6,9,0,0,6,0,13,3,2,1,1,16,26,9,0,1,2,6,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,13,9,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,4,4,12,8,18,19,2,14,0,0,2,1,25,3,0,1,6,76,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176326571265473,0.0,0.0,0.2153723857655354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653116688157268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005130002272168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18111486181694075,0.3229050414990401,0.0,0.0,0.13640800345822438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632560854228814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190764639736948,0.0,0.13281987480245827,0.0,0.17458591325418393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37530065367937904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16490138820592318,0.08702725158751573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462696138090072,0.1429207242145721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709247289094113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515234518973904,0.0,0.31837914155955965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259295065895437,0.0,0.16026276565354852,0.1261876858662421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208382067975377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190625478044816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520340292389467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048043990315916,0.0,0.0,0.13065868597277366,0.0,0.1256940842600588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528364369181204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whodoesthatido,2020/04/09,"I'm opening a daycare and I NEED YOUR HELP! Hi Everyone!

I've been wanting to open a daycare for my first business for some time now and should be doing it in the next year or so. I have run into some issues that I need your input on that could really set me on the right foot. What are your thoughts?

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1. If a new daycare opened in your town, what would be something that would get you to move your child over? The obvious one I see is location but outside of that. i.e. better technology, better food, better anything? I know I can't really have more staff because that alone is about half my cost in running the business and having another person in each age group would put me over budget. :(
2. What do you REALLY care about when choosing your daycare? Price, hours, age of employees, government assistance?
3. I am COMPLETELY stumped on this one. In some states you are required a director. Now if my director decided to demand a raise, quit, or just not show up, can I still run my business and for how long? Some state require a BS in Education or similar and I don't have that.
4. I have previewed 3 daycare's and all staff, especially the directors are female. How would you/others feel if your tour was greeted and shown by a \~30y/o smiling, well groomed, polite male owner? My wife and I are going into he business together but if she is out of the office I don't want to scare customers away. O.o

When I create my daycare I have to find a way to stand out and be special. I have been pondering for a long time and am still trying to figure this out.

Thank you so much for your input! The more the merrier!",3.20771547248183,5.046777352024924,4.338878504672898,85.1303946002077,74.54517133956385,7.496988577362408,26.84215991692627,8.285830014693849,1.8215138110072693,1274,48,251,22,27,416,174,321,0.035,0.82,0.145,0.9907,1,1,1,0,0,0,51.0,0,12,0,7,14,8,0,1,17,0,34,2,1,2,2,58,47,25,0,14,11,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,12,19,1,2,8,1,3,6,4,1,1,4,4,2,36,7,36,34,9,51,0,0,1,0,22,23,0,11,17,180,48,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020556576750467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621501583895232,0.1527606991633889,0.0,0.1318259123114423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345491000178277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811586585427725,0.0,0.0,0.07663630952622984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335611220133626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817751772471564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318125589097548,0.0,0.0,0.10037530979884453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012859731387085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635666187072539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490364996766053,0.1069353646186093,0.15201827536261545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568228071081741,0.0,0.07144823482077126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426588743282212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380655643909012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121655891593415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909112989445376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22251231945220806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336179608937388,0.09241693433651722,0.18643608161785075,0.0,0.12141888494233838,0.13370214169871056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037905970761769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977179846299663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638095667686106,0.0,0.13371619035392593,0.0,0.0,0.24161382772400505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736218192497388,0.0,0.0,0.1258652942707869,0.0,0.1001806863508458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678358513349547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007965473946509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574391682257724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980576733698136,0.14661393959420746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853540286356383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830304851197082,0.0997888149304939,0.0,0.0,0.11303526094195952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572248319852343,0.0,0.1527606991633889,0.08095804156850621
parenting,wtfislifelmao,2020/04/09,"Baby’s Testicle Not Dropping??? Hey guys, I’m just wondering if anyone has had a child who’s testicle didn’t drop & is in their stomach. My pediatrician says that this could lead to surgery. He’s 7 months & it still hasn’t dropped. 

Tell me your experiences, please. I’m freaking out lol",0.9071929824561416,3.4595453333333346,2.406315789473684,89.09087719298245,95.66666666666669,6.042105263157895,23.87719298245614,7.3871296695380915,1.4604245614035092,232,10,47,5,9,75,49,57,0.09,0.807,0.10300000000000001,0.1877,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,6,1,1,1,0,7,9,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,3,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,2,22,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6054164921341715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19534907760348974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230622944945531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732873687034999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276630245412055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22299854838341687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306675478291724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22217428695462185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223113326764301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441905412924736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029758253552928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jxgabriela,2020/04/09,Does anyone else’s toddler not call them “mom”? Toddler might be a bit of an overstatement as she’s only 15 months. She can say mama but she doesn’t call me mama.. when addressing me she usually just reaches out or let’s out a couple cries . She calls her grandpa papa so I know she knows names. Maybe I’m overthinking since she’s too young ? Curious to know anyone else’s stories,1.024078947368423,3.5934374605263217,2.5897894736842098,90.03152631578949,88.86842105263158,5.67157894736842,20.757894736842104,7.1686216300943375,0.8367726315789463,301,10,59,5,10,98,55,76,0.076,0.865,0.059000000000000004,-0.2982,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,9,5,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,12,0,5,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,2,4,32,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407733920084425,0.3528212098026198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18796727931747315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5274207191604369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19050509135171093,0.18912290519210612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066891550077902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876552993955208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838637572345273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605757947639922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296995917634822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826473300153212,0.0,0.2016458164516068,0.13742608249273575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094459743987075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691811945920784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242249354771927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962318161580294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pleiades444_2,2020/04/09,"My toddler wants to sleep on the floor every night. What do I do? About 3 weeks ago my toddler started to get out of bed and sleep on the floor. We move her back, but every morning we find her there again. We moved her bed and some other things around her room and that kept her in bed for a few days. Now she's back to the floor! I'm wondering if I need to do something. Change her mattress? Maybe it's just a phase?",0.5551186017478145,2.480392651685396,1.5250936329588003,101.74159800249687,83.15730337078651,4.404993757802747,17.754057428214733,5.033348758259628,-0.8866339575530588,322,7,79,1,9,100,59,89,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,5,0,3,2,2,0,0,17,10,5,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,8,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,14,0,12,9,2,20,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,3,9,52,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059562520138925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813641712500112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133137967593287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155208450326048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138992167605568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343305042703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862068412254468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644126639220476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467561041885574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330685480576288,0.0,0.15106427802023806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19118815115768012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077571359976743,0.0,0.0,0.15684241253654255,0.0,0.0,0.14420215871235986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535011309845665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016607921197672,0.0,0.16342106874159892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22093805129893826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Phithelder,2020/04/09,Viscious fighting between siblings I babysit two kids and have recently taken on a larger role in their lives since quarantimes. The parents are asking for my help with the behavioral issues they’re having. Theyre awesome kids but the older sister is constantly attacking and picking on the younger brother to the point where we can’t get any tutoring done it’s just a lot of sobbing and the older sister thinks it’s hilarious and won’t stop. If anyone has any feedback or advice about how to communicate with each of them individually to see what is going on I’d be appreciative. I’m wondering if the older sister has a need that’s not being met or if there’s communication that can help bring clarity and peace to the situation.,8.837142857142858,8.177746275362324,9.200020703933747,64.21630434782611,60.88405797101449,11.943685300207038,38.554865424430645,11.20814326018867,4.482025672877847,598,26,99,14,7,200,97,138,0.08,0.755,0.165,0.9294,1,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,1,0,2,0,5,3,2,0,11,0,13,0,0,2,0,24,24,12,0,4,8,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,3,1,5,0,15,18,2,14,0,1,1,0,16,6,1,7,6,68,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207697831440863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890776104608561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486173485377862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870214382223686,0.2418021551467924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296870938187596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750870861854255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110466943533908,0.0,0.12079498775572801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849306736886415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22184316613782976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876823193987797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806993044222685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576004239485219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360075663966561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009250000021972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098638769627544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937192096441794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582053553874272,0.2389110006033031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769826420409565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619111761482286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076268978979367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304974478904148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dadatwhitsend,2020/04/09,"[FINAL UPDATE] Wife has almost completely stopped taking care of our two toddlers. It’s been several months since I’ve last updated on our situation. I left off with our lives being on the upswing. My wife had started taking her PPD medication, and my parents offered their help to get our family back on the right track. I last posted an update in October. 

In February, my wife found a man online and moved into his apartment. There was no warning. When I was at work, she moved all of her things out. She brought the kids back over in his car after I got home from work. 

She couldn’t even look me in the eye. She explained that she wasn’t happy. She said that she has never been happy with me or the kids. She told me that I could have full custody, but she would send us some money once she gets a job. She also begged me to not take her to court. 

Luckily, my work was forgiving enough to give me a week off to figure everything out. My mother ended up moving in with us to help me avoid child care costs. My father visits on weekends or whenever he can. 

Meanwhile, my soon-to-be-ex wife is having the time of her life with her new “boyfriend”. Before the Coronavirus, they were going on vacations and bar hopping. I’m sure they’re having wild sex that we haven’t had in years. They’ve been posting pictures online about how happy they are together. I’ve never seen her smile so much. He funds her kid-free lifestyle, so no wonder she’s so thrilled. He has a child that he doesn’t have custody of either. What a classy guy!

It hurts so badly that I’m numb. I don’t feel anything anymore. I have cried every single day. I’m sure I’m depressed, but I’m keeping it together for the kids. My parents have been my rock, but I feel terrible asking them for so much help in raising my children as a 34 year old man. 

I don’t know what to do at this point. I’m an essential worker, so I thankfully still have employment. That’s the only blessing in my life aside from my kids. I never imagined my life would be THIS fucked up. It got so fucked up in a matter of months. I never saw it coming.  

Thanks to everyone that gave me advice previously. I don’t think anyone can give me advice to get through this one, but I wanted to get my thoughts out. 

Stay safe, 

DadAtWhitsEnd",2.4929563119807057,4.470969725274724,3.6242026266416514,88.84482176360225,77.02197802197801,6.461002412221926,22.745912623961395,7.407850130929222,0.8678088984186543,1775,53,362,23,41,574,231,455,0.10099999999999999,0.763,0.136,0.9531,4,1,0,0,0,0,57.0,7,0,4,4,16,21,2,1,18,0,37,10,1,1,7,52,81,20,0,5,8,8,2,0,0,2,5,1,1,10,19,13,1,4,11,3,3,9,14,8,0,2,21,7,68,13,53,54,8,71,1,2,4,3,68,31,2,5,28,236,87,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801050282684306,0.0,0.0,0.0809591526725759,0.0,0.0,0.06465536154782657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801810356510501,0.056531890122150916,0.0,0.06653229660808573,0.0,0.07558342193635967,0.0,0.0,0.12433663762356327,0.0675060030329202,0.0,0.0,0.06879701818242505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648630234679435,0.0,0.0,0.0696447344734796,0.08476922232017267,0.0,0.0,0.06455179250119822,0.0,0.0888094419962088,0.05214127576824524,0.0,0.06963560500108144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160871010987062,0.08353920486227337,0.0,0.053400369908871134,0.0,0.06811923881171042,0.0772552164751003,0.0726623686502414,0.0,0.07621776694284273,0.0,0.08175993058485534,0.0,0.0,0.08856673783271228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864736621127563,0.0,0.14948822536614692,0.1689622264258834,0.1551165243918561,0.04594866643968658,0.0,0.12932555301112095,0.0,0.0,0.08005377261028114,0.0,0.2581975705538144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257526152777496,0.0,0.08109869777238436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655112297236713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023071006230535,0.07186280110221245,0.0,0.0,0.044432802145846564,0.13180635965435558,0.0,0.0,0.08784328027716806,0.0,0.1713192994101019,0.0,0.0,0.07139164009122817,0.0,0.06789326542506859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144742290428619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129066690145306,0.25779085225234755,0.11886745417460012,0.0,0.2494246503986581,0.07808500598635178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848380097450243,0.08610213959428879,0.054785752247421736,0.0614897313429093,0.0,0.0,0.1795477303666172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642896428090577,0.0,0.15486305350850066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690450799502946,0.07690644309907647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133698653395324,0.0,0.06687958905259844,0.09087828956688132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05722573259717266,0.08617487041955384,0.0645665606828629,0.06759384988172336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239950137367567,0.0,0.18236641510815566,0.0,0.0,0.14887081926780685,0.0,0.0,0.05371285318009232,0.051805131583656135,0.0,0.06418551729973195,0.04714402687989231,0.0,0.0,0.0772552164751003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897826931951298,0.0,0.19450412473062653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768716347687964,0.0,0.06485263788044349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767789578929355,0.1765783212971892,0.0,0.0,0.11486641125590676,0.0,0.0,0.10412892794267126
parenting,PearlyPenilePapule1,2020/04/09,"The little toy hog next door My almost four year old has a little anxiety and shyness around the neighborhood kids (we just moved last year).

There’s a little four year old boy next door who just shows up all the time and says, “can I play with that?”, “I WAS PLAYING WITH THAT”, “STOP PLAYING WITH ME”

Sometimes my daughter stands up for herself by not letting him take things, sometimes she just shuts down. To be fair, his mom is pretty on top of things but she has three children and she’s the type that over polices and barks at her kids all the time.

Not sure how I can improve the situation but I’m personally starting to get annoyed with this child which I know is an irrational feeling on my part.",3.228260869565218,5.231008275362324,3.3457246376811622,91.55815217391307,74.94202898550725,6.049275362318841,25.268115942028984,6.816661863887847,0.8333072463768119,554,19,114,5,12,169,91,138,0.094,0.795,0.111,0.0905,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,9,0,9,0,0,1,3,25,15,7,0,0,7,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,8,10,0,1,2,5,0,1,2,1,0,3,1,2,16,4,17,12,3,27,0,0,0,0,18,13,0,1,12,78,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150874905897935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574687761784125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346923261595898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650367127827233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904991195849406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831525287514864,0.12333266845080207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547182325981105,0.0,0.0,0.4549380166362724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720500545889745,0.0,0.16081183433972912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218262951762728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175354559627498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384710781502615,0.0,0.0,0.13211251056019316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393020603462013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032273484837562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007164124584453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992863560664894,0.0,0.10709350176682653,0.0,0.0,0.12649662578706064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426018989089498,0.0,0.11376151434107352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103884304760175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645274937752428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923037684927037
parenting,OntarioLakeside,2020/04/09,"Here' a game you can make with the kids and play in the backyard while social distancing. Hey all

As we are all trying to find ways to keep the kids entertained. I thought I would share this game I built with scraps of wood. It's a good project to involve the kids and they will enjoy playing it in your backyard. Its called Kubb or viking chess and its gots lots of playablity for all ages.",5.028846153846157,5.5958313717948736,4.1093846153846165,93.3856153846154,68.61538461538461,7.2656410256410275,27.138461538461538,6.742157984588678,0.8752430769230761,309,9,68,2,5,90,57,78,0.0,0.813,0.187,0.9217,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,2,1,0,1,6,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,1,3,16,8,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,5,6,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,6,11,4,4,5,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,2,2,43,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513853697111758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31451978120826185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886318371927332,0.27522449351549744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058699936007321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925588301964377,0.0,0.0,0.2297030171374922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507873780973639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731931328115773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23363514056585946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27314672987154104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444532354493873,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grimey493,2020/04/09,"My partners child (g)cannot express emotions and shuts down when angry or frustrated Me (43).I've been in a relationship with the girls mother for 2 years and the relationship is great overall, my partners daughter shuts down and becomes unresponsive if she is frustrated or angry at something small,she won't look or talk to anyone outside her bubble(pre covid19).and stays unresponsive for hours,as her mother does when she is down or upset.
Me and my parents/family have tried the down at her level approach,talked softly,gently,loving,patient, approach.
I've tried to get her to write down what she's feeling,waited till she's happy and then tried to talk to her calmly about her behaviour ,my sister who is amazing with her also comes up against the same walls of defence.
She's totally connected to animals but talk about or show affection,love,expressing emotion etc and the walls go straight up.
Could anyone please offer some advice on why she is unable to express any emotion ,can't communicate with anyone outside her bubble ( great with her friends at school but is shy/quiet around teachers)
And how we might get her to be open, express emotion and grow in confidence...
The Father left when she was 2.
No history of abuse.
She's great 95% of the time.
Adapts well to change.
Thank you",7.427971631205673,8.557300251063836,6.638297872340428,75.37333333333333,63.510638297872354,9.160283687943265,34.815602836879435,9.21078282632365,3.2484241134751777,1049,45,171,17,15,321,138,235,0.076,0.778,0.146,0.9565,1,0,1,0,1,0,38.0,1,1,0,0,9,13,3,1,8,0,14,0,0,1,1,32,20,23,0,2,8,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,2,16,0,1,0,1,0,4,3,4,1,0,2,1,26,9,36,14,4,34,0,0,1,0,41,22,0,8,7,114,28,1,0.0,0.13271439153869485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094555829049242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957493533073868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617113317517876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23496150731770124,0.0,0.0,0.09971329180803984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370704416865468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849249365701345,0.09648732042080906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943144853502817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802133919832548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5039879520412859,0.0,0.0,0.12492156570151307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559374167149713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865392073303099,0.0,0.11704196019568072,0.0,0.06365827560679635,0.0,0.0,0.3704766551680008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923749828441575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169997911537138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940607973453924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109405139331702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882567701237436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295413851071628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405151969722391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336083242267148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862313275072089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938852803810206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601199075030013,0.0,0.1031244253323346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531435379683395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281437865890386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071109261662972,0.0,0.1010722560490986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213123369223096
parenting,dnenter210,2020/04/09,"How much is too much! 4 year old and screen time. I have a 4 year old son, and I'm 40, meaning I didn't get raised with devices or unlimited options on a smart TV. Just curious to how much TV time is appropriate in a given day?",1.210799999999999,2.2940950800000017,3.916999999999998,89.24350000000004,78.2,7.4,24.5,8.07648339933343,1.1201999999999996,174,6,43,3,4,62,36,50,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.11900000000000001,0.6476,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,9,8,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,4,6,3,9,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,7,23,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137144549809868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883099593630804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894537818947435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5860180963481375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5576699898102967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098942215728704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422379801180588
parenting,micelife2,2020/04/09,"My kids dad says I'm teaching her to be violent? So me (27f) and my ex (31m) split up back in september. It was rough. He called me one day and said he was kicking me and our daughter out, I got home and he had a uhaul there and his parents there packing up mine and my daughters things. I told him it was illegal to do that with no notice, staid for a month, then my daughter and I moved in with my parents. He moved 4 hours away and was gone until January, only seeing her twice a month. He's back now and we have split custody, he gets her 3 days a week I get her 4 days. She turned 3 last month. Now he's saying that I'm teaching her to be violent and that I'm not a good parent because of the way we play. Sometimes I'll  say ""I'm gonna get you"" and she'll giggle and run away, she'll say the same to me and I'll run away. She likes to say boo to my dad then wants me to run with her and hide, laughing the whole time, then 30 seconds later saying we should go get him again. My ex says she said ""I'm going to get you"" to him and wanted to chase him and he thinks it's wrong I'm teaching her to be violent. I don't know how to explain to him that that's just how you play? Does anyone else think it's wrong to chase their kid around as long as they're laughing and enjoying it? Or am I wrong?",0.5823875432525973,1.9038658823529424,2.4741093425605563,97.91405674740489,80.48788927335642,5.5928581314878905,19.864498269896195,6.152001189255117,-0.2590538131487894,996,24,253,7,25,332,137,289,0.11,0.821,0.07,-0.9129999999999999,3,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,3,1,0,12,14,3,0,8,0,15,0,0,2,0,38,42,27,0,3,3,10,1,1,0,4,0,9,1,2,11,25,0,0,4,2,0,8,3,6,0,3,10,11,45,8,31,25,2,39,0,0,1,0,58,9,0,1,22,147,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613572592137805,0.09691306267736136,0.0,0.08420031450706605,0.0,0.0,0.2665959325087682,0.1454593817770764,0.0,0.05765787193901632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658141440708606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299765579826968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827715888147756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901326588440903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24708265268114485,0.0,0.1075091741507939,0.0793330442354594,0.07564791580551455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487602903185956,0.0,0.09314674232757032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051981202437897896,0.0770990431945545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620924002043352,0.0,0.0,0.0837043621955582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264894883202769,0.20105684434939647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768515231925856,0.0,0.0,0.0640929480193037,0.07193582260007217,0.0,0.0,0.3150748929411601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994315885771614,0.5265220880665261,0.0,0.0,0.07537165111536118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354655171154297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283778109484953,0.12121193812322685,0.0,0.0,0.055153019540327516,0.0,0.0,0.0903796036494448,0.0,0.0,0.10288084432480717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157685217530333,0.07507682386818695,0.07587003149676752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560028721297154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31024011579309146,0.0,0.0
parenting,shegotsparkle,2020/04/09,"How do I get my kids to sit and do their schoolwork without a constant fight God. I’m done. I’m absolutely done. I have three kids 11,10 and 9. Yes, see my dilemma. They all have VERY different personalities. 

11 (m) year old has to make a comment about everything 

10 (m) year old day dreams

9 (f)year old always wants to know what’s happening and why isn’t she involved.

So this is literally happening every 10 mins. 11m will see 10m day dreaming and will tell him to do his work, 10m speaks calls for me because 11m is apparently picking on him. Every time I speak to 10m, 11m will make an adlib sound between each sentence for eg “10m come on you can do this focus on your work” and then 11m will be like “yeh! “ “do your work! “ “ok!” (Thinking he is Lil Jon.

10 m will get all riled up and start crying and being upset, and little miss 9f will come in and see what’s going on and because the boys are so stressed and upset they start yelling at her.

Someone 
Help me
Before I put cement in my ears because I am not able to handle this",1.5696402704007717,3.1709511788990814,3.337030420086915,91.5736141960406,78.49541284403671,6.057363592467407,22.941574118783198,6.8360192770164,0.5108770642201841,799,25,182,8,19,267,125,218,0.075,0.845,0.08,0.2318,2,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,0,3,3,3,4,7,1,3,4,2,25,1,1,4,2,25,45,15,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,5,0,4,5,14,0,0,2,2,0,4,3,5,0,1,2,8,21,2,19,35,3,27,0,1,3,0,24,9,0,0,14,94,26,3,0.12377045188724276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298693101436128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22634795602398766,0.0,0.10531953843151312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638346974299036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132345698321546,0.0,0.13375188823152442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595602958545622,0.15964340438652008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129313779024337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533202889273914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20856388778163956,0.0,0.11123690139144513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932990534814184,0.0,0.0703416000987031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21889960369138856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296072493086573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802100348027543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060467990905096525,0.12405050845541207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652354754560888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896288064739153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080715845390593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442348977487752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958870766191197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487030223376324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752107257776204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177863446013092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818083035294596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930710793753973,0.0,0.0,0.07217154583105925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212358509730522,0.07300301930492822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168358156595083,0.0,0.0,0.11931029886042654,0.0,0.2703190892186405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23911233912515745
parenting,ScumbagTaco,2020/04/10,"At my wit's end, how to get 12 year old daughter to stop peeing herself?? TL:DR _ 12 year old daughter seems to be actively choosing to pee herself rather than get up from her activity and use the bathroom. Unsure what to say/do to make her stop.

Some context, my daughter is 12 years old (13 in Jun),  normal socially and no signs or symptoms of mental/psychological issues. However, she still pees herself regularly every day and has done so for years, it is driving me mad! We have been to a urologist and in the past she has had to have some minor operations done (issues with kidneys and bladder). She used to hold in her urine while she was doing other activities to the point that she would wet herself and from holding it in she would end up getting regular UTIs and infections. After the procedures she seemed to get much better in regards to the infections but she still pees herself all the time. She will often be sitting or laying down on furniture and she'll cover her lap with a towel or a blanket while she is on her phone/book/tablet/laptop and that's when she pees herself, she doesn't even seem to care! I have talked to her before and scolded her on it (though admittedly less so as I just feel so drained and powerless from year of this behavior) and even administered punishments in the past. Pieces of furniture in the house now smell of urine and I have to steam them, the other family members wont even touch them. If I were her I would be embarrassed but she seems to not care. I'm not sure if this happens at school since she has not come home saying any kids have bullied her for similar behavior, so I suspect she is only doing this at home and it seems she does it when she just doesn't feel like getting up from what she is doing. I have had enough and so have the other members of her family (her brother has taken to bringing it up and trying to shame her, something I have reprimanded him for). At this point I'm not sure what to do. I'm not sure if others have had this same issue and if they have found success through some means. Any help would be greatly appreciated.",5.806852300242128,6.098445549636804,6.252800000000002,79.65703050847459,66.86924939467312,9.22301210653753,31.047845036319607,9.065960079200117,2.4631730556900733,1664,60,325,27,25,539,195,413,0.11199999999999999,0.83,0.059000000000000004,-0.965,3,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,3,2,19,13,2,2,13,0,44,12,9,4,4,73,71,38,0,10,17,4,4,1,0,7,3,1,2,1,20,21,0,4,12,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,10,6,53,9,56,50,9,49,0,0,0,0,52,21,0,16,25,247,73,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148922336745427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188227849077435,0.0,0.0,0.07471155891893791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225644481174882,0.0,0.0,0.07276801133392126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054479595259475135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392492496051928,0.17289517051846193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964012622854655,0.08728559096681643,0.0,0.1673854636165222,0.0,0.07117410353249604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592716339770072,0.0,0.08542652363366987,0.060349188066154365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262283212007603,0.0,0.0,0.2206743499798458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313434250442787,0.0,0.0,0.0747012496845333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056622028752574535,0.0,0.16947127455599229,0.0,0.0,0.09747318157221313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264510871413121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04127037610257129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056387934471502414,0.0,0.0,0.09201839220131323,0.0,0.0,0.08513125739100796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062099082708869074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276788132860059,0.0,0.0,0.265927925550097,0.0,0.0,0.06424729020949117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128250993624296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971297129865974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343563358522352,0.0,0.08549353741589312,0.0,0.3845158097176541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987886063433403,0.0,0.0,0.0861119541923325,0.0,0.06503323120610129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492420511279296,0.14125030618559184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388509783349062,0.08780220625480467,0.0,0.06789806524955973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299657654245889,0.0,0.049258240529713566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573531996255074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591911371082186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400353847092231,0.0,0.0,0.2719966938637248
parenting,PamelaDJ89,2020/04/10,"9 month old scratches and grabs and bites. Ok, im going to try to keep this short because i hate typing on this small phone. I know it is normal for my lo to grabb any and everything he can get his hands on and to try to taste everything as well. The problem is he has had teeth since he was 4 mnths and i clipp insteas of biting his nails(everyone tells me i should bite them but i dont want to) so he always has a little "" nailage"" even after clipping, so he scrathes and bites when he is only trying to do normal baby things. Im just curious about way i can discourage him doing it to my face. We do baby sign language with him so, Ive tried telling him no, and shaking my head,which he does understand, and does work sometimes. Ive tried saying ""ouch"" and shaking my head no which sometimes works. Nothing always works though. And i do take his hands away everytime too or move his mouth away from me if hes biting. Im also aware that eventually this will pass im just wondering if anyone else is going through/ has gone through this and if they have any advice to quickly help this pass. He has 6 teeth already too so when he bites it really hurts and the scratches are no joke either. Thanks in advance and i hope everyone is staying safe and healthy during this corona crisis.

Tl;dr
9 mnth old with many teeth bites and scratches.",3.7936567164179102,5.115678664179104,4.341970149253733,87.79967164179104,72.05970149253731,7.0017910447761205,25.71343283582089,7.365786028017652,1.1334277611940302,1054,33,215,11,20,334,153,268,0.11199999999999999,0.792,0.096,-0.5303,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,2,4,16,12,1,2,3,1,25,9,8,0,0,39,38,29,0,9,8,0,6,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,12,18,1,3,3,1,0,9,4,6,1,0,3,8,27,6,24,33,1,26,0,2,0,0,25,8,0,6,7,127,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681728612162607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933437181540387,0.07923215895506525,0.16488066322721898,0.0,0.0,0.1347520555664227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927721996999818,0.10151650212545044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861729526889661,0.0,0.0,0.06039666188997035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340659638042627,0.0,0.1161179719360705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276645224593762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543968660277624,0.0,0.0,0.18934539828797486,0.17808875258361326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051763850905367566,0.0,0.11261593643489262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781841793724373,0.20336398725272312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664094910571933,0.0,0.0,0.09840621114663352,0.0,0.0,0.10606440315105643,0.0,0.4280823641049622,0.0,0.0,0.08806454319607986,0.0,0.0,0.05445034654758685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930158082363813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044893021451072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908263340104077,0.10530359377188338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414962677982872,0.09506743499743317,0.0,0.2079301240493983,0.0,0.0,0.07535282536873264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480368867678994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347151783621892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879032313771146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195784701853623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959801589857664,0.0,0.0,0.1056033230277986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449387255753176,0.0,0.17319602479054044,0.09121715611529332,0.0,0.0,0.06582262041713409,0.0,0.09734303996346068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363352463292279,0.0,0.0,0.1031430649105283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843841603022201,0.07864302643246503,0.0,0.0,0.08908247903586068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744521118924087,0.21638857607637613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tontonsb,2020/04/10,"App for teaching child to read words in language other than English Hi parents!

I've seen videos of toddlers using apps that teach them to read using *flashcards*. The software shows a written word which is afterwards revealed with a picture and sometimes with an audio readout. Here's an example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRdQCsPvxco

Unfourtunately, the programs that I have seen are only for the most popular languages. Do you know any such app that supports more languages?

Or maybe you know an app where users could add in their own language: write and record the words themselves? If no such app exists, I am even considering to make one myself.",7.063363636363636,10.213806790909091,5.112727272727274,77.99909090909094,67.45454545454545,6.581818181818183,32.81818181818181,7.554174236665415,2.5010181818181825,537,24,79,6,10,153,82,110,0.02,0.9209999999999999,0.059000000000000004,0.6399,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,2,2,0,5,2,0,0,9,0,6,0,0,3,0,19,15,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,7,2,11,11,3,4,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,3,1,52,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715075148092553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013645438195032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657850556656445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277209681963659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834827206562292,0.0,0.2533730327517329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090010333803854,0.1918126704416288,0.0,0.0,0.28004293465924995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5045449305501609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494364177101796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28619835469084753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4356469320042019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,impassiondovercoming,2020/04/10,"Child is being asked to do the dishes, constantly ignores This child is not my child, but is my friend's child. I'm with her in voice chat most of the time during the day on discord. 

Every single time that the child is told to do the dishes, he ignores his mother completely to his face, and asks her questions about the game she's playing. I've even called him out a couple of times and he goes quiet.

I don't know much about child psychology or anything, but I was curious about how to correct this child's behavior? If I am to become a parent, it's good to try and understand it on some level when things like this come up.",7.414322916666663,5.504842203125001,7.48,79.43166666666667,64.46875,10.408333333333333,31.48958333333333,8.841846274778883,2.2849020833333333,494,13,103,6,6,160,82,128,0.06,0.845,0.095,0.6705,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,8,0,10,3,1,1,1,20,17,9,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,7,7,6,2,2,3,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,11,4,17,14,4,13,0,0,0,0,25,6,0,5,7,68,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136760982931235,0.0,0.389361288285372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22998986366165844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21264107883019914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17938433350979285,0.2183405617525631,0.22503849488358432,0.0,0.0,0.23041875305253745,0.0,0.13430057667315382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375436325186502,0.0,0.1754551057709356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608893060944147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466573891751064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444581789511064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173782098958033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308378446927798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312310484669613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332816758392747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834849743435054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36428740398332304,0.0,0.0,0.1989866947201564,0.0,0.14138445315297227,0.0,0.0,0.21679003298128768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jenleigh84,2020/04/10,Boiling over step mom Today my stepdaughter (15) slammed my daughter (14) into a wall and I asked her to keep her hands to herself. I have since found out shes calling me an abusive b*tch to my daughter and saying she wishes she could live back with bio mom (long story moms a junkie) my husband (35M) seems to think my child is being a snitch for telling me all this in the first place (We’re essential and work out of home) So now I’m fuming because I told my employer and have to take my work home and *try* to work from home. Help,2.4506565656565646,3.961492772727276,3.2293939393939404,93.67853535353537,75.81818181818181,5.9797979797979774,24.040404040404038,6.42735559955562,0.4941919191919189,415,13,92,3,9,131,78,110,0.075,0.885,0.04,-0.7063,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,4,3,1,1,0,5,0,6,2,1,0,1,16,15,6,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,9,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,18,0,15,11,1,13,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,1,5,54,19,4,0.0,0.17783203813631202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031383492402447,0.0,0.0,0.11540990073994238,0.0,0.09149343543280287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532586116325934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983460559233905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766642781601184,0.0,0.16456587424014088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060212422394857,0.0,0.4516573476139608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334068364822632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253216837880594,0.13282487543215954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5273505775063033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681204415843367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935754588329316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366362460247549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415595083819066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284895730493695,0.0,0.1311852246094326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617157433500274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226771526391818,0.14341737134677662,0.0,0.10190121831521033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259602589795364,0.0,0.0,0.32780179556459577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,misshindsight,2020/04/10,"What are some positive points of having an autistic child? I have an autistic son who is 3.5 years old. He is semi verbal and still struggles when expressing negative emotions. 
Now my brother in law has a 2.5 years old. The 2.5 year old throws all kind age appropriate tantrums and gives real hard time to his parents.
A lot of the time I feel low with the fact that I could never experience that as my son was not expressive and verbal at that age for these kind of tantrums. But very rarely I feel slightly better thinking I never had to deal with them. 

So I wanted to know what are some positive points of having an autistic toddler/pre-schooler? I need some pick-me-up today",5.263044953350299,6.404035847328245,5.309567430025447,82.92065309584396,68.38931297709924,7.959626802374894,29.82273112807464,8.167268648758528,2.026704156064462,540,20,102,7,9,169,87,131,0.125,0.774,0.10099999999999999,0.1207,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,1,4,7,2,1,8,0,11,0,0,0,4,24,18,7,0,3,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,3,11,3,13,15,5,22,0,1,0,0,13,5,0,4,16,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656709920509302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328743357409262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919459519593618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17369555725997232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104703550197746,0.0,0.0,0.15615324719008644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812848300726966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832508450481767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215979321651745,0.08486218477922472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312777074372237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449641388075435,0.2381880024260753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.486096206738353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145905654395666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919432750606874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757575353566793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627574333362054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331563931626405,0.0,0.0,0.1614275887611619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894259278390413,0.0,0.0,0.18008070286389247,0.0,0.14636691470414073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274081549143489,0.09107768772468344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298313674712486
parenting,giver19,2020/04/10,"Were you a single child? So we have a 4 month old daughter and she is the light of our lives, i love her more and more everyday. But this parenting thing is HARD. I never thought it would be this way and i now never even THINK to judge any other parent on how they choose to go about parenting. 

That being said, i always thought i wanted 2 or 3 kids. And we might have one more, but i would be just fine if we just had our daughter and no more. She has cousins that are very very close in age with her. 

Were you an only child? Did you love it? Hate it? 

Do you only have one child currently?

I would love to hear feedback.",0.4949340659340678,2.5874037461538464,1.7375824175824195,99.14384615384616,84.61538461538461,4.945054945054945,16.978021978021978,6.1826913282559595,-0.5717362637362635,477,10,113,4,14,151,82,130,0.068,0.8059999999999999,0.126,0.8733,4,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,4,1,0,7,5,1,0,4,0,19,3,0,1,2,28,30,11,0,5,6,6,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,4,9,10,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,7,4,21,4,8,16,5,13,0,0,0,3,29,3,0,3,8,86,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257303093731133,0.0,0.0,0.10017528770519134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729631811871432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371919660248933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196008271770418,0.14543730881938005,0.0,0.0,0.16602814178576925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300766967941727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988568343988733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627175132216095,0.0,0.0,0.1175807748554666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272278279462386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15457619486151167,0.0,0.19964101327892456,0.2240705250538012,0.0,0.0,0.4907082044859047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012475505162145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978656675785663,0.09438976867289296,0.0,0.2338940543095941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430909870266081,0.08688676568614613,0.11692716323716255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139326256479679,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rebellioness11,2020/04/10,"No, YOU ARE NOT a bad parent from wanting a break from your child(ren). Stop shaming.  You were an individual before you were a parent. Time away or alone from your family is not abandonment, it’s not selfishness, it’s not bad parenting, and it’s not you not loving your family. It’s you being a human being and having needs that, at times, extend beyond the family home. I’ll be the first to admit, my kids are not my world. Outside of being a parent, I am many, many, many things. And having the time dedicated to my own self development is good for the whole family. I know it’s hard to have alone time right now cause of what’s happening but make it a priority to separate yourself from your family a little. You can take turns with your SO (or family members); take a drive, meditate, workout, walk around the neighborhood, or allocate uninterrupted time for YOU do something you love. Then do the same for your SO when they need it. 
(When things return to normal) If you want to take a weekend trip without kids or even without your SO, do it! 
If you want to go back to school but torture yourself over the time away from family, stop it! Do what you need to do.
If you want to go out with girls or the guys on a Friday night, don’t feel bad or think twice, DO IT! 
If everyday (or every other day) you want to allocate time to workout, take a class, run errands alone, catch up with friends, or anything that brings you joy and individuality, make arrangements and DO IT! 
Don’t live life regretful or resentful that time passed you by and now your old and trying to turn up. So many people I hear, “I’ll do that when my kids grow up.” No, DO IT NOW! 
Your kids will benefit from having a healthy and happy parent knowing they took care of themselves first so they can take care of everyone else.",3.8616151094276105,5.365600525568183,4.948421717171718,82.80524831649831,72.1534090909091,8.396632996632997,24.684764309764308,8.94667605116694,1.7349914562289563,1403,41,282,28,27,461,159,352,0.075,0.762,0.163,0.9862,5,3,1,0,0,0,54.0,0,24,3,2,15,18,2,1,21,0,29,3,0,3,0,59,61,32,0,14,24,5,2,0,1,1,1,1,1,8,21,13,0,3,5,3,0,11,13,9,0,3,3,3,34,9,43,53,3,52,0,2,0,2,45,14,0,13,26,200,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21217127277325168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619360380982664,0.060789065237703485,0.0,0.0,0.12831399049799586,0.052507760214723836,0.17104800747653093,0.0,0.0,0.05810640215553299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392443654578711,0.07014858736363193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044038855443682384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704423555434907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04510229441850664,0.0,0.05753394535830615,0.06525025060260105,0.0,0.0,0.4506180985844259,0.0,0.034527480494682995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616816471125313,0.0,0.0,0.05275763566354543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761707589056321,0.057275101996563785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761392903724568,0.06038513172961631,0.0726917738905444,0.0611708913276916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696334534923181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849647952120133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505645850922492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048232459155575225,0.0,0.06844056515302524,0.060297836436517364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326165897968268,0.0,0.09116294213020752,0.2769253619479705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189973060886344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408183553177632,0.06690583408062596,0.0,0.0,0.07165472636107269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791179073754193,0.0,0.0,0.047340951588892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583159167133445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910913191802302,0.0,0.0,0.07123724659786564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256994025892586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418039700655228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567130702244202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073243958125073,0.043754945912600866,0.0,0.0,0.3185451762284758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586831818128909,0.04636174801796265,0.14855123508703486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138441838399887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623894027107042,0.0,0.13165063786125392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeHasNoRegerts,2020/04/10,"Did you get anything special for your child's 18th birthday? I know this doesn't apply to everyone. However, if you have/have had an eighteen year old...did you get anything special for an eighteenth birthday? My oldest son will be eighteen in a few weeks. Coronavirus cancelled the only thing he was actually excited about (seeing the movie Fast 9). My wife and I have started getting gift ideas together, but kind of feel like we should be looking to do/get something more special than normal. With everything shut down we'll probably plan on a decent feast and throw some food on the grill. Not many options under quarantine. As far as gifts though....I'm feeling like we should be doing something ""special"" but nothing specifically comes to mind. Wondering how other parents have handled the big 18?",5.7068648018648025,8.155117909090912,5.395961538461542,77.60112179487182,69.20979020979021,7.843589743589742,34.993589743589745,8.59863814320734,3.289424708624709,643,33,101,11,12,198,108,143,0.01,0.853,0.13699999999999998,0.945,2,1,2,0,0,0,25.0,3,4,0,1,2,8,0,0,8,0,14,1,0,1,0,22,25,8,0,4,4,3,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,6,1,0,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,4,11,8,16,15,3,15,0,0,2,0,12,8,0,4,7,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.16616778362305404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28025028853298345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668031862756745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270892342226553,0.15303582483913045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219640163494476,0.2432947657134085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059020955695837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558550893407339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922243139230867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731942078882953,0.0935809092466314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637947926942456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14299151085150966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263622397903616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193329305798444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683730918105347,0.1633873349002423,0.0,0.17867921236554474,0.0,0.0,0.1295048858163998,0.0,0.0,0.18907472688449006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358960916968398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569035174247915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26217825387360805,0.0,0.0,0.12052438356622085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312583037920595,0.0,0.167298295900663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658757779834824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18466035929630112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965412133773138
parenting,strongmamaa,2020/04/10,"Boyfriend CHEATED on me, can people really change? 
For reference, I have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship. That relationship ended because of him cheating. Fast forward to beginning of last year I met this guy and ended up pregnant again we were happy and decided to stick together and I ended up moving in with him in November, we now have a 2 month old daughter together. In the beginning of our relationship I caught him messaging/flirting with a couple girls we had a talk and he promised it would never happen again. I built back some of my trust with him but still felt insecure about the relationship throughout my pregnancy. I had several talks with him, lots of tears about my worries of him cheating because of my previous relationship and how things ended and how hurt I was. He assured me time and time again he would never do that to me. Well the other night I asked who he was messaging (I saw he was on snapchat) he said my mom and pulled up there texts, I grabbed his phone and a notification from snapchat popped up.. he grabbed his phone from my hands and I said you lied.. what was that picture from her? Let me see? He said no I knew what was happening.. he deleted the picture but admitted that it was bikini pics from his co worker & I asked him for his phone and found other nudes from other girls. I was cheated on again.. after we had talked the first time and after we had SEVERAL talks about my concerns, he lied over and over again. He wants to stay with me and work things out he said he will do whatever it takes me having full access to his phone going to therapy etc. can people like this really change? I feel like I want to make things work but I have already gotten my four-year-old daughter involved with him and I can’t be selfish in this situation I need to do what’s best for my daughters. Let me know your thoughts, thanks!",3.4030578512396694,5.644368865013777,4.075757575757578,85.43363636363641,75.22589531680441,7.485399449035814,26.426997245179066,8.391295532112219,1.8542550964187323,1490,56,289,28,33,473,166,363,0.105,0.813,0.08199999999999999,-0.9147,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,6,2,0,5,15,16,4,1,11,0,28,2,2,3,3,52,57,20,0,5,3,5,5,2,0,3,0,4,0,3,20,27,0,0,9,0,0,5,4,7,1,1,24,11,57,9,49,27,5,51,0,1,2,1,67,16,0,2,33,204,77,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996017736945551,0.0,0.0,0.08832770112135273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524217979249569,0.0,0.0,0.06268442658789775,0.0,0.099388587978868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555100016943609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247629345841448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020116193511643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888127597933733,0.0,0.09091718791734402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041219341816966716,0.058238441773481815,0.07827270642521797,0.0,0.0,0.06934151031118836,0.0,0.0893832972434846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0463301222117734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071836150927783,0.14417706416828832,0.08678035675778363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726965145200738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044801673544340184,0.06645029360200193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672098497290572,0.0,0.07965384366015227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930602844544898,0.0,0.0,0.05441573521827108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547611989912727,0.06506908677915814,0.08664365849518763,0.0,0.060446604928076415,0.12574765962758924,0.0,0.0,0.07650170372117625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25662694900079075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130324505307307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444856283795577,0.0,0.0,0.4376138987152723,0.0,0.0,0.3101796142292841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496148510228406,0.0,0.0,0.1841904924108182,0.0,0.0,0.09163274123651068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689027533285029,0.06510257813809417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129346039073338,0.2620931711779718,0.0,0.07505335611315041,0.09322608492588508,0.0,0.16247629659349647,0.0,0.0,0.06471837141619469,0.14260621881818247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961661037417355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329694661901166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869615724882925,0.08278828113147711,0.0,0.11582000706156473,0.0,0.0,0.15749007526793235
parenting,thebucksyndicate,2020/04/10,"Motor Skills: Birth to 6 Months Parent Here. If you are looking for a great course that addresses all of the major questions that come up from birth to six months of age such as tummy time, wearing baby, sitting, standing, equipment to avoid, flat head and head tilt, rolling, postpartum depression and anxiety, and more, then Gina Mydlo’s online course might be the perfect fit for you. Gina is a Pediatric Physical Therapist and has 55 lessons that she covers in her course with slides, videos and audio walk-thrus. [Their Best Start](https://theirbeststart.com)",13.00342105263158,11.114807421052632,9.819868421052638,66.96032894736844,53.73684210526318,12.86842105263158,41.64473684210526,11.20814326018867,4.671368421052631,455,17,69,8,4,130,76,95,0.07200000000000001,0.79,0.138,0.836,1,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,1,4,2,5,0,1,4,0,5,4,3,0,2,14,7,8,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,3,7,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,3,12,5,4,14,0,1,1,0,7,3,0,3,7,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206506764710131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24976044391893495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20501110558853586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049842314358244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623896706133226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4885018397996883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998553589447522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524744527091186,0.0,0.0,0.3799297253609037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642646209125065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666082000675119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845366410762525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27632984647084674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877645087760052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ddubfanforever,2020/04/10,"17 Year old daughter says she wants to move back in with me Me (41f) and my kids dad separated 10 years ago and my kids (17f) and (12m) lived with me full time and saw their dad every other weekend. When my daughter started high school, she became very rebellious. She started drinking and doing drugs and would often disappear for a day or 2. 

When she was 14 she decided she didn’t like my rules and went to live with her dad. My son stayed with me. My daughter has had way too much freedom for a teenager. Her dad lets her do whatever she wants and she hasn’t stopped her reckless behaviour. 

There have been a few times in the last few years when my daughter has called me after a fight with her dad asking if she can come live with me. Every time, I have dropped everything to go pick her up (1 hour drive). She’ll tell me all the reasons she hates her dad and we talk about how to make it work having her back in my house (I will not tolerate her drinking or doing drugs as I have my son to worry about). After a few days she always wants to go back to her dad. The last time this happened things got heated and I told her not to do this anymore. It breaks my heart to hear her beg to live with me again just to go back a few days later. 

She just called me in tears begging to come back and live with me and I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid she will be a bad influence on my son. As recently as Christmas time I found proof in her room that she had been doing drugs in my house. Add that to the fact I don’t know how things will be between us if she comes back now. I don’t know yet exactly what happened at her dads or why she wants to come back to me. I just know I feel like a terrible person for not rushing to pick her up. I don’t know what to do. 

Has anyone been in this situation before and can offer some advice? I’m a mess right now and I don’t know what to do.",2.154237903225805,3.2941398125000063,3.2777580645161315,94.54472580645165,75.875,6.461290322580645,21.653225806451612,6.828538100315305,0.2176193548387096,1455,35,346,13,31,469,173,400,0.07200000000000001,0.904,0.023,-0.945,0,0,5,0,1,0,34.0,2,0,1,1,24,8,2,1,13,0,38,6,1,7,4,67,71,27,0,7,11,15,1,2,0,5,3,2,1,3,14,28,2,1,10,3,0,12,10,6,0,0,12,4,70,2,49,51,8,69,0,0,1,0,63,15,0,7,40,235,84,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469227670921885,0.06775581334930865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360079183739946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580387372405188,0.0534457584066561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145724828288003,0.0,0.0,0.411421422211104,0.06382078365504285,0.0,0.0,0.06504132101246499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609919960992547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633710385357752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788449608016244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975616482739787,0.26592413114312297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880108457401307,0.0,0.06869565818062949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03864828761201248,0.054605822133978986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380801893722252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032085007261812,0.0,0.061132771671924636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518402762894086,0.0,0.0,0.07546462654043162,0.0,0.0,0.08614881433638945,0.09057690936089814,0.0,0.08075872482624112,0.0,0.0,0.07527396452447739,0.1763935319206186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520430295558615,0.12461092030226086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816088629948237,0.0,0.07468543949221126,0.0,0.33747149974343993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051021556692329065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123926500691081,0.05618918122587821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020661900277512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674087948934165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858883543921097,0.07547122981798995,0.0,0.0,0.06527584084342831,0.0,0.0607848954825865,0.0,0.07735721137821143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591715398347406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820344667138564,0.08147049913273152,0.0,0.0639038348576079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143628096859364,0.06680834552799023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156123095097318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285193945358206,0.0,0.0,0.07303777790660276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194297622978227,0.0,0.0,0.06306762240110765,0.18033549649778116,0.060671259512117326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085684495052251,0.06897151078170048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055646245446660005,0.07762436659666512,0.0,0.05429787020881247,0.0,0.0,0.14766664038500305
parenting,blessedwiththree,2020/04/10,"Divorced dads: How often do you see/have contact with your young child(ren)? I have three children under 5, their father decided to end the marriage in the fall. I am the primary conservator and he has standard visitation. He is aware that he can visit with the children at any time and in any manner (phone calls etc). Despite things being cordial, he rarely asks about the kids and does not call or Skype them. The older two are old enough to talk and interact and they do so during phonecalls etc. He does visit them every 1-2 weeks, which includes one and sometimes two overnights bi-weekly. He works a lot, however, a lot of this consists of extra duty jobs that he decides to work and are not actually required. I have no idea what type of contact is average/normal for this type of situation. As far as I know he is not in a new relationship yet (and I am not either), so I don't think he is avoiding the children due to that. It's been six months and I am heartbroken for the kids because they hardly see their dad and they want to. What can I do to facilitate or encourage this relationship? I am very concerned that he will become less and less involved with the children as time goes on.

Thank you very much.",4.670498504486542,5.98594684745763,5.224117647058822,82.33424227318045,69.9322033898305,7.925822532402793,29.560319042871384,8.313332769828598,2.0640955134596206,960,37,185,14,17,308,138,236,0.040999999999999995,0.9279999999999999,0.031,-0.4871,2,1,0,0,1,0,31.0,0,3,7,3,6,3,0,1,12,0,22,0,0,1,0,36,28,19,0,1,7,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,12,14,0,4,5,0,0,4,6,1,0,5,1,2,19,2,25,25,10,22,0,0,1,0,46,7,0,5,11,128,31,7,0.0,0.0,0.13201272341988246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398862535622945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264675401145935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246478133881291,0.14940495207763274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27626982934429506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367670100587849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119816980845344,0.13977929910286946,0.3017435371206862,0.0,0.0,0.11397833474977065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118335158954832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271344802955195,0.0,0.0,0.13424346613692908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434576318223637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300186207467073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797835289299848,0.0,0.0994455804197602,0.0,0.0,0.1306532355103217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195248277730846,0.0,0.09166850537532956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29047789250052186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155995883770245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520591875427697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337943228298751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873208127367176,0.0,0.12454666529583787,0.0,0.0,0.08987331137166775,0.08668127730726786,0.0,0.0,0.1577644662771777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26429571954962844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22323857292598925,0.07979101905496393,0.0,0.21702519871587636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19696934733318144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cloudnin381,2020/04/10,Co parent advice? I live three hours from my 8 month old daughter  her mother's family is wealthy and very loving I dont have much to.offer but I love her unconditionally and want to do as much as I can to show her how can I be an effective co parent from 3 hours away an no money,3.4185000000000016,3.884161849999998,5.403333333333336,83.04000000000002,72.16666666666666,8.0,23.333333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.0108333333333337,221,5,49,3,4,77,43,60,0.044000000000000004,0.708,0.248,0.9177,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,2,0,6,10,6,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,9,2,7,9,2,5,0,0,0,2,9,1,0,0,4,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089197601700076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20086913289977534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505682592449027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154859715676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210935670557348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887864927858338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38591992132648056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065056732743486,0.0,0.3143304979592538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22434377882658327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4747920941479394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640475196421154,0.12610289289054966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SpouseOfGamer,2020/04/10,"What is ""cool"" for kindergartners to wear these days? Okay my daughter will start school this fall, and she has a hard time socially. Kids always gravitate towards other kids and leave her out. It BREAKS MY HEART. 

I know cool clothes won't solve all her problems, and I know kindergarteners don't understand fashion. She's a super sweet kid and isn't mean at all.  So spare me the platitudes about how I don't need to give her clothes any thought lol. I just want to make sure I'm doing what I can on my end. I'm not telling her any of this of course. 

I'm NOT good with knowing what's cool. At all. Even for people my own age. I wish they just did school uniforms!

So anyway just wondering what exactly little kids are wearing these days. Can they wear the same light-up sneakers to school every day or do they need a variety of shoes? Can they just wear jeans and a ""Frozen"" shirt or something? Help me out LOL",2.1550061050061093,4.404703010989014,2.422564102564106,95.70299145299148,79.32967032967035,6.022466422466422,22.1990231990232,7.1686216300943375,0.5373909645909647,716,22,156,9,18,217,109,182,0.05,0.79,0.16,0.9651,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,4,1,10,9,0,0,6,6,14,7,7,2,5,36,31,10,0,5,8,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,10,8,0,0,7,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,5,22,8,17,27,5,16,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,3,7,92,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13079575005483465,0.0,0.0,0.21379094230052112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041261441482864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922483082274026,0.0,0.0,0.1038233680655216,0.0,0.1324404459287552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507922139159633,0.0,0.1318446006405282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081252510748055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627244182423774,0.1053620118159679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259164675033704,0.0,0.0,0.16644288513355546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754697356547753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492641024972676,0.0,0.0,0.17122740283233495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23311070746157664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897665195872566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041084049204334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4772579487798369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023673003232133,0.0,0.12101353882443255,0.0,0.0,0.11126080790066517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815093557519118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739212061378225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479233006172345,0.09165950841154713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364168209750346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271549867744044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807622320137878,0.0,0.17046725446428096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,longestyeahboy_ever,2020/04/10,"Why is/isn’t your kids graduation important to you? Just curious if you really care that your teen won’t be having a graduation. Many of my younger siblings and cousins don’t seem to care. Their parents, on the other hand are super bummed, and it’s not even them graduating. 

I guess I was only excited for mine because I come from a gritty background where a lot of people don’t make it to graduation (murder, teen parent, gang life, drugs, etc.) so I thought it was good that I actually made it.",4.610580357142858,5.989933302083338,5.983571428571429,76.59000000000003,70.14583333333334,9.235714285714286,29.339285714285715,9.606745405546679,2.7380285714285706,391,15,74,9,7,132,72,96,0.0,0.762,0.23800000000000002,0.9701,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,4,2,1,4,6,1,0,4,0,8,3,1,2,0,12,16,4,1,1,3,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,1,13,5,8,10,2,3,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,4,0,50,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.20160015606898493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259341702634363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212606123880264,0.0,0.0,0.17795733013233378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23957657434715796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23040030763874103,0.13644947215184544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327627198645298,0.0,0.0,0.2275800505425373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459192636918979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756337898348546,0.0,0.19547862734766355,0.13789914120612834,0.2094478781535924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711953679004256,0.0,0.0,0.4587832083634473,0.0,0.0,0.14322215618413908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234560791831626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807002042978288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400785182363747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18641360085972614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ValentineRune,2020/04/10,"My (21M) GF (31F) has a kid that out of control and she won’t listen to any of my advice. I guess I’ll start a little about me. I am young to be in a situation like this but I am no stranger to children or the like. I am very educated and have dealt with children (wether an actual child or be an adult with the developmental delay of a child’s intelligence) and have always had good positive reactions to whatever I need done or ask the child of. But now here is where we start getting off the paved path. 

At first he would listen and obey what I asked him and it was never anything complex. Things like put your toys away or eat your dinner. He typically will always listen to me. But when it comes to his mom, he just will disobey almost everything she says. And if she’s in the room with us he will completely act as if he doesn’t hear me and only respond to mama regardless if she agrees with me or not. 

The mom has been making it very apparent in-front of him that we have different styles of raising children. She...she has different belief than I and it really shows in how she raises him. He is defiant in a lot of things and I think it’s because she told him that she used to be a bad kid too. I’ve repeatedly told her to not tell him subpar stories about her childhood in the fear that he’ll emulate that behavior. Well...too late. 

The most recent blunder which blindsided everyone was this child lied to DCFS workers and said I did many awful things. And he was laughing about it when telling them. I know this because he was only feet away when being interviewed by them. He eventually told them that he was lying and it shows in his track record that he is a compulsive liar and it’s now effecting me on this level. 

Honestly, I’m rather frightened about what will come next. He may just say or do some things and cause a world of trouble fall down upon me.  His dad told us he’s getting better at lying and it’s showing. I don’t know how to have my gf trust me and believe me in what I share advise-wise. I’ve done absolutely nothing to give her doubt that I am not capable and don’t give the due diligence of thought when it comes to dealing with children. 

I’m down to the wire here and him doing these malicious things and possibly getting me in serious trouble over lies is making it hard for me to still want to be with her. 

Please, parents and non-parents alike. Give any advice and or guidance that you have. I am willing and open to hearing any way to help this child steer clear from this behavior. I know he’s capable of good things, I just need some tools to coax that out of him. 

Thank you everyone.",3.8610902255639097,4.919977063909776,4.819624060150378,85.4437969924812,71.59398496240601,8.23157894736842,26.969924812030076,8.611707548084741,1.7533939849624058,2066,69,434,35,38,674,242,532,0.113,0.787,0.1,-0.8249,5,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,4,4,3,5,21,18,1,2,20,1,45,3,1,9,2,88,84,42,0,9,20,4,1,3,2,9,0,8,1,12,38,36,2,2,8,4,0,6,9,7,0,1,16,9,61,11,65,54,4,52,1,0,0,0,89,26,0,18,22,291,99,2,0.0,0.0,0.07795443476801815,0.0,0.0,0.15612178660618378,0.0,0.0,0.07999143937423213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293836643752022,0.0,0.0,0.16296985156238386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573702904325107,0.0,0.14935993062998926,0.0,0.15010570506508716,0.0,0.06669909665240023,0.09739205814410426,0.0,0.0,0.09000095899735873,0.0,0.07065015784852219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206200371971363,0.0,0.2064367908308267,0.08375596685712139,0.0,0.08959574952326957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235602384974026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692178679409933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16349640223181336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174040912851431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266355343426152,0.07179382768716612,0.0,0.0,0.08989075679765263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794856976399695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520695232269505,0.2298936003013994,0.0,0.13400439865523892,0.0,0.0,0.08800029995239589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155961510172491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006823999437035,0.0,0.05354399408816166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170507651375288,0.0,0.09011167688541748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170806215920942,0.08006390610623514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791380066221751,0.0,0.0,0.10664525085030588,0.08098897973688576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711636838157603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184646926067732,0.06161081280548587,0.0,0.08495664025846186,0.0,0.0,0.0766500404753198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150947618601485,0.0,0.0,0.0887007886957994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768771434706607,0.0,0.09005625317887694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030463338509022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117519381171398,0.0,0.07887497714403054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759871722660888,0.1270525802601526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979201177812679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308341474881473,0.0,0.06379478976705523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964279472479565,0.07354567532477947,0.0,0.0,0.3184249066550178,0.05118589937703084,0.0,0.06341830103570767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30532710686852305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921791963949042,0.06899339651024762,0.0,0.1318239357543889,0.047117153777747715,0.0634075291850763,0.0,0.0,0.07182454879449424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05674670045814927,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AllyM2019,2020/04/10,"How to brush a Toddlers teeth?!? Lately my son who is 16 months, absolutely hates brushing his teeth. He won’t open his mouth, he won’t show us his teeth, he turns his head away and it’s just becoming such a struggle. 

My husband will hold him and hold his arms down while I try to brush them, we try singing songs, put on his favourite cartoons but nothing is working to keep him calm or get him interested into letting us brush his teeth. 

Just wondering if anyone else has struggled like we are and any tips would be greatly appreciated!",8.262884615384614,6.8615049038461535,7.385461538461537,79.15953846153849,62.46153846153847,10.243076923076924,37.14615384615385,8.841846274778883,2.9491061538461536,426,17,86,5,5,131,75,104,0.06,0.802,0.13699999999999998,0.8942,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,0,1,1,4,7,1,2,2,0,10,7,7,1,0,18,15,8,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,2,7,0,3,1,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,5,18,4,7,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,3,4,50,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492931318305828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845452299341548,0.18823292652522888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260188733247084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20289360837462705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346639411502785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598105667679613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254126968743866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137590136470266,0.1885397825425201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329016802037485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20723323599689608,0.0,0.0,0.18785624277140395,0.0,0.08975157983098991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466358198985638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627500093236104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18467960665184024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38410781585820464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24945448822457994,0.19982406783609655,0.0,0.0,0.4419617760619428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19922599892457965,0.13374329653698055,0.0,0.0,0.13050253612572466,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fant1,2020/04/10,Keeping toddler from opening the fridge and leaving it open I have a kid who I have a problem keeping out of the fridge. The problem comes from her opening it and leaving it open. Are there any solutions for that or does it just go away with time?,5.576666666666667,5.907133877551023,5.228979591836733,86.66482993197279,67.36734693877551,7.34965986394558,36.74149659863946,6.42735559955562,2.2951170068027205,196,10,39,1,3,60,33,49,0.11,0.855,0.035,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,15,7,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,1,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662770944799602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24402820466373676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237374407639218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22729456551221466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476125526710899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4617261972865539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5500406189094972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4970598276312991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145271212756548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yerkind,2020/04/10,"Anyone know a good educational animal series on youtube? Like these from the San Diego Zoo where they spend 3-5 minutes explaining the basics of a particular animal.. except they only have these videos for a couple of animals, it seems like something like this should exist with an endless number of animals? But I can't find anything that is remotely of similar quality, or geared towards younger children and not getting too technical: 

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3B5wbPEvG8A](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3B5wbPEvG8A&t=47s)

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1tKDmVB674](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1tKDmVB674)",19.09846153846153,23.160001666666673,10.614512820512822,46.74715384615385,38.74358974358975,12.906666666666665,41.24102564102565,12.340626583579946,6.187807179487178,542,20,50,13,5,133,66,78,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.8924,0,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,8,3,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,10,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,3,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456491969243265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223060496933374,0.0,0.2625195639390657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35298053485711106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915710436942769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667052042701466,0.0,0.0,0.2675719971900806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532056517797748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675592154590512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426228806433396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904163992050253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455909010530949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsPandaBear,2020/04/10,"3yo regressing in potty training. Possibly quarantine related. Need advice. We struggled with potty training our 3yo.  For the longest time, she would hold it in for hours refusing to go to the potty, ending in accidents.  But a couple of months ago, something just clicked and she started to go regularly at home and in school.  She no longer needed a diaper except for when she’s sleeping. 

A month ago, when the pandemic started shutting down everything, she was at grandma’s place when they announced
her school was closing so we extended her stay.  During her time at grandma, she told us she liked staying at grandma’s and sat on the potty like a champ.  

When my daughter came back home.  We explained that she won’t be going back to school, playgrounds etc because people are sick and we are waiting for them get better.  My daughter understands sick since my husband a physician and sick comes up in conversations.  

Anyway, I try to find fun activities to keep her and her 1yo sister busy.  We do arts and crafts, do a lot more screen time, go on bike rides and walks.  I try to give her more outside time when the weather is nice but our options are limited, not just by the pandemic, but by the fact I struggle with taking two toddlers out by myself.  But I thought we were doing ok.  

About a week after she came back, she suddenly stopped going on the potty.  She also became constipated, which is common for her.  

For the first few days, we could bribe her with her iPad.  But as the days wore on, she started to develop more resistance to using the potty.  I asked her why she doesn’t want to go, she either doesn’t answer or says she doesn’t need to go.  She would end up peeing into her pants.  This is reminiscent of when she was potty training.  Although,  at that time, she usually tried to run to the potty when she starts to have an accident.  Now, she seems to just pee into her pants even though she seems to know it’s “wrong”.  

Yesterday, after we tried asking her to go to the potty and she refused, she wet her pants again.  We changed her pants.  She peed into them again.  And again. And again.  She hasn’t peed all day and I guess it caught up with her.  We gave her a bath and she pooped (a small amount) into the tub.  I told her she needs to on the potty now.  She compiled and pooped out a big amount.  I notice with poop, it is easier to convince her to sit on the potty.  

Anyway, so it’s been a week since she stopped using the potty.  We don’t know what to do going forward.  We thought about using diapers again but I feel that could make the regression worse.  

I didn’t think the quarantine was affecting her that badly but my husband thinks she’s taking in more than we think.  She’s 3yo, so she can’t communicate to us her concerns.  I guess it’s possible this regression is her reaction to the crazy situation we are in.  But I can’t control the pandemic.  We can’t take her to shops and parks or to see her grandparents.  Does anyone have any tips on how to help going forward?",3.119452815226012,5.216502670103093,3.981185567010311,86.45418913560668,75.56357388316151,6.9511498810467875,24.76619085381972,7.882392219407189,1.3861132963256682,2342,79,457,36,52,750,249,582,0.08199999999999999,0.8740000000000001,0.044000000000000004,-0.9692,1,2,1,0,0,0,71.0,19,0,3,5,31,12,0,2,33,1,36,10,6,7,2,105,92,40,0,9,16,5,2,2,0,3,4,1,3,0,14,45,0,9,14,4,1,19,12,4,0,2,17,6,95,8,79,69,11,103,0,0,3,0,95,36,0,8,51,325,109,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870346141948239,0.12464632525561585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056224707322546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04781136211137674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04916048569548384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145563415231354,0.0,0.0,0.1621858781506413,0.058703643010846775,0.042858666011463785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062181076703538424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082559909065952,0.0,0.0,0.07437578102831192,0.06056349726590385,0.0,0.0,0.07885559414265306,0.11226928606194128,0.0777936693103052,0.0,0.13602713986798345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06152637551387233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245427655584074,0.0,0.07841120335625314,0.046437296106078316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318765084471324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035549473839418165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642595812338352,0.05980333741716054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03673265256715738,0.06744515053381409,0.3995724810109757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490279336690188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712548853108373,0.0,0.14104787096794769,0.0,0.06923850959493673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062492341897453264,0.0,0.0,0.07727808603538143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869717240948572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977273620903166,0.0,0.0,0.046930656102771015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223720206315203,0.0,0.0,0.20852783240588174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004530556601475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874221622691642,0.0,0.07345614464435825,0.0,0.0,0.15852179123379426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591117188639283,0.0,0.21346416610644275,0.05602580035042738,0.12801021637746082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631781898096595,0.07902832975563573,0.07035805621286101,0.0,0.0,0.054125979920899486,0.0,0.0,0.19905542182850705,0.1498764140175352,0.0,0.11756007036145825,0.0,0.14700087117982402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585869766938556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515020060366342,0.06907654674582847,0.11163225564376893,0.20498370513073788,0.0,0.0,0.13436324015416354,0.0,0.19093611519879788,0.0,0.06867999762163733,0.07319235918124734,0.16914200499703302,0.18216875139781807,0.077433537232627,0.0,0.041469056012418085,0.0,0.1127925201137652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634413856265425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164912599589722,0.09988855060809199,0.07686997489950956,0.0,0.0
parenting,LBS321,2020/04/10,"Hungry kid and meltdowns I have a question about little kids, hunger and meltdowns. My 6 year old son is able to keep his behavior together most of the time. Unless it's been 1.5-2 hours since he's eaten. It really seems like his brain goes off line and his behavior shifts noticeably. Once he eats, back to normal. We make sure to do regular snack/meal breaks and stay one step ahead of it. 

Is this normal or at least typical??  My mom asked if he actually had an issue with hypoglycemia and I don't believe so because I haven't observed any other symptoms I would expect to see if it was an insulin production issue. I just want to know if anybody else is going through or if maybe I do need to dig a little deeper here.",3.7592045454545437,5.213466763888891,4.839065656565656,83.6852272727273,72.33333333333333,8.014141414141415,26.285353535353536,8.575989854853784,1.825536111111112,570,19,112,10,11,187,103,144,0.013000000000000001,0.937,0.05,0.6145,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,12,6,1,1,1,28,22,13,0,10,8,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,6,7,3,1,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,1,12,2,15,17,2,14,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,9,7,68,18,0,0.15963068931757024,0.0,0.15577652577017972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855434270553033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923314595284753,0.0,0.0,0.12274614667080527,0.0,0.0973093865695,0.0,0.0,0.17984912276401813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820064231702715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334204701715088,0.13335095756216733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072179942985407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720407382412646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332259325848663,0.0,0.1418870912525853,0.0,0.0,0.08772885214575506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798749154299589,0.3199837743659973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655472467209516,0.0,0.16037048324244566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695753402584808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836413345585844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128083654533871,0.0,0.1817405978131387,0.16750555566653785,0.17000147434110488,0.1081698863562965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882290523515948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226350715424573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720499193108611,0.1453217842453122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204815578152146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014507527347847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504500355302007,0.16591740770024965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308193865707352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941543164480498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339706166297812,0.0,0.0,0.1027969302227826
parenting,Alresfordpolarbear,2020/04/10,Uneven head shape (not flat) after kiwi delivery My wife had a kiwi delivery that was quite forceful and our ds has a misshapen head with the left side slightly higher than the right since the kiwi was placed on the left side of his head. After 3.5 weeks when the swelling has gone it is still noticeable. We rotate his head so he rests on each side so he doesn't have a flat head. Because of the angle of the deformity it's not possible to rest him on the higher part of his skull to make it even (I would need to stand him on the top of his head on the left side). Has anyone had experience of this and does it get better with time?,4.737923076923078,4.9027926000000015,5.270576923076924,86.21817307692308,69.15384615384616,8.346153846153845,24.711538461538463,8.07648339933343,1.1159230769230764,498,11,108,6,8,160,75,130,0.0,0.963,0.037000000000000005,0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,13,0,11,7,7,1,0,11,15,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,0,10,1,19,9,4,24,0,0,0,0,11,16,0,0,6,72,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880141861149922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673176034792102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132552456288283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015338414275123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313873966735133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312914720164846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657640882469991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7750996286037262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41028814723302576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402202383259691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333414424144527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330864152478967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630952129359247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315117760647402,0.0,0.0,0.14190427779088066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388273438927414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074959019402858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104124461174935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052332013784464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339827391320848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096871213971666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941743922584022,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anxiousmama14,2020/04/10,"Parents of toddlers, help! Hello,

My toddler just turned 2 not long ago. I am currently almost 9 months pregnant. Before I begin, I am aware of tantrums, and figuring out the world for a toddler can be overwhelming at this age. I was curious if any one has dealt with being pregnant and their 2 year old being very clingy and over all, not themselves? I am unable to tell how much he understands about me having another child. He understands who his 'brother' is when we show him an ultrasound picture. I cannot tell if we have been cooped up for too long due to Covid-19 or he is very aware I am about to have a baby. Any personal experience on how your toddler handled a new addition or advice would be greatly appreciated!",5.026739130434784,6.4693541376811625,5.781855072463768,78.1888695652174,69.21739130434783,8.998260869565216,32.64057971014493,9.3871,3.094244057971016,573,26,104,12,10,187,97,138,0.019,0.9109999999999999,0.07,0.7702,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,1,0,7,3,1,1,5,0,19,0,0,2,1,23,23,10,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,15,1,15,16,2,18,0,1,0,0,18,6,0,5,12,73,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825055693792674,0.16169692500223146,0.0,0.18265892196955572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480923594890978,0.19127452377193208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521888212867155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843359946621146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20110949228162656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226668646793255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228571469018757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559924175260133,0.0,0.1340935540951679,0.0,0.0,0.1761743119167395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914103457176876,0.0,0.12360685746399898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254655457847992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592748201506337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31887165107649984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841149850685968,0.0,0.3797939293916993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010174361537646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958000521183072,0.0,0.0,0.11746712444470002
parenting,amberchristwhy,2020/04/10,"Help teaching a 5 year old I’m my 5yo is a beautiful and smart girl but I have a lot of trouble teaching her and testing her I’m aware part of this may be my method so I’m asking for your advice my daughter will start school this year and we want her to be ready I don’t think we’re trying to teach her too much just the alphabet, numbers (1-10), shapes, colors, and how to spell her own name and yes know how to write all those numbers and letters above.
I’m going to preface this by saying I have never said this to her or even out loud but she is 100% a quitter if she doesn’t do something right the first time she doesn’t want to do it again I have always told her it’s okay to mess up or do something wrong but we always need to try again and with practice she can accomplish anything that’s she’s smart and I believe in her etc
I have even tried having her do extremely easy tasks that she does with ease to help boost her confidence but it doesn’t seem to work 
Good examples of what I mean are scenarios like this morning she says mom I want 1 more than 4 
me:then I asked well how many is that ? 
D:Oh I don’t know 
Me: sure you do why don’t you count to see
D: no I don’t want it then 
 Me: oh come on you could do it 
 I then went on for no less than 15 minutes trying to get to count to 5 
I always try to be encouraging but I also never let her quit what else can I do to help her?",-0.2630411255411253,1.6276992110389656,1.6889610389610397,99.5772510822511,86.11038961038959,4.772294372294373,17.450216450216452,5.941861826196648,-0.6150510822510822,1079,25,269,8,33,356,156,308,0.051,0.728,0.222,0.9946,0,0,4,0,0,0,16.0,2,4,0,4,12,11,0,0,6,2,32,0,0,3,4,45,56,23,0,7,9,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,0,1,16,14,0,0,5,0,0,3,11,3,1,1,3,6,45,8,32,46,8,22,0,0,2,0,41,7,0,6,13,174,61,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369258544772592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304236219645924,0.2904291626562814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574336745751068,0.0,0.21753679668618225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108281609658687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022232425634844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289332105713144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181572457739643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971926845001132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975725317839432,0.15369171061895048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896438853125453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06078631490216164,0.0,0.0661224740374114,0.097586037641965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395409143388826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788213604217133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897231729685785,0.0,0.05684108910099118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989137487177995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795722684479346,0.0,0.12673559400198736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626377306681334,0.0,0.0,0.08552816394432443,0.08626955583533319,0.1794673953369709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208622211298473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599206810858976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374896800793468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935939081968903,0.11067229326020517,0.18504702836918865,0.0,0.11774900635114242,0.09271320486644248,0.10591760708252533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913864803771698,0.0,0.0,0.08235074728219262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965532684308353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455022601453214,0.0,0.0,0.06784265866511112,0.0,0.0,0.11117419593307916,0.0,0.39495864079819815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744970396959598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460959778356717,0.10785449652921414,0.10498474177637956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470173616368919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720678127505153,0.0,0.14984683708874416
parenting,artemis711,2020/04/10,"Parents of preteens - would you be comfortable with this? I am a 21 year old girl and I was on Omegle last night (for my own pride, something I barely do lol). I came across this 11 year old girl and she asked for my Snapchat. I gave it to her bc clearly she’s harmless haha. Anyway she starts to Snapchat me and  I respond as I would if any other child spoke with me. I love kids and am generally good with them. But I feel like I might be doing something wrong... I’m 10 years older than her, and her parents obviously have no idea what she’s doing if she was on a site a lot of creeps go on. Also I am harmless but like I just wonder if it’s wrong to speak to a child that I met on a website her parents definitely don’t know about.",0.8890384615384619,2.725262134615388,2.6108717948717945,94.86746153846157,81.5,5.185641025641028,21.297435897435893,6.079149491110277,0.006508205128205269,567,17,132,4,15,187,91,156,0.038,0.802,0.159,0.9194,3,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,1,4,11,0,0,5,2,15,1,0,0,2,26,27,12,0,5,6,3,1,2,0,3,0,2,0,5,7,9,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,6,3,28,9,19,16,2,17,0,0,0,1,26,6,0,6,11,90,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354862611602765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506107337668234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144430836265259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17669973538457442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811670102276479,0.11037039272126734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780237979626201,0.12958205911963136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440468113694402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490574529606296,0.12593305689432074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509557216644575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134509345609865,0.13943667513719446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389349417869833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498195395394184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32423048283977185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146412040238343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378737311356097,0.0,0.0,0.1093514980290374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754192237404014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21949590811657824,0.3378294077699745,0.0,0.2984668017841515
parenting,bionicmichster,2020/04/10,"What do you tell your kids about Easter if you aren't religious? Our kids' daycare is celebrating Easter by doing crafts and getting the kids excited about the impending arrival of the Bunny himself, so our kids (3 & 5) know ""the Easter Bunny is coming soon!"". Being culturally Christian but agnostic, I'm not sure what to tell them about the Easter and the Bunny himself. We've never really celebrated other than throwing some eggs around the house and a basket of candy.  


I'm thinking about simply explaining the Pagan root of the holiday/Egyptian origin of the bunny. So, I come to you all hoping there is an easier path here that you may have tried already with some modicum of success.",9.69931758530184,8.450485559055119,9.668149606299213,63.446896325459356,59.551181102362214,11.931233595800528,37.70209973753281,10.864195022040775,4.296113910761156,554,21,85,11,6,183,85,127,0.05,0.8270000000000001,0.12300000000000001,0.8758,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,5,1,1,10,4,0,0,12,0,9,1,0,2,3,22,18,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,7,1,0,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,11,4,15,16,3,7,3,0,0,0,18,1,0,5,3,66,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28620921472083644,0.0,0.0,0.28101547501642193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23088458511090415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4468297965071322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550442438691926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576021057996579,0.0,0.2992655776104177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425369777856685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003372585176335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615207985751104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24444288107853585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533825678512498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661868379465569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608780319761302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheJadedRose,2020/04/10,"I gave my 3yo a Teether Our 3yo is doing well, all things considered, 4 weeks into the Stay at Home Order, except that her oral fixation (which trust me, she's had since birth) has gotten SO MUCH WORSE. She will literally put almost anything in her mouth. Just to chew.  Pointing it out didn't work, scolding didn't work, unlimited access to baby carrots didn't work. She's destroyed toys, plastic forks, and sits at dinner just chewing on utensils. We're sure she's swallowed things she shouldn't have, and yesterday she somehow got a hold of one of my makeup brushes and chewed the BRUSH end, destroying it... I'm not mad, just concerned... eating a makeup brush can't be good for you.

I'm positive this is a regression/anxiety thing. She has all her teeth in. It suppose it could be dental but she isn't complaining and it seems to be happening mostly absent mindedly. Besides, dentists are closed except for emergencies and I'm not  taking her to the dentist unless I'm positive something is up.

So I went to the basement and grabbed some of her old teethers. The [Zoli](https://zoli-inc.com/collections/teethers/products/bunny-7) ones. gave them a good wash and handed her one. Now she's gnawing on that, and seems grateful to be given something she can chew without us yelling at her for it. 

I feel ridiculous, and thank god no one else can see her. but still. Am I missing something here? Is this a bad idea? Is there another solution? Does anyone have product recommendations for a teether for an orally fixated child with all their teeth?

Help.",4.511041666666671,6.824383965277778,4.636133333333337,82.3422,72.19444444444444,7.5246666666666675,30.61722222222221,8.364918446050245,2.4751370555555563,1234,55,217,21,25,384,174,288,0.084,0.7959999999999999,0.121,0.8348,1,0,3,0,1,0,58.0,2,1,2,3,11,13,4,0,13,0,27,14,4,0,4,40,45,14,0,2,11,0,3,0,0,2,3,1,1,1,14,13,7,1,4,1,0,2,10,7,1,4,10,8,30,6,29,28,6,24,0,1,1,0,28,12,0,6,7,148,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365891610720193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13996330018053402,0.10211028934818288,0.0,0.0,0.09333090712765874,0.0,0.10984100447202304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144853791393464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657130582111173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680747978277592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136581296345517,0.11150372476258028,0.0,0.11822187190902095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749047724824794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22390999359396832,0.10675453404471094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118034136888665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946747639322393,0.0,0.13388929706071687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068039241481346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134774709496501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812167346695408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400626865880388,0.0,0.3617925347179949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617983498785165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341822367568869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636466860088097,0.2430266798038133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041436437233623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082736104245851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226976686056353,0.10659568724172956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580141649495982,0.0,0.1003588294140208,0.0,0.0,0.12288859064397314,0.0,0.0,0.2660305166277375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605575752195455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706798428152503,0.0,0.12001273407330895,0.12373542471075748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866800953896046,0.0,0.291520677446594,0.0,0.13602546495416978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dollfacemomma,2020/04/10,"Aunts and grandparents overstepping boundaries? With everything going on now I’m still working full time away from home because my work is deemed essential. However, I do still have time to go to the grocery store on the weekends. Lately my sister and mother will randomly drop things on my doorstep for my kids. Sometimes small toys but mostly junk food and candy. As I do appreciate them thinking of us, I think it’s getting out of hand. They’ll call and ask if I need anything from the store and I’ll say no, because I have more than enough for the family. They’ll still drop off potato chips and sugar candy and chocolate. And with Easter coming there’s no need for anymore chocolate lol. Now I have a cabinet overflowing with 9 cans of potato chips and endless bags of junk. When I said something to my sister she seemed offended and angry. Am I wrong to feel this way?",3.964779116465863,6.320199012048197,4.222385542168677,84.50112851405625,73.93975903614458,7.077269076305221,26.729317269076304,8.021203637495839,1.8069731726907632,700,26,126,11,15,218,106,166,0.12300000000000001,0.81,0.067,-0.8276,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,3,2,7,2,1,0,5,1,11,3,1,0,0,25,24,14,0,3,2,4,2,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,3,15,2,0,4,2,2,3,2,2,0,0,1,5,18,0,24,20,4,25,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,4,10,84,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592113145136322,0.0,0.0,0.13767736774209036,0.0,0.1564071452160439,0.0,0.15718810735144914,0.0,0.0,0.2039745695754332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083662447261685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411803301917264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287029630820305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036251805044154,0.0,0.15771981523023834,0.0,0.08459419412504465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20230529416396476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740970839766413,0.0,0.19016603271460075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782007845579552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872679001430695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481083688425507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914491439636996,0.133047272364177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523077548649469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879919610961474,0.1654684519124269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008288262468987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111496914545672,0.2144039666625185,0.0,0.0,0.1951132264025021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20124674235758627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327985435345336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24359937169281065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292123277014585,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dochlaan,2020/04/10,Do I need to yell at my kids in order to be a good parent? I'm 19 years old and I wanna know if I ever have kids in the future if I need to yell at them. I personally don't like to be yelled at. I don't really want to yell at my kids. But do I need to?,-2.124761904761904,-1.0724181587301571,2.178015873015873,98.14892857142858,87.73015873015873,5.469841269841268,12.087301587301589,6.42735559955562,-1.2059079365079368,188,1,56,2,6,73,34,63,0.07,0.878,0.052000000000000005,0.1806,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,11,13,4,0,7,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,10,2,13,11,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,5,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26932659515570345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24973363447478986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363237707930714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546273331413084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6623204582502327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124323592216527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306096003426425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599786737633405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19074250209400068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561719133261436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917374459757309
parenting,pinksultana,2020/04/10,"Does it get easier? 3y3m son is so hectic and my spirit is breaking I know isolation of course doesn’t help but he has always been a ‘spirited’ child and right now he is 10% sweet and 90% tantruming oppositional nightmare. He is the one at daycare who the educators love but also say hey has a lot of energy doesn’t he’. 

and I worry that

A) I’m such a shit parent that my kid is cray cray
B) or my parenting won’t make any difference ever anyway because he bloody well is too busy yelling to ever give a shit
C) or is he a sociopath?
D) I can’t handle this intensity long term, if this isn’t a phase I actually don’t know how I’m gonna cope 

Trying to find a light of hope in a wasteland of struggle right now 

He bit me today because I told him he would get a time out if he threw another shoe at the tv

So many f bombs",1.3587827715355802,2.747824578651688,4.020022471910114,87.37685018726593,78.49438202247191,7.218576779026217,22.54082397003745,8.021203637495839,1.0071965543071162,637,19,146,11,15,226,113,178,0.12,0.748,0.131,-0.1556,2,1,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,12,8,3,1,13,0,17,4,3,2,2,21,30,14,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,6,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,6,4,1,1,3,4,10,4,10,24,3,16,2,0,0,1,22,6,2,6,8,80,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.15401715806345734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262148282441996,0.13132536626835645,0.0,0.0,0.1073283107084992,0.16549620117516178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242071420239326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17230707182891075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489645071128725,0.0,0.0,0.13811616436565347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855285473589493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425174260036389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649170144406787,0.15140279951472516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578864211338668,0.0,0.0,0.15675860915362286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347605386440051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967262937279945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341795447867733,0.14244574429225632,0.0,0.1053512767157365,0.16001260904083392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694819647745132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504981707216241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695681440304746,0.0,0.12551099494551252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32401592089212633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649958762903974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920306547351688,0.0,0.14960229250070928,0.15081121882151194,0.0,0.10715471068253717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190613936766744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602817839236676,0.0,0.11211633513925666,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mymiddlenameisrae,2020/04/10,"Does anyone have any experience parenting autistic toddlers? My daughter is 4, and autistic. She’s been non-verbal her whole life, and has just begun to say a few words and sentences here and there. Her understanding with language is very simple, so unfortunately using heart-to-hearts or verbal reasoning is not quite that possible yet. Although we still try.

That’s not to say she isn’t incredibly smart, her communication is just lacking. She’s learned most things on her own, at her own pace, and school has helped a lot. Her focus is terrible, though. They have to find game-filled ways just to get her to pay attention enough to learn what she needs, which is how she developed most of her vocabulary (along with repeating this at home.)

Anyway, I don’t hit my kid. It’s a personal choice. I was abused pretty bad mentally and physically growing up, and I try my hardest to validate her feelings as well as use other forms of positive parenting. However, since this is new to me, and she is growing, but is still special needs, some areas are proven difficult and I’m not sure how to navigate them.

She began hitting. Not even being mean, but she thinks she’s playing. She’s a rough kid. I was a rough kid. She doesn’t understand that she’s hurting people. We try to use visual queues to show cause and effect since verbal reasoning is limited, along with short words like “ouch” and “hurt”. We’ve also pretended to cry, and tried to mirror what we do when people are crying. Saying things like “I’m sorry” and “are you okay?” Maybe a back pat. 

This worked for her for a very long time, but it seems as though she’s regressing. She’s having more difficulty navigating social situations, even while her vocabulary is slowly expanding, which stumps me. Now, she understands emotions less. She’s not hitting the cues, and I’m not sure how best to approach this.

I’m not going to hit her to teach her that hitting people is wrong. That just sounds stupid. I can’t fully reason with her to express what is happening, and her visual cues for social interaction are waning. Does anyone have any ideas, or maybe resources like books and such that might help my situation? I’ve tried to ask her therapists and teachers, but they have pretty much told me to keep doing what I’ve been doing, but so far, at school, despite her being far behind the rest of her class— she’s well liked, and loved. The kids love her, despite not really being able to talk to her. 

I don’t want that to disappear. It really warms my heart. I’m just worried she’ll end up hurting her friends, and, of course, other people— even while not meaning to.",4.771960950764008,6.495031951612905,5.225929541595927,80.84343378607811,70.20967741935485,8.446859083191853,26.762308998302213,8.99025400887824,2.1012306451612908,2072,68,386,40,38,661,239,496,0.11800000000000001,0.76,0.122,-0.2393,3,0,0,1,1,0,74.0,3,1,3,5,28,25,1,0,10,1,41,4,1,11,2,88,74,41,0,4,21,3,4,4,1,2,1,4,1,5,24,28,0,2,17,4,1,5,14,8,2,0,6,8,60,17,46,58,16,31,0,3,0,2,69,10,0,8,19,262,84,8,0.0730343062781558,0.08653371028147308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840550834407311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933166544444597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021345701637794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827721746343011,0.0,0.0,0.05615887338921804,0.06098059509724884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664499858029986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502635077323351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044951203946708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782562718703802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215376441404598,0.06468671763186437,0.07546396168601666,0.0,0.1447154114813239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714415657246585,0.0,0.0,0.03692833968960403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667520328102164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05642612386107325,0.0,0.03815741065050865,0.0,0.041507079334124584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458399584227267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596380137582672,0.09790671200228834,0.0,0.07325936405033807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345542062066505,0.08244684202172416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491624714369608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158629040529958,0.14272349176880553,0.0,0.0,0.06463306280057919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209115546618011,0.13183262573146068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467455542687486,0.1591115405549285,0.0,0.0,0.0736014028762182,0.07747785744540528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536886185494288,0.10830802538183583,0.0,0.07053698810901124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219190818892512,0.0,0.0,0.15189837628953998,0.06377073917756942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233520672245566,0.0,0.14860429158388905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776809746972752,0.0,0.0,0.09357529350416063,0.2252742921014338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423943520439567,0.0,0.1478292341380318,0.0,0.06648768945892163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082946573797405,0.16418724054825126,0.0,0.14889855564702986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817559264716718,0.0,0.0,0.1166505826719893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766793868330018,0.0,0.0,0.05870220889602939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847984587076035,0.09704149569323106,0.0467974344670066,0.1435116702057223,0.0,0.04258689131712567,0.0,0.0,0.06978740946521428,0.0,0.24792749932547165,0.0,0.0,0.2280938655861283,0.0,0.18923457384593906,0.0,0.1205219029015868,0.04307752609648344,0.05797123285646452,0.0,0.0,0.13133322482327894,0.0,0.0,0.0815401947541197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053169844804887054,0.07416988319505878,0.0,0.0,0.07985154879768777,0.0,0.0
parenting,NatalieSinclair,2020/04/10,"How do you get your kids to sleep? We have 3 children, the two I am looking for help with are 6 and 4. They share a room (necessary) and they do no like to go to sleep at night. Every year during daylight savings they have typically fallen asleep around 9pm, when daylight savings is over they typically would fall asleep around 7:30. Not this year though, our 6yo is staying up until 10pm sometimes later and our 4yo stays up almost as late... 6yo plays quietly and stays in her room but she does not want to sleep or says she isnt tired. 4yo likes to get up and leave the room endlessly. 6yo sleeps until around 7:30/8am and is always tired in the morning/the following day. 4yo wakes at 7am and is often tired in the morning too. 
Hubby and I are kind of at our wits end with this. We obviously cannot force them to go to sleep, but 10pm is crazy! They need proper sleeps. I am worried about them not getting enough sleep each night and it makes it difficult for my husband and I to spend any time together because a lot of the time we have to take the kids (most often the 4yo) back to their room. Is there a secret trick we are missing? Is this just a phase? Are we awful parents for letting them do their own thing at night so long as they are quiet because confining them to their beds when they supposedly can't sleep seems too cruel? 
I really want a solution but we havent managed to find one that we are 100% happy with. 
Help!!",4.0915517241379336,4.968460741379314,4.550517241379311,88.26370689655174,70.89655172413794,7.593103448275862,25.53448275862069,7.734863291789972,1.1305034482758631,1125,32,241,13,20,356,153,290,0.11199999999999999,0.797,0.091,-0.6814,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,10,2,14,0,16,12,2,0,12,1,27,14,11,2,1,50,41,23,0,4,8,2,0,2,0,1,3,3,5,3,7,24,0,1,3,1,1,5,8,4,0,2,0,4,35,8,39,39,5,43,0,1,1,0,39,18,0,7,19,157,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497758734948713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061244137132984,0.0,0.0,0.05770944534737541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22663698926871584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652540641521372,0.0,0.10346284793511247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472932546650354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742637910392231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516303243631788,0.0876857012943422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150036006075355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756283501441658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301154237252436,0.0,0.0964586877968539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903377645016387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376315941460348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837128879406135,0.0,0.0,0.09572865488661338,0.08985718926831247,0.0,0.0867777089232392,0.0,0.08291911256259928,0.0,0.0,0.0751006879555358,0.07126317040932925,0.0,0.0,0.07214710690489616,0.0,0.0,0.05664641235633992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629245069383329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389132686107984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057505061422038165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942298210700006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05436512377176615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748610739784229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725568002781225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6793907088955347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839312337508951,0.0,0.0,0.27135656698475824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380607774779573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637890864991245,0.0,0.08337702636305465,0.0,0.09896807290943084,0.2926110588420397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289838218728847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010826363746024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618204077249349,0.0,0.060283922038424385,0.0,0.0,0.10929740218062066
parenting,Zpk1,2020/04/10,"Worried about 4 month baby sleep increase Worried about sudden sleep increase

Yesterday morning my 4 month baby headbutted my collarbone pretty badly when I was burping him. He cried quite a bit and only calmed down after a few minutes of nursing. He isn’t bruised or cut from it. 

He has been relatively normal in terms of how he’s acting (general crying, laughing, babbling etc). 

However, this is a baby that averages 11 hours sleep a day, and the most I’ve ever managed to get out of him is 14 hours. His naps rarely go on longer than 45 minutes and he’s a nightmare to get to sleep.

Since yesterday, he’s been falling asleep for naps within 5-10 mins, napping for around 1.5 to 2.5 hours and when I checked how much he’d slept yesterday, it was 17 hours! 

He does stir in his naps, but when I comfort him or pick him up to nurse, he falls back to sleep, which is what results in the longer naps. Same thing with night sleep - he’ll start crying every 2-3 hrs and I’ll start nursing and he’ll be back to sleep pretty quickly. 

A couple of days ago I did switch from 5 naps a day to 3/4 naps a day, so not sure if that’s related? 

It’s worth noting he does seem to be nursing for longer, so I was thinking it could be a growth spurt? But because it’s so out of character I can’t help but worry about if its connected to his head bump.  

TL:DR - 4 month baby headbutted my collar bone, went from sleeping 11/12 hrs a day to 17 hrs, worried that it’s linked.",4.417001594896334,4.816139659932663,5.1669218500797465,85.85985645933016,69.9090909090909,8.00347332978912,28.76289207868156,7.85451343220497,1.6572868686868691,1137,39,239,13,19,369,156,297,0.08800000000000001,0.82,0.092,0.4925,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,0,1,16,6,1,0,12,0,17,13,12,4,2,32,28,21,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,14,10,0,0,3,7,2,8,3,2,0,0,8,0,17,4,38,13,9,48,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,6,30,128,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136923297585891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167295319020857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381786840368834,0.0672243480260003,0.04907950737149989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789850133383822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428246333420917,0.08908524976838743,0.2653167082268195,0.2596186347349609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091358792021502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979241752652874,0.0,0.07282792033573537,0.06783502520378085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412863302662422,0.0,0.04575695501577487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262877449792559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053965649820463535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31715330954513776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279227862137285,0.0,0.05918575200268595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555527265392052,0.07888488983111276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123317800055776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381976265828996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563466574441722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329530924556074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660054763004195,0.0,0.6445629899203813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397393983699915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588182279386912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348874727314433,0.051588985255342695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746356426885067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32705630589540563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TamerTarace,2020/04/10,"Babies’ social development during a pandemic-induced isolation It’s a trying time for everyone and I know we all have our set of challenges and concerns... As I navigate motherhood for the first time with a 7 month old baby, I am quite fortunate that my day-to-day hasn’t changed much during this crisis.

But I sometimes wonder how this year in isolation might affect my baby’s social development...🤔 Every day is already chock-full of discoveries as she interacts and learns about her environment with mommy and daddy but I do worry how not seeing her grandparents or being around other babies can hinder her social development.

Motherhood can be a pretty isolating experience right now so just trying to hear out other people’s stories and experiences as we all stay home and stay safe.",6.9313380281690185,8.657729035211268,7.89729577464789,63.73467605633803,64.98591549295774,10.75042253521127,31.805633802816896,10.793553405168565,4.093887887323944,641,25,93,18,10,216,98,142,0.077,0.84,0.083,0.2285,1,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,3,2,27,14,15,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,12,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,14,2,14,11,3,15,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,3,8,68,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685492675214414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460164297803962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995143714143195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925379231155934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273940229538776,0.14447978269604198,0.0,0.2958087130747738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861215887047348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704153977789349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516677159899301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309654534043302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040119690997764,0.0,0.0,0.12068782016487765,0.0,0.11115070756622107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866083575439094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482427783831848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15382657072578035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082170738080426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291254960196066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048824441438195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4623935276110338,0.0,0.0,0.1495424290160716,0.0,0.0,0.32232196400846475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633395050335626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053121702118608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397188317977465,0.0,0.15355274953936146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736899052232853
parenting,annizka,2020/04/10,"How do you divide house work and taking care of kids with your spouse? I’m a stay at home mom of an almost two year old. 

I do everything in the house, from cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, etc. 

I also do everything for our toddler. 

When my husband used to work (he was recently laid off because of the virus), I would pack his lunch for work and iron his clothes as well. 

His job was to go to work, and pay the bills. That is all. 

I did everything because in my mind, he was working, so that was only fair. But I started to realize that it was in fact, not fair. 

From the moment I got up, to the moment I went to bed, I was doing something around the house or taking care of our toddler. 

While my husband got to relax when he came home and free days of absolutely no responsibility on the weekends. 

Sometimes it felt like I was taking care of two kids. 

And since he has been home for a month, it still means I’m doing everything. 

I think part of it is cultural as well. The men in our culture are expected to do nothing around the house. I’m talking about he won’t even take his dishes to the sink because that’s not his job. 

However, I truly have been feeling like I am breaking down. I need help. I need a break. 

I realize men in the western world do much more in the house compared to our men. 

So I was wondering how do you all see my situation? Is this fair? 

I talked with my husband how I am working from the time I get up to the time I go to bed, and even then, my job is not done because I have to get up multiple times a night to settle my toddler when he wakes up. I told him I want him to help with giving our toddler his dinner every night. Then he started acting cold, and when I asked him what’s wrong, he said he was annoyed. 

What do you all say? 

I’d appreciate advice.",2.7059806949806955,3.8427392081081098,4.170057915057917,88.70141891891895,74.48648648648648,7.015444015444014,25.646718146718143,7.447530270364453,1.0969691119691118,1377,46,304,16,28,458,168,370,0.026000000000000002,0.8420000000000001,0.132,0.9877,6,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,5,4,0,6,18,11,1,0,19,0,34,6,1,4,4,40,68,24,0,5,5,5,2,2,0,2,0,2,6,5,11,13,5,0,7,3,3,5,5,2,2,2,20,6,49,10,50,46,7,48,0,0,1,0,48,17,0,3,25,203,60,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388477259917528,0.0,0.0,0.0757120378458667,0.0,0.0,0.060464926062713566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13461705095027712,0.07068471832097424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18436350813981225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647717721519302,0.2312669116487148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876190169952714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737481591952493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432462949474635,0.09987878316550802,0.0,0.06370430293165462,0.0,0.27181193595080416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038230457918397125,0.05401547427275154,0.07259702065200407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790057335049883,0.07253156547211333,0.08594129403795224,0.0,0.12094372088620442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135896887305322,0.0,0.2275276162965519,0.0,0.0,0.4362163187452989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22509242091026754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387800929986144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236096053390908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634408689862891,0.08855298564017754,0.06035081770459471,0.0,0.05558171554429885,0.11212703959584272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190887267366553,0.0,0.07254939791999881,0.0,0.07933949890213096,0.0,0.0,0.05750446630036845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187776946793987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465530438428915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719219919958558,0.060127745170756475,0.0,0.0,0.06025101840653821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254499720303504,0.084988296837574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820792192326363,0.07477977363682364,0.0,0.10703365065287387,0.08058971512405687,0.06038188054868668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22739587337867995,0.12154417695352784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04844754365123818,0.0,0.0,0.13226560170803464,0.0,0.0,0.07224816071394928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771907853095778,0.0,0.0,0.06530237096072883,0.0,0.0,0.04459646879612862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596412313947687,0.07009080599652172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199532659503239,0.3302678969203453,0.0,0.0,0.05371085164020031,0.08266716840476426,0.0,0.04869006821952336
parenting,anpraseu,2020/04/10,"Kid spoiled by biological mom I have a stepson (who is 6) that I’ve been raising for almost two years. His biological mother has been in and out of the picture, dealing with alcoholism, rehab, and abusive boyfriends. Because of this, my stepson has primarily been staying with me and his dad (my husband).

About 2 months ago, his biological mother has come back into his life and we now split our time with him (she gets him half of the week). She seemingly feels guilty for leaving him for all this time, so she now spoils him. She buys him a ton of toys, let’s him eat nothing but junk food, and doesn’t enforce bath time or bedtime. I know this because I have hung out with them in their household a few times. It was apparent that she didn’t care to discipline my stepson and let him do whatever he wanted.

Because of this, he has now become difficult in our household. Before she came back into his life, he was respectful and behaved. Now we cannot get him to eat his veggies or go to bed without him whining or talking back to us. When we punish him, he starts crying and begging to “go back to Mommy’s house.” 

It has gotten to the point where he doesn’t want to come to our house anymore for our half of the week. When he is with us, he is constantly asking about her, longing for when he can see her again. He also starts crying when I pick him up from her house because he doesn’t want to leave.

It breaks my heart to see him act out like this. To him, she is the “fun parent,” while we are the strict ones. We try to play games with him and have fun, but he once we start enforcing rules, he gets upset and lashes out at us. 

What do we do? We have already tried to talk to his biological mom about enforcing more rules, but she has ignored our requests. She seems to take pride that she is the fun parent.",4.46646694214876,5.130696669421488,5.001862947658402,86.14097623966944,69.9090909090909,7.7028925619834725,28.072658402203857,7.645422480735847,1.4483352617079888,1413,47,298,15,24,452,171,363,0.075,0.833,0.092,0.82,3,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,16,0,2,1,19,13,1,1,10,0,32,8,1,1,1,52,56,23,0,3,7,8,1,1,0,0,4,0,2,1,13,33,4,2,4,4,1,6,6,5,0,4,8,3,61,8,50,46,4,49,0,1,2,0,80,13,0,6,29,207,74,4,0.0,0.10382843041349113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767961280745564,0.09365091120704312,0.08774980930667999,0.0,0.09670301081191104,0.07007849587336494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690642572368579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192317536332819,0.0,0.0,0.2695313841889375,0.0,0.2136762282810785,0.09678157792991793,0.07456754458376318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022654291067168,0.08934566626174187,0.0,0.0,0.15097273050715468,0.0,0.09469800226434033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19251712357507872,0.0,0.09034373483719388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933682328481013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430887726038856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059637784951023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373507749846329,0.0,0.09960545744062707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384318187101158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033432981763409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04815971741982193,0.0,0.0,0.1855771967424834,0.0,0.17921731241363092,0.12379276344940315,0.0428120904711184,0.0,0.0,0.0775506960417195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052647854831703,0.0699462449532984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408432811905732,0.0,0.0,0.09332417745097417,0.05938104777204201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946077568874408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283963974129313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396611563004079,0.15955198074564594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860770632004636,0.09340300876080193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658876220143718,0.14086899063160918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043934123367312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189914220831322,0.0,0.08560277428034961,0.0,0.3162279857998691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506113997003826,0.0,0.14058463852899958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447317717179582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643150446023376
parenting,kallygally,2020/04/10,"Preserving videos? My phone, computer, and Google Drive are overflowing with videos of my daughter.
How does everyone preserve their home movies? Do you make DVDs? Is there a fantastic website?
With photos it's easy, videos not so much.",4.15808333333333,7.543399975,2.9400000000000013,85.85833333333333,86.75,7.666666666666668,26.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.718166666666667,189,8,31,5,6,54,36,40,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,18,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567393241742914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987208736848464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5235324584299449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483884102128324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3836742896044876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SingIntoMyMouth91,2020/04/10,"What age did your kids stop dumping toys all over the floor? My daughter is 5 (6 in December) and she still does this. Often she'll just dump them all over the floor and walk away. Is this normal? Do any of you have kids the same age or older who still do this? 

My oldest (11) grew out of this stage by about age 3 and by then she would get a small amount of toys out at once and actually sit there and play with them. I know all kids are different though which is why I thought I'd ask here and get other people's answers.",3.683706563706565,3.786841900900904,4.095186615186616,93.94540540540542,71.43243243243244,7.423938223938223,22.163449163449158,6.868970318607317,0.2007287001287001,405,7,99,3,7,127,77,111,0.07,0.9079999999999999,0.022000000000000002,-0.6416,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,2,0,8,3,2,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,3,22,15,9,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,8,9,0,1,3,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,11,1,14,11,5,23,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,2,9,65,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.2506158871602959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746440470908051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24008878797227826,0.0,0.2412875839242323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683186133558345,0.0,0.0,0.22474187615781074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683520745451563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411396486175304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516256721982619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27350122298535795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804424576346115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4101880253831153,0.21471011865733344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25232093690713064,0.20388363822481548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317369731708899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18243509456595106,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momof_5_girls,2020/04/10,"Let's celebrate differences! Write in the comments what some things your family does that is different or something about your family that is different. I am on my mobile so things may look weird 

About us that is Different 
- We have 5 girls about 1 year apart  (3-7 years old)
- I ""co-parent"" with my best friend that is a single mom with triplets that are 2 years old and my sister in law that has a 4 year old and a 2 year old. My best friend lived with me for 2 years after her divorce (she moved out February) what we basically do is we take turns Friday or Saturdays having date nights and the other 2 mom watches the kids. We also each get 1 vacation with no kids a year and the other 2 moms watch the kids. We are super super close and would have dinner together at least 3 times a week. 
- we love love spicy and have a very high tolerance for it. 
- Instead of having individual birthday parties for each kid we have one big party. We still celebrate each of their birthdays as a family but with friends we make it a big cook out since we make it in the summer and make it fun for kids. It is everyone's favorite day. 
- one of the chores we have  is to make the sweet tea for the next day (we are very southern) 
- we also have a chore to start the rice cooker every day (we eat rice A LOT)
- None of my girls have cut their own hair (yet) but my second daughter did shove her earring deep into her ear and had to get a doctor to take it out.
-we only grocery shop once a month and do it in the middle of the week (usually)
-when we go to the pool or play in any type of water  all of my kids wear swimming shoes. I thought it was a phase when my oldest first wanted to do that when she was a toddler and her sisters followed her example and they still do it. I honestly dont care probably not a bad idea anyways
- All of my daughters are identical except one has curly hair as the rest has straight and one had blue eyes as the rest have brown.",4.731264656616418,4.723015824120607,5.464434673366835,85.42201214405361,69.15075376884423,8.844388609715244,27.136097152428807,8.59863814320734,1.6329343383584587,1510,42,329,22,24,492,200,398,0.022000000000000002,0.831,0.147,0.9935,5,0,1,0,2,0,40.0,17,2,3,5,14,17,1,0,30,0,38,14,6,4,2,63,56,26,0,2,7,7,2,0,3,2,1,1,2,8,22,41,5,0,2,5,1,4,4,3,0,6,6,10,43,14,43,47,15,57,0,0,6,2,52,19,0,6,34,227,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999822343570638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527278335896165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786490907667063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059544438812027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286977153943494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725547863178674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396787198703176,0.0,0.08319291627883772,0.07112815603785487,0.0,0.09525885864859016,0.0,0.0,0.08316912389842471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848140521775993,0.07766595571099666,0.0,0.0,0.2298689712563984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913622133377904,0.0,0.0,0.188388802664544,0.0,0.08493027003978125,0.0,0.04619295958913335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587615512689893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175455615905208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311369961762029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177120472179148,0.0,0.06825423040886601,0.0,0.0,0.06910084451386142,0.14671567478697767,0.0,0.21701853895061085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855803743448935,0.06487644652333008,0.08638714565069294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644157051551984,0.0762752166363621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411562562685891,0.08655991485710744,0.2203081164888481,0.061816650953255614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876329469513328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723516467011524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257285779246832,0.0,0.0,0.05752998200262411,0.0,0.12981967745887668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222399612784947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799685164407924,0.0,0.0,0.06452676947057794,0.04739467534689863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840865390196362,0.0,0.0,0.09776911790677498,0.0,0.08951778278575047,0.1341280446528886,0.047940699613107686,0.0,0.13039487380084488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05773855809567065,0.0,0.0,0.3663889088903753
parenting,Felixicuss,2020/04/10,"What do to when a child talks to much BS? So Ive did this myself and met many people who were like this. Some Kids just talk much BS. Just not something silly other kids their age would laugh about, no, things nobody finds funny or interesting or wants to hear in any way. 

What happened to me was that people would just say, ""shut up"", ""youre annoying"" and stuff like that. It didnt help much as I couldnt figure out how I could do else.

Another possibility Ive thought about is to let them do it and tell them, ""that wasn't funny"" or ""hm, I havent thought about it that way"", if its just weird.

But Im concerned that will just lead to them not changing anything.

Ive experienced a little myself with people who are like that. Ive just reacted like Id care, like Id not care or told them to shut up. 

But I dont think I had a big enough impact to get an answer out of that,.",1.896342342342344,3.2219547783783824,3.2524324324324314,93.71126126126127,76.89189189189189,6.230630630630633,19.36036036036036,6.742157984588678,-0.10200180180180184,674,13,160,6,15,220,104,185,0.053,0.7829999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.9685,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,5,1,12,12,1,0,4,1,23,0,0,3,0,37,34,14,0,6,16,0,0,5,0,3,0,2,0,3,20,6,0,0,6,0,0,1,9,2,1,0,10,3,18,10,19,18,5,14,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,6,7,108,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557027014364188,0.14736574674145342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565032852163518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865745479590216,0.0,0.1486699640236509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122077004706421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470881872361326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740098756528505,0.0,0.0,0.14521273094883588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844866296694782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734250055616055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427678327922295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839589508950874,0.0,0.09419927545831387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180453837705493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370904163641338,0.0,0.3432974420381892,0.14085542317130426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424828935764705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099335396491986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29229287139036103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584348337177239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117610033527717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819257796461776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088173155590946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22591732201891584,0.12283590634265135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09336682232245527,0.09005070908717502,0.0,0.2231420389941256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428953487034087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289261612075187,0.22310413743141627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966751299897875,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ObiWanBonomi,2020/04/10,"My 10 yr old is angry I won't take her to her activities For context, we're in Sweden. 
My ex-wife still takes our daughter to her activities, while I refuse to go, for obvious reasons.
Since schools are still open that's the only thing I'll let my daughter attend.
She is scheduled to come to me next week, but refuses to come unless I take her to her activities, stating that ""when she's with me I am responsible for her and I should take her"".
I've had several talks with her about the current situation, her school has had talks; it doesn't seem to get through to her how serious this thing is.
Any thoughts or advice? I guess being a single/divorced parent I'm just trying to find some outside perspective and be sure I'm not getting stuck in one/my way of thinking or reasoning.",5.019999999999996,5.534449630573249,5.940643312101913,80.43453184713377,68.61783439490446,9.082547770700637,31.62356687898089,9.120678840339163,2.5675559235668794,620,25,125,11,10,205,102,157,0.036000000000000004,0.909,0.055,0.5873,2,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,3,2,27,30,9,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,6,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,4,0,24,1,21,21,1,18,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,5,9,81,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505127876506838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009425008648594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557312992213504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356690658417456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510479726100798,0.0,0.08436037738491238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16352049662361498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178726645711854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786482562050927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576004862011705,0.0,0.1005850026349608,0.11289330775668288,0.0,0.0,0.16482213158693396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052366745090289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004530836780437,0.0,0.13513180556633794,0.0,0.16769197563805316,0.0,0.12278892531583868,0.166849821724875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370845488106537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399004633358783,0.0,0.4464257120802896,0.2386166685414385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972303840696137,0.0951126722384608,0.0,0.11784269014985893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077922967708858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782267410030288,0.11906750358430193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abh3babecakes,2020/04/10,"My husband pays child support on one child and was supposed to receive it on another Some backstory here my husband has children from before we were married one who is now 22 almost 23 and another one who is 10 years old my husband had custody of our oldest son and the mother was never financially responsible for him in fact she is literally like horrible she told my son she wished he was dead anyway she was ordered by the state of California to pay child support she never paid hardly anything we got a total of maybe $1000 from her when she was ordered to pay we did the math on the back child support and it’s over $28,000 my son is owed. And yet my husband is currently paying for his 10-year-old and they nickel and dime us every step like we can literally barely afford to survive because of it and eat it I don’t understand how if women’s liberation means that we are equal to men why in the world we are not held financially responsible anyone got any clues",6.480710227272727,6.452234552083336,7.257897727272731,74.11551136363637,65.45833333333334,9.898484848484847,34.121212121212125,9.573946990214177,3.1464729166666667,782,32,145,14,11,261,117,192,0.07200000000000001,0.862,0.065,-0.1088,3,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,8,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,6,0,18,1,0,1,4,27,30,11,1,2,2,8,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,7,14,1,1,2,0,8,2,4,0,0,3,13,1,25,5,20,17,3,22,0,0,0,0,38,7,0,3,12,101,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648386301815858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947920093744422,0.30678634075964994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228626875952786,0.0,0.12038055613103835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248457025883647,0.0,0.08917432300157589,0.0,0.1244782418641323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968665381569113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325189824245646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339958604636653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13104313334271528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429354763421672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469635127374552,0.15934786599528486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22564889278248065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070041863823261,0.0,0.297380655403397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4980093787596591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978212683802185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228843280213405,0.17596352372126056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131999969668109,0.0,0.1682211809995533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840621614051095
parenting,Princess-Rufflebutt,2020/04/10,"Poop is falling out of my sons butt uncontrollably There's so much poop coming from my son's butt right now and I don't know how to stop it 

I already have a few gallons of poop stored in the fridge he's only 1 year old how I get the poop flow to slow down?

Also what recipes can I use his poop in? I have so much poop now and I need to use it all up",-0.6093518518518479,0.9490895925925926,1.4698611111111113,102.55812500000003,85.17283950617283,4.5438271604938265,16.297839506172842,5.148860815047168,-1.1300012345679011,271,5,74,1,8,90,54,81,0.092,0.9079999999999999,0.0,-0.6868,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,3,0,5,8,8,4,1,12,11,7,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,11,11,4,15,0,0,0,2,4,6,2,0,6,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134817325000479,0.22717315741191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447038242257931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841647135528346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611914796368448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176528323700507,0.21063660600377068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980869348021986,0.0,0.0,0.21605039525215308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425968773597161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374978336158409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4906959046719398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293376428771266
parenting,VisualCharge7,2020/04/10,"11 daughter expressing interesting in changing appearance My 11yo daughter has always been a good kid but recently she as expressed a strong desire to change the way she looks. She has developed what is now an obsession with hair, makeup and piercings.

At first I thought nothing of her new interest and even embraced it. For her last birthday we had a mother and daughter makeover day where I let her get highlights in her hair, make up done and nails. I was also initially supportive of desire for ear piercings and had taken her on a few on a few occasions to get new holes punched in her ears as a reward for good behaviour. She has now built up quite a collection of 4 holes per ear. I also allow her to paint her nails and allow her to wear makeup on weekends.

My issue now is that I feel like this is the limit of what I would allow for her age but she keeps trying to push my boundaries and constantly begs for more. She keeps asking to dye her hair outrageous colours and wants to experiment with heavier makeup. Also she is not satisfied with her 4 holes per ear which I feel is already a lot and keeps asking for many more. She also has been nagging for her nose and belly pierced.

I am in two minds of whether I need to put my foot down or just be accepting of her interest. My main concerns is that I now feel the things she is asking for is no appropriate for her age. Her father also has been concerned and was not pleased after I took her to get her ears pierced the most recent time. He told me that I should put my foot down before our daughter becomes a pincushion punk.

I would appreciate everyone's opinions on this. I want to be accepting and supportive of my daughter interests but want it to be in a healthy manner that is appropriate for her age.",6.020198757763977,6.411883475362322,6.3110559006211195,79.07652173913047,66.42028985507247,9.585921325051759,32.95031055900621,9.48565724429506,2.932813664596273,1409,57,268,26,21,453,163,345,0.052000000000000005,0.769,0.179,0.9928,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,5,13,16,2,1,15,0,30,12,12,4,0,52,55,24,0,9,8,7,6,1,0,3,0,5,0,1,12,16,0,4,6,1,0,5,3,3,0,2,12,14,52,13,48,36,7,39,0,0,2,0,45,15,0,5,19,198,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543947577727985,0.41828195207987695,0.08704370369866965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933880239679545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553326548289394,0.0890152042265917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22132651894490324,0.0,0.0,0.11304599150293068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746464358147247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705210822906468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690937624739676,0.0,0.0,0.09995911238282973,0.0,0.10232842215809748,0.0,0.0,0.15868151943586864,0.07473323624969938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898101175427774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396285212534648,0.0,0.0,0.17548341360651673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918541506728778,0.0,0.2789458941132946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527091967768834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697057114117424,0.0,0.05110704661024524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784585505431926,0.0,0.0,0.08893548040807181,0.0,0.0,0.06982782972774945,0.10605788146777448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562604067221824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775668144445291,0.0,0.20206552372600892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037588982651602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483010706659895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21032341230963836,0.0,0.11126536060409478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065790433190282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374198408395241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949807886645121,0.0,0.0,0.08304846753205136,0.060998794593827226,0.0,0.0,0.09995911238282973,0.11622529681253745,0.07102316293950335,0.0,0.10218853896105584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851046473246296,0.0830343614195758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862354978245645,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamaroo27,2020/04/10,How do you do the birthday drive by parade? Daughter is turning 11 in a week. She would like to have a drive by parade but I have no clue how to do this. I understand doing a shout-out on the book of faces but what else is needed? Did you have one? Did you participate in one? Tell me all about it.,-0.6506250000000016,1.447755187500004,1.5425000000000004,98.2525,90.875,4.45,15.8125,5.985473137389443,-0.7295874999999996,228,5,55,2,8,76,44,64,0.061,0.91,0.027999999999999997,-0.4606,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,12,1,1,2,1,8,15,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,7,1,9,12,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,44,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30499558474998245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17837022711480374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707182517228245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4948046619942337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191149398333434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971257601264152,0.0,0.38008369987655255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928625258346929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25935774112987714,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gf2brewer,2020/04/10,"1st time parent, quarantine, Moon messing with my emotions I am sorry this is all over the place. Its late, I have a toddler and have been trapped in my house for 4 weeks straight with the occasional running out for groceries. 

Some will read this and think OMG, this is your issue? Other people do worse things to their children and their kids are fine...Well I am an over thinker on everything and there is one thing I do not want to do and that is fuck up my kid. Anyhow, So tonight when it was time to get P.J's on I told my little guy (22 months old) that it was time to get jammies on and then we snuggle while he has a little bit to drink before bed. So I put him down on his changing table and its a battle straight away. He doesn't want his diaper changed and this is a battle that we have at least once a day if not more. If I sing to him he is fine but seriously sometimes I just dont want to sing. So he kicks and kicks me then kicks again and his heal hits the edge. Now he is upset and hurt. I normally try to ignore the fact that he hurts himself. This time I said see this is why we dont kick you hurt your foot. I try to get the shirt he had on for the day off. FUcking struggle is real getting off the shirt. Fighting me and crying and he is pulling it but pulling the shirt the wrong way so he is getting even more upset. I try to sit him up (and I knew he wasn't going to, DUH Dummy me) so he threw himself back down. Crying still. I then try to put his foot jammies on and he is kicking and fighting so I step away and turn my back from him and ignore him. This obviously makes him more upset and cries more/harder. He finally flips over and is now sitting on his butt and crying. I stand there until he quiets down from crying and proceed to try and put his jammies on. Fighting and struggles again, So I go across the room and sit in his rocking chair. This kid tries to climb down from the table and I grab him up and put him back on it. Idiot me, I think go in one last attempt to put his jammies on while he is sobbing. I then give up and pick him up and put him in is crib and leave the room. He cries for a few minutes and then quiets down. I gave him a few minutes of quiet time and then I went in there. (I have done this on other occasions from being frustrated and couldnt stand to listen or battle out what needed to be done) I pick him up and we sit in his chair and I hug him tight. We snuggle for a minute or so before I tell him why I put him in there and that we need to get jammies on for bed time. We rock for about 5 minutes and as we are rocking I calmly remind him of what we need to do. I go to the changing table and he starts crying and protesting but actually offers a foot for me to put his jammies on. I know that is progress from the start of our battle but I just feel defeated. I am pretty sure where I could pin point where I went wrong. 

There are other things that have me defeated about having a 22 month old who hardly tries to speak. Doesn't do the typical game of ""where is the cow"" ""Can you show mama where the cow is?"" Or anything. We have books, toys, I have laminated pictures and its like he ignores me...but I know he can hear me and I am pretty positive he understands what I am saying. He doesn't try to repeat a whole lot...or maybe he does and I just am not catching it because obviously I know its not going to sound exactly how its supposed to. 

Obvioulsy 2 different issues that I ranted on about but I just need that advice or even a boost of confidence saying that what I did for the most part was right and that your son will be fine (obvioulsy tho noone truly knows that) but just any sort of feed back.  Its just been hard quarentined and not being able to vent to my people in person. I am not someone who calls people to vent. I just go to bed and start the day over. Honestly tho sometimes the opinions/different perspectives from strangers are helpful.",2.5166029951100235,3.8007605220048895,3.6614356662591696,91.57670117665035,75.19804400977995,6.432793398533008,23.050198655256718,6.839637549500072,0.5062670537897307,3049,84,682,27,64,989,299,818,0.156,0.78,0.064,-0.9975,4,2,1,0,6,0,77.0,11,5,2,5,42,37,12,5,33,1,68,13,7,4,6,123,114,79,0,12,25,2,5,1,0,2,1,10,5,6,44,59,2,4,10,11,0,23,13,30,0,2,17,16,104,7,102,88,12,131,0,6,1,4,95,58,4,10,44,474,148,2,0.05170629991998834,0.0,0.05045788999847505,0.0,0.0,0.05052679785558586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03516205703016746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0425498791718742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971595416842795,0.15903581199620773,0.0,0.031519680510700164,0.0,0.08799650576594285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056449887698358625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279791332921024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640952279139394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041283273106193584,0.0,0.3975785976491765,0.10003885767877932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10804415658287883,0.0,0.0,0.0452485315025881,0.1058269937240801,0.12119879683559732,0.05065248912761963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058162627932282336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830304688684725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046470288326620084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02614425884002647,0.0,0.0,0.05664172417837411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560328218362492,0.16208644565619426,0.049601394412352416,0.17631529090007178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051197366173681536,0.0,0.0,0.13895606572792726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827675790924047,0.0,0.034657642914343534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05966212788695125,0.16605799043843678,0.0,0.0,0.10793588679601382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136657207978476,0.04214753558271005,0.058326958477645525,0.054749505814937635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025261086354814458,0.1036465925044216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04395884715719108,0.0,0.0,0.034514356702591203,0.0,0.051945928068699104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254295057851764,0.0,0.0,0.15335826489009607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066119563462253,0.0,0.0,0.1085141276603508,0.05506552190371238,0.07007505399068778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741372703310039,0.055992884071203564,0.0,0.10753991380260873,0.04514794668517274,0.054022078291439415,0.0,0.04887916637750343,0.0,0.0,0.10520779153799052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41583290236363946,0.0,0.0,0.051720292379075584,0.05885308925861196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04415689761324711,0.0491845318474491,0.08223785007058149,0.0,0.0,0.04120322659901265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04381058012892079,0.0,0.10227770549506794,0.057880969503302314,0.10979395564269873,0.0,0.04129271790785316,0.0,0.0,0.10810930263539473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873257575566465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04519358517749217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305410436613988,0.06626261835968912,0.0,0.0,0.18090215576636684,0.0,0.0,0.049407585398352334,0.0,0.2808414684400395,0.05624160647515438,0.0,0.05382808173731432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149314607053764,0.041042054146331615,0.041475674919882764,0.0,0.0,0.09586451609816199,0.09331378655462026,0.05772823732224318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05269313701125272,0.0,0.1130654439431224,0.0,0.0
parenting,Clap4Lights,2020/04/10,"My 9 year old son is either dramatic, sensitive, or trying to gain attention? Every time he gets upset he mopes around (walks around looking sad, basically ignores almost everything I say unless I say it 3 times, bumps into stuff and falls on the floor dramatically) he also repeatedly throws himself down the stairs (they’re carpeted) He doesn’t cry though or get hit at all. He just keeps repeating the same actions. He also gets increasingly upset when he cant figure something out but won’t ask for help even though I repeatedly (at least 5 times) say I’m here if he needs help but doesn’t ask at all. An example would be when he’s struggling with doing homework. He refuses to say he needs something unless I ask him multiple times. Can anyone provide advice on if they’ve experienced this or what could be done to stop this behavior?",6.532215189873419,7.3717714620253165,7.077063291139242,72.46508860759496,65.39240506329114,10.370632911392406,31.622784810126586,10.355215969177356,3.336316962025317,673,25,118,16,10,221,108,158,0.102,0.84,0.059000000000000004,-0.5873,0,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,11,5,0,3,4,0,12,0,0,0,2,31,24,16,0,6,11,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,5,6,0,4,2,0,0,5,4,5,0,0,1,6,7,0,17,17,6,29,0,1,1,0,24,12,0,6,12,67,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303405200330582,0.0,0.0,0.13356400836649535,0.0,0.0,0.21333299486564225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932646352634871,0.0,0.0,0.23747865505877824,0.3740858618186581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064956322921455,0.0,0.14651518280802686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364973240037502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809834611446507,0.0,0.11238109938431376,0.0,0.11987622021663905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090616515766673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880789570266314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185571173956594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200829519469853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978039064960536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13996323169547706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4242866993169353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053698088692911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151432831366956,0.0,0.1394410819995277,0.152691853183325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620966349851481,0.0,0.3111072679370656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055843779162942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947515988467736,0.0,0.0,0.0858944081293497
parenting,AB_AC,2020/04/10,"How are you parenting your autistic kid in this lockdown? Here's something that's a parenting basic. How are we do give our kids Occupational Therapy at home? How many of you have had your children's progress come to a stand still just because your kids are unable to follow the routine that took so long for you to come up with? Luckily there are many amazing therapists our there & associations that are providing respite for this unfortunate situation. Teletherapy has become the need of the hour & thankfully, several organisations have risen to the occasion. I follow this page on facebook called Autism Connect Association which has been a blessing in my life. I just wanted to share it with you guys. They've been bringing on some really good & qualified therapists on board to hand out tips for parents, about parenting & become their child's therapist in the interim. [Facebook Live By Autism Connect](https://www.facebook.com/AutismConnectAssociation/live/)",9.98104294478528,11.422553392638035,8.865159509202453,60.53589877300615,58.018404907975466,12.40957055214724,39.612883435582816,11.979248473330829,5.335820122699387,805,38,119,24,10,250,106,163,0.021,0.833,0.147,0.9663,4,1,1,0,0,0,31.0,3,7,1,1,11,5,0,0,8,0,13,2,1,3,0,14,23,4,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,8,6,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,1,14,5,24,19,2,19,1,0,0,0,24,9,0,1,3,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872229365242606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685294634034656,0.2483154876415525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479217462388827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936777018845853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784236667590068,0.0,0.09429156451298927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131229678429247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276523292919655,0.0,0.11070988322705992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940473042476456,0.0,0.0,0.09926786921634216,0.09948710961545762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279500578887361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335712347906796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993111404458225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201836860857865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700125704187748,0.0,0.0,0.12636345308501307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654549255391791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977780722540048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350013669893354,0.12856070712132844,0.3915807107592125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249014348104034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630752706160135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lukewill1999,2020/04/10,"Son's youtube channel I just found out my son has a youtube channel and has 3500 subscribers but it's very offensive and raunchy humor. He has like 15000 views on his channel with only 5 videos. How would you handle it? There is a lot of swearing and jokes about vietnam, rape and a whole bunch of other things.",2.8021857923497255,5.193939737704921,2.4963114754098363,95.2732103825137,77.85245901639344,4.722404371584699,26.560109289617486,5.46131890053228,0.5879814207650269,248,10,50,1,6,73,47,61,0.193,0.687,0.12,-0.7958,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,4,5,2,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,0,12,6,6,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,3,6,4,3,2,0,0,1,1,5,2,0,1,1,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626993181241664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061670372660588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587678357428332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209486979702666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803568972562546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481927654508045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711459946001286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29977546110511405,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Porphyra,2020/04/10,"Show this COVID message to your teens Hello, fellow parents!
I know this is a very stressful time for everyone. And I have been seeing several posts from parents who have older kids/teens who are mad about not seeing their friends.

I am a pediatrician who works in a hospital. I want to tell you that I had a really hard week, because I had a teenager with severe COVID. After watching him have a worse and worse time breathing, we tried multiple breathing medicines and increased the oxygen we gave him. Eventually, it was too much and I had to send him to the ICU. He was stabilized by getting with high levels and flow of oxygen being forced into his nose and airway. Fortunately, he has avoided intubation... for now.

This young man was struggling to breath, and alone in his hospital room. He is still alone in the ICU because of strict hospital visitation policies. One parent was also sick in the hospital, the other was quarantined at home with a sibling. I want you to imagine what this poor young man went through and think about if this is worth it to you to have a sleepover or a game of basketball.

Teenagers and young adults may have less risk of dying, but that doesn't mean they still won't have severe disease. 

Parents, you are *absolutely* doing the right thing keeping your kids at home. This disease is no joke. Please continue the good work keeping you and your families safe and healthy.

Heading back to the ED....",5.4391132075471695,7.2384589773584915,5.295990566037741,80.69266509433966,68.66037735849056,8.167924528301887,30.98584905660377,8.697196308434329,2.5231547169811317,1139,47,203,19,20,353,152,265,0.125,0.794,0.081,-0.7251,4,4,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,8,2,2,8,9,1,4,17,0,28,6,5,0,0,32,40,15,1,3,4,4,1,0,2,2,1,0,3,4,16,17,0,4,4,3,2,5,4,5,0,1,11,5,25,4,31,26,3,30,0,0,3,0,40,11,0,3,13,142,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23251691001226715,0.0,0.08976729427109315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631429220279313,0.0,0.13685465579559558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649908855238983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726089198600196,0.0,0.0,0.10582050042025863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672504715436012,0.0,0.05864665179024585,0.0,0.0,0.09415103347504662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055508303481432,0.0,0.11520218007823815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185996221242051,0.2251943379065613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954815994387376,0.0,0.0,0.06169035838682965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227453272710585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251759392184313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606436072930489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.498566972998972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321817808505467,0.0,0.0,0.1075056806057326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191103327965741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586196506355467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889944639386654,0.0,0.0,0.38043592758954425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928800687638505,0.0,0.12858344223012008,0.11734939219518888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981125513238464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457475114404415,0.0719260766670183,0.0,0.0,0.13090922802809316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621123904524442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261904767734758,0.13241740620741074,0.0,0.09004119209145632,0.0,0.0,0.10405804517253546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634405123856095,0.0,0.22878725328504165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forgetfulgirlfriend1,2020/04/10,"Is giftedness possible in toddlers? As the first time mom to my 13 month old daughter, I didn't realize there was anything unusual because I had no comparison to others the same age.

After reading that a typical 12 month old is only expected to speak about 3 words I'm not realizing that her skills might be exceptional. 

At 11 months she was following instructions like, ""Can you bring me the X (with X being different things like various toys, clothes, etc.). She could speak about 10 words then.

Now at 13 months she can speak probably about 100 words or more and understands a lot more. She can follow instructions like ""Put your teddy bear on the chair"", and ""Can you point to the pineapple? (In a book). She also knows quite a few verbs and can combine a noun with the verb ""go"" to ask where something went to.

I'm wondering now if it's possible for a toddler to be gifted, and if so if there is anything I should be doing to encourage her or better meet her needs.

I know that older gifted children can end up doing poorly at school and having trouble socializing and with behaviour if they are bored from lack of stimulation.

Thanks for any advice!",7.379159021406728,7.1957859220183495,7.46288990825688,73.91418195718657,63.633027522935784,11.30336391437309,34.2217125382263,10.864195022040775,3.6775584097859326,913,35,168,22,12,295,140,218,0.043,0.878,0.079,0.8382,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,3,1,4,10,8,0,0,12,0,24,0,0,1,0,35,38,16,0,9,8,2,0,3,0,2,0,3,0,1,6,9,0,0,6,3,1,6,3,2,0,1,5,3,18,6,28,26,8,30,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,9,18,119,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605426552300565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113424433204138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468139772464512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22914939416379346,0.0,0.13016156234292908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848735159045709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231379110387963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111640879539306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546605951510036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331674521313125,0.0,0.1552786200432233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842924621275305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912780419493891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303469460398944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20406271698479767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836864628357815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770137604799302,0.0,0.16306487788091406,0.4445292791821135,0.0,0.0,0.10323752432887394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921976171911025,0.0,0.0,0.1058909387084774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161766355895882,0.313922551063623,0.0,0.0,0.15011384265193875,0.0,0.0,0.1399649357185864,0.0,0.14808859245522804,0.1392680061060371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090852549513244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192778611696893,0.0,0.10718630898213646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818458020784626,0.0,0.0,0.09249844355689284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811863241517505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449436820875633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906790931746995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509893519836133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Vanhandle,2020/04/10,"4 Year old daughter is terrified of the bath overfilling Nothing traumatic has ever happened to her, especially in regards to the bath overfilling. This fear came on pretty suddenly, over the course of a week or so. Whenever the bath starts getting half full, she starts crying, and begging for the water to be turned off.

We've started filling the bath before she gets to the bathroom, but she can still hear the bathtub running, and gets pretty hysterical about it. I've been doing my best to convince her that everything is okay, even showing her videos of a bath getting filled. Anyone ever heard of this phobia before?",8.972172619047619,8.915996633928572,8.231071428571433,69.29726190476192,60.339285714285715,10.680952380952384,39.20238095238096,10.125756701596842,4.1871380952380965,501,23,78,9,6,157,78,112,0.09300000000000001,0.757,0.15,0.85,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,10,1,7,1,0,0,2,7,19,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,4,3,1,0,0,7,0,4,0,1,0,1,3,2,7,3,15,15,2,19,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,10,55,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217568761699105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973657163867923,0.0,0.18336896878178288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19984524031178286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919333427437728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540790337136846,0.3161076350268521,0.0,0.0,0.15703658297184786,0.0,0.0,0.1966204859527245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651580753849845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451367912802644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969340681603288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765870867545013,0.0,0.18335035595411575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555276431473385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710256218749412,0.0,0.13954007077152394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005670116848125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140158335581889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252076787744887
parenting,PrincessPanOly,2020/04/11,"Trigger warning, distanced 5yo A year ago this month we found out the father of my kids was sexually abusive towards our two children. We were separated and he had the children due to my being homeless and suicidal, so my relationship with my younger child was already suffering. Once the abuse came to light I signed emergency custody to my father, got into a mental health clinic and turned my life around for my kids. I love them more than anything in the whole world and soon I'll have custody back.. but my youngest child hates me, and my fathers wife has spoiled her to the point where she threatens to kill me when she doesn't get what she wants. She hates me and I need ideas to help bond with her. I want to fix this so badly. My fathers wife (not my bio mom) hates me and is teaching these things to my daughter to make it worse, saying things to my daughter about me being a horrible person and selfish and saying that I want to beat my children (even CPS told her they are way out of line) and that they deserve a better mom than me.. CPS  is aware of her doing this and gave me the choice to remove them from the house but that means they will be placed in foster care until the court date that returns custody to me. I would have them back now but it has been put off due to covid-19.",5.924934895833331,5.962002144531255,5.44725,86.40608333333336,66.6171875,7.920416666666667,30.347916666666666,7.0316486544052195,1.5478044791666663,1023,34,210,7,15,312,147,256,0.182,0.759,0.059000000000000004,-0.9901,0,0,0,0,1,1,22.0,3,0,6,2,11,10,4,0,12,0,19,4,0,2,0,35,37,18,2,5,4,10,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,8,13,20,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,7,0,1,10,3,45,3,33,22,2,29,0,1,0,1,43,12,0,0,13,149,58,1,0.0,0.2957458352004468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063165395209136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772486295454167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270346480227324,0.11110246004389218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19193390483762,0.10420653967912306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103794331060614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274309321793666,0.1272464997539144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243219144636582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684168621330153,0.0,0.0,0.06520519717237415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981755522398417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696557993926004,0.0,0.13266134135252425,0.0,0.0,0.08365382178419595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440076298857401,0.0,0.1408890828443686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380776816529759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815310525333228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264092882645732,0.0,0.08330796908868268,0.0,0.0,0.13594868201763075,0.0,0.0,0.12577357595524313,0.0,0.0,0.2923390307365793,0.09961775667062556,0.0,0.0,0.0925409511543856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291271328438947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897447051601833,0.13039413329328411,0.0,0.11798058752032085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546298803523145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399332013328674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849908635513905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365158602089348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582912081050444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925604271231773,0.0,0.0,0.13575145131933627,0.12191585615902635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208387729880082,0.09906399842886077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933976089505135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271864420694707,0.08865753195682366,0.0,0.0,0.08037000247304618
parenting,notacrazycatlady-yet,2020/04/11,"My 7 y/o started pooping his pants again after no accidents since he was 4! I’m in need of advice My son (7 years) has recently started pooping his pants again. He’s been potty trained and completely accident free since he started preschool at the age of 4. 

It all started while he was still in school. I picked him up one day and noticed he smelled of poop, bad. When we got home, I checked him and sure enough. He said he had an accident after lunch and just didn’t say anything about it. I wasn’t mad or getting on to him, but I informed him how unsanitary that is and how it could make him sick to sit in poo all day. I told him if it happens again just to quietly tell his teacher and I’ll bring him new clothes. 

That was it for a month or so. As many of you are aware, most schools are closed down, so he’s been home with me all day everyday. I’m a stay at home mom so I have plenty of availability to attend to him. 

I noticed him smelling like poop again at dinner one night and he ran and hid from me. He wouldn’t let me check him. Sure enough, he had an accident. Ever since then, it’s become more and more frequent. Now, just about every day he craps himself. 

The worst part is he isn’t saying anything when it happens and lies about it, tries to cover it up, and gets defensive when my husband and I catch on that he pooped his pants. 

To clarify, he hasn’t been getting in trouble for the accidents, just the lying and not telling us when he does it. I just don’t know what to do. We’ve started asking him if he needs to go to the bathroom and checking his pants regularly because I don’t want him to sit in poo.

I don’t know if it’s because he doesn’t want to stop what he’s doing to go, or maybe he can’t feel it. We are home all day so he has access to the bathroom 24/7. I’m desperate for advice!!",2.045814012096777,3.385405320312504,3.3763844086021493,92.91834677419355,76.52604166666666,6.51733870967742,25.147513440860216,7.1029339738359605,0.8309142473118283,1409,49,326,15,31,460,174,384,0.127,0.836,0.036000000000000004,-0.9895,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,1,0,0,25,10,3,0,10,0,30,9,6,4,7,55,59,34,0,9,13,3,1,1,0,1,1,4,4,0,17,18,2,2,4,0,4,6,12,6,0,2,14,7,39,5,43,42,11,57,0,0,0,0,54,14,1,7,35,199,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347533151922366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450916184072924,0.0,0.08776437736121863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838520898560583,0.1144557754799692,0.10368219846685432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843055296687707,0.0,0.0,0.07495490057579554,0.0,0.0,0.30272158135898497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215431880250829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940046140319492,0.0,0.0,0.08491910926820365,0.07909727328386505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047468143258438726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471440186875763,0.0,0.10670742333028696,0.0,0.07508377066119745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16603412948491986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3766739601068537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031871041252372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599784045586536,0.0,0.04586463411685342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266509364278447,0.0951787718399082,0.0943142726036087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995018205909712,0.07493348017647106,0.0,0.0,0.13922047154237294,0.0,0.09066911441783362,0.0,0.08809926776309354,0.0,0.0,0.21376417827934174,0.0,0.0,0.12722994834262547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166202296298683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269438234509024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893006154092832,0.14931301255478294,0.0,0.1900215206757544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23297352809658364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33224089765737475,0.100062734033448,0.07497204878416389,0.07848721315253605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696006618333082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641091138742321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970559678486413,0.0,0.06373781304335781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292511614217085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074476660225578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045512555567085
parenting,BigBossTweed,2020/04/11,Found a crayon in toddlers butt crack. The wife and I took our two year old in his daily walk around the neighborhood to make sure he gets some exercise. As we're walking along the toddler starts pointing to his butt and saying garbage. We shrugged it off as weird toddler behavior and keep walking. A moment later he grabs at his butt while saying trash and I looked down and noticed a random crayon on the ground behind him. I told my wife it must have fallen out of his pocket since he likes to horde stuff for walks. A moment later he's doing it again so my wife stops the toddler and looks in his diaper. There she finds a neatly tucked brown crayon between his little butt cheeks! We have no idea how it got there and is now one of life's great mysteries.,4.416581818181818,5.784060173333334,4.360181818181818,88.09009090909092,70.6,6.787878787878787,23.63636363636364,6.980632752743323,0.7527999999999997,606,15,119,5,11,186,98,150,0.055,0.867,0.079,0.6837,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,10,0,5,7,5,2,2,23,15,12,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,12,0,2,3,1,0,6,1,1,0,2,4,6,16,4,20,10,1,29,0,0,3,4,21,12,4,2,12,74,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488749162181508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955722544475802,0.0,0.0,0.215403864520095,0.0,0.0,0.10264015188932166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712381027430075,0.2165934342083626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217749119669856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746191199382364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387626831155542,0.0959784785156096,0.19690052344098485,0.0,0.0,0.32994712358612954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113590590407792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366645878083716,0.20614752516975815,0.0,0.13312367032551578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571442075490968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124593936818123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625104338138039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905256837576138,0.0,0.0,0.1642460132161535,0.0,0.0,0.224895118996768,0.0,0.0,0.18515745560103133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772212750700346,0.2182698452165351,0.0,0.0,0.19190896640951813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265112233212232
parenting,fietsfanatic,2020/04/11,"We're pregnant! Just because i can't tell my closest ones yet due to the coronavirus....

WE'RE PREGNANT!

It is our second one after an unfortunate miscarriage of his or her brother. The three of us we're so sad... but luckily now we're like 5 weeks pregnant. 

P.s. this post is just to share some happiness.",0.9272693032015092,3.5042615762711904,2.5666666666666664,88.33704331450096,94.25423728813558,6.012052730696799,25.199623352165734,7.3871296695380915,1.7295634651600749,239,11,46,5,9,78,48,59,0.03,0.723,0.247,0.9467,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,3,3,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,6,3,5,3,1,7,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,2,6,31,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248246659499853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392607745332644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801831493605052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4998337657494739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35322040875261923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223583655031845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4436360053926688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958391267877001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsbiggern,2020/04/11,"How to help 4yo with injury/anxiety? I am looking for some advice on a challenge with my (newly) 4 year old daughter. On Tuesday afternoon we were playing outside, she was rolling down the little hill in our backyard, and our dog got excited and tried to play with her. I’m not exactly sure how it happened, but our dog took off running and my daughter got a rope burn from the leash on the back of her knee. I cleaned and treated the burn right away, gave her some Tylenol, and we took it easy for the rest of the evening. So now here we are, four days later, and she is still hobbling around as if she has a cast from her hip to her toes, and talking non-stop about her “owwie on [her] knee.”

I have had rope burns before and I am sure it hurt really badly. However, it was not a severe one and it’s healing really well. There are no signs of infection or any other injury. I’ve watched her walk normally when she is very distracted, and today she got on her little brother’s tricycle and pedaled like it was nothing. She says it feels better and doesn’t hurt, yet she continues to hobble around to the point that I’m afraid she’s going to hurt herself from that. I am 99% sure that it’s in her head, and I’ll be honest, I am struggling to stay patient. I’ve tried coddling, I’ve tried reasoning with her, I’ve tried ignoring it, and I’m getting nowhere. 
To be fair, we’ve had a lot of changes in our family in the last couple months (new baby, old dog passed away, got a new puppy), plus all of the changes in our routine due to COVID-19, so I’m pretty sure this is a physical manifestation of stress/anxiety. I am just struggling with how to help her through it, especially since we can’t go out and do many of the things I think would help. I also want to help her learn to react appropriately to injury and illness (without being dismissive of it, of course). 

Any suggestions? Thank you!",5.1502906178489685,5.27791267894737,5.7276887871853575,83.42490846681923,68.26315789473685,8.924485125858125,30.99542334096109,8.716276077567194,2.2345137299771167,1478,55,308,22,23,479,198,380,0.14,0.742,0.11800000000000001,-0.9246,1,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,9,1,0,2,19,23,0,4,17,0,25,9,5,5,6,58,45,28,0,4,7,3,1,1,0,1,4,1,2,0,17,29,0,1,4,2,0,7,6,9,1,2,13,4,43,14,54,28,5,48,0,3,2,0,43,21,0,5,20,201,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841036892434638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235220779778788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230511556683713,0.0,0.1384250742388577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610824899277606,0.0,0.0,0.17000703170185014,0.06956909703121678,0.0755422016381892,0.0,0.0,0.07698690466251568,0.0,0.0,0.08001710274693652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914194744745366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010801292396516,0.0,0.05834839259904589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975737460330172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529105057517533,0.0,0.0457464883467736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04726905017497865,0.0,0.10283717800622832,0.0,0.2894420218531434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000606141570837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285266019723336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24257187283968185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29056359833962303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374857161480425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04420113798705763,0.1813578906634446,0.0,0.0,0.07597556537474895,0.0,0.0,0.07691795363253097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172666714872037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722156659680746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476114722015493,0.0,0.0,0.0886455343757808,0.08681246229372436,0.0,0.18987496669343396,0.0,0.06130767868386978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552738973288887,0.0,0.0,0.09204481639796976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592021493019106,0.09302257530004876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726449674685207,0.0,0.07194873782686588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221012567441874,0.0,0.07484121670226625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643348954024357,0.07225283570426515,0.075640506145454,0.10363792300002904,0.18916661525765774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34108355835303805,0.0,0.0,0.07271975771897674,0.0,0.08329651395363173,0.0,0.0,0.060107057197776176,0.057972232396532465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575898968934496,0.0,0.2010403935557428,0.24570424891169046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465071369253233,0.053364044041638456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813471968875667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721392763790853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427029605291022,0.0,0.0,0.058262436802677564
parenting,motherjeep,2020/04/11,"Need ideas on how to reconnect w 4.5yo I’m sure it’s the quarantine, but also just... us. I’m not jiving or enjoying my 4.5yo. She’s eager to please, sensitive, innocent... but so bored. Has a tough time listening to simple directions (flips out about going to the bathroom, putting on pjs, etc). Nothing drastically wrong at all. Outside of “quality time” what are you guys doing? I hate hearing that bc it’s so vague and I need something purposeful (and fulfilling). I have a 17 month old who sucks my time out of my day and it depresses me how I can’t just be there for my oldest.

This sucks 😞 would love ideas",1.213750000000001,3.7751962083333375,2.9683333333333337,88.03000000000002,86.91666666666666,7.2,23.0,8.238735603445708,1.7270999999999996,475,18,96,12,15,157,87,120,0.2,0.6759999999999999,0.12300000000000001,-0.8907,0,1,1,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,0,0,9,11,3,0,4,0,7,1,0,2,2,20,18,11,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,7,0,0,0,2,12,4,13,16,2,14,0,1,0,1,8,5,2,1,7,60,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315748446545202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235137572864182,0.0,0.16495482873924164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21359404489308997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884452577438412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963368453040716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908512683789155,0.0,0.0,0.21585556349374865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4324027402271278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728531597444345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286844832129398,0.0,0.0,0.28401747001634725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376741705406874,0.0,0.2009667233859929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21023008824273046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925292532546493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744049944726587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180504166285696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33502839014309144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303734891333128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604943330581487,0.20939570070132288,0.0,0.0
parenting,Good_Fundies31,2020/04/11,"Hopefully the right place to post this. First time dad with a question Hi parenting folks,

I feel like I should put this disclaimer here first: I’m not trying to bash my wife, or turn this into one of those threads. Just looking for anyone else that maybe dealt with something similar. 

I’m a proud first time dad of an almost 5 month girl. I’ve always wanted a daddy’s girl and now I happily have one (even more so since she’s a spitting image of me already.)

My question is this: Does anyone have any experience dealing with a spouse that maybe doesn’t have “mothering instincts” come naturally to her? Or “fathering instincts”, if it’s the opposite with your experience. If so, how did you guys work on it? I know that it does happen, but no one in my immediate family really went through it. 

It sounds so weird when I put it in words, but it’s almost like my wife seems to have trouble even just talking to the baby or engaging her in just simple playtime. Almost like she doesn’t know what to do. 

Now I’ll be the first to admit I don’t know everything, especially child rearing. But it’s almost some of the common sense things that in general most people seem to pick up on or just unconsciously know are just a very big struggle for her. 

I don’t know if it’s partly because I had a younger brother growing up, and she was the youngest in her family so I saw more of what happened with a baby...combined with the fact she read hardly anything to prepare for the baby, thinking she was prepared. 

Not to say my wife is a bad mom. I give her lots of credit, as she handles things almost every afternoon and evening due to my work schedule. But it’s just causing some conflict between us, and I’d like to figure out if anyone else went through something similar.",3.917366848116124,5.51808860518732,4.7928274095421095,83.59094673924645,72.1700288184438,7.561490020279646,28.41381150603053,8.167268648758528,1.9282964884192548,1394,54,269,21,27,452,176,347,0.059000000000000004,0.85,0.091,0.7833,1,0,2,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,0,7,18,12,0,1,18,0,18,1,1,3,1,65,41,23,0,7,20,11,2,4,0,1,0,2,0,4,23,13,0,1,13,1,1,6,7,4,0,7,7,6,31,8,42,32,7,35,0,0,2,0,37,14,0,22,18,183,54,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238853034302322,0.0,0.0934269496526495,0.0,0.07044581299663429,0.0,0.0,0.0575732649392764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775935390146176,0.17349305576110352,0.06966985647610857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068948138501091,0.05160935025180592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697149999785853,0.0,0.07292907208157805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728311037268342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481770927154026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144897050243452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775594547280442,0.0,0.07133163641155386,0.0,0.07608901320356908,0.16563194315685253,0.15962415712527822,0.0,0.042807801021039815,0.060482761667689414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880548252401154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121578949177619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382898430491728,0.14973317871304034,0.0,0.0758407884594625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408876350272526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326409207371511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544688680891387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109500647064719,0.0,0.0,0.07197685708872949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010931281124564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915545864491307,0.06757663748809352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210808993250548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940074613607508,0.09168101702866267,0.0,0.058694176543696665,0.0,0.08845408058393564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108307740332782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17021798410222336,0.18968229632678624,0.0,0.08468520750428846,0.0,0.05423683515805608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230113878158025,0.0,0.06732685641923504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414675041604728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003352669340117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035434442652688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850741464994359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804834712415103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249173597667557,0.05424818120167831,0.0,0.0,0.09873453206570153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057480142069623465,0.09208826740217492,0.0,0.0,0.10183831871773233,0.0,0.0,0.06985526131764642,0.04993601610895185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696559444345806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327032061871601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lillian_1979,2020/04/11,"What can I do about my step daughter? I’m at my wits end with her? My step daughter is 22 years old. I met my husband when she was 6 years old. Her actual mother is pretty much a deadbeat and was never really in her life. I married my husband when she was 8 years old. I am a nurse practitioner and currently being overworked. My husband and step daughter sit at home all day in quarantine (my husband works from home). 

She was always a very destructive child. Destroying our property out of anger. She can never keep her room cleaned. It always looks like a hoarder room. No matter how many times anyone has cleaned it over the years, you still leave that room with 9 bags of garbage. 

She does see a therapist and they said she’s emotionally 13-15 years old but has a high IQ. She has aspergers. And possibly bipolar. They won’t give her medication though for whatever reason.
She also has PCOS and irregular hormones.

She can never keep a job for more than 3 months. She has a very bad attitude and is very lazy. She is extremely mouthy and always has been. She acts like a child. She plays with bratz dolls, loves to draw/color, make things out of clay etc.  she refuses to go to college or look into taking classes because she doesn’t know what she wants to do, yet disregards any suggestions anyone tells her. 

She sleeps until 4pm everyday. It’s a war trying to get her to do weekly chores. Which is, clean her bathroom, clean the downstairs floor and dust the blinds and vacuum. Also take care of her cats. 
She will lie and say she’s sick the night before or come up with some excuse to get herself out of it. Or when she does do it, she takes 6 hours (I’m not exaggerating) to clean the floor and dust the blinds. She half assed cleaned the bathroom this week. She literally has nothing to do. No job, no nothing. Sits in this House day in and day out (quarantined). So does my husband. 

I am a nurse practitioner and I have to work a lot and I’m only ever home on the weekend and guess what I’m doing the 22 year olds chores today because she’s “sick”. If I say anything to her, my husband defends her. It’s bullshit. She’s not disabled. She’s lazy!! She doesn’t want to do anything with herself or her life. We have been stuck in limbo with her for the last 3 years. She barely passed high school. She didn’t care about her grades. 

She hates driving and her car battery has died because she leaves it sit outside for months without driving it. I don’t have time to deal or worry about her and her life. She’s an adult. I get she has the mentality of a 13 year old but she’s still a legal adult. She is fully capable of cleaning around the house. She had nothing else to do. But it’s always excuses. She can also look into a potential career. But she won’t. She just screams and yells and swears and stomps upstairs when you say anything to her. 

When I open my mouth and say anything to her, she runs upstairs and hides. My husband says I’m derogatory. This is ridiculous. She is 22 years old. She never listens or cares. She’s lazy. She uses Aspergers as an excuse and my husband coddles her. I don’t care if you are mentally 13 or whatever, you are a legal adult. Your not a kid anymore. 

No job, no college, won’t do chores...literally does nothing. It’s a fight with everything.",1.5336476139232644,4.0055023583460985,2.795743760605937,90.73558493025952,83.6094946401225,5.73493646786143,22.606866437647447,7.113659591113569,0.8257715905798602,2572,90,525,36,74,827,271,653,0.128,0.792,0.08,-0.9895,4,2,0,0,1,0,90.0,2,5,2,2,20,17,7,0,32,0,54,13,3,4,6,80,90,50,2,4,18,12,0,2,0,4,9,9,16,6,19,41,0,4,2,2,0,11,21,9,0,1,11,15,98,8,59,74,6,86,0,0,6,2,111,25,1,12,49,334,117,13,0.0,0.0,0.05542022576057469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624821474910706,0.18902001668369434,0.0,0.0,0.0386201075565581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563218203031213,0.0794197513415102,0.0,0.1869379722268776,0.0505563970748414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047418456762628486,0.10385855273716256,0.0,0.0483253086468504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316105175493371,0.0,0.0,0.048920772701724805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987728732920678,0.05854945197253099,0.0,0.0,0.0589405193507936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987941890779576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04744193733263282,0.06388269447915505,0.050300334364583865,0.0,0.06333743640692202,0.0,0.05137108343864573,0.0,0.0,0.0510404590897106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890135062253583,0.054479497189735,0.03227586814476617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256214293482279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606976169482701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000648948708233,0.17089924989115138,0.0,0.05592810096861802,0.13105932875714965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907013977419766,0.10095763261957193,0.0,0.0,0.0312110747597925,0.04629258055214437,0.0,0.12026781035177815,0.0,0.0,0.12034036125231845,0.05549083042447873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430714481553127,0.0,0.0,0.04828202752235091,0.051256466529900124,0.0,0.03790870843977855,0.05757757790809171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057211372735710676,0.11446477143717508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066072632334923,0.0,0.0417482222544955,0.0,0.17520415176550655,0.0,0.0,0.053294892918007236,0.0,0.2179715655865261,0.0,0.4171512341609164,0.0,0.0,0.04319242787352532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402378385754688,0.0,0.05777728278950159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03638203269417994,0.05839103003563785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402163782504947,0.2258140509399849,0.0,0.0574759407976243,0.04525540248017525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568324259844604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070738981713702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810022192462725,0.0,0.04963819718862746,0.0,0.0,0.06593920642052645,0.0377296905710082,0.0,0.05579727385187208,0.0,0.06623105797362049,0.0,0.0538316180413667,0.0,0.0,0.03855764079797206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049049545698912116,0.0,0.14057658750069582,0.06699409231377791,0.0,0.09110929005162828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474489447109935,0.0,0.08268964850000128,0.05767443551125285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32914626559081434
parenting,MrRobertKnott,2020/04/11,"Our daughter is affecting our relationship, and pushing me to the limits. I've been reluctant to post anything here because there's already so much great advice on similar situations, and kids will be kids. But man... I'm finding it hard at the moment.

My daughter is 4, and the last few weeks her attitude has been absolutely awful. Waking up at 4:30-5am asking for her tablet, when we say no she screams the house down and wakes up our 1 year old twins, meaning we all have to get up anyway. Every meal takes 1-2 hours to eat, constant fighting and asking her to just have one mouthful. Pulling the twins about, slamming doors and screaming when being sent for a time out, refusing to stay in her room when she's been naughty. Bed times are at around 9, generally aren't too bad if she's allowed TV/Tablet time, but if she's been naughty and we say no, she'll stay up until midnight or later playing with her toys and refusing to sleep, constantly coming downstairs to annoy and backchat.

What makes it all worse is that my partner is a more lenient parent - and, in all honest, a far more patient one than I am. But, if she plays up for me all morning then behaves for her at night, we end up getting into a row over whether or not she deserves TV/Tablet time based on her behaviour. We're a strong couple, and I love her to pieces, but she's playing us off on eachother to get what she wants and is succeeding day in, day out. The isolation isn't helping with the behaviour, of course, but these issues have been occurring since before the lockdown even started - it's only made it 10x worse with the additional boredom.

In terms of solutions, we've tried secluded time outs, bedroom to calm down, talking about her anger and emotions, had a go at her when she hurts the other kids, days with no tablet and TV, star charts for good and bad behaviour... It honestly seems like no matter what we do, she just doesn't care, and I feel I'm close to a breaking point with her. We're all exhausted every day because she won't let us sleep, and then we're stressed throughout the rest of the day because of the constant battles. Can anyone suggest advice, or things that we haven't already tried? Maybe some ways that I can try to get her to listen without bribery or rewards, just develop an understanding of respect.

Thanks, Reddit.",8.066406060606063,6.8078305133333386,7.4912727272727295,77.78563636363639,62.75555555555553,10.315151515151516,37.343434343434346,9.095868883498916,3.195088888888889,1841,76,354,24,22,576,237,450,0.14300000000000002,0.7340000000000001,0.124,-0.6676,2,2,0,0,2,0,63.0,11,0,0,4,17,27,4,1,21,1,30,9,5,4,5,75,54,38,0,4,18,3,2,1,1,3,1,5,4,5,14,36,2,3,5,5,0,5,11,11,0,2,8,7,43,16,61,40,13,72,0,1,0,1,57,31,0,9,32,232,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17479013912576832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19738799574319196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253519077982943,0.0,0.07359757213878447,0.07961631414888534,0.16721973032812368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493493590724042,0.16355665435433822,0.0,0.0761027916778533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118517533051378,0.0,0.0,0.07704052964970813,0.0,0.28994312655165083,0.0,0.0,0.09895837852207813,0.0,0.28839161583182993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151456561158987,0.0,0.10060259366980667,0.07921306608610311,0.0,0.0,0.05907112450599347,0.0,0.15070607353345625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045221138424895516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174217799192719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690486097840986,0.0,0.0508281010183075,0.07501402588832018,0.0,0.09860265443002043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011639727751814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05994654800887603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807568406974023,0.1031962451262554,0.09574226114836157,0.0,0.0,0.09334714186549592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290164745217198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145357989063474,0.0,0.04369353477580347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071878491193209,0.08462577503755014,0.05969870906053641,0.0,0.0898497072790582,0.09742118195552632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574518301315932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839289028213366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384722699564084,0.0,0.12120724997541032,0.06801952087964235,0.0,0.0,0.09930723657302844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454519833113554,0.0,0.08565422609234838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601996450276076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224496569449524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141847247521351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739817446691398,0.10052894328369004,0.17899963378813494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330271458723938,0.19065210628796286,0.0,0.0,0.10244775132304804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06724416098583337,0.07188464839327148,0.0,0.08233994179520629,0.0,0.0,0.05941679136657602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607520028689341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18216194706676608,0.0,0.0,0.09310522628635423,0.21515913444980492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275121456813089,0.07098952099387337,0.07173954512516166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621236813624926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228427567277192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057593354481195465
parenting,festivemanb,2020/04/11,"Help With 4 Month Sleep Regression! I admit it. We were arrogant. Our daughter never had any trouble sleeping. We'd hear other parents complain about struggles getting their kids to sleep and we'd scoff. We just sing her a song, swaddle her, and she's out. What, it's a struggle to get YOUR kid back to sleep after a night feeding? Ours just passes right out. We got the Magic Merlin a few weeks ago, and even had a couple of nights when my wife had to wake her for feedings because her boobs were so full.

Not anymore. Our darling daughter, the apple of my eye,  a week shy of 4 months old, will now just will NOT go back to sleep when she wakes up for a feed. We thought it was teething and so we got all the cold spoons and kid's tylenol we could and sat up with her as she chewed and cooed. But no. We thought it was reflux and so I'd sit burping her for half an hour. She'd fall asleep. Then she'd still jolt awake scream bloody murder when I set her down in her crib.

The only thing that seems to work is to just hold her. While she's in my arms she sleeps so peacefully it's like a picture of a kid on the cover of Blanket Magazine. But as soon as I start to even think about setting her down, she twitches, and starts awake.

What to do?",1.1849105545617178,3.2555783139534924,1.9551937984496133,98.7188908765653,81.75193798449612,4.58938580799046,20.775790101371502,5.369823440869387,-0.3093111508646396,967,28,221,4,26,299,146,258,0.11,0.8370000000000001,0.053,-0.9305,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,12,1,1,1,20,7,1,2,15,0,16,20,13,0,2,37,30,23,1,1,8,4,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,4,10,20,4,1,5,2,0,3,4,6,0,1,12,5,38,1,34,11,3,40,0,0,1,1,44,11,1,1,24,148,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157793119934544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792575097800741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364339514439875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762266791099432,0.0,0.06985355755142167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149152044404696,0.12679266673512765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513724358667953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973804594991265,0.0,0.06512465714821544,0.0,0.1832976439350622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915228823913513,0.0,0.07680787414998896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284896766201025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598333234686291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293074851260785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837957714642275,0.0,0.0,0.21507162028723936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202438879272805,0.0,0.0,0.08715155372570504,0.0,0.0,0.12723964902457716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786001440186153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431926432919206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6880420208445107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221607738445373,0.0,0.09151245190609224,0.0,0.0,0.2395906072373402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612911143781621,0.07342523068286039,0.0,0.1819447714989835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18383583831165745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834235501290812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crinkledcereal,2020/04/11,"Discipline without hitting and screaming? Okay so I want to say, before freaking out just try to throw out some advice because I am more than willing to listen. I know this may seem like a very stupid question but I’ve never seen it in action so I have no idea what I’m doing. I (21F) am a first time mom. I’m 35 weeks pregnant today and my little one really likes to spice things up so I don’t think that I’ll be waiting another 5 weeks for her to come lol. I will be raising her on my own because her father just kinda ran away from the situation and started cheating when he found out I was pregnant and is very difficult to get in touch with because he just wants to keep on with his life without responsibilities (even more reason I want to do better for this child than was done for me). I’ll be moving into my mothers house once my daughter is born (although she stays with her boyfriend at his) so she will be around the baby a good amount.

I know this isn’t something I will really be having to deal with for a while until she’s a bit more grown but when I was little there was A LOT of hitting in my house, constant screaming, and being told I was stupid, etc. To the point where I’ve grown up to really really resent my mother for even having us when she was so unhappy. I have absolutely no desire to pass this behavior on to my children. 

My entire family is also very pro hitting and screaming to discipline so whenever I’ve been around young children it just looks a lot like my childhood and I have never really been exposed to anything else. How do y’all disciple without hitting and screaming? It’s new to me it’s so beyond me and I’ll be raising her alone so I don’t have her dad to talk to about this stuff.... but I just know I don’t want her to have that same hate filled relationship with me that I had with my mother. 

Also I know this is going to be a big issue when the day comes that I bring it up to my mother that she won’t be hitting my child either. So living in her house does anyone have any advice about this situation either?

I just don’t even know where to start with this and would love any help I can get. 

TLDR: never been around children raised without physical discipline? How do you discipline without hitting? Screaming? How do I get my mother to also accept that these things are not acceptable while living in her house?",3.8050149432157814,5.010925849372388,4.8936078900179325,84.30270711297074,71.88702928870293,7.387543335325764,25.79103407053198,7.760100539840176,1.3684533652121935,1868,58,372,23,35,614,205,478,0.085,0.797,0.11800000000000001,0.9109,0,1,1,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,0,2,37,21,5,0,12,2,53,2,0,4,3,80,91,36,0,6,17,9,1,3,0,7,1,7,0,5,24,26,0,6,13,0,0,12,17,12,0,2,15,11,60,9,68,54,13,63,0,0,2,1,44,27,0,7,26,283,84,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670041627264147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777421143238865,0.0,0.18008236700034685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209015061811727,0.07870957808413809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248544663317088,0.0,0.06177004334121348,0.2004646226523827,0.0,0.0,0.07052369146111996,0.0,0.0,0.13727221339801932,0.0,0.0638726605201569,0.0,0.0,0.06638668305948987,0.08194881108003524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931939783336194,0.0,0.08111589813411026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04840910397311085,0.07738614349701495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568770126822474,0.07681500060907012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270508854501253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371453151805215,0.14873422376224996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076224641939895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384812578819253,0.0,0.0823021589831824,0.0,0.0,0.11765117748941137,0.0,0.04265974965766425,0.06295886529494116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410868040908405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05031281278792416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.346448196529031,0.0,0.08473642802952289,0.0,0.07834575015513978,0.0,0.06671900062089837,0.0,0.0,0.20626194000846726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301886496861753,0.11001524065533287,0.15046469310303365,0.13256312880982205,0.0,0.06303359663933987,0.0,0.0,0.1276309097453011,0.06774683861932189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879122950413215,0.0,0.07977956034593801,0.0,0.0,0.1736784868134971,0.07249583209922865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993911477067614,0.05086429393439802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095832665998571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408718101195176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404348040785932,0.07717675361669225,0.0,0.08058903570586275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969271431569475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833408259834475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874679430919834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778678120072811,0.0,0.0,0.10625925040833344,0.0800066396639671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592860615314997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603323957269551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973638181945213,0.04809702033990521,0.0,0.0,0.043769548506707834,0.0,0.07115047499300481,0.07172543731823955,0.0,0.050962511572236635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902909476087096,0.0,0.0,0.1858032757975832,0.1770952337411663,0.0,0.12042122268120142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617878662004407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332224771619196,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eatmmm,2020/04/11,"My daughter won’t try with schoolwork and seems to also hates me I’m currently a work from home teacher and I have an a 8 year old daughter and 4 year old daughter. My 8yo will not do her school work with me and every time we try and do it together it always ends up with her in her room crying yelling how she wishes her daddy was here. Today her breakdown was her trying to spell “my” and me not helping her (I wouldn’t give her the answer I told her to try). She is a bright girl whose sight words are words like ‘necessary, hierarchy, denial’ and her spelling words are ‘cling, strand, crime’ She is at the top of her class academically (when at school) but at home she refuses to try with me. She never wants to work and it always ends with me yelling at her to go to her room because I can’t handle the whining, lazy, ‘give me the answer’ attitude. 
Her dad works all the time - 14 hour days 6 days a week so he is not able to help her even if she wanted him to. She told me a few nights ago that she wouldn’t care if I didn’t live with her and that she would be fine if I moved away from our family (my husband and I were joking and she heard us and chimed in).

Any advice? I’m at my wits end because not only do I already not think I’m worthy enough to be a parent - I don’t understand my daughter. 

TLDR: My daughter doesn’t like me and doesn’t like the way I help her complete homework: it always ends in a crying screaming meltdown.",2.873899124131679,3.837048345514952,4.0156765327695565,90.64097780126852,73.85049833887044,6.668740561763817,23.316369676834803,6.782984794422108,0.5248259136212625,1116,29,250,9,22,364,146,301,0.091,0.8370000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.7735,2,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,3,0,0,5,6,10,1,0,14,0,24,0,0,1,2,47,41,21,0,9,9,8,0,3,0,5,0,4,5,1,7,20,0,1,5,1,0,2,14,3,0,0,7,6,56,7,29,27,3,36,0,1,2,0,51,13,0,4,23,162,63,9,0.09822750530031464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598678133704308,0.08707275674020097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839649468055006,0.07855250050004142,0.245199459753746,0.0,0.0,0.06679807196889674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228797468139216,0.0,0.0,0.1197571510326598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001494881737252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298967045088507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579660432817116,0.1266972295198793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480016569114381,0.10149527084250576,0.0,0.06487834084519176,0.0,0.08276090973307995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260014997303737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884575473426544,0.05582495491591677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096979325380826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19751947876756096,0.0,0.1970603935949092,0.0,0.0967343062966451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396699228037527,0.0,0.08673668679149925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440029290522336,0.0,0.0,0.07575910762122197,0.0,0.0,0.09217985961064908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20614648633551916,0.0,0.0,0.07470644408180042,0.0,0.0,0.10907002019447458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988229589602894,0.0,0.0894226316583124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294021914361493,0.0,0.0,0.11455449653057255,0.0,0.09310818958397127,0.18772118152342532,0.0,0.3334501413806196,0.0,0.0,0.10225829719666013,0.1181555944425483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587425522606383,0.07796842159336427,0.0787921797601299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112956783420155,0.0,0.0,0.2860431749702836,0.0,0.0,0.06977800148053531,0.0,0.0,0.1265105857962745
parenting,sportstvandnova,2020/04/11,Moving to a 2nd floor apt - any soundproof flooring recommendations? I’ve got 2 kids under 9 and they *love* being kids. We’re moving from a townhome into a 2nd floor apartment next week. I want to do everything I can to curb the noise they make from being kids. Does anyone have any flooring or mat recommendations or anything I can do to let them still be kids but *not* annoy my neighbors??,1.3842909090909108,4.084714386666668,2.802424242424241,87.11454545454548,91.8,4.327272727272727,20.151515151515152,6.1124844417494595,0.2831333333333337,309,10,57,3,11,100,52,75,0.064,0.919,0.017,-0.6416,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,4,0,9,1,0,1,0,9,13,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,8,8,0,12,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,2,3,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533712260986581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18167126325904248,0.0,0.2138086369693163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273690791542005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23350827781558955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20780073456272652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656822051888956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344965041414021,0.0,0.17343098749224406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5522922806238466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763201154588707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20749153474617685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324779007681927,0.0,0.20841087435717826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ashknuckable,2020/04/11,Potty training 19 mo old since were stuck home Anyone else potty training right now? We just started yesterday and its going very well. I wasn't planning on trying until he turns 2( that was when i got my older one trained).But really since were here and hes interested why not! Its nice to have something to celebrate 😁,2.848126463700236,5.67281236065574,3.6708665105386413,84.2654098360656,81.13114754098359,6.108665105386418,23.46838407494145,7.447530270364453,1.3521925058548012,258,9,45,4,7,82,51,61,0.067,0.792,0.141,0.6959,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,11,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,6,0,5,3,4,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824728658312766,0.26738958462854023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218002854943432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831248041164924,0.0,0.2087176302805711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617692733382201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738389736509195,0.0,0.17683670575508062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671809256094802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228627697191264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317460553212223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009036837689335,0.0,0.0,0.1847124411325644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17717817286646584,0.28385509105027795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153235381773854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346389657677909,0.0,0.2354804124452708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peace-monger,2020/04/11,"If your preschool has been closed due to the pandemic, are you still paying tuition? We spend a thousand dollars per month for preschool (2 kids, 4 days / week), preschool has been closed for the past month and will most likely stay closed in May. The teacher / administrator is working under the assumption that everyone will just continue to pay the full amount. So we would be paying 2k with nothing in return, as a donation, or for the privilege of coming back in the fall (which we were planning to do).

I get that she likely still has to pay rent and her 2 employees, but something like 54% of the country is experiencing unemployment or other severe reduction in pay (our family will probably take home about 30% less this year).

What is your experience with this? What is proper etiquette? In addition to preschool, our kids are in so many other activities (we have 2 older kids and 2 preschoolers) every other institution has either reduced fees or offered lessons via zoom. 

Since these are unprecedented times, I was just wondering what other parents are doing about paying for cancelled classes. Thanks!",8.167769230769228,9.184530251282057,7.4490384615384615,70.59971153846155,61.87179487179486,10.3974358974359,36.25,10.317481424215053,3.9401538461538466,889,39,142,19,12,276,124,195,0.07200000000000001,0.884,0.044000000000000004,-0.5764,5,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,6,3,0,3,9,5,0,0,10,0,25,0,0,0,0,27,30,11,0,2,8,1,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,3,13,14,0,0,2,0,12,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,13,5,23,20,5,28,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,7,17,104,26,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607212573298387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363888561069556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251235252084552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005454557432255,0.18152065087436667,0.0,0.1858231966080909,0.17908303535871542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924939283515437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19055138379492387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784233716310545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19259570453822653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30325809272603865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18227749745937785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21093475862350392,0.0,0.18134403916408728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048154744639612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460750485231145,0.0,0.15714183570957468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624510533062082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247847694030185,0.3034141810643953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428307881264634,0.0,0.0,0.1748951672305661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077070047217907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237926415974656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601002025665216,0.13829750824441964,0.0,0.0,0.13494639382374346,0.0,0.0,0.1223318737388806
parenting,bigyellowsunshine,2020/04/11,"17 month old doesn’t want mom So, I’ve always been a stay at home mom with my (almost) 3 year old and 17 month old. We have a pretty steady schedule (with the exception of crazy coronavirus stuff now) and are a pretty happy family! We normally do gymnastics classes, music classes, a family hiking club, and lots of play dates and my 17 month old is an adventurous and silly little girl. 

However, since I’ve gotten pregnant with my third baby, she has now been rejecting me and not wanting anything to do with me. During the day, while my husband is at work, she does okay and plays and interacts with me. But she absolutely WILL NOT let me change her diaper or put her to bed- only daddy can do that. When I became pregnant with #3 I started weaning her and my husband started doing her nighttime routine every night to try to distance her from me to not feel tempted to breastfeed. Apparently it really worked, because she LOVED having daddy rock her to sleep. My 3 year old also went through a big daddy phase, but it was never this intense and did not last this long. Is there anything I can do to help her feel more comfortable with me again? Do I just ignore her and let her have daddy (especially since he’s home so much now during quarantine)? It’s been about 3 months it’s started and it’s making my pregnant self feel very emotional because I miss my baby. Meanwhile, my 3 year old is super attached to me, so it’s hard to even try to get the 17 month old to want me because I always have the 3 year old attached to me.",4.5380920845159265,5.5833275364238455,5.569564806054873,80.74561810154528,69.99337748344371,8.136486912645854,28.288237149164306,8.418075326091056,2.017839608956165,1204,42,228,18,21,398,150,302,0.037000000000000005,0.8390000000000001,0.124,0.971,2,2,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,0,3,13,12,0,0,10,1,27,2,1,1,1,42,42,21,0,4,9,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,10,21,0,1,3,4,0,2,6,3,0,1,7,4,39,9,28,32,3,40,0,2,0,1,25,4,0,3,33,151,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810098891998613,0.0,0.0,0.06237278317729995,0.1297966128050748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836691068703607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263556413370918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250864583622296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050300491872972725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825417974337834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773417234568533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151513523669402,0.0,0.06571437249581592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470539840154591,0.0,0.11831024452290845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04074930547801472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302740716068803,0.0698684352963231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05227858032966493,0.0,0.15647121510183087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357654876022184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951088032759006,0.0,0.0,0.07817174303414523,0.0,0.06902335287275059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630878297137671,0.07039376947120576,0.0,0.05206244330760198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18269421738178088,0.3112753717218808,0.0,0.057335492127637784,0.0,0.0601547546326895,0.0,0.0,0.07319327023594789,0.07641879720808621,0.0,0.0,0.6547432615444638,0.0,0.0,0.059318911670530015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869844336555222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840678116679639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04996576228823715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136606883735291,0.0,0.0,0.12903697410705678,0.0,0.07805158966441272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656163445380462,0.08313257213842666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928591526633539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590732687758264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435425982007667,0.1380108796863045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723023896632058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356295991977088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009055672899953
parenting,Acahni,2020/04/11,"Neighbor kid keeps coming to our house (we don't have kids) I'm not sure this is the right place to post this, but me and my bf really need some help.

We live in deep countryside, just us and a rabbit. But recently a couple of about our age (20's..) moved to the empty house next, and they have a 6yo daughter (let's call her Mary) and a baby.
We like to be welcoming and to share with neighbours, everyone here leaves the doors open etc, there are only us, this family and three old farmers and their cows... But now the kid seems to have fallen in love with my boyfriend (me also a bit, but mostly him) and she keeps coming to us.
First she started sitting in our doorstep, then each time we were outside she came also. Then she started leaving us gifts: painted pebles, edible plants, tiny bells and even a 2€ coin!!!

Now she's nagging us all the time, she asks to garden with us, to go for walks etc. We are under confinement because of the COVID, and although none of us or her family seems sick, we never know and we'd like to maintain a healthy distance...
But is impossible with her, she comes and touches everything...
The problem is that her family seems a bit unstable, mother keeps changing partner, and the girl usually lives with the father and his ex that has a daughter the same age... They played together and now she's here with her mother and father that got back together, and she says she hates her mother and that she would like to choose her family....
This makes us sad, and we don't want to hurt her! She seems very lost, so in the begining we gave her some attention. 

But today we were in the sofa and she just walked in, climbed the stairs and came to us!! We could have been in a more private situation for example.....

She keeps telling us that we are the kind neighbours, the most gentle humans etc, so it kinda breaks our hearts to make her go away... 

What should we do?
Even if there was no virus, there are limits. We are welcoming, and we gladly take her for some gardening activities and all, but she even opens our fridge now... She doesn't seem to understand boundaries. Since the houses are attached because they used to be a huge farmhouse, maybe she thinks it's okay..

She finds all sorts of excuses, it's either to give us some herbs, or pebles she made with love, or to tell us that she cleaned our door (yes!!!!) or to see our bunny...

Her parents tell her ""you shouldn't"" instead of ""no""... And mostly they seem not to give her attention.

Any advices would be precious! <3",4.265608899297424,5.451974975409841,4.525173302107729,87.45308196721314,70.7622950819672,7.790257611241218,25.623185011709598,8.146662555663855,1.3681514519906322,1940,57,399,27,35,607,235,488,0.069,0.8059999999999999,0.125,0.9882,1,0,0,0,0,0,106.0,34,1,5,4,21,20,2,0,27,2,32,4,1,4,5,116,73,43,0,9,17,9,1,3,5,4,1,1,7,6,14,53,0,6,13,3,1,12,10,6,0,2,10,3,80,14,45,53,20,52,0,3,1,2,111,16,0,20,24,281,94,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496401334086368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124778329032753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0345450191973059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04749014883540754,0.0,0.04772727360355021,0.03906124699811087,0.0,0.061933121114097676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091856500616527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187139444004747,0.11620090210069685,0.0,0.0,0.05373853975238003,0.1312763587972826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040558817726662665,0.056208057689155336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699627288749266,0.10065665657371464,0.0,0.0,0.04854056133901,0.04565480913048235,0.0,0.1915548676303996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04642930820842396,0.04320954994601982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746193862991384,0.057740413230999786,0.0,0.04062855056953329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015343344913225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019698505002244,0.034049456742026904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584545905024096,0.054381312813413234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806097174561307,0.0,0.05289927583787378,0.027917767322802142,0.0,0.0,0.10757747920136533,0.0,0.051945354917327366,0.0,0.074453384139885,0.0,0.08971278427671478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05545304064606255,0.0,0.09169604811008823,0.0480671825502766,0.06781736994799466,0.0,0.05103436015747044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399123082915632,0.0,0.03766676818813991,0.039179271946119636,0.0,0.054025245906487336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053304939184723635,0.0,0.0,0.038634880751796635,0.0,0.0,0.05640620799988184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05307407726615729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048651339617943934,0.0,0.0,0.0486077222577253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032543099886940534,0.0,0.050157821956128834,0.0,0.0,0.04338201472212979,0.0,0.04039735370140648,0.0,0.0,0.040480175907588484,0.277472666763352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04202140571027664,0.057100133691649076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719114982791649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04787739703536854,0.0,0.03819447869295179,0.0,0.13320153023573922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032549907722055606,0.0,0.0,0.05924253747367105,0.0,0.04815145260633199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05288348504111444,0.7332583994677239,0.04387397148769261,0.05594785239510874,0.041914443201998566,0.029962529256246814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721722148452766,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weltonavesw,2020/04/11,"Stay at home spouse thinks I get ""my break from the kids"" when I'm at work. I work multiple jobs in order to provide for my family and my spouse stays home with the two kids. Once I get home, she is constantly complaining how tired and ""at the end of her rope"" she is from being with the kids all day. 

While I understand that I'm not taking care of the kids like she is, she acts as though I'm just hanging out for 9 hours a day. So when I get home, she needs her ""me time"" for 2-3 hours and looks at me like I'm an idiot when I ask for help. Multiple times she has said and inferred that i get my break from the kids all day at work. 

I hang out with the kids as much as I can, but I'm tired too. When I try to explain this to her, I get the ""seriously?!?!"" Response. 


Any advice?",3.388764705882352,2.8307221117647074,4.575294117647059,92.53882352941177,72.0,8.447058823529412,23.470588235294123,7.908726449838941,0.6603999999999997,589,11,153,7,10,195,84,170,0.076,0.89,0.033,-0.7869,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,3,9,6,1,0,10,0,6,2,0,2,2,20,25,16,0,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,2,1,4,6,3,9,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,3,0,1,1,2,26,3,26,23,3,30,0,0,1,0,22,8,0,0,16,91,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278438449298168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544676712535698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174664186785016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810923641162286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578374046985645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431028698984132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128920214641767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184522729069711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282364558544641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422099823895274,0.0,0.5041514841618713,0.0,0.24748120715253946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468890581571546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277314499783025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055149203033801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923677030068697,0.09316838272267626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338138671098204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195225647729595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267853800448254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447366949518388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051187840402912,0.1234511493285854,0.0,0.1465358370338606,0.2888339318076291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530855977919252,0.0,0.12274245082738827,0.13080678303510138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744255616860948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puppywiggles,2020/04/11,"Should I finally let my daughter (7y) quit Dance? Hey guys, I’ve never posted here before so bear with me, as I tend to ramble. This might get long. 

A little backstory, my daughter started dance with my best friend’s daughter (and her best friend) when she was 3. She loved it at first but by the end of the dance season she was done. She complained every week about going to dance. She was over it. We made her stick it out about a month longer for recital. After recital she was rejuvenated! She loved it again. She was so happy, she LOVED being on stage. So she did a small summer dance class (3 weeks once a week). 
By the time fall came, she begged and begged to go back to dance. We had a conversation about going to class each week (it’s only one class per week for 1 hour, I’m not some crazy dance mom forcing her into the studio 7 days a week) anyway, she said OF COURSE MOM. I want to go. about 2 months in she started complaining again. This time I wasn’t messing with it, I’d also started a new job and it was just too much stress even just being once a week. (She only had one other activity at this time which was 45 minutes once a week of swim lessons which she absolutely loves and looked forward to every week) so before dropping hundreds of dollars on recital costumes, we quit completely thinking we were done, but every time we passed the studio (it’s not far from our house) she got sad. Missed her dance teachers, missed her friends etc. so last summer it was ALL she talked about. I’d see her in her room squeezing her feet into too small ballet slippers and practicing. We talked about it for MONTHS. I constantly reminded her of last time and how much she dreaded going to dance each week. She insisted she was older now (she would’ve been 6 at this point and in 1st grade) she promised up and down it wouldn’t be like that anymore. She wanted to dance. So against my better judgement and with the agreement that if she starts this year, she finishes it. I allowed it. She had to play a bit of catch up after taking time off, so for part of the year it was 2 hours once a week instead of 1. But the last two-three months she’s complaining again. I’m talking full on tears, doesn’t want to go. She hates dance. She wants to quit. I have maintained for months, absolutely not. You wanted this, the guidelines were clearly communicated, you won’t quit. We spent hundreds of dollars on new dance stuff, dance tuition and now recital costumes. So no. She needed to finish it out. 

So here’s the real dilemma. Nobody could have predicted the current situation we are in. She has to have dance class over zoom which since she already dreaded real dance class, is not going well. I don’t think she’s even learning anything. She’s not doing well at all on the recital dance. I don’t think she’ll even know the whole thing by recital, IF IT EVEN HAPPENS. Because the recital is supposed to be June 6th, and is held in one of the high school auditoriums. At this time our governor has closed all schools and their facilities through May 31st, which if this has not passed will likely get extended. I can’t imagine the recital will even be allowed to happen. She’s struggling a ton and most of the zoom classes she’s just stood there and barely moved. She’s for some reason embarrassed and just doesn’t want to do it. Do I go back on everything I’ve said because of the covid-19 pandemic and allow her to abandon dance once and for all?? 

TLDR; My daughter quit dance in the past, she begged to go back this season and I allowed it making it clear she had to finish the season and not quit midway through. Now with covid-19 she has to do zoom dance class and hates it, should I go back on my no quit rule and let her quit?",2.994744983277592,5.0097257989130455,3.2713804347826105,91.77604431438131,75.65760869565217,5.887926421404682,23.823076923076925,6.67199483983844,0.5954331354515059,2932,92,608,25,65,901,287,736,0.084,0.823,0.092,0.8547,5,0,0,0,0,0,94.0,10,2,1,13,46,33,2,5,32,0,58,5,1,8,7,101,110,40,0,14,17,6,1,2,3,9,0,2,3,1,38,42,0,2,8,22,4,37,18,15,2,4,29,5,85,18,89,64,19,145,0,4,2,4,89,38,0,8,71,400,123,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05297198284105753,0.038387603961486716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04760560869368188,0.0,0.0,0.03950199011647496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764392275389518,0.0,0.058523790536690434,0.0,0.08169323083174097,0.0,0.10075138234552612,0.04245433475893053,0.0524063275698008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054902103530252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05032973687948384,0.05187367910173892,0.0,0.038326112270009635,0.0,0.0,0.030957659137942694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824650366829082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251599152929071,0.0,0.05353550714485324,0.15852608371405408,0.0,0.1213325994501276,0.0,0.043141576566480114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258442261695572,0.0,0.040830925435952334,0.0,0.0,0.11125990119460116,0.0,0.050158678856741225,0.0,0.2728094264139858,0.0,0.03839200641866994,0.0,0.0,0.04753004924909724,0.08489695321331985,0.05109958321041478,0.0,0.09478511597907292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05071730590806101,0.0,0.0,0.09454564058346697,0.055388471882572544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04763510170989333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026380933782454298,0.1173854003648388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817167343900296,0.0,0.04690322054681163,0.048111143349877,0.0,0.042480726355296115,0.04031003342022518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329662113268027,0.04542115224709571,0.03204205990421373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05092309598398621,0.0,0.11243996027834716,0.19157579771064154,0.05101909006075259,0.0705747620232449,0.035593265961450016,0.03702250853029925,0.09272228051550208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556056261890403,0.0975832650065903,0.07301617059998225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05198205955507503,0.04582384417264637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045377904349537285,0.0,0.0459731522957564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408452774619006,0.0,0.10927477094949913,0.0,0.04935459316011402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132279239023763,0.0,0.0,0.09716224128364304,0.03825179957166455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03970818685715685,0.05395685222501121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359057443501404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054986733157268056,0.050182664290915516,0.05495140957298733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03609192675057327,0.11574784009189674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031890746353550915,0.09227424424508296,0.0,0.0,0.19593461899882889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04689149440388545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987880680951808,0.0,0.4235520537098364,0.0,0.08632007432929976,0.0,0.0,0.053593107772022065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03409961833178577,0.0,0.0,0.061824107871403924
parenting,Silverrainn,2020/04/11,"Boys sharing room by choice. Good idea or bad idea? Im having a difficult time deciding what to do and could use some advice. 

My son's are 5 & 6. They're 15 months apart and very close. They do everything together, but they definitely argue like siblings. 

Our house is huge, but it's only a 3 bedroom and they're rooms are super tiny. The rest of our house is absolutely perfect but they're rooms are horrible. We bought the house before having children and there is no possible way to expand their bedrooms with our floor plan. The only good thing about their bedrooms is that one of them has a full attached bathroom. 

My husband is laid off and we have decided to redo their rooms while we have time. They want to share a room and turn the smaller of the two rooms without the attached bathroom into a game room. My husband is a huge gamer, so he is in full support of this idea, but I'm not. We already have 3 different game areas in our house. The bedroom would become the only dedicated game area if we did this. 

We had planned to give my youngest son a loft bed in order to save the floor space. They are adamant that they want to share a room, but I'm concerned they will later regret it and I won't want to redo their rooms for at least 4 to 5 years. 

For those with boys who share rooms how is it working out? Would you recommend it or not? 

Any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated!",3.5314467253176933,5.111581279569896,4.158776474421637,87.83392228739004,73.12186379928315,7.079895731508636,25.94346692733789,7.686295010490155,1.2758659498207885,1103,37,227,14,22,350,150,279,0.057999999999999996,0.728,0.214,0.9936,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,10,1,11,5,4,15,1,0,17,0,29,0,0,2,1,49,39,19,0,9,12,4,0,1,0,5,0,0,16,3,12,18,0,0,6,3,1,0,5,4,0,2,3,0,27,11,27,29,5,36,0,1,0,0,41,28,0,5,7,142,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109101774052252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320706774370754,0.0,0.0,0.12097127166625025,0.0,0.07592491438468672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322196383539537,0.0,0.12330716829020998,0.09500478257996532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891423665406773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664908186803105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034261248149544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710356396066058,0.0,0.1872911903188878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.515310233179885,0.0,0.5041509688801625,0.12059970702355048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454589352118832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911689168748743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565601850569449,0.2547415009314721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586708363898605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669757124699574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417440570742471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020645783780194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144167654411547,0.10906451330995448,0.0,0.0,0.09642859104791107,0.0,0.09212183364025286,0.1975598093203514,0.08862150597612699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076253197801131,0.0,0.08128155098569025,0.0,0.0,0.23793600468638,0.0,0.0,0.07189807364358686
parenting,Nuclearbadger8,2020/04/11,"How to deal with utterly stubborn child? I am writing this cause we are really desperate and don't know what to do. We have a daughter, nine years of age almost ten. She is always arguing, trying to get out of her obligations and for every little thing we tell her she does the opposite. For example  we tell her to pick up a pencil she just dropped, she said she will later (ofc later she wont do it), to bring homework from her room so we can check it she says that we need come to her room and see it there. There are numerous things like that where she just does more opposite as she is told. Very rare are the cases where she will do something when she is being told for the first time. Its not a bad behavior, but it gets to you. Always trying to explain she needs to do something and why, always explaining how to behave. We tried to explain her nicely, we tried to put some restrictions if she wont do it, hell even few times i lost my nerve and yelled at her. But after a day or two she goes back to her old self. By no means she is a bad kid, but that constant arguing and resisting to do almost everything she is told, its draining. Idk how to deal with it anymore? Can someone give some advice?

Thanks",3.9430252100840337,4.8256263469387815,4.720384153661462,86.88869147659065,71.24489795918367,8.213685474189676,25.43217286914766,8.4952907291091,1.479300120048019,945,27,200,15,17,305,137,245,0.066,0.8540000000000001,0.08,0.7609999999999999,0,0,2,0,0,0,26.0,8,1,0,2,13,10,4,0,8,0,24,0,0,5,0,45,43,17,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,4,0,3,3,3,15,18,0,2,5,0,1,3,5,7,0,4,5,4,36,3,29,33,4,25,1,1,1,0,53,8,1,6,14,146,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562523154854405,0.0,0.0,0.2369695838256714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953661318223983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734600734882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098415774897227,0.19759185856529335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155174992153908,0.0,0.10192599106475277,0.0,0.12786663790501773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630944748712812,0.24397451589671884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20709295479883424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815214843354336,0.0,0.09969340796473372,0.0,0.10634233863880284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064667184693052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363922779778312,0.11350754366922285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502799427319307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780732369566309,0.11859213096972915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916505707166845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888995658085076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754720825420365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124161550598137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189487006447596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580163874177286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255359779027302,0.09409630987939416,0.0,0.0,0.09428922508951908,0.0,0.12343815191426052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025587780490017,0.1821838036058882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068414770946616,0.10893720759514862,0.0,0.0,0.15721894367710515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799181514134906,0.0,0.0,0.3391920967325297,0.0,0.3213379948361678,0.0,0.1155857428968402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763001965696112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067693643270982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619703240528934
parenting,DoubletTIT,2020/04/11,"One of many toddler rants 2 Going on twelve - my daughter scolding me https://youtu.be/_Vi-5lNFwfc

Each week she’s acting older and wants to be more independent. This quarantine life isn’t easy with twins.",7.786666666666669,10.987808647058827,5.835882352941179,73.40813725490199,65.47058823529412,8.062745098039215,28.98039215686275,8.841846274778883,2.6116980392156868,170,6,25,3,3,49,34,34,0.067,0.848,0.085,0.1531,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128387528565205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38880574142494223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5580794166240716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730055241077991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246752061663054,0.0,0.4415453140648725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pigsfly34,2020/04/11,"Daughter with ADHD becoming very aggressive As the title states I have a daughter age 7 that has been formally diagnosed with ADHD. We were in therapy to help with this but due to the current climate we are not able to anymore. She does well in school, but will get into trouble for constantly talking, offering help to other students, putting away school work to color, and she has run around the room once during class. I kept in touch with her teacher daily and asked how her she handled her behavior and if she felt we needed to take a more direct step such as medication. Her teacher stated that although she is a handful, she is doing ok most days and her behavior is not a constant problem. 
I asked her opinion because she spent 8 hrs a day, 5 days a week with my daughter, she knows her very well. 

Well now that we are home her behavior has become more and more aggressive. I made a daily schedule for her and we stick to it religiously. Every minute is planned out so that she feels like she is in school with structure and discipline. We do 2 hrs of school every day in 30 min blocks of time so I do not overwhelm her and help keep her attention.

 But yet.. nothing works. 

I limit all screen time to one hour a day and this is a treat that must be earned. All chores must be completed, homework finished, and I have a behavior chart that they must have 5 stickers on daily to receive a reward. I know it seems like a lot but I'm trying to reward more than punish but she doesn't care. If she receives 5 stickers out of 8 every day we will stay up late and watch a movie on friday nights. We will make a whole family even of it. She has only had this once since the quarantine. I've told her she didn't earn it this week and she will cry and scream, yell a bit but say ""fine, I don't care anymore "" I'll tuck her into bed and tell her we will try again tomorrow. 

I'm saying all of this so it is known that I am trying. I haven't given up on her but her behavior is scaring me. She pushed her brother (5) off the top bunk and onto the toddler bed. She stabbed him with a pen twice in the thumb, she screams, yells, and fights with her brother constantly. My husband and i talk with her every day explaining how dangerous this all is yet it isn't getting through. I didn't want to medicate before, but once she stabbed her brother I knew we needed to do something because this isn't ok, and it's becoming more dangerous. My job as a parent is to protect all my children, even if it's from their own sibling. I'm scared she is going to escalate things. 

I'm looking for advice from parents who deal with aggressive children. What can I do considering the current situation?",3.969647256170621,5.188097469158883,4.802242990654207,85.06604840642225,71.50467289719626,7.804936496525282,28.85813563383657,8.222332236545338,1.9180989695662591,2106,81,423,31,39,682,243,535,0.11199999999999999,0.792,0.096,-0.8829,5,1,1,0,1,0,51.0,10,0,2,9,17,27,7,3,25,2,47,4,1,4,8,90,77,38,0,10,14,9,4,2,0,8,3,6,6,2,26,43,0,6,9,0,1,7,10,14,3,2,12,14,73,13,58,55,15,60,0,1,4,0,82,21,0,7,31,293,99,13,0.07362300641049341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696109317393866,0.0719435497836787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602847853448586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554008468912427,0.13765514523697892,0.0,0.0691712380438295,0.0,0.0,0.08975980272759404,0.2439324789436288,0.06264775586468316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037725480877587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012712350332258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719232148508844,0.23868094463263625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087141547187783,0.33236523918788585,0.07590208683385563,0.0,0.07472580175454074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442798904650783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972546027580409,0.0,0.2481222329402799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940521816403844,0.0,0.03722600416497375,0.05259629049022875,0.07068963178324117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692996434390628,0.0,0.04184165118593194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804384787175162,0.0,0.07384987828274757,0.0,0.07250383108904755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305947364616308,0.06543951087045494,0.0,0.0,0.08092255783050407,0.0,0.08304995802347576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193696418093852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182478295683457,0.0,0.0,0.0625916472665776,0.0,0.06966386879543164,0.049143928471018346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14833486685092448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918105275930792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909020415701693,0.0,0.07064326027433171,0.0,0.0,0.2352182970965386,0.04988885452213231,0.055993613954908636,0.0,0.0,0.16349927184691976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044727413064222,0.0,0.07401145625336407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709593941745315,0.1474189461084322,0.2980416521285666,0.0,0.0670236199493711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060901711701916016,0.08275534388844176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056678587229454964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847232898088108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055355338324492485,0.1183507675256754,0.06434975266813554,0.0,0.08419432413903061,0.0,0.04891185405593084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586033419698558,0.0,0.0,0.0703499376698528,0.0,0.14995556583497996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149338142727475,0.043424756687230656,0.0,0.11811186974241952,0.0,0.198587773591964,0.0,0.0,0.08219745742818088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719685102522716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,linkdudesmash,2020/04/11,"14 month old and cat Hi all we adapted a cat into the family a couple weeks ago.  He is a great and very chill cat. 
The problem is the 14 month old just won’t leave him alone. Any advice to help the 14 month old
Chill out with the cat? It’s been about 4 weeks of him harassing the cat.",-0.5571428571428569,1.3512024920634929,1.4057142857142857,101.01428571428572,87.57142857142858,4.8698412698412685,13.761904761904766,6.1826913282559595,-1.0449619047619048,219,3,56,2,7,72,41,63,0.14,0.759,0.10099999999999999,-0.1531,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,9,0,4,0,0,0,1,9,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,6,2,1,11,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,9,27,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18470851311613384,0.16755514880670958,0.0,0.0,0.19576809266283632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854033003852675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091474387355976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819157781520453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839561980059132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669636633445586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001452742329736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4526227561408086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5950352295090635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086696162311952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596159700458806,0.0,0.0,0.3032414706681332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justworksheet,2020/04/11,"Are you a Mentally Strong Parent? If not, then these simple tips will help you to be one  

Parenting itself is a challenging thing, what is good for other kids may not be relevant for your kid. But most of us keep comparing and are compared in parenting style, which in my view is wrong. My mantra for parenting is simple – Do not judge any parent. All parents want to give the best to their kids and be a Mentally Strong Parent. Being a mentally strong parent is very much needed because if you are mentally strong in your thoughts and thinking process same will be reflected in your child.

Before I come up with tips, let me share who are mentally strong parents? Parents who can manage their thought, their behaviors and their emotions are mentally strong parents.

Now the question is why we need to be mentally strong parents?

The simple answer is to control your child, you should first know how to manage yourself, and secondly, it will be easy for you to handle your kid’s tantrums.

Parenting is powered by emotions and therefore, we as a parent should be emotionally strong to make correct parenting decisions.

## The list of 5 tips which will help you to be a Mentally Strong Parent.

URL: [http://justworksheet.com/are-you-a-mentally-strong-parent/](http://justworksheet.com/are-you-a-mentally-strong-parent/)",8.12126011872639,10.778721967889908,6.461635186184566,71.57599838100376,63.26605504587156,9.166109012412305,32.08958445763626,9.627879704456738,3.2906537506745828,1071,42,162,22,17,315,111,218,0.023,0.772,0.205,0.9918,19,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,3,11,4,14,2,15,1,0,10,0,32,0,0,4,2,39,43,12,0,7,6,16,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,6,10,10,0,2,8,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,2,1,22,13,23,24,5,9,0,0,1,0,47,5,0,5,3,120,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03183134077455513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028533987376802294,0.0,0.03983053038681242,0.0,0.04912256444223817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04032132185397618,0.0,0.0,0.05249963979874835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795956662612698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039815230704928484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04490291586405476,0.0,0.03926069427557365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274941429637178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04160548754298112,0.0,0.0,0.025724691604344502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786479592281175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031244993683735556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3773751423102465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03440958540492338,0.06941572255176866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03171860681329298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8835788659610866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052436159558141314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031097444151999564,0.02999295496011419,0.0,0.07432133731206811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563047836601055,0.0,0.0,0.03862186086272616,0.02760882759322801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04223733179540424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117767531194333,0.0,0.0
parenting,mjr_sherlock_holmes,2020/04/11,"Easter Egg hunt. How do we do this again? When my daughter was younger it was fairly easy to beat her downstairs on Easter Sunday  and hide the eggs while she wasnt looking. Now she's 7 and our youngest is 3 it's harder to orchestrate. Add to the drama that she lost her front tooth today so we have to act as the tooth fairy as well! 

So, do we hide the eggs before going to bed and risk them getting wet/nibbled by rats... or try to wake up at the crack of dawn and risk getting beaten outside? There's no way I can wake up earlier than my 7yo. I'm still on daylight saving time.",2.0815573770491795,3.510179614754101,3.1925901639344265,93.90281967213114,76.62295081967213,5.5357377049180325,22.036065573770493,5.6839178017228535,0.050659672131147186,451,12,101,2,10,145,85,122,0.125,0.835,0.04,-0.8202,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,1,3,9,6,1,2,5,0,9,7,4,1,0,11,15,12,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,8,3,0,0,1,0,3,2,4,1,0,4,1,13,2,16,11,0,17,0,1,1,0,11,5,0,1,8,63,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044580801920468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373867330602853,0.0,0.20334373699913444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004585633998596,0.0,0.3905766475145819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857363826144653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20863375035113066,0.0,0.33914881335319186,0.0,0.0,0.2429200272650553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840018453861449,0.0,0.0,0.3217016127867753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dhruvdatt6,2020/04/11,"A Survival Kit For Parental Challenges. 🔻 For some parents, balancing between work and parenting duties become a stressful and challenging task.

🔻 But parents need to smoothen the crease and must learn to manage the requirements of life along with the essential parenting duties. 

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parenting,CatWhisker44,2020/04/11,"Mom's weirdly nice behaviour I have strict mom. It pisses her off when I don't eat food at the exact right time and go to bed at the right time. Lately, the last 3 days, I am sleeping at 3 am at night and waking up at 8 in the morning. My mom's reaction when i woke up was go back to sleep, you slept kinda late. I don't understand why she is being nice though I tried. Nothing changed except for this thing. Any body have similar experiences?",1.8550806451612911,3.46640411827957,3.5351478494623656,90.42272177419355,77.70967741935483,6.800537634408602,22.377688172043012,7.645422480735847,0.7962268817204294,345,10,77,5,8,115,65,93,0.053,0.882,0.065,0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,4,4,1,0,4,0,9,8,6,0,1,6,14,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,10,2,13,10,0,23,0,0,0,0,6,11,1,1,10,45,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681741448697776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078214191007955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447659437546076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616612200645633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130135557114812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072848588574734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536509692747974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899375417083467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854040310465613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803832193549972,0.3543782944283411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5518983369741745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740566577979855,0.0,0.1507191495617527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682849658520556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31437990139163785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043546548980139,0.0,0.15432687543788925,0.0,0.1831851545498331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664464081891452,0.0,0.0,0.16352218850679218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173712031697328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hench4lyf,2020/04/11,"3yo is too grumpy when he wakes up tl;dr: 3yo can't process anything when first waking up so how do we deal with nighttime crying?

I get that everyone is groggy and most are grumpy when they wake up from a nap. This one definitely takes after his mother though and is basically inhuman for 15 minutes while all the systems come back online. 

In the mornings, this is something we are happy to navigate around. We can plop him on the couch in front of the TV or he can sometimes crawl into bed with us. 15 minutes later he's playful and happy and pretends not to remember being a senseless monster just before. 

But the problem is he regularly wakes himself up a couple times a night. Sometimes from night terrors, other times for no discernable reason. And there's no logic or language happening there, we *have* to pick him up or *have* to get in bed with him and it *has* to be his mommy...sometimes. There's no knowing and if I go or I get in bed when he wants to be picked up or vice versa it's an automatic tantrum. 

We've talked to him during the day, saying, ""hey, you don't have to cry, you can just close your eyes and go back to sleep, or you can walk on over and climb into our bed, or it's just a bad dream, etc."" With other things in life these conversations usually work. Like before going on his first flight or how he needs to behave differently with others. The conversations that happen away from the issue get processed and there's usually improvement. Sometimes we have to revisit tendencies but that's expected. But he will not go to sleep on his own. He can not, will not, go to sleep without (at minimum) someone in bed with him.

And because he's *such* a not-morning-person, it's like we just have to cater to his tantrums because it's the middle of the night and he doesn't understand English or remember any previous conversations. It's even possible he doesn't remember the tantrums the next day. We never go back on what we say for whining or tantrums during the day. 

Just as an example, it's 2:00am right now and I'm writing this because mom's lying down with him in the other room. I actually woke up first, went over, and got in bed with him, but he didn't want me so he was doing his full volume scream and physically kicked me out of the bed. But even the act of me leaving him alone to go get mom made his tantrum even worse. 

Ideas/considerations? Is this a cry-it-out situation? Mom isn't super good at that and so far we've been trying to avoid conveying the idea that he's not loved when he's upset. For something else during the day we'll let him cry it out with one of us holding him but in a different room from whatever the issue is. I'm also concerned that it's just not a fair thing to do because of the morning grumpiness, like it might make things worse and he just can't help being that way. I imagine he'll just scream at ever increasing intensity until he gets himself and then it's a whole other complex. 

So then is the thing to do to just cater to this for the next year or so and hope that with age he'll get over it? I really can't understate how little of a morning person his mom is. She is almost as bad as he is upon waking and she's got decades on him. 

Or is the right strategy to get him better at going to bed on his own so he theoretically has the skills to do so in the middle of the night? It sounds like the right thing but I gotta say when he's tired before bed it's still screamsville if you accidentally wake him up while sneaking out. And I don't think he'll be able to access those skills anyway when he's woken up in the middle of the night. 

He's just so scared of being alone. Poor guy.",3.1073428102788405,4.6136064301075335,4.363449972662661,86.23890377255333,74.08064516129029,7.248368871878988,24.70694368507381,7.891335392355504,1.2316058228540188,2880,90,600,41,59,948,283,744,0.134,0.818,0.048,-0.9966,2,3,2,0,0,0,78.0,12,5,1,9,47,27,5,4,42,0,53,13,10,8,3,119,94,70,0,8,38,5,0,4,0,8,2,6,12,2,40,47,0,2,12,5,1,15,20,15,0,5,9,7,55,12,103,70,8,113,0,1,1,1,88,55,0,18,45,406,95,1,0.05866797296506891,0.0,0.05725147865706385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058747500353379785,0.1215246533138312,0.0,0.046916756784010784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03989623342676308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482787429149896,0.0522269342714838,0.0,0.0,0.05512049183225603,0.1353361495568614,0.09797061372592933,0.14305380713227284,0.0,0.14976637167866114,0.0,0.0,0.05188705448535052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053726389206298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491499620316883,0.19333204039904892,0.15134395632864758,0.06048410402493791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259108981394384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049009563302450605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543029803432604,0.11624892849779145,0.053068540351744936,0.0,0.05605976232887099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497088435006192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452127555436926,0.0,0.26673888832012954,0.04920791223997565,0.09384427480298296,0.0,0.0,0.05809051700098829,0.1037597894781086,0.1249062962956806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03932390561069134,0.0,0.0,0.05827053478400088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622900038735002,0.0,0.12246824271526224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03224238364155945,0.0,0.0,0.06212091238344344,0.0,0.0599919772335623,0.041438924323315016,0.11464883262781027,0.05880072154051255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052950136151568336,0.0555130545517898,0.03916132751845962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622374480930481,0.0,0.27484488349289193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350155857441241,0.045248357516470085,0.0,0.12478810964398547,0.27527959175117545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950987364041001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245322212777992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613932449319572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056137326844754386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03758420576072808,0.060320447345190126,0.0,0.0,0.1993781301947866,0.1503063850674319,0.0,0.13996538058550428,0.058736875648667815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594525970444601,0.1761310268205278,0.0,0.04970918310853463,0.09033094369267766,0.23209650159454995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04685231899441419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411101435040954,0.04715509436600407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488197177287173,0.037592068167095004,0.0576409855646116,0.0,0.06841953366254515,0.06743020451587857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03983170257639421,0.0,0.0,0.061075428893829616,0.1411406957599862,0.0,0.12922896734446873,0.0,0.06920778097912693,0.046567906170309085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05438579870788838,0.0,0.0655006966613984,0.0,0.056553832366828975,0.0,0.04271098305075585,0.0,0.11957535319311413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03778025108445408
parenting,Pachamuffin,2020/04/11,"Tips for making it through day after break-free day with your kiddos? Here's one: teach them how to spread Elmer's glue on their hand (or down their leg, or all freaking over their torso, whatever!) and then watch them try to peel off every. last. piece.

Enjoy an entire book, quietly.",2.43333333333333,5.084441222222225,2.342222222222226,94.30000000000004,81.22222222222223,5.0814814814814815,16.407407407407412,6.42735559955562,-0.357237037037037,222,4,44,2,6,66,47,54,0.049,0.835,0.11599999999999999,0.5983,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,5,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,1,7,1,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,1,10,1,2,9,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,2,5,27,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6146468162619199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014983584972252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884367908675247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180884901349084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32291009089482203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32353362194005475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twosuitsluke,2020/04/11,"Normal timeframe for a newborn to start smiling So our newborn has just turned 9 weeks old. With everything going on at the moment it's obviously a difficult time, filled with a lot of worry. I'm (the father) currently still working as I work in a residential children's home, and I do two sleep ins a week. My wife is home with the little one on her own a lot, due to the lockdown. Our little one has had a few little smiles but has not been consistently smiling, as we hoped he would by this point. I'm not overly worried as I'm sure this is normal, however, my wife is concerned about how the Isolation is affecting his development, and him not smiling much is a sign of this.

Sorry, a bit long winded, but is it normal for a 9 week old to not be smiling constantly? What's an average time frame for baby's to start smiling and at wjat point should we worry if he doesn't smile much?

Thanks in advance, any help will surely help ease my wife's worries at this difficult time.",6.006692949907232,5.668099270408168,6.831539888682747,77.81995361781078,66.5,9.780333951762524,32.103896103896105,9.339509955726095,2.704557142857144,771,28,152,13,11,257,112,196,0.11599999999999999,0.688,0.19699999999999998,0.9626,2,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,16,0,17,1,1,2,3,30,26,11,0,7,8,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,7,8,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,3,2,0,12,4,26,20,7,33,0,0,0,0,18,14,0,4,16,101,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441754931915273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194714603371778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825717394702852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835047393428982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219275816267737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669999816284698,0.0,0.21953854545426355,0.10869072149635288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290390008827871,0.0,0.09684392418246593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607043800234602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608903022375608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216605349458543,0.0,0.0,0.2296610644838185,0.0,0.1483079838565822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689732523078214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951108454143843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225002251420289,0.15491314215918206,0.0,0.08739257970013277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20627683167882332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007503326821852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19143213218633096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903065056922944,0.10689921567893007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633393786871537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933567731318524,0.4445342512656082,0.0,0.07773739141733815,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pollymath,2020/04/11,"ADHD - In Parents - Low Energy, Lack of Focus, Inequity of Parental Effort Drugs! Haha no, this isnt about addiction. Its about energy, motivation, depression, and focus. 

I (30s dad) was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid, and took meds on and off throughout school, finding them quite useful in motivating me to focus on tasks I knew I had to do. I stopped taking meds shorty after college because I couldnt get a reliable prescription and they made me short tempered. 

As an adult (without meds) - Ive managed to land a decently stable career that pays most of our bills, allows us to own a nicer home (that my wife hates), and raise a now toddler daughter. The job allows my wife to work part-time while we pay for 40hours of daycare, and I hoped my wife would take a few afternoons a week for self-care.

My job isnt super stressful, but its inactive. In my free time I like to do things that arent kid friendly - house projects, car projects, mountain bike, cook. 

The problem is, despite sleep apnea treatment, regular excerise, a decent diet, a cup or two of coffee a day - I cant stay motivated/awake past 9pm. I sleep until 6:30AM. 

My wife runs circles around me all day long. She is so attentive to our child and kills it at work (remotely part-time). She’s so high strung she can barely sleep at night. She works more than she needs to, and gives up self-time to spend with our child (rather than taking her to daycare). She beats me to every required task and scolds me when I dont get to it. 

She’d love more kids, but is angry I’m not more invovled with the one we’ve got. 

Im thankful I have such an amazing wife, but feeling increasingly like I’m letting her down. Do I really needs drugs (prescription or caffiene) to balance our energy levels?",4.299061583577714,5.635659398826983,4.886198240469209,84.32529736070384,70.8475073313783,7.802041055718478,28.30275659824047,8.238735603445708,1.8722942170087973,1369,50,268,20,25,438,203,341,0.081,0.7759999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.9681,5,0,2,0,0,0,64.0,6,0,2,10,10,17,3,1,15,1,21,10,3,7,1,44,41,21,1,8,8,9,1,2,1,1,4,0,1,6,9,14,2,2,6,2,5,4,9,7,0,2,7,1,42,11,42,30,9,36,0,2,0,1,35,16,0,4,17,161,51,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075594669268978,0.23715243076546155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783281182221514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060145298099379525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272615885085723,0.0,0.08498006213524747,0.1001429478601186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563470261839293,0.0,0.22884026553866296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312955917788052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988801333144606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901780673252063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622837211431731,0.0,0.10309683171387923,0.0946485054651198,0.0,0.0,0.07891145291542755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741130920717687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424504136400238,0.09896908881136092,0.09799665609048552,0.0,0.11384621953213687,0.0,0.0,0.10657518393601703,0.0,0.19581967374718293,0.0,0.1091582582841313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089169737223384,0.0,0.09640551836232647,0.0,0.0,0.08731546356402299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904905887039043,0.09335925499241812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32878388101418937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631776731821872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259046474025506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685799067933522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191117214040265,0.2136892664735788,0.09418695346110403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944091268946967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494242454091073,0.0,0.0,0.06320735685747263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985429707163028,0.0,0.0,0.20585832832587395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29620891117914416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516381443999596,0.0,0.08248839889910102,0.1130204802842201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22255151351141014,0.0,0.0,0.0908375210591403,0.0,0.0,0.06554867442646306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753238351985032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109620499805811,0.0,0.0,0.0963814162884388,0.0,0.11868190564951557,0.08521492366159095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914315093017721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951095863731935,0.0,0.21548799231858173,0.0,0.0,0.07008881997670767,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peacetofree,2020/04/11,"Our attempt to work from home with a 2 year old. We tried. We have great jobs where we can work from home. Let me tell you you, it does not work with a 2 year old. All I did today was start to wash the dishes that we clearly don’t have time for, came upstairs and she covered head to toe in hair gel. Where did she find this hair gel, who the heck knows! I didn’t know we use hair gel. Ran downstairs to put a load of laundry in, came up to a dozen eggs broken on the kitchen floor. I’m officially going off work. My dreams of being a stay at home mom are happening.",0.8707004470938919,2.4483374262295143,2.0829955290611046,99.88264530551416,80.47540983606558,5.092101341281669,18.46795827123696,5.565023196281405,-0.6681409836065573,434,9,109,2,11,138,82,122,0.026000000000000002,0.892,0.08199999999999999,0.7712,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,6,2,0,5,2,1,0,0,8,0,11,9,5,1,2,17,21,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,10,3,0,3,1,0,5,3,0,0,1,7,3,14,1,18,12,1,22,0,0,0,0,13,9,1,0,7,61,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437823993454429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151939191760292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736191963474728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541301074646059,0.0,0.0,0.1656947517954176,0.0,0.0,0.13290054659158404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424042971664229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522579966569236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913918143289193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519040491241013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368124020977209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760172964297123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154071880441505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108250102843027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637571211587328,0.1601886562449364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313596849166296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763504115640082,0.0,0.14245691392850146,0.0,0.0,0.1020367344749299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298019112948183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376503091581102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19356307659242405
parenting,hgshm,2020/04/11,"Called cps/dcf on my mom Hello all to shorten it up I'm an adult but my mother has an 11 year old son as well as my 30yr old disabled sister and she's addicted to zanex bars. She started doing them going on 15 years now started taking them for fun then found a doctor to prescribe it to her and now she's out of control. She's driving with the kids in the vehicle under the influence....dozing off and swerving. Is completely incoherent even once a few months ago she called my little brother over and over ( from the other room might I add) to tell him to start getting the stuff out to cook dinner.....it was 11 am and freaked out on him when he told her no. Grounds him when he doesn't listen to her drug fueled commands ...has him going out getting money from customers for drugs as well as running out weed (idk about the pills although at this point I wouldn't put it past her) I've had to step in when I felt like she was going overboard in ""disciplining "" him physically... slapping at his head etc. I have a step dad but he just let's all this happen bc he's  scared of her. She found out today we were trying to hold an intervention a few months back and now shes trying to run off to another state alone and mentally unstable / dependent on drugs in the middle of a fucking pandemic. I have had enough. And of course I've been so conditioned over the years to never go against my mom now I'm up late feeling guilty and anxious . Has anyone else dealt with a minor sibling still at home with their abusive parent?",2.630294117647061,4.550716866013072,3.7149673202614397,88.61401960784315,76.41830065359476,6.363398692810457,24.07843137254902,7.242747475848597,0.9508156862745096,1195,39,244,14,27,386,175,306,0.08800000000000001,0.8640000000000001,0.048,-0.9253,2,1,3,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,3,1,15,7,1,1,17,0,19,10,1,2,3,36,39,21,0,1,3,8,2,1,0,2,6,1,2,2,7,20,2,3,4,2,1,10,4,3,2,0,10,3,33,4,55,26,6,66,0,0,0,1,43,30,1,2,26,165,40,1,0.0,0.12396446859897647,0.0,0.11405756915393865,0.0,0.0,0.09274446203512346,0.0,0.0,0.10836077892540358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970927745229213,0.0,0.11819737739400407,0.0,0.07315679447208752,0.10720149978207924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045078471923699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21366928646106514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969816437122193,0.0,0.11734673512793176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708894324804974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639981466664545,0.0,0.08740143352695315,0.0,0.0,0.10810642324651892,0.11668542747472165,0.06910435645642793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05290194989875946,0.0,0.1004571788684593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22943358647295914,0.0,0.09672486940979903,0.10932532810663408,0.0,0.23784502090635296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925202524951707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737625892692187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494821156817412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180224635172065,0.0,0.0,0.106986972684727,0.0,0.0511148827322916,0.1048625412828972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543820166743748,0.11099144362544737,0.0,0.2450729530743036,0.16702263631643646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069386962853885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195743616187995,0.11142306610120316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161745731478175,0.0,0.0998771680886994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890520234740748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517783034940073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474868141359782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221640466511992,0.0,0.08355430181866437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977151349315228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866558338341728,0.0,0.09144756382019467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917302813547936,0.09997443887606756,0.0,0.1420681055047071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814232478476514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021267614696988
parenting,ayurextrufrug,2020/04/11,"I’m constantly yelling at my 4 year old I feel like I am constantly yelling at my 4 year old. It’s all I can do now as she never seems to listen to anything I have to say. Eating, sleeping, potty, cleaning up toys etc, I am always repeating myself and then I end up yelling or incentivizing or threatening to take away screen time - and I follow through. 

I have to admit that at the end of the day my baby is a good child and it seems like it’s me and not her that is responsible for my behavior. Does anyone else feel like this?

P.S Coronavirus stay-at-home is also not helping.",1.4184173669467768,3.5491564369747906,3.3497689075630284,88.70907913165269,81.26890756302521,6.655742296918768,23.36204481792717,7.793537801064563,1.1897893557422972,452,16,96,8,12,152,75,119,0.046,0.828,0.126,0.8027,0,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,9,2,1,0,2,15,18,9,0,0,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,5,1,1,6,4,1,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,16,4,15,18,2,21,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,4,17,63,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250642647690608,0.13787171627982187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585796696118128,0.16977435806977628,0.13635306736809008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556761357560605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581153881277554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685972452394897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450010243121398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954760010925413,0.13841711451407546,0.0,0.29351360982679764,0.0,0.18479399622103007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756098754138446,0.23674543033142845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897730900978472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106202910776776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24285097936113176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127794386684892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347738570525525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176750826466532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30168545346808856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658149067658913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660908326928015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458220219169673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661822905382432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21340460874769385
parenting,nursegreen,2020/04/11,"Convince me to have a second child We have a one year old and he is amazing. He has slept through the night since he was 8 weeks old, he eats great, he’s sweet and smart and funny and healthy and I just can’t imagine a better child! My husband and I waited until our mid 30s to have him so time is ticking on the decision to have a second. 

I know that the first couple years with two small children can be extremely challenging but I want to hear the good, bad, great, and not so great of having a second. 

Would you do it again if you could do it all over again? Honestly. We’re thinking to have them almost 3 years apart- thoughts? 

Thanks!",2.5016446911866765,4.156947297709927,3.1064538514920197,94.0022345593338,76.02290076335878,5.985010409437892,22.596113809854263,6.574015621080383,0.3473450381679384,500,14,110,4,11,156,89,131,0.032,0.6779999999999999,0.29,0.9878,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,1,3,5,13,0,0,9,0,17,2,1,0,1,24,25,12,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,9,1,1,5,0,0,0,2,1,0,6,3,2,12,12,11,19,1,17,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,12,74,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130518727135344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283905043156633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130042184102094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658810076535194,0.1892893402172349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505068295980525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455148520804306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348815814793034,0.0,0.5658267146089843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928120297319924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401740558437913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054069273844046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35902527799116324,0.0,0.11592368791831065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151359233737898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575012999274517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961685584144536,0.0,0.13581308225405658,0.0997542104479231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671137452594597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009034581041718,0.0,0.13722467331249508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215255560477652,0.0,0.0,0.330496767432701
parenting,Murderous_Intention7,2020/04/11,"Completely Lost With 14yo Teen He has a bad history and I’m his sister who has adopted him four months ago, and had custody for a year and an a half total, and he is out of control to an extreme. Hitting, yelling, whining, purposefully antagonizes his brothers and me to set us off and start a fight. He refuses to take responsibility for his actions and when he is disciplined he throws a huge tantrum, throws his brothers under the bus to get them in trouble when he is in trouble; even if they had nothing to do with it. He lashes out. I’ve tried grounding, time out, spanking, ignoring him, sending him to his room, talking to him (after we calmed down) but since he won’t comprehend responsibility he can’t see why he was wrong in any way. When he’s in trouble he attacks his other brothers. He can scream for hours. He demands to know how long he’s in trouble. He tries to set the rules; he came out of is bedroom to yell and demand to know how long he was in trouble, lost it when I informed him is time was restarting, and then proceeded to throw a huge fit. Then he went to his room to kick the dresser, blow a whistle, and yell my name repeatedly etc. He came back out 5 mins later and informed me that his time was up (it wasn’t). And I explained why his time was set as it was, and that he got more time for his continued misbehavior, and he kept screaming that his time was up, and he wasn’t going to have more time because, “That’s unfair!” Which is one of his favorite lines. I tried to explain that nothing in life is fair, but he won’t hear it. He’s in counseling twice a month with a therapist but he refuses to talk to her often. I just don’t know what to do anymore to get through to him. He often tells me he’s going to call social services on me. He has no reason why when I
asked him why he wanted to call social services because I punished him for slapping his brother’s back so badly he got blood blisters. I handed him the phone and gave him their number and told him to call social services if he thought he was really being abused, because that is his right. He said, “Well, I wasn’t really going to call.” Then I also explained to him that I fought to keep him, and that I loved him. His behavior escalated after I adopted him four months ago. I’ve been around him his whole life of course so I’m not a stranger. I also adopted my other two brothers and they’re behavior is nothing like his (though of course they occasionally act out, like any normal teenager.) I’ve talked to his therapist and she recommended being putting him on medicine or seeing a behavioral specialist for him. She also mentioned a residential home/treatment. I just want those to be last resorts. I’m hoping someone could have advice on what to do. 
Things he has blown up over recently:
- the wrong color of gatorade
- when I didn’t buy him a shake at McDonald’s 
- any time he gets in more trouble and his brothers don’t 
- over him leaving his rabbit’s cage open, and the rabbit dying to dogs (apparently it wasn’t his fault) 
- when I accidentally left the child locks on the car door and he couldn’t get out 
- him forgetting to save his video game because I told him to get off we had to leave
- being told he has to ask to get the Guinea pig out of his cage (because he and his brothers will leave it unsupervised if not) 
- leaving my house or my best friends house",5.2840743702519015,5.525169412816691,5.863621823997673,82.17268983315769,67.9865871833085,8.573167096797645,31.567045908909165,8.331364938255728,2.191594278652176,2640,102,538,34,41,857,272,671,0.13,0.8029999999999999,0.068,-0.9898,1,0,0,0,3,0,76.0,3,0,4,4,24,32,5,1,24,0,49,5,2,4,1,84,95,51,1,9,12,8,1,2,1,3,2,7,5,1,23,41,0,7,10,2,1,15,14,23,1,6,32,11,81,9,88,53,7,99,0,3,3,1,140,41,0,8,41,339,104,3,0.0,0.07722196940710492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368846344788823,0.11554778705377908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563617819188111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296413857369402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463629780194853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058019757165801523,0.12186005155708887,0.07414621333719543,0.0,0.10023143093468312,0.10883716030918904,0.19865102334729834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683973646377059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662047163806508,0.14908616069037886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833497040586684,0.0,0.07309954289714601,0.052037103909649884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676415808447916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268759034378916,0.043047613243429116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05035420758439639,0.0,0.2043081514699909,0.0,0.11112172586008813,0.0,0.10425314277814544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345720139582862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537605230467491,0.06473369201636406,0.06418445586895742,0.1504068895088807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05793072358331362,0.0,0.0,0.10745577710568206,0.05312649709269554,0.0,0.2760445583629331,0.07081305919526004,0.0,0.09207036024565247,0.06368263350315154,0.0,0.0,0.1153560244219047,0.0,0.0,0.14229288721639646,0.0,0.058823173986062134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560666986801615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638578703448406,0.1876121228386532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04416441080880133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551909018237953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350582020272235,0.06701097347410924,0.06435265965104753,0.0,0.0,0.0556592754532242,0.061996552160715486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387241236567556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053913609368789375,0.0,0.0,0.19931376462772848,0.05522274613852425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04613135093668602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04900364872355422,0.15715610129579305,0.05696600853041251,0.0,0.0,0.15134689042659025,0.043299515225148084,0.0,0.06403431547162919,0.051741838666351264,0.3040335247604777,0.0,0.0,0.1868331259989101,0.0,0.1327490734361172,0.0,0.06366671238614363,0.0,0.07839775595135673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688405805173526,0.05173305010928802,0.0,0.0,0.05860034336012428,0.060418075047202986,0.2352419680801506,0.0727657973322812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425177272142276,0.0,0.0419707000642364
parenting,INeedMexicanFood,2020/04/11,"12 month old keeps pulling down diaper? Hey, so my title basically says it all. My daughter just turned 1 year old recently (12 m) and she keeps trying to pull down her diaper from the back for some reason. I change her diaper often so it can't be because she's uncomfortable in a full diaper. She even does this right after diaper changes. What can it mean? I tried looking it up but all I found was things about wet diapers. I've seen some about potty training but it was mostly for older toddlers.",1.637517006802721,4.275663193877551,3.368469387755102,85.45807823129255,85.42857142857143,6.940136054421767,19.391156462585034,8.07648339933343,1.1874054421768707,395,11,76,9,12,131,72,98,0.024,0.976,0.0,-0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,2,15,12,5,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,4,10,0,11,7,6,16,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,4,8,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313476937219375,0.0,0.1214005561415663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42135054683621215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742783175463524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153730849860287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183587113126738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3540289872256161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672366205409224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693374169442808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589603692587566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179507924489073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047603206433532,0.1966375138467756,0.0,0.0,0.17007380280756915,0.0,0.15837280982378787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323070261712972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704208125195047,0.2166190200456188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282466670343097
parenting,Nexzus_,2020/04/11,"I remember very little about my middle childs' earliest years. Is this common? I have three children: 2 boys, aged 8 and 4, and a girl, 8 months.

Watching the progression of my daughter got me to thinking/remembering the corresponding stages of my boys - first smile, first teeth, first giggle, starting to crawl, etc. But I've begun to realize that while I remember the majority of these advancements from my oldest, I remember very few if any, from my second. I'm not an absentee parent or anything, I was always there, and interacting with him - that I do remember. Nothing was going around that time - same job, same housing, etc. and I don't drink or do drugs.

But those individual advancements are a blur. It got me kind of bummed.

Is this common?",5.012455209024552,7.059723795620439,5.804499004644993,75.63013271400136,70.16788321167883,9.361380225613805,29.242866622428664,9.800150414767053,3.044991240875912,588,23,103,15,11,192,90,137,0.0,0.94,0.06,0.7561,2,0,2,1,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,6,3,2,0,0,6,0,9,3,1,0,0,20,14,10,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,8,6,1,0,5,1,0,3,2,0,0,5,4,1,15,2,12,10,6,20,0,0,1,0,9,3,0,4,13,72,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052057287174573,0.0,0.0,0.08598150883529725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040468937530731,0.11255575338326887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386014383969852,0.14662680129304956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820213972760975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226417920829522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185707181141332,0.0,0.20224646915420347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589134451500832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546923210481492,0.0,0.0,0.13166469894999186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267231095371006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092082252709599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131973004525567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039334712211388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.716142477224779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949277302951514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372644273440046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864756495953912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142129502978725
parenting,bryantmakesprog,2020/04/11,"Meeting my 8 year old daughters for first time under troubled circumstances. Need advice. So, this one's a doozy. My daughter's (twin girls, age 8) don't know me. They've lived with their mother while I provided anonymous financial support.

They were recently taken from the mother into state custody and I was contacted. I will be taking a more active role in raising them shortly. I'm going to meet them via video call next week.

They don't have a clue who I am. I don't have a clue what to do, what to say.

They're obviously in a weird position, and I wouldn't put any undue stress on them by discussing the mother or such. I just want to engage with them. Just not sure how.

Thoughts?",1.9087009803921613,4.412062860294121,2.9562941176470616,90.01615686274513,82.16176470588233,5.685490196078433,22.301960784313728,7.0316486544052195,0.7807996078431372,543,18,107,7,15,173,98,136,0.075,0.828,0.09699999999999999,0.4274,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,7,1,5,6,0,1,7,0,12,0,0,1,2,17,21,6,0,3,4,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,5,3,0,2,4,1,17,3,14,14,1,18,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,1,9,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23786428354905206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655319129365142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24855598137908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070503831200166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833949550413932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337756219924275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149416781528896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180490627511514,0.0,0.0,0.2588767500949565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554252033213517,0.0,0.16494566467280453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447013258181249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403449298929501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357497523950706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27883336086979216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762267366765111,0.2294176498331089,0.0,0.183019296806479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324591484221731,0.14193841519119332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435736583579496,0.0,0.19525444156838911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567525727638318
parenting,Mnq1310,2020/04/11,"Best approach to my 9 yo daughter downloading instagram and snapchat against my will? I would very much appreciate any suggestions regarding the above. 
My 9 yo daughter asked me if she can download those and I was very clear that my answer is no but she did it anyway. She told ger sister who is 18 yo and she made her promise not to tell me but ofc she did as she is also worried. 
I have 2 dilemmas. 
One, how do I open this conversation without mentioning how I found out, as I would want the 9 yo to continue trusting her 18 yo sister with secrets in the future? 
Two, how do I make it clear for my 9 yo that these platforms are not appropriate in a way she would truely understand on a long term? I am worried that she would find a way...as all kids do... if I just forbid her. I tried explaining her in the past about the dangers also about the negative promotion of some women/girls's outlook. Some of her friends already have these so, as usual,  peer pressure did the trick.
Thank you in advance for any advice.",2.8058706467661665,4.834968915422888,3.969975124378113,86.48889303482588,76.26368159203979,7.053731343283582,27.58457711442786,7.984000788550335,1.7862457711442792,796,33,159,13,18,259,118,201,0.111,0.7659999999999999,0.12300000000000001,0.395,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,3,10,9,2,1,10,0,20,0,0,5,3,36,29,16,0,7,8,4,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,1,6,0,0,2,5,4,0,2,7,0,31,5,21,17,6,17,0,0,0,0,29,8,0,4,6,118,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415733817854405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408766972988984,0.2523148336818307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145589804501545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748056524955974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555519006363525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418612673664888,0.0,0.0,0.1729713122506097,0.1218818948843362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960909641265332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492725423337312,0.105303355526775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596881222318005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689954889678344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505959532233802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788569807293427,0.1452405303458443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074261924550333,0.0,0.10710596916464754,0.0,0.154104689934269,0.16422956039285416,0.0,0.0,0.17374594727691514,0.2603304444033448,0.09304857658654317,0.2504387409889542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207115523136058,0.0,0.0,0.3204177529337633,0.0,0.4482613468988813,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,biiones,2020/04/11,"Parenting with Anxiety Hi fellow parents. I am hoping for some much needed advice, and I hope this is the right subreddit for it...

I am a mom with a beautiful three year old daughter. I’ve been laid off due to everything going on and her daycare is closed. Luckily my fiancé is an essential worker who is able to work from home. I have GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder) along with PTSD from my daughters bio dad (which is all resolved now) and have literally been waiting almost a year to have the right insurance to be able to go see a psychiatrist for some help, because I feel like it’s been fluctuating a lot for a while and my coping skills can only do so much when it’s a chemical imbalance. But now I can’t go.

My problem right now is that unknowns trigger my anxiety and my anxiety manifests in very physical ways like headaches, nausea, stomaches, etc. I’ve been trying so hard to keep up with my daughter but she’s getting a TON of cartoon time compared to before (30 min - 1 hr a day) and I’m having trouble pulling myself out of my funk while physically feeling ill. She also has not slept through the night in almost a month so I am barely sleeping because I go into her bed with her when she wakes up.

I also just went back to college this semester after debating it for years so I’m trying to get my class work complete as well. We are in a small apartment on the third floor so my fiancé freaks out every time she’s jumping around even though our downstairs neighbor says he never hears it (I didn’t want to be THAT neighbor so I apologized if he heard anything and he was like nope all good no worries). I worry about her watching too many cartoons, not getting enough exercise, feeing like I’m not paying attention enough, etc... 

I feel like a bad mother because I’m not engaged as I was before this whole quarantine and I just don’t know what to do.",4.916839237057221,5.911395811989102,5.889968392370572,78.98112152588557,69.08174386920979,8.923771117166213,31.846212534059944,9.174902378510234,2.81415540054496,1481,63,277,28,25,490,206,367,0.08800000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.10099999999999999,0.3704,2,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,0,5,22,15,0,0,17,0,29,6,4,1,3,52,55,26,0,6,9,8,4,5,3,0,2,3,4,0,13,20,0,2,6,1,2,7,10,4,1,2,10,9,36,11,43,43,13,48,0,0,2,0,31,19,0,8,26,193,49,6,0.1860884912683815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909217599800998,0.0,0.0,0.1863407435784127,0.0,0.0,0.14881489923540456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847143729474255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656748627341914,0.08282910514003927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715452816141648,0.07768805864381276,0.17015672559941294,0.0,0.15834760000438097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755512130659612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000584107566321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663676647218848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227915606950827,0.20753785803538505,0.06145484672020308,0.0,0.07839378991221425,0.0,0.08362216844841837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113789877826366,0.13294165534437044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583533425274,0.0,0.2115167559975707,0.07804109878362521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833493683358816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486762707952943,0.0,0.06236559656007538,0.0,0.09333096473517133,0.1848278601650803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270200064451701,0.0,0.0,0.05113468408331171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22728359285241145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910289034447812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943322612012516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897229595029327,0.07426702917132845,0.0,0.13679645269849106,0.06899112917839688,0.0717614582288846,0.0,0.0,0.08731572153763105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763428406628764,0.0,0.0,0.07076434153908731,0.0,0.0,0.20662924746533964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903077717207172,0.10876374401730644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383778321594338,0.0,0.07399251865087488,0.0,0.0,0.07414421729135827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311144107563242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914154989241542,0.0,0.10850969574259872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263418704018522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677124702989986,0.05487990676832479,0.07385419133127359,0.0,0.0,0.0836579509898244,0.0862529478733027,0.0,0.10388057744900156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547463794661604,0.18898189583336572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975233083899092
parenting,Missy283,2020/04/11,"My Teen feels jailed So much husband and I have been really trying to follow the CDC guidelines during the pandemic. We have only one child, f(17), she normally hangs out with a group of 6 girls and six boys. I am lucky to be able to say they have all been great friends since middle school. The problem is that only a few of us are keeping our kids home while the rest of the group is getting together for movie nights, game nights, sleepovers, just like nothing has changed. My poor kid, it is unfair. We all should be in this together, I am saddened by the lack of consideration from the other parents. Any suggestions on positive things I can say to make this less stressful on my kid.",5.278560606060606,6.36945034090909,5.148181818181822,84.27560606060608,68.31818181818181,8.290909090909091,29.060606060606066,8.515128840125781,1.9909787878787888,543,19,106,8,9,168,96,132,0.139,0.754,0.107,-0.5729,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,1,0,2,6,0,1,9,0,16,0,0,1,2,18,21,4,0,4,1,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,1,6,6,6,0,1,2,1,1,2,0,2,0,2,2,3,13,4,16,16,7,10,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,1,4,74,19,1,0.19397148951441964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190726443560405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051961162045969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807781328963464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986189163175673,0.0,0.1013420973932942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138542519691609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945692194515088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724107723320033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476467189835708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947747546417587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259136343873233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640582058404453,0.19005087567734366,0.1861208756290874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314401013165762,0.29504811693158434,0.0,0.0,0.21538238412761865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856045190434344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426310310679226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085078278147621,0.0,0.1963095030321824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16045522057239278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221936858775143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886603860269102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316939087573171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23332381880627245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wafflebowlnomnom,2020/04/12,"Nothing super interesting, I would just like your thoughts. I have a 4 yo. She is currently ""doing experiments"" by putting her Easter candy in water. Earlier, I let her on Minecraft, and when I tried to help her with something, she got mad and insisted that she teach herself. When she was learning to walk, she hated when we tried to help. She wanted to do it herself, learn by herself. Basically, she hates being taught by others, she wants to learn on her own. She always has.

Does anyone else have a kiddo like this? How does this affect schooling? Im wondering at this point if the best thing for her would be to homeschool when the time comes.

Ive honestly never met anyone that was like this (to my knowledge) from a year old!

Your personal thoughts and stories are welcome!


Edit: I would like to add that this is causing issues (for us, the parents) with toilet training. She will be 5 this year and refuses to poop in the potty. The more we try, the worse it gets.",3.3094467408585047,5.571862475675676,4.026009538950717,85.58076311605726,75.5945945945946,6.51510333863275,26.017488076311608,7.510576382923642,1.4435564387917323,758,28,142,10,17,241,111,185,0.092,0.777,0.131,0.7744,2,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,3,2,0,2,6,12,3,0,9,0,19,2,1,3,1,29,31,10,0,6,2,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,13,10,1,1,7,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,7,0,30,9,22,16,3,19,0,0,0,0,30,6,0,2,14,107,43,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552048390572502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941510379188333,0.14225119210962306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569705440372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262011237260327,0.0,0.11959265340669585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24298803187983103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159774642759006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580567396276133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253470465692184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110377270788346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274138416326734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611416021022964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996386139217166,0.144905966176314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196652505365642,0.0,0.271307883490174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070768522262508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321436097627926,0.0,0.14568226545560498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154158025369961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122394190647033,0.0,0.0,0.1312424076935738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956588089831062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050678040070505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688070949004017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223472072102773,0.0,0.0,0.22043637274773026,0.08095485336353561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827762308813146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699944763189775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16377503501892454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055886538773816,0.0,0.0,0.14148306288355714,0.29586972396232697,0.0,0.0,0.17880827435419056
parenting,Palomita30,2020/04/12,"3Rd Child? Hii, first time posting sorry if I’m all over the place. I (F29) have 2 boys a 4 yr old and 2 yr old. I really want to have a 3rd child but my husband (39) doesn’t want anymore kids. He comes up with all types of excuses not to have anymore. Money being one of the reasons and because he’s “tired” and too “old”. He owns his own business and it’s going pretty good. My question is am I crazy for wanting one more child? He’s always known I wanted 3 kids. 

Edit: I own my own business as well. I work from home and take care of my kids too.",-0.7543697478991582,1.2237022605042045,1.7065126050420183,97.96716386554623,89.42016806722691,4.072268907563025,17.743697478991596,5.288315135182226,-0.6501025210084039,415,11,99,2,14,141,77,119,0.068,0.777,0.156,0.8897,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,1,2,19,16,8,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,7,0,0,3,0,1,2,2,0,1,3,0,0,11,3,11,15,7,11,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,2,5,55,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599993805149924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241884835928251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963499800135853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664381154666766,0.0,0.0,0.14079402115384504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902685170928056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928899731416692,0.13709052099949107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394939051799204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5145263871990012,0.0,0.22151010895992654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17076599684345073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565358256906533,0.1662830639424869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183096620313982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470751784719157,0.16804942898505246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829641096400223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289084547263172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530651768559137,0.1878568191046791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38561809756844395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695733742476869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189904357306147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway28236,2020/04/12,"My mom is insisting she be in the room...anyone else have this issue? So I’m pregnant with my second baby, and we’re due in August (yay). Before covid-19, I was already very insistent that I didn’t want anyone even at the hospital while I was in labor, let alone in the room. With our first, EVERYONE AND THEIR MOTHER (literally) came to sit in my room while I was in pain, I couldn’t sleep, and I was in labor for 19 hours. My mom stayed in the room with me, but in the corner, and I didn’t mind, but I wasn’t married then, and i was younger and it was my first pregnancy, so a little scared. Then after...everyone wanted to come visit again and I couldn’t nap at the hospital at all, plus you feel horrible after giving birth so this time around I plan on not having anyone at the hospital and waiting til we’re all settled. 

Flash forward, now that the coronavirus is in full force and I don’t see it being fully controlled by August, I REALLY don’t want anyone at the hospital with us. Seems like way too much of a risk. But of course, my mother still thinks she needs to be in the room with me this time around even though I’ve told her no every time she brings it up. Any one else deal with a parent/mom like this? I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I can only so no so many ways before it gets there and she just doesn’t understand.",3.5567606967057936,4.237060291366909,4.6753085952290805,87.60337182885273,71.98561151079137,7.867020068156003,22.90496024233245,8.032893268588372,0.937047482014388,1043,23,228,14,19,343,142,278,0.095,0.855,0.051,-0.9299,1,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,1,1,4,16,7,0,2,13,1,24,2,1,1,2,44,43,26,0,7,6,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,10,21,0,2,5,1,0,5,12,4,0,4,11,3,33,3,37,26,4,55,0,1,1,0,18,28,0,1,22,160,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336525441089032,0.12078938747231174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443504719624658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061417128764897,0.11215243574790644,0.0,0.19488126990982327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862810259983685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519054603371518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428818963274446,0.0,0.0,0.12276621314454805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284616995194413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828758679278322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445916692049033,0.0,0.09222290464992076,0.2091832083557384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106902897631179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620947183097195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05718717490437453,0.105001881173091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779386953024173,0.0,0.11717682259027225,0.0,0.0,0.11424548940548362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192800104735756,0.0,0.10695108954722717,0.10970545605704593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109730138052554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105211598373681,0.3845869042749659,0.0,0.0,0.08046406627226167,0.08116156056537756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417142783485682,0.08324757776963745,0.11647080047634445,0.0,0.12153991667082202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012145983075613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958633774525156,0.0,0.08722368301444458,0.09964625642186767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095368339985927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666743487679085,0.08741312840984569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013612884932581,0.1075417179121948,0.0,0.191477143826078,0.0,0.0,0.1045916041778692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394941431221856,0.1316642380475718,0.0,0.0,0.090314135885282,0.25824414993888145,0.1737649896188995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tweaster2020,2020/04/12,"My 6 year old couldn’t wait to hunt eggs. While the rest of the family was upstairs getting dressed, my six year old couldn’t stand the anticipation and went outside alone and hunted all the eggs. We had previously discussed how this was his 2 year old sibling’s first egg hunt and about sharing the experience. Six year old instantly confessed, in tears, and I insisted the eggs be returned to their hiding spots. After a few hours to cool down my partner and I couldn’t come to an equal conclusion for punishment, so I ultimately decided to cancel the hunt, grateful that the two year old is oblivious to the tradition. Six year old got to keep no eggs, greatly reducing the expected candy haul for the day. 

I’m not looking for discipline advice. What’s done is done. Easter has been put away. The day is over. I am disappointed and sad but it will pass. 

I’m looking for advice in how to teach respect for one’s family/others. How to teach about selfishness and why it hurts others. Since we are homeschooling right now I thought perhaps this would be a great time to correct this behavior and incorporate something into a school lesson this week. Any books, resources, anything... greatly appreciated. I don’t know where to start looking. 

Thanks.",5.038557758031442,7.219510632034638,5.344652540442016,78.3986329460014,70.38528138528139,8.672681704260652,30.772613351560718,9.276330184999452,2.923557575757575,1000,43,176,22,19,317,141,231,0.09,0.804,0.106,0.8289,0,1,1,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,1,3,8,12,1,0,16,1,20,5,0,3,2,33,35,14,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,9,12,5,3,6,1,0,4,6,5,0,6,9,4,13,7,26,19,4,36,1,3,3,0,8,8,0,0,23,112,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19289978355807716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222491119966726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671203547270334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812228642129304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273323937461586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502253942332058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730850962684034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201165569925603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654893456660286,0.09304692082820627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395538307295257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051567421664939515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894054742586344,0.3264560139308009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720102334581736,0.0,0.10566191860280473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773036304861996,0.0,0.0,0.05424372281256105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486530193483179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6214232633098012,0.0,0.06688264109997351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922219528380076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429047904972142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998911131709528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164684006377161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598518033801419,0.0,0.0,0.06986137778476656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908710126894016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783579076907927,0.057553595605940214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641695194287714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917233086725345,0.0,0.0,0.09149721133669114,0.08906268551204499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011466159828368,0.0,0.0,0.3813628961921812
parenting,willz202,2020/04/12,"Bed time has become a nightmare Over the last 4/5 months our daughter’s (2 years 9 months) betime has become a total nightmare.

Prior to this, she would be in bed for 7:30pm and settle herself to sleep. She’d sleep though to 7am without a problem. 

Now she will not go to sleep without someone sitting next to her. She wants to hold hands or bite her nails for hours instead - it can drag out to 9 or 10pm some nights. Then she wake/ up around 1am screaming and will only settle if she comes and sleeps in our bed with us.

This all started around November last year we brought home newborn twins. So there was a big change to our daily lives. She was also suffering with her back molars coming in. My wife and I are totally to blame for letting thing become routine. Caring for twins and a toddler just got the better of us and we just went for the easy route a few too many times.

We’ve tried to address this by getting back to a good pre-bed routine, by talking to her to try to address any worries, by leaving her for just a small amount of time. Nothing seems to work. She just says she will cry and wants to come in our bed. 

I want to get her back to being happy and content with her sleeping habits. Any advice?",3.668943089430893,4.83662207317073,3.9383739837398397,91.16821138211384,72.17073170731706,5.954471544715448,25.861788617886177,5.46131890053228,0.5825056910569102,954,30,199,3,18,296,145,246,0.065,0.858,0.077,0.4551,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,8,0,0,2,16,7,0,0,11,0,14,7,7,0,3,40,29,15,0,6,10,2,1,0,0,4,0,2,7,1,5,19,0,1,1,0,0,6,3,3,0,0,5,3,28,4,43,16,6,37,0,1,0,0,30,11,0,5,19,132,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531587030060112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800344844525345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266235778364352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736642195305241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250088686508583,0.0,0.0,0.32317888949051743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626702817837226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944948140223203,0.0,0.10318537307336006,0.2520686293417556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714413413462487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192222271046657,0.0,0.05543475974695439,0.08181270634669313,0.07801239421957863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038341363666907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978415082558304,0.0,0.09605817034549692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901775713449198,0.0,0.10328176367308983,0.0,0.09974221203759323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613043039220934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889119585662308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571248338471794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373588824571699,0.09153555750686987,0.0,0.09359315538593804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418427449626325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333349917063044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756846449612531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879760152758448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4880568767591789,0.0,0.08264611553848264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903997403345229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839970672404213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480186133955104,0.0,0.09583347089658767,0.0,0.17063070635714075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244778076660674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346594636949267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259650748457667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904214216083766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18805195626441296,0.0,0.07101096053555724,0.09905755165956603,0.0,0.06929027983134521,0.0,0.0,0.12562632499436865
parenting,mermaidlegend,2020/04/12,Toddler Afraid to Poop My 3.5 yr old is all of a sudden afraid to poop in the potty. We have looked at her diet and have modified it so her poop should be soft. What else can we try?,0.054999999999999716,1.8199465000000004,1.8800000000000023,99.395,84.0,5.0,15.0,5.985473137389443,-0.9320000000000004,140,2,35,1,4,46,33,40,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,6,4,3,0,1,5,7,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,0,5,5,1,4,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4851344763966949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4876760660193484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6093898501174176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39428492872169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iamgoingtohavea,2020/04/12,"[UPDATE] It looks like my 7 year old brother will be coming to live with me (23f) [My previous post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/bcflxh/it_looks_like_my_7_year_old_brother_will_be/)

Wooooooow, so, I stumbled upon this old throwaway I made and it's ... really interesting to look back on my past self writing, haha. I figured I'd update since your comments and responses in my first post helped me so much! So, my brother has been living with me for ALMOST AN ENTIRE YEAR NOW!!! I almost can't believe it's only been that long; it feels like he's been here for WAY longer. Like, I can barely remember what life was like before he came! I guess that's because he changed my life so completely. In some ways, he's made life much harder -- but in other ways, he's added a lot of joy. 

I will say that, first of all, I was really depressed and anxious before he came. I've been that way since I was young, possibly due to the difficult childhood I had with my mom. Having my little brother around has honestly helped a lot with my feelings of nihilism and worthlessness. When things are tough, I think about how much he needs me and how I want to do good in life so he can have a better future, so that's given me more motivation. My brother is SUPER funny, which I didn't expect! I'm more serious and reserved, but he's very bubbly and he loves being the clown! But he also enjoys reading, like I do, which also surprised me because my mom doesn't like to read at all. I've started reading the Harry Potter series to him at night, and it's been so cool introducing him to the series I loved as a child. 

Obviously, there have been difficulties too. I have decided to push my goal of starting law school back two years, because it just doesn't seem feasible to move somewhere else, start a rigorous academic program, etc., etc., when my brother has just started getting used to a structured life at my place. I don't want to unsettle him just when he's getting settled, and I'm not sure how I'd be able to handle going to law school while learning how to take care of him. Luckily, the law firm I work at (I am a paralegal) has allowed us and their lawyers to work from home, so I am still getting paid during these difficult times. Little Brother has been home as well, of course, and HE'S BEEN DRIVING ME CRAZY because he is so energetic! But I guess that's normal for parents at this time, lol. 
One thing that's been so amazing is seeing him get to have his own space! Our mom's a hoarder and I remember feeling so upset as a kid that I never had any space. I had to argue with my mom endlessly just to prevent her from putting her stuff in my room too. It was disgusting and claustrophobic. I've made sure to let my brother know that he has TOTAL control over his bedroom (as long as he keeps it reasonably clean lol), and that he can choose how he decorates it. He loves Star Wars (which is funny, since I'm meh at best about the whole series), so I've helped him decorate his room with Star Wars stuff. He did wet the bed for a while when he first came, which I was not prepared for  at all since he was already 7. But he seems to have stopped in recent months. He also still goes to a childhood therapist and I think that is helping him! I am thinking of going to a therapist too, but it's kind of expensive? I'm lucky that I have good insurance, but it's still 20 bucks a week for, and I'm not sure if it's worth it. 

In regards to my mom -- I have cut total contact with her except when absolutely necessary. I opened contact with her when I got Little Brother (LB) because I thought I should maintain some sort of connection, but her toxic words and actions were just too much. I let her talk on the phone with LB, but she said horrible things, like that I was kidnapping him and that the government was persecuting her, and other equally crazy stuff, so I decided to end the calls. Especially because LB seemed upset and unhappy after those calls and I couldn't keep letting her upset him. Things are much more peaceful now. 

OK, I have so much more stuff to say, if I could, but I've noticed this post is already way too long, so I'll end it here! Anyway, I guess I just wanted to let this sub know that things are OK -- or at least as OK as things could be -- and that I'm grateful for your support and help in my previous post! Stay safe out there!",5.2548805534072365,5.694575179814386,5.666182005671568,82.87064363667614,68.08352668213458,8.705370800034371,30.000085932800552,8.626192665926032,2.1270816533470818,3423,121,688,50,54,1098,340,862,0.09300000000000001,0.7290000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.998,3,0,0,0,0,0,129.0,2,2,1,11,57,49,5,3,24,7,73,8,0,13,10,136,131,74,2,12,23,14,4,7,0,3,5,3,7,3,53,39,0,6,21,3,4,11,10,14,1,5,34,11,93,35,86,83,26,100,0,2,3,3,87,31,0,18,56,455,146,14,0.04763402836691324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539719737664372,0.0,0.10513066959607986,0.11427874582596025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032392772729934606,0.0,0.0,0.05381289356749238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04240438424702357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325525508211755,0.0,0.1742235694164216,0.0,0.08106609945655363,0.05366723812400875,0.04998897398506539,0.042128427152278665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727933753253157,0.1634419158053966,0.04856606656164144,0.0,0.050390485965431435,0.04103249763297631,0.049943372467393735,0.0,0.05342561321713764,0.07606379126963045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04102711883359687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039792118435537975,0.0,0.08437922120882344,0.0,0.10624906623170266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225558795416648,0.03402975938305172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215524405851252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954725519877602,0.0,0.05414303209506256,0.07990632602599666,0.038097283936324604,0.0,0.15742275766199415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964042566058764,0.0,0.09556162858658006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846786261278212,0.0,0.04960351042236512,0.05235683250598696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948360852373188,0.16822661470564412,0.16290106120654393,0.14322543099571966,0.08412343948767903,0.12646384844778522,0.08000117378320942,0.0,0.0,0.08099349501715092,0.12897471107332106,0.13521740815018726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27894199158279204,0.03802102698733112,0.050627433716832176,0.21009895014738705,0.03532002846548432,0.03673829922126467,0.0,0.0,0.044701308804771946,0.04667123413772778,0.0,0.05423165701194498,0.09996779973006356,0.0,0.03227805039976405,0.036227825044563164,0.0,0.0,0.05289195139425738,0.0,0.04547206997887565,0.0,0.0,0.049767421257293734,0.0,0.0,0.05370020983941565,0.1824809276555651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788535511566424,0.0,0.0,0.1429407564344524,0.0,0.06103115662170117,0.048975714597408335,0.04703285640032636,0.0,0.10792013688167064,0.0,0.04531086905967235,0.07576098249454706,0.0,0.09641635953344033,0.037958153409987136,0.1300926912487446,0.04969268018226212,0.0,0.0,0.15761344200631086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486244179639878,0.05077153632998435,0.11412178975559932,0.039824180625338206,0.0,0.0,0.21811826455470693,0.0,0.0540545309019984,0.13468352403073686,0.0,0.03581486120394473,0.03828642765639943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106135566528038,0.18987559110977487,0.09156588599925744,0.0,0.03781609775072815,0.055551570006912084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046531524219444266,0.0,0.057297871102177066,0.041140506509583716,0.0,0.03930306204171913,0.08428735225777317,0.18904837268069494,0.03820914431563938,0.0,0.04282871211868675,0.0,0.0,0.05318169156243604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693562799393052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202425757597724
parenting,jnewland1207,2020/04/12,"In-laws rant I allowed my wife’s parents to come over if they wore a mask, and not kiss our newborn. They come over, wear a mask only over their mouth (not their nose), and then kiss our baby. I decided to refrain and not say anything, but I’m so pissed how disrespectful it was. I have no idea how to handle this going forward without them thinking I’m an asshole who’s overreacting.",6.6679870129870125,5.723428233766235,6.93568181818182,79.62352272727277,65.36363636363636,9.258441558441561,34.83441558441558,8.07648339933343,2.5282753246753247,302,12,61,3,4,98,55,77,0.19899999999999998,0.8009999999999999,0.0,-0.9369,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,5,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,2,6,4,3,0,18,9,9,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,0,0,4,5,1,0,0,2,2,11,2,7,7,0,8,0,0,0,2,12,4,1,1,2,39,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739058071966195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5734387112870031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891653709912824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757452393254022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531461464045716,0.0,0.0,0.3695886698912817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646943439569938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21327576390357056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208539031717233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaLuna93,2020/04/12,"I made my 7 year old scrub a toilet. TL;DR Some context, my 7 year old has been staying with my parents, specifically my dad and his gf, for a while. Somewhere just over a year, while I have dealt with an abusive relationship to keep her out of the crosshairs and turmoil. I explain this because my dad has the habit of taking a poo before he showers and forgetting to flush, leaving it for the next pour soul to wander into the bathroom to find. 

Well multiple times now I’ve caught my daughter doing the same thing, only just randomly not flushing and leaving it. So today when I lifted the lid to find the toilet dirty I hollered for her to come to the bathroom. Being Easter she was carrying her basket of goodies all excited. I showed her the toilet and then flushed while asking if she knew why she shouldn’t leave poo in the toilet like that. She of course didn’t. So I pointed to where it had stuck to the sides(loosely, it wasn’t very old) and said that’s why. Then i told her to put her basket down and come back with her sleeves rolled up, and proceeded to have her scrub the spots off the sides of the bowl that she had made. She did it, well for a 7 yo, not even touching the water with her hand. Then had her wash her hands and sanitize and reiterated that she needed to flush EVERYTIME.

TL;DR My 7year old left a poo in the toilet and I made her scrub the spots out.",5.258453475935832,5.590230276363638,5.393732620320859,85.20424598930485,68.05454545454546,8.070588235294117,28.540106951871657,7.724431198458867,1.55559679144385,1086,34,223,11,17,342,139,275,0.048,0.9059999999999999,0.046,-0.128,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,1,24,0,15,4,2,3,1,40,30,21,0,3,5,4,3,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,11,20,1,1,4,1,0,4,5,1,2,0,16,4,36,4,34,12,3,38,1,0,0,0,31,13,0,3,21,154,47,0,0.0,0.14028083629524676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068501667763404,0.0,0.0,0.0910398236573137,0.0,0.07217358453824063,0.0,0.1007469483361679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039767028065243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781999634646325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164250430627785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523650735471024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760953178145195,0.1286384592468309,0.0,0.0,0.05784269136034141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33608971751153216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778971991741627,0.0,0.0,0.12591632982448026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969500603680954,0.0,0.0,0.09004609429993413,0.0,0.0,0.13146562447776838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192323619866247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190214758138796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271138441799825,0.0,0.0,0.11262246030890374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619522542406686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901965175503809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865756666915161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690381206323963,0.0,0.11222631357201612,0.113133207056708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976897516351434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129058669925738,0.0,0.21366937587444546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287309537730985
parenting,TrexMommy,2020/04/12,"I tried. I really did today. But they broke my spirit I put together an egg hunt and a scavenger hunt for my 3 teens. All morning has been nothing but attitude and brattiness.  My 18 yo daughter whined and complained the entire egg hunt. My sons 15 and 17 just shuffled along.  We barely made it through the end. I even put dollar bills in the eggs.

I spent the last hour setting up the 20 clue scavenger hunt, and we I call them out to start, NOBODY CAME. I waited 5 minutes.  Knocked on their doors and they said they were busy.  

I blew up. I so tired of their attitude.  My daughter goes out of her way to make me feel bad. My sons barely knowledgeable my existence.  My Easter is ruined and its not even 1pm. 
 
I miss being with my family.  I guess I was just trying to occupy myself to fill the void of my extended family. I guess My teenagers dont want anything to do with me. 

I was really excited to do this today. It's hard to accept I'm going to spend it alone in my room.  

I hope yall have a more wholesome Easter Sunday with your family.",1.3395025728988017,3.5388160377358524,3.1964837049742734,89.30880789022301,82.0188679245283,6.496054888507719,20.485420240137227,7.686295010490155,0.8298320754716988,808,23,168,14,22,270,130,212,0.127,0.809,0.064,-0.9252,0,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,2,6,0,5,9,0,0,9,0,12,4,0,2,1,32,27,10,0,2,5,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,5,16,3,1,3,0,4,5,2,6,0,0,9,3,41,3,24,17,2,22,1,4,0,0,18,8,0,3,7,108,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586017264572568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601709642782288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786136849847682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636800537833015,0.17514569909672886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947313558839942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563219950370534,0.0,0.0,0.20228850970612072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330862833246434,0.0,0.07742968138568411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703017669100199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373910396066774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717892408369756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209765535333278,0.15080717542466246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482550265929512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490008492503426,0.102218833552169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469372084859465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30788603854402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962044657978157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456664980772567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838977504910456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17600621042655662,0.2903082394988893,0.0,0.0,0.20793729088150645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090323018813467,0.12155147313257075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PeacetimeMandylorian,2020/04/12,"Other kids’ phone etiquette I suck at correcting other people’s kids.

I don’t want conflict with the parents.

Because of coronavirus, my 8-year-old has been playing games online with friends.

He has one friend who messages at 7:45 in the morning and 8:45 at night and all day.

When she calls, I message to say if he can or can’t play- if he can talk on the phone I have him call.

If I don’t answer, she will call 5+ times repeatedly as I try to type a message.

If I answer and say he can’t play right now I get.

Why not?
Why does he have to do that?
Can’t he do it later?
But I can’t play later.
When can he play?
Exactly when?

That’s why I text back instead of answering.

I’ve told her this. “Hi! I don’t answer my phone because I’m busy but if you call I’ll always text you and let you know if Liam can play. 

Please don’t call more than once at a time- I’m usually working on my phone and can’t answer-

But I’ll always message you if you call!”

He doesn’t always want to play online and I promote offline play, so I tell her I’m not sure when he will be online because he’s doing other things- but he will call when he does go online.

They end up playing most days. I don’t want to make him play when he wants to be doing physical activity during a quarantine. And I really don’t want to schedule it at his point because we just aren’t that organized.

Plus if the schedule changes his friend has a tough time with it.  

I don’t want to decline six calls in a row and get twenty messages when I’m on the phone with my mother.

This kid is making me crazy- I really don’t want to talk to her mom about it because you know how parents can be.

My child is an introvert and so his friends are usually really outgoing and... dare I say pushy. 😂 This can be really good for him because they are the ones that get him involved and playing. That’s part of the reason I try to be extra patient.

But I do not like an eight year old blowing up my phone. Is there a better way I should handle this?

Edit- the admin is ridiculous with the “corona content” label. This was an issue before and it will be one after- clearly more annoying and prevalent right now though, which is why it was mentioned.

Coronaparenting IS parenting. It has been for more than a MONTH and it will be for months and months afterwards.

Stop acting as if all related things can go into one little thread, because that is some imaginary, unicorn, fairytale nonsense.

Coronavirus is affecting parenting. It’s affecting kids, parents, family, friends.

It’s disingenuous to pretend you can shove it in the corner and focus on “normal” parenting issues.",1.6864451432564636,3.916368790566041,3.2883438155136275,88.9680573025856,80.90566037735849,6.190076869322152,23.211041229909164,7.3871296695380915,1.013659678546471,2049,71,419,30,54,676,216,530,0.062,0.802,0.136,0.988,8,1,0,0,0,0,64.0,1,7,2,3,18,24,3,0,20,0,62,0,0,6,6,75,84,45,0,18,19,8,0,1,5,6,0,3,0,5,29,24,0,2,8,13,0,3,18,4,0,6,5,3,50,20,45,65,9,56,0,0,0,0,84,20,1,12,33,272,79,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270187552014908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703806575644635,0.0,0.2610323675183031,0.0,0.05205350131647872,0.0,0.0,0.05410232274485069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4997137060509148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471265412110651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890272103504012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706536463634372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418089598144416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057668220755995626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363095593249674,0.0,0.09588070502242016,0.0,0.06953176263152859,0.05130879707883781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276969074289334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672378828646534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255327743278037,0.0,0.029885913773065563,0.06131116221509704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166656602635601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164478085618428,0.14648250686339748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740647822742648,0.059936302940834275,0.0,0.0,0.12838101326543255,0.06514697809777899,0.16580894358959095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075505711988998,0.06624412274883483,0.0,0.042409479755082274,0.0,0.0,0.06714930534953473,0.05782801781123645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675531019012715,0.06289577126226424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044823817962266,0.0,0.14594106889765293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051143154845379485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057654589217442875,0.0,0.0,0.09833667221074316,0.053467676359564266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128090860879834,0.0,0.060101912418797226,0.0,0.10701096050773988,0.0,0.0,0.05845318036645365,0.0,0.08306455818853263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474627474234793,0.0,0.25256889392626497,0.04855607847019544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207955540501226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044534487699899164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878648567841601
parenting,HisGrilledCheese,2020/04/12,"Quarantined with ADHD Is anyone else quarantined with a kid that has been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, DMDD, and is extremely clingy? How are you keeping them occupied and not climbing up the walls? 

We live in a small one bedroom apartment, have a tight budget now that my husband has been laid off, and have done every indoor activity I can think of with a 7 year old. Normally when he gets restless, we would spend a couple of hours at the playground and dog park, but with parks closed now our only outdoor time is walking the dog. 

We have been on lockdown for a month, and I'm out of ideas, alcohol, and patience. I'm open to any and all suggestions.",8.316506666666669,6.909915064000003,7.9222,75.37076666666667,62.36,11.213333333333333,36.83333333333333,10.125756701596842,3.539213333333333,513,20,97,9,6,163,89,125,0.034,0.966,0.0,-0.4454,0,3,1,0,0,0,16.0,4,1,1,1,4,1,0,1,9,0,15,2,0,1,1,28,20,10,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,18,1,2,2,0,2,2,1,1,0,1,4,1,8,0,16,15,1,21,0,0,0,0,10,11,0,0,8,65,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4998556723971286,0.0,0.0,0.22224628784271516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142011738730076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454106586981705,0.2130798760283504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301040873971332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21107530029053528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128155622744758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372412380872826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521549985726745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865065977190054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479897920138435,0.0,0.0,0.2347618360118095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18484464647457186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836327316984679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599190642192832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20375691409300933,0.0,0.0,0.21821932457963286,0.0,0.14091926352292405,0.15816315920847876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325254632823905,0.0,0.0,0.12126330797496727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772901177482195,0.0,0.0,0.1339195980265418
parenting,rebinnorge,2020/04/12,"Cuddler struggling with Corona My 8 yo son is a cuddler. He loves it. We live in Scandinavia and I am from the US. Since the quarantine, he hasn't been able to get near his maternal grandparents and the grandmother is a stroke survivor and at high risk. He is used to seeing my mother via Skype, etc. We have met his grandparents a few times observing the distance recommendations. Now, he doesn't want to see or even talk to any of them. When we ask about it, he says he misses them terribly and doesn't want to see or talk to them until he can hug them. We aren't pressing him to talk to them and hope this will go over when restrictions are lifted. Is anyone else dealing with this? Curious to know what y'all are doing to deal with it if you are. Stay safe y'all.",2.429133640552994,4.401313632258066,3.496889400921664,89.71104838709678,77.19354838709677,7.267281105990782,22.68433179723502,8.192908349453996,1.1340783410138258,603,18,129,11,14,194,97,155,0.079,0.812,0.109,0.7834,2,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,3,5,0,5,8,0,2,7,0,17,3,0,1,0,22,31,11,0,4,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,12,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,6,19,4,21,28,2,12,0,1,3,2,34,5,0,4,5,84,25,0,0.17124924593028001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645535961945574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974145449774612,0.17546508975517847,0.0,0.0,0.16009492799587666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531009060499271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305677075146464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098817690604789,0.11310851184684605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947066294660015,0.0,0.09732489290259927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093423056137292,0.0,0.17008914127058214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411410700859496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121622158806414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455913046903216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618427380519552,0.0,0.0,0.4093904318754605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165914587440614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825289107244796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790268940439391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41293097121784494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985681245190182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599175749061366,0.14790436497807652,0.0,0.0,0.2020144843292958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,innercollectives,2020/04/12,Second baby! So I have been debating and going back and forth with this. We are expecting our second baby in oct. What are yalls thoughts on having a baby shower for the second baby. Is it tacky? Its not like we are hurting for anything cause we have been parents for 3 years now. But it's just been weighing on my mind.,1.6134598214285705,4.023127890625002,3.094464285714285,89.16125000000002,82.59375,4.9071428571428575,20.080357142857142,6.1826913282559595,0.22446696428571444,251,7,48,2,7,82,47,64,0.081,0.919,0.0,-0.6251,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,1,0,13,12,4,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,4,0,7,1,7,8,0,7,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,4,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039741533631248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840359200004455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794623588414589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099312317661812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954365874836733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18046390464989145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729757244198792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4101607197475743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932521387964392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378732159092233
parenting,SportsandMusic2020,2020/04/12,"What is important when looking at childcare options? Hello everyone,

Hope all are staying safe. My wife and I are parents to a 9 month old daughter and were planning on sending our daughter to a daycare/Montessori later this year (pending it is safe following covid-19).

As we start our search, what are some important factors/questions to look for and ask when choosing a location? Daycare vs. Montessori vs. at home care? Further, what was the deciding factor for you (distance, curriculum, cost, etc.)? This is our first child so kind of going into this eyes wide open and there don't seem to be a ton of good resources out there.

Thanks in advance!",5.922820512820515,7.955412222222222,5.314188034188035,80.1169230769231,67.80341880341881,7.593162393162394,37.78632478632478,8.167268648758528,3.323386324786325,518,29,84,7,9,157,87,117,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.9664,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,1,0,3,5,7,0,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,1,19,20,8,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,8,0,2,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,2,3,7,7,15,17,4,22,0,0,3,0,13,9,0,4,8,58,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178382405538583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23757505313059896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598741193404582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22265650323047328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982030498153996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242820180125234,0.19544252803552045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23373376305746266,0.23143718377295855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24265001179579396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913490314875087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599092218288624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445107974935023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587363781401336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212875726782984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492972379405962,0.24836375055840004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145295655336691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005448200592209
parenting,papnvleis,2020/04/12,"Have you ever packed up and starter over? Have any of you decided to completely change your way of living or a big move?

How?

Did it end up benefiting your kids?

Do they like they new lifestyle?

Any other info would be appreciated.",0.8022727272727295,3.1408924090909096,2.6459090909090897,85.88886363636364,102.1818181818182,5.836363636363638,19.13636363636364,7.1686216300943375,0.9711909090909095,182,6,35,4,8,60,37,44,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.7757,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,7,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,6,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,5,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325561595245592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364441084977048,0.0,0.3334588484954936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28168900648039386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876853531582532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537826028895368,0.0,0.28083511262035565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380261467228421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30716497648907004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524453177654672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259264635195868,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eskimokiss88,2020/04/12,"anyone with kids not adjusting well to distance learning? My 8 year old has been severely averse to being photographed or videoed for about a year now. Other than begging for a few holiday pics to send her grandparents we just let her be and never photographed her.

Now with the shutdowns she is being expected to be on camera every day sometimes multiple times a day for class meets and tutoring. She is paralyzed with anxiety over this and crying constantly.

Even if we get the school to let her opt out of anything camera related (not sure this is even a possibility) then the quality of her current school experience will plummet even lower. She is supposed to be getting speech and sets services in addition to classwork. I don't see how this can happen without video chatting.

Homeschooling is not an option (husband refuses to the point it might dissolve our marriage).

She is a sweet, happy clever kid otherwise. Just HATES cameras.",5.940812660393503,8.442219886227543,5.9495680068434575,73.65324850299405,68.7005988023952,9.082805816937556,35.281864841745076,9.606745405546679,3.962630795551755,759,39,116,18,14,239,115,167,0.087,0.831,0.083,0.0652,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,10,6,1,0,10,0,19,0,0,1,2,28,24,8,0,2,8,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,11,0,1,2,4,0,1,6,1,1,0,1,3,14,5,23,14,1,19,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,4,12,92,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272457396198749,0.0,0.0,0.11630522626723053,0.0,0.13687944617386674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797489302566949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18271107199347528,0.214544493841774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295878887961421,0.0,0.14014432324885534,0.0,0.0,0.16270744475974325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380623514105248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708939857743158,0.1770665890233168,0.0,0.1642212726812737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34017739994036456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645503821944405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282877254703449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454049206803945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724024024057548,0.18751760216464705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366795884638199,0.13254737609636238,0.0,0.0,0.18791108633454331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645094646162082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676867032023506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699121507465444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955504688552054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160340903387064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21422843812878575
parenting,babatoger,2020/04/12,"6 month old not feeding Hey all, before I begin please be assured that we are speaking with our pediatrician and are seeing a pediatric GI specialist. We are desperate; any advice on feeding strategies, even questions to ask, avenues to explore, tests to request would be very helpful.

Baby girl was born in October. Her weight was at 25th percentile and she maintained this growth curve for a few months. At 3 months she had terrible acid reflux so we put her on cimetidine. At 4 months her weight dropped to 10th percentile and she was drinking very little milk. We then changed to pepcid (Omeprazole). She was exclusively breastfed and we were advised at this point to fortify her milk with formula to 22 calories per ounce. We did a weight check at 5 months and she was 9th percentile, and at 6 months she was 6th percentile. 

We're now on Omeprazole twice a day and have bumped up her formula to 24 calories/ounce. She struggles just to drink 15 ounces of milk a day.

What options should we look at? Please help, the info online isn't good and we're lost here. We'll take anything you've got. 

Many, many thanks for your help.",4.498836229594524,6.72722921800948,4.137116903633494,86.28007240652978,71.98578199052133,6.774196945760926,29.73170089520801,7.594959193182576,1.8724437072143232,899,38,165,11,18,271,131,211,0.059000000000000004,0.841,0.1,0.8354,0,0,2,0,0,0,26.0,9,1,0,1,5,6,0,1,6,0,19,11,0,0,2,27,27,10,0,2,2,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,4,17,10,0,3,2,1,3,2,3,0,1,11,7,23,3,26,11,2,31,0,1,2,0,32,14,0,2,13,95,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292633992210326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858646447174561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950980929514076,0.0,0.10803533999780564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833517800281112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222498045490522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490565076634059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264145145898595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632794297102635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692834422764134,0.09242589004322084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23237732831379224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582398681166453,0.0,0.0,0.09704339689640434,0.0,0.12615012264696965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23432447846070556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5534453215407492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126340661392772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537058498395857,0.10924391791522904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617223353765267,0.12945645046295562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208835252347494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081101886804455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688861991006183,0.0,0.0,0.10639442594231403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070233440795112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221719857869514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209228608892842,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skyrim_Ranker,2020/04/12,"My 5 year-old (M) doesn't stop throwing rocks at our dog We're 5 in our family, me 56M, my wife 47F, my three sons, 21M, 19M, and 5M.  We live on a lake where we all hang out including the dog.

We used to always throw the dog's toys for her to fetch.  Since our ""beach"" area is full of rocks, we would throw the rocks into the lake to try and reduce the amount of rocks where we step, she thought they were toys and would try to get them, but never could because they would sink.

Now that my 5 year old is old enough to throw, he throws toys, coconuts, and rocks.  But, since he can barely throw 5 feet, the dog would catch it.  I know he throws things to make the dog go fetch, but he can't throw that far and the dog catches it.  We explained to him that rocks and coconuts are not to be thrown because it can hurt her, but he can throw her toys.  (At this point we stopped throwing rocks and coconuts whenever he's outside to try and help him understand by seeing us NOT throw them)

He was good for a few days, but then started mixing toys, rocks, and coconuts, so we outright told him he's not allowed to throw anything.  He stopped throwing things for about 3 to 4 days.  He then started splashing her with water, which we found to be OK.  He then started throwing leaves at her, which we found OK.  Then he started throwing rocks again.  We told him he's not allowed to throw anything, not even water anymore.  We put him in time out for 5 mins.  Would go back to playing and do the same.  We would put him in time out again, but for 10 mins.  We did this twice and then realized he needed a more severe punishment.  So we told him if he does it again, we would not allow him to go in the lake for the rest of the day.

(Mind you, every time we would punish him, we would ask him why he thought he was being punished - to make sure he understood why.  He knew why every time)

Then, he starts to grab rocks and ""drop"" them close to him.  Each time he would ""drop"" them a little farther.  But we all knew he was challenging us and seeing if we would say anything.  He would take little steps, and eventually threw rocks about 6 inches away from him in which the dog would go for them.  So, I told him he's not allowed to touch rocks, at all.  He again threw rocks whenever we would turn our back.  So we told him he's not allowed to be in the lake for the next 3 days.

We waited awhile for the 3 day punishment because we didn't want him to go crazy quarantined only indoors...

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The next time he went in the lake, it was perfect.  No touching rocks, swam around normally, we thought he learned his lesson.  We gave him positive feedback and gave him a new toy because he behaved.  But then the next day, he threw a big rock,  our dog caught it, bit herself and started bleeding...  I immediately raised my voice, told him he's not allowed to be in the lake at all and put him inside.  Thankfully the dog only bit a tiny little part of her tongue and she's fine.  But I have no idea what to do with him about this.

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The only reason I mention the rest of the family is because we all agreed to do the same thing so that my 5 year old doesn't get ""mixed directions"" from all of us.  Any advice?

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TLDR: 5 year old son threw toys, rocks, and coconuts for my dog to fetch, but since he can't throw far, the dog catches it.  We told him not to throw rocks because it can hurt her, but he doesn't stop.",4.38674786682282,4.509004671942448,4.533920026769284,91.34429981596121,69.90647482014388,7.501087502091348,26.522502927890248,6.8252276405021135,0.863317885226702,2617,72,597,18,43,814,232,695,0.067,0.871,0.062,-0.6464,5,1,0,0,0,0,115.0,36,1,7,3,19,15,4,0,33,2,44,4,1,10,9,139,95,44,0,20,23,3,3,0,0,14,1,2,0,0,22,56,2,5,16,26,0,39,19,6,0,2,30,7,89,9,70,45,19,125,0,2,2,0,126,34,0,2,50,343,111,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04713083141116379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0401321037431307,0.15677499270815334,0.17581804289292008,0.03279877317171683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047832249199072537,0.0,0.0,0.11907015288481945,0.04293586696019944,0.045089528265917986,0.0,0.045314666409257465,0.0741734125419365,0.0,0.17640723077636986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531164661947166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038508575002718835,0.0,0.0,0.18663025309064624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042207323645297036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04983557561235242,0.0,0.03185615875454618,0.0,0.08127349265661908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093589755245672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576573068755682,0.0,0.0,0.05039747400373675,0.0,0.1370541079734336,0.040453922919200636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03232826133120286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326468968275583,0.05444699347575679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02650652797879374,0.0,0.0,0.05106972612401734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502057180516864,0.04258890761196349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438921111383124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04869961918105276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035762718175324934,0.037198765073895336,0.04658185610503938,0.15388283120461782,0.0,0.047256196154916524,0.0,0.0,0.2530519087666711,0.0,0.0,0.11004567834137996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222953544230957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045593939213024126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545660358685994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049589560220594915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0383552729619956,0.0,0.0,0.0768678170338221,0.0,0.0,0.05448736681324178,0.0,0.11969168808760168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20482914544281788,0.0,0.0,0.16129329563355166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04545720112199986,0.0,0.03626375298583697,0.0,0.0,0.044404677913352494,0.0,0.0,0.09612771490073876,0.0,0.0,0.1148702171351394,0.1687435057671708,0.0,0.0,0.3226078979215363,0.0,0.09823716669228727,0.05246154091636099,0.0,0.05021023205940682,0.17404807175699602,0.04165614819167411,0.0,0.0,0.0284479274743958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0447106737245548,0.1305630832280298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4796674343538001,0.0,0.17581804289292008,0.12423687945020673
parenting,Mabway,2020/04/12,"How to deal with extreme performance anxiety in a child? My 6 year old, who will be 7 next month, has extreme performance anxiety. After the kids opened up their Easter baskets this morning I thought it would be a fun to do a chalk obstacle course for her and my 4 year old. She was excited when I set it up but when it was her turn to go she just cried and told us to stop looking at her. This isn't new. Her teacher says she does the same thing in class. She'll have the right answer written on her paper but won't raise her hand when the teacher ask a question. When the teacher calls on her anyway she says she doesn't know the answer (even though it is written on her paper!) I have seen this too since we have started homeschooling. She does zoom and doesn't ever share with the class. The teacher ends every session by asking the kids what they plan on doing for the rest of the day. My daughter never answers. When they do circle time on Monday mornings and go around talking about their weekend my daughter stays quiet. It has been this way the entire school year. 

It's the same in sports or music. She'll play the piano but doesn't want to do recitals. She'll hit the ball off the tee in the backyard with her big brother but will refuse to go out when it's her time to hit in a game. I am getting very worried for her. She has always been like this but it has gotten way worse in the last year.",3.2434589800443483,4.5901195052264825,3.682396262274313,91.8969995248654,73.45993031358884,6.19379157427938,24.5437123851758,6.351523495107088,0.5805554006968641,1106,33,236,7,22,345,150,287,0.098,0.867,0.035,-0.9436,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,4,3,15,5,0,0,23,0,30,1,1,1,2,33,49,18,0,2,7,3,1,1,0,7,0,3,1,3,16,11,0,2,6,5,0,3,6,0,0,0,10,6,35,5,34,28,3,54,0,0,2,0,46,20,0,2,28,162,51,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873834317728318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999435729034893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633516812413508,0.24434107066318084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13344148591953556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435486353120151,0.0842794280846688,0.13472796189801925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22872234520835705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574594301768545,0.0,0.0,0.0863145860763598,0.11820984038294564,0.1101056773933082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682762341411588,0.0,0.22280969951727325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181970709147494,0.10652371318037948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384488868167486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097404215090222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043095577347975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079043222519148,0.12621401278649885,0.13898236530468291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27425868798962977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639435443539164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116021762899588,0.0,0.2078480042160129,0.0,0.1322577086710927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810194865472443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249777539875896,0.1392902012315849,0.0,0.10925645615947924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503767658393484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681967366764935,0.0,0.12839493338136196,0.1037473404637041,0.15240408158426205,0.0,0.0,0.12487276855323975,0.0,0.0,0.1421450785706389,0.0,0.0,0.15719500674731926,0.0,0.0,0.10782678281049783,0.07707994876602496,0.2074594371306926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271446423948388,0.13317667417460444,0.09283312792167976,0.0,0.0,0.3366210881791536
parenting,Omar_Town,2020/04/12,"Lying or making up stories? So wife and I noticed that our 4 YO makes up stuff when talking to us about literally anything. For example, just this morning, I went over to check on new flowers we have planted. He started talking to me about flowers, what different color flowers there are, their names, etc. Then he started telling me how he saw a brown flower on top of our TV and it is not there now. Is this normal for kids his age to make up stories? We are little bit worried that he is normalizing lying at this age and might get accustomed to it when he deals with more serious things. Are we overthinking it? Has anyone dealt with this? Thank you!",3.5110822510822497,5.602238333333332,4.236002886002886,85.09435064935066,74.39682539682539,6.8040404040404034,28.914862914862915,7.686295010490155,1.862422222222221,514,22,97,7,11,164,86,126,0.087,0.877,0.035,-0.784,5,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,6,1,1,1,10,2,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,4,0,19,18,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,3,13,1,19,15,3,19,0,0,3,0,21,9,0,2,9,70,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286779766191964,0.0,0.151440917486715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009129744065712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972673383454192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227206422721269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052419712583495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614802094259947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444629419320047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685241378282814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952266291986786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777372126230137,0.0,0.0,0.3606204340506126,0.0,0.20951924726501026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605146038897451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106701930303677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958325061418729,0.16085023358462222,0.16942999570358788,0.0,0.0,0.12226128032733245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136529629864554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059754992115228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689128431867547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Voltairus,2020/04/12,"Leaky diaper question I have a 5 month old who sleeps through the night. We don’t wake up until 7-8 with her. When she does wake up her wet diaper has leaked though to her clothes, blanket and the sheet sometimes. She sleeps right through it. What’s the best way to prevent leakage? Is it the brand of diaper? Should we use a bigger diaper at bedtime than during the day? Should I set an alarm at 3 am to change her and hope she doesn’t wake up?",2.1360869565217366,3.8675645652173967,2.8754347826086963,94.92989130434783,77.26086956521739,6.339130434782609,21.28260869565217,7.1686216300943375,0.3499739130434785,348,9,79,4,8,109,63,92,0.052000000000000005,0.847,0.10099999999999999,0.6662,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,8,0,8,5,5,1,0,11,10,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,11,2,14,8,1,15,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,2,6,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597990120162735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618857204940862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965575997342554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21664147869192285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458830003041648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760007977166674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323183481778138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597726411735357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27732392642390497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21141494045689704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954776941933439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24484323159085464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24322650416119335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213812408877048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965016543864341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,covid19muted,2020/04/12,"Parents who only have one child, do you wish you had more, if you had the chance? Why? My husband and I have an amazing 3 year old boy (4 in September). He is a rainbow baby following a miscarriage. Pregnancy with my son was pretty rough, I had high blood pressure (not preeclampsia) extensive monitoring and swelling. I ended up being induced 10 days early and then having an emergency caesarean under general anaesthetic. It was pretty traumatic, I ended up with postnatal depression and I had been pretty hesitant having another baby. However, husband and I have been trying for over a year with no luck- husband really wants another baby, so I’m interested to see others experience/ opinions on this - Should I work harder on this and look at hormones or IVF to give my son a sibling and husband another child?",6.17554171855542,8.147436205479455,7.448007471980077,65.30427770859279,67.08219178082193,11.062515566625157,36.56039850560399,11.022393298168332,5.020090410958905,650,34,95,21,11,221,98,146,0.102,0.7440000000000001,0.154,0.8488,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,0,1,1,5,0,1,7,0,17,1,1,1,0,20,24,11,0,4,3,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,10,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,8,3,13,3,14,14,1,18,0,1,2,0,16,9,0,4,8,71,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188701556387889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637434445403812,0.0,0.14206483680174184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921804072840043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134553224072795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582279907142346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742709338715018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851025883095178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730795332190233,0.0,0.111769387972859,0.12544629501068738,0.0,0.0,0.18314925972324425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.503417827051834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566646588625912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143791284386758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198521177419833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972874307155898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14883505924984214,0.0,0.1896758726846578,0.0,0.0,0.12008019172290353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243527868087295
parenting,JofTheNorth,2020/04/12,"Son (6 years old) calls aunt his mom Hi, this is my first time posting on here. I’m having difficulties with my 6 year old son. I’m a 27 year old single parent and I had my son when I was doing my final year of uni. Because of that he was raised by his grandparents while I was away studying. Then I got a job (which didn’t pay much) in another city and financially it would have been difficult to send him to nursery there and find a babysitter etc. So he continued staying with my parents.

My mom passed away and my dad moved out to go start a new family. I finally came back home due to unemployment plus I gave someone money in the hopes of an investment which turned out to be a scam so I was hit hard financially and couldn’t even afford to buy enough food. I assessed the situation and felt it would be best if my son was raised by his aunt for the time being until I got back on my feet. 

For the past year things have slowly been getting better financially and I decided to move in with my sister. Now here’s where it gets a little sad for me, my son has since forged a bond with his aunt and refers to him as mom and me as my first name (albeit a nickname that everyone calls me by) but it really hurts when people come over and he calls out for his “mom”. My sister tries to tell him that I’m his mom sometimes but it just doesn’t stick. 

Do you guys think things will get better once I buy my own house and stay with him full time?",3.7482000000000006,4.295751420000002,4.695333333333334,88.11600000000004,71.46666666666667,8.133333333333333,23.666666666666664,8.238735603445708,1.0095666666666667,1126,26,255,16,20,367,163,300,0.057999999999999996,0.9059999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.5227,7,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,1,0,5,13,7,0,0,13,0,24,2,1,0,0,36,42,24,0,5,4,18,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,13,22,1,0,5,0,5,7,3,3,0,2,14,2,39,4,39,20,7,52,0,2,0,0,41,14,0,2,28,166,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869364564273381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893880902737562,0.13007967160609152,0.0,0.05156159029211066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876563616649129,0.14961525867616018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591090072535733,0.09674150435034284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728615825757766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739783013610418,0.09433346200474547,0.05586690065095794,0.0,0.0,0.08082358813146873,0.0,0.0,0.0797382194336877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121385567143488,0.18531516361865488,0.07730819711083327,0.14389412779108418,0.10227924699946138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257486699447987,0.0,0.048071007511944805,0.0,0.1352990219736705,0.0,0.0,0.08375140787947957,0.0,0.0,0.07577060441369546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484459750192093,0.08401094667426066,0.0,0.09759852080411062,0.0905488669194182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393651796524376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847753379998905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49531849451024895,0.0,0.1797987037179075,0.062178934943121864,0.0,0.0,0.08169170511765073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662698780891536,0.09007914527105064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784093128220866,0.0,0.08074495029019801,0.0586398601941903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100804207562352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418664368987234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996871676272245,0.09507590271801686,0.0,0.0,0.07166770558794977,0.0,0.08365568846682296,0.0,0.05986895452485291,0.18031047097816486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393009970270455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238763467041844,0.05419797923371917,0.0,0.0,0.14796474278060173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742694920330895,0.09200304772942038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201720212185226,0.0,0.0,0.2723464501365544
parenting,bunniesrfloof,2020/04/12,Need advice on 14 y.o daughter . So long story short. I USED to trust her with her phone and ipad ...to me she was the kid who liked unicorns and kittens...but then I caught my daughter using her phone in an inappropriate way. I told her hell no and took her phone away ...my mother who we were staying with a few months back helped her go behind my back to still talk to the boy. We leave that house. About a month later I find out she is still disobeying me and finding ways at school. Now that there is the virus she doesn't have that....but now she is resorting to her little brothers ipad and the ps4. She has been nothing but snarky and mean towards me and she constantly has to argue with me. She acts like she is the adult. I'm tired of her being disrespectful and also underhanded. I couldnt find a thread but can anyways please give me tips or anything if y'all have been through this already?,2.3116176470588243,4.434258194444446,2.830522875816996,93.62794117647059,78.16666666666667,5.568627450980394,21.1437908496732,6.522977012572876,0.14807516339869276,705,19,152,6,17,218,114,180,0.069,0.8740000000000001,0.057,-0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,0,0,11,5,2,0,9,0,16,1,0,2,0,26,26,15,0,3,4,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,14,0,0,4,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,7,0,32,3,19,17,1,27,1,0,0,0,36,8,1,2,14,106,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893155798241114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681862711483204,0.12188080608522775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541898687391284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319254860811506,0.2343850418078153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469915209788755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178950820258901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620386134592606,0.08661710908642359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215602362105013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758586341478829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137830905277334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489179250149068,0.15275308505964516,0.0,0.13487648711974848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601724195304451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433015894903925,0.0,0.0,0.11300877103295548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623980669911313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729846868288287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542452649633823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244689411033592,0.24342681794013216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249996176871787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517083967935074,0.0,0.1456325946195333,0.16933115082505146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632635522853397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24194911715094555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,qshi,2020/04/12,Becoming parents in Corona times Our son came to this world yesterday morning via c-section. I was present and i even was able to bond with him for 30min directly after. Then i could give him to his mother and we had one hour with just the three of us - then she was moved to the station and i had to leave the hospital because visitors are not allowed during a pandemic (Germany). I am at home now and she is alone with our son in the hospital and i really miss them. I am greatful for having gotten the chance to be there in the beginning but this is really hard. I am curious how this is beeing handled in other countries? What are your experiences with birth or visiting your loved ones these days?,3.3589902676399035,5.427443773722628,4.538412408759122,82.85876216545013,74.76642335766424,8.36228710462287,27.47506082725061,9.075114841892004,2.4226987834549885,555,22,106,13,12,182,91,137,0.045,0.878,0.077,0.8161,2,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,2,1,0,5,3,0,0,7,0,16,1,0,2,0,18,22,10,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,11,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,3,7,1,20,2,19,13,0,20,0,1,0,1,19,6,0,1,11,86,26,0,0.21370432572267176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133323159619445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027217342870231,0.2360196378645307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244420817144768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062551481030433,0.0,0.0,0.13782161077336075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114969164632715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20904383720183944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20500466218234206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23560977355179036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914371000401212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21436286308550626,0.0,0.2104557133785696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22628202447160106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287649753864794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22713387795351786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896231636422057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372933635131597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27380892653989497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246127108935532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570599911247605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aubreylaw,2020/04/12,"My 5 year old son decided to poop in the back yard like our dog. This is what social distancing with an only child looks like right now.  I usually let him play out back for a few minutes at a time since our backyard is fenced, but I check on him often.  During a few minute stretch, he decided to pull down his pants and poop in the backyard like our dog.  He ran inside to proudly tell me what he had done.  I immediately told him how inappropriate that was and to show me where so I could clean up the mess.  By the time we got to where he had pooped, our dog had already eaten it.  That’s it.  I’m done for today.",3.0860329861111104,3.8467272734375015,4.337916666666668,89.29319444444445,73.140625,7.563888888888887,23.597222222222207,7.793537801064563,0.8157680555555555,473,12,110,6,9,156,85,128,0.025,0.8440000000000001,0.132,0.9196,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,1,8,6,0,0,8,0,10,4,3,1,0,12,16,5,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,7,5,1,1,2,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,10,1,16,5,16,4,2,22,0,0,1,0,18,11,0,1,12,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319058909336892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231849518444729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677877763924712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301130851129017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807625419588354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148927430339388,0.0,0.30800621097773084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647317907530838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051720730165936,0.0,0.0,0.15982864136275818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17946706027544138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738383567422927,0.0,0.0,0.2142215897164696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836804737993877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24508045815202395,0.0,0.19919774825124564,0.20080745219949506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314506751792817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532979178934776
parenting,Naramatta,2020/04/12,"'Oh Crap' potty training failure - advice wanted This weekend my husband and I decided to start on potty training our 25 month son using the Oh Crap method. After almost two days we gave up and let him return to his diaper this evening. We followed all the instructions, having him nude, prompting visits to the potty every so often (but not too often!), bringing him to the potty when he had an accident and using all the recommended language. We had some early success and he enjoys the celebration/disposal/flush/handwashing ritual, but a few hours into day two he just decided he was not going to sit on the potty anymore, either during urination or when being prompted. Many hours of tears, going limp and tantrums followed. I am proud to say we kept our cool and continued with the reinforcing language recommended. But by the end of day we are all exhausted and hubby convinces me to pull the plug. All is not lost, I know we've made some progress as my son was completely clueless about his peeing habits, but I noticed he has developed a tell that he didn't have before and I noticed him noticing he was peeing after getting his diaper back. 

So for those of you who have used this method before, what do you do if your kid gets stressed out and refuses to participate? The book contradicts itself saying you have to prompt and be firm but also not too firm and let them have accidents or your kid will stress. This morning after a promt induced meltdown we stopped prompting completely and would have the potty at the ready when he had an accident. We were mellow, but firm with keeping up the language and rituals. Yesterday we had some consistent good results so i dont know where we went wrong...",8.775506329113924,8.081222215189875,8.505537974683548,69.259003164557,61.0253164556962,11.31772151898734,37.471518987341774,10.550175099000144,4.050681012658227,1364,56,225,27,16,439,176,316,0.115,0.797,0.08800000000000001,-0.8587,2,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,11,5,1,4,16,14,3,2,19,1,28,7,6,6,4,67,48,30,0,3,15,3,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,9,26,0,4,5,2,0,8,6,8,0,2,14,4,33,6,28,28,9,38,2,1,0,1,44,8,2,9,21,169,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658176329904822,0.0,0.0,0.11946497992109865,0.0,0.0,0.09540677260223997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831677454487892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173684152321612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030365715173527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25017439308840445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230822195777152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982253026603567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566727581808423,0.0,0.0,0.07879867696668118,0.0,0.10051814067019167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466205685864208,0.0,0.13560558213396046,0.1000659128021891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349793553338148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604221767822217,0.0,0.0,0.131131901482704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439913294190808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023359960767075,0.0,0.0,0.11288762768622013,0.0,0.12095477858364515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522672259831257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074826511165072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897494790497837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444346031313119,0.0,0.0,0.09974286602983674,0.2733229587206747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104276306304958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330838959399039,0.0,0.0,0.3091191304943656,0.0,0.0,0.07036815281775248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059531574192348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474961175664529,0.1304393844703308,0.0,0.0
parenting,jessicalion,2020/04/12,"We've ruined bath time I would love some advice or suggestions on what to do, I feel so bad that my little guy is so traumatized.

My son is 2 and has always liked bath time. Didn't love it, but didn't hate it. We've always played in the bath a lot and had fun. We haven't started potty training yet, and he's recently started pooping in the tub during every bath. Definitely not my favorite thing, but not the end of the world. I don't feel like we ever made a huge deal about it. Just the last couple of times we would say something like ""Ok, let mommy know if you need to go potty so that we don't poopoo in the tub"". But apparently, we did make too big of a deal about it, and now he is absolutely terrified to take a bath. As soon as we mention it, he's just hysterical. Can't breathe crying. :( Nothing upsets him like that. The only word that I can make out is the occasional ""potty"". 
We've tried explaining to him that it's really ok, and not to worry about it, but he's 2 and is very upset. We've tried just washing him in some running water and not filling the tub, I've tried getting in with him, giving him new toys to help me wash... Nothing is working. Bath time is now the biggest battle, with him crying uncontrollably the whole time. It breaks my heart. Any suggestions on how to undo this?
Thanks guys!",2.844238095238097,4.176065233333337,4.2835449735449735,87.2516666666667,74.44444444444444,7.068783068783069,23.22751322751323,7.62386473244151,0.8990846560846557,1023,28,219,13,21,340,137,270,0.11599999999999999,0.7040000000000001,0.18,0.9666,1,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,6,1,0,1,16,18,2,3,15,2,21,8,3,4,1,46,39,19,0,5,13,1,2,4,0,2,2,1,6,2,16,16,1,0,4,8,0,3,10,7,0,0,5,3,22,11,25,31,4,33,0,1,0,2,31,13,0,5,20,133,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158400377288792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727657130369985,0.0,0.0,0.08061413320989431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897947033089063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116692233236246,0.2604305138575599,0.0,0.24442776674134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499499124984236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723003185309248,0.09987861633043983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987903682629418,0.08468801293662892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193446110787501,0.11371841565251115,0.06737141087131271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347548263845839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703787286698712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404754689508171,0.07945769043718923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514880194533873,0.0966293594546612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212194943943538,0.0,0.2316588678172629,0.11881244899487163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078205485654174,0.21398156981612046,0.11216940523322973,0.15825837188588648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878990354864741,0.0,0.1144907443200935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274927484138712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015821950148496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594246146933151,0.0,0.11704811387121394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942711200712366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126113046716987,0.0,0.0,0.16781241511227152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913049883255565,0.0,0.0,0.10913958890194904,0.0,0.0,0.07875551090076813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456204337532347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414512274722411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781139470224916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235038580009778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630160246830401,0.12038740752600738,0.0,0.16842082235820505,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dncrews,2020/04/12,"Found out my son is watching YouTube videos all night. Please help me be reasonable We just moved to a smaller house in another state, and my 10yo son’s bedroom is near the TV room, so my wife and I put our old iPhone in his room for white noise so that we could still watch movies after bed time (8:30pm) without waking him up.

A few days ago I caught him watching YouTube on it in his room, which is not allowed unchaperoned. On a whim, today I checked the device’s Internet history and found dozens-if-not-hundreds of hits “in the mornings”. I confronted him about it and he confessed that FOR THE LAST FEW MONTHS:

- he’s purposely been over-drinking water at bed time so that he would wake up in the middle of the night (1-2am, he checked the time)

- when he wakes up at 1-2am, he’s been watching YouTube videos from then until the rest of the house stirs, around 7 or 8

- this means that he’s been getting 4-5 hours sleep every night and watching YouTube for 5-7 hours EVERY NIGHT.

Parents of Reddit, please help! I’m trying to be reasonable, but I need him to learn from this. They say to “find a consequence related to the behavior”, so since it’s technology I’m tempted to prevent him from using any technology “for quite some time”, but we’re also in the middle of a quarantine and doing online homeschooling. Beyond that, I just don’t know how to keep all of us sane. That “hour of video game time” in the middle of the day has given my wife some much-needed self-care time, and it kept him out of his little sisters’ hair for an hour.

I changed the passcode on the iPhone and enabled Guided Access so that it’s locked to the white noise app to prevent it from happening again, but I don’t know what to do as a consequence here. I’m thinking we may sell the iPad he uses — it’s my wife’s, but he uses it more than she does — and the Nintendo Switch he uses — we have two so that he and I can play Minecraft together sometimes.",6.578033419023138,5.502099367609254,6.49524293059126,83.13746593830335,65.60668380462725,9.733727506426735,32.04640102827764,8.697196308434329,2.249122262210797,1510,49,322,19,20,478,195,389,0.004,0.96,0.036000000000000004,0.807,2,1,1,0,0,0,46.0,6,0,1,2,17,2,1,0,25,0,18,6,5,8,2,55,39,27,0,3,9,7,1,0,0,2,0,1,6,0,20,17,1,4,11,7,3,3,4,1,0,1,8,9,32,1,54,25,8,58,1,0,7,0,40,27,0,4,27,189,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343288925862047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526880186833232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640057389924951,0.09869443194197262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378794778948646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956789804004232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514823154185454,0.0,0.0,0.1214009561158832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236621920792536,0.0,0.0,0.09220308116903073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860257732059965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602519992295315,0.0,0.0,0.2063983831741576,0.0,0.0,0.049174515614898884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323119042607433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617510088032552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707622437561444,0.2172067795688276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365937191248496,0.0,0.0,0.10345325433519163,0.07672145458865924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433430958842733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252573225149712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751267558929538,0.10003608938807716,0.06919001489337281,0.13957956251643486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533060078351536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876451377784523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451060994281887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066339351802751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461794353478717,0.0,0.1001096310810808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935448275223322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484906759586861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981890850808258,0.0,0.0,0.07785814535600162,0.0,0.09418931365078413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308841227707636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516542398054891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060309154439554376,0.0,0.0,0.32929746275161603,0.0,0.08921602532705325,0.0,0.0,0.0639022118068209,0.0,0.09194287315085074,0.0,0.11321638357936815,0.32516247295348794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072961336416216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686109970749872,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,geomurphy88,2020/04/12,"Daddy can’t sleep... Need advice Brand new father, kid is barely a week old. Since the birth I haven’t been able to sleep more than a few hours per night and it’s getting worse now that we are home. I thought the sleeplessness was because babies cry and shit, not the case for me!  I lay in bed with my wife and worry.  My son is a good sleeper, but each movement or sound that he makes brings me to full attention. I’m progressively more tired during the days but get a surge of adrenaline around bed time.  Anyone else deal with and overcome this unexpected challenge? Would love to hear some ideas!",2.446025641025642,4.8850277264957285,2.634722222222224,93.53875,79.42735042735043,5.609401709401709,20.006410256410245,6.816661863887847,0.17340512820512854,472,12,98,5,12,143,93,117,0.124,0.8,0.076,-0.5891,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,2,4,1,0,8,0,8,5,3,1,0,20,17,7,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,1,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,2,8,3,10,13,6,14,0,0,0,1,9,3,1,2,9,53,12,1,0.18156504354187006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742325919426924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695450004201125,0.18603484347281424,0.0,0.1616313827768739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068036531731776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944067469311255,0.11709443258322015,0.18718558739735974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167429596171028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972048285962195,0.0,0.0,0.15228814422777634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046369998171134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821245425812678,0.0,0.17880499439586908,0.0,0.0,0.20496483398571447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386954056912095,0.0,0.1211960764398672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462817918398354,0.0,0.1753566504561367,0.0,0.17038649381068374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905219706694116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637390803594486,0.15019248025922458,0.0,0.3633923352898062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414236356007573,0.10587203699666684,0.2086823082544917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456405260946906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843881150937155,0.1850302909047912,0.12897859757655358,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,not_your_guru,2020/04/12,"I had my daughter at 21. She is now eight years old. I've never felt like a real mom. I'm ashamed that I had her so young. I wonder if the other moms judge me, especially since I'm a single mom. 

I'm embarrassed about the decisions I made when I was younger. I picked the worst, most abusive man to have a child with because I didn't understand how any of it worked. I was selfish. It didn't register in my brain at the time that I was bringing a real human child into the world. Now she doesn't have a dad. She will also never have a sibling because I will never be financially (and emotionally) secure enough during my childbearing years to give her one. I moved back in with my mom so that I could finish my degree. It's humiliating. The other parents in our neighbourhood live in nice, happy, productive homes. My daughter is at an age where she's starting to notice. 

I wish I could have given her better. I hope she doesn't resent me for it in the future. 

Sometimes I try to put on an act, and I try to behave how I imagine ""real"" moms do. I feel so stupid.",2.1529888942539834,3.899189605504589,4.09482858522453,86.1405866731048,77.25688073394495,6.607822308063737,22.941574118783198,7.475848149327749,0.9421614678899082,826,25,171,11,19,281,121,218,0.122,0.789,0.08900000000000001,-0.8423,1,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,1,0,0,2,12,12,2,2,15,0,21,1,1,4,3,27,35,10,0,5,1,9,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,9,5,0,1,6,0,0,4,7,6,0,2,10,2,36,6,20,20,4,32,0,0,0,0,23,12,0,4,17,124,45,1,0.0,0.12755265882916836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609104885625947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320856803756606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277945778986248,0.0,0.13125003882510045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521141802853826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017772409891288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719062855404168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109651891443544,0.0,0.11123559740503544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054433213348118514,0.0,0.1033649432612913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327174699931248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459992968344508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798597030405226,0.10692494112635324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259441896481272,0.0,0.09506065742863397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186503541964936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6304166654573456,0.0,0.1144194094382348,0.0,0.0,0.2490887366031767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225650544104236,0.11296500502010146,0.0,0.07294929237803112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953728242311988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822223547256046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676022468350046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905269154445487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647278620584964,0.0,0.07619821810468311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277404725972108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618031115488378,0.0,0.0,0.11207185008592982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379705163001595,0.0,0.1167464202396659,0.07837356161359013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386515891065152
parenting,UysofSpades,2020/04/12,"Some advise on how to manage stress and show grace and patience. First time posting here and I doubt this a one of a kind post to this sub, but please bare with me and any sort of advice is welcomed. 

I am stressed and always on a short fuse. 

This quarantine with covid has taken its toll on my family. I have a wife and 2 kids ( 2.5 year old and a 5month old). I don’t need to explain what it is like having a 2 year old for those who’ve been there, but it is bad. My oldest boy has a speech delay, he understands completely fine for his age, but lacks the ability to form expressive language. My 5month old is literally so mama-attached that he Cannot be put down at all. Any attempt and he screams bloody murder, essentially leaving my wife useless in terms of doing practically anything. Along with this stay-at-home order, going on, we can’t escape. I am trying so hard to be patient and graceful and have some form of order in this chaotic life of ours. My wife has essentially given up trying to do anything because — of well above — and that leaves it up to me to do most of everything. The cleaning, the chores, everything. If I don’t do it stands like that for days. 

I am at my wits end and I feel like I’m not the father I used to be (we just moved across state and we also just obtained a puppy for my boy — long scheduled adoption). Anything my 2 year old does sets me off. My 5month of screeches like the banshee he is — sets me off. my dogs bark the wrong tone — it sets me off. 

There is no escape it’s constant 24/7 of hearing screaming baby and crying toddler while the house slowly descends into chaos. 

This is a desperate plea to ask those parents who’ve been through this what can I do? I feel myself not being a good father and I wasn’t always like this and I don’t want to be like this.  I feel I can’t take this much longer. I want to be a good dad again, to show the love and grace. Right now I feel like I’m just pissed... all the time....

TLDR; my kids are driving me up the wall and my  home is descending into chaos. Need some advice on how to handle this.",2.3264483660130715,3.981073367058823,3.4518137254901973,91.341772875817,76.50588235294117,6.039869281045752,22.3937908496732,6.691623216298621,0.43204183006535946,1611,45,348,14,36,520,203,425,0.154,0.716,0.131,-0.9509,1,1,0,0,0,0,52.0,4,0,0,3,14,27,2,3,21,0,39,3,1,3,2,59,59,28,1,6,9,7,5,7,0,0,1,4,3,4,25,27,0,1,6,2,0,4,10,10,1,2,5,9,41,17,51,48,11,58,0,1,0,1,27,22,1,7,30,229,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896721561744106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323051204788494,0.15239134657143175,0.0,0.0,0.1245449090214817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22606914716861515,0.0,0.08560794585668853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645923014056671,0.055821758923593694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601204614431418,0.09895736358641144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058811452563793,0.05905670051066211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013573032019287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110607353970721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459895468787245,0.0,0.08632642315737471,0.0,0.18520727247962476,0.13083885475689708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789153967680967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052042774036716,0.15361337215742416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203099223887712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320888657973236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185470504090022,0.0,0.0,0.105662394599571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535868917745552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19392415565569127,0.0,0.0,0.06468037978158163,0.31316395815544,0.0,0.0,0.08103879956366866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264777553221765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732709791198366,0.06731633948559274,0.13579972818457672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4804497837473175,0.0,0.062051910219998174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168044781604772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051912946742032,0.0,0.0,0.17540232448221035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092055676216171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820243268467493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760412339224164,0.0,0.0,0.2097920270818175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885113953428612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679334693256598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434346171184975,0.0,0.0,0.09533022395451653,0.0,0.07908925677731142,0.0,0.0,0.10802369102645544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233469389608256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012017653921762,0.0,0.17690910381651392
parenting,Drifting0wl,2020/04/12,"Is it normal for my 3 year old daughter to ALWAYS ask me to imitate characters with her? 
Two questions.

But first, in case it’s relevant, I’m her dad. I feel like it’s relevant because she doesn’t try this with her mom. Maybe once in a while they’ll play pretend, but not like this.

Okay so, from the moment we wake up until the literal moment she’s put in bed to sleep, my kid asks me to be Gaston, Beast, Hans, Kristoff, Aladdin, Genie, Branch, Marley, Flynn Ryder, Eric, Naveen... basically every Disney/cartoon male character she has seen on TV.  I thought maybe it was too much tv, but we definitely make sure she plays outside and doesn’t watch too much tv.  Obviously this pandemic and stay at home order makes that a little more difficult.

Anyway, sometimes I play along especially when it helps to get her to take her bath, eat her food, etc. but other times I worry that I’m just setting a foundation for a kid who will grow up detached from reality. Am I wrong? Is this normal behavior?

Second question... sometimes the character acting leads to her wanting to kiss on the lips. I never pull away because I don’t want to do anything to impact her self-esteem... I always just try and get a cheek kiss or do a quick peck.  What is the appropriate response here? 

Please help.",4.138825910931175,5.728316161943326,5.149635627530365,81.29668016194334,71.5910931174089,7.953036437246964,27.170040485829958,8.532816995589336,1.96608987854251,1000,35,189,17,19,328,158,247,0.055,0.784,0.161,0.9785,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,0,1,2,9,11,0,0,11,1,14,8,4,3,3,30,28,12,0,4,8,3,1,2,0,2,0,0,3,3,14,8,2,0,4,8,0,5,5,2,0,3,3,3,27,9,27,22,4,29,0,0,2,2,28,10,0,3,13,119,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347706595897786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556281426557844,0.0,0.2398473865534686,0.0,0.12052248857766325,0.0,0.0,0.15639556418109826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126160023369085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306516660761087,0.0,0.0,0.1080807205100937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486179499812095,0.0916426537836348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911418349754144,0.15511566311159902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340411276583416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196562683862668,0.0,0.12867445145559672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534143075934656,0.12856941320102014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712546637970194,0.0,0.2577473056700878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023899565432036,0.0,0.0,0.18859987745756696,0.0,0.09893679230099832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513726708199359,0.0,0.0,0.13460739403195252,0.13661311322832342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081199040653578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895598146241388,0.28740402276383953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382313504667356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837179641980184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537427282712968,0.0,0.0,0.13672851087713842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090158522891672,0.0,0.09644995983300138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183931994958714,0.07480060672742042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174186251218574,0.0,0.12531009449896782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513247381377884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027370846533887,0.0,0.0,0.14025311811828198,0.0,0.08260756986066614
parenting,Gypsy81482,2020/04/12,"Help finding a toy bin Hello, I was hoping someone can help me. I want a toy bin like this but much smaller. Basically stacked 4 bins or so high and not as wide. I know I've seen them before but I can't seem to find one online. Here is a link to picture. Any help would be wonderful. Thank you.

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parenting,liveINlove818,2020/04/12,"HELP!! How do we Motivate a 24 year old that has never taken care of things on his own? My husband had his 24 year old son move in with us. He was living in another state with his mother who coddled him and did everything for him. He needed a change in pace with a little more positive reinforcement.  He has music talent that wasn't really being appreciated or supported. Moving in with us gives his the space to work on music and support growing in to his own. But now that he's here he isn't working and always makes excuses for not able able to find a job. he has no want to get a job or save for his own place. and now my husband is beginning to grow in frustration. I've tried do tel him he needs  to make him pay some sort of rent and try to get him to set some goals for himself. but we haven't had success. I even went out of my way to get him a job and he lied to us and walked out on the job. which made me really upset. I'm some one who has never had children myself so the only example i have is my self. and at the age for 14 my mother handed me my social card and said "" your old enough to make your own doctors appointment "" "" oh and by the way if you want nice new clothes you'd better get a job."" so I've been working and pretty much taking care of myself since i was 16. my work ethic is strong. That why i don't get it. So if one has and suggestion on how to motivate this young man it would be greatly appreciated.  He's a great kid i just think everyone has done everything for him his whole life and now things are being asked of him and he doesn't have the skills to get things done on his own.",1.3356399887143802,3.0388675014577267,3.2773478792438664,91.27273770337631,79.52478134110787,6.64154989184614,19.81087181416345,7.601502580125103,0.4451328693689449,1255,30,287,19,31,423,167,343,0.075,0.804,0.121,0.9427,6,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,4,0,11,11,14,1,1,14,0,33,3,1,8,2,52,60,25,0,7,8,5,1,0,0,1,2,1,1,4,13,22,0,0,4,0,2,6,9,2,0,2,14,2,42,12,43,41,12,41,0,0,0,0,54,17,0,8,14,193,55,15,0.16601591912232527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906927198388517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704108319720193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760123693881449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341379466156504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16926429392621636,0.0,0.08781141475305627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496216395926315,0.0,0.1698919247581279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576941165293935,0.0,0.054825974423436286,0.0,0.0,0.07931766258864892,0.14920440333888496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586777122292067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26020939706112683,0.0796287985782982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830331369200437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05563848556115542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4118629576308746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058630976675056685,0.0,0.08319578245371065,0.07329754906882417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854413838526883,0.16622537272333676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764486487803036,0.061020401295693735,0.1230987004491312,0.12804171138390946,0.08016960459950663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613086703530441,0.0,0.11249668332304473,0.06313129372817823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672565039782056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444893677384133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635404887032536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895957817413851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865954051855955,0.0,0.0,0.06866504192957949,0.0,0.0,0.08461616133376572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18839289764236505,0.0,0.0,0.062411655121965226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544039973994532,0.053188148772288606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271391151292028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995450645547678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792049042249404,0.13177570919433562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694921013435814,0.07490177244176155,0.0926754224649042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417231327222133,0.0,0.0,0.05896647285754154,0.0,0.0,0.10690880886906236
parenting,WrenDraco,2020/04/12,"Endless questions but he doesn't seem to hear our answers My son is 4.5, he'll be 5 and supposed to start kindergarten in September. He has a verbal delay due to partial deafness from severe ear infections as a toddler. He got tubes when he was 2 and we've made a lot of progress with the help of a speech pathologist. We've also been going through a child development center to get him properly assessed, he's most likely either inattentive-type ADHD or possibly on the autism spectrum (either of which he would have got from me). Unfortunately the speech clinic and development center are closed to devote more resources for Covid so we're left a bit on our own right now. 

My son asks questions constantly but just doesn't seem to process most answers we give him. He mostly asks ""what's that?"" So first of all I need to guess what ""that"" is, and then if I tell him then with barely a pause he just asks ""what's that?"" again as though I didn't say anything. Sometimes if I get him to stop and look at me I can get him to repeat what I said and that seems to make it stick, but sometimes he just keeps asking. 

Current example is my husband was just trying to play Mario Raving Rabbids on the tv. This is fine, it's family friendly, our daughter (3 next month, no communication issues) is having fun commentating on his playing. I had to pull my son out of there so daddy could have a break because our son was just asking over and over and over again ""what's that?"" about everything on the screen no matter how many times he'd been told or he'd already seen it. It's exhausting. 

Daycare and his initial observations with the development center agree that he has problems processing input but I don't know what to do differently. I know my parents had the same problem with me as a child but they just yelled at me or ignored it (for which they have since apologized). I can't get any more professional assistance until things start to reopen.",4.853736123391297,6.176684687002653,5.2550250515767765,82.25622654484725,69.50397877984085,8.025503487572454,28.551822379408588,8.401726058763845,1.9648593967973285,1545,55,296,23,27,492,203,377,0.083,0.835,0.081,-0.1754,3,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,5,0,2,2,18,11,0,0,16,0,31,5,1,3,1,63,62,32,0,7,18,7,0,1,1,2,4,8,0,2,21,16,0,4,9,3,0,2,7,4,0,1,14,11,35,7,45,42,12,40,0,0,3,0,53,18,0,15,20,198,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712835897109054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167321047066295,0.08459312951365883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193479414859118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870488548679093,0.0,0.4944553744563298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448319355210883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548559425316356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431181948750699,0.0,0.08445762288953211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051876396308953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506925666871813,0.0,0.09972103280976076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997737308719203,0.0,0.0,0.08172623677228738,0.0,0.22106509283670334,0.10147489646224084,0.060117852534736574,0.0,0.16920566204247078,0.0,0.11652983790686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922301872873475,0.0,0.07090286005109775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040801440108344,0.0,0.09402312654855324,0.0,0.0,0.11626908261267704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149315046346826,0.0,0.0,0.05167931572786909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882950551532574,0.0,0.0,0.08993133190555158,0.0,0.10009266060348752,0.07060972406824292,0.10724546036873277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443348682912255,0.0,0.0,0.07843536575796314,0.0,0.0,0.11249942924950726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745742383291423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925232744786753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243650609486735,0.0,0.0,0.236998144091547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033650498104033,0.1006220759697183,0.08412139840076087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888974970817067,0.0,0.11950256477242988,0.0,0.08750324185198095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092404799999525,0.0,0.1497448531171152,0.0,0.0,0.08843775922808443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245736800297308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027628083481703,0.0,0.10392942077411196,0.0,0.061681826165276524,0.0,0.0,0.10107840056001656,0.0,0.07181844197599725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514387802898889,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Egglton,2020/04/13,"4 month old napping issues. Thoughts/suggestions welcome! So our 4 month old daughter has recently been fighting naps and sleep pretty hard lately. When we put her down for her nap she'll either wail or be restless for 30 minutes and never fall asleep.

The thing is, she will fall asleep if she is in the living room with us in her swing.

We think it may be a 4 month sleep regression? Or she just want to be with us? We don't want to start bad habits with her by always having to be out with us while she sleeps.

Any thoughts/suggestions? Thanks in advance!",2.41,4.759872000000001,2.577272727272728,94.3959090909091,79.0,5.454545454545455,21.81818181818182,6.574015621080383,0.32827272727272705,440,13,91,4,11,133,73,110,0.08199999999999999,0.8059999999999999,0.111,0.5145,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,7,0,0,1,3,5,1,1,3,0,13,5,5,0,1,20,18,8,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,10,0,0,1,3,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,1,16,2,15,10,1,21,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,4,11,59,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379582043039425,0.0,0.0,0.10117463714067293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422402370847235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327651751106495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528633850508594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782888596170326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137434291517133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562612846912093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147473272469202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122364963248102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136145368422793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495637149857957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690104547904198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466585238050836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530634970965723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697546404284386,0.0,0.0,0.09884197622601927,0.09533140172630722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5368874748105746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175507097448884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KyleG81,2020/04/13,"Help with trichotillomania Help!!! My 9 year old daughter has been struggling with pulling her hair out. It down to the scalp over about 75% of her head. I’ve had her in therapy for the last 6 months twice a week, along with monthly appointments with her pediatrician. She (my daughter) says it’s not because of anxiety, she says it’s just a bad habit that she can’t stop. She’s gone weeks without pulling before but once it gets an inch or so long she pulls it out again. I’m super supportive of her and never fuss at her for pulling, but honestly I’m at my wits end. I don’t know how to help her. If anyone has been through this I would appreciate ANY suggestions. Please and thank you

A concerned dad",1.908452380952383,4.338539607142857,2.7157142857142884,92.21595238095242,81.5,6.3047619047619055,23.619047619047624,7.554174236665415,0.9794619047619052,555,20,120,9,15,174,94,140,0.039,0.752,0.21,0.9789,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,1,6,0,8,3,3,1,1,21,15,8,0,2,7,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,7,9,0,1,1,0,0,5,5,2,0,1,4,3,18,4,22,10,0,25,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,2,12,74,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414923301122605,0.0,0.139660344536638,0.0,0.0,0.12765243080371055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243264221973005,0.11128882922876253,0.0,0.15534783259604007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169680321128158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538173440984857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873625076322877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671047841798189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033195757442392,0.14881337037299866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615626827146283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29144040111232644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080399070753274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915693627986056,0.19442384453911465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003995654962324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903631605510273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526310057233019,0.0,0.1908546902140505,0.0,0.0,0.2071705503018934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807966188830098,0.2087769241110232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928823660975597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598440527163606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296876557889031,0.0,0.0,0.11756471206026485
parenting,throwaway-groceries,2020/04/13,"What’s the best way to deal with temper tantrums during terrible twos? My daughter is driving me to the point of having a complete breakdown. She turned into a monster overnight, she screams and screeches at the top of her lungs for no reason, she hits me and my husband stops and kicks the floor and throws herself all over the place. I literally break down crying multiple times a day.
Especially with coronavirus we’re not able to go to the park and we live in a tiny 430 sq ft apartment, on top of that all our apartment neighbors have been giving us dirty looks because sound travels so easily here. 
I’m at the end of my rope and don’t know what to do, how on earth do you get rid of this behavior or at least manage it?? Do I yell at her back? Do I spank her? Letting her cry out is not an option because we’re literally one strike away from being evicted because of noise. 
I regret having a child so much sometimes",4.983524590163935,5.7141898251366126,5.317062841530056,84.1037909836066,68.78142076502732,7.848633879781421,30.55054644808743,7.793537801064563,1.9141989071038248,730,28,145,8,12,232,124,183,0.147,0.784,0.068,-0.9252,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,1,0,3,5,6,2,0,13,0,13,1,1,2,2,22,21,10,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,5,11,0,1,2,1,0,4,4,5,0,1,1,4,21,1,27,17,5,30,0,1,1,0,18,19,0,2,5,100,26,1,0.18641474472337413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514278906576106,0.14334143199679505,0.0,0.34091009443279113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956307737113862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545231315352027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095356874331424,0.12022208863952175,0.19218541636582626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510813299726845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739401013311222,0.1788260094342515,0.10594379535577148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244866853322243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906217064650182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460763486718416,0.0,0.15654143581446678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703628652711428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263194554760714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476373188002585,0.0,0.17622218833398376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19166540490751965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843689491440972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585107368845946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086999367558657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027657119175418,0.0,0.0,0.22423398526009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147967347469272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,styleandmove,2020/04/13,"HELP our daughter is out of control. My 12 year old is out of control! Ever since the age of 11 she became hard to handle. She sneaks around behind our back which at first we didnt know. When she turned 10 we gave her an old used phone that she was able to use 2 hours everyday. We later found out thru our older son that she was using it for very wrong reasons.

We only know this because our son ran off with her phone once and saw notifications coming in. At that time at 11 years old she was talking to a 14 year old boy which she was planning to meet up with at the cinema so that she could perform oral sex on him in the bathroom. 
She knows that she can't go to the cinema by herself so she was planning on taking us with her, only to excuse herself in the middle of the movies to do it with a boy. I was terrified, angry and sad all at once. I felt like I lost my daughter that day. We had a BIG talk and we went thru her entire phone and found conversations about sex, drugs and her page on instagram was full of depression and she wasn't the only one that acted like this. Her whole entire class acted like this too. 

My husband and I were horrified!!!! If it was up to us we would move far away from this place! Unfortunately and embarrasing enough we don't have enough money to do so.  We also found out through her phone that the only public school that we have around here is not doing anything against the kids behavior. We saw on her instagram that they dance sexually, make-out and fight on school grounds. 
(We filed a complaint after we ecknowledged this.) 

But seriously! We don't understand how these things happen because our son went to the same school and he says he never saw anything like this before. He is 17. 

Anyhow, after this incident last year we took her phone away. For an entire year she slowly gained our trust again and now with Covid-19 we had to give her the phone back to do homework on. Worst decision of our lives. 

We found out two days ago that she SNEAKED A 15 YEAR OLD BOY INTO HER ROOM AT MIDNIGHT. They performed sex on each other. I am still having the heart attack that I felt that night while typing this. 

Our 12 year old daughter sneaked in a boy and had sex with him while we were sleeping..  

Our son alarmed us after he heard the doorbell ring and when no one answered the door our daughters phone on our nightstand went off too. Someone was calling her phone. I picked up the phone and the boy that was calling us thought that it was our daughter. He said, why isn't .... picking up his phone. tell .... to hurry up we have to go home. 

I immediately ran to my daughters room and found her having sex with a random 15 year old boy. My husband lost his mind and dragged the boy out of the room, yelled at him, threw him his clothes and kicked him out of our house. 

Now at this point everything felt like a rollercoaster. We found out that ever since we gave her the phone back when  lockdown happened she was sneaking into our room every night and took the phone while we were sleeping.. 

We don't know what to do with her anymore. She is 12 years old!!! My husband threw the phone that she was using into a thousand pieces that night. What would you do at this point? 

We are at a point where we took away the wifi in our house, took out her bedroom door and locked our phones in a safe. 

What else can we do? We had so many talks with her but she acts like we don't exist. She simply doesn't care at all. We can't pay for someone to help us, please anyone that ever was in this situation? What did you do?",3.633960671921024,4.909380642756684,3.93133826924608,90.77057797946026,72.38959212376933,6.659989915877187,23.82297057028368,6.892418011121327,0.6073567974948912,2771,74,595,23,53,861,271,711,0.051,0.9079999999999999,0.040999999999999995,-0.6763,1,1,1,0,1,0,77.0,50,2,2,10,26,19,2,1,35,0,56,9,3,10,6,118,104,34,0,4,4,13,4,6,0,2,1,5,9,8,43,73,0,3,18,3,2,19,13,10,0,5,54,12,114,9,98,47,11,134,0,4,3,5,159,64,0,3,57,412,157,7,0.04980281236126265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044147188228511436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03982729105204122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939100744748389,0.034823284376059666,0.0,0.08196694219738809,0.08867012362180564,0.0,0.05665788882836896,0.14037414486521452,0.1148858656850005,0.0,0.060718664324867486,0.0,0.04237852516897913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170847941816752,0.0,0.05077728638575688,0.0,0.0,0.0429007130068495,0.0,0.0,0.11171617776449336,0.039763493178743455,0.0,0.0,0.06423738777829029,0.0,0.042895089309979685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05775545099259787,0.0,0.041603859170533115,0.0,0.0,0.10291923660019196,0.0,0.0,0.13514848513673772,0.041961017392047856,0.0,0.04475955644642375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345552997217978,0.0,0.0,0.04236224675271152,0.0,0.3276372790041609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047775395698357016,0.05660817194233363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808092498950186,0.0,0.04461353760641708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901657243928859,0.06676355065505077,0.0,0.04995628147146066,0.0,0.04904573816325245,0.114931517622627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109481292870746,0.040595939167248435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598683089494915,0.0,0.04397679574481475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873130564753908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033243763976318674,0.050492234873826335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028664329896585,0.0,0.0,0.052932507876722434,0.0,0.0,0.03841099913899916,0.0,0.0,0.14020969699803576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180773907069211,0.10607673955356596,0.06749534912581229,0.15150913200566232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052033338929245984,0.054668532468801566,0.14123926611886778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051205585754063705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04737387928483603,0.03960519532819574,0.0,0.15120931486455955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823948020665979,0.05598044775009897,0.09967755871347424,0.0,0.08439552259492622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039772590284619706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037445516859197135,0.12008884223693968,0.0435298531515556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03308677556859175,0.0,0.0,0.03953786998671858,0.029040420391460063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213310280659131,0.0,0.05417115861147311,0.04865011104528389,0.05184648405858661,0.29953325606024683,0.17205455817104767,0.0,0.041092535970491666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850311803574944,0.04493929182411042,0.055603061440385584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075697797789589,0.054451557140577686,0.0,0.28864240480179365
parenting,Nabana,2020/04/13,"Advice on teaching bike riding Hi all, anyone have advice on teaching kids (esp older kids) how to ride a bike? My daughter picked it up pretty quick. But my son, who is now 10, never got the hang of it. 
This week, I'm setting aside 30 minutes a day to work on it. Today's session went as expected. He started getting frustrated and sloppy about halfway through, but I kept my calm, and was able to redirect enough to end on a positive note. But any practical advice to get us over the hump would be MUCH appreciated!",3.7225,5.375053069306934,4.989195544554455,81.77904084158416,72.76237623762377,7.426237623762375,28.46658415841584,8.07648339933343,1.979464356435644,404,16,76,6,8,134,78,101,0.021,0.8420000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9259,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,5,0,5,1,0,2,2,12,12,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,1,15,6,3,20,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,0,9,47,10,4,0.2127224838666749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6236098478310166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465858359413214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874050676368628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718840400199292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840898132756098,0.2197991901385444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222774360471923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701336029169037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637550180470228,0.0,0.16406469348313438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641524120581213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056606895744826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016360417184309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25587895626299545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063314533542054,0.0,0.0,0.19719587371977693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15486450176749453,0.0,0.0,0.15111194923266005,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hiddenwoodsman18,2020/04/13,Language learning Good evening everyone. Just wanted to see if anyone our there is teaching two languages from birth and has any tips that has worked for you. My wife and I are trying the one parent one language rule to see how things go as well thought it may help with consistency.  Just curious to see what others have done and how your results have been. Thanks .,5.664558823529411,7.358901044117651,4.637529411764707,86.03688235294119,67.97058823529412,7.2047058823529415,29.776470588235288,7.554174236665415,1.7539200000000001,293,11,54,3,5,86,56,68,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.8979,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,2,0,1,7,3,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,3,0,14,16,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,3,5,3,7,12,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,2,1,41,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575558876409801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200174223379024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237097418934686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530278386672284,0.0,0.0,0.2213879571083175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167371549871146,0.19432902873302246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529568387391676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139957745793985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25726227329977075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5538763788685797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133073212044127,0.0,0.0,0.15392331260675815,0.0,0.0,0.18393451211813172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730104615503487,0.0,0.2263256579733089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366556743238101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20831547242462056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867173335883176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GirlMama1098,2020/04/13,"Birthday gift ideas 🎁 Hi!

I Need some help picking out a gift for my daughters first birthday. Anything that you found helpful/ useful/ sentimental. I’m interested in all. Thanks! 💕",2.345089285714284,4.553798687500001,2.7866071428571435,83.22625000000005,109.0,4.328571428571428,32.69642857142857,6.1826913282559595,2.3962178571428576,146,9,23,2,7,45,29,32,0.0,0.5529999999999999,0.447,0.9431,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,8,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,3,4,2,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29431628469935217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042177429469253,0.0,0.392145841971653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4794518291242951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037444257336875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651936716910075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32927697269452705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088956167508767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Melissakbi,2020/04/13,"Need a some parent support I’m struggling with parenting a 2 year old.  I love my son.   I would give my life for him.    I already know what it is like to bury a child also, medical malpractice.   But I’m not used to staying home with my son.    I was a stay at home mom but 2 days a week he went to preschool for a hour and a half.  I also went to the gym for a hour and a half 6 days a week with gym daycare.   I feel like I’m suffocating right now.  My husband is an essential worker.   I just want our old life back.   Always on the go, going to the park, beach, other fun stuff for him.    I feel like I am a horrible mom now and completely distant from my son",0.42797054009820096,1.9882176453900728,2.86695035460993,93.82615384615387,81.76595744680851,6.3242771412984204,21.484451718494267,7.321109707123232,0.49592373158756203,492,15,120,7,13,170,80,141,0.051,0.8079999999999999,0.142,0.8735,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,15,0,5,4,0,1,0,18,21,7,0,3,4,8,2,3,0,1,3,0,2,1,4,6,0,0,3,3,0,4,1,1,0,2,3,2,17,6,15,17,1,21,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,1,15,71,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289420208184486,0.20710442553639555,0.10774512360283876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956895797847673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357666299553507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670192340774284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094693966831006,0.18501376744811174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242175355079178,0.14718303230143545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597758145931214,0.0,0.2550409319588477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116370354360205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292365468346125,0.18978518215606704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686877228352847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044642646947727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30331162898503994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601436582634727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27175360018515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28756416068012763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105827983704234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27603583997768183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353698953219759,0.14823379082798016,0.0,0.14694244965481515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183681933191296,0.0,0.0,0.07637589799906805,0.0,0.2077363422183296,0.0,0.0,0.2400749832429568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198518710232784,0.0,0.0,0.08338659504415298
parenting,Phantom_Symmetry,2020/04/13,"My child is obsessed with candy and I’m struggling to control it. My three year old daughter has been obsessed with candy since Halloween and I’m not sure how best to manage it. We typically don’t have candy in the house and have only given her a few M&Ms for pooping on the potty so it’s not something she has often at all. 

Since around Halloween she has been obsessed with candy, wanting to have some for breakfast lunch and dinner and throwing tantrums when she doesn’t get it. We’ve been pretty strict with it and we don’t give out like an everyday thing and we don’t in when she throws tantrums but that hasn’t seemed to help. If anything it’s made her more protective of it. She’ll hide it or want to know where the stash is constantly. So I’m wondering if being so strict with it has caused her to obsess over it more since we take it away so easily. I just want to throw all of it away but I know other kids can manage it so there has to be a middle ground, right?",2.066787117046349,4.131961706467664,2.9188740507986384,92.97796543597799,78.70149253731344,5.425608798114692,21.52422100026185,6.339386263674448,0.2229542288557216,777,22,164,6,19,245,108,201,0.08800000000000001,0.84,0.07200000000000001,0.2046,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,2,13,10,2,5,6,0,22,4,1,4,3,42,37,20,0,5,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,16,18,3,2,4,0,0,3,7,7,0,1,5,0,16,3,26,29,7,22,0,0,0,0,17,13,0,7,7,119,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365363076321328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948440063739018,0.15089130710825716,0.0,0.0,0.3185024423522544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788023006457468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412361907041016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316973441154932,0.19010913033031307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855697189516963,0.16260024481947374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361255645133167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955807234010568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630599248545832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280934184132134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038539270464375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786217437014848,0.0,0.0,0.12891270494152002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724428603637526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447524297944812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430681344490027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206374889849933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304897018773764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719863810320718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975213685890444,0.0,0.1274432188304528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260854523754395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999272122613646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838159715928231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915271111603513
parenting,confidentconfidantny,2020/04/13,Video chat apps for 6-8 year olds? Hi all. 5 weeks into quarantine here in NY. My kids miss there friends but are getting bored of zoom chats.... Are there any apps where they can play games or do something interactive that is appropriate for this age group? I tried Houseparty. They have charades and Pictionary type games you can play but that might be too advanced for my kindergartener I think. Any thoughts or ideas on how to make these chats better for them is greatly appreciated! Thanks,3.689333333333334,6.652401488888887,3.1288888888888917,88.66000000000004,78.55555555555556,6.266666666666668,24.555555555555557,7.554174236665415,1.1760222222222219,394,14,76,6,10,116,72,90,0.037000000000000005,0.731,0.23199999999999998,0.97,0,1,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,3,2,6,8,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,1,13,16,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,8,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,6,9,13,1,9,0,1,0,0,14,4,0,3,4,43,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821868075631469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24852656509559756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171041836974667,0.0,0.14681379695128566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30980960068275626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172210513632109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18757338047574704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981024717687114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948680447678841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163317939364173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587121476117949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005700398825716,0.0,0.2230870107098095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907843164621265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254056947742994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18095835509644398
parenting,Lornajm93,2020/04/13,"Does anyone else's kid get super hyperactive before bed? Every night recently he (4) is bouncing off the walls before bed and taking ages to go to sleep. 

As soon as I mention bedtime he starts. Getting him to use the toilet and brush his teeth are exhausting enough.

Feel so hopeless.",3.9541509433962285,6.480515358490568,4.574188679245285,81.14769811320755,74.66037735849056,6.504150943396226,25.69433962264151,7.554174236665415,1.6058105660377358,226,8,38,3,5,72,45,53,0.109,0.8240000000000001,0.067,-0.3541,0,0,0,0,0,1,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,3,2,1,0,4,9,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,1,6,9,1,8,0,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,5,18,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676854247485936,0.27368432433240497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4545794872516831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23374853433440465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22313495920424173,0.0,0.0,0.27599458461272913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505051431802303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505813298639194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27910643616092795,0.0,0.15180397190082906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506633250171705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637375165422981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673015008769015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18906084063589654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083242380256414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306960675272652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eschtaaaify,2020/04/13,"Asking for Tips on how to handle 8 month olds money I am a first time mom and with Christmas and now Easter she has at 8 months already saved up 215 dollars. I know this amount will possibly grow the older she gets and probably manage to save up more than her parents lol. She is very loved by her Grandparents :)

So I am just wondering how have you guys handled your little ones money? This is already quite some spending money for a baby. 
Saved it up until they were old enough to ask for stuff? Kept control over it until they are way older?
Only used it for big wishes? 
Done the good old its your money and as long as it is age appropriate do as you wish?",1.7317857142857171,4.090567568181818,3.0159307359307377,90.23318181818183,81.65151515151516,5.286580086580087,19.277056277056275,6.5431188927421005,0.16016926406926402,517,13,103,5,14,167,93,132,0.0,0.813,0.187,0.9775,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,2,3,5,5,0,0,4,1,12,1,0,4,0,19,22,12,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,2,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,14,5,21,18,4,24,0,0,0,1,17,8,0,2,14,73,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213759571719701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722576957626007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331778015991344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901303699511514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045753975516438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385866113006687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760769776941998,0.0,0.0,0.12213358912943588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418013308744926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800253019682636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594285427352816,0.0,0.12886325338016433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142175472808754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054062317837296,0.2324544110231839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583902221120681,0.0,0.09867139040134174,0.11074553215239194,0.0,0.0,0.16168641911376755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415719983316246,0.0,0.0,0.15699584488241458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487774664367918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669247498679438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490832909164113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257632022021302,0.0,0.12014628302070475,0.0,0.1155811181560802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33489638661934473,0.0,0.15791149213253114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Vast-Today,2020/04/13,"Babies sleeping in their own room What age did you guys make your babies sleep in their own rooms? My baby is 7 months and she’s still sleeping in my room. Part of it was because she was still waking up once or twice at nice so it was just easier to have her right there. Lately she’s been sleeping through the night the last couple nights. But honestly I want her to stay in here with me still, I just like having her close to me.😢 But I don’t want her to become too accustomed to it and never be able to sleep in her own room without a fight.. How long is too long?",0.9577500000000008,2.9469179416666686,2.0766666666666684,97.985,82.08333333333334,5.0,16.666666666666668,5.985473137389443,-0.6613333333333329,443,8,103,3,12,140,77,120,0.0,0.882,0.11800000000000001,0.9013,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,2,2,0,11,4,1,0,3,0,11,6,6,2,1,15,14,7,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,5,0,18,3,17,8,4,26,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,1,13,75,22,0,0.13791660671485434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840726833577125,0.15231805655907465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526021021142022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365591238657252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124204419568969,0.15557593959890706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737908760398699,0.0,0.0,0.24410371392026456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920604059221676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008371967861788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636978938760576,0.0,0.0,0.2588507853494606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468766850402049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493502451969755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778002857094914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6900810421941049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470007523696058,0.3304211408298789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269357587297406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329466873075319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,15926028,2020/04/13,"Screentime woes As we are working from WFH, some days our kids get more screentime. After a longer period of screentime (for example, 2 hours), our 4 year old boy has totally uncontrollable meltdowns. While the TV is on, he is 100% glued to it, whereas our 2 year old loses interest and goes off to play with other toys for a while. It's also worth pointing out that this only really happens when he watches multiple episodes of a kids TV show. It doesn't happen as much with movies for some reason. 

We dont do a lot of screentime generally and these meltdowns are one of the reasons why. And it's worth mentioning that he doesn't have meltdowns frequently under normal circumstances.

Can anyone explain the post-screentime intense meltdowns? My only guess is that he is mentally tired from the extended concentration but I'm asking cause I really don't know the answer! Thanks!",5.846296296296295,7.6320814691358025,6.06388888888889,75.63250000000002,67.64197530864197,9.103703703703703,32.01851851851852,9.516144504307137,3.214051851851852,706,30,117,15,12,225,105,162,0.048,0.8740000000000001,0.078,0.5772,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,2,2,6,0,1,9,0,14,1,0,3,1,22,23,10,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,10,8,0,0,5,5,2,0,4,3,0,1,0,1,7,3,20,23,6,17,0,2,1,0,15,5,0,4,12,75,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468661517672104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776423095960198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745137016288824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301527751763218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861793633349512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19738874729040815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799328402638076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185535273668209,0.0,0.29786915793417124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586125462112353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256005349864437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884205814121845,0.0,0.14318593912212751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972926196030585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380918360195195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650173137628929,0.0,0.0,0.3534600719055482,0.0,0.11412676928049315,0.2561842849359424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921275906628582,0.0,0.16130124396228462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579025512449931,0.3463307114884832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505989190806954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935757420046746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197421025495814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261286014418395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21691585215565976
parenting,MaAmores,2020/04/13,"Does Strict Parenting Pay Off? My husband and I parent very differently. He is much more militant. Wants a strict schedule, forces our 4 year old to do school work “so her brain doesn’t die,” and in general doesn’t tolerate her being a typical kid much. I’m all for doing work with her every day, but am much more easy going about it. For example, I’ll say let’s read 3 pages of this book before you can do X activity, whereas he will say, you have to finish the entire book before you can do anything else. No compromise. I feel like I must go along with whatever he says so that we’re a united front, but it makes me and my daughter miserable. Especially since I’m the one with her all day while he is in his office working. 

So I’m curious, if you had parents that were more militant than lenient, did it make you a harder worker/more successful? Or if you’re the strict parent do you think your kids are excelling because of it? And are they happy?

Edited to address questions: 
We’re looking at early reader books. A few words per page but maybe 30 pages long. She’s still learning how to read so it’s hard for her. 

He is resentful that his single mother didn’t push him hard enough (even though he is an incredibly hard worker now), hence wanting to push her.",3.7799122807017542,5.161154626984132,4.847710944026733,83.93003759398499,72.17460317460319,8.003675856307437,25.96157059314954,8.532816995589336,1.7126793650793657,994,32,199,17,19,326,156,252,0.079,0.7929999999999999,0.128,0.9587,5,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,7,1,6,12,6,1,1,9,0,25,1,1,3,3,28,37,17,1,5,6,7,4,1,0,2,0,3,1,2,9,8,0,0,4,5,1,5,4,2,0,1,4,8,25,4,20,29,14,20,0,1,1,0,38,4,0,4,12,121,34,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392777844544546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695788948241534,0.0,0.1942500533120264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741837336028666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722215970002794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184596575450572,0.1192523668615938,0.0,0.0,0.09988498497937452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534961197490836,0.0,0.0,0.1179374878945436,0.0,0.0753886213075006,0.0,0.09616816339090777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771278790304071,0.08154188518587754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973717671685026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150451955180512,0.3067419886816241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671623588087912,0.0,0.055763207054995885,0.0,0.0,0.10101061342825114,0.09584914271557934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523791330383356,0.0,0.11466931793322185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25171885992123777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197710914749146,0.0,0.07734445166345738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069573815435868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278633085064226,0.0,0.22834246574907455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723069505106341,0.0,0.11551612267690142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944180727753725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115262685922856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731365242115427,0.1121423093186834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417773826680166,0.1346458653646937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492865914244633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350263986206916
parenting,Make_You_Family,2020/04/13,Teaching French by a French uninclined parent My son is 16 months old and I would like to put him in French Immersion when he starts school. My own French ability is extremely basic. Is there anything that I would be able to work on with him now that would be helpful for language acquisition? Has any French uninclined parent out there been successful in developing a French-speaking child?,8.716857142857144,9.2198174,7.417857142857144,73.04964285714289,60.71428571428571,11.571428571428573,36.07142857142857,11.20814326018867,4.1485714285714295,318,13,54,8,4,96,50,70,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.8948,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,11,2,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,9,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,6,35,8,4,0.2417896947942446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442528378201407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897231699850024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206653571255822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812623160723396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19299422757652132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537176112819971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369576843755927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430654260300337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447040796675053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17113999046009568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602577751157655,0.0,0.0,0.5152813856897454,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alltime_pf_guru,2020/04/13,"At wit's end with a 5-year-old with ODD and ADHD. Need advice and support. My (35/m) son (5/m) has ODD and ADHD. He is a good boy sometimes but this extended stay-at-home order has my wife and I really scratching our heads about what to do. He is mean to his brother, he knocks over toys, he talks back, he screams/whines about everything, and in all seriousness, it's really hard to keep sane being with him day after day. It's not a typical ""preschoolers will be preschoolers"" attitude.  It is really, really taxing on us to the point of crying almost every day because he is so difficult.

While I appreciate posts that might say.""You're his father, be strong for him"", or ""Skype his friends so he can see someone else"", they're not really helpful because mentally he is wearing us out. We are loving parents who give him everything he needs.  Hell, my wife has a Master's in Special Education and finds it's much harder to deal with him than her students at school. She tries to have a daily ""school routine"" with him but his anger and defiance make it almost impossible. Then when he goes to his timeout or calm spot he just throws things constantly.

I am not looking for activities to do during the day. We try to have a routine. I am looking for guidance on how to mentally deal with this when I am at my breaking point. I don't want to be around him and that makes me sad.

Help?",2.9554534313725505,4.956637952205881,4.2741176470588265,84.60519607843139,75.72794117647058,7.4745098039215705,25.67156862745098,8.344100000000001,1.7416980392156858,1081,39,213,20,24,356,157,272,0.12300000000000001,0.769,0.10800000000000001,-0.526,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,5,0,0,2,10,12,2,0,8,0,24,3,2,3,1,39,37,19,0,3,8,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,12,18,0,1,2,1,1,1,4,5,0,0,0,5,29,7,35,31,2,28,1,1,3,1,45,12,1,5,12,134,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528032900897146,0.10277720237730574,0.0,0.0,0.2106380289832477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362933255550918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087419215388879,0.0,0.1282291663119164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365836976293747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553138341775268,0.27132041761636444,0.21686458793982852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786142179038259,0.0,0.09315511006259147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886156890572191,0.0,0.189051609465838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612936304367874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125905859991307,0.0,0.0,0.10089482745939186,0.0,0.08821700993455793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421743375130932,0.0,0.10794137344374627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099510481185545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934856546893722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664344472835886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949258457489358,0.0,0.14041218419910506,0.0,0.0,0.11456797944962953,0.0,0.0,0.211986232620894,0.11157558463262036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731678701868276,0.15597399890540822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036498385689504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167859926406161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19885146844940185,0.0,0.10072995849303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33689361141835955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364052857590965,0.0,0.21288834989230315,0.08381200745925654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911565844815303,0.0,0.10402219102027424,0.0,0.0,0.1121040935697089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935298058974884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453684049556938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987455495414112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281580103443395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530286206679205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620357908339028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773018064643313
parenting,neotsunami,2020/04/13,"I seem to be scolding my 9yo stepson way too much. First, I know that being at home locked up with the same people day after day can lower your patience quite a bit. I just want to make clear that this is something I've been worried about since way before this quarantine stuff started.

Anyway, I've been in a relationship with my wife for seven years now. We've been married for two. I've known her son since he was about to turn three. So I've had quite a bit of experience with him as a step-parent. But really the big challenge has been these two years of living under the same roof.

Before this, I had next to no interaction with kids. No one in my immediate family has kids or is even married. Out of all my cousins only one has kids and lives far away and I almost never see her. The rest are, again, unmarried and childless. My friends as well. Only a couple of them have kids and I almost never interact with them. My wife's family on the other hand is a veritable kindergarten. All my in-laws have at least two kids and all her cousins are having kids. It seems a new kid is born every month. I've never gotten used to hanging out with kids though. And I've never been very playful with them. I don't hate kids, I can play when I have to. But I'm not one of those people who just run in and start hugging and carrying children around.

So, to get to the point. I always get very exasperated when people lie, do the same thing I've asked them not to do over and over, are selfish, are wasteful, are overly dramatic. See where I'm going? Kids are all of this NATURALLY. I understand, but it still gets on my nerves. And pretty much every time I cross paths with him, there's something to reprimand him about. Either his room is a stinky mess, he didn't finish his food, he's got a smartphone, a Switch and the TV on and he's obviously not paying attention to all of them and I've told him a billion times to not do that, he puts food in the trash bin in his room and it stinks up the place (told him food waste goes in the kitchen's bin a billion times too), when he's doing homework he continuously gets distracted and starts playing with whatever is on hand. So every few minutes or so I'm going ""hey, buddy...\*reprimand\*"".

I have a bunch of issues myself. I don't really like being touched -to the point I can't sleep if my knees are touching, I have to have a pillow or fabric in between- and he's really touchy-feely. I imagine he notices my tension every time he comes over to see what I'm doing and puts his hand on my arm or shoulder. I don't really like people getting all up on my business and checking everything I'm doing, and he's at the point where if I laugh at something or am looking at something on my phone or computer he instantly asks ""what is it? show me!"" up to a point where I get really annoyed after the 20th thing he asks to look at during the day.

For some reason I take things way too personally in an instant and then realize what an immature idiot I am. The last couple of times I've done that where after renting a movie on YouTube for movie night he asked ""what do you mean you rented it?"" I proceeded to explain and talk about Blockbuster and how when I was a kid we borrowed movies and games. Halfway through he stopped listening and asked about something else entirely. I got pretty mad and scolded him telling him he was very rude for not listening. And the other was that he's regressed to wanting to fall asleep in our room and then be taken to bed. I'm usually editing videos or doing something else in my home office until late at night so he usually falls asleep watching TV with his mom anyway. Last night he was still awake by the time I walked into my room and when I sent him to his bed he just asked ""can't you go and edit some more?"" My temper rose, like how dare he just blatantly send me away from my own room when I want to get in my bed and go to sleep just because he hasn't fallen asleep in my bed yet? I again scolded him and sent him to his bed. He was pretty sad about it.

I'm scared he is going to resent me when he grows up for being hard on him. He's a sweet and loving kid. And I do play with him from time to time and show him that I love and care about him. He calls me dad even if I'm hist stepdad and he tells me he loves me, which I always answer with ""I love you too"". But I seem to go from 0 to 60 at him for every little thing. Sometimes I even feel the need to apologize to him for reacting the way I do. I don't really know if that's how parenting is.

I'm not on the bandwagon of being all lovey-dovey all the time with your kids and never reprimanding them because they can get traumatized or something. I never resort to violence though, I would never hit my kids other than a quick smack on the top of the head when they do something stupid. But never a belt, or a spanking. However, I don't think kids should be treated as being glass sculptures that will break apart if you even raise your voice.

I AM talking to my therapist about all of this. So I'm trying to work it out. But a few more opinions are very welcome.

TL;DR Even if I try to be a loving parent, I usually lose my temper and go from 0 to 60 about every little thing my stepson does that is out of line with my standards.",3.7254016620498613,4.540340528162512,4.772532594644506,86.56510360110805,71.69621421975992,7.65965650969529,25.243324099722987,7.839951260653429,1.2007530415512466,4124,117,878,51,75,1352,393,1083,0.083,0.82,0.096,0.9668,8,1,8,0,0,0,114.0,2,8,8,7,58,38,9,3,49,0,80,22,12,7,20,151,156,84,0,12,33,9,7,3,1,3,0,3,17,17,38,60,4,1,16,10,5,21,25,17,1,11,23,18,118,21,144,120,27,159,0,2,6,6,133,69,0,23,67,590,156,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879410368858624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378378977792807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03946928626021375,0.24869438413090098,0.0,0.08331204966472476,0.0,0.0,0.05405478746815854,0.0,0.07545495925163118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968089343767403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527298401396959,0.0,0.045204476322246535,0.0,0.0,0.0381923573188346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811598568681476,0.0,0.08578099623421047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03879956449413173,0.04537209420799286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407566652935506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642068951344606,0.0,0.22413476010662894,0.0,0.03984719258538731,0.043370045551815915,0.08359386279900831,0.0,0.0224180945398606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03771298776665749,0.1608372509741552,0.0,0.03425461826521093,0.0,0.18531381514565112,0.0,0.17638397650287474,0.0,0.0709206197481801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039717199321360995,0.0437735598840048,0.045502502810708924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894715348780707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046276257614390255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04873285738141367,0.07228106507794779,0.050014011771199914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498238395821053,0.08887454502788186,0.0783006798304359,0.0,0.07446374438096544,0.04960170707883999,0.0,0.0,0.20007914598432047,0.0,0.029595258992638464,0.0,0.0,0.04829593732787581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05192690100928957,0.03538933119104585,0.0,0.06518552073947917,0.032875287284025355,0.27356311842292835,0.04282090343828812,0.0471528502497096,0.1248216747926671,0.0,0.0,0.050477912437094964,0.0,0.0,0.09013159609122147,0.06744049808336365,0.0,0.0,0.09846187404962917,0.0,0.0,0.12295063678222068,0.038713315350107816,0.04632267702778045,0.0,0.16765099819205098,0.0,0.0,0.1353198553912169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914176315930375,0.0,0.09431560960225274,0.0,0.0,0.1704203162669161,0.04558576981056674,0.0,0.04760129260151246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04438902247175658,0.0,0.10599242857439092,0.1210880846977212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335196786215964,0.0,0.08873794098588322,0.0,0.0,0.2730620071420288,0.04385037811051085,0.0,0.09414576609588024,0.0,0.07081509248591189,0.037067676210632894,0.0,0.0,0.0507552012319047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03333586925808362,0.07127272332258723,0.07750489859388468,0.0,0.0,0.05147861723869189,0.14727750035785972,0.028409327874538245,0.08712165825183013,0.0,0.2326790934436121,0.0,0.0,0.08473171316302476,0.0,0.06020375858353945,0.048225870878517145,0.12993227578845648,0.04615632948978386,0.0,0.03829289016101969,0.14649266254219695,0.14633051125947566,0.07845324707458838,0.14077043156471564,0.0,0.0,0.03986424349240224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032277828289183366,0.04502632578267085,0.0,0.031495697813941355,0.0,0.0,0.05710308544184454
parenting,thegirlbird,2020/04/13,"Need advice on parenting as a ""single parent"" working from home with a 4 year old. Married couple with a 4 year old boy. Im fortunate enough to still have a job that pays extremely well, but requires me to live four hours away, Monday - Friday. With the COVID-19 restrictions in place, my son doesn't go to daycare and my wife works from home. Any tips to keep my wife sane and my son occupied (Read: not burning the house down)? So far the only way to keep him chill is to give him the TV or a tablet. Otherwise, he requires constant supervision which isn't practical with my wife working. I hate having to hand him over to the ""electronic babysitter"" but it seems as though there is no peace otherwise. Any suggestions?",3.737165450121655,5.89954859854015,4.107755474452554,85.94635340632604,73.96350364963504,7.778345498783455,26.74513381995133,8.59863814320734,1.9739396593673968,566,21,109,11,12,177,93,137,0.055999999999999994,0.852,0.09300000000000001,0.6377,3,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,5,5,2,1,0,10,0,6,1,1,0,0,17,13,9,0,1,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,6,0,5,1,2,1,1,4,1,1,1,0,1,10,1,21,13,2,17,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,2,8,65,13,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626000655960836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356733100643407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062394419578528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174475975765912,0.0,0.0,0.16561178066633378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465357596551976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358123965923086,0.08506336141767075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777239708184758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30027107960445243,0.0,0.1473990488732678,0.1727040617346579,0.0,0.0,0.16167394245948333,0.0,0.1485286606910454,0.2660748133209753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216516068538675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098160669564328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141160274746855,0.0,0.0,0.1138340597449785,0.0,0.0,0.3323912240183446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637780070395066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971481715998294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625787333151054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953009983590285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147054252746791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880450302469815,0.0,0.0,0.1345751826978842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268940477901461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19277070082651251
parenting,TrashcanHistories,2020/04/13,"Advice for people expecting or considering a third baby? I'm just hoping that some of you with 3+ kids might be willing to offer advice for time management and sanity-saving when considering / adding a third kid to the family.

As of now, we have two (8m and 3.5yr) and we plan to aim for an 18m gap between our 2nd and 3rd. I feel as if the 1 to 2 transition was easy and we have had a few months of peace, feeling really good about how our days look, and I'm definitely nervous about what will happen when the third come along. I'd prefer no ""give up because life will be terrible chaos"" advice, because I do accept that things will be crazy! I would just love to have some ideas of how to best set our lives up to eventually fall into a similar rhythm with #3",6.314615384615383,5.14594571794872,7.294487179487183,77.49634615384619,66.17948717948718,10.876923076923077,29.115384615384606,10.125756701596842,2.479823076923077,596,15,126,12,8,202,102,156,0.081,0.753,0.16699999999999998,0.937,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,1,0,2,9,7,0,1,8,0,15,2,0,2,0,31,25,14,0,5,4,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,4,14,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,2,0,4,2,3,10,5,25,14,4,13,0,0,1,1,12,3,0,6,7,86,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5683009854631469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363454147890904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203439721117338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698962210535578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502096536739649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182750012556168,0.0,0.19603865266977413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859641650321457,0.0,0.16259706277524813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714260597060326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925425682767426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883962239665244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692609730479682,0.0,0.0,0.17117823896443274,0.0,0.1627900633485519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496244445014789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20565038819784726,0.0,0.0,0.1547338644959649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439521553014194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418900102147415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878919163888286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303888646737233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936896590829316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377096111661283,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DetroitUberDriver,2020/04/13,"3 and a half year old aggressively refusing to try pooping on the toilet. Honestly it’s getting exhausting and frustrating. My wife and I don’t know what to do. He’s okay (usually) with sitting on the toilet for peeing although he typically doesn’t know when he has to go so we really aren’t making any progress, but when he has to poop, which he absolutely knows about prior, he ferociously refuses. We’ve tried bribing him with everything under the sun. Most preschools won’t take him if he isn’t potty trained. Any suggestions?",4.931699999999998,6.939177370000002,6.041,74.01550000000002,70.3,10.2,32.5,10.411451182825502,3.872,427,20,75,13,8,142,72,100,0.102,0.8420000000000001,0.055999999999999994,-0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,4,5,2,0,4,1,8,4,3,1,0,15,15,9,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,5,2,11,14,1,11,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,6,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3931815672063853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598150156163667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510373399356255,0.0,0.16429623352966125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47662811154575707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19296949617882445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30335081605809633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851981459645433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21735933775797192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39254560890401147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31839125867754514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861641695838853
parenting,howsersize,2020/04/13,"Tips for being a kinder, gentler Dad? Asshole Dad here.  And i need help. My negativity is harming my teen kids and undermining their confidence.  

I get so frustrated with them. They are so juvenile! Yes, *i know* they are supposed to be. But this doesn’t help.  And they look to me for everything - to play with, to talk to, to bounce every sophomoric idea, “funny” meme, epiphany, political insight- ugh!  They are driving me batty.  

OK. Deep breath. This is me at my worst.  I realize these thoughts make me a jerk.  I understand wanting to scream at my kids in annoyance and frustration is bad. So, i try to stuff all those things wayyy down.  And i try to be a good dad. 

But, it is boiling to the surface.  I snap.  I show annoyance and am often negative.  I joke at their expense in a passive-aggressive way.  It is mean. im also extremely self-critical and this trait is spilling over and refocusing on my kids!

So, what do i do?  Im constantly negative, and frustrated, and annoyed.  I yell. I tease harshly.  I say mean things.  Any tips for being a kinder, more loving Dad to my most wonderful kids? How do i become the nice, loving, patient Dad my kids deserve?

Help.  Any book suggestions?  Tools? Tips?

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parenting,StrongDelicateViolet,2020/04/13,"My kid is 3 1/2 and just had his first encounter with a playground bully My son was at a playground (we live abroad and just came out of our quarantine period) and he was playing around the other kids. The other kids were NOT interested in playing with him when he tried, so he just made piles of sand and climbed on the playground by himself. He was making piles over by those springy animals that rock back and forth and an older boy was on the nearby rocker. Anyway... Apparently my son decided he wanted to be on the rocker, and this kid threw sand in my son's face...!! He was weeping (tears good for sand removal... But geeze). I worked for several mins to get most of the sand from his eyes while he's crying like crazy. None of the adults nearby even moved or said anything. The boy didn't even LOOK apologetic... This kid was at LEAST in 3rd grade. My son kept saying how mean he was and that he should apologize.. I agreed but told him we couldn't make him apologize. I was so heartbroken for him. I wish I could've done more but my language barrier held me back from really getting into it with anyone, plus I wanted to get him home and rinse his eyes. He STILL has sand in his eyes hours later, but I'm so impressed with his ability to hold back from rubbing his eyes. 
Thanks for listening to my rant.",4.404405834405836,5.412617756756756,4.6919369369369415,87.05189939939942,70.27413127413128,8.072157872157872,25.58580008580009,8.344100000000001,1.414490175890176,1025,29,213,15,18,322,144,259,0.081,0.8290000000000001,0.09,0.5201,1,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,3,0,0,3,16,8,0,0,11,0,17,5,5,4,0,45,37,21,0,5,9,4,6,1,0,1,0,3,1,8,8,20,0,4,2,3,0,5,4,1,0,1,19,14,29,7,36,15,4,30,0,1,5,0,43,13,0,2,13,137,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179735210078459,0.0,0.13884285974932828,0.15019730159423053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892076905362703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19297167150104366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347098466419447,0.0,0.18533189936505484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265997851573098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228770220722724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351384416388746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26444899585503145,0.0,0.0,0.1415150197618534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924074013245308,0.0,0.16615602247804065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242847072984266,0.0,0.14898357606456464,0.0,0.14168299622759611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159647720342733,0.2252449163316899,0.0,0.0,0.18378643628839045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793235314209922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808687828544282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049213746406396,0.1341735688286456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190606503274062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474066560777267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553354636329787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121997485132306,0.0,0.1145503623433036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990318232802152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19402061754028785,0.0,0.0,0.12283076715385742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mumoftwo99,2020/04/13,"Concerned about my son’s health My eldest son [20M] has recently returned home from university and the short time he’s been back had made me worry about how unhealthy he’s become.

We’ve always been a relatively healthy family, but his time at uni has changed how he eats because of the freedom he has to choose what and when he eats. He doesn’t eat breakfast, and instead just snacks constantly throughout the day on junk (I think he has his own supply) and doesn’t touch fruit. I make healthy family meals and buy good snacks but there’s only so much encouragement I can give him.

He’s gained a lot of weight. I go for periods of months without seeing him while he’s away and every time he’s come home in his two years at uni he’s got noticeably larger. At first it wasn’t a problem but over time he’s gone from very slim to being considerably overweight and his size combined with malnutritious diet is worrying me in terms of his health and immunity especially with the current situation.

The fact he’s out of breath a lot really worries me. Sometimes all he has to do is carry a box across a room or even get up from the sofa and he’s breathing harder. I can sometimes hear him panting after climbing the stairs up to bed. He never used to have problems like this as he was always relatively fit. He said he tried sports teams at uni but he didn’t fit in so he’s not getting a lot of exercise in there at all.

I know he’s an adult, and I know that part of going to uni is making decisions about your life yourself and he’s chosen a poor lifestyle and it’s only going to change if he wants it too. But at the end of the day he’s still my boy and seeing him becoming really unhealthy is worrying me as I don’t think he appreciates how bad his diet/weight is, and I think it’s my responsibility as his mum to help him. Is there anything else I can do other than cooking healthy while at home and encouraging exercise that’s not too invasive that can help him realise he should think about changing?",5.280148514851483,5.6257304009901015,6.046558415841584,80.49448118811883,68.00990099009901,9.137267326732674,29.77386138613861,9.065960079200117,2.2633876435643567,1598,55,324,27,25,525,199,404,0.091,0.787,0.122,0.9353,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,4,20,7,0,0,18,0,29,20,2,7,4,57,53,33,0,5,11,3,2,1,0,1,7,2,6,2,10,19,12,0,9,5,2,6,9,3,0,2,10,7,32,4,50,41,9,52,0,0,2,0,54,23,0,5,24,192,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427292654892104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057855547815722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058048855199841,0.06594917599324009,0.071611479282508,0.05228248735072153,0.18944481244765124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721888844911305,0.07388028080185996,0.0,0.09268316172281288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062464734048427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26328174931765064,0.07164693970166132,0.0,0.07596369848736831,0.0,0.0,0.056647991461478274,0.0,0.07226200989156678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170612369761267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295297597940427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961895560105244,0.08227508128014205,0.1462293052604457,0.07193690544322577,0.0685953377778746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233164496410728,0.09666512505406244,0.0,0.11497500913182565,0.0,0.25809250086396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427009591367372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057944434174955,0.04190119970799582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21874693840896656,0.0,0.08115437486316557,0.11449966424050098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845803478318184,0.0,0.06304827607581596,0.0,0.06614844377565883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764577541028494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045863847108147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928768060383518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16413399346724875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098884847129038,0.0,0.08468411230656109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158362085213586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668965792597365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640518558586277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696506042309478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684932704492787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21982294554286896,0.0,0.0,0.2000446391445828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058229851490285076,0.0,0.08378144821260619,0.0,0.0,0.07407475412405996,0.0,0.07076637854190769,0.05058732802919457,0.0,0.0,0.20888108264809055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267588495899637,0.0,0.0,0.34840034245901386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05523084045162584
parenting,Choosepeacenow,2020/04/13,"Is it just me? Earlier I was overwhelmed between Easter and a cranky toddler, I told my sons dad I needed a mommy break and he seemed annoyed by the idea, automatically I got defensive and said ""Sometimes I just feel trapped mom mom mom"" (I'm a stay at home by the way) to make a long story short, he then shared, ""Yes of coarse life is easier before children but you cant do anything now, but embrace it."" I actually agreed with him, but part of me felt embarrassed? No way do I regret becoming a mother but I'm I wrong for feeling, like ""fuck this is hard"" sometimes? But at the same time my child is definitely the reason I want better for myself, hes truly a motivation. Just needed a quick holiday vent",2.1072142857142846,4.381881578571431,4.155714285714286,83.07928571428572,79.64285714285714,6.857142857142858,24.285714285714285,7.957251820313856,1.5094285714285718,551,20,108,10,14,188,94,140,0.152,0.609,0.239,0.8702,0,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,2,5,10,3,2,11,1,9,2,0,3,0,26,23,9,0,4,8,6,4,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,3,4,0,1,7,1,0,0,2,7,0,0,5,5,17,3,11,18,2,12,0,2,0,1,16,3,1,1,6,67,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.1501723077205734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266365586960736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995700003110933,0.1309471952019571,0.0,0.0,0.1361012657779943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562060497454147,0.10993748495315966,0.14775643411503014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226680417680995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307814264452012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378532545505779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436202452358389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372061053252752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086955139161739,0.07518181266687576,0.0,0.0,0.13618587267836513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027213106944386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5406946430137379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282117281089711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664550612713494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582223026033036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638255091345864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400936860948239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043979655713649,0.0,0.0,0.16402393412474073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897332217811822,0.0,0.0,0.14704640083832507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907670196966447,0.24429796747084026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682521667166718,0.0,0.0
parenting,AD122218,2020/04/13,"Help my LO will only sleep in my arms!! My LO is just about 9 weeks old.  She was sleeping V in B her crib but now will only sleep in my arms. Whole I  long the time with her, I am not getting good sleep and am missing 2 pumping sessions throughout the night. I am also worried this will impact her negatively.  Any advice?  I try getting her almost all the way to sleep  before I move her but she still ends up crying within minutes. Thanks",0.9603370786516868,3.271068910112362,2.465269662921348,93.239702247191,84.61797752808988,4.009438202247192,20.135955056179775,4.935628992294339,-0.2841110112359555,339,10,70,1,10,110,61,89,0.14400000000000002,0.794,0.061,-0.8291,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,8,7,7,0,1,8,12,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,16,2,8,8,2,15,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,1,8,47,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550679612570475,0.0,0.0,0.14910536593061316,0.0,0.0,0.11907809092263864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012594995287903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126705928019184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356352444167635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188432156563645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555918865750209,0.0,0.0,0.12489320766140401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980689051675876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177492923160214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826087637925335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973586625606074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624919567793066,0.0,0.0,0.22649567319311395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7450552803051748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891454319482443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370903551392755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682683979905527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109571560606703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11819268306531322,0.11944142179744728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624546211600685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121875222440306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mazzsquatch,2020/04/13,"Four year old drawing This may sound like a silly question, but there’s been a bit of conflict on this subject between my partner and I.

So when my daughter draws, quite often she will draw one line or scribble on one part of the paper and that picture is then ‘done’ and she’ll want a new piece. 

I’ve been trying to encourage her to fill up her pages more as there’s just so much paper waste otherwise. I’ve tried limiting her paper pages per day so she is encouraged to use up more of the page, but this seems to just discourage her from wanting to draw or be creative, which I definitely don’t want.

My partner thinks I’m overreacting. Am I just being crazy?

Thanks in advance for any advice!",4.996682653876898,5.633672489208635,5.374340527577939,84.03946442845725,68.71223021582733,8.19216626698641,29.83293365307754,8.167268648758528,1.9366636290967223,552,20,111,7,9,176,94,139,0.09,0.7440000000000001,0.165,0.8588,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,3,10,6,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,0,22,20,13,0,3,7,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,3,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,3,1,13,5,17,12,9,13,0,1,0,0,13,5,0,6,7,77,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158069358255408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018200454126854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411052710424609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242659509679054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260008570946639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789359059401007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234630354233312,0.0,0.0,0.21329323778306292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317394172800616,0.0,0.2993002391080244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391533453985803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473966650874611,0.2348955782137984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201048767995192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033241763380139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150839984807032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998781801392641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19073895856228126,0.0,0.0,0.3907798700989419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221677969553864
parenting,Magdalin,2020/04/13,"Dealing with food issues during a pandemic I have two boys. My four year old (the oldest) has some food issues. He’s at that age where he only wants to eat certain things and it’s super limited. As of right now he will eat: white box mac n cheese (not the yellow kind for some reason), only certain brands of cereal and then, randomly sometimes sloppy joes, but not always. He will not eat ANYTHING else.

I’m really regretting not handling this prior to the pandemic. It wasn’t an issue because I figured those were items I could easily pick up and have on hand. When I brought him into the pediatrician for another issue, I did mention his food issues and the doctor told me that it’s fairly normal for his age and that kids will eat when they are hungry. He said if it persisted past a certain point that it’s a possibility that my son could have other food issues that could be a sensory thing? I regret not looking into it more. I have a few girlfriends with kids and they said theirs went through the same thing. I wasn’t worried about it.

Now it’s a problem because I’ve been out of work for over a month and I have to make due with what I have grocery wise. I don’t have anything he will eat at this point and he’s not eating... I’ve been trying to introduce him to new foods but it results in a fight or a tantrum. He’s sick right now with an earache, so that isn’t helping. I’m just not sure what to do in order to get him to eat something because he’s a kid and going days without eating can’t be good for him especially when he’s sick.

Any advice? Is this a normal phase or could it be something more serious? He doesn’t act like this over anything else, just his food.",3.6108746355685137,4.739256419825079,4.760216909620993,85.37100758017495,72.26530612244899,7.353889212827989,25.673352769679298,7.699297019823105,1.2883717551020415,1324,41,271,16,25,436,169,343,0.105,0.8029999999999999,0.09300000000000001,-0.7283,0,0,2,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,3,4,11,15,2,0,19,0,32,18,1,4,4,55,44,20,0,11,15,1,1,1,1,4,3,2,0,4,28,16,14,1,2,0,0,4,14,6,0,2,11,6,24,9,35,22,7,39,0,2,3,0,34,16,0,6,19,179,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645171859302968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05493665868911921,0.0,0.0,0.04489809501862623,0.06923116665615875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299460379557673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074153761641435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085686960936575,0.0,0.0,0.042579554184056116,0.06806710349269338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757762560474108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5404663923879544,0.11030795847002008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790136797178482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03449443923819904,0.0,0.03752255201905274,0.05537719553085888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044254013448495985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4134669109770253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875308707805274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032255640062784474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544292753304261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04407105265230038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05269915288250136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376569607034963,0.0,0.0,0.12937759434318635,0.0,0.0,0.06928032694983892,0.0,0.0,0.10042736043190503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302669226949198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482668204340475,0.07443132898784484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317536314284476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229620434075343,0.06788292888455054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276704221635102,0.12560651855144894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165589442123607,0.06529871298008585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222616085580621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158880226832784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630880742259449,0.0,0.04482547382101837,0.0,0.06449515184093765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03894224165463056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120424281487781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364408670142868,0.0,0.048065734798548254,0.06704984655823783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251682821465283
parenting,Pops1988,2020/04/13,"Little wire tent tunnel things are the worst toys ever! I after 5 years was able to fold up and put away the kids’ wire tent tunnel things that are impossible to fold and bag, without any issues today. It is a special day that I will remember for the rest of my life. 

But I was introduced to my new nemesis, the wire hexagon ball pit thingy....",3.8636764705882345,5.110722720588235,4.464000000000002,87.28100000000002,71.79411764705883,7.2047058823529415,23.894117647058824,7.554174236665415,0.9428905882352954,267,7,55,3,5,85,50,68,0.065,0.8959999999999999,0.04,-0.4003,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,6,1,0,0,1,6,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,9,3,2,10,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,36,10,0,0.273111705278178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857253249885948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565974373964234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613445593677374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24704517336432294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28505766366175483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929068743106632,0.0,0.27372967770811435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637729868244198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745526977637324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093823221350767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628865627967261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588779624902154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632699378742331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587498388015713
parenting,Awsm_POE,2020/04/13,"Middle child (3F) has very intense and fierce tantrums over anything and everything. Help. Our daughter has been having a rough time overthe last 6 months or so. She is 0-100 immediately over anything and everything. If she wants a drink or a snack she will sceam and start crying as option one instead of asking nicely. Same goes for anything else. Say no once, scream session ensues for an hour plus. Bed time? Three hours of screaming until she is out cold. 

We don't cave to her demands until she asks politely  and we explain that to her many times through the course of the tantrums. It's unfortunately at the point where she's making day to day life unenjoyable l for my wife and I.

Our eldest (6m) never had this type of behavior and our youngest (2m) doesn't show any signs of beginning either so we're a bit new when it comes to responding to this type of behavior.

The second the outbursts starts we try and talk her through it and get her asking for things nicely to get what she wants. If the tantrum persists it usually ends in a timeout, but my goodness the intensity, we can barely handle the time out! It normally with the loudest screaming ever, kicking the floor, screaming she hates us and doesn't love us. When it ends up toning down and we get apologies eventually but it's the same thing every single day.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated.",4.470014652014651,6.414369107692307,4.760109890109892,82.98679487179491,71.38461538461539,7.26007326007326,28.534798534798533,7.957251820313856,1.8660567765567768,1088,42,202,15,21,342,159,260,0.11,0.831,0.059000000000000004,-0.8992,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,10,0,0,1,7,13,4,0,17,0,14,4,0,1,2,40,30,25,0,6,7,2,1,0,0,2,1,5,1,1,13,21,2,0,1,2,0,1,5,8,0,3,2,7,25,5,31,25,5,37,0,0,0,1,35,12,0,5,24,133,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082574758179596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29192473529608937,0.0,0.33163849087486474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290964772369251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186040821496868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298901644678127,0.2287810417293716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583828022119305,0.0,0.0,0.09878125050630204,0.0,0.20946572626581936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696232378441524,0.09962926163924092,0.0,0.21254782830419308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18533951080541647,0.0,0.0,0.09918103280928657,0.0,0.13036912748378826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167456787645901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925931816702485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329014396434732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638811678458004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083522245220422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672367413788678,0.0,0.07893163380965831,0.11988517895058932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438463542539588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120035025102234,0.11420490932113216,0.0,0.0,0.11585819132162108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593054095993722,0.08012808334292013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178282981414547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403576492818408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673934584377895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504347468820737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571177833522589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758060524855276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028280860226665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28447620188861833,0.0,0.13023375577890928,0.09756720098974292,0.13949177852687752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400017337398688,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeautifulRelief,2020/04/13,"What should I expect after not seeing my one year old for two weeks? I primarily am the one that takes care of my one year old because I’m a stay at home mom. I haven’t been allowed around my daughter for almost two weeks (ordered by doctor after I came into contact with someone that came into contact with someone covid positive, my daughter basically has a compromised immune system) and I can finally see her Friday. I’m starting to get nervous that she won’t remember me or may be upset by my sudden reappearance. Has anyone been through something similar? What should I expect?",7.818393939393934,7.6548909000000025,8.187272727272727,69.01757575757578,62.72727272727274,10.242424242424242,37.42424242424242,9.725611199111238,3.8441515151515135,469,21,75,8,6,155,74,110,0.044000000000000004,0.867,0.08900000000000001,0.7041,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,3,0,12,2,0,1,0,18,22,2,0,4,2,3,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,5,4,2,14,1,15,13,0,20,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,3,11,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852134511714153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069176205957786,0.0,0.0,0.14092657257346353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650232688339136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36212150258042997,0.16140428461444362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203366906333652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734173092282695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270874423346987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879458015229075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540695505247454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322326130618707,0.0,0.3218182572132185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933069035733498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522999711598307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682655950853868,0.12187227212842792,0.0,0.0,0.1120503341148547,0.16873393462318706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902697624999745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092853883534777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539682556407291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20388871644736986
parenting,phife648,2020/04/13,"What’s your car seat? Looking to buy a car seat for use after our baby outgrows the infant car seat. There are so many! I live in a very remote location and the nearest stores to look at them in person are 12 hours away. With that distance on top of COVID; I will need to buy online. 

So, what’s your car seat and why do you love it?",0.6239637826961797,2.4827297464788742,2.160080482897385,97.64140845070429,82.52112676056338,4.620523138832998,17.185110663983902,5.288315135182226,-0.7565790744466803,256,5,60,1,7,83,52,71,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.7685,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,1,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,1,0,5,9,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,1,12,8,0,13,0,0,2,1,8,7,0,0,2,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852495022303458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989925048737625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26809123093014603,0.0,0.5099081370427899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740178739012118,0.0,0.0,0.3078106344602021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251213208938359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650986016487448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622196405285921,0.0,0.2505082137929377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739587970930181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tehJ0kerer,2020/04/13,"How often do you video chat with grandparents? So my mom is upset with me that she only gets to video chat with my kids every other weekend.  I usually talk with her by phone once a week, but she says all her friends video chat with their grandkids at least once a week.  My kids are 3 and 6 and I feel really busy all the time.  I'm wondering what other parents do?",3.9052000000000007,4.4917464533333336,4.734666666666667,87.83400000000002,71.13333333333333,8.133333333333333,24.333333333333336,8.238735603445708,1.172333333333333,284,7,62,4,5,92,53,75,0.025,0.9129999999999999,0.062,0.5733,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,1,2,14,8,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,12,1,8,8,3,6,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,2,5,40,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071268862091734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430174011140005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18993178254497373,0.0,0.12843882454154146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879193921932334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5236132517395881,0.0,0.18696886238115065,0.0,0.0,0.2729710648966357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574884209765413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549813841239025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975931432469338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334857026198886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707529080310561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943885804055144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665979517828493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,washablememe,2020/04/13,"My daughter just called me the stupidest mom I don't know what's going on with her. She has had an attitude before, but it used to be manageable. Lately, it's been out of hand. No matter how little or how much attention I give her, it's always the same. She'll act fine when we are playing and as soon as she doesn't get what she wants, she starts throwing things, slamming doors and cabinets, yelling, etc. She didn't used to be like this. Now whenever you try and talk to her or reason with her, she just rolls her eyes literally nonstop. It's infuriating.

I'm repeating the same things over and over. I come from a family that used to beat me if I was ever out of line so I don't want to do that to her but what are you supposed to do if she just doesn't want to listen to anything? Time outs don't work, she barely sits in the corner, still won't shut up, won't stop trying to play while she's in there. I'm at my wits end. 

I don't know what goes on at her dad's house. I know her new stepmom is nice to her and she likes her stepmom a lot. She calls her mom. She called me the stupidest mom just now. I literally just spent the day taking turns with her hiding and finding eggs, & playing pretend bakery. She says it's more fun there and she wants to stay there.

So now I don't know what to do. Am I supposed to just let her live with her dad if she just never listens to me anyway? I'm terribly heartbroken. I've been as self aware as I could be with her, I've done everything I could for her even if it wasn't something she would be happy with. I feel like such a failure. Maybe I shouldn't have been a mother?",1.5159152215799594,3.079986641618497,3.0611791907514463,93.65756840077073,78.53757225433527,6.3474373795761085,20.492870905587672,7.1686216300943375,0.2568415414258189,1262,31,296,15,30,415,167,346,0.10400000000000001,0.779,0.11699999999999999,0.5362,0,0,1,0,1,0,39.0,1,2,0,2,24,11,0,0,11,0,36,3,2,6,2,61,61,25,0,12,15,7,2,3,0,5,0,4,1,1,16,18,1,1,8,4,1,4,14,1,0,0,9,7,56,10,41,40,6,38,0,0,1,0,52,15,0,7,20,207,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234011135365508,0.12024139391245067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132299041398527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443157311994586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399537267801961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559515818567386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720905570171047,0.0,0.0,0.07156971080084029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356598093224805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829093358137306,0.0,0.1237664885080872,0.07329795780262365,0.10038326412848436,0.0,0.0,0.0997371973312734,0.0,0.1046173776458918,0.0,0.05611230738832957,0.07928058048869216,0.0,0.0,0.10142916294980836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057979870569886974,0.10645735674459356,0.06306966448978618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813497836244667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805027979255765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439558873690532,0.0,0.12518466265003775,0.0,0.0,0.11347948250151355,0.0,0.16265037588302714,0.11122612987324512,0.09799298079389572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094346998291821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148932930928518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899178263312029,0.0,0.0,0.08157941279305382,0.0,0.08559078116431662,0.10718037128904634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410080921891146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825179459765395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577115449281697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543399648431405,0.0,0.0,0.07854869433095385,0.11828461163168268,0.08862479882572538,0.09278009056496013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343940826642555,0.08919752194749309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745375182125411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471042988625526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068951563058922,0.12070896061187154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28754037320373066,0.0,0.0,0.261823781537099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807911403696685,0.0,0.0,0.07883347418325261,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beardedfatguy1,2020/04/13,"How to tell my children.... So, my girlfriends Father has a very rare bone cancer and he probably doesn’t have much time left. I’ve only been in the picture since last August and her Father has basically been the Father figure in her twins’ (6) lives. I guess this is a two part question. 1, do we tell them now or wait? 2, if we do tell them, HOW do we tell them????",1.2599428571428568,3.0755682133333337,2.905904761904761,93.312,80.2,5.352380952380952,18.714285714285715,6.1826913282559595,-0.23317142857142906,276,6,62,2,7,91,54,75,0.075,0.925,0.0,-0.7666,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,10,2,1,2,0,13,12,7,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,11,0,3,10,2,7,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,4,4,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275862703474478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840145267398005,0.0,0.0,0.22446467750289384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824260366748319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151870152632646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712383089606868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237208625992491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227429685266734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23143224371501056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089645720026095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.722288056961225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046645749559134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018120418158944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046145238761842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hanzilol,2020/04/13,"Can anyone suggest a community/discord/subreddit for parents of autistic children? As the title indicates, my daughter is autistic (4y) and I'm looking to try to do more to help support her development.  One of the things I'm hoping for is some sort of regular interaction with other parents in similar situations.  Any suggestions would be appreciated, but I've looked and haven't been able to find anything that fits what I'm looking for.",9.729430379746836,9.272078113924053,10.18591772151899,57.211534810126636,59.0,12.963291139240505,47.598101265822784,12.161744961471696,6.29466835443038,357,22,53,10,4,121,61,79,0.0,0.893,0.107,0.7202,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,16,4,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,2,2,13,13,2,2,0,0,3,0,9,2,0,3,0,36,6,0,0.22035091019064013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498461750843135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540744798191494,0.0,0.1813300239725673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139673992092133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769657030294633,0.0,0.0,0.21885817300343585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5551178032958831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493154794715563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893472179891957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24768365539550316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500516016079133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639135354298666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960380380582014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653096442296127,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PunnyButNotThatFunny,2020/04/13,"How old for unsupervised fenced backyard I have a 2.5, 3 almost 4 and a 9 almost 10 year old. I'm a SAHM and spend every living moment with them but recently I've started letting my 9/10 year old play out back with them while I do laundry with the door open. The laundry room is the door to the back yard. I'm literally right there and weve been doing this for a few weeks and every once in a while I'll be adventurous and leave the laundry room for a bit and go do other chores where I cant hear or see them for about 10 mins. There have been no mishaps other than the occasional small knee scrape etc. And my 9yo seems to be aware if I'm needed and will come get me (other than choking issues). Would it be ok to let them play for like an hour or so with occasional check ins if I wanted to play a video game or take a bath? I dont know if I'm a helicopter parent and ever reacting by always watching them but it would be so nice to have like an hour a day to myself when they play out back alone. The yard is impossible for them to get out of or strangers to get in (unless they jump an huge fence) and the only danger I can tell are them sticking fingers in the AC fan thing but they know not to go near it.",4.3919358974359,3.9084640653846168,5.420769230769231,87.07089743589745,69.88461538461539,8.317948717948719,25.41025641025641,7.554174236665415,0.9610179487179492,947,21,221,9,15,314,140,260,0.057,0.81,0.134,0.9658,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,10,0,12,10,1,0,22,1,24,3,2,2,1,45,43,27,0,7,12,1,1,2,0,3,1,1,9,0,8,19,0,2,3,9,2,4,4,1,0,0,3,4,21,9,33,31,3,39,0,0,2,0,15,15,0,10,22,144,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25543947468066724,0.13210006134945862,0.0,0.0,0.10612918942750364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942269436159938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924811622806224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987030990880403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225716087522755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948394794552688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224844340229192,0.0,0.11537342004322099,0.21492742949129728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991388064695387,0.0,0.1449756183232211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375455983372165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512158924184897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312576448391514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019281655068178,0.0,0.0,0.13505368850129845,0.0,0.26085057334212325,0.0,0.12462588792305428,0.0,0.11262619752980647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945743665959985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40151686239602585,0.13583322317982227,0.0,0.0970051201993908,0.0,0.0,0.1416256729811681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593711830125573,0.0,0.0,0.10892430546498436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016383188765374,0.11611385388738728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027831066832374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958993511683238,0.0,0.11148156104730823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473645379795477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523043155361166,0.0,0.1023103824890176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18121123295551367,0.0,0.0,0.16427196786699466
parenting,b00minbiz,2020/04/13,"Baby Name??? hey everyone!

my girlfriend and i are having a baby in mid to late November. 

we're throwing around some baby names and we had a name picked out a few months before we even found out she was pregnant. in the event that it is a girl, we chose to go with **Isabelle**.

However, a few months ago, my ex of 3 years had a baby and named her **Isabella**. Now I know most of you are probably like ""who cares?"" etc, which I feel that way as well. But I also feel like it might be too close/weird. It also kinda feels like if I choose NOT to go with Isabelle solely because of this situation, then in a way my ex has like some ""power"" over me. Then I also feel like if I DO choose to go with Isabelle, that my ex would think that we copied her which isn't the case. Idk maybe I'm just tripping for no reason.

What do you guys think?",-0.6703448275862058,1.5086842931034496,1.3432471264367831,98.3452155172414,94.0,4.279310344827587,15.295977011494253,5.985473137389443,-0.7145816091954019,633,14,147,6,24,208,103,174,0.013000000000000001,0.884,0.10300000000000001,0.9177,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,4,2,0,1,9,7,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,2,0,40,27,12,0,3,5,3,4,5,1,2,0,0,0,2,12,13,0,0,11,0,0,5,3,0,1,0,4,4,21,7,19,20,6,24,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,7,14,99,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128708227542321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34834155320971005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925596063160533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851063881508676,0.0,0.123551806564077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803784323230856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619328445142291,0.0959011356558541,0.0,0.0,0.13874179163822925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29366351609968383,0.3111859292776414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920082776710182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24755611062008426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376768775128065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979637956497884,0.0,0.16378834656159932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546791804676881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586972972782114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403088947763455,0.0,0.0,0.23178944605439603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654673859687432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928652190844371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632073184286621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607252946568967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305009677710402,0.0,0.0,0.1305493860084504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314366086744874,0.0,0.0,0.093501996909106
parenting,mommabones,2020/04/14,"Distance makes the heart grow fonder I went to the grocery store for the first time in weeks today and left my 4 week old home with his dad. It was a big grocery shop and about halfway through I remembered I had a baby at home and missed him terribly! I guess it sometimes takes some distance to realize how much you love someone? Anyway I rushed through the store and hurried home to a newborn that had slept the whole time I was out. It’s so crazy being a parent, so constant and heart consuming! I’m so happy to be doing it!",4.670390835579512,5.376430971698114,4.898733153638816,86.91216981132077,69.47169811320754,7.5665768194070075,30.23719676549865,7.447530270364453,1.7226404312668468,417,16,85,4,7,131,71,106,0.084,0.8240000000000001,0.092,0.4406,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,0,9,0,7,4,3,2,0,13,15,9,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,7,0,0,2,1,3,3,0,2,0,1,6,0,10,2,12,7,3,16,0,1,0,1,7,5,0,2,8,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342807449413231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438031314187544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698717144209845,0.0,0.0,0.18069083045672898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40228419701555423,0.0,0.0,0.510787607963085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442243932752084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531965058250568,0.0,0.11330241950890545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477804668930326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811302874280333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18847560283184264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922817396625326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381970875102051,0.0,0.16787668381402088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276229629993411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19795290907804985,0.0,0.16089317787904364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723095411965039,0.0,0.0,0.1573501965075988,0.0,0.18950806526558828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrJPLH,2020/04/14,"Today my iPhone notified me of a new memory video. It made me very sad. So as I mentioned, my phone lit up this morning with a notification. “You have a new memory”. It was our son from his first year alive, 2018. 

I always get so excited when these videos pop up like the big proud dad I am, but I was surprised by my emotional reaction when I watched the photos and videos of my little boy. As I watched the video, my son, from his high chair eating his lunch said “What’s daddy doing?” and I looked over at this now 25 month old looking over at me and the initial excitement very quickly changed to a mixture of sadness and disbelief. 

It just hit me that he’s so big now. He’s literally my best friend and we spend almost every second together all day everyday. We had to get him a big boy bed because he wouldn’t sleep in his own room if I wasn’t there with him. 

As we’re so inseparable, I don’t really notice how much he’s growing as he’s always there with me, but looking at the pictures of his bald, round, chubby little face trying to comprehend the world around him and then seeing him all dressed up with his beautiful defined face and lovely red hair eating by himself and talking, I felt this huge stab of fear and sorrow.

He’ll always be my little man, sure, but my God, he’s coming so far already and the fear I felt was at the notion that one day my best friend will become more and more independent. Obviously I want that for him, and it’s selfish I know, but in that moment I was so frightened about his progress, something they normally make me swell with pride. 

This whole day, the thought hasn’t left me.",4.4001031790295615,5.198858162576691,5.210563301728946,84.09822643614056,70.13496932515338,8.25856107083101,27.39486893474623,8.438071523408619,1.7234895705521471,1275,41,263,19,22,415,177,326,0.092,0.727,0.18100000000000002,0.9827,0,0,1,0,1,0,32.0,3,1,1,6,17,18,0,2,14,0,14,9,5,4,4,43,32,31,0,4,6,3,4,1,2,3,0,1,2,3,14,21,3,0,4,4,1,2,4,6,0,3,11,13,48,12,35,16,9,44,0,3,9,1,38,24,0,2,19,170,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113509628466624,0.0,0.12271221384019325,0.0,0.27758248666135604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899177637648204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778662524891113,0.12281191233876868,0.0,0.0,0.2333955519878449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763509379439648,0.095789147796368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21514483795286204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227571183395212,0.0,0.12508528637525498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369098588200862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502623380385913,0.0,0.0,0.2135393097160176,0.0,0.0,0.09458685487427264,0.0,0.0,0.17182603651942266,0.0,0.11619505624847648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174891433960948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061112735714083426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208193702079747,0.0,0.0,0.05432681316464754,0.3343555174380047,0.0,0.0,0.280140548399524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036254492315258,0.1052203419331605,0.07422701390363245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875895896067057,0.0,0.08174496049263129,0.0,0.0,0.21479574114695388,0.0,0.0,0.10895261079756566,0.0,0.12660219358872907,0.1166859306113142,0.0,0.07535215058019712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123771180237763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577687890124196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861218246057644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128053282076808,0.0,0.0,0.08560736622429445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480489638979627,0.0,0.0,0.08937852894498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828055774053663,0.0,0.0,0.10540481132875283,0.0,0.0,0.07549765363673405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18350366348347355,0.06558877400869158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415108041195615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160929928145612
parenting,celinedioff,2020/04/14,"Restricting YouTube access Does anybody know how to restrict access to YouTube on a computer while still allowing access to directly linked YouTube videos? My daughter is required to use computers now for distance learning, and she has been exploring YouTube without parental controls. Her distance learning requires her to watch some YouTube videos, but the videos are always linked directly from Google Classroom or embedded within a Google Classroom module. Any way to allow her to continue to watch required videos but block everything else? TIA!",10.561034482758618,13.044807804597705,7.425919540229888,67.64853448275863,57.16091954022989,10.397701149425288,48.98275862068966,10.504223727775694,6.141124137931034,457,30,56,10,6,128,59,87,0.078,0.833,0.08900000000000001,0.4769,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,5,0,23,6,6,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,13,5,1,8,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,2,4,34,5,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274895556993138,0.0,0.0,0.22466395176888712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705397340051185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28911032964848155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759829994028917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29691660548587445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815635387400272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668384585682781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26383511000215226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853349062544224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26223352249604104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318466340701823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AggressiveResult2,2020/04/14,"So far I’ve found the year between ages 1 and 2 to be the worst. Granted my daughter is only nearly 3 and my son 13 months so I haven’t experienced a lot yet, but so far age 1 sucks the worst.

Someone else said 1 year olds have the mental capacity of a baby and the physical abilities of a toddler and that’s pretty true. 

They can’t communicate much beyond just screaming and having a fit, which is difficult when they’re toddlers because they’re much stronger now. They’re aware enough to know they want that specific toy but can’t voice it, so they just scream. They have no understanding of consequences so you can’t threaten a time out if they don’t behave. Even if you manage to calm them down they can’t tell you with words what the problem is even if they want to.

My daughter’s terrible twos were nothing compared to the horrific ones. And threenager? Bring it on. At least she can understand what a time out is.",4.461325250836119,5.596238635869565,5.064782608695656,83.96015050167227,70.25,8.487625418060201,28.827759197324408,8.841846274778883,2.1138600334448157,735,27,149,13,13,236,110,184,0.207,0.675,0.11800000000000001,-0.973,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,8,0,13,10,1,0,13,0,16,0,0,0,1,26,25,17,0,6,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,7,9,0,0,4,1,0,1,7,8,0,1,3,5,16,2,17,21,7,22,0,0,0,0,17,10,1,4,11,101,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940026788156093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636238868263092,0.0,0.0,0.20238561827513465,0.0,0.2587399987334205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476086645437414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764478963870244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665212984805288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739045094131166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634121683853516,0.0,0.2879733323483181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18794212875846691,0.0,0.2055321580303032,0.0,0.1327262853356426,0.14896762922179393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199269762404461,0.0,0.18742071945616232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863168085165383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595964548764813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119863175290914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22842623517417385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078142465183964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310578866525511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25226715404759203
parenting,wingwongwingwong,2020/04/14,"Kid wants to go to school in dads town, how can I handle the schedule between me and Dad? Recently my child has expressed interest in going to his fathers town (19 miles away) for school. I have expressed to him that I am okay with this, but I would see him a lot less.

So our current schedule works off the fact that I do not have a car. The dad is more well off than me.

Here it is:  Monday, Tuesday he is with me. Wednesday Thursday Friday, he's with dad. Then Saturday and Sunday he's with me.

Next week it's Monday through Thursday he's with me. Friday Saturday Sunday he's with dad.

With the move, the schedule will half to alter. Although I'm not sure how. I understand that he'll have to be at dad's most of the week, but I don't know how I'm going to see him.

Im gonna need some help handling this, I'd really appreciate it!",1.357840909090907,3.091169102272733,3.1147727272727264,92.32340909090912,79.56818181818181,5.990909090909091,22.93181818181818,6.9077264865688965,0.5873249999999999,646,21,145,7,16,215,97,176,0.015,0.898,0.087,0.8985,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,8,1,14,0,0,3,2,26,27,10,0,3,4,7,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,8,9,0,0,2,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,0,2,18,4,25,22,5,33,0,0,2,0,23,9,0,3,19,93,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917812805882017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3480252344744047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682005956511953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22048902055722772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218124908631233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353898247857208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21695157940424592,0.0,0.15135540946137482,0.0,0.0,0.2170882613179047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307671044122446,0.0,0.2015478907545616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.413168907556793,0.3253209072229724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923845177276111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125003528883224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039766356980915,0.0,0.3274720284392648,0.0,0.18353205082385235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486047521053057,0.0,0.0,0.14500388080919396,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,you_fucking_donkey,2020/04/14,"Bedtime during Lockdown? Kiddo is 10 and particularly susceptible to grumpiness when tired. Since lockdown started, we extended his bedtime from 9 to 9:30 and have been lax about enforcing that. 

However, kiddo's best friend's bedtime has been midnight since the lockdown started, and they game together to keep in touch. Kiddo has been begging to stay up as late as his friend so they can have more time together, but I'm pretty hesitant. We have a routine that's working really well for us and I don't want that to get screwed up. I also worry that he'd have a super difficult time readjusting to an earlier bedtime once life goes back to normal.

Thoughts? Am I being an old-fashioned grump??",4.9208380681818165,7.289014578125002,5.541931818181819,76.05534090909094,71.1875,8.404545454545454,33.51136363636364,9.095868883498916,3.3970843750000004,558,28,91,12,11,180,86,128,0.12300000000000001,0.745,0.132,0.4967,1,3,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,2,3,6,7,1,0,5,0,15,3,0,0,0,11,22,10,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,11,5,15,16,2,11,0,0,0,1,11,3,1,0,7,61,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821586430005866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521299093751378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076251887616604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057077391806595,0.0,0.10336538242176134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758529364807481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22317677499060967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974314673243554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19384522275813024,0.0,0.0,0.20760411381161054,0.21069752156466964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20127858739910148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674400376479933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273173866072149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800701605038064,0.2108754986125909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706612494327354,0.2307289845984349,0.2273927018554121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23798210594970334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669358278867012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788561615042953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403286931341053,0.20092029857200025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,phishiohead,2020/04/14,"Essential worker with newborn 
I manage a grocery store in upstate NY and I have a newborn at home. I feel like i take a whole lot of precautions at work but I’m literally surrounded by people all day long.  I strip down all my clothes in the basement and immediately take a shower when I get home from work but I can’t help but think I’m putting my family at risk. On the one hand we are all young and healthy and not very likely to be at risk and on the other we are new parents and will do anything we can for our son. 

Our boy is 3 weeks old and my wife stays home with him. No one else at this point is coming in or out of the house as they continue to socially distance 

I’ve been looking around for more discussions on this but haven’t had much luck - I am certain there are lot’s of people in this situation just looking for thoughts on how others are living through this",4.087564102564102,4.637049752747252,5.0425824175824205,85.92325091575094,70.7032967032967,8.264468864468865,28.902930402930398,8.344100000000001,1.7926249084249082,693,25,151,10,12,227,114,182,0.045,0.847,0.109,0.9136,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,5,0,1,3,5,6,0,2,8,0,16,1,1,1,4,33,27,15,0,0,7,3,2,2,0,1,0,0,4,3,6,15,0,0,3,0,1,2,4,2,0,2,3,4,18,4,30,22,8,29,0,0,2,0,16,18,0,4,10,106,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237280213139153,0.13238033775624986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809750671045764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095903408536334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242252227469371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018728029086988,0.0,0.0751904888138257,0.10623597349390833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769302337438469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967485128608353,0.0,0.4474943178682069,0.0,0.0,0.1715873678784426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530099649096334,0.0,0.13131058887357935,0.1316005979786402,0.2497520620656359,0.0,0.0,0.2528499450427032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931640865530247,0.0,0.0,0.14362169163171593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604248626654513,0.0,0.20153478419316734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16512100138915267,0.0,0.0,0.20618876557926666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057573539281393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949113390874313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715236831093733,0.0,0.15158757849496007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850137308004433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22361760497461788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528513879538923,0.0,0.1180563727491489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269845961276575,0.0,0.0,0.11928340712167455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602552817349656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21652024730265235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,behrytov,2020/04/14,"15 month old eating like crazy My 15 month old son is constantly hungry and eating more than I do at this point. He wakes up early from naps screaming in hunger and we are feeding him already more than we used to. He will eat a whole banana on top of regular meals. He gets around 8-10oz of milk a day. He is also 90th percentile in weight and height so he’s a big kid. 

Is this normal? Ideas on how to keep him full?",0.6080399500624196,2.5464583932584297,2.055430711610488,97.93935081148564,83.04494382022472,4.854431960049938,16.630461922596755,5.82211442006289,-0.7047238451935081,323,6,76,2,9,104,66,89,0.083,0.868,0.048,-0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,0,6,9,1,2,0,11,9,6,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,6,8,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,1,14,8,4,19,0,0,0,0,11,12,0,0,8,41,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066560994693946,0.14975902500119345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670919499628287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237135960075006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207730717829889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5748690978715542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784037118427408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21140401009545884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645337322816034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914902188940163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989528047414023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834839489062917,0.0,0.0,0.3930148194456637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702982240835136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174036821283272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280433031449232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090792531561552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sjh5145,2020/04/14,"I feel trapped I miss my free time. I know the pandemic is making things worse, but I felt this way before, too. I miss my house not being covered in toys. I miss being able to get up from the couch and get a snack if I feel like it. I miss being able to just sit on my couch and watch tv. And I’m fortunate, I have an amazing and helpful husband. I work part time so I get out of the house three days a week. I have help about half a day a week which I use to clean my house. But it’s never enough. I always want more free time. I don’t feel guilty about this, I just feel angry that I can’t do what I want anymore. I’m jealous of my childless friends. I never thought I’d feel this way.",-0.06425438596491162,1.6267777500000058,1.7146315789473692,100.81808771929823,84.0,4.579649122807019,18.028070175438604,5.2151,-0.7849171929824563,526,12,134,2,15,172,84,152,0.16,0.632,0.20800000000000002,0.9298,0,3,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,6,10,1,0,8,0,9,1,0,2,2,25,30,8,0,3,6,1,6,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,9,5,1,0,8,2,2,0,5,5,0,2,2,7,24,7,12,25,3,16,0,4,1,0,4,4,0,1,10,81,33,1,0.27934906404137394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622039973468284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13851960409817055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885273923422256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801570363352191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432112893326696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531182006988627,0.09978351358386993,0.13410945463144827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079121969615255,0.0,0.2189225343812858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872417892013845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4834969706706974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676146999398857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823792111217977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932338347143246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154512195122428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512539069946218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279355270328324,0.0,0.0,0.1108859766278001,0.24433602856228526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206339499476706,0.0,0.0,0.16476731565628253,0.22173428440740212,0.22407696909820102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168472282670776,0.0,0.14234028085818454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Laherschlag,2020/04/14,"How to deal with jealous 4.5 year old? I'm working from home and my kid doesn't get that i can't just stop a call bc she wants pretzels or a drink. She will literally yell in my ear till i give in. And her jealousy is only when im on a work call. She's hung up my phone while on a call bc I'm not paying attention to her. 

I'm having a hard time right now.  Any advice is welcome.",-1.2717241379310344,0.5330315402298851,1.5018505747126447,99.79070689655177,89.91954022988506,4.3995402298850586,16.745977011494254,5.6839178017228535,-0.7885209195402298,292,7,76,2,10,101,62,87,0.084,0.8540000000000001,0.061,-0.2052,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,1,0,5,0,6,2,1,1,0,10,12,7,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,10,1,10,11,0,14,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,8,41,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20234240441483048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081191497610254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6343123165049633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347585428082108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028457546225749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818338825160778,0.19863648269200912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854903776525104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770398433778295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236667084733406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172808334948327,0.0,0.0,0.15748295036287388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683315020479062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731163671279644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074179351392166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221328347800904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30149288778997113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334365293519831
parenting,Whimsynymph,2020/04/14,"No help with baby unless I ask from husband I’m sitting out in our living room with our four month old son while my husband is still sleeping at it’s 1:00 in the afternoon. This is a weekly occurrence.

He’s recently been diagnosed with sleep apnea but unfortunately he cannot get the machine to help due to the hospital being on lockdown apparently. 

He’s suppose to be working from home but hasn’t really done that, instead he naps, spends all his time painting( which I don’t mind at all except when he ignores our crying son because he assumes I’ll grab him),snacking (he hasn’t cooked in months), or browsing Facebook on his phone while I tend to our screaming son. Sometimes he’ll jump in if I’m making us food or will ask me while I’m tending to our son, “Why is he doing that?”

We’ve discussed that I need more help and I need him to take more initiative, as I feel like the default parent but I’m either met with, “I’m just so tired and you know I hate feeling this way and it doesn’t help that you make me feel guilt for something I can’t control. You don’t know what this feels like.” 

I don’t know what exhaustion feels like? Once in a while, I’ll only get to wake up three times to feed our son— otherwise I’m up every two hours or less still, especially since he’s teething now. 

I have to suck it up when I’m tired, I drink some coffee and make myself breakfast, or I’ll make us breakfast to just get my husband to get out of bed otherwise he usually won’t at a productive time.

I feel like a single mother, like why don’t I just be one and move out? Well I don’t have a job currently or saved income, I might be able to sleep on my dads couch until I get on my feet but the whole ordeals tricky. 

I just want my husband to HELP ME. Not even help, just be a PARENT. I catch myself looking at other couples, at fathers taking their children on walks in their strollers all on their own and I envy that. 

Is there light at the end of the tunnel or should I work up a plan and cut my losses? I’m getting so fed up. Some days are better than others but it doesn’t stick around and he ends up going back to his old habits, I’m seriously resenting him, everything he does annoys me.

Anyways, I guess this turned into more of a rant and I’m sorry, I’ll answer anyone’s questions if ya’ll have any.


Edit; 

More rant, he says “Why don’t you just ask me?” 

Sure to an extent, I usually do but do I really need to ask when our sons screaming and I’m trying to finish my breakfast? I could ask the fucking neighbor for help for fucks sakes, YOU’RE THE PARENT.",3.3705898709036752,4.332525181132076,4.4992850049652455,87.64672293942404,72.66037735849056,7.239324726911619,25.456802383316784,7.475848149327749,1.1061320754716983,2006,61,429,22,38,658,246,530,0.13699999999999998,0.76,0.102,-0.9655,7,1,2,0,0,0,50.0,9,4,3,6,21,23,7,1,18,0,35,20,6,5,4,77,89,36,0,8,24,15,7,5,1,5,4,3,5,1,18,19,8,2,12,3,1,5,15,14,1,4,4,12,59,9,63,74,15,68,0,1,1,2,69,30,3,14,36,261,77,4,0.07023573331545076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04776270714042749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049110457796303866,0.0,0.0,0.062524693490937,0.3283046476144065,0.0,0.0,0.0540069435264975,0.0,0.04281505112459122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211779847118945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877534717890293,0.05607751791875242,0.07771450300854807,0.07715065503106452,0.04529623753122128,0.0,0.0,0.07128779086461094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146376353460543,0.07187554050746363,0.0,0.06880427962620428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441602529474227,0.0,0.0,0.046390039445878176,0.0,0.05917663456060586,0.0,0.06312334827769918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130797826717084,0.20070568765728444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492932751798131,0.0,0.0,0.12986360737321115,0.22017163070600795,0.0,0.039916585826280084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737257869355904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693432457002265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295427207494045,0.0,0.07045216718705298,0.0,0.06916804940463586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969812776414604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579916662118282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156815777002135,0.0,0.06201943929582835,0.0,0.0589803266635272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875315895098829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745090137867933,0.07091806869168985,0.0,0.11212298448882134,0.07464946919020173,0.0,0.15623671889898413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740117438503608,0.07479876373459382,0.047593550609614683,0.053417440129757236,0.0,0.0,0.2339654100244793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868009551599647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998961850123043,0.0,0.06934931334700548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585427418836168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058099724394582386,0.0,0.2108593701662173,0.0,0.0,0.05407089891370048,0.0694649361720314,0.07862315316246664,0.0,0.0,0.11218069470582867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619634744405117,0.0,0.10561706101671677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286506275113428,0.16145128670470296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768545252657155,0.07639630914867371,0.06861010579798899,0.0,0.16896987856147447,0.0,0.15470947483461495,0.0,0.04142685525455478,0.0557498559015183,0.05633886871152996,0.0,0.06315035922306621,0.0,0.19013047454314969,0.07841568798406175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226490071438933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strictonsunday,2020/04/14,"How to keep positive interaction with an attention hungry child My SS4 must be the center of attention at all times. He has to have everyone watch him, jump, run, play a game, etc. Pretty much everything starts with ""look at me! Watch this! Can you do this?!"". He wouldn't let me look away when I asked him to go upstairs because he was "" going to do the coolest walk ever"". Everytime he finishes a meal he yells ""I'm done"" until someone acknowledges him. It wasn't until recently we've been kindly telling him he doesn't need to tell us, he knows what to do with his plate, how to do things himself, etc.

I want to keep him feeling that we care about his interests and not discourage him but I also don't want him to think he needs constant approval.

Lately I'm finding myself saying "" that's great but I don't need to watch you do everything bud"" and not paying attention but I feel guilty because I know it matters to him.

Do you think I'm engaging in behavior that will discourage him in the long run or does he need to understand the that everything he does isn't the greatest thing ever. He has a baby brother coming and I feel like we should ween him from the behavior before he's thrown into a world where he isn't the only child that exists. Not to mention... We are going slightly crazy over the constant engagement.",3.409667832167834,5.328134980769235,4.404475524475526,84.53416083916085,74.19230769230771,7.958041958041957,26.433566433566433,8.710501217029153,2.006384615384615,1045,38,203,21,22,339,140,260,0.040999999999999995,0.802,0.158,0.9766,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,3,0,1,8,10,0,0,13,0,26,1,0,2,4,50,54,13,0,9,7,1,3,1,1,4,0,2,0,2,12,11,1,4,13,2,1,8,10,2,0,0,4,10,31,8,28,44,5,31,0,2,5,0,44,10,0,1,14,132,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204366621289084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760090259169304,0.0,0.10813816852377987,0.0,0.0,0.1403250967962641,0.0,0.09793974739962116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173498743155778,0.0,0.0,0.09914656015991076,0.0,0.24875965737613345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20144571455392696,0.11778500683840926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567289354721093,0.0,0.2082250926690661,0.0,0.10998087688642416,0.3103274336189525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459071251441768,0.08222588875963327,0.0,0.0,0.10519730075492084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623819040468155,0.0,0.0,0.12689572688328407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046084197636896,0.0,0.11985664324467918,0.1265094776893472,0.0,0.1298353276681971,0.0,0.0,0.11769529495310747,0.0,0.056230969516248175,0.0,0.0,0.10185792791472252,0.1933063217430352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461012369043648,0.34137423058435384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753706068228354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709583736324608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364518846251764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153038739997256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752198939967507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146681271074524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120109442254372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293172325061796,0.14750004100042727,0.0,0.0,0.06711445068410155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982086521437997,0.1384484774746271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577532481845714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,freshlyplanted,2020/04/14,"Is anyone else’s 2-year-old rejecting one parent? Our daughter is 2. I’ve been working from home during lockdown, more than a month now. My husband is an essential worker, but working limited hours outside the home. Our regular nanny still watches our daughter while we’re working. 

Our daughter is generally very happy and comfortable, but seems to hate dad at the moment. She doesn’t want anything to do with him if I’m at all nearby. She’s always been like this, but it’s getting more acute. 

I’m making an effort to give her more dedicated one-on-one time and gave her a picture of me that’s “hers.” That’s helped make her more accepting of me “going to work” in our spare bedroom. Any other ideas? It’s horrible the way she says “no daddy” and pushes him away :(",3.8712192393736022,5.6514285100671175,4.933036912751677,81.81060682326623,72.6241610738255,7.382774049217002,27.852908277404925,8.07648339933343,1.9358988814317668,604,23,111,9,12,198,102,149,0.125,0.733,0.142,0.5959,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,0,7,3,6,1,0,7,0,8,0,0,2,1,17,19,8,0,2,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,6,4,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,2,17,4,13,16,5,14,0,1,1,0,24,4,0,2,8,68,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041707227554415,0.0,0.0,0.11475869125825365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799691016733035,0.1729086933191885,0.13887038641600918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585501928595011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409725395268744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816714163531553,0.16188447400737602,0.0959069412764584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796420596836644,0.0,0.16660990552233368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311243080954098,0.0,0.3385485868262499,0.0,0.16618896418967086,0.0,0.0,0.1905030313637631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244481280924734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22528957287178586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469804927593396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707922011856214,0.0,0.22870452314332346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18738164746517505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342001697724262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536275505489908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476737898285907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984019726326675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923994713121735,0.09953564143632547,0.13394928562747302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4914204771992548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867221783778126
parenting,dinzdale,2020/04/14,"SAHM and working father with an infant and a toddler - What's your schedule like? Hi folks,

Let's pretend for a moment there are no lockdoens/quarantine etc and life is back to normal.

My wife and I have a 3 month old infant and a 2.5 year old. The 2.5 year old isn't in day care. We are trying to get a seat at kindergarten for Sept, but it's looking like they will all be full. I just finished 2 months paternity leave and am back to work, and I'm wondering what other parents schedules are. Hobbies are non existent which is understandable, but it seems hard to get any sort of work done- be it cleaning, any paperwork needing to be done, repairs to the apartment/clean the car. That's not to mention doing something fun with the toddler as he can't really entertain himself. 

Thanks",3.5471678321678333,5.488238422077924,4.2780519480519485,85.49037462537464,73.87012987012987,6.816383616383617,28.72927072927073,7.61054688173877,1.7737938061938072,623,26,119,8,13,199,105,154,0.069,0.84,0.091,0.8133,1,1,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,1,3,4,6,0,0,10,0,18,1,0,0,1,21,28,10,0,2,4,3,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,8,10,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,2,7,6,15,21,3,18,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,3,16,76,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422041558609555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23091908126331126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530925181874731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683722936720576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073203683734517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746195704189654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689905582212094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450893703791444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899193299565995,0.0,0.15354314768786045,0.10605856267463144,0.14671580644756965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260919611111619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23970377581130856,0.0,0.0,0.11133765781445802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711952741721931,0.0,0.0,0.4726856614662753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672880066411985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619281647249917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669501575259704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155962685993058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824208804936966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194504787758048,0.0,0.0,0.15631612810884934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283614813568886,0.3279427890628217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338914766421436
parenting,McNubbers,2020/04/14,"My son and I made a bet, and I’d like your ideas. My son (10) and I made a “no inappropriate word” challenge for each other. (Butt/Fart/Weiner/etc; I have to not say those OR any adult words). He agreed to the winner choosing what they want.

If he wins, he gets a game for his Nintendo Switch.

I haven’t figured out anything for if he loses but I want it to be equivalent to getting a game.

I’ve considered inside-out clothes for a month, letting me cut his hair, but I’d like something super unique.

Any suggestions?",1.6731428571428566,3.6687950285714312,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,79.66666666666667,6.104761904761905,22.880952380952376,7.1686216300943375,0.6984095238095231,398,13,87,5,10,130,70,105,0.057999999999999996,0.74,0.201,0.91,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,1,4,0,7,1,0,6,0,4,1,1,2,0,21,10,8,0,4,6,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,3,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,2,12,5,9,6,1,2,0,1,0,0,15,1,0,4,3,46,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33766083737123315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430300506726934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27688389762753074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594190518103142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802637969584728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25387034725252905,0.0,0.24258192756344146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777478367374186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469833437269246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981647560289353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743228684415665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911284566736976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292869216851192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fivetoowe,2020/04/14,"More daily videos like Mo Willems Lunch Doodles? We’ve watched all of the excellent Lunch Doodles videos. The humor and lightheartedness makes for a nice break for young kids between worksheets, reading, etc. 

I’m wondering if you’ve found any educational videos to watch with the kids in daily or episode format.",7.648888888888887,9.882394814814816,5.8453703703703725,77.1991666666667,63.814814814814824,8.362962962962964,35.72222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.2149777777777766,256,12,41,4,4,74,44,54,0.0,0.802,0.198,0.885,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,1,1,8,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,7,3,3,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,3,2,17,0,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831192400021655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.464318925910609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4564852644603869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20339821314401868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779040609147982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164434935786216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514930240715379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConcernedParent11235,2020/04/14,"How to block inappropriate snapchat ads? Hi, I have a 13 year old daughter, who has recently started using snapchat. Despite snapchat very clearly knowing her age, I have noticed that she yet still gets inappropriate ads with dating sites quite frequently. After looking around the settings for a little bit, I noticed there wasn't any option to toggle on anything like a kid's mode. If anyone knows what I can do about it(other than deleting that trash off my daughter's phone), please let me know, thanks in advance.

Link to examples of ads:

 [https://imgur.com/gallery/EgeH8Dn](https://imgur.com/gallery/EgeH8Dn)",9.84091836734694,12.385051051020408,6.847551020408165,70.90459183673471,58.89795918367346,8.048979591836735,37.46938775510204,8.418075326091056,3.292024489795919,505,23,72,6,7,141,81,98,0.055999999999999994,0.8640000000000001,0.08,0.3237,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,1,12,15,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,2,13,13,1,18,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,2,11,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417259320453061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572510272269587,0.0,0.1715036546034607,0.18552906632358065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275297187829125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888561194825323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436100213332662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311332319817014,0.0,0.10181858828797856,0.20888154969725373,0.0,0.0,0.1750118925241932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4745522836503894,0.21869121407703526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287715720229999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22166966579889855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20577971097637346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147513655444486,0.0,0.1664364780238376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187590741559685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799993065891061,0.0,0.17196005870005626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420919314799498
parenting,37482874,2020/04/14,"Son is not doing basic needs (Showering, Brushing teeth, etc) My son (11), is not showering. He is fine with showering, but he doesn’t do it. He only does it when we force him to or when he thinks he smells really bad. He has also not brushed his teeth. He barely brushes his teeth. We’ve tried mouthwash and fluoride free toothpaste, he does it for a couple days but then he stops. He tells us that he can’t stop his laziness??? If that even makes sense. Now he has a rash on his armpit and I have had enough. What do I do or start getting him showering and brushing his teeth?",1.1000729442970822,3.439705094827588,2.2331034482758625,94.94531830238728,84.25862068965517,5.638196286472149,20.129973474801066,7.010146845296331,0.33693846153846163,445,13,97,6,13,141,71,116,0.11699999999999999,0.836,0.047,-0.8608,4,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,13,6,6,1,0,18,18,12,0,2,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,6,5,0,2,1,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,5,12,3,4,17,2,9,0,0,0,0,24,1,0,3,8,56,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915797537663223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002646538800767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650737144001214,0.0,0.1544993722655646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4192892567127795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24753430982688066,0.2671778964599111,0.15823018344123638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251626352384401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991125553899435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763414292476004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821997017388556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347124095323153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956508319815092,0.0,0.0,0.4005735272821662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20939005209674635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350334628145615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264866318039306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881667616603103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sgt88,2020/04/14,"Toddler won’t go to sleep if I leave the room This whole work from home thing during a pandemic has thrown a huge wrench in my typically perfect little sleepers life. Someone please offer me any kind of solution!

(For context, She turns 2 in June.) She was such a good sleeper. She’d consistently nap from 1230-230. And sleep at night from 730 to 6am with out waking up in the night.   We do the bedtime routine: bath, brush teeth, lotion, pajamas and 2 books. Then I’d lay her down in her crib, say goodnight, and leave the room. I could see on the monitor she’d lay there for a little and be asleep maybe 10 minutes later. 

Then two weeks ago it all went to shit. Now she refuses to lay down unless I sit in the room with her while she falls sleep. She doesn’t need me to lay with her or anything. I just have to physically be in her room. So, I’ve been sitting in her rocking chair and reading a book for 10 minutes while she falls asleep and then I sneak out. Seems fine. Until she wakes up 3 or 4 times in the middle of the night and refuses to go back to sleep unless I’m in there. 

But what’s weird about her, there’s no cry it out. If I’m not there, she just stands in her crib in complete silence. She doesn’t cry. Sometimes she’ll just yell ‘mom! Hi mom!’ And that usually wakes me up and I realize she’s awake. But she refuses to lay back down. One night last week I said enough is enough. I’m not going in there. Eventually she’s got to lay down and go back to sleep. Nope. Kid did a literal stand off. She stood for 3 hours in complete exhaustion. 

Help! I don’t know what to do?! Do I let her stay up all night standing in a dark room in complete silence? How do I convince her to lay down and stay there? 
This is the strangest behavior!",1.298193624557264,3.246038292011022,2.5628461235733973,95.1608925619835,80.68044077134986,5.911656828020465,21.390712317985045,6.9916214562510826,0.33061800865800883,1352,40,312,16,35,434,179,363,0.054000000000000006,0.885,0.062,0.5879,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,1,0,0,2,17,8,1,0,16,0,22,14,12,1,3,43,38,27,0,4,13,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,7,1,8,18,0,3,3,6,0,7,8,3,0,2,7,5,41,5,59,23,5,77,0,0,1,0,37,39,1,5,24,192,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950565612535816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06099295277444746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380804736941206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069005184098384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28211790793864544,0.0,0.0,0.07161096191785253,0.0,0.19704269462751764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534954913696305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20389383935557964,0.07522855191058317,0.07173408276395032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011798387490844,0.0,0.08996738173704237,0.0,0.08832756398070121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339937009597993,0.04929182566557904,0.07311013246892896,0.0,0.1899396283744053,0.0,0.09171511994908806,0.0633514028063706,0.0,0.17978788090898218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010666056313826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21009002052729067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650473690992906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208446185846085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077693997046168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845377968002623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897152674501122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531667603038645,0.0713258797874599,0.0,0.0,0.07147211131454294,0.0816513140116062,0.0,0.0,0.09206651828713436,0.0,0.0,0.4487788477868761,0.0,0.07599488967701289,0.0,0.08870668823196852,0.0,0.0,0.19119733549694995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958671222812902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052299540922702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755804800484427,0.08761507027821981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878196041740088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388941349514078,0.0,0.0,0.0831444516756221,0.0,0.10013679375261804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529611315181076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jelly_the_bean,2020/04/14,"How do I get my 3 y/o to quit terrorizing our cat? We have a very sweet cat and a very sweet son who loves animals.  He just ""loves"" this cat waaaaay too much. He doesn't hurt the cat on purpose or hardly at all. He treats it like a dog. Trying to pick it up, lay his head on him, chases him and constantly up in the cats face...hes scratched my son a few times but NOPE.  Apparently 3 year olds are slow learners with that shit or atleast mine is. Since the quarantine my son is relentless. I am trying to keep him busy and wear him out by going on walks playing out side, give him new things every day to keep him engaged. but that hasn't  worked. I've tried giving him ""special "" play time with the kitty.  Time outs, taking toys away ect. And our cat *can* get away from him because we still have up our baby gate (and 3 year olds are super shady), but the cat wants to be wherever people are. Not needing constant attention, he just likes to follow you.  He's a ragdoll cat so hes very mellow. We adopted him after a hoarding/breeding situation (the cat not the child😉).  So I just want this cat to have a happy, chill life. But now I'm pretty sure the cat has started eating his feelings. And my brain is melting trying to get my son to lay off.  I'm sure it will get better after the quarantine but until that day comes,  I need some ideas for my and the cats sanity.",2.3286244777966907,3.81120903558719,3.5783413275568634,91.16815565526846,76.08185053380781,6.4527928206715135,22.181804115735726,7.079830092131019,0.5061819897880233,1053,28,233,11,23,343,160,281,0.025,0.785,0.191,0.9931,1,2,0,0,0,0,43.0,6,1,0,4,9,19,1,1,17,0,18,8,4,2,3,43,40,18,0,4,12,4,3,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,10,16,1,2,3,3,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,5,30,16,31,38,4,38,0,1,0,2,33,15,1,3,21,135,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152044712422425,0.0,0.0,0.06981482271778944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129015320489984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278504231724229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865518967989906,0.0,0.24752680419337744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772136012743284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719009292817305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964942500912068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790848023934815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23934329885529335,0.21973018135624575,0.06508854455998919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219165166873958,0.10259402947801052,0.0,0.11753812440079067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260392000056593,0.12928746220766973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20359438017147816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089406953211972,0.11190457751762063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20673084861762248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419079580831364,0.16984118972867118,0.0,0.11061124914867818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403544218162723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939885912090959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651551024226728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181395714080365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756070113652935,0.09473822527401976,0.12873356417805765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106306308189137,0.0,0.091461706894326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21588138469918744,0.0,0.08611033032985116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608689671648375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034549413988148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311026270147138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834912275199019,0.1351024221335613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337729053331355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750374475561584
parenting,F1yMo1o,2020/04/14,"Second kid checklist We’re happily expecting #2 this week and we have a general handle on what this parenting thing takes. However, I realize there are definitely milestones and other minor things I‘m sure I’ve forgotten through the years. Big sis just turned three just last week. 

If you were putting together a checklist of reminders and things to parents of newborns/infants what would be on it. 

No need for extreme details and such, more along the lines of remember this is a thing for those that have done it once. 

We also have all of the must buys pre-delivery already, looking for a mix of developmental and other items that can be referenced quickly. 

Thank you all kindly, hope your quarantine life is treating you well 😃!",6.9199242424242415,8.41848932575758,6.4890909090909075,74.66196969696972,64.83333333333333,10.10909090909091,36.63636363636363,10.25414643259724,4.051281818181819,589,29,98,14,9,183,95,132,0.03,0.828,0.142,0.9381,3,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,4,0,0,7,6,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,0,4,22,20,7,0,6,3,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,16,8,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,2,1,7,6,13,14,4,9,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,2,5,76,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948618176840424,0.14456314698454611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849923189366833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954719086035473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882460167805464,0.0,0.1473531482003682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768447178502432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180278748646056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404000270523428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925160723545826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014513926510316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172559332779475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20477921547691524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703752866740779,0.0,0.13591789987812836,0.0,0.0,0.16643039039849902,0.0,0.0,0.4803870183906845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966278136878754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900084756408341,0.0,0.16253556233287006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841510353083138,0.0,0.0,0.11641111545238601
parenting,NeoRyu777,2020/04/14,"My boy's scared of falling asleep by himself. How do I gently fix this? When my littlest one was born 4 years ago, my wife and I discussed sleeping arrangements. Our house only had two bedrooms on a given floor, and my two girls (ages 2 and 4 at the time) were sharing a room, and we didn't want to wake them up in the middle of the night when our boy needed one thing or another. For the sake of our sanity and our other children's ability to sleep, we kept our youngest in our room. 

It made sense, at the time. Thing is, I think we did ourselves a disservice in the long run. Our youngest apparently grew super-attached. When he was old enough for a crib, we put him in the room with his sisters, and he HATED it. We'd get him knocked out while holding him, and then put him down in his crib, and 20 minutes later he'd wake up and scream for us. We tried helping him get to sleep while he was in the crib, just staying with him and trying to soothe, and he'd eventually go down... only to wake up in a couple of hours, screaming for us. 

Eventually, he figured out how to climb out of his crib, and then he just toddled over to our bed and climbed in. We'd wake up, briefly, but 9 times of out of 10 we just shrugged and went back to sleep. Which was a mistake in hindsight, I know, but at the time it was a matter of blearily opening our eyes and going ""Wha? Oh. It's you. Bad dream?"" ""Uh-huh."" ""Alright, come on in."" 

We had hoped that this would be fixed when we got him a super-cool bed that he would love. He LOVES Batman, so when he turned 2, we showed him a Batmobile bed and he got super-excited about it. Promising, right? So we purchased it, I assembled it, and... no. He liked playing on his Batmobile bed, but hated sleeping in it. He just wanted to sleep with us. It ended up being the same as his crib. We got firmer about him sleeping in his Bat-bed, moving him to it as soon as he fell asleep, but he got quieter about climbing into our bed, and we'd sometimes find ourselves surprised in the morning to see him sleeping on our bed when we KNOW we put him in his bed the previous night. 

We moved to Missouri several months ago, and we swore we'd get this fixed once and for all. We've been cracking down on it, moving him every time we find him in our bed, encouraging him to sleep in his bed, making deals that if he tries for half an hour in his bed and he's still awake after, he could sleep in our bed. All resulted in tears and fighting and begging to sleep with us. ""I don't like sleeping by myself!"" ""I can't fall asleep by myself!"" ""PLEASE! PLEASE CAN I BE WITH YOU, MOMMY?!"" Sometimes he'd manage to sleep in his own bed, but it usually took over an hour of arguing and forcefully putting him in his own bed repeatedly until he'd manage. And then we'd find him in our bed in the morning. 

We worked with him on it, and a couple of nights ago we finally managed to get somewhere. He's scared of FALLING asleep by himself. He doesn't know (or can't explain) why. Apparently he's just fine sleeping in his Bat-bed as long as someone is watching him as he drifts off. We've tried substituting ourselves with some of his stuffed animals - no good. I don't need to be right next to him. As long as he can see me when he feels the need to check, it's fine. 

My question: how do I help him through this? Do I keep on like this, where I sit outside his bedroom as he falls asleep for a while? Do you have any suggestions?",3.12404738099206,4.0738346869688415,4.032336277287122,90.8088615786258,73.23512747875355,6.953685496861635,26.16608343053936,7.128822416839037,0.9764422374048772,2643,87,593,25,51,851,270,706,0.07200000000000001,0.846,0.08199999999999999,0.868,3,0,0,0,2,0,116.0,41,3,1,4,24,25,4,2,27,1,41,26,24,6,2,106,78,62,0,11,13,2,1,3,0,2,0,2,19,4,26,58,0,3,11,3,2,23,8,10,0,5,20,7,106,15,114,42,7,130,0,0,4,2,129,59,0,6,49,380,132,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280182019272688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03395974383929055,0.0523646422941336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038399455925112166,0.04169637908322939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04301740762730268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03987165421894913,0.11051151715536724,0.0,0.0,0.05148417538729405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423049489311594,0.05159959407684442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042075155937894695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025250295576099795,0.0,0.0,0.05470494635916849,0.1369280535976527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436276371398302,0.0,0.056762152346768964,0.04188586117041485,0.15976082248182574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098607428345344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694515479768016,0.0,0.0,0.04959998136855924,0.1475374437679206,0.057622071945607325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044387439073815725,0.0,0.0,0.08233432044998394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731919655021057,0.0,0.0,0.13258142283846158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014249744972533,0.04725280936046241,0.03333419064169909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03986025981046434,0.15922947022149714,0.0,0.11108580877757293,0.0,0.0,0.05310992885428977,0.1405910826727314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240182585347504,0.053182639929812134,0.0676789438401317,0.07596062668825344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096344736844536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20080706359275613,0.05594230413109365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529403899192242,0.0,0.0,0.09999386306031337,0.0,0.07958868956126303,0.0,0.0,0.05641604366625445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6996408478458443,0.0,0.04231254381256479,0.0,0.0987804745354616,0.0,0.0,0.05322756352067868,0.039880776069945986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635355041674698,0.031998434330578134,0.0,0.0,0.14559706751822712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548326815314948,0.13561926026528204,0.054318510073735886,0.09756488931148448,0.0,0.24027841536003636,0.0,0.05499996178449097,0.0,0.05890978450512745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04629328720981859,0.045061531601384326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036355663654077164,0.0,0.0,0.0709494446785828,0.0,0.0,0.032158615959758136
parenting,suissaccassius,2020/04/14,"Does anyone else want to put their kid through the wall?? Corona time and I’m just having such a difficult time with my son (2) 

So I’m still working full time 8am-4pm Monday through Friday. My husband, who’s out of work, has been staying home with our son during the outbreak. When I get home from work I get the best greeting with a big smile and open arms for a hug. After those few seconds pass my son is a nightmare! Screaming, crying, attacking the cat, tearing his room apart. It’s like he saves this behavior for me!

I thought separation anxiety or maybe he’s trying to make up for the attention I usually give him when I’m home. I don’t know, but we are down to our wit’s end with our son.",2.1418201516793047,4.098942521126761,3.2122535211267587,91.48751354279524,78.01408450704227,6.341061755146263,25.007583965330447,7.321109707123232,1.0376764897074755,546,20,117,7,13,175,99,142,0.066,0.8440000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.4756,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,1,4,6,7,1,0,9,0,6,2,1,1,0,18,16,7,0,1,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,2,1,16,4,18,14,3,22,0,0,0,1,17,9,0,1,11,67,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061307724355622,0.0,0.0,0.11938304219576668,0.1749398844534726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19423759860429307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917759060293914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18754620336073935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941280136294458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262857062032508,0.0,0.1512220030527761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840571545818726,0.16378616155165138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5137883716922812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383240294976937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341330762365626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139680460542485,0.0,0.1715279231039446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163750064872674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198256186522305,0.13635051688139935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355458362279054,0.2986737576677227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591898439872356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188042309021764,0.0,0.10070490544815587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728949648902685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KaylaEternal,2020/04/14,"4yr old keeps asking about how birth story. I don't know what to say. My daughter is completely obsessed with pregnancy, birth and motherhood. She keeps asking about how I got pregnant, how I met her dad, the story of her birth, ect. I value honesty with her and I try to answer all of her life questions truthfully to the extent its age appropriate. 

The truth is that I was addicted to heroine and my pregnancy was not planned. At the time I had her, I was medicaited with Drug Replacement Medications and heavily disassociated for months before and after her birth. Her dad is fairly low contact with her.

I don't know what to tell her. I've danced around the question which has only made her more curious and I know that maybe now the way I answer doesn't hold much weight, but as she gets older, the way she finds out will be influential to her. I don't want to hide my past from her, but I don't have a fairy tale story to tell her. 

How do I talk to her about this?

EDIT FOR UPDATE
She asked me again tonight. I asked her what part of the story she wanted to hear and she said ""the wedding part."" I've never been married and she knows this. But I basically told her about peeing on a pregnancy test and when I told her dad and he was happy and excited then skipped to telling her about the baby shower. I did tell her that some people plan on having babies and some people have babies by surprise so when the pregnancy test was positive I was so full of happiness because she was the best surprise I ever could have gotten.",3.6860706401766015,5.3478232748344405,4.673129139072849,83.97086368653423,72.87417218543047,7.68233995584989,24.83498896247241,8.344100000000001,1.5115823399558503,1207,37,239,20,24,393,151,302,0.013999999999999999,0.833,0.152,0.9919,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,3,17,10,0,1,14,0,27,6,1,5,5,49,48,25,0,3,4,4,1,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,10,18,1,3,9,1,0,1,7,2,0,0,17,4,51,8,35,28,10,30,0,1,0,0,51,7,0,4,20,175,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092324590541068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098745642815057,0.4147948806505313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761808030406595,0.0,0.09438792996868724,0.0,0.11640761816195742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630142746361835,0.0,0.0,0.08856357776728221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863631855668464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033687030240007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138228574386547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057953074190480874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871584527404554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361607605618038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250191128945583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19718822754216744,0.0,0.0,0.24384313902291105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834871559949957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049587216406235,0.0,0.0,0.11143780262703257,0.0,0.0,0.11174399490447268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853826831870971,0.0,0.08154170948541548,0.0,0.0855512239348299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639580223175736,0.0,0.0,0.0843625001362426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402391947023447,0.10588925791347864,0.15380110478231912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24851994227219434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551387483289013,0.08821100753572947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915629780165255,0.3878089399697951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468052286484041,0.0,0.0,0.21198476780001926,0.0,0.07530993595907391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085138762048582,0.17609219815336427,0.0,0.13507522820931647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bballwolf,2020/04/14,"Please help me to help my son talk As my title suggests we're having such a difficult time encouraging my son to consistently talk. He's very vocal with noises and sounds, but not with words. I know he can speak because I've heard him do it several times. 



Oh, I forgot he's 19 months old. He learned momma and dadda first and a very long time ago. He can understand a lot of words that are spoken to him. I know he knows what saying momma means because sometimes when he's in distress (in his mind anyways) he will shout momma to get my wife to come over. 



He's probably spoken a total of 10-15 different words. It's like he will learn a word and learn what it means, then he will decide to never say it again. Now, I know children will speak when they're ready and all that, but it's driving us crazy and we're worried about his development. 



He seems very smart otherwise and we spend a lot of time playing with him and we're always talking to him. What can we possibly do???",5.015284757118927,5.077579703517589,5.642324120603018,84.1466352596315,68.54773869346734,8.643383584589614,27.638609715242875,8.344100000000001,1.6419544388609713,767,22,162,10,12,249,108,199,0.062,0.833,0.105,0.76,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,0,1,7,6,0,1,6,0,11,0,0,0,3,40,23,14,0,0,3,6,0,1,0,4,0,7,0,1,10,14,0,1,12,1,1,2,2,2,0,1,2,7,18,4,18,17,4,20,0,0,0,0,40,3,0,3,16,87,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993064271327675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257607967612822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494886151028154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654445708155975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135422958312033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508165488442068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068592871724791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137045327633156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974178502854059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609818639064298,0.0,0.0,0.11973160631218685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300455358175861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947513162454919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660914075708544,0.0,0.10799098771800554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434766060648423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419690930027023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851301970214015,0.0,0.15252451500468334,0.0,0.0,0.14587063572464373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151836491107618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231672694123232,0.0,0.15284457019674347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380997844797451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262344128831302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31556585340692145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084661798583606,0.16274293949305574,0.0,0.0,0.3348970419690313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739839750951865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,enfritsch,2020/04/14,"Little girl growing up and then.... Last night our 3.5yo little girl upgraded from pullups to training panties.  She was super excited for this and we praised her(also happy because we were really low on pullups and are quarantined). Was laying down with her and singing songs and prayers,  she looked all grown up just laying there with me then.... she ripped a huge fart and started laughing,  there was my little girl again... then of course started sniffing the air saying it stinks and who farted.  

I had a good laugh out loud with her seeing her grown up then childish again.",5.905266990291259,7.989425776699027,4.3244538834951465,86.99017597087378,67.93203883495146,6.703398058252428,30.350728155339805,7.1686216300943375,1.7559524271844662,457,18,80,4,8,130,72,103,0.054000000000000006,0.726,0.22,0.9639,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,2,5,9,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,15,10,11,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,3,13,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,5,6,12,7,13,5,1,25,1,1,2,0,15,12,0,0,10,54,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189437200532384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440316534130576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19868826785488908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521689554123889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19309325002239533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.712264327809321,0.0,0.0,0.19892410821356601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230093808535506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175487846107616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188380809523502,0.0,0.0,0.18876702576831875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353374669045554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemoneyzestey,2020/04/14,"Buying a kitchen for my son. So I currently have a 9 month old baby boy. I’m one of those mothers that wants their children to have certain things I was deprived of when I was a kid. I was talking to my dad recently and I said that for Christmas (I know I’m early I like to be prepared) I want to get my son a toy kitchen with pretend food because I remembered how much fun I had playing in nursery. Well he kicked off, saying that boys shouldn’t have kitchens and that it’s a girls toy. I don’t believe that certain toys are for girls and boys because kids don’t see things that way. My partner has no qualms about getting our son a kitchen, so I’m really at a loss here. What do I say to my dad to stop him from being closed minded?",2.991293706293707,3.747749807692309,4.010139860139862,91.57122377622379,73.35897435897436,6.6983682983682975,28.925407925407924,6.574015621080383,1.1795974358974366,574,23,130,4,11,186,95,156,0.079,0.816,0.105,0.4062,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,1,7,8,0,0,7,0,15,5,0,1,2,15,25,7,0,3,0,6,0,1,1,1,0,3,4,9,11,5,5,1,2,5,1,0,4,2,1,1,5,4,20,6,17,17,1,12,0,2,1,0,23,4,0,0,8,82,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582550735142431,0.0,0.0,0.23865605394460299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561415804204637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213413242159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641436637790613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348778299636603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388449344792607,0.0,0.1690779809974673,0.0,0.15571693312599671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22227639654171213,0.0,0.1435391946131565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135701551972489,0.0,0.2091532246975003,0.0,0.23995825861046816,0.0,0.2014956161074432,0.33690604840397137,0.0,0.0,0.16879838472251787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177096532854156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702582071206701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814563776007295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498816483506208,0.16813810512987604,0.0,0.0,0.19045756381494375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jake61305,2020/04/14,"My baby girl was born last night Something in my heart changed when they put her in my arms. I felt this amazing connection to my newborn baby girl. I love her so much. She's beautiful, just like her Mama is.



Emery Rose is here, safe and sound. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world to have her, and my beautiful girlfriend, Georgia (now ""Mama"") by my side. 💕",1.9641071428571413,4.107077513888889,3.007539682539683,91.82000000000002,79.41666666666667,6.336507936507938,24.174603174603178,7.447530270364453,1.0415769841269844,279,10,59,4,7,89,51,72,0.0,0.672,0.32799999999999996,0.9831,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,4,3,2,0,0,6,7,4,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,15,5,6,5,1,11,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,0,7,36,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32416233031221875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494022545823613,0.21891366773366044,0.2942208741372391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034138969613284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631210494647062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497813652187477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994124590858711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765650571522188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252613232143644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875638159175849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080468069462672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359048004472345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jackalu,2020/04/14,"3-week old feeding 1000mL/33oz over 24 hours Hi everyone,

Are we overfeeding our boy?

New dad here and our 3-week old boy is having roughly +/-1000mL over a 24 hour period. Averaging 10-12 feeds of roughly 50ml - 150ml per feed. Only 2-3 significant spit ups (30ml-50mL as a guess). After feeding (for e.g.) 90mL, we try and distract him from feeding to keep volumes in line, however, he will continually give hunger signs and we'll give in and feed him. This satisfies him and he passes out promptly.

His weight so far: Birth: 3.81kg Week 1: 3.82kg Week 2: 4.2kg Week 3: yet to measure

Would love your input, thank you!

Edit: Forgot to mention we are Exclusively Pumping (for the time being, unless we can get a good latch..). That's why I know the volumes.",2.913399014778328,5.267404068965519,3.992733990147787,84.88387931034484,77.27586206896551,6.6256157635468,26.219211822660107,7.7094869923839395,1.5667142857142862,590,23,113,9,14,191,108,145,0.028999999999999998,0.87,0.10099999999999999,0.8832,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,7,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,5,0,9,10,1,0,0,17,18,8,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,10,8,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,14,3,16,13,0,22,0,0,0,1,23,7,0,1,14,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529669169267831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363717051321247,0.3071339073688043,0.0,0.13427068383906185,0.0,0.0,0.17635033732064462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153005638503804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228982362467452,0.0,0.0,0.08797786175200899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444818661635223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546099172188764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359620069949173,0.0,0.0,0.12175093223915286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473836414082172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334614246605352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086863819242013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6420477816108318,0.194938923459376,0.0,0.0,0.14445071663530618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137189279245831,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,clarinetmomz,2020/04/14,My daughter is hairy and being bullied My 9 year-old daughter has very hairy(excessive)arms - thick blonde hair which she absolutley hates and is being teased about at school. Can anyone give me advice here about any form of action I could take? I've tried telling her she could have far worse problems etc but she's so self-conscious about it that she won't take her cardigan off when she's at PE ot it's a hot day? Should I just shave them?,2.622298850574712,5.130938356321842,2.150114942528738,96.86471264367815,79.22988505747126,4.7862068965517235,20.011494252873558,5.82211442006289,-0.2535609195402304,355,9,74,2,9,103,67,87,0.129,0.871,0.0,-0.8196,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,7,3,2,0,1,0,11,1,1,0,0,8,15,5,0,4,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,4,13,0,7,9,2,8,0,0,1,0,13,5,0,0,2,45,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318745370541005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16136359400892858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659168930717454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789094201827938,0.0,0.0,0.15303076648545605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646382162184676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276277313174432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342722181457276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489932489585991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270520307224507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24014755429064444,0.0,0.0,0.2475425471292239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35682124349045385,0.0,0.2073996786971836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611025936826926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957869861738292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241816170209998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528053295742372
parenting,becks_morals,2020/04/14,"Did your babies have trouble gaining weight? First, I'm not asking for medical advice.  I know that's not allowed and I know there are better places to go for that.  I just need reassurance. 

My beautiful baby girl was born about 8 months ago, and has struggled to gain weight from the beginning.  Long story short, we had milk issues before so she has supplemented breastmilk with formula from the first week.

She is happy, eats three meals a day with either cereal or meat in each meal, drinks at least 4 ounces combo milk/formula every three or four hours (refuses more than that), and plays just fine.  She's healthy, basically.  Her pediatrician said she's probably just going to be a ""pipsqueak"".

She's thin and very tall, which is a weird combo for our families.  At 8 months, she's finally getting to about double her birth weight but she's steadily grown taller over the whole time.  Her head circumference isn't helpful because nurses always measure it differently and it fluctuates, but we know that it's proportional to her size.

Did anyone experience anything like this?  We want to trust her pediatrician but just worry, and I'd appreciate some reassurance, as said earlier.  Thanks so much!",5.1657383040935665,7.702060763888893,5.560350877192985,75.44605263157897,70.99074074074075,8.806627680311891,27.57212475633528,9.414487439383343,2.7353370370370365,959,35,162,23,19,306,143,216,0.052000000000000005,0.78,0.168,0.9721,2,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,4,1,0,5,9,12,0,1,6,0,12,10,1,1,0,32,26,14,0,2,12,0,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,9,12,8,1,3,2,0,3,3,3,0,5,6,6,21,9,21,19,8,26,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,3,15,102,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986781423120713,0.11780735263149787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058299710761957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292639252680482,0.0,0.10936493184561408,0.0,0.1242430550296632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101427731260975,0.0,0.11308765198686968,0.0,0.0,0.1175387724459198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570915722822785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885164953434262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019087548701086,0.0,0.13598932600819086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197352699098673,0.0,0.0,0.13000117332678612,0.12528578317730682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14558486240028262,0.0,0.2260884256377695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943448264832723,0.0,0.15105965162075785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414739464687254,0.0,0.0,0.13639318749689125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907970666488399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087919758248245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871250791876244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191142028516538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492796316485444,0.0,0.0,0.11761184003388962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388222425867127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21215816213933208,0.0,0.0976963947377619,0.0985432656572232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885164953434262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328809579114746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528356403376257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389353712009146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235596719988888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749474389886941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965597289097044,0.07838754483827301,0.0,0.10660393047278367,0.485507217019688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837750102208974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349658527646219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RockstarAtHeart,2020/04/14,Getting my eight month old to stop biting me. Tmi moment. I have an eight month old daughter and recently her first two teeth have broken through. And we didn't have any issues aside from the occasional bite that was accidental. However she has started biting down really hard on my nipple and then waits for my reaction to let go. Then she smiles at me and bites me again. It hurts a lot and I don't want to have to give up breastfeeding her because she is being a little shit. Any advice for a mom with extremely tender tatas??,4.213325242718446,5.8772462912621375,4.89726941747573,82.88337985436894,71.52427184466019,8.256796116504855,24.52548543689321,8.841846274778883,1.7201271844660189,420,12,81,8,8,135,75,103,0.163,0.8079999999999999,0.028999999999999998,-0.8881,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,5,0,11,3,2,0,0,11,17,7,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,4,2,1,14,1,13,13,1,18,0,1,0,0,9,5,1,1,12,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974524340381285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748178804537682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317498636525745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187364788687814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556894089772018,0.19383607262025354,0.11483636678587808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100766699921367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163113159427785,0.0,0.0,0.2109000023002715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662186140733066,0.0,0.0,0.20251898832228893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717857006000208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366523160442355,0.3225675719842879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4240596978914177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944595114050106,0.0,0.19951163204500136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074135147218864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302036875750346,0.0,0.0,0.1689326968319325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973849995319106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191812738068755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weebick,2020/04/14,"So my son wants me and his step-mum dead... My son is 5 I have 50/50 custody of him. He went to his mum's today for her birthday and when it was time to come back to my house he crawled under the bed histarical said he wants us dead....  

I'm not usually one to break down at all. Ya know the sorta man that shoulders everything for his family no matter how much I want to buckle and give up even through some of the toughest times, iv managed to not be emtional and handle it. 

This however has had me crying like a little bitch for the last hour, I feel lost hopeless and like I just want to give my little boy what's he wants.

His mum and only his mum",1.521739130434785,3.1006274782608765,3.1747101449275377,92.7842391304348,78.56521739130434,6.339130434782609,20.92028985507246,7.1686216300943375,0.3622202898550726,504,13,116,6,12,167,92,138,0.109,0.8290000000000001,0.062,-0.8275,1,0,0,0,0,1,15.0,1,1,0,1,6,5,1,0,5,0,6,2,1,1,1,22,20,9,2,5,3,5,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,5,2,19,2,17,14,3,17,0,2,0,0,23,6,1,2,10,71,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997546064210588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560642168712112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18567412395006047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116442877983862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191539705705898,0.0,0.15934867721774815,0.0,0.0854678463479639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32430250803586363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646283785107435,0.1950406630471288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289577130130616,0.13778394396912105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516135801490128,0.33882968711646083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451880203225413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425824283968034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145407101411507,0.1285567361126607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078849419125704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19712827135600705,0.0,0.1602229246136769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20332513160917096,0.0,0.1861652775023413,0.0,0.4984983636430757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669470269235078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vivieloo,2020/04/14,"Does anyone’s else’s toddler associate specific colors with specific people? My 2 year old very consistently calls pink “momma,” orange “bubby,” and blue “daddy,” interchangeably with the correct terms. No one has ever asked him to assign colors, nor do any of us favor/ regularly wear these colors. His language skills are on the low range of normal, so it’s not like I can ask him to explain. I wonder if it’s the pink/blue= girl/boy thing but I’m not sure where he’d get that as gender norms aren’t really our family’s style and he’s never been to daycare. 

Quarantine may have me overthinking things and maybe going a bit crazy, but this beautiful little oddball almost has me believing in auras and ghosts (that’s another story for another day).",6.4124822695035455,7.289587695035465,7.090212765957446,72.13333333333334,65.66666666666667,10.238297872340423,28.43262411347518,10.25414643259724,2.979147517730496,599,18,101,14,9,198,110,141,0.077,0.883,0.04,-0.257,1,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,4,0,10,1,1,0,4,20,17,10,1,2,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,1,6,11,3,11,14,2,12,0,1,5,0,12,5,0,4,7,59,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922782808323898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171607681635245,0.3753631861356664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515061669445515,0.1833914936420106,0.0,0.0,0.3346540102152423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165503374729213,0.0,0.0,0.19540548670042251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18276390567843484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154306499133778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566311587365606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951917159316028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190236468918592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873132165509308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351238208017183,0.0,0.1017214165100305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744313009301964,0.17939019614520654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981469530300648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804442390278268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536749838559168,0.0,0.0,0.18781486371282172,0.0,0.12128500683453868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408580455529268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466250526761892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686914371660964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378196336751641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21529716330955545,0.0,0.0,0.1476815386713396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941018194295741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526060352483718
parenting,CapISTP,2020/04/14,Live on the top floor? Any families live on the 3rd/top floor and not mind it? Thinking of buying a 3rd floor condo so looking to find someone who does live on the top floor & doesn’t mind it!,1.156463414634146,3.1111040975609785,2.222134146341464,97.38734756097564,81.1951219512195,5.0756097560975615,20.006097560975608,5.985473137389443,-0.21534634146341425,152,4,35,1,4,48,26,41,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.5027,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,1,9,0,0,0,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623589689757784,0.0,0.1646637419212814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21189865277980446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282683728376482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213118939303352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6414430980399903,0.0,0.20333691010440055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4889854557979984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051647334961357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515375962286598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rolipoliyoliii,2020/04/14,"I’m the worst... I have a 13-month old baby, and he’s the sweetest little angel. However, he’s been shrieking and throwing tantrums (specifically for any and all electronics he can find) these past few weeks. I’ve worked in childcare before, I took child development classes in college; I know that this is perfectly normal for this age—he’s testing his independence. Amazing.

Unfortunately, I’ve been reacting in the worst possible way. I have been yelling at my poor, helpless baby who is just trying to express his sadness/anger over something he can’t have. Every cry has started to make my skin crawl. Today, I felt like I was going to explode. I slammed the bedroom door and cried for a couple of minutes, then went back out to try to make amends. 

I’ve been overwhelmed and exhausted (my husband goes out of town every so often for a week/2-weeks at a time for work) so dealing with this alone while he’s gone. That’s not to excuse my behavior, but I don’t know what has gotten into me. I’ve struggled with depression/anxiety before. I’m sure I have some form of PPD/PPR, but I have never felt this horrible in my life. I feel like I’m letting my son down and being the worst possible version of myself.

I also know that reacting this way is probably only making the behavior worse. I don’t know what to do, or why I’m even posting this. I just want to stop being such a bad mom.",3.777651794699764,5.577042996309968,4.8893676618584365,81.9482816169071,72.91143911439113,7.58409929553841,29.292351559879236,8.296473431620573,2.1977734317343174,1096,46,205,18,22,360,154,271,0.166,0.777,0.057999999999999996,-0.9818,1,1,1,0,1,0,41.0,0,0,0,3,9,14,1,2,11,0,23,3,1,6,4,40,44,14,0,2,6,3,4,2,0,0,2,1,2,1,13,11,0,1,8,0,1,5,5,9,0,0,11,5,24,5,30,30,8,32,1,2,0,0,15,13,0,3,13,130,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123620536123852,0.0,0.0954518193416097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116861280487961,0.0,0.09130975806242317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917801554880216,0.09966027026553777,0.0,0.0,0.20313243615327115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206911378532954,0.2622218052861928,0.0,0.12305449409058568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788358821185502,0.0,0.20113120153024408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06035179401011718,0.08527051346406063,0.22920784498527236,0.0,0.10909250098381447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783480446156878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623876320066393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205326551462498,0.08430720683505788,0.11662613115071198,0.11962966399148214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390203553505343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979250679508806,0.0952716843262583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205747249431777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694705372814045,0.0,0.0,0.12524780908530855,0.0,0.0,0.09077834516733584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394223249499512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691200025596027,0.11431349119631007,0.0,0.12868982359452708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188884216789094,0.0,0.0,0.0844833306749981,0.0,0.0,0.0997899600753378,0.0,0.12478055704604082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249499905828372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959953558448148,0.0,0.1131389330042891,0.0,0.13261289399544482,0.16207465046630987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704013774594991,0.18948417032953246,0.2872291853265036,0.0,0.0,0.11064753382066,0.10770346290762896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379040315304514,0.0,0.1216376172722587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HB24,2020/04/14,"Biological father questions My wife has three kids from a prior marriage.  Their father abandoned the family when the youngest was not even a year old, he left for another woman and drugs.  He is now clean and trying to get to know his children (youngest is 7 now).  Court has ordered this, so it is happening. 

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He started with letters, and is now on phone calls.  So, when do you suggest we tell him to explain his side of the story to the children?  We still have not talked with them about Moms side of the story, but I do not want them to get too close to him and find out what a monster he was (and could potentially be).

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Thoughts?",3.506298181818181,5.632346248000001,3.7570181818181823,88.3665090909091,74.52,6.1454545454545455,27.363636363636363,6.980632752743323,1.2582,511,20,100,5,11,158,82,125,0.03,0.955,0.015,-0.2127,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,2,1,3,0,11,1,0,0,8,0,13,1,0,0,0,23,21,10,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,3,11,0,1,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,0,12,0,15,16,0,17,0,1,0,0,31,6,0,1,10,71,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701204553359563,0.41507802339971017,0.0,0.1790972397179591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744044820381011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636879582776607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19807216808005332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281087416890645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101373325123147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610683955752405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847045345524973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510366509076621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938664518691716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18557319462098595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003727325714726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922441470759304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19133353756269034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089213857993668,0.0,0.13639999432856895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728145675890488,0.14928551750102326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559502168098922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596104786542485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074144818926896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41507802339971017,0.10998870801391547
parenting,ThroawayReddit,2020/04/14,"My Daughter is not Dumb So I saw my girlfriend for Easter. We tend to isolate most of the time but we had not seen each other since January and since it was the holiday we decided to be irresponsible adults and have a holiday together.

Well I brought my daughter (F10) with. I was fully planning on us just enjoying time together. Well we were watching TV in the Master bedroom my daughter was playing Roblox in the other room... Two healthy adults who had been apart for so long decided it was a good idea to lock the door and have some adult time... 

2 min later...

Anyways we got home Easter evening and I'm tucking my daughter in and she's like ""I don't want to go over to Shelly's (name changed) anymore."" I ask why and she tells me she heard things... I panicked and denied everything. Told her it was the TV but she knows... I told her it's fine though she doesn't have to go over there if she doesn't want to. 

Here is my question, do I stop treating her like an idiot, fess up we were doing exactly what she suspects we were doing, apologize profusely, and promise her we will be more mindful of our surroundings and ask her to understand adults make mistakes too... Or just pretend nothing happened with her?  I guess my question is more what is appropriate at her age?",2.8608748035620764,5.032866112449798,3.7494429893487013,87.46338920900997,76.63052208835343,6.900715907106688,28.49676968744544,7.893859768569023,1.8701418194517192,998,44,198,16,23,319,138,249,0.111,0.738,0.151,0.9021,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,10,0,0,2,12,13,2,0,9,0,27,0,0,1,1,47,47,16,0,4,8,4,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,4,10,20,0,1,8,6,0,3,5,3,2,1,18,4,41,10,22,26,5,22,0,0,3,0,44,11,1,7,10,142,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487629396243361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804656223961392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868357299265556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907574702879976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481326940600005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050063361949935,0.12581562844243754,0.11997132038930768,0.0,0.16524551660604525,0.0,0.13264739882256096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046551322722276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933543663085118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243787585544958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465680443514273,0.0,0.0,0.1327481761792824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012834944808784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146054449180255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393218594789178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360759909954028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481685148501025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540945283736252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110947216710336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965550918368883,0.0,0.14737745400548755,0.0,0.26240434414829045,0.0,0.0,0.2866691109894599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465314012847799,0.15615869722727307,0.1804354678699363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769516336017539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697419139926277,0.0,0.1353546222659835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZevLuvX-03,2020/04/14,Home Schooling for 13 year old What are some of your suggestions on what I can present my kid to do or look up while not being in school. The school is making things optional at this point for us in Missouri-she was pAssing all of her classes w great grades prior to COVID so now she basically doesn’t have to do anything else.  The assignments are optional or for review. What are some things y’all have been doing w your teens?,3.5922521008403336,5.420349905882354,3.861008403361346,89.0088235294118,73.47058823529412,7.210084033613445,25.084033613445378,7.957251820313856,1.2790504201680672,342,11,70,5,7,106,63,85,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,14,0,0,1,1,9,16,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,8,1,13,13,3,13,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,6,6,52,14,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18593658578887748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18875120438631435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249109316810968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226645039243822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18974006031322094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082255862717636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370952256470919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135946209324844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6860166548042211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30022064598539244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717885502081965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455035999851787
parenting,I_AM_TUMBLR_AMA,2020/04/14,"7-week old awake for 12+ hour stretches, sleeping less than 8 hours a day Hello,

My wife and I had a baby boy in February. Up until about a week and a half ago, everything was great. Happy baby, napped throughout the day. We had him on a “schedule” where we would put him down around 9:30-10pm. He would wake up at 2am, 5am to eat and then be awake for the day around 8am. 

Now he’s been refusing to sleep to the point where we think it’s not healthy. A baby this young should be sleeping a ton throughout the day. From the time he gets out of bed at 8am, he doesn’t nap. We put him in his bed, swing, mamaroo, no dice. Even at bedtime he’s fighting sleep for over an hour and waking up more often at night. He is sleeping I would say less than 8 hours per 24 hour stretch the past 10-12 days. Occasionally he falls asleep while breastfeeding and he will stay asleep in mom’s arms for 20 minutes but will wake up shorty thereafter. We  can sometimes rock him to sleep but he will wake up as soon as we put him down no matter how long we hold him.

We keep the lights off in our bedroom, no lights or TV in the bedroom either. He has been more fussy than normal obviously because he’s tired but refuses to sleep. He has been gaining good weight so we know he’s eating enough. We’ve given gas drops, etc to no avail.

Is it something to do with being quarantined? Is he bored being in the house all day every day? We can’t figure it out. We feel like we’ve tried everything and all the normal tricks aren’t working. She doesn’t drink caffeine or take any medicine.

We have a 3.5 year old daughter who was extremely colicky when awake but still slept the normal amount of hours each day. He did have a small amount of blood in his stool but the pediatrician said it was a dairy allergy so mom cut dairy and it cleared up. 

Anyone have any tips, been through something like this before? 

Thanks!",2.623711139896372,4.245172598445596,3.1765511658031076,93.77290965025908,75.60621761658031,6.172150259067358,22.425194300518136,6.770275591412753,0.3419795336787557,1477,40,330,13,32,460,205,386,0.071,0.863,0.066,0.4283,1,1,3,0,2,0,44.0,13,0,0,2,14,10,3,0,23,0,35,21,16,1,4,56,45,23,0,7,9,4,2,2,0,7,1,2,4,1,8,25,4,4,4,5,0,4,9,4,0,1,13,6,25,6,50,21,13,70,0,0,0,0,49,32,0,3,34,185,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455719035653501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990504035702508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05092268587228292,0.0,0.0,0.12966384223522287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04439497200507428,0.0,0.061970844036588424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757417346123443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134323065376942,0.0,0.14904144112343676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525028223945718,0.08122192083519196,0.0481018811940918,0.0,0.06136031525520435,0.0,0.1309053338042354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03682377551074385,0.05202798519891642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03804936630446879,0.0,0.0,0.06108425717889281,0.0,0.0802925830256321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775262348967329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4303225435413359,0.08403316449877064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473243400358958,0.0,0.0,0.04002409297140541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115968203795985,0.0,0.0,0.064450051509095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058939084539942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834368138451118,0.21406648089397448,0.0,0.0,0.15284043434389868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952209556331193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884553357779037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196352773898938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927563601759626,0.05791535625498414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5101607116157435,0.0,0.0,0.112132345075454,0.07202826612813135,0.0,0.0,0.07762443192643534,0.05816014077015304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05475722139687308,0.0,0.0,0.06704978330587875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04666492552268535,0.0,0.0,0.0424663047064572,0.08370450536869402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049445096393929744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168356656619458,0.08868428307881196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053019292107179074,0.0,0.0,0.15520371329409344,0.0,0.0,0.04689852644573565
parenting,Lizzizzme,2020/04/14,"Toddler bed woes We've transitioned to a big kid bed with my two year old. I've seen from many sources that the best course of action is a calm escort back to bed every time they get out. 

""After a few nights and maybe a dozen escapes, they should get the picture!""

Well, my son has been at this for two weeks now. Every bedtime and naptime has dozens of escorts a piece. It takes hours and hours of constantly putting him in bed to make him exhaust himself to sleep. None of us are getting enough sleep. He's missing at least six hours off his normal sleep bank. Someone please tell me we are around the corner from a breakthrough and that this approach actually works eventually 😭",4.473863636363639,6.056215628787882,4.039818181818184,89.6097272727273,70.74242424242425,6.492121212121212,27.593939393939394,6.742157984588678,1.1098430303030304,541,19,108,4,10,162,95,132,0.054000000000000006,0.851,0.095,0.6588,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,2,2,4,6,0,0,9,0,7,4,3,1,0,11,14,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,5,8,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,3,1,5,2,1,11,3,19,11,6,23,0,2,1,0,12,8,0,0,12,69,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.1432635508150039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069035468468918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128863847359288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406606784746468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864742652518068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169203544280152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24738435098103564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23010355510695496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4337292870144303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799556215010742,0.14884039437292984,0.1474884920024901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776947847027224,0.14384079031780658,0.0,0.0,0.15405042940444327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611512335070687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475827123868147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4407424384992397,0.0,0.12439004628858108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038143807158322,0.0,0.12831677041555906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560499717672798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28682040841968964,0.0,0.17659209607663945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776062101785838,0.0,0.13199813360979298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687806208994323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453961798021576
parenting,TeufelsjagerSS,2020/04/14,1 year old fell down stairs (6 steps) I went to get the door dash and came back up stairs and forgot to close the baby gate. I feel terrible about it but he seems ok. No bumps or anything. He can still walk and is all smiles now. He should be ok right?,-0.8261904761904759,1.2699447407407405,0.3111640211640232,106.57166666666667,92.33333333333331,3.8264550264550254,11.417989417989418,5.288315135182226,-1.7742455026455026,192,2,50,1,7,59,45,54,0.08,0.759,0.161,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,12,10,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,3,1,2,2,5,5,1,16,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,2,5,24,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970177678395159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775358168166209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4128121188873567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824989765803171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18857301604147447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787393125905086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30823549723436283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285805802111121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882422027915979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33458925313838017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324295366447285
parenting,Bluetigerpanda,2020/04/14,"She won’t let him do anything. I have a nine month old daughter. She and I get along perfectly. And as her mother I’d expect that. My husband and her do not get along much at all. He has been around since the birth and has made some effort in trying to engage with her and feed her. But she will have absolutely none of it! When he watches her and tries to play with her, she just sits there not wanting to play (usually crying). But the moment I come sit with her, weather I am engaging her or just sitting with her, she loves to play and will completely entertain herself. She will not be comforted by him. She won’t let him feed her. It is frustrating for everyone. If she is playing while I am in the room and my husband comes into the room, she crawls right over to me and clings to me. Has anyone dealt with this or knows the reasoning behind such behavior? Thanks.",2.7768965517241395,4.627296459770118,3.650091954022991,89.55410344827587,75.7816091954023,7.168735632183907,23.66896551724138,8.021203637495839,1.1657268965517251,680,21,143,11,15,217,101,174,0.027999999999999997,0.8240000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.965,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,6,12,1,0,6,0,20,3,0,2,2,38,29,17,0,3,10,4,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,4,20,2,0,2,5,0,2,6,1,0,1,2,1,32,11,24,19,4,21,0,0,1,1,30,9,0,4,7,114,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145601691412235,0.0,0.16647937392493287,0.1800939045750445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485348434794296,0.212112429292734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222200428828506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331062847523586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21139151289214106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118126774646717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41374013519566505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258771839347404,0.1914254184852278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147752945103144,0.0,0.14871709199824246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21228455152519896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800272961915195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276694581027033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16734838088364215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18625481195537372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27470296477928385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280983593913214,0.0,0.11932444128077822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Det4life91,2020/04/14,"4-yo daughter is struggling because of current COVID restrictions. Pre-COVID, my four-year old daughter had an active routine.  Pre-K classes of one kind or another four days a week, trips to the grocery store and wherever else my wife and I went during the weekends, and playground visits at least 2x/week.  

Post COVID: We live in a two-bedroom condo, so we try to get out every day for about 15-30 minutes on her scooter or balance bike up and down some public sidewalks.  We try to mix up where we go.  Daughter does some online pre-K stuff, but her attention span isn't great during the remote interaction.  

I think it's starting to get to her, because she's becoming really clingy and expecting me and/or my wife to constantly interact with her.  She cries when I have to go to work (I'm lucky in that my industry is deemed essential).  She didn't used to do that. I've made it a point to give her extra attention when I'm home, but it doesn't seem to be working.  

Is anyone else experiencing this?  Has anyone found any solutions?  

Tl;dr: My daughter's routine has been turned upside-down by COVID.  I think it's starting to upset her.  My wife and I have tried to help her cope, but it doesn't seem to be working.  Please help.",3.2224107142857146,5.252209895833335,4.157976190476192,85.60750000000002,75.04166666666666,7.071428571428572,26.845238095238088,7.957251820313856,1.696898809523809,965,37,187,15,21,311,139,240,0.055999999999999994,0.858,0.086,0.7113,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,4,0,0,3,5,5,0,2,7,0,16,0,0,2,0,31,34,14,0,1,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,9,12,0,1,7,2,1,5,4,2,0,2,6,1,26,3,28,26,4,28,0,0,0,0,28,11,0,7,11,107,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018034855209488,0.13905469123201106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18545004949583305,0.13587612459017326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167744522266791,0.14645895231494294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330589038335945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456674752808318,0.17104685781960288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604919299439535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22155973741802615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173088483291564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454016345113742,0.0,0.0,0.1385680417986263,0.12721300784360196,0.15073231139265486,0.0,0.0,0.14620461628435513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777334900105846,0.0,0.13302011911718525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13809444151604086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709835952680532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125480181427694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391534324462466,0.0,0.0898609655894895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556757402201956,0.12536070506561325,0.0,0.1270051331919564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495430481621535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414490075446229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877261651724373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863430380394576,0.1518084086774101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994415356656814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270103454379205,0.14424320143465233,0.1295421391603176,0.0,0.0,0.11453373403924345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127458480315532,0.0,0.0,0.12293216332726292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289628193517837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539744027305171
parenting,kasiababasia,2020/04/15,"Montessori/ Minimalist nursery & upbringing Due with my first kid this September & I was hoping to learn more about having a Montessori/ minimalist nursery & upbringing. I’m open to any books, podcasts, articles, etc. TIA!",8.541261261261264,11.51731213513514,7.7172972972973,61.70045045045046,62.78378378378378,11.41981981981982,42.06306306306306,11.20814326018867,6.0598360360360335,187,11,24,6,3,58,29,37,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.7978,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,4,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,13,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.869290721924562,0.0,0.18186362962719424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982585188136905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274783968958845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26562133930736503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Truckusmode,2020/04/15,"Toddler Attachment Struggles Hey folks,

We've got a 4 yr old and a 16 month old at home. Wife works shift work (nurse) so she's gone 12 hrs at a time. When the kids are with me solo, they're totally fine. They play, eat unassisted, squabble as siblings do. 

When my wife is off at home, my son (16mo) becomes a klingon. Perpetually attached to my wife. Constantly crying/tantruming if he's not held (standing) by her. 

Eating dinner is a nightmare, as he refuses to sit in his own seat and constantly just wants my wife's dinner. 

Keeping in mind, he doesn't do this with me at all. 

Anyone have suggestions/strategies for getting out of this?

Or is it just a 'wait it out' phase where we tear our hair out until it just stops?

Help us find some sanity for my wife on her days off!",2.3987465437788025,4.363379109677421,3.6491474654377885,88.61943548387094,77.25806451612904,6.751152073732718,24.61981566820277,7.7094869923839395,1.2198202764976962,602,21,125,9,14,196,109,155,0.027999999999999997,0.903,0.069,0.7358,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,1,2,7,3,0,1,7,0,8,5,1,0,2,25,15,10,0,2,6,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,8,4,5,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,1,15,2,23,12,4,27,0,0,0,0,21,13,0,3,11,74,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274401955826976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201291480682756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3939158980708346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754240602036535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729942771348634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665820319845724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522315252186084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576970391372002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216481164430805,0.0,0.3656426092700229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200076466217406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18403030535578385,0.0,0.14547792582017605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825017182829456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237724106696782,0.0,0.1905373747731779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627707641028077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192359360685864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750147265810876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653744137825525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jakeandbonniepups,2020/04/15,"How do I teach my 11 year old to have sympathy for others? I recently became the legal guardian of my niece, G, and I have no other children. My husband and I have been married for less than a year, and she has been living with us for less than a year. G is going through a lot of normal physical and mental puberty changes, while also dealing with trauma from her past. She is in therapy, she is doing better in school, but her mood swings give me whiplash and her complete lack of concern for other people's feelings is overwhelming and frustrating. She ignores simple instructions, and she denies having done things that I have seen her do with my own eyes. She has a nasty attitude anytime we try to talk to her about her behavior. This leads to a lot of arguments, especially between her and my husband, who has less patience for her attitude than I do. We ground her (we are not a spanking family) and talk to her and I feel like I am on a loop with little progress being made. My husband feels constantly disrespected and ignored. Any advice would be so appreciated, especially from other, more experienced parents of tweens! Help!",6.707941495124594,7.293050281690142,7.087323943661975,73.43278439869992,64.96244131455397,10.121921271217047,34.694474539544956,10.035473477838034,3.555071072589381,902,39,157,19,13,294,126,213,0.14,0.77,0.09,-0.9146,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,3,4,8,1,1,8,0,24,1,1,3,0,33,31,16,0,3,2,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,18,0,2,3,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,5,6,35,2,30,23,8,15,0,1,2,0,31,5,0,2,9,131,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911657490415906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021589697685004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107306680549206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440107928261407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225361413436466,0.0,0.17072521220511774,0.17596247112737504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787161769742218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663265324974466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350258123130706,0.0,0.2469967480576981,0.1163265034966066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620233864654626,0.09254061337060153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914219124955067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795510048078755,0.16319944563800842,0.1437827618402704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768661974732446,0.0,0.15407463533049776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409535617463453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953981396110786,0.0,0.0,0.170863750077513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808045628400991,0.0,0.1554406203068855,0.11288651749161452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607759747261932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479367159414535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617547900067063,0.0,0.0,0.18621144666415004,0.0,0.10817768532402074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055156482742888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19586565182812013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567047508608698,0.0,0.0,0.3145734884630428
parenting,nicktreso,2020/04/15,"1 year old refusing to eat solids My one year old used to eat really well untill she was 11 months old. One month before her first birthday she started teething and eating less and less. Ok we thought just a phase. I dont want to force feed and not a fan of distraction feeding either. She understands the signs 'all done' and 'more' and uses them well. So I would only offer her one or two more alternatives and stop offering if she signed 'all done' to everything. Past one week she has barely eaten anything. She nurses 3 times a day. Sometimes later at night too. She is happy and playing around. 

She eats a bit more when there is one person feeding and another distracting her then starts spitting anyway. But I dont really like this method as I  want her to be aware of what she s eating and how much she is eating. Also there wont be two people feeding her at day care which we plan to start in august. At the moment my husband and I work from home and grand parents who stay with us take care of the feedings. 

Husband is on board with stopping when she says all done and not overly distract her while feeding. However everyone else is of the opinion that she must eat one way or another because its been going on for quiet some time and she ll just lose apetite and will become a picky eater. She has been a bit constipated too. I dont know what info is relevant anymore because I have been (over)thinking for weeks plus the vareity of opinions I have is really confusing me.

My priority is healthy eating habits. I dont care if she doesnt eat well for now. However now I am afraid I am setting her up to refuse eating or eating very little. 

Doc is not worried said not to pressure her. N we ll see again on the next appointment at end of May. My question now is should I do distraction feeding or listen to her.

How should I handle this month. 
Thoughts??",3.5872131147541,5.3898041147540985,4.353245901639344,85.58150819672132,73.42622950819671,7.284371584699452,26.1344262295082,8.021203637495839,1.5800039344262298,1470,51,286,22,30,471,198,366,0.061,0.8320000000000001,0.107,0.9533,3,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,1,4,21,19,0,7,12,1,38,21,2,4,4,65,58,32,0,8,14,3,0,1,0,7,0,4,1,1,8,21,19,4,6,1,0,1,10,8,3,9,11,5,47,11,35,38,13,52,0,1,1,0,42,12,0,12,37,207,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04781812611004176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540076833468916,0.0,0.0,0.059300679519973275,0.0,0.0,0.049206278851952265,0.053230323247445484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290108544228996,0.06603899871002514,0.050881232626138216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056154185664048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18289529263342044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771257956195971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18357346711431985,0.2803176840772601,0.0,0.0,0.67303855466976,0.04995113983226857,0.0,0.052960717388894116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057136787972831365,0.053739987286303983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050861688154460766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03398293774563288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365300414627786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997936852570888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032861827473672944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029212869307038637,0.05993040676127721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689543064003353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318365371931152,0.0,0.04395628435157757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359277551366692,0.0561136580453685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882347210715843,0.0,0.24311227535827895,0.04547687395812985,0.0,0.0,0.0663953909459755,0.0,0.057081196359452135,0.04145439884730146,0.05221078173242273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669842054973601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149188316076064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687884046655696,0.0475514697281787,0.0,0.0,0.04764895922363414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059138890578270084,0.0,0.12696985520900467,0.06373362893022523,0.0,0.09998277514902028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044958479478031534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038314290662223485,0.0,0.09494127284112364,0.06973401644379698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682226351730192,0.06224881601503501,0.07192615231462612,0.10328754910395804,0.0,0.049337226191227206,0.07053740764502033,0.04746257334418565,0.09592805739526993,0.0,0.161288949067301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04353155063993968,0.06072483450181796,0.0,0.04247672898078093,0.0,0.0,0.07701217793644037
parenting,fluffyfabulous,2020/04/15,"4 year old boy and screaming fits Hi guys, I’ve never posted on this sub but I’m hoping somebody can give me some advice. 
I have a four year old little boy that typically would be going to his dads while I’m at work, but since I’ve been home all day every day with my son for the past month after becoming unemployed, I’ve noticed a lot of unacceptable behavior. Namely, screaming fits when he doesn’t get something he wants/gets told he’s done something wrong/if he’s upset somebody else. This has always been a small issue for us, but I’m now realizing that it’s not as I frequent as I once thought. He will scream and run away anytime myself or my long-term boyfriend will try and confront him on his behavior. If he goes to time out, he screams until we tell him to stop screaming, but then he starts hitting the walls, stomping on the floor, or basically attacking whatever he can reach from his chair. So far we’ve tried timeouts, taking things away to earn back with good behavior and helping around the house, talking through his behavior, etc. Has anybody else dealt with something like this and found a tactic that works for their child?",9.066905829596415,7.024625219730942,8.187717488789236,76.07942376681616,61.376681614349785,11.072466367713004,37.546636771300456,9.3871,3.276833542600897,916,34,177,12,10,285,146,223,0.135,0.802,0.064,-0.9473,2,0,3,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,1,3,5,11,2,1,8,0,13,0,0,0,2,31,26,19,0,3,8,2,0,1,0,3,0,5,1,4,8,11,0,1,4,0,0,2,3,8,0,1,6,5,16,3,25,15,4,38,0,0,0,0,31,15,0,6,21,95,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663241996187558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782804510318728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536127357692495,0.0,0.14742567048396704,0.24350539531582144,0.09964558703701444,0.0,0.0,0.14312035945224147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714777340258444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261406700334713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165091908565896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452547554335266,0.0,0.0,0.10918393274326564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420871436486994,0.0,0.0,0.13540932553010762,0.12431313430691203,0.07364815276431183,0.10869271775664316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831302693627605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686046570696504,0.0,0.1299878700585866,0.12871065856073394,0.0,0.149527774469173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525676597175482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331041411171529,0.1298817596471364,0.0,0.11468177860563045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017154125142956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343633503578163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994666972466948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753740992062814,0.2719627439078444,0.1380075641258923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370692318944244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241099982445937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719697812831157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299290764042105,0.0,0.0,0.09172343449615418,0.0,0.0,0.10834182072621384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743445341404457,0.10415835847122483,0.1132660944423236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609286673438163,0.0,0.0,0.10287882434089812,0.07556411888759952,0.0,0.0,0.12382740187392854,0.0,0.17596422237094753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587905592704349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18868399875226535,0.0,0.0,0.09205597963074408,0.1416847236342181,0.0,0.16690154005605956
parenting,GrizzlyMommaMT,2020/04/15,"Protective German Shepard Problems My son is 10 months old and has a pretty good sleep habit, he wakes up only once most nights to eat and sometimes not even that. He is in his room in his own crib and this has been working well since he was about 6 months old. The problem started this weekend as our pediatrician recommended keeping his door closed at night to help alleviate him waking from noise (my husband goes to work at 3am). 

We have a baby monitor with a screen in his room and while my son has been fine with this arrangement, our German Shepard has not been. She constantly paces and scratches at his door because she can't get to him. We have tried putting her bed outside his room,  but that's not helping. We can't keep her in there at night in case she has to go pee, but don't really know what else we can try to keep her from freaking out when we put him to bed. 

Has anyone had a similar situation they were able to find a remedy for?",7.700535194880742,5.924235691099478,7.5138917975567185,78.99077952297849,63.81675392670157,10.79255381035486,34.31122745782432,9.444778638647367,2.7803712623618377,751,25,158,11,9,240,118,191,0.051,0.895,0.054000000000000006,-0.3574,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,7,0,1,2,5,6,0,0,6,0,20,5,4,0,0,27,27,10,0,2,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,6,14,1,4,2,1,0,3,6,3,1,0,6,2,26,3,26,21,2,30,0,0,1,0,31,15,0,1,12,101,32,2,0.13935228343344835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097438356678643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494785855989785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505903125859025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259217528811532,0.11641095151419305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204086894510666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736546247869698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280581654058302,0.0,0.07919711404986063,0.11688208381967034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868097963307498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715881370989266,0.0,0.0,0.07658437059797082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224593262764895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923180340591679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924535597723739,0.1484056338900882,0.0,0.10598369100552496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177137030203213,0.0,0.26668263061770003,0.0,0.2801750684191309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892726410866183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527364888291147,0.1566378052109939,0.13945292198597128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782297154434134,0.0,0.09863426345646133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18922210625437386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529443834312334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20290024403447174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MainMatch6,2020/04/15,"My teen daughter cheated, should I get involved? My daughter admitted to me that in late January she kissed another boy who wasn't her boyfriend. She said she'd did it “more than a few times”

It's been months and I guess I can't do anything now but do you punish your kids if they cheat? Is that something to punish or do anything about?

She hasn't told her boyfriend yet dispite talking to him almost everyday and though I do think he should know, I don't know if it's my place to get involved in something like this. I want her to be an honest and loyal person and I feel like I've failed if she's cheating at 16",2.8900781250000023,4.258685351562502,3.5066875000000017,92.71956250000002,74.390625,6.370000000000001,26.8625,6.742157984588678,0.960238125,487,18,107,4,10,153,81,128,0.177,0.6859999999999999,0.138,-0.8617,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,1,1,4,11,5,0,2,0,15,1,0,0,0,19,26,10,0,6,5,2,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,3,7,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,5,2,23,5,10,17,2,10,0,1,0,1,25,4,0,6,8,70,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220052925801424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304323168747433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616793418801871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111474950387662,0.15699304219585766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296258733420075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420849484321899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415432422642284,0.0,0.24789325336101334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472242144525544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540637378484525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188162178294388,0.2295972409759857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20903736338961432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383563271698221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663077440339922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081015425909812,0.2159082078943416,0.0,0.12814092917866507,0.0,0.0,0.20998535505333732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961721435867754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marrisa_,2020/04/15,What’s your fav bassinet &/or playard I have an almost 7 week old and we have the fisher price soothing motions bassinet. Not a fan of it at all so looking to purchase something else. I was looking at the halo dreamnest but not sure if it’s to big for him right now. I also really want to snoo. But hubby says no🤣 looking for something with motion as he loves being rocked. Even better if I don’t have to manually do it lol! (Also should add I’m in Canada so one I can purchase here),1.4806930693069342,3.566623059405945,3.1866237623762395,90.20528217821784,80.78217821782178,4.832079207920792,24.951485148514852,5.6839178017228535,0.5977794059405941,383,15,78,2,10,127,74,101,0.038,0.784,0.17800000000000002,0.9383,0,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,1,7,3,0,0,4,1,9,1,0,0,2,15,15,10,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,1,1,4,8,3,12,12,1,10,0,0,3,1,6,5,0,3,3,53,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164877467044988,0.0,0.0,0.3457816212692416,0.0,0.2342468497194569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19120662906674385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060291693259467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427945497590941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5446472534511484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951241430562411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22685995293051095,0.0,0.14649911299742235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849985051066374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462907881364884,0.0,0.17192669008512235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328744600210671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037609310506787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751722599655851,0.0,0.17341833479114308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bayareaguys,2020/04/15,"App or tool for monitoring kids online usage My kids have access to ipad/kindle/windows and I would like to monitor and limit their usage. What app tool do you suggest?

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Thanks in advance.",4.003333333333334,7.044391555555558,4.63666666666667,77.85000000000005,77.8888888888889,5.822222222222222,25.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.6864666666666666,160,6,24,2,4,51,30,36,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.6597,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531176518182562,0.5081566732471499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431055115993227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3850207811516203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970760529655815,0.0,0.5081566732471499,0.0
parenting,I_Am_Moe_Greene,2020/04/15,"Tips and Tricks to Stop a 3-Year-Old from saying ""I don't like You""? Hey there,

I am the dad of a silly little three-year-old girl. She is funny, full of energy, sweet, and a pretty good kid all around. 

My wife and I have noticed her using ""I don't like you"" here and there, certainly when she is upset. Outside of just putting her in a time out when she says it, any tips and tricks other parents have used before to mitigate the use of the phrase?

Thanks all.",2.008868421052629,3.5559240315789467,3.0770394736842133,94.15240131578949,77.10526315789474,6.0131578947368425,18.190789473684205,6.6274283507984215,-0.2129736842105268,353,6,80,3,8,113,64,95,0.11699999999999999,0.68,0.203,0.8702,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,0,7,10,2,1,7,0,7,0,0,3,3,15,11,7,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,12,7,10,11,3,10,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,0,6,52,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132327993506251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17322651352075336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558190883966334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632130086490717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013386322949224,0.19503047856533245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22154220686017745,0.4083793154665447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21606936395921067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979681669861041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561687459173344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094918389095201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626861015917781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915249146063414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346709737421652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041903072298431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25061938888769875
parenting,AbstractKlutz56,2020/04/15,"Help, 2.5 refusing dinner. He has got really picky lately and only eats a handful of things (apple, orange, bananas, cereal, yogurt, oatmeal, bread, pb, j, cheese, ketchup, pasta, cheese, sometimes carrots)  

We do make food he likes, like spaghetti, but after a couple nights it would be nice to have a change and Desmond absolutely refuses. It ls probably been close to a week of him not eating dinner, he usually has a big breakfast. 

Any tips or ideas to get my picky stubborn boy to eat or try more food?",6.3053623188405785,7.322868956521741,6.5508695652173925,75.40644927536233,65.95652173913044,9.1768115942029,31.63768115942029,9.2995712137729,2.9298202898550727,392,15,66,7,6,126,74,92,0.055999999999999994,0.847,0.096,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,5,0,7,11,1,1,0,14,10,5,0,1,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,10,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,3,3,7,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,7,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281231443560295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910479309241243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982740826710588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5543881803027139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43675779286447175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435460271185292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444010869148552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105052146242233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387229875366253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037215501494465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764613758364988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055005838436875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947827339094607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735233713350245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947143672141605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569521479194518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861528573592186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998077983544655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261366954094527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19890234250848704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448642104561547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829109592423182,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ka_Tinka884,2020/04/15,"Teens traveling alone for the first time My children go back and forth between northern Virginia and coastal Carolina a few times a year. Since they are getting older I was looking into ways to cut out the 10-12 hour round trip drive.  Travel by train seems to be an economic option.
I have never traveled this way,  neither has anyone close to me so I intend on riding up myself the first time and riding back with them.  My question is, what is it like? Anyone ever made this trip? How should I prepare? Is there anything I need to know?And finally, is this a good idea?",3.464954128440368,5.759380862385327,3.816963302752296,87.11094954128441,75.23853211009174,5.827889908256882,26.496330275229358,6.742157984588678,1.2204157798165136,450,17,82,4,10,140,84,109,0.038,0.898,0.064,0.5768,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,2,2,6,3,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,3,2,18,16,5,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,3,3,0,9,2,1,0,2,2,2,11,2,12,12,2,29,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,3,14,59,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200906308172914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712727176918826,0.0,0.15963022708209368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983195637359265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754673513803134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21249722605303728,0.0,0.3300010900764581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134731531791896,0.0,0.11024414354870088,0.1627024593190931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103268001763704,0.0,0.0,0.2189814757577358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066071465744838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476955116302373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289558499670712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835499635880436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383480708861676,0.1496104734575282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21730364871988256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659345100932267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046348212675304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393364771728146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079469343182119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491771110215576
parenting,trueelimite,2020/04/15,"Can't get 5yr old to do online school Our 5yr old is active and is always on the go (no, not adhd, just very active). She did fine in class getting the work done but now she is doing online schooling (due to CORVID-19) we can't get her to work. She fidgets, whines, complains, etc. It takes all day to get her to complete a 10min assignment.

I work (essential) and my wife is nursing a 6mo throughout the day. Her big sisters sit and do their work so she has good examples. We have tried making it fun (races, creative ways to do it with crafts and activities). We have tried positive reinforcement (treats, surprises, daddy-daughter dates, high fives, words of affirmation). We have tried consequences (no dessert, no TV, losing a toy, time out, etc). We have video chatted the teacher and grandma. Nothing is working with her. She could get the whole week done in 4hrs but instead she has gotten 1 assignment done in 3 days so far this week.

HELP!",2.963039950062424,5.486383893258426,3.3812734082397,88.43373283395756,78.04494382022472,6.202746566791513,25.61922596754057,7.3871296695380915,1.3154446941323348,735,28,141,10,18,228,112,178,0.067,0.792,0.141,0.9402,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,6,0,1,6,5,8,0,0,8,0,22,1,0,1,1,21,31,9,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,13,1,0,0,4,0,1,6,3,0,1,5,0,19,5,14,25,4,22,0,2,0,0,22,8,0,0,11,88,23,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794602061463855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243165253479718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907127302270285,0.0,0.0,0.09828781963526746,0.0,0.0,0.2381739736274667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37793167870697975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745850261704399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215814811767657,0.0,0.06996233666820563,0.10325305153827884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251342249404757,0.13006519890040838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772089614600982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217228458812846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812075810990465,0.0,0.25835202019771114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24917384730717546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255822144855233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178241581386054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25073680136565746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157296155214338,0.0,0.097713522012147,0.19749178536741716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744023065214045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4481026661610335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LadyBelle1985,2020/04/15,Is anyone else having potty training regressions since being quarantined? My daughter will be 4 in July. She had already started preschool and was fully potty trained. Now that we’re stuck at home all the time she’s having a lot of accidents. Mainly with #2...line it never happens in the potty. #1 is fine for the most part though.,3.716182795698927,6.277859435483878,4.427096774193551,81.727311827957,75.61290322580646,6.068817204301076,26.46236559139785,7.1686216300943375,1.6130559139784952,263,10,43,3,6,84,54,62,0.07200000000000001,0.899,0.03,-0.3612,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,2,6,12,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,6,6,5,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,4,33,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34513138322106274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186845943956548,0.3204530306121396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612655075767856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765669824148683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137173689053878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658919331016977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24121486291564845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33868167953526696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25871301620578285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136861327237645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072788316400159,0.0,0.18236914375462307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rosepetalmemories,2020/04/15,"Appropriate punishments I'm not the best parent. If I realized what it was like I have serious doubt I would have become one. I can do the staying up all night with a sick kid thing, I can do the making dinner and brushing teeth thing, I can do the whole parent teacher meeting and doctor appointments and making sure they have all the love and physical creature comforts they need but when it comes to discipline....I suck. Really badly. 

I had an easy first child who didn't need much discipline, at all. I griped at him once or twice but that was about it. 

Second child now I'm not too lucky. He has adhd, hes defiant,  cusses, yells, so rude, wont do a bit of school work. I've try to talk to him, take him to therapy, hes medicated. I put him in time out and it doesnt work. I have grounded him from things in the past but wasn't sure how long he was to be grounded for and the amounts of time were either too short and he didn't care or too long and the item he was grounded from he completely forgot about it, plus I dont like grounding him from the few things he loves since it doesnt seem like he loves much. Reward systems dont work since again, he doesnt really care about much and his defiant behavior just makes him say, ""fine, I dont want it"". 

 I will not do any physical punishment. I was beaten severely as a child and spankings of ANY kind or any touch that isnt done in a loving way that brings happiness I wont do.

Any ideas? I dont know what to do and no one else seems to know either. I'm a terrible failure as a parent when it comes to discipline. I just want him to do what he needs to do because he needs to do it, because we talk about it and he realizes its necessary. Btw hes 8. Any suggestions that have worked for you?

Edit to add: recent puishment was door removed from his room since he would lock it to avoid school work and discussions with me about bad behavior. Was that too much?",2.7674234381380143,4.1312759113924065,3.957582686810945,89.38345447121277,74.69620253164557,7.830951408738263,23.628011433238047,8.460557738077197,1.2498566761943652,1495,43,331,27,31,488,180,395,0.174,0.72,0.106,-0.9795,3,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,1,1,2,9,17,29,5,2,16,0,49,9,1,4,5,65,77,27,0,9,14,3,1,3,0,5,3,2,2,4,25,21,1,4,7,0,0,5,17,11,0,5,14,4,35,18,39,57,15,33,0,0,0,4,47,13,1,8,15,215,60,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176330425887723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25961848543006666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750568245431235,0.09309002267309724,0.08432757687937892,0.0,0.0,0.08012936603116087,0.0,0.08335936850549737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569705933048866,0.0,0.0,0.13154532929552784,0.08005626949786973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815209443155473,0.0,0.07813719147514844,0.3579477508202457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378441022272477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494712218295919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128081445204924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619496777145333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795114907589756,0.08392490306678023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190889612848942,0.0,0.0,0.13514270840351436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27565176900663263,0.0,0.15290172025542256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691915366764948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245174530441082,0.2264636589650631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165355176842884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131507996698044,0.1034796079642549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543480008994993,0.0,0.07288903630269461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675738951436617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782933111822707,0.0,0.07539088454023304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060720185005193314,0.0,0.15454971663861686,0.0,0.13902058852903287,0.0,0.08625888275189929,0.0,0.1894837628052936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138376714363317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392647731544148,0.0,0.05740910232771518,0.12274175407647858,0.0,0.0,0.08731805668996863,0.0,0.2029062214794763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904587815743893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051839712207255126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007175732896992,0.060606670009480126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524710330393796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779350274060729,0.0,0.0,0.10848013139749747,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cilla543,2020/04/15,"how young is too young At what age should you buy your child a cell phone? How young is too young? In this world kids are becoming much more tech savvy at a young age so how do we incorporate that into our parenting today compared to how we grew up?

I didn't get a cell phone until I was 15, is that still a proper age for this day and time or have our children become more dependent on phones just as we have?",3.317015503875971,4.081852872093027,3.995348837209304,91.94713178294576,72.6046511627907,7.593798449612403,21.310077519379846,7.793537801064563,0.4746728682170538,321,6,75,4,6,102,60,86,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,5,2,0,0,9,0,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,5,0,13,11,9,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,9,0,10,8,3,21,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,2,13,52,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7275434398538975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124213258174072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208621970612265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213046037210745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657348844081297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630414047535951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920627477300261,0.0,0.3122114848262315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Carrotygoodness,2020/04/15,"Does play argueing lead to real arguing? It started with me telling my oldest son ""don't argue with me.""

My baby boy (18months) looked up at me with a defiant smile and shouted ""augyoo!""

So now he wants to play argue. Its so darn cute that I want to play along. I said ""What?! Argue?!?!"" In a pretend exasperated  voice and he giggled and repeat. 

But im wondering if it might be a setting a bad precedent.

What do you think?",0.9357831325301192,3.374610108433739,3.427722891566269,85.27074096385546,86.4698795180723,6.211566265060243,23.96265060240964,7.554174236665415,1.4609527710843375,321,13,63,6,10,111,60,83,0.13,0.632,0.23800000000000002,0.8548,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,1,3,11,5,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,16,11,7,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,7,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,4,8,5,10,8,0,10,0,0,1,0,12,3,1,3,5,40,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25285725720109703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650157598411384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271172359238845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543078260675136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212634854779667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446961846259537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880684885704378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435044493432726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646939451520817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19404649798029314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572436470452516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284151223652345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fiestytx,2020/04/15,"Contemplating trying for baby number 2 Looking for some words of encouragement, any advice that can be given, especially from parents of multiple kids.

My husband and I currently have an (almost) 3 year old boy. Before I had him I was convinced I was going to have 2, maybe 3, kiddos. 

I grew up an only child, which I have no issue with. But as my mom has aged I am starting to see how it could be difficult to care for her with no sibling help especially given that I currently live multiple states away from her. (She currently takes care of HER mother with her older brothers help and it’s still incredibly taxing on her). Also, I have just always seen myself as a multiple child parent. 

But ever since i had my son I am TERRIFIED of getting pregnant again. I didn’t have a difficult pregnancy by any means, but I absolutely hated every second of it. The weight gain, the hormones, the feet swelling and body aches. Ugh! When my son was born, he had jaundice and combined with my lack of milk production he ended up pretty sick. Then throw in the fact that I’m 99% sure I had PPD (undiagnosed, but I have a history of depression and this was unlike anything I have EVER experienced before and the depression and anxiety lasted for a REALLY long time) and the oh-my-god-levels of lack of sleep and exhaustion and I just...had a really hard time adjusting. 

I want my son to have at least one sibling. I see my husband interact with his sisters and I want that for my son. I really do. My hubs wants him to have siblings because he did and loves it. Even my kiddo occasionally asks for a bro/sis (or a red and green baby-he’s not sure yet lol). But I’m just...scared. 

I’ve thought and over thought about this so much, and at this point I just need some outside advice from some people who aren’t invested in me/the outcome. 

Also, side note. While I would love to adopt, it’s just not something that we can financially/feasibly do currently. Surrogacy is also not an option...

Thanks in advance for any advice given.",3.712111572890026,5.537742342710999,5.290913523017907,78.8923037883632,73.14322250639384,8.468062659846549,26.79675511508952,9.103633062298675,2.3237039002557545,1580,57,295,35,32,534,206,391,0.131,0.762,0.107,-0.9152,7,0,2,0,0,0,62.0,1,0,0,2,16,16,1,0,16,1,32,9,3,1,5,57,59,31,0,8,12,12,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,15,21,2,0,4,0,2,4,7,7,0,2,16,9,44,9,44,39,7,40,0,2,6,2,37,12,0,6,23,203,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30769361934923983,0.0,0.0,0.10510109247852148,0.0,0.0,0.2518065805636409,0.08733414259197726,0.0,0.0,0.2141267812438766,0.0,0.08029320659150317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637216210618168,0.0,0.09812232411700328,0.0,0.0986122622184084,0.0,0.0,0.06398191975136777,0.0,0.1786244428589946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658558277675313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140250151316421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380107361994331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808017480275733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296235712796136,0.0,0.0,0.06932430776391607,0.18988251529541075,0.08843232891617506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054836649096313465,0.0,0.05965051363955415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402248269777416,0.10362510063997103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407033632186921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954973425144446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555544331914833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268055704297376,0.0928852488780736,0.08813897048759588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945885775363447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544523761824133,0.1143309198375618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292649620611913,0.0,0.0,0.07715680612677021,0.0778256317832611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013662092001984,0.0,0.07112280975504967,0.07982590883192017,0.0,0.0,0.2330886872036485,0.0,0.0,0.07276522713749925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922000635817066,0.0,0.0,0.10678084876395227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20171791454763435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727717381910026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682301681652485,0.0,0.10503461552605023,0.0,0.0,0.08080242401470993,0.0,0.0,0.0742903898484591,0.0,0.08382024565887454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19784488299098715,0.0,0.0789159669888331,0.0,0.0,0.09663197567357393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665115102633712,0.12240465877780565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126014606369079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857222863568699,0.0,0.0,0.12781156123958312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745597311332311,0.0,0.0,0.06759003598798274
parenting,ButtersHound,2020/04/15,"Giving a 3.5yo a bag of marbles. My partner bought our three-year-old a bag of shooter marbles, the big ones. I asked her not to as they are a choking hazard and we have an infant on the way. Today I found my son putting them in his mouth after clearly telling him that if he did that he would lose the marbles. I took the marbles away he had a blowout I don't want to give them back. My wife says that I should be watching him more closely to keep them out of his mouth. I don't want to play marble police I think the whole thing is a bad idea. Any advice or thoughts?",1.27512396694215,2.987907256198352,2.2553719008264466,98.48487603305789,79.74380165289256,4.4,22.570247933884296,3.1291,-0.31869256198347085,442,14,103,0,11,139,83,121,0.11900000000000001,0.836,0.044000000000000004,-0.7636,0,0,0,1,0,0,12.0,2,0,4,1,1,3,0,0,12,0,10,2,2,0,1,17,21,4,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,1,4,1,1,2,3,2,0,1,6,2,21,1,13,12,2,12,0,1,1,0,23,6,0,2,3,68,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19769903207801093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758055004008968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18913640663921372,0.0,0.190080790425567,0.15556708237901365,0.16892385278577038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22182700747987125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881563083838941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22838803363789625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798260997358016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263377680886756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21229465269655287,0.0,0.13709329439765558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338158609034293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088832113999818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683147210837122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440852214095475,0.12963472917982405,0.0,0.16061482517385844,0.0,0.0,0.19177014483538374,0.0,0.22477844905592093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386602382312877,0.16058754410707332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22587650764643624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437181574471243,0.0,0.0,0.13028367037187766
parenting,Reapercrue504,2020/04/15,Need help with child’s sleeping habits My son is six months old and refuses to sleep in his own bed. He throws a screaming fit when he is placed in the crib. Any suggestions on the easiest way to do it or am I stuck the old fashioned way and have to just grit my teeth and place him in there.,2.166612903225804,3.5306392096774215,2.7589032258064528,97.36835483870968,76.25806451612901,6.895483870967742,22.07741935483871,7.554174236665415,0.436183225806452,229,6,56,3,5,71,49,62,0.069,0.8109999999999999,0.12,0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,5,3,3,0,0,8,7,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,5,0,8,6,1,14,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,4,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304776879183847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070878173935632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137736893173726,0.0,0.0,0.1777819973292872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5031840538291925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5010047804290966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4798743886574205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806270690848328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andy63366,2020/04/15,"Please help. We have the officially the worst baby ever Our baby is 9 months old and never ( and we mean never) stopped crying longer than 45 minutes. At night she only sleeps in 40 minute intervals and wakes up streaming. What’s worst is she will not let dad calm her only me. Her dad has tried and tried and she almost choked on her spit cause she was crying so much and we had to call 911. Doctors said there’s nothing wrong with her medically and she’s just a “fussy baby” we have tried everything we can think of to get her to stop. 

Bed time routine - check

Pacifier- check she hates them and spits them out

Family and friends - nobody will help us. Family doesn’t want to deal with her and her brother cause there too much work and friends have vanished and no babysitter due to the covid 19 virus

Tried gripe water and ever over the counter med you can think of nothing works. 

I haven’t slept in 9 straight months longer than 2 hours. I’m not going to make it please what can we do to get this baby to stop crying. 

(Side note) we also have a 4 year old non verbal severely autistic child that requires a ton of attention. So even durning the day when she stops crying and passes out for 30 or 40 minutes I have to work with my son. He’s at the point where we have to keep them separated cause he just wants to hit her to get her to stop crying so all the day energy is keeping them apart and happy. I’m so miserable I’m crying. Please can someone offer up some advice to get this to stop.",3.2181898454746154,4.763732115894044,3.735380794701985,90.69404249448124,73.86754966887419,6.490286975717441,22.18598233995585,6.996647511020387,0.4830724061810154,1177,29,249,11,24,369,161,302,0.16399999999999998,0.747,0.08900000000000001,-0.9761,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,10,1,4,4,15,9,1,1,10,0,22,8,5,4,5,59,42,22,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,2,2,1,1,1,6,28,1,9,4,0,2,2,7,5,0,0,4,1,35,4,34,34,7,39,0,1,0,0,46,15,0,3,22,150,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579683149428723,0.0,0.0,0.0776713844113031,0.0,0.0,0.06202969368198603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920380292656343,0.0,0.0,0.2390456836258241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5112172309810354,0.10004761512932674,0.07996738697366422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939233286275828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123176962674287,0.14032620870719292,0.0,0.0,0.0697115345375952,0.0,0.14624509471166852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985496840964865,0.0,0.16210063478295136,0.0,0.04408268140672582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257070425649002,0.0,0.07658060289061219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039820305840838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638712135098924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788887519258086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931673513380537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05177606715939578,0.0,0.0,0.08449237410749004,0.08615860599659846,0.07813982588594581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382526464319585,0.0,0.1140402217958955,0.0,0.11964773137584675,0.0,0.0,0.07279066126346954,0.0,0.14885379749319347,0.0,0.16278544056026867,0.0,0.0,0.1179852407744055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554333147076798,0.07332516792546499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378325622814746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762777225127516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762225688267213,0.0,0.06572162299281084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890930963101597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940262853258117,0.0,0.0,0.045229498007398235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21064954007969594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933026356058567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150115542530966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694074384355855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480650631055367,0.0,0.04995011511102298
parenting,luckyjohn,2020/04/15,"2 under 2 vs 2 under 3 I heard some good things about 2 under 2, but mostly people are saying it is very hard and stressfull.

We planned to have 2 under 2, but lately started to get worried and currently contemplate, if it would make sense to wait additional year (first boy is 8mo).

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If you have any experience - would 2 under 3 be considerably easier/ less stressfull, than 2 under 2?",7.4758,7.002989880000005,8.085166666666666,70.49175000000002,63.53333333333333,10.166666666666668,34.75,9.516144504307137,3.2707999999999995,311,12,54,5,4,104,50,75,0.07,0.9009999999999999,0.027999999999999997,-0.4385,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,16,13,6,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,1,11,9,3,11,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,4,5,35,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27115048203058306,0.3040864251152325,0.17018153855848192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24479677286492324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128662209806126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074756821716926,0.0,0.0,0.2099014742738145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22417874128091625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822978054055881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670467208719856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734948552798715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19901230239098247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771313159112143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625786920210914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064860462574157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541454385237787,0.0,0.3555470180343788,0.0,0.3040864251152325,0.1611555955145663
parenting,-AG-Hithae,2020/04/15,"My child embraced Christianity despite her parents not being religious not sure if this fits in this subreddit, but here goes. 

I have a daughter (7 yo) who lives in the US with her mother (my ex wife). I live in a different country. we're all on good terms and talk frequently, although I haven't seen them in maybe 4 years. my ex said our daughter should go to Catholic school because public elementary school is apparently of low quality. our daughter loved it there, and is doing well. with time, she grew to become religious, despite neither her mother or I being religious. this isn't a problem, but it did cause a dilemma. our daughter **really** wanted to get baptised, and while her mother was OK with it, I was more reluctant. reason is, I've always held a reverence for religion, and thought it wasn't something someone should throw themselves into haphazardly. if everyone is something, then no one is something. in other words, I thought she was too young to know what she was doing, and out of respect for Christianity, and love for my daughter, I told my ex that I thought she (daughter) should wait until she's at least a teen to know if she's still serious then, and if yes, then get baptized. because it's not something that you can take back once comitted to, and in my opinion religions shouldn't act like revolving doors. only become religious after studying said religion, doing soul searching, thinking, asking a lot of questions, etc. not just in-and-out when you feel like it. 

eventually I relented, after our daughter insisted that she was serious, and her mother assured me that (our daughter) indeed loved God and felt like a Christian. She got baptized and was thrilled about it. 

My only concern is if she abandons Christianity and later blame us for ""letting"" her get baptized when she was too young to know what she was doing, and holds it against us. What are your thoughts on this?",5.688340659340657,7.452638814285716,5.775428571428575,77.63210989010992,68.0,8.47032967032967,34.604395604395606,8.950670267944501,3.2189406593406598,1515,74,256,27,26,478,177,350,0.077,0.7959999999999999,0.127,0.9785,3,0,4,0,0,0,60.0,8,3,1,0,11,18,0,0,9,2,32,3,0,2,3,60,59,29,0,11,13,17,2,3,0,4,0,2,1,1,21,18,0,4,12,0,0,4,10,5,1,1,21,5,46,13,33,31,7,35,9,2,1,3,58,13,0,9,21,189,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651319762307177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719996974412637,0.0,0.0,0.07994820230071492,0.0,0.1267609735087062,0.2296582476168965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680808761834017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086288173647844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595648437551899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934989064504568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052571467231406516,0.07427775889527972,0.09982961492250388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629635461959254,0.0,0.0590897960597892,0.08720694660160616,0.08315606463549324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142120243746595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063186166000736,0.0,0.15238669204483524,0.0,0.18361871106322006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839344450325749,0.2815169036271156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044540475206621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072699738993184,0.07045425206260611,0.1581510832133966,0.0,0.0,0.11544882139602088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948735155909208,0.0,0.0,0.1164726567106362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666072522820207,0.10690073590123916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19780273903588869,0.0,0.0,0.210450830003584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809530580803172,0.3201715100069009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303233148322893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979925659823511,0.0,0.07817415325890996,0.08356891420866043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662118614795788,0.0,0.3301692450388427,0.060627024669512,0.0,0.0,0.09934989064504568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37519725664530895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06132549609937855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348349239670332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695468653190904
parenting,hhave,2020/04/15,"Sleep During the night Hello all. We would like some advice. Our 2.5yr old daughter keeps waking through the night. First she kept asking for milk. We assumed she was hungry and so fed her her solid dinner closer to bed time. We also stopped the milk. But she would still wake asking for milk but would accept water. She STILL wakes during the night and literally gets hysterical if we don’t get her milk (she now won’t accept water)

The question is:
Do we let her cry it out. And not go in the room? Or do we go and try and calm her? Or sit with her and wait till she calms down. Or is there anything we can try. 2 & half years without a full night sleep is starting to take its toll.

Thank you",0.8555694618272867,3.2756168014184404,1.7879682937004588,97.01647058823532,86.65957446808511,3.885022945348352,15.386316228619108,5.0885558068054335,-1.007301543596162,543,10,117,2,17,169,89,141,0.044000000000000004,0.8290000000000001,0.126,0.912,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,8,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,7,0,13,13,5,0,1,36,26,15,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,2,15,8,4,4,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,3,0,21,6,11,18,3,23,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,7,15,78,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425142453894559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662908346628728,0.0,0.15801878241743092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001480756655138,0.0,0.27268350264076835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019961183742565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405237418446592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239192185088407,0.0,0.16576972814218047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296302801071086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913241663936272,0.0,0.0712505999264758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5474480110501571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303571247292394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337542119271742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918928706378517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322708873196984,0.0,0.23293779865239514,0.12192969880512887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965436503082834,0.0,0.0,0.13427090028130287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504112442159377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803308168862208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405856262787791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108040217808131,0.0,0.0,0.09391689364614697
parenting,IdesOfMarchCometh,2020/04/15,"My 17 month old keeps stealing stuff, should I be worried? It started with him just taking stuff from our hands like phones etc then playing with them so I'd take the stuff back. Then he would run off with them while giggling, do we'd chase him down then I'd laugh and ""arrest"" him by throwing him on the couch. Now he looks to see if you're watching, steals stuff then quietly walks away. We find this hilarious but I'm wondering if we should be taking this more seriously?",3.285,5.200533617021278,3.3031382978723407,92.30875,74.53191489361703,6.402127659574468,23.45212765957447,7.1686216300943375,0.6477914893617025,376,11,80,4,8,114,68,94,0.08800000000000001,0.813,0.099,-0.1747,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,2,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,0,16,16,10,0,5,4,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,7,6,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,5,12,4,10,10,2,17,0,0,3,0,13,4,0,3,11,52,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460715883599802,0.12653453597902253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352507651174374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040254527112454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626623922630486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039446713570865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818682893244974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134820162443886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726753819573458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311309973044035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647462338760566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7535157269752482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711802113184242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784555553593779,0.0,0.16711609737361474,0.0,0.11689690444940308,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway373937619,2020/04/15,"I’m so incredibly burnt out (I’m sorry for the length and weird format, I’m on mobile)

I just need a place to vent for a minute.. I recently got temporarily laid off and have been stuck at home with my twins (2M) for going on 3 weeks now. My husband is an essential worker, so until around 11pm every night I’m basically juggling feedings, naps, playtime, changings etc by myself. There’s not a moments peace around here and I think I’m at my breaking point. 

I can never set them down because they get into everything. For example, I left them in the living room today to use the restroom. I have a big metal baby gate that curves around the living room so the boys can’t leave without pulling back a little red piece and lifting the handle (or so I thought). I was in the bathroom for maybe 5min when I see little toes underneath the door and a wiggling doorknob. I open it to see one of my boys holding a little cup of tea, to which I immediately grab and go into the kitchen. I don’t see anything wrong, so I open the fridge and the pitcher of tea drops onto the floor. Where’s the other twin in all this? In the dog cage, with the dog. 

My husband’s idea of entertainment for the boys is setting them up on the couch to watch tv with him, which they don’t want to do and never sit still for. Instead of actively engaging with them, he brings them to whatever room I’m in and shuts the door. If I bring up needing to take a breather, he complains that they don’t want him and that’s basically the end of it.

They’re currently asleep on either side of me and since I’m still breastfeeding, they want to nurse throughout the night. I hate this feeling of wanting to have a break from my kids because I love them so much, but I’ve resorted to placing them in their cribs when I get frustrated and leaving them to cry for a bit while I just sit and do nothing (we dropped their mattresses when they learned how to pull themselves up onto things so I’m not worried about them jumping out). I’m just so tired.",4.110805545805548,4.9752178402948415,4.8361767286767305,86.27928439803442,70.84275184275185,7.681607581607582,28.54062829062829,7.83500028581142,1.6157399789399784,1579,57,331,19,28,509,213,407,0.071,0.888,0.04,-0.9293,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,16,1,27,8,2,0,31,0,14,8,2,2,3,54,47,30,0,7,10,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,10,4,11,27,4,1,5,4,0,7,9,5,0,1,5,7,45,3,65,42,6,78,0,0,5,1,29,44,0,2,19,216,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980220736841572,0.2914384487965753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391191259438513,0.0,0.1330455898111746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913839991260525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544187646824712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987086472297707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665411480609933,0.0,0.12170543053703815,0.0,0.0,0.0919441883328046,0.0,0.09807629422213916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055177880631856524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140286873329004,0.0,0.12403875658239122,0.0,0.0872788158655589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077403013809424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946325988961947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319107887834227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310994329573204,0.11856678445718065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281217117743619,0.19272224753067144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849136120304078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963272035455347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022088754896375,0.16183254774580155,0.1683309108494891,0.0,0.0,0.2048165589254113,0.0,0.10471028170490176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394726674082219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280289378780366,0.0,0.10316027026298402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077497288325426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608802260762831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027096659828762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215872118048955,0.0,0.0,0.17429789642353002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204990889886539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249911735410784,0.06992416324702916,0.0,0.08663463353073339,0.0,0.12542541174885344,0.10343961836627028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425067409706248,0.0,0.0,0.2574636837557681,0.0,0.08753508194125037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519451574427327,0.0,0.0,0.11082374663510296,0.0,0.0,0.11931322298435362,0.0,0.0
parenting,drewby89,2020/04/15,"Is my toddler unusually destructive? Hello all,  I have an 18 month toddler boy who doesn't seem to know how to play or be creative, his only outlet seems to be destruction.  

He's not great at independent play as it is, he seems to always need me or my wife with him or he just comes to find us to try and join in with whatever we're doing. 
However his method of playing generally involves banging / breaking / throwing things. This morning it's resulted in snapped crayons, ripped books and broken toy cars and this has led me to question - is this normal?

I get that when they're younger they like to bang things to witness the noise they make, but at the moment I'm trying to encourage independent play to help with his problem solving, focus and creativity but he's not willing to play by himself, or creatively.  I try to use open-ended toys like blocks, or his pretend BBQ with foods / plates etc,but these rarely hold his focus once he's thrown all the separate pieces around the place. 
Noisy / electronic toys can hold his attention for a bit but not long and I understand why as there's little for him to do with these beyond pressing buttons so i'm trying to avoid these sorts of toys. I'm also trying to limit TV time to ~30 minutes a day when he needs some quiet / calm down time.

If this is normal - when does the destruction phase end?

Any help or guidance or reassurance that this is normal would be greatly appreciated!",7.2481143552311424,6.97869011313869,7.1237810218978135,76.52353041362535,63.927007299270066,10.080389294403894,33.960097323600976,9.558583805096642,3.014405644768856,1137,43,213,19,15,362,163,274,0.087,0.741,0.172,0.978,1,1,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,2,1,10,17,3,1,8,0,16,1,0,7,2,59,30,24,0,8,15,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,15,12,1,5,8,12,0,4,4,5,0,0,0,2,20,12,36,25,5,24,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,14,12,126,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846733252306944,0.1024543525427997,0.0,0.0,0.08373289102945627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096121568514578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442650102115472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060659327194114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940891855427967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775223856495418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21811396614713516,0.0,0.13732293865259682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253895048036897,0.0,0.1488897625789911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433054945106435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715033907031178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650634167958241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766924504150268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203105830366313,0.12340900346503222,0.0,0.10896652502836908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219049489199037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828150668362498,0.0,0.0,0.1825992556620307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619249325933657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311298523032322,0.0,0.09364621398671906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286450559727196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781915904431185,0.0,0.0,0.13793422229310384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33627986189627507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636047266067681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359664721153906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179872791086093,0.0,0.0,0.12818308378739748,0.14811070473089782,0.10634512757471393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110602992339706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746829993751096,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sleepystreet123,2020/04/15,"2019 babies stimulus check For US residents with infants born in 2019 who have received their stimulus direct deposits,  was your infant included in the payment amount?

I have a 7 month old. I filled my 2019 taxes already.  The direct deposit I just recieved did not include payment for my infant. 

I mentioned this in a Facebook group and another mom said they also didn't recieved payment for their 2019 infant. 

Thank you for sharing your insight.",6.735864978902953,8.89517551898734,6.274113924050635,73.53159282700423,65.96202531645571,7.79831223628692,38.4831223628692,8.344100000000001,3.7236818565400838,362,20,51,5,6,112,54,79,0.0,0.929,0.071,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,3,3,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,4,1,13,2,8,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,3,36,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625217254665215,0.2627113367909906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444740118842221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847498831014099,0.2622155525198028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447186191096574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124906270836221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30245018357901515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951601027050646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nonethewiser1987,2020/04/15,"Financial difficulties and visitation This is a new account due to the sensitive subject matter. 

I have two children, one tween and one teen. They spend one week with me and the next with their father. We communicate well and we remain a united front, as well as a family. The children appear well adjusted and comfortable with the arrangement. 

However, I've fallen on severely hard times, to the point where even not paying bills (beyond the rent) I cannot feed myself and the children for the entire month. I'm applying for assistance, but it'll take a long time.

The children are with me at the moment and I can just about make it until the end of the week. After that, I'm unable to provide anything until beginning of May. I may be able to get some assistance from the food bank, though they've announced stocks are low and some have closed entirely due to corona.

I want to ask the children's father if he can keep them with him for now, so I don't have to worry about their hunger. I know they'll miss me and it'll put extra strain on him working from home, as well as disrupt their routine. I just don't know how else to solve this. I have two questions. 

Is that the best solution?

How do I explain it to the children? I don't want to tell them about my hardship, as they'll just worry.

Thank you for any advice you can provide.",3.4947251987556167,5.377759490494299,4.2821586588316665,85.653988074663,73.86692015209124,7.36736951261666,24.88230210853785,8.150884317080207,1.4775642585551334,1058,34,207,17,22,339,140,263,0.067,0.7959999999999999,0.136,0.9533,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,2,8,2,18,10,0,1,20,0,23,3,0,3,0,40,39,22,0,3,6,2,1,0,0,6,0,0,2,6,8,17,3,1,5,0,6,5,5,3,4,5,0,1,30,7,38,32,4,30,0,2,0,0,28,8,0,7,17,150,38,3,0.13388038547409334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082636321193092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104325307642194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101721498970468,0.0,0.1251600878947014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049920479166614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118398829077622,0.0,0.1185782837263436,0.0,0.0,0.08842673194965141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262105123757977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188869353858598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994697570107966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199305285971334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429294256991828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899903804150985,0.0,0.0,0.14715431716400734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847992817453412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936619690218804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686204639203924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293025105523659,0.14238330879155658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721624421465652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656023823787038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458676541205605,0.14997667169658266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124672804907052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006613882569678,0.0,0.11701735792121415,0.12325907154748435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315367989804518,0.0,0.15613345881496812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615633660546523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793224014759952,0.0,0.2147815393739101,0.0,0.4814981797165456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746651513283527,0.27192406031500643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Posie5000,2020/04/15,"How can I encourage my daughter to be more mature? My daughter is coming up for 10 years old, and at home at least can be very immature - constant baby voices, silly dances, pulling faces and at times a complete lack of social awareness.  I get the impression she is more sensible at school, but my concern is that in 18 months she will start secondary school and right now I have big worries that she’ll be a target for bullies.  She is reserved and quite sensitive around new people and would take any teasing personally.  I’m very aware of walking that very thin line between being yourself and needing to fit in.  Without being a major critic of her personality, how can I help her to “grow up”?

Just to add, her older brother who is 12 had always been very mature for his age which makes the contrast even more stark.",9.362654377880183,7.482501412903229,8.652165898617515,72.46967741935484,60.67741935483871,10.663594470046084,38.91705069124424,8.841846274778883,3.450640552995392,649,26,115,7,7,205,104,155,0.042,0.833,0.125,0.9084,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,5,0,19,1,1,3,0,18,26,9,0,3,3,3,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,5,9,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,2,15,3,21,16,6,28,0,0,0,0,18,13,0,0,10,81,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773931835390185,0.0,0.0,0.1125702427271782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473622485849365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425947157026787,0.17356147953561527,0.17888574532809812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933505056973072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648579402246491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095537646936517,0.0,0.16604623221177225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049665007509936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212935713728566,0.0,0.0,0.12274294055155555,0.0,0.15987582282341484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737023189452963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476190740901247,0.28907952186205704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606804713944327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136694784772405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350627958291538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687432348578387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716732258744805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446256615885552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965254467669423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.546338563956158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957091910374366,0.0,0.0,0.1681099721213034,0.0,0.11759211504396055,0.0,0.0,0.10659983837015034
parenting,peepeepoopoobutt123,2020/04/15,"4 year old cries EVERY. NIGHT. for bedtime. So I have been helping out with my BFs kid (been in his life since he was 2) more since I moved in.  He shares him with his ex 70/30.  Before, my SO would just go to bed at 7-8 (he work weird hours) and the kid would just watch tv all night, drink juice and eat snacks until he tired out at 11 pm and put himself to bed.

Since maybe 3-4 wks ago my BF agreed that 4 year old prob needs to go to bed earlier.  So we started moving his bedtime back to 1030, then 10, then finally 915.  

The first week going to bed at 915 went great.  He takes a bath at 8, then he has an hour to watch his tablet to unwind.  I tuck him in and hes out.

However the last two wks for whatever reason he has been crying every night when I try to get him to turn his tablet off.  First night back from his moms takes him like an hour to get him to sleep.  Then the rest of the days he falls asleep quickly but will stall, beg to watch “one more show” on his tablet, refuse to go potty, continue playing with toys in bed, asks for food because he is so hungry (we eat dinner at 7), etc then when I tell him “I know you really want to watch tablet but its bed time and tablet will still be here tmr” he refuses to give up the tablet and cries when I take it away.  I never raise my voice or anything.

Today he told me he wants to go back to his moms since I was making him go to bed which sucked.

Any advice or insight into whats going wrong?  He was so good for a week with the bedtime and just completely did a 180 the last couple weeks.

Of note he does this with everything in life - if he wants sweets or toys he begs and begs, you keep saying no, and he cries.  We tried a behavior chart but he seems to forget that it even exists though we have gotten some improvement on getting him to recognize that he needs to earn rewards not just be entitled to them.",3.2774560718469345,3.6320823020304616,3.9768527918781733,93.54115579851623,72.42639593908629,7.381335415853182,21.499023818820767,7.1686216300943375,0.2568195236235842,1433,25,345,13,26,456,201,394,0.084,0.8420000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.4566,1,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,4,2,1,5,20,10,1,0,14,0,19,11,2,2,2,53,49,31,0,8,12,3,0,1,1,4,3,2,8,2,9,22,6,3,4,8,0,12,3,3,0,4,10,7,39,7,55,33,6,71,0,0,4,0,59,19,1,6,41,189,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587387202521953,0.06882767720475166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280131590518864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389528377006434,0.0,0.07258766703010945,0.0,0.07295010711793035,0.17911281773657567,0.0,0.04733171914396871,0.0,0.0660702429256906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140938748921604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591280246541637,0.3411578909554253,0.05007465217937959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794773138739361,0.0,0.0,0.07606261708514267,0.0,0.15890059872682316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659478701474482,0.05128384202416153,0.0,0.130838654787878,0.0,0.06978238992200908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505638817407518,0.0,0.13208972811911193,0.093888737058132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169904641385455,0.07448423433980209,0.3088924118792711,0.0651250079531269,0.0,0.08560397309584132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204385939307942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22939428557234734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901451329698312,0.0,0.0,0.042671704518658655,0.1265822041650476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968603028569576,0.037933463323390086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05182869278536073,0.0,0.07800491750497919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818739549044489,0.0,0.16504886095663665,0.0,0.11514568365818666,0.05988467116335236,0.0,0.0,0.2914585851917492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629508970380867,0.0,0.05261431462415544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805474955090183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04974142546716152,0.07983207241010197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061746482824011725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068516327031736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569152450042874,0.0,0.0777011527911753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495758615976885,0.0,0.06200745994370543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513830782220186,0.0,0.0678652209055202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628589534574533,0.0,0.04527546964594297,0.08924159561904915,0.07359845556429552,0.07419319986008685,0.0,0.10543182301349112,0.08445554900164456,0.07584795936873705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739123694285804,0.0,0.1868465953468032,0.0,0.0,0.07197776561044651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05652654185573549,0.0,0.0,0.11031367196113157,0.08489270435002147,0.0,0.10000176964823088
parenting,sandqueenoverlord,2020/04/15,"Noise machine is on the fritz, and in freaking out!! Ahhhhhh! I have a conair cuddle pals noise machine, that I bought used. We used to live near train tracks, and since we've moved to a different, more quieter neighbourhood over a year ago now, my son has fallen asleep to a noise machine. Well, the dang thing  started blipping and buzzing tonight. I don't know what I'm going to do without this thing. Our neighbourhood is like way too quiet. Obvi I can't just go out and buy a new one, or order a new one. D: 
I have an old phone kicking around somewhere. And I was thinking if the noise machine breaks I could use a sleep app. Has anyone ever done that?
Has anyone ever gone through this? Like has anyones kid just always needed noise or music or birds? Or do they grow out of it?

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parenting,CozyCyberpunk,2020/04/15,"Putting resistant 2 year old to bed For those of you who have 2 year olds, how do you put them to bed on time successfully with minimal drama, especially when they dont want to go to bed? 

I start work this upcoming Monday, and will be working nights from home (remote call center) so it is imperative that my toddler goes to bed on time (whether she wants to or not). For example, she did not want to go to bed tonight. Her bedtime is 9pm but she didnt pass out until 11pm. She does this all the time. But I cannot be 2 hours late starting work.",3.1715789473684204,3.94023751754386,4.45872807017544,88.47651315789473,72.94736842105263,8.156140350877193,26.530701754385966,8.472884824447931,1.4775122807017542,423,14,98,7,8,140,78,114,0.021,0.9590000000000001,0.02,0.2211,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,2,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,1,1,14,18,9,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,12,1,17,13,1,25,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,16,58,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814359360665711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549307067534832,0.0,0.20824513477356493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196460952183126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782322328095006,0.0,0.174983628988089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043607108716646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674504601107953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729003872888028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572443830175255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515322779554326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108281170439049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31440910358477275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38806971424969305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22884623103777665
parenting,coldcottage,2020/04/15,"Soon to be first time father so most of my parenting classes got canceled because of the pandemic.  And now I'm a bit in the dark as far as the unexpected regarding the birth.  I've done a decent amount of reading, however, I was really hoping to use these classes to fill in the gaps.  Does anyone have any advice or resources they would really recommend.  
I have some basic questions
What should I bring to the hospital for the birth (unfortunately because of the pandemic likely I won't' be able to leave once we get there so I think it will be a minimum of 3 days)?
what can I do/ have ready for my partner to make her life easier for during and after?
where do birth partners sleep if they have to stay overnight?

the tour of the birthing suites are canceled. is there anything I need to know?

for context we are going to be giving birth in Portland, Oregon.",4.1715200368493806,5.8379028263473085,5.10622754491018,81.33387839705208,71.63473053892216,8.252233993551357,28.415016121602946,8.841846274778883,2.2920984799631503,680,26,128,13,13,222,107,167,0.006999999999999999,0.903,0.08900000000000001,0.9238,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,2,1,7,2,0,0,13,0,20,2,1,2,0,17,32,8,0,5,2,2,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,0,14,2,25,21,4,20,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,6,12,90,18,3,0.1964352699688008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919542723571328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133582719631215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373521081097071,0.0,0.161649489814603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23949023465344615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21445643851705845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668449844545165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190182850362207,0.2010214820471044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670877402864578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262932099192018,0.18843861032981865,0.11163869077584236,0.0,0.15710723009746852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951045460244012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795568714873424,0.0,0.0,0.20799658788305986,0.0,0.0,0.1387480404600601,0.09596835057800997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112206804904408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565426365959785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091971515630952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21811812075344988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22005245868851525,0.0,0.19648842814261303,0.0,0.2516829279091459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965771331715201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20937386124241292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586778928744596,0.0,0.0,0.1145429856094034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965700319557026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954197978260607,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RodenbachBacher,2020/04/15,"Support for a Second Time Dad Hi, everyone!  My wife is due to deliver tomorrow.  We’re expecting our second and I just couldn’t be happier.  But, I’m nervous about baby things: the delivery, COVID-19, and just being a good dad. We have a toddler and they are just wonderful.  I’m not real close to my family and, I don’t know, I could just use some positive thoughts from others.",1.4574624624624626,4.040689581081082,3.7220720720720735,83.0218768768769,85.62162162162161,8.153753753753753,25.78978978978979,8.841846274778883,2.6570528528528525,295,13,56,9,9,101,54,74,0.027999999999999997,0.753,0.21899999999999997,0.9381,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,21,15,5,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,0,8,2,5,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,3,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609476919945901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31230070696093604,0.0,0.0,0.3081068643035311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741300558939702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961758643024064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720048497434268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708835661563589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21713177163173586,0.0,0.0,0.2594670411132733,0.19057758938933356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822767585462333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544339151346363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unbalancedlibraxx,2020/04/15,"Sleep regression or terrible 2s Hi! This is my first post ever so all feedback is welcomed ☺️

I have a 2.5 yo son that seems to be sleep regressing a lot. At first dad and I would expect it around certain age milestones as I dr told us they weren’t uncommon. Now I’m not sure if we’re still in sleep regression mode or if my toddler is just trying to get out of bedtime. He’s visibly tired but just won’t commit to sleeping. If I lay him in his bed then he just cries until I worried that he’s going to make himself sick. I’m not crazy about co sleeping but have been giving in more lately just due to sheer exhaustion. He sleeps a lot better in our bed but I don’t. It’s especially hard running on no sleep in general but during this time especially. Any parents out there run into this before? TIA",2.84595117457393,4.18309446107785,4.470299401197603,85.89315983417781,74.44910179640719,7.533671119299862,26.019806540764627,8.139509932561175,1.5359308152924918,633,22,133,10,13,213,114,167,0.139,0.743,0.11900000000000001,-0.3734,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,3,11,6,0,0,3,0,11,11,7,1,5,32,19,14,0,5,15,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,6,2,0,2,3,1,14,4,20,13,4,26,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,8,11,84,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894490189127945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334434727311316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878369044944753,0.0,0.0,0.1026718081869266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751896316027828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500968015621058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749149142293168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060652019207599,0.11136371265748922,0.0659763891235398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039934700699084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309541137108077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739043555391625,0.0,0.0,0.07749070258855982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289037511073971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111181736825245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568360246105002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8132139976335526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270929630945486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094130644472698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067692773333502,0.1334279059146471,0.0,0.11092857788756504,0.0,0.0788172110990977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964148269902288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178946134834784,0.0,0.08246671376406488,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saycheeseanddie,2020/04/15,"Wife hates my daughter and me Hi!
This is the first time posting here and I'm not sure if it's the right sub, but I need some help from some other parents.

Basically today my wife said she hates seeing my daughter and I together because it makes her resentful and jealous. Recently my daughter has been favoring me over her but I tried to reassure her it's just a phase. However she's taking it personally and mentioned potential divorce.

Have anyone of you faced this issue and what did you do? I tried offering counseling but she shot it down. Any advice would be great.

Edit: daughter is 16 months, wife is 39.",1.9819774011299456,4.754773016949155,3.478000000000001,84.13846892655367,85.77966101694916,6.8754802259887,25.663276836158193,8.021203637495839,2.085984632768361,488,21,89,11,15,160,80,118,0.11699999999999999,0.759,0.124,0.4331,2,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,2,8,4,0,3,0,10,1,1,1,1,18,18,10,0,3,6,8,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,3,2,18,4,5,13,2,9,0,0,1,0,24,3,0,3,5,61,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060817051473492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341412828052702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474609358637684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285581074009552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17938504834831898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23250972004058265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164253548276317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135679384610478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201169729881734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407723778907058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833237732315276,0.0,0.0,0.15637411269026186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341711580390155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414319196270645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019767139550886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20823089636172767,0.0,0.0,0.18010103826812882,0.20060705645679167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805401401779935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987636805454014,0.0,0.15856491020002195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12297310967445625,0.0,0.19990142606482525,0.0,0.0,0.28636432125398603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981197750958947,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayRA-bunbunda,2020/04/15,"Is ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) real? My tween son has a suspected case of ODD and is on a waiting list for a neuropsych exam (it's like a 2 year long waiting list). He is also in counseling with a local therapist. He's been going for a few months. The therapist seemed like a good fit; he has a background in educational psychology, and my son was going because of behavior problems in school. When the child's father and I brought our son in and met with him, we talked about our son's problems in school like disobedience, rudeness, and disruptiveness.

I never mentioned ODD specifically, but today I called the therapist to check in and I wanted to bring it up. I wanted to know if he was familiar with the treatment for ODD. And he said that he dislikes or avoids the label of ODD, **because it is a label adults give to children who are inconvenient**.

I'm really offended. I know how to ""hold space"" for others, and have a feminist perspective about supporting others' voices. I grew up without a voice, so I encourage my kids to express themselves either verbally, or through the arts, etc. I'm not squashing who he is or trying to sculpt him into what I want him to be. I know people have different paths through life, and I've had this conversation with my kids. If they aren't interested in education, I will support them in the different paths they choose in any way that I can.

I cannot, however, speak to the family dynamics with his dad's side. I'm not there, you know? I'm not a witness to how they interact, and have no control over it. But just for background, they have a very low opinion of education. His dad dropped out of school, never got a GED, and is narcissistically proud of himself.

I'm not the best at figuring out how to say this, but I think the therapist is really far off about what my son's problem is. I guess he kind of implied that the kid is acting out to get attention? Or like we aren't listening to him, or meeting his needs? And no, I'm not looking for something to be wrong with my kid; he got himself kicked out of school because of serious behavior problems. He needs to be in therapy. And the therapist needs to work with the whole family unit, right? My goal is for my son to heal and become a stable adult.

My confidence in the therapist is shaken a little. But I'm not sure if switching therapists is a good idea just yet. It takes time to build some trust, and he is working to try to get through to my son. I hope this is something we can just work through.

In my opinion, my son has some deficiency of empathy. It's not absent. It's just less than it should be for a kid his age, and always has been.

Son has an IEP for school for his behavior disorder, and has been placed in online classes. He is supposed to have a weekly session with a special education teacher to learn social skills, but since school was shut down due to the coronavirus pandemic, they haven't been doing anything.

I've posted about similar things before on Reddit and some people totally jumped down my throat. I hope we can agree that we gotta help difficult children find the path to become better people, and parents can be supportive to each other, because the alternative is a difficult child growing up to be a difficult adult (ending up in jail or some other tragedy). If you don't have something relevant and helpful to say, just keep scrolling.",5.098327377913904,6.219922297090356,6.061676365492598,77.44925438148721,68.75497702909648,9.60230049344904,31.81585843117237,9.834651829143768,3.119052571039646,2672,113,502,62,45,885,275,653,0.111,0.773,0.11599999999999999,0.8629,4,1,3,0,0,0,85.0,7,2,6,9,17,34,2,1,40,0,55,3,1,4,4,115,98,41,0,17,29,13,0,4,0,3,2,7,0,12,24,39,0,6,13,2,1,8,17,13,0,0,13,8,56,21,96,76,12,64,0,1,1,0,83,40,0,20,17,342,80,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05105555352063251,0.05312283318373785,0.0,0.0,0.04341570945257524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253768827527195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567340555946302,0.14102006529196154,0.05432604133339354,0.0,0.06699972208190537,0.05646430974545982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519126178643607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716058152878472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340555435156434,0.1463401626009429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056546313314689935,0.0,0.0712022806380542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037177385497773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05835172195875365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671109547404504,0.0612444182773975,0.07256736463774269,0.10709764993231023,0.10212281758660492,0.0,0.07033071610199369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558578662160116,0.0,0.0,0.12682182705153766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207144111561238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056746958024549335,0.0,0.06648308912237842,0.14034667837103462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045094489978631185,0.12476266501656536,0.06398787110294384,0.0,0.05649941059629932,0.053612386716544766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095920236692323,0.0,0.0,0.1420172431516254,0.0984799503315268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07089055368177018,0.0,0.0,0.13278294976324398,0.0,0.06670277717578219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061144340759143226,0.0,0.0,0.2443580922204215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266777997220614,0.08179944907876803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545219250244393,0.06072970481839906,0.10154168743897872,0.0,0.3876776483641876,0.0,0.05812064450557328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05281193015658932,0.0,0.0,0.06508031855657379,0.0,0.14744933302303026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734624212033146,0.06017166026630132,0.0,0.048002300422953406,0.05131491623040923,0.0,0.0,0.07301050564514491,0.5188898545417383,0.04241472608970763,0.04090828053380016,0.0,0.0,0.03722760695977255,0.0,0.06051608957389125,0.0,0.0,0.0866909719301003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052677501133545634,0.11296949559272043,0.0506759287895253,0.051211334141406335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127888953258668,0.0,0.06154277092285153,0.0,0.13943629295001814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698027487292551,0.0,0.041113064147747014
parenting,ahardy11397,2020/04/15,Please help My almost 3 year old son has had problems pooping in the potty for almost a year now. He pees in the potty no problem and only has accidents every now and then however pooping is a whole other story. He just cries and cries if we sit him on the potty (he pees standing up) and will only poop in a pull-up. Recently though every time he poops he tries to hide it and then tries to change his own butt which creates a big mess. We've told him it's ok to come tell us but he won't and he knows he isn't supposed to change himself because he runs and hides and tries to put underwear on. What can I do to either help him poop in the potty or get him to stop trying to change himself?,3.2540816326530617,3.8259075034013637,4.5117074829932005,88.89817346938776,72.60544217687075,6.96843537414966,24.223809523809518,6.742157984588678,0.6974658503401359,541,14,119,4,10,179,87,147,0.124,0.8079999999999999,0.068,-0.6597,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,8,1,9,8,8,0,0,21,13,14,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,2,0,11,1,16,9,3,23,0,0,0,1,23,8,1,4,10,70,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806818741225937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543472157268643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4447833823529613,0.12072763825632495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30789848703198563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361664491574163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322308967483733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18788046228751284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702329981918896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706485175536255,0.0,0.0,0.21318223403873274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384366247814762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682110730199221,0.0,0.1408904201223551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838216051213384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717247425188325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249811241582165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769760208714796,0.0,0.08172314915306958,0.0,0.0,0.13392024391408378,0.0,0.3806131958427359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858434300430886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647353661575086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805052404854644
parenting,KeeperNovaIce,2020/04/15,"Preparing myself for my first child... Next month I prepare myself for Parenthood. Being that I will be having my first child at the age of 30... I could use all the help I could get. Without going into too much detail... I know that taking on a child is a lifelong time commitment. My donor- who is a long time friend of mine has offered me this opportunity that I know with my lifestyle won't be for another ten years (if I'm lucky).  


Is there any advice, preparations or otherwise I can do for the home environment of my child? I know that no one can predict where parenthood takes any of us. The best we can do is all we can. I was just thinking that maybe with those here that have experience can give me knowledge that's useful.  


Thank you!",3.3965525114155213,5.165949910958908,4.349520547945208,85.54884703196348,73.86301369863014,7.606392694063928,24.495433789954337,8.344100000000001,1.4407735159817352,581,18,118,10,12,188,92,146,0.015,0.838,0.147,0.9609,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,1,0,4,5,5,0,0,7,0,22,0,0,2,3,22,35,2,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,10,5,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,23,5,14,27,4,14,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,3,9,92,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703455407814332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23709001456656906,0.18279192362348332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294029148258906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783640278413048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052046578027916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965565822269303,0.0,0.0,0.13468082376650528,0.0,0.09107610354133548,0.16722564487136268,0.09907126795782104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168444305797419,0.0,0.17485928190287298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28740860542402524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426957488638496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512998218385467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139142238878673,0.0,0.12814680290508285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539353337413253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812516796977444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621370524634323,0.0,0.0,0.16049237083018422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169856429786697,0.0,0.0,0.20329723935554486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20968802528124889,0.3011166524383207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804028586132436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225771846839468
parenting,Advice-needed26,2020/04/16,"Transition from 1 to 2 with a toddler How hard do you think the transition is from 1 kid to 2 kids vs from 0-1? We recently found out we’re expecting #2 (earlier than we expected but still excited!), so I’m just trying to realistically see how this might play out. Our oldest will be close to 2 when #2 is born. #1 is a very easy going baby and we have lots of family support which we are so thankful for!",4.3584705882352965,4.041279670588239,6.727058823529411,77.11176470588238,69.94117647058823,11.03529411764706,29.94117647058824,10.793553405168565,3.0402235294117643,312,11,69,9,5,113,62,85,0.013000000000000001,0.784,0.203,0.9635,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,1,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,0,20,16,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,9,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,4,13,12,1,9,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,2,5,43,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842393569329835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33059313302358323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135662621208714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700961725246821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25633533095997624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198573465290939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977074346234278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402665995563768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407884463688659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342153059717102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775924015623593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931971753805072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470734395751408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24877956962028006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,findmeamap,2020/04/16,"Toddler food ideas Soooo I just fed my kid pasta for lunch and dinner. It wasn’t the same pasta but still, yikes. I need some food inspiration for my 18 month old, badly. Would love to get it together and do some prep for the week on Sunday. I make enough of our food for her to have leftovers but that’s pretty hit or miss. All the usuals apply: fickle tastes, wants to feed herself, why eat it when you can throw it on the floor, etc. Any ideas or resources welcome!",1.5087234042553206,3.820397744680857,2.261106382978724,95.59400000000002,82.19148936170214,4.611063829787233,16.846808510638294,5.6839178017228535,-0.6391710638297874,364,7,78,2,10,113,71,94,0.055999999999999994,0.768,0.17600000000000002,0.9427,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,4,0,5,12,0,1,1,18,13,7,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,11,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,9,3,10,9,6,11,0,1,0,1,7,3,0,4,7,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206064530600171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808275381794642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18147689383317034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325356193484416,0.19779601959332435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6433696224085856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265987710809467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004209991949032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006844661184774,0.0,0.11838482993120633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415618614952216,0.0,0.0,0.1315053635795846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18610265083166652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043225629246248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416347240379384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532980992599036,0.0,0.10460768186762924,0.0,0.1422622696978643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003393669910476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598682884294307,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shining-apple-cheeks,2020/04/16,"20 month old winces and cries when touched Looking for some insight or advice about my 20 month old toddler. If she gets grabbed by her siblings or me or her dad pick her up by her hands she winces and cries and holds herself like she's really hurt. Or if we say no to her, and remove her claws from her brothers face for example she's crying holding her forearm saying ow ow. This lasts a few minutes and then she uses the 'hurt' arm fine. 

 This has been going on for about a week, every day. What on earth do you think is happening? Could it be growing pains? Mainly seems to be the arms but she does react to her feet and legs when she's clearly not been hurt but maybe roughed a little but by her siblings. but shes crying and saying ow ow ow. I just hope it's not a warning symotom for something worse. It probably sounds like she's making it up, but it does seem real, she isn't looking for a reaction from us, she's looking at where it hurts until it seems to stop?",3.181766666666668,4.3823823100000014,3.8880000000000017,90.93566666666668,73.4,6.333333333333334,25.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.7294333333333336,762,24,163,5,15,242,113,200,0.149,0.77,0.081,-0.9405,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,0,6,9,0,0,7,0,10,8,7,4,1,39,23,22,0,4,14,2,4,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,10,8,0,3,5,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,2,11,28,4,22,18,3,22,0,4,3,0,30,7,0,11,14,105,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543806240617856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614890535005347,0.0,0.4740897760557424,0.06958619825942425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884701547855492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090991325761866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637299247665176,0.0,0.061321725744490525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541509891945492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716846802542936,0.0,0.0,0.4620342340299156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795242674467492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542841076687537,0.10814356294558664,0.0,0.0,0.27182500765885265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202369931136658,0.0,0.10839946796368877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224857191945914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22644457693333134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481258813679085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163338220137615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281315977675612,0.0691231300392262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25741784367599674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946827329548723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306624340003106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902087447935426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913759021276775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297897144475322,0.09319045349143573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655040465932702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995872496114588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KSVulpes,2020/04/16,"I think my baby likes my mom more than me She's 9 weeks old and my mom talks to her and she laughs and babbles back to her, but when I talk and sing with her she just stares at me. I might get a smile here and there. My mom's only taken care of her a few times when I had doctor's appointments but other than that I'm with her 24/7 and she doesn't seem as excited to interact with me.",-0.4094252873563242,1.3462066781609217,1.6075862068965527,100.75436781609196,85.66666666666666,5.2459770114942526,14.264367816091953,6.42735559955562,-0.9268942528735632,299,4,78,3,9,99,54,87,0.03,0.8320000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.84,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,15,9,11,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,20,4,11,6,2,7,0,0,1,0,15,1,0,2,7,54,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982472507539186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191812730721984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21274448686814648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859366113952754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154558601832964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204972521407399,0.0,0.7302983585283008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810484572525213,0.0,0.0,0.15808018609275534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18921990501879155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341258053060369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318264143381064,0.0,0.0,0.12119969268973928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672567664306087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,christianlee87,2020/04/16,"Spending time with my daughter As a working father, I just wanted to share how great it has been getting to spend each day with my daughter. 

I have been working online now for 10 weeks. Prior to all of this, I would have worked all day and only got to see my daughter for a few hours before bedtime. Now, fortunately I get to spend all day with my daughter and I can complete my work online while she sleeps (for the most part). I say “get to” intentionally because this time together is a gift. We all know, kids grow up fast, and even faster when you don’t get to see them as often as you’d like. To borrow from a cliche, seize the day!

Spending every day with a toddler is certainly not always fun and easy. In fact it’s damn difficult. But I have been learning so much more about myself as a father because of this time together that’s it’s been a real transformative experience. 

My daughter is 2.5 and so still quite young but it’s so amazing building that close, trusting relationship hour after hour, day after day. I didn’t even realize this was missing and that I wasn’t investing enough time and energy in our relationship until I saw what was produced when I did. 

I know not everyone is in the situation to be afforded this opportunity and that times are hard. But if you do have this chance, don’t waste it. We will all be working again soon, kids will be back to school again before long. But when is the next time you will get to spend so much time together? 

As horrible as this pandemic is, I am thankful for the time I currently have with my family.",5.155876623376624,5.854619327922079,5.855610389610393,80.50984415584418,68.38311688311688,9.017142857142858,29.36103896103896,9.120678840339163,2.2916332467532468,1235,43,245,22,20,403,150,308,0.057999999999999996,0.8240000000000001,0.11800000000000001,0.9628,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,4,1,8,20,12,1,0,12,0,35,1,1,3,7,44,49,29,0,3,8,7,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,17,17,0,0,4,0,7,1,6,3,0,0,11,5,31,9,37,30,13,46,0,1,3,0,22,5,1,3,41,179,48,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919111467208141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318175064811436,0.0,0.11603250214849935,0.0,0.16196951521892805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978651842349318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296485638141797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983385971572074,0.0,0.12572103057892173,0.0,0.0801869061981649,0.0909413684719981,0.0,0.09309693256376113,0.0897201295124963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24861842332999384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611811412773603,0.104927978233271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525583452349837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811771198566173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460859516175666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046496458867078254,0.0,0.0,0.08422463628702367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992542436153502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121699583279638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238294797998528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030625046958682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122763113495628,0.0,0.10832710064315976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043592194053076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568496380985959,0.0,0.0963196152121188,0.1516802645652464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697783780426548,0.09524119703701678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760048531858345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762201859938729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439666358188149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056135185467159635,0.0,0.07634161040461722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464334387143555,0.0,0.0,0.06760778823554467,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,playerknowmore,2020/04/16,"Home Schooling During Convid19 I have three children ages nine to sixteen. I work nights and my wife works from home during the day. Kids are in Google Classroom every day with there teachers, and different deliverables. 

My oldest daughter has mostly AP and honors classes so she rarely asks for help. She normally finishes about two before I go to work,  and starts helping her classmates. I swear it sounds like ten kids are in her Macbook. 

My thirteen year old daughter does her deliverables at night and only has two classes with teachers. She's the main help with my ten year old son he's grade level autistic, but he only needs help with math. Now his teachers are constantly face timing me, or texting me. He completes all his assignments on time, often needs help entering deliverables. 

Oh, I found a good resource is Khan Academy it's an app you can get on your phone or fire stick. They have instructions for all subjects; elementary to some college classes. My oldest loves it she watches college lectures to sharpen her debate skills. 

I kind of like this set up.  No distractions shorter school days. Did I mention that they go to three different schools each a fifteen minutes drive from the last; I don't miss the driving. I have to make breakfast and lunch,  but they are eating better. Normally they come home starving from school; which is infuriating for the amount we pay. 

I'm sorry that our country has to go through this,  but I think that the quarantine has brought my children closer. I was against home schooling before this, but if my children had do this to the end of the year I'd like that.",5.064425675675672,7.3848897263513535,4.694491891891894,82.49375135135139,70.6554054054054,7.033297297297298,31.772432432432428,7.839951260653429,2.348702054054053,1293,59,222,17,25,393,172,296,0.096,0.82,0.085,-0.1195,2,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,2,4,6,5,10,0,1,11,0,19,5,1,1,2,32,35,14,0,5,7,4,1,3,0,0,0,1,4,5,12,13,3,0,2,0,1,11,2,2,0,7,5,3,38,8,29,30,7,41,0,1,1,1,39,8,0,6,24,140,50,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745010030250598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919644775099107,0.0,0.0,0.0827312032642391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057903253408218,0.09807808120550893,0.1010867774562671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18098253607806747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954651014665988,0.0,0.0,0.08186013090475193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571786685901418,0.0,0.0,0.0828513544532814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078814032416132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025650978498474,0.0,0.0,0.04887236932961055,0.0,0.15948796915943836,0.07845945063009223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134995867938869,0.0,0.3753251214568763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741066497780528,0.0,0.07625004979257706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710118983749187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442623155764868,0.0,0.062440695066663436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872193441803554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755675829784725,0.1833046054192606,0.0,0.0,0.1963153366597808,0.0,0.0,0.1422873703188292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.473352672871361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471375717824724,0.06621023403413484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993859284367624,0.0,0.0,0.10909137939750664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275588473686893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430130725874152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071592208367265
parenting,Igotquestions21,2020/04/16,"Will I still enjoy life as an individual? I’m new to reddit, I think I’m writing a post for people to reply back too anyway hopefully.

I’m a first time mother to a beautiful and very happy nearly 5 month old baby boy. I’m 21 years old, I’ve always wanted to be a Mum, I miscarried at 17 and since then always imagined what my baby would have been like etc and I just felt it inside of me that I wanted to be a mother. I’m sure I have PPD, I love my boy so much but some days I just wish it would all go away and other days I’m overwhelmed with joy, it’s very conflicting feelings and confuses me but that’s not what I’m here to ask today.

My question is, can I still enjoy life as an individual? As myself before I had my son or do I forget myself entirely now? I mean.. I don’t have any friend but I sure would love to make some one day when this pandemic is over. I’ve never been to a festival, I’ve hardly gone out clubbing and this is before baby and also I’ve never been abroad (I’m in UK) technically, I’ve hardly lived at all. I’ve had an extremely harsh time with my parents and life itself which I won’t go into but it feel so like there’s this fire inside of me that wants to have fun. 

Now, I’m not saying I want to forget about my son and focus on my own entertainment in life, that’s selfish. I just want to know, can I still go to a festival one day? Or maybe a holiday with just me and my partner? Basically, fellow mothers and fathers.. can I do things that make me feel like an individual? I will always put my son first, he will never go without, I feel like I have to stress this as I’m nervous this is my first post and worried people will think I’m irresponsible but I just want to know if I’m aloud to enjoy my life outside of motherhood once in a while? I just want to add, I don’t think I am grieving my life before motherhood as I really didn’t have much of one anyway just I have dreams, ambitions, excitement inside of me and I want to let it out.. am I a bad person for feeling this? 

Thank you in advance!",1.3859934814099475,2.9416909334862424,3.9324432641236133,87.30480685659106,78.88532110091744,6.699565427329793,20.64799613713182,7.573540080772713,0.6290651376146785,1581,40,350,23,38,556,179,436,0.127,0.696,0.17800000000000002,0.9794,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,1,0,4,23,28,0,4,14,0,37,8,0,2,7,81,82,32,1,14,18,9,9,4,3,8,6,1,0,4,22,20,0,1,14,4,0,7,10,7,0,6,8,10,51,21,47,63,8,49,0,2,0,2,23,13,0,8,31,235,73,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061741053399581323,0.192722992162376,0.0,0.0,0.052502253934215065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217653692097775,0.0,0.07253692418028168,0.05936611287342549,0.06446320364266729,0.0,0.0,0.1970880807862032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199164135159816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610432182014308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518660631305776,0.16546645296574086,0.0741291988693906,0.0,0.0,0.19701237541874095,0.0,0.0,0.059648626049351824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551021294305047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218648131453685,0.13832157472637618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668228680604901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486003153661006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894765375568648,0.3271943350106757,0.15087444620395546,0.0,0.06817369755013583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936160160001615,0.0,0.10307027933097523,0.0,0.07756310456954857,0.08409920913639635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061624536756120174,0.0,0.1135095630118393,0.0,0.17863646908900227,0.07456536331861305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202795760741745,0.08222112863102367,0.15694893543556426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572735302190562,0.0,0.0,0.10704887293110814,0.06741269316068944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788267867341265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761265437118213,0.08648760930162322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945969444428407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061396756220849176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386502495982628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496876556783956,0.0,0.0884384144302799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553016992135245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108027070001016,0.0,0.0,0.051291773134434365,0.1484101234100841,0.0,0.0,0.09003806680161001,0.0,0.07318160043854087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274049221355873,0.3643015070943718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878228894807816,0.07442315759774185,0.0,0.0,0.07840573344571422,0.0,0.16453329765830402,0.0,0.0,0.049717684246448526
parenting,TheSelfishTinyGirl,2020/04/16,"Tantrums, throwing things and repeating the same thing over and over again My daughter turned three in February and her tantrums are getting worse by the day. Her tantrums go on for over 40 minutes most of the times, while she throws things everywhere, screams and just keeps repeating the same sentences over and over again. She also can't be calmed down - she tries to hit us or just screams louder and louder - and I feel like she doesn't understand/listen while we try to talk to her. 

Ever since she was born, we have always followed a positive discipline path, but lately, I feel like we are failing so hard! It's frustrating! I've been considering taking her to a neurodevelopment professional since I'm worried she might have an underlying condition due to her not reaching certain development milestones - maybe ADHD or something on the ASD.

Has anyone been through something like that with their toddler? Aside from the intense tantrums, she's an amazing child, and I'm feeling like a huge failure lately. Does anyone have any tips or maybe a different approach to a situation like this? I just feel lost and helpless. Thanks in advance!",8.426617647058823,9.119856857843141,7.0047058823529404,75.12117647058824,61.30392156862745,9.937254901960783,38.568627450980394,9.725611199111238,3.7979392156862737,925,44,155,16,12,276,125,204,0.193,0.667,0.14,-0.8893,2,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,1,3,8,19,5,0,13,0,13,0,0,0,2,33,28,17,0,0,8,1,5,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,6,13,0,2,4,0,0,6,3,10,0,1,4,7,21,9,23,21,3,31,0,3,0,0,20,12,0,5,18,104,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926780477682997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059792020119312,0.1102703835568117,0.0,0.0,0.09012070039954352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18532738693108816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546686099210947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384591216744383,0.0,0.0,0.11597243436484544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119875326939321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680319773179005,0.2840249992426088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923819424290377,0.0,0.07531630612239737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118715257542354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177932058971004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989851444510595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32372207251641383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466533753431102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662758561843544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058676550311122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925004544092705,0.14896225738963564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20404652805833354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964137381265953,0.10651757739165713,0.0,0.12201007195044412,0.0,0.0,0.2641286900978543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727566946886824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994986623889872,0.1441477943906365,0.0,0.13796190658494986,0.15940976458489742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458430989117726,0.13505303201200647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SteadyVariable,2020/04/16,"Gift Ideas for 1 Year Old Baby Girl Title says it all! My little girl is about to turn one! I have bought her a couple of gifts with a theme of Princess and the Frog because she is obsessed with it! What kind of gifts do you think are great for a one year old little girl? Wanting to surprise her and my wife! :) Thanks for all of the help in advance!

She loves bouncing in her bouncy and is crawling all over the place/loves pulling up on things! Big fan of her pacifier as well!",1.8932199546485224,3.801431224489797,2.2627891156462603,98.23379818594108,78.59183673469387,4.763718820861679,21.092970521541947,5.033348758259628,-0.3363165532879817,372,10,84,1,9,113,65,98,0.015,0.743,0.242,0.9758,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,2,7,0,1,6,0,6,1,0,0,3,11,12,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,5,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,1,1,10,6,19,11,3,14,0,0,0,1,14,8,0,0,4,54,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241351039970857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22532024742829385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224510292357933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364934554462058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229881161935242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120563921010024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081951444625901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379016370412765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273651351795208,0.0,0.275979133474478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275711549709406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194015779352208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874814071896697,0.0,0.0,0.13528724229374206,0.13048223979311668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22149836405817594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201102614669708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830939401846502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622708471124185
parenting,Lonely_Trees,2020/04/16,"My son has violent tantrums during nap time and I’m a terrible parent We are currently going on week 5 of isolation and my 3 year old hasn’t been in school for 6 weeks. 75% of the time he’s a perfect, kind, smart, thoughtful kid. The other 25% of the time he’s a fucking nightmare. This is mainly getting dressed in the morning or the time that is designated as nap time/quiet time. Everyday he throws a screaming fit. We have long given up on asking for a nap, we can’t even get him to stay in one room. But he desperately needs it because his acting out is partially from being so tired. Every day, nap time starts nicely with reading books and quickly devolves into a him hitting and screaming because he wants to leave the room. If we ask him to play quietly, he makes as much noise as possible slamming doors or toys or knocking things over. If we give him a movie to watch it holds his attention for 15 min before he is bored and looking for something else to get into. White noise doesn’t work, audiobooks don’t work. Leaving him alone doesn’t work. Nothing will keep him quiet and relaxing in one place.

In the last week the hitting and hair pulling has gotten worse and now he won’t use the potty during quiet time. Instead he is pooping himself and then laughing when I get upset. In desperation I tried to put a diaper on him today so he doesn’t ruin anymore undies and he throws a fit and rips it off.  In the beginning I could handle keeping a calm voice and approach but after 6 weeks I am at the end of my rope. I can only be hit in the face or have a toy thrown at my head so many times before I start to get angry myself. I’m afraid my anger is getting worse too. But nothing seems to work...nothing. Take away toys, treats, tv time, it just makes him more angry and lashing out. Tell him he needs a time out and he throws a screaming fit because he can’t stand to sit in one spot for 30 seconds. If I get upset or angry, he laughs and does whatever he’s doing more. It took me 2 hours to get him dressed yesterday to go outside. Quiet time is now me sitting in his room for 2 hours preventing him from leaving while he alternates between playing with his toys, breaking things, getting upset with me and trying to torment me into letting him leave the room. 

Today I finally gave up. I just couldn’t take it anymore.I just started crying and left. I told him I needed to take a quiet time and I just went in my room and shut the door. He’s probably breaking things or drawing with marker on the walls as I type but i needed to be by myself. I’m afraid I’m getting so angry and rough with him that I’m making things worse by teaching him it’s ok. Things are obviously getting progressively worse, and I have no idea how to fix it. But I can’t give up on quiet time because when he eventually goes back to to daycare, they have mandatory quiet time for 2 hours every day. He has to learn to play quietly and listen. But it’s almost as if he intentionally lashes out at any attempt to keep him from doing what he wants to do and uses the hitting and screaming as ways to get attention. But we are stuck in a house where he has my attention nearly all day! I can’t do anything by myself. All I want is a little quiet time without all the anger and tantrums. I can’t have any quiet time to myself because I am trying to keep him occupied and educated and keep him from hurting himself or destroying my house. 

I am out of ideas. How can I fix this terrible spiral we’ve gotten into?",4.396406419040751,5.073472963276839,5.451560283687943,82.80792463036424,70.07344632768361,7.946435869695878,29.04688063469167,7.987972078202968,1.8508757302560408,2750,99,549,34,47,910,284,708,0.151,0.795,0.054000000000000006,-0.9972,2,2,1,0,0,1,62.0,6,0,1,6,20,34,7,5,33,1,48,6,4,8,5,108,112,61,0,13,23,2,2,0,0,2,1,16,7,1,20,47,0,7,8,15,0,11,14,21,0,4,10,21,69,13,93,90,7,119,0,2,3,1,65,50,1,13,51,342,89,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0527496558462537,0.054558777825268745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164602987920937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052242666781538584,0.0,0.0,0.04334970948783436,0.0,0.0984941013636797,0.0,0.04949294789970528,0.04050632094834795,0.0,0.1605608546817434,0.0,0.08965061793688148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042059294425526084,0.0,0.057864581663102425,0.10191933566609174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046099089669915896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04400591653821274,0.0,0.046657291846501234,0.0,0.0,0.034793485872410504,0.0,0.08876739158471146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057706445607149964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048700191274374464,0.3302665233303966,0.10106755082812413,0.05987652442683741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05406307995013005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15563238866762075,0.12156725056154545,0.05639315382120692,0.11893465956711567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341142354602213,0.0,0.0548562887694736,0.0,0.042939802854865886,0.0,0.22311463326070868,0.057235070403549825,0.05386707746833758,0.0,0.0,0.05279744339956397,0.0,0.046618591643215364,0.04423646082283996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054894184427538,0.05340747512334596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03872457339313571,0.15624101313402594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163859860397774,0.0,0.05527695966421682,0.0,0.10708843216346624,0.04006418124872235,0.0,0.0,0.058492960166709136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05503755699054765,0.0,0.0,0.059386809377993524,0.0,0.0,0.05679606086510194,0.0,0.0,0.05295618890047943,0.0,0.0,0.05269250331363571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05331319916304834,0.0,0.04795629836930157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04055428880713168,0.0,0.0,0.11185780484606528,0.05614800312462733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882245944168394,0.0,0.046043110492614094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174985435632529,0.0,0.0,0.04182064456093939,0.5221908689439028,0.06054589659916425,0.0998656388770988,0.05033632327984823,0.0585274716250595,0.10729521716003973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099418512906636,0.0,0.0,0.09321298625232033,0.04181354115814934,0.16902125163046194,0.0,0.0,0.04883326350071157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05077995108204337,0.0,0.15340156726535034,0.0,0.21473453987623572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033923064479378366
parenting,DiscreteMuppet,2020/04/16,"How do you deal with the guilt? Hello fellow parents,

I have a super adorable 1 year old daughter and I love her like crazy but sometimes she frustrates/angers me and that makes me feel so guilty. I get an overwhelming feeling of failure everytime I get angry with her. Like, I'm failing as a mom if I am not an overflowing pot of comfort and whimsical motherly joy 100% of the time.

This morning, DD was being very clingy but there were things that I just HAD to do so I couldn't give her a lot of attention at that moment. She wasn't havin' that. She followed me around crying and whining and would gently bump into something or stumble when walking and start crying like she lost a limb (she just recently started walking and falls/bumps into things all the time and normally doesn't care). I got so frustrated with her and at some point I just sighed and said ""shuuuuut uuuuuuuup"" and immediately felt like the biggest asshole. I apologized to her even though she had no idea what I said but I still feel like a jerk and probably will for the rest of the day.

I know it's normal to feel frustrated with your kids.

I know that there will be hard times and you can't always be perfect.

I know these things but still feel so guilty.

The worst part is when I try and vent to my parents or other family members who have had kids about how hard it can be sometimes, they say ""Oh no that's not possible! She's such an angel!"" or they chuckle and say, ""It's normal for them to be clingy like that. Welcome to parenting.""

1. She is absolutely an angel. She is so adorable and so sweet and is for the most part an easy baby from what I can tell (she is my first but I guess she is easy compared to what I have seen/heard from other babies/parents). But that doesn't mean that she is incapable of being a little turd sometimes. 

2. I understand that all of this is normal. Knowing that it's normal doesn't make it any less difficult. It's normal to have an itchy bump that you're not supposed to itch (but you do it anyway) after getting bitten by a mosquito. It still sucks.

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has found a way to deal with unrelenting mom/dad guilt. Or at least found a way to dampen it a little so that it doesn't effect the rest of my day.",2.9583317876188246,4.711131870044053,4.066389983769998,87.18815673545099,75.01321585903085,6.98159054022722,24.28217018316717,7.7627490962704995,1.151785022026432,1775,56,366,25,38,577,209,454,0.174,0.6920000000000001,0.134,-0.9747,5,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,0,4,3,6,26,30,4,3,25,0,40,2,1,5,3,83,75,43,0,10,20,6,8,6,1,3,1,4,0,2,35,25,0,0,18,0,0,3,12,12,1,1,13,13,51,17,39,52,12,34,2,4,0,1,46,11,1,12,24,262,86,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433627903598836,0.0,0.0,0.05258012478787265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0540638115785013,0.07922328646264562,0.0,0.06883102702724089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883270325628562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986436958326812,0.0997297667743302,0.15942666583560394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459078296131454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051069007789008185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289023915578208,0.0,0.1954761052681916,0.05523729042215128,0.07423914660618958,0.0,0.0,0.0657681941125314,0.0,0.16955436987587705,0.0,0.0,0.12118923434589575,0.07417221084694765,0.0,0.0,0.0618397183887817,0.0,0.17035298400929033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852673199670407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728465837095598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997179028879625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266473326643789,0.15498953212676472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440371042735838,0.06573454070315292,0.06978415071425442,0.0,0.10322315220855274,0.0,0.0,0.0842239442994921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811120628453906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4545420057909385,0.0,0.0,0.08113413798193271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575635090985089,0.16745964715152206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309221600577329,0.0871664725348481,0.0,0.0,0.08336383670613585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634398818764679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709769795056005,0.12297563863478385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059524570161317125,0.22941381870807806,0.0,0.1094547243295862,0.0,0.18524310951682127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758092526285207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541035458427581,0.0,0.07596632447638905,0.0,0.1352574156345574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05249507815881451,0.0,0.0,0.08049265298704042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379694396427374,0.0,0.12274573849381325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385003981486344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492577730392099,0.0,0.0,0.04979142505230042
parenting,uscrash,2020/04/16,"Head banging during playtime? Our son is 11mo and has been a dream during this quarantine. He plays by himself really well and is overall very low-maintenance. 

About a month ago or so, he started doing this weird thing where, while playing by himself, he’ll sit with his back against the wall and just start slowly banging his head against the wall. He doesn’t do it hard, but it just doesn’t seem like a good idea.

Anyone else’s kids ever do this?",5.093103448275862,6.218773885057473,4.7132758620689685,87.09681034482759,68.77011494252875,7.179310344827586,28.29310344827586,7.1686216300943375,1.4121586206896546,356,12,69,3,6,108,63,87,0.03,0.8140000000000001,0.155,0.8726,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,5,0,9,2,2,0,1,11,13,7,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,5,5,6,11,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,8,44,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120525838754839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726699314918536,0.2451074115401953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394410189218355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983618867499411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21638664227615276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20064495523057693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429260401134725,0.0,0.4910139679006112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700483359846824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686997498319532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094175986045672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324936456279556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21777535029318773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386398792471226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892600487060926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19738014537721854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508597511644853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Justapreggoquestion,2020/04/16,"I'm afraid I'll ruin my family if I have a third baby Originally we were going to be done at two. My husband was going to get a vasectomy and we would just live on with our little happy family. I had a stillbirth between my daughters and thought that there was no way I could handle another pregnancy after we got our second living baby. 

Only my husband said he's afraid to get a vasectomy because he feels like someone is missing. I do too, but what if I'm only missing the little boy who passed before he could join us? We have a 3 year old and a nearly 9 month old and things are so much easier than expected. I have free time. We aren't getting much push from our toddler, even with the COVID stuff. 

I would want to start trying now if we wanted a third because I have about 2-4 more years of school (slowly taking night classes for my masters) and I really do not want to have to put off my career to stay home longer. 

Right now, I don't feel that stressed. We are still totally fine financially. I look at the peaceful space where my two kids play and I can so see that third little one fitting it. But I am terrified that a third will mean that I won't have time to do homework or read a book. Or that I'll be so stressed that my parenting won't be what I want it to be. I don't want to ruin everything. I feel greedy and dirty. Like I'm taking a risk and I might lose another one, or have a living baby with seriously health issues. I'm only 28, so I have time...but I don't know.


Sorry, this feels so pointless to say, I'm just in a weird spot.",2.552844036697248,3.7123995504587204,4.4145639143730895,86.70925871559635,74.90214067278288,7.311510703363915,23.477553516819572,7.839951260653429,1.0365019938837925,1211,34,263,17,25,413,167,327,0.111,0.764,0.125,0.1659,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,11,0,0,2,16,18,0,5,15,0,37,1,0,1,1,49,68,21,0,13,11,4,4,2,0,6,1,2,2,2,15,18,0,0,7,3,1,5,8,12,0,9,8,8,38,7,27,48,4,34,0,5,2,0,23,13,0,7,16,177,53,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012700291242998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700728619940907,0.0,0.08166510706864799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325167239385382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821268126506663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338860376985675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862534492403253,0.0,0.1809477289092912,0.0,0.1941053162342765,0.06856241911643082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042423359511076,0.0,0.10908620354761804,0.0,0.07675757912472526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216398327143694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201375281942243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626774548786472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016983827961766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05274370373115358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377414722913716,0.2885674834642145,0.25423511451020664,0.0,0.08059231252546888,0.10736812423084344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454164794413906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181113033378723,0.0,0.0,0.07660393828235025,0.0,0.14110093182245176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006322480352859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014129487690013,0.0,0.1300662279071006,0.2189731020213273,0.0,0.0,0.10656555336048204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964783720632018,0.0,0.0,0.09599797578311788,0.0,0.06148212351953392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195956737184006,0.09129135354821827,0.07632078992969205,0.0,0.0971287921492702,0.07647726196610939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131676788358583,0.0,0.0,0.10743280157730446,0.06792947867650148,0.1022933872043532,0.07664336668253104,0.0,0.2198712135595324,0.0,0.10986498393224346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431800688456398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375953525025567,0.0,0.0,0.07619105131329983,0.16788614264871538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515869121688646,0.0,0.18750140603396698,0.0,0.1154425045668482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28303387370750593,0.07617810996023945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635151670281767,0.0,0.0,0.12360564853018798
parenting,jurassicbond,2020/04/16,"How do I keep my 6 month old entertained while working from home? My daycare's closed and I've got to work full time from home.  Balancing taking care of my kid while working has not been easy at all.  I feel bad just leaving her on the floor to play with her toys and talking to her from my computer while working, but some days that's all I can do if I want to keep up with my work.  Anyone else dealing with this and found ways to handle it?",3.843225806451613,4.165913913978496,4.2851075268817205,91.94766129032259,71.15053763440861,7.490322580645162,26.252688172043012,7.1686216300943375,0.9225139784946236,346,10,80,3,6,109,63,93,0.044000000000000004,0.8740000000000001,0.083,0.3626,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,5,2,4,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,20,13,9,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,7,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,12,3,15,10,4,14,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,7,51,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103668723680808,0.17736308013592528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453263384698067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648865238087325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163623352505624,0.17846018368435235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460420320749234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875253872223241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897970068804896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384451897655631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472701052938025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077213715011196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328963639798676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381680726935957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164104594971373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301508859291608,0.1391325363560049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093695477394543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209982858330104,0.1374000197725104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6301002555509849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gimmeadrink,2020/04/16,"Need help finding the right baby gate, 3 specific requirements! We are looking for a baby gate that can do three things: 1) hardware mounted for top of stairs, 2) no-threshold to trip over, 3) self closing. Can't seem to find a single baby gate that can do all three. Any help would be appreciated!!!",3.440526315789473,5.535845684210528,4.382315789473683,83.94821052631579,74.6140350877193,6.665263157894738,27.18947368421053,7.554174236665415,1.5731852631578955,232,9,44,3,5,75,44,57,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.8926,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,9,11,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,3,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,6,9,2,6,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,1,0,25,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103813142250644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5655147460569702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41472661613664735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597917785609293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229392959626716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26419916627762463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816376313750412,0.3227390088298632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055308073911833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197666373111632,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LloydTheWonderDog,2020/04/16,"Baby Gate solutions? Hello, r/Parenting!

My 1yo boy has discovered the beautiful art of climbing stairs. While I’m overjoyed at his developing skills, I’m in need of a way to keep him safe. My main floor staircase has a wider first step before it becomes a landing and turns upstairs. I’m running into some trouble finding a baby gate that will accommodate that first step since there isn’t a wall on one end of it.

Hopefully this description is clear enough, I’ll try to get an image attached for clarity’s sake.

Has anybody here ever run into this situation/come up with an adequate solution? We’ve done well with keeping an eye on him, and can continue on with that. However, I’d rather be safe than sorry.",5.00654411764706,6.537451272058827,6.025764705882356,76.08394117647059,69.36764705882354,9.55764705882353,32.71764705882353,9.888512548439397,3.4419347058823533,567,26,101,14,10,188,101,136,0.027999999999999997,0.777,0.195,0.9696,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,4,5,5,0,0,9,0,9,1,1,0,2,18,18,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,7,7,0,4,1,1,0,5,1,1,1,3,1,1,5,4,18,15,3,24,0,0,1,0,5,12,0,2,6,62,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405905919917589,0.18536843558978205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229291276858261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294432983230533,0.22509015833610468,0.0,0.0,0.1970515582458582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991046494089988,0.3705944639322437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381403007642868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636735442318053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872579181293589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152790045467272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761612428877474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24188898567887496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802020657740473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438575185197769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479011672120725,0.2369507406370323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291371524984098,0.0,0.0,0.1958671113323013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoeSaidItWould,2020/04/16,Question about my toddler and his high chair Hello. I have a 14 month old boy and it seems once he’s been in his high chair for what he deems to be too long he will slam his head into the back on the high chair and he thinks it’s hilarious. I am thinking maybe he needs a booster seat and to sit at the table. Anyone else ever see this? How did you deal with it?,0.9661482820976488,2.4919450000000007,2.4038336347197102,97.92936708860759,80.01265822784809,5.020614828209767,17.614828209764926,5.288315135182226,-0.7782817359855336,281,5,69,1,7,91,58,79,0.034,0.9259999999999999,0.04,0.1179,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,6,1,1,1,1,13,11,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,9,7,0,13,0,0,1,0,13,7,0,2,5,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387812340476451,0.20336534068878245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261821221126753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462328477007466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580385854702498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17953575108345915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036968654631713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6291123463655889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564779880817202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939897999046916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842416107180649,0.0,0.0,0.1471697721511088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20827047638280247,0.21137381327987625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234206807818407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816218251589784,0.1806879605463511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543548455799229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrspea84,2020/04/16,"Deferring primary school start for 12 months. We received our daughter's primary school offer today, and thinking of deferring her start for 12 months, til September 2021. Her birthday is 15th Aug, so will only have been 4 for 2 weeks at start of term... Does any one have any experience with this? In terms of impacting the child?

We're straight on the legal and technical aspects, just debating pros and cons.",5.613423423423424,7.862269621621626,5.484864864864863,77.70585585585587,69.0,9.798198198198195,32.6036036036036,10.125756701596842,3.6949711711711712,328,15,56,9,6,102,56,74,0.047,0.907,0.047,0.0926,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,9,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,11,7,2,15,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,10,29,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323122489705965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079061833912483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323969550108327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792651219996047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098905911793238,0.18068883949248446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4808834118735471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044769745907857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223044402983388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251962455173592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057080947866176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RapunzelMeetsElsa,2020/04/16,"8 year old doesn't want to sleep alone. Help! My 8 year old daughter struggles to sleep by herself. She wants either me or my husband to sleep with her in her room or she would want to sleep with us in our room.  
I must say that this has been an ongoing issue since she was a baby. I have been struggling to get her to sleep in her own crib/toddler bed and now her own room with a bunk bed without much success.  
We made a rule 2 years back that she could sleep with us for 3 days a week and the rest of the days she would have to sleep in her room . But lately she has been wanting to sleep in our bed every day of the week.
Even on the days she sleeps in her room she wants either parent to lie down with her till she falls asleep which sometimes takes a while.
When I ask her the reasoning for this she says she is scared of being lonely. I have tried making her understand that we are right there in the next room. I have offered her cuddle toys , a night lamp etc but hasn't helped .
I must add that one of the few nights she sleeps in her room she wakes up in the middle of the night and comes to our room . We don't lock our doors because of her ""fear of lonliness"" . This problem seems to have increased now during the lockdown
I have been trying to strictly implement the rules but I wonder if I am emotionally scarring her or if she will have abandonment issues. She is an only child and we have a stable household and she is well loved and protected . 
I am at my wits end. Please help.",2.7715043290043297,4.0958583149350725,3.24551948051948,94.65137445887449,74.61688311688313,6.172294372294372,21.27489177489177,6.42735559955562,0.06534372294372348,1163,26,264,8,24,361,151,308,0.081,0.8370000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.662,1,4,0,0,0,0,22.0,10,0,0,1,7,10,0,4,20,0,31,14,12,3,2,46,46,17,0,13,11,3,0,0,0,5,0,2,12,1,8,17,0,2,4,1,0,3,4,7,1,1,6,2,55,3,42,33,9,49,0,2,0,2,53,23,0,7,23,187,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539858719952723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805794031981595,0.0,0.0,0.05597851517013898,0.0,0.044378052753759306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271053970507477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058124677727382675,0.0,0.0,0.18779926833279398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818899217522165,0.06447897163401835,0.0,0.08119096656202025,0.04808354921234051,0.0,0.06133693038643024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191995986652359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038034865410295285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638841644206033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519680529956898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821212905190638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570461793527252,0.06888488500396905,0.04859439936231874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05351619372959171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742336151462482,0.20495290531017515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278218572692784,0.0,0.04933099562455232,0.05536749142610721,0.0,0.0,0.0808355086657656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991226568788241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965953027361299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485026922604145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217058992897447,0.0,0.11578656857099415,0.07288525117594097,0.0,0.0,0.0662741595118662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602207066542717,0.0,0.7285232651504236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200081562458639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221221337878033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054736353015876746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885250500591487,0.0,0.0,0.07578710863396182,0.17513827468701898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146958977765947,0.0,0.11679113872791234,0.0,0.06545571941196274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017636248944538,0.07894822496947906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342970934272117,0.0,0.0,0.14064195921406686
parenting,freeliz,2020/04/16,"I feel like I'm being held hostage by my 8 year old My 8 year old has always been a strong willed kid. This morning started with her at 4:30. She had suddenly woke up and decided she had to have the TV on in order go back to sleep. Since it was so early I gave on and set a 30 minute sleep timer. When I went to bed she canceled the sleep timer and never went back to bed. She told me she stayed up as she began immediately demanding my phone for Roblox. I didn't give in and she's now laying on the floor fighting me with her words. Typically what happens is I tell her no and she makes life hard, nearly impossible, until I give in to her wishes.

I know I'm the source of the problem. When she was little I was really didn't monitor her screen time creating unhealthy habits. We moved in with my in-laws for a year and I didn't want her to melt down there because of the judgment, so she always got her way. Even when I said no, my in-laws would appease her. It just escalated from there. I noticed there were some underlying behaviors that maybe weren't just the result of bad parenting. After some appointments we have an Adhd diagnosis. So that's a little helpful to start.

With the quarantine we are now homeschooling. It's a fight from the moment we wake up until we go to bed. I think she's also acting out more out of fear. Add to that our dog died 2 days ago so she's sad as well. She's told me herself when she's sad she's meaner. I'm drowning. I'm also sad about my dog, I'm also scared about the quarantine, I'm also worried that I'm permanently scarring my child. I try my absolute best not to discipline with a spanking. I used too because I didn't realize how bad it is to development. I was spanked so I spanked. Now I'm trying not too and I've slipped up but I'm truly doing my best and admitting I'm wrong when I fail.

What I need is help to set healthy limits and enforce them. I have noticed on her good days small tasks and gentle reminders help her. On bad days though I haven't found anything that works to calm her besides complete servitude. Please can anyone make a good suggestion? She was in counseling but didn't want to ever go and can't now for the quarantine.

ETA I have 2 other children as well 12 and 1. I never had any issues with the 12 year old at all and the 1 year old obviously isn't old enough to throw tantrums just yet. My daughter also manipulated my older daughter the same way she does my husband and I.",1.8778183112749216,3.812168679133862,3.561145920589716,88.78207823756073,78.74409448818898,6.606868822248282,23.210085441447482,7.616502295504843,0.9803719551013572,1931,63,414,29,47,643,235,508,0.10800000000000001,0.784,0.107,0.7537,1,3,0,0,3,0,44.0,6,0,1,6,38,23,3,2,22,0,33,5,4,6,5,66,73,38,2,6,7,4,2,1,0,2,1,1,3,3,13,28,0,3,7,1,0,8,15,14,2,0,27,4,75,9,60,43,8,79,0,4,1,0,58,25,0,2,41,269,88,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397926046943067,0.0,0.06931814856890937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126760943361302,0.13013463848353665,0.0,0.0,0.05317758217615837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467812780153759,0.0,0.06435060651618461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025945970857968,0.19587715110335802,0.0953380172886906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412875761858406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198951709635499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129446409970068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115757592575737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843193218943225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079983368729474,0.0,0.051649294658601186,0.07073491463057784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799492164943927,0.039539452191532966,0.055864940649394734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574049104844282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500300295373448,0.13332582992382427,0.13117818761823907,0.06254239067778714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915057209199664,0.0,0.07005039170284025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572441839106486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161879558023423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297578639351169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055233830720883656,0.03820378012411695,0.15675064702426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043960561371369,0.0,0.07856078659505268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311250596824994,0.0,0.05798311036374616,0.12062282794616705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17805875534926838,0.41028024441101374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683005049228999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583834232208831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482529188918953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009588672162826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438456976136547,0.0,0.07829022349469562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468651073988108,0.0,0.2347645716910396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106984363595084,0.08334907196451667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834883373146775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050106366501917465,0.07682951455063165,0.0,0.04559810615297003,0.0,0.0,0.14944381270938004,0.0,0.1061831383587007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675382957773304,0.0,0.0,0.0922468650330856,0.1241404736459183,0.0,0.0,0.14061947565765498,0.1449813694976362,0.0,0.0,0.08992428157921614,0.0,0.0,0.0569293543756557,0.07941425407403839,0.0,0.05554988787022249,0.08549765634318156,0.0,0.2517859750303821
parenting,panken,2020/04/16,"Anyone have advice for picking a baby gate? Hi everyone.  My wife and i are needing a baby gate for the top of our stairs.  Because its the stairs we want a gate that mounts into the wall, not just a friction gate, however due to our floorboards/banisters we dont have flush surfaces to mount into on either side.

Anyone know of a gate that can fit here or had to come up with a solution at their house?  Thanks yall.",3.7932142857142854,4.83524236904762,4.760476190476194,85.86785714285716,71.73809523809524,7.504761904761906,25.904761904761905,7.793537801064563,1.3619904761904764,325,10,66,4,6,106,61,84,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.8466,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,9,0,6,0,0,1,0,15,11,2,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,1,13,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,8,12,0,1,1,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31392511666917106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492557110984685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958330985070064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767313691665105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765066069051496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069714026772644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706833057415211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765524740195115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382053347978132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957669804930337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18948358609435567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Findpurplesky,2020/04/16,"Help my son (7yo) stand up for himself When my son was younger, he adored my little pony. He “grew out of it” when he started school though he definitely didn’t object when his younger sister wanted to watch it. I always thought he still liked it, but he’s a quiet kid and quite emotional so the badges came off his school bag and he decided he liked minecraft like the other boys at school. 

Well since we’ve been on lockdown, there’s no more outside influence and he’s full on with ponies again. He is turning 7 in a couple of weeks and has asked for a my little pony scooter. I’m all for it and encourage him in any of his interests, I’m concerned though that as soon as normality returns, he won’t use it in public and won’t stand up for himself if other boys make comments. He can be who ever he wants to be, but other people won’t necessarily let him be that easily.

How do I help him with his confidence in himself to tell the other kids that it’s ok for him to like “girl” things?

Edit: thank you for the comments. I’ll have a look at some of the places etc people have recommended and I think, since its likely to be a while before he sees many other kids anyway, I think we just go for it and let him enjoy this without worrying about outside comments. I’ve had a chat with him and he said “it’s ok if the boys say it’s for girls, I’ll just tell them that anyone can like anything they want” (whether he will Say that to them or not is a different matter) but that’s a much better attitude than he would have had a few months ago. 

To the parents with similar boys, you’re doing a great job allowing them to follow their own paths.",5.398967611336033,4.9246691272189365,5.975705387729683,83.90471971348494,67.7869822485207,9.009280597944565,28.736219246340703,8.371475516178862,1.7456426035502963,1287,37,278,16,19,419,176,338,0.008,0.787,0.205,0.9966,3,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,5,2,17,16,0,0,17,2,26,0,0,5,2,45,46,26,0,7,11,4,0,6,0,5,0,4,0,9,24,16,0,0,4,1,0,4,7,0,1,0,8,7,28,16,41,27,8,35,0,0,3,0,65,16,0,4,19,179,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919033562421964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093107640163575,0.0,0.0,0.07609410136645631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824129697501844,0.0,0.09208206493883964,0.0,0.10460900828422252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521648611033667,0.0,0.0,0.09896419898542397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279808700180673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238123972368142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690901638685648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586956735271232,0.0,0.0,0.12479523261766227,0.0,0.1012176474330196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359389804136266,0.0,0.0,0.12336733080332644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500050006052756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110409504960418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288454425235303,0.0,0.32800464387977296,0.22430127764006091,0.0,0.0,0.09396567373297708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469241504476616,0.11344644867591452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893154749595462,0.0,0.0822574989324046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963574038513756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424887317981767,0.0,0.0,0.15515120166443247,0.0,0.11690901638685648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901670905066054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644009674549083,0.17797068283181894,0.0,0.3397385720986309,0.08916777817521802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18512544962940125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920158921051168,0.0,0.08936144604625537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19560660223371965,0.10302013567986816,0.0,0.0,0.07433969195012773,0.1433987321601526,0.21987734789388425,0.08883407417817356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217122906222748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664346731623362,0.0,0.0,0.1980000409377166,0.0,0.08975738276313004,0.0,0.10060924356569292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786514623448784,0.0,0.0,0.11363728947723188,0.0,0.07948873614617129,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babrii97,2020/04/16,5 month old just put handsoap in her mouth! So while changing her overloaded diaper she got poop on her hand and so I washed her hands with liquid handsoap and the second I let go of her hand to turn on the water real quick she puts her hand kn her mouth. Has this happened to anyone else before? The poison control website said they will be fine unless they have diarrhea but I don't know if that just applies to older kids,3.370605042016805,5.143651035294121,3.999831932773109,88.01352941176474,73.94117647058823,6.26890756302521,22.731092436974787,6.868970318607317,0.6724621848739494,338,9,66,3,7,107,63,85,0.026000000000000002,0.88,0.094,0.5778,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,1,5,2,1,0,3,0,6,10,7,1,0,11,12,8,0,1,5,0,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,5,14,1,9,7,0,11,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,5,45,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669897372646308,0.244275055031677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028658921835237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522018688815096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673925293902934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991575680195194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549158754545285,0.0,0.19067500588587175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21082158193444006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102166761980172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24378622214577494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902933436597017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25016692572870125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4793276278585649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713581489692677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226778639629198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25931719847522944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Piratey_Pirate,2020/04/16,"What are some good questions to ask toddlers to see just how much they understand? For example, I asked my 4 year old if she knows what a dream is. It's funny to hear how little kids describe things that aren't tangible. A dream is ideas at night to her.

  


So what are some other questions I could ask her?",2.9262903225806447,4.479002274193551,3.5201935483870948,91.91029032258066,74.64516129032259,6.895483870967742,23.690322580645162,7.554174236665415,0.8563445161290324,239,7,52,3,5,75,46,62,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.8466,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,2,0,12,13,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,1,6,12,3,5,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,5,3,36,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.582591748334777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585357250730526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742320415027269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341240838275689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344991571253581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11416164736652537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20819761069875334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270367534208967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949382652974275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21797515538179166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654048685054333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553198949840625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800497622607955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21625174036913847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376975318173556
parenting,HotDebate5,2020/04/16,My kids used weed and I can’t get past it I found out my teens had been smoking and vaping weed. It’s been going on for a while. They said they’ve stopped but I can’t get it out of my head. I’m no longer proud of them. I have less respect for them and feel they don’t amount to much since they were getting high at 14 and 16.,-0.9168999999999984,0.7995188266666702,0.8102499999999999,105.951375,87.4,4.283333333333334,14.708333333333332,5.148860815047168,-1.4097666666666666,252,4,70,1,8,81,51,75,0.059000000000000004,0.8320000000000001,0.109,0.6819,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,1,1,1,0,11,17,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,6,2,12,2,9,11,3,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,3,42,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320151495455495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33221434272632056,0.0,0.0,0.4749013766286397,0.0,0.17219694924754342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109565066928231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3201269643142651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22273348238034224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892394985410225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28821412905473404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506375504260534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533143100639806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616872176279558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theintrovertedmom,2020/04/16,"My 5yo asked me why I bought him here. After fussing at him. I feel horrible. I have 5 year old twins boys and they are extremely, extremely hard. I know I don’t handle stress well. But wow! raising them is the hardest thing ever. But, I still love them.

Everyday they get a rise out of me. They throw toys at the walls, break the blinds (already getting the apartment repaired) The amount of damages at our last place was so bad that we owed a lot of money for repairs.

They don’t listen. They think everything is a joke. They have food fights with their lunch and dinner. They ignore me completely until I raise my voice. The first month of preschool their teachers were complaining because of how they were acting. They asked me to punish them and constantly giving me ways to punish them to make them behave. (They were pretty stressed)

Maybe I’m too hard on them? I know I fuss so much. I can’t help it. Sometimes I think something is wrong with me. They know how to get a rise out of me. They talk back a lot and call me names like stupid. (Something they picked up from school). They threaten to break stuff and not clean up messes they’ve  made. They lock doors to keep me out. One time it got to the point where I had to buy door unlock keys. 


Today after fussing at them for throwing their toys at the wall, I yelled “you are bad kids!”. . .

One twin said “why did you bring me here mama? Why did you bring me here?”

I felt so bad and I had to stop and think for awhile.


I don’t want them to grow up hating me. I’m in my 20’s my parents didn’t raise me and I hate them because they were mean and evil people. I don’t want my kids hating me. I’m so unbelievably stressed everyday. I have so many grey hairs and I’m in my 20’s! I’ve tried supplements, CBD and stress teas to calm my nerves and nothing works. Some days I just cry. Just cry.",0.5817669565217399,2.9602955946666683,1.4346811594202895,99.29654347826087,87.72,4.4342028985507245,17.218840579710147,5.922688038783598,-0.5762498550724633,1428,34,322,11,46,440,188,375,0.204,0.72,0.076,-0.995,2,0,2,0,1,0,52.0,2,3,28,2,18,26,8,4,13,0,23,7,1,5,1,47,58,22,0,2,5,1,5,1,0,0,1,4,3,3,5,18,4,3,9,3,4,8,7,20,1,3,15,11,76,6,40,43,5,49,0,1,2,1,51,20,0,3,19,197,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371595472237093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757285585083199,0.0,0.0,0.07226947900611433,0.235423303809034,0.11458606010081775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597027590246128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854259613131704,0.10156554209310667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647854812742375,0.06061323366156547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501577240212949,0.0,0.0,0.08446861079839882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0475221760848372,0.0,0.0902413569312472,0.0,0.0,0.07994449493224202,0.11364831725855327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731151222474775,0.09015999320311524,0.0,0.0,0.07516923826256099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683860986838385,0.27837532984381513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629968751204108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835391288495433,0.0,0.0,0.15495684248358066,0.0766111833484839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045916841674237166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598071750951472,0.08482608893868862,0.08893188280364639,0.06273642510623796,0.09528711351292553,0.09442163022007882,0.1023783726933934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750187767026858,0.0,0.06909056854174993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018215973667458,0.0,0.0986225601942226,0.0,0.12737477376109727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436039753311332,0.0,0.0,0.06515810030730519,0.0,0.09819542916643056,0.0,0.08884720602274379,0.0,0.0,0.09561761198811954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940226599678176,0.0,0.0,0.09511891076397187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471012202229805,0.09295461691666797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505738921289389,0.07857655488093862,0.43064285840174543,0.0,0.1075915531480723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554243519134822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244016227959402,0.1806674174700945,0.0,0.0,0.05480402761373025,0.0,0.0890877957228431,0.0,0.0,0.06381036557966492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087082699429134,0.0746017600253922,0.0,0.0,0.08450475553871692,0.0,0.2544234026440901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842297131307616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275900282836076,0.0,0.06052394141994982
parenting,_AtlasShrugged,2020/04/16,"Getting 6 month olds to sleep in their cribs? I fear I’ve created two monsters. I have twin 6 month old girls and nighttime has been a struggle. At night my husband and I let them fall asleep in our arms before we move them into their cribs in our room. One baby sleeps pretty well in the crib but the other doesn’t last more than two hours before she starts fussing and crying. Cry it out isn’t an option because she wakes her sister so I have to pick her up. 

Here’s the monster part. She’s been in bed with me the past few weeks and sleeps like 10 hours straight. My other girl ends up in bed usually but later in the night. I’m not a fan of co-sleeping. The dangers are very present in my mind when they’re in bed with us but it’s been the only way to get decent sleep throughout the night. And with twins, I’ve had to go with the flow with a lot of things. I feel like they’re getting so used to being in bed that they will flat out refuse the crib and I really don’t want that. My needy girl has to be next to me and likes to reach out and touch my face just to make sure I’m still there. Any advise on how to make them like their crib? Please no mom shaming for co-sleeping.",1.7769320534537911,3.1943327312252983,2.540982495765104,98.30310935441372,77.41897233201581,5.2933559194428765,19.162243553547906,5.288315135182226,-0.5648278185582534,923,18,221,3,21,288,146,253,0.10400000000000001,0.782,0.114,-0.2466,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,7,0,9,10,1,3,14,0,16,8,8,5,1,35,28,15,0,1,5,3,2,4,0,1,0,0,5,3,7,18,0,1,1,0,0,4,5,4,1,3,4,2,29,6,37,20,4,45,0,0,0,0,24,20,0,2,24,132,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756041401280445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06056194786975137,0.0,0.1690765803640732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182594123039535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799331823913349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117947280485004,0.050233606918238326,0.07097461683329424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557165350849819,0.0,0.056462064775187434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567659933915071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098231998043423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159061322885007,0.0,0.19414671343946024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446257597834507,0.0,0.0,0.13263184382029133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031370432400888,0.11635580932825995,0.15859811358984502,0.1055917753886548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565829938431497,0.27969562423167504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20849916103263602,0.0,0.06732114187060609,0.0755590414936077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758478738533174,0.09483942296032824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905486312337773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10107318163412936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364521869460181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5965217300193979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031940796258628,0.0,0.07933987238502632,0.0,0.0,0.10386066489819427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093634823216922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600275547703559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19409817536288684,0.0,0.1195040611678814,0.08580524043609908,0.10941838096403793,0.08197295012833701,0.05859834292929472,0.0788582467653456,0.07969140618376455,0.0,0.08932626874820586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrMark12,2020/04/16,"Stimulus checks The government stimulus checks went out today. For the second time in my lifetime I received a check from the government for doing nothing but paying my taxes every year. I received $1200.00 my wife received $1200.00 and so far two of my five children received a payment. My check will go directly to pay off bills. My children are looking at ways to invest it. All good things but if the nation doesn’t go back to work soon it will be a drop in a very large bucket. 
On a good note. After dinner we all went out and played a game of softball. It was the most fun I’ve had in weeks. 😀",1.6745899554990444,4.053863223140496,2.960661157024795,90.41413858868404,82.05785123966942,5.375969485060395,24.183725365543552,6.67199483983844,0.869923839796567,474,18,94,5,13,153,79,121,0.035,0.836,0.129,0.9252,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,11,0,8,1,0,0,2,11,13,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,5,1,0,0,2,9,8,1,0,0,3,4,1,9,4,17,6,3,27,0,0,1,0,9,10,0,2,7,63,13,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19221373698817668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106129569376024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841307294390472,0.41933083209484995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099142861365179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398557478349103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607089320366544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576121337123638,0.0,0.2369450890116174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441872094486384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625382907065065,0.0,0.19841685975296186,0.20051318933492945,0.0,0.0,0.46345478172502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198325479568592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609743576067263
parenting,wizardofozman86,2020/04/16,"23-month-old refusing to sleep Help!  Here’s the situation:  our daughter has done a 180.  She went from routine naps every day from 1-3pm and bedtime at 7pm (bath, book, she turns on her sound machine and tries to climb in her crib) to screaming when we lay her down.  I had her checked out by our pediatrician.  She is perfectly healthy, but the dr thinks it is due to the change in her routine due to quarantine.  I am a teacher, so usually she is at daycare M-F while I’m at work.  I’m wondering if she has developed separation anxiety since now she is around me 24-7.  We have tried to let her cry it out (it worked for her brother, who is 5 and has slept like a champ since infancy), but she will go for hours.  I’ve been giving her a melatonin gummy 45 minutes before bed but it has no effect.  My husband gives in and puts her in bed with us, where she happily falls asleep and doesn’t wake until morning.  I do not want to continue the co-sleeping.  I have respect for people who make that parenting choice, it just isn’t a good fit for our lifestyles.  My husband is self-employed, and we are used to having the evening and night hours to catch up on chores, paperwork, emails, etc.  

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.  I am, in a word, desperate.",3.808084444444447,4.906253124000003,4.883466666666667,84.78817777777779,71.75999999999998,8.275555555555558,29.88888888888889,8.680891452615391,2.169902222222224,971,40,204,17,18,319,160,250,0.065,0.79,0.146,0.9756,2,1,0,0,0,0,41.0,7,0,0,6,8,7,0,0,11,0,26,5,4,3,1,29,39,15,0,2,6,5,0,1,0,2,1,2,4,0,8,14,0,1,3,3,1,6,4,1,0,0,5,2,32,6,33,30,1,35,0,0,0,0,36,17,0,2,13,132,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183965909104382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870750559640754,0.0,0.111039946889562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921496502543284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351262012208195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355027545518055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944131246278326,0.09361024295511093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485396398496893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188148490893384,0.0958707190687224,0.0,0.12229578968155795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27848370260854305,0.08249253140641304,0.12174558487410092,0.0,0.16002924375227826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729150598302083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858885533279084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842650345405922,0.0,0.07091333765256982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688927056953817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585796515236207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621417116097168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231132317050827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117276010240805,0.0,0.0,0.10062927238491758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591662150913787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142391631878774,0.0,0.0,0.2401404448858737,0.16315555460347309,0.29051120573411976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930067567855896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19709569888050774,0.1578823639679084,0.0,0.0,0.17459851244082733,0.12536366708679628,0.15986307380103776,0.0,0.08561368883170742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455622421546307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574098256266138,0.2113429883675412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theimmaculatejones,2020/04/16,"Bedroom ideas for my 2 year old son? Not seeking colors or themes; seeking practical advice of things I may overlook while planning and any kind of tips regarding organization, activity/educational spaces in his room (no tv) and just what you wish you would or wouldn’t have done when designing your child’s room! 

TIA I’m grateful for this community! I’m an only child and lurk constantly. Love",5.437916666666666,7.7845958472222225,6.1344444444444415,72.45500000000001,69.69444444444444,9.244444444444444,31.44444444444445,9.725611199111238,3.3508444444444443,319,14,54,8,6,104,59,72,0.024,0.7859999999999999,0.19,0.9289,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,12,9,7,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,3,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,6,2,5,5,0,9,0,0,1,1,8,4,0,3,5,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29240468863432817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20348707565112314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233619854645463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062168043722137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377949358767919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31160263315617265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700673079976423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139921888741143,0.0,0.0,0.2275783625248668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879552091543806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441004336746015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256483978557544,0.0,0.0,0.1926947019861687
parenting,Squirrelly21,2020/04/16,"Tips for opposite gender room-sharing? Does anyone have opposite gender siblings share a room? And if so, how has the experience been?

We are currently house hunting, and have a family of five (my husband and myself, 6yo daughter and 2 yo son, plus my elderly grandfather whom I care for. We live in a very high cost of living area, and for our budget it would be a lot more realistic to find a 3 bedroom in a decent area. 

The problem is, I'm not sure how room-sharing would work for my kids, who are not only opposite gender but a bit far in age. They get along great and they are not at an age where privacy is a huge concern, but obviously eventually they will reach that point. My grandfather is reasonably healthy but considering he's nearly 80 it's possible he will pass away somewhere down the line, in which case one of them could have the third room. 


Is it realistic to have opposite gender siblings share a room in this scenario? What are your best suggestions to make these arrangements work?",6.880928129462162,6.999726450261782,7.244645406949072,74.04860542598763,64.6020942408377,11.133936220847216,34.11756306520705,10.832165505486646,3.6935403141361256,796,32,148,20,11,260,119,191,0.017,0.846,0.13699999999999998,0.9757,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,1,4,3,4,7,0,0,14,0,20,0,0,4,2,29,24,14,0,5,7,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,10,10,0,0,2,0,2,1,3,1,0,3,1,0,14,6,21,17,4,23,0,0,0,0,19,19,0,2,3,102,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323904789068798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789055606355295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869997105958426,0.0,0.20670953646564846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930440905460279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511720677491122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569214490967432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521021990846115,0.17849229249142215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305273968610366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892199794382303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20874730657558865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004742330166744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21847219370862492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343802374625321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096954821207676,0.0,0.0,0.12638548925953172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283012466350889,0.14400111092612106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898688972971738,0.21345167324645048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18117219125557368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946723906762889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845010071691325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622479654364962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756826099462969,0.0,0.0,0.2690024898092953,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gbsksg,2020/04/16,"I can't text the crisis help line. childs school won't stop calling for distance learning. I'm not suicidal.   I'm even a former homeschooling mom.  Teachers aren't homeschoolers and they are learning too.  I get that.   I just am mad I can't even fucking cry and crisis  because the calls WON'T END.   three calls while I cried and messaged the crisis line.   The crisis line finally gave up on me, understandably so.",2.0722077922077946,4.94271803896104,2.6179220779220813,88.76116883116887,89.38961038961041,5.397402597402598,23.883116883116887,6.980632752743323,1.2360493506493508,327,13,59,5,11,101,52,77,0.068,0.648,0.284,0.9540000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,0,9,13,5,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,1,0,7,0,3,10,0,7,0,0,0,1,9,2,1,0,5,34,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212805682414251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6094631189254295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43708345717664976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621427336588202,0.0,0.0,0.2628146036012445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794448367569072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392985273183815,0.10394530187122676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335473451683832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330126287198003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20135216339247514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16633453001227244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176234857800561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20711822691956405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AndNowWeAreEight,2020/04/17,"17yr old daughter wants to spend 6 months in another state to help my 21yr old son. Important facts: my son has epilepsy. It's well controlled with medication so far. He does not drive because it was diagnosed after he had seizure while driving.

His girlfriend is about to have baby #2 and has extreme anxiety, poor family support other than our family. 

My daughter is 17, will be 18 in September. She's able to graduate high school one semester early because of credits from advanced classes. She's extremely unhappy with friends, small town drama, typical teenage stuff. 

There is no one to help me make this decision (ex-husband died 3 years ago) and I feel like I should at least consider letting her go. Because of ex dying, my son having tonic seizure while driving then another tonic clonic on my living room floor, different daughter got hit by car (she's ok now), then my youngest was born 3 months early and lived in NICU for 3 months... I'm a little traumatized and I'm pretty sure it makes me react with a big loud NO to change. That's not good for my kids so here I am looking for strangers experiences, thoughts, something. 

Son has an opportunity to go live in a different state for 6 months through his work (and get a ridiculously large bonus in the process). He would be working long 12 hour shifts and his girlfriend would be alone at home in a new city, hours away from family, with a toddler and a newborn.

Add to that that my son doesn't drive because of the seizures. So the only way he's going to take this opportunity with work is if a family member can go stay with them to help.

My 17 year old only has one semester of high school left, and will be 18 at the beginning of her senior year. She can easily do it online as most of the classes she's registered for are dual credit and online anyway. She wants to go with them because she wants to experience a new place while still having family with her, and she enjoys helping with her nephew.

I'm feeling very resistant to this idea. But I feel like all of the chaos that has happened in the last 3 years with our family is heavily influencing my resistance. I obviously won't be making a decision based on the advice of strangers, but sometimes having outside perspective helps.",6.4834265734265735,6.953377494172492,6.715862470862473,76.30148601398602,65.43356643356644,10.236363636363636,33.98251748251748,10.125756701596842,3.4026111888111887,1791,75,329,39,26,577,224,429,0.048,0.852,0.1,0.9362,2,1,1,0,0,0,47.0,2,0,2,8,10,15,1,0,19,1,35,2,0,6,4,50,61,22,2,7,5,10,3,2,3,6,2,1,2,2,13,21,0,1,7,1,5,11,6,1,1,3,5,5,36,14,57,43,3,70,0,0,1,0,43,24,0,2,33,197,49,11,0.07322654764128265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155613486284731,0.06491091624693555,0.0,0.0,0.07584061938507752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356883988438286,0.05601810851570645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879875197953136,0.0,0.0,0.22319111888941698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746397791075932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212979975942743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432340444918335,0.151995190941495,0.1530123136178986,0.0,0.0,0.06408104530588299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325922933204402,0.4141888327221205,0.0,0.11107662809702293,0.10462612053257676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056574649061349735,0.0,0.03825784882827278,0.0,0.2080816726549677,0.06141895395148667,0.05856595952116667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647539942447989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24541105667287044,0.1547357359989227,0.07345219781195697,0.0,0.14422679812382494,0.0,0.0,0.08266385912099522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05968940974476655,0.0,0.0,0.07956085827024034,0.07487910621360318,0.0,0.07154958472347768,0.07339223804087809,0.19398114941938935,0.06480319035746357,0.06149185744139006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466378674920521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376804292506034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337949268210265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144531203090185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23051683115507,0.0,0.14886061139904452,0.11138417839161502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765061568089493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449772437026213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482183511835537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056373373899693525,0.07242292801520345,0.0,0.0,0.07804975668342018,0.05847881553691605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382687775123898,0.0,0.08309661848947819,0.06901515455131407,0.0,0.05505725066994861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813369934243379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06041957070851731,0.1295727450997729,0.058123825102415726,0.0,0.0,0.06583946048435009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992939642048098,0.0,0.0,0.10403607694415393,0.0,0.0,0.18862198341726175
parenting,tintinteil,2020/04/17,"Soon-to-be Sibling Class/Book Recommendation (LO#1 is 4yo) Hey All,

I had planned to sign up my first born (will be about 4.5 by the time the new baby is here), for the sibling class offered at our hospital. Due to current circumstances, I'm not sure how available those classes will be. 

Do you all have recommendations for materials I can access online? (Our local library is closed)

Thanks,",4.783750000000001,6.967949875000002,5.151111111111113,79.50500000000002,71.08333333333334,7.5777777777777775,30.055555555555557,8.344100000000001,2.2736222222222224,309,13,56,5,6,98,56,72,0.027999999999999997,0.929,0.042,0.2354,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,1,3,7,13,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,6,2,8,8,2,10,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,6,35,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4402924005254637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999264042447932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4878563673527659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765604640315938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30183187594048355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Noli420,2020/04/17,"Separated with children amidst quarantine Hey everyone, I know this topic has been addressed from the legal perspective, but no one has addressed what should be done. I see people arguing over their ""rights"" and demanding to see their kids, but what kind of guidelines are there from a health perspective? Yes, I desperately want to see my children. But if there is any chance that doing so will put them at risk, i wouldn't consider it. What are the thoughts, through the lens of the children's health and safety? Frankly at this point, legal rights don't mean shit if there is the slightest chance of endangering your children (and it disgusts me that people are bickering over the ""right"" to see the kids). What is best for the kids?",7.670244360902256,8.370431315789475,6.33134398496241,79.28092575187972,62.90977443609023,9.958270676691727,33.91823308270676,9.827888789773867,3.1418428571428567,587,23,106,11,8,174,81,133,0.124,0.7040000000000001,0.172,0.7633,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,3,1,4,6,3,1,9,1,16,3,1,0,0,15,24,9,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,7,10,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,3,4,10,2,15,17,1,9,0,0,4,0,13,8,1,2,0,75,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172158014868708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18088904275091372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639178330311436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470451990422988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36643715555827056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949421246507832,0.0947286627277785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877587239528109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168006696921493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389958239623075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629429887458972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732769320540145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4416026747641448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5494182806773543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693274780513962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684053056875814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166680936795328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lilrosethinks,2020/04/17,"My son hit my baby My 6 year old hit my 3 month old daughter and their dad is going to be FURIOUS. He’s going to be home soon and he’s going to see the bruise on her forehead and I already know how angry he is going to be at our son. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

EDIT : husband is home and yes he was upset. We’ve taken away all his privileges and he’s still on punishment. I’ve decided to understand this is all a phase and this too shall pass. We’re currently praying and hoping for the best. At least  babygirl is happy, still smiling, eating and babbling as usual LOL 6 year old is in his bed upset. Hopefully he understands sooner than later.",0.4288636363636371,2.7513889318181843,3.0032575757575763,88.22488636363637,87.71212121212122,5.724242424242425,20.37121212121212,7.1686216300943375,0.7719757575757575,497,16,100,8,16,172,82,132,0.107,0.706,0.187,0.8977,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,1,5,9,2,2,3,2,13,2,1,1,2,18,26,10,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,8,1,0,4,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,2,1,11,5,14,17,4,23,1,0,1,0,16,6,0,2,12,61,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500304131891348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489962963655178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642569696188245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227255610664318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605111741138117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881721227584967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31814837098047977,0.3150223657827931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715444272899718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265814320866751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992264118721124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637211034838364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25329316826663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33018619397698845,0.0,0.0,0.17465952205272814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424772349541648
parenting,oldskoolflavor,2020/04/17,"Became a father today! What are the things that made you love your father? Suddenly, I want to be sure I am the best possible version of myself for my boy. I know this won't be an easy journey. I am aware of that. But I did not have much guidance as a child from my father. I would like to gather up some good points from all of you who grew up with a father.",0.9525974025974052,2.585272831168833,2.7987012987013,94.58948051948052,80.42857142857143,5.43896103896104,17.493506493506494,6.1826913282559595,-0.4089168831168828,276,5,64,2,7,92,56,77,0.03,0.7490000000000001,0.221,0.9359,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,1,0,5,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,1,2,10,13,2,0,2,2,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,12,5,12,7,5,7,0,0,0,1,12,3,0,1,3,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345306991021642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673701516273195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751883103885616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573550252498974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28770344619560806,0.3016290091809642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23433350420579485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30134181214072303,0.3593666224251699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004380757044963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21177741534018596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30215781682399645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18801950795981015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264459086134973,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dolbie,2020/04/17,"My daughters (16&14) can’t stand each other. This started a couple years ago and has gotten progressively worse. We can’t get one to say anything positive about the other except on rare occasions where they will actually get along with each other. 

Our youngest won’t touch anything her sister has come in contact with until it gets washed. 

Our oldest gets frustrated and storms out of the room if any attention is given to her sister. 

We used to roll our eyes after the oldest would storm out and blame it on teenage hormones. Now we are seeing the younger one being just as nasty to her sister. 

They DO grow out of this right?!?",6.182033898305082,7.4567063135593274,5.662500000000001,80.73663135593222,66.37288135593221,7.933898305084746,28.309322033898304,8.07648339933343,1.8673864406779663,507,16,89,6,8,155,82,118,0.105,0.867,0.028999999999999998,-0.8608,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,6,0,2,1,4,1,1,0,5,0,11,2,1,1,0,21,21,6,0,2,3,4,1,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,7,15,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,2,4,12,0,20,15,2,20,0,0,2,0,17,9,0,1,8,66,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.22124214834091985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009700879104162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456467318242465,0.0,0.15417467987019084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731359626776512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952957914279559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508569831979302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4737990887715671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072573088267121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361425720179892,0.0,0.1802936926722837,0.0,0.0,0.18066332879989225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604707781873324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19580986393767644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231043011024526,0.16105256818269387,0.0,0.0,0.145997694921591
parenting,FutureAdi,2020/04/17,"How can I get my kid to learn science while at home? Hi parents,

I have a boy in elementary who really, REALLY loves science. Now that he's not at school, he's not learning in the classroom. He's not really learning science as much at home, and we're not sure what to give him science-related. I was wondering if any of you also have kids who love science? 

If so, are there any resources, games, or products you can recommend that can **help my kid catch up and continue to build his scientific knowledge and skills?**

Thanks in advance.",3.3689316239316263,5.384310423076926,4.574358974358977,82.84841880341881,74.57692307692307,8.083760683760685,29.824786324786324,8.841846274778883,2.554300427350428,420,19,81,9,9,138,69,104,0.018000000000000002,0.84,0.141,0.9347,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,1,1,17,13,11,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,3,0,0,5,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,9,4,12,12,1,12,0,0,0,2,20,7,0,4,3,52,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752701734694588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980862375325086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145072814786775,0.21024783936927866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469050341568237,0.0,0.4396907692240981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956189721826494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611151713817572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433623530519293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212177512858023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218117455513885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656513553531486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017822937878697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376805207880427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arixipix,2020/04/17,Best Tablet For A Toddler? Hello all! I have an 18 month old daughter. She loves playing with our phones and try’s to get my computer when I’m doing school work. I really want to get her a tablet that won’t just have a string of apps that she can just tap and download like amazon free time. I’ve looked at the galaxy elite but it seems like it might be that way too? I hate the fire kids edition and I can’t afford an iPad. Any recommendations,1.4624731182795718,3.464382344086019,2.5238709677419378,95.37247311827959,80.39784946236558,5.423655913978496,17.860215053763444,6.42735559955562,-0.35973978494623626,350,7,80,3,9,111,71,93,0.085,0.74,0.175,0.5645,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,3,4,7,1,0,7,0,8,1,0,0,1,11,16,5,0,1,3,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,9,7,6,13,2,6,0,0,1,1,9,1,0,2,6,45,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480315420313906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851907783516683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28396221136077754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26830243290875616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655321577439211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282062943229933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24527007528814254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28828978901637137,0.0,0.0,0.21691275927139966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851618301231596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17409362178393153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750312161777026,0.0,0.2473961283687415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846289917514222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845042411562854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602885175090619,0.2157069779709068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19784134262663616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yellowbee33,2020/04/17,"Daycare reopening I need some help processing my daycare situation. My daycare, that I truly enjoy and my daughter seems to really love, closed 4 weeks ago due to COVID and had planned a reopening date this coming Monday. Now as the situation progressed I assumed they would extend the closure as my state/local area have not peaked in new cases but this is not the case. They are reopening on Monday for sure! In my state daycares can remain open for essential employees but my daycare has not made any notice about allowing only these children back. I am an essential employee and so is my husband. I have been able to be off work due to the daycare closure and my bosses flexibility due to decrease in work. I work in a hospital with patients directly however, I would not be working with COVID patients. I have decided to take two additional weeks with my daughter so she doesn’t have to return to daycare in the middle of all this. I don’t think I will be allowed any additional time off from my work since daycare will be open after the two weeks. 

Now my issue is why would they be reopening( I appreciate the financial impact on small business but they voluntarily closed and forced us into this decision with one day notice) especially when they are dealing with a relatively vulnerable population. 

I have decided that if they are choosing to charge for the two weeks I withhold my daughter I will give my notice. I have found an In home provider. Am I being ridiculous?

TLDR: daycare reopening following COVID closure. Would it be ridiculous for me to give notice and move daycares due to this decision?",6.317809523809522,7.9643272474576285,6.928571428571428,70.40853107344634,66.35593220338983,9.958030669895077,35.742534301856345,10.181067101454742,4.069863599677158,1298,64,209,32,21,426,145,295,0.044000000000000004,0.887,0.069,0.6596,4,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,6,7,7,5,2,0,13,0,34,1,0,4,2,49,45,15,0,6,8,4,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,9,19,0,1,9,0,0,3,6,2,0,4,4,0,38,3,37,27,2,43,0,0,0,1,18,18,0,4,21,157,47,6,0.10447073101270554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260699963955148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208735908530915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080331543555393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999228429673813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737497885525516,0.10770473637969448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454676426801512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043568932708708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002452884931938,0.0,0.10479266122849246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904030082923344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428891354862808,0.09885273168082208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110358538008633,0.0,0.07746372330209507,0.0,0.10089848301040097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4757624787412328,0.0,0.0,0.07079207105797886,0.07945469856659894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692662541269359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951062298677138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864192682644562,0.2348589576206469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984624276191582,0.0,0.07854898817866147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694062608970966,0.0,0.0,0.06091772338487263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061581720254433,0.0,0.1256654262664477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33520047536416075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426858535623243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802796820882542,0.0,0.0,0.29685203959888506,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway7724098,2020/04/17,New parent breastfeeding question. We have a bed similar to a hospital bed that can recline and we prop the baby up on a large pillow to help support him while he feeds. If she falls asleep while feeding the baby is that ok if I am there watching ensuring the baby doesn't roll over or she doesn't roll over?,7.591397849462368,6.097284806451615,7.695806451612906,76.69704301075271,63.838709677419345,10.847311827956991,35.182795698924735,9.725611199111238,3.1799827956989244,246,9,48,4,3,80,45,62,0.0,0.843,0.157,0.8271,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,6,1,6,3,1,0,0,7,7,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,6,7,0,8,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,4,3,33,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951407770548569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252689331680589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.488929153435063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4932651260987826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4996759494888474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MDWMC,2020/04/17,"I want a 3rd baby but my husband doesn't what do I do here.. I'm not sure what to do here. I personally feel like no one is really wrong or right so how do we come to an agreement? When we got married I always said 3-4 kids and it wasnt a problem then. Now we have 2  kids and he wants to stop. I am absolutely heart broken over this and I feel like I will regret it for the rest of my life I feel so incomplete I'm not even sure what to do. I've tried talking to him telling him how important it is to me but he still seems to hate the idea. I know hes allowed to change his mind about the number of children he wants especially after experiencing 2 already but I feel sort of betrayed now. It's making me resent him a bit.

I'm just editing to add I'm definitely not pushing him..we dont talk about it right now. I'm just venting feelings in my head.",-0.16984042553191614,1.7249189308510682,2.5749361702127693,93.34400000000002,85.75531914893618,5.4621276595744686,20.57021276595745,6.742157984588678,0.2032757446808504,661,21,159,8,20,231,108,188,0.182,0.7090000000000001,0.11,-0.9541,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,17,10,2,0,7,0,14,3,2,4,2,40,34,13,0,5,9,1,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,4,9,8,0,1,8,0,0,2,7,5,0,1,3,7,23,5,18,30,2,14,0,1,0,0,20,4,0,4,10,98,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636876330371794,0.0,0.12544541839103768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645922134581594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948538831821132,0.1298674480565765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766910356512256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957636880621748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38114703209835865,0.21540770189453884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057752581751395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488454998216093,0.1547245138832997,0.0,0.0,0.1786527803049057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019107496624827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285442780862637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648711342134427,0.1473086408856581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063428994083057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15222586243555827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215970938825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163888859640055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442581338320371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965815027066712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25749852883484065,0.1434084511900698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724735918999034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039811091341725,0.12604313671123912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841813451960332,0.0,0.0,0.24235232763132525,0.1317719577799902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235697714844606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667686339513897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483373522077946,0.0,0.0
parenting,thespookygemini,2020/04/17,"Advice??? Any will help! Hi! I hope everyone is having a decent Friday! 
Okay, let’s start: 
My husband and I have officially started to plan for our second baby! (First born is 4 y/o)
Now, besides the next step in our lives, my mother will soon be moving in with us until she can find a better home for herself. (Given our current situation worldwide, who knows how long it will be) I love my mom but I’m not ready to have her being with me when our second baby is born. (Ahhh...it sounds harsh.) With my first born, I stood my ground in telling everyone that I don’t need the constant help with my newborn. I have my husband and it was our choice to start a family. (I suppose it was from seeing how other family members had their parents constant help and I didn’t want. I wanted to learn for myself) 

I just don’t know what or how to tell my mother that I’m not going to need or want her constant help. Or have her being around the second baby all the time. (Ahh...it sounds harsh but I promise I’m not being harsh.) I would love the ‘Every-now-and-then’ help. I want my mother to be a grandma (just like with her first grandchild and not a mother mother.) 

Sorry for the long post. 

Long story short: 
I have this crazy feeling that with my mother still living with us once my second baby is born, she would want to do EVERYTHING! And I don’t want that feeling I had with my first born gone. 

Advice?",1.5315572942958084,3.6277325229682016,3.112209742554267,90.75151501766787,80.66077738515902,5.0322564361433635,18.941065118626963,5.985473137389443,-0.11430832912670395,1076,25,221,7,28,354,130,283,0.036000000000000004,0.789,0.17600000000000002,0.9862,2,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,7,0,1,6,10,7,0,0,11,1,32,2,0,3,1,46,58,15,0,11,11,10,2,1,0,5,0,2,1,1,11,14,0,0,6,0,0,4,8,0,0,8,8,5,45,7,26,38,1,37,0,0,1,2,37,6,0,4,27,157,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769368217524196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653088681347968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854938341405672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493746171571137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31134761558101304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353610409489385,0.08631241141283036,0.0,0.18107142333890894,0.0,0.09711900254301774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777663575912208,0.3267581683449873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054580387004765835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218599283047913,0.0,0.09633355335370801,0.09538701640439956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105559517815814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820496306962614,0.0,0.04691912524551284,0.0,0.16960593840950516,0.2549707884210505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733553853393364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247808822925016,0.0,0.10207278086942677,0.0,0.1424213419950878,0.0,0.0,0.10213708785930913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227692042299692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663840072595758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197748322390026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765295412146783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079502975652712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750624178676962,0.20392774418501047,0.0,0.07669575947896416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788220850465338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600030276058556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23104284029125904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339872824097401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364447255161459,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LeeRuBee,2020/04/17,"Struggles parenting 2.5 yr. old & 6 mo. old boys - when does it get better? (honestly) CONTEXT: I am a SAHM at the moment, nursing, hoping to return to work when youngest is ~18 months old. My eldest has mild autism apparently; the youngest had a difficult pregnancy, traumatic birth, colic, and ongoing reflux. We used to have grandparent support but that is gone due to COVID (we live across an international border from each other). We rent a small 2 bedroom apt. 

Being a mom is so different than I expected. I could handle one but with 2 I feel like a total failure; one of us always seems to be crying. I don’t understand how so many families have multiple kids like it’s nbd. I know it is ungrateful but these are the worst days of my life. I have been diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and depression but the group therapy program I was supposed to start in March got cancelled due to COVID.

QUESTION: Parents who have kids this age difference, when (if) did things get better/easier? I don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel right now and need to know realistically what to expect. Please don’t sugarcoat. 

Thank you x100000 🙏🏽",3.0085757822023567,5.720124079439253,4.36019097927672,80.3742645266152,79.23364485981308,8.207720438845996,26.594067452255178,8.964715089967882,2.6178364892320194,899,37,162,24,23,296,149,214,0.15,0.7559999999999999,0.094,-0.9404,6,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,4,1,0,2,7,11,0,1,13,0,21,2,0,2,1,28,37,14,0,6,5,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,2,3,10,9,0,0,6,0,1,1,3,4,0,2,6,3,16,7,20,28,3,25,0,1,1,0,14,6,0,4,20,100,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968764871814568,0.14283062456288684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084455835570716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331742115881171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525027729844802,0.0,0.14480184104334368,0.08501520284197828,0.0,0.1135393217170998,0.1337980002496693,0.0,0.27545484127611203,0.0,0.0,0.115359566470045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675642618147528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427139193158385,0.0,0.0666538839010408,0.09417468026986656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13774459620123866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543123427550798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093040394992436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489341243035564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311078267968244,0.1288045323763528,0.0,0.1164024982924105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364826118268427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543900006782444,0.1052201991721157,0.0,0.0,0.09774539838551392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149795244313237,0.0,0.1786539271063054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927486236581681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470253345137318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476724038129689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125764836154957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504620149622436,0.12000709404465874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330529782495904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781046444219622,0.0,0.0,0.14959165909849606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136529755771665,0.15075157358870672,0.0,0.08757762523156276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13723283313129295,0.1585673477867432,0.11385311318451533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596902250276336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AperuvianCarvel,2020/04/17,"Talking in a foreign language to your newborn baby Hi reddit, so, this is our first kid, and I would really love if he could learn a lot of languages trough his life, right know his mom and I just know english (in an advance level, not native yet) and she knows a little of french since she had lived in Canada for some years, our native language is Spanish and right know we are in Perú , the baby will be staying at her mother's house, were just she knows english , so my question is , it is ok for me to talk to him in english almost all the time that I am going to be with him? is not going to confuse him sice all the people around him are going to be talking spanish ? could it be at the end being prejudicial ? Thanks for your answer.",2.8912863534675597,4.42810380536913,3.9827013422818816,88.62402964205818,74.70469798657717,5.503579418344519,23.826062639821032,5.46131890053228,0.4167713646532438,573,17,115,2,12,186,91,149,0.024,0.899,0.077,0.8019,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,2,0,2,6,4,0,1,8,1,19,2,0,0,2,29,29,7,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,8,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,2,0,20,3,20,18,4,22,0,0,0,1,26,12,0,6,5,88,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632181264766633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451020436977794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26027996304177897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436711746246722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864531430373322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779051535056597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880768562301789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44789492484461024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512972553002584,0.0,0.16336599085217582,0.14392949230721933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857436986647706,0.14711131481947415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090032207994115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300171830714888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259414033532892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442016447473472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783973947330087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483294802802392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373330173221155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930328665876585,0.0,0.15006589993726693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504496388470726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578851693341526,0.0,0.0,0.1049648370182573
parenting,sparklyrainbow4u-,2020/04/17,"What should my four year old be doing? My daughter will be turning four next week. I’m having a very hard some because sometimes I feel like I’m asking her to do things she shouldn’t have to and other times I feel like she thinks she is entitled for everyone to do everything for her. She is an only child at the moment and I don’t want her to act spoiled. I can’t seem to find a balance I’m comfortable with. 

What type of chores/things around the house would you suggest for a four year old to do?",1.01644155844156,3.163017085714287,2.1803463203463203,96.43207792207794,82.90476190476191,5.341991341991342,20.021645021645018,6.574015621080383,0.04519047619047578,394,11,89,4,11,125,64,105,0.017,0.861,0.122,0.8544,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,16,0,0,0,0,14,26,2,0,4,0,1,3,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,3,14,3,13,20,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,10,59,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784772915628779,0.1874297051043287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221594279307955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157537553527332,0.18018615695600373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027460425352618,0.2864580818739191,0.0,0.0,0.18324287792534166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17959833670681366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23133683751235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19589713060593875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132218187720672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207579583135744,0.0,0.0,0.15248055614959852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251722157582792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19828827578929967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319566611225173,0.12846495020814436,0.0,0.0,0.1169064700850502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807394136577407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542402838513465,0.1182533253821075,0.0,0.16081979992125736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242129448845686,0.0,0.0,0.25821607115853684
parenting,acutedisorder,2020/04/17,"How to support a stay at home parent? Hello everyone, as the title would suggest I am looking for ideas on how I can support my SO who will be staying home with the baby once I go back to work.

What are some things I can do to make things easier on my husband when I get home and on weekends? Anything I can do while I am at work to? I'm not just looking for ways to help out either but what things can be said to make him feel appreciated as well? Due to Daycare costs and our different working schedules it is going to be easier for only one of us to work and since I had the higher income we decided I would be the one working. 

He prefers staying at home and I go stir crazy at home so that's another reason  the decision was an easy one but I still want to support him the best way possible. 

What support do you wish you had from your working partner? What things do you wish were said more or at all? How do you want to feel appreciated? 

Any advice helps I know things will change when I go back to work and I just want to make the transition as smooth as possible for the three of us.",3.835477239353892,4.3388598898678445,5.074995594713659,85.6314948604993,71.2466960352423,8.167870778267256,27.908663729809106,8.238735603445708,1.6557779148311305,853,29,186,12,15,284,115,227,0.012,0.7659999999999999,0.222,0.9940000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,5,0,8,13,6,0,0,10,0,25,0,0,7,1,38,50,20,0,8,7,2,3,0,1,4,0,2,5,1,12,8,0,0,8,1,1,4,1,0,1,4,6,7,27,6,34,36,5,27,0,0,2,0,22,9,0,2,9,140,39,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794971946821436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424591697381626,0.08364515503101924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564340677859394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267546585809985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371304781495907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438543192151632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334202891589099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762230654792551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066759536629323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04167621112204035,0.0,0.18133911834137467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693547413489857,0.0,0.4000759840326853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004992571206033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043839167656480924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397238535376793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974005102890798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495179126596213,0.16216139846937322,0.06066821157588759,0.0,0.0,0.08857446158860521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985599125532675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201621299708038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175790362342398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598605930027933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550706511620365,0.06370393362739935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36208540958380747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26497617324930794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919054959881724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115014946814644,0.12663444915902705,0.0,0.0,0.07172225672237012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346171122700072,0.0,0.0,0.4065114345408388,0.0,0.0,0.11333176432620512,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Someoneoldbutnew,2020/04/17,"Want to try intermittent fasting, don't want to give my kid a complex My toddler is very social and wants everyone to eat when she eats. I've been having some stomach troubles, so I've been skipping meals to try to heal, but she's saying 'daddy eat!'. I used to fast more before it was 'cool', and I'd like to incorporate it again into my life, but I want to make sure she doesn't feel like she can't eat or she shouldn't eat. Am I overthinking this?",2.8716261398176317,3.951501755319154,4.2088449848024325,88.80500000000002,74.0,7.073556231003039,24.06686930091185,7.447530270364453,0.8600443768996962,351,10,78,4,7,116,61,94,0.049,0.83,0.121,0.815,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,1,10,9,1,2,1,17,18,7,0,5,3,0,1,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,3,6,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,3,11,4,9,14,2,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,6,44,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007507839698093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7820846012313452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606706228063712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729208083086359,0.10920529417979796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664003327467084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107971594750394,0.14936219384597918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203718010922344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156272231516413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582448730979587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440714845829304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075677648020867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202447497535258,0.0,0.1261279106948502,0.3606500218562883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,0Pattern0,2020/04/17,"Dad here. I need support. Young parent here with a now three year old. My idea of parenting is you are firm yet fair and you ensure there are activities for your child to do alongside rules for them to follow. My girlfriend wants our son to sit with her all day and watch television and she says it's ""cute"".How can I sort this situation out without getting angry? I love my girlfriend but her style of parenting isn't serious enough for me. Our son will start attending day care soon and I'm hoping they can do a lot more activities with him than he gets at home. Am I being nasty? Should I expect my girlfriend to actually do activities with him? He wouldn't eat his dinner the other day and because I said he had to have time out, she told me I was being too strict. I wasn't shouting or anything? He was messing around and not focusing on eating dinner. Anyone know what I can do?

My girlfriend is the birth-mother of our son. I was writing it from my perspectives as a Dad. There is plenty of laughter and care. There's a lot of cuddle time and a lot of fun but there seems to be less standards from her than myself and I don't know how to approach that. I'm pretty laid back with everything else and we don't argue about much. We are pretty chill. When it comes to parenting, we definitely don't see eye to eye. She's much more laid back than I am and I want to actually educate our son.",1.4086504046506292,3.771177335689047,2.9809232873589444,89.95065769976067,83.06360424028269,6.054439758349483,20.789809643223528,7.359569317364363,0.6685473384247125,1098,33,230,17,31,360,150,283,0.025,0.8140000000000001,0.162,0.9895,4,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,7,3,2,0,16,9,1,0,7,0,31,8,2,1,1,47,52,17,0,7,5,10,0,0,4,3,0,3,1,1,7,23,4,0,4,0,0,4,8,3,0,1,7,7,43,6,37,39,10,25,0,0,4,2,46,5,0,7,15,165,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.22456128189569727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045168043042503,0.0,0.0946834619088499,0.1024265886627862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694599303632622,0.0,0.07013868257907308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346199154172559,0.0,0.0,0.09911283541759283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226099240416796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23546743826957506,0.09611673461108694,0.0,0.0,0.11888633828568886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034072918725282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202267871802682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541320310376428,0.11427919675423573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988720618676058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646644543962549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934562385161428,0.1038449200759708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691626870456612,0.08531452800062758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073469388007592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5110360398087326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23411201433413545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944712037539343,0.09149925330188237,0.0,0.0,0.0916868440554372,0.10474506988826524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933073871226486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143910174163345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305671878126017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418324335341206,0.0,0.0,0.10994346684691383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357291407871075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091242872940672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409399558643134
parenting,mother_rebel,2020/04/17,"I'm exhausted and starting to resent him My husband 25m & I 21f just had our first kid, in the beginning I'd get help but it was minimal. My husband was working even while I was still in the hospital, when we came home I'm doing 99% of the work. I'm a stay at home mom so I have her from 6am to 5pm ish then he comes home, maybe changes a diaper, maybe holds her on and off and that's it. I do everything at night as well, every feeding, diaper and every time she's awake for a couple hours it's on me. Well she's 3 months old now and I'm still doing everything. I'm starting to feel alone, I don't feel appreciated even though I handle the baby and all the house work. We live with my parents n siblings but I can't ask for my mom's help too much. I maybe get one shower and one pee alone a week. I'm fine doing it all on my own, I'm used to the waking 2 to 5x a night but even if I could get one night off a week or even one night a damn month it'd be nice. I've communicated all of this to my husband multiple times and nothings changed. He's the kind of person that falls asleep the moment his head hits the pillow and you have to wake him 8+ times to get him up. Sometimes hell have conversations but then not wake up or not even remember me trying to get him up in the morning. It's starting to feel unfair, I'm starting to resent him being able to do whatever and get a full night's sleep. He wont wake to her crying, I can't even trust him to let me use the restroom at night while she's next to him. What do I do",1.5090999323257392,2.39343062170088,3.6434750733137835,92.3005972253553,77.09384164222874,6.888382585156782,21.619783442364092,7.321109707123232,0.4056342431761779,1186,29,293,14,26,408,162,341,0.109,0.84,0.051,-0.9633,2,2,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,1,0,4,16,11,4,0,19,0,23,10,8,2,3,36,51,25,0,2,10,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,5,2,10,15,1,1,4,0,0,3,6,5,2,5,5,3,38,6,37,39,6,50,1,0,0,0,33,15,2,3,31,176,48,3,0.07819470716045038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619722686568386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847239325389444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310149568546186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894339136838796,0.0,0.0,0.16543926385519056,0.0673578163861763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243211090638859,0.08652095618593822,0.08589321407517649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098811996457822,0.0,0.1317648265854905,0.0,0.14055272154397747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861278028516956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651237796489441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451210427428941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025032872018402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482452787192828,0.0,0.2353070006659477,0.0,0.07700603542876748,0.09022619344081166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142775458187723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995938592505793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904735901612337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356712802769815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316139192392789,0.1248285384688994,0.0,0.057482106961250876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831609581647505,0.4402826136920964,0.0,0.07502993044336648,0.0,0.08205219139933745,0.0,0.211947029067394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682596858197954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827660218204809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857936006562449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825117844279819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733656481517028,0.0,0.22138646477646315,0.08334515369619494,0.12489278829311333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768259027689292,0.0,0.13678788771130873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05308907332656203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507024155798752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544615490417402,0.0,0.1406128650881081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078003432182615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Windala,2020/04/17,"First time sleep training. HELP! I need some tips please. 

My little one will be one next week. I have not gotten more than 2-3 hours uninterrupted sleep since she was born. We co sleep in a queen size bed. We do have a crib. Birth to 4 months she slept in a bassinet, but when we changed to a crib at 4 months she just screamed. So we let her sleep with us. She is breastfed and still wakes up every 2-3 hours wanting to eat. Even if I give her a big dinner before bed. I think she's doing it more for comfort. I'm sick throughout the day from lack of sleep. I never get alone time with husband and its hurting us. Even getting to wat h a movie at night would be great. Should I even try to sleep train or will she just at some point start to sleep on her own? Do I let her have some toys and a light blanket and a binky?  Also our bed and her crib are in the same room, 1 bedroom apartment. Or take away anything that might keep her awake? What time frames did you follow? Iv seen ones say 3 minutes crying, then 5, then 15  and keep doing 15. I need tips or if you have a story to share I'd like to hear that too. Thank you!",0.5366980474198044,2.4349150041841057,1.5255491631799174,101.86201970013948,83.05857740585773,4.150697350069736,17.071304044630402,4.2952094502661415,-1.1207198047419804,862,17,213,1,24,268,146,239,0.07400000000000001,0.818,0.107,0.7957,0,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,3,0,2,10,7,0,0,11,0,21,13,9,0,1,36,39,17,0,8,9,1,0,1,0,5,2,3,5,0,5,12,2,2,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,4,5,5,31,5,23,25,8,35,0,1,1,0,28,14,0,9,21,129,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098495942828605,0.0,0.07605222591283946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826001016783843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935050895679562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092393644832065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006042355856041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044639699507786,0.0613322698872689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731205292700333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843991738262186,0.0,0.08012668423927498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089285198942864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937268238282378,0.09122953358738484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484917523797957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718572544244737,0.0,0.06374418775465511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18731063350403165,0.0,0.1018075748046866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906025589578128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944944074684936,0.0,0.04646153910315195,0.095316174112893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088711980671733,0.0,0.0,0.15181740294642626,0.0,0.0,0.1410323554755741,0.0733477448978375,0.0,0.10114097985897964,0.08924583511786759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332867253292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439232676427808,0.08990117321478616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562812289910192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866852019416262,0.0,0.6661876830473329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731296893744174,0.0,0.07594777203180318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715041076702289,0.0,0.0,0.08755621272343911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093687323564322,0.0,0.0,0.1663624530221688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456732840206345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22878955868262355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609302682815282,0.0,0.07628427633922735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755701344403822,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-spookyxghost-,2020/04/17,"Should I tell my child (5) her great-grandma might pass soon? Hi everyone, this is my first post on this sub.

I’ve never really dealt with death before on a personal level and I’m admittedly not great at processing these kinds of situations.

My husbands grandmother had a heart attack last night. They think she’s okay for now, but diagnosed her with chronic heart disease and her arteries are shrinking, not allowing her heart to get enough blood. They told her she could basically have another heart attack at any moment.

So I don’t know if I should tell my daughter what happened, and prepare her for the worst, or wait until something happens as to not worry her.

Any advice would be appreciated!",5.503023255813954,7.476123217054262,5.814643410852714,76.35080232558141,68.76744186046511,9.191007751937986,29.95426356589148,9.642632912329526,2.9849807751937987,561,22,97,13,10,179,95,129,0.12300000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.066,-0.8343,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,1,3,6,2,0,3,1,11,7,5,1,1,22,20,9,1,5,6,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,4,5,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,2,0,18,3,13,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,3,8,65,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267674132505772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643718594729133,0.13602973822823836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951656597830317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038785243150782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357620043817438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316698525438565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340423416917497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395940494403787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034545030907428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777683760850893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28604825201816003,0.0,0.0,0.2294337547378613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6149069759709636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509037748938182,0.0712943923439852,0.10574456105407316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761951015044666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100053215344227,0.0,0.0,0.12173970409125212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132723358248913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424230256941696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310623498656494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458182270536179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986993846396514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267736777954927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312362034772565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395940494403787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174374369363978,0.0,0.0921541135796866,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TuffGoose,2020/04/17,"The Battle With Food (Help!) I won't be the first parent to deal with this or the last, but the battle is raging and I am standing at the losing end. This is all a realization of my complete and utter failure in these first few years of my son's life when it comes to food and mealtimes: 

My son is 6 years old and your classic ""chicken nugget"" child. He will eat your typical kid ""friendly"" foods. Chicken, pizza, eh? I don't blame him for his eating habits. As his parent, I set the standards and allowed him to eat mostly what he wanted the last few years. If he doesn't like what I make for dinner, I make him something else. I am consistently making two separate meals a night. As my relationship with health and food improves, these meals are becoming completely contradictory. It's almost becoming laughable - making my grilled chicken and broccoli whilst shoveling another fistful of frozen pizza into my son's mouth. 


I desperately need to fix my family's relationship with food. I do not know where to start, and I cannot afford the time or money that it takes to sustain a separate grocery list and dinner routine.


Thank you for any and all help.",5.5487671232876705,6.7391707260274005,5.998977168949772,78.05709589041099,67.76712328767124,8.579726027397259,30.12511415525114,8.841846274778883,2.441371141552511,915,34,165,15,15,295,126,219,0.127,0.815,0.057999999999999996,-0.9394,4,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,3,0,3,2,7,3,0,11,0,13,17,1,5,2,34,24,17,0,3,5,5,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,10,16,14,0,1,0,1,1,5,4,0,3,0,0,25,3,21,21,5,21,0,1,0,0,24,4,0,5,15,105,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991320363801373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785242726550463,0.10462587996426696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039381237456587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594986864433005,0.20923056361928674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028666848113608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062932561259541,0.08335167367110216,0.0,0.08837364768871356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406177088084168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697421459309046,0.6032594636207705,0.0,0.07708819635766823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605929460662736,0.0,0.0,0.13375811278741484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483535168605279,0.16266469223302332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047611659305976,0.0487464661998336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116260034009056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26641022460876185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398408535293874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363484656395986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470017365645816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22158321023213629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424835404871306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681394031823878,0.0,0.0,0.0706233462872273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502060058659601,0.0,0.0,0.09186213040925756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058181324809767225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974685584644388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05885161983666212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276118459800232
parenting,Imnotdaggett,2020/04/17,"Activities for a one and a half year old. I’m looking for activities that are better suited to my girl. I’m finding it hard because she’s too old for baby stuff and too young for toddler things. I’ve tried drawing, painting and playdough, but she just eats them! We sing and dance all the time and I read to her lots too, but I need to get stuff done too. She never stops moving and with this virus all the places we would go to do some exploring are closed. We go outside as much as we can, but we’re heading into winter and I don’t want to be in the cold and rain. 

I’m always trying new things with her, but I’m running out of ideas because a lot of the toddler activities I’m finding are for 2 1/2 - 3 year olds. I’d like to find things she can do independently as well, as I need a break sometimes and as I’ve mention, I have jobs around the house and a home business to tend. 

I love my girl and I don’t need a lot, I just need her to be entertained for 30 minutes without it being the tv. Please help!",2.0466922024623813,3.2733335488372117,3.612120383036936,91.6912585499316,76.30232558139534,6.1751025991792075,23.809849521203827,6.522977012572876,0.4745184678522572,783,24,181,6,17,260,114,215,0.006,0.861,0.133,0.9781,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,1,1,8,5,0,0,12,0,15,3,1,1,3,48,31,20,0,6,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,9,21,1,1,5,5,0,6,4,0,1,2,1,3,22,5,28,26,7,24,0,0,1,1,17,6,0,4,12,118,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973337509707299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413381289865144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261547795354293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345613616822613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970748946220056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969607931205745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207429818851561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611153506383675,0.0,0.13296078870308495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478789445853673,0.0,0.12005155307019386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840682755801398,0.0,0.11733688542150965,0.0,0.0,0.13497508138501665,0.0,0.1320521380587075,0.0,0.0,0.1160810455956882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571487693679919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982307302693351,0.0,0.0,0.2983475036563888,0.10557578475319693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432742047368678,0.08599112707072963,0.3469461284355712,0.09021942530837193,0.1129765539056334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36824122096682704,0.0,0.07926624854358548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221546016245152,0.12840498014485813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700807397198773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156926689677192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779752371648118,0.0,0.0,0.2678200256204959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331418039637493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820989032203863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883861924438875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899572238099225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517584852728007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127610931129186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309669147920569,0.0,0.0,0.15065795657244654
parenting,nrahsrus73,2020/04/17,"Any fellow parents with delayed sleep phase disorder? 🙋‍♀️ I’m so freakin tired all the time. I’ve always been a “night owl” (didn’t even know circadian sleep disorders were a thing) but now that I’m a parent it’s making my life damn near impossible.

I have a 1-year-old who is sweet and patient and smart and perfect AND she sleeps through the night. Too bad mommy can’t seem to ever get to sleep before 1 (at the earliest!) Which is great, bc she’s started waking up at 6:30 now. 

Believe me when I say I she is the ONLY person I would wake up at 6:30 for and I want to be my best and fully functioning for her, but I feel terrible because I’m just exhausted and on autopilot most of the time due to lack of sleep. Half the time when she naps I just lay on my bed, too tired to do anything but too wired to nap myself.

I know very little about sleep disorders or how to look into treating them. I live in a small town with few clinics nearby. I just want to be the best parent I can be and that doesn’t happen on 5 hours a night, unfortunately.",1.8507009569378001,3.479559395454544,3.568516746411482,90.10145933014357,77.77272727272728,6.631578947368423,22.033492822966508,7.475848149327749,0.679272727272727,817,23,182,11,19,273,135,220,0.134,0.725,0.141,0.6844,3,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,3,15,11,1,0,13,0,15,13,8,2,3,33,29,16,0,4,7,3,1,0,1,1,5,1,1,1,6,11,0,1,4,2,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,4,22,7,27,22,6,29,0,0,1,0,13,14,1,3,15,116,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248153011206186,0.0,0.0,0.06740969808901946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157300086964328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827668294174188,0.06042684434718151,0.0,0.08434969947124589,0.11168208258590304,0.2080551530557359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408240808549925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547238924691241,0.08966596532735183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05012154418768283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051789719226002284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928776835738206,0.0,0.0,0.08765759924854892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976200388739346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089551148199306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001626814962787,0.0,0.09935120551514294,0.08753087772622095,0.0,0.08324163875156194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616798223898784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27907167032315244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401701723112652,0.0,0.0,0.07539048197683418,0.0,0.0,0.33020610843212433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655379441468777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882969759123823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024141602798408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5951909903412684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016253718720758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585551442753297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340509534753862,0.2278636020535736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179008225985958,0.11693523975835733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704169128601232,0.0,0.0,0.06383448011465645
parenting,Kathyfillet,2020/04/17,"4yo and 16mo playing rough. How protective should I be of the little one even when he's all smiles? My two kids love to horse around with each other. I'm constantly worried about my oldest being too rough with the little one but 16mo is always smiles and laughing. His older brother will knock him over or ""steamroller"" over him and I'll have a panic attack and then 16mo will just laugh like crazy. I worry that my 4yo sitting on his brother is going to really do some damage but I don't really know what a 16mo can take. It's all loving and playful, I worry about accidents. 

I don't want to stifle their fun but I also want to make sure everyone is safe. Anyone with similar age gap sibs have experience to share?",2.1433333333333344,4.5931830985915525,3.7245352112676073,85.22069953051643,80.69014084507046,6.04018779342723,19.325821596244133,7.3011,0.658742159624413,568,14,105,8,15,188,94,142,0.172,0.575,0.253,0.9513,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,9,14,1,1,4,0,14,2,0,2,3,26,23,13,0,3,5,2,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,2,1,2,0,1,2,3,0,3,0,2,14,11,15,18,4,14,0,1,0,2,12,6,0,2,7,74,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734230756198332,0.1429034060072701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200862550969324,0.0,0.0,0.1528871167023668,0.0,0.19538173417596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855924844048727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343421260621499,0.0,0.0,0.16410718999757098,0.0,0.167996988137873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976051440614758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943851125732472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390464469273239,0.3442619369391642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100083800871754,0.0,0.11463936250616613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327541430454796,0.0,0.0,0.20150266183770227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004511398034046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186514690257628,0.0,0.12912888518009574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677673358545828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20259619360895348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232381259110741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Avocadotoast317,2020/04/17,"Rectal Thermometer Lubricant Hi - new father here!

What do people use for rectal thermometer lubricant? I tried vaseline but it messed with the reading. Any suggestions would be appreciated!",7.5315517241379295,11.747735172413796,7.175431034482759,56.531422413793145,76.58620689655173,11.175862068965518,34.836206896551715,10.125756701596842,6.00168275862069,156,8,17,6,4,49,26,29,0.091,0.762,0.147,0.4468,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,11,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174847988975497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4509019633251394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236660081044037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669922072763068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169712776377131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032222108503921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33164811669767985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pedrots1987,2020/04/17,"Questions from a father to a 3-day-old daughter Hey guys, I joined the club this week as my beautiful baby daughter joined my wife and I.

  But as reality sinks in, I'm having some issues:

  - I'm constantly worried when my baby sleeps, fearing that she'll die of SIDS any minute. Worse is when I hear her sigh or hear some faints moan or noises coming out of her! How can I get some peace of mind regarding that? I already cleared her basinet from any toys or lose bedding and she's placed on her back only.

  - My wife has had some trouble breastfeeding (super sensitive skin lead to nipple sores and a LOT of pain). She's feeling insecure as not being able to 'care' for our daughter. I tell her that it's nonsense, that you can't reduce love and care to a single action. But breastfeeding is a powerful thing to do and produces lots of emotions. She has been pumping her breasts and also giving a bit of formula when she can't produce enough.

  Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

  Thanks,",4.650643231114437,6.0732363717277495,5.113960359012719,82.69744764397906,70.09947643979058,7.760807778608826,29.349663425579656,8.192908349453996,2.0409548242333586,781,30,147,11,14,249,123,191,0.142,0.73,0.128,-0.5832,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,6,6,12,0,2,7,0,15,7,3,4,1,29,27,19,1,1,6,6,2,0,0,2,3,2,1,1,7,8,0,0,2,2,0,3,3,5,1,0,2,4,23,6,20,21,9,13,0,1,0,2,27,4,0,10,6,97,30,3,0.145578215698252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064918105467751,0.11641884649793145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969945362936218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194066186497978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158933707115193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968533863676858,0.0,0.0,0.1254027424478886,0.0,0.1573183335611971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388590574007404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108720405865067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375589836838753,0.0,0.1504212123263145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381596581366528,0.07360871999299623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605860918306506,0.1396518897285107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605004967435716,0.0,0.14414532131573732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32815445878874777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194583478113002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628647859009187,0.0,0.2475307861207911,0.13139002342069026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699249817088664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275984848356336,0.0,0.0,0.1107187930441608,0.15490548553031236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209825066091867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308091872185354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568335054459805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724177713986698,0.13402886196483346,0.0,0.0,0.09671569781128694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677406349053325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784174457632807,0.1483566388914302,0.1034145875889793,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FastMoment,2020/04/17,"My 2 year old was diagnosed with ASD but I think it's something else...what do I do? ***NOTE: This is not an anti-ASD post. This is a post seeking advice on how to proceed with treatment if I believe my child's diagnosis is not appropriate.***

For context, a PA at my son's (26 months old) pediatrician's office **referred my son for early intervention** because he **became aggressive** with her when she tried to come near him with tools. 

**My child will start throwing punches if** you're trying to hold him down to do something he doesn't want to do. I have only seen him do this as the pediatrician and when he was hospitalized.

Although there was a point in time when he started hitting (as most toddlers do) and now may rarely raise his hand, look at me for a reaction, then put his hand down when I look him dead in the eyes and say no. He will then either tap something near him out of frustration, whine, or say OK.

Anyway, he had a state behavior analyst, social worker, OT, and SLP evaluate him. One of them concluded he had ASD (social worker) and had the rest of the evaluators sign off agreeing on the same diagnosis.

**However, where I struggle is that in the \~month since the evaluation (since lockdown), what we initially said were things he was struggling with, have now changed.**

**Here is what we discussed with the evaluators that has changed :**

* We initially thought **he doesn't do a lot of pretend play but now he does it all the time.** He tried to brush my hair with a comb, a hair brush, a vacuum attachment, and a duster. If I ask him to brush my hair, he does it without question. He loves it! He will give me a remote control so I can talk in it, I give it back to him and pretend to be on the other line and he will have a fake conversation with me (all garble, of course).
* **We thought he didn't point and ask for things. Now he does so 100% of the time** and if we're not quick, he'll get it himself! Today, he saw a whole bunch of letters and numbers on the floor and asked for each one by its respective character after pointing to it. He then asked me for water because he didn't have his water cup on his tray for breakfast and pointed in the direction of the kitchen. When he wants food, he will say ""cereal"", ""cracker"", ""cookie"", ""pizza"", or ""milk"" depending on which one he wants because those are the food words he knows. That, or he'll say ""eat"" in general. I swear we give him healthy food too. If he wants to watch Paw Patrol, he finds the remote and says ""TV aw atrol"".
* **We thought he didn't make much eye contact but that's completely changed.** I was typing on my computer this morning and he was watching me put letters on the screen with fascination. I looked over at him and smiled, and he smiled back and laughed shyly. We did this a couple of times before I closed my laptop and hugged him. He now engages us constantly with eye contact to watch him do things, look at what he's building, look at his letters, and listen to him sing a song.

​

**Here are things he's still struggling with:**

* He does not consistently follow instructions and has difficulty understanding what we ask of him if he's never done it before. If we point to something on the floor and ask him to pick it up, he doesn't always follow through although we know he can because he's done it before. For example, asking him to pick up a banana peel would require us to help him do it several times before the actual words for the command click together for him. **NOTE: he's much better at this in the past month and will follow through about 80% of the time.**
* He sometimes still tip-toes and will stomp while running or walking fast.
* He does not always come when called when he's too engrossed in something or up to no good. His ears may perk up but he'll keep going on his way. He is still isn't great at this but will now come if he's in another room.
* When he's singing a song he likes, he will use his two pointer fingers to dance to the song and bump his hands against his knees to the beat of the song (like Paw Patrol theme song).
* **He doesn't use language appropriately.** He used to say ""oh no what happened"" when something like toys fell or he got food on his fingers (scripting). He struggles with two word sentences. **He doesn't form words in appropriate context although he knows at least 100 words, all primary colors, shapes, and all letters of the alphabet and numbers up to 20.**
* He repeats things we say like ""stand up"" before following the command (echolalia).

​

**Here are some of the things he does that were described to us as ASD symptoms but** ***can be*** **normal in non-ASD children his age:**

* He had a letter W in his hand, he came to me and showed me the letter and said ""W"", flipped it over and said ""M"". Then did it a couple of more times. He likes playing show and tell with letters and numbers.
* He loves climbing on things...too much.
* He pulls me off the couch to bring me to what he wants when he doesn't know the name of the thing he wants.
* He plays along side children and in the vicinity of them and doesn't like sharing what he's playing with.
* He lines up toys and then plays with them. He lines up cars to crash them. 
* He doesn't like being told what to do. If I try to play with toys a certain way, he will do whatever he wants and not what I ask him to do. A few minutes later, he'll do what I was trying to teach him to do the entire time.
* He throws a tantrum if you take away something he really wants.
* He loves reading and has memorized whole books and can recite them by the page he's on. 

He doesn't get upset by every day noises. He doesn't struggle with changes in routine unless he's tired or just woke up (not getting breakfast will make him hangry). He listens when we say no and to give us something he's not supposed to be holding. He seeks and gives affection.

He's a great problem solver. We thought we wouldn't be able to teach him to put his brother's helmet on his head and one day, he just did it on his own, no prompting. We never even tried. Seems like he watched us do it and concluded that's something he had to do as well. He found a piece of paper, said ""paper"", then remembered we keep crayons on a board and pointed at them and asked us for one which to me meant the connected that he needs crayons to draw on the paper. If I point to something in a book and tell him what it is, he'll remember it without prompting. He pointed to flower in a book when I told him just once and then pointed to a bouquet of flowers on the window sill the next day.

We know he knows things and it seems he just doesn't know how to put the words together to tell us.

My point is, he's been progressing **without** any therapy since we've been home and he hasn't been in daycare (which leads be to believe WTF is going on in daycare that he's been this delayed).

**ESSENTIALLY, it seems his biggest issues are receptive and expressive language. He seems not to be able to connect words well to create conversation. He will overlay garble into the words he knows.**

*His symptoms to me are more indicative of a social communication disorder or beginnings of hyperlexia due to how well he can memorize songs, books, and movie scripts (he knows the entire Boss Baby movie).*

**I feel I should have asked them that if he didn't have speech issues, would they still think he had ASD? Which I think is a valid question.** 

I bring this up because of parental instinct that although I know my son has **something,** I don't think ASD is the whole picture. I would be **perfectly fine** if it was but I want to make sure I get an independent opinion because most of the evaluators only saw my son for 30 minutes. 

**I should note that my son's actual pediatrician did not believe there was anything I should be concerned about with his development.** 

Looking back, it seems like the evaluators thought he didn't do something consistently like immediately drop what he's doing and come when called, they thought it was a bad sign. 

However, now that this is their conclusion, they want to start my son on 20 hours of ABA therapy and I've read enough about how controversial ABA is that I have cause to be concerned that maybe this therapy isn't appropriate without a second opinion. 

My husband believes we should do the remote therapy anyway and say no to anything we believe would hurt our son instead of help him. 

I don't know if we should do that or just pause therapy altogether until we can get an evaluation from his pediatrician and an independent therapist.

What would you do?",1.2171237109097746,3.813213388390185,2.37648432215774,91.86733096739178,87.7672052663076,5.311111296675157,22.7331941602995,6.866070069765822,0.7688985016631178,6656,250,1360,92,215,2115,521,1671,0.08,0.846,0.07400000000000001,-0.9061,6,1,12,0,0,0,322.0,29,2,11,13,57,50,3,6,82,2,140,35,15,22,9,275,256,121,1,38,51,11,10,10,0,30,4,23,6,4,77,103,12,7,41,29,0,27,44,14,3,8,53,55,147,36,200,162,28,194,0,2,19,4,273,86,0,39,84,849,224,20,0.058690742974734374,0.0,0.05727369890188396,0.0,0.0,0.02867595738688875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883539977237153,0.06359139549239128,0.07131567673624539,0.019955858907076247,0.030771180674579506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04829748069281371,0.0,0.27433961006724644,0.0,0.0275709425029398,0.06769433787631657,0.02450215943496569,0.10733199650885006,0.0,0.12485374873505473,0.1653109230358472,0.0,0.02595359635425721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059929810595653984,0.03356328728538284,0.0,0.030145780072132568,0.12417404790493655,0.10111375647839066,0.030768063685447832,0.03171192144363057,0.03291332941066756,0.0,0.06494019078577118,0.0,0.056776010782020325,0.0,0.0,0.029784934344460657,0.0,0.0,0.03363233808827913,0.0,0.15408199406138254,0.060061007053879074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030027641111599813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030321613258712563,0.0,0.019382341104616053,0.0,0.024724741133600937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.014837901553769371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02682113790322411,0.0,0.14193815874286173,0.032175685165943484,0.0,0.0,0.07665872708303571,0.1407537715495297,0.033355301761244155,0.024613505321883618,0.023470174329150457,0.06470675132616878,0.0,0.0,0.02595001509170118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030116817285917807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03933916786819889,0.0,0.02943580027716982,0.0,0.02889927974011898,0.0,0.03141482711263587,0.0,0.0,0.061257887331887625,0.0,0.05216702903269101,0.0,0.0,0.1774019359386141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336666216758748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785632737232846,0.0,0.0,0.024948385438144458,0.07945603046143793,0.0,0.05876479001508499,0.0,0.029481369945072125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026958665012528,0.0,0.06471667369480179,0.0217592211240308,0.04526591915165065,0.0,0.03120913549279604,0.0,0.028752233445299643,0.0,0.0,0.061586061906347675,0.03125186290472743,0.099425915920117,0.04463695473845318,0.0,0.0,0.03258456224614354,0.0,0.0280134775826883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27740861317871485,0.0,0.05620950814997115,0.0,0.0,0.028079557334423633,0.0,0.11800081436318174,0.0657470641392315,0.0,0.05870662552330475,0.0,0.0187993964059896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648517071379839,0.0,0.11165667322775716,0.21002955519348898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357462033512385,0.0,0.03315191695282076,0.0,0.07282438362315521,0.0,0.0,0.08974173204479516,0.0,0.27109800787332794,0.02902332276021213,0.0,0.062312414935669885,0.0,0.09374100630709248,0.0,0.0,0.15339076920922026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02765766533863724,0.06100215423487331,0.022064067281957648,0.023586698018630264,0.07694744438869401,0.0,0.1677949488514443,0.03407223809114309,0.15596608694888622,0.07521331653975187,0.0,0.13978168230699484,0.1368921768280803,0.03372818764619265,0.02781598090579927,0.05608152004889367,0.0,0.11954148575488313,0.0,0.05733232778781675,0.03054956663845944,0.2470920808930816,0.07603493687765228,0.0,0.0,0.1730866041560738,0.04658597994412482,0.0,0.0,0.07915503961374147,0.0,0.0,0.09828917784603894,0.0,0.11315156368719355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423054972392784,0.0,0.07131567673624539,0.018897457112067268
parenting,madz2345,2020/04/17,My daughter is afraid of rubber gloves. What do I do? I have no idea why she is afraid of them. Her fear makes it almost impossible to go to the doctors and other public places. What do you recommend me doing to make her fear less worse,1.5231250000000005,3.779113395833335,2.904,91.341,81.70833333333334,5.506666666666668,17.933333333333334,6.742157984588678,-0.03967166666666655,185,4,39,2,5,60,37,48,0.20800000000000002,0.747,0.046,-0.8363,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,7,1,0,2,0,5,10,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,9,0,5,10,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,29,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731490401206811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27920114568278753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6139050410164245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550267476684846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079345976448191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641645672471053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849962833193167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461408667679212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779853844871842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mami84,2020/04/17,"If you are out there please let me know I’m not alone! I miss the days I knew exactly what my kids wanted and I nurtured them and just fuckin loving them! Now they are in their teens and I no longer feel like the cool mom anymore. No longer that confidant. I am bad cop and their dad (my ex) is good cop. I recently made the decision that it’s his turn to raise them. He is obviously elated the kids too! I am very confident he can handle a bunch of teenagers, I mean he married me! I was 21.. and oh how I tested him!!! He understands them and is so good with them, better than I am. It was a good run.

Now am I the only one who doesn’t wanna go down in history as a bad mom?

I think karma has something to do with this. I told my mom she was horrible to me and now my own two kids... if I let them go, they will at least speak well of their childhood. I believe they still have a window. 

Are you out there? Are you going through the same thing? Send out a beacon like in outlander and share your wisdom. Please 🙏🏿",-0.2324999999999981,1.8442083796296307,1.7101555555555557,98.1904,87.88888888888891,5.1226666666666665,16.973333333333336,6.55674776486733,-0.3742808888888889,774,18,187,9,25,255,127,216,0.064,0.72,0.217,0.9857,0,1,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,4,12,1,11,16,1,0,11,1,22,2,0,2,2,31,38,13,0,4,4,5,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,8,13,0,0,7,0,0,5,4,4,1,2,6,3,42,12,19,29,4,20,1,1,0,2,37,8,1,2,9,132,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424204614964485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363744755548005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22963274758586125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549283913666183,0.0,0.12161776304617412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886835531608595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952995533402362,0.09823825604043357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23445289415163556,0.3460144116961543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557273413679935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28122968799174314,0.0,0.13436236358325354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410951393593242,0.13011672336025648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497903561451789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831554842527605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931813635225791,0.10458370605724412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30189270598339235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577603465716467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058630848746198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981687602319354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913565423982043,0.088111828356959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139814851626208,0.0,0.0,0.1495730443176434,0.1343287720247015,0.14315433999535207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346140384261502,0.08110785620377961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363936928372884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RomusLupos,2020/04/17,"I don't know how to be me anymore... My kids are growing up very quickly.  Soon, one will be 15 and the other 16.  I feel like as they get older, I am losing pieces of myself.  The more time they want to spend with their friends, the less I see them or spend time with them.   I always made it a point to be involved in every aspect of their lives, and now as they get older, I feel that slowly fading away.  Their mother and I divorced over ten years ago, and since then, they have been with me the majority of the time.    I have been the bad guy, the good guy, the coach the referee, the tutor, the cook, the maid, the list goes on.   

As they get older and they rely on me less and don't want to spend as much time with me, I am feeling like I have been these things for so long, that I have forgotten how to be me.  

Sometimes I sit alone at night and think about how like will be like once they leave the house, and it makes me so sad I start to cry uncontrollably.  It feels like I am losing my best friends, and it is the worst feeling in the world.

I have no idea what to do.  I have been X's father for so long, that I have completely forgotten what it means to be me.  I know that they will have their own lives to live, but it is so difficult to watch it all happen before my eyes.

How do you cope with this?   What makes that horrible feeling of dread and loss better?  I honestly have no idea what to do, and I am so sad when they aren't with me.  Any advice would be helpful at this point...",3.4743929712460084,3.630139402555912,4.198484025559107,92.8358730031949,71.9073482428115,7.410159744408947,22.35926517571885,6.961326702584282,0.30570555910543096,1135,21,274,9,20,363,142,313,0.139,0.7509999999999999,0.111,-0.9245,0,1,0,0,1,0,42.0,0,1,15,5,14,21,0,2,17,0,37,2,1,7,1,42,58,28,0,3,2,2,6,5,2,4,0,0,1,3,21,17,1,0,12,2,3,1,5,10,0,2,5,9,48,11,37,42,10,33,0,5,3,0,26,12,0,1,24,200,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354111821783264,0.09392554343011858,0.0,0.0,0.10974073086137474,0.0,0.0,0.08816570328979081,0.0,0.0,0.07205520354067425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050820539476604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955120865046332,0.0,0.08847066385333406,0.0,0.0,0.09016261660108754,0.0,0.11119658466145232,0.093711409597879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109514763211896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639009772237845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927434610395893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214538712320393,0.2270896590942351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372607150515728,0.0,0.16607634506310748,0.0,0.0,0.08887270370451998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098305362070272,0.0936984786284024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102154212111339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122261526533436,0.0,0.23922780138962504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646370177745193,0.0,0.0,0.11219442542460012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588291005547629,0.0,0.2806890724682281,0.1875393299695577,0.0,0.23708022600315534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002602025636459,0.1414558309342916,0.0,0.0,0.1154195330266323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789146230635395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943458472407464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284201562614198,0.0718000126399132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032947897261955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844349600075215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764971077958965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479536053305184,0.0,0.07499775316124556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039391409356663,0.06789373057652821,0.0,0.0,0.2471402937454034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742660465649918,0.12499377301377468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526965900576553,0.0,0.0,0.0682336012171509
parenting,upfrontanne16,2020/04/17,"Struggling with 5 year old I'm at my whits end with my 5 year old. He's defiant with absolutely everything. If he doesn't like something you say, he's yelling at me. Literally screaming. Then he'll yell about how he was yelling because I was yelling (I wasn't. I rarely do). 

For example, I ask him to clean up his breakfast. Que the screaming about not wanting to. Ask him a couple times then he is screaming at me to stop telling him to do it. This happens over EVERYTHING several times a day. Time outs don't help. I can't get him to stay in time out... and he just screams. 

Another thing is every time he gets told something he doesn't agree with I'm a liar. He'll scream ""Liar! Liar! You're a liar!"". I've explained to him over and over what it means to lie...he will also blatantly lie to me. (An example would be saying he doesn't have something I can see he's holding behind his back) 

Our other struggle is meals. The kid WILL NOT eat. For breakfast he has a few things to choose from that don't change. He handles this well. For lunch, I make whatever he wants with a fruit. 90% of the time once I make it, he won't eat it. Claiming he was kidding or even ""just talking to himself"". Then he begs and screams for snacks. I don't give in. He can have a fruit, yogurt, applesauce anytime. Then dinners he typically won't eat simply because he won't try it. We want him to take one single bite to taste it. Then we'll make him pbj if he doesn't like it. Nope. He'll scream at us for hours about how it's gross. He's ""scared"" to try it. Almost every time if we can get him to take one of the tiniest bites ever he says it's really gross and wants something else. We're pretty sure he's lying. 

I feel like every day is a fight and it's seriously embarrassing to even be posting this. I don't even know what to do anymore. I feel terrible but I don't even like being around him anymore. It's just constant arguing.",0.3679891217405213,2.6271064686716805,2.0642094598197644,95.38371140617501,87.0701754385965,5.200255959046553,21.521943155761747,6.6644487293756285,0.35399521143283685,1487,52,336,18,47,485,175,399,0.139,0.835,0.026000000000000002,-0.9838,0,0,4,0,4,0,63.0,5,1,0,0,17,27,6,4,13,0,37,12,0,5,3,47,65,18,0,8,10,0,2,4,0,10,0,14,1,2,21,15,12,2,6,0,0,0,17,21,1,2,5,20,36,6,46,47,2,40,0,0,1,0,59,14,0,5,28,187,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691707309660603,0.0,0.0,0.06941345851861337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910167517958661,0.0,0.0,0.17216338626539526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726987933751364,0.16229146655976645,0.0,0.0,0.06674339011810224,0.0,0.10582423197983956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182226883959207,0.0,0.0,0.09379932845376167,0.0,0.0,0.09604189856789587,0.0,0.11195688017209256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664524043103366,0.0725097709752475,0.0,0.0768785157145255,0.0,0.0,0.2293207723418965,0.07851503762946804,0.21939674503614892,0.0,0.15601942952362224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777678160439177,0.062009517367242424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360473309690262,0.0832659053608488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675643348490467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05817981629599427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547993653550817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047702686904550345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696232334313888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738178448108011,0.0,0.0,0.09455000592647846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18216276359020436,0.09243854108945017,0.11763505608809866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312984324452719,0.08830620708562817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05560592603486232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070791291913184,0.08690135381952148,0.0,0.06916789350786083,0.0,0.0,0.09805862923370866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672897123654445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251662429866436,0.0,0.072568195159,0.0,0.1814831834571244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180741870133892,0.0,0.13052471119954334,0.06976607956480545,0.07586651203840727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533134505402945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542940466375695,0.0,0.0,0.08294055799493298,0.0,0.11786220634306704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440900545967476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478616867213173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804309569297245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06165981197859291,0.0,0.0,0.11179195115921924
parenting,skadsh,2020/04/17,"14 months and throwing things down the stairs Hi all,

Our 14m old son has always loved throwing things around ever since he learnt about throwing months ago. At the beginning we encouraged it as much as possible with some small rubber sensory balls ( he was throwing before while crawling around).

Now that's he's walking around and relatively stronger he will literally try to throw everything around including his big foam mats, all his toys and pretty much anything he can lift up.

The issue is his play area is upstairs and he loves throwing whatever he can over the baby gate as well as through the stair railing. He does have a lockable play pen away from the stairs, but he's usually free to roam the upstairs area as it's safe.

We've tried telling him things like ""please keep your toys upstairs, if you throw your toys downstairs/at people it will hurt"" All renditions of ""don't throw, no throwing, toys stay upstairs"" We don't shout at him, but just use a stern voice. We've tried removing whatever he throws down from him..like a time out. He does respond to when he tell him not to throw...if we catch him in the act he will drop his toys. But a few minutes later  he'll try it again.

I know he's still relatively young. Is it a matter of just keep doing what we're doing or is there a better way?",6.849613445378151,6.5092486196078445,6.182591036414567,83.17808823529413,64.76470588235293,9.481792717086837,31.939775910364148,8.841846274778883,2.320036414565826,1038,35,210,14,14,317,144,255,0.027999999999999997,0.8290000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.975,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,3,0,1,14,11,0,0,14,0,16,2,0,1,4,32,24,16,0,1,8,1,0,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,10,13,0,3,1,8,1,14,4,1,1,0,1,2,16,11,29,19,7,52,0,1,0,2,38,20,0,3,16,113,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130261460859092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609499073287652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049263605992698,0.4540285688890749,0.0,0.0,0.11979584084416395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084979942971992,0.0,0.0,0.11276846621608068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22316226628282826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153362425204167,0.0,0.0,0.11459393833799705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364975328112551,0.0,0.0,0.13308286650842754,0.0,0.22666592216231926,0.0,0.0,0.07007382065666598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062292864458862965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301578187072019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354773188296602,0.0,0.18746278117694648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337958263408113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839642629683091,0.0,0.0,0.13996301429522273,0.0,0.14374356481867956,0.0,0.12971917767588995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547406651239943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590415466191152,0.1018262494194642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228912752467629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541274458683755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434962291531777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34627211360269144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101240215227808,0.14042955976849825,0.0,0.0,0.10120812225336016,0.0,0.0,0.11464297392771615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,getbackjack78,2020/04/18,Any tips on getting a 2 1/2 year old to stop sucking her fingers? She only does this while sleeping or falling asleep. Is this even something to worry about at this age? Seems to me that trying to ease her out of this habit would be easier now than braces later.,3.819423076923077,5.329581326923076,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,72.26923076923076,5.9692307692307685,24.538461538461537,5.985473137389443,0.5889846153846157,207,6,41,1,4,64,45,52,0.12300000000000001,0.785,0.092,-0.1926,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,5,6,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,10,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,2,7,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248068739990504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28929425008943904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21834607745031534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271528006416922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468898563461145,0.0,0.0,0.2514222591549419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009491396283747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33082041546980084,0.0,0.0,0.2544979228955584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763810813787629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444325624614755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357217360919256,0.0,0.2348357358883713,0.0,0.0,0.21288375908433324
parenting,Kurthemon,2020/04/18,"Fatherly instinct when waking. I'm a new father to a 10 month old and I'm experiencing unusual occurrence when I wake in the night.  This has never happened before fatherhood...

A couple times a month I'll be laying in bed and feel like my son is about to roll off of the bed. He does not sleep with us and he sleeps through the night. As I fear hes about to roll off of the bed ill attempt to grab him amd cuddle him only to eventually realize hes not there. 

Last night while my wife and I slept alone I woke up to go pee but acted as if I carried him out to the bedroom door with me and placed him on the floor then realized hes not there. 

I have no history of anything like this and no mental health disorders.  I usually sleep through the night without a problem, it only started about 3 months ago.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this?... or heard of anything like this? 

Thanks you.",3.3538437253354414,4.7803738121547,4.5770047355958985,85.27493093922655,73.30939226519338,7.8233622730860315,26.740726124704018,8.418075326091056,1.7232869771112873,704,25,146,12,14,232,107,181,0.03,0.8370000000000001,0.133,0.9611,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,7,7,0,1,12,0,8,10,7,0,1,21,18,15,0,2,7,4,2,4,0,0,2,1,5,0,5,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,3,5,19,5,28,14,0,30,0,0,0,1,16,9,0,2,23,90,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990846486706536,0.0,0.0,0.12841485736345293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866957530248814,0.12704103311347312,0.3060963047113465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550521633549202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719109252098158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142101744714215,0.0,0.10850331075058528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035766144450793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952171190742654,0.06269239126800996,0.08857752253092667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046561204428661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964276138672786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317941461995656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106730536527064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24229838287653865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495140549980632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968996932987372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562769722786292,0.11974901916974096,0.0,0.4654198277744643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010524014117758,0.0,0.0,0.1885979241292824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295417586737203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864040131705855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722346054018713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775981077569571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415209850551584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229878396328429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491430900641319,0.0,0.13655599054383424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952064241628925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KeeperofKeysAndRAM,2020/04/18,"Mounting a baby camera safely Hi all, hope you can give me some advice. We just adopted a new born and bought a baby monitor with camera. We purchased Infant Optics DXR-8 Video Baby Monitor with Interchangeable Optical Lens https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00ECHYTBI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_Ka3MEbG26E69X. It comes with a single screw to mount it somewhere but also states to keep the cord 3 feet from the crib, so trying to get an optimal view while being safe seems impossible. What has everyone else done?",8.130664556962024,11.941983632911393,6.33466772151899,67.23465981012663,67.10126582278481,8.000632911392406,25.064873417721518,8.841846274778883,2.470530379746836,413,12,54,8,8,121,65,79,0.015,0.848,0.13699999999999998,0.8735,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,7,0,4,2,1,0,1,16,11,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,3,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,3,7,8,3,5,0,0,1,1,6,0,1,3,3,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061672254557114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505574288011328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698926304248507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206294325184373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26173399462073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993853554922504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163693853086215,0.3005597415725699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111919145980257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27848825278470396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30260101961364777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28522968107076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21271992495683364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teambagsundereyes,2020/04/18,"Overly sensitive 8 year old Tips on how to deal with an overly sensitive 8 year old daughter? For starters, she is a big daddy’s girl. He rarely tells her no, he always deflects a question in a way that says “not now, maybe later” but never a flat out NO. I am the main disciplinarian. She will overtly tell me she doesn’t like me because dad lets her do what I say no to. 

Leads me to today. This isn’t an isolated incident by any means, just the most recent. 

She let her younger sister play on her tablet. She has 2, one was a gift from my parents from Christmas that she barely touched. She got mad over a game her sister was playing that she has on her normal tablet, and was yelling at her. Cue me jumping in, not mean but sternly telling her to not yell at her sister and what the problem is. I don’t yell because she doesn’t tolerate things not going her way, it just doesn’t help. Cue instant tears. Anytime you tell her no, or something that isn’t her way, instant balling and waterfalls. 

I try as keep my cool, the minute my voice even tries to raise an octave (not on this occasion but any occasion) she tells me she doesn’t feel safe around me. We don’t do physical punishments in our house (it’s rare from me and my husband refuses to), so I’m not sure where this not feeling safe comes from. You tell her it’s homework time? Instant tears and she doesn’t feel safe around me and won’t do it unless my husband is around. 

How do I keep the peace but still get her to do things she needs to do without her balling and saying that she’s upset and doesn’t feel safe around me? No one has abused her, she’s typically a good kid unless things aren’t going the way she wants. She has that type A personality and so do I so naturally we clash in times like these. My husband has a tendency to baby her and I think I’m just a normal parent who sets boundaries and limits on the things she does and asks for. 

She’s currently in the shower to calm down because she hasn’t had one in a few days and currently is wearing the same pjs from 2 days ago. I figured a fresh shower and change of clothes would be a good start to the rest of the afternoon. Surely I can’t be the only one who has a sensitive child. Any tips on how to set and keep boundaries established while not overtly crushing their feelings?",3.4085714285714275,4.608655365180468,4.138965119805885,89.35689171974525,72.84288747346072,7.166296633303003,26.19599636032757,7.554174236665415,1.1754164513193808,1811,60,391,21,35,578,207,471,0.069,0.785,0.146,0.9901,7,0,1,0,2,0,43.0,3,2,1,2,17,18,2,1,29,1,42,1,1,4,3,77,64,30,0,6,19,10,6,2,0,3,0,7,3,4,22,24,0,9,10,5,0,5,29,4,0,4,5,14,67,14,50,52,5,57,0,0,0,0,76,25,0,3,23,267,89,3,0.0,0.09653120336052434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722201662013082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779137508617424,0.0,0.0,0.16621161566922268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901100306506777,0.07616548443854519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899404260013605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618675690922202,0.07018106357016711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508562397389253,0.08399423361392999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129684820252273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05381160232109191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059738948410086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04256584809820528,0.0,0.0926050276376891,0.1366699876924406,0.0651607399018563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05460908064563054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400794974201887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724863411196524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662163495518773,0.0,0.0796063774651785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184974904746617,0.17749416300715973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06041058443988428,0.06283636292798529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596508640159247,0.0,0.0,0.17098268232609234,0.0,0.22083061355800615,0.0619632593463689,0.0,0.0,0.1809304145389072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113835951304268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795786713672304,0.0,0.0,0.09126748028382024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044394261452661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943698276478444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272125965494381,0.0,0.0,0.057666423852630176,0.0,0.06506378312802055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357311898490364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42726162486972297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21650596801414002,0.052204079180141263,0.0,0.0,0.09501415928784382,0.0,0.07722609433993897,0.0,0.0,0.11062851588453096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048054398896822025,0.25867527694005743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853626806844884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787549461831544,0.0,0.0,0.1049308173358141
parenting,andrewkd,2020/04/18,"When you weaned your child, when did you introduce meat? We are weaning our 5 month old son - currently having puréed vegetables and fruit in addition to his normal on-demand breast milk. Reading up on weaning I see that he should be having purées for the next couple of months. We want to give him a balanced diet with a good source of iron. My wife wants that to include meat, whereas I would be happy to include iron-rich non-meat foods. As an aside I think this would be a good opportunity to go veggie but happy to remain as we are eating moderate amounts of meat for the sake of convenience. 

What was your experience? Did anyone puree up a chicken breast?!",5.157619047619047,6.538532539682543,5.3223809523809535,81.83928571428572,68.84126984126982,8.13968253968254,27.49206349206349,8.515128840125781,1.900958730158731,524,17,98,8,9,165,87,126,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.9214,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,4,0,1,2,5,0,0,7,0,13,8,2,0,1,15,19,6,0,6,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,6,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,14,5,19,10,1,12,0,0,1,2,15,4,0,0,7,61,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993952110925642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22144632370090792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478876495789344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577109843949103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420048591339333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919883811829529,0.11374171928950275,0.33572862666231146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260963065484178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194927813498641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128465665757633,0.0,0.19609047394566528,0.0,0.0,0.2100087301154865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001898399391552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948222561035166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823886286402875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360904192516482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28434129033998234,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littlefoot2080,2020/04/18,"Annoying comments on baby boy. Should I say something? 19 weeks pregnant, and we have found out we’re having a boy. Little peanut was a total surprise (IUD failure) so we were just thrilled to find out that baby is healthy and viable. 

However, as word has gotten around some of our family and acquaintances have been making absolutely ridiculous comments about our unborn baby. For example:
“Get ready to have to tell a toddler they don’t have to hold their penis to brush their teeth!”

“Thank God! With a girl you have to worry about all the dicks, but with a boy you just have to worry about the one.”

“[Husband] better pick a football team!” 

“Hope you’re used to cleaning up after boys!” 

These things are so incredibly ridiculous and sexist that I honestly really don’t know how to respond without seeming like a defensive, bitchy pregnant lady or the crazy, neighborhood bisexual™️ trying to de-gender her child. 

I know they are just trying to make light of things, but doing it by sexualizing my unborn baby? And making a joke about my husband’s masculinity? And basically assuming that I’m going to be their maid because boys can’t take care of themselves? 

It makes me angry and I don’t know how to respond. Anyone else experienced this? Witty comebacks? Plans to stay in quarantine forever?",4.962983193277308,7.233399710084036,5.561084033613444,76.38759243697481,70.80672268907563,7.9532773109243715,28.70672268907564,8.697196308434329,2.503545546218488,1033,40,170,19,20,333,152,238,0.114,0.763,0.12300000000000001,-0.6046,1,1,1,0,0,0,30.0,4,2,5,3,12,13,4,0,11,0,21,2,2,8,2,44,39,15,0,2,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,7,9,14,0,2,7,2,0,1,5,4,0,1,5,4,19,9,34,32,3,11,0,0,0,1,28,7,1,5,3,115,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477911879889155,0.16819345035137254,0.0,0.14613036701524407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006573059842107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517938724625085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736423030685993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137128199702779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474819801029369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003224650978095,0.0,0.0,0.17998454598966307,0.0,0.0,0.0857628120055674,0.0,0.0932915462853936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304029238817264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706414661731316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019653184448358,0.1645237488919172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4382917927619033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112338602531446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051601794821492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054051336850542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943810689822132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637247560835346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749645318419918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342211554928607,0.0,0.14347636289055996,0.15112940159533608,0.0,0.0,0.2181110146101256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289729992857807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417748995107856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167308950075665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158236978585121,0.0,0.0,0.33340929798379404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PaigethePage,2020/04/18,"Would this be weird? So I have quite a few tattoos and one of my most prominent is one that takes up my entire forearm. This tattoo is a dedication for my daughter and includes her name. I’ve already been thinking about designs for one for my baby that’s due in August. Here’s why it might be weird. I have a step daughter that I love as my own. She’s a wonderful, bright, intelligent kid. I’ve already informed her father that if anything happens to us, god forbid, I want to continue seeing her. I want to get a tattoo for her as well. In my eyes, she’s mine as much as the ones I’ve given birth to. Her dad is ok with it, but I’m not sure if it would create issues with her mom or if it’s overstepping any bounds. I just know that she knows what these tattoos are for and I never want her to feel less than my biological children.",1.3095436105476672,3.3072376149425287,3.1856727518593644,90.45307302231241,80.89655172413794,5.703313049357674,22.30425963488844,6.794906146795322,0.5303066937119674,651,21,141,7,17,218,101,174,0.040999999999999995,0.8270000000000001,0.132,0.8751,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,6,1,12,3,2,0,2,30,27,13,0,8,7,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,13,5,0,2,6,0,0,1,2,3,1,4,2,4,26,5,22,20,5,9,0,0,3,1,21,3,0,7,5,102,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760902352790579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588060424373466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402280220609493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616141283451068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902908821216172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068774754135295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785756633598535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729922991356174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379631722115633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18077177899135896,0.0,0.1995751756298013,0.0,0.0,0.12526659108517055,0.0,0.1314261161939091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4618808047485016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124569332217585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578997357829964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060380995557175,0.0,0.12812264611677726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918804107087517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497510295140767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015261889177273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321371469716727,0.0,0.15376315954642508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847959341825044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242100310267928,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YoungDadday,2020/04/18,"SO wants child to eat everything we (parents) eat I have a 2 and a half year old and an 8 month baby. My wife thinks it is hipocritical for us to eat junk food and not allow our child to eat the same thing. For example, this morning she was eating some kettle chips and my son asked for some, so she poured him a bowl. I just don't think it's right. I understand the idea that if we don't want him eating junk, we shouldn't, but we're also adults who's bodies have already matured and we have the ability to excercise properly. 

Has anyone been in a sinilar situation? Do we just stop eating our guilty pleasures completely? Or just around him? Or is there a way I can explain to my SO that giving him everything we consume doesn't make sense? 

I hope this doesn't come off as me bashing my SO. This has just been a big source of tension between us, and I'd like to get it figured out.",3.418953341740228,4.331558032786886,4.601639344262296,87.14364438839851,72.49726775956285,7.816561580496009,26.09878100042034,8.139509932561175,1.3970768390079864,692,22,151,10,13,228,110,183,0.08800000000000001,0.8320000000000001,0.08,0.5528,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,10,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,10,0,17,9,1,2,0,40,29,16,0,5,9,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,10,15,8,1,6,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,3,0,26,3,16,25,3,12,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,6,5,104,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020537534318275,0.08711013058660574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616538231257873,0.0,0.0,0.09696951316288546,0.10183349992078328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099507468151835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938323097948592,0.11420952337530438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7802277810363989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957959330928028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171684790207966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056910677072291124,0.1044942010410057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819063895984284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296708612920512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053216992533113724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271066006933456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694573786136786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430220063234996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209522757613476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302439560845636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244026608377255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106915419060524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236729549854799,0.139594046627376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133984731951379,0.2620552928527841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849777461078754,0.08646242122650077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014642168708334
parenting,Awhelenqt,2020/04/18,"My 3yo is such a good, happy boy I feel guilty that I'm struggling. I know all parents are struggling having their kids at home but the thing about my little boy is that he's just so... good? We have minimal tantrums and he always means well he's just so *much*. It's a constant stream of him asking for things and I keep telling myself it's ok to not be doing activities and playing with him constantly but it's easier said than done when he's begging me to play. And how can you be mad at a 3 year old for just wanting to play with his mummy? 
I'm exhausted and it's 24/7 and my husband gets to go and see his dad to get away from it and he works upstairs in the office and isn't disturbed at all during working hours so it's me in charge of our son all the time.
I just want to cry when I look at my baby boys happy little face because he just loves me and wants to spend time with me and has no idea what's going on he's so innocent and I feel awful for just wanting a little break from it to just lie down and watch a movie. He's my best little buddy and such a good boy I just want some me time.",0.8547416069407774,2.4803233858921203,2.6366295737457577,95.6704932101094,80.70124481327802,5.377668804224824,19.25330064126745,6.1124844417494595,-0.2532755186721989,860,20,204,6,22,285,128,241,0.102,0.6920000000000001,0.20600000000000002,0.9821,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,1,3,19,18,2,3,9,2,12,3,1,1,3,45,33,23,0,5,11,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,12,18,0,1,5,3,1,2,3,6,1,0,2,6,26,12,29,29,6,26,0,0,3,1,29,13,0,1,10,130,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630211352161623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819808743377436,0.0,0.1087383351909489,0.0,0.0,0.07055195043264989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145840978646374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25014027308778863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713120845654727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843871344322515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703979379827427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120935181812922,0.0,0.13155154137087186,0.29122307933032826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464075022297165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609323536224513,0.0,0.1139772268148971,0.0,0.0,0.13065252148687867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287199808762196,0.0,0.0,0.0636058025469103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639938691258377,0.0,0.0,0.09718958576407397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445679024014548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607107477619087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507970974536287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144608117674807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851178559433346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009199956123657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222707697471544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419860238828063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011588800918763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378049407687394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20246080734313748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413221941502254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406109292605313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685152304316055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453056874966994
parenting,gummybee,2020/04/18,"Stroller sleeping Do babies sleep better in a stroller when it's reclined? I want to start using a jogging stroller when my daughter reaches 6 months. The main purpose is to go out during her naps, which last up to three hours. I could get something nice and small, or something that doubles as a bicycle trailer, but these options don't recline to near flat. So I am leaning towards the Thule Urban Glide 2 because it reclines. But I am worried a bit about it being too big, and also unsure whether it's even ok to run while she's not sitting upright. So far she's only been lying flat in her current stroller so I could use some advice from anyone who's been through the next stage.",6.1364925373134325,6.39099007462687,5.736529850746268,83.76807835820897,66.16417910447761,6.998507462686567,36.89925373134328,5.148860815047168,2.218659701492537,546,27,101,1,8,168,97,134,0.077,0.853,0.07,-0.6124,1,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,7,1,10,2,2,2,0,15,16,14,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,10,3,15,11,4,23,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,3,9,70,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027361173853112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591273027862435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506701398675487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647105930261054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834893003242308,0.2265022036724391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312939215514463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370311905674763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839388887933528,0.0,0.11790930433558865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431498382762045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691147684802914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559962265614128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064543029536368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778937688956635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152372776760273,0.0,0.0,0.3194392478084592,0.0,0.0,0.14684748967598266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35837287383845146,0.0,0.0,0.1223704779044447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21069464463599047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rare_bookcollector,2020/04/18,"How to word this text without being an asshole My son has been close friends with a set of twins in his class  for 5 academic years straight.  We have gotten to know their parents; not sure we would have sought each other out on our own but they are wonderful people and we've become friends.   They include my daughter in their play and the four go back and forth between houses a lot.

The dad helped us with hurricane prep when a Cat 4 HAD to come a week after I was hit by a truck - bc of his life experiences hurricanes dredge up bad memories for him; but they were thinking of us instead. So basically I have a reverse grudge against them - I will never forget their kindness. 

In general, we have a lot more $$ than they,  but especially now that the dad (earns most) is furloughed while my husband & I are essential/WFH/getting overtime pay. The kids turn 9 next week.  I feel for a kid having a birthday in quarantine - that's got to suck!

Is it bad to send the mom a text like, ""Hey, happy almost-birthday to Araminta & Ebeneezer! This one will be memorable at least!  Sorry we won't get to wish them a happy birthday in person, but we were hoping to send a gift that would keep them from getting bored during lockdown. Can you please provide us some suggestions?""

I really don't want to look weird or condescending in any way. I've had people solicit cards for older kids celebrating another year in quarantine (& obliged). 

I will probably do about $30-$40 per kid; a toy and a book is my standard.",5.7739400834281405,6.181899911262796,6.102360637087599,80.30418183541904,66.95221843003411,9.378005309063331,32.318733409177106,9.2995712137729,2.7359618505877883,1186,47,231,21,18,381,189,293,0.09699999999999999,0.7509999999999999,0.152,0.9688,1,3,0,0,0,0,46.0,9,1,10,1,7,14,1,0,20,0,28,1,0,1,2,44,46,13,0,5,7,7,1,1,2,6,1,0,0,5,7,15,0,1,5,3,1,4,5,5,0,2,8,2,34,9,37,29,8,31,0,0,1,0,42,13,1,7,13,154,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413861215271788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705051773385585,0.0,0.07751309734133449,0.11952226832445195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764673782768101,0.1903439263826357,0.0,0.12588648424595514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818721014406324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149832258334362,0.0,0.0,0.05763378628973132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761276673200942,0.0,0.17865596471048767,0.0,0.06477979134619227,0.0,0.09116349819192368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426763900177577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764011401988198,0.0,0.0,0.11321193122491552,0.0,0.1315223487216548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131430619569452,0.0,0.11869690081477782,0.06264268095163934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051034142583009,0.05568687417487145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571793718585214,0.0,0.0,0.1938104130702486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334968014402904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791156556540662,0.0,0.12122338450359507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723857674935326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656585501887296,0.0,0.0,0.1580444473524142,0.09952652039574113,0.0,0.12512031408253638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289413947606688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730211338114387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275958690207186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074286662183029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730364094256436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398197049738725,0.0,0.0,0.4113265169261032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723077597864438,0.09047527382722556,0.18286234076716112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107609082919947,0.1098766058034664,0.1236108952663299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194206993168844,0.0,0.0,0.1468040478189544
parenting,Mejiayodeji,2020/04/18,"Trying to stop my son from being a mama's boy any idea's >!Im a father twin boys that are 5. Child A is very independent, outgoing and does things on his own and is very articulate. My other son child B is not shy but does not talk as much, he would rather be on his tablet or play video games. He not clingy to his mom but you can tell he likes his mom more. The issue that im having is that child B is more of a mama's boy. I know its ok for him to love his mom but I feel like he depends on her too much rather then making his own decisions. I speak to my wife about it all the time and she loves it but if i was a mama's boy my wife would not talk to me. Its cute right now at his age to be one but im afraid that when he gets older it would be hard for him to get into relationships and  he might not might not make his own decisions. I want child B to make his own decisions and be more independent. Also for the femlaes out there can you explain to me, if an adult male was a mama's boy why you would'nt  want to deal with him but if you had a child that was a mama's boy you love it.!<",0.9781428571428564,2.1113927224489832,2.817704081632652,96.67961734693878,78.91836734693878,6.206122448979593,17.556122448979593,6.742157984588678,-0.4297387755102036,847,13,219,8,20,283,118,245,0.013000000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.16,0.9898,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,5,0,0,8,9,0,1,12,1,23,3,0,6,1,48,36,19,0,10,18,8,2,2,0,5,0,1,0,13,12,8,0,1,7,3,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,3,30,8,24,22,10,14,0,0,0,3,57,7,0,7,9,141,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360224993080024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959580901342479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067006779360713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20485681304298736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059182357609024634,0.08361822716470044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230420005525153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485090466927406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213154258430074,0.3792917512696297,0.12216640544862395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432583705382022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436626720924616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169178061952967,0.0,0.23438885915835594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24833622657591906,0.0,0.4112512443369293,0.0,0.0,0.17208566912209738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793139122842389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566441435892198,0.0,0.09995729163495502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785633053391757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815550054650887,0.1023040253684066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776066497038071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825090574262485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946706540029994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19315166663855868,0.1380744206635362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561649346266457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325866340435271,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Socyman,2020/04/18,"My wife wrote a children's book. Here is a Read Aloud Video as a free resource for parents [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udjKVfwK6y8&feature=share](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udjKVfwK6y8&feature=share)

Hey everyone!

Just wanted to share my wife’s first published children’s book titled “Togetherverse” which she wrote and illustrated.  

The story is about how everything and everyone is part of a whole and everyone plays a role in something bigger. Only together can we be strong. I believe that this simple message is super important in general but felt especially compelled to share it now in a time of global crisis.

She posted a video of her reading it out loud on YouTube for everyone to watch. Hope this can help spread the message and help children, parents and families stay positive.

Thanks a lot!!",9.709971367215463,13.30437713385827,6.659183965640661,67.88329277022193,61.1259842519685,9.027630637079458,33.59269863994273,9.573946990214177,3.7306755905511815,684,28,90,14,11,191,86,127,0.039,0.7040000000000001,0.256,0.98,2,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,10,0,7,0,0,2,0,18,13,8,0,2,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,7,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,7,9,15,9,3,12,0,0,1,0,21,7,0,2,3,59,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32842549741040844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075367415680615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5792796643311118,0.13621032482247242,0.0,0.14287514961836606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551919847909764,0.0,0.0,0.12891493679798507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031719177537259,0.0,0.0,0.15053103343557378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288489713689262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526649123949825,0.0,0.0,0.33657387074861583,0.16412226396100776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515042114115506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031975087114559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667655321573295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615403861644263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953400519230247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883745373848086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939268217795071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692088050288073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jenga2289,2020/04/18,"Toddler is flat out mean to his dad I’ve seen posts about this before and know it’s a phase but my husband (M31) and I (F31) are lost. Our toddler (m3) has always been a momma’s boy, but recently has been defiant and just plan mean to his dad. For example, just yesterday my husband was leaving the house to drop off food to his mother and my toddler told him not to come back. Toddler now most times won’t give his dad a hug goodnight now and it just seems to be getting worse overall. My husband is trying his hardest not to let it get to him, but last night he was struggling emotionally. The hard part is that my husband is loving and tries so hard to do bonding activities with our boy only to be met with “No” and pushes. So I’ve been doing bedtime, bath time, middle of night comforts, etc. because he refuses his dad, which I know is not helping encourage that trust with daddy but my husband can only take so many rejections a day. 
We tried talking to our toddler together and separate about how it makes daddy sad, and sometimes that makes things better for a day but then we’re right back to where we started. Does anyone have any suggestions to help get through this phase??",5.196881258941346,5.8390748969957125,5.559845493562231,82.86780829756795,68.27038626609442,8.273419170243205,31.413161659513587,8.238735603445708,2.224104663805436,933,37,182,12,15,298,134,233,0.139,0.764,0.096,-0.8054,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,5,0,0,3,15,10,0,1,7,0,21,3,0,3,0,37,40,19,0,0,11,11,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,11,16,1,1,5,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,9,3,21,6,24,27,3,24,0,3,1,2,38,5,0,2,15,118,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879796827083384,0.0,0.0,0.08891733923790437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914263762973895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20108381648590706,0.0,0.07970654624203996,0.0,0.11126219305411444,0.0,0.0,0.11564146360329387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263316487996206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865128297366644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144238808947028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708087511449355,0.0,0.0,0.14582549546776552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581084967391118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494101727201106,0.12543134236578618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342601595595709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528356714494298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508727905317891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371817677264884,0.10658212391368806,0.0,0.13844981758256486,0.0,0.13370502759418226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273365427117152,0.0,0.11801076980174008,0.0,0.17455888663563346,0.13256423534950226,0.0,0.2848593097656397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454079169146971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888892106862094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415940558766606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522637907593318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291039974485044,0.0,0.0,0.11166337172486528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190337122067036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931924642771844,0.0,0.09254849521249003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366926788293034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983108852699947,0.10509527247062636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868672799766404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524876501522248,0.0,0.0,0.12494124072496282,0.0,0.2663205550651833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332496996725512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DocAndersen,2020/04/18,"Fun STEM/STEAM Activities to Do With Your Kids at Home Looking for educational activities to do with your kids?

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 [https://wehavekids.com/parenting/Some-fun-activities-to-do-with-your-kids](https://wehavekids.com/parenting/Some-fun-activities-to-do-with-your-kids)",37.35869565217392,47.8386242173913,24.295,-58.63749999999996,2.478260869565218,11.556521739130435,41.934782608695656,11.20814326018867,6.085626086956522,259,7,16,4,2,69,16,23,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.5106,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,6,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,10,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076852380141025,0.5693524420659958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23500225390774146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196736456173784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5693524420659958,0.0
parenting,Mark-Delta,2020/04/18,"20 year old moving out I am sorry if this turns out to be a long post. I don't even know from where to start, yesterday our daughter told me and my wife that she is moving out and will live with her guy friend. It came as a shock to us.

Our daughter has been the love of our life, we have been protective about her but we gave her own freedom too, she has been a very good kid since the beginning, she never gave us any trouble,  we provided whatever she wanted but we never spoilt her nor she threw any tantrums.

I own a few hotels and restaurants, she wanted to work somewhere else and we did not mind, it is good to be independent, we asked who is that guy friend, she said he is her colleague and they know each other since the past 1 year and they are moving in together. 

We did not know about this guy before, she never mentioned it to us, it is a shock to us that one day she comes and say now she will live with some guy. We don't even know who he is, I don't mind her being in a relationship with someone, but as a parent I am so confused at the moment. 

I have been crying all day, it is hard for me, I know this is the empty nest syndrome, I don't even know what to do. Me and my wife will also hear shit from our parents and other family members as they are religious and they will give us crap once they come to know that our daughter has moved in with someone else before marriage from another religion and culture. 

Me and my wife are open minded people, humanity comes first for us, but it's hard to take in that our daughter is moving with some guy who we don't even know. So many things are going in my mind that will she be safe, what if that guy is bad, what if that guy just wants to fleece out money.

I know my daughter is an adult and she has her own rights and I am no one to stop her and I am not stopping her, it's just that I feel very hurt, our lives revolved around her and she not being there will leave a void.",3.4879084967320253,3.91595909803922,4.301372549019612,91.13839869281048,71.99019607843138,7.318954248366014,23.44444444444445,7.093109894594671,0.5598375816993464,1504,34,348,13,27,484,168,408,0.11900000000000001,0.815,0.066,-0.9627,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,22,0,5,2,16,15,3,1,14,0,48,4,2,1,4,82,79,30,0,6,13,10,3,0,2,6,1,3,0,10,28,41,0,4,10,1,1,11,14,9,0,3,12,6,71,6,39,56,8,44,0,1,0,1,90,14,2,6,18,256,99,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049007896768982984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833489193744268,0.06426044273624326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054554755673342385,0.05729121995495385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116864477630032,0.0,0.0,0.10429443388400536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700912884510857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836932355817532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731636574704901,0.07904477522294931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023879647127692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190705632253538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05777204496079107,0.0,0.030986465329544636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052127186181111534,0.0,0.0,0.09469400170156883,0.0,0.0,0.05878812238128345,0.03482847280782532,0.10280234392057402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247578006048478,0.0,0.0,0.10979484608468597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907025934536372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560459021997234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031152120615037,0.0,0.0,0.06488972107126485,0.0,0.0,0.043285910294354114,0.0,0.0,0.16234171663418262,0.05423342008999763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055310191588179465,0.0,0.0,0.06213122130496745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475129549166845,0.0,0.0,0.3256700133529215,0.0,0.0,0.14179540442289906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430607337327443,0.0652642668420329,0.08305373061959087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609477117227808,0.0,0.05850144299248524,0.04248583256176917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869205861651554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579487833881922,0.0,0.05233524443455781,0.058294052249343586,0.048734605665833895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290599537110267,0.10138766276381382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038495702279137,0.0,0.0,0.06860116654019066,0.04337633768511402,0.0,0.0,0.10247046301863844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046077098798882325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040713622208582184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058558417789938415,0.0,0.0,0.06665817531044993,0.0,0.0,0.4422945524272781,0.0,0.0,0.10112958765817746,0.10843869072567702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446146663097262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789283305995347
parenting,LundqvistNYR,2020/04/18,"Looking for good physical indoor activities for my 3 1/2 year old to help tire him out Hey guys,

So I have a 3 1/2 son who only sleeps for 9 hours total everyday. I don't think it is enough for him but he is a pretty light sleeper and just generally seems like he doesn't need much sleep. Anyway, we haven't been spending as much time outside because of the lock downs, and this has lead to a lot more down time. Just wanted to see if anyone has any fun physical activities you do with your kids inside that tires them out! 

Thanks!",4.5573412698412685,5.093146083333334,5.28640211640212,84.6416666666667,69.64814814814815,8.393650793650794,25.61375661375661,8.418075326091056,1.4059534391534387,419,11,89,6,7,136,83,108,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.9649,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,1,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,10,4,2,1,1,18,17,6,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,3,9,4,14,16,6,11,0,0,2,0,14,4,0,3,7,55,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155505428883382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352672268459784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792749432134428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19988924039548547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225966739575967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154943866467816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296678431301027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905127878896474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451163747193056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245226748518898,0.0,0.0,0.16446729835166524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844212506197345,0.14344336315384404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029969683402636,0.0,0.0,0.14713014937741334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681181785687374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415744043238688,0.17611285499284113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871865387636505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810604631415514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395722963747867,0.0,0.0,0.22560865255402374,0.4446928170338456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114103921622476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457774971626882
parenting,kekdkekkdjrjdkd,2020/04/18,I caught my 12 year old son masturbating at naked pictures of people. I caught my 12 year old son masturbating at naked pictures of people on the internet. Is he too young for this? What should I do?,2.4057692307692307,4.83477258974359,3.643269230769232,86.30798076923078,79.51282051282051,6.976923076923077,22.57051282051281,8.07648339933343,1.223405128205128,157,5,32,3,4,51,25,39,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,6,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,5,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7426546067167255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4906581543090524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4557616819484278
parenting,shaniganstrouble,2020/04/18,"My first ever post—boys have questions So I’m a single momma it’s been 3 years in September I have a 5 yr old and a 4 yr old and. My big one is getting to the age where I’m sure he will be asking questions about his dad...

The story there we were together for 5 yrs he had a son and it was hard to leave him behind. But after years of asking him to pay attention to the family HE wanted I was tired of the kids being picked after beer. So I kicked him out bought him a plane ticket and gave him a check, at first I tried to FaceTime and whatever but it just wasn’t working he was being a real jerk so I stopped and then went to court I now have sole custody 

But I don’t wanna bash him to his kids so when they ask where is daddy and as they get older how to I address this without bad mouthing?",1.426114285714288,2.562888268571431,3.4450000000000003,92.6275,77.74285714285712,6.142857142857142,20.5,6.5431188927421005,0.09602857142857113,617,14,145,5,14,210,106,175,0.07400000000000001,0.892,0.034,-0.5207,0,0,1,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,2,3,13,3,1,0,11,0,17,3,1,2,2,25,28,18,0,2,5,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,4,9,1,1,3,2,3,1,3,2,0,3,10,1,21,1,21,14,1,22,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,2,15,101,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4676282756003245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921798802888452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082268313777514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718430493748015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836519127472632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422584776957695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936312691762696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654984709466412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499237547605181,0.0,0.11298494738039085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968744823293016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735660121127054,0.0,0.0,0.18978260634494454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939915505100978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571471499171838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19163904456775455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320311839555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834549011616248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456637833538908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072800726671269,0.0,0.12138613612641452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147456402760791
parenting,THE_some_guy,2020/04/18,"What's the Tooth Fairy's routine at your place? My not-quite-6 year old has his first really wiggly tooth, so I'm trying to figure out how to mark the occasion when he loses it. What's the ""exchange rate"" for your kids? Is the drop-off location under the pillow, or does The T.F. have some other way of handling the swap? Any ideas are appreciated!",4.241739130434779,5.489378971014496,5.012289855072464,83.70626086956524,70.8840579710145,7.838840579710146,23.94492753623189,8.238735603445708,1.2633744927536237,275,7,55,4,5,89,57,69,0.034,0.905,0.061,0.4276,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,7,0,4,2,2,1,0,6,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,7,5,1,9,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,2,4,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23207197006706656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29864338822492753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902799192094869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852467582855689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817883539905605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581003148456419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565493942932709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186231612643195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316966012593144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708803513163812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21976353519418046
parenting,artymcflarty,2020/04/18,"How to get only child to play by herself? Our nearly 8 year old is an only child. We are home schooling due to lock down and my husband still has to work. I do understand that she’s not seeing any of her friends and not having any time to chatter and have fun with them. But I’m starting to get short tempered with her - which isn’t fair on her. The issue is that unless she’s on the iPad (watching BBC kids programmes) then she won’t spend any time on her own playing. So she only either watches something or demand to play with us. We do play with her obviously but there are times I need her to entertain herself so I can get on with my work (self employed work from home) without plugging her into a device. 

She has loads of toys which are completely ignored. I’ve tried to talk to her about it and encourage it but that doesn’t work. I’ve tried saying she has to play with things or she won’t get screen time later and I feel like I’m almost making playing a chore or punishment which isn’t helping.  Is this normal? I remember playing on my own for hours when I was younger. I know that creative play and being bored is so important for their development and I’m totally failing! Even when we are doing school stuff she can’t go 5 mins without needing help or attention. 

Any suggestions welcome. I find myself either getting irate as she won’t go off and do something on her own or just feeling really tired and giving in with too much screen time so I can do stuff or just have an hour to myself. 

By the way, we are as active as we can be- going out for 4/5 mile dog walks over the hills everyday (we live on very edge of a village) which she loves and she does loads of running when we are out.",2.7683782172314397,4.466426322766574,3.7330358739938383,89.61046109510086,75.39769452449569,6.400039749577662,24.645632515154524,7.0983637204850245,0.921743992845076,1342,44,279,14,29,431,175,347,0.076,0.762,0.162,0.9785,1,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,9,0,2,5,15,20,2,0,9,0,34,2,0,2,2,61,56,32,0,3,18,1,2,1,1,3,1,1,3,4,14,27,0,1,7,10,1,5,11,5,0,0,1,8,47,15,51,50,7,42,0,1,5,1,48,17,0,7,20,198,61,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339154838198412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808584755974079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825732312522288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035615841484272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681966985422654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441420814962653,0.07376295342910114,0.0,0.0,0.09437007873682944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977191895747919,0.0,0.2697234597873487,0.09904832935546788,0.17604076669996171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841472284130854,0.0,0.20713951808168304,0.0,0.20336402686217536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776782982923244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056744371218766285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050443509316453375,0.0,0.09117304179817276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931885872729318,0.0,0.06892123519251324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590179574285197,0.1531194849477309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011646315634678,0.0,0.0,0.10834517036830583,0.0,0.0,0.2355824507766553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661456096843992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696391886375733,0.0,0.0,0.08210980513531724,0.0,0.2089922340623627,0.08227814574645596,0.0,0.10771392218180016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897623012064815,0.0,0.0,0.07308200376607042,0.0,0.08245684968688954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363967257199921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298971345628067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859576558025292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010341496400729,0.11867250879908214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402020981077244,0.0,0.0,0.10748854203910868,0.12419894452152618,0.0,0.0,0.08519337155373134,0.0,0.08195630273447392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906168807760086,0.0,0.300673536335765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649063593149318
parenting,aidanestrada,2020/04/18,"all of your parenting techinques are complete shit and here’s why your kids dont like you because the civilization you live in has tought you that because you’re a parent you know what’s right. civilization isn’t something that just happens to gently exist without us having to do anything. every newborn child is born in a chimp like state, and your shitty civilization is only kept in place by conditioning them for years on end to accept it for what it is. and because we’ve gone through this conditioning, we can observe a human family raising a human child and it doesnt seem unnatural- but the way that you guys  raise them is so very unnatural. medical neglect, not listening to your child, and not seeing your child as an equal are all things that parents do. you guys dont realize that you cursed your child with existence. youre forcing them to face the harsh reality of the world, and yet you believe that you have any right to be angry at them for anything? your kids are your fault. take some fucking responsibility.",6.891511226252156,7.676443777202074,6.884572538860105,74.34979490500866,64.5958549222798,9.749395509499136,33.181778929188255,9.725611199111238,3.1283820379965466,831,33,148,16,12,265,114,193,0.121,0.86,0.019,-0.9645,3,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,18,4,0,4,7,2,0,9,0,18,4,2,0,2,22,27,9,0,0,5,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,12,13,8,0,2,4,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,2,2,24,3,21,24,4,16,0,1,1,1,40,9,2,2,6,102,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608717318853256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23255167384725325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25840100857698056,0.0,0.0,0.15919394264778194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481477834547675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311993314780295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514768200613502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904927241711084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320274650870714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062729982902774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798135607428555,0.12494894887621975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765343329125868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13806168264974078,0.0,0.12476831740615199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234240731617087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746314705205616,0.0,0.0,0.4706825935776923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762585671084338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413346559782977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259584633370423,0.12863197457446812,0.0,0.0,0.14503989535045464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877775024570924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623816614644092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387180776068524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996354433226118,0.0,0.0,0.11658526921199222,0.0,0.11215541119759438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749905333836006,0.0,0.0,0.13620578732280644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099098379104092
parenting,ruthxpina,2020/04/18,"8 year old won’t sleep My youngest sister (8yrs old) has a very difficult time going to sleep. We don’t allow screen time after 7, I have a meditation/ lullaby speaker in her room, she has a set schedule (up at 8 bed at 9). Her sleeping problem has never been this bad (got worse after her school closed). I don’t know what to do. If she comes to my room again at 12 am at night I will lose it.",2.4475000000000016,3.1552849404761933,4.058095238095241,90.90357142857144,74.59523809523809,7.028571428571429,23.523809523809533,7.1686216300943375,0.6281809523809523,301,8,71,3,6,101,59,84,0.183,0.795,0.023,-0.9263,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,11,3,3,1,1,8,15,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,2,11,0,11,11,0,23,0,1,1,0,7,9,0,1,11,42,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944157632955914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480984004467273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153321796875583,0.0,0.16230501420155236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152732643140133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22703145574412295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651536174637593,0.0,0.0,0.1904399949485331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4258906010728917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418061783531265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20538023956632115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6092422552032144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366651222160651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744196393390276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068072819456337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068296817624558
parenting,3bagsofCharcoal,2020/04/18,"How to support fellow parents while social distancing? I have several parent friends that I'd like to do something nice/encouraging for and texting just feels inadequate at this point.  I'd really like to do something kind, but I'm really struggling with how to do that without seeing them.  What else can I do?  Has anyone else found a way to say, ""I'm here for you"" from afar?",5.329583333333332,6.562238347222222,6.0871111111111125,77.069,68.30555555555556,9.093333333333334,31.06666666666667,9.3871,2.854346666666667,299,12,54,6,5,98,51,72,0.08199999999999999,0.779,0.139,0.2848,2,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,0,4,6,0,1,1,0,7,0,0,2,0,9,13,5,0,0,3,2,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,5,11,12,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,3,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377009921302377,0.2017823906086265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290265571944501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995758635852028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21592821769534568,0.15215089710122393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20507669484183325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924242338841904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373443122597456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861665015308495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25232222025781315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566100035628375,0.0,0.0,0.15693108365390288,0.0,0.0,0.2224796240977514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074964633891115,0.0,0.3032191822227613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058784155516449,0.0,0.0,0.223478629722332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563172247466735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983756950635144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lokigivesmeloves,2020/04/18,"I feel like I'm failing I'm struggling right now. 

I have a 4 year old daughter and 3 month old son, a wonderful supportive husband, a beautiful home, but I feel like I'm failing my children. My sweet little boy, it's been a struggle so far. He's had stomach issues it seems like since day one. I've cut out dairy for almost 2 months, he had his tongue and lip ties cut, I do his stretches every 4 hours, every day while he heals, but still he cries. All day he cries, at night he cries. I feel so helpless. Right now he's finally resting in my arms, but I know tomorrow he'll cry.  

And my poor daughter, she misses her school and her teacher and her friends. All day she asks to play and I try, I really do, but all day I'm trying to keep her brother from whatever pain he seems to be in. Still, she loves her brother so much, and me, too. She gets frustrated and stomps to her room but if she catches me with tears in my eyes she tells me to take a deep breath and everything will be alright. She shouldn't have to worry about why I'm sad.. I try to have activities for her, try to find something special everyday, play outside, do something artistic, something educational. I feel like I'm neglecting her, like I'm choosing my son. I feel like I was selfish and brought this beautiful little boy into the world just to be uncomfortable and in pain his entire life so far. I don't know where I'm going with this, my heart is just heavy right now.",3.268342064714947,4.455710972881358,4.279545454545456,88.26341679506935,73.16949152542372,7.397534668721107,27.30739599383667,7.84624498591911,1.4599152542372882,1127,41,243,15,22,366,146,295,0.2,0.633,0.168,-0.9206,0,0,3,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,0,2,14,28,3,2,6,1,17,11,6,0,3,42,45,22,0,2,8,7,5,6,1,3,4,0,2,3,4,15,0,2,12,3,1,3,2,14,0,1,5,7,41,14,22,34,5,43,0,6,1,1,41,19,0,5,27,127,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976165749977012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380143576787097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938619638201684,0.289052391397847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510513779236482,0.0,0.08056278299111155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226623755440092,0.2561557522056876,0.0,0.09819639811898376,0.08192946926866661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925575426248641,0.0,0.046833276405992434,0.0,0.05094456060095893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622400434188184,0.0,0.0,0.08991637502140028,0.0,0.08827748695442418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356102294634612,0.0,0.07967628027925182,0.0,0.0,0.0985277596493805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633154859337654,0.2627618839571765,0.1796859507522925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090373134539393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309981827880836,0.0,0.06589582127076994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412120441827102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812450778711284,0.0,0.060742482681221774,0.0,0.19076687040606294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742577274951706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22965658411499024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907206131816013,0.0,0.1632100441272452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741512548994136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207028090912808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431734724149717,0.0,0.0,0.1874226866491487,0.0,0.0,0.1017225751397986,0.0,0.0,0.06739823376776427,0.0,0.07834943845525806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24343909938556665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808862889276757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721091429857598,0.0,0.09103391926904916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772531491040685
parenting,koriesha,2020/04/18,"Developing right or not? Any similar experiences would be helpful NOT looking for medical advice as I will be taking him to drs once it is safe to do so (due to lockdown etc)

I have a 2y old boy. He has always been on the smaller side genital wise but I have just left it, it will grow right. Put it out of my head, stopped worrying about it until a couple weeks ago. We went and visited my family and his cousin who is exactly the same age (11 hours younger actually), and they had a bath together, as kids do. So he was at MOST 1/3ish the size of his cousin. I'm like ok, it's fine. I'm not an expert on size so what would I know. 

Now we are in lockdown and I'm like sweet, perfect time for toilet training. So we are doing ok, sitting on the toilet happy as, yay. First couple of days, there were a lot of accidents as expected but finally timed it right and he went on the toilet. Only problem is, he was so small, it kind of just went straight out as it's not facing down and none actually made it in the toilet. He thought it was hilarious obviously, I laugh, he laughs, praise him, tell him how well hes done and off we go. 

One of the times he was on the toilet  my partner helped him with it (partner is not dad so up to this point, hadnt really seen him naked) and mentioned to me, in a worried, loving kind of way like, is this going to be a problem for him. At that point I just shrugged it off but after not being actually able to get it in the toilet I figured I will take him to drs.

Have done some research online but cant find much, just that it may be a hormone problem hence my decision to take him to drs.

SO, has anyone else dealt with this...(I dont want to call it a problem)...and any experiences could be good to know. Obviously I just worry about my son and I was happy to leave it until it's become clear it's a bit of an issue (not for him as such but because toilet training is back off the cards again for now until I work something out)",1.9872563331902096,3.4397959902676405,3.9390103048518665,88.3523024903392,76.93187347931874,6.976413339058253,23.523758408472876,7.724431198458867,0.983865836553599,1516,47,337,22,34,516,198,411,0.062,0.757,0.18100000000000002,0.9956,0,2,1,0,0,0,55.0,4,0,1,4,22,24,0,0,21,3,43,7,2,2,5,64,63,32,0,8,18,4,0,3,2,6,4,0,1,4,25,18,0,2,6,1,0,8,11,3,1,2,17,3,34,21,59,33,8,59,1,0,2,1,41,28,0,5,24,232,59,2,0.087892410092008,0.0,0.2573109408516577,0.0,0.0,0.08588744591338272,0.07791131842199889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731335261107224,0.0,0.0,0.1195397056434646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145641673665622,0.0900561607837494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758383808605603,0.0,0.05357839740423174,0.09707026159066558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595574788583812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897479776645037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017493758796789,0.19450256005289804,0.0,0.05668333335167591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988890223424253,0.1030092500393198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342283052414225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802327056193587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195128460239506,0.08285714201056445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628183910873013,0.08033207051883097,0.0747612391244035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459201566476267,0.0,0.09990256427334712,0.07371998355802406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871262097913344,0.0,0.0,0.09020296971532564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782485958436548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655631936285578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173684097102124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305283972472167,0.09660674000293423,0.0,0.0,0.09306537162526793,0.0954953607346878,0.0,0.0,0.12881937586150996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380748820815608,0.0,0.0,0.07472298399789676,0.0793263316568353,0.08316592357862776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854235641718262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461103444794628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222829929678532,0.09360254825003594,0.059558171751796486,0.0668461384586567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617347374903751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33640466531516183,0.0,0.08835614818902894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630612851872616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22517891394781508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766387132347366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348199039852163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982524621313764,0.0,0.07682184043520575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977675593557707,0.1537523134100659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051841220686089116,0.06976490407609481,0.07050198978735914,0.0,0.07902583212682633,0.2444314341350029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639867213405338,0.267777026542644,0.0,0.12487249274584407,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m0u55eboy,2020/04/18,"Clingy, regressing sleep, demonstrative. Our 2yo boy has suffered a major regression with sleep since arriving back in UK right at the start of lockdown. He’s gone from napping in thee day and sleeping a full night since he was 3-4mo, to losing his day nap and being wide awake for multiple hours during the night. He’s climbing out of his crib, and coming to our room almost 2-3 times a night. 

His clinginess is starting to reside a wee bit but he’s hitting some major independence too. Not great timing. 

Is this happening to others due to being in iso all together? 
Any suggestions on getting through this?",4.982807017543858,6.930091315789476,5.1868421052631595,80.43622807017546,70.05263157894737,8.224561403508767,29.333333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.49400701754386,486,19,85,9,9,153,83,114,0.079,0.9209999999999999,0.0,-0.8272,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,6,0,6,3,3,1,1,12,13,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,6,1,17,8,6,25,0,2,0,0,12,10,0,2,12,48,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719455482601351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677058068538652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203653088779976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746588575596765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791535801893868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22148107911190587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971284190543655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931394939714588,0.0,0.0,0.15184504686881692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16910250229552926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19210268168754707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4834224439551895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466417784130266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840851769674452,0.0,0.5155103755922426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430783831397939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025420922666165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DocZuko,2020/04/18,"Kids tv shows by topic Does anyone know of a place to find episodes of kid's hows by topic or lesson?  Like a database or something?  I'm doubting anything like this exists; maybe I'll start one.

I've recently been trying to find kids shows that show how to be a graceful winner, as my son is learning to 'rub it in' at daycare.  [This](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/42jlsk/kids_tv_show_that_demonstrates_losing_or_failing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x) is the best I could find.  I know there must be more than a few kids shows with a lesson along this line.  I've run into this issue before for other topics as well.  My son will have to learn this primarily from me and others, but having a Daniel Tiger to identify with makes it that much easier sometimes.  It would be great to have a place to search or even just flip through summaries of topics of tv episodes.",5.984063860667633,8.36887039622642,4.839119496855346,82.15284470246738,68.30817610062893,7.15645863570392,24.809385582970492,7.882392219407189,1.3465254958877604,719,20,124,9,13,211,104,159,0.011000000000000001,0.843,0.146,0.9598,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,3,6,7,0,1,8,0,13,0,0,3,1,26,18,9,0,3,5,2,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,4,11,5,0,0,9,6,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,5,6,26,10,4,8,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,4,4,79,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990418985577528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844926358262232,0.0,0.15117174545735948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631754578023915,0.0,0.1927847468128287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667173150943774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075955137259354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133396168097454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5037030719392646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253297688688146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173798753378052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191650065880368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794958101282045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262304024396613,0.0,0.1845541460606172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504268935354288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448176623487656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838606373269901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813843451904004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414233843130242,0.18168675871685386,0.0,0.13002578180563434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472213731029813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16517087197243369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049719286157918,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cvisathep,2020/04/18,"I'm tired of being pregnant. I'm 7 months pregnant and I'm just over it. I hurt, I don't sleep through the night and my 5 and 4 year old don't understand why I can't help them build blanket houses outside today. I'm tired! That's all, I hope everyone is having a good day :)",-0.62646370023419,1.33521736065574,1.9298829039812653,96.74737704918032,88.50819672131145,4.797189695550352,20.18969555035129,6.1826913282559595,-0.029118969555035783,213,7,51,2,7,73,44,61,0.19699999999999998,0.655,0.14800000000000002,-0.4497,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,6,3,1,0,1,7,12,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,3,11,1,7,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,6,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175075404659066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248417818972673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736071313635367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577184176557648,0.0,0.0,0.2337086410763117,0.0,0.27150768526186897,0.2518963715620249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878163438012384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208156130459038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469105667425965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23547259967201026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5408916023619765,0.22303941500257707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449583746372093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21232405788870792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152720278266466
parenting,throwawayturtletots,2020/04/18,"I’m a newly single mother with 3 young children going on the 7th week of isolation. My husband and I separated and he moved out in February, just before the pandemic hit. My girls are 1, 5 and 7 and they are the most amazing people I’ve ever met. I take parenting so seriously, it’s my whole life to ensure they’re happy and well adjusted. But through this isolation and the stress of a separation, having the girls with me 95% of the time is really getting me down. 

I just got a letter from my (two older) girls school that school will be remote (parents to be teachers following the syllabus they send us) for at least 5 weeks and most probably longer. I am no teacher. I told my husband how anxious this made me feel and it went straight over his head. Didn’t blink an eyelid. I have zero support. He has them one night a week and comes to stay at our family home with us so the girls don’t feel the separation too much. But when he’s here I’m still doing everything for the girls myself and when he does something like put them to bed, it’s “helping me”. That vibe itself is killing me and he just does not get it no matter how I say it.  I’ve started weekly sessions with a psychiatrist (Telehealth, over the phone) but I feel like it can’t help me fast enough. 

I feel like I’m drowning and this morning I can’t stop crying. I feel sorry for my girls that I’m so impatient with them but I don’t know how to feel better.",2.469278350515463,4.22707080068729,3.9935862542955327,87.16266804123711,76.38831615120276,6.992769759450173,24.01113402061856,7.839951260653429,1.1879090309278353,1117,36,233,17,25,371,161,291,0.094,0.802,0.10400000000000001,0.4636,2,2,1,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,5,1,16,11,1,1,17,0,17,2,1,4,1,44,42,24,2,0,8,5,6,3,0,1,1,1,2,7,13,19,0,1,8,0,0,7,8,3,1,3,6,7,34,8,26,32,7,32,0,0,0,0,34,9,0,2,18,152,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265763592461453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534008531456332,0.0,0.0,0.09909266304392064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651486506006593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307364476474247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19609864352068834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577005994010625,0.0,0.0,0.10134903666179156,0.0,0.0,0.10069675415150488,0.0,0.10562388595894792,0.0,0.3399129335781678,0.16008665444933656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707537265399592,0.0,0.06367644840120762,0.0,0.0896107824378293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927153751217966,0.0,0.0,0.11498813445864695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019972002270238,0.0,0.11238796344365876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395864697707636,0.0,0.0615757377175442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913907246425267,0.16421521108662104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060175117628308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190836584510164,0.082364276254537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051444839134926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592303316753432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488203178486376,0.0,0.0,0.07767630064715328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080098080801495,0.0,0.0,0.11263385984155695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177742259917086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910085205735553,0.0,0.22678638802806425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625594432523707,0.0,0.12542262951241526,0.07930439969848288,0.11942261038096195,0.08947744490392233,0.09367271409023924,0.12834453422905082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271447281263906,0.0,0.0,0.0842421664691871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533299935881849,0.0,0.0,0.1070616012775496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094494374007985,0.0,0.2695471451492309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594955823231009,0.0,0.10073984303381604,0.10386470535260084,0.0,0.12509167320805492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AngeluvDeath,2020/04/19,"Daughter loves being dizzy So I have a question about “normal” behavior. My daughter is 1.5 yo and she has hair past her shoulders from all directions. She loves running around while shaking her head back and forth. This causes her to fall over and then she gets back up and does it over again. She’s having a ball doing it and we have a room that’s pretty open for her to do it in. We keep her hair out of her face and I think she likes feeling her hair shake back and forth. I was wondering if behavior similar to this is common or something I need to be concerned about. Any insights are helpful, thanks in advance.",2.955454545454547,5.050894426229512,3.3403725782414315,90.86789120715349,76.04918032786884,6.075707898658719,25.02533532041729,6.980632752743323,0.9530065573770496,488,17,98,5,11,151,80,122,0.040999999999999995,0.799,0.16,0.946,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,8,6,0,2,3,0,12,8,6,1,1,24,21,12,0,3,2,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,12,0,1,5,1,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,4,19,4,16,18,1,22,0,0,0,2,20,9,0,4,9,73,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351204034935164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18786720586671254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.486822070348659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167925934042604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18467944219466514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067063831429063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025784843938234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21658430828041594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145330132618242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875789163048913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310176225214213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809373177965221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564808728335454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677093907858093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145819550502295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146999649552977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23640915095503656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246618944386834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429403334806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522365246621784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22886005588143615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shuey298,2020/04/19,"4 year old masturbating too much? I take care of my little sister and due to our age gap in basically another parent to her. 

She has been masturbating since she was a baby when she would lay on her sippy cup. We've tried not to make a big deal about it and draw attention or shame her. But lately she's been doing it more and more. She tries to do it every day in every spare moment, even looking away from an activity or putting her meal on hold to continue to go to town. She'll leave herself rubbed raw and red and complains that it hurts / is tender. 

All the articles I've read don't address the heavy frequency or that fact that she's hurting herself. We don't know where to go from here",4.602339593114241,4.973794429577467,5.604178403755871,82.98534428794993,69.49295774647887,8.846322378716746,27.045383411580595,8.841846274778883,1.779593740219093,547,16,116,9,9,181,97,142,0.09,0.887,0.023,-0.8176,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,5,0,11,2,0,1,2,18,18,10,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,7,6,1,1,2,1,0,3,3,4,0,0,3,3,17,2,17,13,4,21,0,2,2,0,19,9,0,3,9,75,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003164600995629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948331792026553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947725311720476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232015287150861,0.1969483092579659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617656760003396,0.0,0.3219098203048508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21713875866599164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090130325770469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498763347860222,0.0,0.2154953769910429,0.20227808381582424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914668800545945,0.0,0.0,0.16042097103657135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751709506812015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404324295196856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20045870262533708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21212134276126646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920425614479712,0.0,0.0,0.1910863208920364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802581524357212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436342628533456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593999399925825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570551598741354,0.0,0.0,0.12302003467484285
parenting,HappyCats623,2020/04/19,"Tsum Tsum game, secure and safe? My daughter (4F) has a Kids Kindle that she uses to play games and watch videos.  However, she occasionally will play games on her dad's cell phone.  She knows how to download games on the phone.  Today she came to me with a Tsum Tsum Disney game that she wants to play.  I usually don't have a problem with her playing age appropriate games but this one prompted us to input her DOB, including the year of birth.  I am overly cautious about putting our personal information out there.  Has anyone had any experience with this game?  If so, can you provide some info?  It appears to be a cute game directed at her age range but I don't want some random company to exploit the personal information that they are asking for.",4.693770806658129,6.461812640845071,5.399475032010248,79.34354033290656,70.47887323943662,8.543918053777206,28.402048655569786,9.095868883498916,2.394949295774648,593,22,110,12,11,192,95,142,0.032,0.853,0.115,0.8685,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,1,0,4,8,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,2,0,24,18,7,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,7,0,2,4,13,0,3,2,1,0,1,2,2,18,7,18,14,2,14,0,0,1,0,32,5,0,5,6,71,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033924326831865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514581392942855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341708357178746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864895459729885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450236224066576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766069523209246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697359693507027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4374298731654207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396815175897561,0.0,0.2518078715286756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374316816090398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013041237871892,0.21633970036908207,0.2758752219831925,0.0,0.29548656671824786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161304936016741
parenting,driago,2020/04/19,"Losing it Really need to vent. I've now become a stay at home dad. I've worked a full time job since I was 15, I'm now 37. This has been a very difficult adjustment for me. At first I thought it would be great. My wonderful (and hot!) wife and 3 sons are my whole heart. Staying home was gonna be awesome. Guess what? It's not awesome. My wife works full time from home anyway, so it's the five of us all the time. Now I'm a teacher for pre k and first grade. These kids have more daily work than I did in high school, and two very different curriculums. My two year old is a hurricane of attitude and tantrums. The 5 and 7 year olds have invented new ways to fight and argue. All I do is bounce around from child to child, helping with school work or picking up messes. And the chores. Neverending housework. And you can't take a break from the housework, or it punishes you. My wife and I haven't been intimate in two months, we used to be very ""active"". The kids are being difficult about absolutely everything. We can't take them anywhere because of the damn apocalypse so we're all in the house always. It's Sunday and I'm exhausted from a weekend of cleaning and cooking and cleaning and entertaining and cleaning. When do I get a day off? Sure seems like f-ing never.",1.5828001152903861,3.8780871906614784,2.8607436230004346,91.50599942354808,81.76264591439691,6.608963827640871,22.74809050295432,7.793537801064563,1.0774690589422105,996,34,213,18,27,321,148,257,0.09300000000000001,0.805,0.10300000000000001,0.6774,2,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,3,2,1,7,9,14,5,0,16,0,22,3,1,2,5,36,35,20,0,2,3,5,1,1,0,2,1,0,7,4,9,19,1,0,4,3,0,0,5,10,0,6,6,1,18,4,25,23,7,34,0,1,0,0,18,11,1,5,20,129,27,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191749368322708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833915773163354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733973140451187,0.1220022557517714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124215407594081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541462930831695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928072504232713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879265527157476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771451115594695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179039045463383,0.12169198752412955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090406980013172,0.07404378239725802,0.11671457798920724,0.332422586727943,0.0,0.0,0.12746422558328427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962157184811157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053968655219773315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358445156636365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817380175231039,0.0,0.0,0.08190997020778219,0.08519905349564143,0.10668983344838573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23183332101866586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707680661344207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22359724722884985,0.0,0.10056511774755124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137954370350407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354865049022448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411395384932434,0.0,0.16611505379038718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769855446644663,0.19324279914050607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237309760037685,0.0,0.132878344634831,0.09540812419860158,0.0,0.2734408306656231,0.0,0.08768365851821289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333259515165752,0.0,0.0,0.11979688008860065,0.32168551784167937,0.0,0.0,0.07847267302411742,0.0,0.0,0.1422744077307793
parenting,fran6678,2020/04/19,"Cutting toddles bangs Hello, thinking about giving me 2 year old bangs. I have zero experience and tried looking up some videos but haven’t found the right tutorial. 
I know parents who give their kids haircuts and save money, and I to would like to achieve this! 
Any recommendations? What’s been your experience with cutting your children’s hair? Any great tutorials out there you could share?",5.342049689440998,8.466462086956525,4.842691511387166,77.89956521739133,73.05797101449275,6.8414078674948255,30.146997929606627,7.957251820313856,2.342534575569359,320,14,52,5,7,97,57,69,0.039,0.7190000000000001,0.242,0.9554,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,1,1,2,6,2,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,13,11,4,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,8,4,6,7,1,5,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,1,3,30,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31609460981396864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855611020303782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546846917585352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548264320615028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4458992088986618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562337132169505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772689050157662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354417103571847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516652697882625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438760253180956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25806467506897074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984775422791616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891944801243967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779166856971258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509795493692173,0.0,0.0,0.14966492698034106
parenting,reimat0,2020/04/19,"Punishment for not remember skills from class Hello everyone!

Imagine if a 22 year old grown child keeps getting an A from elementary school to high school.  And then onward to the university.  One is earning to be in a president’s list, and finally getting a degree in say like Nursing with honours from the university.  Then one is getting a job and not able to remember any core curriculum courses.  

Is it possible that one parent can punish a child for lack of capability to remember core curriculum courses say like American history.  If a parent expects him/her to be successful, chances are that they would like to have a discussion about american history topic whilst having a typical dinnertime.  Nobody wants to take it to the extreme since it is unnecessary in a quotidian life.

All Opinions are well-appreciated! =)",6.826909090909092,9.001958324137933,7.861253918495297,62.17959247648904,65.75862068965517,12.169278996865206,39.388714733542315,11.741389052700956,5.831620689655173,667,38,99,25,11,225,90,145,0.059000000000000004,0.8079999999999999,0.133,0.8802,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,4,1,7,2,0,14,0,12,1,0,0,1,19,18,7,0,6,4,2,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,2,5,4,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,2,0,3,0,2,1,5,20,15,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,9,66,6,6,0.1498931913423486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101932510169346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432293678592101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420066439423306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23493901758916064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837038636046366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874586350843105,0.13323195564120222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587399391340922,0.2196907256769718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572876895650115,0.0,0.3047145171595739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328773006448701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898205137264585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5093992975786076,0.0,0.0,0.23840216405521186,0.0,0.30339982410803545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399319683189053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270102545161725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841088785239098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347719804653735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064798224838462,0.0,0.0,0.09652630078315162
parenting,cherrylabia,2020/04/19,"Our son is very active, and we can’t keep up. I have 2 year old who is learning by the minute. He has a good grasp of words and making sentences. He can ask for what he wants and knows what he needs. But, when I get on social media I’m blown away by how newborns know the alphabet and can identify four letter words. 🤯 I look at my son wearing a Spider-Man costume running shooting webs. But that baby on Instagram counted to 20🥺 my son counts to 7 then says random words. I guess what I’m asking is for help. I found articles and books that are helpful but it didn’t provide feedback. I would like to make a schedule if activities for my husband and I to follow, maybe things we could share with grandma’s. He’s very active and doesn’t really spend time on one thing. With the playground closed he doesn’t run out of energy. we’re open to try new things.",1.684526420737786,3.7142014406779684,3.003921568627451,92.07044865403792,79.79096045197741,5.7466267863077425,21.71119973413095,6.794906146795322,0.4362990362246597,673,20,144,7,17,218,118,177,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.9551,0,0,0,1,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,6,0,14,1,1,3,0,36,30,14,0,5,4,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,14,0,1,5,1,1,3,4,0,0,2,2,2,13,3,21,26,0,19,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,3,8,80,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34235031104531016,0.0,0.1720298563408347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461916229456037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007613086195724,0.0,0.0,0.0956629596972228,0.0,0.0,0.15357682401015216,0.0,0.0,0.20170690983659498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454581085217757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162748997595296,0.0,0.0,0.20125555638448414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945412836041164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375911767877212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24444330314101445,0.0,0.18395003492684311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357674183120996,0.0,0.17684053859000198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19213418948621488,0.0,0.1240742932924391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172994888612153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456096363586521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866488879224648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36493343756290897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676793834400013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243138775481332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30215577376326525,0.10799798971078836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300700292956734,0.0,0.0,0.11791134205330055
parenting,obedumbkenobe,2020/04/19,"My anxiety is off the charts today It’s just my son and I, and we’ve been quarantined for over a month. He used to go to a friends house every Sunday, but we held off on that until she stopped working. So he’s over there today and I did some much needed grocery shopping. 

I feel so lost without him!! My anxiety is so bad and I can’t pinpoint why. I feel like I want to go pick him up early, but I think time apart is good for us. Right??? I feel bad for saying that and it’s not *truly* what I even want, but I think it is good? I am a little worried because of covid19, but we’ve all been socially distancing.

Idk where I’m even going with this. Anybody else experience this? Is this normal? Am I being a jerk?",-0.2046946284032387,1.9331536556291409,2.138620309050772,94.67127115526121,88.60264900662253,4.94495952906549,19.647167034584253,6.42735559955562,0.07139705665930851,546,17,124,6,18,185,91,151,0.18100000000000002,0.7190000000000001,0.1,-0.9303,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,8,8,1,0,5,0,12,0,0,2,1,29,27,13,0,4,7,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,9,7,0,2,5,1,1,3,3,4,0,0,5,4,20,4,16,21,3,21,0,1,0,0,11,10,0,1,9,83,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396513771251532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26156811189307033,0.09548351492259956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084881731564665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691247154187686,0.0,0.13197212010080905,0.0,0.0,0.15321952358354954,0.0,0.0,0.2375987657848744,0.11190039494935848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101615814217695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670586033387036,0.2627567635907089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073627606960813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652416765779657,0.15698986794477346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098609399249476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502491975836674,0.0,0.11514507657498185,0.1161431995572295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346948163808538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376581627338718,0.0,0.12456279469189398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967011309945373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095424773204195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073134011653573,0.0,0.0,0.09133538903196524,0.0,0.29694417854455524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18841315725800648,0.13528273517948766,0.0,0.0,0.1847752903708541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133912823049793,0.0,0.0,0.1509909817845059,0.0,0.1140324712564942,0.15907090014226793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lord-damelotodo,2020/04/19,"How to handle older sister excluding younger sister when other kids are around. I have a 3 year old girl turning 4 in three weeks, and a 1 year old turning 2 in three months. They are half sisters, 3 year old spends 3 days out of the week with us. When it’s just them two they get along with the occasional fight over a toy, but have slowly learned how to share more. Then their cousin comes in, he just turned 3 this week. When he plays with them my older daughter acts like her younger sister isn’t there. Her focus is his cousin, she purposely takes toys away from her to give her cousin. If her little sister shows up to the area they’re playing in, she runs away and takes their cousin with them. 

I’ve talked to my older daughter many times on how she can’t exclude her little sister from playing with them. I see how my 1 year old doesn’t really care that they exclude her, she finds her own way to entertain herself. My 3 year old doesn’t make it obvious she’s excluding her when I’m around but when she thinks I’m not looking she either tells her to go play somewhere else or runs to another area of their playroom.

Is this something I need to focus more on correcting?",4.992025316455695,5.44903537552743,4.811662447257387,88.7068607594937,68.66244725738396,7.838987341772152,26.34852320675105,7.554174236665415,1.137814852320675,932,25,198,9,15,286,123,237,0.027999999999999997,0.8690000000000001,0.10300000000000001,0.9534,0,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,1,0,10,0,14,9,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,5,2,31,27,16,0,2,8,12,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,12,0,0,3,8,1,5,5,1,0,4,0,2,37,8,32,27,4,48,0,0,2,0,51,17,0,2,26,119,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434604263993382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941511808139736,0.0,0.0,0.2049078454548056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118141835881712,0.0,0.0,0.09393495517799093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032675821426923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109537750087084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966764066570934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05697293300806786,0.10460850971916087,0.061974332376039123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053275207860005086,0.21858892694066265,0.0,0.0,0.09157262056932387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279019998023406,0.1105572725318622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704084986057113,0.0,0.0,0.0808575027644491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5721361925662499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698587618648039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689691451638333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395026257337536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398062881723174,0.08764842681521172,0.09531251389791724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987337592842327,0.0,0.0,0.06358660256733444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558378170984799,0.10652377734872116,0.0,0.13117098066805874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655700451420513,0.2624145103802663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511157825848185
parenting,flyingember123,2020/04/19,"my 10 year old child ""wants"" me to send him his games console I have a 10 year old son. He lives with his mother. He spends time with me, roughly 4 nights every 2 weeks - with a court order in place.

Since the lockdown he has been with his mother. Things are not exactly amicable between us, and she was always wanting to minimise contact and it hasn't been a surprise that she has prevented him from coming to ours since.

Prior to the lockdown, he had a mobile where we could talk, and where he would sometimes  send me emails with interesting videos and pictures. It was good. I bought him his mobile.

Since the lockdown, his mother sent me an email that I can't have him anymore until the lockdown is over. It's been a month.

Worse, it appears that his mobile phone is off all the time and he lost access to it. She has certainly stopped his access for whatever reason - she has occasionally done this in the past for various reasons and confiscated his mobile. His mother only allowed a couple of 5 phone calls from her phone where she supervised the conversation. It was weird and an uncomfortable situation for all.

I don't know what's up with her and I'm not here to complain about that - just to provide some background.

It appears that today she allowed him access to his phone, and he wrote me a very formal looking email, he was ""obviously"" helped to write it by his mother. He doesn't write like that.

The email asks me to send him his games console. 

I have no doubt that the sentiment is true - he loves his console and he probably wants it - it's a console that I bought him for his birthday.

But I'm conflicted on whether to send it. On the one hand I have no doubt that he is bored out of his mind and he would enjoy it.

On the other hand, I don't know how his mother would behave - she may arbitrarily confiscate the console, and knowing her, I can just imagine the conversations, the taunting, the accusations that I'm wasting his childhood with games, and I don't quite like the fact that his mother is playing him on to send this email.

I just don't see it as a situation that's going to be helpful or positive for him.

I'm inclined to not send it, but I'm in the dark here about his situation and I don't know what to do, and I don't quite know what to tell him without pulling him into his mother's craziness. Thoughts?",5.072899493853941,5.767671362255967,5.581741865509763,82.41397216196677,68.56616052060738,8.229096167751267,29.68336948662329,8.238735603445708,1.9482329139551688,1842,66,368,24,30,593,189,461,0.064,0.8809999999999999,0.055,-0.1808,2,4,0,0,0,0,51.0,3,0,0,3,11,16,0,2,28,0,40,3,2,5,7,76,67,22,0,7,11,9,3,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,33,26,0,3,9,5,3,12,15,6,0,1,15,5,64,10,51,46,4,44,0,1,2,1,100,16,0,7,17,254,97,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226880205349842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997241413934762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366655047246873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323039960210245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552133518796838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853610334086567,0.12269692962191475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134782800349547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934290394309771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302095918101026,0.09300870520046214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865355499899988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047093667023954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083498464988159,0.0,0.0979173060867913,0.0,0.09311910530929278,0.0,0.12104879807622045,0.0,0.10008194575759123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196660785734272,0.0,0.08851080174385699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406212022175122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327193872386864,0.0,0.07514147686130883,0.08433632897919653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585640866892247,0.0,0.0,0.11585574365666408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955744818807346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358888948138187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22802539060501156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836443560963671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751863880919607,0.3739327441473528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967237844592598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927084414925292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912863950006543,0.09692215821468783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366994061082231,0.0,0.0,0.08803373806436908,0.12932091500527168,0.0,0.10511011471531356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338620524794662,0.0,0.0,0.09149530688532576,0.19621619183743347,0.0,0.08894872825110323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068933527785318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300569632117555,0.2363177859970014,0.0,0.0,0.14281818006734312
parenting,WindyCityEd,2020/04/19,"Happy but surprised! Hello all, first post and on mobile but I wanted to reach out for some early advise. So on to the subject of wanted advise.

My wife and I struggled to get pregnant for a little over year before having our son who is now 9 months old. We wanted to start trying for another kid since it took so long before and we were over-joyed to find out a month ago we are pregnant! Well we just found out this past Friday that not only are we pregnant but expecting TWINS!!! 

We are extremely happy but nervous too, so just curious if anyone with twins or several kids very close in age that are young have any advise for the future handling of 3 under 3!",4.5799151823579285,5.551233030534352,5.39964376590331,82.27485156912641,69.83969465648855,7.348939779474131,24.47921967769296,7.3871296695380915,1.1630400339270572,521,13,97,5,9,170,89,131,0.044000000000000004,0.825,0.132,0.9077,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,7,0,0,1,8,6,0,2,4,0,8,0,0,0,1,31,15,12,0,5,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,14,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,3,0,10,4,20,12,2,26,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,3,14,68,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811962421817502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130184495863228,0.18704286318933347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472469619320214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035697965612154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630324972079918,0.15172659474721442,0.0,0.19558015476111965,0.0,0.0,0.09319413482178088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797692886329424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17877968407359146,0.0,0.1578572095405408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847561559016022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871756802792265,0.0,0.0,0.13566303982008418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17028014330580546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083496818047347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201514187338063,0.0,0.1475545291000819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625550104893998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864773988565772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981823780285664,0.12110564319886308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471789395101203,0.31563248446767544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038150980505225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486834134247915
parenting,3rddimensionalcrisis,2020/04/19,"My Daughter Has Other Personalities... It sounds worse than I think it actually is. She's five. She shows no emotional or psychological issues. She's happy and confident. She thinks she is pretty and smart and funny. We have a happy home save for normal ups and downs. Her father and I are married and try hard to be good role models. 

But- to bring it back to the advice we need, she acts and pretends using other personalities and personas. Her father and I aren't sure if its healthier to play along or reject them completely. 

She has 3 main other personas:

Pumpkin- is a boy and is very rough and tumble. He is kinda dumb and sometimes aggressive but tough. Pumpkin is sometimes her boyfriend but he messes things up with her frequently. I think this personality stems from her having several friends who are boys that happen to be a little more aggressive and rough. 

Bubbles- is a baby girl. Sweet, innocent. Needs taught and guided. 

Rainbow- is a woman/girl. She is kind of like a princess. She has a soft high pitched voice and is very proper and kind. She is the picture of a posh, graceful, perfect girl. 

Husband says it could lead to a multiple personality disorder and we should reject playing along altogether and discourage the behavior. 

I say its normal weird kid behavior similar to having imaginary friends. I also feel like the behaviors of these other characters are a way for her to reinforce who she is. Because the character of herself is her normal self: rational, kind, good willed, polite...etc. I also think these personas are ways for her to work out feelings she may know aren't right or attainable. 

Is this unhealthy behavior or is this normal kid behavior where shes just working out regular thoughts and feelings?",4.648666666666667,7.383367565079367,5.287222222222223,75.85750000000002,73.34920634920636,8.263492063492063,29.865079365079364,9.029198982220553,3.0118698412698413,1393,61,226,32,30,448,172,315,0.1,0.738,0.162,0.9725,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,3,0,1,5,5,28,3,0,15,0,34,0,0,2,2,61,49,29,0,9,9,4,7,2,2,3,0,4,1,11,19,27,0,1,9,4,0,3,3,9,0,1,2,12,34,19,26,41,2,16,0,3,0,0,50,9,1,7,4,163,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.09816787766629054,0.0,0.0,0.09830194070553586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089430521297496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735266049112803,0.0,0.0613228206837125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547373645540203,0.0,0.0,0.08031828727034275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529254489875128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315775875247312,0.0,0.0,0.1121919231392662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259415743867527,0.07186630969208246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544153714073333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687514950634894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895733838754104,0.21417413667080748,0.09011489291222477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062859472101753,0.10090670223932456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049968293473419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142679795382478,0.05528532096006725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829294229592132,0.1008243310789396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918237155081718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942536682083172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35134866774716045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234301919436373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590904065055367,0.0,0.15999708282513544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494430781037738,0.1136456485341644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898543679357508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481120861950244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668319841272931,0.2578332392883909,0.0,0.07986255094279111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829856271803184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688325851576251,0.0,0.16600564210536692,0.0,0.15969797194183585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647120589666315,0.0,0.10251664166159301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Okokletsdothis,2020/04/19,"Food Vs.Sleep Sometimes my 20 months old babygirl falls asleep without eating dinner .It happened today .She usually sleeps at 9 pm ,like everyday .I let her have her dinner at 20.00 .Today at 19.00 she told me she wants to sleep .I thought ok ,she will sleep on hour or so and she'll get up to eat but no .It's 22.30 and she's still sleeping .I told my husband I was worried she slept without eating .He told me it's ok sleep it's more important than food .So I was wondering ,is it true though? To me food is more important but I don't really know.This time she chose to sleep.What are your thoughts about this?",-0.0007142857142881097,2.322224087301592,1.101920634920635,98.38335714285715,97.8095238095238,4.424761904761905,18.204761904761906,6.2581,-0.10711619047619036,489,15,106,6,20,152,82,126,0.044000000000000004,0.833,0.12300000000000001,0.8355,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,2,10,15,7,0,1,12,20,8,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,8,0,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,8,0,22,4,13,9,2,15,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,10,62,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037236041879456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35891904549679354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169251622882299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874930766077654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743681794698003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437530966778027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117373380089212,0.0,0.0483375069790992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897365128368887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038217899546782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338404906959033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.693086204208543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785504142089006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901429938607593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720889356306338,0.15709598363405655,0.057693211699004376,0.0,0.18756873471642294,0.2836266980526899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896938011037026,0.0,0.058357883275560574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907509185445153,0.10729714319869553,0.0,0.10047924702928898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SpontaneousNubs,2020/04/19,"I now have a 17 year old relative I'm caring for. How to deal with the 'boy things' So, Long story short, I now have a relative living with me. He's sweet and thoughtful \[about most things\] but we're having issues with 'shower time' and lengthy bathroom visits with his computer. 

Afterwards the bathroom always reeks of -you know what-. He also doesn't clean up all the way so there's sticky tissues laying on the floor. I did not appreciate stepping in one, AT ALL.

I've told him that while I accept that boys do that, that there's a reason why a tissue box lives in his bedroom. Continuously he's going into the bathroom and spending up to 1.5 hours at a time 2+ times a day and ignoring shower budgets, the fact that I am uncomfortable that this is happening in our shared bathroom, and that he's hindering others from using it. It's like he's got a one track mind for it and I don't know how to help. Any advice?

I've not yelled at him because he's emotionally fragile. He's not violent and he has no other behavioral issues.",3.6512137681159413,5.1476097101449305,4.960939009661839,82.53822010869567,72.67149758454106,7.687077294685991,26.46407004830918,8.278499904357787,1.7302272946859905,818,28,160,13,16,272,126,207,0.076,0.809,0.115,0.7842,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,0,0,10,8,1,0,13,0,10,0,0,4,3,30,20,14,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,16,12,0,1,5,0,2,3,6,3,0,2,4,4,13,5,22,16,3,29,0,0,0,0,21,12,0,1,14,101,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817380814922894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762804591133854,0.1432007141279403,0.0,0.0,0.11703367884157133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491036297772163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546708594417365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099005130455493,0.177427205464621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935889675671832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780820991385432,0.0,0.13764382969351846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15218717201388762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535478276379504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948351056232944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592546903591868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891629584090868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407920688775683,0.0,0.30393432763942524,0.15230279449166415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737716091117995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805896559959348,0.0,0.2332383841057909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769471264783919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286707504691769,0.0,0.0,0.13662791623608936,0.3010581090512504,0.0,0.0,0.16444861223242074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486388604755884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660470944117792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15529318602940034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082654657333806
parenting,Bains_,2020/04/19,"2yo Suddenly Not Sleeping My 2yo girl has been embarrassingly good with her sleep since she was about 6 weeks old. Very rarely have we had sleepless nights, she goes down at 7pm and gets up at 6-7am daily.

Two weeks ago we decided to move her to her ""big girl bed"" - making the most of time at home we ditched the cot and replaced it with a toddler bed equipped with Frozen duvet covers etc etc... She LOVED it. Everyone said it would be weeks before she got used to it but no, she took to it straight away, no problem at all.

Three days ago my daughter woke at 01:30 and refused to sleep again. We tried letting her cry it out, silently putting her back to bed, then finally staying in with her before having her come into bed with me and her mum. She didn't sleep. Two days ago the same thing, only this time I decided after a load of stress that I would sleep on her floor... Literally just being there sorted it out. Same again last night.

We can't carry on like this - I understand it's a phase and she'll grow out of it but it just doesn't seem right. Last night I went to put her back down and she tensed up at the prospect of going into her bed. She seemed genuinely scared. It makes me wonder if she's had or is still having nightmares and is now reluctant to let herself go to sleep.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Could anyone advise me on any top tips to get through this period? It's causing my wife I to get very close to the end of our tethers... How people go through months of this from birth I just don't know (sorry..!)

TL;DR - daughter used to be a great sleeper until three days ago and now refuses. Possibly nightmares although I really don't know... Help!",3.2733816902956363,4.877019771513357,3.7739202110122,90.23632596988683,73.83679525222553,6.773008022859655,24.05418177821739,7.3871296695380915,0.8669482140894593,1321,39,279,15,27,414,185,337,0.114,0.836,0.05,-0.9694,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,6,0,0,1,13,9,0,3,9,0,25,7,6,6,1,58,48,16,0,5,8,4,0,2,0,3,0,1,6,2,19,25,0,2,8,0,0,10,8,4,0,4,10,2,41,5,50,29,6,71,0,0,0,1,40,26,0,7,36,182,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29022396949071466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055661501734069536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446427539180105,0.08386604471954982,0.06735641692628372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690172951629458,0.12587676707325895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929838217601462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408354646989863,0.0,0.07050740784658129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535138076867844,0.0,0.08990950421152705,0.1583614134231211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837602596628563,0.0,0.07249571079931208,0.0,0.18257105168505675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821215914549921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966379372715111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282913421166028,0.0,0.13955346613762346,0.06865275383710752,0.06546373950648073,0.09024104068681338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054863014684277935,0.0,0.08210324876522501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996636217650099,0.1334390148398323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739643109147073,0.0,0.07997654976423255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387374300960076,0.0,0.1092723855036888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533270483606138,0.08699468282987685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304349181494425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588887873874332,0.0,0.0,0.06225139056021745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05674519263259654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227472893465292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783203738080004,0.0,0.16456576897747166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243586059231966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990032554017445,0.07785906559355661,0.0,0.08194715202310282,0.0,0.0,0.14902819259309905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770801120275582,0.0,0.4914608028244468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162551785902566,0.0,0.08724229880022696,0.06536633188042659,0.0,0.09376006912650617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437818198896918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954559782840876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090939497103783,0.05557147107876216,0.0,0.15991311010162634,0.08520980050719429,0.0,0.14138600566956258,0.0,0.13507133052353612,0.0,0.0,0.19696785795217428,0.0,0.0,0.07587671740102643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876394180093869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628923518083607,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Frankfusion,2020/04/19,"My toddler's night terrors and temper tantrums are exactly the same and I'm not sure what to do She just turned 2 a few weeks ago and I don't know where this week she's been waking up in the middle of the night with night terrors. She's flayling and screaming like she's possessed or something! During the day if she gets upset about something she does the same thing and she'll clench her tiny fists and scream at the top of her lungs until we can find a way to calm her down. It's really draining me in my wife because we don't know what to do, any ideas?",2.8479284369114883,4.066724169491529,3.2233333333333327,95.30518832391716,74.25423728813557,5.9224105461393615,23.280602636534837,5.82211442006289,0.1652286252354047,444,12,101,2,9,137,77,118,0.184,0.763,0.054000000000000006,-0.9437,0,0,2,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,1,3,10,2,3,8,0,8,2,2,0,2,21,13,9,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,2,16,3,13,11,3,17,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,2,9,63,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461666253417544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162911078387558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695799677169958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431537338410302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822563815162896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19035281463622436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881122582746136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23510877161333976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289168541731752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174903006378593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5863351065694393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334215584832467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32066914925558304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962897496173524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836374012933744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265353448263501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531312796920672,0.3341194147443829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rimbosity,2020/04/19,"You never really know what the one thing you don't want to hear from your child is until it leaves their lips. ""Dad! I squashed the rat!""

A drowned rat was in our pool's skimmer basket. I'd told her not to pick it up. Turned my back door ten seconds to go get another chlorine tablet (and gloves to grab the thing)...",0.8934725274725288,3.0849296000000024,1.6468131868131868,99.79461538461538,83.76923076923076,4.945054945054945,18.516483516483518,6.1826913282559595,-0.3973516483516484,244,6,57,2,7,75,55,65,0.09,0.91,0.0,-0.6914,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,1,1,1,1,6,10,2,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,2,8,0,8,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,3,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212503311826873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355757127850995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006302601065206,0.0,0.1741142442797182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34529553088587045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683701479565091,0.0,0.0,0.32439621479201003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23628751318550495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20760079865161749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626521274329714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40707047948105896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927448101433925,0.0,0.0,0.3332370581760413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807019675210602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Koji-san1225,2020/04/19,"Distance Learning writing struggles? My 2nd grader has ADHD and really struggles with handwriting and any sort of journaling/paragraph writing.  My kid says that they think too fast and can’t write down what their brain is spinning out, so they get frustrated and give up.  Every other subject they are whip-smart in (spelling, math science) but this is our Waterloo.  Also, my kid does super well on weekly spelling tests, but when they write assignments, everything regresses to a Kindergarten level, including their spelling.  
I saw some suggestions to another parent for fun online math games, is there anything for writing?  My kid loves Minecraft, if that helps.  Thank you in advance for any suggestions!",7.917165725047077,10.395038381355931,6.4233333333333364,72.36281544256124,63.49152542372882,9.312241054613937,37.68738229755179,9.725611199111238,4.283279472693032,571,29,79,12,9,169,89,118,0.043,0.772,0.184,0.9718,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,6,2,6,8,1,2,1,0,6,2,1,0,0,18,12,10,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,13,5,13,11,1,11,0,0,1,1,24,7,0,3,3,52,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619163679176005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428310577059458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964075075425735,0.22852459045649295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934251714500482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432883241481999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907170054234435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836202322378445,0.0,0.195866560449814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386241169510275,0.20906378821619656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460777101966405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19669548391751104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419918111447576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961519416306073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331122112798655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556674387512434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006459179832583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396444008835245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481487809574156,0.0,0.19595037319276715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chinnifer,2020/04/19,"Toddler smelly butt Any other parent have a stinky booty toddler?  I thought pinworms, so did doc.  Treated for pinworms, started probiotics.  Still stinky!  Should I retreat for worms?",5.182413793103446,8.699949310344827,2.9478620689655166,84.2583448275862,90.3793103448276,3.6993103448275866,36.83448275862069,5.6839178017228535,2.6447599999999998,146,9,19,1,5,40,24,29,0.18600000000000005,0.755,0.059000000000000004,-0.593,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,11,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3653562107764697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5965652617357187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802764209287705,0.0,0.4290576895012519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4265255801270367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bweezy3,2020/04/19,"Can babies suffocate from the wind if the window is open? My girlfriend is due in May and seems to believe that if we leave a window open in the house, or the child’s room, that they can suffocate from the wind. I don’t think this is true, and I can’t find any articles about it.",5.806384180790964,4.4203091864406785,6.080000000000003,86.50045197740113,67.30508474576271,9.900564971751416,28.141242937853107,8.841846274778883,1.6697073446327677,218,5,51,3,3,70,41,59,0.022000000000000002,0.927,0.051,0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,13,10,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,9,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,5,1,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27181632366420544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.450335989749927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3653274527191563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4612113634393226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.423234891527548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638807269925207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561178560094213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,klora45,2020/04/19,"My husband and I are getting fed up with my parents. I’m sure we’re not alone when I say it kind of sucks to be stuck with parents or in-laws during this whole quarantine thing. 

We live in New Jersey, across the river from NYC but were in Texas due to a family emergency when the pandemic got bad (Thank God). So now that our family emergency has settled we’re finding it best to be in Texas because it’s considerably safer here (where the county only has 50). 

Even though we’re thankful to my parents for housing us and our 16 month old during all this, their comments are completely unwelcome. My father flat out told me I needed to start treating my child better just because I was getting callus off my foot in the living room (obviously I was going to clean everything up when I was done before she woke up from her nap). Every little thing they say is starting to feel like jabs at our parenting. Whether it’s what time she goes to bed (7pm), or how much she eats (not exactly something anyone can control, all we can do is offer and encourage). This past week has me feeling like it’s amateur hour. It’s getting ridiculous. We might have to have a sit down talk soon cause I’ve wanted to cry way to much lately cause of their comments.",6.157421602787457,5.986967390243906,6.5165156794425085,79.6390243902439,66.15447154471545,9.467595818815331,31.79907084785134,9.04235418022936,2.549243670150988,982,35,191,15,14,318,157,246,0.098,0.777,0.125,0.8086,4,2,1,0,0,0,26.0,7,0,3,3,12,14,2,0,6,0,20,3,1,4,5,32,39,13,0,2,7,6,2,2,0,1,0,2,3,1,13,9,2,1,4,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,10,4,28,10,30,26,6,34,0,0,0,0,29,15,1,3,18,124,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242320219282058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758994276183262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906332156934556,0.1323399544465423,0.0,0.0923665260547805,0.0,0.1139146424706884,0.09600206474207727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22301781153428302,0.0,0.0,0.11381072594335095,0.0,0.12174604004126485,0.0,0.0,0.1192351042933557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108249910643032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107191106387114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716950645367171,0.0,0.09145654292530096,0.0,0.0975561258968798,0.0,0.2046591710558092,0.0,0.10977046619343593,0.15509371625198878,0.0,0.0,0.09921109129907316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013586818607485,0.0,0.061690445429333114,0.0,0.08681591424555499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689811487937463,0.1252500526466713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303624988868426,0.0,0.0,0.12244710134857753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606233830103172,0.10879381634212666,0.19170010441715624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515248997025652,0.0,0.0,0.08664214026325455,0.0,0.15959083828270385,0.08048711733715973,0.0,0.10483653115315614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139030795894487,0.0,0.0,0.08255579997851129,0.0,0.0,0.4821197358004528,0.0,0.10362154253442547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726437761389697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356571008521756,0.0,0.0,0.1536619539795971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230539699439473,0.0,0.0,0.08724693407913545,0.0,0.1998732033739387,0.0,0.0,0.1442292059687845,0.0,0.10664805861225604,0.0,0.063295330265364,0.0,0.0,0.10372245998356333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057012338133006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402454269291294,0.08616051127602935,0.0870708211600295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119019250387605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SurreyDad,2020/04/19,"Looking for advice about correcting toddler speech... Hey, just asking for advice (and to make sure I’m doing the right thing). Particularly keen for affirmation from any early years practitioners or speech therapists.

My (almost) 3 year old says “eefer” when she really means “also”. It happens so often and regularly for it to be a mistake. And always used in the right context. 

All we do is just repeat the sentence back to her correctly. 

Is there more we should/could be doing at this point? I’m assuming her language will just continue to develop and she’ll get “also” with time! 

Any advice welcome.",4.281590909090912,7.15501865740741,5.283535353535356,74.66954545454547,75.3888888888889,8.001346801346802,26.484848484848484,8.841846274778883,2.5979888888888896,477,18,76,11,11,156,80,108,0.022000000000000002,0.889,0.08900000000000001,0.7419,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,4,22,18,9,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,7,3,13,14,2,14,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,4,9,53,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5217562365717722,0.0,0.0,0.17821997930003752,0.0,0.0,0.28465903647218765,0.14809255277826466,0.0,0.0,0.24206326576269796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638607801890956,0.0,0.0,0.13685464985735915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210152581353375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298653549986287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738599448257976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149457299875699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880217775598235,0.0,0.0,0.1938710025394701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867587275988908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682474183883148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401772556098133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039857091705755,0.0,0.1415358218399237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677428374899044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664701185228665,0.11824115329636675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378082301126794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371647008838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292249210849789
parenting,abbydoobie1221,2020/04/19,"Child always hungry? My daughter just turned 7.
She weighs ~70lbs. The average weight for a 7 year old is 50lbs.

It seems like my daughter is ALWAYS hungry. She’s constantly looking to snack, or says she is “starving”. I’m not a huge junk food person. I try to give snacks and meals that are healthy (but like any parent I’m not perfect, and we do have the occasional pizza and mac n cheese sometimes). She will have tantrums over my rejections to her not getting junk (Easter was a killer with everyone dropping candy on our doorstep for her, and her continually asking to eat it). 
The other day she made a comment that, “I’m full, but I want to keep eating.” That really worried me. 
I will say she does have a pretty good palette and doesn’t protest eating veggies and other healthy stuff that a lot of kids would reject. Also, she’s a huge water drinker. She almost never asks for anything else.
I just worry because if I let her she would eat nonstop.

I’m just wondering if any other parents have dealt with this, and what they did to keep their children’s hunger at bay?",3.4821527777777765,5.52565299519231,4.0070512820512825,86.9157264957265,74.33653846153845,6.160683760683763,25.97863247863248,6.937597516519254,1.1408869658119651,845,30,161,8,18,266,128,208,0.14,0.774,0.086,-0.8681,2,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,2,1,4,8,2,0,10,0,17,13,0,1,2,33,33,13,0,5,11,4,1,2,0,4,0,2,0,4,12,10,13,2,2,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,3,4,26,4,15,25,2,13,0,2,1,0,31,6,0,7,8,102,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138403559532042,0.0,0.0,0.0969393632278981,0.20172902912950744,0.0,0.0,0.16486712759736386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975349782100602,0.0,0.2266481423254079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389441385820136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099544908965824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781766886745348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608019050805516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4961521287203056,0.10126351828811936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583063355990765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657936196432278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333229854100036,0.1162849974131552,0.0,0.10167334669525174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21549130688778104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395537267371473,0.0,0.11844366055529908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179403161948693,0.0,0.0,0.10305666783202874,0.0,0.11470102641280724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349211807090964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271997007722452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26920029884728564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058443804996568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332403062233566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077656454188516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279756740749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035387690955953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988939887499993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876757345483742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230023021017087,0.1318522420782252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149852929325684,0.0,0.0,0.14761295751677886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145761130248967,0.0,0.24620901183702154,0.0,0.17222201681116076,0.0,0.0,0.07806152287076305
parenting,ADF2020,2020/04/19,"Encouragement needed As many of you know my brother Tim passed away after losing his battle with cancer. He left behind a wonderful wife and two amazing kids! His daughter Madison has Down syndrome and has been disabled even further and unable to walk for several years now after a severe infection took over her body and she had to be resuscitated several times leaving her without oxygen. She is 14 now. His son Luke is 12 and tries very hard to pick up the role of helping in the yard and things that Tim took so much pride in doing. He even helps their very elderly neighbor with yard work as well. Madison loves Journey and most 80s classic rock music. She also loves caps. Luke loves video games and a good meal as most teenage boys do! They are each so unique in their own very cool way. I want to ask, and got my sister in law Deanna’s permission) to offer their address for anyone who would enjoy sending the kids and even Deanna an uplifting card or letter. This would mean so much! Madison especially doesn’t know why her daddy isn’t coming home and now friends and family can’t come over too. She talks to Tim’s picture daily. She expects him to come back home any time now. You can imagine how especially hard this is on her and Deanna. If you would like to send them a card it would mean so very much! THANKYOU ahead of time for those who love spreading joy in this way. Madison,Luke Fauber 400 Lakeview Heights Circle
Cornelia GA 30531
United States",4.679403714565005,6.5446632437276016,4.539421635711957,85.10489002932553,70.68458781362006,6.793157380254155,26.660312805474096,7.348242739294969,1.3590559139784948,1171,39,216,12,22,359,176,279,0.049,0.7659999999999999,0.185,0.9919,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,5,4,16,16,1,0,8,1,19,8,1,2,0,40,37,24,0,8,3,5,2,1,2,4,2,0,6,3,9,19,1,0,6,5,0,10,4,2,1,1,5,3,24,14,35,27,7,39,0,1,0,4,50,14,0,5,13,134,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791202960877178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625343977492869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812295518259172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108073432520927,0.0,0.09153551281166936,0.07491505391100726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821900710767067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517732088024428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19304808302935825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184514280958106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527156183751099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171682311880121,0.07792096489878765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455022278072174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306060140677445,0.0,0.19545367903946848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708624044510558,0.0,0.0,0.10316071904169262,0.1058543033407014,0.0,0.0,0.04759772336476418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108995462530752,0.0,0.0,0.3517252988838685,0.0,0.0,0.09877529690287568,0.0,0.21225229281085228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485931841058786,0.0722406012691911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301930340585298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830782347897962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647259145592024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704307298054097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21648911031230567,0.06614627700688476,0.0,0.09517164718226363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32154864613302664,0.057464742348098126,0.15466542587598964,0.0,0.0,0.08759822824215825,0.0,0.08791236719118704,0.0,0.0,0.09391578113846807,0.1056550091010956,0.07092773678687693,0.0,0.0,0.27683629077546784,0.0,0.0,0.062739546441155
parenting,skarbux,2020/04/19,Spoiling my kids I've realized that I give my kids everything I never got to have and let them do activities I never got to do. They're 8 years old now and still seem like the sweetest and smartest girls ever. Why do I feel like I'm doing something wrong?,5.44352201257862,5.045383037735854,6.216981132075473,81.9561635220126,67.67924528301887,9.330817610062894,30.874213836477992,8.841846274778883,2.234149685534592,203,7,43,3,3,67,38,53,0.057999999999999996,0.772,0.16899999999999998,0.7096,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,3,9,12,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,7,2,2,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,9,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273127546229677,0.0,0.0,0.22584976948675525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706344300944655,0.17952680952799194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410672259124804,0.0,0.0,0.4019707433004495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256968469640432,0.0,0.2455422910277785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38763187082440576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263694196880068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22877158332606465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346090454322806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20068631284191885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22675668628490844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27475409956563457,0.0,0.16182719342632607
parenting,perpetually_unsynced,2020/04/19,"My little sister has been stuck inside for over a month. How do I get her outdoors? I’m actually my sister’s legal guardian, and hope it’s alright for me to be posting here.

She hasn’t taken one step out the door since schools were closed over a month ago, and I’m getting kinda worried for her health. She’s on her tablet nonstop, playing Roblox with friends. I don’t want to limit her time on this too much because it’s one of her only options for social interaction. Still, I want to get her out of the house. The plan was to take her to a small, unnamed park close by on a picnic, but it’s closed as well 

Any suggestions on safe, preferably outdoor, activities I can entertain her with, while still following social distancing guidelines?

Side note: She’s a bit mature for her age, and an only child, and typical “children’s” activities don’t usually interest her.",3.808021978021976,5.719878952662723,4.688271344040576,82.95054733727812,73.08284023668641,7.4321217244294155,28.63947590870668,8.192908349453996,2.0363014370245143,689,28,130,11,14,223,104,169,0.018000000000000002,0.813,0.17,0.9683,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,9,1,10,1,0,1,0,21,22,8,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,4,11,0,2,1,2,0,2,3,0,1,2,5,0,20,8,24,16,2,26,0,0,0,0,22,14,0,3,9,82,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.16938235726145984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386212565995547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803569483606333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580858187276247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18949692596701215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410218598564652,0.0,0.2720544224719606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450014299017428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239730347789314,0.0,0.20028011201086493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396589672147875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770888664731729,0.0,0.1275962376532271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352353186097455,0.26402040585940184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623509871886716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175665295557987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358150425886707,0.0,0.0,0.35387193796147354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772314853901362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305054081942839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121190025422873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116630372453786,0.0,0.20475588330735595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560631081510114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627196039987328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blinxs209,2020/04/19,"Advice on how to guide 2yo through major life transitions? I am the dad of an almost 2yo. Since my wife and I been married I mostly have been a househusband and since our daughter has been born I've been a sahd. My wife is a RN who has worked nights. I've fortunately just got accepted to grad school and will be moving (hopefully) this fall. I know our entire family is going to experience major transitions this summer. I'm going from being a sahd to a full-time student and starting an intensive grad program, my wife will be moving away from her family, starting a new job and ill be out of the house due to school.

My main concern is how our daughter will cope with the transition and how to help her. She'll be in a new home, away from grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins who she sees usually 2-3 a week and will be enrolled in daycare due to our school and work commitments. How do I help guide my child through such a transition and distinguish life anxiety vs normal childhood growing up? Any tips, articles or books and experiences are greatly appreciated.",7.51390374331551,7.160828215686276,7.607433155080216,73.55254010695191,63.41176470588235,11.3397504456328,35.21212121212122,10.832165505486646,3.7679078431372552,852,34,157,20,11,276,115,204,0.023,0.902,0.075,0.8463,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,14,0,24,3,0,4,1,28,33,16,0,2,3,8,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,4,13,0,0,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,18,3,22,17,4,25,0,0,1,0,21,7,0,4,12,101,22,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281850912086338,0.0,0.0,0.13610328130457894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242960548811656,0.0,0.10397769067722412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554008174089296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659097964717657,0.2562647417169048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15449184107208006,0.0,0.10870686970088073,0.14985121726268252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822073298483319,0.0,0.13633787548382784,0.13499827124166072,0.0,0.15683231895225092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348786707914124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469754771353193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200726976329408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28892085060679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625429042819063,0.0,0.12755080807915398,0.13317179714619648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4126719630598732,0.10830987436590456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22486726261016896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19240838680792954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969561589332026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902605234128067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979013543039264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,satanbeybae,2020/04/19,"Mums need treats too! So my best friend and eternal soul sister has a 1 year old boy (his birthday was last Thursday) and a 6 week old daughter. This lockdown has got us all staying apart and I really want to send her something to make her feel special as I can’t go and visit and I know she’s overwhelmed. 
Can any mummies please let me know what they would have really wanted when they had tiny ones? 
Chocolates? Flowers? Socks? A new kettle? Anything considered!!! Much love",1.7710073260073291,4.527731879120879,2.149917582417583,93.1554990842491,87.35164835164835,4.352014652014652,22.96794871794872,5.985473137389443,0.4749113553113551,375,14,71,3,12,114,76,91,0.0,0.77,0.23,0.9685,1,1,1,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,2,1,3,6,0,1,3,0,9,1,0,1,1,14,19,8,0,4,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,1,12,5,3,14,3,14,1,1,0,1,15,1,0,0,9,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385299900209796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676362202591407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137813926904336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030020488592992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738607301955998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577325841117855,0.0,0.16292573678474753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239077075943513,0.1660510839474598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083075842926382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838564997909228,0.0,0.13597820757438542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975051024493646,0.15104860678822588,0.0,0.1967446778452792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4275193857124607,0.0,0.1380393718393806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22361273714748955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610040698973587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568261418875949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21712807606132747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24503840959168136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403072266461433,0.0,0.16340411563052934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447099529052786,0.0,0.0,0.13118275476623498
parenting,annikaryon,2020/04/19,"A good question and needs some good advice Hello parents of Reddit! I have a seemingly crazy and absurd question, but to me it is a fair one and I’m
hoping to get some opinions about it.

Here’s a little background, I am 18. I moved out at 17. I moved across the country with my now fiancé and lived in Washington state with him  to purse school and take the courses I needed to graduate while he focused on his career path as well. Considering here in Florida I don’t have the best access to school. I wanted to graduate with a high gpa to get into a good college. So I did that. Now I have moved back, I am living with my very supportive dad. Him with his family. I am going into college, and after college medical school, and after medical school residency. I want to be a surgeon. I also want a kid. Now I have looked at all my options, when I will be stable when I will have the most support, when I will be over loaded with work and stress. Where I stand, in my support system and my life I feel as if having a kid now. At 20 years old, finishing my second semester in college is the best time. I have people to take care of the baby while I’m gone, my schedule is more flexible than it will be In The future I have less on my plate. I can do this, I feel confident enough in my drive to finish my schoolwork that I am able to also care for a baby. I know it will be hard, and I know there will be ups and downs. What do you think? What’s the ideal move here? Any advice?",2.252450980392158,3.7064770163398713,4.1071294117647055,87.41728235294121,76.22222222222223,6.85678431372549,22.69751633986928,7.554174236665415,0.8903188496732022,1141,32,242,15,25,387,151,306,0.022000000000000002,0.758,0.22,0.9965,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,0,4,18,14,0,1,18,0,32,4,0,0,1,43,58,23,0,8,2,2,3,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,9,20,0,0,8,0,0,7,1,1,1,2,2,4,42,13,44,44,9,50,0,0,1,0,13,21,0,10,19,188,51,13,0.0960107322291792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764115269579376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355949575190492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529059026413696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382632669542133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015146801661332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577868057504416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920475167922876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051037360932188,0.0,0.09709182202959296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003232897858183,0.0,0.054565111694035016,0.2415877409864949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600675764764243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014406099551118,0.0,0.09536032061869293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552997507118136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781521954814902,0.0,0.09622797661800976,0.16955847111304256,0.0,0.08062483415170257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344142375915252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081768558053431,0.0,0.14238148280073132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074711273097088,0.0,0.06505935693577199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660855603638468,0.0,0.0,0.06656175284912688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21510798636997472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886719471371586,0.0,0.08740456471052464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997996938212154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32685552346506075,0.0,0.0,0.14437624390657786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061519800469004834,0.0,0.0,0.055984630060690384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07921890914637422,0.1698888522631992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632517869943697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989695654514444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061827763720086075
parenting,shoutingkids,2020/04/19,"New to YouTube Kids? Here’s What Parents Need to Know Do you know what 'YouTube Kids' is and how a kid friendly version of YouTube is safe for your children? See installation, safety features, parental control etc. 

[https://www.shoutingkids.com/youtube-kids/](https://www.shoutingkids.com/youtube-kids/)",12.85769230769231,18.3940172051282,5.401410256410259,67.9144230769231,69.25641025641025,4.651282051282052,37.269230769230774,6.42735559955562,2.6794923076923087,257,12,30,2,6,61,32,39,0.0,0.7859999999999999,0.214,0.8504,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,7,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,7,2,1,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,1,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33282513507012185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330949498660105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292647159805975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261669600276881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22003291187183832,0.0,0.28659850151599003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6590011721669549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364676187121213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seaemgee,2020/04/19,"Night Terrors? My 7yo stepdaughter has experienced what I would describe as night terrors for the entire 3 years that I’ve known her. Her mom reports the same behavior at her house. 

She wakes up in an absolute panic, usually more than once and close together like clusters. She’ll come to our room crying and whining, or just walk the house aimlessly, like a very stressed out cat. Sometimes she’s able to put a sentence or two together, sometimes it’s just gibberish. For example, this happened last night. She woke up at 1:30 and began walking the house, worried and crying. When I got up to console her, she just kept saying “it’s too loud”. The house was completely dark, all TVs were off and everyone was asleep. If I ask any follow up questions, she won’t answer. It’s almost like she’s still asleep!  I can usually convince her to lay back down and get comfy, but again this will happen within 15 minutes and I’ll do the same routine of corralling her back to bed and convincing her to get comfy while listening to nonsense.  It usually happens more than once, then she’ll be asleep for the night. 

Is there anything I can do to help her? She doesn’t remember these episodes in the morning. Doesn’t recall nightmares. Sometimes she remembers that she was awake, but not what she said or what woke her, so I never know how to help her.  This doesn’t happen too often, actually she’s gone more than a month without an episode, but sometimes it will happen daily for a few days then disappear for a couple months.",5.1175595238095255,6.622833930555558,5.164126984126983,82.46500000000003,69.06944444444444,8.263492063492063,30.7281746031746,8.704169506293173,2.44785496031746,1204,49,222,20,21,376,159,288,0.078,0.857,0.065,-0.4115,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,0,0,14,10,0,4,15,0,20,4,4,1,2,38,39,22,0,2,12,1,0,3,0,6,0,4,2,0,14,11,0,1,6,0,0,7,7,5,0,1,11,5,31,5,32,21,7,43,0,1,0,0,32,14,0,7,25,152,45,1,0.08752527156622075,0.0,0.08541203937641992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876439164742868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952018603448048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202584086254628,0.0,0.08182431387124736,0.0,0.0,0.13460306244366874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539527143711296,0.0917685819992053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968450482307518,0.19228480189072836,0.056446559375155574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363414779463504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914566838419734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000195525722885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869915429468036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733268915459108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.403969648078054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048101600269196375,0.07134477816885107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828127984506074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250854022442794,0.13972367344871744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750488519370712,0.0,0.0,0.3285461529615909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864231154043556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026920478097041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798707256627153,0.09804833525357184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982981413050714,0.0,0.08325657634498916,0.0696036089566261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34625892637756506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989779493378627,0.0,0.10025990286208157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549947240082552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28919016345889564,0.07221751543010235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437123844323732,0.0,0.0,0.08888616185328291,0.0,0.06217544169792169,0.0,0.0,0.056363405259896825
parenting,Severe-Pie,2020/04/19,"Parenting at a young age/raising siblings My brother (15) and sister (11)  have been in foster care for the past couple years and they’re supposed to come into my care within the next year. I’m only going to be 20 and I’m so scared and angry because I think I’m losing out on my youth and the ability to be carefree. 
I’m happy because we have a good relationship and we can be a family again but I feel like it’s so unfair and I’m getting more and more sad about it every day. I’m scrambling to get my shit together and find a car/place to live. It’s going to put immense pressure on my relationship and I’m not sure if I’ll be able to continue living with my bf because I will expect things from him which may be unfair because it’s not his burden to carry. I hate my other family members because they are ok leaving it all up to me because they have their own lives to worry about and dont want strain on their lives. It feels like betrayal and it hurts. 

My sister also has fetal alcohol learning disabilities so I’m trying to cope with the fact that she may never be able to live on her own/drive a car/have a career. 

Has anyone here had experience raising their siblings or raising kids at a young age? I feel like a child making adult decisions. How do I remain a sister while taking on the position of a mother.",4.5940271493212625,4.820810772893772,6.146933850463263,79.59463477698775,69.47619047619048,8.474811463046759,28.146735617323852,8.313332769828598,1.9026726567550096,1043,33,206,14,17,358,150,273,0.172,0.7290000000000001,0.099,-0.9808,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,5,1,9,18,2,3,15,1,20,2,1,2,4,41,43,21,0,3,5,6,3,3,1,3,1,0,0,3,11,19,1,0,7,0,0,4,4,9,0,0,2,3,26,9,31,32,4,29,0,3,0,0,23,12,1,4,16,133,37,2,0.211709130313414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312633772359387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465185751161755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401597319880128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871677624778591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158515680284205,0.0,0.0,0.09118433487874628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712606295988892,0.0,0.06826743739639372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406076199999658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918703661448475,0.0,0.0,0.10354607662180136,0.19958052642939966,0.0,0.1605697461511196,0.22686756749608106,0.0,0.0,0.09674915483608973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060928261664284,0.0,0.1203191775959358,0.08878578701761873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268415296695553,0.0,0.10450946795393418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331950133644565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208470030833588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514558084485222,0.0,0.4673576018945395,0.0,0.0,0.11842418186122156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065874421627134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164156637579731,0.0,0.1125775309380168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050716679106681,0.0,0.0,0.11753896756331828,0.0,0.1010501601357876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641307520957008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22729637602636174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597888620006117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865818996238402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976667492287518,0.0,0.07958945923466643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032506949296387,0.06782733113241209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186830126525648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062435765126639016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750044921950544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633373876534774
parenting,mymexicanshrek,2020/04/19,I made this subreddit called r/kidsvsadults The whole idea of the subreddit is for adults and kids to understand each other better. I thought some parents might be in the subreddit and might wanna joking with help under understanding their kids. I can’t make you join but I would appreciate if you did.,5.136545454545455,7.808413200000004,4.790909090909089,80.30636363636366,71.54545454545455,8.763636363636364,27.363636363636363,9.3871,2.640927272727272,246,9,43,6,5,75,44,55,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.8126,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,0,17,12,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,7,2,7,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,4,0,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21238783732158314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452138557170556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096344937157367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710933256812822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272300425667544,0.16029797298738785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5095096313331412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666514733089676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19064749766677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999967095804581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26811218029150513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059139501546233,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andthatwillbethat,2020/04/19,"What are some creative questions I could use to ""interview"" kids about Covid pandemic? I think it would be valuable to record the kids (5f/7m) perceptions during this (hopefully) once in a lifetime event. Looking to you all for some input...thanks!!",7.2055038759689936,8.936148465116283,5.9162790697674446,78.17503875968997,64.34883720930233,9.454263565891472,35.26356589147287,9.725611199111238,3.6026961240310085,196,9,32,4,3,58,38,43,0.0,0.845,0.155,0.7639,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,10,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,5,3,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,4,1,21,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969970891240123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694617235135019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123709105675884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39614833044920417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167045940604298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424707375649161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383508294017816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212727231836601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642451004012997,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaltWife98,2020/04/19,"Incontinence issues So, I feel deeply embarrassed to even talk about this but my 10 year old (5th grade) sister has had in the past few years a problem in which she often ends up at the end of the day, when my mom  helps her wash her butt, with some poop in her underwear, sometimes fresh sometimes clearly having been there all day.
The girl is otherwise completely normal intellectually and physically, a bit emotionally unstable  (cries for anything, can't be left alone with our 16 yo brother because they will fight physically, really prickly and sensitive about people looking at her the wrong way) and undisciplined. My mother blames the issue on her eating too much chocolate and recently, since the problem worsened during quarantine, on her being too focused on her videogames to realize when it's time to poop.
None of these seems a plausible reason in a preteen to me, but she hasn't even thought of calling a pediatrician and sees is a discipline problem, telling my sister to 'solve it quickly'. This seems strange to me because my mom is normally extremely precise and hygiene/appearance focused and I can't find a reason why she'd ignore it so much. My sister generally says, when asked for explanation, that she didn't realize and acts like it's a surprise when she sees her undies are dirty, and often says she never pooped during the day so it's not even clear if the issue is incontinence or not cleaning herself up properly.

I'm really scared about this, and not allowed to question my parents' parenting as I'm 21, don't have my own kids and only live here part time. I know stuff like this can be sign of abuse or psychological problems too and I'm really worried. Has anyone had experience with this? Not as medical advice, just to have a direction on where the issue might be",10.941179001721174,8.560770174698796,10.292306368330467,63.50957831325304,58.09638554216868,13.582099827882965,42.99139414802066,12.031772070788634,5.158793631669536,1446,64,245,34,14,468,188,332,0.16699999999999998,0.743,0.09,-0.9848,3,2,0,0,2,0,31.0,1,0,1,0,23,13,2,2,19,0,26,8,5,3,5,56,38,26,0,7,10,9,1,2,0,2,2,2,1,2,14,15,1,2,11,0,0,1,11,10,0,0,5,6,30,3,34,26,9,34,0,0,3,1,37,14,2,10,20,172,44,1,0.0,0.10784937025658428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894827117465695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094274124672158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636465779507254,0.0,0.07490556203158126,0.0,0.0850957954114139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097560931597253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937538359592356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294638313881276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543765305857356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998634506220658,0.17611017951796146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314097968185196,0.0,0.10239052188381233,0.16124171118676087,0.0,0.0,0.18036284291885746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903961067295671,0.0,0.0,0.046024817001261986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319491535161916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101192933362691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800244993023055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050024787765528586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889858933652568,0.0,0.0,0.08894012898567484,0.0,0.08037646673901097,0.0,0.07643781237225518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169779640416018,0.0,0.0965628089577638,0.0,0.2132140278154131,0.0,0.0,0.1338272375393932,0.0,0.07020385051750774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836973481756385,0.0,0.0,0.09551509756270016,0.0,0.0,0.06922837659645432,0.0,0.0,0.20214428691421105,0.09857086630448204,0.0868933639059393,0.06310505725663611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34839333125646343,0.0,0.0,0.10196848201252724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493823695710892,0.1871770778433013,0.08987589763623946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477296997538072,0.09113159160315534,0.0,0.1450697819115662,0.1657309137591729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529656214839349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005148692578904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420148975672787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316219588313087,0.07955958897716138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226343434295188,0.1061544546003584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225116011125317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213562251181551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243998863069816,0.0,0.0,0.0995212065197597,0.0,0.1172338288160625
parenting,chemcove,2020/04/19,"Help potty training? My daughter is 2 1/2 and I began potty training around 6 months ago, but recently she hasn’t had any interest in going on the potty and has reverted back to nappies. 

I’m just wondering if there’s any ways to encourage the potty more. I’ve tried sitting here on it in the morning and then again in the evening and that worked for a while but as I said, she’s not interested anymore. 

Our Health Visitor suggested putting her in knickers, but I don’t think she’s 100% ready to tell me when she needs to go, obviously I know it won’t be easy and I won’t be able to catch her before she has an accident ALL the time, but I feel like if she can’t tell me occasionally when she needs to go then maybe she’s not ready?",4.044117647058826,4.516587692810461,5.339091503267976,84.03491176470591,70.76470588235293,8.995816993464052,29.02549019607843,9.120678840339163,2.1402188235294117,579,21,127,11,10,194,92,153,0.045,0.7979999999999999,0.156,0.9533,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,7,0,11,1,0,0,2,23,23,17,0,4,9,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,4,0,0,5,7,0,0,0,3,2,20,4,15,16,2,26,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,3,13,82,23,1,0.1950116090390596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286602508593713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265229162759155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19339911498423284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360167690680842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995189000279194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594051600854978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880332857201107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860372897338752,0.1393163324626661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324887743835743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072882212545645,0.0,0.0,0.13071217087058626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717328033369827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527282175962963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591537262151376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556564058157029,0.0,0.0,0.2891972742386737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19604052965209198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255043755026074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550069740527053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408974835694849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495556484857663,0.0,0.0,0.11371283747249335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240008163930891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479113821196702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21148177136456195,0.14197077395748944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MumThatLikesToGame,2020/04/19,"Found out my daughter shaved her leg Hi I was wondering if anyone can advise me on what to do. My daughter is 9 (10 in a few months) yesterday I noticed their was blond hairs in My razor, when I asked her about it she lied and said she didn't use it (she's the only blond person in the house) so I mentioned that I know she used it just wanted to know why, she said because her legs were hairy and she just wanted to do it. I feel like being only aged 9 she is too young to be shaving her legs. So now she's walking around with half a shaved leg *face palm*  I am glad she didn't cut herself but I told her she shouldn't be using my razor as I use that on my private bits and that she could of cut herself, thought I put my razor out of her reach like I always do but now i have put it somewhere she can't just grab it. What can I do?",0.11491545893719746,1.8203552500000024,1.9923188405797128,98.98553140096621,83.45652173913044,4.523671497584541,17.830917874396135,5.033348758259628,-0.7766053140096618,642,14,158,2,18,212,97,184,0.011000000000000001,0.919,0.07,0.7893,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,11,5,2,0,4,0,21,7,7,4,0,27,37,10,0,5,6,2,3,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,11,7,0,0,6,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,10,7,41,3,17,22,2,18,0,0,2,0,31,8,0,2,9,111,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314935687271302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049820769820444,0.0,0.0,0.14068014996488384,0.14773666045162695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633358400764863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725277639462775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617404724442294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990468540531072,0.112896619967136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732716713052939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234533205124234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736982432222336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441089154821058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613798958234085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991813291853373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24037777935796595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798564719881792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177274736286831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30064532088100515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254581194168044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100437889817686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.545948512463615,0.0,0.0,0.1864203048233756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425974399245524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137672769357362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sooyahn,2020/04/19,"I hear phantom cries... am i going CRAZY?? Am I going crazy? My daughter is 15 months old and she is the most gentle sweetest baby. She rarely cries or wakes up during the night, but these past weeks she has been waking up every 2-3 hours crying and when I give her milk she falls right back asleep. (Of course, I feed her enough before she goes to bed.)

And since this happened, the phantom crying this has gotten worse. It's like I'm paranoid. Especially at night, I think I hear the baby and I run to the room or take my AirPods out to figure out if she is really crying.",1.8300548589341723,3.848453870689661,2.967554858934172,92.5692946708464,79.25862068965517,4.907836990595611,17.442006269592472,5.565023196281405,-0.5053344827586206,443,8,93,2,11,142,75,116,0.187,0.758,0.055999999999999994,-0.9547,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,8,5,3,0,0,13,18,9,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,6,2,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,18,1,9,16,2,20,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,4,10,56,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542737778812734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666857597636443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7530319921336441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14166893169170866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551917217811035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152622373264414,0.1558429601502894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124390889289767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30906074274698525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502349141222214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698390912182818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943807844481736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573326249810504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387149395596113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088483809378906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783471982712622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708924847026204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341692740172288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030879463417324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785309436096105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997954722047903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972448576951624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cinnabunnyturtle,2020/04/19,"Baby (6mo) loves music, I can’t sing and have no interest in music My baby loves music. Loves to listen to songs, loves when people sing or play an instrument. Up until I found out how much my baby loves music I didn’t have a single song on my phone (podcasts only). I don’t listen to music. 
But I want to do everything to let my baby enjoy music. I play the songs I bought for her. I have some toys that make music. But I cannot sing at all (and don’t really want to.) I know baby doesn’t care how bad it sounds but I can’t even remember simple songs. 
I considered signing up for some baby music class but obviously that’s not going to happen with the current situation and even then the class that I could have signed up for was full before it got listed.
So what can I do? I don’t mind putting on music for her but it doesn’t seem enough. I don’t have time to learn how to play an instrument and it would feel like an unwelcomed chore anyway. So what do I do?",1.5871647509578537,3.2703159950738936,3.6891215106732353,88.70037082649151,78.70443349753694,6.481554460864806,17.681718664477287,7.3871296695380915,0.1848808976464156,749,13,162,10,18,256,97,203,0.02,0.8220000000000001,0.158,0.9662,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,0,9,14,0,0,7,0,24,5,0,4,2,34,43,18,0,4,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,7,1,0,9,6,0,0,6,11,1,2,12,2,0,0,5,8,23,12,23,35,7,16,0,0,0,5,10,9,0,4,6,115,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810773523877814,0.0,0.0,0.1305577251586578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643222537406198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250146018716698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853432076752025,0.0,0.20267828467350896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789309197180805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757887498833033,0.10961050309639757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682281991228395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719786878745775,0.0,0.12271207715170042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567774185918838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432117733946203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568926853390517,0.0,0.07495820296076841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6923833346536512,0.0,0.10241579156314123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492067571486934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278878665413808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669051445601883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063691214222484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423964084188346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829125893248948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738064081599626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396770120766812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246187502924104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946633250784873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099411129422807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089923498642351,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rutgerd09,2020/04/19,"Angry Dad: Who’s at fault? So, it’s 4:30 AM now and I’m getting tired now and I’d like to sleep. But earlier, around 3:30...I sat in bed for hours and couldn’t keep my eyes shut for 10 seconds without getting frustrated. I have bad ADHD and with that, comes bad insomnia. I put on my VR headset and played a game that might make me tired called Beat Saber. (It involves a lot of quick movement.) I’d been playing for about 10 minutes until my father barges into my room, raging out of his mind, reaches for my headset and pulls and pulls on the cable which is still plugged into my expensive PC, he then throws it at my PC and it falls to the ground before picking it up again to pull on the cable again. I said, “you have to unplug it” and I unplugged it for him. He then pointed his finger at me and said, “YOU GONNA WASTE YOUR LIFE AWAY ON THIS THING?” (i’m 15 years old. during COVID-19 quarantine) I said “No.” he said “THIS IS GONE ALL DAY!” and walked out of my room. At first, I’m not angry at all. I regret what I did, but at the same time I just wanted to fall asleep. This is the second time he has taken my headset away for being up late at night/early in the morning. Last time I was sitting in bed talking to a friend about emotional stuff in VRChat. Days earlier he and my family were talking about my cousin David who my father likes to compare me to when I make a mistake. They like to compare my grades to David’s, even though he likes to brag about getting an D- or a C in all his classes. Anyways, David’s parents caught him at 4 AM lifting weights and playing with workout equipment. They didn’t care at all. I brought it up before he left my room with my headset in his hands and he said “I DON’T CARE” Everyone in my family thinks I’m the worst kid in all the grandkids. David has terrible grades, talks back to teachers, curses in front of everyone including parents, and uses the N word very frequently. (Not that my family cares, they are conservative and white. Not my business.) I just don’t know what to do anymore. If my father thinks I am a bad kid because I’m playing a game at 4 AM on a weekend, I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know if I want to put anyone at fault, but for now I’m going to blame myself because it’s not like my dad ever does anything wrong. Thoughts?",2.9065695906432767,4.102167282105263,3.9642543859649138,90.14158625730995,74.07368421052631,6.625146198830413,25.82602339181287,6.937597516519254,0.9570269005847952,1789,60,387,16,36,580,219,475,0.1,0.7979999999999999,0.102,-0.3204,2,1,0,0,0,0,62.0,0,3,3,2,21,25,2,0,18,0,26,10,5,4,6,66,63,28,0,7,13,9,3,5,1,2,4,5,5,2,23,25,1,2,6,8,1,16,12,12,0,3,16,10,53,13,71,43,8,85,0,1,2,0,46,42,0,5,31,247,76,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352459291249888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708572039510955,0.060231703182139926,0.0,0.07088660104350751,0.0766836423215714,0.0,0.0,0.16186437665600056,0.06623701627369907,0.21577209937112848,0.10502135662268702,0.0,0.14659908133361554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795946524264972,0.0,0.2634790913706016,0.0,0.0,0.07420273700280744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110747717173836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538246084018815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689689094588468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056895236002507586,0.07791935375159577,0.0,0.1646225964830048,0.0,0.0,0.2436178538761452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327138488671771,0.0,0.0,0.06655222690356236,0.0,0.13501515669856026,0.0,0.048955844791857404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483141083122148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656596827866564,0.0,0.0,0.142022317560053,0.07021631078551907,0.09717065985040656,0.0,0.09359231352016582,0.0,0.0608438480130125,0.21042040367801704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323389211464766,0.0,0.0,0.11499940688278698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138185641466093,0.08697772847904411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083737652509007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039035861855199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912984968148366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814309707518893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319074474657753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40969849438332057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620308563539411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879221462680253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986106936813324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077103188484666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057228170203025376,0.11039118989711068,0.08463297303883575,0.06838623329657156,0.1506883120857057,0.19801252962264432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439805911886667,0.0,0.07107524387554974,0.10161624067164003,0.0,0.0,0.1048963801461874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303673025471671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418152498422418,0.0,0.05547189972744168
parenting,RykkerofLore,2020/04/19,"What parenting tips do you wish you would have known beforehand? I am the proud new parent of a beautiful two-month-old boy.  I am also one of those ""Young"" parents by today's standards and am looking for the most useful tips that you wish you would have known when you were raising your first child.",7.563908045977008,6.796483896551724,6.598275862068967,82.19097701149427,63.48275862068965,9.802298850574713,31.402298850574713,8.841846274778883,2.2739126436781607,238,7,47,3,3,72,44,58,0.0,0.7509999999999999,0.249,0.9392,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,10,13,3,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,8,1,4,10,1,5,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,1,5,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562293906120516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661731897980615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405326998557773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593455721997632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867998893119206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20499754770376016,0.0,0.13238105058783411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.650772770334075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517851916995987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083841760369485,0.0,0.0,0.168728389912116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4493089163780089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775564006247037,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,farjaday,2020/04/19,"As a parent whether boy/s or girl/e gave you a tougher time raising them? People with multiple kids, as a parent who is relatively easier to raise in general? A boy or a girl? I understand there are common and unique challenges associated with raising either one but in your experience, which one/s gave you a relatively less tough time? A boy or a girl?",4.764117647058826,6.234811882352942,6.546352941176476,72.35158823529414,69.88235294117646,10.145882352941179,31.24705882352941,10.355215969177356,3.4636258823529413,280,12,52,8,5,97,44,68,0.022000000000000002,0.8859999999999999,0.091,0.4677,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,1,1,1,2,0,0,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,11,5,8,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,5,1,7,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,3,3,34,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997459575707464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152878825926854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6805053659894201,0.0,0.0,0.21243899958664367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573619471614446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190029663293001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,incaman88,2020/04/19,"What do I teach my daughter Hello reddit, new parent and my daughter is 15 months. I want to ask if there’s any resources or tips you guys have on what I could be teaching my daughter. Her mind is a sponge and I have no experience in teaching or what I could be teaching or how. Any help, resources, tips would be greatly appreciated thank you! :)",4.1407352941176505,5.4565963088235305,4.811058823529415,84.79276470588236,71.20588235294117,6.616470588235294,29.776470588235288,6.742157984588678,1.4693611764705885,271,11,54,2,5,87,44,68,0.031,0.779,0.19,0.8876,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,1,0,12,14,7,0,5,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,3,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,4,2,38,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584317510563206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463738275520761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208296419090017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577921691569337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905531940644817,0.0,0.26094550713230713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17664495035963015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660997362226494,0.0,0.21035468920255387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545280606041165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926293916406541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426317346726195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554424064154281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721087689121133,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Crushed_Avocado,2020/04/19,How to you discourage screaming and tantrums? Particularly with older pre-teen children struggling with expressing their anger.,11.330000000000005,16.190826444444443,7.58666666666667,56.70000000000002,62.33333333333334,10.266666666666667,47.88888888888889,10.125756701596842,6.9003555555555565,108,7,11,3,2,30,17,18,0.545,0.455,0.0,-0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,1,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mass_a,2020/04/19,"How to see my son (who lives with his mother) during quarantine? Hello, I have a 1yo and a half son and I don´t live with him. He lives with his mother and his grandma (70yo), so because of quarantine I don´t see my son since March 15th, and I feel sad by no to be with him. If there are someone passing through the same situation and could help me, please I want it.

Hugs!",2.5658333333333303,3.9127993552631612,3.478947368421053,92.68096491228071,75.1842105263158,6.64561403508772,23.19298245614036,7.1686216300943375,0.5752350877192982,285,8,65,3,6,91,52,76,0.068,0.807,0.125,0.5411,0,2,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,0,15,8,8,0,3,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,13,1,9,6,1,2,0,1,2,1,14,0,0,1,1,43,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488612039649274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028639220031597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847156940562082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030590939103474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6730775806206649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789059013735428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049411550077215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21017938017628032,0.28559898233862624,0.0,0.0,0.21528298125308265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986423517125513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saggarden,2020/04/19,"Angry Ungrateful Daughter Lied to Therapist My daughter (19) is back home from her freshman year of college because the school year got cut short because of corona. Her being home reminds me of what an ungrateful shit she is. A few days ago I was going to ask her to help cook dinner when I walked into her room and heard her in the walk-in closet (that mind you WE gave her instead of us). 

This is unusual for her, so I wanted to hear what she was doing. Turns out she was calling a therapist (her school offers its students free therapy over Zoom). She was telling the therapist she was scared of living at home because of her so called “abusive” father (my husband). She described my husband as emotionally and physically abusive and said living with him in quarantine is stressful for her. This is a complete lie. My husband has never been emotionally abusive and the very few times he has crossed the line physically (yes we do believe in corporal punishment, it’s normal for us Asians) he has apologized every time and promised not to do it. In fact, my husband hasn’t touched my daughter in three years. 

I’m so angry my daughter is ungrateful for every single thing my husband and I do for her. And before you ask, no he’s the biological father and not a step dad or anything. He pays for her expensive private college tuition and tutored her in math for hours every single fucking day of high school. Abusive parents don’t do that. My adult daughter is so ungrateful for everything we do for her and I’m so angry that she decided to lie and manipulate her therapist (that she never told us she was seeing). 

Does anyone have any experience dealing with an ungrateful, manipulative daughter like this? Thanks in advance.",5.447406542056076,7.19165785669782,6.05802570093458,75.451898364486,68.5638629283489,8.5898753894081,34.24727414330218,9.075114841892004,3.282546105919004,1376,67,231,26,24,447,158,321,0.17800000000000002,0.7759999999999999,0.046,-0.9938,1,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,2,0,1,8,10,4,2,12,1,27,4,1,2,3,30,43,19,0,2,3,15,1,1,0,0,0,3,5,1,13,18,2,0,1,1,4,5,7,6,0,1,12,5,47,5,37,30,4,32,0,0,1,1,67,14,2,1,14,166,60,10,0.0,0.4002593865256772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486387409508681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057431998674336335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905259387330721,0.0,0.0694989090682506,0.0,0.15790723110507754,0.0,0.0,0.06494034561105072,0.0,0.15444815254291866,0.0,0.07186461244516944,0.09515137140282666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724751021096041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854900212628489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893241231896557,0.0870689457077525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390675690681937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000003142232816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134698345914978,0.0,0.07590231525080263,0.08261276783456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780768822899267,0.0,0.0,0.04799747421181102,0.0,0.06754602882465957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518643008048662,0.0,0.05660811312047177,0.08923088232005066,0.2541444370350278,0.0,0.08317073213697918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04126023334747689,0.0,0.14914985220367544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527503298991544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302731303531301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274753999834683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377679730240816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033562898316865,0.0,0.08455375043314313,0.2564175786559809,0.06729935206528513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669139491853965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674241617673096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381701024417782,0.0777544144624633,0.09658115268172518,0.39223302629952295,0.05610785872835568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849226929703213,0.0,0.0,0.08069995383563076,0.0,0.0,0.0918623124282052,0.0,0.0,0.3047653207662755,0.0,0.0,0.06968385898597107,0.0498134891949556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315790819062068
parenting,fireopalrainbow,2020/04/19,I’m SO SO SAD my 5 month old is growing. I’m a first time mommy(24f). My baby is getting so big. I love him so much. I love to see him do new things but I also want him to stay my baby forever. Someone please sympathize and/or mope with me.,-1.3814555256064691,0.5935690754716987,1.61191374663073,96.99150943396229,94.09433962264151,4.538005390835579,18.892183288409704,6.1826913282559595,-0.12528355795148238,183,6,44,2,7,64,37,53,0.126,0.6779999999999999,0.195,0.2409,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,10,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,10,2,3,10,1,8,0,1,1,2,5,1,0,0,5,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22240580681785047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365616495317925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453018720736399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.502013291588731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219860864426736,0.0,0.204444081799234,0.0,0.0,0.26860198970390003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918314205420612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052831048786211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22161899853155814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23564312056790884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964300426795595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18476503977431935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216915479018526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403747212958966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,F-ckMyLife2019,2020/04/19,"Quarantine making me a bad parent *rant* Anyone else struggling here? I typically feel like I am a good mom. First few weeks we had a schedule. Reading, tracing, computer work, free time... now I'm like get the F*ck away from me. I am with my 4 year old 24 freaking 7 while I am working full time.  This shit is real and this shit is difficult. My husband/his dad works and on weekends my son is still up my ass..  and to think I was considering a 2nd kid...smh",-0.3827649769585229,1.873668365591396,1.8458755760368681,93.66024193548388,96.52688172043013,4.80768049155146,20.62135176651305,6.5431188927421005,0.41676098310291865,350,13,76,5,14,117,71,93,0.19,0.6970000000000001,0.113,-0.8225,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,4,3,10,2,1,5,0,8,3,3,1,0,9,13,4,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,0,1,2,1,12,5,6,11,2,15,0,0,0,1,5,4,3,0,13,43,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399922862561722,0.19635795119192556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005220231180452,0.0,0.1600114964220077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600907305725842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689900344020004,0.13690774090520846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16300898922715892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012405369347406,0.0,0.0,0.16073864139196284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18725136624266064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279212690374852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244465938258714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010940699028819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127936755574697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916919817782497,0.21812841333278613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3934316610201932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530440483737279,0.0,0.0,0.20034386425111864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279525160151145,0.0,0.0,0.22349379164789812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372214570463874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185488720561726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340995491023872
parenting,Cody0611,2020/04/19,"Caught Little Sister (11) Sexting Alright SO. I happened to pass by my little 11yo sister's laptop and I saw a message that wrote, ""I'm wet asf"" on discord. I don't know who sent it. I immediately assumed I saw it out of context and told myself to ignore it. Its been on my mind all night now. Should I speak up about this to my mom? I find it hard to believe that an 11-year-old without a door to her bedroom is sexting in the middle of the said bedroom.",0.7717894736842119,2.871140757894743,2.89605263157895,91.21986842105262,83.52631578947368,4.2210526315789485,24.23684210526316,4.935628992294339,0.28129473684210504,352,14,74,1,10,119,68,95,0.076,0.9009999999999999,0.023,-0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,1,4,0,0,0,1,12,14,3,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,9,3,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,8,6,12,1,15,5,1,13,0,0,2,0,11,8,0,1,2,50,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857651096384042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23182211050505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22429276818538416,0.0,0.2272113706680232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939375775981652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084272692516227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25610381429623624,0.2970597764812169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380236967301876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661522210641923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412694581884225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423636235154473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444996405033081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333566482917528
parenting,xdressed2killx,2020/04/19,"Positive things we’ve noticed about our kids during lock down. This has been hard, for parents all over the world. But it’s also the first time I’ve spent so much time with my son since maternity leave. I was wondering if parents have noticed anything positive attributes, behaviours or anything new about their children during this time they’d like to share? 

Mine is that I didn’t realise how affectionate my seven year old son is with our pets. I always just thought he just coexisted in the house with them and didn’t really pay them attention. Being home bound with him so much I’ve come to see the small moments when no one is watching that he stops what he is doing to sit with the cat and talk to the cat, or that he can’t actually walk past the dog without patting him or hugging him. Don’t know how I missed it when we were so busy with work and life and school but it’s warmed my heart and made the stay at home order just that much easier.",6.91,6.161374736842108,6.6010526315789475,81.57736842105264,64.78947368421052,9.915789473684214,31.63157894736842,9.120678840339163,2.3583263157894736,760,24,157,11,10,238,118,190,0.043,0.86,0.096,0.9001,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,4,2,13,6,0,0,8,0,16,3,1,4,1,34,24,19,0,1,10,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,11,13,0,2,4,0,2,2,6,1,0,3,8,4,18,5,18,14,4,23,0,1,2,1,22,6,0,5,13,100,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.1410310868653324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557293115658432,0.1202525703674084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378559906400901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449154888366135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292899914262286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946191353312908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125739871966253,0.0,0.0,0.2899315382407443,0.0,0.0,0.16675716604181204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942464569929668,0.0,0.0,0.15302626230811173,0.0,0.0,0.10207904971073274,0.07060537933960716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674871989856335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187174219399591,0.0,0.0,0.13957872642234834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290749220451385,0.15164987442642985,0.0,0.09793077977252146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32094565685217424,0.0,0.13796109789005434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258348450973627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462623850417963,0.11516406710215088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954878847346635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403954332634093,0.0,0.12082554597131495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161600427739228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601294825665092,0.0,0.0,0.1147330738634008,0.2528130649615296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931253187134265,0.15672623540299155,0.10521259017284228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930664150074018
parenting,hptango,2020/04/19,"New mom away from my baby. Please, I need help. I'm a new Mom to a 16 month old daughter. Due to circumstances and the virus I am stuck in HK since January and cannot go home in fear of infecting my loved ones. Opted to work here. Now, everyday I am struck with guilt for not being with my daughter. I have this fear that she won't recognize me anymore or love me as her mom. If you have gone through the same, please, tell me how you got through it. I really need an assuring hand. Thank you.",1.0966990291262135,3.0192987184466062,2.5182621359223307,95.35331553398059,81.23300970873788,6.838446601941747,20.97961165048544,7.908726449838941,0.6900726213592234,380,11,90,7,10,123,74,103,0.107,0.687,0.20600000000000002,0.9093,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,0,1,3,7,0,3,5,0,7,4,1,1,1,12,17,6,0,3,3,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,3,1,16,4,14,12,1,12,0,0,0,2,14,3,0,2,7,55,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462512246583476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648664782348858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35089394178309025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860970823947296,0.0,0.1246989347913498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450609058002812,0.0,0.15639478803252926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814375448697116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5478149457124932,0.12444933273767535,0.0,0.0,0.2312170040156913,0.0,0.3011660678949325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636058644050485,0.0,0.10565158683541552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422942339049831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988271385081304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897394706559018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627599885739874,0.14354496966747715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350749103239605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tryingtoletgo92,2020/04/19,"Long post sorry :( You have to know the back story so I apologize from now.

October of 2018 I left my husband of almost 8 years with our almost 4 year old son. He was devastated. My husband was very physically, mentally, emotionally abusive towards me and in front of our son. He suffered from depression and self medicated.

He was up all night and slept all day, while I would work and take care of our son.

October to April was literal hell of back and forth and my husband and his family manipulating our son. April
2019 I got an OP and my son didn’t see his father for a month. I removed our son from the OP a month later so he could visit with dad but kept mine until July 2019. His father and I did not talk at all between April through July and my son knew it. August of 2019 his dad started getting really sick. His visits of every other weekend and every Wednesday suddenly turned to just every Wednesday. I remained civil and even took our son to visit him twice at the hospital and offered day time visitation on his weekends. He was just too sick. 12/4/2019 was the last time my son spoke with anyone from his dads family and the last time he saw his father.

On 12/5/2019 I had a great heart to heart with his dad and on 12/6/2019 a family friend called to inform me that his father had committed suicide. My son and I did not attend the funeral, we were still legally married so I signed for his body but allowed his family to plan everything. They basically threatened me if I went and I didn’t want any issues. 

My sons behavior has entirely changed and I don’t know how to help my sweet sweet boy. I feel so awful as his mother for putting him through such a rough life and not leaving sooner.

His fathers family has not reached out at all regarding our son and I am not reaching out. They slashed my car tires in January and fought me through the police department for his fathers cell phone  but otherwise no contact. 

My son is always throwing tantrums, crying over the smallest things, etc.

He is in therapy, I bought him books about loss and death and always encourage him to speak.

I’m just at a loss. Any suggestions are appreciated",4.636970073843763,6.174376667469883,5.354823163622232,80.51504858142248,70.27710843373494,8.63194714341236,29.531675087446562,9.11188708381993,2.5132502914885344,1707,67,321,34,31,553,214,415,0.156,0.754,0.091,-0.9823,1,0,0,0,0,1,40.0,8,1,2,4,16,13,3,0,15,1,23,9,4,3,5,62,44,35,3,4,12,27,2,0,1,1,5,2,0,2,4,30,0,1,5,3,1,13,9,7,0,1,23,8,62,6,50,19,5,61,1,4,2,0,85,16,1,3,31,209,66,3,0.0,0.11844266074339835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20020183012722348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635845324898865,0.0,0.0,0.13595980933955368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989813683437615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373445486006684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103903150733087,0.0,0.0,0.10207585727431938,0.0,0.10192139470652492,0.0,0.10575014558812892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981424317148476,0.0,0.10980730549469568,0.12893883507141718,0.0,0.08610005850490685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124476278161995,0.0,0.0,0.11148785338479626,0.06602620847863774,0.0,0.2526755004242544,0.0,0.08984246193874144,0.0,0.4711924447838287,0.0,0.05054551336635794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723302541637306,0.0,0.05222779919899437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995146793270498,0.11021221404517274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23691897704475146,0.06700470508238121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433791300300807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987674665093887,0.1629702977001861,0.0,0.1058489320696926,0.10861270712029633,0.0,0.07060852324037561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846623940190354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007046305840816,0.10074161806710982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958286816597558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381076255798457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489687857774783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573922684468204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049284459162867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404039943754826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965948675542414,0.0,0.1042857210693216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190308876562366,0.07075602954158583,0.0,0.07983250310195164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934593013532068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516154516021163,0.08034840746507455,0.0,0.0,0.11431915489186495,0.0,0.06641257444664406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487189803776065,0.1148955297564011,0.0,0.0,0.11106524529949346,0.0,0.10873365694663084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248192993856704,0.058962187019537336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266893373126844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277600682462235,0.0,0.0,0.07101255693282674,0.0,0.0,0.12874888913190302
parenting,lurking_for_serenity,2020/04/19,Lazy teenager My daughter (16) has an opportunity to help others & make money while doing it two days a week 3 hrs ea day. The work is not difficult & she would continue to respect current safety protocols. She plans to turn it down because she will have to wake up “early” (it’s not early). I’m frustrated & disappointed. Obviously upset with myself because clearly she’s too comfortable. Do I force her to do it? Seeking advice.,3.7517592592592592,6.393396074074078,5.548873456790127,73.31368055555558,75.91358024691358,8.000617283950618,29.878086419753085,8.841846274778883,3.0302456790123453,346,16,56,8,8,118,63,81,0.087,0.677,0.23600000000000002,0.9199,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,1,7,1,1,3,0,8,1,1,1,2,7,11,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,8,3,8,9,0,10,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,8,37,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22196805514346624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7383498059471348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276936694136063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29298552609910145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225365390344245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516241867077883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470736428442413,0.2218922479939233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220578561186693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536768488015022,0.0,0.0,0.161360627626911,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sevensays,2020/04/19,"Help! Potty training 😩😩😩 Turns 3 in 3 weeks. I have only just convinced him to sit on the potty this last week or so- before that, absolutely not interested. 
Today I have been letting him run diaper-less. And bringing him to the toilet every hour or so. We’ll sit on the toilet for 10-20 minutes each time and nothing. Mostly consists of him trying to pull things off the counter, flush the toilet repeatedly or asking for candy. .. 
I diapered him for his nap. And he peed then. And also once on the floor. 

I’ve moved on to just letting him sit on the little potty in front of the tv w a snack. - hoping if he goes in the potty he’ll get excited and keep doing it. He’s been there for 40 minutes.... 
I think he’s a camel.


Do I put the diaper back on for bed time? Did I make a mistake diapering him for nap?",0.6468452380952385,2.7635795178571456,3.291666666666668,88.0866666666667,84.17857142857143,5.638095238095239,19.452380952380953,6.937597516519254,0.3695809523809519,621,17,131,8,18,217,99,168,0.031,0.898,0.071,0.7442,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,13,0,10,1,0,1,0,19,19,13,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,6,1,1,1,3,0,6,1,1,0,0,3,0,15,4,22,12,2,31,0,0,0,0,16,12,0,6,10,83,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865620738025074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854723069853004,0.0,0.0,0.15255331415303386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881931710829054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715613091887285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036530667894586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297981683374788,0.0,0.0,0.19705074869964684,0.19537886207170616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634236669088116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16171819807927687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057441406249594,0.0,0.0,0.1988436565167542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324300340847964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108622184690519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903651103413108,0.0,0.0,0.21128393049429933,0.0,0.15088814499134864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994415175839792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318046542330743,0.12712334295459551,0.0,0.0,0.2313711446764849,0.0,0.18805502232772925,0.0,0.0,0.13469701013993726,0.2157965140903011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182805978775577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwdatsnowaway,2020/04/19,"GFs son(8) always asks for help and never tries to solve problems on his own He's a good kid, but he just comes off as lazy and unwilling to put any effort in to solve any problem. Opening a locked door? ""I can't do it""
Opening a milk carton? ""I can't do it""
Turning on his tablet? ""I don't know how to do it""

Really anything that would require the most minimal amount of critical thinking, he just refuses to try. That's what worries me. He doesn't even make attempts at things, he just always asks for help.


Is this a confidence issue? I've seen the same characteristics manifest in him being too shy to try and read new words or a word he struggles with.


I've tried showing him how to do things slowly to teach him so he can do it himself, but I'll show him and he just still asks for help and says he can't do it the next time.

If he was an adult, I would say he is flat out lazy. But he's a kid so I understand it's not the same thing. 

How can I help improve his willingness to think critically and try and problem solve?",2.323774509803922,3.5933503425925966,3.7875163398692853,90.53852941176471,75.66666666666667,7.119389978213508,24.279956427015254,7.724431198458867,0.9807198257080608,798,25,182,11,17,264,116,216,0.145,0.747,0.10800000000000001,-0.7566,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,3,12,6,0,1,11,0,19,1,0,4,1,43,30,18,0,6,10,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,3,13,12,1,2,4,3,0,2,7,4,0,0,2,3,15,1,22,25,5,16,0,0,1,0,34,9,0,3,5,110,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073001596160632,0.0,0.0,0.1694202466241693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250838022563208,0.0,0.34936119221526124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073038101205874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227561202423166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044812493748429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33397968753209256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001603223106414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845900125298214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314972613250014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960740805751912,0.12030799914694253,0.132478873917116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575826190328989,0.0,0.1252246718893048,0.0,0.0,0.12460113870498715,0.0,0.07980108474205776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981220386060704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947970970140677,0.0,0.0,0.13022492326843468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24827119417906746,0.15963555736841764,0.0,0.0,0.07263626958856705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228655373157603,0.13549359230299207,0.0,0.12967908668451275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265042707858403,0.0,0.17697825508015474,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bkdevore,2020/04/19,"Things kids say There was just a post about things a parent has said to their child. It made me think of things that my kids have said that are beautiful thoughts, cool names for things, or just ridiculous in general. 
My 5 year old has always been obsessed with high heels since she could walk. She’s been able to walk and run in kid heels since she was 18 months. She’s not graceful in just about anything else, but she has those heels down. Anyways, she calls high heel shoes, “steps” and now all of us call them “steps”. 
She calls chill bumps, “Freeze Freckles” and I like that so much better than plain ole chill bumps. 
There are so many more clever things all my girls say, but it’s hard to remember when the pressure is on to write them down! 
What’re some cool things your kids say?",5.996139971139975,6.0276540974026,4.109307359307362,96.07761183261185,66.46753246753246,7.623665223665223,24.25396825396825,6.42735559955562,0.29539336219336265,617,11,141,3,9,170,98,154,0.055999999999999994,0.816,0.128,0.9294,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,3,1,12,9,1,2,3,2,12,5,5,1,2,22,17,9,0,1,7,1,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,6,12,4,0,0,3,0,0,5,1,3,0,0,8,9,17,6,17,8,5,19,0,0,0,0,29,8,0,2,6,83,29,0,0.13147368954596098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939664183991747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819164421197676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116277794307348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4027480099984329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049710429909648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982939728028396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777460176878307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778183428235126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642314037195825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440358394921128,0.0,0.13329368558805793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494104466342248,0.0,0.09664828937288514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795952092341246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598597337862054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259154519005119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893406099151035,0.0,0.2501231718603474,0.3136594646833517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175127892080783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5240716641816128,0.08424303158614244,0.0,0.10437542374586127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581466605953629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466474553336628
parenting,hear_roo_roar,2020/04/19,"Overnight diaper recommendations/help Hope this isn't the wrong sub...

We're been using the honest brand overnight diapers for months very successfully, but now that our almost 11 month old moves around a lot more in his sleep and is primarily a belly sleeper, he is leaking through his diaper almost every morning. 

Any suggestions on a more reliable brand or anything else I can do to help my little guy stay dry while he's asleep for those 10-12 hours?",7.548214285714287,8.127397392857144,7.116761904761906,73.96157142857145,63.16666666666667,10.529523809523807,32.27619047619048,10.355215969177356,3.253721904761905,367,13,65,8,5,115,70,84,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.8649,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,5,0,6,2,2,1,0,9,8,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,7,7,3,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,5,6,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41444684147529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407282678498812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702963733874325,0.18422305475596945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287423797270873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435831797420484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049060057526444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277418926367747,0.0,0.0,0.2055409927829875,0.20379707026761906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20741115087743012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593545257610071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303596956277906,0.21994755163612228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21715176119787613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20709235091556755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22057359594886514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17873222116025286,0.0,0.17074956467731545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262595738659729,0.0,0.0
parenting,gwh34t,2020/04/19,"Have your parents FaceTime with your kids while social distancing and play with their toys Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all who wish to spend more time with children in their family while social distancing. Here’s three easy steps to help. 

1) Go watch a couple of minutes of Blippi on YouTube.
2) FaceTime or Zoom with said kid in question. 
3) Let someone record you playing with toys and asking them questions (modeling Blippi of course)
4) Don’t forget to dance and be overly excited. A funny hat wouldn’t hurt either.",6.2788601823708206,8.205010989361702,5.4641641337386035,79.80500000000002,66.76595744680851,7.924620060790273,29.386018237082077,8.418075326091056,2.3095124620060794,419,15,68,6,7,126,72,94,0.051,0.7759999999999999,0.17300000000000001,0.8885,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,3,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,17,9,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,9,0,0,2,5,1,3,2,1,0,1,1,2,6,3,15,5,3,10,0,1,1,0,19,4,0,3,3,41,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092172138263807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496412534831243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269191301051307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282235121460303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122652180061033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24152798824460456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307089774548345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505213139936901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5054860266332744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21461372015587235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599768537035266,0.1911648079281712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155926323088046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594487628815115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,circuskerry,2020/04/19,"Teaching six kids 1-15yo at home It's coronavirus time, and that means no school. We have 6 kids, 4 in school. It's actually been easier than normal, with some online classes and lots of self directed work. We've found this works really well for our kids, and takes much less time for the same amount of progress. How are you all finding learning at home compared to normal school?",4.203059360730592,6.172773712328769,4.026232876712331,87.86665525114157,72.15068493150685,7.606392694063928,24.495433789954337,8.344100000000001,1.3959789954337904,303,9,60,5,6,92,58,73,0.03,0.861,0.109,0.6997,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,16,6,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,3,1,10,4,7,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,2,34,7,8,0.0,0.0,0.18160371079506765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008917755830566,0.0,0.0,0.20404562427578574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3733406895695141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821291310953312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027140592854033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680261991836012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646708620134686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192184270788513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5650199356122917,0.0,0.0,0.19413963282338206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992169426667667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170291754107068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732344511351482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709614911497307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Articflamingo,2020/04/20,"My son was very sick recently and I need help calming down. I'm scared to death.  My son is 12 and recovering from surgery to remove a benign tumor behind his eye.  It was precancerous and they say they got it all, but it was dicey and it was serious.  It all happened very quickly, before I had a chance to even know what was going on and there were so many critical concerns, due to where the tumor was located.  In the end, he did fine.  

I think it's me and I think the whole event has caused me to become a bit unhinged.  I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I was worried that he wasn't breathing right earlier.  He fell asleep next to me on the sofa and I actually timed his breathing and it was too fast.  My mind goes into instant panic - ""why is this happening; why is he breathing so fast?"".  

This kid is under seriously good care and his entire biological world is known to his team of doctors and nobody else is panicking but me.  

Maybe I just needed to say this out loud, I don't know.  I know I'll never stop worrying; it's my job.  I just wish someone could tell me that it's okay to exhale.",2.7384803188839086,4.249340219730946,4.428213751868462,85.38045714997511,75.05381165919283,7.4667663178873935,24.496512207274538,8.167268648758528,1.3567809666168409,851,27,179,14,18,287,128,223,0.13699999999999998,0.735,0.129,-0.4456,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,2,1,9,11,0,3,7,1,21,7,5,1,3,34,37,15,1,4,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,16,12,0,1,7,1,0,3,3,5,0,0,13,4,25,6,20,23,4,24,0,0,1,0,19,10,0,0,11,115,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.13917388067613534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750956751903888,0.121356790719512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570111899150044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540780956038793,0.1465072198614359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386828354049952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597481690039446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913842707717008,0.0,0.12631656830612145,0.0,0.0,0.09419736038837384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810526799602807,0.1196205978788834,0.11406405747004528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522319579954723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955933484262368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152563217916242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351361620119964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14459152497899436,0.1432782146630137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400278495973806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21149779409284092,0.10999522907538613,0.0,0.1516750823626955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733063526640735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081734656974007,0.0,0.0,0.12179436753380116,0.0,0.2268299513342893,0.1427847649452471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208391482758982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923442193775124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465377824972755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827667732669436,0.0,0.0,0.08316127580656824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534836420193925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573798031543446,0.15922708644718014,0.1640028197010898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896695167061814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gangreen90210,2020/04/20,"At what age do you stop doing bedtime routine/story? Very far from this with a 3-year old and 6-month old, but just curious when kids “generally” go to their rooms by themselves, read etc., and go to bed? Age 9? 11?",3.9614285714285695,5.045237047619049,4.760476190476194,85.86785714285716,71.38095238095238,7.504761904761906,28.285714285714285,7.793537801064563,1.5929428571428574,164,6,34,2,3,53,37,42,0.037000000000000005,0.873,0.09,0.5122,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,4,1,11,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,6,19,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462906072244322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35292966095878464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478388750076533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6516369752543731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31058494973725953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595926755890669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25619578040386404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999524147400879
parenting,ella8749,2020/04/20,"Parents of reddit who's significant other is not in their child's life how did you explain it to them? Up until this point my ex and I have been on some what good terms. He tours and I have done my best to make our daughter available for video chats and visits when he is home. We have no formal agreement through the courts as of yet.

Lately he has not been consistent and I am considering cutting off visits/talks until we have something formal in place through the courts. If he decides to reach out of course I am not going to say no but I am going to stress that it needs to be consistent or I will not continue until then. 

How did you explain this behavior to your children? I know one day my daughter will ask and I am not quite sure how to address it.",3.33731601731602,4.802204051948053,4.126688311688317,88.333841991342,73.41558441558442,6.691774891774893,25.82034632034632,7.1686216300943375,1.0760580086580085,600,20,124,6,12,192,94,154,0.07400000000000001,0.867,0.059000000000000004,-0.4902,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,3,3,2,2,5,6,1,1,2,0,19,1,0,4,1,27,27,17,0,2,8,4,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,9,8,0,0,4,2,0,3,7,2,0,1,5,1,19,4,24,19,3,21,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,3,10,97,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180063022576044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447242776989272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039179801623906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23863994802782096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26506073971137306,0.19559331149834397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23391408812042014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815814164798975,0.0,0.26305466781031706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647128696255062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556597990715839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291149958595994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580192978549986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589359926633723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24363965189139725,0.0,0.2204451116580564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480321061500493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544641188553126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952527960806267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26712464368551897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21978398773974528,0.0,0.0,0.18743370001320347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,a1thebestusername,2020/04/20,"Chapter Books for 1-2 grade child I’m have a hard time finding level appropriate chapter books for a fairly smart first grader. Everything seems way too easy or much too dense. 

The best thing I’ve found is Captain Pug and Dragon Masters but he isn’t so much into the dragon stuff. 

Ideally it would be a digital book with 3-4 paragraphs per page. 

Thank you.",2.7464285714285697,5.179861357142858,3.649999999999999,86.70500000000001,78.28571428571428,6.285714285714287,24.285714285714285,7.447530270364453,1.2330000000000003,285,10,54,4,7,91,59,70,0.017,0.794,0.18899999999999997,0.9032,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,4,3,4,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,9,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,4,4,6,4,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,2,28,4,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963866326131198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538245393062423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258130479368105,0.2402297658792703,0.0,0.3096634104731189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529964889916891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152283686154445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571082621693945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233079856875094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600181346873036,0.0,0.0,0.18762999977176595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468374381558254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241750774743292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062595302345015,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PacificNorthwestMLE,2020/04/20,"Today we removed my son’s feeding tube!!! My son was born four years ago and it was a tough labor, but I was ready. I had one kid who survived infancy and I thought I knew what was coming. Some sleepless nights, some missed showers, lots of time at home, I was wrong. He failed his congenital heart defect test at 24 hours old, just before he was set to go home with us. He had been sleeping a lot, but seemed healthy and was feeding. They told us he had a heart murmur and he had to go to the nursery. Every test they ran, they had to redo or did it wrong because they weren’t a hospital with a NICU. No one could tell us what was wrong. His oxygen saturations were low and he was put on oxygen. We were terrified. The next morning my husband asked them to transfer us to a hospital with a NICU and they did. We followed an ambulance in terror, separated from our newborn having no idea what was happening or why. We spent the next four days in a NICU with his oxygen saturation’s improving for no apparent reason and signs that things just weren’t right but no one knew why. They told us it was time to go home. No explanations. 
When we got home he slept a lot and when he breastfed his jaw would click sometimes. I felt in my guts that something wasn’t right. Our family pediatrician was concerned and thought he maybe had something called Pierre Robin Sequence. She referred us to a craniofacial specialist at Seattle Children’s Hospital. Our son was 3 weeks old when we took him to SCH and after an exam and blood test, we were told he wouldn’t be going home. He had Pierre Robin Sequence and as a result he was retaining CO2. He couldn’t breathe properly and was failing to thrive because he couldn’t eat sufficiently without exhaustion. He was admitted to the hospital and we spent the next few days learning how to hold him, put him down for sleep, feed him. Nothing was the way it was for a typical baby. They even sent us home with a car seat bed that he would lie in on his stomach. He was readmitted to the hospital every time we went there because he wasn’t improving and they had to step up interventions. I couldn’t breast feed him anymore as it was too exhausting for him, we couldn’t put him on his back at all if we could help it. Only diaper changes. He eventually got a nasal feeding tube and then a surgically placed GJ tube. We spent months in and out of the hospital. I learned how to shove a tube into my son’s nose down into his stomach and then how to care for a wound and huge feeding tube. I learned how to use a feeding pump and a how to burp him through a tube. We timed feedings and tracked and measured every mL he drank. He was steadily gaining weight but could barely raise his head on his own. After months we still had no idea why any of this was happening. They suspected an underlying genetic syndrome but none of the tests indicated anything yet. Months went by and several more surgeries. He began to get a little stronger and began army crawling around the house a little. He seemed bright and engaged and continued growing. After so much fear and struggle the first year, his first birthday felt like an absolute miracle. We cried because we still had no idea why life had to be so hard for him, but he made it. He continued to improve but still really lagged behind. When he was a year and a half old, we got a genetic diagnosis. As far as his doctor could tell, he was potentially one of 15-20 people ever diagnosed in the world. The syndrome came with 50 something potential clinical findings, but he would probably live a full life. He would always be disabled, but would probably be able to go to work, get married, have a family and be independent. We were sad and relieved all at once, we had some answers, but not all of them. Our son turned 4 two weeks ago and we got the go ahead to remove his feeding tube from his stomach. He is eating some foods and able to drink his nutrition if he cannot eat it. He is walking, running, talking, going to preschool and has friends. He is exceeding expectations and filling our life with a ridiculous amount of joy. He was so brave when we removed his G tube today and I cannot contain the joy I feel for him. Reliving his beginning in life is difficult. It’s a wound that hurts to touch, but it’s easier now that he is kicking life’s butt. I know this is long winded, but it’s a long story. To anyone who read this, thank you. And thank you, Henry, for deepening my capacity for love, strength and compassion.",4.353722761879759,5.758124156996588,4.9743299203640525,83.48518613809402,70.79749715585893,8.367137481403693,29.450266911700357,8.841846274778883,2.267446402380327,3550,140,703,65,65,1139,361,879,0.10099999999999999,0.778,0.121,0.9783,5,0,4,0,0,0,92.0,33,2,11,9,26,31,1,3,49,0,78,47,17,10,4,152,132,72,0,17,20,6,6,1,1,6,13,0,8,3,25,71,16,3,22,2,3,27,21,18,0,10,75,10,91,13,89,38,17,117,0,6,2,3,132,34,1,13,55,446,116,15,0.09717761100120836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614208879104036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04042977854455673,0.0,0.0,0.03304205392154744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818703885508532,0.033974422552021794,0.0,0.03998444689246042,0.0432543383205158,0.04542397413645745,0.0,0.0,0.03736179222199183,0.0,0.11847713939272254,0.0,0.04134549474638907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049614602970247335,0.05557264928721065,0.049539525481999636,0.0,0.05140051357394641,0.04185495359190599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517682994057996,0.0,0.05337252128787779,0.06267151979260438,0.0,0.0,0.04931661479679247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049732701313845634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04759853143914408,0.0,0.14915543470712786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0320924477812105,0.0439513563369092,0.12281449275676963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161040306603972,0.05467591468020292,0.024567959991359287,0.0,0.09330574604559164,0.0,0.04440928796712125,0.08265922627442222,0.058753776479194435,0.0,0.03753959060002342,0.0,0.050771290890149146,0.0,0.19329896526818865,0.0,0.15544362572275322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593384047437974,0.0,0.04352602591451588,0.0,0.04986613231434618,0.0,0.0,0.11515593692838633,0.03256805211899235,0.0,0.2924312016369067,0.0,0.04785018594856346,0.056064957889794785,0.05201532122597497,0.164552541481349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02670313679609083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715985513338456,0.023738036052228944,0.0973974956976356,0.042904805445216576,0.08599912773498798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392539465345828,0.04385329399791786,0.045975902592839415,0.0,0.0,0.04881398590469796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163493629590141,0.0,0.03571836274255903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502423763361795,0.04559730246636407,0.0,0.04662226932516075,0.0,0.15295733356811736,0.051745492091079474,0.13170012838151784,0.036953976078640524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033685359832956265,0.0,0.05076496014804675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477390073393404,0.0,0.0,0.14653550953871242,0.0,0.0,0.04860195432142712,0.0,0.031127232991158767,0.04995738450874968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298914882558629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846684731967823,0.0,0.054891519962056864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724779150968542,0.0,0.0,0.11221810892587364,0.048055571052637136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640924851250377,0.0,0.0,0.05079556926994993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039053841350145176,0.0849375152916434,0.08946808798611773,0.0,0.0,0.03228024335418652,0.0,0.0,0.077148168290476,0.11333009291290218,0.0,0.0921130125493367,0.13928605765002727,0.05398395072518132,0.0,0.05285066775792247,0.04746420274451671,0.0,0.4091244530477962,0.04196512739995329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0385675321836454,0.07795001788203469,0.059168075199321726,0.0,0.0900846189789436,0.17537535783621622,0.0,0.0,0.04683787460701469,0.0,0.035373229094320384,0.0,0.0,0.17258046673347308,0.1593726936493122,0.0,0.09386879308747427
parenting,papamajama,2020/04/20,"Should I be worried about my son losing friends during the stay at home orders? (Also a bit of rant) 3 kids and my middle son (12) has a bunch of friends in the neighborhood.  We are following the social distancing rules and all that (in OH) and have not been socializing since before March 12th.

The problem is that pretty much all but 1 of my sons friends are not doing the same and they are all out playing together nearly every day. We are not letting our kids play and have explained why and they understand, but I can see that it stinks for my son to see his friends out playing.  We go for walks and bike rides and stuff so he can at least see them and say hi, but more and more I see the  neighborhood kids slowly forgetting about him. 

Today we were getting ready for a walk and my son was standing at the end of the driveway when 2 buddies were riding down the street on bikes and completely ignored him. He said hi and one of the 2 mumbled something but they didnt even stop or slow down. These are kids that were jumping on our trampoline and swimming in our pool last year and now they are acting like he doesnt exist. As we walked, we went past the house the kids were headed to and they were playing basketball with 2 other of my sons buddies and my son waved and said Hey and none of them responded. Maybe it's just my overprotective parent instinct and it isn't as big of a deal as I am making it out to be, but I am afraid that once the rules are lifted he will have lost many friends and it is breaking my heart a little.

Am we doing something wrong or being too protective with this stay at home stuff? My SO works in a hospital directly with patients,  so we are sort of making health and safety a priority (as if we need a reason to). Are we messing up our kids by being so strict with the stay at home orders?",5.723942805383023,5.470970475543481,5.866024844720496,84.21789855072466,67.07065217391305,8.857349896480333,29.480331262939963,8.269060116576782,1.8338668219461696,1437,44,300,17,21,456,184,368,0.047,0.845,0.10800000000000001,0.9725,1,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,14,0,7,3,12,18,0,1,22,0,39,3,2,3,3,67,55,40,0,4,12,8,0,1,5,2,1,3,4,6,15,39,0,3,3,8,0,11,7,8,0,1,12,8,39,10,45,36,11,51,0,2,4,0,58,22,0,4,12,214,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068944618395664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585820515660046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015632943344747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579140598262353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507195326643556,0.104023150602096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893671773289649,0.0,0.0,0.06664329408749674,0.0,0.08501234116715516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897742536401853,0.0,0.052715923899938,0.0,0.057343619448591523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355219220070497,0.10725165291220504,0.0,0.1195666192706695,0.0,0.0,0.30363184983444325,0.0,0.0,0.11642469599468434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224671480775961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317676988504867,0.0,0.04929449222675101,0.10112799736272404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288094473129227,0.11014393150784968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470265405770512,0.10229644951838868,0.10136730112978004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417288231812344,0.07481584214500807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745487756615033,0.06837224171031674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120371658284828,0.0,0.09632017179348756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265125951668927,0.0,0.09654737718133813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374168684035416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195742326959603,0.08023948384698773,0.0,0.0,0.3216159597847205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346526680038621,0.0,0.0,0.20570905610427934,0.0,0.15535502279902555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226369354064079,0.0,0.08435665939882295,0.0,0.0,0.2310120115816885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956411088749176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504013641817296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353502413251227,0.09104627689712866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345617652566203,0.10246853367462154,0.0,0.0,0.11031797226143752,0.0,0.06497609267259377
parenting,get_murk3d,2020/04/20,"My daughters ear piercing question Hello to all,

So my partner and I decided to let my daughter get her ears pierced (about 5 months ago).  We have been using the specialized ear cleaner from the piercing shop.  I’m not sure what is happening to the piercing site, but her ear is red around it and discolored.   I’m just curious anyone has ran into this problem, so any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all in advance, and be safe.

To add a visual here is a pic link 
https://imgur.com/gallery/O43N3Ie",5.9267281105990754,7.830895989247317,5.705407066052231,77.82096774193552,67.60215053763442,8.325038402457759,33.715821812596005,8.841846274778883,3.026478955453149,409,19,69,7,7,127,70,93,0.055,0.7809999999999999,0.163,0.9009,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,5,0,10,4,4,1,3,20,17,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,3,7,0,1,3,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,5,8,5,9,11,2,8,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,1,2,46,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753495534340119,0.2497786085825353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161825233315305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970252663137593,0.0,0.0,0.2508415710017099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721702912548384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106605098034586,0.0,0.0,0.249174769326892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288136419008269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22491198280446628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26962285751594023,0.0,0.0,0.3156551062286763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655718062791895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594227147651505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433651488618045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001665362620972,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,donaldjacobsen,2020/04/20,"To help fight off a little bit of the never-ending boredom, I'm giving away books To help fight off a little bit of the never-ending boredom that many of us are experiencing, I've decided to give away two of my children's picture books, *Mighty Mommies and Their Amazing Jobs* and *My Daddy the Amazing Nurse*, absolutely free. These books highlight medical workers, scientists, and community helpers.

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parenting,izzybugboo,2020/04/20,"Which name sounds better? Which name is better?

Addalyn Avery Taylor
Or
Addison Avery Taylor 

I really like the nickname Addie and the middle name Avery. 

I could also do Avery as the first name and Addison or Addalyn as the middle. 

Taylor is the last name",2.9300709219858163,5.9431518297872366,5.29053191489362,71.0841666666667,83.8936170212766,7.388652482269504,18.471631205673766,8.344100000000001,1.92494609929078,204,5,28,5,6,71,24,47,0.0,0.8240000000000001,0.17600000000000002,0.8382,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,4,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,2,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,3,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150567908666962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6968669615820984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145521129763759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335109749201192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32113723977713016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247330676872826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25238656859342096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burtsbeeswaxx,2020/04/20,Advise on how to take away pacifier? My LO is one year old and 4 months old. Since he was born he has used a pacifier. He uses it to sleep and basically all day. He doesn’t even need to cry and he loves using it. His doctor said it’s time to get him off it. Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!,0.06799107142857252,2.0938017812500007,2.9100892857142884,90.48312500000002,85.875,6.1571428571428575,16.955357142857142,7.447530270364453,0.11727946428571424,230,5,54,4,7,81,49,64,0.046,0.8390000000000001,0.11599999999999999,0.6982,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,3,1,4,1,10,14,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,3,2,7,10,1,10,0,0,0,1,11,3,0,0,7,28,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900329763579952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204645335895254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453072922666767,0.13182515741459852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20921851587599646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500843747137253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679385845252934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253586742499897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448467193885984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315516349283574,0.0,0.0,0.1515646860558991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289800671194989,0.0,0.1385110031866913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19443720580973836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908700880026736,0.0,0.20455392603226996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368810361566196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919096096196305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5296242577549881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452043752512264,0.0,0.0,0.1316309594961603
parenting,CosmicUnlearner,2020/04/20,"Need advice for a 5 year old who talks non stop Being huddled in the covid crisis and working from home is stressful as it self but our foster daughter who is 5 years old talk from sun up till sun down. Lately she has not been able to sleep as well. Any advice on how to handle this is appreciated. 

Things to note:
She has been diagnosed with ADHD and is on meds
When on meds she is agreeable but still cannot be quiet .
When's she's not on meds she is extremely explosive and has  temper tantrums like no other and very mean to talk to for a 5 year old
They get enough play and exercise, we live by where they have access to a lot of land to burn energy without coming in contact with other humans.
She has other kids (other foster kids) she can play with but she cannot get along with them and always wants to talk to adults. 
She has trouble falling asleep ( guessing because of meds and staying asleep through the night) she will wake up us multiple times .

We cannot tell her to stop doing something that she cannot control , but we need to find a way to keep our sanity . We do take long walks / runs / time away for one adult to destress but anymore it just seems like we need to be doing more cos we don't think anyone is learning anything from this . What can we do to improve so this situation?  

PS. One of the issues we have trouble understanding is what it is like to have ADHD . If someone could throw in some experience on how it is to live with ADHD we can empathize better .",3.81111111111111,5.091405111111115,4.4547979797979815,87.16886363636368,71.96296296296295,6.881481481481483,24.61111111111111,7.1686216300943375,0.9195737373737368,1166,33,238,11,22,372,157,297,0.085,0.8009999999999999,0.113,0.9052,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,12,0,3,3,9,12,2,1,7,0,37,6,4,4,0,54,51,21,0,6,10,1,0,3,0,1,2,1,1,6,17,23,0,4,6,3,0,5,9,5,1,2,2,1,27,7,50,44,4,38,0,0,0,0,42,14,0,5,20,169,44,2,0.09250213812066976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335087823938813,0.18078403758400735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696918910818203,0.0,0.0,0.06290462595553195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917372649497168,0.0646796457558118,0.0,0.07612137798034503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690880374855316,0.0,0.0,0.056388444824555274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181062406121216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968240129188953,0.0,0.0,0.1037490135187866,0.07385543032187075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388772303776922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557943605881418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048484085068713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454527842476324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665709856618887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190153392318227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278718669836483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965481993880031,0.0,0.08222015057816387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434644090965063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355756166668524,0.0,0.16336216535656709,0.0818614813642626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786420099224307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076194634443096,0.4109960893510094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057674899784213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680699035956169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29119630026943993,0.0,0.12536368552943353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421047240771666,0.0964999040265666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397627893529077,0.09256894205854843,0.0,0.07837676144885933,0.07121266517087256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859497143552534,0.07387232699304988,0.15467185888088064,0.10596088668512606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955009583361417,0.2973988588107137,0.08085094591424358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145431027895229,0.059271635035092786,0.0,0.0,0.10787748124130424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629798804673148,0.111268682671303,0.0,0.0,0.07632395155715338,0.05456015771132874,0.07342389162006836,0.0,0.0,0.08317053123067393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916876020182901,0.0,0.06734265824699541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17870503244394734
parenting,Atw112,2020/04/20,Is anyone else delaying shots for a month to avoid covid? My kiddo is due for 12 mos shots but the pediatrician said we can wait a month and see if the pandemic situation is getting better. I’m still worried about this. Is anyone else in the same boat?,3.66,5.351617599999997,5.097000000000001,80.78350000000002,73.0,8.200000000000001,24.5,8.841846274778883,1.7033999999999998,200,6,40,4,4,67,39,50,0.09,0.836,0.073,0.2047,0,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,10,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,5,9,1,6,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,5,23,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33894976644689057,0.496685558410516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143618103839922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049479709282136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663141781933762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869243040193628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305550094855137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19314223278231368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724406963682761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19356172787118814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246144518413745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blah_fkin_blah,2020/04/20,"My two year old is shoving large amounts of food into his mouth and I don’t know why My two year old boy (well he’ll be two in 2 weeks) has had this issue since I weaned him from breastfeeding about 6 months ago. He’ll take handfuls of food and shove all of it in his mouth at once. Amazingly he hasn’t choked but this causes him to spit out half chewed food which is not only disgusting but also wasteful and I sometimes worry he’s not getting enough to eat because he’s spitting a large portion of it out. We’ve tried giving him less food on his plate at one time which almost made it worse because he tried to eat that as fast as possible so we would give him more. We’ve tried encouraging him to slow down but he’s extremely stubborn and just ignored us. Even cutting it in small pieces doesn’t help, that just helps him fit more into his mouth. I’m seriously at a loss. It’s almost like food aggression with his older brother and he’s trying to eat it all before big brother “steals” it, even though he never has stolen it from him. Any advice? It makes me so anxious waiting for him to choke one day or that it will cause an unhealthy relationship with food.",5.417197106690779,5.400209734177216,5.450961422543704,86.13351265822786,67.69198312236287,8.290415913200723,28.32097649186257,7.7094869923839395,1.4635584086799276,925,27,196,9,14,290,138,237,0.161,0.733,0.106,-0.9312,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,10,12,4,0,3,0,11,16,6,4,3,34,22,15,0,1,8,2,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,17,12,10,3,1,0,0,0,6,8,1,6,2,1,21,4,30,15,9,28,0,1,0,0,33,15,0,3,14,116,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649866353244287,0.07846577396596463,0.0,0.17727577298000124,0.0,0.0,0.07078772947419314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019520470808504,0.0,0.0,0.10000002689600372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791937565240894,0.0,0.07532220987003911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181864525198008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05708672003622753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717277184655866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146264892363894,0.0,0.11693047099071037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6422171474452728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046246947234010384,0.16982886341924572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866335966287385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238968578346284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048647120714867695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043245372788402764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375777349634371,0.05908638295244952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065414010079532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827045837318084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576928314034366,0.0942686703598615,0.1199640344215514,0.06732184869963034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979062771503826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503509343791082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732229183143388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754646256996197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655444162613547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696838341912316,0.0,0.05161549701689184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403913637470553,0.0,0.2594073668025565,0.0,0.10647613000247112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100371687772218,0.0,0.07958821910251447,0.0,0.07987363308868349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989422017892801,0.0902072983495307,0.06288057363688095,0.0,0.0,0.11400524573961407
parenting,ktrekker,2020/04/20,"How do you keep your cool My daughter is 4.5 and although she’s normally a delight of a child, I find that I’m losing my cool with her. She’s been giving me an attitude lately which I’m able to control my discipline quite well. But she’s been purposely scratching her 2.5 year old sister, and I tend to lose my shit when I see her do it. Obviously the 2.5 year old is a handful, it’s the age. But when she’s starting to be willful, my 4 year old will purposely scratch her. I’ve never laid a hand on my child in my life, this isn’t learned behavior.  But I can really raise my voice when she does it, till the point that she reacts in a fight-or-flight response. It kills me to see her hiding like that, so then I feel awful. But seriously, she can’t scratch people! I’ve talked to her about this SO many times, how her sister is younger, about walking away, about getting help from mommy, about talking to her sister, and sometimes she’ll be great and just walk away... sometimes. I read that yelling at kids has the same Psychological response as hitting, but how am I supposed to not yell when catching her in the act. What would you do?",4.457532467532467,4.982823238095243,4.974441558441558,86.82737662337664,69.86580086580086,7.891601731601733,29.252813852813848,7.793537801064563,1.6304860606060614,892,32,191,10,15,285,129,231,0.069,0.86,0.071,0.1262,0,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,0,3,0,4,15,10,2,0,11,3,19,4,3,5,2,27,30,22,1,2,7,4,6,1,0,4,1,3,0,3,12,5,0,3,3,1,0,4,4,5,1,0,2,13,37,5,23,21,1,29,0,2,2,0,31,8,1,0,18,126,49,2,0.1387818105018519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260780158768659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565560133469986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214488976042878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017225331656914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684406055420644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250776797922584,0.13313215856897195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300743602112246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930225221843791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335564981305808,0.15354151108441244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655192715626462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980256970231958,0.06780178247118263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105226938785372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407029731823905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703708788625983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597670812340382,0.0,0.0,0.4368844935250582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621383314240764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119366916967945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761153845943845,0.13881936683074236,0.0,0.08890718151884335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118226965679688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245753413194526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745175184560748,0.0,0.09823047977926933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230951246396803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092478975738604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478151466657332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858661633584798,0.0,0.0,0.2681128074684078
parenting,anniemaew,2020/04/20,"Book recommendations I have a 4 year old step son and am pregnant with my first biological child. I'm suffering with hyperemesis gravidarum so I'm off sick from work (nurse) and using this time to read!

Looking for parenting books but also anything you've found useful about pregnancy, newborn time and breastfeeding.

I've read 'the book you wish your parents had read' by Philippa Perry and loved it. I'm currently reading 'unconditional parenting' by Alfie Kohn which is amazing so far. I've already got my next couple sorted: 'the whole brain child' by Daniel Siegel and 'how to talk so little kids will listen' by Joanna Faber.

My husband and I practice respectful parenting. I'm keen to hear your suggestions of books which have helped you.

Thanks!",6.5704477611940275,8.582157985074627,6.279283582089557,73.9101194029851,66.16417910447761,9.240597014925372,32.056716417910444,9.642632912329526,3.246599402985076,606,25,99,13,10,189,93,134,0.028999999999999998,0.77,0.2,0.9823,5,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,4,0,2,6,6,0,0,3,0,6,3,1,3,0,15,20,12,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,4,8,0,0,1,8,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,3,9,5,14,16,1,11,0,1,1,1,20,3,0,1,7,50,13,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350475728095527,0.10399466838195877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701361738314463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517005810246086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388917661643086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106137948776498,0.0,0.1425845162934606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400659494229568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656696551448542,0.0,0.08716451868772368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033640763739834,0.0,0.0,0.109202662458635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173681265994614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830131247329144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645737149103868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5775857169833543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5203094050859064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452296231149136,0.0,0.11972534922764283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165725855350534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246293464602271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518742758473951,0.1495420662422524,0.0,0.0,0.09467224128639154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374288745069276
parenting,deepthaw,2020/04/20,"Friend’s kids basically live with us part time. Are we enabling her? Friend of the family recently got divorced, and her two teen kids have been regularly staying with me and my wife for several days, even a week at a time. She’s constantly sick or wanting to drive out of town to visit her new boyfriend or doing work training, etc. The kids have had money go missing as well, which we assume means it was stolen by her. This most recent stay coincided with her receiving her stimulus check and suddenly being “sick.” Frankly, we assume she’s relapsed on drugs or alcohol. 

The kids hate her. They’re miserable around her and openly talk about how when they’re at our place, they feel like they’re in a “normal” family. We love having them over, they have their own spaces, have assigned chores, etc. They’re expected to pull their own weight and don’t mind. We have a special needs son of our own and they’re fantastic at helping with him as well. She knows they’re happier here (they tell her) and she alternates between jealously keeping us away from them and dropping them off for days at a time. 

We were secretly taking one of them to ala-teen meetings before the social distancing went into effect. We’ve not openly shared our full suspicions for her behavior but they’re figuring things out.

So: Are we making the situation better or worse? The kids are far happier over here, but I feel like we’re enabling bad parenting. But when they’re at their own home they just sit in their rooms while she sleeps or is at work. When she does interact with them, it’s verbally or emotionally abusive.",5.302974111980735,6.848235781456952,5.392775436484048,80.84883804936786,68.66887417218543,9.331968693558098,28.627934978928355,9.688023934748609,2.6339086092715225,1274,45,238,29,22,400,171,302,0.10300000000000001,0.805,0.092,-0.6786,1,0,2,0,1,0,34.0,12,0,13,6,13,15,2,1,11,0,17,7,1,3,0,55,32,25,0,4,11,3,3,2,2,0,4,0,3,5,5,26,2,1,9,0,2,6,2,5,2,2,6,3,45,10,39,25,9,50,0,2,0,1,64,25,0,9,17,158,50,3,0.0,0.13406751080300056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092588224592553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072994097840096,0.0,0.0,0.10631073729317403,0.0,0.09447782332897604,0.0,0.0,0.09628465969507624,0.0,0.0,0.10007441579250756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227792899339975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594833107738192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990207376874006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122127120243762,0.0,0.0,0.12728161848441405,0.0,0.0,0.25239046293381434,0.07473632695290759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334069256754407,0.0,0.11442686472517638,0.16167270036020345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484307435123433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430731779474115,0.0,0.09049859420167676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117149186448558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584390595501464,0.0,0.11350143833301556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057536695142816,0.0,0.0,0.062185794485558124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056144023130496,0.0,0.09991595497685804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212477840687624,0.0,0.07553034204659616,0.0,0.0,0.12325652114559255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425202547616756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390133345547646,0.0,0.10928363506609834,0.0,0.0,0.11086567447120603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667523463435984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564274276780624,0.12253340609868303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182205447599747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22344938776386186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783040454858058,0.0,0.0,0.12718843658914708,0.113234471724704,0.1153449832026521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412115609607532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507678909348154,0.0909478976427687,0.09890049454439608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517366197446558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19794084270118373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053379907500137,0.0,0.27221766224399024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674042608968456,0.0,0.09076431411734774,0.1377895710360781,0.20347583017664306,0.10489373673422683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475310534094229,0.0,0.11531232339814335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Poley04,2020/04/20,"Punishment inspiration Hi, 

My daughter (7) is undergoing behaviour modification therapy. By this I mean we are all sick of her shit and are coming down on her like a ton of bricks. 

She has a lot going for her but she is disobedient, aggressive, dishonest and quite frankly downright awful at times. She will do whatever she feels she must to get what she wants.

Behaviour modification was going pretty well until lockdown. She adores her theatre school and is (was) in two productions so threats of missing practice and having to tell her coach that her behaviour was so bad she was being removed from classes kept her in line. We have followed through enough times that she knows we mean it. She would hate for them to think badly of her. 

But now there is no theatre school. All we can take off her is tech / screen time or access to chocolate etc. She couldn't give a chuff about either of those. She is totally brazen and just gives a sassy shrug. Gets sent to her room, just sits there singing or playing with teddies or whatever (no tv or consoles in there)

At night time she wanders about waking everyone up. I'm separated from her Dad. He lets her get in bed with him. I don't as I want her to sleep in her own bed. Her poor brother had to wake me last night to ask me to get her to leave him alone. She got thoroughly bollocked. No treats or screen time all day. Luckily she's at her Dads lol. She is more scared of him than me cos I'm seen to be a soft touch and not as shouty. 

If I'd have behaved like her as a child, my Dad would have given me a spanking. I've even told her that. We don't do that. Times I've thought my god that girl needs a slap though. (Yes, I thought that about my daughter.)

So if I can't remove her from the things she loves right now and she doesn't care about much else, what can we do? Inspire me. 

And if you have any other ideas other than punishments I'll take the on board, but bear in mind, we tried all the touchy feely talking and encouraging good behaviours already. She needs very firm discipline. Please don't suggest a sticker chart.",2.421441605839416,4.681691092457424,3.0308753041362566,91.6336122262774,78.46472019464721,6.445766423357665,23.656995133819947,7.554174236665415,0.9557050608272504,1633,55,346,24,40,509,222,411,0.145,0.74,0.115,-0.9305,1,2,0,0,0,0,49.0,7,1,1,1,17,22,6,1,12,3,38,6,4,1,6,62,74,28,0,11,15,6,3,2,0,4,1,0,3,2,14,19,0,2,10,4,1,7,10,10,1,1,13,6,65,12,50,53,13,37,0,1,3,1,71,16,1,9,15,230,79,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310252622378113,0.12050945358112487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426254121009691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020911036355172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823617448137285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134087067863943,0.0,0.0,0.09406967325171793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042761827621463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122602315625117,0.0,0.0,0.11283704022297428,0.12179145214504247,0.0721282863209314,0.0,0.0,0.10434920925099947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521688045295965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282185660111617,0.20951707082809706,0.12412642738926476,0.09159522833883996,0.0873405046829957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107816452411597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123278150545154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001572424846645,0.08901592689613258,0.0,0.11563138721736164,0.0,0.1116686037482932,0.0,0.10670322642539044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928414311983643,0.09856097506684154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379105854028156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026502294505336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027758781050544,0.1619469312693888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20496132362216254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987332205108163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109984191212284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615201575218233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325971532042007,0.0,0.0,0.10933236733785152,0.2210407837845528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209645208770423,0.0,0.0,0.10928297831796392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421580383169726,0.08777412898011268,0.09544920761592747,0.0,0.12488441977817273,0.0,0.07255035985517108,0.06997358576609279,0.10729248598718827,0.17339173407797198,0.38206677686886187,0.0,0.0,0.10434920925099947,0.0,0.07414242398289958,0.0,0.10667654985032456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010482952139846,0.1288228297655307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818761194685087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515093647970282,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alp2000,2020/04/20,"Early pregnancy Hello, I am 20 years old & I recently found out I am pregnant. I believe I am only around 5-6 weeks pregnant and I don’t have my first doctors appointment for another week. I have been having some symptoms that I wonder if are normal and could use some advice. 
-A quick sharp upper right abdominal pain that lasted about 30 seconds
-Light lower abdominal cramping not accompanied by blood
-Consistently running to the bathroom every time I eat (and not to throw up)
-If I let myself I could literally sleep all day. 
-Cannot sleep on anything but my left side without feeling nauseous
-Moved positions while laying in bed and felt entire left side of abdomen stretch and contract weirdly

Can I please have some advice on whether these things are normal and I am worrying for no reason or I should get into the doctor sooner.",5.321063936063936,7.702727759740263,5.733896103896107,75.0527122877123,70.1038961038961,7.595604395604397,31.326673326673326,8.384062270229773,2.7636639360639363,681,30,106,11,13,218,113,154,0.095,0.885,0.02,-0.8424,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,18,10,4,2,1,32,24,12,0,7,8,0,3,0,0,1,5,0,1,0,4,9,1,0,5,0,0,3,6,2,0,2,3,4,17,0,15,17,4,29,0,0,0,0,1,14,0,7,12,79,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709197403404928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019694131088804,0.0,0.0,0.14535731389632867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407414190100998,0.12340302069651038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617958884537886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213568661584823,0.0,0.0,0.08939975912636147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837710994004487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184497178656807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679506210599483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009147736394261,0.0,0.13309891397536674,0.0,0.0,0.1179118512357632,0.0,0.15199193095503166,0.0,0.0,0.07242430359331077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299547844587117,0.0,0.0,0.3012265420030621,0.14175044565501235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473333090836704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716403680656658,0.0,0.0,0.14546053053393346,0.0,0.0,0.10542832122547764,0.14750364268841396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216539163674606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252656251020993,0.1368725582235725,0.0,0.0,0.11838247962808605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774443372462281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408139510870274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209433535215313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083163645711701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197249498234002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238850583520786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362671662390296,0.15032970806293064,0.0,0.14077742819605418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892680600829337
parenting,IsidoreRex,2020/04/20,"Does everyone suck as much as me? Working full time with three kids at home. Ages 7, 5, and 22 months. In theory there should be childcare for the youngest, two kids doing home school, and a full time job happening. I feel like all three are failing miserably. Is everybody struggling this much?",3.3055555555555562,6.173302518518517,2.9977777777777814,89.60000000000002,79.37037037037038,7.303703703703704,25.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,1.9186888888888893,232,9,44,5,6,69,46,54,0.201,0.759,0.04,-0.8738,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,2,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,8,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,1,2,1,6,6,5,8,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,5,27,3,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171865587110597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371494298390032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548874889324912,0.1773019382041257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946734959912576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4978954383903725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462832675251965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124964573471855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980972507470207,0.0,0.3648860267320048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511743798632139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594546897360734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894349302220783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424386649001287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806801323724782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madimadmads,2020/04/20,"Any advice on potty training before 18 months? A couple months ago my sons pediatrician mentioned introducing the potty to him just to see how he reacts but i was hesitant because potty training seems scary and overwhelming!! But, now that we’re stuck at home i figure it’s a good time to start? My son is almost 18 months but not quite there yet. Anyone else start the potty training process a little early and if so what did you learn?",3.042556894243642,5.785489132530124,3.929558232931728,83.31540829986615,79.36144578313251,5.616599732262381,21.27041499330656,6.937597516519254,0.7588832663989291,350,10,61,4,9,112,64,83,0.121,0.835,0.045,-0.7632,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,2,0,14,8,8,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,6,1,5,5,0,13,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,3,10,35,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21248441422657796,0.19275157947081628,0.0,0.21773942648311084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478698316170986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15204236861254852,0.22279776011650929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255225215473634,0.0,0.18502939801473048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24059839071294425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164711930674307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823822720135042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21811473265909945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21793668339946184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5206867814681048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23127917159030076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327524877312733,0.1979534602769595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078169122193651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679373531053909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VanNewBar,2020/04/20,"How soon is too soon? How much is too much? I'm pretty sure spontaneous erections are normal for five year old boys. Everything I've read ( which is really hard to Google without popping up on an FBI watchlist) says it's normal. But I can't find anything that says how often it should be happening. We're at about 10 times a day. I always tell him to potty and most of the times he does. It just seems excessive. Obviously, first time mom and I just wanted to know if this was common? There's no discomfort or pain, which is why I haven't taken him to a doctor.",2.4489473684210523,4.297982315789476,3.7612631578947346,88.4008421052632,76.71929824561403,7.016140350877192,21.049122807017547,7.908726449838941,0.8317817543859656,440,11,92,7,10,144,86,114,0.095,0.856,0.05,-0.6166,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,12,3,0,1,4,0,10,2,0,3,2,22,16,8,0,5,6,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,2,0,2,2,3,6,1,11,12,3,13,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,5,10,60,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507121986421169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905211256624604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11681195000582102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539119008927904,0.15850548443952306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627852953158032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554682391543465,0.15406655908521746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017003433968105,0.0,0.16225424179607922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954267873975037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213378828428492,0.0,0.0,0.2662984154066068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549320647407969,0.0,0.0,0.19006234901073368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273193019504234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842713057283164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811760454243746,0.0,0.11603461336234755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288078968130862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648912453451995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071008210941754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831300761014785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168498831200959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683341506141568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634389719573589,0.0,0.0,0.17459999326900486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663986875832062
parenting,actually__annoyed,2020/04/20,"Co-Sleeping With Older Children I have two daughters - 7.5 yrs & almost 9. 

They’ve never slept with us (ever! Even as newborns!) until the past year. 

One child got really sick so I kept her in bed with me...the other followed. A year later & they’re still in bed with us. I don’t mind it AT ALL. I love the snuggles, as I know they’ll grow out of it some day. 

But, some people think it’s weird that they’re so old & I allow them to sleep in our bed with us. 

Thoughts?",-1.2285808580858095,0.8211466039604005,0.8221386138613873,101.16106270627066,97.8118811881188,3.0893729372937297,13.664026402640266,4.604124745555138,-1.4106718151815183,361,7,85,1,15,118,72,101,0.055999999999999994,0.87,0.07400000000000001,0.3929,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,2,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,3,4,2,1,3,19,11,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,3,5,6,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,4,0,13,1,15,6,3,18,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,3,11,50,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15583212280891384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5058464196069674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003627807444061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027863154069232,0.14076825818355265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446446630108045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552532545317988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045418221858355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713301958059775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200246404186378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16329824012509414,0.0,0.10545293262797333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855801613011652,0.10788812508135036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996949067203047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114671164657481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427926777313378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971576233913397,0.0,0.12354582631141625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15201927092306153,0.0,0.5615793208912343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004298631032918
parenting,not-han-solo,2020/04/20,"My family doesn’t know my son exists. The entire side of my family doesn’t know my wife and I have a son. It was my ultimately my decision whether to tell them or not. When my wife was expecting I just decided I would send a picture after birth as a SURPRISE you have a new grandson. Fast forward a year and I still haven’t told them. 

I’m in a same sex relationship and we’ve been married for 3 years and together for 6. My family is very religious and do not believe in my lifestyle choices. So I already know how they will feel about us bringing a child into the world. But I’m not even worried about that. What I’m worried about is my father. 

My dad is an abusive alcoholic. He quit drinking for many years but has recently started again. The good thing is that he is mainly just abusive to me. As a kid it was physical and emotional abuse but now it’s just emotional due to the 8 hour drive between us. As a kid (my memory is as early as 4th grade) he would get angry and beat me with his belt, throw stuff at me, curse me out and call me all kinds of names like fat, ugly, and unloveable. He would force me to eat minuscule meals, take diet pills, and run around the block while driving behind me. He would offer me money if I lost a certain amount of weight. 

Now, my father is a hot head and will just explode for little to no reason. Yelling, cursing, repeated phone calls, nasty voicemails, etc if he feels ‘provoked’.  If he’s not upset we have great conversations and it’s actually very upsetting for me because I’m living this double life. 

I have to pretend that I’m not exhausted because my son who just turned 1 last week didn’t sleep well the night before. Or how I wouldn’t understand the stress my sister is under because she has a 2 year old during a pandemic. Instead I’m sneaking into the garage to call them or hiding in our closet to answer their calls (which isn’t too often). Not to mention, when they would visit us in the past, I would have anxiety attacks up to two weeks before their arrival. Worrying about what will happen and then on edge during the entire visit. 

I’m tired of living this double life. I want my family to know we’re raising this awesome, adorable, smart little human but I don’t want them to be a permanent fixture in his life. My partner is very supportive. She said it’s my choice and she is okay with whatever I decide. 

Im struggling with what’s right. Tell my parents about Xander or keep lying and dodging visits for my mental health (which is also mentally draining).",3.8422849038764575,5.274939107784434,4.908329131211263,83.35482272297511,72.0938123752495,7.748734110725918,27.156266414539342,8.288913261614885,1.8260067864271456,1987,70,385,31,38,652,258,501,0.14300000000000002,0.755,0.102,-0.982,1,0,2,0,2,0,52.0,5,1,8,3,26,19,1,4,25,1,40,17,3,4,2,78,67,40,0,13,23,11,4,1,1,10,9,2,1,5,19,23,7,2,12,2,1,10,14,8,1,1,8,6,60,11,51,48,7,56,0,1,0,1,61,19,0,8,30,258,79,1,0.0,0.259644595954617,0.0712828805223928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806453044475213,0.0,0.0,0.0806086671696782,0.05841528719922705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558803989080512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502690241461041,0.0,0.08310097826353226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358546820028366,0.0,0.124314441350824,0.0822984301816983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29835471501416244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715577946433161,0.0,0.07474484081757296,0.0,0.16433503889641718,0.0,0.0,0.08146619487791955,0.04824654707814451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27544708677293456,0.0,0.07386904522945538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03816379935942293,0.0,0.0,0.06126796741739327,0.0,0.08053406209501422,0.0,0.0,0.06459480916379852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496681825926894,0.07764505029784134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719361223177554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890279204147826,0.0,0.0,0.06492711609417617,0.0,0.07606672491379603,0.16057785998125376,0.059542674958196234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547847825490643,0.035686847003521295,0.14642363504040912,0.1290028563669252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973892121671684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405772081338242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472274519708586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054879814216172,0.0,0.06854922426228374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665005014318121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110953201906496,0.0,0.069731182508899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769398085065557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510400328558063,0.07212464035812714,0.07842464108422678,0.0,0.0623813412907229,0.06948398173878255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730992877717576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05170271304379368,0.0,0.058335056760386236,0.0,0.08367455840045802,0.07636409789778123,0.08362080570146868,0.0,0.08289234163985097,0.0,0.0,0.054921903144135434,0.0,0.12769178151060692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852887169278357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395624575738063,0.0,0.06979909399614427,0.0,0.0,0.07945365362834289,0.07135585006951893,0.0760440184745445,0.2635979608397017,0.0,0.0,0.1808131228903512,0.08616947716417357,0.0,0.11718704765454754,0.08895100009475174,0.06567760699604477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222546904455399,0.0,0.3113409735445464,0.0,0.0,0.18815829301392972
parenting,Dfiggsmeister,2020/04/20,"A funny story for you all. Today while I was in the kitchen making breakfast, I heard a loud clang from the living room and then an, “Awww sugar. Dad! I spilled!”

I stopped what I was doing and burst out in laughter. I couldn’t help it. So glad she said sugar and not the other word.",0.25354679802955715,2.525693517241379,1.6793596059113334,97.78017241379312,87.9655172413793,3.3142857142857145,16.9064039408867,3.1291,-1.0213527093596055,216,5,47,0,7,69,45,58,0.032,0.7509999999999999,0.21600000000000005,0.8951,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,4,4,0,1,1,10,7,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,8,1,5,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,4,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279676735468133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43206112463939694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266117462081916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4654366289238045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090769558072153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4637994670178186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,insouciantelle,2020/04/20,"Online classrooms Today is the first day my son (6) is using an online classroom. We've been doing it for 20 minutes so far and there's just no way we can do this. He's trying to read along with the powerpoint (which is shrunk down to about 2 inches). He keeps dropping the phone, nobody can figure out how to use the mute button and the screetchy feedback noise has already given me a splitting headache. We were doing fine with the workbooks and reading books that I got him, but this is feeling more impossible by the minute. I really don't think I can do this. And I don't see how this is an improvement over doing the assignments and sending her the work. He's confused, I'm frustrated and I just don't see the point.",5.279166666666665,5.706065805555558,5.563888888888887,83.67,68.02777777777777,8.066666666666668,29.19444444444445,7.793537801064563,1.7517277777777769,572,19,113,6,9,182,94,144,0.066,0.883,0.051,-0.4588,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,2,7,3,1,1,13,0,19,0,0,4,0,24,29,10,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,12,0,1,3,3,0,1,4,2,0,1,4,3,11,1,12,25,1,12,0,0,2,0,10,6,0,1,3,78,18,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615412964912265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284884335111962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198370258325532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201596629061401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895548287057092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21066124421785315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240466620108101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4741389726764356,0.0,0.15183169564625348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777251564516275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151863457990738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246533588517624,0.0,0.0,0.1609110747517901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093930516056939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812381460303845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254271702851134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sccamp,2020/04/20,"Early Intervention Success Stories? My husband and I are first time parents to a beautiful, sweet and happy 9 month old boy. Recently, my son qualified for early intervention due to some motor and language delays. I’m very happy he’s getting the help he needs but I’m also freaking out.

Our biggest concerns are that he’s still not rolling either direction (which seems to be making it harder for him to move on to other forms of mobility like crawling, pulling to stand etc.) and that he’s not babbling back and forth with us or being very social in general. To be clear, he does babble some (dada lala rahrah) but not often and only to himself. He was a late babbler and only started a couple weeks ago. We’re going to have his hearing checked again to be sure he’s hearing ok (but I suspect his hearing is fine). There are other concerns of course but I’m trying to keep this succinct. 

Despite our worries, he’s very happy. Always smiles when I walk into the room. He tracks us and the cat as we walk across the room (although he seems to struggle with eye contact when we’re up close). He’s very engaged with his toys which makes it hard to get his attention sometimes. When I ask “where’s the ball?” or “where’s daddy?”, he’ll turn and look for them about 70% of the time (as long as he’s not super engrossed with another toy). On a good day, he responds to his name 40-50% of the time. On a bad day, not at all.

I’ve gone down a really dark Google rabbit hole and I’m feeling pretty sad and down now. Almost everything I’m reading points to early signs of autism. And it’s fine if he’s autistic. In the end, we’ll love him no matter what but I’d love to hear some early intervention/late bloomer success stories to get my mind in a better place as we begin his therapy. My biggest fear is that I’ll never be able to talk to my son.",3.260648759178359,4.72435549056604,4.4753211264987485,85.7626684636119,73.60916442048517,6.626675341574496,26.80927595501441,7.0983637204850245,1.2912845245840692,1441,52,286,14,29,474,200,371,0.08,0.733,0.187,0.9921,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,7,0,1,5,13,22,0,2,15,1,13,3,1,2,4,59,42,29,0,2,14,4,2,1,0,2,0,4,2,1,12,21,0,2,5,4,1,6,7,5,0,1,2,9,26,17,49,33,7,59,0,1,2,2,50,22,0,10,31,162,38,4,0.0960302986627912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512506562789884,0.0,0.0961604725628834,0.0,0.0,0.07679539514584283,0.07990490131427526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069614118392244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977536611227603,0.0,0.0,0.07384137207510509,0.0801812881951758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849309953477933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625569894490623,0.0,0.12386319649821385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403676149657148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505434131249527,0.0,0.1070991674720526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630584036871368,0.0,0.0,0.10806078400786966,0.04855580439153626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168332298546939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051560264068994,0.0,0.054576231749165365,0.08054565839168891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30667811580806703,0.08602428532891955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4329325034499436,0.0,0.06436708496184984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535614177718613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832635967701988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04691555324889198,0.0,0.0,0.08498379241930258,0.08064126502800442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334218763269973,0.0,0.12820194008980598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969632264884912,0.0,0.07665046821014969,0.10206500997373257,0.0,0.07120524966296359,0.07406448640887131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076764441161826,0.0,0.0,0.14607073884808158,0.0,0.0,0.1066302822453795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033122309543102,0.0,0.09077967197195216,0.0,0.0,0.09769733725561254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605628582542428,0.0,0.061519468319716074,0.0,0.0948183347479539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484475451364231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789079610604316,0.0,0.0,0.0949764208658792,0.0,0.0679707396587583,0.0,0.07668992055949883,0.0,0.0,0.1003917185755706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050742001777777,0.0,0.0,0.07718551650208963,0.0,0.0,0.1098190156444166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798811821643592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519826919767711,0.10445338915067867,0.0,0.0,0.2310252507850508,0.0,0.0,0.3169402140130673,0.0,0.0,0.07702971312896989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752342971368996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Southmimmsu,2020/04/20,"Being a lazy parent works Not so long ago someone tried to get me (and my wife) to sign up to the Tiger Mom cult - that is, regimenting your kids so they  become super achievers and boost your ego... one day (hopefully). We quickly rejected it and discovered that being an 'opossom' mom (Sloth dad) is better - i.e. lazy parenting gets better results. Especially in lockdown, leaving them to their own devices works!",8.535136986301369,8.594302205479455,8.015171232876714,70.10303082191783,61.19178082191781,10.587671232876714,37.42808219178082,10.125756701596842,3.924893150684932,323,14,52,6,4,102,59,73,0.096,0.754,0.15,0.6864,2,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,3,6,3,5,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,7,5,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,8,4,6,5,1,6,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,1,4,33,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820489427232621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268160628053426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632678058678098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244726332071832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459567458754705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397967785687546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21745816720441566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18174681504711448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4810559144798128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13916466076491832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4560802391603046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17401012698087232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943338413044015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990249736316377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anonymous-Amy,2020/04/20,"Looking for advice on a work/parenting balance Hey everyone! 

I’m a single parent, doing it all alone, and I’m in the U.K! I am just about to finish doing my business degree (longest 3 years of my life) and I have just lost my job (through administration, no fault of my own). I have been with the same company for 10 years, so the fear of the unknown is so high! 

So I am looking for a new job, but I’m worried that I’ll be limited to a job that works well with my own schedule. When I say my schedule I mean the fact I drop my little one off at school at 8.50am and need to pick him up by 6pm from his after school club. I’m worried that I’ll sound like a hassle by asking to have a specific work pattern. I can be flexible and I can get a childminder on the odd occasion, but I don’t think it’s fair to be asking family to dedicate time each week. 

Has anyone got any success stories of having a work and child balance? 

Thank you for any words of wisdom in advance!",2.20795731707317,3.40159487804878,4.31516768292683,86.94543445121954,75.82926829268294,7.271341463414633,25.49542682926829,7.865858978985527,1.3345182926829264,750,26,164,11,16,259,120,205,0.10800000000000001,0.769,0.122,0.8351,5,1,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,1,0,7,8,8,0,1,14,0,17,1,0,1,2,21,32,11,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,5,8,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,3,1,1,3,4,20,5,31,26,6,22,0,1,2,0,9,10,0,0,11,109,25,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330016465977085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409652334707452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511410503952186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516879368159943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544823133444881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300555446078261,0.0,0.0,0.1283090468297197,0.15315759482255906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111000194741401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885676072107456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438039359924291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40519394679796616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613600998189896,0.06649473591498929,0.13641441821357972,0.0,0.0,0.2285902755293398,0.0,0.14857626699070786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482598237908235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009212072376332,0.0,0.13145245645041287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922292522160539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113010435648513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823731105328316,0.0,0.27549398526338514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530853164024308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721151669756866,0.0,0.0,0.07936476487444115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917638346808167,0.0,0.12237604326040705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39634846318575534,0.2764454111809493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529618129253466
parenting,princessparklebottom,2020/04/20,"New sub for your kid's pictures! I created this for those unexpectedly beautiful pictures your kids take with your phone or camera! 

[r/mykidtookapicture](https://www.reddit.com/r/mykidtookapicture/)",12.551111111111116,17.715232259259263,7.58666666666667,56.700000000000045,59.74074074074074,11.007407407407408,34.925925925925924,10.504223727775694,5.274614814814815,169,7,19,5,3,45,22,27,0.0,0.755,0.245,0.7568,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,10,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7890777837098358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6142932941645818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeverAfter,2020/04/20,"Should I take my child to therapy? My child is 9 and while we have been on lockdown I have attempted to home school. However, the lack of effort they give has astonished me. For a simple one page assignment (copying sentences and putting in the correct grammar) has taken an hour and a half. All subject areas are like this and I totally get that it's a unique situation but it's really dawning in me and my partner that they are lacking in any focus. 
Previously, when they hadn't finished their work while in school, they said they were distracted by other students. However it's clear that other students are not the only reason. 
Should I take them to therapy when they are back in school to see what else is going on?

Have also posted this in r/therapy as I'm not sure where it fits in.",3.669505494505497,5.640961824675326,4.814415584415585,81.64492007992008,73.61038961038959,8.115084915084916,28.07992007992008,8.841846274778883,2.3602873126873125,627,25,117,13,13,206,96,154,0.048,0.895,0.057,-0.1288,2,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,8,3,5,3,0,1,7,0,16,0,0,1,5,19,25,12,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,3,12,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,5,2,18,2,17,18,5,22,0,0,1,0,14,12,0,0,8,91,30,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296837881906674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027818289189653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246953523412474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546856735839308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847248436149779,0.15556403995379228,0.09216245928499103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626653396203363,0.0,0.15970047049665406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922593091451319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988762138566764,0.12333426191540567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553098377997663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630212391299451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388744903291784,0.16673326660435053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425664072701348,0.0,0.0,0.4923607969150707,0.1292250039502462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822809520074171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283917824732546,0.0,0.24385672983446885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5563515600287551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805850316697655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OneTarHeel,2020/04/20,"My wife is going to give my room to a 3 year old Hi all,

We live in a 2bd apartment in Los Angeles. I'm from Japan and my wife is American.

I use the guest bedroom as my private space, which we call 'mancave' but I actually use as my home office and study space (I work full-time outside of the house and would finish occasional tasks at home, but now work fully remotely due to COVID-19), and sleep in it. My wife sleeps in the other bedroom. The reasons I don't want to sleep in the same bed are (1) I can sleep better in my own bed (my sleeping schedule is messed up very easily) (2) I sometimes make noise while sleeping and (3) I never had my own room in my childhood and having one was my lifelong dream. My wife thinks not sleeping in the same bed casts substantial doubt to our marriage in the American culture, but I think we actually have lived well in that way for 2 years.

A few days ago, we got our first baby. And I realized my wife is going to take away my room in 3 years. She thinks the child should have his own room at 3 and I'll have to work/study in the living room with her, and share a bed. She works from home in the living room a few days a week (even before COVID-19) and also plays video games there a lot. I respect her hobby but I can't focus when she's around. On top of that, she talks a lot. I'm not saying I don't want to talk to her, but I sometimes need focus and I can't focus when she's playing video games and talking a lot in the same room. 

I think giving a full-size bedroom to a 3 year old is ***ridiculous***, especially in expensive Los Angeles, especially when I, as an adult, can't have my own room. She uses half of the living room and all her bedroom. Why can't the child stay in the living room then? I want to give the child a room when he's 6 or so, something I wasn't given in my childhood, but I also want to keep my room. To be able to afford a home with more rooms, it's very important to invest my time and increase my income in the next few years but my wife doesn't seem to give a fuck, at all.

Again, I think it's the most ridiculous thing to give a full-size bedroom to a 3 year old, and I don't think there's any disadvantage of not doing so. If I can't get my own room anyway, I'd rather move to a 1bd apartment and feed the baby in the living room, and that way I'd save a few hundred dollars a month.

Don't you think that's ridiculous? I'd like to ask you parents for more objective opinions.

Thank you in advance for your time. Any honest comments, whether my position or her position, are appreciated.",2.9801520467836227,3.720136266666668,4.308771929824562,89.48131578947371,73.37037037037038,7.165692007797272,24.95126705653021,7.273561745256523,0.8796851851851852,1984,58,451,20,38,657,214,540,0.053,0.843,0.10400000000000001,0.9812,3,0,1,0,0,0,71.0,6,4,0,7,17,16,4,1,39,0,30,9,7,5,4,75,64,41,0,9,15,7,0,1,1,2,0,1,28,4,10,24,1,1,10,7,3,5,15,6,1,3,5,1,66,10,61,56,22,87,2,0,0,1,53,47,1,10,33,280,76,3,0.06282849959196453,0.0,0.12262310496346553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569367403353385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048785684876466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545106840717864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593068505228905,0.05873616589447413,0.0,0.059029443554386024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346242561510956,0.0,0.0,0.0555667021852296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415492273076986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103836912945883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04149763143080055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053441889656971116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580839354678166,0.03282529788611065,0.3013541090176365,0.07141376840290943,0.0,0.05024969061636042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520884312538976,0.0,0.0,0.07249565301329912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055844857232517635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03069483131053633,0.0,0.3883510134782407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024363075404333,0.0,0.0,0.04193851134893116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05014910895545581,0.0667767519916419,0.0,0.04658653635041403,0.04845721213946267,0.0,0.0668188220898417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778382429164565,0.0,0.042574217337864886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976361354523941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459816165237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049963744626853324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05719670635510558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4401171150808412,0.0,0.0,0.04836844850866327,0.12427798523405525,0.0,0.0,0.0669668209671628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04723921258990768,0.1514975042122655,0.0,0.057844041149146465,0.0,0.0,0.04174046337446604,0.28180575944435304,0.0,0.0,0.07327160673096847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627909533416243,0.0,0.1036801841922875,0.14823150755853762,0.09974067710032973,0.05039723261599985,0.0,0.0564903665326437,0.0,0.05669294853377457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829595839470753,0.0,0.0,0.04463156347241437,0.0,0.0,0.24275696294370705
parenting,Silent237,2020/04/20,"How much is it okay to control/restrict social media access? YouTube and it’s influencers Now, I am not officially a parent, however since my mother pasted away I kind was thrown into the co-parenting role with my dad. We consult on different things, work around finances etc. Part of which, included setting boundaries, responsibilities, extracurricular and restrictions for my sister. For the past three years. I’m 21. 

In her 8-12 she started asking to have a social media account, like Facebook, Instagram etc. 

I realise that the generation we live in, heavily leans on social media and that it has become almost a standard. I never was on top of it all, so my experience is limited. We agreed that at the age of 13 we’ll allow Instagram. 

Our condition was no posting photos of herself, at all. No commenting, and just to be used as a medium to get in touch with friends. Those restrictions will be lifted, but not now. 

I didn’t want her to become socially excluded as a result. So, prior to her hitting 13, we allowed WhatsApp. 

There is this whole cyber bullying which I am afraid of too. As much as I want to protect her from it, anyone with a cell can potentially abuse it: take mug shots and post them; create a targeted, mean post; judge on appearance, etc. 

However, aside from having little arguments over WhatsApp, over silly things, things have been fine. 

What is catching my attention is the influencers that there are that she is watching. Such as Youtubers. Not to mention the endless scrolling for memes — which I admit, I too am guilty of. 

She has a lot of other interests outside of memes, and so, doesn’t spend a lot of time on there. We have reinforced _compulsory activities_ to do in her day, like reading a book, doing excessive (we do it together), playing with our pup, revising school work, etc. Especially during this lockdown. 

What concerns me, and those influencers. 

Can I restrict what she is watching if we deem it not suitable for her age, despite her peers watching it too? 
I fear of social exclusion for her. 

How much is it suitable to restrict?
I can’t possibly be over her shoulder and censor everything I don’t want her to be told. Without having control over it, the only way would be to block YT completely. But that seems very excessive. 

I don’t want her to grow up with a judgemental mindset on everyone. I keep reinforcing the importance of ‘putting herself in their shoes’ so that she can understand why a person has done what they’ve done, instead of judging them. And to help her understand how her actions could have made people feel. But, I fear our words might not be enough against the whole of YouTube. What can we do that is appropriate?",4.864811754811259,7.058922557809333,5.5429199030327005,76.73937169148567,70.88640973630832,8.7854153267699,31.90268638994707,9.374367535131368,3.2358228763666954,2123,98,362,49,41,687,249,493,0.11599999999999999,0.813,0.07200000000000001,-0.9789,6,1,0,0,1,0,78.0,12,0,3,5,19,12,0,3,21,1,52,2,2,12,3,77,73,25,0,7,11,4,2,2,1,4,0,0,0,1,35,24,0,9,7,3,3,5,14,3,0,1,9,5,57,9,67,52,15,45,0,0,3,0,55,23,0,7,14,286,92,7,0.0,0.0983314709193495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310409574386768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580296538958769,0.0,0.0,0.07388011609001803,0.07758593964850262,0.0,0.07797333679088778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18331539594395946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701510990758116,0.0,0.1861642646981524,0.06626203668600195,0.0,0.0,0.05352271399351579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867085544402823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698584344917715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575250419576869,0.3702302715646762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930202694469089,0.07458749556961908,0.08118170617712551,0.0,0.18677723811048894,0.041963044788865415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411910155578603,0.0,0.04335968379875987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05562751771966581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737667441675655,0.0,0.08642297662261153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109100392622973,0.08317938232805387,0.07328310015110732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111297500619693,0.0,0.07852865522372951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904021783656236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804096879129776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302511760171813,0.0,0.06400823545993051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311884885273526,0.0,0.0,0.09215234647605126,0.08987181149462968,0.15844973903275406,0.057535923369158165,0.0724650608941605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935605552926484,0.23844902523882835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342947687550338,0.0,0.0,0.08301405516509057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399192632784756,0.0,0.07555243247121518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686515062035768,0.0,0.0,0.4229974060662055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587418791301079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239935210664089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540778698886086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839306729682681,0.0,0.0,0.07930202694469089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727943575423493,0.0,0.07167809298265031,0.0,0.0684767586629726,0.19580237532196906,0.06587486632946025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488700728848417,0.18531430729463286,0.0,0.08000093742584591,0.0,0.1208377412966991,0.0,0.0,0.05895484898027423,0.0,0.0,0.053443867134156345
parenting,emmaraschino,2020/04/20,"When do things get better? My little boy is 6 months old. Due to a set of very unique circumstances, he is developmentally like a 3 month old, but is the size of a very healthy 2 year old. 

He is so big and yet still needs to be carried constantly. He cries and cries constantly while awake, always needs to be entertained, lacks the ability to self soothe and needs to be rocked and carried to sleep. On top of that, due to his circumstances he needs to feed every 1 1/2 hours ish, and then be comforted back to sleep every time. He sleeps for only 7 interrupted hours during the night (8pm to 3am) and a few short naps during the day. 

He hits and scratches accidentally but it really hurts because he's so big. He injures himself a lot too (scratches on his head and face). He refuses to be swaddled. 

I'm exhausted, my partner is exhausted. We fight all the time. We're all miserable. I think I may have done permanent damage to my back from all the carrying and uncomfortable sleep.  

When does it start to get better or easier? Any tips? (I refuse to CIO)",3.1144927536231886,5.088982888888889,4.3433091787439615,84.4059782608696,75.18357487922705,8.271497584541066,24.54347826086957,8.998388855275968,1.8459159420289848,826,27,169,19,18,271,121,207,0.177,0.695,0.128,-0.9318,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,0,0,3,9,11,1,1,11,0,14,10,6,0,3,26,24,18,0,5,3,0,2,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,4,10,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,10,5,21,16,6,33,0,3,0,0,19,7,0,3,26,89,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455000673980296,0.0,0.0,0.07727290461252997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747502872174922,0.0,0.06926833840895892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009945835729956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455892569900645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496364031243768,0.07328252629746636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943916124294776,0.11628385655104978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19147785841568246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873490453482595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166180799435549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238070831355875,0.0,0.12164422239090132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551431517870909,0.11388800787645202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966049227535262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139819126674656,0.0,0.0,0.33702347289376033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066348966210699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577095260076535,0.0,0.0,0.08642141542891024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279486049773876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854180460805065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548518282155988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804285317563724,0.0,0.09074577887602184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549131695928456,0.0728100887768276,0.0,0.0,0.13251817638486746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875147761786702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317457031740934
parenting,livinglife28,2020/04/20,"Am I wrong to hate on my father? AITA for hating my father?

My dad verbally and physically abused me as a child. Usually hitting and spitting at me. One example is  growing up through my teen years (I am 18 now) he used to treat me like shit for my haircuts. I am a half black and half arab. So I have mixed curly hair and I guess he never liked it. He wanted my hair at a wavelength all the time and when I never get it the type of haircut he wants he would call me names and degrade me. On top of that he would take me back to the shop at times and have the barber it do it the way he likes. I remember a couple months ago he punched me 3 times in the face and sent me back so I would get it the way he likes it. He never accepted me the way I am and always has treated me like shit unless I do shit his own way. Before I started working he would never let me buy the clothes I liked and picked out clothes he liked for me to wear because to him it was decent. That’s why is started working so I couldn’t depend on him for shit. I still have to hide the clothes I buy because he will be mad at the type of clothing I like (ripped jeans. And etc). Another thing is he demands respect but it’s hard to give it to him through all the shit he puts me. I don’t talk to him as much and is looking forward to go to college and closing all contact with him.",1.4609360730593584,2.7495727876712337,3.096780821917811,94.53035388127856,77.97260273972603,5.825570776255707,24.15296803652968,6.21433560688645,0.4116981735159815,1042,35,247,7,24,345,137,292,0.125,0.8220000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.9575,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,3,8,22,8,0,16,0,24,10,10,3,7,39,40,21,0,7,2,3,3,8,0,5,0,0,0,1,12,16,0,0,2,1,3,5,6,10,0,3,2,5,42,12,34,29,6,39,0,0,2,0,31,13,5,2,27,163,54,5,0.0,0.11269432307863905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431266222059274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791423173020416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973513295917713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462733124668045,0.0,0.11596100320613152,0.0,0.08093485500105882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712184415649716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524163227451012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607705103746123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938609010766948,0.09124184260888664,0.05405537556768809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477859549719418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520330008800618,0.1878104107260786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972603246817589,0.0,0.3717424629080968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987165342189302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591894335215152,0.0,0.0699196013296397,0.0,0.2934305649726867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445158571424459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956156592938722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774541625619448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4881648448967011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464410209757366,0.0,0.07595801918228387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151375526530224,0.0764488853331331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318939539351262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663848992512661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214780164198687,0.10475443469114272,0.0,0.11220119020795023,0.30198769120348945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582542816513644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384879869126776,0.0,0.0,0.2702645139310339,0.1039920304961544,0.0,0.061250181382197885
parenting,ugly_narcissistic,2020/04/20,uh my 1 year old child just had explosive diarrhea should i be concerned ?!?!?!??!?!?!,1.9192857142857136,4.75181378571429,3.1542857142857166,84.91571428571432,89.7142857142857,8.514285714285714,28.42857142857143,8.841846274778883,3.269685714285714,59,3,11,2,2,19,14,14,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8523013383686426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230510764877753
parenting,inityowinit,2020/04/20,"Don’t kill yourselves home schooling! Just enjoy the chill family time together. Seriously. The kids will catch up their learning. Do max 1 hour a day. Have fun and build connections the rest of the day. Enjoy this time. Stay sane. Ditch the essays. Don’t stress, they’re not going to fail the kids and in ten years a few stupid grade school assignments are going to mean nothing but spending this time with your kids in a positive way will be invaluable.",2.5481069518716595,5.4806763882352945,2.6942245989304823,89.50946524064173,85.11764705882355,6.385026737967914,20.668449197860962,7.686295010490155,1.073,363,11,68,7,11,110,63,85,0.091,0.76,0.14800000000000002,0.7325,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,1,8,2,1,9,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,11,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,5,0,1,0,0,2,3,7,8,2,15,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,7,36,4,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289856134398338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21184931681303693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554310886861221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254159942837312,0.0,0.22130738133031488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24862325824074066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24478977248260664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156282599845937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548643607461558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395253515958436,0.0,0.0,0.2574200110728692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39311424174144655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17837505503343706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447145667602138
parenting,gxzzymo,2020/04/20,"Don’t know how to help my toddler at night?! My firstborn will be 18 months old on the 27th of this month. 

He used to be extremely easy to get back to sleep when he woke up at night. You didn’t really even have to do anything - just give him his cup of milk, he’d drink for a minute or two, then he’d hand it back to you and roll over and go right back to sleep. Here lately though he’ll wake up in the middle of the night and scream and cry like someone’s hurting him. Screeching at the top of his lungs, kicking and pushing, tears streaming down his face. I’ve tried rocking him and talking to him and rubbing his back, which normally helps when he’s upset but it does nothing. Somebody please tell me you’ve been through this. I don’t know how to help him. Is this just something kids go through???",3.8772617743702114,4.412007120481932,3.8014786418400877,94.68640197152249,71.16867469879517,6.759255202628697,26.53669222343921,6.1124844417494595,0.6260915662650604,626,19,145,3,11,190,103,166,0.068,0.838,0.094,0.6548,0,0,2,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,1,14,4,0,1,5,0,12,8,6,3,0,17,21,15,0,1,4,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,6,7,2,0,2,2,0,3,3,3,0,1,3,3,17,1,25,12,0,29,0,1,0,0,24,12,0,1,15,87,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690118204722255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369336593201337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604344469674195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243154368826036,0.0,0.0,0.13916222484990914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938276097829352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742191574524566,0.13627445602306965,0.16146905169782189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285654354548818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207544454063826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614212517319198,0.0,0.1602469977344402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940209730670079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267778118315432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999338971089637,0.13918614503440674,0.1363079601549512,0.0,0.14906540323037376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559364274197242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910056437772535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131629106808098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843200959998207,0.0,0.12036482130907568,0.10936276977746777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141804019346718,0.12416447780873832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957072906258042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644768759478556,0.0,0.13876949256510265,0.0,0.0,0.12269203100423212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,awicedias,2020/04/20,"Can't do this anymore Hope everyone is keeping well and safe during this time. 

I'll go straight to the point. I am desperate about how to deal with my 2yr old. 

Please don't judge me too harshly on it, as I already judge myself enough for it. 

I just cant ope anymore. 

He's always been a crying baby/gurning child. When he was born he would cry for no reason every 15 mins. He would be changed, fed, clean. He would not sleep more than an hour straight, he didn't want to be picked up, put down.. he's always been a very complicated child. Up to the age of 6 months, everytime he cried, I cried with him! 

I thought he woul grow out of it, but if anything, it's worse now than it was when he was 1st born. 

He cries and turns at the SMALLEST INCONVENIENCE. Does anyone know how much gurning and crying that means a day ??????? 
His TV show is on a break - gurns
Someone walked in front of him - cries 
His food is late 5 mins - cries uncontrollably 
I change his clothes - the end of the world ! 

We used to think he would do this for attention, and we have been trying for a year to implement the only reward positive behaviour method, but doesn't seem to have the slightest impact on his behaviour moving forward. If we leave him to cry it out, he will cry uncontrollably for an hour if we let him, or make himself sick! 

Worst part is, this also applies to his sleep ! Never, NEVER, has this child slept through one night without waking up crying or gurning! 

His sleep routine has been the same since he was born, as it just added to the routine we had for my other son, so bed time was always 7pm, and I kid you not - this child wakes up every day before 5am, with some mornings waking up at half 4. 
Him waking up has never been just him making noise or playing about. It just goes straight into crying ! 

And over night, we are lucky if he doesn't wake up to cry at least twice a night ! 

I'm soooooo exhausted! I'm tired  and frustrated, and feel like I'm failing at this whole parenting situation! 

He is a well looked after child! We've had him checked up many times and he's absolutely healthy! 

His behaviour is the same regardless of who he's with, so he's not just playing us. Only difference is, when he's with the childminder or his extended family, everyone usually just picks him up straight away and don't give him a chance to cry it out, but that's not the kind of thing I want to adopt into my parenting. 

I am really sorry if it sounds like I'm complaining about my son. I love him to bits, but I am also so stressed and run down by this. 

I'm really hoping someone has been through this and be able to give me some hope that there is a light at the end of this. 

Please, any advice welcome !",3.8406153250774016,4.743923301470591,4.5045549535603735,88.2651354489164,71.5,7.858668730650155,25.896671826625386,8.119692808369301,1.3231588235294116,2092,63,454,29,38,669,245,544,0.175,0.7120000000000001,0.114,-0.991,2,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,7,1,0,2,24,23,1,3,24,0,49,15,9,8,3,87,77,37,0,15,24,4,1,2,0,5,3,1,2,6,26,28,2,2,8,4,1,8,16,8,2,3,17,4,45,15,72,51,12,73,0,1,1,1,64,34,0,16,34,284,71,1,0.05072311239869836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956603838876606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05597421584205537,0.08112650931896664,0.12661707857859575,0.0,0.0,0.03449345580075358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060739558524633,0.035466779560276405,0.0,0.041740799614858534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04765603380133373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043161632717536313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537650156844544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731665454626936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7800374007454448,0.06542442255753733,0.05229330163866666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052994856592488176,0.0,0.0,0.04438813747712346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985124433571254,0.05241053425047396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547281973160517,0.09693621517636834,0.0,0.0,0.047817236128093465,0.0,0.025647129687782638,0.036236601632587184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133458885226399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731646270582682,0.02882711369076421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113848677578906,0.09990409663960237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508503288619892,0.0,0.052820316080411225,0.027876096050335943,0.0,0.05721788012899635,0.05370845219096268,0.0,0.0518678190236764,0.0,0.0495615011892643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0425946394726104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04577958930235264,0.0,0.06771614279510785,0.05142527466498356,0.0,0.05525233939212193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04048670438992126,0.05391064117223095,0.03728732388915743,0.0,0.11736237378770174,0.0,0.0,0.1428006147249332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05322537391652448,0.0,0.03437129368582476,0.0771544253003868,0.0,0.0,0.11264402728621295,0.054928187796571035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135749109798307,0.047949736375592966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099073777834296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498904928425893,0.05215180746830241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617641650090296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04195868273438395,0.05701490355123675,0.15227923207156088,0.0,0.08595505706539178,0.0,0.0,0.05678037156796612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058103153877201164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03369818202037049,0.032501322315574066,0.0,0.040268485417930815,0.08873116423243706,0.05829875603103873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03443766376617293,0.055172180781394825,0.0,0.0,0.06101365884352964,0.04380848329163101,0.0558643421998235,0.04185187988299301,0.0598356117665575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121233929467966,0.0,0.0,0.0566305435663735,0.0,0.04889527029385822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516911849309984,0.14412897492337706,0.0,0.0,0.03266402136219705
parenting,runningtostandstill2,2020/04/20,"Behavior regression? Has anyone else’s grade school kid regressed behaviorally during the quarantine? I’m a single mom to an extroverted only-child 8 yr old boy, with weekday custody while dad has weekends. He wants to either climb and jump on me like playground equipment or sit on my lap, which is nice but often when inconvenient. Also big mood swings and I bear the brunt of his temper. He has been way more bratty, selfish, and talking like he imagines babies talk - no matter how much I tell him I prefer my big kid. Basically acting like a younger kid. All this only for me, though, not for his dad.

He was already in a difficult temperamental phase before the Coronavirus closed everything down. I know he wants more attention and misses his friends and routine but between working at home and being his sole companion, he is getting all the attention I have to give—I am exhausted! He talks to friends and family and I try to keep my stress dialed down and get us outside everyday. Not really looking for solutions as much as venting and wondering if I’m alone in this?",6.079253409906678,7.587184150753771,6.5565865039483135,73.37232412060301,66.7889447236181,9.70581478822685,33.309763101220376,9.957137785484203,3.556804450825556,862,38,144,20,14,280,135,199,0.139,0.7609999999999999,0.1,-0.8859999999999999,0,2,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,0,0,2,5,13,1,1,8,0,10,1,0,1,2,33,21,21,0,4,7,3,0,3,3,0,1,0,1,4,3,12,0,1,6,1,0,3,3,6,0,0,2,1,17,6,20,18,8,20,0,1,1,0,27,10,0,4,8,89,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784244898811262,0.17883421786048842,0.12959713346183685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331420525103485,0.16604681543503208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789879344451467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537804723916086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564661711237578,0.0,0.15277316340344252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25041007644956914,0.0,0.1693364609207756,0.15546009203643069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255664661335684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404394009142973,0.0,0.0,0.08906243274997566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23751897640291145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608728448519986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897995060235616,0.0,0.0,0.2382614674815359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005183496545032,0.0,0.0,0.12325184994108795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381803142220143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640106004495703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856360454995402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907664644909485,0.14164518950296973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922043660175994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002624283195092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949349319850808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911711431683224,0.12863351102411644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757441871831906,0.11797961645553168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blannabers,2020/04/20,"Struggling to find affection for a 13 y/o velociraptor So I've been madly in love with a great man for about six months now who has been seperated from his wife and he has taken custody of his two biological children. One 14 y/o boy and one 13 y/o girl. The older one is actually a pretty decent young man that we get along very well! But the struggle is with the younger one... She is severely lazy, snaps back with very rude comments to her father and her brother and doesn't shower for days at a time... She screams with all the fury of the seven circles of hell, but she is super excited when I'm around. But after seeing the way she behaves, puts things off, lies, takes NO RESPONSIBILITY, doesn't do chores, can't even take a damn shower and mistreats everyone, I struggle to find any sort of affection for her. Her father (my boyfriend) tells me to try... But for the life of me, have no idea /how/ to. I can't understand how I'm supposed to feel anything that behaves like that. 

I should also mention, I grew up in a house where screaming like that was almost on the regular and it's a very strong trigger for me to melt down, this, I don't want to be around it. 

Whenever she wants my attention, I respond very flat and it's quite noticable.... Is it wrong of me to say that if you want my respect, you need to earn it? Or should I listen to my (apparently seasoned veteran of a parent) boyfriend and just 'take it with a grain of salt'? I just... Don't know how to handle this because I never had kids before. I'm very frustrated.",4.510048543689322,5.023391291262136,5.481454692556635,83.28140533980586,69.74433656957929,8.510097087378641,29.042233009708728,8.548686976883017,1.9421234951456303,1195,42,251,18,20,394,173,309,0.142,0.731,0.127,0.3594,4,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,1,2,0,4,16,20,5,3,17,0,22,2,0,6,2,48,40,20,0,7,8,5,1,2,0,2,1,4,3,6,15,17,0,0,7,0,0,2,9,11,1,7,5,7,31,9,44,32,1,24,1,0,1,1,34,10,2,4,13,167,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.10927541464714323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213085864650753,0.0,0.0,0.08954961813618384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614960439158616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921492295819924,0.19937021827684534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610498923040548,0.0,0.06826139891018697,0.0,0.09528593699978087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221723338018786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739611165909739,0.0,0.0,0.1070007957384318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661998005609181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046936741909376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585044399012641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345731491429986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920880686399136,0.0,0.12641073468764522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061540765833284924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909412549999052,0.10941463013784633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010654784698981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938062165241915,0.0,0.0,0.08303105810576973,0.08636515851987303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748890813979225,0.0,0.0,0.3035196509994684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433950028765675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392296670324074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256988954325337,0.0,0.11910351981883688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905024730942952,0.0,0.0,0.08923281713808058,0.0,0.0,0.12650447031797976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511944972249123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525829636219719,0.0,0.097874638828748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439391530931536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529589354122571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602643490152232,0.0,0.10938727569232523,0.11657415622577776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619722817196638,0.19814446213529344,0.08888376991083917,0.0,0.0,0.10068262793154578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243152923676982,0.0,0.0
parenting,deezcurlz,2020/04/20,"Co-parenting help. Okay so I have a son(adopted) 8yo. His biological mother basically gave him to me when he was 4 I lost custody anyways he’s been living with me now a year on May 2nd. When he goes to visit his biological Mom, which is not often, he comes back acting different. Like idk, attitude and all that. Which I know he misses his family and all but dang. I had a talk with him told him I didn’t think it’s fair for him to act like that towards me, but I kind of think it’s more the environment. She wants me to have him because he behaves better with me. so I’m thinking that maybe he reverts to his old behavior with her because he knows he can then it’s hard for him to get back in his normal self. Because I don’t tolerate it. At all. 

Anyways, I just need a little advice on how to handle things. Or is what I’m doing efficient? He got grounded for most of the day for his attitude. I felt it was just going to escalate.

Also unrelated just a rant. She died his freaking hair supposed to be blonde but we’re black so it came out a dusty brown color. I immediately dyed it back when we got home.

If you need more info on the situation I’ll be happy to add more details.",1.1237804878048792,3.2059471016260157,3.59719349593496,86.79861951219515,82.04878048780488,6.5376260162601625,22.035121951219512,7.699297019823105,0.9785406829268296,921,30,198,16,25,320,141,246,0.07200000000000001,0.83,0.098,0.8047,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,0,2,18,9,0,0,9,1,15,1,1,1,3,38,36,16,1,5,9,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,14,11,0,0,7,0,0,6,3,3,0,0,12,7,33,6,27,21,7,26,0,2,4,0,36,9,1,5,13,132,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453821010537732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828543121693455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34120633877720463,0.0,0.2704979375774725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081642967418236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917229315244636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274133691618242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539121181598764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350963886896116,0.15453689594053685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943857420945827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201902577339606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727808388085174,0.0,0.08406198176838002,0.0,0.2365979934080687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745541818951936,0.1325003884143787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914251220962204,0.0,0.14836811994381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402792298190324,0.16257748889426385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452497929823208,0.1482470055487035,0.13060929103657584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614637731511029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859780916202273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732331249546447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193502265415212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492267172274756,0.0,0.0,0.15520910139607794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543048113067976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662596482694536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888632236103182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826637494864784,0.28432873230891964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413365632137904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724252034694213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525068647821996
parenting,Stroulger86,2020/04/20,"How do parents navigate teenage parties? Just deleted my post and will try again. This time, maybe ya’ll can try being nice. 

How are parents these days navigating teenage parties when their kid wants to host one?",4.9628378378378395,8.175017648648652,3.32560810810811,87.69489864864866,75.21621621621622,5.8621621621621625,33.57432432432432,7.1686216300943375,2.3094378378378377,171,9,29,2,4,48,32,37,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.8205,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,5,6,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20128983928668734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135637817692997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114987618273791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6931386556482437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989220985954102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18199810906353192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238143209475416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409487168982885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shimmydust,2020/04/20,"Help disciplining My sister is a newly single parent and is currently living with me. She has 3 kids - 4 and 6, the oldest being 9 whom has always been the worst at following rules and not listening. I’ve been trying to help my sister (she has asked). I’ve given him a space to do his homework and have been reading some CBT books, but he either yawns/gets sleepy or he tells me what I want to hear in order to get it over with. He has not had stable discipline in his life.. just empty threats by his mom with no follow through. I gave him a challenge to follow these rules: no eating in the bedroom, no lying, no hitting or hitting back. I told him hed feel better if he followed these rules.. and that there was no prize because there shouldn’t be a prize for being a good person besides just the good feeling you get from it. 

He didn’t last a day.. he starting crying and said “it’s too hard, I tried.” I’ve had long talks with him - honest ones which came across and seemingly good ones but he sometimes misses the big picture on things/the point. What can we do to help him not continue down this road of lying and just overall not listening and hitting his siblings? I don’t have any kids so I have no idea..",4.942258503401362,5.115153946938778,5.421632653061226,85.28360544217688,68.71428571428572,7.839455782312925,26.945578231292515,7.3011,1.261525170068027,947,26,195,8,15,304,143,245,0.162,0.6920000000000001,0.146,-0.4993,3,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,1,0,4,8,11,1,0,11,0,25,2,0,0,0,37,49,15,0,3,13,4,3,0,0,1,1,4,2,3,11,15,1,2,4,2,0,5,13,3,0,2,12,7,24,8,23,29,4,26,0,1,0,0,41,12,0,5,8,131,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276282884803599,0.0,0.0,0.1043067991390379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433939112138107,0.0,0.0,0.117943302375413,0.0,0.09350183867614843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356562288030226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543113937736138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848579905888525,0.09892038857915036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695075539625788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15511174179178386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404113945284263,0.0,0.0,0.3859552176138583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740248875465014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287561067596996,0.0,0.3084314260963799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731525622152713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502893458307585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834009089766096,0.0,0.0,0.13544142668308187,0.1357405590476343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964220926714247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078747718028229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031546500044542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392953098250168,0.0,0.0,0.1449980410715915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342612475624146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590389520607214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963559432090922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15170130795139256,0.0,0.10856642116697827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328474479793082,0.13406491569697634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656557441077142,0.0,0.20827617261807946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047022098840284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jToady,2020/04/20,"Genetic habits? Has anyone had their kid exhibit a habit or trait that seems pretty specific to one of their parents? I noticed this with my 17 month old: nail rubbing. Ever since I was little, I would rub my mom or dad's fingernails, like a worry stone. I do that to this day with my own nails or my husband's. It is the most soothing, stress relieving feeling. Now in the last couple weeks, my 17 month son has started rubbing mine and my husband's nails in the same way while drowsy or going to sleep (husband expressed the same annoyance, haha). I -never- rubbed his nails or encouraged the behavior. Is this some genetic memory or what? Has anyone experienced something similar? It just seems so odd and neat.",4.012661691542288,6.341497902985076,4.791865671641791,80.59635572139305,73.70149253731344,8.34726368159204,29.07711442786069,9.075114841892004,2.7519920398009945,565,24,100,13,12,182,89,134,0.079,0.787,0.134,0.7912,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,0,4,7,1,1,7,1,9,1,1,0,2,21,14,10,0,1,7,7,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,6,15,5,8,11,5,16,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,10,12,67,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703564635958865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391185448371275,0.0,0.12467945874108625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748746906778892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775157724695244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098717815620421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758672316900102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444945635154528,0.19376372372178355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22642140553824186,0.30862238853427665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910514726669072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201032540069872,0.20286341252360596,0.0,0.13100289235906573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146659581154098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966823313759836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519939735576479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992149867921954,0.0,0.19346590044916034,0.0,0.0,0.14883201735149498,0.0,0.0,0.13683733781256768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22145460344532766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534534044666258,0.15507468257594345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963322241801272,0.0,0.137333444300182,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ALaurenB,2020/04/20,"Suggestions for 11 month old that keeps waking throughout the night? My son (11 months old) has been a pretty great sleeper since about 5/6 months. He has been sleeping from 8-8 for the last 2-3 months. For some reason, over the last few days he has been waking 2x a time, roughly 10/11pm and 2/3am. No wet diaper or anything obvious, just crying. 

He had a low grade fever (99.3) the other night which I thought could be from teething since he has no other symptoms of possibly being sick. No ear pulling or other agitations so I also ruled out ear infections Gave him some Tylenol, cuddled him in bed for a while and then he went to sleep. 

Now, he is back at it again. Will lay down in his crib for a few minutes then will cry for 15-20 minutes at a a time. Usually I would go for the cry it out method but since he has been sleeping so well, and this is rather abrupt I wonder if something is wrong.

He has recently dropped his 2nd nap of the day. As in, will sit/stand in his crib for 30+ minutes crying and talking to himself but will not sleep.
Could all of this be caused by restlessness? What can I do to help?

Side note: He does have eczema but I moisturize him before bed and he gets oatmeal baths 2x a week so I don’t think he’s itchy... just irritated.

Any suggestions on other things I can check to make sure he is okay OR how to prevent this in the future?

TLDR: 11 month old is normally a good sleeper but has been waking up multiple times during the night recently. What can I do help him get back on schedule and make sure he is okay?

TIA!",1.9533333333333367,4.030410363057328,2.8474140127388567,93.29031422505308,79.12738853503187,6.097494692144374,22.568577494692143,7.1686216300943375,0.6301222080679407,1210,38,263,15,30,382,170,314,0.094,0.792,0.113,0.885,0,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,0,0,14,10,0,1,17,2,36,16,10,5,4,40,47,23,0,6,12,1,2,0,0,5,5,2,3,0,14,8,0,2,4,2,1,3,5,3,1,0,9,4,18,7,35,28,5,52,0,1,0,1,28,16,0,7,32,159,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253466271239596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168073058475994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464033265638445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948906721598453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718104717099859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317633220173224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448369442058245,0.0,0.39852923356439823,0.11699106650099082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937426637391091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477650276436282,0.0,0.05154825435198715,0.07607685530224509,0.0,0.09999969718540223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215917904614272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806204453077132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786909564809045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108908959748038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619888827846865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553541255786345,0.08886907715211352,0.0,0.0,0.2855306787277485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225330826308547,0.0,0.09227693134825496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325715592377253,0.17911532109008746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22508984490105047,0.0,0.3630715476897264,0.0,0.0,0.06982712555563694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709718446396729,0.09427450499554728,0.0,0.07290313950633033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060258632779533326,0.058118424462172136,0.0,0.07200756034614139,0.1586678663659287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998958602590022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275598035574284,0.0,0.08155233500723832,0.0840820175141635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836286498382116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443237032451979,0.09916881683455928,0.0,0.0
parenting,ItalianQuagsire,2020/04/20,"What were/are your concerns as a new or expecting parent? Hi parents and parents-to-be! I'm an intern for a childcare company who just started out, and I'm at a loss for what are parents most concerned about with a young child.

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I'm racking my head thinking of topics for my articles (I'm working as a content writer for their website!) and I'd love to get insights from you guys! What were you concerned about as an expecting parent or as a parent of a young child, what kinds of information would you have been looking for? I'd love to do research into all these topics and help guide other parents into making informed decisions about their own parenting!

I appreciate all responses, more than you know, and thanks bunches for taking the time to read this!",6.553439878234402,7.183461041095892,6.7394063926940655,75.6379375951294,65.30136986301369,8.954642313546422,36.08523592085236,8.841846274778883,3.254684322678844,616,29,105,9,9,198,86,146,0.016,0.857,0.127,0.9511,8,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,5,2,2,4,5,0,0,10,0,6,3,1,1,2,25,20,11,0,3,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,9,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,10,4,26,17,6,9,0,1,1,2,24,4,0,3,5,74,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211576439832207,0.1369488483590873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888368376295398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111595618266382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566779233692062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554375112893708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173648601525219,0.061939692098118074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464377110768492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20344123227627134,0.0,0.0752314281603042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885114137971244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8760185515111197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273544786231618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977314249782119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474009481973545,0.0,0.0,0.10376357400975317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221678004600257,0.0,0.0,0.0657191617044772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205054467380572,0.0,0.0,0.08006236161128244,0.0,0.1369488483590873,0.0
parenting,batsmans64,2020/04/20,"BED OR COUCH Hey guys, 

I have a daughter who is 19 months old and she doesn't sleep a full night in her crib so my wife has decided to full time co sleep. This wouldnt be a problem usually but my daughter and wife like to take up 95% percent of the bed and leave me literally on the edge. Also my daughter like to kick and flail and sleep sideways and her kicks hit my head. So I have come to the conclusion that in order for me to get a full night's rest I have chosen the couch. I feel bad leaving my wife to sleep without me but this is the only way I can sleep also helps if I have the TV I'm i wrong for doing so, she refuses CIO and im worried that she will sleep in the bed until shes 5 and I'm bound for the couch. Any advice would be much appreciated dealing with this or anyone who experienced this.",1.7688961038961004,2.9596727727272736,3.5935389610389628,91.68977272727275,76.95454545454545,6.619480519480518,22.23051948051948,7.1686216300943375,0.4623974025974018,632,17,150,7,14,213,97,176,0.073,0.836,0.09,0.455,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,12,0,16,7,7,0,0,24,23,19,0,4,6,6,1,2,0,3,0,0,6,1,8,10,0,2,3,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,2,21,2,18,17,6,18,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,3,9,97,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997460944689164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636673794649304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349141917920494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858473496047561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251225335407786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576005605962448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657595088756335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062078884408540765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414503075449661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215668570360013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600288607324542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229370056029615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261840034453015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600026463711987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199636271542594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979980790248805,0.0,0.09025397764965057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304326179419241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883203209048655,0.0,0.0,0.09337615374775693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747938801790025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7371838455743452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923117515920543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159126907996878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352196555404029,0.0,0.0,0.09745332429689987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183510150901104,0.0,0.0,0.12468428432370697,0.0,0.08721605578393431,0.13423552505530376,0.0,0.0
parenting,julehleh,2020/04/20,"Mom guilt Hello,

I’ve recently been feeling really guilty about playing my son (8 months old) in his bouncer or play area and his little baby bum on to distract him so I can eat, workout, or do homework. Why do I feel so guilty? Should I be talking to him more? Most of the time he’s not even paying attention to me. He loves the nursery rhymes and his toys. He’s also crawling and trying to stand every chance he gets. So that’s why I can’t just let him roam around while I’m busy. I just feel so bad. Like I’m ignoring him. I feel like I’m not being devoted. I don’t know, maybe I’m just crazy. Anyone else feel that way? He’s always safe of course, and happy. I don’t know, I guess I just don’t know if I should be talking to him more or playing with him more. But right now his mind is set to “adventure and explore” mode. I really enjoy working out and eating without having to scarf down my food. Am I being selfish? He’s just a great baby. He doesn’t watch tv all day. Honestly, the only thing that he’ll pay attention to is LBB. I see all these moms saying their infants love all these disney movies but my son could care less lol I guess that’s a good thing. But when I do need some “me” time, I do use LBB as a distraction. Thanks for reading my venting. Lol",0.27737562189054904,2.4100744738805986,2.2037014925373164,95.17438308457714,85.97761194029852,5.06587064676617,18.634825870646765,6.42735559955562,-0.097578009950249,981,26,221,10,30,325,150,268,0.08,0.732,0.188,0.9804,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,1,1,15,23,0,3,6,2,23,5,0,1,3,50,46,21,0,5,15,4,5,2,0,3,0,1,1,1,8,9,3,2,11,7,2,1,8,6,0,0,1,8,34,17,20,36,9,21,0,0,2,2,30,8,0,8,11,129,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976141189861862,0.10156659171631804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853496216986686,0.12506845765940902,0.0,0.10866237407948394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191790525311553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445185058100733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745775451773624,0.0,0.0,0.07872084503259777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24980282165818596,0.10196837274346364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062177578784463,0.0,0.10284374448507363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085948095158658,0.08720217283135166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759964170660972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377312909427825,0.0,0.0,0.10238105380062808,0.0,0.1345754150445681,0.2689333644062563,0.0,0.0,0.1299388417326156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012486852623656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248181759632897,0.0,0.11926809904273293,0.12233967184375602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22033410853307048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262916975824158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324931605283194,0.2859185395479304,0.09742990331650722,0.0,0.0,0.09050852202585327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808508651948616,0.0,0.0,0.09283477515310777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220965097728474,0.0,0.1563939788088389,0.0,0.1205229583438095,0.0,0.0,0.10424154298005556,0.0,0.09706977670627948,0.0,0.0,0.09726878808508993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19621999932513076,0.0,0.11237965048597902,0.0,0.0,0.16218710145269713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423523908666926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287308887556354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542365341568698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688830698108428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202866056615132,0.0,0.0,0.11766483662105645,0.0,0.08886366550712481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,biggiesmalltits,2020/04/20,"Baby literally does not nap. I’m at my breaking point 3 month old baby literally does not nap. We’ve tried so much. It takes us about an hour of rocking to get her to fall asleep and she’s asleep for about 10-15 minutes and then wide awake. Then repeat. All day.. all night. I’m so exhausted I feel sick. We’ve tried 3 different swaddles, a swing, bouncer chair, bassinet, breast milk, 2 types of formula, reflux medication, white noise, music, silence, baby wearing. Basically you name it, we’ve tried it. Please help. I literally can not take it anymore.",1.8868287373004369,4.5892039528301884,3.2862264150943403,86.02488388969525,84.94339622641509,6.280406386066764,24.19158200290276,7.61054688173877,1.4374740203193026,433,17,84,8,13,141,76,106,0.068,0.883,0.05,-0.4224,1,0,0,0,0,1,25.0,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,8,4,0,2,9,7,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,7,0,8,7,3,13,0,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,8,34,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21323152004472368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386632562033818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22463902897066,0.0,0.0,0.3763122967707237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871519765117596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233352150665336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411624833626074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117409188582688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659931988392744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716184276204502,0.0,0.15805662605684098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017717283703928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256161650771057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360157218767307,0.20325335157788016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233205756022169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4379317454109911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586297983963297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,futurenp97,2020/04/20,"Kids with depression Kids with depression

Hi all! I need some advice.
I am looking after a family friends girls (aged 5, 8, 10) while there father battles stage 4 cancer. 
They spend the day with me while their mom is in the hospital.
Their behavior is concerning. Earlier, they were very happy and playful all the time. Now they say they miss Papa (except they can’t see him because of the covid-19) 
The youngest just sits around sad all day. Does not want to watch anything, eat, play or talk. If I ask her whats wrong she just shrugs her shoulders.

I have two questions:
1) How can I make her happier?
2) In the case that their dad passes away (which doctors said is very likely in the next few weeks) how do I communicate with them? Is there anything I can do or say at that time that will help them grieve? Or is there anything I can say now to prepars them? I ask because their mom is torn between running their business, looking after her husband, and coming home to her girls. So shes very overwhelmed mentally.

Thank you in advance",2.3350890817725016,4.949943251256286,2.702551393330289,91.79758222932848,81.31155778894473,5.6282320694381,24.62334399269073,6.980632752743323,1.0010683417085424,813,31,160,10,22,249,124,199,0.133,0.7609999999999999,0.106,-0.7182,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,13,1,11,14,1,1,8,0,17,4,1,3,3,26,29,11,1,3,8,5,0,1,1,1,2,4,1,4,5,8,1,0,1,2,1,4,2,8,0,1,2,8,32,6,19,26,5,26,0,6,4,0,42,7,0,6,14,105,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796817958656392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32329560611474795,0.1165781415128222,0.24485139251075086,0.0,0.12303698439725667,0.0,0.0,0.15965849043641628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128065505636346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689109020479578,0.0,0.22558352633464526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403848299837498,0.1146000231778264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340001492709361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123453171951702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117587911932607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940454373320288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777669792544371,0.0,0.13135902405355698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397823278736083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199392427009597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874137998900248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197232293948732,0.0,0.0,0.30674695125082235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710182920472796,0.0,0.0,0.1392726388033192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670010834416564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456865013145922,0.3124231619641909,0.0,0.0,0.10435456282107193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052570544438799,0.0,0.12056621170390484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272238718994754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127924475536806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241559576879157,0.07724093513543931,0.0,0.1050445870682608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317925981478466,0.0,0.0